WHAT is GOOD and WHAT is EVIL if your best friend’s wife is SUPER HOT?
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good is....she is eye candy...can't beat that\nevil is....telling your wife she is eye candy....you CAN get beat for that
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I'd take it as a compliment.  It's only creepy if she goes after you.  I'm sure she didn't consciously pick this woman because of her similarity to you.  The fact that she is interested in someone like you should just show you how much she thinks of you.  My best friend married someone who's personality is just like mine and they've been together for 13 years. The only difference between your situation and mine is that my friend's husband is different from me in one way, and that's gender.Don't look too much into it...just be happy for her and hope things work out!
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Don't it is not your place.  That priviledge belongs to her husband.  You can however, get some concrete proof, pull him aside and let him know you know and that he needs to do what is right.  Guilt will play the biggest role, next to fear you will say something.  \nThis is between two married people, not three.  Of course your going to say , "there is three", but not in their marriage.  This is something that  they have to work out between them.  \nThe best role you can be is when he does tell her, and she needs a shoulder it should be you.  You should not let her know that you know, at least not until the two of them handle this in whatever way they need to.  \nIt is going to be very difficult for her and hard for you to remain silent with the information that you have.  \nPeople cheat for many reasons and the reason they cheat has many sides, or variables.  One thing that remains a constant with infidelity in a marriage:\nTwo people make it, two people break it.\nSomething is lacking in their relationship from both sides and in order for them to find out what that is and make a decision to work on it or not, they both have to acknowledge responsibility for the good and the bad.  \nStay out of this, be there for your friend when she needs you.  \nI assure you, once he knows that you have evidence and that you, as her friend know about the affair, he will come clean.  That doesn't mean the marriage is over, or will recover, but it will certainly allow them the chance to fix whatever is wrong between them. \nYou may be a "best friend" but you do not share "pillow talk" and you certainly are not priviy to their personal intimate conversations that husbands and wives have.  \nDo the right thing stay out of this.\nAs with Bill and Hillary Clinton, this is a maritial problem, not for the cover of your local gossip column.  \nIf they love each other enough, things will work out for the best, no matter what that turns out to be.
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I married my best guy friend and we were married for 8 years.  We had EVERYTHING in common.  Same taste in movies, t.v. shows, food, friends.  Only one problem, no sex.  We never had the chemistry that you can only have with true love.  We were always just best friends.  He never treated me poorly and we got along great and everyone thought we were the perfect couple.\nWe finally parted ways and are still very good friends.  I am re-married and he is engaged and both realize what we had was never really a marriage.  We got married for the wrong reasons.  I mean it's great to be with someone you get along with, but if there's no spark it's not going to work.  You will both be unhappy and always wanting more.  I am with a guy now who I enjoy being around and that challenges me.  We don't have the same interests, hobbies and friends but I am happier than I ever was in my first marriage because I am truly in love with him.  Sure I love my ex husband and always will but it's more like brotherly love than anything.  Hope this helps!!
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these things have a way of working out. trust me. Its possible to still be best friends with everyone and still be attracted to one of them. Your other friend is just going to have to accept that PEOPLE fall in love with each other especially if they r close. That means if she is your really your friend u r going to have to tell her what's happening she deserves it. maybe you're going to have to make some "rules" for all this to happen. just remember theres nothing wrong with love
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You should read my answer to your question about what happens when your best friend gets married? Like I said, it depends on if your friend is the same gender as you. My guess, and this is a guess, that you are a guy who had a best friend who is a girl and she got married. If I am correct than you need to read my answer. Again, the only relationship that outways a best friend is the romantic love relationship. If she married someone you must let her go. She must not have thought of you as her best friend, or if you were best friends, she is too blind to make the best choice and she settled for less than you. If she thinks that you will still be best friends she is mistaken. Don't let her blame you. It's not a choice, it's human nature. Go online and research friendship, love and value exchange. Human nature dictates what I am telling you. I don't even know if what I am telling you applies to your situation as you only referred to friendship. It is important to distinguish the gender of the friend you speak of and the extent of your friendship and if the friendship was a mutually fair exchange of objective values.
