I "lent" a lot of money to a Friend.  I think hes  into some thing bad. Was I wrong to help?
594698
Yes and no.  If you want to be a good friend you should find out what is going on and find a way to help him.
982632
If I were you I would delve a little deeper into the money withdrawal thing. Could be he got all confrontational to throw you off the scent. Find out if that's the case then if you want to forgive him be prayerful and patient and God will help you forgive him. But remember this... Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.
238451
Just play it cool. And the next time he ask you for any money, and he will. Tell him, I can't see anyway that I can possibly help you out. As there is still the issue of you owing me $700. Now when you see your way to paying me back, I'll consider another loan. And leave it at that.
47854
They're putting up a front hon. To be mild mannered and courteous is seen as almost effeminite (sp?) in this day and age.\n\nSounds as if you have a particular grievance... maybe if you clarified this most recent thing that's bothering you, you might get some constructive help from the male answerers.\n\nGood Luck, take a deep breath and realize it probably has nothing to do with you personally.\n\n1.20.06 2:30EST Hon, I'm sorry. That bites. I still say it has nothing to do with you or your personality. There's nothing wrong with being generous and wanting to help others.\nThe problem is very obviously him. Why he'd think it was okay to ask you for the money, I can't imagine and it's none or our business. \nThe old adage goes, "Loan money to friends when you can afford never to see it again." But then there's also the idea that if you give all you can, you'll be given back twice or thrice as much.\nIt's never pathetic to lend a hand, even if it winds being that you tried to help a jerk. Maybe the fact is he just has more growing up to do. He may be mad now, but I'm sure even this "jerk" will remember that you TRIED, and in hindsight will realize you were a great friend and one he should have made efforts to keep.\nKnow that you did the kind thing, and in the end that makes it the right thing. Have peace within your self, let the poison of this incident wash away.\n\nBe well, J
865310
My advice, be wary.  You could just be his 'off chick'.  Don't invest too much, he doesn't sound too serious.
412195
well, if Frud is your roommate, then I'd say you should stop doing him.\n\nIf you meant Fraud, then you should be in jail until you're reformed and your debt to society is repaid.  You basically tried to steal from someone and got caught.  You don't think that doing that was wrong?
528280
Aaahhh!The majority of money matters between friends is based on supposition. I suppose my friend won't mind if I can't pay when I said I would. Or, I suppose my friend will realize that I need the money back immediately and pay me back in a timely manner. Here's a good one: I suppose my friend will realize all the favors I've done and won't expect repayment. I suppose I've answered your question.
548912
You are not a charity, so no one can give you a donation. Just working hard and being in debt is not going to get you a lot of sympathy. Money management is something that should be taught in school. That will help you more than a donation.
1128115
i would appologize for being selfish and not helping people that needed it because "I'm too busy" or "I need this money just as bad"... that's really started to bother me lately.
728999
You can maybe have a friend agree to call you to make sure you do what you've committed to. And if you don't then you have to pay that friend for everytime you back out. I know this sounds a bit silly but it just may work. Kinda like a curse jar. (you know, people who have a problem with cursing have to put money in a jar everytime they do it) except, agree to pay your friend a fixed amount if you don't committ to a particular goal.  You'll probably end up sticking to those goals if the thought of losing your money annoys you enough.
1102805
Hell No,\n\nYou know what you can honestly do...?  Next time you feel sorry for them go around the corner to the Nearest McDonalds and get them some food (or where ever).  \nI think that would be a better sentiment to them and yourself.  Also they are likely to use money to support a bad habit, so by giving them money you are enabling them.\n\nYou sound like a good hearted person, but you are contributing to them being helpless if you aid them with money.
947986
Do you have any documentation of the loan?  Was there an agreed timetable for repayment?  If you have a promisory note or an IOU, then you can try to put a lean on his houses and cars.\n\nHowever that will definitely kill the friendship. If you value your friendship, just explain that you really need the money and if he could just pay a portion of it each month ($500 minimum and $1000 maximum/ per month)  then you will be happy.  If your friend begins to slack off, gently remind him that you did him a huge favor and he should pay you back.  Be understanding if there is an emergency that disrupts the payment schedule.
951207
Hey, brother, can you spare a dime?\n\nThis sounds like a good idea but if I were to do this I'd tend to think of it more as a grant and not expect a repayment.  At the very least you can make a friend and what's wrong with that?
503916
Just let him go.  It's one thing to take money for something important, but to not even say anything about it until you notice it's missing is a sure fire sign that he never intended to pay you back, or even tell you about it for that matter.  Get out while you got the chance.
1064238
Helped someone much less fortunate than myself. You should do this every day. The world would be a much better place and it would cost you nothing but your time. Of course, for it to be meaningful you should not tell anyone else of your efforts. If you advertise your generosity you are doing it for yourself, not the other person.
482214
If you are going to charge bank rate, why doesn't your friend just go to a bank? I thought that was the point of borrowing from friends- no interest! Set up rules before lending the money and make sure you are both aware of these rules. Give them a break! They wouldn't ask YOU if they could go to the bank.
210132
Yes, Once I "borrowed" what I thought was $400 from my dad. I left the state intending on getting an apartment with money I had saved and the extra I took. When I went to count the money there was WAY more than when I had counted it the night before. I felt very guilty and didn't talk to him for 2 weeks. Then my car broke down and I knew I wouldn't be able to both fix my car and pay him back in the time I was hoping... so I called him and honestly explained everything. Yes he was very very mad. But I did eventually pay him back everything.