I need some advice! Is this fair?
609759
Well you need to let him know all these feelings you are having.  He needs to pull his weight around the house; afterall, it took the two of you to have the kids, it takes the two of you to raise them.  He isn't doing anything and needs to.
1175580
Pay that No mind. When people say things like that they usually want what you have. Unless you know for sure or hear it from a VERY reliable source, let it go and hold on .
1005809
I would tell him the truth. Tell him that is all payed for and it can't be cancel or reschedule and that you will make it up to him this only time. Don't forget to use please.
1102836
My first thought is to move on. However, that also depends on the amount. You have a responsibility to take care of your family. I also think about the principle of the matter and you should FIGHT!! How many others have been treated like this? Or how many more will there be if you don't step up?  I also would like to point out that your mutual friends will probably feel forced to choose sides. But if he goes to your church he should do the right thing in the first place. That is wrong of him to with hold your money! Good luck with your choice.
828420
Keep your money. \nThere is no such thing as a free lunch. \nNever give a sucker an even break. \nThere is one born every second. \nYou have been saved from ruin by \n\nYAHOO ANSWERS
884534
Keep it down girl for gods sake.\n\nI'm £50 up already.\n\nSshhh.....\n\nXX
263941
I sort of agree with Big Ed...but you got some complications in this situation.\n\nAre you in agreement that all income is "Ours"?  Or is it that he puts in only a portion into the pot.  This is not good!\n\nI've shown people how to create a budget on a worksheet.  You can project into the future what your finances will be, and can budget your "play" money accordingly.  You are nervous because you don't really have a clue what is coming up.  By budgeting, it should help you out.\n\nDo a search on the internet for "budgeting" and get some ideas.  If you are still stumped send me an email and I'll show you how it's done.  \n\nThe fact that you now own your home indicated you are off to a good start.  Don't stumble now!
665193
Did you mean one at a time? If not then you are in for a treat if you are lucky. Could be exhausting though, if there is more than one of us we get really mad if we don't get our share. Trust me it can work out, but is not easy. Best of luck. Joan. UK.
122850
I agree with nauty_grl and bingo.  Sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands.  You have nothing to lose and a lot to gain!
845983
Insist you be paid. Call your clients yourself and explain without too much details and without being catty. If you let it slide, he will keep on doing what he is doing and do it to someone else in the future as well
435508
hope she says no?! erm lifes a bi*ch, ya gota get as much out of as you can. if they got in there first then fair play 2 them...sorry mate
106289
doesn't sound too good... Life is not always fair. Get done with it get a good job make a lot of money and be happy. that is what you should really be worried about.
547738
Sounds like a kindness on your part.  Just don't get your hopes up to be hurt.  People can be harsh.
899747
tell her she can have the reciept for half price - then you both win - you get 1/2 your money - and she only pays 1/2 price as well - no harm done...better than loosing all your money for no good reason
381804
You got emergency they got business.\n\nBut I think it is not fair.
763380
My wife was good at manipulating me when I believed what she said.  Now I don't put any value in anything she says and the funny thing is WE are happier.\n\nA while back we seperated (she was having an affair).  She said she wanted to be fair so I took the word "fair" to heart.  She moved out so I took over all the house hold bills because I was using everything, but her student loans, her car payments were hers.  We also consolidated our debt and she paid me half to which promptly paid.  She had access on the internet to see it was paid every month and never late.  So things seem fair right?\n\nI don't need much free spending cash to get by so all the sudden I had more money than I needed.  My wife however, had to pay a seperate rent and other bills so her cash flow was pretty low.  She then said we should go into mediation and discuss child support.  She already said that she didn't want allimony.  Now I don't go into negotiations blind so I read up on child support.  As we were waiting to meet the person who would mediate my wife & I she was telling my how money was so tight.    \n\nWhen we actually meet with the mediator I took charge saying that I just want to make sure what we were doing is "fair".  Then I Iaid out how we had already divided up the bills and that my wife did not want allimony.  The mediator agreed everything seemed fair.  Now my wife brought up child support and restating she didn't want allimony.  I then pulled out what I had learned that in the state I lived in child support was a simple mathematical calculation based on the percent of time each parent had the children.  The look on my wife's face was priceless when I told her from what I found she would have to pay ME childsupport.  My wife grabbed those papers so quick I almost laughed.  The mediator glanced at them and said if the numbers where right then I was correct.  The look on my wife's face was priceless and I think this was also the same time she started to realized that the fantasy life she was hoping to have was never going to happen.  \nI left the meeting feeling happy that my life could only get better.  I continued seeing a few new friends with benefits for a six months or so and my wife found out that her lover was not as stable financially as she thought.  We did get back together, but I always try to be fair.
987539
it is not wrong.\nbut you should know your limits.