American wife in love w/Indian husband-married only for papers, he has wife and 2 kids in India...what to do??
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First of all if he did not divorce her before he married you...yours is not a legal marriage. The USA recognizes marriages in another country. Secondly, he entered into an illegal marriage with you for citizenship.\nThis poor man just seems to have trouble finding his niche in life. Tell him to stand up if he wants to be your husband or go to see Immigration and see to it that he gets to go home to India. Don't worry there are many men who want a nice woman.
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This is a very difficult situation, as from what I can tell your wife entered London with fake documents.  This means that it is unlikely she will be able to exit and re-enter the country very easily, or at all, in the future.  It is just too risk, she may be caught next time and deported back to India.\n\nIt seems she is studying in London. She probably likes it there.  Perhaps her ability to earn a living there is better than in your home country.\n\nI really feel for your 11 year old son.  He must miss his mother.  There is nothing you can do, officially, to get her back.  She will want to have to come back on her own.  I suppose you can try to get visas to London for you and your son, to see if you can convince her -- in person -- to come back.  However (1) you may not be able to get visas; and (2) even if you do,  even an in-person plea to her to come back home may not work.\n\nIt sounds like you should get yourself and your son into counseling to deal with her departure.   You should also take time to look at your marriage, perhaps it was not a good one, which also caused her to not to want to return home.\n\nGood luck,
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Ayesha, first about your fellow countrywoman's remark: Whats this about winning emotionally and all that..are not politicians doing their job well( of fighting) that we, the common people must fight? Suspicion..and caution are not the same thing. Even I would ask you to exercise caution if you met that guy on internet. Ask anyone you know in India to do some query.\nNow to your actual question: YOu can technically marry an Indian under special marriage acts/foreigner marriage acts ( I am no lawyer but i know the specifics). However, when it comes to India and Pakistan, its a bit complex. Tread very carefully.\n\nCultural difference?? If you get a chance come to delhi..if you can distinguish it from lahore... i dont think i should be telling you all this.\n\nWe all are children of "Ganga-jumni" culture. Do you happen to know that the Indian president is a Muslim? That political compulsions led us to divide our homes, does not mean that we no longer share the same heritage.
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GOOD IDEA.\nWE ARE THE LARGEST USERS OF YAHOO.\n\nONCE I TOO THOUGHT THE WAY YOU DID.\n\nONE INDIAN GIRL TOLD IN YAHOO THAT HIS HUSBAND IS A HEART PATIENT AND HE IS NOT FIT FOR MARRIAGE LIFE.\n\nONE FOREIGNER REPLIED.."GET THE FUCKING MACHINE..OR TELL YOUR ID?"\nIT MAY NOT BE A WRONG ANSWER TO HIM.\nBUT THE GIRL MIGHT SHOCKED.\nIF WE HAVE A SEPERATE CATAGORY FOR INDIAN FAMILY AFFAIRS, THAT WILL BE MORE USEFUL.
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DO YOU HAVE KIDS... AND DO WANNA MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK..SOMETIMES YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE BUT NOT BE INLOVE WITH THEM AND IF YOUR NOT INLOVE WITH THAT PERSON YOUR MARRIAGE WILL NOT WORK I THINK U NEED TO SIT DOWN WITH YOUR HUSBAND FOR 3 YEARS AND TALK ABOUT THE THINGS.. TELL HIM HOW YOU ARE FEELING AND TRY TO WORK THINGS OUT BECAUSE IT IS TO MANY PEOPLE IN THE UNITED STATES IS GETTING DIVORCE... MAYBE YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND CAN GET SOME TYPE OF HELP WITH YOUR MARRIAGE.. LIKE A MARRIAGE COUNSELING **wink**
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It's almost impossible to get a visa just to visit USA from certain countries. If he doesn't have American citizenship, I'm not sure what his options are. \nIf he is American, he either needs to come there to live with you or at least get married there, and then you can go to the American embassy in your country & apply for a petition for an alien relative. You will be asked questions at the petition interview to make sure the relationship is a real marriage. If they determine it is, they will approve your application. Then you can get an appointment @  the embassy for an interview for a visa. Remember your husband is your sponsor and has to show 3 years of income tax returns to prove he can support you here.\nI know these facts are true because my husband is egyptian and we just went through this process. We got the petition and visa approved in a little less than 3 months.\nWhat is your fiance's problem that he can't go to Russia to live? Or to at least marry you there, if he loves you and wants you to come to USA to live? He has to be willing to help you in any way he can. You can't do it alone. If he won't do whatever is necessary, maybe he's not sincere with you. \nGood luck & best wishes to you.\nIf you get to come, welcome to America! It is truly beautiful!
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Married with two kids
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I also met my husband over the internet. I am Mexican and he is from India. We have been married for 2 years now and we are currently living in Mexico.
