what if my best friend is now obsessed with the guy i like ever since i pointed him out?
595490
Sadly some girls need approval before they will go for something, sounds like once she realized this guy was something spectacular (because you put the seal of approval on him) she wanted him. \nLet her have him, its not worth ruining a friendship over. And be proud that you can develop an opinion w/o the need for someone elses appproval!
362455
Im thinking you are obsessed, maybe a stalker???? did he dump you and you just havent gotten over him?????
790912
Hi there,\nIt sounds like your best friend is important to you...you know...there are alot of hot brunette's out there...if she was not a nice girl to your best friend then she will not be a nice girl to you...you like your best friend most likely because you share the same interests and points of view in life or at least like to debate them...you can use your best friend...even though that doesn't sound nice...as a stepping stone for you...if he doesn't like her then probably you wouldn't either...anyway...this advice is my best shot at your problem...hope it helps..good luck.
665503
If you really like him..than explain the situation to your bestfriend..she might be upset..but its better than lieing to her and than finding out..
818163
He obviously likes you, but he's more into your best friend - yes, even though she doesn't like him.  Guys love a challenge!  He's all intrigued now because he wants to find out WHY she doesn't like him, if he's playing hard to get, and to prove to himself that he can get her in the long run.  He flirts with you because you're fun and he feels comfortable with you, plus he's also trying to make her jealous.  Don't be concerned with his feelings for her right now, continue to be friends with him, but also be a little mysterious and not quite as flirtateous back.  At the least you will have a good friendship with him, and who knows, when he finally realizes that your friend isn't going to suddenly love him to bits, he'll see you in an entirely different light.  Good luck!
969562
This is a very tough situation, so please handle it with care.  First thing is, does he have a girlfriend, or something that he is currently seeing?  If he does, please do not make a move because it could jeopardize your friendship completely.  Second, you say you haven't spent a lot of time together until a few months ago, why is that, if you have known him for years?  I think if you are seeing more of him recently, you should just try subtle hints and see how he reacts... ie touching his arms more, flirting a little.  If the subtle hints do not work, you can just try being honest with him.  If he is your best guy friend, he will appreciate your honesty, and will respect you for it.
553707
Girl...If you and your best friend are like "paper and glue" close, I think you should think it over. Think "Would she/he do that to me?" Make sure you know whats good for you. A Girlfriend/Boyfriend come and go, best friends are for LIFE! (If you have the right one)
452951
I think you like him more than a friend too. I have rather recently started a relationship, and all I ever think about is her! I hope you are as happy in your thoughts as I am in mine.
460251
Don't do it. Those are exactly the kind of mind games that make life so rediculous sometimes. Why, if you truely liked him, or cared for him, would you want to make him jealous? If you had his best interest in mind, you wouldn't be plotting against him! Get over it and find someone who is interested in you, don't waste time with people who don't want you in their life.
38325
girl, you are so right. if you like him and he is good to you and good for you, go for it. chance are, your "friends" are just jealous 'cause this guy is crazy over you. you true friends will want to see you happy. the rest will just fuss cause he doesn't fit in to their click. you are being more mature than your friends and it's nice to see everybody doesn't base everything on looks alone! good for you! good luck!
753818
both of you just need to completely forget about him. NEVER LET A GUY GET IN THE WAY OF YOU AND YOUR BEST FRIEND!!! it will/would be hard to do that, but you must. unless she is willing to just look and not touch, both of you need to forget about him. what you should do [instead of] is just go up and talk to him. if you cant have him, he might have some hot friends or brothers or something.\n\nLuv Ya,\nTAY
261912
It is normal to crush on your best friends boyfriend.  You are around him all the time and you see how good he is with her and you can't help but want the same thing.  Just accept it as a crush and don't act on it.  Eventually it will get easier and hopefully you will find someone for yourself.
979058
Wow.  Well, there is nothing you can really do to control the outcome of this situation, that depends on who truly has feelings for who.  I think John probably really likes you and not Haley, because if he still liked Haley he would probably be already trying to get back together with her by now.  I think Haley just wants to believe he still likes her because she likes him, and people can make themselves belief what they really want to believe.  \n\nIt is kind of disturbing that you would date your friend's ex especially when you know she still likes him.  Maybe you two aren't truly friends?  I guess you can just stop hanging out with Haley.  And she can't come between you and John if John truly likes you and not her, right?\n\nSo I guess just tell Haley that you think she is kind of obsessed with John, and John is with you now, and you are sorry but you really have feelings for John, so you think it's best if you and she don't hang out for awhile.  This will hurt her, but I guess she needs to get the message that John is taken now, and she needs to back off.
528634
hm well u are currently commited to someone that u apparent;y care about so dont just drop him because something doesnt feel right. but as for your friend, if he really likes u that much he should be respectful of the fact that ur in a relationship and if he wants something more he should wait untill u are available.
444696
Going after a guy that your friend has dated is always tough. It depends on how their relationship ended and whether your feelings for him are strong. I am currently very interested in my ex-best friend's ex-boyfriend. WE stoped being friends when she found out that I liked him. But I couldn't help how I felt, he's different than any other guy. If you feel like he's special and you could be avoiding something that could be really great for both of you, don't. Go for it, if your friend really cares about you she'll want you to be happy. Best of Luck!
476069
It is so nice that you care so much about  both your friend and you.\n\nYou see whatever happened has happened. It can't be changed. So either you find ways to move on or you just slack back.\n\nYou said you are best friends. A lot of things happen between best friends you know so this should not be a hard one to tackle. It happened because you were both passionate about each other. It now appears you are both bi. No big deal.\n\nFirst you said you liked him and now you are saying you don't know if you like him. NO problem about that, you will soon know if you like him or not.\n\nHowever, since you said you have not seen him in a month and this whole thing is getting into you, well i think is about time you talk with him. It does not matter if you are different persons or not, you still have to find out where you stand. You need to talk with him and find out if you are both embarassed about the things that happened and if you still want to be best of friends. If you both still want to keep on having sexual feelings for each other, well that is when to find out, by talking to each other. Please tell him your mind, what you think, what should stop, what should go on and stuffs like that. It will work out.\n\nYou and i both know you don't want to lose a friend like him. Then i think it's about time you spoke to him.\n\nPlease don't feel shy. OK. Open up and tell him every single thing in your heart.\n\nYou will definitely find your answer. Keep it cool and GOOD LUCK.\n\nHave fun too.
584498
hehe it's either that ur bestfriend is a blabber mouth and says everything u say to everyone.. or people can know that ur in love with this guy from ur reactions when he's around!