Rusty 20yr Cassanova: How do I clue in on a relunctant girl's signals in a phone or personal conversation?
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Not quite sure what you're asking.  A reluctant girl won't stick around very long in a phone or face-to-face convo, so I think the duration of conversation will clue you in.  If, however, you want ideas on how to keep a chat going, here's what my husband does: He goes into talk-show-host mode; that is, he asks a lot about the other person: What his/her interests are, what s/he did that day, plans for the future, movies seen, books/articles read, politics, etc. etc.  Everyone's fave subject is him/herself, so extracting information (and, therefore, having dialogue) is easy. \n\nYou sound like a smart, sensitive, other-directed chap; this should come easy to you, no matter how out of practice you may feel.  And, hey!  Just think of the girl as another person, and not necessarily as a potential girlfriend.  Performance anxiety can be a huge obstacle no matter how smooth and experienced one is.  Remember: Have fun and be yourself, OK?
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1) LOOK INTO HER EYES "TOO LONG"\n\nThis is simply holding eye contact a little bit longer than you normally would. While you are conversing with her, you want to be sure to have eye contact at least some of the time. At least once it’s a good idea to hold the eye contact a little "too long," just a fraction too long, so there’s a brief, more intimate moment between you.\n\n2) MAKE DECISIONS EASILY\n\nIt’s important to make sure that you make decisions easily. Remember your outcome: romantic feelings, and moving the seduction along. This means that making a decision quickly is more important than choosing the perfect type of coffee, or taking the time to really think about whether you want cherry Danish or a plain one. By making decisions quickly, you show her that you are a decisive man who she won’t have to take care of.\n\n3) WINK AT HER\n\nYou can wink at someone from across the room, or wink at someone during a conversation. If she says something funny, or someone else does something silly, you can give a wink as a way of sharing a little moment for just the two of you, as if the two of you are in on some private joke no one else is aware of.\n\n4) CHECK OUT HER BODY\n\nChecking out her body must be done properly. The goal is for your new friend to feel complimented that you noticed her body, not objectified like some piece of meat. You do this by making eye contact, then quickly, in less than a second, passing your eyes down and then up over her body, then back to looking in the eyes. It should happen quickly, and you should be unashamed of taking a glance. Just don’t do it too often — two times during a coffee date, for instance, is plenty.\n\n5) KEEP YOUR BODY POWERFUL\n\nWomen want to be with men who are engaged in their lives. You’ll appear even more engaged if you sit, stand and move like you are both fascinated and fascinating. As a bonus, moving as if you are totally engaged with and turned on by life will perk you up and give you more energy for the interaction.\n\n6) COMPLIMENT HER\n\nYou want to cultivate complimenting her as a potential lover, not as a tepid friend. Let’s talk briefly about the difference: A man who is destined to be a woman’s friend compliments her by saying something like, "You have a very nice briefcase." The compliment doesn’t show that he is interested in her romantically, or that he notices anything romantic about her. Put another way, it’s a compliment another woman might give to her. If you give a woman a compliment that another woman might give her, you might as well be another woman, striking up a casual friendship.\n\nYou want to make it clear that you are a man who is noticing her as a woman, rather than an amorphous blob of undefined protoplasm who might as well be another woman talking to her. A man who is committed to being seen as a potential lover gives compliments that show that he notices her as a woman. Rather than saying, "You have a nice briefcase" he’ll say something like "You have beautiful eyes," or "Your smile is so beautiful, it lights up the room."\n\nAt first it may be uncomfortable for you to compliment her, that is okay — keep going, keep taking the risk, and up the passion in your compliments. Yes, you are risking rejection, but that’s good! Remember the rejection process, and remember to celebrate your victories!\n\n7) WHISPER TO HER / LEAN INTO HER SPACE\n\nWhispering to her doesn’t mean you have to get all the way up to her ear… it may be too early in your interaction with her to get that close. But you can lean into her space, and lower the volume of your voice, to share something with her.
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maybe if you play the keyboard in the same fashion as marilyn mansons key board player she'd really take notice. or maybe just some salsa music :)\n\non another note, maybe just lose the "intention", go ahead and ask her, enjoy her as a friend and if she becomes available then that was her doing..
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Physical is usually a good indicator. If she's right up against you or making some motion while talking dirty, or whatever she does, may be it. Try a small touch like start kissing her, as she permits, touch her on her lower back, caress her cheek (face cheek!!!), if she responds well, maybe try a little further. Just don't up the ante too much.
