my parents are way too overprotective!!!!!!!!!?
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Honey, I have been there.  I had a 7 pm curfew on weekends when I was 17 years old.  Tell your parents to trust you and if you do anything wrong, then they can take all rights away again.  You can't do no wrong until you try something.  Tell them that you are a levelheaded  responsible 16 year old and that you would like to win their trust, but you won't be able to if they keep you hidden and secluded.  Tell them you will grow up and move away.  Tell them that you will live a sheltered life and it is not good for your health.  Tell them your true feelings and make them listen.  I feel so bad for you because I was there.  Then I turned 17 and moved away from home, had my own apartment while I was a senior.  I had a full time job, gymnastics practice and school.  I did just fine and it taught me how to be mature.  I am not telling you to take off, but I am telling you to talk to  your parents because they may not understand your TRUE feelings and how you want to hurt yourself.  Just think, you will be 18 in a little bit and you will be able to begin your life the way you want and be your own boss.  Don't hurt yourself, because in all honest, it is not worth it.  Talk to the parent you are closer too!  I feel for you, I have been there.  Then I moved to FL.  I moved away so my family would realize what I meant to them and that they didn't have a hold on me.  It doesn't work for anyone, so don't runaway or anything.  I did this all as an adult okay? Let us know how it goes because I am genuinely worried about you!  Good luck!
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I think I was overprotected.  I rebelled when I was a senior in high school, and partied a lot then and in college.  Maybe if I had been allowed to do more, I would have done less.  \n\nON THE OTHER HAND, I have two kids right now and I find myself laying down the same rules as my parents did. :)  Go figure.
1098931
you cant really hide much from your parents trust me.\nif you dont have anyone in mind im free
905577
You didn't say your age, but I'm assuming you still live at home--hense the "grounding".    Parents have reasons for why we do things.  Sometimes they may sound silly and unreasonable to our children.  But, you need to respect your parents wishes and avoid that friend.  Perhaps in the future you will understand why your parents want you away from that person.
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They could be both overprotective and concerned,which you should be greatful for cuz alot of parents just don't give a S*** about their kids.I can tell you that there are alot of sick people out there in the world,when I was younger I had to call my parents if I was going to be late coming in I had to call at 11:00pm, if i was a minute late they would freak out.Which I never could understand why back then,till a school mate of mine was found dead,she was only 15 years old,she had gone to a party,when she decided to leave the party she was walking home took a ride by someone she thought she knew.Well that person that she thought she knew raped and smashed her head in with a rock.To this day they still haven't found her killer.So that means he is still walking around the streets.Look what happen to that poor girl in NY when she was leaving the bar. Look what happen to her,how she was found.And I could go on.That's why they worry.Parents love their children they just want to be able to protect them all the time. Maybe they have miss your sister and they don't want to lose you.I'm sure they have some stories about sick things that have gone on in there life time.When you finally have children of your own you'll understand. Good Luck.... and take care.P.S. just remember your parents love you and want to make sure your always safe. You should thank them.
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If you are living at home, you do not have the right to privacy!  You likely are not providing the home, the utilities, the groceries, the upkeep and maintenance or anything else associated with the home.  Further, your parents are probably purchasing most, if not all, of your clothing, make up, accessories and on and on.  Do you drive yet?  If so, did you provide your own car or did your parents provide you with one?\n\nResponsible parents KNOW that their children don't tell them everything ~ they were teens once, too.  They also know that it is a very different world than the one we grew up in and kids need a lot more protection.\n\nSure, there were dangers in the world when we were teens, but there were no internet predators, there wasn't near as much kidnapping of children and teenagers, children and teenagers, regardless of gender, being sold into sex slavery and any of the other things that teenagers think will "never happen to me." \n\nThe truth is that none of the ones in your age group that HAVE had it happen to them ever thought it would happen to them, either, but it did.\n\nSo what if he read an email about a guy you liked.  Don't you think he knows you are going to like guys?  You're making a big issue out of something that is no issue at all and, frankly, you're acting like a spoiled little princess about the issue, too.  Sorry, but truth is truth.\n\nAgain, you do not have the right to privacy as long as you are living in your parents' home.  I agree with all the other people who have said they wish more Dad's were like your Dad.\n\nInstead of being overly defensive, demanding "rights," and whining about something as trivial as this, why don't you be grateful that you have parents who are able to provide you with a computer, who are able to keep a roof over your head and food on the table, who love you enough to say "tough cookies" to you and "invade your privacy."\n\nYou want privacy?  Get a job, move out, be completely self-supportive and ask no one for anything.  Then, and only then, do you have the right to privacy.\n\nAs far as the answers on here that say what your Dad is doing is illegal?  Chances are they, too, are teenagers who think they are owed anything they want.\n\nNone of you are "owed" a darned thing!  What you have is by the grace of your parents or other family members providing it to you.  YOU, on the other hand, owe respect to those who provide for you.\n\nIf you were mine and threw a fit about me looking into your computer (which I definately would do) or looking through your bedroom (which I would do), then I would make life very easy for you by removing the computer.  Complain enough, and I would remove your bedroom door.  Continue to complain, and I would remove all extras, such as make up, hair styling equipment and supplies, one by one until you got the message.\n\nHere's the message:  Go to your Dad.  Apologize for overreacting to his CARE and LOVE for you.  Tell him you understand that what he is doing is done out of love for you.  Start respecting and stop demanding.\n\nLastly, you wouldn't be so upset if you weren't hiding something.  You know, I know it, and you can be very assured your Dad knows it.  Teenagers think they are so clever; but, as parents, we see right through you.  Sometimes we stop your behaviors if we think you can be seriously harmed by them.  Other times, we just sit back and feed you enough rope to hang yourselves so that you can learn a lesson the hard way.\n\nADD ON:  See?  My point proven exactly.  No sooner is my answer posted than I see you shouting (using all caps) at people, telling them to give you reasonable answers.\n\nMost of the answers ARE reasonable.  YOU are the one being unreasonable, sweetie.  You are a 13 year old **CHILD** and you are screaming at adults who are trying to help you understand?\n\nOf course you cannot go out and obtain a job and a car .
