If relationships are so painfull then why do people get into them?
596096
cause we are sick of being on our own and want someone to love and hold us
298880
yes i do... going into a relationship is a gamble, one takes the chance of facing the risk of getting hurt which we are all scared of, but remember that its most important  that you shared your love with someone rather than going on with life and havent taken any chance of sharing it....\nthere is always a lesson after a broken relationship...
242604
some people i know that are into stuff like that have a few underlying issues.  you  might want to figure out what they are.  those situations aren't always controllable.  you'd hate to get hurt.
981972
I don't know why, but it seems that there are many people who simply enjoy hurting others.  I suspect it stems from them feeling powerless and insecure, so they get a small charge to their own egos when they can make someone else feel bad. \n\n There are, also, others who simply take advantage of people - they see goodness and kindness as a kind of weakness they can exploit for their own means.\n\nDon't let this turn YOU bitter, though.  Remember to tell yourself that those people, in the end, will suffer for it when they find they lack solid, real and loving friendships in their lives.
665332
Because you still have feelings even though you don't want to admit it. Also, jumping into another relationship right away will not be good for you or the other person. Take time to sort your feelings out, and when you are ready, you will not feel like that.
739660
Most people feel that way when they have been hurt in the past and arent confident about relationships anymore. Because of that attitude, those relationships don't usually last.
578773
usually its because they need a change to the same routine, maybe they are second guessing their relationship,maybe they can get what they need from the person their cheating with, maybe its blackmail, or greed or lustor,maybe theyre still in love with their ex partner(if its an ex they slept with), maybe they got into deep into a relationship they cant get out of , maybe they dont love their spouse , maybe its low self esteem , \n\nwho knows there are many different reasons and no one reason is right or wrong, and it has nothing to do with anything except the struggle that is going on inside that person that does it, dont bother to ask why people do it,  just dont do it yourself, and walk away if it happens to you.
1155696
because, usually when we do it, you have broken our heart.  So, for our emotional pain, you get physical pain.  Either that, or you just needed to get a swift kick in the balls.
531429
Because we invest ourselves into relationships. We forget that having a relationship doesn't define us. They don't really know that the hurt goes so deep. Remember, their experience as kids is mostly with other boys.\nAlways remember to say what you want and be honest. Anyone who can't handle that is not worth your time.
329059
People do have a way of hurint those they love most!  Its not just you we have all done it!  it could be that u r terrified of being hurt and you figure u will hurt them before they hurt u.  You may not even be aware that u r doing this but its could be self protection that u r doing.  You could be doing this self conciously and not even know!!!!  Have u been hurt by someone u were close too in the past?????  This could be the reason u r protecting yourself.  Good luck to u!  Remember- the person who hurt u in the past is not the people in your life now so they deserve to be treated with kindness and not be hurt!!!  Just remind yourself of that daily if it helps you!!!
30584
It always alot harder to leave a bad relationship than it is to stay in a good one. Don't know what it is. I guess us humans just like to suffer in the way. Taiking punishment for not leaving a bad situation.
489879
Well, Life is about chances and so is love...  Some people hurt us intentionally, but some don't..\n\nI think that the people we love hurt us, because they don't know how to appreciate it.  Take it for granted and take it as a vulnerability. (So they take advantage of us)\n\nBut don't give up on it..  We have to go through a few bad seeds, before we finally find the right one..  : )
366371
THE REASON LOVE HURTS IS BECAUSE THE PERSON YOU ARE LOVING, YOU HAVE PUT ALL YOUR TRUST AND CONFINDENCE IN.  YOU THINK SINCE THEY KNOW YOU LOVE THEM, THEY SHOULDN'T DISAPPONT YOU AND WHEN THEY DO, IT HURTS. IT'S A SAYING "NO ONE CAN HURT YOU LIKE THE ONE YOU LOVE" REASON BEING IF YOU DON'T LOVE THE PERSON, YOU CAN BRUSH OFF WHAT THEY DO, BECAUSE YOU DON'T EXPECT MUCH OUT OF THEM.
101560
A relationship is not meant to be easy. If it was then we would all be married and happy for the rest of our life's by 18. Everything in a relationship is only as hard as you make it though. Compromising is the main problem for people. Trust being second. Then you get into the problem where your not seeing each other as much as you want to. Or one of you is getting serious and the other one isn't. Communication!
264292
Sometimes, you meet somone with the pretext of being in a relationship and not friends.  If it clicks, it progresses.  On the other hand, if you make a friend, it will definitely take too long.
41706
Because it goes deep into your heart.  so when things are going well - it can feel SOOOO good - but when they fall apart for some reason - it is one of the deepest hurts a person can feel.  \n\nBeing in love is a difficult thing - because one must be willing to expose him/herself to potential pain in order to accept and revel in the wonderful pleasures of being in true love.
625422
Your either scared to get into a real relationship for fear of getting hurt so you pick men that are emotionally unavailable OR maybe you dont like yourself and question any  man who does ??