My daughters mood is changing whats up?
605100
Adolescense can be a nightmare for everyone involved and Sara's behavior doesn't sound too strange for a 15year old, but just to be on the safe side you should keep an eye on her and (gently) try to have a heart to heart with her. Someone here posted the possibility of sexual trauma, and that was my first thought also. I work with sexually abused girls so I might be too quick to jump to conclusions because this subject is on my mind a lot, but it is true that major mood swings, changes in appearance and dress (toward a frumpier, less cared for style), changes in behavior (being more withdrawn, crying a lot, going out less etc) and so on can be signs of sexual trauma. i do not want to freak you out unnecessarily, and all these can also be normal signs of teenage hormone storms, but just in case... talk to her or, if she doesn;t want to, send her to a counselor. I wish you much strength! Don't know how my mother ever survived my teenage years ;-)
793554
this is a serious problem, she needs to speak to someone likt a counsellor and see whats wrong with her, she aint happy. and she knows she is being a b1tch. try and sit her down and talk to her, something is affecting her.
592319
Bipolar Disease runs in my family, so I always get a little concerned when my moods shift suddenly.  In your case, I would definately suggest talking to someone...doctor, friend, family...its always best to let someone know where your mind and heart are at.  Hormones can also play a big part in your emotions, especially if your menstruating or are pregnant.  I dont know where your from, but Im from MA., and its been raining here for weeks on end.  The weather can also have a strong effect on your moods.  Be well sister!
866909
Kids can be so confusing and frustrating at times! I have a 9 yr old daughter, and understand what you mean. I think she is just testing the boundaries, and wants you to be consistent. It's hard, and it's also hard not to give in to them just to keep the peace. But it's very necessary not to let her think she's the queen! I think most of us acted the same way as kids, and now our kids are doing the same things to us. Plus, when they see some of their friends/peers getting more than them, it's hard. I try to use that as a lesson as 'life isn't always fair' - she hates that talk! But it's important to talk to your daughter. Share with her your thoughts and feelings, and allow her to share hers. Maybe these links will help a bit:\nhttp://www.raisingkids.co.uk/9_13/pre_htp03.asp\nhttp://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=388910\nBest of luck, and hold strong! That's what she needs most - consistency and love from you.
195761
Suga, I know you are upset, but bringing your daughter into this is not very nice.  If you two split up or have a huge blow out, then she is going to think that she is the reason why Daddy and Mommy are upset.  Just calm down and sit down with your hubby, telling him calmly how you feel.  Maybe you can get something worked out.  Good Luck, and you're in my prayers
1028003
Completely pissed off. I have a 3 year old that I have to stay up every night with and tonite she finally went to sleep. I was so happy that I was gonna get some sleep and actually get to sleep in the bed with my husband and guess what...My friggin step kids are here visiting for the weekend and were so loud they woke her up. They were told to stay out of the living room and be quiet and they were so loud in the living room that they woke her up and now my husband has to go be with her. So, I am in a p*ssy mood. A very p*ssy mood.
491665
It sounds that she might have persecutory delusions, or paranoia. Which is usually a sign of serious mental illness. You need to take her to a Psychiatrist.
399410
i have bi-polar and had odd. i am only 20 years old and completely in control. The best thing to do is to start medication even if it is for just a short time to help her get in control to where she can help herself. The medicine doctor will also suggest counsiling and since you daughter is under age you will be in the room with them and you can talk about things together.
76837
Hey bro, I feel bad for you. It sounds like you have tried working with her about this. It sounds like you have been patient.You are going to need to make some tough chocies.You are going to need to find out what's really the problem ( her not feeling sexy?,is she having an affair?,not in love with you anymore?,have you done something since your daughter was born to make her act this way?,ect..)You sound like you love her and your daughter and don't want to leave. It sounds like she's not willing to kiss, be romantic,or try to see a doctor about this.To me if she just wants to be friends and isn't willing to change then maybe it's time for you to re-think things out about what you what you want in a wife and if this siutation is really good for you and your daughter. If you continue to be unhappy, this will start to effect you much more, which will at some point effect your daughter, which is something you don't want, she's done nothing. I think it's cool that you are trying to keep your family, but you also need to have your needs met. I would keep trying to work with her on this if you feel it's worth it. If there's no change and if she's not willing to see a counseler then mabye it might be time for a change. Love and passion is something that can be worked out if both parties are willing to work things out. Just don't go deep and and get emotional and do something that's dumb. Everyone has bad stories with quick fixes. This is your family. Think things out before you act on them. Good luck. I hope very thing works out for you.
