I was best friends with this girl for 14 years tough problem i could use some help.?
601039
I was kind of in the same situation with one of my friends I've known for 10 years.  I think that God has planned a certain amount of time for people to be around each other, you know?  Sometimes friends just grow apart and you have to let go.  What's a friendship without trust?  If she really wants to be your friend, then she should be the one to come and aplogize to you because she was in the wrong for dating him in the first place.
724100
I have the same problem. my friend thinks just because she's sooooo popular she can stop hanging around her best friend. maybe you should tell her she doesn't know what type of friend she's leaving behind. if she doesn't listen to you, don't hang out with her anymore and ind a new friend.
380711
My best friend. She was someone who I developed a close bond with early in life, her sister and my brother dated that's how we met. We grew up together and had many wonderful and memorable times together. We were like night and day, have you ever seen the movie beaches that was one of our favorites. She was a very talented and a beautiful girl, she had a great family and she excelled in school. Her parents lived in a well known neighborhood and were active in the community. As she got older she started dating older guys which was gross to me because i had two older brothers and they forbid their friends to even look at me. Anyways my friend went down a dangerous slope. This went on from her high school years till sshe was 19. Towards the end she was recovering from a two week drug binge when she lefther boyfriend. She disappeared during those 2 weeks. She called me once while she was gone, but wouldn't tell me where she was. She returned from her 2 weeks very sick and in need of detoxifing and sleep mainly. She didn't call until after 2 days she had been at her parents. The house where we used to have slumber parties and watch movies, sing and play on the piano, I had my first kiss there. I went to see her she was in poor health, thin and very tired and weak. I remember sitting in the room with her just holding her hand and talking to her. It was so hard to see my friend going through this, I remember telling her that things may be bad and they may get worst but your at at your lowest and you can only go up and that we are all here for her. She recovered and was doing well and living back with her boyfriend. They were talking about getting married and she was going to go to college. A couple of weeks later I got a call from her,she was upset and crying. She said she wanted to leave because her boyfriend/fiance was angry at her. She asked what I was doing. I told her I had plans for a friends bday but she was welcome to go ahead and come over and i would be home later. When I came home that night, my mom was waiting up for me, she told me that my best friend had died, they said she killed herself, no investigation, case closed. That's probably more than you bargained for but it feels good to talk about it. I am not really the type of person who indulges on my feelings to my family, friends and my boyfriend about it.
165335
If you have to work to make them happy then you shouldn't be calling them your best friend. I've had the same best friend for 13 years (Since we were about 8 or 9) and all I've done was be there for her when she needed me. If they want something more from the friendship then maybe they're asking too much. Just do what you can and what you can't do, if they're your best friend they'll understand.
140466
i would talk to her about the situation and see why she has changed.  you can't ignore it, especially if you guys were the bestest of friends.  i mean i would want to know if my friend didn't want to hang out with me anymore, i think i would deserve some sort of explanation.
879835
Yeah let her go on and have it! She's not ditching you it's quite common. My best friend for 20 yrs we did that. Just call her from time to time and be sincere about how she is how shes doing tell her you miss her and wait but still live your life leave her spot open for her...Don't lose touch on your side always leave the ball in her court...Let her adventure and you go do the same....life's to short!\n She will come back around when it's time remember after HS is college! Good luck...I would not take nothing personal towards you...it's the cycle of growing up for some. I am sorry you feel this way though!\n\nMyspace top friends....mine isn't even on mine! It seperates us for our own things so we do not feel smothered by one another...or it gives us space.
1154444
talk to both of them, not at the same time.  first try to work things out with the friend thats like a brother.  fix things there before its too late.  then go bacl to your so- called Best friend and talk to her. ask her why she betrayed you. try to work on it. you can still be friends. i just wouldnt trust her as much as you used to
677395
You obviously hurt her badly and it is taking her some time to get over that. Don't push her, try writing her a letter explaining the tough time you were having (I am sure she knows but tell her anyway) and apologise for what you did.  Tell her what your friendship meant to you, explain how you have changed and grown as a person and see what she says.  She may be too deeply hurt in which case you must let her go but at least you have told her why you behaved the way you did and she may come to understand that in time.
