Are our boyfriends using us?
817754
yes.and we using them too.
1088829
Sometimes a significant other needs to understand that there are two important people in a relationship, not just one.  If he is a worthy boyfriend he will find a matue way of accepting your needs and desires, even if those needs slow him down a little.  It's certainly not an unreasonable request you have.  Reading between the lines of your letter (if that's possible) I sense that between the two of you, you tend to give more importance to the other person's ego, needs, etc, than your own.  Men can sense that and men will take advantage of some ladies if you continually put him first and you last.  I would rethink your positioning in the relationship and not feel guilty about imposing you own rules, desires, comfort level needs.
233229
Ask him if he's seeing anyone else. If you love him and trust him you will probably believe him. If you don't trust him, even if he's telling the truth it won't matter.\n\nIt could just be that your boyfriend is a shameless flirt! I know I'm dating one. He has more female friends than I do but it doesn't bother me when he hangs out with them or talks to them on the phone because I trust him.
1084701
You yourself could answer this question...You feel that you are living a lie....and you are feeling guilty for living a lie and not being yourself....someone other than your boyfriend is trying to convince you that you are living a lie while your boyfrind is trying to convince you to stay with him..Is he in the light? seems to me the tunnel is the darkness or wrongness you are feeling the voice in coming from within the darkness and your boyfriend is in the light...someone is trying ot convince you that your life is wrong but you feel that this voice is somehow coming from the darkness...although your boyfriend may seem needy he is in the light and you can see him and the voice you cannot see therefore less trustworthy..your are torn between two lovers the one you are with is clingy yet you feel this is what is right the one in the darkness you cannot see is less worthy of trust  but he is telling you that you are living a lie...have you cheated with another man? is the darkness guilt? is the other man teling you to leave your current boyfriend? Is the current boyfriend needy? is the other one less trust worthy or are you having a hard time giving your trust to the other man? have you lied to either or both of them? you have to make a decision based not only on what is best for you but what is right and wrong...and guilt is playing a big part of your dream....
688747
In most cases, it probably because he wants to keep a standby girl friend to use when ever needed. Becareful from him, he is just using you because you are letting him to.
924168
I think the fact that he's talking to you is a fair indication that he's interested. I would just mention, discreetly, that your 'in between' boyfriends at the moment, and see if he takes the bait! Have a good day!
204977
trust him to believe you. if your both friends with the guy then invite your boyfriend to hang out with the two of you more often so that he can see what the two of you are really up to.
447072
He's using you!!! If he really liked you, trust me, he would take you out.
121106
a women. with a man it just sounds like he is using her and even if that is the case, no women wants to feel used. Make her feel like u need her.
944409
Yes...I think so.  Show them love and effort to get along with them and in time they may come to love you or atleast get along with you.  You should not force your boyfriend into a situation like this because it hurts him to choose between people that he loves.  Atleast make an effort, and I promise that he will  love you for it.  It never hurts to try as long as you examine your heart and make an honest effort.  I am saying a prayer for you!
837782
You didn't state your age, but...\n\nSince your boyfriend has a girlfriend (you), he has been "tested and proven."  Meaning he has something going on and is dateable.  Plus, people often seem to want what they can't have.  If he hasn't shown signs of being unfaithful, then best to not worry too much about it.  It will only keep burning at you inside until you become angry and resentful.  Then your boyfriend might start taking a more serious look at these other girls.
206735
You just said he's taken, but you're talking to him and he's talking to you. You two have already done it.  If the other person cares about the person they are with then he/she should either break up with their significant other or leave you alone.
474685
Nah.. your boyfriend is cheating on you.\n\nOr you girlfriend.
82772
Why you suspect? Enjoy each and every moment when you are with your b/f.Thank him for turning off( it means you are the most important person )  his cell phone.If he cheats you can easily understand by his face reading and behaviour.
672927
If more than one person is telling you, and these people don't have alterior motivation for wanting to break you guys up (like they have no personal reason to want to break you up), than I would say you should probobly believe them.  Of course your bf is going to say he's not cheating on you when you ask him.  You have to analyze the people that are telling you this and find out how they know and take it from there, good luck!
1049423
You are being used sweetie!  He is not ready for a serious relationship, and he is making sure he has you to fall back on all the time.  He is immature and selfish!  He is a cheater and cheaters very rarely stop cheating.  Get out of this  lost relationship.  He doesn't love you, he loves himself!  Toss the trash in the garbage where it belongs.  Don't waste another minute of your life with him.  There are many guys out there who will treat you with love and respect.  Your self-esteem should be rock bottom by now and this jerk is going to keep knocking you down and hurting you inside.  Get on with your life and I know there is someone out there who will love you for the beautiful, loving person you are.  Good luck!
492633
were they drunk? or on any type of drugs? if youve ben dating this guy for a while then he is being very immature it sounds like this relatonship needs to be reevaluated and you dont need any weird drama in your life over a guy if he cant tell you straight up whats bothering him thenn cut him loose this is a sign on what to look forward to if this relationship persists.