FOR TEENS : Do you suffer from low self-esteem?
608486
i don't suffer from low self esteem, but my best friend does, and the only way for her to cope with it is to be surrounded by people who cares for her and lifts her spirit.
219618
I am going to put a "watch" on this question, so that later on my 16 year old daughter can answer it, too.  Like you she doesn't drink, or do drugs. She also has not had sex. And yes, sometimes she has felt lonely, and like the odd person, but as time has gone by she has made friends with other kids like her, though that took a little time to find them.\n\nI think, at least, I hope you know, you are not a loser. I am thinking that you and my daughter might be somewhat alone in feeling the peer pressure, though-- and you want to know why? Because in order to feel pressure, you have to resist and the ones who are all "doing it" have NOT resisted, they just gave in. Now they pressure you because the fact you resist when they didn't shows them to be the losers, the weak, the easily led. \n\nGood luck to you.  High school does end one day, but a quality life is forever.
873874
Yes, you not only have a self-esteem problem, but a spiritual one also!  Just so you know.....you were made a little lower than the Angels...not one of God's animals...which would not be saying too much for God!\n\nLook in the mirror AGAIN and repeat this 3 x's!\n  \nMirror, mirror on the wall,\nWho's the fairest of them all;\nwhy, it must be me, 'cause I'm the only\none in the mirror I see!!\n\nThis is not vain or selfish, just a self-esteem BOOSTER!\n\nGod Bless You!
258514
YES!\nI always find myself being my own harshest critic. I always find that I doubt myself more than others do me. I always find that I don't believe in myself as much as I should because I sometimes get low self-esteem from the endless parade of problems we ALL get!\nSometimes, I find that having faith in myself works. Being overly pessimistic (but inside being extremely positive) helps because when the results come you literally leap with joy!\nSometimes I find that talking to someone helps. I also find that writing a blog or a diary gets rid of unwanted "burden" feelings just hitching a ride on you and making you feel heavier and heavier into depression.\n\nBut remember, the most important thing is no matter what gets you down, you MUST find the courage to pick yourself up and face the problem head to head. Be strong! Everyone has problems - it's how you deal with your that makes the big difference!\nKnow that no matter how bad a situation you're facing, there is always many people dying to take your place because they don't even have the luxury we have to ponder our problems! :) That's how I keep myself motivated!\n\nJenova\n(d.yuffie@gmail.com)
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If you must ask this question , and try to justify yourself, sadly YES.  Self-esteem comes from within and not needing an outside to validate you.\n\nIf this helps, my mum said remember , nobody cares, they are too busy worrying about their faults to notice yours.
173645
Good usually but i have self-esteem issues from time to time like everybody else!
923043
He has a low self-esteem, He probobly had people make fun of him earlyer in his life for whatever reason/reasons but whatever reason he has a hard time of seeing himself as atractive at all. (I also think that, so I know how it is) He understands and really knows deep down you are being honest with him, He wants to beleve if fully, but still, he rembers the wounds from the past that tell him that he is not and hes lacking and he thinks your just trying to be nice to him.\nIts a vicious cycle. and it sucks, Im getting thrugh it slowly, but thats only beacuse I have to make myself take complements and gifts when there given and see myself as a someone, beacuse God dosent make nobodies.\nHope he gets through it, its really tough.
690832
Honey, you are not fat. Your weight is right for your age and height. At 13 you may be feeling a little sensitive about your looks which is totally normal for a teen. Don't ever let another person make you feel bad about yourself. And the person who called you that ugly name is probably just feeling bad about himself. You will be surprised what 4 or 5 years can do for your looks also. You will probably be a real knockout in a little while. Best of luck to you.
1121988
I probably wouldn't characterize teens as always feeling depressed and upset about themselves, but it is fairly common for them to have rapid changes in mood and widely varying opinions about themselves.  The teenage years are a rough period for most of us because we're struggling with multiple issues and don't always have a good way to express how we think or feel.  Several of the key things that are going on in this stage are working out automonmy/independence issues with parents, struggling to form an individual identity while still trying to conform to our social/peer group, learning to balance academic/work demands with our need/desire to have fun and relax, etc.  With all of that, and usually lots more going on, it's actually pretty normal to have periods of depression, anxiety, irritability or general moodiness.
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Well it depends, I am a teenager and I have  a positive outlook on life. But I have a lot of friends that are bored sad and depressed because they have really bad grades. But I know some really smart teens that I think will grow up to do something useful. I do have alot of stress though. when i am stressed out, I break out so I try to only worry about stuff like what am I going to wear and do i look good.
