I am open minded  honest man  living in very conservative society . How does I can cope with my society ?
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You have the right to have your own beliefs and thinking, but you have to go along with the rules of the society you're living in. You have to abide by the rules or you'll get yourself into trouble, if you can't then look for somewhere else to live, which will have social rules that are a closer match to your way of thinking.
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Dude, its never easy and been where you've been. Lot of internal struggle huh? First, consider your age. You don't say but I assume a minor. If you are solely dependant on them for shelter, food, education and everything and you are unsure to what extent the risk factor is of them throwing you out, wait. Minimum wage will not support your housing, food and basic necessities. You'll be turned out to prostitution in no time. Unless they have a better than average idea that you are gay (parents know but can live in denial) ie ever have girlfriends, have "the accent", effeminate, etc. (would you just be saying the obvious) If that is not the case, and even if it is. Go to the library or if you have some money. Buy a couple of books in the GLBT section on coming out to parents, and parents who have been come out to. These will answer questions for them that you might not feel comfortable answering, and they might not want to ask. They usually say things like being gay is normal, homos are not perverts, the misconceptions you have about homosexuality are wrong, etc.\n\nSecond the act of coming out. People usually gauge their reaction on how you react or act. Do not do it on a holiday, or family event. This is kinda a personal thing that you might want to sit them down (take a breath you're a man who's doing something that's hard for men twice, three times your age) Try not to get emotional, and calm them if they do.-for crying, anger you can't do much about except stay calm. Have an honest conversation with them. Ask them questions to lead up to it. (have you ever wondered why I've never had a girlfriend? etc) If you're catholic, there's something to download called "always our children" I think. \n\nThe conversation is going to go where it's going to go. But if you remain calm. Hold your head up. Answer questions honestly yet non graphically. Soften the blow and make them feel as comfortable as you can (books, the right answers to their questions, etc) They'll probably have concerns over AIDS so relay that you use or plan on using condoms. (go buy some) Just be ready to dispell some stereotypes and misconceptions on homosexuality. Relay that you are their son, you love them and because of that you find it hard to lie to someone you love about who you are, and you feel that they have the right to know the person they love.\n\nGood Luck, wish you all the best in the world. \nKeep your friends close, you'll probably need their support.
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Be courageous.  Don't waste time caring what other people think of you, concentrate on what you think of yourself.  Believe in something bigger than yourself, and understand that one day we will all have to answer for our choices.  Be kind.  Laugh.  Give yourself permission to love with your whole heart.  Thank God everyday.
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How can YOU improve OUR quality of life....\nLead by example  :-)  Use your manners, be socially acceptable, dress appropriately, act appropriately.  Choose your words carefully, apologize where apologies are due.  Turn the other cheek.  Be forgiving.  Learn from your mistakes.  Don't blow things out of proportion (ex.  Me, when something bad happens:  Well, that sucked.  What's next?).  Refuse to engage in conflict, especially petty conflict.  Express your opinion, but do it nicely.  Make your morals and values known, but only if they're not highly controversial.  Don't waste your time trying to change other people, because it's not your problem.  Don't waste your days away trying to fix their problems, because they're not yours to fix.\nEverything in moderation; this is not simply superficial  ;-)
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don't worry - everything you want to be is ok. its your decision - even though sometimes it get hard if you have people around you who would not accept your lifestyle....
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Do some introspective thinking and find out what *you* want. Let loose and party for hours without caring about a thing. Learn to accept people for who they are and find people who accept you for who you are, not what they expect you to be. Surround yourself with things/people/surroundings that make you feel at peace. Never forget that you only live once, and anything you've been dying to do, or think of spur of the moment, don't let fear stop you, go do it. All in all - live lively.
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Look, I feel attacked for my beliefs, too, but being in our position is very difficult. We need to be good, loving, turn-the-other-cheek, WWJD people while fighting evil. And the fact that Christianity and Conservatism has been hijacked by those who would do their own evil will above the good of this country and her citizens, doesn't help much either...we're in bad company...even though there are many good people who are both Christian and Conservative.\n\nOne problem is that many people say that Jesus was tolerant. He was tolerant of people that broke God's laws because they didn't know any better. That is how he brought so many to believe in him....he showed them compassion....but he never said "You have been saved, now go back to the life you were living." He said, "You have been saved, now go and sin no more." He also never spoke against any of the Jewish laws forbidding sins such as adultery, homosexuality, stealing, prostitution, etc...he never said any of that was okay, just that if they were willing to turn away from their sins, they could be forgiven. Most people that like to say Jesus was a liberal don't think of those two points.\n\nAlso, Jesus would never say that abortion is okay. There's just NO WAY that would have happened.\n\nHe would have been for the death penalty IF we could find an executioner whose life was without sin.\n\nLiberals want to hijack Jesus for their vision of "tolerance" but not look at the laws that Jesus himself abided by...the laws that his FATHER made.\n\nLastly, it's just too convenient and easy for these liberals to cast stones and try to place blame and find fault then it would be to really address the issues that conservatives feel are most important.\n\nYou're not alone! God Bless!
