How can a man allow his wife to sleep with and have relationships with other women...?
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My wife is bisexual, and very attracted to women. I can really understand that, since I'm attracted to women also. I've never understood the fascination with guys. I look at a woman's body, and it's like a sculpture or a painting. I look at a guys body, and it's like a tractor or a backhoe. Really, I can see why it used to be called a woman's chore. To me, snuggling a guy seems like it has to be something like snuggling a piece of equipment or a rock. But snuggling a girl is like having an extra pillow or two.\n\nOK, that in mind, and knowing that my wife likes girls also, what rational reason can I give for denying her the right to date another girl?\n\nAlso, I'm not exactly sure where to draw the line between a friendship date and a romantic date between women. My wife would only rarely make out with or make love to her girlfriend. About seven out of ten dates were just normal girl stuff: going to the mall, hanging out, talking, shopping, watching a movie, etc. Am I supposed to forbid her to hang out with other women because she finds them attractive? Really, where's the fair in that? No kissing? Does that mean no kissing on the cheek? No kissing on the lips? No tongue? She kisses everyone on the cheek! Half her friends she kisses on the lips. (In some cultures, everyone kisses everyone else on the lips.) Am I really supposed to micro-manage my wife's friendships and carefully consider which ones I consider "too friendly"?\n\nAnd there's also the fact that I want my wife to be happy. I want her to be safe, and I want to be the one to make her as happy as I can, but I want her to be happy. If she needs a man, here I am! I can be all the man she will ever need. If I can't, she's lied to me on several occasions when I asked her. I'm not so good at being all the woman she might need or want. Try as I might. Like I said, I can really understand her desire to be with a woman, its her desire to be with me that baffles me. So I understand it, and it's real, if I deny it, I'm the cause of her misery. I don't want to cause her misery, I want to apease her misery. Do you want to make your spouse happy, or miserable?\n\nWhy does my wife still let me go to Martial Arts classes now that we're married? Because try as she might, she's just not a martial artist, she doesn't have anything to teach me... I can't get what I need from her that way. Along the same lines, when she craves a woman's touch, I can't do anything for her. Should I also stop eating anything she hasn't prepared for me? Should I not sample the food of other people at a potluck, saying, "No, my wife has food for me at home." Should I give up pickles, since my wife doesn't pickle things herself? Trust me, I've got no problem turning down other people's pies... no one does pie like my wife. Or cake. Or pasta. Or potatoes. If my wife didn't want me to ever eat potatoes fixed by another woman, I'd be just fine with that... my wife can more than fulfill my potatoe need. But she doesn't pickle, and I happen to really love pickles. So I get pickles from the supermarket, or my grandmother (who happens to make excelent pickles.) Is my wife jealous? No, she realizes that she will never compete with my grandmother in the pickling department, and focuses on where her strengths are. I've done the same sexually: I'll never be a woman, but I can be the best man she's ever imagined.\n\nNow, if you ever saw the Japaneese comic book Ranma 1/2, if that were real, I'd hop on a plane to China and go take a dip, then my wife and I might talk about renegotiating.
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Most relationship decisions come down to one question; Can I handle it, or can I not? It's obvious she has no plans to stop cheating. What you have to decide is whether you love her enough to forgive her and stay with her, or if you can't. \n\nIf you decide you want to stay, you need to talk to her and try to figure out why she's being unfaithful. Once you have a reason, then maybe you can work through it. If you can't forgive her, or she won't stop, then you have to decide if you can handle being married to a woman who sleeps with other men, or leave her.\n\nMy personal opinion is that she does not love or respect you and you should respect yourself by leaving.
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Ok..then let me return to you this question:what do you call a man who sleeps with a lot of women?Why is it ok for men to do this,but women should stick to one man?That is so hypocrite!
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sleep with someone else.
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You are legally married to him.He can not legally be in another relationship with any other woman until the divorce is final.He can spend time in jail for that.
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If your a man trying to have sex with your wife/girlfriend. you will need to be more sensitive to her feelings, by not ignoring her and watching ESPN and playing video games and hanging with your boys all day. Then when your feeling in the mood u now all of a sudden know her and want to have sex. Men, let me tell u something.Sex is the last thing on a women's mind if she has been working, cleaning the house and taking care of the kids all damn day. So if u want some EVERY NIGHT why don't u cook so she can take a bath. Fold some clothes. You can miss one game (ESPN does have highlights). If life wasn't so stressful we'd all being making love every night.
