all my boyfriend tlks about is sex!! I'm not ready for that! what do I do?!?!?! HELP!!!!!!!!!!?
611947
He's not for you.  His hormones are taking over and have no control. Also, he is not respecting you, or your family.  If he wants to talk with his friends, why not go somewhere else?  I find it impolite to do that.  Don't allow him to rush you into doing anything.  You deserve someone that can treat you kindly, caring, respectful and open minded.  He's the one who's going to loose, not you. \n\nHe's also immature. He may think that can turn you on, but for me, it turns me completely off.  Find someone descent even if it hurts.  Besides, dating and flirting is fun, don't get tied down too soon. Enjoy your singlehood...\n\nRight ladies?
403450
Only you know if you are really ready, and the fact that you are asking this question leads me to believe that you aren't. Sex can be wondeful, but if you have to guess if he is going to stick around, makes me think that perhaps you are not ready for the emotional consequences that could result in this encounter. If he really wants to be with you he will wait. If he doesn't then you know your answer.
913760
well he is ready. sounds liek what my bf and i were liek not too long ago. (weve been sating for 2 years) always talked abotu having sex. i told him how i wasnt comfortable wih the idea yet and wasnt sure (we were both virgins) so i just told him that. he didnt bother me abotu to as much as he used to before. i knew he respected my decision. i eneded up waiting over 1 and a half years intot he realthionship till i felt liek i was comfortable wiht it and everything. you shoudl just tell him that you dont know if your ready yet and if he relaly loves you he will respect your decision and stick it out till you feel more ready. there are better ways to please a guy that just sex. you can always make him dinner or something =) good luck. just dont rush into things if you dont feel ready. i dont konw how old you are. but advise waiting till you are in a serious relationship to loose it or have sex.
638347
Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you've realized you are not ready to jump into a relationship. We all miss-judge and make mistakes, he should understand that you were confused. I think he would appreciate your sincerity.
852390
Get couples counseling. Perhaps if he heard it from someone else, he'd realize that his neanderthal view of sex is outdated and unfair, and you are miserable because of it.\n\nIf he won't get counseling and you said talking to him doesn't work, then you decide to stay and keep fulfilling your "obligation" or stand up for your rights and feelings, and don't have sex if you don't want it. Maybe if he had to go without for a while, he'd change his attitude a bit...\n\n...or maybe he'd stray or become violent...\n\n...or you can decide you've had enough, that it's not worth the conflict of standing up for yourself in the bedroom, and you can move on...\n\nYou are choosing to keep yourself in an unhappy situation...do what you can to fix it or get out...if you cannot fix it, then choose to resign yourself to your fate, or get out...\n\nThis life is too short (imo) to be unhappy in our jobs or personal lives...we choose to be happy or unhappy...we make our lives what we want them to be...\n\nWhat do you want yours to be? Make it so.
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If he is truly respecting you then God bless him !\nIf he is not ready to tell you if something is wrong then he is afraid of losing you .or not sure that he just loves you and not someone else also .\nOr maybe he feels 3 months is not long enough to know some one be for having sex , again God bless him . Just because you have had sex be for doesn't  mean you have sex with the next one sooner .or at all, till marriage .\nHope this helps you , be patient ,it will all be clear in time .\nLove not Lust
1024871
THIS IS JUST MY OPINION HON OKAY....I DIDN'T GO INTO YOUR PROFILE SO I DON'T KNOW HOW OLD YOU ARE..IF THE SEX IS GOOD AND HE PLEASES YOU TOTALLY THEN THAT AREA IS GOOD BUT IF YOU FEEL HE IS TELLING YOU HE LOVES YOU JUST FOR SEX SLACK OFF A BIT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS...START SLOWLY WITH SOME EXCUSES ONCE IN A WHILE...IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HE WOULDN'T EVEN ASK YOU TO PROVE IT....HAS HE HINTED AS TO HOW HE WANTS YOU TO PROVE IT?
993189
You should tell him your needs.How is he suppose to know what you want if he doesn't know what you want.Maybe when your in bed you should guide him while your having sex and if things don't change after that then I don't know what to tell you other then leave.Good Luck
964003
Don't make things all about the sex!!  Have a date and DONT sleep together.  You need to generate things to talk about --- likes dislikes, etc.. that have nothing to do with intimacy.
906866
This may be hard to hear but he is too old for you.\nStick to your guns and don't let anyone force you into sex until you're ready.\nNot only let him sleep with others, push him right out the door to do it!!
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I presume you dont like to have sex? But you both are in Love? Am I right?\n\nThen you need to see a Shrink (doc). \n\nYou need to know that the guy obviously cannot live with you knowing that there is no sex between you both. So do him a favour and find out why u dont like sex... \n\nIm sure you will find a solution to this and your love life will be more interesting and rewarding...\n\n.:Fishie:.
664540
yeah, love isnt all about sex. if that is all your relationship is then you need to find someone who will love you for you and not how you act in bed. someone out there will love you for you.
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Just try to do more things together that dont envolve sex, maybe something will spark and ingnite his passion again. It's not an uncommon thing for guys to not want sex that often. Check out www.psychologytoday.com they have a lot of articles about this topic there. good luck to you!
897219
i think u should dump him, and find a guy that likes sex
958255
Why not lay off the sexual stuff altogether?  Concentrate on becoming better friends.  Do activities together.  \n\nIf you're not ready to go forward, maybe you should go backwards.
8123
It is not a matter of hurting his feelings or not.  You should learn to express yours.  If you feel that he is using you just for sex and not trying to build a lasting relationship, tell him that.  It sounds like you might be ready for some kind of relationship, but you find that he is not.  Perhaps this will help you in the future.  Sex should be more than just a good feeling.  It is also something which strengthens the bond of a relationship.
559000
maybe hes just not ready to have sex.\nif hes already had sex then maybe he doesnt like her as much as he says he does.\ni say tell her to talk to him about it& if nothing works out then break up with him.\nsometimes you need an emotional as well as a physical relationship.\ngoodluckkk