I love this man, but he wants to be friends with benefits. How do you do that?
477416
Tell him how you feel and ask him for a commitment but let him know he can't have his cake and eat it too.
705143
i was in the SAME situation recently! SERIOUSLY just have some fun together! A relationship doesn't have to be based on Sex! Are you two passionate with each other or get butterflys around each other? then you are more than friends....if not they you are JUST friends!
929133
Yes, but they have to be on board aswell.    In college i had a great friend with benifits and we would call each other for booty calls all the time.We were good friends that tried to date, but knew that it could not work, we did however enjoy the physical with each other.   The funny thing is that i would call him over, then make him leave right after and he was totally cool with that.  After i started seeing someone seriously we ended the sexual part but remained friends.  I am now married with a child and he is friends with my husband and i.  My husband knows about the relationship also.  I kept things very open.
943783
dunno love. you obviously care a lot about him....\nleave him alone for a while, perhaps he'll decide that just being friends is good for him... there again maybe he'll decide you're a cow and he hates you. you cannot control what goes on inside his head or try to second guess/pre-empt it.\nthat's the trouble with men though aint it? they seem to think that just being friends means they've moved down in your estimations somehow, when in fact it just means you wanna know them forever, without all the messy stuff that gets in the way of that.\nmaybe he's low in confidence and looking for love.... thought he'd found it with you... perhaps if he gains some self esteem and meets someone else he'll appreciate how important and precious a good friendship can be.\nunfortunately, i don't think there's anything you can do to make him feel any better about it all though, he'll have to get there by himself.
194525
It doesn't sound to me like you ever wanted in the relationship to begin with. Your first feeling is usually the right one. So i would just contact him and tell him that you understand that the relationship is over and that it is probably for the best, but you would like to try to go back to the way things were before you started dating. It is not possible for some people but for a select few it works. Besides you said the sex wasn't great anyway and that is the only difference between a relationship and a friendship.
629730
You're thinking a bit too far ahead. Just have faith and let things run its course. If you keep on worrying about this, then it might subconsciously affect your actions and behaviour or the actual relationship.\n\nTo answer your question though, just tell him honestly and in person. Don't make any empty promises like "We'll still be friends" or, "I will always care for you", because most of the time it doesn't work out that way. Plus, it hurts the dumpee a LOT more when you promise those things and later abandon the promises.
587428
Having a friend with benefits sounds like a splendid idea; however, why would you want to be "special friends" with someone who most likely has the same kind of "relationship" with someone else?  I would rather have "benefits" with just one person I trust will only have "benefits" with me.\n\nThis "special friend" is most likely loving this "relationship" you two have going on right now--he's a guy!  It doesn't sound like either one of you have feelings for each other, so it would not hurt either one of you to end it.  On the other hand, if you would like to explore an actual relationship with this person, then you should probably cut the secret stuff.
921337
Does not sound like you are doing anything wrong.  Maybe it is the men that you are attracted to that are wrong for you.  Yeah you say you have friends with benefits, but you want something more, like commitment?  Maybe you should start looking for a different kind of man.  Maybe you are afraid of commitment and taking your relationships to the next level.  Maybe it is the men.  I dont know enough about your situation to be more efficient with helping you.  Hopefully, I left a little food for thought with you.
57139
Just tell him that you value his friendship and appreciate him being there for you, but at this time, you are not into being in a serious relationship.  Tell him that you need time and space to get your own thoughts together before you can start to share your life with someone else in that way.
559014
yeahh that's never a good idea-- friends with benefits.\nbecause then things like this happen.. but i guess if you really are friends then he'll come around and see that he misses your friendship, and then things will go back to normal!
396323
The best advice ever comes from the book and TV show "Sex and the City", the quote says "He's just not that into you." If you keep this in mind, you will avoid a lot of heartache. Realize that you cannot make anyone fall for you. If he says he just wants to be friends with you, he is already feeling pressured. Just imagine, if after 6 months of trying to get this guy's attention, how much time and energy you would waste trying to get this man to fall in love with you. Do yourself a favor, find someone else. And let the man come to you, don't ever chase a man.
544683
Why not?\n\nIf you have spent a lot of time getting to know a person and it doesn't work out romantically, it's great if you can still have a close friend.\n\nCalling 5 or 6 times a day, and wanting him to come over for protections sounds a little obsessive and unbalanced tho, and it sounds like she might want this man back.\n\nTalk to your man about how you feel and see if you two can work something out.
1089080
just ask him...believe me...i've had many guy friends and they all agree on one thing the girls they like the most are the ones that are upfront and honest with their feelings... and that's always the method i chose. And never lost any friendships over it...although i have to say, it may not have been the response i wanted...we still remained good friends, if not better. (and just to keep things clear, when i say friend, i don't mean with benefits...just good cry on the shoulder, tell all your secrets to type)
1175176
Tell him you and him aren't on the same level as to what you both want out of life. While you love him as a friend, you want more and since he isn't willing to commit, it's best to end this now. Wish him luck and the very best then get on with your life.
351914
First off, stop kissing him and stop telling him you love him.  He is hangin on to your words and your actions, which he is taking it as you are still interested in him.  Give yourself some distance between the both of you.  So, I would say, to not see each other so often, and if he still calls insisting that you see each other "as friends" let him know that, that is all it is.. friends only... and nothing more. Tell him you will always care, but that is all.  You can not make yourself love him the way he wants you to love him.
709462
I think he wants the best of both worlds, a really good friend and a shag when he feels like it. Think how you feel about him, do you love him as a partner or just a friend. Once you have made your mind up tell him how you feel. If you only love him as a friend tell him and stop sleeping with him as you will never meet someone and so would he not.
836627
Thank you for your maturity on this subject.\nYour wants are describing the "FRIENDS" part of FTF.. There is nothing wrong with actually being friends.\n- a little communication never hurt anyone; be honest and just tell him.\nYou simply want to move from your concept of one night stand to friendship with benefits.. He's probably already in tune with that.\n- good luck