Way do females always try to change a man ?
594996
It is learned behavior...they are trying to perfect the husband or future husband. I don't know why some women are compelled to do this...the person that they were originally drawn to will just slowly diminish and then there will be a chasm that will be between them. If you love someone, then let them be the person that you fell in love with. Trying to change a person into what you feel is the suitable mate, is a waste of time and emotions. Being a female, I know that my opinion may not carry that much weight..but not every woman wants perfection in life.
99228
dude, i can relate. maybe we've known each other from childhood. i am also a ladies' man (not the playboy kind but the gentleman kind) and i've seen and been with women with mates who treat them like dirt. and somehow, i've managed to make some of them to wake up and break up (ooh, a rhyme!!!)\n\nsee, what i do is, i protect the girl in any means possible, be there for her when she need a shoulder to cry on, and probably (but never did) kick the guys sorry a**!!! women are fascinating people that should never be taken advantage of, so that's why i try my best to be the gentleman they want. consistent persuasion might work, and don't let the girl look at herself as a doormat. she should learn to get respect from her partner, coz deep down, we know we only want their happiness...\n\n=P ~^_^~
199852
guys who do that do women are jerks... not players. Find a man who will be A MAN not a boy!!! As regards to the women who do that, I don't consider them hoes, just practicing for perfection ya know... LOL... take care
966176
no because women always want what they cant have they like the game and once you get them you dont want them anymore. or you were trying to get him so hard that you failed to see the reall him and now that you have you dont like it
139810
I don't think that all men are in that category. Only you can change that behavior, if that is truely how you see women. Good luck! (My man is very gentle and giving!) They always say the "3rd time's a charm!"
597730
be the man of her dreams.\n\nbe new and different every day.\n\nlearn what makes her tick, \nand push that button often.\n\n:-)
177679
Everyone wants someone perfect, but we never seem to think about finding the right person instead of changing someone.  What you say isn't all that true.  If I were to date a guy I would respect him for who he is.
950572
I totally agree with you babe. it took me forever to find a great man, and yes.. I generalized him at first and then I realize I was wrong. There aren't really any GOOD men  out here...Where the hell are they, thats my question gurl!!!! My gosh they expect us to be queens to them and then we get treated like crap, all I ever wanted was a mant hat can stand out from these sterotypical men, and it just seems as though you have to go to another world to get what you want. But yes i agree. hopefully society will help us change these men out here, because that is how they got the way they are...society.
1163492
Men only change if they want to...not because you wish they would...I know this from experience.\nNo matter how much you try to change them, it won't help. \n\nMen have no right to mistreat women...if he is abusing you you should def. get out of the relationship.\n\n\nYour best bet is to move on and find someone who has respect and dignity for himself, loves you and can treat you properly. \n\nbest of luck!\n:)
920282
first, girls would rather have an honest man who is real than someone who just molds themselves to get a girl to like them, least that's how i am. its nice to find a guy who has his own interests..i mean it would be boring if you guys liked the same things about everything. you shouldnt have to constantly change who you are...its true, just be yourself no matter how "weird" you think it is. n there are some women who will try to change things about you..but only change if you want to or healthier for you and feel that its right for you. the right girl for you will love you just the way you are..craziness..weirdness..silliness and all. just be patient and she'll come along :)
351374
You can change how you act and that may or may not influence how the other person acts. It's called influence.  People sometimes respond to positive feedback by becoming more positive, but it's not absolute. Sometimes they react in unexpected ways. \n\nI have been successful at encouraging my man to make changes in his personal appearance and picking up after himself. I have not been quite as successful at influencing a couple friends of mine, who happen to be female. I've never sought, and I think it's a losing battle to try.. to influence a man to do something totally against his character. Like take a drinker and help him stop. There are some things that are.. a lifestyle choice that is too ingrained for me to change. \n\nBe realistic. Change what you do and how you react. See what happens.
1181627
Women seem to but men never do... It takes them much longer and in the meantime while you are falling head over hills for them, they are decideing that you aren't the one for them. Be careful with your heart... take your time and never love a man...more than he loves you.
115304
Everyone is different!! I, being a man, is looking for someone who treats me with respect, hindness, and most of all is HONEST! the rest will fall into place!
194163
change it to the opposite sex and then change it back.
973572
Most women will say that they want a man who will treat her kind and be good to her, but when they get get one they often take the kindness as a weakness, and women want a strong man. I was with a woman who was once in a very abusive relationship, I always tried to be nice and gentlemanly but after a while it got to the point to where she was always trying to be dominant in EVERYTHING, I would try to be diplomatic and compromising but she wouldn't have it like that, it was her way or no way. She was very spoiled, she was the youngest of 5 girls and her father always let her get her way. But I've found that most women are basically the same way, if you give in to them too many times then they will become belligerent and abusive (not necessarily physically, but certainly psychologically and emotionally). Many will cheat, she got with my stepbrother while I was out out town working (more than once). I jumped on him when I found out then ran him off and told him to never come back. she was glowing when I came back inside. (like I had fought over her, it takes two to tango, she wasn't innocent) But I myself used to be of the same abusive, (yet non-violent) nature when I was married and I had a real good wife (I NEVER cheated though [didn't need to]). But I basically treated her like the couch in the living room, when I need it, it was there, other than that I could care less and when we'd argue I'd get off topic and just start saying things to make her feel bad. When my life left me I swore that I would never treat a woman that way again. (I still miss her after 15+ years) But all I seem to meet now are just plain wrong. All I can really say is be nice, but be tough. Try to be manly without being overbearing. But I don't know, I guess if it ever gets to the point that you're arguing and it looks like she's going to do whatever she wants anyway just to defy you, DON'T "punch her in the freakin face" punch a hole in the wall if you have to or break something (something cheap and trivial) DO NOT break something that she values. (I hope you don't have to resort to this) but when you appologize for it all (as you should) don't be too submissive. no whiney "Oh baby, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean that, please forgive me". Be firm, more like, "Look, I'm sorry, but you just really upset me", then explain what and how she upset you. Make sure you appoligize within minutes of your rage, it may be one of the few times that you have her absolute attention and you'll need it. Be sensible and practical, but if the reason for you getting mad and not wanting her to do whatever it was she wanted was just because "you said so" then you probably should've just let her be in the first place; they want a "take control" man not a controlling one. They also like a smart man, not a smart *ss man. and don't be too smart every so often act like you don't know something that you do and ask them what it means or how it works.\nI guess as far as how to treat them try this, If you have sisters, think of the way you father was towards them, both in his kindness and in the way he got on to them (when he was mad). Treat a woman like that.(UNLESS you had an abusive father, then never mind. sorry for you [blocking out the bad part sometimes helps if you can do that]). But still, most women are looking for a father figure anyway (at least subconsciously). Oh, and if you didn't have sisters, treat them at least three times as good but only about a quarter as bad as your dad was to you. I say this because that was about the ratio of generosity and fury between my sisters and I that was gotten my our father.\n but don't listen to me if I knew anything about how to treat a woman I'm sure I'd still be married. (or at least have one)
87103
if u rili want a girl to like u, if u want to change for her to accept u, change for the better then but even i would like to say "just be urclf" but it can't be if u dont change some things on u "attitude' she will not fall but if u change for the better surely she wil make up her mind and even she will be the first one to ask u, even just in a week u can do it or an hour !
690735
Men are not afraid of change. They just don't want to do it and you should not ask them too. Accept them for who they are and if you do not like it then find someone else.