Any advice on dealing with an irrational person, and how to know if I contribute to this behavior?
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If he is willing to go into counseling and see how to work out his problems, great, it says a lot for him.  If not, you really need to leave now while you can even though it would be hard...for your sake, you need to.  Your right, communication is the key to a great relationship, the way it sounds from what your saying is that it is a verbally abusive one and has the potential to turn into a physically abusive one.
1049114
I get that a lot but there is very little one can do with inconsiderate people we are forced to live with due to circumstance. What I usually do is avoid these situations as much as I can and hopefully avoid crazy people who might just harm me. I suggest you do the same and hopefully in a year or two you buy you own home with plenty of parking space reserved for you :)
899352
Agree with first answer..But...here is a different idea.  Have you thought about doing a really mature thing...stop this  behavior on both sides now.  Go to the person wth a sincere attitude and ask to sit down and discuss your differences without hostility?   Might be a real shocker to him/her.  I understand your desire for revenge...we all feel that way at times...but...be the BETTER person and make an effort to make peace.  Honestly, it works.  Someone did this for me a few years ago. Good Luck.
767552
The easiest way to attack this problem is to put yourself in their shoes. How would you want to be told. In telling them you may find out there are things you do that annoy them. \nPick your battles. If it is something you can ignore or tune out then take that route. If it is something that is driving you mad. Share it with them. They may have done it for so long, it's habit and they don't realize there doing it.\n*Chewing food with their mouth open\n*Talking all through a TV show\n*Picking at their toes\nThese are some of my pet peeves. I on the other hand didn't get a very good reception when I shared these things with my man at the time. He took it as a personal attack, then turned around and pointed out my flaws. Hope you have better luck than I.
1017620
Adder, if you anger an irrational person, they'll behave irrationally. But for the record I do notice that you apparently don't seem to care.
528792
Don't leave "it", leave. Until this person is able to control his anger and not project them onto you, stay away or you will send him the messege that it's okay for him to treat you like crap.
201645
talk to her, ask her why she behaves that way.\nMaybe there is a reason.\nIf you don't like her explanations, dump the biatch.
734345
I'm a bit like that aswell sometimes. Just take a deep breath and walk away. Staying there will make you more angry. If you can't walk away, just tell them you're doing something wrong politely.
554069
ummmm...relax yaar..i understand how u feel.. well some people will irritate u..but neva listen to it,u know how you are!!for few days she will continue the same,but if she finds no response from your side then she will leave you soon!do u wanna b smart??so just ignore it..if you behave as how she is,then there will not be any difference between u and her..so adjust it for few days she will leave you soon..dont worry be cool...
807034
Sounds like you both are trying to work through this. Unfortunately sometimes arguments do occur, the only thing is when the dusts settles what then? I believe that by him not telling you right away that this or that was not exactly what he expected seems he is trying to be tolerant. Where he is trying maybe not to impose on you all the time what he think or how he thinks things should be. But if he bottles it up and then waits to explode letting you have it all at once, you are right he really should tell you then and there. Not bottle it up and make him resent or get so angry.  He has to realize you fess up to things you tell him "Oh I had no idea I was coming across that way" so he has to know you are not intentionally doing things to  irritate him. Keep talking, keep telling him to tell you.  Tell him "Hey let post this or that and have people who don't know you and don't know me, tell us what they think is going on. People who have nothing to gain"  People who do this just because we've all been there and think Hey maybe someone else can benefit from past mistakes.   Good Luck to you and him I really hope it works out for you two.
445954
count to 10. while you're counting, using a very calm, rational voice inside your head, ask yourself, "In 6 months, will this still be an issue? Or will I even remember it at all?" if the answer is no, then finish the deep breathing and get on with your life...if you're still angry, get away from that person/people and do something to distract yourself--go outside, etc.
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Just be patient.  It is possible he will realize she is being irrational one of these days, and then he will need his family.  Send him birthday and Christmas cards, so that he knows you want to keep in touch, and try not to take it too personally.  It seems clear the woman is irrational, but he may have very reasonably decided that it is more important to him to keep peace with her.  When a man gets two sides each saying the other is lying, he may decide not on the basis of truth, but on the basis of need.\n\nGood luck and God bless!
1076183
Play mind games with her. Stare her down when she insults you, say "is that all you've got?" and come back with something snippy/sarcastic. But don't be so bluntly mean that she has something to tell an adult about. Or you could just not talk to her, and pretend that she doesn't exist.
64578
You know what. You have exhausted your options. It is unfortunate that your only course of action now is to either demonstrate how they affect you by demonstrating the same behavior and hope they are smart enough to notice, or move. Good luck.
206292
Listen first.  I mean really listen to what they are saying.  Try to see it their way, and agree with them.  Something like "I would have probably felt the same way!"  Then ask what you can do to make it better. \n\nThey probably just need to vent.  Just DON'T take it personally.  Some people of course are completely ridiculous and you can't help those ones, but most are somewhat reasonable, especially if they think you care.
788965
Advice? There is no advice for dealing with thoughtless idiots.\nDo not even address it! You were wronged, but let it go.
380897
I think you shouldn't lower yourself far enough to worry about what someone who is so obviously ignorant thinks.  Does it really matter to you what she thinks of you?  Does it change who you really are?  I would try to see that the things she says come from her own issues and that they have nothing to do with who i am.  Think about it...if she does this and you have no reaction to it how much fun will it be for her to continue doing it? If her goal is to hurt or bother you and you respond to that you are simply feeding hre monsters and giving her what she wants, also you could be proving that what she says about you is true by allowing her to provoke negative behavior from you.  She is disturbed, stay away from her, but don't waste your energy on her or let her rob you of peace of mind she isn't worth it.