My wife wants a divorce with no reason and i cant decide.Pls enlighten?
484752
Maybe she just got bored. I know I already am
635280
Wow, this is tough...I think that it's tough because of the children, if you were a childless couple then I would say move on but when there are kids involved it's not that easy. How long were you together before you got married? It must not have been long because you say that this is a personality type that your not accustomed too and if you were with her for awhile you would have seen her true personality.\n\nIt seems to me that your in a quandary and the only advice I can give to you is counseling. If she is unwilling to go you need to go by yourself so that you are able to make well thought out decisions. I lived for 15 yrs. with a man that had no personality and he was very hard on the kids. I put up with this dysfunctional behavior for a long time and when I did leave it was hard but in the end it all worked out and it was worth the struggles we went through. The reason why I am telling you this is sometimes marriages do not work out and most of the time it is for the better. I am not telling you to give up on your marriage but if she is unwilling to compromise then that maybe the answer. I wish you the best of luck with your decisions.
41859
Mutual consent is the best option.  This is a non-contested divorce.  Contact your local courthouse for the paperwork to file for a non-contested dissolution of marriage.  Most courthouse will have the paperwork for you to fill out.  I would start by making a list of the stuff that you want and a list of stuff she wants, have it signed and notarized and indicate that you are both not contesting the divorce.  This will protect the both of you if one decides to start being a problem.
762629
Now what exactly is she unhappy with?  My guess is she's not giving you the full story.  Did she suddenly decide that a married life and the responsibilities that go with it, is not what she wanted in the first place?  Was she upset with you because you were gone and she was feeling lonely?  Is there another man in the picture?  If you are even going to try to save your marriage, you need to do a heart to heart talk with her and find out what she wants out of the marriage.  If she wants out, then I guess she has made her choice.  Not much you can do about it then.
530265
This doesn't make any sense why divorce when it could cost you? Maybe I am misunderstanding the question but I believe no man would want to do that. Honest
90078
Wait until its final.Don't be in such a rush.That's probably why you are getting a divorce now,you need to take your time.
334194
You will probably face much bigger problems with yourself, the world and your wife if you stay than if you leave. If you have made up your mind on wanting a divorce, not getting one will make you feel asphyxiated.\nI know that there are potential financial and social risks to getting a divorce; and of course, depending on your situation, even family problems. But, a man has to walk their path and not another that is not meant for them. Try to pursue your happiness: every problem will seem less important if you feel you have made the right choice. If you stay, every problem that you may have to face, will seem more severe and painful. Good luck.
804171
Her issues are not your concern anymore.  U already made your choice, u gave your vows to someone else.  Concentrate on your marriage instead.
121108
Keep looking.  When you marry her you marry her family to a large extent.  No matter how you cut it, they are part of the package.  They will be a constant source of friction which will probably lead to divorce farther down the line.
408631
Unless you want a divorce, I would suggest you talk with your employer and explain the situation, and I am sure he or she will be understanding, and work with you to come to some sort of compromise.\nWork is work, but your wife should come first.
383925
It's unfortunate that there is a third person involved because he is going to blind her and confuse her thinking.  You really need to remind her to think about the children.  This person she is seeing is not going to take her serious with two children; I just can't see that happen.  Definately discuss this issue with her as well.  She is being extremely selfish; I don't know what led you to seperate but either she wants a divorce or she doesn't.  Talking to another person is a terrible idea if she wants to make things work out with you and you have to put your foot down and asap.  Best of luck to you!! OMG!
680869
First and foremost, did you talk to her about this? If you have done this and many other things to save the marriage but nothing has changed, show up with divorce papers and tell her you want a divorce. But I suggest you talk things over first.
637179
Been there done that...whats up with the 23rd year...Its alot of years, you'll never forget the past, my marriage was great the first 20 years, but I could see the dis-interest building as the months after pasted by...and she too felt she was no longer in love with me, however I later found out her interests were directed toward another...suggestions..Seek marriage council advice, put forth a 100% effort to resolve such conflict, and if it doesn't turn out happily ever after, if there ever was an ideal time to be single , its with a good job, no mortgage and your child a grown adult...very simular to my situation...its was 2 yrs separated and 3 years since divorce and those conditions were blessings in disguise.
60391
Dint you realise whom are u getting married to in the first place and if not.. now if at all you want to separate and move away from your marriage then i believe you must be having a strong feeling of hatred towards her... if you do then why are you bothered about her mind and her not agreeing about things... just consult a lawyer and get your way cleared...\nBUT... if you are worried and bothered about her mental state then somewhere you still feel for her... get those feelings ahead and try to give yourself a second chance...\n\nRemember LIFE is NOT about quiting the tough tasks in your path... go around ... fight them .... Make situations turn ... Life then would be worth living...\n\nAlso dont forget...Once a looser always a looser... Be a fighter.. After all she's your wife and who would know more about her than you do... Tackle her in her own way...Humans do change... \n\nAnd moreover for a Wife, her Husbands love can definitely do the magic...
366941
Basically a judge decides these things but it can be a contested divorce which means nothing goes until all parties agree. I'd suggest negotiating more...
694376
just seperate, isnt a big deal, why file any paperwork, if you think you  are going to work it out,  most times it isnt worth it, just get a divorce
659640
why does she want to split? See you can go to counseling. There is a reason why your wife of 16 years is calling it quits. All you can do is take it one day at a time.