Its it normal not to want kids and boyfriends?
604331
You really have to follow your heart on that one, my friend!  Before I met my husband, I opted to stay single for MANY years, because I just couldn't be bothered with the bs of the dating ritual and all the games that go along with that ride!!  Usually when you are not looking to fall in love is when it hits ya right between the eyes!!  Don't worry about what is right or wrong (or "normal"-whatever the heck THAT is!!) in the eyes of others...as long as YOU are comfortable with your choices, then right on!  As for choosing not to have children....I believe that it takes a more thoughtful person to decide that they do not want to raise children!  Soo many people have children for all the wrong reasons and raising a child is NOT to be taken lightly..it is a lifetime commitment full of many ups and downs.  That is a personal and very private decision that a person makes. I have alot of respect for those who know what they want (and not what they think others want for them)! Good Luck!!
428666
yes there is plenty of them but you would have to find the right one.. me, personally i would love to have a stong family life and passionate...and more.. but as far as my relationship goes im single... im very sweet and loving!!
168796
I used to have this problem. I dated many different men and they all seemed to have at least two children. So, I made a new rule. If the words "MY KIDS" came out of their mouth I would immediately have somewhere else I needed to be. Even if I was just going to go home and be alone. I finally did meet someone without children (it took a while) and we are now married and have a wonderful life together. Just hang in there and dont give up there ARE men out there with no children it is just so hard to find them because people seem to be so irresponsible these days just popping out kids right and left. Also try to remember that if your break up with a guy who has kids you are also breaking up with the kids. GOOD LUCK and happy hunting.
877963
Honey, you are way too young to have a boyfriend.  And you are way too young to be discussing with another boy if you are going to have HIS kids.  I would break it off with him gently and say you are way too young to be in a relationship with someone.  That is the truth.  If he is scaring you and makes you feel uncomfortable then you should stay away from him.
1100010
of course it's not unusual.... I mean, for not having a bf, this means that yo havent meet a boy that your really like and love..... this isn't bad...\nThis just means that you haven't meet the right person yet!!\nNope, not bad/unusual at all....\nHave fun not and take advantage of the things you can do while you're not with someone (like shopping for hours with your friends....flirting in the mall, etc....!!)
508837
no.\n\nno.\n\nand ~ you're the one in control of making yourself happy.  either you are or you aren't.  maybe a spouse is the deal for you.  maybe it's having kids.  maybe not.  blaze your own trail...
689221
People have kids...it's human nature and what keeps our planet populated.\n\nIf you don't like/want kids, then don't date someone with them.\n\nIf you do, than think of it as, you missed out on some of the crying/pants pooping years and it will be that much easier.\n\nAs a woman, I think, "cool...I get to be a p/t mom with no pregnancy or labor pains".
673190
Would it ever occur to you that some people DONT WANT TO have kids? Not everyone is out there wanting to just be a baby machine. Some people want to have a career or travel and have other priorities that do not include having children.\n\nAnd just because you decide to not have children does not mean you should stay single. Doesn't everyone deserve to be happy?\n\nNot everyone should have children - should someone who is addcited to crack (but is married) have kids? Uhhh probably not.\n\nDon't be so closed minded.
734196
im 23 and i have a son in 1st grade. im in college, work, and me and my son live on our own. i get lonely. i have almost no friends because im so picky about who i share my personal info and feelings with and who my son is around and the people that i associate with. but when ever i think about being in a relationship i look at the entire picture and i see myself alone with another child and debt or something like my husband cheating or just negative stuff, i call that my birth control since im not doing anything.\n\nim stopping there before i fill up the entire page and i would like to say i would really enjoy being yahoo buddies and chatting about all types of things, because i know those lonely feelings.
989469
not at all, i didn't have my first bf until i was 16, and i thought i was completely weird because of that.  but, in reality, it made me closer to my friends, and i had a great time.  you can have fun with or without a bf, and you definitely don't need one to make you happy.  so just go out and have fun with your friends, don't worry about guys yet.
990527
Ive been involved with someone that had kids and believe me, it wasnt so great.... it wasnt the kids but the fact that when you want to be alone with your loved one its almost impossible.. and youre always gonna be involved with the baby's mama or daddy so that sucks... so i'd say TO ANYONE lookin to hook up with someone with kids, THINK TWICE.. before getting involved in so much drama...
732323
Most guys think that they'll have to take on the responsibility of taking care of you and your kids and it scares them. They dont want that. Even though you tell them you dont want that from them, they dont hear it. There are men out there and wont care you have 2 kids, but they are few and far between. I myself have a son from a previous relationship and I have found a man that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I never thought anyone would want me because of me having a son, but I have. He considers my son his, and I couldnt be more happier with him. All I can say is, dont look too hard. Eventually you'll find someone who will respect you and your kids. Dont just jump into a relationship. Be friends first. That way he can get to know you and your kids. Best of luck to ya!
869250
i believe i can answer this...from both sides of the fence...being a single w/o children, meeting someone who does have kids, unless your really looking for Friends With Benefits and not thinking about getting serious, some would think the kids would get in the way. Now if you are the opposite, looking to get serious and not FWB, the kids are a good way to show the woman that you have a caring and nurturing side to you. \n\nNOW...the otherside of the fence...being a single with children, since i do have a 6yr old but he doesnt live with me....\n\ni find it hard to find someone who is willing to date me because they dont want to get in the middle of "baby momma drama"...the same as a guy doesnt want to get in the middle of "baby daddy drama"....but if there is no drama...then i say hook up...hang out...and see where it goes...
56876
I don't think it is any higher/or lower than no children in a relationship. Never get married or stay in a bad marraige for the sake of the kids. Thay can feel tension and all the awful stress that goes w/ a bad relationship. They will thank you for it later. Believe me, kids want you to be happy, not miserable.
958514
No, this is just what society expects of all women to get married and have children. So if you are not ready then don't do it, and stop being so concerned with what others think of your choices. They are not taking care of you, so who cares what they think. God bless****
459245
Don't be with someone because your friends are married, or your relatives are married or the what not.  Be with someone because you LOVE them and want to be with them.  If you don't feel that way about a person, you're better off not being with them so that they don't get hurt in the long term.  \n\nAs a chronically single person, I can tell you that there is nothing wrong with not being with someone.  I've had probably what seems, at least to me, the worst luck in the universe, and if it isn't, then I'd hate to meet the person who has had worse.  I am very unsure that I will find my soulmate some days.  \n\nI'd like to tell you that you're just looking in the wrong place or that some day you'll just get completely and totally swept off your feed.  I wish that for you, as I wish that for me, but nothing is certain in this world.  \n\nIt is your life.  You should do what you think makes you happy.  If you want to take a break from dating, do it.  There's nothing wrong with showing up alone to places or just being happy with your life as it is.  There's no shame in realizing that a relationship with a guy ain't gonna make you happy in the long term.  \n\nBecause, if you do find your true love, he will give you that spark.  \n\nBest of luck and best of wishes.
246552
I feel for you, thats a tough spot to be in. However any man who doesn't want to get close to your kids isn't worth your time no matter how great he treats you. It might be a sign that he doesn't want to commit as much as you want.... any man who truely loves you would want to be part of your life in everyway, and your kids are a big part.