Should a women ever stay with a man who has hit her but promises not to do it again.?
599850
A man either has the self-discipline and principles to never strike a woman or he doesn't.  You have to decide based on that.
268268
Nope, YOU were wrong. Why would you start calling your boyfriend names? Seriously. I think it's wrong for a man to hit a woman. But, if she provokes him, calls him names, and then hits him, well, she brought it upon herself. If you are going to do that again, then make sure you can handle whatever it is you get for it. I've never been hit by a guy, firstly because I would stand to be hit out of the blue. And secondly because I don't provoke or hit guys.
788238
leave while you still can before he tries to sucker you in with i'm sorry ect, if he was mad enough to hit you once more than likely he will do it again...
925723
Hey girl !!!! what are u still interested in a guy who tries to abuse u ???? U know abusing someone is called domestic violence. if i were u i would tell someone and slap him right in the face ..... but i advice u to not to do that as this could result to rape or anything and tell someone about it . Second thing is tell him that u cant keep ur relationship becoz its just not working out and tell him this in a public place and dont humiliate. Also, dont try to get back together becoz if people who are abusers can do anything. If he has done it once he can do it again and next time he will break ur hand.So, the conclusion is leave him because he is a mooron and a abuser. what kind of guy is he ? abusing a girl!!! if he goes further tell ur mum and dad and contact the police. and plzz dont be scared its ur life and u should live it without fear. Personally, i advice u to learn karate as well... just incase
1125898
first of all calm down if u beat her up it will just cause problems between u and ur man and second dont worry if he loves u he will stay with u no matter what....just trust him if u cant then your relationship may not work out......Good Luck.....
659796
I recently had a promblem with my man last week,My man hit my friend's ass but she didn't tell me.Her girlfriend was the one who told me.My friend told everyone else but me.My man did not deny it, but he said it was not in a bad way.You see my man is a funny and very cool guy,and everyone gets along with him.He goes out of his way to please everyone and makes a joke out of everything.I've been with my man for 4 yrs.He's never even flirted with a girl since he's been with me.We go every where together and do everything together.He shows me nothing but alot of love and gives me so much attention.He will do anything for me and always helpsme out all the time.WE HAVE AMAZING SEX everynight and morning.He doesn't care who's around us,he will be hugging me and kissing me all the time.Now about my friend,I've only have known her for about 10 months,but i've known her girlfiend for 5 yrs.My friend has only been coming around and kicking it here at my house for about 4 months.She started getting to comfortable and start caring herself a little overboard with our guy friends.Suposely she's a lesbien,but she started acting like she wanted to jump in the sack with these guys.Later on when she started telling everone about my man hitting her ass, she stood out with one of my guy friends til 5am.She said that when my man did this to her ,she was traumatized.She still came around my house the next 2 days after this happend and i even left them alone in our bedroom together and she was joking around with him.Don't you think if she was so traumatized over this she wouldn't come to my house or she would have told me something what happend.Well the turn out to all this is,I forgave my man and I forgave my friend too. So both of them are in my life.I looked at both sides and did not side with either one but blamed them both.Did I do the right thing in staying with my man and keeping her friendship?I still feel disrespected from my man and hurt with my friend.I don't know if I should still allow my friend back to my house and if I should trust them both again cause at this point I can't trust know one at all!Should I just kick them both out of my life because once they hurt you or disrespct, they will in time do it again.WHAT SHOULD I DO!
700665
Im a guy but trust me..i will never force a woman to do anything like that.  I know many women dont tell anyone about it though in fear that the guy will come back and do it again.
540609
Maybe you should just stay out of the middle of it. Give her support, but just tell her that you rather just not get involoved, unless he did something serious to her.
612288
I'm into brutal truth BUT some people can't handle that kind of truth. it would depend on the man. Can he handle it? If something can come back and bite you in the butt later, it's best to just get it out and deal with it. I'm sure your partner would rather hear it from you then someone else.
