Why do people try to 'change' or 'convert' a gay person when he's born that way?
831963
They figure with enough love and support you might turn back to the Adam and Eve way! \n\nI dont think they were born that way but it's more of a disease depriving them of normal sexual interaction!\n\nEither way I dont care, more women for me!
955806
Yes I know someone who know longer chooses the homosexual lifestyle and they follow Christ.  Two actually.  A woman and a man.  The fell in love, got married, and have 2 kids.  They did not turn heterosexual, though.  Think of homosexuality like alcoholism.  That might make some mad, but that is the best analogy I can give.  If you are a follower of the Bible, certain things are wrong.  Just because you have a desire doesn't mean you should act upon it.  Homosexuals are just hurting people, many have poor if any relationship with their fathers and some were sexually abused as children.
76749
How can anyone possibly choose to be attracted to a particular sex?  Ask any Straight person if they can just hop into the sack with the same sex and the answer is going to be NO!  \n\nForced to do it?  Sure!  Most Gay children are forced to believe they are wrong from day one!  They grow up in a Straight home, in a Straight neighborhood, go to a Straight oriented school and live in a Straight oriented society........\n\nNOW COMES THE CHOICE...."Does this person live a life of lies and force their self to supress their feelings of the same sex?  Or do they make that bold decision to face all the odds and do what comes natural to them?\n\nThe problems Gay people face is the constant bombardment of how to define a "Normal Society", ignorance, and fear in people who are in denial of their own sexuality. \n\nIt's much easier to follow a flow geared towards a more larger crowd than to understand those in smaller numbers and who happen to be "different" from their selves.\n\nAlso, most laws are set in motion to safely guard Straight people. Very few are there to guard Gay people. So, with so few laws, ignorance and improper guidance, societies spawn with improper or corrupt leadership in favor of the larger. This, of course, creates a disastrous situation by leaving those in lesser numbers an easy target to bully. Thus hate, prejudice and fear flourish.\n\nDon't let anyone dictate to you on how to live.  If you supress your feelings and decide to "go with the flow" you are only going to live the life that others want you to live which will only lead to depression and the loss of your true self.  Be the beautiful person you are inside...just.....BE YOU!\n\nHere are some helpful websites that you can explore....I hope they will be helpful to you.  \n\nI also want to point out that I did not get my answer from any website.....it was pure common sense.\n\nI wish you luck and success...\n\n:)\nPeace!
695713
who cares if that is what they choose.  that is their RIGHT.  they may be ignorant and ridiculous, but if they choose it, so be it.  just like some people choose to be gay.\n\nPS ~ yes, most are probably born that way, but not in the case of my lesbian cousin, who is now married to a man with two children.
512157
theres many reasons.. they can b confused n they not sure who they want 2 b wit , they want kids so mary the opposite sex in order 2 obtain dat , embarrasment , their families r against it ... the reasons can b many .. people should learn how 2 live in the world we live in , anythin can happen specially now a days .. but unless some 1 is being lied i dont think theres anythin wrong wit dat .. there are still so many ignorant ppl who cant accept homosexuality dat this makes them take steps dat later on they might regret but its not the case 4 every who does this
1015676
sure,it's OK. i mean,what does his sexual orientation have to do with anything? he is a person like everyone else,he has feelings and no matter he is gay,he is still a child of God. people are selfish and they don't see that being gay is not that bad.Christians often think that being gay is a big sin,but so what?God won't send him to hell if his only sin is that he's gay.He will send to hell sooner those people who hate him because he's gay! So what's my point,there's nothing wrong with having a gay priest as long as he's a good person and as long as he does his job with pleasure and faith.
193054
Gay people are human beings the same as the rest of us and we should not try to play God by judging what they do or who their with. A lot of great people have turned out to be gay, but that did not stop me from liking their acting or music. I have had some friends who turned out to be gay, but I did not stop being friends with them for that. If we were all the same in this world, then I think it would be a very boring place to be. If people would look beyond those types of things, then they would probably enjoy life a lot more. My motto is as long as they are not out trying to hurt someone else, then leave them alone and let them live their lives as they choose to!!!
444927
If the religion you are in is not based on promises that you can give to people who ASK for help, then it is useless. If you are a Christian and you have to judge someone who isn't, you are a Spaz and need to get a life. If you are condemning behaviour and the person didn't exactly ask you for you opinion you are disrespectful. As far as converting, that should be somebody's choice if they want to change to a religion.  I say all this because the above behaviour is not what God's wants Christians to do, I know this because I am one.
