Man should hear or follow  his wife or mother after marriage?
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In my opinion, one should not follow a strict rule on whom he should follow or not.\n\nThe only criteria shall be to have his head firmly in control and the guts to say to both that right is right and wrong is wrong. No hanky panky here.\n\nI, however, personly give more credit to my mother than wife becasue they have taken care of me to bring me to a level where I could marry my present wife.\n\nSo definitely, a person should be thankful to their parents and ultimately should know what is right and wrong and be able to convey that to both of them as well.
488774
Husband.  Mom knows I love her, but I have to think of the future, not the past, and I have a son that needs a daddy.  I think my mom would agree.
1031137
Be very patient, this is the time when she needs you to be by her side and just understand, even if you have no real clue about what’s going on. Take the time out to (listen) to what ever she has or want to tell you. This is your time to be supportive, be the man she married and stay true to your vowels.
600017
"and for this purpose, a man must leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife." or something like that .....that's in the bible. you put your wife and children first as head of your household. doesn't mean that you ignore the rest of your family or don't give them same amount of respect, etc. you'll get the hang of it. just remember, you are leaving your parents behind and joining your life to another human being, she does have to take precedence. as far as what else changes after marriage, well , for some it's a big adjustment, but for others, it just works itself out. every relationship is so different. good luck!
604653
Definitely keep open communication between you always. Talk about things. \nBut I suggest that you have a talk with your mother-in-law-to-be. Ask her for some suggestions. She not only has experience being married, but she knows your future husband.
203417
I understand your position very well. Where I come from, the society finds it hard to accept inter-tribal marriages into the mainstream - surprisingly even if both of you are Muslims.\nIt is very hard to convince Muslim parents to accept an 'non-believing' daughter-in-law, mother of their grandchildren etc. In your case, one can say it is justifiable (Islam only allows Men to marry PIOUS Christian and Jewish Women). Conversion to Islam, may help soften their (Your Man's Parents') hard position; I don't know about your's. \nOne thing worthy of consideration is that, contrary to modern secular opinion, in deeply traditional societies like yours (and mine), one marries into a whole family, not just a member of that family. So, by marrying him, you are kind of, inducted to his entire brethren (and sisteren :P) and vice-versa. Although both of you are educated and having jobs of your own, you will be surprised to find out later after your wedding how deeply rooted in tradition both of you can be. You may end up judging one another according your individual religious/cultural standards, and THAT can be a problem ("ALL THIS TIME I THOUGHT YOU LOVED ME JUST THE WAY I AM; PERHAPS I MADE A MISTAKE!!!). This spell trouble with capital T! especially from the Man's point of view.\nI know you are seeking some 'constructive' ideas, but I can't help but be selfish. I'll want to advice for you to convert to Islam (with sincerity on your part and lots of help, patience and perseverance from your Man), get married with HIS parents blessings, move to another area (possibly another country - to lessen friction between families) and settle there.\nI hope this helps...\n(A-K-B)
361104
both......love after marriage is different, you can tell......marriage after love gets you to the love after marriage, so its all good!
377783
It really depends on the problem. I think a man should stand by his wife only when it involves them two only. IF it involves other people, then the problem needs to be resolved as soon as possible.
299709
Father , son and the Holy ghost where is the woman.\nTell all the three that you can clone yourself where as they need your help or the hand full of dust to create life and develop a sense of belonging.\nTell him that a new born learns the first lesson of Love in your Womb .\nTell him that after birth even the baby of an animal walks towards the Mother and not towards the father.
639605
make up your mind about your marriage first. then do what you have to do,
319415
For a man it will be his mom, then his wife. His kids come next. Everybody wil have equal attention.\nFor a lady it will be the same. If she has kids then they come first.
1144968
Yes, some women change, because the man changes after marriage.
880637
Both are new to each other, so firstly I suggest u to understand your wife, her likes and dislikes, tell her ur ambitions, goals, etc about your future plans how to lead ur life, so that u both would be leading a happy life in future without any divercifications of mind, be crystal clean in your talks now only.
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The Bible also says that the Wife should reverence her husband.\n\nEph. 5.33
308473
Marriage should be seen as the unification of two family along with the boy and the girl. After marriage Bridegroom gets good treatment in brides family. Bridegroom will be committed for the child's future. U can't do any thing in this world.\n\n If u mistake this world for paradise u have to face the anger of God in this world and doom's day.
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Your spouse isn't supposed to make you choose between your family and him.  But what it does mean is that your spouse should be your first concern from now on.  You are supposed to support and love your spouse.  It doesn't mean you dump your family though.  \n\nExample:\n\nHis mother constantly puts you down.  Your husband is supposed to stand up for you.  He has to put you first before his mother.  You are his wife and life-partner.  He is supposed to stand by your side.  He can still love his mother, but you must always come before her.
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Is there really an ideal length? Its when it feels right for both of you. My mom remarried only after 5 months of knowing her current husband, he's the best thing ever for her. Me on the other hand, I've been in love and living with the same man for 14 years, but we've never officially married.