327203
tell her how you feel. i made the mistake of not telling her. i lost one of my best friends ever. dont let that happen, keep your friend and tell her how you feel.
892713
Cherish, you have done all that you can do. The best thing you can now is to begin making new friends. I always tell younger people such as yourself to make as many friends in this life as possible, because you never know what around the corner. Hopefully she will wise up and be the friend to you that she was before. But don't  sit around waiting ok. Don't worry your heart will heal.
600169
You should tell her that you forgive her for what she has done that you know it was an accident that it just really hurt you and that you shouldnt have let that come between your friendship and that you really miss her and that you just want to try and fix things so they can be back to the way they were and that your sorry you took so long to tell her this but if she could find it in her heart to forgive your reaction to her ruining your important thing and become your friend again.I also dont think you can move on from it because that is a long time to have a friend and if yall were really good friends like you say you will never forget her and you will wonder all the time what if i had told her i missed her and we could have been good friends again so i think you should try and fix the friendship instead of just trying to forget and if she says she doesnt want to will then atleast you can move on knowing that you tried thats all you can do good luck i hope i helped
389015
Disconnect from her. She isn't healthy to be around. Some people are like a fungus and grow from the damp rank odors of drama and hurt feelings.\n\nPlease don't make yourself a victim of stupidity and high school drama. Tell her you have things to do and that you might consider being her friend again, but you need time to think.\n\nLet her know that you mean business. If she messes up again, there will BE NO TALKING. Forgiveness can go as far as you want it to - reconstruction of a relationship: Well, that is a whole 'nother story.
809791
talk to her in person, whether or not it's awkward or emotionally filled. \n\nyou were best friends for a reason... moving in together sometimes strains those relationships, but it shouldn't be the end of the friendship. \n\nshe is worth it, so are you. so try to reach out to her this way. if her heart softens, great. if not, at least you tried and you should keep the invitation of friendship open for her to give her some time to mull on it. once you've done everything you could to make things right, you will be able to walk away knowing you did what you could.\n\ntell her you are sorry of what happened between you two, you care about her and love her, and in order for you two have any friendship to salvage- you both need to live separately. it'll take a while, and things may never be exactly the same (and you definitely don't have to have her as a BEST friend, especially if you have lost trust in her), but time WILL heal things. It will be awkward/difficult to do, but it has the best possible outcome. good luck and God bless
228656
Oh wow, tough situation. It would help a little with these type of questions if people told how old they are. If you all are adutls though, just let her know how you feel. Also your best friend doesn't sound like too good of a friend if you even think he might say yes. But then again, maybe he doesn't know how you really feel about her? You should tell him. Real friends wouldn't do things to hurt others. Also, maybe you acted all cool or whatever when you broke up so she thinks you won't care? Honesty and straight-forward communication is always the best policy in every relationship. If she doesn't love you back that's rough but at least you can try to move on. It's a fact of life that at some point we will probably like someone who doesn't like us back and vice versa. It's not pleasant but it's also a good reminder to treat others how you want to be treated...karma can come back and bite you in the butt!
65544
hey girl if ur are her best friend she don't want this from u it dosn't matter if she has boy and u don't the thing is try give more time to ur friend ship talk to ur girl hang with her like always and try to find some thing u can do not to be lonly when she is not around i been there honey and i think the problem start when they don't have time for ur frindship so try to make time for each other
529659
you really have to ask her what's the deal with what happened.but since i assume that she's your bestfriend,then i say that don't let a guy come between friendship.no matter how much you love him.and IF she wants him for herself and she lets this guy come between the two of you, then later down the road you won't be the one feeling guilty about a guy possibly ruining a beautiful friendship.
828322
maybe you should re-evaluate your friendship and talk to her parents about it. maybe she's going through some rough times right now.