Can meditation help a person manage their anger?
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Meditation can certainly help you to control anger.\n\nThe whole aim of meditation is,\n1. to calm your mind, and\n2. to focus the mind on one thing.\n\nIf you sit down and close your eyes you will notice that your mind is jumping from one thought to another. Even though you want to concentrate on your breath you will find other thoughts also coming in between.\n\nIn learning to meditate you must first learn to calm your mind. You do this by following every thought that comes into you mind. You must be like a Manager of a Hotel who stands at the entrance and observes the customers coming in. Without getting attached to the thoughts try to observe them. You will find that a thought comes in and that it goes nowhere and another thought follows it - try following that too - with same results. This way you will find that your thoughts gradually subside. Do not try to force out your thoughts.\n\nOf course do not expect results in one or two days. Practise it for at least 40 minutes every day for at least 2 months you find that you have 'killed' your train of thoughts. I have practised for 1 1/2 years and still vagrant thoughts come in.\n\nThereafter start concentrating on your breath. Notice the breath coming in and going out. You should not concentrate only on the tip of your nose. Notice the breath coming in and thereafter your lungs getting filled and then gradually exhaling the breath.\n\nAfter you finish that for the day start to think of a person or several persons whom you hate most. Having those people in mind start to think in a compassionate manner "may he be healthy,  may he be happy, may he go up in life, may he live long".  Keep on doing this for about 10 minutes a day for a few months you will find that you do not get angry even when you have to get angry.\n\nYou should be able to get some guidance from the following sites,\n\n1. http://www.dhamma.org/vipassan.htm\n2. http://www.meditationexpert.com/  and click on the free articles on yoga meditation - it includes articles on all types of meditations including christian and muslim meditation.
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Find a good counselor and have them set you up with anger management training.  Once you figure out how to control it then you can figure out why you get angry.  Anger is a secondary emotion, so there is a good reason, not as you say.  You just haven't figured out what that reason is yet.\n\nI was angry for a long time as well, and I figured out why and now I have no reason to raise my voice.  I have learned how to listen to my inner self and I know what my triggers are and the more important lesson is that if I act a certain way I will damage the relationships of the ones I love.  GL
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Well, it's up to you to find out the source of your anger. After you've done that, you should come up with a plan for how to handle the situation that provokes your anger -- like walk away, or think of squirrels like the one in my profile picture. It's really hard to remember this plan when the situation arises, but you have to beat it in there somehow.\n\nPerhaps the source of your anger isn't an event, but just an accumulation of events. If that's the case, take a vacation somewhere. Take some time off alone to relax -- isolate yourself from the things that anger you. Take up a hobby that'll allow you to vent your anger/frustrations. I actually highly recommend you weight-train or take up martial arts/boxing -- it does wonders for us guys, trust me.\n\nAnd lastly, LIGHTEN UP. LET THINGS GO. TURN EVERY BAD SITUATION INTO A COMICAL ONE. Not everything is perfect or goes as planned, so sometimes you just gotta sit and enjoy the ride.
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Get help from a trusted friend or a Life Coach. I'm a Life Coach and I help clients make sense of their overly expressive emotions and explore ways of creating a more calm self.  You're missing some part of what's really going on with you.  Try slowing down.  Yoga was suggested and this could be helpful to you.  Meditation is good too. People use a variety of things to help maintain a high level of awareness and positive ways to connect with yourself.  Check out the book, "Wherever You Go, There You Are".  Learn breathing and relaxation techniques.  Even simple changes like having a balanced diet, making sure you're getting proper exercise and sufficient sleep while maintaining a low-stress lifestyle can be priceless in helping you cope with your day to day life.  Maybe you need some changes.  Our lives have a way of speaking to us and retaliating if we aren't quite happy with ourselves.
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Whenever you feel yourself boiling over, make the conscious effort to tell yourself to stop, take a few deep breaths, and count to 12. This allows you a window for the impulse to lash out to subside, so you get a clearer mind about whether the situation really calls for you losing your temper, or can be resolved in more peaceful manners. If you find it hard to let go of negative emotions and thoughts, try diverting them from people you love to a book or piece of paper by writing them down instead. \nIf you feel that you still can't control your anger from spinning out of control, it may be a good idea to go for anger management counselling with a certified counsellor or Psychologist.\nGood luck.