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You seriously need to make some serious changes. You have to create boundaries. It sounds like the requests you have made are falling on deaf hears. It seems to me you are trying to make everyone happy except yourself. Tell them if you are going to live in my house these are the rules if they don't like them they can leave. When your mom came back you could of asked her why are you here? When she said why do i have to tell them to pay the electric bill, it was because she is the one who invited them to stay. The things you are going to have to do will be uncomfortable. Your family will not like the new assertive you. Your mom is dependent on you and you are her co dependent. When she threatened you by saying she was going to leave and you said fine go ahead she was testing you. She did leave but she came back and you let her stay. So now what you say and what she says and your actions don't match. It's like when a parent tells his child no but then lets them have what they want. You have to back up what you say with actions and stick to them. You have fallen into the role of parent. You are not the parent you are the child but now your mom is acting like the child and now you are her parent. I think she should help you more. Do you want your brothers there? You did nothing wrong what i think you possibly feel is guilt because it is your mother and you feel obligated but your not obligated. No one should be taken advantage of.
635257
Listen to your parents and don't go.  They are providing a roof over your head, food in your mouth and clothes on your back. Until you are old enough to move out and get a job -- play by their rules.  It's called RESPECT.
821012
Stop going out with him.  Your parents love you and want to protect you from harm. It's obvious that you know what you are doing is wrong and it's tearing you up inside.  Do the right thing.  Respect your parents if you ever expect them to respect you.  If you want them to trust you in the future, then be trustworthy.
1000073
Some men are jst that stupid. their mothers sheltered them too much. You may have to show him how to use them correctly.
1172001
honey it sound like your parents are way too protective of you and they dont want you to grow up. but remember this when you turn 18 by law you dont have to listen to them. apply for collages away from home and go somewhere away from them. dont let them hold you back from doing what you want. thay have to relize their baby girl is growing up. or do what i did join the military. your parents have no control  how faw away you are then. and you could be sent to other countries. there is military bases in korea china japan philipines england spain germany and all other kinda of places. and its a secure job especially if you make it a career. \n\nI hope things work out for you. all you have to do is show your parents your grown up, and while you may need advise they can't control what you do.
904676
I think that you should respect your parents call on this one hun...sorry.  You are only 13, and your parents love you and are protecting you from experiances that you are not yet ready to handle.
1096379
LOL that is the typical Asian mom. My mom wasn't overprotective, she was abusive. She would throw stuff and scream and poke me in the face with her finger. The only thing you can do is wait it out until you are 18, then leave and never look back. A lot of Asian kids forgive their mom for what she does, but I think they should start holding them to their deeds.
66787
their your parents they are supposed to be in your business, they do it because they care nothing else. but if your really want them to stop make everything that you have accessable, they will eventually trust if they find nothing bad.
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If they are trying to teach you because you are doing something wrong, that's one thing. If they are just bossing you around, that's another. Maybe you should ask your parents to have a talk with them.
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Katie, you are a victim of too much information. You know things about your parents that you really don't need to know. You are not responsible for their problems or for the decisions they have made for their own lives. Seeing the flaws in your family, coming to terms with the deceptions, is a tough thing to deal with.\n\nI'm not sure how old you are, but I'm guessing you are still a minor, living with your parents. You need to sit down with both your parents and talk about all that you know. You need to suggest that you all go to family counseling so that someone neutral can help you figure out where you go from here.\n\nI repeat, you are not responsible for your parents' problems. Your father was wrong to tell you all the things he told you, but since the cat is out of the bag, your mother needs to know what you know and you need to decide as a family what to do about all this. If your dad is suicidal, he needs to get help. Unfortunately, it sounds like you have parents you can't fully depend on, so you need to learn how to take care of yourself. Look outside your immediate family for a trusted adult (a school counselor, a pastor) who can help you negotiate through this minefield and help you find the help you need.
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Because they want to protect you, and because they want the "best" for you. \n\nYou have to show you family that you can be responsible, sensible, take care of yourself, and be independent. Don't fight with them, as in most cases that'll lead to larger problems. Demonstrate to them that you're a smart, responsible, and mature person and assert that you are capable of making your own decisions in your own life.\n\nI also understand, that some families are very strict and/or very traditional in their heirarchies, however that doesn't leave you powerless to do anything. It may strain your relations with your family sometimes, but if you're adult about it you'll be fine.