i dropped out in highschool, now I'm trying to get it together how do i get my mother to believe in me again.
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By "trying to get it together", do you mean you are going back to high school? Honestly, if you think you are not going to make it again in high school, forget it. Go get a job and prove to your mum that you are not wasting your time loitering around.Meanwhile upgrade yourself by attending courses that will help in improving the skills you are good at. If you are determined to be successful by being hardworking, you can make it. Tell your mum, being highly educated is not the only source to being successful. If I'm not mistaken one of the world's richest men was a school dropout, mind you. So boy, work hard and aim and upgrade yourself at a skill and you will make it one day.And also remember, mix with good friends because if you mix with bad company, you will never going to make it to success.May GOD bless you with a bright future, as GOD helps those who have faith in HIM and themselves.
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Your mother is doing her best to make you feel so unsure of yourself that you will obey her. She, believe it or not, has good intentions. She just thinks the important thing is your obedience. She isn't really capable of teaching you anything worthwhile and has proved it. Try to avoid conflict with her while doing what feels right to you. If she gets in your face too often, just refuse to talk to her. \n\nIt would be good if you could print out the page with this question and answers and leave it around where she would find it.
883487
Get sam or the carrot to do it for you. maybe your crazy mother will help.
946376
Show her some of your "A" tests and remind her that you are a much better student than many parents can bribe their kids into being, with the suggestion that this is a sort of reward- you are a good student and can stand to miss a half-day of school. Explain calmly and clearly your points about the teachers expecting students to not show up. You can also mention how even the school administration didn't feel it was necessary to have a whole day of school- aren't the last three hours of school just as important as the first five? Make sure to present your points maturely and rationally, without any whining, and your mom is sure to be impressed and agree to let you stay home.\n\nIf she makes you go anyway, you can skip homeroom and your classes and just hide in the library and read. Make it a 5-hour discover-interesting-books day, it'll be awesome. I wish I had a 5-hour block of time I could devote to just browsing a library, I need to expand the types of books I read and I've glanced at really interesting titles that I never had time to check out. Like ventriloquism, learn ventriloquism! You'll be able to screw with people for the rest of your life.
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I see both sides.   It is just your first year, maybe you need to give it more time, and ask for help from the university to make it not so hard.    Maybe you need to switch the subject to something that you find interesting.  I am sure that she still loves you.  She is probably overwhelmed by her fear that you will struggle (maybe as she has as a single mom)   I am sure she just wants what is best for you.    I never got to go to college, and didn't want to when I was 18.  But I am 36 now and totally regret it.  I would almost give anything to go back and get that degree.  Besides I read that ANY college degree automatically gives you at least $23,000 a year in salary more than a person without one!  That's amazing.   You need to sit down with you and talk about the options.   Maybe you can come with some alternate ideas on how to succeed.   Maybe something else is going on with her?   If you haven't been around so much because of college, I am sure it's hard to deal with as well for her if you two were really close.   Try to get her to talk, and let her know that you understand her fear, that you won't get a degree.   Tell her that you want to figure out how to get that in some other way.
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Dear, we are all the same. But what u r to do is to ask God for forgiviness, repentance n help. Then call ur mom after dinner tell her u have to discuss with her. Then appollogise to her kneeling down with tears on ur eyes tell her to give u the second chance. I believe that with the tears in ur eyes, she will agree n forgive u n forget . but mind u, she will be looking forward n vwatching u to know if there is any improvement in u. so better be careful. \nthanks n God bless u more abundantly.
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Fool, I'm in late high school too, and after reading your current inquiry, some of your other questions, and some of your responses, I can say one thing with certainty...\n\nYou're being pretty homosexual lately...\n\nNow, excuses aside, you HAVE TO MAN UP!!!\n\nWhen she rejects your soul into oblivion, don't sit there and "feel like [you] don't want to live anymore." You f***in' sit back and play it like you got ALL the answers...\n\nShe doesn't want to be with you, so what? Fool, you gotta let her know there is plenty other p**** out there for you, and Hell yeah you funna go and get it. \n\nGirls don't want someone who can be calm, compassionate and emotional, they can already do that themselves. They need someone who's going to be strong and just show them how to live. That's tight if you're not stoked that she doesn't want to be with you right now, and she never will want to if you let her think she's in control. You need to go out and be the mother-f***in' boss of the hood, and let her know, what time it is...
