My bf got really upset when I told him I am bi. I don't understand. Why?
475151
He's feeling threatened and vulnerable. If my girlfriend told me that, I'd start wondering how long until the interest in women grows stronger than her interest in me and she leaves me. And this probably made him feel inadequate, like he wasn't good enough to satisfy you himself. It may not sound logical, but our emotions often aren't. The fact that he got upset is likely a sign that he cares deeply for you. If you care about him, make him feel manly and make it clear to him that you need his manliness (unless you don't, in which case there is likely a break-up in your future).
295705
told him what and i am confused he dumped you and she told you your avatar is a guy are you gay is he bi is she a guy too i have a headache
851361
There are certainly negative aspects of being bi, but you cannot change who you are.  You can be "straight" by dating a woman, just like you can be "gay by dating a man; sexuality is fluid and should be described on your own terms.  You should not feel bad that people call you a bisexual, because you must own who you are.  Live your own life how you want to and only surround yourself with people who respect that.
1175945
Perhaps he thought when you said your the "bad guy" meant that you have done some naughty things as well which made him upset. Your revelation might have brought confusion in his mind. Doubts might have stepped in.\nSo, you must reassure him that its not because of it (like you cheated or what). Just make him know that its about an attitude issue. Ask for space and time to rebuild yourself and tell him that your doing it for him, and your relationship. If he doesnt agree of asking for time, then why not make him a part of your rebuilding process. Ask fof his help and guidance. In this way, he will feel appreciated and that you trully want him to be a part of your life. :-D
336296
maybe that's coz u can't spell... lol nah kidding. Anyway, this question is pretty vague. Either u have done something to piss him off, he's busy with his own personal life, he is guilty of something that he thinks might have made u mad, he is ready to move on to another stage of his life without u, he is busy with his girlfriend, he wants to tell u something that he thinks might bother u (like sexual orientation maybe he is gay and he thinks that would make u mad)... just talk to him!!!
1000969
sounds like he is in denial.  he is trying to make himself enjoy sex with a woman which incidentally doesn't reflect anything about you.  you need to quit having sex with him because you are just setting yourself up for a fall.  he is at the very least bisexual.  trust me most heterosexual men would cringe at the thought of a woman doing what he asked you to do.  tell him you love him (as a friend) will support him 100% if he wants to try to come to grips with the reality that he is at the very least bisexual.  You can't make that decision for him he has to do it on his own however you can protect your own feelings and the best way to do that is to end the sexual aspect of your relationship.
938785
By offering him an open chance to explore your Bi side with you, such as a threesome or for him to watch. Otherwise you are probably going to lose him.
938145
you're bi-sexual which is ok but you need to be open with your fiance and have some sort of understanding with each other. remember if you don't think you should marry him(as much as a nice guy he is) then dont cos it will cause more grief in the long run.both of you deserve to be happy. good luck
184666
do you love him? or are you angry?..Was he gay to begin with of just in the closet?.. None of that matters really of course. If you like the friendship, but can't handle "gay" part (I'm guessing he's bi) Then you have some options. One you need to dtermine what kind of sexual behavior he exibits. Destructive? Thats when he'll do anything with anyone anywhere. If this is the case I'd get out, get checked and walk away. If he has a regular long term lover then you may be able to keep the relationship if you can deal with that side of him.. Personaly (as a bisexual) I will NEVER understand why people who are bi (and they know it going in) are not honest about it. I don't keep secrets with lovers. It's amazing how many women are just fine with that.. You can even find a permanant relationships where every one knows everything. But where I live there are litterally tens of thousands of married men who are bisexual living secret lives, destructive lives at that. They put everything they suppossedly car about at risk and thats not right.\n  Now youhave to decide weatehr or not you want to keep on going with this person or not. My own situation is BiPoly. bisexual+polyamorus (I'll wait while you look that up)..Everything is like a marriage of sorts between like minded people. Maybe thats for you if he's mongamous with his male lover and monogamous with you. Guess that would be duomonogamy. But you get my drift. For gay and bisexual males its rare to have these types of relationships. Socienty has forced them into the alleys and closets so its been a catch as catch can situation. By forcing it into the blue area it has gaurenteed anonamous stranger sex is a given. . But this is changing and more things are out in the open. It would be nice if everyone could just be open and honest with out fear of retribution, but that is not how it has been. Being suppressed is like slavory. you do what you have to do to be free wen you can be.
