I need help in writing a letter to the judge on character of my son-in-law to ask for leniency. HELP?
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Most judges get tons of these letters everyday and unfortunately they won't really help.  The best advice is to write a concise, but detailed letter that emphasizes your strong points and just hope for the best.
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I would send him a letter informing him that you have contacted a lawyer regarding the matter and the issue needs to be solved by such-and-such date. After that? Small claims court. Take it to Judge Judy!
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Just a simple letter stating the following will do.\n\nDear Sir/Madame\n\nThank you for your letter dated (..../..../.....)\n\nPlease could you keep my details on file & contact me should anything suitable come up in the future.\n\nThank you for time & I look forward to hearing from you in the future.\n\nYours Sincerely.
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Your first mistake was giving a cell phone to a punk 12-year-old. \n\nUnless you are planning on divorcing your wife, the woman who is your mother-in-law is going to STAY your mother-in-law. That being said, you have a few options:\n\nOption 1: Do not retaliate against her. She knows what she did was wrong. Instead, focus all of your energy on getting right with your 12-year-old, including - and maybe most importantly - counseling, to help the child figure out what is behind all the self-destructive behavior. Sounds to me like this is one angry kid, and, given the dysfunctionality of your family, I can't say I blame the child. Sounds like there is a lot to be angry about.\n\nOption 2: Get a lawyer and file charges of false reporting (which lead to your arrest) against your mother-in-law. You may be awarded compensatory damages like loss of wages and defamation of character (which is pretty hard to prove). This result would put a few sheckles in your pocket, but will certainly do nothing to bring any peace to the family. By bringing charges against your mother-in-law, you will effectively drive a wedge between her and your wife, which may already exist and will certainly be made worse by this action. You have to decide if it is "worth it" in the long run. It is highly unlikely that your mother-in-law will be sentenced to any jail time, so, put that revenge pipe-dream to rest.\n\n3. File action(s) in Court to prevent your mother-in-law from having contact with your children. This will likely not be granted, as one of your kids is already in her custody. The best you can hope for is that the Court will agree that the woman is somehow a threat to the children and will mandate that her visitation with the children be supervised. \n\nCourts make decisions based on what THEY perceive to be "in the best interests of the children". Judges have seen it all and don't really care how mad you are about what happened. Your best bet, in the long run, would be to arrange for family counseling. This action on your part will go a long way to show a Judge that you, too, are taking the children's best interest to heart, and putting their welfare ahead of your own agenda.\n\nI understand why you are so mad. YOU need to understand that your anger - while justified - will likely not get you anywhere given the way Courts look at things these days. Keep a level head and you will be more likely to prevail. One last thing - my own personal experience in Family Court is - the one with the most expensive lawyer "wins". Sad & disgusting, but true.
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Instead of writing down the changes I feel you should make, I have copied your composition and put the changes in capital letters, replacing the words you used. I hope this helps. Feel free to ignore them! You write English very well. You should be proud of what you have achieved.\n\n\n        John was an ordinary worker, a man who loved his family, living a simple life. Common and contented, he had never asked for more THAN a happy and healthy family. However, the only request he asked was not permitted by (TOOK OUT THE) God.\n\n        One Sunday afternoon when John was watching his son playing baseball, his son, Michael fell down in front of him. The hospital told him and his wife, Denise, that Michael suffered from serious heart disease and that he needed an emergency heart transplant operation. An operation, which seemed easy, required massive bills that he could never afford. The insurance company wasn’t willing to pay for it. So he tried every means he could conceive to raise money. Though time passed, the money he raised was so little that his son even couldn’t get ONTO the waiting list. The image of a dying son and desperate wife was unbearable. John Q, therefore, decided to take a risk to save his son.\n\n        This great father barricaded himself inside the emergency room and took people there hostage (TOOK OUT S). There were patients among these people and some of them even needed immediate treatment. John didn’t ignore them but asked the doctors in the emergency room to do their best to treat them. They then knew that John wasn’t as bad as they thought and that he was a great father.