Is it ok to have fantasies of a guy whom you know that you could never be with?
596364
why not, its just a fantasy
408118
What we don't know doesn't hurt us, or get us mad for that matter. If we know, then it all depends on how we are. Some of us will probably get offended or something and some will probably like it because it's like getting extra attention. I personally wouldn't mind knowing if a guy fantasized about me. I think I'd rather know than not.
35516
I agree with the previous poster, I was abused in two of my relationships, and recently my boyfriend killed himself, and since then just the thought of dating any guys makes me extremely uncomfortable, I'm even uncomfortable being in the same room with a guy that would most times be near my type. And of course I've had intensive therapy for a very long time, and have yet to not freeze up around even guy friends, and it has destroyed many friendships because I am unwilling to open up and share my feelings, and am often called cold, or unfeeling. The best advice, give it some time, when the right one comes along then you'll most likely have feelings of attraction for them.
683005
sure, but he's not, he's just a man like any other with flaws and quirks and history, its your idea of him that is innocent and sweet, which you know because you admit you stay away so you don't really know him at all, its just power and characteristic you have assigned to him in your mind, get to know him he may turn out to be a total jerk!
455383
only you know what he's like. follow your heart, do you really  think he would do this? and if you think he would, then, you obviously don't trust him. if you think he's capable of somehting like that, then, the feelings must not be there strongly enough on either part
726682
Easy! Everytime you think of him or see him just teach your mind to remember one thing. He's got STD's! Stay away from him! Run, Run Forest Run!! And you should be ok.
529076
It is absolutely impossible to be in love with someone you have never met.  It's called 'infatuation'. \n\nIt's like thinking you're in love with an actor or someone on television.  You don't know them and you will never meet them, but you 'feel' you are in love with their character.
610922
the feeling is not always right. sometimes that feeling means you have an infatuation, and infatuations can be with many bad men. be careful!!
551716
yes!! I use my imagination. That's what keeps a relationship together sometimes. Well mine atleast. I don't think about him when we are doing it.
588457
Despite what many people tell us it is possible to have a deep relationship with a male and not think of him in a sexual way or anything like that.  This may be the reason why you are friends because instead of intimate feeling for him he may remind of a brother or someone else you admire.
163145
Why not? But just put your expectation to a minimum level. Be mature enough and it may happen also that when you are out with him may be you dont wanna continue this...you dont know...but you need to know that than living with fantasy...about a guy at least...you know? guys dont have much to offer to really impress you other than...so think what you want...
996676
fantasys are just that. dont worry over something like that.  at some point go over both your fantasys and hers see where it gets you.
891086
absolutly not... you should be comfortable enought to say or do anything with that special someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with!
59725
No...you're human.  Sticking to a commitment is very honorable, but fantasies are just that...fantasies.  Acting on those fantasies would be wrong, but having them is a part of the human psyche.
674856
Not necessarily. You tend to dream of anything that has been on your mind through out the day. If you think about a guy you dream of him even if he is not interested in your shadow. It just shows that you like him, but who knows, he might by chance be the one.
782229
My top fantasy, believe it or not, is just to find a close friend and a hot lover in the same person. For whatever reason everyone I fall for turns out to be only one or the other....
629588
It's called a mercy or pity f**k.  I am in the last relationship of my life now, so I wouldn't do it.  But I have done it.  There are guys that are very sweet and nice but physically unattractive or geeky, and they have never and would never be laid if somebody compassionate didn't do them.  And they are everlastingly grateful.  How would you like to be someone's favorite fantasy for the rest of their life??