l'm dating a 15yrs girl.work with her mother & l hav a gud relationship with her.her mum knoz.l'm 27.advise
606592
go and find an older girl friend. she is just a child and she will change a lot in the future, which means your relationship will end 99%. so dont waste your time.. go find a more suitable one for u.
1038848
well i guess your mum is trying to protect you and what she thinks is the best, however being a mum myself every child needs to find out things for themselves weather that be for the good or bad, you need to tell your mum how you feel tell her your old enough to make up your mind she cant choose who you go out with but she can give your her opinion its up to you to take it you need to tell her you have made this decision and that she needs to stop controlling who you go out with you will go through your life making alot of mistakes but that is normal as a mother i will never tell my children who they will date etc i will give them my opinion yes but if the worst comes out of it parents need to tell there children they will be there for them and i think your mum needs to do the same. good luck???
885630
Need more information.  Depending on who you are or what your relationship is to the person.  If your not a parent, it also has a lot to do with the opinion of the child.  Being that they are 15, they are older and can give the judge his or her opinion as to which person or parent they want to live with.
1076687
Realize that your boyfriend's baby's mama is part of the package. His mom knows that this is the mother of her grandchild and she is wise to stay close to her so she can stay close to her grandchild. Don't get swept up in competing with this other woman, but try to establish your own relationship with bf's mom, giving her a reason to appreciate you, too. This is just something you have to deal with if you get in a relationship with someone who as as much of a past as your boyfriend does.
548276
If you care for your girlfriend at all, which I'm assuming you do seeing as how you're in a relationship with her, then ignore her mother. Do NOTHING! Cheating is bad enough, but cheating with a girl's mother will scar her and force her into therapy for the rest of her life. Besides, haven't you ever heard the saying "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"? You'll be lucky to get out with your penis intact if you did anything with your girlfriend's mom and she found out. No joke.
363485
Well first of all, his mother isn't the one controlling his feelings. \n\nIf you love him and really care for him then your best bet is to talk with him about whats going on. Ask him if he does care about you! \n\nDepending on your age and his age, its hard to say whether this will work or not because if you're young, it will be hard to see one another without the parents but if you're older... you can definitely still see each other, who's stopping you!? No one! Go with your heart and tell him to do the same. GOOD LUCK!
4249
If her mom is interested in you, Do her when your g/f is not around.  If you both like it, Cool.  If it doesn't work out, move on to fresh territory.
697711
First determine if he is the kind of dude your mother would approve of. ( what do you think her impression of him would be).  If she'll like him, introduce him.  If she wouldn't like him for what ever reason.  Dont date him anymore.  She has experience and knows and understands things you dont.  The best advice you can ever get is from your parents, not your friends.  Find someone you know she will like and approve of.  Since you only been together a month, you should wait longer to introduce her anyway.  The relationship may not even work out, so you may introducing him for nothing.  Wait to see if it is going to be a long term relationship.  That usually takes many months to determine.  He'll be great the first few months then things may slowly change.
830847
This is tough, not knowing all the details, but if you really love this girl for all the right reasons, then it will work out! I am a mother of 3 girls, and I have put them through this same situation, but only for a good reason, the guy was generally a jerk, I am not saying you are, that was just my situation. Just be up front with her mom, and honest, and don't hunker down to her, let her know how you feel in a honest kind way, be a man about it. Have respect for her and her mom. Do something special for her mom, give her flowers or invite her to dinner with you and this girl. It will take time but patience will win out. Maybe her mom is over protective, maybe she had a bad experience at that age, and thinks it is happening to her daughter. Just go easy and don't take everything so personal, just be who you are inside that is all you can do, you don't have to prove anything to anyone if you are real with yourself and others. Just live and let live. Good Luck to you.
854030
This could be a real can of worms. First of all, it is bad form to date anyone you work with. Many companies forbid it. Secondly, how old are you? 20 is very young and if you are more than 5 years older than that, forget it. Finally, if it doesn't work out, you will have a very uncomfortable situation at work with both the girl and her mother there. I would say that it's not worth it. Date someone outside of work.
