Advice needed: falling for my kind of ex friends almost ex husband?
817069
you have to back off and let them work it out. Let the guy know you'll be there for him, but people make mistakes and they are still married. If he still wants the divorce it'll go on. But you need to step out of the relationship because she could use that against him now that she is wanting him back. I've been there done that. I was the wife who made mistakes and wanted my ex back. He didn't want to make things work, so we divorced. Good luck and don't make things worse.
376265
I think that you should pass on this friend.  I know you love her and that you will miss her, but she is headed in a different direction than you.  You have yourself and your future hubby to think of - don't let guilt feelings make you invite her when you think she might bring that guy and ruin your wedding day.  It sounds to me like you are better off without her.  You can enjoy the memories of the friend she used to be.
778492
Give it a lil more time if u still fell that way and things r still not going well with your husband then u need 2 take some time 2 yourself. then if u feel free and up 2 it try and c if things will work between u and your ex, but b careful. \n\nGood Lcuk!!
46763
It depends on the two of you. I know a ex married couple that stayed friends after 24 years of being divorced. Thats a long time and a rare occassion. They are my parents lol. Now if you ended on bad terms and are trying to get along then probably not. Or maybe he is still into you and just wants to end it before he gets caught up into the feelings all over again knowing that you can never be together.
537858
yes, i do think about him, but i would never leave a perfectly good relationship for one that could be. I have actually been looking for my ex but i would only want to talk to him as a friend now. I am happily married, it would just make me happy to know that my first love is also happy with his life. I would even try to pick up a friendship with him, just as long as it doesnt come in the way of my relationship with my husband
274344
It is pretty obvious that you did not have everything resolved when you divorced the ex.  I think the only thing you can do at this point is to discuss your feelings with your current husband.  There is a reason why you are with him and this is something that if left unchecked may cause a problem in your current marriage.  Next, maybe you need to seek counseling with your current husband in regards to your feelings about your ex.  I am quite sure there are people out there that still have feelings for their ex's, but they realized they are divorced for a reason.  I guess what I am saying is you need to do some soul searching and try to limit any problems before things get out of hand.  Be honest with yourself and seek whatever help you need to preserve your marriage (current) because that is who you chose to spend the rest of your life with.\n\nGood Luck with what ever you decide and I'll pray for you!!!\n\nWT
876303
I know how you feel. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months because of ex. problems. However, you are married and don't let these two that apparently do not have a life of their own ruin this for you.\nThey are looking to create trouble, see what kind of reaction they can get and if you give it them, it will continue. The best thing is to totally ignore it. When someone approaches you with a rumor, tell them , that subject is no longer open for discussion. Don't feed into this B.S. Good luck
1099557
Be nice to her, but you don't have to be friends.\nHer Ex is YOUR husband and not hers anymore.\nWhy is she still hanging around?\nShe is intruding on on your marriage.\nKeep her at a distance and ask your husband\nwhy he still needs her?\nBe civil and polite but do not make her to comfortable\nin your` life.\nThe things she said to you and about you to others\nare still in her head. Even if she has apologized, she \nshould get her own life and let the two of get on with yours.
1126082
I understand why you're thinking about him, but for the sake of your relationship now, do yourself a favor and just write the ex off.  If he's great or if he's dead, nothing good can come of tracking him down.  How would you feel knowing your husband went looking for one of his past sweethearts?  \nExes should remain where they are.... in your memory.  \nLooking for him will be also looking for trouble.  Trust me, best to just let it go.
148765
You stay out of it until he is divorced so you don't get caught in the middle of it.  Tell him you will be his friend but until he gets a divorce you can't be anything more.
1131255
Wow, I am in a situation similar to yours as well.  My next-door neighbor and I grew up together, and I found out that he had a crush on me since we first met each other, which was about 7 years ago.  I was in a long-term relationship with my ex, but me and the neighbor remained friends throughout the whole time.  We didn't start getting closer until the summer of last year, when we started hanging out more and more, and I finally saw a different side to him, a kind, considerate, more gentler side.  We became fast friends and I started developing feelings for him.  We eventually talked about it and we aren't together now (mainly because he's in the military and is about to go to Iraq---he didn't want a relationship while he was over there), we have been talking and thinking about the future, because the feelings are definitely mutual there.  To make this long story short, you should tell your neighbor how you feel about him.  Who knows, he could have the same exact feelings.  Take things slow and gradual, and something could eventually escalate from that.  I'm very happy right now, even just as best friends, and even though it's hard for us to really hide our feelings for each other, I definitely know those feelings are still there.  Wish you nothing but the best!!!
853045
I guess what you really need to ask yourself is, why do you need your ex's friendship so bad?  If you love your husband, then you would not do it because you know it will hurt his feelings.  Believe me, I just went through  a sitaution VERY similar to yours.  I don't know what the realationship is like between you and your husband, but if you can't let your ex go, then maybe you need to re-evaluate your marriage and find out who you are first and what you want.  You need to think of what is better for you in the long run compared to what sounds nice right now.
683338
I have a really really best guy friend ( woman here), been friends for 5 yrs now. He has been w/ me thru everything. I am married now but b4 now, he wanted to be more than friends. Told him I didn't see it that way, it would ruin our friendship I thought. That if he didn't see it same way, we coulndt even be friends no more. Still friends today!..Some things are better left alone!
584698
u need to tell him or otherwise u will dwell on it 4 2 long and the right person 4 u wont be there at all....my best friend told me that he liked me when he knew that i was in love w/ my husband (he wasnt my husband then tho)...he knew it was never gonna happen but he did it neway...we're still best friends...if ur friend is the kind of friend u say he is, then he shouldnt mind u tellin him at all
157768
From a guys view point. I am in the same situation with a lady whom I have been friends with for years. We were both always seeing someone or married now we aren't. I ask my self the same question and after a couple of months of being with her several times a week and talking daily I came to the conclusion that because we are such good friends and know each other good and bad faults that it would make it eaiser to become more than friends. If it doesn't work then you should be able to remain friends after all you started out that way. Lay down some ground rules like what happens if doesn't work. And enjoy yourself we only get the chance to be happy once this could be it for you. I know that I am glad I ask her out as more than a friend. As a good friend of mine told me "Tomorrow is never here and today is gone to quick" \nGOOD LUCK
1098677
You need to just back off. if you are comfortable in your relationship and with your man it will all be ok. \nI am almost best friends with my husbands ex (I took him from her twice) and it is a great relationship. The two of you have at least one thing in common.\nRemember that they broke up for a reason just let it go. He is with you now.
826500
Snagg him up before someone else does!! after i got married (to my best friend) two years later i met another guy that is now my best friend and if my husband and i ever parted, i would choose my new best friend as my new life long mate. It helps that you guys are already best friends, that's a good stable foundation. Good luck, and make sure to tell him how you feel. Even if you don't say, show it.