How do I rekindle this relationship?
600836
Ok I am here to help you! First of all, I think you and your partner need some time away from each other.. I like the vacation idea but that is a temporary solution in my opinion. I don't know if you guys are living together or just see each other all the time, but my advice will work for both.\n  First of all I think your problem is that you are spending wayyyyy too much time together. Relationships are funny, because even though you love each other so much and you want to spend every waking minute together, the reality is that you can't. You need to think of who you were before you guys found each other. What were you doing before you met him? You need to do things without him girl. You need to find some hobbies to do on days that you don't see him. Go out with your friends, meet them for coffee, take a class, go to the gym...\n  Before you know it, your life will be very busy. The excitement will come back. Your boyfriend will definitely miss you and realize that what he has is a good thing. Don't be afraid to do romantic things for one another...Send him a card, plan a romantic night together by making a special dinner with candles...Just do little things that shows you care. I suggest you buy the Cosmo Kama Sutra book. Try a new position every week! \n  The truth is, things can get boring after two years. But you have to continue to do things to get it to work. Spending alllllllll your time together is a huge no no. You will do enough of that once you are married. Remember, you still have your own identity even though you are in a relationship.\n  Good luck!
466209
just sit him down and tell him.\nit makes it easier that u guys have been together recently, that means he too is willing to come back. tell him u love him so much and u think u guys are good together but u must also discuss the reason u split if not it may happen again. but try not to act too desperate, like ur world fell apart when u guys split cos that could turn him off, ok?\ndont act like it didnt happen, if he did it once and doesnt see why he shouldnt do it agian, u just might split again...\ni really want it to work out fine for u especially since he is the father of your kids...\ntell us how it goes... cheers!
980457
i say you go with the "Bush Doctrine" , and no not to throw your bush in his face...but go for the pre-emptive strike and talk to him about trying to fix it and make things better, new and exciting, before he waits for it to get boring enough to break up with you. \n\nsometimes people just want to wait and wait until they REALLY feel like it's over. attack first and ask him what "we" can do to renew the old flame, date again. have good sex. have fun. \n\ntalk....and now! (but carefully)
512916
Honestly, it doesn't seem like you started your relationship out in the best way.  you can try to salvage it if you're getting signals, but try to do so by becoming friendly without getting too physical for a bit.
692936
This is a seemingly growing problem. Years ago people were together more. Now it seems we barely get time to say hi and bye. Life has changed the dynamics of relationships these days. However, it doesn't mean it's impossible to reconnect on an intimate level with your hubby.\n    You asked can you fall out of love with your hubby after 5 years? And the answer is a simple, Yes. Can you also reconnect and fall back in love? Again a simple YES! \n  The first step was the realization that there is a problem. The next step and maybe the hardest step is to change the way things are. In order to make changes, (and I know I have said this before, but I think it's worth saying again) You have to do the exact opposite of what you are doing now. Which means stop doing what you are currently doing, it's not working! You mentioned you had no "us" time, and that is what I would start with first. MAKE COUPLE TIME! Put your child to bed and sit down and watch a movie together. Try to go to bed together and if nothing else, just cuddle. Talk about your day, and how you can make tomorrow better. You each need to talk about your dreams, goals, and what you want for the future. You each will have separate goals, but you will also need goals as a couple. \nI would also recommend counseling. You can use your pastor, (if you have one) A close family friend with whom you trust and can be neutral, or a professional counselor.\nOther things that you might want to try is a "date" night for you and hubby. Get a babysitter (one you trust) and go away for the weekend once every 3-6 months. Spend quality time together as a couple. it doesn't have to cost a fortune. All you need is a desire to want things to change and a creative mind. I wish you all of the best!
1082031
You both have to meet 50/50.  Talking about it is the best way.  Do other things to fill your time but if you feel like he isn't giving enough then move on.
453660
Stop taking each other for granted.  Say thank you more.  Notice each other more.  Candle-lit dinner.  Weekend away.  Picnic in the park.  Flowers.  Bath together.  \n\nAll this helps things to go well, but you can't make him want you more.
1002646
talk heart to heart...patch up things..if both of you can feel and see that it will really not work at all., then part ways in good terms...let friendship continue the relationship..who knows, the two of you needs only space..
1123393
You don't seem very keen on her any more.  I'd suggest you go to relate or some sort of relationship counselling.\n\nYou could try making a new start: tell her you's like to reignite the spark of your relationship, that you think you've been taking her for granted.  Ask her if she wants to work with you to make things better.\n\nStart eating meals together and going out together.  Restart physical contact without expecting it to lead to sex - cuddles, kisses, maybe rub her shoulders.\n\nNotice if she looks good and tell her.  Take it in turns to cook and compliment her if she makes something you enjoy.\n\nDon't expect an overnight change.
596487
Let him know you want more of him, set time aside for one another you have to build a relationship.
39203
think long and hard about why you two split up to begin with. if you feel like you have both changed and can make it work this time, give it a shot. \nare there children involved? if so be VERY careful not to get there hopes back up if things wont work out again.
873860
well, you can call her, sweety...talk to her about things that's been going on, but don't go anywhere near the break-up thingy...\n\nthen invite her out for coffee, and have a nice time joking, telling stories as such...\n\nthen when you think the time is ready, ask her if she wants to rekindle the love with you...\n\nif she says no, then at least stay as friends...\n\nmaybe God has something else planned for you two...
914066
have ya tried sitting him down and telling him the truth ? about how you feel about him ,etc.. and discuss Honestly and openly what went wrong in the past with your relationship with him ...what you like to see different if you two are to have another relationship together ...
802744
Sometimes we get so caught up in our daily routine we forget how we got there in the first place.  There are ways to rekindle the passion: go out on a date (just the two of you) once in a while, make a "just us" evening once a week like sitting and listening to music together.\nMy partner and I usually designate Friday evenings for "us" time, we sit and watch a movie together (no matter how silly the movie is).
56657
If the relationship is important enough, and you're sure you want to try to fix it...try to fix it. Send an email...leave a voicemail message...send them a letter...above all- keep trying. :)
24542
I'm going through a similar situation. I left. Don't do that. You both need to decide if it's worth trying to get the closeness back. Be open about the things that you enjoy doing together and things you don't. Try and figure out how you two grew apart. And do it together. No matter how hard it is. If it's worth it, take the time to make it work. It wont happen on it's own.
319551
My suggestion would be to start all over, let me explain.  When you were dating, before kids, before the wedding, what did you do?  Did you enjoy going to dinners?, movies?, hiking?  Whatever it was that brought you two to the point of falling love do it again.  Send the kids to grandma's for the weekend, get a babysitter for friday night and go to dinner.  Sure, it may feel a little weird the first few times you go out, but that's because you haven't done it in a while.  Start slow and build from there.  There's no majic trick to finding the spark again, you need to work at it, but it will come!  Remind yourself, and your spouse, why you fell in love and got married. \n\nHope this helps!