help !! I need some advice!!?
818065
Apparently you were not so tired of running from man to man. Who is to say that your not going to put yourself in the same situation with Ray that you did with John? It sounds like you should not be married but I do not think Ray is the answer either, he is just convenient as you are comfortable with him due to you two having a past. Sounds like you need to be on your own and grow a bit on your own emotionally before seeing anyone new. That is the best thing you could do for yourself and in turn those kids. Good luck and God bless!\n-NmD!
241512
Aww. I went thru this over the summer break last year. And I'm telling you, fr. female to female, the best thing I did was leave him, and in this case that's what I think you should do. Im not even going to lie, it took alot out of me to leave him! Just like your dude he made me feel bad and yet still I gave him chance after chance cause I thought that he would change and that it was just a phase... Unfortunately, it was'nt a phase, this was the real him. A rough, heartless, mean person that put others down to make him feel better. That's not even the worst of it! I thought he was the one for me SOOO much that I went against my family, ALL FOR HIM! My family turned against me cause they wanted me to not be with him so bad! Back then I didnt understand why they kept on acting like that but now I see. They were just looking out for me. And even though I dont know you, I, looking out for you too because I know how it feels to be where your at right now. It feels as if the whole world has turned against you. And that he's the only one who loves you. (Or at least thats how it felt to me!) Thats not true, after you leave him your eyes will be open again and you'll be able to see who really loves you and those are the people that tried to warn you about him. The best thing you can do is leave him. When I left my boy, at the time I felt like I had made a HUGE mistake, but after I start realizing all the other people in life that is there for me and that have my back thru thick & thin, there was really no point for him being in my life. Boys can only give you so much joy for so little time, but what will you do when that joy turns into pain? Or when he leaves you? Your back to the depressed you again? That's not how it's suppose to be. NEVER let a dude determine how your day is going to be or how you look at the world! You should never even look for happiness in boys, this is kinda old school but, the true happiness lies within yourself. If you feel good about yourself, you wont care what NO ONE thinks about you. See how much you can gain if you leave him? Dont worry ok? The right one for you will come along ok? Dont ever let a dude make you question how much your worth! Im sure your a very sweet person that's just feel into one of the traps that most fall into. It's not your fault. But listen, the best part of breaking up with him is the fact that he WILL want you back! That's what happened to me and he STILL is asking for another chance and what do you think I said? NO! Once he breaks your heart he'll always find another way to do so, so why go thru it? Yeah it makes you stronger but other than that its just causing you great pain. I hope a lesson from my experiences help you! Just remember to stay strong!
669168
It's always hard to change your feelings. That part just takes time and strength. As for confronting him. Be civil and calm. If he still won't talk to you about it, make sure he knows how you feel. If he can't talk he can listen. It will make you feel better to get that out and off of your chest. If he won't listen, send him a letter and then leave it be. Don't talk to him, don't be around him, and don't let yourself think about him. If a thought comes in your head. Push it out and make yourself do something to distract you. Also, they say the best way to forget someone is to get somebody new. It works for me. You can try it. :^) I wish you the best and if you need anymore advice or support feel free to contact me. :^)
574076
talk to him!!\nlet it all out
223183
I have the same problem. My friends told me to show him clevage and to flirt with him, and then leave him alone for a couple of days, and then talk to him again. Thats what they told me to do.
462232
DreamyEyes has good advice. Keep genuine and stay around genuine people. Don't follow any one clique; be yourself. That sounds like a lot, but it's all one thing really. Cool is what's cool to you. Also remember your teachers are people, not fixtures in the system. They have feelings, but they aren't always right. You can think for yourself w/out putting someone down. Use the time to expand your mind, but be very careful around drugs. Just read a lot, think a lot, and make genuine friends with any and everybody. One of the kindest things any of us can do throughout the entirety of life is to make friends with those no one else will be friends with, something we screw up in highschool more than anywhere else. Never, ever judge by appearances. Lots of good people look bad, and vice versa. I sincerely hope this helps.
