Do you think she cheated on me?
813698
Stop being a doormat and tell this lying cheating bi tch to move out.
1156925
Look im gonna be straight w/ u .... If u cheated on her apologize and go leave her alone. If you beg 4 forgivness u just mite get it, BUT she will NEVER trust u again. She may not say it she may cry ask why and take u back, but wait a few months things will slowly change she mite bite ur head off 4 something small, she may start calling u 20xs every two hrs. Follow u... its endless, but the worst part will b all this time u r thinking things r getting better, she is blowing up w/ resentment over the "mistake" i figured u called it and one day you will wake up and see a different person and you wont understand where all this hate/ mean/ bitchy snaps r coming from, cause u forgot about it and moved on, believe me she never did she just had time to get over the shock the heartbreak, the broken trust, and now she hates you for what u did but don't exactly know how to handle the situation. One day things will b fine the next she will just look at you eating and want to smash your face in. I am so not kidding on this, IF IT WASN"T CHEATING....Go with the whole truth a sincere apology, let her know you love her and only her, ask HER how she feels, listen to every word and tell her, if you mean it, u will do everything you can to make things right 4 her. Do not lie and just take responsibility for what you did, b4 some jackas* rats u out. If u feel shes the kinda girl that would want something, get her something she likes so she knows you really know her,  you listen and of course remember what she says. Good Luck
883898
yes, it's wrong. probably not as wrong as her cheating on you, but, like momma always said, two wrongs don't make a right. if you think she's cheating on you, she probably is, so instead of stressing out about it, just confront her. if you ask her straight out i think you'll be able to tell in her eyes or her reaction whether your intuition was right. snopping is just gonna give her a reason to dump you, therefore turning you into the dumped rather than the dumpee--wouldn't you rather have more fun dumping HER?
1099071
You should talk to her, write her a note, send her a message on her answering machine, anything! From her view point that looks BAD! tell her everything that happened, and maybe if that doesn't work a buddy that she knows you were with can help you out and he could tell her what happened if she doesn't believe you. I'm sure if she really loves you she is just hurt and confused about the situation and will realize that you were telling the truth. Just try and explain no matter what, its pretty much up to her weather to believe you or not. Thats all I can say about that. I hope she believes you.
655129
Maybe you did them a favor...  I don't know what the "information" was, but say you knew he cheated on her, or lied to her.  You telling her may have been the best thing!  Don't be so hard on yourself.
516980
Maybe she is on drugs. That explains the wierdness. As for the cheating part learn to trust your girl.
884169
I would have to say that you were snooping so if you bring it up, she will know that.  You should really wait to get hard cold proof if you are going to accuse her.  Good Luck!
521656
maybe she was maybe she wasnt..try to find out about that before u even think about calling her or for that matter anyone a liar..
252152
not without proof or a confession... unless your just looking for an excuse to dump her...
655184
hi! so sorry to hear that.r u sure this is what happened?this has happened to me just last year.my(now ex)boyfriend of 9yrs.eas sleeping with a friend of mine.for the 1st. time in our relationship i suspected he was cheating i would call my friend to talk to her (crying)she kept telling me as far as she knows he wasnt seeing nobody.well one day he came by after being gone for 3 days he told me he was seeing someone well i was very hurt but loved him enough to listen to him what he had to say.as he went to go get something out of his car'i called my "friend"@told her he was back at home @told her what he said she asked me if he was there(my house) i told her yes! he was comming in so  i hung the phone up, well we talked 4-a while he was going to the store @said he would be right well when he came back he was very upset(sad)he then told me who he was seeing i screamed NNNNNOOOOO!!!!!! she's my friend he held me i cryed for about 10min.then he told me that it dont matter causeshe didnt know i came over here earlier and when u called her and told her i was here she said she dont wanna see me anymore!i saw the saddness in his eyes i then told him "look,baby,I love you enough to fix this for you" so there i went calling her back i told her look i know its you that hes been sleepping with,but i'm not mad i'm more hurt than anything and i can see how much he wants to be with you and i can respect that but both of you have to stop lieing to me and he has to stop negelcting the kids.
1142942
OH BOY. THIS IS NOT GOOD. BUT WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE? WOULD YOU CONSIDER TELLING HER THE TRUTH, OR SIT WITH IT? WOULD YOU BREAK IT OFF AND LEAVE THE SITUATION ALONE? IS THIS A LOVE THING? MY BEST ADVICE WOULD BE TO COME CLEAN ABOUT IT ALL. SORRY, I HATE GUILT.
217250
depends....if she cheats on him with you, can you trust her in the future?
892029
If she betrayed you, then she's not worth a second thought. I know that's easier said than done, but it is possible to get through. Think of it this way, does it hurt more that you're not with her anymore, or does it bother you more that she made you feel like you weren't enough or good enough by going to someone else? I know that sounds mean, but I don't mean for it to. Just stop and think if maybe your ego is hurting more than your heart. Don't let her actions turn you against other girls, because there are PLENTY of them out there who would love to have a boyfriend and who would treat you like gold ! No matter how hard it is to think of that right now, you WILL find someone else, if you give it time. Just don't go back to the same girl who cheated on you! If you take her back, she will think she can do it again, and you'll take her back again- once a cheater always a cheater! Don't waste any of your time on her- take care of yourself, work out a little( anything to boost your self-esteem), and you'll be surprised at how easy it is to get over her and find someone new! Especially if you are feeling good about yourself!
