Are men truely faithful to their wives or is monogamy a bunch of crap?
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Some are, some aren't.
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In my opinion, it is the highest form of disrespect a man can show his wife! It also opens the door to him partaking in these kind of activities with other females. I don't see how any man can claim to love his spouse when he is willing to share her in bed with other men! Does that make any sense to you?!  He sounds like an unprincipled man to me.
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Please clarify...do you mean cheat their wives? As in cheating them out of something or do you mean cheat on their wives as in being unfaithful?\n\nIn both cases, I would have to say selfishness. To cheat someone you supposedly love out of something is just plain greed and selfishness. They are putting their selfish desires and needs first.\n\nTo cheat on someone is essentially the same, they want more sexual partners or more sex or ??? ... in either case, it is that they are putting their selfish desires first. Who knows? Maybe you married a child...not a grown man. Maybe his ego is so weak and shallow that only way he can feel good about himself is through what he gets from other women - clammoring over him, groping him. Maybe he is an adrenaline junkie andis addicted to that high that is always at the start of a relationship. Maybe it is time to ask yourself some big questions? Do you make him feel wanted? Needed? Desired?\n\nIt also depends on what you define as cheating and if you and your husband had a monogamous agreement? Maybe there wasn't an agreement of exclusivity?\n\nI have been travelling the world and you should see what I have seen in some cultures! It boogles the mind what some people are willing to accept.\n\nSome men might try to say that they are just "programmed that way", that they are hunters. Don't buy this for a minute. Not all men are that way. They truly aren't and it took me a long, long time to TRULY know that one. Try giving him that same story and see what a hypocrite he turns into.\n\nYou also have to take an honest look at who and what you are in the relationship. How long have you been together? Has some of the sizzle, the "magic" died out? Chemistry is a fickle thing but it can be brought back to life. There are videos - like the better sex series. I haven't used them myself but I have heard good things from people who have.\n\nDo you have children? Do you both work long hours? Multiple jobs? Do you still take time for each other? You make dates together like you had back when you first got together? You HAVE TO make set-in-stone dates with your spouse that have nothing to do with cleaning, home repair, visiting relatives, the children or pets - if there are any. You need time just for the TWO of you. \n\nRemember what it was about your marriage that made you two fall in love in the first place - (assuming that this was not an arranged marriage or that you were not a mail-order bride! (^-^) )\n\nMen are problem solvers! Don't *nag* and *whine* to him. Tell him, matter-of-factly how you feel and ask him for his help in solving this problem. Tell him all the good positive feelings you have for him and all the plans & dreams you have for the future and that you don't want to relinquish all those dreams. Tell him that you are willing to fight for you...as a couple.\n\nI don't know your situation. Maybe he is cheating because he just no longer cares??? If that is the case, then you need to re-assess if you really do want to fight for the two of you. Maybe it isn't salvagable. Some things end for a reason. \n\nYou don't need anyone to make your decisions for you. Only you know what is right. Listen to your gut. It will give you the answer....\n\nWhy do you ask "airman", was there another girl in some lonely port?
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I'm sure that there are guys who are faithful when they are away just like there are some women who are faithful while they are alone.  But the majority of them probably cheat and think that no one will find out.
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If u r referring to monogamous relationships then my answer is YES!!! Because I'm worth it, too many venereal diseases out there, too many people who have them and still sleep w/other people unprotected, looking to build with someone who has the same morals, values, and goals in life as I do.  Women must realize that we are "Queens" with crowns placed on our heads by God.....Take a look in your mirror tonite, and turn your head from side to side; now look at that crown on your heas with the rubies, diamonds, and sapphires...Now don't you feel as though you're worth being loved, honored, and cherished by one man????
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Men and women cheat for different reasons. Men cheat for sex, and women cheat for affection and attention. Yes, this is a generalization, and some women cheat because they are nympho's, but that is not the norm. I believe the old saying "a man is only as faithful to his partner as his options" meaning that a though a man may not go out of his way to try and get laid, but if it's put in front of him and offered up he is hard pressed to say no. A woman on the other hand equates sex with an act of love, unlike the man who sees it as an act of lust and gratification.
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yeah--if it is your wife.\nseriously though--this is pretty treacherous ground.  monogamy is a fairly recent development, and human males have never been successful monogamists, statistically speaking (arguably, if you include fantasy, males are never successful monogamists).  so commitment to a spouse is really about commitment to a cultural ideal.  this ideal absolutely conflicts with other ideals, such as the universality of friendship.\nin any case, this is certainly a case of a man playing with fire.  whether he is aware of it or not, sex is present.\nthe most accurate way to think about it is this:  when a man makes a commitment to monogamy, he is committing himself to subvert the natural expression of his sexuality in order to achieve something he believes to be more important (to sacrifice all other potential coital unions in order to invest fully in a strategic marital union).  once he has done so, intimacy with alternative reproductive partners can only function to undermine his resolution.  therefore, engaging in such a relationship is an act that inherently questions the validity of his original commitment.\nas to whether or not it's ok...well, that's subjective.  but it certainly isn't indicative of whole-hearted devotion to the ideal of marriage.\nit may not be conscious--but this man is keeping his options open.
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It is a matter of record that some of the OT people had many wives. But what is recorded in the Bible should not be confused with what is approved and commended in the Bible. Polygamy was never God's original intention for man.
