he apologizes to his g/f but not me, his long time friend....?
816692
Let's see, he apologizes to her, he gets kisses and maybe more.\n\nHe apologizes to you, he gets "Thank You."\n\nOnce again, sex sells.
191589
well..personally, i would have been a little offended if you had called me up and told me you couldnt go all the sudden...mainly because it seems like the way you told him wasnt exactly sorry, or anything...i think you should have been sweet and called him up and just explained what happend and ask if you could go on the date maybe later, or another day, and be really sweet about it...on the other hand, i think he overreacted and he should have at least called you and told you it was over...i think its okay for you to call him..you both should talk through this and either make up and get back together, or make up and go your sepreate ways...and for in the future, always talk about whats going on, and be sweet about it..guys have a tendency to be stupid and think that if you cant do something you dont want to be with them..i kind of went through this with my gf a bit, and now we talk through everything and even though we disagree on stuff and sometimes get upset with each other, we can always work through it and make each other happy :) good luck!
1010067
maybe he feels bad about how it all went down. Accept the apology and move on
562468
You sound like a very loving person. It sounds like you have a wonderful friendship with your friend. And I think that the basis of friendship is honesty. \nI think you should consider telling the guy, when he calls, to be honest with his girl. Convince him to tell her how he feels. He sounds like he isn't as honest to his girl"friend" as you are. \nIf he isn't very cooperative at being honest and continues the discrete behavior, ask your friend in a round about way like:\n"Hey, there is something I think you should know but I am pretty sure it will upset you. Do you want me to tell you?"\n\nShe will say yes, and if so proceed slowly no need to get it all out right away, ease her into it with something like:\n"Ok, I'm not sure his intentions or if he has even told you about it... I hope he has but it feels like hes being discrete about it which is why I think you should know..." etc etc\n\nDon't forget to reassure her that you value your friendship and that you truly hoped the sexual playtime would help her relationship but that you don't want to feel that the encounter is part of some hidden agenda.\n\nAsk her how she wants you to handle future encounters with him, her, and them. She may want you in the relationship, she may want him out. The most important thing is being honest upfront to avoid any misunderstandings. \n\nSame thing with him, if you value his company treat him the same way, honestly. \nIf he is being pushy, ask him questions... this slows guys down and makes them thing more about the conversation and its potential for direction rather than the goal(i.e. "getting" the girl) and read his responses. \nDishonest people are easy to read because it feels dishonest.\nAnd don't forget that you can cross reference everything said by either of them with the significant other for even more insight into who's telling what to whom.\n\nIf your lucky everything will workout and they will love you for being a very big help, a very loving friend, and an honest person. \nIf not hopefully you can salvage 1 of the relationships be that theirs, you & hers, or you and his. \nDon't forget to be honest to yourself too, Ask yourself what scenerio you would like the most. Then tell them about it. Honesty has power unlimited when used properly.
955973
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
775957
I think what the right thing to do is find a way to talk to him and explain to him that the reason you lied was so his feelings didnt get hurt...would he rather have had his best friend try to get him to stop liking a girl OR get crushed my the girl...i think that would be a true friend....and if he doesnt wanna listen or still ignores you after words then maybe he likes to get crushed
494733
THAT IS NOT A FRIEND!!!AND CERTAINLY NOT WORTHY OF BEING BEST ANYTHING.I WOULD CALL THAT A S**T STARTER.GET RID OF HER BEFORE SHE REALLY HURTS YOUR FEELINGS.IF AN APOLOGY WASN"T GOOD ENOUGH,THEN THAT IS HER PROBLEM.WITH FRIENDS LIKE THAT,YOU DON'T NEED ENEMIES.
