some one who was really close to me committed suicide and i don't know how to deal with it can anyone help?
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In july of 99 I lost my mom to breast cancer and then 5 months after she passed aways my friend committied suicide. I thought losing my mom was hard but it wasn't because I know why she passed but I didn't know and still dont' know why my friend killed himself. Everyday I try to deal with losing him but it's so hard because you never really have the answer to why he did it. It's seem to get harder and harder everyday but I just to remeber he is in peace now. I keep him close to my heart and I never stop thinking about him because I miss him everyday but I remeber all the great times him and I shared. 2 months after his passed I got my first tatto. I got a angel tatto on my right shoulder and i decide to put his name underneath it because I wanted people to know how special he was and also when I feel like I am losing my mind or forgetting him i just look over my shoulder and I his name. You will never get over your friend's suicide but most you will never forget what he did because you are living with the question of why unanswer. If you need to talk to someone email me and I will be here to listen to you.
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I'm not sure what you are saying because your question is not clear.  If you have some sort of financial agreement with this person you would have needed to get it in writing not a verbal agreement.  \n\nI would send a new question in and be very clear the way you ask.  It almost sounds like you are saying you had an agreement involving your friends suicide, thats just bizarre.
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Talk to the people at ALANON.  They will put you in touch with an appropriate grief counsellor who has dealt with this before.
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go in a chat room or something try yahoo chat rooms, or a suicide hotline.
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Dear Krystena,\n\nAlthough I am not personally a survivor of suicide, I Do know what it feels like to be Overwhelmed, and to lose those I Love Deeply to death ...  I have gotten a Great Deal of Comfort from reading certain articles ...  Many of them are online.  Here are a few that offer what You seem to need most right now:\n\nHave You Lost a Loved One to Suicide?\nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2001/10/22/diagram_03.htm\n\nWhy People Give Up on Life\nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2001/10/22/article_02.htm\n\nHow Can I Live With My Grief?\nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/we/article_03.htm\n\nIs It Normal to Feel This Way? \nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/we/article_02.htm\n\nSome Practical Suggestions for Survivors \nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/we/diagram_03.htm\n\nWhere Can I  Find Real Hope? \nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2004/4/22/article_04.htm\n\nEach article contains a Wealth of Encouragement & Insight, written specifically for those undergoing such personal tragedy as you find yourself having to deal with.  \n\nI hope that you find as much Comfort as I have found in the Knowledge & Assurance that they provide!\n\nSincerely, PJ
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No, Don't commit suicide. there is some who's :-W for you. Please if you feel like you need some one that you talk with contact me.
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The fact that you asked the questions shows that you have doubts about committing suicide and that means that deep down you know that there is something to live for. I've seriously comtemplated suicide before and I don't think anything in particular convinced me not to do it, I just held on to what little hope I did have and kept telling myself that things would change and get better. If you need to talk to someone directly, you can look in your local yellow pages for a suicide hotline. Or if you'd rather email someone you can send anonymous email to the Befrienders http://www.befrienders.org/support/email.php You will get a personal response and they can help you sort through some of your feelings. Please don't commit suicide. As dark as things may be for you now, they can and will get better, even if you can't see that right now. Try to think of some things that you like in life or hobbies that you have. Pray, meditate, exercise, read, just keep yourself occupied with things you enjoy so you don't focus so much on what's making you suicidal.
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I agree with you, I also know how you feel. I used to be a cutter because of my depression but i have found better ways of dealing with the pain and sorrow. Write poetry or listen to music, try to go hang out with your friends and have a good time with them. Just keep moving on and remember that its his loss and your a strong woman/girl/lady ( i don't know how only you are so yeah.) I hope this helped.
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It's was a really hard time to get through...i know about the suicide because i once had my own death planned...I am know stable and would love to help you...when you feel the way i've felt you feel like the whole world has turned agianst you and that no one cares or wants to understand what's going on with you...i can say that even though i was in a christian i felt like my own parents didn't want me...what got me through is the fact that there is one person worth living for...ME! if i took my own life  i wouldn't be only hurting myself i would start a chain reaction across the nation starting with my friends and their friends and so forth...so i choose to live my life for me and do what i want and fulfill my dreams! so tell your clients there are are people that care and there are people like them out here...i've been there done that...there's no point of ending your own life with the effects it will do in the whole sceem of things...