1076275
go with her to a therapist. maybe she has a chemical imbalance
161202
Ah, dear sweet mother that you are, don't you know that as much as you love your daughter, that God loves her all that much and more?  He will grant her peace.  He will show her how much you love her, and help her to understand if there was any unresolved issues between the 2 of you, and come to a certain peace about it.  \n\nYou say she was bipolar.  If this ever caused her to do things that were questionable, I think God would not ever hold those things against her.  Please do not worry over her salvation or anything like that.  God is not so cruel.  Would you ever send your daughter to a place of torment?  Of course not!  And God will not either!  That is pure and simple.\n\nLosing a daughter is the hardest loss that anyone on earth probably ever has to face.  I cannot even comprehend it.  You are feeling totally natural things.  Do not feel guilty for the way you feel.  I wish I could give you some kind of magic words that would ease your suffering.  But I do not know them.  Please know that even now, I am crying for you.  Tears are blurring my vision now!  I feel so sad for you.  And I do not even know you.  But I can tell you are hurting, and that you truly truly were a good mother, even if you are unsure of it right now.  I will pray for you.  Do not feel ashamed to seek counseling in this situation.  No one could be prepared for the loss you've endured.  I bet some counselling may help.\nAnd I'll pray for you.\n\nGod bless you and give you peace.
773176
HORRIBLE!  Keep speaking up! Tell everyone who will listen...and even those who won't!  Don't worry about what they say about you. You are the one protecting your daughter and you have to do what you have to do for her sake.  Don't let your daughter be unsupervised, anywhere.  Make it a rule. You're the mother, you can do that.  You said she is 3, I don't know how well her vocabulary is developed to express her emotional upset.  I would say, continue her counseling!  If you can't afford private counseling, or you don't have insurance that will cover it, there are agencies that have clinics, free.  You might have to make a lot of phone calls, but they are out there.  \nBest of luck to you!  Keep trying!!!
1012304
Please read this all the way through, my heart is with you. I have two boys 10 and 6 that did the same thing (flushing). Charging 10 cents every time I found the bowl full stopped my problem. But your daughter seems like she has hit rebellion already. My 6 year old became very sore and he learned his lesson at 4 about wiping. But with your daughter "dirty down there" is not going to work. She's 10 not 4, don't patronize her, think back to when you were 10. Let's face it we were all picking up info from friends about sex. You 3 parents have to get together as a group and realize she is not a child she is a young lady/woman. Lectures and threats are not going to work anymore. She needs to start making her own decisions, educated decisions. Talk to a gynecologist get facts about what could happen if she doesn't clean up her act. Pictures if necessary, of what these diseases can do to her body. She could pick up staf infection just to name one, and wind up in the hospital. (My husband being a fire fighter had a call at one time about a woman with an upset stomach. She wasn't a wiper either her whole body smelt of crap. When they got her to the hospital because no one wanted to check between her legs (which was where the real discomfort was) they found her vagina was infested, stuffed with maggots.)Please do everything in your power to educate her in a way that will help her to help herself make the right choices. Also is she happy with herself, looks, school, and friends. These are all very important to her right now. If she doesn't have it yet soon she will be starting her cycle. You think you have problems now, wait. This is the summer of change for your family. Make it that way, help her, she needs you all just to hear her, and realize she is not a little girl, or even a big girl, she is a young lady/woman. A new hair style, a light colored eyeshadow if not wearing makeup, a few new clothes, you might want to rethink the panty thing. Is she wearing panties that make her feel like a young lady/woman, or is she wearing widebottomed, widesided diaperwear. Help her to feel different about herself. Chin up, no one ever said this parent thing was easy, but think of the good times, keep an open mind, and email me if you need to. We have all been there in one way or another.
885537
Don't take it to heart.. I don't have a website, but I am a mother of a 2 year old, and a 3 month old... Being a mother is HARD WORK...as I'm sure you know.. And feeling sexy is the last thing on one's mind. When she lay's her head on the pillow, I'm almost positive that she is asleep 2 minutes later.. Things will get easier, and she will go back to her sexual self, but until then, just let her be, because you if you put too much pressure on her, she will just treat it as a chore.. You may want to try to get a sitter for the evening, and take her out.. Dressing up is not so much fun either but once the clothes and makeup are on, she will feel much better. You don't have to spend any money, just go for make dinner and go the beach, or park or somewhere, even your back yard and eat together. Get a bottle of wine to help her relax, and just have fun. No talking about money, kids, work.. ect.. I promise, this is a sure thing!
598475
There r many things that it could be. Try sitting her down and talking 2 her. They tend not 2 listen if u don't sit them down. Try not 2 yell and be direct. Good luck
1119846
Their brains are going through the largest change since toddler hood.  There is so much going on in there and they haven't learnt how to process it all yet.  You sound like you have a good attitude towards it, keep it up, this too will pass!
1093294
Maybe she is just disagreeing with u alot!?\n\nNo seriously, my daughter used to do it.  As long as she is developing normally, i.e pulling up to stand, trying words etc etc, I wouldn't be worried, my daughter grew out of it.\n\nIf your concerned see your paediatrician.