what is the social reason for people l to gossip about each other and back bite?
488090
from personal experience: no matter what age, religion, education or how much money you have we all tend to do it at some point or another.  we all gossip about everyone from celebrities, friends, coworkers or even family member's. we may have different reason such as a form of complains about the other person, envy , and just plain bored.  i came to the conclusion that everyone those whether they believe or not . so i guess it's part of human nature. it might be wrong but that's life.  it seems that it becomes more that just a conversations when person "A" and "b" are talking about person "c" and then person "A" goes and tells persons "C" what person "B" said about her.  that's really when it becomes a problem  we should  just learn to take it as a conversation and that all it is
133163
becasue some people may try to just please everybody and try to fit in with others, \nit's obvious that they are insecure and not comfortable being theirselves
1148290
It's the idea that gets them going.  People, in general, love to gossip.  If it's your partner that's assuming you are having sex with someone else, then it's probably a matter of insecurity. Then you must ask yourself if you are being honest with your partner.  Have you included your partner in your friendships with others, or are you being secretive and elusive about them?  Did your partner find out about your opposite-sex friend(s) from you or another source?  If it's just other people making assumptions, just ignore them.  They obviously have nothing better to do than worry about what you might, or might not be doing.
1056292
Because people like to force their views on other people.
570313
I think it's a social thing. Ok ok ok...I know I'm going to get over analytical here, but here goes. Someone will really want to reach out to someone they would like to be friends with. But they don't know what to say. So they figure, find some common ground. Misery loves company they say....right? So if I dog our boss to a co worker...won't he have a comeback and complain right along with me? Or if I go up to someone I barely know and complain about the weather, won't they surely agree with me and help out the conversation with a complaint of their own? \n\nSad part is....it would seriously work the opposite way too. Somehow people just feel safer being on the "complaining" side than being one of the "shiny happy people" that so many want to slap. ;) And why is that? We are often jealous of someone else's happiness because we are still working to achieve our own. \n\nAren't we ever satisfied? yeahhh.....of course we are. But society will always have something to complain about just for the sake of having a common bond. :)
578236
People usually talk about other people because they are jealous of them. So you can feel good about yourself, and don't let them bother you. There are plenty of other people who would be a good friend to you.
631980
Drunk people have loose lips, & have a habit of "spilling the beans", because they can't keep their mouth shut.\n\nWhen you want to pry info out of someone, get them drunk, & start talking about it.
1080595
Because the are backstabbers,if you cannot say it to their face them don't at all.or they are jealous and need to grow up,but sometimes people talk about others in good ways.
760925
Because we all live in a society...and in a society there is a community...and in a community there will always be fat-butts old ppl gossiping!
1118845
Good point. Well, celebrities have big egos and they want to look good for the media. So, they make a big deal about these dinners,auctions,etc. for all to see. Plus, celebrities like hanging out with each other. They gossip and see who's been having screwing who and who's been anorexic and smoking crack. Yea, that's what they do.
628636
People just want to know something about you so they can relate, avoid insult, and perhaps understand what values you hold dear. It is perhaps away to help open yourself up to others, so they can find common ground and share themselves as well.  Good luck.
961287
for 1 if the person talks about others then they will talk about you.No I wouldn't join them I would actually say something like this.I'm sorry ,but i really don't want to here things about her or him.I know that person and if u have something you need to say then tell her because I don't like it when somone is talking about someone I know behind there back.Wheathere you know the person or not it's not nice to talk behind someones back.
662971
Usually jealousy is the root to the problem. Another possible reason is that someone might be tired of a friend and don't know how to tell that person. Some girls hang together too much. And back to jealousy which is a nasty booga, many hurtful emotions can stem from this-hate, envy, covetous...Girls can get jealous of someone and spread rumors about that person. Jealousy can stem from a girl not feeling any self worth so she goes to tear down someone else's self esteem.
321525
Just ignore them. People would rather pursue the destructive side of their own nature rather than being constructive.Have you ever noticed that bad news and gossip spreads much faster than good news? Your real friends will not either care or call you names so concentrate on them and forget the rest as I have known some exceptionally nice people who have had different physical handicaps.
327810
Those kind of 'friends' you don't need.  Drop the loser!  Some use a so called friendship to get close enough to hurt you and make themselves look better.  Those people have low self esteem and bolster it by hurting others and making them look bad.  It is the same as bullies.  They cover up their insecurities in different but similarly hurtful ways.  Eventually, people will get to know these losers for what they are.  Try not to let it get to you, it just feeds the fire for them.  Tell people who listen to these persons to consider the source, to consider what kind of person he/she is and what they like to do to people.  Tell them that if they want the truth, to ask you...otherwise, they are just as bad as the rumor mongers.  Sorry for your mess, I hope this helps a bit.
124981
It's more or less just that they crave attention.  Sometimes it can be funny, but in the sense when friends are joking with friends (i.e. you make fun of how your friend's hair looks like he/she stuck their finger in an electric socket).  Unfortunately (and it's been this way for years and years) the status quo is such that (and has been such that) when one makes fun of another it boosts his/her self esteem and morale (and that of his/her friends) at the cost of another's.  Most times this behavior is conducive to a lack of self confidence and a need to prove oneself to his/her peers.  Also, it indicates a broken history (even if the person in question comes from a prestigious background).  They just don't get enough love, so they've got to be a*holes...  It's just a fact of life.
361209
It's not good to tell your business OR hang with a lot of people. Miscommunication comes in to play, and the one to be blamed will be YOU. It's good to keep to yourself or if you are in a relationship, that person should be your best friend and the only one, other than family, that you should confide in.