Is it normal to feel alone even if you are married?
603874
ya  sometimes it is but if u  feel  that way u need too open up communication with your spouse. and tell  them how u really feel.  do not  bottle it up inside.
41385
find peace within yourself\nyou can be alone and not be lonely\nwhen you become happy with who you are, you lose the loneliness.go to your church or social events\nhang out with your friends ,if your marriage is over move on.
579485
Ocean, first off, don't listen to your friends. Just because society pushes the idea of being involved or married doesn't mean you need to buy into it. Being single is fast becoming a popular alternative lifestyle.\nNow, I will say that if you desire to ALWAYS be alone and live like a hermit, then yes, you might have some form of social anxiety disorder.  However, this does not sound like the case.  If you are fine, happy, and truly comfortable with the lifestyle you have chosen, then stick with it.  Don't let others push you into a lifestyle you are not happy with.
323871
No, I don't think it's wrong. When you've gotten very emotionally intimate with someone, you will miss it. I hope it has nothing to do with feeling like you want to leave your husband though.\n\nI have this deep intimate connection with my husband. We are each other's best friend. I hope that you have the same with yours. It may not be the way you work, but you can change if you want to.
870892
I know it's hard because I know how you feel sort of!  I haven't had the same problems but I got married quite young.  I'm an American so I didn't start parting till I was 21 and got married at 22.  I sometimes watch shows about Ibiza and so on and like why can't I go there?  Plus, I have problems in my head from High School and everytime I try to talk to my husband he is like "Your'll get over it!"  Still he knows when I need to talk and he'll listen.  So sent down with you husband and tell him what is going on before you get depressed!
706352
I think that's a comon feeling.  You're in a rush to "start" your life and that usually includes a husband and kids. Try not to rush it because after you get married to the wrong person you'll realize how silly it was to think that way. 50% of us marry the "wrong" person. We have to be happy as ourselves before being happy w/ others. Suppose it never happens? You need to fulfill your dreams.
1056315
Yes it is easy to get lost in feeling alone. I have several friends but they are all married and none of them understand that being single and on the dating scene is one of the most " alone " feelings in the world. I do believe that they would skip my funeral if it somehow hindered their plans to go to the lake.  \n\nThat is where my faith in GOD comes into play. I do know that God will be with me no matter what and I will not be alone. \nThat is hard to remember some days but it does help me.
364698
I think it is normal to feel this way from time to time. My best advice is to monitor your feelings. If you continue to feel sad and lonely for a long period of time, it probably is best to talk to someone then. Sometimes certain influences in life can cause you to feel like this even if at the time you don't think it isn't a problem ie. a crappy job or relationship woes. It is best to always be honest yourself and never to ignore negative emotions/feelings if they go on too long. Best wishes
1171086
It sounds like you're lonely and craving an understanding and intimacy that you're not getting from you wife.  Before you make a huge decision that will alter yours and many other people's lives, really think about what you're thinking about doing.  My guess is that you and your wife had a very passionate relationship that cooled down after you married.  Once you married, life's monotonous routine got in the way of passion and communication.  Now you're looking outside the marriage for that spark.\n\nBefore you act, do yourself and your wife a favor and talk to her.  Be honest about your feelings.  Maybe her job/friends/family etc... consume all her energy.  Maybe you'll find that she's just as lonely as you are.  Give her a chance to work with you to make your marriage work.  If you feel you can't talk to her, then suggest couples counseling.  If that fails, then I would consider the possibility of ending the marriage.  But before making that decision, please please please give you and her a chance.  Don't give up yet!
685804
Hey, people are not destined to be alone. There is someone out there in this world who is destined for you. Sometimes, they are just right infront of you but you didn't see them! \n\nWe have to meet the wrong persons before meeting the right one. Apperance doesn't count. Its better to read a book than to judge it.\n\nI feel empty, too, at times, but come to think of it again, I have my family and friends who loves me as much. A few of them are also people I could confide it.\n\nSo feel blessed, and don't feel empty.
385469
Are you officially married?  Do you love the person your with? Were your guests your close friends and family?  If yes, then most likely, the guests were just happy to be there to share such a joyous event.  What the event looked like, or actually cost, or what the service was like, means nothing compared to the joy, happiness, friendship, and company that's shared on a wedding day.  If you still feel upset about the reception, invite some of your closest friends/relatives, and throw a backyard bbq or small dinner.  That way, you can share some special time with the people you care about without having to worry about everything working out perfectly.\n\nCongratulations! Best of luck with your new marriage!
