My son is too shy aroud other kids but not adults?
597012
you should try to put him in a day care or a place where there are a lot of kids around and where he doesn't have you to hide behind talk to the teachers there or who ever is in charge and tell him what his problem is. they are usually very good at making activities so that the kids become friends and stop being so shy.
638603
as a mother of 3 boys i can tell u - find for them something to do. in that case they will be busy and won't have time to drive u nuts. i give my kids some chores and try to keep them separate from each other by giving them some different appointments\nand i would really answer also to that previous to mine answer - if he has children like drunk midgets it is his own fault that he can not have nice chidren. mine never woke me up in the morning by hitting me even when they were brainless toddlers. children are the best people on this planet if they hace normal parents
116482
They can make friends easily(sometimes!!) like other children do. Actually making a friend is up to the person, if he really wants to have a friend then he'll make friends with other people if he's shy then maybe he'll have to pick if he's willing. Adults are like kids when it comes in making friends.. some are shy and some are not.
142725
First of all, I think it is a great thing that he is currently being evaluated. Sounds like Aspergers is a possibility...in my opinion...but could be several other disorders.\nTo address his needs now...try to give him something to do with his hands (holding something, etc). Explaing 'personal space' by describing a 'bubble' that is around people. He may not enter someone elses bubble without their permission...but explain what he can do...shake hands, wave, hi-five. Try to remain positive and give lots of good feedback when he soes something desired...rather than lots of negative when he does something wrong. But, in order to do that you need to explain the 'rules' of what is appropriate more than once. You can even try coming up with a behavior modification system, (for example, stickers for each 10 minute period with positive behavior). I wish I could help more, but with a limited knowledge of the situation, this is the best I can do.\nOnce he is evaluated you will have the benefit of a team to work directly with him and possibly you to help him integrate into the classroom.\nGood Luck
652310
Special need children should not be rushed to do things that might feel complicated to them. Give him more time and let him learn slowly instead of drastically transitioning him. I would try with an open cup and put saran clear wrap over it and make a little opening. Teach him to not let water touch the clear wrap and slowly guide him. They need to be conditioned...even little puppies need guidance like that.
651369
I was shy when I was young hid behind my mommys leg if anyone looked at me. When I hit 7th grade it was like overnight I wasn't shy no more and wasn't embarrassed to do things. I am not sure why. They way I see it enjoy life and if someone don't like the way you are and what you say that is their problem as long as you are being nice and kind. Try humor... Just don't worry about what other people thinks.
1069881
I think someone else mentioned this, but I think you need to speak to the teacher without accusing her.  Find out what her policies are, and not only listen to her answers, but see how she answers.  Is she yelling at you when she speaks, or does she speak softly?  Is her body language telling you that she is trying to hide something?  \n\nIf you don't seem to get an answer to your question, try telling her that your son feels like he is being put upon because he is shy, which is only going to make him more shy, and perhaps between the two of you, you can help him get out of his shell and interact with the class.  If you make it clear that you want to work WITH her rather than report her, you will have a better shot at getting what you want.
105871
She/he may have a disorder... Just be careful and give them praise as well as Complements. Have them do a fun activity with you and perhaps even invite them over to do someting they like and that is fun. Ask them what is wrong and try it out too! Best wishes
912753
Discuss the possibility of asperger's disorder with your doctor.  It is a milder form of autism.  Also, he needs to have his hearing checked and to make sure his tonsils are not enlarged.\n\nIf everything comes back fine, get him a Leap Pad toy that seems approprite for his age (there are many).  Sit with him and play and try to find something common between you.  Even if he does not talk to you, talk to him.\n\nHugs
719408
It is sad that this problem weighs on a 12 year olds mind. I do think for the most part trust has gone away along time ago. You rarely hear about random acts of kindness. Try to look for the good in people and be kind to those less fortunate than we are and when you have children or come across a child maybe you can instill those values in them and bring in a complete new generation. Don't lose hope. There is always one person who spoils it for the rest. I have 2 boys and am raising them to look into someones heart first and try not to judge because you have never walked a mile in their shoes. I am happy to say my son is friends with everyone. So there is a little trust in the world take it in small doses.
973244
i sometimes feel this way. i don't feel like I am that shy of a person, but I guess other people think I am very shy. and then when boys I like tell me to be myself and say what I want, I get flustered and say things like "i don't know" even though I have a full journal of stuff I would love to tell them. I don't know why it is so hard for me to speak up in certain social situations. I have things to say, and sometimes I start talking, but then like you said, the more aggressive/louder person takes the conversation over. I guess you and I both just have to try harder to speak our minds and not think so much about what other people will think. Easier said than done though... I hate being shy and I don't know how to get rid of it. and it certainly causes problems in meeting men. so u aren't the only one out there with this issue
126352
It depends on what you mean by "not socially ready". If he is uncomfortable in a group setting, it might be a good time to ease him into a preschool routine. You might see if there are co-op preschools in your area so you can be near him and lessen the separation anxiety.\n\nIf "not socially ready" means he acts out against other children, you'll want to be more cautious, both for his sake and the safety of others. Look for partial-day programs, and consider not sending him every day. Again, a co-op might be a good environment.\n\nParticularly in this latter situation, have a heart-to-heart with the Teacher before your child steps into the classroom.
833853
i am a mother of 4 all boys . i try not to treat the youngest any different but i do and it is because he is the last one there is not going to be any more baby steps in our house it will be the last of the last . the other reason is i am tired i have said it all 3 time before by the time the 4th one goes to do it i am just tired . so he does have more freedom and he mother away with stuff .
1011057
You'll be just fine. Talking in front of kids is different than talking in front of adults. Once you do it a few times you will get used to it. Maybe you could try observing a class, or substituting to help you get over this.
206765
Oh can I relate to/with you on this one!!! I have four kids. He has one. I love this man dearly but making my four walk a narrow line and expect the best is great until it comes to his son who can do,say,etc. what ever in the heck he wants! I simply told him about it. After all, I can live without a man or find another one but my kids are all I truely have and can not be replaced. Equal...the whole house and everyone in it. No one is more special then the other when it comes to discipline! If you are in the wrong, it is our job as the parent to help set the child back down on the right path! Good luck and remember, eventually your kids will notice and hold it against you for not doing or saying anything! Good Luck!!!
508250
I often find that kids are reluctant to participate in a large group setting.  I try to always have them share their answer with a neighbor first and then when I call them back together I ask them to share what they heard instead of what they shared and that lowers the risk which almost always increases participation!
522874
try talking to them like you would to children that don't listen......be firm and strong  ... it works for me i get all there attion ....good luck! take care!