i lost my virginity to my boyfriend and now he wont answer my calls!?
595411
I agree with Lovebug.  Sorry honey.  If he wanted to call you or write you or see you, wild horses wouldn't keep him away.\n\nIt sucks that it was your first time, but don't listen to those unkind Christians telling you your virginity was a "precious flower you can never get back."  What a load of crap.  The first time you experience sex with someone who respects and adores you will be a "first" to remember- and the fact that you broke a bit of biological tissue last weekend won't take away from the magic when that happens.  \nBe mad, cry, talk to your best friend or mom or priest or shrink or mentor or whoever it is you go to.  Just remember to forgive yourself.  You were younger last weekend than you are now.  If you had known then what you know now, you would have acted differently.  Forgive yourself- because there's nothing to forgive but youth.  Being disappointed, being taken advantage of- this is a part of growing up.  Remember, all experiences have the potential to make you stronger or weaker.  Choose to become stronger from what you've learned.  \n\nAlso- don't talk too much to others at college or in your social circle, because as you've seen just on this forum, people can be cruel, and you don't want this story to follow you around once you've grown beyond it.
707853
Hell no girl! Let him call u!
491499
Sounds like a fairly new relationship, take it slow. If he isn't calling, maybe he has good reasons. Tell him your bothered by this, try to come to a resolution between the 2 of you. A good relationship needs amazing communication. No hiding things. If this doesn't work, start shopping for a new relationship. Always another bigger better fish.
1147491
Not sure where the diploma falls into things *scratches head* Is that new catch phrase?  Do you mean diaphram?  Some kind of birth control?  Anyway...\n\nStart by telling him you're a virgin.  Then tell him how much he means to you, how he makes you feel, and what's so special about him.  Tell him that you have so much trust and respect for him that you want to share this experience with him.  If he feels ready to move into that phase of your relationship, then he should reciprocate.\n\nBut... if you're too shy to broach the subject so gently, just blurt out, "Hey!  Wanna bump uglies?"\n\nHave fun, safe sex.
327659
please do this and take my advice: do not get back with him. you seem like a really nice girl and you should be with someone who appreciates you. if he's being a jerk to you, for any reason, then do yourself a favor and give your time, your patience, your love, YOUR VIRGINITY, to someone who deserves it. you will come across many jerks in the world today, just please stand strong as a woman and don't give them the time of day. i know its hard considering you've known him for a year and a half but if he treats you like this now, then think about how it will be a year from now or 2 years from now. if you want to keep him around to "mess around", trust me sweetie, there will be thousands of guys that you will have the chance to have fun with. dont break your own heart and get attached to someone who will end up hurting you. if you give him even a little bit of you, then you will feel closer to him because you have shared an intimate feeling, from there, it will escalade and your feelings will become more attached to him and sooner or later, you will give in and then you'll regret it when he starts treating you badly or hurting you in other ways. keep your morals, be strong, and trust your instincts.
423441
I take it that you've already told him you weren't a virgin.\n\nListen, your virginity is something that you only have once.  It should be something to be proud of, not ashamed of...especially this day and age.\n\nI hope that you are with someone who will help you take this at your own pace.
703441
well when you get home call him right alway and tell him what happend and make sure that next time you two are going to meet up be prepare for everithing and your friend that didnt want you to have the # he probably realy cares for you so talk to him and tell him y is the reason he didnt give it to you
1114264
Does he think you’re a virgin? I think you should tell he just what you told all of us. If he really loves you this should not be the determining factor to whether or not the two of you’ll get married. He really should be understanding about this small “oversight”.
