best way to hande my elderly mom she can not live by herself anymore?
607948
Hire help while you are at work.
1086456
The best thing to do is try to  find the nearest elderly person let one go then walk away in disgust leaving the blame to fall onto the poor old dear.  If you have to hold it in try to get to the nearest private place as soon as possible or you may internally combust!
747954
Coming from indian background I can really understand.  Oldest person in the family are some times over protecting.  If she really really wants to go out do something.  Good start would be, to get out of the house initially in the name of non-job activity.  Example - Go out and get registered with college or community college for courses.\n\nI have seen it work.  Slowly they get used to it.
891809
Give her yourself for Christmas---spend time with her---tell her you love her----sit with her and look at old picture albums and let her tell you stories about the photos taken.\n\nYour mom needs nothing but YOU!
832603
deal with it its not forever. I took care of my mom for 4 years everyday. she died 2 years ago and was 82. toward the end of there life they get what is called terminal restlessness. where everything bothers them and they are easily agitated. I just kept saying if i gave up i would never forgive my self. there are places that will come and help maybe sit with him for a few hours so you can do something for you. Good luck
977310
im sorry =(    best wishes to your mom... i dont think theres much you can do besides provide her comfort and let her know your there for her.
929752
there isnt a thing you can do ... i am sorry.... i have a iffy relationship with my mother too... (and i also work with her)....\ni have tryed since i was young to get away from her but somehow it never works out ... although my brothers seemed to have managed it!...lol oh well... just as i get older i try to ignore her "ways"....sometimes its hard ... but at least i do live away from her with my children and husband... but its hard and i think it probably always will be.....just breathe..... and work hard to get your own place!...lol... where you can interact on your terms!... good luck!!!!
947406
There's really not much you can do to get your mom's attention back . She has decided not to care about you, and will probably stick to it throughout her life. You say that you have a 13 year old son, so your mother should be quite old . Usually, the aspect of having grandchilren will make elderly people forget troubles they had with their own children and accept them. But you say that your mom hardly knows him. That would mean that she just doesn't want to have anything to do with you anymore. Maybe it's some kind of trauma she experienced when she had you and your brother? Mother's never ignore their children for no reason. You should really try to ask her..\n\nYou just have to learn accept what you are going through, and try not to act the same with your child. Give him the best attention and love that a mother can give, so that he doesn't have to live the life that you had..\n\nHope the advice was helpful to you.
270490
Tell her there is a huge sale at Strawbridges. \nor\nGo online, print out some coupons for the stores at the mall and then give them to your mom.
1027336
can't you see each other without the aid of anybody? there are lots of ways you know. but, just in case that there are no more options left, tell your mom, who knows, your mom and her bestfriend might even like the idea. :)
835295
check to see if there is a senior center around town, maybe she can even take a bus there, they do alot of activities also, check the library, they usually have programs going on and there are quite a few geared towards seniors
936330
Look up the" Department of aging," it will give you a number to contact someone who can guide you. "Catholic Charties",also have information that will assist you. Even if the person is you, both of these agencies can direct you.
815530
My Mom who just turned 75
850930
Red Cross will help, so will the Salvation Army.  Check with local churches, sometimes they can help too.  If there is a Senior Citizen Center close where you live, they might be able to help out.  Put jars, for people to throw change in at local businesses, that will let you leave them there.
181633
First of all I would get my 17 year old sister out of that situation,if your Mom wants to be stubborn,let her be,but get your sister out! She didn't ask for that. Nothing is free in life,if it was,trust me I'd be first in line!!! Its time your Mom puts the needs of your sister first instead of her own!!!
269919
You need to love and cherish you mother, she is not going to be with you forever. I am sure that your mother is a great person and she probably is not as embarrassing as you think. \n\nEnjoy every single moment that you can with your mother. She obviously loves you and wants the very best for you. Swallow your pride as hard as it may be and just let it go.
579785
Go see a lawyer IN THE SAME STATE AS YOUR FATHER and explain this situation.  Then hang around your father like a tick on a cold day until he signs a will.\n\nThis is the only good way to protect your mother from poverty or delayed property transfers while she is grieving.  All this should be settled now, in advance, based on the blessing of your father knowing he's going to die as well as about WHEN that's going to happen.\n\nYour mother's grief will be ENORMOUSLY AGGRAVATED if her husband dies without a will ("intestate" is the word for that).