Why can't my mother be faithful in a marriage?
820298
well.. she wont understand till either something big happens or till somebody tells her exactly what she needs to listen.\nbut the good point is at least you understand what is right and what is wrong. do not forget that. \nu seem to be a smart person - just try to help her handle the situation but dont try to prove urself smarter than ur mom after all she's the mom way better than u could be and yes --- respect her. she might be a liar, cheater to somebody but atleast she loves u and takes care of u.
597785
You are confusing the morally weak to those that get married happily and stay married happily.  My grandfather is 90.  It is clear to me that he did not cheat on his wife because now, despite her being dead for 5 years now and having much younger women hit on him, he will not give up the idea that he will be with her in heaven.\n\nNow, I'm an agnostic, but I think he at least has that right.  They got married relatively young... met in high school and then saw each other again after graduating and he decided he had to propose before he went off to WW2.  He technically never really went because he ended up in the coast guard and they lived in Florida while he hunted for german subs... Anyhow, they stayed together until she died more than 50 years later and there is something I can tell... maybe because things didn't go so well for my other set of grandparents (even though they stayed together)... anyhow I can tell my grandpa George is/was/will be faithful to my grandma and there isn't anything that I respect in him more than that because it's so impressive.\n\nThe thing you're talking about is that most people aren't like that and that's sad.  I wish more people were like my grandpa George, but I guess it's rare.  I hope you're like him and have a long happy life with your future wife too!  Can't say I was so lucky... met a lot of losers.  Ick.
704345
I've had the same problem with my mother and the result wasn't a good one, her relationships with her boyfriends put a wedge in our relationship. I learned to deal with it, but I don't want that outcome for you. You have to talk to her about, sometimes that doesn't always work, but at least u can say u tried. The truth is men can brainwash a woman and turn them against there children, its sad but it happens. Try to stay strong with this situation.
430901
I'm a woman(mother) pastor my 19 year old is atheist,the wrong thing for her mother to do is make her go to church,you guys have to make your own decision about Church and God,because she cant get into heaven on account of her mother she has to get into heaven on account of her own will.
43555
You also can't marry your mother, father, grandparent, sister or brother... those would be requirements. You are required by law to be of different blood.
65906
Honor your parents wishes. If you are strong in your faith, it would probably be a mistake to marry someone who would not share the same faith with you. The one you want to marry should study what you believe and know well about your culture and what is important in your family.\n\nGet your parents opinion about how they would feel if you married someone who would convert to your faith, maybe as a hypothetical question.\n\nA woman should not want to marry a man who disrespects his parents wishes. If a man dishonors his mother or father, it is also likely he will dishonor others, (like maybe his wife and children).
425968
because shes your mom, hello.. she cares about you and this is your whole life your talking about here. she raised you up and gave you everything of course she would be strict letting u go to a man right. understand a lil bit, look at it in her point of view ok.. goodluck to you!
491495
You can't.\n\nMy mother in-law was a leach to our marriage for 2 years after she left my father in-law and then it got worse when my wife was pregnant and we had our first son. I hold my mother in-law 50% responsible for destroying my marriage with her interference.
249087
She can only interfere as much as you two let her. My wife and I had gone through this. My own mom is very controlling and self-centered. She never re-married after my dad left in 1973. Mom felt that my wife took me away from her. When we got married, early on I told mom that I have a wife to take care of now and that SHE is the focus of my attention and affections. I do have a 35 year old brother that still lives with her, but she would call for me to do work around her house. I told her that I have my own house to take care of. Sure, she got irritated, but she also began to realize that I was not at her beck and call anymore.
631914
first off you are not told to stop loving your mother.your parents are suppose to be part of your life. second you should love your wife the way Christ loved the Church. if you can not love a woman like that then you should not be married. read Ephesians chapter 5 on the importance of a Christ centered family.
483603
Actually, it's bribery.  But regardless of whether it's blackmail or bribery, it's wrong.  Tell you grandmother that forgiveness is for the repentant.  If your mother doesn't repent, what is the point of forgiveness?  You'll only wind up repeating the cycle.
