My fella's longime female friend calls/e-mails/IMs him a dozen times a day (literally).  I am not happy.?
476216
There's two people you need to talk to.  First person is him.  Explain how you are uncomfortable with her always calling him and you feel she is interfering with your personal time.  Tell your man that if he really wants this relationship to workout, he has to set boundaries with this girl because obviously she doesn't get it.Second person is her.  Tell her you know what a great guy he is because you and he are together.  However, you guys need alone time.  And if he wants to hang with her, HE will initiate it and schedule a time where all THREE of you can hang out.  Maybe hook her up with a guy you know.... Yeah its palming her off on someone else but you do need time alone with your man.  But just let her know that you are uncomfortable with the amount of times she calls a day and that every now and again is okay but not 12+ times.  \n\nIf she does keep calling and he's uncomfortable, you might want to look into having him get a TRO or something.  She may or may not be after your man (She could be bored or something and not have anyone that wants to hang with her cuz she sounds a bit clingy), but make sure you keep a level head about you because how you react to her clingy-ness could make you look bad.
755862
You need to just let it go & don't let her have that much power over you. You are allowing this person to determine your happiness. Just move on & find another friend.
407768
don` stop writing to her.she wants you as a friend be man enough to deal with it.you never know ..time will tell.if you care about her respect her choices and love her for her decision.
806397
sounds like you think pretty highly of yourself.  Are you sure you don't keep her dangling on a string so that you have fodder to gossip about?  How dare her - being kind to you,having similar int rests and god knows why looking up to you.  Whatever you do be as mean and shallow as you possibly can. Crush her so she can realize what an empty shallow person you are and find friends who will respect her,and not gossip about her in an international website. pathetic catty wench.
50105
Wow!  To me it sounds like she likes your man as much or more than you do.  IF she is your true friend she would respect you and not do that, so evidentally she isn't much of a friend is she?
1071590
A lot of guys... not all, but a lot of them seem to act immaturely until they are at least 24 when they realize that they can't get by with it. With the e-mail thing I think he was testing you to see if you would send her anything. He may want to make you jealous who knows with guy because he seems a little off the walll with oh I have a girlfriend and then treatens you. Not a good thing just watch your back, he may not be a friend any more.
654376
I know it is not right what he is doing and what he did to you is not right.  But, it is his life and how he lives his life, is up to him.  If you want to, for kicks and giggles, write to his ladies, I would let them know, but, there is a possibility that he may be able to track you down, somehow.  Be careful.  Truthfully, I would just mind my own business and forget he even existed.
427640
Look You need to rid yourself of this mess . Your so called friend is no friend if she has to email some girl that has no connection to her what so ever and tell her something that will she does not need to know anyway . She is obviously jealous of the new relationship and has no backbone if she can't tell the person she is treating who she is and why she needs to tell her all the crap she has been holding on to from her past relationship . Tell her if she doesn't confess you will tell her ex the truth and get out of this mess .
102005
This is hard advise and hurting your feelings further is definitly not my intent. Please, don't be offended by my observation. Your a beautiful young girl, as your picture surely boasts, and should not waste your time with someone who would cut off communications with you like that. People can be very cruel when the saftey of distance & computers are left out of the equation. In my opinion the jerk is probably married and was just having a good jerk over having such a young beauty interested in him since he never figured you'd ever come close to meeting. Your better than that dear. It time for the revival of the days when a young women was to be courted and persued by an upstanding and respectable young man with more intent than just a quick roll in the hay. What you have to bring to a relationship is a gift from our creator and is precious. There are many more out there that would never allow you to question there sincerety let alone allow you to be hurt. Keep looking sweetheart!
500803
DRAMA CENTRAL! for starters you know your man the best, you need to be honest & ask yourself is he genuine!!?! I dont quite understand why they play around but if the word is she is not trusworthy then you deserve better friends! There was no reason why this could not be resolved at once why go around telling every1 except you. \nHIT the back????????plssssss! your man should not have done that PERIOD! ,dont matter if ur les friend got the wrong idea or not but the intentions were not in respect for you.\nIf i was you i think twice about what i need from this man & what role can he play in your life for the future.
956144
Sure sounds like stalker material to me.  Just stop seeing him/returning his calls and eventually he lose interest.
317244
Normal for her to have male friends.\nNot normal to keep them "secret".\nIs she keeping their identities or just the phone #s a secret?\nHas she introduced you to them? If you've all hung out then it's probably fine and she just thinks you're weird to ask for the numbers.
146131
It's really not your choice - it's hers, good decision or bad.  \nYou advised her with your opinion, she knows where you stand.  Now it's time to stay out of her business - if it bothers you that much, perhaps you need to find a new friend.
615708
it sounds like you're a great guy-faithful to your girlfriend-as well as a good friend [you've tried to explain your situation to the girl but she just doesn't listen]. you have to make a choice: do you want to keep your girlfriend? if you want to, have NOTHING to do with this friend. don't go over, don't stay alone with her, don't take her calls, delete her messages. it's not that your friend doesn't GET it..it's that she doesn't CARE or RESPECT your life and your wishes. get away from her and dump her..otherwise she's going to cause YOU to get dumped.
762110
I would end the relationship, and always wonder what other things I did not know about this person. People who do these heinous things can never really be "friends" with anybody, lest their secrets somehow be discovered. I'm sorry for you if you were duped. It is a real betrayal. Don't blame yourself in any way for not knowing. These people are experts at deception and duplicity. Good riddance is about all you can say.
47060
Sure she does! She tells you these things bc she feels safe with you. Now if that's all she does is tell you all the bad stuff about her life and takes no interest in yours, then you are a crutch to her. It is up to you if you want to hear about her other friends taking a crap on her or whatnot. If you want to be the crutch, I suggest selective hearing. It can be a downer to hear about her crap friends, and keep suggesting that she gets rid of them and the negativity they bring. Hang in there, it may be a phase and she'll realise what a friend you are and drop the losers and hang out with you... someone who cares...
573177
Sounds like she's a little jealous.  It didn't work out between him and her so she doesn't want him to work out with anyone else.  I think it's more of a hurt ego actually.  The question is why is she so concerned about your feelings that she has to tell you about all his downfalls?  Do the best you can to just ignore it.  It doesn't sound like you two are any type of friends and she's not physically there to make it harder to deal with so when you check your emails and you see her name, just click on that little X and you're done with it.