why are relationships so hard to get?
816257
a lot of people would say if you've been dating for 2 months you have a relationship, so maybe you need to define what in your mind a "relationship" is exactly.
858992
It happens, finding the right guy isn't easy, takes a lot of time. It's basically trial and error. I have the same problem with girls, a lot of them are basically the same and boring.
181203
??? I guess it's something about your personality.  Damn, if I could meet another person that would make me fall in love... xoxo\nHmmm... we're on the same boat but on opposite ends.  I'm a guy that has problems falling in love or even talking to the person everyday.  Why?!?  I like my space, right?  I like my own time.  Maybe I'm not ready because I haven't found anyone worthy of my absolute (EVERYDAY) once a day phone call thing that everyone does.  Therefore, for that reason it is difficult for anyone to see anything going serious with me.  It doesn't bother me.\n\nI'm just saying we're oddly on the same boat but at two different ends.
256885
That depends. There are those that no matter what they never find love. I doubt your one of them. Most likely you just didn't find the one yet. All there is to it is to wait and see. Now waiting isn't easy and I can tell you how it is killing me, but that is for another time.
791791
Trust me it happens with older women as well, and not surprisingly there are some men who experience settling for second best instead of being patient. The root of the problem is while we want to have a successful career, money in the bank, a big fine house, and the 2.0 children, we don't want to wait until the right person comes along who feels the same way about certain things in life as we do. Therefore, we settle for someone far less mature and serious about life than what we had intended because we don't want to be alone. We hate being alone, we hate spending time with ourselves, we can't stand the quiet. For some reason we believe that it is easier to be with anybody than with nobody.
462189
either she's playing hard-to-get or she fears committment.  when there's a guy you can't have, it's sometimes *so* ridiculously appealing, because a) it's forbidden and b) there's no risk of getting close and getting hurt.  I'm not sure about your particular case, but this is true for me and a lot of the people I know.
225245
Finding a soul mate. I've been without a boyfriend for almost ten years because I never find someone I really connect with. So I just stick to casual dating. But I have made some good money in those years. So I'd say it's harder to find a soul mate.
815846
because most people don't want the excess baggage of children. They usually want their own children, not your ex lovers kids. That is what I think it is about. I am a single mother. I know the reason that I can't find love is that I am not ready to open my heart again after an 11 yr relationship with my children's father. He left me for another woman. I just don't want that to happen again.
188971
not all guys are like that. i know i'm not. i can think of only one thing in life that comes before a serious relationship, and that's my daughter. i know plenty of guys that would love to get into a serious relationship, but they need to find the right person first. it takes time, but you'll find him sooner or later as long as you don't give up on love
531472
why would you want someone that you have to try so hard to get anyway
163405
It is difficult to have a long relationship with someone you are not able to have an intelligent conversation with. Although there are many guys that will think with their "head below the belt" to get a girl in bed the ones that are looking for a long term relationship are looking for a lot more than eye candy. I'm not saying physical attraction isn't important but I don't think it is the only thing guys look at when looking for a long time partner
1115422
I've never been in a relation either and I'm 19. And I don't date, I'm not looking for love but rather letting love find me. As of yet no such luck, you just can't rush these things. Being patient is the key. For every man there is a woman and vice versa.
425809
looking for a relationship online is not a good thing. i know that there are people out there that is has worked for, but finding someone over the internet that is honest and does not have some kind of agenda is very rare.  and it is very hard to get to know someone over the internet.  and you also do not have to do the club scene to find someone. there is a person out there for everyone.  just do things that you enjoy doing.  if you enjoy the movies or concerts or whatever, just do them. interact with people of the opposite sex that enjoys doing the same things that you do.  you don't have to fall madly in love with someone, form a friendship first. some of the greatest relationships started out as friends.  and it will be easier to approach people if you are shy if you approach them with the idea that you want to be friends and not wanting a relationship.
1142524
Funny, I'm having problems finding a match..\nOh wait, we might be looking for different things. \nGuess that's why we all have to either, wear a sign that tells everyone what we are about, or we have to sit and talk.\nOr do a bit of both.\nAnd then the hard part is being honest with that other person so that we really find out if we want what the other is offering. \nMany times people spin what they think the other person wants to hear to "win" them, then later those pesky little problems start popping up. And then the women want the men to grow up, and the men want the women to keep giving lap dances. Neither understands why the other changed or won't change from before the dating started.\nOoops did I let  secret slip out?
395197
Sometimes we aren't patient and allow love to grow.  Sometimes we're too scared to let someone really get to know us.  Sometimes we aren't really sure what we are looking for in a relationship.  And sometimes we want it to happen to fast.
573015
some guys like that. In my case I don't play hard to get, I am hard to get..haha, some people are just shy or something.
379033
It often takes time.  It's not uncommon for us to be friendly first and become really interested after we get to know you better.  You know, kind of like you do with guys, right?