What is the best technique for dealing with insulting comments that people try to pass off as jokes ?
604172
Best thing to do, seriously, is not ignore it. It only makes you look like you are mad. Just laff it off with them and make a joke back. No big deal. Alot of people make jokes at other's expense because they feel insecure themselves. It makes them feel bigger, better. It's lame. Just smile and laff, and know inside, they feel like a loser.
1096373
I get these comments too (on issues outside of religion mostly).  Some things are just a matter of opinion and no one has the right to insult people on the basis of their opinions.  I just brush them aside as pathetic people with nothing better to do than bash on people that they disagree with.
1158062
there are two options that i would recommend-\n1. just let it go and ignore them, but maybe smile a little when they insult you and you walk away.  it makes them wonder what was funny.\n2. learn some really good comebacks.  not necessarily stock ones like "oh yeah?  well you're ugly!" but something more creative.  have fun with it.  be insulting.  what are they gonna do, report you?\ndon't fight them.  there's no reason to.
1044751
Some of my best friends are people who, like you, tell it like it is and don't 'pull any punches.'  \nYou should absolutely stay true to yourself, but that doesn't mean you can't hold back comments sometimes when you feel they wouldn't be well received or if they might be hurtful.  You don't have to lie, but if you can spare someone's feelings by holding your tongue, then maybe that would be a good idea.\n\nRemember, not everyone wants to know the truth, they are happier in their delusions.  So, by pointing out what may be obvious to you, you will make then angry or sullen.\n\nThink of your wisdom and life experiences as having value and don't be giving them away free every time you open your mouth. Instead, let others learn from their own mistakes and strive for their own life experiences.
439581
Simply ignore such rude, crude and shallow people!  Do not allow them to embarrass or harass you; their complaint is their problem, not yours.  Frankly, such people have far too much time on their hands and are too d*a*m lazy to find something constructive to do, so they get their cheap, tawdry, tasteless little thrills by trying to bug others.  Next time one of them complains, look 'em right in the eye and say "Yeah? Deal with it!" and then just ignore them.
897008
Tricky Q!  One that I would ignore if I did not have a great deal of respect for the Asker.\n\nAs for personal insults and compliments--well, that's too personal.  Even given the anonymity of Y!A.  Especially given the brazen anonymity of Y!A.  To share them with you publicly would be an insult to your sensitivity; to share them with you privately would be a compliment to your sensitivity.  As priests, psychiatrists, and parents know, confidentiality is a compliment and public disclosure is an insult.  \n\nSo to generalize--and generalize only--my worst personal insults were experienced as a child or adolescent, and I am still too bitter about them and their effect upon me to expose you to my hostility, probably even unforgivable hatred.  Did I retaliate in kind?  Oh, most certainly I would have if I could have.  But years and so many sensitive others later I hope one can become an adult who attempts to protect other children and adolescents from similar suffering.\n\nMy best compliment by far was when the woman I love loved me in return and agreed to become my wife.  For love is the greatest compliment, and mutual submission the highest praise.  Beyond that, compliments are merely words and to repeat them would be to expose hearers to a false sense of pride and egotism that I could not muster.  In other words, I can't remember any such compliments that didn't seem to me to be exaggerations.\n\nNow, let's proceed to a much more important dimension of your question: public insults to a people and public compliments to our humanity.\n\nThe greatest insult I can think of is when political leaders (or would-be leaders) lie and lie and lie and spin and spin and spin and expect us (like the masses who responded to Hitler and his minions) to accept what they say because they repeat it over and over again, regardless of its truth--even when it is obviously and unashamedly untrue and irrational.  You are all fools, they seem to say, and we can treat you like fools and still manipulate you to follow us docilely.  Public media--reporters, commentators, editors, reviewers--who simply pass along the lies and the spins not only insult their readers; they accept the grossest insult of all to their own intelligence, honesty, and sense of responsibility.  It would not be difficult to name any number of contemporary politicians guilty of such insults.  It would not be easy to name very many among the media who have refused to accept such insults but have even emphasized them.\n\nTruth tellers, especially those who trust us to hear and understand unpleasant truths, compliment us mightily.  Like, yes, Edward R. Murrow and Bill Moyers and Keith Olbermann and, oh yes, even Molly Ivins.  \n\nBut the greatest compliment of all is that of artists who trust someone out there somewhere to receive and respond genuinely to the work they have thrown themselves into: poets and composers, musicians and actors, choreographers and dancers, painters and sculptors, orators and essayists, storytellers and singers.  \n\nWhen Gustav Mahler gave strangers his Resurrection Symphony, when Sylvia Plath wrote "Black Rook in Rainy Weather," when Leontyne Price sang night after night and Mikhail Baryshnikov leapt time after time, when Martin Luther King spoke and Dame Judith Anderson read her lines, they complimented those whom they did not know--strangers in the night--but whom they trusted with their efforts.  Bravo!  \n\nOur applause cannot compliment their artistry as sincerely and as vigorously as their work compliments our humanity.
