children passing away?
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A good question indeed. Why do children die? While asking, why are people born with major disabilities? Why do people constantly suffer in this planet? Why do bad things continue to happen, even though there is suppose to be a loving God? \nThis all depends on your faith. Biblically, God created Adam and Eve in perfection. No diseases, no suffering, etc. They lived in a paradise, with no worries about food and drink. They were told to multiply. So all the newborns afterwards should have enjoyed this fantastic way of life. Unfortunately, because of Satans lies, they disobeyed God, got kicked out of paradaise, would have to toil hard for their fruits, Eve's childbearing pains would increase a hundred fold, and they would "die."  This all came to be true for them. Sure they lived to about 900 years, but they did eventually die. From that point, all their offspring would be imperfect, and be subjected to all forms of misery. \nHere we are today, far from perfect. Our world system is flawed causing great hunger and suffering. Most accidents can be avoided with proper education and direction, but since this is sometimes not practiced, accidents do happen. We still die. \nThe Bible though shows that death is the price we pay for our great sin. Death is also a deep sleep with no memories, no feelings, no concept of time. It's not some netherworld of suffering or delight. In Revelations, God promises a great resurrection of pretty much all those who have died. This resurrection will be in much better conditions, and with new healthy bodies. We will then have 1000 years to reach that state of perfection that God wants. Then we will be tempted by Satan again. Some will follow Satan, even in the best of conditions, and will have to be destroyed for good. The rest will then live in eternity as God had wanted it to begin with. \nSo why go through all this trouble. Supposedly it's to prove to all the angels and people that God's way is the only way. Are we at the last days, I can't really say. Time will tell.\nAnother theory is reincarnation. We came to these bodies to experience life in different ways. We die, then come back later, born again in a new life. Over and over again. Kind of like the movie "the Matrix," were life is like a dream. If you have an accident, get a disease, or are killed, you die and go back to home base, take a break, then come back again when you're ready. Who's to say what's right.
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I really believe we go to heaven.  \n\nMy grandmother passed away when my mother was only four years old.  Just recently my mother passed away.  One week before my mother passed away she would have dreams and she would speak to her mother in her sleep.  I really believe there is a better place after we pass on.  A place where your sickness is completely gone and you are young and beautiful.
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The purpose of a funeral is not always to honor the dead - sometimes it's to honor those left behind and show support.\n\nIf there's any way you can go (without losing your job or something), I would absolutely go.  It seems that there's a close bond between your s/m and your kids at least, and I believe it would be wrong not to go if you're able. \n\nIt's never a bad thing to do more than what's "expected."
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Heron, I love you, but this is touchy.\n\nI've lost 3 babies.  I do believe that they are in heaven because they are innocent.\n\nAs a mother who has lost them, I see no "great fortune of dying in childhood."\n\nLogically, I know their safety and security is not really your point.  And that you're not really saying that it's good that they died.\n\nThe difference is that babies, and children, don't sin.  They're not old enough to make the decision to seek God or to reject Him.\n\nMy understanding is that God doesn't want anyone to go to hell.  That's why He gave so much for our redemption.\n\nThat He doesn't require those too young to do what is necessary to receive redemption is not only fair, but gracious and merciful.\n\nThat He gave His Own Son to offer us the gift of salvation is not only fair, but gracious and merciful.
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First please let me say that your grandbaby is in my prayers as are you and his parents. As for the why, there is no why, I wish there were, but God doesn't take children or anyone else as a punishment, in fact he doesn't take them from us, life does. This earth belongs to Satan, not God, (It's in The Bible) Our suffering is due to Satan not God, when we hurt, God weeps along with us. God Bless all of you in this sad time. We lost our grandson back in July, try to find comfort in the fact yours is still fighting, and just might win. I hope and pray so. Please try not to lose faith.
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Damn...I was searching for this answer too...about 3 years ago...and read it somewhere in an islamic book...yes infants do go straight to heaven if they pass away...thats because their soul is still unconscience...they do not understand what they are doing...cannot differentiate between right and wrong...I think that was it...
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our children and grandchildren.
