Should you "Honour thy father and thy mother"?
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To honour someone is to respect them, to trust them, and love them as well as for them to show the same for you. When you honour thy father and mother, you are giving them the highest degree of love and respect because they showed you that same love and respect. However, when this criteria is not met or the trust or love is broken to this degree, they no longer are your father or mother, at this point they lost all rights to call you 'son' or 'daughter'.\n\nOnce your mother or father reach this level, then they are no longer your parent(s), rather they are 'wicked' people who are doing 'wicked' things, then do not deserve honouring. \n\nWhen others claim that it is 'gods' plan so keep honouring them and god will punish them are full of it.\n\nLets see, those that believe this statement, have you been through mercyless beatings to where you lose consiousness day after day after day, have you been sodomised by an adult when you were 5,6, or 10 over and over again by your parents? Do you condone parents that purposely and knowingly kill their childern and have no remorse? \n\nIf you say that after this, you say you still need to honour them, then you are just condoning it and telling people that you believe the 'wicked' are just, and if you still say keep honouring them, why then, call people who get and those that perform abortions 'wicked' and 'evil'?\n\nBy condoning abusive parents with saying you still need to honour them even after repeated abuse, you are just saying you believe in child abuse, and believe that the child should stand there and take it, possibly until his/her untimely death.\n\nBy condoning this, why can't you condone abortion, at least it didnt make it into the world of oppertunity, hurt and christians that believe in child abuse. :)
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Daisy, I'm sure your parents are proud of you, and rightfully so. The kind of pride that the Bible is against is a arrogant pride that leaves God out of the equation.
745265
Not evil at all...do it as a tribute to your father.
398997
It shows ALOT of respect if u talk to the parents (preferribly the dad).
528458
You don't. While it is admirable that you wish to honor your parents by doing their wishes, you need to lead your own life.  There no sence in getting into a relationship where you know you won't be happy.  It's time to break the cycle and make your own decisions.  I understand your parents would be disappointed and possibly disown you,and I mean no disrespect towards them, but,in my opinion your child's happiness should come first even if it means not marrying the person you feel they should.
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That is definately a tough one to deal with. Unfortunately the answers are not what we really want to hear. You see God set up the family system to work a certain way. You see all troughout the Bible that families come in many shapes and sizes and all of the children from both or from previous honored and obeyed their current father. \n  Now the good part!  The Word indicates that when two people are wed that they shall leave their father and mother and give themselves to each other.  They have essentially become a new family unit.  In that unit the husband is set up as the spiritual leader and the woman gains profound blessings. By that you are no longer under the authority of either of your parents.  Honoring them is still important as well as honoring each other. However, obeying every whim is not necessary. \nI do not know the situation you have but I can tell you putting God first, then your husband, and then family, will really help in a lot of things.  Father in Laws may be full of good advice and wisdom but we are not bound to use it any longer.  Listen to him. Honor him by living a life worthy to his son. But do not feel like you have to be what he wants you to be. Your family should be different than theirs.
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The Bible does say 'Honor your father and your mother.' It also says 'Obey your parents in the Lord - for this is right,' and even 'Obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.'\n\nHowever, it also says we must listen to God more than man. This does mean that if you are planning to disobey your parents (particularly if you are still under their roof), you must have a very good reason, preferably one straight from Scripture. And that means you need to know your Scripture, know exactly why you believe being with him is the right thing, why it would be wrong to discount him. And if you are still living under their roof, and you attend a church or other place of worship, you should probably consult with the pastor or other leader before you do anything.\n\nBut I absolutely agree that before you even do that, you need to get your parents' side of the story. And you need to listen without judging them in any way. Just to find out their opinion in detail. No arguments afterwards, just 'Thanks for sharing that with me.' If you don't do that, you will have a much bigger problem than whether to see this boy.\n\nDepending on your age, it may turn out that the problem has nothing to do with him at all, and plenty to do with a perception on your parents' part that you are not ready for a serious relationship. They may believe that you should not be 'serious' with someone until you are ready to be married.\n\nQuite frankly, if you aren't ready for a permanent relationship yet, I agree. You should stay just friends. Be faithful to each other, if that's how God is leading you, but keep it platonic and see what happens later when you are ready for something permanent.\n\nAnd yes, that something permanent does involve 'leaving father and mother.' But that does not mean 'leaving mother and father when it's convenient for me, and running to them and expecting them to provide for me when that's more convenient.' But once that moment comes, then, yeah, your husband absolutely does take priority over your parents.
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Filial Piety?  Respect for ones parents and their traditions???  Not sure if this is what your looking for, but it kinda ties in...
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Your parents must be proud!
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I don't know about "Better" but if they respect their Mother then there is a good chance they wil repect "You".
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I am convinced that all days are special days for honoring our mothers.  I find it ridiculous that some people tend to forget all about their mothers but still think that showing up with chocolates or a dinner invitation on Mothers day is a big thing.  \nI'll continue to honor my mom everyday, and I would urge you to do the same. (in case you are one of those...!)
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I agree with Raffalo. Specially if they were good parents. It`s important to be loved. Whatever happened with your real parents, the ones who took their place are kind people, I`m sure. If they didn`t tell you before, you must try to understand their reasons. Discuss this with them if you haven`t done it yet. We all make mistakes, so we must try to accept other people`s.
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your real mother should be seated first then step mom This is the standard.   you show respect for the birth mother first always.   dad walks you down alone then he sits with his current wife.
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"and for this purpose, a man must leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife." or something like that .....that's in the bible. you put your wife and children first as head of your household. doesn't mean that you ignore the rest of your family or don't give them same amount of respect, etc. you'll get the hang of it. just remember, you are leaving your parents behind and joining your life to another human being, she does have to take precedence. as far as what else changes after marriage, well , for some it's a big adjustment, but for others, it just works itself out. every relationship is so different. good luck!
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you're so right....  growing up my dest friends mom was as much a mom to me as my own -sometimes moreso.  i look at our Blessed Mother in somewhat the same manner.... I love Jesus with all my heart and thus, His Mother for giving Him to me.  sure He was God's Only Son - but  HE was also Mary's Son.  i've heard people say she wasn't necessary.... if she wasn't God wouldn't have chosen her.  if she wasn't Jesus wouldn't have loved her and stayed with her and listened to her.  some people say - Mary wasn't important - she was only a vessel....   tell that to all adoptive children.  tell that to those on death row and in prosion because of "trauma from not having a mother's love".....  \nBTW, i'm proudly named after Our Lady  :)\n\nGod BLess!\n\n\nPS - on the honour thy father and mother.... notice they don't complain about the usage of the word father - yet when calling a priest you hear - you shouldn't call anyone else father?!?!?
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Dude i couldnt agree with you more.  No offence but for their own good put them in a looney bin and do it fast.  Thisnk about all the things peopl will say about you and your family when they see them.  Is that in itself worth it?
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When you have been married for a long time you go through every kind of joy and hardship, that any relationship can endure.\n\nCalling each other "Mother and Father", is a comfortable way of showing respect for your loved one. And it is very important to teach your children and grandchildren that you have love and respect for each other.