reinventing yourself after a break up?
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Don't.  No need to pretend you're something you're not.
587671
Hello!\nGive it time and keep yourself busy.  When you start to think about your ex, redirect your mind--call a friend, go shopping, go workout, have your hair done, whatever you want! Surround yourself with friends and enjoy yourself.  It'll get easier--hang in there!
1079112
Start from the beginning from when you first started dating. Go back to the place you met. Revisit old past times together. Start doing the things you used to do before your life became busy. \n\nDon't forget to look back and find out what that person really means to you. Spice things up a little, do something that you would not ordinarily do. You may have become to predictable with your day in and day out routine. Do some new things.\n\nPray about it as well. It'll work, you have nothing to worry about.
1125130
depends on the reason u broke up in the first place.  People do change, but not much
803331
Yes--it's perfectly normal to still miss the person who dumped you and/or the relationship.  Just b/c you miss him doesn't mean that you can't control your behavior or that you have to act on your feelings.  In time, you'll meet other guys, have new experiences, and will enjoy yourself again.  It's impt. to be kind to yourself during this period and take whatever steps are necessary to heal.  I realize it must be tough dealing with the feelings you have, but you will be okay.  It's a real test of your strength and I think you'll be proud of how you dealt with your feelings.  Good Luck
62142
It can be a good idea if you have identified what caused the breakup in the first place and if you are BOTH willing to work on it. If you can be honest about what happened and make a real effort to resolve it, your second try might be successful. But if you just get back together again without addressing the underlying issues, it's probably doomed to a second failure.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
855899
We all change and develop over time.....you are not exactly the same person you were 5 years ago.  So don't expect to be.  It seems what you have is a little lack of confidence.....happens to all of us.  Just get back on the horse so to speak.....but do it in small doses......Do some of the things you used to do and build little successes.....get your rythm back.... in the process you will make new friends and you'll forget all about this period....
629767
You need to think about why the relationship ended in the first place. Somebody was obviously unhappy. If you truly believe things have changed then all you can do is let her know that, tell her the door is open and let her make her own decision. If you try to do too much to influence her you will turn into a bunny boiler. Just concentrate on being happy by yourself and making your life as full and enjoyable as you can. Someone will see you for who you arw and fall in love with you, either your ex or someone completely new! Just enjoy it cos we're only here once.
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I am 29 and in the process of reinventing myself so this is a great question for me. I will tell you how I am doing it....\nReinventing myself to me means changing what isn't working in my life. I have a degree in education that I am not using, a controlling boyfriend , and feelings of restlessness. I know that "the old" Jen would stay here. I would have built resentment at my boyfriend until we hated each other. The new Jen is changing that behavior. I am moving out before we hate each other. I am changing my life before it hits a bottom. I hated being a teacher because I got sick of being broke and having to work two jobs. So I am saving up to go back to school. That is reinventing yourself. I am changing not the outsides, but the insides of me. My behaviors, relationships, jobs, and attitudes that no longer bring me closer to who I want to be. It is all rooted in awareness of what isn't working. I have found great support from therapists and friends can aid in huge life changes. Good luck!
39362
I've done that in the past 3 years.  You need to find yourself again.  Me and my ex-wife split and I had a difficult time getting on my feet.  But I eventuly did and everything is great now.  I'm going back to college and trying to make my life better.  Maybe a little to prove I can.  It may take time but don't give up and always remember you are a great person and can do great things.
732013
I would give it a little bit of time and then ask yourself. Are you ready to give this another try or are you starting to feel better and are able to move on?\n\nSomeone once told me people break up for a reason and that they should always stick to their original idea. Of course this is not always the case but just do what you feel is right deep down. \n\nHope everything works out!
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Face it and get on with your life. Have some dates even if they are not the perfect ones. You need to put this way in the past.\n\nAt the same time, be happy with yourself. Your new relationships will want an upbeat person and will have little room for the other person that was in your life.\n\nHave fun and remember the bad times you had with her. This is no time for sentimentality. She dumped you hard and on purpose. Good luck to you, my friend.
968090
I actually just brought up that idea with my ex when I talked to him tonight (we broke up two weeks ago) and he said he isn't in love with me anymore. I think it's best to not go back and just move on. Healthier that way.
168306
Been there, done that. It's funny how our minds and emotions can ruin a good thing. One thing that I hightly recomend is getting your self esteem up. It's tough, but once you are sure and proud of who you are, you don't loose that. As for getting your ex back. It may or may not happen. Give him his space now, thats is what he wants. If for some reason he also has a change of heart, you 2 can work things out then. But for now, respect his decision. Take care babe, im rooting for ya :)
614689
if he's changed from what he used to be like before.. then yes... unless you were the one who dumped him and now you want him back.. again that would be a yes..\nbut if he broke up with you and the two of haven't changed.. then no because that would just be a repeat of the relationship you had before.
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Yeah it can. I broke up with my ex a couple of years ago - it was a mutual break-up but we remained as best friends. Sometimes when I hang out with her, I feel that same old feeling again - like a spark in my life that I felt when I first dated her... but I'm not taking that step though.\n\nYou can regain that feeling, but to get back together - that's another question...
365367
It'll be hard to do and even if you do regain those feelings it's going to take time.  Seperating myself from my other is helping me miss those feelings.  Not a hundred percent sure if we'll make it, but unless there is too much at stake no one should fake it till they make it.  Good luck and atleast you're trying.