depressed and a alcoholic?
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I am in the same shape as that man due to post traumatic stress. It took a long while for me to get help but recently I went to a phsychiatrist. I think if at all possible you should try and get him to talk to a professional. I had to get to the bottom of what was pissing me off before I could give up the drink and its working. The drinking is jsut Self medication on his part for the depression but you have to convinvce him that with talking and newer medication his quality off life will be better than as a part time drunk "with or without you in it". Peace be with you, Uncle B
8614
I think you're a fox. Alcohol is the exact opposite thing to do for depression. Trust me. It's making you feel worse about yourself.\n\nFind a hobby (for me it was the gym) and focus all that negativity into something good.\n\nConsult a physician too. It's possible this could be more of a medical problem.
696432
I'm not clear on exactly what information you want, but this is what I think you mean... \n\nIf you have a psychiatric diagnosis (such as Major Depression, Bi-Polar, personality disorders, etc) and you also have a an addiction such as alcohol or drugs, it's known as a duel diagnosis. They have a tendency to feed off of each other so it is very important that you receive treatment for both. When your feeling really down (or really up, or just really unstable or very emotional) it will definitely make it harder to to maintain sobriety.
429652
You don't. From what little you have said you have an ALcoholic for a mate. You CANNOT help him unless he wants help. But there are organizations you can call for help, like al-anon. As for him, he must be willing to step up to the plate and take responsibilities for his actions. This will be a starting point. It will take time. But unless and this is unless he is willing to step up to the plate there isn't one thing you will be able to do to help him.
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I suffer from depression a lot of the time because I'm 18, married, with a 4 month old, and time get very hard. My husband and I struggle to become one with each other but he drinks and it sometimes gets hard to get close especially intimately. But I pray and try to keep my mouth closed about some of the things I don't like him doing in hopes he will recognize them on his own.
966161
You need to find an A.A. counselor, not someone to get drunk with.  Get help now.
747763
a drinking problem? lol. no seriously I would go get checked out. sounds like some kinda chemical imbalance in your brain...
119788
I am.  Been going to AA a year.  He is.  I was totally functional, never missed work, etc.  But drank almost every night.\n\nGuidance lies in the answer to the following question:  Why does he drink at all?  What is the negative part of life that he wishes to escape from or at least numb every night?  For me, it was simply the world.  (Too many mean people, too many corrupt politicians, too many wars, too much stress, too many idiots, etc.)  But when one considers the negative ramifications of drinking, especially on health, finances and relationships, it is truly better to live life sober on life's terms.  The problem is that sounds like a miserable proposition to an alcholic.  The truth, though, is after going to AA for a while, the laughter starts to come back, the peace of mind, the serenity.  Life becomes a joy again that doesn't need to be numbed every night.\n\nGood luck!
195924
No. But if it really isn't helping, then maybe you should leave her one that says "I care and I'm here for you." \n\nShe might feel like you're nagging. If she has a drinking problem it won't get better until she recognizes the problem for herself, and then seeks treatment on her own initiative.
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You need to see your doctor and tell him this.  You sound like a perfect candidate for antidepressants - they changed my life.  I used to drink a lot and feel down all the time, and couldn't sleep either.  For the last 6 years I have been on Celexa and it has brought back the real me - the energetic, cheerful person I was in my teens.  I also sleep better and haven't had a drink in  years.  They really turned my life around!\n\nDon't worry, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.  I hope you feel less sad soon - truly.
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Deja Vu!?!?!?\nMy dh suffers from depression, (yet refuses to take  meds the doctor prescribed), and alcoholism runs (more like gallops) in his family, but still he denies HE has a problem.   \n\nHe decided after many good ears, that he just wanted out!  No reason,.....  he refused to attend counselling, and "marriage counselling" takes both partners attending.\n\nKids and I  let him know he was loved, valuable and that we all wanted him to stay.  He just refused to take meds, got into hiding his drinking, and had an affair and moved out.\n\nI learned the hard way, but any 12-step program (AA, etc) will tell you  that the first step is for the person  to admit  that he/she has a problem.  Until they admit  that, and decide that they WANT to change,.....  there is no-one that can MAKE them change.\n\nYour wife seems to be just as confused.  She's got to decide what  she wants first.  Then, and only then, can you guys try to fix it up.\n\nFor the sake of your kids and the marriage, I hope she gets medical supervision for the depression and gets off the booze.  Booze and depression are a BAD combination.
677456
Sounds like you are a binge drinker. And yes that makes you an alcoholic. You need to go to AA.
582162
Take care of your drinking problem first. If he is non supportive, then you need to find someone else. At least you acknowledged that you had a problem and are doing something about it. If you stay in that problem, you will have more serious things to worry about than your boyfriend. If people you care about cannot be there for you when you are in a personal crisis, then that should open your eyes up about them, and how "shallow" they are. Some people view seeking help from an outside org. such as AA, as a sign of weakness. That is the dumb thinking of prideful people, who would rather go down with the ship than to reach for a life saver. If they are willing to go down like that, then believe that they would also take you down with them! Hopefully your b/f will come around, and stop being selfish. Nevertheless, whatever he does, don't let it stop you from helping yourself.
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Being a retired mental health practitioner with 20+ years experience, I can tell you from all that psychiatric and counseling care I provided that one who is diagnosed as having a bipolar disorder SHOULD NOT be "getting hammered", if by that you mean drunk from alcohol or other drugs, whether they are on medication or not.  Alcohol and other "street drugs" offer no long term remedy from a long term illness.  Contrarily, they offer only severe cyclic affective disorders which only exacerbates the problem.  I have had clients who came to our clinic who have used alcohol to "self-medicate" their bi-polar disorder, but finally turned to a regimented care since they could not control their alcoholic intake and the destruction caused by self-medicating with alcohol and other illegal drugs really made a mess of things.  I hope I have made this clear for you without being too wordy.  God Bless you.
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what do you do as a job? i found that i had to change my attitude in a lot of different areas of my life. i don't know exactly what i'd suggest for you since i'm not sure what type of work you do. are you religious at all? that is something i got away from and i found myself sinking deeper and deeper into anger and despair. have you talked to your doctor about it? i have had to stay on an antidepressant. my family has a history of depression. sometimes we just have chemicals in our brains that are out of whack. it is hard to deal with life if your brain isn't working properly. i have made myself always look on the bright side. i dont' know you, but as a starter, you can be happy that you have a roof over your head and at least some type of employment. i honestly know how you feel. please don't consider killing yourself. i don't know how many times i made passive/aggressive attempts to harm myself. i was wreckless and i did not care at all. it's an awful feeling. i really suggest you talk to a doctor. psychological sickness is the same as physical sickness. some people do not understand that. there are methods to heal yourself. please talk to someone. i'll say a prayer for you.
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The situation is out of your control. You are an active participant in her sickness, you need professional help.  I would start looking at a residential treatment facility for her.  you also need to talk to a marriage & family, or drug treatment therapist about it.  You need to get well just as she does. Alcoholism controls the family, not just the alcoholic.
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My dad was depressed as well, so is my mom. My Dad drank himself to death and my mom almost killed herself. I on the other hand am not depresed. There isnt much you  can do because it has to do with chemicals in the brain. They do have drugs like prozac, that do help. Exercise may also cure depression. Stay close to your dad and let him know he has your support. Try not to get pissed at him or nething over it. Its all in his mind. You will find if you havnt already that fighting does not solve nething its better to walk away. I know its probably rough, but stand strong!!