how can I get over my first love?
598719
Your first love you won't get over for years, you will have to fall in love like a couple of more times and go through some s***.  Then you will still wonder about that person from time to time.  It is all a process just take it one day at a time. it will be a long road, and don't take him back he will treat you worst, I am sorry that you had to give your virginity away to someone who couldn't appreciate it but that is what happens when we don't wait until marriage.  See our parents was right about something, my first was a disaster to.  I wouldn't take it back though I have learned a lot from it.  Just make sure the next guy is worth it or you are in control.  To get over him just think about how much he took you for granted and just treated you like a piece of crap.  You can never get your virginity back, no matter how long you go with out sex and never do it again.  So think about that, and get over it sweetie,  he is not worth the space in your head.
339419
You need to move on. You can't get over your ex because you keep listening to the love songs that you listened to when you were with him. You need to realize that it is over and tell yourself that you will never be with him again. Listen to some different music. Music that sings about a women getting out of a bad relationship and moving on with their lives. It won't be easy. It will take some time but, eventually you will get over him and find someone else to love. Maybe when you are over him, you can become friends and that spark might rekindle and you will get him back. But, for now except that it is over. Allow yourself to get over him.
509055
Me too. your first love is always going to be part of you. He was the first person who cared for you and the first you cared for. You will always think of him.
242969
1.Get yourself involved in some other activities to help get your mind off the person.  \n2. There are other fish in the ocean, and maybe by getting involved in something, you can meet someone special that will heal that broken heart.\n\nThe main thing is you got to move on or nothing will happen.
997150
Sweetheart.. you will never "get over" that one that you love... The only thing you can do is try to learn from your mistakes and move on.\n\nAs much as you loved him.. you must face the fact that he did not love you the same way............  if he did he wouldn't have been cheating on you.   You did the right thing by leaving, now be strong, hold your head up high and don't let someone hurt you again.   Right now you are like....... "what the fukk is going on"\n\nTake time to heal.. take time to remember.. take time to prepare...  never to go through this again..\n\nKisses and Hugs.... BE strong!
22730
Your used to someone, used to having fun with them, used to loving them and used to just generally having them around.  When you get your heart broken, its unlikely you can remain friends with someone you've had such a deep understand with and thus its more then like that you've got to start from scratch.  Mainly, its the fear that you'll never have that again and never be happy again.  The best way to get over a break-up is to tell yourself that "she/he wasn't worth my time and that some other lucky person will be worth it in the future".
108310
OMG I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM!!! (except I dated the guy for 2 years)..... I guess we never get over them.... thats what it means to love someone..... and we will only get over them when we find someone better.... but i dont think anyone forgets thier first love..... (I still cant atleast)
286057
Love hurts and you will get over her. Time heals all wounds. Everyone who has loved has felt what you are feeling, you are not alone. It is just how it is. It sucks, but just remember:  It is better to have loved, than to have not loved at all!
566045
All I can say is that time heals wounds and you will think you are never going to get over him but time will do it. Try not to think of him if you start to think of him start thinking of something else. Stay busy all the time. Put away anything that has to do with him like stuff he gave you and don't listen to the same music that the two of you listened to. Put pictures of him away in the attic or somewhere its not easy to get to. Then one day you will be able to look back and it will be a lot better. All of a sudden you will not think of him as much and you will then be on your way. Good luck I know its hard. It is one of the hardest things but if you ever get hurt next time you will be stronger.
514061
I hear ya hunny. The same thing happened to me nearly 4 years ago. When we broke up I took him off my aim list and didn't talk to him for about a year because it was just too hard. He also started seeing someone about a month after we broke up and he is still with her. It does get easier but it is a very very slow process. You just gotta build up talking in general before you can start talking as best friends again. It was just last year that we could start talking like buds again. If he was your first love you may never get over him but eventually you will have to put that behind you if you want your friendship back.\n\nJust try and give it some time, Best Wishes!
738260
Pretend they are dead, lol, seriously go through the grieving process, the denial, anger etc.  until so much time passes that they become a not so painful memory and just another ex in your life.  If that never happens then just continue to love them because you always will and understand that your heart is not really broken, just damaged and the only thing to heal any wound is time and caring for yourself.  In time (a very useful word in this answer) you will be able to remember her smell, touch or her eyes when she smiled without that crushing feeling in your chest that takes the very breath from you and causes the speechlessness  you experience when you think of her.  A broken heart is a very serious injury and you really need to take care of yourself so that you can heal and be able to love again, don't go looking right away for someone to take that pain away, it will only slow the whole process down and make it that much harder to accept the end.
