How do I break the chains holding me to her? Someone please help me..anyone...?
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Let it Go ...by T. D. Jakes \n\nThere are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them  walk. \n\nI don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you,  loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying  attached to you. I mean hang up the phone. \n\nWhen people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. The bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19] \n\nPeople leave you because they are not joined to you.   And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. Let them  go. And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead. \n\nYou've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you  something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift,  I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm  faithful, and I know  whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. \n\nStop begging people to stay. Let them go!! If u are holding on to something that doesn't  belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to ..LET IT GO!!!  \n\nIf you are holding on to past hurts and pains ...LET IT  GO!!! If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your  worth...LET IT GO!!! \n\nIf someone has angered you ... LET IT GO!!! \n\nIf you  are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge .. LET IT  GO!!! \n\nIf you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction ... LET IT GO!!! \n\nIf you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents ... LET IT GO!!! \n\nIf you have a bad attitude...LET IT GO!!! If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better... LET IT GO!!! \n\nIf you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him... LET IT GO!!! \n\nIf you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship....LET IT GO!!! \n\nIf you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves...LET IT GO!!! \n\nIf you're feeling depressed and stressed .... LET IT GO!!! \n\nIf there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling  yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need  to... LET IT GO!!! \n\nLet the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing for  2006   LET IT GO!!! \n\nGet Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then LET IT GO!!! "The Battle is the Lord's!"
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dont force it.....you gotta be smooth, try and grab her hand...but make it look like an accident, not too obvious of an accident, but say it was accident if she pulls away, if she doesnt, hold her hand and look her in the eyes, only try this once......you dont want her to think your desperate
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get a grip, dude.\ntalk to her.
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Well all you have to do is just get to know her, and then treat her with respect. Dont abuse her. Trust me it hurts.\n\n Aimee
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Ending a relationship hurts.  Just take time for yourself.  Do the things you didn't get to do as often when you were with her.  Try something new.  But definitly don't rush into a new relationship.  It's only been a day, like you said.  It will get better, I promise!
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I have a similar situation. But it is SHE in my case. Plz..help us both(the asker and me).
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Hold her down and beat it out of her. I am just kidding. Just talk to her and ask her how she feels about you. Then explain to her, that you have specia feelings for her and would like to take your relationship to another level. Good Luck!
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well what did you do.. if you dont want to say it online, that i fine, but you should give her some time!! b/c running up to her right after it happened is never a good idea!! jsut let her some time to breathe and then try again!! let her kno that you are really truely srry!! try giving her a present or a card or something that tells her how you feel!! adn then.. dont ever do it again.. unless you really just want her to NEVER forgive you!!
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Be the bigger person...keep eating until you're bigger than her, and then mess with her.  No, but seriously, be the bigger person and tell her you don't appreciate it, and then move past her.  She's not worth your time.
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Wow you are very brave for letting her go up there.  I can't believe my ears .. in a way I admire you for that and in a way .. I think it's wrong.  But you know what .. you made a good choice .. becaue you are right .. if she doesn't have any way to get it out of her system then she wil forever feel the way she was feeling and you will always have this fear on your shoulders.  I hope that if she does come back to you she never does this again and worships the ground you walk on.  Update us on when she gets back.
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whack her upside the head with a 2x4\nthat will bring her back in line\njust don't do it so hard that you kill her\nLOL\nj/k
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She might be that one that is out of reach that you know you shouldn't go after but deep down you want to try just to see if you can. See if you can tame the beast within her and all of that. Talk to her if your interested, see if you can get her to go do something with you and take it from there.
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You just have to keep trying. The reason why it happens just when you think you're making headway is probably because she is afraid to let it go and get through it because it is familiar to her. Even though it hurts her it's all she knows. Children will hold onto whatever makes them secure no matter if it's good or bad. They feel secure when eveything in their life is always the same. My guess is that she is over you not being with him anymore but is still holding onto the next phase...the pain. You have to let her know that it is ok to be sad but it's also ok to move on.Continue to let her know how much you love her. You have to be strong for her when she breaks down, she'll see and feel your strength and little by little she'll know that she can get through it. But you cannot break down with her just make sure you comfort her, that way she knows you two have each other. Whatever you do , if you know being with him was not good for the two of you, don't give in. No matter how much you see that it hurts her.......do what's best for the both of you. It's like when a child wants to eat a lot of candy.....they'll cry because you won't let them....but you are the parent and you know that in the long run all that candy is bad for their teeth and not very healthy for them. You said she is so grown up for her age.......be the parent...don't let her make these difficult decisions. Only you know what's best for your child!
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If you still love her?  I don't think what happened could stop you from loving her assuming you did in the 1st place.\n\nIf you do love her you should stand by her.  She will need you now more than ever.  In any case be supportive.  The bastard that did that to her should be sent to prison so he can experience some "treatment" from the big boys himself!!!
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This poor girl is so traumatized that she doesn't know what she is feeling or how to get control of her life. The abuse she is subjected to has made her life become so severely distorted that her priorities are mismanaged. She is beyond knowing who she loves and too paralyzed with fear to know what is a right course of action for her. She is obviously easily manipulated both by what ever "stuff" you were telling her and by being trapped in this dead end abusive relationship with the monster boyfriend. To further compound her desperation she has fallen pregnant. You're correct. It is appalling. So much so that the abusive rat-friend of hers has taken total control of her life. Don't think for one minute that it was her decision not to see you anymore. What ever she has "stated" to you is through his will because she has no will of her own.  Her life is in complete control by that bastard she is shackled to. That pig is calling the shots. He's the one who has forbidden her to call you. He's the one who has brainwashed her into marrying. \nYou need to ask yourself how much you care about her. If you do care enough how can you intervene on her behalf to get her away from the abuse? It's almost impossible to get someone out of an abusive situation unless they are willing to do so. For her she would need a whole network of support.  For sure that guy needs to be locked up. Just hope that he doesn't kill her to make that happen. If he's hospitalized her once it's likely to get even worse. For now just wait and see what happens. She may soon come running back to you.
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She's not going to stop you or give you another chance until she knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that you're not going to hurt her again.\n\nEverything was going good until you decided you would rather stay home home than go to work and help support her and the household you so badly wish to be a part of.\n\nYour lies was the reason she froze up again and won't ask you to stay.\n\nI can't believe you tried to get away with it again. You know she's going to catch you and you know it's going to hurt her when she does, and that she's going to retaliate. She always does. She can SMELL the lies from a mile away. \n\nYou always say the same things after she has caught you in a lie. What makes you think she's going to listen this time?\n\nIf you decide to go, then go. If it's meant to be you will be back. If you decide to stay (which you claim to have done), then work on fixing yourself. Maybe if she sees over time that you have truly changed (and she will know if it's genuine), then you can give it another try later.\n\nThere's no doubt in my mind that she does love you. She's just tired of being hurt on a regular basis by the same B.S. The walls of ice grow thicker around her heart every time you hurt her, it will take time to melt them.
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Sounds to me like you can't handle her bro. My best bet is move a side and make room for a real man.\n\nJoking. \n\nTell her that a guy can't do it 10 times a day with out dier consequences.