How do I deal with my sis in law treating me real bad and my family does nothing so she won't take my bro away
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leave them for a while... soon they will realize what they are doing.... and after you compose yourself try to talk to them... gud luck...
115420
Goodness.. seems like you are an in-law in an outlaw situation.\n\nThat's sad that your brother-in-law is not supporting you and your wife with helping out with your mother-in-law in her difficult times with cancer, and on top of it, he's taking advantage of your mother-in-laws good nature with taking the car then not paying her for it properly as he promised.\n\nNo, I personally would not allow my son to treat me this way, or at least I would like to think I wouldn't, but my son is quite young, and has a diagnosis that may prevent him from being gainfully employed in the future...he's smart as a whip, but he has social skill challenges... so I can't say I wouldn't bend my own words when he is older.\n\nI have a simular situation with my grandmother-in-law, she has a family member that lives with her and doesn't keep a job, and does some unacceptable things, but it is her choice alone that allows for him to be there and to take advantage of her in this manner.  Even if he ends up putting her into bankruptcy, it is her choice to support him, and I really can't say or legally do anything about it.  \n\nIf your mother-in-law accepts this behavior from her son, that is her choice, it's not right, but still her choice. She is the only one with the power to change how he treats her, not you or your wife, but I'd love to see you get a second set of keys and repo this vehicle and then see how fast he comes to see your mother-in-law !!
828927
Your brother-in-law is a misogynist, he has a deep rooted hatred of women. Your sister is probably being verbally and physically abused. both of you should get away from this sick puppy.
780033
Being that I have a sister that does the EXACT same thing I can honestly answer "yes" you/me have been used.  All the things you've explained are very familiar sounding.  The problem lies in them being spoiled rotten and getting everything given and done for them.  Do what I did and put your foot down, enough is enough eventually he'll realize what is going on and the shoe will be on the other foot.  It got to the point where my sister was monopolizing all of my time and resources that my own family was going without, and that wasn't happening anymore.  It's called tough love and unfortunately it has to be done.  Good luck and I'll be thinking of you because I know how painful it's going to be.  But to answer your question...yes of course your brother loves you.
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i know how you feel. i have some problems with my family also... i was fourteen when my parents sent me out from china to belize. my mom had my little brother when i was ten, and i couldn't accept the fact right away, and she usually scold me for everything. \nat the point of time, since they are coming and visit you, you should just act normal, and once you have a chance you call up your sister to a place where you guys can speak alone, and you need to tell her how much you are sorry about the past, and your feeling towards your whole family, and that no one can change what had happened, not even god. you need to tell her that you love her and that you are sisters, no matter what you will always be her sister and that no one can change it. people live people dies, and that you are sorry that your dad died, but nobody would want that to happened. you were just simply in love with someone that the family didn't wanted to accept and tell her that life is short, if she will continuing mad at you, then you couldn't do nothing more better to let her forgive you. Just remember don't yell at her or cry...\n\nwell, good luck, is just a suggestion that i am giving...\n\ngood luck again.
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I am in a similiar situation.\n\nMy someday soon-to-be sister inlaw is very irritating to me.  She is Very judgemental, opinionated and I wouldnt be surprised if she hates the idea of us someday getting married.  So, needless to say, I really understand your situation.  Now what to do... I will give you the best advice I can, even though I havent yet solved my own situation.   \nFirst of All ~ Always remain focused on your man and on your relationship with him.  He is the one you are with.\nAt family Events ~ Try finding someone else that you can hang out with and/or relate to.  Or, spend extra time in the Kitchen helping with food preps or other busy work.  Be Helpful.  If she is mean to you then she will look like a real loser.  You will look great cooking, helping etc.\nHope these tips help.  Best wishes to you.  Be yourself I am sure that is good enough.  OH & don't worry too much, most of what we worry about never actually Happens!!!
630471
well try being nice to her and if that does not work than try to teach her a lesson that she will never forget.That is wat i did to my brother and trust me it worked!!!!!!!
