how do you know if your are being pushed away?
819757
I don't know; sometimes I get the feeling that my significant other is pushing me away, but then he will call me and tell me all the contrary. He calls me only when he feels like it, he'll see me when the time is convenient for him, he promises to call and then he doesn't, he will not give me a picture of his, he makes love to me and then takes off saying that he'll be back later, he doesn't, he calls me and makes up some excuse; however, he still says that he will be over in the morning and that we'll make love and make up for lost time, guess what? It doesn't happen. Then, again he calls (when he feels like it) and again apologizes and says I do care, but I don't know what is going on, too much stress, work, and no time, but I will make it up to you. I hope you get the message because I don't and I am getting tired of his little games, if yours is acting like this - then we are both in the same boat. It is only up to us to kick them to the curve or to keep on tolerating the way they are. Good luck.
1044378
Could be or she could just be venting maybe you should make a move and see.
922519
You can't.  Just be alert and watch for the signs....unexplained purchases, loss of interest in intimacy, trouble maintaining eye contact, a sudden change in mood or behavior, mysterious phone calls, a confrontational attitude, making excuses to leave, unfamiliar scents, etc.  Most importantly, do not expect honesty.  If they have something to hide, you'll be the last to know.
749267
I know where this girl is coming from. I think she is pushing you to see if you will take off at the first sight of trouble. Thats what I do. It's a way for her to protect herself from jerks. It's not fair to you but it sounds like she's been hurt before. Go to her and talk to her face to face, not on the phone. Tell her that she is pushing you away and that is why you are pushing back. Ask her flat out if she wants this relationship to continue. If she does then you have to make a personal decision, can you stick around through the ups and downs? If so then tell her you will wait it out. Let her get comfortable with you and trust you. If she pushes too much and you no longer feel wanted at all then tell her that, let her know that it can't continue, and that you need more than that.
703402
i think it is because they might be trying to tell you something. you don't now why just ask them maybe something is going on that you should know about. or they are just being defiant.
632936
get out of the situation if you can. get your self away from the person who is abusing you! the reason why i put it that way is if you think or feel that you are not being treated rignt, chances are You are correct.\n you do not need bruises to be abused. even men are, but rarely feel free to say so because of how macho our society is.\n  here are a few questions to ask yourself.\ndo yu feel put down. are your friends asking you why you put up that all the time. \n   do you have to appologize for being you? critizied, corrected, or being told what ever you do wassn't not good enough.\n    do you feel like you are under a controll freak? what i mean is, all your time accounted for, are you told what to do all the time? if you work, is the time you leave and return so tight you get yelled at if there is heavy traffic?\n    if you have some sort of income, is every penny accounted for, with none left over for yourself. if you have something you need or want and there is money, do you have to ask, even if you ask are you denied it?\n     yelling, bulling, pushing, are clear signs of abuse. bruises, broken bones, rapes,and actual homicde are the end.\n abuse humiliates a person. it robs them of their identy. it can cause them to feel powerless to leave the person doing the abuse. in children in can cause confusion and rage so intense, that these emotions are almost impossible to controll growinging up if not given help.\n  with adults, the results still need counciling to recover from.\n the best way to honestly know if the situation your in is abusive, is to sit down with some kind of councilor, rabbi, priest,  or cleric. explain your situation, i'm sure, you will get far better advice that i can give you here.\n\n   good luck    looking
1087417
complete openness should already been present before a relationship should have started. Too often we rush into things for many reasons not taking enough time to get to know one another. then we get together and wonder why it doesnt work out. love isnt compromise its about love and acceptence. trust and honesty. he pushes you away means he has none of what it takes to be a good understanding loving caring mate. sorry but I say respect yourself and you can do and deserve better.
348953
simply ask them if they are into you or not
380273
Yeah, it's called denial. I wouldn't want to be you when it catches up , if it's bad. Good Luck!
212506
You need to back off and quite pushing so hard. This is as simple as it can be said.
581738
you can just tell by looking into their eyes... by their actions.  if they are honest they will never avert your gaze or make up lame excuses. they will always return your phone call right away and try to be involved in your life as much as possible
822998
He's just not that in to you, sorry...or he wouldn't have ceased contact...the "brush off" is a very common method of letting someone know they aren't interested (nowadays)...it's the cowards way of getting away from someone, versus being mature and telling them, so they aren't left hanging and wondering...\n\nWork on getting over him...you can't win the heart of someone who isn't going to make their heart available to you...
496998
You don't but if you suspect, try paging them or emailing them and if they respond . . . . . then you know. If not, then they are either really not there or they don't want to talk. Respect that.
439884
It means they really don't want to ignore you, but for some reason they feel like they have to.
68812
Let the relationship go.  It looks as though she is going through some very trying times, and needs support.  You are only worried about yourself and what you want and need.  She doesn't need the added pressure of you pushing.  Let her know that you are there and if she wants, she'll contact you.  Go do the Bible study
132702
I had that happen to me It is just that the person that your trying to get to go away wants you even more the more you try to get rid of them you just need to lay it down that you dont want anything to do with them and ignore them if they talk to you
608135
means U got more on the way!\nHope U get over it soon!