Need advice. Madly "in love" but scared of it ending. Feel like bailing to find myself again?
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hey, leave it out guys he wrote "in love" he's distinguishing between saying he loves her and being "in love". so u say she's great and u must be feeling the butterflies in your tummy and everything.. i know that feeling, i'm still feeling it after six months and loving every minute of it..and i'm glad i took the risk...i wanted to bail at the start because i had been burned badly in the past and was afraid of the really strong feelings i was feeling..afraid of being hurt again\nbut there's no fun without the risk...and there's never a guarantee\n\ntake the chance, enjoy your time with her, if she's as great as u say she is then she won't treat u as a doormat and take advantage of u, love is a two way street... she'll be thrilled to have found a partner who's not afraid to show his feelings!\n\nand it'll work out...\n\nand if it doesn't be glad of the time u had together, of the feelings u felt.. i never thought that i'd be able to open up and let someone in.. but i could and i did and it was the best thing i ever did..\n\ncut the girl some slack, sounds like she's worth it...enjoy the time and good luck :)
1086191
How can I say this...um....GO GET YOUR MAN!  You need to track him down, tell him why you screwed up and hope for the best.\nRemember...you weren't ready then and you have to accept the fact that he might not be ready now. Rejection cuts deep.  Another point is you need to work out your own issues about why you wouldn't except that kind of love.  I mean if it's the kind that spells true committment, are you ready for that now?  And if you are not, leave that man alone. Don't drag him into a dead end situation. I mean let's face it...it takes two to make it work not one giving it all and the other hardly giving.
447626
Don't give up...cause once you find it the joy and pleasure of being in love is far stronger than the pain you feel right now.  Just take a break and try again.\n\nGood Luck and God speed.
592460
i know exactly how you feel... well, at least i think i do.. i am in love with my best guy friend whom i have known for almost 11 years... we are reallyc lose and a week ago, he confessed that he believed that we were meant to be.. blahblah.. and then we kissed.. and it's been a week and i have a feeling that he's avoiding me.. he's always busy and within the last week, he called me ONCE... that's it. and it was for a brief conversatio. i don't know what is going on... its really hard to do anything.. because i know that we were friends first.. and i dont want to risk it..\n\nmy advice to you... confront him before you assume anything and talk with him... talk it through... conversation is the best option you have... dont do like what i did and talk it out. it will save YOUR HEART from a lot of pain....
168973
thats horrible when it happens and boy do i know how it is...actually i am in love with a guy who doesnt love me back ... I am just trying to accept that and trying to move on....hence trying...sorry cant really help but wanted you to know you are not alone.
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Talk it over and be frank about how you're feeling. I do hope you don't talk like you spell. It could be disatrous!!!\n7 months is too short to get so hooked on a guy! God made plenty to go around girl.. get a grip and move on if you are feeling unstable but dont let it hamper all of your other relationships.
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I had the same feeling even though I see my bf almost every day.And I asked almost the same question here and someone told me to do all I can to bring that love back.Just remember what you used to do , do the same you did when you were in love , bring back in your life the things that made you to fall in love with him.It worked for me... Good luck!\nDon't listen people telling you "Long distance relationships NEVER work".It's not true!!!Where it's love anything is possible!
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I was in your shoes, my friend, years ago. And this is what I did and learned:\n\nI waited & waited to be loved in return... five years as a matter of fact. I had many sleepless nights, I had a whole migration of butterflies in my stomach everytime we spoke over the phone, whenever i saw her, & even a simple thought of her. Not a single day, night & moment went by that I did not think of her. I was there for her emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually... & evermore optimistic for her to one day feel the way i felt. Yet, she did not reciprocate the same intensity & desire as i did. Mind you that nobody knew that i was feeling soo ga-ga over her, so i had no one, not one soul to talk to for advice or direction of what i should do. \n\nSo what happened? What did I do? \n\nWell, one nite i finally broke down, emotionally, like i had before and got down on my knees and prayed to help get over her. A warm blanket of feeling came over me and realize that I was just alone, too lonely & barking up the wrong tree. In that instant my head was clear & had enough gusto to say myself & her "no mo". I moved on. Since then, I had many friends to count on and goals that kept me busy.\n\nThe Truth is: I was infatuated. I "loved" someone who did not loved me back; who did not reciprocated... for five long years! It was a waste of my time, energy & not to mention financially. In that instant in the dead of night, i realized one love is not enough... it takes two.\n\nSo my question to you, my friend, how long can you wait?\n\n-Taz-
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Yes you can.... and no, it is not something that happens to everyone because not everyone has been in your shoes.\n\nThis is probably happening to you because you ARE in love with him. Does he know how you feel about him? Do you feel like he needs to know? How does he feel about you?\n\nCould you be feeling this way because you were/are hoping for more? And maybe you feel like more could have been said or done while he was there? \n\nCommunication is the key Hon.\n\nJust a few things to think about
546727
OOOOOO this sounds like unrequited love and that's not good especially when you're the one that's doing the caring! Look, if the feeling is not mutual then you need to stop before your feelings grow any more. The best thing for you to do is nip it in the bud.
