how would you seek to stop bullying in your school?
813133
Bullies need to be identified and isolated from the rest of the school population for an extended period of time.  If after a set period of time there is no improvement in attitude or behaviour of the bully, then he/she should be transfered to a learning facility that offers counseling and education at a deeper level than what is offered at public schools.  Bullying is not acceptable behaviour.
991795
Children are children so bullying will occur everywhere.  I have a feeling it might seem less due to being better dealt with in private schools as they tend to have smaller classes and more staff to  keep an eye out for the problems.  Also, I could see that bullying could be worse in boarding schools, most of which are private, as the children are living together 24/7 during the term time - which gives more opportunity for bullying and creates a more intense environment with few breaks from your peirs.  I went to an all girls boarding school myself and it can get pretty awful.  None of this is based on exact research, just my opinion, but I hope you find it useful/of interest.
815518
ask yourself after you have identified the schoolyard bully is a talented central defender.\n1. how do i stop him losing his cool.\n2. he's got more money than sense how do i motivate him.\n3. how do i stop him partying\n4. now what are his weaknesses and how can i improve him.\n\nif you knew the answer to 2 of these questions you are well on your way.
1032564
You would need a support network. Tell as many people as you can that someone is bullying you and you need help.  Name the bully.  If you are a kid tell as many adults as possible. ONe adult may do nothing.  Name the bully.  A bully is generally a coward and will be afraid of a group of people that confront him or her and tell them in no uncertain terms that they will not be tolerated.  Don't go anywhere alone and make a friend that doesn';t take crap and is larger and stronger than the bully.  Take a digital camara photo of the person or persons ...like a mug shot and hang it up all over school or work and it should say on it ...Danger if you see this Bully ..Do not approach.  Or wanted Bully...Do not approach Danerous bully.  If a bully is know to the community and suffers public humiliation then they have too many witnesses to carry on with their sadistic ritual of bullying other , weaker individuals who have done nothing wrong, and don't deserve this kind of treatment and it has been proven that the individual that is being bullied is usually a more intelligent or in some way superior individual. Arm yourself with knowledge. There is an infinite amount of literature in the library on the psychology of bullying. Know your adversary.  Take martial arts .  Be very very confident and don't let your weakness show externally but be brave.  When you talk to the bully talk in a loud firm confident voice and show no fear.  Remember a bully is the ultimate coward.  Good luck
467656
girl i have 2 boyz 11&3 and let me tell u i talk to my big son on a regular bout self-love and self-awareness, we talk all the time bout the kids at school, i even left work earlier so i can meet the kids he hang out wit at lunch (thou my boss wasn;'t happy but u no wat my children come first) if he was being bullied i would b up at that school so fast i would want to meet wit the teacher the princapal the parents and let them no i don't take this lightly, but i think the best thing is to try and aviod it from happening, get involed wit school activise from the start let the children in the school no who u r and the chances of ur child gettin bullied is next to none, don't b a chicken bout it thou do wat ever u have to do to mek sure ur child is safe even if that mean calling the police, DON'T TEK IT LIGHTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it will in the long run mess up how ur child feels bout him/herself and that alone will lead them to stray!!!!!!!!!!!!
