why do Indian men still accept the concept of an arranged marriage?
820043
Uh what do you mean by "indian men"  as in Native American, or men from India?
796361
Got a friend in India, he says that they Dont know they will love each other, usually it is becuz of status that families marry. They dont believe in divorce whether they love the person or not.
68624
Arranged marriages still exist among certain ethnic and/or religious groups, but modern secular Americans seldom have arranged marriages.
192475
I can no to this question reason being , Indian people attach themselves from soul and Indian woman allow a man (even other than his husband ) access only after full soul attachment .So the question of one night stands is out >If in some case it happens ,she is definately going to be awake for many nights to come
444767
Generally, arranged marriages last and are more fulfilling than the romantically-based marriages in our culture (US).   The arranged marriages that I have known weren't forced.  The childred had agreed that the chosen spouse was right for them. Parents select a spouse based on common values, goals,  religion, character and the reputation of the family.  Parents of the bride and groom make a comittment to support their childrens' marriage and encourage them to do the right for each other and for the family as-a-whole.  Americans usually choose their spouse according how "in love" they feel.  Once these feelings fade,  there's no foundation for the marriage - nothing to keep them together.  Those who have had their marriage arranged make a commitment to love each other in action,  not ALWAYS perfectly,  and feel in love with each other sometimes, sometimes not (normal).  What keeps them together, when their feelings have faded, is the family,  the commitment, their common goals and values - a strong foundation for marriage.  Divorce usually isn't an option. They have to continue to work on the marriage - with their family's help.
665544
Because people go with what they are familiar with. If you were raised in a different culture, you would date and marry someone from that culture.
1118429
Some marry for convenience (e,g, "some" asians are obedient -- other are that way until they become American citizen and then leave the men).\n\nSome actually marry for love (or grow to love).  People always find a way to communicate.
619803
Not weird at all.  Many people think marriage is an outdated concept, especially with the divorce rate being so high.  We aren't natuarally monogamous creatures...you can live with someone for the rest of your life without being married.
1037774
y do you have an arranged marriage..............thats dumb.
446967
Certainly... women are more aware of the freedom that they can get and they are not ready to compromise for anything now.. thus they are independant and dont think that in order to get accepted in the society,you need to get married..
1148910
Yea,we r not allowed 2 date,but alot of us do... where i live there is alot of pakistani/indian/arabs who will go out with europian ,sleep with them,date even few years and then go back 2 there country and marry a virgin ,witch pisses me off ...
804888
I believe in love marriage. Indian girls should have the freedom to date if they want to. Why? Because this is 2006, not 1906. I have an Indian friend who's parents arranged for him to meet this girl, and the girl rejected him because his skin is so dark. Now he has a complex about it. I believe in freedom of choice.
220486
I would never go into an arranged marriage, I'd rather die. So I prefer love marriage...it's the only one that counts.
654835
From working for an Indian couple....I have found out that most marriages in India are arranged from the time the couple are babies!  The couple I worked for, she was 2, he was 5 when they were betrothed by their parents.  So I'm thinking that finding true love and marrying your true love is something rare...and that might be why they are portrayed as such in so many movies there.\n\nI do know the lady of the couple told me she would "pick" 3 men for her daughter to have a choice to marry...not as bad as being betrothed to only one...but still, just 3?
953874
I'm sourthern Indian and I'm ashamed to say that the caste system stays alive and well here. (It's worse in the North with added problems.) Many of us throw all of these out and believe every human being is the same as the other. There is no 'low' and no 'high'. Consider this the same as racism. Most of them are not fortunate to break away from the caste system, because of the way they've been brought up -  to think that this is 'right'. It's going to take a very long time for India to turn around. Having said that, we've got lots of beauty in our people too and most of my friends have married people from other communities and inter-racially too :-) Of course, the whole bunch is judged by one bad apple. Pity, this opinion will stick, untill the entire problem goes away.
20270
If you're asking whether societally people are still expected to find one person and marry them, then I would say that it applies less so than in the past, but marriage and a family is still what is generally expected by people. Certainly, people who choose not to marry are not as unusual as they once were, and it's more accepted to be unmarried. As proof, the words "Old Maid" and "Spinster" have virtually disappeared from the lexicon. \n\nIf you're asking if humans in general want to marry for life now like they used to, I do think the desire is still there, perhaps primally, in most people. As long as you find someone you truly love, it's natural to want to cement that person into your life with the convienient institution of marriage. I think fewer people just get married because they feel like they "have to" nowadays, however.
673520
Isn't this why a lot of married men have mistresses nowadays?  There's a shortage of single available men. It's just a matter of whether or not society accepts this arrangement or not if the numbers of men continue to dwindle.