Why are men so insecure...my man always thinks Iam going to cheat on him, I have lost all my friends?
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All men are not what you described. I was reading this and shaking my head thinking....this sounds like warning signs of an abusive relationship. I don't mean to be accusatory, but I would just like you to recognize signs...like....\n\nPossessive or jealous behavior toward girlfriend\nWhether in public or private, possessiveness and jealous accusations often precede and follow violence. The abusive boyfriend will often attempt to socially isolate his girlfriend by "forbidding her" to see or talk to others or by making frequent accusations of infidelity which force her to limit her social life in order to appease him. \n\nSee link below for other signs. Be honest with yourself and if this sounds like your BF I suggest you leave or get counseling. Easier said than done...I know. \n\nGood luck!
1152321
I think its cause he has already cheated & you dont trust him anymore....DITCH HIM....trust is already lost!
819338
Ok, start small by telling him how you feel and ask him why he feels so insecure. If you really want to be with him that is. Give him one shot, if he fucks it up then drop him- don't tell him that, just do it.\n\nput it back on him. Tell him that you feel insulted that he doubts your feelings for him by getting jealous everytime you talk to a guy friend. Tell him that if a guy friend steps out of line, you have no problem with him stepping in (you don't have to tell him, just humor him to make him feel good at this point).\n\nTell him you fear for your relationship with him because it really bothers you and you don't want to fight about it. Ask him if there is anything you can do to make him feel more comfortable (be realistic, if he says something ridiculous then tell him not to act like a child and be serious) while not infringing on your privacy and your rights.  Find out why he is doing it, if it is just because he is controlling he will not change, if it is because of baggage, he just may.\n\nIf he doesn't make a real effort to change after that then I would say to get rid of him. He may have baggage, where a girl has cheated on him before so he is paranoid, but he needs to see what it is doing to you and that it hurts you. If he is not willing to change or gives you attitude when you talk to him NOT SCREAM or threaten him or the relationship then you should simply tell him that it isn't working out and you can't be together.
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this guy is being unfaithful and hes trying to cover his tracks but listen if he was not guilty then why does he get so defensive.ill tell you why because he has a guilty conscience and another reason is men hate to get caught! it makes them look like a bitch.so my advice to you is to check him and if he cant respect what you ask then hes hidin something so be careful and goodluck gurl!!!!!!-lisa
252388
keep yourself busy and focus on yourself. Don't do this with negative intentions or malicious reasons - like i'll show you. I can relate. I used to give my man shit all the time for no reason. The only thing jealousy leads to is wasted energy and will only leave you feeling worse. I hate to say it , but this boils down to insecure feelings on your part and you know how you hate it when he says " you are just insecure". focus on spending time w/ family and friends, job, goals...this behavior will bring you and your husband closer.  Just communicate, don't give up, You just need to love your man smarter not harder
1168978
he is insecure with himself, he's scared if you realize how pretty you are you'll leave him for someone more attractive.  However you need to be careful with this one because sometimes men like this like to be over controling of their girl friends and wives.  take good care of yourself.
322098
Guys that frequently accuse their girlfriend's of cheating suffer from one of two things.  Either A. They are guilty themselves, or B. They are just insecure.  Regardless of the reason, they should be avoided.
293774
I don't believe it is hard to trust men in general. You probaly have experience with untrustworthy men. Don't let your judgment of a few men include all men.
109650
Probably because you are pretty!  He is worried you'll find "something better." \n\nJust do your best to reassure him, but don't allow him to get all jealous and controlling on you, OK?
112736
He's probably very insecure and by making you jealous he's assuring himself that you care-it really sucks doesnt it? My question is: Why be jealous of his EX girlfriends-they are EXS for a reason!!
76696
Some guys are just so unsecure with themselfs that they put up a front. Some are shy etc etc etc etc. Then again some are just jerks that have to put on a show for their "friends" so they do not lose face. If a guy really wants you to be around, he'll do just that no matter what his "friends" think or do.
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Have you asked him what you could do specifically to ease his jealous mind? This is a hard thing for insecure guys, but I think you may need to boost him ego a bit. How about telling him what it is you love about him just out of the blue. Compliment him on his UNIQUE qualities that cause you to love him. It is very important that he feel that no other man has the qualities that you love in him. Once he knows that his is the only one you ever met that can make you feel the way you do, that should really help.
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Men are not naturally jealous hypocrites.  That’s as bad as saying all woman are shallow senseless shop alcoholics.  You should be wary of people who are so easily given to generalization to explain away their troubles.\n\nHowever, if all your problems are due to such a simple misunderstanding then let go.  If you don’t you will endlessly have to walk on ice in a senselessly fragile relationship that is perpetually on the verge of rupturing. Find someone who is a little more mature and you will be a lot happier.
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you need to deal with your trust issues before you can move forward in any relationship, your jealousy and lack of trust will only bring the relationship down, talk to a professional about the issues you have and how to resolve them, not all men cheat and sometimes you have to have faith that you are with a good guy it may be hard given what has happened before but if you do what you plan such as the testing etc you could potentially drive a good guy away all based on your baggage from a previous relationship....
975286
you have every right to be concerned, i would be too. the choices you make with regards to what your against are your right to make.  it seems like your man is friends with a rotten bunch of guys but ultimately he is a man and if he stoops to their level then he is just as bad as they are. i really feel for you because i can really relate to your situation. i am sure you really love him and are not ready quite yet to give up on things. you need to deal with him over the sex issue and get to the bottom of that because thats where alot of your insecurities come from. when it comes to his friends i will tell you from experience that the more you express how much you dislike them the more he will want to be friends with them simply because he is a man and doesnt want to be controlled by you. you're going to need to bite your tongue on the friend issue and play it smart. you are going to have to act as though the issues with his friends is not there and if he is going to have some fun with then why shouldnt you go out with your girlfriends and have a great time without him. act confident and secure despite how you really feel and that will grab his attention. let him wonder whats going on with you and why you seem so happy. fake it til you make it whether its with or without him. the odds are in your favor if play it cool and if after a while things dont improve and you're still unhappy you need to move on.  time will only tell where your relationship is headed but do not compromise your morals and values so he can live his life and have a good woman like yourself. just keep your eyes and ears open for anything out of the ordinary but try not to let it consume you because that alone can ruin what may be left of your relationship.
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Because he is insecure?
184044
you are too insecure\ngrow up, invite him and learn a life lesson in trust and love