Would I mess up my friendship with my male friend If I wanted to date him?
828585
This is kind of hard to deal with because on the one hand you want to stay friends, and on the other hand you would like to go out with him to see what happens.  If I were you I would go in and maybe go out to a bowling alley or sports event telling him that you just wanted some on to go with you.  See what happens from there if he is really interested in you he will probably asked you out.  But if you just want to stay friends make sure that you tell him right up front so that no one will get their feelings hurt if things don't advance any further than just going out and having a good time.  By no means ask them out to a dinner date or a movie, or worse yet over to your house after you go out.  I have a lot of really close friends and I like to go out with an eat, go to parties, and just to be around having a good time.  I was straight with these people up front and I know that they really do like me but they know that it is for friendship only.  And I have some really great friendships that I will always cherish.  There is nothing wrong with going out with a friend because I think the best marriages are really based on friendship and honesty to each other.  Good luck
499454
Well, fess up first of all. Admit that you were talking to his friend.  But let him know if it was strictly just talking out of friendship or whatever it is. Be honest, if you were talking to his friend and you think that you're attracted to the friend, then try to date the friend if he's available. Don't keep leading the other guy on and letting him think that you're into him when really you're into the friend because you want them both or something like that. I'm not saying this is the case, I'm just saying you need to explain yourself. If he doesn't respond then let it go, as much as it will irritate you to leave something at that, you'll have the peace of mind to know that you did what you had to do and that you've apologized and offered some sort of explanation. It is his fault for burning any bridges. And remember to look at signs, this may be a sign that you're not compatible with him, if you can honestly see yourself saying that you wouldnt do this if the situation was reversed, then you know you're on different levels. Good luck with this situation.
1035613
How much do you like him?  Because if you all was friends first would that mess up your friendship if something don't work out?  Is it worth it to mess up a friendship? Try asking him with a trick question and get his understanding on it.  You might need to think this really through, because you could lose your best friend.
532072
You might feel like you're on a date, but that's just because you're straight.  He doesn't feel that way at all.  I had this one friend and I didn't think that I was leading her on or whatever and she KNEW I was gay, but she said that it was unfair of me to play with her like that and act like I was into her.  I wasn't GIVING her signals or anything though.  If he really wants you, let him come to you, you don't wanna lose a friendship just because you think you could convert him.  Things would just be WEIRD between the two of you.
815319
No your not being stupid at all. That is so common. If, you feel you two are good friends, just try (it will be hard) to talk to him about how you feel, and too see how his feelings are towards the situation. Tell him, how you feel and just say if you don't feel the same way that is fine I don't want to ruin are friendship. The worse thing that could happen is that he doesn't have feelings for you that way and he just loves being friends with you and hugging you and making you laugh. That is still a great relationship to have. \nBest of luck to you!!!
1154858
As they say ,,,,Men come and go , but a friend is hard to find. I wouldn't risk my Friendship over no man. To many men,,,not enough true friends,,so if you have a true friend,,choose the friend, and in my eye,s if she is a true friend and you told her how you feel about him, and why you wont date him, for fear it may cause friction between you and her, if she is a true friend,,,,,she will stay away from him also, out of respect for you!~
282762
Never, but never, beat around the bush!  If you don't care for the guy as a date, tell him so.  If you don't, complications could arise at a later time, and you don't want that. And, don't tell the guy, "hey, I don't care to date you, but we can be friends".  That could burn his ego up so fast it would feel like a 20 lb hammer falling on his foot, or heart.  Just tell him like it is, "sorry but we're not each others "type".  "Like blood, your A+ and I'm AB- they just don't match! - sorry!"  I wonder how you know he "loves" you?  He already told you so?  Don't believe others rumors or guesses, they can be wrong, and you wouldn't want to embarrass yourself assuming he does love you, if in actuality he doesn't.
704317
Don't make this more complex than it has to be. HE likes you. YOU like him. Tell him you want to move your friendship to the next level and start dating. This is a GREAT thing !!! I am happy for you two.
31204
If you only feel like you are his friend you should keep it that way.  Don't date someone just for the heck of it.  You could totally break his heart... \n\nIf you care for him at all - you won't even think about hurting him like that.
666090
Two things that may happen. Either your bestfriend will accept it and ask you if you want to move the friendship to another level. Or he will be surprise and will start avoiding you especially if he likes someone else. It will surely be a tough decision and you are the only one who can make it.
819239
If you and your best friend likes him then he should automatically be off limits to both of you. You don't want your friendship to be ruined over some guy. There are plenty other guys that you will like.....don't risk your friendship
815606
I agree with FSJD. Be careful.  But if you and him click, I don't see any reason for you not to date him.  Your friend is no longer going with him.
600681
If you guys still have a friendship then go for it. Just hang out with him and see what happens, that is what I plan on doing with mine too.
652878
Depends on how close you are with him. If he's still your friend, yes. If not, no. (Unless you want to tell him to kiss your butt goodbye).
857735
Yes it's possible. I'm friends with a guy since we were in elementary. We hang out, but we don't get all close. we're just friends. and we've been like that for 4-5 years. We talk and stuff, but we're not interested in dating anybody yet. And he has a lot of friends that are girls, but no flirting, just friends. ;)
222545
Certainly. I've been in that situation several times and it didn't screw up the friendship and no one got hurt. Yes, you have to have well respected boundaries and have to be able to communicate honestly to avoid misunderstanding. If both of you can do that, then it can work out wonderfully.
345852
First of all a guy is not worth a friendship!!!\n\nYou should not be in their relationship either that is just going to cause problems, especially since you are friends with both of them.\n\nAlso if you date him she will be mad at you and then if you and him break up he will be mad at you to and then you will not have a best friend. And I honestly dont think you want to risk both of their friend ships just because of the crush you have on him!