Problems with my wife, please help!?
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Hogan knows your wife right?
331582
hey man listen she is your wife treat her like it give her respect and treat her like you would be liked to treated give her some privacy if she didnt like you she wouldnt marry you so believe in her and give her some space!
402326
If your wife is acting like she doesn't care for you anymore then you need to sit down and have a talk.  Tell her that you are feeling like things are changing between you to and state your feelings towards her.  Ask her how she feels about you and if things have changed.  If she is losing interest in you then ask her if she would like to work out the problems she is having with you.  If she wants to move on then let her and you then do the same.  You nay have grown apart and their might be nothing you can do at this point but communication is a great start.
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oh man i feel sorry for you. i think she is stressed out about something. do you pay attention to her? take her out, just the two of you, somewhere romantic. do more things together. talk to eachother at night before falling asleep. dont let this go on forever. if you dont talk to her then she will think everything is okay and will continue.\noh gosh. i feel horrible. when i get stressed out and really tired at night, i become really mean. and its not that its directed towards my husband. i just cant deal with doing stuff when im tired. i get really angree about anything. i wish i can stop. im working on it. i told my husband that he needs to tell me to stop when it gets out of control.\ni think its hormone too. your wife might be doing this becus of her lady hormones.\nthe best thing to do is sit down and talk to her about this situation. dont let her continue like this. be supportive of her and tell her you will help her. if she gets upset becus you want to help her, that is just normal rejection. continue to be supportive.
1183684
What you've suggested is really all you can do. You gave her good advice about communicating with her husband and going to counseling. Beyond that, it's really none of your business and not your responsibility.
918452
No! Explain your feelings to her, and leave it to her to decide! If she is angered, talk divorce. If she understands, why break a GREAT marriage?
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Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
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well, thats a big problem ryt there. you gave her chances and she took advantage of it. why dont you talk to her over it again and explain what are the consequences it might cause her, you and your child. Its all up to you if you wanna be practical and warn her if she goes overboard you'll have to leave her. If she still doesnt care well you can tell her that if youl be like that i'll leave you for good and ill take our child. open her brain that you guys have a family and  if you leave she'll not even be sure that the guy he is with will take her in lyk you did. explain to her that you love her and that guy will not do good to her. \n\nask her what if im gone would your bf:\ntake you in\nlove you the way i do\nwould he take care 4 our child\ndoes he really love you\nis he using you for sex\nis he serious with you\n\n2nd problem is her smoking\nyou may warn her but thats still her decision its either you leave her to teach her a lessonor put her in the rehab. \n\nyour problem is huge so the only way to fix it is 4 u to be gutsy and face it. you have to make an action because your wife can take advantage of you cuz she myt think your weak. show her you're the boss. \n\nincase you and your wife separates temporary or not you can take care of it or while you're working leave your child with a relative or fwend and pay them at least a little if they insist. nxt is that you can go to govt helps. \n\nif my ans dont work i insist you should go to a marriage counsel.
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Kick her out and dont let her live in your house with you and your husband anymore. She sounds sick and out of her mind. Have your husband prove that he is not married to her! He needs to tell her he is not her husband and kick her out! Why are you both even letting this woman live there. If she is not all there mentally there are homes for people like that too! Find her real husband and talk with him and see if you can get her some professional help. Has your husband ever had an affair or cheated on you with her in any way? You need to find things out! If She owns the house then you and your husband need to move out and get a place of your own far away from her and make sure that she does not know where you move to and have an unlisted number!
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you mom in law is in your house, so what has she done to lose your trust of her.is she intefering in your household is she trying to run the house? what is she doing? talk ot your wife and let her know whats going on. you and your kids should come first, have mom in law go somewhere else.good luck.
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Well first let me say thank you for the job you are doing, I certainly can't believe it is all you had hoped for.\nAs for your wife, she sounds immature and selfish from what you say. You are already away from her and have been for three years, you don't say how long you were together before marriage to her. MY heart says leave her, kinda like you can't lose something you never had, kinda thing. If that makes any sense. This basically goes against alot of how I feel about marriage, though I certainly believe there are always mitigating factors to take into account.\n If you divorce her, you know longer will be smacking yourself upside the head and can get on with life. Yes you love her and that makes it hard to let go. To tell you the truth it sure can't be any harder than the thankless job you are doing right now, of which I commend you and those with you. \n I am truly sorry that your wife is so immature and refuses to discuss issues with you, but that should tell you something. This is just what I think because I hate like heck to see anyone suffer at the hands of another. Please take care and stay safe.
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Immature!\nHow about talking calmly with her. It is her body after all, and even though you may not approve of it, this is a very addicting drug, and maybe helping her instead of playing get you back's would be better. \nShe is your wife, I assume you love her more then anything, be supportive and understanding.
