My Best-friend(close like brothers) is hittin on my exgirlfriend, but i still feel for her. what do i do?
494448
not much you can do if she has no feelings for you. let it go dude , let it go.
560212
This ex girl of yours needs to get a life and take responsability for her actions. SHe's just trying to make you feel guilty.  Stay away from her, avoid her... otherwise she's just going to take you down w/ her. You don't need that. You are who you are.
312757
Sorry to say it, but she's gone and you need to let her go.  No girl would ever get with a guy's best friend if she has ANY intention of ever getting back together with that guy.  Plus, why would you want her back after she did that to you?  You'd never be able to put it out of you head.
663811
I'm sorry that happen and I can tell u really feel this young lady. And I guess the upside is your still friends. But the reason u feel this way is because ur feelings were true and when u have deep feelings for someone it's hard to let go, she may only love u as a friend because of it was more you'd still be her boyfriend. But if u look at it from another point like the fact that she has a boyfriend and she's still telling you that she loves u, waht does that say about her? I'm sure her boyfriend doesn't know his girlfriend is telling her ec she still loves him.\n\nI have been dump( and I know it's not about me) but I know that it hurts, but I also know that it's no good to hurt too long over someone who dumps or end the relationship and they can move on so easily while the other mate is still hurting. She moved on to the next guy( it may not last) so it's time u move on too. U can continute to be a her friend but don't expect her to come back( even  if she does) be strong and just stay friends with her, because she hurt u once she could repeat it then you'll really feel bad. Move on to a girl who will love and care enough for u not to leave you  or hurt you, once u get out there and find the next girl who's waiting to meet u she will keep u so happy  you'll forget about your ex.. So get out there and meet someone else and get rid of anything that reminds u of her so u won't  stay idle on her.\n\nGood Luck
925495
i agree, i dont think u really want to have them in your life anymore...find someone else that you will love even more than her! your best friend is going out with a girl you love. a true friend wouldnt do that...so think about it like that. you will find someone that is perfect for u so dont worry about it! \n<3
538058
killing yourself isn't the answer! but if she feels for you like a brother, chances are you will always be just friends.just be thankful to have her in your life as a friend. if everyone killed there self because they couldn't get a certain person, we would all be dead.
793916
I never got that whole if I date him no one can. if you guys are over, and you agreed to see other people then get over it, your not a very good friend if you wont let her have a chance at happiness. I don't see anything wrong with it if she was a good friend, but if she just stared at you and asked you why you were mad, that obviously tells you she's kind of a jerk, she obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, considering you just told her you were still in love with him, if I started dating my friends ex I would have at least shown that I was sorry for causing any pain, but some thins cant be helped, such as holding back feeling for a guy, dang,...  then I'm sorry but if I were you I would have brought her down. keep in mind though that if you guys are supposed to be together you will and if he wanted to see other people then maybe you deserve better, unless it was your Idea in with case, WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT. its not fun but remind yourself of 2 things first of all that she deserves the chance at him, and second of all that you may still have a chance of getting back together with him. I got back together with mine.  Good Enough?
516520
Girl ive been there before. Its sucks. I know exactly how you must be feeling. This friend of yours is not a true friend. She knows you like this guy and if they get together seeing them together could hurt.\nIf you dump her, you'll look bad - like you let a guy come between you, but keeping her - you'll find yourselve questioning her loyalty to you often.\nBrave it out to keep your rep intact, but watch your back while she's still your friend because friends like her - definately dont remain friends.\n\nSorry about it. Look on the bright side though - another guy will come along one day and who knows? You might like him better than this guy and he might kiss the ground you walk on!! :))\n\nJust think positive always.\n\nGOODLUCK.
529969
ask urself the following questions..?\n\n1. Do u still have the soft corner for ur ex...\n\n2. Do u have any problem if ur friend datesur ex with her permission.. ?\n\n3. Do u think that girl will be right for ur friend..?\n\n4. Why are u giving your friend a feeling of guilt when he dates a girl who is ur EX..\n\n5. Who are u to poke ur nose in ur friends affairs.& poison their relationship\n\nask urself these questions and u will get the answers...
1104265
Ask your friend. I know you said ex-bestfriend but you r still friends right? If you arent then I would think you can go ahead and pursue her but if you are still friends then talk to your friend and find out how he feels about it first. Remember, friends sometimes last a lot longer than gf/bf relationships.
