I fancy my HR manager. I feel nervous to approach her.Has anyone any idea of helping me pls?
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Hi Nil!\n\nTo be nervous when wanting to approach a women is normal but there are some things you can do, which will instantly tell you if she want's that you approach her.\n\nFirst, try smiling at her. Smile when she look at you. I know that it is hard to do at work, but try it. Then, if she smiles back, try saying her "Hi". If she say "Hi", too, she wants you to approach her. Approach now!\n\nYou will see that smiling is not hard thing to do, and when somebody smiles back, we feel more relaxed and after the "Hi" thing you will be ready to talk with her with no problem.\n\nLet me tell you one little secret. The "Hi" thing is the opening for approaching, so you are approaching her the most easiest and secured way.\n\nIf she doesn't smile back when you smile at her first time, smile again when you see her. Don't approach before you and she say "Hi" to each other, because it is not good. She maybe don't want to talk with you at work because it is not good for her position, or she is in some deep taughts and she doesn't saw you the first time when you smile. If you keep smiling at her when you saw her, she will or smile back or won't see you at all. If the other thing happens, don't feel sad. You will find somebody else. You can use the smile thing to any women you want to approach. With the smile test you are seeing right away which women wants you and which doesn't.\n\nWhy wasting your energy on girls who doesn't even give you a smile back?\n\n\nHappy approach!
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calm down! it will be ok. i hate presenting too and i get really nervous and get the sweaty palms and everything. but i usually concentrate on what i have to say and hoping that i dont screw it up.hope i helped!
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Take a look at what you appreciated in a manager when you were their employee. Look to your boss as an example. Stay focused and organized,dont double talk,stay approachable and dont give up learning...\nCongratulations!
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Try convincing them you can do the job despite not having worked in an HR department.  Explain how you are interested in  recruiting or developing employees.  Read some books on the subject so you use the right vocabulary.  One man's barrier's are another's stepping stones.
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she's just a really friendly and polite girl, that's why she always says hi and bye. and i think its really cute that your too shy. well anyway, i know its hard to get rid of your nervousness whenever she talks to you, but you have to know, she's only human, she's not immacualte or anything, if you wanna be closer to her, you have to stop being so freaked out when she talks to you, that might freak her out and might not wanna talk to you anymore.
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smile and just say hello at first. If the one you want to talk to works with you, find something about work you can ask her opinion about or that you might need help with.
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if u r nervouos try sending her a greeting, or say hi over the phone.that way u gain courage as u dont meet the person face to face.
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Check your job description - if the task is supposed to be undertaken by you, then approach the person she reports to and informally tell them of the situation. If she is spending time doing parts of your job, she may not be doing her new job sufficiently well. \n\nThink about why she is still doing her old tasks - is she insecure in her new role and want a feeling of familiarity?
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What an excellent and honestly fowarded question of which I maybe able to offer some advice. Your social anxiety places you in a difficult position...since during most interviews we ALL feel like we are being GRILLED by the world. Your situation is even more interesting due to the fact that you are feeling that way all the time...correct? So take or leave the following advice.\n1. The anxiety you are feeling is common to us all and it is inherent that we ALL are nervous during interviews.\n2. You will have overcome and defeated your stress when you believe in yourself enough to foster the courage to even go to the appointment.ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOU ARE GOING ON THIS INTERVIEW.\n3. The key to interviewing is that you take control of the interview. I went to a workshop on interviewing once and this really works.  You are competent...and you are qualified....and thats your only job inside that interview...BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND MAKE THEM WANT TO HIRE YOU.No worries ...no stress...theres nothing to lose...unless you don't go. I think from just reading your question....YOU WILL GET THIS JOB!!! I will pray for you...
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contact your HR department
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The first thing is DO NOT go in and try to act like you are better than the others, (Not saying that you would) You never know how these people are going to react to you, as you were hired outside of the company.  Make an effort to personally go up to each person and introduce yourself and try to make them feel comfortable with you.  \n\nI have been in management, and one fatal mistake is trying to be "friends" with the employees.  Of course you want to be friendly, but not to friendly as to where they will consider you more a friend then a boss. I would also ask the others to give you feed back as to how you are doing.  Make sure that the others know that they can approach you and talk to you.  Best of luck in your new job!!
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if you're afraid you shouldn't bother introducing yourself...gotta go in with the mindset that she WANTS to meet you.  \n\nconfidence man!  nothing ventured nothing gained
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hi. i am a very nervous person myself. there is nothing wrong with you. your just very nervous. i am trying to get over it myself at the minute. You just have to change the way you look at things. Say if you made a mistake... just think to yourself this is not a problem and carry on with what you are doing. We are all human and we all make mistakes at the end of the day... just change the way you look at things. I hope i have helped a bit.
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I would have a quiet word with her manager, presuming he is not the offending party. If he is then I would go to the person above him. You need not go into details, just say that you have been told in confidence that that man had wandering hands and that younger females of staff resented his approach. Say that you feel that the problem needs addressing as it could get the firm in hot water for not protecting their female staff but it is not up to you to deal with the situation as it is not in your department.
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Have you already talked to the person about it?  Simply take that person aside and say something like, "Hey, <insert name here>, I noticed that earlier when we were talking you touched me.  I appreciate your friendly attitude, but I am uncomfortable with being touched like that.  I also feel that you stand too close to me.  I would feel more comfortable if you didn't come within 2 feet of me and if you wouldn't touch me at work.  Would you please stop?"  It's entirely possible that this behavior is simply the way that the person is expressing collegiality towards you, and he/she may not realize that it makes you uncomfortable.  Being direct and stating exactly what behavior you don't like, as well as what behavior you would prefer, will leave nothing up in the air.\n\nAssuming that you have already talked to the person about it and directly asked him/her to stop, and you feel that your discomfort is affecting your work performance, mention it to a supervisor or HR.
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I'm truly sorry this has happened to you.  So, was your boss nice about it, or was she kind of be-little-ing?  You say she made you feel like a small child.  You know, we all have our bad days.  Guess what else?  We ALL make mistakes!  I bet SHE has even made a few mistakes herself.  Try not to feel stupid.  Did you apologize for the mistakes?  If not, do so if you feel you can.  Try so hard to concentrate totally on your job and I think you will be fine.  IF, though, she is not nice about the "writing you up thing" then I'd look for other employment.  Not as a cop out, but sometimes women bosses can be a little...ya know!  what's up with the internet priv. being taken away.  Sounds like a little bit of a power trip to me. Just go in there tomorrow with a smile on your face and confidence about you and have a wonderfully beautiful day!
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yes, because if you let it fester it will only make things worse.  Just be careful how you approach her, try not to be confrontational.  if that doesn't work, go to your real manager.\n\ngood luck.