What are some good ways to keep the spark alive in mine and hubbys intimate life?
598951
discuss the things you like to do but haven't done yet or the things that really turn you on now..have an open dialog and you can keep the fire going also speak about your fantasy..
306126
I'm with you on this one - my husband is the same way. I had to take five years of CONSTANTly telling him how hot he is - make sure he KNOWS how attracted to him you are...jump him...frequently..let him know you only have eyes for him. I mean sadly repetitiveness is the key...it's just like, he can hear it 10000 times, but until HE believe it, it's not going to work.
900734
can't blame you for getting frustrated...what you need is a break. meaning...go somewhere else with your husband, take a trip to a new place or a place where you've been to before and had a great time...\nsometimes it takes much more than "holding it" to ignite things... a change of environment once in a while is good for both of you.\ni think your husband feels stressed out, or something is really troubling him and doesnt want to tell you what...but that's another story...\n\nand about your question if its normal for him to not want to have sex, my answer would be yes. My husband is like that..sometimes...esp when he's tired, i realized my energy level is higher than his so i try my best to meet halfway...husbands are lazy when they are tired and sleepy even if as you put it...you are a hottie.\n\nGood luck to you and your hubby...
1126553
If you love your husband, and you want to maintain a sense of enjoyment in each other, you have to grow together and have fun.  This means discovering each other anew, trying different activities that are fun, communicating like you used back when you were dating and getting to know each other.  People get used to the daily grind of life - once you get a sense of fun with each other back, the sexual attraction will blossom again.
453660
Stop taking each other for granted.  Say thank you more.  Notice each other more.  Candle-lit dinner.  Weekend away.  Picnic in the park.  Flowers.  Bath together.  \n\nAll this helps things to go well, but you can't make him want you more.
69909
My husband and I have a pretty good sex life. It did go a little down hill when I was pregnant but that was because I didn't want anything. We are still young and have been married for almost 2 years, but we do have a baby and that sometimes changes peoples sex life, but ours is still GREAT!!! I still have that fire that I felt for him the first time we met. He also thinks that I am the most beautiful person in the world because I carried and gave birth to his child. If you want to keep sex in your marriage you have to keep love. I know that we might not have sex 3 times a day like we did when we first started dating, but 3-4 times a week is still very good. Sometimes it is more and when I am working my long weeks it can be less. If you are loosing sex in your marriage just find a way to get that spark back. If you are one of the few that looses your libido during pregnancy don't fret it will come back. I was a complete Nymph before hand so when I didn't want anything we both thought that was strange and I am not a nymph anymore but I STILL WANT TO MAKE LOVE TO MY HUSBAND. I just hope that I can say that in 20 years. Try things like porn or mild fantasies. Or even spice things up by really playing with each other. Just don't give into threesomes or if you are a man do not push them. My husband always wanted one until we met a couple who ended up divorced because of that fantasy. NEVER LET ANYONE ELSE IN YOUR MARRIAGE. That is a sure fire way to kill it. So if you are getting married enjoy the sex but make sure you let each other know when you want it and what makes it more special. Try to keep that spark going. I wish you luck. If you are already married I hope that you still do have that spark. If not try everything to get it back...
464661
just be creatively sexy, lingerie & camisoles with matching panties and try to match them with some high heeled shoes these are jut some ideas to think of. Mind you, you want to look your sexiest! How to move...just thrust your hips and pelvis turning around from front to back and make sure you get all in his face but don't let him touch you at all! and you can choose any good music that has a great beat, if you know how to dance then you could pretty much move seductivly to any type...Good Luck, this will bring extra spice to your marriage. This lets your husband know that you still are in love with him and will do what ever you think it takes to please him and to go the extra mile for him....
820492
You need to let him know that while you are married to him you are not his possession.... you are not a TV or a couch, or a car! He has proven his love for you in marriage but being your husband is a privilege and a joy that he needs to earn everyday... and in return there is no greater gift in the world than a woman who feels respected, loved and desired by her man... My wife is the best part of my life and there is nothing that I would not do for her... Your hubby needs to not take you for granted just because you said "I DO"... he should be romantic and earn your love!
