I suspect my boyfriends cheating on me w/ 1 of my close friends. they're acting weird. what should I do?
612889
A few years ago I had suspicions that my b/f and best friend were seeing each other and I came home early one night and there they were,together just as I thought,needless to say there was a big blow out and now I hate them both. But he got paid back because she done the same thing to him. If you suspect, investigate and if it's true tell them both to go to hell!
127854
The signs are always there, you just have to accept them when you see them. No one WANTS to believe their mate is cheating on them so we tend to either ignore the signs or rationalize them. If you think he's cheating on you, ask him. Tell him the different things you've noticed him doing, (signs), and demand an explanation. And don't let him off easy. Make sure you are satisfied with the responses you get from him. You don't deserve to be cheated on. If a man is having problems with you, he should be man enough to confront you with his concerns. If you two can’t work them out, then you move on. You don’t cheat. Same advice goes for you, be an adult and tell your partner your concerns.       If you can’t work them out……\n\nNow on the other side of the coin, if your concerns about his cheating have no merit, then don't jump all in his face with false accusations. Men have enough tendencies in us to cheat already. Don't give us an excuse. (i.e. She thinks I'm cheating anyway, I might as well do it) You know??
964623
If he did love you he wouldn't have been "messing with some other girls"! You're right in that you can't or shouldn't allow your friends tell you what to do. However, if they are true and good friends, you should at least heed what they say. They have your best interest at heart and may be able to look objectively at the situation whereas you may be blinded by your feelings of love. Bottom line is.....if he was messing around, that's the type of person he is and it would likely happen again (just maybe he's get smarter about it and you wouldn't catch him)! Thank your lucky stars you found out now. It may hurt but it's probably best in the long run. You're prince charming is probably still out there somewhere. Keep looking. Good Luck.
953380
his friends were probably just messing around.  i know my friends sometimes call my house and say weird stuff but if you are unsure its best to just go and ask him instead of letting it getr in the way of a relationship.
89508
WELL U REALLY DONT KNOW 100% SURE IF HE IS OR NOT BEING FITHFULL TO YOU.IF HE IS THERE FOR YOU THEN YEAH HE IS BEING FAITHFUL.BUT IF HES NEVER THERE OR NEVER CAN BE FOUND OR WHERE HE SAYS HE BEEN DONT ADD UP THEN YEAH HES CHEATING.YEAH IT COULD BE WITH AN X.LISTEN TO YOUR HEART.IF YOU GET THAT SINKING FEELING IN YOUR STOMACH ITS TRUE.OR IF HE COMES BACK TO YOU AND ACTS DIFF,LIKE DONT WANT TO KISS OR IGNORES YOU OR JUST CRAPPY TO YOU YEAH HES CHEATING.THEN U NEED TO SIT DOWN AND TALK IF HE IS HATEFULL OR KEEPS SAYING WHAT EVER WE R JUST FRIENDS NOTHING IS GOING ON BETWEEN US.THAT ISBULL FACE LIES.GIVE HIM A CHOICE U OR HER.
264059
you don't. but then again, you don't know that he is. if you would have a reason to suspect it, then your relationship has underlying issues of trust.
672927
If more than one person is telling you, and these people don't have alterior motivation for wanting to break you guys up (like they have no personal reason to want to break you up), than I would say you should probobly believe them.  Of course your bf is going to say he's not cheating on you when you ask him.  You have to analyze the people that are telling you this and find out how they know and take it from there, good luck!
274350
I agree those are what most people think, and the main one is Why? I think it comes down to, did I do something wrong, why did he/she do it? If your friends or family know about it and don't tell you I feel that's a huge betrayal. They either don't want to get involved but I think it's wrong for them not to, because then you look like a bigger fool when everyone around you knows but you. Both sexes need to be honest if they're cheating because it catches up  with them in the long run anyways. JMO
1079914
Go on Cheaters or Talk to him urself and find out whats going on. If he doesnt tell u the truth. Go with ur gut instincts and leave his sorry butt.
124063
i recently found myself in the same situation, so i know what you're going through.  the guy gets mad because he's worried that (like the other dude said), you guys are talking about him behind his back.  he may also be worried because you two may find out that he was cheating on both of you with the other one...as in my case.  Regardless, if you two really are friends and have lots in common, then screw the guy and thank him for a really good friend.  It'll really piss him off...
888966
If you feel you need to have him investigated and can't trust what he tells you......\n\nfind a new boyfriend.\n\nCut your losses and move on.
1045090
There are two issues here. The first is that your friend is not respecting your request to stop flirting with your boyfriend. If she isn't willing to stop, is she really a good friend? Is she the kind of friend you want hanging out around your boyfriend? If you've been friends with her for a while, try talking to her again and really impressing upon her how much her behavior bothers you.\n\nThe second issue is that she's telling your boyfriends that you and your friends are cheating on them. I can't imagine a good justification for that. What do you have to lose by asking her why she would say those things, and asking her not to? If she wants to continue being disrespectful, then she's obviously not worth your friendship.
803297
I can understand both your sides. If you can't trust him, you need to figure out why - is it him, or is it you? To me, it sounds like it's you. STOP trying to make him justify himself to you. He is not your son - he is your boyfriend. If it's him, and you know FOR A FACT you can't trust him, then leave him!!!! Either way, stop making him account for his time - he is his own person. \nCould he have called you and told you he was going to be late? He probably should have apologized, and perhaps didn't if you jumped his sh** right then and there. \nRemember, men and women react differently - likely, he is not trying to hide something, he just doesnt appreciate being treated like a child and is trying to reclaim some autonomy.
845357
No i dont think that your being cheated on. Your friend was just joking around.If he starts to get to close to your girlfriend then be watchful.But it sounded like a joke.
655184
hi! so sorry to hear that.r u sure this is what happened?this has happened to me just last year.my(now ex)boyfriend of 9yrs.eas sleeping with a friend of mine.for the 1st. time in our relationship i suspected he was cheating i would call my friend to talk to her (crying)she kept telling me as far as she knows he wasnt seeing nobody.well one day he came by after being gone for 3 days he told me he was seeing someone well i was very hurt but loved him enough to listen to him what he had to say.as he went to go get something out of his car'i called my "friend"@told her he was back at home @told her what he said she asked me if he was there(my house) i told her yes! he was comming in so  i hung the phone up, well we talked 4-a while he was going to the store @said he would be right well when he came back he was very upset(sad)he then told me who he was seeing i screamed NNNNNOOOOO!!!!!! she's my friend he held me i cryed for about 10min.then he told me that it dont matter causeshe didnt know i came over here earlier and when u called her and told her i was here she said she dont wanna see me anymore!i saw the saddness in his eyes i then told him "look,baby,I love you enough to fix this for you" so there i went calling her back i told her look i know its you that hes been sleepping with,but i'm not mad i'm more hurt than anything and i can see how much he wants to be with you and i can respect that but both of you have to stop lieing to me and he has to stop negelcting the kids.
870137
you're kissing someone else and you're worried about your boyfriend cheating on you?  you gotta be kidding...i would consider kissing other guys cheating as well...try talking things out with him, and watch yourself too.  you waste all this time writing a damn paragraph to us, and you haven't even talked to him....
204977
trust him to believe you. if your both friends with the guy then invite your boyfriend to hang out with the two of you more often so that he can see what the two of you are really up to.