What do I do when my boyfriend has a jerking off problem, so we have less sex.. what should i do or he do?
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Masturbation Frequency:\nhttp://www.jackinworld.com/misc/faqtree1.html#mastfreq\n\nHow often does the average male masturbate?\nIt depends on a lot of factors, the most important being age. For an 18-year-old male, a rough average is once a day or so. This is slightly higher for younger teenagers — maybe 10 or 12 times a week, and slightly lower for older people. You might be surprised by how often adult men masturbate — even happily married men.\n\nI think I'm addicted to masturbation. Is that possible?\nIt is, although many, many people think they're addicted when they're really just doing what comes naturally. For more on this topic, read the article Is Masturbation Addictive?(http://www.jackinworld.com/library/articles/addict.html).\n\nHow can I masturbate less often, or quit altogether?\nIt's tough; it takes a lot of will power. It can be done, especially if you're driven by very strong religious feelings. However, JackinWorld's position is that it's not worth it. We think you should enjoy the harmless pleasures your body can provide.\n\n\nHandJob Technique(s):\nMutual masturbation can be a thrilling experience, but first, we need to study the basics of manual technique. Most men feel women aren't skilled at handling penises. Their grips are too limp, lacking conviction and exuberance. They seem afraid to apply pressure, yet often pull or tug at inappropriate moments, disrupting the rhythm. They also have a tendency to scratch. Clearly, we all need to be more knowledgeable about the proper methods of mutual masturbation. Either you or your partner can perform the following exercises. But it is written with an experienced woman in mind. \n\nThe first concern is always a matter of size. Is it large or small? Somewhere in between? No issue has ever received greater attention than the size of a man's penis. Man's obsession with cock size is probably a mental vestige of his primitive primate past, but as far as human sexuality is concerned, it's a waste of time. A large penis doesn't have any effect on a woman's physical enjoyment unless she has a deep-seated psychological attachment to well-endowed men. \n\nHow about its shape? Is it curved like a boomerang or is it straight like an arrow? Does your fist fit around the spongy mass of the shaft? Does your hand completely engulf it? This is good because you can squeeze it all at once. But don't be an organ grinder. Be gentle, yet firm. If the penis has an unusual girth, your hand may not completely encircle it. In such cases, try both hands to insure you don't miss any of the tender areas while stroking. \n\nExplore every square inch of his genital surface area. A man loves to have his penis worshipped, played with, tickled, fondled, massaged. Let him know that you are not afraid, ashamed or disgusted. Don't start stroking or jerking quite yet. Just feel the fullness of it all. Let your fingers run from the balls to the top of the cock head, swirl around there, then slide back down the other half and end back down at the balls. The movements should be swift and smooth, without bumping or stalling. \n\nNow you're ready for some stepped-up action, but you don't want to suddenly lapse into a series of beatings, whackings, jackings and jerkings. Tease the more sensitive areas of the penis. These include: the glans and corona, and the tender part of the bottom side of his penis. \n\nBring your palm up to the top of the glans and park it there flat out, fingers held together and stiff, thumb pointed straight out. Spin it around as if you were trying desperately to remove the tight lid of a jar. Your man will be groaning in delicious agony. The glans is super sensitive and this motion will bring him exquisite pleasure. He might grimace and cry out, and probably try to push your hand away, but he's loving every second of it. Now's your chance to be the one who plows ahead even though he's pleading w
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He just used you. He didn't want a relationship but rather the sex. \nTake some time to spend with your real friends. Evaluate what you are doing and take their input into account. They do care about you. The final decision in your problem relationship should be up to you though. Don't let well meaning friends ever take away a golden chance at happiness because they're nervous or it's a faux pau to them that it's moving too fast. It's your life.\n    As far as this situation though, dump the jerk and find a man that does appreciate you. Just don't jump right into bed with him. I'm like a pot calling the kettle black but I'll say it anyway. Slow down...evaluate...take the time to be sure of what you're doing.
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Because now that you're together, he thinks your his 'property' and he can do anything sexual, no matter where you are! If you don't like it, tell him to stop. If that doesn't work set ground rules, if he's still ignoring you, dump him! You want a boyfriend not pervert!
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Do NOT listen to this other drivel...Sometimes men, just like women lose some of the intensity of their sex drive for certain periods of time. He could be dealing with issues that you know nothing about...such as stress at work or with family, he could be having some problems with his libido... sit him down and talk to him, you won't find your answer by asking total strangers..only he can satisfy your curiosity. Peace.