771877
Something is wrong if she doesn't want to have sex with you. There is something wrong with your relationship. I would call her doctor and check out her excuse.  Then I would confront her about what the real problem is and even offer to go to marriage counseling with her. Good luck.
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Oh boy,So sorry to hear you are having so many problems with your wife!I have two children also.And I am pretty much trying to keep things together for them too.However,The hubby and I have had drug problems,also!As a matter of fact we are still trying to stay clean!And are on a maintenance drug,prescribed by our doctor to remain clean!We see are addiction specialist every month!And it helps a Great deal!                               Perhaps,you should talk to your wife and tell her she needs to get help with her drug addiction!Drugs are way eXpensive!Trust me!Are you sure that she's not spending ALOT of the money on them?Because once a person is addicted they will do anything to get the drugs they need!I know Alot of people addicted.And I even know people who have passed on due to their drug abuse.If it is just weed she is using that isn't as bad!I am talking about Hard drugs!Like CoCaine and Herione,and crystal meth,Etc.These drugs can make a person LOSE everything!Even their family's!I have seen it happen too many times!And it almost happened to me but 'thank-god'I have changed my ways!                      You really need to try to talk to her about getting help!Like a rehab or detoX,etc!At first she may be in denial.And say that she doesn't have a problem!Everyone says that.Until they hit rock bottom or something really bad happens.With some people that is what it takes to quit.Then again some people don't even quit then.They don't stop till their in jail or unfortunately in the cemetary!I don't know how bad your spouses drug problem is.                       I really need a little more detail.But,if it is bad.She definately needs help.You would also benefit with support groups.Or go to a narcotics anonymous meeting with her.Or perhaps counseling.How is she with your boys?I hope they do not know about her addictions.If you don't want to leave her,or divorce her, and take the boys.Then you should get her some help,and some counseling for the family.           I have been living with addiction for years now.And it's no fun!She may hate you for wanting to get her help.But someday she will thank-you when she is clean.This may be another reason she will not,or should I say can't work.It is almost impossible for a drug addict/alcoholic to keep a job!Trust me I know my hubby is a recovering addict!Who relapses constantly!                                        The disease consumes you.And it's almost impossible to just quit.Without professional help.I also know alot of people who abuse pain/anxiety medication prescribed to them,to the point that they can NOT function!It's dangerous.But they don't care!                                             Anyhow,I honestly think that if you tried to get her help,things might get better.But,if she cheats again I would be done.Please try not be so depressed,try to change this situation.And if you can't after trying to help her so many times.And giving her mutiple chances!Then take your boys and tell her if she don't clean her act up.That's it.You are taking custody of them.Because you and the boys would be better off.                                   Being a 'bored' housewife,is hardly a reason to cheat!She should be glad your supporting her and your boys!And that you give her money!To by drugs,shop,spend,and buy more drugs!And that you love her,and your boys enough to put up with all of this!Please,don't feel like this is your fault.I have seen to may people go through this,and I have been there myself.                                        It is the addiction,the disease.She may not ever be herself again until she admits to having a problem.Some people in denial never fully recover.And depression is to be eXpected when the both of you are dealing with all of this.Depression sucks!I have it too.I really suggest some counseling.the medication may make you feel a little bit better.Till you get this all str
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I don't know how or why she's being a "beach", but I can tell you that you can't MAKE anyone do anything.  The only person on this earth you can change is yourself.  So my advice to you is make sure you are being the right kind of husband, no matter what she does or says.  Don't let her provoke you into behaving badly.  I know, easier said than done, but that is about your only option, other than ending the marriage, which it doesn't sound like you want to do.  Get yourself some good books on marriage and how to be the ideal husband.  Work on yourself.  It just might do her some good!
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You don't need to know what's on her mind .You need to get out of this situation as fast as you can. She is married w/a kid and you are in a no-win deal. Her husband is going to have to deal with her and her issues and you don't really have a dog in this fight.The sex might be good,but this woman has more baggage than a cargo terminal.Recipe for disaster,my friend.
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I would say you should just be honest with her and voice your concerns. Ask her outright is she's having a problem. You're married to her and honesty is probably your best route. Just let her know that you want to help her and you care about her... Otherwise, if you don't mind risking getting caught and having a very angry wife if she finds out, you could buy a drug test. They sell them online. I suppose you could trick your wife into giving a urine sample somehow... maybe tell her you want to try something new in your sex life? Or just stick a bowl or something in the toilet and hope she doesn't see it? Maybe if you get in good with her doctor you could ask him to give her a drug test without telling her?