I need advice from married men, is it really important to you guys that you ask your wife for a 3some?
832141
As you can tell from the responses here, it is really a personal choice. Some answers feel strongly NO and some strongly YES. It comes down to you and your comfort level. For me personally i wouldn't ask or take part, my best buddy and his wife are darn near swingers. I would guess 80% of guys think of it and would love it but only 20% could actually get the nerve to walk the talk and 5% actually go through with it.
1040484
First sir I am no bible thumper, but threesomes with your partner/girlfriend/wife is adultery and wrong. Next, from what you said in here you already know your answer. No she is not ready. listen to yourself and your heart. They typically will not lead you astray if you truly listen to them. I would suggest you continue to tell her no. If you are not monogamously commited to here, I suggest you look to see why you are not, and or why she is not to you. Once you committ to each other and stop thinking and or playing around your relationship can grow and be more fulfilling. If you can't do this, than you have no business being in a relationship with her, for you haven't found complete happiness.
650927
The fact that you are asking this question should tell you something is not right in your relationship. Ive never done either with my wife.
1082330
LMAO...if she suggested it she obviously wants to do it with this girl.  I have done it once with a girl I knew and her husband.  She was a lesbian until she met her husband and still would be if he didn't let her bring girls home sometimes.  He loves it.  But if your girl just brought it up without you ever asking you gotta wonder.  Why would she do that?  If you have been asking her about it and she brought it up it is probably for you more than her and it's cool that she found it for you guys.  If it's the first, all her idea and you never brought it up before, I'd watch how she behaves during.  Is she shy or just going for it?  You'll know.......
161999
This is something you should speak to your husband about. My wife had a similar problem. She married me at 18 and I was her first. She expressed her desire to be with another man for the experience, and assured me that in no way was she interested in leaving me for another. Since I love her with all my heart, I wanted to do anything possible for her. Through our discussions we have decided that we will pursue that in the future if the situation arises. I am working through some issues over it, but as I said, I love her and will do anything for her. If she needs to fulfill this, then I will allow it to happen. We may bring another guy into the mix with us or it might happen with her and him alone, we haven't decided that yet, but we will discuss everything and both of us must be comfortable with the situation in order to proceed. Communication is the key. I'm quite sure that your husband has some fantasies of his own that he hasn't shared with you yet. This could possibly be an opportunity for you both to discover new things in your relationship. Have a conversation with your husband. If your husband loves you as much as I love my wife then he will at least ponder the thought. Good luck.
52168
I'd have to first question the motives of my wife.  Why exactly does she want me to sleep with another person?  If it's for some sort of sexual gratification on her part, then I would perhaps consider it.  I seriously doubt that I would actually proceed with it though.
128023
If being with another woman AND your husband is a fantasy of your then I say go ahead. If you are being told that you need to do this pr else I am leaving or whatever, then NO!\n\nEven if this is oyur fantasy you will need to very careful as you mentioned STD's, whackos and all the EMOTIONAL trauma this may cause. Finding the right third is the real issue, do not bring a stranger into your house.
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If she has mentioned it, might want to, and you mentioned it.  There is enough said.  The ball is in her court and if you push things, a) it probably will never happen and b) even if it does she is going to resent you either way.\n\nFor most people, leaving it as a fantasy can be a great way to spice up your intimate lives.  It can also be the safest most prudent, moral path to take. \n\nIf you two decide to go there together.  \n- Make sure you discuss what is and is not acceptable (i.e. rules), \n- either one of you can say stop, at any time, with no need to explain or discuss it further,\n- Can not ever look back and make it a bad thing\n- Your wife is in control, and dont you forget it.  She determines what happens, when, and how.  \n- Have a safety word, either one can use, that means stop, do something else, or take a break\n\nMany people have gone there, it can be an incredible experience or it can have disasterous consequences - understand that.  Do you want to risk your relationship and your marraige.  Once you cross that line, how far will you go.  Will either of you go there alone, without the other (oops)\n\nAlso, the third person is just that, an outsider whom you have let into your private lives (to spice things up).  Your wife is the most important person in your life, as you should be to her - dont forget that for an instant.  It also helps if your wife has some curiosity or desire about being with another lady.
579295
If that kind of man talks to me about his wife like that, I will tell him to tell directly to his wife in manageable ways. Sex might be important, not the important thing for building a marriage, but it's not good to let others beside our spouse knows the trouble of that, it's better if the couples set time together discuss.
416683
My wife and I have done a threesome a couple of times. I suggest three cardinal rules if you’re thinking about doing one:\n\n1) Talk about it a lot and agree about it before hand. Know what to expect from each other. Don’t leave any of this to chance. If you haven’t both said yes at least three times as many times as either of you have said no or maybe, then you need to talk about it more.\n\n2) Let her pick the other girl, or you pick the other guy if you’re going that way. It puts everyone in a much less awkward position.\n\n3) Before and after the threesome, make sure you spend a good chunk of time enjoying each other alone, without even a thought of the third.\n\nIf you can do these things, then go for it and have fun! It will be the most incredible experience you can imagine. Otherwise, it’s usually a disaster for at least one party.
1177494
You can ask her a general question, like what does she think of the idea, without suggesting you want to do it.  You can also ask her first if she's ever thought about sex with a chick.  Her answers will tell you whether or not you should ask her.   \n\nI will say though, if you really love her, don't do it.  Introducing a third party into a relationship is asking for trouble.  Most open relationships don't last.  \n\nNow what are you going to do if she likes the idea but wants to do it with two guys instead of two girls?  You open the can of worms, you may get an answer you're not expecting!   And fair's fair...if you get your wish, she's entitled to hers!
431654
Most men want a threesome.  I think you need to have a long talk about why you don't like the idea, and why he wants another woman.  Inviting others over for group play can wreck a marriage if the marriage isn't 100% sound.  If there are no hidden agendas, jealousy, marital problems, homophobia, group play offers a new dimension of pleasure to love-making.  \n\nIf both of you are not completely happy and secure in your marriage, I would advise against it.  But please don't reject his fantasy outright.  \n\nIf you do decide to do it, you pick the girl, make all of the arrangements, discuss ground rules and get a hotel room.  You are granting his biggest fantasy, keep control of the situaton.
262109
I asked the same question about my wife and got these answers.   \n\nhttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Agn7HJTOP6UQyQAP1KFvciTsy6IX?qid=1006031910035\n\n\nWe have a son together and I'm looking to spice things up too but don't know how to approch it from a women's view.  \n\nFrom a guy's view I can say that as long as your not trying to do him or have a 3 way with another guy they are sorta open to it more than women seem to be...although the predomonant male fantasy is a 3-some with 2 women.  But in the end men can be a little scared about doing anything to out there....just start with something small and work your way up.
214376
Have a threesome huney, two guys are better then one.   LOL
793683
Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
796768
i am the side of your wife my wife and i are swingers and love it we share photos on line we also play on cam it has made our sex life better we wanted some spice in our marrried life we love eachother vary munch it is not for eveyone but sit down and talk to her if your marriged is good then it will be fun if you have some problems then you should not try it good luck          dm
1043752
What do you think should a husband fulfill his wife's sexual fantasy of having another man join them???? That will answer your question. She is your wife not just a toy whom you can twist and turn it the way you want! Respect her! She is not there to fulfill desires she is there cuz you choose her to be your life partner! She has the same rights as you do your are not Superior than her!