help! i feel like i have no real mom!?
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Your mom is looking out for you. You should not be allowed to do what ever you want. Do you see the news at all these days.  There are a Lot of things going on, even with people  you trust and you think they would never do some of the terrible things that they do. No one else will care for you and love you as much as your parents. You may not see it now, but when you get older you will appreciate that you had parents who looked out for your best interest. You are at the age were most children don't like much of what the parents say or do. With that said I do not think it is right for you mother to call you stupid. Try to talk to your mom about the name calling. Tell her how it makes you feel.
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Because she was never really a mother to you in the traditional sense. She was and is a weak, insecure woman who put her selfish needs above and beyond anything/one else. You feel abandoned and angry, and now that you're an adult, you see how totally wrong your childhood was. I think you should be ok with distancing yourself from her. \nThere's a good book called "Bad Childhood, Good Life: How to Blossom and Thrive in Spite of an Unhappy Childhood: " that tells you how to accept the past, let it go, and move on-- even if moving on means ending contact.\n\n(I recommend this book because my story is included in it.)
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I don't want to bring your spirits down. my mom tired for 3 years from I believe 37.... had 4 miscarriages.. then finally concieved at 40.. and had her baby at 41... so I guess it just determins on your overall health. GOOD LUCK! Everyone deserves to be a mom.\n\nby the way, this was her 5th child.
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when i see my daughter do something i taught her or she does as she's told..... simple thing i know but i seriously doubt my skills as a mother and as im a single one its very hard and trying!!\n(plus i get critisied a lot by family members)\n\nalso one of my single mother friends said to me that i have done a good job and she wishes she can be as good a mum as i have been, that made me feel more confident!! and very happy!!
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OMG - Congrats!! Keep in mind that your body is still healing & hormones are still outta wack. I didn't start to feel my normal self (w/ all the implied regular energy) until after my son was close to a year. Maintain a healthy diet & food portions. Just doing all the regular housework that a new mom does (plus the irregular schedule) will help burn some calories. Once the baby gets on a somewhat regular sleeping pattern & you can get some sleep then try to incorporate some light weights. Alittle weight-conditioning & some daily walks with your new bundle in the stroller will help shed some pounds. Take it slow & don't get discouraged if you don't fit into your pre-preggers jeans immediately.
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you are so sweet!  most kids don't see things the way you seem to.  now, i don't have any of my own, but since i am someone's (now adult) child, i think i can give you a few suggestions.  first of all, while it may not be your responsibility to take care of your mother (or anyone else in your family), it is nice that you want to help out.  nothing wrong with that.  now, maybe you can start helping with laundry or other chores.  if you already do help at home, then maybe you can talk to some of your other relatives to see if  they are willing to talk with your mom and get her some help.  or at least give your mom a break by hanging out with you kids (or just you, if you're an only child) while she spends some time alone.  if you want to get her a gift, i'm sure she'll love anything from you.  maybe something for the bath, or some relaxing music?  good luck, and i hope you and your family realize what a good daughter you are:)
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Susan,\nHi!  My name is Karen and I am a Nurse.  I worked in Labor and Delivery for many years.  It is not uncommon to feel like you are feeling.  It is called Post Partum Depression.  Of course, you love your daughter.  You need to make an appointment with your doctor and let him/her know how you are feeling.  You may need to go on an anti-depressant for a little while. Many women feel the way you do after they have a baby.  It is because of the hormones going crazy in your body.  Do you feel like you want to hurt yourself or your baby?  If you do, please call a friend to come stay with you and the baby so you will both be safe.  You do not want to do something you would regret for the rest of your life.  And remember, your daughter needs you to be there for her.  Do not feel embarrassed because of being depressed.  You are not alone.  Please make sure you call your doctor in the morning and get an appointment to see him/her.  It is very important that you do this for yours and your daughters safety.  It will make you feel better.  Take care and God Bless You Both!\nKaren
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I went through that stage too. I dont really know how to explain it lol. I just grew out of it. Sometimes she still gets on my nerves lol. Moms like to be nosey and ask random questions and I think sometimes I was just like seriously leave me alone lol. Try to be patient. She loves you!
