How can I get over the pain of a relationship when I am left  months pregnant?
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You need to filter out your future relationships before you get serious. Use birth control and condoms.\n\nTell Mr. Irresponsible that he'll have to pay child support til the child is 18 and having a child will effect him for the rest of his life. If he wants to be ignorant for the rest of his life and not be apart of your child's life, then he is making a big mistake.\n\nMaybe next time you'll look for Mr. Nice guy instead of Pimp daddy?
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Realize what happened and why. You have to make it clear to yourself that this is not all your fault. It takes two people to make a relationship start, and two people to have lead it to the break up. \n\nAccept your pain. Have your good long cries if you feel like it. It's okay to be hurt and feel alone and feel like you have messed up. \n\nBut you have to know that you are a good person and this is not all one-sided. \n\nThink through everything in your head. Maybe even try to ask yourself what went wrong. But you also have to think of why you two broke up. There had to have been a reason for it all to end, right? If there was a reason but it wasn't a good one, then this person isn't worth your time. \n\nDeal with the hate phase. This is where you want to just scream because you are so angry, even furious. The amount of anger you feel all depends on how bad the "split" was. You may even feel like you hate yourself, but get out of that feeling fast! It's a waste of time to be hating and ripping yourself apart for no reason. \n\nTalk to your friends. They are always a source of advice and help. If you are close with any family members, they may be a good source of advice/guidance. You want people around you that love you and who will help you see that you should love yourself too and that you don't need this sort of pain. \n\nWrite all your feelings down. Write in a journal or write poems. Most of all, be absolutely honest and don't edit yourself as you go. One of the best results of writing it all down is that sometimes you will be amazed by a sudden insight that comes to you as you are pouring out your thoughts onto paper. Patterns may become clearer and as your grieving begins to lessen, you will find it so much easier to "get" what you're supposed to be learning from the whole experience if you've been writing your way through it. No relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself from having gone through it all with your heart open to both joy and pain. Just because it didn't work out doesn't mean it wasn't a necessary part of your journey to becoming who you're meant to be. \n\nKeep fond memories. Sometimes there are things that remind us of another person. Say, you hear a song or see a picture that reminds you of your ex, you probably get all sad and worked up. \nWell, instead of feeling that way, try to think of how happy that memory used to make you, and leave it at that. \n\nDon't overreact. You may be feeling lonely, and want to be with someone, but don't go back to your ex unless you really believe you should be together. Likewise, don't jump into another relationship as a rebound, just to make yourself feel better. It's not fair to the other person, and will eventually lead to another breakup. \n\nFind happiness in other areas of your life. Whether that means spending time with your friends and family, taking up that class you've always wanted to take, or reading every book on the New York Times bestseller list, remind yourself that there's more to life than being in a relationship. Indulge in those things. \n\nLet go. See that there is no sense in still being heartbroken, regretful, and having hatred toward that person. Realize that although your relationship with that person was very unique and special in a lot of ways, all good things must come to an end. \n\nAnd when they do, that's when you see all the flaws in your relationship and that it's best that you aren't together. \n\nTips \nYou have to walk out of your heartache, knowing that you have done all that you can do, said all that you can say, and given as much as you could give. If you feel all this and that you did your part, but he or she didn't meet you halfway, then you'll be just fine. \n\nDo not put yourself through more pain than you have to. Do not think about where he or she would be right now and if you sh
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Since you have a child together, the two of you will always be connected. You just have to learn to deal with it. Its hard, I know through personal experience. Good luck.
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You need to call a suicide hotline or get in touch with a Planned Parenthood in your area.  They can advise you on the steps you need to take to get over this.  Dump the boyfriend, as he is an unsupportive jerk and get someone to help you heal.  Physically and Emotionally you are worn out.  You need to take a break, step back from the drama and talk with a counsellor.
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That is a hard one to answer because only you can work through the pain. Rely on God to help you through this mess that your husband is putting you through...Cejay
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HAVE YOU TRIED TELLING HIM HOW YOU FEEL!? LETTING GO IS NEVER EASY ESPECIALLY WHEN YOUR AROUND ONE ANOTHER ALL THE TIME!! BUT, AS A WISE PERSON ONCE SAID, "WHAT DOESN'T KILL US WILL MAKE US STRONGER" AN I BELIEVE THIS TO BE TRUE! I THINK YOU OUGHT TO STOP SEEING EACH OTHER ALL TOGETHER UNTIL THE BABY IS BORN(SURE LET HIM COME TO DR. APPT. AN STUFF) BUT AS FAR AS SEEING ONE ANOTHER DON'T DO IT! THIS WAY IT WILL GIVE YOU THE TIME YOU NEED TO GET OVER HIM AN HE CAN STILL BE INVOLVED IN THE BABIES LIFE!!! AN THEN AFTER THE BABY IS BORN AN IF YOU STILL FEEL THE NEED TO BE AWAY FROM HIM THEN TELL HIM! THERE ARE MANY WAYS OF PARENTS RAISING THEIR CHILDREN WITHOUT HAVING TO BE AROUND ONE ANOTHER! I KNOW THIS CAN'T BE EASY FOR YOU(BEING PREGNANT) AN ALL!! BUT, I WISH YA THE BEST AN HOPE THAT MY ADVICE CAN BE SOME HELP TO YOU! IF YA WANT YOU CAN EMAIL ME AN I'LL TRY TO HELP ANYWAY I CAN!!!\n\n\nBEST OF LUCK!!!
