Why some people in this world are so prone to be a victim of a bully?
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Speaking as a bully I look for victims that lack social support and respect from their peers.  There can be a physical difference like glasses or body fat but mostly the person that others already mock or make fun of is a good target.  The satisfaction that I get comes from showing others how I am not anything like the person I am picking on which really isn't true.  Which leads into your second question are they really that different from us my answer would have to be no because bullies and victims really are looking for the same thing which is a relationship with other people and acceptance for being who we are.  My advice to victims of bullies is change the terms around and ask the bully in front of his peers what satisfaction he gets from picking on them.  This will for the most part make some of the group turn on the bully and they will realize that maybe it isn't all that funny after all.
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While many people believe bullies act tough in order to hide feelings of insecurity and self-loathing, in fact, bullies tend to be confident, with high self-esteem. They are generally physically aggressive, with pro-violence attitudes, and are typically hot-tempered, easily angered, and impulsive, with a low tolerance for frustration. Bullies have a strong need to dominate others and usually have little empathy for their targets. Male bullies are often physically bigger and stronger than their peers. Bullies tend to get in trouble more often, and to dislike and do more poorly in school than teens who do not bully others. They are also more likely to fight, drink, and smoke than their peers.\n\nTeens who come from homes where parents provide little emotional support for their children, fail to monitor their activities, or have little involvement in their lives, are at greater risk for engaging in bullying behavior. Parents' discipline styles are also related to bullying behavior: an extremely permissive or excessively harsh approach to discipline can increase the risk of teenage bullying.\n\nSurprisingly, bullies appear to have little difficulty in making friends. Their friends typically share their pro-violence attitudes and problem behaviors (such as drinking and smoking) and may be involved in bullying as well. These friends are often followers who do not initiate bullying, but participate in it.\n\nAs mentioned above, some teenagers not only bully others but are also the targets of bullies themselves. Like other bullies, they tend to do poorly in school and engage in a number of problem behaviors. They also tend to be socially isolated, with few friends and poor relationships with their classmates.
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No, that's not silly at all to ask.  It's good to ponder, especially if you've experienced "meanness" from other people.\n\nIf an adult is mean to a child, it is usually because he/she is throwing around their "power."  They know that this child is helpless and has no other recourse but to take their crap.  It gives the adult the feeling of uniqueness in what they mind find weak in themselves otherwise.\n\nIf an adult is mean to another adult, this is usually the same case; usurping their power/authority over another to make up for the inner weakness they really feel inside.\n\nThere is no reason on this earth that we cannot be courteous to one nother.  We do not need to be rude, use profane language at another, or be unkind to one another.  Our behavior does change, however, if we feel someone has heaved unkindness on us.  Then, we feel compelled to heave it back and that's when you find "meanness" coming out in a person.\n\nIf you've had a relative that others have deemed "just mean" or hornery, it's the low self-esteem in that person.  If you've seen the bully at school pick on others, it's the same thing - he just doesn't feel good about himself (or has someone at home bullying him and needs to punish someone else for that treatment) and needs to be mean to someone else to "pick himself" back up.  It's ridiculous, but you see it all the time.\n\nPeople who have a tendency to be mean to others simply have not learned how to deal with their own insecurities; therefore they take a lot of their ill feelings out on others.  This helps to account for some of their being mean to others.
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It is not that they are not considered good...but unfortunately because of their gentle spirits...they are easily targeted by bullies in this world...People that can only feel good about theirselves if they can make someone else look bad or insignificant with no real value...These people are not able to find value in their own being, using only theirself...So they look for people that they can deem unworthy (who won't argue when they tell them that they are worthless)...to compare themself to...It is pretty sad really....Neither party wins...Because unfortunately many quiet shy people will take this opinion of them on to theirself (you asking this question does reveal this I believe)...And the bullies...well they know they are really crappy or they would not need to have others shortcomings to try and find value in themself....I would encourage you, shy and quiet is not always bad...only when it gets in the way of being strong and refusing to let the world define you....Be strong my friend...
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Some people can only feel good about themselves by targeting others.  Unfortunately, these people have an overdeveloped sixth sense about who to target - they can sense insecurity or those with a sincere desire to fit in.\n\nDon't try to impress anyone.  There's simply no need.  Be happy with who you are.  There's a difference between constructive criticism and sheer bullying.  Bullies are cowards - they hope that no one notices that the color they're wearing makes them look a bit yellow, so they call someone else out and say that the victim's butt looks big.\n\nThey're selfish, pathetic and scared poopless that other people will find out they're not even close to being wonderful.  Pity them.  Be yourself ;)
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Everyone has been bullied at some point but just won't admit it.
