Post nup from my point since my husband has asked....?
829759
He's in control, and wants to exercise it. I don't see anything unreasonable in your or your mother's concern over this matter; in fact, I'm surprised that you did not have a pre-nup worked out before you married your husband if you knew you would at some point be inheriting a large sum of money. Unfortunately, you can't *make* him sign anything, so how you proceed from here is up to you.
705601
If you're going to be married, you better learn to compromise now.  In the end, is it really that big of deal?  If it means that much to him to have a ceremony, it would be nice to accommodate him and make him happy.
37799
It will be grand! There will be some bumps in the road but with communication the realtionship will find its way back to comfort. Since the holidays were hectic your husband will buy a lottery ticket just because with the numbers 6 2 7 and he will win two hundred dollars and pay off your last bill in June. Family is important this year no matter what the argument is you need to stick together if you do not it could be a hard thing in 2007.
326998
Do it anyway you feel comfortable and can afford. Unless you have children. Then please do it quietly and discreetly.  I am getting sick and tired of attending weddings where the kids are in the ceremony.
1056923
I would go to a lawyer and try to overturn the prenup.  It's a shame that he wouldn't even compensate you for you time in the marriage.
454846
Hahaha, is your husband asking your for a cost benefit analysis for a proposed salary? I think housewives should not be paid salaries but should instead be given an allowance for personal needs separately from the household budget.  It pretty much works the same way as a salary but denoting it as such is just not right.  A wife does the things she does out of love and because she wants to support her husband.
762315
Gotta' admit, sounds like a plan to me!!\n\nLike every 2 years?  With an option to evaluate twice within that 2 years and if both evaluations are negative, the marriage is over?\n\nHey, I think you are on something here!!
852225
Don't do it! He won't learn anything. You have only been married 2 months, it isn't your debt so let him handle his own.
321334
So, he doesn't agree...big surprise, right?  No way to get your message across, then you'll have to send the message by actions, not words.  While you've been talking and he's not listening, that's all it is...lip service.  What have you done to show him that this marriage was a mistake?  Nothing.  If you are going to end it, then end it.  Move out and leave a note.  Explain that you made a mistake by rushing into this marriage and upon this realization, you need to go.  File the papers and in 3 months or so, you'll be free to live as an independant woman again.  Until then, just lay low and don't listen to his crying and persuations.  Just cut the cord and make it short and sweet.  It'll be easier and less painless in over the long run.
314813
It shouldn't make any difference whether you get married or not. Unless your husband has a really good insurance policy and job. I guess you could get updated. If that was the case for me, I wouldn't get married and loose my funds. Your marriage could go sour in a year and you would have a hard time getting your funds back.
491174
Yes I LOVE the Beatles... my parents raised me on them (in fact, when I was really little I though they were a current music group, about 1982)  Anyway, I agree that he should have got a pre-nup.  I read in a paper yesterday someone's opinion on the topic that I agree with:  She should only be able to get part of the money that he made while they were together.  Everything he made before then she shouldn't be able to get a part of.  Of course, that might be complicated but I still agree that it would be more fair.  By the way, his current fortune is £800,000,000.  They are saying that she could try to take 5 of the 8.
479043
sorry don't know an answer to this but I just wanted to say my heart goes out to you. I have a prem baby and I know how financially draining it can be. \nHas your wife tried appealing to this guys better nature by explaining the situation to him and asking if there is a compromise you could come to?
487210
Robyn,\n\nI'm sorry for your situation and I'm sure all of this is taking a heavy toll on you, physically and mentally. It's often very difficult to find acceptable reason in these cases wherein we can find some justification for what we know we need to do. I've experienced that myself so I can appreciate that you continue to feel the love you do for him and grasp for hope in saving your marriage.\n\nHowever, as difficult as this may be to accept, my suggestion is that your first priority needs to be to yourself and the children. The fact that you feel the choice was his to make regarding the direct deposit of funds to your account, it also remains a fact that you're entitled to his continued contribution to the support of the family. Regardless of the fact that he's not sure he wants to return to the relationship, morally and legally he has obligations to uphold. \n\nSo, my opinion is, that you should insist on this support from him while agreeing to his need for space in order to evaluate his feelings about the marriage. This will accomplish a number of things actually. First, it will relieve some stress of the situation in that you will have financial help during this process. Secondly, by agreeing to his wishes to not return and have the space he needs right now you are going the distance in attempting to reconcile. Third, its just possible that having to bear the additional burdens of financial support while also now having to provide his own domicile, could just send the wake up message that will help him realize the consequences of his actions before its too late.\n\nI wish you the best of luck!
328400
You must be nuts . . . post nuptial agreements . . . to give you more than 50% of everything he has . . . in case he cheats.\n\nThe only way you want this clause in a post nup . . . is probably because he had you sign a pre-nup . . . didn't he.\n\nMy questions is . . . what did you do to deserve all that . . .
1178035
tell husband you have been saving up for something special.
271887
Sounds like you are on an HMO plan right now.  If he is on both plan then go ahead and choose PPO.
898445
£10 pounds a month!!  I suppose it was better than nothing, have you an agreement to how much he will pay you and when???\n\nPerhaps you might have wait another four months lets hope not..Some men need to face up to their responsibilities..