why does love hurt so much?
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Simple. Love does not hurt...you may be attracted to a person you think you like but it hurts sometime..then it isnt love..he are some thing to consider:Love \n1.Love does not hurt. Physical and/or emotional abuse are not a part of love. \n\n2.Love is not manipulative, it should not be used to get others to do what you want. You should never give in to demands based on the, "You would do it if you loved me!" tactic.\n\n3.Love is an intense feeling of caring for another person. It can take many different forms (romantic, friendly, familial) but it is always about caring. \n\n4.Although it is true that a big part of love is putting another person's happiness ahead of your own this never includes compromising your values or being untrue to yourself. \nIf somebody asks you to do something that you don't want to do in order to "prove" your love they do not love you the way you might think they do. When you love another person you don't ask them to sacrifice a part of themselves in the name of that love. \n\n5.It is very easy to confuse lust for love. \n\n6.The true measure of romantic love is commitment and trust not physical attraction. \n\n7.It is possible to feel romantic love for more than one person at a given time. Just think, if it is possible for you to love both of your parents at the same time why would it be impossible to feel romantic love for two people at once? Don't beat yourself up emotionally if you find yourself in this unhappy situation. But be sure to remain single and be open and honest with all parties about your feelings and confusion.\n \n8.Sex is NOT love. Love is NOT sex. Sex can be a part of romantic love but it is never mandatory. \n\n9.Romantic love can (and often does) fade. When it goes there is not always a reason. When somebody falls out of love with you it does not reflect upon your value as a person or your desirability. \n\n10.Love should make you feel happy, secure and appreciated
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I've had a problem with the same question. I've come to find out that if you really love someone and you seperate or your away for a while and you can't stop thinking of them and it begins to hurt, your in love. But, if the same thing happens and the only thing you really miss is being shacked up with them then it's lust. Love is very complicated and very painful. No words can ever express real love it's something that you feel deep down. Love can be different things to different people it really depends on you. Sit down alone and think about it.
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People do have a way of hurint those they love most!  Its not just you we have all done it!  it could be that u r terrified of being hurt and you figure u will hurt them before they hurt u.  You may not even be aware that u r doing this but its could be self protection that u r doing.  You could be doing this self conciously and not even know!!!!  Have u been hurt by someone u were close too in the past?????  This could be the reason u r protecting yourself.  Good luck to u!  Remember- the person who hurt u in the past is not the people in your life now so they deserve to be treated with kindness and not be hurt!!!  Just remind yourself of that daily if it helps you!!!
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love is never ment to be all easy n sweet ,, u gotta feel the pain
6604
Unfortunately love can be painful as well as joyous.  Remember that just because we care or love someone else does not necessarily mean that person feels the same way toward us.  Its a tough situation when you love someone who cannot return the feelings.  But, its better to find that out now rather then later.  Best of luck to you.
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The pain of rejection is temporary. You feel it now because the wound is fresh. But wounds always get better with time. However bad it has been losing this guy for you, you will surely get over it. Because, pain is always temporary.\nWhereas, the joy of true love, when you do find it, is permanent. It is an eternal paradise. You have already had a glimpse of it. Just imagine how wonderful it would be if such a joy lasted forever. So dont think the pain is not worth bearing. It is. Not just once or twice but as many times it takes. Never lose faith in true love. Just because one person struck hollow, doesnt mean every other guy will. The only way to be happy is to believe that there is good and happiness and it is attainable.\nThere is no way you can protect yourself from this sort of pain. It is a part of life. But so is the happiness. Someday it will be yours. All you have to do is hang in there, especially during the delicates moments like the ones you're going through now. Dont lose hope.. the world is a beautiful garden with many wonderful flowers.\nYou'll find your rose. Time is all it takes.
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It hurts, very badly.
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Yes i think that that saying is true. love is the most wonderful thing that a person could experience. yes it may hurt to loose the one that you love but over time that pain subsides and you are left with wonderful memories of that one special person that you had in your life.
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Pain. When you always fight or you're far away from each other. Most people think that love conquers the pain no matter how hard it is but the truth is, Pain takes away the Love no matter how great it is.
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Love doesn't have a switch, although it would be great if it did. We were born with the ability to love and boy do we ever.\nLife is just one longggggg lesson and for everything a purpose.\nWhen we love someone, we give of ourselves freely, leaving ourselves open to joy, passion, fear and even heartache.\nWhoever said love makes us stronger is probably right.\nIf having your heart broken didn't hurt, then you would probably never even be able to feel love.\nI would rather have my heart broken then to never have a chance at love.\nTime is your only friend when it comes to heartache, and as far as wanting them back, well, I'd have to say, ask yourself why they broke your heart in the first place and is it worth it to put yourself in that position again?\nGood luck to you!!!
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Ahh. Love. \nIts when you love so much it hurts. \nWhen you hear their voice for the first time in days and burst into tears. Its when you worry about him for every little thing. When he's slightly emotionally hurt, you cry with him. When you feel like you can fly and soar no matter where you are. When you would do anything for them, such as heal them, or stay up all night until they feel better. You can imagine all eternity with him, no matter what he does. And if you're not loved back, you feel like you're nothing. How every single word of theirs echoes in your bed room. How they have invaded your brain and thoughts and dreams. And if they die right now, you feel you might as die as well. Even 1000 miles cannot seperate you two. And you miss them every second you're apart. and how you'd never forgive yourself for hurting them, ever.  But most of all, you glow of the happiness when you're together. \nThey seem to be your everything.....\nso thats how it feels. \nxoxoJenny
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That's called heartache. It's not really the heart that hurts, but it is muscles affected by the upper stomach. Our nerves can affect these muscles in many ways, but grief--which is what we feel when we lose a lover--is a potent trigger of sensation here. We say we feel like we've just been kicked in the stomach when we break up with a lover. And that is the sensation, to a lesser extent, that grief leaves us with. You can condition yourself to experience this pain so that it is worse for you; or we can learn what it is and learn to cope with it, but for only a brief time. Grief is natural, living for long with the pain of grief is not.
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It's a bit of both. \n\nHaving love is painful, lest you fear to lose it, yet at the same time, being in love is wonderful and can make you happy.\n\nYou must strike a good balance.
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It is hard to say but I think it is not love that hurts it's losing it that hurts. If you love someone and they leave you can almost feel your heart break in two.
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we hurt the most the people that we love.
197821
Its true..Love is painful...But it is the most powerful emotion God has given to mankind and with every gr8 thing comes a drawback too.. just like with a rose comes the painful spikes. Same way with Love comes the pain..u have gotto accept the both sides baby..U cant opt for just one coz with the heads also comes the tail(in a coin)..;)
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loving someone is getting to know them and truly caring about them.  being in love with someone puts a shield over you and u feel like life is perfect, but sometimes are in for a rude awakening.