Is it a good idea to let my boyfriend "go" to see if we end up together, later down the road?
821266
i am a huge fan of this theory.  just like the old saying "if you love something let it go.  if it never comes back it wasn't meant to be but if it does come back, love it forever".  go with your first instinct.  it's usually the correct course in action.
420576
If you have to ask this question, the relationship is on it's way out, anyway.  Move on.  Why wait?\n\nGood luck.
422917
since you have already made up your mind to study abroad, my advise is to just go ahead without worrying about your boyfriend. since you don't believe in long distance relashionships this decision basically means that you have already given up on the relashionship. It sounds to me like you need some time to find out who you are before you can commit yourself. it is only fair that you tell your boyfriend what you are planning. be honest. I wish you well.
844108
if he was leaving would you want him to tell you now and make the most of the time you have together or would you prefer not to know?\n\nwhatev3r feels right to you is probably the best way.\n\ni don't envy you.
1042040
Instead of him telling you that if that's what YOU want then go ahead and do it, which doesn't sound very convincing on his part to me, he needs to actually say directly that yes that is what I want to do too, not if that's what makes YOU happy because he isn't including himself in that equation and that kind of leaves him room to get himself out of it if he up and decides to take off before hand. So no I wouldn't make plans just yet not til you hear him say He is ready and wanting to and he buys you an engagement ring. Then if that happens you can probably be more sure of it being a true thing.
330356
I'm in the middle. You do have to think about your future and your goals. But then he is your love. If you say that you know your gonna end up with each other, then don't worry, things will work out at the end for both of you. Plus, if  you say he loves you then he'll want you to be happy no matter what decision you choose.
203004
well i moved in with my boyfriend after knowing him for 2 weeks. But the bad thing is that i moved 100 miles away from my family. But we are still together and been dating for 2 years!  So you are the only one that can make that decision. It could work, but then again living together so soon could cause problems. I say take a chance and go for it. Oh yea and I was 17 when i moved out!
1123093
I would see where things lead. And if it end up that you two break up for awhile it will be okay. I am going through a break-up right now. My ex did it because he needed time to himself to figure himself out, that sort of thing. He still loves me.\n\nMove on with your life. Moving on doesn't mean that you don't still love him or that you might not get back together one day, it just means that you're moving on. You can't waste your life waiting on someone who doesn't know what they want.\n\nI wish you the best and remember if you're supposed to be with him you will be.
557749
GET PERMISSION THE LAST THING YOU WANT IS THERE TO BE RESENTMENT AND TENSION WHEN YOU START A NEW RELATIONSHIP. ONLY OTHER PROBLEM IS IF HE'S LEAVING SOON YOU MAY NOT END UP WITH A REAL RELATIONSHIP BUT A KINDA SPACE FILLER TILL HE LEAVES
582963
yes...how can you claim to be going out if you don't go out? unless it is a long distance relationship, there's something really wrong. Maybe you should try to ask him out on a date or ask him if he sees it going anywhere...literally.
131063
I beleive he should be alone for a while to decide whether he want to be with you or not, you don't want to be hurt
659968
I don't mind to have this friend but I would not force him or myself to have further step. It doesn't mean I don't want. I prefer to come naturely. If it's time that we want to be together, I think both of us would have the same feeling. No need to think that he should be my boyfriend/friend. Just relax and enjoy the relationship in this moment.
570981
if he's not holding onto tight enough to let you go for the summer, he's obviously not scared of losing you. i don't think this relationship would have the potential that other relationships have. it really depends how old you two are, how long you've been dating and if you've talked about marriage. but generally if he wants a break... give him about 2 weeks to change his mind and come back to you, or screw it and find someone who will want you by their side.
736618
I think you've answered your own question.  If you're interested in exploring your options you are not in the relationship that you want to be in.  Therefore, I recommend ending the relationship prior to exploring your options.  I hope you find happiness.
184859
where there is doubt it's best not to proceed any further.Once there's a "but" then you should know he's not meant for you. you should pause and think if that "but" is something that can easily be solved, if yes then fine you can go ahead. If not then it's better you go your separate ways. All the best.
274940
Well, I think you should ask for his opinion. Just carry on for a lil while, and if you both find that you cannot bear the circumstance any longer then maybe breaking up is good for both of you. At least you don't have to worry too much about meeting each other and the distance either.\nBut if you two (esp. him) feel that you can still carry on, and that the love is true and strong enough to help you overcome this obstacle, then just stand beside him and fight for it. Happiness just worths its name if it is gained from challenges and hardship. Nothing valuable is easy to get my dear : )\n\nStand firm, and if you two have the same idea, then just go with it, whatever it might be...
1112359
If the relationship is going to have a future be honest. It's something taht should be said, but not until you have established a trusting relationship.