"how would you feel if your girlfriend/boyfriend or spouse didn't like your children"?
817916
you should see the movie bastard out of carolina \n\nif my husband didnt like my kds i wouldnt be with him if he hurt them even once i would put him in the hospital then leave him if someone ever molested one of my kids id be in prison for murdering that person noone comes before my children and noone will ever hurt them  as long as im around
1007536
Nothing. My husband of 45 years married me against his family's wishes and to this day I am not favored. But we have lived a wonderful life because he chose me as a wife. Marriage is between two people not two families. It is nice when everyone likes each other. He gave up part of his family because he refused to give me up but to this day, he is glad he chose me and the ones that didn't like me 45 years still don't like me now. If he can survive with the disgrace so be it.
704940
I think they would be ashamed, angry and disappointed in us with how we treat each other...the lack of common courtesy,  the lack of sense of community,  the violence,  the greed, the waste,  the lack of values in the home and workplace....\n\nWe don't take pride in what we do, we don't instill good habits in our children.  We don't punish or hold ourselves or others responsible for their actions...we make excuses,  we belittle ourselves and others,  we don't practice what we preach and to find a person you can trust......\n\nWe over indulge our children and ourselves,  we are never happy with what we have...there is always more to want.  We forgot the simple pleasure of playing safely in the neighborhoods we live in...building snowmen,  riding bikes,  walking the dog...  We don't know our neighbor's name much less help them when they need help the most.     We would rather throw money at a problem then roll up our sleeves and get involved.\n\nPretty sorry isn't it?
1158818
Currently I just broke up with my boyfriend and I'm pregnant with his baby.  I had to move back in with my parents after being on my own for 4 years.  Talk about uncomfortable!!
132344
how do u feel about a family would be the first thing, because procreation is not recreation. the next would be where r u most comfortable. (please don't let it be the backseat of a car)!{ make sure u tell them where u stand on arse sex, because they all like to try}
868241
at the risk of sounding judgemental, i'm really not sold on the idea of couples sticking together for the 'sake of the children'. we cannot give what we do not have, hence we cannot give our children happiness if we are very much unhappy with our partner. since you said you still love him, i want to assume that that is the reason you are staying in your relationship. therefore, you should use every effort to try to rebuild what you guys lost. but if you have too much pride to admit to him that you still care for him despite what he has done, you can always be friends or worst-case scenario, housemates with kids. good luck!
181844
I feel the question is to vague for an answer , what are your regrets ? You say your spouse and family would be devastated , so are we to assume that your spouse still feels that everything is ok in the marriage? are your regrets things like , what if I had done this or what if I had married this person instead or my life would have been so different if I had never married or had kids? Lots of people at some time and point in their lives wonder what if , that's normal . But if there is nothing truly wrong in your marriage , I feel that you owe it to your family to make it better , to many people today get stuck in ruts and start thinking that the grass is greener on the other side but the reality of it is if you don't find out for your self why you feel this way or make the change within your self to make things better , then it's only a matter of time before the grass on the other side turns brown as well. When you take your vows you make a promise for better or worst , sickness and health , good times and bad , the power is in you to make your marriage and family a success. Think about what you are feeling ,why you are feeling that way, before you jump ship and possibly repeat all the same mistakes and regrets all over again
926949
I wouldn't feel that way ... I'm 26 with no kids .... so I have spent my youth doing what I want ... if adn when I do have kids ... I think I'm prepared to concentrate on them and their mommy
771498
I always made it a point & habbit of never dating anyone who had kids just because I didnt want to deal with the "baby moma drama" but being a divorce single mother of 4 some would say I have my nerve. \n\nThe children are speaking through there mothers immaturity, jeolousy and hatred for you and unfortunately you can not control it. I suggest you talk to your boyfriend about his brats if he really cares about you and your relationship he would not stand for it anyway. He needs to have a good talk with the 8itch azz ex girlfriend/baby momma. She doesnt have to like you and you dont have to like her however if her kids are going to in your house your Castle where you are suppose to be QUEEN, He needs to discipline his kids and they need to respect you and your house house including your dogs. It is his Job to discipline His kids not yours they can talk about you all they want in their own house but let it be known that when they step foot in your house if they dont have noting nice to say then they should be seen but not heard. If he can not have your back on this then he is not a man or a father and most importantly He is NOT your man.
