Are you a grandma unhappy with the way your grandchildren are being raised?
815421
I have three grandkids, number four on the way. the eldest is twelve; she lives with her father, her mum is my oldest daughter. She left her with her dad five years ago and went away to work. Her dad is a muslim, and up to then, my daughter had reared her as a christian. I have no problem with this, her dad is a lovely, kind man and I have a great relationship with him . The problem is, the child is totally confused as to what the rules are as regards religion, dress code, behaviour codes, etc. This is leading to a backlash from her as she is starting to rebel. My heart goes out to her as she has been pushed around a lot during her short life. I have considered offering to have her live with me; I know she's happy in my house when she visits, but I don't know how her mum or dad would see this.
623258
NO, never allow your children to disrespect you, no matter how old they are....\n\nIt seems your daughter does not want to face the issues that are occurring with her son.  She should be grateful that someone else is trying to help her...  As much as it may hurt, because she is your daughter, you need to move on (for the time being)  believe me there will be a time that she is going to need your help....\n\nAs far as your grandson, there is not much you can do, his mother is the one who needs to deal with him. She needs to realize all the things that could happen to him and start taking charge..\n\nHowever, do not allow him (your grandson) to come into your home trying to take over or disrespect you...  If neither one can respect you as a mother or grandmother, don't allow them in your home, until they do so...  (IT IS CALLED TOUGH LOVE)  Sometimes it needs to be done...  \n\nI AM TALKING THROUGH EXPERIENCE.  I NEEDED TO DO THE SAME WITH MY DAUGHTER...\n\nAlso, pray and look to the one above.  He will help you along the way..\n\nGOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!
278234
HEY I LIKE YOU ALREADY LOL! You know, I love older people, number one like you said , we will all get older, number two my parents older and older people have it on the ball They came from a generation that was more simple and more innocent . I think that younger people despise it when the older people try to come out and say that they don't like what the younger people are doing or they don't like their attitudes. \n\nGranted there are some older people out there that are grouchy and demanding, but that's just the few. :) It comes with age. :)
571216
Absolutely not. Every generation thinks the young people are the worst ever. Have you ever read what Socrates said about the ancient Greek teens of his time?? He said they were disrespectful, didn't listen to their parents, and they were the worst ever. Every single generation complains about young people. They certainly complained about me. It means you're getting old.
944419
Unfortunately not. In most states, grandparents have no rights where grandchildren are concerned. The only time this changes is if the parents are incarcerated or there is evidence of abuse. In either case CPS, and attorney and court must be involved.
574495
Hate is such a strong word to use. I dislike the fact that they are getting pregnant at a much earlier age but that is strongly due to the way their parents raise them. They run free, show little respect, are unmannerly, and they are making bad choices. Now you see a lot of grandparents raising their grandchildren. I believe the drug meth has a lot to do with it also. My daughter got pregnant when she was 14 because I was never there. Now she's 19 and has 3 girls but she is a good mother. I'm very proud of her. She held down a job and continued with her education and graduated. From my past experiences with that drug I knew the pregnancy rate would skyrocket since it is a stimulant. You see, I was the one with the drug problem and always gone and I wasn't a very good mother at all. She was free to run and do whatever she wanted. Luckily, I have many years to live a clean life in case I should be the one raising one of my grandchildren. So please do not lay all the blame on young women.
547717
I don't think anything much, really. Your love is the best thing you can give them. Just make sure that you make them feel accepted; sometimes, older people are afraid that younger people consider them as inferior and therefore tend to take everything more personally. So treat them like the normal people they are. Remember that they were once babies, once kids, once teenagers, once young adults... So don't try being all "what can I do for you? Don't do that, you'll hurt yourself" and stuff like many people tend to do. I know that comes from a good intention, but the truth is, a lot of times, grandparents don't want that from their grandchildren. Sometimes, they just want to be treated as friends, to feel young again... And yes there is a grandparent day. It's september 11, I think.
1134845
lol thats easy. ALLLLLL grannys are.\n\nTry and think how it was it their times. It works for me.\n\nAlso, something that makes them happy is if you ask Questions about their past and get all excited about it. They will be less annoying with you in future.
591956
My opinion is because they just don't care, they are burnt out, been rude to & now thye reflect how they have been treated.\nParents don't take time to teach their children to be respectful to others, it's a real shame!
905157
I dont want mine in homes when they get old. Just like I dont want my son in daycare. You cannot trust them damn strangers with people that are that close to your heart. You dont know what goes on in their personal lives ... for all we know they could be mad at life or have something wrong with them and decide to take it out on the people we LOVE!  The risk isnt worth it.  Haven't you seen video clip footage of people treating the elderly badly in those homes? Check Maury out lol
177022
I'm not old enough to have a granddaughter.\nI wonder why you are asking this question...seems that you are frustrated.\nNo, I would not ask my parents to look after my kids for such a long time......they have their own life and they should enjoy their new-gained freedom. I would not treat them like free baby-sitters.\nBut then I don't know your circumstances either.
737070
You mean to say you are already fighting over your grandmother's possessions before she has even passed away? Terrible! It is her property and whatever decision she makes should be final! She has her reasons for doing this and her final wishes should be honored regardless of what you or anyone else thinks...
91522
In most states, grandparents have a legal right to see their grandchildren. You should talk to a lawyer.
291764
when your grandparents tell you the way their life was when they were your age and your parents vouching for them. could also be your company CEO belittling you in front of his/her note taking shareholders.
736190
It would be very strange if I'd remarried or were in a new relationship. As grandparents, they have the right to see their grand children (in my opinion), but hanging out with them and calling them all the time would not be on the table.
176469
I would think only if the child is at risk because of the visit.  \n\nYour question would be easier to address if you could give examples or describe the circumstances you are concerned about.\n\nConsider that a grandparent's love is a very special gift to a child.  If it is possible to maintain that, I would do so.  I did not get along with my children's grandmother, but she was still special to them.
1090359
You are looking at it all wrong.  Use this time to drive them crazy.  Depending on their ages give them chores that you hate and they despise.  Drag them to places only you want to go to and wear outfits that totally embarrass them!  I have a big red hat with purple ostrich feathers I wear to humiliate my girls with.  And I am not even old enough to be a red hatter.\n\nOr send them to grandmas for a week to torture them and send their noisey toys - you know the ones grandma ______ or aunt and uncle bought.  Send it with rechargeable batteries and a battery charger you teach them to use for added joy.\n\nlol\n\nEnjoy them while they are young.  I miss being able run around and goof off with my girls.\n\nKathy