there is a girl and i like her and we are good friends. do you think a relationship would ruin our friendship?
612121
If you have a good friendship, and can both be open and mature in a relationship, it will only get better.
176778
Deffinately! Just as long as you stay platonic and make sure that it doesn't cause any problems in their relationship.
495872
umm...this girl is not your friend. a friend is someone you can feel comfortable being around..someone you can trust. and obviously, this girl can't handle the fact that you like her. i think it was immature of her to say yes when you asked her out just because she "felt sorry for you," but to each their own. i don't think you need this girl as a friend or anything else.
355106
If you two are really that good of friends, then nothing can ruin that friendship. Be honest with him & let love take its course. If he's not cool with it; let him know that you still value your friendship & would like to remain friends. Flirt with him & have fun. Friends of the opposite sex are always fun to have around. The key is to take it slow.
1178147
I would say if you are not for sure about her sexual perference you may not want to go there. Just for the simple fact you may be taking a risk on losing a friendship so I would suggest give a little more thought before you throw all the cards on the table.
982433
nope. boys and girls can't be True friends.. esp in ur case!! (watch "When Harry Met Sally....)....\n\nwhen one person has feelings for the other, the "FRIENDSHIP" is over. and u are only nice to her cuz u still have feelings for her, not cuz u are truly her Friend. u will bend over backwards to do anything for her, not cuz ur just a friend, but cuz u LIKE her. therefore, it is not the same as a friend. =T if u don't want to get hurt over and over, ur gonna have to do one of these things:\n\n\n1) come clean and tell her u can't be close w/ her because you like her, and want her to break up w/ her boyfriend\n\n2) start maintaining ur distance, making urself more busy, getting more involved w/ activities and meeting new friends\n\nif u keep hanging out w/ her, ur just gonna get hurt. unless she "magically" changes her mind and goes for you..but are u really going to wait for that to happen, or are u gonna continue living ur own life!  good luck~
685283
Do you still want to date her? If so, go for it. Lay every thing out on the table with both of them. Be honest with your friend though- you dont want to break up a friendship because of a stupid girl. She may not even like either one of you- she will make a choice.\n\nHope you don't think this is a stupid answer.
782752
Well you're in a good position b/c most good relationships start with good friendship... but @ the same time, it might be hard for her to adjust to the fact that u really like her b/c she thinks of u more as a friend and she's probably never been in a situation like that. Just give it some time... if you two are really good friends then u dont have anything to worry about! =)
993431
Well, maybe you should tell her how you feel about her! She may only think you want to be friends, so I would tell her soon. Ask her how she may feel about the idea of the two of you dating.  She may be happy that you have spoken up!  When you start dating a good friend sometimes it changes the friendship. You can only hope that the feelings for one another become more intense and more loving. If you happen to drift apart, then the original friendship may be forever changed.  I thought I would toss that in for your to consider. I mean if things do not work out well for you, you can only hope that you can still be friendly, and not resent any new fellows that may come along in her future if the two of you fail at your attempt at a relationship...do you see what I mean?\n\nGood luck, I hope she feels the same for you too, you sound so nice!
597062
do you like her more than a friend can you see yourself dating her with a commitment think about that and if you answer yes to these q: then your answer would be yes
721504
When  you make a friendship a sexual realtionship you are adding another thick layer. This can make or break the relationship you two have built.\n\nSo it could work out to be the mosts wonderful realtionship in your life, but just know that if things turn sour, you could have a very strained relationship...or no relationship at all.
581814
Yes, as long no physical attraction develops.  Once the girl or the guy wants to date the other person, it becomes difficult to maintain the friendship.  The person knows he/she has feelings for him/her, so it may become uncomfortable.
173401
well, you should be friends with someone because you like them, not just because you wanna be with them...\n\nsurely, you like this girl as a person? if not, then there's no reason to be friends with them OR go out with them?
569068
I'M IN A SIMILAR SITUATION LIKE THAT. ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS IS A MALE AND HE EXPRESSED HIS FEELINGS FOR ME AND I TOLD HIM THAT WE WOULD BE BETTER AS FRIENDS. WE ARE STILL AS CLOSE AS WE EVER WERE. I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD FEAR LOSING HER AS A FRIEND BECAUSE IF YOU ALL ARE REALLY GOOD FRIENDS, YOU EXPRESSING YOUR FEELINGS TO HER SHOULD NOT CHANGE WHAT YOU TWO HAVE. I BELIEVE EVERYTHING WILL WORK OUT FOR THE BEST AND YOU SHOULD JUST GO FOR IT. GOOD LUCK...
287249
I'd avoid getting involved in this mess. If she likes you, let her figure out how to work it out. She sounds a little flaky to me. What happens when someone more interesting comes along once you two hook up? Is she going to want to be friends with him? See my point?
867361
Wrong?  That's for you to decide, but here's some food for thought.\n\nShe needs your friendship.  If you give her friendship without going for anything more right now, it shows her respect.  Then, when she is less vulnerable, if the two of you get together she will respect you more and you will be able to trust that she's with you for the right reasons and not simply out of need.\n\nIf the two of you got involved right now, it might be for the wrong reasons at the wrong time and thus set you up for failure down the road.\n\nIf you are "right" together, then it won't hurt for you to be her best friend and hold off on the other stuff for a while out of respect for her temporary vulnerability and genuine love or care for her.\n\nJust something to consider.  Good luck!
452444
You should be careful, did this friend show any type of feelings towards you. Don't mess up a good friendship be careful.