My Friend husband want her to abort their first child sholu she divorce him? or abort the baby?
489950
Unless it has major major health problems that they know of already, no way would I abort it.   She has to follow her heart and do what she wants.  If she wants to have the child, let him leave, she shouldn't have to, let him get in front of a judge and explain he wants a divorce because his wife wouldn't abort his child.
514528
First of all my dear friend, you are too young for this man. I hope to God you have not had sex with this man for this is truly a case of statutory rape. Second, you have way too much life to live to be dragged into the middle of this drama...and believe me, the drama has only just begun. You will never have any peace with this man and his ex (especially since you have indicated that he already talked about going back, then you say, he wants nothing to do with her only for the baby -doesn't sound like a firm foundation to me) You need to run, run, run as far away from this situation as you can - you don't want to be the next one with child.
1124413
I agree with you totally. Women should not abort babies just because they don't want them. They should have thought about that before they opened their legs. Abortion should be made illegal, that way women are more cautious when they decide to have sex. Babies happen, condoms break, it is not the baby's fault. The baby should not pay the ultimate price because of your lack of responsibility. Sex is a big responsibility and most people do not realize this. This is why I do not believe in pre-marital sex. I think sex should only be done when you are married because when you marry someone then you plan to have children. Abortion is wrong because it gives idiots a way to save their pathetic way of life.\n\nPS. If you are raped then I guess it is ok to abort because it wasn't your fault but other than that it is wrong.
842302
If they have no children together then there is no reason for a "friendship" if it bothers you your feelings should mean more to hI'm. I have to deal with an ex because even though im my husband first wife he had children with a woman previous to our marriage they are friends i think its strange but its good for the kids however when we got together they stoped hanging out unless it was at a school function. I have made it very clear to her I come first
826075
There is nothing you can or should do about their decision to get married or them expecting a child. What's done is done, and now they're trying to deal with things in a responsible way. They're trying to do what they think is right and they're probably having a hard enough time already with those important life events and decisions without people making it worse by interfering. You should be a good friend, wish them all the best and don't judge them or give them a hard time over this, they're having enough of that already without you adding to the stress. Be supportive. You can do that without agreeing with what's going on. Don't let your friend down. It's their life.
174995
Do you really want a man that will turn his back on his unborn child, let alone a man that supposedly is in a relationship with you that goes out getting his so called close friends pregnant. Wake up Sister...dump the creep. You deserve better.
585528
i would but not for too long, i wouldn't want to get stuck with the kid to take care of. also why is she prego with out the man by her side... sounds kind of fishy, but everyone has their reason.
717754
If you try to break his marriage, it can result into a fight between u n ur friend.\n\nAll i can advice you is to leave the matter to the married couple. They are mature enough to handle it on their own.\n\nThou i understand you want to help your friend. But relationships are sensetive matters and wifes are often given priority than friends.\n\nFor your friends sake....Leave him alone :P
257503
She is throwing her life away. For all you know, that 30 year old man could be someone your friend doesn't even know really well, and she is just throwing away her life because of rebbelion. Don't let her marry. You should'nt stand in the way of true love, but if you can tell that she really does not love him, don't let her marry. Try to be extra sensitive when confronting her. Tell her everything she will throw away in her life if she marries him.
390667
First, i'm just a little confused about the bringing in another women part. That just doesn't make sense.\nSecond, premarital sex was a bad idea and it would be wise for both of you to stay in the relationship for the baby's sake, possibly get married.\nFinally, you need to realize that you can't force her to stay with you. If she wants to end it you can't stop her. The most you can do is make sure that both of you are part of the baby's life no matter what happens. If you really want to try to keep it together, talk to her bout your concerns. If she loves you like you love her she will listen andhelp to make things work.\nRemember: Communication is the key, and if things don't work out you can't force her to stay with you. Above all remember the baby and try not to let this affect the little one. Always be apart of his/her life. Good luck!
651006
Well what exactly is the problem?  Surely the child can't be the problem in and of itself.  Were you married first and then he had a baby on you?  I'm assuming that's it because if he had the baby first then you already should have known about it. \n\nBut seriously, the child is here, nothing you can do about that.  If this man broke your trust and was infidel then you have two options. 1. seek marriage counseling and try to stay with him, or 2. divorce him.   I mean what other options do you really have?  Whatever you do, please don't take it out on the child! Or get into a pissing contest with the other woman.  YOUR husband made vows to YOU, she didn't.  HE broke the trust, she didn't.  Even if she pursued him, HE is the one who stood up before God and the world and swore to keep himself only to you.  HE alone is the liar.   Just think about that.
199713
As Tupac said" men have no right to tell a women when and were to create one". BF's come and go but that baby will be with you for the rest of your life don't make the child suffer for the decision he wants to make. It sound like you would be a great mom because that means you have already thought about leaving that sorry man. Cause if he knew he wasn't ready for kids he should have kept his stuff in his pants. It's all on you but let me tell you I lost my second child I don't know if his father thinks about him but i do and it happened 3 yrs ago and hurts every time i see a baby boy. MY Friend had an abortion and she regrets it and is now trying to have a baby but she doesn't know that no other baby is going to fill that void
176367
Why is she putting up with this behavior! Of corse its cheating. And what's this about him hooking up with other women when he gets back.This guy sounds like a selfish pig !And He's doing this while she's back here taking care of his three kids.Honey tell her to get out as soon as possible. He obviously has no respect for Her or their kids , not to mention their life together.Does your friend have self esteem issues ?If she does get her the help she needs. She and her kids deserve so much more DUMP THE LOOSER! Help her get her life back on track Not just for her sake but for her kids .Hope this helps.Tell Her to keep her head up!
937323
No.  He has no rights here in the U.S. either...Of course, if she is pregnant, the sensible thing for her to do would be discuss it with him and let him at least air his views on the whole abortion issue.  \n\nIt sounds like she isn't being entirely truthful about the whole thing though..and the question really should be..is she pregnant at all?  Sometimes women make up stuff like that for attention...it might be because it isn't his..and another reason could be that she plain doesn't want to bear a child right now..and that is her legal right.  If she was having an abortion, and it was his, she probably would have asked him to share the cost..abortions are expensive and are not generally covered by medical insurance.\n\nI would venture a guess that she isn't even pregnant...
846658
Tell the ex girlfriend to kiss off she didn't want him any more so to bad for her. If you and he are doing good then that's all that counts.\nI have a friend who was in the same situation (she was married had 3 kids husband jerk got divorce etc.) only the time span was a lot longer. ( he was married to her best friend then got divorced) they now have a child together and are doing great. I wish all the happiness to you. it is your life you deserve to be happy.
200704
It really depends on the situation. If its a choice of life or death for you by having or aborting the fetus, then it should be up to the persons involved.\nBut if its just because you don't want the baby then thats just wrong. In this case just have the baby and give him/her up for adoption.
433106
tell her, 7 months pregnant or not, he's a sleeze bag. tell her and an authority figure too since he threatened you. dont live in fear because of that loser!