How do you help a girlfriend heal and cope and she walked in on her ex cheating ?
609867
Let her know that she wont ever have to worry about that with you, and be true to it. Comfort her, make her fell special and let her confide in you, she needs to get it all off her chest. Don't push her away, or interupt while she's venting (sit down) and let her let it go.
821720
Girl, that's a rough situation. Its all good to help for a little while, but her ex seems to getting a little bit to dependent on your girlfriend. The bottom line is that her ex needs to grow up and be a women, it doesn't take that long to get get your stuff together. Tell your girlfriend to give her a couple of pointers and move on. Keep your head up!
278580
Right now, you need her to regain her trust in you. You owe her that, and she deserves all the time she needs. Spend a lot of time with her, be there for her, laugh with her, just show her how special she is to you. Don't just say it, show it. But don't pressure her to get over the hurt. If you do love and care for her like you say, you will be patient. If she decides to move on with someone else, you can only be happy for her and be there if it doesn't work out. I truly think she will notice all these things and will come around when she's ready. Good luck, and no more deceptions.
258425
FEEL MESSED UP! BUT WHAT CAN YOU DO. just hope that she don't find out and please don't get serious with him, he going to cheat on you just like how he is cheating on her with you.
283531
first . . . your question didn't make sense . . . and if I get the gist . . . he cheated on you with her . . . \n\nSecond . . . you are to emotional . . . . calm down and relax and don't do anything stupid.\n\nThird . . . . dump him after you calm down
567023
Just try and be strong.  it is hard, but time will heal the heart.  Try to avoid where she may be..this will help too.
1132757
She needs to be sure, this won't happen again. She is not sure if coming back home will prevent her of going through this experience again. It seems it was very traumatic to her, she doesn't know if Worth to investor insist on this relationship...perhaps the pain caused to her was almost the size or bigger than the all pleasure she has of being with you. She is confused and trying to figure out, what she feels about you, love or disappoint.\nTraumas, change  people feelings pushing them to be more protective.\nYou can't expect that after a very ugly fight with psychological trauma, she simply come back home and you guys get together again. People need time to heal.\nI think you are in a very bed situation, sorry to say that.\nIt seems you are very close of loose her if you haven't lost her yet. Now, if she comes back, you will need to rebuild her trust on you again, for she open herself for you again and the love float.\nAnother thing, I think you should take some time to think about the fight too and reflect, because someone whom really cares about another, shouldn't have the behavior you are having, or you are immature and have no knowledge about peoples feelings, or about yourself. Don't think I am offending you by telling you are immature, I am just trying to help you and as I always say, honesty is the best option to find the right solution for our problems.
813498
Well hon you are certainly in a rough spot. It seems like the best course of action would be to end things for now at least. \n\nI think the best thing to do is tell her how hurt you are over her cheating and that despite everything you still care for her. Then make it clear that you arent prepared to forgive her for cheating just yet and that you will talk sometime later. Minimum of 3 or 4 months preferably 6 months later. Then after several months of cooling off time you two maybe in a position to be friends, but right now you need to be away from this girl. \n\nS
274165
Broken heart is not easy to heal.\nBut life doesnot stop, ask her to move on in life. I know it will not be easy for her; but to live in past memories will not heal her wounds.\nSo ask her to keep her self busy in other works like... New Hobby, develop New work interest, New part time job, Cooking etc. Being a good friend of her be with her, go out for movies, hang out here and there. Just try to make her a bit happy.\nI know it is not easy but atleast try to get out of that i m sure with time she not even forget him but also find a true love.
244110
Really why does it matter to her now. If she broke up with him for cheating then she got back with him knowing he was a cheater. Ok she got back with him after he cheated because she loves him, and now she thinks he is cheating again. Well she loves him so she should over look it again (which is what she did by taking him back in the first place). Or she can get smart and leave him, obviously he isn't going to change. What reason does he have to she accepted it by taking him back.
531476
Well I went one stage further... \n\nI was messaging a girl i'd never seen before... It got to be like an addiction, and my gf would see the messages and get upset... I never met the girl, so nothing physical happened, but it was still a form of cheating... \n\nI ended up splitting up with her as I couldn't take hurting her any longer.. It was killing me inside, but couldn't stop it... We'd been together 2 years... \n\nNow 2 years has past... She's had another relationship in between, but now we are getting closer again... \n\nI have changed, as have looked long and hard at my life since my problem.... We are now very happy again... \n\nGive it time... Time heals... If you want it that badly, you'll wait... But depends how long you were together, and how deeply you feel...\n\nHope this helps.
