husband getting on my nerves HELP?
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.\n\n\n\nLet Hubby do the wash.\nLet Hubby do the dishes.\nLet Hubby do the cleaning.\nLet Hubby do the honey-do list.\n\nAnd you go shopping :-)\n\n(bring him a banana split when you return...\nand your "good to go" for another day :-)\n\nOH..........and when you return, \nwhile he is eating that banana split...\nBE PREPARED for him to tell you \nthe "correct" way he found to \nDo the Washing\nDo the Dishes\nDo the Cleaning\n(and act really Really interested...\nlike he has all these great new ideas :-)\n\nAnd also let him tell you once again \nwhy he NEVER got around to doing the things \non the Honey-Do List \n:-)
771968
Honey\n\nYou and your hubby need to move out!\n\nEven if you have to live in a small dump, its better than putting up with the stress!!\n\nMove out soon!
961192
Tell your husband either he says something or you will. You're an adult and don't need anyone telling you what to do. And if you're the one to say something, his mother is not going to like what you have to say. You're tired of this crap and will put a stop to it.
212825
Don't worry...this is very common. The best thing that you guys can do is to get together and come to agreements about your finances and stick to a budget...that way, if/when either one of you buy something outside the budget...you get called out. Also, it is best to sit down and just have a heart to heart on all of the frustrations that you are both going through...the worst thing that you can do is to sweep it under the rug and let it build up! Also, make a pact to only talk about things in a calm manner and do it all in one session instead of doing it everyday(a peaceful home is a happy one). Also, remember that you are adjusting to each other and that you are both going to find things that annoy you about the other person...but, also look at the positive things and especially the positive things that you have noticed since you have been married!
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Tell him in a direct way that focuses on how his behavior makes you feel rather than judging him or condemning the behavior. For example, don't say something like, "God, I'm sick of your bragging! It totally annoys him!"\n\nInstead, give him some concrete examples of things he's said that annoy you. Tell him specifically why that behavior is annoying to you. If you can keep the focus on neutral facts and your own feelings rather than accusing him, you lessen the chance that he will get upset.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
105297
there's nothing you can do about it.Your husband needs to disguss it with them since it's his family,and tell them nicely to knock it off.
566300
I find everything about my husband's boyfriend annoying
510937
They do that because they know you will cry. So you have to turn the tables on them. Gird up the woman power and tell\nthem to back off. Put some sterness in your voice. Don't\nback down. You see they think you are weak and a wimp. But \nyou can prove them wrong. When your husband does that just\nlaugh it off, make a joke about it, or ignore it. As for the\nson he is out of line and he need to stay in a child's place. You need to take his prize possession from him. Ground him until he learns to respect you and obey you. You have got to take a stand and let them know you are not going to put up with their crap no more. That is your house too and you need to take control. Let them see the ugly side of you. That'll scare them.
321175
You try not to fuel the argument. Even if he's yelling at you, keep quiet. In due time maybe he will realise what mistakes he's making, if he doesn't I guess he is not worth it.
877649
First, if he attacks you about such things, tell him to talk to your husband when he gets home, then close the door. Then your husband should ask about a written form that states whatever rules he may have, which is actually something you should have gotten when you moved in. If he is making up the rules as he goes along, then next time your husband can tell him his 'new rule' is not in the written agreement and close the door on him.
