Is it abnormal to feel upset when your husband's work 'do's' go on untill 4am?
597832
Your husband should b spending time with u...u r his wife not his bloody maid.
974777
You are alot like me, I feel that way all the time, I think it's because of an anger built up, and being mean and hateful is the only way we can deal with it. There isn't anything wrong with being mad, it's when you really hurt someone that you really care about that will get you , and myself in trouble , the only thing I can think of is that we need to find something entersting to do. I'm a stay at home mother and I really don't like being in the house all day, but I have to because I just had a baby and I have a 3 year old, There is never anyone to talk to, when my husband gets home, I'm tired and so is he, but my day doesn't end there. But yes I to am a angry woman. Good Luck to you and I hope you find peace, I know that I'll be looking for also.
192525
Well, if he has to work he has to work. You can't get upset at him for that. If you feel he is just neglecting you I wouldn't invest anymore of my time into the relationship. He may care for you but honestly doesn't have enough time. You sound like a clingy woman so it would probably be in your best interest to find someone who can devote more time to you.
1085143
My husband modiness and be upsetting at times but i get like that at times too. I cant really say anything makes me really mad at him as we work through all of our differences and we love and accept each other even with our imperfections!
175086
Well, my hubby works like 12-14 hour days so he'll be home late and he'll have to be up at 5 in the morning.  So we'll do like we usually do on weeknights and have dinner when he gets home then watch a little tv and then go to bed.
900734
can't blame you for getting frustrated...what you need is a break. meaning...go somewhere else with your husband, take a trip to a new place or a place where you've been to before and had a great time...\nsometimes it takes much more than "holding it" to ignite things... a change of environment once in a while is good for both of you.\ni think your husband feels stressed out, or something is really troubling him and doesnt want to tell you what...but that's another story...\n\nand about your question if its normal for him to not want to have sex, my answer would be yes. My husband is like that..sometimes...esp when he's tired, i realized my energy level is higher than his so i try my best to meet halfway...husbands are lazy when they are tired and sleepy even if as you put it...you are a hottie.\n\nGood luck to you and your hubby...
346668
It sounds as if he is displeased with the state of your life together.  You are both working way too much in my opinion.  You should both cut back.  Then he'll have plenty of time to sleep and you'll have more time to spend together.
731872
I feel like that every day I leave my office and head for home when I work with the one boss. Sometimes it can be anxiety over so many things going on at once, at least that's what I've pin pointed it to in my situation. When the one boss is here he is crazy running around like a chicken with his head cut off, a huge tornado of chaos. It totally drains me after he leaves. Any other day I am fine, I think his chaotic manners suck my energy right out of me. I've tried just bracing myself for him to be chaotic and then when he leaves reorganise everything back to it's original spot,  also I ignore him somewhat, act really absorbed into my work and then he doesn't really bother me.
1184773
You might need to right your wrongs.  It may mean accepting the consequences, but this too shall pass.  I sometimes replay the day over and over in my head and am not able to sleep.  As well as often times I wake early (sometimes as early as 2a.m.) in the morning when my husband leaves for work and I start thinking of the activities of the day ahead.  I am a Christian so I pray, and most often times that helps.
1049554
Yeah! These people are aTTACKers, aren't they...but helpful, too. Don't delete your question because I'ma watchin' it, girlfriend!\nWell, I say if he has the NERVE to check you on YOUR DAILY WORK, then you can get that same nerve.  \n\nThat is the trade-off, right.  And he wouldn't want to switch with you.  Tell him on a Saturday morning or a day off to track what the heck he does all day! Projects take longer than men think.  I like to get everything done in the 1st two hours of of the morning hustlin. Then, no matter what I do it's just done and the happy husbands off\nmy friggin' back.  \n\nTell him if you spent as much time cleaning up after HIM as you \ndid on the other household, necessary daily chores, he'd HAVE\nthe neat, sparkly perfect home he desired.  He'll get mad, that's just that tender little species of fragility and gentleness called\nTHE MALE EGO.\n\nTo those people who are working do NOT assume SAHM is\na dream job.  Its not for lazy bums.  Not the hardest work, \nbut important and challenging, more than you'd think.
