Why would a guy tell you that he wants to be with someone else but still act as if he wants to be with you?
605342
Its possible that he wants another, but he's undesided. \nIf I were you I'd find out by the cold shoulder for a week or 2,then call to see has he made up his mind.
993374
He sounds confused, maybe he doesn't know what he wants..He would love you in the future? Does he have a specific date on his calendar or what? Maybe he likes someone else and just wants to keep you on the back burner..Sounds strange anyways
397693
chances are if hes telling people that he likes you.... then he still has feelings for you. Hes probly just denaying it to your face because he doesnt think you like him and he doesnt want to get rejected by you again.
687509
ok. ummm... maybe he just wants to be friends with you cuz hes not ready for a relationship or it could be that he thinks you guys would be better of as friends.
972460
Because he still likes ya or he might think you have a nice ass or he's doing it to pess you off.
500827
maybe because you've been with other guys and he knows about it and he feels like how could you forget about him and be with other guys so soon he's probably as hurt as you guys tend to show their feelings differently than we do give it time and don't be with any other guys if you are still interested in him
122598
Maybe he doesnt want to be with you anymore and is saying he does because he doesnt want anyone else to have you because you are attractive and a sweet person to be with. Dont let him talk down to you and make you change for him, change for yourself.
866981
Ok so he flirts with you but he is dating someone else. I'm sorry but this guy may be sweet and all that but he sounds like a player. A guy who is with someone else shouldn't be flirting with someone else. That's just not approiacate. next time he flirts with you, you just need to tell him he needs to stop because he is dating your friend and it's not right.
1003546
he know's he did the wrong thing by dumping you. he's probably trying to act like he is in control. and it's obvious he still likes you but won't admit it coz he's a guy and wants to act like a 'man' and 'tough' n all. all i know he wasn't thinking when he dumped you and did something very stupid. \non the other hand he is also jealous when you talk to other guys or other new guys take an interest in you.\n\nb happy ur free n single coz he lost you now ;)
830409
When a guy wants to be with you; takes pleasure in being with you and shows it as well as tells you that he likes you.  He shows it through consideration, affection, interest in what you are saying and what you are doing.
725524
It sounds like he wants to tell you but is a little afraid to. I think its kinda nice that you can both still talk together. If he thought you were trying to control him then he wouldnt tell you at all.
266190
I think he might like you..... But he sounds like he is keeping his options open. Be up front. Say if you don't want to let me go. Then you have to be with just me. Cuz if you want to be with other people  then u must not want to be with me. Ask him how he would feel if you wanted to see or like other people.
13340
He could be trying to say no in a nice way.  (Sorry!!!)  I had the same thing happen to me.  I asked a guy out and he said we would...sometime.  Next thing I know, he's "kinda got a girlfriend".\nGuys are jerks when they try to be nice.
631933
Bull crap he is leading you on. He wants to keep you hanging just in case he can't find someone else, don't be his doormat..............
67806
He may actually have some kind of feelings for you.  They may be residual feelings from before, or simply explained by the fact that he couldn't have you.  If his current relationship is rocky, it could also be a matter of wanting a brand new, more exciting relationship, untainted by the negative aspects couples deal with.  He could be anticipating a break up and wants a back up girlfriend.  \nBottom line, he's not with you.  He's with her.  If he was serious about wanting to be with you, he'd make the sacrifices to do it.  He hasn't.  So don't let yourself fall prey to thoughts of "but he says..." because it's more about what he does.  This has been going on for over a year.  Move on.  Let it go.  If sometime in the future he is actually single and his feelings are real, he will come to you.  But you shouldn't be waiting.  You're worth more than that.  And he should be so lucky to still have you be interested.
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You are not the smothering type like one person above me said. \n\nYour boyfriend sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too.  You nailed it when you said: "To me, I think this seems like he wants to be able to have me around if/when he wants me, but for me not to get mad if I can't have him around when I want him. Like he wants to be with me, and for me to be there for him, but he doesn't want to have to be there for me."\n\nI knew a guy who was sleeping with this girl for a year and a half and he refused to call her his girlfriend..he just told people they're "seeing each other."  This generally means a non-exclusive relationship, and while he was sleeping with her, he was also seeing other girls and possibly sleeping with them too.  \n\nTell him you're not looking to take a step backward and that if he wants space that badly then he can have all the space he wants because you're leaving him.  He doesn't want to be committed to you? Then he shouldn't get sex or anything else from you.  Don't get used.
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YOU ALL ARE WRONG...LOL....when boi/man tells you he wants you by his side, he basically saying he wants you as his girlfriend/bestfriend to be there for him. When we say we want you by our side we are almost saying we want you to be there for us, experience things with us N do things with us, N all by our side. In no bad way is he saying what you think or that he nolnger wants you trust me. If you do not feel comfortable with my answer or the other ones, feel comfortable to ask him and im quite sure he will tell you.  Then once yall talk this will help with your comminucation with getting things off your mind to each other a little. Hopefully this helped you enough.