i find one of my friends really irritating at times, how do i tell her or take time off away from her?
598757
tuff.... well unless you can go on about a 2 wk vacation to relax not sure what you can do besides slowly distance yourself from both friends... slowly but surely take urself out of the circle... she must think your special if she wants to hang out with you all the time... if you hurt this friend you might just loose your best friend.. so either choose to accept them both, or distance urself from both... sounds like your only options to me... or you could i guess change jobs !!!!! God bless
503751
I think that you should question ur friendship with her. You could ask her Y she is so mean to you and if she asks like she does not care then just gradually dont speak to her. I think u should talk to her and tell her what she is doing that is so mean.
534602
I would ask her why her friends do that and have a talk about it. i think she may be jealous of you and this is her way of dealing with it! and if she gets worse after you talk to her then she does deserve you as a friend.
424688
Well this is going to sound really cliche, but if they are hurting your feelings then they probably aren't true friends.  But I bet you they don't have many other friends either, and they don't want to lose you as a friend.  \n\nIt's hard to know exactly what to say without knowing specifically what the problem is, but you might try saying "could you please stop" then explain why what they are doing is making you upset.  Here comes another cliche: if they don't stop hurting your feelings then you need to find new friends.
1069446
To be open and give her your advise is better way.\nYou can make her understand that she made other people upset with her attitude this long. and what has she done can put her in trouble someday and maybe will make her friends stay back from her soon or latter.\nTry to open her mind about this, choose a sweet way and polite words to avoid irritating her. \n\nIf you do this way, means that you have change your friendship...to a better and quality one!!! coz this whats friends are for....\nGood Luck.
944555
maybe have a get together with all the friends.. maybe all of you could , at same time, try one more time to explain to her just how you all feel about it... then back off and leave her alone.. she is an adult, and as such should be treated with respect.. it is her choice, her life and she has final say as to how to live it... be supportive no matter what she decides to do.. a true friend, speaks up, and then backs off and then supports..... God bless
696162
be straight forward, honest, and tell her straight away, yet round about as well\n\nlook, i think your nice and have a nice (insert vocabulary, or sense of humor, or something of the like) but (insert annoying part) is annoying as hell, and i would appreciate it if you would cut it out/stop it
1001338
Begin distancing yourself from her...She's obviously not your best friend if all of this is going on.
558409
She is not your friend if she keeps on getting mad at you for no reason at all. You should talk to her about that. Misery loves company and this is not something you should even have to put up with. Find new friends and don't sweat the small stuff.
882005
Did it occur to you that your friend may have her own things going on and her own problems to deal with? She may want to be there for you, but have to deal with her own stuff too.\nIf you ask me she does care about you a great deal and it hurts her to see you hurting so much and that is why she is telling you that you need time apart.
810436
if she makes you uncomfortable let her know. if you've done that and it still happens, maybe its time to walk away from the friendship. if she doesn't respect you enough to respect the fact that you aren't interested its prolly not worth saving in the first place.
1160927
Ignore her.  Don't hang out with her.\n\nIf you can't do that, just be nice to her and pretend that whatever she does doesn't bother you.  She is probably one of those people who likes the reactions she gets from you.  If you stop giving those reactions, then maybe she will stop doing whatever it is that bothers you.
1094510
I'm afraid the only way you are going to stop this is to just be brutally blunt with her. It sounds cruel, but people like her usually don't the get the message if you beat around the bush.  She obviously wants ALL your attention. She throws a tantrum when you say something to her to put a guilt trip on you. She obviously lost a lot of friends because she acts this way. She is suffocating and I give you credit for dealing with it, but I see you are at a breaking point and before this goes further, put a complete stop to it. \n\nI would air out all of your feelings to her emphasizing that you can no longer tolerate her behavior. Tell her unless she backs off and gives you some space you want nothing to do with her at all. She will be upset of course, throw her tantrum, but eventually she will get over it. It might prompt her to take a look at herself, the way  she acts and why she can't make friends and she might even thank you one day.\n\nI do emphasize be brutally blunt, if you aren't this problem will persist.
1135539
Yes, she's blowing you off.  Try to make her jealous by making a new friend, and maybe she will want to spend more time with you. She doesn't sound like a very good friend.
922538
Just ignore her even if its hard i woudent want to tell her to go away that is just mean just ignore her and she might go away
482524
I think that with anyone that you spend lots of time with, you are bound to get annoyed at times with your best friend. it just means that it's time to give each other a little space and maybe not hang out every day. Even if it's just a weekend off. But if it's more intense than that, maybe you should discuss it with them and see if they are feeling the same way.
142540
Tell your friend that it looks like she wants to go a different way in her friendships and that you don't have much choice but to watch her go.  Let her know you're there for her if she needs a friend but not to bring any hate or meanness to the table when she does, to leave it with the hater she's wanting to hang with now.  It's tough to watch a pal go off in a direction you think is hurtful, KNOW is hurtful.  Part of growing is discovering what you're really about though and there's something in this new friendship that she's trying to find in herself.  There may also be an emerging masochistic nature to your friend that she's not shared with you before and this new friendship may be REALLY appealing in a way you can't relate to.  My guess is that if you give her space, she'll remember who she is and what she's about and reconnect with you.  If not then you need to understand that there are an awful lot of people out there who don't have the courage of their own convictions and are wildly uncomfortable with who they are.  You sound totally grounded but I get the sense that your friend isn't.