Should I tell a woman who's engaged to someone else we can't have sex anymore?
480154
Just think of it as great sex.  \n\nMove on.  \n\nShe is carrying more than the great body -- she is conflicted in her head.\n\nGreat sex does not equal a great relationship.\n\nNow, as to the guy.  What if he is the jealous type.  do you want him to show up and cause you problems.
571393
TELL THEM!!!\nit screws up your whole relationship if you don't.
654803
When you are married and are having sex with someone else. Otherwise it is all just wishful thinking. \n\nDepends what you want....a fling or another relationship. If it is a fling enjoy it for want it is but don't expect it to last forever. Do you want to get caught? If so, it is better to tell your spouse and not get caught in the act. Believe it or not, infidelity also has ethics. Use a condon always. No calling home at night. Make your lies believeable. Do not let the 2nd relationship interfere with the 1st one. You have to give equal sex or as much to satisfy each one. And lastly, ask yourself why this happened- maybe it is time to end the marriage.\n\nIf you are the third in the triangle. Don't expect much, most people do not leave their spouse. Enjoy it for what it is and be discreet and generous. Realize that you are also to blame since you should not be involved with a married person so this says A LOT about your morals also. Also, ask yourself if you in turn will be capable of being faithful in a monogamous relationship. \n\nIf you are being cheated on. You can either get out or try to work it out with your spouse if they are willing to do so. Can you live wondering when it is going to happen again if ever? Do you want to try it? The door has being opened so you could. And finally,.....how did you contribute to this? Did you see it coming? Honestly. Did you enable it?\n\nUnfortunately nobody is innocent in this situation. It's more like a 33.33% assigned blame for everyone.
868268
Of course your fiancee will be hurt, who wouldn't?  Don't stay with someone and marry them if you're not absolutely certain.  You're just putting your happiness on the backburner for someone else - and you don't need that either.  It's never too late to call anything off - even if you're walking down the aisle already.  You haven't said "I DO" yet.  Unless you want to end up another divorce statistic, I'd say call it off.  Marriage can be very rewarding and wonderful if you find the right person and I think that's what you should do (find Mr. Right, not settle for Mr. Right Now)
27828
You obviously have trust in each other if you can have intimacy.  So you should definitely tell but don't be surprised if things change.  This person might not feel the same way and this might bring your sexcapades to an end.
697651
You better tell her quickly before she hears it from someone else!  She may already know and is waiting to see how long it takes you to share it with her.  I would tell her and make a big deal about how important she is.  Invite her to lunch with you and your fiancee, tell her you wanted to introduce them and let her know you are engaged.  Make a special effort to include her before she gets her feelings hurt.  Good luck!
1039303
so they would hurt her? because of you?\nwhy would you think of marrying her.?\njust tell her right now, that you cant. either lie or tell the truth!!!\nI would tell her truth and let her go.\njust tell her now!!!!
1134343
H E L L yea you should tell her.  I mean MY GOD it's bad enough that you slept with the guy, that shows how much you care for her, but to allow her to marry someone that obviously doesn't care for her.  What kind of sister are you?  I wish I knew you personally because I would personally kick your a s s  and tell your sister.
350168
Hah! You said rectally.\n\nRegardless of whether it was rectally or recently, you should not have sex with the old flame! \n\nIf you are lusting after the old flame, stay away from them! Tell them that it's best for you to not see each other... Think of all of the reasons why you married your spouse...\nImagine what it would be like if your spouse cheated on you...\nAll in all, guard your heart and protect your marriage!\n\nMarriage is a commitment to one person for the rest of your life. The End.
29792
You have every right to break up with them, and are making the right choice in ending it before you get married. Just tell the person that you can't marry her. There really is no easy way to say it, but you are saving both of you a huge pain by cutting it off before it starts. Good job. Most people in your situation get married, and then regret it for the rest of thier lives.
949581
Just explain the situation to your fiance and then don't do anything.  Don't share any information with her if you don't want it broadcast to the world.  The more attention you give her for such behavior the worse it will be.  Also, she may have some degree of mental illness that is contributing to the behavior.  You can choose your friends, your partner, where you work, etc., but you can't choose your family - you have what you have and they are who they are.
624038
It sounds like your guilt wants you to tell, but telling will only hurt her and make you feel better.  If it was a one night stand, let it go, otherwise someone's got to break it to her, preferably you.
322429
I feel for you...\nIf she is marrying someone else then there's nothin you can do except to let go of your guilt feelings and your love for her.  You don't have a choice but to move on or be miserable for the rest of your life.
776316
She obviously didn't want to be just friends since she tried to sleep with you.  She only said that because your saying no sex until marriage.  She obviously cant go until marriage before she has sex again.  I would assume she's hoping you will change your mind.
1063049
She feels bad about not being able to perform for you.  But if you actually did sleep with someone else, she'd never forgive you.  It's a tough one.  Go with her to her doctor.
496747
If you really want to let the other women women know you can be straightforward and tell them, but it may not be worth your time.  Users tend to be good at finding people that can be blind to being used, and have a strong denial of it happening when someone tries to help them.\n\nGood for you for figuring it out and dropping the guy.  The best thing you can do is probably just move on and let someone else worry about him.
802108
Well, you need to ask yourself how you got into your current situation in the first place....  Did you "find out" you were gay AFTER getting engaged?  Did you have a gay affair and determined that was what you really wanted?  Once you answer this, then you go to step two.  You HAVE to tell her.  Unless of course, you want to spend the rest of your life living a lie, and not being able to be true to yourself [and her].  You will regret getting married and not being able to have your male companionship if you go forward.  Be strong and sincere.  Talk to her like a close friend and, yes, it may turn out bad, but in the long run it could be worse.