can you all list some pros and cons of being married to a preacher?
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PROS\nPrestige\nIncome\nFaithful Mate\nSomeone to Pray With and Make Intercessions for You\nHelpful Congregation\n\n\nCONS\nCongregation in your business. (Hardly Any Privacy)\nFlirting\nLong Hours\nDealing With Others Problems Whether You Want To Or No
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It totally depends on the situation.\n\nIf you are one religion and your spouse is one religion and both of you are non-practicing and don't care which religion to raise your children, I think it will work out just fine since neither of you care.\n\nBut if each of you wants to raise the children according to your own religion and don't want to compromise with the other religion, then there will be a problem. The husband will secretly be teaching the kids one religion and the wife will be secretly teaching another.\n\nThat's why before getting married, people really need to communicate with their future spouse to see if they agree on these things. Communication and compromise are the two things marriages in general are lacking these days and when applied, they can even help this problem.\n\n-----------------------------------------
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No not at all. If you are in love and both are willing to obey God's words. There are no big deals that can ever go or work against that. Have faith that the Lord will guide and protect you. Pray for each other and the best of all pray together for the love of God to be the center of your love to each other.\n\nGod bless you!
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Yes-absolutely. Your spouse may become a Christian while attempting to raise his children correctly.\nUnless this unsaved spouse has shown you that to stay with him your life will be miserable. But you do not mention any problems, only that one is saved and one is not.
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I highly recommend living with the person before marriage. Personally, it kept me from making the  mistake of my life! You really get to know the real person behind all of the magic that you see from each time you get to see them. What kind of partner they will be in house chore situations, when money is tight, their ability to take and deal with certain responsibilities, all of the important components that make a marriage work well. I know that alot of people aren't keen to the idea of 'living in sin' but it is your life, and thank goodness society has changed a bit. Hopefully this helps.
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probably better to ask a marriage counselor : ) it could be lots of things, some which are "fixable", some which aren't.
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Well, i think that when there are different faiths involved both spouses have to be open minded and they have to communicate with each other about their different religions/ faith. I am not married but i am in a relationship where we both have different religions. We talk about it and we try to know or to learn about the different religion. Mostly because of curiosity but also b/c we have to set boundaries. So if you talk to them and make sure they know how you feel then it'll be alright, but also as long you each of you do not try to impose their religion on each other. Just be open minded and talk about it.
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I got my husband a "preacher's license" on the Internet.  It was free, but can't remember the site.  Never did check and see if it was legal in our state.  It was more of a joke to us........but people do use them.  If you are a true Christian, then you can be ordained in some of the faiths and the get a state license.
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I used to date a guy who held church in his home.  His father was a minister without a congregation and his mother was disabled and physically uncomfortable in the traditional church setting so for this reason he held church in his house every Sunday afternoon and every other Wednesday night with his father preaching and his mother attending even though his parents had long since been divorced. It was the best "church" I have ever been to.  The service was meaningful and the singing was beautiful with every voice raised to God, there was no doubt everyone in the very crowded living room was there for God.  I continued to attend "church" at his house for awhile after we quit dating, and frequently think I should still be going there. I learned more there than I ever learned in Sunday school.  I recently took the Alpha class at a local church it was great but I still believe the best church is where you feel the closest to God no matter if it's in a house or a traditional church.
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This is my favorite part:  if the Husband solemnizes a “religious marriage” with another woman without permission of the Wife...\n\nRight.
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I can't speak from the Muslim religous aspect but can tell you I have a female Christian friend married to a Muslim.  Their relationship & marriage was fantastic at first but once their daughter was born things changed.  His religion took presidence.  He sent his daughter overseas to be raised by his family & their beliefs and he refuses to allow my friend to go to church anymore.  Not to say, this is what would happen if you were to marry this man.\n\nNext, I am sure you have prayed on this long and hard.  If you are finding more discomfort, worry, fear or confusion in marrying this person than the Holy Spirit is probably warning you not to.  God is a God of order.  He has not given you the spirit of fear but of love, of power and of a sound mind.\n\nI would recommend getting into the concordance of your Bible and look up marriage and divorce to be sure you line up all of your questions, feelings & decisions to what the word says.  Read all the scripture from the Old & New Testament.  Write the ones down that jump off the page and meditate on them.  Fast if you feel you are not finding the direction you should take.\n\nYou can use an online website http://www.crosswalk.com to do some of your research if a Bible isn't handy.\n\nRemember one thing, no one can tell you the path you should choose and they don't know how God is leading you.  This is something only you can figure out.  Close your mind off to all worldly views and seek after God for His decision in your life.\n\nI will say from everything I've read on the subject, as a Christian, you would not be in sin.  But I think you would be opening doors to a very difficult life in comparison to waiting on God to bring you a Christian man.\n\nDivorce is not an option - it never is.  So marrying this person no matter what happens until death do you part will be a vow you make with God.  Be sure you are truly ready to make this kind of committment before going any further. \n\nKeep in mind, someone who believes in a god other than the one we know is not led by a Holy & loving God.  Therefore, you end up joining together as one with someone who is being led by something else.  Ultimately, their decisions and mind are not being formed by the living word, the Holy Spirit and our heavenly Father.  If he doesn't have a relationship with Jesus Christ than you are not going down the same path.\n\nI realize you must love this man very much or the question you pose wouldn't be so heart wrenching.  I pray you find your way and the life ahead is filled with much love, peace & joy.\n\nI am happy to chat more if you want to write.
