For all Moms, out there,  will you ever tell your child that they are nothing but a failure?
599461
Absolutely not that is one of the most hurtful things that you could tell your child and i love my children to much to hurt them like that. i would rather die first before i hurt my children
515254
Yes - and unlike many others, I wouldn't change things, or be born with all the knowledge I have already.  May be boring, but life is about learning, and we learn my making mistakes.  Take my 1 year old twins for example.  They are learning to stand on their own.  Should I hold them constantly, always afraid their hurt their tush if they fall?  Nope, they would never learn to stand on their own if I did that.  Yes, they fall and hurt themselves (or their pride) and cry, but then they get cuddled and praised for their efforts and they try again.  Same with life.  Gotta take the good with the bad, gotta learn all you can, even if that means learning from your mistakes and passing on your knowledge to the next generation.  Life is what you make of it, not what's handed to you.
694616
I would not ground either of my children for failing a test. Failing a test is hard enough on a lot of children, but to ground them for it..is damaging to their self esteem. If being grounded for a childs failures happens often enough then they child might stop trying, because of the fear of failure.
134636
the only advice i can give is none.  Your kids are adults, they'll have to learn from there own mistakes.  Just don't judge them or treat them different.  Only thing you can offer is your love.
742552
Do you have children? It would be much harder to see my son suffer than suffer myself.
113150
no, you are worthless!! at least that's what i remember being called at 17. ahh...the love of parents.
29472
Make sure to be honest and starightforward.  No parent wants to hear that something might be wrong with their child, so it will be difficult.
970412
hell no\n\nemo kids can't support someone else, they have just enough problems with themselves.
43167
All parents are the same. And I used to feel the same way like you. But the things started to change once when I told them: "Sorry because I am not perfect! Probably, you have never made ANY mistake in your life!"
506506
I think if my OSD were my bio kid, she would be WORSE behaved!! And don't underestimate the power of just talking with them and being there for them to talk to. They may get that glassy, glazed look in their eye, but I do think some of it eventually filters down to them. The big thing is allowing them to make mistakes. No, not standing by and watching them make mistakes, but realizing they are still kids (no matter what THEY think about it) and they are gonna make mistakes, and our job is to help them pick up the pieces when they do... to listen and guide as much as we can, and just be patient with them. There comes a point in time when we are no longer "responsible" for their actions, and they have to suffer and face consequences when they do certain things. There is no getting around that.
1038031
you created your daughter so why would you compete with her....the mom seems insecure to me.......she needs help maybe she feels that she is losing her touch....
187587
Commit hari-kari to spare my family the shame of my ignoble defeat.\n\nOh, no, wait; I'd accept that in life, someone's always going to be better at something than me, and just remember that doing the best I could is what mattered, regardless of outcome.
611940
you have got to as they cant do it for themselves , thats the price of being a good parent
548114
After 16 years, my hubby has finally gotten up enough nerve to shut her up as soon as she starts anything. I'm so proud of him, because he WAS a mommas boy, BIG TIME.\n\nHe actually started standing up to her about 11 years ago, but it just keeps getting better every year, sometimes I wish she would start something just so he can tell her off... wow, I'm terrible aren't I?  Too Bad, she has it coming!!!
171989
Sweetheart as a Mother of 6 children , let me be the first to say" CONGRATULATIONS" Then let me also and I STRESS this to you hon "DON"T MESS THIS UP,PLEASE"  You are obviously a very gifted young person and I applaude you. I begged and pleaded with my oldest son who I might add is also a very gifted person but no amount of begging, pleading or cryin even did me ANY good. NOW he's expecting his first child and he's working his butt off for very limited income. NOW he wishes he would have listened to me. But most importantly is that I know that down deep you knew the answer to your own question and you are very intelligent so what your probably lacking is the positive reinforcement you seek right now , sometimes I know when my oldest was younger he always did so well that I would forget to ask "hey, how u doin hon, OR Need any help?" Well for the record going to schookis so gr8
571052
I am blessed for any Mom's day I get to spend with my offspring.  That said I think mine was certainly not the best. Alone with 5 kids under 7, who think the idea of mother's day means: let's see how much we can get away with today.  But I survived and so did they..I think..head count..yeah they're all still here - LOL
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I'm not really a mother, obviously but I am a single father.  That has changed my life more than anything in the world could have.  I'll be quite honest, before my kids were born I was a bit of a partier and I really didn't take much seriously.  When my oldest was born I was only 18 but he really taught me there was something to life other than staying out late drinking with friends.  And because his mother couldn't see that and she didn't want to be held back from the life I gave up, I had to and still today have to play the part of mum and dad.  \n\nBeing both a mother and a father to my kids has turned me around so I'm not pretty much the polar opposite of how I was before they were around.  I learn something new from them every day and I think and hope I'm becoming further and further away from who I used to be.  Being a parent has taught me to put them first instead of myself.  I'm so lucky to have each of them around, they've all changed my life in so many ways that it isn't possible to write.  I'm sure every parent says this but it really is true.