fighting to end spousal support in Ventura Co. California?
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A VERY sticky situation. It is to your BEST interest to seek professional legal advice. CA law is set up for the best interest of the female, but there are loop holes.  You NEED to seek out a lawyer. Good Luck
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Sorry this is so long, but bear with me.\n\nThe law begins with the premise that you are the father and share in the obligations of your own child's upbringing. What you are asking is to have an exception or an easing of the costs based on need because of financial strain or unfairness due to the inequity of paychecks. Your side will be the one to have to convince and persuade because her side has law. In the end, even a good persuasive argument may not stand if there are no laws with which to draw on in your favor.\n\nLook closely at your side then. I am not trying to attack your side by these questions. I am merely saying that such questions may be asked by the legal decision makers or legal financil aid providers and you need to know your side has the strength to convince. Here are some questions to be prapared on:\n\nIs your limited income due to irresponsibility - Did you have to get a new job because you were fired from your old one? Have you wasted reasonable opportunities to have a better job - For example, do you have a degree and qualifications for a better job but chose a low paying job instead?\n\nWill your income likely grow again in the near future - Eight years ago we moved to a new state and my husband had to begin over again on the payscale. We began that first year on less than 18K, but we moved up quickly to now being quite comfortable by regional average income standards. If you are likely to move up in pay, that will be taken into account especially if you are asking to be excused altogether from the burden of support.\n\nHow much money is needed to raise a child in the location in which this child is being raised - Surely 70K/year would be far in excess of expenses where we live and perhaps where you live. However, if your child is being raise in many of the large cities in the Northeast or California it may take about that much to survive there.\n\nIs the $70K all the income from your wife's side? Has she remarried and has her husband's income too? If so, is that 70K a combined income from her own and her husband's income?\n\nHave you provided more than monetary support? Have you been a father beyond the child support payment? If you have been actively engaged in your child's life you will have a more convincing argument than if you haven't had anything to do with him.\n\nWhat were the conditions leading to divorce? Obviously if divorce occured because she was unfaithful you will have a stronger side than if you were unfaithful or abusive. Some would think that if you messed up in these ways you made your own bed and by paying you are reaping what you have sown.\n\nHaving such information as her being able to afford Cancun while you are barely able to afford groceries is very helpful, but make sure no holes can be poked through it. Did she really use the child support money for that vacation? Was the vacation specifically in the child's interest. It doesn't sound like it, but again it is your side that will have to do the proving not hers.\n\nOK. That is the end of the questions. I hope you understand my motives are just to make you realize that you will be the one with the uphill battle. If you are using an overworked public attorney and she has an elite, smooth talking lawyer your side cannot afford to be unprepared for such questions.\n\nI do feel for you. I want to tell a true story that I feel applies when it comes to grace under unjust circumstances. I know a pastor who lovingly was counciling a man who asked him for help. This guy was having a secret affair with the pastor's wife the whole time that this pastor poured his energies into being a help to him. It all came out when she got pregnant. The pastor wanted to save the marriage in spite of it. Instead, she began lying and demanded a divorce. This poor man lost his pastorate becauset he congregation didn't want a divorced man leading their church. Because he lost that job, he couldn't get full custod
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Generally it is completely illegal to do what this landlord did in California.  You may be able to collect up to three times your actual damages or what it cost you to move.  Plus in many areas of the Bay Area it is actually a crime and s/he could go to jail\n\nTry:\nLegal Aid Society of San Mateo County \nwww.legalaidsmc.org\n521 E. 5th Ave, San Mateo, CA 94402\n800-381-8898\n\nProvides high quality civil legal services to low-income children, families and seniors. Serving over 2300 people last year, and helping another 4000 people find the right resource, Legal Aid's mission is to be a source of legal advice, representation and education in our community, so that everyone will have access to justice. Legal Aid provides legal assistance on health care issues, domestic violence, family law, government benefits, disability issues, and small business development. Housing-related programs include HomeSavers, which helps tenants who are having problems with their landlords, and HomeBuilders, which works to promote the development of more affordable housing. \n\nor\n\nBay Area Legal Aid, San Mateo County Regional Office\nwww.baylegal.org\n2287 So. El Camino Real, San Mateo, CA 94403\n650-358-0745           800-551-5554 \n\nProvides free legal assistance with eviction defense, landlord-tenant disputes, housing discrimination, and creation and preservation of affordable housing. Services are available to very low-income clients in San Mateo County and throughout the Bay Area.\n\nYou can also try:\n\nSmall Claims Mediation Program\nwww.sanmateocourt.org/director.php?filename=./adr/smallclaims/index.html\n650-573-3907\n\nThis program provides on-site mediation services. If a case settles in mediation, the court will not proceed with the small claims hearing, but rather will note in the court file that the parties reached a mediated settlement.\n\nIf you need or prefer bilingual (spanish) services try:\nLa Raza Centro Legal\nwww.lrcl.org\n866-4-LARAZA (toll free)\n\nProvides bilingual legal services and lawyer referral at sites throughout the county.\n\nIf you or someone in your family also has a disability you may be able to get help from the california department of fair employment and housing: www.dfeh.ca.gov.\n\nIf you want to try to take care of this on your own the california Department of Consumer Affairs has a resource guide at:www.dca.ca.gov/legal/landlordbook\n\nAlso if you cannot get one of these places to help you might want to look into the programs offered by the law schools in your area, such as Stanford, Hastings, and Berkeley
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Get your lawyer to file to halt visitation, or at least modify it to exclude her presence.  He will probably fight it, but if what you said is accurate, you stand a better than average chance of winning.