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My wife and I have an extremely happy marriage.\n\nSwinging is not a "legal" method to cheat.\n\nSwingers have the ability to:\na) separate sex from love  and\nb) openly communicate their wishes, desires and fantasies to their partner.\n\nThere are as many types of swinging as there are swingers, some are exhibitionistic and like to have sexual play strictly between themslevs but like the added thrill of others watching.\n\nSome are voyeurs, and fit nicely with the aforementioned group.\n\nSome have special "friends with benefits" who they not only participate in sexual play with, but also go to movies, and dinner, vacations, play cards, have bar-b-ques, etc.\n\nSome have what might oddly be termed "monogamous" relationships with a third or another couple with whom they play exclusively.\n\nCertainly there is a percentage of the culture that are "serial swingers". My wife and I refer to them as the "notch on a bedpost crowd" who seemingly play with anyone and everyone, they are definitely in the minority.\n\nSwinging has dramatically improved our marriage for a couple of reasons - first, it absolutely requires honest, open discussions and conversations, and anytime a couple improves their ability to communicate with their spouse it will help the marriage. Second, we do not worry about affairs and cheating, there is no need for it, if one of us is attracted to someone else, we simply talk about it and decide as a couple whether we will pursue an opportunity to play with that person/people. Third, our sex lives have improved for a multitude of reasons or sex with each other is better and more frequent now.\n\nFeel free to contact me with questions you may have and I would also recommend that following sites for more information on the lifestyle and culture.\n\nhttp://www.swinglesonline.com\nhttp://www.theswingersforum.com\nhttp://www.swingersboard.com
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Other People's Pu**y\n\nMeaning, having intercourse with attached women.
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In my opinion, it is the highest form of disrespect a man can show his wife! It also opens the door to him partaking in these kind of activities with other females. I don't see how any man can claim to love his spouse when he is willing to share her in bed with other men! Does that make any sense to you?!  He sounds like an unprincipled man to me.
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That's quite a situation you have going there...\n\nSeems like from the way this Question is phrased that you let go of that shock, and the ethical, cultural, and social thinking the moment you decided to have sex with her..(you shouldn't have let your penis guide you) \n\nYou shouldn't have had sex with your sister-in-law, but she didn't FORCE you to, you chose to. BAD CHOICE..but still it was your choice, your choice to keep the sister-in-laws behavior away from your wife, your choice to follow up with your sister-in-laws feelings for you, and your choice to sleep with her...(You have to be aware that you ARE at fault here)\n\nMisinforming your wife about what?..Unless you just phrased this whole question funny and you DIDN'T have sex with your sister-in-law..  then how can she be misinforming your wife?\n\nIf I was your wife? I would want to hear that you were drugged and incapacitated to make your own descisions in order for this to happen and NOT be your fault, otherwise I would probably be incredibly hurt, and unforgiving at first, and I wouldn't trust you anymore that for certain.. so if I wanted to save the marriage, I would go to counceling with you and try to work it out...but I definately would never let you have any alone time with my sister again!!!!!\n\nAND MOST IMPORTANT.. Tell your wife Before her sister does... Something this bad in your marriage should be told by you...
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i've been reading your other posts, and you seem to be really hung up on your wife's sexuality.  You DO realize she's more than whats between her legs right?!  she's a WHOLE PERSON and her sexual exploits of the past are past.\n\nthe first thing you need to do to control these insecurities is the realize that it is YOU that has the problem, not her, so don't you dare take it out on her.  \n\nfrom the number of posts i've seen from you on this topic, i think you need more help than we mere yahoo answerers can offer.  get help, on your own...don't drag her into this.
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What do you think should a husband fulfill his wife's sexual fantasy of having another man join them???? That will answer your question. She is your wife not just a toy whom you can twist and turn it the way you want! Respect her! She is not there to fulfill desires she is there cuz you choose her to be your life partner! She has the same rights as you do your are not Superior than her!
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What do you mean by close relationship, and if you can't have good sex with your wife and have to do other people, you should leave and tell her.  jerk.
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Hai,\nY do u want to keep a relationship secret in the first place? Well if both of them are married to different people ofcourse thats a sin. At times its normal to feel attracted to others ( whn u are married ) but dont let that attraction take u to different directions.I believe its sin cheating ur wife or husband. Its being totally an untrustworthy person !!!! Thats like being a CHEAPO !!!! U would not like if ur wife does that to u right !\nIf u both are not married, then its ur choice to keep it a secret or not and if u both are gonna get married then thats perfectly fine.
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Sorry to say this but if your husband is having sex with other men he is either gay or bi and he will probably do it again.  I would be furious because he lied from the very start.  A heterosexual man is not going to sleep with another man so therefore he is gay.
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Don't look at a woman's face.\nDon't drink alcohol\nDon't go out alone with a woman unless she is your wife \nAvoid going inside a woman's room for any reason
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Have you ever heard of polygamy involving more than one husband? I like it about as much as the idea of a threesome with two women. Don't men have enough problems with just one wife?