why does my boyfriend look at the old ladys every day at our work?  is he a perv??
604642
men r all the same dnt worry about it ..
948727
Before you married your man you might have wanted to ask if he was looking for a maid or a wife. Most men who are like this tend to have been brought up that the wife takes care of the children and the house. It might have been the way he was raised. Growing up like that he then believes in adulthood that the woman still is that way. It's hard for alot of older guys in this day and age to realize that the sexual revelution is still going strong. I would suggest that you explain to him that you work too...and that it is only fair that he does part of the chores. Maybe compromise and trade off week to week. If he resists...then my suggestion to you is tell him your quiting your maid job and finding another "family" that pays better for the work you do. Then suggest he put an ad in the paper looking for a maid and remind him to be a little bit more forthcomming for the next "applicant" that applies for the job. Good luck to you.
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This is one of those things that it's all in the persons point of view. He may just be viewing it as a form of pornography which wouldn't be cheating at all and may just be getting himself all warmed up for a night with you. OR he's losing interest within what he has and things need to be spiced up a bit. If he starts acting differently towards you than I would seriously consider having a sit down and talk session with him and get both of your view points out and let him know that you don't approve of him watching other girls on the computer while they pleasure themselves.
86885
I am older also.  I like younger women.  I am vain.  I am not attracted to many women my age.  I look great for my age so probably 10 years younger.  In many cases the girl has chased after me. Make sure that he is taking you out and exposing you to culture.  You should be going to plays and concerts and nice restaurants with him.  He should be introducing you to his friends (parents later).  See the book Pygmilian which my fair lady is based.  Your older guy should be expanding your horizons.  If you are just going to cheap restaurants or not really doing anything then you are simply giving it up for the price of a happy meal.
708645
he is probobly checking out your butt. seriously,its one of those "hate to see you go; but LOVE to watch you leave" things. im serious, my bf watches me walk out of the room every time.
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you women are insecure for sure!\nwhen you think you can sense hes up to no good, you are actually falling for your own delusions. you are nutty.\n\nget over yourselves. so if hes on the toilet for too long and doesnt read your insecure "remind me how much you love me" texts, then hes instantly cheating?\n\nyou are not only insecure but have delusions about your importance too.\n\nmate, if the girl you text rates your interest on the reply time, give her a miss, shes insecure and nutty too.
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My boyfriend does a similar thing - but I am pleased he is honest with me. It's when they pretend they're not doing it - and become secretive that there is a problem. If he was to cheat - he would not make it so bloody obvious that was his intentions. Start doing it back to him - have a laugh. Me and my boyfriend used to work together and we both had top five's of the opposite sex in the office. It's made us close, maybe he feels like you're his friend - which means he feels comfortable saying 'Ooh, 9/10 she's hot!' You're obviously his 11/10 - so I wouldn't worry honey.
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I can tell that this issue is really bothering you and hunny, you are tooooooo young for this. You actually sound mad, it was like you were on the phone with me venting while I was reading.\nWell, I am a strong believer in the word and I have read that where the mind is the body follows. Meaning your boyfriend wants to sleep with other women if he hasn't already done so. When he is looking and admiring all thoose other women he is lusting for them.  He shouldn't disrespect you like that and you need to leave.
912275
Yes, it is perfectly normal.  He should not be roving his eye when he's with you...that's just disrespectful.  Of course we all know men love to look....they just don't have to do it when they're with their woman....rude!!
334671
boyfriends come and go, you said one u had a past w/ was one of your friends now, he didnt act like that. this ones not a keeper, your real friends see what we can or dont want to see, they are right, he is controling you , becaus eof him he pushes your choices, the ones that know whats right for YOU are the ones who will beat you up because the sme reasons. beware.. also i have found men who think like that are like that, why would he think that way if he wasnt, im 42 and a hair stylist, i have lived and hear "lifes lessons"
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I know the feeling I have the same problem with a 57 year old woman where I work. She is loved by all and is dumber than a cool bucket. She has the whole office coned. She thinks she can do wrong and so does the people I work for,Good luck to you, best thing to do is ignore her. Smile and go on that is what I do.
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i looks like you might be a pervert.what do you mean bye ...you like to look thru blinds? if you truly want to look at woman then do it with out the blinds like every one else does .just dint stare as that's rude and if by chance you get a look back and a smile then go say hello as well as long as your both adults
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i don't know, but you're not wrong to be jealous, just don't go psycho on him! guys will always look at what catches their attention, just like women. i know i check guys out all the time but that doesn't mean i don't find my man attractive! it's natural to look, just don't stare. don't make it obvious that you're looking. same with him, if he's staring and drooling all over the place call him on it, if not let him look.
1175234
Maybe he likes you. I would caution you, though. My experience is that it isn't good to go out with someone that you work with. How are you going to feel after a nasty split with this guy when you have to see his face every day?
414930
First off, you are allowing him to look through your stuff, big mistake!  Obviously he was gifted with the jealousy gene and you with the "let him do whatever he wants" gene.  So my first piece of advice, stop letting him do whatever he wants.  Trust is a two way street.  If he wants to see what you have in your junk, then he should be showing you what's in his.  However, it's very common for an unfaithful person to try and hide their guilt by trying to find something to blame it on with their signif.  So what should you do?  I'd dump him and get someone who's got self confidence, maybe it will help you get some too.
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Yes, unless your girlfriend or your wife is the porn on the computer he's looking at.  How do you know what he's looking at on his computer? Keep out of his business.
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There's no way for this to not be a two-part answer. Firstly, he's right in that it is human nature for males to notice other females *and* for females to notice other males - it's just an animalistic, survival thing.\n\nHOWEVER, it is *exceptionally* disrespectful toward you for him to admit being aroused by looking at other women, or to blatantly look at other women (especially when in your presence.) It is not at all unrealistic of you to be upset by his behavior and ask him to tone it down. He should care enough about your feelings that he won't want to intentionally hurt you by keeping it up.\n\nIf you explain that it hurts your feelings (and probably your self-esteem) when he behaves this way, ask him to be more discreet, and he *still* doesn't bother, it may be time to look into counseling. This is obviously his hang-up, and he may need help to see the effect that his behavior is having on your relationship. Good luck.