should i let my niece know that i believe her sisters' spouse is cheating with their 1st cousin?
814919
Mind your own business. What happens happens. You did not make the choices your relatives have made, and it is their harvest they are reaping. IF you stick your nose into it, trust me, the messenger is always killed. Be sympathetic, be kind, be loving, be supportive, but for heaven's sake, don't set them up for an "I told you so" from you..that is exactly what you will be doing. It does not matter one whit who he is playing around with. Some members of your extended family have very little sense (1st cousin...etc), and your blowing the whistle is not going to change things. The 1st cousin will get all that is coming to her soon enough, for this guy will not stop messing around ever. The soon-to-be exwife is the lucky one here..she is escaping.
424515
something is not right here? is this your husbands sister, or is it your brothers wife? because if it is your brothers wife calling your husband! you best watch out, she could be coming to the game to make sure where you are. it is not her place to call your husband. keep your eyes open there maybe be alot more to this than you think. GOOD LUCK!
1082122
shes victimizing you... she shouldnt be putting you in the middle of her problems and that makes her a poor excuse for a friend... what im trying to say is, do you want to be the one who conspires and allows her to cheat on her husband or do god knows what? Think of the husbands feelings in this situation... While you dont want to be the cause of them splitting up you have to know that if you told you wouldnt and couldnt be held responsible, your friend decided to do this to her husband and she should have to face the reprocussions. Do you care about this girl enough to actually lie on her behalf over something that could split them apart? I think its the husbands right to know whats going on, in my case I think I would not tell the husband where she is but if you know his friends or family tip one of them off and possibly they will tell them... its complicated but you cant be incriminated because you didnt tell her husband where she was, you tipped someone off and they told, but i think its the right thing to do in letting the husband know in one form or another that his wife is lying to him and may be doing more... hes a human being and has feelings to, and she is digging her own grave... It was wrong of her to ask for you to lie about her because she is putting you in the middle of their problems and asking you to conceal the fact that she is destroying her marriage. If I was you I would tip someone off and then let them tell the husband,  either way theres nothing you can do to come out of the situation without getting hurt because if the husband figures out that you have been lying to him about something that is ruining his marriage then  hes going to hold you partially responsible... and think would you want to be in that sort of situation as well. would you want your husband to secretely be doing god knows what and you to be completely oblivious to it and how would you feel about it if he asked a friend to lie to you for him? you have to put yourself in the victims shoes, and honestly you both are the victim to her lying ways
479619
This is a trust issue.  Do you trust her?  What makes you so upset that she talks to your cousin?  And he is your cousin.  If you cant trust your girlfriend, you should at least trust your cousin.  Leave this alone, if something does ever go wrong, let her go and be thankful that you found out about her while she was still your girlfriend, and not your wife.
949683
I was actually in this situation. I told my sister that I saw her husband kissing a girl in his work place. She called me a liar and didn't speak to me for a year. She called me to come and get her and her son. She was pregnant and he had run off to California with the same girl I saw him with. So if this person were to tell his sister, he needs to be prepared to take some punishment.
1068760
Ask her about it before you ruin a family with BS allegations.
629221
Tell her how much you love her, a few good memories you both have together doing something as sisters, and how lucky her husband is to have her and if he screws up you'll kick his a$$!  You want to have a good one, but not long, something that drills the point home.  Make the husband feel welcome to the family though, because if not, it really affects your relationship with her...
1046117
yea he is... but don't tell your niece... him being alive is kind of a secret for a little while. (In the movie, he first "dies"). So I wouldn't really blow it for her.
341150
Dont get into it then.  Dont give them her number if he was not married to her when he got the loan.  Just say hey I havent spoken to my brother in five years so when you find him say hi for me.  Thats all.
648380
Is that not for your cousin to worry about,,don't get involved in your cousins crap!!!!!!!!!!!
967624
tell her that you only have fun once in your life that you want to see your cousins tell her to stop hattin' on people that life is short she does't wast any regrets and her sister wouldn't like it either.
1157927
Well, first of all!! Your Step-Sister is closer to you than your cousin but then you think that your step-sister is playing your cousin!! So, if something do happen, hopefully not!! but you need to stay on your cousin's side because, as you say, he loves her very much but you think  that she is playing him!! so just stay on your cousin's side!! iight, hope I helped you!! peace!!!!
76252
Talk it over with her. You have to. She is family. You both need to solve this.
515785
There are only two things that you can do...wish them well and walk away. She is not worth your cousin. Family is forever and she is anything but..........
414016
It sounds like your niece has been pretty upfront with you. Most kids wouldn't tell an adult relative that they are sexually active. It sounds like maybe there are some trust and respect issues in the relationship you have with your niece. Trying to force information out of her will only make her pull away more and force her to tell bigger lies. You need to sit down and have a conversation with her in a relaxed, comfortable setting...maybe go for a walk, or over a cup of tea at home. Tell her that you know she is sexually active and that it meant a lot to you that she was upfront with you about that. Let her know you won't judge her and she won't be punished for coming to you when she needs to. Tell her you love her as your own and want her to be comfortable coming to you about anything. There's nothing wrong with telling her you had hoped she would wait longer before becoming sexually active, but because she is and you know realisticlly it is her choice and you don't have control over it, that you want to make sure she knows the risks.and will come to you as an accurate source of information. Don't expect your relationship with her to change of night, but if you let her know she isn't being judged, won't be punished for seeking your advice and you follow through with these things I think you will see the relationship you have will become stronger and she will come to you willingly, more often.
836277
Tell her. Explain to her that you did not know that they were together and that you wanted her to know before she walked down the aisle with this jerk. \n\nImagine how she is going to feel if you don't tell her and a couple years down the road they have kids together and he is still cheating on her with other girls.
370579
don't tell her until you both decide to. blood is thicker than water (sisters can mess you up)!