I'm falling for a policeman,what are the pros and cons if i get married to him?
831654
Pro\n- If you need police help, he might be able to call in a favour and fast-track any police work.\n- You are less likely to have problems as who would annoy the wife of a cop?\n- Extended surrogate family of all his work buddies and their families.  Good network.  This could also be a bad thing if you don't get along with any of them.\n- You will have a husband who is trained in the disarming and 'containment' of any scum that breaks into your house while you are home (or who attacks you while you are out), therefore making things safer for you.\n- He will be required by his work to maintain a level of fitness, so you will have a buff husband.  Unless he does undercover work which requires him to let himself go.\n\nCon\n- he could get shot and leave you a widow.  \n- Crims could break into your house and shoot you all while you are asleep\n- You won't be able to get away with anything illegal, unless he is corrupt, which I hope he isn't.\n- some people may think you get an easy deal being the wife of a cop, but really - don't listen to them.\n- He could be harder on you - law wise - because you are his wife and he will make a show of not letting you get away with breaking any laws.\n- Depending on his job and who he works for, you might get kidnapped and ransomed cos he pissed off an underworld figurehead.\n- Any undercover work where he is associated with drugs, as this may require him to take them himself, which may change his personality.
791961
hmmm.... I guess it's all in the factors of the scenarios.  When the cops pull you over, do you have drugs or alcohol in the vehicle, or were you just speeding?  If you were just speeding, it's a costly nusciance but if you have other things, then you're in trouble.  And, the opposite sex person, is it someone you are really into, have put in alot of yourself in the relationship, or is it someone you are initially interested in?  hmmm... I think I'd rather be pulled over for a speeding ticket (it's not as embarrasing and doesn't give you that blah rejection feeling)
727164
huh?...well what the hell I'll take a stab at it anyway...do you love someone already? then marry them...if not and you are not likely to meet anyone for whatever reason and you are getting older...go for the arranged marriage...never know you might love him after a while...it could happen..
1127727
being a married police officer i would have to say no we don't. i know i put my wife thru hell from time to time. it has alot to do with the crap we deal with from day to day. when i copme home from work i find myself snapping over stupid stuff. then again i do work with some great people who make great husbands and wifes.
555576
Lol. well congrats on getting it. m fiance is in response and he loves it, well all except the paperwork.\nErm I'm split on the whole gun thing. I don't like the thought on the police relying on guns but then arguably they are more likely to be put in dangerous situations then the average Joe. And at the day they have other methods at their disposal such as CS gas, handcuffs and an asp (that name always makes me laugh).\nIt's just a case of not putting yourself in unessesary danger. Good luck.
450890
First off, you need to go with your heart. What ever is meant to be will happen. If you have ANY doubts what so ever about your current boyfriend, DO NOT GET MARRIED! You will regret it sooner or later. And if you are in love with your ex and can see it working...go for it sweetie, don't lose him again!
108699
Sweetheart, I've been in the same boat except I was like 13 and he was 18. You're so very young, and i know you love him and he probably loves you too. But if they catch you even kissing him, he could be put away. Do you know what they do to guys like that in prison? Hopefully you don't. Listen honey, I know you want to be with him forever but trust me in that you're going to get older, your tastes are going to change, you have your whole life ahead of you, and it's not fair to him to make him wait. I had the same situation, and here I am, 7 years later, getting married to the most perfect guy in the world. It took me so long to realize what I wanted in a life partner, but I found it. And the guy I was in love with got married and had a beautiful family. So it all worked out and it can for you too. I'm sure he'll understand.\nBest of luck to you hon.
121904
you have to kind of like the person who you want to marry.\nI think your family's point of view is as important as yours. and even if you do not love that person, make sure that you do nto hate him.\n\nIf he is nice caring and faithful you will fall in love later on in your life.\n\nAll the Best
690838
i love the city i live in,,,the one anoying thing about it is that there are a lot of police men around the place who hastle young people,,,but without them i must confess that police look so damn hot in there uniforms,,arrest me when you like Mr policeman. tie me up and indulge in your sexual pleasure with me.from dave.x
864952
U NEED TO  DO WHAT MAKES U HAPPY, SO WHAT UR FRIENDS DON'T LIKE HIM\n\nTHIS IS UR ONLY CHANCE\n\nBE BLUNT, FOWARD, HONEST, AND OPEN COMMUNICATION ARE THE KEYS TO REMEMBER\n\nWHAT HAPPENS IF U END UP MARRYING THIS PERSON ?\n\nU NEED TO LET UR FRIENDS KNOW WHERE U STAND, THAT THERE ARE THINGS THAT MAKE U HAPPY AND IF THEY CAN'T ACCEPT IT THEY DON'T HAVE TO.\n\nI HAD THIS PROBLEM SEVERAL TIMES, AND I EXPRESSED MYSELF TO BOTH PARTIES, AND THEY BOTH UNDERSTAND HOW I FELT, AND GUESS WHAT ?\n\nI ENDED UP MARRYING HIM BECAUSE I KNEW THAT THIS WAY MY ONLY CHANCE\n\nAND AS FAR AS MY FRIENDS WERE CONCERNED, THEY ACCEPTED IT, AND THEY SHOWED RESPECT TO ME\n\nWE BOTH PROVED THEM WRONG, THEY SAID THAT WE WOULDN'T LAST NO MORE THAN 6 MONTHS, AND WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 2 YEARS
625445
"I love you." \n\nSaid that to the police officer who was about to give me a ticket. He wasn't fooled, though.
753577
First off ... how old are you? your spelling and and grammar is awful. \n\nI think he sees you as a easy way in get into this country (basically you are his passport).  \n\nDon't let him fool you, he will be acting that he loves you, and he will properly ask you to marry him!!  Sorry to sound so down about it all hun, but the truth hurts! \n\nI am sure you could find a decent English man over here, who will want to date you for being you, not as an easy target to get into the country.
1106056
You respect your friend's choice. He only likes you, you are still deciding what to do. But, your friend is already in love with him. So, as a true friend you should help them to marry. It is not something unique that has happened in your life. It is a very commomn development. Nor you will be doing any sacrifice or great service to your friend. You will just be behaving like a normal civilised woman. That is all.
228017
That depends on the cop! Some are good and some are bad. It also depends on my current behavior and what I've been getting myself into if I like or hate them. My dad used to be one, and I won't even get into what kind of cop he was!!!
420733
i am illegal too. but i am looking for a lady to share my life with. i do not need any permit. lady, if you realy loves him, do not think about what others are telling you. relationship is not a football match where people come to  watch . keep your love affairs to you self. i mean let it stay in doors. we are all illegals on this planet, that is why we die.
1070626
You could try some fantasy role playing. Get a pair of cheap handcuffs and you could be the hooker and him the cop. You could take turns hand cuffing each other and having fun!\nAnother one is to get a plaid skirt, make it very short, put it on with your tallest heels, a blouse and then walk into the "principals office" and tell him you have been naughty and you want to find out how he is going to punish you! Just stay within the limits that you are comfortable with and have a great time!\nYou sound like a very loving wife and I'm sure he knows how lucky he is!
663833
Ask yourself why is it he is so in a rush to get married is he an illegal immigrant, does he want you for your money, what because that is kinda strange to me to.\n\nLook marriage is a committment for life a vow that should be cherished between two people until the day each die you need to sit and make sure this is the right man for you because if he loved you their would be no reason for him to just run off and want to get married he is in some kind of trouble.\n\nI am quite sure you want a nice big wedding and your family their if you run off what is your family going to say and how are you going to feel so take a minute and think about it and question him if you need to