Honest mature people only, I am a hetero guy--however?
832167
you are coming from a bad place right now....I suggest you sit back, get rid of the negative energy you have filled your life with and .... clean up your head. You are blaming all women for one woman's actions...not very fair. You are bitter towards all women because of some past experiences with a few women...perhaps it is what you are doing that gets you what you get. My advice to you would be to STOP making bad choices in women and use some sense, start picking women that are compatable with your life and your head. Stop picking women based solely on what they look like, and start picking women who are kind, nice, ...and yes, these qualities do come in the same package as looks. I cannot imagine your finding any kind of happiness acting as "trade" to gay men.....it may get you off, but where does that lead to anything that is lasting as far as happiness goes? Trust me, all those women you are trying to punish will not give a rat's butt about what you are doing...you hurt no one but yourself when you seal yourself off as you are suggesting. AND, you will not be doing any gay guy a favor either. Your life is your own, your mistakes are your own...stop blaming all women for your mistakes and that is the first road back to sanity. Good luck
344685
I think I owuld be slightly worried by that to be honest, he's either very unconfident about his body and manlyhood or is a closet homosexual.... talk to him about it!
342750
How do I meet 49 year old men?I have been looking for sometime and this dating pole is very shallow.I am finding men your age come with baggage which is okay except that it is usually because of a women.I find myself having to prove that I am not that women rather than being able to just show myself and be accepted for me.I would love to here more from you.If you pick this as best you can leave a comment with e-mail if you like.
225426
Wow.  That's a lotta question, that is, girl!  Let me translate roughly, see if I understand you.  There's a man, older or younger than yourself you have not said, who is a dear friend, who treats you very well, but something is missing in your response to him.  So you say, at one point, "no way what am i talking about . . . i don't know what I feel."  Oh, honey, I know old people may seem to be laughing at you when they say things like this, but I do, really, know the feeling.  \n\nSeems whenever you're confronted with an important decision (am I right that someone or some circumstances are pressuring you to marry him?), and you are of two minds about it, you need time for those two minds to have it out.  So you beg for time.  It's attractive, gives him hope, and does not burn your bridges.\n\nThen you must, in good faith, use that time for self analysis.  What is it that is missing in being with this man, in imagining being with him for the rest of your life?  Is there something that you fear will happen to make that something to regret?  If so, focus on that fear and ask yourself some real honest questions about (1) how reasonable and rational is your fear; (2) how much has to do with a Hollywood-produced image of romantic love that just isn't in the time you spend with this man who apparently is pretty sincere in wanting you for his wife.  Am I right so far?\n\nThen the question has to be, how fair is it to compare a real, flesh-and-blood man with those guys who are up on that screen precisely because they look good.  They look good; some of them real, real good.  So what?  What's that got to do with the real world?  If a man does not seem downright ugly to you, which is far more flexible than most people imagine, then how kind and good, how sincerely your friend and partner, both in and out of the bedroom, is far, far more important than playing out some Hollywood scene.  You know it already, but maybe you need old auntb93 to remind you.
935538
a closet straight?  he told you he is bi but more gay than straight.  what's the problem?  you want every person in the world to know he is bisexual in the hopes that no one will sleep with him except you...you sound very immature and jealous/obsessive.
825080
LOL -- I always ask myself this same question. I don't walk through the streets announcing, "I am straight and my man & I are having great sex!" Or whatever........
849655
Sounds like your a curious person, tolerant of what you don't really understand, and you aren't homophobic. I would hazard a guess that one day you'll end up married, maybe with children. And throughout you're life you may have gay or bisexual male friends who you don't chastise just because of who they are, which would be very good of you. But then again, who knows what the future holds. One thing I do  know is that your curiosity will subside in time. It is very mature to "try" something in a safe environment (looking at "gay" stuff) where no harm can come to you.
417131
Although I am not male...I would like to offer my opinion....I have a few friends that are gay and they are anything but effeminate! I know that when they tell people they are gay not many others believe. This is too bad that in this day and age, and with the access to all these tools to educate, many, or should I say most, still have this stereo type of what a gay man "should be". This is just plan ignorant and narrow minded. But then these people still probably are too homophobic to discover the truth...and get to know some for who they really are...not based on a preconceived label.
