My mother is overprotective... i think.?
610667
Don't just invite him once. Invite him a lot. Have him come over and play cards, watch a video, anything. You will get to spend time with him. Your parents will get to see that he is a good person. And eventually you will be able to go out on dates and your parents will trust him. Answering questions would probably be really hard for the boy. He would be nervous. Plus, actions speak louder than words. When they see he is a good guy they will be more at ease.\nThey love you..............and that is a great thing. They just want you to be respected and don't ever want you to get hurt.
731113
Well it doesn't sound like she's the "listening" type. So even if you tell her that she's hurting you it may not make a difference but its worth a try. Do you have any nearby relatives? maybe you should take some time to breathe also. Remember you are only sixteen and may not be mature enough to make a life changing decision so be careful because it may upset her. Also remember that you only get one mother and should respect and cherish the one you do have even when they're intolerable. Don't keep this bottled up inside express your feelings freely but respectably and may God bless you in doing so. Good Luck!
660293
well if ur a girl, DEFINITALY MOM..dads r too overprotective..my dad wants to basically MURDER every guy i like...lol my mom is more understanding, so it helps. unfortunately, my dads the king of the house, and even if my mom lets me dye my hair, go out with people, and go to places, i cant do it if it doesnt get "accepted" by my dad. thats why im happy when he goes on buisness trips..is that too mean? anyway, go moms!
943733
Maybe you could talk to her about it and tell your friends they can't come over so much?  Hopefully your mom will be sensitive to your feelings and put her children's needs first, which is how it should be. It's perfectly natural for you to feel how you're feeling. Parents are supposed to set healthy boundaries between their children's friends and themselves.  Good luck to you, sweetheart.
1099922
yeah sure it looks that way. just don't jump the gun and get mad at your mom. this could all be unavoidable. just tell her you really want to come up and for her to not make any plans to prevent your visit. If she still continues to have excuses...i dunno, try talking to your dad about it. maybe he'll talk to your mom about the way it's affecting you.
640459
No, your mom just loves you. You have lived under her roof for what, 30 years, so it is just common behavior for her. She will continue to do this even if you move out on your own, but as time passes it will not be as frequent.\nAs long as you live with her, she will see you as her "baby" still and the motherly need to be protective is always there regardless..
1055119
i think ur mother is not fit to be called a mother!the difficult part of ur childhood u have managed on ur own and u don't need her help anymore. u are big enough to take care of ur self. u put down ur feet and protest and ask for fair treatment.if that doesn't help then u can go to the police.becoz u are too young to walk out of the house and more than that there are lot of people to exploit u at this age.so be careful sweetheart.things will become alright.god bless you.
1038848
well i guess your mum is trying to protect you and what she thinks is the best, however being a mum myself every child needs to find out things for themselves weather that be for the good or bad, you need to tell your mum how you feel tell her your old enough to make up your mind she cant choose who you go out with but she can give your her opinion its up to you to take it you need to tell her you have made this decision and that she needs to stop controlling who you go out with you will go through your life making alot of mistakes but that is normal as a mother i will never tell my children who they will date etc i will give them my opinion yes but if the worst comes out of it parents need to tell there children they will be there for them and i think your mum needs to do the same. good luck???
816988
My mum use to do this.\nIf my boyfriend called she's pick up another phone and listen in.  If she answered she'd tell him i was too busy to talk or not home.  If I rang him she'd keep coming up to me telling me to hurry up.  \nI don't think it's that she didn't like him but that she needed to feel she was in control of me.  (She's always been a bit like that) When we talk about it now (I've long since moved out and got married) She can justify her actions.  She still doesn't see that it was rude or inappropriate.\nI probably think living out of home is best for you at the moment.  It'll show her that you can make good choices and even if you don't it'll show her that you could pick up the pieces and were old enough to not be so dependant on her.
689735
I'm not sure. It could be anything. But one thing's obvious, she loves you. I doubt she would be protective if she didn't :).\n\nI know it can be a real bummer. I had a dad that was way too protective for my liking. He didn't want me to go out, visit with friends or have anyone over. It was real frustrating. Though I still don't agree with his 'protecting' methods, I do understand that he loved me and felt that that was the best way he could keep me safe from whatever the hell he wanted to keep me safe from lol ('cause, trust me...I still don't know up to this day!). \n\nOh well, I'm sure I've taken up a ton of space by now haha. Take care and I hope, for your sake, your mom loosens up a bit! :D
425968
because shes your mom, hello.. she cares about you and this is your whole life your talking about here. she raised you up and gave you everything of course she would be strict letting u go to a man right. understand a lil bit, look at it in her point of view ok.. goodluck to you!
