Why is divorce so exspensive?
59038
You just answered your own question.
967839
Alot of people think divorce is the easy way out. You don't have to try anymore and you don't have to admit your own faults. Trying to salvage a marriage has got to be one of the hardest things in the world to do. It is filled with raw emotion that just runs away sometimes.  If people can keep their anger in check and concentrate on whats important in the marriage they have a chance. Other than that, I can't think of a way to save a marriage.
452378
People in general like to think "it wont happen to us". When they realise it can and does they also realise that it can happen to anyone, to them. They don't want to be anyone so they have to label it as someones fault or someones failure. Ther are numerous reasons that marriages fail and end up in the divorce courts. You know here in Australia you cant even contest a divorce. Our law states that if one person no longer wishes to remain in a marriage the law cannot make them.Funny because it takes two to agree to marry but one to divorce.The only pre requisite is that you must have been separated 12 months. There is no mandatory councelling and divorce here is no fault divorce. The law, the judges, the councellors all think they know whats right for you, whats best for you etc. Its the saddest and most confronting thing to go through and endure and rebuilding is hard. You are sometimes labelled. But you know its not always a failure. Sometimes its a life line to something new and better. I, in my experience have come to see that those that see divorce as a failure have never gone through it themselves or known anyone closely that has, nor have they felt the devestation of divorce. If you feel that its your failure dont. Society and religion put so much pressure on us as a collective community to make everything succeed. Sometimes you just cant. We should always try, if there is still love there. As the previous answerer said, anything worthy is worth fighting for and working on. But you also have to recognise that for some, the end of the road does come. Its not worth losing your "self", ie your being. I guess only those who see it as an absolute failure can really answer this for you.\n\n\n'\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n'
383890
I am truly sorry there is no easy answer for this.  As difficult as it may sound,  ask your soon to be ex for help or to end the divorce quickly.  As long as you are still married lenders still consider debts to be jointly held.  Your pending divorce will scare them.  If nothing else,  get away form the jerk you are with.  I know from experince that abuse, even if only witnessed, is more devestating to children than poverty.
272144
I feel the only good reason for a divorce is for the welfare of the children.  Too many people stay together FOR the kids and they r the ones who suffer.  Sooooo divorce FOR the childrens sake!
800735
well of course divorce is expensive and final, they say no one wins but the attorneys.\nLegal separation...not very expensive and I've known couples who have used that separation as their rock bottom and recaptured their once passion in the marriage therefore reuniting.\nBut for those who know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they want to be finished with the relationship, divorce is probably the end all responsible thing to do, especially nice when it is uncontested. Might want to check into the "Tax ramifications though if that's an important factor.
433635
Divorce has become an easy way out of situations. I think people just don't want to take the time to work out what is wrong with their marriages. It'd just be much easier to start over. Kind of sad, huh? Of course, there are divorces that occur for very good reasons (abuse, constant adultery, ect...)\nI'm married (first time), and plan to be with my hubby until the day I die. That was the commitment and vow I made. Any problems we may have will be worked out come "Hell or high water." Divorce is not in my marriage vocabulary.
181996
There is a thought within the Marriage/divorce councelling profession that an ex-relationship needs proper time to mourn, therefore people should not start a new one for something like 6 months.
512205
I have been through a divorce for this reason. I think if you have children and fight in front of them all the time, its best to go seperate ways so they dont have to suffer.
873794
get a divorce  why does either woman put up with it
420030
people get married because they are gambling on a feeling lasting.  the thing is a crap shoot at best. about 50% of marriages end in divorce, and most of them end bad.  But, if it's a good marriage it's better than anything immaginable.
1158453
Well, look around you.  Nothing would be much different.\n\nThe number of single parent homes that exist now have nothing to do with the wedding or the divorce.  It all has to do with the people and how they react to each other in conflict and in calm times.\n\nStaying together becuase of the children wouldnt change at all, married or living together.\n\nI suppose lawyers would have less to do, or have to go into another avenue of Law.\n\nBut, we are not better off without marriage, not sure about the actual wedding ceremony, aside from the money so many people make off of it.\n\nMarriage, is a commitment to each other, not a piece of paper.  The paper is man made and just shows the legal contract entered into.  A true marriage vow is forever and is made with GOD as your true witness..  When the marriage vow is done with this as its true goal, you will be better off even in really hard times ( those times when you love your spouse for better and for worse, and it seems like its the worse part all the time)\n\nI know there are people on here that will quote that the Christian divorce rate is almost equal to the non Christain divorce rate, but no one has taken into account what I would call the true Christain divorce rate.  That would be of Christains that actually attend Church and read their bible regularly, not just on holidays or on sundays when there is no conflict with other things they may want to do.\nThat is a statistic that I would prefer to see.
273233
I can give you the below link, but that's really just dipping your toe into the pond of this issue. I would check out some psychology books or divorce advice books. Either of those two types should give you a much more indepth knowledge on what this issue is all about.
913699
YOU R DEFINITLY NOT THE REASON FOR THE DIVORCE. \nSometimes married people fall out of love and then their lives become filled with trouble and it affects the children. I think if they fight a lot and cannot live together anymore it's better for them to break up. They will still love you and they will be better parents now and maybe they will become friends again.\n\nGood Luck
308556
divorce and break up!!
205080
if you divorce, you are killing your two kids. remember that marriage was first instituted by God the Almighty and you are trying to break that institution? remeber also that only marital infidelity is the only reason allowed for divorce ( not man made law). you are only multiplying social problems
412446
not for the fat pg, but maybe cause of the Jackass in the house.  \n\nLOL\n\nSeriously, go see a marital counseler or a divorce lawyer.  save yourself the time.