I am a divorcee but loves a guy who is younger?
607775
Hi, i can understand the phase u r going through, what i feel is be practical and just forget him or else u will ruin ur life for nothing. Stand on ur own feet, don't beg for him, u r just pampering his male ego, u said he is marwari then just forget it, these people are like this only, they do anything out but when thinking abt marriage they will support their family's decision. Don't waste ur life show him u r not dependent on him, there must be somebody for u a good person who can really love u and take care of u but for that u have to come out of this phase on ur own, u will be successful just have faith in Shree Sai Baba, he helps out everyone. All the best!
976646
u should keep Ur personal life away from Ur professional life. don't mix them up & as u said that he is 42 and married then u should not think that way.\nhe is secured in his life & if u have a relation with him in future with his consent even then ur relation as well as ur future will always be insecured.\nthe right way is to forget him & wait for the right person to approach u.
390783
I understand that you're worry about if he isn't mature enough and ready to face a life time marriage. I would say it's something that you should consider about but not to judge a person through his/her age. If you two have already got to the step that which is going to marry then you should know your future husband better. I don't know how well you two know about each other but I wouldn't recommend a rush relationship, especially marriage. Age wouldn't be a matter in a relationship which is cause by love, you should take a closer look to this person, find out if he would be the one that can love you, accept you and willing to cooperate with you to operate a life time marriage. If the answer that he give to you is "yes" and he has already proved to you, you mustn't stop.
127654
Im 29yrs old and speaking as someone older i have this advice for you. Leave age out of it. Your older than legal age so it is not of concern. How do YOU feel about him? Really. if you love him, see where it leads. make sure he treats you right!! I had a friend who was 19 at the time and married a guy 29. they just had there first child - still very much in love. it depends on the situation. one step at a time. see where it leads and make sure he treats you right.
27973
my husband is 5 years younger than me. and we get along just fine. if you feel you have the capacity to be with an older woman go ahead that means you may be really mature
61561
Who cares what others think.  If you and he both think it will work out, than it will.  If he treats you and your kids great... wonderful!  Maybe he seemed mature before because you didn't know him very much, or maybe he was depressed, and now that he knows you, he feels like he can really be himself and have fun.  I wouldn't worry about anything.  Sounds just fine to me.
764544
well dear , i think you are still too young , he is already 13 years older than you even though the age doesn't matter SOMETIMES, but you both can not be like each other much , because he is nearly grown man and your so young . And its very soon for you to start relationship with a man , am sure when you get older ; your ideals will be changed , and may be you will regret for choosing him and may be not as well. As you know relationship in young ppl would be ended very soon, because its not strong love , and no enough reason , most of them are sensitive decisions. And  i think its better you fall in love slowly but sensibly \n, if you do that your Love will grow by age and your relationship would not be finished so quickly and nothing can disturb this.\n\nGood Luck darling
641725
Sounds like a delimma...Do what is in your heart.  You can date the new guy while keeping in contact with the old guy.  Just be honest about things.  Sometimes you really like people at first but it fades.  My man I met when I was 13 it was long distance.  We finally hooked up when I was 19 and have been together 16 years.. good luck.  There is no wrong choice
366747
Yes, you're like me and I married a younger man too.  But the age thing we've learned to make a joke of now - we were 29 and 31 when we met, so perhaps age has something to do with the way we handled it.\n\nI still refer to him as my toy boy sometimes, and tell him ke's got to keep fit in order to push me round in my wheelchair.\n\nGirls mature faster than boys, and I just think he has a little catching up to do.  But don't tell him that, whatever you do! ;-)
405683
if you and this guy are in a relationship, i thimk it's awesome that he steps up and plays with your child.  If your not planing a long term relationship with this guy then he might get attached and be heartbroken.
94821
No, you don't love both of them.  You may like both of them but you don't truely love both of them.  The fact that he is your sons father shouldn't play a role in this decision because your not currently together.  So do what is really in your heart and what is best for your life.
152885
Well, from a legal stand point it is perfectly fine to be dating him. You do need to consider though, his experience in life vs your own. Chances are he has done a lot more living then you have. In the begining your age differences may not effect your relationship much, but in time he could become possesive and controlling and try to stop you from living your young carefree life. Wanting to settle down ect... I watched this happen to my sister, and before she knew what was happening she felt stuck, and had a baby, and he had her convinced that she was nothing without him, often using his experience in life against her youhful ways. She did finally get out, after a few years, but now she is a single mom trying to make a life for her and her child and this guy is still a thorn in her side and will be for the rest of her life since she shares a child with him. While you might be thinking this would never happen to me, once upon a time my sister thought the same thing. Be careful & good luck.
102529
I believe age has no difference when it comes to loving someone. If you're married and have no intention to part with your present wife, don't make any promises to that girl which you can't keep. If you're single and this romance might develop into something else, do go ahead and don't let this chance pass by you. I have a son with a man who's 20 years older than me. He was lying to me about being divorced and we spend 2 years living together as man and wife. When I had a baby, I found out he was married and had a wife in another country. We're no longer together, but I tell you age has nothing to do with this. I love every moment we spent together except for his lies that screwed up my whole life. Don't do this to the girl you liked, but definitely enjoy every moment of this feeling if it's rightfully yours regardless of the age difference. Good luck! Nika
731167
Here's one for you, I'm 25, and my boyfriend, whom I've been with for almost a year now.. is 18. And believe it or not, it works amazingly well, I've never been happier and he's far more mature and loving than my ex-husband ever was (and he's my same age). How many 18 year olds do you know who fall in love with divorced women with two kids? LOL He's really amazing.\n\nI don't think age makes too much of a difference, as long as you're both LEGAL.\n\nAlso a friend of mine's fiance is eleven years older and they've been together for years, even have a child together.
480523
hi Jennifer, i think this man loves u but he has a problem with u so whenever u get closer to him he feels like doing something to u. just find the right time and talk things over. but please do it in a respectful manner. and also about the divorce do not think about that yet cos you have children with this man so if u go ahead with it, it will affect your children. but if things gets out of hand u better live before he harms u.
249764
Congrats! I too am 40 and single again and almost from the gitgo found the perfect man.....he was thoughtful , he brought flowers, he held my hand, was every bit the gentleman, and we fell for each other at hyper speed,two days later he said i hope this is not to fast for you, but i love you,  i asked him if he would like to get married in 2007 three days after i met him and he said yes. That was june 2005.....3 days after my divorce became final.The wedding is may of "o7 and if you just treat her like you want to be treated and be considerate you will have no troubles. Good Luck!
126502
You feel that you love this older woman the question is, is it love or purely obession to something about her. I feel that it could be love. Most younger men are attracted to older women.\n\nIm 32 and I know that when I divorced several years ago I had alot of male friends alot of younger ones. Seemed like the younger ones would find me no matter what. I did date a guy who was 18 at the time and I was 25 it was a beautiful realationship but I knew that he needed to finish college and have a chance at life. He didnt need my life not that my life was bad!! I just was 25 and was divorced with 3 children! But my ex cheated on me all the time and I finally found out and wasnt going to tolerate it!! Anyhow this guy needed to expierence life without me. Shortly after we split up about six months I met another man who I have been married to now for five years!!\n\nAll Im saying is Im sure that she hears what you are saying but is probably not wanting to pursue anything serious cause she wants to give you space and time to live your life. If I can be of any futher help just email. Good Luck and keep us posted.