How can i get over my fear of approaching good looking women!?
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It's not so much what you say, but how you say something. You could say any number of things to break the ice and be successful in your pursuits, but this is highly dependent on your mindset. Keep in mind that women (even the pretty ones) are not perfect or without their own insecurities. Most women are worried about the same things you are--their looks, attitude, and appearing confident to the opposite gender. Once you realize that the woman is probably as nervous as you, then it should become apparent that you both have something in common already. All that's left to do is ask how they feel, what they like, what do they think about, and so on in an attempt to learn what else you both might have in common. The object isn't to persuade this woman to be a date or something similar, rather it is your goal to see if their is enough common ground for you and her to be friends. If you cannot be friends, than she'll probably won't make for much of a date or love interest.
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I'd get some help. You might need some confidence to actually go out with more attainable women.
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TAKE COURAGE ! THERE IS HOPE.\n\nTry to be yourself in front of men and don't be afraid of them. They won't bite you. Don't be like "OOh, I gotta have them?" kind of thing when you are talking to them. Build your confidence by going to the gym to make you muscles firm, learn some skills, wear presentable clothes, improve your communication skills then I'm sure along the way, you will find yourself having a hard time de-impressing any man.\n\n\nTry this as well: \n\n1. Start with your interests/sports and hang around there (say, bowling alleys, swimming pools, etc.)\n2. Carry yourself modestly. Don't overdo it. \n3. A well behaved woman sometimes attract men (i think).\n4. Attend parties for singles.\n5. don't go to the bars (it's risky).\n6. If you are good to one man, this will be passed around in a jiffy. And you will meet more men...for you to choose from.\n\nALL THE BEST.
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Jeff, you need to adjust your outlook. If you approach a woman thinking that they won't have you, then you're right... they won't have you. You have to look confident without being a cocky jerk. (But I doubt that will be your problem.)\n\nCheck into activities that don't cost much money -- classes through the Parks & Rec department, adult ed at the local high schools, group outings for hikes or other things you like to do, etc. If you don't have money even to participate in cheap activities, then it really will be difficult to meet a woman. \n\nFirst rule - to meet an interesting person, you have to BE an interesting person. Join a book club, take square dancing lessons, do volunteer work. Hospitals are always looking for volunteers, and most of them are women. Join a non-profit board. Volunteer for a political candidate. You'll meet much better women than what you'll find in prison.\n\nAnd stop being so desperate. Nothing turns off a woman faster than sensing that a guy is desperate. And even worse, no woman wants to feel like she is choosing a guy that nobody else wants. So drop that outlook right away. You may be scaring them off before they've had a chance to know you.
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you're a guy? DON'T walk different. you'll look stupid, trust me.\njust be confident. i've found that confidence is the most attractive thing in any person. even an ugly person will seem hot/cute/whatever if they've got confidence. just don't... change your walk... please.
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Ok. (taking a deep breath) Let me try to help. This is a bit challenging.\n\nThe first thing I recommend is your sitting down and figuring out just what is causing you so much inner discomfort. Are you afraid to open up? Are you too "hungry" for a woman? Write down your thoughts, your dreams and your fantasies about being with others. Seeing who you are - on paper - helps your mind to sort things out.\n\nNext - take a look at your "shyness." Being shy only means that you are uncomfortable being open with/around others. WHY? Do you fear rejection? Well, based on what you wrote, women seem attracted to you so, allow them to get to KNOW you. \n\nHint: (Some women like being around less aggressive guys - smile)\n\nWHO do you admire? WHO is your hero (or fantasy girl)? THAT may also be why you feel you are missing the mark. Don't gauge yourself based on THEIR characteristics; we ALL have perfect counterparts. The trick is in finding people with similar interests and goals and the only way THAT will happen is by being YOURSELF. \n\nDon't measure yourself against who you feel is the "perfect man" or the "right girl." Just relax, laugh, and enjoy your contacts.\n\nFinally, put YOURSELF in control. Hey - YOU are the master of your own life and destiny; so MAKE THINGS HAPPEN for YOU!\n\nSelect; never settle - regardless of that being a friend or a lover... Just know that there are people out there looking for YOU (the real you) just as YOU have needs for their company.\n\nBe real. Be YOU. The rest will flow through.\n\nThanks for writing, my friend & Good Luck to you!
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Your problem is that you care that much about it.  Women can smell desparation (even very mild desparation; I'm not saying you're a basket case) from a mile away.\n\nRelax, & concentrate on being comfortable & having fun around women.  Confidence is more attractive.
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That is your problem you are looking. Stop trying to find love and let it find you.\n\nGo to places you are interested in and stop worrying so much about finding a good woman. You will run into one at a place you like, just stop worrying so much about it and go have fun and she will show up without you even having to try.
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From this moment on, you tell yourself that you are an attractive, interesting guy than any girl would be priviledged to have. Convince yourself you can have any girl you want. Look in the mirror and find the things that make you look good. If you need to excercise a bit to help things along. Once you achieve this basic confidence in yourself. Put the past behind you, concentrate on the future which you are in charge of. You have what it takes to handle any girl, any situation.  Go up to a girl, ask her out, treat her right.
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Be proactive but not obsessive. Make the effort to go out to parties, dating events etc. If you have any particular interests try attending meetings for like-minded people. If you see someone you like dont be too proud to let them know, cos what have you really got to lose?  \n\nOtherwise get on with the rest of your life, exercise, meet friends, do things that make you happy. You will then be radiant and girls will flock to you cos they know you dont really need them. \n\nMost of all, TRUST that it will all work out as it's supposed to! All the best!