968761
Seems like she is making some bad decisons Mom!  But you are allowing them and at the same time trying to restrict them!  You can't do both.  Hard mission as her Mother.\n\nAdvice:  She has made the transition from needy child to adult situations.  BUT, she is now back in YOUR home?  You can instill a curfew regardless of her age out of respect to the peace of mind in your own home.  Demand that she respect that!  Stick to it, or she should locate her own level of permission by moving out or the boyfriend needs to allow her to move in with HIM!  And he probally won't (let's hope) I don't agree with the 28 year old Father of 3 dating an 18 year old at all. \n\nYou absolutely can NOT balance what you want for your daughter and what she wants for herself.  Requiring a time frame for her to be home is different from when she was strickly under your wing.  \n\nThe rules change when she becomes a house quest, self sufficent and reliable to her word.    Sit her down, talk to her, explain your thoughts and concerns.  Give her the ground rules for returning home.  Give her a time frame for making her way back out of her parents home.  6 months should be sufficent.\n\nShe lies due to her feeling like an adult, but still answering to Mom.  Tell her she is an adult, but living with Mom, thus she does have certain obligations toward the family.\n\nI understand your anger Mom.  Give allowances, take no acceptions.
57978
OK, hon. First of all, you don't need to prove your love to him. No matter what anybody says. No matter who you date, they will never be good enough for mommy and daddy. (Unless they pick the person) Second, don't focus so much on love. Give it time. I don't know how old you are, and personally I don't consider it an issue. If you focus on love, you will be heartbroken if things don't work out. I'm not saying set your standards low. I am not saying don't love this person. What I am saying is spend time with him. Enjoy the relationship. Don't get married young. And for gods sake don't get married without first living with the person. People seem VERY different when you have to share space with them. Trust me about that one. Don't rush. True love doesn't need a wedding band. If you love someone, being with that person should be enough. Sex is nice, but even that isn't necessary. The company of your significant other is all that is necessary. If you two love each other than that is all that matters. Marriage and sex are over rated. (Sex is nice, but still over rated) If you love him then your parents will eventually come to the realization that he is sticking around. They will either come to accept it, or they will disown you. I know this. I have been married. I was only 19. I told my parents the day before. At first they accused me of being crazy. They made some pretty insulting comments, and I told them to go fuck themselves. They learned to accept my wife and even grew to like her. You are your own person. Heres a motto that my stepfather taught me. "If you don't fuck me, feed me, or pay my bills......Go fuck yourself!" Your family is an important part of your life, but you didn't choose them. You were born with them. You couldn't change who they were. Your boyfriend is somebody that you chose to bring into your life. Your parents should respect your decisions. And if they think you are a fool for being with him...... remind them of who taught you. What examples did you have to follow. They are the 2 biggest influences in your life. Whether you know it or not. Everything that you have witnessed from them as a child has molded you to be the person that you are today. Everything from not enough hugs to the overprotectiveness. They have made you who you are. If they are unhappy with that, then they should try to do a better job next time.
227198
If your daughter is 18 or older, then you should not make the decision together. She is an adult, maybe you should CUT THE CORD, and let her start to live her life! I say forgive him, he really did nothing wrong, other then fall in love love with a girl who had a controlling mother! BUTT out of there lives, as mothers, all we can do is raise them the best we can, and be there to pick up the pieces, if they need us to, but there comes a point when they have to live there own lives.
113915
if u both old enough to fight for the relationship then go ahead.  its up to both of u to talk about it.  are u willing to stay in the relationship no matter what?  and is she?  sometimes differences of religion in a relationship can cause break up.  i would really suggest to talk to her about this thing.  decide if it is ok to continue whether her parents against it or they will be ok about it.
863106
Yikes! that sounds like a lot to deal with.. but if your gf loves you she'll help her family understand.. Just continue your relationship as you have in the past. As long as youre not abusing your gf her family will have no real reason to dislike you. If the love is there and strong enough you two will get through this.. just dont get mad at your gf for her mother.. she didnt get to choose her parents... Its too bad her mom doesnt see that you two love eachother! \n\nPS.. Kudos to you for surviving a long distance relationship. if you can survive that you can survive a mother
613201
My mother never liked my boyfriend and unfortunately I do not speak to her now and she doesn't know that I am married to that boyfriend. I'm not suggesting that this will happen to you but I think that you should be firm and stick by your husband because your mother has to stop dictating your life when you reach a certain age.\nMothers always believe that they know best but I am very happy - my mother was proved wrong so you should have faith in your own feelings.
446015
Your mum grew up in a different era.  What is right for you is not necessarily what was right for her.  Understand that she can't understand why you'd want to do that.  Agree to differ.