Anyone here ever break up with their lover, become best friends, then get together again?
477236
everything is possible..but this kind of situation depends if both of you are really meant to be..if you, then you will always find the way to each other's heart..me and ex broke up, right now we are friends but i don't know yet if we'll be together in the future..time will only tell..
512991
break up with them and go out with someone else
807121
At a bar. We would go to the same club regularly and he was friends with a friend of a friend. We would hang out the bar almsot every weekend for about 6 months. It wasn't planned though. We just liked the same scene. He was dating other girls at the time, but had his eye on me and I was interested in something strictly casual, but never tried with him because he was cool and I thought we'd be 'just friends'. \n\nWell, one night he called me because he broke up with his girlfriend and wanted to come over and eat mushrooms. I had nothing else to do and thought he was cool, so I let him come over and we had a good time. Nothing happened that night, but about a week later I got extrodinarly wasted and we hooked up. It started out as a casual thing scratch that as a very casual thing and I had little intentions of it being serious, but we ended up falling in love and I settled down a little bit. \n\nThis was after he moved in because his 'rents kicked him out of their place and he was staying in his car. We were already sleeping together, so I said he could stay at my place for a few days and that few days turned to months and that casual time with a guy who was actually worthy of my friendship unlike my other casual boys turned into a serious relationship. We've been together for almost two years and plan on getting married in 2008. \n\nWhat makes us stay together? Well, our geniune love for eachother and partially our own narcissisms. We love ourselves and I'm his female counterpart and he's the male version of myself. Our similar interests and goals and problem solving techniques help as well as compatible senses of humour.\n\nThe story I tell my parents and family? We met through friends of friends at church.
957356
Rarely! that all depends ,I guess,on how the break-up occured and if you both have totally resolved whatever it was that broke you up before.Trust me, if you are still angry about something from the past,it will come back to haunt you.Also, alot of times people fall back into the same bad patterns of behavior that may have broken you up the first time..So there is really no right or wrong answer here .It's totally an individual choice!
291096
Yes it is possible but one or both of you have to learn to let go of all the bull**** that caused you to split in the first place. Stop any and all old arguments. Its hard at first but you will see each other as friends and not the old ball and chain.
555834
I diagree with the first responder.\n\n\n\nSex with your best friend doesn't always change anything.\n\n\nMy best friend (I met him in my fall semester of College), and I have recently become,well, to put it bluntly...\n\n\nSex buddies. But our relationship stays 100% the same. NOTHING at all is weird between us.\n\n\nI live by a motto:\n\nThe best friends make the best lovers.
24542
I'm going through a similar situation. I left. Don't do that. You both need to decide if it's worth trying to get the closeness back. Be open about the things that you enjoy doing together and things you don't. Try and figure out how you two grew apart. And do it together. No matter how hard it is. If it's worth it, take the time to make it work. It wont happen on it's own.
765532
Sadly and embarrassingly enough - I know that situation and have been on the girl side. I loved my new bf and just could bear the fact that my ex is just not noticing and forgetting me. Stupid enough I have been to start calling him and even meeting with him saying that I want his friendship. But really I just wanted him to be mine again even though I didn't really need him!!!\n\nBe careful women are fools!! It might not be the same situation, but based on what you said and what I've had it really looks like it!
779323
i do. 6 months ago i was taking a smoke break from work. met a man who was also on break. we talked. I gave him my number. we went out.\n\n6 months later i am in the most perfect and rewarding relationshp that I have ever been in. I am truly in love with him, and he wiht me.\n\nI fell in love at first sight that day
18643
No, but I married my best friend.\n\nI think it's pretty special to have built a very strong friendship before we had any romantic interest in each other.\n\nWe've only been married for a little under 2 years and we are raising 4 children together - 3 of mine from my previous marriage & our baby. I am sure that it is our very strong relationship that helps us get through the difficult times.
654496
my husband did... he dated one of my friends first, not really a best friend and they broke up like 4 months before we started dating. I caused a big fight between me and the girl, not really him. I think there are special circumstances. Like would you have respect for the girl's friend if she cheated on you and that's how you broke up? Me and this girl are friends again and obviously i married my husband so things worked out fine.
416997
That is one of the great mysteries, my dear. A couple months ago, I would have said that break ups should remain broken up. However, now, that would be the pot calling the kettle 10 shades of black...I am in the same position. All I can say is go back into the relationship with no expectations. This way if you are disappointed again, the blow will be easier. I've also looked at this as a really good friendship instead of a romantic relationship to start off with for the second time. But they do have this saying: "hurt me once, shame on you...hurt me twice, shame on me." Be cautious and see what happens. You know whether it will work or not so enjoy his company and see what happens. Hope this helps.
754372
i did twice, almost at the same time. i was dating this guy that i absolutely loved. we dated a year before we ended it. it was really heartbreaking. he didnt cheat on me or anything, atleast i dont think he did. i thought we were going to get married! in the middle of that relationship, i also became friends with this guy who had a crush on me. i had a crush on him too but we never dated or anything because i was so in love with my boyfriend. my friend and i stopped talking because i wanted to be with my boyfriend and i felt i was cheating on him because i had a crush on him. anyway, bad idea. i got my heart broken twice.... my boyfriend dumped me and i lost my chance with my friend =( im glad to say that my friend and i are friends again and still close. i still believe i lost my chance with him though =/
967454
It depends on how long you were going out with the person.  If a long term, I would say no, even if there are no feelings any longer it's still just confusing.  You liked that person once and it could happen again.  That's what usually happens after u break up with someon you forget why u did it.  Then you want to get back together again.  For most cases I would say it's a bad idea to be friends with ur ex.  Too many feelings there!!
752391
GOD! I've been dealing with that for 10 months now. And I run into them at the dojo ALL THE TIME. It's been excruciating.\n\nYes, I do have lingering thoughts of reconciliation. I am still very much in love. And yes, I know the reasons I left are still as strong as when I left them. \n\nI do hope to be friends with them, though. They were both very good friends before we became lovers. One is very gregarious. She's been able to bridge a form of mild platonic relationship that has seemed to work. Still, it's difficult with someone you love.
1166824
Yea. We all do. We imagine how much easier it would SEEM to be if we broke it off b/c of minor things we don't like about the person. You need to weigh the pro's and con's of how you guys are TOGETHER. You're not always going to like everything about him. But imagine if you did break up with him over that stuff, you'd definately just want to go back to him and realize it was ridiculous.
613077
This was on Oprah today... Even tho they were married, but anyway...\n\nYes, your friend was not your friend.. A true, BEST friend would NEVER even consider it.  Give the "friend" and the "boyfriend" up and find new ones. You are better than that, and there are so many more people to meet! You are worth it!  Don't lower your standards for people who don't care about you and how you feel.  Never settle.  Good luck honey!