why is it people these days don't discipline theres kids and they end up being brats?
603429
It's work! Work is a four-letter word.\n\nYou have to monitor every move the kids make. Ooh! Sticking their fork into the socket? That's a paddlin! What about screaming and running around in Old Country Buffet, sticking their dirty hands and noses into the creamned broccoli? Oh! You have to get up and get them back to their seats and talk quietly but firmly to them and say no, we don't DO that.\n\nThen there's the problem of saying NO. No, you cannot have a pit bull. No you cannot keep a frog in the toilet. No, you may not sleep on the lawn in a plastic garbage bag, I don't care what Mrs. Lambert lets little Percy do. \n\nYes, you have to do your homework, no it can't be on the back of your lunchbag. Yes, you have to go to church, no you can't kick the back of the pew all during the sermon. Yes you have to eat your main course before you can have pudding, no you cannot have pudding because you didn't eat your meatloaf nor your green beans and you pushed your carrots into your sister's glass of milk. I saw you, don't say you didn't do it.\n\nIt's work! It's a LOT easier to say, sure, go ahead, eat frosting and poptarts for breakfast, I don't care, and yeah, you can watch 14 hours of television marked Parental Discretion, I don't give a hoot. You can stay up, run and yell, tear up the neigbor's prized camellias, eat dog food, just ..don't...bother...me.\n\nGet the picture?
533098
Yes...up until the time they are a legal adult.  Maybe parents should think about this before allowing so much permissiveness in their family. I am a strict Mother(no corporal punishment...but lots of consistency and time out and good choice/ bad choice options). I feel it is my duty, and moral responsibility to raise well mannered and caring people. I KNOW I am responsible for my children's actions.
165761
Some of these people really don't have your best interests at heart, telling you to run away, yell, demand, cry. That doesn't get you what you want, and it doesn't help you learn how to deal with the real world, who don't really care if you're having a bad day or not. Not knowing you or your parents, I can only speak from my years of experience, raising my two kids to adulthood (with NO bloodshed!). When my teenaged daughter yelled at me, it did not make me want to give in or get all warm & fuzzy. It made me clamp down and cut her off, sending her to her room, often with a lot less than before (like being grounded for sassing). The best way to deal with parents who have clamped down on you is to find out why they are holding you back. Do they have a reason for not trusting you? Have you done something to make them clamp down on your freedom? If you're too young and you want to do things that only older kids are doing, they are trying to protect you from what could be a very bad situation. They have experience, that's what makes them know what to do. No, parents aren't perfect. We have screwed up lots of times. But, we remember what it was like to be your age, and all the feelings that go with it. That hasn't changed over the years. Feelings are still feelings, no matter how long ago we were kids. When you become a parent, you want to protect your kid from all the nasties that are out there, especially other kids who we have NO control over. We don't know what kind of morals other kids have been raised with, or even IF they have any morals. So, us parents have the tendancy to hold you kids just a little too much sometimes. Even though we know that we have to gradually give you your freedom, the process is sometimes painful for us to see, especially when we see you act in a way that brings too many memories back for us. It's like watching a train wreck. You know what's gonna happen if you don't warn someone to throw the switch on the track, but sometimes the wreck has to happen to fix a bigger problem. That's why some parents let their kids get thrown in jail, even though everything inside them wants to just hold them close and save them from harm. It's better that they learn some hard lessons before things get really bad. So, it really bites, being a parent sometimes. Try to think of what your parents have to put up with. Maybe changing places with them for a day will help you see what they have to put up with on a daily basis. It's not just off to work, then come home and put your feet up & yell at the kids for not getting their chores done. It's more than that. Many kids say they can't wait till they get to be 18 and free. Guess what? With freedom comes RESPONSIBILITY. You are then responsible for EVERYTHING you do & say. One person said it very well...enjoy being a kid for as long as you can. You're getting your eats, heats and everything else for nothing. Out in the real world, when you need a dentist, you have to pay boo-coo bucks just to pull your tooth out, let alone get a filling. Same thing for when you get sick. Just one antibiotic pill can cost over $10.00 and you'll need on the average of 10 pills to get better. And that doesn't even add in the cost of seeing the doctor, which is $60.00, where I live. What I would suggest, little one, is learn to listen a little more, learn to help a little more, and after a while they just might loosen their hold on you. When they can see that you're showing signs of growing up and taking responsibility, they'll give you more freedom. But, don't blow it by taking advantage of their trust. Once you have it, losing it would take you that much longer to get it back. Also, if you ask them how you can help a little more around the house, it would make a big impact on how they treat you in the future. When all you give them is attitude, that's all you'll get back, along with a very lim
607868
It all starts at home. The demoralization of America throughout the media definitely doesn't help -- which is ever-present on the T.V. in almost every home. Most households have both parents that work now, instead of just one, which contributes to the lack of attention and discipline. The whole corporal punishment (or lack thereof) certainly doesn't help. Spanking, when used in moderation, and doesn't cross the line to abuse is a good thing. We have lost a lot over the years, and these are just a few reasons I believe that things have changed for the worst.
