What do you do about people who take atvantage of others generosity?
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OK.. you have to lay down the rules so that there are no uncertainties.  Then, you have to be willing to enforce them.  If you don't want to enforce the rules, then don't put up the rules in the first place.  \n\nNow, in your case, it looks like you are irritated with the behavior of the employee.  Think for yourself first: Is this behavior acceptable or not acceptable?  Is the employee getting the job done?  Is the employee doing the job in the acceptable quality?  Do you have clear set rules for acceptable and unacceptable behavior?  If you do have rules, are you willing to enforce them?\n\nNow, if you are thinking about firing the employee, on what grounds will you fire him/her?  You need to have clear set guidelines or rules so that you can refer to these rules and say that's why you are firing the employee.  Otherwise, without clear set rules, the employee can say he/she didn't know the rules because there wasn't any, or that you didn't tell him/her that such and such behavior is unacceptable.  \n\nWrite down the rules (and the consequences of breaking the rules) in an office Memo, and let the employees read it infront of you, and make sure they understand the rules.  If they don't sign, ask them why they won't.  In the rules, you must have it written that unless they sign the rules, they cannot have the employee privileges of vacations and such and such benefits.  Then, have each employee sign the Memo that they have read, and understand the rules.  This way, you will be covered in case they try to say they didn't know about the rules or the consequences.\n\nNow, when this is done, be ready to enforce your rules.  If the employee breaks the rules, you can refer to the rules and say - you have broken this and this rule, and here are the consequences.  Be ready to enforce the rules.  If you have to fire them, make sure that their behavior or a repeat of behaviors warrant such drastic measures.  If all the conditions are met, be ready to fire them.  \n\nBe sure to consult with a lawyer before you fire them, because some employees will try to take legal action against you.  So, in such a case, if you have proper documentation, you can have some protection.  If you don't you'll be in for some serious trouble.\n\nTake care, and good luck.
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Yes in a way, but God teaches we should not do good to get thanks or good in return. Hopefully a kindness to someone will encourage them to be kind too and that can only be good as long as it is not for a selfish reason!
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Someone who donates money to help people.
726646
Youre being selfish! Its better to give than receive you will get your blessings in return!! Dont be so mean its the holidays.!
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Helping Hand Allocation of funds\n\nFirst of all, if you really want to help people with your money, DO NOT GIVE IT TO ANY CHARITABLE OR GOVERNMENT ORGANIZATION WHATSOEVER.  These institutions are nothing more than huge tax shelters that are run by greedy babyboomers and wannabe politicians.  Use the money in a way that would actually HELP people.  Giving your money to the Government is about the equivilent of flushing it down your toilet or tossing it out of a window....you choose the cliche'.  Make damn sure that you are the one who is actually making the purchases.  Examples on how to help people:  \n1. Purchase a home for a family.\n2. Invest it in a local/small business.\n3. Sponsor a high school baseball team.(New uniforms, etc.)\n4. Purchase a car for someone.\n5. Repair someones credit.(Preferably not a deadbeat, more like someone who has lost their job or something along those lines)\n6. Donate some $$$ to a city rescue mission.\n7. Buy groceries for a family.\n8. Help a local garage band with equipment/recording cost..etc.\n9. Purchase new computers/books/desks/whatever for a school.\n10. Give some $$$ to a Church that has a well known reputation for charity.(Regardless of your Dogmatic beliefs a lot of local churches are masterminds at charity events.)\n\nWhat I have listed above are not exact options that I'm giving you, simply examples on the kinds of things that would really make a difference in a persons/families/whatever life. In the event that you actually have 18M, I would advise against giving any charitable/Government organizations a dime. I hate to beat a dead horse, but its the truth. When it comes to money, you should view the Government as The Anti-Christ/Devil/Hitler/Murderer / Rapist /Random thing that you hate. Simply put, make sure you alone are in charge of the allocation of funds. Hot damn.\n\n-J.
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Wow, I was just going to feed my family.  I have and do try really hard to do nice things, give a compliment, pay a tab if someone doesn't have the $, and always be a good friend and listener.  The highway thing, wow, that gets yu at least the halo, if not the wings. \nRandom acts of kindness, put money is someones meter, stick up for the ones who can't for themselves, love your children, teach them well and they will pass it on.\nI am thankful for people like you who give without the expectation of something in return.  Keep up the good work...the wings are on the way.
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get someone else to pay for them.
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Well if I wanted to be selfish I would say enough to support me while I go back to colleage. \nIf I was being generous I would say just give what you can to an orphanage or worthy cause.
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as long as you are giving them away in the spirit of charity who cares who gets em. I would rather give to a needy person than to a place that will make money off of my donated stuff.
618151
if no-one gave them money, they would stop begging. They play the odds - 1 out of 10 people give them money, they will keep begging.
544781
State grants. Neighbors. Ask businesses to donate. They love that! Makes them feel they are part of their customers lives and that is so very important to them, as that is where their money is. In the pockets of the people who will be using the donations and that gets them more business and respect as well as do not forget to send each business a thankyou card on behalf of the community for their help.
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Just do it... just say "no thank you".  If anyone ever does give you an attitude just explain that you donate to charities and organizations already on your own and if you want to send someone a card to "get well", you're sure you can scrounge up a couple of dollars on your own.
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I think you should do what you were planning to do. Get them involved in helping others. Hopefully they'll feel good after giving that they'll want to do it more often and be grateful for what they have.
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I give out four five dollar bills the week before Christmas.  Other than that, I've seen too many panhandlers that have enough money to smoke or drink.  I don't want to subsidize their bad habits so I don't give them money.  I also make exceptions for the street corner musicians - they are at least working for their money.
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ALWAYS!!!! The way I see it...I got my arms full of goodies and this person has nothing.  I'm blessed to have what i have (which isn't much), what good is it to have it if you can't share it.  I cannot tell you how many times I've given whatever was in my pocket to someone sitting on the side of the street.  DC almost broke me.  There was at least 2-3 ppl on each city block.  It was heartbreaking.\nNow grant it, there may be shammers, alcoholics, druggies, etc out there, but who am i to judge anyone?  Even if they take the few bucks i give them and go grab a beer when I'm outta sight...it still makes me feel better about myself to give.\nI'm a strong believer in Charma too.  There's been many times, I've been down on my luck and there were ppl in my life to help me out.  I remember how humbled I was to have to accept their help but sometimes you have to tuck your pride away to survive.  I share my gratitude of those that helped me by trying to help others.  "what goes around, comes around" is such a true cliche'.\nSome of my "friends" scold me for giving money or food or whatever i have, saying things like "they're faking it" or "they probably got a mansion somewhere", etc...but again, like i said, giving to them makes me feel better as a person, so i do what I feel is right, regardless of what others say or think.\nThat is what i suggest to you....do what you feel is right in your heart.\nmarjenl72
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Give some money away.
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People who donate money want to get a little bit something in return even if it's a night of dinner, dancing and socializing or even a run at the golf course. It makes them feel better to part with their hard-earned cash when they're enjoying themselves. Plus, there's a bit of competition going on between the benefactors so the foundation/charity gets more donations. If others give a huge amount, the others will be pressured into matching that amount lest they be called a cheapskate.