How do you overcome insecurities and trust issues so that you don't hurt the person that you love?
596718
you have to think about why it is that you feel this way. why do you think you aren't good enough for her. once you figure this out you can start the healing process within yourself. it's okay to argue.. it's part of life. the tough part is how you are going to handle it and manning up to any mistakes you may have made. that is the true test of a relationship. this doesn't mean that you don't deserve her. if anything.. she's putting you on to things so you are aware how you are hurting her, yourself, and the relationship. if she says she loves you .. believe it. communication is the key. have a talk with her and try to sort out your feelings. if you really love her .. try and work it out. but you gotta trust her. live and let go.. easier said than done.. but you'll be happier in the long run with the one you love.. hope it helps..
494046
Confront him with your insecurities. But don't go about it in an accusing manner. Rather, ask if everything is right between you two. Trust is everything in a relationship. If there are more signs that come up, then I would definitely look into it. But insecurities from your part needs to come to a resolution of if you do trust him or if you don't.  If there is real proof he is cheating on you then confront the issue. If not, let it be. Showing your lack of trust in him can be hurtful especially if he's been loyal to you all along.
666498
Honesty is the best policy,  Sometimes the truth might hurt, but a lie is going to kill all the trust!!!!!! Treat the person your falling in love with exactly the same was you except to be treated.
1136822
Seems like you have answered your own question, where is the relationship if there is no trust!!! I know what you mean tho. you can't change someone, they have to recognise their failings, and choose to do something about it. Try speaking with him about how you feel and see what he says..Then you will know whether he is willing to make steps to change his behaviour toward you, if he doesn't then you know what youve got to do
323501
i'm sorry if you can't trust him then find someone you can. because trust comes a long way in a relationship and without it your relationship will crash and burn. You can talk to him about the trust issue and if you still feel the same way then dump him.
946457
Ahh I'm occasionally insecure about this kinda stuff too and what my girlfriend does really helps and makes me feel better.  She takes me aside, looks in my eyes, and explains how everything is all right, and that nothing happened, and that she loves me, and kisses me.  Make sure you're truthful though that's the best way to build trust.  One lie can ruin all the trust someone had in you.  Don't jump to sex as a way for him to trust you, of course it's a good way to show you love him, but it's not always the best option in these kinds of situations.  Just be truthful with him always, and love him with all your heart  and things should work out =).\n\nhope this helped and good luck =)
395080
Trust is what keeps relationship rolling!\nU may start wondering, DO U TRUST HIM? DO U TRUST YoURSELF? DO U STILL BELIVE THAT u 2 CAN WORKOUT TOGETHER???? And only than, if U belive, \nask him a qestion, look him strait in the eyes, and U'll see, TRUTH or LIE, but U'll just know...
184044
you are too insecure\ngrow up, invite him and learn a life lesson in trust and love
861314
Get to the basics. Let go the ego and the false pride. Accept mistakes and compromise.\nLive happily everafter.
128324
Trust is a major thing in any kind of relationship...I would say time heals most things...but trust is something that carries over into other relationships...I would talk to the person and tell them how hurt you really are...it might mkae them have a better undertsanding as well it might make you feel better knowing that they know you are hurt...if the person cares enough for you they will try to help you over come it and try to never hurt you like that again...hope this helped.
34459
Make sure to tell him some of your feelings too, so he knows u trust him with yours, if that doesn't work, then try getting it from him by not asking him directly, make sure he knows that u trust him enough and that ur worth knowing
1136887
Trust is not a set in concrete thing. Just because someone is having trouble trusting you can come from many factors, including being hurt very badly in the past. Although it would not be your fault, you must still understand that trust doesn't come as easy for this person as maybe it might to another. What your decision must be is to decide how much you want to prove to him you can be trusted and how long you will do that patiently. If some of his friends are lying on you, it is his friends that are so the problem, and after explaining all to him and he can't see that, maybe he is not mature enough to handle a relationship. Men are more like little boys when they have to use their peeps to analyze their love life.
649366
You can't.  If you feel pressured to prove your love, then nothing will ever be enough for that person.  It's a reflection of their own insecurity or feelings of worth, of feeling "loveable" and you can't change that no matter how hard you try.
987489
trusting people takes time. especially when you once had it and then lost it. i think that you should be VERY patient with her. don't turn her insecurities into an argument. try to understand where she is coming from. i think that if you don't lie continuously, she'll eventually trust you. believe me...
181367
I have the same problem, ive been hurt by friends and family and i STILL think up conspiracy theories. Talking with him will help some, but the change has to be WITHIN you, the only thing he can do is make his life a little more open for you. I try to be as open and honest with my GF as possible, that way she can trust me more, also i tell her where ive been and she even knows my E mail password. She knows who is on my buddy list and who ive called. I do all of this so that there WONT be trust issues in our relationship. BUT she could still be paranoid, so she has to just admit to herself, that if im cheating on her, then it DOESENT MATTER, she will just break up with me and move on, or if i truly repent then fix the problem and continue the relationship. But you HAVE to let it go, go out on a limb and put yourself out there. once you say it doesent matter, and you have "let that person go" then that takes away any walls that were in your relationship before.
320009
Trust.  You feel that you can share all your thoughts and feelings with that person.  You can talk about the evil things you did, your future dreams, and the things you are scared about.  You can trust that person with your deepest secrets.\n\nRespect.  You respect that person.  You care what they think because you value them and their opinions.\n\nYou enjoy spending time with them.  You are at ease and comfortable in their presence (that is... when there isn't a strong sexual tension ; )\n\nThere's probably a myriad of other factors... but that's what I think of when I think of love.
23732
First off, give him a breather, get off his case.  then in a couple days (and don't sulk) tell him he is the love of your life and so you have a good long term relationship there are some things you both need to discuss together, not A question and answer , a discussion, start with saying that you have some concerns, don't be acussatory. No one listens well when they are being accused of something.  Waituntil he seems comfortable to discuss the things you are worried about.  If he is the love of your life/soulmate, it is worth putting some extraordinary effort on your part, then to let your relationship unravel over fear