I am starting to feel anxious and sick about not being in a relationship.?
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You dont have to be with anybody to make your self feel better, you need to be happy with yourself first.
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i feel as if sum my girl mates fancy me n dey flirt wid me n evfin den it starts gettin me do feel little sumin 4 dem bt i dnt think i bi or lesbian. bt dey drag me in and i cnt pull myself out
1084181
It partly depends on your age and marital status.  If you're young and never married, it may be thoughts that your energy and sexuality should go only to the one you marry.  \n\nIf you've already been that route and are now free to do what you want with your life,  I see nothing wrong with being Friends with Benefits if part of the benefits are mutual respect.\n\nYou may be feeling some guilt because society tells us this is bad.   Don't fall into that old cycle.  Sexuality is as natural as eating.  We are born to share love and that's what you're doing......\n\nIf you feel fear because it won't be a permanent situation, keep moving forward with your life.   Work on your career, hobbies, sports, new friendships, whatever is of interest to you.  Don't focus too much beyond 'now' because doing so causes anxiety and takes away the joy of this minute.  Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring so enjoy today as best you're able.
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Hey there,\n\nWhen people like someone, more then just a friend, as a potential bf/gf, we tend to feel like you are right now, its perfectly normal, everyone has those feelings- men, woman, kids, teenagers, young adults, mid age people and older people. The good news is that many people get through it! So you can too! \n\nSince you are generally good at talking with other people, means that you must have some self confidence, yet when it comes to this woman, who you have romantic feelings for, you must judge yourself quite harshly. Do you find yourself thinking very negative? Telling yourself bad thoughts? Positive thinking is vital, tell yourself calming and good thoughts, whether you believe in them or not, they will help you get through it.\n\nAs for dealing with those unwanted feelings or nerves, its pretty hard to get rid of them 100%, but try positive thinking is the best thing you can do I think. Perhaps you just have to accept that asking this woman out, is going to make you feel a bit uncomfortable, but that's OK, because you WILL get through it and things will work out for you. Remember the ultimate goal. \n\nHope I have helped :) good luck and remember tell yourself good thoughts! I'm sure you will be fine.
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It is called coveting... and it is a normal emotion. Why do you feel you can't get a woman? There are millions of women out there just waiting to be noticed. You will never find a mate if don't get out from in front of the computer and mix with the opposite sex... All of us have fears of rejection, but you just have to take the leap and put yourself out there, the risk is worth it. Peace.
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You shouldn't worry about relationships now, you have too much life ahead of you.  \nYou're too young to worry about this.  \nHave fun and enjoy being a kid.
258199
Been tru some crap myself.... people use you and just treat you like a sweet wrapper.... Dont bother going out with those girls anymore, they sound mean and sorry if its harsh but you need to get to know yourself. Know thyself and you will then know that you are better and worth more than a million of those girls..\nSpend time reading or journal writing or spirituality. Spend quality time with you, focus on a hobby... anything. By the way I am 25 and not some old granny trying to give you wholesome advice.\nI have been in this situ b4 so when I started telling my so called friends that I couldent go out or do that favor (for watever made up reason.. my dog is sick, I have an appointment, my car brokedown, ) I began to realise the reason I felt so bad about myself was because they manipulated me to feel just that in their own twisted way.\nAfter some time of spending time with you or people who only judge you by your standards you will see that you are worth so much more and have lovely qualities and attributes that are highlighted by those who love you. Thos girls bring out the worst in you. Dont give them that chance any more. It will take some time and you will get frustrated by lonliness but come on , dont suffer these fools gladly... Best of Luck xxxx
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I know exactly how you feel!  I've avoided relationships for a long time because I was afraid of getting hurt.  I've been with my current guy for a little less than a year now and it's been the most anxiety-filled year that I've had in a long time.  There were many times when I almost felt like running away because the fear was overwhelming.  But the thing that makes me stay is the realization that in order to get the things I want most in life (not just in relationships) takes an amount of risk.  If we play it safe all the time, we'll never get hurt, but life would be bland.
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b/c u were once content/comfortable with ur situation and u don't like change.  but that's part of life, if u don't take that chance then u will never know the outcome.  plus ur heartbroken and it scares u b/c u don't want to go through it again, and u're thinking 2 urself is this going to happen again?! U said u've never been single, there's a first time for everything.  word of advice --- quit looking for someone (enjoy time to urself/w/friends), let that someone find u. cause sometimes if ur not looking 4 love its looking for u. and don't be so negative @ moving on. good luck
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Lol, that's a funny way to forget your problems.\nWell, let's see, I'm 17 and have never had a boyfriend, my family moves around every year so I never get to keep any of my friends for very long, my parent's can't afford to send me to high school or college so my future looks extremely dismal, I've never beed outside of Asia, I've never met my grandparents or relatives and I've never been to my home country, my visa in this country expires when I'm 20 so by that time I have to have saved up enough to either put myself though college or leave the country and God only knows where the hell I'll go. \nThere's a little bit more but I don't have space for it here. I hope this helps you feel a bit better.
