wat shall i do about my childrens father?
822559
yeah leave it - let him see them if he wants its up to him.  When they grow up the main thing is you never stopped them seeing their Dad and they'll know it was him thats wasn't bothered.  get some money out of him though he should be paying child maintenence.
1095802
Wow that's a tough one, you have to decide whats in your son's beat interest. But maybe you should try talking to your initial sperm Donner(dad) and tell him how you feel and if he can't be a loving grandfather to your son as well then he doesn't need to be a grandparent to him at all, he all ready lost his daughter, what should be the harm in just removing your family from his life entirely. And ask him if he cares and if he has ever loved you or thought of you.\n\nBase your decision on his response\n\nGood luck and I wish you enough, enough happiness, enough love, enough life to live and cherish in your family as the driving force I can tell you are
995398
Look... every father want's to repair a relationship with their kids.\n\nGo to him... explain to him that you KNOW you screwed up... ask his forgiveness... ask him WHAT can you do... to make it up to him.\n\nThe root of  most of these problems are  Clueless/ungrateful kids.
1104516
stay away from him for you and your daughters sake he sounds like a loser your only asking for trouble. Besides even if he became the nicest guy overnite by a miracle what kind of father has he been 2 yrs out of jail i think she would resent him being forced into her life just so YOU could get over your loneliness ? investigate your heart why you would even consider taking him back i'm sure you'll find it's a selfish reason besides thats how the devil tempts us when were weak to hungry too tired ect if your hungry enough you'll eat poison and think it tastes good becareful pray but most importantly stay away from him don't give a devil a foothold into your life if not for you do it for your daughter don't ruin your relationship with her boyfriends come and go but only one daughter remember that! Godbless
1067652
Let the child be with daddy as much as possible.\nEspecially if dad wants him/her around. Children\ndon't understand the problems that cause parents to\nbreakup. Love the child, let daddy play a big role in life,\neven if it cause you discomfort. The child will love you more\nfor it and when he/she grows up your child will understand\nthe sacrifices you made and be also more understanding.\nSorry, I am assuming you are separated from the child's dad.\nIf not, be thankful that daddy is such a great guy and is loved\nby this beautiful child.
241837
Before you do anything like that, I would sit down with the little guy and try to find out what he really means.  Kids that age may mean something completely different than what we take from their statements.  They just don't have a wide range of emotional vocabulary.  Anyway, see if what he really means is something more manageable for you.  Like, maybe assurance of your love for him even though a new little one is coming to steal you away from him.\n\nAnd if he really wants to communicate with his father, maybe a phone call will be enough.  Or maybe let him make a card to send to his father.  That might be enough to satisfy him so he can move on.\n\nYou can also redirect his attention to something more tangible.  Like making another book, but this time with people he's close to and sees frequently.\n\nI think in the end, you'll just have to try things that are possible for you to do until you run out of options.  I wouldn't tell him anything that would hurt his feelings, though.  I think I would make up something sooner than I would do that (and I hate to lie).
904163
Wow, sounds like you're going through a really tough time.  I think the judge would order that your boyfriend and the baby be seperated until such a time as your boyfriend learns to leave you alone.  Wait until the child is much older and understand a lot more, like around 8 or 9.  Then tell your child (be honest) about what has gone on between you and his father.  If the child says that she/he would like to know his or her father it's only right that you give them a chance to meet no matter how much stress it puts on you.  I firmly believe that everyone has a right to know their father (or mother).
1002206
1 Get yourself a adoption lawyer and tell him everything and take it from there. God bless you for looking out for the little man
854835
You might want to think that about that before you do anything permanent. Perhaps you can draw up legal papers so that you don't deal with your ex at all, she can drop your kid off at the police station, for example and you can do the same without ever seeing her. I grew up without a dad and it was extremely painful. Please think of the child first.
761277
i so feel for you, best bet is to go back to the courts and ask for a child welfare assessment..........that way they will talk to you, talk to him [the father] and talk to the child as best as he can.........at the best they might even come and observe a hand over from you to the dad............state that it is NOT your intention to keep them apart but the emotional trauma you have to deal with taking him and then the aftermath of the child being so upset is really not worth it.................just a question but WHY was they supervised at first and who decided that should change ???
852113
Don't let your kids call someone else Dad unless you are married to that person.  You are jacking up you daughter.   Shame!
36118
Honestly, I know you are hurting but your main priority should be your child. Let the man go. I see they have restraining orders on you, did you confront them? Go seek sole custody of your daughter. That move is to protect yourself. He is not the only man on this earth. Sign the divorce papers.
114250
First of all the father of the child has parents, making them grandparents.  Take the hild to see them.  Be polite no matter what.  THey may be shocked.  Second of all, get your act togetehr the best you can, maybe with their help.  If daddy is in prison, you have a lot against you.  But you can rise above it if you work very hard.
1042377
See an attorney. And the childrens father must give consent.
167618
Right now, I can only go by what I would want my children's father to do.  I would want him to do what is best for him, because in the long run, he would then be able to take care of my children better. Think about the long haul. Set out your pros and cons. Writing letters, sending videos and tapes so your child can see and hear you are some other ways to keep in touch with him.  If you decide to stay with UN, always tell your son how much you miss him and love him and that you are always there for him even when you are far away.  Make sure you instill that in him so he knows that Daddy loves him and is making a better life for him.  \n\nThat is what I would want my children's father to do.  What ever is best for you, will be best for your child.  You seem like a wonderful dad and I am proud of you.
1007487
He's worthless.....so start weaning your kids from him.  Never talk bad about him in front of the kids.....they'll eventually will learn and have their own opinions of him.  Any father who doesn't want to spend time with his children is a worthless piece of sh*t.  If worse gets to worse....you could always tell the kids that he moved far away.   Best of luck to you..........
987389
I have 3 kids by my ex and he went off to Australia with his new wife. He stopped paying and I am fighting him in court (at great cost to myself) but now he wants to see his kids for 4 weeks this Christmas. I KNOW your feelings totally. But you have to carry the burden because children are better off if they have a relationship with their dads. Just dont compete. When they get older they will realise what went on. But equally dont put up with their lippyness. Dont let it go on. Make your ex look after them sometimes so you have some time to yourself. And get on with your own life. Your boys need a possitive male rolemodel in their life (your dad, or a brother or a new husband) Get on, get your life back into shape and make some time for yourself. You need it and so do your boys.