why do mothers as they get older get cranky?
613011
All women (mothers and non-mothers) get cranky as they age. You try pushing a couple (or more) watermellons through your body whole and then give up your life for the next 25-30 years, during which time your body starts to fall apart and your health declines. Then they hit their teens and turn on you and tell you you are not worth anything and "can't understand how they feel". Then they finally leave home and shortly there after they start using Grandma as a convenient (and free) baby sitter.\n\nThen you tell me how cranky you would be!
1028211
First off, yes Oh my gosh I get so pissed at my husband for the smallest things.  I think it is because we become so comfortable with them, and they are constantly in the same living space as we are, that you can't bottle every little irritation up you have to let it out otherwise you might explode one day and not be married anymore.
402375
Mamma knows best, kinda thing.  Its hard for them to see us grow up and move away, it hurts them, while this is a joyous time for you guys, part of  your mom is realizing that your leaving the nest and she is sad.  While her controlling things annoys you, perhaps she sees this as a last chance sort of thing.  Humor her as much as you can, and try to be understand ing.  Sit down and let your mother know that although you are starting a new life with your soon to be husband (CONGRATS CONGRATS) she will ALWAYS be a apart of you and your life.  Tell her that no matter what you love her, and need her and want her in your life.  Because the real issue is the fact that your mom is hurting over what she considers "loosing her baby".  Your problem may be control, but her problem is far greater.  You obviously have a mom who loves you more than anything, so your off to a great start, just try to talk to her, reassure her that your not "leaving her" she is not loosing a daughter but GAINING a son!!  Best of luck to you, have a happy happy life.  God Bless your family and marriage!!
1037585
yes, it's 'normal' you have different hormones raging through your body, you are getting used to the stress of being a mom and your new role in life, you are tired and maybe deep down you're a little mad at him for something... who knows, but you're not alone girl.
1171188
Older people just get to be more intense, more of what they already are.  Teenagers are just trying to become more like adults.  Sometimes the two don't mix.\n\nIt would help if you could sit quietly and try to figure out what you are doing that is pushing her buttons and then try to work on that.  Did you leave a mess?  Is she exhausted after a full day's work, having to return home to a house full of people that she has to clean and cook for?  Is anyone helping her out or is she just old and grumpy?  If she left you how would you take care of yourself?  Would you feel bad?\nIf that doesn't work for you, try a sense of humor.  You might not be able to say what you re really thinking to her because she might not understand you, but you can enjoy the comedy of the situation.
40425
No, you're not getting old.  They need slapped across their smart little faces.  Know how I know?  I was the same way, and I attribute it to little or no discipline  :-)
710622
I have dealt with a similar situation, and I know this hurts you. First of all, even though this is easier said than done, do not take her comments to heart. They simply aren't true, and these comments have already damaged you emotionally. Secondly, if you haven't already done so, seek counseling. This should help you to keep things in perspective, and to help you know that your mother's hurtful comments do not define who you are. If you still feel rotten, you could choose just not to see her anymore. This is a tough decision, I know. She is 92, and probably won't be around too many more years. Of course this does not mean you have to take her abuse and do whatever she says. Talk to a counselor. He/she can help you decide what is best for you. Good luck, and remember. . . your mother's comments are rubbish. You know your own heart.
192623
When my mam used to nag all the time, my dad used to put on heavy metal music real loud, she hated it. She hardly ever nags now.
1179476
Your mother may be going through menopause...Women go through it at various ages but usually not until close to 50...Also, she could be experiencing side effects from a medication...What can you do to get your relationship back on track?  Confide in her about  how you feel when she acts this way...Try to find out why "freaking out" is a part of her personality, now..Try to be understanding...
32099
Headstrong, I grew up with a Mom that was like that.  Her opinion was the right opinion and she didn't even listen to other people.  I don't know where that need to always be right comes from but I do know a lot of people that seem to have that condition. : )
681020
oh boy. sounds like me and my mom. I just walked away when she started to irritate me. Don't acknowledge her bad behaviour at all. But don't expect her to stop being this way. you will have to deal with it for the rest of her life. So just try and tell yourself that you will leave the house one day and you won't have to deal with her. Just try and remember to not fight back. Let her win. Even if your beyond right. Because she's only looking to argue. not win an argument. Ignore her critcisms of other people and just try to tune her out when she talks. That's your best bet. GOOD LUCK
240058
I an hot headed anyhow, so it does not take much to make me mad...however, if someone were to call me a bad mother, then I would FREAK!!!! I am a great mother and pride myself on that.
79094
I'm 36 and my wife gets mad if I'm not home by 2, 3 am...\n\nWhen I was a teen, my mom didn't have a curfew for us. But she did get mad if we weren't home by 2, 3 am...
1134422
I think your angry because your hurt.    You desire to stay in one place,  don't want to keep starting over, you want stability in your life and want to be able to believe that what your mom says is true.  I think your anger is a combination of many other emotions.  Resentment, sadness and frustration. What you could do, is tell your mom, when you are not angry,  that you feel hurt at the fact that her words and her actions are not the same. Next time she says i promise, say mom, i love you but don't make promises you can't keep.  It may not seem like a big statement to say but it will let out some of your feelings. When you disagree with someone and you don't express how you feel and save it for later you are a time bomb waiting to happen. So each time you have the opportunity to express and emotion other than anger let it out even if it is just a little bit. After some practice you might see that your anger won't be as intense.
1137342
It's usually a mixture of both excitement for themselves and terror for their children. Many parents go through what is called "empty nest syndrome", which is uneasiness now that there are no diapers to change or soccer games to remember to attend. Depending on how troublesome the kids were to their parents, or how close their relationship...parents feel depression, worry, but relief that 18 years of raising kids is over with. Why don't you ask your parents if you don't believe me.
839847
If wanting to strangle my mother counts as getting along...I swear the woman taught me to cook and then finds fault with any change in the way she did it, and the way grandma did it...and so on and so forth......AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! :)
278234
HEY I LIKE YOU ALREADY LOL! You know, I love older people, number one like you said , we will all get older, number two my parents older and older people have it on the ball They came from a generation that was more simple and more innocent . I think that younger people despise it when the older people try to come out and say that they don't like what the younger people are doing or they don't like their attitudes. \n\nGranted there are some older people out there that are grouchy and demanding, but that's just the few. :) It comes with age. :)