My husband was adopted, I'm trying to find other family member's as the birth-mother has 2x refused contact.
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so youre trying to find your husbands biological family and the bio-mother refuses to cooperate?\n\nyour information kind of all runs together and is very difficult to follow.  who was born dec 4 1970?  not the grandmother of your children, is it?  whos sister was 4 yrs old in 70?  and what does 1950 have to do with that?\n\nif you have this womans address, i suggest writing a card letting her know of your husbands dying wishes and pray for the best.   keep it simple though.\n\nyou say you respect her decision which does include the fact she told no one else.  if your family is as close as you say they are - didnt they know this stuff upfront when you first married your husband?\n\nit may be better to post a question on suggestions for how to locate long lost family members and go thru those means rather than hoping to have the specific people to respond\n\ntry this website: http://www.zabasearch.com/
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this is so hard.  Make sure you're doing all right; and taking the precautions necessary so that you never again have to consider putting a child up for adoption.\nTake care of yourself!! number 1!!!\nGet legal advice-- perhaps thru Legal Aid? (low cost or free)\nGet support/counseling:  what did it mean for you, when you gave your daughter up for adoption? you may have a lot of loss and grief to resolve. . .\n\nHow will it change things when you find her?  Do you want to get her back?  Do you want to make sure she's just doing okay and well-loved?  Do you want to have a role in her life? What kind of role?(mom, auntie, friend, etc.)\nDid you talk with adoptive parents about this?  \n     If you can't find her, or decide not to at this point, there are several agencies where biological parents and their kids can hook up when the child becomes of age. . .\nUntil then, and whatever your outcome. . . \ntrust yourself, that you did the best thing at the time for your daughter and yourself.  Forgive yourself.  Know that you will never stop missing her.  But you can go on to have a good life, just as you hope and pray she will.\n\nAnd, as I started out with, make good decisions as to who you're involved with, using birth control or not, making a decision when you're ready to be a mom (instead of accidentally becoming one. . .)  Get help and support, and take good care. . . all good wishes. You are a brave young woman.
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It depends on how old your brothers are... If they are still living with their mother then look up their mother's name.  If you can't seem to get anywhere, you can hire a private investigating service to find them.  Through marriage certificates and birth certificates, they can pretty much find anyone.  It may cost you a few hundred bucks though, but it sounds like it's be worth it for you.\n\nBefore you go to find this mystery second brother, you may want to find out why your dad is denying him... Is his ex-wife a complete wacko that he doesn't want you to get involved in her life at all?  Or maybe there's something wrong with the child and it's too hard for him to talk about it... I'd ask your dad again, telling him how important it is for you to find your brothers.\n\nGood luck, I hope you find the rest of your family!
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Do you know is full name and date of birth?  If so, check www.peoplefinder.com  That will give you a list of cities and states he has lived in.  Next go to www.whitepages.com and search all of the cities listed for a telepone listing in his name.  To just get the cities from peoplefinder there is no charge.\nIf he isn't listed in whitepages.com, see if you can find a grandparents name or other family member of his and do the same search.  Don't ever give up.  It took me almost thirty years, but I found my sister that was placed up for adoption before I was born.  You can find him.  I wish you good luck.
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My best advice is to take things slow.  It is very intimidating to meet someone new like that.  When I met my birthmom back in 2000, we decided to keep it just her and my half sisters rather than me meeting the entire family.  Just take it one day at a time and have fun.
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Talk to your mother it first, she knows who he is.  Tell her how you feel.  She might have listed him as the birth father on your birth certificate.  If you don't get any help from her talk to other family members until you at least get a name.  It's a start but it will be a long road to find the right person.  You can ask people where you live, or where your mom used to live if they know him or his family.  Go on line to the white pages and type in his name and contact the people that come up as a match.  start by asking if they knew your mother and take it from there.\n\nBest of luck to you.
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The classified are a good way. Hire your own attorney to check out the birth mother to make sure it's not a scam. Draw up a contract between you and the birth mother. It's mainly to pay for hospital fees and hopefully, not much more. Good luck. Try an adoption agency from the State, but that takes a long time but it's worth it.
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I am not adopted. But adoption is an issue close to my heart. Trying to share my thoughts here:\n\nIf you really are bothered by this question, I think you should explore this;  no one can blame you for it! As midn'tsmokerchic says, it might be a good step for you.\n\nBut the responses, in short term and long term, might depend on the personalities of the other people involved. Would there be a way to contact your birth-mother's parents, siblings or friends first? This might not only let you learn more about her but also help you learn about her husband and other children before meeting them.\n\nGoodluck to you!
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You have a similar situation to my own.  I was locating my father on only his first and last name and my car.  I started with squeezing out as much information from my mother who was very bitter towards him.  It wasn't easy.  Start with that.  Then take that information and see what city you can start in, drive there and ask city hall to help you locate.  I think that's what got my foot in the door.  Of course, you will have to chase the goose for awhile before you may find him, don't feel let down!  it's hard and difficult, but if your persistant--you'll eventually find him!  I know from experience of four different individuels I wanted to know through my life that I had limited information on!!  \nAnd from my experience--although that void was filled of who/what my real father was like...it can be a let down in the end.  Even though I met my father, and he was very kind, met my halfsiblings and his wife--they all loved me.  We then only stayed in contact a few times more before we've lost touch again already and I haven't spoken to him in about 3 years.  But at least my curiosities have been satiated.  Just don't hold too many expectations.  Remember he's just a man :)  Besides, if your Mom is as bitter as my Mom was about my real father??  Try not to be shocked.  Even at our age...it's a trip to meet your maker.  So to speak.\n\nI wish you great luck!  It's an experience worth fighting for.
