How do I deal with a co-worker who is always putting me down to make himself look better?
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Confront him! Try to get him in front of as many people as possible and ask him why he's lying about you. Say you know he must be a very insecure person that's why he always puts other people down to make himself feel better about himself. Then just walk away. He'll look a right idiot. Good luck!
329427
Rise above it. If she deliberately embarasses you, then she is the problem. Do your work well and professionally. Talk with her and inform her that you would prefer to be told about your mistakes in private so that you could remedy them. Always be professional and job oriented. Bosses hate office politics....Document all incidents that are caused by her, if it continues over a period of time approach the person over both of you. If you are doing your work well, it will show.  If she is the boss, get out now while you still have some self esteem.  Good luck.  Be proactive, not reactive.
781703
This is really something that might be the cure for it .. \n\nhttp://annoyingcoworker.com/\n\nan example from that site - When I see a bony, fake, ego-maniac, sap-sucking, hopelessly tardy leech like you I am greatful that I don't have to deal with you during the weekends. \n\nWhat is the best way to handle annoying coworkers? -- http://www.physorg.com/news10939.html\n\nAnnoying co-workers are blessings in disguise - - http://www.dailyutahchronicle.com/media/storage/paper244/news/2004/02/24/News/Annoying.CoWorkers.Are.Blessings.In.Disguise-616487.shtml?norewrite200611032031&sourcedomain=www.dailyutahchronicle.com\n\nhttp://monster.typepad.com/monsterblog/2005/08/cant_stand_your.html\n\nHow Can I Deal With A Difficult Co-Worker? - \nhttp://stress.about.com/od/officepolitics/f/coworker.htm\n\nHow to Deal With a Negative Coworker: Negativity Matters -- http://humanresources.about.com/od/conflictresolution/a/negative_worker.htm
136435
Oh my gosh, did you work at the same place I did?  Your story sounded exactly like the situation I had.  Management and supervisory positions had changed at my work and from then on, the nightmare began.  The witch who rose to power was a narcissitic, egotistical backstabber who made it so unbearable for everyone. She continuously found it amusing to berate, belittle and degrade each and every employee in the company by telling us that we were underworked and so grossly over-paid (we all made more $$$$ than her). Someone who is in the psychology field said that this supervisor's had low self-esteem issues (she weighs close to 300 lbs.)and it is satisfying to her to put others down in order to feel better about herself.  She can't control her weight so she tried to control others.  Unfortunately, confronting this supervisor only compounded to the problem, as she could not take constructive criticism from ANY employee...and talking to the owner of the company proved to be useless, as he always avoided any type of problem or confrontation issue.  Since I did not have an advocate or anyone I could really turn to, the stress of going to work every day was taking it's toll on my health.  For peace of mind and sanity, I gave them my two weeks notice but did not burn my bridges upon my resignation. It is a good idea to have something lined up to go to, especially if you need the income and medical benefits.  You really don't want to be at the mercy of your current employer when it comes to recommendations or verifications.  Good luck.....
630693
I realize, being a employer that people think we all like to have people doing everything for us.  WE DON'T.  I will fire someone for not pulling their weight.  I will fire someone for being rude to customers.  \nHowever in the corporate world today things are way different.\nSounds like he's the type who likes to keep you guessing.  Great, do your job and he won't guess about you.  He also knows he has you intimidated, believe me, he knows.  So, you have to get the self confidence about yourself to know and believe that you are the best in your field and at the job that you do hands down and that will show and eventually he will relax when he realizes he's not intimidating you anymore.  Sometimes I think that's a form of bullying, they learn it young and it never totally leaves, but you can change that by holding your head up and facing your fears of him.\nGood luck, you have what it takes to make a good employee!
1064455
Great answer from teresawol.  it sounds like he is intimidated by you.  Actually you can tell him to f off, you just have to do it in a very tactful way and when he responds, do what he does....act like you don't know what he is talking about.  There are laws that protect you from being dismissed w/o cause. I do realize that this is a right to work state.
