How do I make my boyfriend understand how much I love him without being clinging?
613914
never be "clingy" and you'll both be happy. no matter how much you CLING- you are only nurturing your own insecurities. Real relationships need space to grow and mature. 7 months is not a terribly long time. It may seem long, but, it's just the beginning. Give him space to be the guy he was when he met you- He hung with friends, had his hobbies, sports, whatever. Be willing to be part of those things- but not CONSUME his every action, be every thing to him- Be his "better half" not his third arm.\n(www.thedorkymom.com) PS: loving HIM. Means loving him, not changing him, or chaining yourself tooooo him. Love him. All his strengths, all his faults, allllll of him. Even the stuff that bugs the heck out of you, haha. \n(www.thedorkymom.com)
130782
First, open ur bible and read 1Corinthians 13:4-8 and if he/she resembles a bit of all or most of these qualities, then he loves u. The best way to know, is if he/she puts ur feelings, thoughts, emotions, ideas...ect, before his/hers. Lastely if they respect u. I hope this answers ur question. \nGood luv'n.
317086
try talking to him again, on how he feels about love. ask him when he think its a good time for a couple to say those words. \n\ni know how your feeling, I've been their. with the boyfriend i am with now. i wasn't for sure when to tell him i loved him too. we live in different countries so he wasn't sure if we would even work. \n\nits been a year now and where stronger then ever, even going to move in together. the moment i told him i loved it was about last fall or winter. he eventually saw how great and wonderful of a person i was and with him. he couldn't help but say those words back to me. \n\nyou pretty much just have to guess when to say it. you can't ignore your feelings, no matter if they get hurt or not. if you love him, tell him and then tell him why you love him. show him how you make him feel, by your words. \n\nif he can't appreciated that, then he's a loser lol. you've been together long enough to start talking about love. if you were to tell me you just been together for a week or two, then i would say no and wait more.
475707
Be grateful that they care for me and they like me and feel flattered, i would just wait and let them think, give them space before they start to say they love me because it takes quite a while in a relationship to learn how to love someone.
580816
Yes, he might just be saying it so he gets more.  You should expect to be asked for more.  \n\nHow to know his true feelings?  Ask!  Ask him why he decided he loves you now?  When did he knew he felt this way?  If its true, the words should flow from the heart.
232860
Actions speak louder than words.  Being there for him is a big thing, and accept him for who he is.  Make him feel important.  Tell him often that you love him, especially when you are looking into his eyes.
570283
dont feel guilty.\nits none of their monkey business\nface this one of a kind challenge in your life\nlet the people know how much you love your boyfriend\ndefend your relationship.
376016
hahahaha!! we got exactly the same problem... well, i guess he really loves you but just can't express it the right way. Talk it to him.. tell him what you feel. I guess i have no doubt for his love but maybe he just don't know how to take care of you. so talk it to him so that he will know what you feel. I did that and my fiance is making progress.. i can see that he is doing his best to show his love to me and to attend also to my needs.. just give him a time don't pressure him..
674023
make him feel the love (emotionally!)
522470
If you don't talk to him, how are you going to find out? You need to communicate SOMEHOW.  But you need to try not to be too pushy so you don't scare him if you know what I mean.  People get scared if they're feeling pushed.  Maybe HE'S afraid to tell YOU how he feels. Try telling him he's really special in your life.  You don't have to come out and say "I love you" -- but everyone likes to hear they are special to others.  Wouldn't you?  I'll be if you heard that from someone (him maybe) -- you wouldn't feel quite so insecure would you?
888364
Let's back up one step.\n\nI suspect that there is a good reason you have recently begun "telling him how passionately and deeply you love him".  You feel insecure about his love, and are hoping he will affirm his devotion to you.\n\nYou should feel insecure!  After all you've given your heart and body to him for six years yet he hasn't shown you a committed kind of love - by asking you to marry him.   You just keep giving yourself and giving yourself hoping to keep him, hoping to coax him into loving you more, hoping that his devotion to you is equal to your (desperate) feelings for love-security.\n\nForget wanting his words of affirmation.  Words are cheap - used car salesmen and politicians use lots of nice words.\n\nGet a commitment or tell him to get lost.\n\nThen you will know.
