Why do women think that good guys aren't confident?
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/agree with Mike.\n\nMy man is a good guy.  And he's confident as hell.  Loves his country, loves his family and makes me laugh.  \n\nInsecure women only think good guys aren't confident.
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Young men like confident women, strong, independent women, that know what they want.\n\nMost young guys that date older women, say they can't find a confident female their age, that doesn't act immature at some point.\n\nGood Luck and prosper...;*!*;...
1115810
simply put because we're afraid. it's more then pride sometimes. sometimes it's your feelings we're concern about.but mostly it'd fear. lets say it's the infamous "i love you" here's what an average guy might think "I think i love her. should i tell her? i cant. what if she doesn't love me? or doesn't say it back, or once she knows she has the power to hurt me. or what if she does  hurt me? i better not say anything." we're dumb i know. but woman can be evil. I've always said for every bad guy there is a woman who created him.
586881
THANK YOU!!Women are constanly saying they want the nice guy but the nice guy get's nowhere.What's up with that?
56927
Shy guys usually lack self confidence. Even the thought of going up to a girl and talking to her fires off all these negative thoughts into their heads\n"what will she think of me?!" "what if she doesnt like me?" "oh why did i wear this shirt today it doesnt make me look nice" "what will I say... what if we find nothing to talk about and she finds me totally lame and pathetic"\n\n*sigh*
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girls don't really go much on secretive guys  cause we think that they are up to no good... and too confident is when you are just way too cocky .. you laugh at your own jokes too much.. you think everyone thinks your hot .. you have a bad attitude towards people who may not be as rich or good looking as you.. confident is when you are pretty happy with the type of person you are and you are considerate of others
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Best Answer!\n\nI detect that recently you have come to a conclusion that men are demanding or suggestive towards what a woman should be. So much so they make you feel inadequate or less of person because they seek something from you that you cannot achieve in a short period of time.  \n\nBottom-line - It takes balance - mentally and physically to maintain a healthy relationship. \n\nA good man in time will develop confidence in his ability and will express a sense of being proud for his accomplishments as a good provider / home maker / etc. What most men have to learn is the type of woman he has on his team. Many of women will respect a man for his ability to be a good man, but do not want a man constantly reminding them he is the KING of the castle type of stuff.  Typically cats that get into that type of assertion need a pat on the back or someone to stroke their ego to make him feel like a man. That's not balanced. \n\nWomen on the other hand can enhance that assertion by not vocally/mentally showing up when its needed. She may play into the role of being needy and horribly insecure. She may always allow him to make decisions and suggestions - not learning to speak up and share her opinion concerning issues. So he figures he has to  take lead all the time. This too is not balanced. \n\nInstead of figuring this or that about what a man or women should its best to learn to communicate effectively ( not argue) in all areas of the relationship - from the bed to a night on the town learn to speak what's really good for both of you verses having this underline expectation of what a person should do. It will not take away from things naturally happening, but instead amplify things because you remove the doubts and negative uncertainty. This will clearly lower negative comments about a person not doing "their part" or feelings of someone is putting you down.
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I am with you on this one girl,, Men just need security to know that there is something that they can give you just like women need the same security. Guys say what ever it is they think we wont to hear But most of them have no clue. Or think where all huchies. Who knows. To many girls out there that are gold diggers and Open sex addicts that give the good girls a bad name.
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Mainly because men want to be and mostly think they are the "leaders" in the relation; when a strong woman appears, they are afraid they would loose their superiority and that scares them!
545761
We think we are not worthy of you.\n\nAt least that's how it sounded in my head.  More often people call it 'lack of confidence', or a 'fear of rejection'.  Girls don't realize how truly terrifying they are to a young guy.  But most guys get over it.  Or at least, they meet a girl who they feel comfortable enough around.  It's perfectly normal.  It even has a name.  It's called 'Natural Selection'.
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It is true that some guys are intimidated by women that are more successful, or more intelligent than they are, because they are into the whole "macho" thing, and think the man is supposed to be the "breadwinner", and smarter, more successful, and all that. I find intelligent, successful women very attractive myself, but I don't have a problem with my masculinity either. I am a man, in deed, and action, and don't try to prove it to anyone. If I had that kind of woman in my life, I would encourage her to be the best, most successful woman ever. Together , we would make a great team!
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A lot of woman say this all the time, yet they end up with wrong kind of men all the time.  I don't think it's a coincidence.  \n\nBasically here's the deal, and I'm basing this on what I have learned from my 25 years on earth.  The nice decent guy is not noticed.  Yeah, nice guys finish last a lot of times.  It sucks but it's the truth and the truth hurts. \n\nAlot of woman see the nice guy out of the corner of their eye, he's going about his business, working his 9 to 5, trying to be a productive member of society, but he tends to blend in so he doesn't get noticed, so again and again women like you fall for the a-holes.  It's a vicious cycle.  Good luck, though.
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oh my!  that is so easy!  a good guy tells the truth!!!!!  a good guy always has her best interests at heart.  a good guy never EXPECTS things in return.  a good guy should take care of her not her take care of him.  a good guy puts thought into every effort he shows her.  a good guy will weather the storms and not run away.  a good guy will communicate his needs as well as be interested in hearing hers.  a good guy allows her to be open and honest without judgement.  a good guy is physical with her and makes sure she is assured of his affections.  a good guy will never keep you guessing.  a good guy will never disappears and leaves her wondering what happened!!!  good luck!!!
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because they will have more power in the relationship. Also girls think that nice guy are weak and can't stand up for themselves and there girls.
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They're just feeling insecure because standing next to you it would be even more apparent THEY don't work out. Most men wouldn't want a woman who is stronger than them or earns more than them or has a better career. We've got to be very subtle about these things lest we offend their fragile ego!
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Seduce them with confidence. Nothing is more attractive than being sure of yourself and having a life that you love. This does not mean being a self-interested jerk, which sometimes passes for confidence. \n\nWomen like to feel like the men they are with are secure and have their act together. It is difficult to be attracted to a man who seems needy or unhappy. \n\nThe same, I am sure, is true for the kind of women men like.
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You are just nervous. It is natural to feel some doubt after all what if you get rejected. What you need to remember is that men find assertive, positive, and direct women to be irresistable. Long story short just Say It already.