how does it feel when your husband watches porn almost everyday?
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I don't know about you sweetie, but an addiction is an addiction, and he is addicted.  Marriage is Respect, Admiration Passion and Trust.  For sure the first two are not there, since this is grinding on you.  And Passion is a bit tuff, if he oogles 13 year old girls on the computer,,, eeewwwwww.   You may trust him not to betray you by cheating, but hey, I trust my dog too. You don't have a marriage, you just don't know it yet.  You have a rommate..... Porn addiction is about the toughest thing of all to cure. ..... next question is why did you marry this jerk???? and in my eyes, any guy addicted to porn is a jerk.  How do you not find this disgusting????  And why are you still there????  In your place, I'd dump him and get out of this marriage.....You'll only grow to resent this crap as the years go on.... If you have children, you want this guy to be their father?????Sorry, sweetie, you asked
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I'm no authority, yet in my experience viewing porn as a couple is indeed harmful.\n\nFirst off, it creates an unattainable fantasy in each person's mind what normal, healthy sex entails.\n\nSecondly, porn is very addictive.  The more you indulge in it, the more hardcore stuff you need to view in order to "get off".  This can turn into a vicious cycle and lead to many problems ranging from relational problems to serious financial problems.\n\nHow do I know this? I've fought with this demon for years!
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i have the same addiction, feel like Kirk Franklin sometimes, and I have a wife. I'm good looking and I just can't keep away from porn. My wife is satisfied with me sexually and physically, if she knew about my addiction she would probably start to feel insecure. I feel the need to "look", no one that knows me will ever guess it, and I am a very outstanding individual in my circle of my city. I want to get professionall help, but I know that it will hit the airwaves. I can feel your pain, if you feel as if it has become a burden to you.
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Key indicators...\n\nMood swings, goes from happy to sad, feelin bad to feelin really good.\nMissing items, or missing money\nstays in the bathroom for a while, and if it is your spouse, you know usually when it is odd.\nIf he is snorting, then blowing their nose, before coming out of restroom, and wiping their nose..\nlack of sex drive, depending on what they are on.\nsleeping for very long periods.\nin a hurry to go somewhere..... \nI hope for you this is not the case, it is miserable. My husband has been on painkillers for years, and i had no idea, until after i married him, so it is hard to live with and accept...
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It can spice up a relationship that needs help or help you take care of your own needs once in a while, but too much of a good thing can cause problems.  Sometimes when people watch porn it gives them a false image of how things should be.  A happily married man becomes uninterested in his loving wife, because she doesn't look or act like what he's seen.  I say use with caution and sparingly.  Once in a while isn't bad, but you don't want to become an adict.
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Yes, it is too much to ask.  I don't see what having kids, him being on call, how often you have sex, or who you live with having anything to do with it.  You state these things but you don't say how they are relevant to your wish.  You haven't stated any reasons why he should not watch porn.  Now if you're saying that he watches it in front of your kids, masturbates to it as your in-laws walk through, leaves it on when he goes out on a call where just anyone could see it, and doesn't have sex with you more often *because* of porn, then you might have a complaint.  However, you say none of those things.
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Honestly I dont think there is anything wrong with it somethimes a guy just needs to relieve himself but doesnt want to push himself on his spouse. In some cases it spices things up. It doesnt necessarly mean that he is not satisfied. LOL if he isnt be gratefull he has settled with porn instead of other women. I will admit that i prefer to go at i tmore then once a week myself  Me and my gf go every other day or every two days but for some once a week is enough   good luck
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If he is looking at it every day and for hours I would say he has an addiction.  If you ask him if he could go on the rest of his life without looking at it and he says no then he has a problem.  Basically porn doesn't help anyone...they believe it does but it doesn't.  Research and see how many marriages or relationships it has broken off.  You just asking this questions raises a red flag.  Best wishes.
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If he likes to watch porn than let him. Just because you're married to him doesn't mean that you should jump right in and change his habits. Maybe you're not doing a variety of things with him that arouses him. If you just lay there, that gets boring. Try some new things and act and dress up. Spice things up a bit! I do a variety of things and my boyfriend barely watches porn anymore, but sometimes it's fun to watch it together to make it more exciting. It depends on you and what you like too. Just ask him what he'd like and tell him what you'd like. Just trying to help. I was in the same situation. I'm into them now, and it can get addicting. Hope this helps.
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i enjoy it very much!\nit drives my husband nuts =)\nbut i'm getting better in controlling my useless urge now lol
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PORN ROCKS!!!!! as you get older it gets better . once your married you have to hide it ... but i still watch it when the wifes asleep
724112
This seems to be a common thing for pregnant women.  I guess the swelling and extra lubrication makes your husband feel like your body is in a constant state of arousal.  Just enjoy it - some men are true jerks who get grossed out by their wife's pregnancy.
670987
I agree with 'leadbelly'....the real issue here is the sending of porn... funny Internet pics, jokes, stories.. are one thing but sending actual porn...that's another...addiction to pornography is a real problem...it hinders peoples ability to enjoy the real thing...contrary to 'jessica rabbit''s comment...when porn addiction is present you CAN'T meet the fantasy no matter what you do..it's not good enough..(do your research next time) \n   Do some research into porn addiction and see if your man fits any of the other 'symptoms'...you may already know the answer..and if he does try to get help because it will destroy a relationship
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I personally have nothing against porn.  But it does sound like your husband truly is addicted and that is bad.  What is worse is even if you could force him to give up the porn he would likely shift his addition to something else. Plus the addition means he's not dealing with his life stress well, most likely because he doesn't have the right tools.\n\nIn the end you can't make him do anything.  But I would recommend you see if you can get him to go to a support group.  They might better handle his problem then just a therapist does. Especially if the doc doesn't even know the real problem.  But if he goes to a support group, he'll be openly admitting to the problem.  And it sounds like he really needs that first step before you two will get anywhere.\n\nI would also suggest you seek out a support group of your own, even if you husband won't go.  Most likely your own therapist could recommend a local group, may even have local groups you can encourage your husband to go to.
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Men are visually stimulated.  The sight of a nude woman actually produces cascades of endorphines and dopamine in men, unlike women who are more touch and hearing stimulated.  If your married, and your hubby is watching a lot of porn, maybe it's time to step on the scale and think about laying off the Hagendaas for a while.
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Yes, especially when my hubby watches.
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The question to ask is whether your or his sex lives are unfulfilling.  Does he return to this online porn/webcams because he feels the sex with you just isn't that phenomenal?  If he enjoys your sex but just likes doing these other things, I don't see the problem, unless it affects YOU- i.e. you feel your sex life suffering because of his pornographic predilections.\n\nSome people do, indeed, become addicted to pornography, and it becomes a problem when it interferes with their lives or they can only be sexually aroused when using these materials.  Otherwise, it's just something he likes to do.  Still, it seems to be upsetting you, so the thing to do- the best thing, always- is to talk to him about it.  Don't set down an ultimatum or forbid him from doing it, just try to find out why he does it, express your feelings about it to him, and go from there.