589219
It may be that conditioning may have a very small part of a person being gay but it would be a very small percentage of gay people that are effected in this way. However, I do think that the majority of gay people are born with this disposition.\n\nI am sure that most of you have heard of a condition called hermaphroditism (or the more politically correct term these days is 'intersex') where a person is born with the fully formed genatalia of BOTH sexes. The subject, apart from their genitalia, is physically and mentally sound in every other way.\n\nSometimes, these children are operated on at birth if the doctors decide (guess) that the baby appears to have a female or male inclination and the genitals are modified accordingly. In many cases though, a modified 'girl' grows up with feelings for other women and modified 'boys' grow up feeling something for other men. It seems in these cases, the doctors have made the wrong decision and the psychological makeup of the child was in fact the opposite to the physical modification they performed on the child. So even though, for instance, a child may be brought up as a girl with girls toys etc, the 'nature' side of the brain kicks in at puberty (if not before) and overrides the 'nurture' side.\n\nNow, if nature can produce a visible, physical example of developmental confusion on the outside of the human body, who is to say that there are not processes at work of developmental confusion going on inside the unseen brain of a person ... where there may not be an obvious physical example of gender disorientation externally but internally their brain does not dictate in the way that their external body would suggest to the rest of society.\n\nThere is very strong evidence that sexuality is largely determined by development in the womb. Perhaps, while 'intersex' is firm external physical proof of developmental issues, we ought to consider that perhaps the developmental differences in gay people are more subtle and obviously invisible to the naked eye due to the brain being internal - but that does not mean that the differences are not there.\n\nHomosexuality has been around since the beginning of time and if you research gay history in cultures across the world, the present prejudices seem to stem with the spread of the three major monotheistic religons and it is this prejudice that is ingrained into the psyche of people today. But like racism, for instance, perhaps this prejudice towards gay people will diminish as society recognises that alternative sexuality is actually just a normal part of nature's rich diversity.
436709
yup - as a teenager I was fairly homophobic if I'm honest, I was trained as a dancer and felt branded as 'gay'.  however by about 20 years I'd seen enough scientific evidence and met several gay men in the profession to change my mind.  It's not their fault, it's in their genetic make-up, they have to live with that too, it's not a choice they make.  However, I still wish they wouldn't be so stroppy!! it's a characteristic I've come to laugh at from time to time, you can stop them from a mile away just from the disturbance!  I don't envy them at all, glad I'm straight, got married and had kids.  There are worse people in the world (like religious folk in cults, like Christianity etc)...
382455
dear you have yourself answered your own question. you knew that you were gay at puberty and that's how it goes. we are born this special way. it isnt any thing to choose. tell me one thing why would anyone choose to be gtay when society at large is biased against us/hates us?? \n\nwe dont choose to be what we are. we are born what we are. we can choose to polish ourselves and be better human beings, but not change the way we inherently are.
1159484
I don't know if it's possible for anybody to change who they feel attracted to. . . but then that's not the point.  It's possible for anybody to choose who they actually have sex with, because that doesn't really depend on attraction.  I'm a heterosexual, and it would be perfectly possible for me to have sex with another man if I chose to do that.  In the same way, it's possible for homosexuals to choose to have sex with members of the opposite gender, even if they aren't attracted to them.  It might not be an especially interesting experience for them, but they can't say it's impossible.  In time they might even learn to love that person, because love doesn't really depend on sexual attraction anyway.  So yes, it does boil down to a choice which is perfectly within your power to make.  The only thing that matters is what you do, not who you are.  Nobody ever asked more than that.
42238
I would say it's a combination of genetic disposition (being born that way) and the environment one grows up in.  But as it is now, there has been minimal research done to prove whether one is born gay or not.  Of all the homosexuals I know personally, none have told me that they "chose" to be gay.
1142554
i believe u are born that way...if u look at some kids u will c certain gay tendencies from a young age....my sister had a friend who showed these tendencies...and when he got older he came out as gay...but then again people are just curious and will go for it just to see what it is like.....
622956
You know I am a strong christian, but I don't shun science and common sense. Being gay is not a choice. It's just not, if you ask almost any gay guy or girl, they would say they would not choose to be gay, because who in their right mind would choose to be made fun of, shunned and hated? No one.
1097935
I think any time you can put a child in a permanent, loving and nurturing home, then you should. Who cares what the sexual orientation of the parent are if they can love and provide for the child. And no, I don't think the child will end up homosexual because of it.
201990
Whether one is born gay, or whether it is a personal choice, no one has the right to condemn a person because of it.  If there were such people as true Christians, then they would follow  God's advice and  Not judge, lest they be judged themselves. Leave the judging to God.  And one who does pass judgement on gays, then, they certainly are not Christian.