I am seeking a divorce and my husband wants me to pay child support?
602551
See above on the general rule that you are only financially responsible for your own children (legal or adopted), and the advice to speak to an attorney.\n\nThe thing to remember about child support is that it is determined (ordered) by the court based on the needs and interests of the child. Both parents (whether biological or adopted) are financially obligated to care for a minor child. The custodial parent is credited toward some of that financial obligation based on providing food/clothing/shelter and other necessary living expenses for the child. \n\nBut once that is factored in, both spouses are still  obligated to provide for the needs of the child, and that obligation is split based on relative income. In the past, men tended to make more money than women, and women tended to have custody. Thus, in most situations, the woman's share was mainly provided through room+board and related expenses, and the man contributed additional money to satisfy his share of the total. But the basic ideas in the formula for calculating the total has not changed, and it's based on the contribution of each parent (biological or adopted).
525512
The best way to get child support is to go the your local social services office and apply for medicaid,food stamps and aid to dependent children checks.When it's coming out of their pockets they get busy,go after the dad for reimbursement.Have you filed a petition in juvenile and domestic relations intake office so you can go back to court.I doubt the attorney general would help but you can contact the division  of child support services in your area
437164
Well there's always legal aid.  If you have proof that he cheated, or if he admits, since its his fault the marriage failed you should get alimony.  And no matter what, if you get the kids, he'll pay child support no matter what the situation
1174745
He should be paying child support, but not her rent. Do you have child support agencies in the states? Here in Oz, most go through child support agency, who determines how much one should pay the other, that way, whoever gets the CS can't turn around in a year or 2 and say they haven't been receiving money and the payee gets hit with a big bill. \nIt's not good that he hasn't told you before now. You need to have good talk about trust.
519982
If you have access to the  money..spend it on what you need.  The court is going to give you alimony and child support as well.  He is angry and making an already tense situation worse.  June is very near so you will be free soon.
793501
Patricia--if you're disabled and raising two children (not your own?) you should apply for every service your county has to offer you--ie food stamps, medical assistance, care taker supplements or cash aid, if available in your state.  The state will be compelled to collect partial repayment from the father (and mother if these are not your children.)  You won't have to wait for a deadbeat to pay--the state sends you the aid and collects partial repayment.  Your child should also be eligible for benefits off your social security if you haven't been collecting that already.  After you've applied for EVERYTHING your eligible for THEN go to your child support office and give them any information you have on the children's father (and mother).  If you do have an order for support and he is only making partial payments he still owes you that money.  Agencies are reluctant to take people who are 'making an effort' back to court because it encourages those who REALLY are trying to quit.  If he is just gaming the system--demand your case be enforced and he be taken back to court and held in contempt.\n\nGood luck!
639158
ok my mom and dad are divorced and it all depends on how many children there are if he won't pay you up front you could always get it taken out of his pay check or take his as* to court untill he gets so sick of it......and make sure you get joint-custidy(something like that I can't spell very well) ok
1050424
nooooooooooo he has no rights to ask you that and then he is remarried?? tell him to mind his business at home and send your child support payment on time.. that is what.\nthe only thing he needs to know is where to send the money i hope you slapped his ass with child support and i hope he has supervised visitations with the kids if he was abusive...you better talk that over with your lawyer.and do not let him intimidate you you have to be strong and direct with him,good luck honey.
211154
He doesn't want to be forced to pay alimony. Get yourself an attorney, don't listen to hubby.  He knows exactly what he'll have to fork up.  ALOT        What a creep.   And don't believe anything he tells you, it will be all bull.
319321
Yes!  Your first priority should be to your kids.  They aren't safe with your husband and you need to get them away now.  Call legal aid or see if you make payments to a lawyer.  Or see if in your state you can file on your own.  Make sure you have proof of whatever accusations you are going to bring up in court.  Document everything, it will help you later on.  Also depending on the ages of the kids, I would ask for supervised visitation due to him still talking to the perp.
1013623
If you have filed what he is doing is CONTEMPT of court! Neither party can keep a child from the other party.\n\nYou need to make up your mind if you want to have joint custody where for example you have her one week him the next or....full custody where you have her and he gets visitation rights.  Most states will encourage a joint custody...makes it a little easier.  If I were you I would start getting going on the paperwork for filing.  You can file a pro se on your own..depending on your situation you maybe able to file a waiver of fees.  contact me at summer_kisses_06@yahoo.com and I'll help you thru.  I myself am doing this and have 3 children.....Ill be more than happy to help you.
991918
If you have the children the same amount of time, then I think you are fine. I would question why you even pay the $200. Child support is for food, rent, living expenses. You pay the same by splitting the duties. It should come out even. But, I'm not divorced so I don't know the rules of custody.  It sounds like the people who have answered this already are not realizing the "joint-custody" issue, or don't understand what it means.\n\nCOOL, by the time I got this posted some others have said the same!!
1147588
If the support is not court ordered and the mother is not requesting support then legally he doesn't have to  pay anything. Morally however, and assuming he's a responsible father and parent, then he should be making it his business and priority to ensure that his child or children are provided for to the best of his financial ability.
857099
If you trully believe 100% that this man is the father of your child then whatever happens I would make him pay!\n\nHunt him down, drag him through the courts and make the bastard pay for his child.\n\nHe can move to Timbuctoo if he likes, I would still make him pay. he can deny responsibility and say he's not the father as much as he likes, but I'd still make him pay. This man is threatening to move/demand DNA tests to intimidate you- he's trying to discredit you as a woman not to mention what he's doing to his child and thats very unfair. Why should you care what happens to someone who stoops as low as this? Why should you care if he struggles or not- He is in the wrong not you! \n \nI'm sure you don't want or need his money but that is not the point. He has a responsibility to this child and even if he refuses to accept he has a moral duty of care (which is very convenient don't you think?) he certainly has a financial responsibility which he should not be allowed to walk away from.\n\nIf I were you, I would demand that he TAKE his DNA test- let him prove that he IS the father of your child and allow him to look like the complete heartless arsehole he really is- What have you got to lose honey?\n\nRemember- you are the one holding the baby, you are the one who is facing up to the loving responsibility of being a good mother and you are the only one who can hold this man accountable for his actions.\n\nSorry, but I do not agree that ANY man who has children should be allowed to simply walk away from their legal responsibilities.\nNever mind the fathers rights- what about the rights of their child? \n\nHunt him down- get everything- make him pay and if you really don't need the money, then put it in trust for your son so that he can use it when he is older.\n\nThere is no shame in making this man pay.. after all he felt no shame in sleeping with you to create a life- he must now be held accountable for his actions!\n\nPlease don't let him away with this- you have the right to be able to life your life and bring up your son with a decent standard of living-the money will help.\nI think that you have had a very lucky escape- Men like this are the scum of the earth and you deserve better!\n\nGood luck.
602600
You may not be able to, but the court can.  Is he under court order to pay child support?  Ask an attorney to follow up.\n\nI wish you Peace.
571834
Report him to the court.  In many states now he can be arrested for failure to pay child support.  If your state is not one of these then talk to a lawyer and find out what your options are.
840761
Yes, fight for your rights, and don't give him any sex (charge him, just kidding, had to say that in the moment), the most important thing of course is the welfare of the children, and remember, documentation, documentation, I hope you have paperwork on everything that has happend in your life, and witnesses, he has to pay child support no matter what, he is their father and has to support them (like it or not/wage garnishment).  And don't question yourself if you need financial help, you do and you deserve it.  Good Luck and I hope things work out for you and your children.