My wife wants to go out tonight but doesn't want to take our kids, I told her they were her responsibility...
812975
Sit back, watch your game, kiss half of your salary and your pension bye bye along with the house you live in, hope you like little one room apartments and be prepared for your children to hate you since you care so little about them.\nOh and get a vasectomy.
681062
There is not much you can do for someone who is not willing to  help themselves.  You should be the one to drop off and pick up the kids.  SMART MOVE.  It is not a real good way to show parenting skills if he is a drunk.   I question is ability to take care of the kids?  Suggest AA or a treatment center in your area to help him regain his self confidence within himself.  It is better to help him out than to turn against him, if nothing else put for the kids sake.  Best wishes to you all
1114771
Would you let her if she were 15? If the answer is yes, then you don't care for her brothers more... you just don't think she is old enough yet to hang out by herself. (Which she isn't, in my opinion.)  She is trying to guilt you into letting her hang out by herself, which is unsafe. Don't let her control you! You are the parent, and she needs boundaries that she must learn to live with. Let her know that when she is older, she will be able to go to the park by herself, but that you are worried about her safety. Anyone who would say that your daughter is ok by herself at 11 is either a child themselves, an unfit parent, or a predator hoping to find a little girl alone in the park.
986946
If you can get free time away from your kids, then you should be able to go and do whatever the heck you want to do.  I have three kids, and if I can get away, then I go as far away as I can.  I'll go to the mall, or to the Bingo, or, just sit ouside in a park ( I know there are still kids there, but they aren't MY problem.)\nYou are a mom.  You can never be perfect, (even though your mother-in-law seems to think you should be) But if you do the best that you can, and it should be without criticism.
758438
I understand you have a connection with her kids, but sorry guy your wasting your time.  She keeps coming back to you even though she walks all over you...she knows you will be there and relies on you to be there.  You need to put your foot down and tell her you are not her doormat_
81069
Remember what it was like in the begining and don't try to do the same things over again change it up a little. Don't be afraid to try something new, but with your girls consent. Be willing to listen when she wants to talk, or sit her down and ask her why she acts the way she does when other people are around. Tell her you are willing to try new things to rekindle that old flame and if she's not down than it's time to move on, just don't lose touch with your children there whats most important.  Good-Luck.
986163
The kids are so excited to go with you tonight, thank you for doing this.  However, I don't feel that I am ready to be with the family just yet.  I am still working on sorting out feelings from the separtation.  Frankly, I don't feel that I would be great company tonight.  Thank you for the invitation but; I'll have to pass.
577240
sounds like jealousy to me....she will get over it soon enough, just try not to talk about the kids with every breath (not saying you do but that could add to her jealousy)....dont let her get you down though and good luck!
61549
It sounds like she has no respect for you and has no consideration for your feelings.  Why would you want to be with a woman like this? Would she be so understanding if you were spending your free time with another woman?  You need to take charge of the situation and put your foot down let her know that this is unacceptable behavior and if she refuses to put a stop to it you know that she is not the one for you.  Ultimately the decision is yours do you want to live this way and if she is not looking out for your childrens best interest than maybe you need to.
347789
My advice is to sit down and talk with your wife. Find out why she left you and try to resolve the problem. If you do get it resolved, your kids will listen to you and your wife. If it doesn't, talk to your kids. Find out why they went to stay with your wife and inlaws. Agian, try to resolve the problems. If those problems can't be resolved peacefully with your wife, get a lawyer so you can have time with your kids too. It's not fair to you to  have to sit and miss your kids who you love while your wife gets to see them all the time. You should both have equal rights to see them.
930737
I don't think the problem starts with the bars.  It shouldn't be the bars responsibility.  It should the parents who have enough respect and love for their children to not want them in that environment.  I have 2 boys, ages 6 and 8, and feel that little ones should first off, not be in a place where drinking is going on, but also shouldn't be out in a restaurant at 9:00 pm.  Little ones should have their bed times, and also, I like to go out at 9:00 myself without hearing little ones screaming.  That is why I chose to go out that late with my husband.\n\nParents need to think more of their children and what's good for them.  They need to take their job as parents a lot more seriously.  They need to put aside their wants for the benefits of their children's health and safety!
717787
I have 2 little ones, and I would think that it would be easier for me if someone took the kids away for a bit.  Talk to your daughter about her feelings, then make a decision.
742258
She seems selfish to me. Tell her if she loves you for who you're really are she should not pend your marriage on that condition. I would have understood if she were from a different religion or something and having worries about your kids' religion but that's not even the case.\nAsk her how she'd feel if you make a similar demand! She is probably used to getting what she wants by putting pressure on people, but she should not treat you that way.
1160198
Say...BYE  BYE.......Shes gone........Maybe during you're " confusing emotions about you're marriage, and  " figuring out what to do", You should have done them.......at home, with the actual person....You-re wife, The solution was between you and you're wife, not some other woman. Just be glad you don't have any kids dragged in.
586787
Once HRS gets involved, things happen over which neither you nor Denise has any control over. As a lawyer with a lot of experience in these situations, I suggest you try talking to Denise about your concerns and try to get her to be more responsible, or at least find out what's going on in her life that's causing this. If she's just partying after work and taking advantage of you and your wife, report her. If she needs help with something, see if there is somewhere she can get it.
860312
It is Monday afternoon for me and I am even MORE BORED.  However, I have tomorrow off work and my parents are returning from a month in America so I will see them for a couple of hours tomorrow.  If I were you I would go out and do something you don't usually do with your wife (and I don't mean anything rude).  Could you go and see a film she wouldn't enjoy?  Go shopping or see friends?  Do something around the house?  I'm sure, if you put your mind to it, there are lots of things you can find to occupy your time.  Get the house ready for her return - cook something nice, have a bath ready for her when she returns.  Have a bottle of wine chilling...
296010
Perhaps you can talk to him and see what you can sort out. It would certainly be better if he could tell you earlier so you can make plans for them. It will be an ongoing issue for your relationship so you need to sort things out both with your kids and his kids. You want to avoid having a situation where he perceives that you are asking him to choose between you and his kids.