Ok, so my mom keeps on presuring me to pass my permit test and its causing stress bc i have college and a life
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what about her you are probably causing her stress by making her drive you every place how about this since you are so grown up get you license it will help you become more independent with your life! And i wouldn't drive without a license you may not be able to drive for awhile after that and you will get fines and insurance will go up  quit being lazy and take the test ... your almost grown up so act like it quit crying about stress it is not that bad yet . it will get worse wait till you have kids and they want you to drive them every place under the sun .  .. well go take your test Good Luck!
354045
Parents have to be demanding, because if they do not you will get in a lot of trouble. It is for your safety not theirs. You will thank them when you are grown. We all go through these phases in life and appreciate it when we get a little older, do not forget someday you will be that parent put yourself in their situation, if you was the parent. What would you allow your daughter to do.
532235
Remember your parents are the ones to respect. There are rules of the house and as long as you are living under the roof, you got to obey them. Just calm down and try to take things little by little. Mothers are always like that. She is doing things that you might not like and that means that she cares and loves you. Sometimes, they have a funny way of showing love. Just stay in school and love your parents until you finish high school. Then, you will be in college and have more freedom. One day, when you are older and wiser, you will look back and realize that you would not be there without your parents. You will realize that you have two very important people in your life who you want to thank, your mom and dad.
923569
What I would suggest is that you probably need more time to adjust to your new school. More importantly, because you say that you are living with your relatives I take it that you are not with your mum and dad at the moment. I think this would very well have an effect on your studies. I think you are feeling a lot of anger, which is why you reacted strongly to your teacher's question. Although you have 'never failed' in your lifetime, this is one of those occasions where you are having to deal with failure at a time when your confidence might be at a low point. \n\nHowever, failure is relative, and this is a chance for you to challenge what you may see as a setback and learn some valuable life lessons, which of course will help you grow and become a stronger person.  Then of course, you will feel stronger and not be so worried about passing tests since, if you always do your best, you will be happy in the knowledge that you are becoming a better person.
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i'm 18 and my parents are STILL the ones controlling my life. i used to think the way you do. but now i'm slowly realizing that parents know best. they're only acting the way they do coz they love us and they want to protect us.  when i was 17, my parents found out that i had a boyfriend and they asked me to break up with him. although i didn't want to, i broke up with the guy and followed my parents' advice. i was sooo depressed. then one day, i heard news that my friend got pregnant. and then a month after that another friend of mine got pregnant and what's worse, she was left by her boyfriend. so i thought, it could have happened to me. (although i know that it could NEVER happen to me coz i think im responsible enough. hehe..) but you know how much we teeenagers fall in love. we're a crazy bunch..\n\nyour mom is not controlling you. she's just 'dominating' you in a way coz she wants the best for you. i suggest you show her that you're doing good in school, that you're obeying them, and that you're doing your resposibilities well to prove to them that you're a grown up now. the next time you two disagree, better discuss things between the two of you. and remember, be polite as possible whenever you're presenting some suggestions. she's your mom after all.\n\ntrust me, everything's gonna be fine. i'm just a teenager like you..who thinks i can do it on my own..but still goes back to "mommy!!!" when something's wrong. hehe.. :)
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Ooooo i remember the strictness of when i was 15 it was about the same curfew as you. So stick it out arguing about it didnt get me anywhere. When you turn 16 and so on they should ease up! \n\nPersonally i think it is wrong for your parents to decided what career you are going to do. Think about it doing something you dont enjoy for a big part of your life for a good pay its not worth it. My dad told me 'i could be anything i wanted to be' and he didnt really have a say when i was choosing my college course...i made mistakes on my own but thats the best way to learn. \n\nThere is noway you can change their minds they have there heart sent on their little girl becoming a police officer!! But if you feel so passionate about a diff future then go for it you cant live someone elses dreams!!
570368
It sounds like your mom doesn't trust you. You need to earn your mom's trust and respect.
946258
I see both sides.   It is just your first year, maybe you need to give it more time, and ask for help from the university to make it not so hard.    Maybe you need to switch the subject to something that you find interesting.  I am sure that she still loves you.  She is probably overwhelmed by her fear that you will struggle (maybe as she has as a single mom)   I am sure she just wants what is best for you.    I never got to go to college, and didn't want to when I was 18.  But I am 36 now and totally regret it.  I would almost give anything to go back and get that degree.  Besides I read that ANY college degree automatically gives you at least $23,000 a year in salary more than a person without one!  That's amazing.   You need to sit down with you and talk about the options.   Maybe you can come with some alternate ideas on how to succeed.   Maybe something else is going on with her?   If you haven't been around so much because of college, I am sure it's hard to deal with as well for her if you two were really close.   Try to get her to talk, and let her know that you understand her fear, that you won't get a degree.   Tell her that you want to figure out how to get that in some other way.
