What to say to 18 yr old unwed high school senior that just got a girl pregnant?
826075
There is nothing you can or should do about their decision to get married or them expecting a child. What's done is done, and now they're trying to deal with things in a responsible way. They're trying to do what they think is right and they're probably having a hard enough time already with those important life events and decisions without people making it worse by interfering. You should be a good friend, wish them all the best and don't judge them or give them a hard time over this, they're having enough of that already without you adding to the stress. Be supportive. You can do that without agreeing with what's going on. Don't let your friend down. It's their life.
141273
Dear Dad,\nI have found that what works best is speaking from the heart. You know you're proud of her accomplishments, you know you may not always be able to agree with her but you will always love her no matter WHAT. Recount how happy she has made your life since that day you saw that little face for the very first time. See if you can't manage to throw in some of the funny, goofy things our kids do make us laugh; you know, the things that they do naturally but to us is so comical. Wrap it up with the hope you have bestowed upon her and the faith you have in her and make sure she knows that you have every confidence that she'll use every tool, every learning experience, tackle every problem the way you have taught her to. Each and EVERY human being is as unique as every star in the sky. Brother, emphasize how YOU see her as unique to you and your family, her friends, your neighborhood or community. From your posted question alone it sounds like you have raised this girl to be meteoric, NOT mediocre. Best of luck :)
688498
you idiot this is how i ended up with a baby at 18.  how could you?  you took away her right to self determination.  i hope you are prepared to take care of a kid and a pissed off woman!  i hope she has an easy pregnancy because if she doesn't you will be paying for the rest of your life.  you men need to take condoms seriously.  stop playing Russian roulette with your dicks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
519169
If you're talking about college graduation, this is what you should do..."Mom, Joe and I are getting married after graduation.  We have our education under our belts, good jobs lined up, and have already found some affordable housing.  We love each other very much, are committed to each other, and want nothing more than to take care of each other"\n\nIf you're talking about graduating from high school, wait until the above speech applies to you.
57023
Yes, support her and help her through this pregnancy.  If she decides to keep the child (which will be difficult, but possible) help her finish high school by getting her homework for her.  If she decides to give the child up for adoption (the best choice) help her through this time by being there for her.  If she decides to end this childs life, pray for her, but don't give up on her.  This is not a good choice, I have been through it and I still regret it to this day. I am forgiven, though......
761893
Well...Only thing you can do now is tell ur family and ur baby's daddy.... At school they'll proboly excpet it before they reject it.... A girl at my school was pregnant and she is only 14. Everyone accepted her so u don't have to hide it.... Just find someone you an talk to.
499003
Tell Him you only had sex with the only men you love, tell him you are pregnant and you will  keep the baby, he will probably not merry you and that's okay because you don't love him anyway, but when you tell him make sure there are people around you don't want to get hurt.\n\nPS I was going for immacul......conception but i don't think is gonna fly
898623
if i remember correctly after reading this and all of the answers \nthis young gentleman was asking the following...\n"I'm a soon-to-be father"\n"Our cultural diferences have forced us to split up"\n"i was exploring options including abortion" Its not a crime to talk about abortion.... comon people\n"i attempted to gain a foothold in my child's life"\n"my baby's mother disagreed"\n"she doesent want me to have anything to do with the child"\n"she also stated that she doesent plan to seek child support from me"\n\n\nSounds to me like the mother has made it pretty obvious that things are OVER, while that situation might change... it was the mother that had told the willingly supportive father that she doesent want him to have anything to do with the child, nor does she want his money.\nIt sickens me to hear all of the responses of "GROW UP" and "Act your age" etc, its pretty clear to me that he was acting his age and was attempting to be a good father but unforseeable circumstances prevented it.\n\nNow your looking for a document that legaly binds your agreement? \ncontact the Human Services Department in your area and ask them about this same question and let them know your situation. \ni dont have an answer for you and i appoligize, i just saw all the negative responses to a legitimate question.\n\nI personaly do not condone in any way a negligent parent or one skimping on their duties, but from the sounds of things the other half made it quite clear that she doesent wish for you to be a father, even after you had tried.\n\ntoo sum it all up your just looking for a document that you both can sign that makes sure she wont turn around after saying she doesent want anything, and demand support?
332296
tell them your gay. or tell them you got your gf pregnant.
