Is 18 to young to get engaged, and 20 to young to get married. Do you miss out on more in life ?
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Is 18 to young to get engaged, i don't think so . have fun with that part.But is 20 to young to get married? well for some people it might be,there are some that get married at that age and are still together and thy were in love and they took that person for better or worse till death do them apart, but there are some out there that should never get MARRIED out there ,they don't no what it really means. And if your worry about missing out on life,you sure don't need to get married. i waited till i was 28 till i got married and that's when life began.
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I hate to have to break your rule because I am under 28 but over 21.  I know because a lot of my ex's were over 28 and a lot of friends and colleagues are in the age range as well.  \n\nI know for a fact that the word marraige is like taboo for some people because they feel like in some way this thing that is suppose to be happy is going to be a bad experience.  When you think about the divorce rates and how many people are having marital issues a lot of people attibute those issues to be being married instead of the real reason- THE COUPLE DID NOT THINK BEFORE THEY GOT MARRIED or are not aware of how to resolve their problems. \n\nMany people who have even been in long term relationships are not willing to even discuss marriage as an option.  I do not know why it seems so scary to so many people because marriage is suppose to be one of the greatest achievements in life.  This person is suppose to be your helper, lover, best friend and confidant.  Why wouldn't you want to spend everyday of your life with them? I think this is one of those questions that will never have a clear answer until we wake up and start realizing the importance of MARRIAGE.  It is the foundation for a family.  I could go on and on as to why people  are afraid to get married.  But my honest belief is that people are afraid of what could happen (in the negative instead of the positive).  \n\nI have friends who have been together for 4 yrs. and have children together but when you bring up marriage they are like "What? Who me? Oh, I'm not ready for that?" It is amazing.  It never fails to shock me. \n\nI will be getting married in one year and I look forward to the day that I become my mate's wife.  I feel like marriage only betters your life. I am sorry if this was long but I really have strong feeling about marriage.  Thanks for the question!  I hope you get a lot of answers.
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I was 14. and that was way to young. I don't think that age really matters but I do recommend that you are married when it happens.
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24 is still young!  Don't rush things:)  I am also 24, and unmarried.  I don't want to get married for a while still.  I want to do so many things before I settle down.  If you marry, it should be for true love.  Don't settle just so you won't be single anymore.  Enjoy your single time!  Love will come your way, most of the time when you least expect it!
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I think that people will be judgmental.  I think that all couples who get married should go to pre-marital counseling.  I think that it is going to be harder for you because you both still have so much growing up to do.  I am 23 and just got married in October... I changed so much between 18 and now.  It doesn't necessarily mean that you shouldn't get married but you do have to be willing to really work at your marriage if you want it to last.
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Of course you can ask them that is not your problem.  Personally, I think that 20 is too young to get married. I'm not saying it hasn't worked for other people but you seem to be going in an exciting direction.  Are you ready to get married I mean really prepared because if you are planning on taking it seriously it is a big responsibility.  Just being legally old enough doesn't make doing something right. Like teenagers having babies before they are independently responsible.  If he is not ready then he is not. Your life is not going to end it will just hurt. I have to tell you though,life will go on you never know maybe you fall away and get back together.  If you are meant to be it will happen you have to trust that.  Anybody is going to find being away for 3 yeas hard that is common sense.  You don't have 2 situations like get an education or stay and marry your boyfriend.  Just go on with the long distance relationship.  I assume your bf has finished school.  If he feels the same way as you maybe he will move near your school to be near. Maybe he won't . Either way you will survive. You can't predict the future you can only do what is right for your life now and let the chips fall where they may.
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20 is still young. Give it time before making such a serious commitment to someone. Some day you don't want to be in divorce court by acting so fast. If it is love it will with stand time...Nicky
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Age is not the issue.  Maturity is.  Kids should never be married.  If you mean at what age couples should have kids, perhaps two years after marriage, more if they need the time to balance.
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I was married at 28, engaged 8 months before. Engaged after knowing him for three years, and dating for two of those.\nBest advice is to finish school, live on your own separately so you know what real life is like - to earn a salary and pay your bills. If your love will wait, then get engaged.
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Not necessarily.  You just need to be careful, because marriage is a big thing.  I am assuming from your nick that you are a girl so..... Marriage at any age is a big thing and not to be taken lightly.  I have to agree with the other person that answered and said as long as you feel that it won't be an obstacle for you later then, no you are not too young.\n\nWhy don't you ask yourselves these questions and then maybe you can come to the answer to your question:\n\nApart from being in love with this man and feeling all the tingles and so on, do you see yourself living with this person for the rest of your life?\n\nImportant: Do you two have the same religous beliefs, morals standards , etc...to build a solid foundation and therefore later on stability for your children? \n\nWould you die for this man?  ( I know this question is a bit harsh, but you know what, my bestfriend asked me that when I was deciding whether to get married...it really sheds a light on things).\n\nMarriage isn't all tingles...babies come along, diapers, bills, arguments, etc....if you two can go through all that, then that's really LOVE.\n\nHope I didn't confuse you.
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i've been engaged for almost a year now we are holding off for those same reasons dont let people rush u into is...im also 21 and i kinda wanna wait and have fun being engaged then settle down...;good luck
74644
I don't think there is a age to get married it only depends on you. Ask your  self if you will want that guy to be with you the rest of your life?
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24, recently married.  I feel that you should be over 20, also have some direction in life before you drag someone else into it.  But if it is true love you will know with out any doubts.
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In my own personal opinion, yes. I believe that 17 is too young to get married. At this age you have barely experienced things--you've been pretty sheltered and gone to high school etc. But after high school and then going to college, it sure does change who you are and how you look at things.\n\nMy finaces sister in law is 19 and I look at her and think, she has no clue about anything in life. Almost all the people in her college classes will not talk to her because she is married. Plus, none of her high school friends will talk to her either now--but I also think this is for other reasons too.\n\nI think there is a lot more stuff you need to experience and discover before you get married--and at 17 most people have not experienced these kind of things. I went to college and I know that I have changed how I think, act and view things.\n\nTrust me, when you get married you will have to worry about things you never had to before--i.e. paying bills, buying groceries, bringing in an income, paying taxes etc. You're 17! Why should you have to worry about things like this at your age? I wouldn't want to--I'd still want to go out and have fun with my friends and raise hell like teenagers do. Ha ha. Rethink getting married--if you two are really meant to be together, then you will wait for each other and get married later. No need to rush into anything.
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I got in a marital sitiation at seventeen years old.I am now 25.I now have two children.I sometimes do regret starting out so young.Only because their were things in life that i didn't yet get to accomplish.I call them "self accomplishments"I am very greatful though that i have my son's.They are the world to me.I do believe that things happen for a reason.I still plan on working on my dreams and goals.Marriage is a lot of responsibility.No matter how old you are.You can get married at 30 and still regret it.Or you can wait and regret not getting married young.It all depends on the person.I believe that as long as a person accomplishes their goals and is truly happy with themselves they can live in a marrage happy.I realize that i don't regret being married,i only regret not preserving my youth.Being young is a preacious thing and once its past you can't go back.
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married at 20-25 and first child 20-22
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It is best to wait until you get married, but I lost mine at 17.  I've regretted it ever since.  I am 25.