Deep Conversations in a long distance relationship?
814860
My boyfriend also has a difficult time talking.  We've been together for almost 2 years and while we are not a long-distance couple yet (he's joining the military) right now he's in university so I only see him once a week or sometimes even once every 2 weeks.  We try to talk on the phone, but our conversations are boring.  I don't want to talk about what groceries he bought from the store that night.  So I try to schedule times when we are to discuss important issues.  In the past I have e-mailed him my concerns that I feel we need to talk about.  That way he has an idea what it is that I need to talk with him about and he has a chance to think about what he wants to say.  Sometimes I think guys need time to come up with answers (they're not as quick on the ball as women are).  But so far, we haven't been able to discuss anything important over the phone.  We wait until we are face to face.  This is a huge concern for me since all long distance relationships require communication.  If you can't talk openly and have meaningful conversations with one another, a long distance relationship will NOT last.  Good luck.
493777
well i think long distance relationship dun wrk but since u already in it den u cud jus go on n experience it urself. da reason y long distance doesnt wrk cuz sum how probl comes lyk da kinda probl u'r in now. wen u in love or lykin sum one soo much especialy long distance relationship, u goin to feel desperate to c dat person, spendin time wit dat person or sumtime jus to b able to tlk to dat person face to face. n wen dat point come to deep it bcome frustion n dat's not gud. cuz either one of u goin to want to b c-in each otha but dere'r no way y'all can. so whoeva thinkin of it feel lyk dey shud giv up bcuz it's no point. n dey feelin r gettin tired..n tired. rite now i think u shud giv him all ur love n support. dun pressurin him animore to c u. or mayb u shud b da one who came ova dere to c him if u'r old enough to do dat. OR mayb dis whole things of him actin weird was jus so he cud break'up wit u but he hope u undastand cuz he doesnt want to hurt u. fo u to find da rite answer, u jus gotta tlk to him n ask him urself. dun b afraid...things only wrk out if u tlk about to either person..mak dem feel comfortable enough dat dey cud tell u wateva dey feel..
1177674
Yes! Long distance relationships CAN work out! It is A LOT of hard work. I don't know what country you are from and what the customs are there, so I don't know how relevant or plausible my advice will be.\n\nAlways tell her your true feelings. Let her know your worries. Don't forget to tell her how much she means to you, OFTEN!\n\nAlways treat each other with honesty, trust, understanding, respect, and be willing to compromise and to communicate thoughts and feelings openly. This is the basic foundation of a relationship that both people need to work on to make it work, especially for a long distance relationship.\n\nIf you've both been waiting for each other six years, I don't think there's much to worry about. Once you have earned the money, go back and see her. Tell her and show her how much she means to you. Talk about both of your futures.\n\nFight for your relationship, but also be realistic. Sometimes no matter how much both of you care about each other, there are other things that get in the way, such as time and physical distance. Long distance relationships can work, depending on how willing both people are to put hard work into the relationship.
963037
well I use to be exactly like you. I never knew what to talk about with my boyfriend on the phone. But make sure you don't have dead silence cause that just makes it awkward. but ask him how his day went and whats new in his life or some topic in general
103858
From personal experience and I also have friends trying to make long distance work. Its sooooo hard! No matter how much you like or love that person its nearly impossible, especially since you both live in two different states. Have you ever heard of the expression, The right person but the wrong time. Dont hold each other back.
814505
Communication is the most important thing in a realitionship like that and the second thing is trust. If you don't have those two things it makes no sense to try.\n\n\nI have been in two LDRs in my life, the first lasted 2 yrs. I was in Jamaica he was in the US for a part of it. We both ended up having to move, I moved to the US and he moved to England. \nWe kept that relationship alive through e-mails, letters, IMs Random phone calls. \nThe second lasted almost 2 yrs and probably would have lasted much longer if communication didn't break down. I used to see him every 3-4 months for month. I was in the US and He as in SA. (don't ask). \n\nIn neither of the LDRs did i find myself in a fight b/c of the distance but it's possible. Try to talk more remind him that each day a way is one day closer to seeing you again. When you do talk try to talk about things other than "I love you" and  "I miss you" or anythign related to that. It makes life harder. Try to talk about things which interest each of you. Simple things liek how your day was. Or random none personal things like politics, books, just stuff.\n\nGood luck.\n\nps. one thing I just to do send a puzzle ( a gift that i was sure the guy couldn't figure out) it had to relate to either a memory I had of him or somethign related to the relationship. Once he got it generally sparked a conersation and not make him miss me as bad as he did.
