How do I make a possesive Boyfriend Trust me around Other male Friends?
606909
You say he's "far away." How long have you been dating? How often do you see each other? How committed were/are you? (Are you "serious"?)\n\nIn the early parts of a relationship, insecurity is normal. And when someone goes far away for the first time, it's also normal.\n\nBut after awhile, if the relationship is good, the trust factor kicks in and he believes in you -- that, no matter who you talk to or spend time with, you're still committed to HIM.\n\nMaybe if you are going out nightly with guys (as friends) while he's away, that might make him nervous, but if you're just talking about guys you know online, or schoolmates / coworkers, or people you spend time with simply to be with someone (since your bf is far away, and why on earth should you just be alone all the time?), he should be able to deal.\n\nIf he can't, and you can't maintain the relationship, maybe you should call it off at least temporarily -- until he gets back home on a more permanent basis.\n\nThere's no rush here. If you two are really that good for each other, you'll both go back to each other after seeing that others don't match up. And if you don't... well, better to break it off now.
1102762
Trust is paramount in any relationship in order for it to have a chance.  Trust takes time to acquire in any relationship, but here it is an issue right off the bat.  I always fine that it's best to give someone the benefit of the doubt. You really can't change people, they've got to change themselves. Now that doesn't mean that you can't support them along their road to a better them, or that you can't offer advice or set out ground rules.\nWe all have our pasts, and have done things we're not proud of. \n\nIf you're going to embark on forging a relationship with this guy, i would tread lightly and carefully.  As far as the cheating goes, i know the general perception is, once a cheater, always a cheater.  However, i think it's possible for people to turn over a new leaf.  Many guys through a period where they are a bit of a "slag". This is not to excuse your current love interest's actions, but it's usually the way of things.  It's kind of more widly accepted in society for men to play the field a lot more than women.  The fact that he's cheated on ALL his girlfriends would definitely give me pause, but we all have to grow up sometime.  I would also take into consideration who gave you the information on his less than monogomous ways. If he told you, i think that says something about him. If he was open and honest enough to share with you his less than stellar relationship habits in the past, then that shows that he might truly be wanting to change his ways. If, on the other hand, you had to find this out through a mutual friend, or past girl-friends, well, that's not good at all. \n\nAlso, you mentioned that he treated a close friend of yours badly.  If we're talking verbal, emotional, or physical abuse here, then stay away. Stay far far away.   \n\nI think perhaps you need to sit him down and lay some ground rules.  If you care about him enough to give this a go, despite his bad rep, you need to clearly voice your worries and apprehensions when it comes to him.  Let him know that you respect yourself far too much to put up with cheating or abuse in any form.  He needs to understand that your trust is going to take time to earn, and if he really cares about you, he will work hard to get it.  The right person can change your life, make you a better person, you just might be his inspiration for change.\n\nBest of luck!
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Try to do some things to comfort him like maybe not hanging out AS MUCH with guy friends. Doesn't mean you have to completely stop hanging out with them but do more things with your b/f than you do with other guys. Little things liek that. If he wants you to change more and you don't feel comfortable doing so then don't change. He'll either get over it or the relationship will end.
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You can trust your girl friend, but I wouldn't trust that arrangement! Your feelings are understandable and natural. There are too many opportunities for an "accident" to happen! Why couldn't she find a straight female to share a house with? Tell her you trust her but you don't necessarily trust other men! In moments of weakness, or if she gets mad at you, the other guy is there for a "shoulder to lean on", and guys will take advantage of that. She may even do something just to get back at you, even if she regrets it later! There is nothing wrong with being jealous(but not out of control). We (Men) are territorial by nature, and if you allow someone to trespass on what is yours, then you don't deserve to have it!
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It isn't always easy to trust. Especially if you've been burned more than once.\n\nGet to know a person well. Trust them little by little. Trust them in small things first, and that will show you if they can be trusted with bigger things. Eventually you'll have a close circle of friends you know you can trust. \n\nRemember, not everyone is out to betray you, and not everyone lies. Hang in there!
