I just got out of 4yr relatship w/ a guy who cheated on me and doesn't love me anymore, i still want him back.
612552
Please do yourself a huge favor and move on. I can tell you from personal experience, if he cheated and he doesn't want to talk to you, he doesn't love you and he NEVER will. I'm sure you are worthy of someone that truly loves you. Don't mix up obsession and love. Good luck!
831100
I've been there done that and i wouldn't make it easy for him if i did take him back. You need to make sure that your the one that he wants and he's threw messing around on you and if he feels the need to cheat on you again he needs to be man enough to tell you that he wants to see someone else. Tell him he has to earn your trust back.
953374
im in the exact same situation but the fact is, you'll have good days with him and then other days when you realise that you 2 arent dating for a reason. he is still the same person, and he is the one who DUMPED YOU, find another guy, make him jealous and let him know that he cant have it. bc this is wat he is missing out on.\nthen if he falls in loves with you, this time he will mean it and then, only if you make him work REALLY hard to get you back and take you seriously and not like a toy, you might give him another chance.\nthen he will truely appriciate you and there is a lesser chance of you getting hurt again, but there is always a chance so becareful with your heart cuz u only get one!\nif things dnt work out, there are plenty other guys out there :)
500330
The truth is you can never trust him again, he has cheated on you and there is no easy way to forget that even though you think that you still love him, trust me you are so much better off without him.\n\nI know that you say that you have tried to get on with your life and I know that you think the pain is never going to end, but you need to stick at it, keep on going, do anything you can to forget about him.  It will take time for these feelings to go but if you stick at it they will go, trust me.\n\nGood luck, whatever you decide to do
921227
the only way to stop feeling like you want to get back with him is to realise all the reasons you haven't worked in the past. Write a list of everything that split you up and then study it. Then ask your self if the only reason you want to get back with him is because it's better than being alone. Which in the long run it isn't.
118799
Hon, I feel your pain.  If you still want him, then you have to lower your expectations because he WILL cheat again.  If you don't expect much, then you won't be disappionted.  \n\nIf you can't lower your expectations and you can't live with cheating, then divorce is your only other option.
710411
Wow, trust me, your not the only one.  I did a very similar thing actually.  You need to try and get over your ex, and then either start talkin to the nice guy again or find someone else who's a good guy like he was
1063471
now that i know what it feels like to be cheated on, in the future i would prefer it if i did the cheating at least to show him what he's put me through
1116175
hotti, i was in the same situation.  I loved him and he cheated so i broke up w/ him.  It was hard to get over and i thought that i would never get over him, but i did.  \n\nFirst, get rid of anythign and everythign that reminds you of him.  EX:  Pics, notes, letters...ect\n\nNext, now that you have your mind off of him, keep ot off and try new things.  Make sure to be having fun.  Go to a club and hang out with friends.  Party.  Then do more fun stuff like somethign you never did b4.  If you have nvr been surfing, try that.  Or try any of these:\n~skydiving\n~bunjee jumping\n~eat a lot of ice cream\n~introduce urself to a new type of music\n~go to a concert and 'Rock out!!'\n~get a journal and in a red pen write "I hate _________"  (fill his name in)  and fill the whole jorrnal.  If that dont work, use a more appropriate word, like a*s*s* , jerk, loser, or anythign else.  Be creative.\n~hang out with a million other people you dont know\n~have a night on the town with your mom or best friend.\n\nHere are some really fun things that you could do to get him mad:\n~order magazines in his name and send them to his house.  Make sure thay are girly or childish magazines\n~sneak into his house and draw all over his face with red marker\n~hang all of his underwear outside with a sign that says "A*S*S* crack undies.  Free.  Never been used.  lol (do you get it)\n~Just have fun.\n\nI hope i helped.  Dont cry over a jerk.  You will definately find a better guy who loves every part of you no matter what.
