what is a good thing to do for my fiancee before he leaves for basic?
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When loved ones depart, it's always hard. If I was you, \nI would spend as much quality time with my partner, have plenty of photo's for them to take. And try to asure them\nyou are behind them 200%. And you will always, be there, when they get back. I always try to make them feel loved.
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My nephew in law is already there.  Sweetie?  Take your camera if you have one and make sure to see him off.  Let him know how much you love him and that your thoughts and prayers will always be with him.  Let him know now how much you need him to come home and why.  Sometimes, your words will be enough to carry him through the fire. Spend as much time with him as possible before he goes and create some lasting memories with him just in case...know what I mean?\n\nI talk to my Creator every day about all the young men and women who are in Iraq, and for the ones whose lives ended there also.  You have to accept the fact that there are going to be casualties and prepare your own self for the worse.  I pray it doesn't happen to your Dad. Pray to whomever it is you pray to and be confident about his safe return.  And write him lots of letters and send moto-mail. I cannot stress enough to you how important it is to spend every minute you can with him before his deployment.  Okay?  I hope this helps.  ((((((Sheri)))))\n\np.s.  Try to put together packages of stuff for him like, believe it or not?  Baby wipes, beef jerky, lotion, soap, foil packages of single servings of tuna for sandwiches, easy to open/preparation type foods that require no cooking., candy bars, vienna sausage, etc.
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I served and I can tell you the most important thing while he is in basic write to him often letters from home are the only contact from the outside world.\nI went through basic 2 times from 2 separate enlistments.\nThey keep you pretty busy but the little down time there is the only thing you have to read is the Army hand book Or navy or Air force what ever.\nNo news papers TV radio so letter from home are what guys live for. Mail day is everything. A nice letter from home from people who care can keep you sane, make your day.\nSend photos, but that is it most other things are considered contriband and will be confiscated while in basic. What ever you do don't break up with him while he is in basic if you can't handle the seperation and time apart do it face to face.\nThe only thing I ever got in basic was a dear john letter.\nSo when I got deployed I had nothing to look forward to coming home to I took every dangerous thing offered and volunteered.\nGo to adopt a soldier they have support groups and lots of resources or soldiers angels
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greet her at the airport with her favourite snack and make sure she comes home to a clean house.  she'll be hungry and tired after such a long flight.  might not be romantic but be assured it will definitely be appreciated. that's what i'm hoping my hubby will do for me when i return from seeing my family in the us too.\n\n\ni have no real good suggestions but want to say she sounds like a lucky lass :)
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Thanks for anwsering my question now I will anwser yours.\nI have been in the Army for 6 years now. What is your MOS? (job title) Im a 11B Infantryman. \n\nWhat to bring. Well when I went I was told to bring all kinds of crap and ended up not needing it. \n\nGet a nice new pair of running shoes try and brake them in before you go.\n1-2 towels/washcloths. Basic Hygene kit, razors, 1 can shaving cream, tooth brush/paste, None brakable mirror, fingernail clippers WITH NO FILE, and q-tips. \n\nDO NOT BRING knifes, files, pocketwatches. ect..... anything that you think they might take from you they probably will. NO sharp objects... you get the picture. \n\nUnless they changed it over the last 6 years you will get a debit card that has $300.00 (of your first pay check of course that can only be use at the PX store on base) So you will be able to buy more crap that you think you will need when you get there. \n\nAs far as if your in shape or not. If your not in shape now dont worry about it cause you will be by the time you are finnished. When I joined I was 210 .lbs I came out at 150! 4 years later gained it back lol beefcake! Anyways, here are some pointers. If you have a temper learn to keep your mouth shut. Learn quickly what your are tought. If a drill Sgt tells you to do something do it good and as fast as you can. If you fck up alot you will stick out more and they will make your life more of a living hell as they can. I have heard that Basic training has gone soft comparied to what I or thoughs before me went through, not as much yelling and crap. When you get deployed to Iraq or Afghanistan remember what you have been taught and if there is someone in your unit that has been there before get with them and ask as many questions as you can. Learn your job!  \n\nPlease email me and let me know what your MOS is and I will try and give you an idea of what you are in for alittle more. \n\nOh yeah and when you get in ask about the Rakkasans\nwe are the craziest unit there is. \n\nHave fun and good luck
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Find someone to watch your baby for the evening.  Make sure that the house is clean and orderly.  Make him his favorite dinner and dessert.  Afterwards, you can treat him to a massage, and a selection of other bedroom activities (whatever you guys enjoy!).\n\nIf you're going to be home before he is, you can have a little more fun with the preparations.  Maybe be waiting on the bed for him when he gets home, with a trail of rose petals leading to the bedroom.  Lighted candles and a couple glasses of sparkling cider would be a nice touch.\n\nDon't forget to unplug the phone.\n\nI wish you the best of luck and the best of times with your romantic night!
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Give him a day to remember, instead of the usual night thing make it a treat all day, make him look forward to coming home and make sure you are both alone all night, loadsa different positions and loadsa nice food, use the food in different positions!!!  No lingerie..............go naked nothing better!!!!  xx
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wear your best outfit to his homecoming so he can be like ahh that's what ive been missing and get all happy... and then either go back home, or go to a hotel, and just have a nice time catching up holding each other, kissing, maybe a candle lit dinner with love music in the background...
