What do u guys and girls think about cheaters and should they be forgiven?..how many times?
613276
Under normal circumstances I would say never.  However, you obviously disagree because if you didn't, you wouldn't be asking.  \n  Considering this, I would use the following...cheat on me once, shame on me. Cheat on me twice, shame on you.
7962
No!  Pass on the sloppy seconds.\n\nHe cheated on you once, he will do it again.\n\nFind someone that is worthy of your attention!
1113391
well if I say no your probably going to assume I am lying, but in truth I really have never cheated on a girlfriend. speculation- I think "people, not just men" cheat because they are bored with the relationship. I think that men cheat more because their are times when your wonderfull girlfriend just isnt up to it. I dont pretend to know why girls fake headaches and refuse to have sex for weeks at a time but it does happen. and then thier are other reasons why people cheat, Intoxication. Have you ever been so drunk that you had no Idea what you were doing. that happens everyday. especially with college aged men and women. \n\nIf I had a girllfriend that I loved and she cheated on me? I dont know if I would or would not forgive her. If I thought she wouldnt do it again and that she really wanted to be forgave then yes of course nobodys perfect. but if it was something that she had been doing alot, then hell no. its time to get over her and find someone who is worth your time.
803707
I don't like it either. But lets cut out the once a cheater always a cheater. It's a bit childish don't you think. We all have done something unsavory in our lives. It would be unfair for someone to label us for that point in our lives or the rest of our lives.
107524
Okay, I know this is a bit much to read, but...I had a guy that cheated on me 5 times.  No, I didn't know about it until AFTER we broke up.  I didn't know what to do.  I ALMOST(really, REALLY considered) having sex with his sister's ex...which that was an on-again-off-again thing...but I didn't.  Then I thought about being friends with him again...that didn't work out 'cause he messed with my little brother and I thought about kicking some major butt but, again...didn't.  The reason why is really insane:  I still loved him at that point.  Don't ask me why because I don't know now.  Maybe I thought he'd come back crying(but he was the one that dumped me).  Karma hit him where it hurt quicker than I thought.\nApparently, one of the girls he cheated on me with got pregnant by him and wouldn't you know it...nine months later he was landed with the responsibility of fatherhood.  A few months after that, another girl got pregnant.  HA!  This was too good.  Anyways, after getting over the breakup(in a record time of a few weeks), I found this current guy that I've been with for 9 months and a few weeks.  KARMA ROCKS!  So, if you took Karma into your hands, that's great...even the threefold law works since he cheated once and you hit him 3 times as hard.  Buuuut....I think that if you went that far you might just be a little on the evil side(but who am I to judge, babe?).  Maybe you should post a pic of your cheater on the site I have listed...after all, there's too much girl power I can't resist.
688726
Once a cheater always one, believe that for alot of reasons.  Biggest one is they feel it's ok to do it, or they wouldn't have done it.  second is that the trust is gone, and it will affect the relationship, and therefore, giving them more reason to go out and find someone else.
542784
If you keep staying with her or taking her back after she cheats, do you really think she's going to stop?  Obviously, she didn't learn her lesson after the first time, if you caught her doing it again.  She thinks that you love her, and let her get away with it before, and because you love her, you'll keep forgiving her and taking her back.  Time heals, and you'll find someone who will treat you the way you should be treated.
151550
I am sorry to say this as the simple fact that you are asking  means you want to forgive your spouse. In my personal past experience as well as the experiences of my friends (both male and female) evrytime a cheater was taken back, they did it again. Some immediately, some years later, one with the same person (which hurts like you have no idea) and only ONE that has seemingly never done it again, BUT the trust has never been the same so the relationship has never gotten back to what it once was. Good Luck with your decision.
1016441
Well, men and women alike cheat. Not everyone mind you. We are all different and have our reasons for cheating or not cheating. Speaking on behalf of men, my personal opinion is that if a man cheats, he does think about it, even if its at a subconscious level. I have never cheated on anyone I have been with, but that's my choice. I prefer to end the relationship if I feel that I want to be with another woman. Cheating isn't worth the headaches or the risk of losing someone you might care about.\n\nI think if someone cheats, they have very low morals and isn't someone worth being with. This is why I believe that most people get involved in serious relationships too early in life. They should be out there having fun and enjoying their youth. There will be plenty of time to get involved in a serious relationship. Once we learn what love is really about, we can make better decisions on who will might want to spend the rest of our lives with.
810004
Yes, for some...probably more often than not...while some people who cheat may do so only once and find it's not for them...and some may simply desire to be monogamous and stop cheating for their own personal reasons...\n\n...it's also not uncommon for someone who cheats, to do it repeatedly...\n\nProceed with caution if you are considering getting involved with a known cheater...
41703
I wish I could say "forgive" and forget. But "once a cheater-always a cheater." Actually, if you will listen to the wisdom that is inside of you, you already know what to do . . . \n\nThe reality is that being able to cheat is a huge character flaw. It means that person does not respect you or themselves. Plus, that person is able to lie and not feel guilty enough about it to break and tell the truth. I am no kid ~~ and if you are young, please learn from those of us who have been around the block and few times ~~ respect yourself and without a lot of drama -- tell the guy goodbye.  \n\nAre there ever cheaters who change? Yes, but you will find that those who have usually had a deep life-changing religious experience. Those who are "sorry" and say "they will never do it again" without a deep internal overhaul, are the ones who cheat again. \n\nI have experienced it all. I have been cheated on, I have been hurt until I didn't think I could hurt any more, I have forgiven, and I have been hurt right back again. This is not a vindictive response. This is a word from one older sister to a younger one -- stay away from the cheaters. They will only break you heart.
497425
there should be no limit on forgivness. we are all human and screw up. does Jesus put a limit on how many times He will forgive you for your sins? no He doesn't so why should we. if the problem is big enough to where you can't trust him anymore then you probably would just be better off finding someone you can trust. there can never be unconditional love if there isn't trust. so basicly it depends on you how many times you want to forgive.
650798
There is no excuse for cheating.  Move on.  There are plenty of people out there who will not cheat on you and make you vulnerable to the mental pain (not to mention the STDs).  If you stay with them, it shows them that they can get away with it again.
609851
It's very hard to fully trust a person after they cheat. Even if you forgive them, it's always in the back of your mind that they did it. However, some people have moved beyond a cheating history and married and lived happily for many years...if you truly believe that he won't cheat again and that you have it in you to marry this man, then you should.
1179401
If he has cheated on you multiple times, he is not truly sorry. He might be sorry that you found out, but he knows what he was doing, when he went and embraced another woman.\n\nYou, and your children, deserve more respect than that.\n\nDon't settle.
403016
Honestly, I've been there. It's the worst feeling in the world to know you've been betrayed. If he's likely to do it again, (not everyone is) then don't stay with him. Sometimes these things can clear up. (I'm speaking from personal experience. I've been with my husband for almost 7 years. He cheated once almost 4 years ago and hasn't since. I've learned to trust him again. I wouldn't be the same without him.)
242326
Personally I try to forgive, but not forget.\n\nI believe in the saying "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me".  If someone has developed a pattern of behavior that is unkind and/or selfish that is their business, I just won't put up with it.