Betrayed!! Am i wrong for taking partner of 10 yrs back?????
815535
well u didnt say what he did , so we wouldnt know.. \nWould he do it again,, is the problem still there,, only u know,, so go with ur head, not ur heart
452042
youre married. right, email him why not? you missed your ten years then rebond again but talk to him. make sure he respect you as a fren and only a fren. youre married remember that. and be happy for him if he has a soulmate already
217847
well, first off, you insensitive jerk... you shouldn't have married this woman and promised her your heart until the end of time if you were going to get "tired" of marriage. and if you really feel this way, you shouldn't cheat. you should at least have the respect to end the marriage before finding someone new. rather than bringing her home aids or something, to make it where she can't ever find happiness again. you know what, I hope she gets on the computer one day and finds all this stuff you've been writing, and dumps your sorry ass!
432044
if you still love him, and really really want him back in your life and into your future, then get up right now and start packing your bags! your going on a trip to get your ONE and ONLY back! even though he lives 8 hours away from you, it doesnt matter! you should fight for him and do anything to get him back, right?! and if it will cost you money, it still doesn't matter, what would you rather lose? your money or the ONE you truly want and need? of course you would rather lose money than the person you loved, right? and when you get to him... tell him how you really really love him so much... tell him that you would rather lose all the things you have than lose him! tell him that you will NEVER EVER do anything to hurt him again! tell him that you would change and go back to the real you just like in the old days... and tell him that you really need him and want him in your life! especially, tell him that you wouldnt change into the self that was dishonest and the self you didnt like before... then tell him you really love him! over and over and over and over again!!!! =)
99947
Your love obviously isn't being returned.  This person is using you and you don't deserve that.  By letting them get away with misbehaving you are just telling them that what they are doing is ok.  You need to put an end to what ever this behaviour is even if it means ending the relationship.  If you give your love to someone then you deserve to have it returned properly and if they can't do that then you need to find someone who will.
949566
honey I so feel your pain. I want to give you some advice and please read carefully. Do not waste one more moment of your life fretting over this woman. This situation will always be a thorn in your side if you let it. DONT LET IT. You said your not a hateful person but if you let it this or she will make you one. Trust me I have been married to a man for 10 years and his ex is the beast master GOG OF MAGOG.I finally had to let it go but it just about ate me alive before I realized. I became bitter, hateful, obsessed, you name it. It will hurt no one but you.
1170862
Now, this is my favorite one: 'Let him go, if he comes back, he is yours, if he does'nt, he never was' \nI believe in this, because it happened to me. \nI am guessing he cheated on you, or something.. and now you have trust issues. \nHappens!!\nDont wait for him to screw up, it wont work. I know, because I waited for my gf to screw up after she cheated and we got back.\nYou will only end up screwing your thought process!!\nWhat you are doing right this time to you are a lot mature and hopefully going slow. Which is good. \nLove him for what he is to you and for what he will be for you tomorrow. Dont resuscitate the past. \nI strongly feel you are going to make it. Just take it one day at a time, discussing your future and stuff is good and sounds ideal, but if you have had trust issues, I would not recommend you make long term plans.\nWhat say??\nCheers!!
429996
He is a jerk and you did the right thing. Your kids should be your number one priority. I have 4 and they are the world to me. You are not the bad guy. The next thing he will do is try to get you to feel sorry for him to make you go back to him. Don't do it!
357883
Wow hombre,\n\nThat's just tricky enough to warrent bringing out the big guns and asking the team of experts at Yahoo! Answers.\n\nYou are, however, still screwed.\n\nTake lots of mental snapshots of what it was like to have both of these people as friends because those days are coming to a close soon.\n\nTrust is foundational in healthy relationships.  You've allowed a couple of relationships grow for 10 sitting smack dab on top of a fault line of lies.\n\nNow your buddy's wife can't either trust you or face you without thinking of the 10 years of betrayal you enabled to continue.  You can't trust your buddy nor face him without thinking of the harm he's caused his wife and you by his actions.\n\n10 years of lies and manipulation that get bottled up in relationships don't just drain out like a bathtub my friend.  No matter how the truth comes out it's going to be like a needle to a balloon.\n\nBest get it over with sooner than later so there's more time to heal and move on.
1108938
Ohhh, that's a tough one. Your relationship can not last if its built on a foundation of distrust. Especially since he has told you that he will not trust you. I went through a similar situation, and you both have to ask yourselves, "Can I drop the past of my partner and move on, on a positive note. If your can't answer "yes" than you need to take a step back and reevaluate your relationship and decide if its worth living a life of suspicion and distrust. Counseling will help. Good luck!!
508836
Dont feel lost broken or confused.  These things have a way of working themselves out.  If he sees you for who you are and her as the cheater, then hopefully he will make the right choice.  You can always remind him of your loyalty.
1175595
you can't make a person realize their wrong...that's something they have to do on their own...i can see your bitter...and i believe you when you say you don't want him back...because i was in a similar situation not to long ago, you want that person to feel what they put you through...but you kno what sweeti your not alone...the best thing i can tell you to do is go forward with your life rather he regrets it or not... if he infact did you wrong, than he a be the one paying for it not you.... so just leave him behind and move forward.
293973
You had (have) marriage vows with HIM, not her. Wanting to press charges on her is your pathetic way of taking the focus off of the fact that he (at least for a while) chose HER over YOU.\nI don't mean to be mean...but it isn't her fault he chose to abandon his vows to you.  It is his fault.
182361
Man...that sucks.  My ex and I broke up after I discovered cheating...and then I was a sucker and feel for the "I am so sorry" speech.  Needless to say the next 6 months were absolute hell.  \nI was never able to forgive the cheating in the first place and made myself completely crazy.  If you are checking her email now, sounds like you may be in the same position I was.  Man, you gotta move on. Confront her if you need. SO WHAT that you have been checking her email!  What is she going to do?  Get mad?  She is the one who broke the trust to begin with.\nTime to bail my friend.  Good luck to you.
954841
Move on. Mid life crisis is a pathetic excuse. \n\nYou'll never be able to trust him again. And why do you want her leftovers back?
348686
It all depends on what you want, and are looking for. It's not like she did all these things while she was with you, t's not like she cheated. Do you think she has changed? It's really up to you... I think that you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel.
116127
well if you are going to take him back then you have to get over it. otherwise let him go. i cheated with a guy and we got back toghether and he treated me bad because of it instead of like loveing me and us chillin because i was faithful to him for a while and well guess what i did it again and we are now broke up. but you are not wronge to give him another chance. people do change and though it is not an excuse yall were both going through some pretty bad stuff so i mean he could really be sorry. but if he does it again which he may not then leave him unless you want to give him another chance (there is no such thing as to many chances but when you get tired of soemthing you area tired of it) so i hope if he does keep cheating you will leave cause youdeserve better but its really up to you but this could work out for yall and i hope it does. good luck and God bless.