why do people cheat on their loved ones?
823407
I asked my boyfriend the same thing.  We have mutual friends and one of our friends was cheated on by her boyfriend, and it brought up the conversation.  What he said was that men like the feeling of "getting away with it" and that they want their cake and eat it too... they want the best of both worlds.  It's not necessarily the fact that they don't tove their significant other anymore, they just want more out of the relationship, and their mate isn't providing it.\n\nMen are more prone to cheating, I think because they have a keen sense of keeping it on the down low, I think women are more afraid of getting caught adn risking it.  The difference between men and women is that men think short term, the now, while women think of down the road, the future, and what exactly they are risking...\n\nWhile this is only my opinion, I think you should ask people who've cheated.  And me being one in the past, I'll tell you, its just for the fun of the ride.  I loved my ex very much, why I cheated on him, I'm not sure...\n\nIt was myfault for getting caught though... lol. :)\n\nHope this helped!
57822
They rarely do it for any specific reason, it isn't about the woman they are with, often it isn't even about the other woman!!\n\nFor men who cheat, they do it because they can. \n\nIt's down to opportunity, geography and an assumption that they won't get caught.\n\n(The hallmark phrase is "it didn't mean anything to me" - as if that somehow makes it OK!).
919547
Sometimes (rarely) its just about sex, but usually not (even with guys).  Cheating is symptomatic of something seriously wrong in the relationship or seriously flawed in the emotional makeup of the cheater.   It is important to find out what the real reason for the cheating behavior is - it's not always easy or fun.  Good Luck!
1128904
Cheating is anything you wouldn't do in front of the person you're with. If they'd be fine with you cuddling with another person then it's not cheating, but if they would mind and you wouldn't do it in front of them, don't do it behind their back.
472755
I comepletely agree with " if you're going to cheat on someone don't be in the relationship." But if you do cheat, I think you should be completely honest with the person and then hand the reins over to them because now it's their decision if they still want to be with you. But some people truly believe in "What they don't know, wont hurt them" but the fact is that enventually they do know and you are a worse person for not only being a cheater but a liar.
556991
It depends. Some people make a one time mistake. Others make it a habit. I know two women that both cheated. The first one cheated on her husband and felt so bad she threw up the next morning. The second one cheated on her boyfriend with seven other men... at least a dozen times between them. Some people make single mistake and regret it forever. Others don't regret it and continue that behavior.
84702
Most people are just not content. Pain and simple. If a married guy looks your way and you catch him , he will someday cheat on you.
899186
People rich, poor it is universal the reasons why they cheat. There social status has very little if anything to do with it. Money doesn't make a person happy. People feel unloved, mistreated, neglected. There are a great deal of answers, and you would have to be in their homes to see what is really happening behind closed doors. And no, I have never cheated, I have been cheated on. I choose to be mature in a relationship and open communication is a big part of that. I don' t have an issue with saying I am not happy, give him a chance to fix it. If I continue to be unhappy I end the relationship.  Good luck and God bless
877742
Cheating is one of the most destructive things that can happen to a person or a relationship.  It's an act of cowardice and happens when a person doesn't love himself enough to expect more of himself.  They rightfully feel that they are a sh*tty person, and so, instead of feeling ashamed of that and working towards improving themselves, they wallow in it and revel in their "badness".  They figure that if they're bad anyway, then there's no reason they shouldn't be completely shameless and callous and go the whole nine yards.  The trouble is that the worse they behave, the deeper they dig the hole they've made for themselves and the more difficult it becomes to turn around and face what they see in the mirror.\n\nCheaters are bad people.  They are low-quality people, not because they don't possess other fine qualities, but quite simply because they have defined themselves as such.  Their failing is in their choice to care about their own selfish WANTS more than about the NEEDS of others.  I don't know about anyone else, but my opinion that is THE definition of a bad person.  At least it's someone I wouldn't want to be associated with.\n\nAnd people who enable cheaters are just as bad in my book.  It might sound strange coming from someone who agrees with swinging, but one of the criteria we have when we had looked for "playmates" was their relationship.  We absolutely refuse to play with anyone who is cheating on their partner, or with people whose relationship is obviously on the rocks.  That, to us, is just unethical.  We work hard at our marriage and have no respect for those who try to cut corners and get out of the work.  \n\nIMO, there is NO justification for cheating.  None, nada, zip, zilch.  There's just NO excuse for lying to your spouse.  I don't buy the "I was protecting her feelings" excuse either.  Your spouse is an adult in an adult relationship; he or she deserves to be given the dignity of a choice as to whether he/she thinks you are worth staying with.  If you're afraid that you're not worth staying with (and that's why you didn't offer him/her the choice), then thurr's yer trouble.
