should you send an anonymous letter to a "relative" by marriage if?
827441
It's best not to try to do anything about it.  Your relatives know this person, and chances are it's not the first time she's done something like this.  They'll know whether or not to believe her.
850023
I know this is going to sound screwy to you but we all fall short. We all disappoint. We all are unworthy of the ones who love us most. I am 27 and married for 10 years. Your dad made a commitment to your mother. Not you. How do you know that she doesn't know? Maybe she does but doesn't want to look at it. Why don't you write her a note? Since you now know about this, it will eat you alive until you get it out in the open. A letter is the best way to deal with it. And at the end of the letter write this. Mom, I wanted you to know these things but i'm leaving it up to you to make it spoken. If you want it will never be brought up again. If you want to talk about it i'm behind you. Love her and support her with what she wants.
406040
For me, it would depend on how long we had already been together, and how we were currently doing. For example, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and we still haven't exchanged passwords to email. \n\nIf you are married, then I don't see why you wouldn't give them your password, especially if you didn't have anything to hide.
806795
That would just depend. Most married couples share everything. So they will atleast tell their spouse. Which, if they do not share the same feelings on keeping secrets, could be a bad thing. I however, have learned not to tell secrets period. just keeps things from getting complicated.
976386
When it comes to infidelity, it's true, the spouse is typically the last to know.  Most likely, not only did your in-laws know, but a lot of other people probably knew or had their suspicions as well.  No one wants to be the person to tell, so many people both actively and passively try to prevent the truth from coming out.  If I had to guess, I'd assume that your in-laws behavior isn't all that atypical.  So, I'd treat them as I would treat anyone else who had hurt me.  I'd let them know exactly how I feel about what happened.
115294
Yes, a family member, or a close friend. And make sure that it is someone who will let you stay in contact.
1008214
There is nothing wrong with having friends - as long as you aren't looking for more.  Another key thing is to make sure you aren't hiding your friends from your wife or forgetting to mention to your friends that you are married.\nYour wife deserves your attention and companionship before anyone else.  So, with that in mind, if your pen pal is just a friend to write to here and there then go for it - but don't let it get out of hand and mess with your marriage.
494992
We don't have cell phones, but I check his mail. It is not to be nosy, I just take care of all things financial. Now.... once there was this letter in a chick's handwriting when we were first married, no return address... Oh yeah I opened it, I was so angry. Turned out to be a thank you card from his friend's wife for being the best man in their wedding, he never got that card. I didn't want him to know that I snooped that much. That being said personal should be just that, personal and private, but sometimes you just can't resist the urge.
988303
Yes, it is very important to observe privacy in the family. Let everyone live his life the way he wants to live it.  Secrets are private things that anyone can keep within himself without the obligation to divulge it to anybody even to his family members.  There is no human law in this whole wide world that prohibits one family member from keeping his secrets within himself. There is no law that states that one has the obligation to tell his secrets to his family members.\n\nTherefore, to answer your question, family members should respect each other's attitude about secrets.  Remember that each member of the family has the right either to reveal or to keep his secrets in life.  If someone in your family shares his secrets with you, thank him for he  trusts you.  When he  seeks your advice, help him  the best way you can but try to keep the secret within yourself unless he says that you may.  If he doesn't, keep mum about it and you'll never go wrong.
346738
Email the person to find out. \n\nYahoo will not tell you because of their privacy policy, so emailing the person is really your only choice.
262017
Nope thats not a blood relative unless you are marrying a cousin or something.And even if they would accept your wife as a family member you arent married yet so they wouldnt accept that. Also they are looking for someone outside that home and a wife would typically be using the same amount of money coming in so if you couldnt pay she obviously couldnt either.
482765
Keep it for sure but never show any other boyfriends because they won't understand and it will lead to fights.  I've kept love letters from my ex-husband (dead now) who wrote me very long interesting provocative letters when we were dating.  I've only looked at them maybe twice in the past 15 years though, but someday I thought our daughter might like to read them.
111616
It is only illegal if it is someone who hasn't given you permission to open it. If it is your spouse, they have to tell you that it is ok for you to open their mail. Another way, is if you suspect something bad is going on, you are allowed to tell authorities and they will open it to find out if something is truly wrong.
646484
Is he a minor?  That would be the only reason I could see you legally being blamed for something.  Based on the information you provided.  \nOr unless he gets a lighter sentence by giving out information that might incriminate you for something....\n\nSounds like your aunt is being very defensive but that is her son....black mailing though isn't the wise way to go.  If she will allow you a sit down~then I would try to talk to her calmly.  Otherwise: carry on.  Work on doing what you have to do for your wedding.  Everything happens for a reason...and everything usually passes.\nGood Luck
455996
I think you are already worried or you wouldn't have asked the question on here. I do not think this is appropriate at all. Your husband should tell them, I'm married now and I don't think it is a good idea to "keep in touch". NO WAY are you being childish, your being smart.
526254
Why even go.  I mean, if you're friends with one of the people getting married, wouldn't it make MORE of a point not even to show up or send something mean?\n\nPlus, they get to save the cost of your plate that they'd otherwise waste on someone who doesn't support them.\n\nGrow up.
995862
I wouldnt.  Its not like u are going to forget his name.  Besides, what does it REALLY prove and if you are married, what else do you have to prove?