fathers getting screwed?
603325
There are a bunch of organization that can help you.\ntry the links at Fathers' rights links on:\n\n\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Father%27s_rights#United_States_of_America
892192
i think that's something that is between them. if your father feels he should, then let him. If he's worried about not seeing the money, have him get something in writing so if he doesn't get paid back, he can take the grandfather to court.
385087
they will make the dad pay the child support, if he doesn't he will get into trouble.
1006882
The situation you describe sounds really wierd... The doctor's attorney is trying to collect from the father based on a child support order? That just doesn't sound right.\n\nIn any case, the parents are responsible for the medical care of the child, if the father feels that the mother should be responsible (I take it they are divorced?) then he should file a third-party complaint against her for indemnity and contribution (depending on where you live, this may or may not work).\n\nIf the child needed braces/dental work, then he is probably responsible for at least half anyway, whether he was consulted or not.\n\nAs far as negotiating tips... try offering to pay half in a lump sum before the court date in exchange for an agreement that they forget about the other half, negotiate from there.
605908
Wrong.\nRegular, income is figured into child support, you can't figure in any overtime that you can't say will be there everyweek, or a part time job that you never know when you will get to work, ASSUMING that those are not the dad's primary income.  In other words, if he gets the inheritance, it's his, it's not income, you don't get it.  Most states state that you can change support every 2 years, not just when he gets some money and you want it.  Reason is, ya, it's to your advanage to get more money when his luck is good, but when it's bad, you don't want it going down do you?  They has to be a norm, a mid line and that is what they try to find.  You can get bank records to prove he's got money, and whatever, but his lawyer is going to counter with it's not income, it was earned during the court awarded child support, which he paid, and he's not going to earn the 20 grand this year when grandma dies. blah blah.
406930
Ultimately your son is responsible. I he does not have the financial means to fix the damages then you as his parent are responsible. If you don't feel that to be the case then think of it this way. You deposit money into a savings account thereby giving them permission to use it for loans, if the bank get robbed of all their funds are they responsible to you?
427579
I'd hire a hit man!!!! No really I would pursue ever legal avenue I had and make his life a living hell. Nothing worse than a woman scorned. If I didn't have money I'd go to legal aide or petition the courts. You have a right to child support and he should provide it. Then again if you're making it and don't need him get on with it. It all depends on how much you want him in your life. But boy is he's tangled up with another woman, there would be heck to pay at the very least. I am so sorry that the father of your son is a dog and that your son does not have a good roll model. I can't even imagine what you must be going through. There are great men out there, although I'm sure you'll have to learn to trust them again. Hang in There.
497944
Father's are getting more rights in the family courts today.  Some are even receving sole custody of children.  I believe one  of the biggest things is the child support issue.  If the person paying the support would receive an annual accounting from the receiver of the support it would make that issue much better.  The court's are trying to do what is best for the child no matter which parent gets custoday.
1039072
My ex pulled stuff too. Your ex will probably get away with it. Just concentrate on the custody. People like your ex will find a way of getting out of paying and you don't want someone like him raising your child.
793501
Patricia--if you're disabled and raising two children (not your own?) you should apply for every service your county has to offer you--ie food stamps, medical assistance, care taker supplements or cash aid, if available in your state.  The state will be compelled to collect partial repayment from the father (and mother if these are not your children.)  You won't have to wait for a deadbeat to pay--the state sends you the aid and collects partial repayment.  Your child should also be eligible for benefits off your social security if you haven't been collecting that already.  After you've applied for EVERYTHING your eligible for THEN go to your child support office and give them any information you have on the children's father (and mother).  If you do have an order for support and he is only making partial payments he still owes you that money.  Agencies are reluctant to take people who are 'making an effort' back to court because it encourages those who REALLY are trying to quit.  If he is just gaming the system--demand your case be enforced and he be taken back to court and held in contempt.\n\nGood luck!
