are guys afraid to committ??
601662
I don't think it's fear of commitment. I think it's fear of falling out of love. What happens when you're in a relationship and you just don't love the other person anymore? Divorce, cheating, etc. People are uncertain about their feelings, men and women.
299643
Im terrified of commiting...to anything! Im so scared that I'll make the wrong decision, that I dont make any decision at all? Strange.
878597
I'm sure You didn't scare him away....the one thing I can tell you from experience is Just be yourself...most guys like it when you don't have to fake who are with them!
1073699
I beg to disagree!I believe girls are not afraid of love but of what this love would bring.\nHope u find A GIRL WHO HAD THE COURAGE TO FACE HER FEARS.\nThere are soooo many out there waiting for Mr. Right.(Iknow!)\nGood luck!
225974
I think shyness is the same for both genders.  It's just that when initiating contact with the opposite sex, it's still kind of expected for guys to make the first move.
298939
they're scared.\nOf what?\ncommitment, rejection, change, opening up and being emotional... depends on the guy\n\nalso, remember that generally women are the feelers and men are the thinkers.  maybe they think some things are implicit and don't need to be said.  Or they just don't know that you want to hear it.  Communicate with them!  They're humans too!
496625
Absolutely.  If a guys isn't as comfortable as he thought he was, what's the point in going through with something that's probably going to screw up anything relationship-wise that could be possible?  It's not fair if girls are the only ones abiding by "no means no"...although, he might consider not going through all the motions (just as women should) if he's not going to play the whole game.
811659
What makes a girl afraid to make the first move, is the fear of rejection. I know guys have the same fear, but somehow, it's different for girls. It just is! Some girls, like myself believe the guy should make the first move, and if he doesn't then I move on, so just put yourself out there, and you'll be surprised.
980675
Ok.. from what Im getting is your meeteing girls then telling them how much u like and appreciate them.. ok dependin on how u show/say this ,and how this sounds to me.. you sound like u are wanting a commitment, and there is a theory that only men are afraid of commitment ...thats not true.. some women are too.. dont come out and say "hey i want to get married!" ( not that u say that but u might as well)  just be normal, get to know her. and if sex isnt in ur 1st date agenda, then theres no reason to "convince" her its not.  just be ur self without all the "persuading" of how u "appreciate" women. cause also when a man goes on about how much he "appreciates" women.. well thats just hey im a lying ass and just want in ur pants. somethings can be taken  differently
891394
Men are "hunters", women are "nurturers".   Maybe it's just in them.  Until they're really, really, really ready to settle down with one woman and  a commitment for life - it's just hard to make that choice.  \n\nI really don't know, but I agree that more men are fearful of making a commitment than women.
583959
I dont know if all guys are but some are.im not though i mean if you love the person then you shouldnt be afriad to committ
316740
Guy are so shy because they are afraid. As a guy i know that when i was with my girl friend, i was scared to pull moves. It's the worry of making her feel uncomfortable, and if u go to far what will she do. Like touching a delicate glass peice, you worry it will break.
135133
shy guys are sexy...sometimes well if u had a gf it would be hard for u too talk to eachother or even go out so do not be shy
52922
Some guys are afraid to open up and as they are afraid of being hurt, teased, ridiculed, etc. Trust me when I say that it can be anything from something as petty as shyness stopping them to something as serious as major mental problems. It all depends on the guy. No matter how close you are to a guy, it takes a wee bit o' time before he can really begin to trust enough to open up and then there are guys like me....who open up and are honest from the word 'go'. I recommend a book titled: Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus. It is both a good read as well as offers great insight into both the male and female aspects of a relationship.
127131
No, we are not afraid of rejection, we are afraid of success. This translates to commitment. Yea.
60637
YES!\n\nSome guys are shy, and the location, such as at work, might also stop him from making the first move.
1055868
Please get the book "He's Really Not That Into You".  It will be a eye opening experience.\n\nIn my younger dating days, I usually gave a man a year to get serious.  If he hadn't made a commitment at that point, it was time to move on.  In today's society, commitment phobia with men is widespread.\n\nFour years is way too long for a commitment to not have been made.  Please give him a deadline of three months to commit or not.  When the three months have passed and no commitment, go on with the rest of your life.....don't waste your time.  I made that mistake several times.  Why buy the cow when the milk is free?  He doesn't want to get married to you........\n\nHad several friends in similar situations.  The man would not commit and they broke up.  Six months or so later, he married someone else.  Wake up and smell the coffee!