Is it normal for ur bf to ask u to have sex with him just b/c he says that thats what people do when they date
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He's just trying to convince you to have sex with him.  The truth is there are a lot of people out there who date and don't have sex.  Next he'll probably tell you,"well I guess your still a baby since you don't want to have sex. I'll go find someone else" LET HIM!! It's just another ploy to try and get you to have sex with him.  People who love each other don't try to force their partner into doing something they don't want to. Besides this guy is already a loser, do you want to be the next girl he got pregnant and doesn't have a realtionship with?
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I just wanted to say thanks for spelling ho correctly.  Some guys may look at it that way but in all honesty sometimes a girl just wants to get laid too.  If this is a guy that you see yourself wanting to be in a relationship with I wouldn't recommend it, it may just give him the wrong idea about your previous lifestyle.. but like I said, sometimes a girl just wants to get laid, and if that's all you're trying to do.. go for it girl!
993988
Well have you asked him if that's all he wants with you?  I mean, yes, a lot of guys would really like sex... but a lot of guys also want a serious relationship... I'm thinking most people are into both... If he loves you, he might just think that it would be the natual progression to start having sex soon, because it IS a very intimate and personal experience that people want to share with someone they really care about...
78275
If you "do it" with him, do not have any false expectations that he will become your boyfriend. You will be disappointed and you will not feel any better about yourself. You will feel used. Better to find a real boyfriend who likes you for something other than just sex.
928818
2 me it seems like HE wants to be the bf of urs and nobody else. Thats why he always make u spend time with him when u r in a relationship, because he thinks it should be you and him or JSUT you. and thats also why he tlks about other girls, because he thinks that if he does you'll get so jelous of wanting to b the one he's tlking about that it'll FORCE you to go out with him. thats never happened to me so irdk but thats wut i think.\nHOpe things get better,\nAlex
94650
It sounds like you really want some sex.  Just ask him if something is wrong.
1075381
he sounds kinda sketchy.  If you like him go out, but i'd let it play out before i had sex. He might be okay, or he might be a creep.  BUt you won't know unless you go out with him.  \n\nWell, unless you can tell he's a creep already.
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Probably because you let him into the relationship without realizing his true motives or his true self.  Most guys go into a relationship to play ball.  To see how far they can advance around the old bases.  And in today's world sometimes the girls are just as bad.  When you date a guy, don't get physical, like at all.  If he likes you for you, he'll stick around.  If he just wants to bed you, then he'll leave and all the better for you.  Yeah, it will be a little lonely, but at least  you won't be hurt.
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THINGS LIKE THAT TAKE TIME DON'T RUSH HIM AND DON'T RUSH YOURSELF INTO A RELATIONSHIP MY BF AND I DATED AND SLEPT TOGETHER FOR OVER A YEAR BEFORE WE MADE IT OFFICIAL AND THERE WERE TIMES WHEN I THOUGHT WHY ISN'T HE TRYING TO MAKE ME HIS GIRL BUT THEN A WEEK LATER I WASN'T REALLY READY FOR IT AND OUR SCHEDULES CLASHED TOO, THATS WHY WE LET NATURE RUN IT'S COURSE. I DATED OTHER MEN WHILE I WAS DATING HIM THAT DOESN'T MEAN I SLEPT WITH THEM BUT PUT IT LIKE THIS HE WAS MY MAIN BUT I STILL DIDN'T PUT ALL MY EGGS IN ONE BASKET. I'M NOT SAYING WAIT FOR HIM BUT IF HE'S INTERESTED IT'S ONLY A MATTER OF TIME. STILL SEE HIM BUT DO YOUR OWN THING TO UNTIL IT BECOMES OFFICIAL. THEN IF FOR WHATEVER REASON IT DOESN'T WORK OUT YOU HAVE A BACK UP PLAN AND WHO KNOWS YOU MIGHT MEET SOMEONE EVEN BETTER. PEOPLE ALWAYS RUSH INTO RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE THEY THINK THERE SO IN LOVE WHEN THINGS ARE RUSHED THEY NEVER WORK OUT PATIENTS IS A VIRTUE, MY GUY AND I TOOK IT EASY. NOW WE LIVE TOGETHER AND HAVE BEEN WITH ONE ANOTHER FOR 4 YRS. \nTAKE YOUR TIME..\n\nGOOD LUCK !
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Your bf should ask then
997372
Whatever you do don't have sex with him.  He might be trying to give you something that you might want.  Don't trust him.  He's up to something.
528304
Its normal.\n\n& if you dont know these things, you probably shouldnt be having sex.
957550
You are not the smothering type like one person above me said. \n\nYour boyfriend sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too.  You nailed it when you said: "To me, I think this seems like he wants to be able to have me around if/when he wants me, but for me not to get mad if I can't have him around when I want him. Like he wants to be with me, and for me to be there for him, but he doesn't want to have to be there for me."\n\nI knew a guy who was sleeping with this girl for a year and a half and he refused to call her his girlfriend..he just told people they're "seeing each other."  This generally means a non-exclusive relationship, and while he was sleeping with her, he was also seeing other girls and possibly sleeping with them too.  \n\nTell him you're not looking to take a step backward and that if he wants space that badly then he can have all the space he wants because you're leaving him.  He doesn't want to be committed to you? Then he shouldn't get sex or anything else from you.  Don't get used.
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sex, for me, is a very sacred thing.it's only done when u both love each other.actually, there were many times that i & my boyfriend were together.i'm a female & as myself, when i'm with my boyfriend, i just feel like being with him.i don't care where we go or what we do.i don't even care if we don't have money to spend when we're together.what matters to me most is the time we're together, coz this soon will become memories bet.us, & it's healthy.even if he's been my boyfriend for about 3 yrs.,i don't invite him to make love.i just wait for him to say it 1st.when he does, then we do it..maybe u talk to ur gf about this issue.tell her that making love is with someone u love is normal.but make her understand that it's not always like that.it's not even the most basis of love.i mean it's a matter of showing love in other ways like showing u care for the person u love.tell her that the what makes a relationship bet.two people stronger are the memories u are together, & i don't mean having sex all the time.it's more than that.i know u know what i mean.sex is only for physical aspect, but the showing of the person that u care for him a lot is something most valuable & priceless.it's something not all can offer, especially when it's true.
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he is wanting sex.mabye a freindship also.but definatly SEX no matter how u try to justify him.u should have nothing to do with him.
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I think it's the oppisite of what you may think it is.\n\nYou said that he's grabbing your butt, I doubt that that would mean that he doesn't find you attractive. I think it's obvious that he does. \n\nI think that it's possible that he is interested in having sex with you, but doesn't want to interrupt your sleep by waking you up and then feels embarrassed because he doesn't want you to catch him doing the most personal intimate thing you can do with yourself.\n\nMy boyfriend has done this to. I asked him about it and he said that he does it because he doesn't want to disturb my sleep. He also said that sometimes he does it, because it's the only time he gets to only think of himself, but that it didn't mean he wasn't "into" me, just an opportunity to be selfish, because he usually (always) puts my needs first before his own.\n\nWe all know that men think differently than we do, and they don't always openly communicate their feelings.\n\nYou should talk to him about it, especially if this is something that really bothers you. I'm sure you will find out that there is nothing to be worried about.
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Well, knowing only what you've written I will assume you mean dating to be "having sex."  You are two things:\n\n1.  Stupid\n\n2.  Immoral