id like to know...im 22  married..my hubby can last a long time...but i cant get off.?
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Maybe you're too worried about the fact that he's not getting you off, which is detering you from getting off...know what I mean?  Whether he lasts a long time or not has little to do with a woman getting off....personally, after a while I just get bored....
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I'm 23, been married for close to 5 years, and in this whole time that i've been married, i've only been able to keep on going after ejaculating maybe 3 or 4 times. It's normal to go down after ''release'', but i'm confused about the not feeling it part. i've personally never had a problem with not being able to feel anything, sometimes i feel it too much and cum too fast (cries quietly to self). anyway the answer to both of your questions are, it's all in your mind, it all has to do with how turned on you are, how comfortable you are with the person, etc. hope this helped
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there are definately some exorsizes that work try time alone playing and stop when you know its getting there..... try to keep practising this trick untill you can go for about 15 mins then when you are ready with a partner take control so you can take a break whenevef you want to also my best advise is this ... make sure your partner is pleasured before intercourse and then theres no hard feelings good luck with that one sweet heart ps its not very comman to find a guy that can last too long so dont think its just you sweety
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Primal sex is quite often a fantasy of most guys, if I were you I'd have a chat with your hubbie, theres a good chance he will be happy to help you, as long as your not asking him to hit you or anything like that, just tell him that you want him to come home from work and with out saying anything to you, throw you up against the wall, hike up your skirt and rip your panties off and have at it right there on the kitchen table...I serious doubt he will have any problems with that. Talk to him thats the best advise I can give you...Hope this helps, IM me n let me know
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no that is not okay. but if you can not go long then you should try another method.like try jacking off before you have sex. and make sure you were proctection. well my dude it may take him about 30 to 40 minutes.
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Hello Prissy, it sounds like the two of you are world's apart on your desire. You do love him though and he loves you.\nCan you talk to each other and reach some sort of compromise?\nI take it that he is good about pleasuring you or does he?\nThat could be a part of it also. I would suggest that you two sit down somewhere comfortable and have a honest and open talk about this. I wanted sex more than my wife did for many years.\nOne of the things we have done is one night each week,  I give her a complete body rub using oil or cream. After this she is so relaxed that she is ready for anything, including me!\nIt's not 3 times a day but he is going to have to lower his expectations a bit here and find ways to get you interested too!\nJust talk, stay positive and know that you love each other.\nGood luck!
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I HAVE TO SAY IF THIS HAS OCCURRED MORE THAN ONCE IT MAY BE A RED FLAG FOR FUTURE NIGHTS OF SEXUAL FRUSTRATION FOR YOU. THERE ARE WAYS MEN HAVE FOR LASTING LONGER. IF THIS IS SOMEONE THAT YOU CARE FOR AND ARE GOING TO HAVE A FUTURE WITH. YOU NEED TO ADDRESS THE ISSUE NOW. IF HE GETS THAT TURNED ON BY YOU THEN PERHAPS HE SHOULD GET OFF AT HOME BEFORE YOUR DATE SO HE WILL HAVE MORE STAMINA WITH YOU. OR YOU SHOULD HAVE HIM CONTINUE PLEASING YOU AFTER HE "GOES" UNTIL HE GETS READY TO TAKE ANOTHER GO AT IT. JUST WORK THROUGH IT TOGETHER.  BUT IF THIS IS JUST A FOR FUN RELATIONSHIP SOUNDS LIKE YOU MIGHT BE TOO MUCH FUN FOR HIM AND I WOULD TRY TO END IT BEFORE THE FRUSTRATION BEGINS\n\nGOOD LUCK WITH THAT  .. . ..
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Try some bondage or some role-playing.  Keeping it fresh is the hardest thing for me too (in a relationship for 7 years now).  When the feelings of passion wear off, we have to get creative.  Even if you are sexually active, it gets old for both parties.  Try going to an adult store for ideas or look at some adult couple websites.  I think most long-time couples would say that this is the hardest area to overcome and new ideas are always welcome.
