Could my straight male partner of 15 years be gay?
825187
If he is looking at gay sites he could be curious, but since you say he was chatting too it could be more. Since he is in his late 40s, when he was in his early teens it was illegal almost everywhere for a man to have sex with another man. Being gay was called a choice, and since everyone was told it was a choice many people who were attracted to the same sex married and had children. Guys in their 40s usually go through a mid life crisis where they realize that they are getting older and want to act on things that they wanted to do when they were younger but weren't able to do either due to society or financial circumstances.\nThe thing I would ask you is if you love him, and if so how much? Do you think you could be supportive of him if he were gay? (I am not suggesting that you would stay married, only that it could be a friendly divorce). From what you have said I really don't know if he is straight, bisexual, or gay; but since you say he was not only looking but chatting at gay sites, I would simply ask him "Why were you talking to people at that site, I'm not going to tell you it is wrong, but would like to know why?" and see what happens. You won't know until you ask, and you may not get an honest answer, but at least you'll get an answer.
1104718
You probably do love him. He's your friend and you can't help but love a true friend. Have you talked to him about it? You can always talk to a friend. Has he dated in the past? Have you thought that maybe he is into guys? Gay guys do make the best of friends for girls, they do hide in the closet for a while, and they'd be more likely to send you a gift than a straight guy would. Maybe you two should just stay friends for now, and get to know him a lot better. The more you know about him personally, the easier it will be to tell what his feelings are.
27706
If you like him enough and you're not morally opposed to premarital sex, go for it. Give him the best experience a 15 year-old's ever had!
971152
Don't look at from a point of view that you found out he is gay that is only going to confuse you more.  Look at the bigger picture he has lied, and has betrayed your trust.  I would at least talk to him some more see if he opens up, and if that fails miserably (which I am sure it will, but at least you tried) dump him.  No one should ever be lied to in a relationship no matter what the sexual prefrance.  When in a committed relationship it should mean that you are committed to that partner, and trust is the standard foundation when that is gone so is the relationship.
1117632
How long has he been your friend? I'm sure that if he hasn't tried anything with you yet, he won't. And since he's your friend, he probably knows that you are straight and won't try to put moves on you. It's not like he JUST turned gay, he's still your friend (I hope), accept him for who he is.
804077
I saw this guy on tv once and he was gorgeous and i thought he was so hot, but he was gay. If he's gay, you might not be able to turn him straight. He is in a relationship, but I guess if you want to try you can lol. But sometimes you can't change...
1186323
just because your enjoying another erogenous zone does not a gay make.  we as humans have such an amazing desire for feel good endorphine rushes.  what ever that may be does not always dictate straight or gay.  enjoy your body and your lover's.  and as the old school song says, if you can't be with the one you love, love the one your with.  we have different degrees for murder but not for love.  well except luv or heart loves.  by the way i met a straight guy when i was 18 who was a construction manly man and he was curious what a woman feels when he busts guts so he put a broom stick not the whole thing mind you up his "l'onion".  explore kids but don;t damage or abuse.
554547
The wife's instinct is closer to correct.  I married a man, who was and is a straight man, but wished to become a woman.  If/when he does that, he will be a lesbian--still attracted to women.
764519
haha hes probably gay.
187044
Sounds like he is gay and afraid to come out of the closet, sounds like he is using your sister as a mask, per say, to hide his true sexual orientation. Most non-gay men want sex all the time with women. Most are not virgins at 25. If he was not gay, he would not be "flattered" that gay men are looking at him like that. He would most likely be "disgusted" at it. He could be bi also that is always a possibility.
264591
Are you gay and looking to find out if he is too, or is he your boyfriend and your not sure. I need more details to work with... But my advice is not to worry about it. Just be supportive, and if he is gay he will tell you when the time is right.
1003331
no he is straight he was married but he got a divorce not cause he was gay but because they couldn't work things out
1116166
I'm not sure what you have to cope with; if he's bisexual, then he is.  You shouldn't treat him any differently than if he were heterosexual or homosexual.  Looking at it from the point of view of your interests, it seems to me you've got the best of both worlds if you can play your cards right: he can experiment with same-sex friendships when he's young (and thus you don't have to worry about an unwanted pregnancy) whereas he won't have totally cut off the idea of having a family and giving you grandkids later in life.
868596
First, do you think most people know that you are bi or gay?\nOf course not. So, the guys that you believe are straight, could very well be bi or gay. Keep your chin up!!!
381430
He's not married. And there's much speculation/controversy over his sexual orientation, but he maintains his heterosexuality.
719165
He has to be gay...Even a man who was straight who was just really cold, wouldn't turn down sex, or cuddling..i don't think..
565762
one of my cousins was the same way, and now he is straight, married, with kids and everything. I think he is too young so you can't tell, but if he happens to be gay or transgender he is going to need a lot of love and support.