Who decides on what faith my baby will be baptized , us the parents or the ever controlling in laws ?
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what did you and your husband discuss before you were married?  If you agreed at that point to have the children baptized in the Greek Orthodox Church, then I guess you should do what you said.  But otherwise, this really has nothing to do with your inlaws, it is between you and your husband.  I am Catholic too, and Greek orthodox is pretty darn close to Catholicism, and, if it makes you feel better, the baby can be baptized in their Church and still raised Catholic.  A baptism really initiates the child as a Christian,and their is no "re-baptism" anyway.  But really, if you plan to raise the child Catholic, then it just makes since to baptize in your own parish church.  This inlaw thing will only get worse if you cave on this point, stand up for what you believe now and set a precident.  good luck!
174945
Well, if the son-in-law is a bum, parents tend to not like this.  They want someone who is going to be a good husband for their daughter, and a good daddy for their grandchildren.\n\nI'm going to go ahead and assume that you are referring to yourself.  If you would like to get into the good graces of your in-laws you need to start by being a responsible adult, and have a decent job.  I'm not sure if English is your first language or not, but regardless, it looks as if you could benefit yourself, and family by going back to school, and getting an education.  This will go a long way in appearing responsible to them, and getting yourself a better career.
412671
As the Devil's Advocate, I hereby grant you limited privelege to use the Unholy Name "Satan" to describe your inlaws to the extent that:\n1) you make no claim to the name Satan as your own original intellectual property and\n2) you do not intend to profit or otherwise benefit from Satan's name without first selling your soul to him\n\nPlease continue- she sounds like such a nice lady.
905657
Just being baptized is pointless. If your daughter gets baptized because you or her mother say so, she might as well just be playing in water.
502275
I have always thought that was an absurd thing myself.  How can an innocent child be damned like that?  Personally, I did not have my child baptized.  I have taught her to be open minded and if SHE wants to explore getting baptized into a religion of HER choice, she can do that when SHE deems to.
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I'm sorry your parents force you do something you don't want to do. I'm sure they mean well, but understand God himself is not like that. Just hang in there fo the time being. Soon you will be old enough that you will be able to go or not and do what you want to do. But please understand, again, God is not that way. Don't write Him off because you don't like your church or religion. It doesn't matter to him if you ever set foot in a church again, but He does love you and He wants a personal relationship with you. My husband actually went through the same thing. His parents forced him to go to church, so by the time he grew up, he wnated nothing to do with it at all. It wasn't until he was an adult that he actually met God. It turns out God had nothing to do with his parents' church or religion. But God did become real to him and it changed his (my husband's) life forever. So for now just understand church and religion are one thing, but God himself is another.
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If I were the youth pastor, I would give the following response...\n\nTo honor your mother and father is not always to "obey". You could say, "Mother, Dad, I appreciate your input--I honor and respect your advice highly, but in this case, I think it would be in my best interest to..." What parent, in their right mind, would not feel honored? Parents want their children to make intelligent choices, not be micromanaged on every decision or dilema.\n\nNow, first, if you are under their roof, you are under their authority and care. You must take this in to account. If you live on your own, you are under your own rules for living. If you are under the legal age to live on your own, you are under your parents guidance and care.\n\nOK, let's say you honor your parent's wishes and skip the youth group event. What message have you sent? That you care about your parents will and opinion--even if it is wrong or goes against your faith. You value God's command to honor your parents--even though your faith has brought a division among the family. You have provided a far better witness of your faith by NOT attending, than you would BY attending. Do you see? Whatever you missed at the youth group event, God will restore one-hundredfold later because of your obedience at the present time.\n\nI would advise, don't go. And tell your parents it is because you honor their opinion. If they tell you to drop your faith in Christ, then you can break out the sword and say, "No." and go against their counsel.
