My boyfriend has asked me to sleep with his boss......please help me...?
596186
DONT DO IT, YOUR BOYFRIEND DONT REALLY LOVE YOU IS HE A PERVERT YOU NEED TO FIND SOMEONE THAT LOVES YOU FOR REAL AND RESPECT YOU; TELL YOUR BOYFREIND I SAID TO F**K HIM SELF AND TO RESPECT YOU YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN A STUPID RISE AT WORK... THAT IS WHAT I THINK
515171
I say you are cheating your employer either way. If you have a job, do it to the best of your ability. If you need to adjust your off time so that you can be mentally and physically more alert at work, do so. Don't sleep on the job. That is robbery. Don't say you are sick and go home. That is lying. Perhaps be honest and say that you had a long night and don't feel you can do justice to the job right now, and see what your boss says. If you get a lecture, so be it. \n\nMaybe you need a different job.
871114
In todays world you don't have to do anything because some men are so into their self that they think any woman would drop anything to do what they want.  You don't need to change anything about yourself, your stricken with that spiteful disease of being in shape and taking care of yourself and probably very attractive.  And sad to say your stuck with some cromagnums around you that put you in a very weird situation.  Even though he is your boss I would still keep your pride and let him know that somethings he does are uncomfortable to you not just because your married but in general.  If he is a real man he will accept that and move on.  Maybe you should have your husband stop in occasionally to pick you up for lunch or something to reiterate to this pin head that your happily married and he doesn't stand a chance lol
731428
Having sex with your husband's female boss could be very lucrative in a sexual harassment lawsuit.  Talk to a lawyer first and then take it from there.  You could stand to make a great deal of money.
385010
Stick with what you believe and let everyone who is not paying or participating in your life have their own opinion but remain who you are.  Your convictions of what you believe are more important than popular opinion.  If there is no problem between you and your bf why would you let everyone else create one.  The two of you should decide who is responsible for what.  If you two are friends I understand why he wants to take care of you.  It is a man thing that is hard to explain, but when you need help, like for your car, ask your bf if he would loan you the money to fix it. Then pay him back.  Your boss would probably want interest and the end result is a loan and how much you want to pay.  Shop and be smart but at the same time do not seem ungrateful for your bf is showing what some of us guys call love.  It comes in all shapes and sizes and is very valuable.  Throwing something away that is valuable you run the risk of losing it and it not returning.  If you love him show him by not being so independent, maybe try spending some of your money on him for the things he wants as that is what he is giving up for you.  See what it brings.  You might be pleasantly suprised.
93700
Take them out to dinner or lunch on your new "bosses salary" and be honest and straigt forward.\n""Luke", I have come to value your friendship and man, have we had some good times together! I would like for that to continue and wanted to get your feelings on my promotion. (Actively listen to that person.) Let them know that of course their will be some chamges with how you two must interact on the job but you will treat them with the utmost respect and hopefully (as the boss) you will earn theirs in return. As their friend you know how valuable they are to the company because you've seen how hard they work, now as the boss, you can make sure that as their hard work continues, you will make sure they get the recognition they deserve.
852415
Touching your back/shoulders and stroking your neck? Making perverse comments? Sweetie, this is called sexual harrassment. As for why they act this way, basically, they're idiots. Don't write them off as just "goofy." There is no excuse for their behavior. One guy went on a date with you and then told everyone? Is he still in high school? They think it's fun to embarrass you. They way immature men like this think, it wouldn't surprise me if they have some sort of bet going as to who can get you to give up your choice to wait until marriage first. The first thing you need to do is not date any of them. That's just a good policy wherever you may work in your life. If it ends badly, you still have to see that person every day and it can cause a lot of problems. Second, when they say inappropriate things to you or touch you or make you feel uncomfortable in any way, you need to tell them they're behaving inappropriately and ask them to please stop. If they don't, or they just think that's part of the game, you need to go to your supervisor and ask him/her to intervene. Just know that if the boss does intervene, this may make for a hostile work environment because then you'll be the girl who "can't take a joke." Sad, but it happens. Conversely, the boss may think you're overreacting and not do anything. At this point, you'll have to make a decision: file a complaint with the EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) and let them handle it, again possibly making for a hostile work environment; quit and find another job with mature, professional coworkers; do both. Unfortunately, there is no easy solution to this. If it were just one or two guys behaving this way, it might be easier because they'd be the minority. But if all the guys you work with do it, they'll be more apt to stick together and form a united front against you, saying that you're exaggerating or even making stuff up to get them into trouble. If there are any other women who work there, talk to them and see if they're having similar experiences. If so, it will corroborate your claims and give you more credence. I'm sorry to sound so cynical and/or pessimistic, but this is an all too common situation for many women in the workplace. We've all read and heard about things like this. There's even a movie based on a true story about the first lawsuit against a company for condoning sexual harassment called "North Country" with Charlize Theron. It's a disturbing, sad movie, but it shows what some women have had to go through just to earn a living. Finally, don't let yourself be intimidated. Stick to your values, know that you don't deserve to be treated this way and you don't have to put up with it. No one has the right to put their hands on you without your permission. Be strong and stick up for yourself, and someday, if you have children, you can pass that strength on to your daughter or teach your son to have the proper respect for women. I wish you the best of luck.
