i am scares my son is over his head in a relationship he isn't ready for should i intervene.?
599630
You need to talk to him and warn him about birth control. I would advise you to not say anything about this girl unless he is doing something life threatening or something that could change his life forever. If you have to mention it; do so in a nice way. If you say anything to him that is bad about her it will probably make him want to see her all the more. This relationship is probably one in many he will have during the process of growing up. But just tell him you are there to talk to him if he ever needs anyone to talk to.
1141923
That is hard. It depends where you are at. Here in the state of KS at the age of 12 the child can decide who they want to be with. You should ask about that law. Im sorry to hear what your son is going threw. Tell him to be strong.
851465
Not all men are scared just the selfish or insecure ones good luck at least when you do find him he will be confident and sharing remember you don't just need any man but 1 who would be there for you both a good role model for your son and a lover and friend for you.
323681
JUST IGNORE HIM! TELL HIM HE WAS ADOPTED ALSO, OR JUST LEAVE IT ALONE HE SOUNDS LIKE A STUPID KID. BE THE SMART KID AND WALK AWAY, BECAUSE IF YOU FIGHT HIM YOU MIGHT GET IN TROUBLE AND IT'LL BE WORST FOR YOU. JUST WALK AWAY! SO WHAT IF HE SAY'S YOUR SCARED.
1122454
he needs counselling, surely the baby will be fine and he's just scared.  good luck!
493794
Just be there for him. The most important thing is for him to be comforted afterwards. There is nothing psychologically wrong with, it's perfectly normal and more common than most people realize. Eventually he will grow out of it or learn to be more secure and deal with it himself.
795540
Your husband needs help.  He is a child predator, and his behavior will pass on to your son.  It is your duty as a parent to protect your child...at any sane cost.
498381
I got this alright dear action speaks louder than words i'm sure somewhere deep he does,and the reason she feels threatend by you and your child is because he has gave no indication to her that he will stay and commit thats what shes pushing for. now you must ask yourself this would you like to have a life with a person who does'nt know how to make a decission and see it through and always be caught in some type of drama all through the duration of this relationship? or would you like to keep your chin up and let sleeping dawgs lye where they lye you might feel a little lonley,hurt and being with a child from this person makes you really want to let him in but think of this there is someone out there that knows what he wants in a woman adn you might be her
1073242
hey steffy,\n\nThe part that jumps out at me are the words abusive and destructive!  I really hope good things happen to you! I mean it!\n\nIf the relationship was that way, then it was also that way for your child....  even if he/she wasn't around to witness it.  Kids pick up on our emotions and feelings...  I'm no expert, but think long and hard before you put yourself and your child back into harms way!\n\nKeep your head high and demand respect!
60661
Hi Caspersweetpea! Sean here (the guy you sent an MSN Messenger Live Beta invitation to but at the wrong address :). This situation invites a lot of problems. If that was my kid, I would tell her employer this is not good for my son since he is only 15. The kid your son is babysitting needs special care that only an adult can give specially with his anger problem. If something bad happens to the kid he is babysitting, your son will carry a lot of psychological burden for the rest of his life. If something bad happens to your kid, are you willing to take that risk?
1048362
Their is no prepapatioon 4 that. What ever happens next is on him. But what u can do is make sure your their 4 him and, in the nicest way, correct his mistakes & reinform him on what he need 2 b doing.
261694
it doesn't sound to good, he sounds like he's a nightmare to live with. my advice is leave him before you get hurt anymore.
850353
its obvious your son shares your trust, id say yes leave him with the benifit of doubt, he is unmistakenly reaching out to you an letting you in because he choses to...so give yourself the credit that you deserve, your doing a great job raising him the right darl, congrats, as a mother i feel to have a child that confides in you is way better then sitting arond stressed out of your mind wondering what is going through there heads an what they are up to when you are not arond to guide them...it will send even the best of us over the edge.\nyou and your son must have a really great realationship.\nkeep up the good work mum.
1096446
Yes there is so much you can to do to help.  You have to let him know  that this situation is not the end of the world.  What if this person wasn't the person God wanted to bless you son with, what if God has some one better in life for him, you have to be supportive and just be there for him.  Pray for him that he can get past this time in his life and you have to let him know life isn't always what we would like it to be.   God didn't promised laughter without  pain nor sunshine without rain but when situations like this comes to face us He said He would be our comforter and friend and He will always be there for us.  Just trust Him and let Him guide you  to be the comforter for your son.  I know it's tough on him but he just can't let this broken-relationship be the end of the world. He has to be strong and move on, when a child is learning to walk, no matter how many times he may fall down his goal is to walk so too in life when the going gets tough we need to be much, much more tougher.
250691
I would stay clear of him for a looong time.  Clearly, he has some growing up to do.  You are WAY too young to be involved with someone like that.  And if he's not stepping up and being a man by supporting his baby, don't think twice that he wouldn't do the same to YOU.
61561
Who cares what others think.  If you and he both think it will work out, than it will.  If he treats you and your kids great... wonderful!  Maybe he seemed mature before because you didn't know him very much, or maybe he was depressed, and now that he knows you, he feels like he can really be himself and have fun.  I wouldn't worry about anything.  Sounds just fine to me.
644676
He's scared!!! marrage S a scary thing 4 guys, Nclud'n me! I wouldn't want 2 walk down an isel know'n that something might happen, something bad, something good something of something, lot's of things pop up 2 guy's heads, calm him down, tell him it'll B alright, tell him that U want 2 let the world know U care 4 him. show some calmness N2 his scared heart