What are best methods to bond with your 4 year old daughter that grew up in another country with my parents ?
612524
Do somethings little girls like to do. \n1.Play tea party.\n2.Take walks, and talk. Point things like bugs out \nto her. Get messy and make mud pies. Why I think my\nnails are so long. I loved making them.\n3.Arts and crafts= coloring, drawing, painting, pasting.\n4.Put cut out shapes on paper with a glue stick.\n5.Read to her.\n6.Have her read to you. She doesn't know how to read yet,\nbut she can make a story up using the pictures. \n7.Let her help you around the house. Sweeping, picking\nthings up, planting seeds.\n8.Put on some music and dance. My favorite tv commercial\nis of a father dancing with his daughter. \nI used to work with children.
511640
Write them a letter- preferably each parent separately. Tell them the things you appreciate about each one and how they have helped to turn you into the person you are today. This is something that they will keep and treasure forever. Other gifts are just 'things', but this comes from the heart of the child they created together and will mean more to them than you will ever know...
89532
Take them out for a nice Italian dinner, then to a art muesuem. You might want to try the muesuem first, depending on what time they close.\nOn the way home, stop and get crayolas, or water color paints, for your daughter. When you arrive home, you can have quality time with wife, while daughter trys her hand at some art work, of her own.
581537
Well like some of the other answers have said, schedual some alone time with your hubby.  Either at night when she is asleep or have someone watch her while the 2 of you go out.  But also you must include your daughter durring the day.  She really missed daddy when you were separated and needs to rebuild her relationship with him too.  The whole family needs to be rebuilt and even though it is irritating, it is really good and healthy that she wants to come and snuggle with you and daddy.  Let her for a while and then distract her with an art project and that you will give you some snuggle time with out her.\n\nBest of luck to you and I really hope that things work well this time.  It really sounds like you both want to make this work and are willing to try.  that is wonderful.
343393
Unfortunately I am going through a very similiar situation with my ex-wife.  We seperated a few years ago and she started by pulling a few shaningans like that off.  All I can suggest purely as one dad to another is to maintain the best contact that you can and when you do contact your children let them know you love them and always want to see them. \n\nMake it clear that if they were expecting you, that their mother must have made a mistake because you had not planned on being there that day, not because you do not love them but because you have work or necessary things to do.\n\nLegally stopping someone from slandering you with your children I dont believe is possible.  It is truly more of a question of guilt tripping your ex and explaining to her though her intentions are against you, they are more then likely more likely to harm the children.  Children with seperated parents that do not get along are more then likely to be involved in crime, or have poor grades in school as well as a plethora of other things.\n\nMost of all, I feel for you completely.  Maybe if it is possible file for custody?  If you can somehow accuse your ex while on the phone and record some admittance of slander the courts will surely find in your favor?\n\nFinal thought.  Do what is best for your kids forget about getting back at your ex or doing what she wants you to do (which is probably run away and never see the kids again).  Your kids need you in many ways, and writing to them constantly and contacting them VIA phone and visiting as often as possible are the best things.  Be so much a part of their lives she cannot lie to them.
141273
Dear Dad,\nI have found that what works best is speaking from the heart. You know you're proud of her accomplishments, you know you may not always be able to agree with her but you will always love her no matter WHAT. Recount how happy she has made your life since that day you saw that little face for the very first time. See if you can't manage to throw in some of the funny, goofy things our kids do make us laugh; you know, the things that they do naturally but to us is so comical. Wrap it up with the hope you have bestowed upon her and the faith you have in her and make sure she knows that you have every confidence that she'll use every tool, every learning experience, tackle every problem the way you have taught her to. Each and EVERY human being is as unique as every star in the sky. Brother, emphasize how YOU see her as unique to you and your family, her friends, your neighborhood or community. From your posted question alone it sounds like you have raised this girl to be meteoric, NOT mediocre. Best of luck :)
254269
Give her a big hug. Tell her you are glad and that you love her. Then the conversation will start without any problem.\nYou and she, both have a lot to tell after 4 years.\nHave a nice and happy meeting.
