For a solid long term relationship, what is more important: passion or reason?
490393
Such a good question. I think the most important things in a relationship are friendship and trust. Passion comes and goes and if you're not friends and don't trust each other... you'll get a divorce eventually. So I vote for reason!(You do have to love the guy of course :)
459897
First, if you're looking for intelligent women you need to use correct spelling.  So to answer the first part of your multi-question, if I see a question severely grammatically incorrect and incoherent I will ignore it.  \nAs for the rest of what you're saying....???  You've lost me a bit there but I BELIEVE what you're trying to say is that looks don't last forever but the connection of two minds/souls will so why focus on physical attraction only.  IF that's what you're saying then here's my view.  There's an initial attraction between two people that causes sparks.  I really don't think for men or especially women only the physical will cut it.  Maybe initially but not long.  Not long at all.  Then you get to know eachother and what the other is all about, their beliefs, learn how they think, what makes them tick, their sense of humor....lots of things.  These are all things "between the ears."  I agree very much it is this that makes a relationship stick.  The chemistry part must be there if for no other reason than to get the relationship off the ground.  W/o the connection of two minds then it will stay on the ground.  \nMaybe this saying somehow applies as well to what you're wondering???  "A man falls in love with his eyes.  A woman falls in love with her ears."  ...make sense?.....  hope that helped and wish I understood more what you're wanting to know.  Maybe if you just came out and asked it??
314588
depends on my purpose...if i want a serious relationship, intelligence is far more important, if not, well you know iq does not matter sometimes...
158984
My wife tell me None of the Above.  Love.\nWith love comes commitment and communication and a “I don't really care about the money” attitude.
397702
Marriage is hard work. You have to both work at it for it to work out. The passion only lasts 6 months to 3 years. After that, you have to work at the relationship...\n\nTry doing things that are unexpected. Stir up your life a bit and see what happens. You can also take counselling together. Read books about this subject and get some tips.
572705
If two people do get as involved as you want then emotions are inevitable.  Even if two people try to make a commitment to not get emotionally attached it is next to impossible for one or both of them to stay emotionally distant.  Taking long walks usually means there is a commitment of some sort.  You want a physical relationship with no strings attached right?  Well it never works out.  One way or another emotions are going to get evolved.  If not the luvy-duvy type then the angry type.  Unfortunately many people have an idea as to what the ideal relationship is.  The guy is supposed to be the bread winner or the woman is supposed to cook and clean and many other things like that.  Everyone wants to pick and choose what happens when two people get together, but because the two people are different people then this is impossible.  You can't just pick and choose exactly what you want when you're with someone.  You want all the physical, but no emotional aspects of a relationship and unfortuantely for you it can't be done.
205054
If you love each other very much and are willing to put in all the hours need, then you two will last.\n\nI just know you two have it in you to make it work.\n\nI believe in love.\n\nI believe in you.
267312
I worked extremely hard at a relationship for 25 years.  I truely believed that was what it took for success.  Then true love came along in the form of an old flame and I realized how incredibly easy real love is.  I realized all the spiritual energy I used up over the years.  I was spiritually and emotionally exhausted.  A single meeting with my old girlfriend and it was all replenished and overfilled my soul.\n\nRelationships that require hard work can endure depending on the strength and will of both parties.  But you risk being very hurt if either finds their soulmate.
860820
My wife.  Reasons, from most important to least:\n1 - My commitment to her.  \n2 - My commitment to her.\n3 - My commitment to her.\n4 - Love.
430509
That's a very difficult question. Passion can die down, but care is something that should always exist in a relationship. If care dies there is no hope. The way to spark passion again is very simple, women find pleasure in a variety of things, you are her boyfriend after all, you know her better than most, it doesn't take a genius.
561163
It really depends on if you guys do not depend on each other for financial need.  If you can leave the relationship and can rely on yourself to provide for yourself, then it is not rushing things.  But every decision you make is based on the long run.  If you are taking things step by step and you feel you aren't rushing things that is fine.  But normally, long successful relationships run slower than the pace you're at right now.  But what is normal nowadays?
378273
because they both take passion?
432329
I personally think they are equal. You have to have respect or there is no relationship and dito for passion. They may not go hand in hand but they are both huge parts of what make a relationship worth having. They are also both needed in order to show your happy with your partner. I have to have respect in order to feel loved, and the best way to show love is through passion...
824207
security,respect, lots of love and care.. honesty... the list would go on........... and thats only if its a long term relationship.
510028
firstly, if the one loves the other then that doesn't mean the relationship wont work out unless its been a few years (or a long time) and theres still no equality in the emotions, then the one with less emotional levels should rethink the situation. secondly, say that the man and woman do love each other but one loves the other more that also doesnt mean that the said relationship is off balance, it just means that one has stronger feelings than the other and that's okay. as long as there is love for each other from both parties the relationship should be more than successful! it may seem kinda jumbled up but if you read this over a few times and feel emotions stirring as you read it then that means you understand what i've suggested. lastly but not least, FOLLOW YOUR HEART! if it says that theres something wrong with the relationship and the track its on then you should focus on that. there's no better way to solve a problem (or delimma) than to follow your instincts.
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there is a difference betewen passion, committment and intimacy.  Try reading about Steiberg's triangular theory of love.  I know it may seem like psychobable, but it does a really good job of explaining the different types of romantic relationships that we can enter into.  In short, many people can have intimacy(support, feelings of closeness) and committment, and be very happy with that.\n\nThe key is just to make sure it is ok with both people.
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A wise man once said, "Love is not a feeling it is a commitment." Are you willing to commit to this person for the rest of your life? Are you willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work? Are you willing to face every possible obstacle that life WILL put in your path?\n\nIf your answer is YES... then you have true love