how can couples heal jealousy?
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Honesty and Communication......And trust exerises. \nBest of Luck
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trust ur partner & u'l stop feeling jealous..
910611
Hello:\n\nFirst off, I know exactly how you are feeling. My ex-boyfriend and I spent more time fighting than we did simply being happy with each other. It just got to be so frusterating. Ultimately I just decided that something wasn't working because we were arguing about the same few things. \n\nWe decided to sit down and have a serious talk about it. One of our main problems was that he was an incredibly jealous person, and I usually am not. He would get upset if he saw me talking to one of my guy friends. I have never ever been unfaithful to anyone and just could never do that to someone, and yet he always assumed that I was messing around behind his back. \n\nAnd then he would get frusterated that I was such a trusting person, and that I would never confront him for talking to another girl. So he started pushing the limits a little bit in order to make me jealous, and boy did it work. It just seemed that we were spending so much time hurting each other. And we agreed that the relationship wasn't working out. \n\nNow we are both in relationships, and we remain friends. And both of our relationships are much more successful than we ever were together. Some relationships just aren't meant to be. It was through that experience that I realized it isn't enough to simply love someone, there is more to making a relationship work. \n\nI would suggest having a serious talk with your girlfriend. Figure out which things you are fighting about most often, and I'm sure you will find a common thread. Then you need to decide if it's worth it to make an effort to fix the relationship, or if it's time to move on. \n\nI wish you the best of luck, and I hope this helps!
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Jealousy is a heck of a demon to fight. Start maybe with trusting yourself and then your man. As trust is one of main cornerstones of a relationship. Sometimes jealousy is warranted, does he flirt alot when you are right there? That can be uncomfortable. Let him know what he is doing, if he does that and how it makes you feel like a piece of garbage, that he pays attention to another when you are right there. Then again some guys are born flirters and heck they don't even know they are doing it until they get in over their heads and someone takes them seriously.. Your self confidence, is by far the most important thing and has nothing to do with jealousy. It is believing in yourself, your dreams and ideals. It really isn't all that difficult and though so many will try to knock you down in life, you just have to get right back up and know that you are who you are and if they don't like it to friggin bad.\n To many are falling for this idea that there self confidence is no good, it is a way to get you into therapy. There are alot of great websites that will just give you a thought a day. It is thinking positive, yeah negative stuff is going to happen, but you know you can pull through it and that is what counts. Never let anyone tell you different
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no, im sorry there isnt, the only way to not be jealous is to not know or not be there, so if you cant take the jealousy you will have to stay away untill you dont feel the same things.
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Don`t worry because I have the same problem with my boyfriend. I`m also glad that you believe him. You should just try to not get all that jealous. Its actually good that your jealous because you care for him and don`t want to lose him.
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You may not be able to.  But you will definitly need to stop being so insecure in yourself and be confident in your partner- they want to be with you for a reason not someone else.  I havefound that jealousy is a sign not only of insecurity in yourself but a lack of respect in her character. If your girl cheats on you she cheats on you and you move on.  Not everyone is meant to be together forever.
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Have you asked him what you could do specifically to ease his jealous mind? This is a hard thing for insecure guys, but I think you may need to boost him ego a bit. How about telling him what it is you love about him just out of the blue. Compliment him on his UNIQUE qualities that cause you to love him. It is very important that he feel that no other man has the qualities that you love in him. Once he knows that his is the only one you ever met that can make you feel the way you do, that should really help.
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not really, one party bound to feel insecure at some point. its very difficult to synchronized a couples emotion.
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Your best bet is to let some time pass by.  You can't assume you know what your partner is feeling.  Other then what he is telling you.  If there are more concerns regarding your partners faithfulness you should always voice them. well not always '' you don't want to be marked a jealous''  But time will tell I think in this situation.  Follow your heart, be bold, and true to your self.  Then everything will happen how it is supposed to.
