My brother in law is a $@*£@,whats his problem?
828927
Your brother-in-law is a misogynist, he has a deep rooted hatred of women. Your sister is probably being verbally and physically abused. both of you should get away from this sick puppy.
1012201
tell me and we'll both know.  i'm 31 and my younger bro is 28 and we still don't see eye to eye on most things.  different personalities unfortunately.  if your bro is nasty and swearing than it sounds like you just need to walk away from him until he can speak to you nicely.  be strong when he bugs you for money, he's just using you as he knows you're an easy target.
255718
sure! of course! his ife shouldn be worrying at all! y dont u invite his wife along and talk to her?? and just ignore the haters that be trash talking abou u ok?
798572
keep ur money for retirment cause he makes enough.if he for some reason cant make it thru later on in life than shure help him out youve got nothing to lose remeber he is ur brother and money is just a material object. brotherhood is a very strong bond and money is even stronger when its in between so dont let it get to you.
156079
I read the original post. I read the original 4 answers. I'm confused.  I didn't see smartass remarks (well, one was borderline), what I see is a question that cannot be answered in this forum as asked.  There are too many variables to consider.  BTW, before you say I'm jealous, let me just ask:  Jealous of what? YOU haven't won anything, and you are trying to mooch of your brother in law.
105297
there's nothing you can do about it.Your husband needs to disguss it with them since it's his family,and tell them nicely to knock it off.
92001
He needs to be put into rehab as soon as possible.  One of my old roomates had a brother on drugs.  He would get off drugs, to make people believe he was clean, and then start again.  I remember her making excuses for him re how he will get help and he never did.  In fact, he had to come live with us, because he got kicked out of his house.  He had a wife and two children, but that didn't help matters.  He loved the drug.  I wanted, so badly, to move out after she let him stay with us.  He would go out late and knock on my window, at night, to let him in the house.  He basically would sneak out, so his sister wouldn't know.  Instead, he used me to get back in.  One night, I ignored the knocking and she found out.  She finaly called a few people to come make him understand that rehab was the best thing he could do with his life.  At that point, he decided to go.  \n\nI don't know the details of what is going on with your brother in-law, but if he doesn't get help soon, it may be too late.  You can help your family by convincing them to get help.  \n\nI don't know if this answered your question?  I hope it helped out a little.
637971
i think my mother in law is an alien
1048129
Sheesh, want to switch with my wife she never lets me tell her what to do. I am 6'3" and she just a tiny 5'2" but she is the boss. No really your both adults, work it out, talk, communicate, tell him what you want to do and why and listen to his answers. Maybe he feels guilty that the first house you bought wasn't as big or as nice as he thought it would be. I don't know, but without talking to him, you won't know either. Talking to people on line is not going to get it done either. Sounds to me like your tired and frustrated and will continue to be until you two talk it out. There are no stead fast rules or anything on what you are allowed and not allowed to due in most places in the U.S. and I  have to assume it is not a religeous prohibatation as your talking about it on the internet. Talk to him, if you can't talk to him, write him a letter. If worse comes to worse neither of you will be happy.
343651
I would start learning your husband's native language seriously. Show some respect by at least trying to learn his culture (by learning the language first). He will be so impressed by your willingness. Let alone your in-laws! And also, it is OKAY to remind (or tell) them occasionally to please translate the jokes in English. Or tell your husband that you like to get involved in the discussions and have him translate it for you once in awhile. \n\nAnd some insider, it is not that easy to have somebody speak in English (or whatever language you both share) every single time when English is not even their native language (this goes to the man. So appreciate him even more).
749833
If it really bothers you that much that you are family is bothering your in laws, then call them up. Find out what they want and tell them to stop contacting you through them. There are better ways of communications in future. If anything tell them to try your email that way you have control of their contact and they certainly wont bother your in laws.
856718
noooo!!!!!! father in law!!! :D
852059
My sister-in-law has a son who sever ties with her because he felt she didn't give him enough money which he feels is his inheritance!!! \n\nIf you are in this situation, let him go.
914925
Financial wasn't a big deal really.  We don't fight about that.  What we fight about is that he is a total slob and I'm constantly picking up his shi* off the floor.....it makes me absolutely crazy.  He stinks up the bathroom.....he releases gas from every orifice....ugh!  it's just gross!  Had I known he would get "that" comfortable, I probably would have reconsidered everything.
1106930
I don't know the details but it sounds like you need to sit him\ndown and explain how you see the situation,because now it's\naffecting you. As for his family,don't give in-they have no right to\npush whatever problems they have with him on you.
150184
its their own life.....let them do what they want.....the brother should be aware of his wifes whereabouts.....if u tell one the other might blame u for things.....and u'll be the center of the mess (and perhaps the divorces')
635855
He sounds like he never grew up.  I have a son-in-law who is the same exact way.  In fact I'm wondering if you are my daughter who is writing this.  Whether or not he's cheating with another girl or not he's cheating your children and you out of a family life together.