threesome after affair????
605886
That is pure selfish. He wants other women and you too. Been there before....Not something to try and build another relationship on , a threesome. If he truly loves you, he'll put her to the curb and come back to you, no matter what. If he's asking you this, and is separated from you now, then his intentions aren't to fix things, its to have his cake and eat it too. Its not fair to you, move on, find someone who won't use you to get his kicks like your current hubby....GL;)
92179
Yes, if not a physical affair, then an emotional one.  When a married man is sharing his time w/a single woman, he is sharing intimacies with her that should be reserved for his wife.
364746
why dont you and your wife do threesomes? that way you are both involved. it might strengthen your marriage. \nif you dont want to strengthen it and want to be with others alone...why do you even want to be married???
1042031
Threesome. or many more. Be careful if you don't like that way.
1109525
First of all unless anyone has walked in your shoes they should not be judging you.  I am going through the same thing right now.  It has not been easy for me.  This person is a friend of mine and my husbands, he is also married.  We were chatting then one thing lead to another, the chat turned sexual and from there I formed an emotional bond with this man. Nothing has happend physically but  it has totally messed up my emotions, I feel like I am a mess since this has happend.  I have a great husband, and I am no longer communicating with our friend, but honestly I always think about him and miss him, why I don't know but it has been real hard.  This is one door I wish I never would have opened.  I don't know your details but the one thing I can tell you is to ask yourself what led you to do this, I had to do the same and I am in counseling right now.  Believe me I did not expect this hardship when I first started dabbling in this, it seemed harmless and kind of fun, but like they say when you play with fire, you will get burned and that I did.
463042
Well sounds like you need to decide for certain which is more important....your sexual fantasies or your relationship with your wife.It can't be healthy to  have 3 in a relationship where there should only be 2. And you should talk to your wife about this too. Maybe it's time to get rid of the 3rd party. Also it would make me feel strange and not so loved to know that my man wants me to be with another man. Either way sounds like it's time to re-evaluate your situation. and sets your priorities in order.
1115002
Affairs are exactly what they sound like, they are affairs.  Very rarely do they turn out to be anyhting other than flings.  If both parties are signing up for the very same thing, and they both know what they expect from eachother, then no harm done.
865770
another affair?!?!?! gurl u should dump him. and u should ask him y he called u that. u should ask him if he is and if he says no be like kk. but if he calls u another gurls name totally be like we're through!!\n\nhope u make the right choice,
1019801
I kinda agree with you there .. getting an escort is expensive and slightly less graceful ... I suggest finding somebody over the Internet using a personal ad on a website like adultfriendfinder.com etc. \nBut I was wondering have you and your hot boyfriend ever tried MMF sex ... I mean I have experienced threesomes with my spouse both FFM and MMF type ... my conclusion is that MMF threesome is somehow more fun for all specially my spouse, she enjoys it as much as I do .... as for the other M , he is my friend , very trust worthy, clean, attractive looking and great in bed...  since we all know each other very well ... no embarrassments, no money involved, secret is well kept and everybody gets fulfilled (literally).\nIn the FFM scenario I found my spouse being left slightly unsatisfied ... as if there was too much responsibility on my shoulder to satisfy the two.. none was bisexual ... so i guess I see it as slightly hyped ...\nBut if you find threesome with another chick irresistible then go ahead ... talk to a female friend of yours she might wanna join the two of you .. that is the safest, steadiest and cheapest method of fulfilling your threesome fantasy regularly ... have fun!!!
1040484
First sir I am no bible thumper, but threesomes with your partner/girlfriend/wife is adultery and wrong. Next, from what you said in here you already know your answer. No she is not ready. listen to yourself and your heart. They typically will not lead you astray if you truly listen to them. I would suggest you continue to tell her no. If you are not monogamously commited to here, I suggest you look to see why you are not, and or why she is not to you. Once you committ to each other and stop thinking and or playing around your relationship can grow and be more fulfilling. If you can't do this, than you have no business being in a relationship with her, for you haven't found complete happiness.
820814
You are playing with fire! The only way a threesome works is if no one has feelings for anyone else involved. Jealousy always ruins it and most couples break-up.
1074620
i was in this very situation for the last two month, The man left me for another woman and while he was gone he was calling me the whole time and asking me if he could come home. He just went with the other girl for the sex. We had been in a relationship for nine years and have two children together. He eventually left the other girl and is now back with me and we are married now for the last week. Don't get involved with a man who is on the rebound it wont work. I told the other girl he was still seeing me but she didn't believe me.
20887
Ask her if she would feel more comfortable having a 3rd GUY there, instead of your fantasy of having another woman.  She just might say yes!
85403
A number of inputs are available to choose from, in fact much has been said so far.\n\nI would like to add that encounters like this entail a very high emotional baggage and usually get twisted in attachments that none of the parties foresee. The point here is whether you or the incumbant will be able to live with the additional baggage or you foresee a possibility of a problem developing. In either cases it will leave an indelible impact on the lives of all involved.\n\nOther than that, what the hell go for it, at least if you do not end up liking the arrangement you could move on and there will be no holds barred for you to commit later.
410997
Forget it. Surprise him by NOT doing a threesome. He doesn't care one way or the other. So why would you even consider it??
818179
Three is nothing wrong with a little kinky foreplay.  I do what my husband asks, and he likewise, to keep our marriage exciting.  I think you should tell your wife, ask her to play along with you - what have you got to lose?  If she loves you, she wants you to be happy in bed.  Thats the key to keeping yourself from asking the question  "SHould I cheat on my wife?"
489085
nope.....don't do it, specially if she is a good friend, you can f*** up your friendship, if she wants a threesome let her look somewhere else, so you won't have anything to do with her and her husband in the future, when they'll star having  problems because of this. don't do it.