Thanks everybody who answered "should I forgive my mother for being a drunk".?
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i didn't see your first question, but I can say that alcoholism is a disease; and, until the person accepts that they can NOT control their drinking, then their drinking WILL CONTROL THEM. The fellowship of AA does work if the individual is willing to WORK IT.....good luck with your mother and god bless.... Yes, we must forgive, as God so forgives us.....
618482
neither one of you should be drinking.Being drunk is just an excuse for acting stupid.You need to work out your feelings about what happened or you may explode one of these days.
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My mom was an alcoholic and was very abusive to me, my sisters and especially my father. she had a heart attack and died in the house my dad still lives in. She is still there though, we have all had several experiences with her ghost. its like she caused so much misery in that house she is trapped there to see everyone else being SO happy without her.
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YOU ARE NOT WRONG FOR KICKING HER OUT HUNNIE, YOU TOLD HER STRICTLY THAT NO DRINKING WAS ALLOWED, AND SHE DISRESPECTED YOU AND YOUR WHOLE FAMILY. YOU ROCK BECAUSE YOU PUT YOU AND YOUR FAMILY FIRST. IT DOES NOT MATTER THAT YOU HAVE KNOWWN HER SCINSE 4TH GRADE...SHE WAS A BAD FRIEND...YOU OFFERED HER A HOME AND SHE DIDN'T TAKE THE MATTER WISELY! IT IS HER FAULT AND SHE SHOULD BE THE ONE COMING BACK TO YOU SAYING SORRY. I HOPE THIS WORKS OUT AND PLEASE KEEP ON BEING SUCH A GOOD MOTHER!
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Call the police ASAP, my good friend spent every penny he had on the drug, he spent about $250 a week and lost his job and most all of his contacts.  I finally called the cops on him and he thanks me to this day for saving his life.  If I would of waited any longer, I don't know if he would of been around.  Know that you can call the police from a pay phone and not give them your name.  Please do your mother a favor and get her into treatment before it's too late.  This is a very serious thing, and I know you love her, please do the right thing and get her help.
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NO!  All you ahve to do is picture the HORROR of when he was Living in the Home and you had to deal with that mess every day -- day in and day out ...\n\nOH, DEFINITELY NO!  Do you want to co-dependent and enable this jerk to be his Alcoholic Self all his life and be abused in the process, then PUT YOUR and YOUR DAUGHTER's Life in Danger by DRIVING while Drunk with BOTH of you in the Car?\n\nNO!!!!  Tell him to GO -- NEVER let this back into your home IF you value YOUR life and the LIVES of your CHILDREN!
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:Actually, today I found YahooAnswers and asked for prayer!\nIm so impressed by the answers and prayer I received from total strangers. \n(I cried, it really touched my heart.)\nI'll pray for you to if you'd like me to.\nDear Heavenly Father, \n  Please bless "Kitten2" as she reaches out to You for help, guidance, support, love, forgiveness, mercy, kindness, insight, and Your help in all ways Father, meet her needs and bless her. \nIn Jesus name we pray, Amen.
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First off don't be discouraged at all of the hateful responses you'll see posted. They just haven't see God's love yet. Pray for them.\n\nAs for me, to make it brief because it's kind of long, I was instantly healed physically from the damage that alcohol abuse done to me. I was never interested in God or the whole "religious" thing until one day I went to my cousins church and they prayed for me and I was delivered in an instant! It was truly a miracle. Ever since then (June 9th, 2002) I haven't had a sip of alcohol and have completely devoted my entire life to serving Him. I cannot fully express the joy I have experienced in these almost four years of walking with Jesus. But I know I still have a lot of work to do for Him.  God Bless You amanda2008 God be with you.
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NO, you were completely justified. It isn't even a matter of her being grateful (which of course, she should be) it is also a matter of her being a decent human being and having some level of manners. When someone goes out thier way to help you with something, the LEAST that you could do is say thank you or tell them how much you apprectiate all they have done for you. She stayed in thier house not just as a guest, but as a memeber of the family, and in such, should appreciate that level of acceptance and support. You and your parents seem like good people, and deserve that much respect.
