What is the most difficult decision(s) you made in your life?  Did you make the right choice?
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When it comes to making a decision you never no if it was the right one, you just take your chances and hope for the best. Leaving my ex was the best decision I have ever made. I have more money in my pocket, a nice new car and home to live in, but the most important thing I have is "myself"
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Why is it a hard decision to make? Is it because you do not know which one is the right man for you, or is it because you are worried about your kid?\n\n\nIf you are worried about what is best for your kid, ask yourself this: Is there any reason that the guy you are dating wouldn't make a good second father? Something must have gone wrong with your child's father or else it seems like there wouldn't be another man in the picture to start with. If you have moved on, don't go back. That will always just be another extra tension in the relationship and it will not be good for any of you. Your child would be better off having 2 separate happy parents than 2 parents pretending.\n\n\n\nIf your kid is not the reason you aren't sure, then ask yourself this: Are either of these guys the right man for you? I have been stuck between a couple of guys before. I thought that I was truly in love with them and it tore me up every day to know that some day I would have to pick one. But after it was over, I realized something. I wasn't really in love with either of them. They had qualities that I loved, and they were both great men. But neither of them was quite right for me. When you find the right guy, the answer to your question should be obvious.\n\n\n\nTry this. Think hard about both guys. Take away any fears of "what if" you make the wrong choice or of your kids, friends, and family not approving. Now, ask yourself ... Are you and your child safe with both men? Are they emotionally supportive and loving toward both of you? And which one will make you feel the best about yourself?
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Sometimes college isn't the right choice for some people. My parents had the biggest plans for me and I just wasn't ready to commit to another 4-7 years of school. I decided to take my own path. Now I married with 2 beautiful boys and my parents wouldn't trade their grandchildren for anything in the world. Now that I am ready I'm going to take courses on-line for accounting and maybe some child care incase I decide to open a daycare. So give him room and let him make his own choices he might suprise you. Maybe in his time he will go to college. If not he can still make a life for himself. Just watch and see. My parents can't believe the way my life turned out I'm happier than ever. Life does have its challenges but they have ways of working themselves out.
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Abortion . . . I believe is correct decision . . . when you have to make a decision . . . if you are using it as a form of birth control . . . I don't think it is acceptable.\n\nI never had a child aborted . . . but I have taken several friends to the clinic . . . to have it done . . . \n\nSome are devestated . . . and some are just relieved.  Some don't know what to think . . . and some thought that was the best decision they made in their lives.\n\nFor me these are the rules I generally follow . . . \n\n1) Am I mature enough to handle a baby? . . . (most children are abused because they are born to mothers or parents who are too young themselves)\n\n2) Can I financially support a child? . . . (most babies are undernourish because their mother or parent cannot supply them on what they need.)\n\n3) Am I in a stable relationship (married is perferred) . . . I would have never thought of having child if I wasn't married.\n\n4) Will I be there for my child?  Anytime anywhere. . . (having a child will end your social life . . . no more late night partying . . . no more drinking, smoking, etc.)\n\nThere are more . . . but right now . . . I don't remember . . . I hate being old (almost 35).\n\n---\n\nI would say don't have a kid . . . if you want to enjoy a party lifestyle, if your are still in school (high school or college), until you obtain the career you dream of . . . or on the way there, and until you are married . . . and have been married for at least two years.
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The tough choice in life, i was in a similar situation a long time ago, the first question is, do you have a good support system or the father of your children that can help take care of your children temporarily till you get your life together, it seems from this letter that you have to prioritize with  what you have to do before you end up homeless. My only suggestion is survival and a strong will get you through, and only you can help yourself even if there are tough decision you have to make in order to survive.  always, empathy in CT
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being happy with choices you have made in your life
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If you have more than one choice I would think very hard and determine which one I would like the best. Than I would try to figure out if it is possible to reach that goal (money, schooling etc). Just make sure the choice is yours and not someone elses.
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You never really know if you are making the right decision-just use ur common sense and follow ur heart and always be honest with urself-there will be times where life will throw a curve ball and believe me they can come out of no where but just believe in urself...
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decisions decisions....lol... I'm so confused... no I'm not... yes I am.... .. well... when I can't decide on two things.... I just take both...lol..
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Well, you decide and then don't do what you decided.\nThis would take complete dedication to a lifestyle\nchange which can be most difficult.  I suggest a\nbuddy to check on you keeping you on the new track,\nor one of those self-help group sessions that you attend. (misery loves company). Good Luck
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I personally didn't go yet. I wasn't ready yet, but most likely going in September. I had to figure out what I wanted to do with my life first.Did you go? And if so why did you go to college?
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I have decided on all of political races in my area but I am having trouble deciding on which way to go on one issue, I probably won't decide until I mark my ballot, it really is a tough decision.
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I think you did the right thing.  Even though it took a while I can understand that at first you didn't want to jeopardize the friendship that you two had formed.  It is good that you finally told him how you feel because, well, life is about taking risks.  And you don't want to be harboring the thoughts about WHAT would have happened had you expressed your true feelings.  I hope you are feeling positively about your decision because you should be.  Stay Blessed.
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Read a book called "What colour is your parachute?"\nIt guides you towards making these kinds of decisions.
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the world around you is full of questions.  making better decisions will help you get a long way, wether is your job, your finances, or relationships.
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you always have to make decisions.you can never have the two (whatever you have to choose between) it is your choice and no one else is responsible for your choice.so make your choice.
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For me it was the night I came back to the apartment that my girlfriend and I shared.............   She made a comment and my response was "YOUR WHAT?!?"\n\nMy situation was easy.  I made a decision to make it work and we did!