I live with someone having Christmas Day party--I do not want to see anyone but have no where to go.?
820978
go voluntary at a children hospital for a couple hours and read some Christmas story's to some children who are terminally ill, they probably wont see another one... You will never feel the same about what you don't have its life changing.....
762131
no!  I totally wouldn't....you already got her a gift, which should totally sufice.  I absolutly detest it when people invite people to showers and not weddings....its like saying "hey, we'll sponge a gift off ya, but your not good enough to come to the wedding!"  How tacky!  I don't understand what the logic is when she can invite you to a shower to give her presents when she hasn't seen ya, but is gonna use the very same excuse not to invite you to the reception.  not cool at all.  You've done your share, let this one go!
141487
I'd say that you'll have to be strong on this one with your grandmother. If it's too hard to say that you only want to invite certain people and not all the extended family, see if you can pin it on the place where you're at (room to small, already committed to the head-count). There used to be a time when you could invite some people and not others and no one took offense to it. But nowadays in this "please me" society we are ever more careful not to offend. If questioned by relatives as to why they weren't invited to the party you can respond "I regret that we weren't able to invite every person we thought of!" and leave it at that. You owe no explanation beyond that. Hope that helps - have a great party!
797269
Aww, I'm sorry! I know this is NOT fun, but me tell you, if you stay home, you will probably just feel worse. Go to the Winter Formal. Show these guys that you can have fun without them, just you and your friend! And be proud that your BF is in the army...thats a truly honorable reason why he cant be there with you.
653363
Invite whoever the hell you want to! Don't let one person decide who you can't hang out with because she doesn't like many people...You sound like a very nice person and I think you should party with whoever you want to....Hate to say it but the friend who doesn't like many people...really doesn't seem to be doing much but trying to bring u down with her!! Be yourself and invite everyone lol...The more the merrier..No matter where or when.
648122
Take deep breaths and relax. Pretend that there is nobody and you are just doing a presentation in your house with nobody home! WORKS ALL THE TIME FOR ME!!
808499
If you really want to go, then go.  You could take a date or just a friend.  Whether you go alone or with someone, make it clear to your co-worker you are not interested in him that way and to stay away and let you enjoy the party.
75534
Well, I think that since it is your last vacation before college, you might not see him anymore, right? So I understand when you want to spend time with him, but your family is just as important. They too want to spend some time with you, some "private" time. Maybe you could take a couple days where you just hang out with your family, and only your family. If they feel that he's invading their privacy, you can go somewhere instead of staying at your house.
1173954
Only invite you closest friends and family. I doubt that you will have so many people after that. and if you dont have so mayn tell them to bring an extra guest or somehting.
254135
No! I would see that as a slap in face saying "I want presents, but I don't want to pay for your meal or trust you to behave like an adult on my special day." The only time i would do it is if the friend is really close to me but cannot make the wedding due to a major plan, like moving or taking a big vacation. Unless you want this to be the last time you see the person, it would be better to just have a little event, like seeing a movie or having dinner to celebrate, since such things don't oblige presents.
865022
Ask her what responsibilities she would want you to to be in charge of for the party.  Offer to have you and your friends clean up after the party.  I know that's a bummer for guests, but you can make it fun by singing Christmas kareoke while you are doing it.  Be sure to agree upon a date for the party that does not interfere with her plans.\n\nIn other words, go the extra mile.  I think you'll be able to talk her into it.
169635
I'm going to this party in some farm town I've never been to, 200 miles from my house
862376
I agree that because you already made plans, and have preparred for the festivities at your home, he, or his parents, should not expect you to change this (with no thought of the quantity of people at each location).  As couples, these things must be discussed and planned in advance to avoid problems.  You be sincere, without argument, and explain that you can prepare a schedule of when you will spend Thanksgiving at who's house.  It sucks when there is conflice (as I am experiencing the same this year), but all you can do is try and be the adult. Good luck.
724165
You say, "Thank you for inviting me. I regret I cannot attend."\n\nThat's all that's necessary. Please do NOT provide any made up excuses. All that is necessary is a reply. Either Yes, thank you or no, thank you. No reasons necessary. Do NOT provide one. If you're wishy washy about it, why not stop being so anti-social, put on something nice, and go for a couple hours. You might actually have a good time if you let yourself. But, do NOT go if you're going to be a wet blanket. Either way - you need to RSVP.
794905
Have a chat with them and ask them. You can start off by saying you'd like to organize a small christmas party for you and your friends. From there, tell them everything they need to know, like what activities you'll have, what food you'll eat, etc. Then, you can ask them if they are alright with the idea. Tell them you would be more than willing to clean up after the party. Best of luck!
408566
Um, if they're living in the same household, then it's only courdial to invite everyone.  Yes, it is your day and it should be planned out to your specifications, but think about the "bad-blood" that could be created or spared based or your decision to just let someone show up and hey....maybe give you an extra gift.  It's worth it to me to suck it up.  Besides, there will be so many other people there, it isn't like you have to sit and hold hands with him/her the entire time and be like "look who I invited, right here, uh huh, see who came, blah blah blah."
856215
The peole who live in halls must be on the same course as you ae.\nWhy not arrange to go somewhere with them.\nYou also have the advantage that you, unlike most other students, can actually invite them to your home.\nIt is always wise to take the positive view and make potential disadvantages into advantages.\nIf you really want to avoid a boring Christmas why not offer to help ouit with some group that is laying on meals for the lonely?\nTry youir local Salvation Army or some such group.\nYou may be shatteredat the end of it but I guarantee you8 will NOT be bored.