me and my boyfrind are fightin all the time and we dont want ti break up please help i love this man and cant?
824968
If you both commit to making things better, you can pay for marriage counseling even if your not married.  They can provide you with the tools to make your relationship better.  Communication, empathy, understanding, are some of the things they will help you guys with.  If you are both committed, don't give up.
392810
pick and choose your battles. life is too short to bicker over ridiculous sh*t. when he is being an a** kill him with kindness or act like you can't be bothered with his silly commentary. problem is you all are around each other 24/7 and you'll drive each other nuts no matter how compatible. if you can be be apart for several hours out of the day or go stay at your mom's over nite it'll make you all miss each other and realize the good things about each other. but seriously you need to get some wheels and get your independence back! that'll make a huge difference!good luck!
221993
Hey chicky,  I know how you feel.. me & my bf fight constantly too.  Sometimes I wonder if its normal or not.  I get really sick of it too sometimes .. occassionally to the point where I dont care if the relationship ends.  But we are still together.  Are you living together?  My bf & me only moved in together 6 months ago.. we used to fight before that but not as bad as when we moved in with each other.  I think maybe you guys need to do stuff apart every now & then just so you can have your own space.  Think about it .. if you had a sister who you saw every day forever you would get sick of her too & fight with her.  Its the same with your man.  Try not to fight over the little things that dont mean much,  think about what it is that you are fighting about & ask yourself.. is it even worth breaking up over this?  If you answer No then get over it.. be the one to end the fight first.  Even if he keeps going dont let yourself get worked up, its hard trust me but it will only make it worse if you are both going at it.  Tell him you dont want to fight & that your going for a walk or something & wait for him to cool down then you will talk to him about the issue.  Remember that anyone can fight, but its the people who's relationships that last through the fights that are the strongest.
315089
Well the more you love someone the more there is to argue about. You want to make sure the other person is safe and not doing something bad so you argue. What I think you should do is go out on more dates. And recendle that fire you guys seem to have lost. Do something that you have never done and never tough you would do. Good luck
566613
Don't worry about the cause, just get out of the situation. If you're just dating and you fight, then it probably wont get better as the relationship continues. Sorry, but at this point in your lives, he's not the one for you.
256444
You are both individuals, like everyone else and being an individual you are going to have your differences.\n\nTo be in a relationship and to love and respect each other, you must accept each other's differences and different point of views as they should yours.\n\nfighting/arguing is normal in a heatly relationship, but it depends what you are fighting about all the time. If it is about the same thing each time, then you know where the problem lies.\n\nIf you are fighting about something different each time, then maybe you need some time apart and re-evaluate what you both want from each other.\n\nIf you are fighting because one of you just decided to pick a fight or just to be awkward, then maybe you need some time away from each other.
833276
Do NOT marry this man!!  Staying with him for the sake of your child is not going to be good for your son if he sees his dad beating up on you!  Go to a good friend, relative, pastor, or counselor that can help you get out of this situation.  It's hard, but you can do it.  You have to.
19053
i think the arguing is a clue that there is a lack of love somewhere. remember actions speak louder than words. only you will know if he truly loves you or not
541788
Ok I completly understand what both you and him are going through cause I have been there and done that, therefor my advice to you is if you really think and feel you love him try to understand his point even if you don't agree or like it very much. What it sounds like he is doing is avoiding having confrontations with his family and you. The less they know the less they will nag at him, they less they nag the better mood you will see him in. Think of it in a positive way he just wants to avoid problems between his family you and him, besides its also a healthier realationship for both of you, never know he may be thinking of taking the relationship a step higher and want to move in together in a few months and when he does he will drop the bom on them, just keep your eyes open at all times giving everyone and anything the benifit of a dought. Good Luck and take things easy enoy your time
864068
you know what to do but afraid to take the first step because he might hurt you again physically... why not consult with a legal counsel and ask him the best way to get out with the relationship. you have to be strong to face the consequences that would save your life and pride as a person. Good luck ;-)
270474
Don't let the people get in between you two. If it's the real thing, work hard to keep it. Then again think about why they are trying to come between you two. Do they fear he'll hurt you? If so talk to them about it and tell them you can make your own decisions.
146533
Well, if you don't want to break up the only suggestion I have is talk to him about it. If he is in love or even if he just cares about you he'll understand what your needs are and be more considerate of you.
145274
If you really love him then fight for him. Prove that you are the best girl in the world for him.
1134339
just leave him\nu deserve sumone better\nhes not worth the trouble u r taking
567923
LEAVE...NOW. you never knoe wen he will become violent with weapons. unless he already does but you are putting your life in danger by being with him. why would he hit you if he loved you? he just wants you there so he has something to hit. get help now! its your life you are allowing to be abused. STOP TODAY
38183
Talk to him and tell him it's not working out.  Try to be cordial and just get it over with.  Dragging out the relationship is just going to make the break-up more difficult and painful when it finally does happen.
1113469
It sounds like you 2 want to be together, seperation doesnt do any good, if you dont go to the problem,and come to somekind of middle ground of ageement on the problem truthfully, you will always come back to the answer to seperate not ever solving the problem, be honest with each other no matter how each other will respond. and remember dont answer by your feelings only by your heart which is not a desire, feelings,and desire are controlled by your flesh, your heart is controlled by your will.