how can i help my best friend from her positive discrimination and positive raccism towards moslims?
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Let her come to Cairo and see for herself how things are, sometimes things sound better than the actual thing. She has the right to choose but only after seeing the true side of things. If she insists then she's free to do what she wants.\nI am a Muslim Egyptian, but it seems to me from what you said that her ideas do not have the correct foundations.
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try and be subtle and not hurt her feelings when you talk to her about it, the last thing you want to do is ruin your friendship with her.\nif she is a true friend she might listen to you, but i really do feel that all you can do is tell her gently how you feel, and if she choses to do nothing about it, then all you can do is sit back and wait until she comes to you for help.\n\ngood luck with it
900754
Well think of it this way.  Do what you would want someone to do for you if the roles were reversed.  Racism is still alive and well and the only way to put an end to it is to expose those ignorant people who are still active participants.  I would expose her.  You have to stand up for something or you will fall for anything.
235424
tell her it is personal and its for no one to read. just say please do not read my diary I'm not comfortable with anyone reading it. if she is your best friend she will understand
378033
If she has been your best friend for a long time, I would encourage you to not make a hasty decision. You can find friends (and even boyfriends) anywhere, but best friends take years to grow. You should do your best to save this friendship before calling it quits.\n\nMy advice is talk to her before you take the final step of "de-friending" her. Explain to her that you've valued her friendship, but that her current behavior isn't excusable. Confront her about her rudeness, and don't be afraid to name specific times and places where she acted like a bee-yotch. She apparently USED to act nice, because otherwise you never would have been friends with her. Remind her of those days. Finally, tell her (in very clear terms) that if she doesn't start acting right, you want nothing to do with her.\n\nThis puts all of the pressure on her, see? If she changes her evil ways, then you've kept your best friend and are better off than before. If she doesn't, at least it isn't your fault that the friendship ended. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully your friend will see the light, but if not... at least the blame will be on her head, not yours.
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You have to make sure that they know you are there for them and you need to let them know that it's not an ok thing to do. Convince them that they need to stop and get help. You have to be there for them and support them in everything. Anything else? e-mail me at mowel3point@yahoo.com!
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listen, sometimes the best friend is the one who is your complete opposite. they might know exactly what you feel like even though they haven't had your experiences. just keep your eyes open everywhere, and don't ignore them because they're not christian, or because they weren't gay once.
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If she is your best friend then she should understand. You know you can't make someone like you and you know you mustn't live your life according to someone else's ideas or wants. It is normal that she might hate you or feel jealous. Guess what it ain't your fault. SO TELL HIM!!!
745768
Your friend just creates negativity in your life, you've done your part and she will never change her mind.  You should leave her alone and make friends with more intelligent people.
188058
Tell your friend that she deserves someone better than him. Tell her that you'll be there to support her no matter what, but that she can do way better than him. and mean it. She'll see that he's an ass eventually if you support her.
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Well I think that you can help her a lot by being a friend and being accepting of her no matter how she reacts. I think that it is a big deal to her, although you might be correct that it won't be as much of an issue for others. But, its sometimes difficult to convince others about this.\n\nThere are a couple of other things you can do to be helpful. Talk with your school counselor to see if your school counselor has any ideas of how to help her.\n\nSuggest that she join a support group for people with vascular anomolies. If there isn't a local group there are online support groups for persons with port wine birthmarks. See the information below:\n\nhttp://www.birthmark.org/port_wine_stains.php\n\nMore information from:\nNational Congenital Port-Wine Stain Foundation, 125 East 63rd Street, New York, NY 10021
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I have a similar situation. I think you are doing the right thing so far.\nI suggest that you pray (don't underestimate the power of prayer) and that you ask God to show you how to show this person His love.\nI am finding it helpful to keep open non-threatening discussion about both of our beliefs (she used to think all Christians were unreasonable and couldn't think for themselves). And I am trying to show her (through actions, more than words) the positive effect God has on my life - like how I treat people, and that I can rely on God.\nI really hope that you can get some where with your friend. I'll pray for you, and your friend. God Bless.
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It sounds like your friend is absent minded like mine is... Don't sweat it when she claims an answer you gave her a long time ago. Just remember that you are the one that told her in the first place and be happy she remembered it. Or, if you can't handle being a mentor, simply stop telling her anything. But I hardly believe you would do that since you Are friends.
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Racism shows ignorance, and total lack of respect! Unfortunately our wonderful country is full of MORONS! I'm sorry that your friend is making you uncomfortable, tell him that you would like to continue being friends but that the racial jokes are making you believe that he still has racial issues (either that or make some jokes about his race). Most of my friends are Hispanic (I'm Anglo) we all joke around, (but we know that it's just joking and we don't make each other feel out of place. If he is a true friend, he will understand your feelings and respect your wishes. Good Luck.
1113769
People always have some kind of situation like this.  Well I don't understand why your mother and brother would insult her in any way, but that is something that a best friend would not want to here from their best friend's family.  If it hurts you that you feel as if your best friend is not considering you their best friend anymore, speak to them and tell them the complete truth.  Hang around other friends too, and try to get close to them also.  As time goes by people change, but you can't make another person feel the way you do.
280868
You can only tell her that you think it's wrong and just stay away. The things that you say she's going to do are dangerous not just for herself but for you as well. Let her make her own mistakes and be there for her when she realizes it's a mistake. Just remember you can't change people and if she pushes you to join her in a shoplift or drug related activity you can get into just as much trouble as she could and that she's not being a true friend. You're a good person to worry about your friend the way you do unfortunatley she's going to have to figure this out for herself. You've already told her how you feel and that's all you can do.
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Just be silent and find out what they are all about.  Just listen.  If you truly want to be their friend, you will not impose your ideas upon them if they don't want to accept them.  You will just have to leave it at that, let go and let God.