Is 'cruising' for action in public toilets and carparks a part of 'gay culture'? Is it gay behaviour?
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From a legal standpoint, this activity is a crime in some localities. This is definitely considered a risky behavior legally, and usually homosexual activity is prosecuted far more vigorously than heterosexual activity (yes, some straight people/couples have public sex. Why shouldn't they??). \nIf you're unsure of the laws in your area, it would behoove you to find them out. While the chances of your getting arrested are not usually high, circumstances vary wildly, as do the penalties. An anonymous phone call to a legal aid hotline or your local courthouse won't hurt you. A good rule of thumb to use is: the more public the place, the riskier the activity, and the higher chance you'll get busted. Nude beaches are especially chancy. \nFrom a physical harm standpoint, all I can say is be careful, many people have been “bashed” whilst participating in public sexual activity. If your intuition  tells you to leave, then leave. There'  always another time.
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Is Homo-sexuality a crime? if it isn't. Then its shouldn't be wierd.
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You miss a point in that norms have changed since the time of Oscar Wilde; homosexul sex is no longer an offence, and neither is anal sex between heterosexuals.  As sexual deviancy is presumably not defined under statute - I'd love to see the draftsman try - it will be left to the man on the clapham omnibus, or as he is now referred to the reasonable person.  Given that society has shifted in its outlook, the judiciary must do the same.  \n\nFurthermore, the church, state and juduciary are necessarily kept separate so that one does not overly influence the other - look at laws which the Government has brought in, only for the Judiciary to define in its own way as soon as its given the chance.  The only person who straddles the state and juduciary is the Lord Chancellor, a political appt to the Judiciary.\n\nTo say that no - one has ever been cured of a menal heath problem is incorrect and sensationalist.  The issue here is whether sexual deviancy is a mental health issue - this depends on the sexual behaviour, and an examination of the individual to discover the reasons for that behaviour. \n\nMental health professionals take their job seriously, there is little chance of infiltration by Opus Dei, the KKK, the Keystone Cops or any other body you care to mention.  \n\nAs to your question, the norm is whatever society decides it is at the time.  Who is society?  We are - the reasonable person in the street, the imaginary person the law considers when trying a case.
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Statistically, yes. But at the same time, no. Let me explain ...\n\nIt depends on your personality and choices. I am gay and not promiscuous at all, I only do committed relationships. On the other hand I know a bunch of gay guys who have HIV and have slept around or had sexual encounters with over 50 or 100 people and they are only 19 or 20 years old!\n\nI see the most promiscuity happen when people get over caught up in the mainstream gay culture. People should just be themselves.  A lot of gay activist groups promote promiscuity, dressing a certin way, and drugs being normal as a part of the way gays are "suppose to act". The culture does it in gay pride parades where people have mini orgies on the streets and even the gay media (movies, TV shows, and magazines make it seem normal and ok to do drugs. Dress in a gay identifying way. They will show an actor no-chelantly doing drugs and having fun with their friends or one office member having sex with the other office member just minutes after meeting each other on the show Queer as Folk. They barely ever show the devastating effects of such behavior). \n\nPeople who get caught up in that are more likely to think it is ok or even normal to sleep with just anyone because it feels good or they are more likely to use drugs because it's socially accepted in the mainstream gay community.  But we shouldn't take mind altering drugs and we should treat sex as something special and not just to be done with anyone who walks across your path.  If we have stress in our lives, we need to deal with it in a way that promotes solving problems, not just hiding them.  And being lonely, wanting to be accepted, and pleasure are NOT reasons to have sex. If we think they are, we have missed the point of sex all together.\n\nI'm not saying all gay groups have negative effects.  Family oriented gay groups or groups that fight for gay rights are great groups because they stand up against injustice and they provide a place gay people can go to fell comfortable and network with open minded individuals.\n\nI think that once gay people are more accepted in our society, the gay culture will settle down. Discrimination causes a lot of gay people to seek an identity in the mainstream gay community and segregate from the mainstream prejudicial society.\n\nDon't let anyone make you feel bad for asking your question.  You had the right to pose the question. I believe that you really wanted to know ... not that you were suggesting anything either way.\n\nSo someone who is gay need not be promiscuous. It depends upon the philosophy they adopt.
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This is dangerous in Riyadh.  The health club at the Intercontinetal.  The zoo on men's day.  Some of the hotel lobbies.\n\nBest to get out of the country and meet some gay Saudis at a gay resort area - such as Mykonos.  Then they can introduce you to gays back in Riyadh.
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Why do people drive on a parkway and park on a driveway? Why do you say you're taking a pee when you're leaving something? It's just vernacular.
