What would you do if your fiance' enjoys viewing p*rn, but never wants to have s*x?
829118
Dump the bum and quick!  Sounds like there are some problems going on in this guys head and you don't need to be a part of it.  I think you already knew you have to get him out of your house and out of your life, you just needed confirmation and support from people not so close.  Well, you are getting plenty of the same advice; so listen to all of us strangers who only want the best for you - GET RID OF HIM . . .NOW!
420237
I don't think watching porn is wrong... I don't always want to have sex with my man, so it would be pretty shady of me to not let him watch porn and do it himself... Tell her that!  I honestly wouldnt go out and cheat...just let her know that you have NEEDS that need to be MET (by HER) and if she cant/wont do it, something bad is gonna happen!  and if that means watching PORN and doing the job urself, it's better than getting it from somebody else.. take it or leave it.
333953
I'd tell him to lay off the porn, and tell him he's got the real live thing right here, and to choose. Me or your porn. If he can get off with porn, but not with you, then the guy has some very serious issues.
804919
What ever you do dont show him porn...
1108969
i dont think it is the porn that you are upset about, i think that it is the fact that he kept it from you. Explain to him that he doesnt need to keep anything from you no matter what it is. You will support him and stick by him that is why you married him.
405560
Sit this silly little idiot down and tell him YOUR house rules!!!!!!!!!\n\nNO PORN DVD's\n\nNO ADULT TV.\n\nFor God's sake - he is supposed to be an parent.  How would he feel if another man came into his house and showed his children pornography.  If he doesn't get this then kick him straight out the door.\n\nMen like to make women feel that unless they put up with his little porn collection then we are prudes......BULLSHIT!\n\nI have been married to the same man for 20 years.  We have three daughters who live with us.  If he ever thought that my children should be subjected to images that are not only inappropriate but offensive then it would be the end of him.\n\nNO COMPROMISES.......if he need porn that bad he can make HIS choice and go and get it - but not in your family home.\n\nAlso, it's a little strange, if you ask me, that he like to leave them around small children - are you sure he's ok?
777682
from your question you have obviously already decided that you are going to give your fiance an utimatum.  talk to your fiance about her feelings about this - and grow up a bit mate
633403
dump him and marry me.  that's pretty special.\ni'm kidding, isn't special enough.  don't try to make it so special and ornate and crazy that you don't get a chance to enjoy it.
933875
Umm, I'd say probably.\nWhy don't you suggest watching it with her ON your honeymoon.  Maybe naked and in bed?
905338
My ex-boyfriend asked me do I want to watch animal porn. (People having s e x with animals) Sorry to say this but you asked the question.
170667
I agree with Patsy...screw him, not literally, but his ideas and his porn...just remember you are the one that has the power to "no" and once you say "yes", well...there goes your power, he'll just say "well, you did it before..." and you don't need that...do you?
907924
First of all punkin, congratulations on 15 years of marriage!  I too have been married for 15 years, we make sure to have our date nights, maybe going to dinner or sometimes just for coffee.  We are a Christian couple.  We will watch movies (not x rated ones mind you) but we do watch secular r rated movies, as long as they are not too graphic.  We do share a bottle of wine from time to time, but never in excess.  I hope this helps a little.  God bless.
964247
For starters there is absolutly nothing wrong with you. I was where you were years ago. The last straw was when I actually caught him fast forwarding during our time. I never told him to stop watching them but if we were in bed & he wanted to watch one I would tell him to turn it down or go to the other room. As for the BJ part HAH If he wouldn't give me the special perks I wanted HE didn't get his. Eventually any man will get sick of his own hand. My husband has always had a huge sexual appetite though. I found out later that he didn't have a porn addiction, he's into voyeurism. He liked the sneak peaks also the thrill of being caught. Try to talk to him again with a genuine interest of finding out what exactly turns him on about the movies without getting defensive. You might find that it's really something quite simple and possibly even fun for you to do together. You may have to stray from your comfort zone a little but don't let it compromise your morals or it will just make you resent him and you. A few years ago he stopped watching them as much because it was the same thing in each one. Of course them we got internet which opened up a whole new field. Our computer stays in the living room so anything he does now has to be when nobody it home so that helps. We been together for 12 years now. It's been rough but we have made it this far. If you do all you can and he STILL won't give you the proper attention that you need then there's nothing left for you there.
938478
That is a personal choice. Can you live with the fact your girlfriend may "star" in adult movies? Is it something you won't be upset about? Will you look at her differently for doing it? What affect will it have on you and on your relationship with her? Those are questions only you can answer for yourself.\nYour girlfriend will decide on her own whether she wants to be in adult movies or not. It is her decision and her body. Naturally I would like to think (as I'm sure you would to) how you felt about it would be an important factor in her decision making. Nevertheless it is her decision to make. If she's already set on doing it then there isn't anything you could do to stop her.
934737
in the end ... who cares what others think.\n\nIf you and your fiance are secure in your relationship and view the extra sex as just 'fun,' then you guys are, in my humble opinion, fine. \n\nIf, however, you or your furture spouse are in the slightest bit 'wierded out' by your bedroom fun, then it MIGHT be bad for you future together.\n\nall in all, if you are secure about what you do then let those haters hate while you are feeling loved by your man and having great sex with your woman.
203730
hallo bitchy bitch,\n                    quite a musterbating question. buy ur husband a camera phone and stand before him naked and let him take photoes wher from he pleases. he takes ur bubs pic or vagina pi , he can lich it always anytime he fucks the mobil. and if u are not satisfied with her penis , write to me and i will please and pis  ur vagina.\nmy e-mail id ___ laughfing_buddha@yahoo.co.in
317642
I think that it is cheating as well. Like you I am in the same boat. At first I was very angry and upset and so I asked other people if I was over reacting. The thing that sucks is that every one has their own opinion. I was getting different answers from them all. I say once you have seen one you have seen them all and there is no point to wanting to look elsewhere, otherwise what the heck are they with us for, just a recepticle? I am in a predicament my self but with strip clubs and porn so don't feel all alone. Keep your chin up and try to work on a resolution and compromise. I hope this helps a little to know that you're not alone. Just so you know if you let it continue to bother you it will become a trust and respect issue. So don't badger him to change because it won't work.