Am I a jerk ...... for not going with boyfriend on trip?
609109
i don't think you are being a jerk. it sounds like you need to "ease in" with the dad thing, starting with dinners and whatnot. a weekend would not be a good idea. you don't have to tell your boyfriend this, just say you can't make it this time but make plans for the next time you can see eachother.
938181
If there is/was a dance or function...ask him if he went or is going. If he says no, ask  "Didn't your girlfriend want to go?"  Good luck...
396441
Dear Am I Being Unreasonable:\n  I know how you are feeling unfortanely I have been in that same situation but I was on the other side. I had a best friend whom I had forever when I started dating this guy.Well the boy friend didnt like that fact that we "hung out" so much. He "just knew" that we were doing something. Well it turns out he was right we were and actually ended up getting married after a long drawn out process. The point Im trying to make is if your boyfriend is keeping things from you and lying then you dont need him. You deserve better. It sound like he wants his cake and eat it too. A realtionship is built on trust (or suppose to be). I haop that I have helped. I have enclose my email and yahoo messenger if you want to hit back at me !!
214550
I don't think a boyfriend is going to care.\n\nBut if you don't want to do that stuff, then keep it quiet, or he might expect you to do it.
708476
no. your bf should of had the decency to keep you away from him without being asked to do so. im sure hes the type that thinks hes helping his friend or being loyal. but if it was my gf id of fucked my friend off a long time ago.
297004
If you asked, you should pay for the tickets.  And good for you for being the one to ask!  \n\nBut the idea is to have a good time together, so if you start it off with an awkward situation about money (I though you were buying the ticket, etc) you're getting off on the wrong foot.  Be gracious.  \n\nIt's possible, though, that he might feel, for lack of a better term, whipped if his girl is paying for everything...  maybe it's best to ask him?  Or go to purchase the tickets together, and see if he takes out his wallet...
1130747
maybe you are getting the things done your way. remeber two people being together is respect. Are you respecting him on the things he do. I mean maybe after school a group of friend is going to play basketball and you just want to do somethings else? I mean in a group event. of course your boyfriend wants to stay and hang out, but if you are like, "I want to leave, it is boring" which it is, but he still want to stay. you can't blame him. if you don't want to play go home first, have him walk you home or something than have him come back.
684086
Yep!  I wouldn't invite her.  Just be prepared to answer her when she asks why.  I think it is VERY INCONSIDERATE when friends cancel plans with friends for a better deal or for other non-emergency reasons.
1098110
This is a classic problem, the solution depends on you.\n\nAs you stated you know he'll be busy working, are you the kind of woman who will drive out there knowing that and still get upset when he doesn't spend time with you, even when you "drove all that way"?\n\nOr do you realize he's busy, and you'll appreciate the few moments he may or may not have to spend with you. If yes, I say go for it. If my girlfriend did a thing like that for me, I'd sure appreciate it.
63313
U should be glad he isnt the partying type. Do you know how many ladies would love that. Is there more to this than you're saying? Or do you think maybe you're being a little insecure. You have to realize he needs his space such as you do. Its not good to be around each other all the time. Make him miss you.If the realationship is strong, him going to a party should in no way pose a threat to your relationship. Give him the benefit of the doubt. You should go out w/ some friends or do something when he goes out to take your mind off it.
274853
Well with your friend.  I had the same situation.  She is your friend she just needed a ride.  Don't let it bother you to bad.  She might come around she might not.  I wouldn't give the guy anything just let him stick around and charm you but dont buy him anything!!!
995238
Your boyfriend should not want to be in a realtionship if this is the kind of behavior he likes to do with his female friends. There is no way you will ever feel better about what he is doing. Sound like he doesn't have to much respect for you or your feeling.
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Ok, first of all, your bf/gf isn't your husband or wife, so he or she has no obligation to tell you something like that unless you guys live together. IF you a courtesy note would have being nice on his/her part to let you know where he when so you wouldn't be worried. \n\nAnd if he or she didn't tell you, well. Get over it, he/she has a life, and independent life. You are just part of that life. \n\nNow, the question is are you mad because he didn't tell you? or were you pisst because you didn't go? what ever your reason is. Get over it, something like that would be a good enough cause for a break up. \n\nThats just me, i like to be independent and have my space and time respected by anybody. You should respect his time alone or with his friends
247338
If you are the asker, you should pay for the tickets. However, if you are going as freinds then you do have the option of asking about going dutch (split it).\n\nIt sounds to me like you really do not like the guy too much (reason why he's an ex) and you are trying to come up with reasons to "cheap out" on your responsibities. If this is the case do not ask him, go with someone else.\n\n* * *  I just looked at your previous question and now understand why you are asking this question. Since you are asking a rotten two faced lying cheater, deffinately do not take that guy.  Use your head and not your heart. It sounds tough but I doubt you would like to remember your last prom with the guy who cheated on you (breaking your heart and probably trust in guys). Always remember, if they cheat once they always will (it's a charater issue).\n\nDo yourself allot of good and stay as far away from this creap as possible. Think of him as poison. I just feel horrible for your next boyfriend after your experiance with this guy.
816660
explain to her that your boyfriend and you are making it like a honeymoon. if you explain to her that you two just wanted it to be a romantic holiday with no kids. if she has been your friend for that long she should understand and yes she will be hurt and dissapointed but she will get over. she prob thinks it will be a good chance for you and her to catch up as well. she will understand you just need to tell her dont let her go if you do you and her will only end fighting about it later or even at the holiday then it will be a long long holiday and even the ed ofthe friendship
1166374
I do not like playing games either, but I do not think that you should make yourself readily available to anyone. I mean most of us dodge our jobs and we KNOW that we are going to get paid for the time we put in. You do not know him well, you do not know where this is going. Slow down if he is what you think he is there will be plenty of time for the two of you to spend together. And on the contrary this is your world! Especially in this situation! All I can say is take your time if he is worth it saying well I kind of made other plans today is it OK if we reschedule this for (2 days later), will not turn him around. I think you are saying to yourself gotta get it while the getting is good. That's why you jump on it every time he calls. It seems that you would like to keep him around for some time so take some time. If you turning him down turns him away then that is just letting you know that he is not the person that you thought or hoped he was.
1095287
My friend was jealous of my relationship with this guy I was hanging out with (she is married, I am not). She listened to someone else and their opinions and freaked out on me at the bar, in front of everyone and called me a sl*t and other names. We were supposed to go on a trip together in a week with a group of friends. I canceled my hotel reservations. Then the friend whose birthday it was heard about it and she asked me to still come, saying she would uninvite the other friend (they were closer than we were). Told her she did not have to do that, but the trip was pretty awkward. Our friendship was never the same after that, even though she apologized, and now we aren't friends anymore.