I think my best friend hates me?
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Does the guy know how your best friend feels about him? If he does, he's made his choice.\n\nTry to put yourself in your friend's shoes, and give her some time to cool off. If the roles were reversed, you might be upset for a while too, even if she'd checked with you first. Meanwhile, do you know another guy you can introduce her to?
494733
THAT IS NOT A FRIEND!!!AND CERTAINLY NOT WORTHY OF BEING BEST ANYTHING.I WOULD CALL THAT A S**T STARTER.GET RID OF HER BEFORE SHE REALLY HURTS YOUR FEELINGS.IF AN APOLOGY WASN"T GOOD ENOUGH,THEN THAT IS HER PROBLEM.WITH FRIENDS LIKE THAT,YOU DON'T NEED ENEMIES.
211524
I had the same problem. my friend of 6 years kept getting really jealous over my friend of just 2 months. Every time she came close my friend would jump in and pull me away. Not only that she was very close knit. I mean when ever she introduced me to someone she would say "MY BEST FRIEND". It got a little annoying when she wanted me to do the same. It got really bad when she started to make fun of my other friend. That's when I told her, hey listen, you have been my best friend so all these years. And if you think that she is going to steal me away from you, then you must not trust me enough, do you really think i am going to drop you after so many years together? I told her that if i wanted to stop being her friend I would have stopped, but I'm still here. I think you should just tell it to her straight, and if she doesn't believe you, that's her fault.
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If she has been your best friend for a long time, I would encourage you to not make a hasty decision. You can find friends (and even boyfriends) anywhere, but best friends take years to grow. You should do your best to save this friendship before calling it quits.\n\nMy advice is talk to her before you take the final step of "de-friending" her. Explain to her that you've valued her friendship, but that her current behavior isn't excusable. Confront her about her rudeness, and don't be afraid to name specific times and places where she acted like a bee-yotch. She apparently USED to act nice, because otherwise you never would have been friends with her. Remind her of those days. Finally, tell her (in very clear terms) that if she doesn't start acting right, you want nothing to do with her.\n\nThis puts all of the pressure on her, see? If she changes her evil ways, then you've kept your best friend and are better off than before. If she doesn't, at least it isn't your fault that the friendship ended. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully your friend will see the light, but if not... at least the blame will be on her head, not yours.
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first of all, i know people are going to answer MUCH differently than me, but I've been through this (more than once) with friends.\na BEST or REALLY GOOD friend, would keep the secret.  thats right.  dont blab.  if it bothers you, you need to talk to her.  ask her if you can help.  most people just do it for attention, others truly NEED the pain to stop thinking of what bothers them every day.  Some people think that theyre 'rebelling'\nAnd yes, she will hate you for telling.  Even if she does want attention, she'll still hate you.  kiss the friendship byebye. \nConfront her.  tell her it bugs you.  it scares you.  just tell her how you feel.  say that you knew that it would be better to talk to her about it than someone else.  they'll like to hear that.  it shows that they can trust you.  believe it or not, they smiled (inside) even if just for a split second.  \nDont get mad.  Don't say 'If you dont stop, i cant/wont be your friend!'  this, is also a good way to throw away a friendship.  \nDont push it.  If they say they dont want to talk about it.  Dont ask anymore.  drop it.  completely.  BUT...make sure to say that THEY can talk to YOU whenever they feel the need.  this shows trust.\n\nI hope i've helped.  But truly, don't tell.  Even if it doesnt ruin a friendship, it makes it very very awkward.  You wont be 'best' friends anymore.\n\nSORRY IF I WAS TOO BLUNT! :)
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you didn't say how old you are but i'm guessing you are pretty young. friendships sometimes have ups and downs, if she has found a new best friend then maybe you should too. there really isn't much else you can do, except maybe talk to her and ask her about it.
