how to make my daughter study. I know she is brainy but she does'nt takes her XII class studies seriously.
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always a problem for children today..\nthere are too many factors that took away her interest specially with our world today.\nhave a mutual conversation with your daughter, have a honest and understanding approach, ask her, why she lost her ways of studying well nfact shes smart? remind her, it wouldnt mean youre brilliant then theres no more need to study...\nif she talks to you, thats great.\nbut if she wont, something is bothering her, too many hidden emotions that you cant see behind her mask and her role as your daughter.\nthen, try the positive reinforcement, like a reward system,\ndo offer her alternatives when she get a high grade and is seen studying well with good results, a reward is given, up to you, a gift she always wanted to maybe will do, anything you know she would love to have. in that way it wll give her a driving force to achive something, instead of wandering around and doing some school stuffs for the heck of going to school. you have to give her the motivation of studyng.\nas mother always listen and be sensitive to what happens to your kids, dnt make a conclusion for when they speak to you they are a different person... when you ask them if ther fine... if they answer yes.. it wont neccessary mean that way, they kept and hide secrets inside them to be hidden from you.\nconstant frendly conversation of your kids will improve them to go to you have a conversation and have a good counceling.\nthen most important of all, show her that she is of importance to you. all she need is love and the attention of it. most childrens psychologcal problems root to such lack of love, attention and importance.\nmutuality. listen. and be fair.
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Let up a little and don't always correct the kid.  She probably resents the fact that you think she is always in need of your brains and help.  Allow her to make some mistakes and when she wants your help she can approach you if she wants.
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Show her some of your "A" tests and remind her that you are a much better student than many parents can bribe their kids into being, with the suggestion that this is a sort of reward- you are a good student and can stand to miss a half-day of school. Explain calmly and clearly your points about the teachers expecting students to not show up. You can also mention how even the school administration didn't feel it was necessary to have a whole day of school- aren't the last three hours of school just as important as the first five? Make sure to present your points maturely and rationally, without any whining, and your mom is sure to be impressed and agree to let you stay home.\n\nIf she makes you go anyway, you can skip homeroom and your classes and just hide in the library and read. Make it a 5-hour discover-interesting-books day, it'll be awesome. I wish I had a 5-hour block of time I could devote to just browsing a library, I need to expand the types of books I read and I've glanced at really interesting titles that I never had time to check out. Like ventriloquism, learn ventriloquism! You'll be able to screw with people for the rest of your life.
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Send her to a practicals tutor. I can offer my services - gratis and without any obligation on either side.
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you need to be PROACTIVE Have her sit down at the KITCHEN TABLE eg someplace without distraction (tv radio etc) where you can warth her study DON'T HOVER but keep an EYE out.  If she looks lost or confused tell her to focus and ask where she is and check how she id doing.  Don't just say how are you doing pick a few things out of her homework and ask her to explain them to you.  Have HER in a sence TEACH YOU.  what she learned.  if you work late let her start her homework late so you can watch her do it or if that isn't an option ask to see her homework at night and go over it with her B4 bed.  YOU MAY HAVE TO EXTEND HER BEDTIME.  This is OK.  ADOLESCENTS CAN FUNCTION ON LITTLE SLEEP MUCH BETTER THAN CAN ADULTS. besides the sleep cycle (circadium rythym) of a teenager is such that they want to stay awake later. it would be better for her, if she is your average kid, if you let her stay up to do the work.\n\nYOU MUST KEEP ON HER.  IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AS A PARENT!!!!!!!!!