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Have you ever thought of approaching the ones that stare.  Be proactive...if you like something...go get it.  Be positive and confident...not overpowering.  It can be very flattering.
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Money and looks will only get you so far... Be flirtatious, partake in interesting hobbies, and show your self confidence without being cocky. You need to take the initiative as well... don't be afraid to ask that girl out on a date!  Have no fear of rejection. Everyone gets rejected and it's part of life. Also, don't be CREEPY... hard to define... but enjoy your life... talk to people, smile, look girls in the eye, don't be shy... that's all I can think of right now! Good luck!
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what's your life style?\nIf you judge a person by appearance  you will miss out on a lot of great woman. I know I used to be a bomb shell now I old. I can see many b**ches that act the way I did when I was young. I missed out on some great guys because I judged a person by their looks. Good luck! Grow up. Find a fat chick they are the better woman.
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You're not a shy guy, but you're not outgoing, either. Okay. I see where you are coming from. You're a "stuck in the middle" kind of guy. Normally, you are probably not nervous, and when a gal starts talking to you, you do not always get sweaty and start ststststuttering. But, you lack the confidence and machismo to just go right up to her and say, "Wow, you're the only good-looking girl that I have seen all day. I'm So-and-So. Mind if I get your number?" and hand over a pen and paper.\n\nYou DO have the right idea, though. It is a clever strategy and worthwhile goal to try to get the women to come up to you, rather than vice versa. But...unless they are practically drooling over you for some reason, like your disarmingly good looks and manly charm, that is not realistically going to happen - am I right?\n\nDepending on the location and situation, there are many different ways to start up the Attraction Game. Building attraction is definitely the most important part of getting anywhere with any woman. You cannot just stroll up to them and say, "Hey, you are like, so totally hot, and I like, like you, you know?" Unless, of course, you can pull it off in a particularly humourous way and get her laughing.\n\nThat's what you need to aim for. Laughter. Do not come across as being outright goofy - just playful. Even the more serious-minded women out there will appreciate a fine sense of humour.\n\nNext time that you see a lovely girl standing around, and you want to talk to her...look at her for a while. People, as you have probably noticed, tend to have a "sixth sense" that just lets them know when they're being watched. She'll probably at least glance over at you. Don't drop your gaze in a panic, though. Instead, smile cheerfully, and - slowly - move your gaze away from her. Don't stop smiling, either. Then glance back at her quickly, and look away again.\n\nWhat's the point of that little exercise? It builds attraction. A lot of our communication as humans is completely nonverbal - it's body language. By looking at her but not freaking out when she looks back, but rather slowly looking away, you're effectively saying: "I'm not a creep, because I am not staring at you. But I AM admiring you."\n\nShe'll probably smile back, or at least her eyes will shine with some degree of recognition. There's your chance. Look at her again - about the same way, just focus on her eyes (always, always, always look into a woman's eyes when greeting or talking with her!) - and stroll right on up to her. Sure - this takes courage. And sure, you are probably worried about being rejected. But don't be. Repeat this mantra through your head: There's no reward without risk.\n\nYou might even become so smooth at this whole thing that she ends up coming over to YOU, wanting to know what is going on. I love it when this happens; it shows me that the lady has some confidence and fire in herself. :)\n\nOnce you get there, say something spontaneous. This could be amusing and playfully-arrogant, like what I mentioned in the beginning of this post. Or, it could be simple and direct: "Hi there. My name is So-and-So. You are?" It sounds crazy, but this is honestly all you have to do. It's that easy. What you have to watch out for here is turning into a wimp - blurting out words randomly without thought, or thinking TOO hard about what to say and therefore saying nothing at all - but remember. You are already there. You've already initiated the conversation, simple as that might have been. Now all that you need to do is keep it up!\n\nAnd just go on from there. Keep a few things in mind if you ask for her number and go on a date:\n\n1. BE CHARMING, but do not become a "girlie-man." *laughs* I mean, don't let her walk all over you or get you sweating and stuttering. Be confident.\n\n2. BE FUNNY, but be mature, t
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You need to gain confidence in yourself, for one. Learn to be alone, and not lonely. If you can appreciate yourself as company, others will as well. Go places where you will meet people with similar interests, and you'll meet women who will be interested in you.
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first of all..if u have already set urself up for failure by saying ur ugly looking and shy.  girls like guys who are confident and a little bit agressive..not too much..but guys who take the lead and do not back down.  Stop calling urself shy and ugly looking..build up ur self esteem..u have to take pride in urself..no one will do it for you!!  find ur confidence..and you will get the girl.. do not be intimidated by her looks..that is just the shell of the person she is..if she turns you down..move on to the next conquest..and stop callin urself ugly..that so bothers me!!  I hate to see people do that to themselves!!!  hope this helped.. : )
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Decide on three MOST important qualities that you are looking for in a woman and then often go to places that these type of women are likely to be in. For example, if ur priority is a woman with a beautiful body, you might wanna get a gym membership, if you want a woman who is can appreciate good art and music, go to museums etc. Finally, be sure that the woman u dream of will want to be with u, so make urself THE man by improving where u think ur weakest areas are (the ones that might be stopping u from getting a good woman). And just remember that love hits u and the most unexpected time. Good luck with finding the right one! ;-)