Please answer brutally honest about this i need help !!!!?
821762
Everyone deserves a first chance. If he hasn't given you any reason to not trust him then give him the chance to prove himself.\nNot all us fella's are jerks. There are some pretty responsible& caring men out there .So if you think you've found one, take advantage of that. The best advice is to follow your heart. Let it be your guide. Your thoughts will only confuse you. You've obviously been through a lot so why put yourself through anymore. This could be your chance for a family of your own & a lifetime full of happiness. You will only get hurt if you allow yourself to be hurt again. Romance is an adventure. You ultimately decide how the story will end. Will it be a drama full of heartache & fear or a Fairytale full of answered dreams & eternal happiness? Based on that; the answer should be simple.\n\nGo ahead my Dear give him a chance so that you have a chance.....\n\nGood Luck.........
23429
Honestly & candidly. It might be a bit uncomfortable but it will be better to know now rather than later. Just keep telling yourself that I you will be fine. And always remember that, no matter what happens, if you are as up front & honest as possible, at least you can go away with knowing this. In other words, at least you were honest about your wants/wishes rather than playing games...\n\nGood luck!
1031676
Wow thats a tough one,  best might just to be totaly upfront and not beat around the bush (bad choice of words there) .   Just ask him.  makes me wonder how you are going to do it though,  like big stringe or what.......lot of emotional issues too.  any decent guy is going to have feelings about his child and that could be sticky.  Beings you have already picked him I'm sure he's a decent guy.  Best of luck to you.
805828
i'm basically an honest person myself, but get over it. if you don't like cheating, avoid it.  but some things are just not worth worrying about and feeling guilty about for too long. just reading your letter tells me that you must be a very honest person. and also very young and too idealistic. a mistake like that shouldn't make you hate yourself as much as you do. it also doesn't undo all the good things you've been and done in the past.  as long as you strive to be a better person, you should be okay. but you should also enjoy yourself more and loosen up.
1031622
NO!! girl, be happy ur man was honest enough to tell you the truth... most men would have said "don't worry bout it" or "she's my homegirl". this guy must really care for you if he didn't go thru with it, i mean seriously for a guy to back out of something like that takes alot of will-power and he even told you the truth. honestly, something like this shows me that not all men are the same and this guy really does love you, hold onto him...
507750
Just move out, did you consider doing so.  What you're about to do might seem nice and hot now, but will you be able to deal with this in the future??? Can you just think of how terrible the consequences might be?  Start thinking of it backwards, if you will be able to deal with this and the possible consequences of this than go right ahead, if not, I suggest you take a real action like moving out, we're all weak and if this is how you feel now than there is a big chance that you both might weaken again one day.
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Be honest because with your lack of honesty you are hurting bryce.. Talk to bryce even if you and joe don't get back together you need to heal from your past relationship cuz all you are going to do is carry your love for Joe to your next realtionship and you will never be happy. Give yourself time to heal. And talk to Joe maybe you gouys can work out the past!! But definetly talk to bryce, ASAP... \nBe honest
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Actually, i'd rather someone told me. So, what you are doing is simply trying to help me and you're also considering my goodness.. What's better than this? On the other side, yeah i may become a little bit angry with myself, saying like how can i forget or ignore this.. But, certainly i'd appreciate you then.. :) So, keep it up, be yourself and don't pay attention to their reactions at that time, i think...
211744
Real women respect honesty. I would just say it. The worse that could happen is that you stay friends. Be brave. Some of us ladies still appreciate a man who goes after what they want.
476873
well you know hes going to be hurt. honesty is the best policy. maybe bring up the fact that things are not working out, make him understand what the problem is and why is accuring. someones going to be hurt. its somthing that needs to be accepted.
446490
Just be straight with him.I've been in a similar situation before and my b/f was just happy that I was honest with him.He didn't get mad about the lie at all.Honesty is the best policy,no matter the consequences!
874756
good advice, my friend. i hope others read this and take heed.\nthanks.   BM
992590
I will tell you the truth.  First of all don't dare think about serios relationships-you are way too young.  Get your education, get in shape, have fun and see the world.  Don't worry so much about how people view you.  We are all judgemental and prejudiced whether we are honest enough to admit it or not.  We instantly judge people when we first meet them.  We size them up and categaorize them at first sight.  Personality has to work hard to overcome this initial impression.  And if we are not what the  other person currently believes is beautiful, it will never work.
1032800
I would not rush into anything that you are not comfortable with. If it doesn't feel right don't do it. Later you might change you mind. I wish you the best. Slow it down and think about it.
1099608
Has your man always been up front and honest with you?  What reason would he have for lying to you and keeping you hanging on?  How often do you talk?  My cousin is going through a similar problem (though not married) and I asked her what she would do to move on if he was lying - though with this particular guy it would be a shock.  She replied that she would go out with her friends and socializing soooooo. . . going out with friends and meeting new people is not cheating.  If you meet some other guy you like more in the process then it was meant to be.  \nIf this girl knew about you why would SHE still be with him?  Sounds like she may be trying to start problems so she can have a shot.  Then again, why is he friendly with this "crazy liar"?  You should know his nature well enough to answer these questions yourself, but I understand it never hurts to get a second opinion.  \nBest of luck with everything.
54925
Well for one thing be honest and upfront about it. Say something! I was in the same situation once before.  I just told them how I felt them and that made them feel comfortable enough to let me know that they were feeling the same. Just don't hide it.  I will come back to haunt in the future.  Believe me when I say it.
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You cant be honest with someone who cant be awake to what her actions have caused!!\n\nAll actions have consequences is one u can say!! She isnt a child, she needs to face up to what she has done.. you sugar coating it wont help hun!!\nA true friend will tell her how it is then be there for her regardless of how things go down!!\nFriends have to beable to be honest!! If she cant handle it then she is a bigger idiot than i first thought!~!\n\nGood luck!