Why are women so bossy  in a relationship when they don't have to be.?
604854
Not all women are like dt,some are alittle submissive.\nThis questions is the same as,Why men are so egoistic,bossy n chauvinist? wen its not necessary.The wife wil not look dwn on her man.
266658
Oh wow. Im not sure of the answer but I can only put it down to jealousy or their own insecurity. I've come across this behaviour in women only and I have to say my best friends, including my x-husband and my fiance' are all men!! Maybe women are just too hormonal? As I said I dont think I have an answer but you're not alone. Best of Luck and just be yourself. Honest and true to yourself!
973572
Most women will say that they want a man who will treat her kind and be good to her, but when they get get one they often take the kindness as a weakness, and women want a strong man. I was with a woman who was once in a very abusive relationship, I always tried to be nice and gentlemanly but after a while it got to the point to where she was always trying to be dominant in EVERYTHING, I would try to be diplomatic and compromising but she wouldn't have it like that, it was her way or no way. She was very spoiled, she was the youngest of 5 girls and her father always let her get her way. But I've found that most women are basically the same way, if you give in to them too many times then they will become belligerent and abusive (not necessarily physically, but certainly psychologically and emotionally). Many will cheat, she got with my stepbrother while I was out out town working (more than once). I jumped on him when I found out then ran him off and told him to never come back. she was glowing when I came back inside. (like I had fought over her, it takes two to tango, she wasn't innocent) But I myself used to be of the same abusive, (yet non-violent) nature when I was married and I had a real good wife (I NEVER cheated though [didn't need to]). But I basically treated her like the couch in the living room, when I need it, it was there, other than that I could care less and when we'd argue I'd get off topic and just start saying things to make her feel bad. When my life left me I swore that I would never treat a woman that way again. (I still miss her after 15+ years) But all I seem to meet now are just plain wrong. All I can really say is be nice, but be tough. Try to be manly without being overbearing. But I don't know, I guess if it ever gets to the point that you're arguing and it looks like she's going to do whatever she wants anyway just to defy you, DON'T "punch her in the freakin face" punch a hole in the wall if you have to or break something (something cheap and trivial) DO NOT break something that she values. (I hope you don't have to resort to this) but when you appologize for it all (as you should) don't be too submissive. no whiney "Oh baby, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean that, please forgive me". Be firm, more like, "Look, I'm sorry, but you just really upset me", then explain what and how she upset you. Make sure you appoligize within minutes of your rage, it may be one of the few times that you have her absolute attention and you'll need it. Be sensible and practical, but if the reason for you getting mad and not wanting her to do whatever it was she wanted was just because "you said so" then you probably should've just let her be in the first place; they want a "take control" man not a controlling one. They also like a smart man, not a smart *ss man. and don't be too smart every so often act like you don't know something that you do and ask them what it means or how it works.\nI guess as far as how to treat them try this, If you have sisters, think of the way you father was towards them, both in his kindness and in the way he got on to them (when he was mad). Treat a woman like that.(UNLESS you had an abusive father, then never mind. sorry for you [blocking out the bad part sometimes helps if you can do that]). But still, most women are looking for a father figure anyway (at least subconsciously). Oh, and if you didn't have sisters, treat them at least three times as good but only about a quarter as bad as your dad was to you. I say this because that was about the ratio of generosity and fury between my sisters and I that was gotten my our father.\n but don't listen to me if I knew anything about how to treat a woman I'm sure I'd still be married. (or at least have one)
320313
They are not nice. A woman loves to have a man help espically if she is working outside the home. Even if she is a stay at home person, she needs your help. If I were only years and years and years younger, I would snap you up. Stay as you are,
688524
I hate when that happens to people. Just no pleasing some women. Sounds like she wants you to take control. Seems like she is trying to push you to the point to where you want to take control. I really can't say, but it's a guess. \n\nMaybe she doesn't want the past to repeat itself so much, that she feels that she has to take control. \n\nI had a similar problem before. You might be afraid of yourself. In other words, you might be afraid if you get into an argument, you might do something totally out-of-line. If she is not able to hold a conversation without drama, leave her.
1094543
He should not be bossy and neither should you in this situation. He should be the head of the home though and make all the major decisions and you should be allowed to have input in this too. Compromise is important here. I recommend the book the Power of A Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian to you. It is a great book and they sell it in places like Walmart. Love your husband where he is at and maybe he is bossy because you are.  Try not to be so bossy and let him lead some and see what happens.
1096333
Because when they are not being "taking care of"... and I don't mean SEXUALLY only... they will look for ways to get their needs met.\n\nIt's just that simple.\n\nA content woman seldom strays.\n\nThe same is true of men... except... woman are less likely to see THEIR PART in it.
1039340
Yes -- if you've found a real man who understands the difference between being dominant and being domineering!  At the risk of sounding archaic, I believe the husband should be the head of the household.  That does NOT mean that he should boss you around.  It means he should be a leader.  Don't get me wrong -- I believe in equal rights and a good man will respect his wife as a person.  He will exalt her judgement and be awed by her talents and good works.  But when there comes a time when there's a decision to be made and it's a tie, a woman should trust him to make it.  (So you have to find a man you can trust to make decisions with EVERYONE'S best interest in mind -- not who's just putting his foot down because he can.)
254552
Maybe its the "communication thing"...\n\nYou say that SOME women are like that and thats true - not all of them are. So ask the nagging woman whats wrong with her and you will find out!\n\nAnd then you can make things right and then you will live in harmony with the not so nagging woman! (hopefully)
916543
=cause she is the boss and feels like she can do as she pleases without any concern for others.  She is selfish.  Watch your back.  Good luck.
1057023
not all women are like that. we get upset at things that are bothersome or hurt our feelings. if we know youre trying to get us upset then we dont really care.
670435
Sounds like you are over-compromising and not being yourself. If you always do what she wants, how can she do what you want and why would she?! A relationship should be give and take but if someone can get away with making no effort etc, then they are going to. Start suggesting what you want to do, don;t always agree with everything she says. It might also make you a bit more exciting to her again. That is not about being raised right - you can still be polite etc but just about being yourself not a doormat.
1099412
It's still the game of perceived leverage(gotta have hand). We don't want to come across as too eager, weak or needy. Not all are like that though hon. However, some men do have maturity and maintain old school values, treating women with respect and not playing games.
376551
because women like them better than someone who treats them decent. i guess they see it as weakness. i cant make myself be abusive so i dont get the girl. dont bother sticking up for her either, they somehow get offended by that.
652268
Women who are either\noverbearing or too domineering in one extreme to women who are too submissive at the other.\n\nI'd like the woman to be, well a sort of an equal partner in my life.\n\nlooks come and go, the brains, the beauty within is what matters!
271825
I think your standard is too low if this has been your experience.  Not only do I know of many cases where the man cared much more than the woman and the man was the one that put all the energy into the relationship (which isn't fair either) but if you don't settle for that kind of relationship then you will ultimately find someone that thinks you just rock, and they will work as hard to make you happy as you do for them.
606041
I cant answer this question because Im trying to understand that also.To many times women will stay with the guy that doesnt treat them right or make them feel cared for etc. and they dont want to find that guy that is waiting to be given a chance to treat someone with everything thier heart can put out.They would rather sit at home and complain than do anything about it,just so you know,that wonderful charming guy is trying to find you but cant because you are still in a relationship..... best wishes