Why does my sex life suck?
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Historically, we guys have been made fun of, because sometimes all it takes is a shift in the breeze to get our motors going. And yes, by and large, we're more visual when it comes to getting turned on. But you've stumbled upon something that many women don't know. We like to be complimented, chased after, and once in a while, even leered at. What's in a guy's head? To quote Cheap Trick: "I want YOU to want ME!" \nSo, here are 10 sure-fire ways to love and lust after your fella. \n\n\nBe specific. Don't go for the blanket statement "you're sexy." It's too easy. Think about how you'd feel if that was the best he could come up with when you're standing there nekkid. So, pick something out -- "your arms are so strong. I love to watch the muscles move when you take your shirt off." Or..."You have an incredible (butt/chest/etc.). I just wanna grab you!" See what I mean? \n\nStare. You know how to do it. The same way those construction workers watch you walk by. The same way that guy at work looks at you when you're wearing a plunging neckline. Look him up and down. Undress him with your eyes. And let him know you're doing it, like when he's walking in front of you, climbing up a ladder, or just stepping out of the shower. Heck, even lick your lips and wolf-whistle if you feel like it. \n\nTouch. We men don't have the market cornered on groping. You see something you want, you grab it. There's not a much better compliment than: "Sorry, I just couldn't keep my hands to myself!" Run your hand up his thigh. Down the back of his neck. You know how to do it. \n\nSurprise him. Call in the middle of the day, and tell him you're already thinking about tonight. Or, that you're still in a daze from last night. Catch him at the right time and he won't be able to think of anything but you for the rest of the day. And night. \n\nCompare. Even when you're watching TV or reading magazines, point out to him all the guys he's better looking/smarter/taller than (in your opinion, of course). What guy doesn't want to hear: "I don't see what the big deal is with Brad Pitt. You're way hotter than he is. WAY hotter." \n\nLingerie. No, not for you. Get him a pair of silk boxers (or boxer-briefs, if he prefers), and ask him to model them for you. Then, go back to #1 and get very specific about what you find so sexy about him in his undies. Don't laugh. It works on you women every time. \n\nExclusivity. Nobody can touch your body the way he does. NObody else could ever make you feel that good. Nobody has ever turned you on as much as him. Get the idea? He knows he's the only man in your world. Now let him know why. \n\nJump him. Plain and simple. This accomplishes everything you're asking for, no words necessary. Drag him into the bedroom (or the kitchen table, on the floor, or over to the couch). Throw him down. And have at him as if he were your last meal. You're just so turned on by him that you can't even control yourself. Sounds like a compliment to me! \n\nWrite to him. An e-mail. A letter. A poem. Pour your feelings out on paper and give them to him. Love letters have worked on women for hundreds of years. Maybe it's time the tables were turned. \n\nRepeat as necessary. Find what works for you and him. Go with it. Or, mix it up a little. Keep him on his toes. He'll never know where the next compliment is coming from. Basically, all you need to do is try new ways to stroke him (and his ego), and you're good to go. \n\n\nHide the Honey\n\nThis game requires a blindfold and a small amount of honey, chocolate syrup, nutella or caramel...and no clothes. Blindfold your partner, then hide a drop of honey somewhere on your body. Without using his or her hands, and without the aid of sight, your partner has to find that drop of honey...with their mouth. :) \n\nWhat's Your
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If it's not taking any fun out of your sex life, why is this a problem for you?
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wow! about the same exact thing you did i did with my boy. we went out for like 8 months without having sex things were bad so i had sex with him thinking it would make it better. it did at first. he talks to other girls but i cant talk to other guys without him getting pissed.. everyone just tells me itll take time...and really thats all you can do. try to keep yourself busy and you wont think about it so much and put away pictures and things that remind you of him.
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It is hell on earth.\n\n1. You live with someone but never have sex\n\n2. You can't, can't, can't just simply walk out the door after a fight. \n\n3. Wives become nags, husbands become lazy slobs\n\n4. Both you and your spouse will end up putting on an extra 50 lbs, just because you can.\n\nIn other words, don't bother. You can still have the sex and the joy of a relationship without complicating your life.
