i think my friend is a lesbian.?
594632
Honestly, people! This person while may have lesbian tendencies, as far as being attracted to a woman, is sick.\nYou are talking about a problem upstairs sister.\nThe person you describe has many problems and I will explain why.\n1. She is going after a person whom she knows is straight and will never "cross over" that is irrational behaviour\n2. She sniffs your underwear--Now ask yourself, even if a man did this, wouldn't you be a little creeped out? I know that I would\n3. She is living in a delusional world...she is touching you regardless and making up scenarios where you are getting married\n4. SHE TRIED TO RAPE YOU!!! SICK, and if a guy did this he is sick\nThis really has nothing to do with whether or not she is a lesbian, this is a girl who has a LOT of psychological problems. SHE IS NOT A GOOD FRIEND!!! Good friends don't do this to each other. Why are you still hanging around with her? Ditch her and if she stalks you some more call the police and make record of when she is doing this.\nGood luck
613687
Actions speak louder than words so make sure she doesnt think your gay. make a move man and get as far as you can.
52014
No, She's not a lesbian..... but don't you wish she was?!?! I know a lot of people who do...
768632
ok, this is tricky! It sounds like either she's bi, doesn't understand what healthy friendships entail, or she's just a fantastic friend who had her heart broken. \n   Try flipping the switch on her. For example, next time you're out and a pretty girl walks by, say something about the pretty girl like 'wow, that girl has a fantastic figure.' see how she reacts. don't say anything about a man when saying good things about women.\n\nKeep us posted, and good luck!
698168
What see did was not cool... Lesbian, gay, guy or girl.  Let's say it was a guy and he was a friend... do you thing that it would be nice of him to pull it out and ask you to join him?  There's a sensitivty to these things and a way to approach them.  Be honest about the way it made you feel and ask her to stop. You don't need to worry about what to do because you've done nothing wrong. Just bew authentic to yourself and to her.
1069596
I know you asked for lesbians .. I'm not quite a lesbian but I do enjoy being with a women sexually ( I guess most would say BI .. but whatever you want to call it is fine with me )\nI would be very cautious with this woman .. she seems like she really digs you .. but she's also going through a major change in her life .. most people can only handle one at a time .. divorced & experimenting with her feelings at the same time - that sounds scary to me !\n\nMaybe become friends .. go out a few times .. see what her expectations of the relationship will be ..  get closer and really get to know her.  You might find out she truly is falling in love with a woman and not just using you .. there's only one way to find out !
867485
if you're not really not into him(as you said, you're a lesbian), then you should not worry about how his reaction is going to be. besides, if he's a real friend (and not "acting" as a friend just so he can hang around with you), he would accept you for who you are. if he can't, you've got nothing to lose, right?
945546
This happened to me 17 years ago. I was in high school and there was this beautiful woman named Jennifer. Her mother was a teacher at our school and she was prom queen.. We use to stare at each other for days. One day she gave me a picture and wrote on the back. " I'm glad I finally found someone like me". She never told me what it meant :( . I think she wanted to tell me she was a lesbian but couldn't because of society. I was openly Lesbian in High School.. Now days have changed and maybe she will tell you. Try to mustard up the guts to ask her to do something with you. Then maybe you can get closer and be in the situation to ask her how she feels about lesbians...
821952
i think she is a lesbian \ni honestly do\nalso i agree with the statment that she is a man\nshe/he is also very ugly
78714
i think you should make a pass at her just to see her reaction. shes playing head games with you, fight back. you have every right to like whatever sex you like, thats not her choice...dont take that from her.
783928
My sister went through something simular to what you are going through with a friend of hers, she has had people confront her and say she too is a lesbian because she hangs around with her of course I had to say that my sister was around her too much and I didn't like it at all, I told my sister about how I felt and what should be done but it will be her total and final decision on what she will do about it...Well finally after all of the things she finally let her go..But it wouldn't have happened if I wouldn't have said something to her in the first place.\n\nWhat you need to do is talk to her and try to make her see for herself what you feel and how you feel about this whole thing and also let her know that even though you are not that cool on her boyfriend let her know that you are happy for them anyway...When you do that it will turn around as a friend looking speaking on a friend basis and not the other way around she will see for herself and not listen to what other people say...Your friendship will last but only if you are honest with her and honest with yourself and about your true feelings for her. At this point my dear you have nothing to lose here.
1018076
Have you ever been with a female before?  I don't think you're a lesbian because you have admitted that you want to marry your boyfriend and have children with him.  I think you're just curious about being with a woman.  If it's only for the sexual aspect of it, why not let your boyfriend watch?  That should please all parties involved.  :O)
471979
Just be honest. You have explained it to her but she still acts weird, so maybe she doesn't understand it the first time you explained it to her. \nBut when you talk to her, instead of you doing the talking, let her talk. Let her speak up and see what her concerns are. Ask her open questions like "I feel you are avoiding me, and it seems to me that it is because of what happened...what do you think?(or am I right?)" and let her voice her problems. The main point is to for her to let things off her chest, not for you to keep repeating that it was an accident, because if she thinks otherwise, there is nothing you can say that will convince her, so get her talking.\nFrom what you say, she seems quite offended: "she acts like I did it on purpose." Point that out to her!\n"You seem to me like you are quite upset, if not angry, about what happened...is that right?"\nAsking questions by pointing out how you feel (to me, you seem to be...) will be less likely to offend her than stating what you think is going on (i think you are pissed at me), because when you say "I think", it is like a judgement, and if she feels like you are judging her, it will not help the situation. Say, "I feel" "it seems to me".\n\nAfter she gets talking, let her know you understand. Maybe she is afraid that you are bi or lesbian and therefore is afraid that you are trying to approach her with that kind of relationship. Ask her "Do you think because of what happened, that I have that kind of (lesbian) tendancy?" She might look at you weird, but to get it out in the open is better, and much quicker, than beating around the bush. Be open and honest and sincere, otherwise it just won't work. If you value this friendship, be prepared to put yourself up to the line and open up.\nTell her, you value this friendship, and wish it would stay the way it has been. You don't intend it to go any deeper, but you don't want it to melt away either. \n"I feel that things have been really awkward between us and we aren't the friends we used to be. I don't want that to happen bacause I value etc etc"\n\nOpen up, be honest.\nIf she still doesn't understand, it would be time to let go because it would be her hurdle to jump once you have opened yourself up and explained it to her.
339174
The lesbian thing fits...cus you don't seem to have along term plan in mind with someone that could otherwise be a candidate for...I think you can save the friendship if you take the time and consideration to explain to him that its not him, its you and it wouldn't hurt to let him down easy by saying you knew if you could feel for a man the way a woman normally does, I thought you would be the man that could do that for me..but your feelings don't go there..so it would only be fair to both of us to remain friends. It might be a stretch but you owe the friendship that.
1014542
I understand your problem, my best friend is completly straight and I am bi, when i say he is straight he is. But like you I have  a crush on him and still do,we have and still do go place with each other but I try not to let my self get to close to him. Just be there for her when she needs you but don't cross the line again unless she cross first.
703089
Its normal to feel this way. The type of friendship that you two have is very beautiful. However, if you find yourself too close to her or attracted to her physically, you may want to question your sexuality. Other than that, you're cool!
68606
She'll have an Official Lesbian Badge. J/K :P\nThe only way to know is if she tells you herself. Or if you meet her girlfriend-girlfriend.