why is it that men do not understand the importance of family time and how to show theylove there family ?
604117
Men do understand and they do give their time, but in different ways.  Men are born to be the provider and women the nurturer.  It is what's natural for them just like the woman's role is natural for her.  Of course their family is important to them but they work to maintain it in a different way to a woman.x
536522
sounds like lack of commitment,  if he adopts and you divorce, he could have to pay child support.\n\nI would say family couseling is well called for
340887
If you stay home and raise your family then they will turn out better than kids that have working parents that do not spend time with there kids that much. Plus with each parent working it puts stress on the marriage which is why marriage failures have increased within the last 50 years.
459918
Love does bring people together for sure . For holidays does your family gettogether? Well thats love wanting to share things with those you love is natural . Love bonds us to oneanother makes us feel like we are apart of something special makes us whole .
232602
Boyfriends come,and go,Family is forever!!Sometimes we think we love someone that our family does'nt care about,as a way of rebeling.I dated a guy one time that my family hated,I even excepted when he proposed,I did it just to prove to my family,that they could'nt tell me who to be with.When I finally came to my senses this guy tried to kill me.He told me that if he could'nt have me,noone else was gonna be with me.When my family started acting like they liked him,it was like I woke up to the truth.
276860
It sounds to me like you are really enjoying your life and that your family is a very important part of that.  Do you really think that some man could fill the empty space that you would have without your family?  After all, family is forever and a relationship while hopefully forever isn't always.  I think you have a great life and that eventually you will find a soul mate without moving away if your just patient and keep trying.
683517
Dads are not nor will they ever be equal to a Mom.  Motherhood is a unique experience, but also THE MOST IMPORTANT person in a child's life.  A Dad is ALMOST as important.  Couples that decide that the Mother will stay home and take care of children are rare.  The Dad takes the entire responsibility of the family economics on his shoulders; food clothing, shelter, household expenses, college fund, vacations, the list goes on and on.  \n\nIF you are in a loving relationship, the view of "pretty" women should do nothing but titillate the Dad, because the love he has for his wife and mother of his children, is so strong, that no short skirt or tight abs will seduce him.\n\nHe needs to be cognizant of the fact of what his wife sacrifices for the well being of the FAMILY, not just the children.  He needs to do his part; let you have "me" time, cook and clean because he WANTS to, not as a "gift", to share in the management of the family funds, because it is "OUR" money not his to dole out in allowances.\n\nI know it is tough being a Mother, to the best of my ability to understand since I am a Dad.  I have teenage children that are smart, well adjusted, and have college in their near future.  I attribute MOST of that to the involvement their Mother has had with them since birth.\n\nI wish you the best of luck and happiness.
154368
Men want to be able to take care of and provide for their families. He's not leaving you or anything like that. He's just trying to give you the best life he can. You should try to be supportive of him.
719455
A!!! He loves everyone in the family not just you and one of the kids. All women should know that they can only be with a man if he loves her AND all of the kids!
587472
Most men do not.\n\nSome men are driven to it, especially if a women show no interest in them once children arrive.
488033
It's just commercialized. Mothers don't need a day to feel appreciated and beloved. If the children and husband don't appreciate the mother, then the day doesn't have any meaning. In addition to that, it causes pain to many people, whose mothers dies, who never had a mother, and to women that are not mothers. \n\nIt's enough to have the mother's love in the heart.
519496
you're right, your family is wrong.\n\nkeep it up.  your kids and step kids should both appreciate it in the long run, and MAYBE your family will also.  but don't count on it.
337787
Sometimes women like to get people to care about them. If you actually do things for them, they really appreciate it. If they don't you will have to let them know how you feel about it. You might say that men needs care too but women are more fragile in the sense that they're not as mature as some men even if I say so myself. Women is just hard to understand so you have to take time to get to know them better. That's just life.
1143367
Fathers that you speak of is sorry men. A real man takes care of his children. He speak into their lives and guide them so that they will be successful in life. He sees things in them others don't see. I have two sons and they mean the world to me.
510424
because he doesn't love you or his scared that his family might not like you. why don't you have a seious conversation with your boyfriend and find out what's the real reason why he doesn't want his family to know.
291692
Families are the heart of society. The definition of family needs reform or revision.  I don't know about restraint.  But opening hearts to new ways of looking at a family will improve society. Values like loving and caring for members of the family, supporting one another, are great.  Excluding others from the definition isn't.
459317
When you truly love someone, you understand that sometimes families need each other. My dad only sees my stepmother, Kathy, a couple of times a month for the last 6 months. Her mother is aging and her father is dying of cancer. He is 87 and their is nothing really that any doctor can do for him short of kemo therapy. Kinda stupid to put an 87 year old man with advanced prostate cancer through all that, not to mention the daily 2 hour drive she must drag her mother along with to get to the hospital.  My father says, "I don't know why his doctor even recommended the kemo knowing his condition and what it would mean to Kathy, but I'm not going to take away the only thing she's got to hold on to."\n\nI think that is true love and understanding. How can you come between a family during times of crisis? If he is not willing to compromise I would just say to myself, "I gave it my best but I got to do what I got to do."