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There are a LOT of happy monogamous bisexuals, believe me.  I generally notice that most of them are the so-called 'established' bisexuals- ones who have known their sexual orientation for a long time and come to terms with it.  It seems that most people grappling with bicurious/bisexual feelings start to think that they should have the 'best of both worlds', not realizing that bisexuality does not equal polyamory.\n\nI agree with you that it's a tired old excuse to say that people who want relationships with both men and women simultaneously do it because they are bi.  I hate that excuse, and the negative stereotypes it furthers.  I still feel that monogamy is the best expression of love between two individuals, and I, a bisexual female, will almost without a doubt be monogamous in my future.\n\nHowever, even though they aren't for me (or most people), polyamorous relationships can be and are, indeed, loving.  That was the only thing that irked me about your post- for some, it's not 'passing it off as love'- there is true, deep genuine devotion betwen two, three, or however many other indivuals are involved in the relationship.  Loyalty has little to do with it, since polyamory isn't cheating (it always must be okayed with everyone involved).  A lot of people do cheat and call it polyamory, but that's not right.\n\nAll in all, just know that you aren't alone.  Long live bisexual monogamists!
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How can that be true, if men are cheating, are they not cheating with women or they all cheating with the same woman.
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Not all men are unfaithful, it's an equally viable point that BOTH parties of sex, male and female at some point have tendencies to CHEAT...yet are ALL people....not just men...not just women..do all PEOPLE cheat? NO.  I sure as hell don't cheat...never have and never will.  My grandparents never cheated on each other, my best friend never cheated on his woman...my mother never cheated on my father...so far i know a lot of people who haven't cheated on each other.  So NO....not all freakin PEOPLE are unfaitfhul. Unfortunately you just got caught up with one of the weak losers that just can't keep it in one spot.  You know you should thank the fact that some people even TRY to be faithful...if you lived as different animal, say monkey, mouse,  bird, you would've been cheated on  right in your face and it would've been ACCEPTED as a natural order of things.... we are all a 'species' here...apparently animal instincts aren't too far from our own.  \nBUT thankfully we don't live by such a promiscuous code...least not all of us.....so fortunately for you, there ARE people who believe in one and only one for life.  Now your problem is just getting involved with those people, but then that becomes a problem when most women are attracted to scum, cheaters, and assholes....and all the decent men are either considered gay, weak, not their type, or  a woman more sensible or more inteligent then the majority of women got him first....survival of the fittest eh?
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If the truth were known with acuracy, I would estimate that over 90% of men cheat.  I have asked this question of men in chat rooms, etc.  Most admit that they cheated and their wife never knew.
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think it depends. single men both with and without gfs seem to desire it. married men are less demanding. they are occupied with other priorities like job, etc.
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:}\nI don't think the LDS do any more but it was that way because a male founded the faith and wanted multiple wives\nother sects of mormonism still honor pologamy
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Let me clarify . . . guys do not always cheat on their partners . . . and by asking this question . . . we know you are a sexist male basher like the heffers from the View.\n\nLook at them and look at you . . . no wonder men cheat on them and you.\n\nResearch has been done about this . . . I know I've answered similar questions . . . . \n\nLooks like everyone is going through another sexist trip . . . I've answered this question before . . . and as usual women ignore the facts . . . . so here it again.\n\nKinsey Report, published more than 50 years ago, approximately 60 per cent of men, compared to 30 per cent of women, were unfaithful to their spouses before the age of 40. \n\nAccording to Maggie Scarf, author of "Intimate Partners," first published in 1987 by Random House, "Most experts do consider the 'educated guess' that at the present time some 50 to 65 percent of husbands and 45 to 55 percent of wives become extramaritally involved by the age of 40 to be a relatively sound and reasonable one." \n\nNote that the above adultry statistics of the prevalence of affairs were made more than a decade ago; so based on changes in society during the intervening years, the current percentage of the population who have had affairs is probably somewhat HIGHER. For instance, the continuing increase of women in the workplace means that the numbers for women having affairs is probably similar to those for men—about 60%.\n\nCosmo recently conducted an online poll in 2004 of 1,000 men and 1,000 women, and 55 percent of guys and a shocking 59 percent of ladies said they have cheated on a partner. \n\nYes . . . guys cheat . . . but so do women . . . do not ignore the facts.  The question really should be . . . why do women cheat more than men . . . because the last information I've found proved . . . and it was a women's magazine poll.  You proved it yourself.
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Guys probably believe in Loyalty perhaps even more than woman do. The problem though is finding someone you want to be loyal to.
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No, guys are not honest enough to answer this. But I'm going to try anyways.\n\nMany *people*, not just guys, have this limitless capacity to love and care for others. Often, they feel obligated to share it with as many as they can safely.\n\nNobody trusts a single other person enough to put their life in another's hands these days. Nobody at all. After all, is it not foolish of a thing to do?\n\nAnd entire lifetime of focused attention and loving on one single person is scary and creepy. It's literally obsessive - which is not necessarily the BAD thing people make it out to be. But they still make it out to be bad. And people, even madly in love, can only tolerate so much from one another before one becomes "smothered" and burned out by the relationship. Which is EXACTLY what is trying to be avoided.\n\nAnd the person that needs the loving more will find it one way or another - because they give it just as much.\n\nFinally, these days there is no standard of coupling. There is no example to follow. There is really no concept of a "right relationship" anymore, either. Even a monogamous, married couple is nigh-impossible to live as, these days. It works well for "simple givers" and "simple takers", but many people these days need to be both - and 90% of them don't feel like being "takers" - even though that's really what it's all about. Once you're a couple, be a little selfish, and trust each other with your wants and needs. And with lack of standards, many people don't really have "expectations" to judge their relationships by, either.\n\nIt doesn't help that secrets, lies, affairs, and drama are *highly publicized*, almost to the point of being worshipped.\n\n*Sorry if that's a little long winded...*