When the guys have an affair are they more affectionate with their wife?
606168
i think they are affectionate because they want to hide there mistakes and they have the inner feeling that they are doing wrong to there wife
913915
No but it is disrespect full but it doesn't seem like you care very much anyway.  If you want to be with your wife then do not call the girl you had an affair with.
1170014
ignore the guy who said cheat on your wife, please. I am married with 6 kids and i am sure my husband would say the same thing about me as you did about your wife. The issue is that physical intimacy is not very important to some women. it is not to me. the emotional aspect is what causes the physical aspect to be an issue. there is nothing wrong with you, though. as a mother i can say with certainty that i feel like i do most of everything by myself. even though my husband thinks that he is helping. i feel like i care more about everything than he does. I try to tell him he doesnt understand but, he takes it personally. he says whats wrong with ME, are u still attracted to me(physically). The answer is still yes but the emotion aspect is all WRONG. Try making uniteruptted time with your wife first. NO KIDS! and tell her that you noticed that she seems to be unhappy(or something similar). Ask her how she FEELS. dont mention the phisical aspect to her it will only upset her. tell her you want to make her happy again and ask what you can do. telll her you dont know how she is feeling but you want to help her. be genuine. Chances are it is a feeling thing, not physical as you think it is. if she feels more secure and supported im sure the spark will come back ten fold! my husband is always thinking about the physical. he does love me and care about me but the pysical is where he gets  insecure, like most men. with women it is purley on emotional side. try to leave everything physical out of the conversation. focus on her. let her bring up physical stuff. sometimes when i feel emotionally ignored anything physical just makes me angry, kinda like that is all he cares about is the sexual type stuff and not about me. your wife may feel emotionally negllected. try to focus on her.
617277
Emotional is far worse than physical.  A spouse may go through a period of weakness - and seek outside physical contact - but that betrayal does not in any way mean that he/she has stopped loving their spouse - they just have a period of weakness --- However when you get involved emotionally outside the marriage, that means something else again ---- many spouse that cheat confuse emotional attraction and just physical attraction --- and the spouse may be temporarily ( 1 day 1 week or months) "addicted" to the outside influence that they think is emotional when it is only passion for physical contact with someone else --- In time a spouse that cheated will return and the love he/she has for their spouse remains ----  Love in a marriage means MUCH more than physical contact -- and that is not to minimize the hurt and brtrayal caused by a spous that cheats ---- but cheating by and of itself DOES NOT need to mean the end of the marriage ---- obvioulsy, there was something missing in the marriage for the betrayal to occur
365069
Yes... well not really.... but sort of.....but then not so much.....\n\nIf your wives friends are relatively decent human beings than no.... it's not a test.  Women tend to think of a friends husband as sort of a big brother and its safe to flirt a little.  We even think of you as a surrogate husband.  They can get you to lift heavy things and kill the bugs but they don't have to sleep with you.  But don't make the mistake of acting on it because they would tell her in a heartbeat....so ya sort of.\n\nIf your wives friends are hoochies then they are probably really trying to get in your pants.  In which case they aren't really her friends.... still they would tell her in a heartbeat if you even hinted at interest.\n\nThe next time it happens, just grab your wife and kiss her.  That will show them you are devoted and make your wife feel good.  Chances are that your honey bunches has noticed it too and might be feeling a little insecure about it.
43663
Nothing wrong with that, Dude!  It's what makes us married guys stay with our wives.  THe better your imagination, the longer you will find your wife attractive :-)  Also can make the "session" over more quickly - allowing you to get more sleep.
443642
some of them do think like that...i guess married men got more experience on how to handle women emotion.they are more caring too...
784729
No thats between him and his wife. Would feel terrible for breaking up there relationship. beside the wife may already know some couples have open agreements.\n\nSeems to be more popular these days men marrired but have men as boyfriends.  I saw a tv programe on it and you be amazed of the married men that like to have men boyfriends on the side. \n\nhows a girl to know if a man is truely straight. he's better off being honest and saying he likes both least she knows rather than be suprised later.
