2weeks to my wedding, u discover my wife making love with her exboyfriend, what should i do?
830879
I suggest you talk to her about it. Decide whether it is something you two can work through together, if it isn't then seriously consider calling off the marriage. You shouldn't accept that from anyone you are worth someone who is faithful. But people also do make mistakes. The question is can you ever forgive her? and is she someone you want to marry?
62722
Talk to her.  Call her and ask her if she might want to get some tea or coffee or lunch or something.  Don't admit to what you did and at the same time don't deny it either.  Denying it will cause distrust on her part because she believes you did what ever it is you didn't do.  That is what I would do.  You are marrying her son.  You are going to have many years ahead of you seeing this woman.  Make things right now or she could make your life a living her for the next 40 years or so(until she passes away).
658541
Don't let her do it! She's taking advantage of you, and if she wants all that she should stay married to you! Obviously you're a catch and if she can only see that she might want to save the marriage:)
945268
sit down with your girl friend and explain that your ex wife has realized that she still has feelings for you although you do not have feelings for her any longer... explain that you do not want to cause your exwife any more pain than she has all ready caused herself... tell her that you would respect her feelings in the same situation... ask her to be patient for a while longer\n\nyour girl friend is probably still very unsure of herself in this relationship even though you co habitate... do your best to re assure her of your affections\n\nif this problem persists you might also try sitting down with your ex wife and explaining that your girl friend is not happy with the situation and ask her if she will consent to one meeting... for a few minutes only\n\nyou are being pulled in two different directions by the women in your life... you seem to be handling the situation well...  trying to be considerate of both women's feelings... in this case one of your ladies will have to give... or you will have to take matters into your own hands and force one of them to back down... but be very careful if you choose to do that... you may cause hard feelings in someone
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First of all, I's like to thank you for responding to my question of last week.  \n\nGeorge, (if I may), all of those kisses belong to you.  Consider her attention as you would, let's say, money. Your emotional bond is an asset. She is spending it on someone other than you. \n\nI admire and understand your benevolence, and your faith in your marriage, but she is definitely sharing what belongs solely to you as her husband with another.  It would be as similar if you went and blew money on sending flowers to the most georgous woman you would like to go to bed with.  Would she be happy that you spent your money and attention on another woman.  I donno, maybe you should give it a shot.  If you do make it a real nice bouquet of expensive flowers and say something real romantic on the card and remind her of her own words "it was wrong, but since ....(there was no), sex, its not cheating".  You could also consider purchasing very very sexy lingerie for someone you consider much more sexy than your wife.  It may make you feel better too.\n\nAsk her if this is what marriage means to her?  And she if these are the standards she intends for your marriage together?\n\nJust a feeling, maybe she is looking for a way out of the marriage.  Ask her.\n\nYou deserve to have a partner that respects the boundries of your togetherness, marriage.\n\nPlease clean this mess up now.  I understand it's a real confrontation, but before you become older and it gets worse clean it up. \n\nShe told you it was wrong.  My question to you is, why did she betray you in the first place?  She was not behaving as if she is married to you.  Is that OK with you?  Is this someting you can live with?  Do you think this would be the last time this will ever happen?  I wish you a live full of love and happiness, with or without her.  PS Happy Easter-Happy Pesah, and everything else under the Son.  May your union, this or another be Blessed and may you receive the love you deserve in turn.
717867
You gotta come out and tell her.  But before you do, consider what you're risking.  Is she worth losing just cause you want to have sex with others?  \n\nYour wife deserves care and protection.  She entered into marriage expecting you to love her, forsaking all others.  By engaging in risky behavior, you're exposing her not only to heartache, but potentially deadly diseases too.
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No insult here, but your runner up in the great sensual game of her life.  Of ALL the people she has met... YOUR SECOND.  The other woman ... SHE'S FIRST.  If the other woman didn't exist, you two would be romping around in sensual glee... but, my dear, you are Al Gore to her G.W.Bush.  Painful as it may be your 49% to her 51%.  If you can deal with that and WAIT until it MAY POSSIBLY SOME DAY GO BAD, then you are pathetic and don't have self esteem, because while she is deep down on the other girl, your going to be all alone eating bon bons and ben and jerries just waiting for your turn to taste her.  FIND SOMEONE THAT'LL MAKE YOU NUMERO UNO.  Don't settle for runner up in someone else's race. You want someone to say "You are the only person I have ever wanted to be with for my entire life."  Instead your waiting for "Now that the other girl is gone, hey lets have fun."  Grow some self worth, grow some balls, and find YOUR mate.  Go right now, find someone else.
