My daughter (11) wants to walk around the Mall with her friends unsupervised.  I have a bad feeling about this
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I think she should go. tell her to give you a call on her cell phone if she has one (if not, let her hold yours) My mom was very protective of me growing up. I never went unsupervised until I was about 16. I think she'll appreciate the freedom!
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Hi.  I understand your feelings. I had to wear a bra when I was 11.  I remember having to go and buy one, and the bag opening at the wrong end and the bra falling out in the isle at the mall.  I was humiliated.  I am now 46, and I still remember it like yesterday.  I feel your uncomfortable feeling, as I have nieces that feel the same way.  Some girls your age are more daring with their bodies, and don't seem to be so discrete.  I would suggest that you possibly write your mother a nice note, explaining to her that your feel unsure how to approach this with her, but need her help and advise. I know she will understand.  In the meantime, if you need something in an emergency, there are thrift stores that sell bras for very little money, if you have a couple of dollars. Good luck sweetheart.
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my daughter is 10 yrs. the same as yours she can be the sweetest thing and at times the devils advocate. There were times when i would get so enraged that i would hit her until once i pushed her and she hit a mirror and luckily didnt get hurt, after that i learned my lesson and went to a parenting class and learned to control my temper and talk to her when we have a problem.  I have a girlfriend who lives with me and 3 days ago she wanted to move out because of my daughters attitude at times.  At that age there is not much we can do but try to spend more time with them, and talk to them, but most kids dont want to talk, so you can always call the Maury show and see if that helps. Friends have a great deal with your childs decisions, they see a friend have something and automatically they want it. If a friend is allowed to do something or go somewhere why cant they.  Who has the right answer. i dont. but i hope my knowledge helped a little.  You can email me if you want to talk more about this at hilldisplayfixture@yahoo.com.
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some kids are just shy.  my daughter is like that when she is around people she has met before.  she has to be around them about 10 times before she gets comfortable.  i just encourage her to speak clearly, look at people in the eye when she speaks to them and make sure she talks insteak of just nodding.
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That's a tough one.  She's 13, so there's no way of saying you were doing something else that she'd believe.  You might have to bring her to some kind of family counseling place so she can let it all out.\n\nIn the meantime, please make sure your door is locked.\nHope your daughter gets over it soon.
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Don't worry mom your daughter will do fine shes made it this far she will go all the way ,I'm sure she has anxiety she has a lot on her but you can take care of that tell her is only expected to her best and that either way you are very proud of her give her a big hug mom that goes a long way.You don't no how lucky you are in this day and time kids don't get half as far as your daughter and Ill be the first to admit it I have 5 all grown now and none of them graduated.
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i really feel sorry for you sweety but your daughter seems to have made her mind up , i know its hard but just think you tried your best and its your daughter who is the spiteful one not you , try and enjoy the day best you can and spend it with other loved ones maybe when she gets older and her kids grow up she will realise the pain she gave you , hope you have a nice xmas and chin up hun xxx
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I definately do! My daughter is learning how happy people get when she shares, so being the only one home right now, she wants to share with me! Like I'm gonna turn down my daughter's offer of candy!!! LoL! I feel drunk on sugar!!
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Sounds like a fabulous opportunity for your daughter. Go for it.
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it is common now for parents to get there kids involved in so many groups such as the ones you  mentioned. \n some studies have shown that it really not healthy to have to much pre planned supervised  time and no time to play or just be with friends with out it being something that an adult is overseeing. \n will she slow down i don't know but i do know that the studies say the kids sometimes end up burnt out from all of it and just refuse to continue with it all. \n i think that it might be a fantastic thing for her to have a boyfriend  that guy might be you . who ever the guy is he will have to be aware of her schedule and deal with it until she changes it herself. \n i say talk to her attempt to get her out on a date or just to spend some time with you even if that starts with just walking home with her after school . \n good luck to both of you .
