PLEASE HELP. My husband wants to go in the national guards.?
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What an honor to be married to a man who wants to continue to serve and protect his Country.  Being able to obtain higher eduction during or after his term of enlistment is one of the least benefits we can offer the protectors of our freedom and Country.\n\nYou say you are newlyweds; and, by your own admission, he didn't re-up in the Army because *you* didn't like it.  So, it leads me to believe that you "knew what the job was when you took it."  Perhaps you need to understand that maybe he feels called to do it; that being a protector of his Country is something he sees as his duty.\n\nYou cannot marry a man and hope to change him.  No one should marry with the hopes of changing the other.  If you fell in love with him while he was military, then a huge part of the person you fell in love with was how he believed in himself as a military man.\n\nSounds to me like he tried ~ for your sake.  And now it's time for you to stop acting like a spoiled, entitled princess who makes all the decisions in the family.  Your husband is an adult and can make his decisions independently of you.  At least he consulted with you and tried his best to put all your fears to rest.\n\nShould you threaten to leave him if he does this, it's quite likely he'd be better off with out you.  You come across as a very stifling person; a dream killer, so to speak.  There are a LOT of women out there who would likely burst with pride to have a husband like that.\n\nStand proudly by his side with your head held high and give him all the support you would expect him to give you in any important decision you were making.  If you can't do that, then give the man a break.  You've probably about worn him out by now with shrewish behaviors.\n\nVery, very sad.
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I am not married but have been in the military.  Figure out where he will be stationed and look for schools in the area that has your major.  You may also consider if he is how often he is likely to transfer again.  Don;t for forget about financial aid.  Once your married and dpending on his rank you may only be eligible for loans.  Well, good luck on your endeavor. Congrads
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Crap!  I love these answers.\n\nHe is National Guard.  After AIT, he will return home.  He will be required to do his one weekend a month, and his two weeks a year (normally in the summer).\n\nIF his unit is activated, then he will be required to do the mission.  If the unit is activated to go to Iraq or Afganistan, then that is where he will go.  If his unit is activated to perform a mission for the state, then that is what he will do.\n\nIn any case, he will return home after AIT.  You need to find out from him THEN if his unit is to be activated.
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Well, i am married (mil to mil) and if he gets married after basic training he might be a hold over, waiting for them to process all his paper before he heads to his A School. So i would tell him he might want to do it now and let the recruter do the paper filing and whatever else he needs to do. That is the recruters job, to do paper work or whatever needs to be done for your son to work for uncle sam. Dont let the recruter be lazy if he is acting lazy, it's a military thing. LOL If he gets married before boot camp then everythig will fall into place and him and his wife can be together as soon as he gets out of A School and he will have nothing to worry about other than finding a house. If you need anything feel free to e-mail me   tink41503@yahoo.com
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United States Air Force  Master Sergeant  retired with 22 years active duty.  OK that's my pedigree.  And here's the answer to your question.\n\nYour son will be subject to being put in harms way.  That is the military.  We are there to stand between the American People and danger.  It is a noble profession and most men and women who wear the uniform will agree.  Very few civilian professions are equal to the experiences of a typical military man.  I was responsible for millions of dollars worth of aircraft and the safety of their crews before I was 20 years old.  Try to realize that at IBM or Ford Motor Co.  It simply won't happen.  So, yes it is worth it, but if and only if he does it for the right reason.\n\nIf your son is joining because he is an American, a patriot proud of his land and liberties and with a burning desire to do something to preserve that land then he is on the right track.  However, if he is enlisting to get money for college, thinks he wants to kill people, can't find a job, is sick and tired of being at home, wants to purge an arrest from his record or any of a dozen other reasons, it will be the hardest job he can imagine and he will hate every minute of it.\n\nThe purpose of the US military is to enforce our foreign policy.  Since the President is the only person authorized to make foreign policy your son will not be asked, he will be told what must be done.  That means whether on not he agrees with it.  He will not be allowed to pick and choose the orders he will obey.  I served under Lyndon Johnson, the worst micromanager this world has seen for centuries.  I served under Jimmy Carter, a fine moral man who was totally incompetent.  He was simply in over his head.  But it made no difference, while I didn't like either of them, I respected and obeyed both of them.\n\nMy wife and I have four children.  When my youngest daughter considered the military she came to me.  I was blunt with her as I am with you.  I told her that I would support any decision she made.  I told her I didn't want to hear her complain because she didn't get the job she wanted or that it was hard for a woman or she didn't want to go over seas.   The only absolute is the President.  When the Boss calls for help the military helps.  So if the President of the United States picks up the phone and dials 911 I expected her to answer, and you should expect the same of your son.\n\nI guess I was too blunt because she opted not to enlist.  A wise move for her, she wasn't acting for the right reason.\n\nI can be contacted through my profile.  Drop a line if I can be of any further use.  And Good Luck to your son.
