how to break up with someone you truly care about because of a fundamental value that you have that they dont?
601141
This happened to me.  I dated a guy for a long time, and inevitablely we had the God talk.  When I found out he didn't believe in God it through me back alot.  I sat down and did a lot of thinking.  I decided I couldn't have a future with a man who didn't believe in God.  I wanted to go to church as a family and celebrate holidays as a family.  \n\nI sat him down and told him I cared about him alot (I even loved him) but said I couldn't be with him because he didn't believe in God.  He offered to go to church with me, but I knew that deep down he still wouldn't believe in God.  I was honest and told him that I couldn't be with him since we didn't share core believes.  \n\nIt was hard, and I cried alot.  But in the end it turned out for the best.  I am now dating someone who believes in God.
712905
1.  Tell the jerk that it is not a matter of playing your cards right.  Cards is a game, relationships are for real.\n\n2. Tell him that you are pretty sharp, masters degree, etc, and that you had a life before you met him and you will have a life after he is gone.  The question was wither or not the life together was worth the effort to cultivate.\n\n3. If he works 14 hours a day, 6 days a week, he isn't going to find anyone to put up with that crap.  There will come a day when he wakes up and find out the the world has passed him by.\n\n4.  Half of love is being selfish. You want the other person because he addresses enough of your needs to make you happy.  The unselfish part is letting the other person in on the decision making.\n\n5.  Any relationship takes effort, if the effort is coming for you to change and not him, them what is the deal?  Does he really think you can't handle it?\n\n6.  You would take care of his needs, make sure he would have a long happy life.  If he wants some gold digger to bang on the side and help him into an early grave so she live happily with the next guy on his insurance money, then he can be happy with someone else.
561612
Why would you break up withsomeone you love? If they honestly mean the world to you enough that you say you love them it should mean that you are willing to spend the rest of your life with them no matter what happens
649169
stop caring about the things you're supposed to trust her with
887864
If you want to break up with him, do so. But you shouldn't try to keep what isn't yours. This will only make you an enemy for life and potentially drive him to do something bad to you.
376542
End it. They clearly aren't worthy of the trust and care you felt for them.\n\nOther fish in the sea.
778078
Yeah, but then again, I do everything on the basis of reason. Tell him your breaking up with him unless he stops. See what happens. Only if you want to.
422418
It's become a question of comfort it sounds like. He is comfortable financially with this person, but lets this stop him from being true to himself and follow his heart. It's really hard to leave someone, but he needs to build up the courage to do so.  You need to show him that you love him, and make this as smooth of a transaction as possible.  best of luck to you!
103315
it's easy, just tell him/her u're no longer involved. The sooner he/she gets to know, the better.Or else u will be fooling urself thinking he/she still loves u
514617
Well.....definately you have to do it in person, trust me....I'm not ashamed to say that I've been dumped through the phone, and trust me that hurts like a b**ch!\n\nWell, there isn't a way to break up with someone without hurting them, if they care about you of course they're going to get hurt, but they'll understand, if you give them good reasons for wanting to break up, and if you're dealing with an understanding person, I'm sure he or she will understand! Just try to talk to the person and be completely honest! Think of a way you would like someone to break up with you and try to follow it with the person you want to dump, you know what I mean? Well, anyway, just try to be sincere and try to be soft, you know? I hope that helped you! Good Luck!
54738
Obviously there are some things you'd have to decide b4 proceeding,eg;how long you've been 2gether,how sensitive she is,what the reason(s)for the brk.-up eg,are they irrepairable.Breaking up is never an easy thing to do or experience.Be extremely sensitive,caring and try to do so with the possibility of friendship remaining.Think of how you'd like to be treated in this situation and treat like-wise.
1170270
Yes break up with him. He is not good for you.
776551
Go for it\nThe reason you give for not being with him are shallow, and I suspect that your real feeling run much deeper than that.
1061913
Break up with him and hang on to him as a "friend with benefits".
182130
If you are breaking up with them because you are absolutely, positively, 100% sure that there is no way to work things out then...you are exiting a bad situation and that is a good thing.  It's not a fun thing and it hurts like hell but if it's the right thing to do then unfortunately you just have to do it.  Then you just have to pick up the pieces and move forward.  They forgot to give some of us the manuals on Life is not going to be perfect.
338438
Well either accept it or find someone who values what a relationship is supposed to be.She is not likely to change.
327216
Do it the old fashion way. Tell him directly. Or just say, things aren't really working out between us. I want to break up with you.