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its because you feel bad for yourself. if u think about it humanity is a bit selfish. now that your alone you wish you still had a partner.
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sounds like your in a pickle...i am 26,man that looks old, but anyways, listen.i got the same thing from my girl, about a few weeks ago. not the fact of moving cause of school or anything(we have been 2 gether for 6-7 years and have a 4yr old son). she just came to me with the fact that she thought we need time,i never saw it coming and all that, yeah..it sucks.when your in love and when they come to you with this crap, your kinda like...what?when?how?why?me? i got like you. thisterrible sinking feeling inside.thats when you really know that you care,but what hurts the most is when they are like?oh?i hurt you?\nBUDDY, i hope your young.you have no children? so go on with your life.its gonna be ahrd, i mean you put in the effort, 5 years of your life and now this. it will take some time getting over this, but hey. im sure you have a mom, or family or friends you can lean on at this time. it will just take time, besides...there are soooooo many beautiful women out there. i was at the point to where iwas like i didnt care about those other women, but get this...they do care. they are out there looking just like you will have to.some will come to you,and some you will have to suck it up and go for.everyone gets rejected here nd there*trust me it sucks) but movw to the next. if you dont want to get hurt all over again, then dont get too involved. whats the best part about this? you will meet so many intresting people and get to do new things. yeah she might be in austin having a blast with out you. you will just have to accept this, get over it and have blast yourelf. if your here and shes there, it will make it easier,but when she comes back...or is ever alone at school and the memories come back to her, she will reliaze that she had something special. not every man is gonna treat her like you did..some may be better, most will be worse(most guys in collage are NOT looking for relationships ya know?) and she will, or try to reach you again to see how you are. hopefully youve moved on, got a black book packed with girlfriends, that are friends, some even more, thats when its sweet..when she comes back trying to be a apart of your life again...you might take her back...you might reliaze, you have moved on and shes just another face in the crowd, she didnt care about your feelings then...you could blow her off, you could give it a shot all over agian. i know its not easy.in fact me and my girl are still together after i found out how she felt. we are not married..so its no promise that it will work, all i know is that i have son with this woman, and i love him-if it works with her,great if not...i ahve him, and thats all i will ever need, me,him,god-you will understand once you have a kid, it is amazing\nwell good luck pal,keep your head up..if it help..go beat the shit out of a door, or punching bag, a little stress relief, or go have a drink this weekend at aclub or bar, and enjoy the view, the eye candy..the ladies!who knows, someone might be looking for a someone like you.
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You have said it in the first line of your question here, that this problem seems to be based on your past. You seemed to have been wounded by something that has already happened before. Its best you sit and think. Go back to that part of your past and mentally think as to what you could have done to make things better. I know doing so will be painful but it is something that you must do in order to ease the pain. Continuous suspicions, mistrust issues are not to be looped over such a long period of time, especially when you have beautiful people around you who I am positive are caring and concerned more than you know. There is absolutely nothing to be afraid of and most of all there's nothing more frightening than fear itself. Another question here from my side is why is it that you are afraid to love? I am asking this because we all know that what you give is definitely what you get back in return. If you provide love and affection, it is guaranteed that it will come back to you too. If you have any further questions or need someone to talk to, please don't hesitate to e-mail me. Remember, there are so many wonderful people around and you should give them a chance before you can think of anything else. Before that, please try and do what I've mentioned earlier about looking back and thinking for a moment. Until then, take care. :)
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Truthfully, you are never truly alone, unless you believe you are truly alone.  The mind has a powerful trick over the heart.  Just don't give in to the sense that you are alone.  Look around, and find people to talk to.  I know you will overcome this sense of alone-ness. I went through the same thing.  Just trust yourself, and what you believe in.  You'll always come out on top of your problems if you just try.  Trust me.\n\nI wish you the best of luck.  Don't let the feeling of alone-ness get to you.  The worst of things can, and will happen if you do let the alone feeling in to your heart.
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Hey Miss2good4me,\nI am really very thankful to u for showing so much concern.And Actually i think u r right 'bout me that i am desperate for a Girl....but u can say i am rather confused.coz i think i am really in love and i don't wanna go for anyone else,but i feel really lonely when i see others.I've already missed many opportunities and girls coz i didnt hav the courage to go up to anyone.I was thinkin maybe you wud me the one for me(Atleast online) so that i wud get to know a lill more 'bout  girls(If u dont mind ie).Here's my ID just in case:karan_wagh2001@yahoo.co.in\n\nbye\nPs:i don't think the Gay guys wud turn straight.(waitin 4 ur reply)
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AMEN SISTER!!i felt the same way just give it a break and im tellin you when you do thats when you least expect it.maybe your trying to hard that was my problem, i just didnt want to be alone but sometimes it is worth waiting.it is good that you have noticed some guys will just say what they think you want to hear! the fake ones, and there are lots of them.good luck dont give up!!!
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i dont feel comfortable among strangers... i dont get anything to do that time...so i start feeling uncomfortable...