can somebody tell me why my relationships never last?
816776
Back off some you sound like your too pushey get off thier back Im sure they get that all day long from their wifes they dont have to get it from their side piece you know what I mean
563785
Relationship won't last unless you make it. This means not giving up when it seems like it's going downhill. The reason for our high divorce rates in the US, in my opinion, is that people give up too easily because they think there's a magical "THE ONE" relationship where everything works out and fights, if they ever happened, are always resolved perfectly and quickly and compatibility is great. life isn't like that... get over it. \n\nMind you, I'm not saying you should stay in an abusive relationship or with a guy or girl for whom something is clinically wrong... but for all other types of people, it is POSSIBLE to REASON THINGS OUT and build compatibility. Relationships take work, no matter which way you slice it.
47524
When you realize that the relationship isn't meeting your needs and conclude that it isn't going to any time soon...\n\nMany relationships are "dead" or go nowhere, there is no definitive "line in the sand" that is crossed. The line is really internal, a realization that continuing is pointless.
499593
Hey, trust your heart. Go out and meet other people. You never know who you would meet and, who knows, a couple of years later, you guys might be in better frame of mind for a longer lasting relationship.
661337
maybe its your job----kids--- stress.... i think i go down that road from time 2 time.... then---- its 1-1/2 hrs the next nite... try someting new... maybe a date with him...hope this helped u
307927
like all things this too shall pass, in six months from now you'll look back and chuckle at all these hard feelings. Having a relationship with someone is very hard to do... not all relationships will work out... If as I suspect ur still in school then u still have plenty of time to find a gf... good things come to those who wait and Ican tell u that u will enjoy ur time as a youngster a LOT MORE if u don't let girls run ur life... there should be more than girls in ur life... try a new hobby or try a new hangout
260178
there's more to a relationship than just love... even true love... there are other factors like age, location, families, culture, maturity... love may last a life time, but it isn't the only thing that can hold a relationship together... \n\nas the cliche says, if you love something set it free, if it comes back one day, it was meant to be.
245160
I think the main reason that people can't or don't commit to relationships is immaturity and selfishness.  They often want to keep playing the field or go out and play the field.  There is also the fear of being hurt and the fear of what a commitment to a lifelong relationship entails.  I think another problem is their not knowing what they want or what is best for both of them.  I had one friend who dated a girl for about 8 years until he felt that God wanted him to marry the girl.  That girl was frustrated beyond belief.  She had 4 other roommates in the house, including my future wife, and all of them met and married guys after the two of them had started dating.  It really is a tough thing to do since the onus seems to be placed upon the male to ask the lady if she wants to marry them.  Heck, it is hard enough asking a woman to dance with the fear of rejection!!! ;)
458021
i had that problem before i accually am going through the sane thing right now but have found  as long as theres is mutual love and trust in the relationship it will work for a long time i have had a relationship where i only saw my girlfirend onnce every six months as well and we stayed toghether for three yrs and then she moved and we lost touch but if you really love him and trust him stay with it. otherwise talk to him and ask him what he thinks would be best for the two of u. wheather that would mean breaking up or staying together. just follow ur heart and u will find out what to do! :) good luck
748922
hey try to know why it is falling apart........ ask ur frd .. show ur feelings so he/she can understand and you can also get answers for ur questions going in ur mind. speak out.. clarify it
122927
Relax, all relationships go through phases.  Take some time to figure out if there is something in your life or relationship that is bothering you and needs to be dealt with.  If it isn't that then talk to your doctor as this could also be a health matter.  Some times it is just that you have hit a stale patch in your relationship and with a little work and time you will get past it.
584625
that is very sad... I have a rule of thumb when it comes to dating... IF at any point you evaluate your relationship and you know it's never going to work THEN don't waste anymore of your time or hers.
551347
is the reason you haven't had a boyfriend because of them or you? i know lots of people in wheel chairs that have relationships. so is it you? maybe your so afraid of no one liking you that you give off the vibe to stay away. if your not confidant in your self or you dont like yourself...men can pick up on that. try cahnging your attitude about yourself and im sure things will change
992940
realtionships take long to develop, they are built on mutual faith and trust. so u will have to give some time. think 1000 times before breaking one, relationships are like glass....u can mend once it is broken but the crack will always show
28851
All relationships are based on values, subjectivity and mutual or shared interests. \n\nThese are conflicting sentiments and their equillibium is very fragile. \n\nThere lies their fragility.
195101
I think that relationships can get boring and predictable after a period of time... so I would suggest throwing in a few curve balls from time to time, catch them off guard and keep them guessing. Keep things interesting. But most importantly... stay faith full and never be afraid to show your feelings.
198212
I think it important to assess how you behave in a new relationship. Are you perhaps a bit too full-on? Are you maybe even trying a bit too hard? I have a friend who is in a similar situation to you. She is a great person with a great personality but she has never managed to have a relationship that lasts more than a couple of months. Guys break it off because like your situation they like her but just feel that she's not compatible with them for a relationship. She's got loads of friends, but no boyfriend. this is because she's so outgoing and full-on. She tries hard to impress and guys just feel like they can't relax and get into a proper relationship. Shes a great laugh and really fun to be around but could they talk to her about problems? Could they share a secret with her? Could they just snuggle up with her and not have to have an exciting conversation? No. Just relax in a relationship. Don't be afraid to be a bit vulnerable and girly. let the guy take the lead a bit. Let him try to impress you. good luck.