i hate my husband what should i do?
828943
Maybe you need to approach this whole situation from another angle.  Like paying more attention to your self and do the things that make you feel good and boost your self steem.  I don't mean by going out and having an affair, but stop wallowing in self pity because you husband is a di*k. Once you start doing the things that make you happy, he'll come around to grovel and ask for forgiveness for being such a blind jerk.
665452
He hates you? He likes little kids? Find a new guy!! You don't want to be in a realtionship with someone who hates you.  You can do better than that.
321334
So, he doesn't agree...big surprise, right?  No way to get your message across, then you'll have to send the message by actions, not words.  While you've been talking and he's not listening, that's all it is...lip service.  What have you done to show him that this marriage was a mistake?  Nothing.  If you are going to end it, then end it.  Move out and leave a note.  Explain that you made a mistake by rushing into this marriage and upon this realization, you need to go.  File the papers and in 3 months or so, you'll be free to live as an independant woman again.  Until then, just lay low and don't listen to his crying and persuations.  Just cut the cord and make it short and sweet.  It'll be easier and less painless in over the long run.
1134339
just leave him\nu deserve sumone better\nhes not worth the trouble u r taking
306810
sorry to hear about your case. You are like holding every breath you take and not letting any of the air out. Like you said, you man does everything right in the house and is a good father, just a bad husband. You want to sentence him to death on one hand, but on the other side he does not deserve the sentence of death.\nSo what should you do?\nAs a guy, i hate your husband because he has two face. For what you can do is use the website below. What it does is letting you know everything that your husband is doing on the computer. If he really cheats again, you have everything on paper. In black and write. Now, the question is about your kid. If your kid is a boy, he has a bad father to learn from. \nIf it really comes to divorce, so be it. You should not be sleeping with a guy that cheats on you every night for the rest of your life. \nPlus your son can learn from his father mistake and learn how to treat other women respectfully in the future.\n\nBut...but... if you want to give you husband one more chance, it is okay to. Once you know what he is senting on the computer. Tell him that you are take your son and yourself away. And You will be seeing him in court/lawyer office about divorce. But you don't want him to know about you knowing what he has been doing in the computer. That is you best card in hand for court in the future if you do decide to leave him.\nIf he comes back to you, he has to prove it. Give him a month time. See how much he loves you. See how many time he calls. See how much he is willing to do for you to get you back. \nRemember you are worry about your son, but you need to care about yourself too. \nMy friend live with her mother after her parent separated. She know what kind of dad she has and hated him. Her mom is doing find.\nI am not scarying you, i just want you to know you child will understand. You need to know if you husband is still the right man for you. If not...then he has to go.\nIf he is, then he stays.\nGood luck
447223
Man you should love your wife. Why hate someone who you are married to. If you hate her then leave her.................................
855080
That is risky for us to guess since we do not know the two of you.  Does he outwardly mope around?  Or just get quiet?  You're husband is probably angry at his father as well as sad - misses him but hates him for what he did.  This is real dicey - be very careful or you might make it worse.  \nThis will fade over time.  He PROBABLY just wants to be happy himself and be well distracted by his beautiful wife and the rest of his (hopefully) nice family.  I would suggest that you try not to mention it, and if he does, mostly listen.  If this does not fade he might need some counselling himself.  Good luck.
712006
sugar, some of the above comments are simply bad bad advice. Trying to hurt him back, divorcing him, etc - they are simply bad bad choices that will only make things worse.\n\nwhat is needed is for you and your husband to seek godly counsel, to learn to forgive and be honest with each other. don't throw your marriage out the window. don't seek revenge. don't let your anger or humilation overcome you.\n\nbelieve it or not, there are many many couples who not only recover from something like this but who go on to be stronger than ever in their marriage.\n\nBut you do need to be honest with other, to seek counsel from someone you both trust and respect, to learn to pray and commit things to God, to forgive....\n\nGod bless you!!!\n\nPlease let me know if I can help at all!!!
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First thing get out now!!! You don't need the abuse, been there done that, I got out and so can you.\n\nFile for divorce, do not give him a reason to get back in your life.\n\nSeek couseling so you don't do it again, it becomes a habit.\n\nLive alone for a while so you learn to strictly depend on yourself for everything and learn that you don't need a male to identify with.\n\nIf you don't want to get rid of him quit complaining and live with your choice.
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get your son back call the police firstly. Secondly, your husband needs a clip over the ears how selfish he is to put you under so much pressure. Can't he see he is killing you. Go to counselling and get him to AA. \n\nStand up for your rights and do what you know is best. If he refuses kick him out!
136846
If you're not happy with your marriage then end it.  Don't start a realtionship while you're still married get a divorce then go off and do whatever.  Trust me it'll hurt less for your husband if he cares for you even a little bit.
1100264
Hazeline, no you should still love him. What you need to do is get some kind of hobby or something that keeps your mind off of the treatment he is giving you. Show him what it is like to do someone that way. I'm not saying be mean but ignore him some and allow him to see how it feels. If it doesn't seem to bother him then I would have a talk with him and tell him my feelings in a way that is not judging or nagging way. Say this is the way I feel. Always use I not this is the way you make me feel. How long you been married? Try your best to make the marriage work unless he is abusive toward you otherwise you will one day regret if you don't give it a shot..
831110
i think you need to get out as fast as you can.you deserve so much better, and he is just a waste of your time.
273428
Number 1--the words Bf are not nice and anger will not alove your problems--leave them alone.   Let go, and let God.  Unless, you are willing to really forgive and stay together, from your tone I do not think that will happen, you can kill more flies with honey than you can with vinger, hold your head high, the best way to deal with that is to take care of yourself and do better.  Ignore them and keep moving on
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You are not alone. You do not have to continue living with your abusive husband. He is not going to change. No matter how tearful and sincere his apologies may be, he will batter you again.\n\nYou can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7) toll free at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They can give you the number of your local program. The people who work for these programs are trained to help women in you situation navigate the social service and legal system. They may also have a shelter to provide you and your children with temporary housing.\n\nNo matter how much you love him you cannot fix him. You may think that if I can just love him enough it will get better. You could pour all the love in the world into him and he would still abuse you. \n\nYou can only fix you and make a better life for you and your children. When you make that call make sure he's nowhere around, like when he's at work. You need to be safe when you make that call. \n\nI'd be happy to talk with you if you want to email me. God bless you and your children.
348941
I think it is your husband fault. You can ask this question to him and try to get his help. If hi can not help you, wait for a while. Time is a medicine for the most of the problem:)
657721
I went through the same thing with my husband.. you might try anger managment counseling or taking a trial seperation. Just remember that when you feel yourself getting to the point of explosion that you have 2 feet WALK AWAY.