How do you date when you have physical limitations?
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Deane,\n\nI am single and have systemic lupus. It causes pain and fatigue that come and go, and you never know when you just can't stand or walk anymore. I lost both my jobs because of it. It is hard when people ask what "you do." I now answer, I am a human "being" not a human "doing." \n\nWhen our identity is wrapped up in what we do, and then what we do is taken away there is a period of grieving. All the stages of grieving for a dead person come into play, but we are here and grieving for who we used to be. Truth is, we are the same person. And everyone is going to face physical detioration and death. We just got to do it a little earlier. So be angry and sad and hopeless. Then try changing how you think. I am not saying be a Polyanna and say, "OOOOOOOOOO I am so glad I have this and I don't have leprosy!" That is just silly. But begin to focus on what you can still do.\n\nAs far as relationships go, I believe it is best to be upfront about your physical limitations. And as you begin to enjoy your own company again, others will too. Please consider looking for a support group. If you go to one and it does not work for you, go to another one. Not all groups are created equal. \n\nYou have a life, you just have to claim it. After all the grieving and wallowing and cursing and swearing that we do, and we all do it, there is a time to transform our lives. Cure is absence of disease or deformity. Healing is being at peace with yourself right where you are. You may not get cured, but you can heal. Good luck to you.
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I'm pretty much a loser around women and even I managed to get a few dates on Yahoo personals.  That or just go places and do the things that you enjoy to do...maybe you'll find someone who enjoys the same things.
901054
People are so stupid, it's frightening!  Dating is not a theme park ride.  There are no height requirements.  Follow your heart and the hell with the image small-minded people expect.
98154
Have someone work out with you. Make a date. That way you are forced to do it so you don't let the other down. :) haha Works for me. Or take photographs of yourself in your bikini, and circle your target areas and keep em close to you and look at them while you work out! I should try that one.... hm.
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Try using the search feild (it's on the left) for what are you are having trouble with.\n\nSearch sugestions: Dating
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Spice a date up a little. Do something different. Show interest. The fact that he is farther away from other people makes it more difficult for you to talk to him and interact with him. But make a date for both of you to get together.
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Make move GIRL\nNOW\nJUMP his bones-i totally get what u mean-do IT NEXT time you see him-NO matter where!\ni did same thing on like 3rd date with my BF-waiting sux, plus its awesome when you do it-good luck you
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its simple you need two elder for that, u shoud talk to your elder brother or sister that u want to go on date with that littile lady lol. Then he or she would arrange two walkers and his or her gf or bf, you would go with them when your sister or brother would go on date.they would put u both in walkers, and let them you in a cool and calm place. and you would talk what you want to talk with that lady. if you dont have sister or brother, you may arrange any one for that service, infact a date servcie provider for infants hahaha.
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You can date if you are not in the same chain of command.
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Midwestern USA female\n\nI am about 18 years past my dating days, but back in the day I normally would wait for the guy to call for the first couple weeks of a relationship.  However, if I wanted to kiss someone, I normally did. Once someone said, "I was going to get to that."   \n\nThere were dances you could ask guys--it was expected--never had good luck with those.\n\nMen definitely approached and I usually informed my parents of dates, there were no restrictions--except when I was 17 and was flirting with a 24 year old grad-student--I got a bit of a lecture.  I had a curfew 11 on school nights and 1 on weekends.  I didn't starte dating until I was 15.     \n\nThere are varied physical intimacy from where I am from. I was pretty conservative.
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Exercise more, eat less, get this pitiful body in better shape.  At my age, though, it's not really much more than damage control.  I do try to walk more and I do try to eat less, but I've not been noticeably successful to date.
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my best advice would be to just go out on a date...it doesn't have to be with someone you're attracted to if that's easier...maybe a male friend...someone you know will me nice to you...so you can see how it should be.  Maybe meeting someone someplace like church would help...or a group in your area for people who've had abuse in their lives.
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have a date ... start dating them
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hi emily!! if you like him then go for it..but the only main thing that you should know your limitations..i hope u know what i mean..me i like to date older guys too but my experienced is not that great..most of them they will try to use you..some of them they just really likes you for who you are..youre still young and there's a lot of guy out there and its your decision whether u want to take a chance..get to know him first and ull see..and ask him straight like what his intensions for you!!!then ull go from there!\n\ntake care
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sorry, i'm too old for you, but wheelchairs don't make the person. wheelchairs just means life is lived differently. a quality woman would see you for your great personality, your confidence, and your sincerity. work on being the best you there is and you won't have problems wondering if anyone would go out with you. take care. :)
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ok look at it this way\n\nyou stand on a chair, and have someone  stand on the ground next to you, now try to pull them up with you onto the chair?\nhow did that work?\nok now have them try to have them pull you down next to them.\nyou fell of the chair didn't you?\n\nthat's how it is when you "missionary date"\nit's is easier for the person you are dating to pull you down, then  for you to pull them up to christ.\nand then they might even try to become a christian just to please you, then it wouldn't a true conversion.\n\nI hope that helped you!\nGod bless!
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Yes it does matter.  I wouldn't want to date anyone that weighed as much as I do.  I'm fairly muscular and have broad shoulders, 205 lbs.