Is it possible to rekindle your marriage after numerous affairs and two wedlock children?
613573
First let me say that I am very proud of you to serve our country! To answer your question, if BOTH people are willing to try then anything is possible! BOTH of you though need to feel very strongly about this. You need to sit down together somewhere comfortable and just talk to each other. Be very positive and willing to express your feelings as well as listening to hers. If you can do this and you BOTH feel the same way, you can get back what you first saw in eachother.\nGood luck!
133853
Of course you can, but why don't you focus on establishing\na friendship or even a relationship first instead of thinking about marriage again already.
1020386
I will have to call my ex-wife and see how she did it and i will get back to you. I kind of suspect that marriage will do it in most cases though.
1058963
Now my spouse makes me feel complete. It only took 30 years. All I can say is you have to compromise. If you fight, you can't leave , you can ignore each other until everything cools down. I watched my sibblings leave their spouses time and time again, they always went back. That was time wasted. Work things out. There are no 2 people perfectly compatable. You have to work at it. Even now , we are not even 80% compatable, but there was no way, even 10 years ago that I was gonna start over. You probably found the right person, but how would you know , now? Good luck.
762315
Gotta' admit, sounds like a plan to me!!\n\nLike every 2 years?  With an option to evaluate twice within that 2 years and if both evaluations are negative, the marriage is over?\n\nHey, I think you are on something here!!
1148214
I am on my second marriage, and let me tell you, marriage sucks donkey dick!  I would not get married again unless God himself told me to get married!  I think the number of times that is too many is a personal choice.  Tradionally, the number has been one time and you are out unless of death or adultery or abuse.  Nowdays, you can get married in a matter of minutes of meeting someone and be divorced by the end of next week (in some places).  Like I said I think it is a personal choice, and what your friend decides you need to stick by him if he is really a friend.  If it bothers you so much either talk to him or stop being his friend.
628881
I did stay married for many years for my kids, but if I had it to do over....NO WAY! The biggest relief for them came when we got divorced....no more fussing, arguing, etc. They were more relieved than we were. Good Luck!!
572623
Yeah, just sit back and watch your spouse have an affair, have one yourself, or try doing porn, see how fast an outsider dissolves your marriage.\nIf the two hearts aren't married, then be on alert, anyone with 1/2 a reason can do it.
293903
If he was able to do that, and with somebody so close, he will easily do it again.  If you really WANT to make it work anyway (and I'm all for forgiveness in the right circumstances), then it's up to him to do everything it takes to make you feel secure that nothing else will ever go on with anyone else. He would have to want your marriage bad enough to do that of course, because it will be alot of work on his part.\nIf he's not willing to be totally open and accountable for every action, then do not put yourself through the abuse of more affairs. He has already broken your marriage covenant, and you are not bound to him.
319551
My suggestion would be to start all over, let me explain.  When you were dating, before kids, before the wedding, what did you do?  Did you enjoy going to dinners?, movies?, hiking?  Whatever it was that brought you two to the point of falling love do it again.  Send the kids to grandma's for the weekend, get a babysitter for friday night and go to dinner.  Sure, it may feel a little weird the first few times you go out, but that's because you haven't done it in a while.  Start slow and build from there.  There's no majic trick to finding the spark again, you need to work at it, but it will come!  Remind yourself, and your spouse, why you fell in love and got married. \n\nHope this helps!
691637
*If you know he still loves you, then (assuming it was you who initially wanted the divorce) apologize. Tell him the feelings you still have for him, and ask him if he is willing to take you back, let him know you want his forgiveness. Having both a mother and father will be good and healthy for the children. It is not seperation anxiety, it is natural(and good) for you to desire to reunify with your husband. Cheap sexual encounters or other pseudo-relationships will not fill that pain/void in your life. If he agrees, it would be best to remarry him. There is no better way to start than genuine forgiveness.\n\n\n* this is assuming there was no abuse in the marriage\n\nFinally if it was his fault, it would be best to start by letting him know that you have forgiven him unconditionally. Nothing will kill an attempt at reigniting the fire than holding a grudge.\n\nEither way, honesty is best, bear your heart and tell him the truth, and you will have done your part. If he does not accept, it will be his loss. You will have done the right thing.
991430
This is also my third marriage. First time was six months, I was very young and stupid. Two years later, I met husband two. Two years pass before we marry. Married for two years and got divorce. Both one and two, couldn't keep their hand to theirselfs. \nThen here comes number three. I started talking to him on yahoo chat. Talking and then we meet soon after. Then I was with him for four years, been married for one. I agree with her, Iam tired of marriage. \nStick me with a fork, Iam done all the way.\n\nP.S. I heard from someone before, don't matter how many times you marry. Just as long you love him/her, is all that matters. Don't give up becuz one ruin it for ya.
413799
I really believe that you need to court each other again. I know it sounds silly but we're talking about the rest of your life here. In life sometimes we loose sight of how we got there. good luck!
270311
you can destroy your two families if both parties are married. its not worth the risk. work on the marriage you have and you wont need to look elsewhere.
943812
Yes, my wife had two affairs, when I discovered the second one, she admitted to the first one.  She ask God's forgiveness and then mine.\n\nGod's was much quicker, mine has taken about four years, but I am feeling the love she has for me and I for her.  Its the trust that has been the hardest thing to rebuild.\n\nMy mantra through all of this has been..."Forgiving is not forgetting...It's remembering with your mind at peace!"\n\nI have found peace.
915240
Every marriage-  married young or older will change and get boring @ times If you let it\nYou both need time together away from the problems, worries, kids to reconnect\nYou need to date your spouse all over again
600467
It could work, but it is difficult.  Both parties must be COMPLETELY honest with each other, and in most marriages that isn't the case.  Usually one side wants an open marriage to cover up the fact that they are having an affair.  They are just trying to legitimize their bad behavior.  So don't try it unless you trust the other party 110%, as it won't work.