How can I stop being a nagging wife?
610428
just chill out and pick your battles wisely. there is no sense in beating a dead horse over something that isn't worth arguing about anyway. life is way too short.
47550
Keep the communication flowing, always make time for each other. APPRECIATE one another. Always have a "date" night. Don't dwell on the bad things but when the bad things creep into your mind, make yourself remember a good time or a nice thing your spouse did for you. Don't be a nagger. And if all else fails, make love and forget about it. \n\nAnd if none of that works seek counseling.
292778
I have had the same problem with my husband.  Here's how I've handled it...\n\n1)  Don't nag.  He'll just resent you for it.\n2)  Suggest that the two of you go out and buy the tools and other items you need to start a project.  Nothing makes a man happier than buying new tools!\n3)  If he doesn't start the project after he's bought the necessary equipment, then YOU start it (even if you have no clue what you are doing).  Once he sees you about to "mess" something up, he'll HAVE TO HELP!\n\nGood luck!
174229
you sound just like me. i'm trying to work things out but i know the end result will be me leaving. i just want to be able to say that i gave it my all and totally mean it. sometimes we just outgrow them. have you ever tried to start some sort of hobbie with each other or do a date night? maybe that will get something going for you. i tried that. my husband didnt even care to go through with any of it. he just agreed to it and never did it. i'm writing a book on my horrible marriage. as soon as i get enough crap for my book i'm out. its not worth it to stay.
828943
Maybe you need to approach this whole situation from another angle.  Like paying more attention to your self and do the things that make you feel good and boost your self steem.  I don't mean by going out and having an affair, but stop wallowing in self pity because you husband is a di*k. Once you start doing the things that make you happy, he'll come around to grovel and ask for forgiveness for being such a blind jerk.
968583
yeah...myhusband nags more than i do, and im the woman!  he gets mad about EVERYTHING.  helping me with the garbage, with dishes, cleaning, always looking over my shoulder and asking my why im doing what im doing and getting mad because i tell hi to leave me the hell alone or dont answer.   whats up with it?!
569515
Forget subtlety.  Tell him outright you don't like it and if it happens again you will tell your husband.  He doesn't sound like much of a friend to your husband, and hubby would probably be better off without this jerk for a friend.\n\nProtect your marriage, protect eachother.
60528
Learn to be patient. If you are not married yet, I would suggest you to leave him. I know it is awful living with an inconsiderate man. But I honor marriage and think people should try their best to stay in their marriage in better or worse. So please learn to accept him the way he is. Anyway, it's your life and your decision. I won't respect you less if you decide to leave him. Wish you the best.
212825
Don't worry...this is very common. The best thing that you guys can do is to get together and come to agreements about your finances and stick to a budget...that way, if/when either one of you buy something outside the budget...you get called out. Also, it is best to sit down and just have a heart to heart on all of the frustrations that you are both going through...the worst thing that you can do is to sweep it under the rug and let it build up! Also, make a pact to only talk about things in a calm manner and do it all in one session instead of doing it everyday(a peaceful home is a happy one). Also, remember that you are adjusting to each other and that you are both going to find things that annoy you about the other person...but, also look at the positive things and especially the positive things that you have noticed since you have been married!
507456
Stop asking them. Keep the petty questions to yourself. My man hates that I ask him to many questions about petty stuff. I still can't seem to keep my mouth shut tho. Good luck with that. Its not as easy as it sounds.
57655
When you've done everything possible, you've become a perfect wife or husband, sought professional counselling, listened to his/her point of view and are an expert at meeting your spouses needs and put him/her before yourself or your kids.\n\nThen, if your spouse is still abusive, cheating, or refuses to see the importance of his/her role to meet those needs, give them fair warning that you are not willing to live in a marriage where your needs are not being met with the same enthusiasm as you meet his/her needs.\n\nAfter the warning time is over, and it's obvious that your spouse is unwilling to stop their hurtful or selfish behavior, unwilling to attend counselling, get treatment, or whatever, you then seek divorce.\n\nBut don't do it until you've given fair notice and you've done all you can to be the model husband or wife you promised to be.\n\nUltimately, you only have control over what you do, and perhaps you can win over your reluctant spouse with your behavior.\n\nOr, as in my case, sometimes your spouse will not stop the behavior and it's best to be apart from them.  But give it time and a chance and use that time to work on your role as a husband or wife.  \n\nYou can then hold your head up high, saying you've done the best you can, and you will be more appealing to another mate.
367825
I've been married for 3 years now, and let me tell you it has been hard at times.  My husband is very very compulsive about cleaning.  I however am the opposite.  He will come home from work and nag and complain NON STOP about everything about the house. When I do the dishes, he'll come in and yell at me because I'm not drying the right way, or I'm not stacking the right way.  We really had our breaking point when at 530am he was getting ready for work, and he took down the curtains because he wanted me to get a start on cleaning and making him breakfast.  Now I work full time too, and my alarm was set for 7am.  We had the biggest fight. I finally told him I couldn't take it anymore, he was bringing me down so much that I was starting to hate my self.  Just saying that too him killed him.  He had no idea that I was so unhappy.  After getting so much out he now makes an effort to make me feel better, he makes me breakfast in bed every Saturday.  And when he gets ready to complain or nag he holds back and simply offers the advice "take it or leave it"
860962
Just excuse yourself politely and move on.\n\nEveryone farts....everyone does, even your girlfriend, and co-workers.\n\nWhen I was first married, my husband was very embarassed about his farting.  It didn't bother me, and now we laugh about it.
745508
follow your heart but communcate that with your husband...and for god sake stop worrying about this stuff and consummate the marriage..its been long enough and im sure hes irritated.
671124
My hubby and I were having mega problems and i was on the verge of leaving... when i finally told him i was leaving and taking our 7 month old daughter, he straightened up right away. We talk about what really bothers us and we fix it... we compromise...every marriage has problems and if people say they dont they are lying! Sit down and have a conversation...nto an arguement ... first decide who goes first... tell what you hate and move on.... then dont throw it up in each others faces after this...just keep it in the back of your mind. For example... my hubby hated when i would gripe about little things like him leaving a dish out.. and i hated when he wouldn't seperate his laundry into the right bin. So we both corrected the problem and we moved on...(this is not why i was leaving.. he had a drinking problem)
564835
Really?  Hm...I thought it was the other way around!  Lol...j/k...I try not to do it to my husband because I hate it when he does it to me.  \n\nI'll usually just tell him once and if he doesn't do it or "forgets"...oh well...he'll do it eventually (luckily, my husband is very reliable and not lazy at all...so this rarely happens)  \n\nBut I think wives may nag too much because we want things done our way and at our time...and when that doesn't happen, we can keep on going on and on and on about it...until it finally gets done or we get tired and go on about a different thing.  \n\n---  oops, I change my mind...I thought about it a little more and I think I do nag my husband when it comes to things that I'm really anal about (ie: the windows needing to be open with the fan on when he's cooking bacon)
348424
I know your problem all too well.  I have the same condition and my wife gets irritated with me.\n\nAs a solution I have some adult diapers that I wear to bed at night.  This keeps the mess from happening and also works out nicely for the times we want to get a little frisky...