How Do You Love After Love??
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Yes it's very possible. However, it's going to take time. \nYou're obviously not over this girl. I really believe that for as long as you're holding on to this girl, you won't be ready for a new love. \nI'm assuming she's your first love? It's going to be hard because naturally we compare everything and everyone to that one person. She was perfect in every way, right? and you want your next to be just like her; totally understandable. But honestly, we can't expect to find that same person again. I think that you may need a little more time to get over her; and I'm sorry to say, but you do need to let her go. It's hard to let ourselves open up to new options and personalities when we're still so engrossed on one option. \nAnd, I'm sorry, I'm not one to tell you how to move on and let go. It took me almost 3 years before i could completely let go of my first. But it will happen, i think the best thing you can do now is find out what you can learn from that relationship and try to figure out how, because of this relationship, you've become a better person. Then use those factors to find what you really need.
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Create new brighter memories with someone else or you alone.\nDo something that is the real "end", final step, the last door or makes you feel that way - send back their stuff or a present they gave you, say the last goodbye, bon voyage.\nStart smth new (a new sport, travel,attend a painting class)\nTalk about it.\n...and as the people before me answered, give it some time. \nI think it was Oscar Wild who said that when you love yourself, you are happily in love for your whole life...
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Do activites that you enjoyed before being in a relationship with him.  Do things you like.  Then, add in another boyfriend after you have had some time to yourself.  Hope this helps.
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When I was 16 (I'm 19 now) I was madly in love with a guy from school. He broke my heart, and I was so devestated. I was insanely depressed for 3 weeks and after 2 months appeared happy but I was still so miserable inside. I was obsessed. I couldn't stop thinking about him for even a SECOND. I spent a year of my life with him on my mind, 24/7. Sometimes I'd wake up in the night and not be able to go back to sleep because his memory was so painful and I couldn't get him off my mind. Even when the pain of losing him was gone a few months later, I still felt anger about the situation.\n\nYou want to know when everything disapeared? 2 1/2 years later while at work, I looked to my right and the most gorgeous guy walked in the room. At that moment, my ex's memory disapeared. My mind returned to normal. I fell in love again.\n\nUntil something of that nature happens to you, start going out with friends. Surround yourself with people. Keep yourself busy AT ALL times. TRY to not think about her (even though I know how impossible it can be). Eventually, time will heal your pain.
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Hey I am glad that u feel this way about your First Love!!. \nNo really I am !!\nIts very good that you still remember your first love...you actually should be proud of your self! Which again makes u worthy to be loved by another amazing man. But your'e in a dilema that if its ok to feel first love is incomparable? May be bcos ur feeling a little bit guilty as the man u r with now, is treating u exclusively well .\nAnd also this is 'THE 'question of your life! and you expect somebody to answer in a paragraph.....? well let me give a try.\n\nYou see if we put this question to different sorts of people the answers would be in their terms ,not your's.For example a scientist may explain its just a chemical and hormonal reactions, a  poet may say it's an inspirations for his lyrics and so on. \nBut what The first love means to you and How much it means to you\n- You decide it.\n If you start to compare its gonna lose its value. \n\nIf I ask you to close your eyes and imagine the picture of " A MOTHER " -without fail u r goin to imagine ur own mom( Not victoria Beckham with her 2 toddlers!)\n Now why is that? Is that bcos ur mom is the hottest mom in the universe ...? No, its bcos she means the word 'mother' to u. \nShe is the live example of the meaning of that word.She gave u this life and u become the new meaning for her life. Now u cannot accept anyone else in this life to replace your mom, no matter how much love they offer and neither she could accept anyone to be a replacement for you. Well if this is the case than how it could be different with Love. As a child u were a posession of ur mother. Now as an adult u want to possess and offer your love to some one else..\nAnd than u meet that some one and they become special to u.\nNow, 'he' bring the meaning of the word 'Love' to u. So when u hear the word love, now u relate it to that 'Meat head' aka the darling  ..lol..\nLike the same way u relate the word 'mother' in ur head. \nAnd so the first love becomes the 'First love' and get nailed and carved in our heart, and u just cant get it out. \nIt's what made you who you are now. It s became a part of you now. U cant seperate it from your body and mind. Only, you can decide whether you want some one that YOU loved ? or some one that LOVES YOU ? (provided there is still options).\nBut to my understanding if its so clear for you , than u wouldn't be here for an answer right. I think u felt morally compelled and u want to know what every body thinks...\nListen forget all of us, alright!\n U know what is right. I know u'll be confused like mad, but be confused ,only than u know where u stand and u start to see clearly.Well some people  telling you to forget it all and move on ...which I believe is a mistake!\nIt s like loosing ur core value..its like forgetting a part of u.\n I am not telling u to get obsessed  and dwell on his thoughts forever. I am telling u to deal with it. Get used to it. Like the way u get used to be with ur flat nose & big lips..etc ..lol....\n But we have to grow from that. \nu try not to forget him>>bcos the more u avoid his thoughts the more u gonna think about him and it goes on and on. \nIts nothing like he is the most perfect man for u..but the love which u had for him makes u to feel that way just the same way like ur mom.\nwhen u start to accept the fact that love is a VERB.. and the feeling of being in love is a fruit of that verb ..\nthan u have matured in love. And you would be able to open up to some special person again and accept and reciprocate love. \nBut this time it will not be completely emotional based but  u start to incorporate wisdom now\n ITS NO MORE FALLIN LOVE BUT STAND IN LOVE!.\nSo when u reach this stage of life u know how to love and how to be in love. And than after a couple of years from now , u turn back and can recap about it all with an exclusive pride and smile in ur  face while r
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After close freindship comes love
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after you get married
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remember the first time all that really matters is the love you feel dont try to feel PLEASURE yet \n\nite all about the love you guy share
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hmmm as u fall in love before .recollect ur memory and once again feel same passion and love as u have before for him.i wish u good luck
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Best Answer! \n\nYou know you are in love when it hurts once its over!
