How do I make my long distance relationship work with my boyfriend? He is in France. I am in USA?
814505
Communication is the most important thing in a realitionship like that and the second thing is trust. If you don't have those two things it makes no sense to try.\n\n\nI have been in two LDRs in my life, the first lasted 2 yrs. I was in Jamaica he was in the US for a part of it. We both ended up having to move, I moved to the US and he moved to England. \nWe kept that relationship alive through e-mails, letters, IMs Random phone calls. \nThe second lasted almost 2 yrs and probably would have lasted much longer if communication didn't break down. I used to see him every 3-4 months for month. I was in the US and He as in SA. (don't ask). \n\nIn neither of the LDRs did i find myself in a fight b/c of the distance but it's possible. Try to talk more remind him that each day a way is one day closer to seeing you again. When you do talk try to talk about things other than "I love you" and  "I miss you" or anythign related to that. It makes life harder. Try to talk about things which interest each of you. Simple things liek how your day was. Or random none personal things like politics, books, just stuff.\n\nGood luck.\n\nps. one thing I just to do send a puzzle ( a gift that i was sure the guy couldn't figure out) it had to relate to either a memory I had of him or somethign related to the relationship. Once he got it generally sparked a conersation and not make him miss me as bad as he did.
82761
well...my lond distance relationship is at a 15 hour diference...u have to trust each other..and everything will be ok! best of luck
152585
In my opinion, I would think that both of you would have to accept the concept of "long-distance relationships" to begin. If one is thinking "long-distance" and the other is thinking "he/she will come visit me" but he/she doesn't, then that will be a problem itself. Secondly, I believe you both have to want the relationship to work out bad enough to where the distance doesn't bother either of you. Again, if one is feeling incomplete because the other is not there, then maybe you two should spend more time getting to know each other. Lastly, communication is key. If you say you're going to visit him/her, DO IT. Don't come up with eXcuses as to why you couldn't make it. That will prove whether or not you want it (him/her/the relationship) bad enough. Sacrifices will have to be made, and if one or neither of you are up to the task, then what is the point in being in a long-distance relationship?\n\nHope that helped!
512649
The key to maintaining a long distance relationship is constant communication. I know it may be expensive to phone him everyday so try other ways like email him, send him free e-cards to express a certain feeling (like "I miss you" or "Thinking of you"), for example. There are tons of free e-card websites. Hallmark.com is a great one, and you just have to register first which is free and then you can send as many e-cards as you want. Take advantage of holidays where he might be coming back down to visit his family or you go up there to visit him. If he really is into you and wants to make the relationship work, he will have no problem paying for 1/2 the ticket or cost to go up there and spend time with him, and vice versa if he wants to come down and spend time with you. I'm not going to lie to you, a long distance relationship is difficult and definitely involves more work than a regular one, but you CAN make it happen if you BOTH really want to. Good luck sweetie.
822898
A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP CAN WORK IF BOTH PEOPLE REALLY WANT  IT TO WORK OUT.BUT YOU NEED\nTO TALK TO HER ABOUT HOW SHE FEEL. BECAUSE YOU DONT WANT TO PUT ALL YOUR EGGS IN ONE BASKET\nSO TALK TO HER ABOUT WHAT GOING ON. THEN GO FROM\nTHERE. BUT IT CAN WORK IT SELF OUT.
313299
will long distance relationships work?
422917
since you have already made up your mind to study abroad, my advise is to just go ahead without worrying about your boyfriend. since you don't believe in long distance relashionships this decision basically means that you have already given up on the relashionship. It sounds to me like you need some time to find out who you are before you can commit yourself. it is only fair that you tell your boyfriend what you are planning. be honest. I wish you well.
60404
If you guys live a long distance from each other, and still are able to see each other a few times a month...it's worth it.  It looks like 1or2 of you are attempting to make this relationship work by seeing each other.  Doesn't that mean anything?  The key to a long distance relationship is trust, communication, trust, and communication.:-)  Don't let the distance fool you into believing that it won't work.  You two keep doing what you're doing...it will work.
1066398
My boyfriend lives 3,000 miles away.  It only works if you both really want it to work.  But eventually someone has to move.
415716
It all depends... are the schools in the same town, is it elementary school, or high school, or college... but the most important thing is that you trust each other enough to not see each other all the time. I know a lot of people who have had long-distance relationships, and most of them have worked pretty well so far. If you think it will be hard not to worry all the time about him being around other people, then it might not work out. Of course, I might be getting too complicated if you're only in elementary school or something.
756941
My cousin had a long time relationship with this girl, he's from Canada and she's from the States. They meet over the Internet and now their married and still in love. I had a long distance relationship and it wasn't that hard to deal with as long as you don't go crazy with a "what if" in the back of your mind and trust your heart that every word spoken is true. Now we live together and I still love him even more then before, and am excited for the years to come. I say if it feels good, and you both can handle the distance between the two of you, give it a try and see as the days go by.
723536
I say keep in touch as much as you can, try both buying webcams to chat and see each other over the internet, that way you can at least see each other, and if it is meant to be, then a year should be no biggie, but definitely keep in touch with him and let him know you exist and are around to be there for him, even though miles apart!
585110
it depends how much you like each other. if you think things could work out then talk to him about maybe going on hols together.am from ireland and i fell for a girl from south africa last year, everyone told me it wouldn't work but we e mail each other every day and now both of us are taking about moving to london. i don't know what your situation is like but it just proves that long distance can work
297938
Well, if you really trust this person, you can always convince yourself that it will work. However, the sad truth is that even the best of relationships have been ruined by long-distance problems. Don't break off too soon, play it by ear. But if you do so, just remember that you may be hurt. Good luck and be strong! =)
608873
I have a fiancee' in another country, and can relate to what you and your boyfriend are going through. \n\nIt is extremely difficult to maintain a relationship at such a long distance. My fiancee' and I have dedicated our hearts and our lives to each other. We both are doing everything we can to bring each other physically back together again.  It has required incredible commitment from both of us to go through all that we have so far.\n\nYour relationship, unfortunately, has doubt and commitment issues fro what you have described. Such issues are tough enough to deal with when you are face-to-face let alone being thousands of miles apart. Assuming that one of you lives in America, dealing with the immigration and visa issues is going to be a task and huge commitment in itself. ANY doubt of commitment is going to show through when you two deal with these issues.\n\nIn my opinion, you need to bluntly find out if your boyfriend is actually willing to commit his life to you, and a good test is for him to work on getting a fiancee' visa for you to visit him or vice versa. If he is serious about getting married, then he will need to do this sooner or later. If he is not willing to commit at least to that, then there is no need to continue the relationship. \n\nGood luck to you!
748857
Well first of all I would almost bet that you will get some smart comment from someone cause of the fact that you met online, but I can relate to you in that way.  I met my current boyfriend online as well.  I live in NY for the time being because of acting and he's from MN, where I'm originally from.  We have made it a point to see each other as often as possible to make sure that we don't grow apart.  We talk on the phone quite a bit and everytime I feel like I might question the whole relationship, hearing him at the end of the day lets me know that it will all work out.  I think that it is definitely possible to make a long distance relationship work as long as you both want it, because when one person isn't fully in it then that's when things seem to go wrong.  I'll be back in MN soon and I'll still be about 4 hrs away from him but that's a lot close than 23-24 hrs.  I can handle that short distance and so can he. I know if you both want it and are really in love then it will work out how it is suppose to.
255927
long distance relationships are always tough, and especally tough if you don't trust the person your trying to have one with, cut your losses and get out while the getting is good, be kind about it though and just blame it on the distance, that way if he moves back over here you could pick up where you left off.