my friend's bf won't "let" her wear makeup!?
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I agree. He's selfish and he's so insecure with himself that he is trying to boss around into not allowing her to beautify herself.\nHe isn't her father nor is he responsible for the decisions she makes. He doesn't OWN her, he only thinks that he does. She can wear makeup if she wants and she should do it... He doesn't respect her if he's trying to make choices for her. She has the right to do and wear what she pleased, he has no say in that! I guess practically every woman in the world is a skank, according to him, because most of us wear makeup even if it's just a bit of mascara!\nAnyway, this seems to be the beginning of a controlling relationship. Help her to get away from him ASAP or else he will only control her every action for his benefit and she'll become even more insecure then she is already.
780598
honey, there is no way to force someone to see you differently, be your self. don't ruin your friendship. maybe some day he will change his mind, but for now just be his friend. it might be that if you try to force this issue, he will not even want to be your friend.
673402
Thats what its all about. Drama!! Your friend lives for the controversy that she creates around herself and the attention that she gets from it. I'll bet you anything that if she were to find the nicest guy in town, that would never ever think of causing her any grief, she would drop him like a hot DVD!!
960790
It is hard to deal with pressure from your "friends" believe me i've been there. my once "friend" talked about one of my other friends behind her back because she didnt have a BF so we made one up for her and it backfired in our faces and then they made fun of her even more. the best thing to do is tell your friend you are tired of her comments, and if she doesnt stop then try not talking to her or not getting upset when she says these things. usually people will stop joking if they know it doesnt bother you. The main thing is to NOT make up a BF it will backfire. \nHope i helped!
73080
Ok, so I had this problem too. My friend told me that I should tell them that they aren't my type. That way, you aren't exactly telling them what you specifically don't like about them. Or you could make him break up with you by making yourself unattractive or doing things that he doesn't like.
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Do NOT tell all your friends to "stay away" from your boyfriend.  This is called possessiveness; it's both unattractive and disrespectful.\n\nTake it as a compliment that your guy is so attractive to your friends.  Now, if one of your friends takes her flirting too far, have a private talk with her.  If your boyfriend is truly loyal to you, his loyalty is what matters most.
274853
Well with your friend.  I had the same situation.  She is your friend she just needed a ride.  Don't let it bother you to bad.  She might come around she might not.  I wouldn't give the guy anything just let him stick around and charm you but dont buy him anything!!!
1013500
well maybe you should go to beauty school so they can teach u how to not wear alot of make up!!
494670
Well if she said "No" to him and he can't respect that, then tell her not to see him anymore...  If she said "No" and he still did it, then you need to speak to your friend to report it....\n\nYou should not confront him or report it, because she told you in confidence.  When she is ready, she will do so...\n\nJust support your friend in any way that you can.  And try to keep persuading her to report it....
800883
I know exactly what you are going through! I was always worried either of them were going to pull the question "Me or Him" or "Me or Her". Luckily I talked to my bff and she and I agreed on walking to school together and my bf and I walk home together, while she and our other friends walk home in an opposite shorter way home. If you end up doing something similar make sure it's even for both your bf and bff... my bf had basketball practice after school on Wednesdays so that also gave me and my bff more time together, while from 4:30-7:00 pm on Sunday nights I would go to church with my bf... so it was even and no relationship was broken... and my bff and bf didn't have to spend any time together!!
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She sounds like she's confused. next time you talk to her, just tell her that you think she's cool but you don't want to get in the middle of her and her bf's relationship. If she wants to be friends with you that's fine but if she wants to take it further she needs to say bye to him. Good luck!!
686164
Just tell him that you found his remarks very hurtful.  If he's still your friend, hopefully he finds something other than good looks interesting about you.  I'm not pretty, either, but I have a nice personality (even though I do say it myself) and I ended up with a good husband who loves me for that rather than any good looks.  Good looks fade; a pleasant and caring nature doesn't.  If your friend can't see that beauty is only skin deep, he still has a lot to learn.  And you'll have to learn to forgive his shallowness in that respect.
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Don't pay attention to your friend. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I am sure your friend means well, but don't pay attentio to her. you need to go by what it is that you feel and what your heart is telling. \n\nIf you feel that there is a problem, you should talk to your boyfriend about it.
194930
Loosen-up.  If you don't you'll lose your daughter.  She's at the age where your relationship is going to turn one way or another...if you can't sit down and tell her why you don't want her in make-up, do you really expect her to come to you for advice about boys, drugs, and sex?\nAt this age i would allow minimal make-up and monitored "dates" (you taking the two of them to the movies).  She needs to know your on her side.  I don't know what to think of a 16 year old boy being in the picture (most of the time it's 18+) I would really try to let her make her own choices and mistakes.  If you try to forbid something it will usually happen only it will be behind your back.  It's easy to want to protect her, but she's going to get her heart broken and ....Be the person she comes to for advice.
347578
give her a make up gift if your real sorry ? but if ske does this all the time she could be one of those people who would rather play with someone else and probably tells other people your bad secrets !
1021256
ahm:\nHummmm.  I ask you one question first,  why don't you like her outfit?  Does this happen often.  \n\nI ask because you can really hurt someone for a long, long time  doing it without some careful thought.  That is why I ask you why is this happening, why do you want her to change?  \n\nSo, I will guess and go with a thought for you.  Start off by hugging her, long and thoughtful.  Then peek into her wardobe and pick something out, more appropriate, and very softly suggest you like this outfit because it brings out something in her; her eye colour, nice on her figure.  From there if she gets angry, then she is sensitive.  Leave it for awhile; don't argue, because she 'knows' that she needs some changes.  Seriously, we females are really intuitive, and 'sense' right away if something is wrong.\n\nMove slowly, thoughtfully; she will get the hint and perhaps change or ask you to help her out with ideas.  We are wonderful, but we have our moments and if men treat us with kindness, well, you got it.\n\nluv Ava
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There are two issues here. The first is that your friend is not respecting your request to stop flirting with your boyfriend. If she isn't willing to stop, is she really a good friend? Is she the kind of friend you want hanging out around your boyfriend? If you've been friends with her for a while, try talking to her again and really impressing upon her how much her behavior bothers you.\n\nThe second issue is that she's telling your boyfriends that you and your friends are cheating on them. I can't imagine a good justification for that. What do you have to lose by asking her why she would say those things, and asking her not to? If she wants to continue being disrespectful, then she's obviously not worth your friendship.