My husband and I had a blow out fight last night..........?
831949
Maybe you two should seek couple's counseling.  His anger is alarming.  It could escalate into something worse.  Do yourself a favor, and try to get help for this.  He should not explode like that and say those hurtful things.
500649
f*ck him up. He is asking for an ass wh!ppin. I don't believe in violence except when it comes to standing up for my lady. If you can't do it. get somebody who can.
1172274
Have a sit down put all the cards on the table. Key word here is honesty can't have anything without it. Good luck. Hope it works out for ya. Sorry had to rush out the other night late for work, but as i was saying you have to figure out what causes all this hostility. You said both of you have done things you weren't proud of. So that tells me there are some unresolved issues here. That could bee the root of the whole problem. Advoiding a situation because it's uncomfortable doesn't make it go away. Hope this helps
293689
Try getting some couple's counseling.  Staying together or breaking up is a decision that you need to make for yourself, but there are things you can take into consideration.  \nFirst, what is he saying?  If he is just yelling for the sake of getting his anger out, that's probably okay.  But, if he is insulting you or threatening you, that's not okay.  That's verbal abuse and it can be really hard on you in the long run.\nSecondly, do you feel threatened?  You can trust your instincts here.  If you are scared of him, get out.  If you aren't really all that scared when he yells, things will probably be okay with counseling or just talking to him about it.\nAnd finally, does he have a history of violent behavior?  If he is more violent, say, with brothers or friends, or if he condones violence he is more apt to become violent with you in the future, even if he has never touched you before.  Physical abuse can come about so gradually that you may not even realize that's what's happening to you.
950078
You should have a discussion with your husband about the importance of communication.  Yes, you are still here because you love him.  He has to understand your hurt and disappointment.  You both need to agree to learn how to resolve your problems by communicating better and putting your marriage first above all else.\n\nYou said that you have been going through a rough time and  you were being stupid.  He was afraid of losing you.  If you feel like you've come a long way in your relationship, and the issues that caused the rough patch have been resolved, then let it go.  Don't throw it up in his face when something goes wrong, stick to the issue at hand.  If you don't think you can trust him, tell him so.  BUT I would encourage you both to get counseling; it will serve as a tool for you to move beyond what's happening now.  You don't want to get bogged down in resentment.\n\nIn his way, he recognized his mistake.  He distanced himself from everything associated with that situation.  He deserves a lot of credit for that.\n\nGood luck!
920171
Sounds as if you may have cracked a rib.  Yes it would probably be good to see a doctor.  Also consider the cops and a restraining order.  If a fight with your b/f means getting physically beaten, I'd say find a new b/f and tell this one to get lost.
686855
It's too bad the 2 of you can't discuss your differences instead of yelling. It sounds like he wants to tell (yell) you what he thinks but doesn't want to hear your side. The best thing you can do is approach the subject when you are both calm. Tell him how it makes you feel when he yells at you and won't listen to you. Sometimes you'll be able to compromise. Other times you may have to agree to disagree. Yelling at each other won't solve anything.
145625
LOL MY NEW BOYFRIEND WAS AT MY APARTMENT ,HE STAYED THE NIGHT WITH ME HE LEFT ME SLEEPING SO HE THOUGHT LOL TO GO OUT ON THE POURCH HE FARTED IT WAS SO LOUD!!,BUT I NEW HE WAS TRYING TO BE QUIT ABOUT IT ILMAO WHEN HE CAME BACK IN, I COUDNT STOP LAUGHING! HE WAS SO EMBARASSED ABOUT IT,I JUST ASURED HIM BETTER HE DID IT OUT SIDE THEN IN MY BED LOL WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER NOW FOR 4 YEARS HAVE A BEAUTIFUL BRIGHT SON. NOW I CANT TURN HIS ASS OFF!!!!!!!!! ILMAO TC : ]
396230
time to call it quits. you have to tell yourself no more. \nNo more will you take this mess from him. No more will you \nkeep arguing over stupid stuff. Tell yourself you are a \nwoman of success. This is 2006 and it's time to get it and\nthe rest in order. A woman can do bad all by herself. We\ndon't need a man to do bad or give us hell. We are the mothers of the earth who bare children in pain. We deserve\nour respect. Gone girl friend and let him know that the mess\nstops now. Gird up loins and put your foot down. You ever\nseen Diary Of A Mad Black Woman? the lady put her foot down.\nDon't hurt your husband just let him know what's up and leave. Don't get depressed because God is about to show up\nand show out.
