I'm in love with my best friend and don't know what to do..?
827412
Ouch : ( Are you sure she is straight? she could of been hurt from you rejecting her. You need to tell her that you did have feelings for her when she came out to you, but you weren't mentally ready to deal with these feelings/emotions yet. You need to emphasise that you understand it may have been a phase for her, and just showing her the decency of telling her how you actually feel. By you already telling her i am sure she has started to think back when she did like you and what attracted her to you. I don't think she has lost her forever, you never will you to are good friends. But you need to also understand she will be emotionally and mentally a mess, because she had strong feelings for you and you burned her so she properly has compressed those feelings until how you told her how you feel. And i am pretty sure she would be questioning her sexuality again. So please be patient with her and don't give up. \nBest of luck : )
598708
I haven't been in EXACTLY the same situation, but I'll give you the benefit of my advice, anyway! \n\nFirst, don't do anything until he breaks up with his current girlfriend. That might mean you have to wait a bit, but it's the right thing to do- and besides, you'll put the guy in a bit of a tight situation if you say anything now! (And his girlfriend won't exactly love you for it...) So, wait til they break up. I know it's tough, but wait! \n\nAnd THEN, go for it! Don't worry about it ruining your friendship, because it sounds like you two really are best friends, and a friendship that strong, isn't going to be hurt by something like this. Tell him how you feel. \n\nThe best relationships are between people who start out as best friends- I know, from personal experience!\n\nGood luck!
402876
put it this way, you amy be in love with him alas he not with you..\nThe fact that you do not bat for the same team should help your decision!\nHe is your best mate...\nIs it really worth it to have a go and ruin the friendship forever???\nI suggest you go and have alot of random sex and get him off your mind..\nfriendship are forever
898873
You've got to be absolutely sure its GOING to work before you jump into that.\n\nOtherwise, you'll end up losing the love and friendship of your best friend.\n\nI'm serious... think about it and ask yourself, "Is it worth losing a friend?"
1057777
It's so hard I know..I have been in love w/someone for about 4 years..my best friend...want her so bad...but it's not happening...so you choose your pain..be friends and love from afar...or just get away from the whole situation & move in different circles.
741601
Well, obviously it's weighing pretty heavily on your mind if you are actually having dreams about it.  I would suggest that you consider all the possibilities.  If you explore your feelings with your friend, will it make things weird between the two of you if in fact they are not romantic feelings?  If so, you might want to consider just staying friends with her and preserving your "best friends" status for the rest of your life.  If, on the other hand, the two of you are confident that your status of "best friends" can withstand a possible break-up and hurt feelings, then I think you should explore the possibility further.  If you don't, you will always wonder in the back of your mind whether you made the right choice by ignoring the possibility of a romantic relationship with your best friend.  Remember, that most couples in lasting relationships will tell you that their husband, wife or partner is their best friend, lover, soul mate.  Perhaps (1) you have found your best friend, lover and soul mate in her.  Or, perhaps (2) the two of you will just become best friends with benefits.  Or, maybe (3) the whole thing will turn out to be a bad idea.  Two out of three of those possibilities aren't bad.  But one things for certain, you will never know until you try.  I suggest you go for it!\n\nBest of luck!
605227
If this person is your best friend, then chances are he already knows, and maybe feels a little of the same. it's natural between the sexes.\nDo you want to tell him because you need to nkow if he feels the same? What do you do if he doesn't, and if he does feel something, where do you go from there?? Downhill usually.\nIf there was a strong enough chemistry and bond between you to sustain a lasting relationship, then you both would have had it from the beginning, and gone way past "best friend" status.\nGood luck
88296
Well, unfortunately you really cant MAKE anyone love you. If she is your best friend, then thats a great start! She already likes you and is comfortable with you, now you just have to see if she feels that way about you too.\nIf you feel comfortable doing so, you might ask her if she has ever seen you as being more than a friend. This is a tough thing to do, so wait until you are more comfortable doing so.\nJust make sure and remember: don't be too pushy. Nothing will scare her away faster.
