how do a young male christian deal with sexual feeling for another guy whom he is always around.?
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The problem is a lust problem.  I do not care if it's with the same sex or not.  What you're desiring is outside of Gods commandments to you.\nGet counseling from a pastor or other leader.
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I am sorry for you because you are confused...You see the Lord warns us that men will lose their place in the world...And that their will come Aday when men want even no that they are men and woman will not no that they are woman....We are in those days....This is just how I fill I am not speaking for no one but myself...A sex demon is one of the worst demons to fight because it wee kens you so that you give into what it is you are seeing...you have to fight it and not give into it you are week..Get strong....Don't trust no one because you have to seek the Lord own your own...Call own Him for help you owe this to your self...Confess these feelings to the Lord you and Him one own one and Have Him to guide you through this trial and tribulation....It is called temptation.....By an unGodly Demon if it is wrong it is not of God....What goes around always comes around...How dose your Father Fill about this It would blow my mind for one of children to be facing what it is you are facing....Learn to fight it Call some one you can trust in a Church and Have them help you learn about Fighting the demon that you are up against...God bless you in your Journey...And may the Lords light shine own you ....And for you to see that this is something just to slow you down and keep you from becoming all that you were meant to bee...God bless The U.S.A. and all.....
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Don't lose hope.  Christ will forgive you.  There is a reason that you are attracted to men.  I believe that homosexuality is a gender identity problem  and not a sex problem.  \n\nI encourage you to seek counsel from someone you trust or use the websties suggested for guidance. Don't get discouraged. You will likey receive reactions from people that vary greatly and many people will oppose your desire to seek healing. The websites suggested are right on target and should be an encouragement to you.\n\nYou need to really figure out why you are attracted to males.  There are plenty of Christian counselors who will help you realize what's really going on.  Men who are struggling with homosexuality are often doing so because they need attention, affection and affirmation from males, often because it was lacking in their childhood.  Other things that can trigger gender identity disorder are sexual abuse, verbal abuse or emotional abuse.\n\nJust remember that you are not alone in your struggle for freedom. While the media and many people would like you to believe you can't change, there is hope for those who seek healing from their past wounds. Be encouraged and don't let negativity bring you down. Keep your eyes on what you truly desire: forgiveness.\n\nDon't accept what others (even me) tell you about homosexuality. Do your research and see for yourself.\n\nCheck out these books ...\nYou Don't Have to Be Gay\nThe Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality\n\nVisit these web-sites (Google them)...\nFocus on the Family - They have a conference called LOVE WON OUT that's awesome for those people who are trying to get out of that lifestyle.  I don't know if you label yourself gay but there is a difference between being gay and being attracted to men. The books above will help explain what I mean in more detail.  \n\nThe EXODUS website tells more about homsexuality as well.
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As a Christian, i want to apologise for the answer of some other people calling themselves Christians. Certainly i believe what the bible says about homosexuality, but i am always amazed at how little Jesus actually has to say about it.\n\nHe is far more on about loving God and others than about judgement of people who are gay.\n\nSo buddy, i reckon that what you are working through (your sexuality) is perfectly normal. It is always nice to have other people around who know how you feel. \n\nYou would be surprized how many of the people at your school are gay as well. Starting a gay youth group may be one way to find out who they are.\n\nJust be careful not to get yourself into a place where adults can take advantage of you.\n\nDON'T DO ANYTHING YOU ARE NOT COMFORTABLE WITH!!!\n\nif you are not sure. it's better to just say - 'no i don;t want to do this anymore'.  and then if you feel like trying it again later, with a different person - go for it. God is big enough and ungly enough to cope. and he will love you at the end of the day whatever you have done.\n\nSee ya.
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You need to masturbate.  No joke. It will get you in touch with what feels good to you.  Once you get that down, I suggest that you start riding him so that you can have more control over what gets you feeling something.
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God bless you, my friend.  You are certainly obeying the Lord's will by abstaining from homosexual behavior while you are under the tremendous temptation that sex imposes on a young man. As with so many of life's tough problems, you must put yourself completely in Jesus' hands if you wish for a completely satisfactory solution.\nThe One who made the blind see, and the lame walk, is perfectly able to heal you of your desire for sexual immorality.  I pray you will direct your efforts to Him, and only to Him, as you struggle with your particular temptations.  Give Him your will, your heart, and your fleshly desires each morning, and whenever you feel the pull of sin.  And TRUST in Him!  Remember, He often told people that it was their FAITH that made His miracles happen.  \nI can't tell you how much I admire your courage in sticking by the Lord and tackling this difficult problem instead of just giving in to it as so many others have done.  May God look upon you in perfect love and mercy, and may He richly bless you with faith, and strength, and healing.  You'll be in my prayers, friend--hang in there!
