Im missing my ex and cant sleep with the heartache?
823227
go out with friends, get a new hobby, go out on dates, anything to get your mind off her. stop focusing on her and move on with your life. set your goals on what you want your future to be. and this one works for me: make a list of things you hate about her and whenever you miss her, remind yourself of those things.
831531
its not that easy to forget the ex from our life,give it some time.u have to concentrate on ur new lady now cause she ur present now,what was in ur past leave it that way,if u wanna have a beautiful relationship
952667
You need to stop and think about what you are doing. You are obviously still hurt by the fact that you and your girlfriend broke up, but sleeping with all these people is not helping, its only making it worse.\n\nYou are scared that you are going to get hurt again, so the next time you see a girl, don't just assume that you are going to sleep with her get to know her, and step one for you should be for you just to get her number and not sleep with her.\n\nEither that or spend sometime alone thinking about what you really, really want. The fact that you are sleeping with lots of girls will not help you especially if you do find th right one and she thinks that you are just using her
187184
cheer up shinny star,shit happens but we must mourn our losses,dust ourselves up and move on with our lives.a wise person once told me that it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all,if it was really meant to be he'll be back,but if it's not dry those tears and brace yourself cause love is hard babie.4yrs is a long time,take your time to heal don't jump into anything on the rebound,forgive yourself cause you're blaming yourself.life goes on and that dreadful feeling will fade away with time,most importantly,forgive urself
687788
I'm not sure if you really can. I had a bf 5 yrs ago and we loved each other very much but his parents made him move 6 states away from me. It hurt so bad and I still miss him to this day. He probably doesn't even remember who I am anymore but oh well. No I am like totally in love with one of my bestest friends in the world and he knows it but I guess he just doesn't feel the same way about me. He is leaving in July to join the army and I will probably cry my eyes out everynight until he returns in December because I'll miss him so much but he might not give me two thoughts when he is gone. I don't know but there is no real way to ever stop missing someone. I guess one day you'll just wake up and never think of them again.
492527
Go on with your life as if nothing were the matter.\n\nThis is really hard -- be courteous and pleasant and non-judgmental with your former lover.\n\nAs soon as you can, open your eyes to new opportunities and find a new love.
1132948
Well if you're concerned that you might be heartless, that automatically shows that you're not! \n\nSo either like everyone here is saying, you weren't really emotionally vested anyway, and you can shrug it off as an unfortunate experience...OR....you didn't allow yourself to deal with feeling whatever you were feeling at the time she broke it off (this wasn't a mutual decision? Then you might have some resentment or anger buried there) I'm only saying this because obviously SOMETHING about the breakup is bothering you...so just figure out what it is, deal with it and move on.
738260
Pretend they are dead, lol, seriously go through the grieving process, the denial, anger etc.  until so much time passes that they become a not so painful memory and just another ex in your life.  If that never happens then just continue to love them because you always will and understand that your heart is not really broken, just damaged and the only thing to heal any wound is time and caring for yourself.  In time (a very useful word in this answer) you will be able to remember her smell, touch or her eyes when she smiled without that crushing feeling in your chest that takes the very breath from you and causes the speechlessness  you experience when you think of her.  A broken heart is a very serious injury and you really need to take care of yourself so that you can heal and be able to love again, don't go looking right away for someone to take that pain away, it will only slow the whole process down and make it that much harder to accept the end.
366286
well i was once in that situation . and it was hard i guess what I'm saying is....do what u think is best and if u feel that your going to think about your ex all  night if u go out with that other girl it wont be fun. and i hope u know that time heals everything. maybe going out with the new girl would be fun and maybe your heart wont be so broken. well good luck
1038905
It takes time to get over someone that you have loved and trusted so deeply. I know that's probably not what you want to hear but it is true. The last thing that you need to do right now is to jump into another relationship. Take your time and let love happen to you again in its own time. In the mean time try to occupy your time with other things and don't dwell on missing him so much. I know its easier said than done but trust me in time it will get better.
706831
I have felt like this so many times!  It sounds like you guys are spending too much time together. Maybe spending less time together would help.  So when you are apart you miss him and then it seems like a treat to get to see him.  Then when you finally get to see him it will be exciting.  If this feeling continues maybe you should think about the fact that maybe you really don't miss him, you just miss having someone around.
83228
Try keeping urself busy, if u keeping thinking about the breakup you'll nevr heal, hangout with ur friends, find things that will keep ur mind off the breakup\n\nWho know maybe u'll find someone else. =-)
587671
Hello!\nGive it time and keep yourself busy.  When you start to think about your ex, redirect your mind--call a friend, go shopping, go workout, have your hair done, whatever you want! Surround yourself with friends and enjoy yourself.  It'll get easier--hang in there!
325148
First allow yourself to grieve and own up to what went wrong without blaming another person.  That is how we grow up.  Then start to dream again.  The past relationship wasn't right or else it would have worked out.  So, start dreaming about that perfect person.  What would they look like, how would they make you feel, what would you do together.  The more you can let go of the old and welcome the new the better.  Look at it as having a white canvas where you can begin to create once again.  Enjoy the process and do a lot of nice things for yourself that make you feel good.  Start looking for the joy in your life from other ways.  Good luck.
803331
Yes--it's perfectly normal to still miss the person who dumped you and/or the relationship.  Just b/c you miss him doesn't mean that you can't control your behavior or that you have to act on your feelings.  In time, you'll meet other guys, have new experiences, and will enjoy yourself again.  It's impt. to be kind to yourself during this period and take whatever steps are necessary to heal.  I realize it must be tough dealing with the feelings you have, but you will be okay.  It's a real test of your strength and I think you'll be proud of how you dealt with your feelings.  Good Luck
601717
well, first you have to forget about the idea of your 'one true love'. whether or not such a thing exists, she was obviously not it. for the other part - I'm sorry but I don;t know any shortcuts through a broken heart. give it time, try to get out and be around people who can distract you, try to find a job, hobby, or person to be excited about. One day you'll wake up and she wont be the first thing on your mind...I promise.
939537
i have found the best way to get over someone is to think about them as though they have died.  that way you can keep the memories you have about the good times you had with him but accept there will be no more.  stay busy and go different places and do different things than you did when you were with him.   try very hard not to see him or hear about him.  it's a cliche but time does really heal and every day gets a little easier.  don't stay home and be sad now even though no guys measure up right now.  the next one who will measure up is out there and you won't meet him while you're at home feeling sad.  and once you meet him you'll wonder what you ever saw in the guy who made you sad.  good luck!!