If you cheated on your boyfriend is it okay to forgive?
603729
yes it is. i cheated on my bf (just by kissing another guy), and he forgave me, and things are better than ever. actually i hadnt realized how happy i was till this happened.....
1116340
Being someone that has cheated in the past I can honestly tell you it could go either way. I did before, but will never do it again. On the other hand I have had a boyfriend cheat, say it wouldn't happen again & it did. So I guess it depends on the person &/or relationship.
271407
It would depend on if I loved them. Do I still want a future with this person? Was the affair due to neglect on my part of the relationship? Was it an affair of the heart or just "sex"? \nRegardless, I would forgive them. Not for thier benefit, but for my own. Forgiving does not mean "forgetting"...it just means I will choose to not hold the offense against the person in the future. Whether pain resurfaces due to memory of the offense, my pride or my anger.  By my choice to forgive and exercising it, I will not only preserve my integrity and character, but possibily save a relationship that was challenged at a weak moment.\n\nWhatever choice you make in regards as to how to respond when you are on the receiving end, remember that ALL of us need a second chance at some point in our lives.
546602
I can sit here and say.."You should not cheat..it's morally wrong..yadda yadda yadda" But I'm not going to give you that lecture when i myself have cheated! yea its wrong and i shouldn't have done it....but sometimes it happens! I dont do it often, but i admit its happened! so if you really want to go through with cheating...i find the best way is to write answers on a tiny sheet of paper and place in your chair between your legs....what teacher is gonna look there! by doing this, you can look at the answers with your eyes and not make it obvious by moving your head! I suggest not cheating b/c by doing it you dont learn anything! it bites you in the butt later down the line...but its your life...you control it.
1145065
if she is the one that cheated, then she is the one with the problem,,,and that is no way to solve any problem that a couple may have...... There is NO excuse for cheating. And what ever the "issue, is or was" it is not the boyfriends fault.... the fault always lies with the cheater.  She should have been more of an adult, and either worked the issue out or left the relationship.
242687
It is absolutely vital for you to move forward with life and love. Being willing to trust again is key. Take things one step at a time. Don't try to make sense out of nonsense. Rationalizing your cheating ex's behaviour or sympathizing with him is pointless. It is never OK to go outside of your relationship to solve problems within a relationship. It's not your fault. \n\nDon't cling to negative feelings. Anger is nothing more than an outward sign of hurt, fear, guilt, grief or frustration. While the pain may never completely disappear, forgiveness can help you release the anger and bring those in your life closer to you. You can't change the things that happened in your life, but you can decide how you interpret and respond to them. If you didn't receive support when you needed it, give it to yourself now.\n\nConsider what you need to do to get emotional closure. Maybe you just need a simple apology. Someone may have said horrible things to you long ago, but it's possible you took over for them when it stopped.\n\nThere is no right timeline for recovery. For some people, making peace happens suddenly and spontaneously. For others, it takes time and effort. You may have to make a conscious effort every day to forgive. To say, "I'm letting this go. I'm not going to invest hatred, bitterness, anger, resentment in this person anymore." You can find closure in forgiveness.
1040237
Man! That's a tough one! But the fact of the matter is that the boyfriend was cheating! Doesnt matter if it was with another man, woman or she-male. So I would kick some butt then dump the boyfriend.
251494
Cheating is the worst way that you can betray the one you love. In my opinion you really don't love someone as much as you think you do if you can cheat on them. I know if my husband cheated on me,which thank God I do not have to worry about that, I would leave him because all the things that we shared and all the trust we built together would just be gone because of his infidelity. You have to understand that if you man doesn't stay with you because you cheated on him,you hurt him in one of the worst ways a person can be hurt, and thats a hard thing to forgive someone for. If he leaves you, there is nothing you can really do but understand why he left you. You man has to be really I mean REALLY compassionate to forgive you and stay with you after what you did to him. If you really want this man to stay with you all I can say is beg for mercy from him.Hope I helped!
789734
No, it's not a proper apology.  That's an excuse.  An apology is where you take responsibility for your actions and acknowledge the harm you've done - "I'm sorry that I did ______ because it was the wrong thing to do and I was wrong to hurt you that way."  Proper apologies help people deal with their feelings - excuses can come later, if and when people want to understand "why" things happened.  Finally, just because your husband cheated, doesn't mean that your marriage can't be saved.  Many couples are able to grow closer after the discovery of infidelity.  Doing so, however, requires communication skills that many couples lack.  So, counseling is almost alway needed.
782958
If my boyfriend cheated on me, by sleeping with someone, I wouldn't forgive him at all.  No matter who they slept with.  I would actually, cut his d**k off, glue it to his forehead, and call him a d**khead.
207337
I was dating my ex for a year and a half, i found out he cheated on me in begining...we were engaged when he told me. After that i found out he had cheated on me a couple more times and i called of the wedding.I didn't like the fact that i forgave him the first time and he still did it again. I think you should breakup with him and someone who loves you and won't cheat on you. If they cheat once they will do it again
510623
Trust is one of the most important things. If some cheated on me then I'd want to know.  Whether to continue with the relationship would depend on how you found out you were being cheated on. If he or she came to you, then you know this person has a conscience and you may be able to continue with the relationship eventually letting go of the hurt from their indiscretion. But if they never said anything and you found out another way I think it would be best to let go of that relationship because there will be serious trust issues. I personally don't do the whole getting back at my significant other thing. If you have forgiven him/her then it wouldn't be fair to keep bringing it up or punishing them for what they've done. So if it's something you can't get past. Let go.
841252
Anyone who cheats doesnt deserve a second chance period...If ur with that person youre with them for a reason.....Their isnt any sense in getting a boyfriend or girlfriend if ur gonna cheat on them...its just wasting your time and theirs
477092
no. have you ever been cheated on??? look at it from ur bf's perspective. plus if you want a meaningful relationship that if one or all of them find out that it is curtains for you. trust is the hardest thing to gain back.
446669
Ummmmmm wait a sec - do I have this straight?\n\nHe cheated on you - you forgave him and gave him a 2nd chance?  \n\nYou later cheated and he won't give YOU a 2nd chance?\n\nWell that about says it all if I have that straight.. he doesn't want to give you that 2nd chance because this is HIS way of getting out and 'blaming you for it'.  I bet he has another 'side'.... I'm so sorry, and realize that you have already punished yourself enough, and that you TRIED to be honorable and tell him the truth, and if you could forgive him and he won't you, he's being a JERK!  I'm sorry /comf!
377668
The question isn't whether or not it was cheating what you should ask yourself is what's the possibility that someone else might tell him what happen.  If you tell him he might forgive you but I doubt it but if he hear it from someone else you can forget it.  You can tell him I said if he is a good man meaning secure and confident he should believe you and let it go.
435783
He made his decision long time ago. He cheated on you, let him prove that he wants to be wtih you. But what you should be asking yourself is can you get past his cheating and never bring it up can you forgive him and will you get past this and be in a healthy meaningful relationship. You owe it to yourself and to him.