I need some men's perspectives please...?
819051
Why should u care about what others think about the way u look?  \n\nDo u have a brain, do u use it... \n\nThe world is to concerned iwth looks, and it's really quite pathetic.  If you ahve a good heart and good soul, who cares if your 20lbs overweight.
80925
You need to get over it.  He's a man.  That's what men do.  His intention isn't to hurt you.
614761
I would get to know him better before start off a relationship with him. Just take a slow from apoint of view cause I was in that situation with men who I dated way back. I learn my lesson few of them liked me and few of them I didn't like and did dump them. Just be smart and be more thinking about what do want to do with him in life.
421222
Im a guy and a pretty shy one when it comes to that. I think it would be a lot easier on us if you ladies would speak your minds and let us know a little more. Besides, he would probably feel intimidated and you would probably keep the upper hand in the relationship if it goes that way. Personally I like it when a woman takes control and isnt afraid to be herself. good luck!
650224
First of Amen and God bless that you have been able to stand strong and faithful. I think it is awesome that you have not given your self so easily like most woman or men have done.. I can't say I can relate. So hang in there I know God has a special man in plan for you. =)
343271
Don't wait around.  Take charge yourself. He may not be thinking along the same wavelengths as you.  I respect someone who can be direct.
236256
Be thankful that he is honest. Most men at that age would not be, they would take advantage of you.  You need to let it go, if you force it, and he does come around, it probably will not end well because it was forced.
944162
Wow someone sounds positively angry with the guys......some men are this way but many are not....it sounds like you have been hurt ....if so you need to not let this turn you into a bitter, and twisted person try to get past it. Good luck.
208387
I read what you wrote twice.\nI still don't know what you are asking.\n\nAdditional:\nRemember that many men are not very good at talking about emotional things.\nIf you are committed to each other then you must discuss how you feel - you must try to see each other's point of view. It sounds to me that you have different priorities at the moment.\nWhat is it that you want? Can he provide this at the moment?
871493
SOMETIMES THAT THE DEAL WITH MEN, THEY SAY WHAT]THEY NEED TO SAY TO GET WHAT THEY A WANT. IT\nIS BAD THAT IF HAS TO BE LIKE THAT.BUT SOMETIMES GUYS ARE NOT RIGHT. BUT YOU JUST HAVE TO GO\n'WITH THE FLOW.BUT KEEP YOUR GUARD UP SO THAT\nWANT BE ANY PROBLEMS. IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN\nGOOD LUCK..
618157
Keep reassuring him, smack him on the ass every now and then, tell him how great he looks in that shirt-load him up with kisses......men are such babies at times, how ever it is not out of the ordinary for men to want the affection, like us women do!!  Think about it, how great do you feel when your man comes home from work and says 'hey baby you look great today'...well it is the same for them, just make sure it isn't in front of his friends, then it might not be so much fun for him!!! Good Luck!! :)
440039
emotionally dilemma for him..\n\nget a grip and don't rush things...let him settle his matters with his wife first...before you proceed with your relationship..
256124
I stare at a lot of women's rears and it doesn't always mean that I want a relationship with them.  You need to find out more about him and his current situation before you jump to any conclusions.
1005062
Okay.  First and foremost, understand and accept this: Men are boneheads when it comes to the plain and obvious!  Got it? Good.  Let's move on.  Men do not have shades of complexity like women.  I don't know why nor will I try to pretend to be an expert at it.  Don't speculate why he's had four girlfriends in a 3 month period.  Maybe it was them.  How can you let him know how you feel without being so blunt and obvious?  You really can't.  Again, go back to the fact men lack the levels of complexity.  Women are like the deep blue sea with all it's beauty and secrets.  Men are puddles.  Plain and simple.  You need to virtually grab him by the face and pull him to yours and say, "Hey, dipshit!  I'm falling in love with you and don't know exactly why.  I want to be with you but I don't know why.  All I know is that I think of you all the time.  Got it?"\n\nThat pretty much should do it.
1139729
No. He just wnts some ass. Trust me. I'm a guy, and even though I don't act upon what my head says (not always a good thing) I know how other guys think. So do yourself a favor and just get someone else who'll be there for you. Not your puss...
570013
Lets be honest - men are motivated by skin - show him a bit and you'll get his attention for sure ;o)
47480
when a woman can give him his own space without acting uninterested.youve gotta trust until given a proven reason not to.men are easy to please as long as you understand the one your dealing with.dont try to change him into who YOU want.let him be himself as long as he can do the same for you.