Why doesn't my husband pay any attention to me?
607701
Sounds as if you are a neglected house wife.
87990
I'm not really sure what your question is, but I'll take a stab.  Based upon the limited information you provided, he could be just looking because you're a person and he notices you (like when I walk down the hall at my job and tend to look inside the offices whose lights are on and which are inhabited--it means nothing).  If your cubicle faces the door, does he have a choice about whether to look at you or not?  It would seem not.\nBy the way, if you can possibly avoid it, do not become involved with someone else's husband.  You are bound to create for yourself, his wife, and his children a word of pain which could take a lifetime to overcome--for all of you. Sorry to preach, but this is an important topic.  \n\nGood luck to you.
460197
I think that you should talk to him and ask him what is bothering him?. How long has he been accusing you of this?. Did something happen lately that made him start acting like that?. How long have you been married?. The first year it the toughest so hang in there and just try to be open and honest with him. communication is very important, i have been married for almost 19 years and i can tell you communication is very important
725336
honey, if your having a hard time keeping your man's attention then you need to find a new man that is more interested in YOU.  but  while your still out with your man and you notice him paying more attention to the 'scenery' than you... you should look around yourself and as soon as you see someone else that looks good, keep your eyes on him even if your man starts to talk to you.. show him what it feels like not to have all of your undivided attention! ;)
284281
I can totally understand how you must be feeling. Like you, i would definetly drop a few hints here and there.. but it seems he isnt responding, so that leaves to no choice but to leave it alone. Early April, i would present it to him again,in the most straightforward of ways and we would HAVE to at the very least, talk about why he isnt talking about any of it.\nBest wishes for you.
669455
Paying attention to another person is a lot more like work than reading the paper or watching TV. Be aware that someone's attention is a gift, not an entitlement. If there is something specific that needs his attention, then ask him what would be a convenient time for him to attend to it. \n\nYou don't have anything particular in mind, you just think that he should be more interested in you than in the newspaper? My ex-husband thought the same way. If I tried to read a book or practice at the piano or just sit and look out the window, he constantly interrupted. He was jealous of any interest I might have that didn't include him. The keyword here is "ex". Think about it.
77047
He's probably just really tired. Not that I can quite compare with my boyfriend to a husband, but I kinda, well, "bullied" him into it (ok maybe bullied isn't the right word... persuaded?) after awhile things started to go downhill. It caused a tear in our relationship, a big tear. (which is now fixed...) My suggestion would be to maybe go to an adult store for some purchases to relieve the itch. And maybe set up for a romantic night with your husband with warming aromatic oils to give him a body massage, make him a nice dinner beforehand, fix his favorite meal, romance him up and maybe he'll open up a little more. Also consider sitting down to a chat later on. Good luck and I hope all goes well for you!
1102718
You know what, he's probably seeing someone else. Maybe thats why he has not been paying any attention to you. Just sit with him and talk to him, if that don't work, then just tell him that you love him all your heart and give him the best moment he ever had.
826608
Honesty is the BEST policy...\n\nTalk to him about what's bothering you...otherwise...what is he suppose to do? He can't read your mind. \n\nMy husband works his butt off too and comes home, showers, eats and sleeps...gets up the next day, goes to work, comes home, showers, eats and sleeps...and so on.\n\nI feel the same way you do at times, but we need to understand, (which we both do) that he is tired and drained.  This does NOT interpret that he does not love you or find you unattractive...he's just tired.\n\nTry scheduling something for you and him on his day(s) off something special to do...don't wait for him...just do it.\n\nPray for courage and uplifting...\nTry to get some sleep... :)
778157
I would really keep an eye on this ~ Sometimes men feel rejected or left out when there are small children around (and especially when there is a newborn or one on the way) ~ My husband did things like this and I ended up just having to talk to him about it and letting him know that it is not OK.  If you have an issue with it, he should stop doing whatever it is that upsets you.  His first priority is YOU and his children and NOT his first wife.  For him to not tell you until days later is selfish and also shows that he is trying to hide it from you.  My question would be to ask yourself, what else is he hiding?  My husband on the other hand does not do this anymore because I had to keep reminding him that his first priority must be me and the children or else he can just leave.. .Our children are more grown up and independent now, however,  If we didn't have our kids to argue about, we wouldn't argue about anything.  ~ It just takes time and alot of adjustment.  We have been married for 9 years.
