Why won't my step-mom accept me as I am?
604679
Honey its your life and  you like anyone else deserves to be happy, most people look there whole life to find some one that loves them unconditionally don't throw that away because its not making your step mom happy, you are 29 you are a strong independent woman who can make her own choices, your step mum doesn't need to accept your life style she just needs to learn to live with it.Good luck sweetie.
378763
I hope not.  Your step-parents have played an important role in your life and you developed a friendship and love for them.  Why should you stop caring about someone just because their relationship with someone else has changed?
901885
You ask her why she's being wicked.\n\nOf course I'm speaking on behalf of wicked stepmoms everywhere.  It would help to know a little more about your situation.  Maybe she's wicked, maybe she's not.  There's not enough here to give you a clear answer.
188466
That is why they are called in laws..just ignore them back if they won't accept you. Try your best with them but if that isn't good enough for them than leave them alone...Lady
269919
You need to love and cherish you mother, she is not going to be with you forever. I am sure that your mother is a great person and she probably is not as embarrassing as you think. \n\nEnjoy every single moment that you can with your mother. She obviously loves you and wants the very best for you. Swallow your pride as hard as it may be and just let it go.
173544
can you give a little more info on what your circumstances are? where do you live, where were you born, why were you seperated from your birth mother, etc? that will help to find the appropriate site.\n\n\n(just a note to anyone else in this situation... don't forget, the people who raise you are just as much your "real" parents as your biological ones. it's important to know where you came from- but think about who made you who you are. Don't mean to preach, but... spare a thought for the folks who loved you for your whole life and who might feel hurt if you appear to reject them, make sure they know you love 'em, ne?)
1169682
I AGREE I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING WITH MY SISTER SHES ALWAYS JUDGING ME SAYING THAT I DONT CARE ABOUT HER I HAVE ACCEPTED HER BUT SHE DOESNT SEEM TO ACCEPT ME FOR ME... ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT THEY JUST DO BUT IT DOESNT MAKE THEM RIGHT JUST PRAY FOR THEM TO UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL .. TELL THEM HOW YOU FEEL... I HAVE DONE THAT TO MY SISTER UNFORTUNATELY ITS NOT WORKED WHEN I HAVE TOLD HER HOW SHE MAKES ME FEEL... BUT WITH PRAYERWARDS THOSE PPL WHO DONT EXCEPT YOU... JUST PRAY... FOR UNDERSTANDING AND JUST BE PATIENT THATS WHAT I HAVE BEEN DOING WITH MY SISTER..
568455
Yes, tell her it all.  Unfortunately, she may not believe you and it may cause a rift in your relationship with her, for awhile anyway.  You shouldn't have waited though.  It may sound like sour grapes at this point and your mom may think you are making this up because she is making fun of you.  I would tell her that she could believe you or not.  It is her choice, but to not be surprised to find out that your stepdad, has been cheating on her in the past, or will be cheating on her in the future.  Tell her that you are not saying this for any other reason than that she needs to know the truth.  I'd even tell her that you really thought that he was being a great guy by coming all that way to help you out and that you wouldn't say anything against him if it was not true.  Tell her that you do not want to cause any problem with her and your relationship with her.  I would also tell her that you do not want to be alone with him or have your daughter left alone with him.  It may make your point stronger.  Good luck!
45549
I understand that you would like to have your family unified on your religious beliefs, as well, as the little grandchildren to come.  Who wouldn't?\nHowever, if he already knows your feelings, and they are still getting married, you have to put your feelings about this aside and just accept her.  I'm sure you don't want division in your family.  It isn't what you wanted for your son, but he has made his decision.  If she isn't a criminal, or will hurt your future grandbabies, or something like that, you just have to love her, and accept her in your family.
