Boyfriend has weak erections and ejaculates before I am fulfilled can anyone give any suggestions to help?
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not maintaining a erection for a mid 40 year old is normal\nfast ejaculation is not.. he should have learned to control this a long time ago\n\nwhy do you think Viagra was invented?\n\n\nDating a guy in early 50's- things are A OK
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Masturbate before you have sex it will help you to stay hard for a lot longer.\nWhen actually having sex stop thrusting when you feel ejaculation is starting and think of something not exciting till you've calmed down enough to start again.\nDo a lot of foreplay so that way you are satisfying your partner as much as possible, it will help lessen the guilt feelings.\nSee the doctor as it may be a medical problem which could be sorted very quickly
101329
This is common with men who do not have much sexual experience.  Just do it with him more often and he will have more stamina to hold it and engage in pleasure more before the actual release.
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Do not listen to the first B*I*T*C*H  she is beeing rude!! \n  1.  if he is taking any other meds there could be a side affect in the form of low sex drive.\n  2.  ED is a real downer for a man  he could be feeling not like a "real" man.\n\nthe solution for you is to stroke his ego make him feel sexy and attractive some times in these situations that is what they are felling ( not attaractive or sexy)  \n\nask the doctor if there is side affects ot any meds that he is taking.\n\nit is not you!!!!   it his issue that needs to be uncovered.\n\nGod Bless and good luck!!!
960630
Some men.  When they can not expel their bodily fluid through orgasm will experience the symptoms you have expressed.\n\nFind out what he is worried about?  Obviously there is a psychological problem here which means he can not ejaculate.\n\nMaybe find out if he can orgasm on his own.\nIs it the condom he has problems with?\n\nBut don't pressure him, or make him feel inadequate.  Just be sensitive and stay away from sex for a bit.\n\nIf you know that he has cheated, then get him to the clinic.  NOT for his benefit but yours.  YOU DONT WANT ANY THING NOW DO YOU.
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Well, if you are a girl that can only finish once, and you do that during foreplay, then you aren't going to finish during intercourse. It could also be that when you are having intercourse, he isn't stimulating you in a way that works. Goof around and try different things to see what he can do to get you off during intercourse. Then teach him to do that everytime.
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Do NOT listen to this other drivel...Sometimes men, just like women lose some of the intensity of their sex drive for certain periods of time. He could be dealing with issues that you know nothing about...such as stress at work or with family, he could be having some problems with his libido... sit him down and talk to him, you won't find your answer by asking total strangers..only he can satisfy your curiosity. Peace.
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Is he a young man?\n\nSounds like it... I suggest working with him to increase his "ride" time.   The grab method... or some "detain" cream... or perhaps wearing a condom sometimes helps.\n\nYou must have some "sugar walls" there babe!!!  hehehe\n\nbut seriously... if this is a problem for you... as it seems it should be... work with him.   You both will enjoy it more!
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Maybe it's not that he doesn't LIKE it, maybe he CAN'T have sex that often.  Some men can't, it could be a medical condition.  Just talk to him about it.  Let him know that you have needs.  If he can't have sex maybe he would be willing to stimulate and pleasure you some other way.  Communication is very important though.  Let him know how much you desire him and wanna be with him.  Sometimes guys gotta hear that stuff too!
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Below is an answer I gave a woman who asked a similar question about her husband. I hope the advice will help you. Good luck!\n\nTry to convince your husband to slow his pace and/or stop before ejaculation and wait a few minutes then resume. With practice he could last a very long time and experience a much stronger and enjoyable orgasm.\n\nIf that does not work, I would suggest he see a doctor for this problem. Sometimes Paxil is prescribed for this problem. It has the ability to extend or prolong the time to ejaculation. There may be other remedies as well.\n\nHope I have been of help. Best of luck and have some fun experimenting. Wish you both a joyful sexual experience.\n\nSincerely,\nTerry
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I have heard of people having e.d. (erectile dysfunction) problems while on beta blockers, but  not losing a desire to have sex.  (The ability to achieve and maintaina firm, hard erection is sometimes lost while on this class of drugs.)\n\nMy recommendation is that your boyfriend go to his doctor and get on another kind of high blood pressure drug with less sexual side effects.  He'll notice a difference in a few days.
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The key is to keep him panting. Hold off on everything, especially sex. He will respect you more
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Doesn't sound like you were ready, it hurts if you are not lubricated  or turned on enough, get your boyfriend to concentrate on turning you on more beforehand and perhaps get some KY jelly.\n\nIt does get better, just think the Human Race would have died out before now otherwise !\n\nGood Luck
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He needs to concentrate more on you.  It's not all about him finishing it's more about the intimacy between the two of you.  Be sure your needs are met before it's his turn.  Concentration is the key...
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Sounds like he's trying to let you know what's going on...you're not listening.  If he's in good health overall (not overweight, smoker, etc) then it could be due to him holding out for you, preoccupied, stress, etc.  There are a lot of reasons why men lose an erection.  A lot of the time my b/f holds out for me and then when I'm good..he's good with that.  He's held out so long, it goes away.  He's usually ready to go again in 10 mins, though.  The fact that you cheated on him really doesn't help.  He may be picturing you doing some of the things you do with him, with someone else.  He's going to be questioning every new thing you do in bed.  "New tricks?  New man?"  It's all about communication.  Let him know you're concerned and really LISTEN to his responses.  You two will work it out if it's meant to be.  He needs to truly forgive you for your mistake and move on if he wants to make it work...you'll need to bring his trust level back up.  Hope I helped...
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I HAVE TO SAY IF THIS HAS OCCURRED MORE THAN ONCE IT MAY BE A RED FLAG FOR FUTURE NIGHTS OF SEXUAL FRUSTRATION FOR YOU. THERE ARE WAYS MEN HAVE FOR LASTING LONGER. IF THIS IS SOMEONE THAT YOU CARE FOR AND ARE GOING TO HAVE A FUTURE WITH. YOU NEED TO ADDRESS THE ISSUE NOW. IF HE GETS THAT TURNED ON BY YOU THEN PERHAPS HE SHOULD GET OFF AT HOME BEFORE YOUR DATE SO HE WILL HAVE MORE STAMINA WITH YOU. OR YOU SHOULD HAVE HIM CONTINUE PLEASING YOU AFTER HE "GOES" UNTIL HE GETS READY TO TAKE ANOTHER GO AT IT. JUST WORK THROUGH IT TOGETHER.  BUT IF THIS IS JUST A FOR FUN RELATIONSHIP SOUNDS LIKE YOU MIGHT BE TOO MUCH FUN FOR HIM AND I WOULD TRY TO END IT BEFORE THE FRUSTRATION BEGINS\n\nGOOD LUCK WITH THAT  .. . ..
980119
I too have this problem. I solved it by applying Olive oil on the inner skin (before erection). Camellia or sunflower oil can be used too. Good luck!!!