Why do lesbians often find partners that look like themselves? Is homosexuality a form of narcism?
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If I found myself, I would totally do me. I mean, why not? I'm hot, and I know what I like. \n\nBut I think alot of couples look alike, including straight couples. Maybe you see something familiar in someone else's face, it strikes a cord.  Do couples start looking like each other, by picking up each other's gestures, stances, etc? or do they choose someone who lookes like them to begin with?\n\nNow for the real question, why do people look like their dogs? (and vice versa) Think it's the same kinda thing?
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No there doesn't always have to be a "masculine" and "feminine" member in every homosexual relationship. However I've seen it both ways.
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Dear vBoy,\n   Many people who are primarily attracted to members of their own sex have gone through a period of confusion during which they tried to form a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.  Perhaps they felt a need to live up to the expectations of others, family, society at large, etc.  But if the attraction is almost exclusively toward the same sex, these people eventually may decide to identify themselves as gays or lesbians.  Sexuality is quite fluid and diverse, however, as Kinsey explained.  For example, in Italy it is quite common to meet handsome young men who have relationships with older men, primarily for financial benefit, but later the young men get jobs and marry and have a family.  Are these men gay?  Straight?  The question is irrelevant.  Sexuality is essentially behaviour.  Even those who have early on identified themselves as gay may at some time have relations with the opposite sex.  It might be situational, or it might be out of pure physical and emotional attraction.  If you desire to know more about such matters, there are many groups who can supply information.  PFlag is a good start.  Look up a local chapter of Parents and Friends of lesbians and gays (PFLag).  I hope my answer has helped.
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Lesbians are just like any other people, and just happen to like girls instead. We're still humans! By the way thats a hot picture you got there! ;)
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it's worst to be many others (i.e, heartbreaker, liar, etc)\nbeing lesbian is being with another girl, loving her, committing to her, just like another healthy relationship.\njust be who you are, as long as you promote love, not sex or hatred!
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Many people find themselves falling off the fence, (as they say... LOL) once they actually get same sex lovers.  In most women's cases, the discovery of lesbian sex makes them realize that men and penises are vastly overrated.  \nDoes that mean you're a lesbian?  Well, lesbianism isn't just about sex, it's also about love.  Many straight women don't really care much for straight sex, but they fall in love with men.  So they're straight.  If you can't see yourself ever loving a man, then yes, you're a lesbian.  But if you're unsure, well, then you're unsure.  And that's fine, there's always time.
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I think it's natural we are attracted by people who are different from ourselves. \nYou're not a hypocrite!!! Not at all. Many of us find other races attractive but only some of us are ready to talk about it directly. Those who hide the truth are hypocrites. The problem is that former generations rarely allowed the couples to mix. I think it was the matter of identity and fear of being judged by other people.  \nFortunately, world has changed now and people have changed as well. We are used to a view of 'mixed pairs' and I love the view! I dream I will also be in such relationship someday...
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Being attractive does not depend on being lesbian or straight. I know pretty straight girls and pretty lesbians. The reason why you think there are more pretty straight girls is ecaue since, numerically, there are more straight girls, statistically, there are more pretty straight girls BUT there are more ugly straight girls than lesbians too. There are less ugly lesbians than ugly straights and less pretty lesbians than pretty straights just because there are less lesbians in the first place.\nDon't worry you'll find the pretty lesbians too...\nGod luck!;)
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Because they are projecting their own homoerotic thoughts onto the women. You'll notice, most men who are crazy about lesbians are also homophobic. Psychologically they are saying 'YOU are the gay one..Not Me'. Most of the psychological community agrees on this.
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Because many people feel that it is morally wrong to be bisexual or a lesbian. If course much of that feeling is based in their opinions about their own sexuality ("I'm straight therefore everyone has to be straight").
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Because lesbians are more accepted in society than gay men.I believe that's because of  male fantasy of having two women together.
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dolphins and giraffes both form long term homosexual relationships. There is a kind of monkey that prefers lesbian relationships. \n\nThey are born that way, it has to do with levels of estrogen and testosterone in the womb. I feel that love is love, no matter where you find it. \n\nReligiously: If God makes everyone/everything, and God makes no mistakes, then she made them they way that she wanted them (gay) and it was not a mistake nor was it wrong in any way.\n\nIt is society that has decided that being gay is bad. And not all societies feel/felt that way. For example the ancient Greeks (inventors of democracy) were thought strange if the did NOT have a young male lover. Women didn't count as they were locked up in the hosue and not allowed out. If they needed to go to their friends party or to concert or such they took their young homosexual lover, not their wife.
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As with all cultures, there is definitely a fragmenatation within the gay community.  It depends how stable and established the community is before it forms subcultures.  For gay men, you can be a twink, bear, queen, fashionista, muscle mary, drug whore... the list is endless.  Many people find that they associate with one particular group (eg muscle marys may find that they have a shared interest in going to the gym).  Lesbians can be butch, femme, dykes, into tattoos.. again the list is a long one.\n\nFar from being a negative thing, this subdividing should be seen as positive - it shows that gay culture is strong enough to allow fragmentation.  Some people see their sexuality as a secondary thing.  As long as gay people remember the battles our forefathers had to get us to this point, our communities should stay strong.\n\nThere is one further point to remember - not all transvestites are gay.  There are many straight people who enjoy the experience of wearing the other gender's clothes.  They tend to be drawn to gay communities because we are seen as being more tolerant of those who appear different.\n\nOf course you are going to get the odd person who verbalises an intolerance towards others.  I think this actually is an expression of self-loathing and low self esteem, something that is a recurring theme in the gay community.  If you hear people critisising others, ignore them, they're not worth the effort.  Eventually if we all work towards a common goal of support and acceptance, they will tire of being ignored and join the party.
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Do they have to be lesbians?  Because most lesbians are, indeed, as you say, 'pretty well over the male body'.  Not to say that there aren't lesbians who sleep with men- I know there's a whole queer renaissance of kinky lesbians and gay men who love to get it on together and call it gay sex (because they're both gay)- but it's a small niche.\n\nIf it's not the fact that they're lesbians, but just that 'lesbian look' (boyish but pretty), so to speak, well, there are a lot of bisexual girls of that nature, and straight ones, too.  I bet you could find yourself one.  Good luck!
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This is a complex theoretical debate.  I think it is safe to say that they become an opposite-sex couple, but retain their queer identity because:\n\n(1)  one of them still identifies (presumably) as lesbian/bi or gay/bi;\n(2)  the other is transgendered (also a form of queer identity).\n\nBut the driving issue really becomes how they identify themselves and how their surrounding social world identifies them.  They are very likely still going to face the oppression and discrimination that same-sex couples must face.  \n\nAlso, be careful about confusing "opposite-sex couples" with "heterosexual couples."  A bisexual man and a bisexual woman who are together are an opposite-sex couple, but not a heterosexual couple, because heterosexual is not a description of the pairing of genders, but of their identities.\n\nHope this is helpful.
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I think it's one of the most natural, understandable things in the world. Women are beautiful and sensual - why wouldn't other women be attracted to them? Homosexual men... well that's just gross.
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People think that lesbians are so desperate to have sex or whatever, that they'll hit on any person who doesn't have male reproductive organs. They think that lesbians are women who want to be men so much that they are out to take their women too! \n\nOf course, as all we lesbians know, (yes, that includes yours truly) it isn't true most of the time. But a few stupid ones have caused the stereotype for the rest of us "normal" lesbians. \n\nAll I can say is stick close to the friends who understand and go out and have fun!\n\nHope I helped! \n~Pancake