i don't know how to better my self esteem?
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If it is someone else that is giving you crap that is making you "allow" yourself to feel bad about yourself, tell them to stop - or remove yourself from the situation. \nOtherwise, this is something that has to come from within.\nEveryday look in the mirror and point out something that you see in yourself that you like, and OUTLOUD, acknowledge it to yourself. Same with daily accomplishments, no matter how small - tell yourself, OUTLOUD - Good job! Way to go! You rock girlfriend, Whatever. But no matter how you have lost it - or are losing it- (your self-esteem) you also are the only one to get it back. The fact that you care enough about yourself to ask for help tells me you're a great person and you're already acknowledging that you DO like yourself and care about yourself - or you wouldn't be asking. You'd just go crawl in a hole - So.........YOU ROCK GIRLFRIEND! Hold your head up and move on and don't let anyone steal your joy and you'll have so much self-esteem it'll piss everyone off!  HAHA!
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you have a very low self-esteem... but the good thing is, you KNOW you have potential, you'll just have to have faith in yourself... why don't you try something that would make you use your talents/potentials... for example, if you can act, then go and do an audition to a play or something... or if you're good at school, try applying for a scholarship program... in that way, when you get to achieve a certain goal of yours, your selfesteem will be increased... love what you are doing, love yourself... take risks... its part of living... sometimes, we have to fall in order for our body and heart to be prepared and be strong...;o)
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what makes u think u have "low self esteem" ???
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You know I had this problem when I was younger too. I still work with this to this day, but I have come a long way in this. What is blocking you from loving yourself is low self esteem. You have to learn to nurture yourself, to understand you are as special, as valuable, as needed as the next person. \n\nOne method is to begin doing things which you can take self pride in. Look around at your life and really see what you do which is good. What are you good at? What skills do you have? Like are you a good friend? Really listen to others? Are you quick to lend a helping hand? Are you good in a certain area in which you excel? Do you do your job, no matter what that job is to the best of your ability? Do you do all in your life to the best of your ability?\n\nListen, when we are injured during our childhoods, or in our teen years, we develope a sense we are not valuable, that we are somehow lacking where others are not. Deep down inside our souls we feel like we are just not as good as other people. But this is often a false feeling. It exists because we were shammed durring our childhoods. We were not loved and nurtured as we needed to be. \n\nI once thought I was so much less than most everyone else around me. Due to this feeling I did not believe I deserved a good man, a good frienship, a good relationship with anybody, or deserve to be treated well. \n\nI treated others very well. I was, and still am a very loving perosn. I bet you are too. As I was growing, walking through life, I noticed how gentle I was to others, how forgiving and understnading of others just being human and nobody being able to be perfect. Then I had my "AH Ha!" moment. I realized I treated others way better than I treated myself, or how I allowed others to treat me as well!! I looked around and then looked at myself and I thought, why do I treat others way better than I treat myslef? Why am I more forgiving of others than I am of my own weaknesses? Why am I more willing to forgive the mistakes of others, yet I constantly condemne myslef for mistakes which are far less than most of those others who I forgive so quickly?\n\nWhen I realized that I was treating others way better than I was treating myself, when I realized I forgave others when I could not forgive myslelf, I finally began to wake up. I told myself that I was as deserving of treating myself the way I treated others. I deserved to nurture myself the way I nurture others. I deserve to forgive myself the way I forgive others. I also deserve to recognize my own skills and talents as I am always cheering on others skills and talents. \n\nI began looking inward, deep inside. I began to list all my good qualities, skills, and talents. At first the list was very small indeed!! While I began listing these qualities, I also began to attempt to nurture myself. I began to attempt to forgive myself. I had trouble with this at first, but I would just stop in the middle of a huge self criitisizing session, just stop myself in my tracts by saying inside my head "Stop!" Why am I being so mean to myself, when I would treat somebody else who did this exact same thing so much more gently, and I would tell them not to be so hard on themselves that everyone is only human and we all make mistakes. I would stop and think what I would say to somebody I loved who had done or failed to do, the exact same thing I had just done. Then I would begin to tell myself that "I am only human, I can make mistakes, I am as worthy of forgiveness as the next person, and I deserve to go easier on myself.  \n\nSlowly my life began to change. I began to expect better treatment from others. I demanded to be treated with the respect I deserved. I would no longer tolerate certain abusive behaviors towards me. I walked away from relationshipe which were damaging to me and my children. I slowly began to treat myslef better. To love who I am and to forgive myself as I forgive others.\n\nDuring this process I got a di
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possibly low self esteem?
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List down the things you think you are good at.  Be proud of them.  List out things you cannot do.  Ask yourself whether you can live without doing these.  Ignore those you dont need to pursue. Pay attention and sharpen those skills that you wish you could develop.  Practice hard.  Dont rely on what others say.  Be good at your own work and have ample faith in yourself.  Whilst at this do not get self centred.  Look around and be sensitive to others needs.  Helping someone who is in real need will surely make you feel good - no great!  Go on - try to come out of your shell as the world outside is beautiful.  Good luck!
