Me and my boyfriend argue a lot ,how can I stop it???
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argue or passionately discuss? you can never learn anything new from someone who thinks the same way you do. opponent's do attract for a reason. how do you stop this? how do you stop the world from spinning? you cant. but you can keep an open mind. then if you feel strongly about a subject and he's of another view its OK. just because it comes out the mouth, doesn't make it Gospel. don't just expect others to have the same opinion, and don't try to push that opinion on others. that's what starts real arguments.But if the " talks" are becoming heated and frighten you, then get the heck out of there. no amount of change on your part will help. " equalizing the distance between to objects, brings them closer together" Albert E.
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No! because if you do it, he will always be bringing it up. It happens to me, We fight every hour of everyday. He also cheats on me and uses it as an excuse. It will never stop, just forget about and dont get pregnant like i did. Leave him, and let him be happy with someone better.
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Settling is wrong, and if thats what this feels like MOST OF THE TIME, then think about whether or not someone else could make you as happy as your boyfriened does when he isn't ticking you off. Sometimes someone annoys you or makes you sad sometimes, but you still love them more than anyone else in the world, and you're still happy with them most of the time. \n\nThen, realize that some males think that arguing/debating is a way to keep things fiery. I've had to explain to my husband that I hate fighting of any kind because I grew up in a very explosive household, and that sometimes the smallest disagreement will make me incredibly nervous and sad. He responds that if I have a different opinion, he wants me to express it. Neither of us are wrong, there just has to be a compromise.\n\nI suggest you tell him that if he wants to debate with you, fine - but it MUST NOT become personal - at all. Also, tell him that if he doesn't respect your opinion or think its "good enough" then he shouldn't bother arguing with you about that particular subject. You two can debate - but not argue. He needs to understand the difference, and understand why it matters to you. Tell him you want most of all to get along with him and make him happy and be happy, and that constantly expressing your different opinions makes that very difficult to achieve.\n\nGive him time. Lots of it. \n\nI hope I helped.
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when you start to argue each of you walk away, dont say another word to provoke more of an argument. \n\nLots of things trigger this, money, living conditions, job stress. raising a new baby ( you are both new parents)
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couples have arguments all the time.  Especially after a year of seeing each other.  Don't worry and call him.  Let him know you still care for him and want to work out whatever it is that you disagreed on in the first place.  That is, if that is what you want.  If not move on and find another guy.
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There is a lot of energy that goes toward a conflict with any person. \n\nStep out of the conflict, busy yourself with other constructive things and out of respect, give your BF some time and space. If you have been dating for five months, you can step back a little. \n\nTry not to figure it out… things will work out as they should. I know this kind of thing is hard and stressful and especially when you have invested emotion with someone. But you sound like a smart woman and if you play this right, he will be back.\n\nIn all relationships there is a process where one person is either moving forward and the other one is moving back. This is a natural dance… so don’t force it.  Guys really don’t like pressure.\n\nHang in there!
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Tell him your sick of his annoying antics and he needs to get a life.  Tell your bf that you dont want him hanging around you anymore and if he loves you he should respect that. =)
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OH MY GOD !!\nDeja Vu, You remind me of me and my ex girlfriend. \nWe were together for 3 plus years. We used to fight so regularly that in the beginning our friends used to be shocked by the anger and in the intensity. But we used to end up kissing and making up. But as we moved on, our fights became a forthnightly event, and our friends just ignored it like it was a 'normal thing'\nBut I used to do all the things, you mentioned in your Q. Go in front of her house, we used to give each other missed calls and sometimes prank calls, we used to have our friends call eachother and find out how the other person was doing, and so on a so forth.\nBut fights in a relationship are NEVER healthy and mind you, it will get old and you will sometimes cross that line of sensitivity, therefore inadvertantly hurting the other persons more than you thought you would.\nHe (like my gf) might be of the false impression that fights are 'normal and important' to keep the love in a relationship.\nTry and convince him that this is not normal, NEVER.\nYou should set some ground rules and learn not to overstep eachother.\nI understood we fought as often as we did, because we lacked trust and respect for the other.\nTake one day at a time. You will never go wrong.
