Military Newlyweds..?
820242
What he can do is find the military pay chart online.  His pay will all depend upon his rank and time in service, has nothing to do with the job he does.  Now the job he gets might have an enlistment bonus attached to it, which would help a lot being newlywed.  He also has to understand that he will get paid more for being married, he will also get allowances for food and housing, all along with his normal pay.  Also every year there is a cost of living adjustment, meaning there is a slight pay raise, and with every year he spends in he gets paid more.  So even if the promotion stats are low for the job, he will still see an increase in pay.  If he is going in as an E-1 (lowest pay level) even right now he would be making $1100 a month before taxes and before the additions for marraige, housing, and food.  They will have it tough for a while, no doubt about that, but they will make it.
78528
if you are dating yes. once you are married, you get stationed at the same base... (if you are in the same service) good luck!
990808
When they are grown and married.
183691
The same question works the other way, too. But the bottom line... selfishness, that's all it is. The spouse wants what he/she can't have because the other is deployed or whatever. So they are so overwhelmed by selfishness, that they go and get what they want, and to heck with the marriage vows. At least that's my position on the matter.
10851
My husband was in the Marines when we first were married and was deployed for six months. To make it even harder I was pregnant with our first child. I know how empty your world feels right now. Just try to keep your self busy. Write often and talk on the phone when you can. I used to send calling cards with each care package. I also sent a video about half way through the deployment. I just recorded any special events that he would be missing i also went to the beach and taped a sun set for him, since the beach was a special place for us. Anything you can think of to keep the connection strong. Best of luck to you and a special thanks to your husband for his service to our country.
593767
Speaking as someone who's BEEN to basic, no frame because people going through basic aren't really supposed to have a lot of personal things, pictures are allowed pictures in frames ARE NOT, get a camera with a timer (most cameras that AREN'T disposable have some type of timer), use a stuffed animal to focus on, like set up the camera put said stuffed animal where you will be posing (to make it easier set the camera up in front of a mirror so you can see what the camera sees so when you pose you know whether you look sexy or stupid). PLEASE keep in mind the Drill Sgts WILL GO THROUGH EVERYTHING (even personal things) so if you DO give him these pictures someone else MAY seem them too. Also unless you want someone to see them (when you get the pictures developed) use a polaroid (they have timers on them too and they aren't too expensive, although the quality won't be very good) Digital cameras you can print off your computer work too. I am no longer IN the military, but my husband is (we met IN the military) and he gets deployed a lot so, I've learned how to take pictures like what you're talking about, I'm also a professional photographer. You said this guy is just friends with benefits, that's GOOD otherwise I would tell you not to do this, most likely he will come back a changed person and three months is a LONG time to wait for someone (for both you and him) plus as someone who's been IN the military and is married to a military man, if I had it all to do over again, I would NEVER date anyone who's had ANYTHING to do with the military (the divorce rate for military families is TWICE that of the average american family, there's a REASON for that).
526743
It is an interesting experience. My husband and I have been together for only 3 years and we are on our second deployment. He is currently serving in Iraq. Be proud because your husband is doing something truly great. Feel free to contact me if you want to talk.
435683
My husband is currently deployed for the 2nd time.  It's hard, I am not going to lie.  But I grew up Marine Corps and then I married right back into it.  As long as you have the strength and the love for your husband/boyfriend/fiance you will make it.  I PROMISE!  I would truly say being a Military Members spouse during deployment or any other time is the toughest job in the corps.  We girls call ourselves "Semper Gumby" Always Flexible!  Cause, in reality, we have to be flexible, hardly seeing our loved ones, holding down the fort, and I am taking care of our beautiful 18 month old little boy but everyday I see that little boy of ours smile I remember my husband is doing his job and fighting for our freedom!  I pray for EVERY Man and Woman over there fighting and am very very proud of all of them, even the wives and families at home, missing their loved ones like crazy!  I have spent our only 2 anniversary's alone but when he is home it's all worth it!  I am proud to be a Marine Wife and I am proud to have my husband serve in the armed forces with anyone's husband, father, mother, sister, brother etc.  You will make it!!!!  Be strong!!!!  SEMPER GUMBY!
1032699
I know that sucks don't it.  When I was in the Marines we got our barracks rooms inspected two to three times a week, But the married guys even the ones in base housing never had to undergo any inspections.  It's bullsh*t But it's part of the game if U wanna be in the Military.  I know of some Marines who  got married just to move off base.
