Are you married and trying to make it work after he/she cheated and why?
830345
once a cheater always a cheater, why try to make it work?
190293
the person who i loved with all my heart cheated on me after 2 years of relationship. it crushed me but i couldn't imagine my life without him and i tried to make things work. there were many promises from him, explanations, excuses, anything you can just think about. so i tried. all i got was another 3 years of misery, tears and broken heart. he did cheat again... and again... and again... so i just wasted years from my life and it ended in a break up anyway. it took me long time even after that to get over him but now i'm married and am the happiest woman on earth. i beg you girl, DON'T BELIEVE A CHEATER!!!!
612366
Why did you break-up?  Obviously, there was a reason it wasn't working out.  Did either of you cheat?  Or, did you break-up because you wanted to see other people (or because one of you wanted to see someone else)?  If it was cheatting, do you really think trust will be in the relationship, and suddenly faithful?  If someone wanted to see other people, do you think it won't happen again?  Some people always want something on the back burner.  (Well, if I break-up with her and things don't work out with so-n-so, I can always go back to her.)  Hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me!!!
367276
asuming of course that ur man cheated, i`m kinda curious about the details of the infidelity, however it is common for a man who cheated to do it again, i know i have! yes i`m am a pig and i don`t deserve my girlfriend, and i know that to be certain... still she wants to be with me, go figure.  I`ve told her every single detail, and had given her a way out u know a choice!  she didn`t want it, i still enjoy a lot of her character and sense of humor and we get along just fine... except for the above.
1035192
I'm sorry you have been cheated on. Where does this rant really get you? My opinion is you should be taking care of this with the person at fault than talking to us
1094509
I have been in both situations.  When i cheated in long-term relationships it was because i had gaping, aching needs that were not being met in my relationship but i wanted to keep the primary relationship because of various reasons like love, the kids, social acceptance, financial, codependence, etc.\n\nNow i am in a long term relationship and not cheating and it is so wonderful to finally be fully open and honest.  Such a relief.  Now i see that  my deception made it impossible for my primary relationship to be satisfying to me.  Because i was distancing myself from it by the cheating.  I understand the motivations to cheat.  But i don't recommend it.  Deception is a wound on the soul.  A gash down the middle of your life.
193355
If you really want it to work and you have trust and faith in the relationship then yes it can work but you can't be calling him or her up every second asking where they are or what they are doing or who they are with. Me from experience i had a long distance relationship before on my part it worked b/c i trusted him but he didn't trust me he would call me up asking me all these questions. I would answer him honestly. Then it turned out that i was the one who was being honest and faithful but he wasn't. So i guess he felt guilty and he has to think that i was cheating just because he was. It was alright. But if you are honest and have faith then yes they can work. You just have to try your hardest.
1068917
I couldn't and wouldn't.  I love the man I'm married to. If you love the other person...how can you betray them?  He/She may never find out...but.........you would always know. Can you look them in the eye after betraying them?  Could you live with yourself?  Would you feel the guilt?  Then maybe one day...the guilt builds up, you feel your mate deserves better than what you've given. There goes the relationship.  Besides..........."How can you REALLY be SURE you can get away with it?"    If it ruins your relationship, you didn't get away with it.  Think about it.   The grass isn't always greener on the other side. And you usually find a lot of weeds.    If the person you want to have an affair with is willing to do this knowing you're cheating....how can they trust you not to cheat on them if it were to lead to more than an affair?   Cheating is never the answer.   Be true to your man/woman.  And....be true to yourself.
467760
There are cheaters and then there are mistakes...u can't prevent a cheater from cheating but you can prevent mistakes from happening..I beleive everyone is capable of making mistakes, and for those which are truely honest mistakes, can learn from them so they are not repeated...it may end that particular relationship but they know better to make that same mistake in their next relationship...it sometimes takes good judgement to recognize the difference between the two to avoid being a victim of a cheater.
228749
Leave him.  I'm normally not into giving flat-out answers, but this time I will.  The relationship is clearly toast.  If he can't get over it, then your cheating basically ended the relationship, and once the trust is gone, the relationship is gone.  That's one of the few laws of relationships- no trust, no dice.  Just let it go, start over, and don't mess up next time around.
333235
be honest and dont cheat again
258998
Hey man I know where you are coming from. My wife just told me that cheated on me with another man about 2 months ago. I went nutts, but not too bad. Luckily she told me at our preachers house. After she told me I did not know what to do. Because in the bible it states that that is the only reason for divorce. I sat down and talked with her and the preacher. We agreed that we would stay together. I wanted to leave her but then I didn't. I love her so much, and not only because we have kids. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Like I said it has already been 2 months since she told me and I still can not sleep nor trust her. There are still times when I want to leave but I can't because I love her too much. Also you don't want to go out and do the same thing she did. It won't do any good, except have a burden on your shoulders. Just hang in there man. Pray about it and see what God wants you to do. God Bless!
787134
I would say it is a big sign that the relationship isn't all it should be.  I know sometimes people do make mistakes, but to me, I'd rather move on after being cheated on than risk being hurt that way again.  But that's me, once the trust is broken then I can't seem to get past it.  Lots of people's relationships married or not do survive infidelity though.  I guess it just depends on the who what and why's.
667796
well it is because you love him and you are use to him and you dont want the relationship to end and its just like other things in a relationship you think it can be fixed,cheating in a serious relationships destroys it you no longer can trust that person and it causes alot of emotional pain and guilt on both people it really is a selfish act on that persons part too but us as woman are the ones that try to fix things and we have the mother instinct so that is why we put up with alot of bs but usually after cheating a relationship doesnt last and if it does it is never the same it has been broken in two it is sad but you will find someone else someday just dont put up with it a you will grow from this experience good luck
857016
To prevent problems in the future and to be able to trust him again, divorce him, let him be someone else's worry. I've been there and have struggled with promises all my life, it doesn't work and is now to late to do anything about it. All I have is the "wish I would haves' and the aughts" it's all to late to live a full life, I let myself be cheated.
570486
cheating is cheating... and what's to stop him or her from doing it again with someone else?
71680
Ultimately, the only person that can answer that is you and your spouse. If they continue to be unfaithful, there is an underlying reason to their actions. If in fact the two of you wish to salvage the relationship, talk to the other and find their real feelings. Perhaps the other is doing this because hey are addicted to sex. If this is the case, maybe you can consider stepping up the sex life. If the other simply enjoys the feeling of being with someone else, perhaps you can consider opening the relationship to allow a third part to join the relationship from time to time. Consider all options before you make a choice as in relationships when we make a move the piece is sometime difficult if not impossible to move back. I hope this helps….\n\n-Jerry