I've just asked my ex back, even tho i know he does not want to!!?
610109
been there done that...and all i can say is that no matter what others say this is really something you have to get over yourself\n\ni went out with the same guy three different times over two and a half years. he cheated on me every single time and still i kept going back. finally after the third time something clicked. i was ready to marry this guy, i had the ring and everything. after the third time, i would hang out with him because i figured i could be just friends but that didnt work.\n\ni still think about him, i still love him, but i am happily married to the greatest guy in the world. the only thing that helped was time, and my own determination.\n\ngood luck
399514
if you really want him back too, i suggest you do..but if not, tell him straight out..i also suggest you rush thinking about it because if you take too long, he might pick up and leave, something you might not want to happen..
224101
Why would you want him back?? I am sorry, but he seems to have proved that he is untrustworthy, and a creep. I know it hurts, but put him behind you and move on with life. You will meet someone one day that would never think of walking out on you...you deserve a true love, don't settle for less.
1130437
I think you should call him. But don't be like, "I made a mistake, I want you back." Because any normal person is not going to take you back & not have any grudges. He might be like, "Yeah, she want's me back, so now that I've got her, I'm going to make her suffer a little bit so she will not do this to me again. She made me hurt, I'll make her hurt." and although he may want you back just as much as you want him, he could ACT like he could care less & keep you hanging. Soooo, I would call him, ask him how he is doing, and start a nice conversation. Tell him that although you broke up with him, you still love him as a person & you want to be friends. Then let things maybe slowly grow back into a relationship & tell him after he's not mad & hurt anymore that you made a mistake. But you really can't listen to anyone but yourself, If you feel like you should tell him what a mistake you made now, do it. Everyone's relationship trials are different. And since no one knows this guy, no one on here will know how he will react except for you. So go by that... If things don't work out, or if he refuses to take you back, just remember it wasn't meant to be & it just means there is someone else out there even better. But before you do anything, you need to review why you dumped him in the 1st place, if your friends don't like him & say he is a jerk or something, try seeing thier side. But only you will know if he is right for you. I know a lot of people say my boyfriend is a jerk, but we have been together for 8 years and I KNOW he is not. Doubt and insecurities about you guys relationship will only make it end again. So make sure you resolve all issues before you get back together. Good luck!!!
747736
Parkfield, I'm talking to you from the guy's perspectives. The first and the greatest sign is that he deliberately won't like to communicate with you anymore - in all ramifications of the word. Then, you need to act fast if you want to have him back to yourself. Cheers!!!
735145
Sounds like he's playing games with you. I wouldn't be so quick to take him back and see what he does then. I think he knows that you will take him back and that is why he is doing this. Guys will do what you let them.  Put a stop to it and let him wait it out, or just let him go. You don't need your emotions messed with like that.
741399
He didnt seem to treat you very well hun, you obviously had problems within the relationship, did you try telling him how you felt or did you just split up with him without discussing how he made you feel?\nIf you want him back then you need to talk to him but this time make sure that you tell him how you feel, take control a little.\nIf he only wants you back on the same terms as you had before then it's obvious that he is just using you hun.\nTry talking , but it does sound like he was using you a little.\nDont let him rule when you do things, be brave , ask for what you want when you want it, if he says no then cut your losses and find someone who truely appreciates you.\nGood luck, hope all works out ok for you.
852422
DROP HIM SWEETIE! IT SEEMS LIKE TO ME HE'S PLAYING GAMES.  IT'S OBVIOUS HE STILL HAS FEELINGS FOR HIS EX AND I BELIEVE HE WANTS TO CUT YOU LOOSE BECAUSE HE WANTS TO TRY AND WORK THINGS OUT WITH HER.  YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT.  YOU SHOULD HAVE SOMEONE WHO IS DEDICATED TO YOU AND YOU ONLY.
1048513
Would you want to be with someone who did not love you back? If he used the excuse that he thought you were playing him to back of on the relationship then he is  a loser anyway! Move on with your life. You are better off!
168306
Been there, done that. It's funny how our minds and emotions can ruin a good thing. One thing that I hightly recomend is getting your self esteem up. It's tough, but once you are sure and proud of who you are, you don't loose that. As for getting your ex back. It may or may not happen. Give him his space now, thats is what he wants. If for some reason he also has a change of heart, you 2 can work things out then. But for now, respect his decision. Take care babe, im rooting for ya :)
560607
I think both of you need a serious talk. If he says his feelings decreased but he says he made a huge mistake you need to ask how he feels now. Cause if he doesn't want to be with you in that way, you're only torturing yourself by hanging out with him and talking to him on the phone. If he feels that he wants to get back together then he should tell you when both of you have your serious talk. If he says he needs to think about it and you want to wait then don't pressure him. Show interest but not insecurity. I know it would be hard to stop talking to someone that you love if it wont work out. But sometimes you need your heart to hurt a little bit so it would heal. Just keep yourself busy. If it's meant to be then it will happen. There's plenty other relationship experience's that you will go through and not all of them will work even though your certain they're the one. And yes, I'm telling you this from personal experience. Good luck...
1023159
first ask yourself whether u really want him back or is it again "just attraction".think over watever happened whether it is bound to happen again to bring back the same situation.....find out whether he's also feeling the same burn as u r or did he royally ditch you for no reason?...dont get baffled  up by such situations..keep your cool.....u never know..might be.. he is really in need of you.
306054
Forget about her!!! I've had the same situation with this guy, until I finally said to myself, Hey! What am I doing here? He doesn't deserve me and I'm not going to wait forever! I shoudn't be running after him he should be running after me! And if he's gonna want me back, it's too late for that! And guess what? He wantd me back. And I didn't. That's what you should do. Have some dignity MAN!
106789
Back when I was an bad boy before I decided to settle down, I would say I wasn't ready to commit. What this really ment was I was after someone else and when that didn't work out I'd exploit my ex by keeping in contact as a back up plan. You can give him a chance but at the first sign of uncertinty I'd toss him cause it will just be a cycle of heartache if you don't
1143029
...Men are strange beings.. but yeah that does suck.. I'd be askin some questions that is for sure.  I wouldn't beg him back or anything.. because who wants to be with someone that doesn't want to be with them.. But tell him.. you deserve an answer.. and then let him be on his way.  If he broke up with you that way.. he doesn't seem like he was a very good catch anyway.  Hope things go well :-)  .. and not every guy is like that.. I promise, you'll find a good one.
376714
This sounds more like it's confusing than like an actual problem.\n\nTry to relax and let your ex make up his mind.  He's obviously not sure what he wants at this point.
829546
cause it was his birthday. or maybe he regretted saying no to you, and hes trying to get u back. dont give it too much thought. just see what his next actions will be nd judge from there