985859
I think Love is a choice, and as for the telling him you Love him . the best thing to do is say i LOVE the way you...(fill in the blanks) or I Love it when you.... and one way to get him to feel it for you is to copy cat him. not outright bu if he laughs ,laugh back. if he is at dinner and gets a sip of tea, pick your glass up, non chalantly. DO NOT BE OBVIOUS.  when u do this it sends a subliminal message to him that you two really click. he wont know why he feels like that but he will for sure feel it. when he talks be "intrigued " never look away when he is talking. and take an opportunity to touch his hand or pat him on the shoulder or the famous gentle brush against him on the way to the car or in the house. men dont remember what u wore or what the conversation was about they remember the touch and the feeling of connection.the scent you wore and the size of your butt and boobs...COME ON GUYS ...AM I TELLING A LIE?
795402
I have gone through the same problem as you, my boyfriend sometimes sweet talks to me and other times he doesn't, but i'm the same to him. In this way i feel that when we do tell each other that we love each other it is always special. I don't know but it makes the relationship more exciting. I just love my boyfriend and he loves me, sometimes we don't need to say "I love you"  to now that we love each other, just by the looking into our eyes, or the things that we do for each other, we know that we do. You should talk to your boyfriend and tell him exactly how you feel.  Good luck!
201859
hey,\nthe first question u should ask is do u love him. i do understand that sooner or later giving can b quite costly. what u could try and do is increase ur conversations wid him. it does happen when he is content with wat he is gettin n tends to forget to give or just does not knw wat to give u. try to lower ur expectations most importantly.\ni hope everythin goes well :)
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I love you. That took about 1.7 seconds. But he just won't say it, huh. He may say it tomorrow or he may never say it, that isn't exactly the strongest sign that he honestly loves you. There are many factors at work and it will be up to you to muddle your way through it all. Let me see if I can help you do that.\n\nYou will find as you age that Love will take on many faces. \n\nAt times, Love will make you feel like the happiest girl in the world. You will be so filled with It that Love will spill over and get on everyone around you. The whole mood of a room will change when you walk through the door.\n\nOther times, It will take your heart and stomp it into the ground. Just when you think it is done, it will turn and spit on you.\n\nLove will be the thing that defines different periods of your life. Love is better as a group activity but that doesn't mean you can't be alone in your feelings of Love also.\n\nWhat you have to look at here is your boyfriends comfortable zone. In some families the word love is used in everyday language. The children and the parents are quick to assure each other of Its existance. \n\nIn other families, It is said only at times when someone feels a strong need to assure another that they do indeed feel love for them.\n\nThen there are those families where speaking the Word is a bit uncomfortable and is almost or totally absent from their interactions. So...\n\nWhich of these fits your boyfriend's experience. Is the word so common to him that he might find it easy to say even if he feels only a little bit of it towards you? Is he someone that understands his feelings enough to say it only if he is sure of it? Or could he feel an overwhelming Love for you but still not vocalize it? \n\nHere is the defination of "what love is" as given in the Bible. It's not a definition of being in love. It gives a definition that defines what will be present if love is present. Even if the word Love is never said, this is how you will recocnize it.\n\n"Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, (love) is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury,  \nit does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. \n\nIt bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails... So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love."\n\nDon't try to force the Word from him. Don't think that hearing him say the Word is the definitive event that proves It's existance. Actions speak so much louder than words ever will. Instead, look for the signs of Love. Now you know what those signs are.
55364
To make sure that all is forgiven, try and warm up to him. Take him on dates and secure your relationship. Find out how strongly he feels for you and how to make that love even stronger. You might find that he loves you more than you think.
1163902
Why not sit down and talk with them.....express your feelings honestly, and ask how they feel about you.  But don't be in a hurry to end a relationship just because your love doesn't or is unable to say they love you back right at that moment.  Sometimes love buds and develops in time.  That is always a possibility.  Expressing your feeling honestly frequently sets the ball in motion also. What you actually feel and how you come across can be mis-interpeted.  You expression and conversation may be the 1st time your love realized that you "actually" love him/her.  Best of luck to you.   "Love is a many splendid thing"