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There's nothing you can do.  The more effort you exert the more they will resist.  People of EGO feel others are jealous.  So whatever you do will be interpreted as being jealous.  Just allow them to grow out of their ego's.  It will happen one day, provided they live that long.  Life alone can teach them that they are not all they believe themselves to be.  Then again, ego can be a positive, provided it's not over inflated.
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ive yet to master the perfect relationship thing.17 years of tring,i can tell you this.being a jealous person can drive youan everyone else crazy.if you are truely in love,then you have to trust this person,if you cant then someone isnt truely in love,so if you dont trust them to go visit this person alone then you may need to be with someone else,plus you should be able to take your partner alone to break it off,with someone else.it just builds a good understanding,honesty best policy
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I am the jealous type. When I was younger(teenager) I might have wandered what my g/f was giggling about especially after hanging up the phone abruptly when I came into the room too. But Ive learned to control my emotions better now that Im older. Ive been in several relationship where my jealousy was true, meaning that I was cheated on. But I am not holding a grudge. Somtimes my jealousy was not true. Infact it was somtimes concieved in paranoia. This can be a very bad thing especially in a relationship. If you start interogating your lover, partner, ect. for 15 Minutes everyday, your relationship will be meaningless. There wont be trust, and true feelings. That is not to say you should turn a blind eye either. If your lover, partner, ect. is engaging in questionable activties, you should confront them only with evidence. With unexplainable evidence, no believable lie can be told. You should take a few minutes and think about your jealousy. Ask yourself is it WELL founded? Im sure you know this, but if you truly love someone,and you think they love you(not just temperary lust) you can sit down and talk with them about these things that are causing jealous feelings to stir, you may just find that there is no reason to get jealous afterall.
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I can talk from experience about jealousy, being insecure. It's both. Men like this who get mad because you're wanting to feel good about yourself, is and can be a problem. It's a form of control. These type of men, will not change. I know, talking 12 years of it here. It starts out with them accusing you of flirting, or being too nice to the next guy, spending too much time with friends or family and that isn't always the case. Men like these are so insecure about themselves, they don't want you looking nice or feeling good about yourself because they don't feel good about themselves. Next thing you know, you're being blamed for their insecurity. I know, it happened to me. You can try to talk to him and tell him how that makes you feel when he's accusing you of trying to impress other men at your job but if he isn't listening to you or tries on work on that jealousy or insecurity, then you may need to re-think on your relationship. Men like these don't want you to feel good about yourself and for whatever reason, they want to control everything in your life. Don't let him do that or you'll end up like me, miserable and unhappy. My husband and I are divorcing now but it doesn't take away all the pain of him being jealous of everything or everyone I knew. He should be complimenting on your new looks or your new hairdo, whatever the case may be and get over his insecurity and jealousy because if he doesn't, it will drive you away. I know. Hope this helps!
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Jealousy is a wasted emotion. It makes neither one of you happy and doesn't prevent the other from doing what they want, or what you don't want them to; so what's the point?
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I dont think there is a way to stop being jealous, it is something that you cant help, but you CAN control it. I get jealous with my fiance, because he is hot, and well, I am not, and sometimes I feel like I am not good enough for him. But I dont make my jealousy get in the way, I dont want to fight with him over nothing, because I do trust him with all of my heart, so that is the only thing you can do, just trust, and keep it to yourself. Now if you have a reason to be jealous, just talk to your girlfriend or whoever about why you are jealous!!
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A lot of guys have jealousy problems and it stems from a low self esteem, regardless of what they say. He's jealous because he thinks he is unable to hold on to you and he wants to kiss and cuddle to reassure himself that you are there for him...but remember he has the problem and dont let him put it on you. You have to let him know how hard his jealousy and low self esteem is on your relationship and explain to him that although you care for him that you arent going to keep up the reassurance any longer. I dont mean dont say nice things to him but dont coddle him. Let him know that he has to stand up on his own without your help....Carrying 2 people will eventually be more than you can handle. Good luck.