I am 37 yrs old & feel like I'm never going to get it right with anyone.  Any suggestions.?
609090
just be yourself.  there will be someone out there for you.
909607
I'm not a Dr. so I can't answer that question however, it sounds like you have major depression. There is hope for you, I'm 45 and I understand what your going through. call your local health dept. and see if there is a mental heath clinic in your town that uses a sliding scale for payment, this is based on your income. If you don't succeed there call the Dept of Mental heath for your state. there has to be somewhere you can get help! if you need to talk you can e-mail me rose56149@yahoo.com I do understand!!
1102331
I'm 40 and I have the same problem with some of my family.  Wish I had an answer for you.  Sometimes I get the feeling that the people in my life really don't think I can do anything right.  At least their actions say so.  I usually ignore their stupid remarks and go about things my own way.  If the remarks really get to me, I'll just plain tell them that I know what I'm doing.  Usually works too.
1083473
when you find one, let me know... i'm feeling the same way... *25 yrs old but feel like i'm 40.. lol*
1048127
Yes zool, sometimes I feel very sad and loney too.  My marriage of 27 years broke up about 3 yars ago.  Then I met someone, fell in love and got engaged.  He died last September.  Since then I can't seem to "find my place."  You know, where I belong.  I moved to another state but feel like I need to go back where I came from because my children and grandchildren are there.  What is making you feel sad and lonely?  You can email me at watsoq9@yahoo.com if you like.
931930
I felt the same way for a long long time, and I still feel that way sometimes. People really are there for you though, you just don't see it. If you were to need them they would be there, they just don't know that you need them now. Talk to someone about it. Anyone you trust. Just ask them if you can talk to them alone and explain that you feel like no one cares. It can be a sign of something serious like depression so be careful and know when it's gone too far. People do care, and they're all over. You just don't realize it when they're not right there beside you.
1121387
There are others who feel as you do...please avail yourself. Sending you some links...\n\nWhen you are ready...at a time and place of your choosing...reach out...and learn from those who have been where you are...and are taking steps.\n\nPeace and blessings...good luck.
1052447
I wish that I could tell you a wonderful answer where everything will be great, BUT I know how you feel, I was an abused child and married when I had just turned 17.  Well he started reminding me of my Mother before long.  I had no family, no one but his family as my friends, I had no place to go, so I stayed, It became very clear that he didn't love me, but I was so afraid.  But after 19 years I packed up and left, scared out of my mind, but you know what even though it was hard, lonely, I learned so much about myself, most of all I learned that life is to short to spend it with someone that makes you so sad, and doesn't treat you like a lover, friend or partner but more like something that they bought and paid for like an old car, then it is time to build a life that can be happier than you could ever imagine.  Even small things can make you smile or just laugh out loud especially when you have always been controled or felt like you were going to get in trouble for.  Like I would leave the bed unmade, didn't have to cook, and on Sat. morning I would lay in bed until 2 if that is what I wanted to do.  And I will tell you when you can go and come when you please and you don't have to answer to anyone but yourself, you too may find that life can be happy and full of good, instead of a life filled  with mostly bad and a little good every now and then.  Please take it from a woman that has been there no one can do this for you but you.  And somethings are so worth the risk.  And remember this, I had a friend one time tell me how stong I was, when I said no I am weak, she said look at what you have already been through, anything else should be a breeze.
99258
I am sorry you hear that you are lonely.  There are churches that help out lonely people. Find a good church and make friends. Or better yet, go to the home for the aged or old age community.  There are many old people who go there to find company. Good Luck my man!
34977
Man, I know how that can feel...been there done that!!!  I found that I wasen't voicing my needs enough in some cases and in the others it was a matter of getting rid of the trash friendships that were merely sucking me dry emotionally and/or finacially.  Do yourself a favor and get rid of people who make you miserable and are just takers. Thinning them out and telling the people whom you choose to keep around what your needs are can be a very empowering experience.  Trust me, a few very close friends is worth more than a ton of supposed friends any day.  Hope this helps.
1039847
Maybe you should come out of your shell. Learn to talk to people before they talk to you. People are so judgmental and that's what makes the world horrible. Don't let them get to you, if you  are comfortable with the way you are, that's just fine, you'll fine the right people in time. Don't change for anyone, be happy with the way you are, if they misunderstand you in a bad way, blow them off that's there lost...=)
317219
TIME....thats the only answer im afraid.it will get easier in time.but for the moment its a big pain in the heart.im 37 mate & i still get those feeling from 4yr ago.hope this helps a little.take it easy for awhile..
650358
How sad that you should have been treated that way. People should have been doing everything they could to include you. \nNow that you are older, you need to move on from those things that oppressed you. I would highly suggest reading Dr. Laura Schlessinger's book "Bad Childhood, Good Life"\nShe has some insights that i promise will help.  Good Luck!
231778
hey! your not alone. i feel the same way. the harder i try to make things better in every aspect of my life and believe me i am a good person who tries doing the right thing but twice as many bad things come back on me. i believe in curses and one has been put on me.
458730
I am looking into my crystal ball....and I see\nI see o wait I see not good...You need to grow up face the facts of life and feel what you need to and pick yourself up by your own boot straps and carry yourself. People are always going to be back stabbing, your in the wrong group.Find a new group of people for your soul to grow and have faith in yourself.   Good luck
327845
The question you need to answer is WHY are you having a big problem reaching a clim** with your wife?  Have you talked with her about what's going on with you?  How do you think SHE feels?  Put ROMANCE into your marriage ... ask her if she'll dress up especially for you and see if that makes a difference.  It may also help you to seek professional help, but with your feeling "old" at 57 (which ISN'T!) I think you and your wife have just gotten into a rut.  Good luck!
169039
im going through the same thing kinda.  i tryed 2 met new people. that helped.