how do you know if your a burden to the family you are living with, if they are too kind to tell you?
818597
If you are worrying that you are a burden, subconsciously you might be picking up signs from them that they don't verbalize.  Rather than putting them on the spot and asking them if you are a burden, tell them that you are concerned about being a burden and ask them what you can do to help out.  Open discussion in a positive manner will alleviate your concerns.  Best wishes!
962653
im guessing you relate to it some how. might not be the exact situation they are going through, but somehow you can interpret it to your own life.
1184149
Do you live together?  If not, there's still hope... when ever she says something hurtful or rude, just change the subject and act as if she said nothing, don't humor her and keep it up... and she probably doesn't take you seriously.  When you have brought it up, do you sugar coat your conversation?  Just be firm and say you don't appreciate the comments she makes and you would like for them to stop,... let her know that it could cause some tension between your family and her and you are trying to avoid that situation.  She is probably disregarding your feelings because she feels you're over-reacting and is unaware of how badly she is making you feel.  I was in a VERY similar situation before, and there is no easy way around it.
707635
Dude i couldnt agree with you more.  No offence but for their own good put them in a looney bin and do it fast.  Thisnk about all the things peopl will say about you and your family when they see them.  Is that in itself worth it?
312702
If you think that you'r family would understand tell them, if not don't. But it is not good to live in lie. They wont probably understand you, but if they love you they must understand you. and you must understand that it may be hard for them. Remember one simple thing : YOU CAN NOT DENY WHO OR WHAT YOU ARE ! And the fact that you are a normal human being, loved and wanted by God (even if you are an atheist)
731759
Most of us have problems with our families. Just be firm and don't let anyone take advantage of you, okay?
769030
Everyone's family is different, but whenever mine is being too nosey, I'll either say something so ridiculous that they know it's untrue or I'll say something so brief that they can tell I don't want to talk about. For example, I broke up with a girlfriend around a holiday once, and everyone asked "how is she doing?" To the people who I knew who had a sense of humor, I'd say "She's in a Chinese prison. I'm never going to see her again." and to the others, I'd just say "fine." Your family especially will be able to read your body language and know if whatever they are asking is bothering you.
798914
I once helped a friend and her 19 year old daughter out when they became homeless.  They were living in their car.  During this period I paid their car insurance, fed them,  loaned them money and let them spend the night a few times.\n\nI asked them to Thanksgiving Dinner, they came, they ate, they stayed 5 weeks.  When they left they never said a word of thanks \nNot one single word................\n\nI stood in the driveway waving bye........3 months later they asked to stay with me again?  My responce was, I can give you a couple bucks but I really don't want house guests right now.\n\nI think I would have agreed, if they had at least said "thanks" for all the help I had given before. Doing favors and helping out  friends is just something you do.  But I think the level of kindness becomes burdensome without appreciation.
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try to strike a balance. your family loves you.\nmine did the same for me and i was glad i could help however i could.\nbut, remind them that your time is limited and set boundaries for yourself with them. good luck
296224
Any time a member of your family is out of pocket   you cna't help but worry.  Should you let it consume you? No.
656246
well tell her its ok and not to feel bad being adoped is not a bad thing you juss have a different family your family didnt want to tell you or else your gonna get sad and upset well thats the same thing your familt will never trust you again
869701
The old adage that says misery loves company is true.  Cruelty oftentimes is a cry for help.  The cruel person is saying I'm not loved by my family so I need to make someone else feel badly in order to make myself feel better.  Their act of cruelty brings them the attention they so desperately crave if only for a little while.  The worst part is that they are immune to the effects of their hurtful words or actions and feel justified in making people around them suffer for their own gain.  The people they hurt, however will be better off in the long run.  They know how to forgive and they learn from the experience gaining strength along the way.
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Prayer and sharing prayer requests \nbrings comfort and support to the family,\nbut also will help you.  What you have\ndone in telling about the situation helps\nyou not to keep your feelings inside and you\nwill feel stronger knowing other people\nwill be praying.
224452
Oh yeah. A family is one of the things you have that others unfortunately don't, so cherish it. You never know, you might need them someday.
940877
Just be honest and tell them you are looking forward to having them but that you will need some help with the expenses of feeding everyone.  They should understand and not feel bad about it.
749328
better than you i see!  just kidding. Just answer politely. If youve been good...say good...or fine. Or if youve been sick, say you had a bug for a few days but feel great now. And about this person who causes you problems...i have 3 people who cause a lot of problems..not just with me..but with the whole family and then some. Only one i see on a regular basis now. And when they start into their stuff...i try to always stay nice, unless they get nasty, rude or mean. Then i am firm. And that makes her quit. I dont stoop to her level, because that would make me look as bad as her, i go above her and just let her know that how she acts is not tolerated by me. And she ends up looking like a fool, and i get satisfaction knowing she made herself look bad in the process and trying to get to me.\n\nYou've probably heard the saying "kill em with kindness"?  It really does work.
196798
You know blood it thicker then water, so they are going to have to work it out between them or you can tell your family to back off and if there is a mistake to be made then you will make it on your own and hope they will be there to pick you up when you fall.