Do I call the people who didn't respond to my wedding invitations?
597894
You bet you do. You call with the polite assumption that they did not receive your invitation. After all, that's the only possible explanation for not honoring your request to RSVP, right? Your friends wouldn't be rude to you, would they? But seriously ... \n\nDo call. In fact, call even those who DID honor your RSVP to "confirm" your guest list. This is your golden opportunity to prevent problems on your big day. What kind of problems? Uninvited people showing up, such as guests bringing guests of their own or small children. (If you use vague terms like "and family" or "and guest" on your invitiations, you have only yourself to blame for this.)\n\nBy The Big Day, you should have only two lists: those who WILL be attending and those who WILL NOT. There is no "maybe" list for such an important event. Make this clear during your RSVP calls and do not be bullied into accomodating unexpected arrivals.
952112
I'd still send a thank-you card.   If these two  individuals find out that you sent every other guest a card except them, they could cause you even more trouble in the future.\n\nMore importantly, you'll be taking the ethical high road, and who knows, maybe jar their consciences a bit -- maybe even enough to make them apologize to you for their inexcusable behavior at your wedding.  \n\n.
692255
Definitely wait. You called once and she didn't have an answer for you then, If you call again, ahe might get a little annoyed. Also, she said they were discussing it that day, so if she didn't call by now, look elsewhere.
405794
I am a part-time event and wedding coordinator.  This is the advice I give my clients.  Etiquette dictates inside envelopes for formal events.  Since you stated that your wedding will be less formal, it would be perfectly acceptable for you to NOT include an inside envelope.\n\nMight I also recommend that you write a small number on the back of your response cards as well.  Someone will always return a response card by checking yes or no but forget to put their name.  Having that number on the back of the card will help you keep your sanity.\n\nCongratulations on your engagement and have a great time with the planning and the marriage!\n\nCheers,\nShauna
707039
Depends on how long your honeymoon is. If your Hnymn is 3 weeks, I would send them right away when you get back.\n\nFor overseas I would try to send Thank You's as first priorty over local ones.
807840
I don't know, I didn't receive an invitation yet.
472675
We sent our A list 3 months before and told them they have to rsvp a month later.  Then after a month and a few days (because some forgot they needed to rsvp on time), we sent out our B list.  So far it went well and everyone is coming and not canceling at the last second.  Also all the seats we wanted filled are filled.\n\nAlso I've gotten save the date from other people who wanted to pre-announce.  They sent those out to us 6 months to 9 months ahead and then later sent us the actual invite.\n\nIf you do not want people to go make sure to tell them its a small intimate wedding, and I would keep it to family and really close friends only.  If your not sticking to that then its advised to throw a wedding where it is hard for everyone to go, such as another state, island, 200miles away, etc and still invite everyone.
872754
Just say you can't make it on such short notice; you have other plans.  It's obvious that you weren't on the initial guest list and she's just trying to fill the empty seats of people who declined.  SO I wouldn't worry about hurting her feelings.
667900
i Think you should call the person and ask them politely but firmly why they haven't called you. if they say something like I've been busy or caught up with things, let it slide this once. if this is not the the first time they did this, you should ask them how come they couldn't give me a call at least to see how u were doing. it depends on how long you have been with the person, if its a serious, and other things like that.\n  in my opinion, i address thee problem with them after the 5th day i hadn't heard from them.
1185279
If you want them at your wedding, of course you have to invite them!  It doesn't matter if they are your siblings or not...people don't feel right about going to something like that if they weren't invited.
333438
No it is not rude. In this case it is reasonable weddings can have rather strange time frames. early wedding reception later? wedding immediate reception? pictures? cocktails, food, receiving line? it could take hours with set times between or not. But it is not bad manners to ask when any party is expected to end, especially if it is not stated on the invatation. It allows not only for the guest to plan for themselves, but it insures that they do not overstay their welcome. After all we all have had the "GUEST THAT WOULD NOT LEAVE". you know the one that thinks you  could not possibly be tired, have other things to do and so forth.
402908
YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT THAT DAY. ITS YOUR WEDDING. I DID IT ON MINE AND NOT ONE PERSON SAID ANYTHING TO ME. IF THEY DO JUST SAY THAT YOU ARE NERVOUS AND TO MIND THIER OWN BUSINESS. ITS NOT A BIG DEAL. ME AND MY HUSBAND BOTH DID IT. MAYBE OTHER GUESTS OR MEMBERS WILL JOIN YOU
1165300
When announcing a marriage that is not going to be having a follow-up reception, keep it simple.  Simply stating (for example)- It is with great pleasure to announce that on (enter date, 2006), (enter name of bride) and (enter name of groom) vowed their love and devotion to eachother in a (for example) seaside ceremony on the beaches of Hawaii.  May they have a happly and blessed life together.\n\nPeople don't really need any other information than that.  Many people understand that in today's day, age and economy, a reception is an unnecessary expense.  Those that are close enough to you already know and anyone that wants to send a gift will have access to your address from the return address on the envelope.  There is no tactful way to present the gift issue if you are not having a reception.  It would be untactful to register somewhere and include that information.  If whomever you are sending the announcements to has an actual impact on your lives, they will send a gift.
577836
People can be so uncouth. Who ASKS for an invitation to a wedding? Especially these days when we all know how much it costs to add an extra two people to the list? I had this happen to me too, sadly you just have to suck it up. Some people just like to go to social events, some people might actually care about who is getting married, and some people just have no clue about etiquette.
977568
no, just include your name in the gift of your friend.  it would still count as one invitation.
724165
You say, "Thank you for inviting me. I regret I cannot attend."\n\nThat's all that's necessary. Please do NOT provide any made up excuses. All that is necessary is a reply. Either Yes, thank you or no, thank you. No reasons necessary. Do NOT provide one. If you're wishy washy about it, why not stop being so anti-social, put on something nice, and go for a couple hours. You might actually have a good time if you let yourself. But, do NOT go if you're going to be a wet blanket. Either way - you need to RSVP.
1104847
This is an outdated custom from before the time of instant communication.  It used to take a long time to travel to wedding and you might not have time to speak to the families and voice your objection before the actual wedding.