why do i feel like my husband is up to something?
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Confront him with your insecurities. But don't go about it in an accusing manner. Rather, ask if everything is right between you two. Trust is everything in a relationship. If there are more signs that come up, then I would definitely look into it. But insecurities from your part needs to come to a resolution of if you do trust him or if you don't.  If there is real proof he is cheating on you then confront the issue. If not, let it be. Showing your lack of trust in him can be hurtful especially if he's been loyal to you all along.
541457
This feeling can occur alot especially if you are feeling overwhelmed by responsibility within the relationship. You may feel that you are carrying more of the weight than the other person. There is also in-laws, friends, etc to deal with other than your own. Don't try, but DO, schedule time away, whether at the park, library, track, gym, spa, knitting club,etc. Find time for you. Time for you to leave your troubles at the door.
372640
Was he that way before you married him? If so, why would you expect it to be different now?\n\nIf he wasn't, then--as said above--you've probably run rampant at home and he doesn't feel the need, or is trying to "balance" the situation. Could also be med/psych reasons too.
445324
He's probibly just feeling very insecure and wants to make sure that you know that he values your opinion. \nIt may seem annoying, but it'd be even more annoying if he just went off and did something and you had no idea where he was, or you had something planned.\nAt least he's keeping you in mind when he's going to do something, instead of not.
219433
Its a mood thing.  I'm the same way.  Sometimes I'm heading home, just hoping for a fight with my wife. \n\nUsually, I keep to myself when I arrive till my mood changes.\n\nTry that.  Just let him know you need to be alone, your not in the mood for company...or to fight.\n\nGood luck darlin
820492
You need to let him know that while you are married to him you are not his possession.... you are not a TV or a couch, or a car! He has proven his love for you in marriage but being your husband is a privilege and a joy that he needs to earn everyday... and in return there is no greater gift in the world than a woman who feels respected, loved and desired by her man... My wife is the best part of my life and there is nothing that I would not do for her... Your hubby needs to not take you for granted just because you said "I DO"... he should be romantic and earn your love!
141561
maybe it means that something is going on in your life right now that you want to help with/work on but you feel too pressured to do it or maybe you just dont know how to start. i think its somehow related to control issues: you couldnt help the women, but you tried and then the man came after you. just a thought...
252388
keep yourself busy and focus on yourself. Don't do this with negative intentions or malicious reasons - like i'll show you. I can relate. I used to give my man shit all the time for no reason. The only thing jealousy leads to is wasted energy and will only leave you feeling worse. I hate to say it , but this boils down to insecure feelings on your part and you know how you hate it when he says " you are just insecure". focus on spending time w/ family and friends, job, goals...this behavior will bring you and your husband closer.  Just communicate, don't give up, You just need to love your man smarter not harder
310803
if your sure that he feels like he does for you, then you should defiantly go for it. Specially if you are sure that you cant work things out with your husband. your kids are old enough to understand at their age. Just be sure that you know what you want, so you can make yourself happy
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Don't worry.  I am older too, but it is just that time in your life.  We can't always be up and excited.  Sometimes are bodies just need a break.\n\nPamper yourself and don't worry.  Take a break, and tell hubby you love him a whole lot and mention you need to take more time for yourself.\n\nIn time things get back in the saddle.Up the vitamins and go easy on any 'white' foods--rice, potatoes--can 'down-time' your body.\n\nluv Ava
761964
My husband of 16 years definitely makes me feel loved every day by helping me without me having asked him; by being there for me when I need a friend, not trying to fix it, but listening when I need to talk.\n\nI've had boyfriends who tried too hard, and ended up making me feel crowded and like I couldn't move without them being right there.  The more intensely I felt like he was hovering, the more scared I felt - both of him being too dependent and that possibly he would turn controlling.\n\nIt's knowing that my husband shows me he loves me in little ways every day that makes me grateful for having him in my life.
620582
I had one of those.  If you feel he cheats on you, then maybe he is. Don't do anything when you are feeling like this.  He will get defensive and men don't always admit what they are ashamed of.  Could start unnessary arguments, especially if you are right!\n\nIf you follow your heart, listen to your head every once in a while.  What kind of commitment has he made to you?  Not your son,  YOU?
921431
I would be more concerned about why your Husband told you in the first place, could it not be that your Husband is lying, I am not saying he is, but you have to look at it from both sides, and try to rationalize everything, Men do sometimes lie about this type of thing, to make their partners jealous
952684
I understand he might have fears about the baby, but other than that, I'm confused.  My husband actually requests more sex when he's stressed out.  It relaxes him.  I think he's being selfish personally.
313401
I'd say he feels the same way. If what your telling us is true sounds to me like he's into you. Why not throw it all out in the open? Tell him you want to jump his bones when he gets home... I'm sure he'll be happy!!!
603874
ya  sometimes it is but if u  feel  that way u need too open up communication with your spouse. and tell  them how u really feel.  do not  bottle it up inside.
147374
Your first option is to ask him.  Make sure you don't do it as an attack, or he'll probably cover it up.  Also, if you do it as an attack, and he isn't cheating, then he'll feel resentful and feel like any trust you two had, is gone.  Another option is to ask a friend {or PI} to watch your husband for a while.  Call him at work to see if he's there, find out what he's doing if he's "working extra hours"  Check emails, internet history, phone calls in and out, and so on.  Don't be afraid to pop in at lunch to surprise him with a home cooked meal.  This will give you extra time with him, make him feel special, and also thwart plans if he's trying to cheat.  Also, see if there are people that are with him often, that you feel you could get an honest answer from.  But honestly, I think asking him first, in a very soft and subtle tone, is your best bet.  But remember, never ask a question you can't handle any answer too.  I don't mean don't get angry or mad, but make sure you're at a place with yourself that you can hear what he has to say to you, no matter what his answer is.  I wish you all the best, insecurities, whether real or not, always hurt.