hi how to come out of hesitation in public speaking?
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Well just remember that by being in that group of people, someone is curious to hear what you viewpoint is. Since this seems to be more about general communication than actual speeches, its a lot less formal most of the time. If you are worried that people will make fun of you, try to stay current with whatever is going on in the group your involved in. If you are in a group of people who like movies, you know that if you havent looked up movies in a while you might be a bit out of place. Theres no real set science to being able to talk in groups. It really does help to be comfortable with your views and opinons. People usually want to hear other peoples opinions. A lot of times people feel nervous talking in groups but if you start getting involved you find that people will be affirming and it gets a little easier. Im not saying you have to be the life of the party right away. If someone says something you agree with, say that you feel the same way. Take baby steps. Soon you might feel a little more comfortable as people are a little more positive. Just keep working at it, and dont get frusterated if you end up saying something a little silly at times, because we all do.
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Prepare your speech now, using an outline and practice practice practive. Use a mirror first and get used to seeing yourself in the mirror to critique yourself first. Then, find an audience---anyone, your dog, your family, your friend, even your plant for that matter. Maybe even set up a room similiar to the one you will be giving the speech using different items/people as your audience and practice eye contact ahead of time. The more you practice, the better prepared you will be. Just don't practice too much, or your presentation will appear just that and you want to look knowledgable, not rehearsed. \n\nGood luck.
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You need to take a deep breath and get your thoughts in order. Do not speak straight away, visualise your speech then start slowly. Do not rush. Also, practice in front of your friends and family or even in front of the mirror.It really helps!
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the #1 key to making a good speech is to believe in what you are saying %100. \n\neven if you dont neccessarily agree with the topic of the speech, speaking with conviction will make your speech more effective and boost your confidence while speaking.\n\ninstead of thinking about what people will think or how well you will do, just try to speak as if your only goal is to convince one person in the room that what you are saying is true. \n\nand dont just ramble off a bunch of facts. put things into context and give examples that will relate your subject matter in many different ways. \n\ngiving a good speech is a matter of interacting with your audience, not lecturing them.
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take some speech class.\n \nStep One : Planning\nOur guide will make public speaking a whole lot easier for you. Build solid foundations for a successful speech by using your knowledge of the occasion, the audience, and their expectations.\n \nStep Two : Writing\nLearn the fundamentals of successful speechwriting. Discover how to correctly structure your speech with a strong opening, a purposeful body, and a memorable conclusion.\n \nStep Three : Delivery\nShould you use a script, use notes or rely on your memory during the delivery of your speech? Finally, read our Delivery Tips for some ideas of what you should and should not do during a public speaking engagement.
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First of all you are trying to be more than what you are.  Avoid pretending.  Try to be genuine and realistic.  There can be mistakes when you talk.  Quality is attained gradually.  All of a sudden no one can be the best.  Time and efforts are needed.  While trying to improve give attention to those who speak proper language. Take some time in the evening to refer dictionary to solve your doubts.
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There are alot of shy people, but yours seems to be extreme! Anyways, what you need to do is to face your fear - shy people are usually afraid of one thing or the other.  Maybe you are scared of saying the wrong thing in front of people, or tripping over your shoes while passing under the stares of people.  Either way, its a fear, and you need to face it.  When you are in public, take deep breaths, count 5 seconds between each breath.  You  need to look at yourself in the mirror each day and say: "I am not scared, I am confident! I will not fall, I will not say the wrong thing" and so on and so forth. You need to speak to yourself all the time when you feel nervous. Say things to encourage yourself as you would to a friend who was shy too.  It will take a while before you overcome it but you will eventually.  If you love yourself, you will be more confident. So love yourself (e.g.take care of your appearance) and your confidence will come naturally.  You should also pick up books or read the internet on issues regarding anxiety, nervousness and shyness.  They will give you practical and maybe medical ways to help you.  And dont worry too much - you are not alone!
