I am 5 months pregnant with my second child and me and my husband have been fighting since conception.?
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CHARITY \nL:ook it up in the bible and have him read it with you. Make it a rule in your home that you both will start using charity. You would be amazed how humbling it is. Good luck
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I think you both need to have a long talk and find out where you both stand.  Maybe a counselor will help you talk out your problems so you can find out what he means.  In the meantime, I wouldn't consider getting pregnant until you both feel the timing is right.  It sounds like your husband has some issues and adding another baby to the family before you have worked through his issues isn't fair to you or  the future child.\n\nGood luck!
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As long as u have visitation, he can't do anything, but be mad. I don't like divorce, but when it happens I feel as though if the parents are doing all they can for the sake of their child(ren, then it works out. Your husband should realize this. Working two jobs is rough, I should know I did it for two years and trying to find time to spend with your kids is as well. I commend you for your efforts, but be careful don't give him a reason to take your rights away. I've seen it because of this and it hurts the kids not the adults in the long run. If u need too go back to the courts and see if you and your husband can come to an agreement to kind of lower your payments to him for the kids so that you can spend more time with them. Explain that because of the child support you have to work 2 jobs and this is putting not only a strain on you, but your relationship with your kids. I would think this would be a sympathic plea and someone would hear you. It's just a thought. I pray things work out for you it sounds like u are going to need it.
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I'm sorry for your pain. Maybe if you quit trying so hard you will become pregnant. You haven't wasted your life. You have been a good wife to your husband. K
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Hello, I'm sorry things are so rough for you right now.  You must still be very young since you've been married almost 3 years.  No matter how far down the wrong road you go, it is never too far to turn around!  Remember that.  What you should do, take good care of yourself.  If you are so miserable, you are crying yourself to sleep half the time, and your husband is mean and hateful, and lacks responsibility for your son, you are going to have to pull yourself together so you can get out of this situation.  \n\nNow you are married so you can't just walk away.  You have a child with this man and you are legally bound to him through marriage.  You could try some marriage counseling, or if your husband refuses, go to counseling alone- for yourself.  The counseling will help you learn how to mend your marriage or help you with the courage you will need to file for divorce and give you the emotional support you need while you make these changes in your life.\n\nForget about your ex! Right now you need to focus on yourself, your situation, and what YOU are going to do about it.  After you get that figured out, don't forget, you have a very young child of your own that you must put before any other relationship.  Your baby is counting on you for that, and he deserves your full efforts.\n\nGood luck and best wishes.  \n\nS
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I am pro-choice too but if it's not your choice then it's not the same. You can't let him make you feel pushed into this. It's a big decision. OK there's a risk that it will be still born of miscarry. But if there is any chance that you will have a perfectly healthy baby then You should do what you feel in your heart is right. Sit him down and explain how you feel and maybe he'll see where your coming from. You need top think about yourself and that little child inside you. If you do abort it, you'll always be wondering if it might have been OK.After all you have already got one perfectly healthy child, who's to say you can't have another? Just don't make any rash decisions. There's too much at stake.
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You've had 4 abortions?? I really hope that's not true. \nI hope that when you actually try to have children you struggle with it. 4 abortions is just sick--why didn't you consider giving them up for adoption? I can understand when there's one abortion---but 4? What was wrong with birth control or protection?\nMy husband and I have been trying to have another child for 2 years now--we'd give anything to have another one. And there are so many other families just like ours. You've thrown 4 away? That's not right! You should feel terrible about your decisions!
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They say when you truly love someone you would give up your life for them. and from what i see it seems that is exactly what you have done. you have no life of your own it is all about his life and no advice can help you you have to decide on your own. That does not seem to be your worse problem though you say you are 2 months pregnant? then why does your other question say you are having trouble conceiving
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Don't do it again.  If you believe it to be sin, then I don't think you can ask for forgiveness beforehand.  I personally don't think it works that way.  Tell your husband you will give the child up for adoption.  If he tries to force you into another abortion, you should leave him.  There is no excuse for that.\n\nOh, and get some birth control, for crying out loud!  (and don't say you don't believe in it, you wouldn't have had the abortion if you were that serious about it.)
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Ooh...what a mess! Ok, first, should have waited a little longer to cohabitate. Now that makes it hard on you, your boyfriend and your son. All things in due time, my dear. Next, I do have some good news here...you'll probably always love your son's father in some small way because he shared with you an experience no one else has, which is creating your child together. This will change with more time, though I can't say if your feelings for your boyfriend will change. I loved my ex dearly but he wasn't in love with me. He accidentally got me pregnant and we both decided it was for the best for me to have an abortion. We're still great friends ever since we broke up, but that will always tie us together, even though no one else knows what truly bonded us. It took me time but I didn't move on until I was really ready and it sounds like you did. You're also really young and you already have a child so a lot of this could stem from those early 20's feelings of newfound independence and sowing wild oats. Only you can decide. Take some time for yourself and figure out what it is you really want. Once you clear your head, you might realize you do love this man, or you might soundly be able to declare to yourself that you don't. Remember that love takes time to build and establish, and you haven't been with this new guy for too terribly long. Whatever you decide, best of luck to you.
