Why my bf is so upset with his ex wife?
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He's upset for the very reason you mentioned in your statement: he wants to get on with his life and feels that he has been more than responsible for the house than she ever has, which is obvious since she doesn't take care of it. He is also angry that she is being as manipulative as she is being. For example, she doesn't want to pay for her share of the household repairs because she wants as much cash as she can get to buy the house she wants. Consequently, he resents her. He knows that to sell a house and show it properly it needs to be in pristine condition for potential buyers to view it. If a house looks bad, needs lots of repairs, he will not get the asking price he wants or even get a bid that is close to his asking price. He knows that if this is the case, he and his ex will split less money from the proceeds of the sale. He also knows that if none of the household repairs are completed by the time he goes to closing on the house, the new owners have a right to deduct money from the proceeds to pay for the repairs they will have to deal with.\n\nHe cares about what she does because it will affect him and his wallet: not only is he paying for his own mortgage, but he is paying for the old house's mortgage too, and at the rate he is going with her, and her lack of cooperation, will probably be forced into paying for the repairs to make the house presentable. This is totally unfair to him. I can't say I blame him for being as upset as he is. She really is manipulative and very much a control freak.
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i don't really understand the question, but if your bf broke up with you JUST BECAUSE you got mad after he called his ex... that's really stupid.\nand that is all i have to say. that's stupid.\n(unless of course the phonecall was nothing big and you greatly overreacted and started screaming like a maniac.. then its understandable..)
536702
Chose who you want to see.  Don't take anyone else's word.  If it came from his ex, she may still be bitter.  Just keep in mind what she went through and watch yourself.  You are an individual and have your own mind.
672690
hi, i feel that you should not be talking to your ex, if\nyou are still close that good but he has a girlfriend, and\ni feel it very  disrespectful of him to be talking to you\nabout his problem with her. because if the shoe was on the\nother foot how would you feel. he need to get his situation\nwith her together and  if it meant for you and him to get back\nyou will. the big guest ion you should ask yourself seriously\nif he so unhappy with her then as you stated why is he still\nthere.
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Friend - It depends on the reason for the break up.  Does he know it bothers you?  Have you discussed that he may still have feelings for her?  Not all break ups are the same or follow any rules.  GBU
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Obviously they are not over yet. If you love him, set him free. He needs to be reminded of why she is his ex. Give him some time.\n\nYou will not have trust now. You cannot have love without trust. Love is action. His actions do not show love.\n\nI know people make mistakes, but this sounds like the beginning of a bad relationship. Free him now before it gets out of hand.
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I think he has a problem with letting go his exs' stuff and on top of it he has no respect for your feelings.Dump the no ball bf.
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1) Not at all.\n\n2) Instinct.  No males in the animal kingdom will let any other male to associate with his female.  What, you're not an animal?\nOkay, so we're a little more evolved than that.  But considering that you feel deprived of her attention and time, it's a valid reason to feel slighted.   \n\n3) Tell her only about how her speaking with her ex makes you feel.  Don't say anything about how wrong she is or what a dork her ex is, and etc.  She must know how you feel inside without you or her getting defensive or judgemental.  Your feelings should not be a secret to come between you two.  You're seething and at the same time, feeling guilty for not being a man enough to tolerate her male acquaintance.  This is not a \npositive feeling to harbor alone.  Once you communicate how you feel about her talking to her ex, she will understand how valid and right you are and should stop doing what makes you ill at ease.  \n\n4) Disassociate away!  I completely agree with you.  Personally, I tear up all my ex's pictures and leave no trace of them lying about, a courtesy to my husband to spare him of thoughts you are experiencing.
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Why would he ever let his friends use your cell phone?  I think he is lying.  Call his ex and find out what is going on from her.
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WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
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I dont think that you should be mad. All that happened was he went to his ex-wife home to see his son. She is his EX wife, EX being the emphasis. He cooked them dinner becuase he doesnt get to make his son food that often, he spilt food down his clothing she washed them for him. I think that you need to trust him. The base of all relationships is trust. To me it seems inncoent, even rather sweet of him. Remember he didnt hide this meeting from you.... therefore ther probadly isn't anything more to it.
