gay? can you explain your feelings to a normal man?
824442
I sense  Latent Homosexual tendencies in the askers questions....what he hates/fears in gay men...is something he hates/fears in himself....he should get honest with himself
802434
You are gay if you have a yearning for romantic, erotic, sexual and emotional intimacy by those of the same sex as you.\n\nI love my pet cat. But that doesn't mean I want sexual relations with it.\n\nStraight guys 'fool' around with each other out of curiosity, boredom or just for fun. Doesn't make them gay. I care for my straight friends, but that doesn't mean I 'love' them sexually or yearn for a romantic connection with them.\n\nI can't answer your question because I don't know you and I don't know your personal definition of your phrase "really care about him".
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He tells you he is guy or gay.. whatever he meant... what are you supposed to say? \n\n"I'm gay"... "well good for you!"\n\nIf he just says he's gay... ask him if he has a question about it, or ask him why he's telling you out of nowhere.
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I think you are born Gay or Straight to varying degrees, due to hormones and genes within you, when asked the question by my son What's a queer dad? I tried to explain by giving men and women a rating out of ten, a totally camp, openly gay man being 0 a bigoted, Neanderthal of a man being a 10 and the same for women 0 a very butch manly female 10 very girlie, wearing pink female. (please excuse the stereotype's but it was the best I could come up with at the time)\nI then told him that I felt that I was a 6 on the man scale as I feel I have some female tendencies but am not attracted to men, his mother was also a 6 on the female scale as she wasn't into girls but liked football and some things that Men primarily like to do.\nI then explained that some people are different and are lower on the scale this means that they are attracted more to people of there own sex having more hormones from the opposite sex, something to do with how you develop in the womb, as we all start out female at first.\nHe seemed to understand this, and as he his now 19 and has total respect for any Gay person that he meets, in fact having gay friends counted among his many mates, I like to think I did an OK job with regard explaining it.
621129
poor you, well if he likes you ask him why? if you're not gay tell him. he will get over it some time, i hope!
804820
I'm not sure what the actual question is here... is it a bad thing that he might be gay? What would you do if he was straight? If you feel like you need to act, just make sure that he knows that you love and support him no matter what. If he is gay, it will be extremely difficult for him to admit it to you and your family. The next time you're talking to him you could bring up one of your gay friends in passing (or make one up if you don't have any) so that he knows that you are okay with homosexuality (assuming he is gay and assuming you're okay with homosexuality).  However, just because he doesn't share his personal life with you doesn't necessarily mean he's gay. My brother is straight but doesn't particularly like to divulge information about his personal life to any of us.
199481
Do you want a guy that isn't interested in looking at women? Where I come from they call those guys gay. He may be a bit inconsiderate at times, but he's not a perv.
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A man once had true feelings for me, we didn't just have sex. He held me, kissed me, cuddled and watched movies, and he made me feel wonderful. I loved him and it felt great. I came to believe that if this is so bad, why is it so wonderful. From then on, I felt no shame and believed truly that love conceurs all.
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I'm not a guy but I am going to give you advice that might help.  I would say if that happened the person who is already openly gay, needs to be tender and take things slow.  They also need to let their friend know that they are understanding and accepting of the fact that if they want to stop things at any point they will respect them for that decision, I would think just in that case as you would if it was a male/female relationship, act on your feelings and if you aren't feeling it then back away just like you would any other relationship.  Good Luck!\n\nP.S.  As for what some people said about oh he must be BI or how can someone straight be attracted to a gay guy?  Well for that one, the same goes for women.  I was with men most of my life and then I met this girl (one girl) I started a relationship with her, was with her for almost 2 years, and we broke up now I have a boyfriend.  I wouldn't call myself a lesbian or bi, I tried something it didn't work out, so I went back to what I truely like.  As a lot of people say, noone is really BI, they are just confused~
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I don't believe that it makes you gay. But, it also depends on what your definition of Gay is.  I do believe that you have homosexual tendencies.  That means that you may not be actually having sex with or being sexually intimate with men right now.  But, if the right situation presents itself, you may become involved with a man sexually.  Now, whether you will just like guys then or not, I don't know.  However, anything is possible with anything.  Just take you time and find out what makes you feel good as a person and what makes you feel good intimately and that will be your answer.  Don't worry about the label too much.
