Is friendship with her possible???...?
813498
Well hon you are certainly in a rough spot. It seems like the best course of action would be to end things for now at least. \n\nI think the best thing to do is tell her how hurt you are over her cheating and that despite everything you still care for her. Then make it clear that you arent prepared to forgive her for cheating just yet and that you will talk sometime later. Minimum of 3 or 4 months preferably 6 months later. Then after several months of cooling off time you two maybe in a position to be friends, but right now you need to be away from this girl. \n\nS
102867
if u think she is good so it is not bad to be friend to her is it call her no problem it is not importan that u must marr her or something u can be jsut good friends aslo
259183
I would say that was no friend to start out with. This person wants to be popular and will do whatever it takes. I would confront her and tell her your true feelings then go from there.
950857
She doesnt want to be on bad terms with you but also considers you to be the back up friend. It sucks. If you really wanted to stir the pot a bit you could make friends with her friend. Ha ha. Yes thats very 'high school' of me, but tempting isnt it?
369407
The question really is "Do YOU want to go there?" Yes, relationships usually do work better if you are friends first...but the fact that you are asking makes me think that you have some doubt as to whether you like her enough to become romantically involved....
553411
If you want to be a friend, be a friend.   Walk to her and let she sees you as a friendly person who really adores her and that will help for you to find your words to say.    Good luck!  Sexyboy1190.   I love your name.   JT
1026326
I would just talk to her. I have been friends with one girl for many years and we started to grow apart and i just talked to her about it and now im going to her wedding and im going to be her sons godmother. never give up on true friendship
650974
Very mature decision... Offer to be a friend, listen to her when she wants someone to talk to, slip back into the shadows when she doesn't.  Just let her know that you're willing to be a friend until she's ready for more.  She'll respect and appreciate it.  Good luck.
288313
You don't have to be friends with her, but it's uncool to talk about someone behind their back, even if you do say it to her face. The coolest thing to do would be to either leave her alone, completely, or be extra cool and befriend her. Maybe you can help her not to be a loser.
593191
No you are not chasing an impossible dream. Anything is possible. Hang in there. Nobody knows the future. Just because she considers you as a friend doesn't mean anything. Remember friendship is where a relationship starts. Love takes time and it may be that it is taking her longer to except her feelings. Just because she doesn't say she doesn't love you don't mean it wont happen. Good luck to you hun. I know you will find happiness.
577013
well, I really appreciate your kind heart..\nalthough there's no chance to prevent her hurting feeling...\nbut I believe, it's much much better you tell her the truth, that you can only keep her as a friend, than act like you're her someone special...\ncause it will be more hurts...\nbe brave.
1015225
trust her, you have known each  other yalls whole life. and if i ever needed a friend that is the kind of friend i would want to confide in. some one who knows me inside out and yet still very different, someone who know everything about me, but yet didn't tell anybody when we went our separate ways...
961096
Probably not, not if she was a true friend.   But, I would talk to her and ask her directly.   It is always best to be up front and honest.   That way there is no misconceptions.
1027671
yes.....become friends first...if you love her wait to see if she loves you...go from there...
319549
Well you could talk to her about a girl you're interested in that is not her. She might get the hint that way. You can still be friends because you're looking for her advice, but at the same time you're making it obvious that the friendship you two have is just that.... friendship, nothing more. \n\nAlways have something in your hands or wear a back pack on both shoulders that way she'll be less likely to hug you or hold your hand.
1006248
If you have changed and wish to now become her friend, then I would say go for it. Unless something really outrageous happened during your friendship with her that would make her hate you, chances are you she probably does not.\n\nIn fact she may actually be suprised that after so long, and after her effort to be your friend you are now on the one taking the intiative.\n\nDefinitely go for it, honestly what do you have to lose?
994469
she must like you pretty well if she hangs out with you. Maybe you should just ask her some time if she wants your friendship to be more than just that.