i been with my boyfriend for a year now and he wants me to move in with him when he get his apartment.?
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I urged my friend not to move in with his girfriend, as they planned to get married, and they were only together for a year. I have been in this situation 3 times. It is not good for the relationship, and only a select few can handle this early living arrangement. He went ahead and moved in, because it was what she really wanted, and he has seemed depressed ever since. He can't focus when people are talking to him, and the money issues are putting a strain on their relationship. He came to me and told me that he wished he had listened, and that he was afraid that he would lose her soon. They had NEVER had a single fight, and now they fight frequently.\n\nIt does work, but I promise, if you wait until you're married, there will be a reason for you to stay together during the first and hardest year of living together. It is difficult and if you feel you would be able to handle it, and not get weird on your boyfriend, go for it.
955380
I moved in with a guy after 7 months before.. I think it ruined our relationship.  I will never live with a man until I am married now.  It seems crazy to commit to someone that much when you haven't decided if you like them enough to spend everyday (rest of life) with.  Esentially that is what you are doing.. spending the rest of your life together... so it is putting way to much into the relationship. \n\nI would suggest moving out and still dating.  You can take a baby step backwards.. He might think it is a good idea too.  It might save your realationship.\n\nGood Luck :-)
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Do not move across the country with a boyfriend.\nYou shouldn't move in with a boyfriend.\nIf you do you are setting yourself up for a big fall.\nWhy would you commit to him if you are not serious enough to marry.  If you are too young to marry. Also too young to move in together.\nIf you don't know each other well enough to Marry,  You don't know each other well enough to move in together.\n\nDon't play house! \n If he is not committed to you and you are not committed to him \n(I mean Married, not engaged) Why do you want to even exclude the chance of meeting someone else who you will want to marry and who will want to marry you.\n\nIf you move in with him.  You will probably share a bank account,  When you split he'll take the money and you will keep the bills.  You'll get pregnant and He'll take a hike and You will keep the baby.  OK now that you are a broke, single, mother, living across the country away from all of your friends and family or any other support system.  You can't even date, you can't afford a babysitter.  You can't even meet anyone for a couple of years because you will be so busy taking care of junior.\n\nOK finally you start to date again but you settle for someone who is not right for you because after all, you are now damaged goods, You know, Bills, Baby, Low Self esteem.  \n\nOK have a baby with him also and catch a venereal disease on top if it.  Well he wasn't right for you anyhow. you settled for someone because you thought you couldn't do better.  So after seeing that he really is a jerk, you break up with him.\n\nGet the drift. Stand up for yourself Now.  Tell him that you hope he likes his new home and that he can email you if he likes.  Bye\n\nAnd make a life for yourself now while you are single,  hopeful, young, and the possibilities of the whole world are there for you if you want them bad enough.  Don't mess up your life.\n\nDate nice Gentlemen who will wait to have sex with you until after you are married, if you will accept their proposal, because you are not that type (and don't be that type).  Stay pure in thought and actions. Go to church if you have one, do some volunteer work.  It helps to help someone.\n\nHave a Great Life!  You Deserve it!  Claim it for yourself.\n\nGod Bless You
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well the first thing you should consider is would your friendship change if you moved in with him?  Often times, people dont mesh as well as they thought they would prior to moving in together.  What if when you get to collge you want to explore other men....what will that do to your relationship/roommateship?  if you do move in, make sure u two establish boundaraies and set expectations.  Communication is key!!
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i moved in with my boyfriend when we were together for about 2 years as well...and were still living together...and we've been together for 5 years now...it brought us closer together...with out a doubt....you just learn a lil more about that person...theres always going to be something that you dont like that they do and they dont like that you do ...but you work around it and work together...i think its a beautiful thing...i enjoy being with him so much...if you love her and enjoy being with her and spending time with her then i say go for it...your not making the wrong decision...it will be an adjustment...but have fun with her...good luck
219336
I would bring it up with him. You are already living together which is a huge part of marriage and so what's the holdup?
572356
you are only 19,just because he does'nt want you moving in does not mean that he is not in love.you have only been togeather for 8 months it's far to early,just carry on doing what you are doing and not tell your parents,and why do your parents not like him?.it can be done i was only with my partner for 8 months and 12 year on were still togeather,but im only one of the lucky few as not very often you hear relationships would survive that.
