i have just found out my father has lung cancer,what should i do?
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if you are truly fine with the way things are then dont open that can of worms. you will just get attached and then he will die and you will be hurt. then again, if you arent okay with it and are just telling yourself that then if you do nothing and he does die withought you making up it will hurt you. its a personal decision.
693729
my parents died a looooong time ago.  but, i found an exercise, to help me resolve issues with my dad. it was in a magazine somewhere sometime.  the excercise goes like this:\nset your chair opposite your dead parents chair.  sit down and tell 'him' what happened and how you felt.  go sit in the parent's chair.  speak for him and explain what happened and tell yourself what you really need to hear from him.\ndo this over and over until you work all issues and you have peace in your heart.\n\nmy dad did several things that only an adult could be able to deal with.  so as an adult, i dealt with him in this way.\n\nyou really know more about the reasons now that your grown so this way you realize it wasn't as serious as it seemed then.  a more violet situation may take professional help.
776543
Good question.  My father died 36 years ago from kidney cancer.  It was horrible for him.\n\nContact the: http://www.curekidneycancer.org/
362087
I really hate to here of your father falling ill once again. Let me tell you just last week my father was told that he has cancer of the pancreas.It is a scary time for all involed but most of all the patient. I went to see my father just last year after 24 years, we had some bad issuses between us as well does my sister and brother does with him. I feel better that I went I can honestly say that I have no regrets. You feel how you feel and you can only do what you feel is best towards your dad. Always remember that you tried your very best towards him. May god bless you and your father, put your trust in him and he will lead the way. Good luck.
544279
In today's overly liberal society, they would suggest grief counseling, therapy, all sorts of stuff like that.  I think it's bullsh*t.  My father died last year, 4 months before his first grandson was born.  As painful as it was, I never forgot that in this life, all things happen for a reason, and everybody dies.  You will grieve.  And it will get better.  The pain you feel may seem extreme, but it's perfectly normal.  REAL pain is a kid with bone cancer, or a brain tumor.  Have faith, know he's in a better place, and celebrate his life rather than mourn for his loss.  Everybody dies sometime!
1005942
My dad had colon cancer a couple of years ago. He made it through and is now cancer free by the grace of God. Many people prayed for him and still do. I will pray for your dad. God made us and he can fix us if we only ask and believe.
136626
Although divorced now, when I was married we just had our first child. Shortly thereafter, my father-in-law was diagnosed with terminal cancer. He stuck it out with us for two years. As his time approached, everyone knew and my wife (at the time) gathered with her brother and mother at his bedside. I stayed home with our son. That night at about 11:30 he passed. About 1:00 am that morning, I awoke to hear our little son talking in his room. This went on for about 20 minutes. Then quiet. I fell back to sleep, and upon awakening in the morning went to get my son. When I did, I asked him about his talking last night. He said yes, he was talking to Pa pa. I cringed and said what! He repeated, he was talking to Papa. I said where was Papa. He pointed to the window in his room! I was in a cold sweat, and didn’t know what to say!\nSuffices to say, from that point on, I believe there is more death than we can know!\nThis is a true event!
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Dr. Paul Noble at Yale University Medical Center has a new treatment for pulmonary fibrosis that was developed about three years ago.  He was recommended to me by a pulmonologist in New Jersey who said several of his patients had benefited from the treatment. I saw Dr. Noble in November 2003, and found that my condition is not fibrosis, so I never learned more about the treatment program.  You can do a search for Yale New Haven.  I have Dr. Noble's number if you want to email me.  Good luck for you and your Dad.
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First, please accept my sincere condolences.   I lost my dad the same way about 10 years ago.  I'm going to be brutally honest with you because you need to know and knowing what is coming will make it easier for you to deal with.  Her lungs will fill with fluid.  They may try a couple of times to drain them but, eventually, they will advise that treatment is no longer effective.  They will keep her heavily medicated with pain killers, usually morphine.  Morphine effects different people in different ways.  Some sleep, some hallucinate.  Be prepared.  At the end, she will lapse into unconsciousness.  Her breathing will become more and more labored and, eventually, it will just stop.  \n\nBe there with her as long as she is conscious.  Let her tell you how much she loves you, even though you already know that.  She needs to say goodbye.  In that last vigil, hold her hand.  She'll know you're there to ease her passing.\n\nGod bless you and give you peace.