630494
Too many people are having children and dont know how to raise them; anyone can be a parent but not everyone can raise a child properly. Each generation is getting more hostile and angry, and it's to do with the home, because the parents don't know what they are doing, they don't know how to teach a child respect or morals, simply because they don't care! More birth control is needed!!
1079407
Laziness, I guess. It seems parents do less parenting these days by working too much and leave other people to burden the responsiblity of raising their kids.
325173
I would not whip my children.  They are better ways to discipline children than abuse.
296441
They have to deal with kids every day, which is stressful in itself.  They don't get paid that much, and their job is very important.  It doesn't make it any easier when their students act up.  I had some mean teachers when I was a kid, but I understand why some are like that now.  Of course, some people are just mean in general and shouldn't even be teaching!
992307
Parents aren't being mean, just teaching their child a lesson and the facts of life. Many things parents do are for their children's health and help. I mean you have to teach discipline one way or the other right.
609332
spanking yes, beating, no. in years gone by, spanking was always used. people grew up with more respect and crime was no where near as bad. u could leave your doors open and be safe and not be burgled etc. kids were no where near as spoiled as they are now yet they grew up a whole lot better. more considerate, more respectful and were thankful for wot they had.
332425
parenting parenting parenting,  nowadays kids are not scolded for doing wrong or taught how to interact with others.  Hate to say it but the internet is a big reason.  Kids chat online without actually meeting people alot of the time so there social skills suffer.  I saw some poor kid apply for a job and he didnt even look at our boss. Didnt dress for interview and didnt say much but mumble.  He later admitted to me that he was afraid to talk to people because he didnt get out much. Spent most free time with video games and the internet.
591956
My opinion is because they just don't care, they are burnt out, been rude to & now thye reflect how they have been treated.\nParents don't take time to teach their children to be respectful to others, it's a real shame!
963202
Well to be perfectly frank people in this day and age are jerks.\nPeople seem to be involved with themselves caring little about anyone or anything else. They are a product of the fast paced world we live in today. Don't get me wrong not everyone is like this. You are obviously old school (a very good trait), but most people in the world today weren't raised like you. Don't give up keep being yourself (even though it may piss you off sometimes). Believe it or not by being the way you are you are most definitely making a difference in the lives of others, even though you may never know it. Good Luck. And by the way good afternoon!!!
236014
I believe that their brains have not yet fully grown and they would rather not feel their pains, stresses and humiliations so resort to not being present. It takes a strong individual to say no to peer pressures and sometimes kids don't have that self discipline to do that.  They need strong parents and family to instill those traits.
235718
Lack of Discipline - they are out of control.
556394
Today kids seem angrier and more hostile.  There's also a pack mentality.  When I was in school, if you got in a fight, once the other person went down, you quit.  Now kids keep kicking and stomping and then more kids will pile on.  It's terrible.  It's like they've lost their ability to control their selves.
236650
Parents are the most important.  They are definitely lax in disciplining their children today.  My neighbor negotiates with her 5 and 7 year olds over everything.  They don't listen to her at all and they have no chores or homework.  She says they just won't do it.  That's a sad excuse.  But then they can play video games and watch TV anytime they want.  This is poor development.  \n\nTeachers and counselors guide children to become well adjusted.  \n\nNeighbors and friends teach them by their example how to treat others.