Worht getting reinvolved with a "bad boy"... do i follow my heart or my heart?
595552
personnally i think it is better to have sumbuddy that is perverted rather than prude! but that probably isnt the best thing to do, trust yourself!
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LOL neparis2001.. that wasn't nice.. true.. but not nice.\n\nI would say that you have started to 'draw a line in the sand' of what you will and will not do for a person, and you are finding your balance.\n\nThat you are able to not run and find out why he hasn't actually met up with you shows that you are maturing with what you find acceptable in how you want to be treated.\n\nIf you have feelings for him, at least you're honest, but how do you feel now that he blew you off?  I think you're worthy of someone that can return your values in a relationship.. if he can't, look for a new place for your feelings so they don't end up hurt.\n\nKeep your chin up and always respect yourself first!!..so you don't have to worry about regaining respect.
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If your heart is telling you no don't stay with him always fallow your gut feelings.If he's someone you can't stop thinking about and you miss him when he's only gone for a short time then your in love with him no dout about it.If you know he's changing for you and wants to do better then he's in love with you too cause he's changing for you.I say don't live in fear you're in love this guy and he loves you too.He loves you so much that he's willing to change for you.He may have messed up in the past and did some hurtful things,but he wants things right again if he's changing his old ways for you then he means it this time and dos'nt want to mess things up again.I say stay with him and give him a second chance show him how much you love him by doing it.I hope that things work out the best for you and him.
449242
YEAH, you go girl.  Forget the loser!  Dont you dare let him back into your life!!!
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Sweety, you have tofollow your heart, Im in the same boat, except if my ex would have me back, I would go running to him, I dont have to think about it I know what I want Im just scared to tell him because what if he rejects me!!!  So just take your time right now to think about what you really truly want, why did you break up, is it worth it, will things be different, what is your heart saying?  good luck...xxx
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I go back to what I was told along time ago.  That is, "Trust your first instincts"  If he kicked you to the curb, then to the curb with him.  He will play with your heart.  He knows you'll always be there when he needs you.  You're better than that.  Do you really need this drama.  You know, where was he for these past 2 - 3 yrs.  Undying love....my ass.  He knows how to play with your mind and you're falling for it.  I don't mean to sound harsh, and I totally am not like this.  I guess you just touched a nerve.\n\nGood luck
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They seem more exciting. But this kind of excitement is very self-destructive for the woman involved with them.\n\nLook for your own self destructive impulses in this relatioship and try to figure out why you don't want more--such as loving kindness, stability, honesty, knowing you are with a man with solid values, knowing you are with someone who at some time will prove to be dangerous to your self esteem and will destroy what positive feelings you may have for yourself.\n\nYou don't do yourself any favors by being with a "bad boy".\nThey can be loving for brief periods but overall you will find your life will turn to misery and hell with a bad boy.
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I'm in that same situation myself.  I have yet to find a way to let the other guy down easily.  I just keep putting it off in hopes that he will get the idea.  I care about both of them, but one  of them has my heart.  If you get a good answer to this question please let me know.  I need the advice myself.
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Sounds to me like you are trying to talk yourself into staying- talking yourself into the idea period.  It doesn't have to be a horrible relationship or an abusive guy to make it just "not feel there". Do what's in your heart.
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He has absued you mentally, reduced your self esteem, made you believe that you love him so much that you  have to hurt yourself physically for him to believe that he has succeeded. My opnion is that you are too good for him because you are still hanging on. If you try hard enough, i believe that slowly you would get over him and recover back to your original self. All I could do is wish you the best of luck.
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The short answer:  You never went wrong.  He did.\n\nYou gave your heart and your body to someone you thought would love and cherish you forever.  He paid you back wtih mental abuse and betrayed your trust.\n\nWhat's the deal?  He's a idiot, but sometimes even an idiot realizes when he has screwed up.\n\nDon't worry about looking back any more.  Just look forward and keep your eyes on the prize.  You're building a new life for yourself and your little girl.  Don't lose sight of that and you'll get through it alright.  I'm not saying that it will be easy; I'm just saying that it's the best way to achieve your goals.  Good luck.
