Ended up having to file a restraining order?
822604
to begin with 'you go girl' you did good with the ro on him.  remember that he is a man,  they are very different beings.  they have to be in control 'i think that is the 'cavemen' in them'.   he might need you to get really hard on him. let him know that no means no by not having ANYTHING to do with him. nothing, zip, nada, zero.  close the book on this chapter it is over.  good luck and blessed be
388433
I don't think it would be wrong to exaggerate on this one in order to keep him away.  Have her file a restraining order on him. Just say he hit her or that he threaten to kill her with a gun or knife. My ex-husband was so controlling that after I left him he followed me around.  Even after I changed my phone # he found out what it was some how.  He really did try to stab me, but when I filled my restraining order I added a little extra just to make him pay. Who do you think the judge will believe? Him or her.  All she has to say is she's extremely terrified of him and what he will do to her. The restraining order will cost you about 20 or 30 dollars, but it's a small price to pay to keep a psycho away LEGALLY.
500699
Yeah...it sounds familiar ...I have an ex who tried the same...basically you have to set boundaries as it's not appropriate for him to visit you given his feelings and the fact that you're committed to another man. Tell him to use the phone or mail to communicate but don't expect him to go away -it's been 18 years since my ex has been doing this but as he's basically harmless I haven't really cared. The important thing is -is your ex harmless? Or is he someone who may act on his obsession? Finally I want to say -be sure you're not sending mixed signals...I've seen too many women not be clear about their wishes only to whine or press charges later when it's their fault for not being direct in the first place! Be honest with him and tell him to scram! There's my advice...I hope you take it! Edit~ I got your mail....If you hate him as you say AND HE HAS 'HURT YOU SO BAD' then why are you putting up with him then? Get a restraining order! Call the police and file a complaint and ask them to tell him to stay away! I thought maybe you still liked him on some level but since that's not the case you need to be pro active! Don't sit here on yahoo talking about it-do something about it -and I mean right now-today! Make sure you don't regret not doing anything!!!!!!!!! Everyday you let this go on-you encourage him more, and give him hope and he will become more relentless! You have been warned!
211901
No.  The state should have went after him once you became a ward.  The $ would be owed to the state but not to you.  Sorry for your situation but it may be best to move on.  He's not entitled to any part of your life now that you are emancipated.  If you don't want him around then get a restraining order.
747375
I'm not a lawyer, so don't take this as the final word.  If the court has ordered a parenting plan and someone else interferes, I would think they could be issued a restraining order, or at least an official warning that they are interfering with a matter that the court has already decided.  Otherwise you might have rights by arguing that they are interfering with parental authority in the case of a minor child.
748402
I'm no lawyer, but I doubt this married guy who you were seeing has a case against you.   If he did, then every man in America would be suing his ex-wife, ex-girlfriend, or even women they dated who never "put out" ... they'd be suing them to pay back all the money they paid for dinners and movies and such.\n\nYour ex-lover sounds a bit off his rocker, if he thinks that he can get restitution from you after he voluntarily agreed to foot the bill for dates and stuff.   Especially if there's nothing in writing which you signed agreeing to pay him back -- which I'm sure is not the case, right?\n\nIf he gets too far out of hand, go to the police and file a complaint -- especially if his behavior has reached the "harrassment" stage.   If you need to go one step further, have a restraining order put on him.   \n\nIn the meantime, next time he calls you bugging you for money, just tell him, "If you want money from me, then sue me."  Then hang up -- after telling him that if he doesn't leave you alone, you'll get the cops and the lawyers after HIM.   \n\nIt sounds like has no grounds whatsoever for suing you, so ... I wouldn't worry about that.
1143870
call the police, and ask them to help you file a restraining order.
1098812
Well if you worked it out then you already violated the order.  But any ways, go to the court that issued the order - contact the Judge and ask him to resend the order
672371
There are many types of abuse mental, physical, neglect, Maybe she just doesn't want you around anymore. Perhaps it is pay back for something you did, and she just can't get over what  you  did to her. This restraining order can be a piece of mind,"If he is not around me, he can't hurt me anymore."  It may provide a safe area for the heart to rest easier. "If I don't see him, then I don't have to be reminded of how he has lied, cheated, let me down, whatever the case is".
357468
no. bad idea dude. restraining order and relationships are a disaster. let her go. \n\n\nSeriously, if there is a restraining order on you by her.  Even if she comes to you... you can get in some MAJOR trouble if caught.  Even if it's her lie verses your truth, the courts will normally go to her side since she's the one who filed the restraining order to begin with.
108108
Court fees for filing the restraining order & possibly attorney fees if you need one.
825011
For this to constitute harassment he would have had to left several messages, and he wouldn't be arrested unless a report was filed and he was given a restraining order, even then it would happen until days later and by then the whole situation should be straightened out. Either way it's his home also.
347901
You can file a police report claiming a violation of the restraining order.  Once the report is taken the police will conduct a further investigation-interview the suspect or stage a recorded telephone call between you and the suspect where you try to elicit incriminating statements from the suspect (the police arrange the all and record the contact).  If you do not have any direct evidence (phone recordings, surveillance video, fingerprints), witness corroboration, omission of guilt from the violator, or enough circumstantial evidence (proof that is not direct evidence; instead it is evidence that taken as a whole could make a reasonable person conclude the crime was committed.\n\nIf the investigator believes they have established probable cause the crime was committed they will file the report with the District Attorney's Office.  The District Attorney will decide if they want to "press charges" against the suspect and start court proceedings.\n\nIf the Investigator does not obtain enough evidence to establish that the elements of the violation of a restraining order were committed, the report will remain on file but nothing further will probably be done.\n\nDo not attempt anything on your own that may place you in a dangerous situation.
273161
I tried doing this myself, but there's too much involved, it's not just preparing and filing the motion, i had to have papers served on the other party and get a motion for a hearing before the judge.  There's more to it than the initial filing of a motion. I gave up, since a lawyer would be the only way to get it done properly.
693438
How was he able to indicate this to you without violating the restraining order in the first place?
522140
Unless there are children involved get a RESTRAINING ORDER!!! If children are involved than set limits and use a court appointed mediator if you have to..
407160
You can fight a restraining order in court-when they serve you with a restraining order-you are given a court date. You are bitter. Deal with your stress better. You can not blame her for controlling your life. You are the maker of your destiny. Pull your head out of your rectum!!!!