why does my wife have an obssession for shopping? she buys things if they're cheap even if they're not reqd?
603978
she is a shop aholic... she is depressed,, shopping eases her pain.  Rent a nice hotel room and spend the entire weekend with her.... give her the spa treatment... she deserves it doenst she?
110207
sometimes its hard for a man to find out what she might like and not make a mistake, but they usualy come around, if you want you can buy him something give it to him these day, so he feels bad about not getting you something, try it, lets see what happens
568699
you are what she likes the time with you and you caring is what makes the day no what you buy. Just get her something with care and that shows you thought about her.\n\nGood Luck and God Bless!!
883458
My Mom is on a very tight budget (she's mentally disabled) so I usually get her clothes, shoes, slippers,  some nice earrings, maybe a ring (she loves costume jewelry), perfume, lotions, body washes....things that she ordinarily couldn't afford herself.
939765
I guess I might start by both of us setting down and take a look at what is going out in bill's 1st for the month.\n Then look at what is left over after bill's food gas for work --Then add up your pay coming into the home each week then add that up to see what you have now deducted the over all bill's from that ---That is what you have left to play with or save.Now this is where each of you need to see what each of you may spend with whats left over.And if there is not enough to shop that week or every 2 weeks just don't do it !\nIt takes a lot of disciplined as you know since you are the Strict Budget one.\nBut yes I would set down in a loving way and talk it out.\nYou sound like a sweet husband.trying to fix something before it gets out of hand.
404645
when you are buying things!!!
315510
Whenever I buy gifts, I buy things that I would want for myself, whether they be cheap or expensive.  What you're doing is fine, but if you're doing it 'coz you expect the same in return, that's wrong. Buy the gifts from the heart, not for show and don't expect the same in return. Not everyone is the same, but do your bit and don't worry about others. Pretty hard to do, but don't stoop as low as others, keep doing your bit....
398929
My boyfriend thinks he has to pay for everything too! He will throw my money on the floor in shops so I can't pay. It annoys me too so I let him get on with it. I do other things like buy him clothes when I'm out shopping and try to even it out a bit that way.
134478
same reason women go window shopping.
1021678
hey dont be so panic....there must be some reason why she is behaving that way...are you a nagging hubby( for a change...hahaha)...well it happens when person keeps complaiing about everything ..and when he is never happy with things....do you complain about the food she makes?? do you complement her if she prepares good food for her?  do you try to prove how she is wrong in bargaining?  may be because of some reason she must have lost her confidence...\n\njust talk to her and ask her..everything will be ok....you know what when we cross 60 we again start behaving like kids.....may be she has started behaving little early...so handle it patiently and as both of you dont have kid...you got to care for each other...\n\nso best luck!!!
208097
i think it is something around you can afford and her monthly allowance. now, if she is realy close to you and she seems to like to buy something pricey and you feel generous, you might consider this. but if you feel you are giving her quite an amount, you can also consult your sibling (her parents) about the amount.
568955
Your kids must be spoiled rotten or you are spending some money. Is it you that wants the money? He has his bills and his girl (if he has one) and all his wants and needs. If you have a job, your kids are fine.
625991
Honey, what you don't realize is that you ARE paying her back every single day.  It's called "appreciation".  Sincere appreciation does not come in the form of a fancy dinner, a gift, flowers, a card- unlike what most women will say.  Most women say that BECAUSE they are not feeling appreciated.  They often do things with expectations.  Your wife does things with no expectations and as a result, she has someone who genuinely appreciates it.  Appreciation is a state of mind,  It is a feeling of gratitude towards something or someone and when it's towards someone, they know it.  If you or I were to do something great for the world, we would know that it was great from the beginning because of our intention and we wouldn't have to hear it from the world that it appreciates it, it just would appreciate it.  Make sense??  So the best thing for you is to continue doing exactly what you're doing cause your wife CLEARLY knows you appreciate it or she wouldn't do it.  She was drawn to you from the beginning because of your ability to appreciate in whatever ways you do it.  You respect, honor and love, you are faithful, loving, caring, empathetic, affectionate and THAT IS APPRECIATION.  xo  :)
97820
When I was deployed, my wife took care of the expenses, however through internet, I could still check on our account online, email & discuss with her any major issues or purchases if she didn't feel comfortable. The issues can come if he wants to buy something for himself or you while in a foreign port or while on the ship. He should have an amount set aside for him for a bit of food, toilettries, & various other things at least - I had a $30 per month "allowance" which doesn't sound like a lot but if you eat the ships food 3 times a day, it works out fine. I think the answer should be both are to be involved as much as possible, but if there is something that the wife really honestly NEEDS, she should be able to get it without his "permission". It's nice to let him know as soon as is allowable which is true anyways.
358519
so you need a female that knows how to shop?
260539
I think if she is that upset over a stupid pair of pants, she's paying more in daily meds for her mental condition! The thing is, clothes get torn, worn, stained, stretched, and faded! Don't let her tell YOU what to do. Tell her that this is not your fault and she should find a way to get over her petty clothes. I have a feeling that this person you speak of maybe a money-poor person and clings to possesions as a way to make own networth greater.
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DON'T Make the mistake I did. \n\nDon't get all stuck on making sure it is a surprize..\nTake her shopping with you.\n\nBefore you do, make sure you have several discussions about finances with her. Be open and honest and make sure she is being so too.\nLet her know that you love her. Make sure she knows that you are very romantic, but you love her too much to not include her in aa decision that is this important. Make sure she knows that you are not afraid to make the decision all by  yourself, but rather, that she is so important to you that you would Never want to take the risk that she might be disapointed with something that she will wear for the rest of her life.\n\nDiscuss How much to pay. And, before you go shopping, make sure you have agreed on a FIRM budget. \nI suggest that you make sure that you have enough to pay cash. Don't start your lives together in debt. If you don't have enough money yet, don't get married yet. THEN, do everything you can possibly do to GET/Save enough money. \n\nTHEN take her shopping with you. You don't HAVE to buy it right under her nose, you can always come back later, but make sure the jeweler gives you the item number so yu don't buy the wrong one.\n\nI agree, You can get a Better diamond if you buy it separately.\n\nIf you are buying a solitaire, you almost alway get a better deal on a .9 caret diamond. \nSo many people CHASE 1 caret diamonds that it drives the price up on them artificially. \n.9 is only slightly smaller, but can be just as pretty or prettier.\nOften, you can afford to go up a grade or two in quality on a .9 and get a much better quality diamond that REALLY captures attention for less than an inferior 1.0 caret. \n\nIn fact, any diamond .95 carets to .85 is still a .9 caret diamond. This is only 5 to 10 % smaller than a 1 caret diamond.