is it ok for my ex-boyfriend to date my best friend knowign that i still care about him?
609148
Well, I hope you're not friends with your best friend anymore because that's not what I call a true friend. She told you she would never go out with your ex because she loved you like a sister, but that's not the case. You should have never dated your ex-boyfriend's best friend either. If you like other guys such as your ex's best friend than you're not in love. You may really like your ex, but there are other guys out there. Your ex is not worth it. Not only is your friend doing you wrong he is to by being with her.
190121
There's no hard-and-fast rule.  The consensus seems to be that it's not a good idea because of the harm it may cause your ex and the awkwardness it may create in the new relationship.  However, if your ex is out of the picture, and it's unlikely you'll see him again, and his status as your ex doesn't pollute the current relationship, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't explore it.  If it's inevitable that he'll find out, and you've been with him for a long time, you should wait a while before pursuing his friend, and you also should consider letting him know your intentions.
108850
There is no possible way that you know EVERYTHING about him.   He has chosen to give you select information.  This one guy I consider my best friend and we talk about everything, yet I still don't know everything about him and neither does he about me.  We have selected to tell what we wanted each other to know.  There is always room to find out more information about him, since he is your boyfriend and your best friend, hopefully.
686096
Most people I've spoken to believe that dating a friend's ex is off limits. Others feel that it is acceptable, as long as you clear it with your friend before anything happens. Even so, it is almost always a problematic situation. If you are really interested, you should certainly feel free to discuss it with your friend. and thats wat ur friend didn't do,she shud have discussed it with u.but anways,u need not worry coz she will b regretting what she did soon.........
614903
how long have you been friends??? frankly, it really should be okay because you've moved on, right? unless, your friend is your bestfriend and she knows how you still feel about him, then maybe that's another question...so, maybe you need to ask your friend what is going on...you know, talk to her or something...but if she's not that close, leave it! like i said, you've moved on right? go find someone else better...someone who deserves you... ^_^
49140
YES! But if possible, come bearing proof! Your friend may be upset and even think you are lying; your friendship may be hurting for a while depending on the kind of person she is, but YOU are her BESTfriend, you should give her the respect and loyality that title deserves. You WILL NOT be responsible for their break up...her man will. Break it to her gently and tell her first that you would never do anything to hurt her unless it would hurt her more not to know. Reverse the rolls...if your lover where cheating on you and your bestfriend knew...would you want her to tell you? How would you feel if you found out and KNEW she didnt tell you about it months before??
509785
Its all up to you but if you trust him enough you should be able to accept him being friends with his ex
615327
AHAAAAAAAAAAAAAN to be very honest with people are making sense in their own way but if you think you dont love your best friend then you dont but since you said your confussed now that tells me right away you do since you know from six years and your always talking about him to this guy who you suppose to be dating so if i would be you i wont let get to my head but yes i would think about it a little plus just wait time will tell everyone and everything so good luck.
1182861
Hmm... Sounds familiar, and I really should (but probably wont) take my own advice. You care or possibly love your boyfriend. And this person is very important to him. They have probably been through a lot together and yadda yadda yadda. So I say you just got to go and deal with it. Trust me, I know it's not easy. But you might find something about one of them that you like. No one said you have to be there best friend.
835268
I would definitely say this guy likes you. but do you want someone in your life that could do what he has done? he is with your EX best friend she is an x and so is he. You sound like a young woman who enjoys life and is attractive. My suggestion to you is remain friends with this guy but nothing more. expand your circle of friends, open your horizons. You may just find a guy that will tickle you and only you, If you continue with this boy don't be surprised if you end up in tears or being used.
559892
chicks before d.icks sweetie. \n\nMost likely you wont be with this person forever, but you have a much better chance of being with your friend forever. \n\nA few years ago I would have told you to just ask her if it is okay...\n\nbut I did that once with my best friend and I dated him for a year. it was a horrible relationship so not only did I go through a year of pain and hurt with the boy, but I lost the only true friend I had, even though she had said it would be okay.\n\nYou know in your heart what you should do..\n\nso follow that.
69872
I've had this situation 4 months ago. We've just talked about it.. I frankly said, that i don't love him. He offered me to be friends. So we are very good friends right now. But I feel that i'm more than just a freind for him...Sometimes i think that it would be nice if we were together but can't do it right now, 'cause i broke up with my ex-bf yesterday. And i don't want to lose my friend.. It's up to a person :)
822702
First of all, your friend has the freedom to date anybody he wants without anybody's permission.  Dont get involved in his relationship.  Unless he talks to you about it and asks your advise.  You dont want to loose a good friendship over something like this.  This is what my bestfriend tells all his boyfriends, "You may not like my friends and I'm not trading my friends for you, they were my friends before I knew you and they will be with me should something happen to our relationship."  For now just go with the flow.  And be happy for him, cause that's all that matters is that he's happy!  Keep being the good friend you are.  Think positive!  Should he freak out if he doesn't already know then worry about it then.  Good luck! :o)
126618
I don't wanna be too judgemental, but I'd never do something like that. However, it all depends on you and on the person you wanna date. And, of course, it also depends on your friends feelings, but, in any case it can be extremely difficult for all people involved. So, in my opinion, it is much easier to stay away from ur bestfriend's ex and not complicate ur life.
651448
I think not for reasons of the heart,cause deep down inside you still have those memories of the good times you had together.Which then could lend to things happening between you two.If you are in a new relationship,the person you are with could get hurt or may not like the idea you are friends with your exs.So leave exs alone and move on.
52087
By all means, if you and your ex had a good relationship while you were together, then I think you definatly should still be friends. My ex and I are still friends and we dated over 4 years ago. Ex boyfriends tend to be better friends that any other person sometimes because they know the real you. They understand you and they do care for you. I don't see anything wrong with it at all. My ex is a better friend to me than many of my other friends are.
1072575
umm stay with ur man u guys just gota do somethign diff to spice things up... from my experience dont go after ur BFF's ex..my ex and i broke up and she went out with my best friend... they ended up breakin up and she tried to get back with me... now i dont like either of them.!! its just not right and could cause a bunch of problems like not ever talking to ur bff anymore and u said he is your friend then if u guys break up u might not be friends anymore.... so stick with ur man!!!