Well, I actually confronted gf of infidelity, everything blew up, never got yes or no, I still love her.?
604084
You could stop trying to shift the blame to some non-existent infidelity, when you know this is a situation you personally brought to heel.
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Bygones r bygones.\njust let thm go;let them not affect your present.U love her and u say she loves u more.How can she b cheating u whn u say, she confessed about the facts bfore she proposed to u. What really matters honey, is, did she cheat u after u guyz r together? It is difficult to forget the past but if u keep hangin with, it it will only spoil ur present.try to get out of it.U r hurtin urself and the ones who love u.
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You need to break up. Its never going to be the way it was. There is no trust anymore, and she will always wonder in the back of her mind if your lying, if your cheating again, or if she can believe anything u tell her.  Its hard to trust a person who betrayed you when they were supposed to love u.  I dont think theres anything you can do to fix it except break up and move on.  And honestly .... how can u be mad, there are reactions for every reaction.  Did u really think she was going to be able to forgive u and forget... please.... no. Nobody every forgives and forgets for a cheater. They can forgive... but they can never forget!
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I am so sorry to hear that. I do not know why she did what she did but I would think you better start looking after yourself. You matter a lot, always remember that. Move on with life... we only live once so make most of it. There must be someone out there waiting to be loved by you and will love you till the last breathe... well, I believe in marriage and love and there's always hope!
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I feel sorry for you. I think that she still loves and cares for you, but she has been emotionally drained from the marriage.\n\nWhen a woman is fed up she is fed up. Especially when she in truly in love and her partner is not returning the emotions. She can only keep trying for so long before she has to stop and think about if it is really worth it.\n\nI don't want to say but here it is" You should have treated her like a queen when you had her". It may be to little to late, but try and remain on good terms with her. She may just give you another chance. Just remember, if she does come back, don't fall into the routine of neglecting her feelings. If she leaves again, she may never come back.\n\nGood Luck!
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listen to your heart.\nmy now fiance cheated and got her prgnant and we are getting married and i know how twisted that sounds without going into detail but i di a lot of soul searching so to speak and i just couldnt give up on us. yes you have every right to be angry and you will forgive him in time if you so choose to but take it slow and figure out what it is you want. sounds to me like you really love him and dont want to give up but i don't want to go into  to much detail about my life but i do know what you are going through and you can e-mail me at crazybearnluv69@aol.com if you want and i can better explain.
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Well you do have a mess on your hands. The indiscretion was bad, deceit about it was a lot worse. It is obvious she was aware something was up or she wouldn't have kept asking. She probably knew and just needed evidence or some kind of proof.\n\nWhen you're caught you're caught. Unless there is a way to really cover it up, you just have to bite the bullet and fess up and hope for mercy. The ongoing deceit only makes her think she has no reason to trust you now and in reality she doesn't.\n\nJust about everything you do not reminds her of the 24 months you ran this game on her. There are all kinds of triggers and reminders and to top it off you did cheat and you did so with a family member! Ouch.\n\nYou can assure her you aren't cheating now but you will never take away the doubt. She has to overcome that herself. She is thinking why did you do it the first time and what's stopping you from doing it again?\n\nI would ask her if she wants to break up. It's hard but giving her that option might show her the reality of the situation and calm her fear that you're holding on to her and doing your own thing. Having you cake and eating it too, so to speak.\n\nGood Luck!
859809
I'd label a guy that did this as a 'drama king'.  Hopefully you obtained the desired 'shock effect' you were looking for and can now brag about what you did on the internet.  You could have been more straightforward and broke things off in a more civilized manner.  But it wouldn't have been as much fun for you, now would it?  Do you think you did the right thing in this situation?  And if hundreds of people told you that you did the right thing, would you believe them?  I hope you are satisified with hurting this girl--it sounds like her only sin was wanting to be with you.  I'm glad you let her know what kind of guy you actually are, so she can get pass this and maybe find a decent guy.  You set things up so that you could break her down.  What a guy?!!
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First of all, don't lower your standards to hers, don't cheat...I understand the love connection and you both have been together for a fair amount of time, but her being unfaithful now doesn't make for a good choice of a wife later...they always say they were going to stop, but allow to continue an affair until its discovered and not voluntarily revealed.  I find that important when it comes to determining if you should continue in such a relationship..I recommend ending it, but to answer your question, it would take a love that thru sorrow and regret for what she has done...that could convince you that this will never happen again...talk to her, find out why and how this happened , take all the information you can get and determine if your heart can forgive and forget in order to make such a shaky relationship last...good luck.
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Wuss! wha happened to good and bad times!\n\nDo youhave the capacity to love and work your way through this like a man or are you a coward that will run away!\n\nIF she did not commit adultery and betray you you should honor yor vow and stick it out!!!1
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Look I know how is it,but the truth is love is only that matters.That's your first mistake. The second is- your rushing things-getting over takes time.Don't over analise things. If it's not too late- you can still be with her,but who knows - one day you might be rich and able to feel confident but in her heart to be just a bitter memory?! You never now
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wel i think she lied to you because you she didnt want to hurt you or thought she would loose you.  I don't think thats cheating as you guys only started dating and it was too earlier for her to know where that relationship is going.\n\nI would be gutted tho and know how you feel> It really sucks but what can you do?\nIf you like her and she has been faithful since, forgive and forget and move on with your relationship.  FYI it probably took a lot of courage for her to tell you and i dont hink she did it to spite you!
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Yeah, tell her the truth. The truth will set you free, as they say. Tell her exactly what you said here, that you love her so much that you don't want to involve her. If you can't bring yourself to tell her what it is that happened, just tell her she will be at risk if you did. Wow, I feel for you, best of luck, I hope your problems will be solved soon.
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Hey man, I think you should sit back and really think about your relationship, the first thing you should consider is her consideration of your feelings and perception of the situation  in general. If trust is there AND... a MUTUAL level of respect for each others feelings is there, somehow things will work, I feel once those things aren't in place your outta gas.
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sorry to hear that.. I am going through the same issue..Your gf deserves to have ur trust, and u hers...Well, you should talk to her.. and explain your reasons.. That is wat I had to do too..I love him so much too and I really do not want to let him go..Talk to her and tell her the yelling thing doesn't work...teach her some other strategies to express herself..I wish everything works out for ya..
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Well hon you are certainly in a rough spot. It seems like the best course of action would be to end things for now at least. \n\nI think the best thing to do is tell her how hurt you are over her cheating and that despite everything you still care for her. Then make it clear that you arent prepared to forgive her for cheating just yet and that you will talk sometime later. Minimum of 3 or 4 months preferably 6 months later. Then after several months of cooling off time you two maybe in a position to be friends, but right now you need to be away from this girl. \n\nS
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if shes hiding things from you, then maybe she doesn't trust you enough to tell you. trust is the bridge of a relationship, so if thats the case, then she dont love you. 2 maybe she cheated and shes scared to lose you so she figures its best not to tell. From my point of view, you seem to be the one calling the shots here. trust your judgement