what do you do when you tried everything to get your kids back?
826515
Get a lawyer!!! Most states have legal services for low income families...so if you can't afford one then look in your local yellow pages for the closest legal aid office....if you have complied with everything and hopefully are no longer with the father...you should be able to get them back...the longer you wait to get an attorney the harder it will be for you to get them back.
625264
Having there dad gone, prob hit them really hard. You Just need to remind them that their daddie loves them and you guys mean everything to them. Maybe what they need to for you tl sit down with them and say. Okay, were going to write daddy a letter. Make it into a fun project. Seems to me they really miss their dad and They are not used to him being gone for this long. Having kids at that age they dont really understand what is really going on and how to handle it so they take it out on you and act up. But being to strict wont make things better. With out yelling at them to tell them what to do. Say it in a cool and clam way of love. Kids respond more to a clam and sweet voice then a high mean voice. with your little one that learning out to not wet her pants that can be hard not having your dad around. but you can also make that fun. if you are really having trouble with things at home. try getting some help from family memebers to take them off your hand a little big. GO to sea world or the zoo. or something out doors for a change. I wish you the best of luck. No one knows how to deal with their kids. better then their own mom.\nHanig in there. Even if on somedays. if you just want to realx. get their fav. baby-sitter or something. Make cookies, put on a play. Just be their for your kids.\n\nGood luck hope everything works out.
848484
Don't give up hope, and don't give  up on knocking on those doors. Sooner or later you will find the help you need. good luck to you and your son.
46314
Give your children all the love you can and forget the loser that walked out of their life. Same thing happened to me. Father left when they were very young and never came back. If the father does a huge turn around and becomes worthy to provide them the love they need then you might consider easing him back into their life some time down the road. In the mean time be happy and live your life the best you can. Only thing you can really do. If you feel your children really need a man figure in their life maybe a grandparent or big brother program could fill the gap?
94344
Get a pet!  And even when your kids move out that doesn't mean you can't still talk on the phone or visit.  Keep in touch with the kids and get a dog or cat (or both)!  Also, this is a chance to spend some alone time with your spouse and get to know him again (assuming there is a spouse)
267275
Um...from what I could understand, I'm just going to give you the advise I would use.  If your child is having trouble, consider either changing schools, homeschooling your child, talking to the parents (no matter what difficulty there may be) and the kids themselves as well.  Step in and be authoritve about this.  This time in life is part of the time that shapes your child so keep her as safe as possible and talk her through what's happening.  Those kids need to be stopped, and you need to do as much as you can not only for yourself, but for your child and the help you give and example you set.  \n\nIf you really can't do anything though, change schools as soon as possible.
1169853
Talk to him about it when the kids are not there.   Just tell him your miserable and you have filed for a divorce.  If you haven't really had a relationship with him the last few years, it might be a blessing to him too.  Just try to be as civil as possible for the kids.  Try not to fight in front of them...but don't give them false hopes either.  Good luck, you're going to need it ,I'm afraid.
322937
Keep trying for that child's sake. But make sure she wants you back. She has to TELL you she wants you back. Don't just tell yourself she does for no good reason except that is what YOU want.
773565
Keep a paper record of the dates this happened and also write down how it upset the kids. Keeping everything on paper and dated is the best thing,then when you go to court take it all with you! Good Luck!
341585
Be patient. I made my kids cry too many times. As she gains confidence and skill, raise the wheels a little.
1141231
let go of your past and try again. God will look at your heart and help you. Picture you helping your baby walk with your finger holding his hand and he slips and falls. Well you look at it so innocently and gladly help him up and try again. God looks at you that way, hang on to His finger and try again.
468248
yes she can get her children back,leaving small children alone is not a good idea for any length of time but we all make mistakes the area dhs office should get involved and help her find the resources she needs if it still doesn't look good contact legal aid .good luck!
1028012
Think like a soldier. When you have an impassable problem what do you do? You still get past it. That is what you must do. Have you told him of your fears? I tell ya what, if your kids are all okay with it, then you better hold on to him, that's rare! Go for it!
1179960
None .  I'm sorry you have to go through something like that . I will remember you in my Prayers tonight . My kids went through that and now they don't speak to him b/c of empty promise's on his part .But my kids are fine and they have a awesome father in there life that Loves them more than words can say . I pray that is what will happen in your life . May God Bless and Keep you in his warm embrace . Rest in knowing that he is the one missing out not you.
110071
NO there isn't a way to get your life back because now you need to keep your kids' welfare in mind for every single decision.  BUT that doesn't mean you cannot still enjoy yourself.  A lot of it is getting your priorities in order and making decisions WITHOUT worrying about what other people think.  Of course, that's as long as your marriage is going well and your kids are healthy, happy, and safe.  If you are the type that doesn't mind leaving your kids with a sitter/caregiver so you can go shop, work, get your nails done, hang at the beach, party - whatever - then find someone you trust and do it.  If leaving your kids with someone while you go somewhere makes you feel rather guilty or just not right, then don't do it.\n\nYOU decided what your life will be like, to heck with critics.  If you are taking care of yourself, your husband. AND your kids, then you have got things going well.\n\nI have 3 kids and I am married.  I admit I chose to give up a lot to stay at home with the younger 2 b/c we can't afford for me to go back to work!  But I did keep my volleyball playing - which I NEVER intended to give up.  People tell me all the time I should be home with my kids instead of v-balling and others tell me I should go back to work b/c that's what should be done.\n\nAs long as you remember you're a mom and do not go overboard, you should be fine and happy.  Good luck!
439075
I know how angry you are - my ex does those type of things and worse.  Once, when he threatened to not return the children (as we had agreed), I called the police (another police officer had advised me to call the police if my ex continued to do things in violation of our agreement - like picking up the kids without telling me, etc.).  Anyway, I am in California and I called the police and the officer said that, if the kids are with a parent, they would not take a report until it had been at least 48 hours since the children were supposed to be returned.  My attorney didn't offer any solutions and didn't seem to think it was that big of a deal.  \n\nThe bottom line seems to be:  the court hears about this stuff (and worse) all the time.  So, while to us, it is huge and terrible, to other people, it's just things divorced parents do.  Sorry you are going through that.  Maybe someone can offer more productive help.
929577
document everything. if the kids come to your house with bruises. take them to the hospital, and take pictures. get your county's children services involved. They have a lot of power and can remove the child immediatly. get an attorney.\n my wife and i are going throght the same thing with our grandchildren, my wife's 24 year old daughter is borderline retarded, and diagnosed shizophrenic and bipolar. the four year old grandaughter was taken from her right after she was born, it was easier since there was no father involved. now there us a 9 month old boy we are battling in the courts over now.\n good luck