307395
Sad, all i can say is you shouldnt have given your virginty to someone like that... you can either love him forever with no commitment or move on \nand i say move on cause he may not be commitment type\nits morally wrong to take a gals virginity and just not want her\nsorry to say honey\nbut i think you were fed a line and i dont think you love him he's just all you know move on... i said move on not sleep on with everyone else\nGooD LucK
663183
wait..well u should've waited a bit also b4 getting involved but it's ok wait for a while now and if he doesn't call u do and dump him >:]
763800
I don't think you love him...not yet, especially if you and he can't have a conversation over the phone yet.  A lot of guys don't like the phone, and they aren't like girls who can just sit around talking about things.  Don't call him unless you actually have something to say to him...whether it be, "hey, come over for a while", or "what do you want to do this weekend"...don't just call and make "what did you do today" the whole conversation.  Maybe what he is doing isn't even worth mentioning...in his eyes anyway.  It seems to me that you need someone that can stimulate conversation, and in this relationship that's going to have to be you.  Ask him direct questions and you will get direct answers.
38206
tell your bf but keep the number and call. check it out, maybe theres some things you two need to talk about.
873858
Yes.....Just wait. Try a nap and maybe when you wake up he'll call. Since you didn't get much sleep last night.\n\nDo not call him!
265553
Hey I'm a virgin too and had to go through the same thing as you. Just be open with him, tell him you're not ready. Don't be pressured into anything you don't want to do. Although in todays society people act like their virginity is nothing special, it really is. If you wait until you're married or truly in love sex will be a whole lot more meanigful. If he still pressures you to have sex, stop dating him. He isn't worth losing your virginity over.
882376
You can't get him to talk to you, he has to decide that...however that's not stopping you from apologizing...either go to him and apologize in person (whether he speaks ot you or not) or do it via email...then let it go...\n\nYou screwed up, but it also doesn't sound like that relationship was a good one and you're trying to convince yourself it was better than it was because you don't like being single...\n\nApologize if that's what you feel you need to do...and then put the situation behind you and move on...if he ever wants to communicate with you, he'll let you know...but face it, if someone had done to you what you did to him, wouldn't you probably hold a grudge for a while? Most people would...
567320
Man this is sad!  A pastor, what is the world coming to when you can't even trust a pastor?  Tell your boyfriend, tell him!  He needs to know.  DO NOT avoid the situation, and please don't answer the phone for this jerk!  How did he get your phone number in the first place?  Ok, his dirt needs to be exposed.  You should let him leave a message on your voice mail, and record the fact that he even calls you.  Let your boyfriend listen.  This guy needs to be stopped.  You are probably not the first girl he's tried to nail, but he has probably gotten away with it.  That is why you won't be the one to let him get away with it any more!  Praying for you!  Expose the offender!
764523
No don't ask him crap. Especially about that. If your already having sex with him all I can say is ''ARE YOU CRAZY?!'' Stop having sex if you are. If he still calls and wants to see you then theres a chance he likes you for more then sex. You've only been together 3 weeks. To a guy 3 weeks doesn't mean a thing. It's not like his in love with you. You need to control your feelings better and not let yourself get all tided up emotional. Guys just don't fall head over hills about a girl. They take their time. To them they have plenty of time before wanting to wear a ring or give one up.Don't wear your heart on your seleve. In other words don't let these guys know that you like them so easily and so quickly. Guys like girls better if they have their own set of friends and don't dump their firends to go out with them. They like girls that aren't high matainace. You know , where you think if they don't call like 6 times a day or something you start calling them wondering why you haven't heard from them. They are loyal to their guy friends and you should be to yours. If he doesn't call you for a month let it go. Go on like it was nothing.  Don't let dating confuse you. It's just a stepping stone to a whole new world for you. Just go with the flow and don't let things like him not calling you get to you. If he doesn't call then he doesn't call. If he go's out with his friends don't jump to conclusions that he was with another girl or flirting. Could be he was but that's none of your business and if you start getting upset over it then he''ll surely feel trapped and he'll never call you. I know it's hard to like someone and then have to watch him flirt or even see him out with someone else but until he tells you himself he wants you to be the only one for him then his going to do just what he wants no matter what you think or feel.