How to make your sis understand that your best friend and she have different but important place in your life?
596308
tell her youre my blood shes my water talk to her my sister use to be jealous of my best friend we now do a sister date at least once a month
224193
Make a day that you can take her with you. Set it up with your friends, and tell them that you know its a bother to do so, but you want to make her happy too. Then head to the park or something.. Hang for about an hour or so... Tell your sister that she can come hang with you all, but only for a hour, then its time for her to head home and find something else to do... This gives your sister a little time with you, (she looks up to you)... And time with your friends... I used to always want to hang with my older sister and she hated it, but I loved her, and wanted to be with her do things she did....
1020832
It is normal to have differences.... this is call sibling rivalry.\nI know my sister and I have gone though times that we haven't spoken to each other also. I have learnt over the years to accept where the other person is at and let them own it. It is their experience not yours so you really don't have to agree. Just realizing that you can still like or love someone with different opinions is ok. It doesn't mean you have to agree with them or even change their mind. I believe if you are going thourgh different experiences that's ok. You still have your fond memories of your sister and no one can take that a way from you ,not even your sister. I hope all works out well!!
700108
Actually, you are both right.  She is right when she says that she feels hurt because you two are not close.  Who are you to deny her what she feels to be true?  Feelings are not based on facts and truths of historical circumstances.   They are feelings.  Don't look to deny others their feelings.  You are right, too, when you state that you have a different life or different lifestyle than your sister.  You are two different individuals so naturally you will do things differently, and with differences conflict is inevitable.  You can resolve whatever conflict exists between you and your sister by talking to her more often.  Communication doesn't by itself solve all the problems of the world but it certainly smooths out the bumps in the road.
1075472
you can't force her to connect back to you... she's at this age where she's having identity crisis and probably wants you to leave her alone. it is true that teenagers are a little self-centered as if the whole world revolves around them -- im not saying this to degrade anybody, i WAS in this phase too! when you gain more experience as you grow older, that's the time when you learn to be selfless and humble. you start to think about other people. there is no specific age for this... these things you learn through hardships no matter what. i've dealt with a lot of things, so i learned quicker, and i kinda grew up a little too fast. my life passed me by though -- i didn't get to enjoy hanging out with friends or having boyfriends, but i have learned to be selfless. what matters to me now are the people i love... they matter more to me than myself. \nanyhow... there will come a time when your sister will mature as well, and you'll probably be matured at that time too... and i bet you will be as closest as you can possibly be. i have friend who fought with her brother constantly when they were younger, but they became so close when they got older when she finally moved out.. she would always tell me how much she misses her brother. so give it time... this time will come. (as long as you don't change and forget all about her)
1169682
I AGREE I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING WITH MY SISTER SHES ALWAYS JUDGING ME SAYING THAT I DONT CARE ABOUT HER I HAVE ACCEPTED HER BUT SHE DOESNT SEEM TO ACCEPT ME FOR ME... ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT THEY JUST DO BUT IT DOESNT MAKE THEM RIGHT JUST PRAY FOR THEM TO UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL .. TELL THEM HOW YOU FEEL... I HAVE DONE THAT TO MY SISTER UNFORTUNATELY ITS NOT WORKED WHEN I HAVE TOLD HER HOW SHE MAKES ME FEEL... BUT WITH PRAYERWARDS THOSE PPL WHO DONT EXCEPT YOU... JUST PRAY... FOR UNDERSTANDING AND JUST BE PATIENT THATS WHAT I HAVE BEEN DOING WITH MY SISTER..
154060
Tell her the you two will always be best friends but the two of you can play with other people together and separate without hurting the friendship that you have.
192752
The way I see it, your best friend is the only one that is going to get really hurt.  Because your sister's ex is just talking to her to get your sister mad.  Your sister already made a decision and he is using your friend to make his.  Tell her to chill for a bit and see how things develop, just in case his "confused" like all men claim they are when they don't want to admit they f*cked up.  Good luck to all
421889
You need to be upfront and honest with your Best Friend. Let her now how you feel.  But you are still calling her your best friend so maybe if the two of you talked about what makes you uncomfortable about still being friends, it can be worked out!  But make sure you are honest with her.  Just because you don't have the same beliefs as her doesn't mean you need to disrepect her and her disrepect you.  Good luck to you!
110084
I notice you don't mention how things are with your current beau. But as for your bud, maybe he should dump her; she doesn't sound like the most trusting sort. \n\nAnd if you and your friend are that close, maybe you do belong together.
1154444
talk to both of them, not at the same time.  first try to work things out with the friend thats like a brother.  fix things there before its too late.  then go bacl to your so- called Best friend and talk to her. ask her why she betrayed you. try to work on it. you can still be friends. i just wouldnt trust her as much as you used to
479292
some sort of 'best friends' or 'brother & sister'
41889
I have a best friend that sometimes we couldnt be more alike, but sometimes I dont know about her. You just have to step back and ask yourself if the situation is really worth it or. Even best friends are different people with different opinions you just gotta let her have her space and recognize when a fight is about to erupt and whether its worth it. I just laugh at my best friend later on. Like girl, what was....THAT ..all about anyway..lol:)Just chill and walk away when ya have to ..It'll be alright
954789
Well, I read the follow-up question (at least, I think that was you), and gave this some thought. Not that I know the answer, but here are things to consider:\n\nHow close are you to your step-sis and half-bro? Can you talk to your step-sis calmly, tell her you know she suspects you're having a relationship with her boyfriend, but you really don't find him attractive - you only tolerate him for her sake - and then, if she accepts this, ask your half-bro if she can come?\n\nIf not (or if she won't accept it, or your half-bro is determined she shall not attend), then when your step-sis asks, you tell her that you're going to your half-bro's. When your step-sis asks "what about me?" or words to that effect, you tell her "you'll have to ask our half-bro."\n\nThen you tell him, and his mom, that you know your step-sis is difficult, but you love her, and you love them all, and you aren't getting in the middle of this.\n\nThen you  back out.\n\nBecause it's up to him and his family who they invite into their grandma's house (it's technically up to his Grandma who's invited). It's also up to them to tell your step-sis why she's not invited, if they choose to do that.\n\nUnfortunately, family tensions do arise from time to time, but you can't control what other people think/do/say - so all you can do is be honest with kindness, try not to make things worse, and let people work things out for themselves. \n\nIf you get between people (for example, trying to explain to your step-sis why half-bro doesn't want her there), you'll end up building up the problem (the more people involved in a problem, the bigger it gets), and eating dirt from both sides for Thanksgiving. Good luck!
57553
you dont. you shouldnt ruin a good thing. be grateful you even have a best friend.
598757
tuff.... well unless you can go on about a 2 wk vacation to relax not sure what you can do besides slowly distance yourself from both friends... slowly but surely take urself out of the circle... she must think your special if she wants to hang out with you all the time... if you hurt this friend you might just loose your best friend.. so either choose to accept them both, or distance urself from both... sounds like your only options to me... or you could i guess change jobs !!!!! God bless
905197
There are things you cant tell your sister no matter how close you are! Sometimes it is easier to tell friends. I have many gay guy best friends.