My man does not attempt to please me, consider my feelings, or put me over friends, weed, and gambling. Help.?
599332
As you get healthier, you will see this toxic situation for what it is (you are beginning to) and will want to get out of it.  He is in serious denial over his own problems and wants to pull you back down into the cesspool with him because he is afraid of you getting healthy and leaving him.\n\nYou need to do what you need to do and take care of yourself and your child.
380081
He wants his cake and eat it too. My suggestion: back away, take some time for yourself and then find someone who's ready to give you what you want and need. I'm sure your friend is nice, but if he was ready to commit, he would have done so by now. And finally, you don't need him even as a friend in your life, cuz he'll always be there to play mind game with you. Do you need all that drama?
27020
I agree with some of the others.  playas often say anything to get into your pants and then drop you like a bad habit when they find a new one.  So plz be careful and take it very slow.  If he's really trying to straighten out his life, he'll be patient enough to go the distance.
456820
maybe when you told him he wasn't getting any , he stayed with you just in case you eventually let your guard down, he is an idiot to not call you after running around after you so much..leaving town is a BullSh*t excuse and now he is probably looking elsewhere....you were indeed played like a hand of poker..get over it and find someone who can treat you right
918202
I am not a man, but couldn't resist answering this one.  He doesn't want you to be out all night long, he is thinking if you are out all night long then you are spending the night with another man.  He says he is glad you don't care anymore, but his actions speak louder than words.  Keep on acting like you don't care and see how fast he wants to come back home.
80925
You need to get over it.  He's a man.  That's what men do.  His intention isn't to hurt you.
291869
Think about the future. Sweet is nice, but it doesn't get the bills paid. If he's a hard worker, makes good money, takes good care of you, is nice, then leave him alone and shut up. If he's basically useless, and just wants to do his own little smoking thing, dump him.
152126
There is nothing wrong or missing from you. You need to talk to him and make it extremely clear that you don't like that behavior. If he refuses (or just doesn't) change then look into couples counselling.
247217
He might just be feeling uncertain about his feelings and how to express them to you.  I think you just need to have an honest talk with him about how you feel about each other.  Be careful though, it could be that his hormones are guiding him if you know what I mean.  Don't let him use you.  Keep him in line and he will always respect you.  You have too many years invested as really good friends to mess it up by becoming too personal.  Good luck!
793355
Don't try to change his mind about what he want it will only make him think that you depend on him.Just get with your friends and do something and let him along cause you don't need to be with some one that don't want to be with you.Try to do something to make yourself happy.When you see him act like you happy so he want think that he running things.
237543
Tell him straight-out, give him an example or two. If he doesn't act like he cares or makes no changes in how he is treating you, and IF you are not married, perhaps you are wasting time with Mr. Wrong, that you could be spending with a Mr. Right somewhere along the line. You must value yourself as a person enough to do this; if you continue to allow him to act like you don't matter, then you are basically agreeing with him. You do matter, you do have a choice, and there are plenty of other guys that would likely find you captivating and enjoy acknowledging you and including you in their world.
788950
okay i know this might suck to hear, but he prob is on drugs...now im not saying that he gets high everynight...but theres a good chance he at least does it sometimes. guys like that sometimes arent worth your time...but if you really love him, give it a chance. just don't let him peer pressure you into doing anything you dont want to do.\n\nhope it works out, jamie
121226
He may be gay. Have you given that any thought?\nOr his life goals could be taking another direction and he may be truly not ready for a relationship,Respect that and dont force the issue.It takes a lot of self control to sacrifice basic drives and instincts for a high&#92;er purpose.If you force the issue and he gives in he may end up resenting that down the line.Stay close tell him you support and respect his determination and see if he will be willing to be your friend at this point and let fate lead .
868184
It sounds like he doesn't want to be involved with anyone....if he never brings you around his friends then that's a sure sign that he doesn't want to commit to you...If he never puts forth the effort of calling you or wanting to hang out EXCEPT when it's convenient for him then you need to get rid of him...he's keeping you on the back burner until something else better comes along..don't count anything against him when you two were broken up because he was a single man... so it shouldn't matter who he sleeps with or who he doesn't during that time...  If you don't feel like his gf then he probably doesn't see you as one...
66780
Congratulations on quitting smoking.\n\nIt is too bad that the two of you are allowing a marriage proposal to be used as leverage. This sounds very unhealthy, and is probably indicative of a very immature outlook on your relationship. What makes you think that he completes you anyway?\n\nGrow a backbone! Become the person you would want to be in spite of him. Either he never really loved you in the first place, in which case you'll be better off for growing into your own, or he'll fall in love with you all over again with a woman he truly admires - he'll be begging you to marry him - at which point you may realize you can do better than his sorry a$$.
86990
He just used you. He didn't want a relationship but rather the sex. \nTake some time to spend with your real friends. Evaluate what you are doing and take their input into account. They do care about you. The final decision in your problem relationship should be up to you though. Don't let well meaning friends ever take away a golden chance at happiness because they're nervous or it's a faux pau to them that it's moving too fast. It's your life.\n    As far as this situation though, dump the jerk and find a man that does appreciate you. Just don't jump right into bed with him. I'm like a pot calling the kettle black but I'll say it anyway. Slow down...evaluate...take the time to be sure of what you're doing.
1128014
It's obvious that you need to tell him that you're not compatible. Honesty would be the best way to let someone know you're not feeling them. You shouldn't necessarily go into the drug-use and the ignorance unless he leaves you no choice. If he pulls a dumb-one and tries to act as if you're doing something wrong by telling him that you're not interested in him anymore, then let him know what exactly you're trying to say. He should get it then. Good luck with this.