how can i have a wedding with out spending to all my money?
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Keep it simple. \n\nThe Venue - you can have this outdoors with a markee or hire out one of your favourite cafes. \n\nThe dress - find a dress you love and get a dress maker to copy it. You can buy the material yourself to even reduce the costs. \n\nThe food & drinks - you buy the alcohol and pick a nice red and white wine with champagnes for toasting. Pick two beers for the boys make one a light. Finger food is a great option do you know a friend or take away/cafe that maybe able to help out.\n\nFlowers - get them from the market fresh the day before and put a relo in charge or helping arrange. Don't ask them for a gift just tell them their help is enough!\n\nCake - surely one of your relo's makes a great fruit cake. If so you can get a cake shop to put icing on top to match your dress material. \n\nCars - you only need two cars, see what resources you have a use two cars in the family. Otherwise hire two cars for the day this is so much cheaper than wedding car hire.   \n\nPool all your resources together, people are so willing to help. Just say to them not to buy a gift in return for their help this will be appreciated and you will find that they will still want to give you a token.
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www.theknot.com \n\nFirst make your guest list.  One for engagement party (if you're going to have one), one for wedding, one for reception. . . Then, trim it down.  Decide on a budget, then decide if you want to DIY (Do it yourself).  Pick everything from that budget:  The venues, caterers, rentals, dress, accomodations, florals, etc.  Decide on a date before you pick the above mentioned things.  It's easier to schedule a wedding that's at least a year away, because the dates you want are more likely to be open.  I could go on and on. . . just go to the theknot.com, maybe get a coordinator or some software.   You'll be fine, congratulations!!
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Your best bet is to make a payment plan with the irs. This way you can still go to your friends wedding, and won't get charge a pently for not filing.Make sure you change your W4 and get more taxes taking out.
249034
Darlin', going into hock to put on a wedding is a terrible way to start a marriage...plan the wedding you can afford, or wait until you're in a bit better shape financially. You can always plan as bang up, all out festive a party as you want to for your anniversaries, or do up the "wedding of your dreams" to renew your vows ten years down the road... Celebrating your love and having a festive, memorable wedding does not have to mean spending a fortune.\nPlease consider doing something a bit less costly so you don't spend the first years of your marriage trying to pay for the wedding.
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You should be able to find someone who can keep you under $3,000.  Look around and do your research.  On The Knot, you can search for photographers in your area and narrow it by price range.  If you know people who’ve gotten married fairly recently, ask them who they used and how it all turned out.  See if you can find a photographer who is experienced and who will give you the negatives or a disc with the pictures (depending on whether they use film or digital).  My mom is a photographer, and she’s done this.  Of course, it takes time for them to shoot your pictures, but any good photographer is going to go through your pictures, weed out the bad ones and possibly edit some of the others, so if you get the film or a disc, that saves them time, which means you don’t have to pay them for that extra time.  It might be more work for you to go through your pictures and put together your own album, though.  Photographers also have access to labs that develop high-quality pictures, which is especially important if you’re getting anything in a large size (11x14, for example).  If you really need to cut back, see if you can hire someone for the ceremony and the formal pictures, and find someone else (a student, for example) to shoot the reception.  I wouldn’t recommend having a friend or relative do it (unless they’re a professional, but even then, consider some of this) because they will want to enjoy the wedding, they probably won’t get anywhere near as good of pictures, they won’t have the same equipment, and if something goes wrong, it can be very stressful.  Some people don’t have any of these problems and they just want basic pics, so it all works out.  My friends had a relative shoot their wedding and the pictures are terrible – most of them are blurry, the lighting was wrong, and the bride was very disappointed.  Also, don’t waste your money on disposable cameras at the reception – they’re too much money for such low quality, and depending on your guests, you may just get a bunch of nothing.  Good luck!
1038681
You can buy a refundable ticket.  It will cost significantly more than a non-refundable ticket, but if you are that worried that the wedding won't happen, then it would be wise to do so.
