What the problem w/B(lack)B(ig)B(eatiful)W(omen)?Why is it that all men think the only thing we want is to sex
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I sure don't know...I'm one of those WBBWs with a handsome black man, and we've been together for 20 years.  But then, I don't stand a chance whenever Mo'nique comes on the TV screen...I just go in the kitchen and get him a towel for the drool...so I think we can fairly say he likes the big beautiful sistas, too! I do too, but I don't make a big point of it...I'm saving myself for Queen Latifah.
806399
well men just don't quite function like women.  It's hard for them to understand our emotional needs.  They're like little kids.  Full of energy, jumping from exciting activity to another sometimes they just forget that we exist.  Emotional stuff is just not really in their train of thought unless we sit them down and tell them exactly how we feel and tell them what we want and need.  After he knows exactly what we want then he has no excuse for ignoring our needs.  We fullfill their physical needs they should do so for our emotional ones.
1082176
You're obviously one of those chicks that think all dudes just like sex and nothing else. Have you tried talking to him about this, or did you immediately label him gay and come to Yahoo? The problem might be as simple as he's expecting more than to get laid.
636016
i cant speak for other men but myself i find what you say to be true-i find sex to be more physical less mental and expect to have already had talk it all out-wouldnt want to start with any confusion as everyone has different kicks so try to have everthing straight before starting-just me-lots of love-old hippie
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GUYS WANT SEX!!!!\n\nOh, and the nearly inborn desire to support and take care fo women that has been culturally bred through many different ethnic societies.
671813
Dear. The last thing that should come to your mind should be thinking so negatively like that. Men seem to be tired of Sex too. Believe me. It takes time but the good times will come back. Try to make him happy and get him more excited by wearing things that he likes. I think you should not doubt his love to you only because he has less sex with you. There is a lot of difference between love and sex. Women seem to get worried if their partner doesn't sleep with them frequently. Men start very fast and then they slow down.\n\nOne last thing I added later:\n\nStay away from negative women's advise. As someone here said Men Hater women who had bad experiences with the opposite sex, try to make their friends to suffer like themselves. This is the same with them men who dislike females. Stay away from advices of people like Sunbeam. These people are miserable and see the world differently. Think wisely and solve your problem with him gradually. Time is the answer to everything.\nGood luck
125337
The reason why men cannot live without sex is probably because we have a high sex drive. And maybe there are some guys out there who have a higher sex drives than others. Probably those are the men who just want to get into your pants.\n\nAnd no, sex does not make a relationship stronger. Who says that? That's gotta be like the lamest excuse ever...
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Don't haggle with it dear...we want what women want-sometimes not in the same order...that is all.The majority of us do/will settle down when the timing seems fit.For the meantime we cannot deny what nature has designed us to do...we must indulge in it or be at constant war with our inner being.If women could just understand that and feel what we feel for just one day...the majority of them would not post all the "Why are all men/Why do all men" questions anymore!We know that we can't live without women...but when will you women admit that?\nNothing personal miss..just food for thought,thank you & have a goodnight.
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I don't agree.  I know men who are not really that much into sex.  Me, being a woman, however, I  need it often.\n\nI don't mean with different people
126751
It is an inherent feature of most living beings. Though men and women have equal sexual urges, women seem to hide it and make it look as if men should 'win' them. It is the case in birds, flies, worms, fish, etc. It is a basic law of nature. It is like asking why men love women or vice-versa.
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Well you shouldnt generalize all men in one box,There are some men who have issues,with depression,low self esteem,stress,and etc.Some have bad attitudes for a variety of reasons,its no different then when women are miserable and have bad attiudes.
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niranjan, hi!\n\ni don't want to be rude, but it does sound like you're a little narrow-minded when it comes to sex...\n\ni want to make a few analogies before i come to what i'm trying to say... a generation earlier, they believed that non-veg food should be eaten only rarely and that it's bad for health... we know better today.  they also didn't believe that women should go to work, and that white people were Gods, that caste system was correct and that women are not equal to men.\n\ntoday we know things are different.  our ancestors believed that love was bad, and that only arranged marriages work...\n\nsimilarly, you need to understand that sex is a bodily function.  there is no more meaning to the idea that you should only have sex with one's life partner... what happens if your partner is not compatible with you?  what if you never enjoy sex again?  you only have one life... you won't have another chance.\n\nsex is a function like eating or drinking.  everyone masturbates when they can't find a partner.  when you do have a partner, enjoy it to the fullest.\n\nthere's nothing wrong with people having sex before marriage.  it's perfectly normal, and is not a "danger" that needs to be curbed...\n\ndo open your eyes to the new world around you.  culture is the person inside you... it's not the acting you do in front of society and family.  be for real.\n\nlive your life fully.  you only have one chance.  just make sure you don't hurt anyone else in the process...\n\nenjoy!
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youre right when you say it's a neverending question with never a concrete answer to be had... all youre going to get are a bunch of other peoples opinions. Personally my own opinion is that if you get married, it becomes your duty to figure out what kind of sexual routine is satisfactory for the both of you. It's completely not fair and cruel for people to withhold sex, but at the same time, it's not fair for people to demand sex. That's why you need to communicate before hand. what you would be satisfied with. Some couples are fine with it being once or twice a week, and some prefer more. It all depends on the couple. For your other question, why do women want it less? I think it's because they have less of a sex drive-less testosterone and lets admit it, less chance of orgasm through sex alone so it's less of a motivation for them to have sex everyday. For women sex is generally a way to express love but for men, sex is just an activity. Most women can sense when their man just wants to f*ck them and I'm sure they don't mind this most of the time but generally they prefer sex to be about love and affection and closeness. I guess that's hard for men to understand, and it's hard for women to understand that men just see it as an activity sometimes separate from love. That's why the sexes need to communicate and sympathize with each other.
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most men do seem to prefer sex to love, and dont hesitate to cheat (in my experience).  there are some good guys out there, who want to love, but they are VERY hard to find.
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Men are differnt.... Men want to bed anything they find 'attractive'.\n\nWomen want to bed anything they feel emotionally connect to.  \n\nWhen the men are smart enough to learn that one, they'd get a whole lot luckier than they are now LOL  Good luck and 'hard work' to get there enough for us to sleep with guys like you :P
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Men are clueless as to what they want, they themselves wishes that someone could tell them, and even if someone did, would they listen, NO, Why? Because they are self opiniated and listen to noone, Its an ego thing.\nWhen we find a good man, you just have to thank all the gods and angels in heaven and on earth.  In the meantime, keep the hope alive and when you come across a loser/liar show them the way to SanJose, better known as hell.
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This is a nurture vs nature issue. Some desires we are born with others we learn from society. Put them together and you have your own personal sexual desires.