My fiance seems to be so insensitive.... What should i do>?
594751
Privacy does not go out the door when you become a partner with another person.  (Although I question how you two became fiances to each other and are just now running into this problem...)  You should not have asked him for his password; he is entitled to his privacy - that is where trust comes into play.  If you don't trust him, then you have no reason to be engaged to him.  And if you do trust him, then you have no need for his password.   \n\nI am not surprised that he didn't apologize.  He had nothing for which to apologize.  I am not surprised he didn't send your little "good morning" greeting --- not only is that a trival "courting" gesture that should simply pass as you two evolve into a deeper relationship, but if he HAD sent it after you had stomped off because he denied you something to which you had no right, it would have been a meaningless gesture.  (You want meaningless gestures in your relationship ?)  \n\nThe person rude and insensitve was you.  Insensitive because you thought nothing about attempting to invade his privacy and rude because you stormed off in a huff because he refused you that access. \n\nIf you have reason not to trust him, then you need to deal with the genesis of those reasons - directly, calmly, honestly, openly and be willing to accept the good, bad and ugly of human relationships.  That kind of maturity makes a relationship (not stomping off because you don't get what you want.)  If you are the one who is insecure without real reason (other than the spectre of the green-eyed monster), then you need to adddress that.\n\nThis incident is not the problem, only a symptom of something else the two of you need to work on.
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Is he your husband, or someone else's? \n\nNo matter.\n\nHusbands can be insensitive, crass, rude...etc, etc, etc. \nBe insensitive right back. See what happens.\n\nUnless, of course, he's not your husband. In that case, shame on you! \n:-P
850123
this reminds me of my relationship.. it's hectic. give him some time.. you already apologized to him. Tell him to call you whenever he feels like talking to you. GIve him some time you already said sorry so that's good that you've accepted your error.. but yea goodluck... try not to disrespect each other.. once you disrespect each other then it's really hard to work things out... and remember everyone has arguments... just be straight foward with him and tell him that you already apologized to him and to please not be in a bad mood... communication is the key! goodluck hopefully he's not moody anymore... and ask him why he's moody maybe something else was making him moody :P
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Dump him.  hahahaha just kidding.\n\nMaybe a few nights out with the girls will get him to stop taking you for granted, which is what I think you are telling me is going on.  When he starts to notice, don't be stubborn, don't deny it, say plainly, "Why shouldn't I?  You are taking me for granted!"  You might even walk out of the room to drive your point home.  Stay gone.\n\nGet in touch with him the next day and apologize for your "tantrum".  (if this is unlike you, all the better).  Let him know that you care about him and let him know you still want to do "special" things for him, but you can't be expected to stick around if he doesn't demonstrate his appreciation.\n\nDon't make a habit of fighting like this.  If he gets it, he gets it.  If he doesn't... well, I'm single. =)
371194
you move on.  He sounds really insensitive.  I think when someone shares their tender feelings of attraction that the least the person on the recieving end of it could be is nice.  It sucks when they don't care.
788040
Hi, \nI'm sorry to hear that your daughter is not thinking of you & just doing what her boyfriend wants. This really sounds like my daughters boyfriend. I would not cater to him or her. Just be polite & don't try to please him. I'm sure that you told her how you feel. If not then I would do that before the holidays. No matter how he is she is the one going along with spending the holidays with him & his family. So, even though he seems like a jerk, she is being insensitive to you & your husband. Tell her how you feel & if she still keeps doing that then don't invite her. Make you own plans without her. On top of this don't let him come into your home & show any disrespect either. I hope that this can help in some way. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving & holidays with or without her attending.
182392
If it's really bothering you, Talk to him. If he doesn't listen, then write him a letter or 3. If that doesn't work, let him cool off and try him again in a few months.
247318
Ignore him. He's feeding off your frustration. Just look the other way and pretend he's invisible. Good luck.
