why people   cheat  so  commonly   and than  try to   rejoin again over  relationship?Is it   Fair?
599619
My girlfiend of 7 years cheated on me recently. I trusted her. She has a night class on Tuesday and Thursday nights.\nShe ended up seeing the teacher more than just in class.\nI am NOT going to give her another chance to do it again.\nOnce a cheater, always a cheater.
1128447
I think that the reason that people cheat on each other is that they forget why they craved each other in the first place.  Lust is lost in bills, kids, stress, traffic.  Couples forget to say thanks, to hold hands, to appreciate that both have commited to the same end.  Turn off the tv and just chat about anything stupid you feel like, just no talking about bills, kids, stress, traffic..............................
1045097
honey, people don't change. once a cheater always a cheater, yourself included.  apparently there were problems with the relationship or you two wouldn't have been messing around on each other.  i know its probably not what you want to here, but you need to move on.
24224
They can if they want to. Unfortunately, if they do it once, they'll do it again. It shows a character flaw that they alone need to work out. The only way you can help him overcome his tendancy to stray is to let him know you'll not put up with it in your relationship. It's a deal-breaker of the first kind. Without trust, it's really hard having any kind of meaningful relationship. Not impossible, just difficult. It can be worked through, but both people have to want to work through it, with the cheating spouse working hard to restore trust in their relationship. <*)))><
403016
Honestly, I've been there. It's the worst feeling in the world to know you've been betrayed. If he's likely to do it again, (not everyone is) then don't stay with him. Sometimes these things can clear up. (I'm speaking from personal experience. I've been with my husband for almost 7 years. He cheated once almost 4 years ago and hasn't since. I've learned to trust him again. I wouldn't be the same without him.)
863255
Yes, but it takes time and a huge commitment on both sides to make it happen!\n\nIf the person who cheated is willing to rebuild the trust they destroyed and the one cheated on is willing to work on forgiveness, than it is possible.  Difficult, but possible!
1041573
once a cheater ...always a cheater...in rare cases ...after the cheater has lost it all..they try to change...and want you back...and all is good for a while...and just when you think how great things are and you let your guard down...they do it again.
1114359
It goes both ways and it's not just men. Women are just as guilty for doing the same thing. Why do they do it? Only the person who is doing the cheating knows the answer to that. Doesn't make it right but it's hard to answer that question.
642197
I have never cheated but have heard that the main reason a woman cheats is because she is not fully happy at home. Something is missing, which could be a lot of things...
116127
well if you are going to take him back then you have to get over it. otherwise let him go. i cheated with a guy and we got back toghether and he treated me bad because of it instead of like loveing me and us chillin because i was faithful to him for a while and well guess what i did it again and we are now broke up. but you are not wronge to give him another chance. people do change and though it is not an excuse yall were both going through some pretty bad stuff so i mean he could really be sorry. but if he does it again which he may not then leave him unless you want to give him another chance (there is no such thing as to many chances but when you get tired of soemthing you area tired of it) so i hope if he does keep cheating you will leave cause youdeserve better but its really up to you but this could work out for yall and i hope it does. good luck and God bless.
492300
if he cheated while unhappy and attempted to cheat while happy, this guy seems like a serial cheater. some guys are like that. no matter how happy they are in their relationship, they just need attention form other women. you deserve better than this guy.
556991
It depends. Some people make a one time mistake. Others make it a habit. I know two women that both cheated. The first one cheated on her husband and felt so bad she threw up the next morning. The second one cheated on her boyfriend with seven other men... at least a dozen times between them. Some people make single mistake and regret it forever. Others don't regret it and continue that behavior.
159786
Nope, I've never cheated. I think it's not the right thing to do. You should just break up instead of just cheating on them...
104551
I was cheated on by someone who I thought I was going to marry.  Trust me, there's no doubt.  You may deny it to yourself, but there's no doubt.  And given time, the other person will become more bold about it, so it will show more and more.  \nOn the other hand, this could be your inner self shouting this person is not right for me, and you're looking for a reason to get out.  If you've given it time and the other person's not becoming more brash about cheating, then maybe it is you and then it's time to just go.
43683
I would advise against this myself.  Cheating is cheating, and it would not be fair for your partner.\n\nI think you really need to consider what you need/want in a relationship.  If you really want this, talk to your partner about having an open (or semi-open) relationship.  Otherwise, you are not being fair to him.
650798
There is no excuse for cheating.  Move on.  There are plenty of people out there who will not cheat on you and make you vulnerable to the mental pain (not to mention the STDs).  If you stay with them, it shows them that they can get away with it again.
961377
Why would you want to get back together? She accused you of cheating...If its not true stand up for yourself and begone of the wench. Don't be used. That will only lead to women thinking they can get away with it and then they will continue to totally ruin perfectly good guys. Then when those guys finally find a wonderful chick who doesn't want to sqrew them over they won't be able to do all of this stuff you are talking about that she deserves and that will in turn make her find some schmuck on the side she can use to get what she wants. Its a perpetuation of everything thats wrong with relationships and it could totally be avoided if people just said, "I got stuff going on and I can't let you walk all over me right now. Call back when you have some modicum of respect for other people and them maybe we can talk."