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Several of those before me have pretty much covered and validated your feelings toward the "same sex" and not much more I can add to that.\n\nPerhaps the "better" question that was NOT asked is "is it normal to become aware of these feelings at this stage in your life?"  Today most gay people come out or become aware of their identity in their teens or twenties.  However it is not unusual for men in their 40s, 50s or older finally recognizing what these feelings are.  Many have suppressed these feelings that they have refused to label as "gay" or didn't recognize as such.  But over time as you become aware that these feelings aren't some aberration that is unique to you.  You become aware that having these feelings may be a valid part of who you are today.\n\nWe all have our own clocks telling us when its the right time to come out and recognize this part of our life.  Yours just was pushed back a bit more than some, and that is NOT unusual, that's just how you were wired.\n\nI suggest you do some reading on this, check out web sites about "coming out" or go to a bookstore like Borders, or Barnes and Noble and look in the Gay and Lesbian interest section.  You'll see that you aren't the first, and certainly won't be the last to have these feelings.
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I can't claim to know anything about your problem, I'm a straight female.  But it just broke my heart to read your question.  This must be so difficult for you.  I don't know what to tell you to do, maybe you should try to wait for the right person to come along before you say anything, at least then you would have some kind of support.  I can't speak for your parents, of course, but if my child came to me and told me he's gay, I would be loving and supportive, a parent always loves their children, no matter what, at least that's the way I feel about my child.  I just wanted you to know I feel for you and wish you the best! :)
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This is a very wierd question and pretty homophobic.\n\nTo play devil's advocate and to be controvertial I'll give the view that gay men are all just really mean and like to think of all the single women in the world at home crying because they can't get a man.  I mean if gay men actually found men attractive how wierd would that be?  By Jove it would almost be as if they were homosexuals!\n\nSorry I havn't slept in 56 hours and feel ill and sarcastic.
1004258
He's gay anyway. Oh, are you a man... sorry... don't know the answer to your question
618586
I feel better around gay guys, but I'm a chick so a gay chick would like TOTALLY gross me out, like omgsh that would be so wrong. But I dunno, since I'm a girl I would feel more comfortable around a gay guy. \n  But it's still wrong
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Just to make this LOUD AND CLEAR being gay is NOT by choice...I'm gay and i definitely didn't CHOOSE to be this way...and  why even compare str8 and gay relationships? its all the same . You love and you're  being loved ,you're  heart feels right with that person...that's all that matters.
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Okay, so tell me;  exactly what IS the definition of a "NORMAL" PERSON?  Who sas that because you are gay, you are not normal.  I do not like pizza, does that mean I am not normal?  When I have intimacy I like candles and soft music going all night, does that mean I am not normal?  I mean, what do normal people eat and like???  \nCome on, think about this.  Don't let anyone tell you that what your preference is -is not normal.  Normal for who?  For them?  Do they have a right to try to control your life by dictating what type of desires you should have?\nListen, if you are not attracted to the opposite sex, then don't try to fake it, just because someone sas you are not "normal".  Please don't try to be one of the crowd by doing it their way and making yourself and your mate unhappy in the meantime.  There is nothing worse than a phony.  \nIf you're saying you are not happy with the same sex, then fine.  Do the other sex, but do it because this is your nature, your need and your desire, not that of an society driven antagonistic snob.\n\nGet my drift?  Be yourself and be happy being who you are and change only if this is really your preference, not that of "getting others to appove."  Just be yourself and hold your head up high, either way.  Know who you are and what you want. Period the end...............