362497
Yea, my fiance is the same way.  That's just how he is real quiet and to himself.  I tried to force him to change for the longest time just like you.  \n\nFinally I compared him to someone who is developmentally disabled.  Even if you were to yell at them or threaten them or complain to them if they can't speak, they can't speak.  \n\nIf your bf is the same way with everyone else, doesn't open up to anyone else, then its not personal.  Look at him as socially disabled to a small point.  You can't change it with any amount of complaining.  He knows that he's inadequate at sharing his feelings already. So, don't rub it in.  He'll only close down more.  Choose to accept him as he is or move on.
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You need to sit down and talk with him openly and honestly about how you feel.  I always question when I think that there is something a little off and as this may be a good thing it can also be a negative asset to your relationship.\n\nIf you love your fiance then you need to straighten this out before entering into marriage.  If he has a tendency to exaggerate than maybe you can ease him into knowing that the truth is all you want.  \n\nIf he is cheating on you then I suggest you leave him behind and find someone who will be honest, loving and loyal to you dear.
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oh! i can definitely help you on that!\ni'm just like her! and you're just like my fiance.\nthough my trust issues are much better....\nhe messed up a few times in our relationship at the start, not cheating but we broke up and some other small things that added up so it got hard for me to trust, especially because the guys i had dated before him were the worst choices in males anybody could ever make.\n\nif she's had some relationships before you and she's always been the one hurt in them, she may be worried that it could happen with you both and she's a bit hesitant in letting the walls down complete....\n\nif you've done something in the relationship that's made her doubt.... compromise. my fiance and i have agreed on things i know will help, and i've told him "it's almost like a breakup, you just can't forget that easily, and it hurts so badly, but i knwo i can get over it with time"\nbe there for her, talk about it, dont let fights boil out of it, and if they do, don't end it just over that, relationships aren't easy (obviously) and they're meant to be very hard to show you "do i love this person" and if you can tolerate all of it then that's great.\n\ni'm just like her, i'm trying to forget things, but it's hard and so i read into every little thing and turn things around, or think too widely about them when really it just means what was said.\nsometimes women can overanalize things and sometimes we just would rather place judgement and be mad rather than think about it.\n\ngood luck, but please stick with her and talk to her about it.... you sound like my fiance and the world needs more guys like you who will (regardless of the tough times) stay no matter what becuause we're loved that much.\n\noh yes and how much do you know about her past.... if she had to be taken from parents, see why, maybe she saw how her father treated her mother, maybe he was abusive and cheated on her and such, and she saw it.... or heck maybe her mother did it to her father.... ther'es so many things that could be the underlying issue... stay with her and talk it out... you'll reach some agreement of what can be done and you'll be glad it's fixed in the end
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What is it with you guys?  Does communication mean nothing to anyone these days?  \n\nTalk WITH him (not TO him).  Let him know how you feel and, for goodness sakes, listen to what he has to say and try not to get offended if it's something negative about you.  Try not to be negative towards him, either.
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girl, i feel your pain. i have the mother-in-law blues as well.  she shouldnt be so intrusive and pushy. my fiance and i just had a falling out with his mother. our lives are so peaceful when they dont talk. i dont know how close your husband is with his mother, but there are lines you just dont cross and shes just testing you out. i dont know if your a blunt person or not like me, but you and your husband can both say it her so that she understands its the two of you who feel this way. not just you. you have every right to feel uncomfortable about someone knowing your finances and business period. but first talk to your husband before you talk to her. good luck.
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Sorry, but would you want your fiance to do this to you?  I personally think if its important to your man, you need to take his feelings into consideration and bring him with.  I would consider him controlling if he freaked about every guy you talked to, but not this.  I think he is right.
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i just got out of a four year relationship about three weeks ago .....we are still friends but he acted the same way your fiance is acting i finally realized that he's never going to change and i wasn't happy with it so i left him alone ...................u just have to be strong and not let him take advantage of u.......if u really love him ask him straight out how he really feels and tell him not to play games.......
730294
he probably thinks there is nothing to worry about and laughs that you are concerned..my fiance does the same thing if i act even the tiniest bit jealous or anything, he thinks it's cute. your fiance probably doesnt  see this woman as a threat
553456
I think you are really sweet! Jeez, I wish my guy was that sensitive. I am betting she loves you the way you are, and I wouldn't really change anything. Just tell her what you told us about what is in your heart!!