430622
Your words imply guilt. Have you convicted her? If so, on what evidence?
182361
Man...that sucks.  My ex and I broke up after I discovered cheating...and then I was a sucker and feel for the "I am so sorry" speech.  Needless to say the next 6 months were absolute hell.  \nI was never able to forgive the cheating in the first place and made myself completely crazy.  If you are checking her email now, sounds like you may be in the same position I was.  Man, you gotta move on. Confront her if you need. SO WHAT that you have been checking her email!  What is she going to do?  Get mad?  She is the one who broke the trust to begin with.\nTime to bail my friend.  Good luck to you.
158709
She did something she knew was deceptive and against your will. She\n\nthen misled you and was deceptive about it once you caught on. She\n\nflat-out lied about her actions and tried to make out as if it were\n\nyou who was in the wrong and had a lack of understanding (a\n\ngenerational thing that you aren’t able to comprehend).\n\n\n\nShe says Jeff is “easy to talk to” and that he’s “a great listener” –\n\nmajor red flag\n\n\n\nYou made your value of honesty perfectly clear and yet she\n\nintentionally betrayed that in spite of your openness of how much it\n\nmeant to your relationship.\n\n\n\nI find your statement here perplexing:\n\n\n\n“I personally think it’s a bit weird for a guy to be calling a girl\n\nwho has a boyfriend every day, but I also don’t’ want to treat my gf\n\nlike a child.”\n\n\n\nI don’t. \n\n\n\nYour “girlfriend” is acting childish but you don’t want to treat her\n\nlike a child. She has given you every reason to question her integrity\n\nyet you insist on being more permissive. You wonder how a guy (which\n\nshe admittedly feels so comfortable being with and confiding in) would\n\ncall on a girl who has a “boyfriend”. Dude, in my opinion, HE is her\n\nboyfriend too. Is it really that unclear? My guess is that YOU are\n\nprobably NOT her “boyfriend” in HIS mind, but YOU are merely an\n\nobstacle (she never mentions you and he never asks about you) . It\n\nwould seem, on it’s face at least, that she may feel the same way (why\n\nwould she be honest about this too when she found it so easy to lie\n\nabout everything else). The fact remains that she encourage, or at\n\nleast welcomes, his advances which she KNOWS FOR A FACT are totally\n\nagainst your will and undisputedly outside the parameters of trust\n\nthat the two of you have agreed upon for your relationship (in view of\n\nher previous lies about Jeff).\n\n\n\n“she says ‘she thinks about him all the time, and misses him. She’s\n\ndepressed that she can’t see him.”\n\n\n\nI’m not trying to belittle you or suggestion that you are less than\n\nintelligent because I know how love clouds the mind. But, c’mon big\n\nfella; you need to wake up because as hard as this is to swallow, in\n\nmy opinion you’re being had.\n\n\n\n“She says that maybe I don’t trust her, and she can’t spend the rest\n\nof her life with someone who can’t trust her, and she knows I feel the\n\nsame way.”\n\n\n\nShe KNOWS you don’t trust her and she KNOWS you don’t want to be with\n\nsomeone you can’t trust. It kinda makes one wonder if she’s not trying\n\nto help you dump her by continuing to give you reason after reason to\n\nnot trust her, doesn’t it? See what I mean? I don’t think she “feels\n\nbad” because she doesn’t “want to make you upset”, she feels bad\n\nbecause she KNOWS it makes you upset and she KNOWS that isn’t right –\n\nbut she still does it, doesn’t she?\n\n\n\nI find it odd that you think it “might” be ok that she doesn’t tel you\n\nall these little details about her relationship with this guy but that\n\nshe obviously tells him all the little details of her relationship\n\nwith YOU (if you’re not aware, intimate talk is what “easy to talk to”\n\nand “a good listener” often represent). You’re not seeing the two of\n\nthem discuss YOU because he probably already knows more than he cares\n\nto know already.\n\n\n\n>>>Do I let her keep meeting him as long as she’s honest with me about\n\nmeeting him?\n\nYou may not have a choice anymore.\n\n\n\n>>>Should I be worried? \n\nYou bet.\n\n\n\n>>>Do I tell her that she can’t be his friend and my boyfriend at the same time? \n\nYes, you can, but you risk losing her if you do. \n\n\n\n\n\n>>>Can I honestly, in good faith, tell her who she can and can’t be friends with? \n\nYou know what – you can (sort of). In a mature relationship everyone\n\nknows what the rules are. You
108366
well chances are, she IS lying to you.  It may not be that big of a deal, and there may be some good reasons for it (although I dont think theres ever good reasons to lie)\n\neither way, I am sure she has her reasons, if you cant bear with it, leave her.