My wife is crazy and I'm worried about my child?
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Jar jar, what is the highest number of respondents you have had to any one of your "questions" here on Yahoo answers? How many in your group of friends who get together to snort tequila, drink beer and laugh, uproariously, at some of the replies you get?\n\nAlso, do you have a myspace, yahoo 360, or a website where we might enjoy even more of your particular brand of humor? I just can't get enough of it here. \nOh, and another thing... I have a very vivid mental image of what you look like.. sans Jar Jar costume.. am I right? \n\nYou're even more fun than that one guy.. the "what should I do" retard. Remember him?
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My heart goes out to you. I unfortunately have learned to live with the same type situation. Your daughter in law is probably suffering from low self esteem among other things and is probably really making things hard for your son as well. I have discovered that the sweet girl that I thought would be prefect for my son is the terror I hoped he would never have to deal with.  My daughter in law not only tries to manipulate my sons family life, but his work and social life as well. More than likely your son is going through the same thing. I dont recommend apologizing for things you didnt do though. She will try to manipulate you and your son forever, all we do is bite our tongues and let our son know that we love him, no matter what. We just pray one day he will take the upper hand and let her know that it is not OK to treat his family like she does.  (She also withholds our 3yr old granddaughter from us). Good luck to you, I know how painful this situation is.
928010
I hate to say this... but there's not much we can do. If the people you trust for every aspect of your well being tell you something, you'll believe it. Those kids don't have a chance until they become enlightened (which for many never happens). I'd just advice your wife to change her place of work because no amount of money or love for humankind should be enough to justify their behavior.
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I suffer from major depression, ptsd and bpd last year and I have a 7 year old.  They wanted to hospitalize me, but I refused and agreed to a 5 day per week intensive outpatient therapy, and a cocktail of psych meds.  I am now back to work and functioning quite well. I assume you are single and that is why your daughter was taken away.  I have the luxury of being married.\n\nAnyway, my point is this...my little girl has seen me cry, sleep, lay around, ignore her, irritable, and at my worst.  I kind of wish I would have just been hospitalized and got it over with and not have her see me like that.  My husband and I were recently cleaning her room and found some of her writings and she wrote stuff like "mom is sick all the time" and "mom is sad".\n\nI really think that until you are better, your daughter is better off where she is.  She can be your motivation.  Whenever you think that life isn't worth living, just think of her.  That is what I did.\n\nYou are so young and you have your whole life ahead of you and so does your precious little girl.  You are sick.  Let the doctors treat you.  Get better, and get your daughter back!\n\nBest of luck to you!
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There's wrong and there's wrong and then there's this. Sorry\nif I sound rude but it appears that your wife needs therapy.
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GO TO FAMILY COURT FIRST. REQUEST THE DNA TEST. IF IT'S NOT YOUR KID THEN NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. IF IT IS START CUSTODY PROCEEDINGS. GET AN INJUNCTION FROM THE COURT BARRING HER FROM LEAVING THE COUNTY WITH THE CHILD WITH OUT YOUR PERMISSION. IT WILL BE AN UPHILL FIGHT BUT IF YOU CAN PROVE THAT SHE IS UNSTABLE AND IS IN NO WAY CAPABLE OF CARING FOR THE CHILD YOU MIGHT HAVE A SHOT. A LITTLE ADVICE ONCE A CHICK CUTS OUT TO ANOTHER STATE DON'T TAKE HER BACK. DOCUMENT ALL OF HER CRAZINESS.  GOOD LUCK.\n\nYOU CAN STOP HER FROM LEAVING BUT YOU HAVE TO PROVE THAT IT'S YOUR CHILD AND THAT THE CHILD WILL BE BETTER OFF WITH YOU IN IT'S LIFE.\nI DID IT TO MY EX WIFE. SHE WANTED TO MOVE TO SOUTH CAROLINA AND A JUDGE IN NYC BARED HER FROM MOVING WITH MY KIDS. SHE WAS TOLD THAT SHE COULD MOVE BUT THAT THE CHILDREN WOULD HAVE TO STAY IN NYC. NEEDLESS TO SAY WE STILL DON'T TALK TO EACH OTHER. (7YEARS) AND I KICK UP 1K PER MONTH IN CHILD SUPPORT. BUT MY KIDS ARE WITH ME EVERY WEEKEND AND 1 MONTH IN THE SUMMER.
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Your wife SHOULD hit you, this is not a laughing matter...\n\nI think your child needs a very severe punishment to let him know the severity of what he did.  I if one my children behaved in the fashion you describe, the game would be taken and sold on eBay, the child would be doing every thing for the grandmother that she couldnt do, due to her broken arm, and be grounded for a month.. not to mention a stern talking to and prolly a proverbial "trip to the barn".\n\nIf such behavior continues I would seriously seek a counselor for him...
