why cant an adult hug his father and say i love u though with litle effort he can tel it to his mom.?
610138
that doesnt go here .. i hug both and tell them both i love u
543976
Why do you have to keep it from your parents in the first place? There is shame in liking someone and dating them it is part of life.
924942
I can only think of 2 things. \n\n1. you are trying to hard. I don't think it works like that. I've often in the past wished loved ones to come to me. Eventually, they do but it always happens when it's completely off my mind and I'm relaxed.\n\n2. Depending on how he left this world he may have not made it over yet. It could take time.\n\nQuick true story:\nMy cousin was a limo driver and picked up a psychic. The psychic out of no where said your father is sitting right next to you smiling and wants me to say hi.  Then went on to say his aunt still hasn't crossed over.\n\nThe father died 2 years ago. The aunts died 11.\n\nSo, sometimes they fight it. \n\nDon't think of it as he doesn't love you.\nThink of it as he loves you TOO MUCH to let go.\nIt will happen. relax
739058
He is old enough to be your dad! There are sound reasons why this is frowned upon that have nothing to do with tradition or society. The relationship could never be totally equal.
212554
I am a parent of a 16 yr old son,and we have the same problem,my husband drills my son for hours if I let it go on, I have to change the subject.For me, its hard to talk to my son,I love him to death,but dont know how to ask him about his life.I wish he could open up and talk to me. Thats what you need to do.If you could open up a little,and talk to them, Im sure they would love to get to know ya and your feelings. When my son starts talking,and gets interrupted,he rolls his eyes and says never mind. That gets my attention,so I listen to him.Do you have grandparents? My son will open up with his grandma,then she tells me,but we dont tell him.It is hard as parents for us to show love the way you want it.But your parents do love you,and only want the best for you. Maybe they think this is the only way to get your attention. someday you will look back on this, and you will understand.
222544
You cannot control anyone else's reaction but your own.  The most you can do is explain to your parents how much this person means to you and to at least get to know him before making any judgments.  If they aren't willing to do so, then too bad too sad!  You won't always make decisions in love or life that would be pleasing to your parents or anyone else for that matter, but at the end of the day, you have to make yourself happy.  Your parents opinions are just that, opinions, the most you can do is respect the way they feel, right or wrong, that is the way they feel and there isn't a whole lot you can do or say to change there minds.  Maybe in time they would see how happy you are and come around, but for now, if this is the person you are happy with, don't let anyone spoil it, not even your parents.  Having a different religion or a different ethnicity isn't a character flaw, and there are alot more things to worry about in this world.  Go for it!
310778
It sounds like your love may have more problems than his inability to show you affection. Has he just started to act this way? or has he always been a non-affectionate person?  This could make a huge difference. He may have not been shown affection growing up and finds it uncomfortable and awkward as an adult to display his emotions toward you with the physical act of touching and embracing. As far as the part about having to have a few drinks before he says I love you, well that could lead right back to the intimacy issues. Honey, some men have many many hang-ups about exspressing their emotions and desires...talk with him about this, let him know that it is OK to tell you what he feels, it is OK to show affection etc... it may take a while, but he will eventually become more comfortable with it if you work at this issue together. God bless and lots of luck to the two of you. Peace.
1032458
Its not about showing your feelings o your loved ones but making them feel.love is not something to c about,its something to feel about.if u wanna make ur loved ones feel,just be polite and be very adjusting and friendly.seems lk tht would do the job.
926297
Well, I am in love with my husband, but still have weaker feelings of love for my ex boyfriend. You really can't put it into words, but the feeling of love is different towards anyone you love. The feeling of love a parent has for their child, is not the same TYPE of love that you feel when you are in love. There are many forms of love, just can't really put them into words.
592370
i don't really think there is a whole lot you can do. Just be there for her and continue doing what you are doing. Try to talk to her and explain that things did not work out with you and her dad but you still love her as much as before and that you are both there for her. Don't put him down to her. Even if he is turning her against you, she will eventually see thru that. Good luck to you. It will work out. It just takes time.
501654
Parents sometimes don't realize the consequence of their actions; It is however human to err and divine to forgive, Why don't you call your father and hear what is going on in his life, may be he is having a bad time, who knows.
228166
Have you mentioned this to an adult that you trust? It is very possible that your father doesn't realize that he shouldn't be talking like that to you and doesn't realize how it is affecting you. Is your mom around? Try to talking to her if she is. Or talk to a close family member or teacher/guidance counselor about it. It's ok for your dad to get mad at you, but he shouldn't be saying obscene or scary things to you.
21398
yes why not. dont u think we love our parents, grand parents. and they are quite old in age. so love necessary does not have motive of getting physical, it is in ur heart. that can be with anyone.
850023
I know this is going to sound screwy to you but we all fall short. We all disappoint. We all are unworthy of the ones who love us most. I am 27 and married for 10 years. Your dad made a commitment to your mother. Not you. How do you know that she doesn't know? Maybe she does but doesn't want to look at it. Why don't you write her a note? Since you now know about this, it will eat you alive until you get it out in the open. A letter is the best way to deal with it. And at the end of the letter write this. Mom, I wanted you to know these things but i'm leaving it up to you to make it spoken. If you want it will never be brought up again. If you want to talk about it i'm behind you. Love her and support her with what she wants.
334247
Let them see what he does for you.  Set down physical boundaries when you're around your parents i.e., no touching except hand-holding,no kissing, groping, making out, pinching, sneaking off, etc. let them see what a gentleman he is. In turn, show them you REALLY love him, and nothing will stand in the way of that.  But since you do want their blessing R-E-S-P-E-C-T.  You respect them (even if they say quit seeing him, respect their wishes, they'll see you're sad, if it came to that.  Just remember you can't hope for them to like him. He has to be a good guy, and work at it.  It may also just take time.
1005782
Hug / Embrace. Then a quick peck on the lips. Then grab and hold one of his hands and turn and thank you mom and dad.
944651
Explain to your Mom what your feelings are.  If she does not understand, just do not answer her phone calls or answer the door if she comes to visit you. \n\nYou are an adult now and have a right to set boundaries with anyone including your parents.