why there is always age gap between girl and boy during marriage?
488890
if ever i get marry with my present boyfren its gonna be something shocking for my frens and family  because im 26 and my boyfren wants to marry me and guess how old is he?\n19 years old....
19317
Age isn't as important as maturity and so many other factors, like life goals, and personality compatibility. We all are at some stage in life. A great marriage is one in which both parties are of pretty much equal places in maturity, experience, wisdom, ect. they want their lives to go the same place at the same speed, understand and happily accept the self sacrifice it takes to get there. \n\nDifferences make for exciting mates and excitement in dating is a good thing but they make for an unhappy marriage in the long haul. In other words, who you prefer to date might be the exact opposite of who you should marry and as you mature, you'll know the difference between the two.\n\nAs it is, this is nothing but my opinion gleemed from life experience. I have no other qualifications to answer it and it should be taken as a persons opinion and nothing more.
529920
because they are boys and boys are not the brightest of the bunch... i know, i'm married to one!
375762
I am not sure that they do.  But they do seem to mature differently.  And there are so many differences between males and females that have nothing to do with nature but rather our culture.\n\nGirls seem to catch on to social behaviors sooner than boys, and I believe that this may be the reason for this common stereotype.  But there are many different type of maturity.  For example as a young boy I was eager to work and serve.  I was also more prepared than girls when dealing with tough situations and trauma.\n\nYoung women may need to be socially mature earlier, because they have an expectation to marry and raise children at earlier ages than boys.  But again this is just one type of maturity.
135852
because they are more attached to their family.. non like europ they dont leave home when they become 16 or 18 they stay with their families until they get married
709775
Only a man of that maturity can match the maturity of a younger girl. Many young girls find boys of their age incompatible mentally.
366747
Yes, you're like me and I married a younger man too.  But the age thing we've learned to make a joke of now - we were 29 and 31 when we met, so perhaps age has something to do with the way we handled it.\n\nI still refer to him as my toy boy sometimes, and tell him ke's got to keep fit in order to push me round in my wheelchair.\n\nGirls mature faster than boys, and I just think he has a little catching up to do.  But don't tell him that, whatever you do! ;-)
460683
it's not that it SHOULD happen that way, it just USUALLY happens that way. There's no rule or law saying that a boy should be older.
1102862
coz men grow late as compared to women,so a 17 yr old is good for a 21 guy.
938983
So what! Age doesn't really matter when two people are in love with each other. At 18 you are already at a legal age with all the rights appurtenant to you as a woman...how much more at 19. A ten year gap is not really that much. There are some who got married to a person half or twice as much their age but they still live a happy and successful married life. There are also those who married a partner about their age but still a failure in their marriage...so...age differences really don't matter...what matters most is how you love, understand and respect each other as a person. Good luck!
251091
You people are soo naive!!! First of all the Islamic religion does NOT AGREE nor ACCEPT child molestation!!! \n\nUnderstanding this issue of the Prophet's marriages is that we judge a 7th century style of life with a 21st century criterion. The way he married a 9-year-old girl was not out of the norms of both time and place, specially when you know that the girls of this region – desert - till now reach their puberty in an early time - nine and ten years old. \n\nIt is important to know that girls during the Biblical and Islamic days used to be married off at young ages when they either had their first periods, or their breasts start showing off.  In other words, when they turn into "women", then they get married off.  It was quite different for men on the other hand, because physical power and the ability of living an independent life had always been and will always be a mandatory requirement for men to have in life.  So men waited much longer than women in terms of getting married.  The guy had to develop both his body and mind before he was ready for marriage.  \n\nThat is why you see girls as young as 9 or 10 were married to men as old as 30 or even older.  The culture back then and in many third world countries today (NON-MUSLIM ONES TOO) is quite different than what you live in today.\n\nProphet Muhammad's marriage with Aisha was 100% legal and acceptable by all laws and Divine Religions!\n\nSo to call Prophet Muhammad a pedophile for marrying a girl that was OFFERED TO HIM by her parents and was accepted by all of the people back then including the enemies of Islam, the pagans, is quite absurd.
