Experienced any bullying in singapore schools?
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School discipline is so tightly controlled that not do homework is a major infraction. Bullies stand no chance. All your friend needs to do is to report any bullying taunting behavior. Ask his parents to see the principal.  Btw, i believe learning to handle bullies is part of growing up process. Singapore is producing too many wimps.
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I did! These are people too. I absolutely feel that they need to be taught how to be effective socially as well as educationally. I had a student in my first year teaching. He was a fourth grader who everyone warned me about. I was told he got in to fights everyday and I should really watch out for him. Well, I handled him differently than any teacher before me. I asked him what helped him to diffuse? I asked him if he could tell when he was starting to get angry, before he lost his temper. Together we came up with a plan that allowed him to deal with his own temper his own way. Lo and behold he became a straight A student who only got into two fights the whole year!\nWe also did peer counseling in the later elementary grades. Kids brought each other to a panel of their peers to try to talk out their problems. It was a very popular way for the students to make sure their problems were heard and understood. As students enter 4th and 5th grade social problems become a bigger issue and learning to deal with them without telling a teacher was essential. Nobody wants to be a tattletale but they also don't want to get picked on. I watched these kids learn respect and responsibility from peer counseling, it was very exciting!
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If you have contacted the school district, and have spoken to the school board members, then I suggest you contact your state's Office of the Superintendent of Instruction and tell them that you will be having your lawyer contact them if they do not take action. Bullying is a very serious issue and many states have strict laws against it. Do not let this go unaddressed.
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I looked up the definition of bullying again and it refers to a bully as "a person who makes himself or herself a terror to the weak or defenceless"... interesting with the present fixation with terrorists - are they just bullies all grown up?\n\nIt was many years ago (about 40) when I was at school and yes, I was bullied, physically, verbally and emotionally - though it wasn't recognised then and came from both some teachers and other pupils - presumably because I was 'different' (there was no recognition of gifted and talented pupils in my day!).\n\nWhen I was around 35 years I was hospitalised after an attempted suicide and because I had a history of depression (from about the age of 15). During therapy it came out about the bullying (as well as my mother's attitude) and, based on that, I worked through the issues, went to university at last (I'd been bullied into believing it was not for me) and have now been depression free for 18 glorious years! \n\n(In all honesty though I have to add that my early experience seems to have turned me into something of a victim too. I ended up in an abusive marriage - yes, men can be abused too! - perhaps unable at some level to know who I was unless I was being bullied?)
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Bully no more!  Yes I had a lot of bullys out to get me in anyway they could.  Try to embarrass me, for just being THERE!  Polinting at my body, saying things.  Saying how their families did this or that, and my parents were looser.  Which they were, but why take it out on me?  I couldn't wear the right thing, I wasn't allowed to wear makeup until I was 17!  My parents were well known in the neighborhood for their fighting and screaming, leaving my sister and I to go walk away from the house.  We were really young.  Bully's poke fun at people like us because "THEY CAN", what are we going to do about it?  Not much, going to adults - well, they don't seem to understand that this is SERIOUS!!!   You can't sleep, you can't look forward to going to school, even if you are going on a cool field trip, the bully's make it a horror, when you wanted to have fun and enjoy the trip-if it weren't for THEM!   Yep, know them well!  \nBully me now but I'll be the successful one in 25 years and eat my dust!  Stand strong but don't look weak.  It may hurt but act like you don't even see them near you?  Walk around them when they block your way, politely move to the side, or turn completely turn around and go the other way.  You can find another path in that direction once they give you up.  They will, if you don't look scared, or hurt, or look down at the ground you are giving THEM the power over you.  Take your power back!  Don't say anything, that's what they want.  They want a reaction.  When I stopped showing any reaction they got bored with me and found some else they could teast and poke at.  Keep your lips firm tight, look relaxed and a bit bored with them when they come up to you.  They ARE to be felt sorry for.  You have a life, they don't...obviously!   But stand firm in your own shoes, these types of people are all around us as Adults too!   Sometimes I'd like to really ask "don't you have a LIFE?  Am I all you DO in life".  Everyone else around you are seeing their bad behavior as well, and feel right there with you and are always thankful they are not you!  So you are not the only one being embarrassed by these bully's, everyone around them and you, see how sad the bully's life must be that they resort to such a stupid way to act.  I look back and am thankful I didn't turn out like them.  They are the ones in prison, or on drugs, probation, cigarette smokers mostly, alcoholics, theft records, loud, useless to society.  Build up a fortress around you in attitude, and pride!  They'll soon find some other fish to fry!!   You're much better than them even though they seem hurtful and want to make you cry.  And always.... THANK GOD YOU ARE NOT THEM!!!
