22 student and 32 banker--he didnot call me after sex?
829869
If you have feelings for him then don't be a **** buddy.\n\nIf he is not contacting you then let it go.\n\nIf you want something more, let him know what you want and see if he will step up.  Of course if he is not calling you, he is giving you a pretty clear message that he is just not that into you.
245552
I can't really tell you yes he is into you, because I don't know how he acted around you, and I don't know him. What I can tell you is that if it seemed like he really had a great time and you both had fun, then maybe there is hope. I suppose if he called you to let you know he was home safe, that's a plus, because if he didn't care at all, he wouldn't of called at all. Now, about him waiting to call you, maybe he was nervous, busy, like the other person commented, maybe didn't want to seem desperate. Just give it time, and if nothing becomes of it, let it go, there are a ton of men out there waiting to meet ya! ;)
884499
Unfortunately for us girls guys can be real sleazy and if he wasnt interested in you after the sex then dont bother. Any guy who is worth it doesnt need any chasing if he likes you then he should come to you. If  hes gone cold then he must have been just in it for the thrill of baggin you so dont worry about his opinion and enjoy whatever you had no matter how brief it was. If he really wants to get to know you you'd be hearing from him regularly
876297
Okay,Okay.There is a lot of information here so I will try to be brief.First off, it sounds as though the relationship is lacking in maturity.First off, when people break  up.They dont "break up all the time" and then get back togather 5 hours later.If it happened once or twice ok.But you said it happens all the time.That needs further examination.What are you guys fighting about? Is it the same argument over and over?Or do you guys like the drama of it? Because after all I will be the first to tell you make up sex is the best lol.\nSecond of all......He lied to you about who was on the phone and then ran from you like some little boy who was about to be swatted by his mother.Another lack of maturity.\nThird of all......  What was he doing behind your back boworring money from a girl you didnt know?You would have never found out about this girl, had you not been there to intercept the call.Im not saying he is cheating on you, but why would he omitt something like that.especially if it was something as innocent than borrowing a few dollars?Remeber omission is still a lie.\nYou may not want to hear this .Because even young love is still the kind of love that will tear your heart out when the relationship ends.But I would advice you to really look into the relationship.Is he mature enough?and allthough you are young this could still happen... ask yourself , what if i get pregnat? Is he going to run from me when things get tough like he did when i intercepted that call!Cause trust me! If he is going to run from a confrontation, it looks like he would run for the hills and not look back if something as serious as a pregnacy comes up.He does not sound mature enough to be in a committed relationship.Remember girls are more mature than boys at your age.And that leaves for you to have a lot to loose if he decides he want to move on.Is he worth investing into emotionally hun?Believe me... I had my heart broken by one I thought was mature enough.I even married him.And when things got tough... He packed his bags and left.Now im here to pick up all the pieces of the wreckage.If one person could learn from mistake... It would make my heartbreak worth it! Good Luck in whatever you choose to do! If you need to talk to someone.Feel free to email me at stargazerlilly79@yahoo.com.
329924
well sweety think about how long you have known him.  only a couple of days. and you sleep together yeah leaving the message was good but don't call back just yet. wait at least a week before you do.  see if he is interested by letting him call.  i know it sounds stupid, but its is a game.
655513
Don't worry about what you did so much.  He flaked on you when he bailed on the road trip.  His phone had to be working, so He was blowing you off.  He hasn't been returning your calls until he finds out you slept with someone.  Being a guy and see this happen many times, I am almost certain that he has another girl on the side.  If a guy is into you, he can't wait for you to call.  he tries to figure out excuses to call you.  When his phone rings and he knows its you, he will immediately answer.  If he misses the call, he will call you back just as soon as possible.  It doesn't sound like your man does this, so you don't owe him anything.  If anything, he still owes you.  I wouldn't worry if he trusts you, you shouldn't be trusting him.  He isn't acting like a boyfriend, he is acting like he uses you for sex and when he ain't getting it elsewhere, he comes calling on you.  This all smells fishy to me.
788627
Yeah, it sounds bad. He wanted to cut out quick, and that's good. You don't want him hanging around just to be polite, do you? The fact that he hasn't called yet, doesn't mean anything.. guys are not usually phone hounds like women are, but not coming in was the clincher.
