Just broke up with my boyf who is still in love with his ex.Any fool proof ways to see this coming in future??
613009
This is a tough one because people generally don't want to believe that they are with someone that is still in love with someone else. The key is to not dismiss any signs that you might have seen throughout the 5 months you were dating. There had to be somthing fishy going on at one point or another. Maybe not at first, but I am 99.9% sure you started to notice somthing then dismissed it.\n\nI guess the short answer is to not dismiss your insticnts, they are usually right 9 times out of 10\n\nhope this helps
268060
hi! listen dont go making any harsh decisions str8 away!!!!!\nu only fell differently about each other becuase uv both had time to grow and now that u have u want each other back. but you have to think of the baby and whats right for him, im not saying dont pursue the relationship but were u and ur partner gr8 before ur ex came bak in2 the picture??? if so...sleep on it. it may just be a case of the "what if's"...and ur still in lust with him! think about it and try to put some excitement back in to your love life with your b/f...go out on a date with him again.pretend as if ur both new to the relationship..see how u get on on ur date...have wild fantastic sex with him...go the whole nine yards! if u still think about ur ex...think about ur next move to make...to leave ur b/f or stay. it seems silly i know but most of the time its boredom that leads people to have affairs and stray..dont entertain the thought and you might not feel the same about ur ex!!!!~tasha~
545326
Hey,\nI've been in this situation b4. The best thing to do is to give yourself some breathing space . Take your mind of this. Try to relax and distract yourself. If you feel that strongly bout your ex, the best thing to do - confess it 2 him. Maybe he feels the same way. Maybe he's just not wearing his feelings. Always b optimistic. The glass is half full........... Frm wat i have read u r  strongly in love with this guy.........express it! Best of luck
386616
1) Stop seeing him.  Do it NOW.\n2)  Start dating someone else.  Or at least look for your rebound guy.\n3)  Did I mention stop seeing your ex?
835216
hmm.. wad cause the broke up in the first place? is the problem still around? and way to solve it?\n\nthis is the few questions u gotta ask yerself... if there isn't any problems at the moment.. will there be any coming up? will u guys be able to handle it togther or u  guys gonna break up again?? \n\nif u can answer this question, more or less u know whether to stay and wait (cos she's worth the wait) or move on (cos a break up will happen anyway)...\n\ngood luck to yer dude,,, u need it,,,
366390
You can tuck your X away in a little area of your heart.  But to fully move on, I believe you need to keep him out of your head. I also believe that you both broke up for a reaon.(or reasons)  However you may be remembering only the good times.  And NONE of the bad.  That is very common.
661319
talk to ur ex and tell him it was a misunderstanding. unless it's the truth, then u better break it off w/ him.
129800
girl it is hard. i have been there. the only thing is to stay busy and try not to think about it. it takes time and it will ease with time. after almost 9 years i still think about my ex every once in awhile even tho i am with the man of my dreams now. you will do it. dont let him make you miserable. if so then he wins. go find something to do and focus on it. wish you the best.
1031643
First, I respect your courage for writing here, but I would take the most serious advice from those who know you best... those closest to you. There aren't enough details in your story for anyone but those who know you to give you good advice, but a lot of people have similar feelings. When I was single I always pined for my ex's... the bad times didn't register and all I remembered was the good times. This doesn't mean that they didn't happen and that what drove me from my now ex's wasn't real. We did break up for a reason, and our incompatibility was something to be considered. No matter what you do, even if you did get back together, you can't relive a memory. This isn't to say you shouldn't talk to your ex or figure out what you're feeling, but I'd say take your time with it. If the feeling is really real, if the relationship is meant to be, then it's worth waiting for. A lot of times things seem good at the time, but if we waited, we lose interest or realize what a bad decision it was. Even so, you have a fractured relationship, and it's going to take a lot of care and thought to bring it together... either way, protect your own heart and take your time. Find someone you really trust and talk to them about it and let them speak into you... tell you a no bs assessment of what they can see from the outside. Even if you don't agree with them, it'll get you thinking. I wish you the best with your relationship, whether it's meant to be repaired or not. God bless you,\n\nBrian
264511
just be completely honest with your feelings. It will hurt him either way.\n\nDon't lead him on thinking that nothing will change and that you guys will still be friends, because thats what my ex did when she broke up with me, and it hurt a lot, but it hurts even still today because I still am hoping that what she told me was true, that we are still friends and that I can still talk to her, but its not.  however when she told me I couldn't ever loose hope.  I miss her a lot, and I still love her, and having to hold onto something that I know isn't true hurts the most\n\nSo just be 100% honest, don't try to make him feel better about the situation, because it just makes it that much harder in the future.
930477
Tell him that a break up is not what you wanted and you realise how much you really love him and it has taken this break up for you to really see how much you want the relationship to work ...... Good luck
835761
I was suspicious of my ex... and he was a cheater.. which is why he is my ex  :)   Go with your gut feelings.. and if you can't trust someone, you shouldn't be with them. It will never work if there isn't honesty in the relationship and you will drive yourself crazy worrying about what he is doing..good luck.
702578
You are an unusual person!!!\n\nIt's ok to still have some kind of feelings for the ex. But for 5 months you have been living a lie w/ you bf? Why do you do that to him?\n\nYou have been cheated by the boyfriend, and the friend.\nI would move on with someone who would make me forget that pig who cheated on me.It's not fair that you stay with the current bf if you think you still love the ex.\nMaybe he's not the one for you either.\nSorry, but true.Cuz in my own experience, I felt bad for a while for the ex. But the new one made me forget, pretty quick!!!!!
416441
Alright, my best advise would be to find someone else.  Not necessarily a bf but a guy friend that you can relate with and would care about if something happens just to get your mind off your ex.  You need to get over it if he has a kid cause he will never come back as much as you would like and im sorry for that but you need to put your mind other places besides on him.
636790
The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy,treat yourself well,stay away from your ex,and move on,my friend.Best wishes:)
566981
You need to get on the phone and call all of your friends. Have lots of girls nights out. Have some fun. Forget about him. Its hard, you will think about him all the whole time. But force yourself to keep busy. Keep your mind busy. Eventually it will get easier. Your ex is playing you and his girlfriend. He feels insecure about himself and his current relationship. He isnt worth your time of day! Don't you feel sorry for her that he is actually leading you on. Telling you that he is going to come back to you? Wouldn't that be considered "emotional cheating" on her? Think- if he is doing this to her, then he must have done the same to you. You are better then him. Go OUT ! Have fun while you are single. If it was meant to be, then so be it. But don't wait your precious time sitting around waiting for him when you could be spending it with people who really care about you- "your friends & family" Who knows, one of these days you might meet somebody who treats you with respect, "unlike your ex" and then you can tell him.... "Now who will be sitting around waiting..."\n\nHave fun!
533221
Just tell the new guy the truth.  That your sorry, but you and your ex expectantly got back together and that you hope he understands.  If he is a really nice guy he will wish you the best and everything will be cool.  These things happen sometimes.