I just don't understand the meaning of a gift...?
825030
Its the feeling that this person, though poor, spent their money to buy you something even though they probably needed that money, it just shows you how they care.
113468
A clue.You would not want her to accept an unwanted gift out of obligation.Maybe ask her this question to see what she says.Then you'll know for sure.
940066
Personally, I don't buy for all of my family/friends.Most of the family still give gifts to me as they please, for which I am very, very thankful for and I let them know this. But, I've made it clear a long time ago that I am NOT going to feel obligated to purchase/give gifts - it defeats the purpose of gift giving!!!  \nJust mention politely before the holiday that you won't be giving this year, and "please do not feel obligated to give to me", something like that.\nIf they get snippy that is their issue! You can't be blamed that people have come to be selfish. Some people would rather get something from you knowing you didn't care, than to wait for a heart-felt present. That's their problem!
241987
First(not to be mean) it is spelled buy not bye. Second it is the thought and the effort that goes into the gift. But if he buys you a bunch of chocolates and your allergic to chocolate, or something like that, he isn't paying attention to who you are.  If he thought about you when he saw the bear and got it for you that is sweet. If he found at his friends house and tossed it to you like "here" that is a bad sign. Hope this helps.
847213
an occation is just an excuse...if u want to give something great, \nanytime u give that to ur beloved ,that time becomes an occation...so watever u give ,wil be the best , for that person....just go for the simplest but meaningful,and everlasting gifts....precious gifts are no longer the symbol for g8 consideration..its a varient of lavishness...
514738
By them a nice music Cd or a good book, what their sexual orientation is, should be irrelevant to what you could give them as a gift. They are normal people after all, why should they be given something "lesbian" as if they were something strange? If they are your friends you should know that.
73150
Honestly, I don't care what the gift is.  As long as it's a meaningful expression of how she feels about me (price and description are really immaterial), personally, I would love it no matter what it is and she wouldn't have to worry about "getting me the wrong thing" or "not getting something good enough".
458083
My guess would be it wasn't something you did it was something or some one he wanted to do and couldn't as long as he had a commitment to you. The gift was a nice gesture and if it made you feel better, then it was twice the gift you thought it was. Mend and move on girl. There's one out there for you.
949866
Money seems to be tight this year, and you always want to give a loved one something nice, and while holiday shopping you really don't think about receiving. Or I don't anyway. So, if someone took the time to pick out something for me based on my likes and it was cheap, I would love it more than a $50 gift certificate. Why? Because they actually pay attention to me, and know me well enough to make me smile with their gift. And that is my intention for every one on my list. So, in answer to your question; yes, I think it is the thought that counts. Although some people who have the money to lavish there loved ones with gifts, they also put thought into what they buy, they just have the money to reach higher. They shouldn't be looked down upon for that, us less advantaged people just wish we could do that.  Expensive doesn't mean less thought. Sometimes it could even mean more thought. One Christmas, all I wanted was a guitar, very pricey, and I knew that my mom couldn't afford, so I never asked. Everything in me was screaming with desire: have to play a guitar, want a guitar. My mom knew that, and she really surprised me when I woke up and there was one setting under the tree with a bow on it. It was the most precious gift I got because it came right from her heart. \nThe meaning of 'it's the thought that counts' is just as it reads, you put a lot of thought into any gift, and it counts.
152637
If someone gave you a present for your birthday, then it's polite to give them one for theirs.  Basically though, give a gift when you feel inclined to, maybe because you're old friends, or family members, or the person helped you out a lot this year.  Don't worry about them feeling like they have to "repay" you for your gift.  Gifts are just that -- gifts -- and they shouldn't be thought of as favors.
1105658
There is no guideline.  You give a gift that (a) is something you can afford, and (b) is appropriate, given your relationship to and knowledge of the preferences of the couple.
807484
This year my bf and I are trying something new. NO GIFTS. No one gets anything. We do send out homemade cards with personal notes in each card.\n\nWe are trying to get out of the extreme holiday behavior this world is coming to. We shouldn't have Christmas stuff for sale in all the stores before Thanksgiving and have to spend so much money on gifts for everyone. Gifts should be homemade and well thought out. We are trying to do what we can to change our families and teach them that we dont need gifts, we just want love and quality family time during the holidays!!\n\nIs it me or did I just go way off track on that answer? ;-)
787697
It is trust, without trust in god, you are "closed" to his gifts, you may be getting the gifts, but you can't see them. Que lastima!
528272
You don't have too, it your own personal choice. Remember, it is all just marketing or tradition:\n\nBirthdays - tradition\nNew Years - just marketing\nValentines Day - not a day for gift giving - just marketing\nEaster/Ostrea - tradition/marketing\nChristmas/Hanukkah/Kwanzaa - tradition/marketing\nAnniversaries - personal tradition\nSurgeries - personal choice\n\nYou get the point.
381753
It would depend on the type gift. If it is a book ,or music, or something like that it could be either one. If it is something more personal like flowers, jewelry, or lingerie it is definitely something more than friendship they are after. \n\nSome people give because they want something, some because they have done something wrong & they want to try to compensate, others [far & few between] because they are just genorous. \nIf they wanted you for more of than a friend there would probably be other signs as well.
138082
You can still give him a gift. Something you can't buy. Something that you have made just for him - a painting or something like that :)
596484
Well now that depends on who it is from... \n\nIf it's from a close relative or friend, I would expect they know something about me that I like.. so a gift, even if it's from a dollar store, if it's a caring gesture, could mean more than diamonds.\n\nIf that nice thought is represented in a gift card so I can pick out what I want.. then it depends on what they THINK I like...a gift card to get my nails done for me is cool.. but if it's to Micky D's... then they have the WRONG picture of who I am, so giving a gift at all is inappropriate.\n\nCASH?... That's a hard one... that would during times of co-workers that took a collection that have no idea what you would want, or what you already have, but want to give you a bit of spending cash to further whatever the occasion is.. such as a housewarming.. or baby shower.. but it has to be given with the most thoughtful card or flowers to show that they cared enough to give a little something nice.. and the cash is a bonus.