Matt and I have been dating for about 7 months and things are starting to get rocky. Can you help?
607541
I'm assuming you mean that sex isn't as much a part of your relationship as it used to be? That's the way it goes with relationships, at first you can't keep your hands off each other, but after a few months that calms down. The only way to keep that "new love" frequency it to get a new love every 4-6 months. Your alternative is to stick with the love you have now, and be happy that your relationship is morphing into something more substantial than mere physical desire.
324489
& years is a long time and I think that it is time you started to apply some pressure.Ask him if he minds if you start seeing other people as you feel that your relationship has gone as far as it can,from what he thinks about marriage.I bet the reaction will be what the hell you talking about,but just tell him that you think you have been together long enough and that if he doesn't think mariage is in his plans then you had better start finding someone who has them plans.\nA chance it could back fire,but if it does then was the 7 years worth it?
1179860
What do you mean break up ,,it sounds like you haven't been his girlfriend for some time now, and why in the hell are you worried about what your friends say or think,, they don't run your life or pay your bills,, be independent, tell him and all of them to kiss your a** ,,and go out and find some real friends !!!
1096872
The sooner the better. Just tell him that it's not working out for you. Be honest & just get it over with. It's kind of like ripping off a bandaid.
715565
He obviously understands your feelings, and you understand his, now is there room for both of you to compromise.  Maybe set a date for a few years from now or just get engaged and not set a date yet.  I don't think it would be fair to either of you if only one of you made concessions.  It wounds like you are the one doing it now.  Talk to him about a compromise.
862349
I think that he is probably under a lot of stress and pressure right now and that you should back off....give him the space he needs and if it is meant to be, he will be contacting you when things settle down.....good luck
632383
My advice is, not to push the issue. He has said he needs time, and I know that's frustrating, but you have to give him time....or move on!
918770
Do yourself a favor and stop the relationship immediately. If he hasn't changed his ways in the last 7 years, he isn't going to start now.  You cannot change people, they have to want to be different, and they have to want to make things better for themselves.  What is it about him that makes you want to stay with him?  And be HONEST with yourself.  Is it merely because you've been with him so long it's comfortable?  I hate to be this blunt, but you need to break this one off or you will just be very unhappy as a married woman, and I can almost guarantee you will end up a divorce statistic.
527495
Seven months and stil dont know how much love is there?  I think he is just keeping you busy????     Keep Looking!
203666
dont listen to what your mother says i been with the same guy for 7 years. we started dating when i was 15, and we have a child together. if you bith love each other that much and want the realtionship to last then it will....
399411
It doesnt sound like he is fully committed to you yet. You should give it time and see where it leads. If it doesnt change look elsewhere.
603941
No, it certainly isn't enough to keep a relationship going. You have to have lots of patience and be able to communicate. Communicating certainly is tough right now and that's where the patience comes in. (Patience is also absolutely necessary when it comes to stubborn people as well!) Plus everything going on around us is bringing a lot of confusing feelings into play right now. That's not helping the situation and deployment just complicates matters. You guys are the only ones who will know if you can get through these tough times, but he mostly needs your support right now. He's physically in a world far far away from the life he's used to... and mentally, who knows where?
1149228
Hey gurl!\nwell if u like the guy and belive things will work, then i suggest u stay together!!\nface problems as they come...\nthis relationship might have more to offer than u may think....so why end it before it starts?\nJean
474622
you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. it sounds like it is time to slow things down, alot. you both need to sit and talk about what the 2 of you want out of this relationship. when the 2 of you are on the same page it will be alot easier.
695042
it's good you know that these thhings are now too much to take. DOn't tolerate each thng that he does. If you think you're being violated at this, yu shouldn't give much time for him. You'd rather have a breakup if he can't get better after explanations. After all, he is proving how immature he is with all that he does...
212493
Who needs a relationship that's this difficult? There are better ones out there. I'm not saying he's a bad guy. You two just sound like a bad fit. Find someone who is more in tune with you.
356939
Get away from him. \nNow. These are giant red flags that he is not a stable person. \ndont let him guilt you into staying with him, he's counting on that.\n\nRun far far away