Isn't virginity important to guys anymore who are considering marriage?
826941
I agree with you. You get married because you love that person for that person, not because you love what they can do to you in the sack.\n\nPeople say sex is an expression of love, but I think lack of sex is a greater expression. If your boyfriend/girlfriend loves you enough to say "I don't need sex. I can wait." That's someone worth being with. It they're ready to hit the sack right away... well... maybe they don't completely love you for you.\n\nThat's why I'm a virgin and will remain so until marriage. If a guy says he can't wait that long, then he's not worth my time.\n\nSo, getting back on track now... Is viriginity important to guys? I guess it depends on the man. To me, (female), virginity is very important. I don't care if they have experience or not and I'd rather they didn't. I want to be the only person they've ever been with and I'd hope that my future spouse will feel the same way. =D
920773
i guess because 'men in the west' don't have unrealistic expectations.  why is virginity so important to you?  how could 'women of the middle east' marry not virgin men?  why the double standard?
367884
virginity when you got it seems to be a burden that grows.\n\nbut when it is gone ,it will be a loss.\n\nit will suprise some girls ,but it will also blow their mind and somebody might just apreciate it no end and be so much the happier for it.\n\n\nif you got this far ,you could hang on a little longer,25 is a good time to get married any way \n\ndont blow 25 years of control on a cheap thrill.\nthat it keeps getting harder I can well imagine,probably every day.but try to keep it up.
244046
No its not!!! Because the bottom line that once you marry the sex life becomes less and less. It may not be right away that this happens but its true it does happen. When you are thinking of marriage you should make sure that this person is the one who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Marriage is about uniting as ONE!Its my opinion that communication would be the most important thing in a marriage up under have Jesus at the roots of the marriage! Sex does play a role in a marriage because  two people who are married feel the most connected when they are making love as the should but its not the most important thing. Marriage includes making decisions together, compassion, understanding, just letting the other one know that you are there for them no matter what, friendship.  So have fun with your SEX but remember marriage is more that just SEX if you marry for this reason then you are going to end up unhappy and wanting out! Truth of the matter, things change so will the sex life.Good Luck to you!
58693
Hi there,\nI know that the pressure of being a virgin is extremely hard for one to handle, especially in the Western societies that we live in; but virginity is worth striking for.  \nI'm in my 20s and the group of friends that I have is also in their 20s and we are all virgins.  I think the most important thing that one needs to keep in mind is that virginity is for ONESELF, not for anyone else (or sometimes you might wanna save it for you future husband).  Once you are determined about it, it would be less difficult when you think of whether to have sex or not.  \nMy friends and I choose not to have sex before marriage b/c we see SEX as LOVE, and we respect our body as well as our partners'.  When you love someone unconditionally, you don't just want to own the physical body, do you??  Moreoever, when one has premarital sex, the wedding is not something that precious and special anymore, don't you think???  What is it special about the wedding night if you've already know everything about the other person???\nI also have friends who had sex in their teen years and most of them regreted later on.  Most of them lived for the moment and after that, they are the ones who "loose".  Plus, when we are in our teenage years, we don't really know what love is!!!  Believe me, when you find the one who really loves and cares for you, he wouldn't might if you want to save sex for marriage.  (My bf and I both compromise on that, and we're pretty happy).  Hope you find this a helpful!!  Good luck!
508460
it depends on what your reason for being a virgin is.  if you are saving it for the ONE then keep him at arms length until you think he is the ONE.  if virginity doesnt matter to you then I'd evaluate if he's really the kind of guy youd want to lost it to, keep in mind its an emotional experience and lots of guys can be dicks.  i personally waited for my husband and its the best decision i ever made. and dont forget to make him wear a condom, you dont want to get cooties your first time!
25661
Obviouly as I am a virgin. It would be great feeling to break the virginity with his love.\nBut in these days  there are quiet few people so we may ask her to be with only husband after marriage and also the it hold for men too.
647911
Yes, of course. I am willing to wait until I get married. A lot of my friends have lost their virginity two years ago or when we were 14/15/16 and they definitely regretted it. I told them not to but they didn't listen. But I guess it's just that most teenagers just do it to express themselves or release anger/frustration/sadness/whatever and they don't care what they are doing anymore.
