Should I send my kids to the ghetto when they're bad?
818752
u can just send them to the trailer home next door to yours where they can have the same experience with Hank, CHelsey,and they rest of your family
515943
Gosh - this is serious.\n\nOK - I guess you need to have a chat with your boyfriend about this and tell him how it makes you feel and ask for his permission to discipline them in order to protect you own children.  It is your place to ensure your children are safe.  And they need to learn what is and what is not acceptable.\n\nPerhaps it would be best if you both agree appropriate ground rules and suitable course of action beforehand.  \n\neg be nice to your children, do not go in your room.\n\nThen make clear to them when they next come what will happen - they will get one warning and then if they do it again there will be consequences.\n\nThey'll soon wake up if (for example) their misbehaviour results in them losing treats (or if it's your house) being put outside until they're prepared to apologise, or being sent back to their mothers early (unless that's what they want).\n\nIt is important that you do act on this because the longer you wait the more they'll believe that you're inaction means that you agree with their behaviour.
1000077
NOOOOOOOOOOO.\nWhen the marriage is really bad.......the children can see it !!  They hear the yelling.......they see the other person treating you bad !   It's a horrible way for children to grow up.  It's better for them to live in a peaceful home........ even if it means less money......... you brought them into this world....... let the children live in peace and happiness, please.
491923
I think the reason isn't because of the "ghetto" itself... it's because of the vast majority of children being born to unwed women/girls that happen to live in the ghetto.  I believe that most of the bad things that happen to kids (early and later in life) happen due to not having a man in the house... for support, discipline and guidance as well as being an overall stabilizing force in the home, church and community overall.\n\nGood luck in school... take advantage of your opportunities and leave the baby-makin to someone else till you are married.
465432
urrhh thats kinna scary..\n\num..i think you should send him to one of those boot camps for like the kind for the kids who dont listen to their parents..yea i think you should totally do that\n\nGOOD LUCK!!!!!\n\nAsoo<3
522874
try talking to them like you would to children that don't listen......be firm and strong  ... it works for me i get all there attion ....good luck! take care!
28845
I would go if I were you .Your condition alough painful is not life threatning and downs children are very loving and need routine .So go.
188600
It is not possible to say that you have been a bad kid, especially because of the way you have expressed yourself here in your question. I think sometimes you should have been trying to help them out when they needed or asked for your help. That would make them happy. Just because you are not bound to do something does not mean that you can never do that. Of course you should try to make your parents and siblings happy. They were always hurt by you because each time they needed you beside them, you did not allow them to have you. That is why they got used to think about you in this way that you have had been a bad kid.\n\nDo not worry about the past! If you are willing to make everything alright now, you can do it by telling them all of your words those you explained to us. Try to make them feel your words, feel you heart and that will help to make the situation better.\n\nBest of luck!
394287
Just try to stay neutral when the kids ask why daddy isn't there.  You don't want them to remember you "bad mouthing" their father, even if what you say is true.  I do not know how old they are, but as they grow up, they will see and figure out what is going on.  Just always assure them that it is not their fault, and that you are there for them.
277439
i know this is a hard situation, but think of the kids. if he doesn't want to see them and doesn't even feed them when they go, don't send them.  it will be very difficult for them but in time they will see that he is very bad for them and they are better off without him.  kids are resilient, be strong and be there for your children and love them a little extra to fill the void in their lives they may feel at the moment.  god bless and my prayers are with you and your children.
765314
they act that way out of insecurity...they view themselves as inadequate losers and have a compelling need to act tough. \n\ntake it from someone raised in an inner city: the "ghetto" culture is the most vile culture to be raised among. the only thing a kid learns from his "gangsta" friends is how to be nothing but a disrespectful, ignorant and overly-depending leech.\nIf you have children, and if the kids in your neighborhood act and dress "gangsta", please move away to a more decent environment.
110882
Calling the police will get the kids to stay out of the street.  By making the call, the police will stop and talk to them, and tell them to stay out of the street.  Usally an encounter with police will make a kid really think next time before doing that again.
934820
Talk with your parents about this, and perhaps the schools guidance councellor.  The children there seem quite unruly and I think what you describe only happens when there is no adult supervision around.  They may have no clue it's going on ... except for the broken items you mention.  You need to let adults know there's a problem .. start with your own parents and follow their guidance.
852273
1. Get out of this roach infested crap hole that we are renting and buy my kids a real home.\n2 --- 5  - doesn't matter- need to get my kids out of this situation
1090359
You are looking at it all wrong.  Use this time to drive them crazy.  Depending on their ages give them chores that you hate and they despise.  Drag them to places only you want to go to and wear outfits that totally embarrass them!  I have a big red hat with purple ostrich feathers I wear to humiliate my girls with.  And I am not even old enough to be a red hatter.\n\nOr send them to grandmas for a week to torture them and send their noisey toys - you know the ones grandma ______ or aunt and uncle bought.  Send it with rechargeable batteries and a battery charger you teach them to use for added joy.\n\nlol\n\nEnjoy them while they are young.  I miss being able run around and goof off with my girls.\n\nKathy
862375
Boy, your mom is so blessed!  No, nothing wrong here, more kids should love their moms like you do. Relax, "YOU" are normal, I don't know about these kids who treat their parents like trash.  BRAVO!!!!!!  :) Arum
1163347
I could tell you stories till you beg me to stop. Most children go to State homes-they are not adopted and many do not have family here to take care of them. A few in numbers do fine.\n State homes--you would not believe what happens to many here-especially if they go to Foster homes. I listened to stories on a daily work basis--they are sad. Visit a home and ask them. 8 out of 10-wish they were not left here. Sad but true. I won't go into what happens to most-because of adult content. Oprah once said when she interview some--it is one of America's dirty secrets. Most parents leave them for selfish reasons-I heard them too. they hope they will all benefit. If Mother's would listen they would not leave their children with other people.  I don't know where you are headed with this-but yes go talk to the children who grew up on the State-there are many-more than are left with family. \n That is the bad side-but there are some good stories-but if you weight them out -the worst happens.\n So who have babies and have kept them here--how many are doing very well. Few in numbers I bet.\n\nCan you hear a pin drop  in here?