what do you think of your inlaws?
819837
lovely people...all of them............
328164
I'm a mother-in-law now and would like any of the following :  Flowers to plant and you do the planting; a magazine subscription to something she enjoys; a gift certificate to her favorite restaurant; an invitation to lunch at her favorite restaurant; movie tickets to a movie she's been wanting to see; gift certificate at her favorite cosmetic counter; mini-casseroles made and frozen for her to heat up for lunch or dinner.  If your mother-in-law is a treasure to you, give her a small treasure chest filled with KISSES.  My husband did that for my mother one year.  She loved it.\n\nOne year, because my mother-in-law is negative to me and seems to have her own personal war directed at me, I gave her a PEACE lily.  She never understood the significance, but I did.  It made me feel good, I have not regretted giving it to her, even though she still dislikes me very much and won't speak to me.  Another year I gave her a nice card with Monopoly money in it.  The significance of the money----she's such a phony.  It made her laugh, and I smiled knowing the covert message of the money. She never realized the intent.
673787
Talk about your family.
540540
I wouldn't know but I have a lovely sister in law whos like my sis.
242933
It all really depends on the dynamics of the household, and why it is being done. I can say that there was a time when I would of never considered it. My husbands parents came home from a mission three weeks after I gave birth to my sixth child and three months after the death of my oldest daughter. I was dreading the thought of them staying with us. We had had our differences and believe me they had some bad ramifications, but I was the only one who was willing to take them in. It ended up being the best thing in the world. It was very good for my husband who was going through his own grief over our daughters death, plus his concern over his depressed and slightly suicideal wife. To have some back up and support since I was just trying to survive. We had them with us for two years and they were a blessing in so many ways. I will never be able to express the joy in watching my children bond with their grandparents and having the opportunity to see them grow. It did take alot of sacrifice for all. It is not easy to live with parents who have opinions and things that you don't always agree on, but I really got the chance to see what I think will be the mode of Heaven. I can say with all honesty that it was wonderful and that I miss them. The one thing that I think though is it is tougher when you're younger and first married. That is a time when you really should try to avoid it. It is a time for developing your relationship and forming that bond that can endure., and marriage at first is difficult enough without a mother-in-law thinking that this girl is just not good enough for my son syndrome.
947058
to my mother in law I'd say you changed his nappy, what do YOU think!\nTo my best mate...I tell her everything anyway\nTo my dad....I'd splutter and go bright red.\nAnd to you i'd say ...its wicked
161711
Whatever you feel comfortable with.  I tried to call my inlaws mom/dad, but it didn't fit.  I didn't "feel it".  And I felt odd when my parents and his parents were at the same place and I'm calling my father in-law dad when my father was there.  I just phased it out and now I call them by their first names.  It's the same way with my hubby.  He calls my parents by their first names.  Although,when we give them gifts or cards it's addressed mom/dad from us.
463514
Yes, but not exactly for myself, rather I feel bad for them and the situation that made them use foul language in public. Were they raised properly? Had a stressful day at work? Hate their in-laws? Pick a reason. That's why I feel bad for them. Not the swearing itself, but the root of the problem.
865717
Remember that mother in laws had mother in laws too.  If you get along with your mother in law, then just act normal, have fun and allow her to make the main decisions; it is of course her kitchen.  Accept her suggestions with grace and all should be fine.  If she loves to cook, she already knows what has to be done, so ask her when you get there, what she would like you to cook - whether its the potatoes, cranberries, etc.  And if you are not sure how to cook them, ask her, make her the center of the cooking and don't try to make it a competition.  Good luck
533701
I have been with my husband for 6 years all of which we have got along. She does not raise her voice in anger(maybe to grandkids). But I have never seen her argue with my husband.She is probably what everyone would want in a mother in law, she minds her own business and if her son is in the wrong she takes my side and tells him what he is doing wrong. SHe is not judgemental on how clean my house is or how is raise my kids. THe only advice I get is to do with the kids health when they are sick. \n\nMy mom takes my husbands side, so therefore it's like my mom  in law is more of a mom than my own.
690258
I am sorry to hear that...you don't need to change for people and besides if they are like that anyway then they are still going to bi*ch about you anyway no matter what. You need to stop doing so much for your inlaws if that is the gratitude you get. I would let them know that you know they were talking behind your back without getting out of control just say I would appreciate it if you have an issue to confront me with it. It's not nice to talk behind people's back because it doesn't leave them with an opportunity to respond...which is actually the answer to one of your q. in this. They don't want you to get mad at them. It's not always the way but with certain people like this it's 'the more you do, the less you're appreciated'. Nice to know there are thoughtful people around like you but some others take it for granted. Don't worry too much about what your colleagues say about you just do your job and don't get involved with them too much. You don't want to be like them just think you are a better person for not being so immature and feeling it's necessary to talk behind their back. Take care :)
443612
I completely agree, some people that answered don't understand that you KNOW what they mean, just that they should be reversed. I think if someone had a father that remarried, then she should be your Mother-in-law, like the person before me said, "mother-by-law", that counts here too, because she would only be your mother by law. Good question!!
339667
Yes, I do. I get along with them really well. \nI live very far from my real family, and I honestly feel much closer to them than my real parents. And they treat me like I`m their daughter - I can call them up and talk to them any time. I`ve stayed at their house for weeks before when my husband was on business trips and I was lonely in the empty house. They`re great.
303092
Mothers are often jealous of a son's relationship with another woman since it usually means they are no longer #1 in their son's eyes. On another level she is also jealous of the attention your father-in-law pays to you and she is making sure he doesn't come to like you too much! \n\nSisters often resent their brother's girlfriends and wives, regarding them as "new daughters" that take their parents and brothers attention away from them. Kind of like sibling rivalry.\n\nThese women will settle down in time once they realize you are no threat to their relationship with your husband or their husband/father. Encourage your husband and father-in-law to include one or both of them in the conversations or activities that are making them jealous. Don't let either of the men make comparisons that put you in a better light and provokes their jealousy. For example, if your father-in-law compliments your cooking, then looks at his wife and says, "why don't you ever make that," then you should make some comment about her best cooking to keep her feelings from being hurt. You will see lots of little things like that if you watch for them. Try to smooth them over, and just be the best person you can be. Hold your temper! It will get better in time. \n\nIf it doesn't you will know that you tried your best and just avoid them as much as possible to prevent disagreements and try to ignore the hurtful things they say and do. Your husband will take a hand if they disrespect you too much when he knows you are doing your best to get along with them.
1185996
screw them. hah. it's about your fiance, not their parents especially if they're not even worth it. and i say be bold, just say thanks for having a great son. done!
475908
Treat your spouse with respect and kindness. Be there when needed. Allow your spouse to be who she/he is without trying to change him/her. Your in-laws will think you are the best when you treat their child right.
707635
Dude i couldnt agree with you more.  No offence but for their own good put them in a looney bin and do it fast.  Thisnk about all the things peopl will say about you and your family when they see them.  Is that in itself worth it?