why do teenagers become rash and unfeeling towards their parents ?
611427
It's called rebellion.  I had 3 teenage girls at the same time.  A teen feels they are old enough to make their own decisions and don't need their parents telling them what to do.  You don't realize that your parents were once teens also and they know and understand what is going on with you because they went through it to.  truth is, you are not old enough to know better.  You think you are, but you are not.  Parents only want what is best for their children no matter what age.  As hard as it may be, try listening to your parents.  Sit down and talk.  Ask them why they are being so forbidden on certain liberties that you want.  You will be surprised how understanding parents can really be.  Don't give up...it gets better, believe me.
614349
Sometimes.  There are many things that bring forth aggression.  Sometimes it's frustration, sometimes it's ignorance, sometimes it's intolerance.  Quite often a person's aggression level is affected by his upbringing, not just from his parents but his/her close associates.
772893
I don't know your parents, but if they are like mine, above all, they love me.\n\nI am older than you, but I can also tell you that looking back, there is VERY little that my parents made me do, or kept me from that was not from love and for my own best interest. \n\nDon't get me wrong, even parents are wrong at times.  But before you go too far, ask yourself if perhaps they are just looking out for you.\n\nThe largest predictor of a teens immediate future is the friends he or she chooses to be around.  Perhaps your parents are worried that the "rocker" friends you have are a bad influence.  right or wrong, they would have a case.\n\nLooking back, some of the friends I chose to make, were certainly the wrong ones to be around.  \n\nJust a guess, and I hope it helps.
399575
First you need to find out why they will get mad. Is it money they can't afford to spend?  Is it that they are over protective and don't want to see you get hurt?  Sometimes parents "act" angry towards kids because they can't afford things that kids ask for but are too ashamed to admit it to a child. If it is neither then you need to find out the underlying reason and solve it.  Then there will be no reason to refuse.
1167636
Because parents do not instill any responsibility in their children.\nThey're more concerned about making sure they "feel good" and that they're friends instead of pilars of authority as they should be.
242840
I think there's always been a high incidence of depression among teens.  Being a teenager is a really hard time.  Your body and your mind are still immature, and you're extremely restricted in your choices and ability to support yourself, but you have this sense of wanting to break away and develop as your own person.  This feeling along with the hormones that rage out of control during hormones manifest themselves as a lot of frustration and depression.\n\nBut we're starting to hear a lot more about clinical depression now.  Before, parents used to just assume their children were in a nasty mood or they had a bad attitude.  But now that it's been proven that clinical depression is a chemical imbalance and not just a bad attitude, parents much more inclined to seek medical attention for their children than to tell them to just suck it up for fear that something tragic may happen.\n\nIt does get easier though, so stick it out.  I'd give better advice if I knew what you were depressed about (hint hint)
447252
everyone goes through a period of time, usually your teens, when you hate your parents. when i was 16 i thought i knew everything. now that I'm older and a mom, i understand why she did the things she did. just remember that she isn't doing it to piss you off, she only wants what's best for you.
1130878
This is the story of parents and their children throughout human history.  Well, actually, it may be even worse in modern times...  Kids who ignored their wiser parents' advice often got eaten by a saber-toothed tiger, or something similar.\n\nLove for parents usually comes after you reach age 40, or thereabouts.  Before that, it's usually a very mixed-emotion thing.\n\nAnyway, I'll bet your parents felt exactly the same way you do now when THEY were kids, about THEIR parents.  That's the tack you should take, I submit.  Ask them to please remember how they felt about their parents when THEY were children, and then tell them exactly how you feel, just like you described in your very good question.\n\nIf they don't come around then, guess who's fault that is?  Not much fun, perhaps, but you'll know who tried and who ignored your best efforts.\n\nIf they're worth anything, they'll listen to you.
70746
I'm in 11th grade and I would say that is normal. I never really went through the stage of being annoyed by my parents and getting mad at them easily or wanting nothing to do with them, but I've also seen many many people who have. It may take a few years, but she will most likely be back to herself eventually.
180228
You are around her most of the time. Maybe she's getting too used to you. She'll grow out of it. If your parents spoil her and you have to train her right is it any wonder she feels that way? You are made to look like the bad one.
777609
it stems from lack of discipline when the are young. mommy and daddy giving them everything. they expect everyone to just get out of their way.
225343
You can start looking at why they are making you stressed: Is it the nagging? Your parents care for you, but it and can be a down right pain - been there, done that, and screaming at them never worked.  They may not be aware of your inner feelings. Have you tried telling them what the effect of their behaviour is having on you?  You will need to be calm when you discuss this! so onto the next comments:\nTo calm down: Find a quiet spot away from the parents then do abdominal breathing exercises (see source below, or a school counsellor may be able to help you on this)\nTo relax: you can read a book, play an instrument, do something that you enjoy.  Or you can practice yoga and meditation (the techniques are good - you don't need to worry about the religious side of it).  These two exercises when practiced regularly will help you to cope with outside stresses much more readily, since they exercise your body and your mind. Meditation will also help with concentration - something that's useful for school!  But with all things, discuss with your parents on the suitability.\nA word of caution - drugs are not your answer - they will only add to your problems!
1175408
A child will only do as much or as little as their parents allow them to do. Your children act the way they do because you allow them to.\n\nShow them you are their parent they are not in charge. \nYou know all the things you told yourself your parents did and you would never do them well it is time to become your parents.\n\nI know you love your kids but unless you get them in line you will be hurting them not loving them
842939
Sweetheart, the problems of your parents are exactly that-their problems.  You are not a cause of it.  I know that you feel like they don't care about you but they choose to have you, I am sorry they yell at you.  Try talking to your school counselor or your pastor.  You are not to blame.  But sweetie, if you run away you don't make the situation any better for anyone.  Life on the streets isn't pretty, you will get hurt!  Please stay home and talk to someone first and if nothing changes there are other alternatives.  Please don't do it.   Someone does care!!
249729
No, it's not entirely the parent's fault. Assuming that they raised their kids, the right way, there isn't much more that they can do.\n\nKids, expecially teens, can be very deceptive and hateful. I've seen kids that were raised in wonderful, loving homes decide to throw their lives away for no good reason. Every child is different. There's only so much a parent can do, especially if their child is determined to lie to them.
107923
Kids are able to manipulate parents around their fingers. Mainly cos parents think that their kids are as naive as them at that age and kids are getting smarter. I'm not just talking about teenagers. Kids as young as 3 years old are now scolding their parents and directing them. We are living in a screwed up, upside down world. The scariest part is that parents allow themselves to be ordered around.
761405
I am a juvenile (though not a criminal :P) so i think i can answer that question.  \n\n1. parents who set rules and don't enforce them , or parents who don't want to set rules, for fear of their kid not liking them, or being too strict.  let me tell you, all you parents out there : BE STRICT WITH US!! this may sound abnormally absurd coming from a teenager, and you may be thinking what has she been smoking, but i can tell you that my parents are stricter than most of my friend's parents, and i am better off for it.  kids need to be treated differently for who they are, but rules are nessicary, and extremely helpful.. and all the rules in the world will not help if they are not inforced\n\n2.  lack of respect.  i was spanked as a kid, and there is truth to spare the rod and spoil the child.  think about this: when did we start thinking that spanking and disciplining was bad?  and when did school shootings start?  i sense a connection! when you are given the rules from the start, you will follow them.  teenagers are extremely disrespectful to teachers, and they are past caring about suspension and detention.  \n\n3. the organizations that say that spanking your seven year old when he blatantly lies to your face is wrong.