My girlfriend and I fake our marriage, now do we tell or keep it secret?
485035
go and get married then it wouldn't be a lie
571393
TELL THEM!!!\nit screws up your whole relationship if you don't.
567646
Yes, you should feel guilty. No, you should never tell your spouse. It will cause a lot of pain. You will feel better not carrying a secret, but your spouse will know that you can't be trusted, and it could destroy them. If you tell your spouse, it could be the end of your marriage. Certainly, it will be the end of your marriage as you now know it. Your partner's innocence will be lost, and your relationshiop will never be the same. You probably already feel something had changed, or you wouldn't be on Yahoo! Answers spilling your guts. This is something you will have to live with. What kind of spouse is going out getting drunk at parties anyway? Your only hope is to give your life to Jesus, and be forgiven for your sins. Then you can start a new life and maybe get past this. Go to this link http://www.jesus-is-lord.com/save.htm Take your spouse to church and get yourself together.\n\nI sincerely hope that this has, at least, been a wake-up call to you that you need to change your lifestyle.
1055680
I guess the question is...did she know about this prior to marriage? If she knew of this and married you anyway, shame on her.  If you didn't disclose this until after you married, shame on you.  We should accept our spouses as is without wanting to change them.  If she cannot accept you and you want to live the way you are comfortable, then you should be fair to each other and separate.  If you want to stay married to her, then dress only when she is not around and respect her wishes.
338482
Yes, I have told b/fs about the bd things bout me, if you don't let him know, and he finds out later, to me that's like lieing, in order to love and be loved, you have to let the bad things out as well.  Your partner is suppose to your best friend in all the world, if this is true, then you should be able to tell them anything and everything.
898369
I would get some pictures and tell her. Pictures are proof, she might be too blinded by love to take your word and you said you two weren't friends anyway. Or you could just drop off the pics anonymously at her house or work.
901375
My opnion is I think you should tell her. What if she doesn't know...what if she doesn't think her husband is a cheat? I mean, I didn't. I had no idea until he told me. I'm glad I found out.\nYou have to follow your heart and choose what you feel is right.\nBut remember if this was you and your husband had a side dish, would you want to know?
65103
You gave up personal privacy and freedom when you said 'I do.'  Why would you want to keep secrets from your wife?  And if your marriage is healthy, you can have freedom *without* keeping secrets.
973112
screw american law.  You don't need a peice of paper from anyone to prove to you YOU are married and want a lifetime commiment from the person you love the most, just tell her she's your wife and hold a ceremony somewhere the both of you find attractive and and share your thoughts on the future and express your love for one another.  And don't forget to continue this thinking in every day for the rest of your life.  Cause thats what it is all about.
700607
Good job sweetie! If she had nothing to hide in the first place she would have told you about it, or not lie when you confronted her with it. If she didn't tell you because you would have gotten upset, then she should have not been doing it. Maybe you we her only one (meaning the only one to get her legal)for right now until she became a citizen.... then divorced you for the other man she lied about! I'm not saying that all men she talked to could have been potentially dating her, but be aware of her motives.. There are alot of things that I could get away with because my other half does not check up on me.... but why do it??? To betray him, loose his trust, or even potentially break his heart?? NOT WORTH IT!
61443
this happened to a friend of mine.   keep ur mouth shut and if u talk to her, talk to her about keeping her mouth shut too and let her know the consequences for if the secret does come out.  also remind her that it takes 2 to  tango
543674
Stay honest, if both partners know what you're doing you may be suprised by their acceptance.  If they don't want that kind of relationship then you've lost very little.  It's much easier to live guilt free, no matter what you like to do. Just be honest with everyone you come in contact with.
73193
It depends on the secret you want to tell.  But make sure it is something that if it were to get out you could take an immediate action on it.  Try and think of it like you are the one holding the secret.  Does it need to be let out or kept aside until the time is right.
601180
I don't think complicating things would be a good idea. Though if you really love her and feel that you have to express it. Then you could tell her. I mean, that's not going to ruin their relationship. You're just trying to be honest. You're feelings are also valid.
261032
You've blown it man. She won't trust you now. Let this be a learning curve.\nBelieve me, you have more fun keeping your mouth shut.
398041
You didnt do this while with this girl did you? If not I can say this much: Never hide anything. If you really love this girl then dont be afraid to tell her. I know from experience and I can say that we have the best relationship even when we were separated half the world apart
241826
we guys never tell the truth until we are married