Please I asked u many times but no way.I left home 7 days ago escape from my husbands sex.but I love him?
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How about a practical arrangement. \n\nYou don't want sex all the time.\nHe does. \nHe's rougher than you like.\nNeither of you (I'm guessing) want to break up your family.\n\nBasically, you are asking him to give up something he enjoys. Sex. Clearly you love him, but can't take the sex. Have you considered getting him a girlfriend?\n\nYou should go to the bookstore and pick up a book about polyamory called "The Ethical Slut" (I can't believe the censored the word slut! Let's see how creative you are. The book is called "The Ethical 5lut"). \n\nNow, the option may not be one you want to consider depending on your social views, but it is an option.\n\nAs unconventional as it sounds, there are two immediate benefits. You get a break now and then, and he can still satisfy his physical craving for sex. \n\nIf you are concerned that he may fall in love with someone, which IS a distinct possibility, then perhaps you should ferret out some local swingers clubs. They are usually filled married couples who enjoy extra marital sex as a purely physical activity.\n\nThis option will net you a few more rewards. You will also be able to enjoy sex with others who are likely to be more gentle, and you will have more assurances that his emotional attachment to you will be secure. Finally, the chances are that he will be hugely popular among the ladies, which will earn you more down time.\n\nFood for thought.\n-SD-
559302
My husband leaves me at home 7 days a week. He is a work alcoholic. He says he is not, but I disagree totally. The only time he will take a day off is when I finally blow up. But you can tell he wants to be at work. He LIVES for work only. He works nights which means he sleeps most the day and evening, gets up, eats and leaves for work again. It's not necessary for him to work all these hours, he chooses too. It's destroying our marriage. I tried to tell him, but he just doesn't see it. I too was brought to another city, no car, no job, no friends. And now, not even him. I give up. He just doesn't see that spending quality time together is important. I've talked until I can't talk anymore. Right now, I don't even care if I see him anymore. He has made me bitter. So, I would say, spend some quality time with the love of your life.
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No. You are just setting yourself up to be cheated on again and again. It is like telling him he can walk all over you because you won't stand up for yourself. Besides, if he is sleeping around, he could bring home an STD. Take care of yourself first!
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Hold on you live with him still? First off I've never heard of that arangement before in my life. Also what do you mean by living with are you two still together but still sexually active? If so he's using you no wonder you feel lost. You need to get yourself outta there and if your parents won't take you in find a place foryourself. In times of need there are several places like main stay suites that offer cheep extending living. Once you've done that try and find a really decent guy i'm not talking about going bar hopping, i'm talking about a place like church (by the way if you don't have religion at this poin that's another reason you feel lost, there are many christains like myself that are here to help you if you need some with comming to Christ ;) ) I know you most likely love this guy but the sooner you come to relize its time to move on you'll feel bad at first but it will get better. Don't think its not because you won't love the ex because yes you will love doesn't go away, but you have to save whats left of your heart and mend it together for that guy who's still out there you haven't met yet.
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I feel sorry for you.My advice is, identify the reason why she did it,also ask your self I am faithful and am I the person who she feels comfortable and secure?After you answer these questions, you can decide.If there is any weakness on your side,(I am not talking about the sexual thing) you better forgive her from the bottom of your heart and leave peacefully.
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I think you are hesitant to leave because you are comfortable in your marriage lifestyle.  You're used to your typical everyday routine: going to work, taking care of your child, etc. etc.  Honestly, I don't think he is right for you at all.  For him to talk badly about you behind your back regardless of what it is about means he doesn't respect you.  How could you love someone you don't respect.  The things he does - just leaves and doesn't come home or tell you to get out of HIS house - that's just bull crap.  It's hard when you don't have any family around or someone to go to if you should leave.  But you know what - you have a great education and an awesome job and you can make it.  Be thankful that you are not just a housewife with no education or job experience ... and can't leave the man because you have no where to go and can't support yourself most especially.  You don't need to depend on him for support. You should leave! Good thing you didn't let yourself go either - you workout you're attractive have a good job / education ....why do you put up with this - I guarantee you that you would enjoy your life much more without him and being treated how you deserve.  Maybe a trial seperation would be good or some cousneling something . but .. if it doesnt work out then at least you'll know that you gave it our all and wont have any regrets aobut it.  Honestly, I don't think you should deal with this - it will get worse I think.  You deserve better - it's hard to find a good woman with all your qualities - get rid of him girl. You don't sound happy.
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THIS IS JUST MY OPINION HON OKAY....I DIDN'T GO INTO YOUR PROFILE SO I DON'T KNOW HOW OLD YOU ARE..IF THE SEX IS GOOD AND HE PLEASES YOU TOTALLY THEN THAT AREA IS GOOD BUT IF YOU FEEL HE IS TELLING YOU HE LOVES YOU JUST FOR SEX SLACK OFF A BIT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS...START SLOWLY WITH SOME EXCUSES ONCE IN A WHILE...IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HE WOULDN'T EVEN ASK YOU TO PROVE IT....HAS HE HINTED AS TO HOW HE WANTS YOU TO PROVE IT?