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Is this happening at and around school?  Most bullying seems to happen as part of going to school and while in school.  And how old is your daughter?  Those are important factors.\n\nDo try to teach your daughter be assertive, but she is probably not strong enough to fight the bully physically as some posters have suggested ... bullies don't pick on kids who are stronger than them. Bullies don't go away. It is true that bullies are cowards, and tend to back down when people stand up to them, but bullies also seek revenge. I don't know how old your daughter is, but this problem needs to be dealt with. Unless bullies are stopped, they tend to get worse and worse, not better. \n\nIf this is happening at school, most schools have someone you can go to so that some adult there will know about what's happening and can begin to stop it - a guidance counselor, a teacher you and she both trust, the principal, someone. If this bully has actually attacked your daughter, go to the police. The bully can be charged. No matter what the bully has said about not telling anyone, TELL someone else. \n\nHere are some well researched tips, designed for the kids, on dealing with bullying that may help you and your daughter:\n\n1. If you are bullied, TELL. Telling is not being weak or being a coward or tattling. It is helping to protect everyone from that bully.  Your daughter is brave to tell.\n\n2. Tell someone you trust who can do something - teacher, counselor, parent, some other adult. You CANNOT handle this yourself. \n\n3. Do not retaliate or get angry. This could make things worse.\n\n4. Respond evenly and firmly or say nothing and walk away.\n\n5. Develop good strong friendships and support each other. Bullies tend to pick on kids that they think don't have many friends or kids they think others won't hlep.\n\n6. Act confident.\n\n7. Try to stay away from places the bully will be if that is possible. For example, take a different route to school.\n\n8. Avoid unsupervised areas of the school.\n\n9. Try not to bring expensive items to school that might attract the bully's attention and that he might try to take or break.\n\n10. To gain confidence and feel stronger and feel that you can take care of yourself, enrol in a self-defence program if one is available, or a martial arts program or something like that. Self defence programs teach you some very good skills, very quickly.\n\n11. Join a group, such as Scouts, a cadet program, or something like that, so that you have a special group of friends who will support you. \n\nGo to the website www.bullying.co.uk/ which has lots of information for parents and for kids about bullying and about some things you can do. I think this website might really help you figure out some good positive things you and your daughter can do to deal with this.\n\nI hope this helps you. Good luck with sorting this out. Don't give up. There is help out there. Take care.
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I went through a very similar situation and after months of being told by the teacher and the principal that there must be a problem at home, I found out another child was having the same problems mine was.  The other mom and I got together and came up with a plan.  We each got our child to tell us why the other child was having so much trouble.\n\nTurned out there was another child in the class bullying and intimidating ours so badly that there were days they spent all their time huddled under their desks.  \n\nWhile I still could not get the school to admit to a problem, I did find a sympathetic vice principal who allowed my child access to her office at any time he felt he could not handle being in the class anymore.  \n\nIt wasn't the perfect solution but it got us to the end of that school year and I made sure I had some say in what class he went into the next year.  Things improved after that.  \n\nIf you truly are not having discipline problems at home and the only place there really seems to be a problem is at school, then I would be looking very hard at why there is a problem at school.  Don't take the teacher's word for anything...that teacher may very well be the problem.  Talk to other parents and find out if anyone else is going through something similar to what you are.  Make sure your child understands that you know there is a problem and you are doing your best to help.  Let him know he has you on his side.  \n\nGood luck.  Sure would like to know the outcome of this one.
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Try http://bullypolice.org. You may find some answers there!
