Can't stay focused during sex?
831006
i don't know about "normal" but i'd say that is likely quite common.  i have had similar experiences of distraction or non-focus during sex but for me it's typically due to either:\n\na) we've been having high volumes of sex (3-8 times a day).  if this is the case i just try to refrain for a day or three and things are so much better -- i'm just auto-focused and needn't even have to try at that point.\n\nb) i am not totally into my partner, at least sexually.  even though i was into them as a person/loved them/loved being with them, i was not as sexually entertained as i could have been; say being with those people who always like to do it the same way every single time.  i think it was boredom in a manner of speaking and i just didn't want to admit it, so i went through the motions with a wandering mind.\n\ndon't know if either pertain to you or your situation but at least you'll know there are others who have focus-issues sometimes.
227769
go slow and be very gently with her...i have the same problem..me and my guy...he takes his time and loves on me when he inserts to help take my mind off the pain...don't be too anxious...slow is the key...
766906
yes performance anxiety can cause this.. you and her need to work together to delay ejaculation, many means available to do this.
1129925
Take it slow, soft, and gentle, you will have to stay on or around that special spot for quite some time. Also it helps if you go just a tiny bit off center because that spot sometimes gets too tender and it will make her jerk and move away. Ask her to guide you by the movement of her hips or her hands. Some women get very embarrassed having oral sex performed on them and can't let go and end up just giving up. It all takes, time, patients and understanding. Also it helps to be in a very dark room if she is insecure and or embarrassed. Hope I could be of help! Oh, one more hint: A lot of women will be right there, but then the person changes to another spot and the woman losses it ! You can do a lot of other things down there, in the beginning, but when it is time to bring her to orgasm, you must STAY on one spot till the job is done! Good Luck!        P.S. I was in the middle of typing you this answer, when you asked the next question, I am a slow typer!
958635
Masturbate before intercourse to last a bit longer...or....think of sports or a tv show while having sex...just dont tell your partner you are doing that.  Good luck!
732340
Winking during sex, but blinking during bad conversation.
430209
I've been there, so yeah. The problem I found wasn't that I enjoyed masterbation over sex, it was that I preferd masterbation to HER! The problem went away after she did.
180580
Try a cock ring or when you are a feeling that sinsation stop for a minute and start fourplay again.  Once the feeling slows down start again.  Also, exercise and eat right.  When your healthy so is your sex life.
102934
try changing position or rhythm or try to stop and do something to your partner.  i tried it several times and the next problem was my partner came first so try to come at the same time.
1036119
well try meditating or a cold shower or pick up a bible that should help if not go to a sex therapist.
436476
Hello..You need to relax and don't think about your erection..Have your partner rub your back,neck and shoulders.Have her rub slow and light and try to block every thing out of you head.Thing about how nice looking your partner is and how gentle she is.The key words is relax and block everything out and just enjoy your,your time with your partner.Remember to be gentle and not in a hurry,start out slow.If you do this,you should have no more problems...\n Clowmy
592669
...When I was with my boyfriend I'd play with my clit while we were in action. It took me 4 years to cum with him. Get totally immersed in what your doing. Body, mind, soul, with an environment to match your deepest fantacies. Maybe do a little yoga to get your mind off of every day life. Watch a porn before you go at it. Have a little chocolate or, better yet all three! If you're having sex just to get an orgasm, it won't come. A little trick I've learned... when he's on top of you, move your hips up and in towards him so he's totally inside you. Keep moving your hips wherever feels best, play with your clit while your at it, stare at his body and into his eyes and keep telling yourself how sexy he is and how much you want him. Use a vibrator while your at it. If all else fails, get a book to better educate yourself or even call a sex therapist. Life is too short to have limited O's.
1067179
Try keeping mobile phone in Vibrating mode in ur vagina when ever u feel like having SEX....... \n\n\nI think u need to wait till u get married or atleast have sex monthly once and then 3 months once and then U understand wht i am telling .....\n\nONE more impt thing is Stop thinking abt tht often ,,,,, U have lots of things in this world apart from tht,,,, Try visiting Blind school or ORPHANS school involve in helping them ,,, and divert ur mind for few days and every thing will go righttttt...
1023444
Trying to delay may lead to your inability to do it in a reasonable amount of time in the future! So watch out!\n\nInstead, you can stimulate her with your hand gently, then go for it and if she is not done by the time you are, move to oral right away and finish like this.\n\nYou can also try to continue right after you are done - don't stop (never do this if you use a condom) - your erection will not go away in many cases. And you can continue!!!
485723
You could try several things. You could try starting out with some oral sex like your partner giving you oral getting you very aroused but not getting off then lead on to intercourse that may help you climax during intercourse. try forplay getting realy worked up so climax will come quicker. Let your partner know what really turns you on and what works for you comunication helps and can double as foreplay. Good luck
500728
you probably have a lot of pressure built up-both sexually [which would make him finish faster], and emotional.  perhaps a bit of 'performance anxiety'.  the more you make a point of noticing it and wondering how to fix it, the worse it will get for him..and in turn, for you. try to slow things down, the pace, the strength you put in [or he], and try not to be in positions where he'd finish sooner coz the sensation is heightened [like doggy]. good luck
546330
I find it very...um, stimulating.  I hate it when my husband is quiet during sex, and studies show that women tend to be stimulated aurally while men are stimulated visually.  All women are different, though.  You should ask the girl you're with if that's something she might enjoy, and go from there...