should i let my husband go to an event ,the invitation was addressed to him and another female name?
823191
If the invitation was sent to someone else to get made, I wouldn't blame them, but if it was personally made and they can't get your name right after 15 years I think both of you should not go because that is just plain disrespectful to you and he should agree and stand by your side.
668007
Since this is a good friend, she should already know your mom, I wouldn't see any harm in it. Just tell her later that your husband got called out of town so you invited your mom. No big deal. I wouldn't worry about it.
364440
I'm not a rabid feminist or anything, but it's a big turn off to have anything addressed to Mr. and Mrs. My Husband's Name.  If you sent me a catalog addressed this way, I wouldn't buy anything from it.  However, if you mailed me a wedding invitation this way, I'd assume you were using an old fashioned wedding guide and still come.  I'd probably still buy you an okay present, too.\n\nBut when I'm doing business correspondence, I use Gerald and Shariot Martin.  Gerald F. and Shariot A. Martin would also be acceptable, but it's more unweildy.
802441
You can invite him for dessert. It would be a polite thing to do and also a good example for your kids. When they are older they will appreciate this kind of gesture.
736432
I would send out the invites, but you probably wont' be as much RSVP's as you would like sinces its such short notice.  I would just send them out and hope for the best.  Remember even the first set you sent out, a lot of people are going to come who didn't RSVP so be prepared for that.
184090
Be gracious, and of course, it is always respectful to respond with "Yes/No Ma'am/Sir." Above all, be sure not to forget or ignore your husband in trying to tend to them, that wouldn't be very good. Be yourself, even if you are nervous, maintain eye contact when you are talking with them. Smile often, and be sure to thank them for bringing such a wonderful person into the world and rearing him as well as they did. If you think it is appropriate, you could say something like, "I have been so excited yet sort of nervous about meeting you both, even though (husband's name) told me there was no need to be nervous." I think you'll have to make that call on what the atmosphere is like. They already know at this point in life that you will be feeling somewhat nervous, at least it shows you are up-front and honest. You all already have something in common, you all love your husband...But anyway, be yourself, treat them as you would anyone else you appreciate and respect, they did raise your husband, after all:)\n\nI'm sorry--I missed the extra details that you added at the bottom. Well, the above all still applies; the fact that so much time has passed will naturally feel a little weird for everyone involved at first anyway, but "better late than never." I believe that it is a person's heart and character that matter, not race. Hold your head up high and maintain grace of character, regardless of if they have issues or whatever:)
423935
Absolutely not! It's a big etiquette faux-pas and considered gift-grabby. Whether you write it on the invitation or use a card to put with the invitation, it's tacky and a big no-no. Registration information should only be provided when requested by a guest, and only then. \nPeople are smart enough to know that they can ask for the information. \n\nIf you have other etiquette related questions I recommend the site http://www.etiquettehell.com\n\nThey have a forum where people will answer any and all questions.
1015704
Emily Post says nothing specifically about it, but I don't think you do write a note inside.  The bride will likely never even see it, since all of her necessary info is on the outside!  Here's a few more pointers...\n\nTips on being the perfect guest \n\n\nRSVP. Immediately. \nRSVP is French for “please respond” (répondez s’il vous plaît). Your most important obligation as a guest is to respond to the invitation immediately, especially if you are unable to attend. At the very least, it allows your host and hostess enough time to give an accurate count to the caterer. There is usually a card to return with your reply. If not, you may write a formal reply or a note indicating your intention. \n\n\nRespect your invitation. \nDo not ask your host or hostess if you can bring a date or your children. The invitation will be addressed to the people invited. If you may bring a guest, your invitation will read “Mr. John Phelps and guest.” If your children are invited, they will either receive their own personal invitations or their names will be listed under yours on the envelope. This is not the time to question your host’s decision, to argue or to beg for an exception. And, please, do not add their names to a reply card or show up with them anyway! \n\n\nSend a gift. \nIf you are invited to the ceremony and/or reception, you should send a gift, whether you are attending or not. Generally, gifts are sent to the bride in advance of the wedding. In some localities, gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. If you hear from family that the couple would prefer a charitable donation—as in the case of an older couple or an encore wedding —please respect their wishes. If you receive an announcement after the wedding has taken place, you may send a gift if you wish, but you have no obligation to do so. It is nice to acknowledge the announcement with a card or a note expressing your best wishes. \n\n\nBe on your BEST behavior.\nBe on time, wear appropriate clothing and be respectful during the marriage ceremony. Pay your respects to the hosts, the wedding party and other guests at the reception. And remember. \n\n“The good guest is almost invisible, enjoying him- or herself, communing with fellow guests, and, most of all, enjoying the generous hospitality of the hosts.” - E. Post
1183715
this is an odd choice.  Check how they wrote your name(s) on the envelope.  The M___ should be completed as "Mr.", "Ms.", etc., then your name(s).  The second line is for a check mark and not a number (You should not assume that you can bring guests unless the envelope was addressed to you "and Guest")
19129
YEAH IT WON'T BE BAD IDEA ACCEPT IF YOUR HIDING INFORMATION FROM US LIKE YOU ARE DOUBLE AND THE PERSON TO GIVE YOU THIS GIFT KNOWS ABOUT THAT.ANYWAY GIFT SHE BE CHERISHED.IF IT COMES ACCEPT IT BUT BE CAREFUL
1109319
I would invite them to let them know that while they didn't support my marriage, I still loved them and want them to be a part of my life.   I'm not one to burn bridges with family easily.\n\nIf they are really opposed to my marriage, then they would RSVP that they aren't coming.
42439
It really depends upon to whom you sent invitations.  Assuming that you only sent them to people who are close friends and family, chances are good that no one became offended.  But if your invitation list was broader and included, for example, co-workers and clients, you have more about which to worry.
225442
Yes of course you should. Ultimately it's up to her if she comes or not depending on her situation. Etiquette would dictate that she let you know in good time, say a week, beforehand of her intentions. Just think how offended and upset she would be if you didn't invite her and remember, pregnancy is not an illness.
281259
send them a invite to there used name on here ?
779821
Go ahead & invite him. Try telling him he can bring a friend. Remember he might be nervous  to go too, so that should make things easier if he knows he can bring someone. If he doesnt show up, its not the end of the world. There will be more times you can be around him. Definitely dont take it personal, he might just be busy.
408566
Um, if they're living in the same household, then it's only courdial to invite everyone.  Yes, it is your day and it should be planned out to your specifications, but think about the "bad-blood" that could be created or spared based or your decision to just let someone show up and hey....maybe give you an extra gift.  It's worth it to me to suck it up.  Besides, there will be so many other people there, it isn't like you have to sit and hold hands with him/her the entire time and be like "look who I invited, right here, uh huh, see who came, blah blah blah."
563677
Your Mother-in-Law sounds pretty tactless,surely her own common sense should have told her that this was NOT a very clever thing to do.As for saying her own son could come 'later',well that's totally out of order,her son should come first.I wholeheartedly agree with you in that the ex could have had her own celebration meal with her son and declined the invitation.If my Mother put me in that position I would be far from happy and tell her so.I would NOT attend the meal,explain it to the son and arrange to take him out for a celebratory meal.\nThe Mother-in-Law needs kicking into touch,is she close to her ex-daughter-in-law?Does she have a problem with you?Whatever this womans logic,which seems to be non existent,your husband need to address the problem and explain,in no uncertain terms that,you and he are a couple now and if she cant respect yours and his feelings then to maybe distance yourselves until she comes to her senses.