Why does my husband make me so mad?
599087
Yes you have a right to be mad, there as much his kids as they are yours. You not only take care of them all day, but then on the weekend also, by your self, and if he's like most men, you take care of them mostly by yourself at night. I know right where you are. My suggestion is you take next weekend to yourself, doing what you want to do. This way he knows what you are doing all day every day. Then after that you should swap on and off on weekends, or you get one day on the weekend and he gets the other. If you think about it your actually doing two full time jobs, your daycare, and your kids. Also I would try to have him share in the responsibility at night, you need a break, it will be good for you, and in return you will be more relaxed and able to deal with the kids better.\nbest of luck I hope it works out.
422707
I am also a "passive" person, but not quite to the extent your husband is.  Have you ever considered the fact that your husband grew up in chaos, and didn't have a male figure around for him to learn from?  Don't know his background, but his "symptoms" sound a lot like the way I grew up.  If it seems he "likes" chaos it could be because he doesn't know how to resolve chaos.  And as far as him "blaming you", have you ever considered that he is feeling pretty crappy cause you can handle things better than him? If you truly love him, be kind and patient and understanding.  Help him learn that you can "fix" chaos.  If you feel like he can walk away from the marriage without ever turning back, have you ever considered that that exact thing may have happened to him?  Try turning it around and not being so dominant yourself.  Turn to him and let him know you value his ideas, thoughts and decisions, and you NEED him in everyday life and decisions. If he makes a "wrong decision" but it isn't hurtful, life threatening, or irreversible, go with the flow and let him learn from mistakes, knowing you will stand behind him no matter what.
1051261
your unhappy, you already "resent" him and are taking out your anger on him. eventually it will turn to bitterness. its a very difficult and gut wrenching decision to divorce *i know*, but if your unhappy your cheating BOTH of you out of finding someone you both can be truly happy with. \nthe best thing to do is to sit down with him, tell him this is a serious discussion and tell him...everything...how you feel. that you absolutely think he is a wonderful man, and that you value him as a person, but that you don't feel the way a wife should about her husband. its not his fault *or yours for that matter*. ask him to respond to that...if he gets upset...well....what can you do. you've told him how you feel and he will need time to digest it. \ntime heals all wounds! and as horrible as it all feels now, it will become a sad distant memory in the future.  \ngood luck!!!
755405
I understand how you feel, I get really upset with my husband when he looks at prn too. And I confront with it and we sometimes get into bad fights.
658987
Almost all the other answers will just make this worse (sorry.) Maybe he's angry with you. And maybe you are angry with him. That's normal.\n\nI have a suggestion and try it before you say "Oh, that will NEVER work." I will put a link to a book below, and just read it and try it out. You have power to get what you want, and he will stop doing this, and it's so easy you will be amazed. But you have to trust me on this one.
953568
maybe his voice is loud. or maybe he's mad at you for something you did. some people talk loud cause they cant hear themselves well. so he's not really yelling at you, he's talking, but loudly. LOL
459359
no its not a bad thing to make him cry that means hes human and is not a hard core asshole. maybe it was that you were quiet and your usually not that shocked him or it was that you told him that he has you forever and always men are so hard to read i have been married for 9 years and i can honestly say he says that i am ignoring him but i not his thing is he thinks i am pissed off all the time and i'm not i have 3 kids so when they go to bed i am done talking. i think your ok and just be open and honest with him and you guys should be fine
813305
She does stuff to delibratley irritate you and make your life miserable. First, quit showing things irritate you. For things that normally get to you eventually she'll make a comment like, "Does this bother you?" Just say, "What?" Let her respond and your reply is, "Oh, I didn't notice so I guess not." Tune her out. \n\nThere are always people like this in life, eventually it will be your husband as well. I'm sure you do things to irritate her as well, we all do something that will annoy someone at some point in time. You may want to have a discussion with her and be assertive (not aggressive) and listen to her. Let her know you want to be friends and don't like living with tension on a daily basis. Explain you would also like to go back to having fun with her and you care about her. Also, ask her to stop doing certain things. Set two to three non-negotiables you want her to stop and ask her what you do that irritates her and you can change. It's give and take and don't take things too personally. \n\nSomething much deeper is going on with her and you that needs to get resolved. Or her problem is nothing to do with you, and she's just taking out whatever is going wrong in her life out on the person she lives with (which could be anyone else as well). Just be sure not take things too personally. Good luck!
