How is it that people ask for help but never help themselves?
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I answer as many questions as I can thoughtfully, cogently, and with the goal of helping the asker resolve the problem or question, and/or with the goal of pointing out to them that there are flaws in their reasoning.  This is my 235th answer, and none of them have been silly or to "get points."  However, I see quite a few silly questions out there.  I think that it's perhaps because each of us is here participating in Y! Answers for different reasons--some merely for entertainment, and others so that they can have the opportunity to interact with others.
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You can't help someone who is not motivated to help themselves.   There have been numerous people in history  whose circumstance made it difficult or seemingly impossible to be successful, yet, against all odds they made something of themselves. ie. Horatio Alger Life circumstance don't make an underachieve, you make you an underachiever.
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Let's recap: NOT ALL GUYS ARE LIKE THAT!  \n\n\nAs to why they are selfish... Why do people do what they do?  Self-serving usually has a feel good emotion associated with it... kind of like eating ice cream... the more we have that good emotion the more we want it.  \n\nI guess one could say a guy that is not willing to please may act that way for lack of self confidence.  Maybe it's not that he doesn't want to but HE DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO PLEASE his partner.  It's a bad excuse but it's possible!\n\nI hope I was helpful!\n\ncali_rich_and_smooth@yahoo.com
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Human's are ego driven. They ask questions (sometimes), not to get the truthful answer, but to get attention. They want responces that tailor themselves to an image that they already have of themself. Answering otherwise conflicts with their personal beliefs.\n\nAnd don't get me wrong. But this world is FILLED with people who have problems when others conflict with their personal beliefs.\n\nSome people just live blind... who need to OPEN THEIR EYES.
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"Why do people feel there needs to be an answer for everything?"\n\nPeople feel this way because we are conditioned to accept blame for problems that are sometimes beyond our control. It seems personal when we can't find a solution or don't know an answer. Have you ever tried to get someone to admit they don't know something? It's almost impossible because people feel "out of control" and "helpless" when they have to admit there are things that can't be resolved. However, MANY problems aren't problems at all. It's more that people don't want to give up their belief that they can "fix" other people.
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'succeed' is not the word I would use\nbut it is because it is often a 'cry for help'\nthey don't really want to die but are feeling hopeless and need somebody to notice to help them (they are not sure how else to get help)\n\nI have heard people say "that was just a cry for help", it is just nothing! somebody crying for help means they need HELP, show compassion
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The people that try the hardest don't trust themselves, and the mind is powerful and limit them.
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That's the life. People easily take but hardly give. But if you have lots of friends (true friends), they will certainly help you.\nBtw, you help other people NOT because you want to be helped by others, don't you?
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Because for some people, the only way they can bring themselves up is to bring someone else down, or at least try to.  I pity people like that.
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Don't you dare take your life. I'm sure there are many that have time to help you. Are you willing to accept help from others is the question??
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i understand your comments and to a point id agree,but i do think when people ask for help on here it is very brave of them and they are probably desperate.i have a degree in psychogy and i can assure you ssometimes friends family will not say to you what they feel they should.\ni am however concernd to a point that although i am sure every one on here will always give thier best advice ity is open for abuse by anyone looking for and with ulterior motives.\nso yes i agree with you but would to say people telling thier problems on here is very brave and to be admired and for some this is real desperation\nmike
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Perhaps it is a person who prefers to help others than to expose her/his own feelings and personal life. I don't think it is lack of curiosity,maybe that person just prefers to keep her/his things to herlsef/himself.
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Definitely.  Someone who is addicted is full of empty promises, over and over again.  Unless his will power is strong, he won't seek help until he falls just as low as he can, then and only then, can you help him and you can only do that if he willing.  Take it from one who knows, their intentions are good but they just can't help themselves.  They are sick.  It's kind of like banging your head against a brick wall;  all the talking and threats doesn't help him or you.
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Hey, the best thing is always to get professional help as early as possible. Many people don't go for mental help, but sooner or later they regret it. Trust me, there are millions of people who have felt the same way and there are no other people to contact for advise than those who have been trained to do help.
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Anyone that cuts themself has a deep rooted problem that needs attention.  It is best you help them seek professional help, instead of trying to help them yourself.  Getting them professional help is helping them in a way that it's showing (or should show) them you care about their well being.   Get them to a professional, the problem is too deep for just a common person to help.
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Why not ask for his help?
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Well that is life, you can watch others but it is hard to ask for help. I can see that, why not use this Yahoo Answer as a way of getting help for things. The best part of this website is that you never have to know the person.