327206
People usually put other people down due to their own insecurities, personnally I know a lot of people like that and cannot stand it. Tell him a few things that are wrong w/ him next time he does that, see how he likes it. PHB
787724
If it's work, then keep it professional. It's not personal, it's work. Deal with that person as politely as you can when you have to, but stay away from them the remainder of the time. If it's causing trouble with your work or that person is not meeting deadlines, then you might have to escalate the problem to management or HR.\n\nDon't spread the word that you don't like this person either. It's most likely nothing to do with you and all about the person who's doing the ignoring. I bet they'll come around.
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tell her to f**k off and what you want to do with your body is your bussiness. there always going to be people who are going to be jelous and in most cases you should ignore them but telling her off might make you feel better and put her in her place at the same time just dont be so loud or let it escalate into a fight or you might get fired
763100
Be frank with them and tell them to grow up! Tell them that you are an adult and can speak to whom ever you please. Let them know that they are also putting unneeded stress on you at work and that is not fair to you.\nThe problem they have are between the two of them and they need to quit bringing you in the middle of it. Tell them you aren't going to stand for it any longer...end of discussion.\nIf necessary, go to management about it. If they get upset about it, tell them that you didn't know what else to do and that you deserve to come to work without having to deal with their crap.
964939
Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer.\n\nbefriend this person, don't complain about them any more, and wham when ever they say  bad - you can casually mention to the boss which is negative about the job or your boss let your boss know :)  Yeah be a backstabber/brown noser
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Well, first of all, find comfort in knowing that she is the one with the problem, not you.  People like that can make you judge your own sanity, but be assured that she is the bad guy.\n\nAvoid her as much as you can.  When you do have to interact with her, have all of your questions/projects lined up and ready to go, so you can go right down the line and move as quickly as possible in getting your work details done.\n\nIf the problem escalates, calmly tell her that her behavior is inappropriate, and then document her behaviors in case you need to provide them to HR.  Unfortunately, this might not work, because these types often see their behavior as completely normal, either due to a psychological problem, or just plain immaturity.  My guess is that she'll tell you that you need to "lighten up".\n\nI truly do wish you the best.  I work with a guy who has Asperger's, and every single day is a struggle with him.
47790
Tough one.  These scenarios usually become an issue over time, so a quick fix is usually not the best.  Aggressive individuals usually prey on others that allow "bullying" tactics.  As the aggressor sees the weakness, they get comfortable treating the person like that over time and expect a certain response.\n\nIf you want to curtail the behaviour, start standing up in a non-offensive manner and tell him why you can't stay late or work weekends or whatever.  Make excuses, even lie if you have to. Just make it difficult for him to expect the unreasonable.
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Look them directly in the eye the first time they do it and ask them if they're feeling ok.  Then tell them your expectation is that they will treat you with respect.  If they continue, document every incident so that you have specifics to present to your supervisor.  Many managers would like to also deal with the issue but it is difficult when employees only approach them with generalities like "Susy Q. is rude to me."  Managers need specifics to be able to address the issue with the employee.  They need to know exactly what was said by both of you, the date and time, and if there were any witnesses.  If you provide this, you will find get better responses.  Also, ask yourself why you have had this issue on every job.  Perhaps you could take a conflict resolution course as well.  Also, most often the guilty party is a completely different person in front of the manager so it sometimes takes awhile for the manager to ferret out the real situation.
785189
Don't let them get you down in the first place. \n\nIt's none of your business what people think of you.
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always be professional, that way they can never complain about you.\n(always be in a position in which you're covered.)\n\nSpeak to your immediate boss about it, see if she can't first talk to the co-workers about it. \n\nAlso check out a book called "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff at Work."
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Well the best way to deal with her is by just being her friend. If you are truly friends then don't let it bother you so much.\nShe is trying to "copy" you because she thinks you are better, prettier etc.. Take it as a complement.\nHelp her build confidence in her self and self esteem. Be an encourager, lift her up. When she does something nice... tell her. When she where's something that looks good.. complement her