how do you know if yur spouse is stil attracted to you?
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I don't think you have to be a mind-reader, but I think you DO have to be a good communicator.  If you have a close and loving relationship, you'll know it.  If you have to ask, there are probably some areas to work on...
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You feel it. And there are also more tangible signs.\n\nHe doesn't want to make love to you or not as often as he used to.\n\nHe starts looking after himself more. New clothes, new haircut.\n\nHe works late or goes out more, goes away "on business".\n\nHe smells with women perfume, hides his phone, when answering his  calls he leaves the room.\n\nThere are also bills for flowers you never got, hotel rooms, diners, gifts. \n\nHe may feel guilty and be actually nicer to you than before or more distant. Observe him discreetly and you will find out.
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Sociologists state there are tell-tale signs such as:\n1) your partner may invest in new clothing and underwear. This may be especially troubling if he always wears the same old holy, raggedy undies for the last 5 years.\n2) Your partner may recently have started wearing cologne, and did not wear it before.\n3) Your partner's schedule, which was once set in stone, is now erratic, and unpredictable. And, when you discuss it with him, he becomes upset, agitated and shifty with his eyes.\n4)Speaking of shifty eyes, when you discuss any issues relating to your relationship, he becomes shifty with his eyes, uncomfortable, and stutters, stammers his words.\n5) When he goes to bed, he may wear a t-shirt, shorts, when he used to go "Commando." Or, he may not be "in the mood," as much as he used to when you attempt to initiate sex.\n6) When he is on the computer, and you enter the room, he is quickly clicking closed a window that he was typing in and closing out a particular site.\n7) He may receive strange calls on his cell phone at odd times of the day. It does not have to be particularly in the dead of night. It could be around 2p.m. when he should be at work, and perhaps he is home that day. He may say it is his "buddy" and doesn't feel like talking. Or, he may start screening all of his cell phone calls and not answer his phone as much as he used to. For instance, he may have answered it everytime it rang no matter what.\n8) He may pick arguments with you, especially on Friday or Saturday nights. If your partner is the type to pick an argument and then blow up at you and leave for hours, he could use this time to visit his ho. \n9) He may be quite meticulous about his appearance all of a sudden. He may want to wear the nicest clothes all of the time, and keep his hair neat trimmed, and begin an exercise routine, when you have never before even seen a dumbell in his hand.\n10) If you share a bank account, you may notice a little or quite a lot of money being withdrawn on a daily, or weekly basis. When you address it with your partner, he becomes shifty, agitated or argumentative.\nHope this helps.
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Let them know you are attracted to them.
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If you feel the person your married to is the One, your attraction to other people will not steer you away from your love and faithfulness to your spouse. You will always be attracted to other people, your human. But you will feel it's not worth it to be with someone else because you already have what you found at home...that is, if the one your married to IS the One. If you have any doubt in your marriage, then you made a mistake when you got married to that person, and it will be easier for you to make the decision to be with this other person because you feel they have something incredibly important that your spouse doesn't.\n\nSometimes you may simply be confused about your marriage because of your sudden and shocking new found attraction to someone else. In that case, re-evaluate the importance of your spouse and figure out and re-learn if your spouse really does make you feel great, and is important to the max in your life.
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Okay, I do see both sides of the story here.  In my opinion, sexual attractiveness IS important in the marriage and I think it's only right that each spouse make themselves attractive to each other.  Thank God this is a non issue in our marriage as my husband and I are both very active physically but your wife is also right.  You should love her unconditionally no matter what.  Though this doesn't mean that if she gains 100 lbs you would still find her attractive.\n\nNow think about this scenario.  What if she got into a terrible accident and her face and body got  disfigured as a result.  Would you still love her then?
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There is no such thing as attractive enough, flavors werre made because people have different tastes. To find out if someone is attracted to you and you to them it is very simple, just start talking with them and soon enough you will find out how the relationship will go. You don´t have to talk sexual, just talk, if he is attracted to you you will know.
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I don't believe in soulmates, so I don't believe that you can know that. On the other hand, I believe that some people are meant to be together for this life. That's determined by God, so I don't think there are any predictable signs that you can look for.\n\nSince you are already married to him, the question should be moot to you. Both of you work to make it better every day, and no soulmate could make you happier.
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He may have lost attraction to you... sad to say. THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT.... you're having his kids for crying out loud!!! Personally, I would love my wife even more during that period, however, a lot of men arent like that. It probably has something to do with the weight you have gained from both pregnancies. You need to talk to him about your feelings and your concerns. Maybe marriage counseling would help... if you are both opened minded to that. You are going through a hard time now, physically, emotionally and all. I wish he was more supportive of you. Basically, dont take his selfishness and ignorance personal. You are doing a very important job right now and looks are secondary. Just my thought on the subject....\n\nCounselorDan
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hmmm...maybe. \nIt depends. Its not a matter of distrust. He does not distrust you but fears that eventually you might get attracted to some other men. He does not trust other men, not distrust you. He thinks those other men will allure you into having an infatuation about them. worse yet he may be thinking you already have some infatuation about those men you are praising. I would suggest do not praise other men very frequently. If you do it once in a while its fine. but if its done more than often you are out for trouble girl! Praise your husband frequently though. Afterall he is the  cutest guy on earth for you rt?\nYou may just have an admiration, or plutonic liking for those other men you are praising. But you should not admire any other mans physcial apprearance apart from your husbands. He has the right to expect that from you!
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TAKE HIM FOR HIS WORDS.\nThe only sign that a spouse is cheating is when he/she becomes cold and seems to be lying a lot.\n\nJUST BE A GOOD WIFE (sexy, presentable, decent, smart, skillful, etc.) and pray for your husband that God will protect him from being tempted by other ladies out their.\n\nI wish you a happy marriage.
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Yea all you have to do is not worry what your partner is doing because if he sees that someone esle is into you and you are feeling that person back it will give your partner a new persective on how he feels about you. Start doing what you want to sometimes.
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If he's a good guy, he treats her with respect, is honest with her at all times, considers her needs before his own and values her opinion.\n\nThe bedroom stuff is a by-product of mutual physical attraction, and has little to do with how a relationship actually works.\n\nI've been married for 9 years, and I'm as in love with my wife now, as I was on the day we met.\n\nSex is over-rated, trust and honesty are the key.
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maybe that's the type of man that is attracted to you.
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Your best bet is to simply ask . You can not tell just by looking at someone thats for sure .
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I have seen it happen! It happened to my neighbor and they are happily married for 4 years now. You can tell if you are compatible with someone by talking with them. Just make sure that you are always honest whether you think that person will like you for it or not. After all you want them to love the real you, not who they think you are.
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Thats exactly how me and my husbands relationship started!  Thats so crazy and I always thought that I was the only one.  \nAnyways, you can simply ask him what does he like about you and if its not strictly sexual, he should be able to tell you with no problem.\nIt also sounds like he's scared of commitment, and you can be patient if you feel he's worth the wait, but dont allow yourself to be hurt in the process.