Im in a love triangle! I love my girlfriend, but I met this awesome, new girl that I cant get enough of. HELP!
603305
You say you care about your girlfriend. Cheating is not the action of a caring man. If you want something/someone else then first split with your girlfriend.\nTell her that you want something different ... Honesty is the best (and kindest) policy.
943358
You mentioned that you were confused with your life. Perhaps you should try getting a better foothold with your own life before you do anything else. Getting back with her while you remain in a state of confusion isn't going to help the both of you. And if you really want to be with your ex girlfriend, I'd suggest you come clean about your feelings to her and your present girlfriend. A girl wouldn't want to patch if you're already seeing someone else. Don't give your ex the wrong impression that you are a 'two-timer'.
370742
What you need to do is LOVE yourself a bit more! Find someone who would really love you (that's the least you deserve) You know, someone who would always want to be with you etc.etc.etc. And don't feel upset when she says "no" to you because you already know that she doesn't love you, so there's no point. I would suggest (again) that you start thinking more about yourself...ask yourself "How happy am I in this relationship? Is this person that I'm with right now happy with me? Is there a chance that we can have a future together?" and if you answer no to 1 of the questions...then you need to find yourself another girlfriend...someone who will be there for u 100%.
201962
Sorry to hear your angst ... I'm sure it's very hard and mixed up for you right now.\n\nBottom line girlfriend ... if you REALLY love your boyfriend, you'll forget about this lust you feel.  If you have the desire and feel you cannot accept not experiencing this other guy and getting it out of your system, then you have no other choice but to get out of your current relationship.  Otherwise, you're a cheater and a user.  You may not even know what could happen if that encounter were to happen, you may lose everything because it just wasn't everything you expected.\n\nGood luck in your choice, whatever it may be!!
704500
If you value and want to continue your relationship with your girlfriend, you better shift your focus on another guy.  I hope that you can grasp that the notion of "falling in love" comes from the things we say to ourselves about another person and what we perceive about someone else (either imagined or real).  You are really in control of it.  If you have focused on this guy and you have, at present, no other in your life, it is easy to understand how it can happen, especially if you are a person who begins an intimate relationship from a friendship (It is the best situation.).  Trust in the fact that for every person there is more than one individual who is potentially suited for you.\n\nYour feelings of guilt is an internal sign to you that you should not pursue taking this relationship to a different level.  Each of us lives within our own skin; I would advise you to take a path of behavior that you will feel comfortable with yourself.  \n\nUltimately, the bottom line is that if the relationship develops and becomes so powerful between the two of you, no one or nothing will be able to stop the two of you getting together.  If not now, then later down the road.
597996
you seem like such a lovely guy and to be honest.. from what you have said   that girl does not deserve you.. You deserve someone who will love you as much as you love her.. and im sure she's out there somewhere.. it seems like this girl is keeping you on standby just incase things don't work out with the other guy..and even if she does loose this guy she will have another on standby sooner or later...she knows your too good for her and she's taking advantage of it!!please do yourself a favour and start the process of letting her go now cause it will take time .. and time heals!! and the one thats right for you will come along after you have healed from this girl.You derserve better and i think you know it !!It's not worth loving someone who doesn't do the right thing by you hun!It eventually makes your heart turn cold!
286224
Tell your new girlfriend that you are having a problem.  Explain how you are attracted to her, what you love/like about her, but that for some reason you keep thinking of your old girlfriend.  Explain that you don't really know why.  Then let her know that you need some time to work this out, and that the more time goes on, the more you realize that you're not ready to be in a new relationship after all right now, WITH ANYBODY.  And truthfully take that to heart.  I'd ease off of this new relationship for a few weeks or a month or so, just to sort out your own feelings.  You need to either A) get in touch with some real feelings of grief about losing your old girlfriend and work through them (maybe with a counselor?) and / or B) re-visit the old relationship to see if you should continue.  Either way, it's important to recognize and attend to what's real, your truest and deepest feelings inside.
