how do i make my self happy? i work miles away from my family and friends.?
607319
This is SO me right now.  A year ago, I moved 1700 miles away from my family/friends to pursue a job that ended up paying well, but treating me very poorly.  As cheesy as it sounds, I have learned from this experience that if I continue to plug along and keep myself healthy, fit, and into enjoyable hobbies, I am naturally happier and less affected by the idiots I work with.
218311
The only person that can help you out of this situation is you. You have a mind set that everyone is leaving you behind and is going on with there own lives getting married gettin wraped up in there jobs. You should find what makes you happy and try not concentrating on what the people around you are doing. Be your own person.. and try to find the little things that make you happy. It also sounds like you might be a litte depressed... talk to some one if you can to help you release what your feeling inside.
1129396
Then, try to find a job that makes you happier.\nAnd keep thinking you´ll do better in the future while you´re trying to find a new, better one.
29758
Dont you have any friends to hang out with?  What about hobbies?  What do you do on the weekends?  When you grow up, your life will be pretty much the same as it is now but with work unless you do something yourself to change it.  And since you have very philisophical questions, I recommend talking to your minister who can better answer them for you.  Your life is not pitiful.  Its what you make of it.  If you want to be happy, do something happy.  If you want to be sad, then sit there and do nothing.  Your choice.
437989
First, stop caring. Yes, I know its hard but let it go. Remove yourself from negative influences that put you down like family and friends. Minimize your time with them and get rid of them. Smile, fake happiness until you feel it. Establish goals that aren't people related. Goals that are hard but ones that you are able to accomplish, a new career position, better physical conditioning, knowledge etc. Believe you are the greatest thing in the whole universe.
1133482
try to strike a balance. your family loves you.\nmine did the same for me and i was glad i could help however i could.\nbut, remind them that your time is limited and set boundaries for yourself with them. good luck
406151
Spend time with your close friends and tell them whats on your mind.  They are guarenteed to be very supportive and do what they can to help you out.  Being with people you have laughs or a good time with will easily make you feel better than sitting in a dark room brooding.  Basically you need to be out and active, have exposure to the sun, start looking at other guys that may help.  And if that doesn't help time will.  Over time you're guarenteed to let it go and move on.  Just remember that this isn't the end of everything good and fun, something else or somebody else will run into you that will give you enough pleasure to be yourself again.
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Try putting post it notes around your house that you'll read. On these notes, put positive things about yourself. Start telling yourself when you wake up and before bed that you are a wonderful, smart person and you deserve happiness. The mind is a powerful thing. If you believe it, then its reality. So constantly telling yourself positive things should help give your self-esteem a boost. On another note, don't keep people around you that are negative. Start trying to find a silver lining in everything. examples...\nYour car won't start that morning...at least it failed at home, and not while you were out and about!\nIts raining on a day you planned outside activities...gives you a chance to read a good book or see a movie.\nA person you love died....at least they are no longer in pain.\nA person you really liked dumped you...better to know now than before marriage and a painful divorce.\n If you wake up every morning and try to be a confident, happy, positive person, one day you'll wake up and no longer be trying. It'll just come naturally. Its all about what you want, and how hard you are willing to work for it. And not letting people take your power from you. Others can only make you sad or upset if YOU allow them to. Life is all about how you spin it.
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hmm....where is ur family? about the love...maybe u r not ready yet...be a friendly person. i'll say get a life!!! u seem so lonely.. be happy, always smile, keep breathing. if u feel sad go for walking or gardening. make some activities that can give u some energy...make friend with ur neighbour too....\n\nGud luck!!! ^_^
265939
First thing, go make a million dollars. Then if you are still unhappy, you can atleast go places.\n\nPeople say money can't buy happiness, I say you can rent it for a while.
284298
be strong in who you are and thank God for everything hes given you.\nlove yourself for who you are, and know God loves you even more.\nIf you live your life worrying about what other people think, you will never find happiness.\n\n be happy & love yourself!\nI think your great just the way you are, but when you love yourself first, people will see you differently.
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Highly suggest you talk with a good therapist. During that time and now realize what you want in life. Therapist will help. I have learned from (others/family) poor behavior. Use this as a TOOL! One can not make others happy. YOU need to find happiness within. I know nothing of your friends and where you live. I highly suggest... to continue having a friend is with respect to them. Your problems may get worse if "you" end relationship through aggressive behavior to your friends. Religious believing can wait. Just know there is someone to talk with during quite time alone. I do it all the time. It works. Many of my guestions have been answered. Stop asking yourself why to everything. Concentrate on what "type" of person others see in you. I have a clue possible Bio Polar in your family. Trust me. My life at one time was similar. Go to a therapist. Let them help you. Most of your questions will be answered.\nBest of luck!
126451
Find something to get involved in to keep your mind busy, hang with friends, and call home alot!  I'm sure your family misses you too, and would love to talk to you!
457577
lift weights, jog, get a massage from a licenced masseuse.  Do  something to make yourself happy again.   You have to make yourself happy before you spread happiness to other people. A doctor or pill ain't going to do it for you.  Exercise at least releases endorphins into the bloodstream and helps regulate mood.
641640
like i do u can do i leave in anther country for work , i live my life and i try make all my time very happy , i am hiking ,chatting , make new friendship , i do my best to be happy , i am not die if i am still alone , the life will continue if we want or not do your best to have Friend just good friend and take care good luck
1022816
You are the only one who can decide if your own life is fulfilling.  It you are happy with the way you are living, then don't worry about it.  If, on the other hand, you are unhappy or lonely, then force yourself to join groups, volunteer, or go out by yourself.  If you do something you are interested in, you'll find new friends and new hobbies that will interest you even more. Good luck!
54943
your life is your own to make the best of.\ni would think you would want to be happy as best as you could in a world that has so many flaws. so now...answer your own question what is your goal in this life? do want to spend it making someone else happy? or are you committed to making yourself happy?remember the happier you are the better postion you are in to spread happiness around you and your enviornment