problem with lazy son?
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Bit harsh isn't it?  Blimey the kid hasn't done anything wrong for you to take his pocket money away!!  You're supposed to use that one as a punishment not a bribe.\n\nI agree with ILOVEMARMITE and I quote;\nWhy should he get a job. Teach him rather to have a responsibility in the house to earn his pocket money !! Its not the 1950's anymore !!\n\nTo add, his sister is only 9 ffs!  How much pocket money does she get and what does she do for it?  The differences between a 9 year old and a 13 year old are massive in terms of emotions etc.  Your son is a teenager and doesn't know if he wants to be an adult or a kid at the monent.  Give him back his money but go along the lines of " I'll start you off at a (say) £1 per job.  I will give you 10 jobs to do every week and IF they are completed you get the cash, if not, you only get paid for the ones that have been".\nThis works in my household and theres the added bonus of yoou not being the bad guy as you've laid out the ground rules already.\nGood luck
343347
call supernanny for help!!
1187344
Don't worry about the lady--she's unoriginal and not creative which is why she has to copy you. Just try to separate yourself from her as much as possible while still retaining your dignity. \n\nIs your son young? If he's older of course he can handle it on his own but if he's 8 or 10 he'll have a difficult time understanding what's going on. Just try to keep him busy so he won't have time to think about it and don't let the other kid know he's bothering your son. If he thinks he's not bugging your son he'll stop...eventually.
542581
Here's the complete information:\n\nhttp://www.childrensvision.com/lazy_eyes.htm\n\nHope it helps!
885232
Rearrange the room.  It shouldn't be too hard with 3 guys.  It is the least offensive way of solving the problem.  If this doesnt work, maybe make a roommate contract, that says no typing in the room after a certain hour.  If he has a laptop he can go to a lounge or something.  I'm so glad I haven't had this problem yet.
638603
as a mother of 3 boys i can tell u - find for them something to do. in that case they will be busy and won't have time to drive u nuts. i give my kids some chores and try to keep them separate from each other by giving them some different appointments\nand i would really answer also to that previous to mine answer - if he has children like drunk midgets it is his own fault that he can not have nice chidren. mine never woke me up in the morning by hitting me even when they were brainless toddlers. children are the best people on this planet if they hace normal parents
911150
The more you show him that this word upsets you, the more he'll say it. He knows it pushes your buttons. Hey, he's a little brother. That's the way they are. It's their job to snitch on you, copy everything you say & do, and find words that annoy you. Unfortunately, if he's not listening to your good counsel about keeping his yap shut, someone will do it for him, relieving you of all responsibility. So, if you've told him, and you've told your parents, your job's done. Let the chips fall where they will. And don't allow him to see that it bothers you. This works well on all the other stuff that he's been annoying you with too. How do I know this? I'm a little sister, though grown up now. <*)))><
38265
But he's still your son,no matter what.  You should honor your obligation no matter what.  You don't want your son to ever have any reason to say that you didn't step up to the plate and do the right thing.  HE'S YOUR SON!!!!!!!!
57032
Have you tried contacting your Senetor, or Congressmen?  How about the IRS?  They don't really like it when they get phone calls, or letters a million times a week because of some loser that won't pay for his child.  I was lucky and my Senetor got involved rather fast.  He was happy to help and it was free.
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stop feeding him\n--seriously, what is his motivation to do something when his basic needs are being met while he does nothing?\n\nSomeone else recently asked a similar question -- tha answers are up for voting:\nhttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ama65ijE_0w1eh4IfS5M_Evsy6IX?qid=20061116144514AAiVdbe\n\nYour expectations have to be made clear.  As we got older, my mother established the rule that once we turned 18, we had to be full-time students earning good grades or we had to pay rent.  I went to college for a while, but dropped out -- I got a job because I knew she required rent, and I also knew she wouldn't give me any money to go hang out with my friends or to put gas in my car.  When I decided to go back to school, I still worked for spending money, but she didn't charge rent.
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If you can't find him I would say call the police if it has been a long time. Also, maybe you could try to talk to his son, and since he sounds greedy it might not work, get a good lawyer, but make sure you know all the facts before hand.
970931
He doesn't seem to be able to bath himself, maybe you need to do it for him.\n\nYes it is a illness, it's called lazyass.
648529
sounds like your son is a freak. lol
1039783
try the naughty step my daughter was the same till i used it give him 2 warnings if that dosent work put him on the step it can be anywere (but when at home keep it in the same place!) for 2 mins if he is two and three mins if he is three and so on then after the time is up tell him why he was on the step and make him say sorry it works just takes time good luck
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ok hunny been there done that.  with your sweetie i cant give a guarenteed answer but i had that problem with my son's father when we were together. he thought it was his responsibilty to look after his mom.  last straw for me was when she "borrowed" 200 bucks to take his sister back to the mainland for ferry and gas and i found out that she used it to go bowling. man i was pissed beyond recognition since the money came out of my account which i used to pay ALL the bills and he wouldnt ask her to pay it back. in your case hes the child and unless they are unable to work or seriously something wrong with them then his responisbility is to you and his children.........however many kids there are and his parents should know that their grandbabies come first and foremost. doesnt matter whose kids they are they are always first and shame on his ex for trying to stick him with two kids that arent his. personally i wouldnt put up with whats going on but maybe make a really big chart and stick it up somewhere really obvious (maybe in the bathroom right over the toilet where he presumably STANDS every morning to take a piss and cant miss it) and put up a couple column where you detail the money your bro gives you for gas and the money his parents drain out every month and ask him how if hes going to support his parents where is the money going to come from for paying child support plus all the monthly bills. family is only as important as you make them and he needs to get rid of his and be a big boy. if they want to know his every move maybe perhaps you should suggest to his parents that he get his old room ready so he can move back in it or offer to move your entire family his kids your kids an all into THEIR house so that they can be in control and you can stay rent free and they can babysit.  all else fails change your phone number refuse to open your door and have all the accounts put in your name with only you being able to access them. or as suggested by the others then by all means kick his ass to the curb............ but thats up to you and how much more of this you are willing to deal with.
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epilepsy it is not,  that represents itself as a non-bodily action problem.  You said he was up, and pulling things off the dresser.  But he basically couldn't hear you nor recognize you or our son.  this was more a REM activity.  Like the other person said,  he sleepwalked.  But something triggered it.  get him to see your family doctor so he/she can refer your husband to a neurologist.
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she is too lazy. talk to her. let her know that you cant do everything on your own.