how do you tell your mate your having a affair with someone 15 years younger and that you are falling in love?
595026
Be honest and just come out with it. Why drag this out? This way he can move and find someone who loves him and won't be sleeping around on him. He deserves that much!!!!
1159852
Yes\n\n\n\nby the way it is illegal for an 18 year old to "be with" a 15 year old in a relationship....you really should find someone your own age.
680305
ther is no age i fell in love at 15 and i'm still with him now at 27
292287
There is no gentle way of dealing with this.  After 15 years of marriage to find out that you don't really know who your partner is is quite a shock.  Why get mattied in the first  place if you were not going to be honest with her.  15 years of her life for nothing.
1067483
If someone tells you they are falling for you it's a good thing - it means they are falling in love with you.  You didn't mention how old the child is - if the child is old enough to know that you are the girlfriend then he might just be waiting to introduce you to make sure it will work.  He may not want his child getting attatched to a girlfriend if he isn't sure you are going to be around for a while.\nYour best bet is to talk to him and tell him how you feel.  Ask him why you haven't met his child and tell him that you want to meet his child and get to know him/her.
648866
its illegal. and it raise questions whether or not she is taking advantage because according to the law(in most western countries-i don't know which one is yours)it would be a form of rape because your not old enough to make the decision (this is assuming your sleeping together). \n\n5 years difference isn't much really but it seems a great deal bigger at your age, if it was 30 and 35 no-one would think anything of it.\n\npersonally i think you should wait a couple of years so its not a kid with an adult. but its up to you if your responsible and obviously if your parents are fine with your relationship.\n\nif your going to see her make sure its a partnership and your comfortable with the what takes place in the relationship. there is nothing wrong with you not being ready for some of the things she is (i though i should say that just in case).\n\ni can understand your interest, it makes you look cool to your friends but its quite odd that a 20 year old is interested in a 15 year old child(no offence) and its bordering on paedophilia.\n\n\ni think the perfect age for a boys girlfriend is supposed to be something like half his age plus seven, so in theory your perfect girlfriend should be 14.5 years old.
176706
Ignore the entire thing. You can't talk about this to him unless he has directly confronted you with this, or things will be incredibly awkward.\n\nIf he DOES confront you, tell him that you're married (if you are) and that you think of your relationship as only a friendship and teacher-student relationship and also that there is too big an age difference for you to think romantically about him.\n\ngood luck.
1161371
15 years isn't that big a difference when you get older.  My wife is 11 years younger than me and we are a perfect match.  I'm sure the man would be happy about being liked by the woman provided the woman wasn't immature, which a 29 year old presumably would not be.
191529
I have a 15 year old son and believe me this is completely NORMAL!  Your not really falling in love darlin- its just your in LUST!  lol  Its completely natural for u to want and desire 20 different girls at the same time!  One will come along that stands out from the rest of them and its gonna hit u like a brick when u do fall in love!  YOU WILL KNOW when it happens!  Until then talk to all the girls, get to know them better, and by then you will know which one suits u best!  Good luck to u!
507037
Really?? Cause in another question of yours you say you are 27 and in love with a 15 year old!  Look, get your story straight and leave the little 15 year old girl alone!
1172566
lust get over it.\nfind someone your age
1175327
See sweety, the difference between you and the Dr. is way too much to have a kind of relation. I agree that the age doesent matter in such cases but what matters here is ur personal life.It is not going to be easy to be with a person who is twice your age and also manage to be social with your friends and your associates. You also havent mentioned about his life and his family. You just know him for a few months and you should not judge the person based on your association with him of a few months. You should give some time for this kind of advances and control yourself of giving off to his flirts. If it is limited to flirts thats ok but for other advances u need to think it over and give some time..........\nAll the best to you
702132
Well I can tell you really like him by just listening to you babble on about how your suppost to tell him... lol. If I was you I would find an easy way of just letting him know your interested in him. you don't want to come out and say I have had feelings for you for years. That makes him believe you want a relationship and since thats not what your after now. Just try maybe bring up a past relationship of his or yours and when your discussing it and what went wrong in it. (works really good if its his old relationship your talking about) Just kind of casually drop in there "If I was her I wouldn't have done you that way" or something like " I know how great of a guy you are and I would have felt blessed to have you" things like that let him know that you see him for something more than a friend. if our talking about your old relationships then something like "I wish he would have been more like you" or something. you get the idea. little hints to let him know you could like him as more. and if the conversation doesn't get to ackward then try saying I wish we could get to know each other better we might find we could be more than what we are. and then go on about your visit and let in sink in his brain. Sometimes with guys just a suttle hint is like a bomb. just be cool relax and enjoy your time with him. and by the way I like the idea of a walk when your talking about it, gives your privacy and relaxes you both. Good Luck
28267
If you're both single, then go for it... \n\nAltho to save you from disappointment, go in with realistic expectations (people change a lot in 15 years - sometimes not for the better).. If they are cooler than your expectations, great... If not, you wont be "too" disappointed..
551535
- try to find a more mature guy...\n\n- when person a accuses person b of having an affair, there's a good chance that person a is having an affair, regardless of whether person b is or not.\n\n- you need to be more careful with birth control if you and the person you're with have not made a conscious decision that you want to have a child together.\n\n- maybe he was trying to escape responsibility for the coming baby when you were pregnant... which means he's immature.\n\n- but regardless of who's zooming who, or who did what when... you need to straighten this kind of stuff out before you start having children.
243870
If you truly love this guy and you think that you and he could work out for real, I would tell him how you feel. Telling him will make you feel better, and leave him to make the decision. \n\nPlus, you don't want to look back 5 years from now, see him married to this girl, and regret never telling him, do you?
948540
Talk this thing out.  Set some ground rules if you want to establish another relationship.  I stongly recommend that you look for a relationship and not just sex, not just friends with benefits either though it may start out that way.  To the extent that she is comfortable with knowing, let her know exactly what your doing, who your seeing and how much you like this person.   A long term committed loving relationship is not out of the question.  Let the other person know that your wife is part of your life and that will never, never change, no matter how involved you become with her.  \n\nIf you exclude your wife from knowing this other woman, knowing what your doing (and I don't mean all the sexual details) and when, giving your wife an opportunity to know her (her choice to act on it) then your marriage will fail and badly.\n\nHonesty, which it seems that you have with your wife, is key.  \n\nWhat you should be looking for is some form of polyamory.\n\nI have much (though not in every way) the same situation here for the past 15 years and my marriage is wonderful.  But it takes work and honesty.\n\nIf you'd like to learn more about this you can find out more information at:\n\nhttp://www.polyamorysociety.org/\n\nor you can email me.  I have an email link in my Answer profile.