My boyfriend and I broke up, we had alot of problems but I still love him. What should I do?
830836
If it was logically right then it was right. It's easy to get caught up in emotions and it's hard to ignore emotions when you're heart is broken. Especially if it's you breaking your own heart with regret. \n\nIf your rational self found something about him or something with the relationship that caused enough concern or doubt to break it off with him then it must have been something important tp you. \n\nChances are that if you went back to him everything will be great for a while. But whatever it was that caused you the end of the relationship will eventually re-emerge.\n\nTake some time being single. It'll suck for a while. You'll want to go crawling back to him. It can be lonely. Try to ignore that. Go out and meet new people. After a while it won't hurt. You'll meet other guys. The more guys you meet the more you'll know what you do want in a guy. Eventually, you'll fall in love with some one better. It just takes some time.\n\nAs for love conquers all...that's bullshit. Everyone likes to believe that love is this magical thing that will fix everything and that it will triumph over any problem and only once you're in love will your life be great. That's a horrible line of logic that's just going to set you up to get hurt. Love doesn't just show up and conquer. Love grows and needs nurturing. It takes work. Love is not automatic.
133947
spend time on your self it sounds like you lost your self in this relationship. spend time with your friends and family fall in love with your self then you will heal
290197
If you both still like one another than talk it out and fix what ever was wrong.\n\nHope this helps
460295
If you love the guy, you will definitely get hurt. But I think it's a good thing that he broke up with you because you don't deserve someone who doesn't know how to love unconditionally. Find someone that will love and accept you for who you are.
325767
Either you are having problems or you are not.  If you are having problems in your relationship, he may have thought of breaking up with you, and you will actually be doing him a favor by doing it for him.  If you are not having problems, you can fix them or leave him.  If you fix them, you will not need to break up with him.  If you leave him, there is only one way to do it.  Do it quickly.  Do not let him talk you into keep on trying and just one more week, or one more dance, or one more anything.  It will just make it harder on BOTH of you.... It will be prolonging the pain when at the end of the one more whatever, you have to break up with his still / or again.
565262
Don't. There's a reason you broke up. It's hard letting go, but give it time, keep yourself busy, and eventually, you will move on and forget.
937936
The only way he is going to know how you feel is if you tell him directly. If you do get back together, make sure that you work on the things that made you break up in the first place. I hope he feels the same way, but if he doesn't, I would move on. I hope everything works out well!
930477
Tell him that a break up is not what you wanted and you realise how much you really love him and it has taken this break up for you to really see how much you want the relationship to work ...... Good luck
163002
You broke it off 6 months ago.  You did the right thing.  Here's the deal - it's one thing if it were the other way around.  You should be asking why if he dumped you.  Since you dumped him, it's the other way around.  You left him on your terms, he still has things unresolved.  Don't waste your time trying, you might hurt yourself.
941715
just do what you normally do and be yourself\nif you break up, it wasn't meant to be\nany guy can tell you what to do and what not to do but in the end you have to really be yourself untill you find a guy that loves you for who you are.
1082387
Honey, you already admitted that the relationship was hard to handle. It's time to let it go. Perhaps you're annoyed that it wasn't you who ended it; or more probably that you were so easily replaced. Let it go. It's time for it to end and both of you need to get on with your lives.
868131
Honey - you said it all already - you knew he wasnt right for you.  Sounds like you are just lonely now and your current relationship might not be the right one for you as a marriage.  Its too late now, and no matter how much you might want to - you cant go back in time and change things.  And truthfully, you probably really wouldnt want to.  Whatever made you break up with him, it would have gotten worse.  Chin up dear girl, plenty of fish in the sea :)
762749
Just b/c your the one who broke things off doesn't make it any less painful for you.  You are still going to go through the "missing him" part...  Just make sure you don't go back and forth on your decision and get back together with him.  Stick to your guns.  You made your decision, now stick with it.
700216
Break up and find a different boyfriend.  By staying , you're encouraging him to stay the way he is.
607064
Get over him.  Get out.  Good riddance.  There was a reason your broke up in the first place.  Remember that.
903441
You broke up with him because you wanted him to change.  Now, you want suggestions on how to change him back.  I think you should stop focussing on how he should act, and focus on your own behavior because you can only control your actions, not his.  Obviously, it seems like you should have thought through breaking up more before you actually did it.  You hurt him.  You have to show him that you can be trusted.  Apologize, be honest with him about your feelings and let him be.  If he comes back to you, he is in your future.  If he doesn't, then learn from the experience and the next time you're with someone you're totally crazy about, don't get caught up in fixing his flaws.
908769
It sounds like he's very hurt by not only the break up, but by your harsh actions of how you treated him after the relationship ended. He's seen you in a new light that was not good and now in turmoil over whether or not to get back with you. Best thing to do now would be to back off to give him time and space to figure things out. By you constantly calling and asking him what's he going to do is probably just making matters worse. Let him have his time to think about things and so he can make his decision.