I am pregnant with #4 and my husband of 7yrs tells me hes gay?
817958
That is his decision.  Support him, respect him, and let him still be a father to his kids.  Easier said than done..but it was not probably easy for him to come out because he knew that he would hurt people in the process.  Just try to be there and be understanding and keep the communication open.
877338
Honey sit down before reading this...oh you are!\n\nYour husband is GAY! Flaming....SUGARY...Sorry to break it to you...
411852
I think you both need to have a long talk and find out where you both stand.  Maybe a counselor will help you talk out your problems so you can find out what he means.  In the meantime, I wouldn't consider getting pregnant until you both feel the timing is right.  It sounds like your husband has some issues and adding another baby to the family before you have worked through his issues isn't fair to you or  the future child.\n\nGood luck!
1023840
First of all, 19!? Ur still young and you've already had a baby. Yikes!!! Slow down. I say just tell him how you feel and if he doesn't respect that then...whatever.
971152
Don't look at from a point of view that you found out he is gay that is only going to confuse you more.  Look at the bigger picture he has lied, and has betrayed your trust.  I would at least talk to him some more see if he opens up, and if that fails miserably (which I am sure it will, but at least you tried) dump him.  No one should ever be lied to in a relationship no matter what the sexual prefrance.  When in a committed relationship it should mean that you are committed to that partner, and trust is the standard foundation when that is gone so is the relationship.
367120
i can understand where you was coming from. not that you should have hid it from him. but he must really love you and you should hang on to him, and always show him how special he is to you. i don't mean just tell him i mean show him. congrats on baby and new man. good luck, and GOD BLESS YOU !!!!!!!!!1
296010
Perhaps you can talk to him and see what you can sort out. It would certainly be better if he could tell you earlier so you can make plans for them. It will be an ongoing issue for your relationship so you need to sort things out both with your kids and his kids. You want to avoid having a situation where he perceives that you are asking him to choose between you and his kids.
1118840
To bad for you....you going to have some mayor problems if you are pregnant...but if you are don't go getting no abortion...you opened your legs now you gotta take the consequence. First you let go of guy #1...tell him its over....and guy #2 who you think you pregnant from..you don't gotta lie to him about anything...if you are pregnant..he needs to take care of you and your baby...He's not Innocent either..he had part of it... to bad for his girlfriend.. Not saying yah gotta get married and all that but at least let him be part of it...
109103
I would just come clean and ask him..."Okay!  You are too perfect.  Tell me the truth...You're married, aren't you?"  Make sure that you are together when you ask it though, so that you can see his face and the way he reacts.  When you are, make it sound like, like you are joking around with him.  If he answers "No.", then ask, "Do you have kids then?"  Better question..."Do you WANT kids?"  Just keep it light, but gauge his reations.
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Stop making an issue of him being gay. He is a person just like anyone else and Im sure it would please him to be treated as everyone else. Going out of your way to  "please him" in some special way will comeoff as fake and he will feel it.\n\nJust be yourself and work as usual.
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sorry to hear you let it get that far, i'm sure you are too. normally, i would say talk to your mate. but in this instance i would have to say you need to figure out in your head and heart what you really want and get you priorities worked out. your children are the ones who would really suffer for your indiscretions. i'm sure that is not what you want. but if your husband finds out, i don't think he'll be very understanding or forgiving. i wouldn't. but if you wan to save your marriage, then i would focus entirely on my husband and my marriage and making him happy. kiss butt, in other words. secretly, of course. one day, if you feel your marriage is strong enough, then you can tell him. the only thing that is going to help is your conscience. honestly, you may learn a bigger lesson by having to carry this secret and not burden your husband with what you did. sorry.
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what an a$$hole, dont ever get back with him. you can do it on your own, im a single mother, i've been alone since i was 8 months preg. and get him for child support you dont need a boy like that in yours or your childs life. and i say boy, because a real man would not leave his pregnant girlfriend. good luck and be strong, you deserve a real man.
907490
Honey, he ain't gonna walk down the aisle.  You were not very wise to get into this, having babies together, knowing that he wasn't completely committed.  You are right to want it, but you should have seen the warning signs a long time ago.
232997
Oh sorry I missed it last time but I'll say it again. If your husband gets pregnant you may want a divorce. Get a good lawyer...
470486
I think it's very sad that other kids are being cruel to your son, and I'm also disappointed and concerned that his father is unable to accept his son's orientation. On the other hand, I'm very happy to hear that your son has a supporting and understanding mother like yourself. He's going to need your support, and it sounds like you will be there to give it to him. \n\nI know, and I imagine a lot of us know, how it feels to be harrased in school because of being different than others. I didn't deal with it very well - I internalized everything, and I was too humiliated to tell my family what kids would call me in school. I wish I had had a supportive parent that understood how I felt, even if it was only one parent that understood, and not the other.\n\nI'm sure your child will be very successful and happy in the future - this is just going to be a rough time (possibly). Getting him into support groups for gay youth as soon as possible would probably be a great idea. When I was about 22 I started going to a support group, and I finally realized that what I am is completely and totally okay. \n\nI'm rooting for your son, and I hope he gets to grow up feeling good about himself! It will make such a difference in his life if he knows that, no matter what anyone says, he's awesome and valuable. As for your husband, what about family counseling with a gay friendly counselor? If not that, how about a conversation between you and your husband about setting new, realistic expectations for his son. He may not get the macho guy that he was hoping for, but if your husband can find the strength in himself (and this takes a real man) to be proud of and support his gay son, he will have done what so many men can't. He could also save himself a lot of hurt and disappointment down the road.\n\nHere's hoping for happiness, love and compassion for all of you!
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He is telling you that he loves you... so he is probably frustrated that you keep asking him to reassure you of this fact.  Why, coz he did not say it lovy-dovy enough... please... if he didn't love you he'd leave you and your baby.\n\nThe fact that he is doing his obligations is the best way he knows how to say I love you... asking him to show it like a woman shows it would be like him asking you to show your love by giving him a bl@w j#b every day....\n\nAppreciate what you have, and if you need a little tenderness just ask him for it... but don't expect if all of the time... it's not fun or easy for most guys.
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Hi Lucy,\n\nOnly you can decide this but I would agree with your husband. Marrage is not about: "lets stay together for the sake of the children". This is definitely not the right way. This will be a loveless marrage and if anything it will project a distructive and demonstate an even very negative image to the children on what relationships are about. You are better off being with a lesbian partner and as long as there is love, and love for the children then that is what really matters. Their father will always be part of their lives and arrangements to do so will take place after divorce.\n\nI know you must have soo many questions along side because this is one big step and it is a serious life changing experience.  There will be questions that keep repeating itself, especially about your sexuality and if this is the right thing to do. Can I recommend you check my profile and see some of the answer's I've written regarding why people are born straight, gay, or bisexual. I think it will make you understand those feelings better and make think sound much clearer. Life is too short and in the long run your husband, your family, and your children will know you had to do what you had to do. Your happeness is as important as well.