How do I deal with my fiancee's psycho ex-girlfriend?
816891
Hire a detective to follow her and take pictures of her. She will get caught.
385037
Tell her if she doesn't like her partner, than get rid of him.  Otherwise, live with it and quit complaining.
634987
oh! i can definitely help you on that!\ni'm just like her! and you're just like my fiance.\nthough my trust issues are much better....\nhe messed up a few times in our relationship at the start, not cheating but we broke up and some other small things that added up so it got hard for me to trust, especially because the guys i had dated before him were the worst choices in males anybody could ever make.\n\nif she's had some relationships before you and she's always been the one hurt in them, she may be worried that it could happen with you both and she's a bit hesitant in letting the walls down complete....\n\nif you've done something in the relationship that's made her doubt.... compromise. my fiance and i have agreed on things i know will help, and i've told him "it's almost like a breakup, you just can't forget that easily, and it hurts so badly, but i knwo i can get over it with time"\nbe there for her, talk about it, dont let fights boil out of it, and if they do, don't end it just over that, relationships aren't easy (obviously) and they're meant to be very hard to show you "do i love this person" and if you can tolerate all of it then that's great.\n\ni'm just like her, i'm trying to forget things, but it's hard and so i read into every little thing and turn things around, or think too widely about them when really it just means what was said.\nsometimes women can overanalize things and sometimes we just would rather place judgement and be mad rather than think about it.\n\ngood luck, but please stick with her and talk to her about it.... you sound like my fiance and the world needs more guys like you who will (regardless of the tough times) stay no matter what becuause we're loved that much.\n\noh yes and how much do you know about her past.... if she had to be taken from parents, see why, maybe she saw how her father treated her mother, maybe he was abusive and cheated on her and such, and she saw it.... or heck maybe her mother did it to her father.... ther'es so many things that could be the underlying issue... stay with her and talk it out... you'll reach some agreement of what can be done and you'll be glad it's fixed in the end
1176033
I can relate.  First off, make your boyfriend get a lawyer to defend his rights and make sure the childs rights to him are met.  That way she can't use the child against him, for her guilt purposes or manipulation.  He doesn't want to look back and have crap over his head that he should sort out now and be done with.  I think that alone will put an end to having to deal with the ex only for about the child reasons.  Then have a talk with confidence about the ex situation.  She is trying to make him miserable and if putting trouble in your relationship is a way she will use it.  Don't sound jealous or too upset, just concerned and caring about what you two have now.  Let him understand that being with him also means you are part of this equation and your feelings matter,  Then afterwards have a great (you know what I mean girl) evening with him so he doesn't forget that working things out with you ALWAYS will pay off.  GOOD LUCK!
934163
You could be blunt! Tell her you feel unconfortable when she does this.. and that your happily married. Then point out how would she feel if everytime(old ugly whats his name) did that to her,,, how would she feel?
712975
She's one of those women who doesn't want the man anymore, but resent it when he is happy with someone else.Your boyfriend (husband) needs to put her in her place.  She has no place in your lives  and HE needs to make that clear to her.  Unfortunately when an ex-wife and kids are concerned there is always madness around.  Been there...done that.  Good luck.
1099557
Be nice to her, but you don't have to be friends.\nHer Ex is YOUR husband and not hers anymore.\nWhy is she still hanging around?\nShe is intruding on on your marriage.\nKeep her at a distance and ask your husband\nwhy he still needs her?\nBe civil and polite but do not make her to comfortable\nin your` life.\nThe things she said to you and about you to others\nare still in her head. Even if she has apologized, she \nshould get her own life and let the two of get on with yours.
546842
Be a friend first! Let her heal from the bad marriage, it could take awhile, so be patient. It takes an INCREDIBLE man to get with a woman who's been hurt and now she's somewhat bitter. Dude, you'll have to really want this woman! Expect her to lash out quite a bit, and constantly compare you to the ex, also it will take quite some time before she trusts you not to hurt her. There are LOTS of women like this (I'm one of them), and every worthless piece of shit "player" that you know creates more women like this everyday, makes it that much harder for the nice guys (if there's any left.) Good Luck!
