Afta 2yrs wiv my boyf he says he wants a brk&feels different do u think he still loves me?wot shud i do?
607813
Honestly i think he's just confused and needs time with out you so that he can see how much he needs you. He might just need room to realize that you all do belong together. Talk to him get all your feelings out because if you keep anything in and away from him you will lose him for longer than planned. trust me. My boyfriend and i were about to take a break and i told him exactly how i felt i was scared to do it because i didn't want him to feel like i was making him stay but he said that he was glad i told him because it let him know that i care deeply for him. Just try talking to him about it and see what happens from there.
689885
You are what you are and if he truly loves you, he will definitely respect your feelings. Dont do anything that you feel uncomfortable with now... make things clear now- its better than repenting later. Understanding, mutual respect and honesty are the very basics of any relationship. If he cant compromise and make adjustments now, it doesnt bode well for the future too, does it? So speak out whats in your mind- let him know how you feel. Explain to him that you come from a conservative background and that you dont feel comfortable with the relationship getting physical so soon. DONT DO ANYTHING THAT U FEEL IS NOT RIGHT!
947971
Let him know how you feel if things remain this way get out while you can. If he loves you he will change his ways. Things will only get worse if you done deal with them now.
171693
My first thought is, thank goodness he is honest about this. Secondly there have surely been signs that he has not been as serious as you have been. After 2 years it should have got past liking you into something much deeper. Sounds like he has led you on. Take off your rose colored glasses and see what is really there. Why did you stay? Did you set yourself up for a no win situation because you don't think your worthy of anything else? You are, but you need to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else. A good relationship has good communication so there would be no surprises after 2 years. Let him go, work on yourself and then and only then will you be ready for more. You will also be more picky, more accurate in your choices.
627710
Well girl sounds like "to little to late" thing to me .Now that you let go of those love feeling , he wants to change!Tell him bye bye,sounds like hes just saying whatever he thinks you might want to hear to keep the relationship.Buy him a 10.00 dollar phone card and tell him to "call someone who gives a shit" Good Luck
123729
maybe he does still love u he just doesn't show it completly ... if he didn't love u anymore ... would he still b w/ u?\nor maybe he's just bad at showing it ..
392693
Dear, west girl\n\nI really believe if he really wanted to be with you he would leave her and be with you. He might say he loves you but he don't cause if he did he would not be with her he would be with you all the time.Don't put yourself through all the hurt of taking him back all the time and then getting hurt again by him leaving you again. Its ok to still love him , but who have to go on and quit being hurt by someone who obviously hun does not love you and is going back and forth between two women. I hope you do the right thing hun
1101508
you know am feeling really bad for you...i mean you love him so much but seems he doesnt values it...i know how painful all this is...whatever you have written here gives a hint that he doesnt loves you as much as you do & i think you are aware of this fact very well...thats the reason you are writting here...i would make no comments about your decision of going back to him was right or not because there is no point pondering over the past but you should be able to take a decision for your future...just tell me one thing, why do you want someone to be around even when you know he doesnt cares...you deserve a lot better than this jerk (am sorry to call him this but i think he really is)...i know its damn tough but i would suggest you move on & find a different meaning in life...how long can you keep on loving someone who doesnt loves you...am sure this might be affecting your confidence & self esteem as well...am sure you also want to get away from all this & start living life on your own...please gather all your courage & always remember that we shouldnt stay in something we are not sure of...concentrate on whats important in your life, your studies & all...& pray  & believe that god has made someone who'll love you the way you deserve & the way you'll love him...\nGod bless you...
445269
IF he feels the same way, he will wait if that's what you want to do.  You have to follow your heart.  Take time and think it through with your brains not your hormones.  Good luck, I know it can be confusing.
1139932
It sounds like it's a matter of how you feel about him, rather than how me could make you feel loved.  Love can take time to grow, but when you do have that moment, then you will know it when you experience it.  Until then, You should be honest that you don't feel love yet.  If you hide it or are dishonest about it, you'll only be doing yourself and any bf you're with a disservice.