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Being a Drill Sgt, is no picnic.  They work long long hours and get no days off.  They live with these men and women.  I know it has to be hard on you being a spouse.  I've been in the military and was married to a military man and it's not easy.  There is a high divorce rate in the military and with Drill Sgt.  You sound like you are very grounded and very supportive of your husband and should be commended.  One day he will be out of the service and you will have him all to yourself but in the mean time, support him and love him.  It sounds like you have a good man and remember he is doing a great service to his country.  So many people marry military people and don't understand that it's not a 9 to 5 job, and you have alerts, and you move out, and you have duty to pull and you don't get weekends off and you get deployed..As hard as this is for some people to understand but you serve your country.  I've always believed that before someone gets married to someone in the military they really need to have some kind of counseling and some understanding of what a service member has to do and respect that and support them.  I think things will be okay for you and your husband, you sound grounded and you are aware that what he is doing is not easy for him either.  Good Luck...
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Is he drawing his GI Bill?  If not he should be!\n\nThis is the link to a site with alot of information on Illinois National Guard and Vetrans.  There is alot of information to look through about the benefits and laws in the state.\nhttp://www.operationhomefront.org/\n\n\nIf he is looking for a job, this may help\nhttp://www.militaryhire.com/
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Feeling trapped is a common reason for re-enlistment. But that's also pretty much a commitment to be a lifer. You've got a family to support.  Is his carreer going well?  If he's got something that will hold him back (NJP's, weight/physical problems) from picking up Staff with in the 12 year time frame, do you want to invest that much time in the military only to be denied reinlistment down the road?  Does he have job skills that can help him in the civilian world?  It's not as scary as it seems, but when you are used to guaranteed pay and health benefits it's intimidating.  This is something you two need to decide for yourselves, since you know your situation better than any of us.  But don't be afraid of change, if you decide to get out.  And if you stay in, just make sure your career is on the right track and you'll keep moving up.
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All Active, Guard and Reserve services implemented an "Up or Out" policy in the 70's. If your friend's husband is in the Nat Guard, he has to progress in rank. Active soldiers have a shorter period given to do this, Guard and Reserve soldiers are allowed a longer period between promotions, primarily because their training periods are spaced out by weekends, not full time. Answer 2 is right about slots and moving to new units where slots may be open. As to the question, Is he Active Duty, not officially. As an NG soldier he can be "Federalized", meaning that he or his unit are placed under the control of an active forces unit. His home state no longer pays his salary, the federal gov't pays it and determines where he is assigned or shipped out to. Depending on his age, he can ask to be considered for Full-Time guard positions, if he has a skill needed in a full-time position (i.e. Admin or Maintenance or Training). There are hundreds of full time NG and Reserve soldiers needed to keep the NG and Reserve units running when the rest of the unit personel are doing their civilian jobs.
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I am currently a military spouse and if I could do it all over again I would have told my husband to just get a job in his major and not the Army.  The Army takes care of us, they have some great benefits probably the best in the world.  But none of that is worth risking your life for.  I'm not anti-Army, I'm just living the life supporting my husband.  We have a 3 year old, and he just came back from a deployment in Dec and possibly will be leaving again within a month.  Imagine a 3-year old asking for his daddy everyday while he is fighting in a senseless "war".  If you can't, it's pure hell.  I don't recommend military life to anyone unless you are single and times are REALLY hard for you financially.  There are alot of sacrifices you have to make in a military environment.  I have some research for you, go and find out the divorce rate for military servicemen, its beyond the means of high.  I think I just told you the reason why!!
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I am not a soldier...anymore.  I was active duty army for 2 1/2 years and also did a tour in Iraq.  I am now a soldier's wife.  My husband just left a week ago.  I know what you are going through.  You need to understand though that when he says he doesn't want you to worry...that's the truth.  I told my husband before he left that I don't want to know if he gets fired upon, has to shoot anyone, etc.  I would rather just stay in a lovely state called denial. LOL  When I was in Iraq I made that mistake of telling my mom when I was shot upon...I never told her about another incident.  I didn't want her to worry. (Keep in mind...is was there in the beginning)  Give him some time...hopefully he will start having some stories that he cares to share soon.  I am am yahoo messenger quite a bit...my email address is in my profile.  Keep your head up...good luck!
