my guy wants a child and im infertile what do i do? my former man left me because of infertility. plse help me
603808
There is insufficient data for a meaningful answer. Have you consulted a doctor? What is the exact reason why you are infertile? There are lots of techniques and procedures available today to treat infertility. If it is too expensive in your country, check out third world countries like India, which have excellent health infrastructure and are concentrating on health (medical) tourism, where you get to see the country and treat your problem in one go! Of course, this may not work for infertility treatment, as you may need multiple consultations before you conceive!
598050
I think alot of your responses are good ones , but i agree with one main point communication. If you have tried to talk about it then maybe just give it a little time. If he truly repects your feelings and knows how much you want children then it will work out for the best. Kids are a big comitment and belive it or not once the kids come men are kinda stuck, i mean that in a nice way, we know that once the kids come it's no more hanging out with the boys all the time,and also no more time for us only for the kids. So maybe u should talk about how You will make sure to balance the time and allow him to still have his time. The truth is once the kids get here He will enjoy the hell out of them and naturally love them and care for them, it's all a part of becoming a man, i real man that is, so good luck and remind him that one of the best things about kids is making them, lol, just kidding, but it is fun.
870587
I was feeling the same way not so long ago.\n\nMaybe it's just a female urge, but I really wanted to get pregnant. I wanted to have a baby who was half of me, and half of him, I wanted a baby I could love and watch grow up.\n\nBut, I realized the life of that child would be deprived. As much as I know I would love him or her, they'd have very few chances at a good and equal future. If you guys aren't seeing each other enough, maybe you should talk to him about it. If basketball comes before you, then maybe that relationship just isn't the right one to commit yourself with a child to. Who knows when he'd leave you?\n\nBut, if you are pregnant, I suggest you seriously discuss it with him, and if you aren't completely sure he can provide for you and the baby, then maybe you need to think about adoption. It's a hard decision, but if it's in the best interest of the baby, it's quite possibly the best decision, too.\n\nGood luck,\n~Morgan~
123529
If you're sterile your options are not have kids, have your partner artificially inseminated (sp) with some sperm from a donor, or adopt.  Just because it isn't your genetic material that's being used doesn't make you not the dad.
884292
COME ON ! ! YOU CAN ALL WAYS GET ANOTHER MAN ONE EVEN BETTER THEN WHAT YOU'VE GOT NOW , BUT YOUR KIDS ARE ONE OF A KIND. THEY ARE THE ROOT OF YOUR LIFE ,THEY MAKE YOU WHOLE ( YES  OR  NO  ? ) THERE ARE TO , TOO  MANY MEN IN THIS WORLD JUST SO YOU'LL SETTLE FOR THE ONE BREAKING YOUR HEART EVERY TIME YOU SEE HIM , THINK HARD SWEETHEART .
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I been there and done that, I thought maybe the relationship would change and things would get better so i gave it a chance and i ended up having a child with him and still our relationship had no spark but i was stuck at least thats what i thought. I gave him 5 years of my life because i didn't want to hurt him but we have been broken up for 10 months almost and hes gotten over it fine even thou he told me he was going to kill himself and a million other things .... hes moved on and so have i....  you have to make urself happy before you can make someone else happy and if theres no spark and you can't see yourself being together forever then honestly i wouldn't wait around like i did ..... good luck and don't stress yourself out about it so much * hugs *
914867
Ask him where this is going. Just because you have a child with him does not attach you indefinately to someone who doesn't want you completely. If he has a hard time answering you, maybe you need to consider if you'd be better off without him.
362468
Well being open and honest is the best, if you really want to have a child  then talk to him about it, just let him know that this is what you want, and ask him his oppion on it, it is better to be open about these things,
203485
I'd assume he's ready to be a dad, ready for that kind of commitment.  I'm guessing she isn't ready for that yet, maybe won't ever be.  I'd guess it was time for this sweet guy to move on, find a relationship with someone new, maybe someone who also wants to be a parent. Men are lucky in that their biological clock isn't as insistent as a woman's.  He might want kids now, but he'll be able to wait until he finds the right person to have them with.
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Sorry to hear that but you have to get over him honey. He has a baby and he has to be there for his kid. Besides wouldn't you want you first kid to be your man's first kid as well. Get over him or you will get hurt.GOOD LUCK!
349008
They say when you truly love someone you would give up your life for them. and from what i see it seems that is exactly what you have done. you have no life of your own it is all about his life and no advice can help you you have to decide on your own. That does not seem to be your worse problem though you say you are 2 months pregnant? then why does your other question say you are having trouble conceiving
197697
Wow!!  You really need to sit down the both of you with your parents and have a serious discussion about your options and your future.  Two children is a lot to handle and very expensive.  Unless your families are very supportive and willing to help financially and emotionally you may want to consider adoption or abortion.  You are soooo young and so is your boyfriend, be sure about your decision!
488464
Go with your heart. If you're not happy the sooner you split the better. My girlfriend, who is now pregnant with my baby, left her husband for me. They had two kids together. It's never too late to take a chance. We are deeply in love. However, leave him to be self-sufficient. Don't leave him to be with this guy who "doesn't love you enough to be with you"! That's just stupid. If he really loves you he would want to be with you. Otherwise he probably likes you and likes the sex, but doesn't really love you.
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First find out IF you have a STD and if so which one. If it is a curable STD then you fertility could improve with treatment. Also as someone who has been treated for infertility I can say that your doctor should not say your fertility is impaired without further testing. Get more information from your doctor first, before going to your boyfriend.
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it's very hard for us men to understand the desire you have to want a biological child of your own, that "biological clock" kinda thing. we think more of the fact that some strange man will be impregnating our wife. \nits a hard enough thing to get over an affair, with a child as an outcome. and i know the two are TOTALLY different, but to a man..they are quite similar in feeling.\nhe may feel inadequate as a man, for being unable to give you what you so desperately want; a child. and he may resent that you want that child so badly that you would choose to be pregnant by a stranger..rather than adopt.\nmy wife and i discussed this option at length..i personally didn't like the idea...but i wouldn't have denied her the right to have the biological child she dreamed of having; she choose not to go that route...but only because in the end, the idea of another man's sperm..in her...made her ill.\n\nyou both need to discuss every option, i know he doesn't want to...but i think if you try to calmly let him know just how important it is to you, he would listen. let him know you want to hear HIS side of it as well. \ngood luck
623586
Sounds like he just isn't ready to be where you want him to be.  You ever heard of the BabyBoy syndrome, I think he has that.  He's selfish and childish and you need to stop wasting your time.  He's going to get you pregnant and then he will have no interest in you anymore.  Get out of the rut, leave him and do something positive with your life.  He isn't ready for what you have to give him.  If he is doing this now he will NEVER put into the relationship what you do.  And this gets really old really quick... trust me.
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If he didn't want to get married before - he sure isn't going to marry you now ***and raise some guys kid***  That ain't gonna happen, sweetie.\nPut the shoe on the other foot: Would you do that for him?  \nMove on.  Raise the child alone.  Use better judgement in the future so your child won't have to suffer for your mistakes.  The child already has to grow up without his real father.  \nDon't feel bad, you are just one in a million who have done the same thing.  Life goes on.