357812
I live about an hour away from my boyfriend; it has its challenges, yeah, but it works out pretty good. I think as long as you continue to communicate throughout the week you should do great - spending weekends together is awesome.\nWe've been seeing each other for almost 2 years now. \nGood luck!!
157611
Ok, realise that there are BENEFITS to  having a long distance relationships such as the honeymoon effect... Now send her a daily email, chat with her cam2cam,send her letters/cards via snail mail----- communicate when you are apart... Good Luck...
921669
Phone calls, webcam, letters, and honesty in all areas.  You must also spend time together, not as a holiday, but truly exposing your good AND bad traits.  Long distance relationships can work, but only if each person stays transparent.  If the communication and honesty/trust  isn't there while dating, it won't be there after marriage. Visting England and visting America is so  much fun, but a marriage doesn't come with a guarantee that if you get past customs you will make it.  Questions:  how do you both handle anger?  How do you handle differences in race, religion, customs and traditions?  Good luck. I dated my Dutch beau for 4 years, moved to Holland and married him. We are married 10 years now, and have moved back to California.  But it wasn't easy and isn't easy...we had to stop pretending that we were on a holiday. :)
460877
Move from online personas to the phone... just tell him one night while you're chatting online that you'd like to hear his voice as he's cracking jokes - makes it more personal. Then from there, you two should be able to slowly move from the phone to in person without too much awkwardness.\n\nSome relationships don't survive the online to face-to-face move... but friendship will always remain if you keep at it. Best of luck!
892602
The hardest thing in a long distance relationship is trust. Keep it open and honest. Communicate often but not daily. Send cards and pictures alot. If he needs help financially and you can afford to help him save money set up a small college fund for him and save it for when he can go to school. Or if you think he would use it wisely send it to him now.
855048
just enjoy the long distance relationship, dont take it to seriously
637594
If the two of you have decided to persue a long distance relationship, then don't give up.  Confront her, and discuss your feelings and fears.
1101204
i meeting mine in couple weeks. she made arangements to come from az. to oh. we talk for hours on end. we found we are typing at same time saying same thing, we cant see what each other are saying till after we send im's and receive each others, i feel like we are 2 peas in a pod.
282287
Keep the communication lines open.  I know it's difficult maintaining a long distance relationship.  My first long distance relationship didn't work.  My second one did.  I married the second one and 3 years later, we're still very much in love and happy.  Don't forget to pray.  Put God first in your lives.  The rest will follow.  God Bless!  I hope your relationship will last forever.
448008
To make a long distance relationship work there has to be a lot of trust - if you don't see each other all week or sometimes for a few weeks you have to be certain the other is serious about the relationship.  It is also good to have very regular contact.  One good thing about not seeing each other so often is that it keeps the relationship alive and you always have separate interests and therefore loads to talk about when you do see each other.  However, this type of relationship can take a long while to get off the ground - much longer than a normal one and there has to be a lot of feelings to keep it going.
1017575
i think you should tell that girl that you love her before you go. it's different telling her in person than telling her that you do love her when you're in another country, say using a phone or in an e-mail. if you don't tell her now, you'll regret that the rest of your life so you should just come up to her and see what comes to your mind. trust me, it's better to be spontaneous than plan out what you're going to say (it usually doesn't work out fine when you rehearse the things you want to say). fix yourself up. wear something nice. bring flowers or anything that's going to remind her of you. then just speak. talk to her about how you feel. yeah, you'll have a lot of butterflies in your stomach but you'll feel much better when you've said you love her. although if she loves you back, it's going to be difficult for her, and for you since you're leaving. having a long distance relationship is one of the most difficult things to maintain in this world. good luck!