642834
This is always a tricky situation, and its often feared that the friendship might be ruined if the other person doesn't feel the same way. I think that if you two are 'best friends' and really close and have a healthy relationship, then if he doesn't feel the same way, maintaining the friendship should be easy.\n\nI think you should tell him and for all you know he could be feeling the exact same way, and having the same fears! So take the risk. If you don't then you are risking a really good chance to be with someone in a relationship that you really care for.\n\nPlan the right way to do it for you- whether that be on the phone, face to face, through a hand written letter, email or msn...whichever is best for you, the point is that you do it and get it out in the open of your relationship. \n\nJust remember of all the great possibilities, that's why you should do it.
920844
woooooow your just about 4 or 5 years younger then me and you still seem a little young, girly you are a little too young, but anyway you need to ask yourself whats more important, your BESTFRIEND or some boy thats going to end up breaking your heart anyway...i dont want to make it seem horrible but who's to say the same thing he's doing to your friend he won't do to you?  how do you know if he's going to be promising your best friend a 'relationship' when you and him are together (3 years from now). just know that boyz come and go but friends last for ever. so ask yourself is he really worth it?
556089
He is playing a game with you....OF COURSE HE MEANS YOU!   Listen a best friend always makes the best relationship....you know everything about each other, and you know how the please the other person....I would just straight up tell him how you feel.  What do you have to lose?  But when doing this, say "listen, lately I have really enjoyed spending more time with you than usualy and I have started to have these feelings for you, I felt you should know b/c you are a friend....and regardless I always want that first...but I do like you, and I hope that something can come out that."  GOOD LUCK GIRL!
127172
There is always a risk in this situation and only you can decide if it is worth it.  One way to get a hint about your best friends feelings might be to joke with them about the idea or claim you heard someone talking who thought you two were together.  Maybe what they say from there will open up a dialog that will give you a chance to figure things out.
591539
I wouldn't do anything right now.  You've told him how you feel.  You have to give him some time.  I'm sure he still loves you too.  You both need to be sure that you are in love not that you just love each other and are used to being together.  I wish you the best!
989667
It's very common that best friend turns to be lovers. You should find out that your best friend is love you or just want to be friend. You know. Love is a two way channel, it invloves two persons. If only one-way, it is not love\n\nGood luck\n\nJoyce
1124058
Well if your best friend is gay then that means you two dont really have much of a chance.  I guess i would tell him how you feel just to get it out in the open.  It may be easier for you to deal with it that way.  Even tho you may not ever get to be with him, he will still always be an important role in your life.  Boyfriends may come and go for both of you but you'll still always have eachother as friends.
476069
It is so nice that you care so much about  both your friend and you.\n\nYou see whatever happened has happened. It can't be changed. So either you find ways to move on or you just slack back.\n\nYou said you are best friends. A lot of things happen between best friends you know so this should not be a hard one to tackle. It happened because you were both passionate about each other. It now appears you are both bi. No big deal.\n\nFirst you said you liked him and now you are saying you don't know if you like him. NO problem about that, you will soon know if you like him or not.\n\nHowever, since you said you have not seen him in a month and this whole thing is getting into you, well i think is about time you talk with him. It does not matter if you are different persons or not, you still have to find out where you stand. You need to talk with him and find out if you are both embarassed about the things that happened and if you still want to be best of friends. If you both still want to keep on having sexual feelings for each other, well that is when to find out, by talking to each other. Please tell him your mind, what you think, what should stop, what should go on and stuffs like that. It will work out.\n\nYou and i both know you don't want to lose a friend like him. Then i think it's about time you spoke to him.\n\nPlease don't feel shy. OK. Open up and tell him every single thing in your heart.\n\nYou will definitely find your answer. Keep it cool and GOOD LUCK.\n\nHave fun too.
473310
I think that deep down that you truly love each other and want to be with each other.. just give it a shot.. your best friends already.. so go for it!