Has your Mom, or someone else, died in the last couple of years, and are holidays hard for you to handle?
814509
Yes, Dad 3 days before Christmas last year.  It will be a different holiday this year, that's for sure.
530913
I'm so sorry you've lost someone important to you.  I've been there before myself.  Tomorrow will be the first anniversary of my mother's death in a hospice.  She suffered so much before she died that it tore my heart out, but she's with her Lord and Saviour now, and happy at last.  Time will improve things for you.  It's the only thing that helped me.  Try to do things you enjoy to distract yourself from the pain.  Even that can take a great effort, but you have to keep trying. If you do, I promise you that things will get better as time moves on.  May God Bless You!
866502
Are you talking about death? If so you have to think about what is best for the person you love. Are they in pain? Will they be better off if they die? Do you want to keep them alive for you and not let them go so they can finally rest? Losing my grandma was horrible but it was best for her. Its hard to deal with and everyone deals with it differently. I grieve before and during the funeral. After I remember the good things and talk about the person. I still feel sad when I think about her and sometimes tear up but I know she is better than she was.
208369
Yea, It still gets to you years later. Losing both your parents just sucks, but there are days that go by that you realize it hasn't crossed your mind as many times
904543
If I could have anything it would be for my entire family to be there with no fuss  no arguring and everyone happy, just like it was 15 years ago before my mother passed. There is no way you can buy a wonderful family , but I use to have one and was blessed. When my mom died the family did too. This year is no different, everyone in the family will do there own thing and compete on who's family spent the most. What they are truely missing is the one thing that none of us can get back, OUR MOTHER!! So, here is just a little hint for all of you folks that are fortunate enough to still have a family. Enjoy it while it last. You only get a chance at one good one.
835930
Vacation with parents.  No question.  My father is dead.  My mother has alzhiemers.  After my father had died I would take my mother with us on vacation for a number of years.  She loved it.  I miss them both very much.  I feel sorry for people who don't get along well with their parents.  When they are gone, they are gone forever.
750567
It sure is the normal for me,I hate the holidays ever since my kids went to live with their mom,nothing but sad memories for several years now,oh well.Wish I was the only one.
832605
Im like you hon, i have a son who is out of this country & i cant see him, Christmas means nothing to me no more, but i do have my 95 year old dad to try to cheer up for.   I wish i could skip christmas to. what i do is just talk to my friends on the phone & also call the local crises line here to, they seem to help. i get crying spellls & the works. when its real cold, ill get out & walk in it & it makes me feel more better, with the cool Crisp air, & watching the Birds & kids. I also write poems about my feelings, That helps to,  I like arts n crafts & i make Collages & give them to people for Xmas, Or get old frames @ a Thrift store, Cut out pretty pictures From old calenders & magazines & Put them in frames For cheap Gifts & for myself, Its not money that counts for christmas, Its the Season. Its very Depressing for Lotts & lotts & lots Even Kill themselfs That Time of year, Its a Holiday That Can be Cherrfull for Lotts & Sad for Others, Christmas Songs Makes Me Cry sometimes, Cus To me, Its a Sad time Of year,  I lost My son, due To him Going to a Nother Country, Its worse Than Him DEAD,   he Has Mental Dosorders & wont Get Meds & doesnt Want To See me Of who Knows Why, I was a good Mother To Him,, But Gave Him To his Dad, Whom I divorced As hes 9 Years old then, Hes 26 Years old Now & his Dad let Him get In Trouble,  & one Thing Lead To a nother & that Haunts Him.  I really DREAD every DA# christmas EACH YEAR TO & try To FAKE SMILES, Its Hard Hon, I really Really Truley FEEL for YOU. I know How You Feel Inside & out.  Thanks For reading & sorrry So Long,   You Take Care & try To Watch Some Funny Comedys On Tv & forget Christmas As i Do & i Take Deep Breaths & say Ill Make It Threw It,   HUGS.
59525
I lost my Mom too, so I know how your are feeling. Losing a mom is a really tough thing and it isnt something that you just snap out of. You need to give yourself a chance to grieve her death..\nSleeping alot could also be a sign of mild depression, talk to a therapist or some other qualified person if this doesnt let up.\n I am sorry for your loss...
809212
I am sorry for you. I lost my mother 3 years on thanksgiving and every day I miss her. I lost her to colon cancer that spread to the rest of her body. I know what you are feeling and I hate that it hits me even more on her death day and on her birthday. I sometimes wish that I can see her alive just one more time so I can ask her if there was anything more I could of done for her when she was going through that. I was blessed to have taken care of her at home till the end. But you will always be sad for your mother because that love you received from her, you will get nowhere else. God bless you.
1026528
my mom passed away six years ago too. i have finally been able to put it behind me... instead of crying all the time and thinking of what i actually lost, i celebrate the life that she did have. i think about all the good times i had when she was alive. i'm not a religious person but i do believe that she is watching over me. \ntry talking to a counselor.. it helped me
322965
No, but my Dad dies when I was 12 and my Mom when I was 18!!
1156999
My husband.  He's still here, but he's unavailable.  He got sick and is depressed.  Nothing seems to help.\n\nHow do you grieve someone who sits across the table from you?\n\n(Thanks for answering my question.  When I read your question and answered it, I knew I needed to ask mine.)
1000839
Everybody grieves in different ways.  A year later you finally think this person will never come back.  Holidays will be the worst because its weird not seeing the person at special occasions.
1103641
I am 22 and unmedicated for Bipolar. I think about or attempt every winter. The happiest time of the year. I live a couple of hrs away from my nearest family member but they have never come to see me. even when they are in town for business they will not call they just pass on thru and keep on going. They know where I live and my cell but they will not call or come by\nThe lonlyness of the holiday sesion, seeing every one happy and in love it is just depressing when you are alone. Feeling like no one cares about you or loves you during thanksgiving & christmas. Lets be thankful for what we have right well what do you have really? what makes it the happiest time of the year? Family they haven't rembered me sence I was 12. Friends they have there own familys and can't come by when needed.\nSo every year I sit and I think and I plan.\nLast year I was about to when I got a call from my sister in law telling me that my mother was in the hospital for emergency heart surgery. I couldn't leave my mom in the hospital possible on her death bed wondering if I was going to come or not. I couldn't break her heart when she might not survive to see the next year.\n\nbut now the summers half over and i wonder what will this year be ike?
331553
I've had a near death experience at a young age or 2 yrs. Ever since I've seen my dead brother talking to me. When my mother died I saw her playing with my very quiet children. My son has ADHD so that was unnerving to me. When I called out my mothers name she turned faced me and smiled. I paniced and ran down stairs and tried to call home. No answer and I felt sick inside. A couple hours later my sister called and told me of my mothers passing. But, before she could tell me what was wrong I responded that mom's dead huh. It freaked her out and me too.\n   It's a cool and humbling experience at the same time.
885102
Imagine never seeing your mother again.... thought about it? not good huh? My mother died when i was 7 and i wish for nothing more than 2 get a hug off her 1 more time. Imagine your world without the person that wil love you unconditionally. Trust me u would miss her