Can someone answer my bullying question?
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always answer back with,'your mom', even if it doesn't sound right...just say. 'your mom'.
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Here are some things for you to keep in mind, and share the appropriate parts with him.  It is part of an answer I did a while ago for someone who was being bullied .....\n\nIn dealing with a bully, do be assertive, but the child being bullied is not usually strong enough to fight the bully physically ... bullies don't pick on kids who are stronger than them. \n\nBullies don't go away. It is true that bullies are cowards, and tend to back down when people stand up to them, but bullies also seek revenge. Unless bullies are stopped, they tend to get worse and worse, not better. \n\nMost schools have someone you can go to so that some adult will know about what's happening and can begin to stop it - a guidance counselor, a teacher you trust, the principal, someone. Can you go to the bully's parents and tell them? If the bully has actually attacked the child, go to the police. The bully can be charged. This is not a laughing matter. No matter what the bully has said about not telling anyone, TELL. Here are some well researched tips on dealing with bullying:\n\n1. If you are bullied, TELL. Telling is not being weak or being a coward or tattling. It is helping to protect everyhone from that bully.\n2. Tell someone you trust - teacher, counselor, parent, some other adult. You CANNOT handle this yourself. \n3. Do not retaliate or get angry. This could make things worse.\n4. Respond evenly and firmly or say nothing and walk away.\n5. develop good strong friendships and support each other. Bullies tend to pick on kids that they think don't have many friends or kids thye think others won't hlep.\n6. Act confident.\n7. Try to stay away from places the bully will be if that is possible. For example, take a different route to school.\n8. Avoid unsupervised areas of the school.\n9. Try not to bring expensive items to school that might attract the bully's attention and that he might try to take or break.\n10. To gain confidence and feel stronger and feel that youcan take care of yourself, enrol in a self-defnece program if one is available, or a martial arts program or something like that. Self defence programs teach you some very good skills, very quickly.\n11. Join a group, such as Scouts, a cadet program, or something like that, so that you have a special group of friends. \n\nGo to the website www.bullying.co.uk/ which has lots of information for parents and for kids about bullying and about some things you can do. I think this website might really help you figure out some good positive things you can do to deal with this.\n\n\nI hope this answer has something of value in it for you.
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Firstly, I don't recommend that you get into a fight unless you are confident of your ability to defend yourself, but there is one common characteristic about bullies: They're usually cowards and travel in numbers and if you stand up to them (don't complain, act confidently), they often back off.\n\n- However, you should learn a few DEFENSIVE moves - either in a martial arts or self-defence class. Learn how to ward off a punch or kick.\n\n- Try to choose where you are going to be bullied and make it a public place where some teacher / principal is going to see it.\n\n- If you think they carry weapons, DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT do anything that may escalate the bullying to severe violence. You're better off running away and avoiding the situation if that's going to happen. You could report them to the cops if you know they have weapons and get them evicted from school.\n\n- Bullies are usually very insecure about themselves and if you can get one of them alone, you may be able to talk him down and come to terms with him.\n\nGood luck and be careful.
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Pay a big kid 10 dollars to scare this punk away.\n\nKids like that will cause trouble in many ways, but all bullies act that way because they themselves feel weak.\nThey are too concerned with their image, and feel threatened because they KNOW they're weak inside.\nJust stand your ground, but DONT give in to his harassing.  Tell your friends the same.
