I prefer to let my wife go out and work. But I am a workaholic.?
608399
Gone are the days when man used to earn more. Do not feel inferior that your wife is earning more than you do. Do with whatever amount that you can earn without having to worry and get along with your life. You will gain more request form her if you are prudent in the manner you manage with the little that you have got.....goddammit she is your wife man.
834044
yes very happy through both good and bad times, there is no one i would rather come home to or spend time with. we have been married for eight years and it just gets better everyday. the primary reason is that she understands/forgives my hobbies and interests and i understand hers. give and take and flexability on both sides make it much easier. the first year was just getting used to each others habits, and the more rigid (i will not/your fault/my way) additudes just scew it up. and forgive and forget. no grudges.
711546
You are both  working full time, but you have to go to the Laundromat, what a drag. Good Luck, you'll work it out.
622994
You should be thankful to have a husband who works too much instead of a bum.  Men have their own reasons why they work too hard, in my situation my husband's reason is it is for us, his family.  He works hard so he can provide whatever we need and want all through out our lives because he loves his family so much.  He also works for self-fulfillment and I may say that there are people who are naturally born workaholic.  You see, when my husband is at home he never stops working, he cleans the house and does all household chores.  At first, it drives me crazy to see him work too much but as time passes I learned to accept the fact that he's a hyperactive man who needs to move all the time.  When it comes to our children, I explain to them that their father works all the time because he loves us.  That's why they should understand why they seldom see him because what he does is for all of us.  I don't know if your husband kisses or hugs your children but you see my children are very satisfied with my explanations to them and whenever my husband comes home he makes sure he kiss and hug our children even when they are already asleep.  I think it is very important for children to feel their father's love by simple gestures even if they seldom  see him.
137845
swallow your pride, whats done is done, think of all the extra income, also talk to her about the way you feel or felt and both set some quidlines as to household chores shopping etc. good luck to yoiu both, god bless.
485475
You should just go, she is not being fair. Go and have a good time, and when you get home tell her you don't want to listen to any complaining, or you might have to go out more often.
429706
depend on your wife does she want to do it.
974297
Just sit and visualise...ur to-be wife as a working woman. Also try and visualise her as a home maker..which dream you like better? thats the answer to ur confusion.
702172
get a new job or make your boss give you more hrs/ maybe you could do the cooking and cleaning around the house or rub her feet at the end of her day
636645
I work very, very hard.\n\nOops, I think I read the question wrong.  Oh well, my wife says to leave it.
120623
is this home work lol :) because we have to have a out let.. not all have hobbies... some think work is a hobbie
771337
Having been in that situation before, it's understandable how you feel! But if you want to make her work without feeling you are letting her down, consider this: You aren't going to always be around. You'll move away, or perhaps you'll move on with life, meet new people. So will she. YOU will probably be more successful. And she won't have the experience to get along on her own. If you still care for her, despite all mooching, dump her (gently) on her bum and let her know she's got to learn to get around on her own two legs. No more help.\n\nOffer advice. Get her started with a step or two towards finding a job. But beyond that, refuse all help. Let her know that the job industry isn't always about who you know, but how much work you do.
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Buy a house.\nMy wife's hobby is doing things around the house she can do and making lists of things we need to take care of she isn't capable of alone. Mine is executing those jobs on the list only I can do. In our free time we tackle jobs from the list we both are capable of. We also spend a lot of time in the bedroom. Actually, now that the kids are grown and gone, ANY room we feel like...\n\nBut then, we might be considered wierd. After 30 years of marrige we still find each other incredibly sexy. We like spending time together and have our "causes" we support. Both of us are passionate about children's rights. We have been foster parents for 17 years and are on about every child care panel in existence.  We also teach parenting and alternative discipline classes together for our state's Dept. of H&W and I am on various boards and am the governor's appointment to our state's Children's Trust Board from our district.\n\nAnd, oh yes. In my spare time I also am writing my second book. And am public relations director for my Shrine Center. (you know, we support the free hospitals for kids)\n\nAnd when we're home, in the evenings we sit out on our deck in the spa and sip wine or tea or maybe hot chocolate with cinnamon schnapps. Yes, naked...
241553
My wife makes around 55k and when I work I do about the same. The last year and a half I have been stay at home daddy...
165966
To be completely honest, I think that people do judge women who choose not to work after they're married, since housework doesn't accumulate as readily in comparison to when one has children.\nI think that the other reply that "doing whatever makes your husband happy" is a bad/chavanistic response.  You should do what makes you happy to.  And if you are and your husband is satisfied as well, that's a benefit.  Overall, do whatever you feel you want to do.  It's your opinion that counts!
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You should be happy you married a very good spouse...\neveryone does feel bored over things that is the same most of the time...\n-working would help if you are stay at home wife,\n-have your own business where you can put those energies,\n-join some foundations... this would not only make you happy but for a good cause.\ntell your husband how you feel... he may have some better ideas then... a second honeymoon...
594156
16 years and NOW it's causing problems?\n\nIs she wanting it less frequently because you want it so much? She is just sick and tired or the incessant demands?\n\nYou both sit down and discuss this.\n\nLet her know that you enjoy the carnal aspect of your marriage and realize that she is uncomfortable with three or four times a day (Don't you have a job?)\n\nSee is she would be amenable to four time a month.\n\nMarriage is give and take. See what you can work out that makes both of you happy,