Why does my mom hate me?she dosent even treat me like an human being?
829861
Talk with a councilor, priest, someone who can help you as the situation continues.   A family therapist can help both of you. Give it a try and if all else fails, remember that you are a good person and make your life the best it can be. Once you get to an age of responsibility- you can get out.
774952
You need to talk to your mom. Tell her how disappointed you are. She is setting a very bad example for you.
610210
Your hormones are out of whack. You need a check up at the doctors office. You have good character by coming forward trying to figure this out. Tell your mom that you need some help.\n\nYou are a good kid and I hope it works out for you. Good luck!
877120
Sweetie, it's not just that she loved you; she had issues--big ones.  This is not normal behavior.  It's possible that she projected her own conscience upon you, because she suffered from overwhelming guilt from her past actions; she may have been similarly affected by her own mom.  This is a psychological problem.  Now that you've moved out of the house, please consider counseling so that your experience will not negatively affect your own future relationships.   If or when it's possible, it might help your mother if you could talk her into counseling, for her own good... because she's probably going through a massive amount of emotions right now, especially rejection.  Pray for the woman, and try to love her as much as you can while still maintaining your own distance, regaining your perspective, and living your own life.  God bless you!
425968
because shes your mom, hello.. she cares about you and this is your whole life your talking about here. she raised you up and gave you everything of course she would be strict letting u go to a man right. understand a lil bit, look at it in her point of view ok.. goodluck to you!
429009
She is saying things that have the potential to be emotionally hurtful to her child, but she may not be doing this intentionally to abuse you. For her to say something as hurtful as 'retard', then she is probably lashing out at you as a means of coping with her own insecurities. Bullies normally say things to make you seem smaller and they bigger, and they normally pick on the things that bother them about themselves. This may apply here. To call you a 'crybaby' she may be doing the same as above, or she genuinely may feel that by saying something so shocking she will be helping you by making you a stronger person.\nAnother thing to consider is, why don't you act your age? Is it because you've had some bad things happen in your life, and this is your way of dealing with it? Because she may be blaming herself for this, and that may be why she says nasty things like that.
1183505
You don't have to pretend to be something you're not or feel some way you don't. You don't have to apologize to anyone. \n\nI don't like my mother either. It took a long time to clearly define that for myself and a longer time to act on it. Basically, my mother is a narcissist and a miser with major control issues.  My siblings and I were hungry every day of our childhood so that she could hoard money in the bank. She deprived us in in lot of other ways too. Abuse was occurring on every level and I became an emmancipated minor at the age of sixteen.\n\nI thought I had made my peace with her but I married a guy who also valued money and material possessions far more than he valued me, or our two beautiful children. He constantly needed to devalue and abuse me, and, then, like my mother, he would have the nerve to play the victim. The worse he behaved, the harder he would blame me. Crazy-making. For years, in therapy, I worked on breaking away from this relationship but I kept going back to him and was turning myself inside out trying to make it work. I was clearly trying to work out my issues with my mother. \n\nFinally, I wrote a letter to my mother pointing out how she values money and her own security more than she values her own children. I told her it had caused me to have a skewed sense of my own worth and that I no longer wanted anything to do with her. Shortly after this, I was finally able to break away from my husband but I admit, I still think about him and find it very difficult.\n\nSo I'm forty-two years old with two children, living at my sister's house. I'm not the pretty young girl I used to be with men flocking after me but I still feel the need to share myself with a man in a  passionate relationship. The sad thing is, I don't think I'm capable of this, so accostomed am I to putting other's needs before my own... I have had relationships where I was respected and treated well but this did not feel like love to me. \n\nSome people should simply never have been parents. If a person is genuinley doing the best they can and they make a lot of mistakes, that's forgivable. But as far as our mothers go, they hurt people they were supposed to love and protect and did they even take responsibility for it? No. Did they ask forgiveness? No. Did they bother reading self-help books and going to therapy? No. Instead we were supposed to play their little game of pretending everything is O.K., making every moment we spent with them an insufferable act. Well, I'm not playing the game any more and a lot of people condemn me for it, including my own siblings. I don't tell them they shouldn't have a relationship with her but as far as I'm concerned they are just enabling her by playing the game. They all complain behind her back. I'm the only one in the family without a house and I certainly won't inherit anything now so who knows, maybe I'm the stupid one. I don't know how I'll feel when my mother dies.\n\n It must be so difficult for you that other people do not understand. They should give you credit for taking care of her in the end rather than sending her go to an institution. Best wishes  for healing and joy.
