I love my boyfriend but I still sort of like my ex and I don't wanna break up with my boyfrind for my ex HELP!
606920
it is partially what u want and partially who ur mother wants.but u cannot solely base ur opinion on ur mother's wants.i say that u shud be alone for as long as is required and think this through.what happened with me tho,is that i did this as well,i sat down in my room all alone for a while,but nothing came to me,i was still confused.but when i did realize what to do,i was in a taxi,and was not even realy thinking about it.it jus dawned on me what was best.hopefully u will discover soon as well,because u cannot simply think about ur family and freinds,u need to consider urself and the 2 guys involved.which one is better to you?which one is it u think of when u going through a tough time?or a happy time?who is it u think of before u go to bed or when u wake up?and aslo ask urself why u and ur ex broke up in the first place..because even if all ur answers indicate that he is supposedly the one for u,the reasons for ur break-up may be precisely the reasons why u shud not go back to him.
851575
It sounds like you answered your own question with the "I love my boyfriend very much and don't want me mess things up with him."  Think about whether you really like this other guy or are only lusting after him.  Also if it is just for convenience will it last?  Think about what you would be giving up with your current boyfriend and if you will gain anything other than less distance with the other guy.  Do what your heart tells you is best.  Hope you make the right choice.
626109
If you and your boyfriend we're truely happy you wouldn't be checking out other guys, there has to be some underlying relationship problems if you have fallen for another guy. Its only fair that you are honest with both guys, and more importantly yourself. You need to do what's best for you, if your unhappy with your boyfriend you need to get out of the relationship. Even if your feeling for the other guy pass (and that's highly unlikely that you will suddenly not like him anymore) there will be other guys after that. Reevaluate your current beau.
234034
It is easy for you to feel that way about him because you like her and him.  It is something you want to be part of.  You should DISTANCE YOURSELF from the situation and find someone ELSE to spend some time with.  If either one of them asks just tell them that you are glad that they have "found themselves a relationship" with each other and that that is what you are looking for when you are not with them. Tell them to not be offended that you want to find happiness like they have for yourself. What is going to be difficult is dealing with them when they break up.  Hopefully they won't play tug of war.
748508
well I'm only 15 years old but i think i can relate to your situation.  When i was in seventh grade i found my first love.  I loved him so much and we ended up being together for 2 years and 6 in a half months.  i broke up with him because he cheated on me once.  Since then i have missed him soo much. I thought that i needed him in my life to be there for me and to make me happy.  \n\nBut, i finally found someone else and realized that the feelings i had for my EX is nothing close to the feelings that i have for my new boyfriend. \n\nmy point is that you may think that you love him and miss him but what your really missing and in love with is all the good times and the great memories that you too shared together.  \n\nYou dont miss Him!!\n\nYou will  find someone else who will feel the same way you do and you'll be happier.
643810
ask urself one question.. how would u feel if he did that to u? do u love him and want to be with him ?(current boyfriend) if u dont... end that relationhip before u try to start up another one...its not fair to anyone involved
505027
Ok, look....it seems to me like your ex is just playing around...I mean he knows you have a boyfriend, a good guy would respect that....and if he cared about you he wouldn't be doing this to you, I mean he's confusing you everytime he tries to kiss you and when he tells you he wants you to be friends with benefits? If he cared about you, he would just try to see you as a friend, and try to move on! If you don't love the guy you're with, then talk to him, I don't think it's fair to the other guy, if you think you're slowly falling in love with the other guy, and if he's a good guy, then stay with him....you and your ex broke up for a reason right? then why bother going back? if your relationship with him didn't last you think is gonna last the second time? You're just going to get hurt that way, and in the long run you'll realize that you lost an amazin guy, and trust me once you do something, you can't really go back, only if you're lucky! But if you think you'll never love your new boyfriend, then just be honest with him, and maybe tell him to give you some time or just tell him you want to be just friends! But trust me I think you should move on and forget about your ex! I hope that helped you, just follow your heart, if your heart tells you to go back with your ex then be honest to the other guy, but my advice would be not to cheat on him, I don't think anyone deserves that!
