How do you tell the person you love that the sex with them isn't where you'd like it to be??
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Dear Sir, \n\nYou have been renting my vagina for the past six weeks. In that six weeks you have had liberal access to myself and my fine butt bobbing on your d<<k, and you have taken advantage of this opportunity on a damn near daily basis. That is great. I love sex and I love it more when it is a daily experience. However, over the course of these past six weeks, I have recieved only one "payment" in exchange for your many lovely gifts of pearl necklaces and the like. \n\nThis arrangement is simply not an acceptable one for my vagina and myself. This notice serves you with a three day period to pay up or get the fuck on. I want an orgasm. \n\nLook at this from my perspective, dear sir. I am a lovely little number. I do not smother. I come over late at night to fuck your brains out. I like the same movies as you. We laugh together, have a great time and in general have great sex. The lack of the finale on an occasional basis is understandable. The consistent nonexistance of it, however, will not do. You would not waste your time fluking me for six weeks if every time, save one lovely instance, you got really really really close, and then had to "hold it over" while I snored away happily after experiencing my earthshattering juicer, would you? No. I don't think you would. You would move on and take shelter in another, more "rewarding" location. \n\nI have been fair. I do not demand. I am a giving and tolerable lover. You can do whatever you want to me sexually, you know this from experience. I am not taking applications from other prospective tenants and I give you free access, 24/7. However, my tolerance wanes. The rules of tenancy are about to change. \n\nHere are a few final tidbits of knowledge. We have gone over them before. Perhaps you forgot. Again. Have a read. Have a re-read. But please, I implore you to take this seriously. This is a final notice. There are no exceptions. \n\n1. I do not "cum" from strictly intercourse. I never have. I don't rule out the future possibility, but please stop trying to be the "stud" whose dick makes me "cum so hard" every time. It doesn't happen. Please take a few minutes prior to your personal enjoyment to go downtown and see the sights. I provide a roadmap. I am vocal and have no qualms with telling you to "keep doing that, don't stop." You know this. From the ONE time you did it. Remember, you are not "jerking off." This is not "aided masturbation." I am not just "along for the ride." This is SEX, buddy. And women want to cum too. If I didn't, I wouldn't bother with fulcking you in the first place. Sure, I like to see you happy and love watching you cum. Its an enjoyable experience to sexually satisfy your partner. Try it. \n\n2. I rarely get on top. When I do - DO NOT FLIP ME OVER. This is just a rule. Don't do it. Lay back and enjoy the ride. \n\n3. Don't be such a gun slinger with the lube. If you touch my puss and its not dripping wet, lube is not the blanket answer to this problem. And no, I don't care if it does smell/taste like strawberries. I might care if that made you venture down south, but that has not been a tried and true outcome. Your hands, fingers, and mouth are welcome, invited even. I assure you, it is not a desert down there. You need to AROUSE your lover. Not DOUSE your lover. \n\nPlease, dear sir, do not take this as a rejection. Do not be discouraged. I have complete and utter faith in your ability to satisfy me sexually. Besides that, I really enjoy having you around in all other areas. You are funny. You are smart. You are sexy and educated. You DO NOT, however, give me an orgasm anywhere near as often as you should. You are in your thirties. You are not getting any younger. You should learn this now - women want a together, financially secure and stable man. Yes. That isn't a lie. However, women prefer solitude and
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Tell him why you want to have sex with him.  Chances are he will still do it anyway.
103315
it's easy, just tell him/her u're no longer involved. The sooner he/she gets to know, the better.Or else u will be fooling urself thinking he/she still loves u
713575
If it's a one time thing..."Not tonight boo.  I'm not in the mood, but I will make it up to you."  If it's something you're not feeling anymore at all, the two of you would need to have a long talk together or you would have to try to take the sex out of that relationship.
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not telling him would be bad tell him of course there is nothing wrong to tell someone you love them that is one of the most important things in life is to be loved and love life would be a sad place if you didnt if you cant tell him in person tell him over the phone on the computor in a letter or send him a card do it how ever it is 3 words that could change the rest of your life good luck
829107
You have to tell him just what you told us.... you really never dated and want to experience it. Tell him that as wonderful as he is, you know that if he is Mr. Right, he will let you go on some dates (tell him not sleeping with) and if it is meant to be, he has nothing to worry about. \n\nHonesty really is best and saying it this way shouldn't hurt if he cares that you are sure.
1100595
go slower and more foreplay and just enjoy yourself and be glad you have someone to have intercourse with...i could of course but i want to love and care about someone before i go there...
507734
My advice to you is be honest and open with him, You can please yourself while he is making love to you. Communication is the key here. Tell him what feels good and what doesn't.
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Be honest, but sensitive to his feeling; try to bring up the subject when you are not about to have sex or after you've had sex.  Give him hints as to what turns you on.  Find out what he really likes and offer to do it, if he does wha you like.
504976
Of course that does not Sound right, but, the ONLY way to do it, is to tell him, you don't wish to continue your life with him, and tell him in  a firm but nice way.
593832
Don't sleep with him. That will only take the excitement of sex away and he just might stop seeing you. Show him you love him by being on his side. Thank him for his sweetnesses, give him your time, let him lean on you if he needs to. but by giving him your most precious, Its not showing love, only lust. It shows you are afraid of him leaving you if you don't. Just do everything but that, or anything remotely close to it. enjoy the time you two have together. It'll mean far more in the end.
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With time sex kind of dwindles from ohhhhhhhhhhhh my gosh to just that norm sex, try greeting him in your birthday suit when he comes over an see his reaction. As I've always believe, have faith in that man, communicate what you want with your sexual innuendos but never be naive to what is going on in your situation.  before accusing find out discreetly,
817123
Date him, sleep with him, move in with him.  If at any point you feel that it isn't working out for you, tell him and leave him.
1185691
Just say the truth. Most of us don't like to hear what is true about us. But, if you want to fell good with yourself just said the way you ask. Well not to offend you, but remember that day that we have sex I think I need to show you how to do it.
77450
Break anything romantic off immediately.  You do not want to be the victim of his sexually transmitted disease.  Let him know that you like him as a person.  If you feel comfortable with maintaining a friendship because you like him as a person, then let him know that.  Also let him know that you don't appreciate being lied to about his sex status.
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Just tell them you don't want to have sex till you are married. If they get mad or break up with you over that, then that means they are not the right one for you. The right man for you will understand and appreciate you wanting to save yourself for him or whoever you marry.
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There is no easy way to discuss it with him.  But you will have to sit down and talk to him.  There is a difference between sex and love.  Unfortunately some men either don't know the difference or some know but don't care.  You are right, it should be a two way street.  However, some days it is not. There are days when you don't want to or he doesn't want to but either of you go ahead anyway because you care for that person. Those days, you shouldn’t feel like you are lowering yourself either.  Some days you want to have sex. I personally feel that most days it should be about love.  What I am sensing from you is that it is more sex than love.  If he respects you then he will understand and be willing to wait until you are ready.  \n     This is the part that is going the trickiest because you want to talk to him before he tries to get you into bed.  You don't want to give him the impression that you don't want to be with him anymore yet you still want him!  It is hard to get some guys to understand, but if he cares about your feelings he will.  \nIf he is still unwilling to cooperate or is not willing to understand, then he made need to be cut off in the bed room for a while.  I have had friends who had to take time apart before they understood.  I can't say that will be for everybody, but at least a separation from the bedroom.  If he keeps forcing his way into your bed and you tell him NO, then that is rape and that can be more serious.  Hopefully, it won't get that far.