Do you believe it is true what sociologists say about couples who live together before marriage?
599739
Irrespective of what socialogists may say, a man and woman living together before(or after) marriage is a pleasure, a pleasure for some time.
121163
DON'T MOVE IN WITH HIM!!!  I am working on becoming a social worker.  You don'w know how bad it is for a relationship when the couple lives together.  Only 5% of the couples that live together before marriage actually make it to the wedding day.  If you want a serious relationship, don't move in with her.
506876
My boyfriend and I are both divorced, and we're both a little marriage shy, so I totally understand your problem.  I want to know why 2 years is such a long time before you get married?  Most marriages are dissolved after a couple years because the people didn't know each other, I hear constantly "Well, we got married and I found out......"  That is not how marriage should be.  If you are going to spend the rest of your life with a person, you should know them in and out beforehand.  I'm a firm beleiver in living together before marriage.  Try that for a year or so, if you guys are still madly in love then you can START talking about marriage.
433329
is that when people are married in the internet world, but not actually in the real world? interesting concept
582704
I believe in sex before marriage. I don't believe people should just sleep around though. If you've been with a person for awhile and truly loves them, I think it's ok to have sex.
225484
I don't know honey, I feel the same way, its like they are programed to be that way.  It seems that they feel after they get married than they don't have to keep things the way they were before marriage cause they've already got claim on you.
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IMO... our lives are much more complex than our equivalents from 50 years ago and thus it's more likely for married people to grow in different directions over time (values, needs, etc.). Add to that how easy and acceptable it is to get a divorce, and how quick we are to dispose of things that we no longer want, and you get an increasing percentage.\nI wouldn't be surprised if in the not too distant future the average length of a marriage drops to ~5 years and the average number of marriages per person increases to 2+.\nA parallel to consider: how many different circles of friends do you have and how often have you joined new ones and left others behind over your life? (grade school, high school, college, jobs, etc.). We are a nomadic species. :)
546278
I used to believe it was quite archaic. I always believed in love, and considered it the prime motivaton for marriage. I believed it was the couples sole decision, and no other enity should be involved.  However, as time progessed, my feelings have changed.  In AMERICA, the divorce rate is 50%.  Somethings wrong with the system. I'm rethinking the idea of planned marriages.  They seem to last quite a bit longer.
247284
I am going to live with my boyfriend soon. And I would not want to be married before having lived together for at least a couple of years.\nBut hmm 14 years, that is a long time. Maybe he is just one of those millions of people that does not value the institute of marriage.
661760
that is probably true-sex before marriage is wrong there.
636308
i know. only in a dictionary the word divorce comes before marriage
32781
Yes and No, it depends on the length of the time apart and how much you two trust each other. My husband and i were apart for about a year before getting married, it worked out cause we were in touch almost every day which helps a lot by building trust and maintaining it.
507864
No. The big issues are what they always have been. What do you expect out of the marriage? Are you a good match? Do you love one another? Are you passionate together?  etc.
990592
I am not positive what you are asking.  Are you asking if it is human nature for a woman to want a husband to be social and a man to want a wife to be more of a home-oriented person?  If so...\n\nAbsolutely not. It is true that people who grow up together in groups(we all do--that's what your community is, a group) often have alot in common, but there is still a good deal of variety everywhere.  Also, it should be remembered that what people want and what their group allows or encourages them to do are not always the same.
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Living together is NOT a committment.  When you live together, you are actually saying, "I may love you now, but at least I can leave when and if I want to, without all the hassle that married folks go through.  Besides, living with you proves that what is mine, is mine.  I don't HAVE to share with YOU."  Marriage means that this is the person you love enough to commit to.  This is the person you share with (what is mine, is ours, and what is yours is ours).  This is the person you want to go through the hard times, hurt times, poor times, and boring times with.  It's not just about children, but is about committing enough to commit in front of the world.  It isn't about the paper, it is about what that paper signifies.
538294
Yes. Otherwise, couples would go their seperate ways when things got hard, instead of making it work. Marriage is a rational decision you make to be with 1 person, even if it gets hard. Think about a world full of broken homes, with only one parent. That would be reality without marriage.
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I don't agree....some relationships just aren't meant to be, it has nothing to do with moving in with each other before marriage. I honestly think living together before marriage is a good thing because you get to know the person and figure out if you are going to work out. It better than running off to Vegas getting married in t-shirt and jeans to someone you barely know. Marriage is sacred, it should not be rushed.