1035983
Sorry you are dealing with 2 psychos that don't know their place.  I'd ignore them as much as possible, but I would put my foot down if they tried to run your life. Your hubby is going to deal with them as he chooses b/c they are his family, but I think they need to see that you are not to be messed with.  When you say no, don't waver.  They can leave if they don't like it.  Let them try to manipulate all they want. It's up to you to not allow them to mess with your life.  Your husband will see them for who they are. And he may step up and tell them to back off in private so they save face. But either way, you can't control him or them....just put your foot down.  Good luck. My mother in law is a manipulative witch.  My husband just  wants to move far away from her and gets tired of her behavior, but feels he can't change his mom.  I think he's right.
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When you marry someone, you marry their family, like it or not.  Have you tried talking to your mother in law directly about the intrusiveness of her visits?  Perhaps explaining to her that you need some family time with just your wife (and kids?) will help her to understand and minimize her visits.  Do you ever visit her house?  Perhaps that's why she's always over at yours.\n\nInitiate a visit or dinner with your MIL - that will show your wife that you aren't rejecting her mother (btw - "getting rid of her" is the exact kind of wording that will get you into more hot water), but simply trying to maintain some family boundaries as well.\n\nGive a little and get a little.
639878
If you think you're doing well with your aunt, then stay with her. Make decisions that will benefit and help you. As for your brothers in Michigan, there's alway email, snail mail or telephone to contact them and still have some sort of communication. I know that your Mom and Dad doing drugs is not a good thing not only for them but for you as well, so why not talk to them. Encourage them to have a better life free from drugs. Be an influence to your family by doing the right things. I know you can do it. Just handle the situation with an open mind and heart.
817359
It actually sounds like your in law problems aren't as bad as some folks.  On his side, if it's pretty much the little sister that doesn't get along with you try developing a relationship with her, take her to lunch, call & chat with her if possible.  Maybe you guys just need to find some common ground.  If his family feels intimidated by your outspokeness, try toning it down around them a little.  Sometimes it can be a real learning experience to just listen to other folks.  It's probably just different communication styles.  Again, just look for as much common ground as you can find.\nOn your side, I think your mom needs to get a grip.  Your husband sounds like he's good to your son - what does your mom want - for you to hold out for the guy whos in jail?  She needs to learn to accept your choice.  Best wishes!
635240
well you probably get to complain about your older bro/sis and annoy her/him but my brother does the opposite.hes bigger than me.he pushes me off the couch.when im lying o the rug watching tv,he jumps on me.i cant even complain cause hes older and i have to listen to him.hes done alot more to me.but i guess atleast sometimes i have a good time and he looks out for me,and hes company. consider yourself lucky your brother/sister isn't a physco:)
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Well if you are invited is acceptable to go, and the party is not for your sister in law it is for your mother in law and i think your mother in law is the one you are honoring when you go. If she is nasty to you just turn the other cheek, and explain to your children that you are going for your m-i-l and not take anything that your sister in law says to you to heart. She might be jealous of your relationship with your m-i-l. In the end it will all smooth over, trust me from a person who knows.
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mostly in-laws are hard to get along with each other.  some reasons are both sides are so insecure with each other.  u are in the center.  dont take her side or your family side be in the middle.  did u ever talk to your mom if she knows any reason why your wife is treating them like that?  u can talk to your wife and tell her that your family is not comfortable that the way she treats them.  but dont be sound like you are taking your family side.  she might freak out and start an argument.  its really hard if your family get invloved with your marriage.  sometimes u feel like u need to choose between them.  but i'm pretty sure u both love your family and your wife.  u dont want to hurt any of them.  u have to talk to them.  u dont have to leave your wife u just need to talk to her about that problem.
641139
It's your mother. Screw other people and what they think.  Move her into your house and let the brother in law and husband fight it out with each other. You and your mom can watch from the sidelines.
375490
I had a similar situation with a brother-in-law.  To save the family embarressment I told my husband and since then he never leaves me in the room alone with him.  Ignore the advances or if they get too bad, just say no.
189977
I really think you know the answer.  If you feel she is separating you from God, it should be clear.  Besides, do you realy want to add conflict with your husband when he doesn't trust her?  You have to take care of yourself, it doesn't matter if your brother is involved.  If he has a relationship with her, you may be forced into the friendship in a way.  My wife has a similar problem with her sister-in-law.  We just try to avoid her as much as possible and deal with her brother when we can.  Good luck.