i love my boyfriend but how do i dump him without hurting him too badly?
814917
If you love him then why dump him???
431508
If you are about to dump your boyfriend, then make sure before you do it you work out WHY you are doing it.\nMake sure you pick the right time to do it - if his favourite pet dog has just died, give it a couple of days!\nTry to be tactful and to the point - the key here is to do it in private - never, ever dump someone in front of their friends or family.\nTake some quiet time, be sympathetic, and explain gently your reasoning.\nMake sure that you aren't talked out of it though - stay firm to your point of view, but in a delicate way.
273601
some things are better left unsaid so just break it off with you'll live in boyfriend and tell him that it's not working out anymore and tell the next guy you made a big mistake but now you know that you only want to be with him and him only
286324
Dump him!!! I know that that my sound extreme but, think about you state of mind. The fact that you love him is secondary, love is not suppose to hurt. Does he love you? I seriously doubt it for if he did he wouldn't be out with his ex, he would be out with you.
877148
Sorry, but the writing is on the wall if you pause to read it: Abandon ship.  Better to accept you've made a mistake now, then try to ignore the rather obvious flaws in your relationship with your guy and get married, only to get a divorce later on.\n\nWhile I am mindful of the fact that only your side of the dispute has been presented here, your boyfriend embarrassing you publicly by ditching you at some sort of gathering, and apparently being un-repentant for that immature display is double trouble.\n\nThe immediate next move is an ultimatum - either treat you with respect, even when you are in disagreement (it is possible to do), or don't let the door slap him in the butt on the way out for the last time. \n\nStand up for yourself.  NEVER, and that means NOT EVER do you allow ANYONE on the face of the earth to demean you.  And even worse, to do so publicly.  That is a cardinal sin in a relationship, and if you can't come to terms with your guy on that issue, you will save yourself much greater grief down the road by dumping the little boy now.\n\nGood luck.\n \nOh, and, if you dump him, keep the rock.......
265065
Dump him and move on to someone who'll respect you and treat you right.
1074876
There is no easy way to do this. I wonder though, if you love him so much, why break up? Consider your reasons and then be straight and honest with him. Then go your own way. Good luck with this.
272578
my god....\nwhy dont u clearly talk to him.\nask him to stop jumping around. he isnt loving u but taking advantage of ur love just keeping u as backup for bad time of his. \nu r a person, u love him, u too get hurted. u too have value. make him realize this. have a serious talk on this.\n\nif he dont love u, then dont let him messup wth u again n again. be clear, it will hurt u but its better than being victim. tell him either he can be wth u totally loyal or just stay away from u. he is confused in his life, he dont know what love n whats value of it. good serious talk can make him undertand this, n if he is really a good person them he will value u or wont hurt u more. otherwise he is crook.\nlove is from both sides, both have to give n take. i can understand u doing him for pure love, but have value for urself. i guess u r treating him very softly n freedom, u r letting him do any thing he wants. he has to realize that u love him so he cant jump around. when its love then its wth just wth 1 person.\n\ni understand u love him, ur heart melts for him n it makes u accept him again n again though he is doing crap. u cant do it forever, talk n decide what he actually want u or anyother.  if he REALLY dont love u then bear wth some pain n keep him away. just give him a option that he come to u only when he is very serious n forever.\nkeep ur door open to him, but dont let him just taking ur advantage. be strict n let him come to u wth a condition that he wont leave u again. be strict, be lil over emotions u can accept him any time becoz u really love him, be proud of it. but be strict to value urself as person. u r not just a thing to play. be strict so it will save u from emotional n mental damage.\n\nwhen he comes to u agian, make sure he got everything clear n he is loyal, he has his mind set on u tatally then accept him.....be happy that u got ur love forever.
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My opinion would be is to try and talk to him and express to him how you feel. Maybe he doesnt even know you feel this way?\nTalk to him and tell him exactly how you feel and if he is not willing to fix the problem then its obvious your in a bad relationship but atleast try to approach the problem before breaking up with him.
288441
leave him- you deserve better
497895
That's no way to be treated.Dump him,you deserve a much nicer guy and who will not be ashamed to talk to you in front of his friends and using you just to make out.
243831
Your best bet it to dump him before he hurts you because of his jealously. No one should control you like that. Also he could have a guilty conplex for something he is doing behind your back.
789379
ok yeyyy, if theres something that happens alot to me, thats getting dumped lol, but at 2 1/2 moths your still in the safe zone of saying you just don't like himt hat way, but honestly if he puts his friends first he probably won't be to heart broken, al you have to do when you break up with a guy is be honest say whats wrong, and then say and because of this, i don't think we should go out anymore, give the problem, then break up, then walk away, he might be stuned for a few min, but then he be glad you where honest..... because honesty is valued, if you leave for a guy admit it, we find out later and it only hurts more, i mentioned that to state honesty to break up with a guy will be the only way to do it, tell him why, and thats the easyest way
700216
Break up and find a different boyfriend.  By staying , you're encouraging him to stay the way he is.
517543
i do.. just try to control ur temper and eat your pride.. if you really love him, you will do this. it really hurts but you have to be strong and take all the consequences of your acts.
647171
OMG...just friggin leave him.  Your a sick, twisted, bi*ch for even thinking this way.  You think you are too good for him when really, he is too good for you.  Are you embarassed of him?  No wonder he complains that you don't love him.  Let him find someone who really does because its certain that you don't.
703133
Let him have real love, and let him go.\n\nYou obviously don't love him enough. He needs something more. Get out so you both don't end up cheated in the end, I'm dead serious.