Why did my husband come back after cheating, get me pregnant, and now wants to leave again?
602013
Honey you have to let go of him and remember why he left. He wants women and he doesn't want to settle down. Give him freedom and love yourself. Women are strong and should never allow a man to break them..............
724572
Aww honey its okay!! Feeling like this is perfectly normal but cheating twice?? I would say take him back if this was his first offense but honestly I dont even know the guy and know that he will cheat again..I'm sure you still care about him and have feelings for him but if he cared for you the way you care for him then he wouldn't have done the things that he did!! You can do better and he will be feeling ALOT worse than you when you move on and know that life can go on without him...I've learned the hard way and always forgave but now I have a baby and what started off with a little cheating to ALOT he didn't stop and would try to lie after a night of romance and come home to his daughter and me..Leave before it becomes something more..A promise just cant be believed anymore..Good luck hun and hang in there..Time heals everything :)
551470
Eek...I've been there done that...actually quite a few times!  you know it's wrong, and I bet that when you're at home by yourself you get really upset thinking about how wrong it is...and then you're with him and all of that flies right out the window, right?  That's what always happened to me.  It never worked out in my case, he never left his wife no matter what he had told me...and in once case, I got pregnant and he still stayed with his wife.  I don't regret it because I have a baby, but it's hard to do it on my own...so just keep that in mind as well.  You'll have to reach a point where you just get fed up with him being with another woman (his wife).  I hated to share him with her...but to make it stick, you'll have to break it off when you're really ready.  Good luck...and e-mail me if you want.  I know what you're going through!
458445
This is DEFINITELY cheating.  He is witholding true and faithful committment from you.  I would confront him, insist on counseling, and set some ground rules until he has proven that he is once again worthy of your trust.  Good Luck!!!
692292
You haven't said anything that makes it sound as if you should take him back.  And as Dr. Phil says, kids would rather be from a broken home than live in one.  Why on earth would you want to take him back if he hasn't been good to you and your kids?  And what's the story with your husband - are you still with him or planning on leaving him?
1022606
He has cheated on you. He will blame you because you are across the country but it is him not you. There had to be something wrong with your relationship before you left for him to do this. Cut your losses and move on to a person who will love and respect you as the person you are.
724262
He is just trying to make you take the blame for his behavior.  That is how abusive men work and make you think it is all your fault.  He obviously does not care about you that much if he just up and leaves and puts all the blame on you.  You are better off leaving him and getting your kids away from a man like that.  They will either be abusers or take abuse from someone else.  He walks all over you and guess what, your kids will to as long as you keep them in that environment.  Your husband is a horrible role model and so are you for putting up with him.  You can't save your marriage because he does not respect you enough to stick around and work things out.  GET OUT NOW!!  I pray that you will take people's advice and put you and your children first.  I get mad at my husband all time but he does not treat me they way your man does.  Think about all the healthy relationships you know of and compare yours to them.
791632
You deserve much better than that, honey.  I know after 10 years it would be hard to leave, but that might be what you need to do.  One of two things could happen...you could possibly move on and find a much better life, or you husband would realize just how much he's lost after you are gone and come running back.  Either way, you should do something.  You can't just sit around and let your husband think that his actions aren't affecting you.\nGood luck with whatever you decide and stay strong!
651006
Well what exactly is the problem?  Surely the child can't be the problem in and of itself.  Were you married first and then he had a baby on you?  I'm assuming that's it because if he had the baby first then you already should have known about it. \n\nBut seriously, the child is here, nothing you can do about that.  If this man broke your trust and was infidel then you have two options. 1. seek marriage counseling and try to stay with him, or 2. divorce him.   I mean what other options do you really have?  Whatever you do, please don't take it out on the child! Or get into a pissing contest with the other woman.  YOUR husband made vows to YOU, she didn't.  HE broke the trust, she didn't.  Even if she pursued him, HE is the one who stood up before God and the world and swore to keep himself only to you.  HE alone is the liar.   Just think about that.
1091730
I only read the first two sentences. Why are you with him? I would of left him after he cheated once!!
415007
Don't go back with him. if you did want a baby then you should get married first. but he'll just do it again and i'm sure that he slept with this girl for more reasons then u think
116127
well if you are going to take him back then you have to get over it. otherwise let him go. i cheated with a guy and we got back toghether and he treated me bad because of it instead of like loveing me and us chillin because i was faithful to him for a while and well guess what i did it again and we are now broke up. but you are not wronge to give him another chance. people do change and though it is not an excuse yall were both going through some pretty bad stuff so i mean he could really be sorry. but if he does it again which he may not then leave him unless you want to give him another chance (there is no such thing as to many chances but when you get tired of soemthing you area tired of it) so i hope if he does keep cheating you will leave cause youdeserve better but its really up to you but this could work out for yall and i hope it does. good luck and God bless.
1064692
Emily, first before you can do anything about changing the way you feel you need to find out why he stopped wanting to have sex with you. Sometimes men see us as Mothers instead of a wife when we are pregnant and that stops them, when they are like it this it does break that bond as wife and husband. If he is cheating then you need to find out why he has done this to you and his daughter. Talk with him and not in a accusing way but just tell him how your feeling and that you want to get close to him again. I have no idea why a man would do this.
834570
when men cheat they try and lay blame for the reason on the one who is hurt, the victim. they are just trying to get u to depressed and down and believing it was your falt so u won't lay blame where it really belongs. i would divorce him, and get some alimony out of it. he is not done with this woman yet, he doesn't want to divorce u because he might have to give u too much financially, or split the assetts fairly.
1050641
Baby Girl, I am so sorry to hear about your husband.  First of all, do you feel that your husband has changed, and will be faithful to you when he gets out, can you forgive, and most of all can you forget.  Are there children from this relationship, and if so what is his likely hood of re-offending and you being alone again. Those are the questions you should be asking yourself. If you believe in him and love him, and can forgive and forget, then give him a second chance...You do love him with all your heart don't you!  Jail changes a man, hopefully yours will change for the better and realize what a wonderfull wife he has waiting for him at home. I hope everything works out for you, the waiting is the hard part, Take care and God bless.  If you want to chat with someone in a similar position you can e-mail me   ms_blackdog@yahoo.ca (it is ca....I am in Canada)
596259
Now he's cheated on you, so if you marry him he will still cheat again and again. Next thing you know you have a woman\ncalling your house saying your husband got her pregnant. Or\nladies caling hanging up in your face because he didn't answer the phone. Is this what you want to put up with? \nDisrespect in a marriage? No you don't. You need to think twice before you marry him.
1024304
oh darlin...i'm so sorry for what you are going through.  my husband is not that bad, i don't think...you just need to know for yourself that it happened.  give yourself the power by leaving and knowing that he has cheated.  leave him wondering why you left and if you left just because he cheated on you.  whatever you do, don't put up with that anymore...give yourself that much respect and it will help you down the line when things get hard.  good luck!