i love sex but it is becoming mechanical. what shall i do?
595361
See if loving yourself first will work.
499386
Your going through a stage right now where thinking about sex is good! If you have the chance, take advantage of your thoughts with someone you care for. Have some fun and experiment, try different things. This is the best time to do that.\nHave fun!
253011
It can be both.Try not to be anxious before the act.What do you think Sex is?An act of love or a means of burning passion.Your definition might be your problem
337164
Get a girlfriend who will pamper your fetish. Go to spa's for vacations, Buy exercise DVDs or videos. Enroll in exercise classes.If it is becoming a fixation to the point of ignoring responsibilities and maintaining a healthy social life then you need to get counseling. Otherwise enjoy.
564901
Honestly it's going to be painful no matter how much you play.  You should definatly be relaxed if that's possible, and tell your lover to be slow and gentle and caring of your needs.  Hopefully he will be and you'll be fine.  Good luck!
991823
That is life.  Whatever is stable and repetitive becomes boring.  Even eating lobster.  I have recently had a bout of boredom myself.  What I did was to read more (American Scientific) get your mind on some miraculous things outside your humdrum life.  Got a trampoline (jumping is a good time).  And started taking karate.  Relationships with other women (flirting type) can help move you through this.  If a person feels there are options, which there ALWAYS are I might add, you feel less trapped.  The more you believe is possible the better you will feel.  If sex is a problem try fantasizing and shifting into sixth during your lunch hour.
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Just try to do more things together that dont envolve sex, maybe something will spark and ingnite his passion again. It's not an uncommon thing for guys to not want sex that often. Check out www.psychologytoday.com they have a lot of articles about this topic there. good luck to you!
498489
You must be mad! Wait till you are fully "mature" sexually and then start thinking about such things! Trust me it will grow a lot bigger than it is now! I know, I am 30!
118720
You probably need to find some sex books and try new things....BE VERY OPEN MINDED!!!!!!
360286
first of all, relax... and try to make sure by yourself that you enjoy it.. and not others telling you what to do.. just be natural.. if you're not sure, wait a few more years.. i hope i was helpful
361914
Random! Schedules would take all of the fun and love out of it. You don't want sex to be a job do you? Well...that might be cool but you don't want her to feel like it is a task more importantly! Whenever the time is right...thats when sex should happen otherwise you won't always be up for it on a schedule and if you procede anyways, that could make sex unenjoyable fot the two of you. Random is best! Good luck!
457701
Depends on your age.....Sex is great, but there are other things in life outside the bedroom or back seat of your car.  Try expending your knowledge....read a book!
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There is a big difference between instinct and motovation.  Often our hormonal drives are okay, but out emotional filters are out of balance.\nWhat will help more than anything else is communication with your partner.  For really great sex, it takes two partners, not one human acting alone.\nDo not be afraid to find out what you really like.  Do not be ashamed at how the two of you decide to experiment.\nIf communication with your partner is not the problem, by all means visit a healthcare professional.  Many specialize in the area.  Do not be frightened, just do it.  Life is passing you by, but it does not have to be by your own choice.
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Wow this is a tough one but I know you need help so here's my advise:\nHave sex,but be very cautous about what you're doing because remember that it can bring a child into the world. I STRONGLY SUGGEST THAT YOU REALLY THINK THESE QUESTIONS OVER. DO YOU LOVE HIM? ARE YOU WILLING TO RAISE A CHILD WITH HIM? AND POSSIBLY EVEN GET MARRIED JUST IN CASE SOMETHING GOES WRONG?\nWell I think you're gonna have a lot of thinking to do, but please do remember that something may go wrong and you will have to take responsibility for it sooner or later!!!
953848
Dude you've got it made. I just hope if you guys do go seroius, that you don't run out of sick and twisted things to do to eachother later on in life. You have got to keep that sense of sexual excitement or else, you know, the magic is gone. Go on now, get naked and get nasty. I think it's friggin awesome.
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You may have lacked the best part of lovemaking, which is foreplay. It becomes mechanical because you don't observe the 1st commandment. Try doing it a little bit slower from the bottom up. Plenty of VCO/ virgin coconut oil will help. Lather your partner's body from the toes to the thigh up to the up and try massaging, But be careful with it because massage may led her to sleep. Gentle and exploratory manner will do the trick. But again the bottom line is the mind. Control your mind and start undressing her in the mind.
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REALLY GOOD SEX...AND MAYBE AN EXCERCISE MACHINE