have you any great reason that your husband will not leave you when you get older.?
813755
Just remember that you always have control over your own situation.  If you are in a bad marriage don't be afraid to leave.  Get out of that comfort zone and don't let fear of the unknown stop you.
406402
I am 27, and my husband is 40.  When we started dating I was 20 and he was 33.  While there's not anything wrong with it, my experience has been that we are at very different points in our lives.  For example, I am just getting settled in a career job (teaching), and thinking about starting a family; he is not sure about a family at this point (looking ahead to retirement) and wants to start travelling the world.  So it can be difficult in a lot of ways.  But that being said, he's a wonderful guy and I wouldn't trade our relationship for anything!\n\n(Huh, apparently judging by the comments above, we must be some sort of sickos....who knew?)
359950
There are other occupations where spouses are seperated for long periods of time and alot of those survive. Tell him that you think the marriage is starting to drift because he isn't around much anymore. Ask him to prehaps take sometime off and possibily cut down hours (if it would allow him to see you). Also another soultion would be to move in with him.
1085521
i am 24 and my husband is 30 and that is a good age difference, b/c guys mature slower than girls and guys around my age annoy me still to this day
644614
If after 6 years he won't man up. He isn't going to do it. Unless you are really young (less that 25) then you may have to pray he matures without growing apart from you. I rarely see these things work out. In fact, my wife came from that situation and she is still bothered she didn't walk away sooner.
676776
You know when you're in love when things are finally right.  You may argue about stupid stuff sometimes, you might get frustrated sometimes, but when push comes to shove you'd want that person with you, beside you, and behind you no matter the situation.  Sometimes I get real aggrivated with my husband, but then he holds the door for me, holds me when i'm sad, and has a great ability of making things better, not just with material things, but with the surface and deep down inside things too.  One last thing, I have slept with a light on all my life, within in six months of our marriage, a light on will keep me awake.  Its that kindof feeling, knowing he's going to be there, that makes a marriage work.
429907
You need to go with your husband no matter what.  when you married him, you made that commitment.  I know its gonna be hard, but you can always come back and visit.
439264
My hubby was 24 when we got married, I was 22...I think its a good age if you have a job that will take care of both you and your wife. If you have security, then go for it!! 26 is an awesome age, in my opinion....
885091
It can happen. I married my husband right out of high school. We were married 23 years and started having problems. We divorced...... 2 years later, and we are back together. We just don't work apart. The 2 years that we were apart was hell on both of us. We've now worked through our differences and plan on growing old together. :)
848177
I have been with My Husband since we have been 15.I am 36.yes there has been time when I wanted to leave and same for him we got married for better or for worse.We have God in our life and that has helped us out ALOT.we have 3 kids 21,14 and 10 and a Half.
1057239
I used to work for an old timer who had been married for like 40 years and asked him the secret to such a long marriage,he tol me to tell her what she wants to here then go do whatever it was you were gonna do.He also told to remember that she is ALLWAYS right.
228668
i have a hard time encouraging my husband to do anything but you can't really make him go, he has to go on his own.  just keep on going yourself, and set a good example
214647
If you hadn't said you haven't married for a long I would have probably known. I think you don't "know" your husband yet. I personally don't agree with such kind of behaviours but I think this unusual thing you see stems from somewhere else. This can be a "sign" to you which shows your husband has some sort of psycological problem which should be cured. You can eventually find the root of this if you continue your marrage. Time will show this to you and it cannot be hidden of course if you don't get divorced. Its your decision. If you continue your marrage and live with him you might as well be able to help him. If you just tell him not to do this action and even if he doesn't, you haven't solved anything, you have just covered the problem. But of course don't go up to him and say ' you have psycological problem' he might get upset !
848972
Hi, I'm an Air Force wife.  So far I have been very lucky not to have my husband overseas at all.  The longest he was ever away from me is 6 months.  Now most of the time it is just for a couple of weeks at a time.  Stay strong and I'm sure you can get through it, I'm sure he is worth it.  At least that is how I feel about my husband.
300529
most ppl end in divorce for one reason or another and think that after 13 yrs it isnt possible..\n\nme and hubby been together since 98 and will be married 3 yrs in august..both in our 40's..my 1st marriage and his 2nd..his 1st wife died about 22 yrs ago...\n\ni think alot of ppl are jealous of your relationship..i say the hell with them...you married the right one and also after 13 yrs know that marriage is not a game..it can take alot of work but it is possible\n\ni find myself loving my hubby more and more and its the small things that add up that make the difference and it is not about money either..we both work and have seperate bank accounts so this knocks out fighting over money..my son is grown and gone and his son and daughter are grown and gone...i pay certain things around here and he pays certain things..the rest is split up and some things are if you see it is needed you buy it..no problems there...with the common denominators not present that doesnt leave us much to argue about...lol...kids and money....when we do argue it is usually about that time of the month for me and also i am in perimenopause so when my hormones go haywire  he knows it..9 times out of 10 he will go to his garage and stay until he knows i have calmed down.\nwe talk everything out  even if it take a few days but i would not trade him in for anything\n\neven if we are fighting we still tell each other i love you before going to bed, leaving for work or wherever or just say it upon entering the room..he still holds doors open for me, lets me order 1st in restaurant and so on...he is a gentleman out in public and at home..even holds the door open at home if we are going into the house at same time..we met through newspaper personal ads and i feel very lucky to have him in my life..before getting married i told him straight up marriage is a one time deal for me..his only escape would be death...lol...i asked him if he wanted to have a pre-nup and he said no..that just told me that he trusted andloves me and he will be here till we part this life\n\nso if ppl find it hard to believe you and your hubby are still in love and happy just assume they are jealous of what you have and what they dont have..i know it can happen\nand wish you well for another 50-60 yrs or however long you 2 live to be
684150
I say that you should go.  Things arent going to change with your husband, he can promise all that he wants to but they never do.  If you have found someone who cares about you and treats you good, then you deserve that happiness!!!
219686
I lived with mine for 13 years before marriage. Been happily married since. :o)