What to do about stress, borderline depression, partly from school, mostly from nightmares...?
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Your depression doesn't sound very boderline - it sounds real.\n\nThe stress of taking care of your family, the pregnancy and whatever else going on in your life is taking its tole on your body, your mind and your baby.\n\nThe most important suggestion I have is to talk to your doctor. There are medications that are approved for use during pregnancy. But even if you don't want to take medication, just talking to your doctor can help. You could also see about getting a referal for a therapist who can help you talk through your stress and develop healthy ways for coping with it.\n\nOther ways to deal with depression include confiding in a good friend, keeping a journal, focusing on something positive and sometimes even just sitting down and having a good cry.\n\nWhat you are feeling is okay and understandable. But in order to continue caring for your family and to ensure the health of the baby you are carrying - I strongly urge you to see your doctor sooner rather than later.
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hey man, i know what it can be like to have a mom and dad that aren't around for you to set examples for you in life. When i think about when i used to live with my mom and dad the only thing i think of is "what doesent kill you, makes you stronger" but ofcource everyone situation is different. my advice would be to talk to one of your close family members if you have one, if not, a school counselor and go from there. good luck in life man and keep kicking ass in school... its the key to success!
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You should find some adult who is unconnected to your family, School counselor, head teacher, ....\n\nTell them exactly what is going on and ask them to help refer you to the proper agency in your area who can deal with this.\n\nTake action now, or you face being traumatised to the point of lifelong discontentment.  Take action now and take pride in the fact that you had the courage to stand up for your rights.  Take action now and recognise the depth of emotional resilience and strength you have.\n\nDo you see where I'm going with this?\n\nTAKE ACTION NOW - TALK TO SOMEONE
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Yeah, like the guy above me said, this isn't a chat room, it's an open forum for the exchange of information between members about many different subjects, but not for exchanging personal information.\n\nGo to a chat room in either Yahoo Messenger or AOL Instant Messenger and find people either who you know or people who are talking about the same things you are talking about.\n\nWith depression, don't spend too much time on the computer because it will only keep you back from confronting your problems and fears and actually getting the help you need.\n\nI have depression too, so I can tell you with some confidence that you are lucky, yes lucky, to have this problem at only 13 years.\n\nAt least at your age you don't have to worry about going to work or college, supporting a family, paying your bills, or driving a car while being on meds and feeling down all the time.\n\nThe key for all people with depression is talk.\n\nTalk 1st with your family, then your friends, then people on the web, and if you don't feel that any of these people are trustworthy or considerate enough for you, ask your parents to set an appointment for a psychiatrist, or better yet, go to the one at your school if your school has one.\n\nMost importantly, talk to God, i.e. pray.\n\nGod has gotten me through the worst part of my depression and He will do the same for you if you let Him; have faith in Him and He will not let you down, just have faith and patience.
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If you are feeling that overwhelmed, right now, I suggest taking some OVER THE COUNTER sleep medicine; then, first thing in the morning, you need to try to make an appointment to talk to a professional!  Don't Wait!  If it was a major body part not working, you wouldn't wait, so don't wait for your mental health either.  Peace.  Good Luck!
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It depends on a whole lot of things such as stress, worry, new situations, etc. I wouldn't go and get medicine for it as this depression could be just a brief "growing up" phase. Things will get better, I promise, just talk to someone you trust and hash things out with them.
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why dont you try first of all going to counseling or therapy that aways helps thats prof help......im pretty sure its just something temporarily everyone goes thru that at one point believe me some more than others.....but dont worry you know we are here to listen and help w/ what we can....good luck
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I agree, stress is indeed a factor in nightmares. You want to sleep but your mind is still going. I used to have nightmares all the time and sometimes they were of my childhood fears and other times just present issues.\n\n   Some things that helped me were not eating too late or big dinners, exercising, watching something funny(no drama), taking a warm bath/shower. Natural remedies didn't work but it does work for others. I tried Ambien but it was way too strong. I'm taking Lunesta and although some ppl don't like the thought or believe in sleeping pills, I found that while eating light,exercising(above mentioned), and the Lunesta, that my nightmares have decreased greatly, I get a good night's sleep and am able to wake up early in the morning. No tiredness during the day. \n\n    //Weird thing when i had nightmares the only time i didn't was if i took a nap during the day but then that messed up everything anyways.