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We saved a lot of money by doing fingerfood buffet, purchasing flowers from a wholesaler warehouse, Buy your gown second hand and have it altered, find a park or garden with lots of flowers.  Usually you can reserve areas which are outdoor for really cheap.  If you have a friend or family member with a big yard, that could help you save.  Our local zoo, yes zoo had a beautiful banquet room and garden area overlooking the city and ocean.  The great thing about this was I did not need to buy as many flowers.  Don't discount your local zoo or botanical gardens.\n\nAlso, cakes can be EXTREMELY expensive.  You can either have a mini wedding cake with just 2 tiers done beautifully for "pictures" and then purchase a less expensive sheet cake for serving.  Another idea is to do wedding cupcakes that maybe a friend could make. \n\nA simple and inexpensive, yet meaningful giveaway would be to write your vows down, put on a computer and copy onto nice paper, roll into a scroll and put a ribbon around it.  If you don't have a computer, find someone with really nice handwriting and do maybe 20 a day.\n\nFinally, instead of hiring a caterer and using their food, We found someone who prepped the bulk food we bought from Costco.  They also set up and cleaned up the room and waited on people.  It only took 3 of them since it was buffet and 1 of them set up a mini bar where we only served Champagne and sparkling cider.  We got the champagne for only $2.99 a bottle from Trader Joes. It was a good brand of Asti Spumonti too.\n\nI hope this helps.  Oh the cost was $1,500 for Everything with 150 people and we had a BEAUTIFUL wedding that looked like it cost $6,000.  \n\nCongratulations and remember that the MARRIAGE is more important than the Wedding.
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I usually am on the $100 plan. Sometimes more or less depending on 1.the closeness of the couple, 2. how much I can afford at the moment 3. if I am bring a guest.\n\nkendra, that answered above... please send me your address so I can invite you to my wedding ;)
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Get your location, set the date and time\nAsk your best friend if she'll stand up with you...the groom is on his own! Skipping the Bridesmaid Chorus line simplifies planning since you only have to shop for dress/shoes/hairstylist for yourself and one other girl. Find a photographer (try the local college...a senior photography student may be available on much shorter notice and will be thrilled at the opportunity)buy a bunch of one use cameras to let guests take pics, too.\n(If you have the wedding around 1 0r 2 in the afternoon, you can have just  champagne for the toast then cake, punch and finger foods without looking cheap at the reception, much easier than dealing with finding a caterer on such short notice)\nThe dresses should be chosen and ordered as soon as possible, to allow for any needed alterations.\nDo your invitations (Craft stores and office stores have some beautiful "do it yourself" invitation kits...get one more package than you think you'll need to allow for a couple getting messed up. Mail them 4 to 6 weeks before the wedding.\nVisit bakeries and grocery stores to choose and order your cake (many grocers can make a cake just as beautiful as the fanciest bakery for a fraction of the cost and in far less time)\nAlso at the craft store, they'll have pretty little favours and lots of different ways to decorate or package them. Consider the possibility of using silk flowers for decorations, then you'll only need a florist for the Bridal bouquet and groom's boutenierre (I'm sure that's spelled wrong.\nAll that should keep you busy until a month before the wedding... Get the rings and the license.Send the groom and his best man to get measured for their suits and to reserve the ones they choose (If you can't trust him to dress himself....?)Reserve a big punch bowl and glasses at a party rental place.\nGet the dresses so you can try on the shoes underthings with the dresses (you don't have time for mistakes or changing your mind!) make any needed appointment for hair and nails.\nBy now you should have some idea of your head count... buy the ingredients for punch, figure on a quart per person, plus a gallon to be safe. For the champagne one bottle per four guests should allow for two glasses of bubbly per person, plenty for the toast...you don't want folks tipsy in the middle of the day any way.\nHit a deli to order cold platters, they can advise better than I can what quantities you'll need....buy the pretty paper plates and napkins.\n\nOne week before the wedding, the bridal couple should go out and do something that has nothing at all to do with the wedding.\nBREATHE!\n\nAll my best wishes for a lovely day and a long and happy marriage.
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Try to consolidate all your debt so that you have only one payment to make per month and you can easily see that it is going down - this may give you some incentive to slow down your spending habits. And most definitely pay them off before you get married. You will have enough stress adjusting to married life and everything that comes with it without having money problems to add to it.