323747
It has only been until recently that women had some liberty in choosing their companion. In ancient times, marriage used to be arranged a great deal of time before it was actually contracted, and it usually involved the union of a young man in one family as the focal point. Since women used to have much less rights, they were only considered accessories ( especially in arabic and ancient judaism ). In a way, WHO the woman was didnt mattered, she was only there to ensure the young men would have a wife to give him children ( preferably sons ) to continue the family lineage. So it was not uncommon for a family to arrange marriage for their son with a very young or even not yet born daughter of another family with whom they wanted to conclude an alliance.  And since a man could not socially contract marriage before he was able to support a family, it usually take some time before the arrangment took effect. It was frequent in those ancient times to see a 14-16 years old girl married to a 30,40+ years old man.\n\nAnother factor, that also comes from the old days, was that death during delivery was a common thing, and since women had many children back then, it was not an extraordinary thing for a man to lose his while while she was giving birth ( example: suppose that with hygien conditions there was a 10% chance of death in delivery, and suppose a woman would have seven children in her life... not good odds... ). Since at that time, the family man had to work to feed and provide for his family, he could not bother to stay home to care for them, so he contracted a new marriage for the purpose of continuing the work of the old one.\n\nWhen for some reason, a husband died before the wife, since the woman was not considered his equal, she did not really have a choice. She was either to widow out and take care of the family, or to remarry with someone else - and usually that meant an older man, in order to perpetrate the social stereotype.\n\nthis is why we find "odd" to see a younger man with an older women. It is not culturally natural as a "normal" union, so we ASSUME it must be either for a) money or b) sex, two reasons that are considered bad for making a union.\n\nI hope it helped :)
36366
Generally girls are far more verbal and conversational at an earlier age.  This makes them appear much smarter than boys of the same age in social situations.  Women are more intuitive and practical, less theoretical than men.  This is a wise provision of our creators, I have come to think.\n\nGuy are more interested in inanimate materials and on the average are more logical than intuitive.  Guys develop more slowly, but they have to keep working when they are the same age as gals who are having children.  So guys have a longer learning experience that does not involve the experience of childbearing (pregnancy).  Therefore, it appears that men know more about other things as time wears on.\n\nBut this is not always the case in the modern world.  Sometimes the wife is a doctor who works and the man takes care of the kids.\n\nThe angels say that men and women are equal but different enough so that they will never completely understand each other.\n\nI think women take offense easier because they are more emotionally sensitive.  So, nice men like me are careful how they talk to women when we become older and wiser.\n\nI guess this is not a very satisfactory answer, but I am 61 and a man who has thought about it a lot.  I am certainly not stupid, look here:\n\nhttp://360.yahoo.com/ki_te_moana\n\nbut when I was younger, I think the gals were far ahead of me.\n\nGods plan is for us to be equal.  So we probably are in ways which we do not quite understand.\n\nI only wrote about what I know for sure.\n\nI don't know everything either.
1104465
Love they say is blind. So age is one aspect that is not very important, as long as the lovers are above the age of consent. Even in case both (In India - girls 18 and boys 21) are not of marriageable age, if the guardians agree then you could get engaged, but can't married until you reach the permissible age, that is if the lovers intend to get married.\nIn case one of the lovers is less than 18, and there is a physical relationship, then you could have legal issues for the other, maybe statutory rape charges, etc.\nst
339807
Although I don't think most people are ready by 18, some are mature enough and stay married for life. By the same token there are fools of all ages that marry without real thought.\nMore importantly than an age limit, I think what would improve success rates would be a waiting period...register and then marry a year later. There could be exceptions for extreme circumstances (illness, perhaps going away to war) but I think there'd be fewer divorces if people weren't allowed to marry impulsively.
125441
BECAUSE BOYZ ARE MORE PRACTICAL THAN GIRLS IN LIFE..........THATS WHY......
1162281
I dont think the Bible specified an age when to get married.