1142437
Bully no more!  Yes I had a lot of bullys out to get me in anyway they could.  Try to embarrass me, for just being THERE!  Polinting at my body, saying things.  Saying how their families did this or that, and my parents were looser.  Which they were, but why take it out on me?  I couldn't wear the right thing, I wasn't allowed to wear makeup until I was 17!  My parents were well known in the neighborhood for their fighting and screaming, leaving my sister and I to go walk away from the house.  We were really young.  Bully's poke fun at people like us because "THEY CAN", what are we going to do about it?  Not much, going to adults - well, they don't seem to understand that this is SERIOUS!!!   You can't sleep, you can't look forward to going to school, even if you are going on a cool field trip, the bully's make it a horror, when you wanted to have fun and enjoy the trip-if it weren't for THEM!   Yep, know them well!  \nBully me now but I'll be the successful one in 25 years and eat my dust!  Stand strong but don't look weak.  It may hurt but act like you don't even see them near you?  Walk around them when they block your way, politely move to the side, or turn completely turn around and go the other way.  You can find another path in that direction once they give you up.  They will, if you don't look scared, or hurt, or look down at the ground you are giving THEM the power over you.  Take your power back!  Don't say anything, that's what they want.  They want a reaction.  When I stopped showing any reaction they got bored with me and found some else they could teast and poke at.  Keep your lips firm tight, look relaxed and a bit bored with them when they come up to you.  They ARE to be felt sorry for.  You have a life, they don't...obviously!   But stand firm in your own shoes, these types of people are all around us as Adults too!   Sometimes I'd like to really ask "don't you have a LIFE?  Am I all you DO in life".  Everyone else around you are seeing their bad behavior as well, and feel right there with you and are always thankful they are not you!  So you are not the only one being embarrassed by these bully's, everyone around them and you, see how sad the bully's life must be that they resort to such a stupid way to act.  I look back and am thankful I didn't turn out like them.  They are the ones in prison, or on drugs, probation, cigarette smokers mostly, alcoholics, theft records, loud, useless to society.  Build up a fortress around you in attitude, and pride!  They'll soon find some other fish to fry!!   You're much better than them even though they seem hurtful and want to make you cry.  And always.... THANK GOD YOU ARE NOT THEM!!!
1057309
Bullies are expert at doing their bullying without being seen.  They will find ways around the security cameras.\n\nWe need to establish credibility with our children so that they will trust us and report bullying to us.  \n\nI was never a victim of a school bus bully but, as a school administrator received reports of the incidents.  The bully lost his busing privileges.  (It didn't work to have him sit up front next to the driver because the driver had other things to do - namely driving the bus.)\n\nWe made sure the parents of the victims were filled in and we  instituted a program at the grade level to teach students how not to be victims and to ensure that the teachers were watchful for other bullying behaviours. We had to continue the program the entire time the bully was in the school.
523010
Do not let it bother you.  People who bully are having emotional problems themselves.  Adolescence is notorious for this because there are alot of changes both emotionally and physically and adolescents do not deal well with them...they also have major brain changes going on making them not exactly considerate of others.  While not letting it bother you is harder done than said.....remember it will pass.  I do recommend getting a hobby and new friends. Try soccer, or art. Join an after school club maybe.  I do not recommend weight lifting like the other guy said...i know some adult guys with screwed up shoulders from weight lifting too early...and 7th grade is too early.  If it is any consulation....i am now much cooler than those kids that picked on me in middle school...and much happier.  And my school has been totally paid for in college and graduate school.  Life is not over in middle school.
458299
since you are at school for all of this... and yes you arent going to like my answer but it is the truth... you should talk to a teacher or guidance counselor about the bullies... after that eventually if they do anything else to you, tell on them and they will have to stay away from you... if they have to stay away from you then you can walk right up to your friend...
791828
Stand up for yourself. No one deserves to be picked on. Let her no that you don't like it. If that doesn't work talk to someone you can trust and ask what for their advice. Like a parent, good friend, or counselor. Good luck and remember people who are bullies are just jealous people.