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My job is a full time mom, and I know I am just BSing my way through this.  Someone will catch on eventually...probably my daughter!
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Sounds as though you might have your period – congratulations! \n\nYou might want to talk to your mother or another adult they should be able to help you out – although it is important you learn all you can about your body yourself. An adult should also be able to help you celebrate your first period, like a shopping trip, nice meal, sleep over, or whatever you might be into. \n\nThe most important thing you will ever learn about your periods;\n\nPeriods are only as a good or as bad as you make them!\n\nThe more you know the better they are, for example those pains aren't a necessary part of having periods. There are a lot of things you can do to prevent them, but for the time being I highly recommend drinking Raspberry Leaf Tea and rubbing a little Clary Sage on your belly. It's nothing to be worried about, we all get our periods sooner or later and there is nothing to fear, it's a good thing once you know all about it, promise.
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Your isolating yourself aren't you? Yes your pain is real,we all suffer in life ,but these are lessons, to learn how to live for the better. Have you received counseling for the abuse? And living in 8 foster homes was no picnic either , I know i have two brothers i took in and although I'm not related they are my kids. They have suffered greatly also, but slowly but surely they are moving on in life. Now another thing you probably have is the feeling that theres really no one out there for you. That's just not true, hun I wouldn't be here typing this letter to you if I didn't care. Neither would any of these other people. If you would like to talk some more just ask I will talk , I will listen, and I will feel what ever your experiencing and I will give it my best shot to walk through the misery you are experiencing at any given moment. I'm a mom, and yes of 8 of my own biological children, but my heart has room for more, so you decide if u want to contact me, just dont feel alone reach out to some one ,ok you are cared about know that, its a start to healing and gaining some kind of self esteem.
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Sometimes it makes me wonder who the child really is.  My mother has always been like the 5-year old that will throw a fit until she gets her way...while my dad is looking like her like she is a total idiot.  I had chosen to "side" (for lack of a better term) with my dad, while my mother has always puzzled me...on MANY levels.  Maybe her and I are too much alike?  Or we are just too different...in either case, she is the one that makes me feel torn.
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A date is just that.  It's not a life time committmant.\nHave a little fun and enjoy yourself, while you're getting yourself back on track. You may be smiling, but perhaps your mom isnt.  So please keep in mind that you do need to become self sufficient.  Hopefully you're receiving child support.  If not, that should be a major priority of concern as well as a job, to be able to contribute some assistance to your mom.
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hi, i am so sorry that you are hurt, but i understand.  hurting your mom is the worst feeling in the world.  the worst.  but the best medicine is free.  don't do any of that writing notes crap, that is really chicken shit.  you hurt her, and you are old enough to own up to your mistakes.  you just march yourself up to her and say mama, i can never tell you how sorry i am, i love you, i need you, and i'm not too proud to say it.  then tell her that you know that your time is coming.  you'll have a mini me someday, and it will come back around.  it's called the circle of life.  lol.  the easiest answers are always the toughest.  god bless
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First, I am a mother.  You need to think about what you are going to say before you say it. Remember she is the only mother you will have.  Also, try to explain to your mom how you are feeling.  This may help take away some of the frustrations you have.  I was a teenager once, I did alot of aruging with my mom as a teenager and it was about how i felt she was treating my brother a lot better than me, ect, which by the way she did, and now admits.  I ended up moving in with my dad and step monster, oops step mother, and It was find for like 4 months, then she showed her real colors.  It might not seem like it now, but try and talk with your mom, explain that you are just frustrated, and you need to tell her how you feel. I actually thought I hated my mom for many years, but now that I am older, I realize that i didn't hate her, I just did not like her actions, and the decisions she made.
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Go see your mom!! It is Mothers Day!!! Go to church:)
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you're lucky you were close to her. Many people don't get to experience that. This is perfectly normal. You must be pretty close if you feel bad about stuff you may not want to tell her. Kids go through this stage all the time. It doesn't get better until you are both older and wiser. Be grateful. When I was 17 my mother and I used to fight all the time, because we were so different, and the fact that she just got remarried, had a kid and I no longer felt like part of the family. bit crap really!