I like my best friends bf as more than a friend and he likes me. What do I do without hurting my friend?
602357
this is very difficult coz u hurt someone dear to you-your bestfriend. i don't think you'd choose this guy over your bestfriend.get away w/ that feeling before it gets worse.there are a lot of guys out there who are not committed.why not entertain them instead of entertaining your feelings for your bestfriend's guy.
199270
Let me tell you this. its all up to you. It's either he likes you back or he doesn't. I've been in your exact situation before. I'm female and I developed feelings for my best friend who's also a girl. one day, we were just chatting about normal stuff and i basically blurted out to her that i had feelings for her. she told me that what she felt for me was totally platonic and she didn't think of me any other way. Honestly, it killed me for a while. However, today, the relationship that the two of us have is even closer than the one we had before i told her. We didn't have any sort of awkwardness between the two of us. The only shitty thing is that I still feel for her and although I make it seem like I don't feel for her anymore, inside, I just wanna kiss her everytime she opens her mouth to speak. But I have to say that I was really lucky cuz its really rare that two people can overlook the fact that one person feels more for the other than usual. The funniest thing is that til today, my confession is still discussed between the two of us. Recently, I just asked her if it was the right thing to tell her about it in the first place. And, according to her, my confession saved our friendship. Cuz she had already suspected, but she was in denial about it, seeing that i was her best friend and all. But if i had not told her anything, she'd feel weird and eventually take a step back from the friendship.\n\nSo, whatever you do, just follow what your heart tells you to do. You could jokingly bring it up as a suggestion if you don't want to take the direct approach. See how he reacts, and if it's positive, just let it slip. Say that, you didn't really expect it to happen but it just did and you felt that you needed to let him know.\n\nGood luck though.
666090
Two things that may happen. Either your bestfriend will accept it and ask you if you want to move the friendship to another level. Or he will be surprise and will start avoiding you especially if he likes someone else. It will surely be a tough decision and you are the only one who can make it.
830981
had a conversation w/ his best friend where his best friend told me he luved me (i liked his best friend for 4 years) and that he (being the best friend) wanted to make out w/ me.\n\nmy bf still doesn't no
597284
Well then, it depends on your point of view about how precious the friendship between both of you. If you have your ups and downs and you're sure that he can be trusted and befriended for the rest of your days, then go ahead tell him. Whatever happened with your relationship, a best friend will never go away. If bad things happened, then you can always returned to the first stage. And make sure that you tell him that...\n\nDespite that, I would strongly advice you to at least give him hints first that you liked him. Don't go forward first, and let the man do the job (honestly a man will feel greater if he moved on first). At least gave him hints, one or two that you can and have liked him more than a friend.  \n\nSlipped in some sneaky talks about relationship when you're talking to each other. The word, "What if we're..." can be a good trick to use. I'm sure if you managed to pull this one of, he'll realized your feeling towards him and move ahead to do what his heart says. \n\nA best friend is someone worth having, worth caring and worth fighting. Who knows, he can actually be your 'best friend' for the rest of your life. Good luck!
249823
I think you should try going on a date with him. If you don't try it you may always wonder whether or not you did the right think. If he is indeed your best friend, your friendship should be strong enough to handle whatever happens. If you already know everything about each other (like most best friends do) than the transition from friend to boyfriend may just be the natural course of action for you two. However, if you are not physically attracted to him at all, then maybe you should stay just friends because neither one of you will be happy in a long term relationship.
651179
If your best friend is really a true friend, she'll be happy for you. There shouldn't be any problem between the two of you. She's probably happy that at least one of you two got him. If you like the guy, then maybe you should accept.
418304
This always seems to happen. Best friends are best friends because they like the same things...including guys. She isn't doing it to hurt you, she can't help the way she feels. I think you should talk to your boyfriend about it. See if he has any friends that she may be interested in. If you have a strong, open relationship with your friend, maybe you could talk to her & find out her intentions, tell her how much he means to you & warn her what it could do to your friendship if she tries anything on with him. Don't be mean about it though, not unless she intends to steal him from you.
559854
try talking to ur friend first if u can. Well do u like the guy too??Cause that will deff. make a difference. lol. but if u do like him and he likes u maybe u guys could be. and if ur friend gets mad, then tell her that u already told her that he dont like her and she didnt want to accept that. Then it would be her fault,that she didnt get him and you did. But if u dont like him then dont go for him juss tell him that u dont think that it would work out cause u dont want to hurt ur friendship with ur b.f. or something along them lines. Hope i help  good luck!
448461
Never fight over him but if he likes you more than so goodbye friend if she cannot handle it because if the tables where turned this would be what would happen to you if you did not like it. Through life many thing like this may come up so if she is your friend she will understand if he likes you more. And if he likes her more the same goes for you.
31678
don't "do" anything until you've found out if your friend is cool with it.  just be open and honest with him and if he's your best friend he'll understand whether or not he feels the same way.\n\nif you both DO feel the same way then just go with it and see what happens.  it sounds like you're probably young so just do whatever feels right.  just remember to respect each other and don't hurt one another (physically or emotionally!)
109273
Just brake up with him because your friend probably said she didn't care if you to dated in the first place but she really did. Trust me my EX best friend dated my brother and now we now longer talk at all because she began choosing him over me and everybody else and remember bf come and go and true friends are forever. Do yourself and your friend a faver and stop it now before it ends up like we did and stopped being friends all together.
776043
If your best friend knows that you like him, she's not being a good friend is she? When she's not there, flirt with this guy but not too much to the point where it annoys him. Next time you like a guy, don't tell her.
355106
If you two are really that good of friends, then nothing can ruin that friendship. Be honest with him & let love take its course. If he's not cool with it; let him know that you still value your friendship & would like to remain friends. Flirt with him & have fun. Friends of the opposite sex are always fun to have around. The key is to take it slow.
1111260
only u can decide..... no one can help u...... go with person who understands u better...one who is more caring,loving,protective,respects u.....and it also depends whether ur best friend likes u that way or not......give it some time......dont rush into anything
593760
you should stay with him ok. im dating my bff's ex boyfriend. i like him and he likes me just because he's your bff's ex dont mean you cant like him
117402
If you like him alot then ask out he will probably understand I liked my best friend and know he is my boyfriend so go for it if you wait someone else might get there first