How to maintain a good rapport and relationship with a long distant manager?
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be on time for work. never be late. allways look nice and \nbe dependable.
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Take them out to dinner or lunch on your new "bosses salary" and be honest and straigt forward.\n""Luke", I have come to value your friendship and man, have we had some good times together! I would like for that to continue and wanted to get your feelings on my promotion. (Actively listen to that person.) Let them know that of course their will be some chamges with how you two must interact on the job but you will treat them with the utmost respect and hopefully (as the boss) you will earn theirs in return. As their friend you know how valuable they are to the company because you've seen how hard they work, now as the boss, you can make sure that as their hard work continues, you will make sure they get the recognition they deserve.
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Well lesson learned..Ask if you can have there bosses phone number,make sure to always get a home number, and if those numbers are not avaliable to you walk away, no run....Any one on line can tell you what you want to hear..But what you have to be carefull about is how much you give away of yourself until you meet that person and know them inperson...Lesson learned..
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Do something which your boss does not anticipate which really helps him come out of a tight situation.\n\nLots of fruitful work is an opportunity, do it, you will learn.\n\nA companion as a boss is good as you know him. ( You remember, a known devil...... )\n\nThink after all he is a guy like you not God. Enjoy.
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Get to talk to him more. It never hurt to take some time off and talk about things u might have in common.
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*  Get to know the people as best you can. Use email, phone interviews and even video conferencing to get a better feel for them.\n    * Check work references and employment history.\n    * Has this person worked as part of a virtual team before? Was it successful? If it was not successful - why? Why does this person think a previous virtual team experience succeeded or failed?\n    * Does the person take responsibility seriously? Does it appear they tend to blame others quickly and for things they should have been responsible for?\n    * What is their level of commitment? Are they interested in short or long term involvements?\n    * What is their motivation for being part of a virtual team? Try to gain an understanding of what is motivating them. How independent are they?\n    * Are they a Leader or Follower?\n\nTeam Activities and Monitoring\n\n    * Identify team leaders. Make provisions for alternates in advance.\n    * What will be the methods of communication used and the frequency of meetings?\n    * Require regular updates from all team members. This is the best way to ensure you get a complete picture of activities.\n    * During regularly scheduled meetings use this time to discuss the negative and positive.\n    * At the first indication of a problem - take action! This action may be in the form of direct intervention with the members involved or letting the entire team know that you are aware of what is happening and that it will be resolved.\n\nMost importantly - don't distance yourself from team members. Be available to them, this will increase the trust they have in you and shows them that you respect them.
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if you left your job on good terms with him, just send him an email to the workplace asking him how are things going? ask to meet him for lunch for some career advice and if he accepts, when you meet him, start neutral and play it by ear. you could dress a notch less casual than business when you meet, make sure you look good and smile a lot and do the eye contact thing, and see if he responds positively to that... You could also apply the subtle body language tactics by leaning into his personal space a bit, speaking with your hands a bit such that you sometimes touch him accidentally on his hand or forearm as you speak which subtly sends a signal without being really too obvious... let him ask you out! If that doesn't work, ask for a second meeting for more advice. If you meet regularly enough, he will like your company and you will have natural rapport to move to the next step...
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This person obviously wants to maintain whatever competitive edge they have within your company.  My first thought is to try and befriend this person.  Let them know you are not trying to step over them, you just want to help your company put out the best product possible.  One way to befriend people is to invite them to lunch or to a poker party after work, or some other function.  If it's real bad, and doesn't get better, maybe the boss needs to find out.
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be her friend and make suggestions outside of meetings. If I feel the value of staying in this job of yours', I'd see it as the best training ground for my softskills~ influencing people. How to measure success? You'd become her panic aid, she comes to you when she panics- you can soothe her. When shes indecisive, you'll be her favourite person to talk to, giving subtle hints on solutions.
