why do woman go to the nice guys after they  get messd over?
607296
I know.\nWhy?\nThey feel bad about themselves and make themselves feel better by going to someone nice.\nThey are just embarressed of themselves.\nThey know that they cant get someone so they go to a guy they can get and then they end up hurting you.
701115
Well what happens it, us woman like the bad guy early on in life.  We think we can change them and some of us even have fun trying.  As we get older, and more mature, we realize that what we want is a guy we dont have to change.  One that already has all the qualities we want and one that is honest and caring.  One that makes us feel secure.\n\nMost woman who are ready to settle down look for the NICE GUY!
915927
Bad boys are apealing for a time....they are exceiting.  But in the end what most women want is  a  nice guy who treats them right.  My husband tells this story about this girl he when with and she  dumped him for a bad boy.  After he and I got married we ran into the women at a  club and she told my husband, "You were the best thing that ever happened to me and I was so stupid.  He turned out to be a real jerk."  Of course, by then I  had already snatched him up and she was left out in the cold.  But she really regretted dumping the nice guy and getting  in with the bad boy...she got burned for it in the end.  I suggest that you forget  her and look for  a nice girl.  The nice girls are probably not the most popular girls because the popular girls are popular for all the wrong reasons.  And the nice girls are not popular because they actually have ethics and values.  When I was in school I wouldn't have sex, wouldn't drink, wouldn't smoke and wouldn't do drugs....wasn't allowed to date until I was 16.  My parents made me dress modestly.  Guess what?  I wasn't very popular.    I wasn't  asked to prom, wasn't asked to  the home coming dance and all of those things.  What  a nice guy needs to do is look for  a  nice girl and forget about  who's popular.
789099
You are right, I see some of my old friends play guys and it makes me sick. When they start in a relationship she thinks she wants him and him only, and 2 weeks later, she wants his best friend too. then both guys get hurt (heart break) and she moves on to the next guy, who falls for her... and it goes on and on... Just sickening...  Some men do women the same way though, not as many men as women though. Don't stop being the nice guy, there are some good women left that appreciate a great guy, and that sounds like what you are. Good Luck with the next one.
623556
there is lots of women that like nice guys. the bad guys usually get the attention because they make a move first. go ahead and be nice, but not shy.
112265
What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him. \n\nNice Guys exude insecurity -- a big red target for the predators of the world. There are women out there who are "users" -- just looking for a sucker to take advantage of. Users home-in on "Nice Guys", stroke their egos, take them for a ride, add a notch to their belts, and move on. It's no wonder so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible, when the so often the kind of woman that gets attracted to them is the lowest form of life... \n\nSelf-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure. \n\nNice Guys go overboard. They bring roses to a "lets get together for coffee" date. They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date". \n\nThey are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her. We are only human, and pedestals are narrow, confining places to be -- not to mention the fact that we tend to fall off of them. \n\nThey cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy, because he believes that if she learns about the REAL person inside, she will no longer love him. \n\nNice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions. They think it's being equitable, but it puts an unfair burden of responsibility on her, and gives him the opportunity to blame her if the decision was an unwise one. \n\nNice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of comprimising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in". When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, "Everything I did, I did for her.", as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs. A woman doesn't want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner. \n\nNice Guys think that they will never meet anyone as special as she is. They use their adoration as a foundation for claiming that "no one will ever love her as much as I do." Instead of being a profound statement of their devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: "You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I'm here." \n\nThe nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. Even if we no longer continue the relationship, the feelings will continue... But love isn't mutually exclusive. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who have loved her just as much in her past, and will love her just as much in the future. The irony of
435077
Because women have ruin it for other women . . . \n\nThese good men became dishearten because of how women treat them.
605166
its just what some women do. not all are like that.\nmaybe the guy is toooo nice and she starts to take advantage, as she knows she probably can.
719998
I think its innate in them, lol.  If they mess up, its usually because their brain traveled below their belt and at the moment they dont care, they only want one thing, unfortunately... going thru the same thing, so I know how you feel your guy messed up something good
604440
alot of men are intimidated by good-looking women. they feel that they don't have a chance. they end up losing in the end to a total jack-ass. jack-asses will do anything to get a woman so they can fuck-them-and-dump-them. they, in turn, ruin it for the guys that would probably be the best thing that ever happened to that woman. it does happen the opposite way sometimes as well. if a guy looks clean-cut and is very polite, give him a chance. remember, arrogance is generally a bad thing. confidence is another...
362432
It's not hard, but it seems to me from my experiences that women say they want one thing then actually go after another....\nI'm yet to meet a woman who would go for a genuine nice guy over an asshole who treats them like crap, maybe they just need something to complain about to the nice guys they just want to be "friends" with...
941531
Women are completely messed up in the head.  They only want things that they can't have.  By sending stuff to them and being nice they realize that they can have you and that makes them feel like their nothing special.  You must first show them that your'e special and get their attention by doing something funny, unique, or impressive all while acting disinterested.  Then pay them some attention and then only start being nice to them after they agree to go out with you.  Even then do not be overbearing just kinda act like theyre ok and then theyll be dying for attention and then in turn begin to develop an affection toward you.
962101
It is not that women like the bad blokes - it is just that the bad blokes make them feel so good (at first ofcourse).. it is the bad blokes who tell them how great they look/are, who take them places etc and do all the chasing at first..\n\nOften nice guys won't be so full on and quite often women interpret the considered approach of nice blokes to mean that they are not interested or indifferent..\n\nMost women would ditch a bloke once they found out he was not all he seemed and unfortunately that cannot always be easy to establish - the bad blokes are good at leading double lives/lying etc \n\nFTR - most women just want a bloke who loves them and who they can love..they want to care for/be cared for/ they want to know their partner only has eyes for them..\n\nSo hang in there - if you are a genuinely nice bloke you will meet someone and she will thank her lucky stars you are not an idiot..  BUT as I say don't wait for her to come to you, next time take a chance and put more effort into the wooing stage.
371893
That's not true, but in certain social situations when a girl meets two guys she is likely to go for the one who is mysterious the one who she can't figure out or the one she thinks she can reform from the bar. Those kind of girls are desperate, don't worry about them. A real woman wants a man that has some of the qualities that you possess. You will soon find a woman who values a real man. When you meet girls be the mysterious nice guy. \n\nAnother thing, some girls may think like this: Don't lay it all out that your this super nice guy, girls only want you to be nice to them,like their special if your nice all the time it you may be sending the messagethat your not different from any other gal, Good luck!
511549
Avoid places where they go.  Find another man....Your the woman-- you have what guys are after, remember that.  Just be careful.
684928
Because some women are insecure, petty and shallow.  We should be helping each other out instead of trashing each other.
691879
My man that is a question has old has time itself. Every respectable man has thought about going to the "Dark Side" and becoming a jackass...hold tight it just takes women a little while to realize their being used for...well...you know. Nothing against the ladies but you get sucked in faster than the fellas do and the dirtbags use that card against you, thats all. So buddy hang tight it'll turn around.... patience is key!!\n\n  The Doctor is IN