Is it ok to use my sex appeal to get myself up in my workplace?
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Real answer.\n\nThe truth is, Sarah, you won't have to go out of your way to use it, and it will be better if you don't anyway. People are naturally attracted to beauty, elegance, and high quality. Attractive people have a much better likelihood of success in business.    Just like people that dress well, are charming, and are likeable.  It all comes down to being likeable.\n\nAs an attractive woman with sex appeal, people will want to like you, although many will let envy and jealousy prevent themselves from doing so, and blame it on you. (I'm sure that's happened to you before.)  But that's just a burden of the blessing that you have. And what will help you most is to manage that burden. \n\nHow? By seeking to understand first, then to be understood.  By showing interest in others first, which will make you interesting in their eyes, and just by being "down to earth".  If you do those things, the blessing of your physical attributes will come off as being non threatening, and amiable.  You will multiply their effect.  Everyone will want you on their team.  And that makes you a leader.\n\nIf you make a concerted effort to use your sex appeal, the guys will want to sleep with you, and the ladies won't like you, and you will have to manuever through both enemies, and hard-ons.  A lot of extra work...
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Tricky situation...\n\nIf you decide you want to do her, then work late often.  However, she needs to make the first move.  Afterall, she's the boss, right?  Once she puts the two of you in a less than professional situation and it is understood that it is consentual and everything is cool, then take her in every way.  Have sex in the office on her bosses desk, etc.     \n\nNow for the problem...although you are the employee and therefore not quite as responsible for behavior that might be against policy or a conflict of interest.  In essence, she will realize that if things were to go sour, she could get into some real trouble to the point of being fired.  You've really got her over a barrel.  However, if it comes to your word against her's and if she is a valuable employee, she could simply deny everything and who's to know the difference.  Now you're the one that will be fired.  Eventually, one of you will say "It was great, but now it's over."  The other person may not take this well and go off the deep end.  Now there's a lot of explaining to do.  If you let this affair happen, you can safely predict that one of you will be gone within a year.  \n\nNow, if you still want to enjoy the gifts that life has to offer and be naughty with her, and I'm not saying you shouldn't, you need to be smart and protect your interests.  Collect and retain evidence, such as a card she might have given you, emails, voice messages, bra & panties.  With this, she will never dare take the risk.  In fact, when it comes time for your performance evaluation and raise, it should be very interesting and amusing to watch her try to remain separately objective.  My crystal ball says you should do quite well.\n\nHaving said all this, I know that I could manage it well.  When an opportunity for hot sex comes my way, I go for it.  However, I've also seen people totally mess up their lives because they just can't keep their emotions under control.  Only you can decide if you can make this work.  If you doubt yourself, it might be safer and easier to leave it alone and avoid further situations where either of you might be tempted.\n\nSo, what do you want out of life... daring excitement with calculated risk/reward or non-spontainious safety with no risk/no reward?  I say; our time is short, so make the most of it.  Let those puppies breathe, let those panties fly and give her a deep one for me!
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a male boss telling a female employee if you have sex with me I will promote you, or saying if you don't have sex with me I will fire you.  A boss pinching your butt  or placing a hand on you in an inappropriate manner, is a good example
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Awesome bra! I totally agrre with ya man! We should also be able drink at our desk in the workplace! Equal Rights for all! \n\nAs if.\n\nI want a comfortable living and if that means dealing with conformity in the workplace? Then just accept it. \n\nIt would make it cooler though. Good question man.
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First you got to be a hot chick or have a big pecker.\nThen go to LA walk into some guys office and drop your pants... got it?
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i cant. but you must have a beautiful expression when coming\n\nkeep enjoying it. it's a great workout without offending anyone.
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yes, sadly.  looks are so important in our world that people only see the outer layer of our beings.  why should it matter if you are a little overweight? a little older? not too pretty?  these are the hidden prejudices.  and don't let anyone tell you they aren't there. \nolder employees are a valuable resource:\nolder women re-entering the work force aren't looking for husbands and trying to start families, so they would be more liable to stay in your employ longer.  \nolder employees aren't apt to be phoning in 'sick' [read hung-over /stoned from too much partying].\nmany men, and women, miss out on wonderful relationships because they are looking for that 'perfect' person.  and employers are the same. sad but true .\nif i were in h.r. i would be different from the norm and hire that gal that is a little frumpy or that fella with the 'not so perfect'  teeth as long as they fulfilled other qualifications.  i would suspect they would be far more loyal employees than the 'pretty ones' if only because i gave them a chance.  pretty people don't have to try as hard as they quite often can get by on their looks.\nhaving said all that there are exceptions to every rule!  my theory may not always prove to be right, but i'm thinking it is most of the time!
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IS IT CONSENSUAL? are you enjoying it and keeping quiet or are you complaining? it makes a HUGE difference...\n\nif you are complaining and it is uninviting..then ask him to look up the sexual harrasment section or inappropriate action at work..he'll leave you alone QUICK..and if he doesn't report him..
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I think this is pretty much a done deal.  You can't go back and change it.  Consider it a lesson learned.  Never mix work and sex.\nNow, put on a happy face, go back into work, and don't let it happen again.
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You just walk right up to your boss and tell him/her.  If you are forthright about it, it shows you have what it takes to come to the point and want to come up in the world.  That is what a boss wants from an employee.........ambition and guts.
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If you have an anonymous system for employee complaints, then use it to bring this to their attention. This kind of stuff isn't conducive to a healthy workplace, I would think someone in upper management would want to know. However, if you are working in a smaller company, you will have to decide if you feel its safe to speak up or not. \n\nNo, its not normal.
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no and I used to flirt with customers and there is nothing wrong with enhancing the love life even on the job as long as you still get your work done..
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It is not as glamorous as you think and your employer will require you to go on "outtings" with your clients.  So if you dont think it liks a prostitue because you dont have to have sex, think again.  You will be pretty much forced into.  Your client will offer you money and things to do it or they will just rape you.\n\nAmerican girls have gone missing and never heard from again over there.\n\nOf course it is your choice.\n\nIf you are not slender and very good looking then forget it.\n\nThis has become a very popular thing to do so you need to be very good looking and if you are a natural blonde all the better.\n\nThe way to get a job like that over there is just fly over there and walk into these "hostess clubs" \n\nThere is no other way to do it, they dont do it over the net.
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tell boss u have have Anal Glocuma.. you cant see your ass getting out of bed.
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It's definitely in VERY poor taste.  She obviously doesn't have a lot of office etiquette in her social arsenal.\n\nThe link below has a lot of various definitions of what sexual harassment is...\n\nfor you, it might be good to get your office's manual to find out what your company considers sexual harassment.  In some cases, just having sexually explicit or suggestive items on display (such as the lingerie) is enough to be grounds for some sort of action.\n\nGood luck.
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work relationships are complicated, they can distract you. if it all goes wrong theres always a pretty high chance you'll end up office gossip. plus alot of companies frown on it so if u do go there, keep it quiet.x
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Sex appeal and confidence :-)