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do something uotside w/ friends for like, an hour and take your mind off school pressures. once youve had a break do your homework then do something else fun until bed. get a small job on the weekends but be carefull not to overschedule and burn out. make sure you allow extra time to just relax a few times a week
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Awww, you poor thing... I suggest you have it talked with your family members. They say depressions sometimes makes people dream of these stuffs, or is something bothering you?\nOr do you say your prayers at night?\nIt helps sweetie.\n\nGoodluck!
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First, it's good that you realize you are depressed. So many people deny that there's anything wrong with them. I have suffered from depression and was suicidal. I was fortunate to find a truly great psychiatrist and therapist who helped me work through my problems. Besides all the things that caused me to become depressed, I have a chemical imbalance in my brain. When I first got sick (20 years ago) I refused medication. But, it came to the point where I needed it. Some people do, some don't. \n\nIf you have a doctor, make an appointment so that you can be evaluated. You may have to take some medicine, at least short-term. Medication can help to elevate your mood enough so that you can begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Your doctor should be able to refer you for counseling.\n\nFeeling as you do, it is hard to do well in school. The semester must be almost over. Perhaps you need a break from school and concentrate on feeling better before you tackle it again.\n\nI don't know what your debts consist of, but the Consumer Credit Counseling Service may have an office in your area. I've listed the link to their online service below. They are professionals who can help you get your debt under control, working with you to create a plan to get out of debt.\n\nAs for not having a boyfriend, I know it's hard, but perhaps you have enough to concentrate on without having to deal with one.\n\nYou say you live with your family. Do they know how you feel? Are they supportive? If so, talk to them. If not, follow through and call your doctor.\n\nI know it seems rather bleak and hopeless right now, but I've come a long way from where I was 6 years ago. It's been hard, but I did it.\n\nGod Bless!
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Please tell your mother or another adult how you are feeling. This is nothing to be fooled around with.. Depression is serious business !! You sound like you have some anger issues that you need to work out, and it is not just because your dad asked you to get a rag for the boat.. there is something big inside you that needs to come out,and that you need to work on.. you are lashing out at the wrong people, and pushing away the people you need the most.. You may need to go and talk to your counselor at school, or a trusted teacher. if your are not still in school, seek out a good counselor, or a good group that you can get into..talking out your anger helps.. believe me it does.. You have got to talk it out and not act it out.. acting it out will only hurt you and the ones that you love. and will hurt you physically and mentally.. You do NOT need to become annorexic.. nothing good comes from that.. that will kill you. and life is to short as it is.. You and only you can take care of you. you have got to go and get some help.. Do it now !! Find someone to talk to .. NOW.. Find someone with some training that will be able to help you with your anger and your depression. It will be a long hard road.. but you did not get this way in a days time. and you will not be better in a days time.. So, now is the time to start the journey to a better and a happier and a love filled life.. Blessings to you..
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Sorry to read of your stress.  Try some stress management techniques, especially before bed.  Some to try:\n1. Slow, deep breathing: inhale for a count of 4, hold for 4, exhale for 4. Do for 5 minutes several times per day.\n2. Visualization exercises\n3. Progressive muscle relaxation.\n4. Quiet music.\n(You can do an internet search for specific exercises for 2 & 3.)\nMedical school and nursing, in particular, have a stress component built in.  You have to be able to function with a lot of stress to be a physician or a nurse, so learning to cope with this is a necessary life skill.  The instructors tend to feel that a stressful learning environment will "weed out" the students who will not be effective in these professions, so this is an educational philosophy, rather than a personal issue.  I hope this helps, and wish you all the best as you pursue your goal...
