please help divorce w/3kids how do i get into the dating field?
601138
I was in the same situation not long ago.  I went out with friends or sometimes by myself to the local Lounge to listen to the band.  Men will usually buy you drinks and ask you to dance.  Don't try and look for someone, just go out to have fun.  Love will find you
445090
HOW TO FIND A DIVORCE ATTY IN SO CAL:\n\n1. Swing a dead cat.\n\n2. While walking down the street, pretend to fall and hurt yourself. Wait 10 seconds. An attorney will be there.\n\n3. While at Starbucks, whisper quietly to your girlfriend, "I'm getting a divorce and I need a lawyer." At least two will sit down with you.\n\n4. Go downtown and peek into a dark alley. The guy in the suit you see getting "serviced" by a young man will be a good lawyer.\n\n5. Pop into a seedy looking massage parlor, the man getting the "full release" massage will be a great lawyer. If you hear another man arguing about the quality and price of his "full service" massage, hire him at once, as he will be an awesome attorney.
118931
Send her a certified letter about your intentions of picking up the kids. Actually show up at the designated time and have a witness.  Bring your written visitation decree along with you and notify the local sheriff's office of your intention to enforce the divorce decree.  Keep a written book of all of your attempts to visit your kids. If you find her new phone number, record all future calls.  Gather your child support receipts in a shoe box if you don't pay through the Court.  File contempt of court charges.  If you can't afford a lawyer, be willing to represent yourself in court.I spent $40,000 to get visitation for my husband.  I was the new wife and I kept good records and tape recordings and if I had to do it again, I would have represented him myself.  After 2 years he won visitation and it was very complicated...Don't stop paying child support and read the Book of Psalms in the Bible....
1104573
The best way to get a reliable answer to this question is to call Lawyers in your State and ask if they will give you an initial free consultation for a Divorce.  Many Attorneys offer such an interview and you can ask questions specific to your problem and get informed, professional answers.   To find Lawyers that handle Family Matters including Divorce in your area try an online site like http://www.divorcenet.com
863042
Maybe a key is to meet single women with one child of her own:\n\nSupermarket\nLibrary\nOnline\nParent Group: You would get all the Attention there\nSchool\nTell your friends you are looking\nOnline\nParents w/o Partners\nVolunteer Functions for Children\n\nGood luck1
686106
Check with The Dept Of Social Services. But why are you not married? And why do you want to leave good O'l California? \nJust how fit to be a parent and how responsible, are you really?
465690
They are very hard to find but don't loose hope.  You may have already passed a few good ones bye.  The question may be on yourself.  I know it was on my shoulders after I asked the same question at the same age with the same situation.  I got involved with playing volleyball and then joining a health club and going to church on a regular basis.  I picked apart each and every guy I got a date with.  I finally realized that they must be doing the same to me and then started to look at myself and decided that there are faults in all including myself so I needed to look for someone that wasn't what everyone else thought was great.  I needed to find the greatness in the man of my dreams.  And 2 years later found him.  He loved my daughter as his own.  We have now been married for 9 years with 3 more children, and it is as good as it was when we first met.  Good luck to you and hopefully you too will find the man of your dreams.
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You have me CONFUSED here... you mean to tell me you are more interested in finding someone i.e. a date? (correct me if I am wrong) Than getting your CHILDREN back??? Finding a man should be the LAST thing on your mind I would think, if he has taken your kids, I would fight to my death for my kids?????\n\nYea... you know I really wonder what's going on here... I mean if your kids are 6 & 8 and you were only with him for 3 years... the Math doesn't add up.  Is he even the father of these kids?  And there must have been some problem if the courts took them away.  Maybe you should spend some time working on you before looking for a man or even considering getting your children.  It sort of sounds like they might be better off with their Father if that's the case or where ever the judge decided to send them.  My BEST suggestion is to work on YOU and the rest will come don't go looking for another MAN just yet.  GOOD LUCK!