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Could be that your new boyfriend although better for you, is not as good in bed, so you are not 100% satisfied with him. So when you think about sex, you think of your x because he was better. Just a theory.
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You are so right.  I hate to see girls answer questions about problems us guys have with our equipment.  I think most are trying to be funny or trying to get 2 points.  As far as your worrying about sex, just forget about everything and have fun with it because that is what it was made for.  We all have certain times when things don't work like you want them to work, but they usually are far and few so relax my friend, and enjoy!
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I'm guessing that ur not turned on, if u have probs keepin it up. Think of stuff that turns you on, or ask the chic ur wif to help you keep it up by tryin different or nu things. Or maybe it's juz too boring for you, in that case make it kinky!
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Good sex life has a positive impact on the relationship yes, but it isnt a cure for a crappy communication skills or a million marital problems.
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Yes. I've heard from personal stories. Everybody's different. He may be one with low sex drive, or yours higher. Could even be psycological issues, though I don't think that is usually the case. Happy bed time!
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you cannot place your  sex life above your friendship. because your friendship is far valuable than sex will ever be./ in other words you can live without sex but you cannot live without friendship!!\n     imagine being a loner with no friends!! can you do that easy?\ni doubt that!!\n  think about it!!!!!!
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Good question. It's getting on my nerves.\nAbstain from sex, or use birth control, leave someone that's not treating you well, don't sleep with married people, stay in school, take care of your kids.\nLastly, Do something good for yourself so you won't be needy enough to go for this crap!
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I don't know what gender you are, but for me, sex is not as great as people make it out to be.  I find it very sad that women find it just another chore they have to do.  What a waste of human life, not being able to enjoy the closeness that two people should share.  People should slow down and enjoy each other.
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It sounds like you wife needs to see a Doctor first. She could have a medical condition that needs to be addressed. If that doesn't work then take her to a Psychologist for help with your sex life. Good luck
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I think your man has issues...most of all, it sounds as if he is very insecure about his sexual performance.\n\nOften, when there are problems with sex, there are corresponding problems elsewhere in the relationship. \n\nI would want to ask you, are you happy with your relationship in other ways? If sex if the only area of your relationship that you are not satisfied with, then yes, it is worth giving him another chance. When you talk to him, it will help if you are very reassuring to him. Tell him the two of you are in this together and you would like to help him to work it out.\n\nIf there are other areas in the relationship that aren't working, I would say that you seriously need to consider leaving. Sex is not the most important part of a loving relationship. But if you feel that something is missing, you will be unhappy unless you resolve it one way or another. And that won't help you or your man.\n\nHope this helps and wishing you good luck.
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Your hormones are raging. Think about it this way. When your older and no longer care about sex that much anymore, are you going to be with someone who loves you and that you love. You want someone who will be your friend when that time comes. For love, you have to make sacrifices. You can't have everything or you might end up with nothing.
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Ok, here is the deal. Sex for the majority of the time is weird and awkward the first time because people are nervous and don’t wanna mess it up.\n\nI have had bad sex and great sex those first times. I always try again. But the problem might be that the two people just don’t click. I have been a porn star with some girls. And with others I have been blaming things and being tired and stressed out.\n\nSex is a complicated issue. But sex really doesn’t get good until both partners are completely comfortable with each other so they are not worried about messing it up and doing something stupid. Or not being able to get the girl off.\n\nI suggest reading some books on the subjects there are some really good books out there.\n\nBut it really depends if you’re willing to help him out and work on it by being caring supportive and non-judgmental. Or you’re just doing it to get off. And if he is not willing to improve drop him.\n\nI have learned that I can’t get with ugly chicks even if I want to. So now I stick to the hot ones where I’m best and last all night.\n\nWhat ever anyway hope that helps Peace.
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when you are having sex ,just imagine your past foreplay.if it doesn't work then, meet sex therapist b/cos you may have organismic dysfunction.