dose any one know if most women who are abused by men chose another like him?
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I knew someone who was in an abusive relationship and yes, she did repeat the cycle. It was really sad but it seemed like she would only date guys who were jerks. I think women who are in this cycle have such low self esteem that they really don't know that they deserve better.
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I know this was for the Ladies but I just want to say right on man. I swear its the truth. If you don't beat or degrade a woman somehow then they don't like you. Some of us who was raised to treat women with respect just get screwed.
577757
You had a real loser, and I want to assure you, not all men are that way. There are some, just like there are some bad women, but the vast majority of guys I know, respect their women very highly. I raised two boys myself, and I taught them from an early age that ladies are special, and must be treated with dignity and respect.... treat them the way you want to be treated. For a guy to treat you the way he did, he is a disgrace to the male gender. I apologize to you, on his behalf. I am sorry Mam!
111270
Are you wanting to turn a homeless sheler into a battered womens shelter?  Or are you actually wanting integrate them? Women who have been abused do not want to be anywhere near a man!!! especially not the kind of men who are at homeless shelters!!! Not a good plan!
308932
Here here! Mike, you have a very good point sir. I've noticed women start out young picking the abusive, hurtful, untrustworthy bad boys while blowing off the "good guys". Years later after being used and abused they're ready to settle down with a nice guy and expect us to be like we were. Sorry ladies. While you were off being stupid, we were busy being rejected, damaged, and "just friends" in the interim. You want the best of both. You want to have your fun and then settle down when you're ready. Then you complain that there are no good men left. Now you know why. \nWe had patience waiting for you to smarten up. Now you have to have patience while we're learning to trust you again.
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I don't think that all men are bad, I just have a way of choosing the real A//holes! Maybe there r a few good ones and if you r one of them, real women like me r still looking for you. Stay the way u r and u will find one real female. You just have to be patient with us because the ones who feel that way have been hurt way too many times by men and we just need reassurance. It takes alot of time 4 us to trust again.
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There are cases of women physically abusing men, but it is rarely reported as the men tend to be too embarrassed to report that they have been hit by the women in their lives. It is hard to tell, what the percentage is, again as it is rarely reported, but I believe that it is probably approx. 80/20 percent men abusing women rather than vive versa. Please note that there are other forms of abuse that don't actually involve hitting someone, if the person throws things during a rage, or threatens or intimidates or even simply yelling at someone can be very damaging as it instills fear in their partner.
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Yikes.\nI've not been in an abusive relationship- but I did live in a womens' shelter after briefly moving back in with my parents and they decided to become abusive...\nI've also been violentally sexually assaulted- which was maybe similar trauma (though not as ongoing) as an abusive relationship... \nWhat helped me after the assault was NOT to generalize. I literally some days had to think HARD to find good things about men and sex! I made myself, though. \nIt was just ONE man, out of hundreds I have known as friends and acquaintances... and no one else ever hurt me like that.\nActually thinking of the men who I know or imagine I know who are NOT assholes and abusive in that way helped me alot. \nI imagine that having been in an abusive relationship, that your self esteem might be sorta low... getting over harsh words from my parents as a teenager actually took a longer time than getting over the assault! If you have those kinds of problems, you might consider seeking cognitive behavior therapy. Emotional abuse is tough S*** to get over! \nIf you have persistant fears and flashbacks, you might want to see a counselor also...\nI wish you the best of luck!
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Just a would be abuser that is afraid of going to jail.  It would be an honourable statement if he said he wouldn't hit you because REAL men don't hit women.
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It is usually due to the way they were raised. If their mother/father never taught them to respect women then they most likely wont. I have also seen it due to the fact that the mother allows their kid to do whatever. They see that everything he does is good and never punish him for his action so they grow up thinking they can treat women any way they want. They become very selfish and remain a baby their entire life. Fortunately I was raised with a strong mother who made me respect women.
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LOL im not with my man because i want him to suck me.  I chose my man because he had a great personality.  But believe me, your saying that only women want to be sucked maybe? U got it wrong their mate, i have met guys at nightclubs that drop their snake out at me.\n\nIt was the most degrading thing that happened to me.  Get over it and asl an intelligent question.
679384
A very complicated question, but I think the following generalization applies many times:  if an insecure woman (and there are many) get properly abused by a guy, they subconsciously think that he must be better than her.  Why?  Because he's confident enough to treat her badly, and she's going to love it because she's hanging with a better guy than her.  If he didn't feel superior, he wouldn't risk treating her bad for fear that she would leave.  It's human nature to want to be with people better than you.  This is an overly simplistic answer, but it's more or less the fundamentals of it.
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Of course there are male victims of domestic violence.  Many male victims are children being abused by parents.  Some are men being abused by other men, living in a domestic or romantic partnership.  Most male victims of domestic violence, however, are husbands being abused by their wives- frequently because of drug or alcohol addiction.  Seldom is domestic violence toward men reported- but the same holds true of violence against anyone.  People just have a tendency to resist reporting their loved ones to the police- and admitting that there is  a serious, possibly criminal, problem.
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It's been my personal experience that some men feel powerful and in total control if they are abusive to women.  I had an abusive husband and my girlfriend was killed by her husband.  I came close to death many times.  Even verbal abuse is degrading to women.  \n\nOnce a man has tasted blood, he is always abusive.  It's a turn on to them.  There are some real sicko's out there.....)(
470653
I would suppose like any other man. Women go through the same thing so no different for a man, so stop your whining and make the best of it...K
530528
They're not all like that. There are some great guys out there, just hard to find 'em. As for the ones that are, I'm still yet to find out why hurting us women seems to come so naturally to them. You've probably just experienced the ones that think and feel with their dicks.
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Not all women are like that.  I think it is a poor stereotype.  Yes, women have gotten men into all kinds of trouble, but it has worked both ways too.  Men often let themselves be drawn into trouble due to immaturity, ego or infatuation.  The responsibility is shared...maybe more on the man's side since he is ultimately responsible for his own life and decisions.