I am 20yrs married women having a child. I am in relationship with a men who is also married.?
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It seems that neither of these men are right for you.  Your husband does not appreciate you and the other man is married and very much out of bounds.\n\nIn any other circumstance, I would say leave your husband, but you owe it to your unborn child to give your relationship a go.  Tell the other man that, although you have enjoyed his conversations and company all this time, you feel you have to give your marriage 100% and that you will have to sever all contact with him.  If you have to, get your phone number changed.\n\nThen, sit your husband down and explain to him how you feel.  Tell him that he must consider your feelings.  Lots of men find it difficult to change their ways, but you must try.  Give it a year, then you'll know for sure whether you can stay married.\n\nGood Luck.
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my husband has a child with his ex that is one month older than ours. IT IS HARD. but i love my stepson as much as i do my kids and i have always told my husband i would never come between him and his other son he even stays with him when he is sick and just got back from a week long trip with his ex wife and son it was for his son medical reason but i wouldnt have it any other way. Just becase he has a child already dosent mean yalls wont be as special this will be his child with YOU the woman he loves and that will make all the difference trust me and if you need anyone to talk to im here and know excatly what you are going thru just email or im me.
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Dear girl, Oh my... I wish you had asked for advice 2 years ago; perhaps much of your pain could have been avoided.\n\nYou say you two have NOT been in a committed relationship for over 2 years and you are still with him. WHY are you still in this relationship? He's NOT committed to you and hasn't been for 2 years! Is he sleeping with other women? Are you sleeping w/ other men? Have you even thought about the risk of HIV and AIDS? You two have a child now. And my dear, why did you get pregnant with a man who hasn't been committed to you? You should never have sex with any man who is not committed to you. He gets sex, you get hurt. It happens every time. Unfortunately, you are not the  only one getting hurt; you have made a baby and brought your child into this situation. \n\nDo you two still live together because you have a child, or because it's easier than moving out? Let me ask you, does he support you and your child financially? Are you you paying any of the bills? Are you paying bills for your baby? If your baby's father is not supporting you 100% emotionally AND financially, then you are better off leaving for good, once and for all. I am sorry to say this, but it sounds to me like he may be using this "money issue" as an excuse and he doesn't have the guts to get out of the relationship. Some men can't handle being fathers, especially if they are not in love with the baby's mother. Having a baby brings a couple in love even closer, but couples who are not in love do not get closer after the baby is born.\n\nI wish I could tell you otherwise, but I definitlely think it's time for you both to be grownups. Living the way you both are is not the adult, responsible way to solve this problem. Make an agreement regarding the child's support and visitation and part company amicably. Many women with small children meet other men who do love them and will be committed to them and their child/children. My father met my mother when she was a yound divorcee with a 2 year old and married her and proceeded to have 2 more children with her. They were married 53 years until he passed. There is hope for you to do the same.\n\nIf you are not good with $$$, then take some money management classes (@ a local school, community college, aid center). You will need these skills whether you are on your own or not. \n\nIf you were not honest regarding $$$ with your partner, then I suggest you get to church, temple, etc., and you start being honest with God and yourself. Remember, you have a child you need to be teaching good values to now. If you were honest, then you're okay there, but going to a place to have a relationship with God will still be powerful for you at this time. \n\nYou CAN start a new and better life. Don't give up on yourself, no matter how hard it may be at times!
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you should get a divorce.then again does that other person feel the same way about you .you need to be true to yourself and your husband.it is not eair to him
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married at 20-25 and first child 20-22
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Why is it a hard decision to make? Is it because you do not know which one is the right man for you, or is it because you are worried about your kid?\n\n\nIf you are worried about what is best for your kid, ask yourself this: Is there any reason that the guy you are dating wouldn't make a good second father? Something must have gone wrong with your child's father or else it seems like there wouldn't be another man in the picture to start with. If you have moved on, don't go back. That will always just be another extra tension in the relationship and it will not be good for any of you. Your child would be better off having 2 separate happy parents than 2 parents pretending.\n\n\n\nIf your kid is not the reason you aren't sure, then ask yourself this: Are either of these guys the right man for you? I have been stuck between a couple of guys before. I thought that I was truly in love with them and it tore me up every day to know that some day I would have to pick one. But after it was over, I realized something. I wasn't really in love with either of them. They had qualities that I loved, and they were both great men. But neither of them was quite right for me. When you find the right guy, the answer to your question should be obvious.\n\n\n\nTry this. Think hard about both guys. Take away any fears of "what if" you make the wrong choice or of your kids, friends, and family not approving. Now, ask yourself ... Are you and your child safe with both men? Are they emotionally supportive and loving toward both of you? And which one will make you feel the best about yourself?
