Parents vs. Boyfriend?
827405
First off, are your parents living in the dark ages...\nGo and do what you want [Not what they want] go see your boyfriend and his family..\nTell your mom in a nice way NO I am going to visit with my boyfriend and his family and that is final. \nYou are 20, you tell them what your plans are and go for it..They have no hold on you anymore...\nSome parents just don't want to let go, but now is a good time to stand up for yourself....
960152
I was once in your shoes.  I met a guy at college, I was 19.  He transferred schools and lived in Florida, so it was about 800 miles away from me.  We had a long distance relationship and my parents were not happy about it.  I was upset at them for trying to "control" my life, but now I'm 24 and married...and not to the long distance boy either!  Looking back, they knew what they were talking about, what they were doing and I was rebellious and immature.\n\nLong distance relationships are different.  You don't see each other on a regular basis, so you don't interact as you would in a typical relationship.  It's so easy to treat someone with respect and treat them like royalty when they are not always at your side.  You won't know if you'll tire of them or get annoyed by their presence because you don't see each other as much.  Each meeting is romanticised and not reality because it's few and far between.\n\nAlso, not everyone gets jealous and causes arguements.  Jealousy is a trait reflective of lack of trust and insecurity.\n\nAnd as far as your parents go, yes, you are 18 and legally an adult.  Why go so far as to go against their wishes and upset them?  Sure you don't need them legally because you can get a job and support yourself, but think about this... Your parents are your parents, and will always be no matter what you say or do.  But this guy may or may not be in your life 10 years down the road.\n\nI say take it slow.  If this guy really cares about you and perhaps wants to marry you, when he can he should get a job near you to see you more often and see if you two work well together.\n\nTake is slow.  You are young and have so much life ahead of you.  (I am young too, and I married young, but I'm glad I dodged that long distance bullet!)
449920
Indian hubbys are real chicken...Give him some hard time...he will back on the negotiation table. But the parents...they are real hardcore...depending on the level of education ....Once in a while put the parents on the spotlight....then try to get 'em hooked up to some guilt trip for any good reason. Share this little secrets with your daughters so that they think it's a game and they don't get affected by this crap. At the same time....on of these days they have to deal with their husbands too!
968964
Your parents know more about life than you think they do.  They are not trying to be mean to you; they are trying to help you live a happier life in the long run.  They have the responsibility to make the rules until you are 18 and move out and support yourself.  If you can't do those things, try to learn from your parents so that someday you can.  \nI am not saying they are always right, but if you listen to them you will most likely have a lot less trouble in life than if you don't.  The boyfriend you have seems very important now, but he probably won't stay a big part of your life for very long.  How long did the last one last, anyway?  \nAlso, if you listen to them, they are more likely to listen to you.
203399
How old are you? If you're old enough to make decisions about your life, then this one has to be your decision, too.\n\nParents have a habit of not thinking anyone is good enough for their little girl, and there's a good chance you'll never meet anyone that meets up to their expectations - or if you do, he won't be right for you and you are the one that has to put up with him, right?\n\nAs long as a guy is good to you and not abusive or doing anything illegal, then your parents - as difficult as it may be - will just simply have to accept whoever you decide to love because it is your life, not theirs.
1131817
Ok, my girlfriend and I are going through the exact same thing. Just keep seeing the guy. Talk to your mom about it. Make her understand that while you understand her and respect her opinion, that this is the guy you love, and then ask her if her parents had told her to stop seeing your father if she would have... That worked when I talked to MY gf parents. \n\nBest of Luck
1135218
I truly feel bad for you,but you need to see or search the reasons on why your parents feel the way they do towards him,i mean i would take some heed to their actions,remember they have more wisdom from age and experience.However,if they really don't have the facts to back their actions,this is something you will have to face with your parents.Always be honest with them no matter if they are not going to approve.You are an adult,and you need to let them know that you are not trying to hurt them by your choices of life,that you are trying to find your way and if it is a mistake,then you need to find that out as well.This is how wisdom comes,with experiences in our daily lives.One thing to remember is your parents have an unconditional love no matter what,just like you do for them.I just hope your boyfriend proves them wrong and doesn't make you regret any decision that you might make.Without family,we have nothing! I hope the best for you,Good Luck!
546206
Consider the fact that a "boyfriend" is the first step toward having a husband.  He may one day, become a member of your family.  If your parents knew you from birth and raised you, their feelings about this boy should be considered and their opinions heard because they have more life experience than you have and they love you more than someone you just met.  If you go out with him anyway, at least you will have some points of caution to keep from becoming emotionally bonded to someone who proves himself to be undesirable or unreliable to you.  Give him a chance to prove himself but proceed with caution.
1350
First thing I'd suggest is knowing your opponent .. in laymens terms .. ask your girlfriend as much about your parents as you can such as culter attitude and so on .. and past experiences with her last boyfriends that have had the in some cases unfortunante opportunity of meeting them. Once you know what type of people you'll be dealing with you'll be more at ease knowing you can handle what difficulties may come from them.
883427
1.  Ask your boyfriend if it is appropriate at this point to send his parents a gift.\n\n2.  If you haven't properly established yourself first, a card should be fine.\n\nGood Luck and Warm Wishes.
474377
OK!! First things first!! God loves you - even though you had sex with your boyfriend. Secondly - it was wrong of your parents to tell you you would go to hell if you did - wrong!! That is just their way of trying to prevent you from having sex with you bf!! You should try reading some of the great promises God gives us in the bible - that will encourage you. Dont always just listen to your parents - check it out with the lord - prayer always works for me!!
1179395
He may have been looking for a way out, and your parents gave him a good one.\n\nIf he's in love with you, he'd show some resistance to the parents' decision.\n\nParents do have good insight (much of the time), so there may be something to it, if they disapprove.  Without getting all emotional and defensive, you may want to sit down with them and get a better/fuller understanding of what they disapprove of, in your BF.  They're just looking out for their little girl.  And, although it may not make sense to you, at the time, their protectiveness may be very valid.
821012
Stop going out with him.  Your parents love you and want to protect you from harm. It's obvious that you know what you are doing is wrong and it's tearing you up inside.  Do the right thing.  Respect your parents if you ever expect them to respect you.  If you want them to trust you in the future, then be trustworthy.
303051
Go. If you are having any doubts now they will only triple the longer this relationship goes on. I was once dating a man who was twelve years older than me, and once a man gets stuck in his ways, he seems to be good for sure. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you know what you want. Your still young enough to have your family unit! Go and and get it! Just because someone treats you good and loves you doesn't mean you should stay with them. People who love you and take care of you and can't start a new family with you are called parents.
345682
i dont give bout my parents if dey dont like my gf **** dem.\nnd ye try makin his parent tak 2 ur parents
885060
I'm not sure I understand your question.  If you're asking why parents say you need to have a boyfriend when your 16, my answer is they don't.  I'm a mom and I would never insist my child should have a boyfriend at any age.  She'll date when she's ready and not a day sooner.
850651
It is difficult to say an exact age because it is all depends of the daughter and especially about her parents because some parents don't want their daughters have boyfriends when they are very young. So depending the type of parents, but it is always better for the parents to let their kids to bring their boyfriends or girlfriends at home that way the parents can watch out what is going on .. Now, an age? probably after 15 years old!