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As a person married to a spouse of a very different religion, I can say that anyone who offers an "easy answer" has probably not been in that position.  Make no mistake, it can be difficult.  That said, this is decision time for your daughter and prospective son-in-law.  \n\nIf they are ready to be with each other, they are going to have to get used to navigating religious and cultural differences.  And this is an opportunity to decide whether they wish to cleave to each other or to their respective families of origin, to the extent there is some conflict between those two loyalties.  If they cannot prioritize being together over parental approval, the marriage is better off not starting, for its future is not good.  On the other hand, if they establish that their love for each other is something they wish to put at the center of their lives, learning that now can create a valuable opportunity to build a foundation for a future marriage.\n\nI would encourage them to:\n(1)  Engage his family's rabbi (or another rabbi, if his family's rabbi refuses to participate) in the dialogue;\n(2)  Talk about mixed-religion marriages with others in similar marriages, particularly Christian-Jewish pairings;\n(3)  Pray to their shared God/G-d in their two very different ways for guidance and help for their relationship.\n\nBtw, even in Orthodox Judaism conversion for purposes of marriage, and marriage to converts, is acceptable.  Try the Book of Ruth.  Possibly this is actually about cultural, rather than religious differences.\n\nImho, despite the challenges of interfaith marriages, they may play a very important role in moving our world from the present mutual hostility of all the world's faiths towards greater mutual understanding and peace.  And that is certainly a noble pursuit.\n\nMy blessings and my wishes for good luck to them and to both your families, which may yet become one family.
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I don’t personally believe, based on my own Christian faith, that God has dictated everything in your life.  Bottom line is, you are a co-writer of the story God is telling through you.\n\nYou will have opportunities to become romantically involved with different people in your life, and you simply do not “know” ahead of time what you are “supposed” to do. You might feel safer if God simply dictated every little step to you, but He won’t do that. You are not a robot, you are gloriously alive and part of the story yourself. That is scary, but it should also be exhilarating. (You have a say!)\n\nYou might end up picking someone who is similar to you, and marriage will be easy to make work -- but you won't be very challenged. Or you might end up picking someone with whom marriage is very difficult at first, but God still can make the marriage work and deepen as beautifully as the first option.\n\nMeanwhile, God wants you to be faithful to him in whatever you do. Act as He would have you in this relationship and see where it goes. If the relationship deepens (you grow to care about each other, your faith is leading you both in the same direction, and so on), let it deepen and see what happens. \n\nPray about it, pray for your romantic partner, focus on long-term growth and ask God for direction. Ask older wiser folks you trust for their opinions.\n\nMeanwhile, enjoy the friendship that is flowering. The abundant life (and by that I meant the spiritually fulfilling one, not the hedonistic pleasure-at-all-cost one) is meant to be lived and experienced.\n\nDon’t focus on whether or not you are “making a mistake” by perhaps not picking the earmarked person from the pool of 6 billion, that’s a fearful way to live. Focus on what God is doing in you and this person right now while you’re together, learn from it, and go where it takes you.
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Well, make sure you agree with the doctrine.  Make sure the pastor isn't a crook.  You want to feel like you "get" something out of the teachings there.  And make sure you feel comfortable with the church members.  Also, you might want to check out the various programs the church offers, if you're interested in more than attending regular Sunday services.
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I HAVE BEEN MARRIED TWICE BOTH TIMES I WAS MARRIED IN FRONT OF AN JUDGEIN THE COURTHOUSE BUT IT TAKES LESS MONEY . I ONLY HAD A FEW PEOPLE THAT WENT WITH US BOTH TIMES. ONLY THING YOU NEED REALLY IS MARRIAGE LISEASE AND A COUPLE OF PEOPLE AS AN WENDESS AND THAT'S ALL. I DON'T GO TO CHURCH NEITHER MY EX-HUSBAND OR MY HUSBAND NOW. THEY DON'T AT THE COURTHOUSE. CALL AHEAD FOR AN APPOINTMENT AND PRICES.
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Okay, I've been in a lot of denominations so I feel I can answer this from seeing several different viewpoints.\nI'm the daughter of a hellfire and brimstone preacher, and I've attended churches ranging from totally liberal to very conservative. I've also, <GASP!> actually PREACHED a sermon one time.\n\nLet's take into acount that the verse was written in a time when women and men were segregated in the church. This was a time period when women were not allowed to attend school. So, could you imagine how shocking it would be if a woman were to try to tell a man what to do? Also, when you look at the "let the women keep silence in the church" could you imagine what would happen if the wife hollered over to her husband, "hey, Hubert, what did the preacher mean by that comment." It sure would be disruptive.\n\nI firmly believe that God gives each of us gifts and talents, and if God gives a woman the gift of ministry, and preaching, it's God's choice.
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If it's good for you go for it. Others may find being married and having children their goal. As to a person in religious leadership, forcing abstinance shouldn't be required unless it appeals to them like yourself and such like the disciples.