I am never satisfied in my relationships, what can I do to meet the right kind of guy?
485634
I don't feel there is any useful information to give you.  I try not to be a horn dog.  But, that only lasts so long.  I am an older man too.  I try to take relationships seriously. But, always at the back of my mind (well, not always -- some women I am not in the least attracted to)... mostly I am a horn dog; but, I am really nice too.\nI have had some really pretty girl friends; but, I think I like a girl who gets along with me better -- or I get along with her.  I am still a horn dog; but, I can enjoy her company and I feel pretty much the same pride as guys who have gf who are just for show.  Maybe it's my standards are low.  I know that dating a real pretty girl or beautiful that other guys give you some kind of admiration.  But, I would be embarrassed about a girl's looks rather than go with a pretty girl I didn't like.  \nI want to know if there are things that you would share with a man that you aren't saying here that even if he is not bedding you he will value outside of how pretty you are.\nFinally I don't know if I should be saying any of this to you.  I mean, I think there is a code or rule that guys can't say things like this to pretty girls.  Sorry. I just have no idea of what to say to you.\n\nI like to read the other comments and then add something if I feel it needs it.  I think the answer with the zen in it is worthwhile.  And, I knew a girl who uglied up just to advoid worthless guys.  She did really well with that because that was just weird.
296088
Don't loose your hope. Second, stop looking for him. Try to meet men without hoping them to be available or Mr, Right. \n\nIf you expect to find Mr, Right you never will. None of us are perfect.\n\nSecond, don't worry if they're taken. Relationships aren't forever, people break up, get divorced and die, so there are good people becoming single all the time.\n\nRelax and it will get to you once you've stopped looking.
949205
Sex is part of developing relationships, not the reward.  Maybe you need help on choosing or meeting the right type of men.
359187
It is possible that you are not satisfied with wht you are doing.. YOu are not satisfied with your life style. Obviously, you do not have a high esteem.. Are you attempting to compare yourself with others who you think are perfect or near so?
1101910
Well it seems to me that you are an insecure person and you suround yourself with people who are equally insecure as yourself.  Because to you it's easy that way.  It's easy to live unchallenged and it's easier for you to just take what is offered.  When you don't like a situation that you are in you have to figure out how your gonna change it.  The first step is too stop taking advantage of other ppl especially if they let you because they are just as lost as you are and you will surely never find your way.  The next step is to work on being comfortable with yourself.  You have to be by yourself to do that. I would suggest that you stop dating or having any type of romantic relationship because nobody will ever be able to appreciate you if you don't even appreciate yourself. And then , after all that is worked out, you find a good secure, honest, independent woman, that isn't gonna let you fall back into your usual routine.  After that i can't say it will all be wonderful, but at least you know its something that you want instead of something that's just there. Godd luck!
1020917
At this point ...no.  If there is someone better out there for me...why should I be with someone who does not totally satisfy me?  Especially in some cases of women I know who settle for anything...its so sad that they have that low self esteem to take whatever comes there way.  I think I deserve better than that. I definitely would not want to be someone's good enough. I want to be the one, the best they've had.
1072885
First, change where you hang out.  If you keep finding losers, then you must hanging out where losers hang out.\n\nSecond, change the way you choose a boyfriend.  It's obvious the system you have right now keeps landing you in the same place.  Insanity in action is repeating the same process and expecting a different result.  It just doesn't work that way.\n\nThird, ask yourself this question, "Why do I want to date him?"  If you cannot come up with anything other than a superficial answer (he's hawt, he smells good, he's rich, he's mysterious/exciting, etc), pass.  Your answers should be more like, "He makes me feel good about who I am," "He makes me laugh," or "He challenges me to be a better person."  Did you notice where the focus shifted?  You are no longer focusing on what makes him attractive, but on how he makes you feel.\n\nFinally, understand that the end game for dating is to find someone you can sepnd the rest of your life with.  Don't use it as a tool to just have company or someone who will pay for everything.  The latter will expect something in return, and the former are called 'friends' not boyfriends.  Use the system to do what it was made for, not to fill a void in your life.  No person can ever do that.  Lonliness can only be cured by you.
163209
yes I feel like that everyday. then the guys I encounter are less than stellar. I think we all have to have faith, live our lives for our self and have fun regardless of if he comes. If you just sit around and wait you will miss the pleassure of living your life! so cry a bit get over it and do something that makes you happy. you never know you might meet the right person while you are in the mist of having fun...
705999
First of all i must say you have a good head on your shoulders. You are going about the career thing the right way. First ask yourself if you werea  good guy where would you go and hang out at on the weekend. Second you need to join some social groups, places where relationship minded or marriage minded people will be at: church, helping the poor, tennis club(you get the picture). Dont believe everyone who says to stop trying so hard , that love will find you when u arent looking. Thats a load of crap. You must put urself in a place that will increase your chances of finding mr right. Remember though it all starts with your heart, listen to it and listen to your mind also and u wont go wrong.
651799
IT IS GREAT THAT YOU THINK LIKE THIS. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. I DON'T SEE WHY U SHOULD SETTLE FOR LESS. I AM PRETTY SURE THAT IF YOU KEEP ON LOOKING YOU WILL FIND THAT GREAT PERSON YOU ARE LOOKING FOR. YOU SHOULD GO AHEAD AND BREAK UP WITH THIS GUY THOUGH. WHY BE WITH HIM IF IT IS NOT LEADING TO ANYTHING. LIKE YOU SAY YOU ARE 27 ALREADY. WHY WASTE TIME LIKE THIS.
282878
Pray that you will find the right guy one day soon. Dont rush into anything just to fit in.
602649
Haha, that made me laugh. Well you have to go through a lot of wrong guys to find the right one. Trust me, you'll find him but it takes sometime. Just be yourself and you'll find one eventually.
47934
Find your self worth.\n\nHe's pumping negitive stuff into your brain.  Remember, You are SPECIAL...You are BEAUTIFUL <he never would have dated u if he didn't see that beauth>...You are WONDERFUL...and POWERFUL...UNSTOPPABLE.\n\nReally, are you happy??? A relationship is a trial to see if you're ment to spend your life together.  So, if you're not happy now <I'm sure if u're not happy, then he's not happy> then where is this relationship leading???\n\nGo FIND HAPPINESS!!!
138911
You need to get out and do more and start mingling with people maybe you will meet someone that you really like. Love takes time and you need to wait for the right one to come along before you decide to settle down. Dont get down about being single just have fun and get out there and meet people.
1057484
You're taking the wrong approach.  You're trying to get a guy to love you by being something you're not.  You should be looking for a guy who loves you for who you are.
556477
Because your looking in the wrong places. Stop looking for the right person and start looking at yourself. Live by the rules of the heart. Love thy self first before you can offer to others. Once you feel comfortable about yourself and stop looking to fill that void...the right person will come into your life. Sometimes if not more often its the person in front of you that is right.
202279
Be yourself. Don't feel too pressured to be in a relationship. When the right guy comes along, it will be worth all the frustration that you are experiencing now.\n\nYou will find that the guys you are attracted to now will not necessarily be the same kind of guy that you are attracted to as you age and get a bit more worldly. \n\nTake your time, date a bit, resist the temptation to put out and you will find happiness.