If two people are in love (both divorced,both have children)........?
602716
At 14, your son is still trying to sort out the divorce and loss of his Dad. He is young to understand that Mom needs somebody to love her. He has a lot of things going on in his own mind with puberty and hormones himself, so it's not easy for him right now. If I were in your shoes, I would sit down and talk to him rationally, and tell him that you love him and all your kids, but at the same time, you also have needs in your own life. BC fills those needs very well , and makes you happy. You might be surprised to find out how mature he really is. Do not try to "force" BC on him....he will fight it tooth and nail. Just assure him that he is loved, but that your heart is big enough to love more than one at the time. Good Luck! Patience is the key here!
13166
I am divorced two years now and get along with my ex for the the sake of my child. We both have put aside our differences and work together to assure our child is given the best environment possible. We talk about any decision that will affect our child and work it out. We are both good people, just not compatible together......we do it for the love our child. You have to!
308125
Definately NOT, exspecially if you have children. If you no longer love each other you will only end up more miserable in the end, by staying together.  If you have tried all the avenues such as counciling, talking... and nothing has worked.  \n\nDepending on how long you have been married, if you have children, it can really take it's toll on them without you even knowing it!  They see and understand more than we know, and if you are miserable...they are!  \n\nTake time to explain to them. And if it is mutual, you both talk to them. Let them know it isn't their fault, and bear the responsibility. Never accuse one or the other in front of them. \n\nThe one thing I have learned about love, is comfort, and if you are no longer comfortable in your relationship, it isn't worth the time to waste.  \n\nIt's hard to tell anyone to end a relationship, but life goes on...a little hard at first, but it gets easier and can be better! Good Luck.
521422
personally i would say no, you hardly know him after 3 months, trust me i speak from personal experience (yes i did end up divorced) you will still be in the infatuation stage of your relationship, wait a year or two then think about it for a while but rely on your own instincts not on anyone elses opinion. It is you that will have to live with the decision for the rest of your life (hopefully). Just for the record I have been married to my second wife for six years and we have two great kids and no regrets!
470924
Well if divorce is not an option, I can't help you.. Although a loveless marriage is no way to live, it would be better of separating and finding a new love, you can always visit or have your kids visit you...
596202
The children deserve two parents that love each other if the love is gone your not doing them any favors by staying together. you and your husband are the two most important people to these kids . So i think if he doesn't love you then go don't put the kids in the situation to see you two hating each other
893578
Thats a difficult question to answer. When I was married, I loved my children and I loved my wife. Differently but both passionately. They both meant the world to me. I made decisions for my kids that was best for them...and I did so with love. Everything in my life was done to teach them to be good people and give them the strength to succeed.Now the love I had for my wife was deep to the soul. I couldn't wait to get home each day to be with her... she was my best friend and totally had my heart...and had she not passed away, we'd still be together. But I still see her in my childrens eyes.
1126564
I think a person can be in love with two people at the same time. However, I think it's wrong for them to carry on two relationships simultaneously. They should choose one person, and let the other go.
45089
It might work out if u two are really in love and u care about his kids then the age will not matter and his divorce wont matter the only thing that will matter is u and him and his kids, if u really love him none of it will matter hope this helps!
679386
No one should stay in a relationship for the kids. Certainly give your relationship a second chance i.e. councelling, therapy,mediation or simply just sitting down and talking things over etc.Children are very perceptive and know when their parents are not getting along,some things just seem a litle out of sync no matter how you try to mask it. If you and your spouse do decide to separate make every effort to reassure your children that you both still love them. Let them know they will still have 2 parents who love them and you are not separating due to anything they have done.Regardless of anything else they need to know they still have a mom and dad they can count on.Good luck
562586
Alls I can say is....rebound relationships. You both just got out of long term relationships, which probably means you both got your hearts broken. Now you are leaning on eachother for support and that's fine, but you are confusing support and friendship with love. It's nothing new and that's why so many people that have been divorced once, get divorced twice. I suggest you don't move and just keep a friendship up...it's only been 2 months...that's not long enough to make a life changing decision. Good luck in whatever you decide.
621665
It is possible if the person she cheated with is some one the court would consider a danger to the kids.  For the most part any more cheating is looked upon as a reason for divorce but not a reason for separating parents from their kids.
104337
Only if it comes to your kids. I don't know what kind of "love" you're referring to though.\n\nIf you're talking about adult "love", then I'd say no, you're just either infatuated, or confused.
695426
When Children are involved and the marriage wasn't that terrible then there will always be some kind of feelings. But there is a reason why they aren't together and you have to remember that. \nMost couples get along better when they are no longer a couple, I know my ex-husband and I do.
550098
why do you still love her? How long have you been divorced? If you loved her dearly, and your devorce was mutual and you have children together, maybe thats it. I need more info to give you an educated answer...
642622
Life of the people involved will be devastated and will never be the same ever again.  In divorce there are no winners, all are losers, especially the children.  So, think a billion times before considering a divorce.  Everybody should be prepared and understand what's happening.
240763
It's not a good idea but it's a great idea. I think it's important for you to get back with your ex because you have to do it for your kids and their own future. But if the two of you argued a lot then it's better to have seperate kids with you because when a couple argue and there's kids involved they will affected mentally and physically. But it's still up to you, it's your decision.