Should I support my husband while he goes to school full time?Or should he grow up and stand up to the plate?
479430
Since you suggested he go back to school, you should stick by him.  However, only if he is getting decent grades and taking school serious.  He should probably step up and get a part time job for a little extra cash flow.  Working 20-25 hrs a week won't take much time away from his studies and a lot of people work and go to school.  I worked night audit at a hotel (3-4 nites a week) for several years while going to school and was able to study several hours a night while at work.  Good luck!
554464
yes its ok, in most family's both parents work. I bet there is some time when you don't need to be in the house and you could get a job. do it if you need the money or if its something you want to do. your happiness should be one of his highest priorities.
1143860
You probably need a scholarship. \nLoans never get repaid for this sort of thing.\nWhy not find a husband who'll support you while you're studying?
240890
Sometimes college isn't the right choice for some people. My parents had the biggest plans for me and I just wasn't ready to commit to another 4-7 years of school. I decided to take my own path. Now I married with 2 beautiful boys and my parents wouldn't trade their grandchildren for anything in the world. Now that I am ready I'm going to take courses on-line for accounting and maybe some child care incase I decide to open a daycare. So give him room and let him make his own choices he might suprise you. Maybe in his time he will go to college. If not he can still make a life for himself. Just watch and see. My parents can't believe the way my life turned out I'm happier than ever. Life does have its challenges but they have ways of working themselves out.
932067
No, if you truly were doing it for the sake of your baby you would stay in school and set a good example for the baby.  You can't get a job without a diploma or GED, most places won't hire you without that.  McDonalds won't even hire you, that is the reality of dropping out.  If you boyfriend is going to get a job most likely he won't be able to support you and a baby while paying for all the bills, living on your own is really hard.  It's not some fairy tale.  How do you know your boyfriend will even stay with you?  If he decides to leave you one day you will have no way to support that baby, it's always good to rely on yourself not someone else.  You're 14, no offense but you don't know anything about the real world, it's hard you make it sound like it's a fairy tale.  It isn't.  You aren't dropping out for the sake of your baby, if you cared about your baby you would set a good example for him/her by staying in school and proving that you can do it even with carrying a baby.
302580
you follow your mind what you think is right for you not your family. if you feel its worng then its worng. if you feel it right its right. trust in God  he will drict your path. he want lead you down the wrong road. you have to think who's going to take care of you when you become an adult. think of you goals for your future and do what it take to achive them. but you only in the 10th you also have next year to study if you haven't seen you parent i really belive you should go see them.you can take if information with you to study for sat's that a good idea.
244870
University should be your choice because it will give you a foundation that you can rely on for the rest of your life.  If your boyfriend really loves you then he will still be there when you finish school.
386050
taking care of a family is a full time job in itself.  a marriage is  an equal partnership.  If both people work then both split the household responsibility.  Either way both partners should have a say in the money. Your full time job is your family. if you were working outside of the home he would need to help you with the household stuff.  Equal partnership.
611801
Be carefull who he hangs around with.  Watch his internet activity.  If you have to, take off his bedroom door.  It's yours, not his.  Watch for a lot of late night activity.  Smell his breath often and keep on him about grades and homework.  Raising kids is the hardest job you'll ever have.
762240
did your dad get school & college out of the way before having a girl friend, I doubt it.  Tell him your not planning on getting married, just geing a teenager and having some fun.  Being a parent I can understand where he's coming from but I was also a teenager and know that if told no the teen will always do the opposite, I let me daughters do things but we compromise, in your case id say fine but just see him a couple of nights a week so you don't miss out on your studying, you've got to be allowed to live a little !
496566
Currently, you should concentrate on taking care of your children and keeping yourself healthy and your thinking rational.  If your husband has capital for business, talk to him and find out what he is doing to make money because you will need to know what resources he is working with whether you stay married to him or not.  Right now, you do not need to become entangled with another man, especially one you do not love.  The needs or your children and yourself should come first. You must take charge of your own life and stop depending on men to carry you. You do not need confusion.
