I've started cutting.. and I can't stop. When I do it, it doesn't hurt anymore because I've done it so much
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i understand where you are coming from i have experienced this and it got to the point of becoming suicidal i reached out for help whether i felt i needed it or not and now looking back on things i regretted doing it because it tears a relationships apart and you are scared for life. if anything seek help and help yourself through counseling and partial hospitalization because you are not alone and there are people to help professionally and if you feel uncomfortable with help seek a minister in a church they can also help but counseling is the best way because the are more open to receive your thoughts emotions and can help you with medications and can do tests to help. they also understand your hurt frustrations anger and no one has to know it is kept between you and them and in the long run reaching out in this manner you may find a friend and a support to help you through and gain back your respect and love that you may feel that is gone
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Listen to him. Cutting is a sign of severe depression. He needs psychiatric care NOW. Listening is the best thing you can do for him, besides getting him the therapy he needs.
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I am not a parent of a child that self-harms..but if it is any consilation ..I used to be a child who did the "self-harming" ...if I can be of any help just let me know....
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Just be his friend and try to get him to stop......If he continues to cut then tell someone who can help.
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I am a recovering cutter myself so I can tell you that you cant do anything to make her stop. You can, however, help her by letting her know that you truly care and want to understand. Make sure she knows that whenever she needs to talk you are always ALWAYS available to listen to her. You might try asking her to call you whenever she fights with her mom or whenever her mom hurts her instead of cutting herself.\n\nPeople who cut themselves do sometimes have suicidal thoughts, but the act of cutting is not a suicide attempt in itself. Self-mutilation is a coping mechanism that people use to try to comfort themselves because "normal" coping mechanisms like running, writing, "take a deep breath", etc doesnt work for them. Because of this make sure you never refer to her cutting as wrong or bad or abnormal because its her last resort to deal with her pain.\n\nAs far as telling someone, I would advise you dont tell anyone just yet. Before you tell someone you need to talk to her about it and suggest that you can be with her when she tells someone. If she refuses to tell someone no matter how hard you try you need to tell her that if she doesnt tell someone then you will. Like someone else said, cutting is often a sign of some sort of mental health disorder and can be treated with medication and/or therapy. \n\nGood luck and if you have any more questions or your friend needs someone to talk to who's been through all this PLEASE dont hesitate to IM me on AIM at HeresToGoodnight. Or you can email me at my yahoo email adress and I will be more than happy to help you guys out. Good luck!
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yoga and accupuncture have worked for me. I used to be a cutter myself.
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Let all that pressure and pain out another way. Try to find the courage to tell someone what you are doing. This doesn't have to be an adult. A close friend is good. If you cannot bring yourself to instigate this 'confession', turn the tables. If you are asked, admit it. And be honest to yourself about the reasons why you are doing it. Trust me - it will be a relief and only after admitting it will you be able to find other outlets and a way to mend the pain that is causing you to feel the need to self-mutilate.\n\nA great outlet is acknowledgeing how you feel and sharing this with someone else. Just having someone else understand is a huge release. Also knowing you are not the only one doing this.  And the feeling of being unburdened...\n\nYou are not mad so do not worry about what others might think. Find someone to confide in - it really will help.
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Self mutilating is another issue. I'm sure you had to see a Dr. to determine that you are Bi-polar. PLEASE,PLEASE go and talk to the Dr. I had and I mean literally HAD a friend who was Bi-polar, and was also a cutter, and she did such a good job, that she is no longer here in this life. The only way to help yourself is to face it and get the help you need. Praying for you...
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I'm not a cutter but I think the best thing for you, is to maybe try talking to someone about this. You say you do that to feel normal, but just because a lot of people do that, doesn't mean it's normal. If you don't want to talk to anyone about that, try just stopping cold turkey. Throw away all your razors, don't resort to any other means of self harm. Find a hobby and be constructive!
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You said you want to stop....that is the first step. Find other things to do rather than to cut. Assuming that you cut to release pain one simple thing is that you might put a lose-fitting rubber band around your wrist and snap it. It causes pain and thus releases the need. Best of luck.
