if a guy was married and never cheated on wife in 37 years and wife said,if you love melet me go what wouldudo
604100
How was the rest of the relationship?  There's much more to a marriage than not cheating.  Did you appreciate her or take her for granted?  Love on her or hit on her?  Listen to her or ignore her?  Care if you made her happy or content because you were?  Many things can make a relationship go astray.  Step back and take a look thru her eyes.  \nAnd then there are those that just don't appreciate a good think or know when they have one.  Which one does this describe?
400131
I would, no questions asked, out of respect for your partner.\n\nDont Go = Look Bad/Wheres your partner/Who Cares/I dont know\nGo = Wow, what a nice person. Thanks for being there.\n\nYou can figure it out.
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These are really hard shoes you are asking us to put ourselves in....I don't think any of us could say for sure what we would do unless we were actually in this postiton. Try to take time to think about the information you have learned, what were the circumstances in you marriage at the time. Determine how your relationship has been since then. Was the affairs with different women or one? How did you find out, by mistake or did he tell you? Why did he tell you after all these years? Is he looking for a way out or has he been consued with guilt all these years and wanted the truth to be told? You have alot of questions to sort through in your mind, and in your heart. The best advise I can give you, is to listen to your heart. Give yourself a little bit of time to digest everything, right now the hurt, humiliation, betrayl, and disgust are fresh wounds, and might cause you to lash out and do something you really don't want to do just to hurt him. I am sorry you have to go through this hurt, I wish you luck love and happiness.
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After 37 years, she walked out for something that simple?  I think you might want to ask yourself if there was more to it than that first of all.  Be honest with yourself, that is a long time together, to throw it all away for nicotine.  I have a feeling that there were some more major underlying issues that you just didn't clue in on.  Have you ever heard the song "Buy Me a Rose" by Kenny Rogers?  It's basically about how the hubby forgot about the simple loving gestures somewhere along the way--and the wife didn't feel loved anymore.  The smoking thing was probably her final straw of feeling unwanted, etc.  whether it is 3 years or 37 guys--we HAVE to know we are still the ones you love and would marry all over again!!  Little gestures regularly ARE a good thing! \n\nMy suggestion to you is: \n1. Look back and figure out the entire picture of what was wrong.\n2.  If there was something you could have done to show her your love and appreciation better, DO IT NOW!!\n3.  If there was nothing more than the smoking incident (doubt it), apologize, and ask her what you can do to mend things.  GL
336661
Ring his wife and ask her
433470
Married 38 years and never have.  Trust is part of marriage.
152630
I would think so. Why your asking is beyond me is you married someone there.
643130
Life is full of "what if's". We can not change yesterday, tomarrow is all we have and there will be more "what if's". Look at it this way, IF you were meant to be with M then it would have happened while you where single, not married... \nThis is your unanswered prayer and your are to wrapped up in "you" - being self center to see the bigger picture. For the simple fact that you owe J more respect than you are showing him, remove the blindfold from over your eyes, wake up & smell the coffee, child it is time you act like an adult. Grow up! Your not the first and wont be the last to miss one hih school crush. Even my 87 yr old aunt said she missed hers and wondered "what if". But at the age of 89 she died in the arms of a good man who loved her and still did for 75 yrs. Two weeks before she died they celebrated 73 yrs of marriage. Can you do that?
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And he hasn't left his wife? well it doesn't  look like he feels the same even if he says he does he is just saying that b/c his heart is still with her, there are billions of men out there, why one that is married. You should end it, have more respect for yourself that you are implying that you have, you are portaying yourself to be a homewrecker.
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You could have tried, but he may not have believed you.  Infidelity by a loved one usually is something that many people need to see for their own eyes to believe.  Especially, if the marriage seems fine to them on the outside.
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I think if they had a choice they would not have been married again also.\nthey were married to someone they loved so much,that they remained faithful to his memory through the years.\n\nwill you pick me for the best answer this time to show people how yahoo answer is going to ?\nanyway I forgive you for what you've said.
516697
I would tell everyone I loved them, and not waste any more time answering questions for you! I would go and get married to my boyfriend and make love to him one last time.
632878
I have been married 27 years going on 28.  Ihave never cheated ad never will since my wife is my best friend and soulmate.  It may sound old fasioned but it works for us.
924221
i am sorry i do not know the answer to this question i can only speak for my self i would tell a woman that i loved her unless i truly did these are not just word of course i would tell her if i did because i would want her to know it but more then anything i would want to show it and if you truly love someone you WILL NOT CHEAT on them you couldn't even think about being with someone else or should i say i couldn't but maybe he wants you to i can only speak for my self in a matter like this i have always heard once a cheater always a cheat i wish you the best in life and a life full of Happiness.
757209
He probably just came to terms that you two will never be.  You are married, he is married...why continue and put other people's feelings at risk?
100580
Like I said before :)\n\nGood old fashion SEX and his favorite meal.  \n\nI'm sure your hubby would be happy with those two things too  :)
282155
do you----take --- as your lawfully wedded wife/husband, now repeat after me .  I _____ do take ____ to love honor and cherish  for richer for poorer In sickness and in health, forsaking all others until death do us part.  Its been 10 years but I believe  I atleast got most of it right.