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I am getting on in my years, now, but there is one incident from first grade that I will never forget. I made a joke about a Greek kid's big nose, and all the other kids laughed. So I followed that up with a few more, and they laughed. I said things that were just plain mean, and they laughed some more. I could feel the other kids start to gather and stand behind me. I know some of the things I said weren't even funny, and I think that people join in for many subconscious reasons. Partly they want to be part of a group. They also want to separate themselves from the person being made fun of. Maybe they are scared that someone will make fun of them, if they don't join in. But for whatever reason, there are always going to be people that like the bullies!\n      Anyways, this was my first and only experience as a bully, or feeling popular, for that matter. Later that day I shared some candy with the kid and said I was sorry.\nI have always since then been more than a bit sympathetic to the underdogs, but I can see why someone would turn over to the "dark side." It can be a way to get instant popularity and a feeling of power. Look what it did for Hitler.
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ever had any violence happen at your school? i've had many. to name a few that happened...\na kid came in with a box cutter and cutted up someone's face.\nseveral years ago a kid came in with a gun and shot a janitor behind a dumpster.\nsometime this year, two kids came in with a homemade bomb and tried to kill a girl.\numm...we always have alotta fights where kids end up in the hospital or there's blood everywhere and teachers get punched and gotta be out for a day to recover.\nhope this helped u have some insight for your project.
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I would have to say my kindergarten teacher.  I was afraid of her because she was never very approachable.  Everyone was scared of her, she would yell at us (a class of 5 year olds).  My brother told me that if you said a bad word, she would clean your mouth out with soap.  I wasn't sure back then exactly what words were the bad ones so I decided not to talk to her.  She never really made the effort to talk to me either.  I don't ever remember her talking to me.  One time I needed to go to the bathroom and I asked a friend to ask her for me.  She said, If she needs to go, she needs to come and ask.  I went up to her but I didn't say a word, I was afraid she would clean my mouth.  She just said, go before you have an accident. Worse of all she called me by my full name and not my nickname. That doesnt sound bad but what made it worse was that there was another girl in the class that had the same name as me and she did call the other girl by the nickname and not me)  I always thought she didn't like me. She didn't seem like a caring teacher for kindergarten students.
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I'm guessing that your son will probably get hassled at school. Kids are mean, or at least some are, and he will no doubt get his share of the ribbing. That being said, I worked with a guy at Reynolds and Reynolds who was a dwarf. He was a technical manager, and when he first started, he was pretty uptight. Once he got settled, people pretty much treated him like anyone else. A good friend of mine worked under him, and he liked him a lot. I think that as long as your son doesn't make a big deal about it, no one else will either. It sucks to be different, but it isn't going to stop him from having a more or less normal life.
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Yes, I have been bullied off and on through my years of schooling. It makes me feel realy bad when someone talks bad about me. Especially when it's someone that you're related to or good friends with. I never bully anyone because I know how it feels to be bullied.
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That's a tough situation.  I had a bully in 7th grade.  Ultimately, and it will be the hardest thing to do, but you have to tell an adult.  Someone that will listen.  A parent, or a teacher.  Someone that can watch your back and put the bully in his place.  I know it sounds like tattling or ratting on this person... but think about the news stories.  There's violence out there and you just can't keep quiet about it.
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it depends. r they bullying u physically?  r they threatening 2 hurt u?  Or r they just verbally bullying and calling u names?  I've been verbally bullied b4.  I've been called a toothpaste eater, ugly, stupid, and stuff like that.  Then one guy threatened 2 shoot me.  I would say tell your parents or complain 2 the school.  Ignoring them may help or hurt depending on the situation.  Hang out w/ your friends as much as u can cuz bullies r less likely 2 hurt u w/ a bunch of people around. I know what u r going thru tho:)
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mentally alert teachers harassing students.......hahahah!
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Nobody should be afraid at school.  If your teachers and the principal are not aware of what is going on, make sure they become aware.  Tell someone.  Don't do it in front of the bullies, because that could backfire on you.  Wait until the jerks aren't around and tell a teacher, guidance counselor or the principal so that they can keep an eye out for bullying behavior.  \n\nThey have a lot of students and they can't watch all of them all the time, but they will watch the ones they know are causing trouble.  \n\nAsk your parents to enroll you in a self defense class.  It will help you protect yourself, and may help you gain self confidence.  Bullies pick on people they think won't fight back.  If you have self confidence, and the ability to defend yourself, it won't take long for them to figure out you're not the best target for their aggression.\n\nI am a grown up and have been a grown up for a long time, but I was bullied by a bunch of jerky white trash girls, and I occasionally still think about it.  I'm sure they grew up to be gross, fat, toothless, tattooed white trash chicks, and I take some pleasure in that.