i need to help my sister she has cancer?
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How can you help your sister? Please provide more information or details with your question.
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Be there for her every step of the way. Its very hard going through chemo and radiation, my son has been battling cancer for the last year. The thing that helped him is his family and friends that have been there from day one, giving their love and support. Be there for her give her strength and courage. Pray, prayer is an awesome thing. Tell everyone you know to pray. Keep your faith and just give her lots of love and hope. Dont give up, I know its very hard, the worst thing for her and your family is to give up. Keep fighting cancer is beatable. Its not the end of the world there are so many cancer survivors out there. I will keep you all in my prayers, Take Care and God Bless.
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I don't know myself but I did a little research and this website should offer some helpful links, or hopefully point you in the right direction:\n\nhttp://www.cancernews.com/support.html\n\nIt must be so hard for you right now, but take heart in your granddaughter's love, and know that your daughter lives on through your memories of her.\n\nKind Wishes being sent your way
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Your friend is ill, she needs professional help and hopefully her Mom will help her get it.  You are being a good friend to her, stay that way and help her throught the next months which are going to be difficult for her.  I wish her well...;
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You can pray for her. Make sure that she knows tha you are there for her. Be a really good friend to her. Maybe you could talk to her on the phone a little. Maybe she could get some help, it could be from you, God, other friends, or even a counselor
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I'm truly sorry. Just make sure to support  ur sisters and be there for them, thats all u can do. I know it must be hard. Just remember thet u wilk all get through this and remember that ur mom is in a better place now.
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I feel your pain, really I do.  And I understand.  Obviously, your sister has self-esteem issues.  For that matter, she may even have some mental health issues (as does my own sister) that run deeper.  \n\nHaving gone the route of trying to show my sister that she was taking the wrong path, and making improper choices concerning the men in her life as well as other decisions, I have finally given up.  Unless a person is legally and or medically determined to not be responsible or in control of their own actions, they are capable of making their own decisions.  As long as you try to provide direction to her, you will likely be frustrated in your efforts.\n\nDetermine what is ultimately important.  If you want your sister to include you in her life in spite of her decision-making, then you need to really try to keep the lines of communication open.  As long as you're trying to tell her how to live her life, and as long as she disagrees with you, you will be at odds.\n\nThe better thing would be for you to be a loving supportive sister, even when she fails.  Be there to encourage her.  Ultimately, these decisions are hers to make, even if her loved ones know that they are bad ones.  It is a hard thing to take, but it may be better for your relationship if you step back a bit.  She will, unfortunately, find out sooner or later what kind of man she's dealing with.  Sadly, any action that she takes must be hers, and hers alone.  They say that, "Experience is the best teacher, and for some there is no other."  She's just going to have to find this out for herself.
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Pray. And realize you can't force her to come home. All you can do is be there for her as a sister and let her make her own mistakes. If you push or manipulate, she won't feel safe in turning to you.\n\nAnd I'll be praying for you as well... :)
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Praying is a good thing then act on your prayer. Cancer is a terrible thing and if I had Cancer, I would be looking for a hundred ways to prevent my body from suffering. I hope you can convince your mother to help herself though the process. \n\nAvocado with Apple Cider Vinegar and Lemon\n\nHere’s a recipe that will make you go to the bathroom in a couple of hours.\n\nPeel 1-2 avocados\nAdd a little sea salt\n3-4 tablespoons of apple cider vinegar (to taste)\n1-2 tablespoons of lemon (to taste)\nMix all together and spread on your favorite crackers\nHave a good time eating\n\n\nYou might want to give her some Chamomile tea, Essiac tea, Kombucha Tea, Ginger Root Tea, and Green tea are ways to soothe her stomach. \n\nI would also have her do the water cure and drink 6-8 glasses of distilled water with a pinch of unrefined Himalayan pink sea salt in distilled water. Also add 12 grains of brown rice to every gallon of distilled water she drinks to give her proper minerals to improve bowel function. Consider a coffee enema to start a stopped bowel function. \n\nConsider giving her a tablespoon of raw unfiltered apple cider vinegar, cinnamon, and honey is carrot juice three times a day.\nIf she can handle a dash of cayenne and or turmeric then even better.\n\nMega Doses of Vitamin C could restore her bowel movement and immune response. Whatever you do, there is no time to waste. Stick with whatever is working abd throw out the rest.\n\nYah bless.
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man, take care of her , be there when she needs you , have patience , try to rise her self-confidence , don`t let her see  your worries and be the supporting shoulder when she needs one. try to talk to the doctor and find out exactly what her status is , there are many forms of cancer that can be treated  and in chase something bad takes place...be there for her...forever...  you`ll have a lifetime to know that you did something well. take care man and hope for the best
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don't underestimate the power of just being there for support for your sister and her family.  Your presence in their lives is likely worth more than you know.