924786
I am dating a woman who has kids also from a marriage. If she really loves you and is comfortable with who she is, she will explain and defend her life choices to her children no matter how difficult. I understand that could be very difficult for her, but she must make an important decision. If she isn't strong enough to live this life, she might consider living a different one.\n\nAs for yourself, you should decide how much you are willing to deal with this. If it continues this way, I am sure you will reach your limit soon. Your hurt will grow and grow and grow until one day you will say you cannot take it anymore! Take it from me, I have been there!!\n\nHave some serious discussions and trust your heart!
969375
get in there or you will regret it if she did that to me i would have no problem and would come out and ask her if she say she does not fancy you .move on. i did that to my wife and pushed the local coppers son off the post office wall and said out loud 'leave her alone shes mine and after 36 years two kids and three grandchildren it was the best move i have ever made. mind you i was pissed at the time and now this Sunday was a mad day as normal of guitars, screaming kids and the floor covered in toys and me loving every minute and loving even more when they all went home and tomorrow  i will want them all back again. one life live it and take a chance.
177182
i once told someone i totally hate that her partner is the best guy ever, go ahead and marry him, while he's actually full of rubbish (alcoholic, jobless, rude to women, liar, sexist, etc etc). i regret it though coz she has a miserable life now, but the advice not only coming from me.. so it wasnt totally my fault =)
651515
I've been on both sides of this. I lost my mom when I was only 4 years old. My dad remarried almost right away. I was too young at the time to say anything. But later he divorced her and started dating again when I was like 12 years old. None of my siblings were happy about it. We wanted our dad to ourselves.  Well, they got married. We haven't always liked her or got along. But, my dad is happy and that's all that mattera. I've been on the other side too. I dated a man who had two teenage kids. Him and his wife had divorced recently. The kids did not want their dad to date. They made life very difficult and caused me a lot of heart ache. I really liked them and just wanted to get to know them. In the end I simply couldn't do it anymore and I left. He's dating again but I think he's talked to his kids since then and they are a lot more accepting. Moral of the story: If they make your dad happy try to be happy for him. I'm sorry for your loss.
56876
I don't think it is any higher/or lower than no children in a relationship. Never get married or stay in a bad marraige for the sake of the kids. Thay can feel tension and all the awful stress that goes w/ a bad relationship. They will thank you for it later. Believe me, kids want you to be happy, not miserable.
539892
I would feel pretty hurt, but if I stayed in the relationship I would owe it to my significant other to speak up.  I would just tell them I felt like I was doing all the initiating and ask why they didn't do it more often. I would also tell him or her that I needed to feel wanted and pursued, and see where it went from there I guess.
1058689
The effect on the kids depends on how they are? Marriage without love is not good at all.  But most of the time couples just stay in that marriage w/out love it's because they're afraid that it will make things complicated for them if they split up especially financially.  A person should have the courage to say "Listen I love our kids so much and I will still be there for them but I cannot take this anymore and I wanna move on with my life and we'll just talk about how we're gonna make this easy for our kids sake."  Or else if you continue to stay with this person, you will continue disrespecting this person and continue hurting the feelings of your kids.  It's not gonna be healthy for them to live a life in the same roof with these couples that just gives them a bad sample of what a good loving family should be.  This marriage is not gonna last forever for sure, most of them wait till the kids are grown up.
838485
this is a tough situation...I'm in one similar.  I would tell him how you feel...DON'T give him an ultimatum on choosing his kids or you because chances are you will loose.  Maybe you guys can work something out where half the time you spend with his kids and the other half is just you two.  You have to let him know how you feel though otherwise you'll go crazy and be bitter about him not spending any alone time w/you.