PLz help.there is that girl who i want to marry but im afraid that university will seperate us.?
599508
Only a strong relationship will keep the two of you together. But, it's important to realize that any tremors (positive or negative) in this relationship could jeopardize any academic progress. I sense, by your fear, that you haven't shared many of these feelings with your girlfriend/best friend. Remember, above all else, that her happiness is very important (with or without you). You need to sort out your feelings and decide what it is that you want to share with her. Be sure that you don't lose both your education and your girl in the process. Keep the relationship strong with alot of communication(letters, e-mails,presents,airline tickets,cards,etc.) Let her know that you have confidence in the relationship and in yourself.If she's already your best friend, you've already got alot going for you. Good Luck!
346014
Let her stay where she is she is getting what she needs from both right now. Now she will be going to high school then college if they are rich let them pay for it. Make sure to keep contact with her and let her know if you could provide all she is getting now you would. In the meantime don't press the subject of taking her away from what will provide her with a great future.
350765
You could always tell her-" You are very attractive, funny etc..but in the same time I don't feel like marrying you, I "don't see there being a marriage future" and i feel responsible because i care. What do you think we should do? Is it OK with you or you wanna split and waste no more time..?"\n\nIf you want to get married and you're looking for the One and you are sure she is not, being with her no matter how fine it is is waisting her and your time.\nBut if you really enjoy being with her, miss her and she feels the same way too, don't loose her for these are very sweet nice emotions and life is unpredictably short.
989424
help yourself and go talk to her. who cares if she's from a different group. group dynamics eventually change, ppl from different 'classes' are always pairing up. stop wasting your time and go for it. and good luck!
878320
I look at it like this.When u get married u will lose all your rights in doing something alone.So u need to stand your ground and do this for u.Plus explain to her what u just said to us. If she doesn't understand then u need to really evaluate your relationship with her. I mean if she is this troubled about something this small then what happens when u two have real problems.I wish u all the luck.
497383
Continue to say no. As a guy, I would have more respect for you knowing that you saved yourself for the wedding. You sound like you have morals, and should not give up on them just because you are going to school. Be proud of yourself and realize that you are not the kind of girl who bounces from bed to bed. If he loves you, he will wait, and since you are going away to school, you risk the possibility of pregnancy and then messing up college. The best thing is to stay the way you are, listen to your instincts.
1038344
I don't think she'll wait on you....college is one big party, and it's a time in your life for self discovery and adventure, and you two are so young anyway, you should both just go your seperate ways for now, and if it's mean to be, it will be, just stay in touch and stay "friends" and it will all work out in the end if it's suppose to. Who know's you may find someone else you're more interested in after two years!
26764
Everything seems fine, Just remember you have 4 more years of life expierence than she does. So you'll have to respect that. \n\nLet her finish school before doing anything that might change your lifes.\n\nGood luck
791297
You can't move forward if you don't face your past.  Be brave enough to follow your dream, go to the university you want, and disregard your ex-girlfiend.  It's your life after all...don't let someone else control it, even if indirectly.
608015
Hey man, relax.\nFirst thing you can do is to trust her words: She said she wants to marry you. Then accept it.\n\nDon't worry too much. There is still time to talk about her attitude (accusing, do things that make you mad). Both of you should agree to change your attitudes to a level that is acceptable and comfortable with both of you. Otherwise, your relationship will always be on the rocks.\n\nTry to meet in the middle. and try to compromise for the good of you both.\n\nTrue love understands and cares. It is gentle, not rude, it does not boast, it keeps no record of wrongs.\n\nAll the best.
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Basically the same way you asked this question . . . but don't ask it as a question . . . state it as fact.\n\nI know, you are nervous and scared, you don't want to cause an arguement . . . but the thing is . . . you need to talk with her . . . because if you let her walk all over you . . . she will lose her respect for you . . . and your marriage is not going to last.\n\nWhat you need to do is sit her down . . . in a quiet location . . . you she can hear you and basically say . . . \n\nHoney . . . I love you, but I don't want to get married right now.\n\n(She is going to get flustered, teary, mad, etc. - but you have to maintain control.)\n\nHoney, please let me finish. (She will try to interrupt you . . . but don't let her).\n\nHoney, I love you . . . and I do see my future with you . . . but. . . \n\nCan I tell you what I want . . . because I know what you want already - after college getting married and having kids.\n\nI want you to understand me . . . accept me.\n\nYou see, I love you . . . but I want everything to be perfect for us.\n  \nI want us to finish college and both of us get great careers . . . . I want us to buy a house together in a great location, near good schools . . . and spend time together . . . just you and me . . . .\n\nThen after we save money, for our child's future and our future is secure . . . then, I want to marry you and only you.  By doing this . . . we leave chance behind us . . . because after this . . . I know our love and marriage will survive anything that life puts us through.\n\nI love you . . . but I want to do this first . . . so we can be secure and happy with each other and our future . . . and the future of our children.
493871
You live and you learn and eventually you find someone who knows what friendship really is. If she doesn't try to get intouch to discuss the situation then move on and get yourself ready for college. ENJOY!!!
1027864
Hey i think u should now concentrate on ur studies..i feel she's trying to get u to feel jealous..just move on with life...answer her calls once in a while and tell ur movin away and u want to concentrate on ur studies..cuz this is the age where ur whole future depends on ur studies in college..dont waste time tryin to tlk to her...MOVE ON DUDE! All The Best.Tke Cre.
327645
Wait!!!!!!!!! You're in your last year and it'll take a year to plan the perfect wedding anyway! Girl, finish your edu-ma-cation for the love of....! Sorry if I'm being overly dramatic, but I transfered to be with my bf in my sophomore year, and though I went to a great second school, I had too many credits that didn't transfer and it set me back a year! :-( (And we never got married).
1004869
You need to use this time for reflection, love does not disappear that easy! Communication is the key, maybe she is afraid, the best thing you can do is show her that you support her and care. Take it slow and both of you need to rememer the things that brought you together in the first place. If after all this she still does not want to marry, LET GO...
1089625
Yes! it sounds to me like you two are definatly in love. and if she didn't give you a good enough reason, like "i met someone else or i want to explore my options" then i think she still loves you, it is just too painful for her to be apart for so long. so i think you need to talk to her. dont just go over there and pop the question right away. but talk to her, make her fall in love with you again and then tell her you need her and that you two need to spend the rest of you lives together...then... "will you marry me?"
430985
Depending on laws there is always annulment if it hasnt been that long ....... or else tell her u know a single guy in the states ill offer to marry her and then u2 can be on ur way lol.