Is modern Marriage Death ?????
829796
Mr and Mrs Mav celebrated 20 years of him chasing me all over the house.
20214
If you are refering to being married for 20 years, and you are middle aged (ie you got married around 20 to 25 years of age), nope, that's not a long time.  In fact, that's a farily short amount of time.\n\nThe average long term marriage usualy ends after 30 to 40 years, rare if it ever makes it past 40.\n\nSo, if that's not what your asking, you need to be a bit more specific :)\n\n******Addition*********\nSunflower below brought up a good point, however the connotation states that they don't exactly beleive that it happens; however, the concept of time does change when we get older.  \n\nTime moves much more differently for 20 year olds than it does for 40 year olds, at least in regards to perception.  For most people of advanced age, time is of course a constant, however it can drag on without end.  Defining who we are based on acheivements or milestones, isn't eactly how one can properly percieve time.  \n\nWhat we do with our lives, and what we do with our time in regards to ourselves, dictactes how we can properly percieve time.\n\n**********End Addition************\n**********Information based on additions by asker******\n\nAs your question has nothing to do with marriage, and middle aged means betweeen 35 and 45, i would surmies that 20 years is indeed a long stretch of time for such a person.  However, if you really consider what your asking, 35 years - 20 is 15 years old; the perception of time between a 15 year old and a 35 year old is vast.\n\n45 - 20 is 25 years old; the same holds true that the perception of time for a 25 y ear old person is much different than that of a 45 year old person.\n\n25-15 is simply a 10 year difference.  Because of this, we can surmies that man acheives several distinctions and refinements throughout the ages of 15-20, 25-35, and 35-45 with regards to how time is percieved.\n\nI supose this also has to deal with how we wish to see time.  If we lead a stagnet life, where nothing changes, that time itself isn't seen much different than when the stagnation began to show itself.\n\nHowever, if what we have been doing has drastically changed from age 15-35, then i would surmise that our perception also changes; one, for example, is the perception of time moving fast in highschool, and dragging in college.\n\nThe same premise holds true when you consider the ages of 35-45; if one's life has become stable, and predictable, then the perception of time from 35-45 would only changed when that life became stable, and anything thus after would be constant.\n\nI would also assume, however, that from the ages of 46 to old age, that time is also percieved differently.\n\nIf the routine changes, it is not impossbile that our perception of such a time will change.\n\nDo i blieve that 20 years is a long time for a middle aged man; that depends, is the question in relation to 20 years of monotony, or 20 years of constant change; either way it can be long time if it is taxing on the person.  However, monotony is percieved as a long stretch of time; and challenge or excietment is percieved as a fast movement of time.\n\nSo this really is subjective to the experiences, ect, of the person who is asking the question.
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i saw this really interesting show (daytime talk show)(could've been oprah...)in which people with different stances on gay marriage spoke their minds. the guy who really left an impression on me was an older gay man (40-50)who said he was with the same man for like 20 yrs or something and he in no way had any desire to ever marry,  period. obviously it wasn't a fear of commitment, he simply stated that marriage is a union between a man and a woman and so he was not a part of that equation. he also said, in lieu of the insurance arguments(ie: not being able to acquire insurance through your partner because your union is not recognized by the law), get a job! i thought this to be kind of bold because in some instances you have people with disabilities in relationships with others who are capable of going to work every day and insuring them; but if they are in a state that doesn't acknowledge gay marriage, they are in a state of S.O.L., if you know what i mean... i think that it's a shame when two devoted partners can't enjoy the feeling of finality that i felt once i became married. and the divorce rates are so high i don't know why the conservatives are so concerned with whether or not gays marrying threatens the sacredness of marriage. nothing really is sacred anymore (don't mean to sound hopeless but let's face it) babies are having babies, every day people make empty promises to each other and "god", and every day people break them. people go on t.v. and advertise "i'm hot and want to marry someone rich and hot" selling them selves, but 2 people with legitmate feelings for one another are not allowed to cement their union with a formal term and ceremony... just doesn't seem right at all... just sharing my thoughts, great question though!\nhave a good day!
1064777
No..  I just wonder how long their marriage would last..  Now days, they last less than 10 years..  Very few are still married more than 10 years...  HMMM  What's wrong with this picture..  Do they understand what their VOWS means????  When they say the VOWS, I guess they took some of the words out or change the wording...  It would not be "Until death do us part"..  It would be "Until we find someone else do us part"...
