Hi, Someone please tell me why it bothers me that my B/F ex girlfriend e-mails and calls him?
603971
Because typically guy-girl relationships, whether friends or more than friends, tend to include some sort of relevant or irrelevant attraction. Since you know they were together at some point before, its natural to question whether there are still any elements of attraction there and that in itself threatens your relationship. If their relationship is strictly on a friends level, then they should both be open and willing to include you in conversations, nights out, etc... He should introduce you to her and make you feel comfortable around her if he really cares about your feelings.
1155121
Do not reply to his message. The emotional baggage that would ensue from you two remaining friends will blur the boundaries of having a friendship versus a more intimate relationship. If you do feel the need to reply, reiterate to your now ex-boyfriend that you wish to end the relationship and that being friends is definitely not an option. If her replies further with emails, phone calls or person to person visits, do not respond. If you see him in public, speak and go about your merry way.
478448
Does "ex" not break it down enough? why waste your precious time calling him if hes no going to call you?
270994
Depends on what he is talking about.  Have *you* talked to *him*?  Or is this a big secretfest - he hides the fact he is talking to his ex; you hide the fact you  know.  Neither is healthy.  Be open and honest with each other immediately.  Things hidden fester and grow into something ugly.
333905
Why doesn't he block her or have his number changes?  She can only contact him and talk to him if he allows it.  The problem here isn't her but your boyfriend.  If he wanted to stop her then he would have.
629047
Besides stalking him, you could bring it to his attention he's being distant. On the other hand, its been two months, it may be nothing and you're being a bit to needy, especially in light of his old g/f coming back.
268336
I'm in the same situation as you so I understand your feelings very well. \nI think if his ex knows about you, if she knows that he is in a serious relationship with you, then I think you don't have to worry so much about them keeping in touch. But if you are feeling uncomfortable with it, you should tell him that you're concerned about what's going on between him and her. You shouldn't stay quiet as if you don't mind whatever he does. He seems to be very serious about you though you never know what his true feelings are. He must be in love with you, but he still could have feelings toward his ex, and his ex still could have feelings toward him. It happens. \nSo....just open up ur mind and talk to him honestly.
469555
It sounds like he still loves his ex and obviously can't take the hint that she wants nothing to do with her. I would say you need to ignore him awhile then try to talk to him again about the ex, if he gets mad then straight out tell him that he either stops with the cards and flowers to the ex or you will be gone, why stay with someone when their heart is with someone else!
1250
Not necessarily. I bring up my ex sometimes to people and its not that I am not over her because I totally am, but its just that most of his experiences in relationships(good or bad) may have been with her and that is all he knows. I know this be the case with me. I know I am over my ex because we still keep in contact and when she calls me or I call her I have nothing to talk about. Just lots of awkward silence. Ask him and see what he says. Have a heart to heart.
780588
you need to stop checkin gup on your man.  if you consider your relationship to be serious then he does too.  if he has things that he deleted he probably just deleted the number of some of his buddies you don;t like.  from a guy in the same situation as your man i can say he probably isn't calling a bunch of girls so give dude a break.  i live with my girl and she checks my phone all the time.  what is that number who is that if i call will a girl pick up who have you been calling all that is annoying.  it's the pizza place, it's my work number.  that's were i let somebody borrow my phone.  \n\nhe probably just cleared out anything that he thought you would bitch about and he doesn't want to hear it
40912
its bothering you because you know that you wouldnt want to be in her shoes. if he truly wants to end it with her, he should... and then he can pursue you!!
292206
I think what you did was within your right.  You talked to your bf and he said that he talked to her about it and it didn't stop.  I don't want you to not trust your bf but there is a chance that he never said anything to her.  I had a similar situation where my ex-bf's ex-gf kept calling all the time for advice.  I realize they were just friends but she would call at all hours of the night becuase she had a fight with her current bf.  I talked to my ex about this and he said he would talk to her.  One night she called around 3:30 and I picked up the phone.  I told her that I wasn't happy about her calling this late and my bf had already talked to her about this.  She told me that he hadn't said anything to her at all.  So with that long story ;) that was my point there is a chance he didn't tell her that you had a problem with it all.
924384
It sounds as though the two of you really need to sit down and talk, tete-a-tete.  The fact that you have been off and on for a couple of years, he's texting you now after a recent breakup, taking you to lunch, etc. and now you don't know what his motive is - just try to talk about it.\nI think that's the only way you are going to be able to truly get to the bottom of your dilemma.
702824
MSN is just like Yahoo and ICQ. A way of talking to other people and making new friends around the world.\n\nSounds to me as though your b/f is jealous of you having friends on MSN because he either wants you all to himself or because he doesn't know how to use MSN or any other IM tool.\n\nYou have already argued your case with him and he obviously doesn't get it so tell him to get off your case as you have done nothing wrong or that if he continues you may just have to prove him right.
1074632
You went through his personal stuff thinking you would find something and YOU DID! First off, going through his stuff is wrong and you are in the wrong for doing so; however, since you know whats up why do you want someone in you life like that? He's not going to be able to trust you and vice versa...it doenst get better from here even if you two agree to be with other, cause even though we forgive we never forget.\nYou two are just friends, right?  So then you two are allowed to see other people, right?  Technically, he is doing nothing wrong.  If you want more with him then that shouldhave been stated.  The rules needed to out laid down and I'm thinking they weren't, or were maybe unclear.  All in all, why would you want to be with someone who wants to be with other people?  \nI know exactly what youre going through and honey, it wont get easier cause youll keep finding shit out.  Since you had access to his e-mail, youll try to get access to other things, like his phone, voicemail, any other personal stuff...its not cool to go through his shit cause ultimately you know youre gonna find something.  That voice inside, that feeling in your gut...it doesnt lie
427535
I am so sorry.  This man has made his choice and you cannot do anything about it, unfortunately.\nBe with friends, keep yourself busy, and do not feed into his ego by contacting him.\nIt will only hurt you more.\nAvoid him at all costs...because to contact him will cost you your sanity!!\nGood luck and better wishes for a great future relationship.
491499
Sounds like a fairly new relationship, take it slow. If he isn't calling, maybe he has good reasons. Tell him your bothered by this, try to come to a resolution between the 2 of you. A good relationship needs amazing communication. No hiding things. If this doesn't work, start shopping for a new relationship. Always another bigger better fish.