when you start a relationship and when your totally commited to it why does the other person doesn't trust you
603352
you r commited but have you ever tried to prove ur self!!
479409
it's a subconscious reaction to being treated poorly. I'm guilty of it too, however men and women do this. I dated a guy that REFUSED to trust me because he'd had an ex cheat on him. Every time I was out later than expected or didn't answer the phone, he'd throw a fit. Women do the exact same thing. When past experiences were out of your control, you do a complete 180 and try to control everything. If you are dating someone who will not trust you no matter what, it can also be a sign that they're not trustworthy. You have to go with gut instinct about things like that. If it doesn't feel right, and you're more upset than not around the person, you may want to get out of the situation. Of course I would suggest having a real conversation about it a few times before throwing her to the curb.
130455
Trust is something that is earned and can be destroyed so easily.  She has to understand that you have done nothing to make here distrust you and  even though she is hurting, you are there to listen. Sometimes just being a listner will truly show your intentions more than trying to convince otherwise. Actions speak louder than words and she will know this once the heart heals. Right now she is hurting and that will cloud her thoughts, just give it time as time heals most.  Be there when she needs you but dont crowd her.  \nIt is a shame that people today forget what trust is and what commitment is about. So often men and woment run to the next thing that may look better than the person we are with, but you have to stop and ask-- is this worth losing what I got now for something I know nothing about...
781788
Trust is earned, never freely given.\n\nBeing burned a few times myself has made me very cautious about who I trust, but relationships are built on trust.  So, what does one do?\n\nWell, it is a kind of process, I have found.  One only metes out trust a little at a time, starting at "friendly."  From there on, it is a gradual process where one observes what they say and do to see if the two match.  After a while, one learns to trust the other when it is shown that they are trustworthy.\n\nBe friendly, mete out your trust a little at a time, and always be observant and pay attention to any "red flags" about the guys behavior.\n\nOne admonition: the road goes two ways.  Be a person who is fair, honest, and trustworthy yourself.  He'll probably be watching you as well!\n\nGood luck!
409090
Because he isn;t trust worthy.  Say this to him "_______ you told me if i couldn't trust you then we need to break up.  Well i can;t trust you because of the way you're acting and if you're not willing to help me to trust you by not acting that way then guess what, goodbye"  dump him before he cheats and really breaks ur heart.
746489
yes it is harder...we do it bc were afraid that if we give the next person our trust  that the same thing is gonna happen...it sucks to have ur heart broken...bc it makes u wiery in the rest of relationships to come...once that trust is broken...u put a wall up...thats the only way we know how to protect our hearts from shit like that...
147916
With time. Don't expect it to happen immidiately.\nI went through the same, and it took time... sometimes I think I still don't trust anyone, but be forgiving of yourself, and definitely give it time.\nGood luck!!
258104
why dont you trust her?
964337
Trust is not having to worry that your partner is being unfaithful in sexual and mental terms. It's when all the evidence says you're guilty, but that someone still believes in your innocence.
1136822
Seems like you have answered your own question, where is the relationship if there is no trust!!! I know what you mean tho. you can't change someone, they have to recognise their failings, and choose to do something about it. Try speaking with him about how you feel and see what he says..Then you will know whether he is willing to make steps to change his behaviour toward you, if he doesn't then you know what youve got to do
656154
Has this person ever hurt you before? Lied to you? Gone after something that was yours? Taken something that was not theirs to take? Cheated and you knew about it? Shared a secret you told them? Gone behind your back and told something about you?  If the answer to all these questions are no, then you can pretty much bank on the fact that you have someone you can trust. If the answer to any or most are yes, look very carefully before you leap!!
1060604
maybe its because he doesn't trust you......... yet \nhe is keeping his x close because he thinks that there is a chance that things won't work out & can you blame him if you can't even trust him?
220567
I wish I had the answer for you, all I can give is a little advice,Try if you love him try, To many relationships have been lost to the trust issue! I trusted my ex and she trusted me, I screwed up 1 time and my life was over, dont let others get involved they will screw it up for you!!!
1105335
In all truthfulness. It takes two to make it or break it. You can't blame the other without looking at yourself as well to see where you have went wrong. sometimes that doesn't happen till the relationship is done and over. At least you can look at it as a learning experience. At least you will be better prepared in a new relationship when that time comes. To know how to handle things. Not talking to each other is the main problem in most cases
1157114
If there is no trust in a relationship then there should be no relationship so either u two gotta trust each other or u just split
457689
NONE, Its a crapy feeling when someone cheats on you.  Not to mention, if you really care about a person to have a commitment, then there shouldnt be anyone else.  If there is anyone else, then they shouldnt be committed.
54219
Some people do that because they may be afraid of committment. Others because they have a trust problem. They had bad relationships in the past. So they have a hard time trust their spouse. Or because they are stupid.