How do i tell my son that his dad just died.?
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How close is he to his Dad? My Dad died six months ago, and I find out when my brother called me. \n\nI don't think that you should wake him up. Let him get a good night's rest for tonight, because he probably won't have another for weeks.\n\nI'd really have to know the situation to know how to word this, but I suggest that you be honest. Your son will feel that he has been cheated in some way, and you do not want to add to that by deceiving him in any way. \n\nI know it's hard, but you really have to just tell him, and you are going to have a really hard time ahead of both of you. You also should have him go to the funeral, and encourage him to if he's scared. He will only have one chance to do this, and if he doesn't, he may regret it the rest of his life. Don't force it, but let him know that you don't want him to miss saying goodbye if he feels he needs to. I had to do this... I had to see my father dead, because I never would have believed it otherwise - and I'm 26, not 11.\n\nSome things you can tell him is that there are things that death can't take away. Death cannot take away the love that was between him and his father. Death cannot take away the memories he has. Once the situation settles a little and the first bit of shock is gone, find ways to remember his father - help him burn a CD that reminds him of his Dad. Make a scrapbook with him. Make a book for him with your memories of his Dad (the good ones). Find creative outlets for his emotions. Let him get angry, let him cry, and make sure that he maintains himself. \n\nPlease, please, please, concentrate on the good things about his Dad, and stay away from the bad things. My mom is still talking about all the things my Dad did wrong, and I could just strangle her. If you do this, he will see you as insecure and will turn his anger toward you. \n\nDo not accept at any point that he is over it. If you do, you may end up with a cery angry teen that starts to act out in a few years. Don't hound him, but every now and then, initiate a conversation about it and make sure he knows that you are there. \n\nEducate yourself about the grieving process and about depression and suicide warning signs. If your son appears to have a problem that goes beyond normal grieving, get him to a counselor. \n\nMy best wishes to you and your son. May his Dad watch over both of you.
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I think he just passed away.
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If the police were called out, then there would be a police report that you could obtain. Check the library for newspaper clippings concerning the ordeal. Also, if an autopsy was done, you can get hold of the funeral home, that took care of the arrangements and request a copy of that report too. Try contacting relatives or friends that lived in your neighborhood around the time of your brothers death. Checking into these things here, can also open up other windows that could possibly help you find the info you need. I am so sorry for the lost of your brother and mother. That is a lot to deal with. Lean on God, he to can help you find the peace you need to lay this to rest.
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My dad never called me either,  I always had to call him.  He died in August, and I miss  him.  Stop worrying about the small stuff.  CALL YOUR DAD!!!
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My father was killed 3 months ago and I didn't get the chance to tell him anything.  You are lucky that you have the chance to make amends.  Please don't under estimate the power of heartfelt words.  Sometimes you need to swallow your pride and be the first to initiate an apology or a conversation.  I regret everyday of my life that I was not there when my dad died.  I torture myself with the what ifs... and if onlys.  I wish I was lucky enough to have one more moment to tell him how much I love him and what a great man he was.  I don't have that chance, but you do.  Please don't waste it.
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Well here's an idea don't act so enwrapped to the relationshiop with him.  HIS DAD JSUT DIED you want to show you like him so show some comapssion towards the expired body.  You want to start talkin to him Start like this:\nHey i heard what happened to your father are you alright?\nHim: yea im getting over it.\nyou: wanna discuss it? \nHim: no i dont\nyou: well you should be at peace before you go on. What was he like? \nthen he'll tell you or cry i dunno \nthis only workd if you dont know his father otherwise itll seem obnoxious.
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was it an open casket service - perhaps you were too young and it is only now starting to come to the surface?\nOr you are just missing him
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Just say that there was a death in the family.  Usually no further explanation is required.
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Hi hon!\nThis happened to a friend of mine also.  He was 19, had cancer.  Was on some serious medication, but was getting by.  Then we all stopped hearing from him.  Visited his house, but his mom said he had died.  But his shoes were in the hallway.\nSo we all grieved, and moved on.  \nYears later he showed up on one of my friends doorstep.  His mom had told all his friends that he had died.  What a bitch.\nMaybe he didn't want people to see him like that.  Maybe his mom thought his friends would stress him out.  I don't know.  All I do know is we aren't friends with him anymore, we wish him well, but what a terrible thing to do to your "friends".\nSo I shared a little something with you there didn't I?  Take it for what it is, an experience.  Perhaps you aren't getting the whole story either!\nHave a great week...
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I'm sorry you lost your father in such a tragic way. You never get over it, you just learn how to deal with it. I would go to a bereavement therapist or I would join a bereavement group in your area. It sounds like you have a lot of pain and you really need to vent instead of holding it all inside. May God bless you and may you find comfort in this hard time. Don't feel because it was 16 years ago, that you shouldn't grieve.
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All three of my childen are gone.\n\nSorry, you don't get in touch. Death doesn't have an area code or zip code.\n\nLook for some grief counciling immediately please. Very sorry for your loss.
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Sounds like he died fighting a good fight.  Good luck to you
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That's only been about 3 months. Give him the time he needs to grieve. Be supportive. Don't rush him. You will know if and when the time is right.
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when my infant son died.
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Do whatever it takes to fix it.  You always think you have time but you don't.  I waited to even talk to my dad and he died before I could.  We hadn't talked in years and I regret that so much.  Don't let that happen to you, you never know when someone will be taken from your life unexpectedly.
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It's always tough when someone looses a loved one.  My advice is to get her to talk about it herself.  Ask her how everything is going...if there's anything that she needs to talk about; let her know that you're there for her.  On the other hand, if that doesn't work, if you know someone that may be aware that her father died, explain that you heard from a friend.  Many people have trouble adjusting when they loose someone.  It's very difficult, so just be patient.  I'm sure it has nothing to do with you.  I wish you the best of luck.\nChris Nalley
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My father's death....