When you have been with someone for so long is it normal to want attention from other men?
476894
I kinda think you just need a little more stimulation. It seems you have just been enjoying each others company for a long time and that is pretty amazing in it's self... talk to your partner... you might find that he is feeling the same way as well... You say flirt a little? Can I guess that you don't work? Cos most people I know in a work situation tend to flirt a little somehow...  Though it is well understood that it isn't for any other purpose than to lighten the days tasks.\nTalk to him and maybe seek this stimulation together... can only make you stronger and give you more to share when it is just the two of you...
626109
If you and your boyfriend we're truely happy you wouldn't be checking out other guys, there has to be some underlying relationship problems if you have fallen for another guy. Its only fair that you are honest with both guys, and more importantly yourself. You need to do what's best for you, if your unhappy with your boyfriend you need to get out of the relationship. Even if your feeling for the other guy pass (and that's highly unlikely that you will suddenly not like him anymore) there will be other guys after that. Reevaluate your current beau.
491969
I THINK HE IS JUST BUSY AND YOU SHOULD DEAL WITH IT LIKE I DID (AND STILL ARE) WITH MY BOYFRIEND. IT IS NORMAL, DON'T WORRY
654654
This sort of guy usually persists until you put out but don't do that. He also seldom takes no for an answer. I had the same problem in 2001-2002. I just began sharing details about dates I went on with other guys untill he faded into the background. I am happily married to someone else now so don't believe that hype about him being meant for you.
730819
I guess it depends on how much dignity and self-respect you have.  If it is okay with you that your significant other is not faith-full, then be with him while he is with other girls and don't complain.  Otherwise, move on and find someone worthy of your love and attention.   Why is it that us women invest so much time in worthless men?  I'm just betting that you are a beautiful, intelligent woman that could find a wonderful, caring and fun guy to be with.
546581
yes it is normal...and it will stay with you untill you have worked many years..it willjust transform itself, from trepidation, to second guessing, to desiring something else (better, different, new).\n\nThe fealing is insecurity, and everyone has it to some point or another.
597051
Yes, I have been with someone for just over 9 years. A year and a half ago thisman and I stopped talking formore than a few months. My high school sweetheart called out of the blue at this point....WOW!! So I fell in love for him all over again, only to find it was not him, it was him from high school. Then after a few months started talking with the other guy. It sucks. Think! Before you do. Its your life.
531709
Your partner's bahabiour is quite controlling and dominating,so it appears on the surface.Displaying affection is a good thing,but overly showing ur neediness to be with him all the time,without giving him breathing space sounds troublesome.Maybe ur behaviour is childish,SMSing calling just to say a hi, and hello every now n then.Maybe this is acting as a repellent.Grow up.The more u run after him,the more he would want to cut contacts with u.Men like to win their love through a hard way.Anything easily falling in their hands is not seen as a compliment.Further,do u want to be treated the way he does to u now?Has he declared his love for u verbally?U sure this isnt freindship?Also,his giving u lesser attention is drawing u to him closer.Are u sure u love him?
428824
No. Especially if you feel the need to ask this question, then you are uncomfortable with it. Respect yourself. If he truly cares about you, then he won't ask you to do something you really don't want to do. Plus the fact that he probably wouldn't keep the pictures to himself. Do you really want to take the risk of other men seeing you that way? Respect yourself!!!!
422296
Depends on where you hear it from. i have been on both ends, once my man lied to me because he didn't want to hurt me and didn't want to me  to leave. Then once where i was all rumors.  Who is telling you?????  Is it someone who wants him/you? OR is it someone who just wants attention???
279921
I've been with my husband for over 22 years, we've been married for a bit over 18 years. We met our Sophomore year of high school. We have 3 lovely children and a great relationship. I am white, he is black.\n\nFortunately for us, we have no encountered a lot of problems. But I know that the problems are out there, they are just more masked now. We've gotten the disgusting looks, we've heard "under the breath" comments but they don't bother me much. We are content in our skins even if they aren't the same color.\n\nThe only thing that bothers me and it's not a racial thing, even if it may sound like one, is when women get involved with someone of a different race (and this applies to men too) simply because they feel it's a trend. I speak of this because I went to school with several girls who thought it was "neat to mess with a black guy". Right there, you know it's just not something serious. Why would you have to make the distinction of "black guy" (insert any other race in that phrase) you wouldn't say you think it's "neat to mess with a white guy", right? \n\nI feel that if you are interested in someone, go for it. Make the most of your relationship, despite the stares and comments. Keep your chin up and be proud of who you are, of what your relationship is and forget what others think. Good luck.
270113
Meeting the physical and emotional needs of one woman is taxing, let alone trying to meet the needs of more than one. If you find yourself bored in a monogamous relationship, you're probably not giving your partner the attention they deserve.\n\nWhile curiousity may get the better of you when looking at other people you are attracted to, that's a part of being in a relationship. It's a part of learning why what you have is so great.
29712
Too much attention from some guy(s) is not what it is all cracked up to be.\nConcern yourself with your overall betterment and you will meet someone who shares your interests.\n\n\nDon't give yourself away.
740245
Unfortunatly that happens quite frequently.At first men do everything in their power to attract you and to make sure you notice them. They treat you like a queen etc. Then as soon as they know that you are theirs and ain't goin' nowhere, they stop trying. What to do in this situation, is to show him, that you are still desirable to others and if you wished you could have any man you want, and you won't hesitate to trade you b/f! Perhaps that will scare him into showing you more attention, and make him work to keep you!
966021
It's normal.  I'm the same way with a guy friend I like (except he knows I like him).  You can't help but feel that way.  It's human nature.  People are naturally territorial.  You'll eventually get over it.
268093
Well in my opinion yeah you are crazy lol but I am going to try to be open minded and answer your question. You might have some kind of fetish that just turns you on when you see her with another man.Its just like any other fantasy or fetish... weird stuff turns people on like crazy. As long as this doesnt get in the way of yalls relationship... embrace your fetish and have fun.
882385
I mean you had been with the guy for 15 yrs or course your going to have feelings for him.  He is and will always be a part of you and when you do move on in the beginning you will always compare other men to him.  It's just a women thing, Men move on quickly we reply the past over and over.  But when you do move on and years done the road you'll semi forget about him, but for a little bit you'll smile and then go on with the man you'll be with!