what makes me always feel lonely, I have 3 kids and a husband of 15 years?
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It is normal, Honey.  Hormones!!
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It's hard to feel in the mood when you are tired and you feel like you hardly have time for each other or yourself, is it possible to find someone who could take the kids for an afternoon so that you can have some me time and then you could have a meal together jus the two of you.  It wouldn't have to be that often maybe once a month just to relax wind down and be a couple again.\n\nYou deserve some time to yourselves and kids are exhausting little darlings!\n\nAlso think about taking ginseng I know it is excellent for men to help raise thier .. libido and it also works for women.  Takes a couple of weeks to start to feel the benefit but it does actually work woo hoo You might want to think about multi vitamins as well and at your diet to be sure you are getting all you need to be healthy.\n\nIts time to think of yourself as a valuable person who needs taking care of your family depends on their being a healthy relationship between you and your man.\ngood luck X
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Chances are though that a lot of it is just in your head. I bet they're are boys out there that find you cute, if not maybe you haven't me the right people yet. sounds like maybe your suffering from depression. We all get that sometimes. \n\nIts common to sometimes feel left out of the world and alone. If you feel these feelings to often maybe you should talk to someone.
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yes i do very often. i'm a single child and i'm 18. i feel lonely even when there are people around. i think it's a psychological problem. but i always get over it. i try to find something to do to keep me busy like reading, renting a movie, painting or chatting with people on the net. with time i got used to loneliness and now when i'm surrounded by a lot of people for a long time i feel ill at ease coz i ended up liking loneliness actually.. loneliness can be good or bad. it depends how peopl react to it...
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Right in the middle of it right now after 18 years, three kids (all girls). It is the worse think I have ever had to endure emotionally. I keep asking myself through it all; am I doing the right thing, and the answer is yes. My wife told me to step up and be a man, so I did. I could type forever, would probably cry after a few more sentences. It really boils down to:\n\n1) You have a right to be happy on this limited time on this earth.\n\n2) How can you be the Best parent for your children.\n\n\n\nI want to show them someday what being in a normal, healthy, happy relationship is all about. That way, the might actually have a chance of finding one on their own someday. I want to love and be loved the way that feels real to me. I want to enjoy life with my kids and friends and not feel that I am never good enough for her. I hope she kind find happiness on this earth because it was not with me.\n\nGood luck my friend,\n\nToxic
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Welcome to parenthood my dear! I share the same kids with my spouse and we rarely have any time together. I've heard that it gets better as the kids get older and more independant.\nJust hang on and remember that you are shaping their lives, helping to mould them into better people. It's all worth it and though it may be more difficult when they are not your biological children, but your impact on there lives is just as important. Good Luck!
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you are so right!  (lol) \n\nBut don't feel bad....  think of this, this always makes me feel better....\n\nI am 39 and I have teenagers already whereas some of my relatives / friends are barely beginning to have kids.  I can still keep up with my kids...  we ski, scuba dive, white water-rafting, horse back riding, etc.... will your friends be able to keep up with their kids when their kids are teenagers?   I think NOT!! \n\nIn ten years from now, my friends will be at home taking care of the soccer schedule and falling asleep by 8 pm when I'll be getting my second wind... swimming down in the Caribbean somewhere without kids of my own....\n\nbittersweet isn't it?
