I don't know if i'm gay but i think i am and if I am how do i tell my family?
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just tell them but make sure you are 1st
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Honestly, I don't think there's a "right" time to tell everyone.  Some people you may feel comfortable telling much sooner than others.  Some people you may not feel it's a good idea to tell at all.\n\nI would say the point that's the "right" time is one of two times:\n\n1)  When you know that the person you're telling will accept and care for you because of who you are and that means they'll accept you for being gay, too... and you want to be open with them about who you are inside; or\n\n2)  When it hurts you so much to hide yourself that being rejected for who you are is less painful about hiding who you are from people.\n\nThose are generally the times you're going to come out to someone... \n\nIn any case, I hope if you're asking this for personal reasons, it works out and you don't get hurt by anyone for just being the person you are.  =)
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the best way to come out is directly. i know that it may be scary, but your family and friends are more likely to take it bad if they don't think you trusted them enough to be honest.\n\nget some info off of the following websites. they can give you plenty of info to share with your family. also check out the public library in your area. they may have some books that will also be good resources.\n\nstart with the person you think will take it the best, be it family or a close friend. tell them first. you will need them to be your suppport system through this time. then, just keep going until you've told them all.
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More then Likely if your Gay people can already tell...So just be happy with who you are.
588634
Its not about what your family members want. It is about what you want. You love who you love and I don't believe anyone can choose their sexual preference. I undersdtand it is hard (my mum doesn't like that I am bi either) but you just gotta do whats right for you. Your family will come around and accept you if they really care (and I am sure they do) it may take time, but you be who you are.
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well i guess you are a little young to be sure about your sexual preferences but whenever the time comes, tell your dad that you like girls alot, and wanna have wife and kids but at the same time you like guys too and that you are realy confused what to do and whats wrong with you etc etc..... and that you will have to make a choice forever wther to be gay or not....\nonce her hears this, he is gonna say 'you dont have to make a choice, there are people who like both' etc etc... coz he will be fearing you choosing to be gay.. \n\nworth a shot...
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Best thing is to only tell people you trust, like a close friend preferrably a girl, they seem to be more understanding than a typical guy friend. I wouldnt tell your parents just yet I would hold off until it feels right, it seems to me your learning about yourself right now and you found something that interests you, and it may be something that passes and it may not so I wouldnt alarm anyone just yet. Take a deep breath and think about what it is your looking for and go for it. When the newness wears off and your sure you will always be this way, then tell your family because then you will be more confident that this is how you are and they have to accept you. I have seen alot of parents go to the extreme when finding out their child is not as perfect as they hoped, or they have different looks on thier life than their parents expected, just something to think about. Lots of luck bud...
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Well considering shes your teahcer there isnt much you can do in that department. i mean you cant really approach her. i mean i guess you could. Really , I just think you should explore the fact that you like girls and go from there. If you feel you really do like them for sure and you may be with women in the future then you can consider telling your parents. From my own experience though, you must know that more than likely if you tell your parents now that you think you are gay or bi they are unlikely to believe you so be prepared and have a strong support system from some friends.
570741
Sounds like you just did come out of the closet. By posting your question, you announced to the whole world that you're gay. :)
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I have no idea but I'm gay
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There's no need to declare yourself anything right now.  In a year or two, you will know if you are or not gay.  \n\nYour attraction may just be envy of guys who have matured physically ahead of you, or perhaps what you want to be  That doesn't make you gay, it makes you human.  \n\nRead up on it if it still nags at you.  Ask more questions.  Talk to someone you TRUST.
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Do whatever makes you feel right, if you feel uncomfortable saying anything to your parents then don't, maybe your bi-sexual or you could just be going through a phase, there are a lot of sites that can give you any support or advice \nGLCC, PFLAG, GLBT, etc.. good luck
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You're probably not as confused as you say you are.  Your body knows what it wants, even if your mind is unwilling to accept it.  \n\nI suggest that you avoid sexual relationships with everyone until you've had a chance to form some non-sexual relationships with people who identify as gay, in addition to the relationships you already have with people who identify as straight.\n\nOnce you get to know some gay people, and understand that they are just people, like everyone else, then you might be surprised how your feelings inside change about your own sexual identity.
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the question is... are you gay? becoz if you are, you're up to it. and if you're not, then you're straight. it's either you go that way or this way
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Dont make things hard on yourself.  If you think you may be bi, dont say anything until you know.  Even then I still wouldnt say anything unless you fell in love with a women.  Family will always love you but dont put yourself and your family through stress they dont need.
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You cannot control how they will react.  I think coming out to relatives is overated, especially if you know they may not understand or get mad.  Why not just continue on with your love life and consider it none of their business?\n\nYou never have to lie about it, just don't offer the information.  When they ask you directly is the time to seriously consider telling them...
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Too early to tell, probably.  \n\nAt this point, I encourage you to just follow your heart and your set of sexual, emotional, and personal needs without worrying yet about identifying yourself.  Maybe you are bi.  Maybe you are a lesbian.  Maybe you are straight.  You will find the right label after you have had a chance to have more experience with relationships, with sex, with love, and with culture.\n\nExplore, question, and learn first.  Label later.  And remember you can always change your label to fit your growing understanding of yourself.\n\nFor some people, bisexuality, especially in youth, is a phase on the way to learning that they are really primarily identified as Gay or Lesbian or primarily identified as straight.  For some others, like myself (and I ain't a kid no more; I told my Mom I was bi in 1986 and haven't turned back since), a Bi identity fits us and is not a phase but our permanent state of being.\n\nIt is more important to learn about your self and your needs than to be anxious about what to call yourself.\n\nBe honest with your friend, and see if there is room for a romantic relationship with her in your friendship.  Again, that's more important at this stage than choosing an identity.  When you have had enough life experience, your identity will reveal itself to you.\n\nMost important of all, don't let anyone convince you that how you are and what you're feeling is wrong.  Whatever your underlying identity, who you are is who you are and you are right to be that person.  Find friends and lovers who understand you, and can support you when you're on your way.  \n\nPS/ You might try doing some reading about sexual identity and bisexual identity in particular if this is on your mind.  Try some of the books mentioned below: