im am very shy ,sometimes even my had tremble and my hands also.what can i do?
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There are alot of shy people, but yours seems to be extreme! Anyways, what you need to do is to face your fear - shy people are usually afraid of one thing or the other.  Maybe you are scared of saying the wrong thing in front of people, or tripping over your shoes while passing under the stares of people.  Either way, its a fear, and you need to face it.  When you are in public, take deep breaths, count 5 seconds between each breath.  You  need to look at yourself in the mirror each day and say: "I am not scared, I am confident! I will not fall, I will not say the wrong thing" and so on and so forth. You need to speak to yourself all the time when you feel nervous. Say things to encourage yourself as you would to a friend who was shy too.  It will take a while before you overcome it but you will eventually.  If you love yourself, you will be more confident. So love yourself (e.g.take care of your appearance) and your confidence will come naturally.  You should also pick up books or read the internet on issues regarding anxiety, nervousness and shyness.  They will give you practical and maybe medical ways to help you.  And dont worry too much - you are not alone!
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Yes, I'd say you are shy and lack self-confidence.  I know what you mean because I tend to be this way too.  People often think you are unfriendly, when you really are just shy.  At least try to give a shy smile, to let them know you are friendly!  ;)\n\nSomething which has helped me is to make a switch in my mind from myself to the other person/people.  Do not focus on yourself but on them.  Have you ever thought about what you think in your own mind when you encounter other people?\nSome people think, "What can I get from this person?"  Some think, "What does this other person think of me?"  Or any other various things, but we always are thinking something.  What is helpful is to think, "What can I do for this other person?"  Think "What can I do for you?"\n\nI make this switch quickly and easily by simply saying to myself, "You, not me."\n\nYou will be amazed how well this can work, because then you are not self-conscious.
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well, it is not so bad to be shy, many girls like guys who are shy and who are not pushing it too hard. but if you still find it a problem maybe you should practice, at first try it in front of the mirror and then maybe on some girl who you are not attracted to, also try to be more talkative with your friends, that will help you to develop your speaking skills and after a while you could easily talk with girls (at least i hope so!)
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it's fro shyness, thats normal for alot of people i know i think your skin color is light so try alittle bit of face tan, and be for confident and open with people ! you'll see the changes
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i used to be so shy, until i found my now best friend. she was so confident and encouraged me to do the same. maybe try and find friends on your own, so you aren't relying on your now friends to have a good time. Make conversation with a person in a bar or pub, thats usually a good way to get more confident, and if it doesnt work out then you can just leave it at that!\n\ndo things in public that you wouldn't normally do, like singing and dancing when messing about with friends.  Most of the problem is that you are thinking of what others think of you.  Dont worry what they think, theyr the ones having a boring time not you! and anyways, you wont see these people again, so let them think what they think!
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Hi,\n\nJust to let you know a lot of people feel the same way, but try and relax and take a few deep breaths and tell yourself that you can do it.\nI was shy when i was a child but working in a hospital has made me more out going.\nA great book to read is Feel the fear and do it any way:- By Susan Jeffers. \nYou can get it in any good book shop or library.\nT.
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i sometimes feel this way. i don't feel like I am that shy of a person, but I guess other people think I am very shy. and then when boys I like tell me to be myself and say what I want, I get flustered and say things like "i don't know" even though I have a full journal of stuff I would love to tell them. I don't know why it is so hard for me to speak up in certain social situations. I have things to say, and sometimes I start talking, but then like you said, the more aggressive/louder person takes the conversation over. I guess you and I both just have to try harder to speak our minds and not think so much about what other people will think. Easier said than done though... I hate being shy and I don't know how to get rid of it. and it certainly causes problems in meeting men. so u aren't the only one out there with this issue
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stop being a pansy and just git it dun\njust go for it\nbeing nervous is for people who dont know what to do or are unprepared
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hey i wa shy to but just ty to let your self go think as if no one is there i some times act dumb but if you cant just try little chat like ask questions go ith poeple you know and make new friends
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just start talking and then you will become more relaxed.  i am shy too and once you start talking it will come to you and you will be fine.  it does not matter what you say to start it just start talking.
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Rejection, nervousness, worried about saying something wrong.
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I also lack confidence. In fact I tend to stutter when I get really nervous in interviews. But I manage to get good jobs. I think you should go for interviews a lot. When you get a hang of it, it will just be like a breeze. Just concentrate on harnessing your skills and nothing will go wrong.
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Overcoming shyness is not easy, but can be done. I used to be really shy too, but I started hanging around people who were outgoing then myself and I started noticing the positive attention they gained by being outgoing. I just worked on walking up to people and introducing myself and I learned that if I want something I should ask, the worse someone can ever say is NO. \nPractice makes perfect, the more you do it, the easier it gets. :D\nI now have lots of nice friends and I have been out on a lot dates. :)\n\nOh and as far as getting a boy to notice you. Don't overcome your shyness just for that. :) \n\nThe best way to get someone to notice you is just by being yourself. :)\nGo up to him, start off with a simple hello. :) Introduce yourself. \nLittle by little and believe me, it will take a snowball effect, before you know it, you just may have yourself a nice friend,if not, well, there are many others out there. :D\n\nHope it helped good luck
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My flute professor tells us to try and make yourself more nervous. Can you make your hands shake more, can you make your palms sweatier? Chances are, it will stop. Also, if you are standing, try to be really aware of your feet on the ground. Plus, accept the fact that mistakes are meant to be made. It also couldnt hurt to be prepared. :) Good luck!
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the only one that has to accept you--is YOU!!  remember, carpi deium! sieze the day!  besides what is the worst that can happen?  I used to be shy myself, now I get out there and try, come to think of it, I would not have my wonderful kids if I stayed shy\nalso, (just a thought)\nfind a councelor or confidaunt to talk out these feeling with and help you release the fears burned into your mind.  I have PTSD from sevier abuse as a teen,  I know what it is like to suffer a trama that scars the mind as well as the body, and I see my councelor regularly.  there is no shame in such things.
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I am shy and definitly unique.
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From your description, I would say that you have agoraphobia, which is a more common and powerful mental illness than most people think and thus needs to be treated like any other mental illness - i.e. with psychiatric discourse and medications.\n\nDon't listen to anyone who tells you that you are just shy, because you are an adult, and shyness is just a temporary child to teenage phase that goes away in adulthood like minor speech impediments or sexual inhibitions.\n\nThere is a big difference between shyness and mental illness, and shyness or even anti-social behavior is usually not nearly as serious and life-altering as what you are going through.\n\nIf you want to try alternative medicine to help yourself, then I suggest the following websites promoting alternative therapies for social anxiety or agoraphobia.