i am in love with my wife, but we are about to get a divorce. I am in love with another woman too. What to do?
610752
Grow up and be a man.
103517
Who do you want?.. Can't have both, well you can, but that will either be dishonest to your marriage, or you would have to have 2 very friendly ladies that are willing to share.. (not likely to happen since everyone wants that one person for their own.)\n\nIf you are truely commited to your marriage and want it to be forever you need to put space between you and the friend.. Some genious in yahoo wrote "If The Grass Looks Greener On The Other Side Of The Fence.. Move Away From The Fence".. and thats logic for you to follow.\n\nHowever, if you are just saying you love your wife, because you are supposed to say those things, and really want to be with this other person, do it respectfully and get a divorce before making any attempt to pusue the relationship.\n\nIn marriage you have signed a contract with that person to be only with them in front of God and all laws governing marriage... you better really sort this out before leaving because ending this contract of love is unforgivable, and most time irreversable.
945268
sit down with your girl friend and explain that your ex wife has realized that she still has feelings for you although you do not have feelings for her any longer... explain that you do not want to cause your exwife any more pain than she has all ready caused herself... tell her that you would respect her feelings in the same situation... ask her to be patient for a while longer\n\nyour girl friend is probably still very unsure of herself in this relationship even though you co habitate... do your best to re assure her of your affections\n\nif this problem persists you might also try sitting down with your ex wife and explaining that your girl friend is not happy with the situation and ask her if she will consent to one meeting... for a few minutes only\n\nyou are being pulled in two different directions by the women in your life... you seem to be handling the situation well...  trying to be considerate of both women's feelings... in this case one of your ladies will have to give... or you will have to take matters into your own hands and force one of them to back down... but be very careful if you choose to do that... you may cause hard feelings in someone
850842
It will come between you and it already has. Its good that she is being upfront but you need to tell her that its actually not ok with you and for those exact reasons that you stated, emotions and feelings become involved. From my perspective, its so hard to seperate sex from feelings and emotion and if she is married to you she cannot emotionally invest in another relationship, whether thats with another man or another woman.......unless you want to get divorced?\nYou need to be more honest with your feelings to her about this and let her know that you are uncomfortable with it.
44876
I would suggest you don't hurt your wife that way and come between two sisters. Will you really be able to live with yourself knowing that you came between two sisters. Obviously if you love the sister or anyone else, you should be asking for a divorce, but DO NOT tell your wife you are in love with her sister, dude.................
287437
She is over 18, loves another guy, and doesnt love you?\nKiss your marriage goodbye, sweety\n\nAnd you should accept it. She doesn't love you. You need to find a woman who will love you always.
820054
No insult here, but your runner up in the great sensual game of her life.  Of ALL the people she has met... YOUR SECOND.  The other woman ... SHE'S FIRST.  If the other woman didn't exist, you two would be romping around in sensual glee... but, my dear, you are Al Gore to her G.W.Bush.  Painful as it may be your 49% to her 51%.  If you can deal with that and WAIT until it MAY POSSIBLY SOME DAY GO BAD, then you are pathetic and don't have self esteem, because while she is deep down on the other girl, your going to be all alone eating bon bons and ben and jerries just waiting for your turn to taste her.  FIND SOMEONE THAT'LL MAKE YOU NUMERO UNO.  Don't settle for runner up in someone else's race. You want someone to say "You are the only person I have ever wanted to be with for my entire life."  Instead your waiting for "Now that the other girl is gone, hey lets have fun."  Grow some self worth, grow some balls, and find YOUR mate.  Go right now, find someone else.
563234
Yes, you are right! If he loves you as much as he says he does then he must sort out his own problems with his wife. If they decide a divorce is the best way then that's on them. Question is do you really love him? If you both are just friends (nothing sexual) then that's okay. It may seem or feel questionable but as long as you both are friends it's okay. If you do really and truly love him my dear I would tell him how you feel. If he feels the same way about you then he must divorce her before he moves on with you. Sounds as if you are stuck in the middle here. That's no fun! Regardless, as friends, stand behind him in whatever he chooses to do. Good Luck!
896734
You are legally married to him.He can not legally be in another relationship with any other woman until the divorce is final.He can spend time in jail for that.
322429
I feel for you...\nIf she is marrying someone else then there's nothin you can do except to let go of your guilt feelings and your love for her.  You don't have a choice but to move on or be miserable for the rest of your life.
425721
Sounds like trouble. Find away to fall in love again with the one you are married to.Its worth the effort, isn't it?
36047
If you love your wife the way you should, you wouldn't want this. Why would you want to make love with another woman or watch you wife make love to another woman. I asked my husband whats your ultimate fantasy, I expected it to be this and when he told me what it was I questioned him on why it wasnt this threesome thing... he said I love you and you are mine I want no one else and I want no one else to have or experience you, why would I want to see anyone else with you in that way loving you the way I do." These were his exact words. He is a great Man and only a man could feel that way. I think you need to grow up there are other ways to put a spark in your marriage than to bring in another woman or man. As for me, I will fulfill the fantasy he asked for and thank my God above that it wasnt one like this.
118597
find out why ur lover is leaving u sit her down and talk to her try to figure out the problem.\nthe woman who wants to marry u ask why she wants to marry u when she knows that u are in love with another woman.\nmake sure the other woman knows u want to be with ur lover and not her.\nbut if u need to choose who u want a let the other girl go don't lead her on
1098499
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....
100142
That's something between you and your wife.Not, for others to have a choice on.Talk to her and see for yourself face to face to the one you married.
1148228
If your wife left you already, what are you waiting for? Don't miss out on what could be for what isn't. You don't have to tell your wife nothing about this lady you're interested in. You stated she left you. You can file divorce probably without grounds since you've been separated already. If you must tell your wife anything at this point in time, it could just simply be, we need to move on. Don't let life pass you by on this one.
319076
why did you get married to her if you are getting a divorce four months later? that is just silly! i don't understand what the problem is or was. can you explain more? you should love your wife no matter what. and at least you have had sex more than i have and i have been married six months.we are still very happy and plan to keep it that way. you don't have to have sex to be happy. that is not all marriage is about.