How can I let down a guy that really likes me and is interested in dating me without hurting his feelings?
479938
Tell him the truth, but say it nicely. Im sure he'll understand.
60525
Dear Ashley,\n\nI suggest being very honest with him and just saying "i like you"\n\nyou can also say something like "so do you like anyone?" and then talk about that until you're ready to tell him...that'll make it easier for you if you're nervous\n\nbut don't be nervous that he'll reject you...if he doesn't care, then he's not worth caring about\n\nthe only guy thats worth being upset over is the one that will never make you upset\n\ngood luck,\njohn
627956
Let him know you are interested, but don't rush to him.  Even if you like him, you need to know how he feels about you.  That's the key to long-term relationship.
712198
tell him you really value his friendship and that you don't want to lose it. but if he keeps pressuring you to date him when you don't feel that way it's going to make it harder to keep that friendship. \n\nalso if you have any girl friends that seem to meet his style, try hooking them up to really put home that you don't want him.
279199
Well, He does like you and is scared of you getting mad because he does. So he tries not to let you see how he feels. He doesn't know how to talk to you without letting you find out. Thats why he ask's you to call him then won't talk to you. He is just scared that you don't feel the same way about him. Rather than ask how you feel he would rather love you in sceret. My advice is to ask him out and if he says no then ask him, "why" but I'll bet he'll say yes. He may say he is to busy, if he does then tell him to let you know when he feels like going out. All you will have to wait is two days Tops,then he WILL call you for a date! If he makes you wait, DO NOT CALL HIM, AVOID HIM. If he calls don't bring it up he may call you three times before he ask you! But as sure as I'm setting here he WILL ASK YOU!!
351238
Don't worry too much about it, maybe he went out with you and decided he didn't like you as much as he thought he did.  Men (and women) are like this all the time and instead of being honest and telling what it is...they do things like this.  He's trying to "let you down easy" and not confront the situation.  My advice is to get involved with other things (friends, family, etc) and keep it moving.  You can't get someone to be interested in you if they aren't.
244018
Just sit him down and be truthfull say you do like him but arent ready to go to that step.  Let the pieces fall where they may.  At least he will respect your honest and truthfull approach.
78372
Saying you are sorry is the first step.  Then why not ask him out to something that he is interested in such as a sporting event or take surfing lessons (if you live at the beach)?  Then be a good sport about the whole deal, buck up, and pay for it.  After all, how many dates has he paid for?  If I were a guy, that would pretty much do it for me, but I'm not and gladly so!  :)
945610
well I think you need to give him some little more time before you jump into any rash decisions. It's possible the guy is the shy type, who actually likes you but each time he's with you he finds it a bit hard to open up to express his feelings, one thing you need to watch out for, is that during your meetings, you need to know how he feels, his looks, his disposition when he's in your company, etc.\n\nThis will help to know if actually he's the shy type of guy or if he's pretending. Once, you have been able to establish this, if he's shy, then you can decide to do the talking or take the initiative by asking what he feels about you, asking him out on a date. But if he's not truthful or pretending, then you tell him off and look elsewhere for solace.
1158764
immediately begin giving subtle hints to send the impression that you like him that way, and start with the smallest kind of hints you can think of. gradually increase the frequency and obviousness of your hints over the next 2 - 3 months, till he either sends you a clear signal he's not interested, or allows your advances to continue into a relationship. If he reciprocates your advances with advances of his own, it is very likely that a strong bond will develop, and you can accelerate your advances.\n\nHaving said that, some people prefer that others just come right out and say it clearly and unmistakenly, but this forces a judgemental decision that often turns bad. If he asks you a direct question, such as "do you like me that way?" answer directly, truthfully and thoughtfully, making your intentions as clear as possible. He will probably respect you for your honesty, and if he is not interested in that way your friendship will flourish as a result of such honesty.
718289
Oh, no! Don't let someone else find out! Just ask him to his face! Find him ALONE, so he is not put on the spot in front of friends, and You can say it like this..."if You had the lucky opportunity to date a girl as nice as I am, would you be interested?" This exercise has a risk! He could be low-down and negative and answer flippantly or meanly--which could hurt your feelings, if you are alone, then no one sees this behaviour--BUT! if he has a chance to see your sincerity, then he MIGHT say "Wow! That would be great! I WOULD be lucky!" and the rest could be HISTORY!!! Good Luck to you, honey, you have your whole life ahead of you and no matter what THIS one says, there are always going to be more nice fellas--hold out for a GOOD one!
397278
You need to be clear and direct and consciese in your response to him so that there is little room for him to put some false hope. I really don't understand why guys just are so blinded by love or lust or whatever,Wake up lames and smell the taste of rejection and move on.!!
180766
YOU WASTE ALL YOUR TIME OBSSESSING ABOUT HIM BE-CUZ YOU REALLY LIKE HIM AND CAN'T LET HIM GO. I GUESS HE LEFT YOU WITH SOMETHING THAT NO OTHER GUY HAS LEFT YOU WITH AND THAT WHAT MAKES HIM SO SPECIAL TO YOU. JUST TELL HIM AND IF HE PUTS YOU DOWN THEN JUST LEAVE HIM. HE'LL COME BACK AROUND AND REALIZE YOU WERE BRAVE ENOUGH TO TELL HIM. THAT'S JUST MY GUESS THOUGH.
411667
Wait for another time.  It sould like it may end up being too stressful if you have to be misleading.  Think about how great it would be if everyone could be open.  If he doesn't know you like him then you're more likely to be disappointed that you didn't have quality time with him and it will be all your own fault.  If he's the right guy for you, you'll have a chance to be with him and enjoy the fact that not only you like him but that he likes you.  Wait for that to happen and you'll enjoy yourself more.  Even if it doesn't happen, you'll be glad you didn't push the situation.
600248
Unfortunately, we cannot make someone feel the same way about us or want a long-term relationship.\nSounds like the men you have been involved with just are not ready for that kind of commitment. I would strongly take a look at the kind of men you are attracting and perhaps go out of your way ,and give a chance to, someone who isn't necessarily your type. Even if it means going slightly out fo your comfort zone i.e. perhaps the nice guy at the bookstore or checkout counter that you might have let slip by at first glance. By doing this you'll have opened up more doors to find someone who is on the same wavelength as you, and who shares the same relationship values.
1101622
Tell him sorry but that isn't good enough for you and walk away.  Just from the way you wrote your question tells me there is no doubt that you will be attached to him and that you need more in a relationship.  If he really liked you then he would be willing to enter a committed relationship or simply date with no benefits.  You deserve a man who wants to be with you and only you and is interested in developing a real relationship with you.  Don't settle for anything less or you will get hurt.
681169
Get over him. Don't even let him know you care 'cause some men simply don't appreciate positive emotional honesty. My bet is once you start giving him the cold shoulder he'll eventually start coming around once more. If he isn't showing much interest, don't go mourning over it. Cry your tears, dry them and move on. It's better that way.