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In your situation I'm not quite sure that there is a right thing to do. My suggestion would be to talk with her and if she too feels that the relationship is over, then maybe you two should consider joint custody. That way, you never have to live without your child in your life. Find a solution where the least amount of pain is caused. It's a tought situation and I wish you all the best.
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i think that you have just gotten used to him. why put yourself through all of this pain. i know how you feel. i dated a guy for about 5 years and i finally had to end it and it took me a very long time (years) to get almost over him, i still have dreams about him. but you are in an abusive realtionship (emotioanlly) you need to get out before it gets any worse. and i beleive that it has to be torture for him too. it might not be love it just might be that you are in your comfort zone. get out while you're still young. i don't condone abortion but i think that you not having the baby was a very wise decision for you two, i just wanted to let you know that. good luck and be strong... for yourself
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Sorry to hear that but you have to get over him honey. He has a baby and he has to be there for his kid. Besides wouldn't you want you first kid to be your man's first kid as well. Get over him or you will get hurt.GOOD LUCK!
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It sounds like You are in a lot of pain, I have felt this same way over and over again in my life, here are my tips maybe they will help... 1st calm down, and think about when you  two first met, 2nd find a nice time to calmly discuss your feelings with your mate, be careful of your words, but tell him how you feel. It doesn't sound as if you don't want any thing bad to happen to this relationship so don't mention the bad word "divorce". Also take a day for your self, go shoping with a friend or just cudle up with a good book, and remember everything will get better, ok good luck , I really hope this helps You. Marriage and Love is worth trying everthing ( and remember if this stuff dosn't work consider coucling, it is worth it).
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Getting your period is your bodies way of getting rid of placenta that was never used to carry a child.  The pain you are experiencing (they say but I dont believe them) is your bodies way of preparing you for child birth.  If you are that uncomfortable, I would talk to your doctor because you could have endometriosis.  I had that and had to have a hysterectomy.  I couldnt stand the pain and got just as sick if not sicker than you.  I truly feel for you.  Talk to your doctor and have him run the tests.  Get things ruled out.  I will keep you in my prayers.  I really feel for you.
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I take it your the male in the relationship.\n\nGive your gf some time, she is only after having your baby, she is probably exhausted from all the night feeds etc etc.\n\nMost women don't feel attractive after having a baby and it has only been 2 months, you need to give her some time in getting your baby into a routine and then finally getting herself back to "normal".\n\nBelieve me, when the spark does come back in, you will know about it,just try to be supportive for a while longer...be thankful that your gf doesn't have Post Natal Depression.\n\nThe arguing is only because you are frustrated and she is tired, try to work together on this, a baby does turn your whole world upside down for a while until you get "used" to having another person in your life, especially one that depends on both of you so much.
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You can't avoid the pain and awkwardness.  Just be decent, try not to be angry at the time, and just "man up" and get it done.  It will hurt you both, but you'll get over it.
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So sorry that you are going through this. I can relate 100%.\nThe pain and depression from a break up can take over your life if you let it.. It did me for a while and I still have my moments. (I was w/ my now ex for 19 yrs.)It has been 9 months since my break up...\n(he also walked out on his 2 daughters)..\nDrugs and alcohol can consume a persons morals and soul...\n\nHere are some things that helped me and some I still continue to do:\n\nWrite a letter to her, but don't mail it, this is for you to express your feelings...burn it after reading this letter.. write and burn as often as you wish.. it does help.. this helps me to let go..\n\nKeep a daily journal of how you feel each day. \nJot down a POSITIVE word to describe yourself (loving, caring, compassionate, outgoing, and so on.).\n\nTake a long brisk walk, go for a swim, go to the gym... do something just for your self, something that you like and brings a smile...\n\nMake a  pro/con list of the relationship you had with her.\ndon't nit pick or sugar coat this list...be HONEST....\nThen make a list of the things you want to find in a woman(NOT HER)..don't over load this list, no one it perfect..\nI had to redo my list a few times....\n\nGo out with your freinds or family, DO NOT ISOLATE YOURSELF from others or life.... it only makes life harder for you!!!\n\nRemember and remind yourself that she chose her life and you can not change her.(I tried to change my ex and waited for him to grow up and change his life for 19 yrs., I lost out on a lot more then just losing him)...\n\nRemind your self that YOU are a GOOD person and you have control of your life, you can't change the past BUT you can change your future and make it happy if you choose.\nYou have control of you!!!\n\nAgain I'm sorry you are hurting so deeply. \nIn time you will feel better and begin to start your life over.. look to make friends with other women first..\nDo NOT rush into a new relationship just to be with some one and not be alone... THIS WILL NOT HELP YOU...\n\nIf you want to chat, email me, I'll be your chat pal.\n\nI hope this helps..
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He is using you. If he left you while you were pregnant then he is a looser. Then he just wants to have sex. He is just using you until he finds someone else don't put your self in that mess with him. You feel guilty because you have his child. Don't be that girl.
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you'll get over it with time. i know it sounds stupid but time does heal things. maybe it'll always give you a wierd feeling in your stomache, but it'll be less and less after awhile.
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Find someone knew and get distracted.\n\nI know it sounds trite, but remember when your hampster (or other pet) would die and your parent's would buy you a new one to make you feel better? Well, it worked, didn't it?\n\nA new love will distract you from the pain while you heal. Next thing you know, you'll be over it.