202917
Maybe you should say, "Mother, I am growing up and I need a little bit of space to be my own person.  Please let me do what my instincts tell me to do instead of yours."  With a smile and hopefully she'll understand!\n\n*&#92;O/*
640640
some times the best thing to do is just let her talk to whoever she feels comfortable talking to.  after she talks to her stepmom do her problems seem to be taken care of, or are they made worse?  maybe that should be your focus.  if she seems calmer after talking to her ex-stepmom why is there a problem.  if she seems worse after talking to her then maybe there is a problem.  your daughter is probably reaching out for someone who she thinks understands her and her situation in life.  maybe you should look at this woman as someone who could mentor your daughter instead of seeing her only as your ex husbands ex wife!!  all in all if it is good for your daughter then let it be.
664475
Yes you did over react a little but I'm sure it's all those hormons flying around.  hehehe  I'm glad you apologized to your stepmom because she is doing her best for you and is looing out for the family.  She probably needs a little help and is trying to help make Tracy feel like part of your family & you can get to know her better if she's around.  I was afraid you were going to say she had un-invited her which would have given you a reason to blow-up, since you had already invited her.  Your step mom sounds like a nice & caring person.  She is doing this for you & for your baby.  Let her know you appreciate everything she is doing for you & that you are happy she is there for you as well.  Be happy that you like Tracy & that she's coming over to help, get to know her...you never know, she might be your future sister-in-law!!!  CONGRATULATIONS!  Good luck in the party & God bless.  ;o)\n\n~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~\n\nFree helpful Baby Magazines for a new Mommy-to-be:\n\nhttp://www.americanbaby.com\nhttps://subs.timeinc.net/BY/by_newbiz03.jhtml;jsessionid=Q43OUZOPQV4ROQHMGARRHOQ?experience_id=119170&source_id=30&_requestid=222655\nhttp://www.verybestbaby.com/user/regp00pa.asp?OPTI=RI&offername=&Next=%2F
74178
I think that is awesome! I would have much rather had a family member marry me instead of the minister that we barely knew. That is not weird at all. As far as your mom, well who knows really why she is offended except for her.Maybe she still has bitter feelings towards your dad or maybe she feels a bit left out. Try to think of a way to get her more involved as well and she may lighten up a bit. Congratulations and good luck!
616168
Don't listen to constestame. Don't stay quiet about it. When I was seventeen my step dad did some pretty bad things to me. He wanted me to stay silent but I didn't. My mom chose my step dad over me and I lost the whole side of my mother's family. I loved my family so much and it tore me apart to lose them, but I'm glad that I stood up for myself rather than staying quiet. It cost me my whole family, but at least I don't have to live with the sleazy pedophile. Some people are just Fu*ked up and it has to do with power. It makes them feel bigger, but you've got to stand up for yourself. It will make you stronger. If your family doesn't stand by you, then good riddance. You will always have someone there for you as long as you have a good heart. Friends become family. You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family. I don't know how long ago this happened, but I hope you have already reported her. Make your family aware that she has taken advantage of you.
1029584
I have a similar situation,  I treat my stepdaughter WHO HATES ME like she was two years old when she continues to test me/her dad. I just ignore her negative behavior and try to redirect her.  When she starts to talk negatively I do not acknowledge her and instead ask her a question or just answer talking about a different subject.\n\nShe does not have to like you (mine does not).  She does have to treat you with respect though.  It is illegal to threaten to hurt someone physically.  If you are truly afraid and live in fear of her attacking you then you might want to get an order of protection.\n\nI wonder how your husband feels about this..........please e-mail me at:  red_red_read@yahoo.com so we can talk more.\n\nGood luck.  You are in between a rock and a hard place.
480548
Maybe your mom just isnt comfortable with you dating a black guy. She could possibly have issues that go deeper than you think. You should talk to her about it. Im black and im dating a white guy. My parents love him. There is an on-going stereotype that is felt about black men. If your b/f is truely a good guy you should try to point this out to your mother. Tell her that he may be black but he's not doing what a lot of other guys like him are. That should work.
890478
Does she love you back? If so, try going together to talk to each set of parents. Maybe one or the other will agree, and help convince the other set of parents. \n\nIf neither accepts it, maybe you will just have to wait until you are old enough and do what you want then. Good luck :)