Boys answer this........Why are dudes so scared of a committed relationship?
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It's all about the person and mostly timing.If they're ready for a serious relationship and you have a strong connection they will settle but that doesn't mean it will last forever.
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most guys are afraid of commitment like myself..if you initiate contact i guarentee he will talk to you..just go over to him and sit beside him ask him something as simple as "what are we doing this weekend?" you got to let the comfort roll in you can't force it.just show him you like him and if he doesn't have the confidence to speak to you as a bf i'm sorry but maybe you were better off friends.
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What makes a girl afraid to make the first move, is the fear of rejection. I know guys have the same fear, but somehow, it's different for girls. It just is! Some girls, like myself believe the guy should make the first move, and if he doesn't then I move on, so just put yourself out there, and you'll be surprised.
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Men are "hunters", women are "nurturers".   Maybe it's just in them.  Until they're really, really, really ready to settle down with one woman and  a commitment for life - it's just hard to make that choice.  \n\nI really don't know, but I agree that more men are fearful of making a commitment than women.
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Because they're afraid to be judged infront of their "guy friends." \n\nGood luck!\n\nMichelle
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maybe cuz you wanting a serious relationship is the problem..thats scaring them away..most guys dont want a serious relationship..that scares them...guys like freedom to do whatever..and i mean whatever they want to do..they dont want to answer to no body..they dont want no body all up in there bussiness and so on..they dont want to wake up knowin they got a girl and they got another girl they intersted in and they think of the things they CANT do juts because they have a girlfriend..you know waht im saying? guys arnt ready and they dont want to be ready for a realtionship..i been through it..seen it ..done it..my ex was the same..i guess he wasnt ready for a relationship..nor a serious relationship at that..find somebody that wants the same thigns you want..find somebody thats willing to give just as much as you're willing to give.maybe being too nice and too leinent is a problem also..good luck..hope i helped..im too much of a nice perosn..i bend over backwards to make sure my boyfriend is happy and it doesnt seem to work out either for me..like in the end im the one hurt..so i dont know girly..whats meant to be is meant to be..theres somebody else out there.you're being prepared..there only lessons..things you learn from it..so you think positive..say "it was nice while it lasted"..you take from it what you take from it and move on..theres someone out there worth your while..love will come when its time and then your heart will heal
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just dont be afraid to talk to them . most guys are not monsters .. just be intrested in what they got going on .
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Some of us guys just aren't confident enough around girls, especially if the girls are "intimidating" (really smart, really beautiful, really popular, etc).  They're afraid of the answer "no" because of our pride.  Then again there's also usually guys that don't care, and go around asking every girl they like out, so I'm sure there's plenty of those at ur school as well.  Personally if I like a girl, i let her know.  But maybe if the girls let the guys know they're interested in them.....maybe they'd start asking girls out at ur school
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Guys are not confusing. We are TERRIFIED of making a mistake. So we do nothing, say nothing. Better to be safe.\n\nBlame it on society. We are the breadwinners, the soldiers of the family, the protectors, the primary money makers.\n\nNow, everyone tells us this - but NO ONE tells us how to do all these things! So we stumble along in life, learning on our own these things. Does not build "character," just makes us an emotional wreck. That is why you read about so many guys "loosing it" and ending up doing amazingly stupid things.\n\nOnce we figure it all out, we make great companions. But it just takes a long time. Be patient, be kind, and it all works out in the end.
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Men tend to approach relationships from a mental, not emotional perspective.  This is not to say this is a superior approach.  But without the emotional connection, men can more easily disconnect from a relationship.
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Some guys will,but others are too "shy" to do so. They are afraid of rejection or seeming weak because they admitted their feelings. It makes them vulnerable and they don't like it.
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Because we're afraid of those 3 words. they are a sign of commitment and boys like to be free to play. give a guy freedom and if he's a good one, he will love you for sure.(don't be jelous, but know when he's abusing it)
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Gurl, that's a question we all ask!!! But i have a lot of brothers so i can probably help u out. First off, boys have this thing where they have to fit in or they cant look lame or something like that. They have to try n act all hard and gangsta around they 'niggas' or they 'homeboyz' or wateva!!! They have to act like they have control in a relationship wit a gurl, dat's why its so hard to find a really good/loyal/committed boyfriend b/c they alwayz tryna front around their friends. But we as women have to learn to deal with it and get on with life! So just keep ya head up! =)
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Let me tell you this...as a 'guy' guys only go after girls who they like!!!!! they wouldn't approach someone they didn't like unless its for somekind of advantage.
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I'm a guy. It's hard because you don't want to mess up something that could be a potential go. Why don't you put yourself in our shoes.... We aren't sure if you like us in return (perhaps you already have a boyfriend), we're nervous because we probably think that you're out of our league and so on...... It would be easier if you let us know how you feel first. then we would be alot more comfortable telling you how we feel.
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thats because all those guys are insecure about themselves...they're afraid of losing their girlfriend by ANY guy
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I don't have a problem talking to guys...but i do have a problem talking to my crush. I mean, i'm like nervous then and etc. I think the main reason girls get nervous around boys they might like is because we wanna seem perfect to them and make a good impression, which is probably why we're so nervous when we try to talk to them. So i guess..just try to talk to them like you're talking to one of your friends.