is it advisable for a lady to maintain virginity for more than 25 yrs of age?
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Bravo! You have done something that is very very difficult to do at a time when peer pressure, media and other factors would have made you loose your virginity earlier. \n\nTo my knowledge, there aren't any medical side-effects of maintaining your virginity. In fact, think of all the diseases you remain unexposed to? Read a book once (I forget which one in particular) that had a statement to the effect that being on the net (even with all the software to protect yourself from viruses and things like that) is like having protected sex. No matter how careful you are, eventually you catch something - that made me laugh. \n\nSecondly, you have to realise that people's standards (moral) are different. While in the modern society, it has been accepted that the younger unmarried society are indeed sexually active, parents will still try to instill to their children the importance of remaining pure before marriage (at least my parents tried - and failed miserably).\n\nMy third point, once it happens, it's a bit difficult to go back. Not only because of the hymen breaking - I also understand that can be fixed by surgery. But something in you will be awakened, and you WILL desire it. (hoping that the first experience will be good). \n\nDon't loose your virginity because you think you have to. I lost mine because I thought it was a burden at the time. You have the maturity at least to judge when would be the right time, you're not a teenager and hopefully not easily fooled. I admire you, really, there is nothing wrong with you.
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it all depends on who we are. A virgin man is probably going to want a virgin woman. The awkwardness of that first time is a great occasion to be remembered. Once you get used to each other sexually then things get easier.you do have to remember to talk to each other about what feels good and what doesnt. I'm 34 and not a virgin by a longshot so my personal preference is for a woman that is experienced somewhat, even if she has children
901162
Im not gunna say its too young. i mean if you brought her up right and taught everything she needs to know cause at that age thats where females usually start developing and begin gettin attention from boys anyway. she's gunna have one whether u say yes or no and thats a fact. and as far as the sex thingy goes if you have already explained the importance of her virginity and all that goes along with it its all good .i mean as long as long as she isnt sexually active or doing nething to my dislike its cool with me. so nope its not\n\n\ni think young is love is important and that if the lil things she experimenting with now fails she can at least learn from her mistakes and know how to better herself in the future and make her next one last
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Hi there,\nI know that the pressure of being a virgin is extremely hard for one to handle, especially in the Western societies that we live in; but virginity is worth striking for.  \nI'm in my 20s and the group of friends that I have is also in their 20s and we are all virgins.  I think the most important thing that one needs to keep in mind is that virginity is for ONESELF, not for anyone else (or sometimes you might wanna save it for you future husband).  Once you are determined about it, it would be less difficult when you think of whether to have sex or not.  \nMy friends and I choose not to have sex before marriage b/c we see SEX as LOVE, and we respect our body as well as our partners'.  When you love someone unconditionally, you don't just want to own the physical body, do you??  Moreoever, when one has premarital sex, the wedding is not something that precious and special anymore, don't you think???  What is it special about the wedding night if you've already know everything about the other person???\nI also have friends who had sex in their teen years and most of them regreted later on.  Most of them lived for the moment and after that, they are the ones who "loose".  Plus, when we are in our teenage years, we don't really know what love is!!!  Believe me, when you find the one who really loves and cares for you, he wouldn't might if you want to save sex for marriage.  (My bf and I both compromise on that, and we're pretty happy).  Hope you find this a helpful!!  Good luck!
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it depends on what your reason for being a virgin is.  if you are saving it for the ONE then keep him at arms length until you think he is the ONE.  if virginity doesnt matter to you then I'd evaluate if he's really the kind of guy youd want to lost it to, keep in mind its an emotional experience and lots of guys can be dicks.  i personally waited for my husband and its the best decision i ever made. and dont forget to make him wear a condom, you dont want to get cooties your first time!
390024
I'm sure there are some people who want to stay virgins. I wish I could. But girl just because your friends are pregnant doesn't mean you have to be. Be smart and wait or else you really regret it when you are my age. Plus sex will alwayz be there and it will be more romantic and passionate if you wait til your wedding nite.
467643
It's perfectly normal to be a virgin at 20.....my advise??? Wait till you've found the right person for you.Somewhere out there is someone for you...find this person first, it is worth the wait, believe me.
1024892
It's not that hard to believe - I actually know a couple people who are in their late 20's and mid 30's who are virgins.  If you are waiting for marriage or the right person there is nothing wrong with that.
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Gah, that could never get answered here man.  But on a high note, i'm jealous, u got most mens dream lady.  Most likely, if u tell her what u just told us, she would get a kick out of teaching u, that would be the best advice.  Anything u get told on here could easily be coming from a 40 year old virgin with a wild fantasy life and be disastrous for u.
668607
i rather die a virgin then give it up just to be giving it up.. i was 27 when i got married and and lost my virginity.. and i dont regret one bit of it.. and dont worry you will be the right person and you will have your chance to loose it on your wedding night..
385129
No. I'm not a virgin. I lost my virginity at 15. It was not a good experience. I was with someone I loved, someone I'm still with to this day (over a year later). But I wasn't ready. In truth, I didn't really know what was happening until it was too late. Don't get me wrong, I knew what sex was. I just didn't know we were going to have it. Lol. I felt pressured. He was 18 and extremely experienced. And when I say extremely, I mean he'd been with 33 girls before me. I also didn't like the WAY it happened. There were no candles, no soft music. Just a movie playing. And it was rushed and tense because my grandparents were in the other room. So if you're thinking about having sex for the first time, loving the person's not the only thing you have to worry about. Make sure you're completely comfortable with the idea. Make sure you're alone and you use protection. (Which I didn't.) Plan ahead of time. And make it special. Remember, you only get one first time.
372930
No, not at all. M-asturbation is natural and healthy, and will not make you any less of a virgin.
262123
I think it depends on you personally. If you are a Christian, or have some type of religious affiliation, in the Bible it says that God wants you to remain a virgin until you get married. Many people feel that their virginity is special and should only be lost to someone as special. In some cultures, if a girl is not a virgin, and she is not married, then she might not be accepted in her society.\n\nBeing a virgin is a good thing. It is the only thing that can guarantee you that you are not pregnant, and that you do not have any STD's.\n\nBut whether being a virgin is something that a person thinks should "count" is entirely up to the person. If you are or aren't a virgin, it is up to you, it is your choice to lose it or not.
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NO!  I lost my virginity just before I turned 14.  Please don't do it, I wish I would have waited.  You have your whole life to have sex and you should share it with someone that truely deserves you.  Don't give yourself to someone who is not worthy of such a beautiful gift.  If you do decide to do it, please, please use a condom and get on birth control.  There are some nasty people out there.
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sexual maturity at 25 and live to aprox 80 years
197908
i think it's good your still a virgin. I'm 25 and still one. I'm one who still believes you need to be married to have sex.
344165
I agree with above. I mean how old are you? If we had more info we could probably help you more. Like if you were lets say 17 but a virgin an dnervous that would be different then a 13 year old that just plain don't know what you could be getting into. If your the young 13 year old just don't do it. Wait!! So many things could go wrong. Give it time so you can understand and enjoy it better.