463690
When I divorced my first husband I swore I'd never get married again. Well, a year and a half later I fell in love. Six months after that I remarried a terrific man who helped me raise my sons. That was 20 years ago and we're still together and very much in love.\n\nI agree with you about the bar scene. I was fortunate to meet my husband through my family. Many churches have singles groups for adults. \n\neharmony.com seems to be a great place to meet just the right guy: http://www.eharmony.com/\n\nIt is scary when you first start dating. Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and say yes to that first date. You already know the things that you don't like from your first marriage. Use that knowledge as you get to know your dates. I'm not saying carry that baggage with you, but it can be a yardstick to measure by. Take your time and don't rush into anything.\n\nOnce you know that you're going to get married, then introduce him to your daughter. Talk to her ahead of time so she knows what to expect. Let their relationship develop at its own pace. \n\nMirror.co.uk has an article that may give you some guidance: http://www.mirror.co.uk/sexandhealth/sexandrelationships/tm_objectid=16872368&method=full&siteid=94762&headline=will-a-new-man-upset-my-child--name_page.html\n\nI found my true love after a disastrous first marriage. You can too! God Bless!
946420
Like I said in your previous q's, it is pretty stupid.  If you were going to get a divorce anyway then why didn't you get a divorce first before going back into the dating scene?  The reason I said to divorce first is to avoid the very complication you are in now, which, as you stated, your wife wants to get back with you.  \n\nAlso, keep in mind that you are not being fair to the person you're seeing.  You are dragging her into your drama.   If you want to date other people you should start with a clean slate.  Divorce first.
69003
Ask a local church for counseling and to be saved, that way, if he kills you, at least you'll have saved and can reload from the last checkpoint.\n\n\nSearch answers.google.com for the keyword "divorce". THis place is full of f*cking kids.
501597
You can find real love at ANY age. It doesn't matter the age or that you have 3 lovely children that you obviously care a great deal about. I think it will be easier for you to find someone who also has children of his own because he will be better able to understand the responsibilities of having children and how to deal with them. Good luck to you!
142587
I was divorced for seventeen. then happened upon a woman that I have been happy with for the past three.  there is no secret but I promise you if you start looking with the purpose of finding a relationship you will get hurt. Live life every day and don't avoid situations where there are people of the other sex.  Sooner or later someone will catch your eye. If not you're better off alone.
214935
Here is a link below that should get you started.  Click on the web link buttons under Child Support Charts.  Good luck.
462749
First of all, I would ask if you have kept your committment to the terms of the divorce. If there are some specifics, then you could probably answer your own question.\nSecondly, just let her know you've moved on and if there are kids involved, plz consider them.
1155505
Part of the therapy for getting over a divorce is to re-join the "human race".  With a divorce, we go through "separation anxiety" ... and that is a very miserable condition.\n\nDon't feel that you have to leap at the first opportunity to date ... but don't shy away from one that interests you.  Ease back into it, maybe by starting out going out with a group of friends, then a couple friends, then venturing out on your own.\n\nThere is no generally-accepted timeframe for waiting.  Let your own heart and needs determine that.  Just be cautious about "rebounding" and jumping into a worse relationship than the one you just left ... just because "it's there" and you're hurting.
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Hmm, this is a tough one.  But first let me say THANK YOU for being interested in a single mom!!  Men like you are hard to find.\n\nAnyway, I am 26, so you may get a different answers from someone older, I don't know.\n\nHow good of friends have you been in the past?  Obviously she is somewhat interested if she invited you to her house and also went to dinner with you a second time .  But I know you ware looking for a more definite sign than that.\n\nMy honest advice would be to simply ask her.  Ask her if she is interested in dating anyone.  Flat out.  She is a mature woman with her own life and responsibilities, and she will have no problem giving you a straight answer.  \n\nDating gets complicated when kids are involved, as you are always looking out for the best interest of your child.  So she may have decided that she does not want to date anyone until her daughter reaches a certain age.  If she's not interested in dating, ask her if she minds you continuing to call on her as just friends.\n\nOnce you get out of the puppy love thing, I don't think there is a need to dance around the issue.  Just ask.  The worst that can happen is that she says no.  Then you will know where you stand and you won't waste a year trying to read signals.