My best friend for years has stopped talking to me,just because i'm getting a new kitchen.?
611875
Well, hopefully she will come around.  It sounds like she is just really jealous and maybe frustrated with herself and her own life.  You might be reminding her of the things she feels bad about not doing in her own life, or maybe not being able to do.\n\nGood news can sometimes remind someone else of their own shortcomings and how they are 'failing' to get what they want.  Give her time, if she is a true friend, she will put it behind her, and although maybe envious will come back around.
538512
This person is no friend.  She might be harboring some jealousy issues.  Don't let her get you down and just quit calling her.  She isn't your spouse and you are letting this become your problem, when it is clearly her problem.  Friendship is a lot of give and take, and it sounds like you are doing all of the giving.  I wouldn't ignore her phone calls, but I would be busy if she tried to call back and make plans.
1159469
Send an email or leave a voice message telling him you won't be paying for his apartment or food any more.  I bet you will hear from him then.
754047
Unless your friend is going through a really bad time at the moment it sounds like she is not a very good friend.\n\nThe crux of the matter is \na) do you treat anyone you consider a friend like this?  If you don't why tolorate it from someone else.\n\nb)  IF you stopped calling you wouldn't have a friendship.\n\nSpend the time you spend on her making some proper friends who will make an effort, call you back and show that they value you in their lives.
199717
I stopped talking to my best friend for the first 18 years of my life becaue her emotional problems were getting so bad I coulnd't deal with it anymore. She wasn't fun anymore. Yet I miss her sometimes terribly.\nI moved out of town and we stopped talking. When I went back to my hometown 20 years later and drove past her house there she was going inside and I just kept driving. We considered ourselves sisters.\nSometimes you just have to make the break.\nYou need to tell her you need some time to yourself.\nAnd not feel guilty.\nTell her you can't keep driving her around and if she won't get her license you can't help her anymore. You will be doing her a big favor. \nTell her she needs to be independent from you. Tell her your tired and worn out and can't help her any more. It won't stop until you tell her.\nEither that or just move to another town.
968553
i agree...has to do it for himself...but a great way to start any new relationship is doing things together - so start with the family therapy, build trust and confidence. and share things together.\nthere are so many little jobs that need to be done at my humble abode...i think i am gonna stop spending so much time on the comp and start working out and redecorating the old home again...kinda boring doing that alone tho..maybe that's why those darn kitchen tiles are still on
774570
i know how you feel. my friend did the same thing and unfortunately she has changed alot and we are not close like we used to be. but that doesnt mean that it has to be that way for you too( hopefully it wont! )\n\nat first my friend was confused i would try to help her out as much as i could and now i guess shes made up her mind (she has a gf now) and i just let her do her own thing. \n\nits sad becuase we hardly talk like we used to.  oh well what can you do
652580
I agree he need to move out. Maybe get laid. If he's not a total jack*** then continue with your project, but their should be a point were you have to put a stop to it. If you don't see any change in him, then you will have to give up on him as his parents have done. You may also want to talk to his parents and see if they can help you with him. It nice to know that your a true friend to him.
485400
If you truly value your friendship with her let her go. She is changing and she needs to grow. Unfortunately it may not be in the same direction you are going right now. This happens to a lot of friendships as we get older and mature. She needs to do this for herself right now. Eventually she may come back to being her old self and realize what a wonderful friend she has in you. I went through this myself and for about 5 years was out of touch with 2 of my best friends from school. We are now better friends than we were back in school. Don't take any of this personally, it isn't about you, it is about your friend needing to go in a different direction right now. This is also your time to find other friends too. Don't do or say anything that could jeopardize the friendship you had with her. You both need some space and hopefully in time you will be able to get back what you had before, and it will be even better.
610602
Maybe you, your best friend, and husband should have a talk about the situation. Find out how does she feel about him. Find out if your husband has this problem before she moved in. Maybe you should suggest marriage counseling because you do want to be with your husband. I think it's a little early to end your marriage.
986158
Well, that person obviously doesn't think that your their best friend. A best friend should be there for you always. And you should be able to talk to them about nearly anything and everything. \n\nIt sounds to me like your friend is just that...a friend, but you shouldn't be wasting your energy on someone who isn't going to respect you. Still, I would search out a new best friend. \n\nOr you could tell that person how you feel. Have a good long talk over coffee. It'll bring you two closer.
858225
I definitly know what you're gong through! I hate all the drama!!! This friend is not your friend. You can still talk to her, but I wouldn't ask her over again.I have this one friend who I asked over like 3 times, but each time she is"Busy". I figured out she blew me off, and talked about how boring her weekend was on Monday... I was so ticked! I finally figured she would never be there for me so I just backed off.\nJust make sure you don't be the friend who makes all the effort.
870219
Talk to her about it. If she is going to do everything in her power to hurt you, you don't need her. Tell her she needs to act like a friend for you to be a friend. She is just using you to her advantage to get what she wants.. My best friend did that for awhile but i told her that if she kept using me like that......she will have to find a new bff. She straightened up fast cuz she realized that she'd lose me for good.
925350
I had the same problem so I just ended our friendship you shouldn't have to live with someone whos mean and always trys to put you down just to make them feel better about them selves
282818
Try writing her a heart felt letter.  That way you can respect her wishes of not talking to her and she can open and deal with the letter when SHE is ready to.\n\nMake sure she knows that you care so much for her that you thought it would be good to take a new direction, but you don't feel attached to the idea, just her friendship.\n\nDont rush her on it.
199026
you sound like you really want to renew this friendship, if so then you need to bite the bullet and take the first step. its not easy but life is too short and she probably feels the same way as you do and missed your friendship. dont wait give her  a ring and let bygones be bygones. good luck.
899743
If she was a true friend no matter what she shouldn't be treating you this way.just because you make new friends doesn't mean you have to get rid of the old ones.try and talk to her find out what is her problem.if she doesnt change then you need to find a new friend someone who is sincere and trust worthy and who will always be by your side,good luck.