Why do good long term relationships go stale?
819873
Sometimes people just become complacent with their relationship and get stuck in a bit of a rut.  In order for a relationship to stay active and alive there has to be lots of open and honest communication firstly.  Also continue to do the things that you used to enjoy doing when you first met.  Although maybe not as much as at first but it is like a nice security blanket trying to recapture some of the good old days at times.  In addition don't forget to tell your partner how much they are loved and that you value them as often as possible.
528037
Mine has lasted for over ten years now.  We're good friends.  We're there for each other.  It is a strange thing when you think about it.  We've never had any desire to take our "friendship" any further than where it is now.  It's working for both us.  I guess it's like any other relationship -- each one is unique in how it works.
36681
Unfortunately, this is how many, many relationships fail. The best thing to do, (if you want to save your relationship) is to be spontanious. Don't let things turn stagnant, because it gets boring, and one or the other of you will look elsewhere for something exciting.
163405
It is difficult to have a long relationship with someone you are not able to have an intelligent conversation with. Although there are many guys that will think with their "head below the belt" to get a girl in bed the ones that are looking for a long term relationship are looking for a lot more than eye candy. I'm not saying physical attraction isn't important but I don't think it is the only thing guys look at when looking for a long time partner
245160
I think the main reason that people can't or don't commit to relationships is immaturity and selfishness.  They often want to keep playing the field or go out and play the field.  There is also the fear of being hurt and the fear of what a commitment to a lifelong relationship entails.  I think another problem is their not knowing what they want or what is best for both of them.  I had one friend who dated a girl for about 8 years until he felt that God wanted him to marry the girl.  That girl was frustrated beyond belief.  She had 4 other roommates in the house, including my future wife, and all of them met and married guys after the two of them had started dating.  It really is a tough thing to do since the onus seems to be placed upon the male to ask the lady if she wants to marry them.  Heck, it is hard enough asking a woman to dance with the fear of rejection!!! ;)
213128
Some people call the beginning of a relationship the honeymoon stage which lasts about nine months to a year. I think that yes physical attraction can fade in that time if you let it. There are lots of people I know that are still going strong today. Some after 30,40 or even 50 years. There are lots of ways to keep the physical attraction going. You just have to find what works for the two of you.
797817
Some people, especially when they are young and inexperienced go for looks first rather than personality. As u get older u realise that some people are total ***s and that looks are not everything. Personality is the make-or-break in the long term.\n\nThose who are incredibly good looking know that they are, and sometimes they let this get to thier head, becoming vain. If u keep having arguements with a partner who has a rubbish personality but good looks, he/she is more inclined to go out and cheat on you when u keep having rows. But if they have a good personality then they are more inclined to remain faithful in the long term, and u will probably have fewer rows.\n\nPersonality does often show through looks, though not exclusively. Therefore looks alone cannot be judged without spending adequate time to get to know the person. Hope this answers ur Q!
33183
Because you probably like myself have been hurt or devasted in the past by previous lovers, in turn you have built up a huge barrier that says, before you get me , i'll get you, so in turn you probably start and arguement, push then away, or start seeing someone else, usually to soften the blow, for you at least. It becomes an act of self preservation. How long can it last, is only up to you.
541131
ABSOLUTELY!!!! It may even make the relationship even better. Sometimes it takes time for people to mature enough to handle a relationship. After 10 years you may be more mature, and better able to communicate.
1147179
well, i think people fall out of love or the relationship got boring and maybe that is why they do things, but i think people need to just say OK things are not there any more it's time we move on and not cheat because to cheat on someone is just bad period.
489928
well if you could not make it work once what has changed to make you think it will be different this time? \n\nif nothing has changed then someone is blowing smoke or something. \n\nif your curious try reading Smart Love By Dr. Phil McGraw it will help you discover if relationship is serious or just you being desperite for love. \n\nGL and God Bless
970900
If you have to ask the question, then you intuition is telling you to go. After a long-term relationshp (and especially as we grow older), many people become fearful of stepping back into the dating world again. However, you are cheating yourself if you stay in a relationship where you are not perfectly happy. There are millions of people in the world, so odds are IN YOUR FAVOR of finding someone better. While you are in that transition phase, work on your own charcter and personal development so that your life will become richer. In that case, you will probably not notice time going by as fast as it does before you meet someone else.
796284
It is normal to become bored in a relationship. Maybe things got old and the relationship began to become a routine kind of thing. Or maybe you weren't actually looking to be in a relationship at the time. It's possible that you just liked the idea of having someone around. I would suggest taking some time to figure things out for yourself. Discover who you are and what you can bring to a relationship, if you want one!!! Also, there is nothing wrong with being single, so enjoy it. Good luck...
741139
I think in a long marriage you go through that in cycles. You cant always be in love deeply and passionatly ALL the time. There are times when you just really care for someone, love them like a friend, but do not have the deep, passionate feelings you used to. But it does come back if you care for and respect the person you have chosen. Stress, problems and work can be hard on love. \n\nBut I think it is a shame so many people give up when they lose those "in love" feelings for awhile. They usually do come back, sometimes with an even deeper love than before, and dating is the pits. The grass isnt always greener. What you have might be the best your going to get!
425021
When you find your soulmate, you will know it.  Keeping them can be a problem IF you don't work at the relationship.  Relationships are not always 50-50.  There are times that they are 20-80, etc.  \n\nMany relationships don't last today because the one or both bail at the first sign of trouble. It is far easier to give up or divorce than it is to work it out.  So many people want everything to be easy and that isn't how it is.  It is a constant give and take that requires love, respect, love, honesty, love, compromise, love and most of all, love.
344962
it is a connection between two things.it comes from our mind and ther are so many types of relationships.the only matter is what is in our thoughts.no matter living or none it may be a long lasting or short
626368
because you lose some of your social skills when you have been with someone for a while. maybe you have gotten older and are no longer in your late teens or early 20's, when you still had a lot of social things to fill your time?\nemployment plays a big part too and when you have a job, it is harder to muster strength to even go out and meet someone.