693084
Tell your boyfriend that you don't appreciate his friends "attentions".  That should cure it....
365481
Keep him.  He is one of the rare men who has a lot of respect for you and doesn't want the relationship to be intimate until he knows you well enough to have feelings for you.  He is interested in you for who you are, not just for how close he can get to your body.  \n\nHe is more comfortable with his friends because he knows them and knows what is acceptable and what is not in his friendships with them.  He is nervous around you because he is afraid he will screw up and you won't be interested anymore, or worse that you will turn him down flat and humiliate him.\n\nGive the guy a chance, and he will warm up to you.  The fact that he isn't acting like all the other guys, clawing all over you, doesn't mean there is something wrong with the situation; it means that there is something right about him.
139016
If your boyfriend trusts you then ya'll shouldn't have this problem. you should leave him...he apparently doesn't care that he wants you to never talk to your best friend again!
447369
Funny you asked this question.  This is a constant issue with me.  I have male friends that my boyfriend is a little jelous of but trust me, they could never replace him.  My bf has female friends that I'm not threatened by anymore, but there was a time.  As far as my boyfriend and I, I say that opposite sex friends are perfectly alright as long as the couple knows where to draw the line and the "friends" and couple know not to cross it.
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It is obvious that you care for his guy. So tell him that. Tell him that you love and care for him but not with the passion that a girlfriend should have for a boyfriend. Tell him that you know it will be hard to change the level of your friendship one notch down...but you still want him to be your friend because he is your best friend.\n\nI know that this maybe hard for you to do..it will hurt you both but think of it this way...suppose he too want you only as a friend as well and is also afraid to hurt you?
570283
dont feel guilty.\nits none of their monkey business\nface this one of a kind challenge in your life\nlet the people know how much you love your boyfriend\ndefend your relationship.
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Assuming you meant Cheating not cheaping :o) \n\nThe first question you need to ask, is to ask yourself who is more trustworthy in this situation your friends or your boyfriend? \n\nThey may know that he is sneaking around behind your back or your friends may just want to mess your relationship with your boyfriend on purpose. \n\nThen second ask your friends why they think he is cheating on you (Do they have proof? Seen him with others? Who?) and if they do you need to ask your boyfriend if what you have heard is true.
476950
Tell him he has to trust you. Without trust theirs nothing. If you can trust him then he should be able to trust you. Don't let him treat you unfairly.
139981
Trust is so important in a relationship. If you trust him, then talk about this concern with him openly. Do not look for sneaky ways or signs to sniff him out. Rather, talk to him, and you might be surprised how willingly he will open up to you if you show him you have enough trust in him. Most men do not willingly become womanizers, but most men do enjoy being popular around ladies as a sign that they are quite the manly men.
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If you really DO trust him & you say that he doesn't initiate the conversations or the calls........\n\nPicture this scenario....... \n\nA troubled friend rings, or calls round, for support and advice and HE says "F*ck O*f - would you love him MORE? \n\nI don't think so; you need to realise that you have a lovely, thoughtful, approachable, considerate intelligent man and appreciate him  for what he IS - if you continue to resent him, for being the guy you LOVE him for being, then it won't last 'cos you'll kill it with -what you ADMIT is groundless - jealousy!
57206
you have to have trust or you will drive yourself crazy snooping and as i call it "playing inspector gadget"\nall you can do is be the best boyfriend you can and if she messes up you can't blame yourself.
1054965
u have to make up ur mind!! u can't keep stringing along all these guys. it's not fair to them. just pick one. if u can't maybe u're not supposed to be with any of them. ever thought about that! until u sort urself out u have no business telling others what to do. at most u should sit them all down (including ur boyfriend) and explain the situation. they might stop fighting with each other if they realised that u didn't really favour one over the other. just how many guys are after u anyway??!!