579138
23 years here, I understand the issues.  (c:  Familiarity does LOWER the labido!  These young chicks do not know that yet <c;  They also do NOT know the rewards of LOOOOONG time relationships.   \nSKIP THE TOYS.  Unless your husband asks about them.  \nTo help with sex drive I  let my mind wander through out the day and remember the THRILL of "great" sex...  As in plenty of ummmm ,  lets say Fireworks *wink* for me.  I make a great dinner , give him a bit of a back rub or foot massage.  These things make me feel like a "good woman"  .  If your married 30 years then you already know that catering to your man has benefits (c:
203359
Gosh, this is a loaded question!  It all depends on so much!  Do you have kids, howz your sex life...how creative do you want to be?!  The romantic dinner is a GREAT idea to start with!  There are some very romantic sexual games you can play after to spice things up. ("An Enchanted Evening" as an example)  To really save money you could make him a wonderful "coupon book" that he may use all year (Until your 7th anniversary)  Including back rubs, hugs, kisses, sexual favors, picinic lunch, his favorite home cooked meal....
447389
God, use this time to reconnect. The reconnection alone should do enough to spark your sex life. Vacation sex comes easily, oftentimes because since you are both removed from the everyday life that is usually the root of whatever problems you have with each other, you start to see eachother in the same light you met in, and it's a chance to fall in love again. Good for you!\nMy one word of advice for putting some spark into sex with a long term monogomous partner is to establish eye contact during orgasm. It's great! It feels like you are passing the orgasm into your eyes, like you are melting into the other person's soul. \nAlso, giving or getting oral with eye contact is interesting to play around with because some of us never get that intimate with our spouses; we just close our eyes and lay back. Try it, it will make you both vulnerable and closer at the same time.\nHave fun, guys!
100580
Like I said before :)\n\nGood old fashion SEX and his favorite meal.  \n\nI'm sure your hubby would be happy with those two things too  :)
1179387
Many times we take our frustration and or anger out on the person who is closest to us which is usually the one we love the most! Plan a "date night" with your husband! Tell him in advance that the two of you are going out to dinner together. Pick a restaurant that both of you enjoy. Wear something you know he finds sexy on you. Once this day comes, you are going to start off with a whole new attitude! You are going to be more positive about things. Yes there are things that will get us down but don't let it keep you down, no more S.H.I.T. !!!! From here on you are going to see the brighter side of things! That evening at dinner talk about all of the wonderful things the TWO of you have done TOGETHER! Reminisce about your wedding day, anything of the wonderful things that two of you have done! Also, tell him how after dinner you are going to take him home and the two of you are going to get absolutely wild in bed! After this, wake up each day and realize how good you have things. A wonderful, loving husband, a good family life and all of the other things you may have! Take a positve outlook on things and you will stop giving him that other thing you mentioned. By doing this you will help yourself mostly but also your marriage too!\nGood luck!
1082057
every day just remember how much you love your husband and his child. that helps alot
398973
Buy a house.\nMy wife's hobby is doing things around the house she can do and making lists of things we need to take care of she isn't capable of alone. Mine is executing those jobs on the list only I can do. In our free time we tackle jobs from the list we both are capable of. We also spend a lot of time in the bedroom. Actually, now that the kids are grown and gone, ANY room we feel like...\n\nBut then, we might be considered wierd. After 30 years of marrige we still find each other incredibly sexy. We like spending time together and have our "causes" we support. Both of us are passionate about children's rights. We have been foster parents for 17 years and are on about every child care panel in existence.  We also teach parenting and alternative discipline classes together for our state's Dept. of H&W and I am on various boards and am the governor's appointment to our state's Children's Trust Board from our district.\n\nAnd, oh yes. In my spare time I also am writing my second book. And am public relations director for my Shrine Center. (you know, we support the free hospitals for kids)\n\nAnd when we're home, in the evenings we sit out on our deck in the spa and sip wine or tea or maybe hot chocolate with cinnamon schnapps. Yes, naked...
715496
How funny -- my husband has done all of the things you listed (the song is still top of the list).  \n\nHe gave me an awesome b-day present of a hot air balloon trip for my 30th b-day (don't know if I could stomach it now) and another great gift was a surprise gondola ride (wine and chocolate covered strawberries as we cruised Coronado bay as the sun set..)  Horsebackriding was also a fun gift -- the trick is that these were all surprises and the fun part was in guessing where we were headed and then the fun of getting there to see what we were in for!\n\nSo try a neat "experience" like these.  Another cool thing (but you have to really know your wife) is a big household project that you could care less about but you know your wife would love (a fancy new front door that you install -- or have a professional insall -- a cool new chandelier or modern light to replace the old one above the dining room table - just be sur eto get advice from her mom or friend on the taste / appearance of what you select).\n\nGood luck -- you sound like a great husband and I know that takes hard work and dedication  :)
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Taking time with your spouse!