What to do about a bad roommate who is doing things to piss you off?
813305
She does stuff to delibratley irritate you and make your life miserable. First, quit showing things irritate you. For things that normally get to you eventually she'll make a comment like, "Does this bother you?" Just say, "What?" Let her respond and your reply is, "Oh, I didn't notice so I guess not." Tune her out. \n\nThere are always people like this in life, eventually it will be your husband as well. I'm sure you do things to irritate her as well, we all do something that will annoy someone at some point in time. You may want to have a discussion with her and be assertive (not aggressive) and listen to her. Let her know you want to be friends and don't like living with tension on a daily basis. Explain you would also like to go back to having fun with her and you care about her. Also, ask her to stop doing certain things. Set two to three non-negotiables you want her to stop and ask her what you do that irritates her and you can change. It's give and take and don't take things too personally. \n\nSomething much deeper is going on with her and you that needs to get resolved. Or her problem is nothing to do with you, and she's just taking out whatever is going wrong in her life out on the person she lives with (which could be anyone else as well). Just be sure not take things too personally. Good luck!
854052
There needs to be rules when there are roommates.  The 4 of you need to sit down and establish rules and boundaries.  If he goes outside the established rules, then he is hereby evicted.
420759
I had several roommates in college, but only one I didn't get along with.  He was the kind of person who expected you to make sacrifices for him, but he would never return the favor.  I didn't have to do much with him, because he moved out a couple of weeks into the semester.\n\nOne thing you might try is to talk to your roommate about the behaviors that drive you up the wall.  You should be respectful when addressing these items because people are more likely to respond positively when they're treated with respect.  Also, you may want to find out if anything you do irritates her, and you and she can negotiate a compromise.  I hope this helps.
1037377
If the people that you hate are doing something illegal, yes, you can call the cops. However, if it's nothing illegal and these people just really bother you, then you have either of two options: 1) talk to your roommate and work things out peacefully, and this is preferable, but  if that is not possible, then 2) sign a form that says you plan not to renew your lease, and find a different place to stay. Remember that you will still be obligated to your current lease, so you have to think about whether or not it will be worth the money and hassle it takes to break the lease early, if you want to do that instead.
829258
Negotiate with the owner....can you sub-lease it? If that won't work ..........find a way to do something that they will want to kick you out but yet is not mentioned or prohibited in the lease....\n\nPile junk up outside the door, play loud sickening music all day long, get a bunch of strobe lights and flash them all day...something that can't be used to say you broke the lease or did anything wrong......so what, I'm different and like this music with the lights :)\n\n======================
154110
Hire an eviction service.  It can be tricky to boost someone, even if it is just a friend of your roommates who will not leave after visiting for three weeks.
442684
Good grief! If this is the extent of problems in your life...can we trade? LOL.\n\nYou can't restrict his/her "amount" of toilet paper; it will make you look like a micro-manager at best and a Nazi at worst. Here's what you do: make him/her buy ALL the toilet paper. If you trade on this by buying/doing something else, then it'll work out perfectly fine. For example, buy the toothpaste. Both items are incredibly cheap (here in Canada, they are, anyway) and no one can possibly complain since your roommate cannot blame anyone but him/herself for the relatively high cost of using tons of toilet paper. \n\nYou really can't afford to make a big deal out of this, since it's completely trivial. And if you've got some sort of environmental complaint, zip it. Leave it be and get on with your fabulous lives!
866415
i sympathize with you. i am living with a slob. she will fill an ash tray to the top before emptying it.  I started emptying the ash tray and washing it. then i started putting all her [on the floor] stuff in the floor in her closet. then i started placing the broom in the kitchen door to bug her. we laugh a lot about my antics but it is starting to work . you don't have to yell or even look angry. just send the subliminal messages along and if he has a brain he will get the message.
1120702
Damn, stop being so scared. Who cares what your roomates think? Just come out. If they are stupid enough to think you are always checking them out then screw them. Get a different roommate. Im sure there are campus counsellors or professors you can talk to if they do start bothering you because that's not allowed and it will stop if enough action is taken. But I dont think you should worry about that. You have to be who you are. Why hide? You will feel so much better.\nCome out of that closet!
174460
YOU'RE PERFECTLY JUSTIFIED IN BEING ANGRY. If you pay rent you have the right to something called "quiet enjoyment" of the living space.  The fact that the noises are sex noises is not the point.  It would be just as much a trampling of your rights as a rooommate if he played his stereo really loud for 45 minutes (or for 45 minutes more than he agreed with you he would, as the case may be.) Bottom line is, he doesn't have the right to be excessively noisy at any time of day, with any kind of noise (and neither do you.)\n\nFiguring out how to f*ck his new girl without inconveniencing his roommates is his problem to solve, not yours.\n\nHaving said all that, the truth is men will say anything and do anything to get laid, including making promises they won't keep.  Keeping promises to roommates is not much of a priority here. So you're probably better off with a different rooommate, like maybe a female one.
794117
Good Luck and if you come by any solutions, please let me know, for some reason my apartments lease to a bunch of non-working hood rats who party all night long. And aparently the lady living above me is actually mentally disturbed. (no kidding)
14852
Do something really rude to the guy(not to yourself)
1076492
just try to remain calm and stay away from it as much as possible, if certain people are doing things that you find frustrating tell them about it, they may not know and it may do some good to get how you feel about it out in the open so that they can correct what is frustrating you so much...
1120258
Just make it increasingly uncomfortable for them - they'll get the message.   I've seen that happen (to me) and it didn't take long to figure out that I wasn't welcome... I moved on to greener pastures. \n\nYou might start by turning over a new leaf and changing a bunch of stuff around - then just keep on mentioning one more little thing...    \n\nLeave some apartment finder guides around the house too. \n\nCheers!
997064
I've been in this situation many times and it is incredibly frustrating.I feel your pain...I would maybe hold half of the cost of the utilities from his deposit.This way your not eating the whole amount but,he still get's a break.Maybe offer this,first as a compromise-show him the bills-be very open with him-show him your payment history.Next time,next roommate, make sure you make it very clear that utlities are not included in the rent.Unfortunatley if it's not in writing there's not much you can do about it now.Well,at least you've both learned lessons from it all.
1002414
Sounds like you've got an evil bitch of a land-lady, there. Get everyone in your apartment block to move out all at once, make her go bankrupt! LOL
181973
First report them to the landlord.If that does'nt work,and you don't want to confront them yourself,call the police.I wish you luck.I have the same problem here.My neighbor is a 21 yr old alcoholic who loves to party,and entertain friends from Thursday night to Monday morning.I have called the law 3 times this week,and all they do is come by ,and tell them to turn the music down.We are very quiet people,and the noise makes me very nervous.