why doesn't my boyfriend help me with our kids.?
596497
Sounds like he's a dick.
584161
Are you sure that it is over? maybe you should make sure just because he hasn't seen you for awhile doesn't mean that he doesn't want to be with you!\n\nWell if he has, it is his loss and your gain obviously he was a jerk anyway better to know now than later 3 kids down the track.\n\nI hope you are okay \nGood luck \nand don't feel stupid!\nyou will get passed this Ok!
376202
It seems you have an unstable relationship... If you consider yourself 'brave' enough to deal with this go on.. but... wait a minute... is unestability desirable when you planning to raise yerr children?  It seems (seems) there's a lack of communication...  I think you're yearning for an stability he doesn't seem to correspond and as a response to this yearning feeling you treat him well expecting the Fairy Godmother to prolong it until 1:00 if she did I think you'd beg her to prolong it until 2:00 and so forth.  It seems he needs 'windows' and this is the main reason that he vanishes... Why don't you find out what kind of 'airs' are making him going on the pursuit of a better window... once you define the kind of air you have to make a choise... you could repair the air conditioning but before you would need your own window to see it clearer from the outside...  I think an unstable environment makes you unstable and this excerts an influence on your children... they'll feel unstable too... as he feels unstable... so... target? find the centre of unestability then forward...
556942
HI,\nWhat a big mistake! You aren't married I guess, but your boyfriend is still responsible for child support, and other things. You aren't going to marry this bum, I am sure.\nForget about needing a babysitter, you need a lawyer. Get one, take his/her advice, and get rid of this loser.\nYou have just too, too much going on, and will just wind up in so much debt, it will be too much later to do anything about it.\nPlease rate my answer, and I do wish you the best.
1183566
Clean and clear. Cease all further contact with him and move on. If he still loves you he would be with you. To say it's because of the kids etc is a cop out. It seems like he doesn't know what to do and you don't need the confusion in your life. Learn from your mistakes and take your time with your next relationship. Good luck.
1138966
Girl you need to do whats right for you and your kids.If you feel like he's not taking you seriously then you have to figure out if its really a problem for you if so you need to let him know this is how you feel, and if he's still acting like he don't care then girl get up and do it.I know he's your husband but don't let nobody stop you from doing something you want to do.Sounds like he trying to keep you on lock..
459147
yes im with one but it shouldnt matter whether hes got kids or not as long as he loves you and loves kids and doesnt put his own needs before your kids. good luck
1118109
The best thing for you to do is just keep talking to him but with a little more force. He  needs to know you are serious and you will leave him and take the children if it gets to that point. Explain to him that you need to be appreciated fast because that point in time is drawing nearer by the day.
429996
He is a jerk and you did the right thing. Your kids should be your number one priority. I have 4 and they are the world to me. You are not the bad guy. The next thing he will do is try to get you to feel sorry for him to make you go back to him. Don't do it!
270169
It depends on where you are in your relationship.  I have 2 kids from when I was married and I was afraid that my now partner would leave me if there were too many issues surrounding my kids occur.  Introduce yourself slowly as a friend and TALK to your bf.  Cannot stress that enough....the more you talk to each other, the faster you will learn.
458542
I am so sorry!  I know this has to be painful and devastating.  Did you suggest marriage counseling to him?  If you have and he refuses, then he really doesn't want to work it out....which means he has someone else or wants to be "single" again.  If you haven't suggested it, please do.\n\nIf he feels this way and refuses to seek help, then you would be further ahead to divorce him.  It will be too traumatic to your kids and you to try to save a relationship where one of the parties doesn't want to save it.\n\nI hope you can find some true happiness for your children and yourself.
670095
Been there and done that .....   :( all i can say is do not let him manipulate u and i do not know the childrens ages but can tell you that kids change their minds quite often and things will surely work out  ......  good luck
540297
girl i have the same problem just talk to him in my case it dosen't work.  We have four kids and he still wants it all the time we have been together 8 years.  Don't  take it wrong i would like to do it every other day but not EVERYDAY  just try talking to him \n\nGOOD LUCK
568955
Your kids must be spoiled rotten or you are spending some money. Is it you that wants the money? He has his bills and his girl (if he has one) and all his wants and needs. If you have a job, your kids are fine.
871512
My husbands family tends to ignore my childrens birthdays also, but always buy things for their other grandchildren. I haven't figured out why, but now that my children are getting older they are noticing and I'm sure my 16 year old will someday confront his grandparents as to why. In the meantime I try and compensate for their lack of affection by letting my children know that I love them. My husband won't say anything either because he feels as if he is in the middle. The most important thing is that you are there for the children no matter what his family does. I figure someday they will look around and be alone due to the fact that they have treated everyone so poorly for so long.
396488
Your situation sounds like mine!  The father of my kids basically turned his back on us.  He ran off to live his life and complete his education while leaving us behind.  Next thing I know, he admits to having a child by someone else (after the kid was almost two years old).  I could go on and on about the situation, but I won't.  Now he wants me back because he can't find a decent female that will accept a guy with three kids AND bad finances!!!  Ha, ha, ha!!  It's so funny!  Before, the man was telling me all of the reasons that I wasn't good enough for him!  During a recent conversation, he even admitted that, at one time, he thought that he was better than me!!!  Now, he's always whining about how he thinks that we should raise our kids together, which, I admit would be a good thing.  But, I know that he wants that for the wrong reason, only for his convenience.  I could go on and on, but this is about you, not me!!  Sorry!!!  What I'm TRYING to say is that if we weren't good enough for them before, we're not good enough for them now (or in other words, we're too good for them now)!!!  I don't know exactly what your children's father did, but if he chose to run off and leave y'all to live his life as he pleased, then I don't think it will be worth your time to fool with him.  Invest your time into becoming as successful as you want to be and into finding a man that will love and respect you and your child or children!
32882
I would say try to make it work if you can, it sounds that he is good for your kid.\nDId you loved eachother at apoint?\nIf there is no other way just talk to him