K, I'm in love with my best friend, she has no idea, and i have no idea what to do.?
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Hi! That happened to me before, my male bestfriend was falling in love with me, everyone in our group knows about it and advising me that it would be better to have a boyfriend from the bestfriend level as it always works. But I kind of aloof everytime I know he might ask me a question, or something as I only want to remain friends. Because what I believe before, if we became boyfriends/girlfriends and split up, we might never be friends again, and I like having him as my best friend. I was a teenager back then. Now i'm 30 and he's now married. And I'm still single.\n\nLet her know how you feel when she's no longer in a relationship. Or if you can't wait that long, let her know now, who knows. She might be open minded about it and let you know how she feels for you.\n\nCheers!\n\nMitch
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Her desire to continue being your friend may be her way of keeping her options open.  Be honest with her.  Tell her you're still in love with her and you aren't able to be JUST a friend to her because it hurts too much!  Break it off, forever, and begin dating immedialy.  You know the story....If you love something set it free, if it comes back... you did alright...
115706
Love doesn't make the world go round, money does and it's sad because love should be above money.  If you want your best friend to fall in love with you, you can't make her do it, but you can tell her how you feel and ask her if she's willing to start dating you.  She is your best friend after all and great friendships like yours is the best way to start out a relationship.  So just be yourself and Good Luck!
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I was in love with my best friend and I told him. He didn't feel the same way as I did but that didn't hurt our relationship either, it actually brung us closer and our bond grew because of it. It's a huge risk to tell her but if you really feel strong enough, I say go for it. Who knows, your best friend could always become the best girlfriend you ever had and if nothing else at least she will understand how much you care about her.
133208
be a respectful man, and leave her alone if you will fall in love with her, if it is just friendship then take care of your and her feelings
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I have had this happen to me before and I simply said look I love you as a friend and I am not into that its fine for you to be like that but thats just not for me. Be sure to explain that you won't judge her or look at her any differently and that it will not come between yall friendship. Just tell her in a nice way so that she don't feel like a jackass for telling you because you know its got to take some guts to tell your best friend something like that. I hope that I have helped.!!!!
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He is playing a game with you....OF COURSE HE MEANS YOU!   Listen a best friend always makes the best relationship....you know everything about each other, and you know how the please the other person....I would just straight up tell him how you feel.  What do you have to lose?  But when doing this, say "listen, lately I have really enjoyed spending more time with you than usualy and I have started to have these feelings for you, I felt you should know b/c you are a friend....and regardless I always want that first...but I do like you, and I hope that something can come out that."  GOOD LUCK GIRL!
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You are her best friend too right?, Well then some of the best marriages started out as best friends.....You will never know unless you ask. Don't let someone else beat you too it for fear of the unknown. I know you are nervous, but if your feelings are this strong, you should ask. She will listen... Best wishes to you both.
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Oh, honey, love makes you put up with things that you should never have to put up with.  Let me ask you this, if your very best friend was in this relationship - in your place - would you tell her to stay and wait for him to either really hurt her, or change?  Of course you wouldn't.  You need to love yourself.  Leave.  If you don't have friends or family, go to a shelter.  If he truly wants to change for you, he will have to do it on his own.  Good Luck!
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Sweetheart, you are young and in love; I know it sounds like a hard thing to do, but just be her friend, you are both too young to have this kind of stress in your lives. Be her friend, and be a good friend, things have a really weird way of working themselves out, so don't worry, if you love her you will cherish any relationship you have with her. \n\nP.S. You sound like a guy that any girl would be lucky to have, but I have to tell you; this probably wont be the last time you feel this way. I wish you good luck and good love
544204
communication. you need to talk to her. see where her feelings are at. she probably doesn't know you love her.  the best thing to do is talk and find out what she is thinking.
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Oh wow, tough situation. It would help a little with these type of questions if people told how old they are. If you all are adutls though, just let her know how you feel. Also your best friend doesn't sound like too good of a friend if you even think he might say yes. But then again, maybe he doesn't know how you really feel about her? You should tell him. Real friends wouldn't do things to hurt others. Also, maybe you acted all cool or whatever when you broke up so she thinks you won't care? Honesty and straight-forward communication is always the best policy in every relationship. If she doesn't love you back that's rough but at least you can try to move on. It's a fact of life that at some point we will probably like someone who doesn't like us back and vice versa. It's not pleasant but it's also a good reminder to treat others how you want to be treated...karma can come back and bite you in the butt!
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i was in love with my bestest friend in the whole world.  in fact, i think i'll always love him to a certain degree.  i took a chance and told him how i felt, because hiding my true feelings felt like i was constantly living a lie.  unfortunately, like your friend, he didn't want to risk losing me since he knew he couldn't give me the kind of commitment i needed.  \n\nit's been over 3 years since my revelation (we've been best friends for over 5), and i've learned to move on.  in the years that followed, i slowly was able to tell him exactly how i felt and why, and also get the answers to questions he left unanswered for so long.  i know he loves me, that we'll always be constants in each other lives, and will most likely grow old together... but maybe just not as husband and wife.  and you know, what?  it's actually all right!\n\nlooking back, i don't think i would've done anything differently... even if we didn't end up together.  i told him what i needed to tell him, and never imposed a relationship on him.  suffering in silence, how i did before i revealed myself, and how i did even after that, was much much too painful... especially because he shared the most intimate details of his life with me.\n\njust do what you think you have to do.  if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, then maybe he's not good enough for you.  i've always thought that my guy never really appreciated what was right in front of him, and maybe he's really not worth giving my heart to in the first place.  the right one will come along eventually.  hopefully, your friend is really the right one for you!\n\nif he's the right one, then he'll take the leap with you, and if he's not, at least you gave it your best shot.
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I think you should talk to her about your feelings and if she is free and willing to try things again, then there you go there is a good opertunity to ask her out. But she may just be content as friends I would not tell her you are in love with her though. It could make things worse.
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The simple truth of the matter is this. She doesn't love you, all she wants is something she can't have and that happens to be you. Trust me the only person who will get hurt in all this is you. I have lost a good friend because of this exact same thing and let me tell you it was never worth it.
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i know exactly how you feel... well, at least i think i do.. i am in love with my best guy friend whom i have known for almost 11 years... we are reallyc lose and a week ago, he confessed that he believed that we were meant to be.. blahblah.. and then we kissed.. and it's been a week and i have a feeling that he's avoiding me.. he's always busy and within the last week, he called me ONCE... that's it. and it was for a brief conversatio. i don't know what is going on... its really hard to do anything.. because i know that we were friends first.. and i dont want to risk it..\n\nmy advice to you... confront him before you assume anything and talk with him... talk it through... conversation is the best option you have... dont do like what i did and talk it out. it will save YOUR HEART from a lot of pain....
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Well, unfortunately you really cant MAKE anyone love you. If she is your best friend, then thats a great start! She already likes you and is comfortable with you, now you just have to see if she feels that way about you too.\nIf you feel comfortable doing so, you might ask her if she has ever seen you as being more than a friend. This is a tough thing to do, so wait until you are more comfortable doing so.\nJust make sure and remember: don't be too pushy. Nothing will scare her away faster.