619640
Thankfully the answer is "NO".  You will find that feeling of "true love" again.  I was raised to believe that there was only one person in the whole world that was right for you.  Every time a relationship broke up I worried, what if he was that one?  I can tell you from experience that you will fall in love again.
859213
This is a tuff situation to be in, you want him around yet you dont want to hold him back from something great.  I think you need to be honest, tell him how you feel.. have no regrets at all.  If he is someone you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with then you do need to talk to him about a plan on keeping the romance alive or next steps.  I am a firm believer in destiny and fate and I think if its meant to be then things will mold into shape soon and you will see what your next steps will be.  Always be honest with your feelings and you will have no regrets.
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WOW!!  I can so relate and can feel and understand the confusion and not knowing how to walk away from what you truly love, and believed was everything you had been looking for...  I wish I could tell you what the "right" thing to do is, but I would be a hypicite.  I know from the outside looking in that the self respecting and having love for yourself firstmost, would be to cut your losses and see him for the person he really is and not the person you're in love w/ that you THOUGHT he was.  To even consider waiting around for a man to deciede if he rather have you or an x is INSANE!!!  I know this in my mind, yet I have allowed myself to give up all my self respect and dignity for 6 months waiting for my so called "fiance" to decied between me & his x wife of 20 years.  In the past 6 months he has went back and forth 5xs! I also describe my guy exactly how you did yours, but I was wrong that isnt who he is.  I allowed to waiy and let him struggle w/ his indiscion tuntil I had no self respect left for myself & became willing to settle for him any way I could.  That's not what love and foorever is supposed to feel like.  Don't allow yourself to dig yourself into that hole because its a hard 1 to climb out of.  If he is'nt 1000% sure that u r the only one he will ever want, he is'nt worthy of you!  Don't sell yourself short.The loneliest place in the world is laying next to somone who doesnt love you any more, & 1 sided love is hell you deserve heavenly bliss- settle for nothing less.  My man walked out w/o a word and back 2 her 2 days ago, we finally spoke on the phone today and as much as I love who i thought he was I finally decieded i cant stand who he is.  Doesnt stop the hurt or build back my self esteeme i got alot of work to do to get over it...But this time I really believe he does want her mor than me , but why the hell would i ever let a man make that kind of descion i should have given him no more choice in at the 1rst slightest sign of comparing or weighing me against somone else.  Live and learn.  I*t is the hardest most painful 1 i have had to go thru, and hearring your ? i had 2 respond and share my understanding and expierence in hopes you won't allow yours to go on as long or as deep as I did.  Good luck, and ultimatly only u know what's right for u and only u have 2 live w/ the decision.  If i could leave u w/ 1 bit of wisdom it would be the man has to live up to your dreams, dont never settle for less than u have always wanted and deserve.  mr right is out there for us but we gotta get our mr wrongs out of the way!!!
655414
Honestly, you just know.\nIf you are really in love, believe me you'll know. Maybe not at first but that feeling will come. Trust me!
456470
you have to revaluate your relationship with this person. If you are truly in love ….well it would be a horrible mistake to leave. However, are you sure it is not just because you want this to work which is making you feel as if you are in love?? Talk to your family about this problem and ask their advice (since they know you better then me). Work it through with this guy and see if there is a compromise. Make sure the sacrifice is not only one sided otherwise it might haunt the relationship in the future. Make sure you know this guy and understand who he truly is because people can seem different over the net or phone??. Think and ask for guidance from those closest to you. And most of all discuss it with all the people which will be affected.
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Love and pain come hand in hand. You can't avoid it. Allow yourself to fall, it's the whole point of "falling" in love. They will catch you if they love you in return. It's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all. It's the only way to live. Push your fear aside and give it your all.
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IF U KNOW IN YOUR HEART THAT U TRULY LOVE HIM,THEN U MUST FIND HIM....AND EXPLAIN!IF THINGS DONT WORK OUT..U HAVE NOT LOST NOTHING....BUT IF U FEEL THIS WAY AND NEVER DO NOTHING ABOUT,U WILL WONDER FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE,IF THERE WAS REALLY SOMETHING THERE,AND THAT WOULD BE TERRIBLE!ATLEAST THIS WAY,U DONE ALL U COULD! GOOD LUCK!