How do I get sole custody for my children their father is an unconvicted child molester?
605698
honey, here's some resources, but this is serious legal stuff & noone who is here unless they are a lawyer specializing in family law in your particular state can help you....you are really going to have to seek true legal help from a professional.\nbest of luck for you & my thoughts will be of you\n\n♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀ ♀
1009435
I really don't get why only one child was removed from your custody and not all three... is the child that was removed, the only natural child of the man who brought the order against you, or are all the children his biological children?  And if you can't afford an attorney, you need to get to your county's Mediator and/or Court Facilitator A.S.A.P.  (look in the phone book's gov't section for your county and check under the Superior Court or Family Court heading for these listings)for help with your case.  Again, good luck!
1180183
Usually a parent who has been absent ( away from the child for jail, prison whatever) that wants to legally establish ( get ) rights for visitation\n\nAlso if you are unmarried it is the father trying to establish his rights.He would be required to do DNA test to show paternity.\nHe then would be required to pay support and could  get visitation, ( custody) etc.\n\nAnd anything filed in court is a petition... You are asking for something is what it meens\n\nIf he has been removed from the child ( not around at all and no support etc) and there is another "father" like you ar e now married and lets say your kid is 12 and the birth father has never been around etc. You may have a case to prevent him from getting visitation.
463119
Only one person can have legal custody of the children.  Whoever has the most recent custody order has legal custody of the children.  \n\nProvided the court that issued the most recent custody order had jurisdiction to do so, its ruling counts in every state.  \n\nThe basis from this comes from the full faith and credit clause of the constitution.  One state can't ignore a valid ruling from another state.\n\nIf your dad has the most recent custody order and yo go get your kids, its kidnapping, if you take them across state lines, it become a federal offense.  You better make sure you know what you're doing before you take any action.
1051590
Ok, I am a gay man. I have no kids of my own, but I have lived with a partner who had children. My partner worked long hours and I took up the role of being the main parent. His children referred to me as their other daddy. I was proud to be this to them. Here is what I advised them.\n\nFirst, any type of fighting or physically violence is wrong. If at all possible teach yourself and your brother to walk away from the fight. If certain bullies persist tell your principles. They have to act upon it. If they do nothing your parents can go to the school board and have it acted upon. If the school board does nothing then you can have the school board, and the parents and the kid in courts. You need to be brave and stand up for you and your brother and your fathers. Be proud of them and who you are. A family.\n\nThey other thing you need to do is continue to talk to your fathers and tell them about your fears. They will listen. If the situation is bad enough, one or both of them will take some sort of action to help you and protect you. If it comes down to moving away then so be it. But running away from a problem has never solved the problem. Be strong, and God will be on your side, for you are in the right here.
600769
Sounds like you are NOT a biological parent, but somehow raised the children as a custodial parent.  That is not good news for you.  Generally you have little chance to win any kind of visitation. \nI am sorry you will probably have to wait until the children reach the legal age.
343393
Unfortunately I am going through a very similiar situation with my ex-wife.  We seperated a few years ago and she started by pulling a few shaningans like that off.  All I can suggest purely as one dad to another is to maintain the best contact that you can and when you do contact your children let them know you love them and always want to see them. \n\nMake it clear that if they were expecting you, that their mother must have made a mistake because you had not planned on being there that day, not because you do not love them but because you have work or necessary things to do.\n\nLegally stopping someone from slandering you with your children I dont believe is possible.  It is truly more of a question of guilt tripping your ex and explaining to her though her intentions are against you, they are more then likely more likely to harm the children.  Children with seperated parents that do not get along are more then likely to be involved in crime, or have poor grades in school as well as a plethora of other things.\n\nMost of all, I feel for you completely.  Maybe if it is possible file for custody?  If you can somehow accuse your ex while on the phone and record some admittance of slander the courts will surely find in your favor?\n\nFinal thought.  Do what is best for your kids forget about getting back at your ex or doing what she wants you to do (which is probably run away and never see the kids again).  Your kids need you in many ways, and writing to them constantly and contacting them VIA phone and visiting as often as possible are the best things.  Be so much a part of their lives she cannot lie to them.
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Maybe your local child protective services agency can help you. They deal with this sort of thing all the time and can tell you what you need to do. \n\nI would get notarized affadavits/statements from anyone who has information about this man. Also, you can demand a DNA test if there is some doubt about whether he is the father.\n\nGood luck. It sounds like you are the best hope for these children.
822850
Well this is what u need to do. Go to the court house have the dad sign over custody then u will have temporary custody intill the next date when u gey full custody.
497799
I have known other people in similar situations as you are in. One close friend was accused of molesting his daughter by his ex wife. She reported him a few hours after a custody hearing in which she lost.  The child said her father never touched her, the ex and prosicutors convinced a jury the child denied the abuse because she was afraid of the father. He is still in prison for a crime the victim said never happened.  The child is no little kid eather, she was a teen. \n\nPeople need to realize just how false accusations not only hurt the accused but the children too. I wish Americans would wake up and see this sort of thing happens all the time.\n\nThis makes me wonder just how many innocent people are in jail. These people are not going to get freed by DNA testing because there is none. Part of the reason why I became a civil rights activist.\n\nI think CPS has become a tool of the devil and is used to take control of our children. If you can control what the children think you can take over a country. Just look at how uneducated our society is today on Constitutional rights? Your situation is a prime example of many constitutional violations yet we as a society continue to allow it.  Why?\n\nI am sorry I can't give you an answer to quickly solve your problem. The only advice I can give is lots of prayer(and it works no matter what your religous beliefs are) and get a good attorney with experience in these types of cases.