1058322
Companionship, love, to have a family, loneliness, doesn't hurt to join incomes either. No one wants to be old & alone, young looking for safe sex, & most of are want to marry our eternal mates & have lovely families. 33 years of marriage & would not change a thing, I love him as more today than ever. Had all our family over this week for Son's new baby & there were 58 of us.\n"We are family" I highly recommend marriage.
596529
Yes, I believe if two people are in love, they should be able to wed. If they want to make that kind of a commitment and are that secure in their relationship, which I doubt I will EVER be that secure, let them have at it!! I do have a problem with them raising kids though. And I would hate to see a divorce between 2 gay men. That would be one hell of a cat fight!! I think a lot of people are coming around to this point of view since a lot of states have legalized same sex marriages. It was a very good thing indeed!! Thank you for asking!!
50206
My husband and I have been married for 29 and one half years.  Some years were great some not so great.  But we hung in there and are more in love today than when we married.  Best wishes.
508654
Yes and no based on why those events took place. Marriage appears to be the way of life in the society so most of us are getting married. That is the divine way to continue the  life cycle. Divorce is a result of modern civilization. If purpose of life is to have peaceful life and then for some divorce may be a solution.
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I'm 52 with two grown sons. Both are married. My husband and I taught them, by example and discussions, about what it means to commit to each other for a lifetime. I know what you are saying. \n\nI do think that too many people get married with the thought in the back of their minds that if it doesn't work out they can always get a divorce. Having said that, I do believe that today's young people can get married and stay married. \n\nI told my sons that it's easy to fall in love. It's the staying in love that takes work. It takes two people to make or break a marriage. If they work hard at appreciating their wives, loving and caring for them, and their wives do the same in return, they will grow old together. \n\nI don't see marriage as a chore, but as a wonderful haven where I can leave the cares of the world behind. My husband cherishes me and I cherish him. It's up to the older generations to teach the children how wonderful marriage is. The fact that young people get married at all gives me hope that they do want a till death do us part relationship. According to the National Center for Health Statistics there were 2,279,000 marriages in 2004. \n\nIf we are going to increase the chances of marriages lasting we have to share the wisdom we have gained through our own marriages. What works and what doesn't. How to balance work and family with family being the number 1 priority.
434115
People seem to think if gay marriages occur it will somehow ruin the sanctity of the institution.  They also seem to think the ethics of the world will go to pot.  I think that's crap, though.  Straight people have been ruining marriage for years.  And, homosexuality is there, marriage or not, it won't increase the amount of gay people or anything like that.
965254
Good morning, dearheart. Good for you. here's my take on gay marriage. I've been married to the same wonderful lady for the last 26 years. She drives OTR semi for a living and I'm a housewife. We both wear wedding rings and feel as married as the next heterosexual couple but I can get none of her health benefits. How my union is hurting society I can't fathom as our relationship has been monogamous for all of it's 26 years and that same union has lasted longer than many heterosexual marriages. There are couples on the LGBTQ site here that have been together for over 40 years (which is a great thing in its own right) How can their love be hurting anyone? Good luck and Blessings on you.
919342
Probably 75 % of the population will get married sooner or later. The remaining 25 % will not, for one reason or the other. I have no statistics either way, only my opinion.
472693
I think it is good to see people commit to a marriage, it really doesn't matter what race or color. When it comes down to it, we all came from the same place-right? If you are really in live with your mate, then marriage is honorable. After all, you won't be spending the rest of your life with dear old mom and dad, so you've got to follow your heart on this issue.
366439
People just don't take marriage as seriously as they used to.  People are just more selfish now, I guess.
543555
America has a high rate due to selfishness.  If the other person doesn't do it for you, hit the road, Jack.  Marriage takes commitment, work, and the sacrifice of your wills for the benefit of the other.  In essence, IMHO, if you are not willing to die for your wife, then you are not ready for marriage.  I love my wife so much I would be willing to die in her place.
111306
Pathfinder, your statement, "Marriage is the union of man and woman for the purpose of procreation (to keep the human race going)" is incorrect.  Elderly hetero couples not capable of producing offspring (senior citizens) get married as do young hetero couples that cannot produce offspring (because either the man or the woman is sterile).
619803
Not weird at all.  Many people think marriage is an outdated concept, especially with the divorce rate being so high.  We aren't natuarally monogamous creatures...you can live with someone for the rest of your life without being married.