i suspect my wife is dating men online,now i got a hold of her corespondence wit them,do i confront her or not
817111
Sorry I am a woman, but you need to confront you wife with this.  It's disrespectful to you and to your marriage.  Sit her down and tell her you know what her butt is up to.
643539
I'm going to ask you one more time...how's your husband going to know if the people that you talk to online are gay or not  ???
874963
i think that you should confront her but not be so mad about it. than you can ask the guy to a movie or something. get a little revenge back on her.
1013877
I told you she would find out about us sooner or later!  I am crushed, I told myself I would never do such a thing with a married man.  Then look at what I have gone and done??????  Oh my.  \n\nSeriously now,\nI say run with it, just don't over use it if you know what I mean.  Just watch out for WHEN you find her doing the same.  <wink>  :)
405557
if you love her and trust her let her be, she is who she is and thats why you married her so dont change what you fell in love with (big mistake men make) she'll stop if she thinks it hurts you - we all check men out beneath the waist, don't mean were gonna screw em - men check out women too - just life- have fun\nBTW - your wife must think you are a super hubby too if she can be herself comfortably in front of you than that says a whole lot about her awesome husband
728392
You can see if he's online if he has his settings for that.  You can't see who he's chatting with.  Why would you want to invade his privacy like that?  If you're romantically interested in him and you're afraid he's chatting with other women, then you need to move on.  Suspicion is no way to start a relationship, or even a friendship for that matter.
1070157
If she can't keep her emails straight...I would believe she is pulling one over on you.  And no matter what the relationship, not sure I would advertise I slept with every guy I've dated.  Good luck!!
615166
maybe nothing did happen...but..sitting and thinking about it  .. guys are pigs women are bitches..so go with your gut cuz wondering about it will drive you mental.. and sometimes even worse than catching them in the act.. move on.. there is a trust issue as well.. you have to ask yourself .. 4 hours??? and if you did the same what would she say??? tell the wife she should know
10256
well first, is there any way you can tell if he's been active on this account or not? maybe he had it on there and forgot about it? just mention to him that you found it and was wondering about it...this might bring questions as to why you were there also, he might think that you were looking on match.com, or don't trust him. neither are what you would want him to think if it's not true. \nso simply ask him about it, if he isn't straight up with you about it, then odds are that he's always keeping another door open. men do this for many reasons, like fear of being hurt, finding something better, or that's just thier lifestyle. i wouldn't put up with it if he says he wants to marry me, because marriage is permanent. if he's talking about something permanent then he needs to be sure about it before he mentions it.
401964
I don't see why asking her what she's doing over the phone should make her think you don't trust her unless she is hiding something. I think nothing of being asked that q. It's just normal conversation. Maybe it's your approach?? Or maybe it's not you at all!! Good luck, sweetie!
292287
There is no gentle way of dealing with this.  After 15 years of marriage to find out that you don't really know who your partner is is quite a shock.  Why get mattied in the first  place if you were not going to be honest with her.  15 years of her life for nothing.
89355
If you take an internet game that seriously, you may want to consider edging yourself off the game.\n\nIf she broke your trust, its more of ethics thing.
95330
Do you really want to know? that could be the end of your relationship. If you suspect she is still cheating then thats diffrent. nip it in the bud. but if it was in the past and things are ok now, let it go.
793683
Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
923543
Wow, Paul. Creepy. I agree that that these recent events may seem 'cosmic' in nature, but some of these things may seem suddenly more related because you have her on your mind. Constantly.  Kind of like when you learn a new word or phrase, and then it seems like you hear that word or phrase constantly right after that. Know what I mean?\n\nI think you've become obsessed with her, and you're not really thinking this through.\n\nFirst of all, have you discussed this with your son?  How does he feel about getting to know his mother after all these years? If you contact this woman, that may become a reality, and your son may have a different idea about that.\n\nHow would your wife react to this?  \n\nMost importantly, what purpose would it serve?  I think you have this fairy-tale idea that you'll become pals again and all will suddenly be well.  In reality, you'll be dredging up years of resentment, anger, and disappointment, especially where your son is concerned.  \n\nIs it really worth it?\n\nI can tell you that the reality of the results of such an endeavor will rarely live up to your hopes.\n\nDon't look at all these recent events as a MESSAGE.  That's an EXCUSE.  You want us to encourage you to do this thing.\n\nI'm not gonna do it.\n\nGood Luck,\n\nPolly
422421
If it was my man then I would flip out...first of all it started off as work ?  blah...sit down have a talk with him tell him that you are on to his online cheating because it is cheating and that if he is not willing to quit being online then you will have to move on and move on...if he is looking for love online he  obviously does not love you.
81964
If you think she is hiding something, she probably is.  I am 38, and I would have to say we don't have any certain characteristics.  I am assuming you are involved in a relationship with this person?  If thats the case, you need to reevalute the situation.  Seems to me you are lacking trust, honesty, and communication.  Why would you even want to persue it?