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Yo!  I'm Jennah. I'm 13 just like you and I'm a middle class rebel Punk/Prep*but then again I REBEL AGAINST Preps*(in the way of cliques in my 8th Grade Class.\n1.)Kids have been known to die in the vile sense that your telling so I suggest if anything buff up and just threaten him.  Usually bullies are so bug that they scare people for no reason and the bigger they are the harder they fall in every aspect.  So Get him riled up but not toooooo riled up!\n2.)You probably would want to try this first before you try #1\n3.)NO NO NO AND NO!!!!  WORST POSSIBLE THING FOR YOUR REPUTATION!  MY BEST FRIEND IN 6TH GRADE WAS A KNARK AND HIS REPUTATION FELL APART!  HE WENT FROM HIS MIDDLE CLASS TO LOSER IN SECONDS THE NEXT TIME HE ENTERED A CLASSROOM!  HE WAS PICKED ON AND GIVEN THE NAME TATTLER COCK!!! DON'T TELL A TEACHER!!!!!!!  THIS GUY WILL DRIVE YOU INSANE WITH THE KNARKING INSULTS!!!!!!\n4.)Probably the best choice hold off until the end of the school day come home and talk to me about it.  Evilcreampuff_13@hotmail.com
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I myself had these situation before.Here what I did \n1.I ask my child who is the Bully?ASK Your kid every detail\nand write it down.\n2. Contact the teacher and Principal and communicate with both at the same time.\n3.Talk to other parents and see how many time this boy or girl attack other children.\n4.I went to the Principal and file a paper with her or him.\n5.Give the Principal a chance to act.Then if not go to the school District and tell the superintendent and see if he or she wants to stop.If not Call the attorney and One PAPER FROM THE LAWYER WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE.\nMAKE SURE YOU TEACH YOU CHILD ABOUT BULLY.\n6.ADVOCATE EVERYONE IN YOUR CHILD CLASSROOM ABOUT BULLY KID.MAKE SURE YOU CAN VISIT YOUR CHILD OFTEN ESPECILLY BREAK TIME AND LUNCH HOUR.
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Firstly tell your parents, make sure they are aware of the situation. Don't fall for any of this "You mustn't tell the teacher" nonsense. The guy sleeps happy at night, so why shouldn't you? And don't apologise to anyone for sticking up for your rights, they are your rights, people fought for them, and this bully shouldn't be allowed to take them away.\nNext time he threatens you tell him there will be trouble if he tries anything, but, and this is the important part, don't tell him or even hint what actions you will take, let him guess. His imagination will do the job for you. Just smile. \nNext, get some witnesses to back you up.\nIf they guy touches you then lay a complaint with the Police, and if they ask why you didn't speak to the school say they refused to protect you.\nAlso learn a few basic self defense moves, like kicking him "where it hurts most". If he tries anything, do that, and when he's on the ground crying his eyes out ... like I said, don't apologise.\nSince the Principal won't do anything, write to the school committee asking them what their policy is on bullying (it will be they don't allow it, but you have to ask the question) because you are being bullied and the Principal won't address your concerns. \nIf the bully is threatening others, which is probably the case, make sure you state this as well in your letter. \nThird, next time it happens, go down to the school office and tell them you are going home because they are unable to provide a safe environment for you at school, and tell them to ring you when it is. If they try and stop you ask them why they don't stop the bully. Tell them to call the cops and walk out. \nAlso, can do you know of any "dirt" on the guy. For example, does he bring cigarettes to school or is an illegal immigrant? \nShop him. \nAnd lastly, always look confident when he sees you, not frightened. Look like you are a person with power, because you have something he doesn't have - the law is on your side.
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hide.  Seriously, though, the key is self-confidence, if you're confident about yourself, or even if you pretend to be confident and ignore the people who are bullying you or even laugh at them.  I used to be bullied at my old school, I realise now that most bullies are motivated by bad feelings about themselves and they try to boost their ego by making other people feel bad too.  It's pretty hard, but don't let them see that they're making you feel bad.  Stand up straight, ignore them, laugh at them, and don't let them see that they're hurting you.
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it depends. r they bullying u physically?  r they threatening 2 hurt u?  Or r they just verbally bullying and calling u names?  I've been verbally bullied b4.  I've been called a toothpaste eater, ugly, stupid, and stuff like that.  Then one guy threatened 2 shoot me.  I would say tell your parents or complain 2 the school.  Ignoring them may help or hurt depending on the situation.  Hang out w/ your friends as much as u can cuz bullies r less likely 2 hurt u w/ a bunch of people around. I know what u r going thru tho:)
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its just me, but you would be hard pressed to find any school period that does not have bullying.  bullying takes on many forms and is not as obvious as punching and name calling.  just find the school that fits the needs of your student and has an excellent academic and extracurricular structure.  everything else can be taken care of as it happens.
