is it fair to ground a child for his/her poor grades even when he/she is trying?
823103
i wouldnt say so...my lil sister went through grades 9 and 10 with barely passing marks.  My parents tried everything to get her to try harder, to get better marks.  Cash, punishment, vacations, you name it.  The teachers at her school finally told her to just try doing government schooling at home (called Distance Learning).  She is now doing much better, she can work at her own pace, and if she really needs help, she can go into the office and get it.  \n\nAgain, it could not be your child, it could be there environment.  And if you child really is trying, its not fair to the kid to punish them for their lack of abilities.
949874
If your child is causing other children harm their is a proper way many teachers are thought to restarint a kid. Other wise I dont think you are suppposed to.
299866
Try being a little bit more strict, not to the point of being harsh though. Just let them know that you are their teacher, and they need to stay on task. Also be consistent with your punishings. For instance, if one week you punish a lot of children for talking, and the next week you slack off a little bit, then they may get the idea that its okay to talk whenever they want to. Hope this helps. =)
1051562
Don't worry about the "correct" grade.\n\nBeing held back s one of the best things  that can happen to  a child.\n\nIt guarantees that he will be one of the older kind in his class.  Things come much easier to the older kids.  The younger kids are always scuttling along, trying to keep up.\n\nWhy make things harder than they have to be?
505020
This is a loaded question that requires a lot of thought.  Therefore, I will only say that parents or legal guardians should be held accountable for the lack of progress of a child.  People have done well in the US public school system.  I am a product of public schools and consider myself intelligent.  I believe that some children are more adept at learning than others.  \n\nSometimes a child that wants to learn and can't because others in the class would rather shoot spitballs and throw erasers around the room.  Major league problem that requires more time and attention than can be given in this type of forum.
758264
I think that there is more going on in the child's life than just not wanting to do his work.  There is something that is keeping him/her from being motivated to work.  So, I guess the big question is...How do you motivate them?  I have been trying all year to answer that question.
1095687
Kind of sad, there only child and they won't support her education, the only way i don't support my children's education is if there screwing around and partying instead of working hard at getting good grades.\nBut the answer is YES
413273
I had a similar problem a couple wks ago. My sons teacher was labeling him and picking him. I was getting notes every single day just about from his teacher. I was really sure what was going on because he had been making A-B honoroll. Anyways I went up there and spoke with her, found that she had moved him and ONLY HIM to a different part of the class room so he could pay attention. I was not having that since he was making good grades all year long and still is. He said he wasn't misbehaving or disruptive, so I didn't know what the hell the problem was. I also spoke with the principal and asked that my son be moved or we were taking it to the school board. We just put our foot down(husband and I)and let them know that we were serious and wanted it to be resolved. Because he wasn't gonna learn if he's getting discouraged by his teacher. I don't know what grade your sons in, but my son is in 2nd grade. And don't think that you guys are being a pain in the butt or an inconvenience to the "school", because that is your son. I was getting on to my kid every time that I was getting a note, but it wasn't him, I guess the teacher decided to pick on him. And as far as the school staff, who cares what they think of you, but once they start picking or being ugly to your son. Id take it a step further and contact the school board. Good luck!!
1077953
Every child has potential for greatness. For some, it will not be academics. Treat them the way you would have wanted to be treated - as a very special, unique, and precious person in the Universe. You are their teacher, inspire them to believe this truth.
815336
Some times its better to keep it all good without crap, but simetimes a teacher is just asking for the crap. Its okay to have a little crap, but keep the crap level low and quality level high :)
1132873
You're right.  I think parents should definitely EXPECT good grades.  But I don't know that rewarding them is such a good idea.  You don't go around giving your kids money for being polite to your dinner guests, or behaving well at the grocery store.
400920
It is not uncommon for students at all educational levels to perform well in the classroom setting, but poorly on standardized tests. Some children do not "test" well. They freeze up under the considerable stress of the formal test-taking session or they fail to understand or take advantage of beneficial test-taking techniques. The flip side to this is that students of average ability may be excellent test-takers and can outperform more "intelligent" students. \n\nSeveral important things to remember about standardized test taking:\n1. Help minimize the stress your child feels about the test. Don't heap her full of expectations. Let her know that you expect her best effort and that the grade is less important. \n2. If practice tests are available, encourage her to take one. Practice really helps with standardized tests. \n3. Go over helpful test-taking techniques with her. Answering the easiest questions first and eliminating obvious wrong answers can go a long way toward improving scores.\n\nUltimately, you must decide what is important to you about her achieving a high score. If low scores are preventing you child from being included in advance coursework that you think she should be taking, then you might consider working with her to imporve her scores. However, there are copious examples in the world today of parents who push their children way too hard in school. I would advise you to be aware of pushing too hard, which can place undue stress on a child and can result in a child who is unwilling and unable to make her own decisions later in life. Unltimately, she will decide how harp she will apply herself and her talents. \n\nParenting can really be stressful sometimes, eh?  Good luck!  :)
173148
Sounds a bit excessive to me.  A b+ is really good.  If this is your lowest grade you are doing excellent.  Your parents must be strict with you, but I stillthink this is excessive.
1161133
Hold them back.  Too many kids are just getting pushed through school.  Some of them can barely read or write when they graduate. It's better for them to go through the grade again and learn something than for tham to just get pushed ahead.
117415
yeah, i can help.  i can help you be a better parent by giving you some advice:  don't do your son's homework for him.  you are sending him to school to learn, aren't you?  how is he going to ever learn how to do anything if you spend days doing his work for him?  \n\nsure, he might end up with an A in first grade, but who cares about what you got in first grade?  you could make an argument that grades are important to his future if they are high school grades, but it's far more important that he actually *learn* things at this age.\n\nsheesh.
179790
Problem is, you can't motivate him while he is in school; you can only do that when he is at home.  Try emphasizing the relevance of his school work to things he likes to do.  For example, he is interested in video games; point out that knowledge of math is essential to computer programmers.  He loves a certain book; ask him whether he would not like to have such a wonderful command of the English language as the author does.  \n\nDon't give in to the "bribery" mentality, but there is no harm in praising what he does right, and making a big deal out of improvements in his grade scores.  Just soften the negative, and emphasize the positive when it comes to grades.  \n\nOne more thing; at age 11, he's old enough to be appropriately cynical about the school system.  Teach him that he must not assume everything he hears in school is true or the best opinion possible.  Discuss values that may be in contrast to his school's Politically Correct assumptions, and let him know that he must be well-mannered, but it is his right to disagree.
562628
If it is about ways to cope with the stress, that's fine.\n\nIf it is just a gripe session, that is very unprofessional, and very unfair to the child.