my b/f wont go down town  anymore?
608386
tell him no stick until he licks
139484
Take him somewhere privately and discuss about your relationship and ask him if he is. If he is let him freely go his way because obviously you are not his type but just in a friendly way, and if not let him know that he is doing things that are giving you the idea that he is and maybe he will change his ways.
456820
maybe when you told him he wasn't getting any , he stayed with you just in case you eventually let your guard down, he is an idiot to not call you after running around after you so much..leaving town is a BullSh*t excuse and now he is probably looking elsewhere....you were indeed played like a hand of poker..get over it and find someone who can treat you right
461291
Your situation is very similar to what I am in. My b/f and I met online, talked for 3 weeks, then met.  We had the most unbelieveable weekend together!!  We now have been living together 5 months, but he works out of state for 2 to 3 weeks at a time.  Hopefully I can help with that I know.  \n\nThe void in your heart when you aren't talking to her is because all you two have right now, is talking.  You can't see each other every day so that's what you cling to.  Makes perfect sense, I felt the same way then.\n\nAlthough she isn't calling you as often as you'd like, what do you two have to talk about, that you haven't talked about in the last 2 months?  Those hour long phone calls don't last forever because seriously, what else is there to talk about?  My b/f and I decided a call in the morning and a call in the evening would be the best way to handle that.  We could wish each other good morning and tell each other have a good day, but we'd play catch up at night.  We always make sure to tell each other even the little things that happen throughout our day because we both feel like we too are experiencing things even when we can't be together.  \n\nWe do have seperate lives too.  When he is home, we are together 100% but when we are apart, I go out with my girlfriends and he goes out with his work crew.  Don't think for a minute I am not thinking of him when I am out.  He feels the same because many times, he calls me when he is out with the guys.  My point is, you can't just sit at home and mope, wondering what the other is doing.  You need to live too.  Have fun, do hobbies, go out with your buddies.  Keep your mind busy until you can be with her again.  \n\nIf it's meant to be, it will happen.  Don't rush or pressure her and don't be clingy and needy. You have to trust her.  If you don't, you will lose her for sure.
938181
If there is/was a dance or function...ask him if he went or is going. If he says no, ask  "Didn't your girlfriend want to go?"  Good luck...
994760
Lady!! You've already answered your own question. Just how long will you put up with it??  I mean..It might be too late. He may just be waiting for you to come to your senses and put your foot down. Then he will take off like a shot, because sugar momma aint being sweet no more.
858832
Hey everybody gots there limit and he reach yours. there's nothing wrong with that. you bf is a pig, not was, IS. I don't think it's a question of right or wrong it's about your standers and u have that right as a human being. we all have to draw the line in the sand sometime. on the other hand if u really love him and he loves u and your thinking of getting back. he going to have to change all of that or your just going to break up with him again. sometimes telling a person once, they just  don't get it but maybe he will try the second time and if that don't work  then you know  he not going to change anything.
406642
He has lowered his standards because he has lost a woman of your caliber. He knows he can't hold on to a woman as good as you. Maybe he will see the error of his ways and come crawling back and it will be your turn to make him feel bad. He is still trying to hurt you and he needed a comparison between you and his new bimbo. You are better than that and you know it. So does he. Stay strong lady. There is someone out there who will treat you right and love you for who and what you are. You don't need him and the pain he causes.
1036958
He's playing you for guilt and sympathy. Next you'll give in as expected.  A real man will respect and value you as a whole.  He should be able to wait and walk the same walk, and just don't talk.\nWatch your back and don't get hurt and taken so easily..girlfriend!
797437
make him take you ought ot a nice rest. in town and order a big meal then dump him.....that way youre fool and done with him...im a guy and he is a turd
238186
Well yeah! If you dont want to go, you dont want to go, dont you think he would like to know this now then before he makes all the plans and your 2 hours from taking off... lol seriously keeping what you want to do from him for the sake of his feelings can end up hurting his feelings even more in the long run :) Trust me on this one babes :)
33768
Do the same! or find something better so that your bf come from frist place to second place!\n(just for a limit time)
528367
hmmm!. Ask yourself, has he mended his ways, or is he going to try a different approach to the same old games, those are the important question one ask when your trust been violated, now if he was just slow to giving you all he has to give to this relationship, as you have, then maybe, just maybe he will pick up the pace and be more serious about this go as you are, GOOD LUCK< girl you watch him anyway
685462
I go back to what I was told along time ago.  That is, "Trust your first instincts"  If he kicked you to the curb, then to the curb with him.  He will play with your heart.  He knows you'll always be there when he needs you.  You're better than that.  Do you really need this drama.  You know, where was he for these past 2 - 3 yrs.  Undying love....my ass.  He knows how to play with your mind and you're falling for it.  I don't mean to sound harsh, and I totally am not like this.  I guess you just touched a nerve.\n\nGood luck
588833
HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU!!!!!!   and there is nothing wrong with you!!!!  I'm sorry if this will hit you hard, but from what you are saying something is definetly wrong with this guy, and he is just using you!!   If he is telling you to get away, then you may need to make some Big changes with yourself and your baby
759214
lay it on the line.  if it 's not working for you then it's not working.  can't make it work.  tell him that you can be friends and that the relat ionship as b/f is over. simple.  but, say what you mean and mean what you say.  the person you choose to be with has to accomodate your beat, not just his beat.
1032870
It sounds as though he is the one not being honest here.  You're right, you don't end a four year relationship over something like this without at least talking about it.  There has to be something else that he is not telling you.  Perhaps he got scared after you moved in and decided he wasn't really ready to take that step after all and this is just his way of getting out of it.  There could be lots of reasons, but one thing is for sure... without trust you have NO relationship.  And right now, he doesn't trust you.  Clearly he has some issues that he needs to deal with, and the best thing for you, hard as it may be, is to let him go for now.  If you two are truely a match, he won't be gone for long.  And if things don't work out, better now than several years from now when it would be even more painful.   Breaking up is never easy and often leaves one or both people with hurt, confussion, and a lot more questions than answers.  Try not to be so afraid of the pain that you loose yourself trying to please him, or judge him too harshly at a time when neither of you are at your finest.  Give it time and you will both find your way through this, whether it's together or apart.