how long should i try to get back with my ex before i give up?
610541
I'm sorry about your breakup, I know things like this can be hard and no matter what people say, we always want things to come out the way we hope it does. \n\nBut it seems like, almost a year is going by, and no progress.  Do you realize that if you keep trying to get back with someone who doesn't want you, you may miss the one intended for you?  It seems like it's really over between the two of you, and maybe it's time to move on and spend some time recovering from your breakup.  Then get back into the dating field and see what happens.  \n\nI hope you find who you are looking for, because it isn't this other girl.  \n\nGood Luck!\n:)
442901
u have to try to be strong...think about why she broke up with u if u dont know ask her. try to stay on her good side and fight to get her back but dont allow her to see how hard u r tryin if she is takin u for granted cuz she will never take u back she will keep playin with your emotions but if she needs to see how hard u r tryin to get her back let her see. if there is no way u can get her back then seek help from a pro. meanwhile talk to someone about it cry if u have to and make sure u think about the good times and not the bad cuz that will make u feel worst. if u really love her then i think u should put up a fight its better than not tryin at all. as time passes u will start feelin better u will not see it now bcuz she just broke up with u but as time passes u will see things gettin easier. its not gonna happen over night at all this is a healing process. if u wanna talk further about it ill be there for u. email me at jbhola87@yahoo.com...till then feel better. PRAY!
548938
look ..i'm in the same setuation as you r ...my ex said he not ready ..so we broke up. And i'm not the kind of girl who give up on everything and trying to get what i want but i just relise what is the point of tryting to get someone who doesn't want me. so i think i should be happy with single life and i don't need them to make me happy. But i love him so i give him what he want ..he want to be friends and i friends with him and he don't want me to hate him and angry ..so i don't and i just trying to be cooling off and i don't show him how much i need him and i told him i'm happy and give him his need but at the same time i'm making my self happy and enjoy my life without him...who know, i believe their is someone out there is waiting for you and me ...and i know i will be inlove again and so do u...but if he want to come back let him be and if he don't just set him free as he wish ...\n\nRemember if u trying to make ur self happy and if you happy life is good ...this is just a part of life ..let them go ...
653811
forget him, if he doesn't want you back find someone who is better than him - he'll want you back then, just like you want him back now\n\nyou break up for a reason, why get back together?  did things really change?  (they usually don't)
398975
Hay ..i just broke up wit my bf a month ago....the only way u will win his heart back is stop calling him and stop seeing him..dun make contant wit him not even if u wanted to ...u hav to be strong .. i know it hard to do and it imporsible to do it if u really love them ..but u want him right!! dun beg him to come back to u ..the more u ask them to come to u the more they will run away ..pretent u dun need them to make ur life happy ....that way they will wonder why!!!and they will think they make a mistake.. People wanted wht they can't hav ...i try this idea to my ex and it kind of work ...altho we didn't get back together he stay willing to be my friend ..if u r friend wit him it always hav time to get back ..and now he said he miss me ....i hope it will work for u if u try my way ..Be strong ...if he didn't come back he dun derseve u ...girl u hav to be strong ..mostly Move on wit ur life ....
949702
there could be a lot of ways to show your ex that you want him back & that you still care about him..however, things happen for a reason & there should be a reason why he became your ex..sad to say, if things are not really meant to be, no matter what you do, no matter how you try, you can never win him back..so it would be better to just show you still care but if he doesn't care about you anymore, just move on & find someone who's more worth the efforts..Ü
393466
If he wants you back he will find a way.  You might have to accept that he has moved on and try to do so yourself.  The pain goes away if you let it.x
286695
Move on.  There is someone out there who will return your affections.  You deserve better.
529469
be patient and not pushy. however if he is not sure he wants to be there then even if he does come back he won't be all there, why would you want someone to be with you that you have to beg to be there? thats a little sad and won't work out in the long run anyway. i think you need to worry less about getting him back and spend some time thinking about why you are so desperate to be with someone that you are willing to disrespect yourself so much.
1163744
If he broke up with you to explore his options and regrets his decision now that it's not working out in his favor, TOO BAD! Do not take him back. He was selfish enough to end what you had to start something new, who's to say he won't repeat these actions. If you go back to him, he'll know you're weak and will prey on that as long as you give into whatever conveniences him. Just love yourself more than that. He doesn't even deserve someone as nice as you, you can do better. Good luck in love and life!
364602
It is normal to want to get back w/ your ex. However, you should only get back w/ him only if you want to.  Don't let him pressure you into it. There are a lot things you have to take into consideration...i.e. like why did you all separate, can u trust him, and is the relationship worth trying again? Whatever you do, don't rush to make decisions, take things slowly, and remember ur happiness is most important. Good Luck.
638221
Start from scratch.  Do not resume this relationship where you left off.  That would be the mistake.  People change.  If you are interested in getting back together.  Do not date for six months.  Let your old love mourn the loss of the marriage.  This will allow your old love to clear his mind first.  Start dating and take it slowly to find out how the marriage has affected him and why his marriage failed.
1109715
I've been there and tried to do that. Except it was ex bf. I only realized that giving him time was the right thing. He came back to me with his own self. Taking him back is the only thing that bothers me now. But that's not the point. Knowing what you want from your relationship is! You, both, have to be open like a book. If both of you feel like you want a relationship than accept her when she comes back to you. But still give her time. (If she doesn't, than that only means that she's not right for you.) Usually it's much easier to get along if you are understanding your needs and wants. But if she is depressed, like she is saying, that must be the relationship she had at the moment when she was with you. Though finding another guy - is not the answer either. I say get yourself busy, and let her live. If she wants you, she will come back, and will appriciate you for being there.
448515
Well u went a yr,,, some people can't even go that long without wondering if they should call the ex, \n\nBut if u want to call just 2 say hi it's cool, if ur calling because ur hoping may be u can get back together with him  be prepared, it's been more then a yr he could have a girlfriend by now. And if u find that out it could hurt all 3 of u, hurt u because u were hoping u could get back with him, u her because his ex is calling after more then a yr and she'll know why your calling, hurt him because  he will having some explaining to do.\n\nSo think about it first.
1102978
Well, first of all it depends on what u did to make her leave...or if you pushed her away.......it is possible that there is no help.....it really depends on the circumstances surrounding the break up....\n\nbut if u really love this girl...and deep down inside she really loves u, then there is still a chance.....\n\ntake into consideration what she likes and enjoys.....what are her needs and wants......u have to begin there becuase there is where u make a difference....\n\nonce u have identified that.....come up wit som creative ways to capture her heart.....women enjoy romance and that is the entrance into our hearts......come up with ways to romance her back into you life.....\n\ni can tell u what to do, but i can offer you ways to stimulate ure thinking so that you can come up with ways to get her back...afterall, if u have taken the time out to get to know her...u will know how to win her back.....\n\nagain, providing that u didnt push her away considering the circumstances....\n\nhope that helps\n\nSincere
212180
If you want her back, apologize and promise to be good, and keep that promise. Otherwise, get out in the world and start dating again. You'll find someone new to care for.
133365
There is not much you can do.  From experience it is best to keep your distance. It will make it easier for your ex in the long run trust me.  Cut your losses and move on before you worry about something that just takes time to heal the wounds. If you keep hanging around and continue to permit yourself to be subjected to him you could possible make it harder on yourself and get hurt in the long run.