how do you deal with the person you love loving someone else?
605702
You move on with your life.  Its hard, but try focusing on something that you are passionate about.  Dont dwell on it or it with rip your heart out.  Things happen for a reason.
361335
i guess you better let go that person, even though you love him/her because he/she is already married and from that fact, you can't do anything about it. i guess that person is already happy with his/her married life life and i think it's just right not to spoil such relationship. Love really hurts, especially in your case (or in your question) but the best thing to do is be happy for that person and wish him/her the best. Move on and after a while you also find the one that is really meant for you or the one that will give back your love. That would be nicer than being "the-would-be-third-party" right?
511920
U don't do anything, just keep loving the person. He will need your love and support while in prison. A lot times love ones are forgotten about when they go to prison. Never let anyone tell who to love and not to love. Make your own choices.
286081
I'm in the same boat, but I AM THE "SOMEONE ELSE. Please accept it. I am constantly being harrassed with phone calls and I had to get the police involved. Please don't let it get to you like that. It will only make you look foolish. There is someone for everyone out there and when yours comes along you will forget about the guy who is hurting you now. Trust me when I tell you that if he really loves this other girl, you don't stand a chance anymore. Let him go.
558503
Keep doing what you are doing. (I have been there too)\nThe truth is, time heals all wounds. It takes a long time to heal from loving someone. You may never truly forget her. You will love again. It wont be the same, BUT IT WONT BE ANY LESS.\nIt will keep hirting you if you keep taling to her, seeing her. You need to give youreslf time and space, away from her. \nIf she calls you again, tell her that. She should be willing to respect that.\nI'm sorry. I know you are hurting. Good luck.
344046
You were hurt, and you pushed him away. That can happen to anyone in your situation, but I agree that you should tell him how you feel. Don't drag it out. You should know where you stand and let him know where he stand with you. If it doesn't work out, you will have closer and the ability to love someone else. That may not necessarily be what you want to hear, but YES sweetie you can love again.
502229
You choose to continue loving them.  The feelings of love (normally lust) will diminish and you are left with this person who is not what you thought they were now that you can see them without your blinders.  At this point, you choose to continue loving the person by over looking the annoying habits and doing things you know pleases them.  Find their (and your) love language.  It makes a huge difference!  Check out the love language book at your local library.
421740
talk to them,tell them how ur feeling about it let them know that everyday u are worried that they are actually gonna go through with it and u are gettin tired of it.just let them know that u love both of them and u want them to just decide what their gonna do already instead of worring you constantly.good luck and hope it turns out how u hope
970802
Have you just asked him.  Ask him how he feels for you than ask how he feels about her.  Then ask if he had to choose who would it be.  if he says he don't know than maybe you should get some space but don't disappear.  If you can't handle his feeling for her than you should give ur self some time. Don't be with a man who loves someone else.  but if he tells you his feeling for you are stronger than his feeling for her than you stay and fight for him.  He seems honest considering he let you both know about each other, so I think he'll be honest about his feelings for the both of you.  You Know, even when people love each other they do grow apart and even though they have nine years he may not be the same man and may actually be the one for you now.
267924
Until you get over whats causing you to be bottled up, you wont. Work on you first, then tackle sharing love with someone else. Old advice but its so true: You cant love someone else if you dont love yourself, you cant make someone happy or be happy if youre not happy with yourself.
556491
to start with, i know you have a stronger feeling for one of those two people, it just so happen that maybe, just maybe, you found something that you needed in one guy but you really love the other and now you confused yourself that the love the other where in fact, you only see something about him that you like but you not specifically love him. assess your feelings and start to weigh things out. \n\nand if it happens that they both weigh equally in your heart just like the other, then its tme to take chances on one which you think loves you more, then drop the other. in loving someone, its not necessary that you are sure, what matters is that you loved all the love you can give, and then who gives a damn if it doesnt work. what matters is that once in your life, you do a crazy thing and feel loved like no one had ever felt before and that feeling will be enough to sustain you for a long time.\n\nand see after sometimes, you would just reminisce the old feeling and just laugh about how carzy inlove you have been for the two guys..
479708
well I think you should never force someone to love you. If she loves someone else that's fine although it hurts very much. Let her go her way and you don't have to help her ! i guess she is not a small girl :)\n\nfind some one else man. time heals. you will be happy
113760
Truly loves you?  I wonder if that really exists with out you truly loving the other first.  If you wait for someone to truly love you it may never happen.  All you can do and all you can control is you.  You and your own feelings.  I would think that if you are asking about this then you are probably in love with someone and unsure of the others feelings.  Well of course you could ask...but really try this...open your heart and show it.  If the other person loves you then this will only create a space that will allow the other person to respond with love.  For you there also needs to be thought of what you need in life.  Things like helping you with issues you need handled or doing something for someone you love...but all of that is the easy stuff. I was involved with someone for three years and he did everthing for me...but he neer loved me nor I him.  Now I am ivolved with a man that I do not lean on for anything but his heart is mine.  Only after I opened mine and took a chance.
404575
if you dont like him like that there isnt much u can do,\nive been in that situation and all you can do is wait for them to find someone else they like alot.\nits unfair to expect them to just deal with it
317008
you can't chose the people to love you...try to treat him as friend, and not as close friend
322429
I feel for you...\nIf she is marrying someone else then there's nothin you can do except to let go of your guilt feelings and your love for her.  You don't have a choice but to move on or be miserable for the rest of your life.
6604
Unfortunately love can be painful as well as joyous.  Remember that just because we care or love someone else does not necessarily mean that person feels the same way toward us.  Its a tough situation when you love someone who cannot return the feelings.  But, its better to find that out now rather then later.  Best of luck to you.