i am 13yrs old i'm in high school i'm dark skin black kids make fun of me and i don dress good like black peop
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Hey girl. Ok, first let me say this. I am light skinned and have been called high yellow. And while you are being made fun of for being dark skinned (which I think is beautiful) I was and still do get made fun of for being light skinned.\nI am a lot older than you (add 13 years to your age) and I have a friend who I have been friends with since I was about 7. Do you know that this chick still makes remarks about light skinned people and my color.\nShe has told me on occassions that the only reason guys are into me is because I am light skinned with long hair and that guys are still hung up on that look. How do you think that makes me feel? No one can choose what color/race they are and if you weren't dark skinned, you would be getting made fun of for something else. \nSo as hard as it is, don't even worry about it cuz if people are making fun of you, then they aren't good enough to be your friends anyways. You can't stop it. Just try your best to ignore it and be the best YOU that you can be. Don't try to be someone you are not and don't let them see that it bothers you.\nKeep your beautiful head up.
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Socially unacceptable is relative! If you really care, change schools, or just don't care what they think. Everyone is different- why would you want to be another barbie clone? You are cool the way you are.
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This is my mantra whenever I think about dealing with other people: You can't make everyone happy, no matter how hard you try.\n\nI actually had a friend in high school who had sort of the same problem. She was in speech and debate, took all of the Honors classes, got exceptional grades, has an ENORMOUS vocabulary, and wants to be a neurosurgeon in the future (she goes to Duke University now). She's far and away one of the smartest women I know, and she's black. All of the other "black" students hated her because according to them she didn't act, well, "black." And I wanted to say to them, "look, guys, she's being who she is, and who she wants to be. You have absolutely NO right to tell her to act otherwise."\n\nSo, my advice to you? Know this: you are who you are, and NOTHING can change that unless you let it. No one can make you feel inferior without your permission, as Eleanor Roosevelt said. Do NOT give in to pressure (although I see by your post that you probably aren't likely to do this). Just ignore all the comments, and let them know, by your body language, that you are not ashamed of who you are.
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I used to get that a lot. They'd always make fun of something. Sad thing was they were things I had no control over. Chest size, buck teeth, then braces, my speech inpediment, anything really. I just accepted that I wasn't that great looking and anyone who didn't accept me like that wasn't my friend. Just be yourself. Even if it's stuff you can change. Only change if you want to change... never ever change for any other reason. You have to be comfortable with who you are and love yourself. Hopefully soon, others will come to accept you are who you are.
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I was the same way as you are: here my story\n\nWhen i was at the age of id say 10-13 was the same way i didnt wanna go and do anything that involved other people. and i had mabe 2 friends. i never hung out with them i just talked to them in school. i was always depressed. i HATED talken to new people or even people i knew. what i did was i suck it up and went into school and started talken to people no matter how much i didnt want to, i changed my appearence (i cut my hair short, started wearing really nice clothes) and just going up to random people and starting a convo wit them will actully help you. i guarentee you will be happier. Im now 16  almost 17 i have TONS OF FRIENDS im really popular, for my sophmore year i got best looking best dressed funniest and best listener. \nbecause you arnt in skool anymore or atleast i hope u arnt this is wat u should do.\n\n~~~heres wat to do~~~\n\n1. STOP BEING SO NEGATIVE\n\n2 Go and hang out wit some family members and go wit them to hang out wit their friends and because of that you will make new friends\n\n3 Dont be afraid to like go up to a random person adn start a convo. (this will make you happier because you will have tons of friends)\n\n4. i dont know how you dress or your personal appearnece but if you wanna try something new. Try changing the way you look, I.E. style of clothing if you dress like a geek then try changing to like mabe a pair of pants that are a little baggie, wear some nice shirts (Ecko Southpole Fubu).\n\n5. Smile, Be Nice\n\n6. if you are invited to something i suggest you go to it, try it, mabe you will realize how much fun you can have. And if you decide you dont like it then figure out why you didnt like it, was it the people? were you bored because you didnt hang out wit anyone? \n\nI Hope This Helps You Out A Little. \n\nif you have anymore questions email me : jslatts@hotmail.com
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me ya bozo!!! talkin 2 peeps u dont no is dangrous! u lucky im in ur class! u lucky i aint sum child preditor or anyhtin like dat either!!!!!!shame on u elkin!!!!!!
