my mom vs my boyfriend?
598211
bring your boyfriend to your home one time, and have your mom talk with him, I'm sure that your mom would let you go out with him if she has met him and thinks he is a nice guy. (of course let your mom know you're doing this, or she'll be even more furious)
623820
You have one mother. Men/women come and go and depending on the time in your life they maybe inappropriate anyway. Dont ever ditch you mother for one who may make you feel good for a few seconds. They might seem like the best thing since sliced bread but they are not worth it. If you are having conflict with your mother over a partner then there is possibly a very good reason - parents do not go through life "blindfolded", so give them some credit and remember who gave birth and/or raised you.
882039
NOOOO, don`t ever make him decide. If he chooses than it needs to be without YOUR help!\nI think his mother was way out of line with that comment. Try not to worry too much about it, it sounds like you have a great boyfriend there! If you want you can have a talk with her and tell her that you didn`t mean to "step on her toes", you are simply in love with her son and wanted to be with him on this important day.
968017
You didn't say how long you have been involved with him. His mom may think you two don't know each other very well, and doesn't want to see either of you get hurt. Be sure you tell mom that you are grateful to her for giving you a place to stay during the rough times, and you feel it is time for you to move out and get your life back on track. Tell her you are sorry that she doesn't agree with you guys moving in together, but that you guys care deeply for one another...maybe she just needs to hear it from you.
919000
Moms always like to have their rules followed. When you break them, they feel that you're not listening to her and you don't care.\nStaying up till 11:30 is not that bad! So what you should do is have a serious talk with her.  Tell her how important it is for her to trust you, and that you really want to obey her. Make it up to her by spending some time together as mother and daughter.  She will soon regain trust on you if you stay on track the next time your boyfriend calls you!\nGood luck!
1121502
Perhaps you could ask her indirectly. Carefully crafted words are the key here to achieving your desired goal.....having a boyfriend. Okay, step 1) find a time when you and your mother are relaxing, no phones, dinner is finished, house is clean. 2) Begin the conversation like this: "You know Mom, I am now ___ years old, and I was wondering if you would allow me to go to the movies with _____________. I know you have not had an opportunity to meet ________, but I can invite him by the house on _________. He is a really nice guy. Now, if you do not have a boyfriend, and no prospects, then I would suggest that you address your mother in this manner: Mom, I have really matured over the last year and I would like to respectfully request permission from you to go on a date occassionally with a carefully selected boy that I will bring home first for you to meet.  Don't be shy about it. Be assertive, without being pushy. Tell her what your heart desires, and do it in a kind, courteous, confident and mature manner. The way you approach this request to have a boyfriend is important. You have to let your mother know that you are ready for this big step in your young teenage life. \nNow, be honest in your evaluation of yourself here okay? Think! Really think here! And answer my question truthfully! Question: Have you been on your best behavior over the last year? Have you done everything that has been asked of you by your mother? Have you gotten into any serious trouble lately? Did you make good grades and behave appropriately in school? These questions are important, because if you have been cutting up and acting like a trifling little hoochie mama, it is highly likely that your mother will say no. But if you have been a perfect angel, and behaved appropriately over the last year, then I dont see any reason that your mother will not agree to your terms. Also, let her know that any boy you meet, you will bring them home to meet her, and your curfew is 9p.m. weeknights and 10:30 on weekends. Or, if your curfew is later than this, use your current curfew. Well, I hope this helps. Best wishes to you. And have fun.
1149933
You can't get your dad and his mom to forget their differences.  Some things are out of your control, including how other people act.  OK, that's not totally true, but you've probably done what you can do already by this time.\n\nIf your relationship worth it even if you have to accept how your dad reacts and everything else?\n\nMaybe you need to put this on the backburner too - not make any decisions yet, but be a little lighter about it and let your boyfriend come to you more.  You might find that changes the dynamics a little and shifts the power you have in your relationship and in your life as a whole.  If the relationship has it's own strength it can withstand some time of uncertainty (just don't do anything stupid - be patient and trust that if it is meant to happen, it will).  Do some things that are fun for you and help you remember your own strengths and how you care for yourself.\n\nAre there other problems between you and your boyfriend that aren't about your parents?  Sometimes factors like parents can be a big distraction that lets you avoid being fully honest with each other.