189000
Is this guy telling the truth about not having sex, or is he just trying to sleep with you?\n\nDo you like this guy or have "feelings" for him?  If no, then I wouldn't sleep with him.\n\nMaybe find a date for him, or an escort to boost his self-esteem.
378446
'he got caught up in some bullshit and ended up having sex with one of my friends................just read that back and see if it makes any sense!!!!!!\n\nNOBODY gets 'caught'up in something that makes them commit the ultimate no-no.  WIse up - people do things because they want to and they think that they can get away with it.  The reason he has called you again out of the blue is a slight mystery but trust me if he had realised what a mistake he'd made and wanted to get you back he would have done that 24 hours after the event.  He's just bored and is seeing how far he can go with you.  This whole episode is probably to hype his ego that he could get you back again no matter how badly he has behaved.\n\nDo yourself a favour and show him the door with a very large size 9 up his backside as he leaves.\n\nEveryone is worth more than this.  You have to toughen up and not let people rule your future.  If they bring you love and happiness let them in - if not get rid of them....for good!!!!!\n\nHard but true.\n\nGood Luck!!
963948
Forgive yourself for an error in judgment and focus on what would be in your best interest at this point.  The guy satisfied his sexual curiousity and can't let go of a minor offense (i.e., hanging up on him).  A guy like this will only hold you back.....walk away now and you'll be proud of yourself for putting your own needs first.  You will gain strength as time moves on.  It's just a matter of developing the resolve to stick to your guns; as you meet new people and start to date new guys, this memory will fade.  Trust your own instincts and move on.  Good Luck
1051872
Quit following the "RULES" who's the expert you or some handbook of rules that everyone goes by? If you like the guy call him if not then don't call him...If I were him and I gave you my number and you called me weeks or months later I wouldn't bother to pick up because if it took you that long to call that means you were not interested...Get what I'm saying....Make your own rules!!
935307
He's probably over you, but was feeling horny in the moment.  It doesn't sound like he has any intention of being with you in a serious way.  He'd probably settle for a booty call relationship, but you sound like you have more class than that, so I'd move on if I were you.
721861
If he didn't give you his number and you call him might think you are needed (or a stalker). Give him time, nothing less than 2 weeks. Then maybe get you Godmother to help you out. Ask her to call him and CAUSALLY bring up that you asked about him, and see what she says.
107645
I personally would be who you are...when you want to ask him to go to a place to hang out...just be casual-calm-cool-collective-confidence is the key. Guys get turned on like that...and than when your on the phone call for not chatting but casually seek him out...to what are his plans  towards the end of the weekend/like Thursday call. Guys really don't like many plans only because they are more comfortable knowing your willing to just hang out at any given time...\nPretend that you have things you can do if he says "No" that it's not counting on him for your fun! Believe me he will think your interesting this way...speak high of yourself, when he makes a comment say I already knew this about me but thanks for the compliment.Be supportive when he seems stressed, relate to a experiance you had in your time that would relieve him in to trusting you more as this person of love that you say-but seek out those times and listen then bring input-guys love this when you show some wealth to their ego when they are hurting or happy say what you love about him but not in a mushy way...sincere straight honest truth about who they are to you-people love to hear about themselves a lot...when your close the better it gets!\nMuch luck!-Tina
1175948
sounds like he wants you on standby.cheaters rarely change, thank your lucky stars you didn't marry him. if he calls again tell him to please stop calling you and move on with your life.
621806
It sounds to me that he is just using you for your money, i dont know his past but you should ask him why he nevers sees you at night. If the answer does not seem genuine or if he takes ages to respond, he is using you and you should get rid of him.
521746
He certainly sounds interested, but not quite certain enough of what he wants (unless he is just looking to use you when it's convenient for him.)\n\nPerhaps he thought the visit that didn't work out was your way of politely trying to put him off?  If you think his intentions are honorable, you should just call him, so he knows that you are still thinking of him.  If that isn't enough to get him to invest more effort, then perhaps he's not worth the trouble.  Listen to your heart, but proceed cautiously.  Good luck!  :)