It feels like my husband doesn't love me anymore.?
608550
Just have a sit down talk with him about your concerns.  He maybe going through a mid-life crisis of some sort.  But you might want to try and get away, even if just for a weekend to a hotel.  Little vacations always help.
251281
Okay, 1st of all feelings like that just dont go away so he probably still feels the same way he just stopped letting it show. and 2nd you need to tell him how you feel. Im sure he will be thrilled to hear it.
941448
Hey I like you! ^_^ ..lol..seriously though, good for you it's really nice to know that there are men like you out there. \n\nMy husband WAS selfish-I am at the point where I am just like "Come on work with me here" it takes it's toll on a person when your lover thinks of himself before he does you all the time. And you keep telling yourself he'll come around, you only have Faith to keep you from drowning really...It hurts to be treated second all the time. \n\nNow he's changing and I can finally breathe a lil more....I think I will have to get use to being TRULY happy in this relationship of ours and believing that things are different between us... it takes two right? =) \n\nHey thanks for giving me a chance to share my thoughts slash vent....keep shinning and never give up! Best wishes to you and yours!
810992
You need to talk to him on a serious tip and let him know how you feel and tell him that it is time to change cause it is not cute any more and that you love him and that if there is something you  need to change you would for him cause that is what marriage is about.
377239
I feel your pain, my husband thinks of sleeping as the greatest hobby. But over the years, I have just come to accept that it is one of his qwirks, and even though it bugs me, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love me, it just means he likes to sleep.
536181
You need to tell your husband what you just wrote...he should respect your wishes if it makes you feel this way, maybe you guys should go see a counselor together, make sure you get it out in the open before it gets to late!!!
211675
I can relate to your question. Last week my wife of over 20 years told me that she was not in love with me anymore. She said she loves me but is not in love with me. I have spent some time in the local library doing some reading regarding relationships. I would recommend the same to you. What I have found is several things. 1st is communication you have to talk. 2nd look back at some of the things that made you a happy couple in the past and try and find out what has changed. 3rd if there are things about you that your husband is trying to change to make him love you than he doesn't... My issues are simple. my wife wants me to be something I am not. I am not her auto mechanic. I am not her errand boy and I am not her handy man. I told her that projects are fine if we do them as a team. but don't expect me to always mow the lawn, paint the house clean the garage clean the attic etc... We are a couple and couples do things together. maybe it's time to look at your relationship like your roomates? take equal responsibilities for what you have. Become an equal to him. If he is the bread winner then better yourself. Find a job that makes you more the equal. take on more responsibility. If the car breaks take it to the shop and get it fixed. Go out with him more often, take time to date again. Find things that you both have in common and do them. Find new things that you can do together...Relationships are an ever changing part of life so keep on living. if it alls fails then get out. Don't be miserable for the rest of your lives. Maybe read the book "falling out of love" read it from cover to cover. It's a short book follow the examples and see what happens.
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Congratulations on the dramatic weight loss!!!!!\n\nMy guess is that your husband is probably feeling a little left out.  What guy wouldn't, if you devoted that much energy into your weightloss.  Especially if he's used to you paying more attention to him.  Or maybe he is like most guys that have been married for a long time.....\n\nWhen we are together for a long time, we sometimes forget to keep flirting, dating, and making the extra effort to treat our partners like out #1 choice.\n\nWe sometimes tend to get a little self-absorbed with our own problems, obligations, and responsiblities.  We forget to actively try to fulfill out partner.  We assume that out mere presence fulfills them, that since we are there, then they should feel loved.\n\nWhen a new hobby, child, project, or habit moves in (in this case, your weightloss) then sometimes they feel slighted.  We forget that our perception of something is not exactly out partner's intent.  We react before giving them a chance to clarify their intent.  We assume that they meant something rather than just asking them.\n\nAnd sometimes we forget to pursue them like we did when the relationship was new.  When a relationship is new, our bodies go into overproduction of certain feel-good chemicals (adrenaline, dopamine, norepenepherine, endorphins, etc) and we feel that rush........which usually lasts for about 36 months, unless we take measures to stimulate those chemicals to be produced.\n\nAfter 36 months, that chemical overproduction usually subsides making way for new chemicals that promote long-term acceptance and comfort.  Kind of the way our metabolisms slow down by age 30, and we need to make extra effort to stay the same size and shape.\n\nThis is when it starts to take longer for our bodies to respond to each other, and we may even thing the fire is gone, or that we are no longer in love.  Big Mistake!\n\nSometimes, when one partner makes extra effort to take care of themselves or look good, then the other partner feels threatened, insecure, like they should be improving themselves, too (but they lack the motivation to).  It's like pulling the rug out from under them, once they got comfortable with the way things were.\n\nYour best bet is to not go tell him how you feel, but to change your behavior. guys are not socialized to talk about feelings, and often don't know how they feel.   Guys are more actions-oriented.   If you change your behavior, then he will automatically respond differently to you.\n\nRemember his ego needs.  We all want the same things from others, but guys especially are sensitive to things they would never ask us for or tell us about.\n\nRemember to appreciate him, to respect him, to challenge him, to admire him, to need him, to pursue him, flirt with him, treat him like you think he's sexy and deirable, that he is skilled and powerful, and sought after.  Treat him like your #1 choice, and that you are lucky that he loves you.  Do this daily.  Give this freely, without exception or conditions.  Even when he's a crabass, take the high road, and love him anyway.\n\nTry to walk in his shoes.  Tell him how you think he must be feeling once in a while.  Even if you're wrong, just guess how you would feel if you were him.  It shows him you are aboe to see beyone your own perspective.  Seek to understand before expecting to be understood.  This is how you teach him how to treat you.  He learns how to do the same with you.  You inspire him to act differently by modifying your own behavior.\n\nHe might possibly be feeling intimidated by your drive and your success, and maybe a little inadequate or emasculated.  Let him know that he's the man.\n\nIt would be self-defeating to let your self-worth be determined by his approval.  Don't change yourself too much to try to please him.  Make him come to you with what he needs, and be willing to give it to him.  Chances are he just wants to be the man, to be powerful, attractive
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DON'T  do anything!! hoepfully you have not acted on these feelings, but if you have, you need to come clean with your husband. Sit down and talk with him and tell him how you are feeling,and what made you go out side of your marriage. I am telling you now, it is not going to be an easy task. But there is always hope. Pray about this situation and ask the Lord to restore your marriage.\nDon't Let the Green Gress fool You!!
