how do you deal when  you find out that your 16 year old bf hasn't been kissed?
484120
Do the honor and give him his very first kiss. Teach him how you want it done. If it's your first time too then better- you can experiment together.
574359
If your not kissing him is enough to make him not like you at all, he's absolutely not worth it. Don't worry your pretty little head about it for one more second. He sounds like a total loser.
873336
I use to be sooo afraid to kiss a guy bc I had never done it before but that's normal at your age.  Soon you'll get over that, if he tries something sexual and that's not what you want as soon as things go to far tell him to stop and that you don't want to participate any longer.  If he's a good guy he will respect your decision, if he doesn't then get rid of him.
846653
Livi, I have a daughter, she's 21 now.  I would be heart broken to know that she was hurting and confused.  And if she doesn't even know you got your period, then honey I think you need to skip the boyfriends for awhile and get to know your Mom.\n\nI remember when I was in the seventh grade, you are going through a lot of emotional stuff right now.  A Mom you can talk too would be great.  Can't you see yourself sharing some of this with her.  Please try.\n\nNow, about this nineth grader.  If you really really like him, then talk to him.  Tell him up front you aren't going in for no kissing and no touching.  If he can't deal with that, then drop him.  If he's truly interested in you then he will give the chance to be comfortable with the idea of kissing him.  My daughter broke up with a boy because he started smoking again.  So, you be careful with young man.  I don't want to read on here later on that you went out with him and now you are pregnant.  \n\nKissing, touching, and even sex is fun stuff, I am not going to lie to you.  But with it comes other stuff that's not so fun.  You don't sound you are ready for this kind of relationship, and if you don't want to sound like a "baby" or not cool, then tell him you are grounded.  Or tell him the truth that you haven't gotten permission from your Mom, and she would ground you for life if you went out with him without her ok'ing it.\n\nLivi, please see if you can speak to your Mom.  Give her another chance.  We parents don't always don't know the right answers, but we do care.\n\nGod bless us all..........
69306
No you are not to young for this, you took it on when you started dating him.  BUT tell him that one day a week the kids need to go to the sitter or a day care, and make that your day to pamper yourself.  Then tell him that you are missing his company.  I think that being up front is the best thing for you, you will go crazy if you do not tell him.
124920
i remember my first kiss   i was 14,, and the boy was my brothers good friend..he was 17...and it was not at all what i thought it would be!  lol.. he was way too experienced for my first kiss..(all tongue) i always wished i had waited until i was w someone i cared deeply about dating...i did not kiss again until i was 15 1/2 and even then it was not too kool to me   i was more into riding in their awesome cars and trucks  and going mudding....not kissing   so concentrate on other things and try stay in public eye  so ur not alone w him   that is when the trouble starts!
95318
thats perfectly okay. i am 17 soon to be 18 and my boyfriend is 21 soon to be 22. i love him with all my heart. older boys are hotter more experinced and know how to treat a girl. i'm his little princess. but tell your friend to be careful some boys are in it for the booty action. so i wish good luck to your friend.
913760
well he is ready. sounds liek what my bf and i were liek not too long ago. (weve been sating for 2 years) always talked abotu having sex. i told him how i wasnt comfortable wih the idea yet and wasnt sure (we were both virgins) so i just told him that. he didnt bother me abotu to as much as he used to before. i knew he respected my decision. i eneded up waiting over 1 and a half years intot he realthionship till i felt liek i was comfortable wiht it and everything. you shoudl just tell him that you dont know if your ready yet and if he relaly loves you he will respect your decision and stick it out till you feel more ready. there are better ways to please a guy that just sex. you can always make him dinner or something =) good luck. just dont rush into things if you dont feel ready. i dont konw how old you are. but advise waiting till you are in a serious relationship to loose it or have sex.
877963
Honey, you are way too young to have a boyfriend.  And you are way too young to be discussing with another boy if you are going to have HIS kids.  I would break it off with him gently and say you are way too young to be in a relationship with someone.  That is the truth.  If he is scaring you and makes you feel uncomfortable then you should stay away from him.
