why does my 15 yr old daughter have to be such a "Drama Queen" ?
606007
Because she is 15 years old going on 30!\nWait til she experience things like LIFE and then she will know what real drama is.\nAnd you will be there to say, 'I told you so.'\nHaving her teeth pulled out is not the end of the world. If anything, that will be the least of her problems.
522886
Teenage girls do it everyday by acting like their stupid when they really aren't. Acting like they don't get the punchline of a joke just so everyone will pay attention to them. It's really annoying when my daughter does this just to get a laugh out of someone. Just today she acted as if she didn't know the golf cart took gas. She knew good and well that it did!!!
866909
Kids can be so confusing and frustrating at times! I have a 9 yr old daughter, and understand what you mean. I think she is just testing the boundaries, and wants you to be consistent. It's hard, and it's also hard not to give in to them just to keep the peace. But it's very necessary not to let her think she's the queen! I think most of us acted the same way as kids, and now our kids are doing the same things to us. Plus, when they see some of their friends/peers getting more than them, it's hard. I try to use that as a lesson as 'life isn't always fair' - she hates that talk! But it's important to talk to your daughter. Share with her your thoughts and feelings, and allow her to share hers. Maybe these links will help a bit:\nhttp://www.raisingkids.co.uk/9_13/pre_htp03.asp\nhttp://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=388910\nBest of luck, and hold strong! That's what she needs most - consistency and love from you.
677234
Most of the girls and women I know who act like that do it  because they were raised in a family that consisted mostly of boys and men. They reflect their brothers and Dad's sense of humor and ways of socializing. Sometimes they are quite the tom boys. Why don't you try to smooth some of her rough edges down? Invite her home with you and get your family in on the act. They can show her a different way of behaving. She must be a good-hearted girl if she went out of her way to entertain you and make you feel comfortable (in her eyes) while she showed you around your school. Maybe her teachers were hoping your style would rub off on her a little and make life easier for her. With a little effort you might find that you have a true friend who will be loyal for life. Someday you might find yourself laughing about all this.
203461
I am guessing that you are a 7th grade teacher.  And, I would further venture that you are fairly new in your profession.  Thirteen year old girls are quite prone to their emotions, things can seem rather drastic to them.  Is there a chance that what she is telling you is true? Definitely.  Not all abused/neglected kids are unkempt and come from families would fit a particular stereotype.  That is HER reality right now.  Next time you see her, it could be different.  Re read what you wrote in the further details:  "I do not know how to deal with this situation...."  Stay within your scope.  Do what you do best, teach.  Hand the emotional issues off to the people who are trained in these issues.  \n\nRefer her to a Guidance Counselor AND continue to listen.  Discuss any new information she gives you with her Counselor.  I think it may be wise for YOU to ask the Guidance Counselor how you might stay more objective when these sort of things are brought to your attention.
888772
Be mature and adult about it. Confront her again and tell her that u don't appreciate the made up drama and that u don't need that in your life and ignore her until you have to deal with her-then just do what you gotta do with her and roll on. I wouldn't even hold much of a convo with her unless if I had 2.
975846
Usually 15 year old girls do that. She might need some maturity lessons.   She likes him wants and is feeling him out for a reaction.
1084603
I think he is a piece of crap and you daughter has gotten herself into a bad situation.  Unfortunately she is old enough that she can make her own dumb decisions, but things like that make me wish I had a bag of common sense that I could use to beat the crap out of people who do dumb things.
1157410
She's 13 and probably naive.  I think her parents are just looking out for her safety and well-being.  I think both sides need to sit down and discuss this, rather and argue.
70746
I'm in 11th grade and I would say that is normal. I never really went through the stage of being annoyed by my parents and getting mad at them easily or wanting nothing to do with them, but I've also seen many many people who have. It may take a few years, but she will most likely be back to herself eventually.
355002
That's a tough one.  She's 13, so there's no way of saying you were doing something else that she'd believe.  You might have to bring her to some kind of family counseling place so she can let it all out.\n\nIn the meantime, please make sure your door is locked.\nHope your daughter gets over it soon.
984881
I've noticed there are a lot of rash judgements made on here. I think most people that do that are trying to make up for their lack of authority in life (whether they're young or just generally feel inadequate). Possibly it is an accurate reflection of the world, possibly not. Don't let it get to you too much. Just focus on separating the wheat from the chaff. :)\n\nSorry to hear about your daughter and the challenges.
238590
Welcome to pre-teen angst. Just bear with her, I know its hard, but her body is changing so fast right now she probably doesn't even realize how terrible is being. Discuss her weight gain with her doc, there might be something they can adjust to help that. Counselling isn't a bad idea, but you should go too, it helps if there is someone else YOU can complain to about her attitude instead of her. She probably feels defensive after you confront her about her actions. Make sure you have "safe zones" from each other where you can both go and get away from each other, it helps.
647661
She must be herself, if she doesn't, well, she might become one of the slutty girls.(sorry for that word) She needs to pay attention in class, make good friends, get good grades, and do not let peer pressure get to her! It's evil. I swear, I didn't and I'm great. Good luck to your daughter!
974810
Well, the way I try and better the communication with my 15 year old is when we are sitting down talking about something, I try and repeat back what I feel as if he is saying, but not the same words he uses.  Like if he says "you always put down my friends and that's why I don't want to talk to you about them" I say "I understand that sometimes I say things about your friends, but I'm just joking, but I will try harder to not joke like that if it upsets you".
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Your poor daughter is going through huge changes and poor you are the safe person to take out the frustration on. I think its appropriate for you to sit her down and have a calm talk. Just state your case; you appreciate she is growing up, she wants to be treated more like an adult and you agree that its reasonable; and you want to be treated with respect the same as she does. You can tell her that you can both talk things over and reach a compromise, but you won't tolerate rudeness. \nSay that you also have a responsibility to take into account her safety, so rules are their for her benefit not just to spoil her fun. Also offer her a deal; if she ever finds herself in a situation where she feels uncomfortable she is allowed to say "I'll have to check with my Mum" or "My Mum won't let me do that" so you get the blame for being uncool not her.\nOur kids need to break away from us at some point or they'd still be dependant on us as adults, but at the same time they don't have the skills to handle it tactfully or with maturity!\nI think you've had some good advice here and its been good to hear from people who are the same age as your daughter. I'd agree that you can now stop providing for her as if she were younger, she might feel a bit smothered. Ouch! Its ok for you to set her chores to do, and if she does them with good grace she earns her allowance.\nYou aren't doing anything wrong so don't feel guilty. You don't have to put up with being treated like something on the bottom of someone's shoe! \nI'd really strongly recommend that you take up a new interest or hobby, and sign up for some part time classes at college. It would help your daughter to recognise you as someone other than Mum, and it will help your self esteem.
835671
I think she is doing it just because she knows that it will get to you. She knows that you want him, and she can play with him like a puppet. I think she has insecurites within herself, that she thinks she has to come down and hurt other people so they dont see when she hurts. If i was you i would act like it didnt bother you and she will stop. and no you are not being unreasonable, that is low, but take her power away from her and she will just be left there standing confused. Dont sink to her level rise above and being a shining star