How do I get my son through this?
812786
The best thing is to be honest with your son.  He's probably going to be very upset but just continue to be supportive of him.  It sounds like you are doing all the right things (not bashing Dad, have him in counseling, etc.) and you are a good mom.  Just be honest and there for him.  He will make it through.
909751
I have bipolar myself so I have some idea of what your going through. what you should do is contact a government agency. I go to a place called MHMR it stands for Mental Health Mental Retardation. They can help you in any way that you need it. They can give you advice on what steps to take with your son. They can set up appointments for your son when he gets out. Just to meet with him and talk with him maybe regulate his meds and see about having him see a therapist on a regular basis. I really hope this helps you out. I really feel for you and the situation your in. Good luck to both you and your son.
154202
Support groups can be really great.  You should also make sure that you and your son are getting out and doing things: go to the park, the zoo, visit friends and relatives, etc.  It is too easy sometimes to spend too much time at home alone and kind of living your life on "hold" while your spouse is gone.  \n\nBesides, if you and your son stay active it will make the time go by faster, and you'll have more to tell hubby when you talk to him! :)
617559
Make him want to.  Most children don't want to do their homework.  You have to make the thought of what will happen if it isn't done so horrible that they would rather do it than suffer the consequences.\n\nNow granted, if you tell your son  that if he doesn't do his homework he will loose TV privileges for a day then you have follow through.\n\nI used take phone privileges from my Children.  Then when one of their friends called they had to answer and tell them why they couldn't talk.  (Ouch!)\n\nThat is my humble opinion.
1119725
Sorry, but he is too young to be away from mum, particularly in a semi structured learning enviroment. Boys, in particular, would find this difficult. The nursery are more concerned with filling their places than in your sons welfare.\n\nYou don't say whether you have to send your son to nursery school, or whether you just think that it is a good idea.\n\nIt is vital that he is allowed to be a child so that he can learn about the world in the inquisitive way that children normally do.\n\nHave you thought that exposing him to structured learning by strangers at such a young age could put him off the learning process for life.\n\nI don't think that some of the answers you have received are giving you good advice. Young children need to feel emotionally secure, that is their main need.
951071
u can always try to help him, but he has to help himself as well.. hopefully he will listen to u.. thier is only so much u can do.. good luck to u on this.. I know its not gonna be an easy task to accomplish...
224584
It sounds like he does need help, sooner than later. You can find low-cost mental health services by contacting your County Department of Social Services, or the Department of Mental Health, the phone numbers should be listed in the phone book.\n\nOnce you find a therapist or counselor in your area, they should be able to help you find the best way to get your son to come and speak with them without him feeling seriously hurt or offended.
700790
Live your life as an example for your child. Love your child. Respect your child's mother. Pray together. The rest will come. Good luck.
320213
You are obviously looking for the best advice possible, so please if you can do anything to rectify this situation then do it and as soon as possible. I am so proud of you even though I dont know you, for recognising that this man is in difficulty, please go to someone who can help him, go to his or indeed your Dr. and seek immediate advice. This is wrong, you know it I know it and I am sure every other user of this site will see it for what it is.  It is abuse of the worst kind.  I have a son with special needs, and this is my worst nightmare. I applaud your concern, now please get help for him....
759077
You and the ex need to set your issues aside and discuss how you are going to raise the son, putting his best interests first. He is playing you both, that's what kids do, even in homes with both parents. You have to decide on a course of action and stick with it, consistency is one of the most difficult things but shows the child you both mean business. Let your ex know that you're interested in his help, but he needs to stick to the plan. You need to support one another in this. I hope you are able to do this, or the son will continue to go back and forth until he's on his own. It won't create a stability within him - be responsible, not emotional and talk w/the ex. Hope it works out. You can do it!
403939
Honey, you don't need this and neither does your son. This is the role model you are choosing for your child. Is that what you want? If your guy had stayed in NA and had really tried to work this out, then I'd say to stick with him. But he really doesn't sound like he's giving it his entire effort. Maybe he does not want to give up drugs. So you have to tell him to make the choice... you or the drugs. I'll bet he chooses the drugs, thinking you won't walk out. But I know you will leave becasue I'll bet you love your kid a lot more than you love this drug addict.
467785
get your son back call the police firstly. Secondly, your husband needs a clip over the ears how selfish he is to put you under so much pressure. Can't he see he is killing you. Go to counselling and get him to AA. \n\nStand up for your rights and do what you know is best. If he refuses kick him out!
489295
Tell him the truth, he can handle it and doesnt need fables to cope like religious wackos do. Also, talk to him normal, kids love that and respond well to it. But, Im preaching to the choir, I know.\n\nHave fun...dont forget the cotton candy and to enjoy every minute with your son.
1129128
Lord u are so right about that right. my sons father I want to cut all ties from him getting some but it is so hard. Shit what do u do to prevent getting down with urs
33652
Your son is an adult now and needs to make his own way in this world. I don't know his living situation, but I would recommend if anyone is supporting him financially it is time to stop. Enabling him to continue the lifestyle he is living is not in his best interest. When he is on his own, he will be made accountable for his actions. If he cannot hold a job, he will be fired. If he cannot pay his bills, he will be evicted. These things will show him what it takes to survive as an adult in this world. If you truly believe he is suffering from a mental illness you can recommend he go to counselling. However, unless he is a danger to himself or others, no one will be able to make him go to counselling. If it gets to the point where you fear for his safety or the safety of others, dial your local distress line or crisis team. They are located in your phonebook in the Emergency section. They will assess him and transport him if needed to a safe place until he is stabilized. Aftercare and follow-up will typically follow his progress for a brief time after his discharge. I wish you and your son the best of luck and good blessings.
990240
Have u tried talking to him, telling him what he is putting in danger loosing u and your kid(s) get the cards on the table\nexplain to him what are u willing to do maybe soemtime sduring the weekend u can also let him play i am sure u guys can get to arrangment \ncommunication is the key
1121178
Find a new Ophthalmologist for your son. He shouldn't have to suffer as much as he has. Poor kid, I hope he gets the help that he needs.