why am I with a man for 2 years who doesn't show me how he feels?
600606
You are still with him because you dont believe in yourself. If he isnt feeling you by now, he never will, leave him and find someone that appreciates you.\nOr better yet talk to him about how you feel, if he cant open up and tell you where his head is at, let him go
350327
well since you didnt include much information i can only guess to why you feel you are losing him. you probably are. maybe your relationship is stuck in a rut. By this i mean maybe you have been through all the fights and spontanious moments and need to spicin things up again. Make things more interesting. If you and him have been together for a long time you might be alittle bored with eachother and like i said need to try some new things. Try being honest with him.
393363
Hon, u will NEVER know if u sit back & wait 4 him.When ur in his arms next time tell him how u feel about him and ur relationship.(if hes been around for 2 yrs he probably feels the same.)
756877
Dont get too worked up over it yet.  I would ask him about it for sure.  Don't go to him and yell or bitch at him when you ask him do it calmly.  Tell him how you feel about it and what you are thinking.  I wouldn't be with a man that is still "chating" online through a dating service.  but that is me.  you need to do what you feel and tell him what you feel.  2 years is a long and serious relationship so you should have that communication ball rolling and be able to talk to him about anything.  If right off the bat when you calmly ask him about it he gets defensive and throws excuses at you I would take that as a sign that he is doing someithing wrong and he knows it.  Don't hold this in, talk to him so you can put your mind at ease.\ngood luck
476530
Think by yourself, don't lie to yourself and see if you still love him or not. Maybe you miss him only because you used to see him often and now you lack something. This is definitely different from having feelings for him. Time will resolve the problem.
1038823
I am in the same situation honey.  I would say to be completely honest with him, and be ready to compromise.  The best way to get through this is to talk with him about how you feel, and then try to find a solution together that suits both of you.  It may still be hard, but it will be easier if there are a few things you can both agree on.  The other thing you need to ask yourself is what is really bothering you?  Are you upset because you feel he is ignoring his resposibility to you, or do you think that you may be insecure about your relationship and worried that he's doing more?  Once you figure out exactly why you are upset, it will be easier to fix.
482067
Wow that's weird... Maybe he's a wimp and wont tell you his real feelings and you're not taking the hint.\nBut I think you should sit down with him and tell him that's crazy, and ask for the truth..
497377
If he doesnt trust you, you should dump him... Its pathic and controlling if he doesnt trust you after 2 years and you claim to have never done anything to make him not trust you. Or sit and talk with him about how it makes you feel..
270998
why were u with him for so long??\ni've seen couples like this. they usually stay together.\nwhy? - don't ask me; i hate feeling trapped! - but that's just me...\nif it works for u -ok!\nif it doesn't - cut him loose!!\n...although after all this time u're probably used to him and feelin' safe\nur choice..
251281
Okay, 1st of all feelings like that just dont go away so he probably still feels the same way he just stopped letting it show. and 2nd you need to tell him how you feel. Im sure he will be thrilled to hear it.
282389
I GUESS YOU HAVE TO STEP BACK AND TAKE A LOOK AT THE SITUATION... IF THINGS DON'T LOOK LIKE HE IS, THEN LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND LEAVE IT OPEN FOR HIM TO RESPOND THEN AND THERE OR LATER. HE MIGHT NEED TIME TO THINK ABOUT IT. DON'T RUSH HIM TO RESPOND. JUST LET IT BE KNOWN. YOU'LL FIGURE IT OUT. \n\nGOOD LUCK
31517
Question is, do u want to live with him like that?I think it`s pretty painful to hear that the partner says he has no feelings anymore. I`m sure you 2 have talked about it? It`s a pretty tuff question and i don`t think that anyone can give u an answer to that but ur boyfriend. Keep talking with him about it.... I hope everything works out for u
1074769
You are not married. Don't feel as tied down as you currently do. I think you guys need a timeout. Stay away from each other for any time between 2 weeks to a month. See how you feel about him then. Take some time to reflect on your thoughts. But state clearly to him that you guys will not see other people during this time period. It's only a timeout. You just need some time to get your thoughts together. Also, you guys have been together for 2 years. I think you will find a way to work out this issue. Best of luck.
1038933
maybe he does he just doesnt like to show it. give it time, things take time, maybe you'll even find you dont love him as much as you think, or maybe he loves you more than you know.\njust remember: you cant force love.
781390
Wow,first off,if you have been dating for over 2 years..you're doing a fine job to me. Secondly,don't worry about "keeping him interested" because in all honesty,you will focus more on keeping him around,and forget about why you love him,and why he loves you..and end up hurting the relationship. Just relax,and realize he has stayed with you the past two years of HIS life,when he had the chance to break up with you. Enjoy his love,and just continue to love him back. I wish you the best of luck,and hope nothing but the best for the both of you!
1157981
Don't Know, ask the guy himself. only him can really give the main reason for not showing his emotion. maybe his afraid you might break his heart or you might take him for a ride if he shows you how he really feels about you. he just scare, doesn't wanna get hurt
403531
Either take a break from your education and go with him OR keep your relationship open if you guys would mutually agree to that.\n\nOr, if its really a serious relationship - you will go through the two years.