Problems with new boyfriend...can you help me?
489564
Tell him you knew he smoked when you met him just ask him not to do it around you.
1132657
Be more specific, so much for proper english you can't even get to the point dear. Oh I will give you the respect of answering your question though, because I'm not rude like you are. You should talk to him about it of course, but if he's just not into whatever intimate thing you want you might have to find a new boyfriend.
1014144
HI,well first of all know whether he's happy wid his new gal or not....if he's contend then be a gud girl n forget him.and if he's made a new girl to make you jealous well your half work is done....pay attention but jst as much as required....jst as much that he knows you like him.....he's curious thats a gud news fire it up hang out with his closest frnds n plz pretend your enjoyin yourself.....be cool desperation leads to nothin.....play it smart n he's already yours.gud luck.
141576
I've started and deleted this a couple times and thought about what to say to you, but am having a hard time.\n\nI can't map in for some reason, so I apologize if my response is a scatterbrained collection of thoughts.\n\nOn one hand I hesitate because you don't want to be his 'mom'.....coming to rescue him.\n\n1st....he may not feel good about being rescued by a woman. I'm not taking a shot at you or anything....I happen to be open to someone helping me if I need it, but I don't think (most?) men warm up to that......unless they are insecure, and then you don't get a man for your partner, you get an adult momma's boy.\n\n2nd....he may not like a woman coming on to strong. He may regard your advances as just that, and regard it as another element to deal with.\n\nIf you've offered coffee, and other such things and have been turned down....that's male communication for.....'thank you, but not now'.\n\n3rd He may have an ego......one that may preclude him from admitting to himself that he needs help at all.\n\n:)\n\nMen like to tackle things completely (most of the time I think) and then move on to the next issue to deal with. It's possible that you are on the 'list'...so-to-speak. I'm sorry for making you sound like a line item. I don't think that, but for brevity I phrased it that way...and to help illustrate what I'm saying.\n\nIt's also likely that whatever he's going thru is deeper than you realize and it requires all his attention. Men (most) are somewhat single-minded and throw a lot of attention on one problem at a time, depending on what it is. This could be one of those situations.\n\nHe may regard the starting of a relationship...even a new friendship right now to be a taxing endeavor that he just doesn't want to deal with.\n\nI'd say that if you've made the offers.....then take stock in that......he knows.....he knows you're there. Don't be pushy.....we men really, really don't like that. I can speak for myself on that one....lol.\n\nDon't keep asking him for coffee....he'll just think you're a pain or think you have stock in Juan Valdez (geeze is he still around?) or something....lol.\n\nThe best thing to do is be a friend. Don't be a pain, don't be annoying and just hang.....being helpful to HIM won't be your idea of 'helpful'. And if you want to ingratiate yourself to him...you will have to figure out how you can be helpful to HIM. Do you know what I mean? That may just be being an ear for him if he wants to talk, sending him some jokes on the internet.....whatever.\n\nDon't be selfish with what you want.....do what is best for him right now.\n\nHope that helps....a little anyway. I hope it works out.....send me a wedding invitation....k?\n\n;)
1103588
sorry girl they are annoying no matter what ya do!!!  sounds like he feels insecure about the relationship, is there anything you can do to make him feel more secure?  Are you providing him with his love language?  ( what ever makes him feel most loved, etc., gifts, words of affirmation, or acts of service?)  if not try something, anything that will help him know you are still in love with him.
198212
I think it important to assess how you behave in a new relationship. Are you perhaps a bit too full-on? Are you maybe even trying a bit too hard? I have a friend who is in a similar situation to you. She is a great person with a great personality but she has never managed to have a relationship that lasts more than a couple of months. Guys break it off because like your situation they like her but just feel that she's not compatible with them for a relationship. She's got loads of friends, but no boyfriend. this is because she's so outgoing and full-on. She tries hard to impress and guys just feel like they can't relax and get into a proper relationship. Shes a great laugh and really fun to be around but could they talk to her about problems? Could they share a secret with her? Could they just snuggle up with her and not have to have an exciting conversation? No. Just relax in a relationship. Don't be afraid to be a bit vulnerable and girly. let the guy take the lead a bit. Let him try to impress you. good luck.
865831
You should give him the same exact respect you would want him to give you...but I have a feeling you have already gone beyond where that line is with you.\nSit down with him.  Tell him how much he has meant to you, but that you have changed and he doesn't mean that anymore.  Be honest, the worst thing you can do to yourself is lie.\nI would caution you on one thing though-the new relationship is always going to seem exciting-at first.  Then it becomes just another relationship.  Don't keep the current guy hanging on while you find that out.  Since you betrayed his feelings, it is better for him if you move out now and be honest with him.\nI am not judging you harsly, it just sounds that way.  I have been on  BOTH sides of this arguement so I know what you are feeling and I know what he is going to go through.  \nJust be a good person about it, as good as you can anyway.