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Maybe you could talk to her about it and tell your friends they can't come over so much?  Hopefully your mom will be sensitive to your feelings and put her children's needs first, which is how it should be. It's perfectly natural for you to feel how you're feeling. Parents are supposed to set healthy boundaries between their children's friends and themselves.  Good luck to you, sweetheart.
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I would love to answer your question but I need to know the age of your daughter and what you want her to learn from the activities.  It would help to know what you do for fun.  Young girls like walks where they seek neat things like the chrysalae of butterflies or where you can talk about clouds and how they are made, that sort of thing.  Older girls like to learn crafts like beading, knitting, scrap booking, making collections.  Some like to learn games or draw pictures (learning colors to learning perspective)...it just all depends on the age of the child, your interests and what you want her to learn from the activity. We all want our daughters to develop confidence, able to share, to learn honesty and be a good sport to actual expertise as she gains confidence in her work, to name a few attributes.
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Her parents obviously aren't paying enough attention to where she is, what she's doing, or anything else. An 8 year old can't just walk into the gas station and buy a pack, someone has to be buying them for her. I can't stand parents who don't keep tabs on their kids. Sadly, she'll probably be the 14 year old pregnant girl with a drug problem.
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I have 2 little ones, and I would think that it would be easier for me if someone took the kids away for a bit.  Talk to your daughter about her feelings, then make a decision.
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When my daughter wakes up and starts playing with her toys, gets her mother to run behind her to make her eat. Sleeps peacefully on her father's shoulders...\n\nWish I was a kid like her with no worries and no deadlines <sigh>\n\nBut then I feel sad that within a year or two she will start the tiring journey called Study-Work-Pay life......\n\nWish we remained as Cave-men... <sigh> \n\n.:Fishie:.
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Please read this all the way through, my heart is with you. I have two boys 10 and 6 that did the same thing (flushing). Charging 10 cents every time I found the bowl full stopped my problem. But your daughter seems like she has hit rebellion already. My 6 year old became very sore and he learned his lesson at 4 about wiping. But with your daughter "dirty down there" is not going to work. She's 10 not 4, don't patronize her, think back to when you were 10. Let's face it we were all picking up info from friends about sex. You 3 parents have to get together as a group and realize she is not a child she is a young lady/woman. Lectures and threats are not going to work anymore. She needs to start making her own decisions, educated decisions. Talk to a gynecologist get facts about what could happen if she doesn't clean up her act. Pictures if necessary, of what these diseases can do to her body. She could pick up staf infection just to name one, and wind up in the hospital. (My husband being a fire fighter had a call at one time about a woman with an upset stomach. She wasn't a wiper either her whole body smelt of crap. When they got her to the hospital because no one wanted to check between her legs (which was where the real discomfort was) they found her vagina was infested, stuffed with maggots.)Please do everything in your power to educate her in a way that will help her to help herself make the right choices. Also is she happy with herself, looks, school, and friends. These are all very important to her right now. If she doesn't have it yet soon she will be starting her cycle. You think you have problems now, wait. This is the summer of change for your family. Make it that way, help her, she needs you all just to hear her, and realize she is not a little girl, or even a big girl, she is a young lady/woman. A new hair style, a light colored eyeshadow if not wearing makeup, a few new clothes, you might want to rethink the panty thing. Is she wearing panties that make her feel like a young lady/woman, or is she wearing widebottomed, widesided diaperwear. Help her to feel different about herself. Chin up, no one ever said this parent thing was easy, but think of the good times, keep an open mind, and email me if you need to. We have all been there in one way or another.
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Well, have you spoiled her in her earlier years? Not anything bad about your parenting or something like that, they are adorable and sometimes you can't help but give them everything, lol. My friend did this and when he started asking for help around the house, his daughter felt she didn't have to do it because she never had to before. It went on with a month and he had to talk with her about it every few days. She finally got annoyed and started helping out though, lol. Then again, 11 is near teenager...and we all fear the teenage daughter...and/or the teenage daughter's boyfriend.