1124675
How sad .......you lost the very first love you ever had because of someone you trusted ......... someone you had been kind and loyal to. You not only lost your first love, you lost a friend : two deaths.\nI think that it will be hard to resolve your feelings because there is no way to resolve the issue. You can't change the past.. Your relationship was interrupted. In order to heal from this tragic wound, you need to approach it the same way you would a death. You need to go through the stages of grief. There are some good methods outlines at : http://www.elderhope.com/e_class/new_grief/grief_2_2.html\nI am so sorry for your losses. \nI carried the unresolved loss for over thirty years, and then I called my childhood boyfriend (I found his phone number on the internet). I told him what had happened and we talked about it. We talked about our lives and families and things in general. About two weeks after our conversation, I woke up one morning and realized I was no longer thinking about him. I realized how happy I was that we never married. I was thankful my life had taken a different direction.\nI still feel pain about my friend who betrayed me. Her actions caused me to distrust people throughout my life. I wish I had had someone to help me go through the grieving process when I was young. Good luck. There is a different, better ending to your story. One day you will be happy about it because, if your boyfriend had been a purer person, he would not have abandoned you because of gossip.
939537
i have found the best way to get over someone is to think about them as though they have died.  that way you can keep the memories you have about the good times you had with him but accept there will be no more.  stay busy and go different places and do different things than you did when you were with him.   try very hard not to see him or hear about him.  it's a cliche but time does really heal and every day gets a little easier.  don't stay home and be sad now even though no guys measure up right now.  the next one who will measure up is out there and you won't meet him while you're at home feeling sad.  and once you meet him you'll wonder what you ever saw in the guy who made you sad.  good luck!!
427831
mmm...ur feelings are ordinary...it will take some time to forget him...u have to do some important things to make it a small period :\n1-never try to contact him even if u felt that u would die to hear his voice or see him, never even think of that.\n\n2-when u find ur self starting to think of him, start to remember the bad things he did to you as much as u can.\n\n3- never think that u miss his days and never dream of being with him again.\n\n4- try to think of another one if u can (that's a quick cure but it's not a good one).\n\n5- finally and the most important try not to have alot of free time, try to engage ur self in doing anything...and try not to stay alone for a long time...be with ur friends,relatives,or any other people.
36297
yes love hurts i do not care how in love you are it just really hurts . when you are dealen wth a broken heart you first need to find out if you ever have a second chance wth that person or not and if you have no chanch you just program your self to forget that person and you just tell yourself that you are beter off wthout him. its the hardest thang to do expecialy when you are still in love wth them but you have to realize that its not going to do you any good to sit around  feelen sorry for your self you get out there and act like you have every thang in the world going for you do not let yourself get depressed over it go out there and do somthing it will help you and the other party involved
810308
Let it rain...you have to let go of all the pain and situations in the past before you start dating again. It's hard, but you got to do it. Yeah, you got the memories of your ex, but if you want to love again you got to move on. Don't call her. Don't do anything to her. Maybe there's some attachment to her if she was your first love and basically first everything, but you got to let her go. If things were meant to be between you and her it would happen. It goes with the saying "if you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it's meant to be." If you and your ex were meant to be together you will get back together, but on the mean time move on with your life. There are plenty of fishes in the sea. Really and don't shut out on some girl because she looks too much of your ex or because you have an idea of what you want don't shut out on girls that don't met your qualities. You are just missing out and not giving this girl a fair chance if you are comparing her already. When you know you are ready to date is when you don't even think about your ex anymore or how much you loved her.  I know it's cliche, but yeah, just move on and the best way to move on its well, to envelope that person and then send it away. As in get all that feeling in your system then either write, cry, or whatever guys do out and then send it away. Throw away all those memories or hide it away. Anyway, a new love will come into your life when you least expect it to. Good luck and hope I helped.
484954
Harder to leave!  Because whether your conscious of it or not, you've already started questioning the worth of staying or not.  You may love him, but you can't make him love you because you hurt or your miserable.  You got played, so swallow the lump in your throat, and go on with life.  There will come a time again in your life that you will find love.\nIf he was your first love, I'm sorry for you, believe me, I understand!! Unfortunately, you won't forget him, but try not to; make a conscious effort not to judge other men by his actions/mistakes.  They really aren't all monsters.