What if I won't go with my fiancee to the country I don't like?
823358
you are only engaged----no one is holding a gun to your head and forcing you to make a decision---you don't want to go then don't and let it be that!
298580
You can marry whoever you want to marry. That isn't an issue. The issue comes into play when one of you wants to move to the others country. That is NOT easy, and usually takes months for one to be able to move. During the time of the paper work being gone over by some faceless person in government, neither of you will be allow to enter the others country. The government doesn't trust that you won't stay illegally. Also there is NO guarantee that the one moving, will be allowed in the others country. My fiance and I are going through this right now. I'm moving to the States (or hope to) He's not allowed in my country. I sure wish he was Canadian or I was American.
29792
You have every right to break up with them, and are making the right choice in ending it before you get married. Just tell the person that you can't marry her. There really is no easy way to say it, but you are saving both of you a huge pain by cutting it off before it starts. Good job. Most people in your situation get married, and then regret it for the rest of thier lives.
56263
However far you and partner want to go I suppose.\n\nSodomy is outlawed in some states so be careful.  Don't die and dont do anything you dont feel comfortable with.
839462
Believe me he wont go away change your number i know tell him mirupafshim ( goodbye) and he would mention marriage its called passport . time he has finished you will need a box of parcetomol believe me.
679850
You should be honest with the person your with. Why can't you leave? Due to maoney or kids? Remember the kids will adjust and if for money it's not the most important thing in the world...
858716
go back to the country you come from and get married as neither of you are British
574592
Oh no I'm sorry you're having such a hard time.  I think the UK has to be seen to be toughening up on its immigration laws because the system has been so abused over the last few years and really is in a complete mess now.  Sadly it seems to mean genuine cases where the person is not breaking rules and is being cooperative are the ones being targeted because it's easier for officials to be tough on them.  There are so many illegals that come here and then after being refused permission to stay, disappear, that I suppose when they get the chance they make sure sincere cases can't do the same.\ni hope you get the resolution you want and that you and your fiance can live together happily
514620
you are making an excuse "can't keep...living through him."\nif you wanted to be with him you would go with him.\nif you don't want to go overseas, don't.\nit seems completely reasonable that you simply prefer to stay where you are.\nyou are ready to settle down but feel awkward about pressuring him to do so.
578794
I hope you mean 'Why can't I marry someone I love?'\nBecause what I can see from your icon and your name. You family has already promised you to someone. If you decide not to follow through you will have put 'shame' or you have made your family lose face. If it is that situation, I know how you feel. I am not a piece of property to bargin with. That is why I know the anger/sadness you feel.
892812
Most likely your prospective bride/groom would be very upset.  Some of the family will probably be upset and wedding guests who spent good money to come to the wedding would be unhappy.  Also, most likely you would lose all the the money you have put into the event as by now everything has been put into writing.\n\nHowever, if you are REALLY not ready for marriage (this isn't just cold feet?) you need to talk to your fiancee and be honest with him/her.  It is unfair for him/her if you are not.  Sure they will be upset, but what about if you go through with it to only get a divorce.\n\nI would tell them, but I would also go ahead and have a reception for people who came anyways.  Maybe do what the one lady did.  She turned her reception into a charity event (because the wedding was called off).\n\nAlso, I would try to tell him/her as soon as possible.  Don't leave him/her at the alter, that is just plain mean.  It's better if you don't do it in front of everyone or right before the ceremony/\n\nGood Luck!
192153
depends.. Where does your boyfriend want you to go.. and if it isnt a good place or what you really want, don't do it. Take time to figure out what you want, and then make your decision
238186
Well yeah! If you dont want to go, you dont want to go, dont you think he would like to know this now then before he makes all the plans and your 2 hours from taking off... lol seriously keeping what you want to do from him for the sake of his feelings can end up hurting his feelings even more in the long run :) Trust me on this one babes :)
429907
You need to go with your husband no matter what.  when you married him, you made that commitment.  I know its gonna be hard, but you can always come back and visit.
792583
Yes, a hard thing to do but you are better off waiting to see what happens. Do not push her or she will just say no. It was so lovely of you to propose, you are a sweety pie. She will come around. It wasn't the best timing when you proposed because that may well have caused the confusion, fight then happy, unusual mix, but she will get through it in her head. Having a child with someone means they are in your life at least until the child is old enough to do the travelling and maybe she is just having a case of the guilts for the child, no parent wants to cause their kid grief over their personal decision but give her time and she will realise that what is done is done and it is time to look forwards, not backwards. Good luck to you both.
14044
that depends on weather you want to end your marriage or not. if you are unhappy you should talk with your partner. if they are not willing to listen then follow your heart, but remember that once you cross that line there is no turning back
925096
if your skin crawls...even sometimes...you just answered my first question...you don't want to be married to this guy.  Possibly you have a fear of the unknown and what may or may not lay ahead for you.  Maybe you feel you deserve this and no better.  Maybe it's financial fears.  Whatever they are, when you hit rock bottom with him, you'll know it and then, in your own time, you'll make your decision to stay and live with it or go.  There won't be questions or fears once you choose.  It's really not so bad on your own.  The trade offs, even if financial, are worth it.  I love coming home to peace and quiet and never having to wonder where the land mines are in my own home.  I wish you the very best.