Do I go to the funeral?
596628
Would this mother figure want you to go to great expense and trouble to visit her? If not, then do not attend her funeral. If your presence will not be missed by her family members, think about having a private remembrance time of your own (where you are) during her funeral. Your heart grieves for your loss and sometimes seeing the body you have loved one more time provides closure, but sometimes it deepens your sense of loss. \n\nIf you still feel compelled to attend, explain to your forever friend that you were tied to this woman in a way you were not tied to his parents. You were repaying a long-owed debt of love and loyalty to this woman.\n\nI'm sorry for your loss. I have dear ladies in my life and cannot fathom your pain.
830464
hey i am puerto rican and the funerals are all the same and as i remember just mouth the word watermelon when everyone starts talking.  I don't think there is much else except sometimes people go up and pray for the deceased.
275174
go and make an appearence at the visitation, but do not attend the funeral
1072199
I'm sorry to hear about your uncle.  If you're planning to travel by plane, just call the airline you plan to use and ask if they offer bereavement rates.   I know they give pretty hefty discounts for those family members travelling to funerals.  Perhaps they do the same for those precisely in your situation.  \n\nGood luck, and God bless.
6135
I would think it would depend on whether there is going to be a viewing or not and whether they are being cremated or burried.  When I die, I definitely do NOT want to be embalmed and I will also be cremated, thx.
223664
Well!!! I'm certainly cheered up for the day!! You seem to have a knack for starting the day off right!!!\nSeriously tho, tell me when and where the funeral is, and I'll try my darndest to get there!
1059280
it was terribly wrong for you to miss his funeral.\n\nafter all, you were the one who talked him into bungee jumping off that bridge with a Chinese jump rope!!!!\n\n*shame on you!!!!
1071352
The funeral plan worked for my mom. She had cancer for several years, we (my brothers, sisters, and I) went to the funeral home to get the plan best for her. She passed away 3 months later in 1991, and the funeral plan we got, paid for everything. When my dad passed away in 1977, he had life insurance that covered some of the funeral arrangements. The rest of the amount was divided among my siblings and I, we had each a monthly payment to make on the remaining of the bill. Which put some of us in a financial bind. \nPre-planning is the best choice because of the high cost of funeral expenses today.
1069091
You don't need to bring anything to the funeral, call the funeral home or church ahead of time and find out if the family is requesting donations to anything and make a contribution if you wish.  Most likely there will be a guest book at the funeral for you to sign.  The widow isn't going to remember who all attended but later on she will look through the book.  You could send her a sympathy card in the mail, that would also be a really nice gesture, even though you don't know her, she would really like to see the impact her husband had on other people.  If you would like to say something to her personally, it would be fine, just pick an appropriate opportunity.  I've been to funerals where the family is lined up waiting for people to give their condolences and I've been to others where people gathered after to speak with the family.  It totally depends on the situation, just be considerate of the family.
810842
To see that ALL of the will's directions are followed. You will also have to dispose(sell)  or distribute any worldy goods of the departed one. Also, you will need to see that all the bills of the departed one are paid. The money comes from liquidating assets of the departed one.  You need to take the will to probate and they will direct you in the legal matters.  In our state you can claim 2.5% of all assets for the duties you have performed. This is optional.  I was executrix of my fathers will and did not take the 2.5%. I just divided everything equally amongst me and my siblings after paying dad's bills (including the funeral). Your state might have slightly different laws so check with probate.  I am in Georgia.     m
624140
yes their is you go to heaven
101040
You don't bring flowers to a wake.  If anything, you have flowers sent to the funeral home by a florist.  But you are probably not expected to do that.  Just show up dressed conservatively, and speak quietly and gravely to people.  Your new boyfriend will be forever grateful.
170694
Swaming???\nWake???\nDoes this mean you like funerals?????
1095346
See the source for the wedding part, I guess it makes sense. As for a funeral, it's hard to say. Anyone who dies deserves a rightful burial. It's the time to say good-bye, religion doesn't have to be involved.
829791
Check your local cremation society, or a local funeral parlor.
526315
You are in a tough position because part of the family wants you there and part of them do not want you there.  Is there a way that you could go to calling hours to pay your respects?  If you do that and do not go to the funeral, you should be fine.  Explain to the family members that you are close to that you honor their grandmother, but you do not want to cause any problems amoung the family, so you are respectfully not attending the funeral to prevent any conflicts.
502792
Yes. The last moments of someones life is very precious. I was with my mother when she passed away. I would suggest you go, don't live with regret.