hey guys: do smart, strong willed women scare you off?  and why...be honest?
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I don't know that I would say they scare me off, but they did tend to put me on the "hotseat" so to speak. It may be an instinctive or self-ego defeating impression we have of ourselves, but most men see strong willed, and intelligent women as a type of threat. We have spent so much time in the role as the "stronger sex" we have trouble finding ourselves in the passenger seat. BUT, what we males tend to forget is that women don't have the same tendency to control, so much as not let themselves BE controlled. A smart, strong willed man is more likely to try to control his female counter-part, while a smart, strong willed woman simply takes a stand and doesn't let anyone push her around. Much different case. So, I personally have found that where I had once felt defensive, I am now much more comfortable and secure in myself, so I don't feel as threatened as I once did. I believe you will most likely find that the younger generation is more inclined to be put off than the older, matured generation.
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Hello, Im not a freak...yet I find it hard to find decent women. I dont look at appearances but the heart and soul...You can change that by being yourself ...sean. Ps. and when a quite guy like myself is afraid to approach you,maybe because im shy, maybe because im normal...go and talk to him....he may be the love of your life although he may not drink or dance like the other guys...
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Sometimes. If I see a guy that is really hot I find it hard to control myself. But then I realize if I come on too strong, it may be a turn-off--so I have learned to control it. Instead I'll just flirt some and see what it goes.
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I prefer intelligent woman that carry themselves well in conversations.  I don't mind girly-girls, but as long as they aren't overly flirty with other people.
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Have you tried asking them out? A confident strong woman sometimes intimidates certain guys but you shouldn't change how you are unless you are disrespectful or verbally abusive. It just takes time and patience. Be open to signs from other people and don't be afraid to make the first move- you may be surprised.
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Personally I would choose anyone or anything over a dumb person. Stupid people really irritate me. Furthermore I find an intelligent man extremely sexy and admire smart women!
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Yes, actually there are many of them out there.  Here is what I know from my own observation:  women, especially those who have come out of a bad marriage/relationship have this wall of ice around them...their body language gives off very clear signals of "approach me and die a slow and painful death"...not to mention the patented "all men are pigs" glare.  Now, there are some brave souls who will approach anyway only to find a sniper from a water tower shooting at them...for no reason!  Be aware of the signals you are throwing off...a nice guy wants to approach without barriers, and won't until the coast is clear.  Nice guys are the ones that never get a fair chance...for whatever the reason.
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Not really, I've had good conversations(not argument) with smart girls.  I'm a pretty quiet guy and i'd have to say most smart girls keeps me talking.  \nI am intimidated by girls who knows more about sports than I do.
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Mainly because men want to be and mostly think they are the "leaders" in the relation; when a strong woman appears, they are afraid they would loose their superiority and that scares them!
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Yes. Everyone I know or have gotten to know, tell me later they where either intimidated or where afraid of me cause I came across as angry or mad.\n\n My soon to be ex even told me that before we got together she was afraid of me. Even now my nieces say that I frighten them. they are in there late teens. \n\nI'm a serious type of person, but deep down I'm just a big lovable bear.
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- smart girls always attract... not oversmart\n- lil bit of attitude but should take some as well\n- pretty eyes\n- sensual lips\n- honesty\n\nanswser 2:\ni would tell her that i have something important to do and avoid a certain date OR i may call a few other friends to join in
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Don't be so dependent.  If it works out with her, then it does.  If it doesn't, don't worry there are more women looking for a good guy.  Hopefully you can communicate better than you spell.  Intelligence goes a long way, unless you date stupid girls..
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It depends on the women usually. What i want tho is a guy who is strong not only as in muscles but a strong mind. A guy who is real not fake, not a cheater,not a moocher, but a real guy. A man who is sweet but not too sweet. Oh, i go for the bad boys too. LOL. A man who can live on his own and has been thro stuff in his life. But if you mean like in anything... Just a man, and some money, beauty products and thingys like that. But personally i'm not all about the jewlry and stuff.  I'm more real and i as a women want to party!
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Agressive women can be very erotic and exciting...but too aggressive women can be scary!  \n\nSomething as making a first move, it would be a plus for the woman.  A lot of the times, especially if the man likes you, we are always thinking of ways to break that "block of ice"...and if you do it first...Wow, you got something coming your way!
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I can't speak for all women, but me personally, It was more of a turn on... something about the shy smile, and being worried enough to care about the impression you're making, intrigued me, made me want to know more. I am speaking from personal experience, my hubby of 20 yrs. now. But I was always very "turned off" by brash over-confident males.
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Even if I'm not interested in going out with the girl, I'm still extremely complimented by her asking. Do women feel the same way... or are they generally just annoyed that someone they're not interested in is bothering them??
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Emotionally weak is hard to put up with, but so is the typical stoic, show-no-emotions type of guy. A nice balance is the best. Physical weakness, it matters to some girls, but not to others. It really just depends on the woman, you know?