My mom is a very big Penn State fan, but she is a bit over the top, how should I tell her that?
820537
Tell her that for others around her to keep liking Penn State, she needs to stay in check with her emotions and be pleasant.
1078620
First I would open communications with mom to find out what she doesn't like about them.  Consider her opinions and maybe take a closer look how you act when you are with them.  It may be how you act when you are with your friends that she doesn't care for.
975924
Well, if being more positive doesn't work, try to "outdo" her, until she realizes how silly she sounds.... Like, "oh yeah....sneaky-looking people...beady little eyes. I bet they sleep upside down in the closet..." or, something along those lines. \n\nOr, maybe, if you really feel like you can't say it directly to her, how much it bothers you, then try some reverse psychology, as in "Mom, I've noticed that you've been really down lately...is there something you want to talk about?" or, "Is something bothering you...it's not like you to be so negative!?" {even though you know that's not true...keep going on in that vein: "....it's not LIKE you to do xyz..."} "Normally, you're so cheerful and think the best of everyone...what's gotten into you?" If you can get another family member or close friend to help you, all the better.
652241
try to find nice things that your mom loves in Italy and tel her about, try to convince her without pushing and being so needy cause i think that if she felt like you are dying to go there she may suspect it and prevent you from going, tell her that you won't be happy in lancaster and that every mom loves to see her child happy which you won't be if you didn't go to italy , i hope you can go there , i really wish you can go there , please keep me posted --> Nancy
165735
Start by not making an assumption about your boyfriends mom.  She may just simply not be the type to get close to anyone that isn't yet family.  She is also going to be naturally worried that you might eventually hurt her little boy.  Just relax and be yourself, over time you will prove to her that you are worthy of her boys heart.  In the mean time try to talk to her and find out her interests.  If you show an interest in her as a person and not just his mom it will help.  Sometimes it just takes a comment about how you hope that some day you can get to know her better to get her to open up.
1171954
you are sooo lucky, because I am the youngest of 4 (go class of 06) and I have everything ready.\n\nShes going to cry a lot. Let her. Give lots of hugs on move in day.\n\nBefore you leave for move in, leave a present in her closet or a drawer and tell her you left her a surprise for when she gets home. A mushy card and a framed picture of the two of you is good. \n\nbefore you go, tell her that you need to adjust to the first two weeks of school and send her an email once a week. After you have a routine down, tell her which day (and time) you can talk to her for a little bit. \n\nInvest in picture phones (and an unlimited messaging plan) and send pictures of you at school (in the library, here's your friends, etc.) She will like knowing that you are okay.\n\nIf she gets really worried or missed you, tell her (or teach her) how to send a POL message. POL is "proof of life" so she isnt worried about you being cold or hungry. Send a text or take a pic of you and send it back as soon as you can. (it's easier than 8 million phone calls.)\n\nthe trick to keeping your mom okay is to keep making her feel needed- its part of why she is upset. Send her an "I would love some cookies..." note or a say that you could really use some socks/underwear/shirts (even if you dont) because she'll feel good about helping.\n\ngood luck at school.
644546
She's still your mom, right? If she's being too affectionate with someone in front of you and making you feel uncomfortable, tell her. I'd tell you the same if she were dating men. Talk to her about what you need and how you feel. Just don't try to change her because she's a grown woman who can think for herself.
1181640
go to the mom and tell her about it.\nhand her a copy of Shakespeare's *Romeo and Juliette* while your at it!\nit ought to get your point across
1153444
Have a potluck dinner...maybe people could make dishes that remind them of her, were her favorites or ones she was famous for.  Have lots of family pictures around everywhere, even blow up some of your favorites.  Have a cake with 100 candles.  Have everyone write about their favorite or special memories with your mom. Then have people change papers and read the stories out loud.  Have a slide show (using PowerPoint, home movies, digital camera, etc.) of your mom and family members.  Do some research on what was going on the world when she was a kid and teenage...play that kind of music.  And instead of gifts, ask people to make a donation to your mom's favorite church or charity or take up a collection as a family college fund (or other cause).  Have fun and God bless.
