How can I live with my dad for full custody?
826231
Ask your dad to get a lawyer and tell him you're being abused, take to a school councilor. Since you're old enough to make your own choice the judge may let you!
311492
Yes, you need to start keeping a journal of everything that happens.  It will be invaluable when you go to court.  Do this until your child turns 18.  Every missed visitation, missed child support payment, phone call, stupid thing he says to your child...EVERYTHING.  Start now!\n\nBut, the bad news is, 3 months isn't long enough to do much.  YOu need to start by filing a complaint about him not paying child support.  You can get a lawyer, but that's expensive.  My suggestion would be to either go to the court and file yourself, or call DSS/CSD/Whatever it is where you are.  Often they will help you, and once they get involved, they will take care of it until your child turns 18.\n\nOnce he gets in trouble for not paying child support, then you need to go back to court and ask for a modification of visitation/custody.  Normally when parents have shared custody, the mother gets less support because it is assumed that the father is sharing the costs of the child.  Use that and his lack of visitation as your grounds for requesting a change in custody.\n\nWhy does he have supervised visitation?  You may be able to use that to your advantage as well.\n\nYou will most likely not be able to get his rights terminated. This is a severe action, and courts don't like to do it.  If rights are terminated, the child becomes an orphan if the remaining parent dies.  Plus, terminating rights removes financial obligations.  In the eyes of the state, this makes it more likely that the state will have to pick up the slack in supporting the child with welfare, medicaid, food stamps, etc.\n\nI would just get yourself sole custody and make sure you keep his visitation supervised.  Then keep your child away from him, collect your child support if you are ever lucky enough to get some, and you and your child go on with your lives.\n\nThink about it, won't your child be better off?  My son has a dead beat dad and I let him off the hook.  I would rather he go off and not be in my son't life at all than he continually disappoint my son for the rest of his life by not showing up for visits, holidays, birthdays, etc.  Once a jerk, always a jerk.  Let him be a jerk to someone else.\n\nAlso, I know its not cheap, but I strongly suggest getting a lawyer when you do this.  He will protect you and your child and make sure you get what you deserve.  Also, I have heard more than one judge get upset when a parent comes to court without a lawyer.  Even though you can file by yourself, the results are just as serious as if you did have an atty.  So if you go by yourself and represent yourself poorly, it can have very negative effects on your child.\n\nGood luck!
727707
You have about a 50/50 chance.It all depends on the judge.If your daughter wants to live with her mother,sad to say she will probably get custody.Check out the group Fathers Rights and they can help you in that process,Good luck and God Bless,will say some prayers for you.
254608
Let me help you some. If there are no custody orders in place, you both have equal rights to your daughter. If that is the case, I would suggest going directly to the county courthouse and file both an immediate custody order and a restraining order on him for the threats. These usually will only be good for 30 days. After that time, you must go to a hearing and plead your case to the judge as to why the father shouldn't have any rights. \n\nAdditionally, when you go to the hearing, be as detailed as you can. Have dates, times, and names. Present everything chronologically and don't let your emotions rule your testimony. For a judge to deny a father's right is a huge deal and they don't take it lightly.\n\nAnother suggestion: If they ask you to try mediation, don't do it if you think he is truely dangerous/manipulating as you make him out to be. Mediation does not grant any court issued orders. It only says on paper that you and he will try to abide by the rules you both set out in mediation. If he violates the mediated rules, nothing happens to him. Get a solid set of custody orders signed by a judge only.\n\nOnce those orders are in place, you file a police report every time he violates the order, EVERY TIME! If you don't report his violations, you just empowered him to do as he sees fit.\n\nGood luck. By the way, what state are you in?
1014883
I live in Columbus, OH.  I would think if the father can prove that the mother is not doing a good job, the courts will grant full custody to the father.  The burden of proof rests with the father, though.  Good Luck!
851665
You're in a divorce proceeding and you don't have a separation agreement in place concerning custody?\n\nget to that lawyer fast, without a custody agreement registered with the court both parents have equal access, rights, etc., including rights to custody.\n\nIf there is no court order and he decides to keep the child a police officer could not help you as there is nothing in place to say he can't keep the child and he has an equal right to be the custodial parent until a court says otherwise.
