Ladies, how have men "talked their way out of sex" with you?
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He said, "Don't worry, I had an AIDS test in prison."  Believe it or not, those are not turn on words.
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Try this test.\n\nThe next time he asks for sex, decline, saying that you are just not in the mood.\n\nIf he presses on, it's jsut the sex he's inetersted in. If he accepts your request, it is something deeper
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yeah, he told me he said something very important to me but i don't remember and maybe that's why he broke up with me.\nWell hello, i don't see why you would say something important while having sex, your not in all those senses of caring, in that point.
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Going down on her.\n\nHowever... Back when I dated I was asked "How do you do that?" and asked to write a book and share.\n\nhaha\n\nI only knew they liked it when they clenched their teeth, clawed at the bed sheets, every muscle in their entire body would tense up and flex, their legs started shaking (and continued to do so for a few minutes after the big O), held their breath groaning and moaning, twitching their cute little tummies and nearly bucking me into next week.\nOn a near fall I had to make sure she didn't get up and walk for a few minutes so she could get her wobbly legs back in order. *sigh* (Good thing there's a learning curve.)\n\nTrouble is they want seconds but they're too worn out and have to wait a few days. That's an issue I can't seem to gain an edge on. *sniff*
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Tell us your gay. That one is painless. \n\nAlso, most women can take the "I'm just not into you". \n\nI would rather know that a guy just isn't into me than for him to give me a whole bunch of crap like "It's not you it's me"\n\nNOW if you want to through in diamonds and things (axe the fur......fur is wrong) then go right ahead. Nothing says closure like a pricey shinny thing. :)
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being a guy myself, i can tell you its not too complicated to get our mojos goin. actually, 99% of the time its suprisingly easy. if all your lookin for is sex though, dont use the "L" word right away, or ever, or whatever you want to do.
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They do it alll the time, just to get a woman in bed, then he's gone with the wind, on to the next " lay". Have you ever heard the term" tell them what they want to hear". well if thats what you wanted to hear , he got his way saying it!
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We all know that breaking it off with someone is never easy. It sucks, to be more precise, and even less fun than getting rejected is actually having to do the rejecting. Okay, maybe doing the rejecting is a little better. Anyway, if you're thinking about blowing a guy off, here are some ideas on how to give him the brush off that won't break his heart too badly -- or destroy his ego.\n\nYou're not interested. He calls and leaves a message. What should you do? Do not return that call. \n\nAnd what if you picked up the phone? What then?  Then, lie. Please lie. Tell him that you just got back together with your friends. This is our very first choice for rejection. Second best is you realized that you are going through a period where you do not want to date at all and just want to focus on yourself. Sure, these excuses might be transparent -- but men feel better to live a lie than face the truth of rejection.\n\nAnother possibility, though not quite as good due to possible ambiguity is the good ol' distancing technique. You tell him you are really busy for the next couple of weeks and will call him when things get less crazy -- a bit confusing for most men, but definitely effective and not too painful.\n\nYou really gave it a chance, but it's not happening. What should you do?   Again, lie. Your friends are still your best bet. Do not tell him you met someone else recently. That smarts. Choosing someone you just met tells him he lost a contest. No one likes to lose. \n\nAnother option: Honesty, within reason. If it's simply a matter of chemistry - or lack thereof - tell him. Most guys can survive that after just a few dates.\n\nAs much as it's going to hurt, tell him the truth. At this point, honest communication is the right thing to do. Don't be too specific if it's for reasons no human should ever hear: you smell, you are not good-looking enough, you are boring, you're an idiot -- please refrain from using these. Be gentle, but do not be too vague. Just give it to him straight and say that you're really sorry. And do not try to be friends right away. \n\nIt is really tough to swallow "can we just be friends?" If you two are suitable as friends then let that relationship take it's proper course, and do not initiate it while you're dumping him as a boyfriend.\n\nObviously, this all can vary depending on your circumstances. \n\nJust remember: Be gentle, lying can be good, and specificity, well, it can sometimes be too specific. And did I mention lying? \nGood Luck>r
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Be mature about it dear. Simply tell him that you are giving it up(the relationship). By letting him know will alleviate the game playing. He won't say that you lead him on....
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i cant speak for other men but myself i find what you say to be true-i find sex to be more physical less mental and expect to have already had talk it all out-wouldnt want to start with any confusion as everyone has different kicks so try to have everthing straight before starting-just me-lots of love-old hippie
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There is no easy way to discuss it with him.  But you will have to sit down and talk to him.  There is a difference between sex and love.  Unfortunately some men either don't know the difference or some know but don't care.  You are right, it should be a two way street.  However, some days it is not. There are days when you don't want to or he doesn't want to but either of you go ahead anyway because you care for that person. Those days, you shouldn’t feel like you are lowering yourself either.  Some days you want to have sex. I personally feel that most days it should be about love.  What I am sensing from you is that it is more sex than love.  If he respects you then he will understand and be willing to wait until you are ready.  \n     This is the part that is going the trickiest because you want to talk to him before he tries to get you into bed.  You don't want to give him the impression that you don't want to be with him anymore yet you still want him!  It is hard to get some guys to understand, but if he cares about your feelings he will.  \nIf he is still unwilling to cooperate or is not willing to understand, then he made need to be cut off in the bed room for a while.  I have had friends who had to take time apart before they understood.  I can't say that will be for everybody, but at least a separation from the bedroom.  If he keeps forcing his way into your bed and you tell him NO, then that is rape and that can be more serious.  Hopefully, it won't get that far.
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With time sex kind of dwindles from ohhhhhhhhhhhh my gosh to just that norm sex, try greeting him in your birthday suit when he comes over an see his reaction. As I've always believe, have faith in that man, communicate what you want with your sexual innuendos but never be naive to what is going on in your situation.  before accusing find out discreetly,
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Seriously, take a break from sex, for now. Get a book on massage, or something, and work on being intimate without the sex. But don't back him into a corner because he's trying to be honest with you, without hurting your feelings. (Like all men, he's obviously very bad at it.) Don't take it personally, either. I used to take it very personally because my ex didn't want sex, but when I look back, I realize we had a great sex life, and he probably was just tired!
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It may be because he is embarrsed and remember hes a man and telling them how to have sex is an ego thing.  He may not have had much experiance either.  Dont tell him just do the things you like to him for a while and see if he starts to come around.
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There is a story I remember from my younger days about a man who had amazing staying power when he was having sex with a woman, this guy could go all night.\nWe got him drunk one night and asked him his secret, he told us that when he was going out and knew he was having sex he would self satisfy himself first then go out. he said it made him last longer.\nTake it as you will.
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Words are cheap.  Obviously his actions are speaking much louder than his words...\n\nSounds like he said just what you wanted to hear so he could get into your pants..  Once conquered he has lost interest.  You are a notch on his belt.\n\nI'm sorry this happened to you.  Move on and learn from your mistake.
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Um...this is WAY too long and I'm tired. Good night.\n...\nFine! Don't TRY. Let it flow naturally. Otherwise, it just makes you seem desparate. I don't think guys like that...