Heavy smoker neighbor, what should I do?
602367
Carefully check out your local laws; check your health department to see if they have any advice. Where I live, in the U.S. in a rather conservative state, you can 1) file a lawsuit against the building since they are providing you heat or a/c contaminated by a carcinogenic substance; 2) sue your neighbors for creating a nuisance. Where I live yes, you are free to smoke yourself to death, but you have to contain your cigarette smoke to your unit or outside. \n\nPeople here are also signing petitions to prohibit smoking at all in their apartment buildings/condos. A fascist approach, yes, but they apparently feel it necessary to keep people's carcinogens outside of their own living spaces.
984239
Yes, since it is there home, they have every right to smoke, rather then the customer calling and complaining about you, maybe you should just ask for another job if they are smokers, let someone else take that job and you can take another one! Other than that i dont think its right that people pay for your services in there home and are told they cant smoke!!
808876
She already knows that you support her in not smoking, the only thing that you can do is continue to let her know that her smoking hurts you and that you would support her efforts to quit. Don't berate her, it will only make her resent you. The final decision is hers and hers alone. Many people successfully give up smoking, but it takes tremendous willpower and there are probably even more ex-smokers in the world than smokers.
870574
First of all relax!! It just an elaborate dinner. I had the same problem with smokers since my wife has severe asthma. I simply make a designated smoking area outside and above all don't use ashtrays. I take and empty coffee can and put in the smoking area and chastise anybody who throws butts on the ground, regardless of who they are. And clean up is a snap, just put the plastic lid on it and throw away. I have been doing this for the last couple of years and my friends and family who smoke actually set up the smoking area for me. At one party when we had a heavy rain, I simply brought the deck umbrella to the from and attached the can to the pole. \n\nAbout your parents, ask them how would they feel if they were not invited and tell them in a calm voice that you have enough anxiety without the extra baggage/attitude. So relax, enjoy the day and the company and remember, if there are problems, attitudes and / or arguments, just smile and say out loud, "I never worry about the little things"!\n\nGood luck and have fun!
680004
Do you have a lease agreement with your landlord?  If so check to see whether the lease prohibits smoking outside the premises.  If it does not, inform you landlord that though he/she asked you not to smoke outside, that was just a courtesy, and as it was not included in your lease, then it is not grounds for eviction.  If she wants to prohibit smoking anywhere, she must change the lease to reflect that.  If you do not have a lease then you have less protection and may have to move.  Though you may be able to go to landlord tenant court, if its worth the trouble to you, and argue that your original oral lease agreement did not include a prohibition against smoking, though I don't believe that you  would be successful on those grounds.  Good luck!
902515
We all did this.Especially if the head of the family was a smoker.Would'nt worry.I'll be 75 next year,has'nt effected me so far. Touch wood.
725647
You knew what you were getting into when you got into it.  You can't expect him to change and it will eventually make him lazy and brain dead.  The only leg you have to stand on is asking him to respect your wishes by not smoking in your presence, but that is a fat chance because he is doing what he always did now the difference is its in your face because you live there too.
184879
I'm sure you've heard the Bible command about loving your neighbor....right?   Well, would it be a loving thing to add deadly second hand smoke to the air at this festival?\n\nPersonally, after watching my mother die of lung cancer and heart failure due to smoking, and my father needlessly suffer and die from second hand smoke, I am appalled that anyone would even consider using their addiction as an excuse for doing such a thing as you are suggesting!  (Yes, I'm angry!)
539540
Don't take tips don't slow down don't cut back just throw them a way and get a inexpensive hobbies like weight lifting or running and if you don't have the will power to just quit this may sound weird but only smoke when it is humid outside and rid all smoke smell from your home and possessions but it would be much better if you just quit after a week you will find the smell of smoke repulsive
952542
Come on, is it that serious with your neighbor's past time?\nOr did he puff all the 20 sticks in one go?\nHow much smoke can be blown into your house from 1 stick?\nHe has his rights too\nWhy not get a barrister and evict him from your neighborhood
1067893
how bout take it slow... instead of 3 cigs a day smoke 2 then 1 then eventually one a week then one a month and then never. chew gum instead. how bout start tomorrow. theres no price on life.
19945
Any kind of smoke is bad for you. If you smoke once in ahwile its not that bad. If you smoke as much as my roomate does then you may get cancer or have trouble breathing.
451431
Smoke a pipe instead.
210717
I smoked for 7 years everyone tried to get me to stop but i loved it only because it helped my depression and made me not think so much but as years went on i did nothing and let things go it has messed up everything i ever wanted to be cause it made me lazy and sleep all the time.you should get more involved with him go hang out and eat with him let him know you care and show him pictures of what it can do to your lungs.If that does not work then put your foot down tell him he will stop and you will know cause you can buy home drug test at wal-mart or drug stores.You must not give up or he will get up hie future and could end up in jail or as well as the cops coming to your home for a search if some neighbor calls.There is hope just try hard.It takes time to get over the withdraw but he can do it!
941072
Until we pass a law in this country that infringes upon a smokers freedom to smoke, you have no right to do anything....violent or otherwise, to a smoker on the street.  In public, people are allowed to do certain things.  You are no better and no worse.  I am sure you have some habits I would like to do something about...walking too slow, spitting, dragging your feet, not looking where you are going.  But I don't have the right to trip you because of it, do I?  This is still America and a democracy.  Talk to your elected officials in your town and state about your concersn.  That is the only legit way to attempt to protect yourself from smoke.  Meantime, maybe you should also be worrying about the environmental pollution that is affecting your lungs as well.  Keep your hands to yourself in the meantime.  Unless you want to be harrassed right back.
216679
The only way a smoker can quit smoking, is if he is good and ready to quit.  Pestering him about will only make it worse.  If he is actively trying to quit, continue to tell him how proud you are of him, but other than that there is really nothing you can do to help.\nIf you don't want to date a smoker than you should seriously consider breaking up with him, though.  What if he never quits?  Only stay with him if you are sure that you wouldn't mind living the rest of your life with a smoker.  If you wouldn't mind your children being raised with cigarettes in the environment.  I'm not saying that staying with a smoker if an awful thing, but it all has to be taken into consideration.
665509
COLD TURKEY.\n just walk away.\n stay away from smokers.\n it works I have been smoke free for over a year. \n ( 4 Packs a day.)\nwhy give the money to someone else.\nput it in your pocket.