I have a friend who´s two year old daughter is afraid(or doesn´t like it) of playing in a playing-sand?
596535
well you can tell her y  she dose not like it or u can get the mom to go in the sand with her so she'll feel more comfortable
1039783
try the naughty step my daughter was the same till i used it give him 2 warnings if that dosent work put him on the step it can be anywere (but when at home keep it in the same place!) for 2 mins if he is two and three mins if he is three and so on then after the time is up tell him why he was on the step and make him say sorry it works just takes time good luck
59069
I understand your worry.  How disabled is your daughter?  Is it possible for her to get along in a group home with others with her same condition where they have people to help and monitor the situation? Maybe to start introducing her to prospective situations or people now so that she is familiar with them.  Do you belong to a religious community?  Since I don't know how much help your daughter needs its hard to think of ideas but you are welcome to e-mail me - I will try and help you think of ideas for the future.
1137534
interrogation.  works best when kids are around too.  Ask her why she wants balls, what she uses them for.  If she insists, ask her what the kids did to her lawn/house/etc. to make her so upset.
776172
The most important part of your question is she comes out of the water happy.  At 10 that is key.  Practice relaxation at every practice and then before every meet.  Even 5 year old can accomplish this.  To stop the flinches, tell her use her toes to grab the block and grip tight with her fingers.  If she is using a staggered start she is probably bringing her arms around instead of forward and her back leg is lifting too soon.  Both of these can be changed with practice, practice, practice - the right way.
188352
The younger the better for swimming - before any fears could develop and put her off the water etc..As for reading...going through picture books every day and saying the words is really important now. Then introduce books with the word under each object, to start the understanding of linking words to pictures and how they sound...Good luck!
594257
talk to her honestly and tell her how important it is to you and your children. Show her brochures and explain to her that it is an experience you have to try atleast once. Tell her that if she tries it just once, you wont ask her again if she doesnt like it. And if she really hates, it tell her you will cut the trip short for her...good luck
196005
This is not fair to anyone involved, you may have to give in(even though it is wrong). They probably won't for awhile. So try your hardest to bite your tongue and murmur through it May I hold my gradnchild? They will eventually change. Just be patient, and when she gets to be a toddler, they may be asking for you to actually babysit.
1048886
Your poor daughter is going through huge changes and poor you are the safe person to take out the frustration on. I think its appropriate for you to sit her down and have a calm talk. Just state your case; you appreciate she is growing up, she wants to be treated more like an adult and you agree that its reasonable; and you want to be treated with respect the same as she does. You can tell her that you can both talk things over and reach a compromise, but you won't tolerate rudeness. \nSay that you also have a responsibility to take into account her safety, so rules are their for her benefit not just to spoil her fun. Also offer her a deal; if she ever finds herself in a situation where she feels uncomfortable she is allowed to say "I'll have to check with my Mum" or "My Mum won't let me do that" so you get the blame for being uncool not her.\nOur kids need to break away from us at some point or they'd still be dependant on us as adults, but at the same time they don't have the skills to handle it tactfully or with maturity!\nI think you've had some good advice here and its been good to hear from people who are the same age as your daughter. I'd agree that you can now stop providing for her as if she were younger, she might feel a bit smothered. Ouch! Its ok for you to set her chores to do, and if she does them with good grace she earns her allowance.\nYou aren't doing anything wrong so don't feel guilty. You don't have to put up with being treated like something on the bottom of someone's shoe! \nI'd really strongly recommend that you take up a new interest or hobby, and sign up for some part time classes at college. It would help your daughter to recognise you as someone other than Mum, and it will help your self esteem.
1106957
My wife has problems controling our 12 year old daughter also. The punishement that works best with her is me! LOL! I give that deep "DAD" voice that makes her tremble and she straightens up. I know thats not helping you out much but it's not really the punishment that keeps her in control, it's the seriousness in my voice that she hears and knows I WILL FOLLOW THROUGH with whatever punishment I am telling her I am going ot give to her if she doesn't straighten up....and if she doesn't, I do follow through with the punihemnt no matter how much I don't want to. Good luck!! I have a 19 year old daughter also so they do make it through these tough times!
854001
You probably know this is more of a parental issue but, since you cant do anything about that.  My suggestion is that you sit with her during meals and try to make it more fun for her.  Maybe make a game out of it.  Smile and laugh with her so she doesn't see this as something she has to do but something that is enjoyable.  God bless.
182439
She's having a hard time accepting that her daughter is growing up. Obviously if you will be at a public restaurant, it's not like all of you guys are going to throw her on top of a table, strip her clothes off and pull a chain on her. Her mom is just trippin. At 14, me and my friends hung out at the roller rink together without adult supper vision, but, duh, the people who WORK there were adults. And I was ALWAYS the only girl hangin out with all of the guys. I just got along better with guys than girls at that age. She's making more out of it than is really there. Funny thing is, I grew up to like women. So, for all she knows, her daughter might be gay when she grows up! Boys think about sex a lot, but it's not ALL they think about. She needs to realize this and get a grip. Good luck.
268976
Don't stick around.  As soon as she runs in and starts to play with her friends or a toy, get the heck outta there.  And *don't* let her see you leave.  She'll be upset, and probably cry, when she realizes you're gone.  And it may even happen for a few days, but she'll stop once she realizes that's "how it is."  \n\nI ran an in-home daycare on a military base several years ago.  Many of my parents had to do the same thing until the child was adjusted to being there on their own.  And, eventually, if they didn't physically see the parent leave, they never had a problem again.\n\nGood luck!
341585
Be patient. I made my kids cry too many times. As she gains confidence and skill, raise the wheels a little.
1074376
I am afraid it is up to your daughters maturity. A five year old irl can be mature enough to handle it, but also they can be volnurable to the point they will be scared and you will be making a two hour drive in the middle of the night. \n\nI know people hate to hear this, but you are the only one who knows if she is ready.\n\nGood luck
545367
There are several ways she can overcome this. One way is to try hypnotherapy, psychotherapy or a hypnotist. You have explained how the phobia has developed, so if she can come to turns with that frightening experience as a child, she may be able to overcome the phobia. Another way that Psychologists have helped people overcome their phobias is through 'facing their fears'. I recommend that she seeks a professional to help her with this though. Basically they will gradually introduce her to small dogs, and then bigger dogs. This has shown to have a longer lasting success rate, than hypnotherapy, although both methods are highly successful. There is a very recent method of treating phobias, where people can face their phobia virtually. It has helped arachnophobics. They use virtual reality to make the person confront their fears.
1167299
If she is feeling guilty or is underage, she should completely avoid it.  There's a reason it isn't suitable for people under a certain age and if she is feeling guilty, that should be all the answer she needs.