Why do people think that doing a guilt trip, that's it's going work?
813380
Well they work so well for the people that let it. For instance if there's someone in your family or that you know that CAN NOT say no, they use guilt trips as their best weapon.  Good for you for not letting them get to you, they are a terrible thing. It's blackmail. ! :)
566946
Could be guilt and they need to take it out on someone. Don't put up with it...
735792
they do it because they think they are being compassionate.
731996
It can work but don't expect to be happy.\nWhy would you want to do this to yourselves?
357850
I think the real deal is people are led to believe that they don't have to work the program.  That perhaps they just buy this package, and then go wait by the mailbox for the checks to come rolling in.
1022240
There is no justification for pushing guilt. God does not make you feel guilty. That is from the dark side. God will convict you of sin by making you aware. The devil likes to make people feel guilty so they will self medicate through everything from sex, to drugs, to work, etc. It then becomes a round robin because you then feel not only guilty for what you might have done off target, but you will also start to feel guilty for the addiction that is robbing your reality. You then need more of what ever is keeping your mind off of the problem and that opens the door for more guilt. Don't let another human being judge you period. If they are not trying to help you tell them to buzz off and keep looking for help. If you seek you will find. God will never point out what is wrong with your walk without a solution. Satan is the author of guilt.
533020
I think, and you can underline the words "I think", that its because people fear to take responsibility for their actions. So they conveniently place the issue in God's hands thus relieving themselves of having to take responsibility for the outcome. Like chemotherapy in your example. It doesn't always work. What then? Does the mother go around asking herself "Why did I put him through all that? He died in greater pain and it took longer and etc. and its all because I decided to ..." See what I mean? Its easier for people to let themselves off the hook. Makes it simpler latter too. God makes a good fall guy. He almost never takes up for himself. :-) ~ Peace & Blessings ~"
590964
I hope you are truly comfortable with this decision. Sometimes traveling on the road of life you come across a fork in the path, step over it. \nAs far as my opinion goes, which is not far, it rarely strays from home. I do not think you require my validation about the decision you have made. So by that measure I think what you are doing is just fine.
911113
Well you pretty much answered your own question..thoroughly I might add. That's a silly Catholic guilt mechanism designed to control people when a person who knows better wants to control them. I'd imagine that the people that dish out this nonsense rarely believe it, it simply gives them more control in other peoples lives. Good to see you see better than that :)
225563
Most of the time they aren't but you have to do what they want or lose their business. It s*ucks but its true.\n\nSometimes they are right, but then you dont feel as annoyed to do what they want!
696765
i agree and if i tell someone I'm going to do something, i do it unless breaking the plans in unavoidable, like a sickness or something.  some of our so called friends make plans with us and then if something better comes along, they forget about us. i don't appreciate people like that and we don't plan stuff with them anymore.
604874
Yes it does sound like christians are shooting themselves in the foot. its quite amusing. I also think that on some subconciese level that the guilt fear and shame inside them darkens thier hearts until they are unaware they are doing anything wrong or believing anything wrong/.;
168340
It depends on the person and what goes on, but in most cases I would guess that people worry too much about making something good turn bad that they pass up on the whole good thing entirely.\n\nSometimes you just have to take the risks and hope things turn out alright in the end.
592657
because they are fun.\nit sounds silly but thats the truth. all the things  that you name are very enjoyable things to do. it sounds like a pretty good weekend to me.\nmaybe its because people are not brought up with such good morals and ideals as before, or maybe its because in an increasingly stressful and difficult world, you need to go that much further to relax from the day to day grind. me personally, i think that they are all excuses to make you feel less guilty about enjoying things. all of those things are bad in excess but so are most things in life. many people have sex, take dugs, smoke and drink and enjoy a very productive life. one of my family members, however, drove their partner to divorce after discovering god and spending every minute at church. i'm not for a minute saying one is better than the other, but people should also respect the choices that others make in life, be it for good or bad.
1087405
I assume you are asking about other roommates that don't pull their weight. I've had the same problem, if this is the case. I just do it and I don't complain. It puts a guilt trip on them and then they start pitching in.
415816
No.  It isn't the morally right thing to do, and you'll feel guilty also.
891050
I don't think so. But I know when I dishonor either of them, I may be happy about it at the moment, but in the end I feel the guilt. Sometimes when I think about how much/the look on their face of disappointment, I get mad/frustrated with myself for not knowing better.