i am in love of my brother's wife,and i think she also is,what shall i do,declare or suffer in silent?
612175
Noone seems to want to touch this one, but I'm going to go ahead and say that you should keep your mouth shut. You'll end up tearing your family apart, and if not yours, then his at the very least. Think of the position you'll be putting her into.\nWorst case senario: You tell her so she divorces him and runs off with you. You don't end up being right for each other and break up soon after, but you've already hurt your family members for nothing.\nBest case 1: You tell her and she runs off with you instead. You're happy with her, but never speak to your brother (or maybe more family members) again.\nBest case 2: You tell her and she stays with your brother. Now you're even more hurt than before and she acts awkward around you.\nMoral of the story is, don't do it. It's not worth it.
942337
It is going to get harder on you, rather than her. The shots are nothing compare on what your feelings will be. When she starts getting her shots, her hair will start growing and her voice will changed. You must really love her to go through this with her and not leave her alone. But your feelings is what I am concern with. You will experience, the lost of a wife, you will get angry because she is doing this to you, you will be in a sort of merry go round, for a long time. She will be too, but not as much because she is doing what she wants to do. One thing I will tell you, you are not responsible for what she is doing, it is not your fault, it is nothing that you did. Try to get some help for you in the meantime, because with all the changes in her you will be feeling less than a man. Remember, my friend, you are a good man, and the same man you have always been, keep your head up.  But I must tell you also, you are a very strong man and I do salute you for that. God be with you both.Sincerely, Boricua
1107777
I guess you learned the hard way that you can't bad mouth family to family.\n\nI don't like lying, so I can't tell you to keep it up, best to just say, "sorry for the misunderstanding" if she says anything. Then, keep your mouth shut around the brother!
230951
I think your brother would want you to do something that makes you happy, that's what I would want my sister to do. Just think of him kindly and enjoy your day.
421290
I have a huge crush on my husband's brother.
1039697
you are going to have to be straightforward and direct with them. You tell them point blank, this is the woman I have chosen, if you love me then you will have to accept her. Tell them she will be your wife, and you are expecting to see enough respect out of them not to ruin your joy. When they see you will stand beside your wife-to-be at all cost, they will submit. Be sure to guard your lady against their rejection, it will break her heart. Be firm, but gentle, and stand your ground. You obviously are not a child anymore, and should not act/be treated like one. Good luck!
115414
Be pure luck and the grace of God, I think I have found my TRUE love after 2 marriges and a string of broken relationships.\nWe are both happier than either of us have ever been and she says she feels the same as I do.
1048415
umm, ok, first of all, marrying your sister is kind of wrong, secondly why are you so in love with your sister, and thirdly you might want to think back to when you were a young child and remember any innapropriate touching that went on between you and your sister. then I would remove contact from your sister and recieve extensive counceling in another state so you can get over these innappropriate feelings you have. seriously, its not right to feel that way about your sister and you should not be asking HOW to tell your sister you should be asking WHY you feel that way. No offense but were you molested?
629221
Tell her how much you love her, a few good memories you both have together doing something as sisters, and how lucky her husband is to have her and if he screws up you'll kick his a$$!  You want to have a good one, but not long, something that drills the point home.  Make the husband feel welcome to the family though, because if not, it really affects your relationship with her...
1018180
honestly i know how u feel, but trying to "control" the situation, that iswhat u r doing, will only make mattersworse, shewill go into further rebellion, and things in the marriage will go down hill.   part of Love is free and what holds it together is trust (and God) but if you don't have either of these it will never last.  you need to let her do her thing( not saying im choosing sides)  but if you let love go and its true love it will come back.  if you smother and squeeze it, it will flee from you.  as hard as it is, you need to give her what she needs (space and freedom) she is in the wrong ( married people do not belong at BARS).  LET GO OF THE REIGNS bite your tongue, and tell her go ahead (just pray when shes out that she will come to realize its not the place to be. good luck
268811
Just tell her. If you're married she'll understand and listen to what you have to say.
66160
yes you should tell him as soon as possible so he can get his treatment. my brother's ex wife was with another man a week before my brother and her met and they established a relationship they even got married, what she didn't tell my brother was that she had an std and she was getting treated for it and didn't tell my brother so he wouldn't worry so when they broke up 6 years later my brother found out he had an std and he was furious, he confronted her and all she said was I'm sorry. she knew and didn't say anything. So if I were you I would just tell him that I have an std at first so then you can explain better as you go
520603
You owe your wife the truth.  She has a right to know what kind of man she is married to. The longer you wait to own up to all of this with her, the more hurt and angry she is going to be. Try to be a man in all of this, tell her the truth and let her move on with her life. Your feelings are not the only ones at stake here.
819125
i just answer the same quistion,[excpt the brother already found out]ok. i would applogize and be ashamed of my self for doing so and stop having the affair.
1153353
this is dangerous, and i know u dont want to lose him, i feel bad for her too, but if u choose to help her i would do it cautiously if i were u, that is someone else's relationship, and u and ur man have ur own relationship, and u shouldnt do anything to put ur relationship in danger if u plan on marrying him, but it seems that him and his brother has been putting ur relationship in danger. He dont deserve her and his selfish stupidity has spilled into ur family(aunt). i love to help ppl in need and if she love him she has a gut feeling of what he's doing, you know- that woman's intuition that all of us females have- where the guys think theyre getting away with thier foolish acts but we know we just dont say anything cause we want to be sure(getting concrete details). that speaking highly of you to help someone you dont know, but just first think about whats more important to you- do it seem like ur relationship is on the marriage route or are yall just waiting for the first person to say their final goodbye. If u want to talk to her urself, ask her to go out with you shopping, yall could have girl talk. if you do it anonymously find her number or work number or where she work, leave her a message,HINT:if he's stupid enough to cheat he's dumb enough to get caught, u can find evidence somewhere so shell know ur not lieing\n\nDoes ur bf find what he's doing ok cause if so, 9 out of 10 u could be in the same boat as her.\n\nBut out of everything just said consider not telling her cause in due time shell find out, and u never know she might know already shes probably playing him for a fool too. Just consider EVERY thing.
1142659
I would tend to assume from her behavior that she likes you A LOT. However, it is not impossible for this sort of behavior to be a brother-sister thing, particularly if one or both of the parties is gay (or one party thinks the other is gay).\n\nI think you two need to have a frank talk. Before you do that, be very sure what you want from this relationship. Are you ready for a serious, permanent relationship?\n\nAs far as she herself is concerned, keep in mind that if she is a very devout Christian, she will most probably want to keep things platonic (at least overtly) at least until engagement, if not until marriage. So for God's sake, DO NOT try to be even minutely non-platonic with her unless you have plainly stated your intent to marry her.\n\nAgain, basically the only way (at least the only decent way) you're going to find out what's going on is to ask. Yes, think about the matters I mention above, but once you've done that, I suggest you have the serious talk with her ASAP.\n\nTrust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your path straight. (Proverbs 3:5-6)\n\nMay He bless you.
74774
Amen! to what ab72756 said.\n\nIf you care, put God aside for a moment, and talk to your brother. See what is in his mind. Support him. Be by his side.