580918
I think the real question is do you really want him back?  You obviously showed that you care for him but apparently that (by what you said) really didn't seem to matter.  The fact that he had a kid with someone else is another thing.  Being as if you could trust him even after that.  You supported the hell out of him multiple times.  If I were him I'd be all for you, weather he sees that or not.  If you really love him, I'd give him one more chance.  He might see how important you are, but likewise he might not.\n\nThis matter is really more dependent on how you feel about busting your butt for him and him just leaving you hanging.  If you truly love him and think it could work, got for it and give him one more shot.  If you feel doubtful in any way I'd just say forget it.  You seem like a kindhearted person, love should naturally find its way to you.
328889
I know how it feel to be broke up but want your ex back, it hurts badly, just see it like this, if it's meant for you to be together, he will come back on his on, if it's not, he won't...even if he does, if it's not meant to last, he will leave again, but if it is, eventually he will be there with you forever.....although nothing last forever, he will be with you until one of you die, so just hold on and see what happens, but remember, although you love him, if he doesn't come back, there are plenty others out ther that will be there, I had to make myself realize that, I thought that no-one else out there can make me feel like he did...A LIE!!! when there's something good there's always something better!!!! good luck!!
372552
go and talk to him...tell him you missed him..and ask for forgivness if it is possible.\n\nsomethimes we should try to be humble and admit our mistakes..or even if we were right, we should do it for getting back our ex...\n\nshow love and kindness..;
395757
hey this happened to me....i dumped him as fast as i could say listen i cant be played like that....then he hung up on me and we havent realli talked since....you juss have to realize there will be someone else....get over the fact that you love him it doesnt matter....he cheated on YOU....dont let him get away with it especially twice...and before you do anything make sure you are positive he cheated on you and dont go by what friends say go by what you see with your own eyes....be strong cuz it does take a lot and it hurts so0o much when you find out something like that you just have to do what you think is best for yourself dont let urslef get hurt......YOUR supposed to be happy not just him....
938797
Convince yourself that you deserve better and I'm sure you do.  Look at it as his loss, not yours and move on.  You can love someone dearly and still be smart enough to know that you can't actually be with them because it's simply not good for you.  I have an ex from 15 years ago that I'll always adore, but we can't be in the same room without trying to claw each other's eyeballs out.  We've broke up 12 years ago and we have remained friends..on the phone. lol
432044
if you still love him, and really really want him back in your life and into your future, then get up right now and start packing your bags! your going on a trip to get your ONE and ONLY back! even though he lives 8 hours away from you, it doesnt matter! you should fight for him and do anything to get him back, right?! and if it will cost you money, it still doesn't matter, what would you rather lose? your money or the ONE you truly want and need? of course you would rather lose money than the person you loved, right? and when you get to him... tell him how you really really love him so much... tell him that you would rather lose all the things you have than lose him! tell him that you will NEVER EVER do anything to hurt him again! tell him that you would change and go back to the real you just like in the old days... and tell him that you really need him and want him in your life! especially, tell him that you wouldnt change into the self that was dishonest and the self you didnt like before... then tell him you really love him! over and over and over and over again!!!! =)
341582
As time goes on you will heal, don't let the thought of a man bring you down, remember this to shall pass. You had a decision to make and you made it, good for you, you left before it got any worse. Give yourself enough time to realize what you really want out of life, when the time comes and the right person comes along you will just know that you did the right thing. Right now your just looking for a rebound b/c your not used to being alone anymore, try it you just might find out that you like it that way.Good Luck.
427321
Well I think you did the right think by breaking up with him. That takes a lot of courage. But now you need to stay strong and stick to that. He cheated on you and yea, he probably says he changed and won't do it ever again, but the truth is, you won't really be able to trust him again. You will always wonder in the back of your mind if he is cheating or if he will cheat again.\nIn the long run, you will just end up miserable. So yea, he wants you back, but too bad. His loss and he should have thought about that before cheating on you. \nDon't give in...Be strong.