Has anyone know a man that is totally selfish, critical, and demanding?  Never willing to give anyone a chance
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Sorry honey, but you've pretty much summed up EVERY man in that statement!! (well ok, not EVERY one, but the majority of them are self-centered!)
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You can't change someone else, so for your own sanity's sake assume he'll never change.  You can, however, try to gently point out that maybe the reason he's miserable all the time is that his life is hollow.  Encourage him to do something for others.  Maybe you could sign up for something like Habitat for Humanity and invite him to come along with you.  It doesn't have to be HFH, but you get the idea.
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I had two, and one was a complete jerkoff!  He abused me, for instance, verbally and physically.  I kicked his butt to the curb!  The next one was the sweetest thing ever.  We stayed together for 2 1/2 years, and split up, but we are still friends.  You just have to find out the character of the guy, not his past.
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From the very core of my being....\n\nRUN LIKE THE DEVIL HIMSELF IS CHASING YOU DOWN. Cut ALL communication, don't fall prey to that "but it's the strongest pull I've ever experienced, it's different with us" bu11shit !\n\nBottom line is this, he has problems, not at home, but within himself, and is looking for something to distract him from his feelings of worthless-ness... \n\nBelieve me.... There is NO WHERE stable and good you will find with this guy...\n\nYou've been warned, to the best of my ability... \nGood luck !
827925
He's a jerk maybe? Doesn't respect you ? Needs his asss kicked?
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No trust = no relationship worth having...
433794
First I have to say that kunjaldp's comment was completely uncalled for!  You put your question in the wrong section, but SO FRICKING WHAT?!  If he labels every person who ever makes a tiny little mistake a "loser," then my guess is that he's a really pitiful excuse for a human being and he'll be really lonely (if he isn't already) because NOBODY will ever want to have anything to do with him -- and guess what -- that makes HIM a LOSER!  OK, now that I've gotten that off my chest, let me answer your question.\n\nI have to let you know that I was in the same situation a few years ago.  I'd been with a man for 11 years (he was unmarried) and I was emotionally tortured by his escapades with other women, which he didn't even make an effort to keep secret from me.  I wasted so much time trying to figure out how to make him faithful and how to make him love me enough to treat me the way I longed to be treated.  When it started affecting other aspects of my life (I wasn't sleeping well or eating right, which, in turn, affected my job performance), I sought counseling.  It took a little while, but I finally came to realize that I deserved much better, and as long as I was with him, I was never going to be happy.  Loving somebody shouldn't make you miserable.  After some work on myself in counseling, I got the emotional strength to leave him -- the best thing I ever did for myself!  Yes, it hurt like hell at first, but the good news is that the pain was only temporary.  If I'd stayed with him, I would have been in emotional pain for however long I remained with him.  And a bonus -- I was free to live my life the way I wanted and to meet somebody else (which I did).  Now I'm in a very stable, faithful and incredibly wonderful relationship with a man who treats me like a princess!  So, my advice to you is to first get some counseling to work on yourself (not the relationship) so that you can gain the self confidence and strength to do what you need to do (which is leave the man).  From there, a whole wonderful world awaits you -- you'll see.  Good luck!
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If he is giving you that ultimatum, then hes a jerk. Family is blood, they will always love and be around you. A man asking you to choose, is not a man.
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Unfortunately yes.  I dated this person for a while and  I met his family.  They were totally dysfunctional, loud, crass and crude.  When he was around them he behaved like a lunatic.  But when he was alone with me he was a different person.  It was a Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde thing.  So i called it quits.  It was too much for me.
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Damn, I wish I had his problems, I am a man and I am going through the exact same thing. It's hard when you want to be with a person and you feel they do not want you. I have tried going on trips just the two of you. If nothing else works ask flat out what is up? This was a good month for me, I got it more than once a week, I still had to beg a few times but at least I got it. I know for a fact it is going to be different this month, I will be begging more but I love her.
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Yes, I do. I have a sister in law that is like that. She can be a very nice person, but she cannot stand it if she cannot have her way . People like that bring out the stubborn nature of me. I know what they are doing and I will not budge. She hates when I do it, it really makes her mad, but she learned to have respect for me.
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yes it is, sounds like someone wants to be boss and are selfish and wants it only their way, yet they sound like they cant lead but only wants followers........ if someone told me that, i would be very hurt and walk !!! it takes 2 to make a couple a happy couple !!! a relationship is a 2 way street, not a dictatorship !!!!!!!!
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YES YES YES\n\n\nI am so afraid of him being a jerk to me. He is the type of person who knows how to play the 'guilt card' and knows what will make me mad, and he's not afraid of doing it.  He also has a big mouth and tells lies, so he'll tell the world I'm doing this or that when I'm not.
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Wow!  You mean you are actually tempted to be used, to be the `silent' partner, the one in the relationship that can never be public, never go anywhere, never be real?  That amazes me.....it truly does.  I know some of the ugliest, rudest, unsophisticated women in our society who are still able to find their own man....and you seem to feel you either cannot or are not worthy of your own....and so you will lessen yourself to share sloppy seconds with a man that you will never be able to trust nor fully give yourself to.  My, we have really traded the Mercedes for a '72 Pinto....
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He sounds like a spoiled brat with reality issues. She needs to drop him ... NOW! \n\nAnd yes, it's possible to affect someone's mental health by that sort of behavior, especially if they have rather delicate mental stability.
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Is he the BadSanta guy?  Sounds egotistical, lose him.
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My husband wanted and got his divorce because he wanted it...I never did..yes their sometimes is valid reasons..but selfishness always plays a part