I panic at the thought of being alone?
820856
I don't want to be critical, but I want to be honest in my answer.\n\nI had this same fear after my 2nd marriage ended.  Thank goodness I had a dear friend who saw what I was experiencing and helped me rebuild my self-esteem and helped me "find myself".  I realized that I was not happy with myself and that I needed to be before I got involved again.  This was not a quick process.  And it was a lonely one.  But I thank God every day that I went through it.  When I quit looking and found out that I actually liked myself, I found a great guy.  He and I are no longer together, but I found that I am a complete person without a man.  This has given me a whole new perspective on life and relationships.  Since then, I have met and dated a much higher quality of men.  The man I'm seeing now is a wonderful and thoughtful man who is a good father and is concerned about the people around him.  This is want I wanted and what found me.\n\nI hope my experience can help!
815611
Why are you alone and why are you afraid?
549031
Of course. Just look after yourself. I'm a mere 30 and have just had heart surgery on my own. My ex girl friend Left for another man at the time too. It was not great knowing no one close was there for you. Am no longer scared of death now though, A side effect of being alone, no one there what's the point. The choice is yours. I'd marry if i were you. A bit more of a fight if you don't want to leave your lover behind. Good luck
1015784
i think its both... independence and fear, but mostly fear. i have been one of those people. sometimes when u feel that ur getting really close to someone you get scared... this might sound weird but you think that it would be easier for you to hurt yourself by taking yourself away from that person then that person leaving you. it took a while for me to notice what i was doing. hang in there with the person that you are talking about, you just need to show them that you're not going anywhere and that there is nothing to be afraid of.
903760
YOUR HIS TRANSITION GIRL. GET OUT FAST.  HE TOLD YOU HOW HE FELT!  DONT YOU WANT SOMEONE WHO REALLY CARES FOR YOU?  OR WOULD YOU RATHER BE IN A SITUATION LIKE THIS THAN BE ALONE?  I'D RATHER BE ALONE!
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You can think of a friend and know that they think of you. You are never alone, even in the darkest of fairy tales of your life, there is always someone interested and eager enough to be concerned about you, even a stranger at the end of an e-mail ok. Dont be so lonely, there are many wonderful things in life and many to share it with, i promise you.\nNow tonight close your eyes, do whatever the others suggested above, then peacelfully cast your mind east to the Atlantic across its depths to Ireland and smile in the knowledge that i-someone you dont even know-will think about you today. And before i fall asleep i'll do you this same favor today and you certainly wont be alone as you drift off.\nMy deepest kindnesses,\nD
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You might have a phobia of some sort. \n\nPsychologists recommend "desensitization.' You do it by exposing yourself, a little step at a time, to your source of phobia, until such time when you no longer have the phobia. \n\nIf you're scared of being home alone for more than an hour, try to be alone and do enjoyable things for an hour, then for an hour and a half, then for two hours, and so on and so forth, until such time that you no longer harbor any fear of being left home alone.
1050489
Awww so sweet. \n\nRide it out cowboy! Talking to people would help too.\n\nYour not alone.\n\nI feel alone, because I am sad, not because I don't have someone.
364937
You don't need to decide right now if you want to be alone "forever" or not. If enjoying time to yourself is important to you at this point in your life, then go for it. You may or may not decide down the road to enlarge your social circle, but there's no need to put pressure on yourself to do that until you want to. For now, though, don't burn any bridges. Keep in touch and spend some time with loved ones, because one day you may regret cutting them out completely. Just let them know that you're really focused on certain things and you're going to be spending much of your free time alone for a while. It's healthy to keep a few important people in your life, because you never know what's around the corner when you might need them. So don't cut anyone out completely, but be honest and let them know what you're thinking. And, no, I don't think you're crazy. It's your life and your journey. God bless.
149200
its because you feel bad for yourself. if u think about it humanity is a bit selfish. now that your alone you wish you still had a partner.
1135491
I know how you feel, I'm 36 and still single and I sometimes wonder about it as well.  But once you're ok with yourself and ready for a mature relationship, and once you have made yourself available through friends or online dating or whatever else, then there's only so much you can do beyond that.\n\nLife is half chance, it seems, or at least beyond our control much of the time.  The best way to accept the possibility of being alone is to be sure you are happy with yourself and what you are doing in life, to ensure that your life has substance and meaning regardless of finding that true love that may or may not ever arrive.  I wish you the best.  I'm in the boat with you!  :)
820246
the only one that has to accept you--is YOU!!  remember, carpi deium! sieze the day!  besides what is the worst that can happen?  I used to be shy myself, now I get out there and try, come to think of it, I would not have my wonderful kids if I stayed shy\nalso, (just a thought)\nfind a councelor or confidaunt to talk out these feeling with and help you release the fears burned into your mind.  I have PTSD from sevier abuse as a teen,  I know what it is like to suffer a trama that scars the mind as well as the body, and I see my councelor regularly.  there is no shame in such things.
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Funny, because this is one of the things I feel strongly about!  I'd rather be alone, because I don't hate being alone, at all.  If I'm going to have someone in my life they have to be an asset, a plus, a positive.  Otherwise I have no use.  :) Girlpower!! hehehe
467990
Oh my gosh! I don't feel so alone now! Everyone of my friends thinks that it's so weird but it is terrifying to me. I don't understand why i have this fear but man, i'm scared to get pregnant because of this fear. I get shaky, hot-cold flashes, dizziness, sweaty, just plain horror. I don't wish this on anyone but i hope we both can get over it! Do you remember anything that could have triggered your phobia? I remember going on vacation when i was younger and my sister would always get sick in the back of the car; i think i felt trapped or something but i really want to end this terrible fear! I hope you don't feel alone, i'm here for you now! :)
242065
It sounds like you might be afraid of losing out altogether.  Probably both boys have some appeal to you, but probably neither one is everything you are looking for.  Perhaps if you step back and really look at yourself and look at yourself in relation to your boyfriend(s), you would find that you are afraid of being alone.\n\nDate whomever makes you feel happy, but don't be too involved yet because you aren't emotionally ready.  Spend some time doing things with other friends and get to know yourself better.  Even spend time by yourself doing things you like.  The better you know yourself, the better you will understand yourself in relation to others.
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b/c u were once content/comfortable with ur situation and u don't like change.  but that's part of life, if u don't take that chance then u will never know the outcome.  plus ur heartbroken and it scares u b/c u don't want to go through it again, and u're thinking 2 urself is this going to happen again?! U said u've never been single, there's a first time for everything.  word of advice --- quit looking for someone (enjoy time to urself/w/friends), let that someone find u. cause sometimes if ur not looking 4 love its looking for u. and don't be so negative @ moving on. good luck
67513
The first factor of being afraid of being alone is the age. If you are already in your late 30's, so you are afraid of being alone forever. But if you are still young and still afraid of being alone, that is an indication that you have a kind of phobia and that can be treated by consulting a psychiatrist. It doesn't mean that you are insane if you seeks help from a Psychiatrist. You just need to open up and free yourself from any fears..\nHope this helps you.. goodluck...