536636
It will hurt her.  You know that right?  \nBut, as unfortunate as it is, it does happen.  That doesn't mean you can't be gentle about it.  You just need to sit down and be honest with her.  The longer you wait, the harder it will be on all three of you.  \nMy ex husband found someone else while we were together and he told me immediately, before he cheated.  I respect that he did at least leave me BEFORE he went to her.  PLEASE Consider that fact if it's not too late.
775213
Some you win, some you lose.\n\nYou have to try & put this behind you otherwise you'll end up going out of your mind. I realise it must hurt like hell but you can't change the situation.\nOther people will do things at times that if we allow them (situations) will totally screw up our heads. Right now you need to find a way not to let that happen.\n\nUnfortunately there's no easy answer to this, you will feel right now as if you've been totally & utterly betrayed & of course you have. Made all the worse because it's come from someone that you loved & trusted (your wife & Mother of your Children)\n\nI don't think the fact that she was already your ex when you found out makes it any easier for you because you were still together when she did what she did.\nThe worst thing in situations like this is that your future relationships will (if you allow them to) be tainted with distrust & scepticism. You may have to get help to sort this out for you (counselling) before you even attempt to embark on another relationship. Stuff like this tends to rear its ugly head (in our heads) when we least expect it to. If left it can almost take over our lives.\n\nI'm sorry that this has happened. Fair enough if a marriage has broken down or one partner has an issue with the other & things can't be resolved, then arrangements need to be made to split as amicably as possible. To go off & have an affair without sorting one way or the other the relationship we're already in is rank out of order.\n\nDon't let people change you into the slimy scum that they are. \nit will only make you unhappy.\n\nYou can pretty much be sure of this fact though, & that is, once the relationship your ex is now in hits the bumps that hit every relationship at one time or another, she doesn't have what it takes to sort things out properly & will be moving on to her next beau.\n\nYou can feel pity for the Guy she's with now that he can't somehow see that the way she's treating her ex husband & father of her Children, she will one day treat him.\n\nI wish you the best of luck for your future,
491258
Listen Up:\n\nSeriously, you are clinically depressed.  You fit the exact diagnosis of clinical depression.  Don't listen to people who say "just get over it!" or whatever, they dont understand your pain.  You can choose to get professional help, or not...that is up to you...but, if you choose not to, you need to read up on it and help yourself.  Your heart has been broken in a way that no one can understand, and one can just not get over it without some sort of education (meaning professional or self help) and time.  \n\nYou don't mention it on your post, but I would bet anything that you blame yourself for her cheating, even though you did anything and everything for her.  Also, I bet that she told you "reasons" why it was your fault that she did it.  Even more ridiculous is the fact that other people will somehow suggest that you must have been the reason that she cheated.  THAT IS FALSE!!!!  People cheat because they are selfish and only care about themselves.  Then, they blame others to avoid the guilt and responsibility for their miserable actions. \n\nThis will be hard, but you have to ACCEPT that her cheating was not your fault.  Once you can release this belief, with education, you can begin to come around.\n\nYou will never come around, unless you "accept" the truth and "educate" yourself.\n\nIf you wanna know more, contact me.
778109
I have yet to hear of a situation where a man got his ex girlfriend back, and everyone ended up being happy with the outcome.  If she's gone, there's a reason she's gone, and your best bet is probably to get over it, and find someone else.
1170862
Now, this is my favorite one: 'Let him go, if he comes back, he is yours, if he does'nt, he never was' \nI believe in this, because it happened to me. \nI am guessing he cheated on you, or something.. and now you have trust issues. \nHappens!!\nDont wait for him to screw up, it wont work. I know, because I waited for my gf to screw up after she cheated and we got back.\nYou will only end up screwing your thought process!!\nWhat you are doing right this time to you are a lot mature and hopefully going slow. Which is good. \nLove him for what he is to you and for what he will be for you tomorrow. Dont resuscitate the past. \nI strongly feel you are going to make it. Just take it one day at a time, discussing your future and stuff is good and sounds ideal, but if you have had trust issues, I would not recommend you make long term plans.\nWhat say??\nCheers!!
571687
Be a man, tell the girl you can't live like that. If she cheats now, she will cheat again. Don't fall for tears and empty promises.