What makes parents so aggrevating?
490980
i think they're just overprotective.
158123
parents usually get mad when their kids fail to follow rules or do what is expected of them .Parents don't tell their kids to do things just for the heck of it. They want their children to learn some responsibilty so that they can make right choices in life. Your parents are only concerned about you and your well being. they want what is best for you. Try not to lie, if you are caught doing something wrong, admit to it. It is a very mature move, believe me, and after you admit to what you did wrong, apologize. You can also talk to your parents about your goals and let them know that you need them to help you fulfill your goals.Parents like to be needed by their children, I think that is the scariest part for parents when kids grow up, the thought that their kid doesn't need them anymore.
970590
Oh I struggle with this constantly but for different reasons. My parents are addicts. There comes a time in life when you must concentarte on you. If those around you, particularily family have reached toxic levels where they are poisoning your own life, it's best to back off and distant yourself. I would not write them off entirely, I've thought about doing it myself, but it all comes back to they are family and we cannot choose our family and like them or not, through them we are here. I don't know how old you are, but if you are younger I would suggest possibly just distancing yourself and speaking up with the issues you disagree with and make certain they know that it hurts your feelings and do not entertain their ignorant remarks and actions by giving any other reaction other than telling them that at this point and time you do not agree with their opinions. If you are young, there could be possibly something else going on that they are actually concerned about that you aren't seeing just yet. However if it's purely based on race, I'd keep my feet planted in your beliefs and hopefully with time after you stay away from them for awhile they'll realize their love for you is stronger than their hate for another.  I wouldn't give your father any special treatment either, because he is encouraging everyone around him by not speaking up if he truly is aware of their issues and agrees with you. Sounds to me like your father may be ignorant as well, and only agrees with you in private for fear of losing his little girl. All you can do is stand strong in your beliefs, distance yourself from how involved with them you are, but I wouldn't write them out entirely. Now if they begin to do anything harmful that causes extreme physical or emotional grief then I would cut them off entirely. Hopefully with time though and your distance from each other they'll see that they were wrong and have second thoughts on their ideas and opinions, especially if the man you love becomes a true gem and treats you the way they always hoped a man you'd find would. Good luck though, racism is ugly and deeply rooted in those who are and often continues on in people out of their own fears. Just be thankful that somehow by the grace of God their ignorance didn't rub off on you as you were growing up, as if often sadly the case with those raised by parents with beliefs such as that. Enjoy the love you have found and ignore what they say. Find comfort with the one you love and through his family until and if yours ever comes around to their senses! God Bless you dear. Oh and pray for them because it sounds like they need it!!
1131182
I agree but parents don't think about what they are doing in those terms.  Most claim to only want what is best for the children,  as they sit on their independent high horses claiming the "best" to be their selves.  It's turned into a "how can I get back at or hurt my ex",  the children's needs are rarely considered.  You are also correct that most often, it does seem to be the mother's doing this.  It actually makes me ashamed to be a female at times.  Women are often very bitter and vengeful when they have been hurt but feel they are "right" in their behavior because they have been "wronged".  It all boils down to little more than the fact that mommy and daddy forget how to behave like adults,  therefore their children suffer.
777609
it stems from lack of discipline when the are young. mommy and daddy giving them everything. they expect everyone to just get out of their way.
724727
well, parents are really overprotective, especially if your the only child, or the youngest and you have older bro's/sis's that have gotten into trouble and they are just cracking down on you. but let your parents know that if they are too overprotective, that its not gonna keep you from doing things they are against, its going to make you want to do it more. Sit down, and talk to them, ask them why they are treating you how they are, and let them know how you feel because if you never express your feelings with them, they will just keep on doing it. If they do not stop, just try to stay away from home, i dont mean run away, but after school go hang out at a friends house, go shopping, go somewhere for a while so when you get home, all you have to do is do homework, then go to bed. If your almost 18, you only have a little longer to put up with this, but seriously NO parents should blame things on you if you didnt do them. Let them know how you feel, and then work from there. Good luck!
785126
If your parents beat you, and its not just a little punishment kind of thing, you need to talk to a counselor at school and get this taken care of. You shouldn't talk in class a lot. You are there to learn. You have many hours in the day to talk after school. I know talking is fun and great, but in school, you can't. Don't give your parents a reason to be mad.