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Adoption agencies have strict regulations on giving out info.  Both the mother and the adoptee have to request to be contacted, and it has to be the same adoption agency (of which there are thousands).  I would ask the aunt and ask her if she would be willing to submit to a blood test.  The answers should be pretty obvious by their reactions.
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There are lots of adoption support groups online that can help you. \n\nwww.zabasearch.com\n\nwww.ussearch.com (the first part is free)..and this can tell you where she lives..(city and state)\n\nwhite pages to find listed people\nwww.theultimates.com\n\nGreat Articles\nhttp://www.adoption-help.org\n\nSupport Groups:\n\nhttp://groups.msn.com/theforgottenpeople...\n\nYahoo! Groups\nhttp://groups.yahoo.com\n\nSearchingRegistry\nfamilytiesadoptionsearch\nadoptee-support\nsoaringangels\nusaadoptiondatabase\ntouchedbyadoption\n\n\nGoogle Groups\nalt.birthright\nalt.support.adoption\nalt.support.adoption\n\n\nNever Give Up!
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why don't you start with this:\n\nhttp://genealogy.about.com/cs/adoption/a/adoption_search.htm\n\nWe just found out my mother in law had a baby in the late 50's.  She was contacted by her son (who lives in Australia) and they've been corresponding ever since.  She was 'forced' to give up her child, and no one knew about him except my MIL and her siblings.  It was a very scary thing for my MIL to 'confess' to her family there was another child before them.  But it's a great weight off her shoulders.  She is happy to know her son had a good life and is not angry with her for giving him up.
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That depends on how much information you have about him.  In my case I am adopted and have no information.  And as I was born in NY and it is a sealed records state all I can do is post with the adoption search boards and registries and wait and hope.  But if you know his name you have many other options.  internet phone search of the area where he last lived and such.  IF you truely want help you will need to give more information.\n\nBut please note.  You are not likely to find the reunion at the end you are hoping for.  You may forgive him but he is not likely to forgive himself.  From what I have seen that is what makes many parents who abandon kids stay away.  It is easier to pretend you dont exist than to face you and have to deal with the guilt for what they have done.
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There are a number of ways to go about this.  It is definitely harder if you do not know her name.  I happen to not know my biological grandmother, but I am in the proccess of using personal searches to find her.  There are a number of different websites that offer that particular service.\n\nAnother thing that you can do is talk to the government (if you are willing to take it that way).  They can help in locating people, especially if you can think of a reason such as child support.
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Hi!  I am sorry about the situation you are in.  I used to be a step-mom but now I am an adoptive mother.  When I married my daughters dad I automatically became step-mom.  I then adopted them (by the way, my husband had to adopt them with me even though he is the biological father).  My name is now on the girls birth certificates as if I was the one who gave birth to them.  The natural mother loses all rights- even her name on their legal birth certificates!  I hope you can give your step-mom a chance.  It'll be hard, I know.  I was lucky, my girls were very little and I'm the only mom that they know and love.  Is she mean to you or jealous of you?  Are you jealous of her relationship with your dad?   Please figure out why you don't like her and maybe the both of you can work it out.  You are not being disloyal to your mother if you like the step.  You didn't mention whether your mom is still in the picture.  I assume and hope she is still alive.  If not, I'm sorry.  Please, for your sake give step -mom a chance.  The more allies you have on your side the better.  Besides, I know you must love your dad and there could be no worse heartache than seeing the two women closest to him feeling that way.  See it in your heart to be happy for him.  There must be something worth liking about her if your dad picked her for his wife.
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Please tell your wife..to Never Give Up!\n\nThere are lots of adoption support groups online that can help you.\n\nwww.zabasearch.com\n\nwww.ussearch.com (the first part is free)..and this can tell you where she lives..(city and state)\n\nwhite pages to find listed people\nwww.theultimates.com\n\nGreat Articles\nhttp://www.adoption-help.org\n\nSupport Groups:\n\nhttp://groups.msn.com/theforgottenpeople...\n\nYahoo! Groups\nhttp://groups.yahoo.com\n\nSearchingRegistry\nfamilytiesadoptionsearch\nadoptee-support\nsoaringangels\nusaadoptiondatabase\ntouchedbyadoption\n\n\nGoogle Groups\nalt.birthright\nalt.support.adoption\nalt.support.adoption\n\nAlso here are some books to consider:\n\nSearch : A Handbook for Adoptees and Birthparents 3rd Edition\nby Jayne Askin\n\nWhose Child? : An Adoptee's Healing Journey from Relinquishment through Reunion ... and Beyond\nby Kasey Hamner\n\n\nBirthright : The Guide to Search and Reunion for Adoptees, Birthparents, and Adoptive...\nby Jean A. S. Strauss\n\n(you can buy this books used on shopping.Yahoo.com and on Amazon.com)\n\nhttp://shopping.yahoo.com/b:bo...
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Try doing searches of the local phone directories using the given name.  I'm thinking it is really possible that you might find something that way.  Try: http://www.verizon.com or even Yahoo! People Finder.  We have located a number of missing alumni with these types of searches.  Good luck.  But, it really can be a big, and sometimes unwelcome, shock for an adopted child to hear from a birth parent.  Be prepared for disappointment.  Mr. Robinson may not be as anxious to hear from you as you are to hear from him.\n\nIt is also likely that he was adopted by someone and now has their name.  An adoption search might be more helpful.  Try the free Adoptee & Birth Family Registry at http://www.birthfamily.com/registry/ .  This might be a better way to learn if he is interested to find you.\n\nAgain, good luck in your search.