Should I divorce my wife who has BPD(boarderline personality disorder)?
823307
Were you aware of her diagnosis before marrying her and were you educated? I work with chronic mentally ill people and believe you me I know what you are talking about. It takes a very strong person to deal with BPD.  I have never seen anyone with BPD get better with age. They just learn bigger and better ways of getting attention. Very hard to deal with especially when they are in the world of "ME" that is how I describe them. They are worse than any 12 year old.  I think it depends on how much you are willing to put into this marriage and if you have the strength. I have a friend who stayed in his marriage for 16 years (has 11 yr old daughter he has custody of now) and I watched him suffer dealing with her being hospitalized and she was really abusive. He thought he was obligated to take care of her, therefore, neglecting himself. He is now divorced from her and still at times keeps in touch just to be sure she is safe. She is doing fine. They know how to get their way. Anyway, it just depends on you and how strong you are. Are you willing to live this way the rest of your life? Good Luck to you and God Bless!!!
284627
Try counseling first if you want to stay together.  If she can't quit leave her unless you like it.
405024
Mmmmm Everyone has a right to be happy, if your not happy fix it.   Either Love her and leave her.  Or Get counseling if you feel its worth saving.   I guess it depends on how much you love her and how much you would do, to get things back the way they were.
978121
Looks like your trying to do what you can to make it work.  A relationship cannot work if only one person is trying.  Why don't you address her with your issues.  Tell her how you feel and what you want.  All the things that you put into the relationship your not getting out.  Communication is really the best thing you can do at this point.  Understand where you both are coming from.  You have to stand your ground.  If she still does not understand your concerns and thoughts let her know, it's either marriage counciling (or working things out on your own), or your gone.\n\nWell, I know leaving is very hard.  Just try to make it work.  If you love her and your kids, then staying with nothing changing can still be very heartbreaking.  Even if your at the bad end of this situation maybe take her to dinner for just the two of you and talk to her about it.  If you push it in her face with frustration she will push back with an "well I don't care" attitude.
200225
If you are considering another relationship with her then maybe marriage counselling would be a first step.  If you can get through that then I might consider trying again but obviously there were serious issues that warranted the divorce to begin with.
1077112
I have the same problems as a female I can tell you that she has emotional disturbances she has borderline personality disorder.and bipolor disorder to better understand the two you will need to do some research on them my husband has and our relationship and mine with his family is 100% better.
1036972
I would say come to terms with your wife, does she know that you feel this way? If so she probably isn't happy either.\nThe baby at this point is the most important thing. I am glad that you care enough to not just up and leave them. It will all work out better if you and your wife are happy, because then the child wont be raised in an unhappy home. Bottom line... Be happy :)
942323
Wow, I give you a lot of credit! I would have lost my patience a long time ago. I think before you look elsewhere for physical contact, suggest going to counseling with your wife. She obviously has some issues she needs to overcome and you should try to stick by her while she works them out. If she refuses to go to counseling, I would be very tempted to get out of the relationship rather than cheat which is only going to complicate things further. Good luck!
1000224
I'm going through the same thing.  Stay strong.  Stick with your gut feel.  She very well may be a sociopath but that's entirely up to her to get professional help.  My therapist outright told my wife to get help.  My wife insists there's nothing wrong with her.
1141747
This is a sign of a personality disorder called Borderline Personality.  There are tons of books about this.\nYou can't help her. She needs lots of professional help.\nGet a book on borderline personality disorder so you can understand it. Do a search on Amazon.com.
267749
It is not what you should do TO your wife. She has obviously a gambling addiction and needs Help - professional Help!! Divorce her if you can´t get over the trust issue, but be a friend and make sure she get´s help
922004
Therapy and medication if your therapist and you decide that is the route to go.  You are not alone in your diagnosis.  At least you know what the issue is, continue with therapy as long as you need to and don't feel bad for having BPD - it's nothing  you asked for, and nothing YOU can control.  God bless!!!!
1098499
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....
804171
Her issues are not your concern anymore.  U already made your choice, u gave your vows to someone else.  Concentrate on your marriage instead.
528477
you should not divorce her because she's gained weight.  she should divorce you because you've lost your mind.\n\nand then she should go have a coke & a smile with her friend at walmart....
926521
Will she go to counseling with you? She said her feelings have changed. Well, doesn't everyone's feeling change as we grow older? You don't still have the giddy feeling but still love your spouse. Maybe when you were a stay at home dad, she lost some respect and thought she was more important and found she can supposrt herself and really doesn't need anyone else. Before you give up, try counseling, with or without her. Maybe you will decide you can live without her too.
51802
especially when they refuse to get checked out for diagnosis- when they wont acknowledge that they have a problem.  They will tell you it is you thats got issues, instead of them.\n\nUmm are you married?  Maybe you are just in her face too much!?  Most likely she aint Bi-polar, shes just over you!