If you caught your Husband cheating on the first week of your marriage will you ever trust him?
484529
Give him a second chance since you are married to him.  Marriage is actually a life long forgiving and acceptance cycle.  Remember, none of us are perfect and all of us can falter in one way or another.  Try to find other good qualities in him which you may miss if you keep reminding yourself of this one incident. God bless!
221000
It depends: do you have faith in him? You need to consider what happened with your last relationship. Was it something he did? Was it something you did? Try to figure that out first. That way, if you do choose to start over, you can fix it.\n\nNext, decide if your relationship can be salvaged at all at this point. Has too much gone wrong between you? If so, then make a clean break. Or can you be together without getting too awkward? Do you think there's too much pain, or do you think you can be together without having what went wrong throbbing in your heart each day? If so, then you may be able to save your relationship.\n\nAnd finally, do you want to start over as friends? So far, your husband's intentions and attempt seem genuine; it seems that he really wants to save your relationship by going back to the beginning and fixing the things that went wrong the first time around. Are you willing to go back to square one? And are you ready for if it doesn't work out?\n\nIf you choose to do this, then I think he's right when he says to take it slow. It would be hard, and expecting everything to fix itself quickly would make it harder; it's expecting too much. Chances are, it might even take longer than the first time around because last time, there wasn't the awkwardness or discomfort of a marriage gone down. It's risky, and it won't be easy.\n\nWhatever you choose, good luck and I wish you the very best.
692413
It will be a rough ride but you will have to accommendate the spouse until they feel they can trust you again.  This will include telling them where you are, what you will be doing and hearing the infraction over and over again until they feel you are trustworthy again. \n\nIt will not be easy.
538062
Well perhaps the question isn't about you trusting him, so much as trusting that you are good enough to be with him. Having cheated on him once, with success, do you still respect yourself enough to believe that you deserve to have a good man? It is easy to see the many, many ways a person can cheat. It is just as easy to see behaviors that mirror the ways you felt when you were cheating.\n  As you said, if you knew he was cheating, you would drop him like a bad habit. So in your mind you're sure that he would most likely drop you much the same way.\n  Believe it or not, in alot of cases, the cheating isn't even about the sex. It's about trying to fill a void of something that is missing, which alot of times we don't even realize. It could be the excitement that was there at the beginning of the relationship, or just the time you used to have when you just sat close in front of the tv. Most times dear lady, the cheater isn't actually looking for better sex.... just a new escape. Try changing some aspects of your life with your soon-to-be husband. Meet at a night club, and act as though you're just meeting for the first time. Or share a hot bubble bath, with candle-light and soft music, but without the sex. You may find your desires finding a new source to focus on, when what you have readily available becomes more tempting as you have that proximity but don't follow through with the sex. Anticipation is a good pressure builder. Good luck.
1179401
If he has cheated on you multiple times, he is not truly sorry. He might be sorry that you found out, but he knows what he was doing, when he went and embraced another woman.\n\nYou, and your children, deserve more respect than that.\n\nDon't settle.
123262
My wife has a family member who cheated on his wife. They since then have had a decent marriage, and he hasn't cheated since. They've raised two kids in the time.\n\nFor some it will work out, but YOU have to be willing to look past it. Granted you will never forget what happened, but you can't let it drag down your marriage. \n\nI think with most men, if they are not surrounded by the wrong situations, they won't cheat, but regular visits to the bar, strip joints, long hours at work with the opposite sex can often time creat situations that could lead to cheating for some men who don't have will power. \n\nHe needs to have his own friends, and his own life while married, but he also needs to understand that he has a wife at home. He should't put himself in circumstances that could create problems. \n\nHe needs to regain his trust with you, and that will take a LONG time. That is something HE needs to understand, and he should work to regain your trust. If he blows it off as no big deal, then obviously you aren't that important to him.\n\nIts a long hard road, but if the two of you work together, you can get past it.
384555
I have been with my husband for almost 3 years and had an affair 6 mos ago.  I told him and he admitted to his shortcomings that led me to seek love elsewhere.  Now he says he will never leave me because I am the only woman he has ever been with that was that honest with him about something like that.
1115600
That is one way of putting it... but in my case, I was fooled and he got tired of fooling me after we were married and just showed his true colors. Marriage is not something I will ever do again. It is a real shame too because I am in a great relationship. But I think marriage will ruin me if I try to do it again.
890663
No,I would not be ok with it at all.Do you trust you husband will never cheat on you?I had the same situation with my husband and it turned out this women he was such good friends with was trying to get him to bed and away from me.Your husbands friend may not be this way but look for signs!
638092
If you don't trust your wife/husband to be, really sure you want to get married?
182191
I think it depends on whether or not you could trust him again, if you know this is the only time, and how much you have invested in the relationship.  But the main thing is TRUST.\n\nIf you decide to take him back you MUST forgive him completely.  That means that you won't bring up his infidelity again - either by talking to him about it later on or by distrusting him every time he says he's going to be late.  If you can't trust him, you need to divorce him.
669637
Actually the statements about cheaters is not necessarily true. \n\none question to consider is how much time do you spend with him? is your week so booked you see him only at night before bed or do you make a consious effor to share 15 hours per week alone together. \n\nlike it or not both side in a marriage have 5 basic "NEEDS" if the needs go unmet then one side feels {cheated.}\nwhile just about every one knows men want sex. ( yep it's high on the basic needs list) rarely do people understand the other 4 basic needs they have for emotional stability. \nif your not providing all 5 then a void is open for another person to step in and fill the responsibility that is rightfully yours. the same holds true for men and their wives. \n\nyou can also learn his unique (love language) this is how he interpets (your actions twords him) as love. if he has a quality time ( love language) buying him gifts is not going to convince him that you love him. only time together will do this, \n\nGod Bless
609851
It's very hard to fully trust a person after they cheat. Even if you forgive them, it's always in the back of your mind that they did it. However, some people have moved beyond a cheating history and married and lived happily for many years...if you truly believe that he won't cheat again and that you have it in you to marry this man, then you should.
775330
Forgiving and forgetting are two different things and while your husband may have forgiven u, it doesn't mean he's forgotten about it  The trust that was rebuilt between u since then may  now be more fragile than it was before u cheated so it requires more of an upkeep (on your part).\n\nJust realize that trust, once broken, isn't something that's rebuilt overnight.  Sometimes it takes yrs and even then, it may never be 100% again.  The fact that your husband wants to salvage the marriage does NOT make him weak.  Quite the contrary.  It takes a very strong person to be able to forgive something like this.
491967
Sorry angel,  You will never know if he will do it again, how did you find out the 1st time? I mean did he tell you or did you find out? was it 1 time or 100 times? If he cheated then he would lie about how many times he cheated. You are the only person that can determine if you can trust him again or not. You have to decide weather the relationship is worth the worrying or not worth it and find someone to be with that you can trust.  good luck  god bless
203773
HECK NO!! Sorry but my hubby was in my eyes the type that wouldn't do anything. HE complained about how his mom cheated on his dad and he can remember what his dad went through. New flash my hubby cheated on me, sort of tried atleast I caught him and it was close all she had to do was email back with her number and address. I don't what will happen with us now that I found out but let your back be turned, expect everything. It is your heart...
408553
Yep. It's worse that he still sees her...how did you find out that he cheated? Did he admit it to you or did you find out yourself? It's awfully hard to trust someone even if it was someone before you that they cheated on. Often the cheater expects and awaits being cheated on and the cycle continues.