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Hopefully you will seek professional help as well as him.  You can not go around thinking you are responsible for someone living or dieing, unless you physically harm someone. I believe you did the right thing, by telling someone. He may not at this time, but in the future he will see that you did him a favor. God forbid he does harm himself, you can not continue on with life believing that you are responsible.
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First I'm sorry for your loss and hope that you can recognize your own opinions and thoughts right now might be crowded with some grief.  Fortunately "she" is in the right hands.  The authorities will take care of everything and find what they can and hopefully find nothing.  Think of the good times you knew of her and let those things that are beyond your control go until there are decisions in front of you to make - right now it does not seem as though there are any.
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She needs to get help right away. I'm not sure how old she is and if she still lives with her parents. If she does, you have to make the difficult decision of telling them. They may not realize how seriously she is depressed. If she is an adult, it is hard to force someone to get help. If someone is about to commit suicide, then 911 can be called. Otherwise, you can encourage them to talk to their doctor, talk to a distress centre/suicide prevention line, talk to a counsellor or go to the emergency room of a hospital. Try to keep the lines of communication as open as you can. She needs to know that people care about her. With that said, if she does hurt herself that is not your fault. You are doing what you can. She is lucky to have a caring friend like you. I hope things work out really well.
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Sweetie, you are not alone. If I was there with you I would give you a big hug and you could have a good cry. Then I'd feed you ice cream and just sit with you. Maybe we could go outside and enjoy the sunshine if you felt up to it.\n\nLook at all these people who care about you! Please reach out for help again--like you have here. There are community call centers run by caring people who can help people like you who feel suicidal. Please, look in your phone book. Or go to the hospital or urgent care health center.\n\nOr check out www.samaritans.org.uk/\n"Samaritans is available 24 hours a day to provide confidential emotional support for people who are experiencing feelings of distress or despair, including those which may lead to suicide."\nhelp available via:\n-phone\n-text\n-email
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you have to talk to someone... that's odd...\nI'm sorry about your loss... and I know it's a really hard thing to go through and deal with... but you have to hang in there and get some help...
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I am sorry to hear about your loss. This situation is probably the hardest to handle of all situations. You do need help. It may sound crazy but you are not crazy, this loss is making you crazy, but only temporarily. You may never stop hurting but in time the hurt can be managed so you can have a happy productive life ahead. \n\nYou must get help. Talk to someone that has training to help people in grief as you are. A Pastor, a therapist, a family member or all the above. Cry and resist any temptation to end your own life. Give it time. You may not feel close to normal for a long time, but it comes back.\n\nReally, get to a professional and you will get the help you seek.
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First of all, listen to the mystic man!  He is absolutely right.  Thoughts of suicide are frequent in times of desperation and anger.  It isn't a way out, it's a way into something that you know nothing about.  It feels like you are saying to the people who have failed you, "See!  Look what you finally did!!  Don't you feel terrible about the way you made my life so unhappy?"  It's a feeling like you will get the last word.  It won't be viewed that way by your friends and family.  They will say things like, "We did the best we could, we can't help it if he/she went crazy and did something like this.  He / she must have  been on drugs or in the wrong crowd."  Then you will never have your chance to prove them wrong!!    \n\nBe strong for now, we never know why we are put through the things that we are put through.  Later in life, maybe you can help some one in a position like yourself.  You can overcome what is going on now.  DO NOT let them win by breaking who you really are.  I am e-mailable, feel free to e-mail me if you wish, I just hate to see some one give up when you haven't really even started your life yet.   \n Please call one of the hotlines if you think you are in need to that one of the other people listed for you.  Just do not do anything rash that you will regret.  You may have a great future waiting for you!!   Most strong people who are very successful are that way for a reason.  You would be surprised at the people who over came the past and went on to have a life filled with success and happiness.
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you just really need totalk to someone. i lost a frien to suicide unfortunately i was in the room when it happened. i know how hard it is. i also had to attend 23 funerals in 10 months jst a few years ago between friends and family i wasn't surei wold make it either i really felt like my world was caving in on me. the thing that got me throgh it was my husband he always talked me through things, to this day he still makes sure i don't forget thememories of those friends and family members. one other thing i did was write letters to the people i was closest to especially my mom when i was feeling as you are now. i've read them at later times some i just keep in a box. good luck and please talk to someone!