how can i tell my bf that he doesnt need to be Jealous with wat i am always doing?
605296
This is one of those things that is easier said than done, but if you value your future, and your relationships with other friends & family, you should leave him. You don't deserve to be treated like that. And he is not going to stop being jealous or overly possessive of you. If you want a good example, just talk to your local Women's Battered Shelter, and you will see all the reasons you could possibly need to realize he will not ever be any good for you. Whether its mental, emotionally, sexually, or physically abusive behavior... it usually doesn't get better. Stop it now. There are so many wonderful and sincerely loving people out there who will help bring out the best in you, than to waste your life with a control freak and cause you more problems in life.
456985
don't aggravate her by asking what's wrong a thousand times trust me on this my bf was going through the same thing with me, just hug her and tell her you love her often not just when you are about to leave her or get off the phone, tell her often and during your everyday conversation let her know out the blue that if theres ever anything she wants to talk about , you're there no matter what time it is or how petty or small she may think it is, you're always listening, there maybe times where she don't want you to say ANYTHING but just for you to be there to listen so let her know you're there tell her everyday so when the time come and she want to talk she already know that you're willing to listen
743044
I don't think that sounds like cheating at all; however, I can totally see why you would feel jealous because I'd feel that way if I had a gf like that! I think that they just happen to have very similar schedules, so they tend to be around each other a lot. Unless he constantly talks about how amazing she is all the time, or goes completely out of his way to make plans with her instead of being around you, then I'd start to worry and ask him what's going on. Until then, I don't think you need to feel threatened.
1118733
jealousy is a sign of insecurity.....work on yourself first............
150224
I don't think you want to make a boy jealous into wanting you.  Your idea about making him jealous may sound good to you now, but I don't think this is  healthy nor is it an honest way to get someone to be with you.  Why don't you just do it the old fashioned way, and let him know how you feel without forcing him into action.  You may live to regret it if handled the wrong way.
1048166
ur friend might be absolutely right.they all might be really jealous of u.so don't worry abt people esp those who don't even know u.\ninfact don't worry abt anyone.as long as u r right and as long as u know that u've done nothing wrong don't worry at all.just be urself and talk to those who talk to u properly.be nice to everyone and never put ur head down.if the peoblem persists then just go to ur bf and ask him on his face the reason why he's doing all this.and if he doesn't give any reason then just tell him what u think of him for doing such things and tell him that he's been doing cheap things and all these things don't bother u at all.\n\nmake him feel like a fool.tell him that by doing this he is ruining his own dignity and not urs and tell this to everyone.\nso when u say something like this they'll definitely know that u r quite strong and they'll stop doing such things slowly.\n\nand if u don't want to do all this stuff,then just keep saying this word to urself when anyone says anything to u or whenever u remember anything they say"AKUNAMATATA"=no worries.\nmake it a habit.\n\nTRUST ME IT WORKS.\n\nhope i was of some help to u .all the best.i'm there for u always.\ngood luck.\ncontact me if u have further trouble.
1008195
He's not jealous....he's insecure about his own worth, particularly as a man in our society. And, yes it's quite normal for men to feel this way, because it's only been a few years since it's even been possible, but it's not at all acceptable. Men still have the sense that they should be the bread winners in order to be 'real men'. It's taught to them their entire lives by their fathers and grandfathers, the media, and society. Your guy needs lots of reassurance about how wonderful his own efforts are, but if he's more than just a little bit annoying about it, ie: if he's obsessed with it, the two of you need to work it out either together, or with a counselor, until you resolve the problem, and before it causes serious damage to your relationship. He needs to understand that it's making you truly unhappy to constantly have it 'thrown' at you. Good luck.
243831
Your best bet it to dump him before he hurts you because of his jealously. No one should control you like that. Also he could have a guilty conplex for something he is doing behind your back.
1001896
Remind him of all the times you indulged his little fantasies. Let him know that it's only because you get a kick from it and that it's your little secret. It's not like you're asking him to parade around town in them are you?
