I think my co-workers are talking about me behind my back, how can I find out what they are saying?
606181
Buy one of those voice-activated recorders,\n hide it where they won't see it.After work,get it and take home with you.Check it and listen to what you have.
223415
she sounds like she is hoping to catch someone doing something wrong.\nShe sounds creepy.\nJust ignore it and mention it to her supervisor if you can do it casually. Just laugh and say it's funny that Ms. so and so is always watching you whatever you do, like you are just mentionign it, not really accusing her of anything.\nbut otherwise just try to ignore it.
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That's right, it depends on the context of the sentence.  (Obviously, your co-workers are swearing.)  I'd talk to each of them about it, since you've already gone to your supervisor. Depending on how you approach them, they may stop for you. \n\n.
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It's obvious that this man is no longer your "friend". \n\nThere's not a whole lot that you can do in this situation. You cannot control what he says/thinks/feels. You can control, however, your own feelings and reactions. \n\nMany people react this way because they feel that you're a threat (perhaps you got a raise and he didn't, or you received  an employee of the month and he didnt). Maybe you've done something in the work area that has hurt him in some way. \n\nRegardless of what the situation is, you can't control his action, ever. Don't deal with it. Ignore him if that is possible. You can also speak to your boss about the situation and ask that either he be removed, that you work different shifts, or that you work in different areas. \n\nRemember that the more you react, it's likely, that he will continue to be immature and will continue to spread rumors. Also remember that the more you react, the more your co-workers will begin to believe him, or will begin to dislike you because of rash behavior. React calmly and let your boss, "friend", and co-workers know that you are the more mature and that none of this is true or your fault.\n\nI hope this helped, best of wishes.
1080596
I have some gaps in my work history.  They aren't questioned.  If they do question, just say you were working outside of your profession, SAHM, federal prison, etc.
512018
lol it meens somebody is talking about you. Well atleast thats what i heard
774279
write down everything that happens and who was present when it happened. \nTell your boss you are offended by the comments. \nIf it continues, contact the EEOC in your area. \n\nhttp://www.eeoc.gov/\nhttp://www.eeoc.gov/types/race.html <---defines a hostile work environment based on what you typed.
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I work in Human Resources and we had this problem about a month ago. I always say - We can't see everything that goes on at work so our employees are our eyes and ears.\n\nI say report this information to the boss because if your co-worker is not being reasonable across the board and she is showing favoritism towards this other person. Your boss needs to know. \nAlso, I would read up on your employee handbook, make sure your employer has something stating they have anti-retaliation guidelines, that way if you do report anybody it can't hurt your job.
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They are only talking behind your back to make themselves look better.  People who talk about others are always trying to make themselves look better in someone else's eyes.  Guys also give each other a hard time and not think too much about it.  Maybe you should just ignore this kind of behavior.  Don't practice it either.  As you say, they are being immature.  Be the mentor, not the little kid.
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If you have an anonymous system for employee complaints, then use it to bring this to their attention. This kind of stuff isn't conducive to a healthy workplace, I would think someone in upper management would want to know. However, if you are working in a smaller company, you will have to decide if you feel its safe to speak up or not. \n\nNo, its not normal.
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You DO have legal recourse, regardless of anything you may have done to pizz her off.  She might just blow away if you were to confront her and answer her questions and take her hostile comments so she she could get it out of her system.  Then again, she could cut the brake cables on your car.  Obviously she is obsessed with knowing fine details about who you are, and is in a poor state of mental health.  Such people can be very dangerous.  Get in touch with local law enforcement now and ask them what can be done.  Your coworkers are witnesses.  The police are there to protect you, not to judge you.
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This a deep office ethics verus common morality.  Confronting your co-worker verbally in private maybe taken as show of strength perhaps even agression.   A good course of action would be to confront her in front of your co-workers in calm and even tempered logical manner.  If she doesn't like you and spreads rumor she'll come out as agressive or defensive.  The calmer your stay saying comments like "Your behavior lately has been childish and unprofessional."  and "Such action is unwarrented, if you have greivence against me bring it to my attention and we can work it out"  Nine times out of ten the other person will come out with defensive remarks making them look bad.  They might even reveal their problem with you.  Good luck  and stay calm rumours can only bring you down if you sink with them.
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You have to be honest but delicate. Choose your explanation very carefully. They will find out anyway when they call your previous employer. If you are honest, they will appreciate that fact, however; you need to be careful how you explain the situation so they don't think that you can't get along with others. Just be honest.
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Are these issues about other employees that you don't know or from office gossip?  I would learn to do my job and feel the place first before voicing opinions.  They may start seeing you as a trouble maker and avoid you later.  Try to use your past experience in ways to benefit your current position to perform and excel your duties, then they will see you in a different way to listen more from your performance. Remember action speaks louder than words.
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If it's something that can't be proven by continuing to do your work and be ignored, then I would ask to speak to your immediate supervisor and explain the situation and that you are worried it will affect the company and ask for their advice. That way, they know you are aware of it, that it is untrue, and that you are concerned about how it makes the company look.
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Other people knowing what your up to
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I absolutely hate it when that happens. I always try not to get involved, but if I have to, I end up bitching someone out. Just don't get involved, and make it clear to your co-workers that you are not involved. Make sure they understand that they are both your friends and you will not take sides, no exceptions. I am usually very firm when it comes to these issues, because you're right, it IS high-schoolish. I have very little patience for this kind of thing, and all my friends know this.