how can i get my wife to stop over parenting her kids?
612230
I'll have drinks with you.
997971
O I know what you are going threw. My husband is the same way.He don't like it when i call my kids because he is afraid i will want to get back with my x.  Maybe try telling her that you love your kids and she can't stop you from talking to them.Let her know that it is your kids that you love not your x.
332464
Honey, it's a tough situation all the way around. You both need to find a way to sit the kids down together and have a full blown disscussion. The kids are going to need reassurances from both of you that you both will still be active in their lives and that what is going on is not their fault. Both of you as parents need to make sure that both kids know that they can count on you and come to you whenever they need to. If it were me,as a mom of 3, I would put aside whatever has caused the seperation and call a meeting with my kids and my husband and do exactly as I said above.
81069
Remember what it was like in the begining and don't try to do the same things over again change it up a little. Don't be afraid to try something new, but with your girls consent. Be willing to listen when she wants to talk, or sit her down and ask her why she acts the way she does when other people are around. Tell her you are willing to try new things to rekindle that old flame and if she's not down than it's time to move on, just don't lose touch with your children there whats most important.  Good-Luck.
333367
Don't be the one friend who kept giving advice\ngive it once...its her choice to listen\nJust be the friend who doesn't say i told you so and holds her when she is in pain & realises her stupidity~\nif her kids ever get in danger than definitely bring her attention to it & if need be help her mom get custody~\nnever drag the innocent into it..
313086
When you married your wife you took on the responsibility of her kids, everything that goes with her kids.....  I understand with gas being the price it is, but visitation is a completly different thing than child support.  I say you should just love and support your wife, I am sure she hates going over there as much as you...but her kids would resent her in the end if she didn't bring them to see their dad if she had the means to do it.
924951
If you don't believe that she is a threat to the well being of your children, perhaps its time to let the past go. I know that it's easier to say then it is to do, but little ones need both parents in their lives. Don't think of her as the person responsible for ruining your relationship, instead open yourself to the idea that it's one more person who will love your children. And come on in the end it is only the kids that matter.
365986
be a good parent to my kids
273465
Be patient with yourself, join a support group at your church or talk to a family counsellor (with or without your spouse). Be patient with your kids, spend as much quality time with them knowing that they are caught in the middle of an adult issues and are too young to understand the complexity of these issues.  Just go out and have as much fun with them as possible at the park, mall or the children's museum.  Do not neglect your health (ie: overeating-->obese or undereating).  If you're not into the gym go for light walks, and by all means use meditation tapes they really do help.  Give your spouse that space she needs  but keep the channel of communications open.  Be honest with each other and don't try to sweep your marriage issues under the rug or they will never be resolved.  Good Luck.
874312
You need to stop and look at your priorities. Your children are number one. You need to do all that is possible to give them an intact, caring mother and father house. After divorce and the boy/girlfriends come parading in and out of their lives, things get pretty rough for the kids. Don't do this to them.\n\nYou are the man of the family. Ultimately the responsibility is all on your shoulders. You take the first step. The rewards will be indescribable. \n\nI also stood once on the edge of divorce. I finally realized I was a jerk and made a one-eighty. You must do the same.\n\nIn general, you must make your wife's happiness a priority. Think of what she would like and do it. Don't worry about your own happiness. A loving wife and happy kids will provide all the happiness you need. \n\nHowever don't do what is wrong, ie go into debt to buy stuff for her or do ridiculous things. Treat her well. Tell her you love her and your marriage is very important to you. Do the dishes on occasion, make the bed every day, I do. help around the house. Don't neglect your own chores.\n\nMost important of all. Do the right thing. Spend money wisely. Raise the kids properly (don't be their friend, be their loving authoritative parent). \n\nLet your ego and feelings go when you and your wife argue. Let her speak her peace. Try giving each other a couple minutes to say whatever you want with absolutely no words (or funny looks) from the other.\n\nDon't separate, that almost inevitably leads to divorce.\n\nMy parents got divorced when I was 13. Don't do it to your kids. I got stuck with a horrible step-dad for decades. My dad told me the number one regret in his life is that he didn't work more on his marriage to my mother. Step up to the plate, be a man, and take care of your woman!
1151427
well he had the kids with her so she will never be out of ur lives.just ignore her let her play her games but do not pay attention 2 them.limit ur conversations 2 only talking about the children when she tries 2 change the subject just say yeah well have 2 talk about that another time or tell her straight out I do not want 2 hear it. if u stop listening 2 it and she sees she cannot get a reaction out of either of u she will eventually stop.
450115
If you honestly feel as if the relationship is something you can't handle, then you should get out. Just be sure that if you do decide to leave her, make sure she understands why you are leaving. You're leaving not neccessarily because of her kids, but because you aren't ready to be a father figure and you'd like to travel. Make certain she understands this and be sure to use "I" statements so as to not put her on the defensive side of things.
118855
tell her FIRMLY that untill she demonstrates respect for you and responsibility toward YOUR children, that she will see the children at your house only. If hubby has a problem with that - he can go and sit in mommy's lap
311077
You SERIOUSLY sound like you have major issues with your wife, from seeing all the questions you've asked. For one, get a life or, two, for God's sake, get a divorce or something instead of just bantering every hour uselessly about your wife.
986946
If you can get free time away from your kids, then you should be able to go and do whatever the heck you want to do.  I have three kids, and if I can get away, then I go as far away as I can.  I'll go to the mall, or to the Bingo, or, just sit ouside in a park ( I know there are still kids there, but they aren't MY problem.)\nYou are a mom.  You can never be perfect, (even though your mother-in-law seems to think you should be) But if you do the best that you can, and it should be without criticism.
21182
send the kids with your spouse.\n\nansw3r3r
298761
I agree - it's selfish to use the children as 'tools' to hurt other people who love them and in return she is robbing them of a relationship with yourself and your partner. She's not only hurting you but her own kids too. Apart from that she is not setting a good example for her kids by manipulating and punishing people - it's cruel. Have you tried to resolve your differences with her?