Is it possible to be in a loving marriage and the relationship still be open?
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My fiance let me sleep with his coworker about 6 months ago.\nMy fiance and I are closer than ever, and we still hang out with his coworker all the time.  \nI don't think anything is wrong with it as long as everyone knows it is just sex and nothing else.
190005
Yes, very much so.  Not a complex situation here.  Have such types married and lived a long life together.  Yes.  But let's look at quality of life here.  You do best in your comfort zone.
978341
God needs to be the center of a union of marriage. Once partners are in tuned with eachother and their relationship with God is secure, your spouse will tell you what he / she wants and you can follow the program.
596371
I think there is a difference between being in love and loving someone. Loving someone is more enduring and is a better basis for a marriage since most couples find that after years of marriage they need to have a good partner and friend. Since you have had an attraction to this partner and were in love at one point, I think you have a good chance to have a solid marriage. However, you really should look at your own feelings about marriage in general and ask yourself if you are ready to commit. Otherwise it won't work. Don't worry about not feeling the same a little less romantic feeling is normal over time and to keep a more romantic outlook requires more work. \nGood luck.
150566
probably better to ask a marriage counselor : ) it could be lots of things, some which are "fixable", some which aren't.
320224
I'm married for 13 years and my marriage it isn't perfect,but after all this years I think is better being married than not,because you have more than one possibility to share your happy (or not happy) moments with the person you love,one way or another.Happiness and unhappiness are hard to be supported alone.
972204
This depends entirely on your capacity for forgiveness, compassion and acceptance.\n\nYou would not be able to sustain this relationship without forgiving your spouse.  You would not be able to forgive without allowing yourself to express your own anger and fear.  (What if you're sick)?  \n\nIf you believe your marriage is worth saving, then both of you would have to agree that as hard as you know it will be to work through this, you still want to be together.\n\nIt would take an amazing amount of commitment to make this situation work, but I believe it could be done.  Good luck to you both.
498772
ABSOLUTELY!!\nMy husband and I have just celebrated our 27th anniversary married and 28th together. The love we have today is much more than what we had on our wedding day. Our relationship is stronger and deeper than ever because of the 28 years we have been through together. You always hear the saying "through all the ups and downs", well it is so true. There were so many times during the first 5 years that I could have said "see ya". But I didn't. We had our first after we'd been married two years, he lost his job shortly after she was born and jobs were real hard to find so we had no money. We had to rely on family and other means to survive. But we did. I had faith in him and I had my Faith in God that we would get through. \nThere were many other financial hardships through the years that should have torn us apart and would have torn other couples apart, but we refused to let that happened becaused we loved each other and had faith in our marriage. We worked together. There was one time around our 17th year that we separated for awhile but I am too bullheaded to let him throw all that time away. So with some fight and work we saw what we needed to do and what we had done. We took each other for granted.\nOur marriage today is stronger, more passionate and devoted than ever. We have a greater understanding of what each other needs--time for each other and for ourselves. Be there for each other but know when to step back and stand beside each other for each other against all others no matter what.\nHe is my heart and soul. He is in law enforcement and I send him out every night with a kiss, a hug and I love you. The rest is in God's hand. I know there is always a chance that he may not come home or he may get seriously hurt. I take that chance because I love him that much. I can honestly tell you this much. If for some reason I would lose him to his job or by nature, he will be it for me. There will be no other in my life. That is how deep he is in my life.\nSo yes, there is long-lasting relationships and deep abiding love. It takes two to make them and lots of hard work every day. But the rewards are worth every minute of the life you will have together.\nI hope this helps
1150805
I want my husband to be open and honest with me especially when things like that happened. It is where trust could grow more and more. Marriage, if not guarded by both couples, could be in danger with innocent acts like that. You might say that there is no wrong with that but most of the times, worse things started in little things. Be honest and open with your wife. Open communication could help to maintain a healthy marriage.\nOne more thing I would like to add. Are you and your wife are best friends too? If not yet, better make each other best of friends to whom you could tell your secrets, open your ideas and feelings, and share your daily experiences...
103779
Sure you can... but the legal date of your marriage will be that of your "first wedding". My husband and I were married by a justice of the peace, 4 years later we were married in the church. We even went through prekana(sp?) classes to do it. It was great to renew our vows and profess our love for one another again. Congrats & good luck:)
995449
If you are Christian yes. But only if you love her , have been knowing her for at least a year or two and are compatible on the important things in life. Sometimes ppl think opposites attract, that relation does not last, because eventually opposites end up hating each other. \nHowever If you really wanted to get married you would not be asking here.\nTHINK OF IT MORE BEFORE YOU PROPOSE
236167
No the only way to have a lasting relationship is for both people to be completely open with each other. If their not open it shows lack of trust and their is no relationship unless their is trust.
61388
yes, if you to just solve the problem together and hold on to the relationship no matter wat...\nif you both really do love each other, u will surely overcome every trial that comes your way...\ndon't forget to ask for God's help too...a relationship that is God-centered is good because you can always call on Him to guide u to take the right path...the path to endless and pure love...Ü
671507
Yes a married woman can still be in love with her husband even though he has not been faithful. My husband has done it. And yes right now we do not live together but everyday that he is gone the more I miss him and the more I relize just how much I truely love him. That's why they add in the for better or worse in the vows...
807695
it is possible to be in love with more than one person. i am guessing you love your spouse and are comfortable with them. and the other one is more exciting now since it is new.that excitement will wan. try and picture yourself with out your husband and examine how it really makes you feel. you have to weigh the pros and cons. good luck i have been there
176510
It is possible, yes. I doubt that he will say anything about it even if he does suspect that you are not. Did you not notice anything when you lost yours? Why would you not tell him? You should not start your marriage on a lie. Marrige is hards enough on its own, much less when you built it upon sand. Tell him. Build you marrige on a rock.
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I think it's a personal question that has to be addressed individually. It depends on what is important to you. If you have an absolute need to know what the other person is like every day, all the time, then perhaps you should. Or if you believe in love and what a commitment to marriage means, then take the faith that you love this person no matter what their personal habits. You can get to know a person's character without living with them, but again, it's up to you and them. As for strengthening a relationship, more studies show that it doesn't, but everybody's different. You also have to think about your potential kids and what kind of an example would you want to set for them? Years down the road what are you going to want to be able to say to them about moving in with their partners? That usually will reflect what is in your own heart and you should listen to that.