My gf wants me to give her all my lifesavings so she can pay off her credit card debts.  What should I do?
598607
hi, she is just your gf. you don't know what might happen to your relationship with her in the future. don't give your money to her. she sound like she like to have your money and not paying back which is so unfair. i know you  love her but she has to control herself. and also, if you are going to loan money for her, let her sign an agreement to pay whatever amount you guys agreed to pay every month. think about yourself too not just hers. anyway, that's not your problem. yes, you can help but don't shoulder all of it. good luck!\n\n i am a woman with almost the same problem and my ex bf paid all my debt, unfortunately, we broke up  and there's no aggreement for me to pay him back every month and now he is suffering to pay for it. careful! i don't wanna do it again though and thinking i will pay him the whole amount at the end of this year but i will just surprise him. he don't know my plan of paying him the whole amount.
890381
She's a shopaholic...  It' doesn't matter how much debt you're in, she'll spend and spend and spend, if not cash, it's debit, credit, line of credit, application for store card, this that and the other thing.\nYou need counseling before you lose your house!
79400
Call the credit card company for advice.
1051009
Is she depending on your money? If not, you had no business telling her to get a job. If she was, then you should tell her you can't afford to support her anymore. Just stop giving her the cash. Do you mean you're living together and she wants to move out? Sounds like a good idea. You can still keep your relationship, and once things get smoother you can try again. Sounds like a good way to figure out if she loves you, or your money. Or do you mean she wants to move to another city? She could be bluffing so you beg her to stay. She just wants to feel wanted, instead of like a burden. Just have a business like conversation. Tell her if she get's a job, even a parttime one, you'll continue to help supporting her, but you will keep a tab, and she has to sign a letter of agreement that she will pay you back. That's fair. That way you can be there for her when she needs you, without being taken advantage of. Attitude very rarely changes. So if you can't live with her attitude, move on.
1140157
Wait until you've pawned your wife's wedding ring. I'm sure you'll still have some money left over after bailing out your girlfriend.
756569
Ultimatum or Loose her.\nI wasted 7 years on that.\nAll she cared about was my bank account.\nYou are not a Priority with her.\nprolly not even in the top ten.\nDon't waist your time. For Whatever reason.\nCould be a lot of things... abuse etc... You may get a 100's of stories.\nWhatever. Don't deal with it!
731122
I would be honest with her and tell her that she has not yet paid you back to 200.00 and therefore you are not able to give her any more money....she is treating more of a gift than a loan unfortunately.
662528
It might be in his will.  You should check on that.  If she thinks she is getting all of it, it might be in his will.
465125
Ok, how do I say this with out sounding Bi**hy... Your money is part of who you are.  If she wants to do things that don't cost a lot of money, or if she pays for some things even though you have more money, is a good way to tell if she doesn't care if you have money.  But you will always have money, so you need to get used to that fact.
1026542
Don't spend it - save it into a savings account that pays her interest on the money she puts in. A credit union will usually have good interest rates. She should save up her baby sitting money! One day she will be SO glad she did because when she gets older and wants that car... if she babysits A LOT she could potentially have herself some kind of a down payment for that car.
1157674
Contact all credit companies NOW. Tell them you Will not guarantee any additional purchases and you want the account closed. Follow up with a written letter. Keep a log of everyone you call with time and date.  Request a copy of his loan balance and the agreement you signed.   You need to establish a "cut off" point so if the credit companies continue to extend credit it will be at their own risk not yours.\n\nNext ask the "dead beat" if he has anything to sell you to pay off his debt. (Get anything you can. Something is better than nothing.) make a list of what you get and how much it is worth. Send that amount into the credit companies directly. Don't give the money to the "dead beat".  Ask for a lien on his car. Tell him that will help you get a loan if needed to pay off his debt.\n\nNow it's 10 days later. Ask the "dead beat" how much he can pay each month towards the debt. Don't put him into a situation he can't live with it will just be a bigger problem.  Now call the credit companies ask ask for a reduction in interest rate and a payment schedule that you can afford.\n\nNow comes the time to KICK yourself in the butt for doing a "verbal" agreement and letting it go this far.
141698
i think you should pay for her sometimes. i mean its nice to have you boyfriend pay for you when you go out. but i dont think you need to pay for her all the time. tell her straight up that you dont have the money to pay for her all the time and that sometime she needs to pay for her own crap.
938914
First find out what the interest rate is on the card.  Compare it to what you can get for a bank loan.  You know you can also close the card while you pay it off so you can't make more purchases.  Becareful doing this though becuase it could hurt your credit score.\n\nI would keep the card as I pay it off and not use it.  I would also take the card from her for sure or else you will never pay it.
71040
Once you're married you will share your credit rating as a couple so my best thought is for you to handle the finance/payments - and keep doing whatever you've been doing to maintain a good rating for the two of you.
911622
I can tell you how to find out okay?  tell her that you made a terrible investment and lost all your money.  if she really loves you she'll stay with you, but, if she takes off, you'll know she was only in it for the money.  \nI hope things work out for you.
371620
I stand with Lucid one on this one... \n\nKIDNAP HER FAVOURITE THING AND HOLD IT FOR RANSOM...\n\nAnd maybe after you get your repairs paid for she might remember not to get on the wrong side of you again!!!\n\n:-D
559357
She would probably have to pay more to live somewhere else, but she is not being very wise if she doesn't have any credit in her own name. She owes it to her children to make sure they have financial security. If she intends to stay with this man, encourage her to get married so that she will have more rights in case something happens to him.