How do you learn to be happy with your body, especially when... ?
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Plastic surgery is dangerous, despite the fact it is becomming like a national craze. I recommend not doing it. At the end of the day, the poet Keats said: "Truth is Beauty, Beauty is Truth". \n\nNow, look around, you see lots of people have partners (bf-gf/husband-wife) and they all look different. Personality is really the most magical thing there is. I have dated a lot of bimbo's and to be honest, they are really boring.\n\nWhy compare yourself to these girls anyways. They probably have their own issues to work out, and if some have went for the option of plastic surgery, then perhaps they have the problem.\n\nRelationship-wise, looks fade over time, then what are these people going to be left with? There is NOT, as you say, tons of beautiful women with great personalities, i've dated lots of girls, and this is just not the case.\n\nWhat is attractive to me, and most men i know, is a woman who is confident in herself. If you deal with the INTERNAL issues you have, this will so come out EXTERNALLY. Energy, Happy eyes, etc. \n\nGuy's really have low standards when it comes to looks, if it moves, they want a go at it. Any girl could go out, whatever she looked like, and get a boyfriend if she wanted to. All you have to do is grab LIFE by the balls and walk up to someone you like and show them the beauty of your personality.  Low confidence and needy attitudes are a turn off. \n\nNow, onto the main bit of your question, the actual HOW to learn to be happy with your body. Well, first off, exercise is a great thing, every person has the ability to get themselves into shape. Once in shape, wear clothing that flatters your body (it doesnt have to be party-girl hooker clothes either!). \n\nMake up and hair styles can have a HUGE impact upon someone. Take a look through great MAKE-OVER websites that should give you simple easy tips that have a great effect. Even watch make over shows, catch some tips from them.\n\nEvery human being has a beautiful spirit, some just don't show it. Have fun, laugh and smile, there is nothing more attractive than some laughing and joking around. If you need dental work, get some (it's cheaper than plastic surgery). \n\nMost of all, DO WHAT YOU WANNA DO, go out, have fun, get involved in things that will have you comming into contact with tons of people. The more people you meet, the more chance you will catch some guy's eye (if this is even what you want?). \n\nDo not obsess over yourself, magazines have got people aspiring to a bunch of crap. Listen to Christina Aguliera's song "I am Beautiful" over and over if you want (however i do not recommend it because she is an alien). \n\nIf all else fails, download some audio serie's by the following people: Tony Robbins (success in life), Deepak Chopra (happiness in life), Wayne Dyer (love in life) and also, if you want an insight into how men work, download David Deangelo (this is a series about guys hitting on girls).
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Just feel lucky that you have that kind of body.
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Buy an ABLounger.  The exercise is not strenuous, and you really will see results.\n\nYou have another 6 months before you will be happy with your body...but you will be happy.\n\nDrink the 8 glasses of water each day, and try to get 8 hours sleep...even if it is 2 hours at a time.\n\nFor now, wear a one-piece with tummy control.  Everyone will understand, so don't worry about it!\n\nEnjoy your baby!
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You can make you happy.\n\nTry book "Feeling Good - the New Mood Therapy",  David Burns author.  It suggests you act the way you want to be, and over time you will be that way.
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No matter what we do it seems that it is never right. As long as you are happy with yourself. Good going on the weightloss. I have been trying for years and can not succeed.
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Ok, ready, breathe, now take a deep breath, and relax...for the next minute all you have to do is read.\n\n1.  Most important, it's not what you eat, it's what's eating you so......\n2.  Make a list of the attributes of people you admire....and see if you have some in commmon.\n3.  Make a list of the bad things people have done to you, yes all of them, like callingn you names and such.....\n4.  After the list of bad things is done, tear it up in a thousand pieces and throw it away....it served a purpose and that was to make you realized...or start to realize what's bugging you....and that self-realization is good.\n5.  Nutrition - start by having breakfast every day....the cheerio's and non-fat milk, with fruit if available is a good start.\n6.  Add fiber - by adding more vegetables and fruit everyday!\n7.  Try taking a fiber pill once a day, to get rid of excess waste, that we all have.\n8.  Forget soda, white sugar, white flour and white bread.\n9.  If you need soda, try ones that are made with splenda 0 calories.\n10.  Add water and more water...to flush out the waste, and keep you kidneys functioning properly.\n11.  Walk at least 5 minutes a day.....even if it's climbing stairs 3to 5 minutes a day........and park the car (if you drive) at the farthest place and walk to the entrance.\n12.  Get out the cd's with dancing music, and dance at least 1 to 3 songs a day, for the sheer pleasure, get out the pent up energy and add to your more healthy lifestyle.\n13.  This one is easiest, smile every time you pass a mirror, a big smile because you are gaining control of your life again.....and again...and if you slip up....so what...you are doing this for the most important person in your life...YOU!\n14.  Take it easy and remember, at least one meal a week, enjoy whatever you want....then go back to healthy eating....I hate the other word..that reminds me of doing without.\n\n15.  Face whatever is bugging you and move on....ok so if you slip up go back to eating healthy and walking more, and don't forget that dance......and smile.....now...a big smile.
