Is it wrong for a parent to guide their child in understanding sexual pleasure, along with responsibility?
613918
You sound like you have good intentions but teach them first that there is alot more to life than sexual pleasure. Make sure they are old enough also to understand what responsibility is because they will most likely remember the pleasure part and forget the responsibility part. Just be very careful and use good judgment.
940457
Some parents have the misconception that if they ignore the "sex" issue that their children will not be curious about it. That is unfortunate. I had many young ladies come through the hospital where I used to work who were pregnant mostly because they were uneducated in the sexuality department.All children should be taught sex and they should be taught from the parents moral standards and background. I think some parents don't know how to approach the subject with their kids. I also think that many are uncomfortable with their own sexuality so it makes it very hard for them to talk to their kids and explain something that they are uncomfortable talking about themselves.
146287
Yes!  Sometimes even at very young ages.  What isn't healthy is for a parent or an adult to tell a young one that it IS wrong...or he/she'll go blind etc.  At thirteen, the child should have had some sex ed in school and "the" talk with his/her parent and masturbating should be a part of that talk....Along with the explanation of sex and masturbation, should be a talk about the need to do so in privacy if/when it is done....and if it is a male...to clean up his mess...himself!
992307
Parents aren't being mean, just teaching their child a lesson and the facts of life. Many things parents do are for their children's health and help. I mean you have to teach discipline one way or the other right.
505515
The parent needs to decide when it is comfortable for them.  Some parent can hire a sitter to care fo a child even before birth.  Others may feel best to wait until the child is 5 or more so the child can tell the parent if something inappropriate occur.  But I think the bottom line is the parent needs to do what is in that parents heart and feels to be right.
624319
No, don't involve the boys father that smacks of punishment.  Look, sex is going to happen, and is probably already happening, (would you admit to your mom that you're having sex at 15).  But try as hard as you might he is only I would say a year or so early going to the non-virgin party.  I would have a conversation with him about the risks of sex, and make sure he is using protection, because try as you might you cannot control what he does 24x7 and if he is having sex, or has a girl who is willling to have sex... there isn't anything you can do to stop it... All you can do is be a parent for him and help him to make a smart decision about how to have sex.  The time for teaching him somthing is past, all you can do now is be a guide for him, and show him the proper path, and hope he takes it.  Good luck my dear, and I hope this helps.
856990
It's all on me, baby! Sometimes I blame my parents for the way the raised me, but for the most part I take responsibility for my problems. I usually chalk it up to inexperience. Life doesn't come with an instruction manual.
134881
That is something you should discuss with their parents. Different parents think different levels of punishment are appropriate. Some parents may say deny them TV or a snack or put them to bed early. I doubt if many will tell you to spank them (spanking should be administered by parents anyway, IMO).\n\nBottom line is that it is the parents responsibility to assign discipline. Don't do anything to them until you discuss it with the parents - IF you want to keep the babysitting job.
726550
It should be taught in school that the act of sex is sacred and should be considered a very special moment between a man a wife.  Kids that young are too imature to completely understand how complicated it is.  That is why the school systems/governements shouldn't be giving out birth control, or saying it's ok if you get pregnant and want to have an abortion.  What ever happened to suffering the consequences of making bad decisions?  That is how you grow as a person.  It's ok to make mistakes if you own up to them.  The solution is to not make sex seem like such a casual thing, so that young people don't find it so acceptable. There is still hope.
459960
No doubt, it is a contributing factor.  In addition, you have a lack of guidance by parents who are both forced to work in conjunction with selfish parents only concerned about their own needs.  They do not spend quality time with their children when they can, and they appear to be concerned with their own pleasures rather than their children's emotional needs.
180797
No there are some things that the parents should take responsibility for. Second it might be somewhat OK but I don't want people teaching my kids wrong morals. I think it's sad that parent can't sit down and talk to their kids. I don't want it cheapened by someone who doesn't have the same morals as me or the same beliefs.  Everything is being tainted now adays. They really need to stick with the education that will help them with college and getting the skills they need to go forward. There are also too many groups who would want to put there two cents in and I don't agree. You would have the heterosexual theme then the gay theme and everyone would want equal time given to their preferences. Lets stick to the basics of Reading Writting and arithmetic.
50130
Good parents have to sometimes provide discipline. At times it may be in the form of spanking...\n\nAs long as it doesn't physically hurt the child it's ok.
447902
Huge debate there... not sure where to start.\n\nPros:\n-Educates the masses about STDs.\n-Educates the masses on reproduction and general knowledge of health issues and care for ones reproductive system.\n-Takes the stress off of the parents who may feel too embarrased to discuss with thier children.\n-Offers relief to those who wonder if the changes they are experiencing are "normal".\n-Helps remove the shame western cultures have towards sexuality.\n-Demystifies controversial topics like homosexuality.\n-Give a third party the opportunity to observe behaviors in the student that may suggest sexual abuse.\n-Educates student on safety issues.\n\ncons:\n-Does not (and should not) explain moral issues.  This is the sole responsibility of the parent, not the government.\n-Does not give the parent the decision of what time is best for thier child to be exposed to sexual topics.\n-Does not (and should not) cover religious issues. Also the sole responsibility of the parent.\n-Invites curiosity in the students which might lead to experimentation.\n-Introduces students to topics that parents may not approve of, like homosexuality.\n-Depending on the maturity and psychological state of the student, could create fear or anxiety.\n\nMy personal opinion, I am pro-education on all topics.  My only request is that the schools let me know the curriculum and agenda so that I can cover the topics with my child first.  She should understand our families moral and religious views before she is introduced the topic by a stranger or government employee.
440459
i think that is only being responsible as a parent.  i don't see where there is any problem. if the school has a problem with this i would ask them why and what guidelines if any they have for this situation.first and foremost the wishes of the child and parent should come first.
1084038
Parents may or may not be teaching girls they don't have to have sex. You can't tell if they are or not by the behavior of the teen. Teens do respond to the influence of their parents, but not as much as they did when they were nine years old. \n\nThis is not to mention the desires of the girl herself, which may be the most determining factor in her behavior after all.\n\nAs parents we try to instill morals and a healthy disdain for media influences, especially if they are selling things, but a girl has got to do what a girl has got to do and parents won't stop her if she makes up her mind no matter what it is. Girls engage in many different risky behaviors and it is hard for parents that try to teach them better and then must help girls deal with dire consequences. \n\nParents should try to use what influence they have AND people should realize a girls actions are her own and not due only to their parents teaching.
521467
You just talk about it openly. You don't need to disclose what you do behind closed doors. He probably all ready knows more about sex than you would like. No parent likes the idea that their kid could be having sex, but make it OK for him to have a condom with him. It's better to protect than to loose him to Aids or to be a parent before he is ready. If he asks a question be straight forward and if you aren't sure of the answer you should give make an effort to get it for him. This subject is not an easy one for discussion, but you'll do just fine.
475230
Parents can try and teach their young children how to behave but because kids that young don't have the brain development to understand WHY they need to be quiet the only way to insure obedience would be to physically punish them and even that might not work. Children and their parents shouldn't be penalized because the learning experience is rocky sometimes. Try and be a little more patient, especially because some children have disabilities like Autism which are not immediately apparent to the layperson and which may cause behavior that would look like they were "being a brat". As the mother of an Autistic three year old I can tell you that the dirty looks when my son is having trouble do not make this disorder easier to live with. I spend a lot of time teaching my son how to behave in public but he is just a little boy. Give us stressed out parents a break, huh?