My boyfriends racist family?
824468
To some families race is important.  If you read the bible, you will see why some families believe that races should not mix.  He is not the one with the problem.  It seems to be his family.  If he is not strong enough to break it to his family...he is not strong enough to be in an interracial relationship.
265899
As a person who grew up and lives "down south" and who has lived in New England as well, I'd like to respond to this one...\n\nIt depends on how they're raised. In my family people are people, we're part Cherokee, my daughter is multi racial and even my relatives that most people would consider "rednecks" have no problem with that. I dated who I wanted... Native, black, white... I dated guys I liked because of who they were, not what they were...\n\nPeople hate what they fear, and fear what they don't know... If the only people they have met from a different race treated them badly they will tend to lump all together...\n\nThere is a big difference between "southern" and "bigot" and tbh I met just as many bigots in New England as here... it is just more hidden, people tend to "stick to their own" and not socialize outside their race much, I noticed. \n\nAlmost as bad as racism was this hypersensitivity to anything that might possibly construed as a racial issue (this was mostly white people) and being constantly aware of it like that is a sign that you are racist I think... If you never really think about what color someone is, then you are color blind, if you're constantly aware of everyone's race then you aren't...\n\nIgnorant, intolerant and judgmental people live all over the place... north, south, USA, Mexico, Europe... no one country or area has a monopoly on it.
172164
Kukm kum you donot say why your family donot accept him?\nIf they have a real reasons that is ok but thier reasons are silly go with your man
168573
Well my girlfriend and I are both PRODUCTS of interracial relationships (me: black/white  her: latina/white).  and we occasionally get hasseled by lame-os who don't think our being together is cool.  And still others who don't think our PARENTS being together is cool.  But Screw them.  We learned not to care what other people think long ago.  That comes with hearing so much racial crap as children.  You soon realize that race doesn't matter, and neither do the people that think it does.\n\nI really hope that you're able to distance yourselves from these negative people that are giving you a hard time about it.  And once people see that it doesn't matter to you, most of them will start to see you two for the PEOPLE you are.  Not the race.
788645
first of all, I believe that most fathers would jump down the throat of a man who just wrecked his daughters car and caused her to have to go to hospital. That's not a race thing. Had he been a black man I'm sure the same would have followed. However, there is an adjustment when one of your own(so to speak) dates a person of another race. They should have been over it by now, dating for three years, so perhaps it's not his color that's bugging them at all. Maybe it is just his character.I'm a white woman, whose sister married a black man, and I remember how hard it was on my parents for a while. We all realize that people are people and wouldn't it be such an easier world to live in if we didn't see race or color, but unfortunately it is the way it is, and how do we change ones opinion? We don't. We just have to take a hold of our lives, and do what is absolutely best for us. If this is the man you want to spend your life with, well, your parents can't stop your heart. And as for his family"economic class", that's their class, not his. He will establish a class of his own. Whether they're poor or rich, he's neither yet, that has yet to be established until he is on his own, with his own life. If you were only doing this to spite your parents, I'd say you're making a huge mistake. But if you truly love this man, your parents won't abandon you, at least not forever, follow your heart, and best wishes with your future plans.
970590
Oh I struggle with this constantly but for different reasons. My parents are addicts. There comes a time in life when you must concentarte on you. If those around you, particularily family have reached toxic levels where they are poisoning your own life, it's best to back off and distant yourself. I would not write them off entirely, I've thought about doing it myself, but it all comes back to they are family and we cannot choose our family and like them or not, through them we are here. I don't know how old you are, but if you are younger I would suggest possibly just distancing yourself and speaking up with the issues you disagree with and make certain they know that it hurts your feelings and do not entertain their ignorant remarks and actions by giving any other reaction other than telling them that at this point and time you do not agree with their opinions. If you are young, there could be possibly something else going on that they are actually concerned about that you aren't seeing just yet. However if it's purely based on race, I'd keep my feet planted in your beliefs and hopefully with time after you stay away from them for awhile they'll realize their love for you is stronger than their hate for another.  I wouldn't give your father any special treatment either, because he is encouraging everyone around him by not speaking up if he truly is aware of their issues and agrees with you. Sounds to me like your father may be ignorant as well, and only agrees with you in private for fear of losing his little girl. All you can do is stand strong in your beliefs, distance yourself from how involved with them you are, but I wouldn't write them out entirely. Now if they begin to do anything harmful that causes extreme physical or emotional grief then I would cut them off entirely. Hopefully with time though and your distance from each other they'll see that they were wrong and have second thoughts on their ideas and opinions, especially if the man you love becomes a true gem and treats you the way they always hoped a man you'd find would. Good luck though, racism is ugly and deeply rooted in those who are and often continues on in people out of their own fears. Just be thankful that somehow by the grace of God their ignorance didn't rub off on you as you were growing up, as if often sadly the case with those raised by parents with beliefs such as that. Enjoy the love you have found and ignore what they say. Find comfort with the one you love and through his family until and if yours ever comes around to their senses! God Bless you dear. Oh and pray for them because it sounds like they need it!!
