Ladies: When looking at a potential bf, husband, long-term relationship, how important to you is his income?
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not that important.....I'm more concerned with his character...how he treats others....is he intelligent...does he have a good sense of humor...things like that....income is secondary to me.
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it is a VERY circumstantial question depending on MANY variables.\n\nbut I would choose money. I am fairly frugal and depending (of course) on the amount of money, could do a lot with the funds. \n\nLove is special, but not unique, based (in my opinion) largely on familiarity with a person. Love can be found in many places with many individuals.
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It really depends on if you guys do not depend on each other for financial need.  If you can leave the relationship and can rely on yourself to provide for yourself, then it is not rushing things.  But every decision you make is based on the long run.  If you are taking things step by step and you feel you aren't rushing things that is fine.  But normally, long successful relationships run slower than the pace you're at right now.  But what is normal nowadays?
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Hi AJ,\n\nThe most important things in any long term relationship are honesty, kindness, a good sense of humor and a willingness to be there during the good times as well as the bad.  That said, the first thing that attracts me to a guy is his smile and the way he carries himself, with confidence but not too cocky or over the top.  A guy who is clean, dressed appropriately and who has a pleasant demeanor and makes the first move conversationally will get my attention and that of most ladies out there.\n\nBTW: Any woman who would value a man for his wallet alone is in the same league as a man who values a woman solely for her looks, both types are players and ultimately bad news.\n\nGood luck and best wishes from bookyone :)
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The question is... DO YOU LIKE HIM?\n\nIs he interesting?\n\nWell groomed?\n\nClean?\n\nDoes he pay attention to you?\n\nCan you see spending the rest of your life with him? (This is for some one 20 years or older, not a teenager).\n\nNow, seeing that other people see you as a couple, they must think that you two have a lot in common.  But, even still, I have seen a lot of people who "went for it" and got divorced after awhile because it didnt work out.\n\nWhy dont you date him for 6months and find out how it will be, then if it doesnt work out, find some one new...\n\nJust my opinion...\n\nJesse
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depends on what your intentions are... if you're looking for long-term, he has to be someone you can and want to trust and has a personality you can find attractive.  it goes much much deeper, but everything else falls into place around that\n\nif you're looking for a short-term relationship, don't keep high standards; just enjoy it while it lasts.
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There are no guarantees.  Look at divorce rate.  Ask yourself if you truly enjoy this person's company.  Do you communicate well?  Is this person insecure/secure?
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I think that it all depends on the couple and their expectations. If that is truly her desire then, that is what she should do. It is hard in this economy to sustain a family on a single income.
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Depends on how long the relationship has been going on and where you both are at in your lives. If you are single, I would say probably not. :)
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So what if he has money?  Aren't you being prejustice by thinking he is a "certain type of person" just because he has more money than you?  He obviously doesn't have a problem with it if he is clearly interested in getting with you.  Go on a date and find out what he is all about, besides cash.
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I don't see why they would. Some guys still have issues about being the breadwinner but a modern woman with her own home wouldn't want one of them anyway. I think that to most guys it will be a positive. It's a sign of stability and maturity. To the rest is will be a non-issue for a while at least.
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I base a mans "worth" as you call it on his persoanlity, not just emotionally and spiritually. I base it on how he is with other people, especially his family, and how caring and loving he is. He could have all the money in the world, but what does it matter if he doesn't know how to love?
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Of course not.A mans attitude.How attentive and caring are very important .Although i admit your having a job and being self sufficient is important.
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I am old fashion...He pays for the date, always.  I refuse to accept his role in the relationship.  I think the problem with most men is that we as working, independent women feel the need to display our equality.  I don't.  I am equal but you will open my door.  I am equal, but you will pay for the date.  I am equal but if you see me carrying heavy bags or see something in my house that needs repair, you will offer your services.  And in return, I cook my butt off, never say no and make each intimate moment an adventure.  Also, leave that tired clown alone, he's not a real man and will never make you happy.
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Dont judge that person for having financial problems. Unless we were born rich, we all find ourselves in economical need at some point in our lives.\n\nIve seen cases where a guy finds a girl who really cares about him and makes him happy but some relative starts putting doubts on his head by telling him the girl is only interested in money and vice versa.\nOf course, you should always be careful. When you just met Someone its not a good idea to make them think they could benefit economically from you.\n\nIf you find your special someone who is in financial need,  give them your support. Don't make their lives harder than what it already is. they already have enough problems to think about.
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depends on the guy and what type of relationship he is looking for a pretty little trophy to show off or someone he could possible settle down with someday.. personality, caring .. remember looks eventually fade
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You are a minnow in a big pond, an inconsequential thing that he might consider if it is convenient.  He perceives your offer is right on the edge of inconsequential.  Now if it looked like you could be very valuable to him, you would have a higher priority.  Right now, he's got piles and piles of things to juggle space and time for, almost all being more valuable than you.  Figure out an advantage (to him) or blow it off.  He's not lying, he's just busy and your value isn't perceived as high enough to merit nailing down the time and effort.  Sorry.  It's like dating a gorgeous woman who can have almost anyman she wants, why would she want you?  You've got to be worth it to her somehow.  This is different from desperate plain Jane's--right now you are behaving like the deseparate plain Jane who is mad that some guy who smiled at you hasn't called.