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Hello Desh, I think you are brilliant already. The fact that you are aware that you can't remember some of the answers you read, is the first step in solving the challenge. To tell you the truth IT IS VERY EASY TO STUDY AND REMEMBER!\n\nFirstly, change the environment you study in. Some people study and absorb a lot in quite environments. You can chose a very quite library or study room. If you live in the country side move to the parks, but remember to stay in sight so people will easily come to your aid in case a lunatic threatens you.\n\nSome people also do very good studies in music filled environment. Tune in to your ipod or mp3 player and hit them books.\n\nSometimes you might also want to make it fun. If it is a history subject, put yourself into the drama and be the hero remembering all the characters in the lesson.\n\nOr better make your own music or discuss your topic or subject with one of your favorite friends and tell them to ask you questions about the subject in question. Hey! You are smart and am sure you gonna come out with the grades you are looking for. Good luck sweet heart.
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lay down the law with her. tell her that for not getting good grades or not doing it u can take away priviledges. that should persuade her. if not, tell how much it hurts u to see her get bad grades. tell her u want to see her succeed in life and that she cant do that without doing her homework.  also, dont just take away priveledges, set aside time to check up on her. if she is doing badly, lower her allowance or take away more valued priveledges, like friends or phone. then again u dont want her to hate u, so dont come down hard on her the 1st time. but if the bad behavior and grades continue, start getting stricter. she needs to know you mean when u say it. if u say 'the next time you get a C or lower, your grounded', when she gets a C, follow up on it. she'll probably remember those words and say to herself ' moms not serious about this grade thing'. ur words need to be powerful, but not overwhelming.
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I disagree with that\nI am a single mother and my daughter is very smart, her school \ndoes not provide music, up to date books, they didn't even have a library last year, They are behind on their curriculum compared to other schools\n Because of my financial situation I cannot move at this point NOR send her to private school...I am not failing.\nI look over homework, she reads books all the time, we do other things at home to help. It is NOT ME who is failing, it's the school
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For learning her ABC's, you can use any computer really. I would recommend including a Touch Screen, and a one-button mouse with your purchase, to make interaction with the computer much easier for her. You must be VERY patient with her regarding her learning to interact with the computer, and with her learning the content of the programs. \n\nWhat country are you in? If you are in the United States, then even if your daughter is on a "Life Skills" certficiate track at school, she should have goals relating to learning reading (actually, goals relating to each of the core academic subjects). Talk with your daughter's special education teacher about which goals tie in to the reading/language arts state standards and benchmarks. No Child Left Behind and the new reauthorization of IDEA requires that she have academic goals in the five core areas (Reading, Writing, Math, Science/Social Studies). However, your daughter may still be working on pre-reading and pre-writing goals that lead up to the regular standards. Ask about what activities they have been doing with her for the eventual acquisition of print recognition and writing. The school probably also has had your daughter on a computer already, for at least once per week (in the school computer lab or on a classroom computer).\n\nFrom your saying that you wish to "open up communication," I take it your daughter does NOT speak?  If she is not talking, then there are touch-board communication devices that greatly assist with basic communication. They range from 2 panels up to dozens of panels.  Once again, IF you are in the United States, your IEP committee should be looking at how to help her express herself in social communication. What does your Speech Pathologist say? Has your committee done an assistive technology assessment?\n\nFor your home computer, I would recommend the Reader Rabbit series, starting with their Infant, and then Pre-School programs, so that your daughter can learn how the computer works. Also, try the activities at these links (not all may interest her, but they are worth a try):\n\ngood training for computer interactivity and basic vocabulary skills at...\nhttp://www.pctots.com/infant-development.htm\n\nthen add...\nhttp://www.learningcompany.com/\nhttp://www.getreadytoread.org/content/view/101/317/\nhttp://www.sesameworkshop.org/sesamestreet/?scrollerId=games\nhttp://www.4thekidstoystore.com/edso.html
