how many abortions have u had n do u feel guilty?
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1 and I honestly will still cry about it.  I was too young, had no idea what I was doing and the evil lady at Planned Parenthood made it seem like it was so easy and in a couple weeks I'd be hanging with my friends again.  It was extremely traumatic and painful.  Years later I saw a video of an ultrasound of an abortion.  It showed the fetus trying to get away from the suction instrument and then it stopped moving when the suction thing began tearing it apart.  I am not anti abortion, I just think it should be done with parental consent, in only the first 2 months of pregnancy and birth control after should be required by law.  There are so many options in adoption where you can see your baby grow up, be a part of their life and not have to be responsible.  I have 3 kids now and I should have had 4, it is very sad.
1070914
I actually feel really bad about this and can't believe I am saying this publicly...\n\nWhen I was in college I was dating a girl who went to a nearby Catholic college.  I was down to see her for a weekend and we couldnt get any "alone time" because her roommate was there the whole time.\nSunday night right before I left she took me down to the dormitory study/prayer room.  And right there on a desk we had sex; for anyone to walk right in and see us.  Her Resident manager was a Nun for shit's sake!\n\nJeez I cant believe I did that...
765883
This will affect your love life. You do not get wet because you are still not over the abortion. Although you feel fine, like sex etc., mentally you are not healed. The best way to "cure" this problem is to sit down with a professional and discuss your feelings concerning the abortion when it occured as well as how you feel about it now. Eventually you will be able to have a regular sex life but for the time being don't be so concerned with sex, instead focus on your mental wellbeing.
315867
It sounds like your having a hard time dealing with this guilt. Ask God and your other 1/2 for forgiveness and never repeat the act again!!
379708
I think all of that is hogwash. I'm an advocate for abortion if it's for the right reasons. Do you remember anything about being concieved, or do you remember anything about being a fetus, because I sure don't. It's "preventing" life, not killing it. And i'll take that in a second, rather than another crackbaby born into a dysfunctional family with a miserable life ahead of it.
626657
your the poster child for abortion
94943
if its your career at stake, NO. dont feel guilty at all. Go find a better job. there's hundreds out there waiting for you.
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I have to try to help u, will go to the abortion issue later, 1st about the getting married, I also got married at 18, we were together all thru high school, I did just what u r going to do, but that is many yrs. ago wish I was 18 again!! Please dont make my mistake, I ended up staying married to him for 18yrs. I was so unhappy, that is a long story, but the bottom line is I did finally get a divorce, why look back now. What I ask u to do is ask yourself and be honest to yourself, why r u wanting to get married so fast? Please when u read this understand this is no judgement against your boyfriend, I want u to just sit by yourself and really give this thought, it took me yrs. to be honest with myself, I was finnally honest and my answer was I wanted to leave home, my father was a alcholic, I wanted also to be taken care of, even though I worked, I  just had to show everyone how grown up I was, needless to say he was not the same after we married, and as the yrs. went on seemed he was still thinking and treating me as if I were still a teenager! Please u and your boyfriend talk and ask each other if its real love why not just wait, your together anyway, but r u so sure or would just a 6 month wait help u both to be sure, I just want u both to be happy, wish I had been given advice, even if u dont wait at least I hope u r sure, remember I was 18 at one time to, hell never even thought or knew how fast time goes by! Whatever you and him decide I wish u both the best and my blessing, as for the abortion u cannot look back now, and believe me no one has the right to judge u, my situation was different but I had to have a abortion, my 2nd husband and I have been married 13 yrs now,happy yrs. and I became pregnant our 1st yr. but come to find out I had a tumor that made having a baby dangerous, I know what a abortion is, scary and of course sad no matter what the circumstance, I also have a friend since 7th grade and her parents made her have a abortion so in a way I know how u must feel, if its anything like my friend, she was a mess, and bitter with her parents, I can only imagine how scary it must be to be in a abortion clinic at such a young age,and against your will! It makes me sad to think of it, you went thru hell and o thers dont have a clue, unless they have been there! But dont worry u just like my dear friend will when its the right time have a beautiful healthy baby, and I just know u will be the best mom! By the way that friend I told u about was only 14 at the time, she stayed with her boyfriend and they were married at the age of 20 and this yr will be their 30th anniversary!! See were old now!!! Big 50!!LOL, and they have 2 wonderful sons, and now a grandbaby!!! All will go well for u just make sure u r doing what is right for u!! If u do get married now, please take at least a yr.before having your baby, that way u have time to enjoy each other, and be more stable. Once u have a baby believe me its a whole new life, dont take this wrong I loved having my daughter, the feeling was like oh what a miracle!!! But u have so many changes remember u and your husband will be responsible for a new life!!! Now thats amazing when u look at it that way! You will want more for your child than u had we as good parents do, remember the most precious gift u will ever give your child no matter how old he or she is will always be your love,time, and support,and beyond even that make sure your child can always come to u and talk, I wish I could have with my parents, but I never could! My daughter always could and still does and I cant believe she is 30 see what I mean how fast time goes by!!! I have a grandson so I have been blessed again! Bless u and do whats in your heart, but give my words some thought, wish u the best in life!!