111838
Do the mature and right thing here...\n\nSit down with your mother ALONE and tell her that this is bothering you. Be specific what actions of his are bothering you and tell them why you don't like them.\n\nYour mother's primary responsibility is to you, not him. That does not put you in the driver's seat, but you MUST give her all of the information so that she knows what she should do for you.\n\nPerhaps he is just uncomfortable around kids, maybe he never had any - maybe he's trying to hard to make you like him. There are lots of ways that someone can act like a jerk and not really realize it.\n\nYou really didn't define what being a jerk was in this case. If it involves any violence toward you or your mother, let her know about it immediately. If you think that he is too controlling, point that out to her, it is sometimes difficult to see this when you are in the middle of a situation.\n\nIf you just act like a brat, you will get treated like a brat. You may get your way on this one, but in future she will still think you are a brat. Take the high road.\n\nGood luck!
632018
Ok here is what you do.  I am a school bus driver and if the bus company has cameras on the bus they can pull the tape to see if any of the things you say are going on. Also, tell your dean or counselor at school they can help you. My daughter has the same problem and I nip it in the bud real quick.  Your mom is not over dramatic she is just trying to protect you.  Please do the right thing. Fighting him back may feel good at first but if he does not get caught and you do, all you will feel is more angrier. See if your school has a cease and dissist order to sign. That also works very well.
712432
It's very clear that you feel your not doing anything wrong because your mom does this same thing to your grandmother all the time. Don't allow yourself to repeat these behaviors no matter what. It's not a good thing to talk back or yell at your mom no matter what. If she's acting crazy and yelling at you then remove yourself from the situation. Yelling and fighting does not solve the problem and doesn't make it easier for someone to listen to you. All that this does is create tension and a lot of confusion. Your mom has no respect for your grandmother if she's yelling at her all the time. Do you really want to be that way with your mom as well??? Don't look at the fact that your mother is doing it so you should do it as well. You need to be the one that stops this right here and right now because if you don't it's just going to be passed down to one of your children as well.
684590
You need to sit down with your mother and be VERY clear that you are your child's parent, and although you appreciate that she loves and cares about your children, they are ultimately YOUR responsibility.  If this behavior continues, your children are going to become very disrespectful of you, and you will have NO authority over them because they will know that Grandma will bail them out.  It's a very bad situation.  Best of luck!!!
1029913
I feel ya. While on one hand, that's a good thing, it is hard when you have overprotective parents. Try talking to them. Don't whine, complain, or beg; just ask them what they need from you so that they can feel you are safe and you can have a chance to exercise your ability to make good choices on your own. They might surprise you with their willingness to listen to a mature discussion, and that alone may impress them with your maturity. Offer to call from wherever you are, or to carry a cell phone, and remember to make those calls. Parents need contact like fish need water. :)  Other than that, just be sure to make mature choices in your daily activities, choices that show your trustworthiness and responsibility (do your work at home and at school, keep up your personal appearance, enthusiastically seek ways to improve your education and future). \n\nRegards,\n~Tia~
412093
You seriously need to make some serious changes. You have to create boundaries. It sounds like the requests you have made are falling on deaf hears. It seems to me you are trying to make everyone happy except yourself. Tell them if you are going to live in my house these are the rules if they don't like them they can leave. When your mom came back you could of asked her why are you here? When she said why do i have to tell them to pay the electric bill, it was because she is the one who invited them to stay. The things you are going to have to do will be uncomfortable. Your family will not like the new assertive you. Your mom is dependent on you and you are her co dependent. When she threatened you by saying she was going to leave and you said fine go ahead she was testing you. She did leave but she came back and you let her stay. So now what you say and what she says and your actions don't match. It's like when a parent tells his child no but then lets them have what they want. You have to back up what you say with actions and stick to them. You have fallen into the role of parent. You are not the parent you are the child but now your mom is acting like the child and now you are her parent. I think she should help you more. Do you want your brothers there? You did nothing wrong what i think you possibly feel is guilt because it is your mother and you feel obligated but your not obligated. No one should be taken advantage of.