i asked an older guy out whose been divorced 20yrs. he said he wasn't looking right now.can he be had?
597556
You should just respect his decision instead of thinking that this is just a challenge for you.  Some people really do just want to be left alone!  It may be he that he came out of a bad relationship & is trying to get over it, or he may not be at all interested in you & is just trying to be polite.  If you harass him about it, he'll just get annoyed.  Leave it alone.
654592
Make your own decision concerning this matter. You shouldn't let others dictate to you what kinda guy to go for. If you're 70 like you say, then you oughta know by now what you want in a man. It's up to you and no one else. Thanks.
199870
its not 2 late im in my forties as well and very good on the eyes but as i get older i seem to want to be with someone who wants to live their life as the days go on.  i have been married 2x as well and i think that was 2x 2 many so i am just looking for someone to be with with no committment envolved.  i think that if i get that that would make me happy.  im not saying that when i find that person, that i wont be faithful, i will be that 4 sure.  but the thought of marriage again just turns my stomach.  i am getting older and i want to experience life with someone who wants to have fun and do things that we didnt do when we were younger.  so dont worry he is out there 4 u trust me.  he might b me haha holla back if you would like to know more.
643534
Considering your typing style and use of slang, I'm going to guess you arn't actually a 64 year old (wow, that was hard).\n\nHowever, if a 64 year old man was interested in an 18 year old girl, I would tell him this:  Dream on, she isn't going to be attracted to you, unless your wallet is very very fat!
955334
honey to let you know i am basically going threw the same thing but i am the divorced one w/a child. and there is this wonderful guy.. put just give it time. if he really likes you he will let you know or just come out and ask him where you stand in his life. or you can ask him what he really want in life.. but don't push the issue. remember he does have a child and he doesn't want some body that is going to come and go in there life.. :)
261661
You make the rules, not them.  They are trying to force the situation, but if you just play it cool, you can continue to date anyone you please for as long as you like.  Trust me, if a 30 year old guy is getting it from a 20 year old chick, he's not dumping her just because.  They will both stick around, where you will have plenty of time to figure out what you may want in the long run.  Until then, tell them to relax and enjoy the gifts that life has to offer.  However, you may wish to keep the other guy to yourself.  That's your business, not a love triangle.  You are free not to choose.
182955
*Pondering a moment for I do not see the prob here* So ask the guy you are most interested in out. It is the Naughties (double zero decade you pervs so keep it clean) after all. Take the initiative and snag that guy...
1167580
As long as you don't act like an old fuddy duddy and have similar interests, why not.  I've been known to date older men and we got along fine.  As long as both of you know what is expected of each other then it should work out.
994737
How old were you when you met this person?  I'm assuming you did not meet this person the day you were born, correct?  Therefore, you had a life before you met his person, why do you feel as though you cannot have a life after they are gone?\n\nYou were doing just fine before you met this person and that is probably why he/she was attracted to you.  Now all of a sudden you cannot go on in life without them?!  Come on!  Grow up!\n\nWhile suicide attempts are real and need to be adressed by professionals trained to help in such dire circumstances, they are acts sometimes carried out to get the attention of someone else.  The fact that you attempted 3 times suggests to me that you are just trying to get the attention of this former significant other rather than to truly kill yourself.  But this is a good thing.  It means that you don't really want to kill yourself.  \n\nYou are resonsible for the actions that you carry out and their consequences, NOBODY ELSE!!!  If this person is not interested in you, or you are not interested in him/her THAT IS OKAY!!!\n\nPeople lose interest, that is a part of life in every way, shape, and form.  \n\nThink back to a time in your past when things seemed absolutely horrible.  Now think of something positive that happened to you since then that made you laugh out loud.  Just because you have had bad times doesn't mean that good times are lost forever.  \n\nYou do not know what, or who, is waiting around the next corner.  For all you know tomorrow the man/woman of your dreams is going to walk out of Starbuck's as soon as you are walking in and then, BAM!  The two of you meet and hit it off and then you will have been glad that this other person is out of your life.  Because then you would not have been able to meet this new person.  \n\nSuicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.  \n\nIf you want to feel better then go talk to someone who you think is truly in love.  It doesn't matter how old they are, 75, 50, or 25 years old.  Now ask them how many ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends they have had in the past.  Now think about the fact that if they killed themselves over any one of these ex's they never would have found their true love.  That is even sadder to me than a suicide.
781567
I could be wrong but he digs you.  Just talk to him.  What do you have to lose.  I am 27 and have been successful in dating not because I am rich or incredibly good looking.  I am not afraid to take a chance.  People are inherently shy, polite and respect outgoing people.  Ask him if he wants to go to a movie or for a cup of coffee the worst he can say is no. What have you lost.  The gain however can be incalculable.
401825
Sounds like he may be trying to make e/one happy but himself.  Maybe he really wanted to go.  After 12 years, I would think you both would be open, honest, and trusting with each other.
46763
It depends on the two of you. I know a ex married couple that stayed friends after 24 years of being divorced. Thats a long time and a rare occassion. They are my parents lol. Now if you ended on bad terms and are trying to get along then probably not. Or maybe he is still into you and just wants to end it before he gets caught up into the feelings all over again knowing that you can never be together.
976646
u should keep Ur personal life away from Ur professional life. don't mix them up & as u said that he is 42 and married then u should not think that way.\nhe is secured in his life & if u have a relation with him in future with his consent even then ur relation as well as ur future will always be insecured.\nthe right way is to forget him & wait for the right person to approach u.
384813
If it has been that long then you can feel free to date again. The only thing is I would not let my children met anyone until I was sure he was the right one. You are a free woman to do as you please/////////////////
116425
Wow!  He hid that from you for so long... were you married or did he just never have the opportunity to pursue you during that time?  Were you two friends during this time?\n\nAssuming you two were at least somewhat friends, that's awesome.  Sounds like he's pretty honorable to not interfere during that time for whatever reason, and has had you in his heart.  The only bad thing is that he's a cop and so there's added stress in that occupation which is why they have such a high divorce rate.  But this guy seems to really want you, and he'd probably move heaven and earth to keep you two together.
601354
yes i would. i'm also 26 and i would never judge a person just because something didn't work out in his life. it doesnt mean he's a failure, it just means that a certain situation didnt work out at that time in his life. \n\nBTW-------u asking me out???
963948
Forgive yourself for an error in judgment and focus on what would be in your best interest at this point.  The guy satisfied his sexual curiousity and can't let go of a minor offense (i.e., hanging up on him).  A guy like this will only hold you back.....walk away now and you'll be proud of yourself for putting your own needs first.  You will gain strength as time moves on.  It's just a matter of developing the resolve to stick to your guns; as you meet new people and start to date new guys, this memory will fade.  Trust your own instincts and move on.  Good Luck