I found out my boyfriend has a wife / kids. HOw can I get him cought without him knowing it was me?
611092
Tell the wife everything. Be prepared for her to hate you. Let her know about the kid, how you found out about her and when, and how long you've been with him. If she wants to, then the two of you should confront him together and see what he says. I don't know how you didn't know this when you've been with him for three years, but that's not the point. It doesn't matter if he knows it's you. He SHOULD know it was you who told. he had no right to play you the way he did. You never signed up to be the other woman or a homewrecker.
255547
install a keylogger /spy  on his computer, on that does not show up in taskmanger, one that sned te dat remotely is also good ( so you can retrieve from email from another computer ),\n\nspying on husband is not illegal ( in the context of marriage, a spouse cannot expect privacy from another )\n\nhttp://www.waresight.com/\n\nhttp://www.keylogger.net/
997901
Have him buy you stuff. If not tell him you will tell his wife and others. He is the one that has things to lose not you.\n\nHave fun.
1020942
I'd tell him I like him then ask how his wife is.  Seriously though, ask him why he's lying about himself on the internet.  Saying he is married and looking is not going to get him anywhere.  Or hey it could have been a mistake!
133432
This is an easy one. Tell your boyfriend, "I don't trust you and I'd like to have control over things you do. Therefore, give me your password so I can watch your every move while on line."
494992
We don't have cell phones, but I check his mail. It is not to be nosy, I just take care of all things financial. Now.... once there was this letter in a chick's handwriting when we were first married, no return address... Oh yeah I opened it, I was so angry. Turned out to be a thank you card from his friend's wife for being the best man in their wedding, he never got that card. I didn't want him to know that I snooped that much. That being said personal should be just that, personal and private, but sometimes you just can't resist the urge.
929725
I think you may have left something out, here...\n\nUnless you're really shallow, you won't dump him just because he had a child with someone else before he met you.  Now, if he lied to you about the kid or the baby's mother, that's something different!\n\nMake sure that whatever decision you make is based on HIM and your relationship with HIM, not on the simple fact that a baby is now also involved.
570283
dont feel guilty.\nits none of their monkey business\nface this one of a kind challenge in your life\nlet the people know how much you love your boyfriend\ndefend your relationship.
876303
I know how you feel. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months because of ex. problems. However, you are married and don't let these two that apparently do not have a life of their own ruin this for you.\nThey are looking to create trouble, see what kind of reaction they can get and if you give it them, it will continue. The best thing is to totally ignore it. When someone approaches you with a rumor, tell them , that subject is no longer open for discussion. Don't feed into this B.S. Good luck
654376
I know it is not right what he is doing and what he did to you is not right.  But, it is his life and how he lives his life, is up to him.  If you want to, for kicks and giggles, write to his ladies, I would let them know, but, there is a possibility that he may be able to track you down, somehow.  Be careful.  Truthfully, I would just mind my own business and forget he even existed.
625729
Best advice...STAY AWAY! Think about it..he has a child with another woman (or girl) and yet he's trying to get into your pants. Ya think that once he gets what he's looking for..that he'll stick around..or will he look for another conquest? For your own sanity and well being...STAY AWAY!
1083148
There's your sign. Leave him now. You r the adult and your children need to be able to depend on you to make the right decision for your sake and for  theirs. I may be wrong but I would be willing to bet that he cheated on his previous girlfriend with you. Believe me it won't get any better. Good Luck!\nT
170032
Maybe he gave them to you so you COULD snoop to know he's not messing around. \n\nMaybe he did it to throw you off and he has a whole other screen name he uses for the things he doesn't want you to find. \n\nMaybe he did it in hopes you would give him your passwords. \n\nEither way, you trust him or you don't. If you deep down honestly truely did, you wouldn't snoop. You'd forget every password you have of his and go on about your own business. If you have even a little doubt in your head, maybe you should rethink the relationship. He obviously trusts you enough to give you that kind of personal info probably hoping you'd never have to stoop so low you'd spy on him.
914810
i have a girlfriend? boy! my boyfriends goingto get mad when he finds this out..
711965
The only way to access the account is by having the password. There are some keyloggers (software that store everything an user types into a computer) but I won't talk about them.\n\nI guess I can't tell you what is the best option for you, but I know for a thing that trust is something you earn over time. As far as I know, accessing someone's account without permission or knowledge is not something that generates trust.\n\nSure, you can always think "he/she won't let me access his/her account, so he/she MUST BE HIDING SOMETHING!". Well, I belive that is not always the case. I believe that things like privacy and "personal space" are extremely important in a relationship. So, if you do things like accessing one's account without knowledge, you might risk the future of the relationship.\n\nIf you really need peace of mind, talk to your fiance. Open your mind, be honest and talk about your worries (that you are worried that he is cheating on you). Also, talk to your and his friends. You might be surprised by the results.
33166
Run over them with your car and then ask if there is anyone you could contact for them while they are on their way to the hospital.  Nah, too extreme.\nHow about hire a Private eye to trail him for perhaps two weeks and then wait for the report.  If he has a girlfriend, surely he would see her in two weeks?  You might even get pictures!  Nah, too expensive.\nOkay, you could trail him.  Skipping your job or school and personally see if he is seeing anyone.  Nope, too nosey.\nHow about asking?  How about starting a conversation with: "I've noticed you..."  How about bumping into him accidently on purpose and starting a conversation?  I doubt that dropping a hanky would work, but who knows?
953176
I know it's very hard, but you have to distance yourself from him. He's married, you're with someone...just picture his wife and how she would feel, and how you would feel if someone did that to you.