How can I help my friend to feel more comfortable with our relationship?
824076
By letting her see this post!  You are an awesome friend that's a people-pleaser!  People-pleasers don't count favors cuz they're just doing things to make others feel good & IN RETURN it makes them feel good.  :-)\nAsk her to jump on Yahoo! Quetions & give her your Avatar name.  Sometimes it's easier to say things in writing, so let her see it.  :-)
705992
If your both nervous about it then you should have a friend scope out the situastion or drop the hint to him for you. This way you both don't have to really worry and you could just act like you didn't know that your friend was going to do that to you.
753557
She's just feeling uncomfortable,same as you. It will take awhile for you two to get back to the friendship you had-so take it slow and just let her know that you value her friendship,and will always be there for her.
610136
Bring the matter up gently, at a time when you two are alone so she won't feel uncomfortable speaking candidly.  Let her know from the beginning that no matter how she lives her life, you value her friendship and are not going to abandon her (as I HOPE you won't), but if it turns out that she is gay and has been making some advances, you need to tell her that, while you support her in what she thinks is the right way to live her life, you do not think that's the right choice for you.  Good luck, and remember friendships are REALLY important!
1151899
yeah the bigger the better...as you matured you see your perspective change.For now your girlfriend thinks its quite a burden for he..well time will come she can adjust to it.just don't force yourself too deep maybe she's scared..just let her feel comfortable as much as you can
157029
Talk to him, let him know how you feel.  But also let him know that the friendship is very important to you.  So if he doesn't feel the same way (or is nervous/scared), then make sure he knows how much you value his friendship.
467488
LET HER GET IT ALL OUT,CRY,THAT WILL MAKE IT EASIER FOR HER ANYWAY, TRY BE ATTENTIVE AND OFFER HER SUPPORT! SHE IS OBVIOUSLY HAVING A HARD TIME DEALING WITH THIS PROBLEM, AND YOU MUST FEEL QUIT PROUD THAT SHE'S TURNED TO YOU 4 ADVICE.SHE TRUSTS YOU, AND THAT'S WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR!!!!
942055
I think that you should talk to him about it. He may be feeling awkward because you told him how you felt and he's not ready to make the transition from "friends" to "more than friends." Talk to him and see where his head is at, try to make him feel comfortable so that he won't blow you off. Things like this are never easy, but you'll never until you ask. Good luck....
301521
I would continue to be her friend. Realize that she is not going to be able to put as much as you put into the relationship, due to her current mental state. You now know that that because of her condition that you won't be able to believe what she says. Keep the relationship fun and light. That way you won't get caught up in the emotional drama.
164900
This can be only only little by little. Start by seeing other people, making new friends and start doing stuff without this particular friend. After some time he or she will understand that you two are getting apart and it won't be that hard though there will be some hurt...
1107280
If your not comfortable with it then just tell him how you feel if he is your friend then he will understand...
168058
just tell him that you dont feel comfortable with taking about it and if he cant accept that you arent comfortable talking about things like that dump him and their is more fish out there in the sea
214963
First go to the friend that you like and tell him how you feel without coming off as needy.   He may just appear to be nicer to your friend because, simply that, she's your friend.   He may feel he's being nice to you by treating your friend well.   You could see if he prefers to be with just her by bowing out the next time something is planned with the three of you.   Then, if he seems to enjoy that and doesn't put up a fuss, maybe you should start thinking that maybe there isn't too much between you two other than just friendship.    Much more goes into this such as the age of the parties and what you do when you're together, but basically I would just be open and honest and not make this a criticism.   Just a simple question such as, "Gosh, it looks like you and so-and-so are really hitting it off and I sure hope I am not becoming an undesireable third wheel here."
35423
help her with things and try and make her comfortable without imposing then gradualy start leaving her little things to show how you feel like a rose in her car or a note slipped into her purse but don't rush it she's probably scared enough as it is in a new country and just needs a friend
1176942
This is by no means all there is to it, but I feel it's crucial to help him find some other activity, some outlet other then alcohol for his feelings... You as his girlfriend are in a good position to do smthing together. Sports, arts, outdoors, religious activities are all good choices...\nOf course much depends on the given situation, which U know best, so as to the particulars you should trust your feelings and go along with what you feel's best, be brave, smart and never get discouraged...\nYears ago I myself had some problems, and I feel that finding new activities, new environments is crucial for any such problem...
508093
It's hard to take that step back in a relationship.  If he/she is really your friend, I would tell them you just don't want to do that anymore and see how they react.  If they aren't into it, maybe you have to stop messing around all together.
565834
Personally, when I found myself in this very predicament, I made a conscious decision to approach the situation from an honest, adult perspective and expressed my concerns to both my friend and my boyfriend. \n\nBecause I trust my boyfriend, I explained how uncomfortable my friend's behaviour toward him made me, and asked that he help me by not reacting positively to her flirting. He was happy to do so, because he found her behaviour just as inappropriate as I had.\n\nI explained to my friend, privately, that, although I value her friendship, her flirting behaviour toward my boyfriend made me uncomfortable and was jeopardising the future of our friendship. I asked her to tone herself down and respect my feelings. When I discovered that she could not oblige me that, then I did, and still do, my utmost ensure that my boyfriend and my friend spend the least amount of time together as possible. It doesn't mean I don't see either of them less frequently, I just don't see them at the same time anymore.\n\nIt may be that my friend is jealous of the fantastic relationship between my boyfriend and me, and either consciously or not, wants us to split up so that I may be as miserable as she is in the relationship department... who knows. \n\nEither way, the key is to remain adult in your thoughts, and not give in to the childish part of yourself that goes "OMG what a b*tch I can't believe she's trying to steal my boyfriend I'm going to make her pay" or similar, and to trust the man you love.