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I think it happens because you decide to let it happen. Change your mindset and make yourself one of these people who isn't a target. It is easier than you think. You just need to decide that enough is enough.\n\nI was bullied up until about 1993. Its ludicrous, as I am quite a well proportioned individual. I would say that once a loser always a loser is untrue. But you need to develop techniques to handle bullies and bullying, like I did.\n\nHere are some tips:\n1. Don't take them on in their own territory (i.e., dont get involved in name calling, etc as they love all that monkey business). Deal with them like you'd deal with a logical problem - find the shortest path to handling them and do it.\n2. Some martial arts or other self defense training helps build physical confidence. You're not expected to ever use it, but its nice to know.\n3. If you are getting bullied don't kid yourself that you aren't. It can be dealt with, even without help or support. \n4. Drop people in your life who are not supportive or who treat you badly. This erodes your confidence.\n\nThe most positive thing to remember is that you recognise that the way you are treated is bad and wrong. It took me a long time to come to terms with that and once I did the rest was easy. After all, how dare people treat you like sh**? Who the Hell are they? You ought to think that way the next time someone looks down their nose at you, mistreats you or makes you feel bad in some other way.\n\nGood luck!\n\nR
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You would need a support network. Tell as many people as you can that someone is bullying you and you need help.  Name the bully.  If you are a kid tell as many adults as possible. ONe adult may do nothing.  Name the bully.  A bully is generally a coward and will be afraid of a group of people that confront him or her and tell them in no uncertain terms that they will not be tolerated.  Don't go anywhere alone and make a friend that doesn';t take crap and is larger and stronger than the bully.  Take a digital camara photo of the person or persons ...like a mug shot and hang it up all over school or work and it should say on it ...Danger if you see this Bully ..Do not approach.  Or wanted Bully...Do not approach Danerous bully.  If a bully is know to the community and suffers public humiliation then they have too many witnesses to carry on with their sadistic ritual of bullying other , weaker individuals who have done nothing wrong, and don't deserve this kind of treatment and it has been proven that the individual that is being bullied is usually a more intelligent or in some way superior individual. Arm yourself with knowledge. There is an infinite amount of literature in the library on the psychology of bullying. Know your adversary.  Take martial arts .  Be very very confident and don't let your weakness show externally but be brave.  When you talk to the bully talk in a loud firm confident voice and show no fear.  Remember a bully is the ultimate coward.  Good luck
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I think the world is in trouble because too many people "keep out of it" when they could help. It is everyone's responsibility to help if they can, and not just let situations get worse by turning a blind eye.\n\nWhat if the situation had turned violent?\nThen you are justified in defending yourself.\nThe important thing here is you didn't start it.\nBut giving in to bullies is never the answer.\nYou did the right thing and I for one am proud of you.
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Those are two different questions.\n\nDiscrimination comes usually because someone makes a judgment based on a characteristic that a person has no control over like skin color or nationality.  Usually, the discriminator has had previous dealings with a member of that group and so applies his or her experience from those previous dealings onto this new person.  \n\nBullying has some different reasons.  Some people (girls) bully in order to be popular around other people.  Other people might bully because they want to be perceived as tough, or maybe they genuinely want something (your lunch, your money, your bike).  Usually people bully because they can - if that ability was taken away then they'd stop.  Oftentimes, as a result, they look for targets they perceive as weak so that they aren't challenged; or if they are challenged, they are likely to be victorious.
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There is jealousy everywhere.  I think everyone deals with it at one point or another.  It's pretty immature, and people who threaten or do harm of any sort have very low self esteem and have to bring others down so it will make them feel better.  It's very sad what someone will do to shift any attention to them.  Just stay away from those types of people.  Do not react at all, because thats what keeps them going.  Do not give them the satisfaction of seeing you scared or angry at what they are doing.  That is exactly the reaction they are screaming for because thats the only attention they can get.  LOSERS!!!!
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Because it's part of a healing process for some people. You feel that you need to get revenge so that the person hurts as much as you are. Some people do it so that they can move to the 'hate' stage so it doesn't hurt as bad. And some are just jealous that they have moved on with their life and are happier yet you are still stuck in the past and are lonely (even if it was a dysfunctional relationship).
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The distrust or fear of those who are different is part of the human condition.Most of us have been guilty at some stage to some degree. By recognising we have the potential to be prejudiced and /or biased in our thoughts and deeds we can at least be aware and at least try to to eduucate and nurture ourselves and our children out of something that has been inherent for thousands of years.
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I think because we have a true fear of violence and death and there is a tendency to be drawn to things that we fear.  Maybe to better understand it and maybe so that we can experience it outside of ourselves.  I also think that there are some really sick people out there and they thrive off of harm to others and want to do the harm themselves but do not want to deal with the consequences of those type of actions.
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Because they are often manipulated to completely depend on their abuser. Lots of people think that abuse is just physical, it's not, the abuser puts down the victim so much  and isolates them so that they think that they could never make it on their own, and noone else would want them and they have no other options. Also, abuser often controlls money, could threaten to kill victim if she leaves (most victims get killed when trying to leave) hurt victims' children, other family members or pets.
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well its sometimes difficult to keep our mouth shut when we have certain angers. We just pick on who we think is an easy target while the target should be the one who caused that anger. So no its not right. There's a lot of "social cowardness" going on and the easyest people are usually the victims. Granted its not always easy to address why we do it, but usually a feeling of not having something or a situation under control is the source.
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If you're being bullied, you need to talk to your parents or teachers and get it stopped. You shouldn't have to go through that.