1060702
yeah like he said you should ask him first before making assumptions ....you need to apologize and hope next time keep your jealousy under control...otherwise you will drive him away wihtout the help of other women!!
601073
maybe he wants you to be just jealous or be mad. but u should take this problem seriously maybe he is not the right guy for u or maybe he like someone else. just go and tell the problem to him.everythings going to be allright. good luck
449652
I am the same way that you are, the guy I am with is the one for me as well, and we also have a baby on the way. But my jealousy and Insecurity did kind of hurt us, because things are not the same right now, and we are both trying to get back to the way we were, because we both really love each other, and do not want to lose one another, plus we want to because of the baby. I had to learn the hard way to not be that way, because he would never do anything to hurt me. So the best advice I can give you, is just dont let your jealousy get in the way, I mean it isnt going to go away, just dont let it get the best of you, because he will either change (not for the good), or he will end up leaving you. I had a bad past too, and this guy I am with is PERFECT for me, so just try your hardest to let go of your past, and tell yourself that this is your present, and can also be your future if you just let all the bad stuff go. Trust me, I do not wanna be the jealous type anymore either, but it is just something that is hard to get rid of. If he has been able to handle it this long, then he is a great guy, my boyfriend put up with it for a LONG time, but theres only so much one guy can take, so please stop while you are ahead. I hope this helps some.
265251
I think you need to express to him, the importance of her not being in his life as a friend or any other aspect.  The two of you need your own life, without her input.  She's only going to be biased against you because of her situation previously.  You shouldn't talk about being jealous or anything like that, just appeal to him on a more inter personal, relationship aspect level and try to get him to understand and see how that relationship betweem him and her adds absolutely NO value to him or his life now!
268393
just play along with his little bi(t)chmade games...you're probably cute to him when you get jealous...that must get his rocks off.If he's not cheating then so what...take the other peeps advice,see what happens.Play a game similar to his,see how he likes it.Or pretend that you don't care,he'll probably try something else to annoy you...if that's the case then confront him and/or find a real "G" who doesn't play games....................
652872
I have been in this situation before and the best way is to make him jealous.\n\nBe the girl you always wanted to be; go to the gym and get fit and tone, splurge on a new wardrobe that'll turn heads. Open up more, become the office flirt that's fun to be around. When you're turning everyone's head including your ex-BF's and he wants you but can't have you, damn that's a good feeling.
335384
Sometimes I get that way with my boyfriend too but what helps me is that every time I am with him he will out of no where tell me that he is so happy to be with me and that he wouldn't know what do to with out me. You should start doing that, she might still get jealous (cause that's what women do) but she will trust you more
432370
stir things up a bit, start joking and looking at other guys in his presence,see how he likes it,it doesn't feel so great when the shoe is on the other foot,he will either become jealous and speak to you about it,or just ingnore the fact that you are now looking too,if he becomes jealous and confronts you about it,tell him you are only doing it so he can see how much his doing it hurts you,if he is still a jerk and doesn't get it,dump him,if he completly ignores the fact you are looking at other men he is either to the point he doesn't care about you anymore or he is totally secure in the realationship that you have together,it sounds to me like he is a jerk anyway,if you have already mentioned that it bothers you then he should have stopped out of consideration for you,and saved that type of behavior when he is around his guy friends,it is only natural for him to look at other women but it isn't right for him to be doing it in front of you,you are supposed to be his world and have the attention when he is with you\n if you aren't ready to part with him just yet maybe you can turn it into a game,start rating the women he looks at on a scale from 1-10,if he sees a pretty woman and makes a coment,say to him i give her a 10 or a 3 or whatever you like,if you show it doesn't bother you he actually may like you more,he is probably liking the negative attention he is getting from you,scolding him for looking is making him feel important and wanted he knows it makes you jealous,if you turn things around to a positive thing he may either stop doing it as he knows it doesn't bother you anymore or it will bring you closer...good luck