Childhood sex abuse and Memory?
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The researchers are likely right. I too, was molested as a child, and it tormented my life for years. Bottom line Friend, when this kind of trauma happens to us, eventually, we all need counselling for it. Don't ever feel ashamed, because you did nothing wrong, and trust me, counselling will give you back your life. Perhaps, the abuse did make you attracted to same sex. I've been told (by my counsellor) that I was fortunate, and that a lot of times we will be either very promiscuous or attracted to same sex. Get yourself some help, because sooner or later, it gets us.God bless, and take care of you.
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With memory, the more things you have tied to an event, the better you will remember it.  Think of it as a computer file.  The larger your keyword list, the easier it is to search for it...right?\n\nEmotion is a powerful thing, containing motivating factors that would make the strongest man break down and cry...or the weakest woman lift a car off of her son.  When combined with the factors of an event, they are tied to that event in your memory.\nThe next time you feel sad, your brain will search for "sad," and may remember the time you broke up with sally.\nThe next time you feel scared, your brain will search for "scared," and may remember when you were all alone in the forrest.
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Yes photographic memory exists and it is inherently natural in every human beings,all you have to do is to develop it.Psychologists recommend some techniques to develop that kind of ability.Good luck...
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Memory is of two types. 1)recent memory that is lost with stress alcohol lack of attention etc. 2)remote memory --that is conducive to long lasting rememberance.\nMemory depends upon three factors  a)impression---the total concept, comprehension,and mental picture(we remember things which we understand) b)repetition---(the number of times we read or encounter a concept) and  c)association---relation of one thing to other.\nChilhood events have all these factors.Moreover reception in our brain(mind) can be  compared to a coating of cement.During childhood the cement coat is fresh and the impression is long lasting.
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Let's break down my life:\n\nMy wife had a wonderful childhood and has very supportive parents, she is very gay. My sister and I were both molested and raped by our father, I am gay - she isn't. Sorry to be blunt, but by just three people it becomes quickly obvious that childhood abuse has nothing to do with it.
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Not quite sure about his birth parent, I do know that they are still alive and well and they attend just about all of his play.  To my understanding, his childhood was difficult because of child molestation.  If you have any of his plays, the update ones, he does talk about that has happen to him and I think he had written a book but check out his website to get more information on him.
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HI Grannywinkie!\n\nDid your mother tell you that? I hope not. If so, it's definitely emotional and verbal child abuse. Absolutely.\n\nTake care!
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Ability to form memories.
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memory has to do with how you store the information in your mind, and strategies you have for recall.  There are very easy ways to accomplish this, and have easy, long-term recall of school data. Email me at coach4learn@yahoo.com and Id be happy to give you more info on that.\n\nP.S. Im a vegetarian too!!!
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Its possible that you are not even aware of something that might have happened earlier in your life- I hate to suggest it, but maybe you were sexually abused in your early childhood (about 1 in every 4 girls are sexually abused in the US) (see the first reference link)  I know it sounds outrageous because that is such a high number, but as I've learned in obtaining my own degree in psychology, it is unfortunately true.\n\nUnfortunately, the symptoms you have described align quite well with the symptoms of sexual abuse (or PTSD associated with it) look at the second two "sources" below for more info on that\n\nI think its important that you seek help from a therapist- if you are under your parents insurance and are uncomfortable mentioning to them that you want to see a counselor, then seek out help in a different way- consider going to a school counselor (if you are in school) or find a clinic in your area- there are also hotlines you can find to talk to someone\n\nI appologize if I am way off base here- however in my experience, your "symptoms" do put up a red flag, as they would to almost any good psychologist.
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I've had a lot of "best memories". I don't think I could go back and pull out just one of them. I wouldn't say this memory is better than that memory. I can give you a worst memory though. the day my daddy died.
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Short of developing amnesia, you will and should think of that person. Even if it is a bad memory, it is an experience that you learned from. There is not one person that doesn't have someone that has been removed from their life. It doesn't matter whether that person was a cause of pain or pleasure..they should be remembered and thought of as either having been a blessing to you or as a valuable learning experience of what you want to avoid or change in the future. Key word here is "life"..you can't live without having memories of people. These memories build the fabric of who we are and who we will become.
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How old is your brother?  He's doing what he was trained to do by your dad.  The whole trick to all of this is you remembering it, and not doing it to your kids when you begin your life.  Your mother tells you that you was sexually abused but you don't know it?  You need to get out, far away and just start fresh somewhere's and forget all this, you are in a messed up situation.  As for my brother yelling at me, yell back, what's he going to do that you can't do right back?  He's not your dad and he's not your boss is he?  Wish you a ton of luck and happiness in the future.
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Yes.  I had a repressed memory that only came back last summer.\n\nBut sometimes I do wonder if it was a real memory?\n\nBut that's just because I wish it hadn't happened
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Definitely my childhood, every child seems to know what he or she is doing, or the situation he or she is in until they grow up and see how much they actually messed up or got abused which also reflects on their future. \n\nAs for me i cant say i had a very happy childhood, and i believe its clear when you see me. Dont get the wrong, im okay but there are so much things in the past that sometimes just determines where your headed.\n\nIts sad but true.
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NO! There are a lot of things that people think they want to forget but these are part of who you are. They will help mold your future, help you figure out how you want to raise your children and just live your life. I myself went through 3 separate kinds of abuse when I was growing up but it helped make me who I am. And my sons will change things in thier lives that I goofed up on too. Nobody's perfect!\nI guess if you've seen something that gives you nightmares then I would understand wanting to forget but maybe there's a place for that fear to shape your life also.
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Yes.  I wasn't raped, but I was abused sexually.  Luckily, my husband has helped me move on and my sex life is just fine!  Talking about the past and getting through it is what helped me.