Another ex-wife question?
594722
just don't or you'll regret it later!
528147
Of course you can move on.  And for your sake, I hope you do it real soon.  You were a whole person before you got married, and you still are a whole person now.  Depends on who has custody of the kids, as to how much you can change her bad mouth.  If you have custody, than head for the court, again.  If not, you are just going to have to "suck it up".  \n\nYou might check with a lawyer (yuk! hate to say that) or get legal advice, to see what your options are.\n\nMain thing is to be glad that she is living somewhere, and with someone else.  Let him enjoy her wonderful company, until she screws around with a new man.\n\nI have to say to you, be glad this jerk is gone.
258998
Hey man I know where you are coming from. My wife just told me that cheated on me with another man about 2 months ago. I went nutts, but not too bad. Luckily she told me at our preachers house. After she told me I did not know what to do. Because in the bible it states that that is the only reason for divorce. I sat down and talked with her and the preacher. We agreed that we would stay together. I wanted to leave her but then I didn't. I love her so much, and not only because we have kids. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Like I said it has already been 2 months since she told me and I still can not sleep nor trust her. There are still times when I want to leave but I can't because I love her too much. Also you don't want to go out and do the same thing she did. It won't do any good, except have a burden on your shoulders. Just hang in there man. Pray about it and see what God wants you to do. God Bless!
395347
Lying is just plan WRONG!\nThe best thing that the ex-husband and his new love can do is file restraining order to keep her away from them and a peace bond to keep her off their property. I the ex did not start the whole thing, people will realize it soon enough. And if she is lying, what comes around goes around. She will get her just due in time. It is part of life.\nI had a Motor Sgt. came in new to a unit where I was stationed. Before he got there I had 1 counseling over 4 years, in 6 months he wrote me up 2 or 3 dozen times. He tried to get me burned and failed. I finally move on to another duty station. Several years later I saw him, he was taking an early release from the military because his wife was divorcing him and his boy was in prison for drugs. If he would have just treated people with respect, What could have been!!!!
823996
As long as there are people brain washing her and telling her bad things about you she probably wont come around. You know your a good mother it sounds like your ex needs to find a hobby and quit trying to ruin the relationship between you and your daughter. I havent ever been through this but if my husband were to ever turn our daughter against me it would just break in two. My daughter is my every dream come true and I cant even imagine how things are for you right now. I hope that she doesnt listen to all this garbage thats been said about you and hopefully she will start contacting you again good luck.
195121
well your answer lies on one thing where is she at now as well who else has she been with in this matter you feel for the oldest thing going that is being played for a stand in . i have been there did  it as well not worth it in my opion how do you think i caught my.ex. wife. she was cheating i had the sence to get rid of it. grow up like i did. nt worth it my friend she this woman you are talking about is a player if she was with you you might thing who else has she fooled with you dont want to end up in court over this woman she aint worth ita woman like that cant love she has something called a whoreing spree ?
640072
I think she has answered your question about her coming back, sounds like she is gently trying to tell you its over.  Have you tried marriage counselling??? You also might want to ask yourself what you did to make her want to leave, did you appreciate her?  Its so hard to advise you when all the details are not known.
417293
Sure it counts as an affair but let me ask you this, are you a Yo-Yo? I mean she sends you away for 5 months and then all of a sudden has some Epiphany or a string and you come rolling back up it and she wants you back and then you are suppose to kick people out of your life and go back with her? Does she have your testicles in a jar and is holding them for ransom or did you get caught cheating on her in the beginning and that's what caused all this I want a divorce crap? Something tells me you are not giving us the whole story here Bud!!
920077
use a common friend to get to your ex-wife. i think it's very noble of you to try to work things out among yourselves. if your ex-wife still refuse to accept the fact that you're actually doing her a favor by resorting to peacefull means, then you have no choice but to do whatever would be necessary for the sake of your child. you need not feel guilty then if the court decides in your favor because you have tried your best to warn her.
370258
Coming from experience, and in my case, I was engaged to someone about 14 years ago and about 2 years ago, I was in my homestate for my grandmother's funeral. I came through my ex's hometown and there was alot of unresolved issues at the time he broke off the engagement without a real reason. I decided to try to find out what his story was and to wanted to know why he did what he did. I mailed a long letter, asking the questions and searching for the answers I was looking for. He hurt me pretty badly by leaving without a real reason and he got the letter and wrote back. If you do decide to contact an old ex about unresolved issues on why your relationship ended, after you get your answers, move on. Accept the answers and accept that as closure. If your ex wants to be "friends" after the both of you aired it all out, my advice would be, don't be friends. Afterall an ex, is an ex for a reason. If you try to be "friends", old feelings will stir up, you could fall back in love with that person and you'll end up paying for it at the end. My ex wanted to be "friends" and I agreed to that but here it is 2 years later, I decided it was too late to try to be friends and realized he was never a friend in the first place. What my ex did was hurtful and I decided a while back that I didn't want anything to do with him period and I ended the friendship. I realized that he was never a friend in the first place. Get your closure, get the answers you're searching for, and move on. As for your wife, she is right, you know. Why open a bag of old wounds? You're with your wife now, stick to the present, don't look back at the past. There is really no good reasons to try to "resolve" anything. As for the ex's sexual abuse, she needs to deal with that.