1007274
of course u have to keep talking to her...she is ur best friend !!!! she has the right to be mad,she was refused by a guy...be patient.plz to handle  it u have to be with her n good and bad...she is talking like this now bcs she is mad...be patient she will come to apologize !!! friendship means we have to support each other in ur bad and good times
999072
no more hatred, one of my best friends hates me, -its true- and it really hurts.
571819
I think everyone hates me.
569767
ha, she wouldn't be my best friend anymore! yeah, just tell her your mad. if she's your bff, she'll know better than to keep it up. she should pick u over the guy, and if she doesn't, shes no friend. good luck!
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Perhaps I can help you out a little.  I have been dealing with a bout of depression for about a year now.  So I understand your situation.\n\nIf your friends seem to be distancing themselves from you, perhaps you should voice your concerns to them.  Ask them if you have done something to offend them, because you feel that they are shutting you out of their lives.  If they do not offer any answers, perhaps it is time to find some new friends.  \nPeople change over time, so do their opinions of others.  \n\nYou really should not allow it to hurt you physically.  True loosing a friendship is a traumatic event, but you have to be able to move on.  If you begin to dwell on why somebody dislikes you, you may miss out on forming another friendship with somebody else.\n\nI'm sorry you are feeling "down" from all of this.  All I can say is keep your head up, and live your life to suit YOU, and not those around you.\n\nI wish you all the best of luck in working through this situation.  If you ever need to just talk to somebody with a sympathetic ear, you can feel free to e-mail me anytime.  jam961@yahoo.com\n\nTake care, and God Bless You!
581465
You know, we are in the same situation. You are still considered bestfriends. You see, it doesn't mean that if you go with other persons or friends you don't like your bestfriend. Think of the times you spent together and all the memories you have shared with each other. of course, your bestfriend will miss you. you know there is really a stage in friendship wherein they're kinda bored with each other. maybe you can talk to your bestriend and eventually you can resolve this problem. hope I've helped you... ^_^
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From personal experiences growing up, I know how much that can hurt; I'm very sorry you're going through this. \n\nMy best advice for you would be to ignore the cruel things she says and does to you. I know that it's very hard to turn a blind eye, but sometimes that's all you can do.\n\nI would also suggest that you not try and be friends with her. You should be courteous to her, but you do not need to be her best bud. If she is such a mean girl, do you really want to become her friend? Girls like that are very charming and manipulative. They can get you to do things you would never dream of doing. I once became good friends with the "mean girl" of my school (just so she wouldn't be mean to me), and she pulled me into the peer abuse with her. Before I knew it, she was having me say and do horribly mean things to the girl that had been my best friend since I was 4. I did horrible things to her, and I live with that guilt every single day of my life, even though now we're both grown women and she has told me that I am forgiven. It's a horrible feeling, let me tell you.\n\nSo, to sum up this short novel I've written: Don't pay attention when she does crap to you. When you try and fight back, you're just feeding the beast. Kill her with kindness, but do not try and become her pal. It will only hurt you in the long run.\n\nI truly hope your situation gets better real soon!
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i KNOW my best friend is weird, and thats part of what I love so much about her!!\nWhat about her is weird? Is she doing things that bother you or acting differently than she normally does? If so, ask her whats up and maybe she can explain herself. If not, then either learn to love her quirkiness or find yourself a less outrageous best friend!
195583
Sounds to me like a mixture of jealousy and being scared of losing her friend. The fact is that despite being your best friend, you have your own life to lead. Maybe you should sit her down and try and gently find out why she gets so bothered and reassure her that your friendship will always be there. Does she have boyfriends or has she been hurt in the past? Your success in love may be highlighting her own insecurities. Talking to her is definitely the best option. Good Luck.
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well if u r not afraid to hurt your bestfriend then take him from her wat have u got to lose well u might lose your friend but if u think about doin wat i said then just remember that if u get him aand yall go out and brake up you will probblay hate him and since u lost your friend who do u have? but if u dont fight for him then u wil have your bestfriend 4ever hope this helps
570781
believe your best friend!! unless you know that she's the jealous type or prone to lying, believe her! think about it, why would she LIE to you?