my husband is interested in becoming a muslim?
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As a Muslim, let me tell you its a great religion -- really satisfies the soul.\n\nIt is a COMPLETE way of life for an individual.  It is also the most moderate of religions, in that it has a deep spiritual side as well as a deep practical side.  For example, when you pray 5 times a die, you pray directly to God, just you and Him.  As a Muslim you believe in Jesus, Moses, all the other Prophets, INCLUDING Muhammad (peace be upon them all).\n\nIts a great religion.  Do NOT listen to what the media says.. learn about it from the sources yourself, dont depend on others.  www.whyislam.org\n\nRegarding your situation, as a Muslim, your husband will probably become more kind and modest.  He would also start praying 5 times a day (dawn, noon, afternoon, sunset, night), fast during the month of Ramadan, should go on the pilgrimage to Mecca once in his life, give charity, and believe in one God.\n\nBe supportive of his decisions.  Important:  Do not hold him back from practicing his religion.  He can not force you to practice, but you should not force him NOT to practice.  Dont let it become an issue in your relationship, thats key.  Remember that.  Its a religion for him.  I have personal experience with this.  Do not make him choose girl vs. God, unless you really dont want him. \n\nWho knows, maybe you'll become Muslim too! \n\nWell, best of luck, I hope it works out.
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John, I am "reverted" Muslim. I was Christian for 20 years. I have now been Muslim for almost 5 years. If you are positive that you are ready to become a Muslim than go to your nearest mosque and ask to take the Shehada. You go in front of usually the imam (Muslim priest in a sense)and a witness, and declare "Ashedo illeh illeha il-Allah, wa ashedo anna Mohamed rasul Allah" -"I confess that there is no God beside God, and I confess that Mohamed is the messenger of God" If you are not sure yet, then I would suggest that you get more information about Islam through a local mosque. Yes, it is true that your religion is your own, and it is in your heart, but professing your faith in front of other Muslims a a protection for you, so that if your faith begins to falter, your brothers and sisters can help you back up. Feel free to e-mail me with questions about Islam, or support at pikeypoodl@yahoo.com
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Well it depends if she wants to get married in a mosque then yes you are going to have to convert.  The Islamic faith forbids outsiders from taking an Islamic women into his life.  In fact the outcome for her is not good, and you are going to have to realize this.  This is considered a taboo, and the minimum that could happen to her is that she will be shunned in her faith.  The worst that could happen to her is her family could turn their backs on her.  You have picked a really tough faith to marry into, and if you love her with all of your heart I would be open to the idea of converting.  Make it easy on her, and her family if they are really devout in their faith.  If they are liberal with their faith you may be in the clear, but I would talk to her more about how serious is the faith of Islam is in her life. \n\n                 good luck on this one you're gonna need it!
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I think it's a very noble cause that you are wanting to undertake. Pray, my friend, and God will help you. I am not a Muslim but I respect Islam and I know it must hard for you being an American Muslim. I am so sorry for the way Muslims are treated in our country. It is not the American way. I think if you keep your faith strong and pray often that God or Allah will make it happen for you. God speed, friend. Tina, Houston, Texas
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Sweety if you aren't asking your husband this question then there is a big trust issue.  I would suggest contacting a US government agency esp. as there may be restrictions right now.\n\nQuestion to ask yourself - why doesn't he want to bring his Mom here?  Is she too frail?\n\nFollow your gut on this - and if you do decide to go, remember that a woman's place there is very different from in the US and you will be expected to follow local conventions or shame your husband.\n\nOne thing you didn't say is if your husband is Muslim - I think that would effect how he feels about it and his expectations of you.\n\nNo matter how kind or loving your husband is, now is not a really good time for US/Iranian relations so if you go precautions will be necessary for you and your husband.  \n\nYou sound newly married and if that is the case it would be natural for him to want you to meet his family and see where he grew up.  But only you know your relationship.  Did it happen too fast?  Does it seem too good to be true? Has he majorly changed how he treats you since you got married?  Those would all be warning signs.\n\nNo warnings sign there?  Then go for it, but take the State Department precautions as someone else reccomended - it would be the smart thing to do.