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Firstly must say you seem like a very special man. Secondary I shall say that it is time that you concentrate on yourself a bit more (to be able to move forward)\n\nBe respectful, always reliable, helpful, be understanding, be her shoulder to cry on (life is funny.. but wheel turns). But at the same time give her space at this time as you don’t want to loose her.\n\nI had a friend who his wife left him for another man. They have two kids together. He was always there for her (but had other girlfriend but did not commit 100%: in fact I was one J ). If she was sick, or needed something, or pick their kids up: he was always there, kept nice contact with ex-in laws because of the kids.. She went back to him when she was in trouble. He let her. He let her leave him again for yet another man (even married) He was her friend, warned her about the guy who ended up to be an abuser. She left this guy in the end, she matured, and they now together (but he did not remarry), He is now 48, his wife 8 year younger. He married he as she was only 19.\n\n*******************************\nJust remember:\n*******************************\n\nForming a relationship with your ex is entirely separate from the process of ending a marriage; if you work through the process to achieve your "emotional divorce," you can cultivate something entirely new. Your old relationship is over; take the steps to heal so that you can invest your energy elsewhere.\n\nGood luck.\n\nps meant to say: and you get a new hobby and have fun with other people as soon you will feel better and might make new friends and will not feel lonely. The reason why we LOVe or MISS people is beuase we miss that comunication. Once you communicate with others it will be better for you. And who knows, maybe your ex -wife seeing how popular and outgoing you are might ant to herself be your friend asap.........  show her your new side that she did not see before :-)
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Hi - I'm sorry that you feel that way. It sounds like you may need to talk with someone professional. There are so many things to be done that can help you to feel more social, or to alleviate that "empty" feeling. I hope you mention these feelings to someone near you who is kind and very caring.
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Just reading your question you sound like a wonderful person..first you gave up a good job but your priority was your baby (who you love more than life itself) and your husband is happy with you and your kids love you..couple of questions?..has it been very long since you had your baby?..could you be suffering from post-partum depression?..Could you just be depressed?..Please talk with your doctor about your concerns..So much about our lives today are busy and as women we are caregivers. We ignore our needs. Your feelings   and thoughts may be a chemical imbalance in your brain (you have no control of) often just talking with a mental health clinician can help you pinpoint why you have those feelings and how to re-direct them or change your focus..Be happy (I know how simple this sounds) Sometimes the money becomes the focus and it doesn't let you see how important your family and your life is..I wish you the very best.. Let this new move be a new start for you and your family..sounds exciting but busy...
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I'm not a woman, but I am a man who has been happily married to a wonderful, supportive wife for 11 years now.  In spite of this, I do have feelings of lonliness.  Part of this, I feel, is due to the fact that I have always had a male best friend but am lacking one now.  Also, I have recently had some friends stop calling me, and that leads to insecurities and lonliness. \n\nThe best way for me to deal with those feelings is to do volunteer work.  I also look to see if I can help out older friends and family who might need help around the house or yard.  Diverting my energy toward helping others rather than self-pity is the best cure for the blues for me.  It might work for you too.
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I am sorry you hear that you are lonely.  There are churches that help out lonely people. Find a good church and make friends. Or better yet, go to the home for the aged or old age community.  There are many old people who go there to find company. Good Luck my man!
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Awww so sweet. \n\nRide it out cowboy! Talking to people would help too.\n\nYour not alone.\n\nI feel alone, because I am sad, not because I don't have someone.
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Everyone i guess, always gets the feeling of being lonesome. It usually happens when you tend to act on your own and it seem that you don't wanna trust outside. You lock yourself in your own world. TRY TO OPEN UP TO LIFE; TO THE WORLD itself.Celebrate life at the moment, by seeing the presence of others. Once you do this , you will find people around you who accept you, recognizes you and loves you just the way you are.
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anyway why are feeling alone? You should have family members or frens around you.  make more new frens.\n\nmy email add is srileela29@yahoo.com
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I am 33 as well. I have fibromyalgia and osteoporosis. I have two girls and two step girls and two babysitting kids, I also go to school full time. Sometimes, I feel great- but then other days, I feel like I am my own grandmother. Especially in the mornings. My husband is already making plans for when we retire- we will be snowbirds- in FL in the winter, and MI in the summer. I am always cold, even in the springtime. I wear sweatshirts all year long. It is part of having fibromyalgia.
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I felt the same way for a long long time, and I still feel that way sometimes. People really are there for you though, you just don't see it. If you were to need them they would be there, they just don't know that you need them now. Talk to someone about it. Anyone you trust. Just ask them if you can talk to them alone and explain that you feel like no one cares. It can be a sign of something serious like depression so be careful and know when it's gone too far. People do care, and they're all over. You just don't realize it when they're not right there beside you.