if your military friend tells you that he is busy, how busy does he mean???
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To be honest, I work a normal 40 hour work week... assuming nothing goes wrong.  Holiday season is definately busier, depending on your unit, since alot of people want to take leave time during that period.  For me, busy is 12 hour days which may or may not only be for 5 days a week.  Generally considering, he just might be as busy as he says he is... i know after about the third or fourth 12 hour day in a row, i tend to want nothing more than to stretch, eat a quick dinner, and go to bed.
744894
When someone leaves on a deployment it's like you hit a brick wall.  They keep moving forward and you can't go along for the ride.  You have no idea what he's dealing with, and you can't relate when he tells you about his day.  You just have to listen, but chances are you won't understand.  You'll be worried sick while he's gone and stupid things will make you break down in tears.  Don't kid yourself.  Being over there and knowing your job is a lot different than being the one that sits at home waiting by the phone...Hoping that the conversation with him you had the other day wasn't indeed the last one you'll ever have with him.
688897
I am dating a guy in the AF also, but he is permanently stationed in the same state and not too far away. I know I would trust him if he had to be deployed, it is tough with their job. But if you have not heard from him it may be because he has found someone else. Try to call him and ask, never hurts to ask, hurts worse not knowing. Or if you have e-mail or Internet contact try that too. I know I love my guy very much and we either see each other 3-4x a week and if not we call each other everyday. I wish you the best, from Mary in Central NY
245653
Don't stress out about it. Phones are few and far between, and the military schedules don't often coincide with the soldier's personal desires. I'd give it a few days, if not a few weeks before I'd get worried.
492676
Maybe he is just a busy guy?  Why think the worst?  :)
654131
I have a ton of experience with this, so I think I can help.\n\nIf a guy is a player, he has something to hide.  Being a player is like keeping a long lie going, they will eventually out themselves. If he is really into you then the number one thing to pay attention to is how he treats you in front of people that matter to him (friends, family, etc).  Does he treat you the same way he treats you when the two of you are alone?  Or does he act stand-offish, treating you like one of the guys?  If he's normally really touchy-feely with you, and then keeps a distance in front of other people, you may have cause for concern.\n\nA second indication is how he refers to you around others.  Does he normally call you hunny, and then the second he gets on the phone, does he say "Yeah, I'm just hanging out with a friend"?  This should send up a red flag, but by itself it isn't a definate indication.\n\nA third indication is if he has lots of girls in his life who he refers to as "just friends".  I know that there are exceptions to the rule, but generally speaking, a guy doesn't just 'hang out' with girls he isn't interested in.  So if he's got a cell phone just bursting with the contact details for enough girls to populate a small city, then PLEASE...be very concerned!\n\nA fourth indication is if he is in the service.  Don't get me wrong, I love military guys (hey, I'm planning on enlisting myself), but they are notorious for keeping a lot of girls waiting in the wings.  There are of course several exceptions to this, but just factor it in.  I have plenty of friends in the Army, Marines, and Navy...and my ex (player) is a marine.  They like to live for today, and aren't very future-oriented...commitment is usually not a part of their vocabulary.  Just keep this in the back of your mind in case it is a factor.\n\nA fifth indication is how he acts around your friends/family.  Is he concerned with making a good impression?  If he actually cares about you he will make it a point to be kind and respectful to the people who matter most to you.\n\nA sixth indication is where he takes you when you go out with him.  Does he take you to local places that he normally hangs out at, or does he suggest going across town to 'check out someplace new'?  Going across town for a night out every now and then is one thing, but if he's yet to take you to his favorite bar/club, you need to ask yourself why.  Who doesn't he want to see you, or better yet, who doesn't he want you to see?\n\nA seventh indication is how his friends treat you.  When he introduces you to them do they seem interested in getting to know you, or do they have that aire of 'Oh great...another one'?  Does he take the time to welcome you into the conversations, or fill you in on the inside jokes?  Or does he just let you sit on the sidelines and leave you to fend for yourself?\n\nAnother indication I would look for is more of a homework assignment.  Ask him (if you haven't already) about his past relationships.  How long did they last?  Why did they end? Who's fault was it (according to him)?  If none of them lasted for more than a few months and he blames each failure on the girl (she was just too ___), then you need to ask yourself whether or not you're walking into a train wreck.  Remember, the only common factor in each one of his past relationships was...HIM!\n\nA final (and very telling) indication is if he is very sexually oriented toward you (constantly pressuring you for sex, or always trying to get you to go a little bit further).  A dog wants what he wants as soon as he can get it, with as little expenditure of time and money as possible.  Does he constantly insist on taking you back to his house to 'watch a video on the couch', rather than taking you out to the theatre?  That's not respectful of you, and definately something a player would do.  Usually "Hey, l
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tell your friend about the issue. And if he doesn't mind, ask him if he could be dull for the evening.