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The fact is that according to Islam, a Muslim woman should not marry a non-Muslim, unless the man converts to Islam. If the man is a Muslim and the woman is a non Muslim, the woman automatically becomes a Muslim upon marriage.\n\nYou and your man must see an Imam or who practices Islam as a profession, those who are also licensed to bind marriages. Your man should know the principles or pillars of Islam, and confess to Islam. The confession will be sealed and registered, and your man can enjoy his new faith.\n\nGood Luck
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My husband is Muslim - he's my best friend.
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WOW! IT'S ALL ABOUT INDIVIDUAL CHOICES. BUT HE SHOULD HAVE DISCUSED THIS ISLAM ISSUE WITH HIS PARTNER IN LIFE, HIS WIFE.  HIS DECISION  MIGHT  EFFECT HER  EMOTIONALY.I DON'T WHANT TO INPOSE MY IDEA ON HOW PERSONALY I FEEL ABOUT THIS,IT WOULD BE A SELF CENTERD OPINION OF MINE, AND THATS WRONG.EVERYBODY HAVE THERE OWN CHOICES TO CHOSE WHAT THEY LIKE.
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If you are debating on becoming a member of the LDS church or becoming Islamic, you need to pray...A LOT. Then you will find your answer. Either choice is a huge step and change in your life...you need to talk to experts in both religions (missionaries are the way to go).
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As a person married to a spouse of a very different religion, I can say that anyone who offers an "easy answer" has probably not been in that position.  Make no mistake, it can be difficult.  That said, this is decision time for your daughter and prospective son-in-law.  \n\nIf they are ready to be with each other, they are going to have to get used to navigating religious and cultural differences.  And this is an opportunity to decide whether they wish to cleave to each other or to their respective families of origin, to the extent there is some conflict between those two loyalties.  If they cannot prioritize being together over parental approval, the marriage is better off not starting, for its future is not good.  On the other hand, if they establish that their love for each other is something they wish to put at the center of their lives, learning that now can create a valuable opportunity to build a foundation for a future marriage.\n\nI would encourage them to:\n(1)  Engage his family's rabbi (or another rabbi, if his family's rabbi refuses to participate) in the dialogue;\n(2)  Talk about mixed-religion marriages with others in similar marriages, particularly Christian-Jewish pairings;\n(3)  Pray to their shared God/G-d in their two very different ways for guidance and help for their relationship.\n\nBtw, even in Orthodox Judaism conversion for purposes of marriage, and marriage to converts, is acceptable.  Try the Book of Ruth.  Possibly this is actually about cultural, rather than religious differences.\n\nImho, despite the challenges of interfaith marriages, they may play a very important role in moving our world from the present mutual hostility of all the world's faiths towards greater mutual understanding and peace.  And that is certainly a noble pursuit.\n\nMy blessings and my wishes for good luck to them and to both your families, which may yet become one family.
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It depends on how open the Muslim guy is. My dad was a Muslim when he married my mom, a Christian. 22 years have passed in their marriage but yet they are still going stronger than ever. There never was a time that my mom felt that by marrying to a Muslim guy she would be treated like dirt (although her friends told her otherwise), and my dad agreed that he felt that women shouldn't be treated like that either.\n\nReligion is no question when it comes to love, and when it comes to an understanding between two kindred souls. The reason I believe this? That's because I'm a happy guy brought up by two parents of different races, different beliefs and different religions (although my mom is now a Muslim), and I turned out okay. \n\nA marriage is the unification of two souls. It doesn't matter who you are. You are one, in God's eyes...
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i live in a predominantly muslim country, ...several of my friends were previously christian, then converted to islam to marry their man... my observations are:\nAdvantage 1: you'll never have to worry if or not he is cheating cuz he is allowed to have up to 4 wives! oh, n they dont have to be legally married, title of mistress is good enough (but he has to financially support them)\nAdvantage 2: if ur intrested in converting to islam, here's your chance! moslems aren't allowed to marry anyone of a different faith.\nAdvantage 3: he's definately circumcised and your sons will be as well - this slippery operation is done at age 12.\nAdvantage 4: he will have 100% control over you. spousal abuse is not frowned on in the moslem religion\nAdvantage 5: in order to marry him, u need to convert first. this is a tedious process if done "correctly." oh, u'll have to learn arabic as well.\nAdvantage 7: if ur more of a "service" type personallity, this religion will suit you very well because the wife's role is to literally serve her husband (its not reciprocal) if he wants hot coffee, u'd better make it quick girl!\nAdvantage 6: when ur married, you'll be moslem, and guess what?!! its a sin (a really bad sin) to refuse ur husband sexually\n\nDisdavantages: none or all of the above...depending on ur point of view\n\noh, a word of caution, the moslem men act very "normal" while ur dating. after u marry, well....
