My boyfriend has just started drinking and I don't like when he does how do I deal with it?
829438
Hold an intervention on him.
157697
u can by finding out why he drinking not in normal and why he need to drink and when he drink what he donig u can every thing cab change by u just understand hpe luck to u and him
209364
You should just be there for him, let him know that drinking is not the answer, that it will just make him more depressed. If that is not enough, i really do think you should let his parents know what is going on.
569890
Sweetie, re-read this passionately written factual letter and answer the question. He needs 1 yr of sobriety (not drinking) before he sees you alone. You have nothing to do with him while he is drinking. He created this, you cannot fix it. Be happy, guilt is a useless emotion. If he has 2 years to live, he has plenty of time to work on his drinking. These are his amends to make not yours.
463068
it sounds as though you really care about her as a person, and her behavior hurts not only herself but you too, but  your best bet would be to stay clear of her.  Holding her up when she drinks to hide the fact she is drunk, (because she is embarrassed) clearly shows she knows what she is doing is wrong, yet continues with this behavior. Don't be an enabler to her co-dependent nature. Some people have to fall flat on their face before they admit that they need help. Also hanging with a person like that will give you the reputation of being an drinker also. you said you have tried to talk to her and she won't listen, so chances are if you tried again to talk to her you would get the same response. If she comes to you and asks you why you are steering clear of her simply tell her that she offended you and she clearly needs help and that you care about her as a friend and because of that you are not going to enable her to continue with that type of behavior. If she seeks help and her behavior changes you will consider hanging with her again, but you can not and will not allow her to drag you down to her level. It will be difficult, but in the long run it will help you both.
521054
Anything you "do" is going to force her to defend him.  I know how frightening the situation is.  It could build in to full blown abuse. If this is what he does when drunk it will only get worse.  Sounds like you have already been through plenty with this relationship. It is so hard to stand by while our kids make big mistakes.  Been there done that! Just be there for emotional support, she will need you.
338301
Yes, It does sound as if he is. Ask him if he thinks he is an alcoholic. There's nothing wrong with being an alcoholic, but it can be a very big problem. Especially when stress gets high or serious problems come into our lives.\n\nI am an alcoholic. And it is easy for me to go a few weeks without any drinks. So I don't think your test of, "honey please go without drinking for a few weeks", will work. \nThe worst problem an alcoholic can have ignorance. That's why the first step to recovery is to admit it.\nWhat he should do, after recognizing that he has a problem, is learn to pace himself. Learn to abide by a set limit, but don't throw the limit out after breaking it a time or three. He needs to decide when, when not, where, where not and with whom he drinks. \nThe hardest part of quiting, if that is what he decides to do, is to quit your drinking friends. This is as hard as any lifestyle change and probably the reason most people feel that they can't quit. \n\nThe other problem is you. You put up with his abuse of alcohol. You stay with him. You are not overreacting, you have a life and expectations also. If he isn't meeting those, discuss it with him or leave him. Think of it this way, it's as hard for him to quit drinking as it is for you to quit him. Some times it seems like it could be easy, others not so but only when doing it will you know for sure how much better life can be.\nGood luck.
654599
First of all remind him that he told you this stuff when he was drunk. He will either apologize to you or tell you that's how he really feels. If you confront him about it by asking him what he was trying to prove by telling you this when he was drunk; he will be in a position to either deny it or confirm it. If he does tell you that he remembers and meant it, then you can tell him how you feel. Good Luck!
641358
He sounds like he's really possessive, insecure and a loser.  Drop him now before your relationship goes on much longer.  The truth always comes out when a person is drunk.  It may take several more months before his true personality comes out.  But you got a good preview while he was drunk....)(
835156
It sounds like he does like you but is to into drinking to slow down and carry on a relationship. If you feel like you can put up with it when you get in a relationship then talk to him but if he has trust issues and you get in a relationship he probably wont like you getting upset about his drikning.
1180166
First, you have to tell your boyfriend...he'll find out sooner or later and it's best coming from you.\nAsk his brother again what happened and see if the answer changes.  He probably won't tell his brother out of fear, but that's not the point.\nIt's your boyfriend's call after that.  He can stay or go.  If he stays, get ready to put some serious work into the relationship and prove that the mistake will never happen again.\nIf he goes, try harder with the next one.  Trust is key to any relationship and once it's lost, it's hard to get it back.\nSorry for your situation...and try not to drink so much at parties to avoid this in the future.
1003487
Record your calls if possible. Then you can hear when you're sober what you are saying and in what tone. It is possible he is trying to play some kind of guilt trip. Keep in mind though, that some people do become angry drunks. Some mellow, some cry, some get mad. I noticed in my earlier years that the mood I am in at the time I have a drink seems to be escalated if I continue to drink. If it is an issue with the alcohol, then why not stop? If he is this great love of your life, which would you rather have the bottle or him? Plus if you have an issue with the alcohol, think about what may happen if you do get married and have children?
481732
Calmy approach him and let him know that it makes you uncomfortable to hear him speak that way.  Ensure him that in no way are you trying to control his mouth, nor do you want to take away his feedom of speech.  Just let him know that his behavior is having a negative effect on your mood and you're afraid that such negativity may affect your relationship with him.  If he accepts your words and makes a conscious effort to change--and remember, it's not going to happen over night--then I'm sure you guys will be fine.  If not, however, then maybe "Mr. Potty-mouth" isn't the man for you.
1049584
Lay off the drinking cause you are aparrently adversely affected.  A mad drunk is no fun to be with and it makes many nervous.
1009627
not not at all. My boyfriend tells me not to get drunk with out him there, its not a bad thing it just means that  you care about her and don't want anything to happen to her. You're not controlling you just love so much that you want what is best for her.
842201
if he is there again, call him on it AS SOON as he gets there..something like...I hope you don't plan on getting drunk and acting like an ass again.  If he DOES, leave.  Plan and simple..remove YOURSELF from the situation..the only person you can control is you.  Maybe your friend will see what a hindrance he is then.  Good Luck!
1008494
Help from AA won't help him if he's fighting and drinking.  The fighting is a deeper problem, one that will (if it hasn't already) fall out on you.  You'll be in trouble if you get together with him and deep down you know it.  That's why you don't want to get in touch with him.  Telling him you "still care" will only hurt and confuse him and make him think you're coming back.  \n\nIt's time for you to take care of yourself and do things for yourself that are good for you - be your own best friend and find someone who will care about you first.