\n\n        Meanwhile, the police besieged the hospital which was surrounded by news REPORTERS and live anchors. John had to negotiate with the people. He promised he would release hostages on condition that the hospital PUT his son ON the waiting list. The police tried every possible way (TOOK OUT S) to cheat him INTO releasing hostages; and at the same time COMMISSIONED a sniper to shoot John. Fortunately, the sniper missed his target and John suffered only a light injury. In the meantime, John’s story of saving his son as well as (TOOK OUT ALL) the situation (TOOK OUT S) in the emergency room was broadcasted by TV news to the whole nation.\n\n        Watching all the scenes on TV, the hospital manager was moved and decided to arrange Michael to the operation. She told Denise they would operate on Michael as soon as a feasible heart was donated. Denise was happy, but then she started worrying about whether Michael could wait until THEN. She told John about this. And again, John faced another ambivalence.\n\n        Loving his son, John couldn’t help but decide to give his own heart to Michael. He told everyone in the emergency room his decision and asked the hospital to send Michael there. Everyone tried to dissuade him, but turned out to be convinced by John’s faith and love. At the very point John was going to shoot himself, the hospital received the heart which was perfectly COMPATIBLE to Michael. And Denise managed to tell John about this in the last moment.\n\n        AT the end of the movie, everyone in the emergency room was released SAFELY. John saw Michael’s operation succeed; his new heart beat dynamically again. And then, he handcuffed himself and was taken by the police. Except for the crime OF captor, he was PROVED innocence. Even though he was still put in jail (TOOK OUT AT LAST), he thought it WAS worthy. After all, he had saved his beloved son, Michael.\n\nReflections\n\n        The main idea of this movie may be the great love of a father, but further, it shows the black side of modern civilizations. The devotion John HAD as a father can be SEEN easily in the movie. But if the great love of a father is a self-evident part of the movie, it is far from the most important, I think. The same kind of situations (even worse ones) can be found easily nowadays everywhere in the earth; many people may have b
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I have no faith in the judicial system at all and I have heard it said if you want justice then the judicial system is the last place you will find it.  It is a game between laywers and it really doesnt matter what the truth is...the lawyer who is the better one usually wins.  Common sense does not play a very big role in the judicial system and I would say from what you have said a Judge would be mad to give the father unsupervised visits...but most judges are too old and decrepit to make a common sense decision.  I dont know of any other job where someone can stay in such a responsible job when they are so old.  I would get a good lawyer, but that doesnt mean to say your son will be safe.  If I were you, I would move a long way away, not out of the state,  just a long way away so as your husband will have to travel too far to have these visits, and if he is so engrossed in drugs then he is not going to spend money on gas to see his son.  I think the fact that he hasnt seen him for a month is proof that he is not really interested.  I think you and your son would probably be a lot better off without him in your life.  Drugs do terrible things to a persons brain and I would not trust any child of mine with a user.  Like I said, I have no faith in the judicial system, so there is no guarantee that he wont be allowed unsupervised visits.  Just get the best lawyer you can and cross your fingers that the Judge isnt so old as to have his brain clouded by Old timers disease....lol.  I know its no laughing matter, it is serious....but I cannot take the judicial system seriously at all, and if the matters werent so serious then it would be laughable.  Like I said, I would take my son a long way away so as to make it hard for the father to have access.  Sometimes that is not an option though, so your next best option is to get the best possible lawyer.\n\nI wish you all the luck in the world.
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Your son did good by leaving and should counter file against her for filing false police report. Also if there were any adult witness in the facility it would be best for him to get statements form them to take with him that he was the bigger person and left.
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Slip him a small plain white envelope which contains a sheet of paper on which you have written a note which says\n\nTHIS NOTE ENTITLES THE BEARER TO ONE FULL THREE DAY WEEKEND WITH ME FOR THE PURPOSE of FATHER/SON or DAUGHTER BONDING.\n\nThis note is redeemable only by (your father's name here) and is guaranteed to be good for the term of my lifetime.\n\n                   Sign it here:_________________________\n\n                   Witnessed by:____your Mom signs here__
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Skip the sir or madam.. just address it to the court or to whom it may concern.\nStart out with, "I have know (full name) for (number) years"\nAll your life isn't enough.. say the number. \nMention any and all nice things they have ever done for you or others that you witnessed.. include jobs of length and/or volunteer/community work. Your trying to create a positive letter so keep it that way.
