why do guys try to go back with their ex girlfriends?
819473
because they are stupid and insecure these are the men that need to get a backbone
568152
First of all you need to tell your ex to get over himself! Hes the one that messed up therefore he shouldnt be trying to get back at you! And even if lets say you were the one to cheat first then oh well lifes tough and he needs to move on! You and the "new" guy shouldnt even pay attention to your ex. I mean he is your EX hence the word EX as in he doesnt matter anymore! You guys should just ignore him and be happy!!
917182
We all get hurt, welcome to the club. Letting a past relationship affect how you treat other relationships is called "baggage." Release the bags as soon as you can and start fresh. You'll eventually get over it. \n\nIt's not a question of whether you deserved it or not, but more like what kind of motivation this guy who left you has. He may be a lying player, or he may be a nice guy who found someone he relates to better. It's hard, but dwelling on it hurts more and delays the process of getting over it.
550177
Guys aren't the only ones who do this.  I think the reasoning is that they want to feel wanted.  This way they kind of broke up but can still claim a relationship while they seek or commit more time to another relationship.\n\nI had an ex girlfriend tell me whs wanted to "take a break".  I gave her a break, I dumped her.  There are no "breaks" in relationships.  You are either in or out.  But that's me personally.  If you want your space, I'll give it to you, and I'll find someone that wants me in their space.  Not anymore though, I'm married.\n\nHope that helps.
952288
That guy is TOTALLY a rebound and after seeing what else is out there, she probably wants you back. Only small caution I'd say is that she could be using you as a "back up" because she wants to have you as an option just in case. \n\nMost likely, she just wants you back though and realizes that you are what she wants.
619136
You're ex is an ex for a reason. Don't live in the past. Face the future and all its possibilities.
621088
Why get back together with him?\nThe deal is you broke up with him. He's moving on. You should too.
772889
Lots of reasons... it could be anything from he actually loves the chick and wants to be with her, to the sheer fact that he knows she'll let him sleep with her and he doesn't feel like making a lot of effort trying to sleep with another chick.\nPersonally I haven't a clue. I've got an ex who wants me back... and I want him back... but I don't know what I'm going to do yet because we've broken up twice, once because I cheated, and once because he did. (Neither times were *technically cheating*, because we didn't sleep with anyone else, but since when is cheating a technicality?)\nBut anyway good luck figuring it out... it really all boils down to your judgement of the situation.
1039460
there was probably something he didnt want to tell her....maybe another girl? but whatever it is theres no trust or communication in their relationship... she shouldnt go back with him..he wont be worth it.
281811
Maybe he is still friends with your ex.  Now that the big head is thinking again he may have some remorse.  He may have really just been trying to get his leg over as well.  If he doesn't call you, move on.  There are to many guys out there that would give you a bell after.  Go give one of them a try.  All the best.
332558
2 out of ten!why do that,do you want to go back to your same problems again when you were still together?thats crazy
891103
The same thing happened to me. He's just trying to get you jealous because he knows u will. Girls do tht and obviously he knows tht.  I broke up with him and he wanted me back and asked me out again. Since then we've been going out. Don't worry it's a guy thing and i was wondering too why he was doing tht and he told my friend it was just because he was jealous
1150267
Why would you want to get back with your EX HUSBAND . there had to be a reason for the breakup in the first place . RIGHT? Sorry for being so blunt about that issue!
651209
Its hard to let go of some one & you tend to remember the good parts of the relationship & the bad times get forgotten so its easy to get into that trap where you start to wish that you was still with that person because your remembering the good times. This new girl friend is probably not what he expected her to be & is therefore starting to miss you. If he found a girlfriend that was every thing he wanted he probably wouldnt be knocking on your door. If its you thats asking the question " do you love him or is it out of habbit" the answer is if you loved him you wouldnt have to ask this question.\nHey I still miss my ex & we split 4 years ago but we are  best friends now & have a great frienship but you have to remember why you broke up in the first place as its unlikely it will change if you get back together.
112736
He's probably very insecure and by making you jealous he's assuring himself that you care-it really sucks doesnt it? My question is: Why be jealous of his EX girlfriends-they are EXS for a reason!!
834177
i've had sex with several of my EX girlfriends much later after we had broken up.  i think once you've had sex with someone its easy to feel comfortable enough to go back and sex again. even if it's just a one nightstand with an ex. most of the time the ex is the one asking for it not me.
390236
It's a situation of comfort versus the unknown.  If you date someone new, there's no familiarity.  With an ex, you have a certain comfort zone.  Also... our minds are hardwired to mute the bad memories and bolster the good ones.  It's a psychological coping mechanism.  So a person remembering their ex will remember the good times and, especially if it has been a while, often ask themselves why they broke up in the first place.  After thinking about it for a short time, though, that same person will remember the REASONS for the breakup.  But... it's a lot harder if they broke up with you, easier if you broke up with them.