when christian women get married don't  you feel guilty wearing the "white dress"?more info>>>
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Doesn't the bible say Judge Not Other's Lest Thee Be Judged?\n\nI think people need to start focusing on the purpose of a wedding and not what the bride is wearing or what kind of party she is throwing.
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I think you feel like you did something terrible because it says to marru only in the truth, and since you were not ba[tized yet, your conscience got to you. This happened in my congregation too. A baptized woman married an unbaptized man, although he was studying and eventually got baptized himself. I hope that you get closer to Jehovah and one day get baptized and live a happy life with your husband.\n\nGood Luck\n\nAgape
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Does it really matter what anyone else thinks?   Do you like it?  Do you feel good in the dress?  If yes, then do it!  It's about what you feel and how you think you look.  If you try to please others, then it will never please yourself.   After all who's going to wear it you or them.  DO IT!  Please.  Buy yourself the dress if you really want it.
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If it makes you feel any better, there is a movement among some Christian women to wear head coverings. I do not wear one, but I respect those that do.\n\nI have never thought that wearing hijab meant that a woman was subjugated and uneducated. Some of us Christian women have open minds.
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If your asking if its good to have a girlfriend thats christian - yea! of course, that will probably mean she may have more self respect and morals then other girls. \n\nIf you asking is its good to have a g/f when your a christian - why not? How else are you going to find the person you want to get married to?
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Check out the link I attached. I didnt see many 2 peice dresses, are you/is the bride really set on that? The ones i saw on there were gorgeous tho!
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Every respectable person dresses modestly.Ethically no religion can claim to have autonomy over any particular dress code.Maybe we need to make every Christian,Muslim, Buddhist,etc,know they can wear any dress code as long as it is modestly acceptable to the public.This is not only of women alone.I think that men too dress in a way that captures women's admiration,but that was not discussed by the religious books.I think that is not fair enough because this competition between the opposite sexes of arousing one another's feelings is what is actually creating the problems of immodest dressing.
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I am a christian and I am waiting til marriage 23 years so far.  I have a lot of friends that are also waiting.  It makes sense on then just a religious plane though.
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Many answering your question have said that they feel sorry for us muslim women. So, first, I want to address those people and their hateful remarks ("oh, i feel so SORRY for those women!")\n\nStop worrying - you've been lied to or misinformed. Our rights granted to us in Islam are far superior to your rights as women. \n\nWe are respected and protected. You are exploited and used. \n\nWhile your religion tells you to cover your head out of submission to your husband, ours tells us to do it only out of submission to God/Allah and as a means of protection and modesty. \n\nWhile your religion tells you plainly that you must "stay silent in the church", our religion tell us no such thing. Many great women have narrated many traditions, relaying very important aspects of the religion on to generations to come. \n\nWhile your men are stripping you with their eyes, even in your house of worship, we are granted privacy and kept away from the annoying glances of men that we already aren't the least bit interested in. (if I already have a husband, why do I need attention from yours? and I'm not left to the wolves to get a husband in the first place)\n\nWhile your men tell you to undress to get "respect" (LOL), our men preserve our honor and treat us like a precious pearl. \n\nWhile your men pressure you for sex, ours marry us. \n\nWhile your men finally marry you after trying you out first... and often have dirty affairs in which they lie and deceive...... our men may take a second wife and treat both wives with dignity, divide their time equally, give them each their own house, and create stable environments for everyone involved... Or, our men realize that it's such a big responsibility to have a second wife, that they choose not to approach other women at all.\n\nThe only time our men mess up is when they TRY TO IMITATE YOU.\n\nI'm sorry, but you need to realize how ignorant, smug, and insulting these "oh poor them" comments are.\n\n--------- Now, back to the original question:\n\nPeople often confuse the PEOPLE with the RELIGION (way of life). \n\nThe religion is pure and beautiful. There are good and bad Muslims, obedient and disobedient, to varying degrees. \n\nSo, always be tolerant of the RELIGION. But tolerance with any MUSLIM is taken on an individual basis.
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if you know the bride is to wear red then you shouldn't. that's like you wearing white at an American wedding when you know the bride will wear white. that's rude and you are stealing the attention from the bride who should be the center of attention. she's the focus, not you. -unless- in China there is a tradition of women wearing the same color as the bride. do some research other than yahoo answers.
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You don't have to wear white. Until Queen Victoria was married in a confection of white lace and silk, it was traditional for the bride to wear either the best dress she already owned (Often the dress she wore at her Debutante ball) or to choose a gown that would thereafter be her "Best Dress"...at least until fashions changed.\nAnd this business about white signifying virginity is just plain vulgar....it IS traditional that white should only be worn by a young lady marrying for the first time, but the colour of the dress makes no statement about the body wearing the dress....more experienced brides, remarrying after being divorced or widowed, are often given funny looks if they wear white, so most choose not to defy that convention.
