woman --you say that part of yur attraction is to a man with real goals? Can you explain these real goals,also
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I, even as a young woman, look for a man who has a goal. As long as he has dreams its good enough for me. Without dreams if you think about it you have nothing to look forward to, or to strive for. The goal doesn't have to be a plan to get rich. Those are pluses but are not neccessary. For instance the guy I'm with now has had some trouble finding a job because of where we live but we have such a strong bond that I don't let that ruin what we have. \n\nWhen we say we want security we mean we want a man we can trust and depend on. Like with my boyfriend I work a whole lot so I only really get to spend quality time with him until Sunday so our relationship really thrives on trust.\n\nI don't think this woman is using the man all the way but to some extent she is. If the love is strong enough she should be understanding enough to stand by him while he is trying to make his dreams happen. As long he is making an attempt then she shouldn't be so upset.\n\nI don't run off when times get harder. In all actuality it brings us closer together because it shows how close we really are and the fact that neither one of us is in it for the money.
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I love to make my woman happy; at first she could not understand why I liked doing that.  \nOn thing about her if she is not very very fresh, she will not let me do that. \n It is important that you are always fresh and clean.
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That sounds admirable...why not ask him what he would really like, only he knows what turns him on!
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Guys are born to be straight forward and biologically we should let girls know directly when we want to be with them... although we like challenges too, our attraction is more physically driven... girls like the feeling of reaching to tame a rouge man and therefore the fact that this guy is indiferent increases your attraction even more.  Somehow the balence of power in your relationship has tipped in his favor... the more you confess your feelings for him the more he has you in the palm of his hand... give him space.  I figure he is playing games and dont encourage these but find them necessary to create attraction.
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umm yes yes yes, women want a guy that works hard and if you look great with out making and effort id personally think wow what would he look like if he made a big effort it shows u are not scared of showing the real you and that your not hiding behind anything
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one can be attraction,close to reality,happy ending
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Personally, I want someome I can completely trust! No ifs ands or buts about it. Someone who is completely comitted to making it work. Someone with realistic goals in life and willing to make sacrafices if need be. Someone who is real and the same person all the time.(ex. when she's around you she's one person, when she gets around co-workers she's totally different) Someone who is secure enough in her womanhood to be a woman all the time and knows mostly if not everything she wants in life. This isn't all but it goes both ways
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I have asked myself the same thing!! So i asked my guy why is this, i said is it because you have a beautiful confident woman at home and what you need is someone not so pretty who looks at you and says wow! I cant beleive I am lucky enough to have this hot guy, you know..like they need to feel worshiped so to say..and he also stated that he knew they wanted him and it was easy to get
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perfection is an un-obtainable goal, we strive for it because we are ultimately flawed beings, driven by our instincts & passions, my adivce would be to date the man, not the animal
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My ideal wife is true to herself and me. She is confident and strong minded. She cares about how she looks,and expects her man to look best. She is honest, loving, and open minded.Hell I am married to my Ideal wife.
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I think every one view of what they like in a woman is different it's more of perferance.  Not everyone views are the same\n\n\nWhat I like in a Woman she has to have her prioties. She has to be Goal Oriented have a drive to want to achive thoughts goals. Has already achived most of her goals and is where she wants to be in her career as well as life. She has to be able to dream. Be effectionate, Loving, Compassionate, Loves to talk, Caring, Playfull, adventures, Sponanous. Know whats she wants out of life. And not afraid to go after that she wants. Knows when to be strong but knows went to be passive. But not too passive it drives me nuts. A woman that is not a procrastinator. I woman that knows that it means to spend time together. A woman that knows what real love is and unconditional love are. I woman that is my equal, Not a woman that is afraid to do things and do things for herself too. I woman that things before she does something. I woman that things about her signifficant other. I woman that is not afraid to say I love you and really mean it and show it. I woman that takes care and pride in herself on how she looks. A woman that has a positive addutude on life and not matter how bad things sometimes get will say it will get better. I woman that is not afraid to consold her signnifcant other. A woman that is not afraid to share her feelings as well as be my best friend. I woman that is not afraid to show her feelings and affections for me. I woman that is intellagent as well as likes intellagent converation. I woman that knows how to be responcible when it comes to money. A woman that is no a work aholalic, but knows what teh value of family is. A woman that can prooritize things in her life. A woman that will not hold her past against me and realize that I am a total different person then her ex's. A woman that isn't afraid to give complanments for things I do for her. A woman thats a team player and wants to work together to achive goals.\n\nOk before I sound like a personal at thats what I like in a Woman.
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Some women do not know what they really want.  Much of human relationships comes from the unconscious mind.  Many women have no idea of what is driving them to do what they do because it is coming from their own unconscious.\nOnce stuff starts to surface, then it is a whole ‘nudder ball game.  Now the conscious mind can directly see what is happening.
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Well, as a guy, it's nice to know that I can do something for her w/o it being something specific (Like I'm in the computer Field so she asks me when she has a problem w/ her's). It's nice when it's "there's a HUGE BUG, KILL IT!" or "my table keep falling apart" and I can fix it for her.\nWhile some guys might like that, I'm not one of them. I want to the typical "guy" things for her, otherwise I would just feel like I'm taking up space.\nI know that you should only be looking @ this person for romantic purposes but that's very idealic, and not a reality for most men.
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I think it means that she only has to find a guy she want's to say "yes" to.  Most women have to find a good guy AND get him to ask her.  A beautiful one already has the second part taken care of.
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Because of mans idea of the ideal woman and trying to live up to that pathetic, unrealistic goal.
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I agree for dating, yes, that kind of guy if fun.\n\nBut for marriage, she really wants a guy she can laugh with, TRUST, depend upon, that he'll be a good provider, and keep the lawn nice, AND help with dinner dishes, and most ideal, cook side by side with her in a fun way, plus be best friends with, and have \ns e x with when they please.\n\nOK, maybe this total male doesn't exist, but we can dream can't we?
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You won't get him to be career motivated if he isn't already. Ambition isn't a personal choice, it comes from need, and if he doesn't feel the need, he doesn't. What you CAN do, is act as a personal manager. Keep communication lines open, and an ear out for opportunities that he might not recognize. Point them out for him, but be careful not to nag. Pushing him in a direction he doesn't want to go is not the same as pointing out options. One upside to this is that you'll be talking to your man all the time (which many women don't do, and then complain about); the other is that between the two of you, you just might accomplish something great. Good luck!