Possible Husband Abandonment?
822622
think he has a drug problem, and honestly lucky u kept your job and didn't put too much credibility into the move. u may love him but staying with him will only bring u down also  where he is. he won't talk to u because he don't want to be accountable, and he doesn't want help, or changes. he will keep doing the same things, and he is putting your credit in jeprody.this kind of man will always blame others and never take responsibility for any of his actions. there is nothing u can do to make it any different, if u stay with him your hurting yourself, and your son. get out now before it gets even worse. he can't be trusted or helped until he is willing to come clean with whatever it is that's causing this. it is a pattern of behavior with him, loosing job's, not being responsible with money, he will destroy you. u still have your son and your job, be happy for what u do have. odviously his marriage and job's are not really a priority.
657563
Maybe you should continue to stay separated but start "dating" again and work on your issues. Having children in the relationship I feel it could be detrimental to them to have him continually coming and going into the home. I would continue being involved in your church, praying for him and your marriage and continue marriage counselling. If after a few months and giving it 100% there are still no changes in him/willingness from him to work on his issues then I would sit down and seriously contemplate if this situation is right for you and your children. But hopefully with prayer and God in your life you will see some changes. I definitely think baby steps is the way to approach this situation. God be with you.
261408
This guy is full of it.  If he wanted to leave his wife, he would have already done it.  It sounds more like they are in an open relationship and just aren't telling anyone.  Plus why would you want to be with someone who was so needy that they have to find someone before they are willing to leave someone else.  Come on, if a person is that scared to be alone, they have some serious problems that you don't want to have to deal with.
221644
If he's ignoring ou maybe he's decided that he loves his wife. You know, felt marital obligation, that kind of thing. Just you know......move on. Your not in love with him right?
279374
Well ive never been threw it but ill be more then happy to give you my 2 cents with out calling you a slut, i think part of it is your husbands fault for not making sure you have what you need, now i know alot of people are going to scream for me saying that but its the truth, in a marriage part of our job is doing everything possible to make sure our partner is getting everything we need from them emotionally or sexually. Thats just the way it works for a healthy marriage, The only bit of advice i could give you not being actually in that situation is to eather pick on or the other, i can see you feeling even more torn when your feelings for this other guy are fostered even more and you cant act on it, not to mention the emotional and sexual frustrations that can easily bring. I can understand why you turned to this other man for support you wernt getting at home. But i can only see you hurting yourself in the long run if you dont cut ties with one of them. That is unless you totally dont love your husband anymore and your just in it for everything youve envested on a tangable level that you dont want to lose. But honestly do you think if you bumped this relationship up with this other guy you would be able to continue this double life, i hate to label it that way but thats the only thing i can think of to call it right off the top of my head, but i think you understand where im coming from. You need to set a game plan in your head on where you want to go in life if things with this other guy keep developing, what happens if this guy says ok ill chuck my marriage will you chuck yours? what if he talks about you guys meeting and making a full flaired affair? What if your husband finds out about whats going on how will you respond? How will your husband? Im not saying i know what you should do or what you need to do, but if i were you i would get a clear picture of what i wanted from your husband or from this other guy. Do you think there would be a possiblity you would be more happy in your marriage if your husband started to work with you on your problems with the marriage? Do you think there is any hope for you marriage now? Do you think your husband is doing the same thing you are on some sort of level? IF he was how do you feel about it? I think you need to ask yourself these kinds of questions and in deep deep detail figure out what you want to do, i dont think anyone in here can really answer those kinds of questions and give you any much more of a clear picture then you seriously thinking about this i wish you all of luck and i really hope you get something figured out on this *HUGS*
767848
look for another husband....apparently he is looking for someone that is not you.  Which means he is not happy with your relationship.
1106407
Leaving your husband over landlord problems? that seems pretty petty to just walk out on your husband and marriage. You could really be having much bigger problems than that in your marraige.\n\nWhy don't you pick up the phone and call your landlord and say "Hey, Take of these issues we are having." You are completely capable of doing that yourself.\n\nYou also need to sit him down and talk to him and if he gets up tell him no, that you two need to talk. Because sometimes us guys don't really see that there are issues and he is thinking that this phaze will pass, of you wanting to leave. Also ask him what's bothering him that he turns it into and arguement and also isn't trying to maintain your home. He could be having issues also with something.
194326
The usual signs: avoiding you, acting suspicious, being secretive, lieing.  Ask your mte about it.  He will probably want to come claen with you.  My husband always does.  He is relieved after i find out.
219239
would you get over it if your husband left you for some tramp? I don't think so its not that easy. Give Jen a break. Stuff like that takes time.
331209
Was this an "arranged" marriage by chance? Are you married to someone you don't really know or love? Sounds like it might be that way if you don't know what to talk to your own husband about...especially since you're just married! If you're having an issue and don't know how to approach your husband then I wonder why you married someone like that in the first place..unless of course it wasn't your decision...I can't quite tell from the way you phrased your question...
556851
Oh sweety, told you told you told you?? You can't believe all this. You should have told him from the second he said he was leaving "ok, i'll be here for you once you get everything sorted out." He might leave his wife, but my gut like urs is saying he's a lier and he's not planning on leaving his wife. When the week is up, his time is up too.
457406
call a laywer and ask for sure but i'd think so... i mean, if you pick up and leave they can't legally proove that you weren't spoused to.
333268
I think you are HO. I read your other posts...um did you leave your husband yet??? Is the divorce final??? Because you are asking how to screw all of these random guys and are you still married????? Considering you asked if you should leave your husband only 2 weeks ago it would seem you are sTILL married. THat makes you a cheating HO.Maybe you should worry more about your 5 year old kid instead of screwing random guys and worrying about booty calls all the time. Straighten up your life. Hopefully your husband will find out what a dirty skank you are and leave you before you give him and STD. Keep your legs closed.
889108
the sooner you convince yourself that you refuse to feel agitated over something that has no future anyway, the sooner your broken heart would heal. i suggest whenever you miss him, remind yourself that he left without even saying goodbye to marry some bitch and that you should be mad for that. also, try to focus on the good side of your husband, appreciate what you have instead of wishing  for something that's not yours and would never be yours.
150566
probably better to ask a marriage counselor : ) it could be lots of things, some which are "fixable", some which aren't.
408526
I'm in the same boat as you, I've been with my husband for 5 years and things are getting worse and worse, the happy life we had went down the toilet along time ago and all we do is fight. It's not easy i don't know how to tell him either, but the person I'm seeing makes me feel like I'm worth something, not useless. maybe we can figure out something, my email is under my info
220746
Call a lawer and ask if you can get the divorce on the grounds of abandonment. He doesn't have to be there if you can do that.