M feeling very dipressed and lonely in my new job. Why this is happening ??
608153
well you better ask yourself if you want to stay with that job. coz you know i feel the same way when im working actually till now im still struglling how i wish i could just escape here in this work.\n\nNever continue in a job you don't enjoy. If you're happy in what you're doing, you'll like yourself; you'll have inner peace. And if you have that, along with physical health, you will have had more success than you could possibly have imagined."\n~Johnny Carson~
1126862
Honey, I do know what it feels like. It's a little alienating and lonely but you have to remember that it's just a job and you don't have to take it home with you. You also may be the door opener for many other black men and women in the company. Never show fear or discomfort. Walk in with your head high and know that you got the job because you were best suited for the position and not because of your race!
1056321
The fact that you have these feelings is 'normal'.  The abscence of them would not be.  Your working hard, on different shifts, tired, together but alone most of the time.  Just remember, communication is important.  Good luck and stop to have fun!!!  He'll thank you!
1074267
Write a nice letter to your boss, then go in and give it to him/her and sit down and have a chat. Explain how much you've enjoyed working with them but say that, as in life generally, sometimes you have to move on. Keep it friendly and stress what a good boss they have been and how much you have learned. Also offer to help with recruitment for your replacement. It's very hard and I've been in the same position - you feel personally responsible for letting them down - but try not to feel like that. It is only a job after all. Good luck and enjoy your new job!
173085
You don't need to get over it.  Introverts (in my experience) are good listeners and make loyal friends.  As far as the job goes that is more difficult, but remember it is the product you are selling not yourself.  If you can focus on why they need the product instead of why they might not want it from you (yes I've been there) it may help.  Fear of embarassment and rejection is powerful, but so is loneliness.  I wish you luck.\nIf what you are experiencing is actually anxiety attacks your doctor may be able to help.
408077
Stress at work and no other place is one of the most difficult cases to prove. Because first and foremost, YOU CONTROL WHAT YOU FEEL. The boss didnt make you stressed, you made yourself stressed. People dont make you feel, you choose to feel. Get over yourself, you have no case, your best bet is to seek counseling for your inability to internalize your situations and your feeling of inadequacy, fo it is only when we feel inadequate that others "make us feel" something.
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I'm truly sorry this has happened to you.  So, was your boss nice about it, or was she kind of be-little-ing?  You say she made you feel like a small child.  You know, we all have our bad days.  Guess what else?  We ALL make mistakes!  I bet SHE has even made a few mistakes herself.  Try not to feel stupid.  Did you apologize for the mistakes?  If not, do so if you feel you can.  Try so hard to concentrate totally on your job and I think you will be fine.  IF, though, she is not nice about the "writing you up thing" then I'd look for other employment.  Not as a cop out, but sometimes women bosses can be a little...ya know!  what's up with the internet priv. being taken away.  Sounds like a little bit of a power trip to me. Just go in there tomorrow with a smile on your face and confidence about you and have a wonderfully beautiful day!
1177014
anyway why are feeling alone? You should have family members or frens around you.  make more new frens.\n\nmy email add is srileela29@yahoo.com
1009110
It sounds like you might be worried about your job. It wouldn't hurt to go hunting for a new job on the side..considering your employer might be in some financial trouble. It's better to get out when the getting is good, so to speak.
193530
No job is worth you feeling like crap and rattled every minute of the day.  Believe me, I worked in a group home for a year and a half and finally quit whe I was starting to get anxiety attacks from it!  Some jobs are just not for everyone.  See about a transfer to a different branch maybe?  Even a small paycut is worth being able to go to work without dread everyday.
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I feel you.  I am the same way.  Most of the time its because I learn the position and get bored.  Then I move on to the next challenge.  In my mind, there is absolutely nothing wrong with doing this.  You are getting all you can out of an employer and building up your resume.  One thing that I know is that in the corporate world,your expendable.  You could be the best worker in the world, enjoy what you do everyday, and be canned tomorrow because the co. didn't make the profits they thought they would. Your best bet is to continue to move on until you really find your calling or open your onwn business so you are your own boss.
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Well now Loobyloo, I am sorry your day at work has been so bad, and made you so bloo : )\nIf I had a wish I could make right now this very second it would be for you to be sitting by a mountain stream, the temp would be just right, and the sun would feel so good on your face, you would curl up with your coat under your head and you would fall asleep and when you awoke the heaviness that you now feel would be gone and in its place you would find a peace about yourself, about today and for the rest of your tomorrows. \nMay sound goofy to some but those are my words for you....
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Its very unfair, these things just make you feel lost and frustrated.Your boss is a rat!so is that alien.\n A boss should keepall his employers happy and treatthem equally.He sholud have helpedyou there.You did the right thing ,I wouldnt have been able to tolarate such a man.\nMan,you did good for a person who didnt care about you, you should be PROUD! hold your head up high .\nDont feel sad,it WAS the only way out. Had you stayed you would have regretted it.Tell your boss on the face
768754
All these are intertwined, Its good that you have discussed to someone but more importantly , like most people have mentioned here; you need to seek professional help and also disclose this feeling to your near and dear one provided you trust them as many a times it can make matters worse. It is not unusual to feel down in dumps, depressed and anxious at times, most people do some of the times, but suicidal feeling are rare and indication that things have gone far enough. I would suggest you to seek professional help asap and make your feelings and thoughts aware to your near and dear ones, your colleagues or neighbours but go and see your GP today
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Your boss is simply feeling this because, he may have misunderstood your activities. \n\nSimply try speaking to him. Always, try to keep things calm and clean. Documents, keys, identification cards/devices, computers and much more are subjected to your bosses examination. If you've mishandled anything please inform that to your boss, and apologize to it. And affirm that you would not let anything similar to this nature happen in future. \n\nSince he feel insecure, try requesting for certain guidelines. These guidelines may be part of his personal principals, experiences and much more. This is a great way to learn!\n\nBosses are always known to be bosses. Try to keep things in control. Never ever depend on any other, for your work. You should do your own work! This will create a greater explanation for the prevailing situation, and your boss's perception would be edited during the course of time.\n\nIf all these are not working already, then its simply personal with him. He is not liking you as an employee, under his operative vision. You haven't claimed at what level he is a boss to you. Is he is a director/or simply some sort of a head for a department. If he is a head for a department simply try to get a transfer. This will help you with your mentality and indeed working excellence. You'll need not worry about anything! \n\nHope these helped.\nGood Luck. Take time and observe and decide!
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It is possible that you have an anxiety disorder, however I would see a doctor first. It is more likely that since you are trying a lot of new things, new job, driving, new school, you are just feeling a lot of pressure. My advice is to take a deep breath (in and out in a slow steady rythm) and think about something pleasant. This should help until you become more accustomed to the changes that you are going through. Good luck!
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Don't let things get you down.  And don't beat yourself up because you are feeling badly about things.  It sometimes is easy to blame ourselves and to think we are alone.   I know it can sound easy to do, but just try changing your thinking.  Call a friend and arrange to go to a movie on the weekend, or just go for a walk.   I know it can be very hard at times and sometimes the loneliness can be rough, but just hang on and try to see beyond the rough day you've had.  Remember, today will pass.  Tomorrow can be very different.\n\nAlso, if you feel the need to speak with a doctor, go ahead and confide in one.  Perhaps the doctor can help you with some counselling.   Sometimes we don't see things as clearly as someone else -- the old saying, "can't see the forest for the trees" -- because we're not seeing things with the same perspective as somebody else.\n\nGood luck, and get a good night's rest, and a better day tomorrow.