Couples: be honest, would you really have married that same person now that you are married?  Be honest.?
483700
People aren't honest because they need to present a good face.  God knows what their marriage is really like or what their spouse would say.\n\nThat's me being cynical, I do know happily married couples though, but I know alot more people who swear their relationships are perfect in one breath and then proceed to complain about their spouse in the next.
935766
What's wrong with making it too obvious? You ask- have you ever been married? Have you been in many relationships? etc. etc. Getting to know someone is a part of dating and you're entitled to ask. You wouldn't want to be dating someone for 6 months and later find out they'd been married 5 times, would you?
388824
That I loved my ex.  I was young and got pregnant....I didn't love him, but I was scared and allowed myself to be pushed into *gulp*......\n\n.....marriage...by my mom and my ex himself.  If I had have been honest in the first place, we all would have been happier in the end, because (obviously) we got a divorce after a year of marriage.\nThe marriage ended in anger, which we've thankfully moved past, but I always kick myself when I remember what I did. He deserved better than that, and so did I.\nAt least we got a wonderful daughter out of it. The thing about lies is that they only get worse as time goes on. No matter how well you've convinced yourself....
479767
When it feels like it would be the logical next step.\nAsk yourself the following questions....\n\n1. Do we love, trust and respect each other?\n2. Do we share the same expectations of marriage? \n3. Do we share things in common that make us shout, cry and laugh? \n4. Do we agree on major life issues, such as children, family and friends, where we'll live and style of living? \n5. Do we have a way of managing conflict? \n6. Do we share the same views on infidelity and commitment to avoiding temptation? \n7. Do we love each other just the way we are today, without any hidden agenda to try to change the other?\nYou don't have to agree on everything. The important thing is that you and your partner have talked through these questions and both feel confident you can live and work together, knowing what the other believes
918310
If you want to do this now, how do you know you wont ever cheat on him again?  What do you think your soon to be husband would say if you asked him this question????  You might be surprised by the answer....
630775
Well, that's a hard one.\n\nOf course I would want to know.  Honesty is the most important part of a relationship.\n\nHowever, if the person has cheated, I would have a hard time sticking to the marriage plans.  I don't tolerate cheaters.  Or liars for that matter.
1156498
Happened to me. We have been married now for almost 4 yrs and we have 2 kids.
384555
I have been with my husband for almost 3 years and had an affair 6 mos ago.  I told him and he admitted to his shortcomings that led me to seek love elsewhere.  Now he says he will never leave me because I am the only woman he has ever been with that was that honest with him about something like that.
652074
I know there is--I married my high school sweetheart, and two kids and twenty years later, we're still crazy about each other.  We were unusually fortunate, though, in finding someone we were so compatible with at such a young age, and both of us being open-minded enough to allow the other to grow and change as we grew up together.  That doesn't mean, though, that I believe there is only one person who each of us could achieve relationship nirvana with, though.  I think it's a matter of finding someone you can really connect with, and then building a strong foundation rooted in trust, honesty, tolerance, and open communication.
201142
Is it marriage or the wedding you are on about? If its marriage then you will know when you are ready. I was. Didn't have any doubts. I did live with my now husband before I got married. This made us realise what we were like all the time and we knew we could be together 24/7
927058
Do they want kids? How are you going to handle finaces? Do they have any doubts about you two? No stds! How far would they go to stay together (counsling, etc.) What are their goals and carear plans. The rest you should know before you think of marriage
942522
Well, im divorced. While I loved my husband we had too many issues, particularly his looney family. So unless they were gone, no, i would not marry him again. But, I also would not give up the years we had together, or the beautiful son we have together, for anything.
218488
I am not married, but I wouldn't stay married out of convenience. Instead, I would try to make the marriage work. I would try to identify exactly which of my needs (and my partner's needs) are not being met and how to fix them. I take marriage vows extremely seriously. I would never tell someone I would be with them until death do us part, for better or worse, unless I truly meant it.
121331
did you get married? only then you are life partners.\n\nuntil then you are "seeing each other"
729163
Let me think..... hmmmmmm   10 years ago I was "happily married" and planning to stay that way, so was not even considering dating ever again (other than date-night w/ hubby, and w/0 kids)\n\nNOW>....... separated a couple of years, been thru the .... "I'll never date, no-how, no-way,.... and am at the stage of thinking...........  maybe..... and starting to keep my eyes and ears open for possibilities.
288175
I wonder that at times with all the affairs and divorce and people killing their spouses and babies. I can't explain it but I know what it is.  I have been with the same man since i was in 8th grade. We got married right out of high school which was 9 years ago. I love my husband now more than ever. The most absolute true pure love to me though is my babies, the moment i held them for the first time, and looked into their eyes, and they looked into mine, i understood what true love was all about.
495007
yep, Married him,,,,we were friends for like 4 yrs we ve been married for 1 yr 4 months and to be honest it is the best thing I could have ever done, it is working just so great we don´t need to pretend anything we know each other like the palms of our hands we still can talk like good friends listen to each other ,,The secret of it i guess is to keep on being best friends many ppl forget their spouse should also be a friend to them and limit their relationships ...he knows my past I know his and we don´t use it against each other instead we use it to understand the fears that may still be a part of us..=)....Nope we didn´t really feel atracted at first I was *engaged* , he had a gf...time went by I had another bf...broke up ...and then I began noticing I had fallen for him I asked him about his feelings and I was lucky he felt the same way for me..