I'm confused... could I be transgendered? Or would I know already?
813791
Well, you say that you would feel more comfortable as a male, so I guess that would be true.  You DEFINITELY don't have to know from childhood that you were transgendered.  There are people who live their lives fine, happily, and then, at 20, 30, 50, 60, whenever- realize that they want to change their sex.  Knowing beforehand is not a prerequisite.\n\nShouldn't you really want male reproductive parts?  Not necessarily.  I mean, there are two different things we're dealing with here, sex, and gender.  Your sex- hormones and genitals and breasts, and something very private.  Few people- mostly doctors and lovers- are only going to see your sex.  However, everyone will see your gender, your presentation as male, and how they react and treat you and interact with you is a big part of gender, much more than a mind-body mismatch.  I think that's the heart of your feelings, and I think that you are transgendered, but not transsexual- i.e. you want to be taken as a man, but it isn't as though you're trapped in a woman's body, but rather, trapped by society's gender definitions.  So break free of those definitions, if you want, by passing as a man.\n\nI hope that helps- and just remember, I'm no expert.  Just trying to dole out good advice if I think I have some.
660003
I *thought* I knew but now I'm all confused...
518672
It's a personal journey , everyone is different.  My best advice would be to NOT be afraid of what people think of you.  Remember always your life has to be for you, not anyone else.  Nobody can tell you how to "find" yourself, figuring that out is part of the whole process!  Look, hon, I'm 30, and I still haven't figured out who I am....  Good Luck!!
665369
I've wondered the same thing myself recently. But I've concluded that you can never really know who you are, because you're constantly changing and growing. So you shouldn't expect other people to understand you either, because you're different so much. Keep on writing though, you'll be happy to be able to look back.
997325
Horrified.  Because I like being a woman.  I would probably be a cross dresser.
204959
Of course, and I happen to know someone who fits that description!\nPlease note, though, that transvestite and transgender do not mean the same thing.
51177
I've often wondered what it'd be like to be a man, but I don't want to be one...However, if I could just try it for 1 single day, I would....yet, I'd still want to be a female...I'm happy being a female. :)
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Please, before you take any steps with changing any part of your body, get counseling from a professional.  \n\nThere will be alot of changes taking place within yourself and you need to know what you can and should expect.\n\nGood Luck with your decision.\n\nHave a lovely rest of the evening.
977834
You better go to a doctor about this.  You might be transforming into another being.
390361
what everyone else said....don't worry about those weird thoughts going through your head, and don't worry about wondering  who you are, because you don't recognize yourself anymore.  You are growing and your hormones are raging and might make you do things you wouldn't normally.  Try to be kind.
868151
Oh YES. Tell. Immediately. That's not something that should be kept a secret. The only transgendered person I ever knew (best dang hairdresser in Minneapolis, by the way) was very upfront about her operation, and all it entailed.
709699
I have a vagina (i think thats what its called).  What exactly is a vagina?  Does that make me a female?  Could I be pregnant since I just thought about sex?  I also just felt a strange pain in my toe!  Could I be pregnant?!  AAAAHHHHHHHHHH! =0)
497182
It sounds like you're bi curious. This curiosity will continue to grow until you decide to act on it. You may or may not like it. But, if you try it. At least your questions will be answered.
941287
You're probably not as confused as you say you are.  Your body knows what it wants, even if your mind is unwilling to accept it.  \n\nI suggest that you avoid sexual relationships with everyone until you've had a chance to form some non-sexual relationships with people who identify as gay, in addition to the relationships you already have with people who identify as straight.\n\nOnce you get to know some gay people, and understand that they are just people, like everyone else, then you might be surprised how your feelings inside change about your own sexual identity.
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My advice would be to really take a considerable amount of time to think this decision over and talk about it with with your family and friends, as well as mental health care professionals. Because once you convert to the opposite sex there's no coming back and the implications will obviously be huge. (I'm assuming, of course, that you have surgery and/or hormone therapy in mind.) If you're serious about a sex change operation and an entire lifestyle change, I would recommend making an appointment with your regular physician and asking for a starting point. Your doctor will probably refer you to a psychiatrist who'll need to evaluate you; I'm pretty sure it's required by law in most places. Good luck!
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Ok, so I was in the exact same situation when I was your age (I'm 37 now).  I had a great gay friend tell me that I was gay.\n\nI was in denial, but I was also confused.  Take your time and let things work themselves out.  Don't be afraid to question your sexuality and don't let anyone try to influence you one way or the other.\n\nGood luck!
754641
at the moment , I am in a state of confusion !