Help - bf goes out with female friend without me - what's the deal?
827663
I would also feel very insecure about this situation. the only thing you can do is be aware of it.  The fact that they dated could either be a good or bad thing.  He could still be holding a torch for her, or it could be that it just didn't work out romantically for them.  I wouldn't quiz him too much on it just keep an eye on what he is doing and when and what he is telling you.  If it makes you feel unstable in your relationship then I think you should tell him how you feel without making it sound like you are jealous.  Tell him how it is - its your ex, but you don't tell me that you are seeng her.  I feel like you are hiding something, even though i know aren't.  if he is hiding something there's no guarantee you will find out, but if that's the case and you can't trust him, there's no relationship.
900351
It sounds like you are going to be having a hard time, because she is becoming distant from you, and not respecting the "no plans on Friday" agreement you have. Before things get worse you need to sit down and ask her what is going on, especially since she is going out with other girls. (It's only a problem if you are gay, your avatar is a girl so I assume you are too.) If you're a guy it's not a problem for her to be hanging out with girls. But it sounds like she is not respecting you, that is usually a sign of a break up in the near future. I would talk to her if I were you.
303873
I would hope that your best friend would have enough respect for you to not date any of your ex-girlfriends.  Women come and go (same as men), but 'real" friends don't.  But, yeah, I would be a little upset.
74483
I can understand your disappontment! You were counting on going out, so the cancellation was a rude shock.\n\nWas there anything you could have done to salvage the date? Could the two of you have possibly decided to do something spontaneously? It's a shame to let a lack of planning ruin the evening, but maybe there was more to it that you didn't put in your question.\n\nIn the future, you may want to be more assertive and make the plans yourself, especially if this is something that your boyfriend has done before. It could be that he's just not a good planner.\n\nHowever, this could be a symptom of a deeper issue, too, and if it is, you need to address that issue or there will be more disappointments ahead.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
878453
Tell him in the kindest way you can if you are a true friend you will stand by him and help him understand she is a cheat why was he baby sitting while she was out partying anyway?He sounds a nice guy don't let him be deceived by her.
786301
What's the problem, I don't understand.  You could make a friend as well.  Do you not like your partner to have female friends.  Who cares if they have a past, it obviously is not an issue now.  Why are you hurt?\n\nEDIT - You said it yourself, you are insecure.  I'm afraid this is not his problem, it is yours and you are going to drive him away.  Would it honestly make you feel good if he gave up his life long friends because of your paranoia?  You need to stand tall and embrace his friends unless they give you good cause not to.  Like, I said, you may like them and you may get some close friends yourself out of it.  My partners ex girlfriend and I are tremendous friends.  I am thanful to have her in my life and not once have I felt that their past is an influence on me, nor do I compare myself to her in anyway.\n\nI think you may be a bit over sensitive - after all 3 days ago you were freaking because your boyfriend's family ate dinner without you.  Lighten up, girlfriend, it's not all about you.  \n\nPlease allow yourself to gain some self esteem for the sake of your relationship - good luck to you too, hopeit all works out 8-)
774811
It sounds like he may like her. Probably he is trying to show you that he has options and that other girls can take an interest in him as you once did. Pride is something people have a hard time letting go of. Indifference on your part could lead him to believe that he can continue to act this way. Mention to him that you'd be really upset if he dated your friend. Also acknowledge to him that he has many options outside your social circle and that you'd feel more comfortable if he looked elsewhere for dates.
805743
I  don't think  it's  so much about what YOU do,  as about what  this  friend of yours  is  doing,  and what  your boyfriend is doing.    If she is openly enticing him, and he is not making any  attempt to  hide the fact that he's responding to it,  I'd suggest   that neither one of  them cares about you as much as you thought they did, in which  case  the smart thing might be to let them have each other and good riddance.     Better to know now if your boyfriend has a roving eye,  than find it  out after he has become your husband.  And better to find out now  that  your "friend"  is disloyal,  so you can dump her and get one who is.
