i'm 25 and by boyfriend is 40. i want kids is he too old for me or for kids???
596393
No he is not too old and he is not too old to have kids.   I'm 45 and the mother of my son( who is 2) is 23.  So no he is not too old. some may not like it but that is their problem not yours.
416299
he's too old with too much baggage, if u feel he is playing, go with your gut...find u a nice 22-25 year old and let him keep his baggage and games....
987700
You thought you were falling for a 27 year old so it sounds like you have an age limit in mind.  He might deceive you on the number of sex partners and so forth just because he has had more experience in life.  If you want to be with someone who will die long before you do, then go for it, if not, then you should move on.
186440
Oh you were definately right! You are way too young to get pregnant! I would wait until you are at least 18 or until you feel ready to have children (after you turn 18) My mom had me when she was 16 and I'm sure that there are a lot of things that should would have wanted to do it her life would have been different. I had my son at 23 and still wasn't ready!
503808
Nope, Age doesn't matter. If the relationship is good, that's all that matters. As long as you are both ready for every step together (Kissing, sex, marraige kids).
634025
I believe that both parties need to be of age or at least close to it. As long as they are happy, I don't see where we have the right to tell them they are wrong. My BF has a cousin in her 30s and her husband is 83! They are happy. She is his life...literally, she is what keeps him young!\n\nNo age is not an issue it is a number!
697758
how many 50 somethings do you see at the school gates??\nhe has done the bringing up kids bit and is now prob just looking forward to a easy life now the responsibility of bringing up kids has gone \nyou really need to talk to him about this and not ask on here yes you'll get a lot of advise but no answers, you'll only get them from talking to your partner,\nfor the record im 38 and would never have another child too old but that's just my personal view and not worth toffee
1058274
As long as two adults find a common ground, they work. My BF is 20 years older (I'm 27) and I can't imagine my life without him. We are on the same level in so many ways - maturity, goals, opinion, etc. Like any relationship, it comes down to a balance of give & take, acceptance, and respecting each other. I believe people come into our lives for a reason, and we learn and grow from them. Being in love is the greatest feeling in the world and age shouldn't stop anyone from experienceing it.
609369
Wait.  When the time is right you will know.  Or you'll get pregnant on accident and you'll make it the right time.  It's OK, your only 30.  It's not like you guys don't have plenty of time.  Enjoy life and each other.  Good Luck.
164085
wow, 28 and 63, what an age difference.  What country are you in, i don't think i can advise you on anything being that you are in an entirely different culture and i don't know anything about it.  If you were in America, I would say that he is too old for you, you seem to be in love with him though, i think the only thing you can do is wait and see.  Does he ever come see you?  If not, that is not dating, it is cyberdating, which is not the same thing, if you don't see each other often, unless he is taking care of you and is extremely rivch, iwould find a new man.
731167
Here's one for you, I'm 25, and my boyfriend, whom I've been with for almost a year now.. is 18. And believe it or not, it works amazingly well, I've never been happier and he's far more mature and loving than my ex-husband ever was (and he's my same age). How many 18 year olds do you know who fall in love with divorced women with two kids? LOL He's really amazing.\n\nI don't think age makes too much of a difference, as long as you're both LEGAL.\n\nAlso a friend of mine's fiance is eleven years older and they've been together for years, even have a child together.
329910
Well, if he keeps being that way, the relationship may eventually fizzle out.  I really think that 13 years old is old enough to understand you and your bf's relationship.  I think that it would make your relationship so much better if the kids were involved.  But at the same time, it depends on how serious y'all are and how long you've been together.  Maybe eventually he'll involve the kids.  After all, it's a package deal!!!
508223
They say that if people waited til they could really afford it before they had a baby, no one would have any children, ever.\n\nHowever, 24 is very VERY young. Other people having children around you should not influence your decision.  The guy you're dating, although you don't say much about him, has alot of children already that he presumably doesn't live with. Perhaps not the best support,having a baby is hard work.\nAsk yourself\nWill you live with your partner for 18 years or more?\nIs he a good father/do you want him to be the father of your children?\nCan you be completely selfless?\nCan you give up your life as you know it?\nCan you give a child the very best start in life?\n\nIf you can answer yes to those questions you are ready. If not, or if you just want a dolly that will call you momma, you're really not.
382974
Age is just a number, and this decision should be yours and yours to make.  Try discussing how you feel with your partner and hear what his response is, if the both of you are happy, then I say enjoy it.  Life is way to short and there are many people in this world who aren't happy with there spouses and significant partners, so I say go for it.  I was with someone who was 18 years my senior and didn't care, we were both very happy but religious differences got in the way and we decided to part ways, so if you are in love and being loved, I say work it out.  Your friends either accept it or you can find other friends who are more tolerant and less judgmental.  Good luck.
339298
id say that u should gradually work ur way up to telling him that u want one.first,ask him if he wants kids someday,2.ask him if he would someday want a kid with u,3.tell him that u have been thinking about having a baby,and u want one with him,and i think u can go from there,hope it works out
183404
Hi. My GF is 28 and i am 40. Just ask him what he is looking for, you can even ask him out for coffee. That is a good ice breaker. You can have a healthy relationship with him, emotionally and physically. Some people his age are single by choice. I have been divorced for 13 years and dated several women before i met my fiance. We have been together for 4 1/2 years not. If that is all he said for now than let it go. He may not be comfortable talking about it. Ask him out for coffe and just be you and talk with him. You won't regret it. And by the way...my gf and i are best of riends i we love each other alot.
133857
I'm attracted to older guys. I don't see a problem with it, honestly. Just make sure you both have similar goals for a relationship. If he is wanting to settle down and lead a nice, quiet life, and you want to go out on the town and party, it won't work. Make sure your priorities for the relationship parallel first.