How do you "keep" a romantic relationship?  My history and one or two people have said I don't know how.
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Unfortunately, we cannot make someone feel the same way about us or want a long-term relationship.\nSounds like the men you have been involved with just are not ready for that kind of commitment. I would strongly take a look at the kind of men you are attracting and perhaps go out of your way ,and give a chance to, someone who isn't necessarily your type. Even if it means going slightly out fo your comfort zone i.e. perhaps the nice guy at the bookstore or checkout counter that you might have let slip by at first glance. By doing this you'll have opened up more doors to find someone who is on the same wavelength as you, and who shares the same relationship values.
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That's a tough one, maybe you two can hang out and try to avoid conversations that will stir up feelings from the previous relationship, but then it will seem like they are avoiding the situation, so maybe the best policy is to talk about whatever has happened and ask the person how do they think they can move forward. Maybe they may say they need sometime to themselves or something, or maybe you can suggest to them that they take up a hobby, like exercising, or jogging or something like that. Hope this helps!!!
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It sounds like he's committed to you so what's the hold up.  What do you want out of the relationship?  If you really love him tell him.  If you don't let him go. The relationship won't go anywhere if you hold it back.  Tell him how you feel or eventually you will lose him.
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open relationship isnt exactly a relationship of the caliber youa re describing. start with what a relationship is - you to your friend, a teacher, your pet. Everything you come in contact with has some sort of relationship to you, same as the partner you are in an open relationship with. In this situation, one member does not want to hold commitment to anyone, till they are sure they will be with that person for quite a while. go and have fun, and stop worrying about love so much, its nice but it will always happen again, if you put yourself out there.
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I will answer, despite i'm not quite sure about this.\n\nI have the idea of flirting like those things you do to try to get the atention of the other person you like, that would be smiling, talking about nonsenses, try to make funny things, taking so much care of your make up, and the way you look, all those kind of silly things we do to cath the atention.\n\nBut once you got his / her attention far enougth to have a date, and once you start the serious conversation, and the knowing each other stage, i would say the flirting is over. \n\nAnyway, even when you already have an stable relation ship, some how the flirting does never have to end. You have to keep that all the time that your relation continues, even if you get married. \n\nThat part of the romance, where you try to please the other person, where you try to make her /him realize how great you are, and that you are convincing your self how much you like that person must continue. That is like the water for the three to live, and growth stronger every day.
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There is no easy way and it will be hard.  Tears may be shed by both people.  \n\nI would recommend a neutral setting, like a park, and definitely do it in person.  Just explain your true feelings to this person.  You don't have to give so many details that it will hurt the person even more, but do give enough details that this person will understand that you don't think this current relationship is as strong as it should be & that you have a desire to date other people.  \n\nI would do it as soon as possible too.  It is not good to string someone along.
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Each relationship has a basis or reason in the first place. Sometimes it attraction, sometimes care, sometimes the chemistry between two.\n\nSit and analyse what kept you both going for the last 6 years. Find that onething out and both of you could use that as your anchor for your relationship.\n\nRevisiting the old days and remembering each good, sweet and happy things in the last 6 years also rekindles the fire and resolve to forward. Recreating the first date and first kiss or something like that will bring back the romance and give you both that Nitro boost... \n\nThink on your feet dude.. Be adventurous.. Walk that extra mile before you call this relationship off... Atleast that way you wont blame yourself later that you didnt try a lil harder...\n\n.:Fishie:.
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Doggdoc has a point there...but you could phrase it something like, "you know we've been dating for about a year now...I don't date other's anymore, I'm finding I want to date you exscusively...how do you feel about that kind of arrangement?..."...well maybe you can make it sound a little more romantic than that...but you get the idea...good luck!
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Why is it that the men your refering to know they don't have to have a lasting relationship with you or why is it that your relationships are not lasting...I have found women think they can attract a man one way and think they can keep him another way...You sound intimidating and perhaps your a challenge, and once they realize your just like other women, they lose interest or consider the challenge over...there can be many reasons...just try and be the person you are and allow Mr. Right to recognize thats the person he wants..good luck.
