What do you tell a child of 7yrs that their parents are seperating?
831557
God that is a hard one.\n\nMy parents separated when I was 6. I don't actually remember either of them telling me it was happening. Not in a bad way but it must have been dealt with really delicately. I mean I think the priority is the child. You must remember that he is only 7 and doesn't need the details.\n\nYou must appear to be loving towards his father. I know he has hurt you very much but the child loves his father and that love can not be ruined by you or him during this. It will be very difficult to show a loving face towards him but it is vital htat you gat that right.\n\nIf you handle this wrong then the child will lean more towards the parent he thinks is being abused. You need to let him know that these thimgs in life happen. That it not such a bad thing after all. Of course that is not his fault but try and show him positves from this. Eg. He will have 2 houses, 2 kinds of bedrooms extra toys etc. I know that sounds awful to you but he is 7 and will love the thought of having all these wonderful things in his life.\n\nThe more relaxed you are round him the easier it will be for him to accept this change in his life. Also, if my mam was ever talking nasty about my dad she would give him a different name just incase we walked in or overheard her on the phone. That way we never realised it our dad and she was still able to vent the anger she felt towards him. Just a suggestion for you.\n\nI wish you all the best. It's not an easy thing to go through when there's no kids. I hope everything turns out for the best.
758834
sit down and tell them youre moving out, whys it so hard?  explain why youre moving out, with whom if its somebody, where youre moving to, be mature about it.  they should be happy for you, but your mom might be kinda sad because her baby is moving out of the house, but thats a parental thing, youll understand when/if you ahve kids that move out of the house.
66825
Unfortunately there's nothing you can do, I'm sorry to be the one to tell you that,but what you can do is remember none of it's your fault. Love both of your parents and keep a good relationship with both of them as long as you can and if they divorce be there for them, they are having a hard time too.Just because they can't get along with each other doesn't mean they don't still love you.
75154
Well, they've been together for this long & hopefully you've trusted them. Just give them your support & let them know that you're concerned & don't want them to mess up their futures. College is a time for children to start being independent & learn how to function on their own. BUT, just tell them to be careful. I'm sure they'll understand.
181100
Tough break. No child ever wants to disappoint his/her parents. However, the best thing to do is to confront the issue with them. Choose a time when you know that they aren't already stressed out and gradually explain how this may have happened. Since you seem to be smart in general, this was probably a fluke or an outlier. Most importantly, don't beat down on yourself. It's not the end of the world, even though it may feel like it.
1169853
Talk to him about it when the kids are not there.   Just tell him your miserable and you have filed for a divorce.  If you haven't really had a relationship with him the last few years, it might be a blessing to him too.  Just try to be as civil as possible for the kids.  Try not to fight in front of them...but don't give them false hopes either.  Good luck, you're going to need it ,I'm afraid.
74245
- - - S E P E R A T I O N - - -\n\nI can't think of anything else but to be seperated for a time being and then get back together... \n\nIf the case is too much then we all know that its bad and how do you stop it? SEPERATE THE BAD THING AND MOVE ON!
155295
well .....talk to a sibling and tell him/her to be there when u tell one of ur parents....start with the one wh &#92;o is a little less aggressive...maybe ur mom or ur dad...and just let them know u need their support and that u hope they'll treat u like an independent adult....tell them ull sort things out and wat u plan for the future.....think abt evrything u wwana say to them......just listen to them too...cuz they'll obviously be upset....just tell them they mean alot to u and no1 else can help u out like they can..i hope they'll understand..........its a huge responsibility....make sure ur ready for it.......take care and dont overstress........:)
434168
You two need to stay apart.  You're like gasoline and fire.  It happens.  If you were 5 year olds, your parents would separate you.  Now you're adults, so separate yourselves and move on.
336307
I've been through this before...\nAlways try to tell them that everyday you see your brothers and sisters getting hurt because of their selfishness... Act as a grown-up and let them know they are hurting their loved ones... If they fail to realize that, then perhaps their breaking up is for own and your siblings good, because no one can live with such parents...
714907
Their emotions are all over the place. They hate that they are hurting you and splitting up the family, but for you, its better. Its horrible when parents are around and always fighting.  Its better when they are separted by law or houses - and they don't argue.\n\nUntil the divorce is over, their emotions will be all over the place, almost like yours. \n\nMy best suggestion for any child (young adult) is that they talk with their parents or school counselor and ask to see a professional therapist. They can help you sort through the adult stuff you might not understand.\n\nNo matter what, it affects you - but isn't about you. Both your parents love you - truly, truly love you. Don't ever think otherwise. \n\nOne thing to remember if they happen to say something negative about the other parent...at one time, they did love each other...that's how they got you ;-).\n\nAlso, if they do say something negative to you about the other parent...just ask them to neve say anything negative about your dad/mom to you. After one time of telling them this...they'll stop.\n\nHope this helps. Your parents are both good people but somehow moved down a different road. Your lucky to have both f them - even in separate houses.
163615
I am also recently divorced and my child lives far aways from me and the only way I can try to keep me in her heart is to write a letter hoping one day she will read it and answer it.  My child is only going on 7 and not able to see mine for 6 and half years because of her father but I try to stay strong and keep sending birthday and christmas gifts and hope one day she will respond.  Just keep sending pictures and letters and pray that one day they will respond.
535570
Bad news, tell her parents.
1071850
Separations are never easy (as I very well know)...Give yourself and your child time!!\n\nTalk to your child, and let your child know he/she is loved by 'both' of you.. and if need be, reassure him/her that it is not his/her fault you broke up!! (as some may think/ feel this way).\n\nYou have left your partner for I have no doubt good reason: but he/she has in their eyes lost a daddy, and is going through a grieving process of their own, which takes time to come to grips with.  \n\nHopefully daddy will still be around, and be able and willing to play a part in his child's life ... and if like my ex-partner and myself, maybe you two will be able to put the past behind and become 'friends' for real, or for the sake of your child in time, and then he/she will have the best of both worlds!!\n\nIts a difficult one, and my heart goes out to you.
78169
This is a family issue. You know you are innocent so, I would allow your mom to know whats going on. Yes even your father. They can be your greatest allies here. Sometimes parrents can be a true blessing and in this case, maybe MOM has a few tips up her sleeve that can really help. After all she was once your age and had her best friend too. I would goto them with everything and let them in on it. That way your relationship to your folks is greatly inhanced and they may even have the solution you need. Its worth a shot.
625264
Having there dad gone, prob hit them really hard. You Just need to remind them that their daddie loves them and you guys mean everything to them. Maybe what they need to for you tl sit down with them and say. Okay, were going to write daddy a letter. Make it into a fun project. Seems to me they really miss their dad and They are not used to him being gone for this long. Having kids at that age they dont really understand what is really going on and how to handle it so they take it out on you and act up. But being to strict wont make things better. With out yelling at them to tell them what to do. Say it in a cool and clam way of love. Kids respond more to a clam and sweet voice then a high mean voice. with your little one that learning out to not wet her pants that can be hard not having your dad around. but you can also make that fun. if you are really having trouble with things at home. try getting some help from family memebers to take them off your hand a little big. GO to sea world or the zoo. or something out doors for a change. I wish you the best of luck. No one knows how to deal with their kids. better then their own mom.\nHanig in there. Even if on somedays. if you just want to realx. get their fav. baby-sitter or something. Make cookies, put on a play. Just be their for your kids.\n\nGood luck hope everything works out.
659259
You should tell a teacher and your parents. Leave the next step up to them.