how to make my ex straight bf understand his wife is not the "saint" he thinks she is?
827363
Why do you care. Get over her and move on.
977139
Just invite him to come visit if you are done with your ex altogether. be kind and make a good impression. If necessary, send a letter to your ex telling him what's up and maybe even apologize. Ladies, email me at johnluisduffy@yahoo.com
875932
I'm in a similar situation, and I think your friend needs to figure out whether or not her guy is over his ex.  If he's truly over the ex, and they're really just friends, then talking to the ex shouldn't be a big deal.  If he's still not over her and wants to maintain contact for the hope of a future reconciliation, then your friend needs to get out now.  She shouldn't be anyone's filler or rebound.  The trick is figuring out whether or not he's actually over the ex, because most guys who aren't completely retarded won't be honest.
976514
your kids will see in time what an idiot their father is being. dont curse him infront of the kids, rant to a friend, dont give your ex the attention he's craving by bringing up this matter, ignore it and be strong for your children. your new partner will have his own feelings about this matter, if he wishes to talk about it then get it out in the open, but avoid talking about this with the kids.
859466
Normally Indian males do tend to be loyal, but when tempted and find an opening do succumb to. The best course of action can be to approach the ex and tell her straight what you think of her and try to find out if she hereself is married and if true, things can be sorted out amicably. \nThe point of worry is that your hubby is doing it in a clandestine way. Since your mother-in-law does not seem to be interested in your problem, you would have to seek help from other sources, like your old friends, classmates and your parents. \n\nBut first thing first, you must ask your hubby and tell your view point and if at all he wishes to continue the relationship, tell him to be open and straight. Invite that ex to a dinner party in your house try to sort it out.
358384
Give him the benefit of the doubt. Don't go accusing him yet. If he does happen to cheat on you while in New Mexico, then he isn't worth your time. You can only forgive someone so much. When he gets back, talk to him about it. Tell him that you don't feel safe when he's around his ex. If he is the right guy he will understand.
3408
The easiest process that I would suggest is to convert one of your exes that you can stomach. Use that as a starting point to get into the swing of it until you are more comfortable with the concept. Just make sure they aren't confusing the situation with the possibility of getting back together. that can be messy.
962060
i think it would be wise to ask your hubby what is his opion about all of this first before asking other peoples opinion. since he already know everything about your past, and i think his ok with it, give your man the respect, by asking for his help his your problem. but for me i dont think it would be wise to tell your ex about the baby, for it will definitely open doors for a questions and if i were your husband i would definitely dont want you to get too involved with your past specially with what happened to you and your ex. but thats just me. . .  the best thing you can do is to pray for God's guidance. goodluck and GODBLESS to you and your family.
554208
Absolutely it is!! He needs to cut the cord, throw away the security blanket and be married to you! What do they possibly have to talk about? Didn't they break up? Didn't he marry you? She can't be giving him marriage advice that is going to have a positive outcome for you. I dealt with the same situation and my husbands ex put him through hell but she still had this "something" over him. Well, after many heart to heart w/my H, I had to take care of it, its like they feel bad for them or something? Remember, you are the WIFE! Who the hell is she? See ya, go away, bye bye! Or my favorite, turn the tables. Find your little black book (you know you still have it, we all do) and start reconnecting with your old ex's - opps, I mean your old friends. Im sure a few would love to hear from you again. Trust me, your H will loose the number real quick. Good luck "WIFE"
489056
Hi, My X use to do the same exact things! I know exactly what it feels like, unfortunately the last few lies I found out were from my children. He was hangin around with a white trash piece of shit that was his sisters friend. He swore up and down they were just friends, come to find out he had been seeing her off and on for about 12 years! I was married to this asshole for 17 of them! Please please... Listen to your heart, especially with his track record.. make sure for yourself and I hope its not true, but that there isn't another woman! I don't know how I didn't find out sooner. I guess the kids were younger..not sure.. But the things you were saying is just how it was with us.. and he didn't even care when we didn't talk I think he actually enjoyed it because there was less to cover up if I wasn't asking him questions! But please keep your eyes and ears open, and I hope you find nothing but just in case hun.. take it from someone who has been there. Take care good luck and if anything changes please keep me informed or if u need another woman to talk to email or im me anytime! Good luck & be strong! Kim
193175
Make it very clear you are not together. Although I don't think that will work. I was in a similar situation, my ex was delusional. \nDo not answer his questions... ignore them.
141135
Considering you aided in the breakup of her home, you should stay as far away as possible.  I suspect you either have feelings of guilt or you are afraid that your husband will do to you what he did to his first wife or you think he will realize the error of his ways and go back to the ex wife and YOU SHOULD!\n\nI can only assume there were problems in the husband's first marriage which caused him to seek consolation outside the marriage so you are not totally to blame for the distruction of their marriage, but you provided him with the means and the opportunity.  Now that you are in the wife's position I think you may see things a little more clearly.\n\nSomewhere within yourself you are questioning whether or not you can trust your husband.  You are questioning whether it is a pattern for him to seek outside the marriage at the first sign of trouble.  I also think you know your husband and his ex has unfinished business.  The problem that caused their marriage to breakdown was never discovered or brought to the surface and the possibility that he may wake up one day and realize he still loves his ex wife and he only hooked up with you because he did not know how to communicate his needs.  \n\nBefriending the ex wife is not going to keep the husband from cheating if he so chooses nor will it provide you with peace of mind.  Remember the old saying 'what goes around, comes around.  It is true and it is called Karma.
110773
Good luck!!  Been divorced 18 years and X still bad mouths me.  Bet you can't talk to him either.  Just try to ignore his insecure behavior.  I'm sure mutual friends know what kind of person you are.  Say something like, how is (so & so's name) doing with AA?
134613
Tell him you are sorry and that you will never do that kind of a thing again. Never involve yourself with married people. Think about it this way. What if someone else interfered in you blissful marriage and spoilt it. Ask for her forgiveness and stay clear from such entanglements.
388796
Work on what got it to that point. I had my wife cheat on me. And I left. It took all I had to do it. We have had alot of problems since then, basically I don't feel like she shows me respect or respects me. Point is it depends on how your husband feels about you. I would take my ex back in a heartbeat if I thought she really wanted to work it out and really felt bad about it. In this situation you'll have to eat alot of crow but if he loves you he'll work with you. Good luck I hope it works out.
105005
Do they have children together?If so no.He will allways be a father and need to be in contact with her about the children.If no children are involved and they just talk to have something to laugh and giggle about,yes tell him it bothers you.\n\nSorry I thought you said ex wife not family.\nHow long were they maarried?I am divorced,was married for 12 years,and my ex stays in touch with my family,it's ok with me and her new husband.If they were married along time they probably feel he is a part of their family.Bonds grow with family during a marriage,and just because him and his spouse didnt get along,dont mean her family dislikes him
1167906
I would say move on.. not only does he have no respect for other women, but you as his wife, you should be getting the most.\n\nHe thought nothing of your feelings when he was doing it.. and now that it is out in the open.. how does he feel??? \n\nI would say if he shows no remorse.. don't even bother... move on.. life is too short.. and us women are settling for jerks!!