broke up w bf and am having second thoughts. He was not respecting rules we have for going out. overreacting?
828575
If you have issues with trust, why are you dating someone in another state? I dated my husband long distance for almost 4 years and never had to follow any kind of rules such as these...if he had said we needed rules about calling or texting, I would have known I didn't need him because he didn't trust me. I think you totally did the right thing...now this guy can find someone that will trust him and not put him under her thumb.
806054
He might think you are a sure thing.  Not trying to be mean!  \nYou are familar ground for him - easier than meeting someone new. \nBe very careful of going back to an ex.  \nYou broke up for a reason!  Think about those reasons.
105171
I think he was just trying to dump you easily. Though it sounds mean for him doing it, he was trying to be nice and blame hisself and not you for him wanting to break up. As for why he wanted to break up, I wouldn't worry about it because atleast you know it's over and you can find someone now that wants your love.\n   Good Luck.
908769
It sounds like he's very hurt by not only the break up, but by your harsh actions of how you treated him after the relationship ended. He's seen you in a new light that was not good and now in turmoil over whether or not to get back with you. Best thing to do now would be to back off to give him time and space to figure things out. By you constantly calling and asking him what's he going to do is probably just making matters worse. Let him have his time to think about things and so he can make his decision.
549208
while breaking up with him wasn't the best thing to do, most of us whould have done the exact same thing.  Have a talk with him. Ask him if he's intrested in giving you a secind shot and explain why you broke up in the first place.  If he isn't all you wanted-he's out of your system and you might cry a little.  the decision is yours but i know what it's like to like someone that much.  give it a shot. who knows- maybe he was dumping them because they wern't like you.  Only he and his friends know. Carpe Diem. Seize the day and take a chance-sorry if this is corny. I'm watching a walk to remember
297305
u shouldn't have told. it's a trust issue. now he knows that he can't trust u that's why he broke up with u.
542473
You sound like you are trying to justify breaking up with him.  From the way you describe yourself, I would say that you did do the right thing.  If you are a flirt and he is the jealous type it would never work.  I wish you the best in the world.  May you find happiness.
858832
Hey everybody gots there limit and he reach yours. there's nothing wrong with that. you bf is a pig, not was, IS. I don't think it's a question of right or wrong it's about your standers and u have that right as a human being. we all have to draw the line in the sand sometime. on the other hand if u really love him and he loves u and your thinking of getting back. he going to have to change all of that or your just going to break up with him again. sometimes telling a person once, they just  don't get it but maybe he will try the second time and if that don't work  then you know  he not going to change anything.
766147
you made a mistake and went anyway thats why he's pissed... i would be too... if i told my bf not to go out... and i knew he was in a jacuzzi with two other girls... thats crossing the line.. i think he has every right to be mad... if he wasn't mad then that means he didn't care about you... but he is... he will probably be pissed for a few days but he'll get over it... if you love him you should do some serious making up with him... good luck
1020652
why wld he not wanna go out wid you if he still has feelings for you? Unless he's bound by some other commitments like he's already married? or his job is too stressful to be in a relationship right now? Give both of you some time off to cool off and get back together again later! Hope this helps!! Cheer up soon!
594664
believe it or not, right now i am in your ex's situation and when i told my ex that i want it over means, i want it over. fullstop. i'm not seeing anyone else but i just feel like being single again and spend more time with my pals. i realized that having a gf too early was a big mistake. she didn't do anything wrong in particualr, and she's a very nice girl. i just need some time alone. hope that "answers" your question. good luck though :)
299649
if i were you id give it a while. i mean my guy didn't do that and im still hurt, the break-up was over 2 months ago.\n(ps. im a girl) just do what you think is right.\n good luck
1160507
he wanted to break up with you sooner, but he didn't want to hurt your feelings.  and when you found out, he was just being immature and wanted to turn the tables on you instead of confronting you and telling you that he wants to see other people.  forget about him...sign up on the same site and start talking to guys...or go out and do it, what ever your forte is.
817974
Of course he is going to deny it. He seems very immature and apparently has issues. Tell him that you will get the police involved if necessary and have your phone number changed. That's bizzare, since he's the one that broke up with you. Steer clear of him. Something just don't sound right.
1125668
I think he has a problem with letting go his exs' stuff and on top of it he has no respect for your feelings.Dump the no ball bf.
550806
Sounds like a set up darlin!Even im getting paranoid thinking about it....i would say...ask him if he was going out with his ex tonight...yes/no. If answer is no..and it happens again(a similar senario,with his ex) tell him to f off.\n\nIn a nut shell....TRUST your instinct..you will know my dear.
975646
Obviously this is a case of a classic attachment issues. You got to ask yourself was the breakup clean and was it where one person broke up with another. In the latter case, this could pose to be a situation where the guy was not ready for a breakup.\nAnother answer is that he could be just using these tactics as an act of jealousy. Isn't there a golden rule that half of the amount of time you went out is the time you should spend recovering. 6 weeks is a short time for a relationship that was a year. So he is just using as a sort of cat and mouse game and is trying to entice you to get back with him.\nPlus, it is always common for guys to compare themselves with other guys. An great example of that is when a guy asks if I was ever the best in bed.