Anyone, please help! I have this friend, that I have been best friends with for 15 years. I have not talked to
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Write her a letter and pour your heart out.  You don't want to waste 15 years of friendship, but you don't understand why all of a sudden you two are not speaking and for no reason.  Then the ball's in her court, it's up to her to call you, write to you, etc. Be prepared for her not to, she may have some reason that she doesn't want to say, etc.  Who knows.
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Yes.... and she never will change no matter what you would like to believe... I walked away from my manipulative "friend" and haven't talked in a year...  We had known each other 15 years.... I miss her sometimes... but I know it is the only the friend I thought she was... best of luck!
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My bestfriend and I have known each other since 7th grade, however, we wern't really friends till 11th.  We have had our rough patches, but no matter what is going on we would always be there for one an other.  Recently I needed to borrow a faily large amount of money for a settlement on an old debt.  She let me have the money (my family would not do this for me), since I have paid her back.  I think that people may have bad expirances with so called friends because one trys to take advantage of the other.  We would never do this to each other, it is far more importaint to me that she is always a part of my life.  She has been my bestfriend for 10 years and I don't plan on that ever changing.
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IM NOT FIRNEDS ANYMORE WITH MY USED TO BE BEST FRIEND\nIT BECAME TOO MUCH WE GREW APART
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Awwww, I feel so bad for you.  I think you send her a heartfelt email and tell her how you feel.  Although I'm pretty sure she knows this but tell her the same things you told us.  Tell her that you have no friends, you have no one to talk to, you confided in her and now she will not speak or respond to you, tell her you miss her and that she's like a big sister to you.  Tell her how much she has made a difference in your life.  I'm pretty sure this should get her attention.  Don't be rude to her, that's probably the reason why she's distanced herself from you in the first place.  My guess is that you've done it before.  Tell her that you are not giving up on her or the friendship and keep trying your best to reach her.  Be honest.  Tell her exactly how you feel.  Hopefully I was able to capture your feelings because it was obvious to me that you really care for her and really miss her.  And if that's the case, she needs to know.
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This is a normal part of growing up.  It happens to all of us.  I remember crying my eyes out with a friend because we hadn't spent that much time together, and now we're graduating and won't see each other in a while!  I have seen her twice since then; 14 years ago.\n\nYou'll miss your friends at first, then you move on.  If you go to college, you'll make lots of new friends, and they'll have a lot more in common with you.  If you work, you'll meet friends at jobs.\n\nKeep in mind that if you were very best friends, you will remain very best friends.  My friend since I was 10 and I talk every now and then, but we live in different cities and are in different points in our lives.  She's a single mom now going back to school, and I'm married with 3 kids and already graduated from college.  But we still talk, and I'd still consider her my friend!\n\nRelax and enjoy this moment in your life.  There are many big events to follow soon!  Your life will start changing dramatically as you grow up!  And you are ALWAYS growing up!\n\n(Your e mail address isn't confirmed so I can't write you back, so I'm editing this...)\n\nI'm sorry.  This is a normal part of growing up.  Changing friends, changing lives.  You met these friends, you will meet more!  Being sad is alright.  Let them know that you will miss them, and that you wish them luck.  Maybe in a few years after things cool down you'll see them again!  There is the internet, after all.  When I graduated, there was no internet or cell phones.  Getting in touch with people was much more difficult.  I've recently gotten in touch with some old friends; and it's nice because it's been so long we have so many stories to share!  I had lunch with a girl I haven't seen in 7 years a couple weeks ago, and I'm having dinner with a friend I haven't seen in 17 years Friday!  I'm really excited, and I'm bringing all kinds of pictures!  We met when we were 12, and now I have a daughter about that age!  Funny!\n\nLife is fun.  You'll enjoy it.  I'm glad to see that you are so aware of your feelings and not afraid to talk about them.  That's the first step in being an adult!  So many adults have trouble because they can't understand their feelings, and if they do, they won't talk about them!  You'll do well in your life!
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I stopped talking to my best friend for the first 18 years of my life becaue her emotional problems were getting so bad I coulnd't deal with it anymore. She wasn't fun anymore. Yet I miss her sometimes terribly.\nI moved out of town and we stopped talking. When I went back to my hometown 20 years later and drove past her house there she was going inside and I just kept driving. We considered ourselves sisters.\nSometimes you just have to make the break.\nYou need to tell her you need some time to yourself.\nAnd not feel guilty.\nTell her you can't keep driving her around and if she won't get her license you can't help her anymore. You will be doing her a big favor. \nTell her she needs to be independent from you. Tell her your tired and worn out and can't help her any more. It won't stop until you tell her.\nEither that or just move to another town.