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You don't. That's just the way they are. Unless you want to be ugly and unliked. Maybe it will die down once you get out of school. Maybe.
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are u ugly? that could be it, plus alot of crazy ppl think they are normal... do u have any friends or have they disowned u too? if u have no friends, i think ur just a weirdo probably, and that is why, if u have friends, ur probably ugly and they are embarrassed of u
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what is the matter with you anyway? I bet you are one of those blacks who went to an all-white school and was teased about your African features...get over it! Look in the mirror every morning and learn to love what God gave you. Convince yourself that you are somebody special and you are beautiful because God loves variety and concentrating more on being educated and bettering yourself as a person instead of your looks.
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First and foremost, I must say that I applaud you for standing up for someone who you feel is being wronged. So what if she's " kinda big?" If God wanted everyone to be alike, then he would have made us that way. I also want to tell you that I had some hard times attending high school myself because no matter what you do, people are going to be just people. I was known as the "goody two-shoes" girl, but at least I wasn't bullying anybody, and I was able to get good grades. Grades that have put me where I am today. If you do as some people on here has suggested, and be a "goody-two shoes", then people will hate you for being good, and if you're stuck up and snobbish, then they will hate you for that also. Just be YOURSELF!! As long as when you get up in the morning and can still face yourself in the mirror, then you know that you are doing something right. And, I hate to say it, but this is just a growing process that we all must go through at some point in our lives. It sucks, I know, but in the end, at least you'll feel better for going through it, and being the victor!!
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Based on the lack of information you've provided, it's impossible to offer you any insight into why life is so hard for you. As for taking insults and mockery from both your white and black friends, this is driven by their own insecurities in who they are and possibly even they're jealousy of who you are. You should just be yourself with respect to that. As for making life not so hard, I would be better able to give you advice and suggestion if I knew more about your circumstances at present.
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First of all, Blackscythe has been reported for abuse.  You don't threaten people over the internet, or in real life, unless you are a fearful little jerk with no sympathy, no compassion, and no human feeling.  And if you're like that, you're not much of a human, and you're certainly no man.\n\nI'm 38, a teacher in junior high school -- which by the way is NOT a cesspool whatsoever.  We have programs in place here, and more and more schools are everywhere, that target, define and help stamp out bullying.  Teachers are trained in the overt and covert forms of it, and are given practical advice on how to combat it. \n\nThat said, I was bullied when I was in elementary, middle, junior high and high school for a variety of reasons.  No one ever made me cry; no one ever broke my spirit.  They just made me stronger and unbreakable, thus doing the exact opposite of what they intended.  I was bullied for my weight, for being a smart girl, for not bothering to hide my brains.  Whatever.  When people bully, it says a lot more about them and their insecurities than it ever does about me and my talents.\n\nRecently, a weird, dysfunctional man in my neighborhood tried to bully me about public parking.  He wanted to "save" public parking places, and I wasn't about to put up with that.  He banged on my car window, and I just looked the other way and very slowly and calmly got my stuff together, hoping that my total lack of reaction would piss him off and throw him off guard -- of course it worked.  He tried to curse at me, and he got up in my space threateningly.  So, I got up in his space, took two steps forward to his one, and screamed and yelled and cursed louder and longer, with more force, more vehemence and more style.  I got up in his face.  I gave it right back with double strength.  And this macho Hispanic dude literally backed away from me, running, with his palms up, submissively.  And of course since that one time that I stood up to him, he has not bothered me since, and I've gained his respect.  