Why doesnt he want to be intimate after a year of companionship and caring?
599526
Maybe he wants to wait or he is just scared of taking such a big step.  You can never see what is going to happen and he wants to be careful becuase he doesn't want to mess up what u have. Just be there for him and tell him that its okay and you'll wait for him.  That's all he wants.
1075648
OK,  since he is not yet an UNMARRIED man and has held on the "separation" status for this time.  You must assume he is not fully over his past.  If he is, then he is not ready to commit to you, or he would have done it.\n\nMen are, above all, opportunists when it comes to sex.  The only thing that keeps us from the biological imperative of being as "friendly" as possible with as many as possible is the fear of being caught.\n\nIf he has just upped things, I see two possible answers:\n1) He got a sample of Viagra or equivalent from his doc--and he wants to impress you .\n2) He has some insecurity brewing and it's his way of making himself feel better (which sucks if he doesn't get off)\n\nYou are sharp to pick up on the fact that we can actually want sex wiht you MORE if we are having it with somone else too.......I don't know why this is, but it is.
408821
You have to be patient. He probably just has cold feet, 18 is YOUNG. If you keep pushing you well chase him away for good. You want him to be sure don't you? Or do want to push him and then after a couple of kids you break up. BE PATIENT  BE PATIENT  BE PATIENT!!!!   Being with someone til death do you part is scarey and he just wants to be sure, he well be back.
362094
ignores u??? hmmm...seems he jus wantd to b physically involved wid u...ask him whts the deal n tell him abt ur feelings ...\nif he improves, good; else u shd nt allow him to use u more n move on...
229356
he is wanting sex.mabye a freindship also.but definatly SEX no matter how u try to justify him.u should have nothing to do with him.
783441
I did this for 6 years.. it never worked..\nseparate and explore single life (does not mean sleeping around, just doing things on your own) and see if you feel like you want him around all the time.
1129569
That's actually a tough situation because there's no guaruntee he'll ever been 100% ok with affection. This isn't going to help much, but start out small by trying to be affectionate at home and work your way up. Small things, like hugs, hold hands while watching a movie *at home*, and the occassional kissing that doesn't lead to sex.... IF that ever becomes comfortable then you move up to small social settings with friends. You don't want to jump right into situations where there are a lot of random people around. If you can't get up to or past the stage where you can be affectionate in front of friends it would probably be best to let it go. You don't want to push to hard, and in the end it's not always possible to change a person. I hope this helps.
67357
Heh.\n\nHe prolly doesn't know how to act. Maybe he does want to be with you but feels uncomfortable. Sounds like there's prolly still some bad blood that has to do with the breakup from before.
110962
maybe he wants to be able to try and do things for himself now that he's better.. and not feel like an invalid.. some men don't like to feel they can't do for themselves..you cared for him and nursed him back to health, just because he doesn't need or want your assistants as much don't mean he doesn't love you.. and if he's not so compassionate, maybe be you are overwhelming him with wanting to do for him so much or getting over emotional about it.. you should try to stop nurseing him and help him along with emotional support, love and understanding..when he needs your help, he'll ask for it.. Good Luck.. it's time to take care of yourself now..
86990
He just used you. He didn't want a relationship but rather the sex. \nTake some time to spend with your real friends. Evaluate what you are doing and take their input into account. They do care about you. The final decision in your problem relationship should be up to you though. Don't let well meaning friends ever take away a golden chance at happiness because they're nervous or it's a faux pau to them that it's moving too fast. It's your life.\n    As far as this situation though, dump the jerk and find a man that does appreciate you. Just don't jump right into bed with him. I'm like a pot calling the kettle black but I'll say it anyway. Slow down...evaluate...take the time to be sure of what you're doing.
1094375
have you talked to him about your desire to be married one day?  he may be afraid of committment.  if a man can have sex with you, live with you, be fed by you, etc., then he's getting all the goods for nothing.  why marry when you can get it all without the committment?  don't know if that's your situation, but likely he's not thinking about it because he's getting all the benefits of being married without actually having to go all the way.\n\nby the way, if he's not interested that probably will not change anytime soon.  it may be time to move on if you truly want to be with someone who wants to marry you.  never force it.  that will come back to bite you in the butt sooner or later.
361492
see if he wants to take it to the next level, dating.  if he says yes, then go on a few dates and see if he shows you any signs of him liking you.  Just take it slow.  how is he feeling about just getting divored a year ago?  does he still have feelings for her?  these are things that you need to know.  if he does then it's the wrong time to say anything about how you feel.  you don't want to rush into it unless he's ready again.  which he might not be ready.  either way seems how you've both been divorced for whatever reasons, you both just need to take it slow and make sure it's what you both want.  good luck
822139
Seems like he's still a bit emotionally attached but not ready to jump back into a relationship. I'm not sure if this means he's in love with you still, or if he's just having trouble letting go, but either way he seems just as confused as you.\nIf I were you I'd confront him. See what his deal is, and hopefully you can work it out.
232520
He wants to feel younger, wants some excitement, wants to be wanted again.  Have a nice long chat with him about this and explain your feelings and ask what you can do to fulfill his needs.  If he says nothing, tell him you would divorce him because of these actions and that they really hurt you, so he needs to stop doing this.  \n\nHis actions will lead to affairs if he continues and if it hasn't already.
318853
I feel you should move on and find some happiness with a man who expects no sex,just cuddling and affection,you have to form a friendship first and that is what makes a relationship...having your best friend for life,you have questioned your feelings for this man for a few years,close that door completly,say a few prayers for the right man to come along and when the time is right for you,it will happen,I was single 16 years and never dated much,now,at 45 I have finally had my prayer answered!Best Of Luck!!!!!!
446407
4 years damn, well put on a sexy nighty and meet him at the door, if that doesn't work, talk to him about couples therapy or sex therapy.ohh another thought, if you aren't getting any from him most likely someone else is. ask him and tell him you would like to see some changes. maybe he wants you to show some initiative
362297
you are truely astonishing! \n\ni mean 12 yrs being into a relationship without the committment of marriage is quite a patience thing! \n\ni think your guy needs some expert counselling, try taking him with you to some expert just a casual meet maybe and discuss it with him... i dont see any other problem with him! \n\nbut i truely appreciate your love for him ! wish every guy gets a partner like you ...