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I am going to empower you, girl, for this Life is far too short to attempt to spend it...as you appear to be trying to. Lesson One: STOP believing that YOU can read anyone else's mind, let alone a man's! STOP injecting YOUR feelings/voice into the space where someone else's feelings/voice should resound. And for the love of God, please STOP yourself whenever you find yourself even THINKING: "Yeah...I KNOW ______ (fill in space with a name) is behaving in this fashion BUT..." The reason why is this: Unless your last name is "Christ" you are most likely under-qualified to accurately 'read' other people's (true) feelings/emotions/thoughts, etc, etc. You can GUESS, but you will NOT always be correct. OK, if someone's real-world/real-time actions DO support a particular notion of yours, you CAN make an educated guess. But, for the sake of your not spending your life spinning your wheels and waiting for guys to act the way YOU 'know' they REALLY feel...please DO consider discerning/judging people (ESPECIALLY MEN!!!) by what they actually DO and NOT by what they say. Try to respect people enough to believe that they actually KNOW what they are saying/doing, even if it is not what YOU prefer them to say/do. Anything less makes YOU the 'bad guy', as in: controlling, manipulative...Bottom Line? If your man really loves you, he will find his own way back to you. And YOU should require nothin' less, because if HE left, he should EARN   you all over again. He will not respect you, otherwise, and you may have a lifetime filled with him goingcominggoingcoming...! A good woman IS worth her weight in diamonds. Has he presented you with something, somethought, someindication, which demonstrates to you HIS understanding of YOUR (positive) worth, yet? If not, why are you even wasting time TRYING to understand HIM?!? My dear, YOU are worth more than YOU (appear to) know. So...here's MY parting 'gift': If he IS an immature jerk, let 'im go. Alternately, (I promise) the minute you STOP! worrying about him and move on with your own life- and No, this doesn't necessarily mean YOU should go out and make an ass of yourself with other guys/men/boys, either- he WILL take notice (meaning: miss the dedicated attention his fabulosity assured him of receiving from you) and come running with his 'feelings' in full display for you to (mis)interpret...again. Oh! And if you are an attractive/sexy/cute/desirable/viable female...the latter will happen sooner than you can blink. Have faith. In you.
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Honestly we are attracted to bad boys. I think that they make us feel a sense of security, however false. Although most women who are with a "bad boy" say that their guy is "different" with them, they are probably lying. Believe me it is easy to keep up appearances if you really love someone. Also if they keep up with the charade long enough they will convince themselves that what their man is doing is okay, and its not.
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Until you decide to love yourself unconditionally you will not realize that if you are willing to take the risk to give someone your heart you deserve the same in return.  If you have the capacity to love a guy without expecting anything in return you are better served focusing that love without conditions on yourself, in the end you will find that not only are you a happier more self confident woman, but guys like the one you are considering will be fighting for your attention.\n\nDon't sell out your integrity.  Don't undervalue the worth of your attention and love.  If you don't value it, no one else will, and this can only lead to heartache.\n\nGood luck and keep your head on straight.
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He does this becasue he has already discovered your weaknesses.  When you stop this, he will then realize that he does care for you enough to stop mistreating you or he will find some other person to manipulate.  When you put your foot down to this and make him think that you DON"T need him and deserve better...AND stick with it...You'll see him change in one way or another, be patient though because he will likely call your bluff, thinking you'll call him or look for him.  Make him think you're already over him and looking forword to your new life with a cool guy who will show you what friendship and love is really about.
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Sounds like he's playing games with you. I wouldn't be so quick to take him back and see what he does then. I think he knows that you will take him back and that is why he is doing this. Guys will do what you let them.  Put a stop to it and let him wait it out, or just let him go. You don't need your emotions messed with like that.
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I am really quite familiar with the kind of guy that you described.  [I was exactly like that before!]  It sounds like he is favoring up to you and you are catching the vibes that he is sending out.  He seems to have other "multiple activity" going on in his life; but believe me, you can surely bring all of that to a halt, and turn him into a lovable little Teddy Bear.  It really does appear that it's you that he is after.  And you just watch!  Once you nail him, he will forget all of those other gals as if they never even existed to begin with.  And once they pick it up that someone nailed him, they won't have anything to do with him either.  It's like a mating-season.  If you are not in it then you don't even notice it. BTW, a well-known symptom of what you described is for him to ask you to hook up with one of your friends.  It's not your friends he is after!  He IS AFTER YOU!!!