A coworker who is a lesbian wants to sleep with me.  I am straight and not interested. What is your advice?
603181
Tell her no and your lifestyle choice is gross and dirty!
870131
some lesbians grow really tight bonds with men that they work with and see everyday... i am a lesbian that had not had sex with a man in three years before the two weeks ago that i slept with a male co-worker that really adored me...i am with a woman now and so is he...we are still friends but we were there for each other and we had a great night that is very private and discreet....i think that he loved the fact of being with a lesbian but he never disrespected me as a person, and still respectes me.... and no he did not pay money....he was just a great guy that i trust and respect....
617448
Be careful about sleeping with someone you work with. If it doesn't work out, it will become very awkward for both of you. I'd say date awhile as friends first, and hold off on the sleeping together until you're both ready to make a long-term commitment.
363843
Perhaps you are being a little insecure about the situation. Working in the same establishment as your significant other tends to put extra stress on relationships. I would suggest that you look for work elsewhere. Also, keep in mind who she comes home with each night, you. You may want to mention to her that several of the co-workers indicated to you that they felt she was "hitting on them". Maybe she is just really friendly and those guys are misunderstanding that to be flirting. I have noticed alot over the years that whenever I am nice to guy, such as make small talk with him, that he asks me out or gives me his number. Alot of men confuse being nice for flirting. They think because a girl is nice to them that she is hitting on them, which is not always the case. It's hard to see that going on, so I would suggest having a little chat with her about it and find a job elsewhere and that will relieve alot of the stress you are going rhrough. Couples can spend TOO much time together and then little things start to cause undue stress in their relationship. Good luck with this issue.
992953
Yes!  I don't know what anybody else is thinking, but I don't think they are trying to be nice to you.  Maybe you should reconsider who you are sleeping around with....  work is not the best place to be meeting people for relationships like that.  \n\nCheers!
810790
Lol, you really sound like you're dying inside. If you'd really like a tip, don't ask her first if she swings your way or not, that's more than just an unromantic question, that's a killer for whatever possible feelings that a straight girl may have on you. Express your feelings, classic way is giving gifts. Spend more time with her on common interests, see if she is also interested in speding time with you. Best  chance for you is to cultivate a great relationship, and not drop the "I like you real bad" bomb.\n\nBelieve me, if you spend a lot of time with her, she will know. Girls are very perceptive. Then slowly show her that you'er falling for her. Poetry works for me, but I'm not recommending it to you if you're not into sappy stuff, whatever rocks her world.\n\nAnd after all your wooing and pursuing (not agrressively), if she's scared of the relationship going "gay", she will drift away, if not, you can steal a kiss one moonlit night and check out what happens.\n\nSlow and cool mate, slow and cool.
965562
Ah, the jealousy of protecting him for you is greater than the opportunity for her to touch you.  Definitely--you are not a lesbian.
52168
I'd have to first question the motives of my wife.  Why exactly does she want me to sleep with another person?  If it's for some sort of sexual gratification on her part, then I would perhaps consider it.  I seriously doubt that I would actually proceed with it though.
594632
Honestly, people! This person while may have lesbian tendencies, as far as being attracted to a woman, is sick.\nYou are talking about a problem upstairs sister.\nThe person you describe has many problems and I will explain why.\n1. She is going after a person whom she knows is straight and will never "cross over" that is irrational behaviour\n2. She sniffs your underwear--Now ask yourself, even if a man did this, wouldn't you be a little creeped out? I know that I would\n3. She is living in a delusional world...she is touching you regardless and making up scenarios where you are getting married\n4. SHE TRIED TO RAPE YOU!!! SICK, and if a guy did this he is sick\nThis really has nothing to do with whether or not she is a lesbian, this is a girl who has a LOT of psychological problems. SHE IS NOT A GOOD FRIEND!!! Good friends don't do this to each other. Why are you still hanging around with her? Ditch her and if she stalks you some more call the police and make record of when she is doing this.\nGood luck
413929
Tell her to stop hanging around him or just to simply state that she's not interested and that he needs to keep his grubby paws to himself. If she's actually told him to stop before and he won't listen, then that can fall under "sexual battery". If it's in the workplace, even better. The sparks will really fly at the first mention of sexual harrassment cause no employer wants to get sued.
1004403
Rubbish, all these people forcing thier morals on you.  If you feel a need to sleep with him, and you want too, do it.  Yes, he may be married, but, he is not going to stop looking just because you turn him down.  If you seduced him, then you are at fault, if harmless flirtation turned into something else, that is nature.  You know that this is just a physical thing and nothing will come out of it, but a little fun, if your ok with that,and can deal with it at work, then have fun.  Guess what people, the wife knows, she just prefers not to admit it, get real.  This woman is not a home wrecker of any kind, and you should not be bashing her.
1055277
you've been friends for more than 8 yrs. If he's gay he would have sex with you already!! Sometimes there's a fine line being good friend and being in a relationship. Perhaps he doesn't even know how to express his friendship towards you. He wants to be grateful to you yet do not want to mislead you into thinking he wanted a relationship cause he is not gay. We are brought up with heterosexual mentality and define male as musculine and female as feminine. It confuse the heck out of straight guys how to handle their frienship with their gay men's friend. Especially those who have close frienship. I believe some of them do cross the line of sex. Which would make the situation worse. He is appreciative of your frienship and I bet he knows you are into him. In his mind he's probably thinking should he sleep with you to show his appreciation and betray his own sexuality? As for you I would not be so quick to invest that much emotion into that direction. Yes, I know it's very difficult and very tempting. Ultimately you have to protect yourself from heartbreak and more important to preserve your friendship with him. One of this days he's gonna fall hard for a girl and you gonna need to tear yourself off him emotionally.
351365
TALK, thats always a good starting point. and if she is lesbian and you are a guy you have the wrong equipment and she might be friend but dont get too excited and wet your panties.
780716
if she was really your friend she would respect your relationship with your boyfriend and would also understand that though you care for her you are not a lesbian and she can not force you to be one. \nJust explain to her (calmly) that you enjoy her friendship but you dating someone right now and that you arent interested in being with her romantically. If she still tries to push you into something you dont want I would get myself out of that friendship PRONTO!
650624
Sounds to me like she wants 'to have her cake and eat it'. One rule for you and another for her.\nThe point is you appear to be accepting this situation which suggests she has the upper hand in this relationship. She can do whatever she wants and you have to like it or lump it.\n\nGet this straight, there is NO SUCH THING as just good friends between two heterosexual people of the opposite sex. People like to pretend there is but experience tells us otherwise. This is why in the back of your mind you're not comfortable with her lunching with this other guy.\nYou see, one of these straight friends always likes the other but doesnt want to tell her/him because they're afraid of rejection and of losing this person forever.\nGet your revenge in first, if she insists on doing it her way start making plans for life without her. You will never be happy in such an insecure relationship, the whole thing sounds phoney anyway.
482197
Because she wants you do a 3 way with her and another guy. You are being sought out for a kinky thing. Unfortunately her other guy likes guys and you have to play with him in order to play her. So now the question is how kinky are you and are you game? Sleep good tonoght debating this.  LOL.
937561
wow i like you! most men would just sleep with her anyway! you are cool. er sorry,that didnt answer your question but well done you for not just sleeping with her cos you can!