help needed!!!give ur advise please..?
606616
Girl, if I did it, you can too...you need to stop saying that you can't leave and say that you can.  If you want to get out, then GET OUT.  How in the hell does someone have that much power over you?  AND BLACKMAILING YOU?  WHAT ARE YOU, A POLITICIAN????  Leave child, because there isn't a man on these green planet that could hold me back from anything...and while you're at it, grow some backbone, cuz honey!!!!!!!!!!  Couldn't be ME!  \n\nSee, people like you who say they can't stand something and that it's hell and they want to get out usually want to stay.  If you really want to leave...let me give you the secret that has been passed down from generation to generation:\n\nGET THE F U C K OUT BEFORE HE KILLS YOU!  \nThen maybe you'll be satisfied!  Don't mean to be harsh on you, but you need someone to kick you in the behind...too many people in your life have rubbed your head and told you it's okay instead of telling it like it is!  Leave him if you really want to, or stay...it's your life...
814506
Get as far away from him as possible.  He needs to get help and is too controlling.  You deserve to have someone that makes you happy and you deserve to have a life outside of him as well.  If he cannot accept that and trust you, then there really is no relationship.
112595
Oh dear Lord.  Please tell them right away.  You need sone kind of help.  I have never dealt with this and have no advise, but please get up enough courage to tell her, she can help you.
347127
I am going to empower you, girl, for this Life is far too short to attempt to spend it...as you appear to be trying to. Lesson One: STOP believing that YOU can read anyone else's mind, let alone a man's! STOP injecting YOUR feelings/voice into the space where someone else's feelings/voice should resound. And for the love of God, please STOP yourself whenever you find yourself even THINKING: "Yeah...I KNOW ______ (fill in space with a name) is behaving in this fashion BUT..." The reason why is this: Unless your last name is "Christ" you are most likely under-qualified to accurately 'read' other people's (true) feelings/emotions/thoughts, etc, etc. You can GUESS, but you will NOT always be correct. OK, if someone's real-world/real-time actions DO support a particular notion of yours, you CAN make an educated guess. But, for the sake of your not spending your life spinning your wheels and waiting for guys to act the way YOU 'know' they REALLY feel...please DO consider discerning/judging people (ESPECIALLY MEN!!!) by what they actually DO and NOT by what they say. Try to respect people enough to believe that they actually KNOW what they are saying/doing, even if it is not what YOU prefer them to say/do. Anything less makes YOU the 'bad guy', as in: controlling, manipulative...Bottom Line? If your man really loves you, he will find his own way back to you. And YOU should require nothin' less, because if HE left, he should EARN   you all over again. He will not respect you, otherwise, and you may have a lifetime filled with him goingcominggoingcoming...! A good woman IS worth her weight in diamonds. Has he presented you with something, somethought, someindication, which demonstrates to you HIS understanding of YOUR (positive) worth, yet? If not, why are you even wasting time TRYING to understand HIM?!? My dear, YOU are worth more than YOU (appear to) know. So...here's MY parting 'gift': If he IS an immature jerk, let 'im go. Alternately, (I promise) the minute you STOP! worrying about him and move on with your own life- and No, this doesn't necessarily mean YOU should go out and make an ass of yourself with other guys/men/boys, either- he WILL take notice (meaning: miss the dedicated attention his fabulosity assured him of receiving from you) and come running with his 'feelings' in full display for you to (mis)interpret...again. Oh! And if you are an attractive/sexy/cute/desirable/viable female...the latter will happen sooner than you can blink. Have faith. In you.
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Your ex-bf's problem has nothing to do with age. He wants to "have his cake and eat it too". (I hate that cliche). I agree with phattphatt. This guy is unstable and needs to be kicked to the curb. If he keeps this crap up she will do the same and he will have lost you both. I'm not so sure what the age problem is, she is only a year younger. Your first statement made it sound like he a was dating a child and he was in his thirtys. Give him the boot and find yourself a real man.
971686
That is so terrible!! I would say just continue to do what you are already doing...be there for her! You are an awesome friend...good job...not too many of those left in the world.
730871
This situation is in dire need of professional help. Seriously. He needs to look out for his best interests while at the same time look out for hers as well. He needs someone to help him balance. That is too much weight for one person to bear. Have him seek help.
628783
not much you can do, except tell him how you feel. you can't control what other people do, i would suggest you move on though.
253085
I'm in almost exactly the same situation -- probably worse.  Above all else, DON'T WASTE HIS TIME! Tell him how you feel, and either break it off or let him know you may need to explore things a bit (meaning date others) before you continue.  Don't go behind his back, and don't evade the issue, because it only gets worse over time.  Good luck!
673960
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762633
He sounds like a control freak. Move on! Good luck to you!
149024
Listen to him.  Show that you care how he feels and what he is doing with his life.  Smile!!!!
1165246
you are making care-full moves i hope you carry with it. As you said it would be too early. I would also opine in the same tone but it seems you are making some irresistible haste which will be waste, if you do not use your own brains. My personal opinion being "look before you leap" suggesting you to be cautious. Some great people say that "your heart should not rule your head"  because they have succeeded in their life by making proper moves at right time. Your age from your profile does not give you freedom to make your own choice on major decision's of life, even though you are major. In this particular episode if you are going to make a long time relationship you should take advice of your parents too. anyway life is yours these are my personal opinion so that you do not fall in a ditch and repent after wards. Net friendship should not be taken seriously until everything is tested first on net itself through cam's, voice chat etc. anyway best of luck.
834053
Listen to their advice & opinions, but ultimately--the decision is yours to make.  Whatever your decision is though, know that you could be in for a world of hurt, or you might have found the love of a lifetime. Only time will tell, and only you can decide that.  Give it some time & see where it goes.\n\nGood luck!
1027491
Take some time for you. Your ex is your ex for a reason! If the new guys really wants to help than he'll understand that you need to be your own person for awhile. That wall is up because Mr. Right hasn't found a way in.
1004769
WOW Ok i will give this a shot at!  First thing that came to my mind is , Don't Change anything. If you start to cuddle him more or start changing due to this news, he will feel like you feel sorry for him, and he will feel worse. Stay the way you are, The second thought is,,,He JUST  found out TODAY! So yes allot is going threw his head and will for awhile. Just be yourself, the women he fell in love with. Be there when he needs you. Stand by him. Don't make it the TOPIC everyday, let him bring it up. He will talk when the shock of it all has settled abit. JUST LOVE HIM AS YOU BEEN DOING! My prayers are with him & you.  Peace.
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Well with your friend.  I had the same situation.  She is your friend she just needed a ride.  Don't let it bother you to bad.  She might come around she might not.  I wouldn't give the guy anything just let him stick around and charm you but dont buy him anything!!!