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That is definately a tough one to deal with. Unfortunately the answers are not what we really want to hear. You see God set up the family system to work a certain way. You see all troughout the Bible that families come in many shapes and sizes and all of the children from both or from previous honored and obeyed their current father. \n  Now the good part!  The Word indicates that when two people are wed that they shall leave their father and mother and give themselves to each other.  They have essentially become a new family unit.  In that unit the husband is set up as the spiritual leader and the woman gains profound blessings. By that you are no longer under the authority of either of your parents.  Honoring them is still important as well as honoring each other. However, obeying every whim is not necessary. \nI do not know the situation you have but I can tell you putting God first, then your husband, and then family, will really help in a lot of things.  Father in Laws may be full of good advice and wisdom but we are not bound to use it any longer.  Listen to him. Honor him by living a life worthy to his son. But do not feel like you have to be what he wants you to be. Your family should be different than theirs.
475908
Treat your spouse with respect and kindness. Be there when needed. Allow your spouse to be who she/he is without trying to change him/her. Your in-laws will think you are the best when you treat their child right.
13612
I am not aware of any legalities that you have to concern yourself with while the parents are alive.  Being a godparent is typically an honor bestowed upon an individual or couple, with the expectation of taking care of the children should both parents become incapacitated or deceased (indicated in their Last Will & Testaments).  As to specific duties, it is best to talk to the parent asking you to be a godparent, as everyone has different expectations.  Catholic Clergy also might be able to help with this.
339044
the husband and wife should work things out together, neither should have the say so, just because of who they are, the parents have nothing to do with any decision you may have, they might give advice if asked.
556767
JewJew, never mind the immature answers from some of the previous entries. \n\nLook, there are other alternatives to your situation.  It is wonderful that you and your husband have the love that you do for children and want to have more in your family.  Some families out there don't care enough for the children that they have been blessed with.  You can see that play right out on your answer list by those that probably were not brought up with a lot of morals.\n\nWhich brings us to the next point I am going to make.  There are a lot of children already out there that need loving families.  Such as yourselves.  Adoption would definitely be something to consider, without taking the medical risk that you are willing to.\n\nThis would be worth your time to look into, and as I already stated, don't be bothered by some of the other previous answers because they undoubtedly do not have a clue on what good parenting is all about, whether you have an entire house full of kids, or just one.\n\nGood luck to you and your husband's decision, Make it an act of faith!!   God Bless you and your family.....
250686
Your husband is absolutely correct hon and you should listen to him for his heart is in the right place. I am a person who doesnt have much of a faith but was brought up christian and am with a Jew.  Quite the mix according to our families.  You just have to hold your head a little higher and know that your heart is where it belongs.  If it gets hard just let it out from time to time.  The comments will come but remember they are only words and when you are home and night you can close the door and not let the world inside.  I wish you luck hon.
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Well, I completely understand where you're coming from. You want to be loved and welcomed, but unfortunately, not all in-laws work out that way (no matter what the race, religion, etc.). My grandmother's mom HATED my grandfather for years, and he wound up eloping to marry her.  They are both the same exact religion and ethnicity too. Eventually, the mother grew to appreciate and respect my grandfather and my grandparents have been married for almost 60 years. \n\nThing is, you shouldn't have to deal with going someplace where you are "tolerated", but again you don't always have control over that. All that you can do, is just suck it up for your wife, kids, and be the better man. Eventually, I would say talk to your wife about having your OWN holidays though and if her parents want to visit YOU then that's fine, this way they are on "your turf" now so to speak and if they disrespect you, you can ask them to kindly leave your home.
779843
You can pray for whomever you like.  God doesn't bias against anyone.  Although, you shouldn't be praying that you become the right person (It's a little selfish) but that the child and his mother find the right person for them.  If it is you, that's great.  If not, the family is still going to do well.  \nYou may pray that you also find someone to share your life with and whom you can make happy.\nGood luck and God bless!
73242
There's a mircale hapenning to me every week. But one that's really outstanding is that my parents never got along. Their marriage was a total wreck. In my childhood I used to see my parents fight and my mom full of brewses and everything. they eventually divorced. Two moths after i accepted Jesus as Savior, I started praying for them, and in 2 weeks they started getting along, and ever since (it's been 4 yrs now)we've been living together and they get along alot better than married couples. God be glorious!
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Take the responsibilities, marry her!\nIf you're not prepared for that, you must tell both your and her parent that you're the father of unborned child and wish to give the baby to anyone wants to adopt him/her.\n\nWish you good luck!