My wife and I just got divorced, but still love each other.?
487967
You got divorced for a reason.  Remember that reason, and move on.
534696
just one word of advice! You sound young, i got married at 19, and am about to get divorced (i'm 20) we rushed into things wayyyyy too fast. We barely knew each other well enough to move in together and be married. Take things slow! Stay engaged awhile!
411218
She realized she made a mistake and told you, but she only slept with this person after you separated on good terms.  If you still care about her and she still wants to be with you, go to marriage counseling together or just talk it out and see what you both want to do.  Trust your heart, and if you both want it enough, get back together.  Sometimes the second time works even though the first didn't, because you've both learned from your mistakes the first time.  \n\nJust remember, everyone is human and makes mistakes.
476093
It's true that you shouldn't make your decision based on your feelings. If ou find that it's really difficult for both of you to move on like this, I would advice for the divorce.It isn't the nicest thing to do but if you feel you want to, go for it.\n\nIn other words, I would suggest that both of you take another try on your marriage and try to mend it. After all, you've been married and there's a reason to that. You marry because of the love you have for each other. Think about that. Think about the reason why you did it in the 1st place.\n\nYou do not just marry her for no reason. Try using that to mend your marriage. Talk to each other and understand each other better. Counselors sometimes can't be trusted and that's where your money runs. \n\nI really hope you'll think about it. Hope you'll last together and be happy! Hope this helped! Good luck!!
218581
Honey, I know how that hurts. It happened to me with my marriage. I ended up divorced. It does no good to try to pick up the pieces with someone who no longer loves you. You need to just let her go. I know how hard it is but you do get over it in time. Give yourself some time to heal and then think about dating again. It won't be easy but you'll get through it day by day. God will help you and so will we. You can always find a friend here on YA. If you need to talk, my email is on my profile. You're in my prayers, Sweetie. God speed.
70919
Just try to respect your own religions and be happy for each other. Get back together and work things out, you obviously still love each other. Maybe that is your purpose in life that God has created for you. Don't stress on that issue that much because it can be worked out :-)I should Know so trust me
392468
It's the thrill of a new relationship.  Give it some time and you two should be back together soon enough :)
1048271
Firstly must say you seem like a very special man. Secondary I shall say that it is time that you concentrate on yourself a bit more (to be able to move forward)\n\nBe respectful, always reliable, helpful, be understanding, be her shoulder to cry on (life is funny.. but wheel turns). But at the same time give her space at this time as you don’t want to loose her.\n\nI had a friend who his wife left him for another man. They have two kids together. He was always there for her (but had other girlfriend but did not commit 100%: in fact I was one J ). If she was sick, or needed something, or pick their kids up: he was always there, kept nice contact with ex-in laws because of the kids.. She went back to him when she was in trouble. He let her. He let her leave him again for yet another man (even married) He was her friend, warned her about the guy who ended up to be an abuser. She left this guy in the end, she matured, and they now together (but he did not remarry), He is now 48, his wife 8 year younger. He married he as she was only 19.\n\n*******************************\nJust remember:\n*******************************\n\nForming a relationship with your ex is entirely separate from the process of ending a marriage; if you work through the process to achieve your "emotional divorce," you can cultivate something entirely new. Your old relationship is over; take the steps to heal so that you can invest your energy elsewhere.\n\nGood luck.\n\nps meant to say: and you get a new hobby and have fun with other people as soon you will feel better and might make new friends and will not feel lonely. The reason why we LOVe or MISS people is beuase we miss that comunication. Once you communicate with others it will be better for you. And who knows, maybe your ex -wife seeing how popular and outgoing you are might ant to herself be your friend asap.........  show her your new side that she did not see before :-)
72571
if you truly love your wife/husband, you wil undoubtedly want to keep them.  if you don;t know then you don;t love.  counseling won;t work.  seperation might give u a chance to fall in love with this person again.  if you're not game for that, divorce them.  it's unfair to both of you to stay married if there is no love.
64783
i do..But now i'm married with someone else.Still i'm in love with the first.(checked married&divorced yesterday)
575170
What you are experiencing is simply the thrill of "dating" your husband without the strings attached.  It is exciting because you are now the other woman and he is the other man.  It is like you're living a fantasy.  You two no longer have to share responsibilities and obligations.  It seems as if you are really in love, but that is not the truth.  You are the same people you were in divorce court.  Frustrated, bitter, and tired of each other.\n\nMove on with your life.  If he really loved you nothing would prevent him from getting back with you.
226334
You really need to sit down with her and have a total heart to heart chat.  No games just complete honesty.  Are the problems that caused you to break up been fixed now?  If not they need fixed before even thinking of going back.  Ive seen people who truly do love each other but for some reason they just cannot get along outside of the bedroom.  I feel for u and my heart goes out to you but you need to also think of your own emotional well being in this.  Good luck to u
179727
divorce can be what you make it,.. it can be ugly and bitter or it can benifit both sides.\n\nSometimes thing work, and sometimes they dont,.. if you are both not happy then move on,.. you only live once!
279382
hmmm.....if u still love him, try to work things out. if things dont work out, divorce! if you dont love him anymore, then still divorce!
621933
Hun, you like me,got married for the wrong reason,the love was not really there , but it was for the child you had together, to legitimate her, it happens a lot , but most of all as you and I have found out, it's harder to stay , you have to be happy for you and your little lady, and I would say to find a new love and move on, don't leave you two in a bad situation, there is, as they say, true happiness out there for all.  God bless  and good luck Follow your heart.
696621
Please, you are in lust with her I am doubting that love has anything to do with it.  You and your wife need to try and rekindle your marriage.
193353
There is no Guilt , what Guilt? U would feel guilty ,if u continue with her (him) without real desire to be together, do not only look now to the effect of the divorce,, but look further ,,to later, Yes, maybe she is upset , she feel victimized ,, but actually this is the right thing to do ,if people can not live together for any reason (even if  the reason does not look fair for one party)..You give urself a chance to find happiness (if u love someone than her, what is better for her (ur wife) ... to live with someone who doesn't love her (and u live with someone u do not love !!) , Or  to have a second chance to find a suitable mate for each other..As For children ,it is better for them to be with happy parents ,  even if they are separated (better then watching them fighting and unhappy ,)I presume u r fair , giving her, her legal and ,what u both think it is her rights , and the complete rights of ur children(financial, Care....etc)and more a little ...One of -ur ex wife -rights, that u become a friend to her, after all, u spent some (even if it is little) good time together,,wish her luck to find a good mate, wish urself luck to have happiness with new mate,work together to have healthy children,,,Good luck