I lost everything in a fire just before the fire I finally heard from my brother after 15 years , the problem?
604532
you can try skipease.com........this is how collection agencies find people, I am not sure about email addresses tho........good luck, and sorry to hear
188451
Wow. When I first read your question I thought - what kind of question is that? of course you need to contribute! But after reading the details, I'm wondering the same thing too. Did she do it? Is she the type that would? What was the cause of the fire? \nI think I would contrubute anyway. Not as much as I would give someone else, but still give something. And with time, if you see that she is struggling to get back to normal, help her some more. \nOr maybe just wait and see if she needs more financial help in the future, and give it to her then.
451706
Let me give you an advice..\nDont let the ignorance go too high please..\nFrom my experience i have lost a person..\nSo i please beg of you..\nThis is coz i cant see something special go to ruin..\nMy best wishes to you to have everything fine..
1104114
I was at home one night and 2 policemen knocked on my door.  They came in and said "did you know there was a report of a fire in this street today" ?   I said "not a clue, i was at work until 3 then i picked the kids up fom school and we went out".\nThey went on to tell me that my next door neighbour had received a call (her phone was in the front of the house in the lounge), telling her that her kitchen was on fire.  She's  a lady of about 90 and was obviously very scared.\nThey then went onto tell me that she had accused me and that they would be running checks on my home and mobile phones to see who i had phoned that day !!!!\nI was so upset and scared. My husband was at work and i was in the house with my 3 children who were also upset.  This accusation made me really ill and i ended up in hospital with pneumonia a week or so later. (When i am stressed i always get a chest infection but this one turned into something worse).\nAnyway, it turns out they decided not to take things any further with the accusation...but can you imagine that happening ??????
175807
Oh, I really feel for you. It's very hard to face this sort of situation.  If you know where he lives, send him a letter telling him exactly what you have told us; that you love him and miss him dreadfully, that you miss his friendship and him being in your life.  You don't say how old you both are, but if he was quite young when this happened it may be that he is regretting his hot-headedness (you might find that out when you establish contact with him, but not initially), and he may later welcome the chance to get back in touch with the family through you.\n\nBut if you want to contact him, you need to make it plain that if he doesn't want contact with his parents, that's regrettable but perhaps understandable, but it isn't his relationship - or lack of it - with them that bothers you, it's the relationship between the pair of you that you want to heal.  However, you will also need to be very careful about your own relationship with your parents.  It could hurt them dreadfully if they find out that you have been in contact with your brother, and hurt people tend to lash out.  It may be that your brother felt very hurt if you seemed to take their 'side' rather than his in whatever happened when all you were trying to do was mediate, or just got caught in the crossfire, and he lashed out at you.\n\nJust spend some time putting your thoughts down on paper, don't condemn him in any way at all, and tell him you will always love and miss him.  I hope it all works out well for you.
1043177
You lost everything.\nIt is over and out.\nStart a fresh beginning.
141939
Get help for him immediatley! One of my childhood friends DIED from this when we were 15. I miss him TO THIS DAY. His family was devastated. His parents ended up divorcing, his little sister had to go into rehab eventually...\n\nNot to mention he was gone. And still is. You'd think DEATH would be enough of a "side effect' to make you go into panic mode...\n\n(and, btw, that was 28 years ago...)
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Unfortunately, I was blamed for most of the things that went on while I was growing up, but you know what?  It doesn't matter any more.  None of my siblings have ever apologized for anything and really don't expect them to.  Maybe they are the reason  the elevator doesn't go all the way to the top of the shaft?  Who knows, maybe they forged my mind and soul to be the way I am today.
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FIRST, I WANT TO SAY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS, TO LOSE SOMEONE IN SUCH A TRAGIC WAY AS URSELF, IT IS EXTREMEMLY DIFFICULT FOR ALL THOSE CLOSE TO UR BROTHER\ni feel that it could be for 2 reasons...\n(1) youre having a very difficult time with his death , as anyone would, and it may help to talk to a family member or close friend about ur brother and see if that stops the dream, or...\n(2) which i feel more stronger about...i know most people dont believe this stuff, but your brother may be trying to tell you something. my guess is if someone in the family, close to you ...or you yourself, may not be feeling well,  he may be telling you  to get checked out by a dr. IVE HAD THIS EXPERIENCE...ive also lost someone close to my in a mva, and she gave me a "spiritual message" and i wound up being very ill..i am not a religous person, and i dont go to church on sunday, however i am very sprirital.
646464
When I was 21 yrs old I lost four ppl I loved deeply in a house fire.  I learned from that to never take anyone for granted and to truly enjoy life when it is good.
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you don't say how old you are now, not that it matters.  However, I would suggest additional counseling for it seems to me that you still have unresolved grief.\n\nI am deeply sorry for your tremendous loss and hope that one day while you may never be able to forget, you can at least find peace.
213462
honey let me tell you something ok if you blame yourself stop doing that it ain't your fault ok. let the pain go away and remember the good times you guys had together keep the memories in your heart and never let them go. always see it this way God needed him to be an angel and that is what he is always now he is in a way better place and looking down on you and the family. I am really srry you had to go threw this and my heart goes out to you and your family and you all will be in my prayers as well take care of yourself.
177650
Well, first of all he is the one who put you out.  Why should he care how you got there?  Sounds like you are on your own now.  I am so sorry you are going through someting like this.  Stay safe and keep in touch, okay?
464068
I saw my brother last year for the first time in 19 years.  I love him but his problems were my problems and I left the state and moved down south away from all my family so I could start a new life. I miss him every day.  That's kind of sad...)(
181439
Whoa!  I hope for you that is is purely theoretical.  Find a decent place to relocate.  Contact your insurance company and make sure you know who on the fire department is investigating your case.  Make sure you know what they find.  Whether or not it was your fault the home owner (if you rent) my try to hold you liable.  Contact red cross for any assistance they might be able to provide.  If you lost your phone and don't have a cell phone, get a cheap pay as you go phone.  You will be making more calls now than in the course of your life prior.  Contact the local place of worship for any help they can give.  Accept help but watch out for loans.  You are not in the right state of mind for signing contracts.\nGood luck
776914
know what dont give up to search in computer(internet) about fire becuse im sure that you can get it. just try and try. or ask the web or type in the web search "how fire hurts...
186579
That is really sad. He is your brother and you cannot encourage whatever it is that is not ''brotherly''  about him. Did your brother tell you that his counsellor said nothing is wrong with him ??? Either he is lying to you, or the counsellor himself needs a bit of counselling. Get him to see someone else, together. Be present with him while counselling. Your brother and you got to know each others existance only in 2001, when you both got to know that you are sister and brother. Which means there were no reasons for him to think otherwise, i assume. That is, you both havent seen each other before you knew that he was your brother or he knew that u were his sister. So the meeting itself started of as a brother-sister meeting....its not like you guys dated, or met each other frequently where he could develop such feelings and its absolutely normal cos' he didnt know he was ur sister...So stop him. Make him understand that you havea  family of your own and that he is your blood relation, own brother, from the same womb. \n\nIf he fails to still respect, threaten him that he will lose a sister and a good freind. When you reach your wits end, just ignore him and shut him away from your life. You have tried your best and you lived without a 'brother' till 2001, so it should not make a difference for you and get bothered too much where there will be heartaches, confusing situations and finally lose each other anyway. Move on. Once he comes in terms with the reality that you are his SISTER, you could maybe open your doors to him..till then keep away..thats what i think !\n\ngood luck!