Eventually, the imagined turmoil and suffering that could be caused from being out starts to become worse...?
601491
I totally agree with this. Before coming out I was going through all kinds of mental and emotional angst that was eating me alive.  I put on all kinds of weight and thought about almost nothing else.  It was totally crazy.  I kept going over all the different possible scenarios, all of them bad, never a good one, and it was just, well, in the end it was all just hot air.  When i came out to my friends they all knew.  When I came out to my family they didn't really care.  When I started bringing my boyfriend home everyone thought he was great.  It was a lot easier in the end to be out than it was to be closeted.  By a lot.
680626
It happens to everyone at some stages of life, don't lose hope and don't be pessimistic and remember...things can only get better cause there's nothing worse than that.
106217
It's called Denial of reality in psychological terms. It's one of the human viewpoint ways of coping with life.
1135815
I know wat that feels like...so far in the last two years i have had many curveballs thrown at me...and right away i would get angry and question why god would want me to suffer...but now i truly believe that things happen for a reason and that there is a plan for all of us...its just one we cant see yet.. its like our life is little puzzle peices..and someday when its all put together we're gonna stand back and say "so thats wat its all about"
448968
perhaps it's more frustration or helplessness you feel?  That this bad thing happened and you care for your friend but you really don't know how to help, what to do, or to say?  Maybe you are thinking as well that this is going to change your friendship in some ways, that things are not going to be the way they were?\n Or possibly it has made you aware of life's fragility, that nothing is guaranteed and somehow shown you your own mortality and that of those around you
588031
Hurt turns to anger, anger leads to suffering.
499922
Because sometimes life becomes so unbearable that people want to ecscape as a form of dealing with the problem/ problems.
626852
now there is a scary thought.
1158959
We will probably go into a depression.
952989
There is a sense of sadness everywhere you are.
1125174
It's how the hopeless cope.
277467
when lifestyles change one ends up in crisis, so that would be reality
992347
You made me sad remembering all of that, but I thank you. The sad truth is, we are all too consumed with our own situations that our attention spans for horrible things like this is diminished.
627970
The problems get bigger?
239950
they are the possible future, as reality becomes quite a burden to bear, as insanity increases.
437849
It will get better.  Time heals all wounds.  I know you probably don't want to hear that but it's true.
49967
Well...It's that some people are messed up in the head.