Why does every guy I go out with expect me to give it to him on the first date?
492892
I presume you mean sex??Well I've dated guys who don't expect that so perhaps you're dating the wrong guys!If you want to see a guy again I wouldn't recommend sex on the first date but take things slower and at a pace you're comfortable with.Have fun!
618499
The first time I asked a guy out we went rollerblading in the park and then went out for a casual dinner. Keep it light and don't try to be all  romantic. Just see how you feel being alone with him the first time. If you keep your date filled with activities you will never run out of stuff to talk about and you won't have those awkward moments people get on first dates when they are all dressed up at some snooty restaurant. Have fun!
109983
Not necessarily. It depends how you formulate your question. Sometimes is better to give some harmless suggestions and let him to take the initiative. Anyway, you can demonstrate no deep feelings about him the first date so you’ll drive him nuts. See what happens!
16499
That is a personal question and being such everyone has to answer it individualy.  However its my belief that if you make out on the first date your too in a rush for life and need to slow down and smell the roses.
632212
You can tell how far a guy will go with you if he knows how far you will go with him if you willing to have sex on the first date he's down but if your willing to wait he's always down guys like everything easy but they also like challenges so they can think they are more than what they are they need encouragement and compliments more than women
880447
Sometimes girls need to make the first move. Not all guys have high confidence levels. Just ask him if he would like to go out for drinks or dinner. If he says no there is your answer.
542562
Hi, here to help. First of all, I believe you are encouraging the behaviour a little. You are not completely to blame, but you are encouraging it. This is gonna sound old school, but really you should think about the old saying telling people that they should not kiss on the first date. And this is true.\n  When you kiss on the first date, or even have sex, etc. it makes you appear a little bit easy. Although guys will definitely not argue with the kiss or the sex, they still like to see a girl give them a little bit of a challenge. When you do these things on a first date, you are leaving little to the imagination. Waiting makes the heart grow fonder or something like that, is a very true statement. It is the excitement of the anticipation of waiting.\n  Personally, the first date is very awkward. It is meant for getting to know the person, and seeing if you would like to date this person for a second time. When you kiss, it leads to other things...You sound young, and if I am right, the guys that you are dating are young as well. Believe me, all guys of any age will try things when they kiss you. However, you are in control. You do not have to let the guy feel you up. You can gently place their hands back down on their sides. And if they ask why, you have the right to say you are not ready for that....And you can say this at any age too! I have done that.\n But really, I think you should not be kissing on the first date. Just try and wait, and when you have that first kiss with that special someone it will be more than worth the wait. I am sure a lot of people will not agree with me on kissing on the first date. But it does make you appear more of a lady to the man. I have gotten much more respect when I did not kiss someone on the first date. Usually after the kissing comes other things so in my mind you might as well just wait and enjoy the part of getting to know one another.\n  Love comes with getting to know someone. Unfortunately guys are not like women and are not overly emotional right away. It takes time for a guy to love. They do like the physical aspect first. Take your time girl because you have plenty of it.\n  I have kissed on the first date, and honestly, those are the guys that have not worked out...I don't know and I can't speak for everyone. But I also know that I have enjoyed the anticipation of waiting for the first kiss...\n Good luck!
654134
make it so that it is a very casual thing when you are asking him.  You are writing as if you are nervous.  Tell him you just got an extra ticket and you need a date and you picked him.  He might just surprise you.
1019798
i would like the guy to make the first move.  i tend to go traditional in that sense.  i don't like the idea of making the first move b/c i don't want to come off as easy.  i think it's more acceptable for the guy to do it and if he does, i feel more confident and want to please him.
331869
depends on wat kinda guys u r talkin' about. guys who r lukin' 4 serious relatiohship may lose interests in u rite away if u do cuz they don't want their future soul mate 2 b 2 open. nevermind them cuz if then can't accept ur openness, ur relationship won't go any furher anyway. guys who r lookin' 4 short term relationship would love it if you make the first move cuz that indicates u r willing to have sex with them as soon as after the 1st date.  if u think that guy likes u but he's a little shy, single him that u r interested and willing to accept a date initiated by him. if he's still chiken, then u'll have to make the first move. but make sure that u make him feel comfortable around u. don't make him feel pushed cuz he may run away. after all, come on! b a woman! it's 2006!
512200
really for me the guy just has to give me a really good compliment when he picks me up and then just give me alot of small complements during the date and id be sold. but be sure u watch what u say and DO NOT! look at ne other girls! i hate it when guys do tht to me expecialy after they tell me im pretty cuz that makes me feel like im not very nice looking. if u need more help email me at qtstegman@sbcglobal.net
1002665
he will only give it to you when he is ready, maybe he feels its just not the right time and is probaly hurt over his last relationship because he gave his ex one too soon and they didnt last....
845286
It should be whoever initiated the date. If I ask a guy out, I pay, and vice versa. If it's a relationship, I expect to trade off. I get the movie, he gets dinner. Unless he makes a gazillion dollars. Dating is expensive!! Don't forget, women have LOTS of unseen dating expenses - make up, hair, waxing, clothes. I always try to be fair though.
242905
Well,boys usually make contact if they are genuinly interested,girls can do that too anyways.So its either that he is waiting for a reaction from u which he couldnt pick on ur prev date or he doesnt wanna date u again.
146182
Most guys are forgetful when it comes to dates and you should not be so quick to assume another girl. You don't want to crowd him, but allow him to have some space.
118464
Because, we, women, always expect the man to be a gentleman. We like it when he shows he wants to make us feel like a queen. To me, a man who lets the lady pay for dinner or for anything on a date is half a man. I have never paid for anything when I went out with a man and I'll\nnever do it.
454623
Well,you answered your own question. Maybe he already has a date,seeing somebody,or just isn't interested in you. In,your question you said MY GUY,then are you fighting and this is why he doesn't want to go out with you. Because he couldn't be your guy,if you have never gone out before,oh well I'm confused now. Have a wonderful weekend all.