what is wrong with adulthood love?
597785
You are confusing the morally weak to those that get married happily and stay married happily.  My grandfather is 90.  It is clear to me that he did not cheat on his wife because now, despite her being dead for 5 years now and having much younger women hit on him, he will not give up the idea that he will be with her in heaven.\n\nNow, I'm an agnostic, but I think he at least has that right.  They got married relatively young... met in high school and then saw each other again after graduating and he decided he had to propose before he went off to WW2.  He technically never really went because he ended up in the coast guard and they lived in Florida while he hunted for german subs... Anyhow, they stayed together until she died more than 50 years later and there is something I can tell... maybe because things didn't go so well for my other set of grandparents (even though they stayed together)... anyhow I can tell my grandpa George is/was/will be faithful to my grandma and there isn't anything that I respect in him more than that because it's so impressive.\n\nThe thing you're talking about is that most people aren't like that and that's sad.  I wish more people were like my grandpa George, but I guess it's rare.  I hope you're like him and have a long happy life with your future wife too!  Can't say I was so lucky... met a lot of losers.  Ick.
245418
Love has changed for the worst.  The Movie makers, songwriters, and many uneducated people (so they act) have shown love as sex.  Many people only get married because they think the sex is good or they do it for moral ideas so theyre family doesnt disown them.  Others dont seem to care.  People today seem to skip over the words "until death do us part"  i mean people may think its a good idea to start with but when you make that kind of commitment its entirely too late to change your mind.  Its also a good idea that when people get ingaged they should live together for at LEAST six months so they know how life with the person will be,  and make sure that you know this person is the absolute person for you.  Movies have corrupted people to think that if you get annoyed with your spouse that the easiest way to deal with it is a divorce, i say that its the most challenging.  I believe firmly that the only time a divorce is ABSLOULTELY needed is when life and body are in danger.  Parents need to start teaching theyre children morals, even if they were not planning on being a parent.
1057971
Yes, I have that way, and, yes, it is normal and natural.  The problem is when a person feels unlovable for too long or that they are obsessed with the thought that nobody could ever love them that those thoughts and feelings can be a serious problem.
1094425
there's nothing wrong to be in-love at age 17, but that is immature love,  you must remember, that's not true love because Love is - Unconditional love; the kind of love God gives. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.\n\nyou know girl I'm married at age 19, at age of 17 i in gage at premarital sex where in i though i feel in-love with the guy whom i gave my self. lately i realize that is not a true love, and that's feeling of mine at that age is an infatuation. you know girl until now I'm turning to 24, married and have 2 kids but still i can't say that my feeling ( I've been feel is true love) until now my feelings i **** to my husband that i taught "love". you know girl at age of 17 the love you say is not true, an immature feelings an infatuation, believe me. \n\ngood luck girl..   :-)
169315
people are living beings. they breathe,unlike non-materials. if we had a doll and took care of it during childhood it doesn't mean that the rest of the life we spent with it or that we should love it forever. but giving love and sharing it with man has more meanings. a bond is created with or without our knowledge and it may be hard to break this bond sometimes in the case with someone. many people do love others with their whole life while for some love is just fun. if you are a person in the former case - leaving people you love may hurt you...
772302
There is No 'Right' Age!\nWe All mature at Different Rates!\nOur Ability to Judge Our own Judgment increases with age!\nHence why Younger Folk who leap into marriage do tend to mess up!\nHope this helps You!
1048054
For some people it is pathological...they are stunted emotionally and intellectually. It's sad because those people will probably never enjoy a normal life or a normal relationship based on trust and mutual respect, they will only have drama and pain....they will cause pain.
21964
Love is not appearing suddenly in our life. It is there from our brith. When you born in this world you love everything in this world. At age 5 you are in love with the toys and barbie dolls, at age 10 you are in love with chocklets and others. \n\nWhen you are at 15 you get love with opposite sex and when at 20 you get love with your beloved. after you give brith to a child you love it. \n\nLike this love is always in us. Only because of love we are doing our activities. But during our teens and youth we get in love with our opposite sex a lot which is generally meant by word love. It shows a lot of differences in us.
70178
no love is just chemicals in your brain makeing you feel good it goes away in time .......look at the divorce rate. the ones who are still together are just doing it for the kids or to old now to change
373995
Hi there. I recommend you would get a pet. Sometimes it is hard for us to relate to fellow human beings, but easier to animals. Put all of your heart into the animal, and maybe, when the right person comes, you will be already familiar with the feeling of love and will be able to return it.\nIf you really want to change your emotional habits, by the way, and start loving, you need to check into your childhood. Most people who cannot love others or themselves, had been messed with, as children. They then need a special kind of therapy and yahoo answers is not the right place for it. Sorry I cannot help you more than that, unless you specify in additional details more about your problem. What kind of love do you have problems with? Just loving a woman? Or also loving your family? It might make a difference, and give indication to the cure. Good Luck.
998036
Love isnt tangible. Its a personal feeling. Its opposed only in places where love is not a common expression. If its love akin to affection then perhaps it is welcomed. Otherwise, love as in the case of growing togetheress between man and woman, love finds itself rejected. And the people who seem to be involved in love are treated more as out-castes. When governance of an individual is not by the individual but by the family, such kinds of oppositions grow
17127
Nothing wrong with it, unless you neglect living your own life and having a normal, real relationship.  You can love a movie star, rock star, but still be dating and having a life.
1139120
This isn't the problem. The problem is people falling in lust, like, crush or eros adoration, or even obsession.\n\nI love being in true agape love.
416219
There is nothing wrong with it, in my opinion. Even with the stagitory (sp?) rape situation (which im sure will come up somewhere)at least in some states, is that it has to be atleast a 5 yr. difference, regaurdless if someone is under 16. Some may say that is wrong with the age difference, but love has no boundaries, and love is love either way. As long as no one is being taken advantage of or used, then I see no problem with this. I mean, they could hypathetically going to the same school with each other, IOW, highschool, so what's the problem in that? My parents are remarried, one is 9 years older than their spouse, the other is 5. But when you are dealing with such a young age, the only thing I could think would be an issue is the maturity levels that may differ, but even then, that does not justify this being "wrong". so in my opinion, the answer is not wrong.
753075
This is the curse of our modern society, i really felt it as i read your Q. I have an uneducated theory,that sais give in to it, the regret only gets worse......Unexpressed emotions get inherited by our children... this goes for sexual issues double........ You may explore staying in your confinement but try doing things a little more expressive of how you feel....... shock people.....  but hey i am only 32 and not sure this advice is good,,,,,,,,just a theory,,,,,,,
575818
I think it's outdated.  It was fine when life expectancy was thirty.  i think it's impractical to believe that people can continue to grow and mature as individuals and still love a person that they met in their teens/twenties.\nIt's great if you can do it.  I just don't think the people who have have grown very much in that time.  They've stayed stuck in their ruts and comfort zones.
514314
The simple truth is because they don't know how to love, they were never taught to love.  It is a very sad thing, but it happens all the time.