Is there still hope for a young women in her 40's to find a nice guy?
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Absolutely!\n\nTake the time to nurture yourself, and pursue your own interests, which may end up being a great way to not only meet potential dating material, but also make some new friends.  Remember, you are whole and complete just by yourself - dating someone may be nice, but it's not neccessary.\n\nThe main thing that I can think of as far as the dating in today's world is to be safe!  If you meet someone through the internet, be sure your first meetings are in public places.  And if anything progresses very far, be sure to practice safe sex!\n\nMost of all, enjoy this new phase of your life and have fun!\n\nP.S. Dr Phil always comes off like a pompous a** to me :-)
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The same things any woman of any age would look for. It depends on the woman. Some want love, desire and a friend in their mate, others are looking not for Mr. Right, but Mr. Right Now and a good time. I am not in my thirties, but I have seen that women of all ages have different drives and needs, so it depends on the person.
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It could be because you just haven't found the right person yet. I know, I know, it sounds totally cliche, but I'm 22 and have a similar problem. The best advice anyone has given me is to just focus yourself and what you want in life and the right person will come along.
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i would say nice guys don't have to be found they just come... you will find a nice guy just don't focus so much on looking for it.
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Yep, you sound like you'd be a really nice guy to get to know. I'm probably too old for you, or live too far away, & I think I've given up on relationships anyhow. But you sound as if you have an awful lot to offer the right woman. I hope you find her & I wish you every happiness & every success!!!
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48 m looking for the same in a woman
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It's not hard, but it seems to me from my experiences that women say they want one thing then actually go after another....\nI'm yet to meet a woman who would go for a genuine nice guy over an asshole who treats them like crap, maybe they just need something to complain about to the nice guys they just want to be "friends" with...
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Well, it's really easy. Finding them, or her, is simple. Many or most young women don't think about it, so they are not looking for an older man. \nNow I've only done this a few times, and all the younger women fit a profile. Usually mature. Well educated. Self-confident. Have had a few relationships. \nBe yourself. Be open. Listen. If you get involved, do it only with a young woman that you like. \nTo find one, well unless you're really objectionable, here are the places: through your employment, girls you work with or contact.\nAsk for their ideas and be willing to meet their friends.\nIf you're in a restaurant or an upscale bar suggest that one or two ladies should join you, BUT, don't "hit" on them. In fact in all cases, never "hit" on them, forget pick up lines. Treat any young woman that interests you as a friend, only.\nSometimes the real problem is one that you didn't mention.
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Hi Sunshine!\n\nI was married for twenty two years and then divorced, so I can absolutely relate to your situation. I will share my experience and maybe it will help you - I sure hope so. (I married my high school sweetheart so he was the only person i had ever dated- talk about culture shock to start dating again).\n\nAfter my divorce, I felt the need to take a little time to adjust and get to know myself. Felt kind of like I had lost myself in the marriage so to speak. I spent the first 6 months after my divorce alone - it was a conscious choice i made. After that time frame, I started going out with my friends/socializing. Everything from going out dancing, traveling together, attending sports events, outdoor activities, etc...In doing these things i made more friends and when someone asked me out - I went. Dating alot during that time frame helped me to see what i really wanted in another person and it got me used to the dating scene again. I let the person know i hadn't dated in a long time and tried to have a sense of humor about the situation, but I would definitely not go on and on about your ex, your marriage, etc...no bigger turn off!\n \nI think sometimes it is hard in the beginning to think about dating because you are afraid things have changed drastically in the dating world after 25 years, but actually it is pretty much the same. Women just have more choices now, then they used to. We can ask guys out, make the decisions, etc...One difference i did find is alot of younger men asked me out. At first, I wasn't comfortable with this, but my friends said, that i needed to realize that age doesn't matter as much anymore. People look younger than they are and younger men seem to like older women because we are more secure and know what we want out of life. It seemed men my own age were interested in younger women after their divorces and older men are too set in their ways or couch potatoes, so the younger guy thing is an alternative - not that you can't find someone great who is a peer or older...\n\nI set some rules for myself as well: No guys too young - just wouldn't be right for me personally, and I have sons that are grown so i did not want to make anyone uncomfortable. I was 42 at time of my divorce and dated men mostly in 34 to 42 age group. I also decided to set limits for sexual activity as well.\n\nDon't be afraid to try internet dating svcs. It is the new way to meet people - you do have to be careful. Don't give out personal info at first, write to them, talk on phone and then finally meet them in a public place. I dated for eight years after my divorce had a great time, met wonderful people and not so wonderful people and just six months ago met a guy online first time i gave yahoo personals a try and we are getting married this year!\n\nHave fun, be adventurous and don't take life too seriously.\nMaybe the first few dates will be hard - getting  used to the dating thing again, but it will get easier and easier. Oh, and if you have kids that are concerned about the dating thing - communicate with them\n\nGood Luck!\nalaska friend
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NO. but i'm only 35. i've done the online dating thing, too. it's tiresome. so is the bar scene. the only suggestion i could give you is to find groups of people with same interests. join local clubs related to your favorite hobbies, or find some that are interesting but you have no knowledge about it. someone there will gladly share their knowledge, and maybe something will click. the more you put yourself out there, act naturally, and just be yourself you'll get results. at least you'll be meeting new people and making new friends. one can NEVER have too many friends!