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looks like you know whats going on. the question is, what are you going to do about it? your husband is playin you, and you need to confront him, dont let him feed you those obvious lies. he should respect you and his unborn child enough to at least be honest with you. if he doesnt want to be with you, he needs to make that known.
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Wake up honey.  If he wanted to be with you, he would have NEVER gotten his soon to be baby mama pregnant....he would have NEVER cheated on you.\n\nLooks to me like you're willing to settle for left overs and sloppy seconds.  You think you have problems now, just wait until that baby is born.\n\nDon't you think you deserve better?  Girl, kick him to the curb and move on with your life.  You don't need a looser like him in your corner.  Better to loose 2 years than 10 or 15 years in a bad relationship that's never going to go anywhere.  \n\nHe's made his decision.  He got another woman pregnant and is spending more time with her.  Now it's your turn to make a decision.  Cut him loose and move on girl!!
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Steph,\n\nI'm sorry to hear how things are turning out.  Someone earlier said you need to copy & paste this question and send it to him.  Basically I agree.  Marriage takes work - sometimes a lot of work.\n\nI wouldn't pretend to know how your relationship was before the pregnancy, but a lot of marriages struggle when the mad, passionate sex starts to subside.\n\nI think it is time you got these issues out in the open in a non-threatening way - not during a fight.  Many couples deal with similar issues - a pro might be a lot of help.  If that isn't practacle, you might start off by being more up-front with him.  Tell him what is on your mind and ask him to do the same.\n\nYou might be surprised by his answers.   Hopefully, you will both reach a better understanding of each other.  It is sometimes tough for a guy to be "involved" but it is a legitimate need you have and one he needs to work to fulfill.  \n\nHe has needs too, do what you can.  My guess is that he will be more receptive to working to please you if he senses you are making a concerted effort to do the same.\n\nAlso, recognize that you both are under a lot of stress.  Marriage, a new baby, job, etc.  It is a to deal with.  You also need to ask him some hard questions about your weight.  Is his love for you conditional on your appearance?  If so, what happens when you get old?\n\nWell, good luck.\nC
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Get a new attorney and a restraining order or order of protection against your husband. It just takes longer to get a divorce if he is contesting the divorce. Some states make you take marriage counseling first. Good Luck.
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Different states have different laws.  The best thing you can do is contact a lawyer.  In my state most lawyers will answer a question without charge.  Usually the answer is that you need legal assistance.  There are many questions you left unanswered...  Are or were you and the baby's father married; if so, he would most likely have rights.  If his name is on the birth certificate and you are not and have not been married, that does not give him any rights unless you grant them to him.  Another possibility is that if he has parental rights, you can have them terminated under certain circumstances such as no contact or support for over a year.  Like I said earlier, it depends on the laws of your state.  In my state termination of parental rights cost $1,500 four years ago.  You might pursue a protection order if you feel the father is abusive to the baby or yourself.
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take him to court to, get full  custody ,and point out the:\n no support and no contact of several years and now sudden contact. and joint custody becaues you want to move and get married. the baby`s sperm donor is being spitful. and does not want you to have a life of your choice..you can provied a better life for your daughter..
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Your story brings tear to my eyes. Maybe all you can do is emotionally fall apart. You need to grieve, and better now than having collapses when your baby is a toddler and getting on your nerves. It is going to be a whole new life for you, and you have to be prepared for some real suprises from him.  Get you court case ready - be prepared for even worse things - you don't know who your husband really is until you divorce him. Many men fight for custody when it comes time to think about child support - so be "prepared."  HE ALREADY HAS A NICE LITTLE STEP MOTHER THERE AND READY - SO STAY AHEAD OF HIM. Yes life is very cruel that when you are at your most traumatised you have to think about such horrid and practical things - but that is the way of divorce. It is the worst hell you will ever experience. I feel so sick that this is happening to you while you are pregnant and so terribly in need of protection and love. You have to starting thinking about the man you love as an 'opponent' now. It is easy to say but I know that it is a very difficult thing to do. Feelings are what thay are. What you need is to find people out there who will listen to you and let you cry on their shoulder. People are VERY IMPATIENT and they will expect you to get over things very quickly, so have more than one friend to lean on. You have a precious baby on the way and taking care of that baby (alone) will be fill up many spaces because of the overwhelming responsibily. You really have to find compassionate non-condemning, humble friends who can be there for you. You will be poorer - for sure so find some single mothers with babies - because they will be your greatest support system. Your social status has just changed dramatically - and that is one of the most difficult parts of single parentig.  So be "ready." I am sorry that I have very little that is positive to say. Just know that my heart breaks for you.