If you are in an argument&#92;discussion and your mate slams a door, how angry does that make you?
827689
arguing with your man, huh?  My husband is disgustingly calm.......never slams doors, never yells, that's what really pisses me off.
806216
are u arguing about a dude,,,,and if so i hope its not chamillionare
540643
Men are ot emotional as women are. After an argument, a few minutes later, a man usually has forgotten it and want to be close to you. But women hold it in and be emotional and want to talk about it. The best way is to approach him and tell him you want to talk about what you all argued about. If you aproach him with anger, you will get anger in return. Its all about the tone you use. If he is not a good listener, write it in a letter and let him read it.
989539
I think 1 of your reason for fighting is because your angry that your getting blamed for something you didn't do.  She so needs to screw off cause it's not right to hit someone for no aparent reason!  What an idiot!
288002
Hmmm.... it happened to me..\n\nI am considered to be a cool headed person.. who does not get angry / agigated easily (me not bluffing :-D )..\n\nSometime back... I used to get agigated / irritated rather easily and in no time.. and it began happening often.. my friend.. pointed it out.. \n\nFirst time.. I said.. I denied.. and got hyper... etc etc...\n\nIt happened again.. and he pointed out... I denied again.. but this time did not defend myself.. I realised.. I was wrong..\n\nThat did not mean that it did not happen again.. but whenever it happened he was quick to jump on me.. And boy! do I love him for that... that has brought me back to (ab)normal ...
615871
Neither is really correct or healthy.  I tend to let it out, often in inappropriate words and shouting.  It is best to discuss it in a calm and loving way, despite your anger.  It needs to be discussed and needs to be discussed rationally and in a respectful way.  This is called fair fighting.  I try to still intersperse my anger with I love yous and words that indicate that I am not trying to hurt my wife...unfortunately, I tend to still say mean things to her if I get too frustrated.  Keeping your anger in will lead to an explosion at some point, which could turn deadly.  It can also lead to health problems like heart attacks, breakdowns, ulcers, suicide, etc.  Another problem holding your anger in is that people may not know how mad you are and push you until you explode!  Getting physical is very dangerous as, if it is against an individual, it is called physical abuse, it can be called assault, it can lead to murder and very well could end relationships or land you in jail.  If it is against inanimate objects, you could damage yourself (break something), damage property (which can lead you to expensive repairs, lawsuits or even jail) and is ultimately a bad indication as to where your anger is leading you to (it will eventually lead you to hit someone...its the next step).
613910
I disagree. Everyone here can only see words- not actions. Obviously if I am making obscene gestures at you right now, that doesn't speak so loud, does it? But if I write these words:\n\nMY THINGY IS SMALL AND IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT!!!!!\n\nLoud and clear, huh?
77446
when you start to argue each of you walk away, dont say another word to provoke more of an argument. \n\nLots of things trigger this, money, living conditions, job stress. raising a new baby ( you are both new parents)
559633
Usually it is just an ego thing.  When a guy is proved wrong you hurt his ego and then he gets angry.
154088
Can I get a smack at it.
763860
Outburst Disrupts Courtroom\n\ns
650275
Once upon a time I had a tenant who was a rambunctious young man, given to partying and generally having a good time for himself.  I remember calling him and waiting for many rings before he answered.  He said hello, but in the background there were the sounds of a very noisy party.  I spoke to him, but he said he was having trouble hearing me, and he began to shout at the revelers to quiet down.  He returned his attention to me, although the party noise hadn't abated at all.  I tried again to speak to him, and he started apologizing, saying he couldn't hear me.  Then he shouted at the top of his lungs for quiet.  That seemed to work.  The party noise level backed way off, and he spoke again.  "Whoever this is, you'll have to leave a message at the beep."\n\nI had been talking to a recorded message, but instead of feeling like a complete idiot, I had to smile at his sophomoric inventiveness.  Maybe you could work something out along these lines.
677605
Contention, as in the contention of ideas, can be very constructive, but losing your temper is almost always a bad idea. Knowing yourself well enough to recognize the warning signs, and being able to control your own emotions help greatly.
1176731
This roommate of mine saying "No...No...No....No" because I told him to shut-up three hours ago.\n\nYou can see what an exciting life I lead. ENVY ME!!!!
680806
If you were inside your own house doing something that I felt was unnaceptable - would I be justified in coming over there and attacking you?\n\nViolence doesn't solve anything.
940151
You can discuss pet peeves with your mate.  More often than none, people with annoying habits, don't realize they are doing it.\nIt just comes naturally to them and they do it without a thought.\n\nTalk it through. It's not worth giving up a potentially good relationship based on the petty things
148500
You need couples counselling. Crossing the boundry into physical violence during a fight is an extremely serious problem - one that won't go away by itself.