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Watch what others do and copy their style.\n\nBe well briefed (so you can contribure rather than just talk).\n\nTake a strong view on issues before the meeting so you know what side youre on.\n\nAgree with others and provide support ("John makes a good point and i think..")\n\nLike presentations practice - years ago when i was real nervous about job interview and presentations I practiced in front of a mirror, years later my wife helped by acting as the audience - it was terribly cringe-worthy and i hated it but it did work (i think its called desensitised). After so many meets youre glad someone else wants to voice something so go for it. Howeber bad it gets (stumbling over words etc) its better than sitting in the corner! Enjoy \nRobert :-)
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you should talk about something you like and you are good at (for example a hobby) or about an issue that really interests you. this way you won't run out of ideas and won't make embarrassing pauses.and try imagining the audience in underwear,it works :)good luck
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Just try slowing down.  A brief pause while you collect your thoughts is perfectly acceptible.  It's nice when someone is answering a question if they pause first and give their words some thought.\n\nFocus on what you are trying to say, and don't feel rushed.  Maybe it would help to have a drink to use whenever you needed a moment to pause.\n\nhope that helps!
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Think about being efficient.  Everytime you feel yourself getting excited about a topic and wanting to elaborate, hold off.  This may mean trying to limit your responses to 5 or six pleasant, well- planned words.  Try not to use adjectives- those can get on people's nerves.\nYou can contact a therapist or like it has been noted, a speech pathologist.  Those can be expensive- just try your friends and family, I'm sure they know about your chatty habit and all probably have a few opinions on how you can slow down.  Just like smoking, it will be a hard thing to quit, but you can do it!  And you will probably LOVE the results.
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Speak slowly and clearly please
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Follow the following simple steps:\n1.Prepare a good story on the stuff that you wish to speak. Understand them well .\n2.Remember the story by heart.\n3.Stand in front of a mirror and repeat your story as many times as possible till you don't fumble and can speak continuously. Remember unless you can memorise and vomit wthout fumbling you can't deliver the results.\n4.After this make this presentation with your youger ones and with family and friends.\n5.Once you are confident jusk tell your friends to ask questions and start answering them. If you have problems then think of as many questions as possible and their best possible answers.\n6.Repaet the presentations with small groups of family and friends.\n7.IMPORTANT: WHILE MAKING THE PRESENTATION REMEMBER YOU HAVE MADE LOT OF EFFORTS AND YOU KNOW BETTER THAN YOUR AUDIENCES. HENCE  SPEAK CONFIDENTLY.\nIf you have any doubt in answering a question just answer and tell "This is what best I can think of. There may be better ways . "\nOr Just say" This is what I think. Correct me if I am wrong"\nHENCE THE KEY IS CONFIDENCE LEVEL. JUST MAKE THE PRESENTATION WITH FULL CONFIDENCE. THIS CAN BE DONE ONLY WHEN YOU HAVE PREPARED YOUR STORY WELL AND HAVE PRACTISED IT WELL.
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Learn from the professionals and gain some inspiration.\n\nOnline Speech Bank\n\nIndex to and growing database of 5000+ full text, audio and video (streaming) versions of public speeches, sermons, legal proceedings, lectures, debates, interviews, other recorded media events, and a declaration or two.\n\nhttp://www.americanrhetoric.com/\n\nhttp://www.americanrhetoric.com/speechbank.htm\n\nhttp://yahooligans.yahoo.com/school_bell/social_studies/history/speeches/\n\nhttp://www.popgoeslethal.com/orationreadalouds.html\n\n\nSpeechTips\n\nThis is a very good site with very easy to follow step by step instructions.\n\nSpeechTips.com Your free guide to speech writing and public speaking for eulogies, graduations, best man, father of the bride and any other public speaking engagement.\n\nhttp://www.speechtips.com/index.html\n\nhttp://www.speechtips.com/preparation.html\n\nFREE Articles on Public Speaking\n\nThis site has so many tips that I was unable to pick any, you will need to see for yourself and see which, if any are useful to you.\n\nhttp://www.public-speaking.org/public-speaking-articles.htm\n\nThis site seems OK but once again see what is useful.\n\nhttp://members.shaw.ca/toasted/services.htm\n\nI liked this one.\n\nThe fear of speaking to a group of people is one of the most common forms of social phobia. Here are several suggestions for working with this fear.\n\nhttp://www.rpeurifoy.com/anxiety/pubspeak.htm\n\nPublic speaking do's and don't's\n\nhttp://www.lifehacker.com/software/feature/public-speaking-dos-and-donts-161531.php\n\nGood luck.\n\nKevin, Liverpool, UK.
