hey i was woundering does it hurt wen u have sex the 1st time?
606899
well you could get "lucky" and get a guy who might as well be prickless, than it doesnt hurt the first time
1136090
If it is the first time for both of you to have sex, may I suggest taking things slow.  Especially if it is her first.  Alot of my friends didn't care much for sex at first because their first partner's were too rough and not the most considerate.   And I think any lady out there would also suggest taking things slow.  It's not a race.  Enjoy yourself and for god's sake use a condom.  Communication is good too, make sure you are both cool with whats going on.  \n\nMy first time I remember it feeling like my head was a blur and I was a bit dizzy, but It was a good feeling.
664892
Are you saying she's a virgin? If so, you have to take it slow and easy. There's no way for it not to hurt the first time.
609573
For some women it is painful for others they say it didn't hurt that bad. Mostly it depends on if you really ready for it or not. If you are comfortable with the person your with and how much you know about yourself. You need to make sure your ready body and mind. Know what you want and don't do anything that you don't want to do or are not really ready to do. You should love the person that is your first. Go to the doctor before your first time and be check out and get birth control but don't only use that as protection no matter how much you love the guy always use a condom. Be safe if your not ready just say so and if he loves you he will wait. There's no hurry to lose your virginity remember its something you'll never be able to get back and give to someone else you love. If it doesn't work out with this guy its gone there's no going back. Make sure before you take that step.
993397
It is different for each girl.  My first time did not hurt and I did not bleed, but I know others that had pain and a lot of bleeding.  What you need to do is make sure you have a partner who loves you enough to be patient and go slow.  They may even need to stop before they finish.  It is important to be with someone you trust and love, take the time to make the right decision.  If you aren't sure, don't do it.
292212
It may hurt a little at first but dont let fear stand between you and the person you love. Once your virginity is gone though its gone forever so chose wisely. The emotional pain of a poor choice with last far longer than the pain of your first time.
537380
ARE YOU READY FOR IT??? thats the question u should ask urself. having sex is not just bout getting physical, its about being comfortable with each other. your first time may feel a bit awkward but you'll get the hang of it over time. Dont worry if u think you are gonna embarass urself as its your first time. she'll "take the lead" and you'll learn how she wants to be touched etc. \nsta cool. lots of luck.
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MY 1ST TIME WAS PAINFUL @ FIRST, BUT THEN ENJOYABLE AFTER THE PAIN SUBSIDED...HE WAS ONLY ABOUT 5 INCHES & DID NOT POP MY CHERRY, SO TECHNICALLY I WAS STILL A VIRGIN....UNTIL I CAUGHT HOLD OF MY NEXT SEXUAL PARTNER...WHICH WAS AN 8 INCHER....LOL...I WAS CRYING & HIS COUSIN KEPT WALKING IN ACTING LIKE SHE DIDNT KNOW WHAT WAS GOING ON...NOW 2 THINK ABOUT IT, DA CHYCK MIGHT'VE BEEN GAY...OR THEY MIGHT'VE HAD A LIL INCEST GOIN ON THERE,LOL...........
42227
i know the obvious answer that many are probably thinking, if he loves you then you will be fine. in fact the is not at true as most people would like to think. Your not just talking about sex you're talking about intamcy as well. WHen you do have sex for the first time i won't lie it hurts. The reason it will hurt for the most part is because oyu will be so nervous about be nakeed and having sex that all of your muscles will be conctracting. Which will then in turn make it that more difficult for your finance to enter. just remeber that when  you have sex with him that he loves oyu he won't be juding you in anyway he will be overwhelmed with the fact that he is with you for the rest of his life that he will just be in awe. also keep in mind that the first time is going to be a little bumpy because you two don't know each others movements yets. so yees it will be awkward. having sex for the first time is different for eeveryone. but it may be easier, since it seems to me that he has had sex before, if he were to get on top. so that way you won't feeel that yopu have to do everything. Something that might make it easier is buy some kind of lubercation it makes it easier to get sttarted. with the lubercation you put it on him to make it more arousing for him and this will give you and oppurtunity to see, and feel what your husband feels like. make it fun for yourself. while you are doing that for him he could be doing something for you. either kissing your neck messaging your inner thighs. if you have a little for play it might take away some of the tension. It is most definetly going to be hard for you to be doing all of this. but just remeber that it will get easier. don't forget that he's not the only one that is there for fun. soemthing that might also arouse him and you as well is take is hands and put them on various parts of you and then you return the favor while he carressing you you do the same. moving on to the sex part of it. pull him towaards you so that he knows to get on top. then opoen your legs so that it is comfortable to you and he can get his whole body in. if you don't feel comfortable adjust and then proceed. when he starts to insert in to you MAKE SURE HE GOES SLOWLY. if anything starts to hurt tell him adn he should either stop or pull out. the key is to communicate. IT will be uncomfortable the first couple of times that you do it. but the lubercation should help out to some degree. After he has entered all the way, now is the time when you should be more relaxed. Now the hardest paart is over. While haveing sex make suree at all times that you are comfortable if your not then sex just won't be the same later. if your lower back hurts put a pillow under neith your back and continue. if you don't know how to move your body then have him move your body so that you both will enjoy it. and if you feel comfortable enough you amy want to get on top. If you do get on to, then just bend your knees so that they are by his hips, and sit directly over top of his penis. oncew he is back inside then move back towards is knees slightly and begin to move. if you don't know how take is haveds and put them on your hips and let him know that he needs to help. once he gets you going you can do it on your own. Of course this is all just a suggestion and you should do what feels right to you, i hope that i could help you CONGRADULATIONS and good luck. just remember RELAX.
