I think I have cancer.Should I tell my mom?
813193
Yes!..... and get to a doctor ASAP
719369
I dont want to alarm you.  But my mother had breast cancer and it spread into her bones after being told 4 years earlier that she was cancer free.  After her dignosis in May of 2003, sadly it took intill Dec of 2004 to kill her.  She was only 49.  They tried everything from chemo to radiation.  They even had her on a hormone pill but the cancer had just spread so much.  I am really sorry about your friend my heart goes out to her.  I would find out what stage she is in.  My mother was in stage four so there was really not much they could do.  Through the treatments they provided it did prolong her life for a year and half after given a timeline of 6 months.  And again I am truly sorry about your friend.
726260
I suggest you find a nearby Cancer Center that you trust and go meet with a social worker there. It is also important to know what kind of treatment your mom needs (i.e. Surgery, Chemo, radiation, or just hospice care). You should find out how sick she is because it might be better for her not to fly or travel.  If she has started treatment in England already, it is better to have a continuity of care there.
501097
First, Im sorry that you are going through such a horrific experience. However, Your are comforting your mother in the best way possible. Telling her the truth helps her prepare and say and do the things she needs to before leaving this place. Your honesty will let her lay in peace and your love will keep her alive longer warm and happy!\n\nMy thoughts are are with you and your family! xoxox
969787
I am so sorry to hear about your family friend and hope you are providing support and understandin right now....the fact that she has secondarys (the cancer has spread to  another part of the body) is , I will be honest, worrying.  I know how awful this illness can be and how devastating it can be especially when the person has been healthy....my dad got cancer...he didn;t smoke, he was active and healthy....by the time he was diagnosed he had secondarys.  The chemo might be there to ease the side effects rather than cure or extend life...she needs to know which it is in her case....my thoughts are with your friend and all who love her right now...I do wish you well and hope that any news she has is positive.  Keep us updated? and if you need to chat...feel free to mail me
708771
Talk to your mom about it
1108219
she will find out eventually, moms know everything. i would either tell her, or quit. but you shouldnt hide stuff from your parents -- if they catch you, theyll never trust you in the future. so be honest, even if it means youll have to quit.\n\nfamily is more important :)
342471
This is hard.  First off, if you were an alcoholic then your parents probably already know.  The problem is that your mother just wants everything to be all better.  She doesn't understand the nature of the disease, so she's probably filled with the wrong ideas.  You have to educate her.  Working the steps will help you do that, and your mother will accept your treatment as long as she knows that without your meetings and your sober friends, you stand a good chance dying a drunk.  You can't hide it from them, it gives you a crutch if you ever relapse.  If you are done drinking find a sponser, work the steps and live honest.  My prayers.
1111420
My mom was diagnosed three years ago. She had stage 3 breast cancer. It spread to the lymphnoids and she ended up having a double mastectomy. She's had plastic surgery and is now a fully developed cancer-free 46 year old. I'm so proud of her.\n\nMy best friends sister has Hodgkins disease. It's in her neck and she's currently undergoing treatment at Duke. He's having to stay with a friend while the rest of his family is with her. Please pray for her.\n\nI'd also like to say I'm sorry for whatever reason you posted this. Cancer is a hard thing to deal with but I know dozens of people who have overcome this. I hope everything is okay with you. Good luck and remember that there are always people to support you or whoever you know.
104520
My mom has been recently diagnosed and had surgery to remove her female organs. They found cervical and ovarian tumors. She begins chemo a week from Monday. She is 62. At the moment she is just as perky as ever, even considering surgery. She was painting and hanging fans just two days ago. LOL. I can tell you that if she goes down, she will go down swinging. :0) That is just my mom's way.
571858
Yup, U want die, dont you? Tell you what, think of it that way, do not ever tell me that you are the most unlucky ones on this earth, no one is, as long as they are born. You are chosen among maybe thousand of infant to be on this earth, and as long as you are not in Africa, you can get over your problems. Of course, I am not your mother, but I can advise you to make the best out of life. From what I heard, a cancer patient has more hope than you. Anyway, get conselling, and always remember, we are here for you....(well, not we as in WE, but u know, ur parents and all that...., although i have a feeling they aren't...) good luck.
833519
That my mom doesn't have breast cancer. She had a test a couple weeks ago and the doctors think they may have found something so she has to go back at the end of November...I just hope everything's okay! :(
783497
If the operation prolongs life, even by a year or two, then yes. I'd also seek a 3rd and even 4th opinion. Are you the person with the cancer? Whoever it is, I'm deeply sorry. I know what it's like to have that horrible disease in the family. You'll come to the right decision and remember, sometimes miracles do happen. The very best of luck to you and yours
287685
you need to tell her right now. you need to get proper medical attention.
358670
There is no good way to tell her.  BUT, if it's important to you to tell her then you should.  Just prepare a little first--practically and psychologically.  Understand, it will be emotional for both of you.  Mothers can surprise us though.  She might already know, and is waiting for you to be honest with her.\n\nPersonally, I would tell her you want to talk to her privately about something that is very important to you.  Next, I would tell her how much she means to you and that you love her and appreciate all she does for you.  Tell her, this is why you "have to tell" her because she means so much to you.  Tell her first that this is a very difficult thing to talk about but that you need to so that she may have the opportunity to be a part of your life (in the future).  THEN...just tell her the truth.  "Mom, I'm a lesbian" or "Mom, I'm gay."  Give it time to sink in.  Once you say that, it should be enough for the first conversation, unless she wants to talk more about it.  AVOID arguing and be prepared to end the conversation and disappear to a friend's house (if you need to).  She may or may not become angry (which is normal) and say hurtful things she really doesn't mean.  Just keep it short, sincere, and see what happens.  She may not 'believe you' at first; just give her time to process her emotions.  Chances are you will feel better after you do this.  Good luck and GOOD FOR YOU.  Be who you are without shame.
170405
i can only recommend not to push her or insist too much\nyou have no idea what that disease is like and how it affects one's life -i hope you never find out-\nhope you mom gets better soon
835411
I do not have it, but I have a condition that can lead to it.\n\nI hope your mom has been diagnosed early... for her, and for you and the rest of your family.  \n\nLook it up on the net.  Web MD whatever, Google it, Wikipedia.  I dont want to tell you anything, you need to read it for yourself *and this d*ck telling you your mom is going to die... GO TO HELL MAN! what a jerk*\n\nI dont know how old you are.. but regardless.  Read what you can, understand as much as you can absorb... and love your mom and be a good girl :) \n\nGood luck to your family, I wish you the best.