my teenage son is driving me crazy can you do anything with him?
813347
I can't help you but I can join you!!!!!!!!! Pitty party for moms of teenage boys........Whoot.....Whoot!\nDear GOD please let this be over soon!
202414
Teens go through what we call identity crisis. They want to be adults but how do they go about doing it? that's a question we all have asked ourselves coming up. The one thing we as parents forget is we were children once to and that is where we connect with our own off spring. Talk to him not at him, and don't loose your temper no matter what he says let him vent his frustrations and then take it from there. This world is tougher now and our kids have to be as well but they find it hard to take that guard down around family cause family makes you weak. Try being his friend instead of a parent, you'll always be that but a friend is what he's craving.
841923
My son was able to get a work permit that allowed him to work certain hours at 14 and a few more hours at 15.  Stop in your school guidance office to ask if your state does anything like that.  (He had to get signed off at school and through our village to do that). \nWhile you are in the guidance office- you might want to talk to someone about what is going on at home that your parents are acting like this.  \n\nIn the meantime- you can babysit. \n\nGood luck
441056
well explain to him that you have to take both and since he s a teenager (your son) he should come with you.explain that because of what he tells you he s giving you a hard time and ask him to cooperate.after all you re a family with the other boy.and tell him that when he s 18 he can make decisons for himself.if its hard for you ask a specialist to help you.good luck
847331
Your son is screaming silently for help.  Hopefully the hospital admits him into a treatment program.  However, your son needs to help himself.  This will only happen when he is ready to accept help.  I am going through something similar to this with my own daughter. \n      Good luck to you and your son.
218760
Just ask him what part of NO don't you understand, and then just ignore him. An go on with your life. If he still prisiest, then call 911.
619431
tell your parents, protect him, he is too young
607968
How old is your son?and if he younger than 13,I think you should wait until he is old enough to understand.
563148
yes stop being childish\ntell him yourself
412186
Apparently talking and being nice and putting up with him, doesnt work. Maybe you should get the police to ask him to leave. Or you could throw his stuff out, not sure if you could get a restraining order- if you can go for it! It's quite evident that he's brining you nothing but hurt. Make a stand now for you and your kids.\nThe sooner he is out, the better you will be able to get on with your life. Once that's done, for GOD's SAKE, DONT LOOK BACK!
883487
Get sam or the carrot to do it for you. maybe your crazy mother will help.
787782
Might try a restraining order.  Little drastic but would work.  Refuse to take calls from him and his friend.  If it is really bad parental intervention is always good.
476006
I have no doubt that you have been trying to instill values of the clean nature in him for a long time. Here he is almost 18 and has yet to adapt. Soooo, I am relatively sure you are asking for help, but not expecting any miracles. You know that you have probably already exhausted every avenue that any one of us might tell you. I have sons also, and when you describe your son its as if you were talking about one of my boys. I have no solution for you,... I just wanted you to know you are not alone in this aspect. There is one thing you can "teach yourself" though that might eliminate some of your frustration about him. Don't take it personnel when he does this! Save your energy. Choose your battles! Keep instilling the lesson of what he needs to know, but don't worry about him not doing it. Try a role change with him on occasions,... when he needs you to do something, tell him "just a minute", or "I will get on that soon", or "I meant to do that, but forgot", ...throw his lines back at him and watch him get frustrated. Its good clean amusement for you, I promise!  My boys, and I am sure your son, too, are 'good' people, and yes, lazy people. But as long as he is staying out of real trouble, you really have no problems compared to some Moms out there. They do grow up, and when you go to their homes in the future, he will make you proud. I know!!! You are me, 14 years ago. Hang in there, its going to be alllllright!
1118560
He is your father and you would need to make the decision if you want him in your life. Please make sure that if he does hurt you again in any way that you call the police. It is never alright for him to put his hands on you in anger....
250544
Just be honest with him. Tell him that you don't love him anymore. Because if you aren't happy then your child will know it. No matter how young he/she might be. Children can sense when things aren't "right"! DON'T EVER STAY WITH SOMEONE JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE A CHILD BY THEM! If your not happy, your child won't be happy!
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Every teenager has a group of friends they hang out with. \nThe parents may not like the group of friends because of the\nnegative influence. But your son is at an age where he can\nmake some decisions for himself. Choosing his friends is one of them. As long as he is not getting in trouble with the law and doing drugs then there's no problem. That is the\nfirst step of experiencing what the world is like. So don't\npressure him about it. If you do then he'll just get further away from you and then he'll be angry at you. Just\nkeep on encouraging him in areas where he needs it most.
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I have had a similar problem because my husband died when my son was 10 years old--maybe it was even worse, because my son wanted to be the "man" in the house.\n\nFirst and foremost, if your son is on some kind of drug, then punishment will not work at all--you will have to take more drastic steps.  Before you take any steps, sit down with your son and talk to him---not about drugs/alcohol, but ask him what exactly is bothering him so much that he feels the need to fit in with the crowd.  Maybe that will lead to a more in depth discussion on why he chose to do drugs.  Because, as you can imagine, once he realizes his own problem, there is a chance to fix it.  Just keep in mind that he is a teenager, they will not listen to our preaching, they do feel invincible, they feel they are in control---"it can't happen to me" kind of thing.\n\nIf you can get your son to talk about what is bothering him, the next step would be to involve his father, because it is important to decide togherther on what to do next and how to go about the rest.\n\nSince I did not have a husband any longer I decided to find a parenting support group.  That's where I got a lot of help and that might help you too.  Bringing my problems to this group helped me inasmuch that I was able to change the way I approached my teen, and it also helped me find solutions.\nI enrolled my son in a counseling program and with the help of the counselor decided that it was best to have my son admitted to a hospital for children who resorted to alcohol and drugs.  My son was able to communicate with other children about his problems, got good counseling there, and made the decision that drugs were not for him.  He was uptset that I put him there, but I dealt with that, because the most important thing to me was that my son got all the help necessary out there and it was worth every penny spent, because he is totally away from drugs, was able to join the military, is married now. So when considering your options consider that IF he is on drugs, he will not be able to get out of that alone.\n\nIf he is not seriously on drugs---a drugtest will reveal that(and depending on your insurance it might even be paid for by them), then I really would suggest that you look for a parenting support group to get support and good ideas on how to deal with your teenage son.  I went to a group called Parents Anonymus, I have no idea if they still exist---if they don't, then you might consider starting a group of your own.  The support is important.  Teenage boys in particular are too often thinking that they are a man and do not need our guidance and advice.  Whatever you do, consider that punishment might only be temporarily.  \n\nAnother thing I did was enroll my son in karate---he told me years later that this really helped him to let off a lot of steam.  Teenagers want to have some sort of control, they don't have it because they are still under our care, so they do get very angry when we decide that something is not good for them, and then they do that very same thing, just to defy us.\n\nLastly, I did hear a report on the news not so very long ago that the reaction of teenagers is also hormone related.  Once they are in puberty, there is a constant up and down because their hormone input is not regulated by the brain yet.\n\nI do not know if this helped you, but I sure hope so and wish you the best of luck.