How to divorce a working wife, when she is working at a different place, and not providing me family life.?
611230
Hmm...I'm not really sure about this one, but my suggestion is to talk to your wife about it. 1,000 miles is way to much to be apart. Let her know how you feel about the situation. See if she is willing to leave her job and move to where you are, or if you are willing to leave your job and move to where she is. If that will not happen for whatever purpose, then getting a divorce might be the best option, although I don't know how you would go about getting one. \nSorry to hear you're in this situation and I wish you the best of luck!
604588
You didnt mention why you separated, I think that is important to know to answer the question.  But anyhow yes it does sound like she wants to hold off on the divorce.  Its a good thing you have pets, it will give you both the opportunity to spend time together to know if you should get back together.  Unless your going to be single the rest of your life there is no getting away from emotional heartache.  Its a part of life and love.  Might as well try and work it out with someone who was good enough to be your wife in the first place.
1123418
I would give it some time...maybe 'til your divorce is final? Then maybe ask her to lunch at work or something, just friendly-ish, and see how she reacts. Maybe she is seeing someone already now and doesn't want to hurt you so she hasn't told you? Or it's possible she is bothered by the marraige thing...it sounds like you have been being pretty laid back and taking it slow with her, which is good. Sometime though you need to find out for sure how she feels about you; the best way is to tell her how you feel about her! Ask her out for a drink or dinner after work sometime maybe, and simply tell her you are still very attracted to her, and see what happens.
506167
No 'nice' ways anymore.  Brutal (but sensitive) honesty time.\n1.  Admit your fault in the situation.  You shouldn't have started things up if you knew you were going to get back together with your wife.\n2.  Tell her your side.  Marriage is a commitment and you aren't the kind of person who wants to get divorced and trivialize that commitment so you're doing everything you can... etc, etc.\n3.  Compliment her by reminding her she can find someone much better.\n4.  Let her say how she feels and respond without getting defensive.\n5.  Under no circumstances are you to use her as a 'in case it doesn't work out' friend.  That isn't fair and it's not right.\nGood luck.
804171
Her issues are not your concern anymore.  U already made your choice, u gave your vows to someone else.  Concentrate on your marriage instead.
67250
I have been married for 7 years in april and my husband and I had a similar fight when we had first gotten married, I now do not work but in a new marriage everything is changing so fast and I think that asking her to quit her job is like asking her to give up her ability to support herself and feel confident, it is her way of having something all her own not having to share it. I think if you give her time and come to a compromise she will come to some common ground with you. But I wouldn't push the issue of her quitting all together. I hope that I have helped some .
350881
Well, is there anyway of compromise? Is the distance between the place of his new job in september and your stable job place too great to commute from a place that's in between the two places?  \n\nIf it is commutable distance for you two, then I suggest that you and your husband staying in a rental home or a reasonably priced apartment that's nearer to your two job places and renting your new house or keeping it for your selves for later.  After all, being so far apart from your husband seems to hurt your relationship with him to the point that it might lead to a bigger issue in future (like god forbid, a divorce).  Communication and intimacy are important keys in a relationship; without them, a person can lose many things in life that he/she might regret later.\n\nHowever, if the distance seems to be too great, then you can stay in your new home by yourself while your husband again goes to the job place and works but I would like to suggest that you two take many oppurtunities that you can to make up for the lessened communication and intimacy in your lives by visiting in the weekends or monthly (whatever suits your schedules).\n\nWhile stable jobs are important to life, a stable relationship is also important to life.  It's up to you two to calmly figure out the balance between the supporting your relationship while having jobs so that both will be happy in the end instead of being frustrated about not understanding the different levels of importance the two of you give to the relationship and work.  After all, you two are individuals and as such you two have different ideas and beliefs over what's important to each of your lives.  To find out the differences and to understand and respect eachother's ideas and beliefs, please do talk seriously about it so that you two can better balance between your relationship and works.\n\nGood luck!
250205
Rework your resume.  Be honest about the time you cared for your wife.  You can alsways get a friend to give you a glowing work reference.
860895
Isn't the distance grounds enough for a divorce?what is your reason for coming back in.?the reason you have given here is not enough.\nmove on with your life.your absence is abandonment.
200225
If you are considering another relationship with her then maybe marriage counselling would be a first step.  If you can get through that then I might consider trying again but obviously there were serious issues that warranted the divorce to begin with.
