How do feel about people ahving cancer?
826177
The people or person making fun of anyone with any disease at all is a very immature person, pay them no mind and try to educate them about the effects of the disease and remind them that someday they or someone they love may contract this dreaded disease and how would they feel about being teased about such a misfortune. Cancer is such a terrible disease to have to go through. I don’t know what kind you have but I hope it is one of the ones that have a high recovery rate. Keep your spirits dreams and hopes soaring high. A good attitude will help you beat this disease, I know it is and will be hard but have all the treatments your doctor wants you to have no matter what the chances of recovery is. If there is only a slight chance of recovery remember that the doctors have been wrong before. Wishing you a speedy remission and a happy healthy life. §
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No I don't believe that is fair. I have Lupus and people are so sympathetic towards me in that situation, however I also suffer from depression that years ago was totally debilitating and I often found that people's opinions were along the lines of, "just get out of the house, you will feel better" or "give it time you will get over it" and even "it's not that bad, it's not like you have cancer, then you would really have something to worry about". Well I did have something to worry about, my depression almost cost me my life. People are still generally quite intolerant of Mental Illness and sometimes ignorant of the cause and the extreme depths it can reach. They seem to feel that it's in your control, well depression at least. It's a very sad situation. Another reason that coping with a Mental Illness is so hard and requires more understanding is what you have yourself stated, it seems less acceptable and life threatening.
100133
Obviously, I wouldn't be able to give you a firsthand account, but my mother died last autumn from cancer. I was with her the last 3 weeks of her life day and night and I can tell you what it was like when she died. \nWhen my mother was released from hospital to be able to die at home she got better for nearly two weeks, eating a bit more every day, feeling better and stronger and being able to enjoy a beautiful time with her family. \nSome three days before her death she started being in pain especially at night. The first night we did not have efficient painkillers and it was terrible. She suffered very much. We luckily were getting in touch with a hospice service next day and she was supplied with a little pump that would release morphine into her bloodstream on demand when she needed it. I do not believe she could have died at home otherwise, the pain was very bad and watching her suffer was nearly impossible. With the pump she felt fine. I do not believe she was more than uncomfortable until she finally died. \nThat first night of pain her breathing changed. It became shallower and louder, as if she could not get enough breath. It was a bit hacking and irregular. It staid like this until her death three days later. She did not seem in pain or terribly inconvenienced by it and did not complain of not having enough air. \nThe last day of her life her legs were filling with water, she was swelling up from her toes to her hips. Again, this did not seem to cause discomfort. It is quite typlical when you die. \nThe evening of the beginning of her death her breathing got more laboured and she asked us to help her sit up straight and pull her arms up front so she could breathe more deeply - at that point she felt a shortage of breath. \nShe wasn't in any pain and was awake til her brother and my older sister came to see her, we had called them in the morning to call them to her deathbed. After she had seen them and said hello and goodbye, she lost consciousness at aroun d 10 pm and never regained it til she died at 10 am. \nThe dying itself was terrible but I believe mostly for us, not for her. Even though her body was destroyed by cancer it did not want to give up and her heart remained strong and just kept on beating. Her breathing was hard and would occasionaly stop but always start again. 11 hours after she lost consciousness did her heartbeat finally get weaker and her blood pressure dropped. Slowly her body temperature sank  and then she finally died. \nShe had not been alone at any point in the last three days of her life and after talking with all the others that were around in that time (half of my family are doctors and nurses) her death was as quiet and peaceful as you can hope for. \nI am sorry if this is not assuring, but it didn't feel terrible either. \nI wish you and your mother all the best
745480
its hard i know, but wot does it for me, i always look around me and find people with much worse problems and children who are suffering with cancer but still smile  this brings a tear to my eyes a feeling of shame for being so negative, the past is gone never to return look forward and think how lucky you are to be able to see speak walk, we all take these things for granted
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to be honest, I'm not sure, but i have had experience with dealing with a close relative with pancreatic cancer, so feel free to get in touch to chat, on sproutly.chick@virgin.net
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Nothing unless there's a medical reason like bone cancer where I have to try and find them.\n\nIn simple terms, they didn't want me so I wouldn't want them. \n\nI would be angry if my family waited to tell me until there was a pressing reason like cancer. It would suggest they never planned to tell me.
