OK I am single for the first time in 3 years.   How do you date with out getting serious?  Do guys like that?
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just like he said..be upfront and open with whom ever you see ( date ) what your thoughts and feelings are about dating and getting serious or not..\na friendship thing..they will want friend with benefits most do..\nbut again that's up to you to work out..\nand I would like to say congrats..\nhave fun'\nsmile\nand GOOD LUCK
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speaking as a single male, i might ask the same thing about single or divorced women....i would like to take the time to get to know someone (bf/gf sort of thing), then see if it works into a relationship.....yeah, i think that it could be done....the decent guys are out there...they may not simply advertise the fact that they are decent guys...maybe they have been screwed over too many times....have patience....keep looking....they are out there....good luck to you
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Aww im so jealous, i havent been on a date in a long time :)\n\nYou can talk about your careers and goals in life. You can talk about your hobbies and what you enjoy doing on the weekends. Favorite foods, if they like pets, if they have brothers or sisters, movies you've recently seen, vacations you have gone on or places you would love to visit. Think of things that are really important to you and ask them how they feel about these things. Most importantly, have fun and smile a lot and look into his eyes. And order a big meal! Guys hate when we order skimpy meals. Try to joke around too, to make him laugh. I hope you have a great time! :)
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single to long wants to have relationship
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I would go out. I had a serious boyfriend for 3 years from ages 16-19. I was really happy but I felt the same way. I took the leap to go out and I'm glad I did. Now, my ex and I are best friends. Even though we didn't get back together, dating other guys let me realize how much happier I am that my ex and I are just friends now. I didn't realize how much happier I could be until I had some more experience. Plus, I have overcome the fear of wondering how it is to date others. And you never know, you might date around and realize what a great guy you had. He seems like he would be willing to get back together after some time. This would let you know just how happy you are with him, and you will never wonder again.
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The question is are you ready to date? You will know when it is time to start dating again. I would still suggest at least three months by yourself first. Get to know yourself again.
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You are looking for the most rare of breed of man.\nI you are looking for the 'same' sort of man you were going out with then you might need 'clouser' on your last relationship, this happens to everyone, you have an inprint of that relationship, sounds odd i know, (been there, t-shirt worn).\nyou are going to have to start on level 1 again, you cant go in to a new relationships with a battleplan, you may not know that you are doing this but its clear to others.\nas for A REAL person and a REAL relationship, there is two things you can do, first, keep trying as hard as you can, push rush looking for that right man, or enjoy who you might find, take it as it comes, you might not get anther chance.\nO and for all the guys who stood you up, I'll have a word, shame on them!\nhope this helps.\n\n - Mr Right (answer)
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I have been through a similar experience. Just over a year ago the guy who I had planned on marrying & I decided to part ways. Even though it was mutual I had a really hard time moving on. I started dating again right away, but soon realized that in the process of dating my ex I had lost track of who I really was, therefore all the guys I dated after him; I was dating for the wrong reasons. I don't know if that makes sense, but I decided that I had to "date myself" first before I was ready to hit the dating scene again. \n\nAbout 4 or 5 months ago I came across this book: Single "The art of being satisfied, fulfilled, and independent". by Judy Ford  It really opened my eyes as to how I was living my life. It's okay to grieve & find yourself before hitting the dating scene again. I've taken a sabatical from dating & have never been happier. I have more guy friends than I have ever had before & they are teaching me what I really want in a guy.\n\nMaybe you're not ready for the whole dating thing yet, but that shouldn't stop you from getting to know this great guy. It sounds like you two are building a friendship, & friendship is so important when trying to rediscover yourself. Just be totally honest with yourself & do some soul searching ... you'll be surprised by all you don't know about yourself.
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Oh, you sound adorable!  Yes, I think this is a confidence issue.  Number one:  do not start dating again right away.  Rebounds do not help self-esteem.  It just makes you dependent on a girl's attention for self-love.  What I do is focus on the love that's already in my life, from friends and family members.  I just try to go out and have fun.  Pretty soon, I realize I'm having fun without a romantic interest.  And then, I become braver in approaching people, because their rejection isn't such a big deal.  I can do fine without them.  And don't look at other women as potential dates.  Look at them as potential friends.  Eventually, you'll find one you want to date and who will help you out of your shell.  But good luck and don't worry about it too much.  This girl isn't worth your time or worry.
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If he has just come out of a long relationship, don't push this too hard.  Just be there as a friend to start with, and let him know you are there for him.  When he's ready for a relationship, he'll let you know.
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If they don't talk to you directly, they aren't mature enough to have a real relationship.  They aren't ready to date, or have a girlfriend yet.\n\nIf you can't find a mature enough boy, then that's OK.  You're not ready to get married and start a family yet, so any sort of dating relationship is going to end, usually with someone getting hurt.  \n\nBeware of guys who like younger girls - would you date a boy that was three years younger than you?  Doubt it.
