we know ,some time  -wife/husbend will go out of the world. first. how to prepare happy living, no partener?
813703
this is such a hard question. i am getting married next month and i can't even begin to describe the feeling i have for him. he makes me happy in all the funniest ways. i couldn't imagine my life without him. especilly it being happy. lord. he is the reason for my happiness. who would i be without him? some say thta you are two people, just one heart. i think different. marriage combines the two of you..eternal...forever! 2 become 1\nsometimes i think that i want to die first so i won't have to deal with the pain. but then that would be selfish and i don't ever wan him to suffer that ype of pain.then on the otherhand i want us to die together neither of us would feel pain afterwards and we would still be together...buried next to each other. you know. \nsome would say that that is still being selfish but no body ever wants to feel that pain..knowing that the person you vowed to give the rest of your if to, is no longer going to be there, but ix feet under you...who could live happily after that?
167754
yes. Notice people married for decades than all of the sudden one of them dies. More likely than not the other half will die shortly there after
273422
try trading your wife with a chimpanzee. I'm sure you will all live happilly after   hahahaha!
142751
Uh yeah after being in the Orient, and watching Oriental women cook, clean and go in circles around their men while working a job while still being selfless in the support of their man and family, I'd have to say "yeah sdj, 45% of U.S. women forgot what being a woman was all about." And bud I'd say join the military, they'll send you to all sorts of cool foreign places where you can wife shop, learn the language before you get to where your going, that will help.
125966
start each day with the thought you are alive and have a day to do whatever you want to do\n\nif your husband leaves to work before him, give him a sloppy kiss\n\ndo some quiet meditation before you sleep\n\nbe a minimalist and try not to accumulate, be more conscious about the beauty of nature\n\nread an interesting book, have a fun conversation, and meet someone you always wanted to meet, if you do this regularly you wuld have a happy life\n\noh yeah - don't read the newspapers and don't watch TV - they only have ads - of things you should have which you don't have or miserable stories around the world about bombs and killings
347218
Well the first thin is is that you both need to be able to:\ncommunicate\ncompromise\ntrust\nbe honest \ngive as well as receive\nbe able to be patient and understanding\nbe able to allow them to have a life away from you as well.\nto want to do things special for one another once in a while. like:\nplan a walk at the beach and have a pic nic\ncall them up on the phone jsut to say "i love you", "i miss you" and/or "I'm thinking aobut you"\nplan a candle light dinner at home\nhave a nice warm bath waiting for their return possibly with( candles, music, oil or bubbles and/or rose petals in tub)\nOn your partners day off, play hooky to spend time with them on cuddling on the couch watching movies and talking.\nIf you two can do this, seek a marriage counselor, counselor will be able to bring up some other importatnt things to thik about, that most people don't seem to think about.
461746
Well, go with the old phrase "if you love someone, set them free."  Life works out in the strangest and most wonderful ways.  There may be some exciting and wonderful adventures awaaitng you when you move.
242753
My advice to you:\nAll you have to do hun, stay truthful, honest, and love your man. And hopefully he does the same for the rest of your lives. There are no precautions you can take to avoid divorce. Fate brought you 2 together, and your fate lies with you 2. Let it take its course. If youre unsure of this marriage, do you think you should or are ready to get married? Make sure that you guys are 100% ready for this. Get some pre-marriage couseling if you'd like. Like meeting w/ your pastors. Usually that is the first step b/4 getting married anyway. You cant avoid the unavoidable. If its meant to be, it'll last, if its not, it wont. But best wishes to you. And a lifetime of happiness and love!!
165632
Enjoy your life and live according to your own values and worldy views. The thought of the future can prob. drive you up the wall. Live each day well individually and the world will heal eventually. Sometimes I like to think of things unfolding as they should and all you and I can do is love the time we have.
1160198
Say...BYE  BYE.......Shes gone........Maybe during you're " confusing emotions about you're marriage, and  " figuring out what to do", You should have done them.......at home, with the actual person....You-re wife, The solution was between you and you're wife, not some other woman. Just be glad you don't have any kids dragged in.
728734
Live!!! Love and laugh!!!  Life if way to short to not enjoy the last days to the fullest.....\n\nAnd dance like you've missed the opportunity in your youth!!!\n\n\nyour sister,\nGinger
1183845
1. Live life to the fullest. Love and care for the people near to you, there smile will make you happy and your life will become enjoyable.\n2. Try every possible thing in your life , but remaining in limits.\n3. Share your feelings with your better half only.
718007
im sure that your first thought would be to do something grand and over the top, but i would suggest that you do something simple. a little quiet time with just you two will be a good start. if you want to have a welcome home party for him, i would suggest that you have it the week after he gets home, to allow him time to adjust. and as for you... be prepared for some changes, and dont expect things just to fall back into the place where you were when he left. accept the fact that your husband is a changed man. because he is. just be patient with him, and take things slow. caution your friends and loved one not to make him talk about his experiences. he will tell you when he is ready. and above all, just make sure that you are there for him. out of everything that you want to plan for him, do for him, and do to him, im sure that all he really wants is a hug from the woman he loves.
670734
The hardest thing in the whole wide world, is being 2 and then ending up 1. There is no set rule how to be happy during this separation time. But there are steps to making it easier. First off, don't ever give up hope! Go out with your friends and do things that make you feel good. Never isolate yourself, always have a game plan for tomorrow. Keep you mind busy and when you catch yourself thinking and feeling lonely, tell yourself you have control over this part of your life. Then do something. Call someone, go to the mall, visit a friend, just don't set idol. In time this will become a routine, and before you know you are moving a head in your life and good things are happening. And you have yourself to "thank" for this!
1088008
as long as your wife feels OK with the idea then just hang lose. just remember the man up will really disagree. your marriage to your wife not to the colony. just think about it we are not in the days to be exploring in life and letting our Love's hang around other people that may have more life in them and take away your wife.
679040
Well...I have to say...you are not the first to be in this situation...so, good news, there is nothing wrong with you.  It is called being human...and you are allowed to be.  PHEW!  So, now we have to worry about the actual situation, honestly, you have to ask yourself a question.  First, who is more important...you, or your family.  Because I hate to be the one to say this to you...but that is the real question.  Do you brake up your family?  Do you hurt your family, friends and loved ones?  Because, that is exactly what is going to happen.  The hurt will not last forever (well, your husband's hurt might last forever)...but everyone will be okay in the long run.  Good news, time heals all. OR-are you more important.  Do you do something that makes YOU happy?  Do you go after what YOU want?  Going after what you want (this new guy)...will TAKE A LOT OF ENERGY AND A LOT OF WORK...this will not be an easy transaction.  But then, you have happiness.\nYou can't make your kids, family and friends happy...if YOU are not happy, right?\nI know this is a vague answer...but, honestly...there is only two answers.\n1) Stop seeing him and continue with your unhappy life...\n2) Keep seeing him and start a new hard life...
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As soon as you are prepared:\n\nFINANCIALLY \nTo become the provider of the family.\n\nEMOTIONALLY\nTo accept responsibility as a husband and later as a father.\n\nSPRITUALLY\nTo guide your family to truth and righteousness.\n\nPHYSICALLY\nTo be physically fit to work and to bear children and to take care of them (with your wife).\n\nINTELLECTUALLY\nTo share your talents and skills to your family and to your community.\n\nFor men, this can be around 25 to 30 years old...I got married at 26...Welcome to the Club!!!