Why is my mom so mean?
608677
If you were my son I'd send you to brat camp.
908452
Its hard with a mother like that i would ask her why she says these things and confront her about it and tell her if she continues to make you feel miserable then you might be better off without her.  Its not always the best thing to do but sometimes you have too
1184149
Do you live together?  If not, there's still hope... when ever she says something hurtful or rude, just change the subject and act as if she said nothing, don't humor her and keep it up... and she probably doesn't take you seriously.  When you have brought it up, do you sugar coat your conversation?  Just be firm and say you don't appreciate the comments she makes and you would like for them to stop,... let her know that it could cause some tension between your family and her and you are trying to avoid that situation.  She is probably disregarding your feelings because she feels you're over-reacting and is unaware of how badly she is making you feel.  I was in a VERY similar situation before, and there is no easy way around it.
1068033
hi, i am so sorry that you are hurt, but i understand.  hurting your mom is the worst feeling in the world.  the worst.  but the best medicine is free.  don't do any of that writing notes crap, that is really chicken shit.  you hurt her, and you are old enough to own up to your mistakes.  you just march yourself up to her and say mama, i can never tell you how sorry i am, i love you, i need you, and i'm not too proud to say it.  then tell her that you know that your time is coming.  you'll have a mini me someday, and it will come back around.  it's called the circle of life.  lol.  the easiest answers are always the toughest.  god bless
325416
Your mother is still a human being, she may think you hate her, and imagine if the person you love more than anything started hating you.  How would you feel?  My mother and I have a very rocky past, but In the end, a simply, tear-filled, "I love you" gets the point across.  It sounds like she has her hands full with the house, and is hurt about how you acted.  On the other hand, it also sounds like she isn't quite as forgiving as she should be.  But like I said, she is only human.  I think it is the hardest part of growing up when you find out your mom isn's SuperMom, but a person with her own doubts and feelings.  Hug her, tell her you love her, and walk away.  Just walk away and let her calm down.  Clean a bit, but do it when she isn't looking, since you don't want her to think you are only doing it to get on her good side.  You aren't.  You are doing it because you care...
455235
What you wrote sounds like my story. I've got the same problem with my mother in law. My husband really appreciates that I act like I'm stupid. \nI refuse to drop down to her level and when she is really mean to me I just smile and nod. Sometimes I think she tries her hardest to piss me off, but I won't give her that joy.\nFor your husband it's probably best to ignore the situation and play along like you all get along. It's not worth splitting up families over. You may regret it if your husband decides to choose for you and stops speaking to his mom.\nBe happy she doesn't live IN your house. \n\nStay the respectable party and don't let your feelings show! I know this is tough but it's the most peaceful way. Good luck, don't let her drive you mad, you've got the upper hand!
712432
It's very clear that you feel your not doing anything wrong because your mom does this same thing to your grandmother all the time. Don't allow yourself to repeat these behaviors no matter what. It's not a good thing to talk back or yell at your mom no matter what. If she's acting crazy and yelling at you then remove yourself from the situation. Yelling and fighting does not solve the problem and doesn't make it easier for someone to listen to you. All that this does is create tension and a lot of confusion. Your mom has no respect for your grandmother if she's yelling at her all the time. Do you really want to be that way with your mom as well??? Don't look at the fact that your mother is doing it so you should do it as well. You need to be the one that stops this right here and right now because if you don't it's just going to be passed down to one of your children as well.
1179254
I know you love your mom, but, keep your children away from her. No one should have to go through that. Not only will you have physical scars, but also mental scars. She really sounds like she needs help. Just love her and respect her and try to keep her away from anyone that you think she might abuse. When you see her hit or even be mean, say something to her. Yes, she'll say something like I did it to you and you turned out ok, but when she does just remind her of the scars she's left on your body and your heart. But, remember, she's still your Mother. Lots of Luck to you. I know it can't be easy.
44178
I wonder if she's mean to everyone, or just some people. You want to observe when she is mean, and think about what triggered it. Tnen you might have an idea why she's mean.
101777
Probably for bad behavior.  It happens to me all the time.  Ouch!  Mom! Stop that!  Bye!
1130127
hmmm....everyone too including me have this problem, but mine is not serious adn my mom treat me very well. ur mom want the best of u, u should not be angry to her. She just worried about u. okay, this is my opinion.\n1. if u really want to go to the party even without her permission, then i suggest that u shouldn't tell her anything about it that means dont quarrel with her. tell her u want to go to school or friend house, or etc. dont wear pretty clothes but put them in ur bag so that she wont doubt of where u r going if u wear pretty clothe in front of her.\n2. ask for daddy permission politely. if yes, ask him to advised ur mom and talk to ur mom again that dad support u but politely even if she reject it again dont be rude, just be normal. if no, let it be.\n3. get suppport from ur grandpa, grandma, aunty, uncle and etc politely. example, grandma, do u support me to go parties? polite even they dont allow. if they support u, ask them to advise ur mom too. do the same way as 2.\n4. make ur mom happy. like study in the house, cooked for her, made a card for her even mother's day is over.\n\n   that;'s all. hope that help. and hope u got the right company otherwise i m sorry to help u. in my opinion, even if u she dont allow u, u should not go unless u really want to. for me family is more imprortant than friend. friend will hurt u whereas family wont hurt u very much. if u didnt go, ur friend will thought that u have pride and wont simply go out
179547
Say this to yourself over and over again "It's not your fault!".  Really.  Your mom could be frustrated about so many other things and she may just be taking it out on you.  I think it would be good to ask her this straight out and she might just explain to you why instead of you getting the brunt of her anger each and every time she's frustrated.
501377
Don't worry..she probably doesn't mean it. She'll take it back later. My mom has told me that a few times.
952772
You're trying to be friends with your Mom and sometimes thats just not possible. It sounds like you two have a lot of issues. She's your Mom and she won't just go away. You have to figure out what YOU can do to make the situation better. Its up to her to realize that you have your own life and although you love her, you can't be there all the time to help whenever she needs it. Figure out whats bothering you so much. Is she a drama queen or maybe too controlling? Try not to get so worked up about it and just look at the problem.
147536
You haven't given us enough inforamtion to be as helpful as we might be otherwise.  The answer depends on how old you are and what it is your mom is doing that is annoying you.  Is it that you are doing something she doesn't agree with and trying to stop you and so you are annoyed?  Is your mom extra stressed or tired right now?\n\nI agree with other posters.  YOu need to think about what you are doing too.  Moms don't usually change and become  annoying for no reason.  Talk to your mom and see what the problem is.\n\nYOu will only ever have one mom and she won't be around forever, and someday you may look back and wish you had been more understanding.
419912
IT DOEN'T HAVE  TO BE THE FACT THAT YOU HAVE A BAD PERSONALITY MAYBE YOU JUST GET ON HER NERVES,I KNOW THAT SOMETIMES WHEN I GET ON MY MOTHERS NERVES SHE IGNORES THE HELL OUT OF ME ASWELL.....
774952
You need to talk to your mom. Tell her how disappointed you are. She is setting a very bad example for you.