1010344
No, he cannot stop you from moving to another state; however, he can take it to court and have custody changed to him. If you take it to court for permission, the judge could strip you of custody and give custody to the father. Be careful, I almost lost custody of my daughter because I didn't know a father who fathered a child via rape would have parental rights. I was court ordered to live within my rapist's community or give custody of my daughter to him and pay him child support. It took nearly 3 years of court battles costing thousands of dollars to be able to move to a town where I could go to a 4 year college. The area where I was confined had no jobs, and so I applied for subsidized housing which I was refused because that area was/is highly conservative and anti-single parent. I lived in a car for a while because I had no money for housing. \n\nYou have to be careful about this. There are lots of mothers who lose their children because they want to leave the state or town they live in.
257055
Best advice is to talk to a family law attorney.  You'd have to prove that you'd be better off on your own than with your parents/guardian.  It's pretty tough to do, unless you can prove abuse or neglect and can prove that you have the means in which to support yourself, such as a trust fund that you would get when you turned 18, etc.  They're not too keen on emanicapting minors if it means you would have to get a full time job to survive.  You'd just wind up in foster care until 18.
1064126
I understand your problem and I think that no matter how much you talk to him thing are not going to change unless he wants too do it all on his own.  And since moving out isn't an option at the moment I suggest you find something to do with your time other than staying at home.  Like finding a job or going to school (assuming your not doing it already)  Going to the library or donating your time to charities.  Something you enjoy.  I know you love your family but YOU are 20 and you need to start making a life of your own Maybe when he sees what your doing he'll start appreciating you better.  As for your real dad start writing to him get that job and save up to go visit.  Where there is a will there is a way.  Good luck at what ever you do.
954720
He would have to adopt her otherwise if something happens to you the next biological parent would gain custody.  And the real dad will probably fight you tooth and nail against this. \n\nGet a lawyer that specializes in family law and have them explain your options to you.
702857
Dad doesn’t have to compromise. He has every right to say NO.  You can go to court and ask for approval to move your child out of state.  You will have to convince a judge that it’s in your CHILD’s best interest to move and that it’s a significant enough reason to override Dad’s wishes.  How is you wanting to be closer to your boyfriend in your child’s best interest?  It’s not.  That’s in YOUR best interest.
702627
If you have joint custody, then all arrangements are supposed to be by consensus. You need to go back to court for an order to equalize access. "They" have no rights at all. Only you and the dad have such rights. If you are not, or not yet, divorced, then there is even less right to deprive you of access.\n\nIf you cannot afford an attorney there is a lot of free help available. The rights of the child are paramount; if the child is past the age of reason his or her views must be taken into account.\n\nAlways come across as reasonable, never hysterical. Let the other side be seen as unreasonable, self-contradictory, vindictive. If that is the case.
1171272
If there is no custody order in effect that states he has visitation rights, then no, he cannot force you to stay with him.  And either way, he certainly cannot send you to a "child home".
783993
Obviously things weren't as perfect as you thought they were.  Your parent's divorce is between THEM.  Not you and them.  They have things they have to straighten out and you have nothing to do with the divorce itself.  When they get to the child custody/support phase then you will be able to have your say.  You don't get to make the choices concerning  your parent's marriage though.
815127
First of all, don't listen to anyone who says everything gets split exactly in half.  That's not how property division works.\n\nIn a divorce, your dad and step-mom will be negotiating who gets what.   If they can come to an agreement that they are happy with, the judge will grant the divorce, even if one person gets more dogs than the other.  (The idea is for items with monetary value to be divided fairly equally. IE  one person gets the house, the other person gets other property that is worth approximately the same as the house.)  If you live with your dad it would make sense for him to keep Jack since it's 'your' dog.  Maybe they will decide that the dogs spend half time with her and half time with him.  But if you live with your mom full time, it might not be reasonable to expect your dad to take on the responsibility of a pet.  Talk to both of them about how you feel about the dogs.
263510
Give him written notice that his rental agreement is being terminated.  You'll have to give him at leat 30 days to move out.  He's a parent so there's no excuse for him to not take care of his own family.  If he wants to accuse you of abuse it'll most likely be dismissed but if there's any suspicion the agency will require him to get the child out of the household, so that'd be a bad move on his part.\n\nGood luck.  I say just set a date that he has to be gone by, and don't back down.
382800
YOU NEED TO GET THE DIRT ON HIM, IF HE IS BAD PROVE IT THEY WILL NOT GIVE CUSTODY TO SOMEONE WHO CANT TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES, FIGHT FOR YOUR KIDS AND WHEN YOU WIN TAKE HIM FOR ALL HE'S GOT. I AM TIRED OF DEAD BEAT DADS TRYING TO RUN FROM THIER RESPONSIBILITY'S. HE NEEDS TO BE A MAN OR FACE THE CONSEQUENCES