why people divorce & mostly why the problem isn't solving?
827658
People get married out of loneliness, and later find out they are not compatible with their spouse.
420030
people get married because they are gambling on a feeling lasting.  the thing is a crap shoot at best. about 50% of marriages end in divorce, and most of them end bad.  But, if it's a good marriage it's better than anything immaginable.
1104645
Well, I believe that you are generalizing here. There are cases of cases and I can see from your statements that you haven't been there and don't know how difficult it is to have the nerve to get a divorce, specially when children are involved and you lstill ove the other person.\n\nThis is NOT the perfect world where everyone does what is supposed to be done in a timely manner. Consider the facts:\n\n-Divorce is EXPENSIVE\n-Divorce can take YEARS if contested\n\nIs it fair to put your life on hold while you soon-to-be ex drags their feet and don't show up to court?\n\nDo you know when love will knock on your door?  If so, give love an appoitment to show up exactly when your divorce is final. Come'on, get real.\n\nPeople separate, some can work out their issues and others can't. Don't put everyone in the same bag and judge others because that is God's job and not yours. Divorce is a painful experience and it takes a lot of courage to go througt it, everyone suffers, specially if there are children.... some women are scared of being on their own and stay for financial reasons because they have nowhere else to go.\n\nHopefully, you, the one that knows it all about life never have to go thru something like this and learn to un-love someone that you love and start over.\n\n\n------------------------------\nDear asker,\nPeople don't chooose to get married so they can cheat and be miserable. People are not perfect.....Are you???  Why are you so upset to have someone elses perspective? If so, you should have posted ... "only people that agree with me can answer". \nYou responded that I don't know what happens in your life, well, in your initial statement, you said that you haven't been in that situation, LUCKY YOU! so your is just an opinion, just as valid as mine, or you possess the almighty truth stick? Your question is "how do you rationalize" and then you go after me for answering your question...\nLife is long and you have no idea what lies ahead... there is a difference between the perfect life and reality, if you are in a happy healtly relationship, cherish it, but don't point  the fingers at others that doens't. Don't be insentitive towards people that are suffering.
72480
Addictions, e.g. alcoholism and gambling - 6% (5%)\nYou're working on a difficult topic.  You might try going at it from an alcoholism point of view and why it could/would cause a divorce. \nThis is all that I am able to find.  Blessings to you upon this interesting journey to fulfill this report.
913699
YOU R DEFINITLY NOT THE REASON FOR THE DIVORCE. \nSometimes married people fall out of love and then their lives become filled with trouble and it affects the children. I think if they fight a lot and cannot live together anymore it's better for them to break up. They will still love you and they will be better parents now and maybe they will become friends again.\n\nGood Luck
967839
Alot of people think divorce is the easy way out. You don't have to try anymore and you don't have to admit your own faults. Trying to salvage a marriage has got to be one of the hardest things in the world to do. It is filled with raw emotion that just runs away sometimes.  If people can keep their anger in check and concentrate on whats important in the marriage they have a chance. Other than that, I can't think of a way to save a marriage.
165333
Irreconciable differences,...\nIt's the # 1 reason for divorce.
1101036
None of the above ... I'm in the twilight zone of not divorced , not married seperateness that does not go away... cause when neither cares to remarry and yet you are still friends , why divorce?
568840
My dad (my parents have been married for 57 years) says that divorce is not an escape from your problems, just a new set of problems. That's why second and third marriages have a higher divorce rate then first marriages. Divorce is sometimes the only way to address certain relationship issues, but it needs to be as a last resort. Too often, people give up without investing any real effort.
758391
yes .............but i don't understand why people think even divorce why they can't try to resolve fights calmy......then there wil be no div........
273233
I can give you the below link, but that's really just dipping your toe into the pond of this issue. I would check out some psychology books or divorce advice books. Either of those two types should give you a much more indepth knowledge on what this issue is all about.
213063
Hey, I know how you feel. I'm the one who told my ex-husband that I wanted a divorce and it took him 2 years to get up off his lazy butt and have it finalized. As for why your ex-husband still acts bitter, I really don't know. MEN!!!
1061223
People usually get divorced for major problems that the reasons for the divorce go practically without saying. The reasons for your unhappiness could be depression, and you ought to consider the possibility of seeking counseling for yourself. Do you have a career that makes you happy? There are other things that could be causing you discontentment, other than just your marriage, and that should be addressed too.
452948
I'm married, and I take the vows I made to my hubby completely serious, along with my marriage. We may not have a whole lot, but it's my own little world, and I wouldn't change it for anything. I honestly couldn't imagine my life without him in it...it just doesn't seem right. My reasons for marriage was because I knew I wanted him for the rest of my life. Of course, we didn't HAVE to get married, but I see it as a way of showing the ultimate act of love towards another. What other way is there besides devoting your life with them to share in every single aspect? \nAs far as why divorce happens more in today's times, I think people just take it as an easy way out. Marriages are not easy to maintain, and when tuff situations arise, divorce provides an easy access to just start over. It's sad that marriages are not taken seriously, and that people are starting to just see it as a signed piece of paper, rather than all that it resembles. Of course, there are always exceptions. Some divorces occur for good reasons, like abuse or constant adultery. \nReally good question. Best of luck to you in life!
88582
I think they'll add to the divorce statistics. Running away from the problem never works. And getting married to do so only adds new ones.
691180
I would have to say because people here are selfish and dont want to put the others above their own needs and desires... We live in a selfish and self gratifying society here in the states.... It is supposed to be til death do you part but today it is most of the time til one person is unhappy do we part..... Very sad indeed.... Also states like NV allow divorce for most any reason and that is very sad too.... You need to be committed when you get married and be ready to be married! I only feel divirce is necessary for 4 reasons... Adultery, Fornication , abandonment with no intent of ever coming back and if the unbelieving person wants out and also in cases of abuse to the point one person may be killed and also if the kids are being sexually abused and hurt by either partner and they are not willing to get help or change.... These are the only reasons i believe in divorcing.... This is mainly my opinion here but alot of it is Biblical as well...... I dont know all of the answers to this and i hope others can shed light on this as well!
851401
cause people are into the easy way out, quick fixes ect ect most people these days dont take being married seriously enough so they end up calling it quits after only a few years.  its not about them being young, its about how mature they are as a couple and how much they love eachother. also its really hard just starting out money is usually tight so its easy to fight.