how do i show him i am interested i have 2 kids?
820765
just be there for him. maybe he thinks that it's just best to stay with the  g/f that treats him poorly (we, as guys, aren't all that bright sometimes). seems that there aren't a lot of good women out there these days. show him that you are one. DON'T ask him out yet. wait and see what happens with the relationship. if it DOES end, then there's your oppertunity. if it doesn't, then he probably lost out on a pretty good thing..............
303528
The first thing is settle for friendship when he does get here. People can be pretty decieving when you meet them in real life. Secondly, you heard he had a gf but it may not be true. Just casually try to find out if he does or not. Having a new father figure in a kid's life can be hard, but he's still at a young age. Just make him get to know the person first, it's always easier that way. Like if you guys go to the park or out for a dinner together. Plus, it's also a nice way to find out how he treats your kid. just take it a day at a time. good luck:)
884292
COME ON ! ! YOU CAN ALL WAYS GET ANOTHER MAN ONE EVEN BETTER THEN WHAT YOU'VE GOT NOW , BUT YOUR KIDS ARE ONE OF A KIND. THEY ARE THE ROOT OF YOUR LIFE ,THEY MAKE YOU WHOLE ( YES  OR  NO  ? ) THERE ARE TO , TOO  MANY MEN IN THIS WORLD JUST SO YOU'LL SETTLE FOR THE ONE BREAKING YOUR HEART EVERY TIME YOU SEE HIM , THINK HARD SWEETHEART .
332579
how long have you known him? for him to be your fiance he should have already known - if you have the child, if not the sooner the better. just say "we need to talk" - this will unnerve him enough that when you tell him he'll be glad it wasn't about him
670095
Been there and done that .....   :( all i can say is do not let him manipulate u and i do not know the childrens ages but can tell you that kids change their minds quite often and things will surely work out  ......  good luck
421623
If you feel that by his "silence", he is uninterested in what you have to say about your child, then you should let him know how you feel, irregardless of whether it seems "a little silly".  Forget about figuring out "the puzzle of the male brain" - figure out what your own feelings mean to you and act upon them.
429996
He is a jerk and you did the right thing. Your kids should be your number one priority. I have 4 and they are the world to me. You are not the bad guy. The next thing he will do is try to get you to feel sorry for him to make you go back to him. Don't do it!
598050
I think alot of your responses are good ones , but i agree with one main point communication. If you have tried to talk about it then maybe just give it a little time. If he truly repects your feelings and knows how much you want children then it will work out for the best. Kids are a big comitment and belive it or not once the kids come men are kinda stuck, i mean that in a nice way, we know that once the kids come it's no more hanging out with the boys all the time,and also no more time for us only for the kids. So maybe u should talk about how You will make sure to balance the time and allow him to still have his time. The truth is once the kids get here He will enjoy the hell out of them and naturally love them and care for them, it's all a part of becoming a man, i real man that is, so good luck and remind him that one of the best things about kids is making them, lol, just kidding, but it is fun.
802441
You can invite him for dessert. It would be a polite thing to do and also a good example for your kids. When they are older they will appreciate this kind of gesture.
1087418
Does she know you have children? If so, then anytime would be a good time. Try to make sure the situation isn't so akward for your son or your new partner that they want to get away. Your goal should not only be making a proper introduction, but also trying to set up a certain level of comfort for everyone involved so that you, your son, and your girlfriend can all get used to and closer to one another.
1121546
if he has another child he can ask for a reduction on your children....no difference if they are married...only his income is involved in your support....no increase if he is married ...his new wife income has nothing to do with your kids
519406
Don't lie but don't expose your children too soon. I mean date him see what happens and when the time is right, which no one can say WHEN is the right time, you'll know. When you are comfortable enough with him and he is comfortable enough to meet your children. Don't introduce guy after guy because it would only create confusion for them. Do what you feel is right, when that timing is right, you'll know.
386640
You have me CONFUSED here... you mean to tell me you are more interested in finding someone i.e. a date? (correct me if I am wrong) Than getting your CHILDREN back??? Finding a man should be the LAST thing on your mind I would think, if he has taken your kids, I would fight to my death for my kids?????\n\nYea... you know I really wonder what's going on here... I mean if your kids are 6 & 8 and you were only with him for 3 years... the Math doesn't add up.  Is he even the father of these kids?  And there must have been some problem if the courts took them away.  Maybe you should spend some time working on you before looking for a man or even considering getting your children.  It sort of sounds like they might be better off with their Father if that's the case or where ever the judge decided to send them.  My BEST suggestion is to work on YOU and the rest will come don't go looking for another MAN just yet.  GOOD LUCK!
530200
Try having a baby...you will be 'upgraded' to a parent and that feeling will definitely revive all that jazz...it will also bring you two closer in body and soul.
543376
Find a good time to tell him how you feel..Sometimes they dont realize how their career affects a family situation..You cant actually change a person you can only try to influence them for the better..Its up to them to take it to heart..Hopefully he will see your side of this and comply to your wishes for the kids sake..good luck!
226346
sometimes we have to be nudged and sometimes we have to be hit over the head with a mallet. It breaks my heart to hear a question like this. I want desparately to see my daughters. send him a picture of her with a note saying simply that if he would like to see her it is ok and that it is best for her if he is in her life if that is his wish.
744701
You could ask her straight out what she is looking for.  If you're not willing to spend some quality time at home with her to get to know her, you may want to move on.  You know what it's like to have children so I'm sure you understand how difficult it must be for her to raise two children on her own and why she is busy and can't get out much.  Her children will always come first or, atleast they should.  Perhaps you should rearrange some things in your life if you truly would like to get to know this woman.