my girlfriend is depressed and she doesnt know why, any help?
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Either hereditary or hormonal imbalance. My guess the later. Teens bodys are growing and changing and a 16 year old girl especially (PMS) is common.\nIf it is the first and she is depressed all the time then she need medication.\nI still think it is her hormones. Go see a Herbalist or to a Health Food Store. Have her tell them she needs something for depression. They can give her something natural like herbs and they work. St. Johns Wort is the best for depression. Just make sure she follow the directions. They even have other combos. Natural suff is amazing and so much better than meds (no real side affects if careful)\nAt 16 girls hormones go wild especially before a period even up to a week. Talk to her convince her to talk to someone and get help. Being young and depressed is not good.\n\nWhat a nice boyfriend you are to get her help.
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You really do care for your girl...!!!\n\nShe probably hails from a very disturbed background. I think she is insecure not only about herself but also about her relationship. And I also think that she lacks self confidence.\nThere are a lot of things that you have not mentioned, that is how old is she and what is she doing...??\nFor her to get over the habit of not working well with people she needs to work on projects that have to be done in groups.\n\nConstantly encourage her to do things that involve her participation and that involve her interaction with lots of people.\nShe also needs your constant support and love. And if this does not work then you need to take her to a pshycologist.
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Get the counselling. It sounds like she's struggling with deeper issues or she wouldn't be sleeping in the same bed as you. I think she still loves you. Make sure you support her through this or you may run the risk of losing her. Listen alot and don't ever tell her that what she is thinking is stupid.
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Maybe just try talking to her first and see if she'll let you know what's going on, and if she's really depressed, maybe suggest your friend to talk to a psychologist...someone who will LISTEN and not JUDGE them for anything they say.  That could help them get to the root of some of the feelings they're having.  Good luck and I hope for the best for your friend! =)
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It sounds that she might have persecutory delusions, or paranoia. Which is usually a sign of serious mental illness. You need to take her to a Psychiatrist.
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Probably, it is because she must have had bad experiences in the past. Maybe it is because people whom she really cared about must have really hurt her. It must be because of this that she wants to be absolutely certain that this time she will not be hurt by anyone that she wants time to think over it. Have patience. Be there for her. I am sure that she loves you too but is scared of commiting herself and revealing her innermost fears to you. Understand her. She is probably going through a very tough ordeal. I assume, you too are feeling dejected and very frustrated. Be patient. Reassure her that no matter what, you will still love her and care for her and that your love for her will never change. Give her space. But let her know that you really and truly love her and her alone. It will take some time, but definitely everything will be alright. All the best.
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Without knowing why she makes you sad, have you tried talking about it with her. Communication is the main ingredient of any relationship.
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ok she is feeling like things are out of her control and she is hurt emotionally and yalls relationship is one thing she does have control over so she is trying to stop from getting emotionally hurt by you not that you would but its just a scence of security. tell her you know whats going on and understand but would really love to be there for her. give her some space, but dont give up or stray to far if you really do love her.
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She needs to get help right away. I'm not sure how old she is and if she still lives with her parents. If she does, you have to make the difficult decision of telling them. They may not realize how seriously she is depressed. If she is an adult, it is hard to force someone to get help. If someone is about to commit suicide, then 911 can be called. Otherwise, you can encourage them to talk to their doctor, talk to a distress centre/suicide prevention line, talk to a counsellor or go to the emergency room of a hospital. Try to keep the lines of communication as open as you can. She needs to know that people care about her. With that said, if she does hurt herself that is not your fault. You are doing what you can. She is lucky to have a caring friend like you. I hope things work out really well.
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get her to go see her doc...they have meds that can help stabilize her moods...you dont have to suffer...either of you. Good Luck.
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she's been cleared by Dr's that she's not Manic Depressive or Bi-polar??\n\nI would suggest that she see's a Dr again for a check up things can change.  Everyone gets depressed,but comatose like depression on a regular basis is NOT everyday depression.
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Of course you are depressed. Don't be hard on yourself. Your boyfriend leaving you for one of your friends is a double betrayal. If she was really a friend, she would never have paid attention to him and she wouldn't go out with him out of loyalty to you. If they started being together behind your back, that's even worse. If you are suicidal, go to a therapist immediately!! Try to go out for walks instead of eat. Eating and sleeping too much will get you more depressed. I know it's hard, but you have to force yourself to get out. Exercise is the best way to start getting over the depression. Also, talk about the problem with a trusted friend or a therapist. It helps to talk and get feedback from others instead of going over and over it in your mind. You need new information in your head; like maybe it was for the best if it got two disloyal and self-centered people out of your life. Take very good care of yourself right now. You deserve it!
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being female, i can tell you she either doesn't want to be with you anymore but doesn't want to hurt you, she's having bad pms, or she's seeing someone else that she likes better than you.  this is all if she just started being distant.  if she's been like that the whole time you've been together, then she needs help cracking her emotional shell
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go with her to a therapist. maybe she has a chemical imbalance
255537
There really isn't anything that you can say,just let her know that you are there for her when ever she needs to talk about it,try to get her mind off it,go shopping,to the movies,or something. Just be there for her,because she needs you right now!!!
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You are a very strong and kind person and I wish you all the best of luck with your gf.\nMy friend is a manic depressive and her partner has been with her for 5 years now. He loves her to bits but at times has felt like he was making himself ill aswell. He learned that he had to put his own wellbeing first sometimes, so that he was able to give her the best he could. At one stage though, he did try to reason with her, by telling her that he had 'stood by her all this time' and she still wasn't getting any better. At this point, she ended it, blaming him for the way she was (she had been depressed from a young age) and evidently got worse. When speaking to her, she felt that he was only with her in the hope that she would get better. This was an awful pressure on her because she knew (as well as he did) that there was every chance that things could get worse and she may never improve.\nSo, I simply give you this advise, take care of yourself and satisfy your needs and ambitions. If she pushes you away, don't retaliate with any blame or make her feel that she owes you something for your time spent with her. Simply allow this to be the oppurtunity where you get some time for yourself. Meet with friends, take up a hobby, whatever. Most importantly, don't make her feel that you are leaving her, always be contactable and tell her where your going and when you will be back. Simpy let her accept and know that you are always there for her but also for yourself.\nPlease also understand that she may or may not improve. If you can't see a future with her if things don't improve, then maybe you should rethink your situation. \nMy friend is improving (and happily living with her partner) and is now working. She is a lovely person and I admire her strentgh. \n\nI wish you all the best of luck,\n\nHappy Birthday for Monday!!\nxx
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Hello there!\nIt must have been hard to have found that out about your girlfriend after being together for 5 months. I must take medication regularly, and I had the same problem with letting people know I took it. You should feel honored that she shared that information with you. It is so hard to even tell anyone that you have a problem, let alone someone so close to you. She is basically taking an anti-depressant, which regulate the level of serotonin in her brain. A mental illness is a disease, like diabetes or hypertension. In order to control our mental illness, we take medication. Just as someone with diabetes must have insulin. When we don't take our meds, it can cause a recurrence of our symptoms--which often includes suicidal thoughts. If you really care about her, you could try and learn about her illness. Be there to support her. People are often inclined to selfish thoughts, thinking how bad they will feel and withdrawing from the very person that needs us. Everyone has some thing or another that we must "deal" with in a relationship. I have had many relationships when the person I was with could not handle the fact I had a problem. I dont' let it run my life and am very loving and responsible. I am sure people will tell you "horror stories" about their illnesses, and these do occur. You did become her boyfriend for a reason right? Focus on her positive qualities and support her. If you feel like you could not handle it, then the best thing to do is to leave the relationship. Good luck to you!