Help! what should i do my best friend is driving me crazy with her ex boyfriend.?
830190
I think that u should be a good friend and let her see it her self. Sometimes no matter wat u say a person just wont get it. Hey my best friend is 21 and her boyfriend is 32 and she just don't get it.
49140
YES! But if possible, come bearing proof! Your friend may be upset and even think you are lying; your friendship may be hurting for a while depending on the kind of person she is, but YOU are her BESTfriend, you should give her the respect and loyality that title deserves. You WILL NOT be responsible for their break up...her man will. Break it to her gently and tell her first that you would never do anything to hurt her unless it would hurt her more not to know. Reverse the rolls...if your lover where cheating on you and your bestfriend knew...would you want her to tell you? How would you feel if you found out and KNEW she didnt tell you about it months before??
81195
Your best friend must be jealous of your relationship with your boyfriend.  Tell how much she means to you and that no one could ever take her place in your heart.  Help her get a boyfriend and things may get a little better between ya'll.
173136
try to be strong , no matter what the situation might be, u shouldn't try to be with yr friend's ex, trust me it will definitely bring beef among u. forge ahead and u'll find someone else
388000
I understand what your going thru. My best friend is doing the same thing to me. I called her in November to ask her if she wanted to go out for her b-day and she hasn't called me since. I did find out that she is getting married(through a mutual friend) I have no idea what's going on w/her either. Like an earlier answer said, I'm sure she is probably dealing with something in her life right now that she doesn't feel so great about. Maybe she feels too bad to talk to you about it? Maybe she thinks you'll judge her. I would just do what I did. I called my best friend a couple of weeks back and left her a message on her cell. I told her that I didn't know what was going on but I still loved her and cared about her very much. We've been friends for 13 years and I have never judged her for anything she has done in the past and she can come to me with anything. After you've done that, all you can do as back off and give her some space. If she's truly the friend that you think she is(and like I think my best friend is) she'll come around. Just let her know that you are worried about her and want to make sure she's ok. If she continues to be this way, maybe you're better off without her. That's what I've decided.
383008
Definitely HERS.  Your ex is just that - your EX.  He no longer has any responsibility to you and doesn't have to answer to you (even though he should no better).  But your "friend" should DEFINITELY know better.  That is just something you DO NOT do to your friends.  She should have come to you and explained the situation and told you that she really likes this guy and asked you if it would bother you if she dated him.  Instead, she snuck around behind your back like a coward.  That is not friend, honey.  Get rid of both of them.\n\nAs for kicking someone's ass - it's so not worth it.
312757
Sorry to say it, but she's gone and you need to let her go.  No girl would ever get with a guy's best friend if she has ANY intention of ever getting back together with that guy.  Plus, why would you want her back after she did that to you?  You'd never be able to put it out of you head.
109273
Just brake up with him because your friend probably said she didn't care if you to dated in the first place but she really did. Trust me my EX best friend dated my brother and now we now longer talk at all because she began choosing him over me and everybody else and remember bf come and go and true friends are forever. Do yourself and your friend a faver and stop it now before it ends up like we did and stopped being friends all together.
702284
She is playing the "boyfriend" of hers for a fool. I mean, she is, really. I think that, once this all blows up in her face, she may want to run and cry next to you about everything. This is what I think you should do.\nI think you should ask her what her problem is. Then, if she wants to date both of them, then she will be the one who will break up with him-with no help. This is her mess and she will be the one who will get out of it. Do not do anymore with this mess she is getting herself into. If that boyfriend ask you about what is going on, just tell him that he needs to talk to her, not you, because you are out of this.
613077
This was on Oprah today... Even tho they were married, but anyway...\n\nYes, your friend was not your friend.. A true, BEST friend would NEVER even consider it.  Give the "friend" and the "boyfriend" up and find new ones. You are better than that, and there are so many more people to meet! You are worth it!  Don't lower your standards for people who don't care about you and how you feel.  Never settle.  Good luck honey!
933600
well gurl  u should encourage her not to go back with him cuz he aint good for her tell her to find someone else
499050
I think you need to tell her. I think you should also make it very clear to her husband that he is in the wrong and you will not tolerate it. Your best friend maybe angry at you for a while, but it won't be toward you. It is the situation that she will be angry at at, but take it out on you. Hang in there with her....give her space....but never go to far and be there when she returns. She will need you then, especially if she told him where to get off!!!
825018
have you done something that could annoy her? or probably she's having second thoughts on breaking up with his ex. maybe you should give her some time alone. but keep the communication line open. text her from time to time (but not too much), ask her how she is. but do not annoy her by texting too much. if this scenario continues for days, try giving her a letter and express how you really feel. tell her you really like her but having second thoughts on pursuing cause she might think you're taking things too fast. just be honest.
126745
My best friend started seeing her boyfriend in August, lost her virginity to him within a week of them seeing one another. (She'd already moved out, and lived on her own.) Within two weeks he moved in, and they've been living together ever since. I emailed her the other day, because I wanted someone to talk to, and she never replied. I don't have her new cell phone number, because she never gave it to me after she got on his plan...and the only time I hear from her is if there is a problem in her life, and very seldom then. I haven't heard her voice since new years. \n\nSpeaking from experience, you should sit her down and tell her what she is doing. Ask her whether or not she wants to abandon her family for a guy. Ask her if she wants to get pregnant and become a mother before she has the opporunity to do anything else. Tell her that you feel that she is really ruining her life, and you think she needs to slow down. The best way is to tell her flat out how you feel with no regards to her feelings, and don't sugar-coat it. She obviously isn't concerned with anyone but herself and her boyfriend. Also, you better do it fast. If she doesn't want to slow down, then ditch her and move on. Her failure and lack of concern for other people shouldn't ever bring you down. If she comes around, then be thankful, if she doesn't then you'll have to move on and just say that you tried.
663347
If she's really your friend I think you NEED to tell her what happend. Just tell exactly what he said about her that will make more sence to her.  She will be devestated but it's always best to know.  Just turn the situation around, would you like to know or would you like your friends to tell you. Plus is not the end of the world, she will lose her boyfriend that dosen't want to be with her anymore but that's why you are there for!
333425
Leave both of them alone.  She is not your friend and he is not boyfriend material.  Go on with your life.  This will just continue to go on.  Move on.  Life is way too short for all this stupid drama.  Him and Her both have big time problems.  Let it go...They are not worthy.
870617
If your best friend is going out with him, then she's not a very good friend is she? If she's not, she respects you a lot. Be there for her when the guy dumps her for someone else, and if that someone is you, remember what happened, and tell him to find someone else's heart to break.