What is normal to feel and what is signs of still being in love with  an ex?
821891
Ahhh your young, or else you look that way. Your allowed to be a little bitter. However, you do have a very intense fantasy life! You know the old saying of a women scorned? Your getting pretty close to validating it! However, if we all get thrown in jail for our bizarre thoughts then the streets would be empty. Stephen King would be on death row, and I would be right behind him. Tanya, your O.K. I'm O.K. just don't dwell to much on it. You look to pretty to start getting worry lines in your face!
176918
Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
663811
I'm sorry that happen and I can tell u really feel this young lady. And I guess the upside is your still friends. But the reason u feel this way is because ur feelings were true and when u have deep feelings for someone it's hard to let go, she may only love u as a friend because of it was more you'd still be her boyfriend. But if u look at it from another point like the fact that she has a boyfriend and she's still telling you that she loves u, waht does that say about her? I'm sure her boyfriend doesn't know his girlfriend is telling her ec she still loves him.\n\nI have been dump( and I know it's not about me) but I know that it hurts, but I also know that it's no good to hurt too long over someone who dumps or end the relationship and they can move on so easily while the other mate is still hurting. She moved on to the next guy( it may not last) so it's time u move on too. U can continute to be a her friend but don't expect her to come back( even  if she does) be strong and just stay friends with her, because she hurt u once she could repeat it then you'll really feel bad. Move on to a girl who will love and care enough for u not to leave you  or hurt you, once u get out there and find the next girl who's waiting to meet u she will keep u so happy  you'll forget about your ex.. So get out there and meet someone else and get rid of anything that reminds u of her so u won't  stay idle on her.\n\nGood Luck
782517
It was hard for me when I recently got in touch with an (THE) ex. At first it was just friendly, and then we talked a few times and I was hit with so many emotions it felt like I was punched in the stomach.  He was my first true love (at 18) and I realized that I still have feelings for him almost 20 years later-- and we are both married to others with children.  I told him how I felt and it was not great/emotional/embarassing to be feeling and acting like a teenager, though he let me down gently and we are still friendly.   So its been a tough few months. With other exs it has not been an issue, simply friendly, occassional correspondance with guys I knew in middle school, high school.  I think its not an issue if there are not any feelings left but friendly, fond memories.  If you discover, like I did, that the feelings are as fresh as they ever were than its much more complicated.  Good luck.
524436
Listen to your heart and start looking for signs of cheating. I started to have the exact feeling about my ex from 9 years ago. The feeling was very strong and pretty positive. I confronted him, but he just laughed about it. Later he sort of let the cat out of the bag by telling me he was going to hang out with other women and that I should hang out with other men. \nHe wouldn't let me answer the phone, he would get mail from people in the area and hide it, I would come home and find jackets at the house that were not mine, if we went anywhere he would have me drive by the neighborhood floozy's house to see if she was home and things like that. Another thing is, he would sneak out in the middle of the night and think that I didn't know anything about it and one night I was home and this strange car pulled up, I opened the house door and they left in a hurry. \n\nIf he stays out late at night, if is on the internet a lot, if he doesn't let you answer the phone, if he prefers to go out by himself on a frequent basis. Those are some of the red flags. Listen to your heart and be on a look out!
972603
if your still thinking about your ex then you have not given yourself enough time to get over him and have rushed into another relationship....its not fair on your new partner!
298326
it feels like quick heart beats, always thinking about th one u love, wanting to be always near him, want to please him by every way possible u can do. Feel hurt wn u miss him. wn love is perfect it is like heaven, wn it is not it is much heart & pain & hell.
154320
truthfully your ex's never get over you entirely. in any relationship with a true connection there will always be something that reminds you of why you were together. even in bad breakups and relationships you never really get over it you just find something or someone else that lets it fade away but i know when im reminded by someone of when we were "together" my mind rambles on about them for a while.  you just can tell when they have gotten over you enough to feel comfortable around you without wanting or wandering why everything is the way it is now. hopefully you will remain friends. then you cant say you lost anything.
803331
Yes--it's perfectly normal to still miss the person who dumped you and/or the relationship.  Just b/c you miss him doesn't mean that you can't control your behavior or that you have to act on your feelings.  In time, you'll meet other guys, have new experiences, and will enjoy yourself again.  It's impt. to be kind to yourself during this period and take whatever steps are necessary to heal.  I realize it must be tough dealing with the feelings you have, but you will be okay.  It's a real test of your strength and I think you'll be proud of how you dealt with your feelings.  Good Luck
676040
You're not a bad girlfriend, you just need to examine yourself to see if you are really in love with your current boyfriend.  If you keep falling back into love with your ex, it might take some looking into to see if you really are ready to move on.
937389
Depends.  If you're putting all your energy into thinking about your ex, it doesn't necessarily mean they were right for you - it just means you are obsessed with thinking about them.  Find a hobby or do something to occupy more of your time - and when you start thinking about them - immediately work on changing your thoughts to something else.  Time to move on.
54828
only when it feels right. don't rush into anything and recognize that arbitrary time intervals and milestones might put you in a situation that's not right for you. you're going to carry that experience with your ex all the time, because every experience makes you who you are -- so make sure you are ready to carry all of this into your next relationship.
356911
I think u should expect for her to feel a little jealousy about it.  Just make sure u talk to her and let her know you absolutely have no feelings for your ex whatsoever!  Relationships are about trust, so let her know she can trust you!
31615
it feels very nice, and very tingling inside.  you get butterflies in your stomach when you see him/her coming to you.  you feel that you want to be with him/her 24-7.  you feel that there is no one else.  it just feels grat to know that there is someone in the world that loves you for who you are, and that he/she wont judge you.  he/she will love you for no matter what your flaws are.  he/she is there when you need him/her.  it just feels awesome.
328889
I know how it feel to be broke up but want your ex back, it hurts badly, just see it like this, if it's meant for you to be together, he will come back on his on, if it's not, he won't...even if he does, if it's not meant to last, he will leave again, but if it is, eventually he will be there with you forever.....although nothing last forever, he will be with you until one of you die, so just hold on and see what happens, but remember, although you love him, if he doesn't come back, there are plenty others out ther that will be there, I had to make myself realize that, I thought that no-one else out there can make me feel like he did...A LIE!!! when there's something good there's always something better!!!! good luck!!
1036383
Lots of people experience this. Often these kinds of feelings can cause us to act in ways which are not in our best interest.  (e.g. to perpetuate a dysfunctional relationship because we like the way another person makes us feel some of the time.)  Ask yourself: Why is he my *ex*-boyfriend?  Something in the relationship wasn't working for one (or both) of you.  Is there chance that that problem can be overcome and resolved permanently?  Try to look at your own self, and identify ways which you might like to grow as a single person.  You don't actually need this guy, even if it feels like you do.
748508
well I'm only 15 years old but i think i can relate to your situation.  When i was in seventh grade i found my first love.  I loved him so much and we ended up being together for 2 years and 6 in a half months.  i broke up with him because he cheated on me once.  Since then i have missed him soo much. I thought that i needed him in my life to be there for me and to make me happy.  \n\nBut, i finally found someone else and realized that the feelings i had for my EX is nothing close to the feelings that i have for my new boyfriend. \n\nmy point is that you may think that you love him and miss him but what your really missing and in love with is all the good times and the great memories that you too shared together.  \n\nYou dont miss Him!!\n\nYou will  find someone else who will feel the same way you do and you'll be happier.