423814
It's always like that at first ... you have to get used to her ... you know get comfortable being around her first so the both of you can loosen up a little ... It just takes time... GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS with your new found love!!!
30802
It's not proper to be in such situation and its not easy for her too, she was in love at first then you came, you got closer and now you are both in love but at the same time she is with her boyfriend, may she likes something in you and another in her boyfriend, but soon one of you will win, so to be honest with yourself and to avoid doubting that she might do it with another person if she left her boyfreind for you, give her enough time to decide but you have to be away from her she must choose only one person in order not to be hurt or to hurt her boyfriend if he discovered that she is cheating on him
160366
When you figure it out let me know.I am kinda' in the same situation.I am in love with a girl who is in love with me,yet she is with someone.
898935
Sounds like you are being used.  Love can be blinding.  You need to let her go, she is not the only woman in the world.  But if you keep treating her as "Ms. Universe" she will keep treating you the same way.  You said she is obsessed with another guy.  Let her go because you are obsessed with her.  Maybe if the other guy hurts her, then she will rebound to you, but any man with pride would leave hear alone under any circumstances.  But if you love her and you can't live without her, tell her and if she decides she wants the other guy, let her go!!!
285392
sounds to me like you're looking for an excuse to wander. if you have to ask why love and loyalty have to come together then i seriously question whether you have ever really felt true love. \nif you feel like you have to "force" yourself to be committed to anyone then you really aren't ready for that committment. that's not wrong. its ok to not be ready. just let her know that although you have strong feelings for her you are still not ready to settle down. just let the girl know that you don't plan on being physically faithful. that is a matter of health as well as heart. if she chooses to stick by you while you make a more firm decision, hurray for you. you found someone who really cares about being with you. \nyou can't be blamed for wanting to explore more of what the world has to offer. i encourage every male AND FEMALE to explore heavily before making a decision to be with that one person. just please let everyone involved that someone else is involved. \nand WEAR A CONDOM.
331895
That's a tough question to answer. In fact I wish I could give you a concrete answer. As a matter of fact I am in such a relationship with my girlfriend. She is the one I want to spend the rest of my life. And what's crazy is that she is nothing like the girl I thought I would love to end up with. Well she treats me nice first of all and is not afraid to have her opinon on things and be firm about it. So basically what I am saying I love her because she has a mind of her own and also at the same time cares about my own opinion. Also knows when to back out of a dispute when she realizes that I am too strong on a thing and I also learned to do the same thing. I think it all stands in the art of compromize and never being too selfish while preserving your individuality. Another thing is you could never make one love you no matter what you do or do not. If your guy does not think of you everyday and that's what you want of him then say goodbye no matter how hard it may seem. Go look for another who is more romantic and affectionate and also looks for only one girl to end up with for the rest of his life. Well good luck with it because it is not easy.
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just let it go, if the attraction is strong enuf between you two, his relationship with the other gurl will begin to fall apart. let nature take it's course and  be the good guy. patience is a virtue. be virtuous. as the attraction between you and him grows, it will weaken between him and her. if he is a good guy, he will let her know he is losing interest and give her time to find someone new also. any other way is too messy, don't try to hurry things up. like teasing him sexually. he will use you and still end up with her. if it doesn't play out the way you want, you learned something. sometimes it doesn't no matter how bad you want it.
718321
It doesn't sound like she is your girlfriend anymore. I would have said that she needs to make her choice, but it sounds like she did. What should you do? Bow out gracefully and make yourself scarce. Find a new girlfriend.
692234
have respect for the girl and for her boyfriend. you can't change somebody's feelings. you can't make somebody like you. if you care about her, think about her feelings. respect her feelings and leave her alone. find another girl who is not attached.\n\nit's hard for two people to carry on a long distance relationship. it doesn't help when other people are trying to break it up either.\n\nyou'll find another girl that you're attracted to. i guarantee it, ok? if not, then the right girl will find you, so don't sweat it. but this girl is off limits.
482250
For a start, applogise dearly to her and tell her this time your luv comes from your heart, no string attached..Its your destiny to be wit her..and that you now realise she was also meant to be wit you..