My husband and I never talk and he says I only yell, that's because he never listens.  Should we get a divorce
494098
NO, I say you should try to work things out. Marriage is a special bond between two people. Remember why you married this particular man, this special man, and remind him why he choose you to be his wife. Also both sides probably has truth to it your more than likely yell to much and he probably doesn't pay attention to his beautiful wife. If communication is what your after you may have to find a common ground on which to talk to him about. Remember marriage is a long winding road not a straight clear paved street. YOU may have to compromise to get what you want in the END.
451003
Firstly how long have you been married?\nSecondly has he acted like this before?\nIs your husband in a a lot of stress from work? Maybe he is venting on you - which is not fair on you! Does he have a problem with your friend that is coming? \nI cant seem to see any reason for this behaviour? Try dropping it for this weekend and do something else with your friend when they come. Maybe try to talk about it some other time - after a bit of time has passed - when he has calmed and you have gathered your thoughts as well. Point to note: he doesn't get violent on you does he?? Because that should not be tolerated AT ALL. Remember you are not a punch, physical or emotional. If this behaviour continues - he has no right to vent all his anger on you. That is not fair on you. \n\nIt is good that you want to work it out with your husband and I really hope that you do. Best of luck.
199802
Was your husband serious? Either way, this is a major issue. If it was a joke it was in serious bad taste and you need to tell him that. If he was serious, you need to tell him that you're not chattle! If it was a test, tell him to go to hell! If you want to save this marriage, I recomend counceling and getting to the bottom of this. If not, say good bye.
856582
Please join the rest of us in the modern world, the wonderful world of the 21st century. \n\nI can see how much you love him, so much so that you want him nowhere near you. Either get a job or get a divorce and find some idiot who is willing to put up with your nonsense.
803616
I'd get up and leave the room. With that said.  My son says my hubby and I fight alot, and to us we are not fighting.  We are discussing different things and giving our points of view to each other.  Usually we don't raise our voices and maybe it would be considered bickering by some.  But really it is harmless.  So I wouldn't worry about the divorce issue.  If they say they wouldn't get divorced than believe them.  No sense worrying about it until it really happens.  \n\nOn the other end of it.  It is not fair for either of them to ask you to side with them.  But maybe they are trying to get you in on a discussion.  Make it a family thing?\n\nGood luck.
183469
He has some serious problems with control. I would think if this is the way I wanted to live. He has no right to tell you that you can't do something. He is your husband not anything else. K
140862
He won't get a divorce because it's easy. THAT'S the excuse he gave you???? HAHAHAHA! Now I've heard everything and I will think about this one when I need a good laugh. Be smart and dump the loser.
396230
time to call it quits. you have to tell yourself no more. \nNo more will you take this mess from him. No more will you \nkeep arguing over stupid stuff. Tell yourself you are a \nwoman of success. This is 2006 and it's time to get it and\nthe rest in order. A woman can do bad all by herself. We\ndon't need a man to do bad or give us hell. We are the mothers of the earth who bare children in pain. We deserve\nour respect. Gone girl friend and let him know that the mess\nstops now. Gird up loins and put your foot down. You ever\nseen Diary Of A Mad Black Woman? the lady put her foot down.\nDon't hurt your husband just let him know what's up and leave. Don't get depressed because God is about to show up\nand show out.
422707
I am also a "passive" person, but not quite to the extent your husband is.  Have you ever considered the fact that your husband grew up in chaos, and didn't have a male figure around for him to learn from?  Don't know his background, but his "symptoms" sound a lot like the way I grew up.  If it seems he "likes" chaos it could be because he doesn't know how to resolve chaos.  And as far as him "blaming you", have you ever considered that he is feeling pretty crappy cause you can handle things better than him? If you truly love him, be kind and patient and understanding.  Help him learn that you can "fix" chaos.  If you feel like he can walk away from the marriage without ever turning back, have you ever considered that that exact thing may have happened to him?  Try turning it around and not being so dominant yourself.  Turn to him and let him know you value his ideas, thoughts and decisions, and you NEED him in everyday life and decisions. If he makes a "wrong decision" but it isn't hurtful, life threatening, or irreversible, go with the flow and let him learn from mistakes, knowing you will stand behind him no matter what.
831949
Maybe you two should seek couple's counseling.  His anger is alarming.  It could escalate into something worse.  Do yourself a favor, and try to get help for this.  He should not explode like that and say those hurtful things.
837534
Sometimes staying married for the sake of the children, hurts them in the long run.  Children can pick up when the parents aren't getting along. Growing up in a loveless marriage is hard on everybody.  What do you really think you are teaching them when they get into relationships.  You speak of him being abusive towards you, any time that is evident, I feel you must distance yourself from that situation, also this is definitely not good for your children to witness.  If he were able to sit down and talk in a civil manner, perhaps you might have a chance, but it seems like he is cutting off all communication .  It's a hard situation no matter which way you decide to go, but whatever you do, think of the children first.
824434
Yells at you MORE when hes with his family? Why is he yelling at you EVER??? This is totally disrespectful and you should not stand for it. You need to implement a "No YELLING" rule, none is allowed in the house. If he ever starts yelling, just turn and leave the room, leave the house if you have to. He will learn that it does not accomplish anything to yell. He is teaching your child bad things, and this should not be allowed. You need to come up with a better way to communicate. Counseling can help here if you don't feel you know any strategies to improve communication.
414753
you need to divorce him...NOW!!!!
246861
your husband sounds like a loser\ni think you need to leave him for someone who will come home to you
612557
sweetie. you need to have a talk with him. don't continue to be unhappy. it's not healthy. ask him what are his plans as far as the marriage is concerned. hope things get better for you.
542780
Get a new attorney and a restraining order or order of protection against your husband. It just takes longer to get a divorce if he is contesting the divorce. Some states make you take marriage counseling first. Good Luck.
126091
Someone has to give in. Either one is talking too much, or the other is not listening at all. \n\nCommunicate to your spouse that you have a part to play in this hardship between you and your spouse. If you're usually the talker, just listen. Bite your tongue when you have a retort.\n\nCalmly assess the problem together. No one can have an open and calm discussion when one of the parties are angry. So delay the discussion if you have to.\n\nBe honest with yourself. It takes two hands to clap. So admit fault, apologise and if possible, seek a counselor.\n\nPraying also helps. Good luck :)