Help!  My passive-aggressive colleague is waging war!?
831342
You have another colleague going through the same thing? Document everything, send memos when you do the work, stick together; and do not directly get into it with this other (passive) person, but relax, be aware and back each other when this person starts trouble for you. They will be found out. Never fear.
253059
Get a job with a different company. All the money in the world can't be worth putting up with such a lack of respect. And to be blunt, maybe he thinks he can "get somewhere" with the black female.\n\nEither that, or maybe you could talk with another superior. Getting the matter on record is always a good thing - if it should continue, then you'll help them see a pattern with this supervisor.\n\nGood luck, and I hope this problem is solved soon, one way or another.
133490
If it doesn't have anything to do with you, politely tell both sides that you'd prefer not to get caught up in this and that they need to solve their disagreement themselve. You do not want to take sides and it's best to just walk away and let them fight it out. Good luck, =)
536419
That's a toughie!!!  It really depends on your position.  Are you in any way above her or responsible for her performance?  If so, definately yes.  You have the right and responsibility to correct her.  If you are simply co-workers....no; unless her duties and yours intertwine in such a way that you could be mistakenly blamed for her carelessness.  Poor grammar could be due to lack of intellect or laziness.  Not much you can do about either.  If the two of you are somewhat friends, you could try using light humor as an attempt to correct her.  If not, then any real attempt at correcting her will only breed resentment and ill-will.  You may even end up a laughingstock as the "grammar police".  Best advice, assuming that you're not her superior, just leave it alone.  Eventually the boss will realize that she's not that bright.  However, if she's doing her job and doing it well, nothing may come of it.  If that's the case, you need to leave your pet peeve at the door.  Good Luck
590096
hi there . my advice to you is to address the situation straight away as you are getting very angry and this can be resolved before the situation becomes untentable! \nthis is a common accurance and can be simply remedied by expressing your concerns as to your situation at work and impact it is having or could have on your job and frienship . The longer you leave it the harder it will be to broach and the outcome will be seen as you being the bady .good luck with it\nRegards.\n Adrian
57438
That sounds like an awful situation. If it is impacting getting work done then there may be a simple solution. First see if the other men agree with you and if so speak to the management together. (If you by yourself you will be the one everybody picks on in the future.) Tell the management that you are concerned that some immature behavior is hurting the productivity of the company. Then list why. Suggest management bring in a business consultant to help sort this out. You may want to contact the Business department of your local colleges for a list of recommended consultants that you can hand to management on the spot. Rememember this isn't just bothering you guys it's hurting the company. Good luck.
1094189
This happens alot especially in smaller businesses where you have family members or people who have worked for the company for a long time. Plant a small tape recorder somewhere near the place where people have a tendency to gather and talk. Break room, smokers area, lunch room.You might be able to head off some of the roomers before they get to your Boss. Try to make them look foolish. You cannot play this for your Boss but it could come in handy if things got to a point of he said she said. These 2 people do not like you because the boss obviously likes your work and they feel threatened. Whether the threat is real or not. In private explain to your Boss the situation at hand and without pointing the finger at the 2 girls who have it in for you. Just tell him that you are not like that and he will have to form his own opinion about you. You like working here but you will seek another position elsewhere if he feels that theses accusations are true. Ask him if he has had this happen with other employees? Sometimes they don't see a pattern until you bring it up? Had the same problem with the New Head Chef where I work. She was out to get me fired because I was too meticulous in my work. She would tell people what she made and then blame me in front of the boss for telling people what she made(I am the Payrolll clerk/Bookkeeper) I stuck to my guns and stayed on top of her all the time. I finally saw a problem with things missing and people fighting with each other all the time. I went to my Boss and left him a note saying think about when your problems here all started? I left it at that. He started watching her more closely and found out she was stealing stuff from the freezer on a daily basis. He fired her and apologized to me and we have a very good trust relationship going now. It was not easy and I had to bite my tongue many many times. Be careful if you use the tape you may hear things you did not really want to hear. Stick to your guns and keep your cool. If they think they are starting to wear you down they will keep on doing it. If they think it isn't working they will give up.
302070
I would speak with HR.  It sounds like your supervisor is in need of some social training about respecting people.
310647
Well......keep following the rules But Do Not and I repeat Do Not follow your co-workers around telling them how they are not following the rules and also don't be a "tattle tale".   Nobody likes working with someone like that. And as Crazy as it sounds just because you follow all the rules to a T it doesn't mean that You are more productive or a more valuable employee than someone who may bend them sometimes. Just focus on your own work and what you do and you won't have time to worry about who is following the rules.    Good Luck.
141510
you can tell HR and they will know youare moaner with no proof.  you got to have real solid evidence which you dont have.  so start sticking up for yourself.  tell hi loudly in fornt of everybody " I am not your cutie pie so back off you old fart.  if he sits by you get up and move.  give him and every person in the room the clear idea that your to good to put up with his sickness.    You gotta fight your own wars nobody can do it for you.  Then when your boss ask whats going on tell her or him.  \n\nbut if you go complian about it without taking any action first they will think "oh brother her comes a new trouble maker", and think you are over reacting becasue you are.
568401
Run like crazy.  This chick sounds nutty.  She's obviously posessive and has no reason to be.  It can only get worse.  Get away while you can.  If she will not do as you ask her to at work, have her fired, it is not her job to censor your calls.
1169392
That is a no win situation.   No matter what you do, you are not going to come out ahead.   A bully doesn't listen to reasoning.  Assertiveness doesn't work on a bully boss.   I would advise you to quit that job and go somewhere where you may be respected.
800008
He's making phases at me!!!
757275
Gone unchallenged, this problem will not fix itself.\nIf your friends are content with this...do nothing, but if it unacceptable behaviour by someone at work, then talking to your boss without being confrontational is absolutely appropriate. Sometimes a boss is unaware of all that goes on so give them the opportunity to hear your concerns. \nAlways document incidents/dates/times/who is involved just in case you require future reference though.
212991
He can't tell you who is saying it but you can ask him to talk to this person.  Perhaps they have a personal vendetta against you.  Your boss should have enough experience to help this person get over whatever it is they think is wrong. Just let your boss know that you feel attacked by all of these false charges and that you want people to take the open door policy more serious, not just complain whenever they want to.
914673
That co-worker is trying to kiss butt to look so good... However, if the manager, or supervisor should notice this, the fact that he/she con't even offer any bit of assistance makes him/her look pretty bad on record...  If that supervisor does not keep note of such actions, then he/she is as biased as the coworker. \nBut your supervisor is in fact neutral, as he/she should be, you should go have a talk with him/her, or even file a complaint against the co-worker and state it as negligeant and unprofessional, Would rather show some bad attitude, than to upkeep a positive working atmosphere, and what more to make that this co-worker is going out of his/her way to hold things against you...  The fact that he/she is breathing down your collar in hopes of finding any flaw you'll do, you can get away with filing for harrassement and, in fact you can say that whatever mistakes held against you are the result of him/her attempting to intimidate you, and whatever threats that are being waved in your face by this individual.\n\nCheers!
341549
I think perhaps you are being to patient.  You should be more "Assertive" not necessarily agressive.  Put him on the spot and don't leave his office until you start to get some sort of resolution to your problem.  If he needs to get info/approval from other departments for certain things make him do it IN FRONT of you, that way you know it is happening.