I was in a bad marriage how can i trust men again?
595287
if u go to the street and have an accident ...after that will u go again out or u will keep urself at home forever????
196962
Trust is really important in a relationship. If he is an understanding husband, he would have known that you didn't mean it. But as a caring wife, you should talk with him calmly and nicely that you love him and want him to forgive you. A little bit of "sorry" won't do anything bad to your health =)
704876
some do and some don't , most of the time I feel they do, but I have seen people that haven't cheated on their wives ever again, or else they got real good at sneaking around, I guess in time if you stay with him you will find out if he has or hasn't, its going to take alot of time for you to totally trust him again, Good luck to you
350706
I know how you feel. My ex-wife was cheating on me with one of my best friends. We also got divorced, and it was really rough for me for the first year or so. Every part of my life changed, all the routines changed, had to get used to being alone. There is no easy fix when your betrayed by someone you love and trust. Seems like everything you believed in was a lie. It helped me to lean on my family for support. It was hard at first because I felt ashamed, but believe me, you don't want to go it alone. Turn to your friends and family for help. Keep your mind busy, take a night class or something. It helps. Why did he do it? She told him what he wanted to hear. Maybe he thought he wouldn't get caught. Don't get caught up in the why and how, it will only make it worse. Don't get down on yourself, or blame yourself. He chose to do what he did, knowing that he was married. You didn't force him to do it, and you couldn't have done anything differently to prevent him from doing it. You are still a worthwhile human being, and you still have your life ahead of you. As time goes by, it will get easier. You might even realize one day, that your life is better now than it was then. Keep your head up, and good luck.
1056700
My first question is , if you felt you could Never trust him 100% why did you marry this man? Was it convenience? Get out, tell him its over your moving on blah blah blah.. I know its not that easy, trust me I know.. You know the old saying "been there, done that". Right now he's abusing your relationship, playing on your emotions, he knows how to get at you. Don't allow him, stand your ground. Your not happy there is no reason to continue this with him. Ask your friends for help or family.If that's not possible look into your local women's help shelter, there is help out there to get out of situations like this. If your unhappy there is NO reason to stay Hun.
166774
You are lucky you still have a husband!  Trust and forgivness takes quite some time when it comes to infidelity, but when you bring a child into this equation, it's a whole different story.  This is something your husband may never come to terms with and if your child is living in your household, and he is seeing the product of your infidelity, then it is even harder.  You may want to look into some counselling individually and jointly, because that maybe the difference between staying together and divorce. If he is willing to work things out and stay in the marriage, encourage him to seek counselling with you so he will get the tools to be able to put this mistake you made past him and love you through it. Good luck\nCondoms are a faithful friend, for the most part they never lets us down, consider that if there is a next time.
571510
How do you learn to trust again?\n\nSlowly, and cautiously. Use time to both heal your wounds, and give him opportunities to prove he is worthy of your trust. It's alot like that whole "first kiss" thing. No one can tell you when the right time is. Your heart has to let you know "Ok, it's fine", and that may or may not be right away. So you have to constantly ask yourself how you feel about it.
937593
i would talk to him and explain your feelings. My husband and I used to play fight and when things gor out of hand I think he thought I was able to handle the come back, because I was willing to play. Men often forget how strong they are. Once I explained to my husband he was hurting me everything changed.
151550
I am sorry to say this as the simple fact that you are asking  means you want to forgive your spouse. In my personal past experience as well as the experiences of my friends (both male and female) evrytime a cheater was taken back, they did it again. Some immediately, some years later, one with the same person (which hurts like you have no idea) and only ONE that has seemingly never done it again, BUT the trust has never been the same so the relationship has never gotten back to what it once was. Good Luck with your decision.
813755
Just remember that you always have control over your own situation.  If you are in a bad marriage don't be afraid to leave.  Get out of that comfort zone and don't let fear of the unknown stop you.
281110
Well i will tell you what i am in a similar situation and we are trying to rebuild the trust but if he is gonna do it again then there is nothing you can do to stop it so you should try not to worry too much and you just love that person as much as you can. I know it is easier said then done cause i am really haveing a hard time as well.
