How long after a seperation does a man finally realize he was wrong, or does he?
609430
Only if circumstances make things obvious that he's wrong, and he's feeling comfortable enough to admit it (which may not happen if he thinks it's going to be held over his head) would he admit it.  And since we'll never know when those two items might align properly, we'll never know exactly when he'll show that he realizes it.
1175595
you can't make a person realize their wrong...that's something they have to do on their own...i can see your bitter...and i believe you when you say you don't want him back...because i was in a similar situation not to long ago, you want that person to feel what they put you through...but you kno what sweeti your not alone...the best thing i can tell you to do is go forward with your life rather he regrets it or not... if he infact did you wrong, than he a be the one paying for it not you.... so just leave him behind and move forward.
1181993
Actually depending on how emotionally intense the relationship was defines how long does it take to get over it. Some people handle it fast, some take a while. However I find it nonsense that if you were all that he was looking for, and he ran away from it... then it's really NOT what he's looking for, or he's plain nuts! Nothing against dating though, I guess that my advice would be that if things cannot be worked out by talking as maturely as possible, then there's somebody else better for you out there, and he'll either 1) Regret he found the one thing he was looking for and let her go away or 2) move on and find something that appeals more to his status and condition.\n\nDon't worry about it though, men tend to have that small glitch while they grow up. I did, though now as I'm older and think about it, it was just the thing to happen, and I'm happy as I am these days. :-)
456920
It's the stubborness. And I'm sure every man has it. Wouldn't admit even if they're wrong. A disability to listen. Answering without listening the question. Later be surprised as the first time to know the question...and for giving the wrong answer. Happened all the time, with all the exes and guys friends. Doubt it can be changed. It's in the blood.
685834
it takes time; for me, it took over 8 years; but I finally got the idea. do not waste your time the way I did.  of course, if none of the things happened to me the way they did, I might not be where I am today.  be careful with your decisions, and I hope your heart begins to mend soon.
900467
I'm divorced, with 2 kids of my own, that live with me, and I'll tell ya, until HE is right with himself, there is NOTHING you can do.  He has to figure out what the deal is himself.  And you may need to find an alternative.
975059
If you just got over the relationship, you may want to wait 2 or 3 months and it may pass, if it doesn't, then you can seek the help of a professional. Of course, "just got off" isn't a very accurate description so use your best judgment to decide whether or not you've gave it enough time.
1061868
Time to set him straight.  If he has not realized the value of your relationship its time to get rid of him.  Give him the facts that the time has come to pick or pack.  That is pick up the action or pack up his stuff and move on.
290573
WOW!!  I can so relate and can feel and understand the confusion and not knowing how to walk away from what you truly love, and believed was everything you had been looking for...  I wish I could tell you what the "right" thing to do is, but I would be a hypicite.  I know from the outside looking in that the self respecting and having love for yourself firstmost, would be to cut your losses and see him for the person he really is and not the person you're in love w/ that you THOUGHT he was.  To even consider waiting around for a man to deciede if he rather have you or an x is INSANE!!!  I know this in my mind, yet I have allowed myself to give up all my self respect and dignity for 6 months waiting for my so called "fiance" to decied between me & his x wife of 20 years.  In the past 6 months he has went back and forth 5xs! I also describe my guy exactly how you did yours, but I was wrong that isnt who he is.  I allowed to waiy and let him struggle w/ his indiscion tuntil I had no self respect left for myself & became willing to settle for him any way I could.  That's not what love and foorever is supposed to feel like.  Don't allow yourself to dig yourself into that hole because its a hard 1 to climb out of.  If he is'nt 1000% sure that u r the only one he will ever want, he is'nt worthy of you!  Don't sell yourself short.The loneliest place in the world is laying next to somone who doesnt love you any more, & 1 sided love is hell you deserve heavenly bliss- settle for nothing less.  My man walked out w/o a word and back 2 her 2 days ago, we finally spoke on the phone today and as much as I love who i thought he was I finally decieded i cant stand who he is.  Doesnt stop the hurt or build back my self esteeme i got alot of work to do to get over it...But this time I really believe he does want her mor than me , but why the hell would i ever let a man make that kind of descion i should have given him no more choice in at the 1rst slightest sign of comparing or weighing me against somone else.  Live and learn.  I*t is the hardest most painful 1 i have had to go thru, and hearring your ? i had 2 respond and share my understanding and expierence in hopes you won't allow yours to go on as long or as deep as I did.  Good luck, and ultimatly only u know what's right for u and only u have 2 live w/ the decision.  If i could leave u w/ 1 bit of wisdom it would be the man has to live up to your dreams, dont never settle for less than u have always wanted and deserve.  mr right is out there for us but we gotta get our mr wrongs out of the way!!!