418746
God, my own mother gets on my nerves. let her know nicley that a little goes along way. or just tell her to back off
928921
First thing you have to do- GET OFF YAHOO ANSWERS. And start reading those books. \nSecondly-About the mom thing- everyone once in a while thinks that everyone (or in your case mums) hate them, but sooner or later you'll see, she really loves you. \n\nIf she didnt care... did she leave you to rot out on the street? Are you starving with no food cuz she wont give you any? Do you have to go to school naked cuz you have no clothes?\n\nif mostly your answer is no, then she does care and love you...but she's just trying to hide it probabaly or she has problems of her own...maybe if she asks I'll answer :-)
720371
My mom hates me and I don't care for her\nMy dad died years ago\nSO NO
710622
I have dealt with a similar situation, and I know this hurts you. First of all, even though this is easier said than done, do not take her comments to heart. They simply aren't true, and these comments have already damaged you emotionally. Secondly, if you haven't already done so, seek counseling. This should help you to keep things in perspective, and to help you know that your mother's hurtful comments do not define who you are. If you still feel rotten, you could choose just not to see her anymore. This is a tough decision, I know. She is 92, and probably won't be around too many more years. Of course this does not mean you have to take her abuse and do whatever she says. Talk to a counselor. He/she can help you decide what is best for you. Good luck, and remember. . . your mother's comments are rubbish. You know your own heart.
826106
This is a tough place for a young woman to be! You are going through an emotional time anyway as you enter puberty. Have you talked with your sisters and do they acknowledge the way she treats you? Maybe one of them will be kind enough to tell your mother how her actions are affecting you. My other suggestion would be to speak with a minister or your school guidance counselor, perhaps have a family session. Please know you are worthwhile despite all that is going on. love to you.
447252
everyone goes through a period of time, usually your teens, when you hate your parents. when i was 16 i thought i knew everything. now that I'm older and a mom, i understand why she did the things she did. just remember that she isn't doing it to piss you off, she only wants what's best for you.
778553
The whole situation doesn't really make sense.  Ask yourself what you did to make her call you that.  The other posters are right in that you should have respect for your mom and not call her names but she should also be teaching you respect by not calling you names.  The two of you need to talk about this and resolve the underlying issue.  Whatever it is that you did to make her call you what she called you, that's the root of your current situation and that needs to get addressed.  Why did you do it?  Why was she so angry at you that she forgot you're her daughter and call you names?  You reacted to her calling you what she called you but something precipitated that situation and you two need to hash that out.  Then, you have to apologize to her for doing what you did and calling her what you called her.  Only then, you can then tell her that you didn't appreciate what she called you.  It's not right, but she is your mom and she's going to look at you as the less powerful of the two as long as you continually act like a child and react and cause her to react.  If you talk to her like an adult, woman to woman, in a calm, assertive, respectful manner, hopefully, she'll see you maturing and mature herself.  Then you guys won't be calling each other names and you won't be grounded.  However, if that doesn't happen and in some future point she does call you a name, you take a deeep breath, DON'T say anything, turn around and walk away.  She's your mom and you have to learn how to deal with her in a respectable manner and if you want respect, you have to demand it by treating others in the way you want to be treated.
199535
Try to find out what makes her, happy, sad, angry, and relaxed. When you find out these things, then you'll know what to and not to do to press her buttons. People usually say try talking to herr, but if your mother isn't the talking type, write a letter, but try not to sound so dogmatic in the letter. Let her know how you feel, but in a respectful way.  Parents always try to say that we as young adults, we lack respect because we feel like we're practically grown, so make sure you give her the upmost respect, even you maynot think she deserves it at times, because as the bible says "Honor your Father and Mother, that way it may go well with you, and you may have length days upon the earth"
503205
First, I am a mother.  You need to think about what you are going to say before you say it. Remember she is the only mother you will have.  Also, try to explain to your mom how you are feeling.  This may help take away some of the frustrations you have.  I was a teenager once, I did alot of aruging with my mom as a teenager and it was about how i felt she was treating my brother a lot better than me, ect, which by the way she did, and now admits.  I ended up moving in with my dad and step monster, oops step mother, and It was find for like 4 months, then she showed her real colors.  It might not seem like it now, but try and talk with your mom, explain that you are just frustrated, and you need to tell her how you feel. I actually thought I hated my mom for many years, but now that I am older, I realize that i didn't hate her, I just did not like her actions, and the decisions she made.
131029
Oh my gosh! Did she asked to be PAID to take care of you growing up?! Get a life and take care of your mother! It isn't her fault she is disabled and I can't believe you would ask such a insensitive question! Take care of your mother....God forbid you get into a terrible accident and have to have someone take of you.....I am so ashamed of you.