Why do some people (especially the guys..) abuse women?...?
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Yenny, women are not the only ones that are abused.  Oh society would like to have us think that only women are abused and only men abuse them but it is far from true.\n\nDid you know that men are the victims of domestic violence as often as are women according to unbiased research.  Even the Department of Justice states 39% of the victims are men and this is after we consider that many men are arrested because they are beaten.  Many state attorney generals have even said they will not prosecute a woman for domestic violence.   This is because of the Violence Against Women Act which radical feminist fought tooth and and nail to keep from being the Domestic Violence Act.    \n\nHow do I know this?  I am the founder and director of Shattered Men.  We however do realize women are abused  and we do not turn anyone away who seeks help from us.  Most women shelters would not even tell a battered man where they can get help but I assure you, they would not find it there.  \n\nOne of our members is totally blind from his ex wife and there were NO charges against her.  Others have been stabbed and they were the ones that were arrested.  No they were not abuseing their wives first.  \n\nThere is so much more to say but not enough time or space to say it but come to our group and we will be glad to help \n\nMy main concern is that if we do not look at BOTH sides, more women will be harmed because many of the women that do get seriously hurt are harmed when the person they are battering gets tired of it and hits  back.
308372
I wonder that myself, I hate the way guys treat bigger women. I guess they are just trying to cover up there short comings. some of those pretty,skinny chicks they like end up treating them like shit and they deserve it.
958269
Unfortunately these men are chauvinists. Chauvinists in general tend to be somewhat jealous of women.
806140
Honest to God, my head is just spinning after reading some of the bull roar some of you women are answering with.\n\nTo the person asking the question: Read what most the zany women are saying and pack it away in your brain.\n\nThey are rationalizing with excuses and not claiming responsibility for their actions. Pure and simple.\n\nWhen the shoe is on the other foot they scream it out loud and clear when a man cheats, how terrible and nasty it is.\n\nThis my young man is known as a typical double-standard that MANY women base their thought-processing skills on: Being irrational while judging others and complete hypocrites.
275322
to be fair, some women do the same thing.\n\nthe answer you're wanting to hear is because theyre all jerks with no hearts. The real answer is testosterone makes them do it.
633692
Some men and women have been hurt by someone else so they figure they will do into you before you do them . As adults games or and should be left behind. They will never change.......
485739
Yes they do because they are stupid and undeserving of pity. If they are too stupid to leave when someone beats them they deserve it or like it. Most wiil say Im scared to leave or I have nowhere to go or but hes a good provider or he takes care of the kids etc.... Its all bs. I had 3 ex gfs slap me before and I walked out and never spoke to them again, I dont put up with abuse but some sick and twisted people like it. Feel no pity for them as they arent even human, even a dog will try to run away if it knows its going to get beat.
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They do it because they can. They get a thrill out of physical domination. They think they know better than you do about what you want and what you don't want. \n\nI don't know who this person is to you, if you have a choice to be in their presence or not, but if this behavior occurs more than you can bear, you need to avoid the person, or if you can't avoid him, get help from someone that you trust and has some influence with the perpetrator. \n\nHave courage. These types of men will respect a person demanding their feelings be know and respected or if he is not so caring, he will avoid you because you are too high maintence in his opinion. Either way your courage will get the result you desire.
915367
Not all men are the same.  There are some who finds it challenging to be beaten by women.
1101576
Some people are just great con artists-jails and the White House are full and of them!! Some guys, unfortunately think that women are just a token for their manhood, a notch on the belt; the more notches the more they can brag to their buddies! Some guys do it because they need to fill their egos by fooling and hurting unsuspecting women. These guys as well are just creeps too! There are no explanation or excuse for these low lifes!!
601318
I knew someone who was in an abusive relationship and yes, she did repeat the cycle. It was really sad but it seemed like she would only date guys who were jerks. I think women who are in this cycle have such low self esteem that they really don't know that they deserve better.
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cuz they are boys... they arent men.. and i resent the militious comments towards the male sex, we arent all scumbags that will do anything that moves, some of us actually highly value our special lady, and would never stoop to hurt them like that.
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They're not all like that. There are some great guys out there, just hard to find 'em. As for the ones that are, I'm still yet to find out why hurting us women seems to come so naturally to them. You've probably just experienced the ones that think and feel with their dicks.
993619
well some men do treat there women really bad and i think they get it from there parent on how there dad treated there mom it to bad how some men can be real ass hole but the women have a choice to they can always leave but the funny part about it is that the women that leave come back to there man i dont under stand that
605166
its just what some women do. not all are like that.\nmaybe the guy is toooo nice and she starts to take advantage, as she knows she probably can.
793534
All I have to say is that in today's world, most males think it is mandatory for the females to go down on them even if there's no returning the favour... This is a major misconception, and I usually steer clear of those types of abusive males.\n\nIn my life, I believe in doing only what you want and what makes you feel good. If someone wants to go down on you, then great; all the best! If you feel like going down on someone then great too! But I don't believe in giving in to pressure, either direct on inderect, simply in order to "fit in" or "be accepted" or by fear of being ignored or whatever. \n\nIf I want to go down on a man, I will and he'll know it.... But if he tries to convince me and starts to to hint at forcing me or that it's like "my duty" that f*ck him; he's a selfish pr!ck who doesn't even deserve I give him an oral treat! \n\nBut again, in today's world, I see alot of younger women who give in to this type of male abusive b*llsh!t, and it's very very sad that they do give in, because it's just another way of the males to exert control over females... \n\nWell that doesn't work with me!
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As a gay guy I think it has to do with rejection and all that. Homosexual men get tons of abuse and are sometimes in need of counseling to deal with it properly. I myself am a super nice guy but some are so suspicious of being liked because so many people abuse them and rail against them that they end up doing the same thing to a guy that approaches them.\n\n  Another thing is that some people think of us all as sluts out for one thing and since society in general reject the idea of homosexual covanant relationships it becomes self fulfilling prophesy in some cases. Some guys have no manners and grab in ways they would not think of doing to a woman in bars and social settings so ....