243421
I guess I would be sure she understood that there is nothing wrong with being a virgin, especially while you're still in school.  I would tell her that waiting for the right time with the right person is more important than anything, and that those that are making fun of her don't understand that.  I would tell her that having sex doesn't make you grown-up or cool or hip.  It can make you pregnant, or infected with disease, or at the very least nothing more than a notch on some immature boy's belt.\n\nI would suggest to her that the way to stop the harrassment is to stop being ashamed of being a virgin.  The next time someone said something about it I would tell her to say that she's proud she's a virgin.  I'd tell her to say it's far too important to just give away to anybody.  I would tell her to say that being a virgin beats being a sl*t any day of the week, and that being a virgin makes her more appealing to boys because they know she's not easy.
444556
Babygirl listen, you don't have to go there even though you already have. Girls these days always want to please these HORNY, NAPPY headed boys. FOR WHAT!!! Focus on school sweetheart. When he see's you going places and using your mind to better yourself, that's a powerful thing. \n\nIf you don't want to end up like your sister and pregnant at a young age, then quit getting your freak on. WHERE ARE YOUR PARENTS? They should be your inspiration to better yourself. Make school your top priority and excel at it as much as possible and any other hobby you like to do. When the time comes for relationships and boy's you'll know. If your into praying, pray about the situation. I've seen to many of my friend's who had babies at a young age and missed out on being teenagers. That life was not for me. I enjoyed being a teenager. PLEASE LEARN FROM THAT. You don' t let a boy disrespect you in anyway or pressure you to do jack squat you hear me!!! \n\nIf he gives you the old everybody's doing it, or all my boy's are laughing at me because I ain't getting none, or better yet if you loved me you would do it, who the hell cares? What matter's is how you feel and if that is what you want and are ready to do. Most teenage girls are not ready for that. It's the hormones sweetie. There outta control, but it's ok. Not saying you can't date and kiss boy's but the whole taking it to the next level might not be what you are prepared for (Dirty diapers and 3am feedings). Not football games and prom...\n\nBecause if you give it up and he drops you, you'll regret it, and he might not give a d*** about you. He might just be thinking with the wrong head. Just being real with you. I'm a bit older than you, and trust me when I say W-A-I-T, you'll thank yourself for it later, take care of yourself, LOVE LIVE LIFE...........................
740025
I think I know the reason why. Your girlfriend didn't want her father to know even if it was the right thing to do. But you did the right thing because her parents might be able to help talk to both of you about those things. She must know that her dad would be very angry and disappointed at her.\nYou should tell her that if her dad didn't know then both of you would be confused and inexperienced. You would have a hard time when she would get pregnant. Unless she took a pill or you took a condom. Try working things out with her... Good luck.
675599
im am sooo sad by all these young pregant questions if you are going to be stupid engouh to have sex at that young use a condom for heavens sake this is utterly ridiculos.  to the quiestion tell her parents if she is a big girl then she should do that right now.
836277
Tell her. Explain to her that you did not know that they were together and that you wanted her to know before she walked down the aisle with this jerk. \n\nImagine how she is going to feel if you don't tell her and a couple years down the road they have kids together and he is still cheating on her with other girls.
194153
First and foremost...PRAY. have her to purchase the morning after pill and Puleeeze buy some stronger "Jimmies"
177214
just come straight out-honestly is the best policy and shell appreciate you being honest and that will build a healthy base for your new relationship. but be tactful a little dont shout it out in front of her friends! just bring up the subject of age maybe and ask her gently maybe!
1086372
mitr says.... don't leave everything on fate... you have to go out and say her boldly... if you don't say it now, it might be too late for you to say something... she at present doesn't have a bf and also she has been cheated.. it will nto be easy for her to rely on a guy so soon.... but since she knows you from  a long time back, she is definitely going to consider you...\ndon't make her feel that you are coming to her just because of sympathy to what has happened to her... tell her that you had and always will love only a single girl in your life and that is her...\nmake her feel special... give her importance... give her priority.... \ndo something that will make her feel strongly for you... do something so that she actually remembers you 24X7.... it should be a real good one buddy, no matter how crazy it is... \nmitr says... lovers comeout witj some crazy ideas to make their beloved happy... use your imagination and get her.... ... no gains without pain.. you have to tell her about your feelings for her and that too fast.........\ngood lock....