741507
just tell him.  Stop playing games and out with it, girl!
46124
Hang out with different people, ones who you want to be with. If they still bug you, just ignore them. They just want to push your buttons and get you to jump on them, getting you in trouble. I know it's hard ignoring people who constantly get in your face, but the alternative is to get in trouble by physically getting their face gone. If they won't leave you alone, after asking them nicely, maybe ask them why they're bugging you. Most times, you'll get some lame excuse, like because they like it, or because I want to. Those kinds of excuses tell you they're just trying to make you mad and get a reaction. After that, don't react to them, no matter how bad it gets. Try to always surround yourself with positive people, keeping your goals in focus. Don't lose your stride to a bunch of posers. Their own lives are miserable, so they want to bring you down past their level of mediocrity. Rise above it. Don't give in to their taunts. I had years of this kind of experience in grade school, the worst being in middle school. Something happens to some kids when they get in middle school. It's like they left their brains somewhere else and living the life of a moron. It will get better, in time. Though it seems hard right now, just keep your focus. <*)))><
979499
Pick and choose your battles wisely.  Stand up for yourself if it is something you really believe in.  Otherwise, if it's something he really believes in, listen, be understanding, and just let it be.  It's not worth the aggravation to always argue or that you always have to win.  I think its really important to only argue when absolutely necessary.  If you are not wanting to get into a fight; let him know, and stop the conversation.  Sometimes, later I'll even get an apology for it.  I just don't make a big deal out of it.  They appreciate that.
112516
Im very sorry but I only have 2 advice for you...\n\n1.) LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE...\n2.) DECIDE WITH BOTH HEART AND MIND IN EVERYTHING YOU DO...
278926
I feel so sorry for you. I hate those situations.  She probably wont listen.....so write her a detailed letter.  See what happens and go from there.  At least you'll feel better if you put your thoughts down on paper.  Good Luck!
940819
A real man and friend would tell his friend the truth.  Don't be stupid and do his wife.  Just because she hot doesn't make her not act like a ho.  She's desperate right now and trying to get out a situation because she got caught.  Thinks of this, if you do her, she could be a real b**** and flip it around and tell her husband that you came on to her.  Not only will she get out of her situation with him but she'll get out of her situation with you with a bonus from you to boot.  Tell him and whether he believes you is his problem.  Let him know that you have no reason to lie.  If he ends your friendship over this, trust me, she'll be stupid enough to screw up again and get caught then he'll feel like a fool.
567237
I have the same problem. Tell them that you don't want to and give them reasons. Be firm and don't let them control you..........after all, being single is awesome!
240417
Follow  your heart sweetie!!!\ngood luck!!
777539
if you have anyone, i mean anyone you are comfortable with-that person is the answer. a best friend or a cousin or anyone is key. if you find someone you know you can talk to(i know thats not what you wanna hear but keep reading), they can probably help a lot. i'm not sure how old you are but if you're 15 or younger your doctor would probably tell you to open up. find something you like. even if you are older its proven that if you can find someone else who enjoys doing the same thing it could help a lot. something else that would help would be to find someone younger than you. even if its just a 6 year old. they will look up to you. you don't have to worry about embarassing yourself. and also- - -theres no way to avoid feeling weird around your boyfriends family. thats just how it is. but my last bf's parents said they really enjoyed my company because i was quiet. they said it was respectful. try that. just be extra polite. (oh yeah, and don't get caught making out in the closet! hehe)
57057
Damn baby, I wanna date you...LOL. If you like getting walked on, then keep taking him back. If you want to respect yourself, kick him to the curb and keep moving forward with someone that will treat you better. Don't put up with crap. People will only do to you what you let them do.
547504
Ask someone who is rough and tough to approach him to tell him not to make this sort of remarks in future. Let that guy tell him you are no longer his and tell him to stay out of your life. In the meantime, get closer to your new boyfriend for as long as it is neccessary. Use whatever means to avoid him.