after 17 years my neighbor told my he likes me. what should i do?
481390
depends on how old your neighbor is.
818779
if you like him it really doesn't matter what your friends thinks...besides, being older can be an advantage in a relation.\nand if you waited for three years, come on! you shouldn't give up just because some fuss\nif you leave him just because of the age, and because of your friends, it would be really silly and insensitive with your own feelings.\nIndepending on the age, you can be good together, and when your heart is broken and you feel alone, there's nothing your friends could do for you (nothing like being with the one you want!)\ngo for it.....care about your feelings....
578680
Ah, i remember you.  How did your board exams go?  \nLong distance is one problem, because no matter how much you talk online/phone, you still don't know this person till you move in with them, and they get used to you and drop their guard.  Second thing, unless I miss my guess, he's twice your age yes?  Your interest are going to be very very different, trust me, after a while you are going to feel like you are out with your dad and he's going to feel like he's out with a child.  What happens when say, he's sixty, and wants to think about retirement and taking it easy and you are 36 and wanting to have fun and alot of sex, (that's about the age my ex's sex drive went nuts, lol) he's not going to be able to keep up with ya, and most likely not going to want to try.  Say he dies at the average of 72, there you will be, 48, still young but with the very same problem he has right now, it's like pulling teeth to find a good person to spend the rest of your life with.  You want kids I assume, how does he feel about it?  Theys alot that can go very wrong with it, but some do pull it off.  Very few.  Good Luck with this and your exams.
1095288
I understand what you mean.All I can say is that if he's as great as he sounds go for it!Or if you're just too afraid of losing him as a friend just keep it cool.Definitely don't do anything until the divorces are entirely and completely over.As for him being 14 years older when it comes to love it comes in all diff. ages,sizes,races, and everything.Age is nothing but a number unless you're a minor,but you re married so I know you're not.I say just take the risk after all people don't stay forever.You never know what tomorrow holds.GOOD LUCK!!
454312
You did not say how old you both are, so I can only assume you are both old enough to get married. If true love is what you have then God bless the both of you.
730755
I was the same when I met my partner. He was very loving and thoughtful and I was shy and embarassed. We are still together after 13 years! You may just be a slightly less expressive person. Don't sweat it. Just go with the flow and take it easy and enjoy the compliments. Just because he compliments you doesn't mean you have to do same. He will know if you like him anyway. Sounds like the friendship bit is about him not wanting to rush you. He obviously knows how he feels about you but can see that you need time. It sounds like an opt out clause for you. He sounds like a really lovely guy. Just relax and enjoy your time together. He will let you go at your own pace.
1119722
He will probably always remember every little stupid thing you say.  It sounds like a first love relationship between you both.  It is hard to  make these last, so few people ever really end up with their first love.  He is at an age now when he will be noticing every girl and woman around for the next 20 years; even after he gets married.  He needs to sow wild oats and if you are meant to be with him, when he is ready to settle down he will come to you.  Just be a friend and also do what you need to do at this point in your life.  \nWaiting and waiting and waiting, full of hope, is not a great way for a girl to live her life.  You can grow old and sarcastic that way.  \nHe is talking about another girl; that is his way to let you know he needs to be let go for awhile.  Be a friend but don't be demanding or clingy or emotional with him.  Find some other guys you can be demanding, emotional, and clingy with (ooops, not really, that was my sarcasm gene kicking in).  \nDo things and be with people you enjoy.  Blossom where you are right now.   Don't let yourself put all your eggs in one basket.  You are just now starting to understand what you want your life to look like.  \nUntil you are 25 neither one of you will be really sure what the picture for your life is.  \nSo, enjoy the next 10 years of freedom, no responsibility, worlds of choices, and make yourself into the best person you can be.  That way, you can attract the type of man you really want to be with.  Think of how you want him to look and talk to you.  Think of how he will treat you and hold you.  Then, become the person who will attract your perfect man.  Shape and mold yourself; do not get discouraged with this fellow who is just finding out that tons of girls are out there.  You might end up heartbroken.  Go swimming, hiking, draw, take photographs, dance (this most of all), hang out in nature - go for it, later when you have kids you will miss these things.  \nIn other words, Love and Care for yourself first.  You cannot know true love without doing this first.
