He is 4 yrs younger, can it work? (22/26) He says he has never loved someone so much. Neither have I.?
609825
Yes, it can work, and it WILL work, if you honour the commitments you make to each other. Best wishes and congratulations !
495482
Yeah, thats tough...it sounds like you two are younger and are having some insecurities about one another. His family and friends are being dicks if they make him feel like they are in competition for you. I guess the best way (if you havent done so) is to come out and tell him that you love him. Tell him how much he means to you and do a few extra special things for him to show him that it is more than just words.
200797
First of all does he love your kids?  Think about your kids first and not you.  I mean that is a bit harsh but don't you want a great father for your kids and for you?  And then, think if he can help you in the long run?  Is he going to be there when you need someone the most, is he willing to take the challenge to be with you or not? And about the 4 kids thing talk to him about it.  Tell him that you do not want to have more or if one day you both get married then you both can have one.  But a relationship is based on many factors too just not love.  There has to be a strong communication between you both and understanding.  If you feel that this guy can be that special someone then risk it.  You can never expect too much from someone else.  Think about yourself and your kids first.  Good luck.
221886
It can work if you guys have similiar ways of thinking and have fun together.  Sometimes older men/women have more experience in dating and can take advantage of you without you even realizing it.  Also, especially with men, you gotta make sure they're with you for the right reasons, not just to feel young again or prove something.  \n\nI asked a similiar question and got mixed responses.  Some people said age is nothing but a number or I'm married to an older man, but that kind of response doesn't really tell you anything.  Obviously age is important or else we wouldn't even be concerned about it.  \n\nI suggest that you spend some time with him and after some thought, decide if you really think he's right for you or if it is a phase or short-lived attraction.  I had a crush on an older guy before, but then I realized I just felt comforted and secure around him, but was not in love with him.\n\nGood luck, and follow your heart AND mind!\n\nP.S.  It also depends on your age.  If you're around 18, stick to guys around your age (3-4 years older) for experience reasons.  If you're 22 or older, five years difference is not neccessarily a big deal.  If you're under 18, be careful always!
709736
I was in your exact situation.  Seems like the timing is never right, there's always something. Just tell him how you feel, and that you are ready to get this ball rolling.  Don't give him an ultimatum b.c you are right that will just push him away.  But definitely stress on the fact that you aren't getting any younger.
717614
try to tell him about u r feeling if the age differance between both of us is not more than 5 years I think he can understand u. go ahed coz love and feelings are limit less and unbounded best luck
58319
There is truthfully a one in a million chance that he actually loves you. Just cause of your age. Don't let your lonliness blind you. Just be careful! I hope it does work out though. True love isn't something to can find everyday!
810709
4 years is quite a long time.....but it wasnt spent together so umm i dont know....but you guys managed to do something which for some people is almost impossible,4 years and you are still together.....i dont think a guy would ask a girl to marry him if he didnt mean it though so it should be a good sign.if you love him,then dont think about it twice and do it.marry him and be happy.if you are not sure about his feelings for you,,then give it some time to think about it,or talk to him to clear your doubts.\nonly you can find the answer to what you need to know,only you can make a decision.\nall the best.
845381
You say it is someone you think you are going to have sex with and not someone that you love. Relationships with age differences can work, but they are more difficult to make work and require a loving relationship. Since you didn't mention love, I don't think he is too old, I think you are too young.
129640
If you aren't sure, wait.  If he really loves you, he'll be willing to wait a couple more years.  Your parents are right, the statistics on marriages before 22 are much less promising than if you wait.  The reason for this is not to say that you aren't in love now, but so many people do a lot of growing between 18 and 22.  People can completely change peronalities, life styles, morals, values, and everything in those four short years.  Being married while going to school and going through this transitional time in your life, could put quite a strain on your marriage.  Talk to him, and see if he will wait.  Never go into marriage if you don't know with all your heart that he is the one, and the only one, the one you love with all your heart, who you can imagine spending the rest of your life with, and with no one else.  Good Luck! :)
896712
The numbers of years difference would not be so bad if you were 33 and he was 48. At 18 you are far too young to be involved with a man that age.... He's lived and you haven't. You have dreams and he should already achieving his... Too many differences to over come. yeah he might treat you very well...but you will come to resent him eventualy and angry for having wasted your time.
1080030
you are to young for this man you need to wait\nIt is also illegal\nplease dont put him in jeopardy if you love him wait\n\nGood Luck and God Bless!!
1163219
Sure, Email me at MyOddThoughtss@yahoo.com\n\nOh, and.. take it slow. Love will come and don't be at the ready with the "I love you" from the start. Take your time.
657921
Not as long as he's not a minor.  If he's an adult, go for it.  Although it's kinda silly, men mature slower, so you are really just setting yourself up for a relationship that's unbalanced from the beginning.
466878
First you just gotta get ovet the superficial appearances, etc., and ask yourself if you really love him?  If yes, then get over the little things.  My parents have the same age gap and have been together for 30 years.  It can work, as long as the age thing doesn't get to you.  Forget numbers and focus on people.
113126
if you think it can work out then give it a try, whats the worst that could happen? give him a chance if it doesnt work you gained another experience in your life. sometimes people just need a little push to realize theyre immature. give it your best shot and i hope it works out
532417
same sweetie.\nwell i got over him. look for someone elz in your year.\nthe guy i lyk lives in america. lol.\nwell good luck.\nif hes always on your mind maybe hes meant to be there.\nyou should try to make it clear to him, because maybe he feels the same. the 4 year age gap makes it unlikely but.\nall the best