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It's entirely possible that he just didn't want any extra distractions while he's overseas. I mean, think about it... he's in a WAR ZONE. One wrong move could get his head blown off. A lot of soldiers don't want those types of distractions, especially the younger soldiers. They don't want to hurt someone back home if they get injured or are killed, and you never know when that's going to happen.\n\nDoes he like you? Well, you've been friends for two years. That should tell you something. \n\nMy advice? Wait until he comes home permanently to have "the talk" about your feelings for him. In the meantime, talk to him on the phone, write him letters (if you want), email him... whatever you choose to do to keep in contact. Be the person you've always been, and don't throw anything else into the mix. He already knows how you feel, and that's enough. Whether you get a "yes" or "no" in the next five minutes isn't going to make a difference. He's still your friend and he's still far from home.
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Be supportive and understanding. He's not on a vacation. Patience is key and there will be times you'll want to speak with him and maybe he won't be able to give you the time you desire.Make what time you do have to speak with him quality time and don't expect quantity time then when you get it, it's a pleasant suprise.Try not to worry him over things he can't control while away. Handle as much as possible on your own. Being with someone in the military is different than other relationships. You play a very important role. You hold down the fort while he has to be gone...I wish you both the best...
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he's taking the time to message you..maybe he's just busy this week. don't worry about it unless it becomes a way of life. but in the meantime find ways to be busy yourself, it sounds like you have made this guy your whole life and that is never good, you can't be part of a couple without also being yourself.
870328
Awwww, are we keeping your wife/girlfriend busy???
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I am in the army and i will contact him thro AKO (army only email) if u email me.  I will tell him to contact you when u leave your email me.  Thank and have a good day.
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have you try to connect with him? sms & emails? if so maybe he's busy or maybe he thinking that your relationship have end...anyway you must have a conversation with him to know how he thinking
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may be he is busy in his work , thts y he cn't talk 2 u, so do't mk any -ve percison bout him ,give him sum time ... bt still if u feel sumthing like whc hv u mentioned thn speak afferentlly to him tht u hv feelings bout him do't waste ur time nd show him nd clear all, if he is nt thn stop thinking bout him.....so b positive nd wait 4 sum1 who is 4 u.... best of luck
1134298
girl u are lucky to have some one like him probably he is busy cause of his work i will say just trust him and see how things go
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when a man says that, it usually means that he has stuff on his mind at the moment, and needs space. other times the guy just doesn't want to be in a relationship or something, this usually happens when a tragic event happened
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Are you sure he's not a very busy person?  Is he already seeing someone else?  Other than that I can only think of two answers:  1)  You're coming across as too needy somehow and scaring him away.....\n2)  Sorry to say, he might not like you much, or just not that way.\n\nIf it was me I would act very nonchalant about it.  Don't call too much, and say you've been busy if he asks.  Or you could come up with a "date" plan yourself.  Pick out a movie that you both could enjoy, and say you're dying to see it and you can't get your friends to go for various reasons, etc.  I don't know how old you are....any "manly" things you could ask him to do for you in your house?  Ask him to make a trip to the hardware or auto parts store with you?  Do you cook?  Tell him you're just dying for some chili but you always have too many leftovers!  You're dying for a banana split at such-an-such a restaurant, but don't want to go by yourself.....etc.  These are ideas for after you give him a tad of the cold shoulder for a couple of days and make sure you're not coming across as needy.   Good luck!  (You also could be coming across as not interested enough!!  I've had that happen to me a couple of times.  You have to figure out which it is!)