do u think a year and some months is to long, to wait on him, to come back home. what can i do to stay busy?
814075
If he's in the military - wait. Get a life outside the home and cultivate some friends. \nIf he's just gone - you've wasted over a year on him. Move on.
655975
My boyfriend is coming back in July too from the Marines. I just try to occupy myself by working and going to school. Just try to talk to him on the phone and keep your relationship fresh. I usually just hang out with my friends and have a good time but also stay faithful to my boyfriend
632383
My advice is, not to push the issue. He has said he needs time, and I know that's frustrating, but you have to give him time....or move on!
886226
I hate to say it but if he really wanted to make it work he would. You've gone out of your way to find time to see him, if he felt the same way you do then he find a way to spend time with you. Not seeing you enough is probably an excuse, he's not strong enough to tell you how he feels and he's probably thinks he's sparing your feelings by blaming the situation instead of telling you how he feels. Give him time and he may come around, but don't wait for him. You should start moving on.
848972
Hi, I'm an Air Force wife.  So far I have been very lucky not to have my husband overseas at all.  The longest he was ever away from me is 6 months.  Now most of the time it is just for a couple of weeks at a time.  Stay strong and I'm sure you can get through it, I'm sure he is worth it.  At least that is how I feel about my husband.
595760
Give him the space.\n\nTell him that you'll both go your separate ways for a year, then meet up after that year and see how things are.\n\nIf he still says he needs space, then tell him OK, this time for 6 months.\n\nIf after this, he still isn't sure, then it wasn't ment to be.\n\nIt will be hard for the first few months, but it is well worth it as you will both grow because of the experience.\n\nGo see the world in this time, do YOUR thing and don't worry about him.  Get out and enjoy life.\n\nIt will do you both good.  And you never know, could both end up getting married to each other because of the break. :)
590131
Pay attention to him when he's around.You say he's traveling because of work,so he's working to help support you right?Well when he's home,put friends on hold and some things you want to do,put on hold until he goes out of town again.That will give you plenty of ME time when he's gone. Make him feel like you want him around,ask about his plans for that day.Maybe he wants to spend time with you,maybe alone,you never know until you ask,but he most likely wants time with you since he's not around much. I'm sure he missed you. he might want to visit some of his friends or relatives while he's home too,just ask what his plans might be for the day. If he visits his friends then you can maybe visit yours or do something on your own. You can work things out with a traveling partner,it just takes some adjustment.You have spent alot of time alone and have got into suiting yourself alot.It does take time to readjust to someone else being around. Just try to communicate as much as possible.Even your eating habits might have changed since he's been gone so you have to figure,what time is lunch and will we be eating together?Just be available as much as you can so you both can decide on your days activities together.
538314
you should give him the time he needs but that doesn't mean sitting at home waiting for him forever. Use this time away to hang out with your friends and do the things only single girls can do, once he sees that you can move on then he will think a little bit harder on what he wants in your relationship. I'm not saying go get a new man, but harmless flirting while you are out will make you feel alot better about his insecurities
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Reconcile your your self to the fact that this is his job, by all means keep telling him you miss him, but don't try and stop him doing his job, or make him feel guilty over not being home all the time.\nI worked overseas for 15 years starting in Saudi, 4 months on and 2 weeks home leave, After a year of that I started getting better leave cycles in different parts of the world, my wife and children some times came with me.\nI went where ever the work (and money) was!\nI always managed to keep in contact with home and at times felt guilty, but my wife and kids knew the score and supported me in my work.\nSo all I can suggest is do not make him feel guilty , if he ever has to make a choice between you and work , and he chooses you it will always be on his mind.\nSupport him he probably doesn't want to be away, its no real fun being away from home even if it sounds great!\nBut whatever, good luck to the pair of you!
349679
I am coping with one myself. One way I cope with it is to send him gifts for Christmas and other holidays just as if he was here. Another thing I do is talk a lot to him on the phone and on instant messagging. We send e-mail and e-cards to each other as well. But in the end, there are three important things to remember in a relationship: trust, love, and loyalty. By acting like the distance isn't that far, the time passes a whole lot quicker and before I know it, he is going to be back in two months!\nI hope this advice has really helped you out!
387386
I would make a list of things that I like to do and just do them or I would hang out with my family.  You can send an ecard to him and express how much you miss him. You can't be together all the time and this should be good practice for you. Also, I would start planning for the night he gets back home. Dinner? Movie? Lingerie? Use your imagination!
1116666
Sad but true... and I'm sorry to be the first to break this to you... but...\n\nPeople MAKE TIME to do the things they want.  If he wanted to spend time with you... talk to you... HE WOULD MAKE IT HAPPEN.   Job schedule, busy family life, anything else is just an excuse.\n\nDon't TELL someone you love them... SHOW THEM... \n\nOne of the ways you SHOW them is to SPEND THE TIME with them that you can.\n\nSorry... you seem sweet... but from the outside looking in:\n- If you don't know in 9 months how he feels... somethings wrong there and\n- If he isn't spending major time with you... You may be alone here... in your affections.\n\nMove on... you'll find your next choice much more ATTENTIVE.
393845
I think it is something that will just take time.  If your goal is to forget about him, it won't happen.  Rather, be greatful that you had an opportunity at such a rewarding relationship - not the most common thing.  Maybe you are not ready to be with someone else, and need more time to heal from the break.  Time does heal all.
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Maybe he's at a lost point in his life \n\nI think the best that you can really do is just let him go\n\non the plus side 4 and 1/2 years and he loves you \nHe'll be back..Don't worry to much. Just keeep close friends around
701661
sit urself down and really give the matter some heart felt thought....... take the time to get it together...... YOU have a choice to make, so I think you better get busy...... it is NOT fair to your guy to be with him if you can not give him all that he deserves........ God bless
346954
i totally agree with the fact that u should be appreciated..BUT being away from him isnt solving anything. trust me GO BACK and figure it out. time off doesnt work. the guy gets bored and moves on.. trust me. work with him
452250
there's nothng u can do other than continue to miss him. try to write down ur thoughts when u r think about him then let him read it after he comes back.it could be a big turn on every time he reads it.