should i get married to someone that i don't know well but i think i love?
822274
It sounds fishy!  Go with your gut instinct and trust yourself.  You definitely need to find out more about this guy.  How can you love him if you don't even know him.  It sounds like an infatuation to me.  I wouldn't marry someone I'm not sure I love, or someone who I don't think loves me.\n\nTrust is the basis of any relationship and if you ask yourself, I think you'll find that there isn't any trust here..for a good reason.\n\nDon't do it!
139426
Yes you have to love this person.  Look far ahead in life....is this the person who you want to have there when you are old, gray, and this person is the only person you will have to depend on?  Make sure they are dependible, reliable and they really care about you.  Susan Surandon said it best when she said, "People get married because they want a witness to their life.  You will not go unnoticed because I will notice you."
390783
I understand that you're worry about if he isn't mature enough and ready to face a life time marriage. I would say it's something that you should consider about but not to judge a person through his/her age. If you two have already got to the step that which is going to marry then you should know your future husband better. I don't know how well you two know about each other but I wouldn't recommend a rush relationship, especially marriage. Age wouldn't be a matter in a relationship which is cause by love, you should take a closer look to this person, find out if he would be the one that can love you, accept you and willing to cooperate with you to operate a life time marriage. If the answer that he give to you is "yes" and he has already proved to you, you mustn't stop.
294674
If this was the ONLY reason for your getting married, I would be very worried, and advise you to get help. BUT that is not the case, your already engaged and planning to spend the rest of your life with this person. The only thing holding you back is finances. \n\nSo even though the last name thing is one reason, its not the main or only reason for getting married. So I'd say go for it. As long as you love each other, and want to be joined in the eyes of the government why not?
1079842
when u get married depends on how ready you are and if you ahve met the right one.. will you be in love with that person when u marry them? it better be the reason you marry them otherwise, what's the point??
330356
I'm in the middle. You do have to think about your future and your goals. But then he is your love. If you say that you know your gonna end up with each other, then don't worry, things will work out at the end for both of you. Plus, if  you say he loves you then he'll want you to be happy no matter what decision you choose.
580804
You need to consider your engagement. Maybe you are not quite ready to settle down with your fiance'. If you are questioning what you should do, my suggestion is that you should not get married just yet. You are obviously not ready to tie the knot. A lot easier to deal with before you get married than after. You need to do a lot of soul searching. Don't make a mistake that you will regret.
663853
I think you need to listen to your heart and make a decision. Don't stay married if you aren't TRUELY happy, it isn't worth it. Take some time to just think without any outside distractions. :)
104009
Maybe you think that marriage is the highest expression of love between two people and maybe you want to experience that kind of once-in-a-lifetime love so badly that you think he doesn't love you as much as you would want him to if he didn't ask for your hand in marriage.\n\nWord of advice: he loves you and he might love you more than you could possibly know and comprehend. Give him a chance to show it in other ways than waiting for you at the altar while you walk up the aisle in a white gown.
726414
Don't do it.  You are both adamant on the opposite ends of a very fundamental thing.  If you get married, one of you is going to have to give in and will be resentful and bitter because you did.\n\nSomehow, I don't think anyone could say anything to you at this point to keep you from marrying this "perfect" person, making this advice all the more regretful to give you, but if you'll think for a moment with your brain and not your heart, you know I'm right.
722890
I think part of you knows you are making a mistake.  If you didn't feel this way, you would want to share the good news with your family.  You wouldn't be worried about their reaction.  Slow down a little bit.  Get to know this guy better.  Finish school if you haven't already.  You have all the time in the world ahead of you.  One month is not enough time to get to know someone.  Marriage takes so much more than just the feeling of love.  Believe it or not, the infatuation you are feeling now will fade and when it does, you will find out if your love is deep enough to sustain  throughout life's challenges.  There's no way you can know that yet.
546642
It's all in how you feel about it deep inside.  Do you have the option of meeting her before marrying her?  If so, meet with her and then see how you feel.
191884
With the information you have provided, I'm really not sure you should propose.  You certainly shouldn't propose until she gets over this love of someone else...that is just begging for trouble and, if she gets the chance to get together with him in a month, a year, 5 years, will you then have an unfaithful wife?  It seems that she relies on you as a friend and that she loves you that way.  It may be that she will take you as a replacement for the one she really loves and I don't think you want or need that!  I know it is tough, heart breaking and demoralizing, but you need to look after yourself and what is best for you!  Don't settle for being second best.  You want someone who is devoted to you and loves you unconditionally.  Good luck making these tough decisions...they are probably the toughest ones you will ever make and will be life changing.
1125810
Wait till you two meet and talk about it sort it out then make your decision based on his reaction if he says he loves u wants to marry u if not move on
417266
If you both love each other and place the same value on the relationship, than nothing will come in the way of it. In hard times you find strength in each other and in happy times you rejoice in the loving relationship that you have created together. Who would you marry if not the love of your life? You want the person to be your best friend....the one that you love to live life with!
885751
If you're not sure now then it won't help if you get married.  Call it off now before you make a huge mistake.  You probably don't want to live the rest of your life like that.  I don't know many people who would want to.
207854
well if you say u love somebody u should know them because i mean how can you love someone you don't know all that well?