Why do gays want to allow gay adoption when closet gays recognize children are raised best by a mom and dad?
821899
I always find it interesting that the classic gay argument in favour of gay parenting is something like, "I suppose it's better for two heterosexual serial killers to raise a child than a nice gay couple!!"\n\nLOL!!!
362005
I have a son and if he came to me and told me that he way gay, I would definitly be shocked and surprised. However, I love my child no matter what. If he is in a loving and caring relationship and is being treated well, then I would get over it and accept it. A parent generally loves their children no matter what. If they do not accept it, than that is their problem. Good luck to you.
796445
Let's break down my life:\n\nMy wife had a wonderful childhood and has very supportive parents, she is very gay. My sister and I were both molested and raped by our father, I am gay - she isn't. Sorry to be blunt, but by just three people it becomes quickly obvious that childhood abuse has nothing to do with it.
891285
You're right it is amazing how all these hetero couples have managed to raise gay children. That should give people a clue but it doesn't seem to. There is not a thing wrong with gay people raising children. Love is what a child needs it doesn't matter to them if you are gay or not.
1039808
Why shouldn't they be allowed to be as unhappy as the rest of us?  The US was built on the principle of all men being created equal, why are they less deserving of equal rights?  And as far as adopting children goes, homosexuality is not contagious, they are not going to convert their adopted children.  Do you honestly think the child would be happier in an orphanage than in a good home with a loving family?  That is just ignorant.
45009
I agree. There are too many orphaned children out there to exclude stable, loving homosexual couples from raising them and giving the kids a chance at a good home life. It's really time for our society to come to terms homosexual couples the same way we've come to terms with interracial couples in recent history (though many people are still against interracial couples, at least the law is on their side). Just because you were raised with a certain belief doesn't mean it was correct. Keep your mind open, try to be understanding/empathetic of people who are different from you, and evolve your thinking. Don't you think we have enough problems in the world that we shouldn't go out of our way to make things harder for people who are a little different, but are no threat to anyone and just want to live their lives like the rest of us? Peace, love & understanding folks. :o)\n\nFurthermore, one of my good friends in college was raised by two moms. He's a great guy, better adjusted than many of my friends who grew up in "normal" families, and has two of the coolest parents I've ever met.
737155
I'm not Christian and I don't look to the bible for approval. \n\nFirst love, well love is love, your the one adding gender and sexuality to the equation. Whether it's between a man and woman or a man and a man, love is the most beautiful thing this world has to offer.\n\nSome of the best parents I've known were gay who had adopted children whose real parents didn't want them and giving them a home and a family. Just because they aren't adding to an already overpopulated planet doesn't mean that they aren't contributing, quite the opposite actually. \n\nNow to address marriage, well that's you crazy fundamentalists denying gays rights. Not our fault.
994674
because gay people make their babies gay, of course....\n\n\nplease feel the dripping sarcasm...\nI totally agree with too many orphans being denied stable homes because of outsiders' personal prejudices.
608184
i don't see a problem in two people that are in love with each other, not just having sex. but two good honest, loving people who are the same sex should have the right to marry just like anyone else. \n\ni don't see whats so wrong in it, if it has nothing to do with you or I? just cause they want to get married though doesn't mean they should get special privileges and I'm sure most gay people know this. they should have to pay taxes and whatever else goes along with being married. \n\nnow their are tons of orphanges  out their with children that have no home or parents, or any kind of love. if they can get adopted by two loving parents, even if they are the same sex, it really shouldn't matter, if their being taken care off and loved just like any other children.\n\ni mean i saw an episode of MTV once where they had children from a gay family. they seem normal and happy in their situations, neither of them looked ashamed to have a two moms or two dads. \n\ni just think society needs to relax a bit on this whole thing. its not that big of a deal, i really don't think god or Jesus cares who we marry, with sex, color or age. he would want us to be happy and loved by those we choose to love.
483967
We are born who we are.I see your point of view however, i disagree somewhat. Based on your  premise isn't being straight also a psychological disorder?Gays,Lesbians etc. are born from straight persons.These variations exist throughout nature.Take  a look at some of our other animal brethren to see it.Former anything can change by choosing to. Once this country was populated by child brides.It was considered a good thing to give your daughter to a well established male.Over time,we have come  to understand that such unions placed the girls at an unfair advantage. We have now enacted laws to protect our young from this.To allow pedophilia breaks said laws. Thanks for sharing your opinion.Respectfully,Will
898607
Because they know that the lifestyle that you chose to lead is wrong & dirty. I am teaching my kids that the gay and bi lifestyle is a choice and that choice is so wrong.  If you want to be in your parent's lives be normal and heathy. Date an marry a man. That is what God wants you to do.
