If I have married and then enjoying Virtual Sex together with my wive, are we both need counseling?
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SOUNDS TO ME YOUR BOTH PERFECT FOR EACH OTHER! SOME PEOPLE AREN'T THAT LUCKY TO BE ABLE TO EXPRESS THEIR SEXUAL FANTASIES/NEEDS WITH THEIR PARTNERS. CONSIDER YOURSELF BLESSED AND KEEP ON ENJOYING!!!
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I'd say without, because it's the real natural feeling. You can feel each other's "real" self. And it's more sensitive for both.\nAlthought it is not recommended at all unless you're both married.\nFor many reasons such as, STDs, pregnancy....yea..
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I think you should talk to a marriage counselor or psychiatrist before you talk to the third party.\n\nWhat is missing from your life or your wife's life or your marriage that a third party would fill?  Are you bored with each other and won't admit it?  Does your wife want to explore unsettled gender identity issues?  If so, there are ways to do that without dragging a third party into a potentially hurtful situation and potentially destabilizing your marriage.  \n\nI'm not trying to defend conventional morality for the sake of defending my own moral standards, I'm just suggesting you might be papering over or distracting yourselves from issues that should be addressed directly.  I also question the ethics of using someone for an experiment like this.  I know you're not coercing the woman, but are you sure you're not messing with her head?
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Do not!  It will end your marriage's trust.  It seems great in theory but it causes devastation.  It is just not worth it!
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Apparently not in your situation.  Sounds like the counseling is just to appease you and he's not committed to changing anything about himself or invest himself in the marriage.
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I would ask your husband if he has any desires to see you with another women and then you can approach it together instead of going behind his back or hurting your marriage, it certainly is better to do it together, then you can search various websites for swingers or bi females, but if you want to be greedy and keep her all to yourself then not sure what to tell you, I would approach it together.
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Yes, you can. You are married in the eyes of God and not living in sin. \n\nAsk a priest if you need more assurance.\n\nWith love in Christ.
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You should see that you are physically compatible. What if you found out on your wedding night that the sex between you, for purely physical reasons was not ever going to be any good? It would mean for a potentially unhappy marriage. I say go for it!
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no you should not degrade yourself that way. if you don't think anymore of yourself than that you should probably get some counseling. sex is suppose to be something special that you have to share with only the person you marry.
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OKAY GIRL, OVER SHARE!!!! I MEAN REALLY.  OKAY, NO.  BUT EVEN IF HE WOULD, SWEETIE THAT WOULD SERIOUSLY STAY BETWEEN US.  HOWEVER, IF YOU'RE LIKE FREAKED OUT ABOUT IT AND YOU WANT TO PLEASE HIM, BUT YOU'RE NOT SURE IF THAT'S JUST DISGUSTING, ALL I GOTTA SAY IS TO EACH THEIR OWN.\n\nYOU DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO AND WHAT YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE DOING.  IF YOU DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE, THEN YOU LET YOUR HUSBAND KNOW THAT YOU AIN'T GONNA GET DOWN LIKE THAT YOU HEAR?  YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO SH*T YOU DON'T WANT TO, I DON'T CARE IF YOU'RE MARRIED!
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Hello Lisa, my wife and I went to counsleing for several years. We had only one problem in our marriage. I wanted sex more than she did. We were great in every other way.\nWe tried 3 different counsleors and what happened to us was after a few sessions, the counselor seemed to side with one of us and then the other person felt like they were being picked on by the counselor and our spouse. We gave up with them and started e-mailing each other! We both literally spilled our guts. We were very open with our feelings and the e-mail allowed us to say what we wanted without the other person interrupting! It took a few months of doing this but within about 2 weeks, we both felt that we were on to something! We both agreed to be more positive about things in general. If one of us was down, the other person picked them up. We both made efforts to do things the other person enjoyed. We started having more sex but I was no longer pressuring her to do this. Without the pressure from me, her desire picked back up! Now after almost 11 years of marriage, we go at it like two teenagers! I am not saying that counselling won't work for the two of you but you could try what worked for us. Talk to your husband and see if he is willing. It does take time but it sounds like you still love him and you have a beautiful 2 year old child who I know would enjoy having two happy parents!\nI will keep an eye on this question and if you want to discuss this more, let me know.\nI wish you and your family the very best of luck!
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OK I can see trouble in my answer but here goes. Your being a beautiful sexy woman can be part of the problem...KEEP READING answerers before you pound me.  You husband was taught he was not worth anything...therefore he cannot understand how you could possibly love him and want him.  The reassurance he needs must be hard on you especially, checked your profile, as you have a small child.  YES to counseling. But also a BIG yes to making sure that you make him feel special with the baby in the house.
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Work it out now before you get married; things are only magnified after the marriage.  If you can't talk about things now, marriage will only make it worse, not better.  I would go to a counselor.  If he's not open or willing, is he really who you want to spend the rest of your life with?
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LOL, not to laugh at you, but it sucks you can't join in. I would ask your wife, if she must explore her fantasies, could it be with someone not related to you, so you can participate, too. I mean, if you aren't bothered, then don't make a big deal about it. Just simply state that you wished you would have know, so you wouldn't have been shocked/surprised. Ask her what her thoughts and plans are, and from there, you must decide.
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It is up to you. Second marriages can sometimes be the best marriage. I know someone who is on his second marriage and has been married for 26 years!\n\nI think if you don't feel comfortable, express your concerns with your partner.Communication is the first step in any relationship and if you can't communicate your concern then there is no reason to be in this relationship. I am sure that with a pre-marital counseling and maybe a little more time to be sure, you may find that marriage is the right thing for you and you partner.
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Such a difficult question!  I ought to know.  This is the situation I am in.  I have filed.  In my case, this was not just one offense.  Even though this was the first "technical" adultery, i.e. the first in-flesh fornication (that I know of!), there have been years of infidelity in one form or another, e.g. viewing of pornography, visiting strip clubs, socializing with women w/out me.  I found out about all these things very much after the fact, as I was lied to for many years, beginning during our courtship.  There was much emotional and psychological abuse.  He has no respect for me.  I hung in there all this time and worked my hardest to make things better, including making him go to marriage counseling, because I personally believed it was my duty due to the covenant I had made with God.  ...but this for me was the last straw, and by God's merciful permissive will, this choice is provided for in scripture.  I hope you have not suffered in this way, but if you have....as excruciating as I know it is....have courage to leave him.  Maintain your self-respect while you still can.  Hold him accountable for his actions, once and for all.  If he truly changes and becomes a reformed person, it will become obvious, and perhaps you can one day reconcile.  If he doesn't...well, then, you are better off.  Now, if on the off chance that you have had a very healthy marriage and this was, as far as you know, a single transgression (...rather than a relationship or multiple cases of adultery.  In my husband's case..this was a six month emotional attachment and relationship, involving much debauchery, too), it would of course be desireable to God if you could reconcile, particularly if there are children involved.  ..but seek wise counsel.  His true remorse and commitment to real change is imperative.  Either way, seek counsel for yourself.  The trust that has been breached will take years to rebuild.  Above all, be good to yourself.  There is NO excuse for his choice.  God bless..and be strong.
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im not married so maybe this wont help u out...but its not wrong as long as the chat isnt geered towards a sexual mannor and ur wife knows ur going online... some ppl make great pen pals ...even if u never meet them face to face its good to get another prosepctive on things and to talk about things with various ppl and sometimes u get a different look @ things with ppl of the opposite sex because they think differently.  keep the lines of communication open and things should be alright :)