why does ur first time hurt?
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inside the vagina in young women or women who have never had sexual intercourse, is a layer of tissue referred to as the Hymen.  \n\nWhen a young lady has intercourse for the first time, the penis entering inside the vagina will cause this membrane of tissue to tear.  This tearing is what causes the pain. It is also normal during this first sexual encounter that there will be some bleeding associated with the tearing of the hymen. However this is not always 100% sure. Due to some activities, such as gymnastics, horse riding, masturbation (if items are entered inside the vagina during masturbation), accidents such as falling on your vagina, ect, the hymen can either be broken or stretched prior to intercourse taking place.  This can lead to less pain and less or no bleeding during a ladies first sexual experience.
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First-time sex shouldn't be painful, provided you are with someone you love and you feel completely relaxed with. You have to be completely ready for sex and totally comfortable with the idea. There should also be lots of foreplay to make sure you are well-lubricated. Provided all this is true, you shouldn't experience any pain.\n\nHowever, if a girl feels unsure about having sex, or unsure about the person she's having it with, her vaginal muscles will tense up, which can cause a lot of pain. This is true of any sex, not just first-time sex.\n\nBe safe, have fun.
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lier lier is all i can say.. even for a guy when losing his virginity it is kinda a nervous-ish experience. i am sure not as indepth as the ladies BUT STILL AN EXPIERIENCE..why? well there is a stereotype for guys and this dude you speak off seems to be exemplifying this stereotype... more than likely his first time was shorter than that.. maybe 5 to 15 minutes the most... why well even if he was with an experienced female... she probably would have orgasmed by then... with me and my virginity it was like 5 minutes.. i didn't have an orgasm and the primary reason for the above turn out was because i was doing it with my girlfriend and it was her first time as well... in all honesty after like 30 seconds of actual penetration and trust we stopped because it was painful for her... the first time usually encounters physical obstacles... the pain of your hymen breaking... I have had this same experience with 3 more young ladies where they were losing thier virginities. A couple times went by like this until they had healed up, gotten over the psycological fears of pregnancy and all that.. and actually got into enjoying the feelings actually generated by the act of intercourse/making love...after those initial 2 to 3 times ...well it's all climax from there!!!! no pun intended.. hoped this helps.. \n\none more thing.. don't be in such a rush to loose your virginity... it makes a big difference in your life... i guarantee it.. picture yourself at 21 or 27 and a friend asked you about your first time... the answer can either go one of two ways.. ohh its something i'll never forget cause it was with a great guy.. boyfriend of mine where we had a good and long relationship OR i regreted my first time... it was wack... i didn't really feel anything (emothionally or otherwise) i don't even remember that guy. i wish i had waited longer...  when that time comes.. i guarantee you'll remember The Thinker!
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yess it really hurts, i guess it burns or something like that:) careful next time, gurls are sensitive.
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the first time?  I can't imagine anyone not being scared, at least a little, the first time having sex with another person.\n\nnow, if you're referring to anal intercourse, that's another issue.  scary's not the right word.  nervousness causing, sure.  the fear it may hurt to receive anal?  hopefully, the guy you'd be with would be patient, understanding (no one should top until he's bottomed.  you must know what the other guy is going thru) and the passion will override the nerves (possibly make it more exciting)\n\nDoes it alway hurt? no.  my first time did not hurt at all.
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you didn't lose your virginity to sports, but you could have broken or stretched your hymen (the tissue that break during first-time intercourse), so it didn't cause pain during sex
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try man on top and tell him to go slow! when it hurts, speak up. \n\ndo you use tampons? probably not. they hurt first couple times. Try using tampons on your next period. \ni know this is different but they are related. in the shower you may want to practice "that" feeling and insert your index finger as far in your tunnel as you can. it hurts but it will help you prepare better. \n\nrelax and go with the flow. when you tense up every muscle tenses up include down-there muscles. Always remember to speak up b/c good communication is essencial!!! :)\n\nI'm still a virgin but know alot about sex, wierd? dont worry- waiting until marriage.....
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No you don't need to know sex moves for your first time, it will hurt too much, wait a while before experimenting any moves.
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well sex can be painful for a virgin girl. because your vagina is not broad enogh and during sexual intercourse , the hymen breaks which might lead to some blood loss. first time sex can be painful for a girl
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Your male partner is obviously doing it wrong.  Virgins have a layer of skin that protects the vagina called the heimin.  The pain and pressure you are feeling is from the penis pushing on it.  One of the resons it hurts so much is that you are not relaxed enough... and because you are not ready to give away your virginity.  Another reason is you may not be wet enough and the penis is just ripping you inside.  You should just wait to be married first, this way you know it is right for you and you will be able to concentrate on the act of making love.  Oh, and the heimin will be much thinner due to the fact your body will have produced the proper fluids to help disolve it.
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My understanding is that for most girls, sex hurts the first time. There are things you can do to help though. You can use your fingers to stretch some, letting yourself get used to something being inside and holding it open. Toys are a good option that allow you to control what is good for you and what you're ready for. \n\nRegarding the condom - Yes, sex feels good with a condom. I agree with another poster, that sex feels even better without one too. Just make sure that if you're going without that you're prepared for any of the side effects pregnancy or disease. I wouldn't recommend going without until you know you're going to be with the person for the long haul.
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It really depends on a lot of things - some women have a thicker hymen (the skin membrane that covers the vaginal opening in virgins) than others, so therefore it will be more painful.  Tampon use stretches the hymen so it's not as thick as well.  My first time wasn't really painful, it was a little uncomfortable and I didn't bleed at all.\n\nTry to make sure you are relaxed (as much as possible) the first time.  If you are thinking about how much it will hurt, this can cause you to tense up down there, making it more painful.  Make sure you have plenty of foreplay so you are well lubricated beforehand, or use some KY Jelly as well.
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u just feel it!\nAt least that happened to me...let me tell u something about my first time:\nonce I was dating this guy and nothing u know I just couldn't, something was odd, don't really know, but then I met this incredible guy and I don't know what exactly happened but it felt like fireworks being with him, at all times ,and the I just knew that he was the one .\nI never regret the time I waited to do it.\nIt was worth it all the way.
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It hurts very bad the first time. He doesn't have to go deep the head is the biggest part. He does need to be very gentle and easy so that he doesn't hurt you too badly.
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OFCOURSE IT HURTS!NOT JUST THE FIRST FEW STICKS BUT THE FIRST FEW TIMES.AFTER THAT YOU LL SEE THAT SEX IS A BEAUTIFUL THING.OFCOURSE IF YOU DO IT WITH SOMEONE WHO AT LEAST RESPECTS YOU! GOOD LUCK :)
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If your with someone who's gentle and is willing to slowly and gently put it in and your genuinly in love than it stings the first couple of minutes then your vagina adjusts and it feels good but if he just slams it in it's gonna hurt like hell so be careful and use a condom because despite what you may have heard you can get pregnant your first time.
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If it's not the first time,than there are a number of reasons: you're too big (there is such a thing), she's small, she wasn't wet enough, she had gas, her uterus is tipped, the sex was to rough for her... Maybe she should have a physical.