530556
it isnt a choice. homosexuality is a psychological disorder. they didnt choose to have hte psychological disorder. people who were once gay become straight and vice versa. a significantly high proportion of gay men didnt have a father during their child. because of the lack of fatherly love from a fatherly figure, they turn to other men\n\nhomosexuality is just like anorexia, people dont choose to be sick. they cant help it. many do recover\n\n\nof course homosexuality isnt genetic. do two gays make a gay? do two straights make a straight? why can some people who were once gay become straight if its genetic?
814810
I do not understand how a persons sexual preference has anything to do with the upbringing of children.  \n\nI am not gay, but my sexual preference being with my husband has nothing to do with how we raise our son.\n\nIf our son is gay, would we then be expelled as parents and have our child handed over to a gay couple?  Would they not be best to raise my son if he is gay and they are gay?  I am hetersexual so therefore I would only be given permission by society to bring up my heterosexual son but not a gay son?  \n\nPlease I do not understand this judgement.  I know that to be gay you are born gay.  The time the gay person takes to determine their sexual preference would be the same as a heterosexual takes to determine their own.  We mature at different rates or our morals and beliefs may hinder us from making any decision choosing to remain single for life, all because of anothers judgements.  I fail to see how this influences criminal behaviour.  If gays were so criminal then our prisons would only be filled with gays.  Not so. \n\nNo person can influence a sexual preference, but yes can certainly influence sexual behaviour.  Big difference I would say.  Many have been manipulated in to believing that they were gay when in fact they were not.  This is just another victim of self and then society.  We have choices, and being heterosexual or gay does not change the human factor of these choices.  We are who we are being not who we are doing.\n\nBlessings be yours in peace and light\nHarriett Potty ;)
366269
God did not choose you to be adopted. Your birth mother did.  Your birth mother did the most unselfish act by giving you to a person that she thought would be better for you than her.  It is too bad that your adopted mother didn't have disciplinary  skills.  Hitting a child only promotes hitting.  Don't get me wrong a light spank on the bottom when children are to young to reason with is OK.
1009900
You are mistaking a preference for spending time with a person of the same sex, with an inability to procreate.  Historically, many "gay" people had children.  They seemed to find enough motivation to mate with someone even if that is not their preference.  Given that, there is no reason why being gay would stop one from procreating.\n\nIn fact, historically, it could be advantage in some cases.  The whole point of pro-creation is to survive long enough to mate and then to ensure that your offspring also survive long enough to mate.   Women can better rely on other women to help raise children, and the importance of male bonding in combat or dangerous situations is quite clear.\n\nThe real question is does a single "gay" gene exist.  I have my doubts that it is that simple.  Human interaction is a complex affair.  I suspect that there are multiple genes involved as well as environmental conditions (both pre and post natal).  That doesn't mean, that being gay is a choice.  A given gene may make it more or less likely, but almost all the contributing influences likely occurred long before self awareness was firmly in place.
153495
It is unfortunate that the majority of people in this country are still so scared of the possibility of gays living equal among them. Why else place such a ridiculous ban? Some will say that children raised by gay parents will have it a lot harder. I disagree. I am amazed at how open and honest the youth in todays schools are. The only ones I know of that are homophobic have learned the behavior and language from their parents. If the youth of today can accept each other, why can't the adults? Fear. My partner and I just placed a question on here about how to adopt. the answers ranged form "Yuck" to 'How dare we drag a child into our fantasy?" These answers just mirror the fear and ignorance of the majority of Americans. Gays are accepted as long as we are funny, and the life of the party, but as soon as we stop acting like the characters on a sit-com we become a threat. The ban doesn't surprise me. the real question here is what to do about? How do accepting, open minded, loving people fight against such fear?
819202
You would definitely be accepted by me if i was your mom. Gay people cannot help being Gay . Why should you be treated like an outcast by your family, you are their son anyway. It might come as a shock at first but they will get over it. I personally love Gay people, i find them amusing, funny and very very witty. It is nothing to be ashamed off.