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I don't know how the pain for bone cancer feels, but as a fellow fibromyalgia sufferer I do know that fibromyalgia is a neurological disorder of hypersensitivity. That means that EVERYTHING affects how you feel more than it would with the FMS. Your nervous system reacts more strongly to the weather, tastes, pain, a weird smell, an itchy sweater, or harsh lighting more strongly than it did before you developed fibromyalgia.\n\nDo you have regular checkups to make sure the cancer hasn't returned, though?
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I don't understand, you have to use a source even if it's yourself. Anyhow, being a cancer survivor I can give you alot.\n\nThe first one would be lost of breast and self esteem, you don't feel "pretty" or normal anymore, you are constantly wondering if people think you are abnormal.\n\nAnother would be the side effects such as lymphedema, where your body swells and again it affects your outlook on yourself and esteem.\n\nAnother would your overall health.  did you have chemo or radiation that would harm you later in life? would it make you sterile?  Will you end up losing your teeth from the effects of cancer treatment?  will you get cancer again?  Cancer puts fears in you, you always wonder if it will come back.  It affects your health, you are never the same after treatment, lots of people become very prone to colds, flu's, etc.  Some women can't work anymore, they lose mobility too.
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GOD BLESS YOU .\nI JUST LOST MY HUSBAND TO CANCER, AND THEY REALLY LIKE THE HATS AND WIGS PEOPLE GIVE THEM.\nYOU ARE A VERY SPECIAL PERSON TO DO THIS.\nAND  GOD BLESS YOUR AUNT.
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This will bring some tears, thanks for the blessings , but of course when your lose someone you know has known you all your life and has loved you for all you done good and forgave or protected you as you didn't do the right thing at times.One of my sister is a drunk since our mom passed away , another calls and cries every mothers day and on what was our mom's birthday . One calls me and we will laugh at the times we had with our mom. I just take one call at a time and silently say Ilove you to her and say I miss you ! But painful yes, I remember all the pain she had with cancer and welcomed her death as she had . She said Dealth is something we all will face ,but she sure was going to miss all of you and I love you.She died years ago yet the pain is as it happened today . She was my freind as well as a great women and wonderful mom .She'll aways be loved and missed .
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I have been there and done that.  I too had cancer on my back, and I waited to have it removed.  I guess I was waiting for it to go away or something.  I wish I had done something about it when it was still small, but on the other hand all cancers are not the bad kinds, but they do all grow and grow.  If left alone they will take over your body and that would be bad.  By the time I had it removed it ended up as a hole the size of a grapefruit in two places.  If I had waited any longer it would have grown around my spine and I would have been in real trouble.  I guess what I'm trying to tell you is; don't give it a chance to get a strong hold on you, and the longer you wait the worse it will be to get it all out.  They must cut, check, cut, check, and so on, until they have it all out.  This is a time consuming surgery, and it still could come back somewhere else even after you have it removed.  I just tank God I'm still alive, and I try to live each day as if it were my last day on earth.  Yeah, it made a different person out of me, but it is all for the better.  I now appreciate life, as I now know how fragile life is.  I hope this helps.  Good Luck!!!
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Thoughts on Families who Have Lived Long-term with Pancreatic Cancer\nhttp://www.pancreatica.org/survivor_stories.html
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I know how you feel, but there is hope. \n\nI am currently in the Bahamas with my Mother who has Terminal Lung Cancer. There is a clinic here that has been in operation for over 30 years. We have been here for 4 of our 8 week stay, everyday is really neat. A lot of the patients stick around in the meeting room/ waiting room to visit, and share stories and catch up. There were 40 people all talking and laughing, talking about cancer and life, the returning patients talk about how bad their cancer was 4, 8, 10 even 18 years ago when they started coming to the clinic, the cancer that has since disappeared. There is nothing dangerous or foreign to the treatment, just building up your immune system in a very effective manner. If you want to know more contact me or go to www.immunemedicine.com I cannot tell you how impressed I am with what I have seen and how my Mother has already improved. I know one man who was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, he skipped all US, conventional (poisonous, dangerous) options and went to the Bahamas and is doing great now. Another man who has been coming here for 18 years that had prostate cancer. People with just about every type of cancer. But, they are honest here, you send them your medical information and they will tell you whether they believe they can help you or not, and they will send you home if they don't think you are benefiting. \n\nMy mom has shown drastic improvements and is feeling so much better. and we are in the Bahamas so we are having a good Mother-Daughter vacation.\n\nI have also done a lot of research on the Cesium Chloride/DMSO treatment and think that it has merit and you can do it at home.\n\nThe clinic here believes that a supplement/liquid called VIBE works really well in addition to other treatments, I am going to look in to that some more.\n\nUS doctors push chemo and radiation, but when you look at the statistics and side effects it is not a good option for most people. My Mom had both before we came here and now that I know more about them and have researched them I feel horrible that I let her go through them. She was lucky (so far) the only long term side effect she has shown is short term memory loss. \n\nThe stories I have heard from the other patients here about how they were treated by US medicine astound me. One lady went home to have a shunt put in her liver so she would be ok to come here, but they refused to put it in unless she agreed to do chemotherapy, is that what our country is about? Denying helpful procedures unless we agree to dangerous, toxic ones? The drug companies run US medicine at least when it comes to cancer treatment and it is sad. Most doctors will tell you not to try alternative medicine and some will refuse to even see you again if you do. To some degree they are not to blame, they have not been taught anything about it other than that it is evil and wrong and they would be rejected by their colleagues if they suggested alternatives.\n\nI would also like to tell you about another lady staying at the house we are staying at, she is 86 years old and has breast cancer as well. She arrived at the clinic the same day we did and is doing very well. Her immune system continues to improve and she gained 2 pounds since last week. She is absolutely thrilled with this treatment and knows that it is helping her.\n\nPlease whatever you do, research first. \n\nOne very helpful website is www.cancertutor.com\n\nGood luck!!
