How to deal with an EVIL older sister?
819059
spray her with a watergun lol
226796
Learn to love her, because you should never hate your family. Be glad your sister is around. Someone decided to kill my sister. I would give almost anything to have her back here with us. Be glad you have her there! Hope this helped you!
459079
We could have the same sister.  Mine is pretty much the same way.\n\nShe gossips about people all the time (then gets mad when people say something about her), has 5 kids but shows preference for one, tells our mother that she (mom) never did anything for her - when our parents have bent over backwards for both of us, everthing has to be about her - when it isn't she changes the subject to be about her, I could go on and on.\n\nMy suggestion to you is to take it all with a grain of salt.  I quit having to much contact with her and when she calls 90% of the time I don't answer (God bless the person that came up with caller-id), and when we do talk she spends much of the time yelling at the kids or trying to tell me that I must repent my sins - leave the Catholic Church and join up with her church because hers is the One True Christian Church that Jesus intended to set up.\n\nNot to sound mean, but I just laugh to myself.  I have heard all of this for far more than 10 years and I quit forgiving.  In order to be forgiven you must not do what you were doing to need forgiveness for.  For her, that hasn't happened.\n\nI suggest that you keep your distance for a while, make some excuse to not be around her.  I know it sounds just as bad as what she is doing, but you must take care of yourself, and it sounds like her actions are causing you some mental distress.\n\nGood luck.
716493
Odds are your sister told her daughter not to talk to you but it's not your nieces fault, it's her Mother's, remember that. As far as the sibling rivaling there's no age that that's not possible. What caused this? Were you two compared to alot growing up? Gosh, I hate to go her but I will. My sister and I are both in our 50's\nand she has always hated me with a passion, we haven't spoken in over 2 years and she has instructed her 30 year old son that if he talks to me even at family gatherings she's through with him, fortunately he told her he loved her but I did nothing to him and he will have a relationship with me. Anyway I love our Mother but I blame her, she always compared us and that's not a fair thing to do. I even started to go to counseling over the whole thing. I've come to realize that it's okay if she doesn't want anything to do with me, I still love her and I'd be there if she needed me, I can't make her like me and I can't change things. It's her loss that we aren't in each others lives and with or without her I will go on and I will be happy. I will not let it ruin my happiness or my life.
495804
My girlfriend had a similar problem with her older sister, she was a brat that was spoiled by her mother.  She treats her younger brother and sisters like trash and comes home yelling and kicking when things don't go her way.  She would go to their room to eat and put dirty cloth on their bed, and would leave without cleaning after herself.\n\nMy girlfriend and her siblings finally decided to take action to stop this madness.  They changed all the locks on the doors and told her elder sister either she respect them like human being or don't come back.\n\nHer elder sister went mad and start kicking and screaming when she heard that. She end up being asked to leave and kick out of the house at 1am in the morning, going back to her own place.\n\nAfter that she started to respect my girlfriend and her younger siblings on the phone and in person, althought she hasn't made her presence in the house so far after that night.\n\nYour family need to come together and tell your brother that this is not the way to go; disrespect your family is never right doesn't matter who you are. Your family must take a stand.\n\nI understand most family don't want to be firm and stand their ground because they are afraid of losing their children.  But the fact is your family already lost your brother and the only way for him to respect and come back is to show him your determination to your ideal as a family.\n\nGive him time to think, tell him if he still wants his family, he just as to respect you and your parents like what a nomraly child would do.  You're not asking alot here.\n\nWhether he accept / understand is irrevleant, don't try to convince him right now (he's probably not gonna agree), just let him know what your family decided to do.\n\nYour brother is probably not gonna budge now because he has his own family, but somewhere down the line when things don't go good he'll remember his sister and his parents.  That's where he'll come back and that's when you and your family will have a chance of change him by accepting him back.\n\nIts going to take time and patience for him to come back, but you have to let him know where your family stand for him to come back at all.  Don't push him away, just tell him where your family stands and ask him to think about it.  \n\nIts time to take a stand for what you believe.
828927
Your brother-in-law is a misogynist, he has a deep rooted hatred of women. Your sister is probably being verbally and physically abused. both of you should get away from this sick puppy.
