Virgin going to college... Do all college guys want sex...not waiting for marriage just waiting 4 right guy?
610644
I wouldn't say all, but yes alot of college guys are after it. It's natural. Some guys actually had the strength to wait. You'll probably meet a few nice guys, but here's something you need to look out for:\n\nGuys can be very manipulative. You will think a guy is being just sooo great to you and that he deserves it, but the moment you give it up, sex is all he cares about. You need to test a guy's virtues by telling him that you won't have sex with him if he's not the absolute right guy, and even then it won't be till 6 months later. You can have sex with him any time before that, but if he is willing to wait that long, you'll know is virtuous. Just don't let one of them manipulate you. They're very good at it.
111497
It depends on who the girl is that is the potential partner.  Some girls who are holding out for marriage may want a guy who's a virgin himself to know that he doesn't take sex lightly, and some who are holding out will be lenient and understand that "mistakes" do happen, so sleeping with one or two girls before ending up with her was condonable, especially if they weren't one night stands and were actually relationships.\n\nSome girls who are "easy" or enjoy messing around themselves might be much more lenient and not worry, but lets' just say that from my experience, a red flag goes up if you start counting toes, and especially if you have to switch back from toes to fingers to get to the rest of your "score card."\n\nMy husband was with his two high school girlfriends and had two one night stands with girls he'd known for a while.  No he didn't talk to them anymore, but c'mon...it's hard to NOT do the nasty in high school.  It's like your whole life is going to change and you never know when that person is goign to see if you again if you're going to college.  Furthermore, because you share so many important events those last few years of high school, it's hard to not think of that person as your entire world.  \n\nJust be careful with who you're with, and only sleep with asfew as possible.  Make sure after sleeping with the girls, you can sleep alone by yourself at night, peacefully, knowing that you're a good person inside who's still a great potential partner.
685397
Don't ever let any guy pressure you into having sex. You will know when the time is right. And if some guy really cares about you he will respect that.
344661
Well, hopefully, he is just now learning his way around all of the issues and, probably, isn't really sure WHAT he's looking for at this point, except that he would VERY MUCH like to lose his virginity, and you have to watch out for THAT all the time.  Just be gentle and understanding and careful with him.  Don't let him take you farther than YOU want to go.
508460
it depends on what your reason for being a virgin is.  if you are saving it for the ONE then keep him at arms length until you think he is the ONE.  if virginity doesnt matter to you then I'd evaluate if he's really the kind of guy youd want to lost it to, keep in mind its an emotional experience and lots of guys can be dicks.  i personally waited for my husband and its the best decision i ever made. and dont forget to make him wear a condom, you dont want to get cooties your first time!
203078
stay strong.   If he really loves you and just doesn't want another notch on his belt, he will honor your desire to keep your virginity until marriage.   What you can do to help is go out with other couples; do really active things together and change the subject.  You did not say how old you were nor how old he is.   But your desire to save your virginity until you are with the man you marry is really mature.   Is he ready for a life time committment for you?  If he is, get married and have sex forty times a day (ha, ha)  If he is not, then his pressing you for sex all the time shows he is more into getting something for himself than into caring what you are about. Kinda selfish, no?
742844
I am all for abstinence.\n\n\nThis is how I feel about it ...\n\nYou should stay a virgin till you're married.\nGod intended it to be that way.\nBut many, MANY people abuse that.\nAnd God looks down on those people.\n\nYou don't just give your virginity to just anybody.\nIt is the best present you can give your future husband.\nIt is you... it is all of you.\n\nIf you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.\nYou'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.\nIt won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.\n\nSex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.\nIt takes two very mature people.\nYou do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.\nMost people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.\n\nI am a virgin myself. I have a boyfriend of more than 9 months that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
556380
Listen to yourself on this one.  You know what will make you happy.  And you should not be doing those things until you can handle the full weight of responsibility they can bring.  Be yourself and hope that you can be OK with the out come.    If you asking the question you are not ready to loose your virginity, just a little hit.
869976
You're on the right path. Hold on to your virginity and be honest about this. Most of them are jerks, but this will weed them out and you'll eventually be likely to come across a decent man.
1086534
This guy sounds like a jerk and yes he will use you and then dump you. If he does not love you enough to respect your wishes you need to get rid of him. I'm very proud to see someone who waits til they are married to have sex. You Go Girl!! I know it must be hard because you love him but you will find someone who respects you and your values. Don't let this man pressure you into something you don't want to do.
