what would you do if you discovered your spouse had a secret porn stash?
605035
I WOULD BE P*SSED THEN SAY ITS THE PORN OR ME.
896759
if you still have porn files in your recycle bin...\n\nright click the porn file\n\ngo to properties\n\nand there it will tell you when the file was deleted\n\nand if you know who was on at that time and date..\n\nthen you caught him or her\n\n=)
344965
How would you feel if he looked at all your personal stuff?
587877
well looks like you have found your husbands true colours...  you know what to do!!He's scared you will find out more i think.. he using the money thing as a blackmail to stop you from digging deeper!!
516401
You can go to the cache in the system section on your hard drive or there are programs that will retrieve info even after it has been trashed.  Norton utilities and such.  Good luck in finding out if he's been surfing for porn.  The scum bag.  If I'm wrong, forgive me, but there a very few other reasons to try to find out where you been on the magical web.  If he's Guitly, trash his A s s........ again, if not, shut my mouth.
674343
I'm afraid you'll find out when and if someone gets to see the pics.  If your partner knew what he was doing, must have erased all traces and used his own e-mail.  If he's an idiot -as he must be if you suspect him to do this- he might have used your e-mail client.  In this case, you might find something in the sent items folder.\n\nAlways keep your laptop password-protected, and don't share it with anyone.  You don't want other people receiving mails that seem to come from you when you didn't.
840470
There are two kinds of males who use the internet.  Those who hide their porn well and those who do not.  Guys look at porn, it is nothing against you or any other woman.  It does not mean that he doesn't think you are attractive or that he would rather be with someone else.  I'm not saying it's a pleasant thing to discover, but you gotta admit, it's better than him cheating on you.\nYou can allow yourself to get all frustrated or you can try to fix it.  Often, things become routine and not as interesting.  Men like variety.  That is why some men cheat.  But it is totally unnecessary and unacceptable.  You can provide your man with all the variety he needs.  Perhaps a little new lingerie would be a good idea.  I would recommend a DVD on Kama Sutra Tao,  The Sensual Art of Making Love.  It is a very good dvd you can watch together.  It is done in good taste and not crude.  It will relight his and your fires and you won't leave the house for days.   ;-)
1115781
my husband and i make our own porn! \nand we watch it 2gether
360100
confront them!\nthey invaded your privacy, and abused your trust.\nif it is possible, i would suggest moving, because you dont know what else they get into when your not around, or how often they do it.
220052
sorry to hear you let it get that far, i'm sure you are too. normally, i would say talk to your mate. but in this instance i would have to say you need to figure out in your head and heart what you really want and get you priorities worked out. your children are the ones who would really suffer for your indiscretions. i'm sure that is not what you want. but if your husband finds out, i don't think he'll be very understanding or forgiving. i wouldn't. but if you wan to save your marriage, then i would focus entirely on my husband and my marriage and making him happy. kiss butt, in other words. secretly, of course. one day, if you feel your marriage is strong enough, then you can tell him. the only thing that is going to help is your conscience. honestly, you may learn a bigger lesson by having to carry this secret and not burden your husband with what you did. sorry.
621506
Sharing intimacy with anyone other than your spouse is cheating. May it be physical or emotional. It's deception either way. You should leave if you are missing something at home.
688568
In this day and age, snooping is more acceptable and more necessary because of fatal diseases like AIDS. You wouldnt want someone elses lustful and disrespectful actions bringing disease home. Something inside of you told you to check, and you had to go with your instinct. This does not necessarily mean that you need to leave though. You married this man, you should at least be able to sit him down, let him know what you found and you all can work it out like two grown adults. Evidently something is missing or he feels as if something is missing. Also, know your worth, tell him what you are willing and not willing to accepr. Regardless of if you leave or stay, keep your self esteem and worth intact by sticking to your guns on what and what you wont take from another human being.
581452
Keep them in case they happen to come back you can be like "i kept your panties to remember you by" ;) Or like my friend who had an ex who wouldn't leave him alone, he knew she was coming over to bother him so he took some girls panties that they left at his house and hung them where she could see them when she came over, just to piss her off and maybe make her leave him alone.\n\n\nOKAY----I GAVE YOU AN ANSWER THAN I SAW ANOTHER QUESTION OF YOUR, YOU SHOULD BE ASSAMED!!!!! YOUR MARRIED!!!!
346399
Tough one. He could be leaving it open testing your trust. He could want you to find those emails because he wants you to find them to get a divorce. He could just be an idiot. Or the emails don't mean a damn thing to him so he is not worried if you find them because he isn't doing anything wrong. Lots of possibilities. It's your computer too, he left his sign on, you stumbled upon it. However, since you are married and don't trust him, you may have a problem just because of that.
414930
First off, you are allowing him to look through your stuff, big mistake!  Obviously he was gifted with the jealousy gene and you with the "let him do whatever he wants" gene.  So my first piece of advice, stop letting him do whatever he wants.  Trust is a two way street.  If he wants to see what you have in your junk, then he should be showing you what's in his.  However, it's very common for an unfaithful person to try and hide their guilt by trying to find something to blame it on with their signif.  So what should you do?  I'd dump him and get someone who's got self confidence, maybe it will help you get some too.
1019958
have you ever considered putting a tape recorder in his vehicle underneath the seat, i mean we all talk on our cell phones when we are on our way to and from work right, what about following him, there are ways for you to find out trust me, you just need to be smart and opened minded and think of things, when he tells you he going somewhere follow him after he leaves, start asking questions about everything, check his email, his wallet, his call log in his cell phone, sonner or later like useal the truth will reveal itself no matter what, I do think if he was cheating you would have all the signs already and just simply have this unbarable gut feeling inside of you, if you feel that then he is, of course you will feel the distance, his lying, his comeing home late, him turning off the cell phone, all the normal things, if your really worried about hire a private investgator that way he can be on you side if you should have to ever file for divorce or for custdoy becuase these days whoever is the cheater and they can prove he cheated the women gets everything from him, childsupport, alimony, he may even have to continue to par your car insureance and your health insurance i know this for sure, good luck and i hope you find everythihng that you looking for, just prepare yourself for the worse as it may really break your heart to find the truth
549965
Check the history on your computer or you can always remove the hardrive and have someone else look at it for you if you are not sure.  Unfortunately, if he is as smart at covering his tracks as you say...he will be deleting the history daily.