My bf cheated a year ago he wants to get married i love him but i dont know if i trust him? what should i do?
609851
It's very hard to fully trust a person after they cheat. Even if you forgive them, it's always in the back of your mind that they did it. However, some people have moved beyond a cheating history and married and lived happily for many years...if you truly believe that he won't cheat again and that you have it in you to marry this man, then you should.
494843
discuss the matter with him, if u do trust me then dnt wait and tell him yes, so u need to think if trust him or not
497377
If he doesnt trust you, you should dump him... Its pathic and controlling if he doesnt trust you after 2 years and you claim to have never done anything to make him not trust you. Or sit and talk with him about how it makes you feel..
980344
Do you still love him?  If you do then I would say try again.  BUT, you need to have a serious conversation with him before you put yourself out there again.  Explain to him that you never cheated and you were offended when he just blindly believed a rumor instead of even asking your side.  This is your life and your decision, do you think he is worth your time?  Is he going to just believe anything anyone says about you?  He needs to realize that the 2 of you are the only ones in your relationship...  Hope everything works out good for you.
427754
Don't marry him.  Intamacy problems should only begin once you are married, not before.  This does not bode well for your relationship.  Plus, don't ever take a guy back who has cheated on you twice, let alone twice with the same person.  Move on before it gets messy.
286822
If he does not trust you, maybe it's because he's been cheating on you. However, if he really loves you he has to trust you, there's no love without trust. Try asking him why dos he think so, and make him notice that it really hurts you he thinks you are cheating on him..., or just dump him, I think he doesn't deserve you\nGood Luck!
448660
People make mistakes. If this is still bothering you after a year of being together then you should talk to him about it. Express your feelings and concerns. If you don't feel comfortable talking to him now about your concerns do you think this will change after you're married?\n\nI'm not saying you should or shouldn't forgive him. That's up to you. I do think you should talk to him about it.
555453
Pretty much it is a bad decision, if not cheating, but he showed you a desire to get past that by confessing. You should decide if you can forgive or if you get more pleasure out of holding this against him. If you like the upper hand, go ahead and beat him up for it for years to come. All he will regret is that he confessed this indiscreation to you. I'd let it go if I were you. Far worse things could happen to you than this.
84750
i think it is possible for a man to cheat and then not  do it again. the only problem is that you will never forget what happened. and no matter how much he says to try to convince you that he will never do it again, it possible that in your mind he will always be a cheater, therefore you may not be able to trust him.\n\nyou have to make a promise to yourself that if you forgive him, you also have to forget.\n\nalso, if you do forgive him for cheating, it shows him that that is something that you are willing to forgive. because you show that cheating is forgivable, he may do it again.\n\ngood luck with your decision - it is a hard one.
413973
Is it that you don't trust him or you don't trust anyone? If it is just him, then whether you are right or wrong, move on. Without trust, it's doomed. If you have a problem with trust period, then you might as well stay with him and try working on your issues. Otherwise you (not anyone else) will prevent you from ever being happy with anyone.
809684
Sounds like the bf has some real issues.  He really did you wrong.  If he is serious about getting back together with you, he needs to prove himself.   I'd take anything REALLY slow.  Keep your eyes open, see if you can trust him again.
1108938
Ohhh, that's a tough one. Your relationship can not last if its built on a foundation of distrust. Especially since he has told you that he will not trust you. I went through a similar situation, and you both have to ask yourselves, "Can I drop the past of my partner and move on, on a positive note. If your can't answer "yes" than you need to take a step back and reevaluate your relationship and decide if its worth living a life of suspicion and distrust. Counseling will help. Good luck!!
584443
It sounds like you loved him alot more than he loved you. its a shame that it took 3.5 years for all this to surface because each day you probably loved him more and more. After the 1st time he cheated his love decreased every day. Thats why he continued cheating on you. Yes you did the right thing. The right thing is always hard to do because it is right thing. Now we dont know his side of the story but cheating is cheating.
1058337
Yes, I have been cheated on.  But if you ever met my man you would have never guessed that he would ever have done that.  We are still together, he realized what he did was wrong and promised that he would never do that again or I was gone with no second thought. It really hurt me that he would do somthing like that to me, I didn't even find out until a year after it happened. There were some signs though, he became very jealous when I was with any guy or had them in my cell phone and he didn't know them.  There also pictures of the two of them together, he said at first she was just a friend.  Even when I talked to his friends they were shocked.  There is no way to prevent cheating if a guy is going to do it he will.  He told me the reason why he cheated on me was because he said that he wanted to be with me so bad and thought it was me, he was gone for a week. Right before he left I spent a week with him at his lake house and he was telling me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.  Well it has been 3 years now since he cheated on me and I love him with all my heart, and he feels the same way. He knows now that even if I hear a rumour that he was with another girl it's over and he is scared of loosing me.  That was why I stayed with him when I told him that it was over and I never wanted to see him again, it took him 10 minutes for him to leave and he left with tears. then 3 hours later his roomate called me nervous becasue he hadn't seen him and it was 2 am in the middle of the week. I ended up calling him and had been sitting out my window crying  thinking what is he going to do because he really felt that his life was over becasue of a dumb mistake, thats when I knew that he  would be faithful.  I knew that he really loved me.  I hope this helped!
477092
no. have you ever been cheated on??? look at it from ur bf's perspective. plus if you want a meaningful relationship that if one or all of them find out that it is curtains for you. trust is the hardest thing to gain back.
141608
If you really love him and you are sure in your heart he won't cheat again there is no reason not to give him another chance.  We are all human and make mistakes.  The key though is has he really changed, and can you truely forgive him.  If either of these isn't possible then move on.  If they are, then give it a try and be careful with your heart.
246160
you cheated?\n\nif so, he needs time. he may not forgive.