How soon after separating is it ok to date someone?
494694
meet me for chicken wings and beer and lets discuss it!  :)
182811
Absolutely! If there's a spark, what's the harm in dating. I mean, it's nice to know the person isn't a psycho, but assuming they didn't appear to be when you met them, going out after that would be fine. Attraction is key in the long run so if it starts out that way, it at least has potential.
946420
Like I said in your previous q's, it is pretty stupid.  If you were going to get a divorce anyway then why didn't you get a divorce first before going back into the dating scene?  The reason I said to divorce first is to avoid the very complication you are in now, which, as you stated, your wife wants to get back with you.  \n\nAlso, keep in mind that you are not being fair to the person you're seeing.  You are dragging her into your drama.   If you want to date other people you should start with a clean slate.  Divorce first.
309340
"Dating" implies that you're not exclusively dating each other.  You may be casually seeing two or three different people.  \nThere really is no set time period for the transition from casual dating to a boyfriend/girlfriend situation.  For some, this happens immediately, while for others it's a slow, gradual process.  It's not at all uncommon to find you have instant chemistry and can't even think about dating others.  On the other hand, some people are friends for months or years before they transition to a "relationship".  \nA significant event, while defined by some as a sexual encounter, is the mutual realization that neither of you wish to date other people.  In my experience, this isn't something that is controlled or set.  You can't put it on a calendar, it just happens.  You wake up one morning and realize that you're happiest when you're with that person.  \n\nMy relationships have varied.  I was friends with one person for three years before we became a couple.  In another instance, I knew after our second date that he was the guy for me.  (Incidentally, we're still together... we've been married for 6 years!)
29448
i'm 29 and i can so relate to you.  i mean dating itself is so confusing and once you are dating someone it is confusing to know how often you should date them, before it becomes exclusive.  i am going to keep coming back to your question to see the answers.  sorry i couldn't be more help.
1031043
You need time. A relationship is like a tree. When it dies you have to figure out what went wrong. Then you have to fill in the hole where the tree was, before you can plant another tree. In short, take some time to contemplate your old relationship. Where did it go right? Where did it go wrong? Only after you are whole again should you start  dating. Otherwise that girl you want to date is just a transitional relationship and that isn't fair to her.
33518
Go for it. Your ex should not have any say over who you date. That's why it's called "ex."
987690
You just got out of a 4 year relationship and you are ready to jump into a new one after two weeks? You contradict yourself you said you told him you knew he was dating others ..he denies it but tells you that he needs to compare if it was worth it to leave one for the other? Anyway it's ok that he is dating others considering you aren't in a committed relationship, you are just dating. Guess what you can date others too! Don't make someone your priority when you are only their option. I, quite frankly, think it's a lil soon to be jumping into a new relationship so quick but that's your decision to make. Keep dating the guy but don't make yourself completely available to him, create a challenge. Also date other people and let him know about it. After all the two of you aren't exclusive, unless he makes it that way. Just take it slow and do what a psychologist does best, analyze.
304394
I'm very impressed by your input on the situation! Why? Because I'm a divorced father as well, and yes - after a divorce you are somewhat at the mercy of the ex, and at least for me - it's much better to take things slow. I'm a lot more cautious now than I ever was before when it comes to dating!\n\nI don't think he blew you off at all! And for you to suggest fishing? Where can I find someone like you? Got any sisters? (Kidding)\n\nSeriously, be patient, maybe you could even do something as simple as enjoying lunch together somewhere? Take it slow - if he's anything like me, it just takes time.\n\nTry to suggest planning far enough in advance, and see if he can get his ex to be agreeable on the date you've chosen. Sometimes a planned schedule far enough out is the best way to make certain it will work.\n\nGood luck with your situation!
153465
Even though I'm a guy, I have been where you are before.  My ex always dangled that possibility that we might get together thing out there.  Unfortunately being the person who got left you feel like if there is a posiblity then you should keep your life on hold just in case.  Two years is too long to have to keep your life on hold for someone who has left you and cheated on you.  It is past time for you to get your life back and to seek out happiness once again.  Step one though should be filing for divorce.  I recomend this before you date anyone because in some states it can make a difference in the settlement still.  If you so much as date someone even though he is the one who cheated first and left they will still see you as equally cheating even though you waited two years.  Beyond that concern though you have every right and duty to yourself to move on and be happy.  Get divorced and find a guy who really loves you and deserves your love.
717935
You've got yourself a rebound woman and she will be the next Ex if you are not careful.  My suggestion is not to date while separated because any woman that gives you attention, you will fall in love with.  \n\nThe most wise thing I've ever heard about love is, "You don't fall in love with a person.  You fall in love with the way that person makes you fell about yourself."  This new person is giving you lots of new attention and your Ex hasn't paid you any attention in years.  Of course you feel love, but it is most likely to be temporary.  You need to find time to be alone and find out who you are.  For so long you have been part of a couple and you still are.  You need time to figure out who you are as a single.
424663
You should stay single for at least a month to recover. I don't think bumping to another relationship is the best way to recover. You need to find yourself first or else you might fall into another bad relationship.
619350
Personally I wouldn't be thinking about getting involved with another man so soon after divorce. You will find your soul mate when the time is right. Have some "down time" for yourself. Divorce is not easy on the heart, so heal first before rushing into another relationship. Your knight in shiny armor is out there somewhere, weather your divorced or single.
682566
I think when you have finally let go of the fact your marriage did not work out and are peace with the fact it didn't work and are not carrying around any ghosts.\n\nThen you will be ready to put your time and energy into a new relationship or be ready to date. I think if you are not over the past, then it will ruin even fun dates, because your heart just won't be in it.
930161
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942749
If you put what others had said before me, and consider that I is okay to not be sure, but to date and see what happens, and not pull back, then you have it half licked. \nIn my case, I had parents who did not fight and argue, and stayed together, and I think really loved each other, but pretty much did their own thing. \nWhat has put me off from relationships, and what I am just getting over, is all my friends who had parents who divorced. Worse, friends with horrible step parents, the kind the beat with belts and all kinds of crap. I am holding out for the love of a lifetime, and want to raise my own kids, if I have any.\nSo, I see your ideas as really rational and normal given your background. As one person has said, the best way to do it is to not judge the situation or a future mate before even meeting her. \nIt can be done, I am just learning myself. So can you. And, when you meet the right one, you can tell her these things, and she will not be offput, as long as you tell her you really want to get to know her before committment. \nI have been interested in the same person now for a couple years. This time it may work. She hangs in with me, and I with her. No we don't live together, but are slowly learing to trust. \nSo, hang in there, and let things happen slowly. Just because you kiss, or even shag doesn't mean that you are about to be in a trap, as long as you are careful. \nBe good to yourself, and realize that sometimes it is the unknown that makes life exciting!
421388
I would go out. I had a serious boyfriend for 3 years from ages 16-19. I was really happy but I felt the same way. I took the leap to go out and I'm glad I did. Now, my ex and I are best friends. Even though we didn't get back together, dating other guys let me realize how much happier I am that my ex and I are just friends now. I didn't realize how much happier I could be until I had some more experience. Plus, I have overcome the fear of wondering how it is to date others. And you never know, you might date around and realize what a great guy you had. He seems like he would be willing to get back together after some time. This would let you know just how happy you are with him, and you will never wonder again.