In a relationship....both people are supposed to be committed to each other right??? What if theyre not?
605244
It's completely understandable that you would feel this way. Thinking someone was being true and finding out other wise is realizing you never really knew that person in the first place. It can make you feel as if you are vulnerable, and susceptible to anything others say. But this is not necessarily so. Sometimes we are smitten by others simply because of who or what they are. If they have money, who they know or what kind of a car they drive. It's easy to be blindsided by someone who may possess these qualities. It's also easy to believe someone when they say sweet nothings in your ear. It's what we all want, right? \nLook, the bottom line is this...you LEARNED A VALUABLE LESSON. People aren't always what they seem! Before you decided to give your heart to someone else in the future, make sure you KNOW the person VERY WELL! Take this mistake, and use it to your advantage for the future. Some people come into our lives for a season, others are there for a lifetime, and some just leave footprints on our hearts. It's all about living, and learning...but understanding that everything happens for a reason!! \nGood luck to you! I wish you the very best!
1157368
I believe that it is very unnatural to only be with one person. It is human nature to want to spread our seed. However, if you have decided to commit yourself to one person you must be true to them and only them. If you don't think it would be possible for you participate in a monogamous relationship, maybe you need to find another person that shares your same ideas and values on relationships.
236167
No the only way to have a lasting relationship is for both people to be completely open with each other. If their not open it shows lack of trust and their is no relationship unless their is trust.
1065765
At home with their wives, who take care of them. Being in a committed relationship requires a lot of communication and understanding. I hate to say it because women do not want to hear this but if you are trying to do it all, your man is going to need more attention than you can give him, and the commitment you are seeking he will not be able to honor.
193133
By date 5 within a two month period of time you're boyfried/girlfriend.  When you agree to stop seeing other people then you're committed bf/gf.  \n\nWhy on earth live with someone if you're not committed? \n\nUnless you just have a thing for your roommate.
109627
If the two of you have decided to have an "open relationship", it's not a problem, and you can "chase guys" if you want to, too. However, if what you are looking for is a committed relationship, then no, it's not all right, and why are you still with him?
572705
If two people do get as involved as you want then emotions are inevitable.  Even if two people try to make a commitment to not get emotionally attached it is next to impossible for one or both of them to stay emotionally distant.  Taking long walks usually means there is a commitment of some sort.  You want a physical relationship with no strings attached right?  Well it never works out.  One way or another emotions are going to get evolved.  If not the luvy-duvy type then the angry type.  Unfortunately many people have an idea as to what the ideal relationship is.  The guy is supposed to be the bread winner or the woman is supposed to cook and clean and many other things like that.  Everyone wants to pick and choose what happens when two people get together, but because the two people are different people then this is impossible.  You can't just pick and choose exactly what you want when you're with someone.  You want all the physical, but no emotional aspects of a relationship and unfortuantely for you it can't be done.
176279
Sometimes, your brain can want to be with someone and your heart knows that it's all wrong. I guess that if you were with the right person, the two would agree, eh?\n\nHope this helps!
281427
Should'nt have to do much if you's are soul mates. Just be yourself. Be honest and have good communication. Can't keep if they don't want to stay.
596050
It depends on how serious it is.\n\nBecause if both people aren't seriously committed, then long-distance relationships often don't work out.\nIn which case, it's best to let them go.\n\nBut if you guys are serious about each other, then do what you can to make it work.
1141018
Communicating, learning its ok to disagree and 2 be ok with the other person's decisions. I think that supporting each other completely having trust and faith in the relationship. And not letting outside interference mess wit the relationships. Be 2 true 2 each other. Know that its ok 2 have friends outside of the relationship becuz girls needs girls night out and guys need guy time. and being ok wit that and trusting that if ur significant other is going out then its ok and that u kno their not going to do nething and u kno who they are coming home 2. Loving one another 4 u who are and not tryin 2 change the person. Understand that the person is not perfect and has faults. All these 2 me factor in on having a strong a relationship.
374468
no, it just means that the other person is not ready yet.  Marriage is a HUGE commitment on either parties part. Of course you want both parties to want to take on the commitment that is ahead of them first.  I would talk to your g/f or b/f and just let them know that even though you feel this strongly about them, you are willing to wait until they are ready to take on such a serious commitment. There is not a rush to marry, and there is no rule that you have to break up if someone says no to a proposal...just make sure that they still want to be in the relationship in the first place.
307085
Is there a COMMITMENT? More importantly,is there a mutual LOVE/RESPECT between you/them?...Do you both go out of your way to please the other over your own neeeds?--if not,you will not be happy...love is a "self-LESS" concern for the other.It's the only real source of happiness...I wish you nothing but love!!.......Phantom of the Love
485512
That all depends on your current relationship and wheter or not there is love and trust for eachother. Really the only ones to answer that are you and him.
239332
It will work as long as you trust each other and you are committed.  I am in the same situation.
410860
that is great!!! When someone vows to save that for YOU for marriage you should cling to that as a sign that she REALLY loves you!! Respect her is what you do.... be there for her b/c she can't stop doing those things on her own... I promise you will be SOOO much happier in the long run if you HELP her work this through!
64476
in a true relationship the love for each other grows and grows as time goes on. the compatibility becomes even more as the souls intertwine and become as one. the commitment becomes even stronger. that is the truth of it.