Why is divorce rate very high in AMERICA ?
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There is a fundamental change in the thinking of Americans.  It used to be a country where people thought of others before they thought of themselves.  Where a person was willing to give of himself to help a stranger or more importantly, someone they knew.  Where Family came first before anything else.\n\nNow Americans look out for "Number 1".  They think of themselves before their spouse and some times before their own children.  I see so many selfish people these days that I'm sick of it.  \n\nIt is that attitude that brings down most marriages in America.
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Relationship won't last unless you make it. This means not giving up when it seems like it's going downhill. The reason for our high divorce rates in the US, in my opinion, is that people give up too easily because they think there's a magical "THE ONE" relationship where everything works out and fights, if they ever happened, are always resolved perfectly and quickly and compatibility is great. life isn't like that... get over it. \n\nMind you, I'm not saying you should stay in an abusive relationship or with a guy or girl for whom something is clinically wrong... but for all other types of people, it is POSSIBLE to REASON THINGS OUT and build compatibility. Relationships take work, no matter which way you slice it.
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I have had this convo many times with people of those backgrounds that believe in it. From what I know they actually have a higher sucess rate than the "normal' marriages... I was shocked because my first thought would be that it doesnt work but then I thought about it and it made sense. \n\nReligions that believe in that sort of thing are quite diffrent from americans in there perspetives on morals and etc... so I think their way of living makes them have better odds.. Now if Americans started doing it I think it would fail greatly.
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Of course, look at the divorce rate
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You've been watching "Fiddler on the Roof", eh?\n\nMost of the Jewish families in America do not pick a spouse to their children.\nThe religious ones may try to arrange an appropriate matchmaking, but in 99.99 % of the cases, it is all up to the child.
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What are the most common Causes of Divorce?\n\nNo statistics on this are collected -- the grounds listed on the vital statistics forms that are filed with each divorce case in most states rarely list the actual cause of the divorce. The causes listed below come from a survey of experienced divorce lawyers who have been elected by their peers to the Academy. \n\nWhy Marriages Fail\n\nNot all marriages fail for the same reason. Nor is there usually one reason for the breakdown of a particular marriage. Nevertheless, we hear some reasons more often than others.\n\nThey are:\n\nPoor communication\nFinancial problems\nA lack of commitment to the marriage\nA dramatic change in priorities\nInfidelity\n\nThere are other causes we see a lot, but not quite as often as those listed above .They are:\n\nFailed expectations or unmet needs\nAddictions and substance abuse\nPhysical, sexual or emotional abuse\nLack of conflict resolution skills
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The financial impact of divorce goes WAY past dividing things up 2 ways.  It's absolutely devastating.\nLet me just hang this out there and expect some negative feedback - I'm seriously "old school".\nA marriage covenant isn't performance driven - that's why we say "for better or worse".  It's isn't breakable - that's why we say "until death do us part".\nIf I had to guess, your brother fears divorce because deep inside he believes it to be wrong and he's afraid of carrying a load of guilt around.\nThere will be plenty of responses encouraging him to go ahead and be happy.  And while the "pursuit of happiness" is fine within a certain context, our society has taken that to an incredible level of selfishiness and self-absorption - life is now "all about me".\nThere is MUCH more I can say about this from personal experience but it would belong in another category.
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Love just happens, but you have to remember that people can grow to love each other.  I know of countries that still have arranged marriages.  I think that in these instances the two involved are less fortunate than Americans who get the opportunity to find love on their own.  But, this has been going on for many many years.  I don't believe that Americans should set up two people with the intent for them to be happy.  As an American we know that happiness comes from the heart and has to be aceived on our own.
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I think the ratio of yes to no answers is close to the divorce rate in California.  These women are getting so lazy.  I wonder how long their Grandparents stayed together and how they treated each other.  Next look at their parents and see how long they  lasted, and finally look at themselves and their future.  Lots of divorces will follow all of the no answering people.  muahhahahaha
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I think you're absolutely correct.  The reality is that most marriages won't work out.  Divorces are both emotionially and financially crippling under most circumstances.\n\nI don't understand why so many feel that they need a legal contract to commit.  Maybe if you're doing it for religious purposes, but the bottom line is that the wedding is going to be extraordinarily expensive (most of the time), the marriage will just as likely end in divorce as not, and if it doesn't, the couple will probably not be happy once the bloom is off of the rose.  I know so many divorcees who have had their financial future yanked out from under them because of divorce and I don't quite understand why so many seek it.
