I'm a gay Blk male Who wants to have an interracial baby,  am I selfish and illogical?
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I only have 2 concerns: 1-is that you're single and raising a child on your own can be very challenging and 2-where do you live? You have to put your own experiences aside & think about the child's. Will they be harassed or exposed to possible violence because of your situation? I live in L.A. so luckily people are very open to different types of families but if you lived in the south for example, I would think twice. Being a mixed child with a single gay father could cause serious reactions and affect the child's self-image.\n\nBottom line, make the decision from your heart and be sure that you can give the child everything it needs before exposing it to this mean & intolerable world.
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First of all, winning his heart has nothing to do with having that baby.  To do with winning his heart.  I am assuming that you know him well enough to know what his feelings for you are.  If not just talk to him about it.  As for the baby I sure hope that the decision you made to keep it was for the right reasons and that you are prepared to raise it without this lad.  Don't mix the two together and start telling the truth and to hell with both of your mates or so called mates.
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Hey listen up Bro. I am a black man and I am in love with an asian woman that I met over 2 years ago. I am 37 yrs. old and I have been around the world and seen a lot.\nI have been blessed to find a sincere,loyal,humble,smart and charming beautiful asian woman who is all about me. Trust me, she is a good girl. The kind that you want to bring home to mom.\nShe has shunned away from jealous and evil folks that try to give her evil advice. She will not let ANYONE destroy our love for each other. We both found true love and don't care who don't like it. We have one child and another on the way. We enjoy building a family. I believe God put us together because my love for her is growing sweeter and she feels the same way toward me. I am Happy with this. Go for it. Don't worry about people. Let them die jealous. Last but not least, she is now my Wife and I hold my head up with dignity.
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trust me, you dont need to go to the ghettos to get an african american guy thre are plenty of them living in good suburbs and nice places than even whites. if he is your boyfriend and you are planning to get married then move on have his baby, infact mixed babies are so beautiful than none mixed whites. congratulations.
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I'd put my energy into raising the 3 children I already have instead of risking my health with another pregnancy, but the decision is up to you and the potential fetus's father.\n\nWhen you have this issue sorted, get sterilized.
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Lasermouse:  Sorry, I'm with you but I HAVE to answer this question.\n\nMy son will be born in August...and he is my son.  I don't care if he's straight or gay.  I don't care if he wants to wear pants or dresses.  I don't care if he wants to be a doctor or a clown.\n\nI love my son.  I want him to be happy.  THAT'S my objective.  Not for him to live the life that I prefer...I want him to life the life that HE prefers, and I'll back him up 100%
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YES IT IS OK YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM, AND YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HAPPY. JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE A BABY FROM SOMEONE DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU HAVE TO STAY WITH HIM. JUST MAKE SURE THAT THE PERSON WHOM DECIDE TO DATE IS LOVING AND CARING TO YOU AND YOUR CHILD.
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First off- This girl is using you as a stepping stone. SHe probably WANTED to have a baby with this person, and now, here she is- that plan hasn't made her happy...so she's saying that you- and your family- will make her happy? What about this baby? WHat about what's RIGHT for this child that she's going to drag all over pillar and post everytime "happily ever after" doesn't measure up to her expectations? Perhaps someone should think about the best interest of this child's happily ever after. Stop interfering in this woman/girl's life and offering her solutions that sound selfish and uncaring. She is someone's mother- not just someone's girlfriend anymore. And, for the record, you don't sound so bright yourself, so, before you assume the role of step parent, perhaps you should get an education, as well. Do yourself a favor- and the baby. Get an education, and find a loving family to help raise that baby. Neither one of you sound like good role models. Life is not about a daily monitor on a happy-o-meter. Someone please give this child a better opportunity for a good life. Not a momma who will bounce from one bed to another pending the color of sheets that make her happy...
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Yes I think you should go ahead and get the paternity test. My brother went through the same thing for nearly 5 years and it came out not being his baby. It seems to me that she doesn't know if it's his or not. Good luck.
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there is no way anybody here can answer that for you, the fact that you feel the need to ask is not a good sign though.  make sure you can take care of yourself and your baby on your own in case it doesn't though, its the best way to protect yourself against the possibility that it won't and you are now responsible for another life.  why are you having a child with someone you have so many doubts about?
