After masterbation, I feel bad. Are these feelings natural?
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You are respecting her by discussin everything and moving slowly WITH her in mind.  There is no problem with anything you are doing.  The issue is what you were taught about sex.  Were you taught to be embarrassed about your body as a child?  To hide it, not to talk about it, not to touch it?  I think that is incredibly unfair. \nHow can we love and respect ourselves if we don't love and respect our bodies.\nWe are not just spirits and brains.  Our bodies exist.  It sounds like you are experiencing things in a wonderful setting - an intimate relationship with mutual respect.\nLeave the guilt at the door, but bring the respect to bed with you.
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Yes I have and probably will again, being only human. It usually happens after I've done something that makes me feel like a complete fool everytime I think about it! Whatever has happened to you probably isn't as bad as you think it is right now and you'll live through it one way or another, Talk to pinkstealth there. She looks like she's got her ears on and waiting for you.
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my boyfriend tried to do it once, and i felt like i'm going to poo or something. yet there's this good feeling but i still don't like it that much.. really makes me feel sooooo uncomfortable
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Since the testicles are involved during sex I have a feeling you will regret getting aroused. And that will happen whether you give or get. All you can do is try. If it hurts too bad I'm sure it will go right back down from whence it came. (bad pun) Good luck. Keep some cold water near.
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It's not wrong that you feel that way.  Anyone in your shoes would need relief.  But it would be wrong if you actually did it. Talking to your gf about it would be a great idea, but do it in an open honest, nonthreatening way. It would be a compliment to her to know that you miss her (and want her) but you are being faithful to her anyway, and that you love her enough to be honest with her. (Not to mention she is having a hard time with this too just like you, and hearing you talk about it would also encourage her)  \n\nAlso you do have my props for doing the right thing so far. Again anyone in you situation who would claim not to "need relief" would be lying. It is a hard thing to go through and I commend you for being honest. I also commend you for being faithful up to this point. Just hang in there. You might consider this a test in your relatinship. If you do remain faithful, trust me when she gets back you will reap benefits (in every way) far greater than what you have had before. Trust me I've been there.  It's hard, but as hard as it  is it's well worth it! On the other hand, if you do have an affair, (at this point) it will only be out of weakness and not love or even desire, and you will hate yourself and be miserable for doing it, so spare yourself the misery and don't. \n\nAlso in the meantime, the best way you can deal with the struggle is to pray about it. If that sounds creepy to you, try porn (if you must, though you'll feel bad later for it). In all honesty, I've tried both and prayer actually works alot better (God even takes away feelings of guilt and frustration, whereas porn adds them)But that's just my experience. If you don't believe me try for yourself.
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I've done it, it was awesome but afterwards I felt real freakin trashy
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I used to be just like that. You have to realize that you have to please yourself before you can really please anyone else. Don't go through your life regreting what you did not do and resenting someone else because of the choices that you yourself made. Try it slowly at first and see how it works for you. You will be surpised at how much better you will feel. Take baby steps. The world was not made in a day.
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awwwwwwwww, i love your pics. :) i feel the same way. :)\n\nbut there are others for me, that i feel are also sad and stuff.\n\n*ill post pics later, cant right now
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They may feel bad later on, but I doubt you will ever know it. Unless they end up in a 12 step program and decide to make ammends. I have been hurt a dozen times and never had an apology. What I have done is remember to keep my side of the street clean and learn from my mistakes. The right guy will come along, but you need to be in the right space to deal with him. That means taking care of yourself and not being to co-dependent, not to mention, guys will have more respect for you if you keep your independance and don't let them walk all over you. I had to learn this the hard way! Good luck.
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absolutely nothing wrong with that!!! masterbating is normal and it's a great way to explore your body and what feels good to you...keep it up girl!!! I'm in a relationship and sex is involved and I still do it....sometimes it's like "alone" time....me time...fun time...:) have fun!!!
260420
It all depends on who it was with and how did you feel after the deed was done. Did you feel good, more mature, or just plain lousy
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wow u masterbated fo 2 hours didn't ur hand get tired, shoot u probably have some strong arms,lol, i believe that masterbating helps or could help wit sex, try it during sex its great!!!!!!!!
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You may want to stop though I know it's not that simple. It takes a lot of self control. Try thinking about other things or do exercises when you get those kinds of feelings. God's word says your body is a temple and that you should honor God with your body(1 Corithians 6:18). this may be the reason you feel so dirty after the act. Pray for stength and just keep buisy with other things to occupy your mind :)
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It could be a big lack of fulfillment of your needs, feeling worthless, or very disappointed, perhaps someone did something to you and you haven't been able to come to terms with it and give closure to a situation. \n\nAsk yourself what it is, who made you feel so bad? There could be depression, a lack of assurance and feeling less, you'll have to take control of this and these deadly emotions. You have certain issues that if you search deep inside you'll be able to deal with it.
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You really screwed up. Guys are really sensitive about sex, so when you criticize their performance they feel like you're attacking their manhood. Sure, he may have overreacted but it was only because you made him feel like a lesser man! Buy him a present, show up at his house/apt/whatev and apologize. Tell him that you were tired/ill and in a bad mood. Take complete responsibility for the argument (even if you don't think you should) and tell him that he means the world to you and you don't want to lose him just because you were in a bad mood. Tell him that you'll never do it again and that he is amazing in bed. In fact, tell him he is a sex god and you are not worthy of his amazing oral. Make him feel like a man again. So go! Ask him to take you back!! GOOD LUCK!!
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There could be several different reasons.  First you need to truly believe and recognize that masturbation is normal and okay.  Every man in the world has done, is doing it, or will do it.  Second, religions preach against it but masterbation is not mentioned in the old or new testament.  Three, it is a safe and private way for a man to control his sexual urges.  Masturbation is safe, convenient, private, and personal.  Just keep it that way.  Fourth, after you masturbate and ejaculate there is a release of endorfines in the body that give the male a feeling of relaxation and euphoria.  (sex feels really good)  This euphoria can give rise to a feeling of guilt.  So masturbate with no feeling of guilt, keep it private.  When you get a partner you will naturally masturbate less or even give it up.   As you live life you may find a need to masturbate again (ex. loss of your sex partner) and if you do it is no big deal.
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Well us guys have 2 heads - one that houses the brain, and the other that's on the end of the penis.  And rarely do they both work at the same time.  Maybe your friend will have reflected on things today and regret some of his actions, especially since he did not want you to do the same.  But people are always looking for something (was it just sex, or more?) so I think you have to try to understand that when the opportunity comes along you may also regret passing it up.\n\nSorry your feeling bummed out though.