why do people care what others think about them to the point that it controls them?
611814
I'm not sure why people care so much about what others think of them.But I agree with you if they don't like me F**K EM' !
1142277
Some people get insecure or fearful around others who are not like they are. They attack the one who is different, to help them feel better about themselves and their decisions (which actually probably means they are not secure in their own decision or choice).
133163
becasue some people may try to just please everybody and try to fit in with others, \nit's obvious that they are insecure and not comfortable being theirselves
1116584
Some people actually are the bosses of other people, but that's usually in the workplace, where somebody needs to be in charge to make sure things run right. Parents also have to be "bosses" to their children, at least until the kids are old enough and have demonstrated the ability to make good decisions on their own. If you are talking about why people want to boss around their friends and peers, some people like to have power over others. Or they think they are smarter or better than everyone else. They have to learn that you can't really control other people. Even as a parent, you can't make your kids feel a certain way or force them to chose to become a certain career; all you can do is prevent them from making dangerous choices and give them the opportunity to learn and make good choices. Each of us has to learn that the only person I have ultimate control over is myself. I cannot control everything that happens to me, but I can control my attitude, what I say, what I do. I'm the boss of me, regardless of who else has power over my life.
1106268
These people  feel insecure about themselves and try to make themselves feel better by putting down others. There are also  people who interfere in anothers life because they feel that anyone different from themselves must be made to be more like them. The fact is, people will always be resentful of those who are different, because of fear, which is generated from ignorance. Or because they're just plain jealous.  Just be happy in who you are, because you are the only person you've got to live for.
781967
Thinking way to much about what other people think about me.  I just let them control my life but then i realize that i really don't care what they think.  I care about what i think about myself.  I had to respect myself more.
272763
because people have opinions
1177125
Through our schooling and education--by our parents, by our teachers, by the media-- we are taught that what others think of you matters more than what you think of you...  Everything has a rhetorical purpose and in rhetoric, the only thing that matters is how something is received by the reader.\n\nSame goes for clothes, shoes, hair, intelligence, humor, love, social relationships,           same goes for life.\n\nWhat you think of you is often wrong anyway, nobody knows the real person underneath the facades they wear, but you are what you do on a regular basis.  You care about what others think of you dear, because that's the way others (the media and others outside the family) want it to be.\nNobody can influence you, if you don't care what they think.\nNone of the ads with the skinny chick talking about fitting into those jeans so you can "fit into that lifestyle" would work if the media and the secular world hadn't trained you from a young age to care what others think of you.\n\nslyguy_hzleyes@yahoo.com
248079
When people decided that they should have the right to control what others want for themselves and forgot that what others do really (which is not directly aimed towards them) has no bearing on their lives.
65094
Ignore, Ignore, Ignore.  People like that feed off of seeing your reactions to what they say.  Once they realize that it doesn't bother you or that they can't get a reaction from you, they will stop what they are doing!
1010112
People just don't stop to think before they speak.  They can't be bothered to take the time it requires to see if there comments may be hurtful to someone.\n\nFor example, the comment about skydiving. True, you may not have children but I'm sure there a lot of people in your life that would be devastated if something happened to you. Such as family members, boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse.\n\nAs for the rest...it's just ignorance. To assume just because a person is single and tired that they must be a party person is just plain stupid.\n\nIgnore them and know that your space in this world is just as important as theirs.
960625
In many cases when people do this, it's because they feel insecure, and being "right" helps them to feel better.  You can simply let them win, assuming that whatever they're saying doesn't matter that much.  You can say something like, "That's an interesting idea."
903089
Because people think it will do something, when in reality, it just hurts people
568339
I think the problem is you're worrying about what people think about you too much. Of course people form their own opinions of you! You do the same with them. It's all part of life.
785077
we all have it in our souls to become control freaks, some however feel the need to dish it out more than others. sad but true. know stop asking these questions. oh sorry it just slipped out see what i mean.
334372
If you are too cool, people will take advantage on you.    If you make good choices. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one thing we have, and that is our attitude… \n\nI am convinced that life is 10% of what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. \n\nAnd so it is with you… we are in charge of our ATTITUDES.
503966
Who cares what they think?