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My husband has the same cancer as your father, but I think his might be more advanced that your dad's.  My husband is 63 years old.  He is taking the same treatments as your dad, but also a bone strengthener intravenously once every 4 weeks.  The bone strengthener is called Zometa, and this treatment takes about 30 minutes each time.  He also had 5 radiation treatments to his spine which helped greatly with pain control.  \n\nOnce cancer has spread beyond the prostate it can't be cured, but it can often be controlled for several years.  It sounds like my husband has many more spots of cancer in his bones than your dad does, and we are hopeful that he will have at least a few years.  The most important thing for your dad is to not break a bone - cancer in the bones makes them very brittle.  In addition to the intravenous bone strengtheners my husband takes calcium and Vitamin D every day - prescribed by the cancer specialist.  He takes very strong pain meds also.  \n\nThe day will come when the hormone treatments will stop working.  When that happens there is some research that suggests some chemotherapy drugs can give the person a few more months of life.  The overall life expectancy at this stage tends to be up to three years, but every individual is different and responds differently to treatment.  It will be affected by your dad's health otherwise, his strength in fighting this, his attitude, and his will to live.\n\nBe strong yourselves and take care of yourselves.  You need to take care of you in order to help him.  I have learned that.  It sounds like he is getting good care.  Ask about the need for bone strengtheners.  Also, good nutrition is very important in figthing cancer.  Make sure he eats a healthy diet, low in fat particularly.  Try to keep a positive outlook, and now is the time to live each day as if it is your last.  Life becomes precious when we realize it is on a timer.  Take care, and God bless.
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try giving more feedback as to your mental development so he's not in the dark, and question the effect your grandfather's death has on YOU and what preventive measures he might have. if he starts opening up, don't interrupt but really listen for clues. then use them to help.
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Really sorry to hear about your Dad....It depends on the severity of the cancer and the treatments he recieves. \n\nAll the best !!
143331
Sorry I now how it feals. My father died in 1999. Take care of yourself a keep busy all the time don't have any free time so you don't think about it and stay with friends.
249833
You can't. It's an addiction that's difficult to quit. But let him know that you love him and that you want the best health possible. My father died from smoking and it was terrible to watch. He had emphysema and literally drowned in the fluid building up in his lungs. I wish your husband could have spent one hour with my father while he was in the hospital, watching all the procedures they had to do to keep his lungs clear. Your husband would give up smoking immediately. But like I said, it's an addiction that is very difficult to give up.
1110209
In Houston with my parents.  My dad has been diagnosed with cancer and we're being evaluated.  This was my best way to emotionally support him and be there for him on Father's Day.
533798
I understand how you feel. My father also had Alzheimer's. It is more difficult on you than it is on him. Don't think of your father as he is now, but remember the good times.\n\nTake time and visit with your dad when you can. If he says things that are hurtful, it is the disease talking, not your dad.\n\nThink positive, life on earth is just a very short time. God has bigger and better plans for us in heaven.
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If you haven't had one already, ask about a PET scan. It's sorta like a CAT scan, but it's used to detect any cancer in the body. When my husband had cancer, it's what they used to see where it was, and then they used it once more after his treatment was finished to see if all of it was gone.  Also, ask about maybe getting put on a steroid. My grandfather-in-law, has some health issues, but he had gotten to where he would eat maybe once a day, if that. They put him on some sort of steroid(not sure of it's name)and now he eats like a pig.(good thing) \n  I would also consider going to a different doctor and letting them give you the once-over as well. Having a fresh set of eyes and a  mind on the case may help. I wish you the best, hope you get everything figured out and get to feeling better!