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try to focuse on ur home try to spend ur time in making the house cleaner try to make food decoriate ur house think that thier is no preson will care about u that mush expet ur husband try to have a baby thise will give the feeling that ur husband is every thing in ur live and good luck
604066
I actually just told my husband to leave me alone the other day,but he asked me what was wrong and I said,'hormones...just leave me alone'. He did though and I felt better after having some time to myself. I think your husband needs to realize that no one is happy all of the time. We all need time to ourselves and it is good for you and good for the marriage to be able to take this time. As for having a big blow-out about it...I would've walked away. I don't take that crap anymore. It isn't worth it to me to talk til I'm blue in the face,trying to explain 'why'. I shouldn't have to. An argument doesn't really get you anywhere. I tend to wait until things have settled down and then have a conversation about it and find out what he is feeling then. I gave up a long time ago on trying to justify myself to him. We actually have a better marriage this way. Good luck to you.
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It's only natural for a husband , or wife, to be feeling that way; especially since you two will be apart. It's sad to say, but since I live on a military base, you do see ALOT of that going on and maybe that's also why he feels the way he does. Alot of other soldiers may be putting "so-called" thoughts into his head, also. All you can do is be honest, sincere, faithful, and loving. Hopefully he will have enough faith in you to trust you completely. Being too jealous and suspicious can certainly pull people apart, also.
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You should be happy you married a very good spouse...\neveryone does feel bored over things that is the same most of the time...\n-working would help if you are stay at home wife,\n-have your own business where you can put those energies,\n-join some foundations... this would not only make you happy but for a good cause.\ntell your husband how you feel... he may have some better ideas then... a second honeymoon...
90089
I feel for you! \nYour husband should undersatnd that without communication between you and him, things won't get better. He needs to open up and share his feelings. You will have to let him know how you feel about your relationship with him. Tell him how you hurt inside and you need his emotional and mental support.
138928
At 41, I still remember that feeling your husband has.  He's 28-29 and missing his youth.  He has a baby and resposiblites.  "Oh, for just one night to be young again."  Problem is that you can't go back.  He'll see only a few of the people he used to hang out but it won't be the same.  It probably will be only one time that he goes because it's just too sad. \n\n He needs a something new that is exciting that you can do together.  Come up with an idea for something like that and hit him up with it a week or two after his night out.  \nEnjoy
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Maybe you should try talking to him about how you feel?\nThere is a possibility that if you feel like the "spark" is gone, he feels the same way too.\n\nJust because the spark is gone doesn't mean you need to break up, it could just mean you need to do something to bring it back. I think a lot of relationships and marriages these days end because they're based from attraction and the 'new relationship tingly feeling'\nAfter you're with someone for as long as you've been with him, and longer, you tend to get into a routine, and the original feelings you've had disappear.\n\nLong-term relationships take work.\n\nI suggest talking to him about it either way.\nMaybe you'll both mutually feel like you want a change.\n\nIf you do end up hurting him, don't feel to bad about it, as long as you communicate with him, and are mature about it, you'll both be able to move on. :)
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It doesn't sound like you are being taken for a fool. You are describing consistent and positive changes in your husband's behavior. What a blessing! It's so refreshing to see a couple get the help they need. If you're not ready to live together again yet, how about courting each other? Maybe you need a totally fresh start. Go on dates and get to know each other again. And go on family outings. Be up front with your kids that you and daddy love each other and are trying to work things out. I believe in time you will see that he truly has changed for the better. Give your marriage a chance. I think you're going to be very happy!\n\nGod Bless!