Does having sex for the first time really hurt as bad as people put it ??
609573
For some women it is painful for others they say it didn't hurt that bad. Mostly it depends on if you really ready for it or not. If you are comfortable with the person your with and how much you know about yourself. You need to make sure your ready body and mind. Know what you want and don't do anything that you don't want to do or are not really ready to do. You should love the person that is your first. Go to the doctor before your first time and be check out and get birth control but don't only use that as protection no matter how much you love the guy always use a condom. Be safe if your not ready just say so and if he loves you he will wait. There's no hurry to lose your virginity remember its something you'll never be able to get back and give to someone else you love. If it doesn't work out with this guy its gone there's no going back. Make sure before you take that step.
141220
My advice to you is...first and formost...don't let anyone do anything to your body unless you are absolutely ready. \n\nYes. The first time can be painful if not done with care, patience and tenderness. \n\nIf you are ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE that you want to lose your virginity, you MUST set the ground rules. Make sure your partner knows that if it becomes too uncomfortable that he is to stop what he is doing IMMEDIATELY. A condom is essential. You never know where someone else has been. Another essential is a lubricant such as KY Jelly or Astrolube.\n\nBefore you just let some guy ram his bone up inside you, make sure he opens you up GENTLY with a lubricated finger. Have him work it in and out, gently at first... then faster and deeper as your body permits. Then when this is comfortable, try a second one. You must relax if you want it to be less painful. Then when YOU feel that you are ready for something more, you decide wheather or not to go further.
42227
i know the obvious answer that many are probably thinking, if he loves you then you will be fine. in fact the is not at true as most people would like to think. Your not just talking about sex you're talking about intamcy as well. WHen you do have sex for the first time i won't lie it hurts. The reason it will hurt for the most part is because oyu will be so nervous about be nakeed and having sex that all of your muscles will be conctracting. Which will then in turn make it that more difficult for your finance to enter. just remeber that when  you have sex with him that he loves oyu he won't be juding you in anyway he will be overwhelmed with the fact that he is with you for the rest of his life that he will just be in awe. also keep in mind that the first time is going to be a little bumpy because you two don't know each others movements yets. so yees it will be awkward. having sex for the first time is different for eeveryone. but it may be easier, since it seems to me that he has had sex before, if he were to get on top. so that way you won't feeel that yopu have to do everything. Something that might make it easier is buy some kind of lubercation it makes it easier to get sttarted. with the lubercation you put it on him to make it more arousing for him and this will give you and oppurtunity to see, and feel what your husband feels like. make it fun for yourself. while you are doing that for him he could be doing something for you. either kissing your neck messaging your inner thighs. if you have a little for play it might take away some of the tension. It is most definetly going to be hard for you to be doing all of this. but just remeber that it will get easier. don't forget that he's not the only one that is there for fun. soemthing that might also arouse him and you as well is take is hands and put them on various parts of you and then you return the favor while he carressing you you do the same. moving on to the sex part of it. pull him towaards you so that he knows to get on top. then opoen your legs so that it is comfortable to you and he can get his whole body in. if you don't feel comfortable adjust and then proceed. when he starts to insert in to you MAKE SURE HE GOES SLOWLY. if anything starts to hurt tell him adn he should either stop or pull out. the key is to communicate. IT will be uncomfortable the first couple of times that you do it. but the lubercation should help out to some degree. After he has entered all the way, now is the time when you should be more relaxed. Now the hardest paart is over. While haveing sex make suree at all times that you are comfortable if your not then sex just won't be the same later. if your lower back hurts put a pillow under neith your back and continue. if you don't know how to move your body then have him move your body so that you both will enjoy it. and if you feel comfortable enough you amy want to get on top. If you do get on to, then just bend your knees so that they are by his hips, and sit directly over top of his penis. oncew he is back inside then move back towards is knees slightly and begin to move. if you don't know how take is haveds and put them on your hips and let him know that he needs to help. once he gets you going you can do it on your own. Of course this is all just a suggestion and you should do what feels right to you, i hope that i could help you CONGRADULATIONS and good luck. just remember RELAX.
690477
well, i think that everyone has their first time, some people have it with the right one and some dont. i dont think that you have to be counting days to figure out when to have sex, just, deep in youre heart youll know, and if you have any doubts, then think it over.
851227
I'm sure it's different for all women or girls. I lost my virginity at 18, after planning on waiting until marriage. I felt i  was ready though and that i would be treated right by the man i was with. He was very gentle and, although it was painful, especially at the beginning (i asked him to stop for a minute becuase it hurt, so he stopped, layed beside me, and petted my hair-i know, sappy isn't it?-and only continued when i assured him i was ready) and i ended up enjoying it quite a bit. I'm sure it also depends on the size of the penis and the woman. Being patient, gentle, and concerned with ONLY the woman can make a world of difference :]
144766
yes. because even though you get the feel of what it will be like you still have never slept with a guy and that is the definition of loosing your virginity and besides it may not hurt as bad if you have already played around and playing with your self is safer than sex because you cant get pregnate and you cant get a disease.