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if your both fighting and not happy why bother to stick it out. if his mother is not nice to you and he wont listen to you when you tell him about it is he really thinking of your best interests? your not married yet and already your not happy, and he seems to not care about that. personally i would not be with my husband if he didn't listen to me when i told him i was uncomfortable about something. as much as you want to put his feelings first you need to think about yourself too. if he doesn't make you feel good about yourself run fast and run hard, a lifetime can be really long when your not happy
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Think about these questions and their answers:\nAre you both in financial trouble?  Stress from finances can make anyone hot tempered and cause strain on marriages.  Work out a budget to get back on track, cut back on spending on unneeded items.  \n  \nIs he having trouble at work?  Encourage him to talk about it if so, to get it off of his chest.  \n\nDoes he have any hobbies, things he likes to do?  If so, encourage him to do them to help relax.  \n\nDoes he workout?  I know for me, going and doing a good workout or hitting the punching bag for a while will get rid of those feelings when I am angry.\n\nIs he insecure about something?  Does he think he is too short, too fat, too thin, etc...?  Maybe he is hot-tempered because of this.  Try to encourage him and point out his good traits.  \n\nDo you take care of him at home (sexually)?  This caused a lot of problems in my marriage when we wouldn't have sex or cuddle for months at a time.  Husbands are much happier when they are satisfied sexually.  \n\nIf none of these items apply or can help, he may just have psychological problems and should be encouraged to see a therapist or do marriage counseling to talk it out in a safe, neutral environment.  \n\nGood luck!
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Make a time to sit down and talk with him---try to do this with as few distractions as possible. Find out what kind of support he wants. Since he's complaining, insist that he be specific. After you've listened to him, then make sure he listens to you. Be specific about the support you are providing, and also tell him your needs. This is your turn to be specific. Write everything down, compare lists, and try to come up with compromises. This might help disarm the negative emotions. Just because he's in pain, doesn't mean he should be disrespectful and ungrateful. You can be sympathetic for his pain, and still take up for yourself. You and your husband are modeling an adult relationship for your children.
1176240
LOL\nYour husband pissed you off or something?
807034
Sounds like you both are trying to work through this. Unfortunately sometimes arguments do occur, the only thing is when the dusts settles what then? I believe that by him not telling you right away that this or that was not exactly what he expected seems he is trying to be tolerant. Where he is trying maybe not to impose on you all the time what he think or how he thinks things should be. But if he bottles it up and then waits to explode letting you have it all at once, you are right he really should tell you then and there. Not bottle it up and make him resent or get so angry.  He has to realize you fess up to things you tell him "Oh I had no idea I was coming across that way" so he has to know you are not intentionally doing things to  irritate him. Keep talking, keep telling him to tell you.  Tell him "Hey let post this or that and have people who don't know you and don't know me, tell us what they think is going on. People who have nothing to gain"  People who do this just because we've all been there and think Hey maybe someone else can benefit from past mistakes.   Good Luck to you and him I really hope it works out for you two.
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Since you didn't post this in the marriage section I will assume you aren't married and no children are involved. \n\nFirst, ask yourself if the changes you have asked him to make are reasonable.  If whatever he is doing is really not acceptable to you and you know you can't live with it, get out.  It may be hard at first but is better than continuing a relationship with someone you know you really can't stand.  On the other hand, make sure that you aren't expecting him to be perfect.  People just aren't, and if it's trivial things that are aggravating but not incredibly so...just deal with it.  \n\nIf you told him you'd leave and you continue putting up with him- you have not followed through and he'll never believe you.  Be sure you are really ready to leave and be without him, because (gut feeling) I think you're hoping you'll leave and he will be crawling back- changed for good!  That isn't going to happen.\n\n*********************************************\nAnyone trying to control where you go & who you see is not what you want to get mixed up in! Now I have a clearer picture of what you are trying to change, and it isn't socks left on the floor.  Stay with mom.
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I agree with one of the other answers.  Since he doesn't like you asking your male friend for help, then call your husband.  When the bike seat comes off, call him at work.  When the sink clogs, wake him up.  When the lightbulb blows, make him come home.  I'm not saying it to be mean, but it seems that he wants to do everything.  Let him.  As for the workmen wanting you to be home when they come by, that's normal and your husband knows it.  But when they call, call your husband and tell him you need him to come home to sit with you while they work.  Either he'll love it, or hate it.  But in the end, it's what he's asking for.  P.S. Be careful.  I don't know your situation, but I've known similar situations between husbands and wives that have gotten dangerous.  At the first sign of an out of control temper, STOP!!!!  And Reevaluate the relationship.