Why is everyone's solution divorce?
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Why not ask my ex-wife who thought it would be better to go out with a 53 year old married man instead of working on our marriage.  (Just a little vent here, I'll feel better, LOL.)\n\nI do believe too many folks give up too easily, or don't really try at all, or have unrealistic expectations of what marriage offers. \n\nMarriage is not give and take, it is give.\n\nI don't recall anything in my vows that said I'll be there unless I'm not happy.  They were a pledge to be there, regardless of circumstance.\n\nToo many folks either don't take traditional vows, or don't really think they mean anything, given the numbers of divorced people today.\n\nI don't know how to help folks decide that they are going to try.  All it takes if for one of the partners to bail out for the marriage to be over. \n\nSo we can coach and coach, but if one partner is selfish and chooses affairs, or abuse, or abandonment and divorce over working through the issues, I really don't know how you can solve that.\n\nI certainly wanted to work on the issues, but was unable to convince my ex-wife that her affair with a married man was a worse solution than working on our marriage.\n\nAnd the courts and society at large seems to go right along with her line of thinking.  If you are unhappy, don't bother looking at yourself, blame your partner and find another seems to be the way things are done.\n\nI agree, often they will end up with the same problems because they too are part of the problem, but failed to address that aspect of it.\n\nYou can run away from your spouse, but you cannot run away from yourself.  So if you have things that you need to address about yourself, then do that BEFORE you choose an affair or divorce.
900467
I'm divorced, with 2 kids of my own, that live with me, and I'll tell ya, until HE is right with himself, there is NOTHING you can do.  He has to figure out what the deal is himself.  And you may need to find an alternative.
121113
Divorce is the easy way out. But it is a BAD choice.\n\nDo EVERYTHING that you can to make your marriage work.
642941
I think their should be and was thinking about this the other day.There is to much bad that comes with divorce to put in with people who are trying to work on a marriage.
287100
that is sick... you should have one partner for life all these people getting divorced are not willing to try and make it work... they arent really in love and dont want to change a little bit to please the person they love... communication is key in a good relationship without it we will all end in divorce...
508654
Yes and no based on why those events took place. Marriage appears to be the way of life in the society so most of us are getting married. That is the divine way to continue the  life cycle. Divorce is a result of modern civilization. If purpose of life is to have peaceful life and then for some divorce may be a solution.
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I'm married, and I take the vows I made to my hubby completely serious, along with my marriage. We may not have a whole lot, but it's my own little world, and I wouldn't change it for anything. I honestly couldn't imagine my life without him in it...it just doesn't seem right. My reasons for marriage was because I knew I wanted him for the rest of my life. Of course, we didn't HAVE to get married, but I see it as a way of showing the ultimate act of love towards another. What other way is there besides devoting your life with them to share in every single aspect? \nAs far as why divorce happens more in today's times, I think people just take it as an easy way out. Marriages are not easy to maintain, and when tuff situations arise, divorce provides an easy access to just start over. It's sad that marriages are not taken seriously, and that people are starting to just see it as a signed piece of paper, rather than all that it resembles. Of course, there are always exceptions. Some divorces occur for good reasons, like abuse or constant adultery. \nReally good question. Best of luck to you in life!
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I think you're absolutely correct.  The reality is that most marriages won't work out.  Divorces are both emotionially and financially crippling under most circumstances.\n\nI don't understand why so many feel that they need a legal contract to commit.  Maybe if you're doing it for religious purposes, but the bottom line is that the wedding is going to be extraordinarily expensive (most of the time), the marriage will just as likely end in divorce as not, and if it doesn't, the couple will probably not be happy once the bloom is off of the rose.  I know so many divorcees who have had their financial future yanked out from under them because of divorce and I don't quite understand why so many seek it.
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YOU R DEFINITLY NOT THE REASON FOR THE DIVORCE. \nSometimes married people fall out of love and then their lives become filled with trouble and it affects the children. I think if they fight a lot and cannot live together anymore it's better for them to break up. They will still love you and they will be better parents now and maybe they will become friends again.\n\nGood Luck
273233
I can give you the below link, but that's really just dipping your toe into the pond of this issue. I would check out some psychology books or divorce advice books. Either of those two types should give you a much more indepth knowledge on what this issue is all about.
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My dad (my parents have been married for 57 years) says that divorce is not an escape from your problems, just a new set of problems. That's why second and third marriages have a higher divorce rate then first marriages. Divorce is sometimes the only way to address certain relationship issues, but it needs to be as a last resort. Too often, people give up without investing any real effort.
691781
Hmmm why do people feel the need to add third parties to their marriages when they are having problems? Why not discuss the problem with your spouse and maybe try counseling? And marriage is about a lot more than just sex. If you're ready to just drop your pants and jump in the bed with another man maybe you don't need to be married. Get a divorce, be single and screw all ya want!!
351164
No we all don't do that anymore, but it would be nice if we all did. I think that is why so many people divorce because we don;t do things as a family anymore................
168749
No. Sometimes people change and circumstances require divorce that is best for one, hopefully, both parties.  It just makes you wiser and experienced.  Good luck & never give-up!
626366
life is like that. those who exist on earth have to face unlimited problems. the best way to handle them is not to think y r u having them, but to decide how r u gonna solve them.
873794
get a divorce  why does either woman put up with it
1060629
I'm going through the same thing. Just think about how much happier they will be when they finally get a divorce. Nothing is your fault, and there isn't much you can do to help. I'm so sorry. It can be really hard to go through this. Find a friend that you can talk to. That helps the most out of everything.