What's your personal way of brushing people off? Do you not call them, write them or not talk to them?
827791
Slowly but surely I stop talking and phoning them.
637120
Each person is different. Be very quiet around the person until you size him/her up. I once worked with the most gruff person in the world. He was superior to me, as he was in a management role with the company who owned the company I worked for. He was always chewing people up. I was in my early 20's. One day he called me and said "I am going to come down there and break your G.D. arm off". (because he thought I made a mistake on our payroll). I was tired of his behavior and I said "you come down here and break my G.D. arm off, and see what I break off of you". He was really quiet for a second and then burst out laughing. Apparently, no one had ever talked back to him like that. He decided he like me, and we remained friends for 20 years until he passed away.  \n\nSo don't give up, make it your goal to turn this person into an advocate versus and enemy.
621725
Are you close enough to offer advice without offending her? Like asking her to pay attention to her oral hygiene. Or can yoou broach this with her through her friends? If possible do so, it will do her good, and you in the end when you next meet her.
994038
This is what i do.. I call a friend up and tell her to call me later on in the day and ask me what i got done that day and i would do the same for her,  somehow it works, i guess because i don't want to tell her i did nothing .  Try it
249281
That's a tough one.  Sometimes it is easier to just stop talking to them.\n\nHurts for them, but works for you.
1042871
How about annoying your colleagues so much so that they don't miss you when you leave? or volunteering to scrub their desks to erase coffee marks and deep clean their keyboards? or sending anonymous letters in the suggestion box?\n\nStop BMB Capello for now, and go back to work, you're busy :-)
508537
Of course, people use other people. I do not consider these people friends though.
808171
I found the easiest way to tell someone, at least for me, was to just write a note. Writing your feelings down allows you to express exactly what you feel, but are afraid to in person. It worked quite a few times for me.
409604
What I've taught everyone in my family....and it works.\n\nOver the years, I've learned whether dealing in person or on the phone [I always carry a pen and small notebook]\nI always ask...\n"Hi, who am I speaking to?" {get first & last name]\n"What is your identifier number?" [if they can't give a last name....they always have a number.]\n\nIn person, I do the same thing....waiters, waitresses, nurses in emergency rooms...etc.\n\nNow I have it!!!  Their Name.  Before anything else happens.\nI have their name.....they know if they are rude, inconsiderate or hang up on me......I have their 'name'.\n\nIf....any of the above occurs.  I call back and immediately as for a supervisor [you'll get..."Oh, maybe I can help you." and you say "No.  Get me the Supervisor."\n\nThe same holds true for any 'in-person' contacts.  Any ingnorance...ask for a supervisor or manager.\n\nMind you....\n  \nI also use their "name" to call back a supervisor to tell them what "excellent" service I've had also.
394009
Alone or Along? If you are friendly and they still don't like you well that's life.  Just keep yourself to yourself, be polite and friendly, speak when spoken to, put your head down, do your work and head off home after all you don't have to socialize with them do you?
141333
with respect and dignity... ie not via text or phone call!\n\nDo the "<name>, we have to have a talk" thing.
690151
you wann not ignore them but not think about them either? IF that's what you're saying try writing them down. write everything that's in your head and that needs to come out, then summarize it until you have it down to a few clear points. And then walk away. Do something else, forget about it, then go back with a fresh mind and some space in your head, and try to tackle one aspect of the problem at a time. K, good luck :-)
308993
You're no longer close?  Then just leave them in the past, darlin.  You're trying to live better and clean up your act, DO NOT be around them, I can say they will try their damndest to drag you back down to their level.  Completely write them off, take them off your cell phone, email, ims, MySpace, whatever and however you talk to them.  Leave them and that life in the past and you will feel a 1,000 times better.
1123164
The easist thing to do it just to ignore that person. Eventually it will all stop. If not, you can report that person.
1127573
I've mets dozens of celebrities (it happens a lot when you grow up in L.A.)  Usually, if there's a reason to actually talk to them, I just say Hi and go from there.  If there's no reason to, I just leave them alone.  They're just people and I think that it would get really tiresome to have everyone approaching you all the time everywhere you go.
292633
be polite but don't initiate any conversation, let them do it and don't give anything away. they'll eventually tire of getting no feedback from you. or you could constantly say you're busy, they'll get the message.
809614
Yes, but for me personally.....i try to avoid it.  It depends on how important that person is to me, and if it will ruin my friendship with that person and other people.