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You know I had this problem when I was younger too. I still work with this to this day, but I have come a long way in this. What is blocking you from loving yourself is low self esteem. You have to learn to nurture yourself, to understand you are as special, as valuable, as needed as the next person. \n\nOne method is to begin doing things which you can take self pride in. Look around at your life and really see what you do which is good. What are you good at? What skills do you have? Like are you a good friend? Really listen to others? Are you quick to lend a helping hand? Are you good in a certain area in which you excel? Do you do your job, no matter what that job is to the best of your ability? Do you do all in your life to the best of your ability?\n\nListen, when we are injured during our childhoods, or in our teen years, we develope a sense we are not valuable, that we are somehow lacking where others are not. Deep down inside our souls we feel like we are just not as good as other people. But this is often a false feeling. It exists because we were shammed durring our childhoods. We were not loved and nurtured as we needed to be. \n\nI once thought I was so much less than most everyone else around me. Due to this feeling I did not believe I deserved a good man, a good frienship, a good relationship with anybody, or deserve to be treated well. \n\nI treated others very well. I was, and still am a very loving perosn. I bet you are too. As I was growing, walking through life, I noticed how gentle I was to others, how forgiving and understnading of others just being human and nobody being able to be perfect. Then I had my "AH Ha!" moment. I realized I treated others way better than I treated myself, or how I allowed others to treat me as well!! I looked around and then looked at myself and I thought, why do I treat others way better than I treat myslef? Why am I more forgiving of others than I am of my own weaknesses? Why am I more willing to forgive the mistakes of others, yet I constantly condemne myslef for mistakes which are far less than most of those others who I forgive so quickly?\n\nWhen I realized that I was treating others way better than I was treating myself, when I realized I forgave others when I could not forgive myslelf, I finally began to wake up. I told myself that I was as deserving of treating myself the way I treated others. I deserved to nurture myself the way I nurture others. I deserve to forgive myself the way I forgive others. I also deserve to recognize my own skills and talents as I am always cheering on others skills and talents. \n\nI began looking inward, deep inside. I began to list all my good qualities, skills, and talents. At first the list was very small indeed!! While I began listing these qualities, I also began to attempt to nurture myself. I began to attempt to forgive myself. I had trouble with this at first, but I would just stop in the middle of a huge self criitisizing session, just stop myself in my tracts by saying inside my head "Stop!" Why am I being so mean to myself, when I would treat somebody else who did this exact same thing so much more gently, and I would tell them not to be so hard on themselves that everyone is only human and we all make mistakes. I would stop and think what I would say to somebody I loved who had done or failed to do, the exact same thing I had just done. Then I would begin to tell myself that "I am only human, I can make mistakes, I am as worthy of forgiveness as the next person, and I deserve to go easier on myself.  \n\nSlowly my life began to change. I began to expect better treatment from others. I demanded to be treated with the respect I deserved. I would no longer tolerate certain abusive behaviors towards me. I walked away from relationshipe which were damaging to me and my children. I slowly began to treat myslef better. To love who I am and to forgive myself as I forgive others.\n\nDuring this process I got a di
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possibly low self esteem?
263380
it feeds their esteem.  people who are usually low in self esteem tend to compensate their deficiency by soliciting (or the thought of being a smart person) nods or even attention
72218
This is just an example of teenage expermentation.  Every teenager goes through a point where they are something they are not in search for who they really are.  I know it's fustrating to see people poseing, but it's a way for them to grow and understand the world around them.\n\nI too was very depressed as a teenager and even was hospitalized.  Somehow people around you don't understand that it is a deep seeded problem, not just a fad or a phase.  Ignore those who don't give you any respect and understand that you will eventually start feeling better, although you may have to change your life to do so.
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All human beings get pushed around and put down, and suffer from\nlow self-esteem. Everyone you meet will try to make you feel like there\nis something wrong with "you". Because they ain't right!\nThis is the beginning of wisdom!\nHow will we handle that? Act just like them? Or mature?
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I like myself! I mean, of course there are things I'm not perfectly happy with about myself, but I don't really worry about them. I have kind of crooked teeth, a slightly wobbly bum and thighs and permanent under eye circles. The teeth and dark circles I know I can't do anything about so I forget about it, and I can't be bothered doing anything about my wobbly bits because I don't care enough! There are also things about my personality that I'm working on, but I don't worry that much about them either. I don't really have very good conversation skills, I'm a procrastinator, and quite shy. But I know that I'm a good person and I believe my good points far outweigh the bad. So I get on with life and enhance what I've got : )
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you just lose your self confidence, i think you;re not really bad inside , because you think you are ugly ,you try to hurt people  i think you experienced that when you're not good looking people dont care about ur inner side ..so you want to act like this to take advantage on people ...am i right?