417559
Your parents hating each other has nothing to do with how you feel about them. Although I know it's hard when they don't get along, you can't take sides. Remain neutral and never get involved in their disagreements. If they try to get you involved, say I am not saying anything, this is between you two, not me. I love you both, and I am not going to play these games.\nIf you say this to them it will get them to thinking about how they are acting. Hopefully it will also make them see how foolish their acting. I wish you the best of luck!!
632054
maybe you should suggest some counseling for your dads aggressiveness and you and your mom wont always see eye to eye on all things the most important thing to do if you argue go back and talk it back out so it gets resolved and you may have to make some compromises but that is life and maybe you and your mom can talk to your dad he might just need to let off some steam and just don't know how so he retreats to aggressive behavior. family counseling may help?
671230
I think it's because the parent has lost control and can't stop themselves.  It's pure frustration, and it is sadly all too common.  These parents just need to learn how to control themselves and they will get the best out of their children.
1138914
I have a 7 yr old son and a 9 yr old daughter...an all they do is fight!  LOL!  It drives me absolutely crazy some, no, everyday !  I have asked the pediatrition and a councelor at school and they both gave me the same answer.  They will when they are more "grown-up" meaning mature.  They are trying to figure out their importantance in their own right.  Where they fit into life and they are actually learning from the process.  I know that it is painful and terribly disturbing, but they will grow out of it.  They are learning to deal with conflicts, try to let them work things out and intervene only when necessary.  I, myself, have a hard time stopping myself from telling them to "Quit it", but I am getting better.  Give them some space, explain to them that there are rules to arguing...no name calling, no loud voices, they should remain calm, and talk through the situation.  Compromise is the name of the game.  Give it a try, they are preparing themselves to be adults.  If we as parents teach them that we all must argue some times in our lives, but that there is a proper way and an inappropriate way to receive the results we want, the world just might yet become a better place.  Here are some articles I found:\n\nhttp://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/fighting/fighting.html#anchor104643\n\n\nhttp://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/fairfigh.htm\n\nhttp://www.bartongoldsmith.com/articles/fightfair.htm\n\nI only quickly read through each one, so I'm not sure how they differ.  I searched "fighting fair", if they don't help.  Good luck, and I hope that all works out well for you!!   :)
277960
I would have to contribute this partly to the parents.  These days, parents are not as involved in their children's education as they once were.  Also, there is a growing number of parents who condone WHATEVER it is that their child is doing (even if it is the wrong thing).  The parents will always come to the child's defense and blame everyone else.  Additionally, there is a lack of discipline in the homes because parents are afraid to firmly (spanking) discipline their children because of legal retort.  And last, I will have to say that the government is doing very little to support educators (teachers and instructors).
477182
Parents tend to be the last ones to believe bad things of their children.  They tend to turn a blind eye to certain things in order to perpetuate the image of the "perfect" little boy or girl that they raised.  It's not healthy and tends to hurt the children more in the long run.
1071505
because parents like to put to much pressure on kids and it just another way of them saying they want you to do better!
953149
Maybe it's the parents who should be caned. We have gone from one extreme to the other, from over harsh discipline to none at all.\nWe need to find a middle path were unacceptable behaviour is clearly defined with the certain knowledge that something unpleasant will happen if they do it. ie hard work in an difficult environment. Years of child centred education has produced a generation of soft, weak, useless young adults who are only capable of wining and complaining, getting drunk and fighting and vomiting in the streets. And the boys are just as bad :)
1131673
Your family sounds awfully insensitive. Sometimes people hide their insensitivity through humor (like Jay Leno). Your parents are not realizing the impact they have on your self-esteem. The only way to stop this is to have another adult intervene because (unfortunately), people don't tend to take children seriously. Talk to a school counselor or your teacher or any other reliable adult to have a serious discussion with your parents ONLY if you feel your family problem has not subsided within a period of time.\n\nLastly, people make fun of others to get a reaction out of the victim. If you don't respond to their insults with anger or any type of emotions, they will stop because it no longer becomes "fun".
678279
They are frustrated because we live in a time of great change.  Most people are not comfortable with change, even though it's the natural state of existence.  When change happens so rapidly, kids and parents don't relate as well as they could in a slower changing environment.  They are truly a generation unto themselves.\n\nThey are violent because they are frustrated and have no other creative way to express their feelings.  There's always something to do or something we feel needs to be done that is more important than writing, or painting, or drawing, or following any other creative outlet.