I have forgiven my wife for hurting me, what is a gift I can give her to symbolize my forgiveness?
608924
5 fingers across the face ...
1046968
Yeah you should defintaly send her some flowers and a card that says I"m really sorry.  You know make her feel like shes the only person in the world that matters to you!
252659
Be a true giver.  Do not place restriction/s on your gift.  I suggest you buy her a $600.00 piece of gold, like a thick necklace and leave it in the box in which it came and no gift wrap with the receipt inside the stapled store bag.  That is a gift which will be well received and you will have the real satisfaction of having truly given and if she is not fully satisfied with it then she may exchange it for purchasing another or whatever it is that she wants more.  That will please her more than words can say and you will have the satisfaction of having given a real gift without limits placed upon it.  A meaningful hug and kiss/es will add a thing to it.  Have a nice day.
7865
First......I think you just did say you were sorry to her for being a boneheaded idiot. The first step is finally realizing what she was trying ot say to you. I have a feeling you realized this......just a tad late. The key is now letting your wife know that you understand. I have a feeling that she felt you spent more time on your bike than with her. Perhaps you were truly caring for this bike......pampering it.......polishing it........tinkering with it..........all while she had to look on. Now that you realize that the bike was dispensable.....make sure you show her that she is not. Care for her.....pamper her......tinker with her.......polish up the marriage. Flowers do nothing.....trust me. Actions......mean everything. Spend time being "present." Stalk her in the most fun loving ways you can imagine. Let her see that you can't stop thinking of her........that you need her........and nothing else will ever come between you two again. (she so needs to know this!)\n\nI so hope you are ok after the accident. I have a feeling that was another issue. She loves you so much and couldn't stand to stand back and wait for you to get hurt. Assure her you won't put yourself in any danger at the risk of losing her. (ok was that too mushy? That might have been too mushy.....aahhh but try it anyway.....what'll it hurt. *wink*) \n\nGood luck......I'll be rooting for ya!!
905937
either shes just evil...and to that i say GOOD RIDDANCE\n\nor...\nshe still loves you and she wants you to hurt as bad as she does...misery loves company...be unavailable\n\nhey, if you wanted to have some fun, you could send that man a thank you card
228085
she should have noticed the wedding ring, if you are wearing it. hint at her how much you love your wife and that you feel its wrong to cheat on your mate.
833665
It takes a bigger person to forgive than to be mad. Express your feelings to her and forgive her it sounds like she cares or she would have not told you at all.
69336
don't go by that. (the paper thing that is) The best gifts I've gotten from my husband are from his heart, something he takes the time to prepare himself, that is unique. Buy her a single rose, go with yellow because everyone gets red or pink, and write her a poem or letter telling you why you love her and what she means to you, actually write it yourself, don't do it on the pc!, then cook her her favorite meal. Give her the rose and your letter or poem at dinner. That will mean more to her than any store bought item, I guarantee it! Good luck, and happy anniversary!
137246
No matter what happened to cause this, it's up to you to get in touch with her and fix the problem.  You have to be willing to forgive and go forward.  You start out by letting her know that you love her and that are willing to have an open mind about whatever choices she had made in her life and go from there.  Now if she's not willing to talk right then and there, let her know that she can always call you no matter what.  One other thing, never pass judgment on her.  Give advice, but let her know that it's her choice.
1170887
It depends how much she hurt you and with what.\nI do believe we can be forgiving and forget but some people think we should   be like them and forget in a second all their agravations.  Some times sorry erases nothing because they do it again.     If she is that way when she gets mad continuously, she will hardly change; or change for a short while but then go back to the same old habbit.\n\nGive time apart to heal and then decide weather or not she is worth of continuing a friendship; forgiving is good for you; not just for her but for you speacially.\n\nIt all is your personal choice but I know by experience that abusive people really do not change that and if they think we can easily forget offenses then they are cruel.
313857
You did not have to give her the gift in the first place.  But you are too good a guy.  You genuinely love her.  However, dont wait for her to come back unless she is unattached right now.  I dont think that a gift (no matter how expensive) should be the criterion for a person to love and respect somebody (especially when this somebody loves her dearly and she chooses to dump him).  In fact, if she is genuine but does not love you anymore, she should return the gift politely.