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1)she kept sending you sms and leave a miss called on your mobile. she will say hi.. what'ya doin'? where's your girlfriend? or... she might say... "i don't believe a guy like you doesnt have any girlfriend.."\n\n2) Never turn you down whenever you ask her out.. eventhough you only brings her to a stall or a cheap restaurant. \n\n3)always try her best to look good in front of you. she would be saying something like "do i look ok? am i overdressed?" or "i shouldnt wear this outfit, i might embarassed you"\n\n4)she always reply your sms or call not later than 3 minutes. \n\nthat is what i think.. so best of luck
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You don't tell her you show her, lead the way and she will follow if she's the least bit interested.  Chances are she has been thinking about it too.  I could give you a step by step process but I won't do it in an open forum like this.
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Women practice dismissal, fear, and preoccupation.\n\nYou need an opening line, small talk vs. fear, and close with getting her telephone number or a date.
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Sorry, if neither say it, you will never know.  Unfortunately no one is a mind reader and reading into signals just doesn't work.  If you love this person, take the risk and tell her.  But be careful not to set yourself up, some people can be very cruel and then you will be hurt doubly if she rejects you or doesn't feel the same way as you do.
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i'll tell you after you tell me the top 20 things to ask a sexy girl on the phone\n\n\nXizhen, if u want my cell# u have to email me @ sequentialshift@bellsouth.net .. and ill email u back my # but u have to between the age of 19-22.
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follow her signals. some like it rough, some like it gentle. some like it fast, some like it slow etc. go with what ever your getting the most reaction to. Just remember its not all about you.
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well you just kinda, walk up to her, comment on her. comment something such as you look so beautiful or such, girls love to be complemented. Just start carrying on a convresation that you would think she would be comfertable with, but don't act like someone you aren't trust me girls can tell if you are not acting like yourself even if we dont know you, but the main this, just be yourself, and start off with hi how you doing, once you think she is comfertable with you, ask if you all can meet again, or just ask her for her cell or such. but i hope this has helped you!
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You need the book on the link below, no I don't get paid for showing it to you. It's just one I have read, it's great for dating info.\n1.The key here is to just go up say hi...\n2.intro. name, I have seen you here a lot. I would like to take you out tonight...remain silent then....Until she says!\nYes/no\n3.If, no, ask if she's married, she is not. Tell her you are interested in her. Ask for her number and the best time to call her, would be?\n4.If she says she does not have time to get involved, it may be....With you or she thinks med school and theirs no time for any long term involvement. You can work thru this issue unless, she's just not into you.\n5.Watch her body language and look for non verbal clues.\nRent the movie (Hitch) it's really got two or three true clues on body language if you pay attention you will learn them.\n\nGood Luck \nSource(s):\nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0881846...
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Be polite.\nUse manners.\nStay sober.\nHave a little extra cash available.\nSmile a relaxed smile.\nDon't complain, talk politics/religion or act bored.\n\nThe best and easiest way to a woman's heart is.....\n\nACT INTERESTED in her.\n\nAsk simple but intelligent questions about what she likes and thinks.\n\nTry to find common areas of agreement and hopefully some common ground on activities/hobbies/foods, etc.\n\nBe polite. Show her a good time. Relax.\n\nHey...........they get nervous, too!
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Don't tell her that you've admired her for years, or she'll think you're a stalker and that she can have you wrapped around her little finger.  Be nice and ask her if she'd like to go for a coffee sometime.
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Two words for you. Be YOURSELF. I totally understand how you feel when you say you're frantic because you're trying to keep someone interested, and I had the same problem. But, I've learned that when you feel something, or you want to say something, just do it...Once you break that barrier, it's smooth sailing. People are comfortable when they can just be themselves and when they can see that the other person is also being themself. Getting to know someone is more fulfilling when you "Just do it". A good way to strike up an interesting conversation is by asking her about herself. When you ask questions and she answers them, you can spot out things you both have in common. This is when the conversation gets more interesting and easy going. People need feedback from the 2nd party in order to keep productive conversation. Smothering your significant other would only make her want to go outside for fresh air. In other words, she'd eventually get tired of being smothered and if she doesn't tell you so, she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. She'll become distant and eventually, everything heads downhill. Tell her how you feel, and try not to overwhelm her physically with the smothering. She'll appreciate the fact that you can openly discuss your feelings with her because most guys are kinda personal about their emotions. Be open-minded.
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Oh gee, I wish I known that thirty years ago!  If you are interested in a particular girl/woman, there ar ways you can show it.  Be a friend (the downside is she may learn to consider you MERELY a friend, but that's not necessarily  bad thing).  If she is interested, she will probably throw a few signals (what they are is something I'm STILL not good at), and you can plan to do some things together.  If you know what she likes, you could plan a museum visit, concert, play, movie, anything which can prompt conversation between you.  This one is unfortunately too lengthy to cover here, but there are probably some web sites with other suggestions.  Good luck!