My husband and I have been separated for the past six years. How can I divorce him even if he is not ready?
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How can he not be ready? You've been separated for 6 years.\n\n Is he afraid of what he will lose financially if he makes good money. He may think it's cheaper for him to stay married to you. \n\nIf you go to the clerks office, you should be able to file yourself and have no representation. It'll only cost you court cost. It's a basic format and very self explanatory. Mine was only $135. Worth checking into.
146154
pack your stuff and leave while he is gone. leave a note or what ever you like. file for divorce and a TRO at teh same time
326328
Get in contact with a lawyer, have them advertise in the paper in the Legal section (like 30 or 90 days) they will tell you, if your husband doesnt respond or put up a fight you will automatically be granted your divorce.
279382
hmmm.....if u still love him, try to work things out. if things dont work out, divorce! if you dont love him anymore, then still divorce!
386154
Have you talked to him about reconciliation through some type of therapy through your church. I have been divorced, and would have preferred reconciliation, but never even talked about it to my ex-wife. She pursued the divorce at first, and I never fought at all, what a mistake. He might have lost that loving feeling, but that is part of life. It will return, given time. and it will be better than before.
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If after 6 years he won't man up. He isn't going to do it. Unless you are really young (less that 25) then you may have to pray he matures without growing apart from you. I rarely see these things work out. In fact, my wife came from that situation and she is still bothered she didn't walk away sooner.
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1. Be completely divorced.\n\n2. Get married.
912603
If you are convinced there is mutual desire to get back together, discuss how you should do this with him. The two of you should avoid getting entangled in each other's divorces, though you can talk about it. In the meantime, there should be low-intensity contact between the two of you. Now that you boith have had experience in marriage, you wonna ask yourselves very honestly what is it that you would like from each other once you are both free. Be prepared to be as frank as possible so that you do not get hurt again, certainly not in the near future.
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I think "trial separations" are another way to say "I don't want to break your heart all ant once and get it over with, I want to drag it out for months, maybe even years". Time apart means less time for communication, which means more misunderstandings and more hard feelings.\n\nThe only way you are going to make your marriage work again is by making time for each other, talking about the issues and working thigs out together.  Find a good marriage counselor. If either of you are not serious about it, though, don't drag it out, just get it over with. \n\nIf I may suggest, if you have the money, one of you move out and plant to "date" each other again. Go steady for a few months, find the spark again. But don't "separate" it is just a preparation for "divorce".
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It's possible, but unlikely.  He is not divorced til those papers are signed, sealed and delivered.  He's been lazy in finding out.  If he has no paperwork, he doesn't care whether he's divorced or not.  Or, he's just lazy.  If he's truly serious about you, he should make sure his divorce is final.  If you have to drive him to the courthouse yourself.\nI was not in a hurry to get the paperwork done, until I knew I was ready to remarry.  Well, that time came and I went to the nearest paralegal and had them get it done in time.  To make sure, I filed them myself.\n\nI hope everything works out for you.
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Why cant you contest the divorce. Go see the judge and tell him you do not want this to take place. Dont sign the papers be tough.
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Oh course you have to wait. He's getting divorce and doens't matter how bad things were in his marriage, getting divorce is never easy. Let him feel free again. Let him enjoy himself. Give him time. I don't think he's ready for another relationship
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You won't convince him ,all you can do is file for divorce and let your lawyer know that he won't believe it's over ,once the divorce is in pipe line then aqnd only then mite he accept it really is over,i would suggest you keep contact to a minimum that way he will start to get the idea you ae not coming back,if you have been in contact on a regular basis he may feel he still stands a chance but you can't turn the clock back and if you don't love him you will only be even more unhappy if you return out of guilt because he is miserable without you,GOOD LUCK
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file for divorce and have it get served to him. the courts might make you perticipate in marriage counselling if you don't have good cause
72555
If you need to ask this question then clearly there are some warning signs. How long have you known this guy? Did you date him while going through your separation and divorce or did you recently meet him?\n\nHow long were you separated? Did you have any down time for healing and self exploration? Have you resolved those issues within yourself that brought division into your marriage?\n\nYou do know that you contributed in some way to the downfall. No one is exempt.\n\nYou need to take your time. Look and listen for warning signals. Write down the pros and cons of the relationship.\n\nHow is he around others? Your family and friends, his family and friends? What about when you disagree? Is he disrespectful? Does he shut you off? Does he allow you to express yourself?\n\nThese things are important. Don't glamorize him. Take it just as it is. You also need to consider children. His and yours if there are any. How does he treat them? Yours and his. \n\nIs he selfish? Does he provide for you? Do you fear him or are you your true self? How about religious beliefs. Do you believe the same or are you unequally yoked?
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Divorce can be the solution \nbut are u sure that u don't love u husband and  do u have children ?... because children will suffer in all that
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"I have developed a safety plan for the kids in case he really loses" ...\n\nIn my opinion, the fact that you make this statement indicates you feel the need to give forethought to the possibility of domestic violence. If this were just about you and your husband I would say one thing but it's not. That being the case coupled with your concerns of his reactions then I would suggest leaving based on a trial separation. While you may find this an inconvenience for you and the children to leave your home, the fact is you're making the decision to end the marriage so you will have to be willing to accept some initial inconvenience for the sake of the children and to promote less conflict through the divorce process.\n\nBy filing for legal separation you can request a Temporary Restraining order (not a Protective Order), put some initial space between you to provide a 'cooling off' period on his part. I would suggest allowing this 'cooling off' period some amount of time before actually petitioning the courts for the final divorce. While this process will take more time and some additional costs it will also allow time for some acceptance of the situation on his part and, in my opinion, ultimately decrease his animosities over the break up by giving him time to let it all sink in.\n\nBest Wishes & Good Luck!!