i love my b/f but why am i so scared to ??
605065
you're in love! everything you are feeling is natural. try not to stress out about it or you will drive him away!
584392
If you're scared, let it go, you're not ready.  you don't have to force yourself to do something you're scared of.  How old are you?  what are you scared of?  pregnancy?  STD'S?  You should be scared cause condoms are not always reliable, they do break, especially if you don't know how to use them properly, or if you use with the wrong lubricant.\n\nYou also need to make sure you really trust the guy you're with.  Is he pushy?  does he keep bugging you for it?  If he loves you he will respect that you need time to be ready.  Sex is a big step and you should ONLY do it if you feel he will be there by your side in case anything goes wrong.  Do you think he'll be there if something goes wrong?\n\nRemember that having sex involved sharing your most intimate and vulnerable moments, bodily fluids, can you trust him with that? \n\nIf you're older and still have a hard time, then it may be time to seek counseling on why you're afraid to be vulnerable.  Were you molested, raped?  it might take time, just make sure that you're with someone who wants nothing but for you to feel secure, and ready to do so.
486505
afraid of wht? is ur bf a monster ? lol
286456
you need to learn more about yourself first, before you can connect up with someone else.  if you are scared, there is a reason.  talk with someone, write your feelings out, see if you can figure out why you are scared.   you are valuable, don't allow yourself to be pressured into anything you don't wish to do.
59284
Ok, so, the biggest thing is that every guy is, even if he seems really macho and cool, terrified. He, like me, is scared that if he moves too fast, then you might get scared off, and then he'll be left flying solo again. Just get him in some sort of romantic situation and put your head on his shoulder and say I love you. If he is still scared, he ain't worth it.
589346
I salute you, lady.. you're tough enough to face your fears and i can see you're still standing tall coz you know where you stand with your man.. just keep trusting him, he has not done anything for you to stop doing so.. memories are memories, so leave them as that and face your future with this man you love enough to be with.
1137813
I would wait until you no longer feel scared..if you love him and he loves you then you can wait...whats the rush?
1151899
yeah the bigger the better...as you matured you see your perspective change.For now your girlfriend thinks its quite a burden for he..well time will come she can adjust to it.just don't force yourself too deep maybe she's scared..just let her feel comfortable as much as you can
263036
because ur a normal girl. of course ur scared, ur wondering if he like it, if you'll like eceterra. dont worry, just go with the flow, just dont do anything ull regret later.
79900
I think the problem is YOU, not your boyfriend. In many cases, when people find themselves in front of one of the most important decisions in their life: MARRIAGE, they tend to get afraid. The reason i think you saw that dream in the first place is because the thought of being married scared. I bet you really love your boyfriend, but you need more security. \n\nThere's a milion ways you can see to find out if your bf is cheating on you, but even if that's so, do you really think he would be proposing you a marriage ???\n\nAnyways, i think you should take some time, go spend a weekend somewhere where you can take your time and think everything through. All the answers to your questions rely in the bottom of your heart, you just have to search for them.\n\nYou're about to make a very important decisions, if i were you, i'd jump out of my shoes from happiness, but i would also take the nescessary time to think this through and see if you're both ready or not. After you've set things right in your mind, talk with your boyfriend. See how he reacts to your questions, the way he talks, the way he looks at you etc.
555785
Stop being scared. You should just tell them. You will feel a lot better getting it off your chest. They might love you too and are scared to say anything as well. Then you both will be missing out. So go for it...You never know.
911842
communication is the key. maybe you should invite him ot your place and let him know how u feel.  if he loves you and if avoiding you is not his intention, he will comfort you and reassure you that that is not the case.  if your feelings of doubt persist after talking to him, listen! it's your female intuition. good luck....
833898
There is no absolute answer to this.  Some people need a transitional person between major relationship and some don't.  I know your scared of being hurt but the truth is in every relationship you will ever enter and truly find love there is always a risk of being hurt.  If you really think this is a great guy then why let him go just because of being scared.  To do so may mean missing out on something really special.
307854
Could it be possible that you are affraid to let your emotions flow because you fear getting hurt? You obviously know how to communicate as you are asking a question to complete strangers. Is it a fear of intimacy or a fear of expressing your emotions? Take the time to think about it. I'm sure the answer you seek is already in you. You may just need more time for self reflection to realize it. And if not, then put yourself in his shoes and see how you would feel if you were him and didn't hear it said back. Good luck with this.
988431
You have said it in the first line of your question here, that this problem seems to be based on your past. You seemed to have been wounded by something that has already happened before. Its best you sit and think. Go back to that part of your past and mentally think as to what you could have done to make things better. I know doing so will be painful but it is something that you must do in order to ease the pain. Continuous suspicions, mistrust issues are not to be looped over such a long period of time, especially when you have beautiful people around you who I am positive are caring and concerned more than you know. There is absolutely nothing to be afraid of and most of all there's nothing more frightening than fear itself. Another question here from my side is why is it that you are afraid to love? I am asking this because we all know that what you give is definitely what you get back in return. If you provide love and affection, it is guaranteed that it will come back to you too. If you have any further questions or need someone to talk to, please don't hesitate to e-mail me. Remember, there are so many wonderful people around and you should give them a chance before you can think of anything else. Before that, please try and do what I've mentioned earlier about looking back and thinking for a moment. Until then, take care. :)
1168210
i think they do it because they are some what scared of themselves...and maybe they are testing the other one...(not on purpose) but testing them....to see if they are really ment for each other but in this case i feel you and your loved one are ment for each other....you may have your problems everyone does...maybe a little more  than most people but you are ment for each other. and you should love each other forever! you only have one lifetime we should all live it to the fullest! and im sure that the person who you love soo much loves you just the same even more....and is really sorry for what he did. he prolly knows that he cant fix it but wishes he could. i wish for you 2 to be happy and to have a WONDERFUL life together. you are ment for each other! \n\n♥
537590
he is just feeling insecure in the relationship, and trying to make sure you are happy and satisfied and if you aren't he wants the opportunity to fix it. try to reassure to him and tell him that you love him and he has nothing to fear. try to be as patient and as understanding as possible.