Probs with my ex and the truth with her bf?
598580
step back. tell her that you don't want to play games, because that's what she's doing.\n\nif you are ex's, then the feelings you are having now may be just because you feel like you are getting a second chance at something that didn't work before. think about why it didn't work out before. maybe you don't want to be with her afterall.\n\nthink about what she's doing now. it sounds like she's trying to play you and her "ex/current/who knows" boyfriend. sounds like she wants it all. or the opposite, she doesn't know what she wants, and that's why you are getting mixed messages.\n\nbreak up with her for now, until she figures out what she wants and she can stick to it. if she wants to be with you, then she ought to cut ties completely with her "ex/current/who knows" boyfriend. don't let yourself be in this relationship as it is now, because it's not good for you.
1160813
My b-friend and his ex talked the whole first year him and I were together.  She too broke up with him and I knew she really hurt him.  It drove me crazy too.  1)  I had to decide if I trusted my b-friend or not.  If I didn't trust him then I shouldn't b with him.  \n2) If the two of them ended up together then him and I weren't meant to be.  \nWe've been together for a little over a year, the ex has faded quickly.  Just hang in there, she's an ex for a reason.
972334
If you didn't trust her you wouldn't be asking her ex and why does this bother you so much?  Sounds like you have doubts about her past.  Either accept her story or move on to someone you can trust.
226717
Well, you need to consider a few things first.  Did your ex read the emails?  What were your emails about?  Was there anything that would make your girl think that you were trying to get back with your ex?  Were you lying to your girl?  Did you tell her about the emails or did she catch you "red handed"?\n\nThe best thing you can do is to be honest.  Tell her the situation...the whole truth.  It may take a while for her to trust you, but she may be willing to work with you.  If she does not want to listen or does not want to forgive you, you may just have to let her go.  If she can't trust you (when you tell her the truth), then the relationship can not work.  If you've ever lied to her, you will have to rebuild that trust.  Good Luck.
875932
I'm in a similar situation, and I think your friend needs to figure out whether or not her guy is over his ex.  If he's truly over the ex, and they're really just friends, then talking to the ex shouldn't be a big deal.  If he's still not over her and wants to maintain contact for the hope of a future reconciliation, then your friend needs to get out now.  She shouldn't be anyone's filler or rebound.  The trick is figuring out whether or not he's actually over the ex, because most guys who aren't completely retarded won't be honest.
633676
I know that I won't get 10 points for this answer but it's the one you need to read: \n\nYou need to stop seeing your Ex... The communication that you have with him keeps the spark alive and it's not really fair to your current BF. Frankly, on a level, you're cheating on him and the test of this is: If he knew you were still "friends" and talking, would he be cool with it? \n\nIf you still have a thing for your Ex, you should break up with your BF and go out with your Ex. Here's the thing though: If you have been off and on for so long, how do you think it will be if you marry him? On for how long then off when? Will you have kids when you decide to go off again? What impact will it have on them? This pattern will not end when you marry, trust me. \n\nMy final advice: Quit communicating with the EX and focus on your relationship with the BF. Probably not the answer you were looking for but the right one. \n\nGood luck.
383008
Definitely HERS.  Your ex is just that - your EX.  He no longer has any responsibility to you and doesn't have to answer to you (even though he should no better).  But your "friend" should DEFINITELY know better.  That is just something you DO NOT do to your friends.  She should have come to you and explained the situation and told you that she really likes this guy and asked you if it would bother you if she dated him.  Instead, she snuck around behind your back like a coward.  That is not friend, honey.  Get rid of both of them.\n\nAs for kicking someone's ass - it's so not worth it.
256282
If you don't trust her things aren't going to get any better between the two of you.  My ex lied to me about something HUGE and when he was caught he apologized and I took him back but I NEVER trusted him again and it led to me breaking up with him again.  You deserve to be with someone that you can trust and that respects you.  The best thing that you can do is end this now and stop dragging it out.  The longer that you drag this out the harder that it is going to be on both of you.
823387
Well then just be honest with the guy.  Inform him that you really enjoyed your time with him and that he is very much a gentleman etc, but that you have to find out for yourself if there is anything left between you and your ex.
943358
You mentioned that you were confused with your life. Perhaps you should try getting a better foothold with your own life before you do anything else. Getting back with her while you remain in a state of confusion isn't going to help the both of you. And if you really want to be with your ex girlfriend, I'd suggest you come clean about your feelings to her and your present girlfriend. A girl wouldn't want to patch if you're already seeing someone else. Don't give your ex the wrong impression that you are a 'two-timer'.
595755
Your GF was wrong, but she is upset because she thinks that the ex is trying to get you back, or that you want the ex back. It can be very hard on the GF when the ex starts calling. \n\nYou were kind to talk to your ex when she was upset. But if you want to move on with another woman you need to talk to her (ex) when she is not upset and tell her that she has to find someone else for emotional support, then you have to follow through and not talk to her. Next, even though you were not wrong to listen to someone in distress, you do need to apologize to your GF. Try to explain that you don't want this other woman bac and that you are sorry that your GF was hurt.
236817
Yes, you should tell your current guy.  Other wise, there will be secrets, and questions, and a chance he will think you didn't tell him because you wanted your ex.  Don't get caught up in all the games and hassle just be open about what is going on.
770703
She deserves to know the truth. Keeping it from her will only hurt YOU in the long run. Think about that.
661263
You tell her that what she did truly hurt you, and see how she reacts.\n\nIf it doesn't seem like she's really sorry or just doesn't seem right, tell her you were JK and you're surprised she took the bait. (Lie, but it saves face and makes her mad. Spite is a sin, however.)\n\nIf she seems genuanly (Spllng?) sorry, it should all be good. Just remember, Her BF has priority, she herself proved that.
178120
My ex bf who i thought was now my best friend, is scum. and lying to me, who now has a gf who has a child and he forgot to mention this to me, and i had to hear it from a guy on the internet. \n\nnot everything you learn each day is good.
1065194
Be classy about it.  Do you trust your partner?  If yes, then you have nothing to worry about.  The ex can kick and scream and b**ch all she wants - but all it will succeed in doing is making her stand out as the immature fool that she is.\n\nDon't necessarily take crap - if she blatantly disrespects you a witty quip should quiet her, if not, give your partner a big 'ol kiss on the mouth, whilst hands are wandering over delectable buttocks.\n\nThe other part of my answer is less relevant to the question and more to do with your sanity.  If the ex is to remain a "friend" with your partner, and if your partner truly respects and cares about you, wouldn't you and your partner be well served if your partner firmly outlined boundaries with the ex?  I.e: not drunk dials, no sob stories, no jealousy b.s, etc.  This ex sounds obsessed and I don't know how you can be friends with someone who is still mad for you...and maintain your sanity.  It might be time for the rope to be cut and for you and your partner to move on and leave this head case in the dust.
383721
If she complains about her bf ask her then why are you going out with him if things about him make you unhappy .... ask one of her friends if they maybe know whether she still likes you if they say she does then after she breaks up with her bf go for it if she doesnt break up with her bf in like a couple days tell her how you feel about her :)