how come i'm so lonely?  It's very hard for me to make friends.Is it because people afraid of my handicap?
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you can talk to me, as for your handicap, i'd have to see it first, then i'd know if people are avoiding you cos of it
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hm, i ask myself the same question every once in a while and the only good answer is that you can't find a friend, you can only make friends with someone, which again depends on destiny. have faith and good will send you someone. people come and people go ever since they have been created\n\ncheers\n\nnedzad
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This isnt the place to meet people, go out be social join a group...there is no reason to be lonely unless you choose to be like that....good luck
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Im right there with you. You kinda feel that you dont really fall into any minority or group/click... just you on your island. I think we're unique enough to just be... us. Its lonely, isn't it. I often have trouble finding good friends i can count on, but have an abundance of mutual friends that i can hang out with... but it seems like you can never find anyone who can relate to you.
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Open the door and walk outside. It's as simple as that. There's an odd mix of people all around you and everywhere you go. It seems like you got locked into a comfort zone, regarding your social group. Interact with people you normally wouldn't at the places you normally go (i.e. school, shopping, work, gym, club, and yes- even at the bar). Good luck.
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As a matter of fact, I have the same problem. But I don't really mind as those people aren't even my type, so i just regard them as not even worth it. I don't know if that helps for you though. You sound terribly shy and lonely, so perhaps you should socialise more and if you do see someone you like, make the first move.\n\nBut don't try too hard though, I know this girl who was really desparate for friends, so much that it showed and she was ostracised by her classmates (who were a really mean bunch to begin with).\n\nDon't look for online friends, it's only a way to meet perverts who prey on lonely young people, and even if they aren't, no on e is sincere about online relationships because on the internet, you're just an avatar.\n\nTo be honest, if you haven't got friends, you cannot do very much about it. I suggest you just find another hobby for yourself to take up your time and sit out this awkward period in your life.
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Sounds to me like you need friends who will encourage you and be confidence builders. You're going it alone and your shyness is holding you back and this is where good friends will step in and give you support. Reach out, make friends who will help you feel more secure about yourself. Some of us here list our emails and message links to be of help. Take advantage of this and the experience others may have that can offer you support and advice as friends should.\n\nBest Wishes!!
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It's good that you are willing to help others. It won't be easy if you are a true introvert. I'm pretty much an introvert myself, and would probably be living with my mom and dad or just working at McDonalds if it weren't for lucky things that have happened to me. Thank the fates!\nWhat would help me right now would be if I weren't such an introvert, but you know what? Since I can't do that, and I'm having to endure being around other people, letting them see what a dork I am, then what I really need is more patience, more patience for me to have, and I wish more patience other people to have for me.\nI'm happy that I am alone right now....\nI'm scared that I won't be alone, a friend is coming over and we're going out...Then I have to go back to work Monday.\nI'm angry that I have to be this way, and other people will say, "Get over it!" It's not that easy...\nGood luck!
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Probably the same reason I do.  I have a hard time being out going.  But you can work on it.  Just asert yourself, people WANT to be around you trust me I know.
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i completely understand. i have the same problem. i think you have to be happy. just because there are people around doesn't mean you can't be lonely. like something is missing and you're not quite sure what sometimes. doctors sometimes help but i think it's all something that can be worked on by ourselves it just may take awhile. i'm sure this isn't really an answer but at least you know you're not alone in this aspect :)
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Rejection is a part of life and Ive been rejected alot. Step out of your comfort zone and approach people who u want to talk to. It might be scary at first but in the end you'll be glad that u've tried
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If you want friends you have to be friendly and be yourself.  Dont try to be someone youre not.  Be sincere.
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Having trouble making friends?\n\nhttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/;_ylt=AiO2xLfWleTh3zYVBZE4DB8jzKIX?qid=1006030211739\n\nhttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/;_ylt=AqGmHpbLantqyLO2PjyTXKwjzKIX?qid=1006040310593
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You know what.. you should not ask people to be friends with you out of kindness or, a species of that, out of pity.  Be yourself, be nice and you will attract friends who are there not because they want to be kind to you but because they enjoy your company.
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i'm a loner myself. i dont have close friends to hang out with. i only talk with my bf and my sisters. sometimes i'm bored and hoping that i have few friends to talk and out with. its not that i'm unfriendly, i just did'nt find someone that really understand me as a friend. when i found ur question,i felt that i'm not the only one who had this kind of problem. maybe it's normal.
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No matter what your level of disability it's clear you can write and convey your thoughts to others. Have you considered becoming part of a community group? Maybe your church does good works, or has some sort of program that encourages outreach?\n\nThere's also attending classes at the local college or university, maybe even doing something online? \n\nI guaruantee that it's not because of your disability that you're having trouble finding someone. You want a decent good hearted person right? Well that person wouldn't care about your impedments. It's just that your life path hasn't crossed his just yet. He's out there, wondering if he'll ever find you...\n\nPut the loneliness and depression aside as they are self-indulgent. Get out there and enjoy the world and give them a chance to enjoy you!\n\nKnow things will better, best wishes - J\n\n1.27 12:27a est  So So sorry to hear about your daughter, she can't be hurt anymore where she is now, and has a peace that no one can have in life. It should be important to everyone in your community to bring the killers to justice, but maybe this is a fight you'll have to fight for a long time. May your faith help you through this struggle.\nThis might be a good time for some "Chicken Soup" books to be borrowed from the library. Maybe the folks at the library could even advise a way to get to and from there.\nMaybe they could even suggest a place to take classes in the area, maybe a Parks and Rec, or a community center building in town?\nSometimes you have to put yourself out there. It can't be easy to deal with the circumstances of your situation and I don't mean to sound as if I am trivalizing your concerns. In fact I agree that you are probably a hundred percent correct about your surroundings. Thing is SOMEONE is going to have to change that, for you, for other people like you, and even for the people unlike you who don't realize things need to change.\nSpeak to the people in your City Hall about arrangements being made (transportation and otherwise) for the people with various "challenges" in your town. If they aren't helpful right from the get go, it might be time to enlist the help of the American with Disabilities.\nIf it sounds like I am assigning you to a crusade, you're right. I think the powers that be brought you to that little town in hopes that you might bring about some change. There is someone right now, or in the foreseeable future, who couldn't speak fom themselves, who doesn't have the strength of character you do, who needs you to help people SEE.\nYour daughter believes in you, knows you're up to the task. She's watching right now, hoping you'll smile. \n\nDear heart , please remember that for many of us, it's a struggle to find companionship. Maybe right now the focus should be just on building your circle of friends (step in the right direction is posting here at Yahoo Answers). And later, friends can introduce more friends, and sometimes that's when you find those things that you gave up hope of ever finding.\n\nThe powers that be are with you, as am I- J\nsagebella72-answers@yahoo.com
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Justin, be honest about being disabled.  Check out places like netfriendships.com  and create your home page.