1033572
WHOA! Stick to your guns! Your gut instinct is correct. The both of you are in a very sticky situation and financially you CANNOT afford it. I think your bf is being very selfish to buy this bike. And here the both of you are mooching off your parents because you fell on your faces. Yes, I can tell you love your bf so much that you would love for him to have this bike more than anything else in the world, but he has to GROW up and be a man and take on some responsibility and STOP thinking about only one person...himself. You are now in the picture and he needs to start thinking about the future (and future with you) instead of the here and now and the obligations he has to fulfill first, such as paying off bills instead of creating more debt. So what if he doesn't have the "nicest" car in the world, if it runs and gets you from point A to point B then that's all that matters. Yes it sounds that you will probably have to replace some parts on it...but that just comes with older cars and is better than making a $500 payment on a brand new car or bike that you really can't afford anyway.\n\nYes, co-signing was a big mistake because guess what??? If either of you split for any reason at all guess who gets stuck making HALF of the payments on a bike that you will never get to utilize.....YOU! \n\nI am sorry that you have had all of this bad luck to deal with. Everyone has times where they are really down and out, this is understandable, but it is the choices you make in life to get you out of this situation that will make you stronger and a better person because of it. I suggest you have a serious talk with the bf about this bike. If he wont reason with you, maybe its time to get rid of this guy and focus on what YOU want in your life for a change. He is going to do nothing but bring you down. Live at home, pay off some debt, and get yourself back on your feet. Honestly can you imagine yourself being married to a guy who is selfish, irrational, has all this extra baggage and problems, and in some serious debt the rest of your life?? Its time to do some soul searching sista. Good luck and I hope you make the best decision for you, what ever that may be.
995689
If in doubt, don't.  That's a good rule for every aspect of life. Sounds like you may be having some doubt, just by the way you asked if there's a "test."  The true test is the test of time.  If he and you are able to make it this far, then love will wait. Love doesn't just ...go away.   Let things take their course.  If you truely love him, and he loves you, then things will fall into place on their own.  Best of luck to you!
393363
Hon, u will NEVER know if u sit back & wait 4 him.When ur in his arms next time tell him how u feel about him and ur relationship.(if hes been around for 2 yrs he probably feels the same.)
747884
Am sorry to say so,but it seems he's not very much in love with you (even if he says that he is) if he loves you,he would create time for you ...no words such as "busy"when it comes to a loved one...consider breaking up with him,and see how does he react...if he freaked and changed his way with you,give him another chance ,if not...then you find yourself someone as sweet as you are...you deserve much more than phone chatting.BTW if caring didn't come from deep inside of him,you wouldn't be able to MAKE him care.
681956
He definitely has issues that he needs to resolve. Only he knows why he's stalling.  And obviously unable to make a decision.  Thus in your shoes, I would request that he get back to you, once he resolves his issues.  Simple as that.\nPlease dont tell me how much you love him. There's no need for you to be dragged into his prior relationship by your confusion.  And how can you tell if he loves you, since he's unable to disconnect from his prior. If that is how he shows his love, I would be very concerned. You can be in for further heartache and confusion.  WHY torture yourself?
689941
i think ur too serious about luv since ur only 13, but it sounds pretty commiting . u should ask and see if he feels the same about u before u get into any thing
959846
its normal to feel dat..i once like dat..bt i get over\nit..cz no use of thinking bout it..it wont change anything..4me..the moment he let me go..i decided to let him get out of my heart too..its hurt..takes years to 4get cz he's my 1st bf..dat time i was15,nw went im 19 he came back to me asking 4 patch..bt its to late..i get over him already..bt we still be gd fren till nw..  BT..if u  choose NOT to 4gt bout him its ok..cz im still in love wif my ex..he is my 2nd ex,althought its been 2yrs..i still love him n thinks bout him alot..althought we cant be 2gether our frenship is still gd...\nalthought we doesnt talk or meet often..i know deep in his heart he still love me..evn if he didnt say..n i still love him like the way U DID..\nits ok to love although he cant see..as long as it doesnt affect ur daily living..n take care of ur health