631247
Oh Honey I so understand! I have 2 sisters and 3 brothers...the older we get the more we seem to fall away from each other. from an astrological point of view, when one turns 27, it is when the First Saturn return happens....it is at that point that EVERYTHING changes, such as I moved and had a child at that age. I know you love her as a sister, although it is difficult to deal with someone who is consistently negative. YOU are the one here with the presence of mind and the awareness.\nTo be aware is to be responsible....they say in Buddhism...tho raised a catholic, many other things apply.\nMy recommendation is to keep your distance from her, keep your cool....and compliment her good deeds and at the same time....never raise your voice. she sounds troubled...perhaps she is unhappy with herself. It is NOT about you!You are NOT abusive.....she is mourning something, either what she has had and lost, or what she so desires and doesn't yet have. take it easy and try  to NOT sweat it. i still have one sister who will not speak to me. It seems sad, but just because we are related, it doesn't man that we take abuse from our siblings. I wish you the best in all of your endeavors.....Be Well!!!!!!!!!!
916181
What about locking her in the closet?  Can you let her watch some TV show or video she likes? Maybe she is posessed by an evil spirit, this is a possibility, however remote. If she is afraid of authority figures, tell her that if she's bad you'll call the police. Some people have done this when their kids have gone nutzoid. Ask your mom ahead of time if you can do this, because she might go ballistic herself. You really need a break from your sister, can't your mom find some one to give you a break?  Is there anything that you can control her with, like tell her if she shuts up that you'll do something for her. Does she have no self control, like nothing you do can make her stop? If so she needs some professional psychological help, like a child psychologist. Good luck! How old are you anyway? This isn't good for you to have to go through this.\n*****************************************************************\nIs there someone at school, like a teacher you can talk to, or your doctor about this? Your mom seems to be putting a lot of pressure on you. You should be having fun being a kid, not being put in a pressure cooker like this.
993878
Hi David, u r certainly behaving like a grown adult. well done. As for your sister she needs a kick up the butt, ask her who's paying the bills, puts food on the table n gives shelter, If shes providing it then kick the other person out otherwise put up n shut up.
629794
I could forgive them as I believe thats the only way to move forward, and then get rid of him and dont talk to her for a long, long time.Siblings should know better and that crossed the biggest line...
589963
It's not nice to bug your little sister and cousin.You may get into big trouble so you better be good.Do not do anything bad to them just ignore them if they are bothering you.
630471
well try being nice to her and if that does not work than try to teach her a lesson that she will never forget.That is wat i did to my brother and trust me it worked!!!!!!!
584924
You can try a small get-together or a family reunion or a family Picnic. When you meet your daughter, tell her about your revelations and dont say anything that might seem as though you may be pointing something in her. dont compare her with the other daughter with who you get along well (as that may unknowning to you be considered a threat to the her.) \nI advise this to my mom whenever I get a chance to talk to her. We are 3 sisters and she cant get through to the middle one but with me she is fine, and many times she unintentionally compares her to me. presently She has stopped doing that and her relation with my sis has improved. \nBest of luck though, be friends! they are pretty grown up with their own family and somewhere in their heatrs they look for a friend in  parents
1081824
Wow!  Sounds like my family.  My brother married her, and we still don't get along, 2 years later.  I try to just put up with her because of my brother.  But I don't see it getting better. \nMaybe your bro doesn't see her faults.  If you say something now, he might take a closer look and decide he doesn't like those things about her, either.  He might get mad at you, but he'll get over it, won't he?
983224
Well she is a very immature person. Did she always get her way growing up by acting this way? When she got into trouble was she ever punished for it in a way that made her change? I don't think there is anything wrong with your sister except that she is very immature and very self centered. \n     You, as her sister need to just walk away from her and not even talk to her when she is being this way. You be the more mature person and don't even give that kind of stupid behavior the time of day. I mean literally refuse to deal with her when she is acting like this. Adults should not behave this way and you will notice that most of them do not.
662390
well. I'm usually hard on my little sisters. It's because I want the best for them. I want them to do better than they think they can. I don't know what your situation is, but your best option is to talk to her about it. If she's older, she'll comply. Tell her that you'd like to have a civil and professional conversation at the dinner table with her. You may want to have your parents there just as witnesses. Nothing more.\n\nTalk to her, and find out why she is being so mean, and find a mutual solution.
1040641
This sounds horrible, I would be livid.  Say something, let your sister know that if she is going to come by she needs to clean up.  Have you discussed this issue w/ your parents b/c all of you may need to confront her about this.  There is nothing worse than a trifling visitor.  But do not keep your feelings about the situation bottled up.  Or beat her at own game, go to her house and mooch off of her.