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I agree with you Adder, I have dealt with this issue many times in churches. This often a point of control, to make men feel like they constantly need to repent simply for being attracted to women. \n\nIt's takes a very conservative point on some scriptures and misses the point that marriage is still about very much about sex, and sex is still about (you guessed it) sexual attraction. How many Christians do you know who marry without any consideration of looks? What then is the point of simply being vocal about being attracted?\n\nI assure you, this is a "Christian Alpha Male" move to manipulate and control men into feeling less about something they don't need to feel less about...\n\nThere is a fine line to lust though, and that should be taken into account. But for goodness sakes don't let others guilt trip you into feeling bad about being attracted. That's just stupid.
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It is important to remember that love is not an emotion, but a commitment. Let's look at Jesus for a moment: When He died on the cross, His motivation was not based on His emotional connection to us. No, He made a commitment, which He intended to stick with until the bitter end, no matter how much it might cost Him. The emotions may have played a part, but it was not the driving force behind His decision. So, even though you may feel distant from Christ, the fact that you are still interested in Him is a good sign. Don't let this go! Make sure to read the Word everyday! This is very important, as without it, you will likely become bitter and resentful towards your friends, your family, and even God. The Word is food for your Spirit Man: without it, you will soon feel the consequences. Also: pray, pray, PRAY! Be completely honest with God. Tell Him how you are feeling. Tell Him that you feel distant. God loves it when we get personal with Him. If you do, I'm sure that your passion will begin to reignite, because it is a sign that you are drawing near to Him. You are making a conscious effort to get to know Him better, and He recognizes this. He will reward you for it. Also, I encourage you to get involved in church events. Communication with other Christians is crucial to your spiritual health, they will encourage and support you in your walk with Jesus (and if they do not, I suggest you find another church). You may wish to get an accountability partner. This person will phone or communicate with you on a regular basis to check on how you are doing in terms of your relationship with God. Pick someone within your church or (Christian!) group of friends that you know you can trust. I'm sure that every Christian has felt this way at some point in their walk with God, I know that I have. Know that you are not alone. Make sure not to base your relationship with God solely on the love you feel for Him. Make sure to serve Him no matter how you feel, and I can pretty much guarantee that you will feel that passion once again. If there is anything I can do to help, feel free to contact me! God bless, and remember, Jesus loves you no matter what!\n\nSomething that I am sure will reignite your passion is the movie called "The Passion of The Christ." It is very accurate in it's portrayal of Jesus and the suffering He went through; all for you!(you may wish to have a kleenex box close at hand, this movie is a real tear jerker).
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Contact Evergreen International.  They will be able to give you a lot of help.\nThis is a very hard challenge and it will be a difficult road.  One thing I suggest is to not try to figure it out with all the different theories of men.  There is a lot of political garble out there that can easily confuse a person.  Stay with good books by people you trust, ie, the prophets and those that support them.\nAlso, talk to people about this.  Often you feel secluded in this trial, you shouldn't.  Remember that many people have these feelings and you will be surprised where help can be found.  Talk to your parents, to your Bishop, and possibly to any close friends you trust.  The more open you are about this, the less lonely you will feel.\nGood luck, pray often, and don't give up.  I know that this is hard, but it isn't impossible to live a happy life!
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Jesus loves you.  He died for you and your sins are forgiven.  God gives you free will for you to accept this.  God id all powerful.  He could make you drop dead right now if he so chose.  He has a plan in store for evry one of us.  Jesus said that the law was written on your heart, now adays this would be called your conscience, telling you right from wrong.  Jesus died so you would be saved from sin.  Looking @ porn is a sin, but I am not judging you because we are all of sin. (noone is rightious, no, not one) and the reason you have these feelings whenyoulook @ this is because God is telling you to come away from Satan's grasp.  The next time you have these urges to look @ porn (or anything else) go grap your Bible and open it to the Book of Psalms.  This book is very comforting and helps me get through tough times,also.  Say a prayer,asking God to fill you with strength from the Holy Spirit, and rebuke those urges in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Saviour.  When the little things God does don't get ur attention, God willmake his willclear in an unimaginable number of ways.  Contact me whenever @ starwarsgurl247@yahoo.com and I would love to talk to you.  In the matchless name of Jesus Christ, Holly
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It's normal.  I'm the same way with a guy friend I like (except he knows I like him).  You can't help but feel that way.  It's human nature.  People are naturally territorial.  You'll eventually get over it.