135675
I agree with Jewel, part-time is best.  Please remember that in addition to time in class, you need to think about homework, papers, group projects, etc... It may take you longer to realize your educational goals, but higher education will always be there.  The time you have with your child won't.
678690
This is your wife's child from a previous marriage right? Well if it is,he will most likely never see you as his real father,so don't ever try to be.In answer to the rest of your question,he should be held responsible for his grades,his dress,his future,and what he breaks,he should replace.Your wife should discipline him to at least respect You.You should not try to punish your wife's child from another marriage.The punishing should be done by his real father and his real mother.If they choose to let him be a bum,then they can support him when he cannot support his own self.He will grow up dependent on both of them.Step parents seem to be ignored quite often.No one seems to want the step parents input on the situation so I say,let them have their way with the boy,they are creating what you have just described,but every chance You get,you can be a positive role model,something he really needs and does not have as it seems.Hold firm to your values and beliefs.When and if the child comes to you for advice and he may,don't be his enemy,make friends with him so that you can talk with him about what he is doing wrong.You can't guide him if you are fighting each other. A parent is supposed to lead the children and teach them.Right now he is young enough to teach,but it seems by what you are describing,his mother is not teaching nor guiding,but letting him do as he pleases.He is only in the 6th grade,who is buying his clothes?Your wife I suppose.If she is buying his clothes then his dress is ok with her.A six grader doesn't really know what they want to be when they grow up,did you? This boy needs some guidence and it looks like you may be the only one who cares that he gets it.Don't give up on him.Children that have step-parents sometimes try to come between the step-parent and their real parent.This is something you and your wife need to deal with.Your wife needs to see that the child respects you.Respect often has to been earned through lots of love.Love does not mean letting the child do as he always wishes.If the child is failing in school,that needs to be addressed as well.You and your wife need to sit down and talk with the child as well as the school about his attitude and grades.Maybe some privilages can be taken away to give him time with his studies.His education is important to his future and that should be dealt with right away.Don't let this child slip throught the cracks just because he's not your blood child. Looks like he needs some positive rold model in his life and that could be you.Try to get him interested in something,maybe take him fishing,or golfing or something interesting that you both can enjoy.Become his friend and his mentor.That's how you can help.I'm sure you will see a big difference when "You" start to help him to learn and he has alot to learn.Please try to understand that he has so many feelings that have most likely been crushed by the divorce of his parents.Some of his actions may be coming from the fear he has of all the unkowns in his life.Such as is this gonna be my home forever?does this step-dad love me?will this man leave mom and me like daddy did?is this my room or am I gonna have to leave this one like I did when mom and dad got divorced? Give this child a sense of security first of all and then step by step deal with all the problems he has.
876537
I know you do not sit on your ass all day but yes my husband says the same shit you know what i did i quite doing the house work for one day and he came home and know he knows that i do not sit on my ass all day that i acutally do work OH YEAH and did i mentioned that he stayed home with the kids one day while i had to go to school. SO back to the question NO if you want to stay at home and take care of her by all means do it. SHE will learn so much from you while at home. MY son can do so much and he learned alot with me and he knows more then some kids because i tought him while staying at home. YOU need to make your boyfriend do all the things that you do make a day were he does not have to work and make him DO EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO and you do not do a damn thing to help him. MAKE HIM SEE WHAT YOU REALLY DO.\ngood luck i know how you feel.
130680
YES, and stay your course.Work hard to finish school and don't let that piece of s%#t make you feel guilty for anything you have done. Don't let someone like him drag you down. Its gonna be rough for a while, but you definitely don't need anybody to make things harder. Hang in there, it will be worth it.
708083
it is always best to send your son to school rather than home study. i agree with others that he will have more balance student life in a school whether private or public. i still go for private school.
590224
Do what is best for you and your daughter. Remember that your daughter will know when you are unhappy and that will make her unhappy as well. Talk to your husband. Ask him why he doesn't want you to study or go to work. If he is such a cave-man that he believes that the woman is the one that stays at home, cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids, then maybe he needs a wake-up call. Women are more independent now and maybe that scares him. If at all possible, try to work out your marriage. Go to counseling if it is getting too hard for you to handle on your own.