INTROVERTS FELLOWS: Have you ever find that you are being misunderstood?
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I have been chief among the introverts all my life. All that you mentioned I have experienced, and more. I thought for a time that there was nothing more than loneliness and pain for me for the rest of my life. A time or two I wondered who would care if I just folded my tent and went home. Who would even notice I was gone? Maybe Mom and Dad, no one else.\nBut I was not willing to give up. You know that feeling. You know there is something more for you, somewhere, somehow.\nCall it stubborness, call it tenacity. We introverts have it deep within us. Deeper and harder to reach than in our extroverted counterparts, but stronger too. I finally recognized that my life as I knew it was simply not all I was meant to be. There were things that burned deeply within me that were screaming to get out. We have talents that no extrovert could imagine. We have a passion for life that they only dream of. No, they don't even know it exists! We have gifts that stir our souls every day. No one knows they are there but you and me. I have been there at your side my friend, I've stood in your shoes. The pathway we walk as introverts may be rugged and narrow, but it is rutted and worn from those who have gone before us when the way was far less traveled.\nTake a look within yourself this weekend. Consider what you want to do for the rest of the world that so desperately needs your help. Is it you who insults and bullies? No! Is it you who won't reach out to the quiet kid? No. Is it you who is blinded by all that is flickering and buzzing around in this fast paced world? No. Does your mind fly from one thing to the next without ever acknowledging the simple and quiet things of beauty? No! It's others who do that. Not you and I. We see the subtle changes in the shadows on the mountainside as the Sun moves across the sky. We smell the faint fragrance of a tiny flower others would simply trample. We think, and consider, and imagine. Others only respond to their environment. We see, and taste, and smell, and know what can be. We are the ones who consider, and dream, and invent, and design, and write, and bring tears of joy to others. We weep for the beauty of a piece of music. We must touch and absorb a work of art. We experience life. Others just live in it.\nWe need them. Don't get me wrong! But we are needed more! Our talents are needed more! Our vision is needed more!\nSo look inside. Do you want to write? Take up your pen. \nDo you want to create a work of art that will bring others to tears? Take up your brush! Do you want to help them understand what they could have been? Show them what you are. \nI have learned that I can stand before a room full of people and have them screaming with laughter at my humor. And with my next sentence have them weeping in acknowlegement of some thought or situation. I've done it. And not just once. I have another series of meetings to present next week that I volunteered to lead. Every morning next week the conference room will be all mine for an hour with seventy plus people each day. Managers, engineers, craftsmen, project leads, superintendents. And only me up front. Scare you? Me too... every time I've done it. Many, many times now. But people always shake my hand and pat me on the back and tell me they wish they could do that. They have no idea what it took to get up there. But when it's over I feel absolutely alive.\nI'll be wringing wet with sweat and exhausted when I'm finished, but they don't know that. All they know is they had a blast and want to know when I can do it again. How did I get there? Stubborn tenacity! I have suffered through too many presentations from flighty and disconnected extroverts. I love extroverts, I do. But I knew I could do better. I just had to get up and do it!\nAt church I can kneel down with someone in prayer and bond in complete unity with them in God's spirit for a few moments. I know exactly what they are feeling and what they
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I think I would make a plan of my own since it sounds like you will need one anyway.  In the meantime, don't dwell on it.  Then when it comes up, there will be no need for you to fumble around, you will already have a plan and you can just tell them what it is.   Don't set yourself up to be out of a place to stay or to be humiliated.  I am an introvert as well and we have to look out for ourselves instead of following the crowd like extroverts do.  But it makes us more independant, huh?
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Introvert. At one time people like myself were referred to as 'bookish'.