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Its just a fear of being watched by all those people (the audience) I still dont like public speaking and find it hard to not get tongue tied. It could be you're just shy and u just have to keep trying to overcome it. Talk in front of people u dont know maybe on a smaller scale it might make u feel more confident about being on a stage.
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You don't indicate whether this anxiety occurs when you are speaking in public, in front of a large audience, or if this is an everyday occurrence which happens no matter what the situation.\n\nYou also don't indicate who these people are: Strangers?  Friends?\n\nThere are different courses of action to take depending upon your situation.\n\nIf you fear speaking to strangers and to the public, don't worry, most people share that anxiety.  The key is to remember that it's not the end of the world- your bills aren't going to multiply and your health isn't going to deteriorate if you don't speak perfectly. \n\nTake your time and slow down your speaking.  Listen to what you are saying.  If you find you are injecting what I call "verbal commas" (sounds such as "um, ah......, uh, like,) that is an indication that either you are speaking too fast, or you don't know your material.\n\nIf you don't know your material, then how can you be confident with your delivery?  Also, while making eye contact is critical, it can be very difficult to do when you have anxiety.  Simply look at random points through out the room- it will look to everyone as if you are making eye contact with everyone else. \n\nIf you have difficulty speaking with ANYONE in general conversation, there could be some underlying issues you need to uncover.  More than likely there is a confidence issue at hand.  If you don't want to seek professional help, I suggest simply remembering that no matter what you say, it's not the end of the world.  Slow down.  Breathe, and be cognisant of your body- are your muscles tightening?  If so, pause your speaking, breathe, and relax, then continue.  \n\nThere isn't a time limit when you have a conversation with a friend or a stranger, so don't feel rushed or pressed.  Also remember that no one is making any sort of character judgements about you when you speak.  It's not how you speak, it's what you say that effects your character.\n\nIf you're worried about what you say, then I again say- know what you are saying.  Don't speak if you know nothing about the subject at hand- rather, don't speak as if you have knowledge about it.  \n\nAnother technique is to ask questions- rephrase what you want to say so that others have to do the speaking, and use their answers as a base for what you will say next.\n\nInstead of saying, "I really liked that movie" and being too nervous to list your reasons why, for example, ask- "Did you like that movie?"  The ball is in the other person's court- they will answer, "Yes" or "no", and then YOU are in control- you can now ask "Why?" Then again, the ball is back in their court.  You are having a conversation without really doing much speaking. \n\nAbove all, remember that we are all capable of fear and anxiety, and we are all capable of conquering it.  Everyone has different methods; it's up to you to find yours.  You're not going to find it if you're too afraid to try.\n\nGood luck to you.
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You can become more confident in what you do by knowing about the subject,product,issue,etc.Whatever it is that you are involved in,if you don't know what you are talking about then learn. Start reading the dictionary,go online start learning about different things,go the library in your spare time,read about subjects you don't know anything about or understand. Reading is so good for you.You have to increase your knowledge.Seeing that most people don't use but about 5 percent  of their brain power,look out how much empty space you have that you can use. Think about what most subjects are that the people you know generally talk about. Then go start learning about these subjects so that the next time there is a conversation going on you will be prepared to have a little input of your own and know and understand what you are talking about. Your confidence will grown each time.When you are having a conversation with other people,remember that they are only human,they will not eat you alive unless they are cannibel(HaHa)Seriously,they are just people just like you.They may disagree with whatever you have to say,but everyone is entitled to their own opinion.As far as speaking in front of a crowd,well that's a different subject,that takes practice for anyone.Anyone interested should get a book on that subject and then practice,practice,practice.Maybe even join a public speaking class.In any case the more knowledge you have about a subject,the more comfortable and confident you will be when speaking about it.The more you know,the more confidence you have.Note:spell check is not working,I'm in a hurry today,gotta go,Good Luck.