My dad is remarrying 4 the wrong reason & wont listen to me when i try 2 talk to him, what should i do?
815871
I hate it when they won't respect or listen to you, but still ask your opinion and want your approval and won't leave you alone about the topic unless you say something affirmative.  Erg. I'm sorry for you, but there is nothing more you can do but continue being his daughter and hope for the best.Treat him well.
1140835
TELL HIM UER SORRY, THINGS WOULD NOT GO BACK AS THE SAME THOUGH!! IT MIGHT BUT IT WOULD TAKE A WHILE!!!
1013588
You should just ignor him don't drop what your doing and isolate yourself.  Ignor him.  If you can't concentrate just leave without saying a word.  If you listen it will bother you and make you want to yell back.  If you yell back he will be even more upset and that may lead to and awful fight.  Just tune him out.  I know my dad was a mean old man and blamed everything on me even though I was his little princess.  I tune him out and go about my business.
648922
I'm glad to see a lot of supportive letters here (way to go community!)\n\nYou miss your dad.   Stay in touch with those feelings.\n\nHe may not reciprocate your love, and you shouldn't go expecting this -- it will only disappoint you.  But you will probably not forget that you didn't try, if you just do nothing at all.\n\nI think, deep down inside, your dad probably knows he's messed up, but wonders if he'll ever be loved or forgiven.  \nDon't let fear paralyze you.   Pray for him, and pray for strength and wisdom.   And then make small steps.\n\nYou are a special person.   Share your gift of tenderness with him.   And guard yourself from big expectations, though embrace whatever small ones come your way.
161352
I'm not one to really talk since I've been divorced twice, but still, I think that unless he's abusing you or your kids, give him a chance to remind you of why you married him in the first place. "For better or worse" There is nothing worse than regret, and if you decide to end the relationship without serious counsuling or prayer (if you're religious) that you may wind up regreting leaving the man whose stood by you all those years. And 9 is a big number, so unless you've been lying to yourself and him for that long, you're marriage deserves a lengthy examination.
854669
Yeah, I understand, hon.  It's tough to lose a dad. I lost my dad when I was 24, and it wasn't easy for me either.  Was your dad ill, or was his death sudden?  We don't know why God chooses his special people to be with Him, but know that wherever he is, your dad is watching over you, protecting you from harm, and loving you.  Meantime, talk things over with your mom, and your brothers and sisters if you have any, or even your friends.  Talking about the good times you had with your dad really helps.  In time, the pain will be a lot less, and you'll just be left with good memories.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.  Good luck and God Bless!
205823
Well, the best advice i can give you is to talk to him about it.  You need to explain to him that that's not the way to talk to your family and he needs to explain his differences with your family differently and more respectfully.  Include that you will not put up with his crap and that he needs to get his act together or you don't need to associate with him any more.
162069
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a hard time.  I am also estranged from an abusive father, and I dont know how I would feel if he died.  I think about this all the time.  Perhaps the issue is that you never got a chance to resolve your situation with him.  Perhaps you're still waiting to hear him say 'I'm sorry'.  Or, more likely, you're not necessarily mourning for him, but for the father you never had and truly deserved.  I mourn for this all the time.
500566
I have read your other questions. You have a sad life. You really need someone to talk too. Try talking to a school counselor or someone at church. Most of all try to be good around your father. He is having a hard time as well. Divorce is never good because everyone suffers. If you are living with your father instead of your mother there has to be a good reason.\n\nBe good!
297832
Write to her and tell her how she's made you feel, and how her actions have affected you. I'm sorry you are having a hard time. Do you get the chance to talk to your dad about these things? An aunt, uncle, grandparent, Godparent, teacher, councilor? Find someone off that list that you feel at ease with, and just let it all out. They know you better than anyone else you could hear from on this thing. Those are the people you should be talking to sweetie.
839273
call someone and tell tehm. believe me i went thru that for 16 years. you need help. i learned that i did not have to accept my father hitting us and everything else. there are lots of people that will help. what we finally did was we told a preacher at a church and he had the police come to the church and talk to us then the cops never made us go back again.
60832
it's easy just to say the right thing to do is to apologize, which it is, but it's not that easy for someone with an abusive father like that. this all goes much deeper than any outsider looking in would see. so you can encourage him to say he's sorry, but as long as his Dad's not gonna change it may not do any good for their relationship. But deffinately encourage him to apologize. like you said, you only have one dad, and he could lose him at any time.
792714
Ask him to be direct,and it will hurt alot less now then after you get married,realize it was a mistake and then go thru the pain of divorce,honesty hurts alot less,I promise
303799
i think it is going to be really hard for you but you should just try to sit your daughter down explain to her the things of life what you are&#92;were going through.tell her its not the person but the heart.tell her ,her father was not a bad person but the things that were suppose to be between you and him were just not happening and you have now found it in this person. tell her to try to see your lady as a person you love and that loves you and not a female.
366135
Unfortunately only you can answer this one...Obviously your going to be scared and you have the right but only contact your father if you are prepared for him hanging up on you and saying he never wanted you.  Prepare for the worst and hope for the best.  But I know I would want to be told I had a kid if I didn't know.  Also after you tell him you might want to give him time to take it all in I am sure it will be alot for him to handle at once.  Be gracious and not over bearing and give him a chance to be someone he didn't know he was.
655153
This must be painful for you and for that I am sorry.  But you have to understand this part of her life has nothing to do with you.  She is having the affair, and if they are already on their way to a divorce, then its to late.  There is no need for you to damage your relationship with her, so calmly ask her to explain why they are getting a divorce.  If she includes the other men, as part of the reason you will not need to say anything else, if she omits him then you can ask, but you must understand that you do not have all the facts and the divorce although painful to you is not about her divorcing you.  Although a person wants a divorce it is usually very painful for them too so now is a time for you to be supportive to both your parents and I hope they are supportive for you also.  It scares me that you say "it is not respectful to me or my father", maybe your father was cheating on her first, it has nothing to do with respecting you.  Think about it. God bless you.
697370
I doubt very much that your daughter would agree to any form of family counselling to help resolve things, but this is one thing that may help.  By having a non-partial mediator discuss things in an open and mature manner would allow everyone involved to speak their mind and help sort things out perhaps.  Perhaps you could try and inform your daughter that this would be the greatest gift that she ever gave you for Christmas by agreeing to attend such sessions.  I'm certain also that you would like to be escorted to your daughter's wedding by her father and with all these unresolved issues I'm willing to bet that you'll be going stag.  Inform your little girl that although her dad did make a mistake that you have forgiven him and that everyone should be given a second chance if they have so deserved it.  Best of luck to you and your family as a whole.