How can anybody stay angry or sad, when the BANJO is being played?
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It is IMPOSSIBLE to be sad when a banjo is playing!
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I think there might be a way to let his anger out, and not hurt anyone. Is he creative? Let him express his anger by painting, drawing, or writing. Is he athletic? He can let go of his boxed up emotions by boxing, swimming, or maybe track.\n\nIt all depends on what his hobbies are. Maybe he might be better off talking about it, or maybe just doing something else I haven't suggested. I'm the same way, but I've taken up writing. \n\nIf you have any questions, feel free to e-mail me.
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I'm sorry for your loss, Puddin tain. I think that everyone grieves in their own way, and there are many responses people have to a loved one's death. There may be a time when you will need to cry about this, but it may not happen for a while. I don't think that you are a bad person.\n\nIf you are concerned about others' opinions of you because you are smiling, I wouldn't be. If you loved your grandfather, don't worry about smiling. Perhaps he gave you many reasons to smile. If you feel the need to, share with others how you feel about your grandfather. They will understand your words, if not your facial expression.\n\nWhen my grandmother died, we played some polka music at her graveside. I got up and started dancing. Others joined me in dancing to it. She LOVED polka music and it gave her joy to dance to it. Was it cold to dance "on" someone's grave? Not in this case. It was done out of love and respect, not anger or revenge.\n\nAre you "cold" for not crying but smiling? No, I don't think so.
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Take a pillow, put it over your face and scream as loud as you can (this helps me a lot) or write out your feelings in a journal or a letter to the person that is making you so angry or upset, then burn it. If you need someone to talk to feel free to email me. I went through a lot of things when I was a teen and may be able to help. I wish you the best and I will pray for you.
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You need to let what's on the inside come out.  In other words, you need to vent this pent up frustration/emotion otherwise it will eat away at you until it eventually will vent of its own accord when you least want it to (i.e. you will snap at someone, or will break down in tears, etc).\nA good way to vent frustration is to do some physical exercise, like visit a gym.  Or failing that, just beat seven shades of sh*t out of your pillow, that might help!
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This works for me:\nI go to a quiet place and I analyze why they upset me. (For this you must be true to yourself or it won't work).\n\nWhen I know why, I decide if I wish to continue the relationship or not.\n\nIf I wish to continue - I determine if there is something I need to do.  It may be to talk calmly to them or to ignore the situation.\n\nHowever most times when people affect me physically as you feel, I cut them out of my life all together.  The situation never gets better and I just get sicker.  Cutting them out always works for me.\n\nGood luck and feel better.
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Get busy with something.\nWrite a novel.\nWork or study harder.\nGet involved with a charity project.\nAnything - but be busy - your problem is not love but an unresolved situation that takes time to get used to.\nThe more you dwell the more maudlin you get.\nBut if you enjoy the maudlin side of life... listen to The Smiths, Morrisey....\n\nAnd if it is any consolation your situation is not uncommon...
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You can't stop it, because your human. At least I can't stop it, especially when I am really angry. But what helps is if you just count to 10 slowly and just breath in and out. That's stops me for a couple of minutes, enough for the people in my way can get away from me.
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the best thing to do is to stop letting people bother you. if you don't you'll spen most of your time upset. that's no fun is it?\n\nmy moto "Please don't give me a hard time. My stomach hurts me when I laugh too much." :)
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Why are you sad? Is something bothering you? Seems like you need to talk to someone.Sad songs are okay to listen to. But if you are crying all the time, then there is an underlying condition. Please confide in a friend or parent. Things will get better. Talk to someone and get your feelings out in the open. Good luck, sweetie.
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Go to Yahoo Groups and look through the groups with "banjo," "Bluegrass," or "Bill Monroe," in the title or content, each separately, and contact them!\n\nThen, go to elderly.com and perhaps call them, or just find the tab on the site.\n\nThen go to folkmusic.org and see what you can find.  Maybe folkmusic.com, also?\n\nThen ask the people (Jody & George) at pickinparlor.net.\n\nThese are good bluegrass sources.  Have you done a web search simply for the title of the song?  I'll bet that there's a good amount of Bill Monroe related websites where there are tabs for many tunes.  Look at drbanjo.com?\nMaybe it's doctorbanjo.com.  Maybe do a web search for him.  He's Pete Wernick, the famous bluegrass banjo player.\n\nHope this helps.  I would send you the tab, if I played bluegrass; I play old-time style banjo, and love bluegrass!\n- Matookie
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Have a candle-lit bath, with bubbles and candles, dim the lights and just soak. It's really relaxing, it may sound kiddish but it really works. After light some candles and insence and settle down on the couch and just take deep breathes and maybe watch some soaps or feel-good movies or chick flicks, not anything too dramatic and violent but something that you like and makes you feel good. Another thing is that you should do what you like! whats your hobby? for example, I love horsebackriding, so I might go on a nice peaceful trail in the woods  for an hour to calm down and realize life is a good thing. Or if your a painter, start painting! you could even make crafts, which actually allows you to express your anger on paper and your work, instead of other people and your mind, self confidence and yourself. Go scream on your pillow! if you just feel like screaming, go right ahead. Thats what I do when I'm frustrated angry and confused. It really helps get the stress out. You could bang stuff around scream and shout and tell everybody to just get away from you. We all understand. Or, what I do is put a favourite CD on and sing along like nobody's listening. It helps alot. Or sometimes I call a friend and we talk for hours, and it keeps your mind off things, or you could go to the mall and shop. Shopping cures anything! lol. Something else is to make yourself beautiful, dress up, do your make-up, paint your nails, it keeps you consuntraited and focussed on one thing at a time. You should also spend time with your family or friends. Family and friends really helps in these situations. You should also call up people your might have angered, and say your sorry and for them to forgive you. It will make you feel alot better and less upset. Hope ive given you some ideas, and i hope this day really turns better for you!
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Play games and release my anger! RAUUGH!
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listen to some music, jump around the room like a chipmunk on speed. take it easy, let urself be in a grump if it needs to be. DONT hurt urself, among others it will make this time harder to forget when its over. take care x x
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I had this before, and it ended up the teacher lost it and i was taken  out of the class. You just be calm and patient, keep a diary of any inappropriate comments they make and dont retaliate. Make indifferent answers and refuse to play the games. If you get angry calm yourself immediatly by concentrating on something else and breathing deeply. If they lay a finger on you, shout and pull back but dont push them.\nHope this helps.
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I write a lot when I am angry.  It helps me to get everything down on paper so I can really see what is going on.\nAsk yourself WHY are you angry and if the anger is worth the emotional energy you are putting into it.  Be honest with yourself, which is hard to do.\nDo you talk to whomever made you angry or are you just keeping it a secret?  Talking with them may help you.  They may not know they did anything to upset you.  But don't be confrontational about it.  That puts them on the defensive and makes them harder to talk to.\n\nRemember these three things:\n\n1)  S**t happens, life goes on.  EVERYONE on the planet has had bad stuff happen, and life still goes on.\n\n2)  Don't sweat the small stuff and everything is small stuff.\n\n3)  Will it really matter 100 years from now?
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I wish my loud-music-playing neighbor were reading this so he could understand why it's so darn annoying.\n\nIt doesn't matter how stressful your day was. Turning up your music loudly to relieve YOUR stress is selfish and inconsiderate. Doing that is like saying it doesn't matter how it affects anyone else as long as YOU feel better. You should either use earphones or find something else that helps you relieve stress.