Sex and Marriage?  Why can't they go together?!?
595000
Ah, I am sorry to hear how much this is upsetting you, and I feel sorry for him as well. I wish I had a crystal ball to look into and find out what's really going on here. Something's fishy. \n\nAt the start of many sexual relationships, the lovemaking is hot! It's natural for sex to wane over time and you two were very busy. I sense that there's an undercurrent you need to ferret out, as it seems that he is flat-out avoiding sex with you. \n\nAsk yourself some basic questions: when did things change? Was there an incident that you can remember? Has there been a gradual decline? Has putting on weight, having children, a change in income/earnings or something like that happened? \n\nAs for the importance of this to your relationship, although national studies have shown disparate results, sex is not usually the number one issue in saving a marriage. However, if it's a top need for you and it compounds your feelings of inadequacy, erodes your self-esteem, makes you feel unloved or affects your ability to feel good about yourself in general, then it's time to have a serious heart-to-heart with him. Be gentle when you talk about it and try to understand what's bothering him. After that, you may need to seek professional help either together or alone — or give him up in the end.
244046
No its not!!! Because the bottom line that once you marry the sex life becomes less and less. It may not be right away that this happens but its true it does happen. When you are thinking of marriage you should make sure that this person is the one who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Marriage is about uniting as ONE!Its my opinion that communication would be the most important thing in a marriage up under have Jesus at the roots of the marriage! Sex does play a role in a marriage because  two people who are married feel the most connected when they are making love as the should but its not the most important thing. Marriage includes making decisions together, compassion, understanding, just letting the other one know that you are there for them no matter what, friendship.  So have fun with your SEX but remember marriage is more that just SEX if you marry for this reason then you are going to end up unhappy and wanting out! Truth of the matter, things change so will the sex life.Good Luck to you!
452978
Problem is deeper. It's a Phylosofical problem (usually are not practic). Condom is not the problem, but behavior is.\n\nYou are not allowed to do sex before marriage. \nOnce married you are not allowed to have sex relations with other person. \nAnd MOST important of all: When you do sex, you do to have children and not to have pleasure. After 60's Pope told that having pleasure during the sex is not sin. ... since you are respecting all rules above. \n\nThese are main rules and as a Catholic, you cannot avoid it. If Catholic church allow to use condom, it means that they allow to do those wrong things too. \n\nIt's just a matter of Ethics and cause and consequence about rules. Religion cannot be flexible as moral is. Change this concept means change part of what has been teach during so long time .... and it has consequences.
600467
It could work, but it is difficult.  Both parties must be COMPLETELY honest with each other, and in most marriages that isn't the case.  Usually one side wants an open marriage to cover up the fact that they are having an affair.  They are just trying to legitimize their bad behavior.  So don't try it unless you trust the other party 110%, as it won't work.
521981
Well, why not?  I mean if two people of different races can get married (I'm not racist), unlike 40 years ago, why can't 2 people of the same gender who are that in love get married?  I mean, it ain't about gender, but love, people!  That's what really counts!
590416
Probably true, because people don't take the time to get to know each other before either getting married or hopping into the sack.  Most importantly however, is that they are not committed to each other and to the marriage.  A little bit of trouble comes & they say, "hey, it's not worth it, I'm moving on" instead of working out the problems.
373215
If you are forced into the marriage do you think they might be forced to be together?  I don't believe it in.  We should have freedom of choice to fall in love with whoever we want.  Everybody deserves to be in love with their mate.  Even choice marriages lack love.
1063158
Sex in marriage is a perk.... and no matter what eventually it will wane between two who are together for a long time.... \n Sex when someone is ill can be very difficult for both partners and sometimes it is in the best interest of both to just stop doing it. Not that they are not intimate, there is so much more to marriage... we have been together for 20 years now and my illness has made this impossible for the last year. My husband loves me enough to have given that part of his life up. Sad to say because that fun is gone but  there is always other stuff....
