very importan for trans and gay ,lesbo..how can a straigh person turn?
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There is a book, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders, that you might want to consult.  There are people who either hate their gender and that part of them that makes them male or female or strongly believe, feel, or are in some legitimate way convinced that they actually should have been the other gender.  The common process involves several visits with a psychologist over several months to assess whether the person is truthful or aware of what they are asking for.  Then for between 1 and 2 years the person undergoes scrutiny in the role of the other sex.  They will see an endocrinologist who will monitor how they tolerate and adapt to the hormones which facilitate the body's change over this time.  IF things work out, they are permitted to complete the change surgically.  Some opt out of the final steps, being by then comfortable in their approximate role, but for others that simply is not enough.\n\nPlease do not think this is something as casual as crossdressing on a whim.  You are right it is a serious change, but many go through serious efforts to accomplish it because they seriously believe it is true and get the kind of on-going help that confirms or dissuades those who do or do not fit the gender dysphoric role.
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First, calm down. Breath. Understand that this is not abnormal for a teenage girl. Your sexual orientation will come with time. When I was your age, I had the same issues, and over time I've come to understand why. I've also come to understand that every single person is different. You can't force a mold on everyone, least of all teens! Your hormones are in a state of complete confusion right now, but don't worry, you will level out pretty soon. Sexuality is a difficult thing for anyone to deal with, but trying to understand it with crazy hormones is much, much more difficult. You might want to find yourself a counselor, just to have someone to talk these issues out with. Talking often helps clear the mind of confusion, and counselors are really just people to talk to. They are trained to listen and empathize, and as a woman who was a teen not all that long ago, I know how difficult it can be to find someone who will just listen and empathize. The most important thing is to let your emotions out, don't hold them inside. Find a healthy release, and you will find yourself more able to understand and deal with your confusion.
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what ever you feel comfortable wearing the most \ni being a m2f transsexual whore female shorts and tops around my friends for a while then after a little while i started to let it eing more of a female dress such as a skirt and then later a dress \ndepending on your age it we depend on what you wear look at females around you and your age and copy them to a degree \nthen find your own style after you are comfortable with what you look like and what others feel about you\ngood luck coming out to your family can be hard but it is worth doing it to know where they stand
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Love, there are lots of clinics and programs that claim to "reform" homosexuals.  They don't really seem to work.  First don't go around dating the opposite sex and doing sexual things with them just to make yourself feel better.  Generally this makes you feel worse.  \n\nTake time out, think, reflect.  Don't force yourself to be heterosexual.  Don't force yourself to be anything.  Accept who and what you are reguardless.  Lables like "gay" and "Straight" do more harm than good.  If you can see beyond gender (the way alot of people can see beyond skin color, or ethnicity, or religion all the silly things that seperate us) Cheers to you.
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Talking it over with close friends.  Eventually, a person accepts his or her sexual orientation, self-identifies with others like that, and notes who (or what) he or she is to a close friend.  I think the fact that this one longterm friend had actually come out to me some months beforehand also helped. It's a safety issue, I think. It was like a weight being lifted from my shoulders when I came out to him and said, "this" is what am.  It also answered questions regarding stress throughout my life.
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Lack of education.  "To Wong Foo" said it best:\n\n"When a straight man puts on a dress and goes on a sexual kick he is a transvestite.  When a man is a woman, trapped in a man's body, and has a little operation he is a transsexual.  When a gay man has way too much fashion sense for one gender he is a drag queen. And when a tired little Latin boy puts on a dress, he is simply a boy in a dress!"
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Saying that openly on here is a start.  Find a counselor (many are free) in a gender you'd feel safest with, and try starting with small steps.  Tell them you don't feel comfortable opening up.  They know how to help you.
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Do as you feel comfortable doing.\nSome people only crossdress in private or during special times, others do it full-time. There's also some that are transexual. It's all up to you; discover yourself.
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First stop calling yourself Gay or Bi. Then stay away from gay people or at least from their organs. Do away with the gay mannerisms. Become who it is you want to be: A MAN! Your a man now and you want a woman to keep you warm. Go to the STRAIGHT bars. Buy a woman some drinks. Make sure she sees all that money in your wallet. If that doesn't work out, go to the next woman and so on. Think of it as training. You'll find the woman of your dreams and have fun finding her. Have fun. Be happy. Just don't be GAY! \n\nOh, and Tessa...Our sexuality is in our minds, not our genes. Because if it was in our genes, we'd find the gay gene and ERADICATE IT!
