I am in a new job where I work with at risk youth.  I dislike my boss.  How do I cope?
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Honesty is a remarkably powerful option here, both with yourself and with your boss.  There is risk / benefit to consider both on the side of taking action, or accepting the circumstances and focusing on not letting your contempt for your boss interfere with your job satisfaction.  \n\nI believe strongly that if you have contempt for your boss, your best move no matter how difficult, may be to bite the bullet and move on to another company.  Contempt is a very strong emotion - could your boss really ever redeem himself in your eyes?  If you can't change things at your company, and you are not willing to leave, then you need to give yourself permission to take your situation with your boss in lighter terms.  \n\nTry talking to your bosses boss, but that could quickly back fire if your boss's boss thinks you are the problem, not your boss
774294
GET OUT NOW!!\n\nYou don't owe this person ANYTHING!!\n\nFor a boss to say it's a 'personality clash' is diabolical!!\n\nWhat kind of management style is that? S**t - that's what!!\n\nYou SO deserve better.\n\nGO RIGHT THIS MINUTE AND DON'T LOOK BACK!
964939
Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer.\n\nbefriend this person, don't complain about them any more, and wham when ever they say  bad - you can casually mention to the boss which is negative about the job or your boss let your boss know :)  Yeah be a backstabber/brown noser
534870
I would keep out of it, and keep away from them. It's not your business to manage her. \n\nIs there a boss above your boss? If it becomes an issue in work performance, go to that person or go to HR.
1042474
Well at nineteen you still have alot to learn. But if someone is truly practicing discrimination or rascism report it , then file a complaint with a civil liberties group. Or get a lawyer. But too many people use it as an excuse for poor performance and a lousy work ethic. If you are truly doing a great job,write out why you should get a raise and be promoted and bring it to your boss to discuss it in an assertive and respectful way. Not aggressive way or whiny way. Good Luck.
349470
I have had the same problem in the past well it was kind of a mutual thing.  Things are different now  because we have history.  The best advice I can give you is to use the time you have at your job to do it well and exceed your boss's standards.  After some time, they will see that you are a great asset.
811510
I'd stick around a little while and feel it out.  I'm in a similar situation where I would much rather be doing another aspect of my job (which I'm good at doing and like much more), but there's not many people who are good at another aspect so I get stuck on it continually.  The management knows that I'm not happy there, so they're trying to find someone else (since they know I'll probably leave if they don't).\n\nIf it seems like with the next project he's getting dibs over you, then maybe it's time to approach your employer and ask why.  Who knows, they might training him because they have a bigger and better project for you in the works.
725883
The answer is that she is just being personal and that's not being professional. I have seen one of my lady bosses treating several staff that she dislike this way and worst, she can be a totally different person with staff that she LIKES. After a while, all the staff that she don't like left the company and she still thinks she is right. There's only three solutions to the this problem\n1) Leave and find a better environment-you may even have another one of this ppl in yr new workplace-so its realy a matter of luck\n2) Stay and ignore her completely. If you don't have a line of report to her, just do your job and make sure that she cannot find any loopholes that you didn't do your job correctly\n3) Thirdly, try to win her over and get into her good books. It sounds tough but sometimes, we have to take a look at where we have gone wrong and amend our own character. Its not easy and takes alot of you swallowing your pride and giving her the leeway\n\nOther than this, I dunno how to help. I have been working for almost 20 yrs, seen the good and bad of bosses and I'm still learning daily how to handle them\n\nGood luck...
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Are you hotter than them? Maybe it's jealousy. Do you actually do a better job than them other than the few mistakes you made? Maybe they are intimidated. Its sounds like they are immature. I'm not sure why this job is so valuable to both of you but maybe you could consider transferring to another department? Maybe contact your human resources or equal opportunity section, if you have one, to see if they have any advice. If not then maybe mediation is the only option. Tell your boss and the other two that its not a healthy work environment and you think production in the office would improve drastically if something were to change...maybe more solo projects or moving cubicles to allow a little more privacy. It can be hard confronting superiors but what it sounds like is they are threatened that you might outshine them, my best advice is to keep doing your best, eventually you will get recognized and hopefully their bad attitudes will get recognized too (in a not so good sort of way)... GOOD LUCK!!
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Rise above it. If she deliberately embarasses you, then she is the problem. Do your work well and professionally. Talk with her and inform her that you would prefer to be told about your mistakes in private so that you could remedy them. Always be professional and job oriented. Bosses hate office politics....Document all incidents that are caused by her, if it continues over a period of time approach the person over both of you. If you are doing your work well, it will show.  If she is the boss, get out now while you still have some self esteem.  Good luck.  Be proactive, not reactive.
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Tell your new boss you have to finish out your time because it's the right thing to do.  They should admire you for that.\n\nIf not then tell your old boss that you're going to lose the other job and that you are sorry to let the down.\n\nJust be honest.  Don't look for excuses or sneaky ways to get out of it.
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If you're his boss (you didnt say) thats easy, you posture him.  If you work under him, if you want to keep your job you have to roll with it.  Find a happy place in your mind and go there when his gums start flapping.\n\nIf you love the job, learn to deal with it.  If it doesnt matter, there is always Monster.com for jobs, or better if you have a network of friends or potential employers.
593119
Get a different job where you can be the supervisor.  You can only change you and your behavior, not him.  Have your own business if you can't find a boss you like.  Be your own boss.
1074267
Write a nice letter to your boss, then go in and give it to him/her and sit down and have a chat. Explain how much you've enjoyed working with them but say that, as in life generally, sometimes you have to move on. Keep it friendly and stress what a good boss they have been and how much you have learned. Also offer to help with recruitment for your replacement. It's very hard and I've been in the same position - you feel personally responsible for letting them down - but try not to feel like that. It is only a job after all. Good luck and enjoy your new job!
919060
It sucks but sometimes when you are in a position of needing the job, you have to find ways of dealing with it. Just remember that its JUST a job, its not your life, and everyday when you leave the parking lot leave your job there to. Go home and have fun with your kids. Maybe if you were to look at it that way and just have an I DONT GIVE A RATS ASS attitude then it will get easier to deal with and it wont seem like everyone's out to get you. Then maybe you'll get along better too.
861914
You should try to ignore them. You're there to work, so just work and ignore them, that's the best thing you can do and you won't get in trouble
727885
you should tell them you don't appreciate them disrespecting you and especially in front of people if you keep letting them do it there not going to stop. until you let them know how you feel .your just being too nice and that's OK but you have feelings too . tell them to treat you like they want to be treated ,they shouldn't threaten your job either that's not very professional .she could lose her job also  and start taking your lunch i would just do my job and go home you dont need friends like them .