This is no joke I am going through some real sh** & need real advise WHAT WOULD U DO HONESTLY 4 LOVE& FAMILY?
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You're not stupid for wanting to stay. You cared about this guy enough to try to build a family with him, and you put up with abuse because you didn't want to give up on him or your marriage. Those sort of motivations are wonderful.\n\nBut the fact is that your staying in an abusive situation does not help him or you or your kids. He has no reason to change, you are getting hurt, and the example of your relationship is what your kids will grow up thinking is "normal," so they'll be prone to repeat it.\n\nTake things one step at a time. Don't look at it as "ending your relationship with your husband" -- that might occur, you might not be able to avoid it, but that's something way down the road. Don't think about that. Your first step should be to get help, from a counselor or social worker, and they can work with you to determine what the next step is. \n\nYou are in a difficult situation, with kids to think about and an ongoing pregnancy, so I know it's hard to uproot your family in order to deal with the problems... but it will only get worse if you don't. \n\nFind someone face to face with who you can talk freely and get help from. You will need lots of support and safety to make this change.
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Wow, they should be gracious to still have you. Why don't you all work together and help eachother out? Why all this seperation? A family is supposed to be a team, and there is no "I" in team. I would suggest that you all get counseling honestly...before it does kill you. Get help, all of you.
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Keep praying and doing good for others. God will come through for you. Good luck.
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i myself just came out about it to my family and the only way i personally have stopped myself from doing it again is remeber that things WILL get better and that you do have people who love that will help you through the rough times. The most important thing to remeber is that there are better ways to deal with your problems
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I think you need to be honest with yourself and bring everything out in the open.There are reasons why you hurt so deeply,the only way to ever move past it is to go through it.The first thing you need to do is to know your worth,that yes things have happened in your life as they do us all some more than others.You have to take it as a learning experience it will only make you stronger in time,sometimes we can help others through our own trials,its not always easy you have to keep going though.Drinking and partying or any of these things you are doing its not healing your pain it wont its a bandaid.Get real ,loose the crutch,try to find positive people to surround yourself with,then you will see a positive outcome.If you really want things to change it will also help you to know that,God is always with you even when you are not with him,I hope that you can find the light to lead you out of such a dark place,I know its there I found it so can you,you just have to reach for it.May God keep watch after you.
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It sounds like you are better off without your family. I agree with one who suggested counseling. It is usually a good and helpful experience. Also, it is very lonely not to have a family. I always made family out of my friends. Having close friends can feel the same as being with your family.  Do you have any extended family(aunts, uncles, cousins) that would help you feel connected and loved? If you think there's any way I can help, feel free to contact me. :^)
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Talk to someone close a friend, a neighbor, a counselor. There is help out there! You didn"t tell us why your life is caving in. Could probably help better if I knew!!
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Sometimes we just need time alone  to find out what it is that we are missing. Sure family is great and a good distraction from everyday things but when you want to find out things like this is better to be alone go to the beach take a walk this will help.Also it helps to talk to an outsider they might hava a different opinion than those who know both of you. I offer myself if you want to talk I am a really good listener and maybe I can give you some advise. Make sure you let me know how everything went. My email is Junior_03yes@yahoo.com
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sweetie u need some councling, sorry u had to go through something like that
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Keep all your doctor appointments and do what your told. Don't dwell on something you have no control over. Be thankful your still alive and able to enjoy your family.
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he's already in a hell of a situation so dont involve urself in his sh*t..\n\nlet him get over his family matters 1st & then when it's done, u may continue hoping that a relation might arise b/w u 2..
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im very sorry about losing your father and it takes time to get over losing someone that you love.i know your mother is dear to you and she is very sick and you have to be strong for her.your a young child and things just arent going your way and im very concerned about your situation.why dont you ask GOD for help?HE is stronger than any storm in your life and HE does hear our cries for help.HE knows your hurting from these things in your life that have caused heartache. i also have lost my entire family and its tough on a grown man and it twice as bad for a young person.i will pray for your mom and for you. i do know if you put your faith and trust in GOD everything will work out just trust HIM completely.GOD bless you dear one and know i am sincere about your life.
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Ever ask why? Find a church and ask God to forgive them. you are who you are...........live with it or move on. I had a put down family and only when i got a job and moved on with my life they were not a part of it,now they beg for me to help them, what goes around comes around sweetie...Hang tough
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Its still really close...  Give it time, its a hard thing to deal with.  For now just take one day at a time as they come, and don't get overwhelmed.  Make sure you take care of yourself, and also be sure not to bottle up your emotions, 'cause that will only make things harder.  It probably sound cliche by now, but I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope things work out for you.
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Be there for the family as much as you can, that is a great help to her.  Ask her if she would like to speak to someone in the clergy so she can be prepared for what is coming.  I'm sorry that you are all going through such a bad time.
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By all means, please don't kill yourself. Life is what you make it. I know this world can be a cruel place, but you can find solace in God. It sounds like you are a good person with a good heart. Don't despair. Pray for your life to be filled with happiness and love. I will pray for you and keep reminding yourself that your life will only get better. I have been a victim of all those things that you have mentioned, but it only made me stronger as a person. Go out more, spend time with your favorite family members, learn a new hobby, go for the job you always wanted,and find a place of worship where you can confess your heartaches to. Also, keep telling yourself that you are lovable, loving, and you are loved. It helped me and I hope it helps you. Feel better.
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Pray to God for strength, courage and wisdom to move on and guide you in His direction. He loves you very much and will see that you will carried through this troubled time in your life.\nGod bless you and give you peace.