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Practice the Golden Rule. Live your life the best way you can and hope that you are on God's side. That's the traditional interpretation of doing God's work.\n\nThe contemporary view seems to be self-righteous and narrow-minded and try to force other people to live your way.
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absolutely not!!! i was raised in a conservative christian home and i rebelled when i moved out on my own. i now regret that i will not be able to share that with my husband when i marry. there is nothing wrong with being different. it takes a lot of courage to stand up for what you believe in and caving in to pressure is not a good reason to do anything and will only make you regret any choice you make under pressure more. anybody can cave to pressure, it takes strength and courage to go against the mainstream.
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The best advice I will give is to live your Christian life openly. Don't be judgemental or intolerant. As my youth pastor used to say "you may be the only Bible some people ever read." So keep that in mind as you go about your day. Stay focused on practicing your religion. Take the time to listen to your family members about what they believe and how they experience God. Just listen. There is a great value to listening, so many people forget that. A lot of people have more respect for people who take the time to listen and get to know what they believe. If you don't understand something they are saying, it is okay to ask for clarification, but don't judge or put down their beliefs. Just listen. Keep doing this. Eventually they'll start to ask you what you believe if they're curious. If they've been watching you and how you live and go about your life, they may start to get curious. When beginning to start to tell them what you believe (when they ask...remember no one likes to have someone tell them information they haven't asked for) make sure you make it clear that this is what you believe. What I mean is, don't make references to what they believe. Just state what you believe. This keeps you from showing signs of intolerance, disrespect, or that you are judgemental. Continue to take the time to listen to them. Ask them about their beliefs, why they believe it. Ask them about their spiritual experiences. That sounds odd, but all of us have them in some form or another. Sometimes we can explain them through our religion, and sometimes we cannot. You are getting personal with them and building trust between them and yourself. Be willing to answer questions about yourself, but never feel like you have to defend your believes or offend others. If all goes well, they will start to inquire more and more, they may start to go to church with you, they may want to read the Bible and that will open even more questions for you to answer from them. Don't always be so quick to answer questions. Sometimes you'll be asked questions that if you answer right away you might later regret answering the way you did. If you feel like you need more time to ponder a question, be honest and let them know that you'd like to think of how to give the best possible answer to their question. Most people will be understanding. DO NOT GET INTO RELIGIOUS ARGUMENTS. I can't stress this enough. Most religious arguments are not actually about spirituality, they are about ego. Be strong enough to step away from them.\n\nThis is my advice to you as a former Christian missionary turned Hindu (coincidently). What I have told you I have found to be much more effective at helping people in their spiritual life and helping them look more closely at what they actually believe. As a Christian I'll admit that I did get into trouble with my church who was more interested in gaining more members for revenue than it was about truly helping people spiritually (I took the words of a pastor there to heart when he said that "a hospital is a place where people go when their physical bodies are sick to get treatment, a church is a place where people go when their spiritual bodies are sick to get treatment.") I also still am friends with a great many Christians. They are all very tolerant and respectful of other people's beliefs. It is not that they do not want to 'save' people, they just have realized that being judgement, intolerant, and condemning people or even trying to provoke fear in them doesn't really seem to very effective. Respect, patience, and tolerance seem to work a lot better (remember tolerance means that you acknowledge their religious beliefs, it does not mean that you accept them).\n\nAnd most importantly, pray for your family. Be thankful for them, but also ask Christ to help you. Take time to not just pray in the sense that you do all the talking, but also take time to sit
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Open you´re eyes ands ears, first what kind of man you want.\nIf you want a spiritual hard working men it more easy to find in a group who help kids or work for free in non-profit organization, instead of a bar. Be part of a group for goods things in this environment you can meet nice people and be better person, or be part of people who share you´res hobbies or sports.
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It's true that most members of society didn't really accept gay culture yet but given more time, I'm sure everybody would say, "Who cares!"\nIf a person is gay, let him be himself. It's like being a lesbian too. As daily life gives me more problem I could handle why do I need to care about other people's lives?\nBe yourself and learn to be open minded....that's what the cure to some bigots out there....
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stop acting.\nactually, the point of living in a community is the greatest good for the greatest number.\nit is assumed that you will get stuck in to grab your share.\nif you think it sucks, which it does, you still have the problem of your own survival.
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No, i'm afraid i'm not, deep in my heart of hearts. I can't seem to completely shake the predjudice i was taught as a child.  There is still a little voice somewhere in my head that reminds me at times. I guess the important thing is to honestly try and not give up on attempts to banish ones' prejudices, being aware that others probably have intolerances toward us too. More knowledge is needed.
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I think it's pretty normal.  You are obviously secure in yourself and don't need the judgement of others.  You are tolerant with a kind of a "let it be" attitude.  Like any of us have opinions that matter anyway.  You're fine.
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I agree, people who are close minded, will never accept, any thing you might have to say to them.\nBeing open minded will allow you to accept most anything, or at least look at that matter, with an open mind.
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sometimes society is not so realistic. pick up a newspaper for proof. Most important is what you as an individual feel inside. And how you would like to contribute to society. but it all begins with you. For instance, what do you see for the future and how can you help make it better? Sounds like a big job. don't worry. take a small bite and make it better!