Her mother doesn't like me. What should I do?
830847
This is tough, not knowing all the details, but if you really love this girl for all the right reasons, then it will work out! I am a mother of 3 girls, and I have put them through this same situation, but only for a good reason, the guy was generally a jerk, I am not saying you are, that was just my situation. Just be up front with her mom, and honest, and don't hunker down to her, let her know how you feel in a honest kind way, be a man about it. Have respect for her and her mom. Do something special for her mom, give her flowers or invite her to dinner with you and this girl. It will take time but patience will win out. Maybe her mom is over protective, maybe she had a bad experience at that age, and thinks it is happening to her daughter. Just go easy and don't take everything so personal, just be who you are inside that is all you can do, you don't have to prove anything to anyone if you are real with yourself and others. Just live and let live. Good Luck to you.
563926
Yeah....give her mother sometime. i hope ur gf is backing you up. a day will come when ur gf's mother will realize that u were a real truthful guy. talk to her after few days in a polite manner. dont lose ur temper
824850
oooh what a nasty old sow....she's jealous of you coz your young and beautiful ans she's an old clapped out boiler...i know what i woud say to her if i was in your situation..but i could'nt type it in here...ignore the old boot....she has no right slagging your mother off, she does not even know her...she sounds bitter an twisted to me...kick her in the fanny and tell her to shut her gob...
297862
first of all shes ur mom.. how long can she b angry with u. things wil cool down soon.. give her a good hug.. she wil surely calm down..say ur sorry.. even if ur not wrong.. it doesnt hurt to say sorry.. does it!!??
467357
you dont just be yourself and everyone will love you\nif she doesnt like you for who you are then she is not worth your time
704345
I've had the same problem with my mother and the result wasn't a good one, her relationships with her boyfriends put a wedge in our relationship. I learned to deal with it, but I don't want that outcome for you. You have to talk to her about, sometimes that doesn't always work, but at least u can say u tried. The truth is men can brainwash a woman and turn them against there children, its sad but it happens. Try to stay strong with this situation.
863106
Yikes! that sounds like a lot to deal with.. but if your gf loves you she'll help her family understand.. Just continue your relationship as you have in the past. As long as youre not abusing your gf her family will have no real reason to dislike you. If the love is there and strong enough you two will get through this.. just dont get mad at your gf for her mother.. she didnt get to choose her parents... Its too bad her mom doesnt see that you two love eachother! \n\nPS.. Kudos to you for surviving a long distance relationship. if you can survive that you can survive a mother
849664
She shouldn't tell you that she hates you.  She shouldn't hate your friends either.  Does she hate your family?  I guess you should try to imagine her in your life in the future, and what that would be like.  Would you two be living together, and you'd never get to see your friends?  What's more important then, her or your life before you met her?  Can you imagine having kids with her?  I would hate to think there'd be terrible fights where she screams that she hates you in front of the kids.  I kinda don't think you should stay.  If you really want to stay and you think she has good intentions and that she is saying all of these mean things to you because you are living your life in such a way that it hurts her, then I think you need to think about making some changes in your actions... clean up your act a little bit, and see if she respects you then.  But just think about these things so far, and try to answer some of these questions for yourself so you can make the best decision for yourself.  I wish you all the best.
379212
If she's acting wierd around you maybe she doesn't like you.  Forget it and wait a few years.
792167
I firmly believe that there is nothing that you can do that will change her mind about except be patient and give your bf all the love you can.  She will either come around to liking you in her own good time, or she won't.\n\nMy thinking is that she loves her son, a lot.  That's one thing that the two of you have in common.  Maybe she's lonely and vulnerable. Maybe she's just grumpy. Turn the other cheek.\n\n Be polite, be nice, be caring, and don't take any bs from her.  Keep your self respect by acting with integrity.You can't control her actions, only your own.\n\nDon't confront her, just accept what she's like, and rise above it. She'll stop being bitchy if it doesn't affect you, and may even come to respect you because of it.  Remember that your chief loyalty in all this is to your bf, and his to you. If you're a firm unit, if you love and support each other, and make each other happy, then anyone else's opinion, no matter how hurtful, is as important as that.\n\nKeep being kind to her. She's probably feeling threatened, maybe because she senses you are "the one."  Her behaviour sounds like she's being defensive because she's afraid of losing her son. Show her that there's enough love to go around.\n\nI guess this isn't very helpful, but try and stand up for yourself in a firm, loving, respectful way.  Be yourself: give her some time: and most of all, don't let it adversely affect your relationship.
1088903
Please do not allow a child to cost you the love of your life.  I know this is difficult...children go thru their growing pains, and this one sounds so confused right now.  With the background of her mother, this child needs stability and sanity in her life, and to feel safe.  She may fight her father on this, but it would not be in her best interest to live with her mother, it's an unhealthy environment for her and like you said, she will end up becoming her mother.  If her father has legal custody, fight for her!  Keep her in your home, no matter how bratty she gets, it is in her best interest.  Please, all of you go to family counselling...and help give this child a future that does not involve drug abuse.  Even with her rebellion and rudeness, you know that for her to leave your home is not the best thing for her.  She's a child, she cannot make her own decision in this matter.  Once she's 18, then she can decide.
443131
yes she will think you don't like her..its possible that she thinks you are the best..if you feel that you aren't why not just try to be the man you want her to have instead of sending her away?
900209
She is already living the example that was given to her by her mother. You may not be able to disuade her from many bad decisions, they are after all, her choices. The very best you could do for this young lady is be a very caring and available adult. Trying to control her at this point will more than likely drive her away. Talk to her openly, but without judgement. Make your conversations thought provoking, encourage her to answer and solve her own issues with you.
636283
i think you should hust give up on her and if she walks by petend  you can't even see her. tell uour mom.
1023544
If you parents don't like her it's probably for a good reason - they see something you don't.  Why would you want to keep her around if she makes fun of you?  She doesn't sound like a good friend and trust me, money isn't everything - a true friend who is poor is better than one who is rich and treats you like crap.
1034691
Well, your family is just being childish. If she is your friend and like a second mother to you then don't befriend her because your family as a problem with her. That's not fair to her and friends don't do that to each other. If I threw away friends because my family didn't like them I would be pretty much friendless. If your family are going to act that way towards anyone over something that was said so minor. Then your friend don't need them in her life. It will be their loss not hers. Good Luck!!!!
1124288
i can tell you one thing, i have been in your shoes. when my husband and i first got together his mom and his sister hated me. and that was ok because the feeling was mutual. he basicaly looked at his mom and told her "hey this is the girl i want to be with, forever, and if you don't like it that to f** bad. " His mom wasn't very happy with this. he moved out of the house and moved in with me. She only saw him on holidays because he didn't want anything to do with her if she wasn't going to accept me. And yes i know it has to do with "taking away her baby boy" blah blah blah. His mom didn't like me until 2 yrs later when i gave birth to her granddaughter. Mind you, we were already married. So my advice to you is be kind, be nice and take it with a grain of salt. If he loves you then he will be the one to step up and say somethig to his family. He'll be a man about the situation and explain to everyone that you are the one for him and they need to accept you and respect you and the relationship that he has with you. Good Luck!