Why is it so easy for a guy to just move on after ending a 2yr relationship?
602250
I think its just as hard for a man to end a relationship as it is for a girl. Depending on the reasons behind the break up. If it was that easy for him to move on, maybe it was something he already had planned. Look into it.
172010
Never heard of a "rule" before hopping into a new relationship.  You should give yourself some time to heal from the last relationship before jumping into another.  If not, you're just going on the rebound looking for some substitute for what you had.  You'll just end up hurting the potential relationship.
510752
Off and on relationships are confusing because you want to get back together again but at the same time you're tired of the person you're with. It's been my experience that if it fails once it will fail twice, 3 times, 4 times, etc. I don't believe it's worth spending time on. One chance is all I give people now. If it doesn't work out, I move on. People like to think that they change or things will work out but it's just not that way. Move on, it will suck at first especially since you're use to having him around. In the end though you will feel better about the whole situation.
182130
If you are breaking up with them because you are absolutely, positively, 100% sure that there is no way to work things out then...you are exiting a bad situation and that is a good thing.  It's not a fun thing and it hurts like hell but if it's the right thing to do then unfortunately you just have to do it.  Then you just have to pick up the pieces and move forward.  They forgot to give some of us the manuals on Life is not going to be perfect.
1118177
Letting go isn't easy. \n\nThe best thing to do here is to let go of all committments you've had with this ex of yours and begin to learn how to trust yourself again.\n\nOnce you've learned how to trust yourself again, give every new person that walks into your life from then on a fair and equal chance at getting to know you as a person and to know your heart once again. \n\nYou never know when the next person will enter your life and if that new person is the right one for you.
35308
Sounds like its just an easy way out..Maybe to try and not hurt your feelings, when what she/he really wanted to say was "I dont want to be with you anymore"
780194
There is no easy answer.  I felt like I spent the better half two years basically throwing myself at this guy I use to work with.  I never got any where.  We just remained good friends and now we just seemed to have gone down different paths and never see each other anymore.  Don't take it too hard if this happens.  It just means that you weren't meant to be together and you'll find the right guy down the road.
171693
My first thought is, thank goodness he is honest about this. Secondly there have surely been signs that he has not been as serious as you have been. After 2 years it should have got past liking you into something much deeper. Sounds like he has led you on. Take off your rose colored glasses and see what is really there. Why did you stay? Did you set yourself up for a no win situation because you don't think your worthy of anything else? You are, but you need to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else. A good relationship has good communication so there would be no surprises after 2 years. Let him go, work on yourself and then and only then will you be ready for more. You will also be more picky, more accurate in your choices.
17364
The fact he his your ex tells you that it would be in your best intrest not to concern yourself with wheather or not he has moved on and move on yourself. Once you start careing about yourself you'll find someone who will also care about you! Let your ex move on I'm sure it would be for the best.
513083
You never really get over your first love. If you want to move on you have to find something or someone to fill your extra time. Maybe you need some time without some one until you are confident again. It is ultimately up to you when you want to start a new relationship. Jump back in only when your ready.
181724
breaking up is hard to do and only you know what you want, no advice is good advice on this subject and only you know what you want and only you can make it happen to give you peace of mind and think it over with you head not your heart good luck
201006
To me if the break-up was that bad, you wouldn't even be this close to getting the option of getting back together. Anything is possible and in almost 2 years people change a lot. What's so wrong with getting to know who you are now? Don't think of it as getting back together. If you didn't have a past with him, would you still want to get to know this guy right now?
807908
I think time and space are important right after a break up....at least a few months.  Trying to be friends right away typically makes it seems like dating again almost, or at least in my situations.  Then when one person starts dating someone else or decides it's not a good idea, it's like a 2nd break up all over again.  It sucks because if one person wants to be friends and the other does not, post break up, that's that.  You have to accept that the person may not want you to be in his/her life for a while...as much as it sucks, you must not be selfish and just move on
22730
Your used to someone, used to having fun with them, used to loving them and used to just generally having them around.  When you get your heart broken, its unlikely you can remain friends with someone you've had such a deep understand with and thus its more then like that you've got to start from scratch.  Mainly, its the fear that you'll never have that again and never be happy again.  The best way to get over a break-up is to tell yourself that "she/he wasn't worth my time and that some other lucky person will be worth it in the future".
197711
WOW this must be hard for you maybe hes just moving on and you should do the same or just give it more time and start seeing other people.
901831
Hi i was seeing this guy for 2 years, and as soon as we broke up i was so devastated and went into a state of depression, i ended up meeting up with some old friends of mine for some one nighters and it was the best thing i had ever done to boost my ego, then i started seeing this other guy about 2 months after and we were together for about 6 months and we now remain friends, he new what it was all about and thought it was a great relationship we had. I think you need to get your mind off the EX and have a little fun, it really helps.\n\n**Oh and the 2 year guy, he is one of my best friends and he has been trying to get me back since we broke up, he jokes that i am the only one he will really love, i can see myself marrying him, but not until i am ready to settle down. He's out doing the same thing, i love what we have**
366301
I don't know of anybody who didn't feel horrible after breaking up. A bond between two human beings is a valuable, special, particularly fragile link. Why not remember the good times you both had? Here's something else to keep in mind: there was probably a reason you both broke up. Was it something you needed to do? There may be a valid reason. And above all: these things take time. You can't expect to jump out of bed the next morning singing and dancing, but it's also equally unhealthy to obsess all the time your ex-boyfriend and your ended relationship. "If the problem persists, it may be necessary to seek professional help," we hear that all the time, but if the problem lasts longer than you think it should, it's probably a good idea to talk to a psychiatrist. ( A female psychiatrist would more likely have experienced what you're going through.)To occupy your time, you could go out with your friends, donate time to a charity, express your feelings through art or writing... however, and I am not trying to disrespect your feelings by any means, you seem a bit young to be dating. Enjoy life.  You'll have the rest of your life to worry about men and boyfriends. You're young, so why not not spend valuable time, instead of thinking of boys, learn to better yourself? Learn to speak German; learn Karate. You'll empower yourself and your self-esteem will rise. I personally wish you the best of luck.