Wife left today.. needs to be alone to see how she feels.?
484963
I would feel all alone too. Sounds like she is nothing but a slave. Doesn't sound like either one of you are really into the kids if both of you are gone.\n\nThis is sad but it is not too late. Quick call Dr. Phil.
104104
Sorry dude, if she's made up her mind to be gone for good, she's gone.  I would move on....who knows, down the road if you're still available, she might come back??!!  Good luck.
547822
After 37 years, she walked out for something that simple?  I think you might want to ask yourself if there was more to it than that first of all.  Be honest with yourself, that is a long time together, to throw it all away for nicotine.  I have a feeling that there were some more major underlying issues that you just didn't clue in on.  Have you ever heard the song "Buy Me a Rose" by Kenny Rogers?  It's basically about how the hubby forgot about the simple loving gestures somewhere along the way--and the wife didn't feel loved anymore.  The smoking thing was probably her final straw of feeling unwanted, etc.  whether it is 3 years or 37 guys--we HAVE to know we are still the ones you love and would marry all over again!!  Little gestures regularly ARE a good thing! \n\nMy suggestion to you is: \n1. Look back and figure out the entire picture of what was wrong.\n2.  If there was something you could have done to show her your love and appreciation better, DO IT NOW!!\n3.  If there was nothing more than the smoking incident (doubt it), apologize, and ask her what you can do to mend things.  GL
778372
I'd say she's feeling lonely and want you back. If you still love her, move your butt out of that computer chair and ask her to have lunch or dinner with you. I wish you two best of luck. Remember, there may not be any 2nd chances like this.
1072259
Seems she still seeing if you are the right one.  She probably needs a little more time away from you to sort things out.  You should be content with the fact that she still cares for now.
251439
damn this sucks pretty bad . well as you said you never made her any  promises so yes you should move along .since this is going to be painful for her regardless just be really honest with her and tell her why your leaving ...exactly why ...women have a tendency to try and pick things apart too much ...if shes in some sort of denial shes gonna have a hard time understanding why your leaving her  , as long as your really clear she wont have to judge herself too  hard and wonder what she did wrong . and by all means dont let hurting her stand in the way of you being happy ...but no i dont think you necessarily think you shouldve left earlier sometimes we like to hang on too long thinking that magically things are going to falll in place but it rarely happens that way damn im blabbing hahah sorry
622403
All you can do is give her a hug and tell her that you are there for here.I have been in that situation where I have something wrong with me and my ex used to ask me what was wrong, I never told him, he would just get up and go into the other room. Dont do that. I know from experience even if she doesnt want to talk, she might still like you to be with her and hold her so she knows that she is not alone
187198
just be there for you. keep the lines of commucation open and keep reassuring her you love her very much. right now she is feeling really bad and needs your support. help her find a new job. go to her place and make supper for her. and encourage her to seek to talk to a professional and go along with her for support.. i must say truely you are a good man to forgive her like for having an affair. that says alot about you and i see that you must have truely changed..ps also be very patient with her coze this is a very trying time for her ok.. best of luck to both of you.
860312
It is Monday afternoon for me and I am even MORE BORED.  However, I have tomorrow off work and my parents are returning from a month in America so I will see them for a couple of hours tomorrow.  If I were you I would go out and do something you don't usually do with your wife (and I don't mean anything rude).  Could you go and see a film she wouldn't enjoy?  Go shopping or see friends?  Do something around the house?  I'm sure, if you put your mind to it, there are lots of things you can find to occupy your time.  Get the house ready for her return - cook something nice, have a bath ready for her when she returns.  Have a bottle of wine chilling...
58875
If your wife is not here your right, you've won, your the master.\nIt's when she returns that your wrong again and in trouble and your now the slave. So get that smile off your face and realize your a man and your never right when it comes to argueing with a wife.\nSo enjoy it while she's gone. She'll be back.
480801
Eight years is a long time to let go of. maybe she just needs some space. Try separating for a while. It seems that you both still have feelings for one another. Seems like she feels lost. I know, I'm going thru the same thing with my husband. I feel like I've lost myself. I'm not the same person I was when we first met. Give her some time. I'm sure she'll re-evaluate your relationship.
978121
Looks like your trying to do what you can to make it work.  A relationship cannot work if only one person is trying.  Why don't you address her with your issues.  Tell her how you feel and what you want.  All the things that you put into the relationship your not getting out.  Communication is really the best thing you can do at this point.  Understand where you both are coming from.  You have to stand your ground.  If she still does not understand your concerns and thoughts let her know, it's either marriage counciling (or working things out on your own), or your gone.\n\nWell, I know leaving is very hard.  Just try to make it work.  If you love her and your kids, then staying with nothing changing can still be very heartbreaking.  Even if your at the bad end of this situation maybe take her to dinner for just the two of you and talk to her about it.  If you push it in her face with frustration she will push back with an "well I don't care" attitude.
1018180
honestly i know how u feel, but trying to "control" the situation, that iswhat u r doing, will only make mattersworse, shewill go into further rebellion, and things in the marriage will go down hill.   part of Love is free and what holds it together is trust (and God) but if you don't have either of these it will never last.  you need to let her do her thing( not saying im choosing sides)  but if you let love go and its true love it will come back.  if you smother and squeeze it, it will flee from you.  as hard as it is, you need to give her what she needs (space and freedom) she is in the wrong ( married people do not belong at BARS).  LET GO OF THE REIGNS bite your tongue, and tell her go ahead (just pray when shes out that she will come to realize its not the place to be. good luck
969375
get in there or you will regret it if she did that to me i would have no problem and would come out and ask her if she say she does not fancy you .move on. i did that to my wife and pushed the local coppers son off the post office wall and said out loud 'leave her alone shes mine and after 36 years two kids and three grandchildren it was the best move i have ever made. mind you i was pissed at the time and now this Sunday was a mad day as normal of guitars, screaming kids and the floor covered in toys and me loving every minute and loving even more when they all went home and tomorrow  i will want them all back again. one life live it and take a chance.
307767
Sometimes we go through these things before we find out why we left to begain with and than we want them back. So one more chance dont hurt if you still care. Go buy her a present and you two enjoy a special brithday together and if someone knocks on the door dont answer it. This will be both of your time alone.\n\nI came back and seen what else you typed she didnot show up then but if she is wanting to make up, try one more time you have nothing to lose. This time maybe different i sure hope so you seem to care alot and thats hard to get from someone is the love you have for her. From me to you i hope you find away for you both.
96701
Good News.... She is NOT gone.  She is always by your side.  She loved you for 17 years also, and she would want you to be happy.  Did you ever want to take up a hobby that your wife thought was ubsurd?  Do it now if so.  There are a million support groups for grieving spouses.  Being around people thgat feel the same way you do is very healing.  Always remember this... she will be waiting for you on the other side.
498792
Well It sounds like yo work right.. ?  and the Mrs stays home with the kiddies...  well look bro... she is probaly stressted out. and needs a little attention and some love..=)\n\nI am sure it is hard to handle... I have friends at work in the same postion and I hear the same thing from him. My only advice..  is listen to her... I know I know its hard to do..  But I tell once she gets out what ever is bothering her... she will feel a little better..  =)\n\nI have four my self....    so I know a little about your situtaion.. take care..