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27 is not old !!! my wife found me at 28 and she has a son. he was 5 then, just turned 8 last week. we are married now with one on the way - any day now - due date next week. i thort as you do " where is she? where can i look? "  I'll be honest with you, i never believed the old saying " stop looking and they'll find you "   but thats exactly what happened. honest. the only real advice i can give would be, dont try too hard, be yourself at all times, dont wait too long before you tell him you have a child, go out when you can with friends, explore all avenues (i mean blind dates and set ups as long as evaluating all pickup lines).  goodluck and i hope that the right guy is just aroun the corner for you.
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i cano often be found at church.  im only 22, but hey, age is just a number.  seriously though, we are a bit harder to find than an average guy.  usually (i know in my case) we are a bit shy.  we don't often hit on girls, we think it rude.  ergo, nice guys finish last.  some of us do respect women, personally i had no choice growing up, having 4 sisters, no brothers until i was 11, and a step dad that i really didnt get along with, it wasnt hard to learn.\n\n\n\nmaybe try lowes, or star nursery.  stay away from wal mart though.  unless you want a good deal on something.  \n\n\ni got you beat on how long its been since a date, too.  i know its not a contest and i probably get the loser award, but im working on 22 1/2 yrs.  also known as "never"
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When I was dating, I had lots of err interesting experiences.. from men that were a grandfather age. Too married men who wore my drink...who just wanted to get lucky. The the nice guys, who just bought dinner and we didn't click..  It can be fun if you do it safely.. Like a public spot.. we are women after all. \n\nI don't think if I was single again, i would look for a mate on line.  I might try speed dating.. or let someone fix me up.  \n\nGood Luck!
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Don't know why that seems to be the case, but it is.  There are more immature, insecure young women in this world with self-esteem problems than those who are not.  But you probably have much higher standards than that anyway and you may have been saved from a fate worse than death.\n\nMany desirable women are looking for someone just like you to come along -- trust me on this.  Just keep livinig!
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Don't give up my dear! There is more than one fish in the sea and as long as we end up happy and treated with love from the people we are with, I believe that life would be satisfying.\nI also am over 40. I look for a lady by day and hot to trot by night. (some of that hottie stuff can be daytime too)  I realize that we are not 20 anymore and our bodies are older but show off your best assets to show your confidence. Don't go overboard. Be yourself. Take up fun activities to keep an interest. Just hang in there and keep trying because it is nice to have someone around to laugh and talk to, to share fun and intimate things with as you get older.\ngood luck in love and life.
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I am 38 and have never been married. Sometimes I lose hope and then I think that there is someone out there for me and I just haven't found him yet. It will all happen in time. \nIt is hard to find a man that actually wants a commitment. They are few and far between.\nMy advice is not to go looking. It will happen when you least expect it.\nGood Luck!
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I myself am not inclined to date a guy more then a year or two younger then me. The stereotype says that young men are immature and while it does have it's truth I think it's more about life experience and I couldn't handle a guy that not on my level. I am not saying relationships with large age gaps don't work, just that I would pass on that scene. On the flip side women are sometimes attracted to older men, again that whole stereotype that older men are more mature. For one that's not always true and in most cases older guys looking for younger women are just using them for sex and half of those guys are still married. I guess what I am trying to say is they have to much baggage. They have been screwed over by too many other women generally and so again not that those relationships don't work out but I have no intention on venturing there either.