What was your reaction when you found out your mate was cheating?
608983
I would be disappointed and ask to break up, after that, I would move on with my life and hope for a better person to come along.
774577
Yes my Hubby cheated 3 years ago,We did seperate for about 3 months, anyhow we ended up working it out..We got way to comfy in the marriage and things started to go downhill,And then the unthinkable happened..My first thought was divorce when i found out..as i said i moved out..But until your put in this position you just never know ..I felt if i could LEARN to trust him again and of course forgive him for what he did knowing it would take ALOT of time and patience on his part for the damage he caused to me, Then i would be willing to try it again..Today we are very very happy, The best our marriage have ever been.. And its taken awhile but i believe it was worth it. We have been together 17 years now..But if it ever happens again, I will be divorced..And no LOOKING BACK!
1043467
yes I would be furious and think he was cheating or looking to. If it was innocent they wouldn't be using fake names and keeping it from you. If they were just friends he'd have no problem telling you
599619
My girlfiend of 7 years cheated on me recently. I trusted her. She has a night class on Tuesday and Thursday nights.\nShe ended up seeing the teacher more than just in class.\nI am NOT going to give her another chance to do it again.\nOnce a cheater, always a cheater.
127854
The signs are always there, you just have to accept them when you see them. No one WANTS to believe their mate is cheating on them so we tend to either ignore the signs or rationalize them. If you think he's cheating on you, ask him. Tell him the different things you've noticed him doing, (signs), and demand an explanation. And don't let him off easy. Make sure you are satisfied with the responses you get from him. You don't deserve to be cheated on. If a man is having problems with you, he should be man enough to confront you with his concerns. If you two can’t work them out, then you move on. You don’t cheat. Same advice goes for you, be an adult and tell your partner your concerns.       If you can’t work them out……\n\nNow on the other side of the coin, if your concerns about his cheating have no merit, then don't jump all in his face with false accusations. Men have enough tendencies in us to cheat already. Don't give us an excuse. (i.e. She thinks I'm cheating anyway, I might as well do it) You know??
169650
Yes I have, quiet a few times.  But I got cheated on in my last relationship.  It was a slap in the face, I had never been cheated on before.  So my karma came back around and taught me a lesson.  I will never cheat again, I can't imagine causing someone that kind of pain.
370021
I had one bf cheat, he got the girl pregnant.\nOne guy told me he loved me and chased me till I gave in and let myself fall in love with him (he has a kid with someone else) then BAM changed his mind and went back to the mother of his child.
218653
Sure, why not...I'm mad at my ex, but he thought I liked a friend of mine(and thought I was cheating with the guy) when he was cheating on me!  Long story, but just use your intuition on this one.
306976
Those of you that have said no to this, but have commented on why people cheat, and judge those that do, have really got no right to judge/comment unless they have been there and done that themselves or have been on the receiving end. As for me, yes I have cheated. Nearly 5 years into my marriage, we started having alot of problems. We weren't spending quality time together or communicating and there was no sex. When I tried talking to him on a deep and meaningful level, I got no input from him. I told him repeatedly that I was unhappy in our marriage and even to the point where I asked him if he would come to marriage counselling with me. He refused! I spent more and more time on the internet chatting to my friends until I got talking to a guy from Germany. Eventually, I was telling him about my marriage problems and how unhappy I was. From what started out as a friendship on the net and someone to talk to once or twice a week, ended up developing into something more and talking every day. It got to the stage where I hardly spent any time with my husband at all and he knew I was chatting on the internet. This guy from Germany told me he had developed feelings for me and was flying down to Melbourne to meet me. I kept it quiet from my husband and told him I was going away for a couple of weeks and that we needed the break. I picked this guy up from the airport and we drove interstate together and holidayed for two weeks. Yes, we had the most wonderful time together and when it was time for him to leave, he wanted to come back to Australia again and visit me. I felt so guiltly for cheating on my husband that when I returned home, I told my husband and also told him it was over between us and I moved out of the house. The guy from Germany and myself continued on with our relationship for about a year. The second time he came here, he spent a month with me in Melbourne where I was living at the time. Sadly though it didn't work out because long distance relationships are just too hard to maintain and there was no future for us because I found out in the end that he had no plans to marry and live in Australia. Some people think that people who cheat on their partners are scum, well most often than not, the people that are the cheaters, suffer as well. I'm not condoning cheating and I'm sorry for what I did but I not only lost my house (I left it to my husband)and security, but I nearly lost my family as well because they didn't agree with what I had done and my brother-in-law disowned me for awhile. If I could take back what I did, I would, but as the saying goes, what's done is done and my advice is to anyone that is thinking of cheating on their partners, don't! He'll end up finding out and if he doesn't, you'll have to live with the guilt for the rest of your life (if you have a conscious). For 2 to 3 years after I left my husband, I was an emotional mess. I cried constantly for the hurt that I brought upon my husband and also my family. If your marriage is in turmoil, communication is the key to a long and lasting marriage, so try and talk things through, seek a marriage counsellor if you have to and if all else fails, tell your partner you are leaving before you do something you will regret later! Life wasn't meant to be easy and you have to constantly put the time and effort in to make a relationship work! I learnt the hard way.....