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Phone cards are ALWAYS welcome. To hear your loved ones voice is the best gift!! You can get a phone card anywhere, but make sure you look at the rates from that part ofthe world. It might only last him a few minuites. An ipod is also a great way for him to pass the time and a gift card prior to him goingso he can download a few songs from itunes. He can take a Bible, but if you can don't let it be too big of one. My husband alsways takes his on deployments.\nSome other things that you can send while he is there are baby wipes, deodorant, razors, socks (uniform colors), powdered drinks. \nIf I'm not mistaken, she will not be able to go over there. That's a hostile environment and would be dangerous for her, but depending on his tour length he might come home mid-tour for some R&R for two weeks. \n\nI hope that this helps.
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Deployed OEF-7 Afghanistan. Thanx a lot. Everyone stateside please eat a wonderful dinner, burp eat dessert, burp watch football, burp make a turkey sandwich, and have a beer for me. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. And if you get up early enough watch the parade. If you have never been deployed you will probably never understand what you take for granted. I know I didn't. Happy Holidays.
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God Bless you and thank you!  My son is at infantry basic training at Fort Benning and we just welcomed my daughter (Air Guard) home from Iraq.\nMy advice for boot camp would be to make sure your loved ones write to you and OFTEN and that they understand you probably won't be writing back too often but you need their support!\nIf you aren't used to working out, start!  Run, walk, do pushups, situps anything to help your endurance.  Start going to bed early and rising before dawn, just the little things so the bootcamp schedule isn't more of a shock to your system than it already will be.\nAnd be proud of yourself, you accomplishing something!  Your country loves you and believes in you!  You must too!
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Since you have a year to prepare, you should be in good shape before you leave.  My advice is that you start doing physical training on your own now.  Push ups, sit ups, pull ups, running, weights, and anything else that you can think of to strengthen your body.  If you are physically prepared for Basic, then you will be more able to contend with the mental and emotional abuse that you will suffer.  I would also suggest that you familiarize yourself with firearms early.  Learn how they feel when they go off, how they sound, and most importantly, how different fire arms operate.  Learn to break them down and clean them properly.  If you have this info before you leave, then you will be more prepared when you begin this in basic.  \nLearn to eat fast, and prepare yourself for a three meal, no snack day.  If you are used to eating three meals and two snacks per day you will feel hungry all the time at basic.  If you usually skip breakfast, you will feel weighted down during the morning hours at basic, and find yourself lacking the energy to make it through till lunch.  I also suggest that you learn to eat standing up (the last ones in the lunch room earn kitchen detail), so you will want to go  (with your tray while eating) from the food line to the exit line.  \nNow, of everything that I have said, the most important is the physical aspect.  If you are physically unprepared, you will have a much harder time with basic...\nGood Luck\n\nK
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I cook, clean and keep my fiancee happy, let him know that he is loved, and am currently 23 weeks pregnant with the daughter he was hoping for! And I have been writing him every day since he has been deployed. **dances for her Navy man**  That's how I support MY troop. :)
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This is something you'll have to learn to get used to.  Sorry, but that's Army life.\n\nTDY is Temporary Duty.  Unless it's a certain amount of time or specified on his orders, you won't be going with him on these assignments.  Usually, TDY is some sort of school, training or "war games".\n\nPCS is Permanent Change of Station.  This is an official government move.  It's usually from one post to another.  If he's in AIT, he still hasn't made a PCS move yet.  PCS is a change in duty.\n\nKorea is NOT a deployment.  That's considered an unaccompanied tour.  They last a year to 18 months.  There's several places he could get sent for an unaccompanied tour.  In most cases, you won't go with him, thus the unaccompanied.  That's a PCS for him though.  He can also go to Japan, Germany, Italy or other locations overseas that you will be able to move with him as a PCS.  Places like Germany are a 3 year assignment.\n\nThere's several locations he can deploy to such as Bosnia or Iraq.  Deployments will last a year to 18 months as well.  Those, you won't be allowed to travel with him at all.  He can also deploy from and overseas location as well.\n\nHope this helps.  Be prepared for time apart.  Stay strong and independant, but love and trust him with all you have.  You'll be able to do fine.  The Army is a rough life, but it's a good life.  It'll definitely be what you make of it.\n\nGood luck!!
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Try a nice warm tub with bubbles.  Relax for a short time and then go out for breakfast.  Treat yourself with this extra time.  Go out and get yourself some chocolate cake or muffins.  Do some Christmas shopping, or get prepared for the Thanksgiving dinner.  Write out Christmas cards..  Save this lust for your mate for next week when he will be home.  Don't mention it to him.  Explode with great passion next Sunday.  Save it up for the next time, today just try to not think about it and get some of those other mundane chores accomplished.  Best wishes and good luck.
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His recruiter should have something like that.  If not, any duty station he is at will have things like that for sale at the PX, have him pick you up one.
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It depends on where your stationed and how long, the military could say hey thats a great idea, or they could send you to alaska, so its a very unstable thing, if your a spouse you can move wherever you want as long as its near your home of record which is near the meps station you inprocess in before getting shipped to basic, good luck.