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she is obviously missing the ex and isnt completely over him...there maybe something missing in her new relationship or maybe she started the new relationship too soon and is still on the rebound from the old one...either way she dosent seem satisfied with her new boyfriend
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Considering you aided in the breakup of her home, you should stay as far away as possible.  I suspect you either have feelings of guilt or you are afraid that your husband will do to you what he did to his first wife or you think he will realize the error of his ways and go back to the ex wife and YOU SHOULD!\n\nI can only assume there were problems in the husband's first marriage which caused him to seek consolation outside the marriage so you are not totally to blame for the distruction of their marriage, but you provided him with the means and the opportunity.  Now that you are in the wife's position I think you may see things a little more clearly.\n\nSomewhere within yourself you are questioning whether or not you can trust your husband.  You are questioning whether it is a pattern for him to seek outside the marriage at the first sign of trouble.  I also think you know your husband and his ex has unfinished business.  The problem that caused their marriage to breakdown was never discovered or brought to the surface and the possibility that he may wake up one day and realize he still loves his ex wife and he only hooked up with you because he did not know how to communicate his needs.  \n\nBefriending the ex wife is not going to keep the husband from cheating if he so chooses nor will it provide you with peace of mind.  Remember the old saying 'what goes around, comes around.  It is true and it is called Karma.
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Wow. Simliar to what I'm going through but except with cheating with the brother. I'm 20 and I noticed that since me and my ex bf had a age gap of nearly 12 years it was hard for us to work out our problems. He loves you and he doesn't want to lose you. Maybe your husband and his brother should talk this matter over. There might be rage but it's better then losing someone that you may never see again due to unforeseen future ahead of one. Before me and my ex ended our relationship I told him about how hurt I was that he treated me like "shit". He took the time to understand what he was doing to hurt me. You can try talking it over with him. If matters aren't resolve, I think it would be wise to end the relationship and move on. It's wrong for you to have to put up with his "shit". I'm truly sorry that you are going through this but we do learn from our mistakes. Good luck.
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There is definitely trouble brewing.  She obviously still has something for him, since she sought him out on MySpace and is actively chatting.  Never trust a partner who still talks to their ex!
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Do they have children together?If so no.He will allways be a father and need to be in contact with her about the children.If no children are involved and they just talk to have something to laugh and giggle about,yes tell him it bothers you.\n\nSorry I thought you said ex wife not family.\nHow long were they maarried?I am divorced,was married for 12 years,and my ex stays in touch with my family,it's ok with me and her new husband.If they were married along time they probably feel he is a part of their family.Bonds grow with family during a marriage,and just because him and his spouse didnt get along,dont mean her family dislikes him
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Wow, that's pretty messy.\nYes, a man with a kid is a package deal.  Unfortunately, the ex is part of that package.\nWhat is more unfortunate, though, is that this woman has him so tightly by the... ummmmm..... belt buckle?\nYou should not have to subject yourself to any such disappointment.  My recommendation is to have your man have some boundaries set IN COURT, because this woman has no right to give ANYone the boot, or to inspect ANYthing.  If it's YOUR house she wants to inspect, then she can do it while you're there, or not do it at ALL.  Actually, you should feel no inclination whatsoever to even ALLOW that sort of thing to happen.\nAs for your social life and appointments, you have your own life to live.  With or without a partner, with or without your boyfriend, and with or without his ex-wife's dictation.  If he's so worried about it, then he can tweak HIS schedule to work around her.  NO, it is NOT your responsibility.  Neither is it your problem, nor your fault.\nThe bad news is that if you can't live your life this way, then maybe you just need to cut it while you can, because until he decides to stand up for himself and take it to a judge, he is no better than a child himself.  Which makes it difficult to see a lifelong commitment, does it not?\nDo what you must, but I think you should tell him you shouldn't have to your life on hold for his ex-wife & her BS, and if he's not willing to realize that you needn't and you WON'T, then not only will he find himself fixing his schedule to fit, but will fix his schedule WITHOUT YOU indefinitely.\n\nOH!  I missed the preventing me from seeing my kid thing!  Yeah, that's crap.  You tell him, "No, YOU have just as much capability to do these things as I do.  It may be convenient for YOU when I pick up the slack, but it would be just as convenient for ME if you would do it yourself.  It is, after all, your responsibility." \nGirl, I think you just need to cut it, but that's just me.