447878
Obviously those who do the cheating say it is a good thing and those who are cheated on say it is a bad thing.  It is all from your own perspective and beliefs about relationships.
1128447
I think that the reason that people cheat on each other is that they forget why they craved each other in the first place.  Lust is lost in bills, kids, stress, traffic.  Couples forget to say thanks, to hold hands, to appreciate that both have commited to the same end.  Turn off the tv and just chat about anything stupid you feel like, just no talking about bills, kids, stress, traffic..............................
1066771
I believe that it is cheating when one fantasies about others. If one lust in their mind for some one other than their spouse, it's adultry.
1016441
Well, men and women alike cheat. Not everyone mind you. We are all different and have our reasons for cheating or not cheating. Speaking on behalf of men, my personal opinion is that if a man cheats, he does think about it, even if its at a subconscious level. I have never cheated on anyone I have been with, but that's my choice. I prefer to end the relationship if I feel that I want to be with another woman. Cheating isn't worth the headaches or the risk of losing someone you might care about.\n\nI think if someone cheats, they have very low morals and isn't someone worth being with. This is why I believe that most people get involved in serious relationships too early in life. They should be out there having fun and enjoying their youth. There will be plenty of time to get involved in a serious relationship. Once we learn what love is really about, we can make better decisions on who will might want to spend the rest of our lives with.
783163
Most of the time men cheat for the same reasons that women do something is missing, they have picked the wrong mate, or maybe they just have a sex problem they can't control. However this never justifies breaking a persons heart or leading them on in hopes of a honest relation ship.
36465
Cheating on your boyfriend because he cheated only you only takes you to his level. You probably should have left him no matter how much you feel you "loved" him.\n\nWhen a person cheats, they are disrespecting their significant other and disrespecting themselves. Cheating is dishonorable. So if someone cheats on you, why would you want to stoop to their level? Instead, take the high road and become a better and stronger person.
776226
Not all men are unfaithful, it's an equally viable point that BOTH parties of sex, male and female at some point have tendencies to CHEAT...yet are ALL people....not just men...not just women..do all PEOPLE cheat? NO.  I sure as hell don't cheat...never have and never will.  My grandparents never cheated on each other, my best friend never cheated on his woman...my mother never cheated on my father...so far i know a lot of people who haven't cheated on each other.  So NO....not all freakin PEOPLE are unfaitfhul. Unfortunately you just got caught up with one of the weak losers that just can't keep it in one spot.  You know you should thank the fact that some people even TRY to be faithful...if you lived as different animal, say monkey, mouse,  bird, you would've been cheated on  right in your face and it would've been ACCEPTED as a natural order of things.... we are all a 'species' here...apparently animal instincts aren't too far from our own.  \nBUT thankfully we don't live by such a promiscuous code...least not all of us.....so fortunately for you, there ARE people who believe in one and only one for life.  Now your problem is just getting involved with those people, but then that becomes a problem when most women are attracted to scum, cheaters, and assholes....and all the decent men are either considered gay, weak, not their type, or  a woman more sensible or more inteligent then the majority of women got him first....survival of the fittest eh?
502179
I dont want to sound rude, but if they are all doing it, then maybe you need to look into yourself and work out why, there is no one reason why a person cheats on another, all we can do is change our own attitudes toward it so that it doesnt continue to happen. \n\nIs it possible that you have low self esteem and they are picking up on that? If not i suggest you do a little soul searching and come up with answer for yourself, i'll bet there is one there, but you dont want to face it. \n\nGood luck - nobody can help you, but you on this one.