I am 38 and about to be single.  It has been a while since l have been on a date.  Got any advice?
595115
take your time day by day dont settle for second best and remember that there is always someone out there who will love you good luck
230093
Not me!  I've never been on a date, and I'm 23 :(
1135648
Ask your friends if they know of someone who is single. You need to be out in order to meet someone,but it doesn't mean the bar scene. Music in the park? (if you have them where you live) Social events.Good luck.
1113834
im suprised 40 should be a level of maturity where you dont lookfor random people online. if its online dating you want go to an onlinedating site like e-harmony or something. not here!!
384813
If it has been that long then you can feel free to date again. The only thing is I would not let my children met anyone until I was sure he was the right one. You are a free woman to do as you please/////////////////
197625
Yep it is hard to get back out there after being with the same person for a long time.I Have been divorced for over 3 years separated for over 6.If you just got a divorce you probably should not jump right into a relationship.But is hard to be alone so find yourself some old friends and hang out.If you are interested in a certain type of activity hang out there and find people with same interests.I myself cannot wait for the racing season to start at the dirt tracks....And am looking forward to going to hang out and drive the go carts in cottage grove.So hang where you are interested like baseball game... and find someone female that is interested in same things and build from there.I am also from Minnesota. Good luck.
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You think a 25-30 yr. old female would want to date you? Here's a free dating service: Go to a senior citizen's dance, they are more your age. Maybe someone there can teach you how to grow up.\nP.S. If women your own age don't want you, what makes you think a younger one would? Geesh!
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Hi Sunshine!\n\nI was married for twenty two years and then divorced, so I can absolutely relate to your situation. I will share my experience and maybe it will help you - I sure hope so. (I married my high school sweetheart so he was the only person i had ever dated- talk about culture shock to start dating again).\n\nAfter my divorce, I felt the need to take a little time to adjust and get to know myself. Felt kind of like I had lost myself in the marriage so to speak. I spent the first 6 months after my divorce alone - it was a conscious choice i made. After that time frame, I started going out with my friends/socializing. Everything from going out dancing, traveling together, attending sports events, outdoor activities, etc...In doing these things i made more friends and when someone asked me out - I went. Dating alot during that time frame helped me to see what i really wanted in another person and it got me used to the dating scene again. I let the person know i hadn't dated in a long time and tried to have a sense of humor about the situation, but I would definitely not go on and on about your ex, your marriage, etc...no bigger turn off!\n \nI think sometimes it is hard in the beginning to think about dating because you are afraid things have changed drastically in the dating world after 25 years, but actually it is pretty much the same. Women just have more choices now, then they used to. We can ask guys out, make the decisions, etc...One difference i did find is alot of younger men asked me out. At first, I wasn't comfortable with this, but my friends said, that i needed to realize that age doesn't matter as much anymore. People look younger than they are and younger men seem to like older women because we are more secure and know what we want out of life. It seemed men my own age were interested in younger women after their divorces and older men are too set in their ways or couch potatoes, so the younger guy thing is an alternative - not that you can't find someone great who is a peer or older...\n\nI set some rules for myself as well: No guys too young - just wouldn't be right for me personally, and I have sons that are grown so i did not want to make anyone uncomfortable. I was 42 at time of my divorce and dated men mostly in 34 to 42 age group. I also decided to set limits for sexual activity as well.\n\nDon't be afraid to try internet dating svcs. It is the new way to meet people - you do have to be careful. Don't give out personal info at first, write to them, talk on phone and then finally meet them in a public place. I dated for eight years after my divorce had a great time, met wonderful people and not so wonderful people and just six months ago met a guy online first time i gave yahoo personals a try and we are getting married this year!\n\nHave fun, be adventurous and don't take life too seriously.\nMaybe the first few dates will be hard - getting  used to the dating thing again, but it will get easier and easier. Oh, and if you have kids that are concerned about the dating thing - communicate with them\n\nGood Luck!\nalaska friend
412200
Hey, I'm in my 30's.  Have yet to find Mr. Rite, kinda getting tired of Mr. RiteNow. (know what I mean) but as they say patience is a virtue!!!!  BLECH to that...LOL  As far as I'm concerned it's too easy to get a divorce, therefore yep lotsa divorcees out there to check out.. Would be nice to know "where" to find these single guys, cuz the bars suck for that unless ur into one niters.......GOOD LUCK on ur quest!!   :)
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27 is not old !!! my wife found me at 28 and she has a son. he was 5 then, just turned 8 last week. we are married now with one on the way - any day now - due date next week. i thort as you do " where is she? where can i look? "  I'll be honest with you, i never believed the old saying " stop looking and they'll find you "   but thats exactly what happened. honest. the only real advice i can give would be, dont try too hard, be yourself at all times, dont wait too long before you tell him you have a child, go out when you can with friends, explore all avenues (i mean blind dates and set ups as long as evaluating all pickup lines).  goodluck and i hope that the right guy is just aroun the corner for you.
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Dont rush in the world of dating and relationships.\n\nDont let yourself feel lonely, enjoy life. Being single has its benefits, etc.\n\nI myself is currently single and I dont let issues get to me like many single people. Enjoy it and wait for opportunities to come... and then you will meet Mr Right.   One day, Ms Right will cross my path.\n\nKeep your chin up and take care!!
612891
ABSOLUTELY NOT!\n\nBecause some one is single, it could be that they are not looking at this time for a "mate".  \n\nIt could be that they havent met "MR/MRS RIGHT"\n\nIt maybe that they are simply not looking for something permanent, focusing on thier careers, school work, or other intersts, and find that a relationship could hinder them in what they are trying to achieve.\n\nIt maybe that no one asks them out!\n\nIt maybe that the person is shy, or lack self esteem on thier part, and wont talk to people, thus are going to be lonely for a very long time, if not until they are old.\n\nJust some reasons, out of a million and one reason...\n\nI wish you well...\n\nJesse
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Let me think..... hmmmmmm   10 years ago I was "happily married" and planning to stay that way, so was not even considering dating ever again (other than date-night w/ hubby, and w/0 kids)\n\nNOW>....... separated a couple of years, been thru the .... "I'll never date, no-how, no-way,.... and am at the stage of thinking...........  maybe..... and starting to keep my eyes and ears open for possibilities.
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lol....just be yourself...be confident!!! Like i said..it may take a while because I'm 23 years old, married and there are still things I shy away from. It happens but like i said..be confident. You don't need you friends to introduce you to there female friends if they don't want to. Introduce yourself...have a nice conversation and take it from there.  And it's good you don't use your car or money for the women. There are soo many women out there looking for a guy like you. Give it some time.
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I'm 31, and while not "terrified" of dating, it does stress me out a lot. Rather than putting a lot of pressure on yourself with "dating", I recommend simply focusing on having an active social life, on being involved in clubs and organizations where you can meet new guys. Invite them out on casual "getting to know you" type outings. If romantic potential is there, you can build to it.\n\nThere's no need to rush towards anything physical (in fact, it's better not to). If you find that you like a guy but want to take things slow, be open and honest with him about it. Same thing if you don't want a romance (and he seems to).
94596
Naw, dont worry about it. I am almost the same way. I have been kissed, but it meant nothing. I turned 17 last June, and I went on my first date a few months ago. I guess I'm just waiting for the right girl.
45093
Hey single 20 something divorced female here and it has been so tough being divorced and single in my 20s I am just PRAYING my 30s are phenomenal!!