Does my wife want me back?
604588
You didnt mention why you separated, I think that is important to know to answer the question.  But anyhow yes it does sound like she wants to hold off on the divorce.  Its a good thing you have pets, it will give you both the opportunity to spend time together to know if you should get back together.  Unless your going to be single the rest of your life there is no getting away from emotional heartache.  Its a part of life and love.  Might as well try and work it out with someone who was good enough to be your wife in the first place.
1098499
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....
841534
I know it's hard, believe me! It's not something you get over in one night, or one year. It takes alot of time and you have to ask yourself if you are willing to give yourself that time? Is the marriage good now? Is it worth working on? Your wife needs to work on rebuilding your trust. Is she willing to do whatever it takes to help you along with this? It really seems to me that she is, because 20yrs is a long time that you both have invested in. I know you are in pain right now, your wife has been in pain for the last 10yrs thinking about what she did and has lived with knowing that one day you would find out and maybe end the life she really wants. And that is to be wife and a mother to YOUR kids. I am not making excuses for her because what she did was wrong! I know you need validation right now and you have every right to feel that way. You (I am sure) are a great dad. So for right now, focus on that. Time will heal...I promise!
711191
yea its normal to feel this way..you just have to be careful not to get hurt..and its really hard...as far as taking her back..its a judgement call....do you think she'll do this again? do u still love her? think about and dont rush to a decision
609107
If your a real man you won't want to take back a woman that was once your wife and now has been married/sleeping with another guy for a year and wants to come back. You should marry the girl your engaged to asap. God knows best.
58875
If your wife is not here your right, you've won, your the master.\nIt's when she returns that your wrong again and in trouble and your now the slave. So get that smile off your face and realize your a man and your never right when it comes to argueing with a wife.\nSo enjoy it while she's gone. She'll be back.
112072
Ask yourself if why you want her back.  Ask yourself why you left.  Is it because you feel guilty?  Did you desire someone else and now that it is over you want her back?  Examine your love for this person.  If you truly love her then you will be concerned about hurting her again.  Maybe it is best that you don't go back.
524888
Sounds as if he has moved on in his mind and left you and the marriage behind. Sad that after 8 years. How you can improve your marriage is how you react to the sitution right now. Don't beg or bug him about anything. Give him some room and the old saying if you set someone free and they come back they are yours is very true............
359242
MAY BE SHE WANTS TO GIVE YOU A SECOND CHANCE IF SHE DEPENDS ON YOU SO MUCH - JUST TELL HER THAT YOU ARE SORRY FOR WHAT HAPPENED AND COULD WE PATCH UP - A RETURNED LOVE IS MOSTLY BIGGER THAN THE FIRST LOVE AS IT COMES WITH UNDERSTANDING AND A SENSE OF LOSS
381227
As a guy, I know that I want to be the one to give my wife what she wants. I don't want to be nagged, or reminded of how I messed up and didn't give her what she needed. (not to say you are doing this, but some women do) I think you need to back off. Let him miss you a little. Start doing things you enjoy with friends, or by yourself. Let him want to join your club. Or do something hot and freaky, and keep him coming back for more. Either way this should open things up.
779154
try to talk to her one more time, go there personally, tell her what's in your heart, and tell her u need to be with her, and if you can't have your family back, than u need to move on with life, because your not happy being alone. and wait for her response. if she isn't interested than there's no choice but to file for divorce and move on and start over again. but confront her first with how u are feeling, before u file for divorce.
778372
I'd say she's feeling lonely and want you back. If you still love her, move your butt out of that computer chair and ask her to have lunch or dinner with you. I wish you two best of luck. Remember, there may not be any 2nd chances like this.
908446
I think the answer depends on a lot of things.\n\nThe two biggies I see are did you have any children and what do you want?\n\nPersonally, if you have kids with her, it may be worth taking at least a wait and see approach.\n\nIf not, and you really don't want to continue, be honest and tell her that you accept her apology, that you wish her well, and that you are unable to see a scenario where you want to get back together with her.\n\nI wouldn't be mean, but I would be honest and say that the events between you killed what love you had left for her.  That you wish her well, but cannot be romantically involved with her.\n\nI would be polite, but candid about what you want.\n\nI think I would also be gracious, accept her apology and admit that you made mistakes too, perhaps enumerate those that you are aware of and apologize for what you believe you did wrong in your marriage and wish her all the best in her life from here on out.
541257
Give her space. And why would you want to be with someone that would rather be with work buddies that she's with all day than her own husband? Maybe you shouldn't even try to win her back just yet.Give it time.Weather she was cheating or not,there is no reason to hang out with another man without your own man or if it were a friend or gay,know what I'm trying to say?Just take a break from woman all together,work on you and take time out for yourself.And try not to drive urself crazy, I'm sure you're hurting, but time heals.Maybe she'll wake up one day and realize she lost out on a great man!
252315
Hey this is me again...I don't know if I'm getting this or not..Are you saying that you are married but also want another woman, and that if your wife loves you she will accept it?  Wow, isn't that asking alot from your wife?  Not that I'm judging you.  I am the last person in this world that has a right to judge anybody!!Can I e-mail your e-mail address maybe you need a friend right now?
1140324
Dodger, let me ask you what do you think this new woman will be like after you leave your wife? Will she actually be the woman you have always dreamed about? She is willing to see a married man so she is not a God fearing woman to be able to do that. If a woman will do this she isn't much of a woman. Now if she and you are not seeing each other that might be different but if she is willing to see you knowing full well you are married whether happy in the marriage or not...then give this more serious thought. Will she do the same to you when she grows tired of you and how do you know she is your soul mate if you two have not been together talking and showing affection? I would really wonder about a man or woman who would see someone who is married. Try spending the extra time your thinking about this soul mate and you just might be amazed what it can do for your marriage..
837898
WELL IF SHE SAID SHE NEEDSTIME AND SPACE GIVE IT TO HER IF U REALISESHE IS TAKING TO LONG LIKE THREE OR FOUR MONTHS THEN SHE IS HOPING U WILL FORGET OR SHE IS TRYING TO TELL U WITHOUT TELLING U SHE IS NOT INTERESTED ANYMORE.IF U CANT WAIT THEN MAYBE U DONT REALY WANT HER U JUS THINK U DO,MAYBE U R LOOKING FOR A WAY OUT BY WAITING COULD IT BE U DONT REALLY WANT HERE TO COME BACK