Have you lost your children to rich husband?
479936
No I haven't but (it sounds like its a friend) and it sounds like she can get help through a pro-bono place , or a low income based legal services . YOU WOULD BE SURPRISED  at what some places consider LOW INCOME . My sisters husband brings home at least $400.00 a wk (in winter) and at least $600.00 a wk. in summer , and they have a 3 person household . They get approx. $46,000 a year bring home and they get help from W.I.C , Daycare Asst. , food excetra . So tell her - or help her , find those services .
36525
I'm sorry to say but I think it's a case of "out of sight, out of mind".  \n\nI imagine he does love his kids but is so selfishly involved with his own life, they are easy to forget.  He just tells himself it's not his fault, and that they are getting everything they need without his being there. That takes care of any conscience he has going on.\n\nI say this because when my husband & I split up, he told me the same thing about visiting his kids - that it hurt him too much to have to leave them again.  In reality, he didn't care enough to send them birthday or Christmas gifts or even to bother with support payments.  When they were grown, he started to see them for awhile but when they didn't worship him, he stopped.  Amazingly, he was the one who wanted to have a houseful of kids too.\n\nHe always had the time and money for his own life. He just didn't have the emotions needed to separate his kids from his marriage pain.\n\nIt's rough on the kids but if you are strong and give them a lot of love and supervision, they will come through it alright.\n\nBest of luck to you.
852059
My sister-in-law has a son who sever ties with her because he felt she didn't give him enough money which he feels is his inheritance!!! \n\nIf you are in this situation, let him go.
313329
Yes, because my husband has shown me true love. He has been there through good and bad and always protects me and our children.  I've ran from his protection at times because I have felt sophicated, that's until I realized how blessed I am to have someone who cares about me so much.  He has every reason to be the way he is because our world isn't safe at all.
853574
Has someone died leaving you money?
510331
I am really surprised you don't have more answers here. My parents were separated when I was young what I learned from my mom was to work for what I want, and that materialistic items are just that materialistic, unimportant.... My dad on the other hand was the opposite, marry a rich guy and make sure you have more than your neighbors... I certainly see why they divorced. Though he worked for all he had, he and mom both gave to me a strong work ethic... too bad I am now disabled and unable to work, makes it very hard to do what I want.
592918
Hi: My husband and I have children from previous marriages and it is complicated.  The blended family needs a disclaimer: results may vary.  In my experience both partners need to give the other alot of grace.  Relationships can be difficult with our own children, let alone a new girlfriend/wife.  Some parent child relationships are difficult, some are easy.  Psychologists call this goodness of fit. We all have different personalities and we can't always relate to one another.  As for my husband and I, after alot of stuggle I think we relized we are not able to rescue our kids from the missing parent that left them.  Our kids are the ones that respond to the step parent, if they choose not to be responsive and enter into a relationship we cannot force them.  The wicked step mother applys, even when you are an angel from heaven.  Some kids never respond to the step parent.  Dr. James Dobson said in one of his books (paraphrased): The child takes on the job of protecting the family of orgin, they will ask when is Daddy coming home, they will say "you are'nt my mom."  It really depends on how old your kids are.  I think in our case, our kids were too old to start a new family.  My husband and I should of waited to get married until the nest was less populated.  In short if you married a woman with no kids, dont expect her to be perfect, and angel sent to make everything roses and sunshine for your kids.  If she is human she will have stuggles and make mistakes, but love is the greatest of all.\nGod Bless.....
174776
Saw my mom get left alone with six kids to raise on her own, while dad had 17 kids total.  She was a housewife and totally depended on her husband.  Needless to say we struggled growing up. So, I have always been independent (since I turned 18) and always will stay that way!  Of course, if I get independently wealthy, I might choose to stay home and raise some kids or just go travel!
425974
mmm nope not all of us.  I feel a huge loss but I am not ashamed of their actions.  They made it not me.  I am who I am and I was not ment to be raised by my biological parents or I would have been.  The all mighty had other things in mind for me.  If anything I feel sorry for them,  because in the back of their mind will always be the guilt of knowing what they did.  \nI wish I could know more about them.  Especially if I have siblings who may like your girlfriend need a family connection.  I am blessed to be strong in myself.  But there will always be questions.  Like why in the world my kids are lighter than me, when their father is darker than me.  I know my mom was real light and my dad was dark from non-ident info.  There will always be a greaving for that sense of belonging but I don't feel any guilt.
697366
Yes i did and i regret it. I was a young mother then only 16 and i stole my baby a pair of shoes. That was 20 years ago. May God forgive me
46314
Give your children all the love you can and forget the loser that walked out of their life. Same thing happened to me. Father left when they were very young and never came back. If the father does a huge turn around and becomes worthy to provide them the love they need then you might consider easing him back into their life some time down the road. In the mean time be happy and live your life the best you can. Only thing you can really do. If you feel your children really need a man figure in their life maybe a grandparent or big brother program could fill the gap?
936717
Getting married changed my life. Now I have someone who loves me when before I was lonely and sad. I can deal with people on a much higher level than I could before because living with another person makes you more aware of how other people think. I'd like to pass on how to love to my children.