1115157
You can get a passport for her, even though she is so young.  Depending on how your parents are traveling you may also need a notarized letter saying that you are the custodial parent and have given permission for your child to travel with her grandparents.
509881
WELL I THINK WHAT YOU DID FOR HER AND HER DAUGHTER WAS MORE THEN MANLY. MOST MEN WOULD SAY OH WELL AINT MY PROBLEM AND WOULD HAVE STAYED. I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD STILL HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT WOMAN IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU CARE FOR HER VERY MUCH. YOU DONT HAVE TO LIVE THERE AND SHE CAN STILL DEVOTE TIME TO HER CHILD. HAVE EITHER ONE OF YOU TRIED TO MAKE THE DAUGHTER APART OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP SO SHE WONT FEEL LEFT OUT. WE AS MOTHERS HAVE TO LEARN HOW TO SHARE OUR LOVE AND ATTENTION. TALK TO HER AND YOU TALK TO THE DAUGHTER TRY TO BE A FAMILY NOT JUST MOM'S BOYFRIEND. IN THE MEAN TIME- TAKE KARATE, GO TO THE GYM, BECOME A BIG BROTHER,DO SOMETHING YOU WILL BE PROUD OF AND STOP MESSING WITH SKANKY WOMEN JUST IN CASE YOU AND MOM GET BACK TOGETHER
421049
talk to them, earn their trust. seem interested in whatever they might say. act like you have nothing to hide(which you might not), and smile. also act polite. meeting the parents is never easy, but it must be done eventually.
545993
If I were you, I would comply and ask.  Just go over there and visit to start with.  Surely her parents aren't that strict that she can't have "friends" over.  The more they see of you I'm sure the more comfortable they will be.  Also from what you described, she appears to be the oldest.  Most parents are protective of their first born.  They will eventually have to cut the apron strings.  Be brave, if you don't step up and do this, someone else will.
576099
Tell her that Mommy and Daddy just didn't get along any more and have to live separately. This is pretty common nowadays so you may be surprised to learn that it won't affect your child that much so long as you are straight with her without being accusational toward the other parent. Tell her, that you are sure that her Daddy loves her, but if he doesn't ever make contact or show interest in contact, there isn't alot you can do about that. One day, she will be able to confront him on this on her own. Good luck to you.
294767
this sound similar to what I went through. THe only difference is that my dad didn't step in. I pretty much grew up making mistates and learning from them on my own. I don,t recommend this at all. Get involved with her. Don't punish cause at this age they think that parents don't know any thing. Try to spend quality time with her and gradually talk about whats going on in her life. Remind her that you love her and want the best for her. Let her know that for any reason, you are there for her. Somewhere in your conversations ask her about her boyfriend. Even if you have to pretend, make her think that you see where she is coming from. 16 year olds need to know that their dad will be there for all of their life, even the mistakes. My dad just pretty much let me live and learn. I think I turned out o.k. but I still wish I would of had the guidance from my dad. My mom died when I was 10 and it was really hard for him, but he did not seek help. I really hope that things get worked out. Don't give up and try your best to be involved with your CHILD. She is still your child. The mom needs a good talking to. She is alot of the reason that your daughter is doing what she is doing. Explain your concerns and she is you can meet in the middle some where or at least come to some understanding on why this is not appropriate. She has alot of influence on her. Good luck.  Contact me and let me know how it goes.
490718
My daughter is going to feel the same way you do because she is basically the only girl in the family. How do I make her feel more comfortable around girls?
191352
ISthat what you want to teach your daughter together,on how to deal whith that situation,talk to your ex and him together  let them know whats up,If your daughter wants to move in go for it having your kids around you is time well spent
656725
Since you have a child together, the two of you will always be connected. You just have to learn to deal with it. Its hard, I know through personal experience. Good luck.
575929
I think it depends on who is closest to their family.  If you are, would your parents be offended if you met hers first or visa versa?  \nOtherwise, my personal opinion is that she should introduce you to her family first.  May be old fasioned thinking - but "getting permission" so to speak from her dad would be the first thing to do.