Do you find that it's easier to just live and let live?  It seems that judging something only fuels the fire?
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Yes, I do. We need to worry about ourselves...\n\n“Attack the evil that is within yourself, rather than attacking the evil that is in others”\n- Confucius -\n\n“The gentleman calls attention to the good points in others; he does not call attention to their defects. The small man does just the reverse of this”\n- Confucius -\n\n“It is not the failure of others to appreciate your abilities that should trouble you, but rather your failure to appreciate theirs”\n- Confucius -\n\n- Atmadeepo Bhava -
858894
Don't any of you people have control over your life? A free being determines what comes into and out of ones life. Why should it bother you what people say even if it true or not true. Your worst enemy can be your  best 'guru'. Your 'reaction' is your choice unless you are a robot.
565513
I think we all do it.  The question is: how do we respond when someone does it to us?  If we respond in kind (get pissy or huffy or rude) it just fuels the fire.  If we could just understand the power of realizing that when we treat people who are nasty to us (for whatever reason) with a little kindness and compassion, they will usually show a whole different side of themselves.  We all seem to have hair trigger tempers these days and ugliness begets ugliness.
86813
Feelings can almost always be trusted to be true. People who have lived with hardship in their lives are wiser for the most part, because no one wants to go there again. Those who had comfortable,practically protected lives have no clue, and when their day comes, as it surely will, they will have no clue how to handle what is thrown their way. Those of us who have suffered hardships no how to appreciate life in a very special way.
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To each his own.  I'm no one to judge, and neither is anyone else.  I'm sure I like something that most people don't agree on, but I'm not going to stop my life, or stop enjoying it, because of what people think.  If you're happy, that's what matters.
74501
only if you let it...\n\nyou keep your mind alive...\n\nyou can only feed the fire....
514621
IF ANYONE LIVES LONG ENOUGH ,THEY WOULD AND SHOULD HAVE BOTH REGRETS AND HAPPYINESS....NONE OF US MAKE 100% GOOD DECISIONS -- NOR ARE WE COMPLETE FAILURES....PERSONALLY, I HAD A VERY SUCCESSFUL CAREER,BUT THEN SH*T HAPPENS....I AM CONTENT TODAY, BUT NOT TOTALLY HAPPY.....I KNOW GOD IS IN CHARGE...AND THOUGH IT'S NOT AS GOOD AS IT ONCE WAS...IT'S NOT AS BAD AS IT ONCE WAS EITHER!!!
281657
Its because it makes us feel better when we can find flaws in others. Or differences that we can ridicule. Also if we can be a judge, we feel power full.
173023
I think that we all have the capability to choose... and that we also tend to choose the easiest option.\nOur choices depend upon our perceptions, where we live, and socieoeconomic status, among other things. \n\nI believe that some people have learned better coping skills than others, but still may not use them because it's easier to choose the "more unhealthy" actions. \n\nI once worked with a 4 year old who had "antisocial personality disorder". This is a pretty serious diagnosis for such a young kid! He had poor impulse control, and violent outbursts. He was a great kid. He really intended to do good. Sometimes he just got out of control. With the help of the teacher and his parents, we were able to minimize his "violent outbursts". It basically boiled down to his choice- which he understood. By the end of the year he was able to come and tell someone that he was feeling out of control.\n\nOverall, people tend to do the best and easiest thing that they know how to in the moment.... if one is a "good" or "bad" person is probably up to god or karma or someone else but me to judge :)
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Yes I used to do that alot. I agree to do something I don't really want to do or agree to an opinion because it is just easier to do so. And I found that I was starting to hate myself for it. \n\nRight now no matter what situation I'm facing I either say what I REALLY feel about it or keep my mouth shut and not let myself do anything I dont want to. I get into trouble sometimes because of that honesty for some strange reason. But at least at the end of the day I'm perfectly okay with myself. Don't let people tell you who you should be or shouldn't be. It's something we all hate but sometimes do to ourselves. But now that I stopped that I'm much more relaxed and happier, even if I find myself different than what people expect (or want) me to be.
359133
OMG that happens to me all the fricken time.  Also, I have oticed that when I pass judgement on people like "I just can't understand people who do 'this'...I am soon put in a situation where I am forced to act the same way that I just passed judgement on.  I learned not to pass judgement on anything this way.  BTW, LD, have you ever wondered what it was like to win the lottery?  lol.  I don;t know about you, but it doesn't seem to hold any weight with stuff like THAT...
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What we do in life is our own decision thats why we have decision making skills. Ive made good decisions and i ve made some   really dooze of bad one's. Where i am going.. Im still on that path, its been a heck of a trip that i would not have missed for anything doozes and goodies.  All I know is that embracing life no matter how hard is a learning experince.\n\nSomething is learned out of something. ive never been afraid of death its apart of the natural state of things how can you be afraid of something that comes when it comes? its a wast of time (to me) energy should be used to live . the old cliche Smell the roses, besides im more afraid of the How ill die not the when. The idea of being in a nurseing home never has appealed to me. Great Universe let it come  swift !! nursi ng homes etc would be worse(for me)
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I try and live my life in such a way that I can say that.  Don't a lot of people? As a parent I try and ask myself those kinds of questions frequently to make sure I am teaching what I want to teach to my child.  Over the years I have found it's better for my own mental health to give up the things I had to lie about.  My husband does say I am fearless - it's just that I don't see the point in using up my energy being scared.
1001722
Yes, and it's to become enlightened.  Along the way I found that I  can made the rules. Trust God, Clean House, Help Others.   ;>)
461223
Hey,Great question!I sometimes wonder the same thing.I can often give great advice!But I rarely can advise myself.And making important decisions,is nearly impossible for me anymore.Even when I know what is right,and what would be in the best interest(s) of my children and I!Perhaps,I am afraid.Afraid of change?I don't know anymore.But again that was a great question,as I have said!It really made me think!Anyhow,Have a Good one!P.s. Nevermind!lol!Sometimes,I laugh at my own questions and answers(after the fact that is)Is that normal people?lol..Oh yeah, and hey does anyone ever talk to one's self,and also answer one's self too?That's always fun!Anyway,have a good one!
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To be honest no,maybe i used to when i was a kid,but then i learned when i see someone performing better than me in a field that i want to perform better,i don't waste time hating etc. i try to see what he/she doing different than me and learn from him, and as a result get better myself,according to me when you're in that kind of a situation you have 2 choices either you can try to bring down others to be equal with them,or try to get yourself up to be equal and even surpass them,i always choose the latter.
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I hate less all the time.  It gets easier and easier to become forgiving as time goes on if you get on that track.  I don't think I was ever particularly hateful but now the only thing I seem to hate is hate itself, and when people chew with their mouth wide open or panic.