576937
1. Contact an attorney in your state.\n2. Pay your child support.  I won't even go into what I think of parents who have no desire to support their children...
30044
Absolutely not, he has no relationship with them according to the law. He is not their father, not even as step father. You have nothing to worry.
290022
if the childs father doesnt want to be around his son then don't worry about him, because he is a deadbeat father. What you should do is be there for your child and to stop worrying about the father obviously he wasn't man enough to have the responsibilty so don't press him cut him out of you and your childs life for good or else it will cause problems down the road
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Keep calling the police and department of child and family services.  If you have any contact at all with your children you need to impress upon them that if daddy is abusing them then they should speak up and not to be afraid of what he might do if they do.\n\nContact safeharbor or a victim's assistance program for other tips.  If he is abusing the children and dcfs and the police refuse to do anything about it their butts are going to get grilled if anything does happen.  Talk to a supervisor at dcfs or a sgt or lt at the police station.\n\nKeep written logs of anything you see or anything your children tell you with exact dates and times.  Follow your husband.  If he ever drinks to excess and drives with the children in the car he is guilty of child endangerment.\n\nAll you can do is remain vigilant.  Of course you're a parent and with that goes certain emotions and such, and while I do not condone the behavior, if you feel your husband is really giving these kids some harm and the authorities blatantly refuse to do anything you may think about taking them.  But again that is extreme and illegal, and when/if the authorities find you you'll never get to see your kids again.
105321
Contact your local District Attorney's office or Family Support office if your state has one.\n\nIf they can't help you, I'm sure they can refer you to someone who can. \n\nBest of luck!
832941
I'm assuming your question is...how do I go about obtaining this...\n\nFirst of all anyone can file for custody of a child (no matter their relationship to the child) if they believe that it would be in the best interest of the child for them to have custody. However, visitation is a little more tricky.\n\nYour first  step should be to contact the family court in the county where the child has resided for the past six months. Request a UCCJEA (out of state) custody/visitation petition (they are usually exactly the same, you just have to check different boxes). You can then take this to your attorney to complete or you can complete it yourself. They are not difficult to complete. You may be able to obtain the petition forms on-line or ask them to fax or mail them to you. MAKE SURE YOU GET THE OUT OF STATE PETITION! This is needed if any of the parties live in different states. The judge will need to verify jurisdiction.\n\nYou will have to either submit the completed petitions in person or you will have to have them notarized and then sent certified mail to the Family Court in Texas. The court clerk will give you your court date and time where you will plead your case to a judge, proving to him that it will benefit the child for you to have visitation or custody. You will want evidence and witnesses to testify as character witnesses on your behalf.\n\nIf the other party agrees then the process is fairly quick and simple. If they do not agree and  refuse to compromise then expect the process to get sticky. You will want to find a local lawyer or request a court appointed attorney to plead your case. Most likely if the two lawyers can not reach a compromise then the case will go to trial, which can take anywhere from 4 months to a year (or longer). \n\nIf you are requesting only visitation then know that in many states there is no such thing as grandparents rights (research this on-line for your state before trying to plead this). You may have to settle for visitation when your daughter has scheduled visitation. If she has no visitation then you can request that you be given her visitation so the child can have a connection to his/her maternal side.\n\nThe best advice any of us can give you is to speak to an attorney with family law experience in the state where the child resides. That would be Texas if the child has been there longer then 6 months or their previous state if they have not.\n\nBest of luck.\n\nAlso note: on the petition you are the petitioner and the respondents are both paternal grandparents, the bio dad, and the bio mom (unless either parent has given up their rights) and if child services is involved you will also have to list them as respondents. You need to file against all of them (not just the paternal grandparents) to make your petition valid.
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I'm sorry this is happening to you and your children. Dead beat dads really make me mad. \n\nLegally...you are well within your rights to go back to family court and file a custody modification. You can pick up the petition at the family court of the country where you and the children reside. Take the petition to your lawyer or complete it yourself (they're pretty self explanitory).\n\nYou can then modify the custody to either suspend his visitation completely, or you can make some provisions that if he doesn't pick them up within one half hour of the scheduled visit is canceled (so he can't just randomly show up). \n\nSite the reason that it is emotionally damaging to your children to have inconsistent visitation. For the next few visits make sure you have a credible witness in your home or at the drop off site. That way, he can't come back in court and say you are refusing him visitation.\n\nIf you don't care about child support or if you aren't recieving any, you can petition the court to eliminate his parental rights. This is easier to do if he is not only not visiting, but if you also have a husband or boyfriend who is willing to adopt your child. The court does not like to bastardize a child (their words, not mine).\n\nJust a warning, usually just the threat of court action causes most men to start seeking visitation again. So, only take action if you aren't worried about that. And the child support increase that another poster was talking about is not true in all states, so talk to a lawyer if you can. If you can't afford one, speak to your local Legal Aid Society or request a court appointed attorney (they do have those in FC).\n\nAnd on a personal note....kids are pretty perceptive. If you see yours being effected by all of this, consider family or individual counseling. There are free counselors available to your and your child.\n\nBest of luck!