413929
Tell her to stop hanging around him or just to simply state that she's not interested and that he needs to keep his grubby paws to himself. If she's actually told him to stop before and he won't listen, then that can fall under "sexual battery". If it's in the workplace, even better. The sparks will really fly at the first mention of sexual harrassment cause no employer wants to get sued.
93604
god, dont complain, you are desperate, he is desparate, have some sex,it wont kill you off....then when you are both done and lie back, ask him if he would like to keep doing it for life, while you look after your children....\n\nthat is a good offer......\n\nor you could ask, no sex now, half now half later, can you be a father to my kids, do the dishes and change their nappies, and spend your money for them while i work hard to please my boss at work who like my shaven legs.....\n\ncheers, \n\nthe choice is yours....
869616
There are some lines i don't cross.  \nDating anyone at work is a no no.\n\nSure at work things fly around in the work place...  \nBut you are responding to them, in other words accepting the game and playing with him in this flirting..\n \nMaybe the best bet would be. dont respond every email or message that is sent. It will die down slowly..\nI can understand you dont want it to put up a brick wall.. \nAs You might loose your job. But at the same time.. \nif he presses you for a reply, Just brushing it off as a joke. \nThis can work just as well. It saves face for him as well as yourself.. \n\nBe careful.  You dont want to scream sexual harassment..  \nNot when your responding and playing the game with him.\nBecause if you do, he will throw it back to you.\n\nSo my suggestion would be, Just don't respond as much.. find work .. make yourself busy. And maybe find another job in the mean time. \n\nBlessings ALD
1006763
You sound like a control freak.....Leave the man alone and be happy he is working.....GEEEEESH!!! Who do you think you are  telling someone where he should or should not work.  Get a life, honey!
1043488
Well the simple fact that the two of you are working  two jobs each is a big part of the problem. Why are you? He's tired, your tired and it becomes something else to be done sometimes, instead of being a fun part of your relationship.\n\nIf it's possible try to cut back some of your hours, so that you guys can have some quality time with each other. Or at least a day off together. That will hopefully lead to sex. \n\nTry to sit down and talk to him about how you feel he might not really realize how much your sex life has gone down.\n\nI'm still going through this madness with my boyfriend only the roles are reversed. \n\nDrop me an email if you neeed someone to talk to.
93980
depends on your work....\n\nIf you are in the oldest profession, further sleeping with bosses is unlikely to help...cos you have already been doing it.., so abstinence might come in handy in your case....\n\nIf you are not in that kind of profession, you can sleep with the boss, as long as you tell him that you know he has a wife......and that divorced has more letters than married, thus causing more work when filling out forms...\n\nGet ready for promotion....
196490
i hope you are able to just confrunt him and tell him that it bothers you and that you do not trust him anymore. i wish i would have done the same with my bfriend. he was txtmessiging with his two exs and two other women he met at work and all that while we were living together- actually he also brought one of his ex home and slept with her in our bed.\nbut well, i did not have the courage and we finally broke up. he did...\nso go for it! you deserve more than a cheating bfriend\ngood luck!
733808
I had two workplace romances a long time ago.  Neither of them caused a problem when we broke up.  How long have you worked with him?  Do you sense even a hint of a vindictive streak?  If so, keep away.  If not, tread carefully and take it slowly.
459019
Wow maybe you should try  give him some comments back when he tells you something nice! believe me we man like a lady in the streets but a freak in in the sheets so dont try to compete with the slutish. ask him wats he doing on the weekend or somting  then said something like you want to go see ice age2 or something see if he invites you. if that dont work then you should try to talk to him and let him know how you feel if that dont work\n leave him alone for while see wat he does if then let it go!
108070
sounds like he wants s*x with you,  the decision is yours   if you dont want to jsut explain to him that you dont if not...have fun ;)