how can i get my boyfriend of 4 years to finally propose?
608838
Start making plans for your life - and give him the option of being part of your future.  If he's still not catching on speak it out clearly to him, let him know you need to know what his plans are or else move on.
794152
go to www.lovingyou.com\n\nthey have all these ideas on how to propose and a whole lot more...I always go there to get romantic ideas for my bf
70964
First off the best way is for you too come up with something real romantic that will make this person remember it the rest of their life and only you can really come up with that. I can only suggest. Find out this person's favorite love song or you could use yours then wait for mid-nite on the 14th and take this person to a romantic spot make sure you have a little picnic and the song you choose and propose.
300311
proposal of marriage should be something personal... take her to someplace special for the two of you... make it a memorable event that she will remember and look on with joy forever.  I have helped many of my male friends propose... this one happened about three years ago on easter... my best friend led her on a scavenger hunt for plastic easter eggs.... in each one was a clue to where another one would be.... things like where we first met, first kissed, first date... and at the last place he stepped out with an egg and opened it showing the ring... he asked her if she was ready to place all of her eggs in the same basket.  She said yes... crying with tears of joy.
60757
Find out how he feels.  Find a comfortable time for both of you to talk about your feelings.  If he is not interested in getting married, you will have to make a decision to wait for him (for years maybe) or find someone else.  My sister in law waited for 18 years before my brother proposed.  They got married in 9 months after the proposal.  Do you want to wait that long?
727506
Oh, poor guy... Just listen to what you're saying: you're basically TRYING TO MAKE HIM marry you. With that kind of attitude, I don't think that guy will marry you without doubting himself whether this relationship will work. If you try to push him here, what else does he have to expect, once you're married and live together? He won't have a second of freedom to breathe - that's what you're telling him.\nDon't get frustrated. If he doesn't propose just yet - he's got a reason to do that. Either he is trying to make a surprise for you, or maybe, he is still trying to figure out how will this whole marriage thing work. If you think he's not really planning to propose - then why in the world do you insist on him to do that? If he does plan to propose and waits for the right moment, you're pushing that moment farther and farther away, because you're thinking about it all the time, and he can't propose to you by surprise if that's all you think about. Maybe, he's been carrying a ring in his pocket for weeks now. But when you two meet.... "Hi, honey, when are you going to propose to me?" -" Oh, yea, I was just going to do that..." Sweet surprise, isn't it? Give him time and space, let him get ready. It's a big step in both of your lives. And it's not every day you get married.\nBtw... Me and my gf have known each other for almost 3 years. And yet I still haven't proposed to her (even though we too talked about marriage many times). We are still figuring out each other, trying to understand the relationship better and soften out sharp egdes, which have a potential of ruining our relationship. Once we both think we've got to know each other well enough, then we'll start making plans of a wedding. Until then, we enjoy each others' company and get to know ourselves really well. One thing neither of us wants to happen is to find some really bad surprise about another person when we're already married. Way too many relationships brake up because they started too quickly. If people in those relationships would get to know each other before dating - maybe they'd never want to date another person and save tons of nerves and time.
442962
Don't rush him into it.  Give him time.  I'm sure he'll propose soon since you said that you all have discussed marraige.
341951
If it's true love it'll be there tomorrow or 5 years from now.  \nWhy rush to marry.  \nIt's only an expensive piece of paper to tell you something you already know.....you love the guy. \n\nIf it's meant to be...it'll be and it'll be there in years.  If then you feel the urge to marry then do so.  \n\nFor now enjoy each other and your relationship.
440556
Why dont you try talking to him about marriage first, when he talks about the future and growing old and dieing with you just say, dont you think we should talk about getting married before we talk about the house with the white picked fence? Just bring it up, there might be a reason why hes timid on getting married or maybe hes talking about the future fishing around for a good way to ask you about marriage and hes worried that you might say no or something, you never know hun, just ask him if hes thought about it or if in his plans on the future if hes planning on getting married, just bring it up you might just make his day ;)
1133766
there's no set time, but you both should be sure that you want to spend the rest of your lives together. it's a huge commitment and takes a lot of work to keep a marriage strong. the best thing is to go slow and get to know each other. it would suck if you got married and found out the guy annoyed the s*** out of you! or that he was a total freak..
