How do I give up the illusion of being seperate?
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You are me, I am you...all beings long for happiness...we are all the same...\n\nBelieve this and you drop the illusion.
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- - - S E P E R A T I O N - - -\n\nI can't think of anything else but to be seperated for a time being and then get back together... \n\nIf the case is too much then we all know that its bad and how do you stop it? SEPERATE THE BAD THING AND MOVE ON!
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I had this problem too being an actor (stage) so I just came up with this philosophy...."You are you most comfortable being around?"  Yourself so all you gotta do is just pretend that you are talking or singing to yourself and block out the world around you.  No one will think you are crazy for talking to yourself but this method helps me majorly.
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You just let go of something you was used to having kinda of leaving an empty spot. yes it is lonleyness but also normal. Find something to feel that space with a hobby or a pet or just find someone nice to talk to. It will pass soon i promise.
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I've done that in the past 3 years.  You need to find yourself again.  Me and my ex-wife split and I had a difficult time getting on my feet.  But I eventuly did and everything is great now.  I'm going back to college and trying to make my life better.  Maybe a little to prove I can.  It may take time but don't give up and always remember you are a great person and can do great things.
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A layer of seperation between "things".
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resolve within yourself the need to be possessed - easier said than done...but possible. Can you accept that someone can love you for who you are. remember the world is something of a mirror of our own beliefs. (not completely) but be thankful this person is in your life - you picked them at some level...consciously or unconsciously. remember true freedom does not depend on how someone else behaves. If you make the change within youself the outer world will 'adjust'. guaranteed. This person will either adapt or the sitation will change to reflect your next lesson:-)
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Actually you have rights.  Nobody can take anything from you unless you let them.  So you are in control.  How about this.  I'd suggest that you do something just for youself every single day.  Start by taking a few minutes, say 5 or so.  Make that your time to do nothing except relax.  Make that time completely yours, no interruptions, not answerable to anyone at all.  It is yours, and yours alone.\n\nWhat I do is go for a short walk, something like that, all by myself.  It is fantastic, because you are in control.  And that is the point, it starts with you taking control of your own life and your own choices.  Then, gradually, you do things for others because you WANT to do them, not because you somehow think you HAVE to do them.\n\nStay happy.  Stay nice.
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Super no! Right on with having your personal time! I myself am just learning to be independent.Its nice to know that other people are functional and happy enjoying their own company! Thank you for your question!
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First say to yourself what you would be. And then do what you have to do. \n\nThe distance is nothing. It is only the first step that is difficult.
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im not so sure cause i think i have the same problem with myself. i still in the mist  of trying to convince myself that i am beutiful. i think that our, or your fist step would be to think of something that you dont like about yourself and say you do, maybe you can convince yourself!!!!!!! i hope i help and thx for the 2:)
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at least your in touch w/your feeling. be true your feeling maybe it time for a slight break just honest with your inner self!! it is okay to grow apart>
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Send emails,call..appreciate the times when you are together.The absence makes the time together that much more special.You need both..there is a dichotomy in everything.A high and a low..an opposite,that is necessary for the Universe to function.So for you to be together,there must be time apart... simple.It may not be an equal time,but it is there.
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first and foremost you need to sit and talk to your wife. you need to be very honest not only with yourself, but with her. you need to tell her how you feel and be sure to be very considerate and aware of her feelings about your new found life. its not fair for you to continue to put her off or lie to her. honesty is always the best policy. i'm sure that if the two of you cant work things out it will be easier to part ways because you were not only honest with her, but with yourself. good luck!
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I think you guys should see other people first before you start to mend anything. maybe its a mutual separation, and you just dont know it yet. I really think before you do anything just see other people first. if nothing works out, try to mend things between eachother. if you arent willing to separate for a little while, try to mend things by either counseling or talking it out. i hope this helped!
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you cant because it is nonsense,\n\nthis is what i would say trust your self\n take desisions for your own life ,stand on your own two feet,look inward and learn to take responsibility for your own existance ,instead of of seeking support from other suyposed authorities like ,society ,or God ,or the Government.
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I think I would make a plan of my own since it sounds like you will need one anyway.  In the meantime, don't dwell on it.  Then when it comes up, there will be no need for you to fumble around, you will already have a plan and you can just tell them what it is.   Don't set yourself up to be out of a place to stay or to be humiliated.  I am an introvert as well and we have to look out for ourselves instead of following the crowd like extroverts do.  But it makes us more independant, huh?