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Nope.I've been a Christian for 22 years and I make sure I go to a Church where we can wear shorts and Ts,and tennies.Calvary Chapels are good for that.Plus they are great churches.
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Hi. I am a Christian woman. I am married now, but did have sex before marriage. I was not a Christian at that time, but did struggle with temptations as a Christian before marriage. I give all glory and credit to Jesus for giving my husband and I the strength to resist temptation before marriage. Our first kiss as a couple was at the altar.\nI think that a vast majority of people who claim Christianity as their religion either do not understand their claim well enough for it to be true and sincere in them or they are too caught up in the temptations of life and not caught up in the focus and strength of Christianity - namely Jesus Christ and His accomplishments in life, death, and the resurrection.\n\nIt is disturbing the number of people who claim allegiance to Christ and then fail to follow Him in His commands. None of us is perfect. Biblically we are all sinners in need of our Savior, Christ, and this issue is yet further proof that becoming a Christian isn't an instant fix of flaws. Christianity is meant to be a process of growing in relationship with the Savior who saved us once from eternal damnation in hell and is saving us daily from our own weakness toward sin which brings death into our lives (although some sins bring death of emotional, relational, social, spiritual, etc. not just the regular physical death you think of.) Those people who are truly "saved" and living daily in a relationship with Jesus Christ through His presence in our lives will WANT to or be motivated to "do the right thing" because we want to please Him. Those who claim Christianity as only a Sunday service or social lifestyle simply will not find the strength or reason, when it comes down to temptation, to do the right thing, or they do it for the wrong reason only to give in later. The reason is that they have not really "meet" Jesus Christ and confronted their need for salvation in a sincere way or they have, but they choose the religious box over the relationship that changes a life.\n\nI hope that helps a little. I applaud you in your stand for No Sex Before Marriage. That is an honorable decision that is too foreign in today's society.
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Notice how the two comments that say to stick with white are both from guys.  \nA lot of people think white has to be used because it is tradition, blah blah blah.  Just do whatever you want.  \nI am getting married and I am considering something different also.  I thought about pink, but now I am thinking about red or burgundy.  It doesn't matter.  \nIf you still want to get married in white, maybe you can choose a white dress with some pink designs or flowers on it.  \nI am having two weddings, one w/a judge, and one in Mexico.  So I have two options.  \nYou can also wear a nice white dress for the ceremony and later on change into a fabolous pink dress.\n\nGOOD LUCK!
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i had a christian friend who claimed she was "saving herself for marriage",however i found a huge vibrator under her bed. i guess she lost hers to a piece of plastic.\nhope this helps.
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Does your church have gowns that you are baptized in? The church I was baptized in did? If not--You can wear short, just make sure you have dark clothing on & you shouldn't have anything to worry about.\n\nCONGRATULATIONS MY SISTER ON YOUR NEW LIFE!!!!\n\nYou have just made the best & most important decision of your life---and you made the right one!!!
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Nope, never.  I don't feel guilt very well, and when I do I usually just end up laying a huge guilt trip on someone else accidentally.\n\nThis morning, I kind of blew off this guy that wanted to pray for a girl who's about to get chopped up into donated organs, and then like ten minutes later, I was talking to this lady who's been stressing out about doing this speech for me that she'll be giving on a retreat for kids, only we don't have any kids signed up yet.\n\nShe said "There better be some kids by the weekend, because I'm gonna be mad if I had to do all this work and nobody shows up!"  and I was like "Yeah, me too." without even thinking about it.\n\nOnly, she's giving one talk for the retreat, and I'm supposed to be in charge of the whole thing.  God, you should have seen the look on her face!  She just about fell over appologizing to me "Oh, I'm sorry, here I am just thinking all about myself..."  I bet she still feels guilty.\n\nAnd now... umm, what question was I answering?  Oh, yeah, you're totally cheapening the whole meaning of cutting, you should stop that right away...  Well, cutting isn't good for you anyway, but, lots of people cut, and some of them lie about why they do it so people won't think they're just weird.\n\nReally, when you hurt yourself on purpose you usually feel guilty no matter what.  That's your body saying "You shouldn't be doing this."  That's a bunch of christians quoting that whole "Thy body is a temple of God" don't desecrate it bit.. and that whole "Thou shalt not tattoo thyself no scar thy body for the sake of the dead" verse.\n\nWell, I've made a good and thorough jerk of myself here, so now I'm off to ask a question about where all the trailer parks are, or something.  Then I'll go to bed, and tomorrow I'll figure out how to apply to this college that's almost two thirds women, since they seem so desperate to have me, a guy, go to school there.  Geeze, don't twist my arm or anything, huh?