668756
Why are you continuing to put up with this? You asked him to do something to save your marriage, and he can't even do that?! Your marriage needs help. You need a counselor to talk about this, because obviously your husband has no concern for your feelings, by flirting and lying to you. He may even be cheating. Don't put up with this another minute! He's treating you like dirt. You deserve so much better.
1037266
Look for uncommon distance.. shrugging you off on things that use to be personal is a good way to tell that there is a problem.. If all else fails snoop around a little....but i would suggest to be pretty sure something is going on before you resort to that... cause it could cause more problems than good....really just pay attention to little things...especially eye contact if you ask him about it... i have found that most ppl cant look you in the eye when they lie to you!  good luck!
388161
I wish I could tell you how to get him to listen.  He sounds like my late husband.  We were married for 40 years and he never really listened to me.  Once we were at a marriage counselor and I talked for about 5 minutes about how my husband didn't listen to me.  Then the counselor looked at my husband and said "what do you have to say about that"  and my husband responded "I wasn't listening"\nso going to a marriage counselor doesn't always work either.\n\nIn the end I began to think that my husband was frustrated by other people in his life and took it out on me.  He couldn't ignore his boss.  He couldn't tell his co-workers that they didn't know what they were talking about so he came home and did it to me.\n\nThe really bad part is that I came to believe that I was stupid and incompetent.  I put too much value in the way that he treated me. \n\nI took course on how to communicate.  I was told that I shouldn't say you did whatever but I should say I feel whatever.  He turned this against me and told me I was self-centered and I believed him.\n\nSo I can't tell you how to make him listen or how to communicate with him, but I can tell you that you must guard against feeling that something is wrong with you.
684224
Well. there could be such much involved here. Like how has your marriage been going? I mean somewhere down the line something had to have happen.. It just doesn't stop. If you had a little more details I could help a little more. So I will do my best. First off, do you often spend time alone? That is important in a marriage where you two have time to go out on dates. Sometimes it takes you two to get out of your settings and do something different together. On the other hand how do you honestly feel about it. Are you making any efforts to be spontaneous with him? Is he just slowing drifting away. If that is the case maybe he could be hiding something that you don't know about. One thing for sure to do is pray to God to give you the answers you seek. There are just so many varibles that can play into all this...\n\nSorry that I could not be of more help..\n\nAmen and God bless...
1180231
They are saying you don`t matter enough to me to be kind and understanding!There is a possibility your husband is mad about something you don`t even know happened and needs to discuss it with you in a reasonable kind fashion.Also at certain ages some men louse sexual drive,he may be embarrassed and is hiding it with avoidance and anger.I would lean towards keeping a close eye on his activities and try to find out what he is so interested in other than his hot wife.There are some real weird people out there and it is amassing how well they can hide there deviant behavior.An acquaintance of mine, husband,liked little girls and left her alone one to many times and she found out.Here is a good rule for married people,if you can`t show your spouse what you are doing on your computer you most likely should`nt be doing it.Get some help ask a counselor in the mental health dept.of a clinic or hospital. Do it,DO IT NOW!
912839
Hopefully your husband wants your help and isn't putting out signals to attract this type of attention.  That's another whole problem altogether.\n\nBut what I would do if this is just some ordinary floozy putting the moves on your guy--and I've seen this done very well--is to go up to them and join the conversation with the attitude conveying complete confidence that you are welcome in the conversation.  HE will welcome you, right, even if she won't?  Maybe put your arm around your husband.  If he becomes standoffish, again, that's a problem; he needs to welcome you into the conversation.\n\nThen be sweet as pie to her.  Ask her about herself.  Take an interest.  Never betray that you are anything but completely assured of your wonderful relationship with your husband.  Ideally, bore her with prattle until she leaves on her own (getting her to excuse herself from you two is the best way, it's a much stronger position than walking away).  It doesn't matter if she's interested in you, believe me, in fact, use the fact that she isn't!  Then stay nearby your husband in case she comes back.  If you can't bore her to death, you and hubby will have to excuse yourself from her company and move on.  \n\nIf she gets too pushy or nasty to you personally, say something very pointed in a very nice tone (like "peddle your wares to someone who's interested, honey").  But never, NEVER get bitchy.  It's beneath you.
1171044
no my husband is definitely not my best friend.he is though very loving  but he considers everything  in utilization of time. he cant waste his single minute on silly talks  or talks which can not provide him any knowledge.he spends his every minute productively  and so i have made few chatter friends  n they have really proved helpful in my solitude