should gay's adopt children?
607526
NO''''''''''''''''''''''' are you out of your mind.\nalthough I respect gays but think about that child when he or she grow up.\n2 dad or 2 mun.or shameful\nbe reasonable.
398157
Not my cup of tea, but they should have the right to live their lives in peace and happiness.\n\nIt's definitely natural (i.e. occurs in nature), as homosexual animals have been observed.  Biologically it's an issue of brain developement, not choice.  Brains are very complex organs and its development heavily depends on a number of hormones and other chemicals.  It's not surprising that a minority of the population has inverted gender attraction.\n\nI suspect that since humans are very social animals, we have reduced evolutionary pressure against homosexuality.\n\nFor example, spiders lead very solitary lives.  If a spider is homosexual, it has no way to improve the reproduction of its genes.\n\nHumans are quite different.  Since we live in complex societies, a homosexual individual can still assist in reproduction of its genes by assisting the reproduction of close relatives.  This reduces the reproductive cost of being gay.  It's my opinion that the more social a species is, the higher proportion of it's individuals will be homosexual.\n\nSince someone else being gay has no bearing on my happiness or my marriage I would let them marry just as I do.  I figure thare are just as disgusted thinking about straight sex as I would be thinking about gay sex.
242789
that is a tough question- i mean i am gay myself and i wouldn't want to disrupt the life of a child that i may have in the future.\nbut i also think that there is not one family in this united states that is 100% normal, many things will f&*^ up a child's head not only homosexuality, but drugs, beatings (physical abuse), profanity (verbal abuse) i also beleive that children will be suseptible (?- sorry i can't spell) to all sorts of things in life and there is no way of changing that. gay people exsist we will be here forever, as will drugs, alcohol, cursing, sex and the more we try to keep children away from 'immoral' things the more they will be confronted with it and at least they'd have a head start if they knew about it before hand to defend themselves. if the child had gay parents at least the child may have more of an open-mind when growing up but the only thing i think of is when they go to elementry school and s/he tells the other kids that s/he has two daddys instead of the typical mommy and daddy, or just mommy, or just daddy (u see all families are disfuncional LOL). i'd feel completely responsible for that child being made fun of all thru their school life and if i had the chance to stop it before-hand i would by not having a child and i'd have to think of that (possible) child's life before my own for it would be selfish to want a child knowing that s/he may have problems coping with it- so it is a tough question that i can't even truthfully answer.....
1013137
Visit your grandchild.  Whether you are gay or not does not  stop you from being a grandparent.  Who writes the rules anyways.  Hell, visit your family.  Just because you are gay does not mean you should drop off the face of the earth.  Being a part of that child's life may mean the difference between unjust prejudices.  Besides, you will miss out on so much love you would be a complete fool not to share it.
937758
everyone should have the same rights to adopt whether you are gay or straight or single parent, just the same as straight people/couples
362005
I have a son and if he came to me and told me that he way gay, I would definitly be shocked and surprised. However, I love my child no matter what. If he is in a loving and caring relationship and is being treated well, then I would get over it and accept it. A parent generally loves their children no matter what. If they do not accept it, than that is their problem. Good luck to you.
181339
of course. i would like to adopt some day anyway. why bring a new kid into the world, when there are so many out there who need families?\nand besides, no worries of getting pregnant, so, thats always a plus
124540
My view is this: If two people want to be married, fine go ahead and it doesn't matter if they are gays or not! But also they should know if they get divorced or have kids they should have the same rights as everyone else! Not because they gay or straight they should be able to take the responsibilities of what they law says it's accordance to the law!
1028060
where i come from if u are found out u get charged and u can find your self in jail if convicted but personally am not a gay basher nor like them either. i believe our country's laws on the issue are achaic and people should be allowed to do with their lives as they wish though it aint natural at all.also for me personallly gay priests or gay couples adopting kids is a BIG NO!!!