658268
i understand you are very frustrated...\n\n... i can see that you want him to make a decision\nbecause you hate being taddled along and dragged about\n....\nand you want a definite 'relationship' or 'not' kind of\n... relationship...\n\n... and i bet you... he understand that as well...\nbut put yourself in his shoes..\n\nif you had a boyfriend and were getting along fine...\nand suddenly, a single guy enters your world...\n\nand completely blows you away...\n.. now what would you do?\nyou might say, 'i'll take him,' but it's not that easy...\n\nhe's struggling...\nand i might take a step further to say...\nmaybe his girlfriend is on him about this...\nmaybe she's getting the hint he's not 100% committed to her\n\nmy best advice to you is... give him time...\n\nif you constantly prod him, he might completely ignore you..\n.. if you give him room for thinking and reconsidering,\nhe will seriously weigh it out...\n\n... moreover, he will see your understanding side\nand your compassionate, openness and he will run to you..\n\n.. meanwhile, you go out and have some fun...\ni don't mean cheat on your soon-to-be-boyfriend\nbut go out and meet your friends... guys and gals...\n\nmeeting other gals will set you back to your\ngiggling-chatty-girly mode, which will ultimately put you\nin a euphoria of confidence..\n\nplus, guys will drool over you, and you can neglect them\nand gain higher self-esteem...\n\ngodspeed
688877
Sounds like your boyfriend is using YOU as his excuse for anything and everything!!\n\nMy opinion and advice?  Get rid of the boyfriend, find someone else who will value you more, and treat you like you're a human being, and not someone to use and abuse as an excuse because they're no good!
15334
It's time to find a new boyfriend if he's telling you lies.  Find someone that appreciates you, and respects you enough to not lie to you.
985711
Well it's only been 3 weeks and he has made it quite clear that he wants to go slow, and he's explained why.  If this is not good enough for you then forget the relationship.  Otherwise just relax and let things take their course.
1182861
Hmm... Sounds familiar, and I really should (but probably wont) take my own advice. You care or possibly love your boyfriend. And this person is very important to him. They have probably been through a lot together and yadda yadda yadda. So I say you just got to go and deal with it. Trust me, I know it's not easy. But you might find something about one of them that you like. No one said you have to be there best friend.
996131
dear you shouldn't broken up with him as soon as u did,you should have spent time talking about your problems related other girls,if he didn't care,then you had to let him go.\nif he didn't care about you so thinking about him is just valueless !\nwait and see what he does.if he turns back,you must think deeply related to starting your new relationship.if not don't waist your time,because may his way of behavior harms your proud and personality,the only important person in your life is YOU!
829457
If you are scared of moving to fast just let this new guy know that you just got out of a relationship... you don't wanna move too fast... but you still would to possibly pursue a relationship with him. I would recommend taking the risk and just hookin up with him. I mean what if he is the one... but if you tell him this.. and he is ok with it.. then he might be worth trying to keep.. if he is like.. ahh crap she ain't gunna give it to me... and stops talking to you.. forget him.... \n\nas for the still sleeping with other boyfriend while broken up.. I wouldn't recommend doing it while he has a g-f.. but hey everyone needs good sexual satisfaction so if you need it... might as well get it from somone who you know how to please and hopefully after that long.. knows how to please you...
676771
Yes, make this move: Find a NEW boyfriend.\n\nDo you think you would treat him the way he treats you??? He is playing you. Forget about him and do something good for you, and this time choose a MAN not a child.
1028622
well your on again- off again boyfriend seems to have personal issues to work out. my advice to you would to be GET OUT KNOW!!! this option is still good because you stated you have been seeing him for a few months. it seems he has a pattern and it will continue. who knows why these things keep coming up, maybe its another girl, maybe he likes to play games, or maybe bad luck. my main point is none of this is productive for you it just brings you stress, and probably causes you alot of sadness. explain to him how you feel, and remain friends with him. if sometime down the road he can get his life together maybe you can  rekindle what you use to have.
541647
Wow, that hurts!!Be strong and wise girl.It's hard but remember that theres no way you can control him, or his actions, including him leaving his girlfriend. Your probably thinking that you love him and no one will ever compare to him. I'm a girl too, I know how we are.But I'm sure you've felt that way for someone else before him.Look ahead to the love you will find after him...and know that your new man is all yours.Sometimes you have to look at the big picture for what it is. Your man is lying to both of you...is that fair to you or her? Put yourself in her shoes...how would you feel? And I'm sure you've heard that saying that what goes around comes around. Treat others how you wanna be treated. Anyways...trust your gut....it's already telling you to leave...listen to that and find happiness. Good luck with everything and if you ever wanna talk, feel free to contact me! And please dont let that player win the game.