My friend is anorexic?
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tell her parents, or have someone else tell her parents, she could seriously dammage herself or die
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She has a good friend. You're kind of in an awckward position to help an overweight friend. If you try to help her to get thinner, she might end up resenting you because she'll think you don't like her.\nRemember that being fat is not a body problem, it's an emotional problem. What you can help her the most is in raising her self-esteem while she remains fat. Tell her "it's Ok to be fat". Well, not in those words. Say "don't worry about what people say, people are very judgmental, and they don't understand that women have issues". Tell her "I don't think you hate your body because you're overweight, I think you have had emotions you haven't resolved yet". That sounds like psychobabble but it's pretty close to reality. You can probably find a better way to say it.\nIf you're just wishing she was thinner, and she's bringing you down emotionally, you need to think of yourself first, also. You might get to a point where you can't take it, and that is OK, you can take a break too.
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Have another serious talk with her saying "Hey I notice you havent been eating much, is everything ok??"  Don't accuse her of neccessarily having anerexia, as that woould put her on the defense...  Now you're coming across as a good concerned friend...  Maybe it has nothing to do with being aneroxic at all, maybe its a sign of depression...  Did she just recently lose someone close to her??  Or maybe a bad breakup??  Or heck maybe she just hasn't been feeling well the last few days...  See what she says...  If it's only been a few days or so since this pattern started and it's pretty sudden, it could be one of the above, just be there for her for the next few days till she slowly gains back her appetite...  IF however this has been an ongoing issue, whether or not she admits it (she'll probably be in denial even with herself) I would then say "well, you might say it's no big deal, but I am truly concerned for you..  I have noticed that all you ate today was a tic-tac and an apple, or whatever, and then tell her this is not healthy...  Mention again what you said about the running and healthy foods, which should be part of any healthy lifestlye, even if your not on a "diet", tell her you want her to help yourelf, but she's gotta do it when she's ready, and in the meanwhile if she ever needs anything to call you day or night to talk (even if it has nothing to do with food, like i said earlier there could be an underlying emotion helping cause this, the best thing you can do is just be there as a friend)...  From there back off for a few days or so, unless you see herself in an immediate life threatning situation, such as she's talking about suicide and stuff...  See if she takes your advice and starts to get help oh her own...  If she doesn't look like she's going to take responsibility for her own actions and seek help on her own, then you might have to...  Maybe go to her again and say "You know I noticed this situation hasn't getting any better (and possibly even worse) You leave me no choice but to go to the authority (whether it be a councelor, school nurse, trusted teacher) myself, that's my duty as a friend...  If you'd like we can go together to talk to them, and I'll be there every step of the way with you, but if you don't come with me, I'm still going to tell them..." She might be mad at you, but in time will thank youo....  Aneroxia is a very seriouos conditioon and needs to be adressed, don't let the possibility of having a friend mad at you, stop you..  I'd rather have a mad friend than no friend, and aneroxia is indeed fatal in the long-term...  Thing is it's one of those slow deaths where your body will just weaken to nothing, but your not going to die from starving yourself one day, many people fast for religious purposes, etc. for a 24-hour period...  Your body has enough fat and nutrients stored that you can survive, but over time, it WILL kill...  PLease talk to her today, don't procastinate...  Good luck to both of you
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There are many reasons why surgery would be a bad idea for your friend,  most have been mentioned by previous respondees so I will not repeat them.  \n\nMay I suggest that you are looking at this the wrong way?  The problem may not be so much how to get your friend smaller,  but rather,  to get your friend to look at the causes of her being overweight.  There are many reasons why a person would be overweight,  either by choice (concious or sub-conscious) or a physical cause.  The most common emotional reasons are:\n\nA fear of being attractive to the opposite sex\nAn addiction to food (could be caused by many things)\nA fear of being "small"\ninsecurity\nLow self esteem\nA desire to be accepted\nA fear of being accepted\n\nand so on\n\nAs you can see,  these are pretty serious things and so I would really recommend your friend spend her money on therapy rather than surgery\n\nThere are also a number of physical reasons why your friend may have weight issues such as thyroid imbalance,  genetics,  hormone related problems,  medication,  IBS and the list goes on.\n\nMay I suggest that it would be a better friendship if you accepted her fully for who she is now and not what she may be if she fitted into societys ideal weight.
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Others are wrong when they say you either are or aren't anorexic. There is an inbetween. I started out with a mild case of anoexia and it grew tremendously. Be careful, dear. If you even have thoughts about yourself being anorexic, you probably are. Please, get some help now. Anorexia will most likely be a struggle for your entire life if you don't nip it in the bud. Good luck and stay healthy. I will be thinking about you.
