What would you do? Advice needed!?
818662
Definitely bring it up with your boss!!  If you handle this in a professional manner, your boss may be very impressed that you are being proactive and it will reflect well on you.  If you just wait for the money to magically appear on your paycheck, then you are not being realistic.  Money appears in your paycheck because your boss requested it, not by itself.\n\nMy recommendation is to request an appointment with your boss, preferably when you can speak privately.  Prepare a list of your duties that you had for the first 2 months in your job, and another list of the additional duties you have fulfilled for the last month since the secretary was fired.  Ask what the company has planned for the position since it's been vacant, and if they do not plan to hire anyone new, let your boss know that you are working harder than before and ask for a raise.  If they are planning to hire a new person for the position, ask for the raise to cover the period when you've been doing the extra work (the last month plus however long it takes them to fill the position).  \n\nRemember that you have nothing to lose by talking with your boss and asking for the raise.  It is completely normal to compensate an employee for taking on more responsibility, and if you're doing a good job, the boss will want to keep you and might even see this as a way to save money (pay you a higher salary instead of paying two people to do the job).  Good luck!
1044617
Boyfriend, don't do it! \n\nBe blessed and don't jump into that forced mess.
282934
I wonder how many people have been in your position and let it go, always wondering if it was the right thing to do? I say GO FOR IT!! What the hell do you have to lose? If it doesn't work or he's spoken for, then let it go - but at least you tried. If you find him and he feels the same way you do... wellll....
1142942
OH BOY. THIS IS NOT GOOD. BUT WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE? WOULD YOU CONSIDER TELLING HER THE TRUTH, OR SIT WITH IT? WOULD YOU BREAK IT OFF AND LEAVE THE SITUATION ALONE? IS THIS A LOVE THING? MY BEST ADVICE WOULD BE TO COME CLEAN ABOUT IT ALL. SORRY, I HATE GUILT.
399663
if the now relation is doomed --walk away.\nbut don't expect miracles!!, like living happyly ever after with eric.\n..live real!!, be well..
99814
YOU shouldn't do anything!! It is up to him to deal with the situation. He should care enough about you to handle the problem. My advice would be to give him the opportunity to solve the problem, but if within a reasonable time (a week) if he hasn't dealt with the problem, then walk away from him. If he doesn't care for and respect you enough to deal with the problem, then he may be enjoying have to females on a string. Good Luck =-)
788965
Advice? There is no advice for dealing with thoughtless idiots.\nDo not even address it! You were wronged, but let it go.
556851
Oh sweety, told you told you told you?? You can't believe all this. You should have told him from the second he said he was leaving "ok, i'll be here for you once you get everything sorted out." He might leave his wife, but my gut like urs is saying he's a lier and he's not planning on leaving his wife. When the week is up, his time is up too.
890688
You state "any help would be appreciated". How did you get stuck with having to make the choice? That's a he ll of a responsibility. Good Luck.
938922
Gently tell her what you told us.  You should not be forced to do what you're not ready for.  It's not like you're ruling it out - you're just not ready.
902669
I'd say...I jumped into this relationship and now I regret it. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I need out. Then, leave. You are right, if you keep on it will hurt more later and I promise you...the longer you wait, the harder it will be to do.
111269
I'd have a problem with that. I'd tell her that she needs to be with him and kindly kick her to the curb. That is a sign of things to come. Trust. :)
1063860
Do the only thing you can do... let them know and see what happens. That is really your only legal option, unless you go with them.
484951
Tell her , that you want to learn the hard way if she thinks he is so terrible! That she should leave you , and if you bump your head , you know not to do it again in another situation!
663540
Oh my goodness im not sure what u should do....do what your heart says hope this was a lesson was to you and dont try it again for your own good good luck with your decision
333201
Yes. It's time to wake up. She obviously is still hung up on this guy. Why else did you go to the club he was playing at? I'm ashamed to say "been there, done that", although I did not drag some poor guy along to watch! Leave her to yearn for the guy who treated her so badly and find a lady who is free to be with a nice guy like you.
242550
why would you want to do that\n---\ndisowning is not the solution. try to be rationale and talk to her. the solution might be as simple as that.