I have a 500 LB friend that really likes me and wants to go out with me. What should I do?
817961
yikes....thats a tough one
483786
"There's plenty of fish in the sea" is the best way to put it....I'm sure you and your friend are both head strong enough to not let a guy get in the middle of you two... considering that he's not looking for a girl at the moment.Worse case scenario if she ends up getting him is to go out w/ someone who she used to like...Remember two can play her game...shh don't let her know that though...
5854
be her friend and give her time to see you for what you are. if she finds you worthwile, she will fall for you.
517544
show him that he is unique in his own way and have him tell you what he would feel like if you had been the one worrying about your apearance in weight. go for it girl!
37586
That;s a hard blow!The only thing that you can do,is not tell your friend that  you like him.Or if she already knows, i am sure that she won't date him for  your sake.You got to remember, there are billions of guys out there.If they do date, just hang with other friends, and tell her that you just want time with her, the same as before, because you don't feel like being the 3rd wheel.It won't be long till another guy catches your attention, and than you can double date.Its not like you were intimate with this guy, so it will be fine,it will just take time to mend your heart after being rejected.Good luck!
873654
Just go up to her and start talking. She may like you to and waiting for you to make the first move. If she is your friend already then you two have things to talk about. Ask her to go skating or someplace that may not sound like a serious date but when you are out with her be nice like real date. He who snoozes looses and if you don't ask her out someone else will. ☺
257748
if ur a real friend 2 her and if u love ur friend then u should step back and allow her to have a chance with him. love means sacrifice. if u cook 2 pieces of bacon - one for u and one for ur friend - and u burn one piece but the other is perfectly cooked - then u wouldn't be as rude and heartless as to give ur friend the burnt piece of bacon would u? it's about being able to consider other people's feelings. the last thing u want to do is loose a friend b cuz of some guy - a guy that u will prolly loose one day anyhow because break ups are constantly happening. and what if he's a dog? what if she beats her and lies to her and cheats on her - u will be the friend that will help her stand tall and show her that she deserves the best in life. (lets pray this wont really happen - its just an example) but even tho u will be sad for ur friend - u will be thankful that it wasn't u. just dont be selfish - they're plently of other guys for u to choose from!
741859
For the moment forget about your own friend.  You said you " only think of the guy as a friend and but he's okay "...based on that alone why would you choose to go out on a date with him.  You don't have an interest in any potential relationship developing with him so based on that alone...don't accept his invitation for a date.  Now, in addition to that, your friend really likes him, so to add that factor in...certainly don't accept the date.
841006
My sweetheart is in the same shoes but since i met him that way and began dating him that way I have accepted it but YES, it is the good thing to do to try and help the ones you love.  HOWEVER, overweight people are extremely sensitive about their weight and are very conscious indeed.  They are sensitive to people's piercing stares and inconsiderate comments.  Before you say anything, you must be aware of this sensitivity and DO NOT USE THE WORD FAT.  Try starting the conversation like "name of friend here, you have been a great friend to me and i really care about you.  I hope i have you in my life as a friend for a long time.  There is something that I am concerned about and wanted to talk with you about it though.  I noticed that you've put on some weight since college started...is everything ok...I think you are a beautiful person just the way you are and this has NOTHING TO DO with your LOOKS, but I am worried about your HEALTH.  I just want us to be friends for a long time to come.....is there anything I can do to help you?..."  Be supportive of her and let her know you are just trying o help.
391072
Your friend knows very well that he likes you. You need to ask yourself if you really like him? There is no point in going out with him just for the sake of it. You don't sound very interested in him. If you do like him then go for it. Tell your friend that if he was interested in her he would have ask her out not you.
112949
I would say you have a chance with him, but you need to just come out and tell him how you feel about him. But be aware: if you guys don't work out, you might lose a really great friend!
794448
well, here is the thing it's her choice to make and if u push her to hard she wont tell you things. umm u said what if he asks her out or something but what if he rejects her u know? so don't lose ur value of trust. she trusted u know u have to respect her choice and i think ur a good friend that ur caring and thinking about her but in this position its her choice to make. \n\nGOOD LUCK HOPE U BOTH FIND WHAT UR LOOKING FOR
993431
Well, maybe you should tell her how you feel about her! She may only think you want to be friends, so I would tell her soon. Ask her how she may feel about the idea of the two of you dating.  She may be happy that you have spoken up!  When you start dating a good friend sometimes it changes the friendship. You can only hope that the feelings for one another become more intense and more loving. If you happen to drift apart, then the original friendship may be forever changed.  I thought I would toss that in for your to consider. I mean if things do not work out well for you, you can only hope that you can still be friendly, and not resent any new fellows that may come along in her future if the two of you fail at your attempt at a relationship...do you see what I mean?\n\nGood luck, I hope she feels the same for you too, you sound so nice!
764845
If she turns you down, the worst thing to do is push her. Be friends, be nice, but don't bloat her head with compliments, be real.\n\nIf the two of you are friends, maybe that friendship will bloom into something beautiful (like a relationship or a great friendship). If not, sorry, dissapointment happens. \n\nPlease, please, please do not constantly tell her how great she is. If you do you are belittling yourself...if she is not intrested in dating, be her friend.
522953
Nicely turn him down and introduce him to your friend. If your friend likes him alot, don't violate her trust by going out with him. If you like him talk to your friend about it.
655677
Just tell her hey ______ ive liked u for a long time, and im just wondering if youd like to go out sometime.
528634
hm well u are currently commited to someone that u apparent;y care about so dont just drop him because something doesnt feel right. but as for your friend, if he really likes u that much he should be respectful of the fact that ur in a relationship and if he wants something more he should wait untill u are available.