852994
lay down the law with her. tell her that for not getting good grades or not doing it u can take away priviledges. that should persuade her. if not, tell how much it hurts u to see her get bad grades. tell her u want to see her succeed in life and that she cant do that without doing her homework.  also, dont just take away priveledges, set aside time to check up on her. if she is doing badly, lower her allowance or take away more valued priveledges, like friends or phone. then again u dont want her to hate u, so dont come down hard on her the 1st time. but if the bad behavior and grades continue, start getting stricter. she needs to know you mean when u say it. if u say 'the next time you get a C or lower, your grounded', when she gets a C, follow up on it. she'll probably remember those words and say to herself ' moms not serious about this grade thing'. ur words need to be powerful, but not overwhelming.
319783
You need to tell your mom, that you don't appreciate her violating your trust. If she keeps this up, you will be reluctant to tell her anymore of your life.\nI don't think your Mom would like that, that's a bond that shouldn't be broken, especially for some boyfriend, who may not be around that long.\nBoyfriends can come and go, but you will be Mother and Daughter for life. Ask your Mom, what is more important to her, your trust, or her trying to please her boyfriend.\nSurely there has to be some other subject, other that your private life that they can talk about.\nIf she merely tells him of some success you may have in school or on a project, that's fine, that's just a Mom's pride in her daughter.\nYour private life should be out of bounds. Ask her  how she would feel, if you did the same to her, by telling all your friends about her private life.
270845
That's a tough situation.  Just tell her "Look there's something I need to tell you that you aren't going to like, but I think you need to know."  I hope she handles it well and doesn't blame you.  Just be honest, talk to her, and be supportive with whatever she decides to do with the information.
61013
First let me say WOW! First your mom should know that you love her and that you always will. You should be totally honest and let her know how you feel. You are her daughter and blood is thicker than water. Her boyfrind can leave her tomorrow but you will always be her daughter. Your mom has to find to courage to tell this "douche bag" to take a hike. all you can do is support your mom and be there for her. you are a good daughter and you deserve a hug
1010031
your mom doesn't understand that your score is considerably good! just find a way to explain to her that 2300 on the SAT is a good one.\non her nagging, you cannot do anything about it but to evade the presence of your mom. =)\nall moms do that. ask some help from family members to explain to your mom about your SAT score.\n\ngood luck!!
1121502
Perhaps you could ask her indirectly. Carefully crafted words are the key here to achieving your desired goal.....having a boyfriend. Okay, step 1) find a time when you and your mother are relaxing, no phones, dinner is finished, house is clean. 2) Begin the conversation like this: "You know Mom, I am now ___ years old, and I was wondering if you would allow me to go to the movies with _____________. I know you have not had an opportunity to meet ________, but I can invite him by the house on _________. He is a really nice guy. Now, if you do not have a boyfriend, and no prospects, then I would suggest that you address your mother in this manner: Mom, I have really matured over the last year and I would like to respectfully request permission from you to go on a date occassionally with a carefully selected boy that I will bring home first for you to meet.  Don't be shy about it. Be assertive, without being pushy. Tell her what your heart desires, and do it in a kind, courteous, confident and mature manner. The way you approach this request to have a boyfriend is important. You have to let your mother know that you are ready for this big step in your young teenage life. \nNow, be honest in your evaluation of yourself here okay? Think! Really think here! And answer my question truthfully! Question: Have you been on your best behavior over the last year? Have you done everything that has been asked of you by your mother? Have you gotten into any serious trouble lately? Did you make good grades and behave appropriately in school? These questions are important, because if you have been cutting up and acting like a trifling little hoochie mama, it is highly likely that your mother will say no. But if you have been a perfect angel, and behaved appropriately over the last year, then I dont see any reason that your mother will not agree to your terms. Also, let her know that any boy you meet, you will bring them home to meet her, and your curfew is 9p.m. weeknights and 10:30 on weekends. Or, if your curfew is later than this, use your current curfew. Well, I hope this helps. Best wishes to you. And have fun.
733802
Sit down and tell her how much she means to you and how important it is to have a relationship with her. Then, show her the printout of this and your question and all the other answers here.  This could be the start of an open communication between the two of you.\n\nBest to you and your mom.
683269
buy a nice card and then make some "vouchers"(paper, colored pens) and have them say things like, "I will do dishes", "i will cook dinner". anything that you can do that will give your mom a well deserved rest from her never ending chores. only do things that you wouldn't ordinarily do. this only costs the price of a card, but you could alway make the card too. i'm a mom and i would like this as my buttheads, oops, i mean kids never offer to help me unless i ask and then it's iffy. you can tell her that all she has to do to redeem her "gifts" is to give you a voucher. the vouchers could always be generic and say ie."any chore" and then she can choose.