how can I not fight with my girlfriend and have discusions?
600060
The most you can do is by example. You have to remain calm but forceful in your arguments during discussion. Stay focused on the issue at hand and not allow trivial attachments to those issues to become separate issues. You're only one half of the equation and if she follows your example then things should work out fine. If you set the example and she's unable to reciprocate in attitude then my suggestion would be to think hard and long about the life expectancy of that relationship.
313885
Married couples fight. It happens. One thing you need to do is never go to bed angry at each other. I don't know why you had a fight and I don't want to know. You guys have to find a way to have a civil conversation without losing your tempers. I love my wife and I respect her as woman as well. I am nothing without her. I wish you luck
604189
i'm also angry person!! Just do like my boyfriend does!! ANd it's work. Just sit still and dont' say anything. Your girlfriend will feel regret and feed bad in what she done just like me.
968032
Do you want to be in a relationship where you always argue or just argue occasionally?\n\nIf you're not happy and fighting all the time just move on.\n\nIf you can do better you should.
263719
Either you like to argue or you have some issues between you that affect how you communicate to each other in a positive way.  If you really love her then talk to her about the effect the arguing is having on you and your relationship with her.  Long term relationships are not easy and I say that from experience...but they also can be the blessing of your lifetime too.
148500
You need couples counselling. Crossing the boundry into physical violence during a fight is an extremely serious problem - one that won't go away by itself.
217983
Why are fighting?\nWhat are you fighting about?\nThe answer to these questions should help you with your decision. \n\nIf your fighting is due to the influence of your parents (and believe me, fighting due to opposing parents' is very common) ask yourself if you can stop fighting and start talking and discussing your opinions.\nIf you fight about money (very common), try to create a budget and define spending priorities. \nIf you fight about where to live, find a place where only people supporting both of you are welcome.\nIf you fight about basic ethic values in your relationship ask yourself how long you want to live with someone who doesn't share your values and if both of you can respect the others values and live with them. If not, better break up now than later.
542658
Honestly, if you are concerned about who's right or wrong then your gonna always have problems. Your wife is not the enemy and neither are you. Be humble, take the responsibility, apologize about the situations (I'm sorry), make sure she feels her feelings are validated, then you can explain the facts. Recap: 1. Feelings\n       2. Facts\n       3. Opinions\nIf you respond in this order, you will hardly ever have long lasting fights and you relationship will flourish.\nHusbands gotta lead the way. Good Luck.
522098
Hey man, I think you should sit back and really think about your relationship, the first thing you should consider is her consideration of your feelings and perception of the situation  in general. If trust is there AND... a MUTUAL level of respect for each others feelings is there, somehow things will work, I feel once those things aren't in place your outta gas.
984831
You should just be a good girlfriend and do not let her get in the way of your happiness. Remember to always respect her and that she loves your boyfriend so she will back off sooner or later. Do not try to compete with her, let her look bad and your boyfriend will cling more to you because of her negativity, then she will realize that she is pushing are son away from her and closer to you. Then she will back off for sure.
221993
Hey chicky,  I know how you feel.. me & my bf fight constantly too.  Sometimes I wonder if its normal or not.  I get really sick of it too sometimes .. occassionally to the point where I dont care if the relationship ends.  But we are still together.  Are you living together?  My bf & me only moved in together 6 months ago.. we used to fight before that but not as bad as when we moved in with each other.  I think maybe you guys need to do stuff apart every now & then just so you can have your own space.  Think about it .. if you had a sister who you saw every day forever you would get sick of her too & fight with her.  Its the same with your man.  Try not to fight over the little things that dont mean much,  think about what it is that you are fighting about & ask yourself.. is it even worth breaking up over this?  If you answer No then get over it.. be the one to end the fight first.  Even if he keeps going dont let yourself get worked up, its hard trust me but it will only make it worse if you are both going at it.  Tell him you dont want to fight & that your going for a walk or something & wait for him to cool down then you will talk to him about the issue.  Remember that anyone can fight, but its the people who's relationships that last through the fights that are the strongest.
364428
pay attention to what she responds to and what she doesn't. for instance if you do something to her and the response is oh yes, yes, yes, keep doing it. but if you do something and her response is stop, eww,ouch, get the f*ck off me then you no not to do it. don't worry about it too much. you'll figure out.
930084
You must be my sister. JK Lol. My sister and I have the same problem. She always tells me to back off and I don't care. I'll play with her when she wants it. If I sense she's getting tense I'll leave her alone. \n\nI am the older sister though. Maybe you guys could spend a day or two a week together? Then she wouldn't have to be in your face *all the time*.\n\nIt's great that you guys get along well though! Be greatful for that!
640385
Make fun of yourself and how you get into trouble.\n\nIf you can make her laugh, then act like a friend for a very long time without being pushy.\n\nIf you don't have this kind of patience, get a new girlfriend.
969904
How a person responds to an argument is not a guy or girl issue . . . it's how the individual (no matter the gender) handles the response and situation of an argument.  How to handle this issue, no matter if it was the guy or the girl . . . when things are calm...maybe even several days or weeks later...tell your sweetie something to the effect of "I'm uncomfortable of how we argue...I'd like to openly discuss this so we can clarify some understanding and set up some 'ground rules' for when we have disagreements."  Then sit down and openly share what you do and don't care for in your style of 'arguing'.  Remember to share not only what you don't like but also what you do like.  Maybe your girlfriend will share that her style is to be left alone for a certain period of time before you two relate together again.  You both express your thoughts and then begin negotiations and agreed boundaries.  All this really needs is COMMUNICATION.  I don't feel enough couples really have healthy respectful communication skills.  One person shouldn't have to back down and chase after the other.  And it's not right for the other one not to accept a sincere apology that included the acknowledgment of what they felt was hurtfully projected.  You and your sweetie sit down and openly discuss what style of relating (and understanding of the others) mode of relating and arguing best suits the two of you.  A relationship is in part like a business, discuss and find what works best for the healthy success of your (business) relationship.  Though in a relationship...there are the perks of love and kisses.
440371
Hi try walking away when the fighting starts and cooling down, when you both have a minute 2 cool down try and talk about it this has worked for me and I think it can help you
318331
You've got to be able to discuss your differences and share your feelings, but that doesn't mean it has to be fighting.\n\nSometimes our communication styles just aren't compatible.