What do you do when your partner sits playing his xbox live for hours rather than sit with you and his kids?
818910
Demand that he spends more time with you and if he says no....punish him !!
251609
Good Lord No way!!!!  My poor hubby works 12 hour days as well as Saturdays.  He comes home so tired and worn out but he still makes time for me and our son.  Sundays he spends mowing lawns, and weeding, and working on our vehicles.  My poor man goes thru torture every day just so I can be a stay at home mom!  If I did switch places it would be so he could stay home for a day and relax on the couch watching Dr.Phil!!!!  He deserves it!  I would not want to have his day!!!!
912148
Stay home and play old board games with your family or friends. I love doing that because where I live it is too cold to go out at night in winter. We listen to whatever music we feel like.
269385
if u havent been spenidng time with ur child... seriously TAKE AN OFF FROM WORK! play with ur child!! show him/her how much u Love him/her!!and have a great time!!\ntake care !
371966
Playing computer games (or anythingthing else that detracts from "quality spouse time.").
346977
Ask yourself why is he insecure? Are you spending more time on 360 than with him? If he were spending his down time on360 instead of talking to you would you feel the same way? Is he spending a lot of time out of the home? He could be cheating and feeling guilty so he is trying to make you feel guilty. Think about those things and you may come up with the answer to your question.
332464
Honey, it's a tough situation all the way around. You both need to find a way to sit the kids down together and have a full blown disscussion. The kids are going to need reassurances from both of you that you both will still be active in their lives and that what is going on is not their fault. Both of you as parents need to make sure that both kids know that they can count on you and come to you whenever they need to. If it were me,as a mom of 3, I would put aside whatever has caused the seperation and call a meeting with my kids and my husband and do exactly as I said above.
1045392
You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel.  Let him know that you understand that his kids have to come first and they take up a lot of his time, but that you want to know if he has space for you in his life as well.  There is nothing wrong with him getting a sitter for a night on the weekends so you can go out.  \nThe thing you need to realize is that he isn't "single" anymore - he has 2 kids that depend on him to take care of them and be there for them.  Instead of trying to take him away from his kids why don't you try to be a part of his family.  Get to know the kids, spend time with the kids, go out together with the kids.  Just because he has kids doesn't mean that you should leave him or that he doesn't care for you.\nTalk to him and let him know how you are feeling.  Maybe you can both come to a compromise - a sitter now and then and also going out with the kids too.
229170
Get to know your kids interests, and if its baseball take them to a game, play catch in the back yard. Try to enjoy their interests with them and show them the ropes on some of your own, lets say you like NASCAR teach them how the cars are designed to go faster. With your wife. Find out what you can do around the house to keep her stress level lower, maybe she just would like help with the dishes or help folding laundry, they arnt chores if you find time to do it together and have a good time joking around in the process. Let her know she can vent to you about her day, and when she has a problem ask her if there is anything you can do to help fix it. if she says no then just take it as she just needed to let off some steam and talk to someone about it. But just cause your asking this makes me think your a good husband and a good dad because you care enough to try to be better :)
499514
Taking time with your spouse!
1071121
I think that you should get sterlized for the simple fact that you are almost to the age where you should be enjoying raising your children-not having them. Tell him how much you look forward to "you and him" time when the kids grow up and get out of the house and you both are still at an age to where you can enjoy life like take cruises or buy vacation homes or something. You are going to have to tell him you are deeply sorry that you've prior children and this is just something your partner is going to have to deal with. Definately encourage their honest feelings to be out in the open and make sure you go into this together-not seperated by feelings. Try some quick counseling or even reading a book together about it......good luck!
761209
As a long time gamer, there's a line that, when crossed, tells you and the world that he's not just a power-gamer but an addict. to me, that line is when being online is more important than your relationship.\n\nI've always put my relationships and obligations above gaming - which is why I'm still married after 16 years with a wife who is NOT nearly as much of a gamer as I am.\n\nTell your man to either get offline ONCE IN A WHILE or risk losing you - if the "risk losing you" part doesn't get his attention, start looking to upgrade ;-)
1146049
You're joking, right? You are definitely not asking too much for your man to spend the little free time you both have without the kids together. Are you set on going out or could you perhaps "ramp" him into spending time together starting with an intimate evening at home? Next time you can remind him you two stayed in for him last time so it's his turn to accommodate your wishes.
158518
Sorry, some of us old folk never really outgrow them, especially if he has been playing them his whole life. \n\nI think maybe you two need to have a very frank discussion about the impact it is having on your relationship and perhaps  you can ask him to start by just cutting down on the amount of time he spends playing them.\n\nAsking him to cut them out all together might not be the best solution, so that is why I am suggesting this.
1006930
You are spending too much time alone together. That's not a good idea. Go bowling, skating, jog, get out among people. You are playing with fire right now.
643132
sounds like you should spend some time with your wife instead of on the internet
49576
Let him play the video games, it stimulates the mind. Just make sure he does his chores and homework and let him do what he enjoys. Not everyone will enjoy sports. Also, maybe find out what kind of games he plays and play with him. Educate yourself, learn about games. Be a good father.