let me rephrase this, how do i make it up to the couple i caused to divorce? i am SORRY about it, ok?
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He didn't want to have a threesome?  In all seriousness, I'm under the impression that most men would.
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I personally think you have made a smart move and are taking responsibility for what is yours. I would NOT stay with or talk with the ex girlfriend. (why mess up what you are trying to recreate). I can understand why you were made at your wife, but she is your wife and more importantly the daughter is yours.
228957
I starte to write something else, but couldn't do it.  If you are that unhappy, get a divorce and do this thing the right way.  Cheating on him is not the answer.
1093664
if you really mean it when you say your sorry and try to make it up to her. it also depends on what you did maybe you should tell her that you love her, that'll help.
1150267
Why would you want to get back with your EX HUSBAND . there had to be a reason for the breakup in the first place . RIGHT? Sorry for being so blunt about that issue!
842224
well it is hard to admit that we are divorced, it's like saying I failed in  a relationship. But until you get over that feeling that it just wasn't meant to be, you won't feel good about yourself. You have to realize that it wasn't your fault and eveerything happens in life for a reason if we don't always know the reason
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We need more details to help you out here.  The best I can do with what I know about your situation is a general appology.  Be sincere, and don't try to explain your side of it.  If you do, this may come accross as an excuse.  If you are truely sorry for what you did then say so and never say, "I'm sorry but...".  This will make the person think you don't really mean it.  Take full responsibility for your actions and admit what you did was wrong.  Ask them to look down deep in their heart and please forgive you.  Remind them of what your relationship means to you and how important they are to you.  Finish the letter by saying over again, "I really am sorry for hurting you.  I will do what ever it takes to earn your trust and restore our relationship."\n\nGood Luck!
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You need to tell them that you are sorry that you said that and you never really meaant that and you were just mad. You both just need to accept each other and make-up. Hope this helps. Follow your heart Love is Friendship on Fire.
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First, you need to understand why you're fighting. Is it over another person, money, time spent together? What?\nAfter you figure that out, plan a romantic evening. We're talking candles, music, pretty lacey things if you're at that stage, that kinda thing. And then apologize. Tell him how much you love him and that you're sorry that things have been so hard and that you wanna start over. And then do. If he feels the same way, he'll accept your apology and he might even apologize himself. \nGood luck sweetie
877553
forget about her and the ring , u r a married man now so act like it , put the past in the past
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I have to say no.  My ex-husband and I tried that but it doesn't work because even if you don't say how you feel it doesn't mean you don't feel that way.  Then it seems like everything is bottled inside and eventually you blow up.  It's a nice idea but not very plausible.  Another thing in marriage is it's not always so hard to forgive it's the forgetting that's the problem.  So, my advice is find another way counseling, talking, or if that's not an option I hate to say but divorce is better than being your spouses "roommate", you can't just stop caring even if you think you can.
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It happened...  Ulitmately we got divorced...
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It's a great question... really it is.\n\nI find myself making that call a lot.\n\nI'd say... consider the GREATER GOOD... and act accordingly.\n\nFor example... My wife doesn't like ANY INTERACTION with my EX-WIFE... she doesn't even like me TALKING to her... But my SON (who lives with me) is a product of that marriage.\n\nSometimes My ex and I will communicate through e-mail... to deal with an issue... and I'll just NOT MENTION that to my current wife.\n\nThe greater good.   There are other examples... but this one I think is pretty cut and dried.
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You can't do much if they won't forgive you and let it go.  You can apologize to them from the bottom of your heart and tell them how sorry you are - thats your part to do.  Their part is to forgive you and really mean it and move on.
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when I was in college I was, I can't access IM right now due to my location, but I will tell you this. I sped up her divorce, which was good for him and her. I was her Rock, because her family didn't like what she was doing and basically shut her out. After the Divorce her family started to accept her again and at the point I became "to annoying to be with" and now she is living in AZ somewhere with her dream man from HighSchool. So in a sense I ended a bad relationship, Got really really heart broken (which I learned alot about myself) and now 2 other people are happier because of what I did
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Sounds like you need space for yourself. Dump the husband since he isn't working with the reconciliation. Then give your self space. Don't let this other guy enter your life too quickly, sounds like he did just that when you were separated. When you are stable from the finalized divorce, then look at your prospects.
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I really believe that you need to court each other again. I know it sounds silly but we're talking about the rest of your life here. In life sometimes we loose sight of how we got there. good luck!