471373
Sorry to hear the situation you are in. I hate to say it, but somebody IS getting hurt. Just because her husband doesnt know YET doesnt mean it wont kill him inside when he finds out. \n\nAs for you, I think she is just using you...she would have left her husband long before you came around if she didnt want to stay. Her man is probably just not fufilling her needs, either emotionally or sexually...you filled that void for her, but I am betting you are not as important to her as he is. What will likely happen is she will eventually leave you all together and go back to him.\n\nI am sorry if this sounds brutal, but sometimes it is hard to see the truth when you are IN the situation. I dont think she is trying to play games with you nor is she trying to hurt anybody...just trying to fill a painful void with a caring man. If it were not you, it would be someone else. I really hope you dont get hurt here and sever this relationship; there IS a good, SINGLE woman out there for you who will want ONLY you. Not all of us play games. Take care\n\n------------------------------------------------------------\nYou are very welcome ;) Good luck in finding a nice woman!\n------------------------------------------------------------\nOh! That makes it SO hard. I thought I had the one too, not that long ago. I was with him for 2 and 1/2 years and even was engaged to him and trying to have children. I found out that since the day we met, he had been lying to me consistantly and had even created a profile on a dating web site days before he purposed to me.  \n\nLike my ex, this woman is telling you all the things you want to hear and you are completely devoted to her. The fact that you have to question it means your head is trying to tell you it is wrong, but your heart is arguing. You are trying to find some execuse for her actions, some way to beleive she cares for you as much as you for her. Trust me, your heart is making you lie to yourself, dont get caught in this trap! She doesnt really care for you...only herself, or she wouldnt be hurting the people she is SUPPOSED to be caring about (her husband OR you). Tell her you love her too much to play second string to her husband...you NEED to communicate here. Give her an ultimatim; say him or you. That is how you will find out the truth. I know you dont want to pressure her, but if she loved you, it SHOULD NOT have even been a necessity. It is time for the games to stop.\n\nYour heart is invested here and you will get hurt one way or the other...only you can decide how much. Even if she DOES decide to leave her husband (which I doubt) she will likely cheat on you in a few years (once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater). The longer you are with her the more pain you are going to suffer! I feel it would be best if you broke it off and NEVER spoke to her again...then you can tend to your broken heart. Trust me...I know your pain. I wanted to kill myself when I left my man, but things will get brighter and you will see this woman DOES NOT deserve you! There WILL be someone better for you. Heal your heart and give it time. You CAN make it through this.\n------------------------------------------------------------\nI know :p Thanks. I wouldnt say that I know a lot...I have only been in one relationship. What I do know is based on a few things; that one relationship gave me more experience than I could ever have wanted, friends and their experiences and watching WAY to many talk shows :p My personality helps too, I guess...I am empathetic, can see all sides and I have really high morals. Ultimatly, you need to do what you feel is right and try not to let your heart rule you (as you would be supprised what you can convince yourself of just to follow your emotions). I really hope things work out for you! So many men are players and it is good to see one that goes against the rule!\n-----------------------------------------------------------\nYou are very welcome. I would be happy to provide my two cents on an
1064029
If you know the court where the proceedings were held call the clerk of the court.  You do need to check.  My now-ex was not divorced before he married his second wife.  It was a mess.  If he loves you he will help or show you the signed AND court stamped papers.
816841
Well, she became an ex and is dead now but I met her in a Bar\nwhen I was supposed to be with another girl she was with.  I was\nin my Security Guard uniform so I looked like a Cop and she told\nme how her daughter was taken by her father and she doesn't know where she is.  I got involved, we eventually got daughter\nback 2 years later but life was a living Hell with her for 12+ years.\nThe funny thing is she turned out to be the girl from 4 years before that worked at Ponderosa that I had the hots for.  I was\nwith my friends and I noticed the waitress's skirt was so short you could see her panties so I went to the table across from ours\nand moved all the plates and stuff to the far end and she would\nhave to bend way over to get them.  It was so funny that even my\nBest Friend's wife got over her initial apprehension.
807174
Seems a little strange that you would post that. Agree with first answer seems like more than a question.  Did you just want to tell the world that she lives with a 39 year old...well you just did.  Hope if she finds out that the 39 year old is not an attorney or knows one because this could constitute harassment. Just a little friendly advice.
722838
I dont think you should be talking to your EX at all. And the fact that you are sneaking around makes me think you want something from her. There is a reason she is your EX. YOu should quit contacting her. And when your wife finds out I hope she kicks your scandalous a$$!
763222
she is divorced\nmaybe make it legit
494091
Bad. Real bad... Many times, affairs never really stop! Communication is the key to a rekindle, and if there is either a proximity or an open communication line, some nasty piss off would most certainly arise for you. She'll most probably get a way with him oftentimes than once...\n\nAnd another thing, MOST EXes are also called Schemers. They must only be upto something, even when they are not aware, whether her break-up was in agreement or in acrimony. Whatever she is doing with your future in laws... BUY NEW BOOTS, GET READY TO KICK-BUTT SOONER THAN LATER!