can my marriage work out?
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Yes, your marriage can be revitalized and your trust restored!  You will need to work together to rebuild it, but it can definitely become stronger and deeper if you both choose to make it so. It is a process, though, not an event. I am a Mars Venus relationship coach and if you'd like to learn how to work through this challenge, feel free to email me at marsvenuscoach@yahoo.com.
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probably better to ask a marriage counselor : ) it could be lots of things, some which are "fixable", some which aren't.
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I just recently got married myself, and I don't think it is anything you can plan out. Just remember to keep each other happy. There is a ggod book I just finished, its called Power of a Praying Wife, it has helped me out a lot.
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WHY DON'T YOU BOTH EXERCISE TOGETHER, LIKE WALKING, YOGA, PILATES, ETC.?  DON'T NAG BUT SUGGEST.
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There is no guarantees in life and love. The only thing that will make it work is trust, honesty and very open communication. you have to go into the marriage with open eyes knowing that sometimes you may not agree and that there will be problems, It won't all be peaches and cream. The problem that I can see here is the lies about small things, If one is lying about the small things you could only assume that it would definately happen with the giant ones also. Your reaction to the small things could make or break whether he would feel comfortable with telling you the truth,  If you talk it out show him your hurt by it but that those things that he lied about aren't going to hurt your relationship if he had told you the truth I think that maybe he would possibly not fear the truth. If you freak out and threaten the relationship I'm pretty sure the problem would get worse.  also a relationship can't work if both aren't working on it, I've seen many relationships with one party saying I want to work it out but the others heart isn't really into it.
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With God all things are possible. Please don't forget that.\n\nIf your husband  doesn't believe you cant handle responsibilities believe me he wouldn't travel a lot.\nHandling responsibilities is a character of a virtuous women(Prob 31:10) there is time for everything: time to work,play, eat, cry, rejoices and fight.(Eccl 3)\nAnd I strongly believe your marriage (not relationship) will last and stand the test of time. When couple fight it may be for a lot of reasons: maybe you spend more time at work or he is not doing things you know him for. when you leave work leave everything that pertains to your work at the office and face your family and home squarely.create time to take your husband out on a date and rediscover yourselves, don't let your drive for success get between your family. \n\nWishing you the best.
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There is no way of knowing. But what you can do is make the right choices to make your marriage work.
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it can. it really depends on how dedicated and determined you are to make it work. i've seen it work out pretty well, and i've seen it crumble completely. i've seen people in long distance relationships get married, and i've seen them cheat on each other because they're lonely and frustrated and weak.\n\nbasically, if you want to make it work, and they want to make it work, you can make it work. you might as well try because all that not trying means is that you lose them for sure, and you lose them now instead of later.
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I so agree with "John S"... QUIT! there's no way you and wife can build a marriage when you're working 12+ hours a day, likely 7 days a week.  If that's what it takes to make this business work, sell it, give it away, quit!  Change your lifestyle and your priorities. Wealth is NOT measured not how much we make but, rather, by how little we need to spend!  Regretably, it sounds like your wife wants the shallow pleasures that money can provide, rather than the deeper satisfaction of a life a abundance -- abundant time, love, friendship, enjoyment.
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Wow. that is a tough one. It depends on your morals and beliefs. Is the marriage strong enough to handle the consequences? I once watched Dr. Phil and he said that is never a good idea. no matter who wants it or how long you've been married. What do you want? sometimes you have to stay true to yourself.
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any marriage can work if both partners are willing to work on it.\ngod didn't take race into consideration when he put man and woman on this earth color does NOT MATTER as long as you both love eack other
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I don't think so, I have been married for 23yrs. If you go into marriage with the thought that if I doesn't work out you can get a divorce then the first big fight you have you are calling the lawyers. Marriage is real work and I think the celebrities jump in and out of it for ratings and exposure.
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The sad and simple truth is that you can't. It takes two people to make marriage work, and one person working overtime to salvage something that may or may not be there is very heart wrenching and quite simply not fair to the person making all the sacrifices to make things work. Eventually feelings of resentment kick in and you end up fighting more than you did to start off with, because you're trying harder than the other person.\n\nThe best thing to do would be to accept failure (both your spouse's and yours,) and try to move on with your life from that point. Trying to hold on to the past when you're the only one working toward a brighter future only brings about more pain when the "end" eventually comes (i.e. divorce). Start preparing yourself for the worst, but know that you have done everything in YOUR power to save your marriage.\n\nLife will eventually work itself out, and you will be a happier person in the long run. Finding love again with another person can happen when you least expect it!! Good luck..
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Mine is working out. Being of European heritage and she from Finland probably helps because marriage has so many issues to work out as it is, but our has worked because we try to understand each other (and she is generally just a wonderful person.)
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Marriage is hard work. You have to both work at it for it to work out. The passion only lasts 6 months to 3 years. After that, you have to work at the relationship...\n\nTry doing things that are unexpected. Stir up your life a bit and see what happens. You can also take counselling together. Read books about this subject and get some tips.
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Before you take advice from people you don't know.  You need to first listen to you.  If you love him and think you can make this marriage work, then try to work things out.  \n\nYou are right, the 1st year (and a few more) are hard, but that doesn't mean give up! I read your other question, and I don't think you got the "best" advice.  Consider the sources... (and here I'm talking and you don't know me from the rest of them!) \n\nBut I will say, go to someone who knows the two of you, someone who can be a voice of reason. And have that person mediate the issues you are having with your husband.  A good councilor will be able to help you there.  Find one. \n\nMy marriage ended over stupid stuff.  Things that could have easily been handled in an adult way, and fixed.  If you love your husband, go the hard road and try to forgive and get to the bottom of your issues.\n\nFor the fourth time tonight, I will suggest a few books that I believe could have saved my marriage if I had them before it was over...\n\n1. The Five Love Languages- Probably my favorite... it talks about the different "languages" of love we can offer to each other. Everyone has one or two that are their main love language, and if you are not communication to you spouse in THEIR love language, then they probably won't feel loved... great book.\n\n2. Love and Respect- it talks about the different needs of a husband and a wife. It relates to each of you. It's split in certain areas to directly talk to you and to your husband. It talks about how women see things thru "pink glasses" and men see things thru "blue glasses". It's eye opening...It's wonderful.\n\n3. Friendship Factor- This one is SO basic. It was like a light going off in my head each time I turned a page. It helps you realte to others better as WELL as your husband.\n\nI would read them in that order...together with your husband. You can find them in the Christian/ Religious section of most bookstores. And don't worry, they aren't overly "holy" if you are weirded out by Christian books. It's just that God designed man and woman for each other, and boy oh boy does HE have some good principles to build on. The books are very relatable and easy to read quickly.\n\nGo get advice from a source that you can trust. Know that my heart is with you as you are suffering.  And I hope that you can see past this incident, and try to make some sort of sense of the issues you are having.
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NO, I say you should try to work things out. Marriage is a special bond between two people. Remember why you married this particular man, this special man, and remind him why he choose you to be his wife. Also both sides probably has truth to it your more than likely yell to much and he probably doesn't pay attention to his beautiful wife. If communication is what your after you may have to find a common ground on which to talk to him about. Remember marriage is a long winding road not a straight clear paved street. YOU may have to compromise to get what you want in the END.