Will I ever completely recover from my eating disorder?
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i'm not sure which eating disorder you've been diagnosed with, but the mind part of it never goes away, you might be able to stop doing certain habits you've accustomed to but the thoughts and temptations will always be there. i'm sorry i don't want to bring you down, but trust me you're not alone. i'd invite you to read the book "Wasted", by Marya Hornbacher. VERY GOOD. but triggering so be wary. i wish you the bEST OF LUCK IN FIGHTING THIS BATTLE.\nyou can email me freely, please if you need someone who understands to talk to ok?
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Are you for real, or are just asking that question to get a rise out of someone?\n\nHaving suffered anorexia for many years, I am apalled that someone out there actually wants to try it.  No you f*****g dumbarse, you dont have any control over it.  You have control to start with, until it takes over your whole life, until it is your life.  You dont eat, you can't get out of bed to even go to the toilet because you haven't eaten enough to give you the energy you need.  \n\nIt was lucky for me that I was able to do a turn around when I did, and I was able to change my life.  After many years of being anorexic, I am now healthy and am so sorry I put my family and friends through the shit that I did.  (without realising it.  It's only now that I am older I see what I put them through)  At one stage, I know I only weighed about 34 kilos.  After I had my first child I weighed about 40, and cried and cried because I thought this was disgustingly fat.  Anorexia is an illness, it's not something you would wish on anyone.\n\nIf you want to go through the whole 'anorexic' thing, be my fucking guest, but I assure you, it is not fun, and if you ever went down that track I know you will agree with me.   How someone could be so stupid in wanting to experience  this is beyond me.  I wish you well.  If you diet for long enough and experience what I did, (which I doubt because it took a long time to get to that stage)  I  hope you go through the hell I did.
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You are a courageous young lady!  The people who taunt and laugh at you are not worth your salt!  If you continue to work on your condition, you will in time draw yourself to friends who will help you grow,  not destroy you.  \n\nYou are able to know what you want in life, do something useful with your talents, gifts.  Focus on those things that build you up.  As far as you can, speak to someone safe about those hurts you get from insensitive people.  Remember, these friends will also go on to hurt even their own group, in other ways.  Just bc you are one of few who have this problem, you seem to be singled out for bully.  \n\nActually, if they say, "nikki, you look anorexic", you can admit and say, "well, actually, I am bulimic", in a firm tone, withuot smiling.  You mean what you say.  Listen to their 'jokes' about you, only their tones make it sound hurting.  But you are really being helped to grow out from it, if you are able to 'read' it for its healing tone.  But dont ever look to them like you are agreeing with their insults.  Look serious enough to send the message that yeah, you know they know you have a prob, but, that they don't know you are working on helping yourself get out from under it!  \n\nYou will really confuse them, bc their intention is meant to embarass you,  but you will only hear the challenge part, not the bully part. \n\nI'm all for your growth from this ailment.  I hope you will learn healthy habits, even from listening to those who seemingly want to hurt you.  Listen only for the part that will spur you on to climb over your obstacles, not get run down.  \n\nGo for it, girl!!  Yeah!
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Overeating is such a horrible addiction to overcome.  If it worked for us like for an alcoholic- and we could just never eat again- I could stop.  But unfortunately, you have to eat.\n\nFist of all, let me suggest to work on the issues from your childhood.  Resolving those should help a lot.\n\nAnd then, you could make notes or keep a journal- write down what you eat..... That should keep your hands busy and away from the food/mouth for while- .. No, really.. if you see it written down, it sometimes helps you recognize what you're doing.\n\nAnd find other things to keep you busy.  There are support groups out there- but I found I got worse after a overeater's anonymous meeting- they told me I had no control over my eating so I went home and proved them right.  Then I realized that was ridiculous, I did better before I went to the meeting.  I'm now diabetic and that helps.  I'm forced to make myself eat less to live.  When you get to a point where your life depends on it, you can do it.  Oh, and at least when you eat- eat healthy.
