Is it possible to sleep with a friend of the opposite sex without having/lusting for sex.?
598982
To be honest, the more you sleep with friends of the opposite sex and have thoughts of lust and a thirst for having sex, chances are that either you're gonna go mental or you're gonna show your sexual desires little by little. Eventually when you sleep with women, your curiousity grows. Maybe first you might  start resting your hand on her hips, or just having your whole body touching hers and so on. So by that time, you're gonna be touching her and/or she's gonna be touching you. Before you know it, those sexual thoughts turns into action. Of course we all want friendship to be the base of a relationship but with all due respect sleeping with your female friend is just jumping the gun too soon. But I can be wrong because I don't know if you have a rock solid friendship going or not. But it's not possible to actually sleep with a female friend "forever" without having sexual desires and or having sex.
1036459
Yes, we all can be in love with many aspects of a person and not lust for them...it is an unsatisfying affair, at best. Your "friend" is looking for someone to take care of him, not a whole lot more. Relationships are built on less, I suppose. Not for me, not my diea of an affair...to each his own.
581841
YES IT'S POSSIBLE AND IT'S OUT OF MY OWN EXPERIENCE.IF U R A TRUE LOVER U WILL B ABLE TO SATISFY URSELF 4 THAT,PROVIDED U CAN SATISFY URSELF THAT THE GIRL WAS NOT AS NICE AS U THOUGHT OF HER.I LOVED A GIRL MALVIKA WHOM I THOUGHT TO B A VERY NICE,INNOCENT & INTROVERT GIRL.BUT SHE WAS INVOLVED IN SEX WITH A CLASSMATE OF MINE(CLASS 12).IT TOOK ME TIME TO BEAR THE SHOCK BUT IWAS ABLE TO COME OUT OF IT.IF U WANNA KNOW MORE ABOUT THIS OR U FIND PROBLEM INPUSHING HER OUT U CAN EMAIL ME.
135634
If your intent is simply to arouse jealousy in another person (or some other means to an end), I don't see how that would be considered being bi-sexual.  Of course, that is simply a label anyway, and how helpful of one is it?
1160202
I realy do think that Men and Woman can be close even Very close friends, with out there being sex.\n\nI have many Female friends, and the thought has nether entered my mind that there could (nor would want) there to be anythink more.\n\nIt is a VERY sad world we live in if Men and Woman were only close for sex! \n\nIt mattres not about being gay or even ugly, All poeple can be friends man and woman, woman and woman, man and man, what dose it matter.\n\nYour friend and many others out there are just very closed minded, and are just going along with what we are told and not what thay them self think.
538191
I've done this, did it a couple of times, actually... Never worked.\n\nI did have one friend who kept doing it to one of her ex's. However, she would constantly sleep with him again, and then assume the relationship was back on. Don't get me wrong, he's a good guy, but he's not going to turn down sex, especially since he didn't know what was going on through her head. If he did, he never would have slept with her. \n\nNow, if you're not in communication with the ex, and you try this, keep in mind that you may not like what you see. That happened to me, and I'm not proud to say that I crawled into a bottle immediately afterwards. \n\nBut hey, it can be interesting, so why not try it! Just bring along a friend to share in your joy or pain. And let them drive.
446881
I have had mostly guy friend all my life...so...I think it can happen.  I don't know if they have thought about having sex with me, but none of them have tried anyway...\n:)
1055277
you've been friends for more than 8 yrs. If he's gay he would have sex with you already!! Sometimes there's a fine line being good friend and being in a relationship. Perhaps he doesn't even know how to express his friendship towards you. He wants to be grateful to you yet do not want to mislead you into thinking he wanted a relationship cause he is not gay. We are brought up with heterosexual mentality and define male as musculine and female as feminine. It confuse the heck out of straight guys how to handle their frienship with their gay men's friend. Especially those who have close frienship. I believe some of them do cross the line of sex. Which would make the situation worse. He is appreciative of your frienship and I bet he knows you are into him. In his mind he's probably thinking should he sleep with you to show his appreciation and betray his own sexuality? As for you I would not be so quick to invest that much emotion into that direction. Yes, I know it's very difficult and very tempting. Ultimately you have to protect yourself from heartbreak and more important to preserve your friendship with him. One of this days he's gonna fall hard for a girl and you gonna need to tear yourself off him emotionally.
874424
She could be...or it could just be a friendly way of showing support.\nMen and women can be touchy-feely without having sex.
341452
No not at all, I went through this same thing a couple of years ago a male frined and I both came outta long, serious relationships about the same time and were feeling quite down and bruised by the whole thing and ended up being together alot of the time talking about it and of course one thing led to another and we eventually slept together and it just became a habit (I know that sounds awful!!) but neither of us could face another relationship at that time and we aren't into one night stands so we'd just hook up have the best laugh and then enjoy great sex before saying goodbye in the morning with no pressure it was ideal, it went on for about two yeras until we both just met people we wanted to be with and then it fizzled out but we're still the best of friends now (purely platonic!!) so it worked out fine.  The only thing I'd watch out for is that you both understand the situation if one person has feelings that the other dosen't have then it will cause problems and you shouldn't do it but if you both know it's just sex cos you have needs then go for it.  Good Luck!!
539939
The worst thing yo could do is sleep with a guy that you want to keep as a friend. Once you sleep with us its no turning back to friendship.
15207
One of my friends did it, and she says she didn't make it happen, it just did.  If you show intrest towards a relation ship, above friends with benefits, and she responds, it could turn out to your advantage.  Your not going to make it happen, it's just going to or not, all you can do is show her it's something you want!
1063616
of course you can! my best friend and I hung out for 6 months, what made him my best friend he never asked for sex .And we always had the best time together ! we end up getting married ..stayed married for 17 yrs..\n\n\nBasilche, good to know there are still good guy out there !
95053
Yes it is possible.\n\nHappiness is not something you need to recieve from someone else..true happiness comes from within ourselves.\n\nSharing that happiness and much more with  another person is a choice but not a necessity.
135352
It's possible, just most people don't have the mental capacity for it. If you don't have the mental capacity for it, you're going to think it's not possible. A good friend of mine has two girlfriends he loves beyond physical/sexual attraction, and they know and hang out with each other.
709462
I think he wants the best of both worlds, a really good friend and a shag when he feels like it. Think how you feel about him, do you love him as a partner or just a friend. Once you have made your mind up tell him how you feel. If you only love him as a friend tell him and stop sleeping with him as you will never meet someone and so would he not.
747805
The same thing you would do with a normal friend except there is sex involved