ladies only.do u stop giving bjs after getting married?if so why?
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Because we hate giving BJ's..especially when the guy pushes our head down. I stop at that point....
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I am a recovering addict that thought that getting married would solve my problem. Honestly- many guys become addicted, but society tells them that it is no big deal, all the other guys do it. Society tells them that MB is no big deal and everyone does it. Some men (and even some women) become addicted. Many of them think that once they get married and can 'have the real thing almost anytime' that the problem will just go away. Well for some it might but for many it doesn't. I did not marry my wife because I wanted her to fix my addiction (I didn't even consider it an addiction at the time)- but I thought that once I got married my urge to look at porn and mb would just go away. When it didn't, I spent a lot of time convincing myself that it really was not a big deal (and found plenty of sites like this one with people saying I shouldn't worry about it). I even started to think that my wife was the one with the problem, she should just relax and not get so uptight. \n\nLet me tell you how it affected me. The more I used- the more I became frustrated with my wife, and the less I tried to connect with her in any way other then sexually. I was not there for her in any way shape or form- emotionally, spiritually, and as a friend. I think she could sense that and it caused my marriage to discentegrate. She became frustrated with me and I needed an outlet and the cycle just kept getting wose. \n\nIt is a big deal. He may or may not be addicted- you can't tell at this point because you don't know if he has tried to quit. You do need to confront him for your and his sake. I suppose there are some people out there that can keep it under control- keep it from getting wosre but I guarantee that there are many who don't realize what it is doing to them as a person, and that they are getting worse. \n\nI can absolutly tell you that once I quit (after getting help - I couldn't quit on my own)- that my relationship with my wife improved drastically. You don't really know how much more sweat and wonderful your husband could be if he didn't use porn, because he has probably had this problem for as long as you have know him. I will guarantee you that if he abandons it he will be able to be there for you so much better then he is now. A man cannot look at that stuff and not have it affect his opinion of women, he cannot consume it regularly and not have it effect his ability to connect with people. It is distorting his perspective of women, it is distorting his perspective of intimacy, and it is keeping him from reaching his true potential. I am way more in tune with my wife's needs now that I have abandoned it.  \n\nI will tell you I am forever greatful that my wife didn't just let me have that vice (EG:She didn't let me keep living beneath myself). I am so glad that she was willing to be vulnerable enough to let me see how it really affected her, how it really hurt her. I am also glad that she gave me the chance to change my behavior, and that she was patient with me while I went through some relapses. She was also very open with me and didn't let me think that relapses were ok, she didn't let me keep giving her excuses. I had been trying to abandon it for years, and she finally came to a point where she left me because I was not really getting better. When she did, I finally 'hit rock bottom' and got serious about getting help. I made some dramatic progress toward recovery because I really did love her and did want to abandon the addiction and when she finally made it clear that I couldn't have both- I decided to choose her! (I sincerely believe she did not do this as a manipulation- but that she had finally hit a point where she just couldn't live with a man who kept emotionally cheating on her, and was not able to be there for her).  \n\n\nIn my opinion, the best thing to do is to be very clear and honest about how his decision to consume porn makes you feel
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Yes, Yes, Yes!\n\nI waited until 20 years, 11 months.\nI know my husband wouldve never married me if he had gotten sex before the ceremony. Men are just like that.\n\nhopefully a husband will be gentle, considerate and loving during that onetime event. Mine lasted all night and finally at 8AM i was deflowered gently, lovingly \n\nA lover will be thinking of himself, take 5 minutes and leave you unsatisfied, wondering how to get it without being married and how fast he can dump you, so that he can go on to another.
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No, once you get married you should be able to say good-bye to the condom
385871
After Marriage if you dont have sex it wont last, being innovative and active in the bedroom is a very good way to keep me around and happy. I want to make my lady happy in the same manner. Communications is the key, the best sex organ is the mind. Good Luck Happy Easter
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Sounds like a no. You have been having sex with him, probably living with him - he has no need to get married; you are giving him all that he wants and he is totally comfortable. Talk to him again, and get married before the baby comes!
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I had a friend tell me after I had got engaged "you'll likely never see another woman naked again - and you'll definately never have the feeling of a first kiss again" and it relly didnt bother me. Think that through before commiting and if it scares you then you're not ready.
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probably because you regret it. you should have waited till you were married. your virginity is suppose to be a precious gift you give to your spouse on wedding night. now you don't have that. GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!!
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do you----take --- as your lawfully wedded wife/husband, now repeat after me .  I _____ do take ____ to love honor and cherish  for richer for poorer In sickness and in health, forsaking all others until death do us part.  Its been 10 years but I believe  I atleast got most of it right.
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was he not like this when you married him?\n\nor has he slumped down badly into this habit of not washing?!\n\ni know it sounds horrible, but you have to tell him.\n\ni really believe that when people dont wash for so long they dont realise that they smell. its like if you have perfume on for a long time other people can smel it but you cant, cos you are so used to the smell.\n\nbut he should have cottoned onto the fact that it is wrong and he should be making the effort.\n\nno matter how hard it is you have to give him an ultimatum and put it to him that either he washes more frequently or thats it.\n\nsleepin in a spare bedroom without sex and attention isnt a good relationship for anyone to be in.\n\ngood luck
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because we feel tied down and once we finally are free its a big stress relief and heavy burden off our shoulders i was married once before and she was doing crazy shit then she cheated on me with my brother so when we went to court\nand got it final i screamed for joy while she jus cried....anyway some people change once there married...sex stops, affection stops its doomed from the begining
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well when i was younger i really wasnt into it then after my first time i did it alot with the same guy atleast 3 times a day then i got with my soon to be hubby and we did it all the time when we first got together then after i got pregnant it died down to 0 times in 7 months then just today he got it couple of times and plan to do it many more
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Currently, no...\nMy hubby is deployed, so, sex has been put on the "back burner." But when he comes home...hehehe...that's going to be a whole other story.
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I've totally been there. It sounds weird to people that haven't, but it takes some getting used to. Don't think he's weak, or trying to trick you...just appreciate & enjoy it. What did I do? Well I married him!
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that was a great story clear up until the wedding ring part....i could literally hear the record needle scratching your awesome halloween party music to a silent and deadly halt.....If you're married then stop this thing before it starts. If you just said "missus" cause you were making a euphamism for your girlfriend, then explore whether you might need a change and be looking for someone new. But really. If you're married, you made a promise to her and even when a fine piece of miniskirt comes along, you got nothing if you don't have the promises you made to yourself and her. Best of luck to you!
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id stop!  i wouldn't necessarily like it... but it's a shared act - if i asked her to stop sucking me cuz she was biting ( or WHATEVER) i would expect her to stop.  She should expext the same from me - even if i'm starting to squirt - just pull out.\nmy 2 cents
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It's up to you and your boyfriend/girlfriend.   I was married when I was 18 and now I am 20.  My husband and I decided not to have sex before we got married. I know that some people regret having sex before they are married becasue it causes problems in their future relationships. But this is what worked for us.  You would have to talk it over with your sigificant other to decide what will work for you.