been in relationship for 5 yearsjust split we have done before and got back together.What to do.He wants space
595760
Give him the space.\n\nTell him that you'll both go your separate ways for a year, then meet up after that year and see how things are.\n\nIf he still says he needs space, then tell him OK, this time for 6 months.\n\nIf after this, he still isn't sure, then it wasn't ment to be.\n\nIt will be hard for the first few months, but it is well worth it as you will both grow because of the experience.\n\nGo see the world in this time, do YOUR thing and don't worry about him.  Get out and enjoy life.\n\nIt will do you both good.  And you never know, could both end up getting married to each other because of the break. :)
181428
Only HE can decide if he wants to get back together.  You cant MAKE him.  And if you do, it could be worse.  He needs to make the decision of WANTING to be with you.  If he is unable to forgive you for whatever you did. DO NOT force the issue.  Try very hard to move on.
924384
It sounds as though the two of you really need to sit down and talk, tete-a-tete.  The fact that you have been off and on for a couple of years, he's texting you now after a recent breakup, taking you to lunch, etc. and now you don't know what his motive is - just try to talk about it.\nI think that's the only way you are going to be able to truly get to the bottom of your dilemma.
852199
If you love each other, then, um DUH! Yes, take him back. Maybe he really did need to "get himself together" and now he feels ready to have a relationship. There's nothing wrong with that if it's true. I think it's great if he wanted to work on himself so things don't get messed up anymore between the two of you. He worked, he's ready - go for it.\n\nWould you cut off your nose just to spite your face? (Translation: Would you give up love just to make your ex pay?)
146533
Well, if you don't want to break up the only suggestion I have is talk to him about it. If he is in love or even if he just cares about you he'll understand what your needs are and be more considerate of you.
1002646
talk heart to heart...patch up things..if both of you can feel and see that it will really not work at all., then part ways in good terms...let friendship continue the relationship..who knows, the two of you needs only space..
201018
give him a chance to breathe and think on your relationship. if you want him in your life you have to be mature enough to let him decide if he wants to be with you; if you're bringing drama to the relationship and he broke up with you because of it, at this point you have to let him decide if he REALLY wants to be with you. I was in a relationship like yours and he decided to come back to me. I always have to be careful of his feelings due to our past but if your gut wants to be with you let him. if he doesn't let him go, it'll only help the both of you in the long run...
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This seems to be a very immature approach to such a serious issue. If you are so certain that your bf wants out as much as you do, try to broach the issue with some tact to get a practical response from him. \nMoreover, it is important that you not waste what still has the potential to be a good thing. Examine whether the love is totally lost or if you just need to do somethings different to add that spark back in your relationship. You may find that the grass is not really greener on the other side and what you may need is just to mow your grass, kill the weeds and start enjoying it more. The mere fact that you are both skirting the issue means there is more than just respect for each other.\nHowever, if you are certain that the relationship cannot last then have a heart to heart and come to an amicable solution.\nAll the best.
283105
wow i'm sort of in that situation now. not quite as far tho. well, didn't you two split for a reason? i think you should consider those reasons again and see how it might be different if you were to get back together again. another thing, he "bumped" into you. he didn't call you. could it be that he's trying to find an exit to his current unhappy relationship and he knows it's easy to get back with someone familiar? i would think hard before even allowing him back into your love life. to be on the safe side, it never hurts just to be friends. and don't ever seem too available. if he really wants you back, make him work for it! good luck.
924567
You need to quest yourself for following :\n1. Is your (both of yours) feeling same like earlier (or may be more intimacy)\n2. Is the reason making you separate (which U've not mentioned) is really resolved.\n3. Does he really feels and cares about you and if to live without you will be painfull for life?\n4.  Has he back with immidiate requirement of physical togatherness or the feeling has brought him back.\n5, And the last but most important, take some time of your own and ask to your heart without involving your brain. You will be getting the best answer!!\n\nAll the best. kindly let all of us know  (who has answered your question) about your decession and also in future about your happiness on these decession.
912603
If you are convinced there is mutual desire to get back together, discuss how you should do this with him. The two of you should avoid getting entangled in each other's divorces, though you can talk about it. In the meantime, there should be low-intensity contact between the two of you. Now that you boith have had experience in marriage, you wonna ask yourselves very honestly what is it that you would like from each other once you are both free. Be prepared to be as frank as possible so that you do not get hurt again, certainly not in the near future.
670273
i think you need to have a heart 2 heart talk. lay you cards out and be open with him. just because you dont spend time together like you used to dose not mean it should be over. in relationships things change and the only way to keep the rship alive is to adapt to the change. maybe he thinks you are the one who is changing. you will never know if you dont find out. if you care about him you wont let him go. good luck
16909
hey girl my ex boyfriend for 1year and a month he also went out with one of my friends when they were going out he relized that he should be with me just give the guy time and maybe you to will get back together just give him space and let him relize that you are the one for him
1052906
Ex boyfriends come back more frequently than they stay away!  They break things off with us for odd reasons, then miss us when we've moved on.  The question is, what do YOU want?  Does he bring anything new to the relationship?  Why are you letting him dictate the terms?  I'd date other guys with a view to allowing the best guy to attract your focus.  This one may compete for you if he wishes, but you should not accept his crumbs when he's in the mood to toss them to you.
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There is a lot of energy that goes toward a conflict with any person. \n\nStep out of the conflict, busy yourself with other constructive things and out of respect, give your BF some time and space. If you have been dating for five months, you can step back a little. \n\nTry not to figure it out… things will work out as they should. I know this kind of thing is hard and stressful and especially when you have invested emotion with someone. But you sound like a smart woman and if you play this right, he will be back.\n\nIn all relationships there is a process where one person is either moving forward and the other one is moving back. This is a natural dance… so don’t force it.  Guys really don’t like pressure.\n\nHang in there!
632435
Tell him how u feel once and for the very LAST time. YES I SAID "LAST" cause u cant keep going back and forth like a tennis ball. Even a tennis match has an outcome.I think u both should make a pact to stop sleeping with other people. If this is going to be a serious committment then u will also need to know what he wants, so ask. And ask yourselves is this what i really want? Make sure u both know what exactly went wrong to have gotten to the beginning of the divorce phase & ask yourselves, "have i dealt with it? overcome it? and am i ready to try this again, and now?" Being all alone isn't fun. it's not enough and you know this. Love may not be the issue, committment sounds to be it. Only you two know. You both need to not only want this but be willing to try and give your ALL. Situation sounds iffy. If u both get on the same page i say GO FOR IT! But dont rush someone who just isnt there. move on in that case. :) keep faith but dont be a fool ok
287888
Be his friend, stay in contact with him.  If he wants space give him space but stay friends.  If he loves you, he'll change his mind, if he doesn't, you won't end up losing someone important.  Good luck