how to survive a long distance relationship?
488139
The long-distance relationship (LDR) has many advantages and disadvantages. Generally, unless this is The One it is best avoided. But at some point most of us will meet a person who is or seems to be so sexy/smart/nice/funny that the disadvantages will be temporarily obscured, and an LDR will ensue. Thus I offer the following suggestions. \n\n1) Get a really good long-distance calling plan. A plan that offers unlimited calling for a low monthly rate is best. When the LDR is good, you will no doubt want to call your loved one everytime you have a good day (or a bad day) or learn something new; in fact, you will want to call everytime you breath. When it is bad, you will want to call to be reassured that it is not bad, or to fight. These phone calls will add up to lots of money, and a big phone bill arriving after you have broken-up will cause bitterness. (Damn, I could have called people I like!)\n\n2) Get used to long periods of abstinence followed by a brief weekends of having tons of sex with a person you barely know anymore. Actually, this isn't unlike my normal state of being except that when you are in a LDR, you know that there is someone you could be having sex with regularly but for the cruel facts of geography. And if an opportunity to have sex with a stranger arises, you will have to say no, or suffer from guilt which will erode the LDR. And remember, even if your loved one is thousands of miles away, it is a small world. You will get caught! \n\n3) If you can develop an enjoyment of suffering than you will love being in an LDR! Learn to brood, wear black clothing to signify your dispair and always remember to share your pain with friends. Because they care they will want to listen to long accountings of how great your long-distance love is, and how painful the seperation is to you. If they don't, then they aren't your real friends. If at the demise of the LDR you find yourself without friends, well this will suit your new, darker personality. After all, we all die alone in the end. \n\nFinal note: If possible, try to have an open relationship. This will allow you the freedom to sleep with other people without the above mentioned guilt. And since your loved one is far, far away, you probably won't have to actually meet any of the people s/he dated in your absence
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well i think long distance relationship dun wrk but since u already in it den u cud jus go on n experience it urself. da reason y long distance doesnt wrk cuz sum how probl comes lyk da kinda probl u'r in now. wen u in love or lykin sum one soo much especialy long distance relationship, u goin to feel desperate to c dat person, spendin time wit dat person or sumtime jus to b able to tlk to dat person face to face. n wen dat point come to deep it bcome frustion n dat's not gud. cuz either one of u goin to want to b c-in each otha but dere'r no way y'all can. so whoeva thinkin of it feel lyk dey shud giv up bcuz it's no point. n dey feelin r gettin tired..n tired. rite now i think u shud giv him all ur love n support. dun pressurin him animore to c u. or mayb u shud b da one who came ova dere to c him if u'r old enough to do dat. OR mayb dis whole things of him actin weird was jus so he cud break'up wit u but he hope u undastand cuz he doesnt want to hurt u. fo u to find da rite answer, u jus gotta tlk to him n ask him urself. dun b afraid...things only wrk out if u tlk about to either person..mak dem feel comfortable enough dat dey cud tell u wateva dey feel..
1092936
I think they can work if done right. My boyfriend will be going away for almost two years. A long distance relationship will work if both parties are willing to make it work. Communicaton is key to everything. Keep talking about everything. Try not to get jealous of petty crap. Its hard, but workable.
1003178
Long distance relationship are a real challenge.\nTrust is a must. It sounds both are trying to test each other by means of jealousy?
1161024
I know how that is...my boyfriend lives 9 hours away from me! \nThe most important thing is staying i contact, call each other as much as possible, say little cute things all the time, send each other things in the mail, little surprises to let each other know your thinking about them. I send my boyfriend cookies and letters all the time, the little things truely make all the difference.
892602
The hardest thing in a long distance relationship is trust. Keep it open and honest. Communicate often but not daily. Send cards and pictures alot. If he needs help financially and you can afford to help him save money set up a small college fund for him and save it for when he can go to school. Or if you think he would use it wisely send it to him now.
