why do i clam up at a big crowd party and yet be the loudest in my small group of friends?
600344
Dont worry. You are normal. Just mix up well with all. Dont try to impress others. You have a superiority complex with known friends and inferiority complex with new friends,\nDont try to be Unnatural and try to attract attention.Attend more parties. Read a lot on various subjects, Be a good conversationalist. In all parties there would be various small groups, small circles centred around one or two heroes or heroines , just switch from one to another, wherever the topic talked is your favourite subject just get attached to it. \nDont open mouth or volunteer information to unknown groups and unless you have real knowledge on that topic.\nOver a period of time you would be liked by one and all.\nDRESS WELL PRESENT YOUR BEST ALWAYS.
740023
You need to be around people who will acknowledge your presence and make you feel like you belong.\n\nLet them go to hell!!! Find new friends who make you feel like you are a part of something.
1115411
Some people are very private and don't like their private space invaded. Private people have a strong tendency to stand back and watch people before starting a conversation. You are who you are.
1057127
Maybe its because your so quiet.  People might judge you as being someone who wont stick up for yourself and so make an easy target.  Which in turn shows you the people who are targeting you are really cowards.
582165
Some times it is easier to talk to strangers then our loved ones.  Sounds like you need to stand up for your self.  Don't let people walk all over you.  You were not put on this earth to be a door matt.  You can do it with out being nasty about it.  Just be open and honest with them, as long as you are being honest and they don't like what they hear.  That is their problem not yours.  It's your life take a stand.
839
I'm a loner too.  I tried to play the part of being socialable, but I don't seem to agree with anything anyone does.  I think most people are full of themselves.  I stopped trying to socialize.  I am what I am, and that's it.  I don't need to prove anything to anyone.  Just as long as you're happy being a loner, there's nothing wrong with it.  If you're uncomfortable in crowds, then don't torture yourself.  What's right for one person, may not be right for the next person.
837358
Embarrassed? No. But nervous, Yes. Everybody gets nervous, just that some people aren't that obvious. Even an introvert may get nervous getting onto a stage in front of many people. What you need is to get used to speaking in front of large groups and learn to deal with it. There are lessons and classes on public speaking, they are even offered in high schools and colleges.
974681
I speak loudest when I have a few beers in my belly.
745288
People do the same exact thing to me, when i say something , like someone would be like OH!!! YOU CAN TALK?! And then i say back to: DUH! IF I CANT TALK THEN WHY AM I IN SCHOOL!!! people are rude! im 13 though.
394173
I embarass easy too! I just make sure that whenever we are in a room together like at a party or even at school to be around them. Let yourself be seen, create attention to yourself by walking by with some friends and talking loudly and laughing and having a good time! Maybe you could write them a letter. I always write when I want to say something and I cant get the courage up to say it! That may be your best bet!
252148
i concur.lol. speak proper or don't speak at all.....it's like ur having a tantrum on a keyboard! And i think people join ClAnZ lol to not feel insecure which is perfectly normal..like one time..i passed a group of punks...then i psased them and left.....end of story...moral of story...i dunno
177619
Because if you are like me, when I'm around people I don't seem to fit in.  I am not very sociable mainly because I am shy.  I am not not good with small talk.  When I am home I am not under all the pressure of trying to fit in and be sociable.
1113167
Lots of people get nervous speaking in front of people. It is very daunting to see all those people who are hanging over your every word.  When you get really nervous, take a deep breath and count to 3, then just try to continue speaking. Realize that people aren't judging you and are probably more focused on what you are reading rather than the way you are reading it. If worse comes to worse you can just look for a familiar face in the crowd, like maybe a friend, and focus your attention on them. Make it seem as if you are just there reading to your friend.
678154
Get a bunch of friends over and be real quiet except for right when they finish. Then all of you applaud as loud as you want.
1096930
Loud people - I will never understand why people have to be so loud in unnecessary settings.
483049
You must be hanging around with the wrong crowd.  \n\n"To each his own..."
1048206
I was always the quiet one, but when you do finally speak up people definitely listen.  I prefer to be the listener and watcher.  See how people interact and react.  You can learn a whole lot more being the one who listens instead of the one who talks all the time.  Be open when you want to be and speak up when you feel passionate about something or someone.  You'll be fine!