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i was also like you. people say count numbers etc then also you cant but there is a way which i follow see when you get irritated by any thing or any body if they are in front of you, suddenly stop arguing with them and close your eyes and leave the place. and watch the things that you love and which you feel sensitive.hold them and sit in a no one place and watch the surroundings then your mind will not think about your anger imagine lovable things of yourself and inside you create some beautiful things surrounding, nature or god if you are religious, and remember you childhood days and  mischiefs etc try to make a smile on your face. you will forget you anger. i hope you will practice it. bi
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Learn to meditate. You're working hard on getting your body ready - that's good and necessary. Your mind and emotions will be taxed just as intensely as your body this summer and you need a way to calm them when you're under intense stress and pressure.\n\nMeditation does not have to be spiritual or religious in nature and it is not the same as traditional praying (which can engage the mind intellectually and emotionally). It is simply a way of calming your mind and emotions so you can find a place of stability within yourself whenever you want.\n\nWhen you practice meditation on a daily basis you get two benefits. First of all, you will have a period of time every day with a focused presence and calm mind - you can come to count on this to provide stability and consistency. Secondly, you will be training your mind and thus be able to recall that state of mind anytime throughout the day.\n\nBasic meditation steps:\n•Get into a comfortable position – sitting on the floor cross-legged is a good position to prepare your body for the experience. Sitting in a chair doesn’t have the same affect.\n•Keep your eyes open but very soft and un-focused. Find a very neutral place to look slightly lower than straight ahead (something like a blank wall or into a candle or fire). Closing your eyes can often make it harder to clear your head, the next step.\n•Clear your head. (This is the part that takes practice.) The idea is to stay unattached to thoughts of any kind. That means that, when the inner voice in your mind starts to speak up, gently “shush” it and return to a state of not thinking (frustration, anger, boredom, etc. are all thoughts and emotions – they will come up and you simply treat them the same way each time).\n•Continuously let go of any thoughts that may pop into your mind, and the quiet spaces between thoughts will become longer and more frequent. This will happen over and over and over as you practice this.\n•Be aware of your breathing - breathing calmly and consistently will help your mind and body stay in this state longer. \n•Meditation takes practice – you’re training your mind to stop jumping around among and between thoughts and emotions. It’s no different than training your body – be patient and you will see that your mind can go longer and longer periods of a relaxed, clear state.\n•There’s no “perfect” state that you are working toward. Remember only that you are training your mind to let go of thoughts and emotions in a quiet, patient way.\n•Start with shorter sessions—like five minutes—and work your way up to longer sessions—like 30. With practice, this type of meditation becomes easier and more effective.\n\nWhile meditation practices have been perfected and explained by Buddhists, you do not have to practice, understand, or agree with Buddhism to learn what they know about meditation (any more than I have to join the Naval Academy to get fit). The source below has an excellent set of pages describing all things related to meditation.
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You can get peace by doing meditation. In meditation there is tremendous peace and relaxation and joy. It gives you freedom from daily worries , makes you a more loving person and more at ease with yourself. \nBut in-order to get these benefits you will need to first go into meditation. \nI am giving below a few sources from where you can know a lot of meditation techniques and try them . This list is in no way exhaustive , i'm sure there may be a lot more websites available also, but these websites will get you started on the righ course - \n\nhttp://www.lifepositive.com/Spirit/meditation/meditation-techniques.asp\n\nhttp://www.kriyayoga.com/english/on_your_wings/meditation.htm\n\nhttp://www.feedback.nildram.co.uk/richardebbs/meditation/meditationindex.htm\n\n\nI am quoting a few lines from one of the above sites just to give you an idea of what they contain - \n\n    "  The simplest form of concentrative meditation is to sit quietly and focus the attention on the breath. Yoga and meditation practitioners believe that there is a direct correlation between one's breath and one's state of the mind. For example, when a person is anxious, frightened, agitated, or distracted, the breath tends to get shallow, rapid, and uneven. On the other hand, when the mind is calm, focused, and composed, the breath is slow, deep, and regular. Focusing the mind on the continuous rhythm of inhalation and exhalation provides a natural object of meditation. As you focus your awareness on the breath, your mind becomes absorbed in the rhythm of inhalation and exhalation. As a result, your breathing will become slower and deeper, and the mind becomes more tranquil and aware.  "
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yes,go to anger management classes.:)
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Find out the source of your anger through introspection, and work through eliminating the stresses or causes of the anger.  This may require some life changes (elimination of boyfriends or husbands, changing jobs, or even moving away from people).... so be prepared to make changes, or stay angry.\n\nIn the short term, I recommend Yoga, meditation, envisioning the beach or a meadow and put yourself there, hiding under your desk for a few minutes, or cuddling in bed with a teddy bear.
