guys how can i get an ex b/f back after like 3months of leavin him alone but still care bout him?
827079
Nomad is very right!  But if your separation was just heat of the moment, I reckon the second time will be sweeter.  I believe in 2nd chances and if yous can work it out and start again, things will be stronger.  I would love to be in your ex bf's shoes, as for now, my situation with my spouse is near over and final.  But through this, you'll be a better person/lover, if not for your x bf, your next bf.  Good luck and best wishes!
760238
tell him your over him now and just want your friendship back with him becuase he's a cool person
404073
go right ahead.... make ur move and get ur man back
465214
It depends on who broke up with who but you could contact him, but just don't sound too desperate. Just act friendly, ask how he's doing and maybe you two can hang out at some point. Then let him make the next move.
1078735
The BEST thing you can do is go back out there and meet new men.  Date them, laugh with them, have fun.  You will discover that you're a much better catch than your "ex" made you feel.  It will take time, but you will get over him.  If you can force yourself into going on at LEAST three dates in the next month, you will help yourself far more than you may believe.  It's not about him anymore, it's all about YOU.  You're special, you're desirable, and the right man will KNOW it.
1176020
try getting a new man who might care about u more.
921227
the only way to stop feeling like you want to get back with him is to realise all the reasons you haven't worked in the past. Write a list of everything that split you up and then study it. Then ask your self if the only reason you want to get back with him is because it's better than being alone. Which in the long run it isn't.
790072
I know exactly what you're going through.  There's no advice that anyone can give you to get you through this, which makes it so much harder.  And I think you're doing the right thing by acting happy and like you're fine.  You don't want to wear your heart on your sleeve.  That's only for your closest of friends to know - and that's what they're there for.  You need to continue your life without him as hard as that is.  \n\nIf you know there's 0 chance of getting him back, just realize that that's the reality.  You're probably beating yourself up trying to figure out how to win him back, but reality hits hard and you just need to accept it.  You have to be happy for him if he's happy and just know that you did what you could and you can't do anymore.  \n\nSomeone once told me that guys always realize what they've done wrong when they're older and wiser, but they'll never admit to it.  Just continue with your life the way you are and cry when you need to.  If you live day to day with a sad face, it' s not going to help your situation any more.  It's not going to bring him back, not going to make you happier, not going to change anything.  \n\nTime is the only healer.  I think about my ex all the time.  He won't return any of my calls or talk to me.  So I just leave him messages telling him I'm thinking of him and if he needs anything I'll be there.  But I still don't hear from him.  So slowly, I'm letting go.  I know it's already been 4 months.  But I've known people that it's taken them a year or more to get over someone.  \n\nMaybe it just wasn't in the stars for the both of you to be together.  Take what you've learned in the relationship and only remember the good things.  I'm sure he's a wonderful guy, but that doesn't mean you'll find someone more wonderful who will make that committment to you and stick with it.  Don't rush into another relationship because you know you're still not over him.  Be honest with yourself.  That's fine if you think about him all the time - you really love him.  \n\nBut if you really love someone, let it go.  If it comes back to you it's meant to be.  And in this case, since he's moved on, it just wasn't meant to be.  I'm sorry.  I definitely know break-ups are not easy, but don't forget to continue respecting yourself.  You're not alone...
681935
whats with him and ex's?  Youre an ex he's back with, now you're concerned about another ex.  Alarms went off when I read this. You need to be sure you're who he wants before you get hurt.  Give him a chance to be certain what he wants before you invest your heart into this once failed relationship.
656947
do u care a lot about the guy ur with like u do now with ex bf? cause if u don't just dump him and go out with ur ex bf and make him happy again. ur ex bf prob. had deep feelings about u and u ruined it for  him and now he is upset about it. so i'd think it over if i were u.\n\nShorty
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He didnt seem to treat you very well hun, you obviously had problems within the relationship, did you try telling him how you felt or did you just split up with him without discussing how he made you feel?\nIf you want him back then you need to talk to him but this time make sure that you tell him how you feel, take control a little.\nIf he only wants you back on the same terms as you had before then it's obvious that he is just using you hun.\nTry talking , but it does sound like he was using you a little.\nDont let him rule when you do things, be brave , ask for what you want when you want it, if he says no then cut your losses and find someone who truely appreciates you.\nGood luck, hope all works out ok for you.
501125
Love is hard, but the best to do for yourself is forget about him, and move on. This is easier said than done, but take up some hobbies and go out with your friends. You cannot allow a guy to rule over you. So stop scheeming on how to get him back. The only person you need to get, is the confident and sassy YOU.
877352
Question is ---Why would you want him back?  Find someone that will not be ashamed of you and would be proud to have you around and meet his family and friends.  Good luck
447588
try to get him back dear
568152
First of all you need to tell your ex to get over himself! Hes the one that messed up therefore he shouldnt be trying to get back at you! And even if lets say you were the one to cheat first then oh well lifes tough and he needs to move on! You and the "new" guy shouldnt even pay attention to your ex. I mean he is your EX hence the word EX as in he doesnt matter anymore! You guys should just ignore him and be happy!!
1031971
I was the some as you and it took me years to completely trust someone again and even then I still gave this guy a hard time. One day it dawned on me that he wanted to be with me and had suffered thru all that I had given him and was still there. He is now my partner of 3 years. He understood how I had been hurt and was prepared to work thru it with me. If the guy really wants to be with you and the feeling is mutual, he will stick with you. Tell him how you feel and why you feel like that. If he is worth his salt, he'll stick with you. You also need to realise that if you don't learn to trust again, you'll always be alone.
1071254
To spare him, dont go out with him. Since you are not into him fully... dont bother. You'll just want your ex.