182314
None at all is your answer.  As a hetero male, I can say with all sincerity that only homophobes and individuals insecure with their OWN sexuality object to equal rights for gays.  Love is love.....end of story.
486357
I'd say no, sorry that's not my style... OR Id say I'm not gay but I suck guy's c0cks how are lol
192748
No, I am straight...but nothing wrong with those that aren't :D
320555
You sound absolutely divine to me.  If you were straight, I'd chase you down like the meat-free hottie you are.  You are not eccentric.  Listen, I know several gay men with values similar to yours.  My advice?  Move to a university town with a diverse, cosmopolitan community of people.  Take salsa classes.  Join a animal rights group.  Attend a Unitarian Universalist church.  You will find men like yourself, I promise.  Just be firm in your beliefs, never compromise yourself, and trust that the right man will enter your life.  Believe me: He is out there and he probably feels just as isolated as you do.  Good luck.
242853
It is how you live your life I have bi fantasies among many other kinds of fantasies.I am 64 and never have had a experience with another man.So I would say in reality it is how you live.I will agree you can become a prisoner of your mind but again in reality it is what you do.So I am straight.The reality is if I acted out the fantasy i would hate it.I do know who I am .I also know how my fantasies hold me prisoner yet for me fantasies are exciting .In reality if I was truly offered a threesome or another man I would more in likely not do it.
620810
Bi? Come on if you're a guy and and you like to suck d1ck or take d1ck in th a$$ you're gay so stop fooling yourself... you're not fooling anyone. Please do yourself a favor and come out of the closet life to short to be wasting your time with women.
640505
There's not exactly fine lines to define hetero, bi, or homo preference nowadays.\nJust because you recognize the attractiveness or aesthetics of a male doesn't mean you're desiring him. You could have very well took an objective approach in knowing that he's not bad to look at, which is just that. \n\nSubconsciously, you could have been comparing him with yourself. I doubt you were actively looking at guys because you were checking out the women as usual as you said. You merely saw the guy. Plus, you don't want to look at men and like them. So, that intention says you're not that likely to be gay. \n\nAlso, everyone has been slightly curious to some degree about members of the same sex. It's merely a stage to be either felt for a short moment and ignored or turned into a habit later on incorporated into a lifestyle. It depends on the level of thoughts and consideration one actually puts into it. Anyway, it's different in everyone's case. Your case is more than likely a momentary deal. You shouldn't even have to think much of it.\n\nOn the other hand, if you do happen to be gay, there is NOTHING wrong with that. Society tends to look at homosexuals in a negative light. Why let that pressure you in becoming whatever you want to become? Denial is only going to cause you problems and misery. You have the liberty to like whatever you want to like. However, I would warn you that gay sex is much more prone to HIV infection than sexual contact with someone of the opposite sex. But, nowadays, you don't have to be gay to catch the disease. \n\nAnyway, I don't think you are gay or wanting to turn gay. Even if you are or turning, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.\n\nHowever, just to reassure you, I DON'T think you have anything to worry about. I strongly DOUBT you are turning gay.
284025
Is this a case of striving for the "easier" option?  From your question it seems like you recognise that you ARE gay but would wish for the "simplicity" of a "normal" life. Fantasy can be all consuming, but that doesn't make it REAL. \n\nI would certainly advocate your seeking counsel - to get at the root of your depression and loss of libido.  I wouldn't go so far as to tell you to look to becoming "straight", however.  Should that be the outcome of your treatment, so be it. \n\nYou are what you are: gay, straight or somewhere in between.  Once you both know and accept yourself (and your sexual orientation), you'll be able to move forward with your life, enjoying the journey into old age.  Moreover, you'll look back at this dreadful time and draw so many positives from it - Pride in having survived, emotional resilience and the tools to not only look at life but LOVE IT & LIVE IT!\n\nMy very best wishes to you, in finding your answers.
783662
Looking at your last few questions, you seem very concerned with putting people into categories. I'm sorry, but life isn't like that. We're all individuals, and we have different tastes, different experiences, different perspectives. Some gay men are body-conscious, some aren't, exactly the same as straight men, or women.