how do you know what to say and when to say the right things to your partner?
595861
wow i've never really thought about saying the right thing. being intimate with someone just comes naturaly i think. if you have to think that hard about it, then it probably isn't right and will sound rehearsed and that's a turnoff.
101686
I would say if you have happiness in the relationship. In order for you to want to stay married you must above all love the person you are with. Just saying the vows is not enough anymore! In order for those vows to mean anything you must understand them before saying them or else you just wasted your time. I would sit back and think about the things that you have done as a couple and that make you both happy. Although s/he might not always agree compromise is the second step. \n\nIf you want that person then you will love them and be happy amongst the worst of all things. You must first appreciate them and want them around. I know at times that person can drive you crazy and you might ant to leave and just say "I wish I never met you" to that person but regardless of what just transpired to cause that thought you must remember that sugarcoating it won't help. If you say your sorry and make up (which all couples enjoy more than the fight) you must mean it and not just say it because of the moment.\n\nIf things are bad now they will get better and if they don't then communication is something that needs to be open and the people must be unafraid of what they may say. The talker and the listener must try to be understanding.\n\nSo to answer your question, Communication is the first step, getting to know that person and liking them for who they are is the second step, third is happiness, fourth is compromise, and fifth is love. I hope that helps.
523316
If you are not ready, or everything is going too fast, sit down with them and explain how you feel. If this is too hard to do, then you are not with the right person. If the person loves you he/she will understand and wait or slow down. If an argument starts, then you are not with the right person.
338515
Much of what we see and hear pertains to love these days. What many solely seek for in life is love. Yet, what happens when it is found? The idea is to keep it alive, but how? For this, communication is the key. \n\nThe way in which couples communicate with one another is a reflection of their personalities, age, backgrounds, and lifestyles. In order to maintain a relationship, couples must exchange information about themselves. They need to be capable of feeling confident, to be honest, direct, and clear when discussing realities about their past, present, and future. 1 If one cannot share ideas about themselves with their partner, they are not allowing themselves to heal, get closer, or make a real commitment. Love cannot exist if a person cannot discuss important issues of their life with their companion\nOne of the most important aspects of communication is how you communicate with your loved one. In order to converse well with your partner there are certain things one can try. \n\nTo begin, try talking about yourself and your feelings. Express positive as well as negative feelings about how you feel about yourself, your partner, or anything concerning the relationship. It sometimes takes bravery to tell someone how you feel, but in the end it really pays off. \n\nSecond, express everyday needs and wants on a daily basis. Your partner is not psychic. It is difficult to cooperate, compromise, or meet another's expectations when you have no idea how they feel about things. Third, use direct expression rather than indirect expression such as, “I'm angry,” or “I feel rejected” instead of, “you make me angry,” or “you reject me.” This is a simple method that may helpavoid conflict. \n\nLastly, be a good listener. Your partner will feel more connected to you if he/she senses you are interested in them rather than interested in impressing them. 3 Likewise, when couples fail to attempt these key techniques to help their relationship flourish, ineffective communication may be taking place.\n\nSome relationship problems may be caused by miscommunication or misunderstandings in a conversation. Miscommunication may take place when couples do not clearly convey something to their partner. For instance, one may communicate certain messages with words, but their body language says something else. An example of this would be a partner who says, “I love you” to their partner with an angry tone in his or her voice. \n\nMisunderstandings are most visible in those relationships where one partner assumes that the other partner already knows something, or should know something. Assuming that one's partner should already know everything, brings about conflict within the relationship. 4 When these two things occur, it is thought of as inadequate communication, which often leads to frustration and hostility, and consequently can further ruin future communication within the relationship. Even the most simple of conversations can become a forum for competitiveness, power struggles and mutual depreciation. Some of these effects can be visualized when considering situations where ineffective communication is used.
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It's a timing thing.  But don't do it too soon.. telling someone that you love them lets say 2 weeks into a relationship then that might scare the crud out of them.  If you have been together with someone for lets say 6 months to a year and everything is fine and dandy then go ahead and say it.  \n\nA good icebreaker for these kind of things is to say this\n"I know that we have not been together for very long BUT, I just wanted to let you know that I love you.  I don't expect you to say anything till you are ready but I just felt that you should know what my feelings are."  \n\nThis worked just fine with me and my BF and we have been together for 10 years. \n\nGood Luck!
