my cousins boyfriend beats her becasue she broke up with him. She won't tell anyone, so what should i do.?
597571
I'm old skool because I think you need to round up your male cousins and relatives, tell them what is going on and have them take the guy out to the woods and kick the crap out of him;  and when they are done, they just leave him out there to walk back...it should  be at least a mile from his home so he has to walk back and think about how he came to this state of ruination.  Now make sure you send one level-headed guy...you just want to teach him a lesson, not kill him.\n\nBelieve me, he will never call the cops and he will stay the heck away from her.
152846
Best suggestion\n\nWish them the best and move on in your life.\nMy cousin actually found out her hubby was. they had a amicable divorce and she is really happy now with a new man in her life. the second time she was wiser and really had some standards before she agreed to marry this man. \n\nRead His Needs, Her Needs, and "Smart Love" \nIt can really help you out.
174224
Your aunt needs to be strong if she wants this guy out of her life.  Based on what you've said, the guy cares nothing for her and is using her for his own benefit.  If he keeps coming back, she needs to kick him out and then get a restraining order from the court to stop him coming back.  If he keeps hassling your aunt, he will face criminal charges.  Strength and resolve is the most important thing for your aunt, otherwise, however she suffers is her own doing.
129309
Stop dating, and just be freinds. Just be glad you actualy found out that person was family.
759384
Your cousin is right, ignore her.  As long as she knows it bothers you, she'll keep up the mess.  Once she sees that you could care less, it'll get old real fast!
378369
My advice would be to get away from this person as quickly as possible. There are enough things out there to agonize over, don't let another big one like this one tear you up anymore. Life is meant to be enjoyed, not destroyed. If there were kids, then that would be different. Run girl, like the wind. Good Luck
683409
Thank her for taking the loser off your hands and remind her you are better without him than you were with him.  If he insults you than he is fair game.  Tell his deepest secret to her or point out how lousy he was at giving head.
651618
To be honest she shouldn't want him back.  He broke up with her and trying to go out with someone else.  He don't want her.  And as man and most importantly her cousin you of all people should advise her to move on.  She loves him but apparently he doesn't love her.  And she is only going to be more hurt if she pursue him and it don't work out.
643257
Yes, of course your right...Umm since when does a snooty nosed 15 year old girl get off giving adults orders, especially to you whom she has absolutly no connection with. And because she is only a minor, there is no court on this planet that would even consider giving her any custody rights whatsoever as she has no connection with you or your child. Hell, your ex is also in the sh#t for mandatory rape, if he's going out with this girl and doing the business with her. If I were you, I would move away from all of them to give you at least a mental rest, they all sound like hicks and do you really want your child growing up around people like that. If she continues to do this, I think you need to ring the police yourself and tell them about the situation between this girl and your ex, or ring up a mental health team to come out and get her, she sounds pretty bonkers.
495099
You know what must be done, if you have hard evidence confront him as well as your sister. Especially you are sister should be one that you should be more angry since she's blood related. Either that you could just forgive them and go on with your life, find a better guy.
841896
I went through something similiar to this and I put my foot down and told my boyfriend to either stop talking with her or I was history.  He stopped immediately and things are great now.  Sometimes you just have to lay down the law or they will keep doing stupid things because you allow them to get away with it.  Good Luck.
705062
First thing first she shouldn't get back together with him, try and talk to him and make him see that they won't work out...and get his family to get him psych help cos he might get really obssessed and do sumthin bad to her but I pray not..Gudluck dear
278074
Your aunt sounds like what I use to be and I will tell you this much untill she is ready to change she will not. I didnt change until I got pregnant. I break-up split my heart and soul down the middle. I still am not the same person i was before the break up. I had eating disorder and was addicted to pain pills AND SLEEPING pills. So, I guess one thing that you could do is present to her all the things that she has to lose by doing these drugs, you being one of those things. You know you will always be there for her but it never hurts to put a little fright in someone and make them think you wont. DONT LET HER CALL YOUR BLUFF.. Dont show her that you will always be there for her other wise she will always be who she is untill something happenes to change her life and by then it may be to late.
864883
Why?  Has your boyfriend been beating you?  If you want to get rid of the evidence, there isn't much you can do in a short period of time.  Hell of a lot easier to get rid of the cause.  That will only take about 30 seconds.
218062
Oh, this is a sad situation and I am sorry for you...love can hurt sometimes.  Because she is your cousin you are just going to have to move on and NOT be with her.  You may want to see a professional counselor to get over her...You do not want to ruin your family by being with her...There is someone out there for you and I am so sorry but it isn't her.  She is SUPPOSED to be with someone else.  I know that sounds hurtful..but if you were to get with her and she got pregnant you could have a deformed or retarded baby.  Thats why family members shouldn't be together.
1112217
OK...call your cousin back and tell her you don't appreciate her calling you names and if she does it again, you will hang up again.  Then ask if she wants to go to the mall or something....it's not that big of a deal, honey.  It's family that's important, but she also needs to respect you.  Also tell her that kind of talk makes her sound like trash.  So...forgive her and get back to being friends and family.  Good luck.
1130960
There isn't much you can do.  She probably wouldn't listen to you if you did say anything to her.  Just let her be.  Even if she lies to people about you, I'm sure she won't stay credible to them for long.  Everyone will eventually figure her out.  Confronting her will just make her act like she's the victim of your "cruel" words.  She'll probably tell everyone just to get sympathy.