i am finding hard to face my parents telling them about my love,what should i do?
827083
Be strong and do not show emotion if they try to make you back down.  You have to live with this man, so its your decision and you have to live with it.  I am sure that your family only wants you to be happy.
489973
Your parents want the closness you want to, believe me.  You're so young, you have all the things in life to look forward to, with your parents at your side!  Marriage, children, a lot of fun at holidays.........be honest about your feelings.  I am not a mushy, touchy-feely mom, but my kids never said they missed that.  It's not like I don't love my kids, I don't realize what they really want deep inside!  I know that, although we parents are close to perfection, we are not able to read our child's minds.  The fight is over, right?  You don't mention how serious it is, but forget about it, you can't change what was said.  Please talk to them.  Good luck. And try and pray about it!
470145
Write to them....chances are they are curious about you as well. \nYes, it is going to be emotional for all of you. \nGo in to it knowing that you face rejection. \nI am not trying to be mean, just honest. \nI found my father when I was 23 years old... and I went to him with the mind set of I would like to know who you are, but I can accept it if you don't want to know me.\nAt least you are sparing your children the fear of rejection.\nBe prepared to answer alot of questions, I am sure they will come. \nBut, to begin with, enjoy the happiness of finally knowing where they are. \nGood Luck to you.\nAS for now or June... I say now, a lot can happen between now and June, and you don't want to lose the chance.
34061
Well I think you are having a problem in which most guys and girls have! but let me tell you it's true that your parents gave you birth and were with you all your life, but you are gonna spend the rest of your life with your wife, so you see, you have to tell your parents that, you will have to tell them that you are gonna spend the rest of your life with the girl, so you must find a girl you love not who they love, because they are not living with her, you are!!!!!!
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Well, it goes like this... it is very common for your family to dislike  your love choice... but it is all because they see you as their precious little girl and think that no one is good enough for you. Even if they are not good for you, if you approach your parents in a calm manner demanding that they respect your decision but you promise to be careful, perhaps they will learn to deal with it. When they see that you are determined about what you want, of course providing that you are old enough, they will eventually calm down. All they want is what's best for you... My parents used to be like that (okay, i had some wrong choices but still) and I tried hiding things from them and lying - it did not end up well... eventually they have learned to butt out of my business.... \nBest regards!
1131817
Ok, my girlfriend and I are going through the exact same thing. Just keep seeing the guy. Talk to your mom about it. Make her understand that while you understand her and respect her opinion, that this is the guy you love, and then ask her if her parents had told her to stop seeing your father if she would have... That worked when I talked to MY gf parents. \n\nBest of Luck
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Your mother is very puzzled. You will have to be patient. Parents are difficult to live with at times partly because they are comparing you to their expectations and hopes and partly because the norms of their generation are slightly different.\nAt the moment your mother is struggling with the idea. She will probably feel embarassed and maybe ashamed. How will she explain this to her friends?\nI have no doubt that she does love you.
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I understand where you are coming from. I had a lesbian experience with a woman that I am still friends with today, although I am married to a man. My dad is a Reverend and my mom the Reverends wife (even worse). \n\n There is no easy way to tell your parents you are gay, you simply have to sit them down and be frank with them. You have to tell yourself, they are probably going to be very angry at first, then tell yourself "these are my parents" - they will love you regardless.\n\nI can't tell you that it will come out all honky dorey... it took my parents over a year to accept it, but the finally did. If you love this woman like you say you do, then you will be honest with your parents about your relationship. If the woman loves you the same, she will be supportive and go with you if you need her to. \n\nDon't worry! It's going to be ok, no matter how bad it seems like it is. Remember the 3 C's - Calm Cool and Collective...this should be your demeanor.... parents sense fear.... and if they sense it in you, they will play on it. If there is no fear.... what else can be said or done. Absolutely nothing! \n\nGood Luck!
1021943
hi..dts gud havin a boy friend..i do have one..c,just handle the situation carefully...tell your parents first,and make them understand the depth in love u have for ur guy..it always takes some time for ur parents to agree...bt,still u wait and wait...jus dont run away with him...bcoz that most of the couples do these days whn their parents are not allowin...tell dm that you really cant live with out him....and the main part is,you must have satisfied all your parents expectations..........let them know love these days is not a big thing to worry about...it vil take time,wait to hold the hands of ur guy forever,gud luck..........
30891
Be honest.  Hopefully she will respect your honesty.  Remember that she is your mother and you can tell her anything.  Just tell her.  Trust and open communication between you and your parents are the most important things you can have with them.