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1. Set a date\n2. Put together guest list\n3. Book wedding site & reception site\nThose are the 3 most important first steps...go to theknot.com and they have a checklist of what needs to be done every month.  It has tons of stuff on it, so remove the stuff that you won't be doing (it covers a lot, which doesn't always apply to every bride)
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Depends on what you want really!\nI am planning mine at the moment, so we can learn together! I am having it at a register office. I had to call to book an appointment with the superintendant registrar. They asked me when I wanted to get married and booked it over the phone! Next week we have to take our passports and proof of address to the register office to prove we haven't been married before.\nWe are having the reception at a local pub owned by a friend, and the flowers I am doing. I am buying silk flowers I can keep forever. My friends are making food so we can have a big huge buffet!\nGood luck with your wedding, get in touch with your wedding date if you need any more help!!
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Etiquette dictates that you spend the amount of your plate. So you figure the average wedding is about $125 per head - that's the amount you should give or spend on the couple. So that they either get their money back to pay for the reception dinner or either receive something of equal value. If you can't afford to cover the cost of your plate - then do the best that you can. The couple probably knows that you can't and isn't expecting you to.\nMuch Success!
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That is not a problem.  Weddings aren't as expensive as people believe.  Some helpful tips are shop around for the gown, you shouldn't pay more than $500.  Then, go to Hobby Lobby and buy the decorations.  They are cheap and look awesome.  Next, plan an out door reception and have your mother and grandmother fix the food.  Just to name a few things.  My wedding only cost $2500 and it was very ellegant.
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I am 21, when I got married my mother and my fiance's parents split the cost. Neither could afford the whole thing on their own. I got married at a chapel that offered in house photography (which is the most expensive and the most important thing about the day in my opinion). It hurt that I couldn't have the the huge wedding because there simply wasn't the money. My advice would be to definitely do what you can afford and only that. But do what you can afford. No less. No matter how frivolous you may think it is, you should offer to do all you can for the most important day of your daughter's life. That being said, there is no need to do ridiculously lavish things like fireworks at the wedding, or a 10 layer cake. Pick your battles here. The dress is going to be expensive, when she finds one she loves, let her have it no matter what the cost but make sure she knows the budget. If the budget is $10,000 and she wants a $5,000 dress she needs to know how much that leaves her. My fiance and I made our own invitations with a computer kit we bought. It was $25 at walmart and they turned out beautiful. \nHer fiance doesn't need to be pressuring you. If he wants more than you can afford tell him point blank he will have to get it somewhere else. Money can be an uncomfortable subject but you have to be upfront about how much you can afford. Ask what kind of wedding your daughter has in mind, a simple beachfront wedding, a huge cathedral wedding,etc. That can also help you figure out how much you will need to spend. Before you plan a budget, discuss the things that are most important and the things that could be simplified (invitations, the ceremony site,etc). Look around at different locations and offer help where it is asked for and make sure your daughter knows you are willing to help her in any way needed. The grooms family is supposed to pay for the rehearsal dinner so if he wants to impress friends tell them they can go all out then. The wedding traditionally falls on the brides parents but nowadays its up to whoever can pay. Bring both families together to discuss payment. And only pay what you can.\n\nAs to the other suggestions here: the brides family typically pays for the wedding. That includes flowers and liquor. So don't be petty about those things. You don't need liquor at the reception as that can drive costs through the roof. If you want liqour there have a cash bar instead of an open bar, or not at all. Depending on where you have the wedding,they may not allow liquor to be served.\n\nAs for an elopement, please don't encourage this. Your family will hate that they weren't included in the wedding amd couldn't see their neice/cousin/grandchild get married. As will you. Don't you think you will wish that you got to see them get married? Don't encourage that.\n\nYou didnt say whether or not your daughter has a career or not, so if she does and can afford to pay for the wedding I agree she should help out but as a gift to the married couple,it would be nice if you were to help out. But sometimes it takes a little longer to get a career together, so if she doesnt have one you should definitely help. But if she does have one and you choose to help, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Even if she was 40 and you were paying, there is nothing wrong with that.
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Just spend what you can afford.  Lots of couples register for many items of different prices that way it covers everyones price range.
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It depends on where his country is, but I had a destination wedding, they specialize in doing weddings in other countries.  You can go to www.destinationweddings.com, and for $50 they will set you up with a representative that will do everything for you - from travel arrangements, venue, officiants, etc.