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I don't like bullys. And it has been my experience that people usually attack others personally because they are unhappy about things in their own life. Picking on someone else distracts them from their own faults. Its not fair and sad but it is what we have to deal with. As for class clowns, the ones I went to school with were cool and usually made jokes at themselves.
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I'm a teacher in the UK and very aware of bullying in my class/school.\n\nThis is such a big issue. I never suffered bullying as a kid, but I am suffering as an adult at the moment. What has helped me is a special phone line and friends that I can talk to about it. I have also told my union and human resources and they are giving me help and support.\n\nI try to instil in my classroom ethos a sense of respect and rapport for others. We use circle time to tackle issues and I am known as a teacher that will listen to both sides of an argument. I do not have favourites.\n\nThat is not to say that I do not have children in my class who are not being bullied. It is unfortunately a characteristic of human behaviour.\n\nRecently I noticed a child behaving out of character, very withdrawn and depressed. When I tried to talk to him he would not share his thoughts with me. Later that day I was told by the head that the parent had complained about her child being bullied. I was upset to think that: 1) one of my children was suffering. 2) neither the child or parent had confided in me.\n\nHe did confide in me later and we eventually were able to work on the problem.\n\nWhat I have learned as a teacher is:\n- that the victim needs support as soon as it is noticed, but it may take some time before they are ready and willing to face the situation/name names/admit there is a problem.\n- that the children need to have a way to communicate with you. They need to know that they will be listened to and taken seriously.\n- that the children need to know what true bullying is. They need to try to avoid the 'cry wolf' syndrome as it leads to parents/teachers/adults not taking the true cases seriously.\n\nIt does help to have an overt school policy that has a no tolerance attitude to bullying.\n\nIdeas that have been suggested in out school are:\n-playground buddies\n-school councillors/mentors\n-bully boxes (this tends to be abused)\n-assemblies about bullying\n-secret buddies (where the children pick someone's name randomly from the class list to be nice to them that week) At the end of the week the children try to guess who their secret buddy was. They suggest the name of someone that has been nice to them that week. Names that are mentioned over and over again are praised and rewarded).\n\nThere are no easy answers to this. We have to be supportive and patient with the victim and firm about what is acceptable behaviour and what is not to be tolerated.
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if this really bothers u, transfer her to the other school.  u cant really blame the principal for bullies but if she didnt do anything about it then u can report her to the department fo education.  but u can always try to talking to her again.
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I would say if the teacher is not willing to take responsibility then go to the principal. There are laws against bullying and the school is responsible for the safety of the kids while in the learning environment.\n\nApproach the teacher 1st. Document everything including the meeting (in form of emails/meeting minutes etc) and take a witness with you as a double back-up. If that fails, have a meeting with the principal. Document that too. In the worst case scenario you can always take them to court.\n\nAlso try and talk to your child and get details about the bullying. Generally bullies pick on those they consider weaker. So if your child shows that there is support or can stand up to them they might stop harrassing her.
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There are many reasons why people bully. Often because they are very insecure in themselves. Sometimes they are angry or upset or feel that they don't fit in. It may be a way of showing off to peers and looking tough and important and in charge. People who bully others in one setting may be getting bullied themselves in some other setting, such as at home or school. Bullies may be scared of getting picked on so they make sure to do it first. If they don't like themselves they may take it out on someone else. Sometimes they think it will make them more popular. Sometimes they do it to get attention. Others might be jealous of the person they are bullying. They may just want to make others afraid of them. It sometimes makes them feel braver or more important or better about themselves.\n\nThese links should help.
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If anyone knows about having problems in high school it's abazzabba. I mean this dude posts questions begging for help because a "bully at school" is throwing food in his face. Not sure if you'd want to listen to someone who asks questions like that then turns around and tells you to punch somebody in the "teeth". That would be like taking advice from a NUN who gives suggestions on sexual positions.
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My daughter had the same problems, she was also getting nasty emails,the schools so called anti bullying policy means nothing, so I went round to the girls house with copys of email and told the parent what would be the out come if it continued, it was the only launge these tramps understood because it worked! I didnt mince my words while doing this just give it straight!