what are you opions on age gaps in dating?
815761
I don't think we should allow society to dictate age restrictions in relationships. There is a 21 year age gap between my boyfriend and I (I'm 27). I have never been happier in my life. Just like with any relationship, it needs to have the essentials like trust, understanding, communication, interests, goals, etc. If those elements are in place, then nothing else matters. Love is the greatest feeling in the world, and age shouldn't stop anyone from experiencing it.
406402
I am 27, and my husband is 40.  When we started dating I was 20 and he was 33.  While there's not anything wrong with it, my experience has been that we are at very different points in our lives.  For example, I am just getting settled in a career job (teaching), and thinking about starting a family; he is not sure about a family at this point (looking ahead to retirement) and wants to start travelling the world.  So it can be difficult in a lot of ways.  But that being said, he's a wonderful guy and I wouldn't trade our relationship for anything!\n\n(Huh, apparently judging by the comments above, we must be some sort of sickos....who knew?)
365256
i think 10 years younger is ok and no one 10 years older would be sufficient don't you? Why are you worried about it anyway? Date who ever as long as it don't consist of going thru the high schools with the trunk of your car filled with a Playstation and candy and sodas to lure your dates.
619792
Age should not make a difference. I should know, I am dating a younger man. So as long as the age is legal I see no harm in it. But, honestly, what do you think you have in common with a 20 y/o?
293492
No i think that is perfectly fine!!! Well i would think that when me and my better half got together i was 20 and he was 29, 3 years later and we have a awsome strong relationship, i was ready for something serious to plant my feet into and so was he, we had alot of things in common, i mean yes there are times when i think wow hes really been around alot more then i have and i can feel a little bit intimidated, but in the long run im thankfull he has those experiances to help guide our steps, I think he has come to believe that im never going to be perfect, even though i really try to do everything well, im not completely at his level on thinking, he has more life lessons to reflect on, but i dont think its a problem when we both discuss everything and keep the lines of communication open, just like any other relationship, my best friend is in the same boat, her husband is 10 years older then her and oddly enough shes the more responcible one, i dont see why any one would think its wrong, now if you were 25 and she was 15 there might be a huge responce to you sick mo fo lol but i dont think there is anything wrong with you liking her, ask her out, she might be into older guys, and with good reason, guys that are 20-24 are enough to make you want to puke, they only want one thing, they havnt figured out yet theres more to life then a nice set of boobs lol they dont know how to deal with money worth a crap, they only look out for themselfs, where older guys have alot more figured out, theres so many more perks to dating a older guy i could go on forever, more or less your more established at 30... id say go for it :) you have nothing to lose
1089090
No I don't think it's bad at all. There are tons of people who date people more than 1 year old than them. My parents are examples, my dad is 54 and my mom is 49. A lot of people like older people because they seem more mature and serious about things.
1039954
Most of the time, yes. \n\nMost of the time, the older of the pair will be anchor in the relationship, being wiser and all. 17 years a good gap for a girl in her 30s and over (i.e. the man's the one 17 years older)\n\nIf ayoung person's in a relationship with another young one, say they're both under 25; usually it takes a lot more than love to keep the two together. Young love are more fragile.
874228
There's always the possibility of problems in ANY long-term relationship.  But in this case, age difference shouldn't be a problem unless they choose to LET it be one.
443223
Yes. Age is a number and providing the reason that both parties are together is not based on reasons other than love (lust?) then there is not a problem.  That is the question that needs to be seriously consulted however.  There is no law being broken and if they are happy then so what. You must also take into account the maturity of both people.  I knew people at 14 who were more mature than those aged 20, likewise now, I know 25-30 year olds who have the maturity of a late teen.\n\n(and no, I'm not a 40year old dating a teenage girl, I'm 22...and prefer men anyway ;-p)
180009
If it was like 40 years difference that probably wouldn't work. I don't see any problems with a 30 year old and a 20 year old. It could turn out to be a beautiful relationship.
832347
There's nothing wrong with it, especially if your feelings are genuine, but keep in mind that you could get hurt pretty bad given you start up a relationship. He could use you, or date you for a while but then flat out tell you that he's uncomfortable. Six years is not that big of a difference, but even age differences like that could result in some professional frowning-down on his part (like if he has a big corporate job and they find out he's seeing someone younger). But like I said, six years isn't that MUCh of a difference to be worried about. I knew someone who was about 19 or 20 and she dated a 36 year old guy, but they broke up because of the age difference.\n\nI just read your edit...I have to tell you that twenty is a whole different world from fourteen. So like I said, be careful!
764618
The thought of dating a guy that's younger than me for some reason freaks me out. I'm nearly 19 and I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and he's 23. Our age gap works out wonderfully. I think as long as you have a lot in common and you're at the same/ver similar point in your lives the relationship can work. \n\nThat being said I personally wouldn't date anyone over 25 at my age. I'd be wondering why they were interested in someone so much younger.. It disgusts me when I see a man in his 40's + with some teenage girl. Ugh makes me think he should be castrated.\n\n-Elise
201978
age gap is not a problem really, but what is your actual age? are you in a stage to understand the difference between love and attraction? affection and passion? if not, Take the advise of the elders.
1144926
There is not a thing wrong with a 14 and 16 year olds to date each other. As long as you understand what dating is. \nMany think dating is a relationship but that is not the truth. Dating is spending time together sharing in activities and having fun. It is to enjoy each others company while getting to know each other. \nAlso many may disagree with me and call me old fashion but, I urge you to take things slow and really get to know each other and try not to pressure each other into a relationship. There is no rush and enjoy your teen years for once they are gone there is no going back.
542128
I'm 56 and women your age want to date us guys cause the women your age say younger men are too immature! But it is your choice of what you want out of life? Myself, a women has no age limit for me as long as we are compatible.\nGo for it girl, all you need is self esteem!
900586
Personally I believe when you really love someone, I don't think age is a problem. It is more of whether both of you can communicate with each other and both have you must be able to accept each other.
756982
No. The only thing I have to say to this is you might be passing up some real gems by not dating anyone who isn't at least 5 years older than you. Don't be completely oblivious to them. In fact, I usually look for guys who are a few years older than me as well but I have recently met a fantastic guy who is actually 2 years younger than me! I never thought that would happen!