if you are gay, how do you let another man know you want to be with him?
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First of all, ask yourself why do you want to be with him.   Is it just because he's hot, or more than that. \nNext, make sure he's gay or willing to be gay.\nYour approach often depends on the situation.   If you are in a bar, or a situation where alcohol or another substance is being consumed by you and others, you could stand to be a little bit more forward, such as asking him if he would like to stop by your place.\nHowever, if you're approaching him in a non mind-altering substance situation, you might want to try a more subtle approach.   You could go on an outing together, a trip, or maybe invite him over for dinner.\nUsually, if you answer the first 2 questions mentioned above, it should be relatively easy to "be with him".\n\nGood luck.
796497
Open your mouth and just tell him.
54186
Yes, some gay men are willing to be with straight men. Others aren't, preferring to look for a future relationship which is almost discounted out of hand with a self-identified straight man.\n\nYour first time is dependent on what you want to do and how far you want to go. If you are looking just to hook up, try CraigsList in your area, Men looking for Men.
439606
Well, if you know for a fact that the person is gay, start a conversation with them. Get to know them, and what they like and stuff. There is a great website to go to. Its adam4adam.com You can meet alot of guys there. Thats where I met my current boyfriend, whom I love soooo much.
145611
Same way you tell any man you love him. Just do it... Like the Nike commercials.. *giggle* Don't be shy.. just go for it.
387979
Get him in private somewhere and tell him! This is the only way you're gonna be with him!!!
946704
Give him a big hug and tell him that you love him and nothing can ever change that.\n\nDepending on the kind of relationship you have, you could also add jokingly, "But you have to let me meet all your potential boyfriends first - so I can tell them embarrassing stories about you!"\n\nBe loving, but add some humor so it doesn't turn into one of those awkward "I love you, I love you too, what now?" moments.\n\nYou say that nothing about your relationship will change (or that you don't want it to), so why hang out or do things different from before you were assured that he was gay? Do the things you've always enjoyed doing together - that will help ensure that nothing will truly change. Make sure that he knows you're interested in new ideas, just in case there are other things he would like to do now that he knows that you know.
347075
lol, well, i'm a very straight foward person, so i would wait until he asked me what i want, then tell him.... or... get one of your best girlfriends to drop the hint for ya. Just go with your instincts
84266
He tells you he is guy or gay.. whatever he meant... what are you supposed to say? \n\n"I'm gay"... "well good for you!"\n\nIf he just says he's gay... ask him if he has a question about it, or ask him why he's telling you out of nowhere.
995522
it's a little hard seen you don't know if he is also gay, maybe you could ask him out for a drink after work. See how he is in a social setting( like if he points out a hot chick the minute you both walk in, pretty good bet he's straight) . Don't mention your feelings until your sure. Hope it all works out for you
761016
If you flat out ask him, it could be awkward for both of you. Maybe you should be a little bit stronger in your hints and say something along the lines that, even though you are straight, you wouldn't mind having a gay friend and ask him if he has ever known anyone who is gay. Most gay people have the feeling that it is killing them inside before they come out, so even if he doesn't open up to you right away remain a close friend. If he is gay, your friendship will mean a lot to him.
471017
Kindly tell him that you're not gay and therefore not interested. He should understand. And it's up to the both of you to make sure it doesn't get weird and you remain friends.
478905
First, you have to be ready for others to know you are gay.  You have to know it in your own heart.  Then, take your time and be selective about who you come out to.  It's not necessary for everyone you know your business.  As your personal life comes up with friends, YOU decide if you want to share this with them.  OR, it can be great fun when you are in love with a great guy (gal) to discuss it with your new love and introduce them to your friend or brother, sister, whomever.\n\nJust be honest and be yourself.  Your true friends will still love you and deal with it sooner or later.  Some people need some time (especially family) to get used to the idea.  Good luck.
847428
You don't.  If he is straight that means he is most likely not interested nd if you tell him you may just make him angry.  And they you, assuming you are friends, run the risk of losing his friendship.
509792
You are a guy, and he is a guy, right?  Makin sure I understand the question.  True friends are the BOMB, but if you are a guy and not gay, then just tell him like it is - you like women, you love him as a friend, but ya just don't go that way ... if he's a true friend, he'll understand and won't hold it against you.  You've been brave and strong enough to be his friend - even though he's gay and you're not ... if I'm getting this right - you've gotta be true to yourself just as he is true to himself.  Just put it out on the table the way it is ... the truth is always the best policy.  You might tell him if you were gay, he would be the first one you'd come to, but you're not.  He'll appreciate your honesty I think, and you will be closer friends for it.  And if I'm wrong and you're a female with a gay best friend - they are good friends, and I've found, real, honest, down-to-earth people, so....same advice.
532072
You might feel like you're on a date, but that's just because you're straight.  He doesn't feel that way at all.  I had this one friend and I didn't think that I was leading her on or whatever and she KNEW I was gay, but she said that it was unfair of me to play with her like that and act like I was into her.  I wasn't GIVING her signals or anything though.  If he really wants you, let him come to you, you don't wanna lose a friendship just because you think you could convert him.  Things would just be WEIRD between the two of you.
289065
well if the other guy you thought is gay, is not...\nthen the best thing for the gay guy to do is too either see for himself cuz the 'straight" guy may be lying, or to find someone else