1064162
Believe it or not, this just happened to me last night.  My boyfriend was married for 11 years and they split up 9 months ago.  We have been going out for the last two months.  Last night, after about two beers, he looked me right in the eyes and said "I love you so much Ch*&^%)(*%$#."  I couldn't believe it.  He kept telling me he was so sorry and I know he felt terrible, but It is eating at me today too.  I know it was an accident and he didn't mean it, so I have decided to just force myself to stop thinking about it.  I know he loves me and I know he doesn't want to go back to her.  He is very loving and attentive in so many ways, so my advice to both of us is to stop being so sensitive and admit that our boyfriends are human.  They make mistakes, I wouldn't want him to crucify me if I were in his shoes.\n\nGood Luck.
1136077
He'll either forgive you or he won't.\n\nBut, he has to come to that decision all by himself and there is nothing you or anyone else can do to hurry the process.\n\nBe patient and do your best to act "normal" or you will be constantly reminding him. Which will cause him to take longer to forget about it and move on.\n\nBe patient and good luck. It's up to him, not you.\n\n\n\n\nWe don't need to know what happened. It won't change anything or the process.
496948
I used to practically beg my ex-husband for it... then, after I asked for a divorce, he told me that he was watching movies every night after I went to bed.  (I had no clue & felt so dumb!)  He said that it was because when he was with me it didn't last long (it didn't, maybe 15-20 seconds).  When he, um, took matters into his own hands, he could prolong matters and it felt better.  Then he asked for my help.  It opened the door of communication, I helped with "exercises", but we still divorced.  I was emotionally over him and just drained.  I felt like he lied to me for too many years and he was being selfish.  Don't wait.  Get help now, before it's too late....  What a waste!  We both enjoyed sex - it could have been so much better.
258955
There is always time to go back and fix a wrong.  Even years later you can go back and fix things.  Explain to him what you really meant.  Ive said things that just either came out wrong- or people took the wrong way- it happens everyday sweetheart!  we r only human!  It can be fixed!  Good Luck to you
186280
The first time, shame on him. The second time, shame on you. Don't continue to be with a man that treats you like that. You deserve so much better.
213875
It happens.  Don't worry it will come back.\n\nOr....\n\nSomething is wrong in the relationship.  How do you feel about him?  Has something changed in him to  make you question what you are doing with him?
738276
It don't take them long. Sometimes if it is something bad then it will take them longer. With this it doesn't seem as if it will take him long to get over.
774577
Yes my Hubby cheated 3 years ago,We did seperate for about 3 months, anyhow we ended up working it out..We got way to comfy in the marriage and things started to go downhill,And then the unthinkable happened..My first thought was divorce when i found out..as i said i moved out..But until your put in this position you just never know ..I felt if i could LEARN to trust him again and of course forgive him for what he did knowing it would take ALOT of time and patience on his part for the damage he caused to me, Then i would be willing to try it again..Today we are very very happy, The best our marriage have ever been.. And its taken awhile but i believe it was worth it. We have been together 17 years now..But if it ever happens again, I will be divorced..And no LOOKING BACK!