men only ! what stresses you out about buying an engagement ring for your significant other ?
817706
the price. we want to get you the nicest that we can affort. someone came up with the rule of 2 months salary (must be a girl). that's a lot of money!!!!! thinking about it, stress me out right now. >: (
470213
Spent my life savings on an engagement ring\n\nIt worked =)
808803
It's not about the ring. Buy a fridge or couch instead. Your man will agree. Then one day when you get a bit of money together, buy a ring.
513782
It is perfectly fine to buy a new ring. It isn't who bought the ring or how much it costs (though it's turning your finger green, it might not last very long), it's the meaning behind it. My boyfriend split our Engagement ring 50/50 because we were both in college as well. You might first want to talk to your fiance. Tell him how the metal is irritating your finger (which it will, if it hasn't yet) and ask him to go with you. Let him know how much you love the ring and you love him, but, how the ring just needs alittle touching up. Good luck and Congrats!
1098188
hey you guys i am the one buying the ring, i have my reasons for buying the ring, and yes i can afford it, i am not hurting in any way trust me, we are just kinda short on time. i am geting the for many reasons, number one i ain't putting nothing cheap on her finger number 2 i love her and i told her to pick what she wanted number three my baby gets what she wants she just says the word and it's done. i am not by the least materialistic, i am very simple and i don't need alot of material possesions to make me happy, if she is happy that is all i care about. she chose that ring, and i always aim to please her, i love you so much baby, and one more time i a can afford the ring and whatever else she wants from her loving husband
475532
I would never buy jewelry for my woman from anyone other than a reputable dealer.  Too easy to get screwed and to me, cheap and expensive stuff all look about the same.  And truth be told, these days even the experts are having more and more trouble telling the fake from the real, until your wrist or finger or earlobe turns green.\n\nBut then again, if you're selling cheap stuff and the buyer knows this and desires cheap stuff, why not?  Just because I would never buy from you doesn't mean there aren't plenty of others who would.
1037469
I,too, am married and have problems with wearing my rings but not for reasons people may think. Both my wedding ring and engagement ring are way too big even though I had them resized recently. When I had them resized, they fit for approximately two weeks and then once again they were falling off my fingers. When my husband first discovered I had this problem, he went out and bought me a necklace that matched the color of my rings and I were my rings around my neck everywhere I go. My husband never really punished me for not wearing them; however he did tease me until he thought of buying me a necklace. If you had a good reason for not wearing your rings then your husband had NO RIGHT TO PUNISH YOU!!!! As for some of these people giving you answers, they are being way to narrow-minded and judgmental; and if you ask me those poeple are probably not even married. People need to be a little more consideratewhen they are responding to other peoples' questions.
807639
Take it to a jewelers store and ask a professional jeweler for his opinion.\n\nI have to tell you, if you doubt that your significant other would give you a 'real' ring, I'd seriously re-think the whole marriage thing.  If you even believe he is deceiving you with the ring, how can you trust him in any other way?\n\nAlso, you might want to think about your values system.  If you truly love each other and the ring is worth $50, who cares?  Do you want a life long partnership with this person, or are you just a greedy materialist who wants an expensive item to show off to people to 'prove' his love for you?
1019169
When my gf of just one year had her birthday, I went to ebay and bought a jewel from cambodia.   I got a blue zircon, (she likes blue zircon, and trust me, if you pay attention, the gf will drop the hints.....)\n\nShe took that blue Z and bought a ring and setting for it, (cause she knows gemology), and I have to say,  she did a really good job of making a ring out of it.\n\nSo, look for something unusual, something she likes, and something she can add her own style to.\n\nAND GOOD LUCK WITH THAT!!  (cause,dude???  that's not an easy thing to do!!!)\n\nsincerely:\ntom
152628
Usually the couple buys the wedding rings together.  Couples like to have matching sets, so it's easier to get them at the same time.  \n\nWe bought our engagement and wedding rings together, and he paid for the engagement ring but we both paid for the wedding rings since our incomes were combined by then.
709258
please its just a ring, i would much rather have a happy marriage, than a bad marriage and a big ring, get whatever you can afford and do it.....\nps whats the point of being engaged if u do not want to be married?
207125
well today is my b-day and i would like a diamond ring lol\nbut i wont get it lol i would settle for some flowers :-)\nbut most women like any thing that comes from the heart
722282
The best would be to talk to a jeweler and get some ideas.  It doesn't mean you will have to buy from them.  I think $6,000 should be plenty.  The higher quality of the diamond the more expensive.  http://www.mysolitaire.com/website/Build_ur_Ring_DiamondSearchBasic.asp?Cat_id=20\nThis site will help you compare prices you can build your own ring.\n\nIf you want to surprise your fiance but don't want to you could always plan your proposal early enough in the day to go the jewelry store. But it depends on your fiance too, if she wouldn't have a preference then get whatever you think she would like. Make it part of the scavenger hunt or get a ring box and put a note in there lets go shopping.\n\nGood luck!
1157527
You can push... but pushing for "the ring you want" might push him away.  Not only are you pressuring him for marriage, but you're also pressuring him for an expensive ring.  Unless he sh*ts money, thats a huge issue.  I understand people might grow up with a dream wedding or dream ring or even dream of by what age they would get married (ie: a life plan... married by 22, kids by 24...etc) ...but if you really truly love this man and feel he is for you... than you should understand sometimes, those visions we had before have to be adjusted/sacraficed a little bit to fit with HIS visions.  There are two people in this relationship.  What if he didn't imagine getting married by his age? And you'll find out in the end the $20,000 Tiffany's ring or getting married by age 24 or having a boy first, than a girl... doesn't really matter.  It won't make the marriage perfect/last which is what matters most right?  And if getting "the ring you want" is simply THAT important, understand you might have to wait for him to put some money together, but express your feelings so that you aren't disappointed and will hold it against him.  Men are not psychic believe it or not :-)
17187
I proposed to my girlfriend and it went really well. Out by Lake Michigan but not a lot of people around so it was still pretty private. I followed your advice and worked on the delivery and managed to make it through without stumbling. She loved the ring and most imporantly, she said yes. \n\nSo yeah, I had a good new year's =)\n\nHow did yours go?
626096
No she does not. An engagement ring is kind of like a trade or a deposit or something. When the man gives it to a woman, she is to marry him. If they don't marry, she has to give it back.\n\nAn engagement ring isn't a gift. It must be returned. Plus, those things cost an arm and a leg.
487879
I say, propose to him, and if he accepts, go looking for rings together.  Many wedding rings have engagement rings that fit or go together.  By shopping together, you'll get his input on what looks nice and what he'd like for you to have.  If you want to buy him a ring as a surprise, go ahead!  Who has to stick to anything traditional?  Whatever you may feel makes you happy- GO FOR IT!!