can anyone explain how can a gay get his/her desire fulfilled by his/her mate?
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if your gay you would no
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You might feel like you're on a date, but that's just because you're straight.  He doesn't feel that way at all.  I had this one friend and I didn't think that I was leading her on or whatever and she KNEW I was gay, but she said that it was unfair of me to play with her like that and act like I was into her.  I wasn't GIVING her signals or anything though.  If he really wants you, let him come to you, you don't wanna lose a friendship just because you think you could convert him.  Things would just be WEIRD between the two of you.
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Guys thrive on feelin like they are sexually attractive to thier mate.Let him know u cant get enough of him! Gush over how hot he looks and how sexy he is and act on it.
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Sexual desire can no more be overcome as can hunger.  Sexual desire, like hunger, can be sated with a caring partner.  Find yourself such a partner and see to each others healthy, consensual sexual desires.\n\nRemember, just as suppressing hunger leads to starvation, suppressing sexual desire leads to pathology:  both are unhealthy.
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What you are - you are you - a unique individual - with feelings different from anyone else and experiences only you have had. \nYou need to do some thinking/soulsearching - You don't need to have sex with a guy to work out if you are bi/lesbian! Do 'straight' people have gay affairs to realise they are straight? No! \nFirstly - Are you attracted to men? Have you thought, imagined longed to be held by a man, for him to make love to you? How do feel about penises? Testicles, firm muscles and chest hair? Think about these and note your reactions inside, what you truly feel. \nRepulsed, intriguged, wanting etc. You say you have a girlfriend -  but don't rush to label yourself - I've seen people announce they are lesbians then later regret it a few years/months down the line because they are attracted to both sexes. \nI'm a lesbian I've never slept with a guy because a)it repulsed me the whole penis thing and b) I've never, ever been attracted to a man. I always preferred womens company, friendship and I was attracted to women before I knew what lesbian or gay even meant.\nIs it your friends that have more issues with this? I know we are in the 21st century but sadly some friends can never accept slight degrees of difference, you need to be one thing or the other - you don't - you have to be what you want to be. \nI advise doing an internet search on the Lesbian and Gay Switchboard finding the one local to you (they are everywhere Brighton, Lancaster, Birmingham, London, Isle of Mann etc) - emailing or telephoning them - perhaps getting some support from qualified staff and support group information. You stay strong and don't rush into anything - the most important question - What do you want? Who do you want to be?
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Do you mean, why do gay people like to have sex together?\n\nFor the same reason straight people like to have sex together... because they're attracted to each other and, well, want to have sex.\n\nSometimes, I'm just horny.  Most of the time I want to be intimate with someone else, to actually be in a relationship where sex is part of something deeper, an expression of love for my partner.\n\nIn that regard, I'm pretty sure gay guys and straight guys are alike.  \n\nThe difference is in who we find attractive, and it was never a matter of choice with me.  I'm genuinely attracted to guys, and while I can accomplish having sex with a woman quite handily, the experience does NOTHING for me-- and no, it doesn't even get me a cheap orgasm because the whole thing seems like a chore to me to get her to have an orgasm and feel good, at which point I stop and go do something else more interesting, like watch an infomercial... women are, literally, boring to me in bed.  \n\nIt's very easy and natural for me to have sex when I'm with another guy, though.  It just... feels right.  Like how I was created to experience the joy, the intimacy, and love it can bring.
