my BF says tht he loves me but not his actions & behaviour. Wht shuld I do to find out wthr he truly loves me?
606493
First of all, religious differences are a major concern. If his religion forbids marrying out, you won't have a happy marriage as far as his parents go... Take that into SERIOUS consideration.\n\nNow the way he treats you, I mean, I know you love him but he really doesn't seem that interested in you. Why would he want to wait for five years? He thinks his parents will somehow approve of you in five years and now they just can't see the situation clearly?\n\nSend me a private message if you want to discuss this further. Just give this some really serious thought, marriage is forever and the last thing you need is a divorce a few months after getting married AFTER waiting years and years!
580684
HE MAY BE TELLING YOU WITH WORDS THAT HE LOVES YOU BUT THE TRUTH BEHIND IT IS HIS ACTIONS.  WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE YOU WANT TO SPEND MOST OF YOUR TIME WITH THAT PERSON AND YOU DO SPECIAL THINGS FOR THAT PERSON. LOTS OF GUYS ARE VERY FREE WITH TELLING A GIRL THAT THEY LOVE THEM AND NOT REALLY MEANING IT JUST TO TRY AND GET WHAT THEY WANT.  GOOD LUCK
511575
We say alot of things when angry and it is usually the way we feel. I would not tell someone that he probably doesn't love you, but I will say make sure to watch his actions and go by that. He will never change and it will only be useless to think he will. You can only change yourself. Keep your head held high and never compromise what you believe in..
296541
Well, how long you've been in the relationship has a big factor in telling if he loves you. Also, go on our feelings, but don't let them take over. I myself have an extremely active imagination...\n\nBut sweetie, you also have to trust him. If he hasn't done anything in the past to betray your trust, that you know of anyway, then chances are he won't and is a genuinely good guy. And also, does he tell you he loves you a lot? Is he affectionate to you? How much time do you spend together, etc. If he rarely sees you, it would make a little more sense if you get a little worried, not that it has to mean anything. Just talk to him. If he does really love you, and respect you and your feelings, tell him you love him so much you don't want to be hurt by him, and want to really know his feelings for you. If he really loves you you will know it. Just don't ask him too many times because if he is true in his intentions, it will upset him to be questioned so much. Good luck!
92758
well  i can understand u the if u really sure that he really loves u   then  the best way  is  make him  feel that if  he'll step forward that won't effect your realtionship in  negative manner. coz that is the only reason that is stoping him . it happens if two ppl are frnds and  if a love feeling start genrating ,most of that time ppl don't express  they afraid of loosing the present realtionship the y have  so dear   b4  expressing ur self make him feel comfortable and let her fear away .. and  may  god bless you  u'll definetly get you love
680098
the best thing you can do is to have a heart to heart talk with your bf, tell him what you like esp.when it comes to occassions like this,maybe he's not used to showing his love and affection the way you wanted or the way you expect it..
1134471
u can tell if ur bf really loves u when hes willing to change bad habits that u dont like and if he goes out of his way to plan romantic things for u not just an ordinary date and most of all when he does simple things for u like fix u something to eat when ur hungry and u didnt ask him to do or just tell u that u look beautifil everyday and if he trys to cheer u up or make u feel better when ur not well....thats true love thats how u know because he will go through trouble just to keep a smile on ur face
80073
Hmmmm.  I don't think how YOU feel is any indication of whether or not your man really loves you.  I think it's best to put your feelinging aside for a bit and take a look at how he treats you.\n\nDoes he respect your ideas, opinions, attitudes, feelings, and behaviors?  Does he support your values -- allowing you to follow your own system of beliefs?  Does he allow you to express yourself, and is he willing to work with you to reach compromises when the two of you disagree?\n\nDoes he know your weaknesses, good and bad, and allow you to be "less than perfect"?  Does he protect your weaknesses rather than criticise you or open you up to ridicule?\n\nDoes he treat you with gentleness and kindness and yet know when you are ready to break loose in a chicken fight or giggle fest?  \n\nDoes he share some of your most personal interests?  Does he share your goals?\n\nDoes he know you well enough to love you for you -- whoever you are and whatever you are living through right now, at this moment?\n\nDoes he say he loves you?\n\nIt's easy to mix up our feelings with someone and assume the other person feels the same as we do.  If there is any question, let some time pass.  It takes time to know someone well enough to know if there is love between you and not just chemistry.
517612
You cant tell. Well, try to talk about your relationship and see if he gets all soft on how he loves you and such.
285427
tell this very openly to ur bf...let him know abt ur feelings or else kick his ass and just walk off coz he is always concerned abt himself.
1058005
Has he told you that he loves you? If he has, then he is probably patiently waiting for you to express your love for him, so he really won't care how you do it, as long as you're authentic. If he hasn't then he's most likely too shy and is wondering how you feel about him...
233851
Baby...you could do better. I think that he doesn't really love you. If he did, he would do anything and everything to brighten up your day up. Just think about it, is this what you want?
671764
If you love him and he loves you then don't worry about it! Just be yourself, and if he doesn't love you for you then don't worry about loosing him!!
19053
i think the arguing is a clue that there is a lack of love somewhere. remember actions speak louder than words. only you will know if he truly loves you or not
158224
Just show youre BF how much you love him, that you can't live without him and specially be honest and true to yourself
195113
Those indicates that he loves you. My advise would be, to get more intimate with him, just the way he wants you to, and see how he reacts. Even after doing as he wants you to if he questions your work, then he is just saying things, and not being original. I think that's the only way you can surely test if he is being honest with you or not.
576544
Don't listen to all the narrow minded answers you received.\nLike many relationship issues, there are few black and white answers.\nYou have to consider many things, do you love him, does he love you, is he truly sorry, are you two happy together.\nYou never know, this could just strengthen your relationship.