my boyfriend and I have been together 5 years but he has moved out  3 times.  What should I do?
609962
im sorry\nthe same thing happened to me w/my x. He would move out anywhere from couple days - month. \nwell eventually i had enough we are not together. \nleaving for while wil not solve any problems at all either.\nwell good  luck to you i hope things work out for you!!!
344096
You aren't sure because he doesn't have the same affection for you ....as you have for him....well if you love each other the same way....you'r not sure because of his temperament.....or something that's not right with him...\nIf you want more them ever to be with him....you should go to him and tell him that if he wants to remain with you he should fix the problem....(no matter what the problem is)otherwise your waisting you years with him. It's really sad
267419
Why is he your old boyfriend? There had to have been reasons for breaking up and if I were you, I would take that into account. Also, would you be moving in together or just near him? Is it economical for you to move, will you be able to work, find housing? I don't know, it just doesn't sound like something that you should do...find a new boyfriend, one that lives closer to you or one that would move to be near YOU!
955380
I moved in with a guy after 7 months before.. I think it ruined our relationship.  I will never live with a man until I am married now.  It seems crazy to commit to someone that much when you haven't decided if you like them enough to spend everyday (rest of life) with.  Esentially that is what you are doing.. spending the rest of your life together... so it is putting way to much into the relationship. \n\nI would suggest moving out and still dating.  You can take a baby step backwards.. He might think it is a good idea too.  It might save your realationship.\n\nGood Luck :-)
700216
Break up and find a different boyfriend.  By staying , you're encouraging him to stay the way he is.
632184
I wish every answer I supply could be a positive one.\n\nIt sounds like things are falling apart in the relationship, and it may not survive the seperation.\n\nWhat you might have to do is to give each other freedom - as unwilling as you are, and wait and see what happens in three years.  You might or might not get back together - only time will tell.\n\nIt sounds like you have undue pressure on you right now and that won't help you to concentrate on your studies in September.  You need to clear your mind.\n\nHe should have established trust in you and in the relationship, but perhaps the problem is with him - maybe he doesn't really trust himself.\n\nLet him go and if it is meant to be, then in three years, you will go back with each other.\n\nAt least you had this time together to love each other - as it is said - better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.\n\nGod bless and good luck to you both.\n\nThe best is yet to be.
650990
It will go on for as long as you allow it.  He obviously has intimacy issues and since it's unlikely that he'll change, it's up to you to decide if you want to put up with it.  Tell him that if he leaves again not to bother coming back.
792891
He shouldn't have to deal with it.  He needs to move out.\nI lived like that.  And the effects in the future are horrible.\nKeeping a relationship will be difficult.
507750
Just move out, did you consider doing so.  What you're about to do might seem nice and hot now, but will you be able to deal with this in the future??? Can you just think of how terrible the consequences might be?  Start thinking of it backwards, if you will be able to deal with this and the possible consequences of this than go right ahead, if not, I suggest you take a real action like moving out, we're all weak and if this is how you feel now than there is a big chance that you both might weaken again one day.
823286
REAL BEHAVIORS SHOW UP AFTER BIG PROBLEMS COMES UP!\nIF YOU THINK YOU WANT TO LIVE WITH HIM THROUGH THICK AND THIN THEN GO!!!!!
351708
He decision is based on emotion, and he is probably still hurting from what happended. He must of forgiven you as he is considering to move in with you, but because he has forgave you, it does not mean he has forgotten! You need to rebuild the trust, and i do not think you can force him. Talk to him and see where he is coming from, he probably needs reassurance and comfort. Remember actions speak louder than words and he might be thinking when in doubt, leave it out. Do not give up if he is worth fighting for...
458021
i had that problem before i accually am going through the sane thing right now but have found  as long as theres is mutual love and trust in the relationship it will work for a long time i have had a relationship where i only saw my girlfirend onnce every six months as well and we stayed toghether for three yrs and then she moved and we lost touch but if you really love him and trust him stay with it. otherwise talk to him and ask him what he thinks would be best for the two of u. wheather that would mean breaking up or staying together. just follow ur heart and u will find out what to do! :) good luck
265704
Maybe you dont love him enough to move in with him. You dont have to tell him that you dont love him as much as you want too right now. But geez youve only seen him for 7 months. Explore your options, live your life and date him. But for god sake you do not have to move in with each other. Unless of course he is your night and shining armor and you want him to be around you 24/7!
885394
How many more time does he have to cheat on you and bring hurt into your life before you realise he just isnt worth it anymore, If he didn't change the first time after cheating on you then he will never change, people say everyone deserves a second chance, well, he's had more than a second chance.If you let him walk all over you then, yes, he will keep on using you as his door mat, You say your friends won't get involved? maybe they won't but there has to be someone who can help you, even if its to just put you up for a couple of nights. If not, you say you work? then save up to put a deposit down on a flat of your own. But if I was you, I wouldn't stay with anyone who cheats on me, maybe the once but after that, then I would draw the line, he's had more than enough chances to put things right between you two. Maybe now is the time to look after yourself and your unborn child, that is what you priorty is now, if he wants to be foot loose and fancy free then kick him out of the house as he clearly doesn't deserve you hun. Good luck.
450218
I would probably give it a bit more time.  Your still in that honeymoon stage where you haven't gotten to know each others bad habits all that well yet.  When you move in together then you have to live with those bad habits plus you have the added pressure of dealing with all the finances and living expectations that go with it.
1035218
Been there.  Ultimatums are never good. Small towns are full of gossip. The transition is easier because of family and friends. Both of you list pros/cons of where you'd like to live. Ask him if he'd be willing to check out some places that would fit what you're both looking for.  He may feel that you are choosing to move home to get away from him. Try to compromise. I did and I don't regret not moving back home. I found things that I really liked about where I live and we have been here for 25 years. Really think about this before you do or say something that you can't take back. I hope I helped.
974571
I think the kicker is that you are also moving in with 2 guys. So..really..you can't play the "I'm hurt and worried" card with him over this. It makes no sense to even try.  \n\nWhy can't the 2 of you just move in together someplace?