This is about loyalty to friendship. Help me. I have a 2 friends who have been my friend for about 10 yrs?
831326
You need to get new friends.  I had a friend like your frend B for a long long time, not only did she come on to my husband, but every darn boyfriend I ever had.  She was drunk too, but after a while, no excuse....dump her, trust me it won't change....it won't.  Figure our how much the others mean to you, I ended up kind of dumping all of them, it is sad but too much drama and the drunk cheater has them all wrapped around her little finger.  good luck.
745255
I have the same situation..I like them both but one doesn't like one of my bestfriend...I realized,if she treat me as a friend she should accept & respect me & my bestfriends.There is no reason to hate my bestfriend because she is not bad..Maybe,if my bestfriend is bad,rude or something which is not acceptable maybe i can understand my friend.But there is no reason because i've known her for so long and became my bestfriend.I realized,that my other friend has been jealous that's why she hate her and she just doesn't like my bestfriend's style.If i were you,as long as you know,trust and you like your bestfriend there's no way to worry about your bestfriend.But the other friend,you have to ask him/her why?then try to analyze and figure ot out...
909941
hey it seems like you really care for your friendship more than she dose. let me ask you. are you marred with children? this believe it or not makes a lot of difference. because if your not this make her feel that she has more incoment with this new friend of hers. don't brake your mine trying to figer this out i know it hurts to be left out . but think shes like a child with a new toy, give her some time to see things over to value the friendship you both have stay away for a while to she come to her seances. if she looks for you than you have a friend if she do sent than you only had a fake friend. so let it be continue your life with out her. remember that only good friends stick around. that's way there hart to find.
222888
well i know how you feel, and it is already hard work to stay friends with someone when you live a long ways away, so if you dont get along very well anymore maybe it is time to let your friendship just drift appart this might be easier than trying to be friends with someone who doesnt or isnt willing to understand you.
1154444
talk to both of them, not at the same time.  first try to work things out with the friend thats like a brother.  fix things there before its too late.  then go bacl to your so- called Best friend and talk to her. ask her why she betrayed you. try to work on it. you can still be friends. i just wouldnt trust her as much as you used to
1177792
It depends on how deep the friendship is. Friendships between three people can last a lifetime if they are true friends. Neither jealousy nor guilt shouldn't rear their ugly heads if the friends are comfortable with each other. Being friends doesn't mean you have to be 'joined at the hip'. Everyone has the right to go off and do their own thing without feeling that they have to invite their friends to every event. \nTrue friends are there when it matters and that's what counts.
363425
Of course, but don;t wait too long. You were friends already and the trust you built is the foundation to build on. The feeling have probably already been incubating for awhile, time to let them out to grow.
841788
looks like friend 2 is trying to steal friend one from you...ask friend 1 if you can talk to her privately and see what's really wrong...this happened to my too i decided to stop being friends with those losers and get some cool kid friends my other friends wanted me back but i was like hellz no..well the point of my story is ive had my "new" friends for 5 years now so...yeah! good times
716842
Well, I can sympathize... because I have been "walked over" by many friends.  I'm smart, academically speaking, and have made many friends who feel it is my duty to tutor and provide them the answers and help on all their papers.  Or friends who only call when they need something.  This is why I only have 1 real friend, and my husband.  It took a while to realize that people are shadey, and you can't always trust them.  Hard lesson learned.  Now I evaluate every relationship, asking "Am I getting out of this relationship what I am putting in?" and if I am putting in too much energy... and not recieving any of that energy back, then you really have to evaluate if it's worth it..
30252
Don't break a friendship, but don't let them do it again. And let them know it. The rest is up to them. You don't need to take the whole responsibility for the friendship, if they don't take it too.
919657
Are you crazy? If you both like each other why are you listening to your friends? Sure your friends mean well but they cant control you.
457839
Give each other space, but set a ground rule that you will be there for them no matter what. I have two best friends from high school I am still friends with based on this rule. We don't have to talk more than 4-6 times a year, but they know I will do anything for them..if asked.
719388
I've learned in order to get and keep "real" friends I had to be one to them.  What I mean is what we want we should be willing to give out.  True friends never go away; we may outgrow each other, make decisions that change the nature of our relationships with them, but if true friends they'll rejoice with our accomplishments, cry with us over our failures, and support us through our challenges.  We likewise would do the same and sometimes even more for them.  True friends give love from the heart, and know that what comes from the heart; touches the heart...
835636
You can be friends with whomever you choose to be friends with. If one friend has a problem with another friend of yours, that is THEIR problem to solve. The friend who resents you for being friends with the other friend has to grow up.That is childish and you don't have to get caught up in it if you don't want to...remember, you choose your friends.
64055
I agree totally with ft402003, and I might add that I was just platonic friends with my husband for TEN LONG YEARS before we knew we loved each other.  TEN YEARS!!!!  That is a long time, buddy.  My sister told me once that friends make the best spouses, and I thought YUCK!  But, she was totally right.  When you talk to your "friend", you might tell her to not be afraid to go a step further, and to not be repulsed by it.  Let her know that you are just as afraid as her.  But, whatever you do, don't let her get away.  It is better to tell her how you feel than to keep suffering.  And if she doesn't go for it, then it is HER loss.  Not yours.  HERS.
165335
If you have to work to make them happy then you shouldn't be calling them your best friend. I've had the same best friend for 13 years (Since we were about 8 or 9) and all I've done was be there for her when she needed me. If they want something more from the friendship then maybe they're asking too much. Just do what you can and what you can't do, if they're your best friend they'll understand.
900017
treu friendship i believe is like a marriage. you have to work at it all the time. and both parties should be involved. not a one way street .and you should always agree that whatever is brought in2 the relationship. secrets etc should stay in it.........\n\nfrom someone who had a very bad experience with what i thought was "true friendship"