428335
Be open, responsive, and willing to compromise. It isn't always easy, but if u can do this, your relationship will stay strong
1024556
He has emotions for you, not for her. So he is not worried about "saying the wrong things" to her. He does not want to make mistakes around you.  If he is waiting for, be patient, take time. Love sometimes comes slowly.
285855
Good communication makes relationships work.\n\nWhat to chat about:  Ask your girlfriend about how her day went, what she wants to do, where she wants to go with you.  When you're interested in her, it'll make her feel more special. Then when she's done, share with her your experiences...\n\nSo go ahead and chat with your girlfriend.  Enjoy! =)
681926
Always remember that Love is an action word. You can say it all day long. If when it is time you do not do the little things to show it then there is no love. Remember that being told you are right is not as important as being a fair partner. If there is something that you can do to be helpful do it. If the one you are marrying is not the same way RUN.
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Well the first thin is is that you both need to be able to:\ncommunicate\ncompromise\ntrust\nbe honest \ngive as well as receive\nbe able to be patient and understanding\nbe able to allow them to have a life away from you as well.\nto want to do things special for one another once in a while. like:\nplan a walk at the beach and have a pic nic\ncall them up on the phone jsut to say "i love you", "i miss you" and/or "I'm thinking aobut you"\nplan a candle light dinner at home\nhave a nice warm bath waiting for their return possibly with( candles, music, oil or bubbles and/or rose petals in tub)\nOn your partners day off, play hooky to spend time with them on cuddling on the couch watching movies and talking.\nIf you two can do this, seek a marriage counselor, counselor will be able to bring up some other importatnt things to thik about, that most people don't seem to think about.
197075
You need to let them know it's ok to talk while making love. And it's ok to ask them what they'd like. Just yesterday I asked my girlfriend what I could do better. She replied; I'd like to do something but wasn't sure if it would bother me or not. I told her go ahead...didn't bother me at all and she got off on it.
360602
well,\nwhenever you feel the time is right. When ever you both sit down and feel like you are ready. You will both know when the time is right. Trust me in that i had the same predicament and when my now fiance and i knew the time was right we got engaged and then now are planning our marriage. Good luck
606254
The key to any relationship is communication.  If you can't talk about how you feel then things are not going to get any better.  Be strong, find a moment during your conversation to just say I love you and I am tired of fighting lets figure out a way to get back on track.  Or something like that, you need to talk about it or it will just get worse.
475688
Those words are very powerful and deep, and can evoke alot of hidden feelings that neither of you knew existed.  They can be a very good step towards a deeper relationship, but at the same time, they can be a factor that can pull you apart.  You have to know the right time to say them, and know that, honestly, there is no rush to say them, and sometimes actions speek louder than words if those words are just not ready to be said. You have to ACTUALLY BELIEVE IT FOR SURE before you say it. Don't be afraid of a little romance though.  Buy her a rose, call her randomly during the day just to see how she is feeling, treat her to a nice dinner, invite her over and have a candlelit pick-nick in your back yard, courtesy of your cooking (Granted you have some culinary abilities.)  Those kind of things are almost always appreciated and can mean a lot when you put your heart into the planning.  \n\nHope this helps,\nRespectfully, \nAndrew V.
985992
Just say everything. You love everything about them. And you know your meant to be with them. but there not really a line to say.  just tell him or her how you feel. and make it come from your heart.
560984
Never forget that no relationship is perfect. If there's a perfect relationship, then something is seriously wrong. You have to take the ups with the downs. Don't always expect it to be happy times. Marriage is totally about compromise, so don't ever expect to always get your way or you're doomed to fail. Never go to bed mad...stay up and fight till it's resolved or you'll carry the bitterness with you into the following days and unresolved issues will come up to bite you in the *ss later on. Don't ever bring up past fights or your partner's wrong-doings to throw in their face, that's just mean and spiteful. Learn to walk away. If your partner says something that p*sses you off don't let it get to you, simply walk away with your head held high learn to say "yes hunny" when your partner says something, even if you don't agree...saves from getting into an argument. These are just a few things I've learned :D.
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Actions are always better than words.  I felt that I couldn't express myself enough with those 3 little words.  Before, those words scared me, but now, I found someone that I could say them calmly and confidently, and even more with actions.\n\nLetting her sleep late, even if I worked late or a double shift.  Giving her some her time (w/o screaming kids).  Holding her hand (even in public), squeazing her hand 3 times for love. Soft kisses, a look..........   An extra long hug, not wanting to let go, ever!  \n\nSure material things are nice, but a better way to show it is when it's from the heart.