Hate to be touched, how do you tell others?
820647
I have a friend at work that is a no-touch gal--& I'm super feely!  She told me during a conversation about massages that she hates to be touched.  I have spread the word amongst others and she says it has gotten easier for her--no-one tries to hug/touch her as much.\nMy advise, tell a friend how you feel and ask if  they could casually pass it on.\nGood luck and no hug!
560476
dont know why you can't stop.  but you can try to stop perhaps if you think of all the people that touch the things that you touch before you touch them. and how people could have just wiped their butts, picked their nose, picked up their dogs poo, had sex, scratched their butt, held their willie to pee, cleaned a litter box, grabbed some rotten food, took out the trash, or changed a tampon and didn't wash their hands and so after you touch what they just touched, you have all that nastiness on your hands and when you bite your nails, you are putting all those germs in your mouth.  hope that helps.  the gross factor made me quit biting instantly.  good luck.
551552
Be honest.  If it is a woman, take her out for a cup and explain it to them.  Take a guy out for beer.  It could go something like this:\n\nSusie Q, we have been friends for 2 years now and you know that I would never say anything mean to hurt you.  I have noticed that you pick you nose in public and it gives others a bad impression of you....etc.
1030480
The best way if you are strong enough is to smile and say I thought you were my friend but a friend would never treat someone this way,,, and walk away with your shoulders straight.\nThese people who tease you are not your friends.  We should all treat other people as we wish to be treated, so make sure that no matter what you treat them kind,, kindness always overcomes bitterness and ugly.
454751
U want to pretend its not hurting u? Smiling when peoples are around? Talking like they are not hurting u in some ways? Well, thats kinda hard thing.. I always do that when I don't want them to think that I am week, I am not good enough in some situations, that I am no longer on standing on my feet...\n\nits difficult.. but u can smile to them, talk and act naturally like ordinary day.. no hurt.. no pain.. just hold ur anger.. the pain.. the hurt.. take deep breath while doing that... think ur smart, ur stronger than u know, ur free, its not hurting u, its okay.. everyhting is fine.. think about that..\n\nafter that u will feel "yes, I did it" but after a while.. u will feel empty.. sad.. lonely.. \n\nwhat i am trying to tell u is.. be urself... express what u feel.. think good.. always do the right thing..\n\ngood luck!
1140727
just don't tell them I told you.  They'll strap me down and torture me if they find out I told.\n\nIt's a J*(&*^^%&(*#@&* ARHGHHH  HELP!   THEY'RE DRAGGING ME AWAY!!!!  DON'T LET THEM HURT ME!
250914
it depends on how old you are, and how well you know her.  if you want to tell her, there's no reason you shouldn't, if you break it to her in a nice, polite way.\nfor example, don't go up to her and say, "hey, you have really hairy arms.  everybody's making fun of you.  you should shave or something, 'cause, people think it's gross."  instead, say it to her in a gentle way, and make sure that there aren't other people around, that would just embarass her more.  try just telling her that there are a couple of people making fun of her, you think it's wrong that they are, and just wanted her to know.  if you're nice enough, you might get a new friend!  however, if you're one of the people making fun, don't do it anymore, but don't say what i said above, because that would be lying, and that is bad.  tell her the truth, in a nice way, and everything should be fine.
13331
drop hate. Act like a child, never look back, don't worry about tomorow, live for the moment. Good Luck.
764732
you sound like a problem child.... ask your friend to hug you... ask your parents to hug you more.
703833
I always find a way to touch someone.  If walking by them when you say "excuse me" touch them.  No where that will get you in trouble...  Just physical contact will send subtle hints, over time she'll get it.  Then you can add genuine compliments, but not every day.\nI hope it works out for you!
4560
Just say no.  It hurts more if you tell them yes and stiff them.  The thing is in life there are hurts and you can't shield people from them.  The only person your responsible to is yourself.
84601
Just say, "Okay!"\n\nAfter you hate yourself enough you will learn to say no.\n\n...or you could just say it.
875279
Hi,\n\nhow much physical contact do you get, apart from being restrained? I've spent a decade in mental health services and practically the only 'touch' I got from anyone was when someone stuck a needle in me! Humans need touch from others to thrive - look at the orphanages in countries like Romania. I started to self-harm, learnt from others in the wards and by luck found that imagining that I was being held and reassured took away the need. I know why, it goes right back to standing at my grandmothers funeral when my grandfather stood behind me and put his arms around me - making me feel safe and secure. (Since I only tended to self-harm when on the wards this suggests that I was feeling very UNsafe and INsecure - so much for places of safety...)\n\nSo try and figure out what the feelings are when you get restrained. I agree with the other advice - see if there are things you can use to feel the pressure on your back without having a burly nurse on you! If you look at some autism sites they have pressure suits/vests to get people with autism used to feeling pressure on their bodies. But also have a go and see if you can use your imagination to get the feeling of pressure. I was useless at visual and aural imagery etc - failed every 'relaxation course' I've done! But somehow tricking my brain into believeing that I was being held was actually easy. Maybe ask help in using 'anchoring' from staff - not anchoring you to the floor, but using unobtrusive cues (eg pressing a finger and thumb together) to bring up the feelings you get when being restrained.\n\nJust because you have this need now, it doesn't mean you will have it for ever. Once you start living in the real world, as scary as that might seem now, chances are it will fade into the background.\n\nGood luck!\nElizabeth
109229
Tell him to keep his hands to himself! Touching can lead to other things you should not do!
778735
you have a reflex that causes you to feel uncomfortable in a particular situation.  everyone has one, or two or multiple, they are just more intense or in a different place than where yours is.  I cant stand if someone touches me at all, unless there is an invitation for a hug that i am willing for someone to be near me.  it is extremely normal to have one of these, it's like a tick.  you'll probably always have one of these, and it might change places or may lose intenisty and you may be able to tolerate it more.  it's so strange to have those, isnt it?
618807
Take the high road.\nDon't bother being petty and drawing negative attention to yourself.\nProve that you are the better person by NOT reacting to what they say and/or do.
882431
The real problem in life is there is not enough touching. A touch expresses an emotion and says to the other person you care about them or like them or wish their problem wasn;t so devastating or whatever. We should all aim to touch at least one person every day. If you reach out and touch someone it shows you are a caring human being and if everyone were, it would soon eliminate reduces hatred, violence and maybe even war. Oh, there is nothing gay about touching one of the same gender just like Europeans tend to use a kiss as a greeting whether man to man or female to female.