Why do we find it so difficult to talk to others about death?
602524
We are not comfortable thinking or discussing the subject of our own death. What you said about the mumbling hit home, because I do the same thing. It is so difficult to \nsay the same thing over and over like 'sorry to hear of your loss,' 'you have my sympathies,' but it is done by \nme. Even when making those statements it seems like such a cop out, so meaningless, but yet it is proper and acceptable and makes the person saying it feel just a wee bit better.\n\nI like the idea of celebrating someones life, even if we did not know them. Statements such as ' I am sure your loved one lead a full and happy life' seem much more acceptable to me, unless of course they were complete, bumbling, idiots. If that were the case the person would probably correct you immediately.\n\nWe are not good talking about death, it's uncomfortable. Don't feel badly Freyja, you have plenty of company.
415207
I think that everybody has a fear of the unknown and obviously death is a huge unknown! The thought of death frightens me to an extent but I also have hope of an after life with God so in a way it is kind of like having something to look forward too! Hey plus we all get to reunite with old loved ones dogs, Grandpas you name it!
1095806
I think a vast majority are psychological only.  People can be so emotionally distressed that they actually cry blood, so why couldn't they envision such things when near death?
947148
One reason it is hard is because there is often a biological factor too it, similar to depression.  a therapist once had me go to the mall and just walk around and make eye contact and say hello to EVERYONE I walked past.  i thought they'd think I was nuts, and some probably did... but people smiled and said hello... sometimes i could have sworn that it made their day.  But the thing I learned is... I didnt have heart attack and die!  even when I was ignored, or someone told me off, I lived.
386698
Life is so expensive, people are thinking about day to day survival, not what is going to happen after death. People do not want to think about, or discuss, or spend money on their death. I do not think it is selfishness at all. I think it is often lack of resources, and always human nature.
90250
Well, NORMAL, if you're simply afraid to die by the hand of someone else.  Although, I wouldn't think that this sort of thing would be prevalent in day to day life.  If it's somebody in particular, then I'd have to say guilty conscience, maybe?  Is it just in general?  You may have some paranoia or anxiety issues.  If you serious think someone (or everyone) is out to get you, then yes, that's paranoia.
702836
we hate to say goodbye bc we fear we might not get the chance to say hello. goodbyes are hardest when relationships end. especially if only one of you wants to say goodbye and the other is still wanting his/her hellos. goodbyes are horrible when someone dies. none of us like goodbye. it hurts. :-(
48560
When my father died I was most touched by those individuals who told me they were sorry for my loss - and then told me a little story about how my father had touched their lives or told me about why they thought he was such a good man. I don't know if there is anything more comforting than to hear these anecdotal comments. They are so positive and fulfilling to hear. They also are thought that you can “take away” with you after the conversation is over. Even today, and it’s been almost 30 years, those are the conversations I remember and that were most meaningful to me at this time of great loss.\n\nIf you are unable to talk with the grieving person, sending your thoughts in a note would be just as appreciated.
997735
Because her passing affected you more than it did the others. My daughter passed away 7 years ago. It seemed that everyone but the immediate family dreamed about her, and very realistically.\nI think it might have been because we couldn't accept her death as easily as others....Or, it was MORE real to us...
848055
Hardly, it is a long, slow difficult process of dying.  It can't go unnoticed.
876856
i will be very thankful to god beco'z he only tell me that when i'm going to die.\nAll peoples are not so lucky to get conversation with GOD.
878379
Some people are at peace when they die.  They understand that this life is about how you treat and care for other people.  They have lived every day to the fullest and have no regrets.  Their life has been treated as a gift.  As they are dying, they are still trying to care for others by being brave so others are not sad.  They may even believe they are ending this life going to a better place.  \n\nOthers may be afraid of death or feel like they have not had a good life.  These people may have lived a selfish and destructive life and this is how they face death as well.  \n\nI would also imagine it has a lot to do with what disaster or death you are facing.
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One sad thing is people think they can wait but death waits for noone..We dont know our time and it could be gone in one second,,what then will they wait for they get old it will be to late..God knows the hearts of man,,let not people get decieved into thinking He is a man that He should lie...
1123139
Children grieve differently than adults.   Young children don't understand that death is final and they may think the person will come back.   Children between five and nine begin to think more like adults about death, yet they still believe it will never happen to them or anyone they know.\n\nHere are some excellent sites to help you.  Also check your local library and book stores.  they  should have books about death and dying written for children and from a child's perspective.  If the child is losing a parent, there is a book called When a Parent Dies by J. William Worden.\n\nI hope this helps.
338004
Actually, dying is quite easy.\n\nIt's so easy, in fact, no one has ever avoided it.\n\nThough I agree that we should all get used to is and simply accept it.  I also agree that when we die, that's it.  All that's left is what we leave in newspapers and our loved one's memories.\n\nFor me, that's more than enough.
568479
Maybe because of a belief in god and the ultimate wisdom of one god.  Any faith usually helps people cope with death.  Because when there are mysteries like this, faith helps.  A community of friends (temple etc.) can be a support system.  A ritual (funeral) helps people cope.  It is a path one can use.
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its not that we dont value it, we just take advantage of it. people dont really think that them or someone close to them will die very soon. people that have lost someone close definately appreciates their health and trys to be a better person, if they have not become depressed.