My boyfriend is starting to become anorexic what I can do to stop it?
597331
Sit him down and tell him exactly what can happen if he becomes anorexic again. Look him straight in the eye and tell him he is not fat. Tell him he cannot live off of milk for the rest of his life. Tell him his body needs food to function properly and with out it he could die, or become very sick. If that doesn't work, force him to eat something, like steak. I once read in Chicken Soup that there was an anorexic girl, but her father forced her to eat steak, and that night she realized there was a problem. Just let him know that you don't want him to risk his life because he thinks he's fat.
556893
Refocus your anger to getting your figure back.  People often say that if you love someone it doesn't matter, blah, blah, blah...Bottom line is that looking good for your significant other is sign of respect for yourself and him/her.  Doesn't matter male or female obesity kills just the same.  If you grew 30 pounds that last 5 years, what about the next 5 years?  Another 30 pounds?  Lose the weight, make him drool, then dump his sorry a** and go get a real man
232030
OK, slow down. First, being anorexic is not the answer. It even cause you more problems, it will ruins yourself for sure. It's not a diet method and it's not something you can learn. I've been anorexic before, so trust me on this. Just pick a type of diet you like and stick to it. Don't be lazy, exercise, play, walk your dog, go to the mall, anything. Ask someone you can trust to watch your progress, keeping your diet on track. For your info, most guys don't like too skinny girls. Btw, big are you now, and how skinny you wanna be, height and weight?
240758
Before you can address the issue with your boyfriend, you need to address your issues with your body image.  Instead of picking yourself apart, build yourself up.  If you feel you're "chubby", try losing weight if that will make you feel better about your body image.  If you feel you're "plain looking", try a little makeup or a new hair color to see what works for you.  \n\nIt's a cliche, but true beauty really does come from within.  If you don't love yourself, how can anyone love you?  Guys get bored with girls who trash themselves.  It's like saying to them everyday, "Why are you with an ugly girl with me when you could be with someone prettier?".  Basically, you're second-guessing his high opinion of you.  It's may be a matter of time before he starts to agree with your poor body image and moves elsewhere.  \n\nJust because you value meaningful things like art over binge drinking and freak dancing doesn't make you less of a person, or unattractive.  Intellectual pursuits are much sexier to the right kind of guy.\n\nAs for the jealousy thing, you either trust your boyfriend or you don't.  If you think he's actually going to make a move on these other girls, maybe you should reconsider dating him.  If he is geuinely uninterested in these other girls and your insecurities are driving this persistant jealousy, try and find your own sex appeal and work on building yourself up!\n\nDon't waste another minute hating yourself.  Life is too short, and one day you'll realize you had nothing to hate about yourself to begin with.
74056
Don't be the first one to bring it up. At some point they will either try to lose weight themselves or complain about how fat they are. When they complain about it, that's your chance. But don't say "Yeah, you could stand to lose a few pounds." Say something along the lines of "Well, if you're not happy with the way you look, let's do something about it. We can start exercising together." Be VERY VERY VERY supportive when the time comes that he/she tries to lose weight. Keep him/her motivated and praise every pound lost. Remember, nothing, I repeat, NOTHING is more satisfying than hearing "hey, have you lost weight?"
580627
You need to have a serious chat about your concerns.  Do NOT allow her to make it a joke ("I'm so fat!").\n\nIf you notice her skipping meals, exercising excessively or throwing up when she does eat, tell a doctor or counselor right away.\n\nEating disorders are serious and should be cared for by a professional.\n\nBest of Luck!
