was i date raped or just really drunk?
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I would go to the police department and file a report for date rape.  Get yourself checked.  The fact that he told you that he was going to drug you to get sex should tell you that something isn't right.\n\nAnd don't think that it was your fault.  It's not.
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on my first date two things happened to my brand new skirt. Well I was at the movies and I was cold so I sat on my legs and when I went to go buy candy I got and my legs were asleep and I collapsed right into my dates lap hitting him some where and then when I came back my date realized my skirt ripped and showed my silky green panties I was so embarressed
1047561
only when ive been date-raped.\n\nAlso, please dont wait long to award best answer points to me. I don't like to wait.
1120123
that's just the way drunks are. don't worry about all the people saying that he thinks this about you and he want's to do that. he was drunk, and if someone is drunk, they are not in their usual state of mind. only worry about such things if that is how they are sober.
590855
people speak how they feel at the time, even speak what they sub-consiously think..not realizing it...like in a conversation in an instant without thinking about it your words are being spoken.when your drunk the truth rolls of your tongue easily...like you open up/let you hair down after a few beers...but your bf sounds like he needs your assurance that you only have eyes for him...show him who you are for him
897920
Ummmm....you were "all over each other" in front of his friends....and yet what bothered you was kissing him in front of his friends?  Sounds a little odd to me.  And it might have been odd for him, too.  The fact that you were drinking, and I am assuming he was, too...also has a lot to do with the awkward morning after.  Amazing what people do after knocking a few back.  I would say, give him a call when you are STONE SOBER and see what's up.  If you were all over each other as you say, surely you can talk to this guy.  Find out if he wants to hook up for lunch or dinner or any other activity where alchol will not be a contributing factor to your actions.  You will know then if he is still interested, or if you blew it at the strip club by letting him ???
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This is a tricky question because only you really know what kind of relationship you have with your parents.  If you have a good relationship with them and know they won't blow up and over react then talk to them and tell them what happened.  If not then you have some other things to think about.  I am assuming that you probably had unprotected sex so you need to consider a pregnancy test and an STD test.  You also need to talk to your boyfriend and make it clear that even though you like him what happened was a mistake and that you are not ready to have sex with him.  If gets mad and says stuff like what is the big deal since you already have done it then walk away and dump him because that means he was only with you for the sex, which is my suspicion since he knew about the drink being spiked and didn't say anything to you.  He took advantage of you and that is not what a real boyfriend does.  Remember, we all make mistakes.  The key is to take responsibility and do the right things after the mistake to keep from allowing that mistake to keep growing.
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If you feel things were going too fast, they were.  Be careful putting yourself in these situations, though.  If you go to a guy's house when his parents aren't home, he expects to get laid, especially if you start fooling around with him.  If you unwisely put yourself in this situation again before you're ready, tell him no first if you didn't this time.  Oh, & don't give him a sexual moaning no, as this won't get his attention.  Give him a blunt, firm, commanding no.  If you lash out violently right off the bat, he may reciprocate.  This is another reason it's wise not to go somewhere alone with him until you are ready for this possibility.  He could have felt like you led him on, & were being a tease, & then gotten enraged when you slapped him.  You're lucky, because this could have resulted in an asault or a date rape.  From now on, I hope you'll be wiser in your decisions, as this could have ended up being potentially dangerous.
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she is not stable. it could be she acts that way because she has not learned to be or isn't stable. the fact that she was raped could matter, but beware, do not take that as an excuse to her behaviour.\n\nhanging out with new slutty friends??? this does not make sense to me, to a person who has been raped. when was she raped? how old was she? how old is she now? if you could add these details, it would be of great help.\n\nit could be that she loves you and wants you, but maybe has not lived a single life long eough, so deep down keeps wondering how it could be and ends up breaking up with you. this is very harmful.
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Are you drunk now?\n\n\nLOL!
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i went on a date with this guy to a park. I guess he had been drinking and he puked all over me. I never saw him again. the worst part was that he called me everyday for a month after.
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men never ever come straight out and say they like you, but he's giving off hints you'd be blind to miss girl! he was chasing you, he's kissed you, he wanted to take it further, he asked you if you liked the single life to gauge how you felt about another relationship. after all no one likes rejection and he's trying to find out how you feel without actually asking you! sneaky i know, he dint reply to your txt i bet was cos he knew you was drunk and he thought it was just the drink talking. spk to him and find out if he does wanna take it further, its the only way you'll know, playing games just confuses the matter. assuming you wanna date this guy anyway.
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Hi Alayna:  My heart goes out to you for what you suffered when you were younger.  Many women who have endured abuse find it hard to trust men again, and have a hard time putting what happened in the past where it belongs - in the past.  A man can sense when a woman does not trust him, and most decent men have an inborn desire to protect a woman, not abuse her. Be warm and open, but cautious - there are still alot of creepoids out there.  Here is a website that I think you will find helpful - trauma survivors@googlegroups.com.  You can communicate with  other women who have  suffered the same abuse and rape trauma as you.  May God bless you and heal  your hurt, and help you move on to a happy life with a good, loving man.   JoAnn
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When you say "date" do you mean that you've only dated occasionally and that you are not seriously involved? Or "date" as in, you've been dating for sometime, are serious and involved? If it's the first...then you will survive and move on with your life. If it's the second...you will go through a variety of emotions and eventually you will recover, hopefully with your dignity intact.  Do not chase after him. Let him go and do whatever it is he is doing (running,hiding, laying low).  There must be a reason why this has happened. If he owes you $$ for rent, utilities, bills, credit cards, etc., then talk with a lawyer about ways you can get back monies owed you. Let someone else contact him in legal issues, stay out of it.  The best of luck to you, hope you have a strong network of friends and family to aid you through the process of moving on.
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Do not fear my friend.  There is always a record on the hard drive, but too detailed to explain here.\nTwo suggestions:  1)  Get drunk again, maybe the answer will come to you\n2) call Geek Squad www.geeksquad.com , they will easily assist you\n\nGood luck!
618482
neither one of you should be drinking.Being drunk is just an excuse for acting stupid.You need to work out your feelings about what happened or you may explode one of these days.
267690
Well 28 is a little old to be partyin that hard. I hate guys who are lush's like that. I would not be able to handle my bf going out and getting trashed like that and not remembering..who knows what he's doing while he's drunk without you. I think you should talk to him about it and if that doesn't work you should move on. It's time for him to grow up and be a man.