522736
Please, please, please wait. It is so important. My husband was a virgin when we married and I wasn't. I wanted to have my virginity back so badly when we married but it was too late. Our honeymoon was great but it was bittersweet because I had to deal with the regret of him not being my first. It could have been the best experience of my life. And everything else counts too. I wish I wouldn't have even held hands, kissed, or anything like that until I married. It would have been so special. Please save it for marriage.
1041567
1) Guys only marry virgins?  Not true.  Some cultures may still prize it and encourage their males to seek virgins for marriage, but not every culture is so narrow minded.  Historically, marrying virgins was the only known way to ensure a bloodline, and since hereditary laws, not to mention religious laws, supported the blood heir, it was imperative to do so.  However, now days we can do that through DNA tests, and our laws are not so archaic anymore.  Additionally, since so many marriages end in divorce - those women, being virgins no longer, are still getting married again.  So, to answer your question - NO guys do not just marry virgins.   \n2. Girls judge guys on any number of things, not solely on the size of thier manhood.  Are they funny, considerate, generous, hardworking, etc.?  After that, if the relationship becomes intimate, then we consider if the guy was actively considerate of our turn ons, not just his own.  How he uses his manhood is more important than it's size.  So, no, girls do not just judge guys on the size of thier penis.\n3. Older people certainly do know how younger kids think.  We were not always old.  If the kid is really talking to us and vice-versa - not just blowing each other off - we can even understand what it would be like to be young at this day and age.   \n4. This question is a bit extreme.  I believe that for some guys, sex is a daily thought process. However, as guys grow older they discover that they enjoy so much more in life and therefore think of sex less.  If a guy has no hobbies, no friends or family, work or other activites to engage thier mind, then they might spend more time on sex.  \n5.  This question is really a throw back to question #1.  Humans learn sexual behaviors by habit, practice and environment (what we are exposed to).  Girls are not immune to that - we know what we like and don't like.  It is still true today that guys are more likely to be sexually active than girls, and as such gain more experience.  However, the girls they are having sex with are gaining it too.  \n6. That too is an extreme statement and completely untrue.  It may happen more often than not, unfaithfulness, but it is not the standard that we should judge one another by.  Expect better, be better and you will get better in return.
389652
no, ur virginity is not something people can just buy. it should be a special moment where you feel that it would mean the world to give it to your special lady.
314044
Virginity is as the most precious gift you have to give, so it should be highly valued.  Think about it: It is the only thing about you that you can give away just once.  So you should be extremely particular about that.  I wish now at 39 that I had been more particular when I ws 20!
638613
I think it depends on the guy. If that is what his morals and values are... then yes... he would respect a virgin more than someone who is not. But, not everyone has those beliefs. Personally... I would rather try the milk before buying the cow, and I'm a woman. I haven't experienced any disrespect because I am not a virgin. I feel that as long as you are not screwing any and every one... and that you are actually being selective in who you give your body to. That is what gains respect.
131419
you should wait until you're married to have sex.  you were meant to have an intimate, emotioanl, and spiritual realtionship with people of the opposite sex.\n\nsex outside of marriage, is not only dangerous, by regretful.\n\nfor example:\nyou could wind up as a one night stand\nyou can get numerous STD's\nyou can become pregnant \nor contractind AID's \n\nplease consider waiting until marriage to have sex. \n\nthink about:\n\nif you marry as a virgin to a person who is also a virgin....having sex would be a blissful act. anything you would do to eachother would feel wonderful!\n\nplus, anytime you have sex with someone, you connect with them. even if it's just subconsciously. \n\nwhy do you think that sex complicates things o much?!\n\nrespect yourself, and your future...please wait until marriage to have sex!!
400390
Yes, because standards in today's society are not emphasizing the fact that you should be married to have sex. Everything is much more free-spirited, and do whatever you want kind of attitudes.
197908
i think it's good your still a virgin. I'm 25 and still one. I'm one who still believes you need to be married to have sex.
301183
you go girl. sex brings so much more into a relationship that some people aren't ready for. most women loose there virginity because they think that they are in love and they want to please the man that they are with and and show them that they love them but a man that will stick around because he loves you and nothing else. man, that is the perfect guy. that much love cant die. i lost my virginity when i was 16 and we broke up about 6 or7 months later and i have decided that i am going to wait till i meet the person i want to merry and merry them before i have sex again. like i said it brings so much into the relationship. I'm 21 now. good idea!