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Dont do anything till there's a ring on your finger baby. Your boyfriend is just that, a boy-friend. He may hook up with some cheerleader in six months for all you know. No one looks out for you but YOU. Finish school where you're at right now, once you have your degree, then you can think about moving. But you think about what's good for you first. \n\nThat's the problem you women have, you put your man first, thinking, "he wouldnt ask me to move there if it wasnt a good idea." Wrong! He's not thinking about what's good for you, he's thinking about what's good for him! He wants you there to take care of his needs, sexually, monetarily and general housekeeping. He could give a rat's azz about your degree, your friends or your family. Ask yourself, would you make him move? Didnt think so...
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First of all to give him a chance, discuss this matter with him directly. Tell him that you won't be the way he wants you to be, but you love him a lot and wanna be with him. If he agrees and changes his attitude to you then it might become alright for a while, but if not then just dump him and tell him that you can easily live without him. I can assure you that when you'll dump him he will come after you, cause probably as you've said he can do it so well, he wouldn't expect this from you. And when he comes after you then you make him to do things you want, but don't push it as he has been pushing.
62558
If he truly wants to be with you and you want to be with him, you should be able to work out whatever his issues are together.  Move on!
280302
why are you 18 and wanting to move in with a boyfriend?\nis there something at home your running away form, talk about it dont run. I understand the idea of living wiht a Love is tempting. \nStay in school and take care of yourself first. How about this, get your education, a real job and buy and apartment for yourslef. You say you cant afford one, work so that you can and get a nice one!\nAs for the 18th b-day thing, it seems like she is really drilling the school is important thing because...IT IS! \nThe mere fact that they have grounded you is enough to let you know that you are still young ( dont wait your time out). Parents dont groudn 21 year olds ( adults). only kids. \nstay home.
973010
Move in with someone who has it.
1051402
Honey, no man is worth moving for. If your happy with your current living situation, stay! If you wanna move to make him happy, why are you even getting back with him? You obviously broke up for a reason. Stick to your guns and dont make any decision based around him.
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It totally depends on the situation. How long you have been together should weigh heavily on your decision. I would highly recommend not moving in if you are newly dating. Let the relationship advance first. \nAlso, have the 2 of you talked about what should or should not be expected of each other once you do move in together? Set some ground rules in advance and the transition will go much smoother.(bills, food, talk about how everything will be paid for.. split down the middle or are each of you going to cover different things each month?)  It is hard merging 2 people into one house. Each of you will have your own expectations and it will NOT be the way either of you think. \nNot all guys are just looking for someone to help with the bills or house. \nI moved in with my boyfriend on my 18th birthday, after we had been seeing each other for 5 years. We moved in together and never looked back. I am now 30 and we are happily married with 4 children. \n\nGood Luck!
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Lots of factors - like how old you are, what is the status of your relationship, what is the stage of your relationship right now, how serious both of you are with each other, etc.  If you're still young, it may not be advisable to move in with him there.  Are you already engaged and marriage is in your plans?  Can you both work out a win-win plan?  I think a move that will affect both of you must be decided by both of you, and not just him.  He should have asked your thoughts on the matter, considering that he expect you to be there.  Weigh all these considerations and decide the best.
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I don't think I'd do anything quite yet.  You should probably wait and see what happens. I understand you're worried but if your relationship is strong, you 2 can work this out.  Some people can make long distance relationships work out, some can't.  He says he's taking you with him, do you even want to move? That's something you'll have to decide and that could give you the rest of the answers you need.\nBest of luck to you!
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This one calls for tough love.\nJust because he gave everything up to move to Memphis to be with you doesn't mean free rent.  Tell him that it's okay to live with you but he has to pay his portion of the rent and living expenses.  It sounds like you really care for him and that you are a generous, loving, kind hearted person.  Don't let him take advantage of your sweet nature.  You're not being cheap or stingy.  If he's down on his luck finding a job, kick him out until he gets a job working at Mc Donalds flipping hamburgers.  \n\nIf you can find the courage to look further and get the big picture, your futures will be bright.