should i or should i not/ tell me?
813568
Can you afford to lose a piece of your mind?
571393
TELL THEM!!!\nit screws up your whole relationship if you don't.
83898
If you don't want to tell them then show it to them. Do things that you wouldn't normally do for another person. Be nice to them and show them that you care.
767932
It would be better to tell him.  He probably has a bit of an idea that you did, but may not know for sure.  Or maybe someone told him and he won't admit to you he knows.\n\nHe will definitely not be happy when you tell him.  But if he forgives you, then he will talk to you again.  But it might be some time, so you have to back off while he sorts it out in his own mind.\n\nBest is to tell him in person.  Say you want to tell him something, and tell him how you feel about telling him and keeping it from him.  Tell him what you said here, that you are scared of his reaction, which is why it has taken you this long to tell him.  And say that you don't expect any reaction from him, you just want to tell him, to set things right, so that he knows what went on.\n\nIt is up to him how he reacts, so don't expect any type of reaction from him. If he talks to you at that time, then listen to what he says and answer his questions.\nHe might not even talk, and just walk away.
77539
SHOULD YOU BE THE FIRST TO TELL?
73193
It depends on the secret you want to tell.  But make sure it is something that if it were to get out you could take an immediate action on it.  Try and think of it like you are the one holding the secret.  Does it need to be let out or kept aside until the time is right.
209641
Honestly, you would think that you should tell the person because it is the 'right thing to do' morally.  BUT think about it first  You are going to lose a friend.  You are going to hurt a lot of people and it still wont make it right.  If the person has no idea do not tell them because what you would be doing is another selfish act really.  You are hurting your friend so that you feel better.  So if they don't know just leave their happiness alone.  You already did one bad thing, don't do another to ease your conscience.
102624
i dont. care to tell me?
720686
Sit her down and explain to her that although she told you that she didn't want to hear anything about your past, you feel that it is important to tell her something. Once you have her attention tell her that you were married. I'm sure she will understand why you told her and hopefully the two of you can talk it over and maybe even forget about it after you break the news! Good luck!
1371
TELL HER. What is the worst that can happen? If you don't, you will regret it the rest of your life. I will always regret not telling Susan that I love her. I haven't seen her for five years, and I still love her.
648753
u can tell u had dated before, but try to leave the stories bout relationship...like how u meet ur ex, and what u did with him in between...\npast is past...so leave it there\nhe may say its ok...but he wouldnt wanna hear it all the time\neven if u choose to tell, do it just once then drop the subject
996428
yes, I may, that depends of the situation. If He ask me, i want let him down even if If i don't have that kind of feeling for him. Sure I wouldn't keep him thinking. I will make sure I tell him my feelings about  the whole thing.
1020598
not necessarily, but I would not tell any of my secrets to anyone who I do not know really well. You need to trust him first, know him and feel comfortable to talk about it....
400297
why don;t you tell her
278229
if YOU THINK THAT YOUR FRIENDS WILL TREAT YOU DIFFERENTLY ( AS IN NEGATIVELY) BECAUSE YOU TELL THEM SOMETHING LIKE THIS I DON'T THINK IT WOULD BE WISE. HOWEVER ON THE CONTRARY IF YOU THINK THEY WILL ACCEPT IT THEN TELL THEM IF YOU ARE READY FOR WHAT IS TO COME.
1006580
I would tell her. The sooner the better. She probably won't get mad at you unless it's been a while but even then she'll eventually appreciate that you came to her and let her know what was going on.
248732
I'm assuming you are good friends since you've known each other for so long but I wouldn't want you to scare him off either.  I would just kinda drop hints and see how he takes it and when the time is right to tell him then you will know.