Why do i always like a guy until he likes me....then i am not interested??
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Your answerers thus far have the right idea.  As a young guy, I went through something very similar.  I would pursue the girl actively, using any means at my disposal.  Then when she started acting interested, I sensed in myself a "loss of respect" for her.\n\nStupid and self destructive.\n\nFirst of all, you have to ask yourself, what do I want out of a relationship?  What makes me feel self-respect?  What kind of pleasures, aside from the physical, make me feel good when I'm with a guy?  Do I laugh?  Do we talk about meaningful stuff?  Does he care about me?\n\nIf you're anything like I was, making another person fall for you is one way of validating your appeal.  Okay, so that person fell for me...one more notch on the gun.  But I still don't feel that good.  Let me try the next guy.\n\nWhat you're doing may, in fact, be a way to help yourself feel attractive and appealing.  But you never quite get the feeling right.  And some guys treat you like ****, which only serves to reinforce your bad feelings about yourself.\n\nPeople have been saying it for a long time:  to love another, you must first love yourself.  That means, really feeling independently self-fulfilled.  Knowing that you're special and that you don't need someone else to make you feel that way.  \n\nSome people...maybe you...lose touch with that feeling of being worth something, and you continue to "play the field" seeking that which you'll never find, the love that you'll want to hold on to.\n\nAnd if you don't think you're really special, and know that it's true, and screw anybody who doesn't think so, then maybe you need to talk to a counselor.  Doesn't have to be a shrink; could be someone you trust, someone in church, but make it someone who has no stake in the outcome, someone who can be objective.\n\n~Dialectic_Dilettante
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Maybe the chemistry is not right?  Maybe this guy whom you thought you might like is really not for you?\n\nOr maybe he comes on too strong by planning what you two will do for the next month.\n\nFrom what you write, he seems like a nice guy - but if the chemistry is not there for you, then you should tell him that you don't feel the same way towards him as he does towards you so hopefully he will be your friend.\n\nGood Luck!
413071
if you don’t like him, why do you care??  He probably likes you if he always makes it a point to get your attention…
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Let him be, he might only like you as a friend and if you start pushing him or hiting on him he might just drop you as a friend.  I am a girl and usually when a guy "friend" is interested in me more than friendship,.. well our friendship doesn't last because the trust is gone.
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you need to ask him out tonight.  do not wait, waiting may only lead to him liking someone else.  if he says he kinda likes you, you need to give him the push to where he will really like you.  dont wait ask him out...hope that helps good luck
565500
One never ends up with crushes, that is why they are called crushes.  Until this guy makes definite signals, consider him unavailable.  Crushes suck.
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Well, I will wait awhile to talk to the guy that likes me. Like if he calls me, I will wait a week or more to give him a call back. I do this from the start to make sure that he realizes that I don't like him in that way, but still want to be his friend. Best of luck.  There are plenty of fish in the sea.
66888
That means he doesn't want you.  Find somebody else to really like.\n\nTell him that you like him a lot and that he can call you anytime.
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If a man is truly interested, he'll go for you no matter what. He might be shy about it at first but eventually he will go for it. I am more old fashion when it comes to dating so I think you should sit back and be confident in yourself and if he is the one for you, it will happen all on its own. Don't try to push for anything...just let things happen. I think you should make sure you are being confident in yourself...walk tall...and know that any guy would be lucky to have you...if he likes you great...if not...next please! Just move on if need be! :-)
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they just want poonani but hey dont trip about stupid thigns like that cause sooner or later karma's gonna get that foo back lol and to tell u honestly the main reason guys dotn have much feelings for u is probably cause u openly show that ur interested u hsould try not to show him too much interest
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Maybe he is just shy that you wouldnt want to date him. OR he could be waiting for YOU to make the first move... You know, trying to play hard to get... But usually, guys wont do that, not that any I know anyway...
888493
that happens to me all the time. auctally most of the time. the person i like now i hated to begin with...
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hum relax, if he likes you will find out sooner or later, it not, then big whooop,  move on, obviously if he doesn't like you then he's not worth your time!
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You need to stop fixating on this guy. I like someone, and i can't be with me, especially seeing as i rarely see em, and it means i just think about them, then like them more, and its a really bad cycle\nSTOP\nthe more you think baout him, the more you'll like him. If he thinks your a stalker, then hes not gonna go out with you! You need to take a chill pill, stop obsessing. It will scare him off. Be cool, act uninterested and as if it was jus rumours that escalated. He's more likely to like you that way. \nHe sounds like he is a concieted jerk, but i no how easy it is to fall for em. And if he IS a jerk, the fact he knows you arent running after him MITE annoy him, guys love it when they have admirers, so wen u disappear he could veyr well want you back\nYour not a looser, your gorgeous, if he doesnt reckognise that then f*** him, its his loss. Don't let your self confidense take a dive like mine did when my guy didnt like me back. Be strong, life is full of hurdles the more you overcome the mroe grgs u are ;)
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he's just giving u the cold shoulder or simply trying to get U more interested in him, its just basic love strategy.  It is common just do the same thing to him and you will be surprised on how he reacts.  U will have good results. Good Luck!
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he teases you, but has those random moments of kindness\n\nhe does this because he doesn't know how to show you that he likes you, and is afraid that you don't like him back.
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whats the point of getting him attracted to you if you dont wanna go out with him?\n\nYES!