1001121
Many people think that when you are married it means that you will never meet someone or see someone you are attracted to or like. The fact of the matter is nothing could be further from the truth. You are not dead simply married. \n\nWhat makes the difference is how you conduct yourself and how you channel that energy and focus those feelings. You may not be able to help how you feel but you do have control over how you react, what you do and what you say about the matter. \n\nThe issue here is commitment and how you need to re-focus that commitment to your husband and your marriage. Marriage takes work and a deep commitment on both parties involve towards making it work, keeping it strong, healthy and mutually satisfying.  \n\nI don't think your issue is the other man rather its perhaps your fear that you are not enough and what you may feel is missing from the relationship you now. Perhpas gone or deminished is the sense of adventure, the explicit attention, the looks that speaks volumes, the focus that is so intense that it’s a turn on and make you feel sensual as a woman and desired. That’s the issue. \n\nIt would be prudent to examine exactly what it is that attracted to you to this man, it is in the behaviour, the roles you play, and the habits and ethos you exhibited when you were doing the mating dance with each other. That is what you have to capture and channel into yourself and your marriage. You have to infuse it with that adrenaline and transfuse it into your relationship\n\nIt starts with you. The things you need, want and desire from your husband give it. Simone de Beauvoir once said that "The curse which lies upon marriage is that, too often the individuals are joined in their weakness rather than in their strength--each asking from the other instead of finding pleasure in giving". \n\nTeach your husband how to treat you\nTeach him how to desire you\nTeach how to love you\n\nThere is no shame in expressing yourself freely, if you cannot do it with the man you have chosen to share you life with then with whom? If you are to get what you want you must be willing to ask for it, give it and be woman enough and confident enough to know you deserve it. Your husband cannot read you mind, and you cannot be afraid to be vulnerable with him, that is what love it, you cannot be afraid to communicate honestly and from the heart. You do not need to give it away, hide it away or throw it away. Express it with the man you married, lovingly and passionately do not communicate your desires in anger, he will not hear you because he will have is defences up protecting himself against the on slaughter. \n\nIts important to know and remember that men want to be loved, desire, and wanted just as women. They may not speak it but they want and yearn for it just as badly.\n\nYou have a responsibility to yourself and your happiness and you must invest in you. You be the best you can be, live your dream and be happy and your will get the best of you because you will be your best. Your husband no matter how much he loves you cannot fill you up entirely because he does not live in your head. You cannot find yourself esteem, self-worth, desire and value in a man, all that treasure lies within you. You are the key, you hold the answers.\n\nLove the one you'r with.
541457
This feeling can occur alot especially if you are feeling overwhelmed by responsibility within the relationship. You may feel that you are carrying more of the weight than the other person. There is also in-laws, friends, etc to deal with other than your own. Don't try, but DO, schedule time away, whether at the park, library, track, gym, spa, knitting club,etc. Find time for you. Time for you to leave your troubles at the door.
818215
On the one hand, it is perfectly normal to have a close friend you can turn to outside of a marriage just to talk about things from a different perspective.\n\nOn the other hand, when you are talking about more than friendship, if nothing else you should think about how your husband might feel if and when he finds out.  (How would *you* feel if you found out your husband was having an affair with an old friend, even someone you knew?)  The longer your affair goes on, the more likely it is he will find out, even if he is trusting enough not to be looking for it.\n\nIf what you really need is just a friend to talk to about things, someone you can just chill with occasionally, then by all means don't discard your old best friend -- but if that is what you really want, then stick to being friends.  If things are going further than friendship there then you need to ask yourself what it is that you really need besides another friendly face to talk to.... is it purely physical?  Is it emotional, the idea of extra attention?  \n\nIf something is lacking in your marriage, try talking to your husband about it.  Guys aren't real good about talking about emotions, but we are even worse at reading minds.  Your husband will be pretty slow to clue in that something's not right if you don't tell him.  --Besides, you might be surprised.  If the guy really loves you, chances are he will do his best to make you happy again.\n\nIf it isn't so much that you are feeling like anything is lacking in your marriage at all, but you just like having "something extra"... well.... how fair is that for your husband?  Being in a committed relationship means a certain amount of compromise and sacrifice -- you can't just go out and do anything you want regardless of your partner.  In a good relationship, though, the relationship itself is worth a lot more than what you have to give up.  \n\nIf your affair is worth more to you than your marriage, then maybe you should think things through a little more carefully.
181844
I feel the question is to vague for an answer , what are your regrets ? You say your spouse and family would be devastated , so are we to assume that your spouse still feels that everything is ok in the marriage? are your regrets things like , what if I had done this or what if I had married this person instead or my life would have been so different if I had never married or had kids? Lots of people at some time and point in their lives wonder what if , that's normal . But if there is nothing truly wrong in your marriage , I feel that you owe it to your family to make it better , to many people today get stuck in ruts and start thinking that the grass is greener on the other side but the reality of it is if you don't find out for your self why you feel this way or make the change within your self to make things better , then it's only a matter of time before the grass on the other side turns brown as well. When you take your vows you make a promise for better or worst , sickness and health , good times and bad , the power is in you to make your marriage and family a success. Think about what you are feeling ,why you are feeling that way, before you jump ship and possibly repeat all the same mistakes and regrets all over again
1080717
You're married, but you're not dead. In other words, being married doesn't eliminate the ability to be attracted to other people. I think it's natural to feel confused, especially if marriage isn't what you expected. The new wears off rather quickly, doesn't it? It's up to you and your hubby to ''keep it real'' because passion tends to fade. If you don't maintain your passion for one another, you will grow bored (a.k.a. the ''comfort rut'') with eachother and will probably be tempted to step outside of your marital boundaries. There's nothing on the ''other side'' that you really want (remember what you hated about single life?)Chances are, you've forgotten about the pitfalls of being single. Marriage is a lot of work (but can also be great) and people have some crazy misconceptions about this kind of committment. For example, before getting married, I honestly believed that married people have sex all the time. I quickly discovered that I was wrong - and that a number of things can affect a couple's sex life. Work and stress are good mood killers, especially for men. \nShould you pursue this other man, what will happen when the new wears off? Will you pursue somebody else in hopes that it will be different? Being with another man will only confuse you, and though you may not realize it, you will also find yourself torn between these two men (unsure about how you really feel).  If you've lost the fire in your current relationship, it's probably because you and your husband haven't made an effort to keep that fire going. \n\nIf the other man is claiming, but isn't acting like he's into you, it's probably because of your marital status. With that in mind, he's  probably very reluctant to get involved with a married woman.
661525
By working hard and keeping yourself so busy that you don't have time or room to feel the loneliness.  I'm married to a Marine.  He is currently gone for his third six- to eight-month deployment in three years.  By the time he comes home half our marriage will have been spent apart.  I guess you can say I live without the one I love.  Keep yourself surrounded by other people you know care about you, like your family, and you will realize that even without "the one you love", you are still loved.