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I truly feel bad for you,but you need to see or search the reasons on why your parents feel the way they do towards him,i mean i would take some heed to their actions,remember they have more wisdom from age and experience.However,if they really don't have the facts to back their actions,this is something you will have to face with your parents.Always be honest with them no matter if they are not going to approve.You are an adult,and you need to let them know that you are not trying to hurt them by your choices of life,that you are trying to find your way and if it is a mistake,then you need to find that out as well.This is how wisdom comes,with experiences in our daily lives.One thing to remember is your parents have an unconditional love no matter what,just like you do for them.I just hope your boyfriend proves them wrong and doesn't make you regret any decision that you might make.Without family,we have nothing! I hope the best for you,Good Luck!
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Hey Me.... I am a mother and would feel very hurt if my child didn't tell me what was up and ran off with a 21 yr old. May I suggest that you sit down and talk with your parents. Yes they may be upset at first, but their your parents and will love you reguardless. Here is something else to think about. When I was your age I was head over hills for a man 7 yr older than me. I dated him for a year and realized that I wasn't in love with him, but liked his company because he listened to me when I thought my parents weren't. When it turn out they were. Then I met this cool guy my age and we dated all through highschool. So if you will take a suggestion from a mom..don't rush into anything take your time, because you never know a cool girl your age may come along that you relate to.
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Tell your parents that you think they should get to know him. \n\nIs he willing to go through some uncomfortable meetings for you?  If he loves you, he should. \n\nOnce your parents realize that he loves you and is good to you and is not going to be a negative influence in your life (gosh, do they think he is some gangbanger or all black people are criminals- come on!) they should work toward accepting him.  Try to find out why they feel this way.  \n\nTry to do this the right way- by being honest with your parents.  I can't imagine what you're going through, and you need to understand that they may NEVER come around.  \n\nGood luck, honey!
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well - I know if feels bad know  but just stick with it and things will be better - your parents love you know matter  what you think. They may good to bed and night and think how lucky they are to have you because you are never getting into trouble that demands their attention. \n\nKeep your chin up
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Be open and honest it is better to talk with them and for them to know what's going on.  Parents may be disappointed YES, but that doesn't mean that they are going to stop loving you.  It's like I'm trying to teach my kids, I may not always like everything you tell me, in fact somethings I might even get upset over, but that has NO impact on just how much I LOVE YOU!  It's hard to believe but most times when we get upset over something it's because we've been there and done that, we know the mistakes you are making and how painful the pitfalls can be, and we hope to prevent you from making some of the same ones. But you also have to grow and learn and even though we would like to lock you up and never let you out you have to learn to make wise choices and that doesn't happen with out screwing up occasionaly.  We also like to think that our little girls are never going to grow up. It's tough for us to see you making grown up choices. Honestly though, parents know more than their kids think, and sometimes it's easier to turn a blind eye.  It's killer to think of your kids doing those things, one day you will understand.  I have eaten my words of "I'll never be like you when I'm a mom" "I'll be understanding"  Yeah right, as a teen you can't  fully understand parents because that's God's gift to us. We on the other hand have the experence and knowledge of our youth, and the smarts from learning from our screw-ups.  and you can learn alot from sitting down and just talking about this with your parents.  It can also bring you closer.  Parents like it when their kids do take the time to confide and trust in them.  Just tell them that you want to sit down and talk. Decide on a time, make an invitation and give it to them, saying the date and time.  Then plan out how you want to tell them. You could always write a poem and stick it in the poem.  Or you could write it in your journal and leave it out in a open place for them to read.  Of coarse I'm sure they already know where you keep it and could already be informed and are just waiting for you to come out with it.  Just remember that know matter how upset they may seem at first, they really do LOVE YOU!!!! I guarantee it. \nAnytime you want to talk feel free.........Your parents are not the enemy!  Learn to trust in their love for you. In closing I really hope that this isn't my daughters friend Becca, I might just have to whop you myself when you get back. So much for the pleasantries sounded nice though lol...........but really it is true. Just alittle humor there, who knows maybe my daughter put you up to the question. OH that would be really bad!!!!! OK, don't let my thoughts get the better of me.  It's tough being a parent, and really we don't get paid nearly enough. Take care and stick with the game of softball and those bases, it's much safer.
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unfortunantly theres not much you can do- I also was 12 when my parents divorced--it hurt my feelings really bad...but I think my advice to you would be to just let them know that you love them both and that you wish they could work things out--but that if they can't you still love them and want everyone to be happy. I think if I were in your parents situation that would help more than anything--its hard but- in time things will work out one way or another, I wish you the best and hope you and your parents are all happy in the end.
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that is wrong.  they need to realize that you are their daughter. no matter what you did do and what you did to him, you are the one they should love and choose over any one else. i would personally let my dad know how i feel and then leave him to think about it and if your parents really care about you they will get their head out of their ass and realize what they are doing.