how do i choose between two guys that i love deeply?i don't want to hurt one's feelings, so what do i do?
603894
I dont believe you love either of them because you refuse to commit. You should release them and find someone you can commit to.\n\nYou deserve all the love and devotion that God grants for your family to be whole and loving. You deserve to have many blessed children who have two loving and caring parents. You deserve the gift of growing old and being surrounded by this family which will include grandchildren and great grandchildren in a happy and healthy home.\n\nGood Luck and God Bless!!
816453
never go against ur instincts.. if u feel as if u cant trust a person then dont!! and as for the other guy .. give him another chance.. see if he can work it out this time and u never know wut u will find!!
847058
Deep inside you know who you would choose if you had no other choice.  So who is best for you?  Once you make your mind up stick to it. You can remain friends with the other guys without ever becomeing more, thats what truely makes a friendship (over years be there for one another), and not sexually.  Good luck sis.
310491
you know the answer, turn them both down. one doesnt love you, you don't love the other, find someone who loves you and that you love
923332
welllll i dk  really i mean ur in one big predicament.umm i mena its really up to u i mean go with the one who u feel like you would be more happy with and u like more
10809
well.. just sit back and think... who would you give the world for?\n\nif u love someone, then u shouldnt really be attracted to this other person... \n\nyou need to sort this out yourself, by thinking, who do u see urself with in the future, who would make a better partner, who would u live with forever and noone else (what i mean is: if everyone died o disappeared, who would u (of the two) pick to live with you and only u) \n\njust more questions like that... no one can tell you except ur heart... so follow it \n\nhope this helped :)
836039
Oh God...more of those?!! If you don't know how to make up your mind which guy you want and you are seeking advice online, sorry but there's something wrong there...\n\nOh, and if it helps,choose the new guy...of course he deserves a chance the poor guy...oh, bless
409976
i understand you might love the first guy, but if he doesn't feel the same then move on, and love this other guy, you should let it go and follow your heart.  yes you might not love the 2nd like the 1st but not all love is the same.  You will probably always think about the love you had for the first guy, but the key thing here is that he doesn't feel the same, and you can't make someone love you.
264630
when you love someone; truly love them you do not judge them.  You look beyond their data (age, job, status) you love them for who they are and who they have become.  You love the myth (the person that they wish they could be ) when they are not presenting themselves to the world as the person they are required to be (like at work for example).\n\nCan you love 2 men at the same time.  Yes you can, but not for the same reasons.  Each person has qualities that attract them to another person.  These men do just that.  The questions is now can you decide which man poessess the qualities that you want in your life?  Can you live without the qualities of the other man?
234034
It is easy for you to feel that way about him because you like her and him.  It is something you want to be part of.  You should DISTANCE YOURSELF from the situation and find someone ELSE to spend some time with.  If either one of them asks just tell them that you are glad that they have "found themselves a relationship" with each other and that that is what you are looking for when you are not with them. Tell them to not be offended that you want to find happiness like they have for yourself. What is going to be difficult is dealing with them when they break up.  Hopefully they won't play tug of war.
532921
if you and your bf are that close then you should have no question about this other guy.  Obviously you think about this other guy if your worried about cheating on your current beau.  I say lose the bf before you do something to hurt him if you really like this other guy.  Your bf will respect you much more after you're up front with him rather than finding out that you're being a tramp behind his back and trying to conceal it.
313046
Try to use your brain to make a logical decision.  Are you really, for instance just lusting over this someone else?  Do you have a long-term committed relationship that you'll ruin by following your heart?  Or are these both people you've had some kind of relationship with and you simply can't decide.\n\nIf it's the latter, who will be better over the long term.  Sometimes we make choices based on short-term goals (like having a great sexual relationship) rather than long-term goals (like finding a kind person who will be committed to you).\n\nThink before you leap!
682613
Well... You can't really help who you like or not. If you really think that the guy you love is more important to you, stick with him and if not you shouldn't pressure yourself that's for sure...
396009
Just wait it out and do what feels right. Wait for a little bit until you know them both better, and take it from there. Don't think that you need to make a decision right this very second. Give it a bit of time.
380326
I think you can really really like 2 people at the same time, but you cannot love them both at the same time. You either like one of them very much and love the other, or just like then both very much. Sometimes it could be confusing but I think if you ask yourself, and be honest with yourself which one you'd choose if you could be with only one of them, then you'll know who you love. Take into account which one of them makes you feel more comfortable being yourself, and he'll be the right to pick, even if you think you like the other best. Don't confused an explosive physical attraction with love. Good Luck !!!
1052484
the best way to choose between them is to sit them both down at the same time and explain ur feelings. next, ask them if they would b OK with u going out on a few dates with each one b4 u make ur final decision.  most guys are cool about it and if one of them isnt cool with it, go out with the other one. another way that might help u is if u make a list of all the things u have interests in and then separate lists for each of the guys. seeing how many interests they have in common with u will help u decide which one u might have more fun with
125853
Blessings.\n\nMay I answer your question with a questions of my own? First, are you sure that these feelings you have for this new guy (let's name him "Ted" for the sake of easier understanding) are legit (real)? If not, that is part of what I think you should question yourself... along with asking "Ted" if his feelings for you are legit.\n\nSecond, if you are "committed" to someone else (let's name him "Al" for the sake of easier understanding) but these feelings that you have for "Ted" are so overwhelming, why are you in this relationship with "Al"? And if these feelings that "Ted" has for you are so overwhelming, why is he in another supposedly-committed relationship with "Sue"? It would seem, in my opinion, that you would tell "Al" (and "Ted" would tell "Sue") how you truly felt instead of leading him on to believe that this love that you two (you and "Al" -- "Ted" and "Sue") share is being reciprocated when, in fact, it is not.\n\nIt would be wise, I would imagine, to put this situation into perspective. Consider what it is (and who it is) that you truly wish to be with. Think carefully and tread softly for the waters (and feelings) you tread upon can be disturbed. You don't want a typhoon to come ripping apart your life. Trust me, I've been there! God bless!\n\nHope that helped!