632219
As far as your "good friend" DO NOT LET YOUR MAN GO TO HER HOUSE WITH OUT YOU.  That is your friend not his, I can see if it was his friend.  There have been to many instances when matters like that turn into infidelity.  Be careful with this one.  If I was you I wouldn't allow it, and if he puts up a fight, then he is sleeping with her or if he continues to go without you knowing, he is cheating.  After all she is your friend and he should have female friends of his own.  Another thing, is everything going good between you two?  If there is some fighting and bad vibes I wouldn't allow him to go run to her.  Me and my man had a dicussion the other day about this subject. Something happened between him and his best friends girl, before us.  She came on to him when he was visiting with out his friend.  He left when she tried and he told his friend about it.  His friend did not believe him of course, she called her man before he did.  They use to hang out together and go out so it thought it was okay to go over to her house and wait for his friend to get there.  So you see where this is going you just don't let things like this happen, and you don't put yourself in that kind of predictement.  Not to say that everybody is like that but you don't want to take that chance with your man and your friend.  What we both agreed on is when you are in a relationship and you make friends with with your partners best friend who happens to be the opposite sex neither one of you should be hanging out with that person without your mate around it is not cool, it's some what tachy, and disrespectful, even when you are married.  I mean you have to have a very legit reason to go to your man's male friend house alone, and the same goes for him.  We leave that for the for married people who have established strong trust in each other and their friends.  Couples who have been married for years and their friends play a big part in their life.  Other than that, giiirrrl you better stop that s*** quick!  But sorry to say love, it already sounds like your man is doing your friend so start preparing to kick both of there a***** and dump his loser a**.  Move on and take my advice don't allow your man to see your girlfriends without you.  Just keep your girlfriends at a distance until you find out what kind of man you are dealing with, PERIOD!  Good luck and much love.  If you need to chat later feel free to contact me.
843207
How does he feel about her? The noble thing for you to do is to confirm the platonic relationship btw you and him to her if he is interested in pursuing.\nIf not, your female friend shouldn't feel hurt on account of you. It's not your fault if he doesn't feel the same way about her.
1000698
Sorry to hear you're losing some cool friends. By the way have you found out why you're losing them? They should give you a reason for leaving you and if there's nothing you can do about it forget them and look for new friends. This new girl can't take your friends away without their consent. Have you tried being in their company without success? Try and make this new girl your friend as well and see how things works out. Good luck.....
65786
Depends - are you having issues in your relationship? Is he still romantically involved with her? Do you trust him?\n\nIt's entirely possible to just be friends with someone of the opposite sex - even someone you've been in a relationship with. On the other hand, if he seems to be getting involved with her again, you probably need to figure out what's going on, and why.\n\nI'd be happy to tell you what to do - but I'm just an anonymous stranger on the internet. All I can tell you is that you should ask him what he's doing with her. If you don't trust him to give you an honest answer, then I think you have bigger issues than who he's talking to.
8115
Ok, first of all, your bf/gf isn't your husband or wife, so he or she has no obligation to tell you something like that unless you guys live together. IF you a courtesy note would have being nice on his/her part to let you know where he when so you wouldn't be worried. \n\nAnd if he or she didn't tell you, well. Get over it, he/she has a life, and independent life. You are just part of that life. \n\nNow, the question is are you mad because he didn't tell you? or were you pisst because you didn't go? what ever your reason is. Get over it, something like that would be a good enough cause for a break up. \n\nThats just me, i like to be independent and have my space and time respected by anybody. You should respect his time alone or with his friends
713719
Ouch!!  Sounds to me like he's just a selfish guy who doesn't care who he hurts on his way to getting what he wants.  You should feel good though that at least your friend didnt go out with him, valueing your friendship first.  You don't need friends like him anyways.  Good luck!
102625
Your boyfriend has unknowingly made a serious confession to you. He has blatantly told you that until he has his "wonderlust" out of his system he cannot be faithful to you. The smartest thing you can do, and do it now, is to tell him to go for it.... date all the women he thinks he needs to but let him know that he won't be seeing you at the same time and there is always the possibility that you won't be available when the "other women" are out of his system. How he reacts to that will tell you more about your \nboyfriend in one minute that you've learned about him in the\n1 1/2 years you've been together. Good Luck darlin'
173711
Well I'm sorry to say this but she shouldn't have trusted him this much. I know she was so crazy for him because he was her firest bf even though she had never met him in person. You are her real friend and I think it's true that she never had any bf before, but what about him? He could have just lied to her about whatever he said. Maybe she wasn't this guy's first gf. Maybe he was playing around with her online after all just for fun. Then she started to get serious, which probably made him upset, so he just changed his phone # and everything to get rid of her. \nI'm so sorry to say this but there's nothing you guys can do. He doesn't love her as she does. It's just gonna annoy him if you try hard to find his new phone # and contact him to tell how much she loves him and wants him back. \nSorry...but I believe she learned something from this experience.
1024572
Babe, \n\ni must say as a woman myself i am surprised you took her back. If i ever cheated on my boyfriend i would expect him 2 finish with me. \n\nIf she cheated on you once there is a reason for it and alcohol's  not an excuse. And do you honestly think her mates would not lie for her?? come on you have pals you know how it works. They always say when someone cheats once they will most definitely do it again.\n\nMake a break, stop driving yourself mad the trust is obviously gone.