how doi make my family happy and my husband pls i need adviser?
603420
people make themselves happy - trying to make someone else happy is like screwing for virginity
705100
Tell you husband you need more help when you are at his parents house.  Have him listen up and the next time your MIL directs concern to you he can jump in and handle it.  The other option would be for you to ask your husband to handle it in front of your MIL so she can get the message you are equally responsible for the kids.
934944
Send him a letter? Dont you dare. He should always back you up - you are the one he is married to. I think you need to find alternate arrangements for babysitting. Quietly, with dignity, make other arrangements. If the grandma and aunty are not respecting your wishes, what makes you think they wont be disrespecting you infront of your kids? Try to put some distance between you and his family, so you and your husband can form your own tight knit unit. Then when you want to, you can see them on your terms. As dr phil says you teach people how to treat you - dont put up with it. Demand a higher standard of behaviour from them.
1016353
i want more time with my family.
719512
It depends,I dont really care if they do or not, because as long as he makes you happy and your family does'nt like him then it should be up to you,its what you want,you want to be happy with him and your family should'nt get in the way of that happiness.
628051
LET HIM BE.\nAFTER ALL IN YHAT POST MAY MAKE HIM HAPPY.
971576
Sounds like your husband comes from a rough family and still has some of their bad habits. I wouldn't try to get his family to like you. It's not your fault they are mean. It wouldn't matter how perfect you were, they are just not that good at being nice to others. If I were you, I would remember everything your family has taught you about being a good person and trust that. Just be the best person you were raised to be and maybe your example will help soften them over time. Maybe not. But at least you can be strong knowing that you are doing the right thing even if they are not. Do not judge yourself by their standards. They obviously aren't experts at being decent, so don't take what they say so seriously. Try thinking of them compassionately as children who were not given the right tools and don't know how to behave better. Most of all, be kind to yourself, even if others are not. Talk kindly to yourself and think about all your good qualities. When you are feeling hurt try to be patient with them. Remember, they can only hurt your feelings if you believe what they say. Make yourself strong and calm inside and you'll be OK. Think positive! Good luck to you!
126755
I want to have a happy family with a loving husband and beautiful kids.
127835
go hang with you boyfriend (if you have one) how old are you???\n\nif you dont have a boyfriend spend some quality time with your family
661629
First of all, I really feel for you both.  I have been there in a temporary situation, but I knew my husband's job was going to change in 3 months, and we didn't have kids.  But there are things you can do.\n\n#1: Try to have a meal together every day.  My guess is that he can meet you on your lunch break (and have breakfast) and maybe you can meet him for his lunch break, maybe even with the kids sometimes.\n\n#2: I don't know what kind of vacation benefits you guys have, but you need to plan a long weekend.  (Note: sending the kids to your parents and staying home to watch movies and eat chocolate dipped strawberries and champagne counts as a romantic vacation!)\n\n#3: Leave cards or even post-it notes in his car to remind him of you.  He might start doing the same for you.\n\n#4: Plan one night a week that you will stay up and wait for him\n\n#5: Say Goodnight every night.  Call him before you go to bed.\n\n#6: My favorite quirky thing about my marriage...celebrate monthaversaries.  Even if it is just a special card or a flower, celebrate your marriage every month, not just once a year.\n\nI wish you luck and hope that your husband's work situation gets better soon!
827083
Be strong and do not show emotion if they try to make you back down.  You have to live with this man, so its your decision and you have to live with it.  I am sure that your family only wants you to be happy.
807832
How much do you trust your husband to make the right decisions for your family??????........\nSupport your husband in whatever way he needs you to at the moment......you cant worry about how your in-laws feel about you......when they are gone, you will still have your husband and he will appreciate you standing by him....regardless of what happens....\nI fought a similar battle w/in-laws once upon a time...I wish i had just supported my husband....I wish i had understood that I could make it about me and my feelings (which I did)...OR I could have let him do whatever  he needed to do for his parents for him to be ok....knowing that our familys best interest was never  out of him mind.......(I did not do this) OUr marraige suffered ....Now I look back and see It was not worth it.....I SHOULD have trusted him.......He was trustworthy....\nThey never did like me.....but now thery are gone and it doenst matter....But my ex and I are still trying to come to terms with the fallout from that time(as well as other issue).....\nPICK YOUR BATTLES CAREFULLY..........some are not worth the war they will lead up to....
496803
Don't let a single day pass without letting him know in word and deed how much you love, honor and cherish him. Make sure that you never stop talking and sharing the things that happen in your lives. Make sure that you create time for just the 2 of you, especially after you have children. A strong and healthy marriage is the foundation of a happy family.
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You can relax and go a whole lot easier on yourself.\n\nBabys cry and fuss. Even the best parents are frustrated by their inability to understand the baby. They cry for no reason. Sometimes they cry just because they need to cry. \n\nAll you can do is to have your husband and yourself spend as much time with the baby as you can. Spend as much time together with eachother and the baby too. The time is necessary for bonding and to learn about eachother. \n\nThis baby is a strange alien being that definately does not speak the language. You and your husband need some more time too to feel comfortable together. The three of you just need time and rest. \n\nLike most people, you are probably trying to achieve an awful lot in careers and in life outside of the home. You might want to think about priorities and see if both of you can devote more time to family and slow down outside. More rest and more loving family time will probably make all of you feel more like family.\n\nLook at your committments/ house/ mortgage/ payments/ income/ bills/ nanny/ expenses/ etc etc etc and see what you can do without. Maybe you can actually cut back and have more with less.\n\nThere is a great website "www.amoneyminute.com"  from Crown Financial Ministries. They can help you think about raising a family and having time to learn to be with your kids. Who knows, you might find a way to have a great time raising a bunch of really happy kids and a really happy family too.\n\nI imagine that there are a lot of familys that have cultural friction when one partner is asian and the other is american. We americans are over confident and pretty pig headed (you can tell him it is a cultural thing) After all we have been used to having things our way for the last hundred years, and in America, that is forever.\nYou might look for a asian/american christian church in your area. They usually have couples counciling. And there will probably be other asian wives that have american husbands who can relate with your situation. They should be able to help.\n\nJesus loves you Dear. -----and so does your husband, I bet!
728313
I completely understand how you feel.  I hate being anywhere but home, it is an uncomfortable, anxious nagging want to escape pressure that you have to control and act like you don't feel.\n\nTell your husband, and his family you have other plans.  I say tell his family so he does not try to explain in a way they will not understand.  Maybe going every other time will make it easier for you to deal with.  Tell them you just need sometime to work on things at home...like your peace of mind, yeah, don't tell them that part. :))
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try to focuse on ur home try to spend ur time in making the house cleaner try to make food decoriate ur house think that thier is no preson will care about u that mush expet ur husband try to have a baby thise will give the feeling that ur husband is every thing in ur live and good luck
35064
Offer your sympathies to the family and offer to do anything that they need. Then follow through since some people have a hard time asking for help. Making sandwiches, snacks, or a casserole is also nice.