why are people so judgmental when they are afraid of being judged themselves?
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If they judge you and put you on the defensive, then it will detract attention from what they are doing. They figure you'll be too busy defending yourself to judge them.
286250
If they are themselves, they fear that you won't like them. They are insecure.
580053
There's this thing that we do that is called "projection". It works like this: whenever there's something about ourselves that we refuse to accept (more often than not our negativity: usually unexamined thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, etc) we "project" them out onto someone else. Conveniently, we let ourselves off the hook by *imagining* that that someone else is guilty of the stuff which we are in fact projecting onto them. In doing this, we not only can feel better about ourselves right away, but we also get to feel self-righteous, not to mention justified in meteing out punishment on others for what we believe is *their* wrong-doing, when it really originated within us.\n\nSo when someone calls themselves a Christian but doesn't behave as one should, all they've done is hang a name on themselves in the hopes that it will make them look good on the surface, yet they are still victims of their own ignorance, caught under the spell of a very popular illusion - the one that makes them believe that they are better and safer than others.
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Opinion addiction doesn't exist. Self doubt does. The basis is seeking approval from others, so as not to look inept. Look at things in a different way: accept and laugh at mistakes you may make doing whatever it is. It's called living as you know.\nTo me, it sounds like you had parents/adults who were of the old mindset about not trying anything on your own, or even if you wanted to do/fix sometthing, there was always an adult who pointed out how he/she would do it, took over the task, and made you feel lesser for it.
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well this is kind of yahoo answers, in order to evaluate a situation some judging has to come into play. i don't judge too harshly though but the most important thing is you. i've had people call me some pretty ragged names over the years and quess what? doesn't matter. i have in fact become proud of the traits that most judgmental people hate. i masterbate several times a day if i can find the time and i love it. people tell me i'm a loser for it and thats their opinion but if it really bothered me i'd stop. freedom of speech means everyone from the kkk to the black panthers is allowed to speak their minds freely without worrying about consequences. i personally would rather racist people be open about it so we know they are idiots and can ignore them. rather than have them hide it from us so we don't judge them. so yeah, don't judge people, but if people do judge, who cares, no biggie, ignore them.
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Because in order for people to feel like they are important, they fell like they need the validation of other peoples opinions. Many people don't want to be judged for being different or weird, and they are scared of being pointed out for these things. Everyone wants to be liked and accepted, no matter what they say. People who go out of their way to be different still care about what other people think, they are just looking for negative attention. =.>
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I'm the type of person who truly believes in people respecting the privacy of others, and in minding their own business.\n\nI, too, have read negative comments on various cultures and religions, and some of them are very cruel.  I would  prefer to learn about the activities of others, rather than go with negative thoughts about things which I have no knowledge.\n\nWhat's making it hard for people on this site, is that they are made to feel that they have to "defend themselves" from all the negative, and bigoted questions and answers.
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I think it's because people are basically egocentric.  Also self-preservation is rather high on the list of the instincts.
863852
We are hard wired to make judgments about everything in our environment, including others. Some of us make an extra effort to rise above our instintual impulses, and some of us don't. Everyone is guilty of it at some point though.
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This question is to easy to answer;\n\nthose individuals that you are asking about have no respect for themselves... they recognize themselves as potential failures and therefore; they need to feel better about themselves... \n\nThe plain truth is that after the above thought goes through their unexercised brain..they haven't the ability, or knowledge to express their thoughts in any other fashion.\n\nYou, on the other hand, must be sensitive, caring, thoughtful and highly intelligent....thanx for making our world a better place in which to live.
1016884
I don't think so because being judgmental means  saying wrong things of people but con stating that a person is judgmental means hearing them saying wrong things
698397
I think we are too judgmental.  I run across people passing judgments on others all the time.  It doesn't seem to matter whether the thing upon which a judgment is being passed is large (like the war, or some dictator committing human rights violations in another country) or small (like whether it is okay to put ketchup on a hot dog), everybody has an opinion.  The problem is that, in the time since the start of the political correctness movement, everyone with an opinion feels a  sense of entitlement to try to impose that viewpoint on everybody else.
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It's just human nature.  People always judge others, whether they admit it or not, even if they don't know enough.  It's probably a survival trait left over from thousands of years ago, when people had to make quick decisions in order to live.\nI wouldn't worry about it.  Ignore other people's judgments about you and live your life to the fullest.\nHave a good time!
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This sounds like a speech, rather than a question.  But I do think that in those who are overly critical lies a certain lack of confidence in their own abilities.  They get comfortable with their own identify by criticizing everybody else's.\n\nThe Bible teaches us to love our fellow man.  We can choose to not approve of his behavior but we are still supposed to love him.  Most mature Christians also recognize John 8:7 - "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."  A great scripture on not criticizing others.
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Some people get insecure or fearful around others who are not like they are. They attack the one who is different, to help them feel better about themselves and their decisions (which actually probably means they are not secure in their own decision or choice).
1174060
People are self centered. They may be insecure of themselves so they put one down to bring them up. There is positive criticism though, which is tough to take but may be healthy.
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Because They are insecure of who they really are and may not like themselves very much and are afraid others wont accept the real person that that they are.