What do you do if you have lingering feelings for a person while in a relationship with someone you love?
612289
You have to decide which person means more to you the one your with or the one your not with. Your the ony one who can decide is it worth rising hurting the guy you love for womeone who your not sure that he even feels the same way.
622115
When you start to love a person part of that person starts to grow inside you. As the years go on more and more you find yourself falling deeper in love with that person because they continue to grow in your heart and your soul. Since you are in love with this person, in a sense you do need them. You've based a certain part of yourself around that person and now since they are gone, the part of yourself that they had is lost. So you need to find something else to fill that void and emptiness that that person has left and you need to try and move on. It is hard yes, extremely hard, absolutely, but in the end it's worth coming out on the other side.
777338
once u have this different feeling around 1 certain person...like a feeling of respect or kindness...then u should no if u luv that person or not...
372145
If you love someone, Let them go if they return they was yours if they don't they never was. I believe in this whole heartedly. I wouldn't want someone making me feel guilty just because I didn't feel the same way they did. You can not control how you feel. And if you get hurt then you still have to go on. And that doesn't mean that you don't still Love that person. You just can't tell them everyday.(at least not outloud). Just don't hate that person.Because he/she can't help how they feel either.
110497
ive been into that, and unfortunately it doesn't,because im always longing for more of a romantic moments with my boyfriend,but its just so hard my feelings just faded away as time goes by,eventhough i havent meet someone over with him,.But you know i have few friends who still have their loved ones though they are so far.It will wok out if both of you really really loved each other so much,distance is not matter my dear...
556491
to start with, i know you have a stronger feeling for one of those two people, it just so happen that maybe, just maybe, you found something that you needed in one guy but you really love the other and now you confused yourself that the love the other where in fact, you only see something about him that you like but you not specifically love him. assess your feelings and start to weigh things out. \n\nand if it happens that they both weigh equally in your heart just like the other, then its tme to take chances on one which you think loves you more, then drop the other. in loving someone, its not necessary that you are sure, what matters is that you loved all the love you can give, and then who gives a damn if it doesnt work. what matters is that once in your life, you do a crazy thing and feel loved like no one had ever felt before and that feeling will be enough to sustain you for a long time.\n\nand see after sometimes, you would just reminisce the old feeling and just laugh about how carzy inlove you have been for the two guys..
93413
That depends entirely on your own feelings. If you return the feelings being demonstrated, try asking them out and and doing all the little things that are so sweet that they will remember forever, like taking them to see the sunset or making a romantic dinner and setting from scratch. If the feelings are not returned, then try to let them down gently and talk with them to try and figure out a compromise in your relationship like just staying friends.
878566
Hi, \nThe last thing I would do would be to encourage you, only to see you get hurt. \n\nIf you have feelings that he still cares about you, then check it out further. You might want to try writing him a letter and let him know how you feel. You will be taking a chance, but if things work out, it will be worth it. \n\nAlso, revisit the reasons the two of you are not together now. We tend to forget the bad and only remember the good, so if you feel it is worth a try in your heart, then by all means, go for it. \n\nThere is a possibility he may feel the same way about you. \n\nGood luck, and I hope things work out for you. \n\nDarryl S.
607518
nothing you can do... Feelings can't be controlled.  You need to back away and let things unfold.  It will be painfull at first, but you never know what may happen.  That relationship may not last, and then he may see you in a different light.  Or you may find someone who sweeps you off your feet.
402292
i think that you should just tell ur boyfriend how you feel. Tell him that although you like him so much u still have feelings for your ex that u need to deal with. the sooner you do this the less you will hurt him. There is no point of being with someone when ur thinking about another person.
1165938
mitr says.... if the person is close to your heart, he/she can never drift away....\nfollow this.....\n1. be different... probably he/she is bored of the same routinely YOU....\n2. do something creative for him...\n3. do something very special for him... which only a person does when the other one is close to your heart... \n4. be a surprise to him/her... it will bind the interest...\n5. give importance to that person, more than anythign in your life and make him/her feel special......\n6. say in a very romantic way that you wann be with him/her, more often than you use to... \n7. do not bind him /her... give space... loosen the grip.... \n8. FIND OUT THE REASON WHY THE PERSON IS DRIFTING AWAY FROM YOU........ if possible, cure it......
1076010
If you don't think they love you back then maybe you should talk about your feelings to this person and listen to their response.  Hopefully, you'll get the answer you are looking for, but you will never know if you don't ask..
723076
No one can control their feelings. If you love someone it kinda comes naturally. When you and that person stop talking it takes a while to really get over that person especially if you were really in love. Even  though some might say that they don't love someone  any more 9 times out of 10 it is not true. We have to let nature take its course.
307673
i don't know, i really don't, i guess, you know you love that person from the start, you just don't want to admit it, so when the person go, the feeling get strong, and you can't help it anymore, then you'll regret all the things, and question yourself why you ever let that person go in the first place,. then only you realize that that person have to go first then you'll realize you love him/her. i actually don't know myself,
470359
Yes! I believe that you can still love a person and not be in love with them anymore. I've been there and its hard, but its very possible.
1008405
If you still have feelings for an ex, don't lead the person you are with on, it maybe early days with this new someone and its only natural to think of past loves when you start seeing someone new.But it is also important to not let any emotional baggage get in the way of a new relationship. Try and distance yourself from your last relationship, don't make comparison's. You owe it to yourself to take thing's slowly really get to know this person you are with who could be an absolute gem.
1129099
You're so not an idiot!  You love someone, plain and simple.  My husband and I broke up before we were married for two years and I never stopped loving him.  I knew that we were going to be together again, despite what everyone else told me.  Now, 6 years later, we are happily married.  Never stop loving that person, no matter what.  Even if they dont come back into your life, the love you feel, and the pride that comes from that can never be taken away from you.  You own those feelings...enjoy them!