How do you handle an ignorant ex-wife that wont move on?
613172
First of all I cant stand my husbands ex either and 2nd of all if she talked to my kids like that i would have to whip her ass for sure! Just think of this he doesnt want her anymore you got him and she cant bear the fact he needs to say something to her and tell her to stay out of his life that he is happy now and that the only thing in thier lives is the kids! He should be the one telling her to butt out of your lives! He can talk to his lawyer and explain to him that she and her whole family are harrassing him and his new family and kids and it might help I feel for you girl cause I have been through hell with my husbands ex also! Do not let her and her family talk to your kids anyway at all DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIS!!!!!!!! You could tell the cops that they are harrassing your kids and hav ethem scare them some or put a restraining order against them! They are adults and they in noway should be saying anything to your kids!!!!!! and tell your BF if he cant take care of this problem with you then you have to move on with your life! I know how hard this is and Good Luck WHIP HER ASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
74242
I had this same situation. Only now she and I are both divorced. Your fiendship is important. I can't tell you how to let him know but I can tell you that you should. I have wasted a lot of time not telling her how I feel and the fear that someone else will come along and she will be gone again is painful. Don't let him slip away. When the time is right tell him.\nWe never know about tomorrow and today is passing by.
1134300
Who cares if she loves you or not! Her actions scream, her words are quiet. Don't be a fool...you deserve far better than this, and if it is like this at this point, do you really think it will go anywhere but DOWNHILL ? Wise up, send her packing (I am not a hearless person and usually pick the opposite side), for this one is divorced for a very good reason...and you are finding the reason. You do NOT need to have a significant other, you will be fine on your own, and ... guess what! It won't be long before you find (0r are found) another who will appreciate all you do, all you are, and all you will be. This one will never be that person. Good luck to you both.
458841
Just ignore it. She sounds like she's really not moved on. If she had she wouldn't be thinking about you and making silly calls.
110773
Good luck!!  Been divorced 18 years and X still bad mouths me.  Bet you can't talk to him either.  Just try to ignore his insecure behavior.  I'm sure mutual friends know what kind of person you are.  Say something like, how is (so & so's name) doing with AA?
806251
Obviously there were some serious problems in your marriage.  Seeing as how she's now your ex-wife, you're asking this question a little late, and asking if of the wrong people.  You should've asked her.  If you have a good relationship with her, you might try to get it out of her one day, maybe she'll tell you what happened with her in your relationship.  If I were to bet on it, I'd bet you took her for granted, you stopped courting her.  She felt like you didn't care about her anymore, so she went out and found someone who does.  I'm not condoning her actions, because I firmly believe that marriage is a lifelong committment, and you fix the problems in the marriage, and divorce really isn't an option.  But obviously you weren't giving her what she needed in your relationship.  Sorry......You probably need to just move on with your life.
