Can you forgive or just forget when a friend hurts you more than once?
821467
You can always forgive, there are no limitations there. You can never forget because once something has been done the memory will always be there. The real question should be should you forgive and that will depend upon a lot of factors. Is this a constant reoccurring problem? Is your friend hurting you intentionally or is s/he just not tactful or too bright? If the hurting is intentional I would point that out to the friend and tell them that if they value your friendship their behavior will need to come to a stop. If they refuse to stop they are not a true friend and you would be better off not associating with them anymore.
225953
I believe anything can be forgiven in time.  Even 21 years of abuse from a parent (which I dealt with) was forgiven, albeit because the man died and I had to learn to cope with it all, but I still forgave.  Just remember that forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting.
406161
You can only say you're sorry so many times. You just have to give it time for them to get over it. Nothing else is going to help..
1153044
you answered your own question. Listen to your inner voice. Drop her she will do it again. the only reason she is sorry is because she got caught. Do you think she would of apologized if you had not of brought it up? NO . With a friend like her you do not need enemies.
276640
If this person was a true friend, if they are aware they are hurting you, they would stop doing it and appologize.\n\nTherefore, discuss your feelings and work it out.  If nothing changes, this person is NOT a friend, and you can feel free to stop the relationship.
1044660
Okay I have told you a bunch of times that every time you forgive her you get hurt in the end. I'm not kidding. Every time you get hurt in the end. Plus you guys won't be going to the same school anymore so it will be a bit easier for you not to get hurt. Yes, I know that she has helped you but think about it in the end you get hurt. I'm not trying to break your friendship but you need to think about he facts.\n\nYou always get hurt even if she brings you happiness you end up getting hurt. I am trying to help you. I really don't have a big say in this because in the end it's your decision. No one else on this site can tell you what to do and make up the decision because in the end it's you who will have to decide. \n\nAll I'm saying is that is the friendship worth it that you always get hurt in the end.
53864
Yes.  Maybe later than sooner but yes.  Even the real BIG things.  My mother told me once, if I can't forgive, how do I expect God to forgive me.  That pretty much grounds my decisions.  It may take a long time.  It doesn't have to be instant but, it does have to happen.  And once you forgive them.  DROP IT.  Have you ever made a mistake and someone reminded you over and over and over and over and . . . it gets old.  Take your time and your space to work things out for you.  Don't be manipulative, it's not worth it (it may be a bit fun but not worth it).  Good Luck
545498
That's a hard one. It's really going to take a while for your friends to forgive you. What I think you should do is give them some space, then do something HUGE that says "I'm sorry and I've learned my lesson. I won't lie to you anymore." That might work pretty good. Good luck and I hope I helped you! :)\n\nPS. I'm sorry can work magic in situations like this.
5809
No it is not.  Once you have had a relationship with someone you can not go back to just friends.  You either have hard feelings you can not let go of or you will revisit the past on a occasion.
600169
You should tell her that you forgive her for what she has done that you know it was an accident that it just really hurt you and that you shouldnt have let that come between your friendship and that you really miss her and that you just want to try and fix things so they can be back to the way they were and that your sorry you took so long to tell her this but if she could find it in her heart to forgive your reaction to her ruining your important thing and become your friend again.I also dont think you can move on from it because that is a long time to have a friend and if yall were really good friends like you say you will never forget her and you will wonder all the time what if i had told her i missed her and we could have been good friends again so i think you should try and fix the friendship instead of just trying to forget and if she says she doesnt want to will then atleast you can move on knowing that you tried thats all you can do good luck i hope i helped
445576
I think when the trust is broken,\nyou'd really need to give it time.\n\nYou cannot expect it to be alright after doing something as an apology, meaning, it might really be difficult to wipe away the hurt caused.\n\nIf it's something you did that hurt him/her,\nmaybe you have to use your actions to show him/her that that was just a mistake and it would never happen again.\n\nIt's going to take time,\nI don't think it'll be an immediate effect.\n\nSo if he/she's really so important to you,\nand you didn't mean to hurt her.\nYou have to be patient.\n\nBecuase it's not so easy.\nAll the best.
312229
All friendships have their "ups and Downs".\nIf you expect someone to be perfect and never make mistakes, you will end up very lonely.  We all stuff up and do the wrong thing from time to time.  It's our true friends who will stick with us through it though.\n\nIf you are thinking of ending the friendship, ask yourself "Have I ever done something similar?"\nIf you really can't forgive her then move on, but if you can forgive her, put it all behind you and start from here on.\nDon't keep bringing up what she did wrong, but do be more cautious until she proves herself trustworthy again.
1071528
I vote, forgive AND forget. Why else would you bother calling her your BEST friend rather than just a friend? Take a chance, a risk. I think she's worth it. We all make mistakes.
1028456
Forgive others many times so you can also be forgiven
895014
Obviously you know they weren't really "friends" right?  Friends wouldn't do that to each other.  I've been there and I know how much it hurts.\n\nA friend would support your decisions (even if they didn't agree with them) and they would "be there for you" when you needed them.  Don't sweat these so-called "friends" they aren't worth your time.\n\nYou may never "forget" what they did but that doesn't mean you can't "get over" it.  Yes, it just takes time.  Of course you're hurt, you trusted them and thought they were "friends".\n\nYou should try to "forgive" them, (even if you are unable to at the moment), because keeping all that bad energy inside will only hurt you.  \n\nYou sound like a nice person and anyone would be happy to have a "friend" like you.  Just chalk it up to "experience" and forget about them.  They don't deserve you as a friend, and they aren't worth your time.\n\nBest of luck to you.
247475
it all depends on what you have done. some things are just not forgiveable or atleast forgettable. i messed up on something with one of my best friends now i am lucky to see him maybe a few times a year and that's usually like in the park becaue we both go there. He don't come by he rarely if ever calls. If i call him sometimes he might call me back but thats the price i guess you pay for screwing up. i mean i know i messed up and i have tried so many things to prove that i know i messed up and it wont happen again but its their choice. when you have been hurt by someone close to you even if it wasn't on purpose and they are sorry its hard to ever trust them again. give it time. keep showing ur friends that you sorry and it wont happen again. but in the end its their choice they were hurt and not everyone is going to risk it again even if you really are sorry. you have to live and learn. learn from your mistake and dont let it happen ever again to anyone.
230797
Yes for most people. Giving someone else a second chance also says a lot about yourself. Some things simply cannot be forgiven, but they tend to be things of a violent nature. Try to forgive and forget when posible.