my bf keeps searching for naked girls on the net almost everynight and we've been going out for 5yrs now?
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For many men there really isn't a way to get him to stop; all you'll do is make him sneak around and do it behind your back. There are some who can and do stop, but they are more rare. If you are with a man who isnt capable of stopping, and you arent capable of walking away, there are some ways for you to learn to deal with it. \n\nSteps \nRealize that he isn't watching porn wishing you looked like those women...if he wasn't happy with you, he wouldn't be with you. Try to understand why he really is watching it and what he gets out of it. \n\nTry watching it with him...even if you HATE it, he will love that you're willing to share it with him. It can be a great way to spend time together, and might even lead to some pretty hot sex. Who knows, you might end up liking it too! Watching it with him will feel like you approve of what he is doing, and men need and love approval. \n\nAsk him if he wants to try some of the different positions, role playing, etc. He might have a fantasy or something he's always wanted to try but is too shy to ask. Try to understand the parts of him that he hasnt disclosed to you. \n\nEven if none of the above tips appeal to you...stop nagging him about his "habit"...nagging will only lead to fighting, and fighting leads to breaking up. There is a healthy way to fight in a relationship, but nagging leading into a fight isnt it. Professional counseling or marital counseling can lead to real change. \n\nTips \nDo not take his porn watching as a personal affront, many men are just much more visually stimulated than women are, and he isn't trying to upset you. (thats an excuse) \n\nWarnings \nDecide now if his porn is something you can learn to deal with...if not, you might want to consider ending the relationship yourself. You will never completely change him, and if you "make" him stop watching he might only resent you. It really depends on who he is and the nature of your relationship.
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Either you put completely nude pics of you bf on the same server or else just forget it and pretend as if you've not seen them. why to worry yourself when they are not actually directed at you?
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Because now that you're together, he thinks your his 'property' and he can do anything sexual, no matter where you are! If you don't like it, tell him to stop. If that doesn't work set ground rules, if he's still ignoring you, dump him! You want a boyfriend not pervert!
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Trust and respect are the cornerstones of a relationship! If he isn't giving you the respect you deserve, by honoring your request in regard to the strip clubs, and is breaking your trust by going to them behind your back, then I would have to say that your relationship is in serious trouble. I dare say that his behavior will not be improving any time soon, so you are going to have to decide whether or not you are willing to continue putting up with him doing as he pleases, whether you like it or not. Good luck!!
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For starters there is absolutly nothing wrong with you. I was where you were years ago. The last straw was when I actually caught him fast forwarding during our time. I never told him to stop watching them but if we were in bed & he wanted to watch one I would tell him to turn it down or go to the other room. As for the BJ part HAH If he wouldn't give me the special perks I wanted HE didn't get his. Eventually any man will get sick of his own hand. My husband has always had a huge sexual appetite though. I found out later that he didn't have a porn addiction, he's into voyeurism. He liked the sneak peaks also the thrill of being caught. Try to talk to him again with a genuine interest of finding out what exactly turns him on about the movies without getting defensive. You might find that it's really something quite simple and possibly even fun for you to do together. You may have to stray from your comfort zone a little but don't let it compromise your morals or it will just make you resent him and you. A few years ago he stopped watching them as much because it was the same thing in each one. Of course them we got internet which opened up a whole new field. Our computer stays in the living room so anything he does now has to be when nobody it home so that helps. We been together for 12 years now. It's been rough but we have made it this far. If you do all you can and he STILL won't give you the proper attention that you need then there's nothing left for you there.
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He shouldn't go there PERIOD!! It doesn't matter how bored you are! There are millions of places to play games on the net, if you're bored. Don't believe him...he's a cheater and a dog! If you let him get away with this...he will continue to do it and Lord knows what else behind your back! Put your foot down now! Tell him he's gone if you find that crap again, he has NO reason to go there if he's in a happy relationship...and tell him if he's not happy, he needs to get steppin'.
