How do i cope with living in a home i hate?
825706
Find a support group.  Get to know your neighbors and other members of the community either online or personally on your free time.  Going through a crisis such as this is tough, but it can be made easier by having people to discuss matters with.  The thought of having a regular set of people to take your mind off the situation at home allows you to not wallow too much on a situation that you have no other choice but to deal with ... think "Desperate Housewives" ;)
161981
Sorry but your living under their roof (always hated hearing that) but its true. You'll have to get your own place to have any kind of real peace. The more they know it bugs you the more they'll do it.
864601
i am not against it as long as they come to do better and not partake in the negativity that is going on here. (murder, robbery...etc)      try to put yourself in other people's shoes for just a minute....(i'm dumbing it down a bit)\njust suppose that you were in a room and you felt that what was going on in that room was unfair....there are no good jobs to support your family...and all kinds of other things were going on.  now suppose you heard that the room next door was better and you could even get a better job in that room....all you had to do was walk out of that horrible room that you were in, avoid the hall monitor, and sneak into that other room.  would you do it...for your future, your family's future.
789833
First of all, decide what you want and do it.  You're in a job you don't like.....keep it until you find one you do like.\n\n"The are sort of family"...no they're not.  They're users and abusers.\n\nUntil you take control of your own life you will feel helpless...and that is because you are.\n\nNow get up, dust off and decide what you want and then figure out how to get it.  No one can do this for you...but you.
234744
Listen to Sassy.Also you can look on your own.\nIn the meantime try to control yourself,don't lash out at her when she makes one of her digs. It sounds like you are\nboth decent people stuck in a tough situation. Don't let\nwords be spoken that can't be taken back-suck it up,take a deep breath,leave the room if you have to.When you have your\nown place it'll be easier to get along and repair the damage.Good luck and remember you're both human.
1101330
Don't feel that way.\nGo to a Christian (not Catholic, they're different) church and ask for help from a pastor.  Pray.  Ask God for strength and help for fixing your home.\nIf you seek Him, He will come to you.
15808
i gotta be the worse daughter. i try not to be but i can't ever get nothing right and they probly hate me cuz i cause so much trouble.i still live at home and they always wanna kick me out but they dont. i'v got my brother and sister to do bad things, i accidentally set fires i play my drums to loud i disapper for days. my list is long. i dont know y they don't make me leave
184113
Make a list of their bad habits or traits that irritated you so much...\nRemember all the bad things about them and be glad you have another chance at happiness in life...\nThis is a blessing in disguise...\nI have been there and done that...\nIt seems terrible at first, but later on, you look back and think, what was I worried about...\nAnd you find yourself in a better place than before...\nBest of luck...
1058277
That is a tough one.  They are so self-absorbed and take everything they can get from everybody, and do not care at all about what the ruins will be.  Just be nice when your with her and thats it.  If your not living with her you should be strong enough to deal with it.  My bf had that OMG it is horrible to live with, unbearable.  They suck the life out of you and it is not enough, they want more.
740981
Just talk to them and be nice about it.  I am a slob and know it is kind of hard to just change all at once.  I had a roommate in college just leave me a nasty note one day and that ruined our friendship.  The following year I had a neat freak again for a roommate and she would just tell me "could you please pick that up today or your turn to do the dishes".  All I needed was a little reminder once in a while and that works.  You did move in with them however it is your place as well and they need to respect that.  Just say something even in a joking manner they will get it.  Good luck and don't just do it for them they will never learn.
671
If you just want them to stop acting like guests and start acting like roommates, start assigning chores and handing over the grocery lists once in a while.... "Hey, Susan, while I'm at work today, would you please vaccuum and water the plants?" or (In a joking tone) "Isn't it your turn to do the dishes?"  Open bills in front of them, and complain aloud about how high they've gotten.\nIf you want your house back, then be kind but blunt... Sit down with them and say "I have loved having you here, but I'm afraid that I can't have you stay much longer...I have XXXXX happening in a couple of weeks and need to have some time to myself before that, but it's sure been fun!"\nOr lie and tell them your landlord has reminded you of the terms of your lease and your rent will be raised if they stay more than another week.\nGood luck!
634183
Yep. been there done that.  Try talking it out & setting house rules.  If you don't it could likely end up being a much worse situation.\nMake some areas of the house "general" areas.  = Front room - no personal stuff.  that way there is no Junk.\nIf all else fails & you don't mind "stooping to their level" start doing the same exact thing.  After they complain, explain that they have been doing the same thing & you are only trying to get a point across of how much it is bothering you.  Although - the fight resulting may not be worth it.  You will be better off getting a new roommate if the "house rules" do not work
419802
I am/was in your situation. Get a job, take some classes, get a hobby. You need to make this place your home also, so get involved in groups around that area and make some friends!
13331
drop hate. Act like a child, never look back, don't worry about tomorow, live for the moment. Good Luck.
571996
You don't ... yet. You may want to think long and hard about why your family hates him. We have a 17 year old daughter, and there have been people that we've told her not to bring to our house again. That doesn't mean she doesn't hang out with them anymore ... we're not stupid ... but they aren't allowed around us because they disrespected us and our home. \n\nIf you know why your family hates him and the issue cannot be resolved, you may want to try and keep this to yourself until you're in a position to move out of the house. A good, smart parent knows deep down that once a child turns 17 they're pretty much going to make their own decisions regardless of what we think or how we feel about it. It's a natural progression.
854693
You're right, unless it's in writing there's not much more you can do.  And if there is something else, it'll probably end up costing you more tyring to do something about it, than what you've already paid!  Needless to say, it wont be worth it!   So you can either continue feeling bad and mad about it or move forward and learn from it!    And remembering next time.... "the only way you can get screwed, is if you let them"    I would just put my focus and energy on the future.  Are they worth getting you down?    \n\nBy the way, did you guy give a rent deposit when you first moved in? Well, If you did, it might be worth trying to get it back.  By making sure the apartment is spotless and painted!  The cleaner the unit, the less the take out for the clean up!
1054037
its hard, i know i am the oldest and i have one sister and one brother and we all have behavior problems. The best way to deal with it is to make up some time just for yourself. Since you live in tight quarters it doesn't have to be inside. ask your parents if you can take a walk every day like before or after dinner, even if its just around the block. it gives you some time with nobody else to sort stuff out in your brain. You also gets fresh air and its good for you. It sounds stupid but it really works trust me!