how i behave with my wife on first night after marriage what about sex?
602223
Make sure that she is relaxed and in the mood for intimacy before you initiate a sexual encounter with your wife.  She will probably respond best if you are considerate of her feelings outside of the bedroom and take your time to please her.  If you do that, your reward will be worthwhile.
1185541
Know your partner and know what works for them, is the surprise element good? or would they prefer a planned session?have a failure free environment, no pressure, its doesn't have to be full on sex, be satisfied with some kissing and cuddling, then the good stuff can come later, if its been a while dont have a high expectation coz if something goes wrong it will put people off,do something you both enjoy 1st and plan what u would both like, change the normal bedtime routine? try and new place for lunch/ break old habits?? good luck xx
369566
Having sex before marriage!
589789
Try locking up other position when having sex with your wife. Lock up your organs positioning yourself on her side and slith your fingers to her clit with your one hand and the other hand on her breast. Do not move your body, just slith up and down your fingers on her clitoris slowly....
288245
I had sex before I was married. My wife, on the other hand, held onto her virginity. So, I'm the only guy she's ever been with. I never got "hurt" in a relationship, but looking back on it, having premarital sex was the one of the stupidest things I ever did. \n\nFour things premarital sex screws up:\n\nFirst, sex changes the relationship between the two people, no matter what. The entire relationship becomes far more serious and complicated. Understand that when I say "serious" here, I don't mean it in a positive way.\nPremarital sex seriously kills a lot of the fun and lighthearted parts of a relationship like a lit match in a cup of water. After all, when it comes down to it, sex is designed to produce an entirely new human being! This is true no matter what kind of "protection" you use. Sex is serious business. \n\nSecond, sex changes people. It changes the way they approach love. It changes the way they value the intimacy of sex. It changes the way they value a permanent, lifelong, romantic relationship. In my experience, sex forever changed the way I looked at and related with women. \nI'd kind of say that having premarital sex made it harder to be emotionally intimate (and vulnerable) with my wife.\nThe physical sort of "watered-down" the emotional.\n\nThird, sex really messes up your wedding night. When you do get married, it probably will NOT be to the person you're with right now. (Trust me, it was a big shock to me that feeling "meant for eachother" doesn't mean that you actually are.) In fact, by the time you get to the person you're going to marry, the relationships you are in now will probably seem kind of silly and meaningless. (I know, GASP! again) What I'm hoping you will avoid is knowing on your wedding night that you traded one special night with the person you love and have married with one normal night with someone that you now barely know and don't care about. It hurts. Trust me, I know.\n\nThe fourth thing premarital sex messes up is your relationship with God. Other people posted Bible verses about the topic. It IS sin and the Bible spells it out pretty clearly. Anytime we sin it messes up that relationship. I'd encourage you to pick up the Bible and take a look. Youth Bibles usually do a good job with commentary and study guides that deal with the topic of premarital sex. I'd also encourage you to look up the topic of salvation. Talk to a youth minister or shoot me an e-mail at jdawg2682@yahoo.com. I'd be happy to share a bit more. (I'll try not to ramble quite so much)\n\nAll I know is that I did a lot of stuff before I was a Christian. I thought I was right and knew what I was doing and thought I had things together. It was a joke. God flipped my life upside down in college and I've never been the same (sometimes good and bad). Ultimately, I found the two greatest relationships ever: one with Jesus Christ and the one with my wife. I firmly believe that God can do the same for anybody. Good Luck!
1044656
you can pull out things like a lucky rabbits foot (so you can say it might better you chances of getting lucky that night), a stuffed crab (if your wife has a since of humor), sea weed (again only if you wife has a since of humor because that would suck to piss her off on your wedding day. Then you would not need the rabbits foot cuz you would probably be sleeping on the floor) Get some white sexy undies in her size and pull them out too. The remote to the TV. Tell everyone she had to hide it so you would not be late to your weeding. Good luck
629719
The first thing to establish in a relationship with your wife is not physical intimacy, this will come with time. Talk to her softly and often. Read books together on the topic and experiment, intercourse does not need to happen immediatly, try other forms of stimulation. Do not keep secrets from eachother regarding the topic, likely you both are very nervous, do not worry this is normal. Talking to your family doctor may also help.
