Should I have his child?
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I agree with "thinking ahead."  And I think you would agree that you've not known each other long enough to get past the "in love" infatuation stage to make the life-long commitment that being parents brings, to say nothing of whether you will get/remain married.\n\nThis is obviously an important issue to discuss, but wait to see if marriage and children emerge out of a strong, loving committed relationship rather than using the relationship to (perhaps) aritifically create a marriage and family that will not last but the responsibilities and consequences of which will be with you for the rest of you life.\n\np.s. You are not selfish for not being sure of wanting to be a parent at this time in your life.  There are more parents who should not be than non-parents who should be! :-)
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If you are comfortable with doing that then do it, but I would get a lawyer involved to make sure that you can see your children and get it in writing. They will always know you as their dad and im sure you love them alot, and they are just lucky enough to have another man that loves them just as much as you do.
1008802
Well,maybe some time (sooner or later),he will change his mind.If he doesn't,why don't you get married and adopt a kid.It's human and he will have kids.
79653
Just because he wants to be with his baby doesn't mean he wants to be with the Mother.  You should first determine what it is that he really wants before you make a decision.\n\n*If he only wants the baby, visitaion rights can be obtained.
401309
Let him go.  YOu don't need someone like that in your life.  You need a man who will help you out and cheer you up not bring you down.  You can do better for yourself and your child.
767362
Just let things take their natural course, and you'll be surprised!\nLet him come after you, after you have the baby, it is quite likely he will. Just let it happen. Relax and good luck with your baby.
34506
you should gives important reasons to have custody of him, also see if you have time and money to do so.
579447
He is not worth your time. Leave him and don't give up or kill your innocent baby, who by the way didn't ask to be brought into this world. You need to stop being so selfish and make arrangements so that this baby will have a loving family. You can raise this baby alone, a lot of women do it every day. can't you see he is using you, he like the sex but he don't want the responsibility of raising a baby HE help make. God has put someone on this world for everyone, he will find you and love you with or without a baby.
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Sure, as long as his reproductive organs were not harmed and he is fertile, reproduction should be no problem. Don't worry about being his biologival child, what matters is that everything is okay now.
198257
From a Christian point of view, I have to say no, because it is sin.  However, if you are not a Christian, then this is not a factor.  So weigh the pros and cons.  Do you love the person?  Are you willing to spend the rest of your life with this person if you end up having a baby together?  \n\nWhat ever you decide to do, always be safe.  Practice safer sex, and after marriage, you should wait for a couple of years to make babies.  Take time to enjoy each other before you bring another person into your new family.
587446
Oh, honey! This man means you no good at all. You need to ask yourself, do I want my child to be raised up by this man who I know in my heart wishes that this child of mine was never born? You baby needs to be brought up in a Loving stable, and supporting environment. Always do what is best for your child, because they depend on you, and they are the ones that need you the most!! cut him loose. For the marriage thing, he could have had all of that taken care of by now if he really wanted to! Please believe me I went through something very similar! keep your head up, and raise your baby the right way with lots of Love! It will take a minute to get over him. It took me awhile, so I do know! Have him court ordered to pay support, that will help you out with medical bills, and all other things that your child needs! I wish you, and your child the very best!! You can do it!! I did!!
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get a lawyer. i think you could win with his past history and her being a baby girl.
441223
Just listen to his advise...consider it..and make your own decision. His ideas may actually be good. Ask him nicely to please watch his language in front of the child.
164943
You are poor girl,you know that he has a gf and she is pregnant and will give him his baby..what is your place between them? I think he is just using you for his desires
174995
Do you really want a man that will turn his back on his unborn child, let alone a man that supposedly is in a relationship with you that goes out getting his so called close friends pregnant. Wake up Sister...dump the creep. You deserve better.
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Leave him, go have a pregnancy test done and be checked out for STDS. He is obviously not trustworthy to have done something so sneaky. It is your choice if you want to have a baby not his. If he wants a child and you are not willing or ready to have one, he should either accept it or find someone that wants a family. Not try to force one on you.\n\n************************************************************\nAs for the abortion and adoption issue brought up in previous answers, Think it through well and make an educated decision. Even though you were tricked into a pregnancy it doesn't change the fact that it would be your baby growing inside of you and you would have to live with your choice for the rest of your life. There is no taking it back...once you abort the baby is dead a nd gone forever, and once you give your child to someone else it is their child. You could also consider giving the child to the father, since he obviously wanted a baby so badly, but only do so if he is secure and stable enough to raise and love the baby.
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First off forget about hurting yourself. You and your then bf made this child out of love, it has a right to be born and raised. It sounds like he at least wants to be there to hlep you raise the child and that's more than what a lot of girls get most have the guy just run off. You do however have to inform your parents, but before you do, the two of you need to talk it outnad figure out the plan for this new little one. The first thing the parents will ask is what are your plans.\n\nYou two may not have been thinking when you made this child, but for it's sake now you must think about a plan. The guy may never come back to you, sounds like he wasn't ready for a commited relationship. Be fully preparred to raise this child as a single parent and if he plans to marry you later than that's fine, but if you expect it you are just going to get hurt.