Here's the truth. I was adopted, and yet my parents only told me now. What should I do?
479140
Who cares.so what if you were adopted.You love the parents you have now don't you? They are still your parents,it doesn't matter who had you.They raised you and loved you all this time.
878384
You need to relax.  I know you are having a difficult time.  You have exactly less than 3 years before you turn 18.  When you turn 18 you can go live on your own.  Adoption process is a lot of hassle and I dont think it is worth it.  Tough it out.  You can make it.  18 is not that far ahead.  Just ignore any negatives and focus on your high school and enjoy your time in high school.  18 is what you should look foward to and then move away.
601470
Katie, you are a victim of too much information. You know things about your parents that you really don't need to know. You are not responsible for their problems or for the decisions they have made for their own lives. Seeing the flaws in your family, coming to terms with the deceptions, is a tough thing to deal with.\n\nI'm not sure how old you are, but I'm guessing you are still a minor, living with your parents. You need to sit down with both your parents and talk about all that you know. You need to suggest that you all go to family counseling so that someone neutral can help you figure out where you go from here.\n\nI repeat, you are not responsible for your parents' problems. Your father was wrong to tell you all the things he told you, but since the cat is out of the bag, your mother needs to know what you know and you need to decide as a family what to do about all this. If your dad is suicidal, he needs to get help. Unfortunately, it sounds like you have parents you can't fully depend on, so you need to learn how to take care of yourself. Look outside your immediate family for a trusted adult (a school counselor, a pastor) who can help you negotiate through this minefield and help you find the help you need.
678021
Your husband should have copies of the adoption papers/amended birth certificate, which would tell you where you were adopted from (agency, state, etc). Then I would contact that agency/state and see what they can tell you. There is a number on your birth certificate which correlates to a number on your original birth certificate. You will probably have to fill out paperwork stating why you are wanting this information and then hope that your birth family has filled out the same paperwork saying it is ok.  If the adoptee has made contact with the agency saying that he is wanting to be found, then the agency will make contact with you.
651018
No I am not adopted.  I think it is PATHETIC that you get teased!  Just remember this...you were a very BIG blessing to the parents that adopted you!  You were SO wanted!\nAlso, a womb is just a greenhouse.  The parents who RAISE you are the real gardners!!
1027222
you should have waited for the right time.. but what has been done has been done...i just hope u never regreted it... and if u think it will help you to open that up to your parents,why not...just be ready for a 1 month ground...kiddin!
977325
Chances are sweetie that your biological father either died or didn't want anything to do with you.  Fortunatelly for you, you had a father in your life that wanted to be your dad.  Let the past go, I know it's hard not having your parents living, but that is no reason to search for someone who was never in your life growing up.  If you think that this will heal some emotional scars you have from losing your mum and pop your wrong.  Chances are if you do find your biological dad you will be very disappointed.  Let it go, remember, being a parent is not DNA, its taking care of you, teaching you, loving you, and being there for you through thick and thin.  Now that your grown that biological father can never do those things for you, so forget him!!
1017027
My birth mother found me, but it took years.  She knew only my Adopted last name and the religion of my parents.  she researched painstakingly through computer phone books.  Since then(98) I have helped others.  No money required.  Contact me, and give me what info you do have.  I can help.
529939
Your adoptive parents should have copies of the adoption papers/amended birth certificate, which would tell you where you were adopted from (agency, state, etc). Then I would contact that agency/state and see what they can tell you. There is a number on your birth certificate which correlates to a number on your original birth certificate. You will probably have to fill out paperwork stating why you are wanting this information and then hope that your birth family has filled out the same paperwork saying it is ok. If the adoptee has made contact with the agency saying that he is wanting to be found, then the agency will make contact with you
205525
It's not an easy thing to do-but you have to please them. When I was a little girl it took me years to convince my parents I was responsible enough for my own dogs. We had little pets, like hermit crabs and fish but to me nothing could compare to a dog. \n\nYou really have to prove it to them. Do chores, whether pet related or not, without being asked. Do them before your parents have a chance to ask you. Do extra chores. If your neighbors have pets, strike a deal with them to help care for them for a week, and show them that you're willing to walk a dog several times a day. Go the extra distance and let them know you will do anything to get the dog, and they will see how much you truly want it. \n\nI began working at an animal rescue when I was twelve. I worked there, volunteering at adoption events every weekend, helping with fundraising, and overall just dedicating so much time and energy to it. The key factor was showing my parents dogs were my passion, not telling them. The more I bugged them about it, the less enthusiastic they were.\n\nOnce I turned sixteen, they finally comprehended that I was not going to give up and decided I more than deserved the privilege of my own dog. I adopted a dog from the rescue that weekend, and he went with me to college and passed away shortly after. \n\nToday, I live with my husband and two kids---and currently eight dogs. Four are mine, and four are fosters with a rescue in a different state than my hometown. Every bit of effort I put in as a teenager was worth it, because I know my life wouldn't be the same today if I had given up. \n\nKeep working hard, and with time it will come. Good luck!
152058
If he's been living with you for all these years, i think it's best if you tell him. Hearing you're adopted is tough enough.. hearing it from strangers that are actually your birth parents would be terrible. Tell him, let him know you love him no matter what and tell him if and when he's ready, then he can meet the other parents.
184430
I have been in the same situation as you.  My father wouldn't give me any information so I asked other family members what they knew especially the last name and where he lived.  I contacted him and he was glad to finally meet me. Talking will be awkward at first like meeting any new person but take your time and a bond will be formed.  Good Luck
752487
Im wondering how old you are since your family is so against it, maybe they think it was too quick.\nYou have to go with your own feelings but listen to what the family has to say and maybe you can help them understan your point.
1086684
if you got to ask, you don't need to know yet.if you are that curious ask the folks that love you the most....YOUR PARENTS,please don't push the issue online.there really are some scary people out here that only seek to give you mis-information.
173544
can you give a little more info on what your circumstances are? where do you live, where were you born, why were you seperated from your birth mother, etc? that will help to find the appropriate site.\n\n\n(just a note to anyone else in this situation... don't forget, the people who raise you are just as much your "real" parents as your biological ones. it's important to know where you came from- but think about who made you who you are. Don't mean to preach, but... spare a thought for the folks who loved you for your whole life and who might feel hurt if you appear to reject them, make sure they know you love 'em, ne?)
750872
Well, the good news is, you can contact the adoption agency your parents adopted you from. Ask your parents...they know where they got you.\nThe bad news is,  it's going to cost at least $100 CDN to start the process...usually the agency contacts your biological parents...but if they don't want you to know who they are, you're at a stand still. The agency can't give any information they are not authorized to give. So, be prepared for all possible outcomes.\nGood luck.
181179
It sounds like your friends have a new leader.  Take your adopted child and find some new friends.  You can explain to your old friends that you won't be hanging around with them any more because of this guy and then move on.  If any of your old friends are able to see the truth, then they will follow you.  Some of them will follow later.  You need to look out for yourself though and move on.\n\nI stress that you need to find new friends because that new guy might start doing more things that could get him busted.  And when he goes down, everyone that is around him will be busted too.  You and your friends will be guilty by association.  Pick you friends very carefully.