527021
You need to find a way to engage with him.  It's possible that he is just paniced.  (I don't know how long it's been since you told him), and if he was your friend for a long time and he slept with you, then I find it unlikely that he is just running away for no reason.  Write him a letter, Call him, walk up to him and say we need to talk. Do somthing, figure out for yourself if you want to be in a relationship with this guy, and if you do, then just lay your feelings out there, and let him find his way.  If he loves you then he will treat you with the dignity and respect that you deserve.  (I think that it is much more likely that he is just freaking out).  So give him a little paitence and understanding because you have nothing to lose.  But be prepared for him to say he doesn't want to be with you (this is for your sake).  And whatever happens sweetie, your a woman of real value, and there is sombody out there who will love and cherish you for who you are.  Don't settle for less.  (but give cut him a little slack being told your going to be a father with your friend and not your GF is big news).  Good luck sweetie, and I hope this helps.  By the way, don't pay attention to the a**hole who answered above me, he is just being a prick.
505159
IT is apparent that he is not your friend at all if he is dating your exgirlfriend.  Just lose them both!!!
806113
I think you should just continue to talk to him as usual, until he responds, cause, if he feels the same way, he will go for it. If he doesn't feel the same, at least you took the brave step of talking to him like normal, y'know? And your friends were rude and inconsiderate to tell him about your feelings. They shouldn't have done something like that out of thrill and excitement, just to see what happens next. I bet they're watching you both reacting right now like a hawk, with popcorns in hand. Set it straight with them, and I hope they will apologize to you. Good luck!
240639
i completely understand what ur going through, i was in the same boat a you. my advice is, if he really is happy with his girlfriend right now, i wouldn't say anything. because right now you're his friend, and you should be happy for him, unless she really isn't good for him (meaning she doesn't treat him right). but, if and when you do tell him, make sure you do it in person. just tell him that he is a great friend, and that u love being friends with him b/c he is such a great guy. then tell him that somewhere in the friendship your feelings changed, and now you like him. that's all i can really tell you. i hope i was some help.
1090954
whatever it was he said to upset her, if she really cares for him she probably just needs a while to calm down and eventually she will talk. but most women know how to hold a grudge for a long time. but i don't think there is much that u can do at this point. or maybe, since you guys are in to writing letters, he could write her a letter apologizing for whatever he said and telling her how he feels lost without her. or maybe he can try the more bold approach and go talk to her face to face. it dosen't hurt to try, if he wants her then he should go and get her. good luck.
774570
i know how you feel. my friend did the same thing and unfortunately she has changed alot and we are not close like we used to be. but that doesnt mean that it has to be that way for you too( hopefully it wont! )\n\nat first my friend was confused i would try to help her out as much as i could and now i guess shes made up her mind (she has a gf now) and i just let her do her own thing. \n\nits sad becuase we hardly talk like we used to.  oh well what can you do
1138670
He is not cheating on you, but it seems like you need to get your act together and understand that he's not with you just for the papers. You are very special to him, and he is just confiding on an old girlfriend with whom he is just friends with.
493682
Maybe it is just a misunderstanding.  You need to approach your friend and make the overtures.  Ask him/her if there is anything wrong and tell them that you have been concerned that you may have upset them and if so that you would like to make amends.  It might not even be you, or it might be something that someone has said about you.  Only by approaching your friend can you get to the bottom of it.
306632
I agree with loving_father.\nPut yourself in your friends shoes. How would you feel?\nI was in this situation once. My friends knew my GF was seeing someone else and didn't say anything. Needless to say, they are no longer my friends. Do the right thing.
1167340
it's a two way street. any relationship, both partys have to do their part to keep it alive. In your case, doesn't sound like a friend to me. He just wants to use you as his little slave to go fetch things for him. Just imagine if it was a death matter, would he come to your aid? only you know the answer to this. so ask yourself if you want to be friends with him for the rest of your life or, move on. you'll find other frinds who treat you the way you should be treated without asking them. don't pay him any more attention. go your way and do your own thing. if he really has a brain and cares about your feelings, he'll apologize. if not, you'll understand, hes just plain SELFISH. good luck