How can I deal with my boyfriend who is a drug addict?
599422
trust me ive been there get away from him. that kind of life is not the way to go. please listen to me i know from experiance
408472
I would certainly get help from the organizations that offer help. You must go and seek help even if the husband does not (or cannot) go. YOU must go and find out what CAN be done to save your marriage,your family, your life!You have to make up your mind that you have had ENOUGH the "lifestyle" of a drug user! MAKE UP YOUR MIND AND THEN MAKE A MOVE!
1070158
I was in a relationship with a cocaine addict. I got out of it after MY health became an issue due to the stress he was causing ME. I know it may sound uncaring, but you have to look out for yourself.
1128014
It's obvious that you need to tell him that you're not compatible. Honesty would be the best way to let someone know you're not feeling them. You shouldn't necessarily go into the drug-use and the ignorance unless he leaves you no choice. If he pulls a dumb-one and tries to act as if you're doing something wrong by telling him that you're not interested in him anymore, then let him know what exactly you're trying to say. He should get it then. Good luck with this.
832389
im not sure i understand your question.  i think youre asking which is worse: drugs or sex?  well, they are both highly addictive and depending on the persons personality can completely absorb someone.  If i had to chose though, i would say that drugs are definitely more harmful to the body.  they can cause all sorts of side effects down the road.  though it sounds like your b/f comes from a troubled home.  maybe his parents were users and his sex addiction is his way of acting out on his addictive personality.  if you think that he has a problem, bring it up to him.  but don't make fights out of it.  if he has grown up in a troubled home he will only reject those fights.  try and let him understand that what he is doing is not healthy and offer that he seek help. \n\ni hope that helped.
1103112
It's so hard to watch someone you love battle drugs. You want to take them and just hide them away from all the temptation of the drug. There's really not much you can do besides let him know that you love him and that you are there for him. I know he's afraid of both hurting AND disappointing you. He doesn't want YOU to watch HIM spiral downward. \n\nJust continue to be strong and let him know that you want the best for him. He's going to have to make his own decisions, and one of those will be to STAY OFF OF DRUGS. You can't do that for him, as much as you want to ~ you just can't. \n\nMy heart goes out to you sweetheart, you are not in an easy place right now. I wish the best for you both.\n\nGentle hugs to you, Marilyn
1094798
what u need to do is stop dating losers cause the first promise u the same thing where is he right now. what makes u think that wont happen to this one . what u need to do is dump him cause drug is a hard habit to take away .
45518
Have you tried contacting a local clinic or rehab center for advice? Maybe attending a Narcotics Anonymous meeting?\n\nUnfortunately, I don't think you can force anyone to do anything they don't want to do. Your addicted loved one must want to quit themselves. Also, you should look at ways you may be enabling their addiction: lying to employers about their absences, being ok with them staying up all night, giving or lending money to pay bills. \n\nI was addicted and eventually became homeless. I called my parents asking for help, if I could live with them. It was the hardest thing for them to do, but they said no. I lived in a residential hotel for awhile and they paid my rent but gave me no more money. I had to eat at soup kitchens. Eventually I managed to find a job and work myself out of the situation, but it was very hard.\n\nNow I own my own home, own a car, have 4 cats, a pool, and a good job. No more meth for me.
1054481
You have started to regain your life back. Meth will eventually bring anyone down to a living hell. I am proud you are strong enough to Put it behind you. But I am sorry to hear your boyfriend has not. the only way for you to survive is to let him be  part of that pass also. I know its hard, but thats the path  for you to move forward. Memories of a fun time is what you have, keep it, but that time has long pass. So keep moving in the right direction, don't look back.
598967
some people cannot be helped, unless they help themselves first. there's only so much you can do. and there's only so much you can put up with it.\n\ntrust his friends. if they say he's getting high, then he is. they have nothing to gain from lying to you. if he says he isn't, he does have something to gain from it- he gets to keep you. but let him know that he can't have both. he can't do drugs and keep you.\n\nyou should dump him. tell him that you've tried, but the relationship isn't going anywhere. it is one way. you are giving and giving to him with nothing in return, because he is lying to you. that's not how a relationship works, no matter how much you are in love with the other person.\n\ndon't let pity for him keep you attached to him. think about yourself a little bit. it is taxing on you and stressful for you. you don't need the extra stress. if he's not giving to the relationship, then it's not a relationship. break up.\n\nhonesty, trust, respect, communicating feelings and emotions... it seems you are doing all these things, but he is not returning them. so no matter how much it hurts you to break up, you will only get hurt more by staying in the relationship.
691000
I had a friend that was addicted. He's over it now, but I could never convince him that he needed help, he had to convince himself. I'm afraid there's little that you, alone, can do. Depending on his age, perhaps you could talk with his parents, or maybe a counselor of some sort...? When he realizes that he has a very serious problem he's going to need to know that you'll be there for him! You might have to be strong while he is weak! I wish you (and him) the best!
513164
If its someone you love and care about confront them and take action. Don't let someone on drugs ruin their lives. The worst thing you can do in this sort of situation is let it happen!!
1155230
He's the one with the problem not you...rise above it and hopefully your boyfriend will sort it out...if he's the sort worth having!
1072474
There is always a chance of relapse with a former addict, no matter who you are.  You have to decide yourself if you will be abe  to deal with it if does happen again.  The temptation will always be there, and you need to help them cope with it if you truly want to be with them.
238366
Unfortunately, most people addicted to crack have to hit bottom before they realize how screwed up their life has become. You're either really happy (when high) or really miserable (when straight) there is no third direction. Eventually it will devour everything in her life including her friends, family, job, material things etc. I think the best thing you could do for her is spend as much time with her as you can and do normal things, taking long walks, go to the movies, go to the beach or lake and try to maybe do some things at home with her. These things will keep her away from the bad element and will also show her that you can have fun without the drug.
517714
Do it now while you're still young enough to "start" over.  If he hasn't changed now, he never will, even if he quit the drugs.  Drug users are self centered and blame the world for their problems.  Get out now.
1115153
Been there and it's hard to see this happening especially to those you love. You really want to help? Get as much information from drug addiction websites, counselors, groups, friends, etc that you can. You talk to counselors and see if you both can come up with a solution. He can't do this unless he wants to get help. You be his therapy, what I am trying to say is, you do all the leg work, and hopefully you can get a counselor to put him into a program where he has no choice but to with drawl. Educate yourself in order to help him. Good luck.