How to move on after break up????????
609236
You need to stop letting her use you the way she is.  Next time she calls to talk about stuff tell her sorry but you can't do this with her anymore.  That you love her and that it hurts too much to continue sharing this type of stuff with her and being a part of her life when she can't love you and make you a part of her life.  You can only get over her by shutting her out of your life.  It will be much easier to look at other girls and actually see them once she becomes a memory.  It will take time but trust me, it will happen.
881226
Well just wait a while and make sure that you are ready to date some one new because you never know what could happen and getting into a relationship even though you know that you still have feelings for your ex.. isnt the perfect way 2 start a new relationship. wait a few days see if you still want your ex back if u do talk to your ex and try 2 work something out.... it worked for me and we've been dating for two weeks now (yea i know not 2 long lol) but my advice sweetie is just 2 wait dont rush your self it aint necessary :-)
349701
it takes a long while to get over someone especially if that was your first.  take your time.  cry all you want.  let it all out.  some people might tell you to try and surround yourself with friends and family.  it might cheer you up, but i think it's okay to feel down for a while.  because no matter what you'd do, you might think about your ex like what did you do, what could you have done, or why your ex left you.   i really do not think it's better to suppress or cover up your feelings by having your mind occupied with something else.  but it's better if you get rid of anything that would remind you of your ex, and if you cut off all the communication means to your ex such as phone number, e-mail, and IM.  delete them all, so you wouldn't be able to talk to him at all.  also, i don't think that finding someone new too soon is such a good idea.  rebound is only rebound.  just think that it's not the end of the world although it feels like it right now.  just take your time and rest up.
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How to Get Over a Break Up\n\nWant to know how to get over a break up? Here are six secrets to help you get your life together and move on!\nDifficulty: Hard\nTime Required: Two Weeks to Three Months\n\nHere's How:\n\n1. Bond with other Singles.\n      At any given time, you probably have a mix of friends in loving relationships as well as those searching for love. Don't be afraid to look-up single friends you haven't seen or spoken to in awhile and make plans for Friday and Saturday night. You'll stay busy on the weekend and maybe even rekindle an old friendship.\n\n2. Start a Social Hobby.\n      If there is a hobby or activity you have been meaning to try for the first time, or take-up again, this is your chance. Focus on activities that allow you to meet new and interesting people. Examples might include a cooking class, sports league, or bridge club.\n\n3. Go Easy on the Next Person you Meet.\n      Beware of continuing unfinished business with the next person you meet. If you didn't have a chance to truly close the door on your last relationship, don't project your open issues on the next unsuspecting soul. See the new person as a clean slate and allow the relationship to unfold with no connections to your past.\n\n4. Don't Sling Shot your Ex.\n      It can be very tempting, particularly on lonely nights, to look up your ex or accept an invitation from your ex for a rekindle. The more you fall back on your old ways, the harder it will be to truly move on. Don't fall for the short term satisfaction of a night out or easy hook-up at the expense of stirring up all the hurt from the breakup.\n\n5. Apply What You've Learned.\n      Take out a journal and write down everything that went well versus what could have been better in your relationship. Be honest since you're the only one looking at the entry. What could you do better next time? What positive traits did your ex possess that you should look for in the next relationship, or maybe even incorporate into your own style?\n\n6. Talk About Something Else.\n      Everyone goes through a period of venting to their friends and family about what went wrong and how your ex deserves to go straight to prison. It's okay to do a little venting, but spare your inner circle from an endless tirade for months at a time. Commit to yourself that the next time you call a close friend, you'll focus exclusively on them. This will help you get out of your head
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well first of all find your weekness. and work on that and become strong.., good things come to those who wait. I was in a 2 yr relashionship.. and i healed. time does heal all things. Life does get better. tell you the truth.. you'll go with other relashionships.. you just wont last long.. because when that happens.., you start to not want long relashionships since.. the last one failed. Just find things that occupy your time.. and Think about someone that would actually be with you., and Not walk away.. without any feelings at all. you two just werent meant to be.. think of it that way.. that way got me.. keep searching for that one.. even if you dont right away.. I promice you all the same. youll find her. alot of times. if you dont look, she will find you. and i sense that she dumped you.., if she had any heart at all.. She wouldnt have done that. think about that Too. one day you will get over it. i did.
388288
Whatever the reason for your ex being your ex. Put yourself in their shoes and think about the situation and what you would do. Be true about the considerations...it only help u know wether it's worth trying to get back together.
744034
Make yourself hate him, or try to remember things that he had done to hurt you. This helped me a lot to forget my exbf. \n\nAnd it took me 6 mths to move on and many years to let go of him. But at least it helped tremendously.
703253
I hang with friends, do my artwork, I find things to take my mind off of the person I just broke up with.  Go for a ride, take a walk.  Focus on better things than think about the break up.
850785
You could start by reading the million other posts and responses on how to get over someone.  Most of them will tell you the same thing, the only thing that is going to make you feel better is time.  Forgiving is easy, just do it, forgetting however, is a different story.  You will never forget him or the good and bad times you shared, it's impossible without the assistance of a labotamy (sp*).  So forgive, take all the time necessary and do your best to keep your self respect and move on.
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I am happy for you that you realize he didn't love you, you are on the road to recovery!  WTG!  Why do you miss him so much?  You spent 3 years with him, that is a good chunk of time wouldn't you agree?  Even though someone hurt us more than imaginable, we still suffer a loss after a break up.  The only way to heal is to forgive him for all they ways he's hurt you.  You forgive him for yourself and your mental health, it really has nothing to do with him.  Then give yourself a lot of time.  You aren't going to get over three years in a month.  When you feel you are ready to move on you will but; give yourself a little time so what he did to you doesn't effect your next relationship.  Good luck and remember:  "NO MAN OR WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY."  I don't know who said it but; it's wonderful isn't it?
513083
You never really get over your first love. If you want to move on you have to find something or someone to fill your extra time. Maybe you need some time without some one until you are confident again. It is ultimately up to you when you want to start a new relationship. Jump back in only when your ready.
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If they broke up with you, and you still have feelings for them than if you try to be "friends" with them you are only lying to your self. It is too soon. It is like breaking your leg on Monday and then trying to run a race on Tuesday, you are only going to make the injury worst. \n\nRight now you are still in a place of "I need him in my life." You need to get way past that point before it healthy to have him in your life. \n\nThe hardest thing is you are right now blinded by the pain of the break up. It is normal to want to hold on, but just try to look past the pain, try and remember you are a wonderful person and their are a lot of guys who do like you and would want to go out with you. Try to remember that what you do now you will have to live with for the rest of your life, so don't do something pathetic like try to hold on to a relationship that is gone.\n\nGood Luck
61715
just think of the future,not the past.the past really doesnt matter if there is/was pain.always look ahead and never look back.to get over an ex just try not to think and talk about him.think about who can be your next stop.
537486
Move on. if your ex has already moved on then you should too!
213925
get over him and move on
168751
Just because the two of you broke up doesn't mean you can brake off your feelings. It's going to take time for you to get over how you feel but you can do it. Why did you guys brake up anyway? If the love you feel is that deep maybe you should try again with this guy. Maybe he feels the same way but is not sure how you feel, it's worth a try.
605702
You move on with your life.  Its hard, but try focusing on something that you are passionate about.  Dont dwell on it or it with rip your heart out.  Things happen for a reason.