How do I get over this?
818774
Remember the old saying that went something like this:  "Give me the strength to change the things that I can change, to accept the things that I can't change, and the wisdom to know the difference."  It certainly seems to fit here.  I think if your bf has any knowledge of this situation, he would certainly feel like second banana, no pun intended, that you are only keeping him because you cannot have the one that you wanted.  Or if he doesn't know the situation, then you unconsciously resent him for not being your true love, and that you are "stuck" with second choice.  You need to think this through, and if your first choice can never be a choice for you, then you must collect yourself and realize that your life must go on without this unrequited love as your partner.  It probably happens to everyone at one time or another in life.  So if your bf is indeed a good person and you do care for him, is it not worth it to him and to you to try to fall in love with him, or to see what happens without forcing it?  But most of all, your bf must never feel like he is second choice, or he will probably meet someone whom he feels will appreciate him more, and move on with that person.  Just tellin' it like it is.  Good luck...
1153948
get over it already.  it's just a story!!!!
747383
this is the kind of situation i always fear in the back of my mind. time heals all wounds, but just take some time off for yourself and then try and get back on the scene and go out gradually. odds are that you will still never forget about it, but you need to find something better.
1163473
I know I'm going to sound like a parent, but you need to just move on.. make new memories.... do things for you... it will get better with time even though right now it doesn't feel that way... I've been there.. and it sucks.. but you will get through it.. and you will be stronger because of it.\n\ndont dwell on what was.. focus on what can be.
813539
Wby,\n\nHonestly, you never really get over it - but you do learn how to cope in life and defend yourself so it never happens again.\n\nOne day, I hope when you are older and more mature, you will find someone to build your lives together with. Not just a lover, but a best friend. Someone you can really trust. That is the best way to get over it.\n\nPlease do not hold this stuff in. If you have parents you cannot talk to, find yourself a guidance counselor you can trust, a priest, an adult -- and don't hold back. Because of your age - both can be prosecuted. YOU have done nothing wrong. YOU are never to blame yourself for the actions of these men. YOU are a child who has been thrown into a very difficult position in life - PLEASE find someone you can talk to comfortably to help you adjust and continue to live.\n\nGood luck to you.
97040
If it really bothers you, find you someone that you can be happy with and let him move on to someone else and let them deal with him. Find someone who makes you happy and cares about you and yyour feelings.
954157
Take a Deep Breath! Relax...Remember "Everything happens for a reason" Don't let your problems get the best of you...God NEVER gives you an obstacle you cant jump over...Hang on!
320003
It takes time to get over a love relationship.  Some people say that it takes half the time you were involved to get over it.  The best thing is to just talk it out with friends, or maybe a professional counselor.  It's a process, getting over a broken heart, not an event.  It's not something that you just wake up the next day and say, "I'm over it".  I found getting involved with new friends, or interests took my mind away from my sadness.  \nI'm sorry to hear that you are hurting, I hope that you can find some support and distraction soon.  It won't always be like this.  Some day in the future you will look back at this and realize that it wasn't a good relationship for you.
568071
The best way to get over someone is to LET IT OUT! Don't keep your feelings bottled up inside. Cry it out if have to,shout it out if you want to. Most people may tell you to divert your attention, but that will only be running away from what you feel. You can't cry over a guy all your life. You will love again. It happens all the time. And there will be someday when you will think back and just laugh at it, or if not laugh then just smile at it. For now, just accept your feelings of hurt/hatred and chill, its okay.
1075920
The good news is that time is on your side. So you'll surely get over it.\nOne way to speed things up a little, could be if you focus your memory on all the things that you didn't like and that made you upset.\nAnother good way of making it easier, is to go out and see all the others who are looking for a relationship themselves.
279389
JUST PRAY, AND ASK GOD TO GIVE YOU THE STRENGTH AND CONFIDENCE TO GET OVER THIS LOSER. PAMPER YOURSELF, READ A GOOD BOOK, GO TO THE MOVIES, ENJOY TIME WITH FRIENDS,GO SHOPPING, TAKE A TRIP, AND JUST EXHALE IT WILL HURT AT FIRST BUT YOU WILL COME OUT ON TOP. GOOD LUCK!!\n\nMSCHOCOLATE
724989
Just forget. Shut your mind off to them and get on with life.
295252
I don't know if there is a way to really get over it. She is your mom.  I do know how you feel.  My relationship with my mom has always been strained I always just let her say whatever and took it.  I eventually backed away and we didn't talk for a while. Then we slowly started talking again.  We still talk but don't have a close relationship.  I would give it some time and let her cool down.  Hopefully she will come around.  Hang in there.  But remember that even if she is your mom she shouldn't put you down and she should support you.  So even if you do have a relationship again with her don't rely on her for emotional support.
193640
If you really mean it.. let your emotion go in a personal one on one conversation and cry. \n\nAllow your heart to let your eyes weep and feel the remorse in your soul so you will never make that mistake again by remembering the pain it brought you and the person you are sorry to.
230770
You should both get over it or move on.\n\nThe past is gone, to argue about it is a waste of time and energy.
1006946
The best way to get over one is find another. That's what my momma always told me & it's true. Lifes too short to pine away over someone who doesn't return your feelings. Move on sweety! You can do it! Have a positive attitude & find you another! Have a great day & God bless.
594314
wow, must be pretty rough. i mean, no one expects you to get over it. look, i had a friend and the same thing happened to her and im gonna give you the same advice i gave her. some might say that you should take up counseling or go to a group meeting, but the sad part is that those meetings dont focus on just you and yourproblem. you have to find someone who you trust and love, usually a mom, sister, or aunt, and tell that person about what happened to you, and who did it. the guy who did this to you obviously isnt very considerate. just open up to a loved one and let them know whats going on. im sure it will help and they will be able to focus on your problem and not everyone elses.