1048271
Firstly must say you seem like a very special man. Secondary I shall say that it is time that you concentrate on yourself a bit more (to be able to move forward)\n\nBe respectful, always reliable, helpful, be understanding, be her shoulder to cry on (life is funny.. but wheel turns). But at the same time give her space at this time as you don’t want to loose her.\n\nI had a friend who his wife left him for another man. They have two kids together. He was always there for her (but had other girlfriend but did not commit 100%: in fact I was one J ). If she was sick, or needed something, or pick their kids up: he was always there, kept nice contact with ex-in laws because of the kids.. She went back to him when she was in trouble. He let her. He let her leave him again for yet another man (even married) He was her friend, warned her about the guy who ended up to be an abuser. She left this guy in the end, she matured, and they now together (but he did not remarry), He is now 48, his wife 8 year younger. He married he as she was only 19.\n\n*******************************\nJust remember:\n*******************************\n\nForming a relationship with your ex is entirely separate from the process of ending a marriage; if you work through the process to achieve your "emotional divorce," you can cultivate something entirely new. Your old relationship is over; take the steps to heal so that you can invest your energy elsewhere.\n\nGood luck.\n\nps meant to say: and you get a new hobby and have fun with other people as soon you will feel better and might make new friends and will not feel lonely. The reason why we LOVe or MISS people is beuase we miss that comunication. Once you communicate with others it will be better for you. And who knows, maybe your ex -wife seeing how popular and outgoing you are might ant to herself be your friend asap.........  show her your new side that she did not see before :-)
393195
An ex is an ex just break off contact with her.  Sounds like she's trying to latch on for emotional support from mr reliable still.  She calls don't answer she emails erase.  the end good luck women can be really... persistant lol
234623
My advice, forget about her. If you phone her up and get all angry it will just boost her ego(she will know you are still thinking about her). Ignore her, if you see her in public even if she speaks to you look right through her.\nIf you phone her up you look like a wimp. Seriously.\nAnd if anyone says how do you feel, you say,"honestly you know she did me a favour I was looking for any excuse to dump her.\nThe best revenge would be her to feel that you could care less.\nTrust me buddy, I know its hard but your silence will pay off.\nBlow off some steam some other way and forget the pig.\n\n\nI was cheated on once. I kept my mouth shut from the moment I told her I knew what was going on. Did not say one word. \nPhoned a mover, gave her a check for rent and left.\nHer relationship with new guy lasted about a month, now she lives in a trailer with a guy and his two pitbulls.\n\nyeah keep your mouth shut, move on.\n\n\nre: heidi. give it a rest. gods plan. yeah either god or bono eh?
355985
I'm sure leaving her alone isn't the answer you're looking to get, but continue to be her friend, and if she wants to talk, be there to listen to her. I wouldn't push the issue any further regarding her getting divorced, or the two of you getting together. Just hang in there and see how things progress on things going on in her life.
355503
let the past be in the past and move on with your life.....talk to her see if shes still botherd by it
87880
Unfortunately, hon, there is nothing you can do  except stand beside both and be there to pick up the pieces and help them move on.  Try not to take sides, but stay neutral because they will both still be in your life.  Divorce is hard on all involved all the way around.  Sorry I couldn.t be of any other assistance.  May God Bless - Take care.
858076
Have her killed and thrown in the river that's what I wish I did. My ex's family all hated me even though I was the one who supported him and treated him better then they did.But after 6 years he still wouldn't stand up for me so I got sick of the drama and left his jobless ass.My point you ask is this.If they won't die just stay the hell away from them cause once a mother has it in her head that your not good enough for her baby boy not even death is gonna change her mind.You could die tomorrow and she'd probably dance on your grave(mother in laws like that are all the same)
927430
YOU NEED TO LET HER GO...~~SORRY ~~ SHE IS MARRIED. \nNEITHER OF YOU HAD THE RIGHT TO START SOMETHING LIKE THIS. JUST PUT YOURSELF IN HER HUSBANDS SHOES" YOU WOULD NOT WANT YOUR WIFE TO TREAT YOU THIS WAY ."\n I DON'T SEE HOW YOU CAN STAY FRIENDS EITHER WHEN FRIENDSHIP IS BASED ON TRUST AND RESPECT..\n\nIF SHE REALLY WANTS TO BE WITH YOU THEN SHE WILL FILE DIVORCE PAPERS AND GET RE-INVOLVED WITH YOU WHEN SHE GETS HER LIFE IN ORDER.\nWILL YOU BE ABLE TO TRUST EACH OTHER GIVEN THE FACT SHES A CHEATER AND YOU CROSSED OVER THE LINE????\n\nWHAT YOU NEED TO CALL THIS RELATIONSHIP IS OVER.... BEFORE MORE PEOPLE GET HURT.
788965
Advice? There is no advice for dealing with thoughtless idiots.\nDo not even address it! You were wronged, but let it go.
442948
If she is married, get out of this relationship.  There is nowhere for the relationship to go.
871431
move on, dont take her calls anymore