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try not having sex till you are married. and then learn your ovulation cycle as well as use condoms. \nor you can just have your man pull out every time. \nI've learned my ovulation cycle and been active for over 2 years with no baby... I still use condoms though
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Many women go through this more than you know! I actually went through the same thing. First of all, it could be a number of things that can trigger this, stress at home or work,is one factor, having a job, kids, house cleaning, cooking dinner, trying to pay bills, it all adds up, so having sex to some women is more of a chore than anything else. You need to ask if your boyfriend is turning you on? Do you need to try different positions? Different places? Is he Romantic? What makes you get in the mood, he would probably would like to know that. Also some women don't feel sexy enough or don't like the way their bodies are so that may be another factor, but i would talk to your boyfriend as he may be able to help, communication is one key factor in a relationship,  he needs to know that you need to be pleased in bed not just him. also your diet could also be another factor, be sure you are eating properly and get the recommended amount of excercise. so i would try new and different things, my husband and i have been together for 13 years and i ended up being the same way until i realized what turned me on and i learned i like it rough and i enoyed it when he spanked me and pulled my hair. You never know what will work with you until you have tried it. Hope this helps Good Luck!
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From what I understand from talking to my fiance, sometimes guys get so into it and so involved and excited that they can't "finish". I don't really understand it either, but believe me, we've been through it too. It's completely understandable since you waited until you were married to go for it(congrats on that by the way).I suggest just telling him to slow down and try to enjoy the moment more. Once he starts relaxing he'll come around..I promise :0)
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could be you are just excited about something new.  this would be the time to try something new with your spouse and spice up your sex life.  good luck
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Stay. There is sooo much you can do to improve sex. Maybe just talk to him, give him gentle hints. Maybe add some toys or videos. Maybe you both can learn alternate ways to please each other. Go on line, maybe Dr. Ruth has a website that can be helpful.
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Don't be concerned you are adjusting to married life, and it is normal to have a slow down in sexual desire, just keep it fun...spontanous and romantic!! Surprise him...impress him....tease him.....
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just being straight up would be best.\n\ni have to read between the lines, not many details...\n\nit seems like there could be several causes... hang-ups, priorities, miscommunication, not being in the mood, fear of the unknown, performance anxiety, him not knowing your boundaries...\n\ntell your hubby how you feel, and let him know what you had in mind, and let him know you REALLY want it, there will be no pressure, no judgment, and let him know he can't screw it up... even if it doesn't work right the first time, you want to try something new for excitement.
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My husband and I have a pretty good sex life. It did go a little down hill when I was pregnant but that was because I didn't want anything. We are still young and have been married for almost 2 years, but we do have a baby and that sometimes changes peoples sex life, but ours is still GREAT!!! I still have that fire that I felt for him the first time we met. He also thinks that I am the most beautiful person in the world because I carried and gave birth to his child. If you want to keep sex in your marriage you have to keep love. I know that we might not have sex 3 times a day like we did when we first started dating, but 3-4 times a week is still very good. Sometimes it is more and when I am working my long weeks it can be less. If you are loosing sex in your marriage just find a way to get that spark back. If you are one of the few that looses your libido during pregnancy don't fret it will come back. I was a complete Nymph before hand so when I didn't want anything we both thought that was strange and I am not a nymph anymore but I STILL WANT TO MAKE LOVE TO MY HUSBAND. I just hope that I can say that in 20 years. Try things like porn or mild fantasies. Or even spice things up by really playing with each other. Just don't give into threesomes or if you are a man do not push them. My husband always wanted one until we met a couple who ended up divorced because of that fantasy. NEVER LET ANYONE ELSE IN YOUR MARRIAGE. That is a sure fire way to kill it. So if you are getting married enjoy the sex but make sure you let each other know when you want it and what makes it more special. Try to keep that spark going. I wish you luck. If you are already married I hope that you still do have that spark. If not try everything to get it back...
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M--- usually causes the opposite problem.\n\nFirst step: Get married or stay out of his bed.\nSecond step: You on top probably enables him to go longer. Try different positions.