Why shouldnt homosexuals be allowed to marry?
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Here are some of the arguments that typically are made. (Note: I've posted the counter arguments. I cannot in good conscience leave them unanswered on this forum.):\n\n1. Marriage is largely used as the basis for raising children, and child birth is only possible with heterosexual couples.\n\nBUT: Marriage has many functions, in addition to raising children. Marriage also provides legal responsibilities and rights. Marriages between people who cannot bear children due to age or medical condition are just as valid and provide the protections available to those who can and do bear children.\n\n2. The institution of marriage has always been one-man-one-woman, and redefining it now will open it up to further revisions, including polygamy.\n\nBUT: Marriage that is entered into by consenting adults that does no harm to no one else is exactly the same, regardless of the gender of the couple. Polygamy has been shown to victimize younger boys, whose potential brides are taken up by their fathers and their uncles. The only thing gay marriage does is equalize the genders, not change marriage.\n\n3. It demeans the other gender by excluding it from the relationship.\n\nBUT: It seems to me more demeaning to have a gay man marry a straight woman, only to then later find that he has been cheating on her with other guys. No one wins in that situation.\n\nHomosexuality and heterosexuality each describe a particular capacity to love, and neither demeans either gender by embracing the other.\n\n4. Gay people aren't constitutionally able to commit to the vows of marriage.\n\nBUT: This is an argument from incredulity. I can tell you from my personal experience of living in a monogamous eleven-year relationship that ended when my partner died that gay people are equally capable of entering into marriage commitments.\n\n5. Religious objections (you can find those elsewhere) that marriage is primarily a religious institution.\n\nBUT: Marriage involves over 1000 Federal laws that govern rights and responsibilities. In order to become married, one must have a state license to do so, thereby making it a governmental function. The ceremony can take place before either a religious or governmental official. Plus, there are many churches that want to perform legal marriages but are currently prevented from doing so.\n\n6. Forcing state employees who because of religious objections, disagree with gay marriage to deal with it, thereby violating their religious freedom.\n\nBUT: The same could be said for people who are required to work on Sundays, sell meat or alcohol at a grocery store, or euthanize animals. If feelings run that strongly, they may have to get a different job. It is not the role of society to pay someone for their beliefs, but instead for the job they do.\n\nI hope this helps.
631533
Anyone who loves one another should be able to marry.\n\nIt is sham marriages without love that should be illegal. And divorce, too. Same sex marriages are less likely to end in divorce than straight marriages. Why don't all the people who claim to be standing up for "family values" try to make divorce illegal? I think that they are all thinly veiled gay bashers because if they really cared about family values they would try to reduce the divorce rate.
1111672
Yes it is legal for a gay man to marry a lesbian.  It is same sex marriage that is not legal.
790564
Gay marriage is not acceptable by God.  No, they should not be allowed to adopt children because children learn what they live.  It is unfair to the child to be introduced to that alternate lifestyle, which according to the bible is devoid of God's blessings.  God's calls gay relationships an abomanation.
798322
If marriage is so sacred, why not make it against the law for atheists to marry?
1174446
I'm perfectly fine with the idea of gay marriage. Perhaps those against gay marriage just done want to be outdone by spectacularily fab weddings that are sure to be the result of gay weddings. On the downside, if gay weddings would be lavish, tastefull affairs can you imagine how nasty a gay divorce would be! Yes, I am being silly, but in all seriousness I think that whoever wants to get married should be able to.
667906
Gay marriages should not be allowed
434115
People seem to think if gay marriages occur it will somehow ruin the sanctity of the institution.  They also seem to think the ethics of the world will go to pot.  I think that's crap, though.  Straight people have been ruining marriage for years.  And, homosexuality is there, marriage or not, it won't increase the amount of gay people or anything like that.
481764
They can in certain countries. If you want to marry a same gender person, you could try changing your sex, but personally - same sex marriages are just not natural and strictly forbidden in many religions.
