Has anyone ever been in this situation...?
598708
I haven't been in EXACTLY the same situation, but I'll give you the benefit of my advice, anyway! \n\nFirst, don't do anything until he breaks up with his current girlfriend. That might mean you have to wait a bit, but it's the right thing to do- and besides, you'll put the guy in a bit of a tight situation if you say anything now! (And his girlfriend won't exactly love you for it...) So, wait til they break up. I know it's tough, but wait! \n\nAnd THEN, go for it! Don't worry about it ruining your friendship, because it sounds like you two really are best friends, and a friendship that strong, isn't going to be hurt by something like this. Tell him how you feel. \n\nThe best relationships are between people who start out as best friends- I know, from personal experience!\n\nGood luck!
1156498
Happened to me. We have been married now for almost 4 yrs and we have 2 kids.
799102
I work for a real estate agent. Situation like this doesn't happen very offen. I'm surprised that happened to you. I doubt it will happen agin!
442517
I've been in that situation. Tell the guy up straight what you truly think. He will be grateful later for your honesty.
282180
Sure have and it wasn't the best experience in my life I can tell you that. Was being charged with two felonies. Could have faced 20 yrs in prison. Both charges were dropped though. \nA shout out to all the girls in Unit M, county jail........J/K.
416584
I made a mistake years ago. I was in the wrong place at the wrong time and due to certain events which occured, I was arrested. (Nope, never claimed to be perfect.) My spouse had the opportunity to clear things up and get me out. Unfortunately, Spouse used the time to go to another state and have an affair with one of our best friends, who was also married, leaving our child here. My lawyer told me shortly before I was released. \n\nThe anger was the worst. In fact, I realized I wasn't hurt much at all. That told me what I needed to do. I filed for divorce. We had been on different pages for a long time anyway, and now there was no trust, no respect. God never said I had to put up with that. \n\nWithin those few days, I lost almost everything. I had no home to go to. We had a large house but I packed up the most important belongings and they fit into a coat closet at my brother's house. My baby and I stayed with him while I finished up my final semester of college, then took the first job that came up so I could be independent. We moved within three months. Quite by accident, we found a wonderful person who was very happy to join our little family, who wasn't put off by the past troubles, and who shares my faith. \n\nI realize that part of what happened was due to my choices. But I also know that God was using the situation to force me to make new and better choices. I did the right thing, and I have been rewarded with a wonderful new life.
587547
I know it hurts real bad...I know this from experience. I caught my brother with my g/f after he lost his job, and place to live so I moved him in with us..BAD MISTAKE!!! I left her at that moment when I caught them without turning and looking back...I just said we are through got my stuff and left...My brother ran after me and I told him to "go F*** off you made my bed now lay in it all you want" Two weeks later I went back to my house with a Sheriff and handed them both a piece of paper saying that the court has ordered them to vacate the premises. that following weekend I had a yard sale and sold all my brothers stuff and hers and they couldn't do anything because they had no reciepts so I said everything was mine. 7 years later they are happily living in a homeless shelter with 2 kids and I haven't spoken to either of them since the day they tried to get me for selling their *oopps* MY STUFF..lol...Just don't threaten or say anything you will regret as a person...You don't have to go to their level....You will be in my prayers and turn to friends they will help out alot...
157654
I went through a similar situation....what I discoved was that it wasn't anything I had done, but the people he was housed with were either jealous we had a strong relationship and they didn't or just "got off" on seeing other people "hard time". They have a lot of time to think in there, and their own insecurities get the best of them sometimes. Hang in there! My husband has been out for 1 1/2 years, and everything has worked out. I wish the same for you.
1171958
I was married and now divorced. It was a horrible experience being in that situation.  The worst part was she was my best friend and we had a child together. If you're in that situation, I feel your pain but it wasn't any easy last three years. Much better place now! Now before anyone makes any rude comments, I wouldn't accept that I was gay and thought their was other issues. I didn't get married KNOWING i was gay. I should have known but I didn't.
809071
OMG!!!  I can't believe that someone else on earth has had to go through this!!  Last year I found out my husband was having an affair for 9 months with a neighbor of ours.  I was friends with this woman before she moved into our neighborhood, so when she moved in, we quickly became best of friends.  I was very angry, I kicked him out and never spoke to her again.  I had to talk to him because when I filed for divorce, he wanted to talk a settlement in custody of our daughter.  I refused.  I told him that as long as he wanted to be with her, then he wasn't taking my child around HER.  After about 3 months of not living with our family, he decided that he didn't want to be single or with HER for that matter.  I made him jump through a million hoops to come back home (such as switching cell numbers with me, getting a better job, going to counseling, going to AA, plus many more).  Also I made it a condition that if I EVER even THINK that he is talking to her again, then it is OVER FOR GOOD.
753502
I would have alot of mixed emotions to go through before I could make a decision to stay,or go..I honestly don't know & won't unless it were to actually happen to me..excellent question lil' lady! =)
1173895
UHHHH gut wrenching!!! Imagine if you do get in...it will be worse...but it is worth to try it out and get over it!@Get in the party and experience the worst!!!
1103294
Been there.  The guy usually goes onto other things and is not sure of himself.  Let him go and wish him the best.  I know it's difficult with the feelings/thoughts even 5 years later, but if it was meant to be it would have already happened.
259563
I've totally been there. It sounds weird to people that haven't, but it takes some getting used to. Don't think he's weak, or trying to trick you...just appreciate & enjoy it. What did I do? Well I married him!
13268
Can you be a bit more specific about the situation? How does SHE feel? Is she separated? Unhappy? You definitely aren't nuts though. Many have been there before and will be in this situation again.
75374
That happened to me and it was the end of the relationship.  We met in college, had a long-distance relationship, then together for several months, then she moved 4-5 hours away after getting fired and getting a better job.  She wanted to marry, or at least live together openly, while I knew I couldn't marry her (too neurotic, too much fighting) and tried to hold on to the passionate girlfriend/boyfriend relationship indefinitely.  So it had been a holding pattern for several months, and her moving didn't really change it.  Soon she told me of reciprocal interest with a co-worker, which in retrospect I think was trying to drive me off, but I didn't bite and was actually friendly with the jerk.  Finally she said, "I think we ought to cool it and date other people".  I was in shock, but I remember what came out was, "You mean you want to break up?"  I don't remember what she said but the upshot was I wasn't going to share and she didn't try to work out a sharing arrangement.  Eventually she married the jerk.  I got an invitation to the wedding but I never answered and broke off contact.\n\nSo through the lens of my life experience, the relationship is on its last legs and you're looking for the kill.  I think the more honest and humane approach would be to present an ultimatum to get off of hold or break up, or just leave if you're not committed enough to force that issue.  It may seem cold, but it's better than getting into the jealousy thing with other guys.  I know being left for another man was much harder on me than being left out of general dissatisfaction, and it killed my interest in follow-up friendship (that part might be a blessing).  Someone else's story might have a different moral.\n\nGood luck,\nhouyhnhnm
395109
PRAY!!! I'm in the same situation...i'll pray for u, u do the same for me...good luck!!!