Im 21 n my mother lied about my father not wantin 2 be there for me?
607910
she's ur mom... love her.. have an open communication.. talk to ur dad too.. and find for urself who tells the truth..
697982
Tell her what you just told us.\nThat she ignored your feelings and betrayed your trust.\nTell her that you're very hurt by what she did and that she needs to respect your feelings, regardless of your age or the fact that you're "just her daughter".  You're still a human being like the rest of us.\nTell her that if she continues to betray your trust, you may end up not telling her anything at all.  No mother wants to be left out of their child's life, right?  Tell her that you want to be able to share ANYthing with her, but you feel that you can't now because of what she did.\nThis will probably make for a loooooong discussion, so make sure you're sitting down. ;)
932675
Sorry to hear that, sweetie.  Maybe you should find another adult to talk to that will LISTEN to you and be there for you.  Parents sometimes get so self absorbed that they lose touch with their teens and think that the teen just wants independence and no longer needs guidance.  You really should point this out to your parents and let them know how you feel.  They just might not realize how much you truly need them.  Hope this gets better for ya!
532228
MOVE OUT.  You are 21...your mom has no right telling you when to be home.
799792
Well, it sounds as if your mother has changed for the better.  It can be very difficult to put the past behind you, but that is what you need to do.\n\nYou probably should seek counseling, so that you can get the help to overcome those feelings, in fact you should also encourage your mother to attend some of that counseling with you.  That way the two of you can work out those issues together.\n\nShould you continue speaking to your family?  Yes, take it from someone who spends most holiday's alone.  If there is a chance that you can heal the situation, take it.
838247
Well I don't blame you for the way you feel. Let me tell you something, my parents are separated, they have been some time now. So I am living with my mom and only my mom, things have changed with my family, I have grown up more and have more responsibility and what I think of my mom has changed.\n\nI didn't like my father either, so i decided to live with my mom, and now my life is OK...
842939
Sweetheart, the problems of your parents are exactly that-their problems.  You are not a cause of it.  I know that you feel like they don't care about you but they choose to have you, I am sorry they yell at you.  Try talking to your school counselor or your pastor.  You are not to blame.  But sweetie, if you run away you don't make the situation any better for anyone.  Life on the streets isn't pretty, you will get hurt!  Please stay home and talk to someone first and if nothing changes there are other alternatives.  Please don't do it.   Someone does care!!
270843
Well, I thibk you should. If you wait too long your mother might be REALLY mad. She might be a bit mad since you didn't tell her for so long but better late than never. And honesty is the best policy. Honour thy father and they mother... hope that helped.
606488
In a situation like this you personally need to talk to your father and tell him that you don't appreciate him taking advantage of you. Tell him that you forgive him for disowning you as a child and that you love him even though he missed out on the finer points in your life. Give him the money because you cant put a price on love. If you don't then you may regret it for the rest of your life. I cant guarantee that this would make you feel better because i don't know. This is coming from a 16 year old and the way I see is either you could take the advise and run with it or leave it to rot for eternity.
773147
I think you have made the right decision. Breaking the cycle is the hardest thing you can do in you life. I was abused mentally,sexually and physically as a child and I didn't get away from it until I got married. I think you are a very brave and special person for standing up to you dad. Because It is wrong for someone especially the man that is suppose to be your protector to hurt you like that. And your mom should put you first. You are probably missing your mother's love, that all girls need. Try to go to counselling,and find a female that can and is willing to give you "motherly love".
384109
I'm sorry you lost your father in such a tragic way. You never get over it, you just learn how to deal with it. I would go to a bereavement therapist or I would join a bereavement group in your area. It sounds like you have a lot of pain and you really need to vent instead of holding it all inside. May God bless you and may you find comfort in this hard time. Don't feel because it was 16 years ago, that you shouldn't grieve.
1093587
I can tell you from experience it isn't easy.  However, I now have the advantage of being much older and am able to look back on the situation a bit more objectively.  First off, realize that this has nothing to do with you and their love for you.  This is a relationship problem between the two of them that you did not cause and you can do nothing about.  Next, continue to love your parents equally and do everything you can to make this as easy for them as possible.  Take time to talk to them and don't be afraid to let them know how you are feeling and ask them questions about what is going on if you need to.  Don't let this situation control your life, life will still go on and in a basic sense, nothing really is going to change all that much for you in the long run.
908452
Its hard with a mother like that i would ask her why she says these things and confront her about it and tell her if she continues to make you feel miserable then you might be better off without her.  Its not always the best thing to do but sometimes you have too
501097
First, Im sorry that you are going through such a horrific experience. However, Your are comforting your mother in the best way possible. Telling her the truth helps her prepare and say and do the things she needs to before leaving this place. Your honesty will let her lay in peace and your love will keep her alive longer warm and happy!\n\nMy thoughts are are with you and your family! xoxox
824955
You need to tell your dad how scared you are and he can't leave you responsible.  Speak to him, please.\n\nIs there another family member you can confinde in?\n\nThis isn't your burden to bear hun, I feel so bad for you.\n\nSpeak to someone who can help you, please. x
935817
It is NOT your fault.  Your dad made the decision to do this on his own.  You had nothing to do with it.  You are a great person.  Find an adult you can trust and talk to them about it.  They can help you deal with your feelings.  \nYou did nothing wrong.  You are a great person who loved your dad very much and did the best you could to help him feel better.
1005301
Tough one.  I'm 49 and having a hard time dealing with my aging parents, especially remembering the times that they wouldn't help with my college education.\n\nAs far as your father, I suggest that you try to maintain some sort of relationship with him.  Maybe he will  come around some day and see what he's done.  If you cut him out of your life he can use that as an excuse to ignore you and your family, thinking that "They really don't want me anyway."  Perhaps being at least cordial to the man will gnaw at his conscious.  Even if it doesn't, you  will know that you tried your best.