Boyfriend wanted open relationship, i dont and break up!?
484081
well by the sounds of it he already has made a massive mistake & lost you . I hope he realizes what he had . On the upside at least he never went behind your back either but he has to learn he can't have his cake & eat it too. Sounds like u are still young. typical to want to sleep with someone else but the thought of u doing it he can't stand . I think move on there are plenty of men out there that will treat u right this guy i hate to say it wo'nt change do'nt let him drag you down find a nice guy & later on down the track u will be wondering what all the fuss was about Good luck with this.
541435
What does your boyfriend think about this??
859093
he sounds like he is either bi curious, or bi. i would be careful, if he is bi curious that could mean he just wants to try things out with a guy, but he still wants to stay with his girlfriend. make it clear that he has to chose u if he wants any of u, or u'll end up used and hurt, or someone who makes ur bf cheat on u
62825
an open relationship is a good thing if you are young....alot of young people need to date others so that they can see if what they have is what they really want.
108070
sounds like he wants s*x with you,  the decision is yours   if you dont want to jsut explain to him that you dont if not...have fun ;)
1132746
He must be insecure and he obviously doesn't trust you. Without trust, no relationship will work.  If you've asked him to stop invading your privacy, and he hasn't, it's time to cut him lose. You shouldn't settle just because you're afraid he'll be angry. You deserve much better.
694614
Dump him first and keep your self respect. You cant force him not to break up with you and if you are wrong then he will tell you.
1087417
complete openness should already been present before a relationship should have started. Too often we rush into things for many reasons not taking enough time to get to know one another. then we get together and wonder why it doesnt work out. love isnt compromise its about love and acceptence. trust and honesty. he pushes you away means he has none of what it takes to be a good understanding loving caring mate. sorry but I say respect yourself and you can do and deserve better.
1091685
It is not you that is having (or needs) the open relationship, it is your partner who is staying with another woman.  If that person and the woman have an open relationship, that's one thing, but if there is cheating going on, that is never okay.\n\nAlso, keep in mind that a person who is "open" with you may be similarly "open" with others.  What kind of sexual disease might be spread around that way.  And if you are hooking up, you are exposed to whatever all the other partners (and *their* other partners) might have.
766819
It means that he wants to have his cake and eat it too. If you two are supposed to be in a monogamous relationship, then you need to confront him about it immediately. He is clearly going outside your relationship and looking to date other women.  I'm sorry you found out the way you did, but that happened to me too. Drop him as fast as you can and don't look back if you want a 1x1 relationship. If you want to see other people too, then insist he be honest with you and just keep it casual with him. Good luck!
239688
No because I believe in a open relationship
904269
seriously? i know, you know what you should do...but alright...i'll push you some more..\n\nyou have to break it with him otherwise your relationship will all be based on lies which is not good...one of the many purpose of having a boyfriend is to make you happy and not to make you miserable!...so think about it..
867311
Maybe you need to be alone and need that time to find otu what you want and what your looking for.  It may be temporarily uncomfortable but in the end it will pay off.  Being in your first relationship you already saw what you don't want now you need to figure out what you really want and find someone thta fits that criteria.  If things didn't work and you and hima re off an don that much it may be a good sign it's not going to work.  Try bringing it to his attention and see what he says and if he makes the changes, if he doesn't don't waste any more time in the relationship when it's not going to work.
584431
it sounds like he just want's a "friends with benefits" relationship. Tell him that you want a real relationship, or nothing. You don't want to be held back from something new because he can't make up his mind.
105171
I think he was just trying to dump you easily. Though it sounds mean for him doing it, he was trying to be nice and blame hisself and not you for him wanting to break up. As for why he wanted to break up, I wouldn't worry about it because atleast you know it's over and you can find someone now that wants your love.\n   Good Luck.
1149028
Treat your boyfriend as you would want yourself treated.\n\nThat is, if your boyfriend were in the predicament you were, what would you want your boyfriend to decide?  Would you like him to do what you are thinking about doing?\n\nMy guess is that he would not want you to do what you're thinking about doing.\n\nNow, if you break up with your boyfriend, that is another story as you will no longer be in a romantic relationship and do not need to consider his feelings when you are making romantic choices.\n\nOn the surface, having sex with your friend to me sounds like a very bad idea at this point in time.  If you break up with your boyfriend, I might have a different opinion.\n\nOverall, respect your boyfriend's feelings while you are in a relationship with him.
812
Let him go.  If it's meant to be, he'll realize what an idiot he is and come back.  In the meantime, why should you sacrifice what you really want (a relationship) for someone else?  You deserve to be happy.  \n\nWhy are we women always so ready to sacrifice the possibility of loving, committed relationships with other people, just to stay with someone who is 'not sure' about us?  It's silly.  Go out and get what you want.