will my brothers extreme depression end after he has been in bootcamp for a few more weeks?
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That's perfectly normal , it's called the " HUMP " and everybody hits it in Boot Camp , sooner or later .\nHis D.I.'s are trained to watch for this and know how to help get him past it .\nSEMPER FI !
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**********************************************I tried to respond to your email but Answers says your email address hasn't been confirmed yet. I truly do want to talk to you more and help you in any way that I can. So, please get your email address confirmed and email me again! Hugs and Blessings, Marty (Martha)*******************************************************************\n\nSometimes life throws so much stuff at you that you cannot see how you are going to get through it. At those times it takes all my strength and God's to get through the day. With Him on my side I can do anything. Those days I sometimes take it minute by minute and rejoice that I've made it through each minute. The "magic" way through the really tough stuff for me is relying on God and His amazing strength. I pray and pray and pray! He has gotten me through depression and suicidal thought. Through my husband's many illnesses, surgeries and hospitalizations. Through my brother's suicide and my Dad's death. Honestly, without my faith I would not be here today. You don't have to pray formal prayers, just pour out what is in your heart. God loves you so very much and wants to lighten your burdens. Trust in Him. He won't ever let you down. God bless you!
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I wish you the best.  I don't think they will make him. I know the last deployment that i went on we had a guy that had 2 kids with minor disabilities and he was told that he could have gotten out of the deployment because of it.  His kids are able to go to a normal but do have some problems.  The fact that your husband is working full time and going to school full time might show that he dose not need to be at home so that might be a problem.  You might what to talk to your congressmen about it they can be a big help call his office.  I don't think your husband should be excused but i do understand what you are going though.  I wish you the best
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Amen! to what ab72756 said.\n\nIf you care, put God aside for a moment, and talk to your brother. See what is in his mind. Support him. Be by his side.
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I am sorry your facing this all alone. There are many variables to your question. Most recover to the precoma stage. But it may takes weeks to many months. But if you have a spiritual belief I would pray. Keep ypurself busy with your friends and family. Each person is different in recovering. It may take time, and his family may be very protective of him. But I am sure he will remember you. But what comes out of it is a unanswered question. I wish you only the best.
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My twin neighbors/ best friends in the whole world recently returned form Bagdad and Afganistan, and I know exactly how you're feeling. All you can do is let him know you're there for him whenever he needs you.
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i am so there and have been there for soooo long. i feel for you. and i am married and he gets mad when i flip out and have an anxiety attack or cry for 6 hours straight. Once he finds out I haven't been taking the med he thinks I dont WANT to get better. Depression is the most isolating thing in the world. counselors take forever to get around to telling you that they cant really help...it sucks. But hang in there and I recommend you get a personal relationship with Jesus. The after life is our only hope. Suicide sends you to hell. Hang in there, be strong and know that there will come aday when you and I and so many others will feel  better- for eternity. If you are dont believe I hope you will at least give it a chance. If you do, i hope you will know the devil causes the bad stuff, not God. (I struggle with that, but in my heart I know it is true...) Add me to your messenger if you want to talk ever country_grl_ky  I swear when I read your question I was like "wow. that is me, exactly" Best of luck to you either way and please hang on to the hope. I know when most days are bad, it is so hard to keep on going knowing you have "never" been happy and thinking you arent normal or that you might never feel happy....but it is not true. And try to take your medicine. I do the same thing and I dont know why either. But we should take it.
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The only refuge at this point is peace of mind & spirit. I have been in this situation more than once & it really also depends on the person. I think once they have emotionally "given up" their health deteriorates rapidly. I have seen someone I love on the verge of "the end" & recover to some extent due to a "happier" mental state. They felt supported & uplifted by that support. Once they saw the genuine fear in our eyes, they basically gave up. It was only a matter of weeks afterthat. During those weeks we assured them that we would carry on their work within the family, & do our best to to come together as a "family unit"  (that was their biggest concern). They left this world in peace, knowing their legacy would carry on. I'm not sure if that answered your question adequately, but I hope it helped. God Bless!
