help me please, need advice!?
595189
I believe in second chances so if I were you then I would casually date him for a couple months, maybe like once a week and just see if he has changed. Don't commit yourself to him and don't let him suck you in. Be sure to make yourself happy, like going out with your friends some nights. If you spend all your time with him your going to get blinded. Who knows, maybe someone else will come along and you will suddenly no longer want this guys attention. But make sure that he knows your not committed and your an independent woman.
286224
Tell your new girlfriend that you are having a problem.  Explain how you are attracted to her, what you love/like about her, but that for some reason you keep thinking of your old girlfriend.  Explain that you don't really know why.  Then let her know that you need some time to work this out, and that the more time goes on, the more you realize that you're not ready to be in a new relationship after all right now, WITH ANYBODY.  And truthfully take that to heart.  I'd ease off of this new relationship for a few weeks or a month or so, just to sort out your own feelings.  You need to either A) get in touch with some real feelings of grief about losing your old girlfriend and work through them (maybe with a counselor?) and / or B) re-visit the old relationship to see if you should continue.  Either way, it's important to recognize and attend to what's real, your truest and deepest feelings inside.
641536
tell them in advance, let them know that u are not asking for permission but adviseing them on the change. tell them u want things to beok that way u can visit any time w/o any hard feelings. thats what i did. at 1st they will be upset. give em some time and then they will miss u and call u and ask u to visit them etc. make sure that u reasure them that u will call em a lot, stay over sometimes etc. good luck, make sure that they are ok cause ur going to need their help.
992670
Talk to a friend....it helps a little!
1084853
Tell him straight up, just do what you gotta do.  You have the option!
820765
just be there for him. maybe he thinks that it's just best to stay with the  g/f that treats him poorly (we, as guys, aren't all that bright sometimes). seems that there aren't a lot of good women out there these days. show him that you are one. DON'T ask him out yet. wait and see what happens with the relationship. if it DOES end, then there's your oppertunity. if it doesn't, then he probably lost out on a pretty good thing..............
770115
This is so wierd because I am in this same situation right now. I mean to the tee. What i have found is that if you value your best friends friendship, then you should just leave him alone. I mean you and him can still be friends but you need to discuss with him that there is a line there and in order to avoid any hurt feeling, that line should not and will not be crossed. it's tough but you can do it. Its just unfortunate that you didn't get to him first.
779589
Just be honest with him. Tell him it's not working out and that you can't see it going any further. Just don't use the lines, "it's not you it's me", "lets just be friends", or "lets start seeing other people". That will be devestating. Just tell him the truth about why it isn't working and answer his questions honestly and don't press the issue on him and give him space.
618457
Just talk to him.  Make it happen.  That's the only way to be in control!
994504
ooooooo bad problem you got there. i would just forget the woman and pretend you arn't gay. nah sorry that isn't very good advice. but the thing is do not get into a relation ship with the woman or any woman. if you really are gay and you are not happy in your relationship with your partner then i would let him down gently that you do not love him any more and you might think that you are gay. you never know he might be able to help you. no.....actually he might take it the wrong way. i seriously do not know. i am only 15 so don't listen to me. maby if you have family around you you could maby get some advice of them. they should be supportive to you. i really hope you work things out in time. best wishes and good luck. x
874756
good advice, my friend. i hope others read this and take heed.\nthanks.   BM
547555
This guy is playing with your feelings. He's just keeping you on the line so that he's always got a soft place to fall. Make like a tree and leave. Two years is a long time to invest your feelings in someone who doesn't want a relationship. Tell him you don't have time to waste on waiting for him to make up his mind. I think he's already made up his mind and likes the way things are. You don't know how many other gals he's playing this sorry tune with either. He's got what he wants. I would suggest that you stop giving him what he wants and tell him you're not playing anymore. <*)))><
68695
I don't have any great advice unfortunately but please keep pursuing it. If I were you I would definetly report it to his medical association. \n\nI'm really sorry you are going through this. Hope someone comes along with a good answer for you.
997778
Just tell him that you can only seeing yourself being friends right now.  You don't need to hurt him and tell him it was a joke though.  That's so mean! Just tell him you don't want a boyfriend now and that you're sorry, things just aren't going to work.  Going out on a few dates wouldn't hurt, but if you really don't want to just say so.
404750
Sounds like he isn't ready to move on cause he's already turned down one of your friends.  You said you were with him when you were 13.  Depending on how much older you are now, I wouldn't try and re-establish some sort of a relationship unless you are ready for one.  To be fair to your other friend, if you truly feel a desire and need to find out if you and your ex have anything to build a relationship on, tell her first.  Explain to her one of your other friends liked him and he turned her down, and she wants you to get back with him, which leads me to believe he wants to try with you again.  So to keep your other friend that thinks she is totally in love with him, from getting hurt and rejected by him, talk to her, explain the whole situation and she won't feel so foolish.  The worst thing you could do is go back with your ex without explaining to her the truth.
732086
DON'T TRY TO FIGURE OUT ANYTHING. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT. FORGET THE SO CALLED WANNA  BE FRIENDS TOO. THIS SOUNDS LIKE A BUNCH OF KID GAMES TELL THEM YOU DON'T HAVE TIME FOR IT. PICK YOUR FRIENDS LIKE YOU WOULD PICK A APPLE FROM A TREE. EVIDENTLY YOU HAVE SOMETHING THAT WOULD MAKE THEM HATE YOU ANYWAY.SO HOLD YOUR HEAD UP HIGH, SMILE, AND LAUGH THAT DUMB SHIT OFF
112595
Oh dear Lord.  Please tell them right away.  You need sone kind of help.  I have never dealt with this and have no advise, but please get up enough courage to tell her, she can help you.