why cant i find a bf who wont rush me in an relationship? im saving myself for that perfect guy?
600240
well I am a guy.  I think that if your not ready then if he does not respect it then its his loss.
276593
If guys are telling you that you're hot all the time yet you can't seem to get a boyfriend maybe other guys are intimited by your looks. They may feel like they don't look good enough to be with you, or you wouldn't give them the time of day.\nOr consider how you present yourself. Even if you are hot, alot of guys don't want to be with a girl who may come off as too flirtatious, easy or sleezy. Not saying that you are, but some guys may get that vibe from you or assume that you are just because of the way you look.\nNo matter what, I wouldn't worry about it. Rushing to get a boyfriend is rushing to get your heart broken.
345788
It sounds like your on the rebound, so maybe it's best to stay single for awhile! Figure out what you want and hopefully this will help you attract a good man!
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You want a boyfriend, but are apprehensive about the change in your life!\n\nRemember, the most constant thing in life is change. \n\ndont look for a boyfriend, but if you come across a nice guy, dont stop yourself.
103756
as far as the perfect guy there is not such a thing. Perfection is something to strive for that one can never attain. as far as where to find them i know where not to find them. if you have had bad relationships in the past and go back to where it started or where you met them and meet someone else and that turns out badly then do you think that maybe that is not the right place to be looking. try the library, religious gatherings if you are religious, places where people of integrity go.
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Of course there will be a guy out there who won't break your heart.\n\nIt sounds like you're young. He's out there for you.\n\nGod has a plan for you. Just depend on Him and He will do everything else. Be patient and wait for God's will.\n\nHe will send you a man... THE man who will love you for the rest of your life. Have faith in Him.\n\nYou'll never find love if you keep looking for it.\nI say this from experience.\nMy boyfriend and I were friends for a long time before we started dating. We've been dating for over 9 months now. We talk about marriage all the time. \n\nI never looked for love because I knew I would just get my heart broken. I was happy with myself... happy with my drama-free life (lol). So I was satisfied. Besides, I knew that God would send the one when He was ready. I never knew that the man was right under my nose the entire time.
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It sounds like you might be afraid of losing out altogether.  Probably both boys have some appeal to you, but probably neither one is everything you are looking for.  Perhaps if you step back and really look at yourself and look at yourself in relation to your boyfriend(s), you would find that you are afraid of being alone.\n\nDate whomever makes you feel happy, but don't be too involved yet because you aren't emotionally ready.  Spend some time doing things with other friends and get to know yourself better.  Even spend time by yourself doing things you like.  The better you know yourself, the better you will understand yourself in relation to others.
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You sound like a very charming person; I'm sure that you will find someone soon. With a personality as upbeat as yours, I think you will find that plenty of guys would love to be around you. Good luck!
357113
What is the rush? It sounds like you don't really know this guy and that is a risk. Don't you want to know who you are considering spending the rest of your life with. I would urge you to slow down and try and be more objective. Learn as much as you can about him. It sounds like you are caught up in a fantasy about romance. Fantasies and dreams are nice, but what we wind up with is the real world. Put you fantasies aside and look at what is in front of you.
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you don't go out and look for a boyfriend...when the right guy comes in your life, it'll happen....but take your time so you get a Good boyfriend...
303227
If you have doubts about it, then that probably means that your not ready to find "the one", and if you don't think that this guy is the right one yet, then he probably won't be.  There are so many other men out there and you have your whole life to find "the one", don't rush into things, it's not worth it to get hurt in the end.  You have to know that you can trust someone, have awesome communication, and respect for each other.  If you feel that you have these and your still having doubts, then maybe he's not right for you and you need to keep looking.\n\nGood luck!
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you dont say how old you are, but i guess you're young so i would say just be yourself and dont feel pressured to have a boyfriend. when its right you will know and things will just flow with the right person without you having to try hard. So just see how it goes and then you can decide if he is the right guy for you or if you are ready for a relationship. good luck
370009
Maybe he's scared of commitment. I say give him a little more time to get himself together and get the courage up to ask you but if you wait too long it could be far too late. In the end it's about what YOU  feel is right and at the same tine, when he feels he's ready for a relationship. Maybe, he isn't ready but you have to respect that and hope that soon he will be but do not put your life on hold waiting on someone who may never come around. It's all about what works for you, so keep that in mind.
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Let me get this straight.\n\nCurrent BF - Nice guy, cares for you, treats you right.\n\nEx BF - Bad guy, doesn't care for you, treats you badly.\n\nYou're attracted to the bad boy image. You need to realize that YOU deserve the best, and it sounds like your current BF is a good start.
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just cuz ure friends got a BF doesnt mean u hafta. wait for the right person
831824
Sweetie, i feel you.\nBut check this out...I'm a 26 yr old who has NEVER had sex before! (now I'm getting married next year though)-my point? DONT take a boyfriend because you see yur friends doing it.\nSecondly, I see that you harbour a fear of the unknown, I'll quote one of my quotes for you..."Love is to be given only to those you trust, but how do you know who to love if first you dont trust?"\nMy point...take a chance.\nBeing more precise, make a list of things you want in a guy that are not negotiable(eg maybe, spiritual convictions etc), make another of "good to haves but not must haves" (eg maybe, color of hair etc). Then cultivate friendships without labelling every guy as a potential bf or not...just enjoy friendships and things would fall in place.\nLastly sweetie, there's no crime in being single AND learn to trust. ;) \nThis may sound corny but it sure helps-You may want to pray about the issue too.
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Maybe it's true that you haven't met the right guy yet.. but i always look for where i went wrong..is it the guys or me? if they were bad, u wouldn't have stayed that long with them.. so it's not entirely them.. U have to understand that there are steps to finding the right man for you...that's by knowing who u really are and what your looking for in a relationship.....most of us don't know it, but we want someone who's just like us in many aspects.\nNow lets go to the happy part.....huns i don't believe that anyone can make you happy if you're not happy yourself.. i always say that men are a source of happiness, but the main source should be me....if i didn't make my self happy, no one else will be able to make me happy.