my girlfriend was forced to marry another,now she is unhappy,so am i,what do i do?
603486
If your parents would never let you have anything to do with her, then why would you want to call her. You would only raise her hopes up, only to be let down. If you ARE going to take her back without your parents consent then yes, call her and tell her that you still love her.
595755
Your GF was wrong, but she is upset because she thinks that the ex is trying to get you back, or that you want the ex back. It can be very hard on the GF when the ex starts calling. \n\nYou were kind to talk to your ex when she was upset. But if you want to move on with another woman you need to talk to her (ex) when she is not upset and tell her that she has to find someone else for emotional support, then you have to follow through and not talk to her. Next, even though you were not wrong to listen to someone in distress, you do need to apologize to your GF. Try to explain that you don't want this other woman bac and that you are sorry that your GF was hurt.
183985
She's afraid to be hurt again, obviously you both had problems that led you both to separate. Have you both discussed these problems? Are you both willing to change whatever it was that led you to split up? Or maybe she is afraid to let go entirely, I know that is what happened to me. Sometimes it's better to be with someone than to be alone. You both need to sit down and discuss these issues. Have you tried any counseling--together or separate to try to figure all this stuff out, love and marriage are very complicated things and most times we need a third party to be objective. Good luck and God bless.
169973
she can... i've been in an opposite situation... :( i've cheated my girl and she forgave me... \nbut then she did cheat, and i got angry enough to leave her...
187665
Notorious ways? Are they self destructive? Are they hard to live with? What are the things that you may need to revise in yourself? Marriage is a two way street. No matter what, I would give it some more time. It could be that she is feeling lonely and that is why she wants back. If there is going to be a reconciliation you both need to address some issues and be willing to put the time and energy into resolving those. You cannot do it without the help of an oursider--a marriage councelor. Do all of this before you live together again. I smell disaster if you don't.
693518
Just forget her. Why did she leave you for another man? Is it your fault or her fault? Find another girl. If she leaved you for another man, it means she's not your soulmates. She's not meant to be for you
959299
I can relate to you perfectly. The guy I have been with for just about a year did not know if he wanted to keep the relationship going. After a long talk I said I was willing to work on it but he still needed time to think it has been like 6 days now and he hasn't even called me. Your entitled to be sad and angry after all she wasn't 100% honest with you and that is always painful. About the being torn part the best thing I can say to you is to pray and ask who ever your god may be to give you the strength to get past this and to open your mind and heart so that you can know what it is you have to do. Also taking a break with her might not be a bad thing after all you never know what you have until you lose it. Good luck and I'll keep you in my prayers.
173579
First of all, you need to step back and take a look at this situation. If she left you for another man after only 4 months of marriage, she wasn't as committed as you thought she was. It would be an embarrassment to you if you were to buy her a gift to get her to come back, and would be totally ruthless of her to accept it. If she wasn't committed enough to make it work after only 4 months, she isn't going to be any more committed if she were to come back home. I'm sorry to sound cruel, but I was in a marriage that ended because of my ex's infidelity. I tried to work it out with him, but he only broke my heart more by messing around with other women when he came back. My suggestion is that you should cut your losses, and let the divorce go through, and find a woman who TRUELY loves you unconditionally! Good Luck!
1018180
honestly i know how u feel, but trying to "control" the situation, that iswhat u r doing, will only make mattersworse, shewill go into further rebellion, and things in the marriage will go down hill.   part of Love is free and what holds it together is trust (and God) but if you don't have either of these it will never last.  you need to let her do her thing( not saying im choosing sides)  but if you let love go and its true love it will come back.  if you smother and squeeze it, it will flee from you.  as hard as it is, you need to give her what she needs (space and freedom) she is in the wrong ( married people do not belong at BARS).  LET GO OF THE REIGNS bite your tongue, and tell her go ahead (just pray when shes out that she will come to realize its not the place to be. good luck
1045415
I feel sorry for you. I think that she still loves and cares for you, but she has been emotionally drained from the marriage.\n\nWhen a woman is fed up she is fed up. Especially when she in truly in love and her partner is not returning the emotions. She can only keep trying for so long before she has to stop and think about if it is really worth it.\n\nI don't want to say but here it is" You should have treated her like a queen when you had her". It may be to little to late, but try and remain on good terms with her. She may just give you another chance. Just remember, if she does come back, don't fall into the routine of neglecting her feelings. If she leaves again, she may never come back.\n\nGood Luck!
684526
What a good brother to worry about her!\n\n\nthis is not about you.\n\n\nshe is hurt hon ,\nand you are her string to life. If she loses you what will she do? She needs some reassurance that she is beautiful and amazing.That you are on her side and the person that hurt her is nuts.You would of course never hurt her and if you weren't related.... of course you would marry her. Then go with her to a support group or to therapy. she has just simply lost too much....this was the  straw that broke the camels back....everyone grieves differently.  you and your girlfriend need to spend lots of time with her good luck
161206
why would you want to be with someone you don't want to marry? Your wasting your time as well as hers. You should let her find someone who will want to marry her.
978121
Looks like your trying to do what you can to make it work.  A relationship cannot work if only one person is trying.  Why don't you address her with your issues.  Tell her how you feel and what you want.  All the things that you put into the relationship your not getting out.  Communication is really the best thing you can do at this point.  Understand where you both are coming from.  You have to stand your ground.  If she still does not understand your concerns and thoughts let her know, it's either marriage counciling (or working things out on your own), or your gone.\n\nWell, I know leaving is very hard.  Just try to make it work.  If you love her and your kids, then staying with nothing changing can still be very heartbreaking.  Even if your at the bad end of this situation maybe take her to dinner for just the two of you and talk to her about it.  If you push it in her face with frustration she will push back with an "well I don't care" attitude.
34901
if you dont like that she has another friend tell her that she has to choose either you or him, if she dumped you, its ok go find another girl.
9144
That is really tough and I'm sorry you had to experience it.  It's a leasson in life for you - be careful who you give your trust to in the future. Always be aware of human nature - and the ego aspect. \n\nIf it helps you any, she will get what she deserves from all this betrayal....perhaps the two of them deserve each other - and each will never be able to trust the other, knowing what they've done behind your back.\n\nAs for you, hold your head high and let people see that you are happy to be far away from two such sneaks as the two of them.  \n\nIn time, you will find someone who really deserves you, and would never treat you in such a way. Then you will not give this whole thing a second thought except in gratitude.
227075
I have to agree with rkrell, i have been where you are, get her out of that situation. it is nothing but trouble  for you. Those are the doors that need to be closed in life. Especially fomr the past, if they remain open your future will never be as it could and should be. Especially since you two want to get married. You are only short changing yourrelationship by allowing her to getto knwo this guy...bad move
906318
If working on your marriage is out of the question then set her free.  She made her choice.  I know u don't want her to get hurt by the other guy but it looks like she will just have to find out the hard way.  What more can u do?  Like I said, she made her choice.