What makes you stay in a relationship, even if you have doubts about the person you're in a relationship with?
611275
I think some people stay because being in a relationship with the wrong person is better than being alone.
510623
Trust is one of the most important things. If some cheated on me then I'd want to know.  Whether to continue with the relationship would depend on how you found out you were being cheated on. If he or she came to you, then you know this person has a conscience and you may be able to continue with the relationship eventually letting go of the hurt from their indiscretion. But if they never said anything and you found out another way I think it would be best to let go of that relationship because there will be serious trust issues. I personally don't do the whole getting back at my significant other thing. If you have forgiven him/her then it wouldn't be fair to keep bringing it up or punishing them for what they've done. So if it's something you can't get past. Let go.
1106463
you never should stay w/ someone who hurts you..talk to someone..you shouldn't stay in that relationship...!
541989
I think everyone who is committed feels like they want to be free sometimes.  You have to realize that you are committed and before you go to someone else you have to end what your in the middle of FIRST.  Being in a relationship is worth it but you have to work hard at it.  AND BE FAITHFUL.
1020512
What makes him believe that the rumors were spread by you?  Are all the "evidences" pointing towards you?  Then first thing you have to do is disprove them.  Explain things to him and have friends back you up.  Relationships are built on trust.  If your friend/partner doubts you because of ONE RUMOR,\nmaybe trust is missing in the first place.   Ask yourself, then, "Is he worth keeping and fighting for?"
430665
one thing about love is that you will NEVER know that someone loves you.... however, time will reveal itself in how the person treats you.  Do they respect you and make you feel good about yourself?  Are you happy when you're with that person? Do you feel you can open up to the person and be consoled?  Is the person faithfully consistent with you?  Love is a constant....and love develops and grow with time. You cannot prove someone loves you....they SHOW IT!!!
1060880
you really shouldn't have to think so hard about it.  if he's not for you, he's not for you.  when you are with the person you're meant to be with, you don't have any doubts.  don't get involved with another person straight away though.  have some time to yourself before getting into another committed relationship and make sure it's for the right reasons.  don't waste your time with people who aren't right for you.
327911
Trust is in believing yourself. IF you feel confident with the person, you shouldn't have to worry about him cheating on you. Trust builds upon communication. As long as you talk everyday, tell each other what's going on in each other's life, then trust will continue to grow. you don't have to always be together to actually trust someone. Being together every single day gets boring. When you are apart from your loved ones, you miss them more and you want to see them more. Creates more sparks and excitement in the relationship. :)
600487
U still think of him/her almost everyday, u like to remember the good and bad moments spent together, u take his/her name often, u want to email, chat or sms (short message service) him/her. U often ask the question: how would been my life if I was still with him/her. And when u asking other people 'how do you knwo if you're still in love'.
141810
I think it's a personal question that has to be addressed individually. It depends on what is important to you. If you have an absolute need to know what the other person is like every day, all the time, then perhaps you should. Or if you believe in love and what a commitment to marriage means, then take the faith that you love this person no matter what their personal habits. You can get to know a person's character without living with them, but again, it's up to you and them. As for strengthening a relationship, more studies show that it doesn't, but everybody's different. You also have to think about your potential kids and what kind of an example would you want to set for them? Years down the road what are you going to want to be able to say to them about moving in with their partners? That usually will reflect what is in your own heart and you should listen to that.
263145
This happens with ANY relationship. And it happens with everyone. Not a single soul on this planet can say that this thought has not crossed their mind.\n\nHaving said that, do you see all those going their seperate ways? No, right?\n\nSo at times when we are hard pressed and pushed to wall in a relationship, our thoughts invariably go to eliminate that pressure and which is "Wish I was single and not in this relationship..." \n\nNow, what is freedom? To do what you want to do? Well then what is a relationship? Freedom and Relationship doesnt go in parallel. You cannot eat your cake and have it. Compromise and Sacrifice are two strong pillars of a solid worthy relationship...\n\nIts all upto you to be rational and debate that thought with good things that are happening in your life because of this relationship and move forward.\n\nIf you still think "More Freedom" is what you want, I guess you should stay single... \n\n.:Fishie:.
401810
Just what do you want to make right?\nWork that out and ask the question again.\n\nA lot of times people leave one relationship but don't resolve any of their own issues. They know what the other person did wrong, and they know they wern't happy. The problem is unless we ourselves grow and change, we will most likely just repeat the same mistake over again with a new partner.
264059
you don't. but then again, you don't know that he is. if you would have a reason to suspect it, then your relationship has underlying issues of trust.
717199
Time works out everthing.*\n\nTrust is one of the main things in a relationship.
842402
Thats a tough one to handle.I have been devorced 6 years now.After my ex did her thing I tried to date off and on for awhile but something kept me from getting serious with someone.I noticed that everytime I found a person I liked and wanted to get to know better this nagging feeling would get in the way.\nI thought about this for sometime and realized that it was me and trust was the issue.A couple of the ladies I dated told me that I had put up a wall and they couldn't find a way to get around it.Lately I haven't had as hard of a time trusting someone but its still there.I'm not sure if it will ever go away completely.
584158
Your issue is trust, correct? Ask yourself these questions:\n\n1. How important to you is trust in a relationship?\n\n2. Are you willing to allow trust to be continually compromised in a relationship you choose to be in that may ultimately fail because of this trust being broken over and over and in turn then make you feel unable to ever trust another person in a later relationship.\n\n3. Is the answer to question #1 VERY and the answer to question #2 NO ?\n\nI would never presume that you would make decisions about your life by allowing me or anyone else to directly influence those decisions but I think you can see where I'm going with this. So, believing you're a good, bright and sensible young woman I'll leave you to make your own decision and wish you the best in whatever you may decide.\n\nGood Luck !!
925206
I have been in an abusive ( all 3, primarily emotional and verbal) relationship for almost 13 years now, married for 8. I think what initially keeps you in an abusive relationship is that although you know that something doesn't feel quite right, you don't really look at it as abuse. Then when you know what it is, you are in denial and you make excuses for the person because you love them. You then think that your love can change them or that if you change that they will change. Sometimes you stay because you're scared to do everything on your own or because you have children. You want everyone to think that you have the perfect family and life. You then realize that the problem is within that person and there's not anything that you can do to change them. That's where I am now and I am currently being proactive with my exit plan. I hope this helps. lots of love, V.