My boyfriend left me out of his holiday plans even though he knows I will be sitting home alone.?
825838
Sounds like you are losing him.  Have a calm talk with him and express how you feel.  Ask him what is on his mind and where he sees your relationship going.  \n\nFrankly, most people have trouble with communication and that can destroy an otherwise good relationship.  Find a way to communicate and make sure you listen to him too.\n\nSue
582963
yes...how can you claim to be going out if you don't go out? unless it is a long distance relationship, there's something really wrong. Maybe you should try to ask him out on a date or ask him if he sees it going anywhere...literally.
1045392
You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel.  Let him know that you understand that his kids have to come first and they take up a lot of his time, but that you want to know if he has space for you in his life as well.  There is nothing wrong with him getting a sitter for a night on the weekends so you can go out.  \nThe thing you need to realize is that he isn't "single" anymore - he has 2 kids that depend on him to take care of them and be there for them.  Instead of trying to take him away from his kids why don't you try to be a part of his family.  Get to know the kids, spend time with the kids, go out together with the kids.  Just because he has kids doesn't mean that you should leave him or that he doesn't care for you.\nTalk to him and let him know how you are feeling.  Maybe you can both come to a compromise - a sitter now and then and also going out with the kids too.
607813
Honestly i think he's just confused and needs time with out you so that he can see how much he needs you. He might just need room to realize that you all do belong together. Talk to him get all your feelings out because if you keep anything in and away from him you will lose him for longer than planned. trust me. My boyfriend and i were about to take a break and i told him exactly how i felt i was scared to do it because i didn't want him to feel like i was making him stay but he said that he was glad i told him because it let him know that i care deeply for him. Just try talking to him about it and see what happens from there.
989926
you need to sit down together and find out why he get home so late as you find iy disrespectful. if he can't give you a straight answer he may be cheating on you. i would'nt make him choose between his freinds and you though because it just another argument that i don't think you'd win.\nask yourself if you can trust him because if you can't then the relationship is doomed to a dumping.
346024
if he cares about your future, i'm sure he's willing to push back the dinner reservations, or even move them to a different day. maybe the night before, or the day after. the restaurant, as well as the beach will always be there. i know it's his birthday, but he should be gracious about it. if he throws a hissy-fit about it, that tells you how much he cares about your future.
1156997
I would cancel on my buddies, and go to the hospital with my boyfriend. This is an important time for your girl/boy friend. If you guys have a serious and truthful relationship and wanna keep it that way; a little get together with coworkers shouldn't be that important. If you don't offer your support now when she/he most need it, then the trust between you would be broken. She/he wouldn't know if she/he can count on you for support for any other occasion. A little get together can be arranged any other time. Everyone will understand.\n\nAdded Details:\nWell, if he chose to go out with friends just for fun instead of being with you in your time of need; then something is seriously wrong here. The feeling EXCLUDED excuse is a very lame one. He is trying to defend himself by blaming you. You guys should definitely have a serious talk on the matter if you want to pursue a good relationship. You never know he may have a reason after all for not supporting you. Maybe there was something more than a little get together with his buddies. I'm not defending him but you should leave room for the unknown. Just as he may just doesn't care. If it is the latter I would leave him, but you are responsible to take your own decision, and unless you guys talk about it you won't be able to work it out.
587272
Sounds like he just wanted an excuse to leave. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but its the vibe I get from your description. Try to move on and find someone who will love you and be honest with you. Best of Luck.
870665
Are you two still going out together?  If you are, then maybe he has good reasons to cancel your flying lessons and you shouldn't take it personally.   If he has been cancelling the lessons but also not contacting you or asking you out anymore, then I would take the hint and not try to see him.  Can you schedule your flying lessons with someone else?  I think you should wait for him to contact you next.  He might be trying to back off from the relationship, so give him space and maybe he will come around again.  If not, forget about him.
83304
Tell your boyfriend how you feel. Dont tell him he cant hang out with him but ask him to make an attempt to spend more ALONE time with you.
766343
I would'nt worry too much if i was you even though i know you're heartbroken i bet you any money he'll be back begging for forgiveness from you very soon.I agree with the rest that he's being controlled by his family it's pathetic just look at it as a blessing in disguise that thankfully you learned his true nature this early on: that he's a spineless toe-rag.Now you can look forward to meeting a real man with a bit of backbone who will appreciate and love you and treat you as you should be treated.Goodluck hun.
71824
It looks to me, that when he got 'bored' with you he had no problem letting you go. Now, he is probably 'bored' again and seeing how you are making a life for yourself may want to get back with you and probably use you.\n\nI think that since you manage to live a whole year without him, you are better off like that. It looks like he likes to use woman, do not let him...
74483
I can understand your disappontment! You were counting on going out, so the cancellation was a rude shock.\n\nWas there anything you could have done to salvage the date? Could the two of you have possibly decided to do something spontaneously? It's a shame to let a lack of planning ruin the evening, but maybe there was more to it that you didn't put in your question.\n\nIn the future, you may want to be more assertive and make the plans yourself, especially if this is something that your boyfriend has done before. It could be that he's just not a good planner.\n\nHowever, this could be a symptom of a deeper issue, too, and if it is, you need to address that issue or there will be more disappointments ahead.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
496985
don't be one...save yourself the grief and aggravation and the shame you bring on yourself.  The man is married leave him alone! Let someone else play second in his life because you know you will never be first.  You will always be the one alone on holidays because he can never leave his wife. It will be one excuse after another.\n\nYou deserve more than half a man and he needs to get a life or get a divorce. And there are plenty of single men for you.
8115
Ok, first of all, your bf/gf isn't your husband or wife, so he or she has no obligation to tell you something like that unless you guys live together. IF you a courtesy note would have being nice on his/her part to let you know where he when so you wouldn't be worried. \n\nAnd if he or she didn't tell you, well. Get over it, he/she has a life, and independent life. You are just part of that life. \n\nNow, the question is are you mad because he didn't tell you? or were you pisst because you didn't go? what ever your reason is. Get over it, something like that would be a good enough cause for a break up. \n\nThats just me, i like to be independent and have my space and time respected by anybody. You should respect his time alone or with his friends
671743
I feel you. I think he could have try harder if he wanted to. I know the excuse "i forgot" or I was going to do it relax" and you didnt see shit done. If it is going to be like that I feel you should move out and take a break let him know you are not happy at all and you are under a lot of stress. What will he do without you. He needs to appreciate the things you do as a mother and wife. You need a man not another child you have to take care of. You must feel really lonely and yearning for a man.Take a break and try to relax, go out with friends and take a deep breathe.Try not to overthink yourself cause you will go crazy. I know you have bills to pay but figure out how to get out of this rotation with him cause after awhile it gets pretty tiring. I hope nothing but the best for you and take it one step at a time.
916662
ID CALL MY GIRLS AND GO TO THE MOVIES AND GET ICE CREAM ON MY OWN...IF HE CANT GIVE U A REASON HE DOESNT CARE AND FITS INTO THE LOSER GUY CATEGORY WITH ALL THE OTHER WASTE OF TIMEZ.