i am with som1 that i love but in love with som1 else. what do i do?
601951
when i first started to date my husband i loved someone else , but he loved me too.  the only problem was he was married to my sister and he loved her too.  he told me that he loved her only because they had kids with each other and you always feel for the mother of your children no matter what anyone might say it has to hurt the one your with to now your heart is not all there.  i rally don't now what to tell you because i haven't figured out for myself , but if letting her go makes he happy then that's something you might want to look into.  goood luck
521999
Here's the problem.  Another person can not make you feel alive.  The thrill of infatuation may be getting you excited but once your together that original rush will fade just as it did with your wife.  What you need to do is take responsibility for your own feelings and emotions.  You feel dead? So do something about it.  Spend more time with your family, get a hobby, take some self help classes or get therapy.  This other woman may make you happy for a moment, but if you want to be truly happy it has to come from within.\nHopefully one of those things that will make you happy is not tearing apart your children's home for an infatuation.
796985
follow you heart . it is impossible to love 2 peoples at the same level. so listen to your heart
198476
your in love when you cant see yourself without them. they become the other half of you.your goals and life paths are intertwined.
554738
hi,first of all u knew from the start that what you did was wrong.i think you love him and i think u see something that u did'nt see in other man but u need to accept the truth that he will not be your's forever.he already belong to someone else and i think what should u do is to hang-out with your friends and meet people and try to forget him and someday the right guy will come along and you will be surprise.have faith and respect to yourself.u deserve to be happy! and there are millions of guy in this world so don't waste your beauty and time to him.goodluck
219962
I am going through the same deal, except I am no where close to the love part yet. It is difficult to lay yourself out on a line when your not certain they feel the same. I am beginning to understand you just have to take that plunge if you care enough that it worries you and your ready to express it. I need to take my own advice.
587911
You need to be honest to the guy you are with and let him go don't lie to him, if you say you love the other guy then go with him, it is obvious you know what you want, don't waste you time and his time by staying with him knowing you do not love him, I hope you make a decision soon. Good Luck
161068
Of course you can love them both.......But you will have to love one better than the other. You will have to make a choice sooner or later as to which you love better. I imagine you made wedding vows to your wife. Did you promise your coworker anything? Who did you make promises to first? Will you have to break your promises to one of them in order to continue loving the other? If you think you can love them both the same, you can't.
365381
wow, well who do u really like?? who do u want to be with?? talk to them both cuz talking to just one could cause a small problem
1067797
get him out of your head.then just wait for the real love which is a shared feeling of love not by one partner of the two.you might meet a better person who cares 4 you. Also, you CAN'T force this guy to love you even if you tell him about your feelings.cause your feelings are your responsibility& he's not accountable 4 them.Telling him would just make the things worse.so don't tell him.Just wait my baby I'm sure you will meet so many better guys & then you'll ask yourself "what was the thing that attracted me to him".there's so much good is waiting 4 u.
463734
"To thine own self be true".........Find something else that you love and do that.  Painting,  walking, writing......find it, drown yourself in it and you will be amazed at how productive you can be and what you will be able to produce given that you put your passion for this man into something else you love.
165086
if you and this 3rd guy love each other (mutual feelings), then you should go for it! concerning these other people, no guy in his right mind would be happy with someone who wasn't into the relationship - and i doubt you would either! trust your feelings and go with the guy you truly love.\n;)
236984
awww  how sweet ! I really feel for you ,but maybe she is your soul mate  but you are not hers! Start dating other  women. You might end up finding another woman to love.
564676
Ask yourself whether you're really in love with her? THink about it. What comes to your mind when you feel that you love her? Could it be that you just miss the times you've spent together. In that case, keep those precious memories but do not let that affect you.\n\nCliche it may sound, but truly loving someone would mean giving happiness to that person. Perhaps she's happier with someone else.\n\nYou know what! You could also maintain a healthy, platonic relationship with her... Be her friend. If you truly like her for who she is, this is a very good way to continue a relationship.\n\nCheers... :)
724036
dont be so push and selfish, the man does not want to commit yet, \nbut then again you feel that you are going nowhere you love him but then you are not happy with that kind of situation, so i suggest move on to the other guy,test the waters see if you can be happy with him,you and the first guy you seem to be going nowhere find someone who makes you happy,and someone who is complete when he is with you,no need to get stuck with the first guy set him free, and let him set you free
76891
This is a hard one. If you love both the same, you cant really tell who is your true love. So what I would do in this situation is stay with the one you are with now. If the first one left you before.. he can definatly leave you again.. making the pain that much worse. Besides you are already with one you love. You wont be leaving anyone but continueing with what fate has brought you.
1044869
Yes, you are still young and believe me what you feel for this boy is not love. You need to move on with your life, and definitely, for future reference, never be the "other woman". I hope this helps.