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go to the court house or write them a letter and tell them what u want they should be able to help u
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Hi, I keep a low profile when visiting my Alzheimer's Patients husband. He is in a care facility. It sounds to me that in your caring so much about your sons father, perhaps you have reacted to the lack of proper care he is receiving.\n\nThe law is on your side. He needs an advocate from the system to monitor his care. You pissed somebody off.\n\nYou might suggest that the authorities check on him in the middle of the night. They will look in his mouth with a flashlight, to see if his teeth are being brushed. Also, he should be re-positioned in his bed, and his depends checked, every two hours minimum. \n\nIf you just back off, and it sounds like you have, they will drop their guard, and then someone can nail them. Your son has rights to see his father, and unfortunately you might have to play hardball another way. Someone in this format must have the particulars on what you can do. This can effect your well-being, esp. if you are on SSD. \n\nSounds like he was dehydrated, I assume that is what you meant, when you said his Depends were dry for a long period of time. I think you just need to Zip your Lip, and hunker down, and get the proper Authorities on your side. The system is corrupt. During my training for Alzheimers, I fought for the rights of the Patients, along with another C.N.A, and a Nurse. \n\nMany issues were never resolved. At that time, I was encouraging relatives of the Patients, to visit at unusual times to view the subtle abuses\n\nUnfortunately, the abusers already had an anchor in the Facility, and it was impossible for us to make any changes. It went to the top. I finished my Certifications and left the facility, as did my co-workers who really cared.\n\nSounds like you need to step back, send in a spy with a camera, and a time stamp on it. I used to see people in another section, sitting in their wheel chairs, waiting  three to four hours, to be taken to bed. No hygeine, just flopped in bed. The way they landed, was the way they were all night. I would walk down the hallway, and try to make them comfortable. \n\nAlso I  had three old Vets with Hep. C. I was reported to the upper staff, for wearing Nitrile gloves to hand feed bread, etc.,to keep from transferring from one patient to another.The Facility had no Universal Precautions in place. (how to handle blood etc.) I know exactly what you are talking about with his care.\n\nWe had a little **** of a Gestapo, mean, mean mean. I told her, that for every mean thing she said to a patient, that I would be right behind her, saying something nice. I went nose to nose with her on many occasion.\n\nIt is true that Caregivers are over worked and under paid, but when on burn out, guess who suffers.\n\nWell, I hope you can work your way back to what you had with your son and his father. He still needs you. You will find a way. \n\nDon't talk to his Guardian at this time. It is just ammunition for her.\nCan you send him a bouquet of flowers, say from neighbors gardens for him through a friend? \n\nHe will have a Caregiver that will tell him it is from you. There is always the good and the evil. The good will win over.\n\n\n\n\n.
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You will need a good lawyer, whether you are innocent or guilty.\n\nI would suggest a sincere letter of apology regardless.\n\nMean people suck!
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It's kind of hard asking that question since I'm American and I know the American guidelines.\nThe only thing I can think of is to contact your court system.  Let them know your husband is a bigamist(means being married to more than one person) and that he's living in a different country and what can you do to make things right for yourself along with putting him in his place.
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You may have grounds for an appeal based on disclosuer laws.  All evidence must be made available to the jury/judge.  Your husband will have to change his plea to "not guilty" and demand a trial. At this point the judge will determine if their is prosecutorial misconduct.  Good Luck
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If its in response to a ruling of his, you can appeal to another court. IF its a complaint against a judge himself, try speaking with your state's Bar Associaton. Judges were once lawyers and are STILL subject to the rules governing them. Even if not, its still a good place to start. Good luck
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Call the local bar association in that county.  They should be able to hook you up w/ someone who will take the case on a contingency basis.
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I hate to say it but I believe you have a reason to be concerned about your soon to be ex-husband's visits to your son even though they are supervised.  \nMy suggestion would to make sure your attorney has the information.  Due to his past history make your request for supervised visitation be a non negotiable point in the divorce.  Make sure your attorney brings it up to the judge.  Usually at some point the judge will ask you if you have anything to say.  Tell him/her yes.  Explain the abuse and drugs and so on to the judge.  Have it written down at least the key points so you remember everthing you want to say to the judge that way you don't leave anything out.    \nAlso for your peace of mind, I would suggest you talk to a therapist or member of clergy to help you deal with your feelings about him and his behaviors.  \nSomeday you will find that special someone who will love you and your son.  He will be the best person for you and your son.  \nBest of luck