the nice guy line where to go from here?
475831
It's a tough one.  But, from a female perspective...don't change your attitude towards her.  Most guys would start acting like a jerk towards her because they're hurt and can't handle the uncomfortable situation that they are now in as her friend.  I think you should just blow it off, don't make a big deal about it.  Act like she was the girl of yesterday, and a friend of today.  She could have been telling the truth or just making up an excuse because she's just not interested or ready for a relationship at the time.  If you show her that our friendship comes first she just may "see the light" and come around.  Or maybe not, and if so, don't sweat it so much-at least you'll still have the friendship, and hope for something more as long as you want a chance.
435385
Don't worry about this guy you like.  If you think he is a jerk enough to reject you for what you look like, then he isn't worth your time.  You don't need to hear that "let's just be friends" line.  You're better than that.  You are who you are, and when the time is right, you'll know where you belong.  Keep your head up, and you'll be fine.  You don't need a man to complete you, anyway.
11924
If you want a sort of casual approach, get tickets to something and tell him "I have an extra ticket to ______ and I was hoping you'd like to go with me, if you're fee that night."\nBut, trust me on this, sometimes the guy you think is out of your league, is actually afraid to approach YOU.... I missed 20 years of having someone quite amazing in my world because when we were young, I thought I had no shot at all to be anything but his "pal"....came to learn just this year, he never understood why I had the time of day for him, thought I couldn't possibly be interested.\nBelieve me, Darlin', there are things in life far more painful than being shot down.
1034594
Just ask them out.\nThe fact that you ask a "nice way" means that you are trying not to get turned down. DOn't look for a manipulative way to ask someone out......your perfect and if they don't recognize that or want to take the time to, then it's their loss.
58896
Well, yes. You have to go out and find HER. And the meaning of NICE differs according to your preferrences. Others think one girl maybe nice does not neccesarily mean that you will find her nice. It's all up to you. So, good luck.
67434
Whatever you do, be polite! Your rudeness might come back to bite you in the future. But just say that you're taken, that you're not lking for a relationship, or that he's a really god guy but it's not going to work out.
1139609
Hey but shit !!   ....whats a guy to do if he IS uptight and serious ?\n\nOK ...I'll try and lighten up and won't even put in 6 links to useful; sites and quote Wikipedia and Google......but its not gonna be easy !!
520850
Sounds like you've been down that road.  Nice guys are out there.  You've already learned what not to find in a guy.  Now, go out there and find what you want.  Remember how the bad guy introduced himself?  Well find a guy that introduces himself better.  This is the interview process and it's your decision who get's the job.  So choose wisely.  Just because he has nice eyes doesn't necessarily mean he's nice.  Check his manners, see how he reacts around your friends, do all this before you say yes.\n\nGood luck.
1049850
Just continue being your sweet and wonderful self and there's a guy who's bound to like you for you and wishes to spend all the time in the world with you. Don't give and you'll see everything will be alright :)
41415
are you super shy? coz if your not, just go up to him and say\n"if i say you have a nice body, would you hold it against me?" \nhe will laugh. and you can take it from there.\nhey, if man use corny lines why cant we.\n\nbut seriously now, stop planning. just go up to him and talk to the guy. treat him like your friend.\nand be confident. you got this in the bag!
176965
he seems like a nice guy.. talk to him about how you feel!!
122355
ENJOY IT.\n\nI spent 20 years being "nice guy" on the outside, too. It just gets you used.\n\nJust make sure when you go "rude", that it's by being funny, and not cruel. Besides, whether they admit it or not, chicks *REALLY* like that; even more than they realize.
672224
Well first off be a GOOD listener and secondly---be a gentleman and above ALL be yourself. Things will fall into place from there.
313701
get to know him \nu bitch i love u laura
858700
BE YOUR CONSIDERATE SELF. YOU SEEM TO CARE ABOUT OTHERS. I AM ASSUMING YOUR IN YOUR YOUNGER YEARS. DON'T BE ALL TO SUAVE & OVER SEXY. SOME GUYS WILL LOOK AT THIS APPROACH, AS A ONE NIGHT GET DOWN
1048219
Nice guys tend to be in nice places. You won't catch a brook trout in a storm sewer. Join a church or the Young Democrats or the Young Republicans or the Sierra Club. Volunteer for a work day at Friends of the River. Join a gym. Look for single dads at your kids' activities. Stay clear of bars.\n\nTake it very, very slow. Assuming you are past 35, from the list of problems, you will probably have to settle for someone 10 - 15 years older than you. It is an ugly fact of life that there are about 2 nice women for every nice guy out there, so the guys can pick and choose.\n\nMy wife works in a large medical building with a lot of nurses. We belong to a large church, and I work for a meduim sized-corporation. The lack of reasonable men is astounding. I know just 2 single men I would not hesitate to introduce to anyone. I know a dozen women I wish I could pair up with nice guys.
711384
The last thing you want to do is to show any signs of desparatism. Dress with class, ( no short dresses or mini-skirts).  Really the guys who have a sense of class really respect a lady when she holds herself in high esteem.  Talk with your friends as though you are just truly out for a nice evening.  If someone does hold an intelligent conversation with you, well that is a good start.  You know don't fall for the one liners, and can I buy you a drink? Stay away from that.  If a guy holds an intelligent conversation, then maybe later on in the evening a hug can be managed. (You must play extremely hard to get) Really the class guys really like challenges.  If you dress with class, conduct yourself with a sense of pride, and wear a very nice perfume, you may get a hit. Remember bars are not really the best place to meet someone for relationships or so forth.  Just remember that, and choose very wisely who you hold a conversation with.