Sharing flat with sister - on mother's request?
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Your sisters are not your responsibility - the parents are the only ones responsible for them. I seriously believe your wife and yourself need to have your own place to develop your own relationship and grow your own family. Having extra women in the house will cause all sorts of problems & possibly kill your relationship. You are an adult now so you just need to say NO, you don't need to give a reason. Suggest your sister gets her own place and say you will look out for her to keep mum happy, but do not let other people move in.
847568
surely if she is receiving tax credits she can get an interest free loan and pay back small amount every week.\nShe should c doc if depressed.\nIts sad that she hasnt got presents yet for you and your sis but you should let your mum know that you understand, you dont expect and that you appreciate all what she does for you.  Christmas is about families coming together not just about sharing gifts.\nI feel for your mum she works her guts out and reaps little back, doesnt seem right.  do you have family you can turn to.  Can mum order from catalogue, can u shop on ebay, excellent bargains on their.\nI think the best gift you can do for your mum is to do as much as poss at home over the holidays, 7 cleaning jobs! she isnt going to want to come home and do more. Being supportive of your mum is reward enough all round.\nAlternatively you could always contact magazines, local papers and television shows with your predicament someone somewhere could help.  I pray for you that you all have a very merry christmas and get lots of lovely things\n\nErica h, i think that an excellent idea, maybe we here in yahoo answers can all pitch in to help them, i can be contacted on kchngdhn@toucansurf.com
607247
address the people/company you are renting from. i am sure they could work something suitable out for you with your being able to move. they are reasonable people or should be. things happen beyond our control sometimes and i know they know that too. next time you get room mates have them added onto the lease with your leaser. that way you are not totally responsible for everything.
578765
Your mother is from the old school. Don't fault her for that! Would you rather she be with someone is abusive, penniless, unemployed or a crackhead? Would you feel better then? If these men do not like financially contributing to your mother, then they can decide against it. I think that you and your mother can agree to disagree. You feel as if there should be a split and your mother thinks the man should pay all the way. I wish you and Mom all the best!
1072116
Girl let it go, that is your decision and your house with your boyfriend. If you did not want to see extra company you have every right to express it and make her pick the children back up. \n\nMy suggestion: Make it a house rule that if the children want spend the night guest over on the weekend they can spend that weekend with there mother. Why because your request is not outrageous, this will keep sh*t down in the future. You may have to revise stuff and add more rules but hey that is your dwelling.
1027336
can't you see each other without the aid of anybody? there are lots of ways you know. but, just in case that there are no more options left, tell your mom, who knows, your mom and her bestfriend might even like the idea. :)
1001585
Wow. State Custody may be the best option.\n\nAre there any other family members that will be on the same continent as the mother? I'd suggest they may be good candidates.\n\nWill your sister move to your country?\nYou could all live in the same house and she could earn sweat equity toward rent with you by caring for your home while you work.\n\nShe may just need to let the kids stay with the state until she gets back on her feet -- or should I say on the in the first place!\n\nFoster Parents may be the best option for the kids given all the financial problems, young parents, lack of other immediate family within reasonable proximity!
315660
If your mom is kicking you out it must be for a reason.  You can either choose to work things out with her or find a new place.  If your looking for a new place the best thing for starters is to look into newer places and maybe just a studio apartment.  That way the rent is usually cheaper plus you get a place that you don't have to share and worry about falling apart.
779892
You both sound very much in love. How about asking him to move and buying/renting his mom a place close by, that way you'll be in your comfort zone and able to deal with her from a distance; and enable him to move? I think you're going to have to accept the fact that he'll never want his mom out of his life...as annoying as it is; the package comes with it.
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The only thing you have to consider is where you are living.  Yes, you're 18 and an adult but if you are still living under your mother's roof then you need to follow her rules.  Still, there's no reason that you can't talk to her like an adult and explain that you would like some more freedom.  The biggest part of this is how much she trusts you.  If you've given her reasons to think that you can make good decisions then you're likely to get what you're looking for.  If you've shown her you can't, she's likely as not to tell you to follow her rules.
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To Baby-Girls apartment
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Was Deidra told that her mom was selling the building and that she was going to have to start paying rent? It really doesn't matter but I was just wondering.\n\nAnyway, if I were your sister I would hire an attorney and have Diedra served with a legal notice. If she does not comply with the terms in the notice (and the lawyer will know how to word them), then I would start eviction procedures. Be very careful in what you talk to Dedra about because in some states (like mine) it is illegal to discuss any persons bill or anything like that, to any family member. Your sister could get in trouble for discussing this with any family member. It wouldn't be enough to allow Diedra to live in the apartment rent free, but it could be enough to where she wouldn't have to pay the back rent. Your sister can also mess up Deidra's credit with all this too.
616286
I live with my mother, and as living with another adult, that's hard to cope sometimes. Communication is the key to get along.
427218
I'm not sure, but my friend, who is 17, got to pick who she lived with when she was 13 I think; ultimately, she chose her mother's house because it was closer and she preferred her mother, but if the child has no immediate family, then I don't see any reason why he/she shouldn't be able to live with another relative.
499115
Well, sounds to me like you may never get your money here. I would just be upfront...tell her that your parents have decided they would like to buy it and since she has been unable to pay you the agreed upon amount you are going to sell it to them. She has renigged on her agreement and that gives you the right to sell it to someone else. If her and her uncle are upset...they will get over it.
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If your mother is fit and healthy why would you not take your mother as well?\nYou obviously can afford to take your mother with you or you wouldn't be going on holiday a "few" times a year\nIt seems from writing the question that you do not accord your mother the same status as your family, you only have one mother and at 97 she isn't going to be around forever treat her as you would wish to be treated at that age by your own kids and have a complete family holiday
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To be honest, it would be better for all of you if you could work something out with your sister because the present interest holder (meaning your mom) in a reversionary life estate cannot do anything that would dimish the value of the property and she also has a duty to maintain the property.  If it has been vacant for an extended period, anything could have happened over there.  \n\nYour sister may have also included a right of termination in the life estate or reserved some sort of right of entry if for instance your mom had to go into a nursing home.  There are all kinds of unknowns here both in how your sister set this up and the law in your state. \n\nLong story short, you may not be able to stop her.  \n\nWhy don't you just go with her or simply remove anything from the house that your mom does not want your sister to have access to?  It would seem to be the most painless compromise for all involved.