I feel like me and my best friend are drifting apart?
818025
This stuff happens from time to time - try not to take it too personally.  You'll find that friends and come and go throughout your entire life time.  Be kind and be there for her... she'll be back.
707070
Talk to your best friend and see if she feels the same way..But you should also be upfront with the girl you are talking to also.
952941
You can't help the way you feel, it is being human.  I had a similar situation when I was 17.  I had been best friends with him for 2 years and gradually we got closer and closer.  For me it didn't work out but I am glad I gave it a go otherwise I would all ways wonder what if.  I think life is far too short to have regrets.
556089
He is playing a game with you....OF COURSE HE MEANS YOU!   Listen a best friend always makes the best relationship....you know everything about each other, and you know how the please the other person....I would just straight up tell him how you feel.  What do you have to lose?  But when doing this, say "listen, lately I have really enjoyed spending more time with you than usualy and I have started to have these feelings for you, I felt you should know b/c you are a friend....and regardless I always want that first...but I do like you, and I hope that something can come out that."  GOOD LUCK GIRL!
191780
This is when you separate the "women from the girls"...Be Strong!  Believe me when I say, you are not alone in this.  It's happened to most of us and it's not a good feeling, but you do get over it....it just doesn't feel like it right now.  When people feel intimidated by you, they feel the need to boost their own shaky self esteem by putting someone else down and because your best friend probably knows everything about you, you are an easy target for her.  For whatever reason (she's jealous, you are prettier, you are smarter, whatever) she's decided to ambush your friendship.  The best thing you can do is to take the high road and don't sweat it.  The more people see that this bothers you the more they are going to tear you apart over it.  Blow it off and move on to new friends.  BUT..play your cards close to the vest for a while until you are sure you can trust them.  And you never know...maybe she's a friend who can redeem herself and who just made a mistake...only you can be the judge of that.  But if you do become friends again...go slow.  Are you sure you can ever really trust her again?  Good Luck.
518690
Well, have you tried talking to her? you must tell her how much she means to you... and how she's hurting you now. you care for your best friend , but that doesn't mean she can control you around and being a pain in the neck. So tell her that you want to still be best friends with her (because you care and love her) but SHE has to change.\n\nOr, could there be a problem that she hasn't told you yet? Maybe she's acting differently becoz she's under peer pressure (or other problems) and subconsciously doesn't realize what she's doing to you.. and also not recognizing it as a problem. Talk to her and figure it out together.\n\nAnother thing, i think that you can't expect somebody to be the same forever. I have a best friend of 8 years, and now she's changed and become more hostile. I dun like much of her new self, but i accepted it. If she offends me then i'll tell her straight. There'll be a quarrel or so.. but we'll always make up the next day. And though we're not as close as before, we are still best friends and can come up to each other with problems.\n\nGood luck with your best friend! Sometimes, we have to let go to gain something.. It could be a little space between you both, or something else. I think it's best not to break the friendship.
4278
I sincerely wish I had an effective answer for you. It seems that you've both developed a sense of competitiveness toward each other. In other words, you are both trying to upstage one another. This leads to conflict. Give yourselves more room to breathe for awhile. You will realize how much you miss each other once a few days have elapsed.  If not, seek proffesional advice.  Good luck, dear.
186484
I am so very sorry for your lose. But as the saying goes, Time heals all wounds. And No, I am not trying to be funny. It will take time and as that time passes, keep in mind that your bestfirend is in a far better place and holding a seat for you when your time comes. When you can sit down and have a conversation with your friend. You'd be amazed at how well this works at times. I truly believe that your conversation will be heard. It will also help if you sit down with another friend who also knew this bestfriend. Maybe not as well or as close as you were, but someone who knew your bestfriend. It does help to bring closer.
211524
I had the same problem. my friend of 6 years kept getting really jealous over my friend of just 2 months. Every time she came close my friend would jump in and pull me away. Not only that she was very close knit. I mean when ever she introduced me to someone she would say "MY BEST FRIEND". It got a little annoying when she wanted me to do the same. It got really bad when she started to make fun of my other friend. That's when I told her, hey listen, you have been my best friend so all these years. And if you think that she is going to steal me away from you, then you must not trust me enough, do you really think i am going to drop you after so many years together? I told her that if i wanted to stop being her friend I would have stopped, but I'm still here. I think you should just tell it to her straight, and if she doesn't believe you, that's her fault.
986158
Well, that person obviously doesn't think that your their best friend. A best friend should be there for you always. And you should be able to talk to them about nearly anything and everything. \n\nIt sounds to me like your friend is just that...a friend, but you shouldn't be wasting your energy on someone who isn't going to respect you. Still, I would search out a new best friend. \n\nOr you could tell that person how you feel. Have a good long talk over coffee. It'll bring you two closer.
744851
People make alot of friends in life and you will find that as we grow older me make many friends and our best friends change. Because our interests, lifestyles, occupations and situations dont stay the same this change is neccessary as people who once were our best friends may not be moving in the same direction as we are.\n\nSo you could tell the person who moved there that it is bugging you that she has taken over your best friend, or you could just accept your best friend becoming friends with this new person.
805748
I totally feel you man. My best friend is Mormon, and I had to go through it... but the bottom line is that if he's your friend, he'll be chill with it. Just tell him at some point when you guys are just hangin out, and the mood is right. Just tell him that you're still you, and that your relationship wont change... just don't hit on him... that'll fcuk things up...
975215
you didnt do anything wrong, it was good that you were honest about your feelings. he is your best friend, and best friends are suppose to care about each other. you might want to have a talk with him, maybe there is something wrong going on in his life that he hasnt told you. but if he is a bad friend in other ways, you might want to stop hanging out with him so much.
982364
Well, this seems to be a tricky situation. I have been in a similar, yet not so intimate situation, with another friend. Now let me tell you what I did to solve the situation. This answer may give you an idea as to what your next step should be. \nI didn't feel the same way because I thought it was forced. I love my friend in lots of ways but when it feels forced then it is hard to get past the idea that we are not friends. At that time I felt uncomfortable. He likes me still. But I told him that we could just be friends. Now we are still friends and we're glad for it. Sometimes the timing may not be right or she feels it is forced. At this moment cherish the fact that you guys are friends. When the time feels right she will automatically open up to you. At that time, it will not feel forced and you will not have lost a good friend. Remember people feel uncomfortable and forced in many different ways.\nSee, differences between individuals are evident in any relationship, but it is how one handles those differences within the relationship that matters. Are you willing to lose a good friend over your desire for it to be more than that? Decision is up to you.
203264
Tell her how you feel! Let her know it's bothering you. If she truly is your best friend,and truly cares about you(like you do her) she will understand!\n\n             -hope it helps-\n                  lots of luv!
989667
It's very common that best friend turns to be lovers. You should find out that your best friend is love you or just want to be friend. You know. Love is a two way channel, it invloves two persons. If only one-way, it is not love\n\nGood luck\n\nJoyce
169321
Sounds like she feels left out and her feelings are hurt. Talk to her, let her know you value the friendshship and make plans to do something together. \nMany people will come and go in your life but a true friend will leave footprints in your heart.