Is it ok for childcare providers to yell at the kids?
607766
Not.  A really good provider should be able to keep their cool and not yell.  That doesn't mean they won't get upset but, they shouldn't yell.  As parents we all know that children can be trying but , we each have a preference on how to handle it.  Yelling will only cause the child to become afraid and resent the provider.  My hope would be if the child does something that "bad" then give them a time out.  Explain to them why it was wrong and when the parents arrive, discuss it with them and let them know the acceptable boundaries and that this was unacceptable.
964924
Yes, I see your point completely.\nI would like to sue Miss Conduct for threatening my lousy kids, also.
270632
No way!\nIf you did spank them, even with the parents permission, you could get into alot of trouble. It would ruin your reputation as a babysitter as well!!\nDon't do it! Use time outs instead!
943672
I would have to agree, there is nothing wrong with giving your kids nice things, but whn they get out of line for not getting exactly what the want, then they sh.ould be put in their place. I watch that show every now and again, and everytime I do I get pissed because of they act, its ridiculus
231577
lol yes... I'm a kindergarten teacher, and it happend to me in the middle of a lesson.  The kids were snickering and whispering to each other "Miss K farted."  I was so embarrased, and I acted like it didn't happen.  Just told them to stop talking or I'd change their cards to yellow.  I resumed w/ the lesson.  I tried hard to clench up and hold it in, but it didn't work. lol
398073
I think anytime you are doing anything to your child in Anger to hurt them it's abuse.  The easy way to judge would be to think to yourself do I want to hurt or help my child.\n\nMore specificly an occasional spanking when children respond to nothing else is OK.\n\nA backhand to the kid for a bad grade or even calling your kid stupid is Bad.
953149
Maybe it's the parents who should be caned. We have gone from one extreme to the other, from over harsh discipline to none at all.\nWe need to find a middle path were unacceptable behaviour is clearly defined with the certain knowledge that something unpleasant will happen if they do it. ie hard work in an difficult environment. Years of child centred education has produced a generation of soft, weak, useless young adults who are only capable of wining and complaining, getting drunk and fighting and vomiting in the streets. And the boys are just as bad :)
1112600
Well i probably would have wanted to do  the same thing, but as a professional , the woman knows the policys and should not have done it. \nI think it's all a load of crap the laws and policys there are on childcare and parenting...  but they made these to try and  protect children from child abusers, when in reality all it is doing is helping the children of today to become totally uncontrolable. Sadly kids are going to get abused anyways.. these laws are not going to stop it. Kids today have too many rights and they tend to rule us to a certain extent . I don't think your friend should have been fired because of it though.The childcare centre i worked in , in Australia, we are not allowed to disipline children, so how the hell are we supposed to control the kids...?? If the child had of bitten me , i would have seperated the child from everyone and wrote out a report and had a good talk to the parents. It is your friends duty as a professional not to break any policys regarding the children in her care.Anyways, I hope that helped, PS i got out of the childcare industry cause it's so dam stressful..lol
949874
If your child is causing other children harm their is a proper way many teachers are thought to restarint a kid. Other wise I dont think you are suppposed to.
542830
Never - when I hear the phone ring (which isn't often cause I've turned it down so low), if I'm busy with my 1 year old twins, then forget it, my kids are more important than whoever is on the phone, and they should leave a message if they want to be called back.\n\nYou are right, people who answer your phone are rude, none of their business who is calling you!  Stand up for your privacy rights and say something (politely) to the effect of "Please don't answer my private calls."  If they get offended it's their fault - know that offense is taken, not given.
60661
Hi Caspersweetpea! Sean here (the guy you sent an MSN Messenger Live Beta invitation to but at the wrong address :). This situation invites a lot of problems. If that was my kid, I would tell her employer this is not good for my son since he is only 15. The kid your son is babysitting needs special care that only an adult can give specially with his anger problem. If something bad happens to the kid he is babysitting, your son will carry a lot of psychological burden for the rest of his life. If something bad happens to your kid, are you willing to take that risk?
530550
No because it's something you automatically have inside you wheather or not there your kids or someone kids your watching.If you see someone getting ready to do harm to a child your first reaction is to help,even if you don't know the child.For examole if you are involved with a man that has children and they come over for the weekend and you see some markings on them your first reaction would be to ask the kids who did this to you.And I'm a mother that's what I would say.Or if they are outside playing and they fall off a bicycle and started crying you would run over and say are you o.k?Don't cry and take them in the house and put some ointment on it or put a band-aid on it.So yes it's in us all wheather we can have children or not Ms.lady.I call it a gift from god. Take care.
394710
I view cussing as completely offensive. It gets under my skin when I am out with my kids and someone feels free to let the garbage shoot open clearly in earshot of the kids. It is inexcusable. \n\nI think for a lot of people it gives them a sense of power, especially if they are not mature adults yet.\n\nFor others I think it is a very bad habit. Worse than smoking or biting your nails, it is in a class all itself.\n\nI don't care how much I like someone otherwise, I will not spend time with them if they are habitual "garbage shooters". \n\nYa think I have strong feelings on this one? Your right!\n\nAND I once again point straight to the parents for being the example on this one.( Even if it is simply allowing their kids to be friends with who ever they want). It isn't just about being an example, it is also monitoring who your children spend their time with.\n\nWhew! \nP.S. I don't voice my opinion to others in person. No point. I don't like it but I deal with it in my own way.
637327
Yes!  The reason kids are acting this way is because no one is taking responsibility for them.  Parents would rather point fingers at school systems, the media, and society, instead of taking responsibility for what their kids learn.  If more parents did this, we'd be in a much better place!
743014
This is the thing about "freedom of speech". We all have the opportunity to speak our mind. BUT in a polite thoughtful publically acceptable manner. Would you like someone screaming obsenities and making obscene gestures if anyone's mother, grandmother, or small child were standing there? Well, I do not like it If I am standing there. Politeness is not taking away anything; it is allowing ALL of us to live together in less and less space...Having control over what you say is being an adult...screaming and yelling or typing stuff that is not really necessary nor particularly indicative of any intelligence is hardly anything to strive for nor anything to complain about if others do not like it and they say so...THAT Is freedom of speech.
201595
of course.  as long as you don't do anything that would constitute a threat to any of the children, including your own\n\njust tell the principal he's got 2 minutes to have your child come down to the office or you're calling the police and a lawyer.\n\nyou could also go look for your child but then they could say you're a danger and call the cops on you.  good luck getting your kid back then.
766659
I pretty much agree with everyone else. Talk to her, just do it tactfully. People are very sensitive these days especially when it comes to their children. Volunteer to help her out if necessary, the most important thing here is that the children are well taken care of.