i have a boy in mind but he doesnt pay attention to me. how can i do it?
830591
Just ask him if he has a girlfriend if he doesn't try and flirt with him a little.
227915
You need to  realize you are the way God made you.If that's not good enough for this boy, it's his loss. Don't let his superficial view of you affect your self esteem. You are precious in God's sight.
127075
Listen to him more and convince him that he does not need friends, seriously, or convince him that everybody are his friends. BTW how old is your son? I know about this kind of thing cause I suffered this before.\n\nContact: rateofspeed@hotmail.com
84560
Clearly the `always` interfere part is a problem.\nyou must find a way to prevent them from interfering\nwhether it is just through \ndirect communication <avoidance> \nor through changing what they think of you <mitigation>\nWhat sway do they have over your grown son?
250619
be patient.  boys do it slower than girls and keep up with it, don't stop just because he did.  he'll come around and if he doesn't contact his pedi.
893188
You should let him know how you feel about him.  Then you should let him know that you will give him some time to  grow up if he feels the same about you.  Then you should stay away from him and let time run it's course.  Don't stress yourself out over boys.  There are lot's of other things that you can do to occupy your time.
448423
You know your son. You know if he respects you as the authority figure he truly honors. You know in yourself if pleasing you is important and disappointing you is something he really does not want to do. If that is the case, as much as you are tempted, don't spy on him. Be ready in any case to intervene should things get inappropriate, if they do. On the other hand, if the relationship with your son is strained and he does not appreciate his parents, then the battle is already lost. If you move to spy or stop him, then he'll move the activity somewhere else where you are not.
20638
It just routes from his insecurity.  Unfortunately it's his problem and there isn't much that you can do.  You shouldn't have to conform to someone's idea of how to keep you under his thumb.  If the reigns get to tight I would run for it.  If you really want to make it work you should send that boy to a therapist.
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Each child is different and will have different needs, but I would recommend trying several things. \n\nFirst, you might consider looking into why he is engaging in the behaviors you mentioned. Make clear and objective descriptions of the behaviors that are concerning you. Then, make some notes whenever the behavior occurs. You could make a chart with three columns: (A) What happens before the behavior, (B) What the behavior was, and (C) What happened after or as a result of the behavior. \n\nYou may find that it gets him attention from adults, or that it gets him a time-out (maybe he is overwhelmed in the situation and wants to be removed). If you see a pattern from the information you collect, you could teach him other ways to get attention or whatever he is gaining from doing these behaviors. These could include, tapping someone on the shoulder, asking for attention, handing someone a card that says, "attention please" or "all done" (to get permission to leave an area), etc. Also, make sure that you are giving him praise or a reinforcer (something he likes) when he is engaging in positive behavior. \n\nTo find out more about this technique, I would suggest speaking to your school district's autism specialist, if they have one, or special education teachers (if your son is in school). It is called "functional analysis." This is an Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) technique. You may want to seek the advice of an ABA professional that can get to know your son and his needs. However, I would give one word of caution about this. Make sure that your ABA person also has a background in special education and child development, because many don't. This is very important.\n\nBest of luck and I hope this helps you!
932614
Never ask yes or no questions.  Let your son know that when he is ready to talk, you will be there.  I liked an idea that someone else had, play a game with him. Sometimes kids open up when you are not wanting answers from them.
636073
Don't sweat him anymore.  Act like you have more things going on.  Don't stare anymore and I guarantee the mystery will have him running to you.  But once you get his attention, don't move too fast.  He'll feel there is no more mystery to you and you're just a finished book.
841472
you must be in your primary classes..\n\njust have a convo with the kid.. he must be exploring all these new changes in him.... like hormonal... lol.. when these kick in, boys do get a little clingy!
142191
Teach him! be a parent. Already I can see where the problem is, you aren't dealign with him, you are having others take the reins. He needs YOU.
614890
Pretend he's a girl. That way you'll be much more nonchalant. It works. :)
196330
It sounds like they LIKE YOU!  Boys have a way of irritating you when they like u.  They will tug your hair-walk near u-say things to get your attention- its just the way they r!  If you have no interest in them then just let it all slide.  Eventually they will get the hint.  Or do what my son did!  There was a girl always following him around and he finally turned around and looked at her and said "YOU LOVEME DONT YOU?  That made her definetely go away!  lol  It means they like you sweetheart!!!  They want your attention and unsure how to get it any other way!!!
360781
The best thing you should do at this point is to give him some breathing space. TAI (Temporary Avoid and Ignore) technique works most of the time because you will get him thinking what exactly is going on. Just stay away for a week or so. He will, just like all men, sense the lack of attention and regardless of how he feels about you, will feel compelled to get back to you sooner rather than later.
945446
Just ask him if you draw attention to him and if not try to fix it