Is dating an older man uplifting?
825111
IT WAS FOR ME.  MY FIRST EXPERIENCE WAS WHEN I WAS 18 AND HE WAS 43.  YUMMY!!!    AND I MET THE LOVE OF MY LIFE WHEN I WAS 24 AND HE WAS 44.  I SAY GO FOR IT.\n\nMY ATTRACTION WAS IN THE FACT THAT AN OLDER MAN KNEW EXACTLY WHAT HE WANTED OUT OF LIFE, WAS WORKING TO ACHIEVE THAT GOAL, AND I DIDN'T HAVE TO FINISH "RAISING" HIM.  I FOUND THEM TO BE MUCH MORE SELF-CONFIDENT, SETTLED, AND MATURE THAN THE YOUNGER MAN.  AND THE SEX WASN'T BAD EITHER---THEY WERE MUCH MORE INCLINED IN MAKING SURE THAT I WAS SATISFIED.....THEY WEREN'T SELFISH LIKE YOUNG FELLAS WERE.
657921
Not as long as he's not a minor.  If he's an adult, go for it.  Although it's kinda silly, men mature slower, so you are really just setting yourself up for a relationship that's unbalanced from the beginning.
311589
No! He is hot for an older guy. NOT CALLING HIM OLD.\nLoved him in Dogma.
515067
There is nothing wrong with liking older guys.\nI have always dated older, and I find that they have an equal maturity level to me (Because girls mature mentally faster than boys).\nDon't get too carried away with the older ones though. Never date higher than 4 years older if you're under 18. You're only 13 and they might try to pressure you into something you don't want to rush into. Take your time, and make sure his motives are legit (this goes for ANY guy- no matter age, race, creed, etc.). Just be careful.
124883
there is just one sure way of fining that out,if you are both still alive and still together in 50years time then I guess he is your soul mate.that is the only way.
815950
Congrats. You've made a wise decision.  He can take you anywhere on a date, except bars unless you have a good fake - that will depend on what he is into.  Older men find insecurity annoying.  Mostly I think as men age they are looking for a person to just be themselves because they spent their twenties playing head games with their partners.  After awhile you get sick of the B.S.  The more down to earth you are the better.  If you like him - tell him - be upfront with your feelings - don't play childish games or he will tire of you. Remember to show an interest in what he likes to do - don't be too into yourself.  Also, everyone loves a sense of humour so if you have one let it shine. Good luck.
617528
It sounds like he might be interested. If he's single and he's really a nice guy - just see what happens -- and let it flow naturally. Don't try to force anything. \n\nDon't listen to others who are hung up on the age difference. Age is a state of mind. But do beware that getting into a serious relationship with someone who's older is a little different than someone closer to your age. If you get serious and end up together -- there will come a point where you worry about him being so much older.....just think - when you're 41 - he'll be 60....when you're 51 - he'll be 70.....\n\nGood luck:)
126502
You feel that you love this older woman the question is, is it love or purely obession to something about her. I feel that it could be love. Most younger men are attracted to older women.\n\nIm 32 and I know that when I divorced several years ago I had alot of male friends alot of younger ones. Seemed like the younger ones would find me no matter what. I did date a guy who was 18 at the time and I was 25 it was a beautiful realationship but I knew that he needed to finish college and have a chance at life. He didnt need my life not that my life was bad!! I just was 25 and was divorced with 3 children! But my ex cheated on me all the time and I finally found out and wasnt going to tolerate it!! Anyhow this guy needed to expierence life without me. Shortly after we split up about six months I met another man who I have been married to now for five years!!\n\nAll Im saying is Im sure that she hears what you are saying but is probably not wanting to pursue anything serious cause she wants to give you space and time to live your life. If I can be of any futher help just email. Good Luck and keep us posted.
147936
You may be compatible. But sounds to me he needs some working on. Older men tend to get set in there ways. At the\nbeginning all is going smooth, but things start changing when it gets late in the relationship. It's not you. It's them. At times they have to remind themselves they have a\nlady and they need to tend to her needs. Some have been\nby theirselves for so long til they forgot what it's like to\nbe in a relationship. I had a friend who did the same thing to me. Sit him down and talk to him. Tell him what's on your mind. Tell him how you are feeling about some things. \nthen go grom there.
768366
its normal,i would think its best to date some one who is at least 7years older than you if your thinking about a serious relationship,you wouldn't expect the sort of control and authority from some one your age which you would find from some one older.therefore your its absolutely normal and your on the right track
756982
No. The only thing I have to say to this is you might be passing up some real gems by not dating anyone who isn't at least 5 years older than you. Don't be completely oblivious to them. In fact, I usually look for guys who are a few years older than me as well but I have recently met a fantastic guy who is actually 2 years younger than me! I never thought that would happen!
679629
Not absolutely..The age does not matter if both them feel and understand each other in very good sense.
163078
Not really, but understand that this will not be a permanent relationship.  An older guy should introduce you better things than a guy your age.  Nice restaurants, plays, concerts.  In exhange you are keeping him young.
409184
Heck yeah!!!  All that matters is if the two people are compatable.  Age is just a number.
307561
No, my best male friend is going out with a much older women... They love each other and they might actually get married... As long as your happy, thats all that counts. Heidi
562636
Love at first sight is very possible, age does matter though, I think. I am 25 and I was dating a 21 year old and he was way too immature for me. I also dated a 37 year old and I was way too energetic for him. You need to be with someone that likes most of the same things you do. Men don't have a brain until they are in their late 30's anyway.
352635
Well, I'm 26 and I have a crush on my professor 60! If it's bad for your, then it must be too bad for me, isn't it? :) Sometimes we can not explain why we are attracted by someone. Sometimes I thought that I'm crazy to fall in love with such an old man who worths to be my grandpa! But, i don't know. I can not stop. I do not know it's the right love or not but cannt keep my eyes off him. What I am trying to do now is to be close with him and find out whether we have something in common or not. Is there really a happy "future"? It may be just a first impression! There must be a lot of difference existing that require us to stand back and think! Calm down and take your time. I'm falling in love but still keep myself concious enough to identify the standard moral.\nAnyway, your case can be acceptable. The age gap is not that big.