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Thanks Becca, and I'm sorry too. That really meant a lot, stay cool girl! \n\nEmail me if you want and no God will always forgive you if you ask 4 it. I know that I've messed up a lot times, sometimes as christians we represent Jesus in such a terrible way, because we've been hurt so we become bitter and take it out on everyone else, a lot of us need to be healed before we try to start witnessing. Again I apologize too, and hope you can forgive me.
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im with ya on this one,have a great thanksgiving. No more bitchin its gotta be awesome.My sister says im a recluce but if she shut her mouth long enough
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You know forgiveness is a difficult thing.  I think if you are feeling it, you should do it.  It will be a lot easier to move on.  And really, how long does a person need to be punished for something wrong they have done?  I am not spiritual at all or even religious.  But a lot of people believe we will answer to a greater power once we leave this earth.  If you believe that, then there is no good reason why you need to carry around animosity for your mom.  You are an adult now and if she doesn't feel sorry now, she never will.  But I am sure she feels guilty and that is a punishment she will live with until death and then she will deal with whatever, after.  I think it takes a big person to forgive someone of such a huge thing as a mom leaving her babies.  My dad left my mom before I was born and then claimed I wasn't his.  It was a huge court battle and it was finally discovered he is in fact my biological father.  At age 18 he decided he wanted me back in his life.  I couldn't do it.  I wasn't ready.  I am a mother now and I have forgiven him and moved on.  He is now dying of liver failure and wishes he had more time with me...I am his only daughter.  So, he is being punished.  But not by me...but by himself and knowing that he did wrong.  Good luck to you.  You will make the decision best for you.
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If I were you, I'll talk to her mom/dad, even if she gets mad at you and stop talking to you.  She'll thank you later!  You can't handle that by yourself, you need an advice from an adult.  One day she'll understand that you did it because you loved her and cared for her
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Becaue when you're drunk your judgement is bad.  Whether it is a good excuse or not..it may be valid.  I know I have done some pretty dumb stuff when I was drinking.  Best wishes
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You are deffinatley showing signs of having and or developing a serious problem. I think you should go and talk to someone (a councellor, not a friend or anything cos they can be quick to condem). I went through something similar and found talking through my problems really good. You shouldnt drink to get drunk - thats simply binge drinking. Have you thought about why you want to be drunk? Is it to feel good, to block out pain, etc? Also, its troubling to think that you hide your behavour. I know that its hard to talk about it, but it is deffinatley worth it. Its amazing how good i felt after the first session, just to spill everything out to someone who was totally unbiased, knowing that its totally confidential and whoever your talking to isnt going to think your a nutcase is fantastic!!! I hope everything works out for you, and again, please go and talk to someone. Something that really woke me up was when i was told that you can actually die just from drinking too much - because its a depressant, it can actually relax your system so much that you stop breathing and just die in your sleep. Imagine your parents/siblings/friends/etc walking in to wake you up and not being able to - that thought freaked me out. So yeah, again, hope it all goes well, i would give you my email address if you wanted to talk but i dont really want to post it here! Take care
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That's a real shame.  You poor, poor, poor dumb ass alcoholic.  Ever consider calling a cab?  Worse yet is the fact that the state you live in allowed you to get 5 DUIs.  Where I'm from you will most times serve after your second.  The simple fact of the matter is that being as old as you are... it's already too late for you.  You will never change ever.  You have chosen to spend your life in a bottle chasing wiener half your age and half the time probably getting paid for it.  You say you have a good lawyer, so why post your question here?  In your reality is there going to be a magic answer on the Internet that is going to keep you out of jail?  I'm half your age and even I know that. Jeez.... I really hope you haven't procreated because if you have I'll bet they're proud of you now.  I'll bet you're proud of yourself.  Not once did you even mention being ashamed of yourself or consider what could have happened had you wrecked.  The best thing you can do for yourself is GO TO JAIL.  At least there you can't drink.  Maybe get yourself a little lesbian lover and spend your time planting flowers instead of graves.
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To be honest with you i did that all day yesterday!\nIt was my birthday on Friday and i was out all day and had alot to drink and stayed in bed all day as i was VERY hungover and guess what??? I feel grate today! a lazy day does you the world of good, so go for it!\nOh by the way i turned 19 on Friday just in case you were wondering? lol xx