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check out cruisingforsex.com it lists all of that in your area. just be sure to use caution when you go to these places, and practice safe sex!!
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Being gay, like life in general, isn't all daisys and sunny days. Usually, that's because there's a very big misconception that every gay (men at least) is tea-tottling, mincing, lisping, works at a hairdresser's, is a waiter, or is great at making floral arrangements. Let's dispel that myth with my VERY honest answer:\n\n\nThis probably will sound a little smarmy, but I really view my personal homosexuality just like the dictionary says. Although, it doesn't define me as a person, which is much more important.\n\nI live my life each day as I think most guys do. Wake up, jerk off, take a shower, get dressed, grab some coffee, head to work, work work work, brown paper bag lunch, come home, jerk off, order pizza, jerk off, watch TV or a movie, then go to sleep wearing my skivvies, and only one sock on. On the weekends I loathe my job, work on the car if it needs it, play rugby (if there's a match), mow the lawn, and do chores around the house.\n\nPersonally, I'm not a bars-and-parades kinda guy. I'm just me. Don't get me wrong, I've gone out to the bars, and have attended at least one parade in my life, but it's not my whole life.\n\nI don't see myself as different from any man, except for the act of sex itself. That, unless you're in my inner-circle, is really no ones business. So why should they worry about it when they really don't want to know about it, right? RIGHT? Hmmm...\n\nSo, what does being homosexual mean to me? It means I'm me. I'm myself. It means I'm not living up to anyone's standards but my own. It means that sex is the only difference between me and anyone else.\n\nI really don't get what all the fuss is about. I've got lots of str8 friends, who don't even care. I've met total strangers that have been cool with it. Regardless, I'm not worried about it. If I have to, I've even knocked down a str8 dude or two in my time... No worries here.\n\nGuess that's just me... you know... being homosexual...\n\n\nP.S. No need to send out prayers, particularly those who preach and pray to hear themselves talk. \n\nNONE of you are in ANY position to question the Will and Work of God!!! Who do you think you are?! \n\nOnly mankind would assign such high value of himself! Your sin is PRIDE!\n\nBLASPHEMERS! LIARS! FALSE PROPHETS!!\n\n\n.
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I'm pro but it's interesting to see that some gay are driven towards a "bourgeois" lifestyle when themselves say they are opposed to conventions.\nWHat we have in France with the PACS (the alliance between two people) is a good option because Pacs'ed people, whether they are gay or heterosexuals can share their lives, their taxes, have children and inherit the goods of the other person.
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It depends...it's ok at the ones on the left side of the street but not the right side.  If you have an erection in one on the right side of the street, it means your gay, dude.
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Straight men do this, especially when they are young.  However, if it develops into a habit, then I would say they are not straight and probably at least bisexual.
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Yes, I've heard that phrase used to indicate that a man is gay.  I guess it refers to the habit of some guys, like Richard Simmons for example, to prance and dance around.  I like Richard Simmons, he's cool.
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I know I'm not but I can't see where it would help you to know. regardless if there is or isn't. What does gay have to do with being social to asking and answering questions,Were all human and the way people were born is the way we accept them.right?
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'dogging'?? That phrase refers to group sex in car parks over here.
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Men who have sex with men are homosexual/gay or bisexual.  Situational or institutional homosexuality (prisoners as an example) does not indicate anything more than what it is, all that is available, and not indicative of what they are.\n\nHomosexuality exist in all cultures, but some cultures repress it more than others.  "Gay" is however a term used in most all modern societies and understood to mean exclusively homosexual or predominately homosexual.\n\nAncient Greeks are said to have practiced homosexuality as normal part of human sexuality with no stigma.  That isn't really the case, it was generally seen as situational homosexuality, and not particularly condoned, but rather tolerated in some segments of society.\n\nToday, if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck,  its a duck...a big gay duck!
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Yes. It's "Repiubliholics Anonymous".\n\nIt also includes a program for self-repressed gays.A lot of work needs to be done.
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I did not know about this issue in the Netherland or the NVD... \n\nCan I add a comment/ question to this- I know there is a group here in the US called Gay Man Boy Love or something like that.  I first heard of it on South Park and I thought it was a joke but then found it was for real.  \n\nFrom what I understand, they feel that pedophilia can be natural and is acceptable, like the NVD does.  I don't know if they are currently taking actions to legalize it or lower and eventually eliminate age of consent.  \n\nBut I wonder- how can the existence of these groups even be allowed?  Not to be crude, but I am sure there is some sharing of graphic pictures and websites- I doubt they can have many intellectual conversations on the topic.  \n\nJust an extra thought- albeit somewhat meandering and unfocused- I wanted to add to your question... hope you don't mind.