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It appears you do not have a problem getting in her pants after another man has already been there . ooh now that should really make you feel like a man.Sloppy seconds.So what makes you any better than her you up tight jerk.Oh boo hoo someone else has touched her now I feel awful. That is until you really got to touch her yourself .You were not so dissatisfied with her while she was playing with Mr Happy down there were you??? Get over your self for You are now used goods your self and are worse than her because you have a problem with her doing exactly what you yourself did to her. Grow up loser.Harsh words for a preacher yet if you are going to judge her for what you are doing pay back is hard to swallow sometimes.
54629
Well for a legitimate question, you've gotten three very smart-alec answers from three guys who think they're funny and somewhat smart.  If you listen to these Neanderthals or even think of their responses as legitimate - then fine.\n\n\nYour question has value and merit - to you - otherwise you wouldn't have asked it - this is how I see it.\n\nNow - all of this other trivial garbage aside - let me get to your real question.\n\nYes, temtations before marriage are real... and they happen to many couples - myself included.  On the night of what was my then fiance's bachelor party - he decided to go out after the party - and drive up and down the main avenue - and got himself a hooker. (He didn't decide to tell me until AFTER we were married and were packing to move to England - where he had recently been assigned by the Air Force.)\n\nWhatever the temptation is, and how you choose to handle it (not letting it handle you so that you give in to it) - you should, above all, consider what the consequences of your action(s) will mean to the trust between you and your fiance (soon-to-be wife).\n\nIf you wish to kill what ever trust exists between you - then fine - go on and be a fool.  But - if you love her enough, and value the trust you have between you - then don't give in.\n\nDon't hurt her when there is no need.  If you're going to marry this woman - and love her deeply - then don't mess it up by giving in to a temptation - and end up risking your health, and subsequently hers, as a result.\n\nBest of luck.  Please don't disabuse yourself or your fiance by giving in to the temptation(s).  What you will forfeit as a result is NOT worth it.\n\nI hope this helps you.  *S*\n\n\nPS:  You forgot to correct the word "happens" but it's ok.  I knew what you meant.
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LISTEN VERY CAREFULLY!  It looks like he made his choice already.  A man will never leave his wife to be with the other woman.  If you guys were talking before he got married and he still married the other woman...I'm sorry to say, but he is not thinking about leaving his wife for you.  He has his cake and eating it too..so to say.  You are only hurting yourself if you continue to pursue this relationship.  Save yourself from anymore heartache and just end it.
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First......I think you just did say you were sorry to her for being a boneheaded idiot. The first step is finally realizing what she was trying ot say to you. I have a feeling you realized this......just a tad late. The key is now letting your wife know that you understand. I have a feeling that she felt you spent more time on your bike than with her. Perhaps you were truly caring for this bike......pampering it.......polishing it........tinkering with it..........all while she had to look on. Now that you realize that the bike was dispensable.....make sure you show her that she is not. Care for her.....pamper her......tinker with her.......polish up the marriage. Flowers do nothing.....trust me. Actions......mean everything. Spend time being "present." Stalk her in the most fun loving ways you can imagine. Let her see that you can't stop thinking of her........that you need her........and nothing else will ever come between you two again. (she so needs to know this!)\n\nI so hope you are ok after the accident. I have a feeling that was another issue. She loves you so much and couldn't stand to stand back and wait for you to get hurt. Assure her you won't put yourself in any danger at the risk of losing her. (ok was that too mushy? That might have been too mushy.....aahhh but try it anyway.....what'll it hurt. *wink*) \n\nGood luck......I'll be rooting for ya!!
606357
make love to his wifey...
438894
You don't need to know what's on her mind .You need to get out of this situation as fast as you can. She is married w/a kid and you are in a no-win deal. Her husband is going to have to deal with her and her issues and you don't really have a dog in this fight.The sex might be good,but this woman has more baggage than a cargo terminal.Recipe for disaster,my friend.
489722
get a new wife.  One that appreciates you for who you are.
461570
You are not wrong, you need to confront her about this. It's inappropriate for her to be spending all her time with another man who has feelings for her.
641363
I think if she is married you need to leave her alone and let her deal with her realationship first if she can think about cheating on her hubby with you then she'll do it to you too hun. If your sick you dont need the drama and heartache anyways. good luck to you and leave her be till she decides to make a choice not play with your head.
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My opinion...feel shame, before cheating ur wife