1014742
I can tell by your rambling letter that you really could use someones help and support.  Why Montel?  How about getting an appointment with one of the school administrators. I would think children going through the stress of having one or two of their parents in harms way is stressful enough.  The kids then have to be subjected to bullying. \n\nDon't just storm into anyones office with all your complaints.  I understand your frustration.  Instead, write down in short sentences the facts.  For example, on such a date little Mary was kicked on the bus.  Or, little Amy had her lunch stolen.  Explain their fears of school  and how long this torture has been going on.  Wait a week if you do not hear anything.  Go over that persons head.  Make sure you know who and when you spoke to these people.\n\nIf you don't get results, I hate to recommend this, but maybe a big antiwar news show such as MSNBC or CNN may want to hear your story.  Good luck
620777
Loook i can't advice, but thats a great idea. Start out by maybe pasting signs on the schools walls or soemthing, but call it esay help
1035562
I did! These are people too. I absolutely feel that they need to be taught how to be effective socially as well as educationally. I had a student in my first year teaching. He was a fourth grader who everyone warned me about. I was told he got in to fights everyday and I should really watch out for him. Well, I handled him differently than any teacher before me. I asked him what helped him to diffuse? I asked him if he could tell when he was starting to get angry, before he lost his temper. Together we came up with a plan that allowed him to deal with his own temper his own way. Lo and behold he became a straight A student who only got into two fights the whole year!\nWe also did peer counseling in the later elementary grades. Kids brought each other to a panel of their peers to try to talk out their problems. It was a very popular way for the students to make sure their problems were heard and understood. As students enter 4th and 5th grade social problems become a bigger issue and learning to deal with them without telling a teacher was essential. Nobody wants to be a tattletale but they also don't want to get picked on. I watched these kids learn respect and responsibility from peer counseling, it was very exciting!
830648
School discipline is so tightly controlled that not do homework is a major infraction. Bullies stand no chance. All your friend needs to do is to report any bullying taunting behavior. Ask his parents to see the principal.  Btw, i believe learning to handle bullies is part of growing up process. Singapore is producing too many wimps.
674736
Nobody should be afraid at school.  If your teachers and the principal are not aware of what is going on, make sure they become aware.  Tell someone.  Don't do it in front of the bullies, because that could backfire on you.  Wait until the jerks aren't around and tell a teacher, guidance counselor or the principal so that they can keep an eye out for bullying behavior.  \n\nThey have a lot of students and they can't watch all of them all the time, but they will watch the ones they know are causing trouble.  \n\nAsk your parents to enroll you in a self defense class.  It will help you protect yourself, and may help you gain self confidence.  Bullies pick on people they think won't fight back.  If you have self confidence, and the ability to defend yourself, it won't take long for them to figure out you're not the best target for their aggression.\n\nI am a grown up and have been a grown up for a long time, but I was bullied by a bunch of jerky white trash girls, and I occasionally still think about it.  I'm sure they grew up to be gross, fat, toothless, tattooed white trash chicks, and I take some pleasure in that.
442356
Less is more.\n\nStart with nonverbal eye contact, a raised eyebrow...and exude dissapointment in their judgement with every pore of your being. Most of the time, that stops it cold, especially when they know that you will follow up with more severe responses if they don't toe the line.\n\nIf they still are at it, ignoring you, etc. move into closer proximity to them. Stand next to them. Continue with your instruction while you're doing this.\n\nIf they are still at it, say their name, quietly but clearly. State the behavior you want them to do. "Joe, sit quietly and listen (or read, or complete the assignment, etc.)."\n\nIf they are still at it after that, now it is time to pull out your formal big guns (your posted consequences). Start with the verbal warning. "Joe, if you do not sit quietly and listen (or read the book, etc.), you will have to stay a minute after the bell (or whatever your first consequence is)."\n\nIf he doesn't respond to that, then there is no further warning. Start down your list of consequences.\n\nTypical elementary school lists tend to be as follows:\n1) 5 minutes off the next recess\n2) loss of all of the next recess\n3) lunch detention\n4) call home to parents\n5) trip to principal's office after calling parents\n\nTypical secondary school lists are similar, but it is one minute or three minutes after the dismiss bell rather than recess time for the first two consequences.\n\nUsually, there is one or two "volunteers" at the beginning of the semester/year who will help you prove to the others that you are consistent, unwaivering, and fair about following the consequences. The others will take note, and you will not have to use the more severe consequences all that often.
623925
I wish we could do something.  The only thing I can think of is to get rid of W and quit being bullies in the Mid East.  I wish we had a way of organizing something nationally to protest this crap.