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I just answered a question to another perosn what I think love is, maybe this applies to you, email me if you need help getting over it , I might be able to help. Just click contact Dude in my profile. Good Luck and here is the answer I gave to the other person.\n\nThis is what I think of love, when you have a crush on somebody it is so much fun , when you have a bf/gf you really like every moment youre not with them is wasted, but when your with them you have that wonderful not able to describe feeling. When you are in love and the person doesnt love you back, love is a heart breaker and you are sitting up in your room crying all day. If you dont know whats going on you feel love towards her/him and you sometimes cry cause you dont know how (s)he feels about you, and othertimes you are so happy and are so in love with her/him. It can also and usually does feel so confusing. When you are happy and love her/him so much you cant get get enough of them it is too wonderful to describe but you cant get them off your mind and (s)he is the only one you think about and want to think about, you write poems about her/him you write songs about her/him you sing about her/him, you love her/him so much you dont know what to do. I think love is good but you do get heartbroken sometimes and it is sometimes worth the risk. When you are heart broken, you feel completely lost and dont know what to do, your have that feeling like your heart is seriously falling apart, you can almost feel it break from all the emotions, if you were the one dumped and are still in love, you feel like nothing in this world is important, you feel like a nobody, you dont know what to do, you still love the person and you found out (s)he is not inlove with you, you cant explain how you feel, all you feel like doing is crying, you feel like dying , you dont feel loved at all, you dont know what to do, you feel completely lost. \nI am inlove now and dont know what to think because I dont know what she thinks of me. Hope this helps!
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I love him,I'm in love with him.He has captured my heart with his  magnificent love.\nIife without feeling his love=0\nI long to grow deeper & deeper in loving and knowing him.\nGod bless u....
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How can I BE LOVE in every situation that arrises for me?
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and how is this a love and romance question???
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There isn't some magic formula to mix together to make love occur.  It is developed over time, with lots of conversation, lots of time and plenty of caring.  Some would say if you have to ask, it isn't love...I'm not sure I agree with that.  I would ask questions like; \nDo you think you could live without them?  \nWould you lay down your life for them?  \nWhat would you picture your life being like without them?  How do you feel when you are apart?  \nWould you trust the other person with your life and secrets?\nWhere do you picture yourself in 10 years?\nDo you truly feel you know the other person deeply?\nDo the faults in the other person bother you too much?\n\nThere are other questions, but these answers should go sort of like, though not exactly like, this;\nno, yes, empty/lost, empty/lost/missing part of myself, yes (cause you will be), with the person...maybe children and a home, yes (you need to know the person very deeply, otherwise, how can you know if you really love all of them?), and No...they have no faults LOL (jk), but you should be able to overlook their faults and dwell on their positive attributes.\n\nGood luck.
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Dear Litejic: understnd what a loving relation ship is before you take other steps. I  suggest that you discuss this with him or her more. concentrate no tshe word love.and apply it Xs (2). work with this Situation this could be a learning experiance for you even though you might not approve. this helps you know and learn relationships that involve (LOVE).  contact me I can help you with this and put a complete understanding to your (?). use this address. for John. laretha.davis@sbcglobal.net.  be careful with this question or situation until you talk to me.
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Keep on loving he or she. The love we give is the love we kept. Being deeply loved by someone gives her/him strength, deeply love somebody gives you courage.\nKeep rollin! Be patient. No pain no gain, you will appreciated more if you get somebody that is not easy to get, rather than just anybody.