How is the wedding night traditionally consummated in Isalm?
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It is disliked to: \n  \n\nFace the qibla. (Ibn `Abidin) \nBe in the presence of a mature child. (Ibn `Abidin) \nTalk, for it is from the sunna not to talk excessively during intercourse. (Ibn `Abidin) \n\nIt is proper to cover up a Qur’an in the bedroom. (Ibn `Abidin) \n\nIt is best to avoid looking at each other’s private parts, though some Companions held that it is fine because it increases desire. (Durar) \n\nIbn al-Hajj al-Maliki mentioned in al-Madkhal: \n  \n\nThe beginning of the night is better… \nOne must avoid intercourse with one’s wife before any foreplay, because it has been interdicted. Rather, one should play around with her and jest with kisses, touches and the like. Then, one sees that she is ready, prepared, and desirous of him, only then should he initiate intercourse. The wisdom of the Lawgiver in this is evident, for the woman derives pleasure as a man does. If he approaches her while she is unprepared, he may fulfill his need, but she may not, and would feel frustrated… \nBefore penetration, one should say, Bismillah Allahumma Jannibna al-Shaytan, wa Jannib ish-Shaytanu ma Razaqtana, as has been authentically reported in the sunna… \nOne should be careful to fulfill the rights of the wife with regards to intercourse, and to safeguard her religion. One should fulfill oneself [=orgasm] after she has achieved fulfillment, to be under the general rubric of the Prophet’s saying (Allah bless him and give him peace), “Allah is in the assistance of a servant as long as he is in the assistance of his fellow.” \nOne should not have intercourse without covers… \nIt is best to perform ghusl before sleeping after intercourse. Or, at least to do wudu and wash the private parts. [f: One should not, at the very least, leave washing the private parts.] \n\nThese are general guidelines. Ruqayya Waris Maqsood’s book on marriage goes into some detail on the subject, as does Imam al-Ghazali’s work. \n\nAnal sex is, of course haram. \n\nMutual hand stimulation is permitted. \n\nSexual fluids are najis, so oral sex is detested. \n\nDuring mentruation (hayd), intercourse is haram. So is direct skin contact between the wife’s navel and knee. Everything else, however, remains permitted. \n\nAnd Allah knows best.
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The simple answer to this if you want to do it inexpensively is to keep it small. Most of us only have a few people we are truly close to, and these are the people you should invite. \n\nAs far as the ceremony goes, do something at your house or some place special to you. Picnic areas at local parks/lakes are very cheap to reserve. For a small fee, you can have your minister come out and say a few words to "renew" your marriage. Writing your own renewal vows can be a very meaningful. Doing all this at dusk with candles about will create a nice ambience. \n\nTreat  your guests to an inexpensive picnic type buffet. Light a campfire,  turn on the stereo and dance the night away!\n\nGood Luck!\n\nCheck out http://www.announcements.com for invitations.
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Sleep. After the huge wedding and reception and the big stress relief you will feel when it is all over, all you will do that night is sleep. However the next night will hopefully be a different story. =)
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I think the receiving line is to personally thank the guests for coming etc. I have been to weddings without, and I like it much better. During a point (I cant remember) during the meal, the bride and groom travel from table to table- it's more relaxed and personal.
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DO relax and enjoy yourself; unwind from all the excitement and stress of the wedding.\nDON'T put high expectations on yourself & your partner to have wild, passionate sex all the time.  You will have plenty of time for that.
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Who are you writing this question for USC??? According to your profile, and wedding website, you are your fiance have been married for a while. Having another wedding in '07??\n\nI would really like to know where you are having your wedding...there are not a lot of places that can hold 500 people for a cocktail hour and a sit down reception. I am always looking to add to my list of reception sites...feel free to email me.
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sleep with the groom and best man 4 hand that'll make it more interesting, if u feeling adventurous go 4 the brides maids aswell lol
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Hi there- I'm getting married in Vegas on a Sunday.  It wasn't necessarily "cheaper" but we were able to negotiate a lower food/beverage minimum with our hotel.  And, we've been able to use it to better negotiate with the photographers and other vendors.  Just beware of any holiday weekends.
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here is a website on etiquette for starters\n\nhttp://ourmarriage.com/html/wedding_etiquette.html
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You could have a small ceremony like on a beach or something with a reception at your house in backyard with a bbq or something. I just attended a wedding like this and it was really fun.
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My mom's side of the family is from Norway, so we all gather around the piano at her house (my uncle plays-- it's nice to have a concert pianist in the family!) and we sing traditional Norwegian Christmas songs, in addition to regular carols.  Music is a huge part of our Christmas tradition.\nMy fiance's family is Italian, so we do the 7 fishes on Christmas Eve, and make a tour of all his friends houses like he always did when he was a kid.\nWe also started our own tradition of opening presents naked in bed... tee hee.
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Asian wedding...cool.
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Being the 1st night, we did but I think with most traditional wedding situations...it could be more romantic if it was the next day or so..because we were so exhausted that it was more of an act than passion...and it may have been the high light of the evening if we hadn't gone thru so much already during our wedding day.
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yes\nit is a gift to give to your husband on the wedding night
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People get married for.......\nLove, Money and Companionship.
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By "proper," I'm guessing you mean traditional.  Traditionally, the father walks the bride down the aisle, but if that is not an option for you, choose someone who has supported you throughout your life.  Someone that you would want to essentially represent you.  Traditionally, the bride and groom have several people in the bridal party.  You only need your best friend, or for that matter, just you and hubby to be.  Lets be honest, most of the time, the bridal party consists of cousins and siblings from both sides, and that tends to be the case because of obligation.  ALL the "necessary" dual dances...really, the only one that truly matters, is the one between you and that new husband of yours.  \nOn the flip side of this, try looking at from a different perspective:  without the immediate family members present, you can easily forego things you would comply with simply out of obligation.  My best advice: any wedding that is individual, well planned, and encompasses the two of you together should be considered proper.\nGood Luck
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Here's what I know:\n\nThe bride wears:\nSomething Old\nSomething New\nSomething Borrowed\nSomething Blue\n\nThe bride wears a penny in her shoe for good luck.\n\nThe special dances are bride and groom, father daughter, and mother son is optional\n\nThe groomsmen are actually a part of the wedding to protect the bride from potential sutors. The bridesmaid used to dress like brides to act as decoys if the bride is to be kidnapped.\n\nDuring the ceremony, the bride stands on the grooms left side so his sword hand is ready.\n\nThe bride carries flowers to mask her odor (if she hadn't showered -- think 1500s)\n\nSpeeches at a wedding are from the best man, maid of honor and the father of the bride.\n\nWhen guests clink their glasses with silverware the bride and groom have to stop and kiss.\nHope these help -- I know they're random!