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The first thing is DO NOT go in and try to act like you are better than the others, (Not saying that you would) You never know how these people are going to react to you, as you were hired outside of the company.  Make an effort to personally go up to each person and introduce yourself and try to make them feel comfortable with you.  \n\nI have been in management, and one fatal mistake is trying to be "friends" with the employees.  Of course you want to be friendly, but not to friendly as to where they will consider you more a friend then a boss. I would also ask the others to give you feed back as to how you are doing.  Make sure that the others know that they can approach you and talk to you.  Best of luck in your new job!!
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I noticed most people seemed to answer with personality traits, but you asked about skills. That's what I'll discuss, then.\n\n1) Listening ability. A good leader/manager knows to keep their mouth shut when someone is talking. Most people are terrible listeners, and rather than actually listening to what the other person is saying, they are thinking about what they want to say. You learn nothing that way, and will never understand the situation being discussed. Listen first, think second, then speak. \n\n2) Method. Gut feelings are for frontline soldiers (I've been one, so I know) and parents (I'm one now). In business there is method. A good leader looks at problems as an opportunity and then applies a method of problem solving to improve things (including Root-Cause Analysis techniques). A good leader sets goals for their department/company with a methodical approach rather than 'instinct' and 'emotions'. Learn which methods work and which don't. Cling to (and develop) the former and run away from the latter.\n\n3) Feedback, feedback, feedback. This goes both ways. First, a good leader/manager asks for feedback from below and above...constantly. Where can the leader/manager improve? Where can their department/company improve? What is broke? What works? What can be done? What is being done that doesn't need to be done? Secondly, a good leader/manager provides feedback to his employees on a regular basis (even weekly, in my case) to help develop them into stronger, autonomous thinking persons who can solve their own problems and make the leader/manager look like a demi-god.\n\n4) Continue to develop leadership/management skills. Books, seminars, podcasts, and especially discussions with peers can make this goal happen.\n\nThis is a start. Hope it helps.
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Patience is the best partner. Try to do everything she asks you to do and give her more respect in front of other co-workers(call her something that shows her elder to you) so that she will try to understand what you really MEAN. \n\nIf this does not work, talk to your co-workers and advice her in all their presence. If she fires you for this she cannot work in peace with the other workers.
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Look them directly in the eye the first time they do it and ask them if they're feeling ok.  Then tell them your expectation is that they will treat you with respect.  If they continue, document every incident so that you have specifics to present to your supervisor.  Many managers would like to also deal with the issue but it is difficult when employees only approach them with generalities like "Susy Q. is rude to me."  Managers need specifics to be able to address the issue with the employee.  They need to know exactly what was said by both of you, the date and time, and if there were any witnesses.  If you provide this, you will find get better responses.  Also, ask yourself why you have had this issue on every job.  Perhaps you could take a conflict resolution course as well.  Also, most often the guilty party is a completely different person in front of the manager so it sometimes takes awhile for the manager to ferret out the real situation.
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Present yourself in a nonthreatening manner. State it in question form. Let the superior think it was their idea. When you build a rapport with the superior overtime, they will learn to respect you and then you can get to a relationship where you can offer input and the superior may ask you for your ideas.
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Communication is the key, I know it's hard to have someone who is so far away, but if the love, trust, and communication is there neither of you will strsy. We all get urges sometimes and want someone else to physically be there to comfort us, and you can do that but don't cross the line with it. I speak from experience. If you need a more elaborate answer don't hesitate to ask.
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Try keeping a journal of his behavior and taking it to his manager with the promise that you will also give this to your manager and request that it be discussed at the next managers meeting. Also imply the cost effectiveness (or lack thereof) due to decreased productivity. This can also go to someone higher up in the company. If you prove that his behavior will effect the bottom line you should get the response you need.
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Look its easy you keep going and you keep falling in love, i meet someone the same why and its great dont worry if theres a will theres away. Country man expression but just take one day at a time keep talking things will work out a soon you both will be closer than 1,000's of miles apart so start saving. Your going to Europe best wish to you.