If i'm not happy...why the hell am i still here???
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I can not figure out why I can't meet a good lady like the way you seem to be. Look....have you given any thought to the way you may be choosing perspective mates? That you are not being as prudent as you should be? To find two bad apples one after the other?\n\nI've asked myself those questions to, and I'm sure many other folks have too.\nthe fact is, you're IN IT right now, so you don't have too many options......sort of. If you left him......he may not be as bad as the other one. If you did it, do so without anger, pettiness or nastiness on your part. That often is the springboard to get the crap rolling.....vindictiveness.\n\nYou didn't go into a lot of detail outlining what transpired in this drunken accident, so I'm not sure how to take that. If he got drunk.....not a god thing, but what happened? Did he wreck the car, did he put his family in jeopardy in the car? Did he hurt himself? Did he hurt other people?\n\nMaybe all that doesn't matter, maybe just the fact that he did it is enough, but then.....is it really an unforgivable mistake? Is this something you can't forgive?\n\nI know I'm asking you more questions than I am giving you answers, but I'm hoping that perhaps you'll read this....consider it, and perhaps add some detail so someone else can offer you some pertinent insight.\n\nI wish you well and goodness and hope everything works out...whatever you end up doing.
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Find a friend, if that doesn't work there is always BEN&JERRYS Chunky Monkey, it always makes everything better.\n\nBut honestly, I have felt all of those things, and that is not a good place to be.  I hope that you can realize that you are special and of infinate worth.  It breaks my heart that you feel that way. Feel free to email and we can talk, you don't have to feel so alone and that can be a start.
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you need to examine your surroundings as well as the people in your life and see if this is causing your unhappiness.  If you are unhappy at your job, it spills over into your home life.  So sit down and really look at what is going on..you should be able to pin point what it is and then you can deal with it.
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Hey yep.\nI am allways Happy wether I loose the most Important thing of my life.\nI kep going on and on till i drop down dead on this planet.\nLife is to enjoy and be happy, take things the way they come to u, and manage the resorces available to u in an effectiv manner so that u can make best out of it..........\nNever be down or sad because it fetches u nothing but more misery and pain..........\nvikram_s_bhatt@yahoo.co.in
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Hello there! I am sorry to hear you are feeling so down. People are so quick to say someone has depression. You say that you act like you are the happiest person on earth, but you aren't happy on the inside. You just have to believe that you do deserve happiness! I believe that you just have low self-esteem and self worth. 17 is a hard age! Believe me...looking back I felt the same way and wondered what the heck was wrong with myself. Just the pressures nowadays that are being put on young people is enough to make someone want to give up! I know to be happy is easier said than done sometimes, and it is a lot of work sometimes. Once you start believing in yourself it will get more simple. Life is too short not to have fun--experience life. I am not saying go out there and do foolish things, but enjoy the silly stuff. I am an adult and I still like to go to toy stores and play with the puppets! Because it makes me happy. I am not here to make anyone happy but myself. It sounds selfish, but before we can help others, we have to help ourselves. Just the fact that you asked the question on here shows that you are ready and willing to make a change for yourself. I have done a lot of "stupid" things in my life, but I have learned that loved ones are there for you no matter what you do. If people really love you, they are there for you no matter what! You can make little changes in your life. Use positive affirmation..when you start to feel those thoughts of hopelessness creep in--say to yourself that you are not listening anymore. If you are still feeling beyond hopelessness, there are many people you can go to to talk about it. It is not a sign of weakness to ask for some help and guidance. It is you standing up and saying you are sick of being that way and taking control of your life. I wish you luck and hope that I helped a little! Take care!
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Living with depression or unhappiness is miserable and with the paranoia that most people are not honest, you must feel like an alien on a strange planet.  I suspect you know already why you are not happy because you provided your own answer.\n\nI think people are as honest as they feel they are safe being.\n\nTry finding someone you can talk to about your feelings.  Perhaps if you can talk out your frustrations, you will feel much better.
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Happiness is a state of mind, not the state where you reside.  Trust me, when I used to have clinical depression, I used to think all kinds of things might be the answer to feeling happier: changing jobs, moving somewhere else, etc. I found out the hard way that, if you aren't already a happy person, changing environments won't make you happier for long.  Try to really nail down what it is that is making you unhappy first.  Extreme, non-specific unhappiness might be a sign of depression and there are so many medical interventions for that.  If it really is where you live that's got you down, narrow down what things an ideal living environment should have for you, (warmer climate maybe, or closer to an ocean, whatever seems ideal to you) then do a little research and figure out a place that seems to offer those things. Good luck to you!
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It is possible that you are not satisfied with wht you are doing.. YOu are not satisfied with your life style. Obviously, you do not have a high esteem.. Are you attempting to compare yourself with others who you think are perfect or near so?
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I've so been there.  A treatment center would definately be a good idea.  It would take you out of your usual environs, maybe get you sorted out with some medication, and be constantly monitored.  Ultimately, though, its up to you.  You need to decide to love yourself, and know that you deserve to be happy!
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Then why do you even come to it if you dont want to be here?  I mean, cmon already.  That is common sense.  You obviously do like it or you wouldnt be here.  Change your preferences and move on.  Sounds like you got some issues there.
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I totally agree with "The Birdlady" EXCEPT that you can't put a price tag on happiness. I'm adding a link on depression for you. You will need to see a counselor. Just talking about how you feel, to anyone who will listen, sometimes helps and you make realizations on your own as to some things that have caused you to be depressed and what to do next. Ask your counselor for a good book on overcoming depression. Some other answers on here are good. You have to make some lifestyle changes to feel better, rather than being stuck in a rut. \n\nGood luck. :)
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I know what you say.Ihave experienced such a feeling,myself:everything is ok,and you still feel unhappy.I think s.th inside you must be changed.S.th about your sprit,about what you want to get from the life.Maybe you dont get a true love from your family,or it is not in the shape you really want.But the most important thing you must know is that HAPPINESS IS S.TH WHICH MUST COME OUT FROM INSIDE.WE CAN GET JUST SOME SMALL PARTS OF IT FROM OTHERS.\nThink about your relationship with GOD.He is the only one whose rememberance can dedicate calmness to your heart.
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You say you have a good job with good pay. But do you like what you do? Maybe that's the problem. Maybe you're not satisfied in your job. I think a therapist would help you find out what's keeping you from being happy. If you have a good job that pays well, you can afford to go see one. I think that's the first thing you should do. Sometimes we are not happy because of something in our lives but can't even admit it to ourselves. A therapist could help you.
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I'm feeling really down right now too but my life isn't going good at all so that's my reason. As for you, try doing something that you like. Think about things that make you happy and make you smile. Everybody has moments when they are down. I'm sure yours will pass soon. Maybe you just need to clear your mind and get some rest and relaxation. I hope you feel better.
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You´ll always find dissatisfaction in life, one way or another. The key is to learn to be happy at all times no matter what. That should be my answer
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Yeah, I have and still am. I guess, its suppose to hurt cause you cant always be happy. Love is really complicated, one day you're happy then the next day you're crying your heart out. You just have to stay strong...
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Many people feel this way.  First you might try to find out what is depressing you?  (Harder than it sounds)  Why aren't you happy?  I happen to be a person that loves change, and when I'm not getting change (at least every once in a while), I get very unhappy and depressed.  Medications don't always help...I tried them once...didn't work!  It's good that you have a boyfriend who is supportive...that's very important.  Having someone there to support you is something a lot of depressed people don't have.  If you'd like to talk details, feel free to contact me; I'd be happy to help with anything I can.