Are there tips to being less shy around people?
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It's nothing more than forcing yourself to go talk to people. When you say you're not particularly shy, you mean you are shy but you can tolerate being around people. It's nothing more than making yourself go out and be around people and talking to them, even if you don't want to.
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You have to compensate body weaknesses by your personality. Although it depends on the case, I think it might be easier to work on your shyness than on your weight.\n\nIn life, you'll meet people that like you and other that don't. So go ahead, show who you are, without caring about the people that won't like you... that's inherent to life and happens to every single person in  this world!! But being shy and transparent won't help you, you won't even let the chance to others to like you or not!!
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Hi LittleLisa,\n  Being shy is a good thing, but if your too shy and have difficulties making friends, may I suggest you take a acting, speaking or singing class, either at school or afterschool. It will be a little hard at first, but as each day goes by you will become less and less shy. Before you know it you will be chatting up a storm with everyone and anyone. Hopefully not to the point where people are saying, "Oh shut up Lisa." Go get'em Lisa.
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just slowy open up to the ppl. u love. ur close friends or friends that when ur alone w/them u guys hang out how is ur action to them do the same to others. dont be shy just think it wont help if u r shy right. be urself and open up to everyone not just the guy u like
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I'm very shy always have been.\n\nFunny thing is people think I'm outgoing, yet I often struggle as a quiet 3rd wheel in many interactions.\n\nHe should take a public speaking course.  (Check the Internet for a Toastmasters Chapter).  Although I've never been a part of that group, I understand it to be an excellent way to build even a little self-confidence, and to meet a few people.\n\nIn social situations, he can begin with a firm handshake.  A common interest item should be used for an ice breaker.  \n\nAt work, or school, he should enter the NCAA bracket contests.  Even if he is not a fan, it is an opportunity to talk about SOMETHING with people.  Events like that break social and sexual lines.\n\nHe needs to start small.  Build confidence, thick skin (not a thick head, though), and maintain a sense of humor.\n\nGood luck
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go somewhere u have something on common with other ppl and say hi i know ur shy but trust me i used to b shy till i made it though college and got tired of it surprisingly ppl dont mind you talking to them as long as u have something in common \n\n\noh there is some pill for it too (imagine that) but seriously its for ppl with social anxiety disorder
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What helped me was someone telling me that shyness is really a form of self-centeredness. If you think about it, people you encounter don't really care even a fraction as much as you do about how you come across. They have their own problems, concerns, etc. to think about. In fact, many of them are probably shy themselves but may be a little bit better at hiding it. \n\nIn group situations, shyness is a form of selfishness. You've got a lot to offer (your unique outlook, life experiences, advice, etc.) and to withhold it from others is selfish. So resolve to share more of what you have instead of keeping it to yourself...thats one way of overcoming it.\n\nOne of my friends joined Toastmasters International. Its an organization with social events in which people take turns giving toasts--its good practice for public speaking, especially when you realize how many people are also nervous and shy about expressing themselves! Similarly, you can sign up for acting/improvisation workshops. You can learn techniques there to get over your self-imposed inhibitions as well as how to be and project an image of being open and outgoing (one tip: learning to listen to others and respond accordingly.)\n\nGood luck!
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For the shy male, start with the internet. This type of forum lends itself greatly to those who lack social skill. True personality decides how the relationship works. The level of safety depends on what you are willing to reveal about yourself. If someone is interested in you, you may have major keyboard time ahead of you. \n\nRelax and be yourself. People can sense when you have bad intentions or if you're not being genuine. Start off with friendly conversation. Don't force your way into someone's personal life. If they want to talk about it with you, they will.\n\nThink about what you have to offer in a relationship. People who can make people feel good about themselves have a better chance of maintaining a relationship.
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Shyness is all in the mind. I should know... I'm a shy type of person myself. An people think that I'm a snob because of this. The best thing to do is develop self-confidence and try to mingle with people. Just always remember that we are all born equal... So you don't have to be shy in front of a stranger because we are all human beings dwelling in this world. And whenever you found yourself being shy, try to think that you are not. Remember, what you think about yourself reflects... Smile!
