this is my third child and i was wondering if being scared was normal ?im not sure im ready for this again.?
603173
Yes its normal because you know that every birth and child are different.You CAN do it.You are experienced,It's just a few butterflies.I think it is wonderful that you still have these feelings after two children.Some women tend to become no it alls and lose a little concern about the dangers of becoming mothers again.You'll do just fine!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!
773176
HORRIBLE!  Keep speaking up! Tell everyone who will listen...and even those who won't!  Don't worry about what they say about you. You are the one protecting your daughter and you have to do what you have to do for her sake.  Don't let your daughter be unsupervised, anywhere.  Make it a rule. You're the mother, you can do that.  You said she is 3, I don't know how well her vocabulary is developed to express her emotional upset.  I would say, continue her counseling!  If you can't afford private counseling, or you don't have insurance that will cover it, there are agencies that have clinics, free.  You might have to make a lot of phone calls, but they are out there.  \nBest of luck to you!  Keep trying!!!
654193
hhhmmmm....wait (finger on chin and scratching)...hmmm....\n\nyou know what, i don't think i have an answer that could possibly sound intelligent on this matter?! lol\n\ncould it be that you fear for you child's safety and the camel was something far more sinister and menacing??
337888
I never used to have any fears when i was young.  As im getting older i seem to have loads.  I tend to be too overcautious with life nowadays!  It seems mad but crossing a bridge and looking over the wall to see the ducks in the rivers water is more of now a nail-biting experience.  The only thing i can suggest is a slow step, by step to conquer the fears.  It hasn't yet worked for me, the river that is by that bridge i dread, brings alot of insecurities for me.  A friend died near their from hypertherma and think its a case for me digging up the griefing part of things..  You never know but there could be a reason behind the lift you dread to take to fifth floor.  Theres a lot of emotional tree branches that our brain tend to keep a lock onto...!  Release the locks with the keys you hold in your hand.
131398
u will know the best y r u afraid of urself.plz,immediately go to a councellor. i think u need councelling.
134604
I have, it scared the s*** out of me!  I woke up from a nap and could hear my husband and kids downstairs and couldn't move my body.  My brain was fully alert and I tried to holler to my husband because I was scared to death and I couldn't even do that.  I eventually convinced myself that I was still sleeping and having a bad dream...I must have drifted off because when I woke up again I was fine.  That is bizzare enough in itself.
780286
I'm ok, and I had an awful childhood.\nGranted, It's taken years to get myself balanced and to be able to accept my past. But from the day I went into care at 14, I decided I didn't want to be like the others around me... I had a rocky lot of teenage years. but who doesn't?\nI am now 24 and Mother to a beautiful 4 and a half year old girl.\nAnd even if I say so myself, I am a good Mum, my daughter is polite well mannered happy and loved. I think that one of the reasons I have done well with her is because, I swore that I would never do to her what my Mum did to me... I had to live with the consequences and it wasn't pleasant!\nSure, I'm not completeley un-affected by my past and even now I get stages where I don't understand why, or feel upset or betrayed. But I DO understand and know, that I will be the best Mother I can for my little one. And feel lucky that I was shown how bad things could be, so that I can break a cycle, and give my Daughter the future she deserves.
481989
I am almost 39, a wife and mother. \nI play with snakes and spiders and I dance in thunder storms. But my greatest fear will come. (I can't outlive them all.) I am afraid of living longer than the people I love. I do pray that I never have to live through the death of one of my children! Next I hope to outlive my hubby! I know this is a selfish fear, but I can't seem to help it. And besides, fear is selfish... isn't it? \nThanks for causing me to think about this.
39945
He may be just going through "the terrible twos" (which actually last through the threes sometimes).  All my three kids were difficult at this age.  My first son had a tantrum, stiffened up like a board and fell backwards in the store, wacking his head on the floor hard!  He lived, we survived... barely.  Next time you take him to the doctor(and if he's like my kids, it probably will be soon), talk to the  pediatrician about it.  I'm afraid that too many kids are labled ADD and it may just end up being a stage of life the is difficult for the kids and parents.  Like Bill Cosby said, it's a good thing they are cute.
747843
What happened? something did to trigger your change in behaviour, or was it a problem before but you managed to keep it reasonable?  Whichever, there is always a reason why people behave in particular ways; massive confidence knocks; bereavement; bullying, and don't think this is only a problem children suffer from, it can happen to anyone; try and work out what kicked it off and then find the appropriate help. It might be enough to just talk to someone, plenty of voluntary counselling services about but try and avoid 'message' counsellors; or if it is something more serious talk to your doctor for advice on specialist services.  These things are available and they work.  You have spotted this very early which gives you a head start and please remember that it is no disgrace to have a problem only to do nothing about it. Every single human being will need some sort of specialist help at sometime in their life. The world is an ever more complicated place and people were complicated enough even before that, so all power to you, very well done and Good Luck!
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I try and live my life in such a way that I can say that.  Don't a lot of people? As a parent I try and ask myself those kinds of questions frequently to make sure I am teaching what I want to teach to my child.  Over the years I have found it's better for my own mental health to give up the things I had to lie about.  My husband does say I am fearless - it's just that I don't see the point in using up my energy being scared.
1025869
Well, don't be afraid.  the darkness will hurt you, just have faith and believe you will always be alright.  I used to be a little smookie about Pet Semetry. but not anymore and Freddy
200431
I am 28 and still get scared too!!!  I don't even watch scary movies anymore.  I psyche myself out a lot so I don't feel so scared!
198082
All life is a risk. It's ok to be afraid. Courage is being afraid and doing the scary thing anyway. Write down all the possible reactions you could get, and then write down ways you can deal with them. \n\nIt wasn't love, but last year I was going to dinner with my neighbor and her daughter's family. I was very afraid they would say something mean to me. So I thought, ok, the worst that could happen is they could yell at me and tell me I was a bad person. I figured that I would just leave the restaurant if that happened. \n\nI went and we had a nice time and all of us were freindly. Take the risk, you might just make a love connection!
486505
afraid of wht? is ur bf a monster ? lol
303584
Change is scary. Even a bad relationship sometimes feels comfortable because you at least know what to expect. But you made the right choice. You must think of your children first. You will be surprised how liberated and confident you will become doing things without a destructive influence by your side.\n\nI'm proud of you for having the courage and doing the right thing! Stay strong.
665040
My abusive ex.  I won't go into details but the physical and mental damage done by this man is something I carry with me all the time.  Because of him I cannot have children and underwent 5 surgeries to fix the physical damage.  The paranoia I deal with on a daily basis because he has not been caught can be crippling at times, to the point I get afraid to go outside or go anywhere alone.  I cannot trust people like I used to nor do I let people close to me anymore, except a very select few.  It's left a feeling in me that seems to say people will suck you in by acting nice then they will turn on you like a rabid dog once you are sucked in and let your guard down.  I know, realistically, that isn't the case but it has left that feeling.  No, I'm not over this yet but I am working on it.  It just takes time to undo the damage done.  But it did take part of me and who I used to be away and I will never be able to get that back.