113775
you are married so i think you musrt be mature enough. there is only one true answer to  this. he doesent want to argue with you.he says he stoped smoking,but he is not strong enough to do it yet.but still,he doesent want to hurt you or he doesent feel goog to admit he is too week and cannot stop so easy. but if you are not repressing him with that,and if you support him and show him you love him no matter if he smoke or not, it will be different. so,show some empathy here.its not easy to stop smoking for some people. you'll see ,he may be stronger when see you wont make a big deal from it
197489
Ooooo. Sounds like a familiar situation...\n\nFirst- This shouldn't be about right or wrong. That just makes people defensive and nothing comes out of it. \n\n\nYou do a lot and he needs to recognize that. \nHe needs to pitch in more and at least not depend on you to cook all the time. \n\nMy wife and I just had our first baby. We are both exhausted because we take shifts to feed the baby. Sometimes I have more energy and I cook or do some cleaning or vice versa. But marriage and kids is all about team work. You guys are in this together. \n\n\nPerhaps you need to approach this in a way that doesn't make him defensive. (if that is possible.) You want to make him see your point of view without him feeling like he needs to justify his actions. \n\nOwn your feelings. Tell him that you are too tired to cook, or say you need his help with something specific because you are worn out. Mention the part about being a team. \n\nBut make sure you let him know you do appreciate him to. Guys need that and we like to be able to help and feel needed. Using those words might get more action out of your hubby.\n\nEffective communication will help you through.
77024
Have you considered dumping him? That'll fix him for sure.... Unless you are fond of passing out drunks who treat you poorly. Just a thought.
140451
After a fight it is so hard to start talking again. { the stupid who gives in first ). The most important part is admitting guilt! Whichever party it is - be honest and open but talk..talk...talk.  Solving problems together creates the strongest unity.
688115
Take a break. You've been betrayed. \nGo away for a little while, maybe, but this one is going to take some time, if ever.\nStop imagining that she was having sex like she does with you.\nDon't do that to yourself, because I guarantee it wasn't. Only the two of you have sex like the two of you.\nCan you handle the answer if you ask her to give you a blow- by-blow description of the night? A sort of "putting yourself in her shoes" for the night?\nIt's risky, but if you can listen, It just may benefit you so you can be angry, and then move on either way.\nShe should be ashamed of herself, and getting angry at her once and blasting her does not relieve her of the tremendous weight she's put on you.\nYou may never be able to trust her again. That sucks for you, because you had no part in it, and want things the way they were.\nWas there a problem that wasn't being addressed before this night?\nDoes anyone have their head buried in the sand??\nYou may need to take this time to get right into each others brains and decided what each of you REALLY wants out of life.\nPlease don't make the same mistake she did. You'll hate yourself.\nI can say that it is not the worst thing that can happen, but it is way up there.\nShe betrayed you, plain and simple. maybe she should live without you for a while and the two of you can really see where you're at. get yourself some legal assistance so you don't lose touch with your child.
447946
I just answered your other question and I felt the need to answer this one too! Girl you are in a very emotional state right now, you need to cut all ties to this other man, this is why you are being so hard on yourself! You need to FOCUS! Stick to the topic at hand and that is that of your marriage! You need to start talking more to your husband and let him know you feel no emotional support from him and let him know how you are feeling (if you haven't already)!\n\nThere are alot of people that both of you have involved involuntarily, they did not ask to be in the situation, you need to be the adult here and finish what you started right? Do what YOU KNOW is right not what every one tells you too! I hope you do get some answers here that will help in your decision making, but ultimately the decision is yours to make. Good Luck to you!
115888
It is such a weird stinking night, I think you should let it go.  Talk to him in an hour and forget it happened.  Why chance a blow up?  There is something in the air tonight, and I wouldn't take a chance.  Deal with it tomorrow.
246861
your husband sounds like a loser\ni think you need to leave him for someone who will come home to you