How do I tell my husband that his getting up to eat most nights is disturbing my sleep? He could get upset?
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Put a cot next to the fridge.
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Take him to see "Fast Food Nation".  I used to be an adamant fan of fast food restaurants, but have cut back significantly on dining out in the past 6 months.  My excuse was that I was too lazy or tired to pre-plan meals, so fast food seemed to be the easiest quick fix.  If you like to cook, try to begin planning meals ahead of time, and ask your hubby input on his favorite foods.  Once you begin cooking, you might cook 1x week and slowly build up to eating at home more often.   Once he gets a taste of your home cookin, he will crave your yummy (healthier!) dishes more often and will want Mickey D's less often.  Plus, you will glow from all the praise:)  If you hate cooking, just try to get healthier take-out and like I said before, GO SEE fast food nation!!!  It's eye-opening and you will get to see a whole 'nother side to Big Macs and Mcnuggets.  A pretty nasty one.  Good luck!!
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What's your favorite food? Something that no matter when you see it on a menue, or have a chance to make it at home, you know you'd be in the mood for it?\n\nNow imagine if for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, every day, you could eat nothing else. You'd start to miss the other foods, and no matter how much you love your favorite meal, you need to eat other things to stay healthy and appreciate when you do get to have it.\n\nTalk to him. Try to find a balance. Try to set a twice or three times weekly family night, for games, movies, outings, or anything else to spend time as a family, but also let him have his time to keep his relationships with friends. He needs both to be happy, and if you can arrange it so that he still has his football nights, but also has family time scheduled, he can still have the best of both.\n\nI suggest a non-rigid schedule, one day of the weekend, two weeknights that can be moved around based on his friends schedules so that no one is trying to control the other's time. Also, see if he'll spend a night each week alone with her, while you go enjoy some time with YOUR friends. If you do that, it will help you understand why he needs his family time and friend time to relax. Plus, it will get a little stress off of your shoulders.
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Replace your comfort food with veggies, fruits or poultry  that you have ready in your fridge for times like that.\nThat helps me and my hubby a lot a lot:) sometimes we all want  to eat 'something' make that something available immediately be something that is good for you.:)
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no its not a bad thing to make him cry that means hes human and is not a hard core asshole. maybe it was that you were quiet and your usually not that shocked him or it was that you told him that he has you forever and always men are so hard to read i have been married for 9 years and i can honestly say he says that i am ignoring him but i not his thing is he thinks i am pissed off all the time and i'm not i have 3 kids so when they go to bed i am done talking. i think your ok and just be open and honest with him and you guys should be fine
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Your first option is to ask him.  Make sure you don't do it as an attack, or he'll probably cover it up.  Also, if you do it as an attack, and he isn't cheating, then he'll feel resentful and feel like any trust you two had, is gone.  Another option is to ask a friend {or PI} to watch your husband for a while.  Call him at work to see if he's there, find out what he's doing if he's "working extra hours"  Check emails, internet history, phone calls in and out, and so on.  Don't be afraid to pop in at lunch to surprise him with a home cooked meal.  This will give you extra time with him, make him feel special, and also thwart plans if he's trying to cheat.  Also, see if there are people that are with him often, that you feel you could get an honest answer from.  But honestly, I think asking him first, in a very soft and subtle tone, is your best bet.  But remember, never ask a question you can't handle any answer too.  I don't mean don't get angry or mad, but make sure you're at a place with yourself that you can hear what he has to say to you, no matter what his answer is.  I wish you all the best, insecurities, whether real or not, always hurt.
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Honey, you are a normal military wife!!  My husband just returned from a 1 year tour in Iraq and I am still trying to catch up on sleep.  There will not be a minute that passes that you will not wonder what he is doing, what he is thinking, where he is, is he asleep, is he eating, has he had a shower?  All these things will run through your mind every day until he is home safe in your arms.\nYou need to stay as busy as possible, it really does help to pass the time.  I started going back to school and those 2 days a week taking classes and raising a teenager really helped me a lot.  Also I went to Hobby Lobby and bought a scrapbook (my husband is Army, they have all military branches) and started from boot camp, then to AIT and so on and every time he is deployed that is my project I work on his scrapbook.  He has no idea I have it, so when he retires that will be my gift to him!  \nAnd last always keep someone on close that you can call on day or night, because you never know when you will need a shoulder to cry on.  If you live on a military post you should have no trouble finding anyone who is in the same shoes you are in.  Last summer when all of our husbands where deployed there where 6 of us wives and we were always there for one another day or night.\nI hope this helps you.  And just hang in there, he will be home before you know it.\nGod bless you and your husband
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Hey I'm in the same boat, but this is what I'm going to try this weekend. I'm going to sit my husband down face to face without t.v. therefore he can really see how serious I am. I'm going to lay everything out, let him know exactly everything in which i do daily, weekly, and monthly. Let him know how tired, and worn out I am. Ask him to put his feet in my shoes and tell me would he be able to do everything I do on his own. Then I am going to ask for one or two hands of his help regularly, and permanently not just temporary to make me happy.