1059849
i know how you feel.  except mine is a 3 year old tantrum king!  spouse is deployed and we're far from home so i feel your pain...almost like being a single parent.  i enrolled him in a day program.  i feel like such a better parent when i see him.  i have a chance to miss him.  he is soooo feisty and just an all around boy he drives me nuts so having him burn his energy for 4 hours a day and then coming home...he's nice and relaxed and doesn't fight me when it's bed time.   also, you probably heard the saying.....terrible 2's, horrible 3's......lol
578969
My marriage for sure - seems there's never enough time to spend time together.  \n\nI also feel like I neglect my kids, while I'm doing housework.  But, I guess they COULD help me so that I get done faster & then we'd have more together time.  I don't feel guilty when I say "Hey, lets go to the show, or out to eat" and neglect housework/other things for the evening.  That stuff can usually wait!!
350889
I think its cool that he is thinking about your future and trying to work hard to make better for both of you. You should understand him little bit more. Listen to what he says and take for what he's telling you, not for signs of cheating and don't think he is going to leave you because he obviosly cares. I completely understand that you might feel lonley sometimes. I've been there too, with my husband working long hours, but all you have to do is talk to him. Let him know that you miss him sometimes and that you need affection. Try to understand each other with out making an argument about it. Lots of Luck.
538159
Yes (my daughter actually went to bed before eleven!!) and no, my man is at work. He works nights. I miss him.
800074
My husband and I have been in this situation for 6 years.  We have 2 sons, 6 & 2.  My advice is don't take each other for granted.  Even though I am at work all day does not mean I don't need time for myself.  Likewise, he should still be able to go out or pursue his own hobbies.  You need to watch each other for cues that the other is stressed out.  I try to do as much as I can to "help" on the weekends and in the evenings.  On the weekends, I run erands with the boys (post office, grocery store, etc) giving my hubby a little time to himself.  I also do most of the cooking on the weekends since he does it all week.  I try to get laundry and bills caught up (bill paying is my job).  He loves professional football, so during football season I make sure I occupy the boys so he can watch it at home or go out if he chooses.  It ain't easy! Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!!!!!
523904
Wow, you're doing a wonderful job just by hanging in there. Your family is lucky to have you. \n\nBut yes, you will exhaust yourself trying to keep the family afloat alone (basically), and without anyone meeting your emotional needs.\n\nWhat your husband doing is very common for men. I know I can drift that way as well. It's hard to deal with the pressures of work, then come home and "depressurize" to meeting people's emotional needs. Chances are he is not skilled with relationships anyway, so it drains him to try.\n\nThis is not an excuse for his behavior. I'm simply saying it's understandable and common. Ultimately, he needs to change his priorities and realize that you are giving far beyond what is fair and that you can't do it forever -- you have needs as well. \n\nI think he thinks he does love you, but he's not "getting" that his actions aren't showing you any love at all.\n\nIs there any clear end in sight to his study/work schedule? Sometimes you can just let thing go, if he has one or two semesters left. If the end is far away or you can't see an end, then you need to fix things now.\n\nYou can't force him to talk, you can just give him opportunity. Ask him general questions about how his day went; don't push if he doesn't want to talk much; he'll see it as "nagging" (he'd be wrong, but that's how he'll probably perceive it). \n\nTell him the BASICS of your day, rather than tons of nitty-gritty details (those things will overwhelm him). If you can make conversation seem less overwhelming or intense for him, then maybe he will eventually open up.\n\nIs there anyone he is close to, whom you can confide in and who can talk to him? You don't want to manipulate, but he does need to hear that, although he is definitely doing good by working hard and studying hard, you and your son are dying inside and need his presence more than his work ethic. He needs to reprioritize things.\n\nYou also need to ask for 15 minutes of his time. Tell him, without pleading or begging or sounding angry, that you are proud of what he has done and how hard he works; and that you want to be as supportive as you can; but that even if he doesn't understand why, you feel completely alone and that your son misses him too. You can't live in such an emotionless vacuum. Something has to change. Your marriage is suffering.\n\nSet some practical time boundaries -- small at first if necessary, of what you need. Decide with him what things you need help with and how he can help.\n\nHe's going to have trouble shifting gears. I hope that he listens to you and senses your support for him, as well as how much you're hurting; and this will motivate him to change. He will not give you everything you need and deserve at first, but that's where he's at right now and needs time to change. \n\nHe might need advice from others who have been in his situation before. Some things will not be obvious to him.\n\nBless you for hanging in there and trying so hard to keep your family going.
219433
Its a mood thing.  I'm the same way.  Sometimes I'm heading home, just hoping for a fight with my wife. \n\nUsually, I keep to myself when I arrive till my mood changes.\n\nTry that.  Just let him know you need to be alone, your not in the mood for company...or to fight.\n\nGood luck darlin