Am I being played? Should I move on?
824901
AK,\n  This is ALOT like the situation I was in before, ONLY reversed------------------- I can't speak for "your girl", but from a gal's point of view, I'm seeing from all you described, SHE is confused and she got caught up in you, probably feels guilty, and is in a tough spot about what to do with her marriage..............................\n  She is going through alot emotionally and I'm sure she does love you.  It's a confusing time for her with alot of emotions going on.\n  Don't drop her, 'cause we all need someone in our lives who care and if you disappear, she would be lost, I can tell you that!\n  I'd say it would be good to get out there and date, but stay in touch with this girl too.\n\nWhat you "should do" is all up to you.  You said she is the girl of your dreams, THEN, stand by her--------------LOVE is PATIENT.\n  That;s it right there, how much she means to you!\n\nNext, I'm wondering maybe "your girl" doesn't exactly know where she stands with you.  Does she know you love her?  Have you offered her a future with you?  Maybe she needs some reassurance so that maybe she can have that strength to leave her husband, if she knows she "fits in" your life!\n\nDivorce isn't easy as you already know, and maybe for "your girl" she is having a hard time with the idea of fully "letting go" of her marriage for whatever reasons, SO I wouldn't take her hesitation personal cuz she is dealing and going through alot all at once!\n\nTalk to her, be there for her, just be her friend right now, and you might be ok with that if the both of you are secure in your love for each other, see?   Please don't turn your back on her.  That's all I wanted to say.\n\nGood luck to you both and with your support she will get through her problems, you will see!
198499
It's great if you love someone, and they love you back.  However, if you don't feel that she loves you, then you should probably move on.  \n\nPlaying games is not something that people do when they love another person.  Attempting to change IS.  \n\nSo if she keeps playing games, move on.  If she is making an honest attempt to change, then stay with her and see if it works out.
249802
Stay far far away. I know its hard but you will be happy you did. Hes just playing you.
956141
I think you should go with your gut feeling. If you don't feel like hooking up with him yet then don't do it. Your friends already warned you that he could be a player and its nothing more hurtful then giving in to temptation and then getting your feeling hurt. I think you should talk to the guy and tell him how you feel about the situation and if he doesn't understand where you're coming from then its obviously that he's not the right guy for you. And to answer your other question about if he grabs you after you tell him no....then he doesn't respect you and you should move on.
1006424
No doubt about it, he has moved on. It's more and more common for guys to just  leave these days without addressing the situation, whatever it may be. Sad but true.\nFor your own self esteem, move on woman! You deserve more respect, ie;clear and honest communication, consideration for you and your feelings, etc. If you do not set boundaries to what is an acceptable for you to be treated, you could be walked all over, again and again.\nGood Luck
398842
If you don't mind the games as you suggest, then I'd say go for it. If you're looking for something more on the serious side, the best thing to do is ask her out. If I flirted with only one man, I definitely would be trying to send him the signal that I like him. I wouldn't be playing games. Sounds like she's just waiting on some type of response back from you. What are you waiting for?? lol
156271
Yes there is a future...as a mistress and that would be about it.  He is only looking for some side action...and if this is you, then you are being used.  Say goodbye and move on.
1085480
You should move on; and if she does not follow (leave the other man), then it wasn't meant to be.  You are currently missing opportunities to find someone who is into you!
688528
I call it damned weird.  I would also say that this guy is being played.  He should leave the situation because she's not ready to make up her mind about what she wants.
581945
No honey, you should move on.  Trust me, life is too short to devote your time to a man/boy that is going to let you down like this.
1182202
If this guy was playing with you, why would you want to live like that.   You are a beautiful person, don't let someone bring you down and try to mess you up.  He's probably really screwed up and don't know how to treat people and "Misery Loves Company"\nLet him go and get on with your life.  You will find someone else in time who will treat you the way you should be treated.  God Bless
556276
She could have been in a relationship or just getting over one without lying.  If she was even close to him any she might need a breather before making an attempt to another one.  However, from what you're saying, she's definitely interested in you.  I would hang in there and keep on trying if you're really interested in her.
611743
I kind of think that if you have to ask yourself, "Am I being used?" Odds are, you ARE being used.  If someone does not make you feel your full worth, and if the energy he is putting into your relationship does not match your effort, then you should seriously re-evaluate the situation, because honey, you deserve one hundred per cent and no less. We all do.
748450
I THINK THIS YOUNG LADY IS PLAYING GAMES WITH YOU\nI UNDERSTAND THAT BOTH 0F YOU HAVE THINGS GOING\nON IN YOUR LIFE.BUT TI SOUND LIKE SHE NOT REALLY\nTHE ONE FOR YOU. ALSO THE FACT THAT SHE 24 ,MAY\nHAVE SOMETHIING TO DO  WITH WHAT GOING ON WITH\nHER. ALSO SHE MAY HAVE SOMEONE ELSE IN THE PICTURE\nAS WELL.
777278
She might be using you to make her man jealous - or, she might just be planning to use you to cheat on her man, while she keeps right on dating him. Yes, she is playing you!
935307
He's probably over you, but was feeling horny in the moment.  It doesn't sound like he has any intention of being with you in a serious way.  He'd probably settle for a booty call relationship, but you sound like you have more class than that, so I'd move on if I were you.
788266
He is a jerk... and he was trying to play you. I suggest you move on and find another cutie that doesn't lie and treats you right :)