1043224
This happened to me with my husband of 21 years, a little over two years ago.  I thought I would die.  Amazing how God knows what is best for us.  Be thankful that someone else can take the bum off your hands.  I know it seems like the end of the world, but it isn't.  You deserve better.  Cheaters SUCK!  Get counseling, go have fun.  And remember, what goes around, comes around.  Move on!
1164480
super glued my ex's d i c k to his thigh when he was passed out\n(he cheated i found out big mess)\nsorry David \nlol \nthere i even apologized not that he will see it
531476
Well I went one stage further... \n\nI was messaging a girl i'd never seen before... It got to be like an addiction, and my gf would see the messages and get upset... I never met the girl, so nothing physical happened, but it was still a form of cheating... \n\nI ended up splitting up with her as I couldn't take hurting her any longer.. It was killing me inside, but couldn't stop it... We'd been together 2 years... \n\nNow 2 years has past... She's had another relationship in between, but now we are getting closer again... \n\nI have changed, as have looked long and hard at my life since my problem.... We are now very happy again... \n\nGive it time... Time heals... If you want it that badly, you'll wait... But depends how long you were together, and how deeply you feel...\n\nHope this helps.
205763
Depends on how "good" you are and how "alert" the people dealing with it are, but all in all it's wrong thing to do.  Sooner or later, you will get caught, and the consequences are not worth the cheating.
493983
#!----VERY IMPORTANT.  I know from experience.  If you suspect your guy is cheating, don't...I repeat, don't let him know you are suspcicious.  If you confront him, he will take his measures to hide the cheating to a higher level, and it will be more difficult for you to find the truth.  Cheaters get lazy after a while.  Solid clues will come to the top and you will be able to find out the longer you let him think all is well.  Take advantage of his laziness and carelessness.  It will happen.  Then, when you have solid evidence, throw it in his face and give him all the HE!! he deserves.  Don't commmit a crime though.
657439
Do you think that you'll ever be able to trust him again?  Is he changed?  Is he sorry that he cheated on you?
76446
The only way to know for sure is if he admits it or if you catch him in the act, but here are some helpful indicators...\n\n1. Your mate is more attentive to your needs than usual. This is due to the guilt feelings experienced by the cheater in the early stages of his or her affair. The attention will \ndiminish as the affair continues. \n2. Your mate begins buying you gifts -- lots of gifts. These are "Guilt Gifts" purchased because your partner feels guilty about betraying you and showering you with presents makes him or her feel better. \n3. Your mate's behavior is causing a gut feeling in you that something isn't right. If this happens, pay attention to your instincts. Ignoring them means you want to blind yourself to the truth. You know your mate's habits, routines and attitudes better than anybody, so be suspicious when these things change. \n4. Your mate frequently picks fights with you. Doing this gives him reason to get mad and storm out of the house and thus the opportunity to meet a lover. A cheater may also do this because of mixed emotions he is feeling about betraying you. \n5. Your mate constantly talks about your relationship ending when you fight or argue. She says things like, "What would you do if our relationship ended?" or "If anything ever happened to us, I would always love you like a friend." In general, she seems very negative about your relationship. Your mate makes these statements because she has a lover to fall back on if your relationship ends. If your partner repeats these kinds of statements often, be suspicious.
244799
like a fool i took mine back and we were married a week later, but i still find it hard to trust him. even tho hes the one who told me he was cheating. we have been married for 2 years now and together 6 and so far he hasnt done it again ( that im a ware of) if i had it to do over i would have left him.