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I feel you. I think he could have try harder if he wanted to. I know the excuse "i forgot" or I was going to do it relax" and you didnt see shit done. If it is going to be like that I feel you should move out and take a break let him know you are not happy at all and you are under a lot of stress. What will he do without you. He needs to appreciate the things you do as a mother and wife. You need a man not another child you have to take care of. You must feel really lonely and yearning for a man.Take a break and try to relax, go out with friends and take a deep breathe.Try not to overthink yourself cause you will go crazy. I know you have bills to pay but figure out how to get out of this rotation with him cause after awhile it gets pretty tiring. I hope nothing but the best for you and take it one step at a time.
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He may be feeling like these are his last days of "freedom" and the ability to come and go as he pleases.  You can't make him stay home with you, he'll only wind up resenting the situation.  All you can do is tell him honestly what your needs are and that even though the baby has not arrived yet, his presence with you helps you feel secure and less anxious of the future.  A guys night out even once a week or so is not bad.  But if he's out all of the time, you need to find out why he is reluctant to spend this quality time together.  Also, can you compromise by the two of you going out together sometimes?\n\neditted to add:\nAnd dear lord, do not let people tell you that pregnant women can not be sexy or that you are used goods.  You have a precious life growing inside and any real man would recognize that for the miracle that it is.  A less confident man may not.  Also, I got pg out of wedlock.  I am now happily (usually, lol) married with 2 beautiful children and even if the future would change with my husband, I would never ever regret the experience because I have the 2 greatest joys of my heart sleeping upstairs from me.
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Hey I like you! ^_^ ..lol..seriously though, good for you it's really nice to know that there are men like you out there. \n\nMy husband WAS selfish-I am at the point where I am just like "Come on work with me here" it takes it's toll on a person when your lover thinks of himself before he does you all the time. And you keep telling yourself he'll come around, you only have Faith to keep you from drowning really...It hurts to be treated second all the time. \n\nNow he's changing and I can finally breathe a lil more....I think I will have to get use to being TRULY happy in this relationship of ours and believing that things are different between us... it takes two right? =) \n\nHey thanks for giving me a chance to share my thoughts slash vent....keep shinning and never give up! Best wishes to you and yours!
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You are an adult---there is no way your family can force you to stay in the marriage.  If you were only missing sex with your wife, why not give the marriage another try, for your son's sake?  Having an affair was wrong, regardless of the reason.  You should both go to marriage counseling and see if you are willing to work on all your marital problems.  I agree that your wife was dishonest in not telling you about her sexual problems, but if she is truly ready to work on them, it may be worth a shot.  If you are so repulsed by her that you do not want to try, then you should divorce her and move on.  Your family does not live you life, so they should butt out.
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Don't believe these guys who say women want it less.  I have a high sex drive and I wanted sex a LOT more than my husband did.  To me, two days without sex was two days too long!
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He is still the same man as you fell in love with. He is good to you and your kids and thats all that counts. He went and bought some porn, so what, at least he's not cheating with another girl. Porn is an addiction that all of us men have we cant help it. Maybe you can use the porn to brighten up your sex life. It sounds to me as if you have grown comfortable with him instead of wanting to bed him every time you see him. Get some spice back into your love life and spice things up he will love it (and not but porn) and you will reap the benifits too. Hope that helps you out.\n\nJay
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I have had to go out of town for a few days leaving the kids with my husband.  He thought he could do it just fine.  When I came home he just hugged me and said "how in the hell do you do it??"  I just laughed at him.  he never took my job for granted again.  Now when he gets home he cooks and lets me sit and relax because he knows I am exhausted.\n\nSo to answer your question, I say go out of town for a few days and see what he says when you get home.  This is something that they cant understand till they are in your shoes.
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WOW. I am sorry. It sounds like he had a hell of a time over seas and isn't quite home mentally yet. It really sucks that he broke up with you, but you don't live in a house with a swinging door. Tell him that you'd like to work on your relationship with him, but don't attack him. I'm sure he's had enough attacks on him over the last 6-18 months. BUT... also let him know that you can't just be around for sex. He needs time to heal his mind. The best thing you can do right now is to give him all the time he needs. Just don't get played. Don't have sex with him anymore whether he gets mad or not.
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Sharing intimacy with anyone other than your spouse is cheating. May it be physical or emotional. It's deception either way. You should leave if you are missing something at home.
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Well, Have you two had sex yet? If not don't go and why are you afraid to be alone with him? The problem appears to be deeper than your question...Good Luck either way!!!!