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As a female answering this question I will tell you what I think.  You have to really know what you are really wanting in a relationship, whether it be just a casual or you are actually ready to find someone you want to settle down with.\n\nAs a female in her late 40's I like you find it very hard to meet someone.  I truly think that the dating websites are a great way, but what I have found is that a lot of men are not truly honest in their description about what they really want.  \n\nIf you are not interested in a long term relationship, then say so.  Don't let the person you are dating think you are ready to settle down when you are actually looking to have fun only and move on.\n\nJust be honest, respectful and romantic and you will win the heart of a woman.  \n\nGood Luck in your search.
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You still talk about your "other stuff" on a date, but you don't dwell on it.  No one wants to hear all about your painful divorce or terrible ex on the first date.  Mature people who date are looking for someone who is fun to talk to.  They look for someone who is a good listener and has a great sense of humor.  Lets face it, by our age we have learned to laugh at life's efforts to knock us down.  We see the humor in the world around us and no longer take everything so seriously.  Just keep things light and fun on your first few dates.  You will get the hang of it!  Dating is different at our age.  We tend to skip most of the games that we dealt with in our youth and just get straight to the talking and getting to know the other person.
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good question, i wish i knew. ive broken up 4mths now and everyone has a different answer. some say 'give it time to find yourself' some say move straight on, or keep busy, or stay home. i reckon u just have to live day to day and try and get it out of your system. from talking to my friends etc. giving it some time is good, gives you a chance to put your expectations higher for next time and not just look for something to fill in the 'comfortable' filling the house and bed in the morning. it seems that halve the time you were with them and thats how long it TRUELY takes, say you were together 6mths, 3mths single is good. 3 years, 18ths single is good. good luck, maybe instead of walking around the house, do a total spring clean and move the furniture around for a 'visual' fresh start....?
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If you don't feel ready to date then don't.  When me and my ex broke up about 2 years ago (we've been together for a year)  I didn't want to date anyone for a year...and I didn't date anyone.  It's up to when you think you are ready to date again.  It's different with different people.  Some people heal faster than others.  But in the mean time you should keep busy.  Do things that you like to do.  After we broke up, I did a lot of volunteering.  That made me feel good because I was helping ones in need and it made me realize that things could be a lot worse than breaking up with a boy/girlfriend.  So just find things you like to do and keep your good friends around because they can be a great help as well.  Most importantly don't date until you are ready.  Don't let your boys pressure you into dating because that could make the your situation worse.  Well I hoped that helped.
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It works.  I met my bf of almost 3 years through online dating.  That doesn't mean I didn't meet alot of incompatible people.  I used online dating on and off for about a year before I met him.  \n\nOnline dating is just another way to meet people, but it shouldn't be the only way you meet people.  If you're banking on it working, it probably won't because you've invested too much emotionally and your expectations will colour your experience.  It works when you stop hoping each person you meet will be the one and instead, decide to just have fun with the experience, regardless of the outcome.  Yes, even a bad date can be fun.  Think of the anecdotes you can share with your friends.\n\nI find it takes a few weeks to get a feel for how things work.  Then, it's up and down for awhile depending on who you come into contact with.  When it doesn't feel fun anymore, TAKE A BREAK.  Come back in a few months.  Change your profile to reflect how you're feeling.  \n\nIt's important that you feel good about yourself or you won't attract the people you want because who wants to be with someone who's down on themselves?  Online dating is really a reflection of how you're  feeling.  When you feel good about yourself, your online experience improves.  When you feel bad, it tends to be a not so good experience.  \n\nI was about to pull my dating profile because I found I was meeting lots of people through offline methods.  However, my friend pointed out that it wasn't costing me anything (financially or emotionally) if I just left my profile up.  \n\nI thought she made a good point, so I decided to rewrite my profile one last time and put it out there.  When I rewrote it this time, I stopped caring about what other people would think about what I wrote or how they might judge me.  Instead, I wrote a profile that reflected exactly how I felt and who I was at that moment.\n\nAnd then, I started to meet interesting people.  Shortly thereafter, I met my bf and things have been going well since.
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What i did, was take time out from dating, to get to really know myself, what i really want, how I will get it, what I want from the man & the relationship, til you do all that & more you will find & go with the same kinda guy you were married to, because that's what your used to & comfortable with. I went 9 yrs & didn't date, it was time enough for me, you may not need that amt of time, my marriage was very abusive, so I had to know in my heart I truely had put down the old baggage & was ready to trust again, I also knew I wasn't gonna do everything to keep the man happy, I wanted happiness too, hope this helps