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Funny, I just did that today. I have had a harsh couple of weeks...my uncle died, my kitten died of heart disease, my car died, and I just found out that my parents both have skin cancer, and that their dog (that i grew up with) has cancer and needs to be put down soon.\n\nAt this point, I've given up trying. I'm all cried out.
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First thing is to talk to your friend, \n1- What ype of cancer her sister has?\n2- In what stage and what was the doctor's advice\n3- Find out more about it together, depending on your friend's character; I would say she would need support. Someone to talk to, realise steam and basically just be there...\nPeople et very scared when "cancer" is mentioned but many has cures or can be controlled, knowledge would be the best relieve. And then sometimes, there s nothing much in our hands, what will be will be; we can do much but to accept it.\nIf that is the case, she'll have a hard time. Terminal cancer is very hard on the patients and their family members.
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My poor grandfather had prostate cancer, which is supposedly one of the slowest-growing cancers there is.  He was in the hospital for something unrelated, and out of nowhere started getting sicker.  He lost his appetite, and over the course of a couple of days, started having difficulty walking and talking.  \n\nMy grandmother questioned the same thing that you did, so she questioned one of the nurses as to whether his cancer had metastasized.  The nurse more or less brushed her off and said, "No, prostate cancer wouldn't grow that fast."\n\nWell, to make a long story short, he kept getting worse and worse, until finally his lungs and kidneys shut down.  As it turned out, he had developed a secondary, fast-growing cancer that had metastasied all over his body within a matter of weeks.\n\nBy the time this was discovered, he was far too sick for any form of traditional treatment, and we unfortunately lost him very quickly after that.\n\nI certainly hope that this isn't the case with your friend... some of what she's experiencing could be the side effects of the chemotherapy.  Although I've never heard anyone "talking funny" from chemo, I'm certainly not an expert on the subject. \n\nI just wanted to share my story with you, because it still makes us sick that my grandma questioned his prognosis and was told that it couldn't have spread.  I guess we'll always wonder if he could have been helped had they acted sooner.\n\nI certainly don't have any advice for you on how to approach your friend... it's very hard to question others' judgment when it comes to the way they're treating their cancer, especially when you're not the one paying the bills.  I unfortunately know this far too well from experience... I guess all you can do is sit down with her husband by himself and discuss your fears.  It's hard, though, because you don't want to place any undue worry on him.\n\nI don't know how close of a relationship you have with this couple, but if you don't want to worry them directly, is it possible to pull one of her oncologists aside and talk it over with them?  I don't know if she's in the hospital or not, but that might be a good way to go about it.  If you feel like there's nothing you can do without overstepping your bounds, I guess all you can do is hope that the doctors notice what you have... but that's not always the case, either.\n\nSorry if I wasn't more help... at any rate, I wish you the best.  If you're at all religious or spiritual, maybe a prayer for guidance is in order.  If you're not... just listen to your heart, I guess.  :)
809155
Cancer in all forms.  It claims so many lives everyday.  I am currently watching my Papaw die from this horrible disease.  His has metastasized to his entire body, and watching him waste away and lose weight, have so much pain, and suffer absolutely kills me too.  I have also had many other friends and family members suffer with cancer, including my mother who had breast cancer.  I pray every day that a cure will be found for it.