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LET IT GO........................YOU MARRIED YOUR WIFE.... NOT HER GRANDMOTHER.   YES I WOULD VISIT HER AGAIN FOR MY WIFE AS LONG AS YOUR CHILD WOULD NOT BE HURT OR MADE AWARE OF THIS HEARTLESS GRANDMOTHER'S FEELING TOWARD THE TWO OF YOU.\nDON'T GET INTO IT WITH YOUR WIFE...THIS WILL MAKE HER FEEL SHE HAS TO CHOOSE BETWEEN HER HUSBAND AND THE CHILD SHE HAS ACCEPTED AS HER OWN AND DEAR 'OLE' GRANNY.\n\nPRAY FOR GRANNY THAT THE THE LORD WILL GIVE HER A CHANGE OF HEART.  BE NICE TO HER......REMEMBER......"YOU CATCH MORE FLIES WITH HONEY".    (NOT THAT YOU WANT A BUNCH OF FLIES SWARMING AROUND ,   BUT YOU GET THE POINT.)\n\nBE HAPPY WITH YOUR WIFE AND CHILD.  THEY'RE THE ONES YOU LIVE WITH.  YOU ONLY HAVE TO PUT UP WITH "HEARTLESS  GRANNY"  EVERY NOW AND THEN.\n\nPRAY FOR STRENGTH AND ENDURANCE BEFORE YOU GO TO SEE HER.  ASK GOD TO HELP YOU TO SEE HER THROUGH "HIS" EYES AND LOVE HER WITH "HIS" HEART.\n\nGOOD LUCK WITH "HEARTLESS GRANNY".\n(HOW COULD SHE BE SO CRUEL TO A CHILD)\nI'LL PRAY FOR HER TOO.\n\nYOU AND YOUR CHILD ARE IN MY PRAYERS.\nGOD BLESS.
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go visit your mama without your wife, if your doesnt want to go then she can stay home, have the kids go and have your wife go visit her family, you wont make it peaceful between them two. all you can do is go see your mama and do it without her, i know it would be hard but you have to do it for the kids, if she doesnt want the kids to go over then theres problem. they have to see your mama. they have to visit your side of the family and if she doesnt like it then she is wrong.good luck.
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It's unfortunate that there is a third person involved because he is going to blind her and confuse her thinking.  You really need to remind her to think about the children.  This person she is seeing is not going to take her serious with two children; I just can't see that happen.  Definately discuss this issue with her as well.  She is being extremely selfish; I don't know what led you to seperate but either she wants a divorce or she doesn't.  Talking to another person is a terrible idea if she wants to make things work out with you and you have to put your foot down and asap.  Best of luck to you!! OMG!
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I am sorry you seem to be having problems with communication and you aren't alone. A lot of couples don't know how to communicate, and even when they do it's not constructive communication. My suggestion to you is to seek counseling. Even if she isn't willing to go along, at least it can open your eyes and maybe you will be able to sort out your feelings. You do have a daughter, however do not make the same mistake so many others have made. Don't stay together just for the kids sake. Believe me, children sense when the relationship isn't happy. You have to do what's best for everyone involved. So good luck to you!
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Do some reading on pregnancy!! HORMONES are rotten and maybe you could go with her to the doctor and discuss the mood swings.  It's really important for you to be there for her.  \n\nI realize you are going through a nasty divorce, but in a sense you created this 'mess' by not finishing up the marriage and 'starting a new family' with someone else.  Now is the time to buck up and take it.......she needs your support and she is carrying your child!!  \n\nGo to the doctor with her and ask about the hormone issue - have the doc reassure the GF that it's hormones.. if it's exacerbated and uncontrolled see if the doc can do anything. The next thing you can do is read up on pregnancy .. books online whatever.. to help you cope.  She needs reassurance and support and it's only for a few more months.  :)  Good luck and Grats on the baby and the divorce :D
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Write everything down that she does document all,time place what she did what she said EVERYTHING.\nThe sleeping arrangements are wierd, exactly what is she up to? she is going to make it worse for the kids,not you.If you owned the house before you were married I dont think she can get it. If you can get full custody of ur 2 but if you cant go for the joint  otherwise  she can and probably will try and turn the kids against you. Good luck
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i think my mother in law is an alien
841534
I know it's hard, believe me! It's not something you get over in one night, or one year. It takes alot of time and you have to ask yourself if you are willing to give yourself that time? Is the marriage good now? Is it worth working on? Your wife needs to work on rebuilding your trust. Is she willing to do whatever it takes to help you along with this? It really seems to me that she is, because 20yrs is a long time that you both have invested in. I know you are in pain right now, your wife has been in pain for the last 10yrs thinking about what she did and has lived with knowing that one day you would find out and maybe end the life she really wants. And that is to be wife and a mother to YOUR kids. I am not making excuses for her because what she did was wrong! I know you need validation right now and you have every right to feel that way. You (I am sure) are a great dad. So for right now, focus on that. Time will heal...I promise!
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You don't need to know what's on her mind .You need to get out of this situation as fast as you can. She is married w/a kid and you are in a no-win deal. Her husband is going to have to deal with her and her issues and you don't really have a dog in this fight.The sex might be good,but this woman has more baggage than a cargo terminal.Recipe for disaster,my friend.
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Sounds like a dysfunctional family.  Try to deep the children away from her as much as possible.  There has got to be an underlying reason for this kind of hostility.  Any idea what that could be?  Does your husband have anything to say about this?  I wish I had some profound words of wisdom for you, but I am at a loss.