How to motivate husband?
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Pray! Prayer is very powerful. It may help to read "Power of a Praying Woman" by Stormie Omartian. It helped me big time.\nThe Lord can do the impossible. \n\nJames 4:8\nDraw near to God and He will draw near to you.\n\nPhil 4:6-7\n\n6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. (NLT)\n\nGod Bless!
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Get off the computer and spend some time with your husband!
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For starters, never do anything which you are not motivated to do or is incompatible with you for whatever reason.\n\nIdentify any motivations, thoughts or habits you have that prevent you, identify their cause and eliminate or mitigate them.\nOr conversely, don't do something you're not motivated to to, if you're heart's not in it - but understand why.\nOr find creative ways to motivate yourself (divide the task into manageable chunks, track progress in a visible way, monitor progress, enlist a friend, give yourself rewards etc.)
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Setting ground rules is important - as is following through with these. Discuss with your husband that it takes TWO to make a marriage work well and that accepting responsibility is an integral part to it. Make it very clear that you will not tolerate irresponsible behavior and lead by example by doing specific things to show him what responsibility entails. When he does act responsibly acknowledge such behavior with specific praise. This will help him realise exactly the kind of things that you expect from him. Remember: things are hardly likely to change overnight as habitual behaviors take time to establish. So keep at it and before long you will be rewarded for your persistence. Goodluck! :-)
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This will be a big test of your love for your spouse if you can pull this off without wanting to get out of the family completely.  I would suggest that you go in with an open mind and a servant heart.  Show interest in the things they find interesting--especially if it is in doing things a different way than you do.  Be willing to help out with chores--not to take over--but to go along side those working to show you are wanting to be with them and learn how they like things done.\n\nMost importantly, find time for time alone with your spouse and don't vent your frustrations to him, even if he is venting his frustrations to you.  And find time alone where you can clear your mind, re-commit yourself to being a learner and servant and have a cell phone so you can call up a friend you know you can vent your frustrations to!
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If you are a spirtual person try reading THe power of a Praying wife. Working on yourself is the best way to work on a relationship. Your husband is responding to you non verbal ques. Its will be hard to "fix" your relationship if you don't figure out what it is you want/need
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start each day with the thought you are alive and have a day to do whatever you want to do\n\nif your husband leaves to work before him, give him a sloppy kiss\n\ndo some quiet meditation before you sleep\n\nbe a minimalist and try not to accumulate, be more conscious about the beauty of nature\n\nread an interesting book, have a fun conversation, and meet someone you always wanted to meet, if you do this regularly you wuld have a happy life\n\noh yeah - don't read the newspapers and don't watch TV - they only have ads - of things you should have which you don't have or miserable stories around the world about bombs and killings
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Keep the communication flowing, always make time for each other. APPRECIATE one another. Always have a "date" night. Don't dwell on the bad things but when the bad things creep into your mind, make yourself remember a good time or a nice thing your spouse did for you. Don't be a nagger. And if all else fails, make love and forget about it. \n\nAnd if none of that works seek counseling.
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just be creatively sexy, lingerie & camisoles with matching panties and try to match them with some high heeled shoes these are jut some ideas to think of. Mind you, you want to look your sexiest! How to move...just thrust your hips and pelvis turning around from front to back and make sure you get all in his face but don't let him touch you at all! and you can choose any good music that has a great beat, if you know how to dance then you could pretty much move seductivly to any type...Good Luck, this will bring extra spice to your marriage. This lets your husband know that you still are in love with him and will do what ever you think it takes to please him and to go the extra mile for him....
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Actually the gift my husband enjoyed the most, have been homemade coupons. make them as naughty or as innocent as you want.\n\n\nExamples\n\nSlave for a day coupon\nFull body massage\n5 course dinner of his choice\n\nEtc..
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Stroke his ego ALOT!  Men just love hearing how he's THE man!  Let him buy the toys that he wants.  Never question his manlyhood in any way.  Be there for him.  He needs to know that he is a good provider.  Don't be too clingy and don't question his whereabouts.  Don't act jealous all the time.  I'm sure you don't, but some wives do.  One of the best ways to make him happy is to show that your happy!
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Start light :)\n\nSmile at her. Tell her you are going for a nice evening walk and ask her if she wants to come with you. In that order. Repeat often~  \n\nAlso, if you have a small yard or a park nearby Bocci Ball is a fun way to get yourselves standing, bending and walking back and forth in the open air. It's a good low impact activity (like a quiet sexy elegant italian version of bowling) that could inspire more physical fun in your day to day life. If you have kids they can join in. It's so fun. If she won't play sober add a glass of wine to the invite. She'll like that. And one glass of wine a day has health benefits. And can spark romance. Ohh La La. ;) Go for it!\n\nIf you have a yard plant a vegetable garden with her. It's nice light physical work and spiritually healing. You'll be eating more veggies which means more energy, less sleeping.\n\nWalk to restaurants instead of ordering in. If you live in too rural an area to do that, drive to the restaurant but park a few blocks away and walk over.\n\nPose these things as small little daily romantic adventures that you have planned for you and her. These are things you are doing for her, and you as a couple so you can both continue to find joy in being alive and well together for a long time.\n\nMore motivation techniques:\nHold hands, kiss her in the kitchen, hug her in the den. Just small acts of physical affection will make you both feel more energized. Plus the chance that her husband may sweetly flirt with her will make a woman want to do more things to make herself more attractive.
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I would do everything in my power to work on my marriage and avoid divorce. The next special occasion, maybe mothers day, that comes up give your husband a head's up. Say something like, "mother's day is two weeks away. I'd like to go out for a nice brunch at this restaurant. I'm not sure what I'd like for a gift, maybe some flowers or maybe we could go to the store together so we could pick out something together." Then make some reservations and let him know when it's time to go shopping.\n\nMaybe your husband is going through tough times at work, not feeling well or something else is making him preocuppied. Counseling can help. So can having fun together. Try to find a sitter and go out some. Your feelings aren't unusual. It happens a lot. The new baby has taken a lot of time and attention. \n\nI'd watch pouring out my heart to a colleague. That's the way affairs start. A woman usually get emotionally attached then physically. Try confiding in a woman friend instead and steering clear of your colleague. It will help you, your husband and your precious baby. I wish you the best.
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Read your first 2 sentences.  Your husband wants you to open up to him more.  Then he does things that make you angry.  \n \nHe is doing these things to elicit a response from you that reaffirms your love for him.  It's like a cat & mouse game for him.  He's doing what he wants to do, while you wait & worry for him.\n\nTurn the tables...go out with your girlfriends; don't call him back; tell him you'll be at one club, but go to another in case he tries to find you.\n\nThen later, when he's pissing & moaning about how you mistreated him, tell him "Now you know how I feel when you do this to me".  Sometimes guys need this to open their eyes.
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1. Support him as he chases his dream (if you kill his dreams, he'll never forgive you)\n2. Encourage him and tell him how great he is (even if he isn't, he might just live up to your words)\n3. Be sexually easy and don't play mind games\n4. Never talk to your parents about problems in your marriage.\n5. Agree to communicate about money so that it never comes between you.
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I'm in same boat with my hubby i'm lucky i'm on computer now to answer this the way he hogs the computer.   Give him errans to run and if you want to spend time with him find things you know he'll want to do like go to a guy flick.  I finally got hubby off to go see saw 111.  Try creative things he may be feeling bored and games are is only outlet.  I try and play games with him i hate it but at least we;re together.  Also be open about how you feel i did and he cut his game playing in half lol i'm working on the other half now lol
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every day just remember how much you love your husband and his child. that helps alot