How do you control a 3 year old that doesn't do what he/she is told ?
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I find that depriving the toddler of something they love to do works.  Also, if he or she throws tantrums ignore them whilst you engage yourself in something really interesting that will grab thier attention.  Divert his attention to something else.  When he/she has calmed down give them a quiet talk about good and bad ways of doing things, and explain why you are upset with him/her.  Kids are clever and can be manipulative just like adults.  Good luck loving your toddler!
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using behavior management to stifle a child's natural energy and creativity.  At least that's my opinion.
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tell your father about this. Let the children do what they want. They will have a bored point which make them stop themselves to do such that things.
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Kids can be so confusing and frustrating at times! I have a 9 yr old daughter, and understand what you mean. I think she is just testing the boundaries, and wants you to be consistent. It's hard, and it's also hard not to give in to them just to keep the peace. But it's very necessary not to let her think she's the queen! I think most of us acted the same way as kids, and now our kids are doing the same things to us. Plus, when they see some of their friends/peers getting more than them, it's hard. I try to use that as a lesson as 'life isn't always fair' - she hates that talk! But it's important to talk to your daughter. Share with her your thoughts and feelings, and allow her to share hers. Maybe these links will help a bit:\nhttp://www.raisingkids.co.uk/9_13/pre_htp03.asp\nhttp://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=388910\nBest of luck, and hold strong! That's what she needs most - consistency and love from you.
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I have a 5-year old with autism.  My wife and I have been successful getting him to talk to us only if it's requesting food or certain play activities.  I'd say about half the time he asks on his own without being prompted.  We expand his vocabulary by offering him more choices or making him make more decisions.  For example, instead of putting in the video he hands us, we'll pick up another and make him point and say the title of the video he wants.  Eventually, he'll ask for the video by name right away.  It's only been the last few months that he's been doing this, so I'm optimistic about how he can grow from this step to more difficult social interactions (even if it takes a few years).
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Be creative, be fun, be caring, be patient!\n\nCome up with ideas, fun things to do, be active with the kids, sometimes, sacrifice a little energy, kids love it when you can keep up with them, but you need to know when to say no, you can't teach them it's okay to just jump and climb on people. \n\nThey're little boys, get some trucks, get some games, get some movies that are kid appropriate, most likely a cartoon about racing, or legos, something of that nature. nothing controversial because it's a church family. You want something that's not going to upset the parents if they see it.\n\n--Get them involved in drawing, or sitting in a circle and play catch. observe the way things are dealt with in a preschool and a kindergarden, and mimic some of the teachers. smile a lot, but don't smile when they do something wrong, speak quietly, and tell them to calm down. don't yell, ever. \n\nMake sure to keep a soft expression, even when you're upset, you don't want the kids scared of you, but you want them to listen. read them a book before they go to bed. (( 3 and 4 might not be so easy to read too)) ...the 3 and 4 yr old will probably be extremely energetic, so when it's time for them to go to bed, you might have to put up a small struggle, but don't give in, and don't be harsh. \nThe best thing to do is to get them tired out, put them to bed, or close their doors and turn off the lights, if they're scared of the dark, use a night light. - but keep the doors closed. if the kids see things that they can do to stay awake, they'll do them. be fun during the day, and boring when it's bed time. \n\n\nPatience and love is the key to children. and, relax! have fun.
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Teach your child to obey authority figures, respect his elders, and to NOT have an attitude. He'll get through life uch better.
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you dont spank them,talk to them and give them trust and love just be thier parent  spanking them at that age will cause your daughter to rebel,treat her like a real person
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Don't discipline her in using any way of violence. And don't abuse her either.\n\nOne good way to avoid future tantrums is to ignore them. Stay calm, lead her away from the aisle in the supermarket, take her on your arms. BUT ignore her. If she cried for a nothing, don't talk her or let her be on her own a bit.\n\nSome parents put their child in the naughty room when their child has a tantrum. It's basically just a quiet place with no toys, no TV, just a chair, etc. In there, she can cool down and you can pick her up again when all is over.\n\nIf that fails, distract her. Telling a child to smile will make a child smile and forget all their worries, a friend once told me. Try it.
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Discipline. Or you will be in for some really tough times once he is older.  Grounding, take away things he likes.  Follow through, and don't give in.  You need tough love Mom.
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One year old- one minute time out. Sit her down for that minute away from other kids and explain to her what she did wrong. Do it consistantly- every time! When you let her up if she hurt some one have her say she is sorry and if she can't say that yet give a hug or kiss.\n\nPlease don't teach a child not to hit by hitting them. That just teaches them they can hit as long as they are bigger or tougher than the person they're hitting.
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DR PHIL SUGGEST TIME OUT IN THE LAUNDRY ROOM OR A TOTALLY BORING AREA OF THE HOUSE AND IF SHE HATES CHORES LOAD HER UP OR TAKE SOMETHING SHE LOVES IE. TOYS,VIDEO GAMES,OVERNIGHT AT FRIENDS ETC. TRY TAKING HER TO CHURCH ALSO , HAVE HER INTERACT WITH OTHER CHILDREN THAT ARE GOOD INFLUENCES ON HER AND ARE CALMER IN NATURE. EVEN IF U R NOT RELIGIOUS IT HELPS
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with children that age, distraction is one of the best tools you can use. divert their attention to something else, then remove the toy from eyesight. if they aren't distracted, simply take the toy, explain that if they can't share they can't play, and put it out of reach and eyesight.
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oh i have a brother that acts the exact same way\n\nsometimes it the friends this person hangs with, or it could be the kid just wants attention -- what you can do to get them to listen is just emphasize on all the good things that they've done-spend time doing some things that they want to-just don't cater to their every whim. \n\n...if they do anything drastic, i suggest therapy\n\n...and personally, i don't think it shows bad parenting because sometimes theres just nothing you can do-the kid just wants their way, & doesn't want to compromise
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Most places are not going to accept a 3 year old.  I am sure she will not understand the concepts of the game anyway.  She will have to wait until she is older.  Until then, tie a ball to the tail of your dog and let your daughter chase it around trying to kick it!
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Ignore him.  Basically, by giving in and taking him to the store and/or buying him toys, you are reinforcing his behavior of crying and destroying toys.  Don't let him convince you to do his bidding.  If you keep spoiling him, he will become a spoiled brat.  You have to let him know that such behavior won't be tolerated or reinforced.  The best way not to reinforce such behavior is through ignoring him, so he realizes that by crying and destroying his toys, he won't get what he wants anymore.  This may take up to a month or so.
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Enroll him in a Marial Arts Class for kids.  My three year old nephew is in it and he can't stop talking about it.  If you feel he's too young for that, enroll him in some other from of class like mommy and me or something along that line.