In love but shouldn't be?
813821
I really feel for you, thats a tough situation.\nAre you sure that you are really in love with him, as you only said that you believe you are in love with him. Be careful not to confuse other feelings for love.\nDid you know he was your uncle before you got involved?\nI know you fall in love with who you fall in love with but there is a brief window in which you can apply the breaks.\nWhat about the other woman he is with? Has he spoken to her yet?\nIf I were you, I would try to steer clear and if he manages to end the relationship with the other lady and keep his relationship with the kids maybe you could think about him again.\n\nI don't know about the law and deformities. I would say no to both questions, but just think of the people involved in this tangled web and how your decisions will effect them\n\nIts tough I know.\n\nGood luck.
784463
So this is someone you love but you're not dating? If they're not with anyone then tell them how you feel. Better to be honest and open and get your feelings out there.
349561
There is nothing to do. Don't make the mistake and tell him that you love him if you don't. You might not love him now but, whose to say that you won't love him in the future? You might not love him but, you obviously have feelings for him because you are with him. Give it time love doesn't always happen instantly, it takes time. Don't force yourself to feel something that is not there.
281254
you can't fall in love and already be in love with someone.  You aren't in love if you are having feelings for someone else.
961347
I understand how you feel, but why would you want to be with someone who is not worthy of all the love you would be lavishing them with. Sometimes you have to let your head rule over your heart. You have to be able to look at the situation and go, this is going to hurt but maybe fate is changing in my favor. Sometimes what we think we want isn't what we thought it was after we find better.
100456
You can't marry somone you don't love.Trust your heart.I think you already know the answer.good luck
941150
well.\nyou said cheating.\nyou don't cheat when your in love.
104337
Only if it comes to your kids. I don't know what kind of "love" you're referring to though.\n\nIf you're talking about adult "love", then I'd say no, you're just either infatuated, or confused.
1121218
I think that you should over think this! You shouldn't get married to someone that you are not in love with. Liking someone and loving someone is completely different. Once you marry them that should be it. You shouldn't go into marriage counting on the divorce card as a back door. You really have to stick together through good and bad, sickness and health, richer or poorer and it should be forever 'til death do you part. People that go into marriage half-hearted are the ones raising the divorce rate. If you feel this way, you should talk to him about it. If you know that he's going to propose and you go and date someone else...that's a sure way of knowing you are not ready to settle down with him. You should be truthful to him and yourself. At the same time, you should marry someone that you can be yourself with. Best wishes.
133819
First you always know when you are in love with someone. How you know that you should spend the rest of your wid them is a another story. Easy ways to tell how you act and feel around the person when you two are together. I guess my advice is to just follow your heart if it is there you will know. If it is not real love then, you just have to move on and take it a step at time from there. Their is no sure way to if all of this is right for you. Just have to take a chance and see what happens.
587404
From what you say it seems your dilemma is...your head verses your heart... the head is usually right you didn't say why he couldn't commit... but in any case i think you've already conceded that fact. My advice would be to make a clean break... continuing to be friends is just keeping your hope alive... I say continue on with your life meet someone new... yes it is completely possible  and likely that you will fall in love with someone else... which ends your dilemma...good luck in whatever you choose to do
85538
I think it's fine. Sure, there are risks, but it is possible. One of my friends fell in love w/ a guy she never met but fell in love with him anyways. Then, of course, they actually met and have plans to move in with each other very soon. It just depends
231028
Well you are already in love with this person are you not? if not then be friends , but beware, this person was deceitful to you , unless they were trying to live honestly a life of their opposite sex. But when your in love , some things can be overlooked.
511009
You either love or you don't. There is no such thing as in-love with.\n\nTake it one day at a time and stop analyzing it. Just try to enjoy life.
384324
no..what you felt was an intense attraction that we mistakenly took as love because the sensation is the same..ask yourself, how can you love someone you don't even know? he or she might turn out to be totally different from what you imagine...or if it's the other way, lucky you!\n\nlove is a serious matter...it's not just the rapid heartbeat or the sense of abrupt happiness...love is knowing that person and learning to accept him or her..
227286
When you are in love you are completely in love or just not in love.
278706
I don't think you are cold hearted.  I don't think you have met the right one yet, and who knows you may not.  If you love someone, there should be some lust mixed in with it. I mean how can you live with someone for the rest of your life and not want them?  I don't think you are ready to settle down yet, you have your whole life in front of you, don't rush things and to tell you the truth, there is no "norm."  Just have fun, stay safe, and be careful.