my friend and girl friend are arguing and im in the middle and dont know what to do?
607806
It sounds like they both need to grow up.  They are putting you in the middle of something that is between them.  Neither of them should be punishing you because you like the other.  That just isn't right.  You have the right to like whomever you please.  You all just need to sit down and talk about how you can all get along, or how each of them can have seperate time with you.  What they are doing is totally unfair to you.
901690
i just went through the same exact thing it was heart breaking! i simply told my other friend that i didn't get along with her other friend and i would NEVER ask her to choose, but i would like it if we could spend our own time together. now she seperates the weekends and spends like ever-other one with me. and because i was so laid back about it and her other friend was kind of rude she is starting to see how it really is. she is spending more and more time with me and complaining about the other girl but i try and not complain with her that way she thinks i am just a listener\nall the while i am dancing inside lol
588413
she is hurtful and resentful right now give her a little time 2 stew but keep trying 2 talk 2 her.try coming up with a new way 2 explain it 2 her maybe she is just mad because you did not ask her help 2 keep the play going.you willnot know unless you ask her.bug her a bit if you like her as a friend and she is usually a good friend then try repairing the relationship if not give her a lot of space and move on.
9154
Right in the middle of an "argument" jump in & point out to both of them that they fight & argue constantly. Point out the fact that it is very childish & how tired you are of it. Whatever the underlying problem is between them should/will surface....once that surfaces, it can be resolved & harmony restored.
935167
its hard no matter what you choose to do. try to tell them both that you're not comfortable with the situation when they ask you about the other. don't give up the friendship with either one unless they just make it impossible for you. breakups are hard enough without losing your friends in the process.
1020083
Dont ever loose someone for someone else.  If both parties are that close to you - you can come to some agreement between them.  See your friend  - then see your girl.  Let them both know how you feel.  Whichever one is willing to work out the situation is really there for you.  Hopefully they will both understand - you dont all have to hang out together at the same time.  True friends are hard to come by.  They are there for you to the end...But when a relationship goes bad - who do you turn to?  If it is her asking you to give up your friend....tell her no way.  If it is him asking you to give her up - find out why
566738
You're contradicting yourself... you have a friend but you can't talk to that person because you're not friends? You had war... ahh! It's human nature to fight. Just wait it out a little. Let the anger pass. Later when you both are calm, talk about it, say sorry if need be. Friends are treasures.
933367
It's hard to be the middleman and I hate to see you get involved. If they fight in front of you, tell them both to grow up and resolve their fight like 2 grown ups. And then give them both a time out!! Good-luck sweetie!
4905
I'd say talk to your friend at a time when your emotions aren't stirred up, and let her know that some of her behavior is bothering you.  She might not realize that you are so upset about it.
471897
This is like most relationships. Its give and take...Your friend wont be a real friend if she cant deal with your feelings and opinions. You may be wrong, so what, you have the feelings correct or not. If you talk things out you will find a common ground.
1031272
Spend more time with her, and talk to her more, you should be talking a lot anyway because shes your girlfriend, she might be hiding the fact tht shes upset youguys dont talk much.
518408
Respect their relationship. Don't interfere in between them whilst their relationship is still ongoing. After all, he is your Friend and you should enforce that point. You just can't go on getting in the middle of their relationship by being the third party. You know that if you do that you will hurt someone's feelings or worse, both of their feelings including yours. So, I suggest that you back off first for the time being. Try looking for someone else. And if things don't work out between the two of them, that;s when you can make a move. But, try not to be to aggressive. Just remember to back away from now. You will need to. I wish you the best.
78218
YOu should try and get both of your friends together to try and talk about the problem they have with each other like try being a peer mediator.  And if they refuse to do so then just simply tell them i friends with both of you i refuse to take either side and say you don't want to get involved
373118
Unfortunately you can't pick your friend's friends, and giving the ultimatum it is either her or me will most likely make you look like the bad guy.\n\nJust take the high road on this one.  Most girls say mean things because they are jealous or insecure. Don't bad mouth the other girl back, even though your feelings may be hurt.\nIt will just make her come up with more hurtful things to say.   \n\nJust arrange to spend time with your friend alone. Remember that she is free to be friends with whomever she likes.
494733
THAT IS NOT A FRIEND!!!AND CERTAINLY NOT WORTHY OF BEING BEST ANYTHING.I WOULD CALL THAT A S**T STARTER.GET RID OF HER BEFORE SHE REALLY HURTS YOUR FEELINGS.IF AN APOLOGY WASN"T GOOD ENOUGH,THEN THAT IS HER PROBLEM.WITH FRIENDS LIKE THAT,YOU DON'T NEED ENEMIES.
167635
well, mabey ur actions made her/him mad at u. u should talk to her/him. if ur friend is REALLY mad, she wouldn't be answering ur question!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
424131
i kind of dont know what you're saying. But, i am going to guess you and this friend have problems. I would talk to her, and tell her you love being her friend, and that it hurt when she insulted you. She'll be your friend