my current boyfriend's ex keeps stalking him and now calling my house with threats what should we do?
824932
You have an order against her - that was the first step. Now she is violating it. You need to call the police and inform them of this. If there is any way that you can record these calls, or if they are messages, save them. The State's Attorney will be able to use them as evidence possibly. Harrassing phone calls is a serious crime with an order or not. She can be broiught to court and serve jail time. You just have to be persistant and make sure that you never initiate contact.
1098303
Go to the police station and file a report. That will put him on their records. Although he probably needs to have done something to you or someone you know in order for them to accept it. But threats count as "doing something" so you can say he verbally threatened you or someone you know and you are afraid that his actions will go farther and you want to just make the report so the cops will know if anything does happen. Talk to them and they'll help you go about it the right way.
938938
It's a good thing they are not coming after you, so be thankful for that. Sounds like he owes somebody some money. Short of changing your telephone number, get as much information as you can from the next person who calls you from that place.  Ask about exactly what it is they want from him and who that company is and how to contact them.  Get their phone number, maiing address, and as much specifics as you can.  Ask them as many questions as you can think of and keep them on the phone for as long as possible. Then tell that person that you are not your ex, you have nothing to do with him, that he is no longer with you, you have no idea where he is, whatever, and request that they stop calling you, and if they call you one more time you will file a complaint with the police. You might also try something like saying "Put me on your 'do not call' list.  That's supposed to be for telemarketers but tell them you don't want what they are selling.
565369
Notify the police and have a protection order written against him.  A women's group can do this for you too.  A piece of paper will not stop a man.  You may have to get an answering machine or change your phone number.  Lock your doors.
622166
I agree with the first answerer. Try the *69 if you don't have call display, phone your phone company. They can help. They once changed my phone number right away because my ex-husband had found out my number (from our son)and kept phoning and threatening me. If this has been going on for some time I would notify the police also, I hate to have anything bad happen to you esecially if he's saying I see you. Sounds pretty scary to me. Actually, if this has been going on for some time now, notify the police at once, especially if he keeps calling. OR...If the police will not do anything at first, tell the caller you've notified the police and they're going to trace his call and find out where he lives. If this is just a prank caller, someone getting his jollies, the calls will hopefully stop. Good Luck and take care. But do something soon. Don't wait. \n\np.s.\nI don't mean to scare you but this is a scary situation.
1174643
Keep a journal of everythnig he is doing.  Also, check with your local victim/witness advocate's office to see if your state has "stalking notices" that can be served on individuals.
373283
Tell your ex to stop calling you.  If he still calls block his number.  If you are still friends with him let your husband meet him.  Don't worry about anything if you have nothing to hide.
819036
Ask him to stop calling you. You guys need to move on and memories of each other are bringing both of you down. Just say, _______ please don't call me anymore, I'm ready to move on. IT sounds like your the girl when there's no one lese and you never want to be that. Don't sit in an unhealthy long distance relationship when you know things aren't goin to work out. Be the bigger person and stop the calls. If they don't stop, change your number because you need to move on and so does he.
973365
"even though I'm not" . . . ?\n\nYou need to look carefully at your actions and what it is that you are doing that would make him feel like you are stalking him.  Following somebody or driving past their work or home over and over again is very much stalking activity.  Repeated phone calls, emails and letters are also stalking behaviors.  If you do not have an ongoing relationship with this person, be careful how you interact with him.\n\nAnd the advice to get a restraining order is not a good idea.  Stalkers are often people looking for control over their victims.  Applying for a restraining order would only look more controlling.\n\nI would suggest that; after evaluating your behavior, you do your best to avoid this person.  You don't have to go out of your way.  After all, you have as much right to go where you want as he does, but if there is a concern, you might want to make sure you're not doing anything to make it worse.
817974
Of course he is going to deny it. He seems very immature and apparently has issues. Tell him that you will get the police involved if necessary and have your phone number changed. That's bizzare, since he's the one that broke up with you. Steer clear of him. Something just don't sound right.
858814
You need to tell him that if he shows up again, you will call the cops.  If you are serious about this, you need to tell him this, and if it does happen you need to do it...PERIOD!!! \n\nYou gotta make it very clear to him that you dont want him.  CALL THE COPS, becuz this is borderline, STALKER!!!  if you are definitely serious about this, then you need to let him know you are going to do this and if he shows up again, let him know to wait right there on the doorstep becuz you are now....CALLING THE COPS.  I bet you he wont come back again and if he does, get the restraining order.  Ever time he comes back, he will be put right in the jail cell and having dudes calling him honey bun and sugar stick *winking* if u know what i mean...
634555
Get video/photo evidence of the person stalking you. Then take it to the police. Then you can get a restraining order out on the person so they can't come near you.
453442
The next time he calls you, tell him you don't want anything to do with him and that he should stop calling you and stop following you.  Tell him calmly that if he does not back off you will call the cops.  He might not realize he's being really creepy, so that might make him back off.  If he gets really angry or if he keeps calling, call the cops.
708121
NO!  I beg of you, use your head not your heart.  Wouldn't he have called you or a friend or a locksmith for that matter, if he were locked out of his place?  The fact that you knew where the girlfriend lives and works makes it seems as if this is not the first time and you and the ex has a (fighting) history.  Find someone more loyal, more discreet or maybe a little smarter... How on earth did he let her get the phone?!\nGood Luck!
949003
I can think of two things.  One is to call your local state's attorney's office and ask if your state has a "Stalking" law, or look it up online ("Stalking Laws in (state)").  You might be able to complain to the police about that man's behavior and scare him off.  You will need his address, probably, or his car tags so that the police can try to track him down if they need to.\n\nI also don't think you need to give all the dirty details to your husband.  But you can tell him generally about the ex, how you ran into him again, and that he's harassing you because you're married and refuse to see him any more.  Your husband should be able to accept that.
186709
WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
425760
I am pretty sure if you are legally seperated and he has vacated the house and keeps coming into it without your consent or permission, it is criminal trespass, even if his name is on the mortage. He left, you are in possession of the home. I can tell you that more than 5 unwanted phone calls in a 24 hour period is a violation of federal standards and harrassment, as is simply swearing over the phone is an FCC violation. If you go to file a harrassment suit against him, at least in the state where I live, you will have to file a restraining order. He has the right to defend himself in court, which means he can demand a court hearing and you will have to be present and prove your charges. It's not hard to do, just a pain in the butt. You need to understand that any order of protection falls under 3 categories and he will be charged with all 3. You will have to try to prove that you feel threatened and also that he is, indeed, harrassing you by definition of the law. Keep a journal of when he comes over, what he says, how you felt. Also keep a journal of phone calls and even keep messages he might leave on your answering machine with date and time. Also, keep any notes he might leave for you. If you have anyone who can, have someone check the house when you are not there or have the police come by to keep an eye on things periodically. Also, set up a video camera in case he comes by then. You can certainly file against him, but remember you have to prove the charge, otherwise it is a waste of your time and money. Best of luck to you. The only good things about divorce is that it ends.