I have a close relationship with somebody who I know I can't date, but we do love eachother how do we deal?
609228
no.....let him know you care, eventually he'll come around and you two will be happy, don't be annoying though because I'm learning the hard way... it isn't fun dealing with a mad friend, especially when he's mad at me\n\n\ndon't treat him any different\nenjoy your friends while you still have them\n\nDena
1152658
i don't know what to tell you...this is a touchy situation...i understand the situation you are in because i have experienced similiar things....it's hard when you love someone and they act like that...you know deep down in your heart that sometimes it's best to go on with your life without this person and never look back....but it's so much easier to say then do.. you have to just take one day at a time and look at things and ask yourself...Is this what I want to go through for the rest of my life?  Weigh your options...look at the advantages of your relationship with him compared to the disadvantages of it...this is something nobody can tell you what to do...you have to not only follow your heart on this one but you have to consider what your mind says too...
306514
Find someone else to date.  Or just immerse yourself into your group of friends.\n\nAnd who says long distance is impossible? I'm in a long distance relationship right now and it's working out great!
108510
Accept the fact that it takes two people who both love eather other to have a relationship and as much as you wish that was with this person it isn't.  You deserve to let yourself move on and find someone who will want your love and give you their love back in return.
1117142
Acknowledge your feelings and enjoy your time together.  Some soul mates come and go and some stay forever.  Good luck.
308311
Go with the flow. If there is a possibility that you can get together on a permanent basis than great. If he/she is not going to leave there mate then you need to break it off and move on. Life's too short to cause yourself so much grief.
957968
Wow - that is a tough question.\n\nIf the two of you are still close, I'd just ask outright, but be prepared a bit of heart break if the answer is no...\n\nYou're at a really difficult time in life (I remember it...) and just recognizing that your head and heart are disagreeing is pretty impressive - I don't think I was that mature back then.\n\nAsking outright gives you a quick resolution to your dilemma.\nKeeping your options open, but maintaining some display of affection (holding on) may drag out the pain.\n\nIf your head says move on... then you probably should - your heart will move on eventually as well, and you'll certainly find someone else, even if it doesn't feel like it now... (sounds sooooooo cliched...)\n\nGood luck,\n\n-dh
121564
You dont know. But thats with every relationship. We take a chance hoping that whether close or distant relatioships will work out. If the two of you are really commited then it will work out. So take a chance! It will be a learning experience
649486
well it depends i know that i almost took a break from my realtionship because i was also frustrated but i din't.  i decided that if i really wanted this realtionship to work i have to talk out my feelings so he could understand.  if you really like her or love her ask if she would just try to talk to you explain her fellings to you.  this will not only bring you two closer but will also help you understand her needs better....good luck
274940
Well, I think you should ask for his opinion. Just carry on for a lil while, and if you both find that you cannot bear the circumstance any longer then maybe breaking up is good for both of you. At least you don't have to worry too much about meeting each other and the distance either.\nBut if you two (esp. him) feel that you can still carry on, and that the love is true and strong enough to help you overcome this obstacle, then just stand beside him and fight for it. Happiness just worths its name if it is gained from challenges and hardship. Nothing valuable is easy to get my dear : )\n\nStand firm, and if you two have the same idea, then just go with it, whatever it might be...
228059
Don't follow the signs follow your heart!!! only you can decide what is going to work and not work..Be honest and communicate and it will all work out fine
959058
If it is not something you are comfortable with, then you shouldn't have to do it just to keep the relationship going.\n\nHave a chat with him and find out if he is understanding enough to give that part of his life up (He should, if he loves you that much.)\n\nIf he's not willing to give it up, then you have to decide if it's something you can put up with, no matter how much you like him or how great he is.\n\nIf you can, then stay. If not, then leave him as you will never be happy with him and will get more stressed out as time goes by.
364680
the only way you can....by talking out the issues you have between you and coming to a complete understanding about things.\n\nGood luck and I really hope it all works out!
479888
If you can't decide . . . do not get into a relationship with either of them.\n\nDate them both . . . find out who you are more compatible with.  Which one brings out the best in you and you bring out the best in them.\n\nWhen you figure it out . . . then you will know.
1063580
You can't, really, if they don't want to be with you. I'm going through the same thing too, and the best thing is to just say how you feel. I did, and things are okay, I guess, but we haven't talked since them but i see him tonite. But yea, don't make up cheesy bullsh*t, just tell 'em flat out how it is. Good luck!
777434
Why not? Physical or emotional handicap? If it's medical see a doctor, if it's emotional/mental you may need to see a therapist, if it's your relationship then you need to work on renewing that. It's as simple as do you both still enjoy each other's company?
160366
When you figure it out let me know.I am kinda' in the same situation.I am in love with a girl who is in love with me,yet she is with someone.