How do you enjoy a time with your husband when u know his heart isn't into the marriage?
612557
sweetie. you need to have a talk with him. don't continue to be unhappy. it's not healthy. ask him what are his plans as far as the marriage is concerned. hope things get better for you.
47550
Keep the communication flowing, always make time for each other. APPRECIATE one another. Always have a "date" night. Don't dwell on the bad things but when the bad things creep into your mind, make yourself remember a good time or a nice thing your spouse did for you. Don't be a nagger. And if all else fails, make love and forget about it. \n\nAnd if none of that works seek counseling.
541280
I really think you guys need to sit down and talk.  Tell him EXACTLY how you feel.  trust me, not talking is worse. My husband and I never talked about our feelings, and if your on here a lot you know my situation. If not, after 20yrs. of marriage, I'm looking at DIVORCE.
576397
well it sounds to me like u guys spend way to much time togehter that right there causes fights. ur right u need ur time and he needs his as well. as far as the friends thing sometimes marrages done work if friends are to close. rather having friends u both can go out with together. id say find a new job where yall arent together all the time. u say u love ur husband and u probably do and u say ur not inlove with him anymore, it isnt that ur not inlove with him u just never have time to feel the feeling of missing him . distance makes the heart grow fonder and if there isnt any distance well then it makes u want to get away. as far as his jeliousy...well thats because he is insecure about hisself. it is nice to have a man show a  little jeliousy once in awhile cause it lets u know he cares but to much then it creates problems. have u thought of maybe some marrage councoling for the both of u? maybe that would work. but if u truely are not inlove with this man which deep down i know u love him and want things to just feel right again. then id file for a devorce. but i would definatly try finding a job away from him, try some counciling. start there first. good luck to u hun
812030
why would you marry some one that you knew ahead of time didn't have any feel ins you can't make a man love you nor want  you even after marriage. So while your waiting on his feelings to change what do you do in the meantime (be miserable)
991879
LIVE, LAUGH AND LOVE LIKE THERE IS NO TOMORROW, BECAUSE THERE MIGHT NOT BE... TAKE YOUR VACATION AND ENJOY IT LIKE YOU HAVE NEVER ENJOYED ONE BEFORE!!! LOVE YOUR MAN AND LET HIM KNOW HOW IMPORTANT HE IS TO YOUR LIFE... HAVE THE BEST TIME EVER, AND TREAT EACH OTHER WITH RESPECT...
903476
Marriage is a series of highs and lows.  You sound like you are at the low part.\n\nWhy don't you take the initiative and put a spark back into your marriage?  Do something unexpected.  Take a weekend trip together.  Do something to save your marriage before you get so bored that you start looking elsewhere.
981694
Your wondering what would the road not travel have been like? There is nothing wrong with you or your marriage. Please don't feel guilty. However may I suggest you think of ways to spice up things in your marriage. Thinking up of these things might bring back some of the specialness feeling. It will definiatley leave less time to think of the x boyfriend.
100456
You can't marry somone you don't love.Trust your heart.I think you already know the answer.good luck
1126553
If you love your husband, and you want to maintain a sense of enjoyment in each other, you have to grow together and have fun.  This means discovering each other anew, trying different activities that are fun, communicating like you used back when you were dating and getting to know each other.  People get used to the daily grind of life - once you get a sense of fun with each other back, the sexual attraction will blossom again.
242753
My advice to you:\nAll you have to do hun, stay truthful, honest, and love your man. And hopefully he does the same for the rest of your lives. There are no precautions you can take to avoid divorce. Fate brought you 2 together, and your fate lies with you 2. Let it take its course. If youre unsure of this marriage, do you think you should or are ready to get married? Make sure that you guys are 100% ready for this. Get some pre-marriage couseling if you'd like. Like meeting w/ your pastors. Usually that is the first step b/4 getting married anyway. You cant avoid the unavoidable. If its meant to be, it'll last, if its not, it wont. But best wishes to you. And a lifetime of happiness and love!!
28468
i suggest that you sit down and  talk to your husband.  this may cause many mnay problems down the line if your not already feeling a certain way towards him now, marraige is a HUGE responsibility, and it is not something to be taken lightly,youe need to discuss this with him and try to find a way to resolve these issuses.
1143605
If you're even questioning whether or not you should accept or decline, then you are NOT ready for marriage. You need to tell this man that you appreciate it, and you care about him too, but you don't feel marriage or, engagement, is appropriate just yet. Make sure you tell him it doesn't mean you don't want to marry him, eventually, but that right now, at this time in your life, you aren't sure if it's what is best.
894478
First of all, love is not a feeling. Love is not about feeling happy or not feeling happy with our spouses. If not being happy at the current time was a reason for divorce, then, we'd have even higher divorce rates.\n\nIt seems you can immediately help yourself by making the decision to be in the moment with your husband as fully yourself. Don't hide yourself, don't pretend to be something you're not...but just be your genuine self.\n\nIf you are feeling this way about your marriage, the chances are good that your husband may be feeling some of the same feelings.\n\nLove is a decision to be committed and to stay committed. Love is a commitment. Be committed to being your honest genuine self, and be committed to being in your marriage as your genuine honest self.\n\nIf you can do this, your relationship is bound to improve. If not, then you can think about other alternatives. But till then, I'm afraid you haven't earned the right to leave
733456
I think you need to get over yourself.  You can still get married and do the things you want to do.  But make sure you are being fair to him.  Figure out what priority is first and make sure he knows it and if he is truly worth your time and hand in marriage he will help you keep that priority at the top.  What is important to you is important to him...that kind of thing.
204744
Tried the swinger thing...husband ended up falling in love and going from fun to affair...on the flip side he loves me again but i can't forgive him for falling out of love with me.  And i've found someone else.
654919
spent time with him, let him know you enjoy being with him. Go for walks in special places., parks,trails,beach,or your neighborhood. let him know that time spent with him bonding YOU really LOVE, and that it will strengthen your relationship. Tell your partner that it does not take much to make you happy. \ncook at home let him know that you love doing this for him and that the satisfaction of him liking you food is all you need to know that you're doing something right for your relationship.\nclean the house while he's at work and go out and rent a movie you know he'd liked and tell him it's gonna be a block-buster nite. make some popcorn and sodas, ice cream. \nbecome domestic but let him know it's how you always wanted it to be ., ever thing else WILL fall in place. make youself look pretty for him.\n\nGOOD QUESTION> life is about caring, giving and sharing.