why is it that every guy i meet wants to change me?
610719
I'm sorry-- it is frustrating.\n\nSome guys have a hard time with an intelligent successful woman.  They feel threatened.  \n\nSound like you're doing the right things-- being upfront with the guys about what you want and what you don't want.  There is no reason you should feel pressured to have kids.  \n\nI hope you find the right guy for you.  And I can tell you're smart enough you don't need someone to say that you shouldn't change for them!
300074
Embrace it.  These are life experiences.  Change your attitude toward the selection of men that you have dated to that of being greatful for the opportunity to date them.\n\nThings happen for a reason dear, every man you date and then dissappoint you, helps create the person you are to be for the right man that is still out there, and going thru the life experiences needed to be the right man for you.  Always bear this in mind when some man treats you badly.\n\nDoes this mean, that you should accept men to walk all over you, and treat you badly?  No, identify this behavior early, you should be getting very good at it, with your past experience.  No matter how hot he may be, and how bad you want him, if you notice a behavior that you remember in one of your bad relationships, be warned, and aware.  Eventually you will notice a difference in one man, the one man that is just right for you.
1028111
Because youre looking for a man and they all come that way. :)
1126829
Well, it is never easy to change! Just try to be more tough, to make people respect you and do not let anyone to use you, because of that you are too good! It is not fair.....
273994
I don't know you, so I can't say why...but you might want to try to accept yourself for who you are, then others will see that you are happy about who you really are and like you too. Maybe you need to find your true colors (find yourself) without anyone pushing certain trends or peer pressure. I found my husband without looking. He came to me. I was at the point in my life where I hated being in any relationship with a man. Pray about it and don't try so hard. Just be yourself and a true lady will be attracted to you when your not faking or possing as wanting or acting like another. You are unique and need to find one who accepts that, and loves it, and don't change for no one but for your own growth and prosparitiy. Good Luck!
374330
Be willing and prepared to change.  You have to become a completely different person than you are right now.  Whatever attracts you to the other person will eventually drive you nuts.  And vice versa.  So if you like yourself, don't commit to a long term relationship.
492891
In therms of my body, I don't think I would change any part of me becoz God in his love and infinite wisdom created me how he wanted and to change something would show disrespect. Not to mention the fact that those changes are only temporary becoz eventually the problem may reoccur or may get worse.\n\nAs it relates to my personality, I love it because i'm a really nice person and I love to help ppl but unfortunately for me, not every 1 else I meet is like that so in a sense I would have to toughen up a bit but it can be challenging at times.
740245
Unfortunatly that happens quite frequently.At first men do everything in their power to attract you and to make sure you notice them. They treat you like a queen etc. Then as soon as they know that you are theirs and ain't goin' nowhere, they stop trying. What to do in this situation, is to show him, that you are still desirable to others and if you wished you could have any man you want, and you won't hesitate to trade you b/f! Perhaps that will scare him into showing you more attention, and make him work to keep you!
955121
all of a sudden he's become your pet? And I suppose you parade him in front of all your friends. Give it a break and just accept his name as is...\ntypical of a female always trying to change a man
1068962
I think u are an approval freak. Just be yourself, U can't please or be compatible with everyone. Besides isn't it our differences that makes life more interesting.
683989
nope, don't change for anyone. you are who you are and there is someone out there who will love you as you are. comprimise is one thing but change is totally too much. if they don't think they need to change then don't, if it's for the better don't worry they will find out for themselves.
894781
I think its because they think they already have you. They dont feel that they have to work to get you excited.  But if it bothers you that much i think you should talk to your man and let him know that you dont just wanna jump in to F**k-ing.  Let him know you exactly what you would like him to do.
796036
Stop trying to *change* your man! If he does something that you do not like you either have to accept him, or let him go, but you CANNOT change him!
1057484
You're taking the wrong approach.  You're trying to get a guy to love you by being something you're not.  You should be looking for a guy who loves you for who you are.
351374
You can change how you act and that may or may not influence how the other person acts. It's called influence.  People sometimes respond to positive feedback by becoming more positive, but it's not absolute. Sometimes they react in unexpected ways. \n\nI have been successful at encouraging my man to make changes in his personal appearance and picking up after himself. I have not been quite as successful at influencing a couple friends of mine, who happen to be female. I've never sought, and I think it's a losing battle to try.. to influence a man to do something totally against his character. Like take a drinker and help him stop. There are some things that are.. a lifestyle choice that is too ingrained for me to change. \n\nBe realistic. Change what you do and how you react. See what happens.
1006396
Then you will probably need to change your outlook altogether. To start with, stop looking for the one. Men sense this and out of who-knows-what, try to resist. Even if you were the perfect girl/woman, they would still hold back knowing you are looking for the perfect one. But don't overdo it, or you may end up finding no one. Good luck!
191186
Girls dont like that but dont change yourself because of it. then you will never find a compatable partner if you dont even really know yourself anymore. it can get annoying though, just let us be. flirt, comliments, ask when we get distressed, but dont obsess on it. if you get the right mixture of polite gentlemen in public but bad boy at times you'll be alright.\nps god is always with you, your never alone.