Relationship question?
832295
You won't vote me Best Answer, but I'll be honest anyway because you need to hear this. Life is hard work. Romance does not just 'happen'. It is a HUGE effort to keep things interesting, intimate, sensual and caring. A relationship is a full-time commitment. ROMANCE IS A BEHAVIOUR, NOT JUST A NICE IDEA!!!!\n\nYour partner is 'cold' because you have both taken each other for granted and things have reached a stalemate. I am not going to give you advice because you seem like an intelligent adult and I suspect you know I've just spoken the truth.\n\nBEHAVE YOUR WAY TO A BETTER RELATIONSHIP! Use your imagination. Build up your partners' mental anticipation in YEARNING for your TOUCH. Go now. You're wasting precious time on your computer talking to strangers when you should be wooing your lover......I think that is part of your problem, too...
426917
You need to look at it in 2 streams of Thinking. The first stream is the words and actions that you both use to be in the relationship to develop it. You both have to interact with each other to form a communication that helps to develop a relationship. This is the core value of any relationship. The key that puts your relationship together is in essence the words you will use talk to your girlfriend, and intern how she will talk to you. The sounds that come out of both of your mouths are determining how your relationship is developing. This is a crucial understanding to getting to the bottom of answering your question. The words you use to talk to her should be questioned by you. Are you being responsible in how you talk to her and are you being responsible in questioning how her words enter your mind? Do you just react to things she says? Or do you Think first and make sure that what she is saying to you is based on what she is thinking at the moment. There is a movie playing in her mind at that time when her mouth is opening to talk to you, just like it is in your mind. Never take for granted that how you both behave or as to how you both use your body language is true. She could one day say to you that “I don’t want to talk”, you could intern react to this and say “Why, how will we ever fix this. I love you and I want to make this work”. Should you even say that? The point here is that what ever she is feeling at that moment in her life is based on feelings that are going on in her mind, her environment. What she rather here you says is that “OK, I understand, I will call you back later when it’s a good Time, I love you”. The difference between this way of reacting is that you are both making sure that you “understand” each other and treat each other as intelligent persons. Understanding of each other can only happen if you actually do it. Every word that is used by both of you is very powerful. “I hate you” can have a lasting impact on anyone. People are very fragile creatures and this fragility is all based on how we think the sounds of words are impacting us. How we create thoughts in our heads about how we presume a person is thinking about us. When we don’t understand the power of Thoughts is when we live like everyone else reacting to our egos, winning battles of words. We have a hard time figuring out how to communicate with each other’s way of thinking because we don’t take the time to understand what each persons needs are. We didn’t know that to speak you only have to move your mouth and not wait for the right set of emotional states to develop. This is very true when we can’t talk to our parents about personal issues. We don’t know how to approach them. And this is the very reason we have trouble working out relationships. We learned to act from other people’s way of thinking because we didn’t know any better.\n\nThe second stream is very basic in that when you have children and your child comes running through the door after school and tells you “Daddy, I learned what One plus One is, its Two!” How will you react? Will you say “That’s fantastic son! I am so proud of you” or should you be saying “That’s fantastic son! I am so proud of you! I want you to tell me why does one plus one equal Two. I want to know how you Think my son.”. If you understand how to work with relationships now with your girlfriend, it will benefit you as a father, both of you.
977944
yes. talk to your friends. they should be able to help you. or ask your boyfriend himself what he wants.
740341
humm..........nice question\n\nhope you were my boyfriend.
304459
If both people are truly in love with each other and are able to effectively communicate with each other, then addressing this issue shouldn't cause any permanent hurt and could lead to a fun time of mutual exploration. Be honest with him and tell him what you like and let him know how much you like it when he does.
338400
If you have to ask, then maybe.... Slow down a little. You're just dating, right? If your feelings start to become more serious, look closely. It's a lot to take on. Figure out if you really want that. It's a big decision. Don't take it lightly, but don't run away either. It doesn't have to be something you can't handle. YOU get to decide.
485999
I can barely understand your question, and you don't say how old the two of you are. You sound too young for a relationship.
1122872
I would let her know where you are coming from. It also depends on what level you are with this person. Are you married? Girlfriend? Dating? In any case, you should let her know where you are coming from and that you want to come to some kind of understanding on how you are going to resolve the issue. \n\nP.S.\n\n2 wrongs do not make a right. Communication is key here. Talk it out.\n\nAdditional Details\n\n1 second ago\nOur relationship is very good because we communicate and everything its just sometimes she says the wrong things and I let her know . . . . eventually\n\n\nMy response: It appears as though she is not to sure how to communicate her feelings and in turn says things that hurt you. She also could be saying these things because she is unsure of how you feel so she is trying to get a REACTION out of you. SHE NEEDS REASSURANCE. Communication is still key.
297609
no, if he has stayed with you for a year so far, then you guys pretty much are exclusive, if it really bothers you though, then you owe it to him to bring it up, but dont be too forward, kind of bring it up in a round about way, ya know, in a non threatening manner. he wants to know how you feel just as much as you want to know how he feels, he just doesnt want to feel like hes getting an ultimatum. your off to a good start, he sounds like a keeper, just keep it at the pace it is at right now and know that even though he doesnt verbalize, hes yours and your his. good luck, i hope that i was able to help
805398
Aww just ask her are we going out? Then you can ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend. That happened to me too but we had kissed already he asked me so...are you my girlfriend 'n I said well we kissed but i don't know you tell me 'n he said well do you wanna be my girlfriend 'n i said yes we've been together for 2 years lol but that's cute just ask her poor girl is probably waiting for you to ask her soon.
26309
depends! are you talking to the person ur in a relationship with? b-cuz thats fine! if not then it depends on what ur talking about!
303846
it's ok to open up a conversation especially that you are feeling this way. if you don't get the right answers then it could be s start of misunderstanding that can lead to separation .at this point, maybe you're not sure yet about your relationship. communicate to each other in a nice way to resolve this problem.
1005258
You are very strong for asking this question. You are certainly not asking for too much. This is not a problem she has with you, but a problem she has with commitment. She, for some reason, is not prepared to be as selfless and giving in a relationship as you have been with her. Maybe something is going on with her that is , creating this distance between the two of you. All though you probably already have, I suggest that you confront her and ask if their is an outside issue. If there is an outside issue and you help her through it, then you're relationship will be sstronger than ever. Best of luck to you!
1002697
Be honest with her. She will probably find out anyways. Things always have a way of slipping out or she will eventually notice the way the two of you are when you are around together.  Think of it this way.  Ask yourself this question, if it was reversed, what would you want?  Would you rather know? And why?
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Ask his girlfriend.  Oh wait...
420576
If you have to ask this question, the relationship is on it's way out, anyway.  Move on.  Why wait?\n\nGood luck.
462208
You should Ask him directly. That's something to keep the trust on each other. You must trust him and he must trust you.