is it okay to make-out with ur ex just coz u fantasize abt him all the time-no emotio attached?
609326
you really should fight the urges. i suggest you don't do it especially if you ended bad. it's seriously not worth it. because even if you think it doesn't mean anything if you hook up once in a while, you will just get attached to him again.\n\ntrust me on that one.
652508
IF IT'S OKAY WITH HER.....AND MAYBE IF SHE ISN'T ATTACHED TO SOMEONE.  THEN YEAH, IT'S OKAY TO PLAY WITH YOUR EX.
52087
By all means, if you and your ex had a good relationship while you were together, then I think you definatly should still be friends. My ex and I are still friends and we dated over 4 years ago. Ex boyfriends tend to be better friends that any other person sometimes because they know the real you. They understand you and they do care for you. I don't see anything wrong with it at all. My ex is a better friend to me than many of my other friends are.
506679
Yes and no.. \nIf u like him for who he is, den YES, go ahead.. Who cares about the similarity? \n\nIf you miss your ex and u are going out with the present guy, den NO, cos u will be like taking him for ur ex's substitute.. Jus my 2 cents..
131739
No, probably not.  A lot of people tend to play head games with their ex's just to prove to themselves that they could get them if they wanted to.  Odds are that he is your ex for a reason and that reason probably hasn't changed.
310232
No it is not wrong to feel that way.  Sometimes it is better to do the whole friends with benefits type of thing.  One of my ex's and I did the friends with benefits bit and when we moved on to other relationships we were able to keep the friendship.  It is nice having a guy to talk to about anything, that you know will understand b/c he is your best friend.  I think it is more important to have a best friend than a boyfriend.  It sounds like this guy is your best friend and sometimes when you move from friends to lovers you lose the friend.  So doing the friend thing would be safer but if your feelings are really strong then go for it and if it does not work out hopefully you can still be friends.
260408
yes its possible, (even if he's a big jerk!) but sometimes you've already hurt yourself once you know what the pain is and you don't want to go through it again that you would rather keep it to yourself, not for his sake but for yours. and you might not tell him verbally, but he is your ex so he knows you well enough to know how you feel for him...
937389
Depends.  If you're putting all your energy into thinking about your ex, it doesn't necessarily mean they were right for you - it just means you are obsessed with thinking about them.  Find a hobby or do something to occupy more of your time - and when you start thinking about them - immediately work on changing your thoughts to something else.  Time to move on.
144545
GOOD question. It all depedns on both of your levels of maturity and self-restraint. If you had a good freindship before you might be able to keep it up after. Just be willing to distance yourself from him/her in the event you find someone to be intimate with. It never works out with your current man/woman to be spending too much time with the ex. Too much opportunity for "heart string pulling". As long as you have rules and bounderies things should work. I'm fine with my ex. She has the kids, her new girlfriend...No reason to be bitter. It's just how life panned out. Good Luck!
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Being just friend's is just fine, so long as you don't have sex. If you mix a sexual relationship with a friendship then you only end up with hurt feelings and nursing wounds of abandonment by cuddling up to familar surroundings - each other. Friends are good and friendships are fine.... so long as you just remain friends.\n\nPS - General rule - never flirt in front of an Ex... it's bad taste and shows disrespect.
467012
Yes Hunni its normal....just because we are women doesnt mean that we dont have sensual dreams! :) As far as all the ex's go, they are probably attracted to her because she is putting out an air about her, that she is comfortable with you...that can be very attrractive to men.\nDont spend all your time worring about loosing her, enjoy her whilst you have her. There are no guarantees in life!
529903
You are most likely in for some terrible disappointment if you approach him about this. Do not do it. Erotic love is not love if it is not a mutual. Your imagination has run wild, and you have nothing more than a sweet, old-fashioned, one-sided infatuation with this person.\n\nClearly you do not know him as well as you think you do. If you did, then you would already know how to bridge the subject with him -- OR you would realize that it is not wise. The fact that you do not know how to approach him means that you do not know him well enough and that you have only been fantasizing about him. So the best thing you can do is simply settle the issue in your mind, which is what you will inevitably have to do the minute you open your mouth and realize that you have just made an irreversible mistake.
994835
Why not if u r both in love everything is posibble... Let love flow thrught the air and take all people(exept me-but sombody has to suffer, anyway...!!!
633728
i'm kinda reading your question in a funny way. i'm not sure if i understand it...he wants to be with you but not have sexual relations? hmmm...i still think i might be reading a typo on your behalf. \n\nif that's the case and you fear it has to be attributed to you gaining weight, then i think it is justified to feel concerned. if he is not sexually into you because your size, and you feel awkard and emotional, then state exactly what friendship means to him. if it just means 'i love you but we are just plain old buddies now' then i would probably be inclined to take some time off from him.\n\nlove gets thrown into the equation like butter to bread and sometimes that definition tastes different in others peoples mouths. maybe your tasting a different flavour or the flavour he is serving isn't to your liking?\n\nif you don't feel comfortable being 'just friends' and you think it would be to hard to sustain, then leave the ex where it should be: in the closet along with all past memories. just because you have slept with each other does not mean that the love their can go any further. the emotional state your are in is valid for it concerns affairs close to your heart. take care.
235435
i am guy but i know for sure that my Ex didn't mind doing that - coz i was 19 and she was 30. and she was the first one i had 'it' with. and i ahd a very good time with her, learnt so many things about life from her, i still respect her a lot and we are friends even today! \n\nSo i guess its ok if you as a girl are ok with it and really like the guy.
621439
No, just because there are feelings between you doesn't mean that you are even still compatible. Those feelings are there b/c this person represents the first time you had strong passionate feelings in your life. Just discuss what you have been doing since the "old days" and move on.
357266
i think that it is okay. it is okay to be attracted and have feelings for anyone that you wish. what you need to do now is figure out what you want to do with your life. are you ready for committment, or do you want to explore a little? do be ashamed about your preference, but dont hurt, or lead anyone on in the process