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Yes. I've heard from personal stories. Everybody's different. He may be one with low sex drive, or yours higher. Could even be psycological issues, though I don't think that is usually the case. Happy bed time!
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There are 2 things that can be done.  You must first ask yourself a question.  How important are my sexual needs?  Can I live without them?  If you are looking at getting your sexual needs fulfilled and your partner isn't satisfying them, then you need to talk to him/her about them.  If you have been patient and your partner still isn't willing to satisfy them and it's very important to you.  Then break up with him/her.  If you love him/her too much and are willing to sacrifice your satisfying your sexual needs then stay together.
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instead of stopping to have sex, which is such a key element for so many poeple's relationships, you should find out what hurts.  sex should not be painful (but pleasurable).  perhaps if you fix YOUR problem, your relationship will continue to grow - instead of giving your boyfriend a problem.  please see a doctor righta way.
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First, he should wash after sex and use lotion.  Next, some men don't have a high sex drive.  Why do you even bring up cheating on him.  If you really love him this would not even be an option that you'd have thought of.  Yes, you are too young but there are people younger than you married so- give him some space.  Lots of men when they are stressed out have a hard time even thinking about sex.  Communicate!!!!!
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So tell me one thing? Why is this your problem? He's your ex for a reason. Whether he got bored with you, or you got bored with him being bored all the time, this is still his problem. Let him handle it. Unless you want to jazz up his sex life by showing him all the new things you've learned since he left you (or you left him), I would just change the subject and move on to other things.
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Doesn't sound like you were ready, it hurts if you are not lubricated  or turned on enough, get your boyfriend to concentrate on turning you on more beforehand and perhaps get some KY jelly.\n\nIt does get better, just think the Human Race would have died out before now otherwise !\n\nGood Luck
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I don't think I'd say he finds you less attractive, maybe he is putting more pressure on himself to please you and so is slightly distracted. When under pressure I know I last longer, but as long as my partner enjoys herself the whole experience is amazing. I know that not a lot of men find satisfying their partner the main priority, but if yours is putting in the effort I'd say take it for what it is! He must think a lot of your relationship to put in such effort.
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You obviously haven't had good sex. Just because your boyfriend likes it, doesn't mean he's any good at it.\n\nWithhold sex until he learns how to please you better and then you will enjoy it more.\nAnd make sure that you're into it before you proceed - if you're not turned on or aroused, it will not bring you pleasure. There is surely something ot be said for foreplay.
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This isn't an unusual problem.  Why don't you masturbate in front of him.  1- This shows him what to do/how you like it. 2- It also gets you and him a bit hotter.  I'd also suggest taking as much time as you need to get you ready, taking advantage of all of your sensitive parts.  Let him work on you a bit, then do it yourself a bit.  I'm sure if you keep working at it you will come.
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Give the poor man a break.  Let him rest for a while.  He might be looking at it as a chore and not something so enjoyable any more.  Stress like that can also lower the sperm count.
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I think your man has issues...most of all, it sounds as if he is very insecure about his sexual performance.\n\nOften, when there are problems with sex, there are corresponding problems elsewhere in the relationship. \n\nI would want to ask you, are you happy with your relationship in other ways? If sex if the only area of your relationship that you are not satisfied with, then yes, it is worth giving him another chance. When you talk to him, it will help if you are very reassuring to him. Tell him the two of you are in this together and you would like to help him to work it out.\n\nIf there are other areas in the relationship that aren't working, I would say that you seriously need to consider leaving. Sex is not the most important part of a loving relationship. But if you feel that something is missing, you will be unhappy unless you resolve it one way or another. And that won't help you or your man.\n\nHope this helps and wishing you good luck.
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Turn your girlfriendon. I don't believe in women with low sex drive, I only beleive in good and bad lovers. No offense meant, but maybe you still haven't got a clue what makes her hot. There's nothing but practise, man. In the meanwhile, take matters in your own hands.
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I suggest sitting down and talking to her about it candidly. Try new things, buy her a new "toy", something sexy to wear to bed, a little porn (it works, for either arousal or a giggle sometimes, I swear) a makeover day...Chances are she's not sure how to change the same issue you're not sure of either. You both probably need a change, try something you never thought you would, and I bet the spice comes right back!..GL;)