what happens if your family starts a fight?
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there'll always be differences...just don't let the wrong message get across, or no one will talk forever\n\nno one splits families...it's just that words tear apart
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I was raised in a lot of violence. I once (the only fight I have ever been in) beat up my father. It was the scariest thing I have ever felt, like a blinding rage. Neither of us won, as far as I can tell there is no winning in violence. My brother walked in and stopped me, I was so crazy in that moment that I didn't even know what I was doing. I just knelt down next to him and wept. No victory was won that day, I felt no better, had not gotten even.
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IF somoene enters ur home by force and kill most of ur family and then u try to get ur home back cause u have noplace to live \nso another a**hole appears on t.v and says what is that terorrisme for ??what r u doing?\nhe wants to say let them take ur home let them **** ur sister and ur mother in front of ur eyes thats if they didnt **** u yet why r u angry ???
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Tell them how their fighting is affecting you.
414149
Avoid them like the plague!  You're outnumbered.  If you MUST be with them, respect them and show them by example, how NORMAL people would react.\nEVERY family has a couple odd-balls!
29294
Claim you had a family emergency.
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I start at home every morning. I have a boy and a girl. They love to argue. I have been teaching each one to walk away, or count to ten, whatever the case may be, when they feel the need to explode.\nWe all have to go over this at least once a day, and it all starts at home, no?
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Compared to an extended family, A LOT.  If one of the immediate family members disagree with each other on fundamental issues, that's it, the whole structure will crumble and you have a broken family and the kids will have no relatives to run to for support. I mean, they may have relatives but they will not be close enough for them to feel comfortable just knocking on their door.  \n\nHolidays are boring.  You'll get cabin fever more often and... well, it's just lonely. Bigger families are more fun.
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chill out,if you love him, you will run him off with all this family pressure, when both of you are ready, he will ask.
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Be strong and do not show emotion if they try to make you back down.  You have to live with this man, so its your decision and you have to live with it.  I am sure that your family only wants you to be happy.
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This was in response to the other question that you removed:\n\nIt sounds like your parents have a lot of their own issues, and they may be taking them out on you.  You are just a kid -- IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT.  Of course, if they ONLY yell and curse when you have done something against their rules, then you need to realize that they will get frustrated with you.  But they should NEVER threaten to hurt you.  If you really get scared for your safety or for someone else in the family, you have to tell someone.\n\nI would recommend talking to someone you can trust outside of your family (school counselor, priest/minister/rabbi, teacher, family friend or neighbor), who can help you learn to cope with what's going on.  In time, you'll want to find a way to approach your parents with your concerns; but that will take some preparation for you to think of a way to talk about it without setting them off.  Or maybe, in a moment of calm (riding in the car seems to be a good time for my son and I to talk) you could say that you are tired of fighting all the time, and suggest family counseling so you can learn better ways to communicate with each other.  \n\nRealize that you and they are humans, and we all make mistakes.  They probably do NOT WANT to hurt you, but they may have their own stress or pain inside of them that they haven't learned to deal with.  For now, try to behave within the rules and don't act out of rebellion (you won't like the result).  Hang in there and remember that with time and patience and love it can get better.
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Forget him. It's one thing to to argue, it's another thing to be talking about your "friend's" family. Family first, dorks second! If he'stalking bad about them, imagine what he's said about you when you  weren't there.\n\nPeople need to understand that just cuz they forgot a bout a fight doesn't mean that it's over, or it doesn't hurt still. You need to surround yourself with positive people, not idiots.
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I'd get up and leave the room. With that said.  My son says my hubby and I fight alot, and to us we are not fighting.  We are discussing different things and giving our points of view to each other.  Usually we don't raise our voices and maybe it would be considered bickering by some.  But really it is harmless.  So I wouldn't worry about the divorce issue.  If they say they wouldn't get divorced than believe them.  No sense worrying about it until it really happens.  \n\nOn the other end of it.  It is not fair for either of them to ask you to side with them.  But maybe they are trying to get you in on a discussion.  Make it a family thing?\n\nGood luck.
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Yes, you should.  As family we tend to take out flustrations on those we love the most.  Also those who we know will love us no matter what we do or say.\nThe key word you stated was "tried".  But even if punches were thrown, family will be there for you when you need them  \nSo show her the love you have for her and let it go sweetie.
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I have a 7 yr old son and a 9 yr old daughter...an all they do is fight!  LOL!  It drives me absolutely crazy some, no, everyday !  I have asked the pediatrition and a councelor at school and they both gave me the same answer.  They will when they are more "grown-up" meaning mature.  They are trying to figure out their importantance in their own right.  Where they fit into life and they are actually learning from the process.  I know that it is painful and terribly disturbing, but they will grow out of it.  They are learning to deal with conflicts, try to let them work things out and intervene only when necessary.  I, myself, have a hard time stopping myself from telling them to "Quit it", but I am getting better.  Give them some space, explain to them that there are rules to arguing...no name calling, no loud voices, they should remain calm, and talk through the situation.  Compromise is the name of the game.  Give it a try, they are preparing themselves to be adults.  If we as parents teach them that we all must argue some times in our lives, but that there is a proper way and an inappropriate way to receive the results we want, the world just might yet become a better place.  Here are some articles I found:\n\nhttp://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/fighting/fighting.html#anchor104643\n\n\nhttp://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/fairfigh.htm\n\nhttp://www.bartongoldsmith.com/articles/fightfair.htm\n\nI only quickly read through each one, so I'm not sure how they differ.  I searched "fighting fair", if they don't help.  Good luck, and I hope that all works out well for you!!   :)
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Your family can't force you to do anything. Unless it were extreme circumstances. Like, if you were moving, or still in school or whatever. Could you be more specific?
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Talk about your family.