170677
Trouble alert ... trouble alert...\n\nIf he is being controlled by her, you will not be happy. If there are no children in the picture, simply confront your partner - his ex-wife has no say in how he runs his life (again, in absence of children, and even then, only in how it affects the children). Let him know that this is unacceptable and that you want it to stop.\n\nNot bringing up the subject is going to cause trouble. His ex-wife will constantly push until she meets resistance - make sure that the resistance is there at a level that **you and your partner** are comfortable with.\n\nAnother problem - is your partner allowing this to happen? I don't know your situation, but is he entirely over her? Him allowing his ex-wife to control him is odd.
1068394
Are you kidding me? My lady would have my nuts for earrings if I tried to pull something like that. No other women comes before her. Ex-lovers...Nope, don't even bring the name up. Not if i want to sit and listen to her bitch at me for the entire night. If she even thought I was emailing and having open communication with an ex. It would be my a**.  You are his women and he should have at least a speck of decency and stop it all together. If he does not your relationship will break down for sure.
305962
If she's already his ex, there shouldn't be a problem. All girls are like that, you know, I know, so we have to take things our girl way.\nYou have a talk with his ex since he can't do much. Sit her down and make sure she listens to you. Just let her know what it feels like if she's in your situation. I'm sure she'll want the same help as you right now.\nMake her understand but do it in a polite way no matter how much you want to get rid of her. If you don't do it that way, she might not listen and will tend to make it worst. \nDon't push it too. Just go with the flow and take your time. I'm sure somehow, someway, she'll understand.\nGood luck!!
71099
Well, 2 ways. Im sure shes not the 1st girl in your life. So you've being with other girls as well. So just think of that. It makes you even.\n\nThe other one is that, her past life is her past life. You can't judge her or be angry at her for anything she did Before u. Know if it makes u uncomftearble just flat out tell her.\n\n" Baby, please don't talk about any of your ex's, it makes me sick to my stomach to think or imagine you with another man that isn't me" \n\nThat usually works.
994698
The best scenario is to talk to his ex in person one-on-one.  If she is a slut she will lie, if she wants a relationship then she won't.\n\nFamilies will not take your side, they will do what is in their children's best interest.  So don't take anything they say as the truth.\n\nI hate to say this, but you gotta play the game. If you really love him, you have to do everything you can to save the relationship.
412656
i would tell you boyfriend how you feel about his ex wife. tell him that you really don't feel right her staying there. she is worried that you are taking what she had first but how i see it she was the one that let go of him and she thinks that he is going to wait around for her to come back around a crap. i would tell him everything that you don't like about her, what you think about her. just tell it how it is girl. because that is just going to hurt you guys in the long run because she might try to say something to him or something that will mess everything up. or try to start crap.
869891
This poor girl is so traumatized that she doesn't know what she is feeling or how to get control of her life. The abuse she is subjected to has made her life become so severely distorted that her priorities are mismanaged. She is beyond knowing who she loves and too paralyzed with fear to know what is a right course of action for her. She is obviously easily manipulated both by what ever "stuff" you were telling her and by being trapped in this dead end abusive relationship with the monster boyfriend. To further compound her desperation she has fallen pregnant. You're correct. It is appalling. So much so that the abusive rat-friend of hers has taken total control of her life. Don't think for one minute that it was her decision not to see you anymore. What ever she has "stated" to you is through his will because she has no will of her own.  Her life is in complete control by that bastard she is shackled to. That pig is calling the shots. He's the one who has forbidden her to call you. He's the one who has brainwashed her into marrying. \nYou need to ask yourself how much you care about her. If you do care enough how can you intervene on her behalf to get her away from the abuse? It's almost impossible to get someone out of an abusive situation unless they are willing to do so. For her she would need a whole network of support.  For sure that guy needs to be locked up. Just hope that he doesn't kill her to make that happen. If he's hospitalized her once it's likely to get even worse. For now just wait and see what happens. She may soon come running back to you.
1011899
He had a baby with another girl while he was still with you? Why are you fretting over this guy - you should be glad to be rid of this jerk! I still have to deal with my ex-husband because we have a 10 yr. old together, and we each have 50% custody. But I look at it this way - my ex (a big jerk) has re-married. Now his new wife is stuck with him (and I'm not!). I am re-married to a wonderful man - I definitely got the better deal here! And like someone said earlier - living well is the best revenge. Be glad that he is gone and that she is stuck with him - someone better will come along.
560212
This ex girl of yours needs to get a life and take responsability for her actions. SHe's just trying to make you feel guilty.  Stay away from her, avoid her... otherwise she's just going to take you down w/ her. You don't need that. You are who you are.