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You must have seen that program on the News the other night. Man it was something else.  I am dating a man from india i met on a dating site.  Yes their are many and i mean many women in india who are used for sex.  their are many american women over there who are married to india men.. the young children are put in their houses for pleasher this is true. as for the number we will never know this for sure.\n\nWhat i can say is this. When a man is not given a women at birth.. he loses out... when he trys to find a women from his cultral they do not want him do to family, prestrige, and money. so he uses these women an houses for pleashers.  even the men who are married.. here is the reason why?\n\nIndia women are tought to lay on their backs with legs open they are not allowed to make any at all noises. their eyes are closed.  A man is not allowed to look at a women privits or they say a child will become blinded at birth. all the seamon is the womens property. so a man may not do the hand thing. only with wifes permission..  \n\nthe men run to privit houses for comfort for expression of sexual desires. they go to movies and watch pron..\n\nthe women are to be cold and have no feelings.. \n\nso their are many prostutions in india becouse of this out let.. and now they do not have to get married they can stay single and live with each other..  the world is changing.
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You should find out what India's relationship is with the US, talk to an immigration lawyer. You dont have to worry about telling them the truth, they have to keep the meeting confidential. They will let you know if it is possible to get a greencard, and whether or not you would need to return to India and stay there until the government has made a decision. Good Luck!
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is this man divorced???? if not then I don't think u should be seeking advice cuz u cannot have 2 wives in america....and if u r single then you are more then welcome to do what u think is best for you and her....\ngood luck
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marry the one you love. my wife is a sikh and i am a englishman and she had the same problem with her family.  the guy you dont know will treat you like trash so dont do it. stand your ground the world is changing be yourself and do what you want.
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I really feel for you, thats a tough situation.\nAre you sure that you are really in love with him, as you only said that you believe you are in love with him. Be careful not to confuse other feelings for love.\nDid you know he was your uncle before you got involved?\nI know you fall in love with who you fall in love with but there is a brief window in which you can apply the breaks.\nWhat about the other woman he is with? Has he spoken to her yet?\nIf I were you, I would try to steer clear and if he manages to end the relationship with the other lady and keep his relationship with the kids maybe you could think about him again.\n\nI don't know about the law and deformities. I would say no to both questions, but just think of the people involved in this tangled web and how your decisions will effect them\n\nIts tough I know.\n\nGood luck.
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in my own point of view, your husband doesn't wants to have any kind of responsability what so ever, and the first mistake is that to keep details in the past to much time in the dark so once in the light they brought shadows into the relationship....was important is today, and today the things between you both are not been true at least mostly from his side....going to Europe and keeping that poor communication is not giving you and the kids the importance and value that you all have.....put aside that he might change because i see it very difficult to be, he is playing a doble life and he is to into it that he can't see the courage to walk away from it...you need to find the time and put on thought that you are a very precious being and so are your kids to still wanting for something that it might not come, at least from your husband....unbelieveble as it is there are still good men around, chances to look for a better oportunity for you to be TRUELY LOVED and care about and also your kids are possible in the matter of how you work with what you see is the right time and person to share with a relationship....of course your husband might not want to divorce since it will cost child support and (please understand this is my intuition and perspective) if he has another person in his life there in Europe if things doesn't work later on with her he knows you will be there waiting for him to the rescue........it is a very hard situation, but know that the desicions you make today will have an effect for what tomorrow might bring......fight for your own destiny and happiness, and believe in something, there is a Lord above in the Heavens that never leaves his children side, ask and you should received for the sake of you and your family.......lots of blessings and Good Luck
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This is new to me. \n\nWhat is your status? Why does he need travel experience? Did he tried to  to come on work visa or immigration or student or visitor visa?\n\nWhat is his work experience in India, are you officially engaged?\n\nAsk lawyer if you can go to India and get married and how long will it take for him to come to Canada, can he accompany you as husband, you need Canadian Immigration lawyer.  What if he were to come as student and then you get married? Do not take any short cuts, tell lawyer you want every thing legal nothing that is questionable.\n\nSee a lawyer, get and lawyer who has, Indo -Canadian visa experience so he will not charge that much for research and other stuff find the fee structure do not give blank check.
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Many do that & shame on them. You should go to the immigration office, at the US Embassy in India with your proof. They will make copies, listen to you and will punish him, at the INS in America. You could also go on the Internet & find the address of the INS and write them a full letter with your froof of what your husband did. Make sure to write on your letter INS " Investigation Department :. Good luck !
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Oh, no no no...  Stay where you are... I think we have enough people like you in our country as it is.  You will go to hell for this...  Heeheehaha...  Come on dude, be with someone because you love them, not because they are divorced and living in the USA..That's so wrong.