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This should help...\n\nQ: Can a transsexual be fully a woman?\nA: Yes, but to a point- hormonally, physically, psychologically, and emotionally (basically all the aspects of being a female that society considers important), but not genetically- a person who got a sex change will still have XY, or male, chromosomes. A test for XX (female) or XY (male) will show that the person is genetically male.\n\nSome people don't believe this, that "you can always tell" a person got a sex change based on the look of their genitals, and this is wrong. Female genitals come in a huge variety of different looks- no female looks exactly any ther female in the genital department. There is a good chance that a gynecologist won't be able to tell, and they specialize in what vaginas look like. For all intents and purposes, internally, you would look like a hysterectomized female- vagina, but no cervix (opening that leads into the womb).\n\nA real transsexual desires to be fully transformed into a woman, and no half steps will be acceptable. They will not be happy AT ALL with having male parts on their crotch- it's embarassing to them and disgusts them that they have male parts attached to them. A transsexual sees a penis as something foreign attached to their body- that it shouldn't be there in the first place. A transsexual also doesn't want to become a woman because of a fetish- there is no erotic component to transformation for them. A transsexual is a woman in a male body, so I refer to them as "she".\n\nNow, a man who has a fetish about being feminized will seek breast implants, may take a few hormones (but nothing like a transsexual, who takes them every day, nonstop), and get some surgeries to make them look more female. I must reinforce the idea here that THEY ARE MEN. They have no desire to have their penis removed, they just have a sexual fetish about being a woman.\n\nSometimes, when a real transsexual is in the middle of their transition and they need money to get more operations, AND they still have male parts, some will swallow their pride and go into the pornogarphy business to make money to finish their transformations. They don't like it, but they will do it to get money to get their sex changes. Some persons that are half woman-half man are really men and just in the business to satisfy another fetish- they are also exhibitionists. \n\nI don't know what the numbers are for the proportion of real transsexuals and shemale exhibitionists, but a transsexual is in it for one thing only- to get money to get a sex change. A fetishist would be in it just to satisfy a fetish. If a person in this situation is constantly talking about getting a sex change, they are more than likely a real transsexual, and as soon as they can afford a sex change, they will be out of the business.
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I did not turn gay. I am gay, cause god made me gay.\n\nPeople that have come out of the lifestyle are too weak to stand for who they are or where never gay in the first place.  \n\nScientifically it depends on who's report you have read.  Read some more ignorance seems to be your job.
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Jr, the answer is in JESUS CHRIST.  You voice your desire to change, this is your own choice by your admission correct?  That is the first step, wanting to change yourself.  If others are pushing you into changing, then stop and examine yourself and be sure that YOU want to change as well.  Often times people are pushed into things and as an end result, get frustrated and go back to the life style they are trying to leave.  I see this a lot in wicca.  \n\nNow if it is you who is sincerely wanting to change, I would suggest first off two things:  find a new set of friends to hang out with.  Find yourself strong morally upstanding friends that are legitimate friends, people you can talk to and trust when you face temptation.  Because temptation will not leave you Jr.  That is the very nature of the enemy to tempt us with things that have been enticing to us from before.  Plus, if you associate with people who are homosexual, they will most probably try to sway you back into the lifestlye.\n\nMost importantly and first thing first, if you are sincerely wanting to leave homosexuality behind and want to make JESUS CHRIST complete LORD of your life, pour your heart out to HIM.  Take it all to the foot of the cross and leave it there.  When I say pour your heart out to HIM, I mean be expecting to get up with tears rolling down your face and probably some other stuff dripping too...I have done this many times when there has been something in my life that is a HUGE battle.  It takes letting it all come forth, being honest about what you are feeling, and giving it to JESUS CHRIST to take care of it.  DON'T pick any of it back up after you have laid it at the foot of the cross, what ever you do!!  We have to take our hands completely off in order for GOD to be able to work...We have to sincerely give it over to HIM.  As long as we have our hands in it, we are telling GOD that we dont' think HE can take care of the problem.  Leave it there and trust HIM!\n\nlast, I suggest you really read and study your BIBLE, and that you pray at every chance you get.  These three things will help you maintain determination.  GOD promised us that HE would make a way for us to flee temptation!\n\nIf you need someone to talk to, just look on my profile page and email me.  I will do what I can to encourage you.\n\nGOD BLESS YOU!
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there are many things you can do \nfor one look at your life and everthing you do \nand change it for the better \na man and a woman do just about every thing different \nfrom walking talking sitting dressing \nyou need to watch other girls of your age \nand watch how there walk talk etc \nif you are transsexual you may need to dress as a girl for longer periords and while doing so use makeup dress up our hair \nfeel beautiful and you will look beautiful \ngrow your hair longer do it up in styles \nbuy pretty clothes wax your legs all of that stuff \ncan make you feel more femme
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Although I've never had the personal experience of transitioning, several friends tell me it's a multi-step process and requires you to change in several modes:  physically and psychologically. Not only are boys and girls different physically, the are also different mentally and psychologically.\n\nIf you have any close male friends, hang out with them and observe them. See how they walk, talk, and watch their decision-making.\n\nThere are several resources available to you now that weren't as widely available years ago. Read through them. If you're in a larger metropolitan area, seek out a gay youth support group that also offers services for gender-questioning youth. Or perhaps you can find someone who's gone through the process before you and will have some tips and hints.\n\nThere are several resources below. Read through them. You may also want to check out the FTM Webrings... a group of websites devoted to FTM information and resources at:\nhttp://d.webring.com/webring?ring=ftmring;list\n\nThe best of luck to you, Sir!
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I wish it were a choice, or that a gay person could "recruit" me, or that a TV show or commercial could convert me.  Having had really bad experiences with men, I would like to be a lesbian.  I also have had good experiences with men but I am tired of being the one that cleans or notices that things need to be cleaned and then being the warden by delegating tasks.  It would be nice not to have to ask for a back rub, or maybe someone else make the popcorn and serve me.  Which line do I stand in to make the choice to be gay?
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how can she be a lesbian when she is a man..
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I know a lot of people who are Gay and in the closet.  It truly is sad to think that society will not accept someone becuase of their sexual preference, or gender expression.\n\nBe supportive and understanding.