2 Is this emotional blackmail?
604903
What your grandmother is doing is trying to get your mom and you to talk again and be the best of friends by buying you. it is bribery. there is a deeper issue between your grandmother and your mother.she is making you be nice to her so she wont have to deal with her
1167836
Time to be harsh, honey.  This is YOUR life and you do not see a future with him.  Wish him well, tell him your reasons why, and STICK TO YOUR DECISION.  You don't do yourself any favors by continuing to take him back if this thing is over in your heart and mind.  What he is doing is a exerting a type of control over you with the crying and suicide threats.  You are probably a sensitive and caring person and he is playing on those emotions to continue a game that will have no winner.  \n\nIf you have really and truly made up your mind then tell him and let that be that.  You have no control over what he does at that point and if he hasn't seen it coming already and began the process of moving on, so be it.  Not your problem.  If he continues to call or come around, ask him nicely not to.  If it continues after that, call the police.  Don't send him mixed messages.  Your position is that I don't feel the same for you as I once did and I believe it is time to move on with my life.  And let that be that.
522791
Definitely. It's not necessarily material things. She may need somebody to talk to, pour her problems. . . She may need you to fix her computer or something. . . Or she wants to relive you previous sweetness. . . the possibility is endless. One thing is for sure- she want something from you, be it material, emotional.
270518
Is your daughter aware that you are doing this/\nIt seems to me that you are trying to cause trouble for the por guy and that you should mind your own f______ business.
824394
I would definately check into that.  Thats extortion in my book.  Also, see if u can get her a calling card or the number to one, for those calls out I guess.
531708
He sounds like a spoiled brat with reality issues. She needs to drop him ... NOW! \n\nAnd yes, it's possible to affect someone's mental health by that sort of behavior, especially if they have rather delicate mental stability.
825374
if you're developing any kind of feelings or fantasies, then yes... and initially, there may be none, but more and more contact brings in more and more emotions and other thoughts... emotional betrayal is still betrayal...
377037
This is an emotionally abusive relationship.  Your guy has an emotional hold on you and knows it.  There are lots of other fish in the sea.  Hold out for a better catch and throw this one back!
959697
My dear.........there is no doubt, that there are times on YA that you're going to run into something like what you ran into. The best thing to do the minute you feel uncomfortable, is to log off. Of course, if you feel threatened, report it. You have no way of knowing if this person is merely playing sadistic jokes.....or is a serious wack job. Be careful..............LATER
1107329
this is termed as emotional black mail. in order to make you act as they want, these people threaten to take extreme action, like harming themselves, to the point of serious injury, even at the cost of losing their lives.you naturally get frightened of the outcome, and relent. once they know your weakpoint, this game is repeated, every time they want things their way. in order to deal with these people, you have to gather courage, tell them in simple, clear words, that the decisions will not be taen in their favour just because they are threatening to cut their veins, or pour gasoline on their bodies, or jump from the window, they will be only responsible for their own actions. once they realise that you won't give in, they wil have to change their ways. for more elaborate guidance on this topic, open emotional blackmail on yahoo search, and you will find detailed ways of handling this serious problem.
389987
Be very careful my friend, you could be setting yourself up to be hurt. You may have feelings for this other person, but you need to remember that you "do" have two children to think about. It is belief of many that the truth will set you free, but in this case, it may end in the suffering of the most innocent of all, the kids. Please, consider holding off with this second relationship long enough to realize what you want. I know you want your children in your life, dont jeopardize that for anything. Have a nice day!
738335
I guess u meant "betray" . Well.........in the beginning i'll not be able to control myself- human nature, dear. But, then ofcourse I think that the person is not worth ur friendship. But before it i'll just ask this question " Why did you do this to me?"
873578
that sister should have her letters taken away. these are not things to be "traded" . you both need to be put on line again. you obviously didn't pledge hard enough anyway.
686003
No you knitwitt this isn't Hitch. I guess you should go with your emotions or listen to complete strangers on the internet for advise.
77831
Read this article about emotional cheating.\n\nhttp://www.nydailynews.com/front/v-pfriendly/story/335439p-286396c.html\n\nYou're a brave man to put your - and your kid's picture - on the net, next to this question. Let's hope your wife and all of her friends can't read. ;-) Do you want her to find out? Is this a cry for help? A way of starting a conversation? I am not judging you, I am only asking because I can't understand it completely but I admire the frankness and openness in it.\n\nGood luck!
193651
You know if it's emotional cheating or not...are you looking forward to talking to your ex?  It could be an indication theres an issue with your current relationship....
1004590
if it is a friend with benefits then it really is not neccesary to go into any detail.  he would just as well be truthful if it is a mutual agreement that it is ok.  you sound like you have more feelings than what you thought you had?