My b/f and i have not held hands and some of my friends are makin' a big deal out of it??? is it a big deal???
604110
No\nJust do what your comfortable with. Don't let other people pressure you into stuff. IT wont be long until holding hands turns into being pressured into other things.(worse things)\nI wont go into detail because i thing your about 12 years old and you don't need to be on this website because there are too many child molesters about.\n\nMay god bless you in all that you do.
130634
For some people, just holding hands is a big step.  Different people have different levels of intamacy.  While holding hands to you is probably a minor step, he may see holding hands as a big step in a relationship.  For now, respect his being open and honest enough to tell you that he isn't ready to take that step.
661618
Probably not.  Maybe they see the way you and your girlfriend get along (fighting all the time, verbal abuse, or maybe you have a one sided relationship).  Maybe they see how your girlfriend treats you, like you do everything for her and she has you wrapped around your finger, so they feel like she's using you.  If they were jealous then I would think that you spend a lot more time with your girlfriend and not with your friends and your relationship with your girlfriend is something they want because they see perfection.  Is this relationship something where the two of you feel inseparable and love spending time with one another?  Then maybe they could be just a little jealous, but for some reason, I feel that this may not be the case if you are asking.  They probably know more of what you don't see or notice. Others usually can observe and pick up on the wrong things when you yourself, cannot.  Usually that is the way it goes.  It's called being "Naive" to the relationship.
1013837
Sounds to me like hes embarassed about his feelings towards you. He probably wants to keep what you two have in private, which isn't such a bad thing..believe me. It's alot easier to have a real relationship without everyone's prying eyes all in your buisiness.
1156997
I would cancel on my buddies, and go to the hospital with my boyfriend. This is an important time for your girl/boy friend. If you guys have a serious and truthful relationship and wanna keep it that way; a little get together with coworkers shouldn't be that important. If you don't offer your support now when she/he most need it, then the trust between you would be broken. She/he wouldn't know if she/he can count on you for support for any other occasion. A little get together can be arranged any other time. Everyone will understand.\n\nAdded Details:\nWell, if he chose to go out with friends just for fun instead of being with you in your time of need; then something is seriously wrong here. The feeling EXCLUDED excuse is a very lame one. He is trying to defend himself by blaming you. You guys should definitely have a serious talk on the matter if you want to pursue a good relationship. You never know he may have a reason after all for not supporting you. Maybe there was something more than a little get together with his buddies. I'm not defending him but you should leave room for the unknown. Just as he may just doesn't care. If it is the latter I would leave him, but you are responsible to take your own decision, and unless you guys talk about it you won't be able to work it out.
910178
Whoa Nelly! I'm confused. So he's related to you?\nWell I heard thats a bad thing but hey if you guys love each other not like family or friend love then.... yeah . Whatever you want. But if you guys have children there could be problems there huh? And it's illigal right? Uh, be careful.
541077
I dont think its wierd at all...Im actually in that position in my life right now.....Ive been through some of the worst relationships ever and at this point in my life i am very happy bieng single, but still want the physical active part from a guy....that may be why most of my friends are guys....I still like the cuddling and the hugging and the other stuff, but dont want anything serious......I dont think its wrong at all....you do whats best for you and if you feel you dont want to be in a committed relationship, no one should make you feel bad for that.
1036169
Well dear, the English language, although among the richest, is still poor to express certain issues. \nLove! Is Love a feeling or a property of a person? I think the second! Thus, if you are a person who love, then you love and you love everyone and everything! That is great! Congratulations!\nNow, since you love, you love your friends, also, regardless of their customs, attractions, wills, etc. What you are asking in if you should do what you do not like, am I right? \nIn the case you do not like something, you do not do this, because your closest and best friend is yourself! Yourself will never turn you down, or at least more than you will do to her!\nALso, we have many friends who either drink a lot, or smoke or take drags, ..., we get with them and try to influence them to soemthing we consider better! Others are doing thing we consider them fine, although those activities are not our style! Etc. We get together with them. We enjoy what we can communicate each other! Same way with your friend! You remain friends, but you should do what you really want! If you cchange, your friends will not like you any more, you will be done aanother person! If they like the new you and the new you is less good that the previous, run away, those might not be good friends, might not even be any kind of friends!\nNow, if she would bring another boyfriend, what would you think? How would you react?\nIt all depends on how you feel, what kind of girlfriend she is, what you want out of this relation, ...\nI might enjoy both of them and look around for another relation!!!!
816660
explain to her that your boyfriend and you are making it like a honeymoon. if you explain to her that you two just wanted it to be a romantic holiday with no kids. if she has been your friend for that long she should understand and yes she will be hurt and dissapointed but she will get over. she prob thinks it will be a good chance for you and her to catch up as well. she will understand you just need to tell her dont let her go if you do you and her will only end fighting about it later or even at the holiday then it will be a long long holiday and even the ed ofthe friendship
1179860
What do you mean break up ,,it sounds like you haven't been his girlfriend for some time now, and why in the hell are you worried about what your friends say or think,, they don't run your life or pay your bills,, be independent, tell him and all of them to kiss your a** ,,and go out and find some real friends !!!
204292
Everyone in our life has some kind of special feelings in our heart and a diff. place for everyone, so ur friends should understand ur concern to spend quality as well as quantity time with your gf but at the same time they are your friends and even they need some of your time and attention so my simple and sweet advice for you will be Spend quality(not quantity) of time with your friends and gf. Just coz you have a gf today doesnt mean that you forget ur friends and same goes visa versa so just remeber to be in touch with everyone at all times it can be just a cute hi
292895
Don't think that everyone's doing it.  Me and my boyfriend are very serious, and we are waiting.  It's the right thing to do. It can keep you out of a lot of emotional stress.
883914
Are you sure your not being too clingy? Are you giving him some space? He might not be joking but not admitting it. Of course I cant judge it because I dont know how you are but you should ask him to be  bluntly honest with you so you can deal with it if it is a problem.
448297
Your friend was wrong to making a move on your bf, if she did. Maybe your boyfriend was talking about your friends because he knows how important they are in your life? Try talking about it with all three of them. Get each other sides of the story before you jump to anymore conclusions! Good luck!
63313
U should be glad he isnt the partying type. Do you know how many ladies would love that. Is there more to this than you're saying? Or do you think maybe you're being a little insecure. You have to realize he needs his space such as you do. Its not good to be around each other all the time. Make him miss you.If the realationship is strong, him going to a party should in no way pose a threat to your relationship. Give him the benefit of the doubt. You should go out w/ some friends or do something when he goes out to take your mind off it.
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First off it sounds like HE hasn't done anything, it's seems like you're the one that needs to do something. It's hard to tell someone how you feel if you don't say anything at all. If the guy and your friend express interest in each other maybe it's just time to move on, no point in hurting a existing friendship over a possible "hookup". Plus if your friend and the guy go out and break up, you'll be right there on the rebound.
800883
I know exactly what you are going through! I was always worried either of them were going to pull the question "Me or Him" or "Me or Her". Luckily I talked to my bff and she and I agreed on walking to school together and my bf and I walk home together, while she and our other friends walk home in an opposite shorter way home. If you end up doing something similar make sure it's even for both your bf and bff... my bf had basketball practice after school on Wednesdays so that also gave me and my bff more time together, while from 4:30-7:00 pm on Sunday nights I would go to church with my bf... so it was even and no relationship was broken... and my bff and bf didn't have to spend any time together!!