263908
First of all it is selfish grammer to say me and my, you say my boyfriend and I, don't talk about yourself first. Second if you don't know how to communicate with her, you do not come off as ready to leave the nest.  Why not have the boy get his own place and visit him there often but keep your home base.  Keep the best of two worlds, after all you have never lived with a man before, you have not lived on your own.  If I were you I would test this guy and see if he is man enough to stand on his own.  You should crave to have your own little place someday, a dorm room or even just a room for rent.  Your freedom time may be short and sweet but don't miss out on this interval between mom's place and your first and side step your independence.  You will look back one day and regret not taking time for yourself.  Enjoy being independent of him, enjoy being his guest, help him with his place but keep filling your own hope chest.  I am financially independent, I have so many houses I don't know what to do.  I could not marry without a prenup.  You have so much ahead, don't piss mom off at all.  Take it to heart.  She is your number one.  Ask her what you should do instead of being a little tyrant and telling her what your going to do.  Unless of course your of age that is, 18 and you don't have anything better to do with your life.  But now you can save money staying with mom.  Stay free.
1155278
I'm about your boyfriend's age, and I lost my mother last year.  If my experience has any relevance here, I felt somewhat sad on Mother's Day.  But more than that, I felt *strange*.  I would always call my mother, send her a card or gift, and so forth, and of course I couldn't do that.  I felt left out of all the Mother's Day talk.  After all these years, I was an outsider.\n\nOne thing you don't mention is whether your boyfriend has any chlldren of his own.  If he does, and if they make a fuss over him because he is their dad, that should help quite a bit.\n\nYou are a kind and supportive girlfriend to be thinking of your boyfriend's dad this weekend.  I think he is lucky to have you.
548276
If you care for your girlfriend at all, which I'm assuming you do seeing as how you're in a relationship with her, then ignore her mother. Do NOTHING! Cheating is bad enough, but cheating with a girl's mother will scar her and force her into therapy for the rest of her life. Besides, haven't you ever heard the saying "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"? You'll be lucky to get out with your penis intact if you did anything with your girlfriend's mom and she found out. No joke.
268805
In a wierd way yes cuz your dating him, but at the same time no cuz you gotta respect his mother just like he does to yours. Find out y she yelled @ you.
608639
Time is the only thing which will provide answers for you. Perhaps your mother does not deserve your trust, repect and honour, and if that is true, I am sorry. Your mom is supposed to be the one to provide guidance to you, but for some reason you aren't listening to her. If your bf does not have legal status in the USA, you don't want to endanger him, so moving in with him would make him vulnerable. I suggest you stay with your mom for the present time, and take the time to figure out how to make things work. Maybe you can help you bf get legal status without marrying him. It is very difficult to obtain status through marriage now. Good luck in your future......just give it a little more time.
835072
I can see your confusion and your concern but the only thing you can do is wait it out and be there for her. You cannot control your mother any more than you can control the weather. She may be so eager to find love again and get involved with a man that at the first chance she jumps all over it and becomes obsessed. You are awesome for being such a caring son but your mom has to see it on her own. If she is this far gone in love with this guy then she won't see things your way no matter what you say and if you say anything to her she may even get angry with you. Good Luck and I hope this helps!!
214462
From what you have written it is possible your boyfriend's mother has to contend with feeling guilty about the way she treated her husband before he died.  Grief is difficult enough to survive without the realization there are some things you will never be able to take back.  Or words you should have said, but never did.  I'm sure she is angry with her husband for leaving her, bit mostly her anger could be toward her own self.  I'm sure she suffers from depression.  If your boyfriend could talk to her and try to get her to see a therapist it would help a great deal.  But regardless, your boyfriend needs to be there for his mother even if she is at first hostile and show her his love.  Love is the strongest power a family has even when it doesn't seem to be acknowledged.  It may take repeated attempts, but in the long run his mother will respond.
844917
Doctor, she worked hard for that title and would appreciate it if people used it.  You could also ask you boyfriend how his mother prefers to be addressed and go with that.  Better to use Dr. and have her correct you than use Mrs. and have her be offended.
779892
You both sound very much in love. How about asking him to move and buying/renting his mom a place close by, that way you'll be in your comfort zone and able to deal with her from a distance; and enable him to move? I think you're going to have to accept the fact that he'll never want his mom out of his life...as annoying as it is; the package comes with it.
306551
I would talk straight up to your mom and your boyfriend and if nothing comes out then all three of you sit down and discuss the situation because that is kinda strange. look your boyfirend straight in the eye and ask him.