I thought I had foud the perfect guy but no........ now what can I do????
612580
Sounds to me like this guy is just as you described .. an arrogant, disrespecting ***hole so, in my opinion, the best way to handle people like him is to take him down a notch or two. Try this ... put your hair in a ponytail above your ears, catch him in a group of mutual friends and walk into the group smiling at him and say "remember what you told me about girls who wear their hair like this? well, it might be true but guess what? ... you're never gonna find out with me. Smile, wink and walk away.\n\nHave fun!!
428176
dating, cool... \n\nif it goes further than fun I'd just make sure you didn't give your heart to someone who is not ready for commitment...\n\n\nHowever I'd also add that by looking at your other answers you seem like a together, feet on the ground individual, so I'd guess you've picked a guy who's pretty together too.\n\nI wish you all the best
554738
hi,first of all u knew from the start that what you did was wrong.i think you love him and i think u see something that u did'nt see in other man but u need to accept the truth that he will not be your's forever.he already belong to someone else and i think what should u do is to hang-out with your friends and meet people and try to forget him and someday the right guy will come along and you will be surprise.have faith and respect to yourself.u deserve to be happy! and there are millions of guy in this world so don't waste your beauty and time to him.goodluck
1133899
Just wait sweety it will happen. I was like you thought that all decent guys were taken or gay. They are not, I have the best bloke in the world and he is my best friend too. We started off as friends and it just went from there! Good luck and be patient. xx
314214
We were just born at different times and different places that kept us apart.  Everything you described about yourself is qualities that I find very attractive.  I like someone who is open minded and opininated and independent.  You have awesome qualities.  When you are opininated that means you believe in what you are saying.  I have restored my own house and totally independent and can fix pretty much anything.  I cannot find the right girl to save my life.  Most girls are so boring it kills my spirit.  There are guys out there who would love a girl like you.  I think you need to move out of the city you live in and start fresh.  I think your life would change for the better in no time.  On the inadequacy and shame, see a therapist, they can get those things out of you.  We were all wounded in some way as children.  You have to go back in and reopen the wounds and let them heal correctly, otherwise they will fester for a long long time.
103756
as far as the perfect guy there is not such a thing. Perfection is something to strive for that one can never attain. as far as where to find them i know where not to find them. if you have had bad relationships in the past and go back to where it started or where you met them and meet someone else and that turns out badly then do you think that maybe that is not the right place to be looking. try the library, religious gatherings if you are religious, places where people of integrity go.
1042601
i think you should wait til something comes to you, maybe when your alone with him. be patient, something will come to you that will be perfect. and it will be more special, because you thought of it yourself.
914814
Then he wasn't really your boyfriend otherwise he would have stayed with you.\nFind someone worthy of your time and attention.\nTry...www.plentyoffish.com for help.
661813
mean carleen is right.  There is nothing you can do.  Clearly if there was any interest on his part something would have happened.\n\nWhat you are describing is not really a love issue it is infatuation.  You are infatuated with this guy and in your mind are creating fantasy scenarios about how things would be if you were together.  You need to get over it and find a guy who likes you back.
476021
It sounds to me like you need to move on and find someone that is interested in you. Don't waste your time trying to please some guy... you will regret it in the long run. Move on and try to find out who you are.
341582
As time goes on you will heal, don't let the thought of a man bring you down, remember this to shall pass. You had a decision to make and you made it, good for you, you left before it got any worse. Give yourself enough time to realize what you really want out of life, when the time comes and the right person comes along you will just know that you did the right thing. Right now your just looking for a rebound b/c your not used to being alone anymore, try it you just might find out that you like it that way.Good Luck.
247400
because you set expectations...you had high standards...\nregarding to those you like, they are not just the right person for you...and you shouldnt be looking for the guy...love comes, never search for it.it will come in the most unexpected place and time...
249083
Go party it up!! Live a little .. Go out and do what single guys do!! You will be fine, it was just a crush we all have them now it's over, find a new one!!
736374
I had this same exact problem for so long and I am just now coming out of it. It is going to be very wonderful when you come out of this experience knowing so much and able to help other people with the same exact problem. First of all, I want you to think about all the time you've wasted just sitting and daydreaming about him. That's time you could have used to make your life better by doing things you enjoy and you could have made other peoples' lives better. Next I want you to ask yourself, "What has he ever done for you?" It's really hurtful to realize that you've wasted your time wanting somebody that you just can't have but trust me, you will have so much free time once you just stop thinking about him. You have to be willing to stop talking about him w/ anyone, pretty much pretending he doesn't exist anymore. Avoid listening to songs that remind you of him. With the guy that I liked, he was actually undesirable and it took me so long to realize that he just wasn't a good match for me at all. So hang in there and remember there is absolutely nothing wrong with being singe cuz you're waiting for the right guy! You deserve a guy that's young enough and that you can actually go out w/! good luck! e-mail me if ya need to!
321508
You need to focus on what you want...not what's wrong with them. When you meet someone you like, their "defects" are no big deal...don't settle. Keep looking for what you want.
271014
Well if you ask me I would have to say you need  to find different friends. Stop looking for guys they will come to you and that man might be the right one.
418246
I would move on to the next lucky guy. Life is too short to worry about why one person fell out of love with a delightful person like you. He just didn't have good taste in women. There is no shortage of guys that would love you!