1026324
Not at all. The normal people ( so called) will continue to get marry the normal way. why would a  straight go for a gay marriage even if the law allows it.\n\n-k-
490449
I'm not gay, and i think they should. People should be allowed to marry who they want. The only reason people are trying to ban it is because of religious beliefs (i.e. conservative christians) getting in the way of non-biased desicions that could legalize it.
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Because a Gay marriage will not produce offspring.  Marriage is a partnership between man and woman so that they can together raise productive children, which is why there are bonuses for regular marriages.   \n\nHomosexuals will not produce children, there is no investment that can and should be made for gay marriages because there will be no pay off.  Homosexuals are just fighting the marriage thing because they think its prejudice.  If you were to tell homosexuals that they cannot have pet dogs they will all fight like rabid monsters to own pet dogs.  They are fighting for the sake of fighting... its human nature.\n\nFor the most part marriage is a religious thing, Religion and the state should be seperate.  The state should not allow gay marriage beacause that would be forcing the church to allow gay marriage... and they are ardently opposed to it because it violates their doctrine.  The homosexuals are trying to force their beliefs on ancient institutions... which is wrong, Non-gay society wants to maintain the status quo, not force new ideas on people. \n\nSimple as it may sound it should not be allowed to maintain the status quo... and reality shows about gay marriage are horrible.\n\nAnyway, I am all in favor of people being able to pursue their own lives to their own end, but if they would simply allow a "gay marriage" which is nothing more than symbolic, in that it gets no benefit from the government, and is not done through the church I would be all for it... but they want to break through and rub their marriage in peoples faces, same as gay pride parades.
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I am Mormon which of course is a very strict religion. Regardless of what they tell me is wrong I have to believe that if God did not want there to be homosexuals in this world then the idea would never have been placed in anyone's head. God has total control as he made this world. If it is totally unacceptable then why do these things exist. We are taught not to judge as we will be judged later. If we treat those people unjustly just becasue of sexual preference then God will judge us harshly for breaking his rules. Homosexuals and Every other person in this world has the right to follow and obey God's commandments so why should they not be allowed in a church.
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first of all, NETJR is wrong; the term marriage is NOT a christian term (just like a conservative to assume everything started with Jesus) There were marriages thousands of years before Christ!\nYou're right, it's no one's business. If two consenting adults want to get married, they should be able to do so without stark raving lunatic bible thumpers harassing them. Bush DOES NOT believe gays and lesbians should have equal rights; if he did, he wouldn't be trying to amend the constitution to forbid same sex marriages. There is no legitimate argument to support the delusion that gay marriage will somehow undermine traditional marriage, NONE. A ban of gay marriage is discriminatory, and wrong. Let them get married if they want!
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Well its not really "marriage" is it.\n\nMarriage is recognised by God as a man and a woman.\n\nI think if two people want to spend the rest of their lives together, and they are gay.  Feel free, but its not natural so dont parade it around in front of others.
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The theory that gay marriage is wrong because it somehow threatens male-female marriage is a crock of shite.  Tradition is no reason to continue a practice.  To say that we should prohibit gays from marrying because we have not allowed it up til now and marriage has traditionally be between a man and a woman it no different that that standard answer your parents gave you when you asked why you could not eat your dessert first -- "because we say so."  Makes no sense.  It offers no logic.  Guess what else is tradition -- traditionally we don't let jews play at our golf courses.  And traditionally we don't let blacks marry whites (there were actually laws on the book in most states, so it went beyond tradition, it was the law).  Traditionally, children slept on their stomaches, until the scientists told us that the chances of SIDS skyrocketed when an infant doesn't sleep on its back.  So don't give me that tradition garbage.  We don't continue doing things just because that how it has always been done.  The american people deserve better than that -- we deserve to know how it benefits the overall society.  The bottomline is that monogomy and marital committment is a major benefit to modern society, whether it is between opposite sexes or the same sexes.
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You can marry the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with, while they can't. Laws against same-sex marriage impose an arbitrary, and essentially religious view of marriage on people who do not believe in it, for no reason other than to maintain the status quo. It is ridiculous to say that you have the same rights because you can't marry someone of the same sex either; you obviously don't want to.