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Growing as in up or out or into the body you were meant to have? Those are the real questions.\nThe answers are yes, yes, and yes. Yes anorexia will stop the growing process if you are still in the adolescent stages of growth. Consider the plant, corn. Initially corn needs only to be dropped into a shallow hole and covered with dirt. Then, water must be applied in medium amounts. Fertilizers are not necessary if the soil is already rich in nutrients, other wise some fertilization or plant food must be applied. The seed will germinate. It is one of the easiest seeds to get to start. However, once started it must be cared for. Growth of the plant will continue in early stages, not necessarily depending on water or plant food. But once maturity starts, teenage years in plant terms, nutrients and water must be provided otherwise you will have a plant that will tassel, the "hair" at the top of the plant; it will have ears of corn, small puny ears no one will want, and be about 4 – 5 feet tall, or about 2 – 3 feet short of what it should be.\nYes anorexia will stop the growing fat. So will reasonable diet and exercise. See any healthy living website for more information.\nYes anorexia will stop the normal development of the human experience. You will not participate in the traditional Thanksgiving family meals, the Christmas dinners, the New Years Eve parties with the traditional foods, Valentines Day Chocolates, Fourth of July Picnic's Memorial Day and Labor Day picnics with hot dogs and apple pies, and ice cream. You will be "different" from your family and friends. They will have to make accommodations to have foods that you can tolerate. They will talk behind your back about how skinny and sickly you look. Your face will be thin and wrinkles because there is not the fat content to fill out your normal cheek bones. That sounds OK to a typical anorexic because they are people that want to disappear for some personal reason. They have something about themselves they want to hide and by being skinny and maybe thin enough, they will not be seen anymore. Yes, anorexia will stop your normal development into the person you should be. Seek professional help. I am the spouse of an anorexic. I know what I am talking about. Good Luck and Keep Clear. The SpartanCaver
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Make some calls to find a nearby facility where she can get help.  As much as you love your friend, she needs PROFESSIONAL help. She probably has to be checked into some kind of hospital where they can help her gain weight and teach her how to eat properly.  Eating disorders are about control, not about food.  She needs therapy.  You can help her find that therapy and be there for her when she comes home.  Stay her friend no matter what, even if she gets mad at you. Someday she will thank you for your support.
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Yes, it's always a good time to get treated.  Recognizing you have a problem is the first step, and is often the hardest.  Many people are hospitalized for eating disorders without ever admitting they have a problem, so believe it or not, you're already on the way to recovery just by aknowledging that it's something that needs to be changed.\n\nEating disorders are sometimes (not always) associated with stress, and consequently will tend to be worse when you're going through a stressful time.  I'd say losing a child, especially when you're arguably still a child yourself, definitely counts as stressful, making it especially important that you get the help you need ASAP.  I know it's hard to ask for help, but it's definitely better than ending up in the ER, and potentially doing perminant damage to your body, because you finally pass out from lack of food.  People know it's a hard thing to do, and they'll respect you for admitting you have a problem and need help.\n\nI've very sorry to hear about your daughter, and please, please get help for your eating disorder.
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Yeah, I've had an eating disorder for 6 years, i'm just now getting help/recovery. Some are just naturally thin, others are suffering from anorexia nervosa. They're in the grocery store because they're planning their daily ritual "binge and purge" session. It's such a chilling thought that people suffering from anorexia would actually compare themselves to other anorexics, it becomes an endless competition. Anorexia, like all eating disorders (the obesity epidemic as well) is the worst form of self torture in my opinion.
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i have been in treatment for an eating disorder. feel free to email me your questions at ktstebs@yahoo.com
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There are lots of reasons why you could have these problems. I urge you to seek counseling and medical attention immediately, because you need to fix your heart, your mind, and your body. I am in no way saying that you're a bad person. I'm saying that you have a problem, you know you do, and you should fix it. Anorexia is horrible, one of my friends had it, and it was a long road. Realizing you have it is half the journey. Good luck to you.
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girl, the first thing is that you have admitted you have a problem.  good for you.\n\ntell your parents.  get a nutritionist to help you figure out what to eat to get you healthy again, and a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders to help you figure out why you have such a skewed view of yourself.\n\nit sounds like from what you said you have both anorexia and bulemia.  both can take the life you have been given away from you.  no matter what you think of yourself, you owe it to the people who love you to fight this.  get off the computer and get help.\n\nquit talking about it now.  do something.