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listen to your intuition, so many people don't listen to it which is why the divorce rate is so high. There maybe something on a subconcious level telling you that you aren't matched but for some reason or other you're overriding it.
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Hi Kat, \n\nI will not give you any lecture or be judgmental... besides, others have done that already. I will only give you statistics. \n\nLIVING TOGETHER/COHABITATING BEFORE MARRIAGE: Very little evidence of marriage being much better than marriage couples who do not live together prior to marriage. Research does show divorce rate is higher for couples who cohabited prior to marriage.\n\n-AVERAGE AGE OF MARRIAGE: Women 25.3 yrs. old; Men 26.9 yrs. old\n-THE LATER INDIVIDUAL WAITS TO MARRY THE LESS LIKELY THAT INDIVIDUAL IS TO DIVORCE- maturity.\n\n-FIRST YEAR AND A HALF OF MARRIAGE, COUPLES WILL HAVE THE MOST HARDSHIP.\n\n-FIRST MARRIAGE DIVORCE RATE: 55%-60%\n-SECOND MARRIAGE DIVORCE RATE: 60%-70%!!!\n\nThinking about creating a family?\n-ANNUAL COST TO PROPERLY CARE FOR ONE (1) CHILD: about $9500.00\n-MOST BABIES BORN ARE UNPLANNED ("BY ACCIDENT").\n\nMARRIAGE LIFE W/ KID(S): Honeymoon fever is over; marriage satisfaction declines after first baby is born; marriage satisfaction rises somewhat in childhood years; marriage satisfaction declines significantly again during child's teen years; marriage satisfaction increases significantly after last child has left the house!!! \n\nFACTORS THAT CAUSES DIVORCE: Couples do not have same values, beliefs, expectations, etc. ... simply put, love is not enough and opposites do not attract lasting marriages. Couples in an inter-racial marriages must endure current societal stigmatization (prejudices) of such relationships.\n\nCONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE: Money issues; roles of a husband and wife; kids or no kids?; housewife, career woman or both?; which inlaws to visit for xmas/holidays?; joint or separate accounts?, how much time to spend together? etc. etc.\n\nEFFECTS OF DIVORCE: Divorce Children are usually the biggest losers in divorce. Women are next in line with most moving downward from the socio-economic ladder and into poverty, especially if she not a college graduate and has children to take care of. Reality does not sets in for twelve months. It takes another year to three years to get through the effects of a divorce. And still some effects are life-long.\n\nNow you decide, my friend, and best of luck... -Taz-
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Divorce rate in Australia in around 40%. Meaning, about 40 percent of marriages can be expected to end in divorce. Adding a small fraction for marriage breakdowns which are never formalised by divorce,it is estimated that about 43 per cent of marriages end in separation within 30 years of the marriage. \nDivorce rate in Australia stands at around 3 divorces per 1000 marriages. Census records show that more than 55,000 divorces were granted in 2001. During the same period around 103,000 marriages were registered. \n\n\n\nPeople divorce for many reasons but i do believe that a huge contribution to divorce is financial strain on marriages, trying to pay your mortgage and raise kids on minimum wages... it takes its toll.
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I think I saw the article you speak of and NO there is no truth to the story without skewing the numbers.\nLike taking the divorce rate as a percentage of total population and not of total marriages.\nWhich supports the answer given by Kala that there are more folks living together out of wedlock in liberal states than in conservative states.\n\nI found some stats on one of the CENSUS related sites
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If sex is your test for whether or not you want to marry someone then no wonder we have a 50% divorce rate in the US
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Irreconciable differences,...\nIt's the # 1 reason for divorce.
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People can give you all the statistics in the world. You have no idea what you are talking about unless your are speaking from your own experience. \nYes I did live with my husband before we were married and no we are not divorced. \nI think living together before you are married is an excellent way to see what you are getting yourself into. \nYou don't know who someone really is until you are around them 24-7. \nReasons why the statistics are misleading.The majority of people who get married do live together first.  This means their is a higher percentage to account for.  People who don't live together before they get married are highly religious therefore they do not get divorced.  Also lower class people live together before they get married because they cannot afford to live on their own. Divorce is more common amount the lower class. All of these facts contribute to divorce. There are many other reasons why people get divorced that have nothing to do with living together before marriage.