if you consider your self ugly --  why? and who defines ugly?
608729
For the most part I agree with you but I think that being ugly or feeling ugly can not be easily catorgrized by simply saying that an ugly person can cope with life better. It depends on your defintion of coping and in what area. Some people who feel ugly are walking around broken and damamged and it affects other area's of their life. It affects their confidence, their ability to do things, and pursue certain avenues of life and if that means that they are coping with being ugly then it is not very healthy. I think that society squezzes beauty in to such a small box that many people suffer needlessly and become victims of society and the media at a very young age. But since you speak of reality, in reality anyone who sees themselves as ugly has deeper issues in life other than their apperance. And any man or woman who wants to be with a person based more so on beauty that character has issues as well. But personally when I was young I thought that I was dreadfully ugly I would walk past a mirror in a mall and cry. It was horrible and my expectations of how I should be treated was low because an ugly person should just be happy that someone wants to be with them. But I can not not compare this experience to what it is like to beautiful and have everyone think that same to me that sounds like a nightmare to.
1068565
some people are just not pretty, so ask yor friends if you are first, because ugly people do not know they are ugly
609959
a person with low self esteem, well since i used to have REALLY low self esteem.. heres how I acted..\n\nNever talk... Head down all the time... Never fights back to ANYTHING... just takes everything... basically it
490713
I was just considering this. The world is very appearance based, and when one does not meet the social definition of beauty then it becomes a discriminatory tool that gets used against people.  I think that on a global level there are too many definitions of beauty to pigeonhole individuals, but here in the states, the definitions of socially accepted beauty are so limited that people think it is acceptable to mistreat people on the basis of their appearance.  I do not feel that this is right and I am working toward changing this!
53969
I had a lunch date with a beautiful woman once, but mostly she just led me on--does that count?  I don't think I was hideous or even very ugly, but I'm sure plenty of women would have rated me below average.  She once said she thought I was good-looking on our first meeting, but then she was a teaser.\n\nI did know a strikingly handsome Tom-Selleck-type guy who married an ugly woman.  I knew them after they were married so it's possible she lost her looks to childbirth but that would have been an extreme decline.  The marriage broke up after about 20 years.  Other than that, heterosexual couples I know and have known seem to be very close on the rating scale.  Very different story for gay couples, though.
571730
Heres is what I would say...\n"WELL I MIGHT BE FAT BUT YOU ARE UGLY AND I CAN LOSE WEIGHT!"\nget it, being ugly is permanent, fat is temporary. \n...just an idea\nkind of aggressive and unnecessary but it would feel good :)
92192
To me ugly means that the person is ugly on the inside.  They are rude, narrow-minded, crude, mean, hateful.  \n\nLove to me means compromise and sacrifice.
841957
Well, pretending for a second that you are actually "satan" instead of a person trying to either be funny or supposedly deep,\n\nYou lost your beauty around the time that you rebelled against the one who granted you that beauty.  We hate the source of hate, evil, pain, greed, envy, and cruelty.  You love suffering, and increasing suffering.  You are the anathema of everything that we follow and strive for.
623673
It is spelled alibi, and an alibi is an excuse or reason. Therefore, one is ugly and has no reason or excuse for being ugly.
725811
You need to know that beauty is only skin deep, but ugliness goes right to the soul. Don't worry about prideful things like appearance; concentrate on being a beautiful person. The old adage that it's what's inside that counts is very true. Some people who are considered beautiful on the outside are very ugly inside. The Lord accepts us as we are. Meditate upon that
579891
Ugly people aren't evil, they're just ugly. It doesn't matter who you are, the first time you see a person you're going to see their appearance first. So please, don't give me that "looks don't matter" nonsense. Are you going to talk to every person you see to find out what they're really about? No, you're not.
515450
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  I cannot date someone I'm not attracted to.  But I might be attracted to someone someone else finds ugly.
987349
I can tell by your question that you are probably ugly.
166801
Ugly is a strong word. Guys seen the outside as being beautiful. A gentleman sees inner beauty and more importantly Ugly is something that is only seen by igorance and stupidity. No matter how people see themselves is how they feel and thats makes them beautiful and not ugly
293749
ugly/smart...beauty can be easily enhanced nowadays... but not wit and mental alertness...
721072
Pretty and Ugly are both subjective. Meaning that what is pretty to one is absolutely disgusting to another. Some people fall in love with the size of people's feet, we're all different in that sense. What we think as "pretty" tends to be how symmetrical a face is, and the shape of a body being atheletic. However, this doesn't mean that we wouldn't evolve to see things differently. Since half the world now sits on their a$$ in front of their computers and america is plagued with fast food, maybe new genes will evolve and redefine our perception of this. We might begin to think it's beautiful. You never know. God just want's best for God  aka the universe in general. It's what rewards survival that is promoted on as a good quality or intelligent quality. So maybe one day ugly will actually be beautiful. It's a perception thing, and it all depends on how we as lifeforms evolve. Beautiful is NOT always outside appearance. In fact, it can be quite deceiving. God does not separate us, in fact we are not separate at all. This is an illusion. Intelligence is beauty, but you do not even have to be aware of it to be beautiful. Some species have survival instincts that we think are incredibly intelligent however it is just in their nature to do so, they aren't aware of it. SO you can be "dumb" and intelligent. Another example, Idiot savants. There is no separation of good and bad. Nothing is better, it is only different. God rewards and continues to keep what works no matter what it is.
253983
Dare anyone answer you! LOL When I saw your question it took me back to Jr. High..and I will not say how long ago that was. There was this georgous girl in 8th grade. She walked like she was a princess and her face was like an angel. ( no I am not a guy, go with me here) Everyone was speechless around her because her beauty was unreal. I can see her face like it was yesterday. Well, as this beauties personality came to bloom in front of us over time she became very ugly. She had a cold heart, was completely self-centered, had a foul mouth and very unpleasant to be around. Sure she had boyfriends but they were for very short terms and they never went back. I felt sad for her, it was as if her beauty was.... deceiving.... her. In conlusion, I will say that, as for myself I do not think I am ugly, I FEEL beautiful at times, but my body will become very wrinkled and probably arthritic someday with those age spots too, the only beauty worth noting comes from inside. I know it sounds cliche or idealistic but I think it is so true. The personality, character, and SOUL is what makes someone beautiful.