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Yes I believe so. I have read up on the topic of whether homosexuality is a choice or whether it is biologically set before you are born. \n\nThis is from the book:\n"Six to eight weeks after conception a male foetus (XY) receives a massive dose of male hormones called androgens...if the male foetus does not receive enough male hormone at the appropriate time... a baby boy may be born with a brain structure that is more feminine than masculine."\n\nSo although it is likely that people like you will be gay, I do believe that you could be straight.\nDon't worry about being different from other guys, because it means you can have some great relationships with women!\n\nxx
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I'm not sure what you have to cope with; if he's bisexual, then he is.  You shouldn't treat him any differently than if he were heterosexual or homosexual.  Looking at it from the point of view of your interests, it seems to me you've got the best of both worlds if you can play your cards right: he can experiment with same-sex friendships when he's young (and thus you don't have to worry about an unwanted pregnancy) whereas he won't have totally cut off the idea of having a family and giving you grandkids later in life.
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Morally, you are obligated to tell him.  This child is not just your child.  This is something you both created.  You must BOTH make some life changing choices.\n\nAbortion to me is totally out of the question.   I think the baby needs a chance at life rather you can do it or not, there are many families willing to adopt.\n\nMy preferance is this:  If you are old enough and both of you love each other for what is inside, then get married and start a real life for this child.  ALWAYS communicate, and NEVER goto bed mad.  Even if you have to be the first one to appoligize.\n\nNow if he is not man enough to take on the responsibility, then maybe your parents can help you make the choices you need to make.\n\nGood Luck!\nJames McDowell\nFather of 3 wonderful kids. (I was once in your shoes)\nMarried to thier mother for almost 17 years.
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First of all you are mislead thinking that "ALL Black men  are this" and "ALL Italian men are that" it has nothing to do with the race, it's the genes.\nAnd as for you not being able to handle it, that too is just no so, your body is made to give birth to a baby, that can be from 3lbs. to 10lbs. and anything in between, so you can handle him , IF YOU WANT TO, I wouldn't tell you to go in and just jam it but, there are somethings that you can do to make it easier for you and him as well.\nYou may start off slow and wet, what I mean is you can get you some KY gel and it will help.\nYou could also check out this show called "Talk Sex" with Dr.Johannsen (she is the host) She is very good and you could call in with your questions it comes on the oxygen channel  on Saturday night/Sunday morning, check out your local listings & times.\nI will tell you this much as long as he knows what he's doing with it, it can be a wonderful thing.\nWhatever you do don't let him bang!bang!bang!!! you because it can hurt you okay?
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hey, man...i know you're not making a big fuss over this matter nor fretting out too, bad, are you? GOOD! because everybody is created uniquely special.. soooo special! whatever it is, trust HIM that He got a great plan for it...whatever the size is...your doctor would agree if i say it doesnt affect the act of procreation...have a wonderful day! thanks!
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JewJew, never mind the immature answers from some of the previous entries. \n\nLook, there are other alternatives to your situation.  It is wonderful that you and your husband have the love that you do for children and want to have more in your family.  Some families out there don't care enough for the children that they have been blessed with.  You can see that play right out on your answer list by those that probably were not brought up with a lot of morals.\n\nWhich brings us to the next point I am going to make.  There are a lot of children already out there that need loving families.  Such as yourselves.  Adoption would definitely be something to consider, without taking the medical risk that you are willing to.\n\nThis would be worth your time to look into, and as I already stated, don't be bothered by some of the other previous answers because they undoubtedly do not have a clue on what good parenting is all about, whether you have an entire house full of kids, or just one.\n\nGood luck to you and your husband's decision, Make it an act of faith!!   God Bless you and your family.....
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Have a kid with some one else? Have you tried asking? Maybe you should sit her down and ask if she wants everyone in the world to know that she is basically sterile and if it is okay for you to tell everyone on the Internet that? Lets say by chance you get her pregnant. Its a Girl will you reject the child? Your question says you want a Son. So not only do you want your Girlfriend to do something she cant do but you want her to push out a boy. If all else fails. Tell her you love her and you want to share in the ultimate joy of having children together. Then go to the fertility clinic and work on this together.