654592
Make your own decision concerning this matter. You shouldn't let others dictate to you what kinda guy to go for. If you're 70 like you say, then you oughta know by now what you want in a man. It's up to you and no one else. Thanks.
762561
I would just ask him.  if you have been friends for 5 years, then it should be okay.
51928
I was a bit in the same situation. My parents got divorced, and my mom (she got the house), told me we were moving. My best friend lived next to me, and I was freaked. I made sure I stayed in touch though. I didn't move too far, anyway. But, if you start beign friends with him, then you can stay in touch, and you might get him to like you.
865036
My advise is to stay with him. You felt good around him right? You had fun and had nice conversations, right? Take time and think to yourself, "do I like this guy more than a friend or not?" If not, be honest and tell him, don't avoid him. Stop being such an immature little girl, we ain't seven-years old anymore. Men don't have cooties.
878471
look, there's no complication here; nature is taking it's rightful course.\n\nany questions you have, the answer is 'you're about to find out.' It's not up to us strangers to opinionate on the situation unless we know him.\n\nIt seems obvious that you're likable and that he likes you but he's intensions can't be obvious without hindsight so you'll just have to trust your judgement and your heart, all that's left for us to do is wish you all the best :-)\n\ngood luck!!
686312
A complex problem, but I would say you have to cut one loose to start with.\n\nI wont flame you for the age difference, because to you it probably does not make a difference, but it does to him, he will be wanting a lot more than you should be willing to give, I of course mean sexually. Which is wrong, he shouldnt be dating you, I was 17 once, I know what 17 year old (or 16) guys want I can say I wasnt as desperate, but all of my freinds were only interested in one thing and you shouldnt be considering that.\n\nI think even if you decided on taking things further with an older boyfreind, you will not be as ready as them, but more importantly he could be arrested for it, and if that happens that could really mess things up for him, he would be labelled as a sex offender and that could ruin his future. In terms of a job or life, it would be on his criminal list, perhaps a sex offenders list, where he would be put with dirty old men, it really could be very serious.\n\nIt could also mess things up in your life big time, you have a bit of time, so take your time enjoy life, but try to find a boyfriend closer to your own age, where there will be less problems and you both will have a lot more in common.\n\nAs for the talking on the phone, maybe you both are a little shy which is undestandable (I am guessing he is closer to you age, you didnt say), when you just talk it can be hard to think of things to say, try asking a few questions how he feels about something, talk about common interests, maybe movies, music, friends etc.\n\nAlso there is nothing wrong with being single either, you are young you have a really long time to worry about boyfriends in the future.\n\nI hope this helps and that you take my advice regards the 17 year old guy.\n\nAll the best\n\nArmand.
203237
Yep, get a marriage counselor.  I mean, getting into the relationship you knew ahead of time he was 17 years older and that there would come a time when your sex drives differed from each other.  This should have been taken into consideration from the start.  Just be sure to look inside yourself and find the true reason you are having issues.  Don't lie to yourself and say that you "are getting distant and there is no more sex" when part of the reason very well could be the fact that you want a man your age.
1024629
You won't unless you ask him.  You wouldn't want to be asking the same question in 30 years.  Believe when I tell you, it could go on for 30 years, I've been there.  Always to afraid to ask because I'm afraid he will say something I don't want to hear.  It's crazy.  Although, on my 30th birthday I had this big bash and he came alone because he knew that's what I wanted.  I got really wasted (it was birthday) and I got really bold and after 18 years (I met him when I was 11) I asked him had he been in love with me (past tense).  His response, suprisingly, was yes.  I asked why he never told me and he said because I thought you knew.  Long story short, I was engaged, he was engaged so we let it go.  We are still holding on the this "Friendship" maybe one day we'll get it right.  We keep looking back and not shutting the door.  I know after all this time, we need to stop coming in and out of each other's lives, but the lie we tell is "we're just friends"...\n\nDon't let this be you.  Find out now and if he doesn't feel the same way, you can go on with your life now and not look back.  \n\nI hope this helps.
800119
just tell him its time to quit playing these childish stupid games. Tell him you have liked him all this time and you want a serious relationship and you need to know how he feels or your gonna find another man that is worth the time and effort you have put into him. He'll either answer your question or honey seriously move on to someone better.
966250
i think he still does. he is sending u signal. if u r interested u might want to make a move. good luck