My wife came home last night?
828062
Lets see...your wife and sister have run off with the minister, you haven't paid your mortgage in 8 months, your wife's cousins stepbrother is coming to live with you....all from your previous questions.\n\nWhy do you need to tell lies to get people to notice you?  Why if you are going to come on here an lie don't you get your story line straight and stick to it.\n\nI doubt that you are old enough to be married, I know from your line of BS questions you are not mature enough.\n\nSo...why don't you grow up?
547822
After 37 years, she walked out for something that simple?  I think you might want to ask yourself if there was more to it than that first of all.  Be honest with yourself, that is a long time together, to throw it all away for nicotine.  I have a feeling that there were some more major underlying issues that you just didn't clue in on.  Have you ever heard the song "Buy Me a Rose" by Kenny Rogers?  It's basically about how the hubby forgot about the simple loving gestures somewhere along the way--and the wife didn't feel loved anymore.  The smoking thing was probably her final straw of feeling unwanted, etc.  whether it is 3 years or 37 guys--we HAVE to know we are still the ones you love and would marry all over again!!  Little gestures regularly ARE a good thing! \n\nMy suggestion to you is: \n1. Look back and figure out the entire picture of what was wrong.\n2.  If there was something you could have done to show her your love and appreciation better, DO IT NOW!!\n3.  If there was nothing more than the smoking incident (doubt it), apologize, and ask her what you can do to mend things.  GL
931547
You have answered your own questions above.\n1. you no longer love your wife.\n2. you have been neglected.\n3. your marital relations leave you sleeping alone.\n4. you have started another relationship -although platonic for now, with someone else.\n5. all you need is some guts to tell her the truth and be done with it, why drag it out-not helping you or her.\nHer gambling is HER PROBLEM, not yours, remember that.\ngood luck.
251169
Everyone needs balance in their life... between work and leisure time, and between chores/responsibilites and fun stuff. So I don't think that you're asking too much to do something that you want to do yourself, once in a while.\n\nPerhaps your wife is feeling a little overwhelmed with homelife, keeping the house and kids in order? So she feels that any 'fun' activity is a waste of chores time?? I know that I can feel that way sometimes.\n\nBut, if you explain to her that you need this outlet, where you can relax and have a bit of fun, I'm sure that she'd understand. Explain to her that it'll keep you happy and relaxed - you'll be a better husband and father for it. Perhaps she feels that once a week is too much? How about suggesting once a fortnight?
709312
Immature!\nHow about talking calmly with her. It is her body after all, and even though you may not approve of it, this is a very addicting drug, and maybe helping her instead of playing get you back's would be better. \nShe is your wife, I assume you love her more then anything, be supportive and understanding.
736164
Well......see it was when you said you were having sex last night that she became skeptical. Afterall... she knew you were with your wife. Sex with your wife? *smacks his head* Sheesh....what were you thinking! Of course your girlfriend isn't going to buy that. \n\nI suggest you write your wife a cute little note like we used to do in 6th grade and say:\n\n"Hey sweetie... I enjoyed making love to you last night. Did you? Check one:\n\n______ yes      _________ no\n\n(oh and will you sign your name at the bottom as well?)\n\n\n\n~~~~~ \nThen show this to your girlfriend. Surely it will be as good as an affadavit.
640072
I think she has answered your question about her coming back, sounds like she is gently trying to tell you its over.  Have you tried marriage counselling??? You also might want to ask yourself what you did to make her want to leave, did you appreciate her?  Its so hard to advise you when all the details are not known.
531471
LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL   Shes great!!!!!  lol.   What a fantastic idea!!!   I wonder though whether it caused a row when she got home????????\nWhat could she have done to you?  Taken away your Cash Register and then y ou would have a nice holiday...no work till you got another one lol
1160198
Say...BYE  BYE.......Shes gone........Maybe during you're " confusing emotions about you're marriage, and  " figuring out what to do", You should have done them.......at home, with the actual person....You-re wife, The solution was between you and you're wife, not some other woman. Just be glad you don't have any kids dragged in.