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School is tough at times - no doubt!  It's good that you are stressed... it means you care!  Of course feeling stressed isn't much fun, though!  Sorry to hear you're having a tough time.\n\nFirst, because you care, you can pull through this!  I've been in your shoes before... I'm now on the other end of a college degree and lovin' it.  I wasn't a scholar by any means, but asked for help and ended up on the Dean's list my last five semesters.... believe me, if I can do it, so can you!    \n\nNot knowing you or how you approach things, it's hard to address specifics... rather than making assumptions, I'll cover a range of things in case any of them pertain to you... with that being said, whatever you're doing right now isn't working, so obviously you need to find a different way of studying, etc.  Here are some general tips... feel free to take 'em or leave 'em.\n\nAre you giving 100%?  If so, unfortunately our best isn't always good enough to get the results we want... but at the end of the day, when you look youtrself in the mirror... there's something about knowing you did your best.  If you continue to try your best, you will sort it out.  Of course if you're not trying 100%, then that's where you start... commit to do it!\n\nI would first start by going to your professors or teachers... go over past tests, papers, etc. and see where you didn't do well.  Ask for advice on how to study for his/her class... and find out if he/she knows of any study groups or other students from whom you could receive some additional help/tutoring.  If the class is small enough, they may be able to offer up other observations/suggestions as well.  Also, let them know how you feel and that you want to improve... they are human and all "signed on" to do this as a profession... they are there to help!\n\nThen... examine how you study... and where you study... find a place that is conduscive to studying... if you're near a TV or singing to a song on the radio... or near others where you are being distracted, it's time to find a new place to study.  Also, are you a morning person?  Know yourself... what time(s) of the day are you most alert, etc?  Try to study during those times... your mind associates certain places with certain activities... bedroom = sleep, kitchen = eating, etc.  I found going to the library and getting away form everyting was the best thing for me... and once I got into the routine, I noticed my grades improved... I knew once I stepped into the library, it was study time.  Establishing good sleep and other habits helps as well.  \n\nGo to class every day... skipping is a easy habit to get into - I've been there & it'll do ya in!  If ya don't skip, don't start!\n\nDo you cram for tests?  If so, it doesn't work... not usually anyway.  Procrastination will kick ya in the pants too... and can burn ya!  I had a coach that once said, "fail to prepare, prepare to fail."  Same holds true for school.  If in college, there should be some free academic assistance or tutoring centers that have staff that can address this stuff... same goes for proof reading papers before you hand then in... in in High school, there should be someone who can help you find these resources. Remember, no one makes it alone!  I'm assuming if you can ask for help on Yahoo, that you'd be willing to ask for help at school.  Smart people know when to ask for help!      \n\nRemember, balance is key!  Your future (in a career sense & lifestyle) depends on school... take care of business first... work hard when you have to, then play hard when ya can... finding the balance is key, because you do need both.\n\nSometimes easier said than done, but tell friends that you're struggling... let then know what you need or don't need from them... if friends undersatnd, that helps!\n\nStudy tip... take notes... first, make sure you're t
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If at all possible, find a place away from home to study -- a change of scenery can help you focus on the task at hand.  Even if it's quiet at home, it might be hard to study because your environment will remind you of the stress that's going on.  \n\nAlso take time to deal with the emotions that you're feeling rather than trying to bottle them up (it never works).  It can be helpful to keep a journal, meditate, or just vent to a good friend.  If you try keeping it in, you will become preoccupied by it and will have difficulty focusing at school and when studying.\n\n4/5/06 Addendum:\nI just saw your extra notes and it sounds like you really are in a difficult situation.  First of all, don't feel responsible for the problem- I'm sure you didn't choose to have the physical challenges that limit you.  But understand that having a family member with special needs does add extra stress to a family.  You might want to suggest family counseling, or seek out other resources to help you find other means so you don't have to depend on family members so much.  Your school counserlors might be able to direct you to agencies that might be able to help.  Depending on your age and physical needs, the Division of Vocational Rehabilitation might help you get job training or at least might also know of other agencies to help you.\n\nIn the short-term, playing classical or other calm music while studying can help you tune-out whatever else is happening in the house (if possible, headphones are even better).  You may want to study at quieter time of the day, such as getting up a little before others in the morning so you can read in peace.  Never give up and in time you will succeed.
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I more than most anyone will understand what you are going through...I too was sexually assaulted for many years and I have also been gang raped and raped by a couple of others. I too sleep VERY little...I average around 3 hours per night. I have had and been diagnosed with night terrors for years, as well as anxiety attacks....ALL I can suggest is meditation, group therapy and xanax...at least these are the only LEAGAL things that have helped me...If you are so inclined you can e-mail me and I'll go into further detail, but this is what I hope will help you at this point.....Peace!
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try looking at the skirts and blouses last. maybe take a cooking class, joining the theater class. Put yourself in the middle of the fear. things will get better.