how do I need to go about getting over my EX after a year of being together and now we aren"t even friends.
602550
get out and do things with friends/family. \n\ngo to different places than you used to go with your ex.\n\ngood luck. \n\ntime heals.
791132
cut all ties from him.  your feelings need to heal.  you need to move on and find someone on the same level as you.  friendship after a relationship is awful.
1038661
the first question you need to ask yourself is if you are ready to start getting over her. it's no use wanting to get over her if you aren't willing to...thinking that there is still hope for the two of you.\nyou never 'get over' someone you love in your terms. you just slowly forget them and slowly, the hurt goes away. there is no exact remedy to these problems. the only reasonable remedy is time and lots of it.\nas for your best friend, maybe she's just as confused as you...not wanting to ruin a friendship that took longer to build then a relationship between you. you need to tink which is better for the both of you, staying friends, being together, or forget each other totally.
1010435
don't do it....i did just that thing and ended up very sad and very screwed over. after we broke up i still had to see him everyday, so that made it even harder cause i still cared very much for him. think hard before starting a work related relationship with anyone
442901
u have to try to be strong...think about why she broke up with u if u dont know ask her. try to stay on her good side and fight to get her back but dont allow her to see how hard u r tryin if she is takin u for granted cuz she will never take u back she will keep playin with your emotions but if she needs to see how hard u r tryin to get her back let her see. if there is no way u can get her back then seek help from a pro. meanwhile talk to someone about it cry if u have to and make sure u think about the good times and not the bad cuz that will make u feel worst. if u really love her then i think u should put up a fight its better than not tryin at all. as time passes u will start feelin better u will not see it now bcuz she just broke up with u but as time passes u will see things gettin easier. its not gonna happen over night at all this is a healing process. if u wanna talk further about it ill be there for u. email me at jbhola87@yahoo.com...till then feel better. PRAY!
666613
I've been wondering the same thing since my break-up, even though it didn't include a fight.\n\nIf you really want to get back together, maybe you should try talking to him and trying to understand what's going on between the two of you before just getting back together. Believe me, I know that is not a simple thing to do. Talking with him may tell you what you need to know, though.
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PUT DOWN THE PHONE AND STEP AWAY.  Do not call your ex.  You'll end up looking like a desperate fool who wants to get back together with him and he will feel like he has 'won'.  Yes, it's that childish.  Don't call him and don't expect him to call you.  That's what a break-up does; it stops contact between the two of you.  There may be a time and place that you can be friends, but it is NOT now.  Now so soon after your split.  I know it seems like it should be different given your time togehter, but it's not.  I was in a 3 year relationship with a guy I wanted to marry and it ended badly.  I didn't talk to the guy again until 3 years later and even then it was akward and came across as desperate and stupid.  You have to accept this relationship as being over.  The first few months will be a test of your strength, but you can get through it.  You will never forget this guy.  It's been 10 years now for me and I still think of him and hope he is well.  But that doesn't mean you can expect a good relationship from here on out.  It's over.  Let it be over and move on.  Don't call him, you'll end up regretting it big time.
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I understand that you’ve broken up with him, though I guess you can still be a friend...as in friend....especially when he needs help.\n\nPlace yourself in his shoes. He's just another person with emotions and currently is looking for your support and help. Do help him though clearly underline that your support will not go beyond what’s called for in a friendship.\n\nYou can also tell you current BF of your intentions just so that he doesn’t build any wrong notions in his mind about your relationship with your EX.\n\nTake care.
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I'd say if you two have been together for a year and she's STILL not over him, there are some major issues here.  It shouldn't take somebody that long to get over an ex, especially when they're suppossed to be with somebody else.  Confront her about it.  Tell her how much it hurts you that she's not over him, and that if she doesn't clean up her act...you will have to end the relationship.  To tell you the truth she doesn't seem very mature or stable, so you're probably better off without her anyway.  At the age of 29, you need somebody who is at your same maturity level and stage in life, and is ready to commit.
