i have an issue which is bogging me down day by day..my boyfriend and i work in the same department?
606738
I am sorry to say but when one of you moves on it will make things alot easier. I was in a similar situation and my g/f was stealing my limelight. She was prettier and cuter and it was tough on our relationship. If you can move on you will find a huge burden in your relationship ease. \nMy g/f moved on and I got employee of the month less than two months later.\nI wish you the best.
601413
Girl, I am in the same boat. I work days and then P/T at night. My honey works Night shift. When he comes home, I go to work. When I get home he's already gone to work. We only have small amounts of time to share, and sometimes it gets real tough.\nYou need to sit down and TALK. It's important to share your feelings with him. Tell him you love him and miss him. Make some special time, and rediscover the passion.  LOL to you.
629986
If you live 3 states away, daily communication is unreasonable under the best of circumstances. This is probably wearing him down emotionally. I know that I get completely overwhelmed at times, especially by relationship issues, and just shut down. It doesn't mean I don't care; it just means I'm overwhelmed.
411877
Wow...you have a lot of stress factors girl!  You need to dump some of the weight on your shoulders.  Start w/the boyfriend.  Actions speak louder than words.  Don't waste another minute of your time on him...life's too short & there are too many real men out there.  He sounds like a coward to me.  Don't let him bs you anymore...just move on.  \n\nStand up to your parents.  I'm sure they probably care about you & are just trying to help, but nagging does not = helping.  Let then know their opinion matters, but you have a lot of stress in your life & you need their support.\n\nAs far as your boss it depends on what makes him difficult.\n\nAnyway, I'd definetly clean house a little & get rid of some stress.  Life is too short.  Definetly need to get rid of the immature boyfriend.
1164160
Nope.  Frankly, I'm the same way.  My gf let me know it bothers her, so, I'm trying to make adjustments.  But, if you keep asking him, it'll just take longer and make him more irritated, maybe to the point where he can't deal with it anymore.  I'd let him know it bothers you, and leave it.  If he's going to change, he'll do it on his own.
645313
Communication! I have been with the same guy for 7 years and I am just realizing since we moved in together that its one area  we need work in.  Its so important!  Also keep dating each other.  People always seem to get "comfy" in a relationship and it gets boring.  Keep things exciting.
1185725
It sounds to me that you could be smothering him.  Give him some rope.  Meanwhile, you need some hobbies and girl friends to spend your time with.  That way, you can come back home and be lovey because both would have had other things to add to the relationship and conversations.  Do some things you may be interested in doing.  He should not be your only interest.  Please do not smother him.  Your happiness does not warrant itself based on his being around you all the time.  Thank GOD for the work week so that I can see other people without explaining where I've been all the time.  By you just being one tracked, you are digging yourself deeper in a depressive state of mind by making him your ONLY happiness.\n\nI hope that you can open your eyes to understand this.  I sincerely hope that I was the lightbulb to your saga.  Happiness begins with your self and definitely no one else should be able to control your emotions that they can't feel.
474622
you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. it sounds like it is time to slow things down, alot. you both need to sit and talk about what the 2 of you want out of this relationship. when the 2 of you are on the same page it will be alot easier.
797486
I am having same Problems with my long distance boyfriend.  Will be interested to see the answer's here.
1114680
I agree with the previous advice of discussing a possible misunderstanding with him.  Tell him you didn't understand that he wanted you to do this, but now that you do, ask him what you can do to help resolve the situation now.  Once this particular problem is handled, then ask him what you can do to make communication clearer between the two of you; as part of that discussion you can diplomatically point out to him that, perhaps, putting expectations in writing in the future might be helpful to you both.  If these things don't work and he insists on making it an issue at review time, or holding it against you during salary administration, then (and only then) get HR involved.
476894
I kinda think you just need a little more stimulation. It seems you have just been enjoying each others company for a long time and that is pretty amazing in it's self... talk to your partner... you might find that he is feeling the same way as well... You say flirt a little? Can I guess that you don't work? Cos most people I know in a work situation tend to flirt a little somehow...  Though it is well understood that it isn't for any other purpose than to lighten the days tasks.\nTalk to him and maybe seek this stimulation together... can only make you stronger and give you more to share when it is just the two of you...
853478
Sounds like both of you are going through withdraw.  That's too bad b/c most of time in long distance relationships, the other person eventually leans on someonelse and you become history.  If there is a will for you two to be together then you are going to have to find a way.  If this means giving up your job for her, then do it.  Do whatever it takes b/c you already know this isn't working, do you think it will get better?
202915
Not recommended.  What if you two break up?  Harassment in the work space.  If you or he were willing to transfer to another department or company, I'd say go for it.
898378
Just try to keep your problems to yourself until you two get more serious. Life has a way of working itself out and this guy might be the person that can get you out of the funk your life is in right now.  Don't ruin it by being moody around him. Let your worries go and try to be fun and outgoing and you will see that you won't focus on your problems as much when you keep yourself busy with other things. You might want to go to your Dr. and see if he can recommend a RX. I take Xanax every day and it helps.
890557
Well sounds like you two need to sit down together and have a long conversation about your relationship, and why you are fighting over things.  And decide if maybe your lives are going in different directions and its time to end it. Or fight through it. All relationships have tought times. Its up to those involved to decide if they want to work through the problems or not. \n\nIf he is unwilling or uncooperative to sit and discuss this. I would say its time to move on as difficult as that may be.
701661
sit urself down and really give the matter some heart felt thought....... take the time to get it together...... YOU have a choice to make, so I think you better get busy...... it is NOT fair to your guy to be with him if you can not give him all that he deserves........ God bless
925508
You sound like high maintenance. Do him a huge favor and leave him so he doesnt have to deal with your constant insecurities.