1117853
1st, nice avatar!\n2nd, anyone who makes fun of another's appearance is a loser\n3rd, might try some neck-stretching type exercises\n4th, IF you are overweight - only IF - try losing a few lbs.
404446
If the people are anything like MojoMan at the top I would just ignore them, yours is a very serious question, and making fun of people is a form of bullying (he looks a bit of a bully from his pic btw)\n\nA lot depends on the sort of 'making fun', somethings we can't change about ourselves, our parents, where we come from, how we look (excluding plastic surgery),  If it is something you can change however, and it is something you yourself are unhappy with, then make an effort to change it, get your friends and parents help.\n\nIf it is the way you behave, are very quiet, shy, have weird ideas, very intelligent, not so clever, then it is a matter of just making some friends, try to get peoples respect, help someone out when they are in trouble, be more outgoing.\n\nPS. it is hard to hurt someone who does nice things for you (you don't need to win them all once you have a few the rest will leave you alone, bullies only go for easy targets)\n\nOnly do what you are comfortable with tho'\n\nThere are many ways to achieve goals like this, sometimes you may need advice to get you started, if you are still at school try talking to a teacher about it or a school councilor, same goes for college.\n\nRemember it's not your fault, the fault lies with the bullies!\n\nAs a child I was made fun of because I had wierd thoughts, personally I liked the feeling this gave me, it made me different and unique, they were just a bunch of fashion following sheep :)\n\nIt's all in the way you look at it :)\n\nBe happy in yourself is the most important advice I can give you
68339
If you are going to insult people at least try to spell things correctly and actually use correct grammar. \n\nOtherwise, you are the one who is a dumbass.
1153696
Why would you want to insult anybody?\nChill, and enjoy life chum!\nst
166790
I hate to say this, but this is definitely more of an American phenomenon (I'm American, btw).  It's unbelievably rude to make an unsolicited comment (even a positive one) on someone's appearance.  It shows a shallow character of someone who thinks that your appearance is more important than who you are inside.\n\n(I disagree, however, with commenting on someone's smoking in my vicinity.  This has nothing whatsoever to do with appearance and has to do with my health and another person thrusting his filthy stench on my clothing and hair)\n\nHere's the best comeback I've found for when you really can't afford to offend the person:\n\nRude person:  Oh, you changed your hair color.  I really think you looked a lot better as a blonde.\n\nYou (stare momentarily at the person with almost a surprised look):  I had NO idea you were so interested in my hair!\n\nIf the person is not completely self-absorbed, he'll stop and think about that one for a moment.
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click on "report abuse" beside the rude comment.\n\nFrom there, select why you are reporting it and then add your 2 cents and click send.
423672
Learn to spell correctly or use your spell check button before you start to insult people so you won't make too much of an A$$ of yourself in front of the world!\n\nP.s.It is called nurturing the children.Probably something you never received as as child so you result to this.\n\nBe Blessed!
961629
My family does that all of the time! It's so annoying, it's just a way of saying what they want without getting in trouble for it. I can't really tell you when to consider it the truth disguised b/c you really just have to know the person. Sometimes it can really be a joke, but if you feel that it's just a snide remark then it doesn't really matter whether they meant it that way or not. If what they said hurts, or affends you I would say something. Like please don't joke like that, or something else. It may not always turn out the best, especially if you really did catch them, but if you don't say anything it won't stop. Good luck!
1010405
Personally i think they get a high from the insults, it increase their ego position relative to others like "I'm better" "i win" and it entertains them.So concentrate on ways of making the event uneventful or unfun for the players without falling in the trap to get involved in the game.Walk away!!
775886
Well you could always try not pissing them off? \n\nI don't let it spoil my fun - if I want to say something I say it - its only Yahoo and you don't even lose points for a thumbs down so what's the problem?
417079
They can dish it out, but they sure can't take it themselves.\n\nAnd people can spend those 5 points any way they want, and I have 3 options: \n\n1) Answer\n2) Ignore\n3) Report Abuse\n\nMan, it irritates me when people answer with insults, "I don't know", or "Thanks for the points".  Lazy, point-grubbing bas$tard$.