How to manage short tempered, loud, argumentive person? In home and at work.?
608611
just keep your calm... the moment you start yelling or get angry... it means that you have lost to them... lost to the other person's nasty temper... succumbed to their arguments... the moment you start arguing... it means that the other person has succeeded in making you lose your cool... just be assertive in whatever you say... this will make the other person understand that you mean business... also it will make the persn look like a fool in front of others when you are not agitated yourself and calm while the other person is yelling... ask the person to talk to you instead of yell in a very normal tone... the other person will understand that saying something loud wont make it the truth... good luck :)
353600
Well, first of all, find comfort in knowing that she is the one with the problem, not you.  People like that can make you judge your own sanity, but be assured that she is the bad guy.\n\nAvoid her as much as you can.  When you do have to interact with her, have all of your questions/projects lined up and ready to go, so you can go right down the line and move as quickly as possible in getting your work details done.\n\nIf the problem escalates, calmly tell her that her behavior is inappropriate, and then document her behaviors in case you need to provide them to HR.  Unfortunately, this might not work, because these types often see their behavior as completely normal, either due to a psychological problem, or just plain immaturity.  My guess is that she'll tell you that you need to "lighten up".\n\nI truly do wish you the best.  I work with a guy who has Asperger's, and every single day is a struggle with him.
494802
Have a candle-lit bath, with bubbles and candles, dim the lights and just soak. It's really relaxing, it may sound kiddish but it really works. After light some candles and insence and settle down on the couch and just take deep breathes and maybe watch some soaps or feel-good movies or chick flicks, not anything too dramatic and violent but something that you like and makes you feel good. Another thing is that you should do what you like! whats your hobby? for example, I love horsebackriding, so I might go on a nice peaceful trail in the woods  for an hour to calm down and realize life is a good thing. Or if your a painter, start painting! you could even make crafts, which actually allows you to express your anger on paper and your work, instead of other people and your mind, self confidence and yourself. Go scream on your pillow! if you just feel like screaming, go right ahead. Thats what I do when I'm frustrated angry and confused. It really helps get the stress out. You could bang stuff around scream and shout and tell everybody to just get away from you. We all understand. Or, what I do is put a favourite CD on and sing along like nobody's listening. It helps alot. Or sometimes I call a friend and we talk for hours, and it keeps your mind off things, or you could go to the mall and shop. Shopping cures anything! lol. Something else is to make yourself beautiful, dress up, do your make-up, paint your nails, it keeps you consuntraited and focussed on one thing at a time. You should also spend time with your family or friends. Family and friends really helps in these situations. You should also call up people your might have angered, and say your sorry and for them to forgive you. It will make you feel alot better and less upset. Hope ive given you some ideas, and i hope this day really turns better for you!
517430
1. ALWAYS REMBER TO HAVE FUN (Yes, you can be the boss and have fun. Burnt out people lose there grip on things) \n\n2. Don't let you position go to your head. (No one want a bossy that think that they a God)\n\n3. don't ask your staff to do something that you won't do yourself.( once they see you do it  once they will gladly do it)\n\n\n4.Be firm and never waver from it.( Yes, be understanding and compassionate but firm if your staff see weakness they will take advantage of it)\n\n5. If you have question always ask. ( It is better to be safe than sorry.
774294
GET OUT NOW!!\n\nYou don't owe this person ANYTHING!!\n\nFor a boss to say it's a 'personality clash' is diabolical!!\n\nWhat kind of management style is that? S**t - that's what!!\n\nYou SO deserve better.\n\nGO RIGHT THIS MINUTE AND DON'T LOOK BACK!
734345
I'm a bit like that aswell sometimes. Just take a deep breath and walk away. Staying there will make you more angry. If you can't walk away, just tell them you're doing something wrong politely.
