If you were a pastor and you were getting married would you hire a pastor or would you do the wedding yourself
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I'd have someone else do it. It'd be weird otherwise.\n\n"Do I take this man to be my lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, til death do us part? Yes, I do."
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The Day you are Married
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The important thing is for you and your beloved to have a day the feels special to the both of you.  Depending on where you live, some states allow a lay person(someone who is not a minister or a justice of the peace) to get a special license for 1 day, and they can marry you.  So that wouldn't be too expensive(maybe the person you ask to do it would even pay for the license themselves).  You could also find a justice of the peace, or go to your local city or town hall and ask if they do wedding ceremonies.  You could keep your ceremony small, and just have immediate family.  That way you don't have to pay for a lot of flowers or decorations.  Then for the ceremony, it depends on how many people you want to invite.  My ceremony was in my church, and then our reception was at a small hotel.  We had less than 50 people, but our total cost was still over $5,000, which included my dress, alterations, flowers, food, hubbies tux, etc.  If either of you belong to a church, you should be able to get married in it for a small fee(if any).  Then you could just do a small ceremony afterwards.  Some people are doing just appetizers, or just desserts.  It's basically just an hour or so, lets everyone mingle, then there could be a toast and people can go on their way.  As far as invitations, you can buy nice paper at an office supply store and print them yourselves.  If you have a small reception with just apps or desserts, include that so people don't expect to be fed.  But it's all perfectly okay!!
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Is it similar to a wedding ceremony? If so then just go by that. If it is different you could still use one of them. I think that is really nice.
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My mother's boss's husband (that's a mouthful) who's also an old family friend just got ordained online so that he could perform his son's wedding ceremony. It's completely legit as long as you check out the site. Apparently there are some scammy type ways to be ordained online but there are some legitimate ones. I'm actually thinking about him doing my own wedding since we don't attend a specific church and have no minister of our own.
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First pick a day! then find you Pastor,Justice of the pease,Who ever you are going to have Marry you! That is usually the hardest part to get set.Make sure they are available the day that you want. Marrige license tend to expire within 60 days I think so figure that into the day you have set with your "Pastor".Week days are cheeper if your going for an inside wedding/reception.Out side is even cheeper. We did out side.Do you have or want a theme? Example: Hawaiian Theme go to Oriental Trading on line,it is a part/novelty company they have tons of party supplys in bulk. Based on you theme/ colors what kind of dress. In our wedding that was the most expencive.My bride's maids agreed to buy there own dresses,they actually had fun picking out matching dresses. We bought shirts for the Grooms men (We Know Guys)If you want it done right do it your self. and who knows what they would have came back with! any way...\nCake I did my own cake. 3 teirs white and chocolate. White frosting.My frosting recipe(feel lucky!) Mix powdered sugar and unsalted butter and only a table spoon of vanilla with about a cup of milk.Awsome frosting!The rest could be purchased at a rental place near you based on how much you are ready to spend. A big rental place is usually good about helping with number of guests and how far you can go on your budget. This is all if you choose to do an out doors wedding.\nHopefully I have been helpful. If you need any more advice e-mail me brudneyflower@yahoo.com
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I can understand whrer you are coming from.  My wife and I did it beore we got hitched but we made the decision not to do it again after we were married.\n\nIf you take your vows at church under the witness of God then you shouldnt do it.
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You could sing them the song Cletus T. Judd did. "I love NASCAR" I would absolutley love if someone did this for me at my wedding!
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It's up to each couple.  Most guys don't care much about the planning of the wedding.  However, if a guy does want to help, there are things he could be very helpful with such as:\n\n-Choosing a band or dj\n-Planning the honeymoon\n-Helping to choose the wedding cake flavors\n-Helping to choose the food for the reception\n-Choosing his tux and the groomsmens tuxes\n-Writing his vows\n\nEvery couple is different and every groom is different.  My husband planned the honeymoon and chose his tux.  That was the extent to which he cared to be involved and that was fine by me because I had alot of specific preferences and he didn't have many at all.
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Find yourself another preacher. I feel that this preacher is judging you and your husband, and that's not rite. Who is he to judge you or anyone in that matter. So find a preacher or pastor that will marry the both of you. And God Bless you and your family.
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break off from the ritualistsic traditions.\nThe Lord Jesus cant be found there, and Jesus would have no problem marrying you outside and niether should your pastor.
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If this is a denominational church, go to the area Bishop or Overseer (different names for different denominations.)\n\nIf this is a non-denominational church, it's trickier:  you'd tell the Elders, who should reason with the pastor.\n\nEither way, the Bible is clear:  a pastor MUST be the "husband of one wife" and he must be sexually pure.  In other words, no divorce allowed (unless for the other spouse's adultry) and no fooling around.  Several years ago, Pastor Charles Stanley, former head of the Southern Baptist Convention, was divorced by his wife.  He vowed to his church that he wouldn't remarry so he could be faithful to these central teachings of the Bible.  Unfortunately, not all pastors are obedient to God's word, like Pastor Stanley.\n\nIf the Elders do nothing, you have no choice:  you MUST tell the Church and insist that the problem be addressed.\n\nThere is one caution that I'd like to pass along to you:  the Bible says no one should question an elder of the Church (this includes a pastor) unless there are at least two witnesses.  However, if you have other uncontrovertible evidence, such as pictures, I'm sure this is acceptable.  If there's even the SLIGHTEST chance you're wrong, you shouldn't make a ruckus.  Remember:  unsubstantiated gossip is a sin.\n\nPeace.
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when you are married. duh.
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Charismatic??...hmmm...I guess.\n\nThe closest thing I have to a pastor is the DJ at the club where I dance.\n\nHe works behind a stand, says a few words,  and no one listens to him.  So I guess he's like a pastor.  And he's doing one of the waitresses behind her husbands back so yeah that's pretty charismatic.
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This would depend entirely on the church, or denomination that you belong to and also on where you are from.\n\nAre you wanting to become a minister, or just to marry people? In may states you do not have to be ordained to marry people, some states allow Notarys to perform weddings, or they have Justice of the Peace who do civil weddings without having to be ordained.\n\nIf you are wanting to become ordained, the best advice that I can give you as an Archbishop myself, is to speak to your pastor, he can guide you in the proper direction.
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If I was with somebody for a while, and we suddenly got really passionate or something, and decided we couldn't wait any more, I would probably do it, and not tell anyone. Then later I would have a big wedding and tell everyone there that we had already been married for a while.
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Oh same guy here also. dear i said u. are u planning to open marraige bureu so that u can plan a wedding. heh a wedding planner.