why do ladies do not give time me  to date them before they ask me to marry them?
476583
Maybe your to sweet or to mushy with them.
568816
alot of woman are afraid of rejection, just like some men, they dont approach a man their interested because of that, the sad thing is, you never know what the other one is thinking, they may have the same feelings for you, and if you dont get to know them, you could be missing out on a good thing. As for as the guys asking where all the good woman are? A woman who respects herself isnt just gonna go up and hang all over a man she's interested in, she'll sit back and wait to be approched or introduced to you.
138121
It sounds like maybe you're not being completely up front with them from the beginning about the 'being married' part. Maybe they're getting some kind of vibe from you that you're looking for someone to have an affair with. Are you going out of your way to get men friends? If so, why when you're married?
797231
Well it all depends I have the same problem and the boys literally told me that they aren't looking for wife material which they claim is what I am. They're looking for the dumb females who is willing to give it up right after they have met. They told me that I'm the only damn good looking girl who takes her education seriously and has things going for herself. So really it's a good thing because they see you as a respectful young lady and not a $2 whoe.
1187846
It's because some women are very greedy and they just want what they can't have.  Have you every wanted something, but were told you couldn't have it?  It's like that.  I'm not saying it's a good thing.  On the contrary, I think dating married men or women is terrible, but the reason they do it is because if they know someone is unatainable (married or seeing someone) they will go after that person to prove that they CAN have him or her.  I'm sorry about this double-date thing, by the way.
780435
Sounds as if you've approached some woman, she's turned you down and you can't accept it.  It isn't "rude and arrogant" to reject your overtures whether they are for friendship or romance. It's her right, just as much as it would be yours if a woman approached you.  Maybe she has plenty of friends and just doesn't have enough time for another one. Maybe she has a boyfriend who takes up all her time.  Or maybe you just don't appeal to her.  It's not the end of the world.  Move on. There are plenty of women who will be quite happy to talk to you, provided you are friendly and undemanding, and don't couch your overtures in such aggressive language.
524324
I don't not all guys are like that I definately believe in respecting the woman and building a relationship first it will make the relationship that much better if you wait
894781
I think its because they think they already have you. They dont feel that they have to work to get you excited.  But if it bothers you that much i think you should talk to your man and let him know that you dont just wanna jump in to F**k-ing.  Let him know you exactly what you would like him to do.
1123334
That's because you date girls that don't know what they want, they are probably too immature.  If you date a woman that knows what she wants, then you wouldn't have that problem.  Don't worry, you'll find one when you get older.
1181627
Women seem to but men never do... It takes them much longer and in the meantime while you are falling head over hills for them, they are decideing that you aren't the one for them. Be careful with your heart... take your time and never love a man...more than he loves you.
430437
Because usually they are closer to their mother than the wife..plain and simple. They act like they can't do anything without her permission. When you marry it is good to still be close to her, but you also have to know who comes first and more important she has to know that...K
148824
I agree with landoflook........fear of rejection. They are content, intrigued, but not enough to go out on a limb and complicate things. I think I'll just wait myself........these men may really be on to something.
355931
Why is it that the men your refering to know they don't have to have a lasting relationship with you or why is it that your relationships are not lasting...I have found women think they can attract a man one way and think they can keep him another way...You sound intimidating and perhaps your a challenge, and once they realize your just like other women, they lose interest or consider the challenge over...there can be many reasons...just try and be the person you are and allow Mr. Right to recognize thats the person he wants..good luck.
190937
A couple other viewpoints:  \n#1 She may feel that someone has to be responsible for you, and it is her until you get married then her responsiblity is gone and your husband is responsible for you.\n#2 She may feel that your social status (and thus hers) is higher if you are married.  She may want to brag to her friends. \n#3  She may feel that you will be more secure (financially) with a partner, someone to take care of you.\n#4  She may be hoping for a wedding etc. and trying to live vicariously through you.  She may hope you could have everything that didn't work out for her.\n#5  In her day if you dated a guy and did not get married you were being taken advantage of.  \nI think you should ask her why it is important to her for you to get married.  Then just listen and try to understand
37223
I don't see what the fact that you work from home would have on whether someone wanted to date you.  At least you are working and supporting yourself.  I think it would be fine.  Maybe they are worried that because you are there all the time, you would be up their a$$, who knows.  Perhaps the fact that you are so adamant about wanting to get married is a bit much for a new prospect to deal with.  You shouldn't ever rush into marriage.  To me, that sounds more like what the ladies problem would be.
114940
What about your friends?  Perhaps one of your lady friends is also ready to settle down and have a family but for whatever reason would like to skip the dating etc.... I recommend you talk to them.  It would be better to be married to a friend than a stranger.  Good luck.
395216
men mature slower than women.  they want a good time when the women are looking for husbands.  so unfortunately it's up to us to wait for them to want it.  There are a few out there who are great guys... but unfortunately they get snatched up by a few great girls.  sigh. \n\never feel like "everybody's buddy, nobody's hunny?"  lol- that's me.