1138626
I got my . al ong time ago. its nothing to worry about. Just tell your mom and everything willl be alright. Just chill out and you'll be fine!
1099922
yeah sure it looks that way. just don't jump the gun and get mad at your mom. this could all be unavoidable. just tell her you really want to come up and for her to not make any plans to prevent your visit. If she still continues to have excuses...i dunno, try talking to your dad about it. maybe he'll talk to your mom about the way it's affecting you.
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I would not go so far to say that she does not like anything about you.  She just wants the best for you even if it is just the way you dress.  My mom was the same way when i was a kid (not that long ago, i am only 25) and i wanted docs also.  I wore ripped up jeans that were baggy, long tee shirts, flannel shirts and boots. (the pearl jam grunge years) and my mom wanted me to wear cute skirts and dress more fashionable.  It is true that parents just don't understand, but they do love you.  As long as you are a teen living in her house you will but heads about your clothing, friends, music and everything else.  If you don't get anything from this answer i hope you get this.... The minute you move out of the house to college (you better go to college) you will miss your mom so much and she will be your best friend.  You will look back at your teen years and laugh about how you dressed and what you guys argued about.  All parents hate the way their kids dress and it is because they are parents and that is what they are supposed to do.  Don't take your mom's criticism so seriously and just do your own thing (when it comes to clothes). This will change as you get older.  When you are a teen, no one understands you, you don't even understand you and that is perfectly NORMAL (or what ever that is)  Just let it roll off your back and be yourself.  It is good that you don't want to be like everyone else, it shows that you are an independent thinker that doesn't follow the crowd.  The teen years are rough but just be happy that your clothing is all you have to worry about with your mom.  Trust me, so many kids have it much worse.  Your mom needs to understand that your clothing is not a reflection on her, but an expression of who you are and what you represent.  She may be scared that you are trying to represent that you are a druggie (i hope you are not) but sometimes that is parents fears.  You just have to be open with your mom and try to talk to her objectivly about what you wear and what you are doing and let her know that she should be thankful that you are only dressing like a druggie, heheheh, and not one.  I am a mom myself to a 9 month old little boy and i love dressing him like a preppy little man and dread the day when he says he hates the clothes i pick for him and he wants a pair of docs (even though docs are cool) because he will be showing how grown up he is and he is not my little boy anymore.  That is probably how your mom feels to.  Hang in there for a few more years and you will be suprised how different your relationship will be.
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MY PARENTS DIDNT PRESSURE ME, BUT THEY WERE EXPECTING ME TO CONTINUE MY EDUCATION... TWO YEARS AFTER I GRADUATED (WHICH IS NOW) I BARELY FOUND A JOB THAT PAYS GOOD.  ITS A SHAME WHEN PEOPLE ARE PRESSURED INTO DOING THINGS... IT SHOULD BE UP TO YOU TO DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE, NOT YOUR PARENTS. GOOD LUCK!
702775
that is something you need to discuss with your mother. She may have her reasons. Talk to her
975907
The best I can tell you is to talk to them to see if you can get extended deadlines - many with empathize with you, but they wont sympathize with you.  There attitude will be if you can't cut it in college its not their problem.  I would suggest cutting back on the hours at work and try to shift some of the family obligations to other family members.  In the long run you getting a college education will benefit all more than what ever the short-term issues you are dealing with now are and its important that others not be so selfish on your time.  You need to be a bit more self-centered on yourself and your goals or you wont make it.\n\nGood Luck!!!
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Are you kidding? Your title is Mother, your entitlement, is to raise her with respect for herself, honesty, you don't ask her for it, you tell her you want it & it will be monitored, or you will take it away from her!!! That's part of whats wrong with some of the teens now adays, thier parents ask them, they don't tell them, your the parent, she's not an adult yet & she's living under your roof. She'll be mad as hell, but she'll get over it.
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Well for starters you should have asked permission if you wanted permission. If you already live on your own, then they can't stop you, but there will be hard feelings on their part. If they decide to be upset, they may cancel your college tuition payments. Much better to talk to them about how much this trip means to you, and get your aunt and uncle involved regarding the accommodations. Try to put yourself in your parents' shoes--their 'baby' going so far away...\n\nGood luck!
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It sounds like you're thinking too much. You need to relax.  \nYou'll get into a good university if you try hard enough, you're parents may never be happy but it's YOUR life! And only your father can make his dream project work good--life's hard enough without you worrying about other peoples' problems, regardless of whether he is your dad or not.  I'm certain that whatever his dream it doesn't include having his child stressed out over HIS life.  \nAnd by the way, you will NEVER find anyone who shares EVERY thought with you, it's impossible.  But you will find someone who will be able to ADD to what you already know and for whom you can do the same.