1004036
No your not dumb. It takes a woman to stand up to her friends and say YES I'M A VIRGIN and DAMN PROUD OF IT TOO.. It also takes a MAN TO RESPECT YOUR DECISION. I applaud the 2 of you for your decision. Just ignore what your friends are saying to you because they don't need to know if you had sex or not. If you promised your dad and yourself why break that promise now. I was 24 when I lost my virginity, not because I made any promises or had a religious beliefs and just never found that right guy. And besides most of the time many would say that they wish they would have never lost there virginity and still would keep it that way. Good Luck!
131757
I think it's wonderful your staying a virgin thats the way it's suposed to be..your suposed to save it for when you married thats the most wonderful gift you can give your husband...if this man doesn't respect your decision then you need to find someone who will..it's hard in todays world to find someone to respect that but you will and when you do you'll know he truley loves you if he will wait for you..good luck
430125
Most guys want sex and only sex. I've met one of these. Don't worry, I have several male friends, and female friends who varify, that there ARE guys out there who care about you being satisfied. Some of them make sure you are before they are themselves. It may take some...a lot...of looking around, but they are out there.
1068197
I learned that not only is everyone in college looking for sex, most will have it with YOU.  All you have to do is ask (and buy drinks!).
128749
No.You wont be alone forever girl your doing the right thing.If I would have listened to my parents when I was your age I would have not had sex before marraige.God says "wait" for a reason.He knows that the men out here will not allways help you if you get pregnant,but when you married most likly you have a soul-mate forever.Belive me you doing it right.I'm soo proud to hear that sombody out there still has morals an still obeys God word.He will bless you with the man of your dreams,trust me.all you have to do is be patient and the right man will come to you.It is worth waiting for and not rushing.-E.
421555
It is only obvious to be curious at your age.  It is funny I had the same questions and by being too embarrased to ask a grown up and the false information I got from my peers allowed me to explore  for my self.  However, the 1st time I had sex I was 17 my senior year in highschool. It was with my highschool sweet heart.  We had been together since 9th grade and he was already sexually active and constantly tried to convince me to have sex with him,  I wanted to wait til I got married but he would say it doesn't matter because we were going to get married anyways, he also advised me if I got pregnant it wouldn't matter because he was going pro in football so he would be able to take care of us.  However, he did go off to college on a football scholarship, got injured in college, never went pro, works a mediocre job, has 4 kids by 4 baby momma's and we broke up his first semester in college (honestly).   \nSweetheart you are 14 years old try to put your curiosity into something else more positive (education), trust me boys will be around and sex isn't going anywhere. When you are ready and the time is right you will know it there won't be any question about it and make him wait that will show if he really cares.\n\nTo answer your question honestly, sex is definately worth waiting for, the first time you have sex it will hurt. It will hurt probably the first few times and you will be extremely sore and probably never want to do it again. Basically it is like someone is hammering something large into a tiny hole (your vagina) the walls around the vagina will be inflamed and extremely sore.  (Imagine the felling) However, the boy will not experience the pain you are feeling and will probably try to continue ignoring your pain. If you do decide please make sure this is with someone you trust and cares about you. You will probably feel uncomfortable being naked especially at your age (i was) Initially it is not the most fun thing to do and nothing about the first time you have sex is fun or beautiful (even after you get married).  However, waiting for sex is definately worth waiting for and rewarding  because it is the most intimate relationship you can have with someone.  A man will truly admire the fact this his wife is a virgin and the only person they have been with is them.  I was glad I waited until I was older (17), but if I could have waited longer I would have.   REmember your body is a temple and don't let anyone enter it unless you know they cherish it and cherish you as well.  I hope this helps you make the right decision.
585766
I think sex is something very personal and means something different to everyone. I do think that the first time you have sex it should be with someone you care about and mean something because if nothing else, it is (for the girl) painful and for the guy kind of embarassing if it doesn't work properly and I would think that someone who loves you and cares for and respects you would make the experience a lot more pleasurable and a lot more meaningful. That being said, waiting till marriage is an unreasonable message to send your brother. If he wants to do that, it's his call, but I wouldn't put that on him. It's his decision, and he needs to be comfortable with that. They say the only expectations worth living up to are your own, so don't put expectations on him. But sex is fun, I'm sure you know, and it's something that is inbuilt in us, a desire for sexual pleasure and a desire for intimacy. But don't teach him that the two are inseparable, but they are linked. Sex is better with someone you care about, but not limited to marriage. That was a reasonable expectation hundreds of years ago, when there was no contraception but we have that now and we can protect against pregnancy and stds, so it's a good opportunity to get to know what you like and experience some fun.