634426
i've had the exact same problem + since i kept breaking up with my bf, he finally got tired of me doint it + now he wants to go out with this other girl cuz he got over me in the time i took deciding whether to go out with him. you should decide what you are going to do or else that may happen to you. the thing that's hard is if you keep breaking up with him, then a part of you must be over him but if you keep wanting to go out with him then you must still like him, even if it is just a little bit. what you have to do is decide which feeling you agree with more, liking him, or not as much and then after you decide you have to put it into action and stick to it or else it will never work. my best advice is listen to your heart, for it is never wrong. :)\n\ngood luck
593760
you should stay with him ok. im dating my bff's ex boyfriend. i like him and he likes me just because he's your bff's ex dont mean you cant like him
268060
hi! listen dont go making any harsh decisions str8 away!!!!!\nu only fell differently about each other becuase uv both had time to grow and now that u have u want each other back. but you have to think of the baby and whats right for him, im not saying dont pursue the relationship but were u and ur partner gr8 before ur ex came bak in2 the picture??? if so...sleep on it. it may just be a case of the "what if's"...and ur still in lust with him! think about it and try to put some excitement back in to your love life with your b/f...go out on a date with him again.pretend as if ur both new to the relationship..see how u get on on ur date...have wild fantastic sex with him...go the whole nine yards! if u still think about ur ex...think about ur next move to make...to leave ur b/f or stay. it seems silly i know but most of the time its boredom that leads people to have affairs and stray..dont entertain the thought and you might not feel the same about ur ex!!!!~tasha~
254201
I think you should say that your relationship is not where you expected to go and give reasons why you don't want to be with him.  If he happens to let you go and break up, doesn't that leave you a way for you to get back together with your ex without seeming like that was the reason why you wanted to breakup?  Obviously there must be a reason why you'd much rather be with your ex than your current bf, just make sure you're not going to be getting yourself into a big mess and come out with no bf or friends at all.
402292
i think that you should just tell ur boyfriend how you feel. Tell him that although you like him so much u still have feelings for your ex that u need to deal with. the sooner you do this the less you will hurt him. There is no point of being with someone when ur thinking about another person.
25026
You should sit down with your boyfriend and make clear that you don't want to break up, if he really loves you he'll understand your position and will try to fight for that relationship.. But if he still wants out, beleive me girl, he doesn't love you the way you think.. Just think about it.. when someone is in love with another person, that someone will do anything to keep it together and will fight for his/her love...
656947
do u care a lot about the guy ur with like u do now with ex bf? cause if u don't just dump him and go out with ur ex bf and make him happy again. ur ex bf prob. had deep feelings about u and u ruined it for  him and now he is upset about it. so i'd think it over if i were u.\n\nShorty
181408
There should be some reason that you like both of them. Can you let me know what are the reason. For example, there could be a physical reason that you are weak to your ex or current bf. And also there should be a reason for your ex-bf to like you, reasons like sex or money or he isn't getting attention from other girls etc. Be aware of it. Thanks.
971157
The grass sure is always greener on the other side, isn't it?  You left boyfriend number 2 because you were thinking back to boyfriend number 1 and wanting to to back with him.  Now you are with him and you are thinking back to number 2 and wanting to be with him.  Do we see a pattern?  Don't judge him (number 2) by how he treated you when you broke up with him for another guy!  Even the best guy would be slightly peeved and act out a little.  Instead of constantly thinking about what guy you want to be with, think of who you want to be.  Maybe this misery is your heart's way of telling you that neither one is right for you.  If you really don't feel that's the case, then realize that you decided to be with number one for a number of reasons and remind yourself of those reasons.  Don't keep going back and forth, that gets really old for everyone involved really fast.  \n\nBasically, my advice is to get away from both of them.  It will be hard not to think of the good things and miss them both, but you can do it.  Make a list of the bad things about each one!  That should deter you!  \n\nGood luck!
93558
the truth is that  you might be getting fooled and he might also be for real. the truth is since u say he likes another i think you should let him stay as an ex. he might never have gotten over you and be somehow attached to u or might be possesive or he might just feel like he still has to finish up some things he could not whebn you are together. since u are the one who likes him u might get hurt if he does not reciprocate so i think , keep him as an ex.