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Don't be gay. Jesus Doesn't approve. Hide your true feelings forever and live miserably. \n\nThink about it, it makes sense.\n\nI'm a doctor.
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I know how you feel. I have / is going through something similar to your experience. I married young, I wasn't a very religious person neither was my husband at that time. As months went by he started to get more religious and more involved with our church and he started dictating the way I should dress and the way I should act. Forcing me to do many things in the name of religion that I hated.. subsequently, because of this I started slacking of on my religious duties.. I know it is wrong but he made me hate the religion and everything that has to do with it. Religion stops at the bedroom door.. God did not dictate what you can and what you cant do with your wife/husband . It's bringing pleasure to the person you love and in doing so you are being a good person. Trying a different position or trying something new is not sacrilegious. The problem is.. you have wonderful sex with your lover, but that is scars .. and you are left in the meanwhile with an unwilling partner and many temptations.. I say don't get tempted to have another affair.. you will only complicate your life with the lies, hiding and sneaking. And believe me it will only make you despise your husband more and you feel more frustrated with the relationship. Try to talk to hubby again.. explain to him the severity of the lack of passion. If that doesn't work my advice is, consider your options.. are you willing to scarifies the marriage and your position in the society to fulfill your sexual desires or can you find means of self satisfaction..an uncomplicated affair ? You might be a better person because you won't feel as guilty as you do right now and have some peace with your self and with God... Best of Luck...
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Just keep it in your mind that God is watching you ...even while in the act....he sees "everything".......So when you get the urge think about that and ask God to give you something else to do ...(you have already thought the thought)...ASK and you shall receive.....Mathew 7:7..........
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I can totally relate to where you're coming from. I am also happily married to an amazing guy who sounds a lot like your husband - attractive, sweet, dependable. Yet I sometimes think about other guys I've been with (even brief relationships from back in high school!) or develop big crushes on guys I meet (see my latest post for details). \n\nI can also give you advice as someone who has followed her feelings and tried to "have it all" and the cake, too. A few years ago, I had a very brief affair - which I then confessed to my husband (also detailed in an earlier post). I was very fortunate that he forgave me, and now almost 4 years later we have a child together. The thing is, the affair totally wasn't worth it. Not only did I hurt my husband, who has been my best friend for 10 years, but I went through an emotional hell (and a deep depression).\n\nI can see a lot of similiarities in our situations because I am religious also. That can cause even more angst when these sexual feelings arise, because you feel so much guilt from them. What I've come to recognize is that the feelings are normal, but you just need to be careful not to act on them. It's OK to think about other people from time to time, to fantasize as long as you don't start spending all your energy wanting it to come true. \n\nIn your case, since you've been with this other guy in the past, it would be really easy to fall into it again. My advice is to stay away from him. Enjoy the memories of the exciting sexual moments you've shared in the past, and remember that you're an attractive person to other guys. Use it to boost your confidence and feel good about yourself, just don't act on it. Hope that helps! :-)
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I think we all think about sex, we are human. no, you are not supposed to lust after someone, that's bad, but to discuss it is not. Will you be punished? Stop thinking of God as this mean, mean person, he's not. Talk to him, he is all understanding. He understands what you are going through. Ask Him to help you keep your thoughts pure.
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+    :)\nA Christian in Rebellion!\n\nChristians are forgiven sinners.\nNo better and sometimes worse than others..\nI am or have been attracted to other sins just as strongly as you are now attracted to the man you say you love.\nLove (AGAPE) by the way is not sexual, lust (EROS) is.\nIf your love for this man does not lead you into fornication (in thought or deed) then It's not sin.\nIf you mean you feel lust for this person you should resist it.\nBeing a Christian means Making Jesus the Christ, the Lord of your life. \nJesus loves you and all homosexuals as much as he loves anyone else.  He died for all of us.\nIf you love him you will keep his commandments.\n\nNo amount of approval from others on this site can change what you must do to please him.