how do you get her back if you didn't make her happy?
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If you find the magic bullet, let me know!\nI know one thing.....  Do not try so hard that it actually pushes them away.  That is what I did and I regret it.  \n\nDo not be bitter, whiny, or gullible.  Just show her love and the new you when you can.
117177
If there are no more feelings for her then why stay?  You like making her miserable, not to mention yourself?  Get on with your life so she can too
215303
You can't win her back but perhaps there is a chance you could EARN her back. \n\nBy this I mean that you should replace criticism with encouragement, emotional support and praise. After all, she's not supposed to be a mirror image of you, reflecting only your values, opinions and ways of doing things. \n\nIt sounds like both of you need boundaries. There are things that shouldn't be said, like hurtful judgments and criticisms. \n\nIt is so much more pleasant to appreciate and tolerate individual differences than to bicker over personal life styles!\n\nBest of luck to you and your lady!\nI hope it all works out for the best.
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be honest and tell her how much you missed her, how much you longed to see her and how you love her that's enough to make a girl happy.\n\nall your Gf want from you is your true love and be truth full to her.\ngood luck.
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All she wants is your full, undivided attention...\n\njust talk to her about what was so horriable that day or just let her talk.....and PAY ATTENTION!\nand trying to make her laugh and smile wouldn't hurt either.
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Take it slow... tell her that you really want her to listen to you and that you seriously want her to take the time to listen to what you have to say, if there have been many times when you've had a heart to heart and no results, tell her that it'd be best if you get everything out of the way so you can both make up your minds about whatever it is. Tell her you miss her, tell her being 'just a friend' isn't what you want but if it's all you're going to get then it's fine. If you don't think hat way then express how you really feel. Ask her why she wants to be your friend so badly all of a sudden. Maybe she really wants you back or she's trying to start all over again or she misses how you were as a friend. Let it all out, relieve her and yourself of your issues and you can go on from there.
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You can't make her want to be with you.  It's ok to let her know that you are sad, but don't waste your time pining away for someone who has moved on.
850873
Give her a little time...try to win her back with little things that you know she likes....and hopefully you learned dont get stupid drunk around her_
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Hi,\n\nI don't think you can make someone happy if they just don't want to be happy, try to find out what the problem is and get that person help if need be! It could be a deeper problem then you think!
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look, you made an honest mistake, i mean from the sound of things, it came from the right place. grow a bit of a spine and admit to her that what you did was wrong, but explain to her how what she did made you feel; that maybe she should have gone about it in a different way. don't beat yourself that much over it, you are only human and will make some mistakes, especially with those you love.
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Kick her to the curb. If she doesn't want you to be happy find someone who does.
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MAY BE SHE WANTS TO GIVE YOU A SECOND CHANCE IF SHE DEPENDS ON YOU SO MUCH - JUST TELL HER THAT YOU ARE SORRY FOR WHAT HAPPENED AND COULD WE PATCH UP - A RETURNED LOVE IS MOSTLY BIGGER THAN THE FIRST LOVE AS IT COMES WITH UNDERSTANDING AND A SENSE OF LOSS
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Keep being her friend for a while and find out what went wrong with the relationship. Once you find out what went wrong then fix that little at a time just wait for her to ask you out because she might think that you are despert and that you want her back. You might also want to try to talk to her and wait for her and not date anyone else for a while just be her friend and be honest and trust her. Good luck.
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well talk to her about it. don't ask straight forward because she'll likely lie to you. just ask her casual questions like "hows it been going" and try to figure it out from there. but it really should come down to if you want her back.
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just tell her you made a mistake, apologize, and ask if she can come back. What's the worst that could happen.\n\ngood luck
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Just love her and be patient with her. Tell her that you believe in her and that she isn't any of those things, and that you think she is wonderful. Emotional scars take time to heal.
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Tell her you want a "do-over".  Explain that you weren't at your best and you want another chance to get it right.\n\nThen make sure you do it up well when she says yes - bring her flowers, treat her like royalty, etc.  Let her know that she did the right thing by giving you another chance.