I am torn and need help, how do you let go when you want so many?
601081
Try getting some therapy; you need to understand why you're doing this to yourself.  Once you're able to focus on giving love and acceptance, rather than receiving it, you should be able to have a healthy relationship.
748307
I think that you need more than a friend...I think that you need someone that you can talk to who can help with why you are feeling this way.  Best of Luck!
706858
It seems like you are still hurting over your first separation. If she wants to separate you might just let her go and take some time to heal. Take as much time as you need to care for yourself before getting involved with someone else. If you are still not over this other separation you may not be ready to commit and it will make your new relationships difficult for you and your partner. If you wait until you are truly ready, I think you will be able to form healthier relationships with others.
961347
I understand how you feel, but why would you want to be with someone who is not worthy of all the love you would be lavishing them with. Sometimes you have to let your head rule over your heart. You have to be able to look at the situation and go, this is going to hurt but maybe fate is changing in my favor. Sometimes what we think we want isn't what we thought it was after we find better.
696650
It's hard for you to let go because you still love him. Give it time, you will get over it eventually.\nI just told someone else this... You can't Make anyone love you or MAKE anyone love you more.\n\nGood luck.
508241
THE ONLY SOLUTION I CAN COME UP WITH IS TO PRAY. WHEN YOU FEEL THAT THERE IS TO MUCH YOU CAN'T CONTROL, JUST GET ON YOUR KNEES AND PRAY, AS LONG AS YOU BELIEVE IN HIM EVERYTHING WILL ALWAYS WORK OUT FOR THE BEST!!
282934
I wonder how many people have been in your position and let it go, always wondering if it was the right thing to do? I say GO FOR IT!! What the hell do you have to lose? If it doesn't work or he's spoken for, then let it go - but at least you tried. If you find him and he feels the same way you do... wellll....
329005
When you can quit thinking about them. When you know you can let them go without concern. Not that you won't always care but this that its different. You have to be able to tell yourself you can move on and your over them and know you mean it. This is the hardest thing in the world to do. Don't make the mistake of using another person to try to prove to yourself its over. Not fair to you or the other person.
1058857
stick with the one you like more and let the other go. dont hold onto someone when he could be finding someone who will care for him more
156080
I don't believe you can love someone too much but you can be so attentive that a person can feel smothered. It would depend on what he considers too much and the actual circumstance. If you are devoting 100 percent to him, then its too much. If you are not taking care of yourself and spending time focusing on self then it is way to much. Sometimes what your giving is great but sometimes it is not received like that. I would spend time really looking at the situation, maybe sharing your thoughts with family and friends who know you both and see what their assessment is as well.
1150786
It sounds like right now you shouldn't choose either.  You need to take some time to yourself and figure out what you really want. Otherwise you're going to end up getting hurt or hurting them in the process.
251351
I deal with this daily.\n\nYou move on until you find someone who makes you feel the way "the one that got away" did. There could be any number of reasons that the first one got away, but the fact is that she did, and has likely moved on with her life - you should, too.
717394
Well to Begin with you deserve a better answer than what you have gotten so far. I only seen the first two and I think I need to add a few things.\n First off, stop feeling guilty about the sleeping with the other guy. You had no idea what he was doing and he lead you to believe it was over and done with. His fault, not yours. He needs to stop playing with you and let you know where you stand. I hate being on the edge of a knife waiting for an answer. Its unfair to some one and the only reason people do that is because they know they can. As far as wanting to get back with the guy, I will tell you what anyone else would. Track him down and talk with him. Be honest  and expect the same from him. If he cant handle what you have to say to him, then that is his loss. Its easy for me to say that because I'm typing this and not dealing with it like you are but You must be strong and stand your ground. Don't fall into the trap of feeling guilty about what you did when you was still hanging unto uncertainty's and don't let him hold that over your head. \n Don't bother trying to call him again. He knows you are looking for him and he has to make that decision if you are worth pursuing. Let him do the wondering for a bit. That will only make he see you are stronger than you appear and make you all that much more worth having.\n\n I hope this helps and I hope all works out. Good luck and God bless.
34418
I am currently going through the same type of situation. Basically you have to ask is the stress worth it. If it is meant to be then it will happen. Don't force it. If not, there are more fish in the sea.
516625
man thats a hard position to be in. im there too, kinda. i guess you need to ask them and see what they say, if you still don't think its true,you should let them go, if you don't it will lead to a really bad situation of distrust and hurt. you don't need to put yourself through that mess if the other person doesn;t love you back.
665958
i know its very difficult bcoz i'm going thru a similar situation... but believe me, if u dont let go then its only u who'll suffer.. at this point of time my life is just like hell... but i knw one thing only u can do this, no other person can help u... so the best thing would b to stop thinking bout him n put yr mind in other things... make yrself so busy that u dont get the time to think bout him... n stop doing things that would remind u of him... if u dont make yrself strong, u'll not b able to get on with with yr life... so u gotta accept the situation n move on...
1162429
When you really love someone, letting go is very hurting and difficult.  If the one you love is the one asking you to let her go, gently ask her for the reasons why.  If her answers are valid and for the good of both of you, you should let her go no matter how difficult it is.  Your feeling that you can't let her go is natural for someone who loves truly.  But letting go is better than keeping a relationship which is a one-sided love affair, meaning it is you who wants to keep the relationship when the other does not.  There will be lots of problems and heartaches along the way when you do that because you can never make someone happy who possibly does not love you anymore or who has reasons to say goodbye to you other than that.  Let her go if you must.  Time heals brokenhearts so they say.  Let time be your remedy in forgetting her if necessary.  Look around you and you will see so many faces who may catch your interest and give you hope for a better and lasting future relationship.