I just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years, Im lonely, but know its for the best...now what?
611240
Now its time for u too move on and start a new relationship.Dont dwell on the past, always remember to move forward, lookin back is only gonna make it hurt and probably even worse on u...if u think its for the best, then i has to be...good luck on ur journey.
140963
I been there and done that, I thought maybe the relationship would change and things would get better so i gave it a chance and i ended up having a child with him and still our relationship had no spark but i was stuck at least thats what i thought. I gave him 5 years of my life because i didn't want to hurt him but we have been broken up for 10 months almost and hes gotten over it fine even thou he told me he was going to kill himself and a million other things .... hes moved on and so have i....  you have to make urself happy before you can make someone else happy and if theres no spark and you can't see yourself being together forever then honestly i wouldn't wait around like i did ..... good luck and don't stress yourself out about it so much * hugs *
1015190
Take a break from anyone.  If you can't be happy alone with yourself you'll never make anyone else happy.  Go take a walk on the beach, ALONE.  See what a big wide world is out there.  You don't have to stop dating forever but give yourself a break.  You don't need any guy that just broke up with his girlfriend.  Give it a couple of weeks without him and see if he misses you.  In the mean time just enjoy yourself doing peaceful stuff.  Good Luck
259930
I would second the motion that Mike made. I would also recommend finding new activities and make new friends. That way you can let people know you are available. And you can keep yourself occupied. And keep your spirits up too. Use this broken relationship as a learning experience. Good Luck. LJK
239899
I have been there...not exactly in the same circumstances but at 19 My relationship finished and i know the pain you are going through, i really do..it hurts so so much and you feel that there is nothing left for you...i am now ten years older and since my split up with that boyfriend, when i was 19, i have done so much with my life..much more than i would ever have done if i had stayed with him...i have more friends now...have had lots more boyfriend...have had an excellent time... going on girly holidays...travelling...meeting new people...i sometimes wish i could go back in time and tell my 19 year old self how wonderful my life was going to be...I can't do that but i can guarentee that your life will get better and better... you will get to know yourself better, you'll do different things, you'll get excited when you have a crush on some one new...believe me, it will happen i never thought it would when we first split up but i then went on to fancying someone different nearly every month...it was great fun. I am all settled down living with a boyfriend now, all grown up..but i look back on that time and smile..it was great...it will be hard for you but look to the future...don't let him string you along... get yourself dressed and go out with some friends...be with people you like. Life is great, you can make it great with out him. Hope this helps xxx
247691
Be sure that you want to be with HIM, not with SOMEONE. Nothing has changed about whatever the situation was that broke you up.\n\nAside from that, just think of any excuse to call then see him. It will go from there.
865546
yeah my guy and i just had a fight..and I am so devasted..I love him soo much..but then again he is an as*hole...if you feel like you need time..then take time..but if you feel like you can move on with someone else then go out with friends and make new friends..usually after a break up..I like to take time for myself and get back to me...good luck\nps..if you still love him then call him and try to work things out
881000
Although things may be blurry right now, you made the right decison. I mean you had your reasons for breaking up with your ex, and it sounds like you made sure you were doing the right thing BEFORE breaking up. \n\nThe tricky part comes AFTER the break up. Things that were clear before breaking up, all the reasons you had, they just become blurry and you miss him so much that all you can think about is the good things you had and how maybe you really should be together. But that's just a defense mechanism, you just don't wanna go through all the pain that being apart from that person makes you feel. In that moment you should remember that you had your reasons for breaking up. You should also remember that there was no way of fixing the problem and that's why you had to end it.\n\nThis new guy may be rebound guy or not, no-one knows that. Maybe this new guy it's not right for you and that's all that there is to it. There's plenty of fish in the sea.\nIf I were you I just wouldn't try to get into anything serious until you feel free to do so. I wouldn't commit to anybody just yet. Just hang out and meet new guys and have some fun.
995747
Well why did you broke up with him in the first place. Why are you reconsidering going out with him donot make it be because you are bored and have nothing else to do that is not a good reason.
1094794
I'm not sure how long ago the two of you broke up, or what caused it, but the main thing you need is time. Allow yourself time to get over the break up, to get your life back on track without him. You cant just shrug your shoulders and turn around and forget about him, he has been half your life for more then 3 years. So don't lock yourself up in the house surrounded with his pictures mourning, but don't loose yourself in going out and partying each night either. take it easy. See friends, do fun things,a nd take time to be alone and cry if you need to. You feel whats best for you at the moment. And you know what? One day you will wake up and feel that you are ready to move on. Good luck!
506481
Damn, that sounds like me.  Gonna be tough starting up any type of relationship w/ anyone after breaking up w/ someone that you were w/ for the past 3 yrs.  I dunno how I would let down my guard.  Just be truthful and true.  Don't be fake, be sincere. I really don't know...
414216
if it's been a on/off relationship then you should just end it, obviously you two keep breaking up for a reason and probably only getting back together due to loneliness. It will probably happen again.  Get out and move on
491148
First off, you need some time alone just to reflect on it. I don't mean let it consume you, but if it ended for a good reason then you need to be alone just to regroup and get yourself together. After that go out and have a drink with some friends. Get back into the social scene, but steer clear of the relationship deal for a minute
353573
I recently went through the same exact thing.  We dated for over 3 years, and then she broke up with me.  The only advice for this scenario is that time will heal all wounds.  This break up hit me hard but I eventually learned that I don’t need to be chasing after someone who isn’t going to love me back.  A relationship only happens when both hearts are into it 100 percent.  All you can do is move on and meet new people.  If you are still in high school or college, talk to some girls in your class or your project groups.  Eventually the wounds will heal.\n\nAnd any girl that would break up with you doesn’t deserve you anyway.
607064
Get over him.  Get out.  Good riddance.  There was a reason your broke up in the first place.  Remember that.
458945
Deal with it.  Think about the reasons that you broke up, so that you don't make the same mistakes again.  Go a little slower in your next relationship, so that you take the time to know what a person is like before getting involved and possibly hurt.\n\nTake a look at your own behavior.  What would she say about you?  If you could do the relationship over again, what would you do differently?  This could give you clues to be a better boyfriend, which could help you get a better girlfriend next time :)\n\nTake a few months off - girls don't like a guy who is needy, and can't live without a girl.  Be yourself, remember what is good about you.  It's ok to be sad or pissed for a while, but cool off and stay cool.\n\nDon't be afraid to talk with girls, but don't try to ask them out, just look for girls who have the same favorite things as you, and that are nice people.  Later on, after knowing them for a couple months, then ask them out.
83228
Try keeping urself busy, if u keeping thinking about the breakup you'll nevr heal, hangout with ur friends, find things that will keep ur mind off the breakup\n\nWho know maybe u'll find someone else. =-)