Sexual harassment or our skirts too short?
824795
Hello Karen, some men are going to do what ever it takes and you happened across one of these guys. I go out with my hubby in micro minis on our date nights. I am with him and don't care what anyone else may see or say. I don't pay attention. In your case you were asking for help and I'm sorry that you ran across someone who did that to you. Just laugh it off and hope he enjoyed his little peek at you. Life is too short to worry about a pervert peeking at you.
254623
too short is shorter than I am. I am only 5 feet tall (exactly). it is kinda wierd to talk to guys who are shorter because I am so used to talking to taller people. it is wierd to look down instead of up.\nmy husband is only 5'9" or so. so he isn't too tall. but I like that!
941012
I think she is MORE then that because the woman that hired you shouldn't be winking at you. That is known as sexual harassment. So, go try to find her supervisor and complain or get yourself another job. Good luck.
243733
no it's a big turn on, I once had a girlfriend of many years who NEVER wore a skirt & it drove me nuts!! She had nice legs too, just wouldn't wear a skirt for some feminist bullshit reason. I on the other hand was regularly asked to 'dress up' for family meetings & the like. She was a bloody hypocrite. I'm now seeing girls who dress like girls, very liberating. Wear one, they work!
710317
I think everything is permissible but not necessarily beneficial. We are free beings who can clothe ourselves in what we choose. If we decide to wear a butt-cheek showing mini-skirt, I don't think anyone will kick us out... but it won't do anyone ANY good.
637075
There's a big difference between unwanted sexual remarks (harassment), and calling a phone sex line to hear those comments. Now when it comes to my private time, I personally enjoy a little dirty talk from the right man.
82377
Trevor, I don't think theres anything wrong with you unless it becomes an obssession. A lot of folks have a foot fetish and it doesn't make you a serial killer. It is odd but aren't we all a bit odd now and then? At least you admit it. Now I have met some guys that take it too far. One guy was working at a dept. store and he coaxed a little girl away from her mom and had her wearing the panty hose socks and when she tried to run away, he grabbed her by the hair and she screamed and he let her go. He then proceeded to lock himself in the men's room until the police arrived. If you have it that badly, then yes, see a therapist but you're not crazy. If it truly bothers you, it doesn't hurt to talk to someone about it. That one guy I told you about also forced a female employee to let him rub her feet at another job and he got fired for it. It doesn't mean that you're like him though. Talk to a counselor and I think it will go a long way in making you understand your feelings. Good luck. =)
1166242
The answer lies in whether the advance was welcome or not welcome.  It's never appropriate to pat a woman on the behind unless you're in an established relationship with her and it's not offensive to her.  Americans have 18" on average of personal space that should not be intruded upon.  In both of your examples, it is sexual harassment but it's also the woman's prerogative to press charges.
510727
Power, NOT sexual frustration etc.\nThey enjoy having the power. Is it worth it though for the misery they cause..no!\nEDIT: some feckers are on this site who have NO idea what they are talking about. Read books, talk to people actually inform yourself before you answer. \nIt is NOT the fault of a woman if they are wearing a short skirt of whatever. A men is forcing a women into sex which she does not want. You cannot blame this on the woman just because she was wearing a skirt that day.\nAlso, it is NOT about being horny. People really need to get their facts straight. These guys could got to a prostitute or club and easily pick up someone who is willing to. Instead they rape. Power. Some do it time and time again. This is not because they are horny or because the woman is wearing a short skirt! It is because they are twisted and crave power!!!\nDon't get me wrong, women rape men too. However, this happens a lot less. They do not do it because they are horny or the man is wearing a black t-shirt. It is power.\nGod, some people are so stupid. Go and read or do something rather than answer questions you have NO idea about!!!\nAlso, staubfinger is right. EVERYONE i know was wearing jeans.\nI may seem a little angry, it just irritates me how little people know and how eager they are to answer questions with no knowledge!
