What do you do if your friend chooses you over a guy?
601907
aw man try to understand why and talk this over with them, may be you are sending mixed signals, i have done that, but i am just friendly and others take it the wrong way. just tell them your true intentions and be nice, good friends are really hard to come by! friends rule!
726091
just remember that friends are always gonna be there but sometimes you have them friends that dont care about your feelings as long as they get wat they want i say if the guy likes you try to work it out but make sure that if you were to lose your friend hes worth losing her over do wat you think is best but really think bout it
62271
May the best friend win!  But if he picks her, still be friends with her!\n\nAnd if he picks YOU, have him select one of his friends to introduce her to.
736353
Say you chose him...duh!!!\nAnd really mean it that you dont like the other guy...
517433
well. If it were me I would go with what i think is right. If I really like the guy I would first have a chat with my friend and see what she would think. If the guy likes u not her, then there is not much point in letting him go if ur friend isn't gonna beifit from it any! hope that helps!!!
204962
I've been in this situation before and i know how u feel. YOu want to go out w/ the guy but u want to stay loyal to your friend. I think you should confront your friend and tell her how you feel about him.. ask her if she would mind if you asked him out or something...if she gets mad..is that really a good friend? i mean of course your a "bit" jelous of her and she is most likely a "bit" jelous of you...well she certainly will be after you tell her your feelings..but thats ok..like i said, is she really a friend if she gets mad that you like him, and want to go out with him? we all get feelings about people and we cant control them..thats part of growing up..part of life..everyone goes thru it..just try to get past...live your life at your most!! hope i helped!! best of luck to you! =D! <3
643992
dont fight over a guy it doesnt worth it... wait and see which one of u got a chance. dont lose a friendship because of a guy!!!!
85774
flip them in the air, which ever one comes down heads up, choose him. just kidding ,I think you already know the answer to this question, go by your gut feeling.
730396
You need to decide, do you want more than friends, or nothing?\n\nBecause most likely the friendship is over when you reject him.\n\nThe best thing to do is whatever is best for you.
863196
You sound like your trying not to hurt this person by rejecting him, my dear, there are many ways you can be nice about rejection,  be considerate, dont be rude about it, smile when your rejecting him, but for goodness sake, be honest. As for the friend, depending on how close friends they are, I think I would leave going out with him for awhile, but explain this also to him, let him know that you feel at this time it would inconsiderate to his friend.  Maybe they dont discuss things because I would have thought if they are real friends, they would have discussed that either one was asking you out. That way if they are setting you up, in other words, sometimes men, boys, make stupid bets with each other to see who can conquer you first, it will also let them both know, you are not an easy target, but anyway, be friendly and pleasant to both of them, but be on your guard also.  Good Luck
771567
If both of them like you and you like both of them the choice is yours. You have to thinkabout who you are more comfortable with, can see dating and can see a future (like.. who would you be dating longer). \n\nI basically did that. I like these two guys. One is fun and the other one is smart. Both are cute but I had to choose and I chose the smart one 'cos I can actually REALLY be just myself around him and he's smart (like me, lol) so we can actually talk about stuff. Plus, he always amazes me. The other one is fun and all but we don't have that much in common other than liking each other. So try to assess who you would be better off with.
468485
That's kind of a question you need to answer yourself. But I can give you some advice. What you need to do is sit down and think. Get three separate pieces of paper and write down all of the good things/moments about each guy and see which one has the most. Don't end it at that though. Think it through and see which guy you would be better off with. Who cares what your friends think? The decision is up to you. Whichever guy you pick, tell the other guys you're sorry and you think __________ is the best for you. They will eventually move on and get a separate life. I hope my advice works out for you and good luck. -Cody
409394
First, sorry that first guy didn't feel the same.  Second, why did your friend say that to the second guy?  If you like this second guy as a friend, then his reaction shouldn't matter, he's your friend.  But to answer your question, it sounds like he feels like you do.  He is your friend.  Your friend is causing problems by asking this second guy.  My advice would be to approach the guys you like and not your friends do it for you.  It may be tough, but then you will know for sure.  It will make you a stronger person.  Good luck, there are a lot of fish in the sea.
702076
Does she know you like the guy?  \n\nIf she does...\nleave it on the guy to see if he is interested in either of you.  If he chooses you, she needs to respect that.  If he chooses her, you need to do the same.\n\nIf she doesn't...\nbe honest with her.  Tell her you are also attracted to this guy.  But assure her, if he does have feelings for her, you will respect their potential relationship.  If this guy hasn't professed feelings for her, then you haven't done anything wrong for liking him.  You can't steal something from someone if they never really had it.\n\nBut you need to be honest and respectful toward your friend.  This guy may come and go.  But you don't want the same to happen with your friend.\n\nBest of luck.
54101
what's worth more to you, your friend, or that boy? but, could you be able to be happy or at least neutral if you know your friend is going out with the guy you like? but, if you tell her that you like him, and then if she thinks your flirting with him, how mad will she get?\nif it was me, it'd just leave him for my friend because to me, my friends come before a possible boyfriend. if i can't be happy seeing them together, i'd just find some way to avoid them when they're together. but, the one thing i wouldn't do is to admit i like him, that'll probably make it harder on her and then i'd feel guilty.\nbut the choice is really up to you, whatever comes first in your heart and can you bear it to see them together? and telling your friend, decide if it's better to tell her or not to depending on how she'll react to it
1111056
Forget what your friend says, You are the one who is going to be dating the guy, not her. It doesn't matter who came first. but more who fits the position better...like a job position hehehe....who are you more compatible with and who can you get along better...who are you more interested in....whatever makes you happy is really what you should focus on instead of which guy's feelings youll end up hurting
740491
It's not fair to either of them for you to be with them both anyhow,. You are going to have to make a choice and pray that the one you don't choose will still care for you as a friend.