765489
just wanted to let you know i am in the same boat as you are, except this is my first year of marriage. i am a very proud army wife who was completely disgusted by the lack of support from some morons on here. but, for every one negative comment, there were ten good ones. plenty of people support our troops so try not to focus on the negative feedback, those come from people who dont have a clue as to what it is to be American. It's so easy for them to jump on the "military bashing bandwagon" because they have to blame someone, and unfortunately it is always our military that gets the short end of the stick. I support ALL our soldiers, not just my husband, and i will continue to support them until they ALL come home. God bless you and your family, keep your head up!
202736
my sister is married to a Filipinos, but he moved to the US. i know lots of military men who married Filipinos, but they eventually moved to the US.
874065
We were stationed in Germany when my hubby deployed the first time.  That was for Desert Storm.  It was hard being in a foreign country.  However, I chose to stay there and I'm glad I did.  The ones who went home basically lost everything.  They lost housing, sponsorship, overseas pay, contact with the unit and updates on how their hubby and the unit were doing among other things.  \n\nHow things work out depends mostly on you.  You already don't seem to be handling the stress well.  It doesn't matter what unit you go to or where you're stationed, there's games and politics.  You seem to be in a particularly bad one.  If you don't trust your hubby, you'll be in a world of hurt.  They'll play off that and give other women ammo to go after him.  Trust me, your trust and faith in him will have everything to do with what happens.  In 18 years, I know my hubby has never cheated on me.  I don't question him and I don't second guess him.  I keep him happy at home.\n\nI would suggest that you don't press the issue.  I'm sure the unit is following the rules.  They can't risk not doing it.  There's no CO or 1SG that wants to lose their position.  Things like  you're talking about can cause alot of scandal and ruin a career.  If you try to handle it in your own way, you can make things tough on your hubby.  If he has issues, he can take it up the chain of command.  However, it's not wise for you to interfere with the operations of his unit.  That puts him in for alot of stress and such.\n\nBe strong and trust in him and your marriage.  While he's gone, travel.  There's so much to see and do there.  Most of the time, it doesn't cost alot because you can get discounts or units or chaplains sponsor tours.  Write to him often and keep the letters up beat.  Try not to add to his worries and stress.  The time goes faster than you think and you'll find that you're a whole lot stronger than you thought you were.  You'll find your own independance and still rely on him.  \n\nGood luck!!
110750
Navy as in military? Since it's capitalized I'll go with that, if not sorry! Here are two sites that have info on naval weddings. The first has a Q&A format, the second is full of detail. I hope it helps! Good Luck!!!
436821
Doesn't want you too or is emphatically set against it? As an Army spouse, I can tell you that acceptance of the military lifestyle is hard enough when it is something that you chose. To have it put on you, even if your relationship lasts in the short term, in the long term there will be some serious resentment. \n\nThis should be a team decision. Before my husband elected for an indefinite term of service on his last reenlistment, we both sat down and made a list of the positives and negatives. We weighed them against each other and came to the decision together. \n\nWhile you're discussing it, there are people available to tell about the military lifestyle at www.goarmy.com
1094115
it's nice to hear the air force is treating you well ... I was a army wife and it was not" 90210 "like you explained ...{thanks for the dumpy comment }, My husband was a GRUNT in Bosnia and in Afghanistan ... It was sheer hell for me and our 2 boys .. Im thankful for Ft. knox they did all they could do to make it as easy as they could for us during my husbands deployment... No matter what branch all these men and women are HEROS ! I was not aware that there were people who did'nt support our troops ... I just thought it was Bush they did'nt support ! being a "army" wife is very hard!!{ there is no fun and games at war} maybe I should have had my husband Join the airforce so we could not appear to be so dumpy!!! My husband is a hell of a man and Im very proud of what he has done for our country.. HOOAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
1106156
you need to get married before he goes to basic, the amount he spends away from you all  depends on the unit where he stationed , what MOS(his job). He could be home every day at 5pm or he could be  going to iraq or to the field. But when you live on post you will not be alone. There are plenty of spouses to hang with. Most of them have little kids. I am a army spouse myself(three kids5,3 10 month hubby recruiter SFC)the on post schools and daycare are great, health insurance is 100% rfee.( my son was preemie and they paid for everything incl speech therapy)housing is free, so is the water and electricity. and you cant beat the commisary prices.  GO FOR IT
735460
Okay first of all you don't really get any extra money while he is in boot camp.  You don't get housing allowance.  Why don't you plan your wedding during his leave after boot camp?  Then you will have more time to plan the wedding you want.  As far as your age, marrige is hard....its hard at any age.  I married at 20 after being together almost 6 years and my husband enlisted when I was 21.  Being a military wife adds much more stress to a marrige than most cilivian marriages.  Being a military, you will learn to become very independent and you will figure out all military system as you go.  Ask questions and be a good listener and you will do well as a military spouse.  Oh, and we have been happily married for 5 years now and going through our 2nd depolyment!    Good luck!