637799
first time really hurts but after that u get used and the pain disappears
486873
Yes sweetie it is very likely that it will hurt the first time.  But let me warn you that having sex is a VERY big step to take... and it is one that you can never take back.  At fourteen odds are that even if you and this guy stay together for a while you will eventually break up and having sex brings in a ton of emotional factors that you shouldn't even have to worry about at your age.  I'm not trying to lecture...i'm telling you from experience.  I'm 19 and i had sex when i was 16 for the first time.  I can honestly tell you that, even though sex can be enjoyable with the right person, it is better to wait.  But if you honestly think you are mature enough the handle the consequences...like yeast infections, urinary tract infections, the possible risk of sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy...then please, please be smart about it.  Make sure u use condoms the right way...and yes there is a right way.  Use condoms with spermicide...trojan makes some in a purple box and they will say that they have spermicide on the box.  And please have yourself checked out regularly.  Get on the pill too.  I know it seems like a lot to handle...but sex is a big responsibility as well as a pleasure ...if you don't want to end up pregnant or with an infectious disease.  But really, I will strongly encourage you not to have sex yet.  You are at an age where you should just now be taking interest in boys, not having sex with them.  And if you tell this guy no and he takes it badly then he doesn't care about u anyway.  PLease Please think deeply about this decision before you act.  At fourteen you are not even physically ready to have sex let alone mentally capable of grasping the responsibilities that go with sex.  And if you need any more help with this decision you are welcome to email me at lemonllama05@yahoo.com
35077
It might, but it shouldn't be excrutiating. If it's too painful, you should go see a doctor. But it shouldn't be very painful your first time.
50958
I don't know how old you are but the fact that you said "relations" gives me a clue that you are definitely young and/or unexperienced in the realms of sex. I feel that the best answer really depends on your body type as a female. You see, before all women have sex, we have something called a hymen, a thin piece of skin that covers the opening of our vaginas. Not trying to give you all the science of it, but it is important. Basically all women's hymen's are totally different, because there are 4 different ones. When you first have sex (as a female), the penis breaks through the hymen and into the vagina. If your hymen is very tough to break through, it will continue to be painful until it is completely broken. If you start with a hymen that is not very hard to break, a few times after having sex for the first time and you should be fine. You have to tell your partner to go slow, and not just ram himself into you. SPEAK up. If it hurts to the point you can't take it, stop and find another position, another day, whatever. I hope I aswered your question to the best of my knowledge. As a female and a mother, I also say wait as long as you can, but I also want females to be equipped with the proper knowledge of their bodies and how everything works.
363483
for some it does for others not. If your having sex with a girl for the first time, the most important thing to do is take your time entering her. Also make sure her pu$$y is really wet. cuz if it's not it may hurt you too.
936886
It's normal to be nervous! God knows that I was. But it's not as bad as all my friends tried to make it out to be! The first time he enters, it's going to hurt a little bit, but after a couple of minutes, it's fine... Or it was for me... Just try to relax, have fun, but make sure it's with someone special and not just a one night fling. That will make it much more memorable for you!  So relax, have fun, but also, be safe!! Cheers!!
61912
I Made Love for the first time on my wedding night. I was 28 years old at the time and it did hurt a little bit but, not much. It did feel good & hubby did a lot of forplay before hand. I did bleed a little bit. Afterwards I felt tired but, about a half hour later I was ready to make love again!  We got to the hotel at about 12:00 AM that night and didn't get to sleep until about 4:00 AM! We made love 3 times that night and once more before we got up at about 9:00 AM!
201506
just the first time if it hurts any more someones doing something wrong