He knows not to mess with me, because I don't take it at all whatsoever.\n\nAnd that was what I did to everyone who tried to bully me: I stood up to them, looked them in the eye, and NAMED THEIR BEHAVIOR, framing it in the rudest, most pathetic, disparaging terms I could, to make me look completely innocent and them look like bumbling, fumbling, incompetent, obnoxious morons -- which they were.  Every time, since childhood, these bullies slunk away and I never had another problem.  I felt massively relieved and rewarded.  There is great, great value in having a sharp tongue.  It's because of my sharp tongue and slice-and-dice vocabulary that I've never been in a physical fight in my life; I could just insult the h-e-l-l out of you so that you slunk away in shame.  In a way I realize that what I did bordered on or was verbal abuse right back... but it stopped the attack on me, and there was no other problems were had.\n\nSo, stand up.  Look the person in the eye.  Name their behavior.  Be aware that bullies are always, always cowards.  And once you stand up to these cowards, they always, always back down.  Bullies are scared and insecure, and that weakness can be exploited and preyed upon.  Whatever they are attacking YOU for, that is what they hate and cannot accept in their own selves.  Turn it back on them.  Watch them squirm.  And watch them RUN away.  This is called guerilla psychological warfare.\n\nSo, from an overweight girl who never took s-h-i-t from anyone, I became a confident teacher.  I am there for my junior high school kids.  I empower them, teach them to stand up for themselves, to evaluate themselves, their situations and each other as objectively as possible, and if at all possible, to laugh about it.  And I and all my colleagues watch out for bullying every single day, and we don't let it go.  \n\nTake heart.  The jerks are out there, but they're SO easy to disa
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I THINK YOU SHOULD BE MATURE ENOUGH TO DECIDE WHO TO BE FRIENDS WITH AND DO NOT HANG AROUND WITH PPL WHO R NOT EVEN CLOSE TO YOUR AGE N DO NOT LET THEM MAKE FUN OF YOU LIKE THEY DID WICH WAS EMBERESSING AND U AGREED TO IT.\npL: NEXT TIME U SHUD KICK THEIR @$$Z
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Here are your options.\nMake fun of them for something about them\nIgnore them.\nDon't be friends with them.\nTell them it's rude what they are doing, it's in your family tradition to not remove body hair and so they are insulting you and your ancestors.\nMake friends who like you for who you are.\n\n\nBTW. How do they know you have a hairy VAGINA? Are you showing it to people???\nYou are at an age that no matter what you do someone will make fun of you. This will probably be the most judgmental time of your life. \nAll teens are like that, it's a time during human development that tries to force individuals to conform to rules and social standards, those who do not conform are rejected and are ridiculed. \nThe joke is that no one conforms 100% and some of the best and most interesting people you will ever know conform the least.\nDon't shave or wax it, just be 14, you never will be again. So forget these people, you won't know them in a few years anyways, and be an individual unto yourself.
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Well your name is Emochick...\n\nI think you are young...\n\nLikes- funerals, cemeteries, doing what others tell you not to do, Cutting yourself, Black, Anima, having people think your insane, reading, trying to fit in, care what people think even though you say you dont...\n\nDislikes- You probably hate everything about yourself.\n\n??
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stick to your morals eventually they will give up either there your friends and respect you or if they continue to pressurise you then they really are not true friends ,and maybe you should consider distancing yourself from this bullying crowd
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It's not fun, I know how you feel.\nYou just have to learn to not care.\nIt's tough...and I know it's a lot easier to say then do.\nSo what if they find out? If they treat you any differently, then they aren't good friends and don't deserve to have you as a friend.\nAnd if you are worried about people like, making fun of you or something, then just know that the only reason they are making fun of you is to raise thier own self-esteem, and that you are better then that.\nTry and take pride in being irregular, then again, I'm not sure exactly why you're irregular, but ya.\nIf it still bothers you, talk to the teachers about it, and ask them if maybe there is some way you could be called on the normal roll call.\n\n\nI hope that I helped. ^_^