What makes a "loveless marriage" loveless?
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My former marriage became loveless.  Symptoms included: Constant Criticism, un-achievable "expectations", no eye contact (unless angry), lack of communication, no physical contact, no interest in the others needs or desires, blaming the other for not reaching personal goals and own poor self-image, regular suspicion of motives, questioning of simple decisions......to name a few.
926370
She doesn't give you any affection?? Does she even love you?? How can you be in a relationship with no affection?? I couldn't do it!! I don't know what those people that are telling you to wait until your kids are older are thinking. They must not be married! I tried to stay with my ex for my kids and it just caused more damage than if i had just left him in the first place! Staying in a loveless marriage for the sake of the children will not help them!! All they'll remember is that their parents never got along. Kids learn by example! Is that what you want them to think? That married people act like you and your wife? If you are really going to stay with your wife...you need to convince your wife there is a problem with your marriage...and then go to marriage counseling!!
806852
Sex has no emotion or feeling behind it....making love does.
176370
a person without love, happiness, peace, affection, money
321539
Sex....and baseball????  Hmmmm....\n\nWell, to answer your question, I believe you can have love without sex.  Two people can have a deep attraction to one another and not have sex.  BUT, sex is a natural action for all animals really, so it should not be excluded from building love.  Sex can deepen love to new levels.  But if someone were to say "I can't love you until we have sex" I would say they are only after that and nothing else.\nIt's OK if that is really all you want, but you should tell the other person that so they know exactly who they are getting.\nWas that confusing enough???  lol
122976
People marry for love,\n\nnot for body parts.
1058689
The effect on the kids depends on how they are? Marriage without love is not good at all.  But most of the time couples just stay in that marriage w/out love it's because they're afraid that it will make things complicated for them if they split up especially financially.  A person should have the courage to say "Listen I love our kids so much and I will still be there for them but I cannot take this anymore and I wanna move on with my life and we'll just talk about how we're gonna make this easy for our kids sake."  Or else if you continue to stay with this person, you will continue disrespecting this person and continue hurting the feelings of your kids.  It's not gonna be healthy for them to live a life in the same roof with these couples that just gives them a bad sample of what a good loving family should be.  This marriage is not gonna last forever for sure, most of them wait till the kids are grown up.
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Happy, functional, and harmonious marriage and family life . . . That's a pretty tall order. I guess it depends how narrowly you want to define all that. \n\nMy husband amd I, for instance, are happy and harmonious, but in some ways, not as functional as we'd like to be in practical things. I know other couples that are happy and functional, but not necesarily harmonious. Family life is complex. \n\nIs it possible to create a good, happy marriage? Yes. A perfect one, no. People will put a ton of effort and research into so many things, but they expect a marriage to just work naturally. I don't think it happens that way very often. You have to chose your mate wisely and continually invest in the relationship. Investing doesn't have to be painful or laborious. It can be as simple as learning the best way to ask for a favor or how many ice cubes he likes in his iced tea.\n\nPeople say that marriage is hard work, but I have not found it so. My marriage is one of the few things that takes little effort and gives great enjoyment. It's all the other stuff in life that can be a drag. \n\nOne of the best quotes about marriage that I've seen was made by an old bachelor, Benjamin Franklin: "Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterwards."
345028
Man, I thought you were going to say marijuana before I read the rest of marriage. Uh, no. Marriage is because of love. Not sex. People don't get married just to have sex.
26707
Just like any other marriage: two people decide they want to commit their lives to one another, and share spousal rights and responsibilities.\n\n\nFor example, this includes the right to be with a loved one during an illness, and make critical decisions about their care, just like any other spouse would.  Without marriage, some hospitals would only aknowledge the "next of kin", who may be totally removed from the person's wishes.
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I'm totally against arranged marriages. How can you vow to love this person for the rest of your life when you don't really know them or love them???? Atleast if you know and love the person you are going to marry, the marriage has a chance of succeeding. When in an arranged marriage, what do you do once you find out you have "nothing" together? No love, no interest, you can't communicate with one another. You have to find out all these things BEFORE you marry. I disagree totally with arranged marriages.
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i prefer "love marriage" because that way you marry someone you know and love and yoou know exactly what you are geting yourself into. you already know your partner's strengths and weaknesses and you know which areas you have to work hard at in order to make the marriage work, unlike marrying a complete stranger
1064439
no......never\nif there is no love then whts the way of marrying.........
1172037
When you don't feel any love or care for your spouse and visa versa.  You don't even bother to fight or spend time together, because in order to do that, it means you still care.
329664
There are people who like solitude meaning never needing someone around but then there are those who want that companionship.  Also as human beings we are sexual and a way of not feeling guilty about it is being MARRIED.  I'm not saying people get married because of that but it makes sex legal.  I've always wanted someone to love me unconditionally but even still I haven't found it.  I don't want to be alone, I want someone to grow old with.  Your spouse in most cases are your best friend and would do more for you than the one you already have.
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Well the first thin is is that you both need to be able to:\ncommunicate\ncompromise\ntrust\nbe honest \ngive as well as receive\nbe able to be patient and understanding\nbe able to allow them to have a life away from you as well.\nto want to do things special for one another once in a while. like:\nplan a walk at the beach and have a pic nic\ncall them up on the phone jsut to say "i love you", "i miss you" and/or "I'm thinking aobut you"\nplan a candle light dinner at home\nhave a nice warm bath waiting for their return possibly with( candles, music, oil or bubbles and/or rose petals in tub)\nOn your partners day off, play hooky to spend time with them on cuddling on the couch watching movies and talking.\nIf you two can do this, seek a marriage counselor, counselor will be able to bring up some other importatnt things to thik about, that most people don't seem to think about.
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1.  Against the Bible itself....flat up says that no man or woman shall lay with the other prior to wedlock.  That means under same roof as well not just sleeping together.\n\n2.  You learn everything about the person and you now have lost one of the very basics of what marriage is all about....learning about the person.\n\n3.  Its too easy to get into fights, not see eye to eye, not get along or even end it all cause there is no real binding between you.  You both know you can run away if need be meaning you'll never put 110% into it the relationship to begin with.  This alone will cause issues and breaks in the relationship over time.\n\n4.  You learn to see the person as your live in gf more than your wife.  Once you get married your vision of her (and hers back) never really changes.....actually the paper causes arugments between bf and gf...but rarely between husbands and wives.\n\n5.  Marriage is the one true thing we get in life....you get happiness, belonging, self worth, love, etc from it.  WHY in the world would you want to risk any of that just to start early or to nibble on your meal before dinner time?\n\n6.  Living together prior to marriage is a society issue due to the masses wanting everything now, instantly.  Love is the only true drug we have, why rush it?  Savor it, bath in it.\n\n7.  Most that move in together prior to marriage never get married when they say they will or other issues come up, or they are too busy working, or something.  To be married is to be married....not just a room mate that helps with the rent and bills.\n\n8.  Most that want to move in together instead of getting married are actually showing signs of cold feet or doubt on the idea itself.  Otherwise why are they trying to dodge the idea by only doing it half way?  Do you drive half way to work?  Do you only wash half your hair?  Isn't marriage way more important than driving to work or washing your hair?