Is it wrong to want an affair because my wife has small breasts?
818791
i feel your pain. get yourself some big titty porn and knock one out whenever you're feeling the booby urge
103133
Well Mr. "I can't get it up, and its all my wife's fault",  just imagine how disappointed she is in you!!! \n\nSeems to me, you have real sexual and marrital problems. \n\nI've heard of cases like yours in which the man has extreme difficulty performing with a real woman because he has spent so much time being aroused and ejeculating to pornography.  \n\nIn his mind now, women, who are nothing more than sex objects, have to have perfect bodies, like in the pictures to be sexually arousing.   \n\nPlus because he's had so much fake easy pornography sex, he's DISCONNECTED from bonding emotionally with a real woman-- sexually or otherwise.  \n\nThis creates all sorts of sexual problems in his relationships, that manifest themselves in different ways, like blaming lack of erection on the physical appearance of his wife's boobs.  \n\nWith the ease of access and increased use of pornography many psychiatrists, pastors/rabbis, and marriage counselors are reporting a huge spite in patients with your very problem. (check it out)\n\nYou have a couple of choices now.  \n\n1) You could go ahead and change your wife.  Have her get her boobs fixed so that it is pleasing to you, Have her wear sexy lingerie, and promise not to walk around naked in front of you.  \n\nBut what happens if her body changes again?  When she gets pregnant? older? gains weight? loses weight?  \n\nDo you just plan to stop loving her again?  \n\nSex in marriage is most fulfilling because it is an expression of love, dependence, and trust, as well as getting your physical needs met.  Qualities that are not based on physical appearance.  \n\nI'm not minimizing the importance of looking and smelling good for your mate, On the contrary, I believe it is important, I just think in your case its more serious than that.  \n\nSo since I doubt this is the heart of your real problem, getting your wife "fixed" is not going to keep it "up" for you.  \n\nEven with her body perfect, eventually you'll have another erection problem, begin fantasizing about other people and then justify having affairs.  \n\n2) Your second option and the recommended one, is that you  seek counseling to determine the real root of this problem and to resolve it within yourself.  \n\nThis will help save your marriage, and check to see if you are healthy enough to be fulfilling and fulfilled in an intimate relationship.  \n\nRight now you are feeling like you made a mistake getting married or got deceived somehow.  Not only is this most likely faulty thinking, these feelings you have will be detrimental to your marriage.\n\nGo talk to a specialist and get it checked out before you invest a few grand on a boob job.\n\nAlso, make sure you talk to your wife about this.  But a word of caution.  Be very careful about how you approach her with this. \n\nSticks and stones can break your bones, but your words can destroy.
913915
No but it is disrespect full but it doesn't seem like you care very much anyway.  If you want to be with your wife then do not call the girl you had an affair with.
102452
I think your weight is perfect. \n\nYour husband is not fighting fair.  Explain to him that's not acceptable.  Illustrate this by yelling "small penis!" if he does not listen and does it again.\n\nEdited to add that I am glad my husband (and 1st husband) love my curves- of course there are men out there that do!
43663
Nothing wrong with that, Dude!  It's what makes us married guys stay with our wives.  THe better your imagination, the longer you will find your wife attractive :-)  Also can make the "session" over more quickly - allowing you to get more sleep.
1145787
I think that you should never have an affair, for whatever reason. There is a serious sense of mistrust, no loyalty or faithfulness and above all love. How can you say you love someone and be an infidel? Even if you weren't able to "you know", she shouldn't be running around in bed with someone else. That's like you dying and she's being intimate with someone else. You aren't even dead yet. No, I do NOT agree with this. Some woman would say but men do it....but that does not make it right or okay. Wrong is wrong. Cheating is cheating. Work out the problem. Best wishes and take care.
