how do i get my boyfriend to stop going to the bar.?
605822
serve him drinks in the nude at home, duh!
721181
Tell him straight and dont frequent anywhere you know he will be and if he keeps appearing and harrassing you it would be wise to take out an AVO.  It is proven that jealouss boyfriends do become violent if they can't get what they want so don't muck around get rid of him today.
473868
Oh boy...you need to just leave him. He's playing mind games with you so you won't leave life is way too short to stay in a relationship out of pity and guilt. If you make the first step in leaving him maybe he will clue in that you are serious.Leave him a letter explaining why you have left as well as some Alcoholics Anonymous pamphlets maybe he will clue in and get help and if you feel like things could be worked out seek counselling alone as well as with him. I have a Friend who went through a similar situation and she finally left the guy and he used to say he'd kill himself if she left...well she left and he's still alive.He too has a major drinking problem but won't admit to it. It's really sad, I think, that anyone would chose booze over their spouse.try your best to get him help but don't do all the footwork for him make him see that he's hurting you and leave asap.
429786
start by not following him everywhere.if they ask you before goin out if you wanna tag along just say no thanks and don't call to check in on him
237590
Ask him if he'd like to go out sometime.  If he says OK you're on your way.  If he says no you can quit wasting your time on him.
726656
ASK HIM IF YOU CAN BUY HIM A BEER?  THAT GETS ME EVERYTIME
904184
LOL...as a law student you better hope he NEVER finds out your drugging him for FREE time.....Why do you think you have the right to alter his body chemistry so you can have a quiet night? You're as bad as skeezy guys who put hgb in girls drinks to date rape em only you do it for peace and quiet...go to the library if that's what you want. On one hand you make me laugh...on the other you horrify me. Seriously seek help for this before you kill him with your ice tea cocktails.
618014
Tell him to let you know where he's coming from if he wants to continue on in a relationship or give up.  And be firm about it.  Stop playing games.
342957
Do yourself a favor. DO NOT DRINK THIS WEEK-END. Go no further than kissing him. Keep ALL your clothing on. It's key you show him that you normally have boundaries and that he needs to respect those boundaries. That way he won't get the wrong idea and think you do it--the first time every time and that if he really wants you he's gonna have to put a little effort into it.
312514
just tell him to friggin go out w/ her and get it over with lol
563148
yes stop being childish\ntell him yourself
777160
Let him know of what behaviour you find annoying.  Go for a walk alone and/or take some time for just you.
971323
I wouldn't allow him to stay in your home. Tell him you would love to have him over  for dinner but that you're not going to be opening your home to any houseguests. Be the bigger person - don't do the finger pointing thing. You know you're right, he knows you're right. Move on from this point. If he is civil during dinner then next time he comes into town invite him to stay in your home.
544381
save your breath, interfering battle axe. just accept sis's new cling on. if you are employed, you can contribute to loser boy's maintenance. tell sis to get some overtime, since jo jo the dog boy probably can drink her under the table! or, if you can pick your drunken @ss off the floor, you can try REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY. start hitting on hero boy, and tell sis to back off, he's yours. comment on his nice wallet and harley. make sis jealous by telling her that he wants you.  if all else fails, drug sis's drink. when she becomes unconscience, ask hero for help, because by that time, loser boy will be rifling through sis's purse and pockets! you can always take loser boy aside, and give him a twenty and tell him to leave town!
555859
Cut him off. Act like you don't go out with him. Then he'll be chasing you.
1043408
Use the following magical words and all will be revealed to you:\n\n"Hey!  Wanna go out this weekend?"\n\nIf the answer is "YES", suggest a time and place.  Any other answer, move on.  Let him go.  Don't force the restraining order.
871672
Ask him what he needs the money for.\nHe will say food, coffee, what ever before he will admit it is for booze.\nThen when he does, go and buy him something to eat rather than give him money, at least you will know he had a decent meal instead of alcohol.\nAnd yes your money fuels the addiction if they are alcoholics.\nBless you though for bringing up this question.