how can i get a friend to stop trying to be better than every1 else because it is driving me up the wall help!
611899
well someone that anxious to prove herself is definately insecure - I think that is what you have to focus on - what is it that she thinks she is lacking in that she needs to make up for it in other areas - you are her friend so I think you may already know the answer - if you know what the problem is, I think it will be easy to solve the problem - just be a bit subtle about it
104398
You are who you are. Accept it. All you can do is ask your friend to do the same. You do NOT change urself for others unless you FEEL that something is wrong with you. As long as you are happy being who you are, it is good enough. So your friend teases you, tell her to accept you as you are. If she STILL teases you, make light of it and join the fun. Its not bad if you laugh at yourself. But make sure your friends know the limits, that is all. And I think you can trust this, because this comes from a guy who gets teased EVERYDAY for one thing or the other and NEVER have I tried to change myself unless I felt some part of me was bad.
302700
This really is common, whether we admit it or not. I have a friend that at times really frusterates me. I just wait a week or so and then by giving the both of us space, we just start pretty much where we left off, and the funny part is that most of the time she doesn't even know I was upset with her, friends just do that. See what causes yall to fight and try to avoid it, if you can't do this then try to talk to her about this, a real friend is there through the thick and the thin!
462203
Forget your friends. If their really your friends, they woll except you chocies and be behind you all the way. Talk to them about and do what you want.
929288
That's easy. Give him absolute ZERO attention. I mean completely ignore him. Even if he is in your face don't give him the time of day. Don't look at him and don't show any annoyance. Smile and continue to enjoy your friends and especially smile and be normal whenever he is around. Eventually he will realize that he has no effect and will have no choice but to abandon his plight. Once you put your game into action you will discover that this really works. You will actually begin to enjoy (to yourself) him becoming inferior to your being superior.\n\nHis is truly a mind game. Its up to you to show him yours is on a higher plane.
937000
You are being the better person by not bragging.  I know your age is hard.  My daughter is probably close to your age (she's 12 and I apologize if I didn't get even close to your age) but she is very mature for 12 and there are kids that annoy her to the point that she doesn't even want to be friends but I think she needs to learn how to be tolerable.\n\nNo one person is perfect ever so knowing this we must tolerate the differences in one another.  You know that you are a smart girl but at the same time you don't have to broadcast it because you're afraid people won't like you if you're not...that already makes you the better person.\n\nFeel good about yourself that you don't have to broadcast your strengths because you believe in your abilities and don't rely on that alone.\n\nI don't know if I helped any but you asked a really great question and I wish I would have had a forum like this to go to when I was your age.\n\nBest of luck to you.\n\n~~Theresa
467169
Umm...i have a friend that does that...she gets on my nerves alot! Well this is what I did I told her that she doesn't act like herself anymore and i hate that! So I was like please stop acting like you are an idiot, and she did!
879648
Come right out and tell him.....you know, you talk too much and it gets on my nerves....\n\nI have a friend like that two......it is annoying!!
485531
I've gone through this too, and unfortunately I handled it the wrong way, by ignoring the person. Leave your pride behind and tell this girl that she is moving too fast and tell her that you want to keep it at a friend level for now. If she can't except that, oh well.
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ur friend might be absolutely right.they all might be really jealous of u.so don't worry abt people esp those who don't even know u.\ninfact don't worry abt anyone.as long as u r right and as long as u know that u've done nothing wrong don't worry at all.just be urself and talk to those who talk to u properly.be nice to everyone and never put ur head down.if the peoblem persists then just go to ur bf and ask him on his face the reason why he's doing all this.and if he doesn't give any reason then just tell him what u think of him for doing such things and tell him that he's been doing cheap things and all these things don't bother u at all.\n\nmake him feel like a fool.tell him that by doing this he is ruining his own dignity and not urs and tell this to everyone.\nso when u say something like this they'll definitely know that u r quite strong and they'll stop doing such things slowly.\n\nand if u don't want to do all this stuff,then just keep saying this word to urself when anyone says anything to u or whenever u remember anything they say"AKUNAMATATA"=no worries.\nmake it a habit.\n\nTRUST ME IT WORKS.\n\nhope i was of some help to u .all the best.i'm there for u always.\ngood luck.\ncontact me if u have further trouble.
534602
I would ask her why her friends do that and have a talk about it. i think she may be jealous of you and this is her way of dealing with it! and if she gets worse after you talk to her then she does deserve you as a friend.
74810
Being a freind is a hard job, and I know that a lot of people try to take advantage of NICE people. If you remember that everyone has to live someplace, and that you will not always get along with everyone you meet, I am sure that you will find a gentle way  to discourage this neighbor. try saying "I am very sorry but I am busy today, I am expecting a call from my aunt, she wrote a book and will be reading it to me over the phone so I can help her with the grammar" you get it? If you have enough excuses why you won't be available they will have to befriend another neighbor. \n The good side is that for every kindness you do will come back to you 7 fold . good luck!!!
188058
Tell your friend that she deserves someone better than him. Tell her that you'll be there to support her no matter what, but that she can do way better than him. and mean it. She'll see that he's an ass eventually if you support her.
697891
Well the best way to deal with her is by just being her friend. If you are truly friends then don't let it bother you so much.\nShe is trying to "copy" you because she thinks you are better, prettier etc.. Take it as a complement.\nHelp her build confidence in her self and self esteem. Be an encourager, lift her up. When she does something nice... tell her. When she where's something that looks good.. complement her
996490
Give him one chance to prove he is a friend.  In private, tell him how his behavior is hurting you and ask him to stop.  If he does it again, he's not really your friend.
858946
Hi, The best thing to do is find another friend.  She is NO friend if she does this.  Start socializing with others and try not to be around her.  She is toxic to you and exactly what is happening to you is the result.  She will lower your self esteem and ruin your self confidence.  Remind yourself that what she is saying and doing is not the truth and she is not a friend.  Surround yourself with positive, content, and happy people.
860551
Ok..you need to talk to them. Ask them why they have such a problem w/ you. Tell them that youre not talking to the devil & thats crazy anyways. Tell them that you have asthama & would never encourage your friend to do something that would hurt them in the long run. Tell them that youre actually trying to make her stop. Theres nothing you can do if they dont listen then. Even have your friend be there to help discuss so she can back you up on it. Good luck hun.