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smile, be a good listener, don't get into peoples personal space, have empathy, don't spread gossip, be genuine, do not put on airs. a few  examples that will help.\ntake your worst personality trait and replace it with a good personality trait.
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Maybe you have to work on your self. \nWhat i mean is, if you are not sure on how you look that would make you shy when you have to go to a party, or a club. So you can start by looking at fashion magazines to find the clothes you like and combine, and try combining your clothes and using more accesories, try all of that at home, see your self in the mirror, till you find the way you feel better.\nIf you are shy cause dont know what to talk about, you can read a little more, watch movies, read and see tv news so you know always subject that are IN.\nIf you are not satisfied at work or at school, maybe you need to improve it, find out some other issues you want to learn and take some courses. \nFinally, if you dont really have any of those problems, maybe you dont have to worry to much to live a low profile life, while you are satisfied, it must be enougth to have a plenty life.
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go to groups, like drama groups or other actives that you like and introduce yourself to people there.  But you have to be outgoing, because if you don't make to first move to say "hi" people will just think that you don't want to hang out with them!  Hope this helped and goodluck!
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Hi there!\n\nI was terribly shy all through elementary school, middle school and high school. I think the main causes for mine were partly it was my personality, but also we moved alot, my dad was in military and i suffered some serious abuse from a young age...\n\nThese are some things that helped me and I hope they help you. First, I forced myself to take a public speaking class in high school and to get a job dealing with the public. It was very scary at the time and hard, but it did help me to start overcoming the shyness. Don't stay away from social situations, place yourself in them so you get used to talking, socializing etc...\n\nDon't think you are weird or strange for being so shy. Many teenagers and grownups as well suffer from shyness to some extent. Mainly it is caused because we want to be liked, want to say the right thing and are afraid we won't. I know when i was a teenager i was very afraid of boys because i didn't know what to talk to them about, when i finally started talking to them i found out they weren't that much different from the girls i was talking too. As you get older, you tend to lose some of the shyness, because you are working, maturing, extending your experiences and with confidence developed out of those situations you lose that insecurity. \n\nI know that you must have hope. If you had seen how shy i was at your age (I couldn't even go to a store and make a purchase that is how bad it was). I never looked anyone in the eye, etc...And now I am 49 years old, never meet a stranger and a people person! \n\nMy friends say that people gravitate towards me and everyone likes me. You know why? Because i always remember how it felt to feel uncomfortable, shy and out of control/insecure - those feelings have made me an empathetic person and i try to put people at ease when we meet. I give them a big smile, am friendly, ask questions about them to show i am interested in them and this makes them feel good! So use your shyness as a tool. First, remember that we are all insecure and scared in certain situations - I mean how many people do you know that hate public speaking? We all want to be accepted and liked and then just get out there and take chances and try to turn your shyness around - don't worry only about you try to focus on the other person and make them feel at ease...see what happens!\nIdentify the reasons you think you are shy and wk on changing them as well...\nDon't give up you sound like a great person and it takes time.\n\nsincerely,\nalaska friend
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First, make the decision that you are not going to be shy.  Believing that you are shy, or somehow not as worthy as others around you will make you continue to be shy.\n\nSecond, start slowly, by giving yourself an assignment.  Try making small talk to one new person.  Practice at home when you are alone, so you have some things ready to say.\n\nThird, try finding an activity that interests you, so you will meet people with the same interest.  Then you have a topic to start talking about.\n\nThat is how I overcame my shyness.  (It also helped when I turned forty and stopped caring what other people thought about me!)
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Look for a friendly face, make eye contact and smile, if they smile back you can just go over and say hi :) or maybe they will come over :) don't worry about it, it's ok to be shy, just find a way that works for you ^_^
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relax and be urself. u will feel less shy later
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Do some self assertion classes, they really help you cope with shyness...;\n\nSteer clear of the alcohol suggestion, you could end up with more problems than just shyness!!!