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Well the perfect wife for me is someone that I consider my best friends. One that can take a joke without taking it seriously. One that I can vent with in bad times and one that will be the number one person I will call when I have excited about something. One that shares great communication good/bad with me. One that loved to be passionate and affectionate with me. This one sounds lame, but I love it... One that ask's me to go to another room while she gets dressed to go out with me (asthough I am picking her up, but I am just in the next room) because her being all the above things just makes her beautiful to me enough but seeing her open like the bedroom door knowing she got all ready for me is the ultimate. She has to get along and be well loved by everyone including my friends and not bad mouth beautiful women. Men hate that!
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life is good but with a good wife you can have a good life and with the bad wife you can have bad life,so its not your life that is good or bad its the people around you which make your life enjoyable or not!\n\narminnourbaksh@yahoo.co.uk
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I hear you. We have just been discussing this, but its crazy cause you dont want to be the bearer of bad news, but then again what kind of friend would just allow their friend to be hurt (no matter how). You say this guy is your friend, well, your a man, lift your chest up and confront him. If he doesn't come clean to his wife, you could always give him the ultimatum  that if he doesn't you will.  It will hurt her, yes it will whoever tells her, but truth hurts sometimes...\n\nIt is also very true that other people's love life, you most stay, way out of. So, I cant tell you what to decide...\nbest wishes
642194
well maybe that is why she didn't tell you. She knows you enough to know that you wouldn't approve. But if she was truly your bestfriend it seems like she would tell you everything. Maybe your husband is her bestfriend.
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My wife is my best friend, the coolest person I know.\nWe talk, we hold hands. We love. We both have two children from previous relationships, I love the way the kids smile when they catch us kissing or chasing each other around the house and pinching bums.\nWe are a team, we both do laundry, we both cook, we both care for our kids.\nI love her every moment.
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There is a very broad range of friendships.  Some people are friends just on the surface.  You don't really know them deep down, or what their favorite ice cream is, or even their last name.. but when you see them at the grocery store you stop and say hi and ask how they're doing.\n\nAnother type of friend is one that's in the same circle as your friends but you're not the best of friends.  You always see them when you go out with your friends, to parties, movies, whatever... but you don't ever call them to see what's up.\n\nBest friends - the kind that change every few years are wonderful to have.  Sometimes these friends just drift apart because of changing perceptions but you are always grateful that you were once friends.  These friends are close to TRUE friends, but you never lose those true friends.\n\nThe best of all friends is the true friend.  The one that is with you thick and thin.  This is the kind of friend that will stick up for you even when they think you're wrong.  This is a friend that will keep all secrets.. that will make you soup when you're sick.  You might even marry your true friend one day.  The married best friends are the best of all!  According to this friend you can do no harm to them and you wouldn't think of harming them.  These friends are very hard to come by and maybe you will only have a couple of these in a lifetime, but they're the best of the best.
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how do u know this friend will not cheat on u ?\ndo u trust her as much as ur wife ?\nAnswer these questions then follow ur heart.\n\nbut my opinion talk to ur wife. she loves u and will do anything to make u happy.\nTrust Me!
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No kidding, I couldn't agree with you more...My wife has a friend that she talks to on the messenger and this guy is so freaking obsessed with the girl...He'll even go as far as to report someone who doesn't like her, and if you talk crap about her around him, he gets mad and goes off on you. Talk about being obsessed, that's just sick.
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You are her best friend too right?, Well then some of the best marriages started out as best friends.....You will never know unless you ask. Don't let someone else beat you too it for fear of the unknown. I know you are nervous, but if your feelings are this strong, you should ask. She will listen... Best wishes to you both.
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What are ypu looking for? A sex slave/cleaner?\nThe best wife is a woman you meet & grow to love more than life itself. You can't buy that. I don't care how much money you have.
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She is married so it would be wrong to pursue a relationship with her. If you did pursue it the consequences could turn out bad. It could not work out and you could lose her as a friend. Friendship is the most important thing you could have. You wouldnt want to lose that. And you got to think about her husband too. You dont want to be the one who breaks up a ten year marriage. So all in all my advice is to keep her as a friend. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.