Why do I feel as though I don't deserve anything, including happiness and contentment?
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Your hormones are out of whack. You need a check up at the doctors office. You have good character by coming forward trying to figure this out. Tell your mom that you need some help.\n\nYou are a good kid and I hope it works out for you. Good luck!
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Let me ask you this.  If you had a time machine and could change any event in your past, would that make you feel better about yourself today?  If it would then realize what it is about that event that is sabotaging you today.  If it is a past thing, often times we know intellectually that we are ok but our emotions are still tied to that past event.  Emotions stay the same no matter how old we get.  We cant stop the pain in life sometimes but we can increase the tools to deal with it.  When you dropped something as a young child you cried.  You can drop the same item now and it is ok, why?  You have information now that tells intellectually it is ok.  The emotions are the same but the tools to deal with that event are in place.  You have already experienced that event and it no longer shocks you.  So what is it about your life that is shocking you now?\n\nWhatever the issue is past, present, you need to see what is eating away at it.  It is ok to feel bad, it is the flipside of the coin to feeling happy.  The problem is if we become depressed about it, all life's issues become sensative and bigger problems than they are.\n\nYoung or old we all feel down at times.  Some just hide it better or keep themselves occupied to endure those moments.  Sometimes we feel like we are being taken somewhere and have no way to steer it.  The key is planning what you want to do.  Life is 90% how you react to it.  If you think you are successful and a good person, people will be convinced of it too.  Most reality comes from someone's perception.  They believed it and it became so.\n\nDepression is impression without expression.  Something gets you down, find a way to express it.\n\nIf you kind of hate yourself then you have not completely made full judgement on yourself yet.  If you hate yourself than you are having an expectation that you are not at yet.  Find out what that is and is it a valid expectation?\n\nGood luck to you!
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These kind of feeling will come when you are not busy. Keep yourself busy doing something. Take your time to relax also. Go around. Find some good places with entertaining friends. Friends are the one who can make you feel good. Enjoy urself visiting new places if you feel so. Do some service oriented projects if you are willing for ? You can always learn from what others undergo..isnt it.. It is the world and it will be like that. What you think is what you are. If you are a fool, you are a fool. If you are  smart, you are smart. So, think and be focused as what you want to be.\n\nIn Seva
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It is normal to feel down about yourself at this age and during your life. Everyone needs someone that they can be with and vent to on occasion but besides that you need a friend.  Not just someone to talk to but a genuine friend that will laugh with you, cry with you, and be there for you when you need them to be. Not some person that is jsut there because of something you have and or could give them. First you must find what is making you feel so depressed. Once you have found that think about why you feel this way and telling yourself "I don't know" isn't the answer.  I mean who can you be honest with but yourself first, huh? I did a journal when I felt really down and that nothing was going right and then I tried this.  It helped me so much that I started letting go the bad feelings and bad thoughts and started living without a care about those thoughts again.  If you still are depressed then you may want to find out why and instead of being unhappy start thinking of what got you to this point. Everyone has to hit rock bottom before they can start climbing outta the hole. You aren't there yet but I don't want you there. I want you to be able to be happy and content with everything you do.\n\nGood luck my dear!
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I think we all feel this way at one time or another...my famous description of myself is the b.o.n....blob of nothing lol...it is horrible to feel so low...but then,...I feel so guilty when I look around and see people so so much worse off than I am, and I wanna hit myself in the head and knock some good sense into it...I bet you have wonderful qualities, and sometimes, when it just don't seem to ever go your way..we have to step back and remember just what God gave us...and thank Him for giving us His Son,...as a sacrifice so that we CAN go on and live...Please..start remembering those things about yourself that shine and how  you can help others...and somewhere along the line, you will start to feel better..and say your prayers darling,..they will be heard...He always hears us...God Bless
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Pride,Happiness,&Joy but also Worry,& Sadness
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hey, hello :)\nseems like you know you have some issues to overcome, i say you are almost there!\ndon't be miserable. everyone goes through this kind of emotions @ least once in our lifetime.\ni know this feeling too. sometimes, you feel so empty, miserable & unworthy. and every time,when you try to take 1 step forward, you end up taking 2 steps backward.\ntry to start a routine of exercizing, mix with positive people & read joke books.\ndon't ever indulge in self-pity & regrets. the darkest hours are just before dawn. life is a grindstone; and whether it grinds a man down or polishes him depends on what stuff he's made of.\nif you really look around you, everyone has problems too. what makes them happy is that they try to overcome their problems one @ a time.
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Have a better opinion of urself and accept as u are, God made every one perfect, its only when we compare with others we feel deficient and feel worthless about ourselves. Better is a relative word and a person whom you feel is better than you may be much worse to you in many aspects. You are a precious gift of life and its better to be oneself than to seek being 'better'and lose out on your 'best'
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For a lot of reasons, you can just feel unsatisfied with where you are in life.  That's not only restricted to middle age.  If it's been going on for 6 months, you should try and do something about it.  You don't want to be unhappy and you don't want your unhappiness to affect your family life.  Take a good look at things: do you feel like there's something in particular that's missing?  Would you feel more fulfilled if you tried something new and exciting?  I wish you the best of luck.
