I need help with my boyfriend...?
490714
show me the book that defines the "normal" boyfriend/girlfriend stuff, then i'll tell you what you're doing wrong....\n\nno such thing girl. follow your morals, listen to your parents, make your own judgement. the last thing you need to worry about is PEER pressure.
491687
He may be going through problems and does not know how to deal with those problems.  He may be trying to work those problems out.\n\nHave you sat down with him to try to find out what is going on in his life?  Maybe he is having problems at home that you are not aware of and it would help him to talk about those problems.\n\nI would suggest that you don't go into a relationship with him again if he is still dealing with the same problems.\nInstead, be there for him, but if he keeps that wall between you, then there is really nothing you can do.  He is going to have to work it out on his own.\n\nGood Luck to you both
896059
Hello:\n\nOne of the hardest things I have ever had to realize is that loving someone isn't enough to make a relationship work. \n\nI was in a long term relationship with a guy, whom I was in love with. The only problem was that he was insanely jealous, and I am a little too trusting. He would assume I was cheating on him, if I had a conversation with a guy friend (a guy friend that I had been friends with long before I met my boyfriend). And if I saw him chatting with a random girl I would just assume they were chatting, and nothing more. I should also say that I have never cheated on a boyfriend, much less cheated on this guy. \n\nEventually he started to push the limits more and more when it came to making me jealous, so much so that he started making out with a girl at a party we had gone to together. Even though afterwards he told me that it didn't mean anything, but that he wanted me to feel jealous, it was too hurt to try to make the relationship work. \n\nWe had a long talk and learned that we had spent so much time trying to hurt each other, that we didn't have anytime to enjoy each other. Obviously our relationship was disfunctional, and I'm happy to say we are both in relationship and are successful and we are still friends with one another.\n\nThe relationship I have now is fantastic. But we still do have problems. The best thing I have done in this relationship is that we face issues head on. But we both know how we each deal with stress. When I am stressed I like to be left alone, where as he likes to be distracted and just take a break from it all. We are able to recognize when we are stressed, and how we can help the other one deal with the problem. \n\nI would suggest that you wait it out. You've been in a relationship that has been successful for so long. Wait until he has started school and starts feeling comfortable there. But be supportive and if he doesn't want to talk to you about his feelings - just let him know that you are there for him if he ever needs to talk or a distraction. \n\nI hope this helps and good luck!
212493
Who needs a relationship that's this difficult? There are better ones out there. I'm not saying he's a bad guy. You two just sound like a bad fit. Find someone who is more in tune with you.
1044617
Boyfriend, don't do it! \n\nBe blessed and don't jump into that forced mess.
569533
The only thing you can do is to trust him,and communicate with him. If you talk to him about things, then maybe he will be honest with you and communicate his feelings as well. If you can't be open with him about things, he is more likely to stray if he doesn't feel you are giving him what you need. If you try all these things, then maybe you two can be happy together. The one thing you do not want to do is try to control him, this will drive him away completely. Be his girlfriend, be loving, and caring and pay attention to him and definately COMMUNICATE! that is the key. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!
849748
He has a problem that will only ge worse if it is not adressed.  Suck it up and tell him to get the help he needs.  If it is meant to be, then it will be.
654458
You should seek more help than might be found here.  If things don't change it may become a serious issue between you and your boyfriend, and you're obviously concerned about it.\n\nSee a doctor, perhaps, or a therapist?
204620
You don't need help, you need to dump him.  You don't need this loser in your life, you deserve better.  Kick him out of your life and find a man who will love and respect you.
83304
Tell your boyfriend how you feel. Dont tell him he cant hang out with him but ask him to make an attempt to spend more ALONE time with you.
986512
You're going to need professional counseling. It sounds like he has lost motivation in the relationship and the underlying cause may be hard to find without a counselor's help.
828004
This sounds a little weird, so I definitely think that you should talk to your guy. Tell him that this is really bothering you and that you don't mean to go crazy on him. If he really cares about your feelings, then he won't just blow you off.
820543
You don't have to suggest anything to him. Isn't this season supposed to be about giving rather than recieving? I know, the dude has nothing to give for you....but if you don't have anything to suggest to him, then you have everything you could possibly want. Right? So basically, you can just tell him that you already have what you want, and that is your boyfriend. Of course, only say that if that is the truth. Don't lie to your boyfriend.
1032928
Can't you tell him the truth?  Think about what you like when you are on the computer (games? chat? surfing the web?) and try to tell him why you like that.\nIt sounds like he's feeling left out.   Is there something you could do together on the computer?  Is the computer more important than your relationship with your boyfriend?\nOnly you can figure those things out.
502080
obviously he knows he has a problem and hes asking you for help..support him and help him through..some guys dont want to help them selves feel lucky that your man recognizes his problem..dont leave him..stay and help him through it..he needs you..be there for him.
146533
Well, if you don't want to break up the only suggestion I have is talk to him about it. If he is in love or even if he just cares about you he'll understand what your needs are and be more considerate of you.
236311
talk to your bf, see his side of the story.....