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ok first of all, no once he is in he won't be taking the ASVAB again.  \n2. If he is scoring in the 20's he is gonna have alot of limitations on his career of choice in the military.  If he doesn't wanna be in the infantry then the last thing he should do is to choose the infantry just to get into the military hoping to swithch later.. IT WILL NOT HAPPEN!  Reclassing MOS's once your in the military is rather hard.  You have to be approved by your CO and a slot in school must be open for you.. and a slot in a unit too.  Just do not do this!\n3. IF HE DOESN'T WANT TO GO OVERSEES TO WAR THEN DON'T BE IN THE MILITARY. FLAT OUT IT'S THAT SIMPLE.  HE WILL HAVE ABSOLUTLY NO CHOICE AS TO WHERE HE WILL BE DEPLOYED.  \n4. Tell him to wait 6 months and take the ASVAB again.  Going in with that kind of score is absolutly awful.  Personally I have never met anyone who has scored below a 50.  For the record I was in the Army for 6 years and scored a 98 on my asvab.  Just tell him to keep taking it if that's what he really wants.  I would suggest that he practices and studys for it beforehand.  He knows what to expect now and he should be able to do better than a 29.
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I read that your hubby is in NC til June 2nd.  I take it he is at training down there in J-ville.  When he gets permanent orders (like any thing is permanant?!!), Go visit with him.  Go to the Housing Office.  His command should direct him their as part of his check in being how he is married.  If not, for the Navy it is either part of FISC (Fleet Industrial Supply Center) or FFSC (Fleet and Family Service Center).  The Marine Corp is part of the Navy, so the structure is similar in some ways. \n\nAnyways, You can get off-base housing and he should get extra money to pay for it.  You can also do on-base housing if it is available.  You don't pay for regular on-base housing, but some places have PPV (Private something Venture) which are homes that are subleased to the GOV for housing (money comes out of your paycheck like with off base housing that you sign for through the housing ofice).  Many bases are getting rid of on-base housing because it is getting really expensive to upkeep all those old buildings now.  \n\nAlso, if you have to move, most states have a law that allows military to get out of a lease if they are moving atleast X number of miles away under permanent orders.  Check into the state laws if you think you may ever have to break a lease. \n\nMake sure you are comfortable with the area you intend to move into.  Many bases have some bad areas around them (thugs think the service members are rich!!)  Talk to people at your hubby's command, the housing ofice, at the laundry matt, etc.  They will tell you where not to move.  Go to the area you think you will be interested in at different times of the day to include evening and late night-to see what really goes on there.  Go on a week night and a weekend night, too.  You can also pretend to want to buy a house-realators are good at knowing where not to go (i nobody else will help).  \n\nYou have like 10 or 14 days to live in a hotel for reimbursement (on your husband's order if you are a dependent).  His command may allow him 10 days of free leave for house hunting also.  Make sure he asks or it.  If he's new to the service, they most likely won't offer it to him. Good luck!
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I would try contacting Mike Huckabee, at the governor's mansion. He has the authority to call in the National Guard, and I think he has some say over the state police. Just try information and ask for help.
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well my husband has been in for 4 years and loves it! (he's 22) he's been all over the world, Malaysia, russia, turkey, afganistan, kergistan, guam, diego garcia, thailand, hawaii, the longest he's been deployed was for 4 months, if your single and in the Air Force your gonna have a GREAT time, my husband might have to go to iraq but stays on base, he's a mechanic for the C-17's (huge plane) he loves it (he's really good with that kind of stuff) but when you sign up just make sure YOU pick your job DON't let the Air Force pick it for you and make sure its written in your contract, lets say you wanted to be a nurse so you tell the recruiter you want to work in a hospital well you have to remember that even hospitals need janitors and you could be one for 4 years, just make sure you specific with your job, my husband is going to school too for computer engineering and the Air Force pays for everything but his books (not a bad deal) if you want to travel all over the world be a flying crew chief, you'll go everywhere! my husband is taking classes to be one now and will be making a ton of money while he flies! (thats why many guys and girls do it) we live in Charleston SC and haven't been stationed anywhere else yet (by choice) we will move in a couple of years out of country just for the experience! good luck!
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Contact the recruiter for the Guard in your state.  It is up to the state to determine if they will accept you for service with the Guard.
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My goodnes,it sounds like he working himself to death there.But sometimes that's what you have to do to help your family.I gather that his father isn't around?It's hard sometimes for guys in this situation.I'm sure he loves you and I'm sure he also loves his family.I could imagine that it's hard for you being away from him and I totally understand that(husbands in the Army),but you also have to make sure that you finish your schooling and take care of yourself too.Is he getting any other help with the finances?That sure is a big job taking care of four people and sounds like the pay is not that good,but then again what job does pay good these days for us regular folks?You should be supportive though even though I know it's hard for you.Is there any way that you can transfer to a school where he is at?Or is that not possible?If he is having issues from going to Iraq,maybe he should try to get some counseling,if he would ever find the time.There are just too many soldiers that come back from there that don't seek any kind of help and then one day it just sneaks up on them and that is a whole other story.I hope for your sake and his that he will exercise those options.And no,love shouldn't be that hard but as stupid as it sounds it will make your love stronger between each other.Good Luck to ya and I hope it all works out.