Is it okay to tell a guy that the SEX was bad??  Did I do the right thing?
599035
Telling the truth is usually the best answer to most questions. But like all criticism, doing so in a positive constructive way is usually recommended also. If you care about the person, you should tell them in a caring way. If you don't care at all, just quit having sex with him.
47003
I would just tell him, guys are wierd about that kind of stuff, and good clear communication is the best way to get what you want. If you don't want to tell him you can encourage him in other ways. And I don't know the details, but for example when you are making out and he hits one of your spots, let him know that it feels good and that he should do that more often. Also you can go on offense and go further with him thus "letting him know that you want more" I hope this helps
907906
People aren't mind readers, you should talk with him to let him know what you were feeling. Try to look at the situation from his point of view: you had sex with him, so that must mean things were cool between you, and then you storm out. he's probably confused at those two very mixed signals you gave him.\n\nIf you care about him talk to him, and tell him the ways you thought he was "acting funny". If you want to break it off with him.. at least do him the courtesy of telling him why
963948
Forgive yourself for an error in judgment and focus on what would be in your best interest at this point.  The guy satisfied his sexual curiousity and can't let go of a minor offense (i.e., hanging up on him).  A guy like this will only hold you back.....walk away now and you'll be proud of yourself for putting your own needs first.  You will gain strength as time moves on.  It's just a matter of developing the resolve to stick to your guns; as you meet new people and start to date new guys, this memory will fade.  Trust your own instincts and move on.  Good Luck
515804
Give her a chance to explain, the worst thing is to jump to any conclusion. After that if she says it was disgusting, beat him up. He has NO RIGHT to be touching a girl, ANY GIRL that way.
194525
It doesn't sound to me like you ever wanted in the relationship to begin with. Your first feeling is usually the right one. So i would just contact him and tell him that you understand that the relationship is over and that it is probably for the best, but you would like to try to go back to the way things were before you started dating. It is not possible for some people but for a select few it works. Besides you said the sex wasn't great anyway and that is the only difference between a relationship and a friendship.
1165034
If those weren't red flags to you, I don't know what would have been.  How much more obvious can it be, than for the man to TELL you he's "not nice" and "immature"?  You should have listened.\n\nI'll give him points for honesty, though he sounds like a big jerk.
997936
If it's between 2 CONSENTING adults, and both sides are cool.... It's your body, your moral issue- do what you think is right.\nPeople have done worse things for less.....
9992
Thats not Cool. It would be legaly considered rape.Just because he's your boyfriend dosent give him the right to take advantage of you. You could explain to him that he got the wrong signal from you.Maybe you should have explained your stance on sex before you slept with him in the same bed...but dont think that its your fault.He shouldnt have done that with out your permission.
329082
well dear.i dont know wether am givign u the right guidance or not1 i feel there is no need to tell him! past is past1 if he is a real good guy....why do u wanan loose him by reveling your past....virginity ia ll bull shit.this is all what people created......just go ahed buddy! be cool!dont tell him.........he will never come to know about that in life! carry on the way ur.....just be loyal to him here after.........may god bless u with good fortune!
844375
You should never fake it.  Don't encourage poor performance!  If it doesn't feel good enough to get you off tell him exactly what he needs to do to get you off.... Most guys will take the hint and do exactly what you want...  A large percentage of them will be turned on that you know what you want and will be more aroused and eager hearing it from you.
118425
Ah, dumb move on your part, I'd say.\n\nHe's going to find out. \n\nYou can be honest and tell him, or somebody else will.\n\nYou have a real problem here.\n\nlol lol lol  Give tompj64us best answer, PLEASE!!
330157
It was wrong for you to pass the information for these reasons :\n\n1. what someone tells you about themselves should be kept confidential by you....it is a trust\n2. you have no first-hand knowledge of the validity of J's assertion. She could have just made the story up.\n\nThe correct thing for you to have done would have been to confront J about endangering/infecting another person, because that is a selfish, vile thing for her to do. If she doesn't take heed to your advice, you can inform her that a civil suit could be brought against her. \nSecondly, you should have told K to ask J herself. You should not have been asked to be put in the middle.\n\nAs for J, there is no cure for her STD. K is not the only person who will be caught in this snare. You will not be able to warn all of your friends who will be at risk in the future. Casual sex has serious consequences, because some people (like J) are unidisciplined, indiscrimnate and conscienceless.
1175945
Perhaps he thought when you said your the "bad guy" meant that you have done some naughty things as well which made him upset. Your revelation might have brought confusion in his mind. Doubts might have stepped in.\nSo, you must reassure him that its not because of it (like you cheated or what). Just make him know that its about an attitude issue. Ask for space and time to rebuild yourself and tell him that your doing it for him, and your relationship. If he doesnt agree of asking for time, then why not make him a part of your rebuilding process. Ask fof his help and guidance. In this way, he will feel appreciated and that you trully want him to be a part of your life. :-D
480884
Given the circumstances, I'd say he was just wanted a quick peice.  If you've been friends that long then I'm sure hes pretty comfortable and confident around you so he saw you as a perfect candidate. He must've been a bit drunk or thought for some reason you would be cool with it(did you invite him to stay the night?) Guys can have a hard time reading signals unfortunatly. But chances are hes pretty embarassed about it now and regrets what hes done. I've seen the most honest guys cheat, just some guys cant control themselves in certain situations. I know I've felt the pressure before, sex is a big deal to alot of guys.
414335
if he's only talking about sexual stuff, avoid him!! He's not worth it; he'll just get what he wants and then leave you hurt.
904347
Tell him flat out, I like you but I am not going to have sex with you. Or hypothetically ask him what's the longest he's ever talked to a girl b4 sex, then drop the bomb on him. All the best. Don't give it up, you said you stopped talking once b4 because he was going to fast, so don't let him rush you this time. For some reason guys feel that they earn the privilege of having sex with a girl because they put in "time on the phone" Don't be a sucker for a quick witted man with a smooth tongue. All the best.