shaming is intended to lable the violator a deviant&hold him/her up for the entire world to see.Do u agree?Y?
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Yes, I suppose that is the definition of shaming.  I'm not sure about "the whole world," necessarily, however.  Say "the entire tribe," and let each of us define the size of our tribal alliance.  For some, I think that is at least theoretically the whole world.  I try that sometimes, but I come back to "us Mountain Folk" or "San Lorenzo Valley" as my tribal definition.  We're not much into shaming folks.  What goes around comes around, you know?
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Well if you are ashamed of something oyu do, then you probably shouldn't have doneit in the first place. The least you can do is be honest about it. Punishment and consequences take place for a reason, but that mainly applies to crime. As far as the hypothetical homosexual situation goes, that would make you a selfish coward comparing yourself to the open people who love themselves and are proud, but who take the insults from ignorant rednecks who have yet to die. It is denying who you are. Why would you want to do that?
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HMM I DONT THINK IT NECESSARILY MEANS CRITICISMS THAT YOU MAKE THAT ARE TRUE OF YOURSELF TOO. I THINK IT MEANS THAT ATTEMTPING TO BRING OTHERS DOWN (THROUGH CRITICISM) ACTUALLY MAKES YOU LESS OF A HUMAN AND SO BY ATTEMTPING TO PUT PEOPLE DOWN YOU ARE INFACT PUTTING YOURSELF DOWN.\n\nESSENTIALLY IT MEANS THAT IT IS BAD TO PUT PEOPLE DOWN.
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I can answer that with another question.  When you feel bad because of the way someone treats you, does that make you want to be just as bad as they are?\n\nWhy would you?  There is great honor in being better than those around you.
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Yeah I agree abt free speech.\nWhat can u do abt ppl who r interested in wasting their own & other ppl's time.\nU r correct, some ppl r pervert enough 2 just annoy others by posting nasty & insulting messages.\nNever mind. Report as well as answer...pick ur 2 points ;oD\nAnnoy them by making profit out of their malice.\nWhat will u do if these ppl said these things 2 ur face?
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Absolutely.  I agree with the above answer that said that no where are you guaranteed the right to not be offended.  But to take it a step further, why does my doing, or not doing something get taken as an offense.  \nI think there is a serious epidemic outbreak of "Thin Skin," and the only cure is an injection of some good old-fashioned "Get Over It!"
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Rudeness is in the eye of the beholder.  I don't think everyone who is rude, intends to be rude.  It depends on how sensitive the affected is.
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I don't think either is acceptable. Shame on a man that does that! Shame on a woman that does that! That's rude both ways, period.
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I don't think that the concept of deviance will ever truly help to understand whether a person's rights have been violated. That is left up to the creation of laws. As to violating social/cultural norms, that is only something that can be judged by the person in question. Societal and cultural norms evolve from many things, but none are truly set in stone as laws are, so there may be difficulty in determining "violation". What one culture considers "normal", might be considered "deviant" by another. In order to ensure respect and avoid "violation", it is merely a question of asking and understanding others' rights based upon their beliefs.
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I agree with you totally these sick individuals are only looking for some type of response to their rantings.  I personally feel very sad for these poor unfortunates who seem to feel that the only type of recognition they can possibly get is from spewing forth hatred towards another group.  The self esteem they have must be zero.  You have come up with a great idea and that is to just ignore these bullies because they really are just exhibiting their own intolerance and ignorance.
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How is it you were able to write that qusetion without it being censored? You definately get points for that.\n\nAs for your question, I agree.  Unfortunately we can't control other people or make them be nice.  The only thing we can do is forgive them.  Forgiving someone doesn't make them any less wrong, and it doesn't mean we have to start liking the person, but it does set us free so that we don't have to walk around pi$$ed off all of the time.  So basically we have a choice.  We could forgive and be happy, or not forgive and let the bastards get us down.
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The actions of the other people you are talking about prove the old addage.\n\nI think it goes hand in hand with "kill them with kindness."  Someone opens their mouth and is ugly, be kind right back.  It not only maintains your integrity, it makes them look and feel pretty darn stupid.
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People insult others for the joy of dominance. People that falsely state that such people are motivated by low self-esteem secretly intend to support that dominance. What better way to perpetuate a problem than to belittle it?
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You are so right!\nTheir policy is do as I say, not as I do. That way of thinking is just so basically wrong to me. When they are finally found out, they usually cry that they were abused as children, or that they were alcoholic, or that they bought meth, but did not use. I am not sympathetic, because it is pathetic. Power or too much of it sometimes gives people in high positions the idea that they are somehow detached, or above the laws that are set for the common folk.
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The distrust or fear of those who are different is part of the human condition.Most of us have been guilty at some stage to some degree. By recognising we have the potential to be prejudiced and /or biased in our thoughts and deeds we can at least be aware and at least try to to eduucate and nurture ourselves and our children out of something that has been inherent for thousands of years.
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I don't think so because being judgmental means  saying wrong things of people but con stating that a person is judgmental means hearing them saying wrong things
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Is it wrong to do a smaller bad-thing, when others are doing what in your mind is the worst bad-thing?\n\nDo you want an answer that says it is less wrong to poke holes in your body to make yourself feel beatiful and to verbally abuse people, than to take anothers life?\n\nAre you trying to draw lines between far-away things in order to blur your perception of reality?