please help me with a relationship?
611926
Think less and act more.\n\nDon't let the goal of preserving the past memories hold you from making new and better ones. There are risks, but that is what life is all about, taking risks. You do not want to live till 80 to start reflecting about what you should have done when you were younger.
658268
i understand you are very frustrated...\n\n... i can see that you want him to make a decision\nbecause you hate being taddled along and dragged about\n....\nand you want a definite 'relationship' or 'not' kind of\n... relationship...\n\n... and i bet you... he understand that as well...\nbut put yourself in his shoes..\n\nif you had a boyfriend and were getting along fine...\nand suddenly, a single guy enters your world...\n\nand completely blows you away...\n.. now what would you do?\nyou might say, 'i'll take him,' but it's not that easy...\n\nhe's struggling...\nand i might take a step further to say...\nmaybe his girlfriend is on him about this...\nmaybe she's getting the hint he's not 100% committed to her\n\nmy best advice to you is... give him time...\n\nif you constantly prod him, he might completely ignore you..\n.. if you give him room for thinking and reconsidering,\nhe will seriously weigh it out...\n\n... moreover, he will see your understanding side\nand your compassionate, openness and he will run to you..\n\n.. meanwhile, you go out and have some fun...\ni don't mean cheat on your soon-to-be-boyfriend\nbut go out and meet your friends... guys and gals...\n\nmeeting other gals will set you back to your\ngiggling-chatty-girly mode, which will ultimately put you\nin a euphoria of confidence..\n\nplus, guys will drool over you, and you can neglect them\nand gain higher self-esteem...\n\ngodspeed
1005258
You are very strong for asking this question. You are certainly not asking for too much. This is not a problem she has with you, but a problem she has with commitment. She, for some reason, is not prepared to be as selfless and giving in a relationship as you have been with her. Maybe something is going on with her that is , creating this distance between the two of you. All though you probably already have, I suggest that you confront her and ask if their is an outside issue. If there is an outside issue and you help her through it, then you're relationship will be sstronger than ever. Best of luck to you!
1178537
You are so far into the material and emotional world that I cannot help you.  My advice is to drop all girlfriends and boyfriends and have no relationship whatsoever until you can get your head together.  You are a living soap opera! lol hon get some help!
445198
It sounds like the both of you have a thing for each other. Slowly get to know each other. Have fun & be honest with each other. Best of luck.
1073486
Don’t think there is anything wrong with you at all, he sounds like a nice Guy and nice Guys have a tendency to be too keen. It puts a lot of people off!\nPerhaps he 's also had a bit of a rough time and been used in the past and sees you as someone that wont take advantage of him?!?\nSuggest that you talk to him, not patronisingly, don’t give ultimatums just be friendly and explain that you feel crowded and whilst you want him around, not all the time, at least not this early in a relationship. He's probably going to take it the wrong way at first but then you can contact him. If you do it right then you wont me sending mixed messages.\nOh, and by the way, if he runs or you feel you can’t talk to him,..... He’s probably not the guy for you!\nGood luck
584158
Your issue is trust, correct? Ask yourself these questions:\n\n1. How important to you is trust in a relationship?\n\n2. Are you willing to allow trust to be continually compromised in a relationship you choose to be in that may ultimately fail because of this trust being broken over and over and in turn then make you feel unable to ever trust another person in a later relationship.\n\n3. Is the answer to question #1 VERY and the answer to question #2 NO ?\n\nI would never presume that you would make decisions about your life by allowing me or anyone else to directly influence those decisions but I think you can see where I'm going with this. So, believing you're a good, bright and sensible young woman I'll leave you to make your own decision and wish you the best in whatever you may decide.\n\nGood Luck !!
717700
you need to comfront him/her about it. you dont have to acuse them of anything, you just need to ask. if your relationship is strong enough it will all work out.
365475
i would try to talk to him, and hint to whether or not he likes you. but don't directly ask. maybe have a friend talk to him, or even talk to his friends. try talking to find stuff out about him- so you have a foundation of your relationship. and good luck!
547555
This guy is playing with your feelings. He's just keeping you on the line so that he's always got a soft place to fall. Make like a tree and leave. Two years is a long time to invest your feelings in someone who doesn't want a relationship. Tell him you don't have time to waste on waiting for him to make up his mind. I think he's already made up his mind and likes the way things are. You don't know how many other gals he's playing this sorry tune with either. He's got what he wants. I would suggest that you stop giving him what he wants and tell him you're not playing anymore. <*)))><
675535
Be nice, honestly, and make sure you always say "i" not the other persons name. If you say their name, it seems as if its their fault the relationship didnt work out. Good luck!
529862
Communication & patience. Always be open about how you feel and be willing to work out the problems that come along, because there will always be problems, no matter who you're with. But if you're both on the same page about what you want and are willing to give what the other needs, you will be able to conquer anything. Love is not enough, it takes work! :)
485999
I can barely understand your question, and you don't say how old the two of you are. You sound too young for a relationship.
991510
That's a tough one, maybe you two can hang out and try to avoid conversations that will stir up feelings from the previous relationship, but then it will seem like they are avoiding the situation, so maybe the best policy is to talk about whatever has happened and ask the person how do they think they can move forward. Maybe they may say they need sometime to themselves or something, or maybe you can suggest to them that they take up a hobby, like exercising, or jogging or something like that. Hope this helps!!!
1094995
Hey I just wanted to say thank you for your response to my question, I think it really helped and it wasn't mean. I also think that you are right, he called me this morning and told me that he was knocked out and didnt get up until 12:30 or so. I guess it is still taking me some time to really relax and trust him but I think your response was the best. As far as your situation, my boyfriend is actually 28 and im 18 so yeah, think about that one lol. Thats 10 years older then me, but he loves me and I love him and its been the best relationship I've ever been in. I think true love prevails over age and just as long as you guys can respect each other and love eachother and probably give her some time to also grow, you guys will be just find. Age is really just a number I just feel like sometimes our decisions or the stage that we are at life can sometimes conflict. Just make sure you two continue to communicate and understand eachothers needs and wants to go about things the right way. G-luck.
465689
You must tell him how you feel. Stop holding it in. You are going to make yourself sick. If this is a long distant relationship then you really have a problem. The problem will be you. You need structure and discipline. If you don't then it won't last.
988266
Hey, just like you said to me, friendships are a great foundation for relationships. i live in england anyways lol. bt really, if you have feekings for a person, dont be afraid expressing them, and always be ready to say positive things, because that is what drives people together. Good Luck!