Do you think sitting near or on a grave is disrespectful?
817450
The person under there is dead. The do not see, feel, think or breathe. They do not get offended when the lawnmower runs over their grave.\n\nThe important thing is that you remember those who are dead, not how you visit their grave.
297993
Proper??? I should say not!!! It is not anything but rude and disgusting. I am very sorry for your situation and you will be in my prayers.
874723
I may sound like a broken record here, but there are two things that make me somber:\n\n1. Racism\n2. The loss of a loved one\n\nCan it be comforting? No, not on those topics. But I do take a certain comfort in being sad, sometimes.
928547
I don't, when your dead, your dead.  I cannot understand why people spend thousands of dollars to bury people in expensive coffins when we all rot anyway.  I just want to be cremated and flush my ashes down the toilet and go out and have a drink and remember what great times you had when I was there.
779009
i actually been to one.  they mourn for the dead person.  they usually sing in a wierd vocal.  u usually kneel for a few hours (hurts!)  they say the biography of the dead person.  then they do some stuff  about purifying i think. (its usually repetetive).  they follow the zodiac on who can face the closing of the coffin.
932431
I'm afraid that that would appear callous and discourteous, ma'am.\n\nBeing a Friend, you'd be expected to display concern for the unfortunate loss.\n\nBesides, it would be unnatural for someone to try to look away from it, ma'am.\n\nI'd say, be natural and don't hesitate to show you care.\n\nHave a nice day.
934194
It isn't polite but it's definately ok.  Personally I think it's quite funny in a "laughing at a funeral" kind of way, I usually start giggling to myself.  I don't know why, it just tickles the inner child in me.
137306
Depends on the setting. I usually do infront of my siblings, with people I know will not get offended by it.  I usually do it when I am driving or mad.  (I'm female)
463591
I would say to do what you feel is right! If you feel that you should be at his funeral to show respect and to put closure then by all means be there. Hopefully though this will not happen.
633714
yes you should. Why? when a person dies the family is going through so many emotions and everything is a fog.  They are so hurt and sad and at times don't remember who all came to see them and it's not because they are being rude, they are just so consumed with not having the loved one there anymore.  So, yes you are doing the right thing and they will be very happy to know you care.
765350
HE should be buried propally. It is inhumane and I don't think he would want his body to be em blamed.
532568
Cemetary (On a bench in one I do have some respect for the dead)
550297
I would think that would be a terribly disrespectful thing to do.
703649
I am a paranormal investigator.  And while there are a few graveyards with the reputation of being haunted, it is rare.  If you were a ghost, wouldn't you find a graveyard a boring place to hang out? My wife and I investigated a very old and large graveyard in our town and came away from it with a feeling of great peace and respect for those that had passed on and were buried there.  Nothing scary at all.  I'm sure you have nothing to worry about.  Rest In Peace!
679645
Yeah it was shortly after I lost my oldest daughter. We had driven out to the cemetery to put fresh flowers on her grave. As we drove up I noticed a guy out there laying on his wife's grave. He was very distraut and I had made the comment that I wish I could do that. Just come and spend unlimited time out there. Well we had all our children and our next to youngest was a sleep. So one of the older ones unstrapped him from his car seat so when he woke up he could get out and come over to us. Well while we were over at our daughters grave he woke up and mind you he was only 2 and 3/4 years old. He got out of his seat and actually put our van in gear and rear-ended the old mans car. I was totally terrified. He was already grieving and my son had just hit his car. What a scene. It did about 300.00 damage to his back bumper. We no longer leave any of our kids in the van with the keys. Nothing with dead bodies but quite the cemetery experience. You can just imagine the scene, the funny thing was is that we ended up becoming friends with this man and have included him in several family activites. I don't think we would of gotten to know each other had my son not of done what he did. He needed a family to be with and we were able to help and learn from each other, as we all grieved and mourned the lose of loved ones.
725019
Well you certainly aren't going to win anything political for asking such a disrespectful question.  It's one thing to disagree with his life, but it is very different once you insult him in death.
1106606
My momma says.. "maybe those people haven't had a real visitor in years."   I say, You did the right thing. There's nothing creepy about and wouldn't you want someone to come see you? Even if it wasn't your family? It's a nice gesture to visit , admire and respect the dead. Good Job!