how can i move on with the man i love if he has tried 3 times and succeded once, cheating on me?
596259
Now he's cheated on you, so if you marry him he will still cheat again and again. Next thing you know you have a woman\ncalling your house saying your husband got her pregnant. Or\nladies caling hanging up in your face because he didn't answer the phone. Is this what you want to put up with? \nDisrespect in a marriage? No you don't. You need to think twice before you marry him.
474285
You should respect his wishes and get on with your life. That sounds tough, but if he does love you, he'll come back once he realises you've moved on. If he doesn't, it would never have worked anyway...
412387
Once someone cheats on you there is no going back.  I tried the whole forgiveness thing with my fist wife and ultimately it is something you just can't get out of your mind and since he already cheated on you before it is much easier to do it again.  I think he blew his chance with you and you will be better off with someone else.
395757
hey this happened to me....i dumped him as fast as i could say listen i cant be played like that....then he hung up on me and we havent realli talked since....you juss have to realize there will be someone else....get over the fact that you love him it doesnt matter....he cheated on YOU....dont let him get away with it especially twice...and before you do anything make sure you are positive he cheated on you and dont go by what friends say go by what you see with your own eyes....be strong cuz it does take a lot and it hurts so0o much when you find out something like that you just have to do what you think is best for yourself dont let urslef get hurt......YOUR supposed to be happy not just him....
1001036
I say there should never have been a 2nd time.  ever heard the saying. "Fool me once-shame on you, fool me twice-shame on me"  Stand your ground and don't let it happen another time. Because it's getting easier and easier for him to do it knowing that he has done it this many times already and your still there to go through it.  Let him know what he's lost and don't budge. If you stay in this relationship your pretty much begging him to do it again. Sorry but thats a true answer.  Good luck in the choices you make.
116127
well if you are going to take him back then you have to get over it. otherwise let him go. i cheated with a guy and we got back toghether and he treated me bad because of it instead of like loveing me and us chillin because i was faithful to him for a while and well guess what i did it again and we are now broke up. but you are not wronge to give him another chance. people do change and though it is not an excuse yall were both going through some pretty bad stuff so i mean he could really be sorry. but if he does it again which he may not then leave him unless you want to give him another chance (there is no such thing as to many chances but when you get tired of soemthing you area tired of it) so i hope if he does keep cheating you will leave cause youdeserve better but its really up to you but this could work out for yall and i hope it does. good luck and God bless.
985819
say NO. Once a cheat, ALWAYS a cheat. If he cheated then, how do you know he wont cheat now? If he lied then, how do you know he wont lie now? If you DO go back out with him you'll have to walk on eggshells the whole time because you'll be wondering in the back of your head "was he really where he told me he was, with the people he told me he was with, or was he somewhere else with somewhere else" Which saying those thigns to him or asking him alot will just lead to fights. A relationship is nothing without trust and it takes a long time to re-build trust after someone cheated/lied to you. Find someone out there who WONT do that to you, this guy sounds like a loser, and there are millions of guys out there that arent losers, so go find one! good luck!
1082820
If you don't think it will be the last time cheating on him then why bother sticking around?  You say he doesn't treat you right but you never explained on how he doesn't.  Tell him when you are able to stand on your own feet and then let him go.
751551
I agree with RaRa. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Who needs to worry everytime you are not with him that he may be up to no good? Be with someone you can trust!
922314
Trust me l've been there and still doing it. You really have to love the person with all your heart or it will never work. My husband cheated on me and it  is still very hard sometimes but you have to try and look at the positives in your relationship and decide whether it is all worth the effort. If you honestly know that you want to be with that person more than anything else in the entire world and you believe for whatever reason that they just made a mistake and it will never happen again, then you have to try and put the past behind you. If you can't do that, then in my eyes you are just wasting your time. You must learn to forgive and try to forget or it will eat you up. Believe me l know it is not always easy but sometimes you just know it is the right thing to do. Ofcourse there is a certain amount of anger and jealousy but you must get past that. Hope this helped  to answer your question.
1179401
If he has cheated on you multiple times, he is not truly sorry. He might be sorry that you found out, but he knows what he was doing, when he went and embraced another woman.\n\nYou, and your children, deserve more respect than that.\n\nDon't settle.
980344
Do you still love him?  If you do then I would say try again.  BUT, you need to have a serious conversation with him before you put yourself out there again.  Explain to him that you never cheated and you were offended when he just blindly believed a rumor instead of even asking your side.  This is your life and your decision, do you think he is worth your time?  Is he going to just believe anything anyone says about you?  He needs to realize that the 2 of you are the only ones in your relationship...  Hope everything works out good for you.
7962
No!  Pass on the sloppy seconds.\n\nHe cheated on you once, he will do it again.\n\nFind someone that is worthy of your attention!
309031
I think he's going to end up cheating on you again.  He continues to lie, and obviously still has feelings for this other woman.  Knowing that you both have been unfaithful makes me think that there are some serious problems in your relationship that you just aren't willing to address or work out.  I know that being with someone for that long can make leaving them all that much harder, but you need to step away from the relationship.  Yes you were both wrong, but that doesn't mean he can't forgive you and stop holding your actions over you head.  Have you forgiven him?  There really is no trust in your relationship anymore and I just don't see a realtionship working out in the long run if the partners can't trust each other.  Hope this helps, good luck!
971341
i guess that depends. did he intentionally break your heart? or did your heart got broken because of a situation he had no control over? if he did on purpose (say, he cheated on you), and if he did it twice, it doesn't matter how sorry he is, he's gonna do it again. and you'll be circling the same path over and over again, so then start changing course and don't look back again.
135792
Cheaters do not deserve another chance.  Leave him for someone you can trust.\n\n"He's a very good guy,"?  Wrong.  Good guys don't cheat, honey.
584443
It sounds like you loved him alot more than he loved you. its a shame that it took 3.5 years for all this to surface because each day you probably loved him more and more. After the 1st time he cheated his love decreased every day. Thats why he continued cheating on you. Yes you did the right thing. The right thing is always hard to do because it is right thing. Now we dont know his side of the story but cheating is cheating.