I want better for my girlfriend than she wants for herself?
596614
You really do care for your girl...!!!\n\nShe probably hails from a very disturbed background. I think she is insecure not only about herself but also about her relationship. And I also think that she lacks self confidence.\nThere are a lot of things that you have not mentioned, that is how old is she and what is she doing...??\nFor her to get over the habit of not working well with people she needs to work on projects that have to be done in groups.\n\nConstantly encourage her to do things that involve her participation and that involve her interaction with lots of people.\nShe also needs your constant support and love. And if this does not work then you need to take her to a pshycologist.
650150
Ooooh, touchy subject.\n\nThis is how you do it. I can't guarantee it will work because she maybe very sensitive. \n\nSounds like you have a needy GF. Best way to do it is in person. Preferably, do something nice for her first, take her out on a nice date, a nice ralaxing one. Tell her how much you care about her. Ask her if she knows this? Pay attention to her reactions now! If she looks like she's not sure, you Re-Assure her. Then tell her you want her to do things on her own, things to better herself with. Say she should spend more time with her friends and family because you think it's important that she does that. Tell her you want an independent girl. Tell her you want her to be happy on her own and with herself. And you want to be there for her to add to her happiness. Because between you and me and whom ever is reading this, we are responsible for our own happiness, no one else. You can tell her that too in a nice way. \n\nYou basically make it sound possitive so she doesn't take it the wrong way....Then you tell her that you love to spend time with her but you also need time for yourself too and this is why you want her to do things on her own more. Then tell her again that you are not going anywhere, that you are there when she needs you. \n\nMake sure you give her a hugs and kisses afterwards...."Affection"  - - - i don't know any woman who doesn't go gaga for it.\n\nGood luck!
159714
If she's already dating you, it shouldn't be something you should feel obligated to do (she already likes you enough to date you). You could still buy some as a special gift, maybe a "hey honey, tonight I'm your fantasy! grrrr!" lol. Ask her what else she likes, incorperate. But no, you should't just change yourself cause she likes it. Be yourself.
495802
You need to back off. You are not ready for anyone. Tell your girlfriend that you want to play the field and are not ready to be dedicated to just one person at this time of your life. It is not fair to anyone to keep up this charade.
1090781
My sexy girlfriend is way better
1020917
At this point ...no.  If there is someone better out there for me...why should I be with someone who does not totally satisfy me?  Especially in some cases of women I know who settle for anything...its so sad that they have that low self esteem to take whatever comes there way.  I think I deserve better than that. I definitely would not want to be someone's good enough. I want to be the one, the best they've had.
596718
you have to think about why it is that you feel this way. why do you think you aren't good enough for her. once you figure this out you can start the healing process within yourself. it's okay to argue.. it's part of life. the tough part is how you are going to handle it and manning up to any mistakes you may have made. that is the true test of a relationship. this doesn't mean that you don't deserve her. if anything.. she's putting you on to things so you are aware how you are hurting her, yourself, and the relationship. if she says she loves you .. believe it. communication is the key. have a talk with her and try to sort out your feelings. if you really love her .. try and work it out. but you gotta trust her. live and let go.. easier said than done.. but you'll be happier in the long run with the one you love.. hope it helps..
102872
You can't exactly MAKE somebody love you more. The heart feels what the heart wants to feel. All you can do is show her that you're a great guy to be with, and hopefully she will feel that there is nobody else for her.\n\nTreating her kind, complimenting her, respecting her, and remaining faithful to her, are only some of the things that you can do ( or continue to do ) to show her that you're that guy. Be spontaneous, live a little, take her out and have fun. It is your job to prove to her that you're what she needs, and you can do that by keeping her happy, making her laugh, and helping her to feel safe and secure. Nothing in a healthy relationship is ever materialistic. Sure, it is nice to get and give presents, but the key lies in the emotional support.\n\nUltimately, even she can't control her own heart when it comes to love, so whatever the outcome, it is one you must learn to accept. Either way, find comfort in knowing that you gave it your best.\n\nGood luck.
620571
Love her more cause she is fulfilling my fantasies and desires. She is not being selfish and  she's thinking about what makes me happy.
1033237
Why in the world would you want to do this?  You should be happy for her.  I know it must be hard for you to see her with someone else, but please try to see it from her point of view.
370742
What you need to do is LOVE yourself a bit more! Find someone who would really love you (that's the least you deserve) You know, someone who would always want to be with you etc.etc.etc. And don't feel upset when she says "no" to you because you already know that she doesn't love you, so there's no point. I would suggest (again) that you start thinking more about yourself...ask yourself "How happy am I in this relationship? Is this person that I'm with right now happy with me? Is there a chance that we can have a future together?" and if you answer no to 1 of the questions...then you need to find yourself another girlfriend...someone who will be there for u 100%.
516293
It's not fair to your girlfriend if you don't think it's going to work out. You THINK you love her? You do or you don't. You need to figure out what is going on w/your girlfriend before you start planning for this other girl. Not wanting to hurt someone is not a good enough reason to stay w/them-that sounds harsh, but you'll just end up resenting her.
846784
your girlfriend could see how your self esteem is on how you react to her. but then again only you can fix your self esteem.
953994
you are not selfish and don't be pushed into it, if you're not ready then it isn't right for you or her. be honest with her tell her she's the only one for you and you love her but just not ready for that big of a commitment. she wouldn't like being pushed into making a big decision like that either and lets face it if you have to force someone into a commitment then that says an awful lot about your self esteem and trust issues. wait until you are both ready, your marriage will be better for it.
364042
If you are arguing this badly, you need some help. Who is starting the arguments you or her? If its her maybe she is really insecure, or isn't happy. If its you, are you happy? If you really do love her, and want to make it work, i would get in touch with relate, and talk to someone. You can do this either on your own or together. If you do it on your own she may not be happy and see it as a betrayal. If you want to do it together, talk to her about it, cos she may feel uncomfortable about it. Good luck!
527248
as long as she knows you're stronger than her just believe in your self and go and tell it to her you must show her (when talking)that you love her and you're ready to do anything for her.good luck
115703
CAN'T LOSE WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE, GO ON AND FIND SOMEONE THAT REALLY APRECIATES YOU, SOMEONE THAT IS NOT EXCEPTING CRAP FROM OTHERS. DOESN'T SOUND LIKE SHE WANTS TO BE YOUR GF