Why is it so hard to get chatted up?
604099
Do what I do--say something stupid and they won't stop talking.\n\nThe "very specific" is the problem.  They are thinking that if I say something that puts me outside the box she's drawn then I'm disqualified.  Since I'm building a box she is supposed to fit in, then that practially guarantees that I won't fit inside her rigid box.  Why bother?\n\nDraw flexible lines, be pliable.  You can still make notes of who doesn't fit and why but that still keeps the game rolling.  It is like this one who loved to play volleyball, but could play team volleyball.  You hit the ball where that person was and there was no one on that side of the net--whomp, and it is back at you.  Sometimes you have to set up the others to get them to play with you.  If all you know is slam, jam, and bam then there is no interplay, no fun.  Take it back a notch, tolerate those who don't match your expectations, and then carefully note those who do.  Good luck.
208726
Well maybe you just are going to the wrong chat rooms. When I first started chatting online and making friends it was in game rooms like pogo, play cards and start a conversation. I know how hard it can be to be your age with young kids. The chat rooms are not always the best places, I have seen some real cra.. in there and whats really bad is that kids go there too.  Well good luck and I hope you have some luck chatting soon.
112325
You cant get in? well... dont worry i cant get in. maybe its some kind of tech. problems. i so want to chat around too.
753187
I think shy people tend to only talk when they are spoken to first.  They avoid eye contact, and probably look uncomfortable if they are in a situation where they don't know many people.  I'm extremely shy (around people I don't know), and I've been told that I come off "mean" and act like I'm "better than everyone else" when really, I just can't get the courage up to talk to anyone!
592616
That is a good question.  This one guy I talk to has a major problem with that, and I always think he is not interested in talking to me because he just isn't that good at holding a conversation.  If you don't talk a lot, ask a lot of questions, so the other person talks a lot, and it seems like you are having a decent conversation.  Try to ask things that both you and the other person are interested in, so you have something to say back.  If I ask someone about TV, and I do not watch TV, it does not make for a good conversation.  You could ask about how someone feels on a current public issue or about what they like to do or a would you rather question.  Stick to what you know.  Try to ask and answer open-ended questions.  Good luck!
530718
Perhaps your personality is not all that outgoing and you lack the social skills to get or maintain conversation.  Join something that you have to interact with other people and do other things to ease into the swing of things.  \nYour looks are the book cover, you want women to stop and read the rest of your book.
253019
It has to do with your PC settings or the specific chat room. Different on-line chat sites will allow different settings.
1112543
I saw a video of guys answering this question, they said they might feel obligated at the time or just want to be polite because they were talking with you for a while, they feel it is just the next step even if they dont intend on calling. Guys are just hard to figure out sometimes!
55920
maybe this isn't the place to find someone to talk to...try a chat room.
540885
Lots of people talk.  Learn to ask intelligent questions and listen and you will find friends pretty fast.  And after they are your friends your shyness about talking will start to fade as you get to know them.
301518
Just be normal and ask normal stuff, i.e. 'hi, how are you'? You are more likely to get a nice flowing conversation this way.
701837
They should try to talk to people more. The more comfortable you become talking to a small group of people, the sooner you will realize its not that much harder to talk to anybody and everybody you want to.
723420
Your nervous, He's nervous.  Go up to him sometime and just chat.  Nothing to it but to do it!
1101823
You're well within your rights to "vant to be alone."  I'm an introvert myself, and I need my downtime to re-energize.  But I also used to work in a similar situation on a Help Desk.  Not only did I have to be yakking all day, but the sound of a ringing phone STILL raises my blood pressure.\n\nIt's unfortunate that some people just can't read body language, and you're forced to point out that you don't feel like talking.  If you'd rather not have to do that, you can try picking up a newspaper or mag that you can bury your face in.  Then you won't even have to respond to their visual signals that they want to talk.
1018783
just try to talk to people i had the same problem i know it can be hard but just be as nice as possible
564896
Depends on the person, some people are easier to open up to than others. There really isn't a set time, it's all about being comfortable around the other person.
797134
i agree. but people on here are no different than people anywhere.. especially those on here who are young and a little unsure of themselves..  \n\nbut i agree, communication is everything, and people need to gather up the courage to chat with whomever they are interested in..  \n\npeople can try to read signs and read body languange and ask friends to investigate about information, but it's so much easier to just ask someone outright whether or not they are intested in you..