How do you truly forgive?
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In a situation like this you personally need to talk to your father and tell him that you don't appreciate him taking advantage of you. Tell him that you forgive him for disowning you as a child and that you love him even though he missed out on the finer points in your life. Give him the money because you cant put a price on love. If you don't then you may regret it for the rest of your life. I cant guarantee that this would make you feel better because i don't know. This is coming from a 16 year old and the way I see is either you could take the advise and run with it or leave it to rot for eternity.
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You can't . You just tell them how you feel and hope they can forgive you. Move on.* _*
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Be there, forgive and accept.
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Forgive yourself and realize you deserve better.
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Personally I try to forgive, but not forget.\n\nI believe in the saying "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me".  If someone has developed a pattern of behavior that is unkind and/or selfish that is their business, I just won't put up with it.
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stop trying to fix it. you are not in control of the universe. try looking at what you have done to contribute to the problem, and apologize without expecting them to apologize too. true forgiveness is realizing there is nothing to forgive.
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If you really mean it.. let your emotion go in a personal one on one conversation and cry. \n\nAllow your heart to let your eyes weep and feel the remorse in your soul so you will never make that mistake again by remembering the pain it brought you and the person you are sorry to.
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Forgiveness is tough, but it liberates us in the same way that God's forgiveness frees us. If you never say "I forgive" then you will never let go of the hurt. The past will haunt your present and your future. Forgiving does not erase the hurt, but it will free you from the threat the hurt will stick with you for life. You can pray this prayer "Help me learn from you, dear Jesus, how to forgive, so that I might live fully and freely. Amen"
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If it was God walking amoung us and you hurt Him. He would have forgiven you on the spot.\nI would tell Him your sorry.\nWhat else can you do?
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I think the trick is letting Him.  I mean, we're so quick to hang onto guilt about stuff, that we can't believe that we can ever be forgiven, be healed of our emotional hurts.  I say, the next time anyone asks Him for help, imagine Him saying, "Thou art healed."  Then BELIEVE it.  You'll be surprised how fast your tears dry up.  Even if you don't want to believe it, do...for about 30 seconds....then 30 seconds more...then 30 seconds more.  See if you're not up and smiling and dancing after that...In some ways, it is the power of suggestion.  But isn't that what God is--the "suggestion" that you are healed just by asking Him to make it so?
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Pray to God to forgive you
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You get past this by taking the opportunity to FORGIVE him.  Many times, the hardest thing we can do is forgive when we believe someone is so much in the wrong.\n\nAs you grow in your faith, you must always remember that part of you remains human...and vulnerable to temptation.  \n\nHow can you listen?  Heed the word and not the messenger.  God is able to use the most evil to do His will.\n\nHeld to a higher standard?  If they are truly called by God to that position, then they are there by God's will.  Who are we to know if his (T.H.) was a true calling or just his attempt to mask his inner desires/lusts?  \n\nTry to look at this as YOUR opportunity to openly profess your faith in the one true God, and salvation thru His Son, Jesus.  Nobody claims to be perfect when becoming Christian.  Just forgiven.  \n\nThe things that others call us remain the same.  Sometimes the noise is louder than other times.  Sometimes not.  Don't be distracted by them.\n\nPray for him and his family.  And forgive him with all of your heart.
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max,\n\nYou forgive other people for your freedom. At first, the best you can do may be to just say that you forgive the person. Keep working at forgiving until you are free. If the person who wronged you asks for forgiveness then forgive them. That is of benefit for both of you.\n\nYou could have lost someone on 9/11 and then decide to forgive the perpetrators. If they had lived, they would have faced trial and been executed. Your forgiveness didn’t remove their guilt, it just sets you free. Your forgiveness doesn’t excuse their sin, it just allows you to live without the burden of carrying around that mess in your soul.\n\nGod has forgiven Christians from a debt so large that they could never pay it, but if we don’t forgive those who sin against us, then He will not forgive us.\n\nYou don’t say what your background is, but since you asked your question in “Religion & Spirituality” it should be OK to quote Jesus on the subject. Here is what Jesus said to Peter:\n\nThen Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" \n\nJesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.   \n\nTherefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand talents (millions of dollars) was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt. \n\nThe servant fell on his knees before him. 'Be patient with me,' he begged, 'and I will pay back everything.' The servant's master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go. \n\nBut when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii (a few dollars.) He grabbed him and began to choke him. 'Pay back what you owe me!' he demanded. \n\nHis fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, 'Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.' \n\nBut he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. When the other servants saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed and went and told their master everything that had happened. \n\nThen the master called the servant in. 'You wicked servant,' he said, 'I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. Shouldn't you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?' In anger his master turned him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed. \n\nThis is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart."  Matthew 18:21-35\n\nJesus wasn’t saying that God would throw you into a physical prison to be tortured, but you make your own prison by judging another person and finding them guilty. God is the only righteous judge, and He said vengeance belongs to Him, and we are to avoid judging anyone.\n\nIt doesn’t come easy, but forgiveness is required obedience to God. That doesn’t let the person off the hook; it lets you off the hook.\n\nGod bless.
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ask god for forgivness he will alwaays forgive you if you truly mean what you say
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Forgiveness.\n\nWhat comes around, goes around and God DOES serve justice to those who hurt others.\n\nOne of my best friends died because the people who were with her did not get her help because they were afraid of getting in trouble as well.  It is something that I've struggled with for years.  The only thing you can really do is accept the reality of the situation and put God in control of your emotions.\n\nLetting go of hate is hard, and believe me, revenge seems like the best way to make those feelings go away.  Unfortunately, there's nothing you can possibly do that could hurt the person as much as they've hurt you.  Just take solace in the fact that this person has to live with the guilt of allowing someone to die because they were too scared about their own well-being than to help them.
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Not all things come back to you.  Life is not a story book were all the villians are punished.  That said, what may happen is that your deed is remembered and another person will suffer for it, because they won't be trusted.\n\nYou wrote "there is no way I can apologize". You can apologize, but what you are afraid of is that there is no guarentee you will be forgiven.  That's a chance you ought to take, not only for your sake, but for the sake of the person you wronged.\n\nThe word "Forgiveness" comes from a Greek word which means "to let go".  To let go...of the past, the anger, and whatever else is involved.  Perhaps,....just perhaps...you will have a chance to experience what forgiveness means on a deeper level. \n\n Take the chance.  Apologize.
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You can't do much if they won't forgive you and let it go.  You can apologize to them from the bottom of your heart and tell them how sorry you are - thats your part to do.  Their part is to forgive you and really mean it and move on.