978108
Sweetheart,\n\nFirst off, hats off to you for being brave and asking for advice to take care of yourself. It sounds like you're dealing with a lot and I'm so sorry you're unhappy. Your depression and overall stress about your situation may cause you to lose some of your appetite, because a lot of times, emotional problems can cause changes in eating habits, whether that's overeating or undereating. \n\nAnorexia nervosa has at its roots the obsessive desire to lose weight. Are you "dying to be thin"? How far would you go to lose weight? These are some questions to ask yourself to get a better grip on your own motivations. \n\nSometimes if we don't eat for a long time, we slowly lose the desire to eat and it can even be painful or uncomfortable to eat. A nutritionist online says that "people who are unused to eating often complain of discomfort after eating, due to stomach stasis." She further says that you should "seek medical attention quickly to rule out potentially serious medical problems or learn how to best manage her problem if it's not serious, and/or receive psychological help before the problems gets worse or she suffers from malnutrition." I think that's good advice. \n\nwww.eating-disorder.com is a great website that has a lot of helpful info. Also, I would recommend some great advice columns online. One is Go Ask Alice @ (http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/), and another is Dear Uncle Ezra (http://ezra.cornell.edu/). Both of these sites have wise counselors who have dealt a lot with eating disorders, and have answered lots of questions over the years about eating and body image. You can type into the search boxes on these sites "eating disorder" or "anorexia" and see the questions that they have answered in the past on these subjects. Teenadviceonline.com is also a wonderful website that deals with all kinds of family and body image issues, as well as other problems that teens face everyday. I know that these sites have helped me a lot over the years.\n\nWhether or not you are anorexic, I hope that you'll take care of yourself, and continue to seek help--that's the sign of a go-getter and a brave person. From someone who came from a family full of strife and all kinds of sad tragedies, and someone's who's dealt with depression for most of my life, I'm here to tell you that there IS hope, and things WILL get better. I have faith that even though you are dealing with a lot, you will become stronger for it and there will be a time when you will be able to come to terms with your family and your life. You'll be able to be at peace with yourself and will be healthier, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Don't give up, and keep on asking for help. \n\nOne of the best ways to take that first step in helping yourself is to just talk to someone. If you can't talk to your parents (which is completely OK!), a teacher, a private or school counselor, or just your friends will do wonders to make you feel better. You don't have to deal with things alone. Also, you don't have to be ashamed of your problems, whether or not you have an eating disorder. In life, we're all tested in different ways and it shows your courage that you would ask someone else for help. Remember that no matter how bad things are, you ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS have the power inside of yourself to help yourself. \n\nI wish you the best.
930470
First off how good of shape is your boy friend? Because I can tell you from experience that I recently gained and lost 20 lbs. I was just on a fast food things and drinking lots of beer, and I started to notice that my penis was not performing well anymore. It would get hard and then it would just go limp with out me being able to control it. Well fast forward a month and a half later I have lost the 20 pounds my abs are looking great and now that more blood gets pushed down there via my stomach muscles, I stay hard all the way through. \n\nTell him to start working out his stomach\nkegal exercises are must.\nThis will help his problem.
333710
Have another serious talk with her saying "Hey I notice you havent been eating much, is everything ok??"  Don't accuse her of neccessarily having anerexia, as that woould put her on the defense...  Now you're coming across as a good concerned friend...  Maybe it has nothing to do with being aneroxic at all, maybe its a sign of depression...  Did she just recently lose someone close to her??  Or maybe a bad breakup??  Or heck maybe she just hasn't been feeling well the last few days...  See what she says...  If it's only been a few days or so since this pattern started and it's pretty sudden, it could be one of the above, just be there for her for the next few days till she slowly gains back her appetite...  IF however this has been an ongoing issue, whether or not she admits it (she'll probably be in denial even with herself) I would then say "well, you might say it's no big deal, but I am truly concerned for you..  I have noticed that all you ate today was a tic-tac and an apple, or whatever, and then tell her this is not healthy...  Mention again what you said about the running and healthy foods, which should be part of any healthy lifestlye, even if your not on a "diet", tell her you want her to help yourelf, but she's gotta do it when she's ready, and in the meanwhile if she ever needs anything to call you day or night to talk (even if it has nothing to do with food, like i said earlier there could be an underlying emotion helping cause this, the best thing you can do is just be there as a friend)...  From there back off for a few days or so, unless you see herself in an immediate life threatning situation, such as she's talking about suicide and stuff...  See if she takes your advice and starts to get help oh her own...  If she doesn't look like she's going to take responsibility for her own actions and seek help on her own, then you might have to...  Maybe go to her again and say "You know I noticed this situation hasn't getting any better (and possibly even worse) You leave me no choice but to go to the authority (whether it be a councelor, school nurse, trusted teacher) myself, that's my duty as a friend...  If you'd like we can go together to talk to them, and I'll be there every step of the way with you, but if you don't come with me, I'm still going to tell them..." She might be mad at you, but in time will thank youo....  Aneroxia is a very seriouos conditioon and needs to be adressed, don't let the possibility of having a friend mad at you, stop you..  I'd rather have a mad friend than no friend, and aneroxia is indeed fatal in the long-term...  Thing is it's one of those slow deaths where your body will just weaken to nothing, but your not going to die from starving yourself one day, many people fast for religious purposes, etc. for a 24-hour period...  Your body has enough fat and nutrients stored that you can survive, but over time, it WILL kill...  PLease talk to her today, don't procastinate...  Good luck to both of you
432232
My boyfriend has gained 50 lbs since I first started dating him 3 years ago. He went from a rock hard muscle guy to a cute teddy bear looking guy. I would NEVER leave him for gaining weight. If you truly love somebody it doesn't matter what they look like.