555824
I have the same problem with my family.  It got to the point where I wasn't even talking to my own mother.  You need to tell them that this is what makes YOU happy.  Maybe you can slowly start bringing him around (for dinners, b-days, etc).  This will show them what type of guy he is.  Most importantly, they need to see that he is a real person, not just a "black male."  Have him send your mom flowers or something-- just to show her how sweet he can be.  Don't sacrifice your love for their ignorance.  Good luck!
1050676
Have you talked to you mom about this?    Family is about love not color.  MY family is mixed to,we have 6 kids..  my daughter is African American,Indian,Italian. I married a Mexican. so we have alot of mixes we call it his your & ours. Is someone making you feel different or left out?  I would try to talk it out with my family or talk to the person making me feel like i don't belong. FAMILY is about love and caring, if they give that to you your half way there and maybe you need some time with someone from you dads family to get to know your afican amercian half.
401583
If that is the case, there is absolutely nothing you can do.  It would really be up to your boyfriend to speak up and mention to his family that he is in love with you.  If he is not saying anything to his family about you, you might as well kiss your boyfriend good bye.
355600
trust me, you dont need to go to the ghettos to get an african american guy thre are plenty of them living in good suburbs and nice places than even whites. if he is your boyfriend and you are planning to get married then move on have his baby, infact mixed babies are so beautiful than none mixed whites. congratulations.
567899
If you know you can take him...make him hit you or push you first and then kick his ass. I would! Nobody should talk about your family. I know its wrong to fight, but you have to get your respect. Good luck!
414149
Avoid them like the plague!  You're outnumbered.  If you MUST be with them, respect them and show them by example, how NORMAL people would react.\nEVERY family has a couple odd-balls!
1022956
Of course it will. If his parents are ethnic Eastern Armenians... chances are they're intolerant of their "little boy" dating out of his own ethnicity. But if they're tolerant... then yeah. You're good. It's not his family you have to impress. It's him. (I'm speaking metaphorically...)\n\nMy sis dated a Salvadorean guy. They worked out just fine. :-)\nMy parents are ethnic Eastern Armenians... but unlike many who are like them, they're fairly tolerant of others. A lot of Armenians are very, very Racist. Stereotypically, Eastern Armenians hate everyone. Western Armenians think they're better than everyone else. But for every hating person, there's a caring one, too. If his family is cool... you should be fine. If not, screw 'em. If this guy's really good... then you shouldn't care how his family is. More love for him, lol.
767069
interesting how many of the answerers in here assume they know what race you are.\n\nIf what he says bothers you its going to grate on you more and more. Best to get it out in the open now and talk to him about it. It's way past time.
1165434
From personal experience, I don't think its wrong. It shouldn't matter who you love or what race they are. All that matters is that you are in a loving, caring relationship.\nBe prepared though that not everyone will feel this way and not everyone will support you. There will always be people that will have something negative to say about your choice of partner. However the world is becoming more tolerant to such issues because there are way more interracial couples and babies out there nowadays.\nWhen my parents first got married, my grandfather asked them "what are you going to do with the children?"...my mom is black and my father white...and my mother replied very smartly ..."name them".\nMy grandfather didn't even want to be seen in public at a restaurant with my mother back then but now he's gotten used to the idea of my sister and I and now loves to take us girls shopping and spoil us rotten.\nI like being mixed. I think I have the best of both worlds. I don't consider myself black and I don't consider myself white. I am mixed race. I am equally black and equally white. I wouldn't choose one or the other if I had the chance.
994470
I don't know about all that. My husband and I are an interracial couple (the first for both sides of the family) and I told my parents about him as soon as I felt that it was serious & I was in love & going to be spending alot of time with him. (as did he) I don't know your bf or his family, but I do know that in some Muslim religions it is shameful to date outside of your religion or race & is punishable by DEATH. Maybe he is afraid to tell & if that is the case I would be too, and I wouldnt pressure him to tell. Good luck :)
646495
Blacks are not immigrants.......if you were born and raised in the US, you are not an immigrant. Yes our black heritage traces back to Africa but I am not an immigrant. Your whole idea of the black race is screwed up because maybe you watch too much TV, or you applied your few bad run ins with blacks to the entire race which is wrong. Its crazy that your husband is black and you want to change him, in essence you want to strip him of his heritage and want him to embrace what you feel, he say the things he says because he has been a black man all his life in which thats all he know, you can't say anything about him or how he feels towards whites until you lived in a black mans shoes or a black womans shoes for that matter. Your whole stereotype of blacks is crazy. I am black and well educated. If you feel so strongly about the miseducation of the black people why don't you reach out and try to help rather than put us down!! Then the whole religious aspect you are trying to imply is a whole different story and I do not want to get started on that with you because I am a God fearing woman myself..........BE BLESSED!!