316211
As far as my personal experience goes....NO! Definately not!\nI have been married twice by so called men who have had affairs with co-workers.
463732
Most wives tend to give thier husbands plenty of affection. If your wife isn't doing that, then you shoud sit down with her and find out the reason why.
390338
An affair...? Or do you mean you want a girlfriend?
267503
No!\nMy wife and I have been together for 8 years and I think we can safely say that we are more in love than ever. Most people find, however, that over a period of roughly 4 to 7 years of marriage, the intensity or sense of romantic passion fades and is replaced by a sense of comfortable security that can sometimes seem somewhat uninspiring. Security in love can make people “lazy” in certain way. Relationship therapists can suggest various ways to liven things up and put the “spark” back into married life, but I’m not sure how successful these strategies are in the long run. A related issue is that a lot of people find that marriage ruins their sex life. Personally, I think this is pretty much natural for long-term monogamous relationships. I suppose you can always come up with some examples of a couple who has been married for 40 years and still have a hot monogamous sex life, but at the risk of sounding pessimistic, I think this is incredibly rare, and I think that a lot of people unnecessarily beat themselves up over their inability to stay sexually interested in their spouse. I think the high rates of cheating and divorce provide good statistical support for everything I’ve said so far.\n\nMy wife and I have a lifestyle that works well for us (tho I don’t claim it will work for everyone!) We have an open marriage. This has several amazing effects. For one thing, I think it keeps us both “younger” in some sense. We can openly explore erotic and/or loving relationships, and this means that life can be periodically charged with what is sometimes call “new relationship energy” (NRE). This is that energetic feeling of “walking on air” and everything seems bright and beautiful in the world. Most married people are afraid of this sort of thing, and of course for some people it can lead to jealousy, but in our case it is good for BOTH of us. I find that my freedom to love others increases my love, appreciation, and erotic attraction for my wife.\n\nOf course a lot of people put us down and claim that their love is better than ours because we are missing something or whatever, but they don’t know us, nor do they have any deeper clues than we do about the true nature of love, meaning of life, etc., so I don’t let this bother me – although I do sometimes (like now) get on a soapbox because I think more people need to realize that healthy, happy people can explore alternatives to the standard monogamous marriage script.\n\nIn any case, I don’t see marriage ever killing our love-life.
255681
If your wife was cheating you'd see a lot of changes in her like not showing affection staying out late and acting like you mean nothing to her.. Just my observations
255942
Men tend to approach relationships from a mental, not emotional perspective.  This is not to say this is a superior approach.  But without the emotional connection, men can more easily disconnect from a relationship.
1143249
No not a Personal Affair., but it is very Flirty. Wear you flirting at that time. Some people are very hands on and don't mean to flirt.\nSince you are Interested, try flirting more and see what happens. Be more observant, and see if she is really into you. Does she look into your eyes when talking to you. Do you think or sense anything more than Friends. Ask this person out if you think she really likes you.
1001882
Well, that depends on how 'emotional affair' is defined.... but I believe that I have had one.  \n\nMine seemed to be 2 two sided at first but became increasingly 1 sided as time went on.  It also went from only emotions to becoming physical, which made my emotional attachment even stronger.  \n\nI don't think I really loved the man, but I would have done anything to keep him in my life.  In fact, if I had the opportunity, I would still take him back.\n\nI think an emotional affair begins because someone, like myself, has been so emotionally deprived for so long that they react in the extreme the first time someone feeds into what they are so hungry for.
1002269
there are many motives behind an affair,the old line it just happened is a crock of bull,it is given much thought and for men i think it's a challenge for women it is a emotional thing the sense of being needed, attractive to another man.men also need to see if they still have it some do, some don't,  some never did,regardless of the reason it is wrong.if your sex life stinks make it better try different things,being a women i can't completly answer why guys cheat but i feel it's an ego thing or maybe their spouse is truely a louse in which case she has no reason to complain we women know men like / need  sex and if we are completly against making love then let him go no man or women should be forced to live without it unless it is for a medical reason,in that case then you should find other ways to satisfy each other.