If and when you do get married, do you want kids? Why or why not?
821784
I do want to get married, but I don't want to have kids because I don't want the responsibility. I don't have a lot of patience and I would not make a good parent. I want freedom and money to do the things I want to do in life. I don't want to be tied down.
211636
I like 25. Although I got married a little earlier (6 years ago) I think that 25 lets you enjoy your youth but you're not too old to enjoy some of it with a partner. You can finish uni but you can still wait a little while before having kids. The percentage of birth problems goes up after 30 so I figure that gives you five years together to build a life, travel together etc... and then you can have kids. If you don't want kids then I guess it doesn't matter so much.
590156
NO BECAUSE CHILDREN SHOULD COME FROM A LOVING MARRIAGE.
97577
Well, I don't think marriage is necessary. Some people stay partners and committed with our marriage. I think in the sense that it will confuse your children that it might be benificial if you got married. I think it would be tough to explain a commited relationship to kids, when you are not married. \n\nIt will also help in terms of medical coverage, and any medical problems that could arise should some one need power of attorney in case a decision needs to be made on life support.
521823
Yeah I'm with her. Get married first, but don't get married because you to want a baby together because that's not the way to go. The to of you should really love each other enough before you even consider marriage or a baby! Out of that love a child should be conceived, and not because one or the other of you just wants to have a baby. Seriously, think about it before you have the WHAT-IF'S ans WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN thoughts in you mind.
124599
Been there, done that. I was 17 when I got married, I am now 34 and yes, we are still married. I had my son when I was 19, my daughter when I was 20 and my other daughter when I was 22. My hubby had a career when we got together but since he was still young(he was 20) he still had more he wanted to do with his life. More dreams he wanted to accomplish. I loved him and wanted him to be succesful and do his thing so that his dreams could come true and I figured it was all ok because I would take care of the kids and the house. I figured I could go back to school later. We struggled, financially and  emotionally. We loved each other(and still do) and thought that was all we needed to get us through.I got a job to help with the bills and tried to take a class at the local community college. It was hard working full time all day, going to class twice aweek at night doing homework, keeping up with the house work and trying to find time to spend with hubby and the kids. The kids spent alot of time with a sitter(she was good but a sitter is not mom) It was exhausting. I finished my class and decided to wait until he was finished with all his schooling and until I had more time and money.\nIt's funny how when you don't live your dreams at the right time, and think that you can do it later, later never comes.\nLife got in the way so I never went back to school. My kids are teenagers now and we aren't rich, sometimes we still struggle financially. I still want to go back to school but I know that in 3 years my son will be graduating from high school so I am saving MY education money so he can go to college and so his sister can the year after that.Then 2 years after her, my youngest will need the funds to go to college. They will all go to college because I don't want them to be where I am right now. Not regretting that I got married, especially  to the guy I am with, but , wishing I had waited until I had done the things that needed to be done to make me feel accomplished.  I could have had more to offer  my children, ( more time with them, the ease of knowing that the electric will always be on instead of them having to worry about things like that). I'm not gonna tell you not to get married, that's a decision you will have to make on yur own. I will tell you though, to think it over, in a mature fashion, without your feelings for your guy getting in the way. Think about the things you need to do for you, what you want out of life. Think about your future children and how you want to live. Then make your decision. \nDon't be 34 and wishing you had done things differently. \nThere's only one road in life and it is a one way road going forward. You can't go back to change things, so, make your choices count.
927058
Do they want kids? How are you going to handle finaces? Do they have any doubts about you two? No stds! How far would they go to stay together (counsling, etc.) What are their goals and carear plans. The rest you should know before you think of marriage
122868
Well, in my opinion, i think it is a little too young to have children. I mean it is a big responibility. You should think it over before having kids. Have you found the right guy, and are you in love? Questions like that! Hope this helps!!!! ^.^
251237
I personally don't want children, and I have very good reasons for choosing not to. However, some people have very good reasons for choosing to have them. In developed countries there is little worry by the elderly of growing old in poverty because of various pension programs, both private and public. Many therefore choose parenthood not for economic reasons but because they have an emotional need to shower a child with love and affection, as well as the desire to pass on the family name. I personally don't want kids because I enjoy the freedom of singleness and look forward to marrying a woman who also doesn't want kids so that we can enjoy life to the fullest together. Also with all the uncertainty of world events, I'm very apprehensive about bringing a child into it. No I don't think it's unnatural to choose to remain childless, it's a personal decision and nobody should be criticized for either choosing to have or to not have kids. There's many naysayers who decry the end of "Western Civilization" because of the fact that many people in developed lands choose childlessness, but it would be better to instead focus on how the birth rates of these nations could be lowered and the living standards improved for these people. So I hope I have answered your question, it was a good one.
383071
Yes, because they actually want to have a child, and will raise them with love and support. Unlike people who become parents everyday who don't want children or who don't have the skills to raise them right.
539071
You'll just know. Besides, no one is quite READY for marriage, it's like having a baby--you have to know you want it and then plan for it. When that's in place it's trial by error, so to speak.
499977
When I was married AND had our first (and so far, only) child.\n\nI wouldn't have wanted to have my child with anyone other than my wife.
364596
PEOPLE GET MARREID FOR DEFFERENT REASON'S SOME IS MONEY MINES WAS LOVE. I WANTED A FAMILY BUT I DID NOT WANT TO BE SOMEBODY'S BABY'MAMA SO I GOT MARRIED AT THE TIME I DID NOT WANT ANY KIDS BUT THEY CAME OUT OF THE MARRIAGE. I ALSO DID NOT WANT TO LIVE IN SIN I ALREADY GOT A HISTORY OF SIN I DID NOT WANT THAT TO BE ONE OF THEM. BUT ALL IN ALL MARRIAGE IS ACCEPTING THE THINGS THAT SOME ONE CAN NOT CHANGE AND IF YOU CAN LOVE THE PERSON FOR WHO THEY ARE INSIDE THEN GO FOR IT.
673190
Would it ever occur to you that some people DONT WANT TO have kids? Not everyone is out there wanting to just be a baby machine. Some people want to have a career or travel and have other priorities that do not include having children.\n\nAnd just because you decide to not have children does not mean you should stay single. Doesn't everyone deserve to be happy?\n\nNot everyone should have children - should someone who is addcited to crack (but is married) have kids? Uhhh probably not.\n\nDon't be so closed minded.
101626
No. But it is convenient to be married to a good women and to have beautiful children.
622474
Fall in love, have sex, have kids, then marry!
666957
for enjoyment,marriage is not necessary. you can enjoy as you like. but for family and children, you better get married.