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I have/had the same problem. For my entire life i felt different from other people, had difficulty in following what was being said because my concentration was flipfloping from one thing to another.\n If I was bored with something I would stop whatever project I was envolved with and start another. I tried to get an associates degree,instead i got bored could not concentrate and dropped everything I had going for me and moved to Alaska(radical hey). A real downside for me was that I was being taken advantage of by those who knew I had a problem of sorts and I was worked until I could not stand anymore.\n Anyway.. before you slide down the path. there are millions of people who have this problem,it is not a bad thing it is in the way we learn and diseminate communication. I can not and will not say you have this but for me thay call it Attention Deficite Disorder(ADD). I had been told by many of doctors that I should be screened for this due to my erradic past,so I did and have been greatfull ever since. It is weird to think clearly and not scattered. I now start and finish tasks in little to record times. Hey check it out.
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Finally--an interesting question...thank you!! It actually made me think.I had never really thought about that before,but upon pondering it,I do believe that may be the case.When I was working at home all day,I longed for human interaction at times--so that I would be ultra friendly to people when I did venture out,to the bank,grocery store...wherever!!Just I guess to TALK to someone.My nature is friendly anyways,but I think even more so then--when I was in solitude more often.
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I read Blink too, so I've seen the study you mean. You're right, it is definitely an exercise in introspection. Thanks for your post. I don't know what the other girl is talking about. Maybe we missed something in the rules?
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To further understand myself, I introspect my feelings.  \n\n(I never knew "introspect" was a word until I looked it up!)
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Im sometimes embarrassed if anything cuz they come off pushy, I've experienced it myself from them : /
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Yes - unfortunately, I have.\n\nI tend to get obsessed with women I can't have and I can't figure out how to back out of the situation gracefully. Unfortunately, this means that I end up getting embarrassed, and getting my feelings hurt.
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I am as outgoing and uninhibited as I need to be.  That is why I post my picture and answer questions using real information about my and my life here at Yahoo! Answers.\nNow that I think about it, perhaps I am too outgoing and uninhibited for social interacting.  Who else would answer a question by saying that Opinions are like Posteriors, everybody has one.\nBy the way, this was a very good question, keep these coming.  We need more questions that can’t be found on some on-line encyclopedia or by a quick web search.
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Yes my friend Honesty is very much alive in this selfish world !!\n   A bit difficult to understand this fact....i am not being hyperbolic but to tell u v all live different lives and our lives r so busy and ignorant, we are accustomed to listening to people speak  lies almost every day, yes we sometimes also do speak lies, now at this moment of time, if u meet a person who tells u the truth u always start spying on that person !!I because its all our mindsets that sets us to think that there is no honesty in this world and that no one is honest!!\nwe fail to recognize that person through observation, behavior,speech eye contact, body Language and other such aspects which show the level of honesty in that person!!\nSo ...I think its time to look around I think u should find people who are quite Honest!!
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You know, I'm myself have done this a time or two now that you've made me think about it.  Its wrong and I should stop doing it. I just get so frusterated as people ignorance sometimes that it leaks out.  I'll try to be more aware of it.  Thank you for your question, its made me think about myself and how I can be a better person.  \n\n*hugs*
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Civility & understanding always works. I am working for honest friendships with Yahoo Q&A people who do not believe as I do. I think the secret to acceptance is in our very makeup. We have ONE mouth and TWO ears. We should all listen twice as much as we speak.
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Somethning does I am sure. When in a terrible situation and your looking for external help silently, do you get it? I do many types, unmanifested by self anyway. However I have only seen it in cases I just can't handle myself. Nothing small and stupid.
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Are you not contradicting yourself?
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Very strange, I was discussing a girl with a friend earlier tonight. She is extremely shy and it's difficult for me to understand what she's thinking half of the time. I used to be introverted and then had a major incident and came out extroverted. I asked a psychologist if it was possible to change in that fashion. She replied "Yes, people may change with time. However it usually happens because of some life changing event". Good luck.
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Weird huh?  Even weirder, if you carefully scrutinize an activity, that's exercising oversight.  But if you completely miss something, that's an oversight.\n\nIt's a wonder we communicate at all sometimes.