549777
It depends on what it is about him that is causing the tensions and the size of your company.\nIf you are in a small business, and one have one boss above both of you, your only solution is to say your peace to your boss and part amicably.  \nIf you are in a medium/large company, they their should be proper chain of command procedures which allow you to air greivances, whether it be a secondary supervisor or human resources.  If the problems are related to work ethic, bring it to someone's attention, and point out areas of concern.  If the problem is you doing their work or they are hindering the teams ability to complete a project, don't do their work and notify your supervisor that you can not complete you project without their work being performed.\nLastly, if it about the other employee's personality or behavior, confort the employee and tell them "I don't like the manner in which you speak to me; this needs to be mediated immediately, let's go speak to (enter bosses name) right now", turn around and start marching to the bosses office.  The solution allows you to confront his behavior, and take them to task.  9 out of 10, the employee would rather discuss this with you privately then mediate with the boss present - --- Good Luck
299712
There are two things... you got to do a bit of self-diagnosis:\n\n1. May be you genuinely have nothing to say, because you are listening, and analyzing. In that case, don't worry. As long as you are part of the process, your contribution doesn't have to be very verbal. However, females have a problem. If they are silent, they are assumed to be absent and non-assertive. There are many resources on the web and books that can teach you to be assertive in specific ways. There is also a book called "Nice Girls don't Get the Corner Office." I haven't read it, but I have read advice articles by its author. May help you.\n\n2. You are actually "inept" - which means you are not relating to the meetings or the subject at hand - or you cannot "speak up." So is that a deeper level issue - i.e. you are not involved in the work you do because: a. you don't like it. b. you are mentally engaged in some ohter issue at home or personally?\n\na. requires you to look at your career choice. b. requires that you seek self or other help, and communicate your issues in a reasonable manner to others at work. that is. tose who can help you. \n\nBut if you can't "speak up," you may need training on presentation and speaking skills. Again, many free and paid-for resources are available to help you.\n_____\nIn short you have first got to diagnose what exactly is your problem - because feeling inept is only the symptom of the problem. May be the fear of promotion being withheld itself has grown too large in your mind. It's actually rather common.\n\nWhatever it is, diagnose your problem, and then take action steps to handle it. Human beings are amazing! There is nothing that can stop us from developing and changing except our own fears! :)\n\nGo to the site below. It's Tom Peters, the writer of "In Search of Excellence." His words will motivate you. He believes that women are the managers of the 21st century! He also has free slides on leadership, presentation style, etc. From his site, you can get links to great number of resources.\n\nGood luck!
821961
Have you seen the Cube Chic book, by Kelly Moore, out on the market now?  Awesome ideas for decorating your cubicle.  Website for cubicle items are www.squidoo.com  www.hivemodern.com   www.perpetualkid.com   \n\nAir filter machines, small desk fans, CD players which come with "sounds" like ocean, rainforest, etc...  \n\nAlso seriously consider some headphones while you're concentrating on something.  You probably can't wear them all the time, but they will definitely help.  \n\nDiscuss this issue with your first line supervisor.  You're probably not alone in a complaint against noisy co-workers.  It's part of your supervisor's job to provide a productive work environment.
1080816
Completely blank your mind.  you need to stop thinking about it.  When you go in an ability to listen and then react will make you look cool headed, responsive and attentive and this will always win the day even when you have done wrong.  Always apologise for any wrongdoing and give reasons why.  SMILE lots,  we have neurons that trigger a similar feeling to what someone els is doing so if you smile they will feel relaxed and happier inside.\n\nUnless you have killed a coworker you sould be OK.\nJust remember calm.  Keep a clear head and stand your ground in a polite way, don't be swayed into argument as arguments are counter productive and thgey can always fire you so they will always win.\n\nI would love to know what you have done as I could give better advice
353421
Just listen, don't say much unless you REALLY need to defend yourself. Wait till they cool down and THEN discuss your opinion. I've found this is the best way to handle this situation. Because after you let them cool down they are MUCH more likely to agree with you.
784147
When dealing with an envious co-worker, I kill them with kindness, and I'm not talking about lip service. You must be genuine when doing this for it to work. Obviously they have massive insecurities, and perceive you as some kind of threat. I would also suggest keeping ones personal, and professional life mum. In essence, do not give anyone a reason to hold you in contempt. The old saying is true, "keep your friends close, your enemies closer".
370770
Try keeping a journal of his behavior and taking it to his manager with the promise that you will also give this to your manager and request that it be discussed at the next managers meeting. Also imply the cost effectiveness (or lack thereof) due to decreased productivity. This can also go to someone higher up in the company. If you prove that his behavior will effect the bottom line you should get the response you need.
1148385
Be the bigger person and stop the silly war. Learn to "agree to disagree". Grow up
786488
The first thing to do is to remain calm yourself. Let them know that you hear what they are saying and really listen to their complaints. Ask them to please speak slowly and try to relax so that you can help them to resolve whatever issue may be causing them distress. You must never argue or show negative emotions of any kind. Let them know you appreciate their business and you will do whatever you can to help make their visit as pleasant as possible but unfortunately some things are not within your control. Also, try to get the assistance of a level-headed co-worker or supervisor.\n\nI hope this helps.
564223
First, get a big club.  Walk around the office with it.  People will start to fear you.  Thats a key component of being a leader.  Next, Do not speak unless all are hushed and at attention.  This shows that you respect yourself, and will make others respect you.  If a few of your coworkers begin having a side conversation during your speech, club them.  Strike them quickly and without remorse.  Also, always ask for input when you are thru with your presentation, this gives your coworkers the idea that you care what they think, whether or not you actually do.
955580
be the bigger person and say nothing, just deal with him. as u get older u will learn that in the workplace its basically the same , there will probably be somebody that u don't like but u have to deal with it, don't let him get the best of u and u will always come out the real winner