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I've had a near death experience at a young age or 2 yrs. Ever since I've seen my dead brother talking to me. When my mother died I saw her playing with my very quiet children. My son has ADHD so that was unnerving to me. When I called out my mothers name she turned faced me and smiled. I paniced and ran down stairs and tried to call home. No answer and I felt sick inside. A couple hours later my sister called and told me of my mothers passing. But, before she could tell me what was wrong I responded that mom's dead huh. It freaked her out and me too.\n   It's a cool and humbling experience at the same time.
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Kids stop being happy. \nIt's a rotten time to be alive.
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Oh, please, my greatest sympathy to you.  My oldest is 33 years old and I would also be devastated if something happed to her.\n\nHospice is a great organization; it helped my father during his last days.  But there should be community mental health practitioners - go to your county health department and ask them for a list of names; they usually work on a sliding scale depending on your income.\n\nPlease talk to someone.  Your question pulls at my heart strings because you seem to be such a good-hearted person.  We can't know why things happen the way they do.  And I don't think we can ever accept the death of a child.\n\nTry not to spend too much time alone right now.  If there are any small children around, sitting and holding them - getting hugs and comfort from everyone around you is necessary.\n\nPlease do call your county health department or senior center or hospice to see what counseling they have for you.  And be very, very good to yourself during this time of sorrow.  Your daughter is watching you from heaven and she wants you to be happy and go on with your life.
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I had a friend die 6 months ago, she was  1 year younger than me. After she passed it made me realize that just because you are in you early 20's doesn't mean your going to make it out of your 20's. I have 2 children, so it really made me think about them more and how important it is for me to be here for them.
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I would set up a foundation in my sons memory.   My 11 day old son HUnter died of SIDS last year on Nov 28.05.  So I am now heavily involved in SIds projects.  Any money that I can I donate to them so no other parents have to go throught the pain of losing thier child.  My 5 year old saves her allowance to donate to her Huntie.
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right before they die.
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I would ask the county where this child died...but the real issue is the pain and grief your wife is still carrying.\nI think your wife is still grieving for her child.\nShe needs to have some grief counseling and support...other parents who have lost a child would be useful.\n\nI will pray for her and your family.
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everyone is different.  however long it takes you to get back on your feet, it could be 6months, it could be a year. but whenever that time comes there is no need to continue to be in mourning, of course you should never try to forget the death of a loved one.  but moving on is necessary both for you and the children.  just take it slow, and things will fall into place.  she wouldn't have wanted you to continue to live lonely.
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Yes, I think everyone does at some point in their lives. I see you have posted this question several times so I know you are in a really bad place right now.\n\n  I'm very sorry to hear of the tragic loss of your daughter. I can relate to you so well because I have lost two of my own children, a daughter and son both. My daughter was stillborn in 2002 and my son was premature in 2003, he lived for 2 days with the help of machines but died in my arms after they convinced me to unhook the machines. For me, it's the guilt that is eating me alive. What if I had gone to a different doctor? Why didnt I take it easier during the pregnancies? Why in the h*ll did I let them convince me to unhook the machines??!....  I have not been the same since, nothing seems to matter or worth any effort on my part.  You arent really "living",  you're just "existing", right? \n\n  I have found that it helps to talk about it, even if that only means writing out your feelings where no one will ever see it unless you want them to. I have found several support groups for bereved parents online that allow you to post stories, picture, even chat with others about what you're going through; that has helped a lot.No one should have to endure losing their child, that just isnt the way its suppose to be. I wish you the best and if you ever need to talk please know that I am here! Take care of yourself and remember that your daughter is watching over you. I love you too.
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you should read these the book "Echoes of the Soul" by Echo Bodine. Some kids remember details from previous lives. Some of the stories and examples she relates will give you goose-bumps--I mean that in a good way! Another good book is 'Indigo Children" by Lee Carroll and Jan Tober. When one of my nephews was around four, he told my sister that he wanted 'to visit the people who lived on the farm across from the church' My sister was adament he had never been to anyplace like that, let alone visited people in that location...Unless you plan have more details as to the 'other family' i.e., name and location, you  would have to search every newspaper in the world. If you know an approximate location (in the US) I would try the state or local Historical Society...they may either a record of deaths (usually by county or parish) or have an index of local newspaper obituaries. Also, keep in mind, your previous life may not have been at all recent...