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Ok well some of these answers are just plain stupid. Geez arguments happen in every relationship people if you break up everytime you encounter an argurment or disagreement you will be looking for that right guy forever.\n\nFirst off, both of you need to just lighten up. I don't know what you are fighting about but many times arguments happen because of stupid disagreements (this is most often the case in younger relationships). Listen to what he has to say, have him listen to what you have to say. Try and find a compromise. The best couples are the ones that are willing to compromise (give a little to get a little). It doesn't always have to be one person's way or another.\n\nSecondly, he is 16, he is going to be immature. Some girls are too at that age. Hell I know girls that are in their early teens that are immature and some guys too. Just remember he may be 16 but he is still a youth. Give it some time and try and help him along rather than confront him on it.\n\nFinally if none of this works, weigh the pros and cons of the relationship. Can you see yourself with this guy in 5 years, 3 years, hell 1 year from now and more importantly do you want to.\n\nBEst of luck with everything.
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pick and choose your battles. life is too short to bicker over ridiculous sh*t. when he is being an a** kill him with kindness or act like you can't be bothered with his silly commentary. problem is you all are around each other 24/7 and you'll drive each other nuts no matter how compatible. if you can be be apart for several hours out of the day or go stay at your mom's over nite it'll make you all miss each other and realize the good things about each other. but seriously you need to get some wheels and get your independence back! that'll make a huge difference!good luck!
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I have never heard of any couple who doesn't argue. This is especially true when there are increased stresses in their lives. Having just been pregnant in the summer and in a long term relationship I know exactly what goes on. But then the arguments go away within ten minutes so you can't take minor issues to heart. Eventually the grass will get cut, the dishes will be done, as with the laundry. Just hang in there.
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the odds are against you.\n\nbut if you can each find respect for your partner's opinion, and realize that this is one of those questions that no one knows the answer with 100% certainty until they die, then maybe you can just agree to disagree.\n\nrespectful communication is the key.
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It takes two to argue right\n\nSo if one of you cut off the energy of arguing the other person will give up \nAll you have to say is :"I am here to talk but not to argue" and walk away \nIf that is impossible take the option of writing what you have to say on a paper, let the other person read it, and reply until what ever the problem is is solved \nUsually what ever you both are arguing about has nothing to do with the problem at all \nSome small problem you both can not discuss turns into little bits and pieces to argue about lol \nI hope that helps you as it has been good advice that I have gave that has helped many : )\n\nLove & Blessings \nMilly
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agree to disagree!!!!\n\nnot all couples agree on everything...hell ..most dont agree on alot...its how you handle that...so you compromise and if you cant come to a reasonable answer...\n\n.....or you can both toss a coin for the solution...and must agree beforehand that whatever it falls on is the answer with no further discussion....\n\n...and if that doesnt work.....then you simply  agree to disagree!
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i don't fight with my husband, i argue! lol. And he doesn't. grrrr. He's too agreeable. it's frustrating. When i argue with him, he waits till i cool down and sits me down to talk to me about my feelings. I have never gone to bed angry since we moved in together, (almost 3 years). So i think that you should not argue and wait till you're calm, then talk like you would if you were proposing an idea to your boss. (have points ready that you want to discuss, and stick to those) but just talk about your feelings, and what the other person could do to help the situation. (and maybe what you could do too!)
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He thinks he can avoid the fighting if he lies to you. What you need to do is let him know that it acctually makes it worse when he lies and you find out later. Tell him that if he tells the truth right off the bat, then you will try not to get so upset with him. If you give him alittle bit more patience and calm, he'll be more willing to tell the truth. He's just afraid of arguing.
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fight like fist fight? NO! Is it normal to disagree with one another, YES. Afterall you are two different people with different ways of thinking and then all of a sudden you are married to that person and living your daily life together. You better bet there will be arguments. If you never disagree you or your partner is a people pleaser type personality or you just figure its better not to ruffle any feathers and try to bury all your feelings, which in the end will blow up in your faces. If you are having a disagreement over a certain thing all the time, maybe it's better to seek counseling over the issue before there is too much resentment and the problem gets bigger. It's normal to laugh with your spouse as much as it is normal to have disagreements, it's life. How you handle them will definately determine whether or not you are married for long though. Best wishes!