When was younger I was raped and now imma scared to have sex?
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I once dated a girl who's father used to do terrible things with her in her bedroom at night. \n\nHer mother didn't believe her, and dismissed her accusations as schoolgirl fantasy.\n\nThis had a profound effect on her, both physically and psychologically. \n\nHer boyfriend before me visited hookers and escort girls even going as far as to take money from her to pay them.\n \nI was made aware of this from the very beginning of the relationship and stayed patient, never pressing sexually, and always remaining faithful. Helping to build up her self esteem and confidence.\n\nEventually, after seven months, and a real relaxing romantic evening, we made love and it was fantastic. \n\nFrom there on in she was insatiable.\n\nI guess what you need is a supportive, patient BF willing to take things slowly. \n\nMaybe seeing a councillor could help, speak to your GP/MD etc.
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First of all, you can make people AWARE. Awareness is your best weapon. I was raped at 4 years of age. I also was made aware of what to do if something like that should happen to me. I screamed, yelled, kicked, bit, etc. Because I did so, the teenager who raped me was caught and prosecuted. Because my parents were aware of what to do in such cases, they got me help right away. Children AND parents need to be taught how to prevent it, and what to do if it happens. I suggest that you also lobby for more strict legislation to deal with sex offenders. Perhaps form a community group at your childrens' school.
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since i was raped i got no reason to say i am still a virgin.  i have had sex for the longest of time.  but for the past year that has changed and waiting for that special person.  cause for some odd reason i am very single.  hope she understands where i am coming from once we meet.
805992
i was raped and molested for years by a step sibiling until the time i started my period. when i met my husband i was very open with him about this and he assured me that to him i was still a virgin because it was not my choice to not be. that was very important to me because i had always wanted to only make love to one person who would be my husband. god bless you for even having the courage to discuss this. i never told anyone even my dad until the last few years. honey you a brave soul and if you feel it in your heart than that is all that matters.
798120
virgin or not rape still hurts...physically and emotionally
634714
Yes.  I wasn't raped, but I was abused sexually.  Luckily, my husband has helped me move on and my sex life is just fine!  Talking about the past and getting through it is what helped me.
1047561
only when ive been date-raped.\n\nAlso, please dont wait long to award best answer points to me. I don't like to wait.
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hey i'm new here and i read this and i know that you said it was for totellthetruth, but i just wanted to say that starting a talk session would be absolutely wonderful! my sister was raped when she was 14. and then again at 15. i know she really needed someone to talk to when it happened. i congratulate you. and thank you for doing this. its really nice. i hope you will have good luck with it and that you will be able to help those that need it most!
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I more than most anyone will understand what you are going through...I too was sexually assaulted for many years and I have also been gang raped and raped by a couple of others. I too sleep VERY little...I average around 3 hours per night. I have had and been diagnosed with night terrors for years, as well as anxiety attacks....ALL I can suggest is meditation, group therapy and xanax...at least these are the only LEAGAL things that have helped me...If you are so inclined you can e-mail me and I'll go into further detail, but this is what I hope will help you at this point.....Peace!
544493
That's a new one on me! From my experience in talking with women in the past that have been raped it is a horrible experience and sad to say stays with you the rest of your life some people slough over things when something bad happens to them they may just be hiding the pain inside for no-one to see I think anyone male or female whom has been raped should see a rape counselor at least once just to be sure they are ok mentally. With counseling you can begin to get over it but if someone just burys a violent event like rape under the rug someday it will come back to haunt them full force most likely
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Why are you scared? What is it in particular that scares you about it? Is it that you feel like you won't be in control? Are you afraid that you might embarrass yourself when you have an orgasm in some way?\n\nYou need to work out why you are scared, and work on the underlying cause. All I can suggest is that you try to relax. A glass of wine, a nice bubble bath......try masturbating while you're in the tub and feeling relaxed. Maybe even ignore that fact that you're crying and scared and continue anyway???\n\nHonestly, there is NOTHING to be afraid of. It's such a good feeling, and I feel bad for you that you're missing out on it!! If you're scared of embarrassing yourself, then try doing it on your own, where no-one will see your reaction. If this continues, you may want to consider seeing a sex therapist as someone else has suggested.
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I was raped when I was in the 8th grade and sexually molested at home and I was unable to have sex with my boyfriends.  When I met this guy named paul I was 18 and he was 25, I was able to have sex with him and now we are happily married and have a beautiful 8 month old daughter.  Like they say patience is a vertue.  Hang in there and the right one will come around.  Because if you only have sex with your partener then you won't feel the need to do it with other people because that is something special between the two of you.  But on the other hand I don't disagree with premarrital sex but that is your decision just take your time and decide what is going to be the best for you before you act upon your body feelings.  be careful and use birth control and protect your self from stds by having yourself and your partner checked frequently.
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THIS IS DATE RAPE!!!! I would seriously consider reporting this. Sexual deviants start with something small and work their way up to more aggressive worse acts. It's kinda like a peeping tom who then exposes himself in public and then starts to mingle in crowds and touch people inappropriately, etc. It would have been ok if this was something you had agreed to beforehand and were role playing or something. \nAlso many women who are raped say that their body experienced feelings of pleasure, this is normal. At the very least you should see a counselor or therapist to discuss this and see what they think of the situation. Or at least call a rape hot line and ask what they think
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Oh honey, was it your first time? Remain calm and breathe. You had sex with a boy you love. That isn't so bad. Maby you weren't ready, but it'll be all right. I wasn't ready my first time either. I cried to and felt like a, well you know what. The fact that it was unprotected sex complicates things, go to Planned Parenthood and take The Morning After Pill, it prevents you from getting pregnant, also talk to the doctor there about getting tested for stds. Do not worry about your parents finding out, Planned Parenthood can not disclose your info to your parents. Also do not worry about money, Planned Parenthood will help you for free. It's going to be ok sweetie, if you need anything, even just someone to talk to email me.
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Having gone through such a traumatic event, the side effects aren't easy to handle. You may either go one way or another, to the extreme promiscuous act to having nothing be done to you sexually at all. You are probably trying to fill a void that you feel you have since your experience, and by doing these things you feel satisfied yet completely guilty that you "have done this to yourself again".\n\nIt isn't your fault, and you have nothing to feel guilty about. There are crisis and support lines that you could call in your area..that would be a great help if you need to just vent and talk. They could give you information that you may need, as well as counseling that is provided in your area. Therapy could do a world of wonders and maybe you should consider it. What is there to lose? \n\nTake care of yourself and your life, and remember you are a survivor not a victim. Make sure and put yourself first always, and if you feel something is wrong (which you clearly do) do something about it, there are plenty people who will support you out there and not judge you. So go for it! \n\nGood luck!
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Hey sweetie I know what your going through I am 35 and believe it or not I remember being your age, it is hard begining your teenage years and yes I believe talking to even the school councler would benefit you, but please find someone you can trust and let them help you, Please?\nAlso hon, sounds like you had a trauma happen if it did and you know what I'm talking about please seek help soon? Also You Need A big Hug My family and I send it to you now.
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How exactly does a 22 year old man get raped by a woman?\n\nIf this is for real, you should seek some counselling. The odds of a repeat occurance are extremely low.