24769
Well, given that I’m gay I would have to say yes.  \n\nI find the arguments against gay marriage, and therefore gay rights, like the ones stated above amusing.  Yes marriage is the building blocks of the family unit, so why are literally hundreds of thousands of families across the country not extended the same rights of marriage?   \n\nThe original purpose of marriage was procreation, yes.  This in no way excludes gay couples.  Many use artificial means to have children (as many sterile straight couples do), and many more adopt children.  Others already have children from previous marriages.    Also, I don’t see anyone arguing that old people, and people who are sterile, shouldn’t be allowed to get married.  We also do not make people fill out forms declaring that they are planning to have children when they get married.  That’s because beginning in the 20th Century marriage stopped being centered around procreation and started being about love.  \n\nI also love the slippery slope argument mentioned above: “But, if we let men get married to men, what’s going to stop a man from trying to marry a horse?”  This has some variations, from trees, to horses, to dogs, to polygamy.  Well, to start I would like to point out that neither trees nor horses have been granted rights by the constitution.  Also, if everyone is so tolerant of gay people, and many are quick to point out that they have gay friends, why do we immediately associate gay marriage with bestiality and polygamy?  \n\nUnfortunately, my civil liberties are severely hindered by the fact that I can’t get married.  If my partner gets sick, there is no law protecting my rights to visit him in the hospital; if he dies, there is no law saying I have any rights to our owned property because as far as the government is concerned, “our property” doesn’t exist.  If children get involved this gets even uglier and more complicated.  There is more than one case on record of judges taking children away from a surviving partner and giving them to an ex-husband or ex-wife who has no connection to the child, simply because the surviving parent “had no legal connection to the children.”  This is all directly connected to the fact that we can’t get married.\n\nSo, I’m afraid people can’t have it both ways.  If you support gay rights, as I do, you have to support gay marriage.  Without gay marriage, we’re second class citizens, and are only accorded the rights of second class citizens.
747548
I don't know if marriage is a basic human right.  Living with dignity, access to clean water and decent food, those seem like human rights.\n\nMarriage is a convenient financial arrangement.  For that reason I think legal unions between gays should be allowed.  Right now a partner cannot be "next of kin" if the other is in the hospital.  Most employers and states don't recognize a partner as a beneficiary or a dependent for insurance.  Gay couples should have the same rights for this.  \n\nFor the people who are against it, I am not sure why.  It really doesn't affect them.  I also don't get why gays are barred from adopting children.  Is a kid better off bouncing around from group home or foster home to foster home?  Don't you think that kid would choose a stable loving household over institutional care?
973896
Most definitely, they should. I've known/known of gay couples who have been together in loving, monogamous relationships for decades. They are better examples of how to having a loving, compassionate partnership, which is more than anyone can say for the majority of heterosexual couples (one look at the divorce rate will tell you this). There is absolutely no reason to say that heterosexual couples can offer a more stable, caring environment for a child, simply because they have sex with a member of the opposite sex. Ask the many, many anti-homosexual rights congressman with 4 or more marriages under their belts if stability and love are sure bets in hetero relationships. Seriously.\n\nAlso, there is no proof that a single gay man or woman cannot provide a loving home for a child which desperately needs one. Being the product of a single mother home, I can personally attest to the fact that it is in no way necessary to have a mother *and* father. If there is love, a child will thrive. And one could reason that homosexual parents would be best for this task, seeing as they treasure the opportunity to share love with each other, as well as children, more than your average heterosexual. It could also be argued that these couples will provide an extremely important testement to acceptance, and holding an open mind. Children cannot learn enough about this essential part of being a kind, loving, human being. If they don't learn this, they become the sort of people who go around websites like this one, condemming people they've never met, and know nothing about.\n\nStill not sure? Ask the thousands upon thousands of children who await adoption around the country. I can promise you that no 7 year old child is going to say "No thank you, Gay people shouldn't adopt. I'll go ahead and remain an orphan."
113396
I believe it is a choice they make! And I don't believe that they should be allowed to get married ever! I also believe that they should not be allowed to have and/or adopt kids either! I think it would screw up there lives!
58718
Yes, they are. Until we learn to care for the ones already exisitng, we should hold off on creating more of our own. (Just a personal observation.) Perhaps some of these families who like to pop out kid after kid should adopt one (or several).
801007
I know of a number of such cases. One lesbian I know took a sperm sample from a man and got pregnant that way. A local drag queen has fathered several children with a woman. It's more common than you'd think, and just not all that unusual. Quite a few gay people have children, whether by the usual biological means or adoption. In some cases, the men were married to women and fathered children before finally coming out of the closet as gay.
407978
I have five children and do not care if they are gay or straight, but will love them no matter what.  This means that I value my children higher than or at least equally as much as myself.\n\n"This kind of love is rare, because not many would find something so desirable that the object itself is more valuable than their desire for it."\n\n***robert_delahunt needs to find God!***
764599
no more then straight couples. If this ideal was correct then straight couples would never have gay children. just for the record my parents were straight as arrows. in fact I would go as far as to bet 95% of the LGBT people on here had straight parents.