393815
I have been in this situation, and it is very hard to deal with, esp if you were into the guy before he got together with your friend!\n\nAll I can say is keep your feelings buried for now - it wouldnt be any good to let either of them in on houw you feel, because that would just ruin your friendships. Who knows, given time you may move on, meet the guy of your dreams and suddenly all feelings for your friend's guy will be out the window (it happened for me!). Otherwise, it may not work out between the two of them, in which case ONCE THE DUST HAS SETTLED (its important to wait until it is well and truly over for both of them, or someone will end up hurt) you will be free to see how he feels about you. \n\nIf you do end up dating him though, make sure your friend is okay with the idea, as I have also been in the position where my ex ended up dating two of my friends - weirdly enough, I was fine about it when he dated my best friend soon after we broke up, in fact I set them up, but by the time he dated the other friend a good while later, it drove me mad seeing them together, and it made me realise I wasn't over him at all (but thats a whole other story!).\n\nThe last thing I will say though - while I repeat it woud be a bad idea to tell either of them about your feelings right now, one thing that really helped me through everything (both being the one with feelings for my friend's guy and seeing my ex date my friends) was having another friend whom I trusted completely and who knew everyone concerned but wasn't part of the group so much. I was able to tell him everything that was going on in my head and getting my feelings out really helped me to get over them - keeping your feelings to yourself with no outlet will not help you move on, it will only intensify them. So tell someone whom you trust not to blab, even if its only your diary!!!\n\nGood luck, and if you need a chat, get in touch any time!\n\nJoji x
1183545
TELL YOUR BESTFRIEND TO GET A LIFE.. AND GET HER OWN BOY..  DON'T TOUCH WHAT'S NOT BELONG TO HER.. \nYOU CAN GET ANOTHER BEST FRIEND.
961078
yea thats deep, but she obviously loves this guy, and u have to think about whats best for her, and apparently she thinks this is best, just try and get over her. If it was meant to be between ya'll then it will happen regardless. but i wouldn't tell her because that would make her feel uncomfortbale and maybe get u in a fight with the b/f. there are plenty of other girls that will be just like her. trust me!
398310
if i was u i would get over her. she oviously doesnt give a toss about you because if she did she would come back to you shes prob of wit other guys havin fun sorry but its prob true and youve gotta realise that. your young and There is many nice decent girls out there and one day you will meet her and she'll show you love and care. id move on sweet if i was you!!
852622
Well, if she is a friend and she really likes you mabey you should just tell her you arnt ready for another girlfriend!!! If she really likes you she will understand and wait for you!!! And if you still love your ex-girlfriend go over why you guys broke up in the first place!!! Mabey you and your ex-girlfriend can still be friends and mabey you might get back together!!! If you love her the least you can do is try and if the other girl really likes you she will let you go and just be your friend!!!!!!!
799452
Yeah darlin' it sounds like you're feelings are stronger than his at this point, sorry.From his point: I think it's hard to be best friends w/ a member of the opposite sex when you're  involved with someone. He may feel like he's betraying her. She may be putting some sort of pressure or negative input. \nAbout you  feeling "used" when he comes back after their break up... (which BTW their future break up is 99.9% probabable, statistically)..though I do see your point,  if you understand human nature, and as you get older you'll see this same thing again and again, very common, because people change, life is change. Change can be difficult, especially in relationships. \nNow as for numbering your friends in a ranking system, and should you call him this lable or that lable... I think once you guys can get past that "disastrous system" and began to see all the people that you really enjoy being around as your "closest friends" without the number/lable system, I believe there will be a lot less hurt feelings and heartache between all of you. Not saying we didn't do the same exact thing when I was your age,and it sucked being  #2,3 or 4 then, just as it does now. But since I did survive my teen years, I want to share that with you! My advice to you is to be the best friend that you feel comfortable with being to him, and her, without crossing the boundaries and getting into their "relationship space". He's your friend, she's your friend until either of them stops being what you consider to be a friend, at which time they are no longer a friend...\nMeanwhile use YOUR energy on YOU not him!  Good luck girl...
257113
tell her how much you feel for her, if she doesn't feel the same, move on man! You have done and said what you are supposed to.