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Stick with it. \n\nBut more importantly, enjoy yourself. Guys come and go. Eventually one will stay longer than the others. But no one is around forever. \n\nYou only have yourself to rely on and you are the only one who will ever fully understand you, so don't put too much stock in your relationships.\n\nEnjoy them while they last.
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Ok so you would like to know how to keep your love fresh after 6 years together? I take it you dated for 3 years and almost got married for 3 times or 3 years? We have been married for 20 years now. And the way we keep our marriage fresh is make dates and keep them; in romantic out of the norm places. Give each other little sex toys or items. For that hint of play tonite. Send cards to each other at home or work. Surprise each other with secret love notes. Have him/her follow a riddle trail through out the house or even city. Meet him/her for surprise lunch. In other words...to keep things happenin, ya gotta keep things happenin.
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If two people do get as involved as you want then emotions are inevitable.  Even if two people try to make a commitment to not get emotionally attached it is next to impossible for one or both of them to stay emotionally distant.  Taking long walks usually means there is a commitment of some sort.  You want a physical relationship with no strings attached right?  Well it never works out.  One way or another emotions are going to get evolved.  If not the luvy-duvy type then the angry type.  Unfortunately many people have an idea as to what the ideal relationship is.  The guy is supposed to be the bread winner or the woman is supposed to cook and clean and many other things like that.  Everyone wants to pick and choose what happens when two people get together, but because the two people are different people then this is impossible.  You can't just pick and choose exactly what you want when you're with someone.  You want all the physical, but no emotional aspects of a relationship and unfortuantely for you it can't be done.
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To have a good relationship I believe you should be honest, be truthful, and respectful toward the person you are referring to. These are very important qualities in a relationship. If you are referring to a male/female relationship oh boy you really have to work at it. It is also necessary to compromise in a relationship. It takes a whole lot of that. In other words, every thing is not one persons way all the time. Compromise, remember that ok? \nas u have asked we can't get good relation it is we have to create good relation with others if u be good with others they we be good to u but there are some options cases also so we also think with whom we have to create good relation ok bye \nThe 'how' is a big one. I have been married 2 x and on my 3rd one and I have really learned a lot from this new mate.\n\nWe never put one another down, and if we are upset we let one another know without yelling, or putting the person down. I found this makes a huge, huge difference. The trust has grown. \n\nEach day we both quietly look for something positive to comment on ..... today for instance my partner commented on how thoughtful I was with one of our children. Just a simple comment and it really made me feel good inside. \n\nI have found from experience that just because we are with someone for awhile we don't take advantage of this. It is special to be in a good relationship and well, be thoughtful. Thankful
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That depends entirely on your own feelings. If you return the feelings being demonstrated, try asking them out and and doing all the little things that are so sweet that they will remember forever, like taking them to see the sunset or making a romantic dinner and setting from scratch. If the feelings are not returned, then try to let them down gently and talk with them to try and figure out a compromise in your relationship like just staying friends.
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Don't commit yourself to something that isn't there. . . yet.\n\nI understand the chemistry, but things are as you said "unsaid."  Keep him as a friend, and if time and distance allows you to pursue a relationship go for it. But in the meanwhile don't close yourself off to someone who may be closer and ready to take that step.
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Well, like any young relationship, it grows old.  You are so young.  This is not the first guy you will ever love, and you will remember him always.  \n\nIf you really want to keep this relationship alive, try talking to him.  Find out what he wants in a relationship. Tell him what you are looking for, and what your needs are. \nYou may find that your wants and needs are different than what they were when you first started going out, it may just be time to let go.\n\nYou have SO much ahead of you. If this relationship is going south, then cut if off before it goes really bad.  Just ask him simply "Do you still want to go out with me?"  Don't be confrontational, just straightforward and kind. And ask yourself the same question... do you still want to be with him?  Or are you just staying with him out of habit?\n\nGood Luck!
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what about you?  what about what you want and need in the relationship.  Cut out the "physical relations", tell him what you need out of the relationship, and see how long he sticks around.  Then you'll have your answer