in bed what does a guy look for?
595669
Feminine enthusiasm and a sense of fun make all the difference in the world.  DON'T be phony.
170636
You need to watch out for changes he may have made in his wardrobe, cologne, etc. Also is he wanting to try new things in bed. Keep an eye out.
47465
"now seems like he only pays good attention to me in bed" - That would be your problem. I have no insight into the mind of your boyfriend. However, I would say (coming from another man) that he is after just one thing. Then again, perhaps I am wrong. It is hard to be sure about such a concept when it is through a written medium and we've never met the person. Good luck anyhow.
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I guess it all depends on what you are considering "not bad looking".  Everybody has different tastes on what they consider to be "hot", "Good looking", etc.  I guess the question is...\n\nAre you willing to open yourself up and possibly give a guy a shot to show you the good looking guy INSIDE?  Some guys/gals have good looks, but just don't know how to show it until someone shows them how.  Do yourself a favor and go show someone how.\n\nTake care and good luck,\n\nChris
1112819
First thing I notice: clothing. what you wear says a lot about who you are. generally I look for clean clothes, comfortable, perhaps buttoned shirt or polo. Jeans and their fit say a lot about a person. a person who wears jeans that expose their posterior and most of their boxers says "I'm a faux gangster tryin' to live tha thug lifestyle before mommy comes and picks me up. I have no ambition and fewer prospects." (I should mention that I'm in my early 20's, and this is still the impression I get about guys around my age) a guy who has slightly baggy pants, but shows no a** tells me "I'm relaxed and easy going overall. I'm not too conservative, but I'm decent". a well dressed man in slacks and a nice shirt says "I'm corporate. I make money and I'm doing well for myself". guys who tuck in their shirts and wear tight jeans with big belts say "I'm a dude, and I don't take S**t from women" (basically, it appears they have a stick shoved in their rectum... and who wants to date that?) guys in dirty or seriously ripped clothing says "I don't care about me, and I'll care less about you". and guys in all black with black hair and black painted nails scream "I want to suck your blood and make love to your corpse". Run!\n\nThe next thing is build. since I'm a bigger woman, a man with a small frame is not a good suit for me. I'll break them in half before anything good gets going! then again, huge muscles are kind of creepy, in my opinion. a medium build of medium height is sufficient. weight doesn't really bother me all that much. it's preferrable to be shorter than the guy, but I'd hate to be accused of being sizist. you just don't know who's a good guy until you look.\n\nNext I look at what they are doing. are they flirting with everyone? not really a good choice. their attention is easily divided. are they having a good conversation? that could be interesting. are they looking around? they're interested in what's going on, and so might be easier to approach. are they approaching me? sure, I'll give you the time of day. are they being infantile? Sorry, I'm not a pedophile. I want to be with a man! there are many more situations that can make me assess things in all kinds of ways. but the number one rule: if they are with another woman, HANDS OFF! you automatically assume he is interested in her, and poaching is not cool.\n\nThe last thing to scope is the face. look at the eyes. You really can see a lot about a person in their eyes. knitted eyebrows, small, hard eyes, round, open eyes, laugh lines, etc. all the little details in that area give clues about who you are talking to. the mouth: is it tightly set? is it smiling? scowling? laughing? frowning? going up to a moody guy is not my idea of fun.\n\nOther than that, it's a free-for-all. That's just the preliminary 2 second staredown that I give. for more permanent situations, I'd have to write a book, which I don't think many people would want to read. hope that answers your question!
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I look at their face first, a guy's smile is the best thing for me. But as they are talking to me my eyes do tend to drift elsewhere. I look at their crotches or their hands. I like guys that work hard but can stay clean and well manicured, plus if they are carrying a loaded weapon in their boxers its totally worth looking at. There was a guy I went to high school that was rumored to have been hung like a horse, nobody could look at his face after that one.
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Boys are no different then girls.. Some you can trust and some you can't... Quite simple really.\n\nWhat do i look for ? Sense of humor, good personality,intelligence,and physical beauty
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Guys are just as hard as women to understand, First of all his maturity(not age) is a big determination, then talk to him and you should find out whata your lookin for. Just don't play him unless he plays you because both sexes do that.
889075
Would depend on what his personality is like.  He can be the best looking guy in the room but if he is boring as bat $hit, then I'm not interested.
126239
Learn to love and respect yourself first.  Don't give of yourself to hold onto a man.  Look deep before you leap and get to know the man before you go to bed with him.  It is a good idea to find out where a man's mind is, what he is looking for in terms of a relationship and where he is heading before bedding him.
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WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?
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Men are differnt.... Men want to bed anything they find 'attractive'.\n\nWomen want to bed anything they feel emotionally connect to.  \n\nWhen the men are smart enough to learn that one, they'd get a whole lot luckier than they are now LOL  Good luck and 'hard work' to get there enough for us to sleep with guys like you :P
350701
The main thing I look for in a guy is a good sense of humour. He has to make me laugh. I really don't care about looks. I like a guy who can laugh at himself and make me laugh.
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Well first off, I'm checking out your pic, just to let ya know.  Same way guys check women but not so obviously, we look, do a double take and smile if you look our way.  Or if we are outgoing, we might approach you and talk.  Watch our eyes, we like same stuff men do, nice bodies.  I love nice big arms and hard firm pecs.
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is there someone else in bed with you?
1115292
I'm a guy but I am gay but what I tend to look for in a guy in 1. confidence 2. Smile 3. Generosity (not just with me but with everyone)
71651
men are generally interested in a hobbie.  decide what interest you and visit a store selling related items....ask that good looking guy an intelligent question and allow the conversation to carry you into coffee,lunch, dinner and if your lucky, breakfast.  good luck...