601349
I was only with my guy for a year!! After we broke up i started hanging out with alot of my friends and guys!! This might sound bad but maybe you should look for a distraction!!!\nIt helped me
636790
The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy,treat yourself well,stay away from your ex,and move on,my friend.Best wishes:)
1055733
I'm in the same boat honey. I'm trying to get over this guy who only wants to be my friend now.  And yes I want that, but every time I hang out with him I want to hug and kiss him like I used to, which wasn't too long ago. What my friends tell me, and what I'm now telling you, you need to break away from him for awhile. Try not to call him, as hard as that is, and just give your heart and head a break from him. And maybe in a couple weeks or months, or however long it takes you, you'll be able to hang out with him with no feelings other than friendship aimed at him. Also another good way of getting over him, is trying to date other people, even though they won't be him and you'll be comparing them all to him, it'll be a stepping stone, and eventually you'll meet that guy and not even think about your ex. Hope this makes sense and helps. Good luck.
865546
yeah my guy and i just had a fight..and I am so devasted..I love him soo much..but then again he is an as*hole...if you feel like you need time..then take time..but if you feel like you can move on with someone else then go out with friends and make new friends..usually after a break up..I like to take time for myself and get back to me...good luck\nps..if you still love him then call him and try to work things out
989721
it'll take time to get over someone. let time heal your wounds and go out and have fun with your friends. that always helps. if you have pics of her hanging on your wall,....take em down. put it in a box and just move on. you'll find a much better love as you move on and you may think back on this one day and think "what was i thinkning?".
878068
How to Get Over a Break Up\n\nWant to know how to get over a break up? Here are six secrets to help you get your life together and move on!\nDifficulty: Hard\nTime Required: Two Weeks to Three Months\n\nHere's How:\n\n1. Bond with other Singles.\n      At any given time, you probably have a mix of friends in loving relationships as well as those searching for love. Don't be afraid to look-up single friends you haven't seen or spoken to in awhile and make plans for Friday and Saturday night. You'll stay busy on the weekend and maybe even rekindle an old friendship.\n\n2. Start a Social Hobby.\n      If there is a hobby or activity you have been meaning to try for the first time, or take-up again, this is your chance. Focus on activities that allow you to meet new and interesting people. Examples might include a cooking class, sports league, or bridge club.\n\n3. Go Easy on the Next Person you Meet.\n      Beware of continuing unfinished business with the next person you meet. If you didn't have a chance to truly close the door on your last relationship, don't project your open issues on the next unsuspecting soul. See the new person as a clean slate and allow the relationship to unfold with no connections to your past.\n\n4. Don't Sling Shot your Ex.\n      It can be very tempting, particularly on lonely nights, to look up your ex or accept an invitation from your ex for a rekindle. The more you fall back on your old ways, the harder it will be to truly move on. Don't fall for the short term satisfaction of a night out or easy hook-up at the expense of stirring up all the hurt from the breakup.\n\n5. Apply What You've Learned.\n      Take out a journal and write down everything that went well versus what could have been better in your relationship. Be honest since you're the only one looking at the entry. What could you do better next time? What positive traits did your ex possess that you should look for in the next relationship, or maybe even incorporate into your own style?\n\n6. Talk About Something Else.\n      Everyone goes through a period of venting to their friends and family about what went wrong and how your ex deserves to go straight to prison. It's okay to do a little venting, but spare your inner circle from an endless tirade for months at a time. Commit to yourself that the next time you call a close friend, you'll focus exclusively on them. This will help you get out of your head
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Move on.. grow up. If you parted ways on a positive note, keep it that way. So when you "accidentally" meet them elsewhere someday, you can still say "HI" with both your heads up.\n\nStop keeping in touch... this will give them false hopes - unless you intend to get back together. Just move on with your respective lives with no hurt feelings.
22730
Your used to someone, used to having fun with them, used to loving them and used to just generally having them around.  When you get your heart broken, its unlikely you can remain friends with someone you've had such a deep understand with and thus its more then like that you've got to start from scratch.  Mainly, its the fear that you'll never have that again and never be happy again.  The best way to get over a break-up is to tell yourself that "she/he wasn't worth my time and that some other lucky person will be worth it in the future".