581715
Yes. Because when my dad died 40 years ago, he had no will, everything was a mess, and the family left behind had to sort things out. It was not easy and caused more pain and stress. Lesson - GET YOUR AFFAIRS IN ORDER...for the ones you love.
195726
I have much REspect for you.Please be STRONG for your children!I am a married woman.I'm 34(he's 35)and I have been with my spouse since high school(15yrs old)!Lately,I have been thinking Alot about divorce!We have had our share of problems in this marriage!(we've cheated,seperated,etc!)Please don't fill like a Failure!You are a mother!Although you may not be a wife,anymore.A mother is the most IMportant thing you could ever do in your life!And you should REspect yourself for that!I have two beautiful daughters as well(ages 12&8).And,they do not want me to seperate from their father.However,I am not happy.I am miserable.It really seems as if we have grown apart throughout the years!Although he will NOT admit it.And he will not leave!Because,he would have to go and live with his mother.He was laid off,collected UNemployment for 6 mths.Now,He has ZERO income.But,it's not even about the money.I have a decent Income.But my money goes I pay all of the bills,etc,etc!With no help from him.He ignores me alot lately.He yells at me if I ask him when he's gonna start to look for employment.We do not sleep together,anymore.(Rarely)!But yet,I won't get rid of him because I am AFRAID!I am afraid of being alone!I am afraid of being a single mom!I do NOT have much support!No family or friends that wanna hear about it!My only family is my mother and she flips out when I mention his name!Because she despises him.And thinks he is an UNfit father and husband,she has even tried to fiX me up with others.Don't get me wrong,He has worked in the past.But there aren't alot of great jobs here in our area.But I thought since he isn't working he would help me around the house more!He does a lil bit but NOT much!He just sleeps constantly,OR plays that damn XboX,or watches Tv 24-7!And it is starting to drive me crazy!We could be tottaly broke need gas,need bread and milk,everything.And he would sit all day and play xbox/or watch tv and act like everythings all good??Please is anyone else out there eXperiencing this with their man/hubby?I would love to hear from you!I would go craZy without this site!lol.I am so ready to call it quits!But,I am just so afraid of being alone.But,It would be so GREAT to find a man who loves me like I love him!One who works,likes the outdoors,fishes,hunts,etc,etc!And one who is good with children!Believe me hun,they are out there!They are just hard to find!But,don't give up!Pray!I bet you time will heal the hurt you are feeling now!And,when you do meet someone else you'll be ready!And hopefully happier than you ever were with him!And I agree with the above look into some support groups they will definately help you!(maybe I should take my own advice,huh?lol)Plus,you may meet someone there you never know.Or at least make some NEW friends!Hey GOOD luck to you!And hey your not all alone dear!You do have us!lol Even though it's just a website.We are all here to help you and give you advice!Sometimes I think I would rather be ALone!Than be with someone who is abusive.And makes me feel Unloved,UNwanted and Neglected!But then again,I might freak out(seriously!)I am just so dependant on him.Even though the marriage is done.And it's stale.I continue to stay?Yes,I am in counseling.But, no that hasn't helped much either!I am on anti depressants,and a whole bunch of other meds.But,I still feel the same.Maybe I'm too afraid to be loved?I don't know what it is anymore.But think of it this way,At least you can be proud of yourself for standing on your own two feet,and raising your children!May I ask why you got divorced after so many years together?Was it your idea or his?If you don't mind sharing.I am really curious about what happened?Thanks!Take Care and good luck to you and the kids!
990401
I know how you feel...my ex stopped paying for our 3 children too.  The minute I met the man I am currently with(13 years) he stopped paying any support, luckily my new man had no problem helping me support the children.  They are now 22, 24 and 26, and they have little respect for their father, but great respect for their step dad. Any man can be a father it takes a real man to be a Dad!
112543
Yes I have. My ex husband called her mama.
290207
I lost my oldest son just over 5 years ago.  He was murdered.  I am still not over it & never will be.  The best thing I can tell you is turn to your religion.  That has helped me.  I think God gives us answers on how to go on without our loved ones in everyday things.  Like, this might sound wierd to most, but sometimes I hear (in the back of my mind) my son talking to me or answering a question that I've only asked myself.  I take it as he's giving me advise.  I think I'm living life as my son would have wanted me to live it.  I'm making decisions that if he were here & I'd asked him for his advice, they are ones that he's tell me.  I don't know hon, life goes on & so must we.  Sorry to hear about your loss.  A son, aunt, mother or father, its never easy & nobody has all the answers.  Just take it day by day.  You'll have good ones & bad one.  I've learned to deal with it cause all the tears & sorrow or angry feelings isn't going to bring my son back, just make me a bitter person.  He wouldn't have wanted that.  He was a good young man, 23 at the time & had his whole life with a wonderful career in his sites.  He was brutally murdered.  We just had the trial back in September '05.  It still hurts but like I said... he would want me to do just what I'm doing... trying to be the best person I can be.  Good luck to you sweetie!