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I answered a question very similar to this a few days ago .... I've put part of that answer here as well ....\n\nThe first step is to talk to her (calmly) and to her teacher to see if you can figure out what is going on.  You may need to get her to talk to the school guidance counselor if her school has one.  You can't begin to fix this until you know the reason for the change, and you probably can't fix it without involving other people.\n\nObviously something has changed somewhere with your daughter's life. Children don't suddenly change drastically in their behavior and in their approach to school. Neither do children suddenly become "lazy". We need only watch kids playing or doing stuff they like to do to realize they are not lazy. \n\nSome things you might check out are whether she is being bullied at school, for example. Is she happy at school? How does she get along with her teacher? Her classmates? Has she changed schools? Has there been a change in her life at home? A separation? A new baby? Is she hanging out with a new group of friends who don't care about good grades?  In order to address this problem, you need to find the cause of it. \n\nAnother area to think about is that there is often quite a jump academically from one grade to the next, especially into high school.  Kids are expected to be much more mature in their apporach to school and learning in general as they get into high school.  She may be having a difficult time adapting to that change and to the different expectations.\n\nShe is 13 - so hormones may be beginning to take over.  Pay close attention to what she does when she is using the computer.  How much tme is she spending on line, using the telephone, watching TV, video games, etc.?  Is she getting enough rest?  Does she seem tired or disinterested?  Has there been a change in other behavior, as well as in her grades?   Has she been losing weight?  YOu need to know all this to figure out exactly what might be going on.\n\nMy gut reaction is that there is something going on that you don't know about ... what you have described is not typical, and you should get to the bottom of it and find the cause. Yes, sometimes teenagers rebel by doing things that can cause a lot of aggravation for parents, but this change in your daughter seems rather drastic. \n\nI hope some of my thoughts have helped you.  Good luck.
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At this age everything she does is education: looking around, discovering things, learning her colors, letters, etc., because she wants to. So you don't have to worry about right now.\n\nAbsolutely you should read to her, let her see you reading. Start conversations with "I wonder how" or "I wonder why", and then find the answers together, at the library or on the internet. Make it fun.\n\nBy the time she's older and NEEDS to study, she'll already be good at getting information and think it's a fun thing to do.\n\nLearning doesn't have to be boring or hard, and it doesn't mean you have to memorize everything.
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Find out what she's interested in and buy her a book about whatever subject she likes. Don't rush her, and try not to give the impression that somehow you are forcing her to read, because nobody likes to be told what to do! Instead tell her how fun it is to read and help her choose a book that she would love to read. Try to get books that are well written, fun and easy to read. There are a lot of books out there that are really boring...and if your sister is not keen on reading already, getting a boring book will just make her turn away from books altogether!
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Next time you're in class with her, just talk to her.  Don't bother with trying to ask her what she meant.  That will only put pressure on her.  Just talk to her about something in class, or about class.  Maybe talk about something you thought was confusing, or extra easy.  Better yet, maybe you could talk to her about the next test, and how you think you might study.  Ask her what she thinks she'll study.  Maybe you could work together...
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Get her a small notebook and have her write it down in class and get it signed by the teacher. Check the notebook every evening. If no teacher signature then no________. Go out for ice cream without her once or twice. If you don't have enough time to get a teachers signature you don't have enough time for fun.\nThis worked great with my son when he was about 13. It only took one trip to the ballgame without him. The notebook became a permanent part of his school day for the rest of the time he was in school.\nNow he writes everything down that he needs to do.
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To turn him to study other subjects also, he needs to have interest. he cant have that unless he start understanding and knowing the subject.\nHe just need to take up and start studying the subject and i guess he sounds smart , he soon will be interested in reading them.\nTo help him u can set him extra tutions for those subjects. tution does help. it gives u the start up and ensures that everthing is goin studied in time and schedule.\nTution is important.
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What behavioral interventions and work prompts are her teachers doing with her at school? Ask if you can sit in and observe so you can do the same thing for academic work at home.\n\nShe will calm down greatly when she has similar expectations and prompts across environments. Your behavior responses are probably different from her teachers, and this confuses her because homework is schoolwork is something that should happen just-that-way-that-it-always-happens.....
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ask her why you are getting the bad grade, maybe you can work out your differences. If not, then do your best so that your teacher has to mark the answers right. If she still marks them wrong, then go to the pricipal etc.