499921
No, dear.  See, what is happening is she is letting you think you are right just to make you feel good.  She is wise, your wife.  It is one of her many clever ways, to once in a while "admit" to being "wrong."  Of course, she is never wrong!
586787
Once HRS gets involved, things happen over which neither you nor Denise has any control over. As a lawyer with a lot of experience in these situations, I suggest you try talking to Denise about your concerns and try to get her to be more responsible, or at least find out what's going on in her life that's causing this. If she's just partying after work and taking advantage of you and your wife, report her. If she needs help with something, see if there is somewhere she can get it.
718007
im sure that your first thought would be to do something grand and over the top, but i would suggest that you do something simple. a little quiet time with just you two will be a good start. if you want to have a welcome home party for him, i would suggest that you have it the week after he gets home, to allow him time to adjust. and as for you... be prepared for some changes, and dont expect things just to fall back into the place where you were when he left. accept the fact that your husband is a changed man. because he is. just be patient with him, and take things slow. caution your friends and loved one not to make him talk about his experiences. he will tell you when he is ready. and above all, just make sure that you are there for him. out of everything that you want to plan for him, do for him, and do to him, im sure that all he really wants is a hug from the woman he loves.
974200
Your scared of being alone?  Well, whats your number, seriously man, I have been looking for a guy like you my whole life!!  It sounds to me like your wife knows that she has you right where she wants you.  I mean, you said in your own words that she can do whatever ever she wants, whenever she wants and not suffer the consiquenses.  In other words, she knows that you are not going anywhere and knows that no matter what she does, your gonna stick with her.  You don't need medication!!!!  You need a girlfriend that doesnt mind being treated with respect and respects you right back!!  You are not wrong in leaving at all!!  As a matter of fact, you should have left a lonnnnnnggg time ago, like say WHEN SHE CHEATED!!!  I am a firm believer that cheating is the worst thing you could do in a marriage.  It distroys your whole marriage, trust, LIFE, and the kids lives too!!!  It is the most selfish thing you could do!!  It totally makes you feel like it is your fault when it isnt.  Sounds to me like SHE is the one who needs counseling!!  So, my answer to you is GET OUT!!!!  If for some reason you decide you just cant do it, here are some tips for making her turn your way again.  \n#1) Leave just for a little while, say a couple of days, she will be crawling back to you!!\n#2) Stop showing emotions...I mean be so cold hearted that even she could feel the chill!!\n#3) Start a new hobby, and start filling your time up with it.  She will wonder what this "New Hobby" has that she don't.  \n#4) Stop giving her attention.  The telivison is a great way to accomplish this.  My personal fav shows are - Lost - Grey's Anatomy - Deperate Housewives - Weed's on Showtime - Dexter on Showtime.  This way you will be devoting your time and attention to these shows every week and not her.  She will be crawling back in bed in no time to watch TV with you!!  \n\nI know that this is long winded, but I fear that your really not gonna leave, if I dont tell you this stuff.  She does not deserve you at all!!  Don't be scared to be alone.  Ther are plenty of things out there to get involved in that will take you mind off of her.  clawbeaja@yahoo.com if you need anymore advise!!
13268
Can you be a bit more specific about the situation? How does SHE feel? Is she separated? Unhappy? You definitely aren't nuts though. Many have been there before and will be in this situation again.
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In all honesty, its not a matter of turning off the charm.  She is probably quite tired most of the time from household and baby.\nI bet that if you help out around the house and help her with the kids you will sooon have your intimate relationship back better than before.\nShe needs you to help her have time to have a life of her own that isn't just about you and the kids.\nHelp her out!
335115
wanting to go home and sleep with my girl..=P
675673
Last time I saw her was when she left my house last night...she was with me for the whole weekend...It was great.....and guess what??? Your name never came up so I don't know why you are looking for her...But I will tell her tonight when she comes back over for the night.....