friend with child wants to move but the fother wont let her?
823929
Is there a custody order in place that prevents her from leaving the state or area without his consent?  If so, she needs to try and modify that order before leaving or she could be held in contempt for breaking the order.  If there is an order that doesn't state that she can't leave the area without his permission, does it set out visitation for him?  If so, she can leave but still has to follow the visitation as set out in the order or again she could be held in contempt.  If there is no order in place, then she is free to leave.  If there is an order, a modification will need to be done.
984045
Usually, the child can "choose" which parent they wish to reside with when they are over 12 or 13.\n\nHire an attorney -ask him if he can do an emergency ex parte motion for your husband to have full custody and/or remove her from her mother's home, or guardian ad litem; and a temporary restraining order.  Remedies should exist via the family court system.   \n\nYou may want to contact her doctor and tell him what is going on.  He perhaps has pull with CPS to quickly remove her from this environment.
768925
You're right, it's not fair to him at all. He should not be responsible for this child unless he is aware that the baby is not his and he still wants to take care of him/her. I would talk to your friend and tell her that she needs to come clean with him or you'll do it for him. What she's doing isn't fair for him, the biological father, or the child.
91780
Most of the time they can move out of state for a job. Most of the time they have to prove the work part. This only applies when you have vistiation rights and are paying child support. The move must be work related. We just can't pick up and move because we feel like it. There are so many options and all states have different rules. I would always seek legal advice concerning these matters. The legal world is where you will find the best answer.
1172988
Probably best if you message me on this one. Your friend has some possible options depending on the circumstances.
700056
she shouldn't have to choose between  parents it's not fair to her. She should have a talk with each parent and let them know how its affecting her. The parents are the ones that are getting a divorce not her. They will always be her parents no matter what. Of coarse both parents love her so they can value her input. They just need to listen to your friend. Good Luck!
215312
NOOOOOOOOO! it is not your obligation. you need to have some tough love with this child! Lay down the rules, and tell her that if she can't live with these rules that she is 20 years old and is free to move out. You are babying her! If you don't help your daughter find confidence in her abilty to take care of herself she may live with you FOREVER!!! or at least rely on you each time she is "down and out"
393643
Are you and she ready financing to handle something that life shaking? It would be terrible for the child to be brought into the world and they can't be properly taken care of. It is one of the biggest steps in your life.  It should be something that both of you think about and consider every option of before you jump into it.  Remember its someone else's life you're affecting.
505757
Sounds like she was the one that need the restraining order and the judge had no right to order her to move! Sounds like this guy is the one that did all this to your friend and needs chanrges brought agianst him! He was after her one way or another! And sounds like the judge was payed to give him the restraining order agianst her! Somethign is deffently not right!
411158
Go get some professional help, your friend is mentally ill.\n\nIf the daughter is under 16, i would consider informing Social Services (or it's equiv. in your country).
230483
Tell your friend to go straight to the police, can she talk to her mother if so i know it is a hard thing to tell someone but mum needs to know
815460
Okay, look.   Call the parents...the answer of answers...right?  No.   Of coure that is has to happen becuase this is the policy of evey school I have ever heard of.  Call the couselour, kick the kid out, schedule change, blah, blah, blah, blah.  \n\nFirst:  people are right....it cannot be taken seriously.  It is a 15 year-old kid...how can a fifteen year-old damage a healthy adult's self-esteem?  This cannot happen or you friend is going to have  ashort career.\n\nSecond:  there is a chance the student and teacher simply are so close or so far apart in their personalities there is really no hope for reconciliation...if this is the case, then it it the Admin's responsibility to change the individual's class...even though the classroom teacher should be a professional and be able to deal with te student regardless.\n\nFinally, it sounds like your friend and this student need to come to some sort of understanding.  Whether it is through mediation with a couselor or just a conversation between parent (or not) your friend and the student and try and find out the real issue.\n\nKids act crazy because one of their needs are not being met...they act out because they need something...they are missing something and they are desparately trying to get that need filled...the teacher needs to try to understand the student and try to help the student appropriately fill this need.  Do not misinterperet this as bending to the student, but understanding goes a long way.\n\nIf the student begins to understand the teacher cares for them even though the teacher does not let them get away with anything...always be firm and fair (being fair is often the hard part).  Students will blow up once in a while, but if they know you will not bend, but they also know you do care for them...this makes all the difference...it is also the hard way...\n\nIt is easy to throw away troubled kids...don't worry about it...they are used to it becuase that is what everyone does to them...your friend needs to consider if she will be everyone else or take the high road...even if it doesn't work...the effort was made and the honor of the teaching profession (as damaged as it is) is honored by the effort.
1138406
Talk to her and give her a deadline. Tell her that she needs to move by a certain day, no exceptions! If it doesn't work, remove all of her personal belongings and deliver them to her mother. \nBy reading what you have typed, sounds like you are the type of person who gives in easily to others distress. She needs to understand that you will not take any excuses. Sometimes tough love is just what people need.\nIt is hard to advise on this because we who reply do not know the full situation.\nMaybe the person you are helping is a moocher. Maybe she's afraid to move in with her mother. Without knowing the person's age and situation, it is hard to say whether this person needs a reality check, or compassion.
1024806
leaving to a friends house is not kidnapping. and call his bluff, if you take care of them just as well if not better, they wont just give full custody to someone. most states are joint physical custody anyway...good luck...
92085
She proved to you that she did not love you when you were away. Your best friend also proved that he could not be trusted. You know once you take her back and if you move in together that you are also responsible for the raising of the child. In my opinion you would be better off to find someone else for you. She has already screwed around on you once and by being with her you will feel that evry day when seeing their baby.
871368
I think you need to be more understanding of you friends situation.  She is a Mom now and that seems to be very important to her.  You have to accept her for everything she is and that includes her children.  Things change and you must adjust to that change.  Good Luck!
885438
ok first tlk to her and if she doesnt listen then go tlk to a adult that u trusted and they can go tlk to ur friend