HELP! I am in love with a guy and he's leaving my life. How should I carry on?
606412
I know how you feel.  I am going through that right now.  I just graduated college and I never got a chance to tell the guy I liked for 2 years that I liked him.  Our relationship is confusing.  Sometimes it seemed like he liked me other times it seemed like he hated me.  That's why I didn't pursue the relationship.  Like my friend tells me, "If we are meant to be together, we will be together.  God will see to it."
1129520
I didn't even finish reading your note, but from experience I would recommend ditching him... you deserve someone who can make up his mind and can love you 100%!! I had a fellow like that and I think he kept me around as security, so he wasn't alone and felt loved... don't be his love of last resort! Be strong and move on...
291705
Sweetie...what would be the point of continuing the relationship?\n\nYou would en up being miserable in the end and when that happens you will say to yoruself, "Why didn't I just leave when he said he no longer loved me?"  This just saves you some time and gets you on the road to recovering from this relationship faster.
368031
The best advice to give to you is just keep seeing him then you will eventually tire of him and you will stop having feelings for him coz if you stop seeing him now it will just torment you..the same thing happened to me and I got the courage to walk away once I couldnt take anymore.
319683
PRAY. I KNOW IT MAY BE HARD BECAUSE YOU LOVE HIM I KNOW I'M GOING THROUGH IT NOW FIND SOMETHING TO OCCUPY YOUR TIME. PLEASE DON'T MAKE THE MISTAKE OF JUMPING INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE YOU WOULD BE DOING IT TO GET OVER HIM YOU MAY THINK THAT IT IS GOING TO HELP YOU RIGHT BUT IT WILL HURT IN THE LONG RUN
517491
I think you need a replacement or substitute for him...Be with your friends always and stay busy so that you won't think of him over and over again...Date someone in your office, neighborhood or church...Stay happy in the company of your relatives, family members, etc...maybe you still need to pray to God for on-going discernment on what is His will for you...I believe in destiny, that of billions and billions of people around the world, only one is menat for you...Just enjoy life, be productive, enjoy work and do community activities/services in your respective community...\n\nGod will give you something that you really deserve...Only God knows whats in your heart, mind and your soulmate..
744929
if he doesnt love you honey you need to move on and find some one who does and fall in love with them.  you can love more than one person in your life trust me i'v been there.  if he isnt still in love with you and with you then you need to find some one else and i'm sure there is osme one else out there that is more perfect than this guy.  if he's moved on hes moved on and probalby does not love you anymore...if he loved you he'd tell you guys are straight up like that most hte time.
961411
He will regret that for the rest of his life. If you really love him marry him and support his mission. Look at all the benefits you get and think positive. Why do  you want him to get out? Does he have a career lined up is he a college graduate? \nGetting out that way is not the answer. You want him to do that for you? What are you willing to sacrifice for him? Comon Think Straight!
703196
forget this guy. find a nice guy who cannot live without you and loves you for who you are. why should you change for him?\ngood luck
393920
Dear Fallen,\n\nThe first thing to do is get out if that is what YOU truly want.  You shouldn't run off with the first thing that comes along either.  No man is going to make you happy until you can first be happy with yourself, on your own (I know that sounds difficult especially if you have always been with someone).  You will never be truly happy with someone if are not happy with yourself.  Move or get out but not because you met some guy you barley know, this could end up being worse especially if this man is married and or conflicted.  Do what is best for yourself and your children, that should be first and foremost! Do this and continue to speek and meet this man if it is safe after you have a better situation for yourself.  Maybe a True love will grow and not just the idea of better life/love because this man seems better than the one you have.  You may find this guy isn't that great or that he is great but, take time to really find this out.  Get yourself where you want be happy and healthy, and then you might find that there is even a better man out there.  If you have fear of violence from your current man, get help! Call the police if you are going to move out and tell them your concerns before hand and they will probably send out an officer to assist you.  If that is not an option you want to explore there are many groups that can assist women in that situation.  The main thing is to protect yourself, get a brother or other male family member that can help you move or help protect you.  There is no shame in telling family, friends or people who are willing to help that you have problems and need help.  The shame would be in not getting that help and bettering your life.  Weigh your options and make the best decision for yourself and children, just understand all that is involved and what, if any long term concerns could/can develop.  Good luck and God bless.\n\nThe Good Man
661006
If it has become more than you can handle, then the choice is made.  Yeah, I know everyone wants you to do the noble thing and suffer a lifetime of misery, plus if you leave, you'll be the bad guy.  Hey, it's your life.  Just be true about your feelings and do what you've got to do.  Life is short for us all, so find your way to happiness either in this relationship or out, but don't just keep on keep'n on for no purpose.
330356
I'm in the middle. You do have to think about your future and your goals. But then he is your love. If you say that you know your gonna end up with each other, then don't worry, things will work out at the end for both of you. Plus, if  you say he loves you then he'll want you to be happy no matter what decision you choose.
230185
OK, first of all obviously you're already attached to him because you said that he's the one.  Is it a guarantee that he will be going back to Mexico?  And if he is, does he want the relationship to end?  Do you really want the relationship to end? Are there any underlying issues of concern that you're not mentioning? Are you willing to move to Mexico?  You have to weigh all your options sweety, and what sacrifices you are willing to make for this guy you claim to love so much.  It seems as if it doesn't matter which way you go once he leaves you'll be broken hearted anyway.  If it is a guarantee that he will be leaving for Mexico for good and you feel you don't want to go through the heartache later on, I think you can answer the question on your own.  Just let everything flow, what's to be will be.  Follow your heart.
46666
Pancharito is right! I know you want to be friends with him, but you are in love with him. You will always be tempted to just crumble and tell him you want more. But you have to respect his wishes before those of your own if you truly do love him. *sigh* That's the part of love that is so hard. You'll never really fall out of love with him. But distancing yourself will make things easier for you. Get involved in activities you love and it will take your mind off of your heart. Besides, you might make some great new friends through your outside involvement. I do wish you luck........I know it is hard!
419321
l don't think you need this kind of man in your life .if he can do this when  both of you are even expecting to get married soon,  so what will it be after???ls he trying to break your heart now??? l think you deserve a better person.\nthis is supposed to be the most happiest time for you and him together.sweet heart does he even love you anymore?? talk to him seriously and ask him what is going on, b'se you need to know.you might be wasting your time with him, go some where far from him for sometime without telling him.or ignore him  for a week or more without calling him and at the same time avoid receiving his calls. test him and see if he  even care about you,if he realy loves you he will come back to you and he  will show it to you if he doesn't make things right you, then you will only neet some time to go thru a heart healing process but soon will be far better, soon after he is gone..be smart girl and know that he is not the only man you can love the way you did...good luck!
1109151
Do what's best for yourself.  People will come and go all your life, but you'll always have you.  If you think the relationship is stronger with the one who is leaving, that's who you should stay with.
1096958
Sounds to me like you're both ready to move on. It happens sometimes. I assume you are young because you mentioned your 'class'. Now is the perfect time to move on as you are leaving for a period of time anyhow. If you aren't showing him affection (for any reason) anymore, then you don't love him anymore either. You may still care for him a great deal and you may miss what you once had, but you don't 'love' him anyone. Yes....it's time to break-up and move on. Good luck on your travels!