one of ma fren is jst 20 but she is always attracted to 60+ old men.how can i help her out of this hell?
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im serious when i ask ...is she a virgin?   the thing that comes to mind is adam sandler in big daddy, thinking of those old ....balls...eww, gross.  anyway, she probably is attracted to a man that already owns a house, financially stable, possibly retired....i dont know what to tell you.  at least try to persuade her to be attracted to like 30-40 year olds...still kinda weird.
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The "Dirty Old Man",usually refers to the man who happens to like woman/girls who are at least 30 years younger than them,someone old enough to be his daughter. I see nothing wrong with you,or your neighbors watching "stag" movies. Their only movies!. Your "80 somethin",year old neighbors are not getting off on these movies. Visual stimulation would not work for him. He's probably popping Viagra,and having a poppin good time! (I ain't mad at him!)
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everyone sees beauty in a different way,  you are far from crazy, from what I see, I think its very odd that you like older woman, but I have my own attractions to woman that other guys think is verry odd.  Don't beat yourself up over this.  You know what your like,  Heck your 40, so why try to change that, stay with what you like.  Don't go with the stereotypical society, they are all mostly immature people that are trying to impress everyone anyways
420610
Do you have someone in mind or just randomly seeking someone 20 years younger? geez, your old enough to be her dad. Unless she is looking for that paternal figure in her life, chances are slim.
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Why dont you talk to her parents, they might appreciate the honesty.\n\nThen they can tell her that they dont want her to talking to older men.
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I think the fact that she is 50 and set in her ways means there is not much you can do.  Have you told her that you think she moves too fast or latches on too quickly?  If not, try and see how she reacts.  She sounds very insecure. She will not find a relationship that works until she "fixes" herself.\nOther than that, you just have to go along with it, meet the guy to at least find out what type of person she is hanging out with.  And try to offer her support. Good Luck.
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What a question! Being an older guy myself, I'd say yeah, but you need to show him how serious you are. You wouldn't believe the number of younger women who are after me. Go for it.
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Hi, this is a very complex situation, and you have explained it very well.  Your friend who is 15 and gay, has a non-sexual relationship with a 21-year-old gay man.  Your concern is for your friend because he has a "crush" on this man, but the man is "not interested' (sexually?) in your friend.  So to begin with all the "against the law" answers are wrong. Unless a physical relation is part of the equation even our puritanically demented society has not passed a law forbidding friendship between people of different ages.  If it did organizations like Big Brothers and Sisters would have to stop their excellent work.  Through out our lives, it helps to have a "mentor."  Someone who is a bit more experienced than ourselves who can help us through some of the "passages" of life.  This cannot always be a parent, no matter how much we may love our parents, because a parent has different concerns (our safety) and often sees us a "child." To have a slightly older friend, who has gone through some life experience and can share and encourage is important.  Having said this, your concern is is for your friend, in terms of his feelings (crush) and the 21-year-old for his "life" and reputation.  I think your concern shows you to be a caring individual and true and good friend.  Hopefully we are always ready to listen to the people like you in our lives.  Have you calmly expressed your concerns to your friend in a way as clear as your question here?  If you have, and he still wishes to pursue this relationship then there is not much you can do.  I think the best "advice" you could give to your friend is to point out the Issues involved: 1) The 21-year-old is (according to you) uninterested, uninitiated (a virgin) and would suffer the "legal" consequences of any physical relationship - so is your friend ready to "accept' these "boundaries" to the relationship? 2) Can your friend pursue a friendship without a physical relationship (his crush?) Can he control his own feelings?\nOnce you have helped your friend clarify the situation and his responsibilities, then you can only support him in whatever decision he arrives at.  \nI would only add that a non-sexual "mentoring" relationship, while important for everyone, is especially important for gay and lesbian youth.  Most people have "models" of what they want and need to become in their parents, teachers, social heros, etc. But gay people grown-up largely without any models, without anyone who can say, "I did this, you can too."  So even though your friend sounds like a confident young gay man, with a loving family and wonderful supportive friends such as yourself, he may still need an "older" model that he can talk to about things and try to follow - always given the non-sexual, non-exploitive nature of the relationship.  Good luck.
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She is throwing her life away. For all you know, that 30 year old man could be someone your friend doesn't even know really well, and she is just throwing away her life because of rebbelion. Don't let her marry. You should'nt stand in the way of true love, but if you can tell that she really does not love him, don't let her marry. Try to be extra sensitive when confronting her. Tell her everything she will throw away in her life if she marries him.
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(1) Care not what others think if you, be yourself and do your own thing.\n(2) It's OK to love an older woman.
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I find older men very sexy  I am 25 and I would consider going out with someone thats up to 40.  It just seems they have a presence to them and they are more sexually appealling
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She's got to be over 35, she has to have that special "used to be hot look."  This means that she must look like she was very hot when she was younger, but she must be starting to show her age, like for example be a little more busty than usual or have a healthy size butt, or have some wrinkles around the eyes.  Even slight stretch marks are OK.  \n\nIt's important to note that the whole attraction is that she is imperfect, amateurish, but definatlely hot.  A 37 year old that looks 28 is not a milf, a MILF looks her age or only slightly younger.  The whole attraction of the MILF is that she is visibly a little older, just past her prime, so she is more attainable.  MILFs do not have to have children but it adds to the milfy ambience. If she has a kid in their teens that's a really nice touch because it suggests the whole "my friend's hot mom" fantasy.
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Keep in mind he is a "tutor," not "teacher." There is nothing to report. They are both consenting adults regardless of the age difference. If You are worried about your freind talk to her, but in the long run she will have to learn from her own mistakes.
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being a young man of faith... excuse my language.. shes going to be literaly ****ed over! there is no way in Gods name a 14 year old girl is in love with a 20 year old guy.. 2 hes only looking to get in her pants... (being a guy i would know how horomones function for my "speicies) thirdly... at 14 hardly ANYONE knows what love is even if it bit them in the butt. im almost 18 and ive found the girl i love, but she is 2 years younger.. granted not a good combo but she actualy realises what i want and what i see love as being. honestly if you cant talk to her... talk to her MOM or her DAD.. cuz any decent parent will NOT EVER allow a 6 year time difference untill the "young woman/man" is atleast 18... and if he touches her... theres a reason for the saying "16 will get you 20... 14 will get you 40!" so if she loves him... she may just want to concider waiting just a bit longer...
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I sort of agree with the first answer, but one must remember that when time  goes on, he will be 75 and an 'old man'and she will only be 50.  All viagra jokes aside, it would be like being with your father.
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# 1 show her you are mature for your age, an older woman  might indeed be interested in a younger guy if he seems mature enough, #2 most women are impressed with romantic gestures, flowers etc... and genuine flattery/ compliments .. key word is genuine !show her that you  are on her intellectual level, and share some of her interests/ hobbies etc..try being friends with her first and feel out weather she would be interested in a date... even a casual one to start with..   and move in from there, good luck !
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Its a Go Go from me! 51 oh please he is old enough to be her father! Dude needs some bashing from his wife! He deserves it! Tell your friend to be strong and keep ignoring him and if he still follows her at work etc tell her to report it as sexual harassment. Once he is reported he for sure will keep his distance!