I wanna help my best friend who is a girl because she things that she is a lesbian.what should I do?
602117
Well you should support her as much as you can and talk to her about this,ask her if she wants to feel like this and if she says yes then she might have large feelings for this girl if not then she is just going through a stage wanting things like that or maybe she really thinks this girl is cool!
225099
well apparently you are not straight.  You might scared her if she does not have the same feelngs.  so lose a good friend or tell her how you feel and she feels the same way.  vey scary.........maybe ask her questions that might help you to decide how to make a move or not.  good luck
945546
This happened to me 17 years ago. I was in high school and there was this beautiful woman named Jennifer. Her mother was a teacher at our school and she was prom queen.. We use to stare at each other for days. One day she gave me a picture and wrote on the back. " I'm glad I finally found someone like me". She never told me what it meant :( . I think she wanted to tell me she was a lesbian but couldn't because of society. I was openly Lesbian in High School.. Now days have changed and maybe she will tell you. Try to mustard up the guts to ask her to do something with you. Then maybe you can get closer and be in the situation to ask her how she feels about lesbians...
971556
You say she is Not a lesbian or bisexual.  You and her are both lying to yourselves.  She is just that.\nIf she is this upset about it, then she should go to a therapist to discuss her feelings and set a plan to come to grips with her sexuality.
548116
How about asking your best friend to play with you and your new friends, so she may be able to make new friends too.  Don't turn your back on your friend, you may need her some day.  I have been best friends with mine for over 12 years now, and she is the greatest friend I have ever had, she is more like my sister than a friend, and I wouldn't trade her for the world.
890569
Don't tell and don't feel as though you have to.\n\nJust be up front with her and tell her that you don't want to get involved that you don't like her as anything more then a friend.\n\nIf you are scared and not ready to come out then don't come out.\n\nYou should not feel pressured to come out because a girl may like you.\n\nIf you think you would be a risk by coming out then don't do it.\n\nPeople have big mouths and gossip is a friend of many and an enemy of all. You owe her nothing nor anyone else anything especially an explanation of your sexual identity.\n\nYou are young and young people can be even more mean when they feel they were betrayed or here news as such.\n\nHang in there your ok you didn't do anything wrong and just ignore her advances if she continues after you.
509792
You are a guy, and he is a guy, right?  Makin sure I understand the question.  True friends are the BOMB, but if you are a guy and not gay, then just tell him like it is - you like women, you love him as a friend, but ya just don't go that way ... if he's a true friend, he'll understand and won't hold it against you.  You've been brave and strong enough to be his friend - even though he's gay and you're not ... if I'm getting this right - you've gotta be true to yourself just as he is true to himself.  Just put it out on the table the way it is ... the truth is always the best policy.  You might tell him if you were gay, he would be the first one you'd come to, but you're not.  He'll appreciate your honesty I think, and you will be closer friends for it.  And if I'm wrong and you're a female with a gay best friend - they are good friends, and I've found, real, honest, down-to-earth people, so....same advice.
1014542
I understand your problem, my best friend is completly straight and I am bi, when i say he is straight he is. But like you I have  a crush on him and still do,we have and still do go place with each other but I try not to let my self get to close to him. Just be there for her when she needs you but don't cross the line again unless she cross first.
520536
It depends a lot on the ways that she is physically affectionate.  For instance, I knew a girl in high school who people thought was gay because she liked to hug other girls and kiss them on the cheek. She was straight, so, she never thought her actions would be interpreted as flirting.  People still made assumptions though.   Now, she is married (to a man) and has three children.  Some people just show affection in very physical ways.  \n\nHowever, if your friend is doing things that make you uncomfortable you should talk to her about it.  Maybe she is a lesbian or people may be seeing something that isn't there because it makes for good gossip.  Confront your friend in a calm and compassionate manner.  It is the only way to find out the truth.\n\nIf she is a lesbian.  Just explain to her that you like being her friend but do not have the same feelings she does.  That you are willing to be there for her as a friend but nothing more.
361913
if you are a TRUE friend  u would put it behind you..you may be doing something that they are against (i dont mean being straight either)
276436
I was once a lesbian, but have since chosen to be with a man. I have a lot of friends who are still lesbians though, and I understand why they choose to be like that. In the cases that I know (including mine), fellow females understand the psyche of their own gender. It's true in most cases, since a lesbian (even if she's a butch lesbian) would still be a girl, and girls get what other girls need and want in a relationship. Of course, there's also some people who just wish to experiment. I would advise that you talk to your friends, learn about what it is about lesbianism that attracts them, and accept them. It is NEVER easy for a gay person to come out, and if they trusted you enough to tell you about this, that speaks a lot about what kind of a friend you are. I am glad that you accept them, and that you want to understand. Frankly my dear, you might never fully comprehend until you are in THAT kind of relationship. But, I admire how you are going about with your confusion. Just be a friend to them. It is their choice. Their lifestyle. And they are your friends. =)\n\nI hope this helps you out. =)
780716
if she was really your friend she would respect your relationship with your boyfriend and would also understand that though you care for her you are not a lesbian and she can not force you to be one. \nJust explain to her (calmly) that you enjoy her friendship but you dating someone right now and that you arent interested in being with her romantically. If she still tries to push you into something you dont want I would get myself out of that friendship PRONTO!
218161
nikki,\n\nI assume she doesnt know you're a lesbian?\nWhat you should do is raise the subject and see how she feels about it. Maybe watch a movie about it ("But I'm a Cheerleader" is a good one) and talk about it. \nIf she is curious she'll let you know. If not, she's not worth your energy, move on, find the one with whom you belong. More power 2 u for being proud of who you are. :-) \ngood luck with the girl, but know that if it doesnt work out, there are many brilliant girls out there that passionatly love other girls. I should say women really..\n:-)
108747
Is your best friend male or female.\n\nIf it's a male and not gay, your boyfriend does not understand your realtionship with your male friend, you need to break it down for him. Make him feel less ensure about you relationship with him.\n\nIf your best friend is a female, he may sincerely not like her attitude of ways. Try to convince him that she does not mean to offend him. That is the way she is with every one unless she is seeing something that you don't. \nPlease tell him not to make you chose between a friend you have known for years and him who you like a lot.\n\nTell him you are only trying to make the two people that you really care about to be able to tolerate each other. \n\nDon't make it a habit of inviting your friend with you all the time. You will give your boyfriend the wrong impression.
364730
Well firstly is your friend bi or gay? Does she know how you feel about her?\n\nContact me if you want to talk  - epsonc760@hotmail.co.uk
918724
talk to her about it and tell her how you feel if she is a real friend she will understand
549107
I think your doing the right thing and you should explain to her that you are just friends and if she continues you'll have to separate yourself from, unless you want your girl to beat your friend's ass.