Does obesity matter for a girl while choosing her boyfriend?
611612
I think yes, obesity is not very attractive for a young girls at least the first sight. Is believe that we woman have a natural reaction when choosing a man, between animals is normal that the female look for stronger and experience male to make babies, so is part of nature
598654
Hey man - the girl may have serious muscle like me. \n\nit is hard to describe youself to the opposite sex - for example, I am muscular and athletic and I have a large frame (long legs, broad shoulders)... But if I described myself in a small ad as large frame - then people immediately think it is obesity.
660095
Most men have... preferences - either for large or for small boobs. A few men are obsessed with either large or small boobs and it is a principal factor for them in choosing someone to date etc... but for most of us, it's the personality and chemistry that develops or appears between ourselves and a woman that are the really telling factors... For example, I DO like big boobs but my girlfriend is Chinese and has small boobs, but I still love her to bits!
723246
Most guys prefer a girl with some meat on her bones. It really doesn't matter how much you weight, it depends on how you are proportioned. I'm only 5'2 and weigh about 130, so your not much bigger than me. But there was a time when I only weighed 103 pds and i looked horrible. My boyfriend says your not fat until your tummy is bigger than your breasts. :0)
174899
Most guys like slim girls but many guys like all shapes and sizes.  Its just personal preference.  I have a friend who only likes girls who are at least 250 pounds and he is only 170.
414691
love handles on who?  Herself or boyfriend?  On a boyfriend it depends, but most of my girlfriends (myself included) love it, because skinny guys are no fun to hug, all bones, feels like we are hugging another girl!
1179407
First you have to honestly ask yourself whether the changes you want are out of love for her, or out of love for yourself?  If they are out of love for her, then you'll definitely have to be an active supportive participant in this.  Exercise WITH her.  (Don't wear her out all at once; she'll be intimidated.)  Cook WITH her... try some low-fat cookbooks with lots of veggies and minimal carbs and meat.  Good-tasting food that doesn't make you look like a blueberry muffin IS possible, but it takes work.\n\nAlso, be sure you let her know that you love her and you're concerned for her well-being.  If she cannot accept that, there's not much you can do.  But if she can, you could really go somewhere with it.  One of my friends was very overweight... ate way too much and was extremely lazy.  Well, she is still overweight.  BUT she is losing some of it and eating more healthy and getting into shape.  And it's all thanks to the good influence of her boyfriend.  Now I don't think he's such a good influence in some other areas; but about that he's good.\n\nAnd finally... wear her out with some good sex.  hehe.  ;)  J/k... sort of.
353758
Uh, there's nothing wrong with obese, I could definitely see my-self falling in love with an obese woman. (f.v.i., I'm not obese, I'm almost underweight, and I'm a vegetarian, that info might help in trying to find an answer, most overweight people wouldn't mind having an overweight spouse, so I guess that info is needed?).  Hope this helps!
47689
My bf used to be chubby, not VERY, but a little, but I still fell in love with him =). So to me it doesn't matter. What matters is who YOU are. You can lose weight. It's not easy, but it's possible. Once thing you can't ever change is your personality. A rotten guy who is athletic will always be rotten. A nice and polite guy who isn't very athletic, will always be nice and polite AND can become athletic if that's what he wants.
841006
My sweetheart is in the same shoes but since i met him that way and began dating him that way I have accepted it but YES, it is the good thing to do to try and help the ones you love.  HOWEVER, overweight people are extremely sensitive about their weight and are very conscious indeed.  They are sensitive to people's piercing stares and inconsiderate comments.  Before you say anything, you must be aware of this sensitivity and DO NOT USE THE WORD FAT.  Try starting the conversation like "name of friend here, you have been a great friend to me and i really care about you.  I hope i have you in my life as a friend for a long time.  There is something that I am concerned about and wanted to talk with you about it though.  I noticed that you've put on some weight since college started...is everything ok...I think you are a beautiful person just the way you are and this has NOTHING TO DO with your LOOKS, but I am worried about your HEALTH.  I just want us to be friends for a long time to come.....is there anything I can do to help you?..."  Be supportive of her and let her know you are just trying o help.
705679
No, you're not shallow, just human. We all want to be proud of our guys even if we're not so great ourselves! You sound very level-headed to me. So, don't feel guilty. My husband is bold and I hate it though I love him very much! We all have something in our spouses that we don't like, that even disgusts us. It's how you deal with it that matters. \n\nLuckily for you, your boyfriend's obesity can be changed. If you don't have the courage to talk to him upfront about this because you don't want to hurt him, get some brochures on how to lose weight and put it where he can see it. If he says something, tell him you think it's a good idea to lose some wieight for you are worried about him health. You can also persuade him to go walking with you. Whatever you do, don't dump a nice guy like this just because his overweight. Many of the so called Adonises are so full of themselves that they haven't place for somone else!  And if your guy loses weight, make a big fuss about it. It wil inspire him to pull through. Good luck!
763711
No it dosen't. I love my boyfriend the way he is, and for sure he don't need to have a big size to make me happy. His good charm, sense of humor and fun smiles are the things that matters to me.
31907
Yes, I would date a larger person.  If I have things in common with the person, and I enjoy being with the person, then I wouldn't feel uncomfortable.
585088
That depends entirely on the particular gal. Most gals would prefer a slender, guy and not obese. You are seen in public with her.. and with her friends. If you are much overweight, it tends to work adversely on the friends of the girl.
340415
Looks matter to a certain extent. I'll be honest and say I wouldn't date someone incredibly homely and 600 lbs, and most of you would agree. Personality is immensely important to me. He must be a good listener, and can't be arrogant.
708081
Don't lose weight because your boyfriend tells you you need to. You should only lose weight if you want to, and think you need to. How tall are you? You sound like you're dangerously thin already if you're of average height, and in that case you should definitely not lose any more weight. If your boyfriend treats you like this then he's not worth being with.
62828
My Sweetie Pai!!\n\nDo not let anybody change you not for ANY reason, if u are happy with your body then stay that way,\n\n you know what!! GOD knew what he was doing when he created different people with different shape so that we can pick and choose, if he is looking for a thin girl he must go and find himself one.\n\nJust remember that in life we will always meet people who will try to change us just because we love them and we must learn to take a stand on those people cause they will end up destroying us and we end-up with a low confidence and probably low self esteem.\n\ni cannot tell u what to do BUT i can suggest that talk to your boyfriend and try to stand up to him and explain that u are unable to meet his expectations due to the fact that u are very much happy with the way u look and u are not ready for a new change!!\n\ni hope this little advice will be of help to u.\nMay God help u to make the right decision.