After a guy breaks up with you, do guys leave things at your apartment on purpose as an excuse to talk to you?
609678
leaving thing behind is an almost exlusively female tactic.\n\nMen simply are not that devious.\n\n\nAs for the last part of your question, I don't think you responded the right way.  Not only did you have a relationship, but it was serious enough that you lived together.  By your own words, he broke up because it "wasn't working out."  It seems to me that he deserved a little more than your vindictiveness.\n\nIndulging your emotions by throwing out a former bf's stuff is simply childish.  I know there will be a half-dozen girls who will say "you go girl - he deserved to have his stuff thrown out", but if you dumped him, they'd be calling him a jerk for throwing your stuff out.\n\nNo woman will call you a jerk for throwing his stuff out, but I will - YOU JERK.
827012
First what is the reason(s) that he broke up with you? It all depends on the reason. Give him some space as he won't listen to you now. Don't rush him. For starters, you can be his friend without being too pushy. But it depends on his reason for leaving you because if he really wants to move on, then you just have to do the same.\n\nAs for you telling him that you love him, did he reply? If no, then he wants to be alone.
774950
yes cuz hes showing that he doesnt care much 4 u. so its best if u dump his ass.
788627
Yeah, it sounds bad. He wanted to cut out quick, and that's good. You don't want him hanging around just to be polite, do you? The fact that he hasn't called yet, doesn't mean anything.. guys are not usually phone hounds like women are, but not coming in was the clincher.
594897
As I've learned on a question of my own, you cannot expect a real answer 'cause we don't know how you guys even broke up. We don't know who dumped who and how are things between you two now.\n\nThe truth is probably this, assuming that I have a real insight of the situation from your question: You are still a princess to him and he still finds you beautiful. But you are not HIS princess anymore. He surely does care.\n\nThe fact remains - he is trying to destroy your self confidence so you don't find somebody else. It is a cruel tactic, but the man still cares and he's out of ideas. Talk with him.
706605
From my own experience, breaking up with someone to "teach them a lesson" usually ends up with you getting hurt. Maybe he's missing you inm his own way, my boyfriend always says that just because he doesn't show his emotions on the outside doesn't mean that he's not hurting on the inside. Maybe he's trying to clean himself up on his own first, it sounds like he needed to gain so independence from you and be a better person without you before he can be friends/ be woth you again. I mean ask yourself, would you wan thim back in the state you left him in? Just give him some time and space and try and enjoy your own
122173
When we had a problem at my apartment, we just told the guy to move out, and told him that if he didn't move, we'd all move out on him.  He cried, but it worked...he left for good, and we haven't seen him since.  He hates us all now, but we hated him too.
222185
Yeah, of course. When you have a relationship with them and have had a lot of you know what. Then break up and she doesnt have anyone at the moment. And she needs it really bad being ra.ndy like a mad mare, even if we were still together i was like doing it myself sometimes just to see how she reacts and she was going all crazy, asking about me to even buy her a di.ldo if i dont have time :) and thats about it. They can be just as crazy as we men are, hahaha. They also need to fart and go to toilet and burp and eat. Just the same thing. Nasty, nasty hahaha.
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I think that the answer could be a couple of different things.\nHe could just be the type of person who does not care for another.  He is only interested in what he can get out of the situation and not concerned about the feelings of someone else.\nAnother thing could be that he was running his mouth a little too much after your breakup.  He could have been talking to his friends and got caught up in macho talk.  Things like that do happen.\nThe last thing that I could consider is that he is upset at breaking up and needs to justify it.  He needs to cut you down to make himself feel better.  By doing so he can better deal with the fact that you are no longer together, even if he is the one who broke it off.  The best people for him to talk to would be his friends.\nI can only make these assumptions from the information provided, but if I had to take a guess I think it may have been number one.  He doesn't care.  My justification for that would be the number of girlfriends he has had in the past.\nI hope that all works out for you.
587272
Sounds like he just wanted an excuse to leave. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but its the vibe I get from your description. Try to move on and find someone who will love you and be honest with you. Best of Luck.
25357
It definitely depends on the details of the break up. If you broke up with him/her and then had a change of heart, I would recommend that you contact them and see if they want to get together for something non-threatening such as a cup of coffee. Believe it or not but you will have a decent chance of success with this approach. \n\nIf they broke up with you, your odds are alot worse for getting back together. But you may want to "run into them" by chance somewhere such as the gym where they work out or the coffee shop they frequent (a planned chance meeting if you get my drift). Start a conversation, tell them you missed em and who knows - maybe they had a change of heart as well. Just do not press to hard and go into stalker mode.
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I think it depends on how long he was your boyfriend. A long term relationship breakup takes longer because usually the other person has strong feelings for you and needs more time to get their head around it.\n\nIf you didn't date for long then it shouldn't take as much time, since you'll just get it over with and move on.\n\nIf he is really someone you care about but not in that way anymore, maybe he deserves to know why. It can be useful for the guy to know why this is happening, especially if it was his fault, because in that way he can learn from his mistakes and try harder the next time he's in a relationship.\n\nI think the time depends on each relationship. It took yours 3 hours to be over because you have an ex boyfriend that loves to point out flaws; you said so yourself: " i finally told him to leave because i was sick of hearing all my supposed faults". \n\nI don't think you were rude. I think nothing good could have come out of listening to him. You sound patient enough to me! Good luck, and don't fret about it!
984418
If you finding women's clothes in his place then he is probably a cheat. I have stuff from my recent ex but not clothing and if I did have personal items they would be with everything else of hers put up somewhere in case she came back for them. Mine asked me to hang onto some things for her so I did but that was a different situation and still everything is put away in its place.\n-NmD!
1067314
Your boyfriend is breakin up with you.  I've done it like that b4 myself.  dont need to come out and say it, just let it drift apart n by the time the girl asks whats goin on, i'm already with someone else.
279570
he might simply be missing your company and want to try being friend (one of my best friends is a guy i dated for 2 years) if he broke up with you...and now wants to get back...let him explain to you why he left you, and why he wants to get back together...from his answer, you should be able to tell if he's serious or not.  and then make him work for it...but be careful...if you're unreasonable, you might lose him again.  just make him think that you might have moved on by pretending to be busy.  don't just see him at a drop of a hat...ex. tell him you're busy today but maybe you can meet up tomorrow etc.
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Well you would have to ask yourself why you broke up with him in the first place. Did you only break up with him because he moved away, and then he came back and you got back together? Or was it something that you didn’t like and couldn’t resolve? Is he the type of guy that you want to be with and is he worth the trouble. If he is, then good. Here’s what you do to resolve this issue. You tell him that you want him to do something about this other guy harassing you. Men are really easy to figure out. We're problem solvers. You just telling him about this other guy may not move him into action until you tell him it's a problem. With guys you have to be specific with what you want from us. We see a problem, we try to fix it. If we don't see a problem, we probably won't act on the situation unless we're told to do so. If you tell your boyfriend that this is a problem and you want him to do something about it, I guarantee you he will. Especially if he really cares for you.
460029
Well, start by not stereotyping all guys because your ex does something. He's probably still just upset about the breakup, and is taking it out by saying bad things about you.