157008
Accept her as she is. Nagging or pointing it out to her will not help her. It will actually make her crave eating more. Plus run down her self esteem. Believe me, a person who is over weight knows they are. Until she can come to terms with what is the root of her eating, and when she and only she decides it is time to change will she be able to do so.
476862
tough love.  do it now while you can still instill some good eating habits.  the hair is his hormones growing crazy.  happens to fat women tool  ask your doctor about it.  but sounds like he likes to eat and it's already causing health problems and you want to be a good parent and deal with the health problems but you're not getting to the source which is his diet.  just bite the bullet now, go see a nutrition and do what he/she tells you to do.
173987
I am sure that it is important to you that your friend has been able to trust you, so you probably do not want to share her secret and betray that trust.  But anorexia is a very dangerous thing and she will need help that you are not qualified to give her and it is imperative that she receive treatment.  I do not know the extent of her condition, so it could be that she has not suffered significant physical damage yet (hopefully this is the case!).  But even so, she will need treatment, even if it is only counseling, to help her break the cycle and learn how to control her disease.  Try encouraging her to tell a parent, a family member or a doctor.  You could offer to go with her if that would help her feel more secure and if you feel able to help support her as a friend.  If she continues to refuse, however, eventually you must tell someone who can intercede.  Betraying her trust is not nearly as bad as allowing her to destroy her body and possibly kill herself.  You could try contacting the eating disorders hotline at 800-227-4785 for additional advice and support.  Good luck...
1179407
First you have to honestly ask yourself whether the changes you want are out of love for her, or out of love for yourself?  If they are out of love for her, then you'll definitely have to be an active supportive participant in this.  Exercise WITH her.  (Don't wear her out all at once; she'll be intimidated.)  Cook WITH her... try some low-fat cookbooks with lots of veggies and minimal carbs and meat.  Good-tasting food that doesn't make you look like a blueberry muffin IS possible, but it takes work.\n\nAlso, be sure you let her know that you love her and you're concerned for her well-being.  If she cannot accept that, there's not much you can do.  But if she can, you could really go somewhere with it.  One of my friends was very overweight... ate way too much and was extremely lazy.  Well, she is still overweight.  BUT she is losing some of it and eating more healthy and getting into shape.  And it's all thanks to the good influence of her boyfriend.  Now I don't think he's such a good influence in some other areas; but about that he's good.\n\nAnd finally... wear her out with some good sex.  hehe.  ;)  J/k... sort of.
1076132
I guess I would first ask you if she wants to be helped. I don't think you'll be able to do anything for her until she has reached to point of wanting to change. Once she is there you have lots of options.\n\nFirst and foremost - she needs to see a dietician. Even something as simple as Jenny Craig or Weight Watchers. A self-regulated diet won't work. She needs a friend and a counselor to help her along the way (kind of like a sponsor at AA).\n\nThere are many other things to do, but getting professional help is the best thing for her...\n\nGOOD LUCK!
555009
I understand. My husband was like that with me , but he soon saw that i just don't eat as much as he does. Tell him that you love him but you don't need to eat all the time. You have no problem with how much he eats so he should not have a problem with how little you eat. Stay strong and stand your ground.
664361
Work out, get a tan, new hair style, killer hot new outfits, manicure, pedicure,and if you need to, drop a few pounds.  Hold your head up high, let the positive energy and self confidence flow.  When he comes groveling back, (and he will!) Look squarely and sultry into his eyes and politely say "No, dear I have moved on to a better place"