I have a girl or so ex(depending). she can't continue and wont let go. what should I do? She,s not sure yet
605761
Then you need to step up to the plate do you want her to stay or go? Because it is your life too! If you dont want her around then let it go but if you do then you need to try to resolve things!
757413
ive been there done that, and i did end up gettin back together with my ex, for a lil while.\n\ni suggest u think abt the fact if she would still want you back? does she love you? do u love her? can u work things out??\n\nthink abt these questions and answer then, and once u have a solution go and decide what u want to do,\n\nyou see, maybe she still loves you and she is going through the same thing so all hope is not lost, uve just lost her for a lil while, but if u hang in there, and since she is ur ex girlfrind that means u know her already, so try figuring out what she wants and what she needs, try fixing what went wrong, go back into her life and try being the man that she needs you to be\n\n\njust remember to have hope and hang in there, and maybe if after reading this u wanna call her, go and do that, but just incase it does not work out with her, its a lesson learnt and soon u may  just meet the one for you\n\n\nall the best, \n\nremember its your life, its in your hands, try figuring it out and live it
1003492
Walk away.  Seriously.  Don't waste your life because you don't wanna hurt her.\n\nI stayed with a girl I didn't love for a year and a half after I realized I didn't care about her any more... why?  Because she loved me and needed me.\n\nIt's lost time, and I'll never get it back.
799380
Nope, don't give up. Maybe, she is just "scare" about being with you.\nTry harder.
322937
Keep trying for that child's sake. But make sure she wants you back. She has to TELL you she wants you back. Don't just tell yourself she does for no good reason except that is what YOU want.
120552
The best advice I could give you is to keep your mind busy on anything else but her. Keep yourself active, busy. I know its hard, believe me, I do. It will pass with time.
622403
All you can do is give her a hug and tell her that you are there for here.I have been in that situation where I have something wrong with me and my ex used to ask me what was wrong, I never told him, he would just get up and go into the other room. Dont do that. I know from experience even if she doesnt want to talk, she might still like you to be with her and hold her so she knows that she is not alone
691736
What do you want to do?  If you care about her and want to be with her, give her some time - it sounds like she'll come around, since she obviously still wants you to be a part of her life.  If you want to move on, that's a whole different story, but you need to decide whether what you want is in sync with what she wants, or whether it's time for you to find someone else.  Personally, I don't think a month is a long time - if you wait it out until she's more comfortable with herself, in the long run you two will have a stronger relationship.
560212
This ex girl of yours needs to get a life and take responsability for her actions. SHe's just trying to make you feel guilty.  Stay away from her, avoid her... otherwise she's just going to take you down w/ her. You don't need that. You are who you are.
104104
Sorry dude, if she's made up her mind to be gone for good, she's gone.  I would move on....who knows, down the road if you're still available, she might come back??!!  Good luck.
634031
you have to let her have space...she's involved with someone else. If/when they break up, you are free to go after her!
921906
Unfortunately life doesn't always pan out how we imagined or hoped it would. This girl may be taken or she just might not want to have a relationship with you, i dont know why you cannot be with her, but there are other girls and although she seems like your world at the minute, you will learn to move on. You will find someone who you love, and you can hold. Give it time. Good luck.
749267
I know where this girl is coming from. I think she is pushing you to see if you will take off at the first sight of trouble. Thats what I do. It's a way for her to protect herself from jerks. It's not fair to you but it sounds like she's been hurt before. Go to her and talk to her face to face, not on the phone. Tell her that she is pushing you away and that is why you are pushing back. Ask her flat out if she wants this relationship to continue. If she does then you have to make a personal decision, can you stick around through the ups and downs? If so then tell her you will wait it out. Let her get comfortable with you and trust you. If she pushes too much and you no longer feel wanted at all then tell her that, let her know that it can't continue, and that you need more than that.
480391
Listen exes no matter what always have a piece of someones heart no matter how bad relationships have gone there is always that one memory that keeps it coming back. If you will give this girl the world then give her your support, guys again have trouble showing emotion so we really dont understand, but the fact of the matter is shes with you, she stays with you, and that should be good enough for you. Shes not running to him and she has been open and honest with you, now you need to take whatever she gives you and work with it, support is the most important thing, start at step one and work your way up, I know its hard but swallow a little pride and do it.
166775
O.K. Here's the solution... try to follow along...it's not like it's rocket science... ready... here it is....CALL HER!!!!
313687
Come on, darlin, open your eyes and find someone new.\nThis girl sas and does things that hurt you?  She cheated on you?  She wants you but doesn't want you now?\n\nPlease move on.  No ultimatums, no if's and;s or but's...move on.  She had her chance, she broke your heart and you can not allow this to happen again.\n\nIf you open your heart and your mind, you'll find a new love that might treat you like you need to be treated.  A new beginning with a new love.  Stop pining over this other gal and let loose of her.  She isn't worth it, believe me.\n  As I said, she had her chance, she blew it.  Once a cheater, always a cheater.  She is just too immature for you.  Move on...............
1026407
Ride it out and wait your turn. Right now, she can't see who has her best interest. It's all about her not being able to let go. If you really like her and are not just trying to hit that stuff be there for her as a friend. She will come around.