How do you tell your baby's daddy that it is over with you two, but you still want to be good parents?
606587
Well since that happened to me a yr ago, I suggest that u tell him that it's over and that u want him to be part of the baby's life. In my situation her and me have an understanding where I get to have him for 2 weeks out of the month and so does she. She just came out and told me, I wasn't so happy about it but I got use to it and realized that she really wanted it to be over. Anyways if U need some more advice on this e-mail at elguapo_v12@yahoo.com Well good luck and remember just sit down with him and tell him what u really feel...
289533
HAVE YOU TRIED TELLING HIM HOW YOU FEEL!? LETTING GO IS NEVER EASY ESPECIALLY WHEN YOUR AROUND ONE ANOTHER ALL THE TIME!! BUT, AS A WISE PERSON ONCE SAID, "WHAT DOESN'T KILL US WILL MAKE US STRONGER" AN I BELIEVE THIS TO BE TRUE! I THINK YOU OUGHT TO STOP SEEING EACH OTHER ALL TOGETHER UNTIL THE BABY IS BORN(SURE LET HIM COME TO DR. APPT. AN STUFF) BUT AS FAR AS SEEING ONE ANOTHER DON'T DO IT! THIS WAY IT WILL GIVE YOU THE TIME YOU NEED TO GET OVER HIM AN HE CAN STILL BE INVOLVED IN THE BABIES LIFE!!! AN THEN AFTER THE BABY IS BORN AN IF YOU STILL FEEL THE NEED TO BE AWAY FROM HIM THEN TELL HIM! THERE ARE MANY WAYS OF PARENTS RAISING THEIR CHILDREN WITHOUT HAVING TO BE AROUND ONE ANOTHER! I KNOW THIS CAN'T BE EASY FOR YOU(BEING PREGNANT) AN ALL!! BUT, I WISH YA THE BEST AN HOPE THAT MY ADVICE CAN BE SOME HELP TO YOU! IF YA WANT YOU CAN EMAIL ME AN I'LL TRY TO HELP ANYWAY I CAN!!!\n\n\nBEST OF LUCK!!!
186901
Make him feel he is important in your life, after your child ofcourse.  Support what he likes and does. Tell him about all that happens with you and your ex, thats if you guys still see eachother because of your child.  Most importantly, make love to him, and tell him you love him, thats if you really do.
560296
For your babies sake, let him go. If you force him to be a part of "this family", he will resent you and the baby for it.\nWhen or if he decides to come back, atleast it will be his decision and for the right reasons.\nI broke up with my daughters father before I knew I was pregnant, but I didn't want to get back together with him once I found out. I knew that in order to raise a happy child, I had to be happy and being with him did not make me happy.\nMove on with your life, if he doesn't come back to you, someday you will meet a man who will truley love you and your child.\nGood luck to you and congratulations on your pregnancy.
167618
Right now, I can only go by what I would want my children's father to do.  I would want him to do what is best for him, because in the long run, he would then be able to take care of my children better. Think about the long haul. Set out your pros and cons. Writing letters, sending videos and tapes so your child can see and hear you are some other ways to keep in touch with him.  If you decide to stay with UN, always tell your son how much you miss him and love him and that you are always there for him even when you are far away.  Make sure you instill that in him so he knows that Daddy loves him and is making a better life for him.  \n\nThat is what I would want my children's father to do.  What ever is best for you, will be best for your child.  You seem like a wonderful dad and I am proud of you.
226481
Some new mothers find it hard to part with their new born infant in the beginning, eventually the newness will wear off and if you continue to be supportive the mother will see this and most likely lighten up some.  also you owe it to your daughter to try to be a part of her life even if you don't stay with the mother.\n\nI commend you on wanting to be there for your daughter... keep it up Daddy!
1134864
Some tips that have work for me:\n\nAgree on joint custody of the kids. That way, you both can decide over the children'f future together and both of you can be involved making importatnt decisions in your kids lives.\n\nBe generous on visitation. That way the kids can have a fair share of both parents.\n\nHave an agreement with your soon-to -be ex about NOT badmouthing the other when not present, That hurts the kids. Make that solemn promise that you will not talk bad about the other one during visitation.\n\nHave a conversation with the kids, Explain what is about to happen and how much you love them and how daddy an mommy still care about each other. \n\nWhen visitation comes, try to make the transition an easy as posssible. This NO time for arguments or sour faces.\n\nRemain in friendly terms.\n\nAlways allow your ex to talk on the phone with the kids. ALWAYS.\n\nSend father day/birthday cards sign by the kids.\n\n\nCIVIL is never using the kids to get back at one another. Good for you that you are willling to do this.
506924
Well, you decide what is best for you and move on. \nUnfortunately, there is nothing you can do about the father. He is apparently not ready to become a parent and own up to his responsibilities. \nIf you are planning on having and keeping this baby it sounds as though you may be doing it alone. You never know, the father may come around later.\n\nGood Luck to you!
368928
Oh my gosh, I never, ever, thought I'd say this, but I agree with, with--ahem, I know I can do this, I agree with the hippe!  (man that hurt)\n\nCommunication, simple, honest, with love, is the best way to go.  You may wish to state that you are "concerned" rather than "worried".  You could even stop short of describing your concern.  Just, "Dad, I'm concerned about you, is everything all right?"  Then, LISTEN to what he says.  He may brush it right off.  If he does, leave it at that.  Sometimes it seems people don't hear us, but they do, and given a few days time, or so, he may come back to you with something.
480521
He made his choice worry about your baby and move on to better
1140545
What a Dad the most important information you can give out is your opinion. But Dad have you ever thought about sitting down and having a talk with your daughter? I know it is a hard thing to do. But in the end the discussion is well worth it. Feed her brain with knowledge and trust her. If you raised her right you have no worries. I wish my dad would have talked to me earlier about that. But you know what I would not change my life lessons for the world. The choices we make today are the ones we live with.  The best thing a father could do. Is hug your daughter tell her you love her and arm her with knowledge. Hold you head high Dad you have good intentions.
1052422
Tell your parents as soon as possible...do you want to keep the baby, give it up for adoption, terminate your pregnancy?\nThey will want to know who the father is.\nYou should have been spending more time learning to read and write...how did you get through grade school being illiterate?
1133282
Tell her you'll be patient and want to work things through with her. Show her how much you love her and the baby but be firm in awhile and say you need her to pay attention to you not worry about him.... If she can't get over him than you better move on cause all you'll be is second best.
921428
Bring out his BAD side.  Make him seem incapable of raising the baby and show that you are better capable.  It works effectively.  Good Luck\nA.L.
1179960
None .  I'm sorry you have to go through something like that . I will remember you in my Prayers tonight . My kids went through that and now they don't speak to him b/c of empty promise's on his part .But my kids are fine and they have a awesome father in there life that Loves them more than words can say . I pray that is what will happen in your life . May God Bless and Keep you in his warm embrace . Rest in knowing that he is the one missing out not you.
143514
I think the question you want is, "How do you greet someone who has just become a father?"\n\nYou say, "Congratulations!  I just heard you became a father!"  (Then, usually the father will tell you whether the baby is a girl or a boy)  Then, you might respond, "That's great!  How are your wife and the new (daughter or son) doing?"
991893
You already know what you need to do, but since you asked, I'll tell you. You need to take your 5 year old chiild, pack your things, and move on with your lives.  Do it before the baby comes, because it deserves stability in it's life, not chaos and confusion. Good Luck!!