What is wrong with me?!? Or is it him...?
825923
he gave you a very HONEST answer.. at his age your asking alot from someone out of the gate of life... he is still trying to find his way kind of thing....\n\nnothing wrong with you... nothing wrong with him... just two dif. point of views, beliefs etc... if he had a crystal ball and looked into the future and could see that all is well, he would marry you.. but we don't have that.... it is called faith, stupidity of better fortune, will, belief in the couple... I don't know... but it sounds like he is missing a good opportunity to share his new beginning with someone that will be pulling the rope from the same end as his..\n\nHe needs to understand that whether he makes a decision or not life will continue too move on, married or not, people will live, people will die, he may starve to death married or single... could it be a totall failure.... sure could... could it be a smile on his face when he is 90 years old and in his death bed... yea.... \n\nOne of the most amazing thing that occurs in this world is when two become one and step off into the black hole together... as there is no certantie in anything... that you or him will be alive by the time you read this, nor that your love will last, nor that it will fail... the only failure will be is to let what could be... not....\n\nHe won't become relaxed about any of marriage etc... till about 3 years into it when he realizes... it's not that bad... kind of fun as long as your expectations are in line with reality.\n\nIt amazes me when I see young couples... I ask myself was I ever really that young, that stupid?  And I think... I wish I would have been dumber and just lived... even if I starved in the process.\n\nThe greatest joys happen when we have the least.  That is a rough interpritation of a Chineese proverb...\n\ngood luck, go slow and understand where he is coming from... but you know which course you have too take when it is time... give him a little time... but don't miss life... it's a hell of a ride rich or poor.
775074
It sounds like he has major issues unrelated to you... but you are paying the price. You need to talk to him about this compassionately, but firmly and tell him he needs to treat you with more love and respect. You might be financially dependent on him for now, but you deserve to be treated with respect. You'll be okay if this relationship ends. Do what is right for you and be proactive... don't just sit and wait for him to figure it out. You'll only stay stuck in a bad situation.
482067
Wow that's weird... Maybe he's a wimp and wont tell you his real feelings and you're not taking the hint.\nBut I think you should sit down with him and tell him that's crazy, and ask for the truth..
1033401
Have you emailed him to ask him what's going on? Text and email him both and ask. Tell him that if he's ok and simply doesnt want anything to do with you, to please tell you so you can stop wondering if he's ok. If he is ok, and just couldnt contact you for a while, ask him from now on, to tell you if he's going to be out of touch for a while and/or if he's mad or wants nothing to do with you to say so........the silence is confusing and scary. Explain that.I am sure he is just involved in something and cant get back to you. I'm sure it bothers him too...wondering what you must think!  Good luck!
1051200
You could call him or go to him and say hey do ya think we don't hang out as much? Then go on to ask why. It may bother him too. It sounds like he may be depressed or something is buggin' him. Hope it works out.
791480
Hes confused and lost my dear. Somthing is troubling him, most likely something from his childhood, maybe his parents beat him a little, it could be a number of things. If you love him then you dont hate him, you just hate the way that he is, talk with him, dig a little but take it slow. Find  out whats going on in that brain of his! Good luck, God bless
753606
sounds like he has got a hyper tension dude..... may be it's coz of the relationship too. better speak to him and let him know and get him prepared to meet a counsellor and then arrange it.
1023316
its definitely not u, its jus him and his problems. wenever he doez that, tell him off. let him know that hez hurtin u. nd dont feel bad, i think ur probably an amazing person, jus hanging out with the wrong people
389050
Its all in his action...observe his behaviour...if he acts a bit odd around you...then sumthing is going on.
148875
You should be able to tell him!....if not then something is wrong in your relationship....if he wont listen to you then obviously he isnt right for you or good enough....try to talk to him again....things will turn out ok in the end!..dont worry! :)
212050
I'm not sure what the question is.  He sounds like that there might be more than one thing wrong....I would suggest seeing a neurologist.
888193
You don't mention what the arguments are about.  It sounds like he's trying to control you.  You're getting all tied into knots trying to figure out how to please him.  What is he doing to please you?  He gets things all wrong on purpose dear.  He is making you unsure of yourself, and he's with holding his affection from you.  I don't think I'm wrong about this.  Dump this jerk while you still have some self esteem left.
753937
How long have you been together, and living together?  Did this just start, or has it been an ongoing problem?  I would ask him what's going on and suggest counseling if it's bad enough to start affecting your everyday lives!  Good luck!
931399
It sounds like a normal reaction to me. he'll get over it just be patient good luck.\n\nluv kby xx
540585
I agree with Heather, don't send your boy away. I am sure you think that you have tried everything, and if that is the case, try it again. Have an intervention, get others involved, be their friend, and try to find the root of the problem. You can do this!
501726
not necessarily...he could just be going through something....maybe he's depressed or doesn't know what he wants. give him space and see what happens...
665971
I think he's questioning your intelligence... Or at least how you use your brain.\nHe does it with style!\n\nGoodluck!