what to do is honesty really the best option?
611269
You know what - you didn't do anything wrong.  This all happened before you even met her.  Sounds like there was a lot of drink at that party.  Odds are she already knows or eveyone else didn't remember it the next morning.\n\nI say, not a dark secret, but no need to bring it up.  If you are ever approached you can be honest then if you wish or you can act like you were too drunk to remember anything yourself and let them think they have something on you.\n\nThose kinds of nights are magical and they don't come round very often...
458087
don't lie ...  in the end you will only hurt others and yourself... and do you really want a relationship built on lies ???... you know you don't !...    when the right one comes along  being honest will pay off big time!  be patient...it will happen when you least expect it...  best wishes!
160839
Honesty is the best policy. It's best that you tell the truth so you can both move on and find the love you both deserve.
442517
I've been in that situation. Tell the guy up straight what you truly think. He will be grateful later for your honesty.
700098
I hate to use a cliche, but HONESTY!\n\nSpend a few real honset moments with yourself.  Examine your part, claim ownership of what you did wrong.  Ask yourself "was what I said or did unthoughtful towrd others feelings/hurtful/mean in any way?"  We dont want you to not confess and have regrets.\n\nCome to your partner and let them know that you see your wrongs.  This will inspire them to get honest and own their side of the street, unless they are in huge denial.  Most of the times it works if the person is decent.\n\nThe and only then is it truly resolved.  If each person does not claim their share, resentments build and it will come out later, and worse!\n\nBest of luck and be real honest! U can do it!
925075
It is always better to be honest than to lie or to go along with something you do not want to do.  There are many ways of being dishonest such as cheating, lying, commiting fraud, conning people, going along with something even though you think its wrong, etc.  No matter what kind of dishonesty you commit, in most cases it catches up to you and you must tell more lies to cover it up or confess your dishonesty.
418053
William Shakespeare said it a lot better than I can: "And this above all, to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night, the day, thou canst not then be false to any man". Just be honest and tell the truth. Not mean , or ugly, but with tact and compassion.......the honest truth. That's all people want.....truth.
722103
It is always better to tell the truth.  Lying in any situation is unsound, and usually betrays a lack of courage - the courage to say "I don't want to answer that", or "Well, yes, you are a bit fat, but I love you anyway and if you want to change it why don't we work on it together?" or something like that.  Lying, ultimately, can only ever hurt you, and the person or people you lie to.
1013484
as someone who has been there, trust me, honesty is the best way to go. if he can't deal with it, then he's not the one for you
29547
As honestly as possible.  If there were uncomfortable circumstances, then politely decline to answer. It's best NOT to lie, because lies can get found out.
890073
When without misleading someone too much they are prevented from getting hurt by a lie. Sometimes though honesty is the best policy. It depends on the person/situation.
140843
Act as if the statement was true. You have nothing to lose. If it is true then you are trusting her and goodness will follow. If it is not true you still trusted her and the truth will come out in the end. If you don't accept its true and it is true then you will blow an incredible opportunity to be loved.
979141
That's a tough question.  I would say that honesty is the best policy.  Hovever, you need to be certain that you are being honest with yourself first.  Are you sure that she is playing?  Has she done anything that would tell you she is just playing?\n\nIf you find that you just can't trust her, perhaps you could tell her that you are just not able to maintain a relationship at the level that she deserves.  Tell her you wish her the best, but it is time for you to move on.  Break ups almost always hurt.  You can't make the pain go away completely, but it's nice to try to cause the least amount of damage possible.
108380
:}\nThere are sometimes concequences to honesty. be prepared to acccept them.\nLong run Honesty always wuns.
925403
Just ask him and tell him to be honest with you.
898527
There are two correct answers that are possible depending on your ethical philosophy.\n1. If you believe that people should live by a moral code and this code is your duty - which does not consider the outcome of your actions - then the answer is 'Honesty is always the best policy.'\n\n2. If you believe that the correct behaviour is the one that will bring the greatest good to the greatest number - that 'best outcomes' are the guiding principle that should guide a person's acts, then the correct answer is "When lying brings more good to more people, it is preferable to honesty."\n\n;-D If a NAZI came up to you and asked: "Where are they hiding?" Would you tell him, if you knew the answer?
682071
Honesty-first and foremost\n\nIf someone knows you're not honest, being considerate of their feelings wouldn't mean all that much, would it?\n\nIf you are always honest, you may still respectively share your opinion without inflicting harm-and the person will know they've received the truth from you.\n\nI'd rather be trusted and respected for that than known as the 'yes guy' (or girl)\n:)