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if he won't answer then your a bit stuck and i can understand how worried you must feel. if your going to stay with someone who has depression you're going to need some support yourself. you need back up and strategies to cope. in the uk MIND is a charity that supports people and their carers. have a look online to see if they have a contact near you. even tho he's not well try to remember that 99% of what we worry about doesn't happen and he does know you are there for him. Be brave it will be ok.
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Obviously he is in an inpatient program, cause they do have meth clinics you go to daily. from what you say, 6 yearsof opiate addiction he was probably admitted into a detox first(hospital floor for addicts closed off to everyone else) depending on the amount of pills he was taking and the dose of meth he was on will depend on how long he stays usually 9-14 days they give you the methadone the highest dose they will give u is 40mg and they take you down 5 at a time until u r clear. they hold u a day w/o any meds and release u the day after usually. if u havent spoke to him in 2 mths they probably talked him in to going straight to a 28 day rehab, which is what they try to do with everyone provided u have insurance! its pretty strict when u first go in cause when you leave detox u r still pretty sick. I guess depending on where he went, the rules would vary, but i never heard of a place that didnt allow u to call your family. Im guessing he doesnt want to talk to u. I wouldnt take it personal, hes probably feeling pretty crappy, it takes a good few months to feel better and sometimes almost a year before u can sleep normally and just feel comfortable in your own skin. The rehab is completely drug free and its alot of groups and AA/NA meetings if he went in volontarally he could leave when he wants. If he was mandated by the courts he could get stuck in a program more like a TC, theraputic community which could be anywhere from 6mths to 2 years. some places allow visits 1a week like sundays. dont worry, he is in the best place he can be. methadone sucks, and it really takes a toll on the body. i swear i think heroin is easier to detox off than that crap. it feels like forever. Im sure you will hear something soon. but keep in mind hes in there to fix himself so sometimes the outside world is too much for someone to deal with, hes got enough problems of his own in there to bring in stuff that will mess w/ his head and throw him off track. i hope this was helpful and didnt put you to sleep.
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Send him to a Word of Life Christian Youth Camp in Florida for one week.  He will renew his aspirations during that powerful time.  He will be given an opportunity to leave behind whatever is opressing him.\n\nhttp://www.wol.org/biblei
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I can't say for sure what you should do. I don't think anyone should stay in a relationship they aren't ready to give %100 for. But I will say this. If he is still in training, WAIT UNTIL HE GRADUATES! I'm speaking from personal experience here. When I went through basic, one of the guys in my platoon was not coping well with the experience. The drill sergeants were riding him pretty hard and he seemed depressed all the time. One day he got a Dear John letter from home, that coupled with the high-stress environment was enough to push him over the edge. He shot himself in the head two days later on the 9mm range. If you do decide to end it, wait until he graduates basic and comes home on leave. If he is feeling suicidal when he gets to his unit, he is much more likely to get help than if he is in basic.
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Well hello sister, Your brother is my brother in arms. I was a Machinegunner in the US Marine Corps, and over the past 3 years have done 2 tours of Iraq. I will not tell you lies about the safety of your brother. There are many areas in Bagdad, just like there are many areas of New York. Some are relatively safe, and others are brutally dangerous. I will not lie to you, there are not any Marine infantry units in the "green zone" (the safe area) that I know of. But you should be encouraged though, because your brother has the best support and best comrades of anyone in the military. I mean that. Marine Machinegunners are like no one else in the world. We watch out for each other all the time, and nobody messes with us. Believe me, you should be proud that he has chosen this route. His job will never be safe, but he has better training than any gunners have ever had. I may have gotten to be a part of that training as I worked as a machinegun instuctor for the last year of my time. Machinegunners are tough too, he will live through whatever comes his way. Dont worry sis, just send him some copenhagen-snuff or long cut. shrinkwrap it first so it doesnt go stale. Even if that isnt his brand(probably is though) he can sell stateside cope for 15 dollars a can or whatever other things he wants. Tell him another gunner says GUNZ UP!