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hahahahahahahahahahahaha\ndo you have a boobie fetish?  That's natural.  It happens more frequently than you would dare to think.\nYou're not out of bounds by wanting to too, but you'd be out of bounds if you tried.  Unless you ask your wife & she's cool with it, then by all means, have fun  :-)
273792
Sure...you see an attractive person of the opposite sex and maybe think about it, but as long as you don't follow through or make any attempt to actually do anything I think it's natural.  As a girl, I personally think guys are much more vulnerable to this type of thinking (maybe vulnerable isn't the best word, but you know what I mean).  Yes, it would be devasting to your wife/gf if she found you having an affair.  But just looking at an attractive person isn't bad.  But don't go off flirting with them or anything like that.  Use that energy on your wife/gf!
500959
I agree with Gill Billy. I've been married for the best part of 14 yrs and looking is a part of life. There is NO way I would ever cheat on my wife however we can walk down the street and have a bit of fun looking. I have had, in the past, invitations to play around and have always enjoyed flirting but never gone any further than that. I love my wife. Would never do anything to jeapordise what we have. I believe its great fun and so does she. Its just something thats a natural part of life to look around...but its personal choice to do or not do anything about it. Maybe I'm just lucky......I dont know. Good luck mate
947072
Your not being stupid at all. If they are small and he is with you then it is yours he likes. I have small ones and I use to worry all the time but my b/f (Now husband of 18 yrs) always said that it was not breast he was with or married.
842322
You are an adult---there is no way your family can force you to stay in the marriage.  If you were only missing sex with your wife, why not give the marriage another try, for your son's sake?  Having an affair was wrong, regardless of the reason.  You should both go to marriage counseling and see if you are willing to work on all your marital problems.  I agree that your wife was dishonest in not telling you about her sexual problems, but if she is truly ready to work on them, it may be worth a shot.  If you are so repulsed by her that you do not want to try, then you should divorce her and move on.  Your family does not live you life, so they should butt out.
954329
You're a good man.  Nothing wrong with you at all.  If you want your wife to feel needed then allow her to do the things she wants to do for you and don't forget to thank her and show her appreciation for it afterwards.
773000
Hai,\nY do u want to keep a relationship secret in the first place? Well if both of them are married to different people ofcourse thats a sin. At times its normal to feel attracted to others ( whn u are married ) but dont let that attraction take u to different directions.I believe its sin cheating ur wife or husband. Its being totally an untrustworthy person !!!! Thats like being a CHEAPO !!!! U would not like if ur wife does that to u right !\nIf u both are not married, then its ur choice to keep it a secret or not and if u both are gonna get married then thats perfectly fine.
396460
It is your body and if you will be happier with a breast reduction than you should absolutely do it.  Your hubby should be supportive of whatever decision you make.
277706
I like it, but my wife doesn't.  It is just one of those things that some people like and some don't.  The good news is that it isn't one of those things that you should make or break your relationship over.
761471
Does she have any unpleasant memories attached to her breasts? Was she molested as a child and touched inappropriately? It could be that you ,her husband, bring back bad memories when you play with her nipples. \n   Does she have pleasant thoughts when you touch them, do they turn her on? \n   Does she feel like an object when you touch them excessively? \n   You might talk to her and let her know that you consider them a beautiful part of her body and that you like to touch them and that in no way does it take away from the feelings that you have for her as a person. \n    Having said THAT... I know someone who does not like oral sex performed on her. She says that it is "too much stimulation" and she cannot relax when it is performed on her. She prefers to be touched there, instead. So perhaps overstimulation (pleasure) of the nipples is a sort of pain for your wife. \nI hope this helps. Good luck.  One last thing--\n    A woman who also abstained from sex before marriage, as did her husband, stated that although she loved her husband very much, and vice versa, the sex did not get good until they had been married TWO years. Somehow things just "clicked" after that. It could be that this, with some advice and counseling, might work itself out.
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no ,it's OK...... as long as your not wandering  through the mall while doing it...lol...no idea why your wife  is  not participating sexually... perhaps  there is some way to work on that too??good luck!