How do you deal with sadness at seeing other complete families?
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What you see on the surface isn't always what's really happening behind closed doors.  Everyone has problems, they just might not show it.\n\nStop looking at what others have and start seeing what you've got.  Put your energy and your effort into your child.
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If I could have anything it would be for my entire family to be there with no fuss  no arguring and everyone happy, just like it was 15 years ago before my mother passed. There is no way you can buy a wonderful family , but I use to have one and was blessed. When my mom died the family did too. This year is no different, everyone in the family will do there own thing and compete on who's family spent the most. What they are truely missing is the one thing that none of us can get back, OUR MOTHER!! So, here is just a little hint for all of you folks that are fortunate enough to still have a family. Enjoy it while it last. You only get a chance at one good one.
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First of all, my condolences go out to you. Try remembering fun things you did with your pappaw. I do it quite frequently, as my grandfather passed away just before Chritmas. Did you fish, go to the movies, go to the park, have dinner at your favorite restaurant, anything memorable with him. If so, try to think about the most exciting things you did together. If you are religious, try prayer or meditation, depending on your religious preferences. If he was suffering before he passed, think of how comfortable he must be now that he is not suffering. If you have a pastor, mentor, or close friend, try talkin about your feelings with them. I truly hope you gain some comfort in the time to come.
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You will never stop thinking about him... ACTUALLY do you even want to forget him? He was your brother and regardless of the fact that he is now gone.. he doesn't have to be forgotten.... live the happy memories with parents, rejoyce of the things that were life behind.   If you need understanding as to why this is happening... honey,  It is natural to wonder, especially about family that you have never met.\n\nRest assured God has his own plan and when He says "child come home"..... it may be unfair, unjust, untimely... but He needed him, once the Lord feels you have completed the purpose He sent you here for you, He calls you home.  Keep his memory alive... pictures, photos, report cards...   things that he made... he will always be your OLDER brother, you will always be the little brother......   \n\nHe is watching over you and doesn't want you to feel pain, talk to a counselor... it is natural to mourn, it is unhealthly to try to understand
634702
Yes! Change and missing your family/friends can do that.The familiar is comforting to some people. You can find others from your country and make new friends to minimize that feeling. If possible email or write frequent letters back home also. Peace.
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mmm nope not all of us.  I feel a huge loss but I am not ashamed of their actions.  They made it not me.  I am who I am and I was not ment to be raised by my biological parents or I would have been.  The all mighty had other things in mind for me.  If anything I feel sorry for them,  because in the back of their mind will always be the guilt of knowing what they did.  \nI wish I could know more about them.  Especially if I have siblings who may like your girlfriend need a family connection.  I am blessed to be strong in myself.  But there will always be questions.  Like why in the world my kids are lighter than me, when their father is darker than me.  I know my mom was real light and my dad was dark from non-ident info.  There will always be a greaving for that sense of belonging but I don't feel any guilt.
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My Grandma passed away 6 yrs ago on the 6th of July.......her Bday is June 30th......every yr since she has left.....I go to her gravesite....bring her fresh flowers & just sit for an hr or so....although some people would say I am bonkers.....I talk....I tell her everything....even though I know she is with me on a daily basis....& sees all that is going on....I still do this....it makes me feel like she is really there.....even though I walk away crying...& missing her even more....I know that it something we enjoyed together.....my Grandma was a VERY special woman....I miss her everyday & sometimes just break down & cry whenever I think of her.....I just thank god she was able to meet my daughter before she went....my son was 2 & my daughter was 1 when it happened.....Honey, I know it is hard when it is a Parent.....she was like a mom to me.....just go spend some time with him....pray & remember every good time....even remember the bad times.....just celebrate him.....GOD BLESS YOU in your time of need....
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Oh yeah. A family is one of the things you have that others unfortunately don't, so cherish it. You never know, you might need them someday.
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First I'd like to express my condolences for your family's loss. People deal with grief in different ways, especially children who may not know exactly how to express how they're feeling. I think it would be beneficial to you and your kids to get some grief counseling to help you all sort through your feelings during this tough time. It would be good to go as a family for support, but individual sessions could be beneficial as well.
