Why is it so difficult for single parents to find true love?
815846
because most people don't want the excess baggage of children. They usually want their own children, not your ex lovers kids. That is what I think it is about. I am a single mother. I know the reason that I can't find love is that I am not ready to open my heart again after an 11 yr relationship with my children's father. He left me for another woman. I just don't want that to happen again.
244097
you would probably last with someone in ur same situation..cuz us single fathers go thru the same thing..the moment i say i have a child , gurls scram lol soo maybe u just need someone whos a parent aswell. like me..* wink email me! lets talk.....
187211
i cant figure this out, but if you just need someone you will pretty much deal with a bunch of crap just to have someone around...i did it for over two years just cause i wanted someone there...while i was still with that person i met the man who became my husband...and i didnt know for sure then that he was the right person...love just has a funny way of sneakin up on you, and if your not sure then its not love...
317318
It can be done.  Some people need to cling to a father(or mother) figure.  Its part of their psychological make up.  Only through developing insight into oneself can one learn to love oneself.  When one learns to love oneself, then that person can learn to love others without fear or boundaries.
1084232
It really isn't. As long as you're open to it, love is right in front of you. It's harder to find everything you want in a person. And I think that's more of the question you're asking.
113850
When it is true love you just know. You want to be with the person all of the time and when you are away from them they are all you can think about. You picture your life with them in 60 years with your kids having grown and had kids of their own and you are happier than you have ever been.
219865
When it is meant to happen it will. I never thought I would find anyone. When I stopped looking and decided that I didn't need a man to be happy. That is when I met him. I was a single mom of 3 in my late 20's when it happened. GOOD LUCK!!
172233
Well, I would say 25% of my friends and business associates were raised by a single parent.\n\nIt is more common today and as long as the child receives love and guidance, they will be fine.
508509
Love happens without work.  You can fall in love and be incredibly happy with someone, but when you've been with them a certain amount of time, that persons flaws become more apparent to you and you accept that life must continue to function with TWO people instead of ONE.  This means that you have to work hard to help eachother, to remain obligated to eachother, each paying bills and working and taking care of kids.  It's hard work to find a middle ground or reach a compromise sometimes, but it's worth it.  All the hard work is worth love =)
604331
You really have to follow your heart on that one, my friend!  Before I met my husband, I opted to stay single for MANY years, because I just couldn't be bothered with the bs of the dating ritual and all the games that go along with that ride!!  Usually when you are not looking to fall in love is when it hits ya right between the eyes!!  Don't worry about what is right or wrong (or "normal"-whatever the heck THAT is!!) in the eyes of others...as long as YOU are comfortable with your choices, then right on!  As for choosing not to have children....I believe that it takes a more thoughtful person to decide that they do not want to raise children!  Soo many people have children for all the wrong reasons and raising a child is NOT to be taken lightly..it is a lifetime commitment full of many ups and downs.  That is a personal and very private decision that a person makes. I have alot of respect for those who know what they want (and not what they think others want for them)! Good Luck!!
624067
Its not that we think they are easy, its just like any other girl. I know I'm a little hesitant to date single moms because i dont know if they want to date me or find a daddy for their kid. Some guys might think single moms are easy, but most just want to date different types of people. Like women, men like variety.
634745
America isn't very single parent friendly. The cost of child care is often as much or more than you can make at a job.
187481
Because there is so many road blocks out there that get in your way. It is not supposed to be easy to find your true love. If it was no one would suffer from heartache. You date other people so, you get an idea of what you want from a relationship and what qualities you want from that special one. When you find them, all the trouble will be worth it.
476295
That's two different types of love, my friend.\n\nYour children don't necessarily come first -- They just need and deserve "you" for all of their life.. not just now but forever.\n   You, on the other hand, need and deserve, to find happiness also.\n   This really isn't so much (about the other woman)  OR the children wanting to be "first", is it?    \n    \n    You don't really appear to be ready for a lasting relationship with another adult.   And that's ok.  Maybe, now is the time to just enjoy "dates" without any commitment.  \n\n    If you are, in fact, the type of person that you say that you are, you will first take care of yourself, health and finance wise.   You will continue to always be there for your children, and you will (in time) should you choose, find another individual that shares your interests, \nand respects your opinions.   \n\n     We have in our hearts the ability to love in many different ways.. our love for parents, our mate, our children, our friends, and even our pets, are all different types of love.   We don't "run out" of love, or use it all up.\n\n    These "dates" you refer to... are being selfish, when in fact, should see you as the good person you are, caring for your children.   But if you are starting relationships and yet, giving the impression that they won't last.. what do you expect, but to be left alone..\n\n     I can't stress enough that I respect you for your question --- but I "read" more inbetween the lines... than you actually wrote ---  You are the one that is not ready.\n\n    It's sort of like why they say:  \n"If you and your child is flying and the plane loses cabin pressure --- YOU should use the oxygen first..."  the reason is so that YOU can take care of your child.. \n\n    So -- be there for them.. now and always.. AND when you are ready, find someone to share your life with, your children will grow up with a father that loves them, and will love the person that loves (them) and their father.\n\n   They will want YOU to be happy, also.
594723
There is no right way...it's just the way you feel about it. If you feel that you can love and take care of a child with out a partner, do it that way. If you feel the need to have a family complete with a mom and dad, then find someone who will be there long enough to provide. You don't necessarily have to get married...you should just have enough love in your heart to provide for any kids.
419514
I think it has to do with devoting your entire life to one, single other person.  I mean, marriage involves living together, children (not always), monogamy, putting someone before you... these are, like, the hardest things human beings do.  You have to be unselfish, which is why so many marriages don't last.  You don't have to do any of this kind of stuff when you're single or dating, becuase you don't have anything invested in it-- there aren't any binds.  Unhappy?  Go find another, start over.  Married and unhappy?  It takes work.  Marriage assumes hardship, and knowing that someone is ready to make every sacrifice for you is extraordinarily special.
1133581
Too many people are successful at sabotaging themselves ... it's scary to find THE ONE.  It's impossible to believe that you can be so fortunate, so blissful, so perfect with him/her.  But I believe that if two people are meant to be, they will find a way ... even if one of them has cold feet.