how to gain confidence?
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you've got nothing to lose. they are there to help you.
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hey u dont need to do something to build your confidence\njust think that u r confident and thats all. u r cool\nnothing is wrong in the world even an unworking clock showes the time correctly twice a day
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Hold your chin up high and be yourself.  When you start losing your confidence, take a deep breath and think only positive things and happy thoughts.  It really works.
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Confidence is something only you can determine. Being confident and feeling confident is two different things. Like say, if you wore a glamourous dress for prom night, you would most likely feel confident?..yes and no, It's up to you, you may be the prettiest girl, but if you think u're not, then there you are. But you may be wearing rags but at the same time have the confidence of a princess. Confidence is something only you can choose to have. Yes, there are times where circumstances make it hard for us to be confident. And one way to build confidence.. is everytime you look in the mirror, say something nice to yourself, make it a chore, every morning, say something nice to yourself, even if you don't feel like it, smile and say something nice to yourself, cause many times we don't realize it but we actually criticize ourselves a lot. Owh and be confident. Ask God to give you confidence, pray, and trust me, this is a sure way to be confident, cuz as we know, God will never deprive us of anything good and right for us. And if confidence is something you need, u can be sure God will give it to you. So when you pray, You can be sure you will have confidence, you may not feel confident immediately, but you just have to trust yourself and God that you are confident. Like for instance, maybe a real life story would make things a lil easier to understand. ( I used to be a person who had no confidence at all, due to many harsh circumstances, and because I thought I didn't have confidence, I shyed away from people, and because of that, people started not to talk to me, which made me lose even more confidence. Then one night, it struck me that God was always there for me, and He's nvr deprive me of anything good or right for me, so I asked God for confidence, being sure that God had given me confidence, I began to trust that I had confidence and talked to people, some ignored me, but some became my friends, and because of that I gained even more confidence." So all in all, what I'm trying to say is confidence starts in you, and all you need to do is to ask God to give you the confidence, then belive in yourself, and walah, You'll be a changed person. Owh and just soemthing to encourage you if hings don't happen in a snap, "It took me at least a year and a half to build back my confidence.".... so owh well, thats all for now... be confident !..
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Find some confidence.\nIts pretty simple if you can overcome fear of rejection.\nBe fairly direct. Just ask.\nSecret:  Girls(women) are attracked to self-confidence.\n\nBut also be real, dont lie.  It is much easier to be yourself than someone else.
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Best thing you can do is appear cool and calm. That makes you appear confident.....
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Maturity will help you be more confident.  Just don't become 'experienced' to try and be mature.  It doesn't work that way.\n\nYou have your whole life ahead of you.  Think where you want to be in 5 years, 10 or 20 years  Pursue only those things that will get you there.
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find something that you both have in common and that you know you can talk about for long periods of time w/ out being/ sounding weird. start a conversation and work your way up. it all takes time. once you think that youre ready, take things to the next level with him all you have to do is pre- think things through before you talk to him and youre confidence will boost up.
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The best thing to do is to be yourself, and dont be afraid to speak your mind. And try not to be to COCKY!!!
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When you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find 3 things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use photos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them to mind. \n\nDeveloping self confidence that lasts - because of the way emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.\n\nSelf consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how to keep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by following these steps...\n\na) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday' you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how to keep your attention off yourself.\n\nb) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to: \n\nfind out if you like the other people in the situation \nmake others feel comfortable \nfind out some information \nmake business contacts \nand so on...
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Get out there and talk to people, make friends, just do anything.  You need a confidence boost.  But if you really are overweight, diet and exercise is the way to go.
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Building self confidence takes time, but it can be done.  Our self esteem is partly our personality (what we are born to be) and partly from our early childhood experiences.  Many of us, therefore, do not have naturally high self esteem.  You can upbuild yourself by taking the time to love yourself in fundamental ways: eat well, exercise, and rest.  Tell yourself often (200x/day) that you are loveable, wise, funny, and attractive.  Take good care of YOU because you are worth your own attention.  Over time, your self care will show you how valuable you are.  And high confidence is very sexy!
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You never know what you can do until you try to put your all into it.  First of all \n\nBELIEVE IN YOURSELF...SHOW CONFIDENCE....NO ONE WILL BELIEVE IN YOUR MESSAGE IF YOU DON"T BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.  I recently started speaking, it was my first time two years ago, I  practiced.... I had to speak in order to pass my college classes...I GOT A 98 on an Anatomy Presentation\n\nBut I practiced, practiced, practiced, knew my message inside out, no one could ask a question about  my subject Strabismus and throw me off guard.\n\nNow I recite poetry, and even minister at church\n\nAND I WAS BETTER THAN I EVEN DREAMED....AND AFTER SPEAKING AND BEING ABLE TO DO IT SO WELL, I FOUND OUT I ENJOYED IT , AND FOUND OUT PEOPLE ENJOY HEARING ME SPEAK\n\nKNOW WHAT YOU"RE TALKING ABOUT-SO YOU CAN BE PERSUASIVE....\nNever let anyone catch you off guard, and don't appear to be confused yourself\n \nLET PEOPLE EXPERIENCE YOUR PASSION FOR LAW THROUGH YOU SPEAKING!!! \nYOU CAN DO IT!!!!!   RELAX, wipe that sweat from your palms and take control!\n\nYou can start out by looking over the audience, like towards a back wall, and it'll appear as though your're looking at the audience build up your confidence,\nfind a face that you feel comfortable with, look for attentive people.  That should put you in control.  Giving presentations is all about being in control, you demand everyone's attention, and it's your moment to shine.
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You need more confidence; just remember that while looks get the first glance, for selecting a partner most women are much less visually oriented than most men are. Stereotype, but I think true. So, think about that to boost your confidence.\n\nThen, just start getting yourself in situations where you will interact with women.  Book clubs, Toastmasters (that will also help your shyness bigtime) Church groups if you are religious, parties, etc.  In this day and age, just approaching random people you meet in public has a low probabilty of success since people tend to be more guarded (but it can work, and might be good practice; ain't like you will ever see them again!)\n\nSkinny?  I was very skinny for a long time. Always teased in HS. during college I lifted weights.  After college I took up martial arts.  Stayed thin, but I was ripped. . . now, at my HS reunions, I am reasonably well filled out now but still thin. (I will never be a muscle monster; just don't have the genetics) and most of my HS compatriots are FAT!  HAHAHAHA! \n\nAnyway, it is more attitude than anything.  By the end of high school I didn't care I was skinny anymore.  That made a big difference.\n\nAs for you being attracted to almost every girl you see, I am guessing you are in late JHS, HS or college.  That is normal. Don't worry.  By the time you are about 25, you will be able to interact with women without **constantly** thinking of them sexually, and by 35 you can do it half the time you are talking to them. Sometimes being a man sucks.
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Smile. Think of it this way; What do you have that any other guy doesn't? What can you do to make her happy? What do you think she can do to make you happy? If you can answer those questions, that's how you'll start to get your confidence. Once you've got confidence, just ask her to coffee or lunch or something. Good luck.
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Confidence comes from doing (experience).  Get out and do more.  While you are at it, pretend to be confident....thats all most people do anyway.
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tell them.....in ur seat\nno kidding\nreflects ur confidence