what can i do for my messed up boyfriend that i REALLY love?
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some people cannot be helped, unless they help themselves first. there's only so much you can do. and there's only so much you can put up with it.\n\ntrust his friends. if they say he's getting high, then he is. they have nothing to gain from lying to you. if he says he isn't, he does have something to gain from it- he gets to keep you. but let him know that he can't have both. he can't do drugs and keep you.\n\nyou should dump him. tell him that you've tried, but the relationship isn't going anywhere. it is one way. you are giving and giving to him with nothing in return, because he is lying to you. that's not how a relationship works, no matter how much you are in love with the other person.\n\ndon't let pity for him keep you attached to him. think about yourself a little bit. it is taxing on you and stressful for you. you don't need the extra stress. if he's not giving to the relationship, then it's not a relationship. break up.\n\nhonesty, trust, respect, communicating feelings and emotions... it seems you are doing all these things, but he is not returning them. so no matter how much it hurts you to break up, you will only get hurt more by staying in the relationship.
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befor you leave him you need to look deep within yourself and make sure you dont love him... if you dont you might regret your desision and then it could be to late to undo it\n\ngood luck
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call the police.\ncome on are you telling us that you still love that ***.\nIf he knows that you still love him then it's blackmail,\nIf he feels that you hate hime then it's rape.\nIf none of the two then he's a psycho.\nbe rational and don't let emotions prevail your brain.\nIt seems that you're a very kind woman, and you deserve better than this freak guy.
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Well since you love LOVE him very much do not worry about what other people say. Is he loving enough back to you? Does he honor you, does he respect you. Every body is imperfect and makes mistakes it is how you deal with the tough times and live the good  times so I would say just keep doing what you are doing and maybe just do little sweet things for him like make him a sandwich for lunch at work if he is into that, because you know how guys are so forgetful at times and they don't think about food well he might forget it in the fridge so just think of small little things to make his day brighter. Good Luck lots of love
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Well if he really hurt you, then you should leave him alone. Find someone who is more considerate to you, and your well being.
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Just reassure him that you love him, and what would you do without him, leave it at that, and he may realize that he not only hurt himself. he needs professional help, and needs to know that know one is worth suicide, why dint people realize this???? if they can so freely love you one minute, and then as quick change their minds, they are not worth it, especially if over a new person in their life, and the pattern may continue, he should have realized, it is not worth it. i hope he Will recover without too much damage..good life...........
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go out with your friends,  have fun:) your friends are there to give you advice, but you're the only one who can help yourself.....think of the bad things that he did to you.....trust me:)....you can do it\n \nGo girl!
700216
Break up and find a different boyfriend.  By staying , you're encouraging him to stay the way he is.
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talk to him. explain to him what went wrong. if he truly loves you, he will understand you!
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i have had a similar experience. You need to understand that everybody makes mistakes. What really matters is if they learn from their mistakes. If you think that he knew he was wrong and he loves you unconditionally now then you need to forgive him and stop thinking about what happened. If you keep putting him down, chances are he will feel desperate and lonely and will do the same thing again. If you don't want him to do the same thing again then stop punishing him. If he is really sorry for what he did then forgive him and forget the past. You can't build future living in past. Forget it and try building your future with him... =)
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Well you need to consider, is your love worth maybe having to clean up after him all the time.  Also, if he is not willing to change on small things, what happens when bigger issues come around.  You either have to decide to stick it out or cut your losses.
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Show your real feelings to him. Tell him often that you care and love him so much. Do things that you think he likes. Always accompany him especially when he have problems, never leave him alone so i'm sure he would realize how much you really love him...
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Show him how much you truly cares no matter what happened. But if it didn't worked, talk to him seriously and let him choose ..whether he would stop doing it or you would let him go. Try to figure out whats wrong in your relationship. Try to encourage him to attend a mass. Pray together. At least at the end, its not your fault, you did all your best. If its not enough.Maybe, he didnt love you. Though it really hurts, accept it! Sorry dear.
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I think you've done the best anyone can do to try and open him up and if he isn't then get rid of him. He will regret having lost someone as nice and good as you and there's nothing that will change, because you deserve better than him and if he isn't willing to try than move on. Find someone who will love you back, has feelings and will treat you the way you deserve to be treated (which is very good, just so you know). Good Luck
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You haven't been doing anything wrong. He has made the mistake. I know this because I almost lost my girl because of the same mistake. He's taking you for granted. Hes so used to you being there and the things you do he's forgotten what he did to deserve those things from you. You just have to make him aware, because he's confident that you won't go anywhere else. You probably won't but that doesn't give him the excuse to not do the things that make and made you happy and want to be in this relationship in the first place. Hope things work out and don't settle for anything less then what you want.
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If you are embarassed by what you have said call him on the phone. You could also write him a letter and hand deliver it or mail it. Writing him a letter will get all your feelings out and you won't feel the need to hold anything back. If not, talk to him when you two are alone, no need for anyone else to be in your business. Talk openly and explain how bad you feel for hurting his feelings.
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Hi\n\n    I know this is not what you may want to hear, first of all you said your boyfriend is locked up. He should be happy that you are even sticking by his side while being locked up because as far as I can see what can he do for you while he is locked up. On the other hand if you really love him and want to stick by him totally understandable that is a choice only you can make. I would I advice you to just talk to him and tell him how he makes you feel when he accuse you of things that are not true. If he understands then great if not I would say this realationship is maybe not for you if trust can not be found. I hope I helped!