Am I doing  my husband wrong if I don't let him go out with his friend on weekends.?
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I don't understand why married men think they still need to go out 'with the guys' once they get married...\n\nAfterall, they ARE grown up, they should act like it... they are not some hormonal college kids out looking for girls or whatever.\n\nThey grew up and got married... they shouldn't be out acting like they did when they were single.  He made the choice to give up the 'single scene' when he got married.  He needs to grow up.\n\nWhy can he not be happy going out with just you?  You are his wife, afterall.   He can still have friends, but what's the problem with them hanging out at the house?  Maybe get together for cards or something like that?  There are lots of things guys can do if they feel the need to 'hang out' together.  Heck, the friend can even bring his wife (and kids, if there are any) along to your house!  That way, you can all hang out together.  Married couples do that all the time!\n\nNo way would I put up with that!  I had a man like that... he wanted to be a husband but still wanted the single life...  and you can't have it both ways.  You either want to be married or you don't.  Simple as that.\n\nHe is not only a husband, but a father as well!  He needs to get his priorities straight!\n\nP.S.~~  Your husband has no problem with the way the friend speaks to you??  Perhaps you should tell the immature friend that you know who wears the pants in HIS family... his Mommy and Daddy!  Tell him to be a man and get out of Mommy and Daddy's house and support his family and back off from yours.\n\nHe has no problem belittling you so I would have no problem doing the same to him.
85860
Of course it is not fair. If your husband is not allowing you to have friends of your own, he is creating a wall of isolation around you and usually that is for the sole purpose of making it impossible for you to stand up to him. If you have any power to prevent it, do not let this happen.
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ask him to take a weekend and just spend it just the two of you you dont need to leave either of you houses either have him spend the night ir come over in the morning and leave late that nite and again the next day have fun things planned and he will see how much fun it is to spend time with you
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try explaining to him your problem.he should behave like a responsible father first.he can't just fool around with you and your kid.\nif his friends come home to stay , just don't allow them.\nmake a big fuss about it everyday.also don't permit him to stay out make sure he returns home.\nwatch whatever he's up to.find out what exactly he's doing with his friends.explain to him he is a father of a 3yr old kid and tell him first to behave like a dad.
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It is difficult to get it all in one go. The days you are working, and weekends are free for you but not for him. Does he need to devote his time to his students evety Saturday? Could he not swap say twice a month so that he can spend time with you and the children?\n\nIm sure there are ways around it, be it him only doing it once or twice a month. If its money, could you not try working a little extra to compensate?Im probably getting this all wrong but without being in your shoes I can only put ideas there.\n\nThere are winners here, the question is are you both prepared to sit down and work it out? In a mothers eyes, we dont see where the problem lies with sacrificing one day a month to go on a family outing.  But this is a man who is obviously devoted to his career and he enjoys what he does.\n\nIt doesn't mean that he doesn't get to see his family in the process.
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My husband is home every week only Friday through Monday. It is hard for me as we have 3 children, so I am basically a single mom during the time he is away.
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uh, why do either of you need your own friends of the opposite sex? Any friends me and Hubby have, are both our friends, (usually other cpls) but we never have over friends of the opposite sex that we are both not friends with. He is 'friends' with everyone @ his work, (male and female) but never hangs with them other than at lunch, or the 1-2 times a yr their is a work party, or Christmas party, both of which I go to with him. One chick tried to get some alone time with him, but he told her no. (this was a few yrs back) I know what she was trying to do and it made me mad as heck, but he thinks she meant nothing by it. Wrong! Guys are very naive sometimes. Sounds to me like she's trying to wedge herself in there. I wouldn't suggest you getting a 'friend' too, I would suggest counciling to figure out why either of you feels the need for seperate friends. I can totally relate though, cause men always assume if you talk about another guy, (like oh so and so did this) or whatever, even when it's nothing, just you mentioning another guy's name, even in telling a story, makes them think you want the guy. But yet they can't see that when a woman hangs on to their every word (like she appears to be) or tries to spend time with a married man, that she is up to no good. A good councelor may be able to help him see that. Make sure you go to one that believes in manogomy though, because I know there are some strange councelors out there that swing and all that though, (saw one on Montel) so be careful where you go. I would definitely put an end to it, though.now.
847647
First of you should have a date at lease as many times as he goes out with the guys.  I would also say as many hours on your date as he goes with his friends too. He should spend as much money on you as his friends. I set no limits on the time he spends with his friends knock your self out I tell him but I am expecting minute for minute and cent for cent for me.  Second dinner is non negotiable that is at home 6 days a week and only once every 5 weeks you can give him a second dinner with the boys but remember he has to take you out for dinner every time he takes the boys out. \n\nIf he does not agree to this wow something wrong at home. I hope this works because if it does not it gets considerably more challenging. Try this first.
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If he hangs out with his friends while you are out with yours that's ok. But never in a bar. That is where men meet girls and even if he is not trying to meet someone a girl will probably hit on him. He may get to drunk to remember to say no to her. He if wants to go there you go with him. You should like being together for most of the time or have other married friends so all of you hang out together.
1145615
Seems to me that he is your Monday to Friday boyfriend. On the weekend he has no time for you because he is probably hanging with is friends. Let this arshole run. Look for someone who knows how to treat a lady.
858731
If you really care about her then you WILL NOT GO. Even if it disappoints your friends. They are not really your friends if they try to force you to do something you don't want to do exspecially if it could get you in trouble with the one you love after all you are the one who will have to live with them. Not your frineds. i have a question posted on here to my name on here is christian n. maybe you could help me out too. Hope my advice was helpful. Bye. P.S. Best of luck in your up coming marriage.
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You gotta be careful, your playing with fire and you don't want to get burned. You should really try to work things out with your husband first, he shouldn't live alone so much just to go out with friends. Talk to him and tell him how lonely you are and how much you need him around if it doesn't work then go ahead and have the affair (what the hell he might deserve it) but be prepared for anything and don't get your hopes up with your friend 'cause he might hurt your feelings...Good luck!!!
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no my husband is definitely not my best friend.he is though very loving  but he considers everything  in utilization of time. he cant waste his single minute on silly talks  or talks which can not provide him any knowledge.he spends his every minute productively  and so i have made few chatter friends  n they have really proved helpful in my solitude
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Yes actually. I keep trying to get my husband to go and work out of town and just come home on the weekends or every other weekend. We fight too much and maybe if we didnt have to see each other everyday we might look forward to spending time together!
597832
Your husband should b spending time with u...u r his wife not his bloody maid.
150331
Ok, it's only been a weekend and your upset? Just wait. Maybe he's playing the waiting game to see who will give up first. If a weekend turns into a month...then u know to let it go.
587922
If he really wants to exercise he can find ways to incorporate it into his routine.  Why don't the two of you exercise together during your hang out time.