Help! I need some relationship/dating advice?
823387
Well then just be honest with the guy.  Inform him that you really enjoyed your time with him and that he is very much a gentleman etc, but that you have to find out for yourself if there is anything left between you and your ex.
877328
You're on the right track trying to find a friendship before anything. =) That's how me and my bf got started...lol ANYWAY just be like "hi, where do you hang out during lunch" or something lol i'm not that good at it either (i usually have guys do that kind of stuff) but just talk about something that can bounce back and forth between both of you. it'll help. and smile!
142757
Become friends first!  He needs that and so do you. It will also make the transition into a relationship easier.  He's more comfortable with the idea of a relationship because your friends! And you don't appear to have been waiting in the WINGS all this time, looking desperate!
57057
Damn baby, I wanna date you...LOL. If you like getting walked on, then keep taking him back. If you want to respect yourself, kick him to the curb and keep moving forward with someone that will treat you better. Don't put up with crap. People will only do to you what you let them do.
140070
Say no. You just got dumped. You don't need to get involved\nwith someone right now. Your wounds need time to heal. And\ndon't even think about dating one of his friend. That will\ncreate a major disaster. wait awhile before you start dating again. Your soul need time to be free of old hurts \nand wounds. Recover time is now.
47934
Find your self worth.\n\nHe's pumping negitive stuff into your brain.  Remember, You are SPECIAL...You are BEAUTIFUL <he never would have dated u if he didn't see that beauth>...You are WONDERFUL...and POWERFUL...UNSTOPPABLE.\n\nReally, are you happy??? A relationship is a trial to see if you're ment to spend your life together.  So, if you're not happy now <I'm sure if u're not happy, then he's not happy> then where is this relationship leading???\n\nGo FIND HAPPINESS!!!
386980
Just be honest and tell him the truth. I am sure that he will understand why that you are not ready to date yet. If the guy leaves you then you dont need him. Good Luck.
68724
Do what your heart says to do, dont waste time on someone you obviously dont care much about, dont make it a routine with someone, when you could have the real relationship you want! Go for it man!
896059
Hello:\n\nOne of the hardest things I have ever had to realize is that loving someone isn't enough to make a relationship work. \n\nI was in a long term relationship with a guy, whom I was in love with. The only problem was that he was insanely jealous, and I am a little too trusting. He would assume I was cheating on him, if I had a conversation with a guy friend (a guy friend that I had been friends with long before I met my boyfriend). And if I saw him chatting with a random girl I would just assume they were chatting, and nothing more. I should also say that I have never cheated on a boyfriend, much less cheated on this guy. \n\nEventually he started to push the limits more and more when it came to making me jealous, so much so that he started making out with a girl at a party we had gone to together. Even though afterwards he told me that it didn't mean anything, but that he wanted me to feel jealous, it was too hurt to try to make the relationship work. \n\nWe had a long talk and learned that we had spent so much time trying to hurt each other, that we didn't have anytime to enjoy each other. Obviously our relationship was disfunctional, and I'm happy to say we are both in relationship and are successful and we are still friends with one another.\n\nThe relationship I have now is fantastic. But we still do have problems. The best thing I have done in this relationship is that we face issues head on. But we both know how we each deal with stress. When I am stressed I like to be left alone, where as he likes to be distracted and just take a break from it all. We are able to recognize when we are stressed, and how we can help the other one deal with the problem. \n\nI would suggest that you wait it out. You've been in a relationship that has been successful for so long. Wait until he has started school and starts feeling comfortable there. But be supportive and if he doesn't want to talk to you about his feelings - just let him know that you are there for him if he ever needs to talk or a distraction. \n\nI hope this helps and good luck!
797236
You maintain your self and still be a nice person. Others will see that you are mature about it. You and he may want to date in the future but in the meantime you should start looking for another fellow. ○
934856
i've often been in this situation! the best thing i have done is just kind of flirt around, if he feels threatened, stop, and either move on, or wait til they (prolly sometime) breakup, \n\nif he flirts alot back just tell him "listen i know you have a girlfriend, and i don't want to get between you 2, but i just waned you to know that i do like you"   then see what happens from there, if he's for it (to date you) don't do anything til he breaks up with his girl, you don't want to be that kind of 'girl' if he's not for it, MOVE ON!\n\n\n\n\n\n---if you need any more advice on this situation or any other one you have DON NOT hesitate to message me!!!----
532108
Just become really good friends before you start a relationship! Trust me, I've gone into a relationship based on physical things (without a strong friendship) and things didn't work out! I think it's great that you are willing to wait until she seems ready to "make a move"! I wish more guys were like that. Find out what type of things she likes to do. Maybe you could invite her to go bowling you and a couple of friends, or go to coffee(i suggest Starbucks), or out to eat,  or somewhere else that you guys could just talk.  I know the movies are fun but you should do something where the two of you can talk. You can't really get to know someone that well by going to the movies. To keep her interested in you maybe you could just flirt with her a little, every girl likes to be flirted with every once and a while. Good luck! If you want any more advice on it you could always contact me.
589995
Find somebody worth dating. This guy is more confused than you. He seems worthless. Probably just wants to get laid, to tell you the truth, sorry I'm so blunt. I would move on and leave the guy. (If I were a girl...or whatever...haha)
1157157
Straight up is always the best way. And be direct, don't beat around the bush.\n\nExamples: Since we've been seeing each other have you been \n                   dating anyone else.
594686
Sounds like you two have a lot in common...basically wanting someone, but yet not to get hurt again. See if you can take her out and tell her that you really do like her and have like her for the past couple of months, but like her are looking for someone special and are afraid of being hurt. You respect her decision of not dating just to be dating, b/c once again you are looking for someone special to make your life complete. Pray to God for the strength to approach the situation with honor and dignity. Don't ever be afraid of no, b/c you never know until you ask. Keep your head up and your confidence high, you sound like a terrific sweet gentleman and I wish you and her both luck! God Bless!
991510
That's a tough one, maybe you two can hang out and try to avoid conversations that will stir up feelings from the previous relationship, but then it will seem like they are avoiding the situation, so maybe the best policy is to talk about whatever has happened and ask the person how do they think they can move forward. Maybe they may say they need sometime to themselves or something, or maybe you can suggest to them that they take up a hobby, like exercising, or jogging or something like that. Hope this helps!!!
662241
u need to talk things over. communication is one of the keys to a healthy relationship. You both need to listen to each other's opinions and thoughts. Why not try spendin time alone w/ yourself first.Collect your thoughts and asses yourself.Try to see things in an optimistic way.Do not let insecurities overcome you.I'm sure he likes you.Sometimes,there are just things that don't go the way we want them to.