How should I take the fact that my current partner still cares a lot about her ex-girlfriend?
821720
Girl, that's a rough situation. Its all good to help for a little while, but her ex seems to getting a little bit to dependent on your girlfriend. The bottom line is that her ex needs to grow up and be a women, it doesn't take that long to get get your stuff together. Tell your girlfriend to give her a couple of pointers and move on. Keep your head up!
360904
just forget about your ex. she broke up with her man and now wants you!! dude, you are worth more than that. Maybe you should give yourself a break from the gf drama and just date this girl or just be friends for now. Time is good for yourself right now cause it is obvious you still have feelings about your ex and this is not fair to you or the new chick. It is called rebound. Give yourself a break dude, even you deserve the best so take time to heal.
39094
The question, is not how to, but why.  Think about it.  She's in a relationship, and she meets a charming new guy.  A guy who sweeps her off of her feet,a "grass-is-greener" kinda deal(ahem, that's you, ahem)and she leaves her man for you.  What do you think she's gonna do the SECOND you BORE/ANNOY/TICK HER OFF??!??  That's right.  She's gonna lay down and luxuriate in some REALLY GREEN grass.  Dude, really.  Girls that you can TAKE, you don't want.  Believe me.  Chalk this up to a lesson learned, and keep on lookin.  Ex-girl to the next girl, that's what i says.
531257
I say follow your heart.  I am actually in the same exact situation at the moment.  But it is her ex fiance.  I am going to give her the benefit of the doubt and hope I do not get screwed over.  Each situation is different follow your gut feeling and see what happens.  Good luck.
244905
No. You need to let your girl handle it. Tell her you support her and that she is more than welcome to ask your help if she feels she needs it. My question to you though is what is your girl telling her ex? Is she making it known that she is seeing someone else and is happy in that relationship? Let your girl know that you have no problem stepping in to take care of the situation if her ex won't listen to her.
875932
I'm in a similar situation, and I think your friend needs to figure out whether or not her guy is over his ex.  If he's truly over the ex, and they're really just friends, then talking to the ex shouldn't be a big deal.  If he's still not over her and wants to maintain contact for the hope of a future reconciliation, then your friend needs to get out now.  She shouldn't be anyone's filler or rebound.  The trick is figuring out whether or not he's actually over the ex, because most guys who aren't completely retarded won't be honest.
1250
Not necessarily. I bring up my ex sometimes to people and its not that I am not over her because I totally am, but its just that most of his experiences in relationships(good or bad) may have been with her and that is all he knows. I know this be the case with me. I know I am over my ex because we still keep in contact and when she calls me or I call her I have nothing to talk about. Just lots of awkward silence. Ask him and see what he says. Have a heart to heart.
429687
you shold be able to tell if you dont, then there probably is a reason for doubt... and you should ask her. why not?\nand... she's your ex? you don't knowif she cares about you? that's unusual.
1005379
No, neither. You're just holding onto the past. Obviously, you still have feelings for your ex. Time to let go, push her and any feelings away. Be with your sweetie, show her how much you love her. Because if you hold onto those feelings, they will get in the way of the relationship down the road. Set the past free.
672690
hi, i feel that you should not be talking to your ex, if\nyou are still close that good but he has a girlfriend, and\ni feel it very  disrespectful of him to be talking to you\nabout his problem with her. because if the shoe was on the\nother foot how would you feel. he need to get his situation\nwith her together and  if it meant for you and him to get back\nyou will. the big guest ion you should ask yourself seriously\nif he so unhappy with her then as you stated why is he still\nthere.
1028262
My best advice and somewhat from my own and friend's experiences...it's not a good thing.\nI am still very close to one of my ex boyfriends but we keep it to phone conversations here and there and I believe it's possible to still be friends with someone even though you realize you don't make a good couple. \n\nThe part that concerns me about your situation though is the fact that he is spending quality time with his ex.  I don't think that's ok and if he wants to spend time with her it should be done in a group setting (if they still have the same friends) or you and her husband should be there too and make it a double date thing, that should be the only time he spends with her.  \nOr if they work together, then that would be the only other exception.\n\nI would express to him that it makes you uncomfortable and you don't think it's ok for him to continue a relationship where he invests time with her...if he enjoys her company that much than why isn't he back with her?  \n\nI would ask him to make that change and if he loves you and wants to be with you than he will understand.
767477
There is definitely trouble brewing.  She obviously still has something for him, since she sought him out on MySpace and is actively chatting.  Never trust a partner who still talks to their ex!
305962
If she's already his ex, there shouldn't be a problem. All girls are like that, you know, I know, so we have to take things our girl way.\nYou have a talk with his ex since he can't do much. Sit her down and make sure she listens to you. Just let her know what it feels like if she's in your situation. I'm sure she'll want the same help as you right now.\nMake her understand but do it in a polite way no matter how much you want to get rid of her. If you don't do it that way, she might not listen and will tend to make it worst. \nDon't push it too. Just go with the flow and take your time. I'm sure somehow, someway, she'll understand.\nGood luck!!
651448
I think not for reasons of the heart,cause deep down inside you still have those memories of the good times you had together.Which then could lend to things happening between you two.If you are in a new relationship,the person you are with could get hurt or may not like the idea you are friends with your exs.So leave exs alone and move on.
71099
Well, 2 ways. Im sure shes not the 1st girl in your life. So you've being with other girls as well. So just think of that. It makes you even.\n\nThe other one is that, her past life is her past life. You can't judge her or be angry at her for anything she did Before u. Know if it makes u uncomftearble just flat out tell her.\n\n" Baby, please don't talk about any of your ex's, it makes me sick to my stomach to think or imagine you with another man that isn't me" \n\nThat usually works.
789076
There are no rules.  Just be yourself!  If you worry that she will get back with her ex, then you will not really be having any fun.  Just try not to think about it, relax and enjoy the time that you spend with her.  Good Luck!
480391
Listen exes no matter what always have a piece of someones heart no matter how bad relationships have gone there is always that one memory that keeps it coming back. If you will give this girl the world then give her your support, guys again have trouble showing emotion so we really dont understand, but the fact of the matter is shes with you, she stays with you, and that should be good enough for you. Shes not running to him and she has been open and honest with you, now you need to take whatever she gives you and work with it, support is the most important thing, start at step one and work your way up, I know its hard but swallow a little pride and do it.