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If you are not happy with how you look, the only way to feel better is to do something about it.  It won't be easy.  Junk food has a TON of chemicals in them, which can become addicting, just like a drug.  Your body might even might be physically dependent on them.  The only way to stop eating that crap is to stop buying it.  Don't keep it in your house.  Fill your house with healthy alternatives, like fruits, veggies, whole grain snacks.  Try eating sugar free, whole grain cerial as a snack.  And you have to exercise.  Exercise is good for the body and the mind.  You will not feel better about yourself until you exercise.  You can read all these responses, but until you actually get up and do what you already know you need to do, you wont feel any better.  Good luck.  Go throw all that junk food in the garbage right now, you can do it!!!!!!!!!!!!
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sit down in a quiet place and think about some things that make you happy, and some things that make you stressed out. pick one (or more) of the happy things, and try to do it/see it/listen to it/feel it more often. when you are experiencing whatever it is, really let yourself enjoy it.\n\nthen, think of one of the things that makes you stressed out. think about the way you like it (perfect) and what will happen if it's not perfect. next time you see it not being perfect, take a minute to relax and see if it's really as bad as you think before you change it. this is something you can teach yourself to do. \n\nwith both, start slow and do one at a time- you're not going to change everything overnight.
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Drugs?\n\nSeriously, though: \n\n1. Love yourself.\n2. Don't rely on other people to make you happy.\n3. Don't do hurtful things to other people or yourself.\n4. Think about all the good things in your life.\n5. Start every day with a smile.\n6. Be yourself.\n7. Don't worry so much about being happy. Do these things, go with the flow, and let it come to you.\n\nThat's my advice. Good luck.
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be happy with who you are. the rest when you love yourself, will fall into place. \n\npeople think it is material things, or money that make people happy, however, it is the things that cannot be bought that are the most valuable. \n\nlove, health and happiness.  they are not things...they are everything.   you can't hold them, or buy them, they just are.
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I think from experience that the idea of being consumed by wanting to be healthy and have a good body and be happy with myself stresses me out.  Although, I feel wonderful when I eat healthy (both mentally and physically), I also feel just as good when I exercise.  I guess it depends on how you look at it.  If you're wondering, try looking at the situation with a fitness aspect to it, like, "This is my reward, I want it, I will earn it, I will do it. "
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Are you asking me or yourself? Look inside yourself and think about your positive attributes. Not just physical but what you are good at. Then think of those things that you need to change.Look again at yourself and the answer will come to you.
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eat healthy\nexercise daily\nand please, don't get mad easily as possible\ncontrol your emotions
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When I was a lot younger, I wanted to go on a diet....and then in high school, I wanted to be taller.  Eventually, I reached acceptance.  I like to think that being short is endearing, and I feel that my weight is fine.  Yes, I can still be self conscious, but I think I'm fine the way I am...  I wish that other people would feel comfortable with their bodies instead of reliying on plastic surgery to help make them feel better about themselves.
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Start giving yourself Brownie points for every good choice you make. Confidence and self-esteem are earned, nobody is born just possessing them. Every time you make someone smile, remind yourself that you have that ability. Do your work honestly and well. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Give others sincere compliments and don't always expect others to set your standards of decency or to make you happy. Remember, you're not transparent. People can't tell how you're feeling. Eventually, feeling confident will become second nature. But above all, be kind to yourself and others. And just have fun!
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I've been fat and thin (right now I'm fat) and being happy has nothing to do with weight or what you look like.  I was down to 114 lbs and a size 4 (5'4" tall) and I still wasn't happy with what I looked like.\nYou are still looking for approval from others/from outside yourself.  You need to approve of yourself and then you won't give a damn what others think, no matter what you look like.  No one completes you except  YOU and nothing from the outside can "make" you happy.\nBTW, a 24 1/2 inch waist is pretty small.  You probably don't need to lose any more weight.  Maybe you can exercise a little and tone up.
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There are self esteem issues you need to work out with a counselor. I have plenty of really skinny friends that they still rag on themselves for not being this and that and not liking how they look in clothes or bathing suits. Just because you are skinny don't necessarily mean you are going to be a happier person. You will be happier with getting more attention but just going on looks likely to be more negative attention. You need to be happy with yourself no matter what size you are! But, you also want to make sure you keep yourself healthy. Just eat right or just moderate what you eat altogether don't go on this diet food kick and if you can try to get out and walk around the block or if you can afford it join a gym. They have new classes like belly dancing, exotic dancing and jazzercise to make it more interesting. Try to look at it as being more healthy and making healthier choices not just as being skinny. There are skinny people that are out of shape and not healthy that can end up having the same health problems as someone who is overweight. Hope this helps.