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I think you should forget about this married man. If he has told you he wont leave his family, then just cut your losses and leave.  Dont play second best to someone else, you're worth more than that.\n\nI cant advise you on the arranged marriage business as I am not familiar with how religion works but surely if you are not happy to be made to marry someone, you cannot be forced to do it.
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I'm an african but i know a little about muslim marriage.He has to introduce you to his family,then he'll make his intentions to his family,thats to marry you.Then he will come with his family to meet yours.The lady's family does not go to meet the guy's family.it is isn't done anywhere.Just be patient.when your guy is ready he'll tell you when he's meeting your family.
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Okay so he divorced you.  So what?  It proves he is a jerk and an idiot.  \n\nYou wrote, that you are a Muslim woman.  Do you know what that means?  That means you have a wonderful religion to learn.  Find peace in Islam.  Dont kill yourself and send yourself to hell!  If you are muslim you should know this.\n\nYou are educated but not working because your samaj/society does not like it.  It seems to me you are more worried about your traditions and culture than you worry about Islam.  \n\nRead the Quran.  It will give you peace of mind.  Ask a MODERATE scholar what you should do.  Do not be embarrassed or think this is a secret.  None of this is your fault.  It was all his fault.\n\nAre your parents looking for a new person for you?  Are you interested in getting remarried? \n\nFind some interests to pursue.  If you are living with your parents and they do not want you to work, then at least for the time being respect them.  I have to wonder this, if you were a doctor, would your parents not want you to work?  Sometimes indian parents are proud of their doctor daughters and they work.  Logically, if your career is within the code of Islam then you should be allowed to work, it is only your culture holding you back.  But  at the same time dont hurt your parents  by rebelling and working YET, because they are going through a difficult time  about the divorce right now.  \n\nFind some hobbies interests to pursue.  Take care of yourself, get new clothes made, excercise, go to the salon.  Read the Quran, join an Islamic class or group.  A moderate progressive one.  You dont need people telling you which way your hair is supposed to be and these little picky things that some extreme types of people argue about.   What you need is peace.  And REAL Islam can give you peace.  \n\nDo you think you can come to USA?  Maybe if you try to come here, you can get a nice job, a nice place and here there are alot of Indian or Pakistani Muslims that would marry a nice girl like you in a heartbeat.  On top of that, you getting away from all you know, your current surroundings, maybe a good way to learn about yourself.\n\nDont waste your time thinking about the jerk who made the biggest mistake of his life.  He will regret leaving you everyday until forever.  \n\nYou are better than him. Prove it to the world.\n\nAnd remember, if you say you are a muslim woman.  Then find out what that means.\n\n\nNo suicide, okay?
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Firstly Muslim Man can marry only Muslim , Christian or Jewish Woman, because all of them beliave in God.\n\nSecondly the steps of marriage are simple in Islam, only the couple need 3 conditions:\n\n1- He have to ask her (Do you accept me as a Husband, treating you in the best way as God order us, she have to aswer Yes I accept - if she want that).\n2- At least 3 persons should attend this protocol as a witnesses.\n3- Both of them should intend to Continual life.
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If I married a muslim who wants to marry another woman I would have to ask him first why he wants to marry another woman.There must be a reason.If his answer was something like 'cause I'm sick of you *which would be a sin anyway* I'll just divorce him, yeah muslim women can divorce men..\n\nIt's like knowing your husband is cheating on you, would you leave him? even if you love him very much? \n\nIf I loved him very much I might learn how to tolerate it.But he has to come up with a good reason why he wants to marry another woman.For instance, if I'm sick and can't be a wife or anything like that, I might agree.