433076
It really depends on the nature of the question. 1) Do you really love him and feel that you two will be able to grow old together? 2)What are your future plans? (ie: School, travelling, Career advancement? Marriage is a big step, its a promise and lifetime (supposed to be) committment.  Once you marry you can't think of yourself anymore you are committed to another person and that pretty much hinders your ability to do things you normally would do single (party with friends, hang out etc etc).  I'm not saying all marraiges are going to stop this from happening.  Just think about it more wisely and ask yourself are you at the point where you can settle down.
438375
If you are postponing proposing I'd say you aren't yet ready to take the step of getting married. It takes a lot of courage to admit that. It doesn't mean you don't love her. I imagine you do love her. You just aren't ready to take the step of getting engaged. If she's truly ready and you are not, then you need to talk about it. You may have to set her free if you don't think you'll be ready for a long, long time. You both need to be honest with each other about what you want out of this relationship and act accordingly.\n\nAlso, talk to God. Pour your heart out to Him. Ask Him if marriage with this woman is what He wants you to do with your life. Listen with all your heart and soul for His loving guidance. God Bless.
536664
I am actually one of those girls that has been engaged for years (2 to be exact). We got engaged before I finished my undergrad degree and decide to wait until I finished my masters. Anyway, it seems to me that just as long as you and your boyfriend have similar life goals, marriage may not need to be rushed into. Maybe you should wait until after you are done with school. Then you will have more money and time to plan your wedding. At the risk of scaring him away, I think that you should at least sit down and have a serious conversation about where you both see each other in the next 5 years. Having a frank conversation about your goals will help you to determine whether he is genuine when he says that you are the one, or if this is simply a ploy he uses to avoid confrontation or a possible break up. Remember that a marriage is life long commitment. It isn't something you should try to squeeze between school semesters out of convenience.
620665
What you're doing is correct...  Marriage before sex.  It has been 4 years with this man...  If you are ready for marriage, I would sit down with him and ask him what and where this relationship is going..  \n\nIf both of you love each other, I don't see what you are waiting for....\n\nGod Bless!
666289
First, are you sure he wants to marry you? It could also be that he has cold feet and is like most guys, bnervous to commit.  I would sit down and talk with him and ask him why he can not commit to a date... work out all the nicks before you set the date and get married.\n\nBy the way, there is nothing you can do to make a guy set a date... if he is ready to get married, then he will.
919812
I think he's nervous about the next step. Sure he's desperately in love with you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. But, maybe he's just nervous about what the future will hold for you too. It's not uncommon to be nervous about proposing, and as far as the holidays... he might be waiting to surprise you, 9 out of 10 women say that they expect to be proposed to around Christmas, New Years, or Valentine's Day... Maybe he's just going the extra mile to make it extra special. Don't give up hope :)
945794
6 years is a pretty long enough time to know whether or not you want to marry someone. I have observed from numerous relationships that guys keep some women dangling; and then they will meet one particular female that they just know right away that she won't be allowed to get away. I think you two need to have a real heart to heart talk, but in person. Long distance relationships are extremely difficult, especially being faithful; emotionally and physically. Be honest, tell each other how you feel.  I wonder if you guys seriously voiced your goals in the begining of your relationship. I'm guessing that you didn't expect to be waiting this long. Don't be afraid of speaking candidly, this is obviously making you uncomfortable as well. Life is way too short. Maybe there is some fear on his part that he hasn't expressed to you, something he thinks he would like to achieve before he settles down. It's good to have plans, but sticking to the exact order of those plans can cause you to miss out on some really great life altering blessings.  Ask him if something happened to you and caused you to not be available to him , if he would regret not taking that step to marriage. Sometimes we don't realize what we have until we no longer have it. Listen to his verbal and non-verbal responses. If you still don't feel confident and satisfied with the decision made you may end up waiting even longer. Are you willing to put your life on hold for someone who may just not be mature enough for that type of commitment any time soon?