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THIS PERSON MUST NO TAHVE BEEN YOUR BEST FRIEND B/C IF THEY WERE , THEY WOULD NOT HAVE DUMPED YOU FOR SOME OTHER FRIEND !!
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I did this with one of my bf and finally my best friend said you know your my best friend and I love to hear about your life but enough is enough and I didn't even realize I was doing it and i was so glad that she let me know instead of just letting it go on. Just be honest with her and tell her how you feel most likely she doesn't even really even know how often she really talks about him.
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How about asking your best friend to play with you and your new friends, so she may be able to make new friends too.  Don't turn your back on your friend, you may need her some day.  I have been best friends with mine for over 12 years now, and she is the greatest friend I have ever had, she is more like my sister than a friend, and I wouldn't trade her for the world.
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UUUHHHH...What did U do with UR OLD best friend???
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People make alot of friends in life and you will find that as we grow older me make many friends and our best friends change. Because our interests, lifestyles, occupations and situations dont stay the same this change is neccessary as people who once were our best friends may not be moving in the same direction as we are.\n\nSo you could tell the person who moved there that it is bugging you that she has taken over your best friend, or you could just accept your best friend becoming friends with this new person.
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yes..my best friend matt...only recently have we talked after not talking for over a year...he knows me so well..
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you didn't say how old you are but i'm guessing you are pretty young. friendships sometimes have ups and downs, if she has found a new best friend then maybe you should too. there really isn't much else you can do, except maybe talk to her and ask her about it.
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Well, have you tried talking to her? you must tell her how much she means to you... and how she's hurting you now. you care for your best friend , but that doesn't mean she can control you around and being a pain in the neck. So tell her that you want to still be best friends with her (because you care and love her) but SHE has to change.\n\nOr, could there be a problem that she hasn't told you yet? Maybe she's acting differently becoz she's under peer pressure (or other problems) and subconsciously doesn't realize what she's doing to you.. and also not recognizing it as a problem. Talk to her and figure it out together.\n\nAnother thing, i think that you can't expect somebody to be the same forever. I have a best friend of 8 years, and now she's changed and become more hostile. I dun like much of her new self, but i accepted it. If she offends me then i'll tell her straight. There'll be a quarrel or so.. but we'll always make up the next day. And though we're not as close as before, we are still best friends and can come up to each other with problems.\n\nGood luck with your best friend! Sometimes, we have to let go to gain something.. It could be a little space between you both, or something else. I think it's best not to break the friendship.
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Yeah darlin' it sounds like you're feelings are stronger than his at this point, sorry.From his point: I think it's hard to be best friends w/ a member of the opposite sex when you're  involved with someone. He may feel like he's betraying her. She may be putting some sort of pressure or negative input. \nAbout you  feeling "used" when he comes back after their break up... (which BTW their future break up is 99.9% probabable, statistically)..though I do see your point,  if you understand human nature, and as you get older you'll see this same thing again and again, very common, because people change, life is change. Change can be difficult, especially in relationships. \nNow as for numbering your friends in a ranking system, and should you call him this lable or that lable... I think once you guys can get past that "disastrous system" and began to see all the people that you really enjoy being around as your "closest friends" without the number/lable system, I believe there will be a lot less hurt feelings and heartache between all of you. Not saying we didn't do the same exact thing when I was your age,and it sucked being  #2,3 or 4 then, just as it does now. But since I did survive my teen years, I want to share that with you! My advice to you is to be the best friend that you feel comfortable with being to him, and her, without crossing the boundaries and getting into their "relationship space". He's your friend, she's your friend until either of them stops being what you consider to be a friend, at which time they are no longer a friend...\nMeanwhile use YOUR energy on YOU not him!  Good luck girl...
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This is what she is affraid of. You are her best friend and she can't even talk to you because you haven't talked to her in almost a week. You just proved her point for her.My husband is my best friend. And back when he was just my best friend he told me that he thought we should try going out. We aready were going everywere together anyway. I turned him down also for the same reason I was afraid I would lose my best friend. Do you know what changed my mind. He looked at me and said o.k. can't blame me for trying. Now come out side and help me do the tune up on my car. By doing that by letting me see that he wasn't going to start acting wierd towards me. By just continuing to be himself around me. I realized that their wasn't anything to be scared of because my best friend would be there in this relationship with me.