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The way to solve any problem is to look at it carefully, then come up with a plan...\n\nSo why does Mom think you're irresponsible? Do you do things like homework, and chores, without fuss or complaint? Does she have to ask you several times to do something? \n\nHave you been up to anything recently that she told you not to do?\n\nIf your track record here isn't great, it's time to lay a better foundation -- plan on a few months of being  a model citizen to prove yourself before approaching the topic again.\n\nOkay, so if you've got that part - you do your homework, do your cchores promptly without whining, haven't been up to anything that got (or would get) you in trouble, then it's time to lay it out professionally.\n\nYou ask to meet with your parents. Before that, you write out:\n\n> the reasons why you want to work ("I'd like to earn money for movies"  "It will look good on college applications and resumes late" whatever your reasons are)\n\n> your plan for making sure the job doesn't interfere with school ("I'd only work during school breaks"  "I'll only work one day a week" whatever your plan is)\n\n> anything that argues that you're responsible enough to handle it \n\n> what you could gain from working ("money for clothes"  "I'll put half of what I earn into savings for college" "experience working with other people" etc.)\n\nThen you meet with them and give them a copy of all of this.\n\nUnderstand that they still might say "no."  If so, ask them, calmly, why they're saying "no." Discuss it with them, calmly, but don't throw a tantrum - that will just prove that you're not mature enough.\n\nIf they do say "no," ask them to help you figure out another way to earn money. Good luck!
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First, visit this website http://www.gamblersanonymous.org then have them get you in touch with some local help. They will be more experienced in helping you on how to start talking to your mother and how to eventually get her the help she needs. \nMy only advise as far as short term goes is to make sure that you are in control of as much as possible until the above happens. Good Luck!
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hummmm...my advice, start talking to ur mom abt it and like start to cry and tell her abt how ppl were going out since 6th grade and uv been saving urself 4 some1 thts worthwhile...and mabey even trow in a lil bit of"i want a pure relationship...nothing phisical!" if she has a heart she'll give in or at least reconsider it!!\nhope i could help!!\n**~Lauren~**
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Spiritually, never put all your faith in another person, may it be your parents or friends. Instead focus on God, He will never fail you. If you believe in another world better than this one you are in, and that you will go there someday, you will learn to let go of your dark past and move on doing beautiful things in life.\n\nPractically, you need to confide in your mum and ask her to talk to your dad. He may need professional counselling. This is a adult-to-adult problem, it is way beyond your comprehension and control. Meanwhile, be patient and concentrate on your studies instead.
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Oh kiddo, I feel for you, but that's something your mom and dad have to work out on their own.  Whether they do get back together or not is no reflection on you and whatever the outcome it'll be all right eventually, promise.
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Make some lists...for and against each school.  Then think about living with your family...or living with your grandma....another list for and against.  Make sure you talk to your grandma about the  rules and expectations of her home.   Then talk to your mom again.   this is the first of many hard decisions you will have to make in your life...think also about what high school may look better to any college you are thinking of attending....Good luck.
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I am sorry for what has happened to you, you feel abandoned and you think you have no one but you always have yourself.  She probably took the ornament for a reminder of you and she probably feels guilty for treating you and your brother bad.  You now have to make your life what you want it, you can use this as an excuse all your life and not have your dreams come true or you can use this as a motivation to make your life and your future family lives wonderful.  Talk to your mother and tell her how you feel, let it all go and then walk away knowing that you have done everything in your power to make the relationship work and make your life work now.  good luck
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Open communication and hold back judgement as much as possible.  The more comfortable she is with you, the more she'll open up and tell you about her life.  \n\nMy mom and I really had problems when I was a teenager (I'm guessing that's how old your daughter is), but we started to understand each other when I went away to college.  Now she and I talk a few times a week or more.  Hang in there!  :)
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you are sooo lucky, because I am the youngest of 4 (go class of 06) and I have everything ready.\n\nShes going to cry a lot. Let her. Give lots of hugs on move in day.\n\nBefore you leave for move in, leave a present in her closet or a drawer and tell her you left her a surprise for when she gets home. A mushy card and a framed picture of the two of you is good. \n\nbefore you go, tell her that you need to adjust to the first two weeks of school and send her an email once a week. After you have a routine down, tell her which day (and time) you can talk to her for a little bit. \n\nInvest in picture phones (and an unlimited messaging plan) and send pictures of you at school (in the library, here's your friends, etc.) She will like knowing that you are okay.\n\nIf she gets really worried or missed you, tell her (or teach her) how to send a POL message. POL is "proof of life" so she isnt worried about you being cold or hungry. Send a text or take a pic of you and send it back as soon as you can. (it's easier than 8 million phone calls.)\n\nthe trick to keeping your mom okay is to keep making her feel needed- its part of why she is upset. Send her an "I would love some cookies..." note or a say that you could really use some socks/underwear/shirts (even if you dont) because she'll feel good about helping.\n\ngood luck at school.
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both be with your mom and then just tell her something came up and you have to go and problem solved!!! i've done it and it worked!!