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I can see this ending in tears.\nYou need to forget about him and move on. He has a baby with someone else, and you'll end up taking that baby's daddy away if you pursue him. His wife needs him, they have a family. If you want a family too, I am sure you will have one one day, just not with this man.\nPlease move on, don't be the home wrecker. Have some pride, move on, and realise that you are a beautiful person who doesn't need to be with someone else's man to make her feel like a woman.
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honestly...if you love your husband...youd leave that other man..its not worth it...u dont want ur kid to grow up and ask you who their dad is....
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In all honesty, I hope that for the sake of the kids, you make the right decision. Being that you have two of his off spring, your decision will be one that will not only affect you, but him too, and most of all it will affect the two boys when they get older, but also at the same time as a mother your first order of conduct is to protect your children regardless of whether he wants to be with you or not, in addition, if he loved you that bad to tell you that you should of stopped him, then he should of never left in the first place.\n\nAlso being the fact that he has children from another woman and is married to her, then I can honestly tell you that she will probally be the one to keep him and until he leaves her you will have a major problem getting any kind of support from him to help with the raising of the two boys.\n\nIf I were you I would forget about getting with him, regardless if you love him or not, as I said earlier, your first responisibilty is your two boys, for their sake and for yours too, you should file for sole custody of the two boys and also file with your county for child support, in addition to that you should find yourself another man, one who will accept your children and you too, there are plenty of men who can not have children and are always looking for females that have kids already.\n\nI hope and wish you the best of luck in this matter, and if you would like I would like to stay in touch with you to give you moral support, in addition to that I can also give you my friendship, and see where it goes from there.\n\nplease email me back and let me know how things are going for you from time to time.\n\nrichardaguilar402@yahoo.com\n\nGood luck and Congradulations on your two boys.....
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Perhaps you can talk to him and see what you can sort out. It would certainly be better if he could tell you earlier so you can make plans for them. It will be an ongoing issue for your relationship so you need to sort things out both with your kids and his kids. You want to avoid having a situation where he perceives that you are asking him to choose between you and his kids.
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Well sounds like you need to decide for certain which is more important....your sexual fantasies or your relationship with your wife.It can't be healthy to  have 3 in a relationship where there should only be 2. And you should talk to your wife about this too. Maybe it's time to get rid of the 3rd party. Also it would make me feel strange and not so loved to know that my man wants me to be with another man. Either way sounds like it's time to re-evaluate your situation. and sets your priorities in order.
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Look to your three children and take care of them first.  Second finish your degree and follow your career.\n\nSounds to me like you need to prioritize things here and a man in your life is not exactly what you need right now.\n\nYou've met three Mr. Wrongs time to stop and think about what the next Mr. will bring, another child?\n\nThird well where ever you've met the past three STOP going their!
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It depends on where you are in your relationship.  I have 2 kids from when I was married and I was afraid that my now partner would leave me if there were too many issues surrounding my kids occur.  Introduce yourself slowly as a friend and TALK to your bf.  Cannot stress that enough....the more you talk to each other, the faster you will learn.
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Well what exactly is the problem?  Surely the child can't be the problem in and of itself.  Were you married first and then he had a baby on you?  I'm assuming that's it because if he had the baby first then you already should have known about it. \n\nBut seriously, the child is here, nothing you can do about that.  If this man broke your trust and was infidel then you have two options. 1. seek marriage counseling and try to stay with him, or 2. divorce him.   I mean what other options do you really have?  Whatever you do, please don't take it out on the child! Or get into a pissing contest with the other woman.  YOUR husband made vows to YOU, she didn't.  HE broke the trust, she didn't.  Even if she pursued him, HE is the one who stood up before God and the world and swore to keep himself only to you.  HE alone is the liar.   Just think about that.
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I understand your feelings.  Talk to Hubby about it.  Make him understand how it makes you feel.  He should be willing to help with your feeligns.  Some compromise is in order.  Because of the kids, they inlaws will be a part of your life, but how much a part is something you two can discuss.  Sounds to me like he can give a little, and you can as well.  Good luck!
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it is not possible to love them the same way. You will love them equally, but in different ways and there is NOTHING wrong with you and your hubby getting involved with the same woman. As long as she is ok with the fact that he married you why would it be wrong?
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I think there is more to ur situation than sex.  The other person may not be on the same wavelength with you, he may just be in it for sex.  When u have to make a "life" decision it should be about you and not anyone else.  Think about what would make you happy.  If you have children know that only when you're happy they will be happy, they can sense when ur unhappy.  Don't sacrifice your happiness for anyone or anything. Have faith and be strong.