Wife cheated, should I keep her?
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If you want to save your marriage, you both need to ask God\nfor help. He will be the only one who can fix it.
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Firstly: tell your wife if you are certain now. You don't want to try to figure this out alone. I wonder why if you told your wife about her friend's behavior your wife didn't respond well... Odd. Secondly: Are you SURE that she wants to get with you? Maybe you're misinterpreting her. But if you're definitely sure, then, after telling your wife, just avoid the other woman. \n\nAll of the above is assuming you don't want to cheat on your wife. If you do, then....I guess you don't have any problems then, do you?
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First of all, don't lower your standards to hers, don't cheat...I understand the love connection and you both have been together for a fair amount of time, but her being unfaithful now doesn't make for a good choice of a wife later...they always say they were going to stop, but allow to continue an affair until its discovered and not voluntarily revealed.  I find that important when it comes to determining if you should continue in such a relationship..I recommend ending it, but to answer your question, it would take a love that thru sorrow and regret for what she has done...that could convince you that this will never happen again...talk to her, find out why and how this happened , take all the information you can get and determine if your heart can forgive and forget in order to make such a shaky relationship last...good luck.
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I don't think there is really any way to tell your wife and keep her, unless she is extremely forgiving and you are willing to change and be faithful.  Even then, not likely to work out.  On the other hand, you need to be honest and get this out, better she hears from you than figures it out on her own.
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Yes my Hubby cheated 3 years ago,We did seperate for about 3 months, anyhow we ended up working it out..We got way to comfy in the marriage and things started to go downhill,And then the unthinkable happened..My first thought was divorce when i found out..as i said i moved out..But until your put in this position you just never know ..I felt if i could LEARN to trust him again and of course forgive him for what he did knowing it would take ALOT of time and patience on his part for the damage he caused to me, Then i would be willing to try it again..Today we are very very happy, The best our marriage have ever been.. And its taken awhile but i believe it was worth it. We have been together 17 years now..But if it ever happens again, I will be divorced..And no LOOKING BACK!
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I've been there.I've been married three times.Why?Because I cheated on my husband(s)and felt guilty!Tell your wife and let her decide what you should do.She will probably divorce you then you can do what you want.If you cheat again you will start that vicious cycle all over. Don't cheat!
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maybe nothing did happen...but..sitting and thinking about it  .. guys are pigs women are bitches..so go with your gut cuz wondering about it will drive you mental.. and sometimes even worse than catching them in the act.. move on.. there is a trust issue as well.. you have to ask yourself .. 4 hours??? and if you did the same what would she say??? tell the wife she should know
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1.She probably does love you, I'd have to have more details.\n2.You still might work things out. Don't give up just yet\n3.People cheat sometimes because of boredom, they feel neglected, their sex addicts, the excitement of doing something clandestine, they fall in love with someone else, revenge, it just happens, they are attracted to someone else whather they want to be or not or they're just plain stupid! Honey, if your wife cheated on you, it could be for any reason but you shouldn't blame yourself. She made the decision to do it. My husband cheated on me and I know how much it hurts. I can tell you this much; just because they cheat it doesn't mean that they don't love you anymore. Lots of people do it yet they still love their spouse. It doesn't make it right but we all make mistakes. If you love her and feel like you can put the past behind you and move forward as a couple, I say do it. It won't be easy but you can try counseling and if you can't do that then just talk to each other. Shower her with affection and make her feel really special. She married you so something is there. There is always, always hope for as long as you can hold on. Marriages have worked after cheating. Good luck\n4.I think the meaning of life is what you, yourself, make it mean. It's doing something to make a difference in this world. It's helping out your fellow man when he's down. It's what you want to be and how you go about getting there. Why does there even have to be a meaning to it all? Life is your chance to do, to be, to see, to learn and to teach. We're here to help one another, that's what I believe.\n5. I'm sorry but I'm not sure what the #5 question is but I can tell you however you ****, make sure you do it to the best of your ability and with everything ya got, Tiger! GRRRRRR! LOL. Good luck and try to keep your chin up. The pain will pass after a time. Just work through it and let yourself feel it so you can move on.
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First of all Thank you for serving our country! If you want to save this relationship you will have to work on the trust issue. But I would be concerned about her cheating again. Follow your heart.
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No! Explain your feelings to her, and leave it to her to decide! If she is angered, talk divorce. If she understands, why break a GREAT marriage?
941274
This is a very unique question.  it sounds like your wife is a BIG GAME PLAYER!  But at the same time you don't want her little game to ruin your life.  Who knows what she'll do.  I'd tell her to go find another round of friends, and you're going to live your life.  She will keep you going through this bull crap for life if you let her.\nSounds to me like she's wore her welcome out where she just came from, and is running back to her rock that's you.  Well sometimes rocks crumble.  I would let her go, you're not responsible for her irrational behavior.  And in no way are you to blame for her actions.
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I would dump his sorry a$$. Once you know he is married, you are willingly contributing to his wifes heartache when she finds out (and trust me, she will find out).\nHow would you feel if you were married and your husband cheated with someone who knew he was married?\nLet's pretend he is going to leave his wife for you (which he will not), you will become the person he cheats on.
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everyone here is bashing the wife. we don't know for certain that she has cheated on him. i don't think she has. how many of us been hurt by a boyfriend or husband who has cheated on us. it sounds like that she forgive him and he done it again and again for his own reasons. right now she is hurt and mad and she feels betrayed by you. sounds like you really hurt her and her world is turn up side down and their is children involved then maybe she trying to figure how to handle this but i think there is more to this story then you are telling. if you love her so much why did cheat on her again and again and now u want forgiveness and win her love back. was you thinking about her when you was cheating on her? did you think of how she would feel when she found out? she doesn't feel good about her self right now and you caused that. now you feel insecure. maybe right now she feels insecure about herself and maybe she is trying to figure out where she went wrong in this and I'm pretty sure you blame her for all of your affairs right? give her time she is going through a lot right now. sounds like she was a very good wife to u and u throw it all away for some one night stands or relationships. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings but she has every right to be mad and upset.
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I would keep doing it.  You obviously have no respect for your wife, so why let her get in the way of your sleezy relationship?
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You should never stay in a marraige if your partner cheated and won't even admit it. It is not fair to you or your partner. Think, there is someone out there for you who wants to honor and love you. Someone who would feel blessed to be with you. Why sell yourself short and settle for someone who isn't right for you? Get out of your marraige now and start to heal yourself now, so you can one day enjoy the relationship you are supposed to be in.
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Richard, I realize that you are upset and losing sleep, but you've got to simply stop posting the same question over and over and let people answer it.  Otherwise, you'll just get a lot of stupid answers from people who just want to get easy points.  Also, if you are really sure, and I mean SURE, not just suspicious about your wife lying to you and you feel she was with another man, perhaps this is not a match made in heaven and you should consider other avenues.  Like a trial separation.  Or marriage counseling.  Divorce is always an option, but as a last resort (unless you know in your heart you are in a truly loser relationship as I once was 16 years ago and made a hasty exit).  Again, try to relax and let your answer get some good responses and give some more details about why you believe she is lying to you.
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That is too close to cheating.  Think about how your wife will feel.  How would you feel is out of the clear blue, her ex called her and wanted to know how she is doing.  Would that be okay with you?  What if he  had lingering feelings for her?  Use common sense.