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This sense of loss you feel is real.Everyone grieves for diffferent periods of time.I can relate to how you feel since both my parents died almost 3 years ago. My dad was sick for some time and when he died it was almost a blessing to see him at peace.My mother dies 10 days later and it was such a shock.I tried to deal with my loss by talking about my feelings with my family.I found comfort in making a scrapbook about them. Sometimes it is the little things that will remind you of them. It may be hearing a song, seeing someone who vaguely resembles your loved ones, scents from perfume  or something so commonplace you associate it with your parents.These  memories while they give you sadness at first they later give you comfort when you realized you loved your parents and they loved you.I hope I can share a small prayer that I had read at my parent's funeral ."The Lord shall have their souls to keep, And I their fond memories when I sleep."
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I read the other questions you have out there, unfortunately I can not help you. I hope someone else can and wish you the best in your search for your family. Take care!!
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Ive got the same problem with my -- 'out-laws' But luckily for me they are going abroad this year so we are safe. Next year might be different though cos we've had some turbulent times and I dont think I will ever feel the same about them again.\n\nI would try and keep it nice for the children we have but if it weren't for them I wouldn't be bothering.
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Pray.  Give thanks for all I have had in this life.  Wish good things for my family.  Write a note to my hubby and kids telling them how much I love them and to not be sad for too long.  To go on with life.  Be at peace.
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I'm sorry for your loss, many Holidays must be very difficult for you. If you don't feel this is too strange , when you go to visit her on Mothers Day bring a blanket with you and just sit there for a while. My Dad died when I was 13 months old, so when I need to feel closer to him, I take a warm summer day {Hopefully Mothers Day will be warm} a blanket, maybe a book or photo album and visit. Its amazing how peaceful it might make you feel. I'm sure she loved you very much and I'm very sorry your still so sad. I hope the rest of your family is a support to you. Take care and best of everything to you.
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Lots of sympathy here for you.  I only  hug immediate family and dogs by choice.\n\nWhen you get there, try to walk in with other arriving guests, then act like you REALLY need to pee and beeline for the bathroom.  Most of the potential maulers have short attention spans and if you don't hug them immediately, they forget about it.\n\nYou can also be the first people there and help out in the kitchen or something until everyone has arrived and settled in.\n\nIf someone comes to you with that gleam in their eyes, tell them you've been looking for them and just had to ask them a question.  Grab their hands while speaking.  Distract them and make them feel important.\n\nIf someone has a baby, ask to hold it.  They're less likely to accost you if they see a tiny human in your arms.\n\nGood luck!
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I am very sorry for your loss.  You must be devastated.\n\nIt will be hard to get over and move on right away.  Just take one day at a time.  Grief is very hard because sometimes it can feel as though you are being consumed by it.\n\nMake sure you keep the lines of communication open with any siblings you have.  Also if your dad is in the picture.  he may be hurting too and it may be hard for him to express his loss.\n\nDon't try to replace your mother for your siblings because it isn't your responsibility.  Also realize that you and your mother still have a special relationship even though she has died she is still with you.\n\nWhen my dad died I felt him with me.  Sometimes I know he is there watching over me.  Your mother's love for you will always be there.  Try to remember the good times that you had together and realize that those will never be taken away from you.\n\nDeath is a transitional state and you will be going through a transition to adjust to being without your mother.  Just let the emotions come, if you are sad cry, if you are happy laugh.  In time things will level out and you will be able to face the world.\n\nA counselor once told me that grief is like the waves of the ocean.  Sometimes they come in fast and furious, sometimes the grief is slow and gentle.  It is always there but after awhile the waves are slower and farther between.\n\nMay peace and love be with you and surround you.  I hope that you have the friends and support that you need at this time.  If you need someone to bounce things off of then please feel free to email me.
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I was 9 when I lost my mom. Not an important event goes by without me thinking of her and missing her. Im 28 and sometimes I get mad at HER for not being here for things like her grandchildren or to give me advice. It DOES get easier. I say this because the pain only goes on for so long then you adjust to it. Pain will be there it just won't be as horrible as it seemed in the beginning. I just hope to see her someday when its my time. It sucks more than anything in the world to lose a parent. My advice is n to see a counsler or better yet find others who have lost parents and share stories and tears if need be. Your on a good start here finding others. Maybe there is a loss support group in your area. I didn't like the counslers when I was younger due to the fact we had no connection. They didn't lose their mom but wanted to talk to me about my loss. Good-luck and keep your head up. Remember God doesn't give us more then we can handle (sometimes it feels like it)