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Tell her that there are over 100 alternative cures for cancer, which her doctor is not allowed to talk about, even if he knows about them.\nThen do some research, find the right one for your mother, and help her to get the cure that she deserves.\n\nYou can start your research on my web page at\n\nCancer\nhttp://dgwa1.fortunecity.com/body/cancer.html
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My heart goes out to you and your sister.  People DO survive lung cancer.  Taking chemo is a tough decision to make, it can destroy the quality time you may have left IF  hers is NOT in a curable stage.  Most doctors WILL give honest answers IF the patients ASK:  Is my cancer curable?  What are my chances of surviving with surgery only?  What are my chances of surviving WITH and WITHOUT chemo? Or  WITH and WITHOUT radiation?\nShe might need you to go with her to ask these questions, (I encourage you to WRITE DOWN your questions, and let the doctor SEE you have a list of questions...) for the support, and so you can reaffirm what she was told.   An amazing number of people are unable to clearly remember and process the info they are given when the disease is life-threatening.  If you were with her, and later she can't quite recall the information, you could gentley help her work through the answers.\n Encourage her to get second opinions if she feels she needs more information.  Not EVERY form of cancer, not EVERY patient is good candidate for chemo.  Chemo can often cause more life ravaging consequences than the cancer itself.  I can understand her hesitancy in NOT jumping into chemotherapy.  Please do not let anyone make her feel like a "quitter" or guilty for NOT choosing chemo IF HERS IS not curable.  Perhaps she will choose to focus her fight on maintaining her dignity, independence, and quality of life as long as she is able to- IF HERS IS NOT IN A CURABLE STAGE.  \nSometimes radiation and other cancer treatments are given as a palliative measure, meaning it will not CURE the cancer, but hopefully if can keep the tumors from causing decreasing function of of organs in the chest, or from causing increased pain.\nIf it IS treatable, and if it IS a stage of cancer that will repond to surgery, chemo, and radiation, etc, it may make it easier for her to bear the treatments if she knows she DOES have a chance to survive.  She has a right to that information about her own particular stage of cancer before she makes the choice. Take care, I wish you both well.
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Hi. I am an oncology nurse experienced with breast cancer. Congratulate your mother on catching her breast cancer. It sounds like she caught it early. It is ok to be scared. The best way to deal with this is to find out all you can about your mom's diagnosis and what her plan of care is. Many of the treatments can have some side effects, which are normal. Your mom should find out about them and be prepared for what to expect. Half the battle of cancer is in the mind. She needs you and your dad to be concerned but also keep a positive attitude. Your mom will be tired during her treatment. You and your dad can help by doing little things like the laundry, cooking and helping around the house so she won't be stressed about that. Also many patients who get chemo like to have a friend or family member there during their transfusion. Offer to be there. Cancer is not easy but what it can do is really remind you how much you love each other. Just be there, tell your mom you love her and ask her what she needs. Also be nice to your dad. This is sometimes harder for the guys even if they don't show it. Good luck and God bless <><
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I feel for you.  You really care about your sister and are doing your best for her.  Keep trying.  Don't give up.  Sometimes things are just beyond your control.  When that happens all you can do is keep swimming and call for help.  Pray if you want.
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make sure she is as comfortable as possible. i know its hard but you have to. be her support system. if she needs to cry be her shoulder if she needs to yell just listen and dont yell back. most of the time they are not angry with you.make sure she gets the treatments she needs and the meds she needs. if you miss an appointment reschedule as soon as possible. some people with cancer handle the problem differently she may laugh it off but remember thats her way of dealing with it. dont get angry and say things you dont mean. you are a good person for staying by her side. make the time you have with her as good as possible. play cards read books schedule movie nights. i will pray for you and your mother. i am so sorry this is happening to your family.
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Has she had a PET scan to try and find the primary cancer? If she has bone cancer that has spread from an unknown primary cancer then this is not a good situation. She has been given the radiation for palliative pain control in her bones and not as a curative treatment. Make sure her pain is treated properly as it will probably increase over time. Perhaps it is time to contact hospice or make other preparations to take care of your mother. \n\nHere is a good webpage about cancer of unknown primary so that you can better ask questions about treatment options of your mother's Drs. Make sure you have realistic expectations because there is no reason to make her sick from chemotherapy if the treatment will not produce remission or extend life span.  good luck\n\nhttp://www.emedicine.com/med/topic1463.htm