830921
Just talk to her and tell her what is in your heart.  Words would heal more than presents and mean a lot more.
903813
These ideas are some from gifts my husband has given me, or I have heard of from other women, or things that I want :)  So maybe they will help you imagine what would work for you!  :)  This is kinda fun!! lol\nA ticket for a weekend for two at a romantic Bed and Breakfast\nA check for her to use for her - only her - for personal things and clothes.\nI would love very very nice pajamas with a matching robe (but if she is a mother with young kids she probably would want something more practical)\njewelry - the best, of course, or the best that you can afford.\na jewelry cabinet - they are the big ones that are like mini dressers - the run from 99. to over 400.  It holds alot of jewelry!\nA special piece of furniture - an antique rocker, antique hope chest - I would personally love it if he bought something from an antique store but she might prefer new things.\nwhatever her hobby might be - give her somethign that is really cool in her realm of hobbies - like very nice easel for painting, or new oil paints and expensive sable brushes, or waterpaints, or a gift certificate for her favorite hobby store.....  this would work for me but not all women and you would know if it would work for your wife!  \nplane tickets to a warm beautiful place for a vacation for the two of you for sometime in January!  wow -THAT would be cool!\nI know that I buy myself stuff through out the year but when Christmas comes - I want something I wouldn't normally buy myself, something seen as extravagant, something that makes me feel like I am really special to the person that bought it for me.  \nA special gift from an antique store just melts my heart.  That means that it is more than likely one of a kind and really specially chosen for me.   But if she doesn't have those same feelings then she might think it's junk and that you were cheap! yikes!\nAnother thing is if she has shown any interest - you could call your local university and see if the adult ed classes are having dancing lessons and you could sign you and her up for a few weeks of dancing classes.  The classes all over the U.S. are filling up with people who have never danced before who want to learn.  My husband and I went last summer and while we probably flunked the classes, we laughed the whole time we were in the class and had a great time!  It was a lot of fun!\nYou can also ask a female relative or one of your wife's best friends what she might be wanting and what they think.  Not knowing your wife makes it hard for me to answer, but on the other hand I am telling you things that might be new and different, too.  :)\nVery best of luck to you and your wife is really lucky to have a thoughtful (and early!) husband!!
510573
Give her something from the past, maybe a picture or something. Along with a nice card and get her drunk off her ash.
1046734
Tell the people that you may have hurt that you are truly sorry, make restitution if you can, ask the Lord for forgiveness. If that doesn't work talk to your preacher/minister about it.
471592
It's all about love and forgiveness. If you love her and if you can forgive her (and let me say contracting that illness is punishment, you don't need to hold it over her head, she'll have a constant reminder of her affair now) If you can forgive her then stay with her help her through this. As the disease progresses it will sap her strength, her spirit, she will lose who she is after a while to this illness. If you feel that you cannot forgive her then you need to discuss that with her as well, maybe not leave her yet, but at least talk things out with your wife let her know how you feel. I imagine your torn right now or else you wouldn't be posting on this website, asking for others advise. Nothing anyone can say will be the right answer, all you can do is listen to your heart and do what you feel is right. Don't let the anger of her affiar conflict with the thought in your mind. Also, take into consideration her feelings if she has remorse good if not and she really doesn't care then it might be best for you to continue on without her. If you really feel you need outside advise, discuss this with a trained councelor or therepist. someone outside of the relationship who can shed a different light on the situation and maybe help you see things in a way you didn't before. Good Luck, Budda bless you, and Take Care.
1101058
Your friend has hurt you, back stabbed you.\n\nAnd you are hurt and angry, after all she did the wrong thing.\n\nI am sure all the negative feelings are making you unhappy?  How long do you want to feel unhappy?\n\nYou don't need to accept your friend back but you do need to forgive  her, even if you never speak with her again.\n\nIts good for your mind and feelings.\n\nIf you have not done so already reads the Lords prayer from the Bible.  Among other things is says "forgive us our sins as we forgive others".  None of us are perfect and all of us need some forgiveness.\n\nregards\n\nPeter