What should a father should do if he is taking care of his daughter the expenses and his ex is asking for more
490812
You probably need to be speaking to your lawyer about this. He can guide you in your options and how best you can help your child. You child shouldn't be used as a meal ticket by your ex. That's just wrong.
710066
Get a job.  Your ex has a child or children to support.  How do you expect them to do it and why should they carry your responsibility for it as well?  GET A JOB!\n\n~  Spoken as the ex who is owed a lot of bucks and know how hard it is when a jerk doesn't pay what he owes.\n\nAre you my ex?  If you are, they are looking for you.....\n\nBest Wishes,\n\nSue
997753
Yes, you need to take this deadbeat to court.  I don't know where you live, so it I can't give you any specific advice, but every city has people (usually in the family assistance office) that can help you with the paperwork.\n\nYou may not want to see this guy again, but your child--HIS child--needs financial support, and you should get it for your daughter.
981737
Make a video...telling the parent how much he loves and cares for their daughter...and share how he intends to care and support her....and then he can ask on the video.  Tell them he will call at a specific time to talk some more.....But that way they can at least see what they are getting.... :)
1134742
I would call child support enforcement and have them look into it..sounds fishy to me.
579066
1. Continue with the child support action.  \nSince you say it was filed "through the state" the only issues at trial should be (1) paternity and (2) the amount of child support. The child support will be retroactive to when the case was filed, and may be retroactive to the date the child was born.  \n\nIf your ex is still in the military your child support will come out of his pay and the military will send the check directly to you.  Your child will also be eligible for all dependent coverage, including medical insurance, medical care through military hospitals, beneficiary of your ex's life insurance, disability pay, death benefits, etc.  Talk to a JAG at the base closest to you and find out what these are.\n\nChild visitation will probably not be heard at the trial, the ex would have had to have filed a separate action asking for visitation.  Even if he did, or does in the future, he's not goinng to get much, if any, given he's not seen or supported the child in two years.  \n\nIn the eyes of your daughter your husband is "daddy", she does not need any paper to know that.\n\nAt some time, in six or eight years, you can, if you want, inform her that 'daddy' is not her bio father.  In ten or sixteen years, or after bio dad is out of the picture (e.g. he's out of the military and you can't find him) your husband can adopt the child.  \n\nOf course, seek advice from an attorney who can ask and answer more questions than this posting can.
251502
If you live with him it is the courteous thing to do as far paying the bills are concerned. About the kids, you should sit down and talk to him about that and see where that gets you.
662528
It might be in his will.  You should check on that.  If she thinks she is getting all of it, it might be in his will.
576170
Go for it.... But before you do make sure your affairs are in order, make sure your bills are paid. MGive your daughter to someone who thinks straight and will be alive to take care of her.  In rea;lity this man might be a rapist a killer-- but hey throw caution to the wind and see if you can be another another number.
270981
Go to court.  If your wife is healthy and able to work you have a good chance of getting the amount you pay significantly lowered.  These are different times.  As a matter of fact my ex and I have joint custody but I pay him.  Because I am capable to work.  Even when I wasn't currently employed.
198368
Many states have crime victims compensation. Ask the DA's office if you have this in in your state. You also might want to file a civil lawsuit. This way if he works again or comes into money your daughter would get some of his money automatically. If you don't have money for a lawyer right now call the local BAR Association and ask for help. They probably can recommend someone who will work for free or cheap. Good luck.
521538
ok hunny been there done that.  with your sweetie i cant give a guarenteed answer but i had that problem with my son's father when we were together. he thought it was his responsibilty to look after his mom.  last straw for me was when she "borrowed" 200 bucks to take his sister back to the mainland for ferry and gas and i found out that she used it to go bowling. man i was pissed beyond recognition since the money came out of my account which i used to pay ALL the bills and he wouldnt ask her to pay it back. in your case hes the child and unless they are unable to work or seriously something wrong with them then his responisbility is to you and his children.........however many kids there are and his parents should know that their grandbabies come first and foremost. doesnt matter whose kids they are they are always first and shame on his ex for trying to stick him with two kids that arent his. personally i wouldnt put up with whats going on but maybe make a really big chart and stick it up somewhere really obvious (maybe in the bathroom right over the toilet where he presumably STANDS every morning to take a piss and cant miss it) and put up a couple column where you detail the money your bro gives you for gas and the money his parents drain out every month and ask him how if hes going to support his parents where is the money going to come from for paying child support plus all the monthly bills. family is only as important as you make them and he needs to get rid of his and be a big boy. if they want to know his every move maybe perhaps you should suggest to his parents that he get his old room ready so he can move back in it or offer to move your entire family his kids your kids an all into THEIR house so that they can be in control and you can stay rent free and they can babysit.  all else fails change your phone number refuse to open your door and have all the accounts put in your name with only you being able to access them. or as suggested by the others then by all means kick his ass to the curb............ but thats up to you and how much more of this you are willing to deal with.
740252
He should speak to the Citizens Advice Bureau. As far as I know, unless the house is in joint names or she can prove a significant financial contribution to the upkeep,  she is only entitled to maintenance for the child if they are not married.
505191
I have been in almost the same situation. my bf got his ex gf pregnant while we were on a short break. I went back to him and now the child is almost 3. The ex is CRAZY, wont leave us alone. We have to pay 127 a WEEK in child support, which we cant afford and havent been able to pay the whole 127 a week so my now husband will be going to jail fairly soon. To make matters worse the ex had another son 6 months ago, 10 days before my daughter was born. and is now claiming it is my husbands. SO all I can say IS LEAVE HIM. It will never end. You will be alot more happier without him. ' YOU DONT WANT DRAMA WITH HIS BABIES MAMA'.
1011300
I'm not sure what the question is.  Usually both parents have to support the child; the proportion each pays is based on their relative incomes.  If the father makes twice as much as the mother, then the father must pay 2/3rds of the total support obligation.  Each state will set the total support obligation per child.   Who gets custody of the child is a different matter, determined by the judge based on the best interests of the child.
482344
Could be looking into the earnings of the parent paying support. Depends on jurisdiction how often that can be adjusted up or down (usually up.)
991918
If you have the children the same amount of time, then I think you are fine. I would question why you even pay the $200. Child support is for food, rent, living expenses. You pay the same by splitting the duties. It should come out even. But, I'm not divorced so I don't know the rules of custody.  It sounds like the people who have answered this already are not realizing the "joint-custody" issue, or don't understand what it means.\n\nCOOL, by the time I got this posted some others have said the same!!