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Okay... you've got a lot of good advice there. But let me tell you what the hardest thing to deal with when deployed and you send all your letters and good things from home. Believe it or not, open ended letters. Those are the letters that say everything is great, and I got hurt. Everyone is fine, and Johnny's arm is doing better. Everything is wonderful, the electricity will be back on tomorrow. It may sound silly, but when away from home for an extended period of time, even the smallest thing on your end seems like a crisis on the other. So please take my advice, when you write about what's going on, both good and bad (we do want to know everything when deployed) make sure that he knows, that you've explained well, that all is okay. And please don't send him anything that will melt in the heat. All the best to both of you.
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Aww. I went thru this over the summer break last year. And I'm telling you, fr. female to female, the best thing I did was leave him, and in this case that's what I think you should do. Im not even going to lie, it took alot out of me to leave him! Just like your dude he made me feel bad and yet still I gave him chance after chance cause I thought that he would change and that it was just a phase... Unfortunately, it was'nt a phase, this was the real him. A rough, heartless, mean person that put others down to make him feel better. That's not even the worst of it! I thought he was the one for me SOOO much that I went against my family, ALL FOR HIM! My family turned against me cause they wanted me to not be with him so bad! Back then I didnt understand why they kept on acting like that but now I see. They were just looking out for me. And even though I dont know you, I, looking out for you too because I know how it feels to be where your at right now. It feels as if the whole world has turned against you. And that he's the only one who loves you. (Or at least thats how it felt to me!) Thats not true, after you leave him your eyes will be open again and you'll be able to see who really loves you and those are the people that tried to warn you about him. The best thing you can do is leave him. When I left my boy, at the time I felt like I had made a HUGE mistake, but after I start realizing all the other people in life that is there for me and that have my back thru thick & thin, there was really no point for him being in my life. Boys can only give you so much joy for so little time, but what will you do when that joy turns into pain? Or when he leaves you? Your back to the depressed you again? That's not how it's suppose to be. NEVER let a dude determine how your day is going to be or how you look at the world! You should never even look for happiness in boys, this is kinda old school but, the true happiness lies within yourself. If you feel good about yourself, you wont care what NO ONE thinks about you. See how much you can gain if you leave him? Dont worry ok? The right one for you will come along ok? Dont ever let a dude make you question how much your worth! Im sure your a very sweet person that's just feel into one of the traps that most fall into. It's not your fault. But listen, the best part of breaking up with him is the fact that he WILL want you back! That's what happened to me and he STILL is asking for another chance and what do you think I said? NO! Once he breaks your heart he'll always find another way to do so, so why go thru it? Yeah it makes you stronger but other than that its just causing you great pain. I hope a lesson from my experiences help you! Just remember to stay strong!
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I am in the same shape as that man due to post traumatic stress. It took a long while for me to get help but recently I went to a phsychiatrist. I think if at all possible you should try and get him to talk to a professional. I had to get to the bottom of what was pissing me off before I could give up the drink and its working. The drinking is jsut Self medication on his part for the depression but you have to convinvce him that with talking and newer medication his quality off life will be better than as a part time drunk "with or without you in it". Peace be with you, Uncle B
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I'd say that there is only one thing that always should be thought of when going thru Basic Training that is the worst.  Your going to get home sick. Once you lick that it's a breeze getting through your training. There will be things you do that you'll wonder if it is worth doing but if you maintain a possitive attitude and realize that everything you do is a necessary part of your training you shouldn't have any problems. Some are going to tell you their personal feelings of what they don't like while others are going to tell you things they themselves really don't like that more then likely they never did in the first place. There's no walk through for Basic Training, you just do it and there's a rainbow on the other side once it's completed. My best wishes and "Good Luck" to you.