295471
You first time can be painfull especially if he is not condsiderate.  It should get better but it does not feel good everytime. Some women don't even like it until their in their 30's .  Some never like it.  Women! Go figure.  Just try to relax and concentrate on your body and how it feels. Don't put a lot of pressure on yourself over it.
770303
It hurts really bad the first time (8/10), but then every time after that it gets a little better...if you are asking what I think you are asking, lol.
749136
There are plenty of people your age and beyond who haven't had sexual intercourse. I didn't have intercourse until I was 23. It's nothing to feel bad about just because society might say it's 'different.'\n\nYes, it can be a very beautiful thing between 2 people who love one another, but only if you're ready for it. The worst thing would be to do something you're not ready for just because someone else says you should.\n\nBe true to your own needs, and you won't have to worry about it. I think the fact that I waited instead of giving in to peer pressure, enabled me to enjoy it, where if I hadn't waited, it might've turned out to be something traumatizing that I wouldn't have wanted to do again.\n\nAs far as a therapist, I wouldn't suggest it now unless it's something you can't stop thinking about. After you're not a virgin anymore, see what happens. If you've been doing it for a while and if you still feel really bad, then I'd think about talking with a therapist.\n\nSo my advice is not to worry about it. You've got plenty of time, and when you're ready for it, it'll happen the right way.\n\n________
798120
virgin or not rape still hurts...physically and emotionally
653532
MY 1ST TIME WAS PAINFUL @ FIRST, BUT THEN ENJOYABLE AFTER THE PAIN SUBSIDED...HE WAS ONLY ABOUT 5 INCHES & DID NOT POP MY CHERRY, SO TECHNICALLY I WAS STILL A VIRGIN....UNTIL I CAUGHT HOLD OF MY NEXT SEXUAL PARTNER...WHICH WAS AN 8 INCHER....LOL...I WAS CRYING & HIS COUSIN KEPT WALKING IN ACTING LIKE SHE DIDNT KNOW WHAT WAS GOING ON...NOW 2 THINK ABOUT IT, DA CHYCK MIGHT'VE BEEN GAY...OR THEY MIGHT'VE HAD A LIL INCEST GOIN ON THERE,LOL...........
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OFCOURSE IT HURTS!NOT JUST THE FIRST FEW STICKS BUT THE FIRST FEW TIMES.AFTER THAT YOU LL SEE THAT SEX IS A BEAUTIFUL THING.OFCOURSE IF YOU DO IT WITH SOMEONE WHO AT LEAST RESPECTS YOU! GOOD LUCK :)
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Expect it to be a disappointment. Male or female virgins are not going to have some epiphany when they lose it. Our society puts so much emphasis on sex that the first sexual encounter has taken on almost a religious status. The physical reality is not so romantic or dramatic.\n\nFor the woman, it will be from mildly uncomfortable to painful the first time. She may or may not bleed, but unless there is something wrong, there won't be much blood and the pain is a memory after few few tries.\n\nFor the man, it is a good idea to learn a few things about your body, too. It will not hurt but you need to be responsible just like your partner and you need to make sure you're extreme sensitive and gentle if your partner is a virgin, too.\n\nNo one is going to look stupid unless one of the people involved is an insensitive lout. Don't pretend not to be a virgin if you are, then you're asking for trouble. This is a time for communication and openness. BE CAREFUL!
584652
Well it may not just be women, it could be guys to.. it really depends on how the person is raised..  I mean if you are raised to hate it and to see that it is bad.. well then it will be bad.  If not then go for it!  it feels good and it is not hurting anyone!  not you, not your friend, not your uncle bob, NO one!  it is simply very pleasurable :) thats all it is.  And if you haven't had sex yet you can consider it practice.
97001
It's different for each person.  I assume by your avitar that you are female.  If that is the case, it will probably hurt the first time, maybe the first few times.  \n\nI would recommend waiting until you are married, it is definitely worth the wait!  It's also nice to know that your first is someone who is planning on sticking around.
1105329
it all depends on who your having sex with..i have decided to wait because every time i do have sex!! IT HURTS!! so im just gonna wait until i find someone thats right for me(u know marrige) then maybe i will like it...(so dont just go around experimenting make sure you know what your doing and you love somone then maybe sex will feel GREAT!!!
548898
thats a good question...i wish someone answered that question for me when I lost mine... I can say that that sounds about right, regardless its gonna hurt and your bound to bleed, but i quess anything bigger would be worse.. trust me hun sex is not all its made out to be!!!! if i could go back in time.. i would still be a virgin (and im 24). Good LUck!!! and if your under the age of 18, WAIT!!!, TRUST ME YOUR NOT MISSING MUCH!!!