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I suffered from Anorexia as a teenager... I was always tired and cranky. Once I started eating again and exercising in moderation I was a happy girl. Your body needs food as it is fuel for your body, without it you are a tired, cranky piece of sh!t!\n\nTell him to lose weight the sensible way! Eat lots of healthy food and exercise!
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It looks like she has an eating disorder and she doesn't want to admit it.
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hmmm...she knows she is fat already. She might not want to talk about it but she is aware. The real question is why? \n\nCertainly take her to the gym, only eat healthy foods when you are with her but the best thing might be to be a friend and help her discover why she has let herself go....\n\nSometimes being heavy is in your DNA--and sometimes its in your emotional DNA.
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i feel bad for you, and I'm sorry. i had a friend with an eating disorder. please don't do this to yourself. its not about food, there is an underlying issue. please contact the hospital, they will put you in with a phsycologist. or better yet call the help line at 18009312237
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Are you anorexic?\nTry this link and calculate your BMI. \nhttp://www.cdc.gov/nccdphp/dnpa/bmi/calc-bmi.html\nAnorexia is not a disease, it's a mental problem, a confused body image that leads to unhealthy eating habit.\nDo you always feel that you're to fat, and you want to be as skinny as possible? Are you constantly afraid to eat anything because it will make you gain weight? If the answers is yes, then your friend maybe right  . . . .
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well you could her by encourging her that she isnt fat but that wont do much,the only thing that will really help is when she believes that she isnt fat.Good Luck
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No, there is much more to anorexia than that. No wonder he is a drop out.
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Yes, she never had ANOREXIA, or took drugs or anything like that!  People lie A LOT.  And they make up a lot of stuff.  She's 18, and she is great at singing, dancing, and acting.  She's a supercool role model!
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It's hard to put together your statement that you are a little chubby with your friends claim that you are anorexic. If you are really the right weight for your body type and you are not losing weight, anorexia seems an unlikely diagnosis. However, I am troubled by your statement that "the minute I eat I feel bloated and fat." If you are eating healthy foods, you should not be feeling that way every time you eat. So your friends may be onto something. Many anorexics keep insisting they are overweight even when they are dying of starvation. Best solution is to go to a medical professional to verify that you are indeed at the right weight and that you are eating a reasonable diet for someone of your age and build.
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Unfortunately I have had many friends with eating disorders, some much more serious than others. Some will listen to advice and some only listen to the voices in their heads telling them that they are fat.\n\nIf you think that your friend is still at a point where you can talk some sense into her tell her something along the lines of...\n\n"Look, you are my friend and I care about you a lot. It really upsets me that you can't see how beautiful you are. It makes me feel awkward that you seem to have developed some competitiveness about being the slimmest. Life's too short to worry about dieting and being thin. Just be healthy and enjoy life."\n\nIf you think that she is resorting to skipping meals or making herself sick then you need to speak to her parents or get her to speak to a doctor or counselor asap.\n\nYou need to also work out why she wants to be thin; does she feel unattractive and have generally low esteem? Has she grown up in a home where the mum always diets and has weighing scales around the house? I have friends with mothers who are like this and comments like "honey, you've put on weight" slowly eat away at them. Are there other areas of her life that she feels she has no control of and uses her food intake as a method of feeling in control of one area of her life? There may be a few reasons but by getting to the root of the problem you are more likely to find a solution.\n\nI hope some of this helps.
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First and foremost realize that she doesn't have an eating disorder if what your saying is true. What she has is self esteem issues because she is a little bit overweight. Eating salt will only dehydrate you and only SOMETIMES limiting your caloric intake will actually make you gain weight because your body will go into "starvation mode" and store all food that you take in as fat. Your friend however seems to have the mind set-up of someone that could really develop an eating disorder. Tell her she's pretty and that if she really wants to lose weight plan it as a long term goal for HERSELF not so she can be popular, have a boyfriend etc. and most importantly tell her to talk to her parents or a school nurse or doctor to help her plan her diet and exercise regimen.
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Anorexia Nervosa is an eating disorder where the person has a distorted body image and, in some, also a feeling of loss of control (due to home life).  She feels that her weight is one thing can control.  So she starves herself.  Unfortunately, no matter how thin she gets, she still sees herself as fat.  Some even starve themself to death.  Here is a link to tell you more about it.\nhttp://aolsvc.health.webmd.aol.com/content/article/8/1680_54205.htm