Would you rather receive kind and deserved criticism or get undeserved praise??
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Criticism. It is great if someone support your positive qualities, but if that praise is undeserved then it is at best worthless. Criticism, even if one doesn't like it, is the only way to learn your faults and correct them. No one needs a fawning sycophant, everyone needs honesty.
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You can't be serious, you want to sue someone for trying to help you communicate with the world?  I know it can be frustrating, but sheesh, nobody is perfect.  So, they misunderstood...that is okay, just clarify.  And, I don't think it is such a bad thing that they try to treat you nicely...hell, I wish people went out of their way to treat me w/ kid gloves.  If you have a problem w/ a particular person's attitude, just let them know...like anyone would.  They are just trying to be helpful.  What's is so bad about somebody feeling good about helping you and other people with disablities....geez, is that such a bad thing?  How would you prefer them to feel and how would you prefer to be treated?  With a cold shoulder?  I don't know if you have a case, but with the way the world works, you probably would--thanks for driving up my tuition/medical bills, etc b/c of your frivolous lawsuit.
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threw?\nyou deserve much better,  manner that is.
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How much you dislike them is up to you. I, personally, would be more likely to appreciate their efforts to lose weight than to hold it against them.
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Some people never get the respect they deserve.  Unfortunately, it's not until they do something wrong, that people will start to like them.
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i wouldnt worry about pleasing them. if someone is delenquent and is not willing to pay they are not worth pleasing. otherwise if they want to pay and cant they will say so and will be willing to work with you.
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I think that you are a warm and beautiful person inside and out and I am lucky to count you as my friend.\n\nSomebody is obviously having a bad day giving all the thumbs down when were being so nice!
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I'm only going to take the example of constructive and caring criticism in an attempt to view our own craziness regarding critics:\n \nIf the ego has a problem sometimes accepting our own faults, all the more reason to have a problem with other people pointing at them. \n\nAlso the fact that ALL mortals care about what people think about them...yes, in different levels but I would dare to say that even in the smallest degree, EVERYBODY cares about what other people think of them. One example: Have you noticed that even in the case in which a person is as free and careless as you can be, they make sure people know they don't care about their opinion? That's caring about what people think!!...(and "they should think and know that I don't care about them"). \n\nAnd finally, the fact that even if it comes from the best intentions and love, we may feel it in some way as invasive; we think that people don't notice our faults as much as we do, we know our selves better than anybody right? \nSo when they tell us our faults is a proof that they know us too, sometimes even better than ourselves because their opinions don't come loaded with defensive mechanisms, is just observation.\n\nI personally like constructive criticism, is an opportunity to grow and learn if we allow it to be....
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Sometimes I counteract negative gossip by making kind remarks about the person who is the subject of the gossip.  Most people are basically nice and this appeals to their better nature.  If the gossiper persists I don't worry about offending them with silence.
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Both!\n\nThe speaker is criticizing your physical appearance but is complementing your honesty.\n\nWhether you appreciate somebody saying this about your depends on what you value more- looks or integrity.\n\nCheers :)
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One of two things.  Low self-esteem or you have a hard time accepting compliments.
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it depends on the self-esteem of the person.  They may feel bad and agree or shug it off and realize their worth doesn't depend on your opinoun
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I know how hard this could be I have been in this situation before. I have found out however through my own experiences that complimenting my friends on their best features is a great way to start out, this open the line of communication and allow for that individual to become comfortable with you and trust your judgement on things. I recommend that if you want to tell someone something make sure it is a individual you have history with, do not attempt on giving someone constructing criticism without establishing some sort of recurring trust. Remember choosing you words correctly is important in conveying a constructive critique. See ya!!
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Dear friend\n\nI think he tries to gain extra attention from people. HE dont deserve it.\n\nRicha
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Anyone who seeks praise and adulation isn't worthy of receiving it.\n\nSurely, an almighty God would be more mature than that and would care about how you act towards those around you instead of how much time you spend worshiping him.\n\nSo, to answer your question ... What do I call you?  A reasonable person.
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learn from the jesture. If you ask for help it is much better and kinder to learn than to sit back and watch. Someone ask me for help I am much happier knowing the next time the person will know what to do. ( if it is in their physical and mental capability)\nA smile can also melt any doubt that my help was well received. \nWords are great but jestures (a smile or handshake) with the words are better
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How right you are but hon, don't be too quick to judge . Here in America we are pretty quick to judge . we put someone we respect on a pedestal and are crushed when they can't live up to our expectations. Well maybe we better demand such perfection from ourselves before we expect it from them. And then when we are totally perfect in every way and only when we reach that level of perfection then we can judge them, but I know i make mistakes every day so I will never be totally perfect, thank god I wouldn't want to be the one to judge anyhow I am just not mean enought and I know how many times I didn't live up to my own expectations and I don't feel qualifyed to judge anyone, wouldn't it be a refreshing change if everyone was that forgiving.? oh well one can dream.