598082
I do because there are more chances that a relationship will last a lot longer for sex to come after marriage than for marriage to come after sex. To build a relationship you have to know what the foundation is made out of. Some choose sex to be the foundation of a relationship and some choose love as their foundation. Sex and love are two separate things and should NEVER be looked upon as an equal. Some people are too stubborn to realize that sex is suppose to be something done out of love; (if any is envolved) not the other way around. Chances are very good that if a person views sex as a foundation to a relationship, he/she wasn't looking for one in the first place. People often forget what marriage is these days. In most traditional marriages there's a line that says "for better or for worse"; if someone is gonna treat the other like some kind of merchandise such as a car or whatever and they have this mentality that they have to "try" someone out before marriage, they don't have any business getting married. Basically if this happens what that person is saying is that they don't love you, they're just gonna use you as temporary usage and if he/she doesn't like what's been provided, that person is gonna be stashed away. That is what's gonna happen when sex becomes before marriage.
996476
same could be said why sex is so important to you people after marriage...whats the difference? ok, obviously no one wants to be with a "whore" but then again i think that people would want to be with someone that is experienced, i know i would. Cause lets face it, peoples sex lives play a very important role in marriage today, 73% of marriages fail due to this and/or they are deeply troubled because spouses are not faithful and loyal to their signifficant other due to inexperience or unfullfillment in that department. I for one, would like to know that my souse can not only satisfy me spiritually, emotionally but also physically. now, with that said, there are those that feel this way, and then there are those who are extremely active. to each his own but thats where i stand. Hopefully my answer has shed some light on the opposite side of you acusations.
1119301
Probably the same reason a lot of US states won't.  They say it's wrong because God created man and woman to be together.  and the devil created homosexuality.  People in general just don't accept things that they don't understand and what they have been taught and always have thought was wrong.  I think if two people love eachother who cares.  Does the governor or all these protestors or the judge of the courthouse have to go to the wedding or go to their house?  NO they don't.  I think there are bigger issues than this that states and countries should worry about.  This shouldn't even be an issue.  Its not fair that when two people of the same sex want to get married they get a protest outside their wedding but if two people who have a 60 year difference want to get married they can without any problems from the outside world...Its just sad to think that a 80 yr old man can marry a 20 yr old woman and its ok, even though the woman is only marrying him for his money but two people, of the same sex...which shouldn't even matter, who love eachother want to make a commitment to one another the entire world thinks its their right to come in between it just because God says its not right.  Let God do His job and they should do theirs.\n**by the way I'm not a lesbian...I'm married to a man**
183508
When you know a person without sex first, and you really want to be with each other all the time, the sex will come naturally and be mindblowing.  Courting use to be the way it was done years ago.  I believe that's why older couples have remained married for so long, because they got to know each other first and decided to committ the rest of their lives to each other before they had sex.
733173
They are not ready. It would be a scandal.\nI married a black woman and we still face angry looks and remarks.
9049
I do not think it is a good idea. How do you find out whether or not you are compatible in that way if you wait until marriage?  What if on the wedding night, one believes in the missionary position only, and the other likes to expirement?  What if one likes it in the shower and the other thinks it should only be in the bedroom?  What if one really enjoys sex, the other feels it is something they say "let's get it over with" to?
1051651
Because JUST MAYBE we want our marriages to work.   It's too bad we chose such lousy partners.   Jackasses are animals.  Maybe in the future, let's look for something more human.
482852
Well it sounds like they both need some help its not good to be having sex at such a young age even though kids these days seem to be sexually mature so young. She needs some real help. Does she have any parent that isn't unstable is the person she is staying with stable? She needs some counciling maybe even needs to see a sycatrist and work out some problems. This is highly serious and imediate action needs to take place.
935955
It could be a number of things....maybe they have kids and the woman is too tired?  Maybe her husband doesn't do the same things to/for her as he used to before getting married, for example, lighting candles, romancing, going out for drinks etc.  I think for me personally, I love having sex with my husband, but we have limited time to f**k around anymore, we have 2 small children.  We're both exhausted.  Maybe you need to make a date with your wife, compliment her all night on how beautiful she is, then ask her to go down......can't hurt you know?  Wow, I think I need to run home and have oral with my husband tonight ;o)