How do you live your life if you both caught by  your partner and his?
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Gossip is just gossip... It derives its power from denial.  Tell the truth, speak of the abuse.  Tell your kids, which is the truth, that you no longer could live with your ex (or soon to be ex). Don't burden them with the reasons why, then they will take sides even more than they have.  Just tell them that you still love them and they will always have you.  And tell them that sometimes adults are better parents separately than when they were together.\n\nSure your ex is going to bad moth your to your kids and others but if you continue to rise above the accusation long enough your kids will learn by example that they can rely on you, and that is the most important thing.  Once they gain that perspective, things are likely to return to normal.\n\nWith everyone else, own up to it.  If you do that, it will soon become yesterday's news.  there is not a single person who have thought of stepping out on their "significant other" at some time.  The guilt of those thoughts are the basis of their gossip.  it makes them feel better than they really are.
928977
First, you need to be 200% sure that this is going on! Once you are certain, don't beat around the bush - it makes the entire situation that much harder to deal with. Confront your partner, but you need to have hard evidence. Pictures, whatever you can get. If you have no concrete evidence, he can deny it and turn the situation around on you.\n\nGood luck.
421645
I met my girlfriend online, and we've been living together for 4 years now. It's no different to meeting someone any other way as far as I'm concerned. Obviously you have to be careful, but then you have to be careful if you meet someone anywhere.
108235
By watching Cheaters and seeing if s/he shows up on TV!\n\nNo seriously, be concerned if your spouse suddenly loses interest in doing things you used to enjoy together and if s/he can't reliably account for his/her spare time.\n\nAlso, if you try to be intimate with him/her and s/he declines much more frequently than before, be suspicious.  But if s/he takes you up on it, you might want to use protection!
205763
Depends on how "good" you are and how "alert" the people dealing with it are, but all in all it's wrong thing to do.  Sooner or later, you will get caught, and the consequences are not worth the cheating.
873584
there are lots of ways to do it.\n1.) act flirtatiously but make sure you don't look cheap\n2.)be a good listener,this is one part of the relationship that most couples are taken for granted especially when they live together for a long period of time \n3.)be sensitive to your partners feelings,or needs\n4.)both partners has to learn to give and take \nand show each other some respect \n5.)both of you should learn how to be honest and\n    truthfull to each other\nfollow those steps and you'll be okay
1043224
This happened to me with my husband of 21 years, a little over two years ago.  I thought I would die.  Amazing how God knows what is best for us.  Be thankful that someone else can take the bum off your hands.  I know it seems like the end of the world, but it isn't.  You deserve better.  Cheaters SUCK!  Get counseling, go have fun.  And remember, what goes around, comes around.  Move on!
653244
If you dont trust him then you shouldnt be together.  E/one needs a part of them, all to themselves.  He's telling you stuff, so just accept what he tells ya.  But you need to see others as well.  Sneaky is not good.
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I'm in the same boat. First, make sure you really love the lover. If you're not married, and it's a serious problem in your relationship, you still have an out. If you are married, it's just something you're going to have to work through. \nAbout the resisting though, it takes discipline. But really, the best way is to just avoid the situation that tempts you, no matter how much you want to pursue it. If you never pursue it, then it's not too hard to resist. If you make the mistake of falling to temptation once, then it's a habit and you have to fight harder. \nIf you see a hottie at work, don't hang out with him/her outside of work. Don't think about him/her in inapproriate ways. It's hard, but keep your thoughts pure. Stay faithful.\nI know how it feels, and I know how much it sucks sometimes, but if you really, truly love your partner remember that if you wander, it's going to be the most painful tihng you could ever do to them, and I know that's not what you want. A few pleasures aren't worth the bigger pain. \nBut also, breaking up with someone because they're not a "sex goddess" isn't right either. Try talking to him/her about it. Let her/him know your needs and that it is important to you.\nIf you're really in love, you won't want to go anywhere else.\n\nGood luck.
732407
Hi, I think the only way to really know is to look into your heart and go with what you are feeling.  If you cant trust your partner then maybe you shouldnt be with that person.  I know its hard, but until they give you a reason NOT to trust them, try to trust their word.  Its miserable when you dont trust your partner, so just believe they have been faithful until you find out differently.  You might find that they have been faithful all along.  Good luck to ya, Debi
659225
You do not really know anyone until you live with them. You are trying to mesh two lifestyles. Sometimes it is just too different to work out. I think it is  GOOD IDEA TO LIVE TOGETHER.
507750
Just move out, did you consider doing so.  What you're about to do might seem nice and hot now, but will you be able to deal with this in the future??? Can you just think of how terrible the consequences might be?  Start thinking of it backwards, if you will be able to deal with this and the possible consequences of this than go right ahead, if not, I suggest you take a real action like moving out, we're all weak and if this is how you feel now than there is a big chance that you both might weaken again one day.
519356
If you can't have enough confidence in him to live with the guy, then don't live with him, cause the suspicion will never go away.  If you are going to live with him, then forget about it.\n\nClues: Lipstick in shirt, Pipi bitten, hickeys, strange number in cell phone, strange call, strange odor, strange or unknown cologne or perfume, too many late nights at the job, too few sexual encounters with you, locks the bathroom door, new clothes without following the standard pattern, unexpected office trips, soiled shirts and underwear, sudden health checkups, change in breakfast favorites, suddenly joining a gym, playing too much golf, going to a convention.
390794
YES! If you don't trust your partner then you'll always be paranoid thinking they're cheating on you or trying to get you, that kind of stuff. Because of that there will be fights, and the couple wont be able to get along together. Trust is a MUST!
852334
If your partner doesn't, neither should you.  It's hard if you're partner is passive in that aspect, though.
352200
you have to realise that it is your fault and admit to your partner that it is your fault and you realise it, be honest with your partner and just try to make it up to him/her the best you can.\n\nDo whatever your partner wants to do, make him/her feel special and happy. Write a poem or letter if your partner does not want to hear or speak to you.
910744
You are extremely happy, like you have never been before. It is almost too good to be true! You let yourself be carried by that person, for a moment there you forget about the world and think that only you and your partner exist. It is amazing, but as good as it can get, it can get pretty bad too.