947229
you my dear are going through the process of growing up. after being a child you have suddenly found the world outside is big and everyone has problems of one sort or another, if your parents won't believe how you are feeling have you another relative you can confide in?as for your first kiss I was 17 when I had mine, and we were married 2 years later which lasted for 35 yrs. till he passed away. you are a very worthwhile person in this world, you seem a very kind and caring person, good luck.
1116518
love... im fourteen and my boyfriend is 17. we've been dating for almost four months now and never once has he asked me to or pressured me to have sex with him. actually i was the one who brought it up but he said he wanted to wait. i said that's fine with me. we love each other so much and i know he's the one for me and he feels the same way about me. i would do anything for him. there's nothing wrong with a 17 year old boy and a 14 year old girl together. the age difference isn't that much and it is said that women mature faster than men. i love having a mature boyfriend. unlike the other boys my age. mabey he feels like the other girls are way too mature for him and he wants to actually go out and have fun instead of always being bitched at lol. too much drama with 17 year old girls
382131
No way! I'm 16, and still haven't been kissed. In fact, haven't had a boyfriend since 8th grade (which goes under the "stupide middle school relationship" category). I'm not bad looking (one of my guy friends thinks im pretty), smart, and fun-loving. Yet I'm still single, like you! Odd, no?
887131
This is a tough one,\nI think you should show complete support for his feelings. I would not try to influence him in either way. It is important for him to feel your unconditional love and support. Afterall, if this is true, he will have enough opposition from society and it will make all the difference in the world to him to feel that he has a loving family standing beside him.\nBe sure to talk to him about SAFE SEX practices- since he is at the age where he is more likely to become sexually active and at that age, we tend to feel invincible and think that all of those bad things we hear about couldn't possibly happen to us. Don't just assume that they discussed safe sex in school!\nYou may be correct in thinking that he is just saying that to get a reaction out of you... then you may be wrong. Only time will tell. The bottom line is that I think you should be very supportive and open so that he feels he can come to you with anything. Try not to discourage or encourage his behavior/ feelings. Stand neutral (even if your feelings aren't so neutral) since this is the fairest thing for him and he deserves respect, understanding and love!! Otherwise, you may isolate him and make him feel that he can no longer trust you with his feelings.\nGood luck & Be sure to support and educate him to the best of your ability so that he can make his own decision!! (Afterall, if he came to you with this, he is looking for guidance and support and he must really have alot of faith in you... It is not easy to go to a parent with such a huge issue!!
368507
i went there the same thing when my parents found out that i liked a 17 year old. all i can tell u is if u've gone on this long w/ your bf & they just found out dont change your mind bout him....try 2 get them 2 let u have him over 4 dinner or something so they can get 2 know him a little.  good luck
673146
I've known this guy for about eight months and he hasn't kissed me either...usually when they don't kiss you right away that means he probably cares about you a lot, and is scared to make the first move.  Some guys are clueless about things unless you talk to them about how you feel about them.
541660
Limit your contact with the boyfriend.  If you're kissing and petting then that's got a lot do with it.  You're 15 and your hormones are raging.  Don't tempt them with the types of foreplay you're talking about.  You two need to enjoy each other's company in the presence of adults who would likely not really approve of what you've been doing.  They know it could lead to premarital sex which could lead to teen pregnancy or worse.\n  Perhaps if you provided yourself with an orgasm your desires would wane a bit.\n  Also, focus on other things.  The more you dwell on those sexual feelings the harder it will be to resist them.  Put together a puzzle or buy some flowers and plant them in the flowerbed.  Something to get your minds off it.
511567
What a blessing you are to your friend! A lot of 16 year old girls would not even think about this.\n\nLet him know that you are there for him no matter what. If he needs a shoulder to cry on (yes, boys do cry), to talk, to sit quietly together without talking, help him take care of his younger siblings, long walks, talk on the phone ... It's going to take him a long time to come to terms with this. Just knowing that you are there for him will help.\n\nYou're a sweet young woman. Your parents should be very proud of you. I pray that you can help ease the pain he's going through. God bless you and him!