whats the best way to get my married boyfriend to leave his wife?
605522
A married man is not going to leave his wife for you. There\nis nothing you can do to make him leave her. That is his wife. they have been together before you came along. How\nwould you feel if you was married and some woman told your\nhusband to leave you? how would you feel once you found out?  You would be hurt. you would be crying and depressed.\nWell that's how his wife would be if he left her for you. \nHe will cheat on you too if he married you. Then divorce you and marry the mistress. Is that what you want to happen?\nBecause it will. It's reality.
426724
no, don't leave him, hold it over his head and refuse to divorce him.  He will be miserable and will have to give you everything you want because you will hold all the cards and totally have the upper hand.
345813
i think the best way would be is to go with what he asks you to do, but never let him get to you. agree to whatever he tells you, but do what you want anyways on your own account.. or with out him knowing.. more or less just letting things flow so u can live at peace. if this approach doesnt work, try discussing things with him, see his point of view and try to understand it, maybe there is a reason as to why he doesnt want you to do certain things. if also this approach doesnt work, save money, work hard, have patience and move out... all in all i think u should be strong and handle this smartly, cause if you rebel hell just be as suprpessive and controlling as he can get. try to work your way to get your peace of mind.. remember that.
607342
im not going to judge you like others...if you love him like you say then you cant help what your heart feels.\n\nhas he been with you while he has promised to leave his wife? how long has this been going on? you need to take these into careful consideration.\n\nin these cases there are a few options:\n1. he stays with his wife while you keep hanging\n2. he leaves his wife and he dumps you\n3. he leaves his wife and you have a wonderful life together\n...is it any wonder why youre so conflicted?\n\ndepending on how long your "relationship" has been going on and how he feels about you (if he claims to love you too) you will most likely have to give him an ultimatum. because if someone REALLY wants to leave the person they married they would do it regardless of what stands in the way. plenty of men have left wonderful wives behind for selfish reasons...so if its just not working out with him and her then he needs to face that and move on.\n\nwhen you give the ultimatum and he says that he cant leave her...then theres nothing more you can do. if he says to wait some more, explain how you cant keep putting your heart on the line to wait for him. and NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT HURTS you must walk away. perhaps it will make him understand the situation he's in and make an appropriate decision - whether its you or her. \n\nand who knows - maybe even if he doesnt make up his mind right away he'll end things properly with her and come back to you. still, unless you leave (even temporarily) he will find it easier to just deal with the two of you to avoid any more drama than whats insued.\n\nthe best of luck to you in this situation - my heart goes out to you! make sure to protect yours!
99302
In all honesty, if he planned to stop, i'd tell you to keep it a secret because you could ruin their marriage...but since he's gunna keep doing it, you have to come clean to his wife.  He's being disrespectful to her and he's being an idiot.  If he loved her, he wouldn't need anyone else and he's probably not even worth being with her...tell her the truth and let them sort it out
14338
* Buy another one for him\n* Ask monthly rent payment\n* Love him and change your mind\n* Make it difficult to live with you at the same home
963296
Just be there as a friend.  Other than that there is really nothing you can do. Be careful though, even though he loves her alot your "being there" for him may cause him to redirect his feelings and after awhile your boyfriend may not understand.  Keep it above board, and be there as a friend and supporter.  Don't aide in putting his wife down because if they end up back together it will put a rift inbetween you two. Good luck, and I think it is great that you are there for him and care enough to ask.  The world would be a better place if more people thought that way.
715749
He sounds like a glutton for punishment! I doubt he will listen to anything you have to say, but for your own sanity get it off your chest and let him know what a ridiculous decision this is and that his wife needs therapy, if she refuses to get it and he refuses to make her get it, then there is nothing anyone can do about it.
717754
If you try to break his marriage, it can result into a fight between u n ur friend.\n\nAll i can advice you is to leave the matter to the married couple. They are mature enough to handle it on their own.\n\nThou i understand you want to help your friend. But relationships are sensetive matters and wifes are often given priority than friends.\n\nFor your friends sake....Leave him alone :P
700993
If you're looking for "an easy way out", you're NEVER going to find it. There is NO easy way out of marriage, especially where kids are involved. What you are going to have to do, is get alone, and decide whether you're better off with him(like he is), or better off without him. Good Luck on your decision!
201876
You cant and you shouldnt have done that in the first place. Thats called adultry and your wife can devorce you for everything that your worth for that. So break it off now with her.
228957
I starte to write something else, but couldn't do it.  If you are that unhappy, get a divorce and do this thing the right way.  Cheating on him is not the answer.
1134339
just leave him\nu deserve sumone better\nhes not worth the trouble u r taking
958487
ummm..leave him.   you needed an asnwer to that?!?!?!?!
416313
tell him "there can only be one FEMALE in this relationship...so quit your b*tchin BOY!"
279652
Best way is to dump your girlfriend. Works every time.
29792
You have every right to break up with them, and are making the right choice in ending it before you get married. Just tell the person that you can't marry her. There really is no easy way to say it, but you are saving both of you a huge pain by cutting it off before it starts. Good job. Most people in your situation get married, and then regret it for the rest of thier lives.