203702
I know I am a woman but I have to agree.  I love dressing sexy.  But every time I let a little leg or a little cleavage show I feel like guys ogle me.  In fact, I went to a party this weekend.  It was a theme party and I dressed really sexy.  There were three guys maybe three feet away from me and I heard them say, "She needs to be the bartender she has such nice tits."  And they proceeded to talk about my boobs.  I said something to them of course but why should I be made to feel this way about my body?  Women are beautiful and it's a shame we can't be more respected for our bodies.  I'm not saying we should be able to go naked everywhere, but I'm with you, I want to be able to wear a short skirt in the summer without some guy trying to see what kind of panties I am wearing.
817322
No, she cannot accuse of sexual harrassment at this point, but if you insist and continue to ask her out well that can be a problem for you. Leave her alone and keep everything professional and you should have no problems.
325702
I think that you should go straight to the store manager, and tell him what has been going on. Tell him that you feel uncomfortable with all their questions. While you may like your coworkers, you are under no obligation to tell them anything of your personal life. If the store manager does not do anything to resolve this problem, go to the district manager. Keep going over everyone's head who refuses to acknowledge this complaint of (possible) sexual harrassment. Most chain restarants (Pizza Hut, McDonalds) have a 1-800 number to call to report sexual harrasment.
352570
Don't mention sexual harassment, you'll scare future employers.  Make something up like the commute was too far, or  your childs schedule changed and you need somthing new, blah, blah, something sort of vague yet relatively positive.
961958
I hope this helps: Just what is sexual harassment? The book Coping With Sexual Harassment and Gender Bias, by Dr. Victoria Shaw, defines it as “bothering someone in a sexual way . . . It can be physical (such as touching someone in a sexual way), verbal (such as making unwelcome comments about someone’s appearance), or nonverbal.” Sometimes the harassment involves crude propositions.\n\nThe Bible condemns “obscene jesting.” (Ephesians 5:3, 4) Therefore, you have a right to feel angry, upset, confused, and even demeaned when you are harassed!\n\nHow, then, should you react if someone bothers you in this way? Sometimes a weak or vague response only makes a harasser try harder. The Bible tells us that when Joseph was propositioned by his employer’s wife, he did not simply ignore her. Instead, he firmly rejected her immoral advances. (Genesis 39:8, 9, 12) Today, being firm and direct is still the best way to fend off harassment.\n\nSimply saying something like, ‘I don’t like that kind of talk’ or, may get your point across. However you word it, do not water down your message. Let your no mean no! If [He] does not catch on to your kind hints, you have to tell [him] straight out. It often comes to that.  A firm ‘CUT IT OUT!’ may do the job.\nIf the situation escalates, do not try to handle things alone. Try talking it over with your parents or other MATURE adults. They may have some practical suggestions for dealing with the situation. As a last resort, they may even feel it necessary to alert school officials. As uncomfortable as doing so might make you, it could protect you from further victimization.
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Its absolutely wrong. You are not being oversensitive. In fact it is less "socially acceptable" now because women are more liberated now and have understood that such terms are actually a way of fixing women in a controlling/patronizing gaze. The fact that you ask such a question shows that such words hurt one's sense of self and are humiliating. Earlier, terms such as these were condescendingly used by men to show the relative ineffectuality of women as against the men. "Girly" for example is meant to show a state of childish inferiority and second-grade status to the "men" who "do the job". These attitudes take more serious turns when women are paid less than men though they might do the same kind of work as men or better.\n\nIf your managements uses the term, then its a serious problem of mindset and attitude. It should be a genuine cause for protest. I'm a man, yet I feel angry at such loaded gender-biased terms.
259034
Sexual harrassment in the making.\n\n\nTell the dude thats hitting on you to bug off and warn him of your intentions. If he fails to heed your warning then you need to advise your supervisor, manager, head honcho of the situation or Human Resources. If the management or HR fails to correct the situation and the harrassment continues, then they can be held liable and litigation can result.
824453
Breasts have been sexualized by our culture. They are not far from your face. And, if I am taller than you are, then it is hard to miss them, especially if a woman is wearing a low cut blouse.