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Hello,\nWhen I was younger I had this same problem.  I looked for my relationships with OTHER PEOPLE to validate my worthiness.  Geeze did I find out I was doing things backwards.\n\nFinally I found the receipe to loving myself in the right way.\nNo one, look around is perfect.  All though many women and men have cool talents, and neat things about them that make them special, look deeper NO ONE is perfect.\nIf you have spent many years trying to BE perfect, you are probably way in front of the crowd.  But even if you haven't, LOOK AT YOU, you have talents, OR the ability to get specific talents that many others will never have.\nBegin to think how our diversity is wonderful.  We're all different, each with their own talents.\nSo, with this new perspective on yourself and others, sit down, and write out a list about yourself of all your good points.\nStudy that list...is that person likeable? loveable?  of course s/he is!!!\nIf you would like to have that person as a best-friend, then DO EXACTLY THAT:  \nBecome your own best-friend.  Never ever belittle yourself.  Take up for yourself.  Compliment yourself when you do well.  \nLovingly admonish yourself when you goof up.  \nForgive yourself, and promise yourself to do better in the future.\nThen VERY IMPORTANT start doing good things for yourself...what do you like? do that for yourself !!!  Buy yourself flowers.  MAKE SURE you set aside part of every day for YOU.\nGo places YOU like to go, even if you have to go alone...you will be surprised how great it can feel !!!\nAnd MOST important, don't tolerate any one else beratting you EVER.   Now, if someone is, or has done that to make you feel bad about yourself (get it in your head) that was emotional abuse.  That person is pitiful...YOU are ok, or you can fix yourself.\nIf someone's else's opinion of you is UNjustly low, then KNOW that you can NOT fix that person.  Dismiss their unjust opinion, and talk to yourself, as your own best-friend and bouy yourself back up.\nIf you're not feeling good about yourself, there's a real good chance your posture has suffered.  You CAN fix that, and you'll feel better when you exercise good posture too...(science tests have proved that to be true...something about endorphins).\nSomeone once told me something I practice EVERYDAY of my life: \nFirst - Look good.  Get up fix yourself up clean and neat.\nTHEN - you'll feel good\nTHEN - you'll DO good\nAnd then you can have a BETTER day everyday.\nFirst thing in the morning do combed hair, wash, make-up if that pleases YOU, clean shoes and clothes, and straight back.\nAnd most important of all PASTE a smile on that face.  Share it with others and watch them smile back which feels good for both of you.  \nSpeak softly and kindly to others.  Give up the thing you want most, and that is a little love.   It WILL come back to you so quickly you'll think it's some kind of miracle!\n\nTo make a  friend, first BE a friend\n\n  Love each time like it was the first time\n\n      Love each day like it was your last day\n\nLove others deeply, and remember to Love yourself too.\n\nThat's enough to get you started loving yourself in the right way.  Everything else will fall into place after that.  You will find that some family that has been a bit stand offish will remark that they like the change in you (and that it was too long in coming).\nHope this helps you as much as it helped me, and keeps on helping me everyday, every hour.\n\nI wish you LOVE\nSTW
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Just try to make yourself stronger. don't think of poeple talkings much and improve your self confidence.\nI was like this when I was younger but I released being sensentive too much is not worth at all.
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If you worry a lot about what other people think, or worry what people will think about you, you have low self esteem.\nIf you feel the need to criticize others (like what they wear or how they look) you have low self esteem.\n\nIf you are mainly concerned with what you think, and what you like to do, that's a signal of higher self esteem.\n\nTo improve your self esteem, take yoga.
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I would suggest counseling. It sounds like you have some deep rooted issues that need to be worked out. This is something more complex than a self esteem problem.\n\nLove yourself, you are beautiful and deserve to be happy!
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You Can Improve your confidence by believeing in yourself. That works alot, And when you want to do something that you fear, just go along with it and say i can do this! Another way is to watch what you fear most, watching other people do your fear, or face your fear might make you get more confidence that way.
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It took me 35 years to learn this one.  One's own perception of self is very powerful and it's hard to understand when others don't see you the same way.  The reality is that 99.99% of people don't know what's in your head whether you feel good or bad about yourself.  You need to learn to see what others see in you.  Yeah, they could be yankin' your chain hoping to pull you out of your funk, or they could be genuinely honest about what they see.  It won't matter until you get over yourself, until your own perception goes beyond "fat and ugly".
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Learn about yourself. We all have special gifts and talents that we can share with others. Celebrate yours. If you have flaws that you think you can change, take steps to change them. Choose to be ok with what you cannot change. \n\nEvery day, take little steps to appreciate being alive. Yesterday, I saw a pretty painted piece of wood, I had a lovely conversation with my neighbor and I had a tasty piece of bbq chicken. Look for your little joys.  Smile and say hello to everyone you see. Make it a point to go out and find people to be near. \n\nLove and be kind to yourself.
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This happens when people are neglected. Find something you like to do and make friends who are positive. Sometimes, even having friends through the internet gives you something to look forward to, and it can help boost your confidence and self-esteem and not make you feel like you want to run away. And of course, make a personality of your own, so that your family can notice you and appreciate your inner beauty! :)
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work on it then...exercise, take some self improvement courses, read a book on how to improve your self image.  Don't whine about it do something!
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Low self-esteem seems to be a common problem.\nI think that if you try to focus on the positive things\nin your life,get a more optimistic attitude,it would be a good first step in the right direction.\n Other than that,if you can't do therapy,try to recognize\nthat there are people who care about you in your life and that's most important. No matter how it may seem,your world is not really coming apart.From your post,things may not be as perfect as you would like but they could be a lot worse.\nHang in there.
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boys like girls who are confident and it seems to me that you need a serious boost of self-esteem.  the best thing for you to do is figure out who you are and what you want out of life, then go for it.