124644
Yes, Yes, Yes!\n\nI waited until 20 years, 11 months.\nI know my husband wouldve never married me if he had gotten sex before the ceremony. Men are just like that.\n\nhopefully a husband will be gentle, considerate and loving during that onetime event. Mine lasted all night and finally at 8AM i was deflowered gently, lovingly \n\nA lover will be thinking of himself, take 5 minutes and leave you unsatisfied, wondering how to get it without being married and how fast he can dump you, so that he can go on to another.
652004
I would say have real sex.  To me that includes all types of foreplay including oral sex if one wishes...Don't stress out the first night you have the rest of your lives!  Congrats on your engagement!
806064
I'm in the same boat as you and think you should keep away from fornication. Waiting until your wedding night really shows your new wife that you have waited your entire life to be with her. Sex has nothing to do with love; it is lust and really shouldn't be a factor outside of marriage because both participants know fine well after they have sex they have nothing moer they can give to one another. Outside of wedlock shows they are struggling to keep their relationship going. I know I may sound ignorant but thats the way I see things, it's the way I raised myself. Thinking of showing my devotion to my future (hopefully) wife rather than pleasing my own lust.
641901
Talk to your wife; communication is key.  A healthy sex life starts in your brain!  Ask questions: What are her preferences?  What are your preferences?\n\nContrary to the belief of a great deal of men, a good sex life doesn't just happen.  A good sex life---one that is not selfish on either part---is one that is learned like dance steps to each different song.  You don't do the cha cha to a slow waltz melody and get a very satisfying dance.  So, if you don't learn to dance together, to get each other's rhythm to be as familiar as your own, then "dancing" will be clumsy and usually not very enjoyable for anyone.\n\nBut when you both love the music, you both are familiar with the dance steps, you both know each other's bodies and how they move to the music, then you can feel like Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers.\n\nTalk--this is the person you've shared your life with for 36 years; you can talk about anything!  Communicate, listen, and share with each other.  Then put on some music and start learning to dance together.
331183
do not talk about it when you are in bed this puts to mucvh pressure on her. sit on the couch and say i would like to talk about our sex life. (jump in fast with the next bit) i love everything but i want to try something new. so for the next weekim gonna get as many mens magazines that have sex tips and if you do the same we can come back on friday and compare notes and stuff. \nit is very important to not all of a sudden say hey i want bu tt sex especially if she is traditional. \nso take your time and move slow but make sure to find a how to on what you want but only one so that she can see what you might be into and you can see what she might be into.\nand a few tips on if you get what you want go SLOW. start small and careful so that she knows you care about her having fun too because you DO. if she likes it thats great i hope she enjoys it but if you go to fast or hurt her and dont pay attention to her comfort level you will not get anything new.
1029363
learn to relax.  I was married for 15 years and had to last at least 40 minutes because my wife was frigid.  (I feel bad for her next husband)  Once I started dating again I was so nervous sometime I'd go for 2 hours because I didn't want to let the girl down.  No I try to relax and spend more time making her happy and trying to time the climaxes together.  Think about something really erotic when you think she about to cum.  And ask her to be vocal about it.
618230
After you have sex for the first time or have a female problem.
784700
for men - when they can no longer get hard. \n\nyes most couples usually get down to business  when they marry on the first night.
337770
First of all, SEX is not everything!!!  Sex is like Food.  You can have too much of it and when you do, you can get sick of it.  There is a rule that I have about sex.  Save your body for the person that you plan to marry.  You avoid diseases and you can say to your wife that she was so good that you saved yourself for her.  If you have slept with say 100 ladies, what can you say to your future wife?  Boy, you are so good that it took 100 tries to get the right person?
1140626
I have only been married for 7 months now, my husband is 33 and I'm 23.  We have only had sex once since we've been married which was two weeks after our wedding day and it was terrible for my first time.  Since then my husband cannot kept an erection and I feel the marriage is not going to last.  He refuses to seek help about it and feels being in a sexless marriage is fine, but not for me.  I was so excited to be able to be with him that way, but my dreams are crushed.  Because of this we fight often, don't talk as much, and I don't even like sleeping in the bed with him.  Its hard being in this situation...for anyone.  You feel lonely, upset, unloved, and abused at times.  Its funny because most of the time this happens later down the road into a marriage but for me and many other young couples, it happens quite often now and days.  Yes, there are plenty of wives with this problem and it hurts, all you can do is pray and ask God for guidance.  Talk to your spouse about it and tell him how you feel, get counseling if you can, and turn to your good friends and family for advice and comfort.  I hope everything gets better for you and everyone else in this situation.\n\nTake care