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Check with The Dept Of Social Services. But why are you not married? And why do you want to leave good O'l California? \nJust how fit to be a parent and how responsible, are you really?
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It depends what your reason is.  If it is familial, the Salvation Army can help.  If otherwise, you could try the electoral roll, but this will only work if she isn't married.
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Basically a judge decides these things but it can be a contested divorce which means nothing goes until all parties agree. I'd suggest negotiating more...
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You need to talk to a lawyer.  State laws vary a lot and there is no standard rule that applies anywhere.   A lot of men these days offer up a cash settlement.  That gives the wife an opportunity to reestablish herself.\n\nNote that in community property states, she's also entitled to have your retirement savings.  Some tips that may help.\n\nTry putting aside the anger and actually talking to her.  What does she hope to accomplish?  Maybe she is planning to work more or maybe she's happy with a modest lifestyle and doesn't expect much.  Maybe she's too independent to take money from you.   Don't make assumptions, ask first and find out what you're dealing with.\n\nBe fair in the property settlement.  That will make her a lot more agreeable.   \n\nIn California, spousal support typically continues for half the number of years of the marriage but this may or may not be true in your state.\n\nThere are websites, and books that can provide formula calculators, but you still can't be sure of an amount until you either have a court order or can reach a mutual agreement.
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Where in the world do you live?  I have never heard of a man being able to kick a wife and 3 children out of their home.  Have you talked to a lawyer, are any of your children also his biological children, if not you could have problems, bless the little children who have to go through emotional pain caused by care less adults.\n\nBlubla
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My wife had some time ago.  We no longer live there. I don't know if that helps.  We hired an attorney out of KS.\n\nIs there a blog?  I've heard that can help.  Link is a good idea.  More people will probably come forward anonymously.
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Here is a good basic info site \nhttp://www.weblocator.com/attorney/ca/law/c17.html\n\nAlso I would suggest consulting a lawyer directly regarding your situation or questions about abandonment issues. Search for lawyers (box on the left side of screen - choose family law specifically) http://public.findlaw.com/
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http://www.leginfo.ca.gov/calaw.html
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I have heard that California has some of the worst alimony laws in the country.. from a man's perspective. But I don't know any details.\n\nIf your lawyer urges you to take it, it must be good. They make a percentage, don't they? Trust a lawyer to pick up the last penny he/she can.\n\nOk, my answer is: call up a few divorce lawyers and ask. Most will answer such general questions on the phone for free.\n\nOk, my two cents is: WTF, half of all your assets and 8 years of alimony is not enough? You can't find a new job or husband in 8 years? Or did you just want to find a boyfriend to spend your ex's money with? Cuz he can't quit his job even if he wanted to, now, because he would go to jail for not paying you alimony. No wonder OJ was mad.
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Hopefully sooner rather than later.  I have a link that outlines the recent history of the same sex marriage legal battle in California along with a collection of relevant links at the bottom.  Hope it helps!\n\nOh, and the second link is to a same-sex marriage advocacy organization in Cali.  Hope THAT helps too!
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Technically, its against the law; again, good luck fighting it. A similar case in my own santa barbara went through, from 86. They just last year acted on it. Supposedly things\nare better now, but guess what? People are still sleeping illegally on overcrowded floors.\nThe system is so corrupt its next to impossible to do anything about this stuff.
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ventura county very nice\namgen in simi valley\nbaxter in to\nu have several choices\nbeing unemployed in so cal is almost impossible
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Well, I think 4 months is a bit too short a time to claim spousal support. He may bring up the fact that you left,  I think there's been successful defense based on (I'm paraphrasing) "spousal disregard". In a husband, this is refusing to work or support the marriage. The girlfriend may/may not count against him. He can point to the fact that you were seperated as evidence that the marriage was dissolved..........\n  Not beating up on ya, just pointing out that he'll be able to fight back. Personally, I "cheer" for any woman who has the courage to stand up and get rid of an abusive bf/husband.  \n  Ironic, but I was incredibly proud of my sister for being arrested (domstic viol.) for beating the living sh--t out of her physically abusive boyfriend.