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STOP SELF HARM IMMEDIATELY!!!  It is an addictive habit that is very difficult to break.  You use this as a coping mechinism and eventually become dependant on it to relieve stress and unpleasent feelings that you can't mentally deal with.  The more you do it the deeper the cuts get and the more offten you cut.  I cannot stress enough--STOP WHILE YOU STILL CAN!!!\nAs for the depressin feelings, see a Dr asap, it won't go away by itself, it will only get worse.  You can be depressed for no apparent reason.  depression is a disease caused by not enough happy-feel good chemicals (usually seratonin) in your brain.  The dr can give you meds that will help balance you and you can live a normal life again.  You may also consider counseling to help you learn to combat the depressing feelings.  Don't let your symptoms go too long without being treated.  especially since you are harming yourself.\n\npeace&hope
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Yeah it's so hard to stop even though you really don't wanna do it anymore. once your addicted its a hard habit to break. my mom says why do you do it and i tell her because i can't help it.
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Hi,Daisy well all I can tell you is STOP!! I know its hard but you really have to try. Right now I'm trying to help my sister stop too. And she is also 14. Just think about all the people who LOVE you and what will happen if you cut your self to deep. If you need any more advise you can contact me at              youngwon1025@yahoo.com
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If you have a problem with cutting yourself, I would reccomend seeing a tharipist or shrink.  There may be some in your area.  Look under Mental Health in your phone book.
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Self-mutilation is a coping mechanism. It releases stress, pain, fear, or anxiety. Sometimes it is done to make the self-injurer feel "real" or "alive". Also, sometimes self-mutilation is done to regain control. They want to be in control of their own pain. People who self-injure are not psychotic or crazy. Self-mutilation is addicting and many self-injurers feel a strong urge to commit the act. They also feel more tense and anxious if they try to resist the urge to self-mutilate. After the act is committed, self-injurers feel relieved or more "real".\n\nI started cutting when I was 12. It's just an addiction. I'm 27 and still fight the urge. Therapy has never helped me, even in my teenage years. You can hide sharp objects, but she'll still find a way. Most cutters have a stash of objects hidden, or they use their fingernails or whatever else they can find. Educate yourself on this, and don't treat her differently.\n\nAlso, just because she's cutting doesn't mean she's suicidal. When people hear of someone self-mutilating, they assume that person is suicidal. Not true! And there are many adults who are cutters and live a very successful life. It doesn't mean her life is doomed, or that she's crazy, or that you should beat her A$$ (as said above). I sent many links--read them, they're informative! You can consider therapy, but it doesn't always help/work.\nBest of luck!\n\nhttp://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html\nhttp://www.focusas.com/SelfInjury.html\nhttp://www.self-injury.net/\nhttp://www.coolnurse.com/self-injury.htm
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hey whats up? i have depression and take depression medication, but i never got to the point where i can hurt myself. Hun, listen, noone can help you .. YOU have to help YOURSELF .. instead of cutting urself doing something else... gooo run around your town (make sure u tell someone where you are) goo to the gym ... but cutting yourself won't solve anything..if someone messages you calling you dumb, don't pay attention .. they're the dumb ones.\n\nPhsyciatrist are good for when you need advice and you need someone to talk to, but only you can help yourself, noone else. Believe in yourself. \n\nif you ever feel depressed.. u can email me babychellinha@yahoo.com <-- thats also my yahoo ID, Instant message me if you need to!!\n\ni hope i was good help\n\ntake care of yourself and i hope i helped a little.\n\nbye! take care\n\n<3 CHEllE
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Yes, you CAN stop!  You have a mind, and that mind is in control of your hand, and you can refuse to pick up the razor blade.  Just refuse it.  Talk to it if you need to:  tell it that it is not your friend (which it clearly is not), and you are not going to have anything to do with it.  Put it in your father's tool box or wherever it belongs.  (I'm visualizing a single-edge blade, which belongs in a tool box.  A double-edge blade belongs in its safety holder in the bathroom cabinet.)  And don't let a little piece of steel rule you!  You are tougher than it is!\n\nSo what if it wants to bite you; to hurt you?  Why should you give in to it?  YOU are in control of your life, not some idiot piece of steel!\n\nMy Steve used to call all such urges "demon attacks," because they really do come from outside you.  They are not a part of you.  Once during a storm, a live electric wire came down in our front yard, and I knew it was enough electricity to kill me.  It frightened me, but it also fascinated me.  I was both attracted and repelled.  So I understand about the seductiveness of that "do something dramatic" impulse.  People who stand on the edge of cliffs (like at the Grand Canyon) often report a crazy impulse to jump.  Not because they really want to jump, but because humans have imagination, and your imagination will conjure the concept.  It's your conscious mind that has to be the boss, and say, "Bull; that's no solution."\n\nBelieve me, self-destructiveness is no solution.  My Steve committed suicide on December 16, 2005, and undermined his credibility on everything he had ever taught me as a result.  So here we are, survivors, you and me.  Let's get on with living!