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If your gay chill and enjoy it...\n\nIf you are straight chill and enjoy it...\n\n\nIf bi (both) well you double your pulling chances...\n\n\nLook mate it don't matter if you are gay or straight... as long as happy and can pull and get to be with people etc...\n\nMost gays I have met (Im straight) have been funny, fun, friendly, nice, have lots of girl mates, who like flirting with them (ie if straight it helps to have a gay mate who wont pull your bird but can introduce you to lots)...\n\n\nSo good...\n\nHowever learn to fight to deal with the dickheads...\n\nNote its the relgious who are immoral...\n\nThink... evidence...\n\nWho ran murderous inquistion, burnt loads at the stake after torture and rape for healing sick folk and animals and being a hippy?\n\nThe gays or the christains and which group are into sharia law, hacking off limbs and being mean to girls... the muslims or the gays?\n\n\nPlus gays are often party animals who can organise top parties for straights... think American pie 3 or an ex boss of mine who was seen dancing the can can at the xmas part on a table dressed as a nun.\n\n\nBasically you can't solve your problem if gay it would be like forcing a cat to be a veggie or making a dog act like a bird...\n\nEven if successful said being turns into a basket case needed mental help
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This made me giggle and I'm a gay man. The majority of the time gay men are versatile when it comes to who would be the insertive or receptive partner when it comes (pun intended) to sex. Makes great love making but a really awkward question to try and answer
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Dear Chocolate,\nAll joking aside...it seems to me you are very hungry for affection...which is translating into sexual desire due to societal influences.  Its true your hormones are part of the issue, but deep down its about finding sincere tenderness to satisfy your unmet need for affection.  A loving touch is what you need, not sexual contact.  Try showing sincere affection/tenderness to those close to you...then they might return the same...and you may find some peace.\n\nAll the best to you!
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There are 2 things that can be done.  You must first ask yourself a question.  How important are my sexual needs?  Can I live without them?  If you are looking at getting your sexual needs fulfilled and your partner isn't satisfying them, then you need to talk to him/her about them.  If you have been patient and your partner still isn't willing to satisfy them and it's very important to you.  Then break up with him/her.  If you love him/her too much and are willing to sacrifice your satisfying your sexual needs then stay together.
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There are many different shades and levels of sexual attraction.\nMost people are strictly heterosexual.  There are some who have had one or very few homosexual encounters.  Some people are bisexual, and there are a few who are strictly homosexual.\nYou can use any combination that suits you, as long as your partners are consenting adults.
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Stop making an issue of him being gay. He is a person just like anyone else and Im sure it would please him to be treated as everyone else. Going out of your way to  "please him" in some special way will comeoff as fake and he will feel it.\n\nJust be yourself and work as usual.
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What's the purpose of this question? Are you contemplation doing it the gay way? Just like everything... what might hurt you might give pleasure to someone else... So if the reason why you ask is because you plan on doing it or having it done... Suggestion: Take/insert it slow...
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Its a complicated answer.\n\nAlot of people in the world try and force their sexuality a certain direction, and actually live their life through like this.\n\nIf your asking whether someone can truely change their sexual preference, honest to themselves, i dont know..\n\nI myself am gay, but in my opinion, lust and love are two different things.\n\nI find men attractive only, but a long time ago i met a girl who was the sweetest thing on the planet, and she was innocent and in my eyes beautiful and i wouldve started something with her hadnt she left my life.\n\nI feel that theres no such thing as gay or straight, but finding love, and choosing whether to deny it becuase of preference, or not.\n\nThe mind has a way of justifying itself, and if you do fall in love first, its afterward that sexuality comes into play, and alot of thoughts and things can get you sexually aroused and therefore introduce "sexual attraction" into the picture.\n\nI dont think an initial prefference can be changed, no. I think if your attrated to guys for whatever reason, your attracted to guys, and thats that. \n\nSome closet people may not like this lifestyle, and its completely possible that they may find something in a woman they like as well, and everything goes good. (but this means they're probably bi) But this doesnt CANCEL out what they liked in men, it just means they made a choice.\n\nLife is about choices.\n\nSometimes you cant choose, like if you dont like women sexually, then you dont, and forcing yourself is wrong, and vica versa.\n\nSexual prefference is something that exists deep within ones mind, and its probably formed during childhood, small bits and pieces of your life that sculpt who you are, and somewhere along the line, connections are made as sexuality develops.\n\nAnyway, i'm dragging on... I dont think sexual preference can be changed. I think it can be ADVANCED, better understood, "moved up to the next level", and whatever those imply.
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You can't.\n\nSo choose your partner WISELY.
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Sure, I've been on both sides of the spectrum. Hid my true gay self for years, pretended to be straight in a small southern town. If you wanna chat, email me at jtb1999@hotmail.com and we can find a way to do it on MSN or YAHOO. Peace and good luck.
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Try on line personals. Only correspond with guys in your area and don't waste time with anyone who brings up sex immediately. Get to know the person and make sure that he wants a relationship instead just sex. Take things slow. A  gay man who will be patient and not press for sex is looking for the same thing you are. Good luck!!!