94554
As long as you still have the marks, make a police report! This man (for lack of a better word) is trying to control you, and sounds like he has succeeded up to this point! Don't be afraid of him, because you can be protected!! You don't have to put up with abuse from anyone! If he's into crack and has another woman, you should just hold your head high, and walk away from a bad situation. It'll only get worse if you let it! When you make your police report, you can also request a restraining order. In my town, you'd be directed to contact Victims Assistance, and they will have the restraining order for you as quickly as tomorrow! Don't let him get away with anything! He needs to be locked up! Good luck to you! :)
272666
Hire a big guy and have him use A gun, A knife, A bat, A heavy object …etc or if you're not into “violence”  you can just move. lol j/k\n\nIn all seriousness if this neighbor of your doesn’t move out or isn’t kicked out you should seriously think about moving, especially since you have kids.If this guy beat his “girlfriend” up he obviously doesn’t go buy the rule men don’t hit woman. So, I don’t think it would be wise for you to “talk” to this “man.” I use quotes on the word man because a real man wouldn’t lay a hand on women. Period.
887980
I'm very sorry to say this, but if he won't stop, as much as it may hurt, its time to let him go.  Verbal abuse is ABUSE.  And sometimes worse than physical.  If he won't stop now, your relationship will continue to always be like that.  There are guys out there that don't verbal abuse.  You have to decide now that you are worth him not verbally abusing you and if he doesn't like the way you act, then he really doesn't like  you.  Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness, and respect.  Don't you agree.
1049465
Time to straighten his @ss up girl. Don't take that. When my 1st ex kept hitting me and my family/friends wouldnt help I took matters in my own hands, the last time I went through the wall he went flying through a window. My advice is hit back that shows you aint taking his sh1t no more. If you feel you can't hit back or you're scared look into some abuse shelters for women and if that isn't in question leave and call the cops have him thrown in jail and in the meantime while he's sitting in jail you find a place to go a place he wouldnt know the first place to look. If your family fears him in any way I wouldn't tell them where I was. Get a restraining order or most states have legal assistance and you can nail him with a divorce. Play it nasty "you fear for your life." \nThats what I would of done if things wouldn't of changed but they did after he realized he pushed me too far and was thrown through a window...\nI'm not suggesting you throw him through a window, I'm suggesting that you have him arrested find a place to go that he wouldnt know where to look and get legal assistance.
243714
I would say it depends on where you live.  The law in some places tries to keep families together.  I mean just because they fought today does not mean that by tonight they would have come back together.  It is a hard call A good Lawyer would be helpful.  Unfortunately the law is not working for the benefits of the women keeping your daughter safe is I am sure your top priority.So I would get her some councelling because this type of abuse has a way of sticking with the person for yrs.Post tramatic stress syndrome.  Keep her away from him Chances are he will be sorry but once they realize the law is a joke they are not really worried about doing it again.Change her # move her somewhere else and pls let her know that she must do this to be safe he will do it again and can no longer be trusted dont even try run
207857
I've heard that guys will do whatever women let them get away with.  This guy wants to use and abuse you and you're letting him, and even paying him!  The answer is NO, he doesn't care about you.  It seems like you don't even care about you.\n \nSorry if this sounded cruel. Deep down you know you should kick his loser ass to the curb.  You've just gotta find the\ncourage to do it.  Think of how much money you'll save once he's gone.  \n\nBe good to yourself and good luck.
663374
If it's ongoing, absolutely.\nIf it happens more than once......ZERO response along with one cold, glassy, look. \nThat person is a pig.\nIf it's in the workplace, go immediately to your Human Resources Manager.  Not to some employee in there.  You go immediately to the Head Honcho. Bang on the door if you have to.\nI'm a "Take No Prisoners" sort.  You are being abused and it's unacceptable.\nDon't let anyone tell you differently.\nNot one person in this world deserves being abused in any way, shape or form.\nYou take care of yourself and good luck.
858810
Yes, a bad man, not a boy, don't need a boy........why would you be too much to handle? I blast music till the clocks fall off the wall, my man says, turn it down!!\nYou know as long as you know that everything has a place, and your NOT being controlling, and mean, and driving drunk, and stuff,I like a guy who doesn't mind being vulnerable......That's a real man.\nI do know that women need security..........emotionally, if you can be a bad boy, but at the same time, let her know you'll always be there for her, and that you'll keep her safe, (while having fun) then she'll stay. Like for instance if a guy was mean to her, and she wanted you to protect her by scaring him, but if you actually beat him up and went to jail that night, then where is her security? she needs a ride home right? We need men, to keep us safe( because we are women) I am kind of innocent, and a guy who drives fast with me in the car makes me think, WOW, this is crazy, he is so fun, and wild,,,,,,but there is a fine line between driving fast, and then road rage, and slamming into a guy, and breaking our necks in the process, that's no fun,,,, see the difference????