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Great Question!  Made me think...not too many here do...here we go!\n\nNOT against Abortion....feel it is every woman's right to decide!\n\nWAS against Capital punishment UNTIL I went to a site called Prison Talk Forum and read what all the woman in the United States are on Death Row for.  Obviously I was surprised that SO many where there for killing their own children......and in alot of cases not just one child...multiple children.\n\nSo when I went to answer this question....I had to stop and actually think.  Am I right in my thinking that it is OK to terminate a fetus.....BUT.....at the same time hold these woman in so much CONTEMPT.\n\nI don't have an answer to the question...my heart says kill kill kill.....those precious children didn't deserve that.....especially from their mom.  My brain says....hmmmm.
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My sister had to have one.  She had an iud at the time and the baby was growing in the iud.  There was no way the baby would have survived, and we could have lost her.\nShe still feels guilty about it.\nAnother sister tried 3 times to abort the same baby, but nothing happened.\nI don't know what the limit is, but I've heard that the more abortions a person has, the less likely they are to carry a baby full term.\nI lost two babies myself, and the doctors didn't think I would carry my son long enough to give him a chance.  Thank God he arrived at 8 pounds 1 ounce and 21 inches long.
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you can compensate somehow.\n\nafter that you need not feel guilty.
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Yes....so many times that I can't even count....take relief in the fact that you are not the only one.....actually by reading your question and reading what everyone else replied with....I feel much better because it reminds me that I'm not alone in my feelings...we ALL feel that way at one time or another...some people are soo much more sensitive than others, in a lot of ways...it really **** but I wouldn't want to be any different, I like that I FEEL.....too many people are on autopilot these days....not me, I NEVER want to be that way....Thank you for making me feel better, I can only hope that you too will get some relief in knowing that you are not alone.\nThanks everyone out there who responded to this question....you are ALL great!!!!   I love this site!!
744475
I can only repond to a woman I knew who had one.\n\nShe needed the abortion, but she felt unclean about it, years after the fact. She constantly second-guessed herself
945535
So far...0 but its because I have too many kids..not because I wouldn't want too.
109992
Far too many.\nIt's shameful and it's gross.
102070
it wrong becaus i agree with the others it's murder and people shouldnt just have one because the realize they dont want 2 have a baby anymore, but wat about people who have been raped and is have just found out that there having a rapists baby how horrible would u feel, the memories flooding back thats really a more apropiate reason 2 have an abortion i no it's cruel but could u handel that staring in2 the kid (and even havin 2 tell him y he has no father) and see how much a like the kid looks like the rapist....
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I believe in having the choice but with that choice not only murder occurs but guilt comes at the cost.You live your life and have a choice to believe and protect life,if you chose abortion then you have chose murder.In the end you will be judged by the most important person.....God.The babies that are sacrificed are to good for this world.So you want my answer it is choice... so what is yours?