388661
run away fast and don't look back,if you don't want this now then marriage is an oppressive life sentence and you will grow resentful and eventually that will cost you half of evrything you own, mental and emotional anguish and give you full responsibility for both tax debts regardless of any court order because the irs won't recognize it and the respct and friendship you have with her if you divorce, if she gives you an ultimatum leave and yes it will hurt when she leaves but it will hurt more to be manipulated into doing something you are not ready to do and you will find another and better lover soon enough, you should squash this talk now and don't give her false hopes to delude herself into thinking she will get you to propose
718499
I'm guess your WIFE would not approve of the girlfriend and your cheating on her.  You know there are literally thousands of chicks out there that you could fall in love with.  You just going to keep cheating and dumping wives until you run out of them?  If you have problems work it out, that is what it means to be an adult.  Also, what real life issues have you and "work girl" been through.  I bet once you get married to "work girl" have some kids and some real responsibilities together, she'll be a bore too.  Chicks with no complications or responsibilities are always more fun.  Buck up dude and be a man.
179451
You have to file for a divorce in the county where you live.  If the divorce is final, then you might be able to change where the county if you have moved.  It depends on how long you have lived there.  You should contact the court directly and talk to the workers there about a change in venue.  If both parties agree and if you live somewhere different it might be easy.\n\nSee website http://divorcenet.com \n\nmight be of some general help
170887
She's married and that should be the end of it. Find a woman who is not emotionally attached to someone else.\nIf you think your hurting now, it's going to be twice as bad if you start a relationship with this woman - only to have it end.\nYou need to ask yourself if you would want to be the man to break up a marriage where kids are involved?? The kids will hate you (that's if you were successfull in getting this woman) and most woman would not stay with a man their children do not like or respect.\nShow a little more respect for yourself - don't you think you deserve a woman who isn't running home to a husband every night???
771337
Having been in that situation before, it's understandable how you feel! But if you want to make her work without feeling you are letting her down, consider this: You aren't going to always be around. You'll move away, or perhaps you'll move on with life, meet new people. So will she. YOU will probably be more successful. And she won't have the experience to get along on her own. If you still care for her, despite all mooching, dump her (gently) on her bum and let her know she's got to learn to get around on her own two legs. No more help.\n\nOffer advice. Get her started with a step or two towards finding a job. But beyond that, refuse all help. Let her know that the job industry isn't always about who you know, but how much work you do.
254655
Tricky situation...\n\nIf you decide you want to do her, then work late often.  However, she needs to make the first move.  Afterall, she's the boss, right?  Once she puts the two of you in a less than professional situation and it is understood that it is consentual and everything is cool, then take her in every way.  Have sex in the office on her bosses desk, etc.     \n\nNow for the problem...although you are the employee and therefore not quite as responsible for behavior that might be against policy or a conflict of interest.  In essence, she will realize that if things were to go sour, she could get into some real trouble to the point of being fired.  You've really got her over a barrel.  However, if it comes to your word against her's and if she is a valuable employee, she could simply deny everything and who's to know the difference.  Now you're the one that will be fired.  Eventually, one of you will say "It was great, but now it's over."  The other person may not take this well and go off the deep end.  Now there's a lot of explaining to do.  If you let this affair happen, you can safely predict that one of you will be gone within a year.  \n\nNow, if you still want to enjoy the gifts that life has to offer and be naughty with her, and I'm not saying you shouldn't, you need to be smart and protect your interests.  Collect and retain evidence, such as a card she might have given you, emails, voice messages, bra & panties.  With this, she will never dare take the risk.  In fact, when it comes time for your performance evaluation and raise, it should be very interesting and amusing to watch her try to remain separately objective.  My crystal ball says you should do quite well.\n\nHaving said all this, I know that I could manage it well.  When an opportunity for hot sex comes my way, I go for it.  However, I've also seen people totally mess up their lives because they just can't keep their emotions under control.  Only you can decide if you can make this work.  If you doubt yourself, it might be safer and easier to leave it alone and avoid further situations where either of you might be tempted.\n\nSo, what do you want out of life... daring excitement with calculated risk/reward or non-spontainious safety with no risk/no reward?  I say; our time is short, so make the most of it.  Let those puppies breathe, let those panties fly and give her a deep one for me!
61549
It sounds like she has no respect for you and has no consideration for your feelings.  Why would you want to be with a woman like this? Would she be so understanding if you were spending your free time with another woman?  You need to take charge of the situation and put your foot down let her know that this is unacceptable behavior and if she refuses to put a stop to it you know that she is not the one for you.  Ultimately the decision is yours do you want to live this way and if she is not looking out for your childrens best interest than maybe you need to.