788470
Tippy, the only way you are going to be able to deal with this is to forget it.  When you start remembering, stop.  Imagine something brings a smile to your face.  It's not wrong to stay with a man that you love, even if he's cheated.  But honey, it's your mental health that is taking the punishment.  You are going to have to forgive and forget to make it.  It's not easy and it's not going to happen over night.  I am sorry, your heart breaking is got to stop before it completly breaks.  \n\nDoes your husband help you?  What I mean has he ask for forgiveness?  Does he show you emotional support?  Honey, you need for him to help you with this.  Believe it or not, you need him to help heal from this wound.  He needs to be more loving, and shows that he cares that he hurt you.  If he's just blowing it off, like it happen-get over it-then you may never be able to fully forgive him and stop the tears.  He's the kleenex, he's the one that needs to wipe them away with his love.  \n\nHoney, you must remove the images, clean out all the thoughts of them together.  You are grieving in a sense, you have been betrayed, and it's like part of you has died.  It hurts, and it's so hard, but it can be done.  If you want to save your marriage, you are going to have too!  Your husband may have be so wrong, but now it's your turn to make sure you don't make it worse.  If you feel the tears coming on-focus on something else. Anything, but that.  When you start, or catch yourself thinking remember this...it's in the past and today's a new day, each day it will get less and less.  Your husband has got to do his part sweetie.  You can't make a marriage by yourself,  No matter how much you love him, unless you are going to be a silent wife, and just let him do what he wants when he wants.  You deserve so much more than that.  You deserve to be loved and respected, it's your choice your decision rather to forgive, and if this is what you want to do, you must not dwell on it any longer.  Kick yourself in the butt, if you have too.  I am so very sorry, no one should have their heart broken like this, but you aren't alone, and many marriages have become stronger from living thru what you are going through right now.  So, please dry those tears, take a deep breath, and remember it's all your choice how you deal with it.\nPraying that your heart mends, and the memories are forgotten, and that you have the strength to know you are worth true love and respect from the one you GAVE your heart to.  \n\nGod bless us all............
696397
Oh, don't you just love being a woman!  As women, we tend to always want to mend anything, regardless of how much it's hurts us in the past.  My advice to "put the spark back into your marriage" would be to start doing absolutely NEW things together.  This way, you begin creating new memories that will hopefully be pleasing to you.  Then, these new memories can start to fade away the old negative ones and give you more of a sense of hope.  Also, if you believe in the Lord, pray about it.  Satan's best way to destroy you is to start in your home by separating the family.  He attempts to destroy that first, then begins working on you individually.
1090216
The simple answer is trust.  You do not trust the opposite sex.  Weather the divorce was your fault or your spouses you blame them.  You could have been the lyingest, cheatingest, most absent spouse in the world, but you still look at it as there fault.  We as humans almost always want to play the victim.  Now if you were the one that was cheated on and/or abused or what have you, then you might want to look into some form of therapy.  Either way make sure that the new person you are dating is not just a rebound (yes, you can have many of them).  find someone who will make you truly happy in life, not just in bed.  Find a friend before you find a lover!  Later dater.
1165029
Just go to him and tell him truth that you have broked his/her faith, You have done mistake and you not gonna do that again and also tell that u dun need their anwer as u just wanted him/her to excuse you. Be prompt. ur frnds gonna trust u again. I can't say the period but they will for sure gonna trust u again. But Just please dun break it again or try it.
1024304
oh darlin...i'm so sorry for what you are going through.  my husband is not that bad, i don't think...you just need to know for yourself that it happened.  give yourself the power by leaving and knowing that he has cheated.  leave him wondering why you left and if you left just because he cheated on you.  whatever you do, don't put up with that anymore...give yourself that much respect and it will help you down the line when things get hard.  good luck!
357900
You can't when ever you try to be intimate you will think he is thinking of someone else and you will never be able to trust him. You could look on the bright side that you aren't married to him. You have to think more of yourself and tell yourself that you deserve someone who will be faithful.The first time he cheats and hurts you it's not your fault. The fault comes when you let him have a chance to cheat again. And im sorry to say once a cheat always a cheat. If he loved you so much he could betray you once he will betray you again. Good luck