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i think that there is nothing wrong with expecting him to stop.  i suffer with the same problem.  and it IS a trust issue.  especially when they say they will stop.  i find my husband to be more aggressive in bed since the start of it.  it does effect me.   though i may not have an answer for you, i would like to give you some peace of mind that you are not alone.  and i do not think you deserve to feel the way you do.  marriage should be based on respect!  there isn't an excuse for it.  its dirty and i do not think that you are over-reacting.  so don't pay any attention to the negative feed-back telling you that you are and that you should just accept that your marriage isn't everything that you want it to be.  it can be but you BOTH have to be willing to work at it.  maybe talk to him about why he feels he needs to do it.  and meet him half way.  i hope that helps you!!  be positive.  you are deserving of so much!
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Your husband needs to grow up and be more considerate. If you are doing the chores, you dictate the indoor temperature. If you get too warm, you'll become fatigued more quickly and perhaps dehydrated. \n\nSounds like you're stuck with an inconsiderate jerk who probably has an online addiction.
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yeah....its gross\nwell my husband is worst of all\nhe make moaning noises when he eats after not eating in a while..it sickens me...is the food that much a turn on that he has to make sex sounds while eating?!..i don't even think that he is aware that he is doing this..i should video tape him!! hidden camera style..then maybe he will get the hint!!! then he'll be more conscience -when he eats- of the sounds that he makes..which should be NONE!!
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First, you really need to stop nagging him.  He probably got a lot of that when he was a kid and all you are doing is re-enforcing his bad eating habits from youth.  He is doing the comfort food thing.  You are not showing him love and acceptance.  \n\nIt is difficult. I understand how  you feel.  I also understand how he is feeling and how difficult it is for  him.  No body wants to deprive themselves.  Being hungry is no fun.  It is like a punishment.  So creative eating is the answer.  It can be done.  He doesn't really need to exercise if he will eat as much as he wants of specific foods and leave other foods alone.\n\nHe would probably lose weight if he would choose to give up only one food.  Bread.  Or beer.  It is one step at a time.  You can give it up too.  Just don't buy it.  Try to make meals that don't have simple carbs on the plate.  Don't buy cold cereals.  Better to eat a high protein breakfast.  Even for the kids. Brain food.  Serve fish often. Salmon.  You can get it frozen from the Schwans truck, that way you don't have to go to the store all the time for it. Serve him large portions of food,  so he is full.  Don't cook the veggies all the way.  This way his body has to work harder to break them down.  No potatoes if you can get away with it.  If not, red.  They have less starch.  Small portions.  LOTS of the other stuff.  He can have 6 pieces of chicken as long as he doesn't have any carbs.\n\nCold slaw from KFC, add more cabbage to it.  El Polo Loco Chicken has good tasty chicken and a great green salad with little corn chips.  Legal for him.  No beans no rice.  No tortillas.  Any meat that is grilled is ok.  It is the bread that is bad.  Simple carbs turn to sugar right away.  Just explain it to him.  Or get him a book on the subject if he likes to read, he will pick it up.  \n\nGo back to loving him as you did before his weight concerned you.  Take showers together.  Make him realize you are the love of his life and he is yours.  His weight will get in the way.  He will figure it out.\n\nThere are a couple of ways to go here.  One is Atkins with some revisions to keep it healthy.  Make sure you eat a lot of fish and make sure you take a Multi Vit and an Omeg 3 for good health. Or do the vit's and look at Susanne Summers diet.  I prefer Atkins.  I like meat.  Trust me you can do it healthy.  \n\nFruit is something you have to give up in the beginning with Atkins.  But as my Mother use to say.  You should always eat your fruit in the morning on an empty stomach 30 minutes before you eat anything else.  Fruit digests very quickly.  Then eat a high protein breakfast to sustain you for the morning hours.   \n\nGood luck.
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I feel your pain, my husband thinks of sleeping as the greatest hobby. But over the years, I have just come to accept that it is one of his qwirks, and even though it bugs me, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love me, it just means he likes to sleep.
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most likely he was raised  thinking it is normal to  talk about these things... ...... they say for better or worse... welcome to worse....lol... well you can tactfully tell him, that you are uncomfortable discussing these details, and if that don't work,  when you get your menses , give him a play by play.. that will  hopefully  wake him up...
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Wait til he goes to sleep and make all the noise you can..If he says something, say "how's it feel..now you know what I go through"
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Calmy approach him and let him know that it makes you uncomfortable to hear him speak that way.  Ensure him that in no way are you trying to control his mouth, nor do you want to take away his feedom of speech.  Just let him know that his behavior is having a negative effect on your mood and you're afraid that such negativity may affect your relationship with him.  If he accepts your words and makes a conscious effort to change--and remember, it's not going to happen over night--then I'm sure you guys will be fine.  If not, however, then maybe "Mr. Potty-mouth" isn't the man for you.
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Let them sleep....the body has it's own clock and will wake your son when it needs food. Forced feeding will only lead to obesity. Make sure that he has food available. I mean, don't punish him by making him wait if he has slept through a meal. You might look into the possibility that he has "night owl syndrome". My son does and if I had known there was such a thing during his school years he probably would not have had to deal with the taunting from his teachers and classmates. If you are concerned about his health, maybe it is time for a trip to the doctor.