My boyfriend said he was not ready for marriage, should I wait for him? We've been together for 2 yrs.?
600177
Marriage is a huge commitment. It is very good that he cares about you enough to wait until he has everything together. 2 years isn't really that long, especially if you are young. It sounds like you have a good man on your hands. I wouldn't worry, he will ask you when the time is right. Don't pressure him, it will push him away. My only caution is, there may never be a 'perfect' time to get married. He may not have his dream job.. and as far as the house, i would wait until after marriage and buy one together. \n\nIf you don't feel that he's worth waiting for then get out now
360211
First you need to ask why he refuses to get engaged. Does he want all his ducks in a row, i.e. good job, money, house, before he wants to start a family, or is he just scared of commitment. You really need to ask him. He may want his life in order before he has a family. If he's scared you might need to consider is he worth waiting around for?Also where are you at at this point of life? Do you want a family?
832061
yes it seems as though you are rushing a bit! just because you fooled around doesn't mean you are prepared to get married. and is he saying he wants to marry you to get into your pants? i would wait awhile before you make the commitment, because it sounds like it would be a failed marriage! wait atleast a year!
644112
If something is telling you to wait, then wait. If he really wants to marry you-he'll wait too. Trust your gut.
917898
If your really that in love you could try and wait for a little while. I would not spend a great deal of time waiting though. Is his relationship about to end? is there no end in sight? these are all things that need to be answered.>
482329
that's a big mistake. if he loves you then wait. don't do something you could eventually regret. think about it!
597557
wait at least another year.  Sometimes things dont really come into the clear until you have been with a person two years.
945794
6 years is a pretty long enough time to know whether or not you want to marry someone. I have observed from numerous relationships that guys keep some women dangling; and then they will meet one particular female that they just know right away that she won't be allowed to get away. I think you two need to have a real heart to heart talk, but in person. Long distance relationships are extremely difficult, especially being faithful; emotionally and physically. Be honest, tell each other how you feel.  I wonder if you guys seriously voiced your goals in the begining of your relationship. I'm guessing that you didn't expect to be waiting this long. Don't be afraid of speaking candidly, this is obviously making you uncomfortable as well. Life is way too short. Maybe there is some fear on his part that he hasn't expressed to you, something he thinks he would like to achieve before he settles down. It's good to have plans, but sticking to the exact order of those plans can cause you to miss out on some really great life altering blessings.  Ask him if something happened to you and caused you to not be available to him , if he would regret not taking that step to marriage. Sometimes we don't realize what we have until we no longer have it. Listen to his verbal and non-verbal responses. If you still don't feel confident and satisfied with the decision made you may end up waiting even longer. Are you willing to put your life on hold for someone who may just not be mature enough for that type of commitment any time soon?
485660
Tell him how you really feel (be straight faced), and that you need to know if he wants the same things that you do.  If he really truly wants to wait until marriage than you have to respect that!  If you can't wait than you need to leave him or gain some self control!
638347
Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you've realized you are not ready to jump into a relationship. We all miss-judge and make mistakes, he should understand that you were confused. I think he would appreciate your sincerity.
1113530
You are definitely too young to get married.  You definitely don't know who you are let alone know what you want in a marriage. What's the rush?  You should wait a few more years.
1140008
He is just saying that to keep you, he knows thats something YOU want. He most likly doesnt want to get married and if he does not right now. Either you keep letting him ignore you or tell what you want  and follow through dont except anything less than what you deserve, but pressuring him would be the wrong thing to do. I think you should just let him know how you feel and then determine if he is worht waiting for, dont let him slip away if you know he is a good guy.!!!!
254078
Leave his @ss...if it's weird and doesn't feel right, then that's not a relationship you need to be in. Just because you've been together for 2 years doesn't mean you have to stay together for old times sake. If he keeps leaving, this time you be the strong woman and walk away. Trust me, Honey, I know. I did it and I am much better for it. You may love him, but he obviously is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated and you need to cut your losses and get out.
394356
Depending on how serious the future is for your relationship and how much you are willing to compromise and give up of yourself in order to make it work. \nIf you just aren't ready then you cant force yourself to be and you have to be honest about that. Its hard enough when you are in a marriage to make those kinds of sacrifices so you should definitely look at how sound your relationship is first.\nSecondly, how important are his dreams and goals to you and are you on the same page about where you want the relationship to go.\nThere's also the possibility too, that you could be honest and say you would try it for a while and see if you still feel the same about the city in an allotted time-frame. Enough to give your self time to adjust and then reassess if the city is really right for you.
674707
That is such a personal thing.  I don't know that there is any one right time frame for that.  I knew 6 months into my relationship that I was going to get married, but I know some relationships that last for years and years and the couple is't ready to commit.  This is really something to decide for yourself.
788395
The next time that he brings it up just tell him point blank you are not ready yet, and if he would just relax a little about it maybe you will feel more comfortable getting married in the future. Just be sure to let him know that you do not want to loose what the 2 of you have now.
296767
What's the length of time that you two have been dating without interruptions up to now, without a break?  How many times have you broken up?  You should deal with the problems that you have had that caused the break-ups before you get married, because those problems will get worse during marriage.  Do you expect him to change?  Well, often that doesn't happen during marriage.  If there's a problem now, fix it.\n\nDo you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him?  Do you have stable jobs?  Are you sure you won't want to break up again?  Think about living with him 24/7.  If you have to go to a site to ask this question, maybe you should hold off thoughts of marriage for a while.