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I agree. Its what you do with your anger that counts. But I think a certain amount of anger is healthy. As was said, everyone has anger, but keeping it bottled inside always trying to be "nice" all the time causes too much stress and after awhile you could blow up into some raging maniac. Do all angry people need help? No. Certainly not because its a valid emotion! But its pointless to call names because it gets you nowhere and makes you feel worse afterwards. It all simply depends on what you do with it. If you cant control it, get some help - but people who say "YOU NEED HELP" sound patronizing but most dont mean it that way..."calm" people, say something along the lines of "Find some other way to disperse your anger without directly affecting anyone else" and angry people, do just that. People need to learn to interact better with each other before we can learn to help each other with anger.
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Often times, anger is hard to get rid of because it stays there until it comes out in some kind of physical way. At least that works for me. Here's something you really might want to do. Don't take an anger management course just yet, but find ways to relax. Stress usually eats at you until you get angry at the world. Relax and enjoy life because you only get to live it once. If that doesn't work, go vent your anger in a way so that you can get stronger too, like swimming or tennis. Just don't use your awesome skills on someone else, just your own stuff. :)
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I try to figure out why I am angry.  Sometimes what I think I am angry about is not the real reason I'm angry.  \n\nAfter I determine why I'm angry, I try to understand what all my options are for changing the situation that I reacted to in anger.  I will prioritize them by the likely hood of their helping to relieve my anger.  \n\nThen I will set out to try to do all I can do to change the situation, and also, to dispel the physical aspect of the effects of the anger.  (Drumming works well, as does walking, writing, talking with someone I trust about the problem, etc.)\n\nGood luck to you.
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I use to have to take an anger management class and what i did was write the things down and throw them away. Go out side and yell at the top of my lungs, Punch a pillow, take a walk. But finally the last thing you must do is talk to the person or persons who made you angery. You need to resolve the problem letting it just be there isn't making it any better. If you can resolve your problem by using tatics you may need to seek professional help.
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Anger is a normal human emotion, so no, there isn't a way to avoid it. \n\nThere is a fine line between anger and rage however. Rage is what happens when you lash out, verbally or physically as a response to anger.\n\nTo avoid rage, stop, take deep breaths, in through your nose, out through your mouth and count to 10. Or walk away, or both.  Deal with what ever situation P'd you off later, when you are calmer.
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usually i would back off and let the angry person be angry and get the anger off his or her chest.... whoever it might be coz, a person who is angry usually is too tense to deal with.... after the person cools off then you try to talk and get the problem that the person is facing and try to help or solve it together.... it might be you that caused the anger so you might as well try to not make this person angry again...
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First, I try my best not to judge them. Emotions are just that, you can't make them right or wrong. It also depends on the type of emotion I happen to be feeling at the time. If I am angry, I will try and cool down before handling a situation that upsets me. I do this by taking a walk or doing some other physical activity, like housework and I do it vigourously. I find it is a good outlet to help me calm down. If I'm feeling sad, sometimes, I'll just go with the feeling and use it creatively, write a poem, listen to music. Sometimes, it's good to be reflective unless, of course, it's long-term and then you need help. I'll rent a funny movie or talk to a good friend over a cup  of tea. In both cases, it's a good time to learn and grow from your feelings and to help put things in perspective.