How can I get my ex husband completely out of my life?
486514
You are going to have to set some rules. He is going to be in your life, on a limited basis, for years to come because of the children, but you need to set a few things straight. One, he MUST pay child support. Two. When it's his visitation, he picks the children up, and brings them back. Don't let him run over you on this. Stand your ground! He can pay a visit to the jail house.....then he WILL obey the rules. Good Luck!!
101939
Stop leading him on.  File for divorce now.  It's the only way he'll understand that you've left him and are not just "separating for a while."  Move farther away, if necessary, and definately get a new phone number.  Talk to your mother and let her know how you feel.  Offer to get her a new phone number as well, and ask that she not share your new number with him if he calls.  If he continues to harass your mother, she may have to tell him you've died.\n\nIf he becomes threatening of you or your mother in a physical or psychological way, take legal action promptly.\n\nWhen you file for divorce you should qualify for child support in most areas of the world.  This will obviously help you financially, but will keep you in contact with him, albiet indirectly.  If you feel that it is not possible to continue a civil relationship with him outside of marraige, then pass up the money and get him out of your - and your children's - life.
1058236
Contact social services and start some type of child support\nYou will need the help \nhe probably thinks he can get off scott free
177106
Go get yourself a divorce, and file for custody and child support. The courts are usually behind a woman who wants the best for her child. If he's a truck driver and on the road a lot, I have a feeling everything will go in your favor. Just remember, get yourself a decent lawyer, one who works in your county and knows the judges in the courthouse. Most importantly, do not slander your soon to be ex- husband, be calm, cool and act intelligently. Sounds like he has an anger management problem... you will not have to tell anyone but your own lawyer, chances are he will become angry in court and he'll be his own worst enemy.
682673
divorce your ex! duh! and tell your new man quick- otherwise he'll think you were trying to hide it from him.
1004288
yep,my ex.If it was at all possible I'd erase him from existence.
1152580
The best way to deal with this is to take your self out of this situation. By completely cutting yourself from any contact or relationship with your ex, even money.  My ex husband has done the same thing. I avoid him as much as possible unless I absolutely have to talk or see him. Which is usually during holiday visits. And these usually end up with like you said, him disrespecting me.  I don't ever call him or communicate with him. Also the best thing I ever did was avoid the child support issues.  I believe most of the fighting with ex's are over money issues ie child support.  I think this saved a lot of pain for the kids sake.  As they got a little older, the subject was brought up but then the fighting started, We both said, its not worth fighting over.  My kids emotions are more important then money. What we did is set up bank accounts for the kids, if my ex wants to put money in there, then its between my kids and him. It saves so much emotional games and the kids win. BTW: When the kids become teens, your relationship will probably get better,  the both of you will realize your resentment for eachother will be the last of your problems. The teen are going distract you from those emotions. Its happend to both my husband his ex, & me and my ex. We actually HAVE to talk now, but its all business, and has been civil. For the four of us. Good Luck
1122912
there are several ways to go about it, \n1. hire an attorney\n2. go through rural legal services \n3. do it yourself- just go to court house and ask for the paperwork and file it yourself. \n4. hope the ex files
69003
Ask a local church for counseling and to be saved, that way, if he kills you, at least you'll have saved and can reload from the last checkpoint.\n\n\nSearch answers.google.com for the keyword "divorce". THis place is full of f*cking kids.
854835
You might want to think that about that before you do anything permanent. Perhaps you can draw up legal papers so that you don't deal with your ex at all, she can drop your kid off at the police station, for example and you can do the same without ever seeing her. I grew up without a dad and it was extremely painful. Please think of the child first.
537079
Get rid of him!  It will just get worse!
706519
The best way to get an ex out of your head is to erase him.\n\nDelete his number from your contact on your phone.\n[so you don't think about him when you are scrolling through]\n\nDelete/destroy emails/letters he has sent you.\n[Reminiscing in the past is BAD]\n\nGet rid of photos\n[The less you see him the less you will think about him.]\n\nJust start over. Like life was before you met him.\n\nSoon you will think about him less and less. Then move on.\n\nIt is easy to hide your feeling from someone that doesn't exist to you anymore.
792114
forget him and get on with your life
923051
Pack up and run away.  Put 1500 miles distance between you and your soon to be ex.  It's better that way.
66434
um - divorce him obviously and set you both free to find another man each!
1039072
My ex pulled stuff too. Your ex will probably get away with it. Just concentrate on the custody. People like your ex will find a way of getting out of paying and you don't want someone like him raising your child.
744034
Make yourself hate him, or try to remember things that he had done to hurt you. This helped me a lot to forget my exbf. \n\nAnd it took me 6 mths to move on and many years to let go of him. But at least it helped tremendously.