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Yes, it is cheating.  Why does he need to look for other girls when he has you?  What would he do if a girl did respond?  You should get a friend who he doesn't know to respond to him and see what happens.
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happyhere,\n\nThe fact he is going to a website doesn't mean he doesn't love you.  Speaking bluntly, he masturbates, he looks at other women, he picks his toenails, etc.  In short, he does all the normal "guy" stuff.\n\nI know it might be difficult to reconcile how he can be "so in love" with you and be involved in these "distractions" but it is very possible.  He might be curious, he might have decided that he wants a certain kind of relationship with you and he will get other devious needs fulfilled outside of your relationship.  It might also mean he secretly wants you to do some of that stuff, but he doesn't have the guts to ask.\n\nLong story short, if this bothers you, and it obvioulsy does to the point that you threatened to end the relationship over it, consider talking to him about this.  You don't have to tell him you caught him a second time, but you should ask him if he is really fulfilled - both emotionally and physically...or ask him on a scale of 1-10, or some other way that might get him to open up without feeling threatened - it won't be easy because this is a delicate subject.\n\nAnyway, good luck.\nC
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Ask yourself why is he insecure? Are you spending more time on 360 than with him? If he were spending his down time on360 instead of talking to you would you feel the same way? Is he spending a lot of time out of the home? He could be cheating and feeling guilty so he is trying to make you feel guilty. Think about those things and you may come up with the answer to your question.
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i think you should get him a lot of naked girls!!!  i mean what man dont want that, unless he is with sum one then that wont be not right
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Why don't you two try and rekindle the passion by going out one night. Get all dressed up, looking hot....GGo out dancing, see what happens...Maybe its not boredom at all, maybe its something else. Talk to him too!
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Just use your nose, sniff him out, intimate contact with other females is difficult to completely wash off.  If it's a daily thing he'll get sloppy, check for stray female hairs, lipstick on the collar or elsewhere, and if all else fails, just follow him from work for a few days, or get somebody else to, maybe hire a detective?  But hey, the I love you thing is hard for most guys to do at work, especially with a big audience.  If you don't find anything, could it be that you're both a little overly mistrustful and paranoid?
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Sometimes staying at home gets really boring, and if he is faithful what is the problem?\nHowever i agree that he should spend sometime with you.\nPerhaps the time when this stops is when he has a fulltime job, paying the bills and raising a family.\nJust my advice even though I am only 20.\nAlso find so many girls that do the same thing you described.
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He has a strong sex drive. Skipping work once in a while to have sex sounds like fun to me though. He's probably not going to change how often he wants sex - why do girls always think they can change their boyfriend? You may need someone who's slightly less needy. That sounds a little excessive to me - he could be using that to control you. He is also not considerate of you in trying to manipulate you into doing more. The getting mad part is a huge problem - you shouldn't put up with that.
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insecure a little,are there any other signs.unexplained money missing,new jewlery,or new underwear for him not tighty whitys?ask him what this big secret is a a true and open relationship knowing everything is what belongs on the table.Where where you for those two months?is he  worried that you were with someone else.keep those lines of communications open or your find yourself on the road to failure.Explain to him how much you  love him and that you feel that heis holding back on info is putting a wedge then listen to see what  is said.you may not like it,it could be anything.sometimes men who dont watch "porn" could be anything from simply having respect for a women the act of making love to he may have been abused in his life at some point this is very difficult for men to talk about the whole macho thing.listen be strong and find out the secret for both of your sakes.
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Hmmmm...interesting screen name.  Insecure perhaps.  Have more confidence Nasty Girl.  Men DIG confidence.  No need to snoop when you know you are TOGETHER!  I am sure you are wondeerful...show it :)
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This is normal male behavior.  Be honest, you looked and noticed she was "hot" too.  We all look at other people.  Don't make a big deal out of nothing.  If he's doing more than looking, or looking online and in magazines then, I might move on.  If he's not happy looking at you, the real thing, then you don't need to stay in his sights.