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You know I had this problem when I was younger too. I still work with this to this day, but I have come a long way in this. What is blocking you from loving yourself is low self esteem. You have to learn to nurture yourself, to understand you are as special, as valuable, as needed as the next person. \n\nOne method is to begin doing things which you can take self pride in. Look around at your life and really see what you do which is good. What are you good at? What skills do you have? Like are you a good friend? Really listen to others? Are you quick to lend a helping hand? Are you good in a certain area in which you excel? Do you do your job, no matter what that job is to the best of your ability? Do you do all in your life to the best of your ability?\n\nListen, when we are injured during our childhoods, or in our teen years, we develope a sense we are not valuable, that we are somehow lacking where others are not. Deep down inside our souls we feel like we are just not as good as other people. But this is often a false feeling. It exists because we were shammed durring our childhoods. We were not loved and nurtured as we needed to be. \n\nI once thought I was so much less than most everyone else around me. Due to this feeling I did not believe I deserved a good man, a good frienship, a good relationship with anybody, or deserve to be treated well. \n\nI treated others very well. I was, and still am a very loving perosn. I bet you are too. As I was growing, walking through life, I noticed how gentle I was to others, how forgiving and understnading of others just being human and nobody being able to be perfect. Then I had my "AH Ha!" moment. I realized I treated others way better than I treated myself, or how I allowed others to treat me as well!! I looked around and then looked at myself and I thought, why do I treat others way better than I treat myslef? Why am I more forgiving of others than I am of my own weaknesses? Why am I more willing to forgive the mistakes of others, yet I constantly condemne myslef for mistakes which are far less than most of those others who I forgive so quickly?\n\nWhen I realized that I was treating others way better than I was treating myself, when I realized I forgave others when I could not forgive myslelf, I finally began to wake up. I told myself that I was as deserving of treating myself the way I treated others. I deserved to nurture myself the way I nurture others. I deserve to forgive myself the way I forgive others. I also deserve to recognize my own skills and talents as I am always cheering on others skills and talents. \n\nI began looking inward, deep inside. I began to list all my good qualities, skills, and talents. At first the list was very small indeed!! While I began listing these qualities, I also began to attempt to nurture myself. I began to attempt to forgive myself. I had trouble with this at first, but I would just stop in the middle of a huge self criitisizing session, just stop myself in my tracts by saying inside my head "Stop!" Why am I being so mean to myself, when I would treat somebody else who did this exact same thing so much more gently, and I would tell them not to be so hard on themselves that everyone is only human and we all make mistakes. I would stop and think what I would say to somebody I loved who had done or failed to do, the exact same thing I had just done. Then I would begin to tell myself that "I am only human, I can make mistakes, I am as worthy of forgiveness as the next person, and I deserve to go easier on myself.  \n\nSlowly my life began to change. I began to expect better treatment from others. I demanded to be treated with the respect I deserved. I would no longer tolerate certain abusive behaviors towards me. I walked away from relationshipe which were damaging to me and my children. I slowly began to treat myslef better. To love who I am and to forgive myself as I forgive others.\n\nDuring this process I got a di
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You sound like a very unhappy person to me. By wishing these things you are basically wishing that you aren't the person you are.\n\nEverything that has happened in your life has made you the person you are and you are beautiful.\n\nAnything that has gone wrong has only made you stronger and you need to start looking at your life differently. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself and beating yourself up over events that are beyond your control.\n\nTake everything that has happened and turn it into a positive, make those things what drives you to get where you want to be.
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Most often people feel lonely because they haven't learned to love themselves very much. Often it's because they spend so much time trying to please others or to be all things to all people that they don't take the time to learn what THEY need themselves. It's hard, but you need to learn to be happy with yourself, about yourself, and by yourself. If you can do this, then you will not find yourself lonely, or needy. In turn, others won't be turned off by you because you seem lonely, and sad, and needy. You will suddenly appear more interesting and desirable to someone else. It may sound contradictory, but I think you will find many people will agree with me.
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don't feel bad about yourself..you mad have adult ADD..i have it...look at ADD.com...its where you get bored easily.can't focus....even if it's not that..you are not a bad person you just can't make up your mind..you wanna explore everything god has offered in this world that doens't mean theres something wrong with you..don't be so hard on yourself..im 27 have'nt had many jobs..a stay at home mom now and im always down on myself..feel like im not doing anything that contributes to the world...but i read the bible and everythings all better...start going to church and read the bible..jesus will change your views about yourself..no one is perfect...if  you feel you need to see a phyc. go...maybe it will help maybe not..if  you feel in your heart your a good person then just keep going and someday you'll find your way..if  you are unhappy about  yourself change it...you can do anything you put your mind to but no matter what happens or what you decide every one is beautiful in there own way and no one should down themselves...
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I have often felt the same over the years.  You may want to evaluate the things that make your life "full".  Are they important to you?  Do you really enjoy them?  Or, do they just keep you busy?  You may also want to speak with your doctor about depression which can make you feel that way even when you feel you shouldn't.  Be well.
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I totally agree with "The Birdlady" EXCEPT that you can't put a price tag on happiness. I'm adding a link on depression for you. You will need to see a counselor. Just talking about how you feel, to anyone who will listen, sometimes helps and you make realizations on your own as to some things that have caused you to be depressed and what to do next. Ask your counselor for a good book on overcoming depression. Some other answers on here are good. You have to make some lifestyle changes to feel better, rather than being stuck in a rut. \n\nGood luck. :)
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why do you feel unworthy Hun?\n\nyour a person just like everyone else, all the same needs, wants and desires in life and are just as good as anyone.  Is it your height? if so don't worry, I find short girls to be cute!
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you are only feeling that way because its all in your head and when you tell your self that stuff it sticks to you and brings you down....try to say good things to yourself in a mirror, starting by telling yourself that i love myself, i am a beautiful person, i am not lazy, do this every morning until you feel better, it does work, has on many people...anything that you feel about yourself go to the mirror and say the opposite and soon you will feel a change but have faith and believe in your heart and you and others will also see your change in time....