What do you get a friend whose just found out she has cancer?
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Just be there for her.  If she has kids maybe suggest putting together a scrapbook or video journal for them. But just be there for her-best gift of all
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Magazines, books, cd's, snacks, wetwipes (loved them), socks, and etc...\n\nAlso, send extra for his or her friends as they may not be getting anything.  If you can...
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Contact the AMerican Cancer Society. They can offer help to you and your mom. They can send you information, find doctors, explain chemo or medication questions, and they can help find someone you can talk to about your feelings.\n\nI will keep you and your mom  in my prayers!!
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get to a doctor imediately, the longer u wait with cancer, the worse things get. Cancer is cured by early detection and treatment.
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Has she had a PET scan to try and find the primary cancer? If she has bone cancer that has spread from an unknown primary cancer then this is not a good situation. She has been given the radiation for palliative pain control in her bones and not as a curative treatment. Make sure her pain is treated properly as it will probably increase over time. Perhaps it is time to contact hospice or make other preparations to take care of your mother. \n\nHere is a good webpage about cancer of unknown primary so that you can better ask questions about treatment options of your mother's Drs. Make sure you have realistic expectations because there is no reason to make her sick from chemotherapy if the treatment will not produce remission or extend life span.  good luck\n\nhttp://www.emedicine.com/med/topic1463.htm
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I am about to have a tumor the size of a cantalope removed from my body this Friday.  I also have a mass on a kidney.  I would be leaving behind three great little kids.  I care if you live.  You don't know what you have until there is a threat that it will be taken from you.  When I was younger I admitted myself to a psych hospital for three weeks because I didn't see any more reason to live.  Back then I really couldn't see any future for me.  If I had only known all the good things that were down the road.  Life is a gift and the best is yet to come.   Even if things are tough now, believe me, better days are ahead.  I care very much.  I don't want to die, and it hurts me to think of someone not understanding what they are throwing away.  Please seek help if you are serious.  Your are worthy of a wonderful life.  You deserve good things.  I don't know you, how old you are, what your situation is or if you are just bored and typing this question to see what people say but no matter what your reason for writing, I can assure you as someone facing some scarey stuff, I care very much that you CARE that you live.
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There's nothing you can say that will really make your friend feel better so - just LISTEN.  \n\nJust being there with someone in mourning makes a huge difference.
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an oncologist is a doctor who specializes in treating cancer, oncology is the study of cancer..so most likely your friend passed away of cancer..I'm so sorry for your loss
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man, take care of her , be there when she needs you , have patience , try to rise her self-confidence , don`t let her see  your worries and be the supporting shoulder when she needs one. try to talk to the doctor and find out exactly what her status is , there are many forms of cancer that can be treated  and in chase something bad takes place...be there for her...forever...  you`ll have a lifetime to know that you did something well. take care man and hope for the best
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It is very difficult to say without more specific information. Often surgery can remove all the cancer and future treatment often relates to level of the thyroid hormones which are reduced due to the thyroid having been removed. \nYour friends post operative appointment would discuss all of this with her. She will also have had tests to see if the cancer had spread.\nBy the sound of things her optimistic outlook may have came from her follow up appointment. \nMaybe you should discuss your concerns with her. This may reassure you. Best wishes to you both.
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Hello. I am too a Breast Cancer survivor. Try asking some friends or family to host a benefit for you. I helped with one that raised well over $10,000 by having a spaghetti feed, raffle, and silent auction. It was awesome. You can get local businesses to donate items and food etc.  Talk to some of your family and/or friends. I know that might be awkward, but I think if you explain you financial burdens (which I know and understand all too well) they might be willing to do this for you. Good luck!
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It is up to her oncologist. Get a good one. Maybe she will be given radiotherapy. She should stop eating too much meat, do alot of deep breathing cos it seems cancer cells don't like and can't survive on oxygen but thrive on carbon dioxide. Take alot of fresh fruit juice (buy a juicer and start juicing). Take wheatgrass and more vegetables.  Read up on ovarian cancer on the internet.
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tell her you are going through something right now and thank her also try keeping her as a friend later on you may like her and you'll want to have her there at your side.
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When I worked on a private ambulance, there was an elderly lady with breast cancer we used to transport on a regular basis to get radiation treatment. I got to know her pretty well. She didn't have any family. Well, She was in need of some heavier pajama's so that she wouldn't be as cold, and didn't have to take the entire thing off for her treatment. So I bought her 3 or 4 new sets of pajamas to wear. She was really happy about it and it made me feel great.
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Hi. I am an oncology nurse experienced with breast cancer. Congratulate your mother on catching her breast cancer. It sounds like she caught it early. It is ok to be scared. The best way to deal with this is to find out all you can about your mom's diagnosis and what her plan of care is. Many of the treatments can have some side effects, which are normal. Your mom should find out about them and be prepared for what to expect. Half the battle of cancer is in the mind. She needs you and your dad to be concerned but also keep a positive attitude. Your mom will be tired during her treatment. You and your dad can help by doing little things like the laundry, cooking and helping around the house so she won't be stressed about that. Also many patients who get chemo like to have a friend or family member there during their transfusion. Offer to be there. Cancer is not easy but what it can do is really remind you how much you love each other. Just be there, tell your mom you love her and ask her what she needs. Also be nice to your dad. This is sometimes harder for the guys even if they don't show it. Good luck and God bless <><
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Give her something that will remind her of how much you care. Make it personal. Make her a coupon book for when she gets out of the hospital. Figure out what she liked to do and also what she should be able to do when she gets out. If she's able to walk, make one thats good for a long walk in the park... and so on.
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As the cancer grows, the pressure it places on surrounding structures within the brain increases. This will increase the severity of the symptoms. Depending on the type of cancer it is (whether it's primary or a metastasis), the growth rate will vary. Obviously, faster growing cancers will cause the symptoms your friend is suffering from to increase in severity rather rapidly. Conversely, if the tumor is a slower growing one, your friend can live a relatively functional life for a long period of time.\n\nTherefore what you can expect to see in your friend can be quite variable. Generally speaking, if untreated, her current symptoms will worsen, and new symptoms may appear such as seizures, difficulty walking, loss of vision, memory loss, and personality changes. The usual cause of death in a patient with brain cancer would be respiratory failure.\n\nWith more information, such as the type of cancer (if known), when it was diagnosed, and how the symptoms have progressed over time, I can provide you with a more specific answer.