Kindness: is it being Naive or is it a deception?
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Get off your soap box and ask a question.
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Personally I try to forgive, but not forget.\n\nI believe in the saying "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me".  If someone has developed a pattern of behavior that is unkind and/or selfish that is their business, I just won't put up with it.
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Very very tolerant and kind. I have heard this story before but I can't remember where. I believe it was back in school. Not all people need their "good deeds" to be rewarded. Some are kind, just for the sake of being kind.\n\nBut there was something else to this. A deeper lesson or meaning. I'm sorry to say that I can't remember what it was.
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Sensitivity and compassion
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We should not give with the intention of getting something back. The kindness we give to others is also a gift to ourselves.  If you feel that the people whom you are interacting with are not returning your kindness then you are with the wrong people.  Family is not a guarantee of kindness or loving or caring.\n\nWe are all alone in this world in some respects.  I am alone too.  \n\nThe first thing to do is to stop feeling sorry for yourself.  Stop making this the focus of your life.  There is more to life than this.  If you get busy and put it behind you, you may be amazed what happens.  Put a smile on your face.  No one wants to be around a dreary person who is feeling sorry for themselves.  Nothing will happen quickly but things will turn for the better if you start to feel better about yourself.  That is where the answer lies.  You must do the work on yourself first.  No one makes us happy.  We have to do that for ourselves.  No one makes us unhappy.  We allow that to happen.
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Sometimes its worth it to give kindness to your enemies. They wont expect it and going against their expectations is a way to keep them off balance and you out of their traps. Perhaps being sweet to your enemy could turn the situation around and they might be less impassioned about harming you. They is really only so much that hatred, anger, and meanness can accomplish. If your enemy is starting to be sweet to you it could mean that they actually respect you, they might want to lessen the conflict, or they could be trying to trick you. Respond in kind and wait and see. It depends on whether it is sarcastically sweet or whether there is genuine warmth and/or affection there. Even if they are deciding to be nice to you now, they have a ways to go to earn your trust. You can be nice to someone and not trust them, you know.
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Being nice is harder if I genuinely don't want to be.\n\nI have a bumpersticker.\n\n"Recovering Biatch, I try to be nice one day at a time."\n\nPeace.
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It's impossible to never lie.  The idea that total honesty makes you a good person is false.  If your best freind is dating someone that they are extremely happy with, and this friend asks if you agree that their new love is attractive, what do you say if the answer is "no"?  You lie!  Your friend isn't taking a survey, they're just looking for affirmation of their happiness.  If we were all made with built-in lie detectors we would all hate each other.  Being a good person isn't about telling the truth all the time.
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Yes it is to all of your questions. As for me, I will continue to share kindness and love, and teach my children to do the same.\n(My son goes through alot of things and gets so angry and wants to be mean, and he has really started trying to be kind to his classmates lately, so I am seeing that KINDNESS is working!!)
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being thoughtful and considerate
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There are two types of nice people which for lack of better definition:\n    heathly nice people\n    unhealthly nice people\n\n     Being nice is a subjective term.  You can be nice, as in pleasant, cheerful and courteous with every one you meet.  \n\nAnd nice people do favors for each other,  but generally with equal reciprocation.  Many times the problem is limiting this by people who who can't refuse a reasonable favor.  Though each favor may be reasonable, the volume without reciprocation is the missing judgement that the "nice person" is without.\n\nThis inability to set limits, esp with those closest to them, is the problem, which sets them up.  They spend so much time and energy taking care of others they came in last because they never took care of their needs.\n\nSometime they don't take care of their own needs, because they also lack emotion, motivation, or feelings which is essential in generating their own needs.  Lacking direction in which to do things for themselves, they do things for others because they have nothing to do for themselves.   .....Like a "nice woman" who has no goals for herself except to be in a relationship, and latches on to a guy who constantly needs things done.\n\nMore cleverly disguised, is the "joiner" who can't come up with his own needs and simply joins a group and develops the group's needs.\n\nGet in touch with your goals, set your agenda, and stop to do a favor for someone once in a while.  But get back to your agenda, you might be too busy for them to find you and ask.
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Everyday I like to try a random act of kindness even if its just a smile to someone who looks down, my theory is that it will spread like email around the world alas in reality i believe the world is getting more selfish and less caring of others and this saddens me.
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Yes, The spirit of kindness
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I would say no.  Some people just take advantage of those kind enough to help them out.  You have to know when to say enough is enough.  Asking them to help out after you've helped them out is the right thing to do.
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No.  It's advantageous to be truthfull most of the time.  This has been proven out in studies, game theory, and most of our ordinary lives.
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Civility & understanding always works. I am working for honest friendships with Yahoo Q&A people who do not believe as I do. I think the secret to acceptance is in our very makeup. We have ONE mouth and TWO ears. We should all listen twice as much as we speak.
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Sweetie, there is nothing wrong with being a nice person. Nothing at all. And you can still get what you need/want by being a nice person. Sometimes though, you have to assert yourself. That doesn't mean being a B*tch. That means the next time you go to check into work, and someone butts in front of you, or the person checking you in lets someone get ahead of you, you simply step up and say firmly and politely "So sorry, but I was here first". Being assertive and getting what you need is not being mean. Sounds like you almost have a case of being too nice. Don't let people push you around. Unfortunately some people percieve kindness as weakness...Prove them wrong.