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tell yourself you are not going to let yourself do the things you want to do, unless you eat. or tell your friends to remind you to eat so this doesnt turn into a serious eating disorder. you should get help too before it turns bad. ask your doctor.
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Bulimia is a symptom of a more engrained disorder. You cannot cut down a tree by cutting off its branches, you have to go for its trunk and its root. Sometimes we only cut branches, sometimes we cut off the trunk, but if you don't take out the roots, the tree always grows back.\n\nThe obvious suggestion is to go see a therapist. However, that alone will not do it. It is important to seek outside support, bulimia groups and family support are important. If family is not an option, seek friends. The more shame you have, the more you will hide it and feed into the disease. It is important to accept it and find others who will accept you for it, so that eventually with their support and your own persistence you can overcome it.
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YES anyone can develop an eating disorder.\n\nJust like anyone can both overweight and underweight can fall under the spell of 'crash-dieting'.\n\nBad eating habits know no name.
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Sweetheart,\n\nFirst off, hats off to you for being brave and asking for advice to take care of yourself. It sounds like you're dealing with a lot and I'm so sorry you're unhappy. Your depression and overall stress about your situation may cause you to lose some of your appetite, because a lot of times, emotional problems can cause changes in eating habits, whether that's overeating or undereating. \n\nAnorexia nervosa has at its roots the obsessive desire to lose weight. Are you "dying to be thin"? How far would you go to lose weight? These are some questions to ask yourself to get a better grip on your own motivations. \n\nSometimes if we don't eat for a long time, we slowly lose the desire to eat and it can even be painful or uncomfortable to eat. A nutritionist online says that "people who are unused to eating often complain of discomfort after eating, due to stomach stasis." She further says that you should "seek medical attention quickly to rule out potentially serious medical problems or learn how to best manage her problem if it's not serious, and/or receive psychological help before the problems gets worse or she suffers from malnutrition." I think that's good advice. \n\nwww.eating-disorder.com is a great website that has a lot of helpful info. Also, I would recommend some great advice columns online. One is Go Ask Alice @ (http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/), and another is Dear Uncle Ezra (http://ezra.cornell.edu/). Both of these sites have wise counselors who have dealt a lot with eating disorders, and have answered lots of questions over the years about eating and body image. You can type into the search boxes on these sites "eating disorder" or "anorexia" and see the questions that they have answered in the past on these subjects. Teenadviceonline.com is also a wonderful website that deals with all kinds of family and body image issues, as well as other problems that teens face everyday. I know that these sites have helped me a lot over the years.\n\nWhether or not you are anorexic, I hope that you'll take care of yourself, and continue to seek help--that's the sign of a go-getter and a brave person. From someone who came from a family full of strife and all kinds of sad tragedies, and someone's who's dealt with depression for most of my life, I'm here to tell you that there IS hope, and things WILL get better. I have faith that even though you are dealing with a lot, you will become stronger for it and there will be a time when you will be able to come to terms with your family and your life. You'll be able to be at peace with yourself and will be healthier, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Don't give up, and keep on asking for help. \n\nOne of the best ways to take that first step in helping yourself is to just talk to someone. If you can't talk to your parents (which is completely OK!), a teacher, a private or school counselor, or just your friends will do wonders to make you feel better. You don't have to deal with things alone. Also, you don't have to be ashamed of your problems, whether or not you have an eating disorder. In life, we're all tested in different ways and it shows your courage that you would ask someone else for help. Remember that no matter how bad things are, you ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS have the power inside of yourself to help yourself. \n\nI wish you the best.
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1991, does that mean ur 15??.. \nwell I have been bulimic & anorexic (on & off) since I was 13, then I got treatment.. I'll tell u this: when u start it, you'll HATE IT.. You'll constantly hate your body even more  7more, get obsessed & go nuts over a pound gained or a pound lost, u miht lose friends over this.. u might lose school grades & chance to go to college.. u might lose your HAIR.. your teeth get eroded & yellow.. your skin will be wrinckled by the age of 20.. U might not be able to have kids when u grow up & u might even die.. Im 22 years old now & I am a medical student so I know what Im saying!
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I lost over 30 pounds by eating just enough to get by with. You could try it. Or, my sister lost nearly 60 from a mixture of anorexia and bulimia. Whatever works for ya. For me, anorexia is easier than bulimia...