What would you do and how would you feel if you found out your husband  had  illegitimate kids?
815883
I think you answered your own question
1167906
I would say move on.. not only does he have no respect for other women, but you as his wife, you should be getting the most.\n\nHe thought nothing of your feelings when he was doing it.. and now that it is out in the open.. how does he feel??? \n\nI would say if he shows no remorse.. don't even bother... move on.. life is too short.. and us women are settling for jerks!!
191404
I'm not sure about this, but I think that if you report her, your friend could face some consequences as well, if INS determines it was a sham marriage.  Sounds to me like the guy has been through enough.  Better that he should get this woman as far away from him as possible, and fight her for custody of the baby.  Sounds to me like you and your husband would be able to provide plenty of testimony against her in the custody hearing, so maybe that would be karmic justice in itself.  Unfortunately, the world is full of people like her, but we don't have to force their eventual karmic pay-back. It will take care of itself, every single time.
253099
Lady, I recon this guy has done this before and it's "been your fault" everytime?\n\nCatch a wake up, even if it was the first time he did it, he'd probably do it again.\n\nIf you did tell your partner you cheated on him, whether you did or didn't, it sounds like you like causing trouble and maybe you should sort yourself out before trying to get your kids back.\n\nKids do need their parents but they don't need troublesome parents, sort yourself out and then get your kids back.
552851
I would first confront him with it and then tell her I knew about the affair just to see what she would have to say about it. Trust is an important part of a marriage so if you don't have that you need to think about what you want out of life...............
697112
Do you really think you should be on here saying this? Maybe you should be going to talk to your hubby about it and you never know he may feel the same way. How would you feel if he saw this and found out that way before you even talked to him? Think about it.
1160257
i would be plotting revenge....just remember, in a marriage.......WHAT'S HIS IS YOURS, AND WHAT'S YOURS IS YOURS. \ngood luck.
936003
I would pack up my children and myself, and leave him!  No questions asked!!\n\nActually, since he would be going straight to jail, I would file for divorce and change the locks on MY house.
363647
YOU KNOW I HAVE HAD THIS HAPPEN TO ME ALOT. ITS JUST JEALOUSY. THEY ARENT HAPPY WITH THEIR LIVES AND THE RELATIONSHIP THEY ARE IN. THEY SEE THAT YOU HAVE SOMETHING THAT THEY WANT SO THEY MAKE UP THINGS ABOUT YOU SO THAT YOU FEEL INSECURE ABOUT YOURSELF AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP. MAYBE YOU AND YOUR HUBBY SHOULD CONFRONT THEM TOGETHER AND SEE WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY THEN. USUALLY THEY ARE DUMB FOUNDED AND CANT SAY ANYTHING. BUT DONT WORRY ABOUT THEM. AS LONG AS YOU KNOW THAT THEY ARE RUMORS AND NOT TRUE YOU SHOULDNT WORRY ABOUT ANYTHING.
21348
If your husband kissed another woman what would you think.  You have already cheated yourself since you got to that point.  Now is the time to feel guilty.
299597
well, i would tell him what i feel about it to the very small details, no matter whether it hurts or not. \nhowever, you are proud woman and i wish you the very best of luck. it is not easy. not at all. take care of your kids as best as you can. they have a great mother\n\ncheers\n\nnedzad
807832
How much do you trust your husband to make the right decisions for your family??????........\nSupport your husband in whatever way he needs you to at the moment......you cant worry about how your in-laws feel about you......when they are gone, you will still have your husband and he will appreciate you standing by him....regardless of what happens....\nI fought a similar battle w/in-laws once upon a time...I wish i had just supported my husband....I wish i had understood that I could make it about me and my feelings (which I did)...OR I could have let him do whatever  he needed to do for his parents for him to be ok....knowing that our familys best interest was never  out of him mind.......(I did not do this) OUr marraige suffered ....Now I look back and see It was not worth it.....I SHOULD have trusted him.......He was trustworthy....\nThey never did like me.....but now thery are gone and it doenst matter....But my ex and I are still trying to come to terms with the fallout from that time(as well as other issue).....\nPICK YOUR BATTLES CAREFULLY..........some are not worth the war they will lead up to....
929002
Yes, I'd say something.... to the suspected father.\nInfact, Mom, I did.\nBut I wouldn't say anything to the child.\nHe has too much to worry about already.\nIf and when the suspected father comes back to town he can deal with it in which way he'd like.  I'd certainly want him to get the kid involved then, and take a DNA test. \nIf the test proved they were father and son.... omg...just nvm..I'd be shocked! (after all he is a close friend of mine)
951888
Well, I know how you feel.\n\nMy life is a total shambles. The man I love CLAIMS to want to marry me, but is always off searching for other women as soon as my back is turned.\n\nAnd now, if that wasn't enough, he has got another woman pregnant.\n\nLife just couldn't get any worse.
1074324
It's always a tough call, when children are involved. It sure looks like he is cheating on you, as the evidence proves. He didn't deny it, either, just brought up your past transgression. \nYou need to ask yourself the question, can you live with him, knowing the facts as you do, and what will it do to your children, if you are unhappy every day.\nIt may be rough and tough, but I think, if he won't stay true to you, you have little choice but to leave.\nYou might ask him if he is willing to see a counselor, and work through your problems as you did before. It may not work, and if he says no, then your choice is clear.\nGood luck, it's not a happy prospect.
623681
Well I guess I would have to say something - oh sorry wrong room so hed be sure he saw me.  I would leave with my head held high and never speak or acknowledge him again.  If he tried to talk to me or even act like he knew me - I would respond with i think you have me mistaken with someone else - never give him the satifaction of thinking you ever knew him at all because obviously - you didn't.  People that cheat also lie and steal.  Who needs that in there life.  I am sure it hurt like haties.  At least that is what i think i would do - good luck to you - that was a tuff one
817916
you should see the movie bastard out of carolina \n\nif my husband didnt like my kds i wouldnt be with him if he hurt them even once i would put him in the hospital then leave him if someone ever molested one of my kids id be in prison for murdering that person noone comes before my children and noone will ever hurt them  as long as im around