I think this guy I work with is GAY.  I want to show him I'm interested.  What do I dowithout coming out ?
487796
Ask him if he wants to go get a drink after work and hang out. It's not too forward and would you give you an opportunity to get to know him and probably find out if he's gay or not. Either that or ask him to join you for lunch.
551623
no offense, but unless he's a first rate jerk, he won't be interested.  It's just a crush(although I'm sure you're sure its love) and will wear off as soon as you see the next hot thing.  Don't get involved with teachers, bosses, or co-workers...it ends up messy.
850707
be honest and tell him ur not gay and that ur not interested. if he continues to makes u uncomfy (on purpose) then he's not respecting u and thus not a good friend\n\nbut how do u know he fancies u? has he said? or u being sensitive just cos he's gay and ur male?
847428
You don't.  If he is straight that means he is most likely not interested nd if you tell him you may just make him angry.  And they you, assuming you are friends, run the risk of losing his friendship.
980549
your allowed to think that he likes you, go ahead, but maybe hes new at the job or maybe there is a quality about you that scares him...like your eyebrows...no hahah im jk! if i were you i would ask him why he is scared, but dont ask him if he is gay
532072
You might feel like you're on a date, but that's just because you're straight.  He doesn't feel that way at all.  I had this one friend and I didn't think that I was leading her on or whatever and she KNEW I was gay, but she said that it was unfair of me to play with her like that and act like I was into her.  I wasn't GIVING her signals or anything though.  If he really wants you, let him come to you, you don't wanna lose a friendship just because you think you could convert him.  Things would just be WEIRD between the two of you.
785169
Hmmmm....well I suppose he could be gay. But trust me if you keep staring at him and stalking him, whether he's gay or not, he's gonna be creeped out by you.\n\nRelax and slow down. What's your hurry? He knows you're there...and if you quit bothering him (pretend like he's not there) that'll probably peek his interest and bring him to you.\n\nTake it nice & slow.
768654
if your not "out" then it might not be as much of flirting as you might think/hope for. If he thinks your one of his buds, and is straight it might just be him being pals. don't read too much into it, I know you want to, and I know he seems like the perfect one for you, but stop and think about it. If he is not bi, then you could really ruin your friendship. Maybe feel him out a little, bring up something in the news or current events like gay marriage and see how he reacts to it. \n What ever you choose to do, go slow, and be smart.\n and as much as it sucks remember their is a big difference between love and lust.
66489
Get to know him. Mention a news story that you've seen on gay people or a friend you know is gay or tell him that you are gay/bi, and ask him what he thinks. If he reacts well to gay issues, just tell him you like him. Even if he doesn't feel the same way towards you, if he's comfortable with gay people you can still be friends.
237859
Haha, why do you want to tell him?\nDon't worry about guys right now.\n\nBut if you wanna tell him, just say you like him and find out what he says.  Nothing's better than being honest.
481760
just come out and tell him
805542
very complicated.. but i'll try my level best.\n\ntake some time, before you take any decsion. Stay in touch with both of them, but don't hang out. Tel them, you need some time to think, so that they will understand why you are not coming out with them. \n\nTime is good medicine for your case. Some one might turn colour, or you might get more interest with some one.\n\nWorst case is , you might get interested with the guy who turned color.. \ngod saves you.
186404
He wants to boink you... and I am being totally serious.  I dont ask my guy coworkers to go to the movies because that would be gay.  So he is asking you because he wants to have wild hot steamy sex with you.
932113
Well, first you need to make sure you're not advancing on someone who is against gays.  If you get the vibe that he'll crack you in the head for standing too close ... I would move along.\n\nBut, if you've known this person for a while and feel that you both have a connection, then I would ask him to hang-out sometime.  Maybe grab some pizza or hang out at the mall.   Go back to your place and "study" or whatever.  Find out who he is and if he is interested in you as a friend or something more.
35218
You don't know and may not.\nIf you are interested in someone romantically and just want to know if he is available, ask him if there is any chance of you becoming romantically involved.\nThis sidesteps the gay issue and cuts to the core of your need to know.
298460
Telling someone that you're gay can really help a lot, just because you don't have to carry around your secret all by yourself anymore. Probably the best person to tell that you're gay is a female friend, since they will likely have less problems with it than a male friend. If you're gay, chances are that you'll have more girl friends than guy friends. However, pick carefully! Don't tell it to someone that you've had a fight with recently or that you're not totally comfortable with them knowing. Think about whether this person could use the information to get back at you for something. It's your choice and depends on your family, but maybe you want to tell your parents. However, if you think that they'd react badly and still depend on them, give this some thought. Parents can react better or worse than you'd imagine. Another option might be a sister, if you have one. Be very careful before telling people at work or school. And before telling anyone, ask yourself: a) Is this person a religious fanatic who would be violently opposed to gays and set me on fire with kerosene? (If so, not a good choice) b) Would this person use me as their 'gay friend' to go shopping and get fashion advice? (If so, and this might be surprising, also not a good choice. You need a friend that will love you for you, not for your gayness). The people you tell should be people that will just say 'okay' and you can move on with your lives and you can feel better about it.
163637
Don't go there, That is grounds for a sexual harrassment case waiting to happen.  If you let on that you like him, or if you reported it to others, either one of you could be fired.  Find another job before you even think about telling him you like him.