357812
I live about an hour away from my boyfriend; it has its challenges, yeah, but it works out pretty good. I think as long as you continue to communicate throughout the week you should do great - spending weekends together is awesome.\nWe've been seeing each other for almost 2 years now. \nGood luck!!
458014
I managed to keep a ralationship alive between Australia and uk via email, letters and phone calls, (\nOver the space of 3 months i spent the equivalent of $2000 US dollars on phone calls) .....I won't lie, it is Bl**dy hard work, bot worth it. I've now been very very happily married to that person for 2 years.\n\nYou have to be honest and open in any conversation, and you have to tell each other EVERYTHING!!!!! ( and I mean everything, bad things too!)\n\nIf it's right you'll know within weeks of being apart. If he's worth fighting and suffering for, give it everything.  \n\nI guess if you are just leaving school you are still in your teens, i'm in my mid 30's, there's a huge world out there to discover, live for now, enjoy yourself and follow your heart!\n\nGood Luck
610654
Usually long distance relationships are best kept long distance.  If you decide to move closer, kept it an hour or two apart to see if the relationship can handled it.  And if it last a year, then move to the same city.
455127
I'll be honest with you long distance relationships suck, but it you are truly in love they are worth it, the key to making a long distance relationship work is trust, communication, honesty and you have to have faith in the person you are with.  You have to spend every minute you are with the person like it is the last time you are going to see them.  It is hard and it is alot of work, it means alot of lonely nites, but in the long run it can be an amazing relationship.
514745
long distance relationships almost ALWAYS work because they are much easier than REAL relationships where you gotta deal w the person each day. Long distance is easy cause you go visit for 3 days or so, and just when it starts getting tough...it is time to come home. How to keep it working? Just talk once in a while, maybe send a card once in a while...nothing should ever really come up that breaks you up...it can last forever without too much work.
30147
Poorly, and not for very long.\n\nSeriously, you have to have a LOT of communication. Regularly scheduled phone calls, and some random ones too. E-mails, chat and etc. Constant communication. Otherwise, the passion goes cold. \n\nIt's a lot of work to make a long distance relationship work.
275839
My boyfriend at 17 lived about an hour and a half from me. The long distance relationship worked well for us and we married 4 years later. Good luck to you!
573053
Seriously, the only real solution is to make plans to be together at some point if you want it to last.  Otherwise, it's just bound to get difficult to keep the flame alive.  So, as long as their is hope of being together in real time at some point, then you can keep it rolling.  Otherwise, it will fizzle in time.  \n\nMeanwhile...e-mails, phone calls, video chats....to keep the love alive.
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yeah, long distance relationship (LDR) is risky.\n\nbut hey! be creative... use your webcam.\nand u can do a lot more than just dinner.\n\n'creative' & 'communicate' are 2 good tips for LDR.\n\ngood luck!
1093842
Whatever it takes bridge the distance to a point that your relationship stays out of the brinks of doubt, trust or love.  Make plans for periodic visits, and look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself to look at the facts of everything because there is no room for things that are made up or do not exist.  They will kill the realationship faster than lighting starts fires.  Be fair, control emotion and set dates to accomplish things that will help to bring you together more quickly and work on them together.  Plan ways to be together and work them as you would any other goals.  It will take the lonliness and waiting out of the time, give you something constructive to do during the absence making the time go by faster or giving both of you shortcuts to bridging the gap or distance.  Use cams and microphoneis on the internet for close times.  Do anything but sit and do nothing as that will create decay and cause you to feel horrible things maybe that don't even exist.  You can get through it if both of you want to and you can make it fun,  use you heads and minds.  Be smart people.
387019
Yup long distance relations can work..\nYou can do all you can you keep in contact..\nAnd you can make it work..\nAnd in this growing age with computers and net you can always keep in touch.. Even if its not possible there are thousands of ways..\nIts all up to you