880333
There are probably books on the topic in the self-help/psychology section of your local bookstore, but why waste the money?  The answer is simple: if your husband can't put you and your marriage before his mother, you need some serious counseling.  you know, I totally love my mom and we hang out a lot and everything, but now that I'm grown up and in a relationship, that relationship has to come first!!  Your husband should know that too, and so should his mom.  Shame on her for allowing her son to be such a mama's boy and ignore his wife's best interests.  Your first step is to try to have a sit-down conversation about it with your husband.  If he resists, an ultimatum may be in order: either he prioritizes you first, or you're separating.  Just don't try to get him to stop seeing his mom altogether, because that would never work, especially if they're so close, as they apparently are.
263795
TELL HER YOU DON'T GIVE A FU*CK WHAT SHE THINKS AND THAT YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TO YOUR MAN. AND THEN IF SHE DOESN'T WANT TO GET TO LIKE OR KNOW YOU WELL THE HE*LL WITH HER YOU DON'T GIVE A FU*CK. I MEAN DAM*N HOW MUCH OF A BI*TCH DOES SHE HAVE TO BE. TELL HER TO GO FU*CK SOME DI*CK AND CHILL OUT AND STOP BEING A BI*TCH. MY HUSBANDS MOM WAS LIKE HER SHE ALWAYS HAD HIM MAD AND WHEN HE GETS MAD HE IGNORES EVERYONE FU*CK I DIDN'T DO SH*IT. SHE WILL JUST KEEP GETTING HIM PISSED OFF ALL DAY! TELL YOUR MAN THAT EITHER SHE STOPS BEING THE WAY SHE IS TO YOU OR YOU GO AND IF YOU LOVE ME YOU WILL TELL HER TO STOP THAT WETHER SHE LIKES IT OR NOT YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TO HIM AND THAT'S IT!!!!!!
827765
In my opinion, one should not follow a strict rule on whom he should follow or not.\n\nThe only criteria shall be to have his head firmly in control and the guts to say to both that right is right and wrong is wrong. No hanky panky here.\n\nI, however, personly give more credit to my mother than wife becasue they have taken care of me to bring me to a level where I could marry my present wife.\n\nSo definitely, a person should be thankful to their parents and ultimately should know what is right and wrong and be able to convey that to both of them as well.
855960
It sounds to me like a bit of reverse psychology....... just do what you feel is right in your heart. I would marry my partner to if it were legal,but I can't, and yet I still make love to my partner on a daily basis...... don't let your mom behind your closed doors. Those are decisions that you and your partner are going to have to make.
705158
Do you believe in cats? Because when you're 50 or 60, a cat in your lap is going to be the only warm cuddly thing you're going to come home to after all the men in your life move on because they're tired of waiting for you to commit to them. A marriage is only as good as the two people who are in it. If they're not willing to be faithful, then they are idiots. You ask if someone in this whole vast planet can profess that he/she has been truthful to his/ her lover? YES! I CAN! And so can thousands of couples who live and love their spouses every day. Who don't go out and screw around, because they know how special their marriage relationship is. How could I prove it? You know what? On this one you're right! I can't; other than daring any woman, other than my wife, to prove that I have been intimate with her. It'll never happen, and consequently there is no proof because there has never been a time when I have messed up on my wife. So there's no proof, because there's nothing TO prove.\n  Who hurt you so bad that you lost faith in mankind? Or what rotten example of a failed marriage are you using to justify your position? Loose these losers, and come into the light of love and committment. Go visit a nursing home, or a church, or somewhere else where you can see elder couples who have been married for 40,50, or more years. Talk to them, and ask them how they stayed married so long? To a couple, I'll bet they say things like Trust, and trustworthyness, love, companionship. and all those boaring old words you don't seem to believe in. Then reconsider your position.\n Depending on your religious views, if any, swearing to God really is optional. Marriage is making a committment to another person. A lot of people like the idea of their God sanctioning their marriage. But after all is said and done, it's your spouse you have to wake up to every morning, and it's he/ she you need to swear your allegiance to.
546236
lmao my mom told my ex i could always get another wife. but i would only have one mother...but serriously a man leaves his family to be with his wife