670807
Dont let this one go - I think the courts take enough of our rights away as fathers - take it to court, prove your relationship and fight for custody over the kids...
857099
If you trully believe 100% that this man is the father of your child then whatever happens I would make him pay!\n\nHunt him down, drag him through the courts and make the bastard pay for his child.\n\nHe can move to Timbuctoo if he likes, I would still make him pay. he can deny responsibility and say he's not the father as much as he likes, but I'd still make him pay. This man is threatening to move/demand DNA tests to intimidate you- he's trying to discredit you as a woman not to mention what he's doing to his child and thats very unfair. Why should you care what happens to someone who stoops as low as this? Why should you care if he struggles or not- He is in the wrong not you! \n \nI'm sure you don't want or need his money but that is not the point. He has a responsibility to this child and even if he refuses to accept he has a moral duty of care (which is very convenient don't you think?) he certainly has a financial responsibility which he should not be allowed to walk away from.\n\nIf I were you, I would demand that he TAKE his DNA test- let him prove that he IS the father of your child and allow him to look like the complete heartless arsehole he really is- What have you got to lose honey?\n\nRemember- you are the one holding the baby, you are the one who is facing up to the loving responsibility of being a good mother and you are the only one who can hold this man accountable for his actions.\n\nSorry, but I do not agree that ANY man who has children should be allowed to simply walk away from their legal responsibilities.\nNever mind the fathers rights- what about the rights of their child? \n\nHunt him down- get everything- make him pay and if you really don't need the money, then put it in trust for your son so that he can use it when he is older.\n\nThere is no shame in making this man pay.. after all he felt no shame in sleeping with you to create a life- he must now be held accountable for his actions!\n\nPlease don't let him away with this- you have the right to be able to life your life and bring up your son with a decent standard of living-the money will help.\nI think that you have had a very lucky escape- Men like this are the scum of the earth and you deserve better!\n\nGood luck.
1127893
Child support and attorney's fees are totally separate. Since you took the mother to court for paternity, you are liable once paternity is established. If she was at fault then she would be the one paying your fees. As for the attorney, if he did not represent you to the best of HIS abilities, then you can report him to your State Bar. If he is found "guilty", he will have to repay the fees that you paid to him, plus a fine. As for your situation, I know here in Texas, you will not be appointed an attorney, no matter how poor you are when it comes to family matters, unless you are being abused and are a child or elderly person (attorney or guardian ad litem).  Now, if you are a criminal, then by all means you are entitled to an attorney at the taxpayers expense. Hope this helped a little.
992382
I think it would be great if we got some of these deadbeat parents to pay up!! I don't know anyone who is getting rich off child support. My support for my oldest is $200. a month. I haven't seen very much support..In the last 10 years I have received $377. SAD...isn't it. I think if he wasn't able to get a drivers license that would make a difference in the amount of child support I would see!!
482344
Could be looking into the earnings of the parent paying support. Depends on jurisdiction how often that can be adjusted up or down (usually up.)
234230
I would probably try to get a hold of something personal of his...and tell him he can have it back when you get your $300!\n Going to court will teach him a lesson...but it may leave you out of pocket!\n Could you get another family member to talk to him about it?
984500
Usually, that isn't the question guys are asking... Oh, maybe you aren't the dad, but the mom.  My bad.\n\nIf you were the dad:\nYou could always just give extra money that doesn't go throught the courthouse. \n\nOtherwise, you can request a review, which takes awhile to complete, but child support offices go to the employer and verify all of the income, and then reevaluates the amount per month owed.\n\nSome states give cost of living increases every year, but some don't.  \n\nDon't listen to the jerks telling you that you should be able to support the child on your own.  You didn't get pregnant on your own, and you sure shouldn't have to support that child on your own.  \n\nCircumstances change throughout life, that's why this evaluation is in place.   Consider if you were both very young when you got pregnant and he was in college or working for minimum wage, but now he's got a decent job.  It goes by a percentage of his income.