Do all abusive guys get forgiven?
821882
Why would you do such a thing with SO many guys out there that would do nothing less that treat you with love and respect?
716847
Love forgives everything
475891
Well he is stepping up the control and the abuse. Almost like testing the waters so to speak. He seeing how much he can get away with. He may have realized he took it too far, and my regret his actions. Unless he gets help he is not going to change.  You will change though.  Each time he abuses you he is taking apart of your soul. You won't even realize it. Before you realize your entire life will be based on his reactions. The cycle of abuse is hard to stop. The only thing you can do at this point is get out while you still can.
664101
I have never heard an abusive man described this way, to be honest. What I have heard from women in this kind of relationship is that they hate how the guy treats them, but they deserved it cos they said something or did something stupid. Soooo wrong!!\n\nThese women are wholly lacking in self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence. They've been put down for so long, they truly believe the guy is right. They are so low on confidence that they will continue to state, Ohh, but I love him. I think that is because they see no way out..they feel they can't make it on their own, especially if they have kids, and they truly are SCARED to go it alone. They want someone to take care of them...and no, they really DON'T want the abusive guy, but they won't do anything about it until they learn to build up their self -esteem and truly believe that they are worth so much and have done NOTHING to deserve this kind of treatment.
230797
Yes for most people. Giving someone else a second chance also says a lot about yourself. Some things simply cannot be forgiven, but they tend to be things of a violent nature. Try to forgive and forget when posible.
425696
Everyone must be saying this... But girl, move on! I had the same experience... The guy I chucked a year ago suddenly appeared begging for forgivness... Even though he was fit I still said no, like you I broke up with them twice... Guys never change, I kept on making a mistake... Girl don't you...
854278
Ha ha... I smack my guy friend's head if he deserves it... He says some pretty stupid or mean things, and he requires a good smacking for it. He says that I'll give him brain damage one of these days... I'm called abusive and mean too... Oh well... :-)
489199
was abused by my father, but was able to forgive him. but if you are unwilling to try the best forgiveness ever given. then you will carry this pain for ever in you and it will suffacate you. please think about finding true forgiveness before this destroys your life. God helped me and my father threw axes, hoes, and tried to run me over. yet hold no grudge.
731129
No, you should treat everyone as you would like to be treated, not as they have treated you.  Can you imagine a society that is out to get everyone at every turn that would be horrible.  Show that you are a better person, by forgiving them and moving on.  Since you have lost trust with this person it is best to just leave them behind.  Why it hurts so much is because they have betrayed your trust.  They were disrespectful and wrong.  I am sure you have heard the phrase forgive and forget, forgive them, but move on.  Forgetting will take time and showing them you are a better person by not reacting the way you want but how you should will make both of you better in the future.
497425
there should be no limit on forgivness. we are all human and screw up. does Jesus put a limit on how many times He will forgive you for your sins? no He doesn't so why should we. if the problem is big enough to where you can't trust him anymore then you probably would just be better off finding someone you can trust. there can never be unconditional love if there isn't trust. so basicly it depends on you how many times you want to forgive.
76759
Yes, however, not usually with the same partner whom they abused.  Generally if you are with an abuser, you create what is typically called a co-dependent relationship where each person unknowingly is drawn to and enables the other.  It's like marrying someone who loves twinkies, and two years after marrying them, you discover you've gained 70 pounds!  The relationship tends to support these ill behaviors and will naturally resist change. This is why when teens go off for "treatment" they often fail when they come home because their ill behaviors gave the family someone to blame problems on.  Once we, as individual people experience change, especially positive change, it is often difficult for those around us to support them and accept them, especially when they have their own issues to develop through.  And this is what I hear in your case.  The fact that you have stayed with an abuser for a long enough time that you are considering sticking with him through the therapeutic and healthy process of change, says that you have some issues of your own that may need to be explored.  For example, if he was abusive to you how were you able to allow someone to treat you like that for so long without leaving, retaliating or standing up for yourself?  Perhaps you have some hard questions to ask of yourself, just like he has to ask of himself.  Another suggestion might be to remain friends who support each other's personal growth, and if in the future, the health and positive change in you both is able to support and nurture a healthy relationship, then consider rejoining in a closer or more intimate relationship.  I strongly believe that it takes a really special person to be able to deal with person issues and also maintain a healthy and stable relationship at the same time.  Sometimes you need to take a break from providing for someone else, and use the time to focus your energy on yourself, so that you can be better.
404792
You just have to accept what happened and forgive him in your head. You'll probably never be able to forgive him in person though.
1040131
Somewhat, but don't let that fool you. He's going to change no matter if you are mean or nice. But if he is just like the other guys, then this is what he will pull. Like for example, whatever he said to, you he'll say that you did the same thing to him, he use that excuse to make you feel guilty all the time. So, be careful on what you forgive, cause he will use that advantage.
678819
If a guy is being abused, it's because he's letting her do it - same as for women.  You have the option to not hang around.\n\nThe reason they say that is because young women tend to go for the "bad boy" - a guy that will be bad to everyone but THEM, so they can say they "won" by changing him - but older women know that is all a fantasy and a lie.  There is no such thing as a bad boy who can be changed by a woman to good.  When a woman learns this, they go to the nice guys who have waited patiently for the women to grow up and figure this out.
733391
Yes.  There is never a good reason to beat him up.  Always allow for explanation.  If you can't accept his explanation, get rid of him.
1152947
You're forgiven!\nJust don't let it happen again! ;0)
241123
Probably no, if it's not in a particular situation.\n\nI agree with awpw : even if you forgive him, you'll always be wondering what they are doing because you have a right not to trust them (you just can't - there'll be always an obssesion, it makes you suspect, question ... everything he does, if he does honestly ...) its too much worry and stress... It won't let you live in peace ...