my boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years now, sex has got practically Non-Existent?
606394
maybe u need 2 give ur sex life a shove. Try sumthing new like new positions. find sumwer els 2 do it instead of on d bed (do it in d car, u'll enjoy it). Ask ur guy if he wants u to try sumthing new d way he likes. Maybe a bit of change is all you need
1019483
Some times a relationship just isn't made for the long haul.  I think it sounds like you two have had a good run but the relationship has reached its end point.  Maybe it is time to end this so that both of you can move forward with your lives.  If you keep going like this eventually you are going to end up hating each other and you are both going to miss out on other opportunities in life.
535313
are you saying he's been cheating on his girlfriend with you for four years?\n\nif he hasn't told her/left her by now, he never will, and he's probably just using both of you for sex.\n\ndump him and find a real man.
1116539
Sounds like you feel he doesn't love you and just using you for sex.  You may have that feeling because he is.  If you feel that way you can't be enjoying your time with him , so do something that you can get into with him. Just spend some time together going out to diner or movies you may need some quality time together and rekindle your relationship.
210022
Are you scared of the intimacy? Have you always had difficulty? Or are you trying too hard to be aroused? Visualize a fantasy with him, and set it up. Talk to him. Don't make him guess at what's going on. He loves you, if he didn't he wouldn't have married you. Intimacy involves the mind, body, soul and heart, let him romance every facet, taking his time. Communicate. Good luck and best wishes for you both.
21056
Actually - there are many ways to have a great sex life. Spice things up. Never get in a routine. If you do the same things time after time - it becomes dull. Try new places - new postions - go out and buy gels;creams;masks;whips; just things in general that you think would turn your partner on. if you have any further questions pretaning to this - please let me know. I have been with my boyfriend (fiance) for 8 years now - we have a wonderful sex life!
620665
What you're doing is correct...  Marriage before sex.  It has been 4 years with this man...  If you are ready for marriage, I would sit down with him and ask him what and where this relationship is going..  \n\nIf both of you love each other, I don't see what you are waiting for....\n\nGod Bless!
176691
I presume you dont like to have sex? But you both are in Love? Am I right?\n\nThen you need to see a Shrink (doc). \n\nYou need to know that the guy obviously cannot live with you knowing that there is no sex between you both. So do him a favour and find out why u dont like sex... \n\nIm sure you will find a solution to this and your love life will be more interesting and rewarding...\n\n.:Fishie:.
523369
That is awesome. U should be happy it is totally normal. most couples eventually lose interest in sex but im so happy that it doesnt to everyone that gives me hope. I have only been married almost 2 years and i can only hope we are like u when we have been married 15 years
889377
Relationships have various stages. You're probably in the comfortable stage now, and sex isn't the most important thing anymore. Also, one's sex drive has ups and downs (so to speak). I wouldn't worry unless it is causing stress on your relationship. \n\nYou could always do something to spice it up a bit. Sometimes it does get mundane. That doesn't mean it's bad ... just not mind-blowing sex like it is at the beginning.
172038
you guys have been together for four years.  im sure that you can talk to him. you need to find out what's happening with him.
984904
Yes and no. Many things can happen in 4 years but if you two love eachother that much to wait then go ahead. you only live one life
612530
Try some new things. She is probably just bored. It is easy to get into a rut of doing the same things when you have been with someone for a long time. Having lived through this situation, it is vital that you talk openly about this, and maybe seek some professional advice before it is too late. Especially if your sex life is a proxy for some other issue. If some other part of your relationship is not doing well it can show-up here. Also keep in mind that other things like stress, medical conditions, and oral birth-control pills can have a deliterious affect on one's desire.
514194
People might just have different sex drives.\n\nI have two questions for you.\n1. Do you love him?\n2. How important is sex to you?\n\nAnswer these two questions and you might be able to figure out what you need to do.
481208
practice.  try things for yourself.  your body may have changed over the years.  have your partner do different things or do them yourself.  don't give up.
541256
I think some people get to a point in a relationship that they aren't worried about sex, they're close enough without having so much of that type of bonding. That's one possibility.\nAnother could be, sorry if I hurt your feelings, that she isn't attracted to you anymore, or she could be tired of the "same ol' thing". Do you guys spice it up in bed, or is it the same old missionary position. \nMy boyfriend and I had this problem, we brought toys in the bedroom, and its never been as good as it is now.\nJust ask her, I can keep giving o you ideas about what could be wrong, but I don't know what going on in her head, and I'm only getting one side of the story. Just talk to her, if you know or have a feeling that it might be she tired of the same thing, ask her about trying some new things
1057272
i have had a boyfriend for two years now and were both 18 and we decided to not have sex because we both feels its very pointless. we just have too much oral sex instead!! ^_^