How do I break up with a girlfriend who says I'm her first love?
831808
You should be honest just like you are in your letter.  You are absolutely right in the fact the she will be hurt but it is in the way that the break up is done that determines on a certain level the impact that it could leave for her future.  First of all do not kiss her or show romantic feelings before breaking up because it only confuses the person.  Eventhough your intentions would be to make her feel better you can not take care of the person since you need to distant yourself.  Be gentle, be caring but with your words and your face but after it is done be respectful and dont give her false impressions or false hope.  Last but not least try to stay away from situations where you could come face to face with her so that she does not feel like you are partying and celebrating your new found freedom.  Go through a period of mourning yourself that way everybody will have time to heal from a separation.  You seem like a good guy so I am sure that you will do the right thing, just be nice and try to understand what she is going through she is being dumped and no one likes but also no one dies from it and it can be a growing experience for everyone if it is well done.  Good luck my friend and continue having a kind heart because its nice to know that even the dumper can feel alot of pain
314970
all of the things that youu have left over from the relationship, (hats, clothes, pictures etc.) put them away in a box and write a letter to yourself, and then to your ex- telling her that you love her, and that you have to let her go. then put the letters in the box, and put the box away in a closet, or something. only look at it once a month, after a while it doesn't hurt anymore. you still love the person, but most of the times you'll figure that if you were meant to be together than it will happen again.
54738
Obviously there are some things you'd have to decide b4 proceeding,eg;how long you've been 2gether,how sensitive she is,what the reason(s)for the brk.-up eg,are they irrepairable.Breaking up is never an easy thing to do or experience.Be extremely sensitive,caring and try to do so with the possibility of friendship remaining.Think of how you'd like to be treated in this situation and treat like-wise.
939425
You don't.\n\nThat's really immature. If you're old enough to have a girlfriend, you're old enough to have the maturity to not have to resort to revenge. \n\nShe broke up with you--it's time to move on!
598580
step back. tell her that you don't want to play games, because that's what she's doing.\n\nif you are ex's, then the feelings you are having now may be just because you feel like you are getting a second chance at something that didn't work before. think about why it didn't work out before. maybe you don't want to be with her afterall.\n\nthink about what she's doing now. it sounds like she's trying to play you and her "ex/current/who knows" boyfriend. sounds like she wants it all. or the opposite, she doesn't know what she wants, and that's why you are getting mixed messages.\n\nbreak up with her for now, until she figures out what she wants and she can stick to it. if she wants to be with you, then she ought to cut ties completely with her "ex/current/who knows" boyfriend. don't let yourself be in this relationship as it is now, because it's not good for you.
465718
thats just the thing,if she loves u then there is no way u can do it without hurting her.she will hurt.but what u need to do is tell her what u have just told me.tell her that u dont think she is the one and that u think that she will find someone who will love her verry much.tell her that u love her but ur not in love with her(if thats the case)let her know all of this cause the longer u wait the harder it will be to do.but just try ur hardest to let her know how u feel and try to make her understand how u feel and understand that she will find someone else who will love her and she will love back.good luck and hope it works out
379799
Forget it.  You'll get over her.  You won't respect yourself, and she'll never respect you either if you let her walk on you like that.  You don't just casually leave someone.  How would you ever trust her again?   You'd spend your life worried that if you don't jump through her hoops, she'll bail again, and she probably will, too!   \n\nJust tell her, "I'm sorry.  I wish you all the best, but that ship has sailed."  You don't need to humiliate her or rub her nose in it.  Take the high road, which will make her realize all the more that you are a decent guy and she shouldn't have done that.  You can't fix this one, but maybe she'll grow up a little for the next guy.
716127
just tell her, be honest,  it will be better to hear it that way than be left hanging and getting mixed messages..u dont hav to tell her that u dont love her anymore..just tell her that u feel that  she deserve someone better...honesty..yes works better.
901429
You must have seen something good in her for you to have stayed with her as long as you did. Maybe you can acknowledge that she's a good person and that you value the positive part of your past relationship. Then be straightforward, but kind, and say what you said here. She might become emotional and dramatic, but you stay calm, affirm her where you can, but keep it short and then leave. \n\nGood luck!
308192
It is not your choice to make, and right now is not the time to try to keep her from going back to her first girlfriend.  She will decide without any pressure from you.  You can only alienate her by pressing the matter.\n\nKick back, and let her have the time she needs to make the inevitable decision.  \n\nThis matter will resolve itself if you just leave it alone to do it.
601404
You cannot force her to love you. Move on, find someone else who will love you too.
176102
Express your feelings to her, but don't dump her just yet! Look what she has to say, and if you need to, break it to her gently.
512991
break up with them and go out with someone else
29792
You have every right to break up with them, and are making the right choice in ending it before you get married. Just tell the person that you can't marry her. There really is no easy way to say it, but you are saving both of you a huge pain by cutting it off before it starts. Good job. Most people in your situation get married, and then regret it for the rest of thier lives.
422806
no no no dont break up with the one you love.....\nunless its at the end of the road...and you cant sort out the problem.\n\nbut if your reason to break up is about the new girl....thats just WRONG!
1177570
Just tell her you guys broke up- you both realized you weren't ready for the commitment and leave it at that- tell her your personal life isn't something you like to discuss and next time, BE HONEST.
942661
Don't try to force it.  If she is going to love you then you should not have to do anything out of the ordinary.  Will you love yourself if you change yourself just to please someone else?\n\nSometimes people are not always on the same page.  The hardest thing in the world is acceptance.  You have to accept the situation for what it is.  That doesn't mean you stop loving her.  Just be patient. You don't want he to fall in love with a made up you stay the way you are.  Money and gifts can't buy love.  \n\nKnow your heart....