274799
I don't know,  abot two years ago, I came out to a friend of mine when I was really drunk.  I know that is not a excuse, but I really liked her and wanted to tell her.  When I told her she told me that she was also bi, and wanted to tell me for a long time but was afraid that I would not accept her.  Her reason that people think it is bad, because they have not tried it yet.
130332
Your boyfriend is arguing about this with you because he wants you to have more experiences with girls so he can call you a bisexual and brag about it to all his stupid friends.  Then, when they ask in disbelief, "Nu uh, how many girls has she been with?"  He can actually give them a number that is higher than one.  Don't you get it?  Jeez.
569704
wtf your either straigh or bi. i don't htink you can be halfway between.
1146101
Please don't use the its not you its me line. It is one of the most hurtful things a guy can hear because he knows it is not true. You should explain your feelings to him. You don't have to be excessively nice or mean just tell him the truth.
974137
I think you have just run into a few bad apples.  Guys are guys, gay str8 or bi, basically decent underneath but we all have our faults.\n\nI will say this, some bi guys tend to over compensate, constantly reminding you they could be with a girl (as if you were lucky to be with them), but pettiness ain't exclusive to bi guys, they just got a different weapon to use.
705359
He could have been confused and tried denying how he really felt... especially since you both are so close it would almost be natural for him since there's already a connection between the two of you.\n\nI doubt he was leading you on and if he wasn't letting anyone know that he was gay there would almost be no way of you knowing.  He probably feels worse than you do right now and he might even be thinking be that he did lead you on in some way.  \n\nThe only thing I can say is that the longer you wait to talk to him again the more ackward things are going to be.  The sooner you get things out in the open and talk about it, the quicker everything will go back to normal.\n\nI'm bi and I actually had a similar expirience with a friend of mine who was gay.  We use to work together and he was always touchy feely; I assumed maybe he was bi like me... needless to say I was wrong.  (Even though I now know he is as gay as gay can be, he's got this thing with boobs lol, which I guess all guys do.)  \n\nI felt stupid for a long time but I didn't want my misunderstanding to affect things between us.  We talked about it and I realized that it wasn't an option to be his lover but "friends" aren't bad either.  I knew that keeping him as a friend meant I wouldn't lose him and losing him was the last thing that I wanted to happen.\n\nEverything is fine now and we're still really good friends.  Don't think that you're the first girl to fall for a gay guy because that's not true at all.  You get a man with the caring part of a woman... all straight ladies want that!!!  Just talk to him and let him know that no matter what you're going to continue to be there for him just as he will be there for you.
335984
Okay, well obviously you shouldn't have snooped in his mail box, and he trusted you not to or he wouldn't have given you the password. But you feel bad about it and realize it was wrong, so I'm not going to reprimand you for it.\n\nIf you guys have been friends for three years, and you're good friends, I don't think it's out of line to ask him if he's gay. If your friend knows you're an accepting person, and he's also an accepting person (more on this later), it shouldn't be a problem to ask him as long as you don't do it in an accusatory way.\n\nThe reason why I ask if he's an accepting person is that it's possible that he might not have come out to himself yet. I have a friend that was obviously gay, everyone who knew him thought he was gay from the start, but even though he was accepting of gay people he'd never admit it. He wouldn't even admit to being bi. Well, after knowing this guy for four years he finally admitted that he was bi, and that he had actually been with more guys than girls. The thing is, at the time he didn't think that made him gay or even bi! He was convinced that because he was "just friends" with these guys, and just happened to have benefits with them, that he wasn't bi or gay. He still won't admit he's gay but now that he's come out as bi he never dates girls and says he's not interested in them. The moral of the story is that your friend might not have admitted to himself yet that he is gay. If you ask him about it, he might deny it. Clearly he IS gay or you wouldn't have found those messages, but he might not be willing to accept that yet. If he's a socially open-minded person he shouldn't be offended if you ask him, even if he denies it (my friend was never offended). But if not, that could be the reason why he's not coming out to you or possibly himself, and he could react badly if you ask. So just keep that in mind.\n\nThe final option is that perhaps you can hint that you have some suspicions about him, but not ask outright. Make it clear that you don't have a problem with gays, and let him know how good of a friend you consider him and that you'd never give him up for anything. Then just wait for him to become comfortable coming out to you, when he's ready.
244310
Elaborate on the facts please.  Are you bi or really gay. Or do you mean boyfriend in platonic sense?  Or are you just putting some BS into the mix because you are bored?