'LEADER' does it need to be FEAR or RESPECT?
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Honestly I think you need a bit of each. Respect is great, but it too only goes so far. Maybe it's because I'm a parent, but respect doesn't get the play room cleaned, fear that I will go in with a trash bag and clean it out myself does. Then again, maybe we should define respect and fear first. I respect people, but that doesn't necessarily mean I would follow their orders. I don't think, for myself anyway, that respect equals blind trust.
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Well, if nobody cared what any body thought of them, we'd be a species like tigers...solitary and pretty irritable. We're a social species, so everyone craves interaction and approval at some level. My attitude is: I don't care what people think whom I don't respect, but I care desperately for the approval of my loved ones and of people who have earned my respect. It's interactive: to be respected, one must earn respect. To earn respect, one must be respectful of others. To be loved, one must love others.
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I disagree with your premise. People groups do not define courage, individuals do. Maybe you need to expand your your cultural horizons.
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Authority is granted, while leadership develops." \nLeadership is not a title. It isn’t having a louder voice or a more convincing style. Leadership comes from having a set of attributes that makes people want to work toward the goals you communicate and to follow the pace you set. I will describe this set of leadership attributes, as I see them, in the article below.\n\nFirst, let me tell you a story. I was bird hunting in the south not too long ago with a guide and his mule wagon. On one particular day, we wanted to take a shortcut, but the mules weren’t cooperating. The problem was, he was asking the mules to take a different path than they were used to following on a routine basis. After trying to encourage the two mules, my guide eventually hopped down from the wagon, talked to the mules eye-to-eye, then lead them on foot. They followed. The lesson I learned from that experience is that a good leader will recognize when he needs to hop down from the wagon and lead the way, particularly in a time of change from what is routine.\n\nSo what are these attributes that leaders have in common? Let me share my opinion. \n\nSELF-IMPROVEMENT\nI don't believe anyone can be an effective leader unless they are always working to improve themselves. People change, systems change, competitors, processes and economics change. Leaders who never change their habits and who fail to adapt will quickly become irrelevant. In addition, there is something endearing about a boss or a company CEO who is seen with a book under his or her arm. “If my leader is always striving for more, perhaps there is hope that I can grow, too.”\nI have a definition of leadership that I share with others in my company: Leaders have the ability to consistently capture, hold, and focus people’s attention on the mission — and their individual part in achieving it. At first glance, it is a simple definition. Only by breaking apart the sentence and further explaining the significance of each word can I truly express my philosophy of great leadership. \n\nCONSISTENCY\nConsistency is crucial. It means that day-in and day-out, the people you lead know you will get down off the wagon when necessary. Or put another way “you will walk the talk” Consistency means you completely understand that leadership is not a part-time job. Every action you take, decision you make, and criticism or praise you utter is observed and internalized. Leaders who are inconsistent in their behaviors have a hard time getting people to follow. Your people count on you to see the glass half full, with a plan in place to fill it the rest of the way.\n\nCAPTURE ATTENTION\nMost leaders are exceptional at capturing the attention of their people. That is to say, they are "captivating." What makes them so? They have a tremendous amount of positive energy, enthusiasm, and confidence. They have passion. Some have a sense of humor. Others are adventurous. While personal styles are different, the end result is people want to listen to what a good leader has to say. I have always thought that a leader could personify a captivating personality simply by following The Scout Law; scouts promise to be trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean, and reverent.\n\nHOLD ATTENTION\nTo be a good leader, you first must be a good follower. Those who aren’t interested in what others have to say are seen as narcissistic. The only way people will give you their continued attention is if they feel you have empathy for their lot in life, and are open-minded in how you view problems, opinions, and opportunities. Most importantly, people want feedback on how they are performing and how they can improve. I like to say that “feedback is the breakfast of champions”. Believe in people. Build them up. Never destroy them. Become a practitioner of public praise and private coaching. Do you celebrate victories with your people, no matter how sm
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I would rather be respected by people that way people are not afraid of you and they would be willing to talk to you and share problems. If you are feared you are alone, people stay away from you and would never take your advice even if you gave it.
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we could be . perhaps we should be. but we 1st have to have the right attitude, motivation, and leadership. we can only lead[ be the boss] if  others followed ... would you follow someone you didn't respect?.. we 1st need to work on our self respect, then we must work on getting the respect of others ... the easiest way to do that is to show "them "respect. then we must make benevolent and magnanimous decisions..decisions based on what we give , not what we will get. i WANT us to be the boss but first we must earn the position... I'm afraid we're a long way off.... PS , we have the worlds strongest army ?? how do you think we'd be doing if "the insurgents" or anyone else we fought in the past 40 yrs had the same equipment and wmds that we posses??? heck the vietnamese beat us back  wearing "shower shoes" in the jungle... we ain't so "bad"
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maybe its mean how can u be a leader ?
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respect is cheap, just deal with them and watch your back, dont burn your bridges but feel free to do unto them before they do it unto you.
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I think they take a special course in intimidation instead of a much needed one in community relations. They want to rule by fear instead of repect, but expect to be respected. And then are stupid enough to think we are impressed by them. Hmmmm.
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niiiiiiiiiiiiice quote.  I like it a lot.  I'll have to get that book.\n\nBasically, it says that if you are the type of person to let things roll over and over and over in your head without ever coming to some sort of resolution, you will always get behind in everything you really want to do in life.\n\nIn terms of respect, there are a couple of thoughts on this.  How will you respect yourself if you don't respect others?  How will you be perceived as an honorable person if you let others run over you or you straddle the fence on important issues all the time?  \n\nI disagree with one statement.  "You have to demand respect in this world,......"  Actually, I don't demand respect.  I don't have to because I can look at you or speak to you in such a way that the respect comes natural.  \n\nI command respect by my mere presence.
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Not bad,just be honest to the person and to them in a right place and in a good manner,be a good leader,set as an example!
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I think a good leader is a confident person who is not scared of taking charge of any situation. You have to be personable and straight forward, honest and outgoing! Don't be SCARED what others think about you, all that  matters is that you know you are a good leader!!! Goodluck ♥
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Well, since I don't really know the whole story, I will have to say that some people actually just likes to be controlled. Like some people are leaders some people are just followers. They feel lost without people controlling them or telling them what to do. As long as you don't mind and he is not abusive.
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Some are natural leaders and enjoy being in charge. Others lack self confidence and need control to feel secure.
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i think leadership shud be in your blood to be a monitor...secondly u need to be diplomatic yet honest so as to be able to handle your class as well as teachers...\nits totaly person specific...\nbst of luck
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The answer is simple .when people return to having morals and stop copying other cultures.A leader has to arise and be strong and be prepared to stand up to the P C brigade.Oliver Cromwell did it. "come back Ollie".
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Not enough information in your question to be able to say if I would feel threatened.  It would depend different things.  Is the leadership of the country hostile?  Do they say they want you wiped off of the map?  Is the leadership of the country trustworthy?  Does the leadership of the country have respect for human life and human rights?  Is the country stable?  There are a lot of things that I would need to consider to decide if I was threatened.