can you name an instance where stress has helped you remember.....?
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In emergencies I work better under stress and remember to t do things I thought I had forgotten (i.e. CPR).  Stress interferes when I am given a deadline on a major project at work.\n\nLately I have felt overwhelmed at home, but otherwise happy.\n\nMoods cause us to remember situations in a bad or good light... a mood determines how something is remembered, as well as the expected outcome.
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Try reducing stress dot net.\nI think I saw a related article there.\n( http://www.reducingstress.net )
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Are these memories bad enough to make you willing to try some visualization techniques?\n\nIf they are, here's a description of what I've done personally and with some other people to help with bad memories.\n\nIt is key to remember that we don't want to forget them completely. Total forgetting might let us repeat whatever caused the first bad memory and keep us from learning how to deal these situations. \n\nWe just want to get to the point where we are not feeling these memories all over again like they're brand new and we don't want to spend all our time thinking about not thinking about them.\n\nThe nice thing about these techniques is that even if they don't help, they do no harm, so we don't have to be afraid of trying them. The techniques do not have the side effects of drugs or alcohol.\n\nFirst, mentally lay out the memories you dislike and would like to give less attention to. Treat them like clothes that you would lay out on the bed before putting them away.\n\nTake one memory. Look at it as if it were something you were watching on television.\n\nReach out. Just like your real TV, reach out and turn down the volume. Take the color knob and turn it down until the memory fades to black and white. Now move to the other knob, the one for brightness and contrast. Turn down the brightness and contrast until you can barely see it. Play with it. Up, down, up, down. \n\nNow, leaving the memory black and white and just barely visible, reach out and pick it up and place it behind you, out of sight. It's still there. You can bring it out any time you want to, but you've physically moved it so that it is not blocking your ability to see other things.\n\nDo that for each memory that disturbs you. Make the physical movements. That will help give you "muscle memory" of what you've done, what you've changed, not just "mind memory."\n\nFor good memories, do the same thing only turn UP the volume, the color, the brightness and contrast. Place them to your side where you can easily see them out of the corner of your eye whenever you want to.\n\nThey're YOUR memories and you'd be less than a whole person if you lost them. You just want to pack them away in their right place. Whatever you place in front of you will be seen better than anything else. Whatever you place behind you will only be seen when you pull it out to take a look. You're in control instead of being controlled by.\n\nThis has helped me with memories of death, embarrassment, loss. I've passed it on to others before, physically guiding and encouraging them to make the motions, and they've reported that it has helped them. Try it right now, and tell us what happens.
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Taking a B-complex vitamin is a good remedy for stress/anxiety.  I don't know whether you consider vitamins and supplements "medicating yourself."  I've also found that finding a task/hobby/activity to really concentrate on is helpful -- relieves you of all of that scary free time when your mind can roam to painful memories.  Try origami -- no joke.  It's good because it makes you use your mind and your hands and requires a lot of focus.  Good luck.
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Each of the answers you received have some helpful advice.  One thing that helps  is realizing that, if you are doing the  best you can with the resources you have, no one can ask for more.\n\nIt is important that you also look at what is producing stress outside of work.   How are you dealing with it?   Maybe you could profit from some professional counseling to help sort out what can be resolved and what cannot.  \n\nSelf care is extremely important in time of stress.  Keep you fluids level all day long as well as eating properly.  Get rest and exercise.  Sometimes hitting a body bag will help destress you.  (If you don't have a body bag, working out dancing or walking or jogging or doing housework, etc., will turn on the endorphins in your brain and help you destress.\n\nDebriefing with a trusted friend is another out.\n\nPrayer and meditation helps put everything in perspective.\n\nMy Italian grandmother had a tried and true receipe for sorting out things to stress about and things to let go.  She always asked this question: "What will it matter a hundred years from now?"    For her, family mattered and would continue to matter 100 years from now.  Now all you have to do is use it as a criteria of whether or now whatever you are stressing about will still matter 100 years from now.
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From past experience I could tell you that keeping oneself busy by reading, writing,drawing or any other hobby can indeed take ones head off whatever it is that we want to forget. But the important think to remember here that thinking back to the situation or the experience is not all wrong, it's okay to reminisce on whatever it is that is bothering us and learn from the past so as not to repeat it in the future. If we try too hard not to think of a certain situation we will end up doing nothing but!
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I always found if I put myself in a small room with no other distractions, I could concentrate better.\n\nWrite things down, it helps you remember.\n\nMake up little hints to help you remember lists of facts...for example "my very efficient mother just served us nine pizzas" is a good way to remember the 9 planets.  So you could make up your own little sentence if you had to memorize the supreme court judges or the 5 senses, or whatever.
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Thank you so much for sharing. It was very uplifting, brought tears.  Sometimes we need to be reminded.
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Exercise is wonderful for releasing stress and relaxing....I love to run when I am stressed. Also just taking the time to breathe in and out deeply, can really make a big diffrence in your stress levels. ( try it the next time your are feeling stressed and overwhelmed)
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i have recently started taking STW for stress issues, and i am happy to say that I am feeling much better. there are some great sites all you have to do is google it. good luck
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u can't forget but at least u can learn from it.... \nmaybe it will make u feel better to know that ur not the only one!
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I found a great stress website.\nCheck out ( http://www.reducingstress.net )\nGood luck.
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Proper diet and vitamins can help. There are 'natural herbs' also that help. Go to your health food store and ask. (Guta Kola is one, that helps.) \n Find something to do in your spare time to help you relax (meditate, or lay out under the stars (with someone helps me relax), swim, jog, etc.) if you're forgetful due to stress.   Remember that you must take time for you to relax and have fun because if you don't not only will you be forgetful but also you will become depressed.\n  As for smartness, I'm sure you are already but the forgetfulness is making you doubt yourself. But reading and requoting what you've read will help you strenghten your memory. Remember, our memory is the first to go under stress.Good Luck.
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Good grief, cherish it!!  Don't worry about what might or might not happen!  I think in this stressful, sometimes negative world we dwell too much on the bad days! Good ones happen too!  Tonight, write down why today was so great.  Then next time you have a bad one, look at what you wrote down and remember it with affection!  Life isn't so bad!
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I was in college and walking through the main building that contained the cafeteria. It was completely packed because it was about lunch time. \n\nwas looking absolutely marvelous...topping off my outfit were some incredibly high heels. I was making my way down the stairs when I adjusted my incredibly heavy backpack from one shoulder to the other. As I was doing this the thought was running through my head, "Man Pipsy, you look HOT today!" \n\nHowever, this shift in weight caused me to lose my balance. I went tumbling down about 2 sets of stairs head first and onto the cafeteria floor.\n\nThere was complete silence. People just stopped what they were doing and looked at me. Then people who were on the stairs stopped to help me up, people who were outside apparently saw the commotion though the glass wall and came in to help me, I was mortified!\n\nTo top it off I had to walk through the sea of people to get out, it was the only way.\n\nThat's what I get for thinking I look good and wearing high heels.\nGod has a funny way of knocking you off of your high horse.
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Yeah, it's really hard for me to remember how good things are unless I've had something bad going on.  My son has had kidney stones for several days now.  At one point yesterday he was celebrating not being in acute pain.  To answer the question, not often enough.  Thanks for the reminder.
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Well for starts you get away from what is causing you the stress for a while. You then should do an activity you like which will keep your mind off the stress. But if you can't get away from it  taking a few deep breathes and relaxing ur mind will help a bit.