326041
just talk to him about what makes you mad...my boyfriend does the same things, and when i tell him something i don't like, he stops, or if he does it by accident, he's really sweet about it and makes up for it...also, if he's pissing you off, make sure he knows it at that time, cuz if he doesn't, he'll keep doing whatever he is doing wrong...make sure he knows you really want it to work, and you'll do whatever you can
134671
My hubby says I'm like a little heater and after a few minutes he gets too hot lying close to me!  It's never because he is angry because we never go to bed angry at one another.  By the way to the person who said, it's because he's mad,... people get "angry", dogs go "mad".
1180231
They are saying you don`t matter enough to me to be kind and understanding!There is a possibility your husband is mad about something you don`t even know happened and needs to discuss it with you in a reasonable kind fashion.Also at certain ages some men louse sexual drive,he may be embarrassed and is hiding it with avoidance and anger.I would lean towards keeping a close eye on his activities and try to find out what he is so interested in other than his hot wife.There are some real weird people out there and it is amassing how well they can hide there deviant behavior.An acquaintance of mine, husband,liked little girls and left her alone one to many times and she found out.Here is a good rule for married people,if you can`t show your spouse what you are doing on your computer you most likely should`nt be doing it.Get some help ask a counselor in the mental health dept.of a clinic or hospital. Do it,DO IT NOW!
861288
well a hard question, but if you have tried everything and talked to your husband about how you feel and he wont change then its time to end it.\nbe careful the fact that he digrades you and belittles you publicly is often the early signs of an abusive man. he is on a power trip and whats you to feel bad about yourself and make you think everything that happens to go wrong is your fault. once he gets you comfortablw with the he may get physically abusive to you. or else he may threaten to or actually harm your children. \nbe careful and make a plan for your exit. once you make up your mind you need to follow through and leave and don't ever look back\nif you want to talk to someone you can email me. ive been there and im out now.
279976
well did u do something to make him mad? u should DEFINTALY talk to him! good luck! =)
546141
How should i know what makes you mad??
510937
They do that because they know you will cry. So you have to turn the tables on them. Gird up the woman power and tell\nthem to back off. Put some sterness in your voice. Don't\nback down. You see they think you are weak and a wimp. But \nyou can prove them wrong. When your husband does that just\nlaugh it off, make a joke about it, or ignore it. As for the\nson he is out of line and he need to stay in a child's place. You need to take his prize possession from him. Ground him until he learns to respect you and obey you. You have got to take a stand and let them know you are not going to put up with their crap no more. That is your house too and you need to take control. Let them see the ugly side of you. That'll scare them.
862135
Sweetheart...not sure why you titled this bi-polar husband...but your husband IS physically, verbally and emotionally abusing you and you need to get out NOW.  If he is bi-polar he can see a doctor and get on medication and then if you still want, the two of you can work on your marriage.  But for now...you need to leave...you are not helping either of you.  GBU
1055645
Wow that is extreme. My husband was kind of like that too, but closer to the 3-4 week postpartum mark. For the longest time I felt sad and used and hurt, and let him get his way , but in the long run I found that only makes things worse and he does'nt even realize what he is doing is wrong. You need to stand up for yourself and say no and mean it. Alot of the time these guys are so focused on their penises and egos that they forget that we are people too, and letting him get away with it is only reinforcing the bad behavior. My husband actually thinks I am just playing hard to get when I say no and give reasons why. \nhave you ever noticed that the bitchiest chicks have the sweetest most passive caring guys ? I have ! It works to be a bitch sometimes, and tell him off, because you need to demand his respect not ask for it. So what if he gets mad or pissy, just ignore him until he wisens up. If he wants some action he will come around eventually and treat you the right way to get it !