how can i get a boyfriend who won't hurt me?
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There are several woman that are just attracted to the bad boy act.  You will definitely have to get around that and find you one that is just the right amount of bad to keep you interested or you will just dump them.  \n\nThis is a hard situation to deal with.  I tried for years to get my cousin out of a relationship like that and she always seemed to go back when I wasn't keeping her busy enough.  He finally moved her out of the state and I have only seen her twice for about 30 minutes at a time in the last 5 years.  I have no idea how he is treating her there and none of her family is near her just his so they can cover his ass if need be i guess.\n\nIf there are kids involved you definitely need to just be patient and wait for the right one to come around.  He is out there waiting to find you but you haven't been available.  \n\nBe careful girl.  Your life isn't worth any relationship.
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be yourself look natural...smile all the time..look into his eyes...LET HIM come to u...let him think that u need protection and he'll want to protect u...and u'll feel good...after that it depends on both of u how u get on...
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listen, it's like this, people misunderstand other people everywhere and allways. there is nobody who will understand you completely and utterly, there are just some people who understand you more or less, worse or better.they try. but sometimes it's just impossible, because every personality is very complicated.\nthen about boyfriend. first option: if he doesn't believe you - it;s his problem, you'll have more guys in a day or two. second option - you really care about him and your relationships then go and talk to him. make him listen or just try to hug him.\ngood luck
137229
having a boyfriend has its ups and downs and it is nice to have one, but you're still an adolescent. patience is a virtue. someone will eventually find you.
1007554
move on. it's hard to make a relationship work especially when they're back and forth like that. if he thinks he'll hurt u, then he will. he'll think it's alright, cause you'll come back to him n-e-ways. find someone that'll b good to u!
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Be thankful!!!\n\nYou don't want a guy like that.  Don't you want a guy who's into YOU and only YOU???  You escaped with very little heart damage ... run play ... and find another guy someday.
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Of course there will be a guy out there who won't break your heart.\n\nIt sounds like you're young. He's out there for you.\n\nGod has a plan for you. Just depend on Him and He will do everything else. Be patient and wait for God's will.\n\nHe will send you a man... THE man who will love you for the rest of your life. Have faith in Him.\n\nYou'll never find love if you keep looking for it.\nI say this from experience.\nMy boyfriend and I were friends for a long time before we started dating. We've been dating for over 9 months now. We talk about marriage all the time. \n\nI never looked for love because I knew I would just get my heart broken. I was happy with myself... happy with my drama-free life (lol). So I was satisfied. Besides, I knew that God would send the one when He was ready. I never knew that the man was right under my nose the entire time.
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Dont try to look for a bf... just make sure you associate with guys...guys can be found anywhere... but clubs and youth groups are good places to associate with guys... so ther real question is HOW to get one... \nMake your self attractive,,, not nessary hot but attractive... like but a little makeup on,,, dress with style....\ndon’t worry about trying to MAKE guys like you. There is someone always there. The more you think about it the less likely something like that will happen. This is what happened to me until 2 weeks ago and finally got my first boyfriend. Be yourself and don’t look unless you want to ask. Guys can tell if a girl just wants a boyfriend or is sincerely looking for fun.. (guys don’t like to be used either). Make sure you do talk to guys though. Just don’t be desperate and take the first guy you see (unless you like them) ....to get a real relationship you will have to actually stand the guy!!! So overall BE YOURSELF, TALK TO GUYS and HAVE FUN... (don’t just try and land yourself a boyfriend)
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you dont say how old you are, but i guess you're young so i would say just be yourself and dont feel pressured to have a boyfriend. when its right you will know and things will just flow with the right person without you having to try hard. So just see how it goes and then you can decide if he is the right guy for you or if you are ready for a relationship. good luck
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He's one of those guys who likes you but gets scared when it comes time to risk his heart. He likes you, trust me. He's just scared. If you are more direct and aggressive then you will scare him off. And i also think that if he was more aggressive then you would not be so interested in pursuing him.\nTo reel him in, write him a love note with his name in a heart on it and then accidentally let it fall out of your binder in front of him. Or do something like that. Make him know that you like him but in a way that you aren't aggressive. \nOr do something, manipulate him, in a way that makes him believe that he is pursuing you. Tell him that you think he's super cute and you wish that he was your boyfriend but you know that he's too hot for you and that you're thinking about asking out (insert name here). Should I?\n\nJust manipulate him. You should already know how. You're a girl aren't you?
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i am a guy. if you find the right guy we are looking for some one who is kind caring loving and trustworthy.to get a boy friend find some one you like more than a friend. ask them to go hang out at a public place get to know them. if all go's well try a few more dates. if you prove you are loyal and if he is loyal your all set. you now have a good healthy relationship and a boyfriend. don't try to change just be your self some one will love you for who you are. trust me i have had a great relationship for 4 years.
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I had the same problem with my present boyfriend.  Instead of trying to constantly get through to him (which can annoy the person after a while), just let him know that you are there for him and that he has no reason to keep his guard up.  This should only be told to him once, and whatever happens after that is up to him.  Though it may take a while for him to accept it and open up, it may work.
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Ask someone who is rough and tough to approach him to tell him not to make this sort of remarks in future. Let that guy tell him you are no longer his and tell him to stay out of your life. In the meantime, get closer to your new boyfriend for as long as it is neccessary. Use whatever means to avoid him.
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I love my best friend as well. We agreed if something goes wrong that we would not let hard feeling get the best of our friendship. You can find a boyfriend easy but to find a friend is hard. So keep it real ,and nothing bad will come of it.
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theres someone out there for everybody just be patient. dont go w/ the first guy that has interest in u either. u want a boy who makes u feel good when ur around him...the perfect guy. theres someone out there for u!
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Become a whole and complete person.\n\nGet a hobby or two, or six. Learn new things, travel to new places, spend time meeting and hanging out with new people. Do all of this for you, not to get a boyfriend.\n\nInevitably, one of the many new people you meet will be a boy whom you find attractive, and who finds you attractive. Since you'll have these hobbies, and you will have been travelling, you'll be a very interesting person as well. This will interest him, and he will ask you out.\n\nOr, you'll learn how to be bold enough to ask him out. Either way.\n\nOh, one more thing: for the love of all that is holy, stop using the word "like" in the middle of sentences. I guarantee that at least a couple of boys who would have asked you out decided not to do so because of that annoying habit, just like if they saw you biting your nails.\n\n"I want a boyfriend, because my friends are going away. What do I do?" is the proper way to say it, and that'll attract a far better class of boy.
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First, change where you hang out.  If you keep finding losers, then you must hanging out where losers hang out.\n\nSecond, change the way you choose a boyfriend.  It's obvious the system you have right now keeps landing you in the same place.  Insanity in action is repeating the same process and expecting a different result.  It just doesn't work that way.\n\nThird, ask yourself this question, "Why do I want to date him?"  If you cannot come up with anything other than a superficial answer (he's hawt, he smells good, he's rich, he's mysterious/exciting, etc), pass.  Your answers should be more like, "He makes me feel good about who I am," "He makes me laugh," or "He challenges me to be a better person."  Did you notice where the focus shifted?  You are no longer focusing on what makes him attractive, but on how he makes you feel.\n\nFinally, understand that the end game for dating is to find someone you can sepnd the rest of your life with.  Don't use it as a tool to just have company or someone who will pay for everything.  The latter will expect something in return, and the former are called 'friends' not boyfriends.  Use the system to do what it was made for, not to fill a void in your life.  No person can ever do that.  Lonliness can only be cured by you.