Women, if you feel yourself falling out of love with your partner... could you ever gain it back?
488046
I have mixed feelings about this one. I fell out of love with my husband years ago. I stayed because he was all I knew and we have 2 kids. My mistake was that i didn't confront him when i began to notice I didn't love him any more. Instead, i  told myself it'll get better. But it got worse.\n\nIn my experience, once it's gone, it's gone. I am now divorced and am OK with it. You are right about there is something in a woman's eyes. My husband said the same thing to me.\n\nI'm sorry I couldn't give you something more positive to stand on.
91354
No. That's only considering yourself and some (probably temporary) emotions.\n\nAsk anyone who has had a successful relationship (>15 years) and they will tell you there were times when they were not satisfied with each other. When they worked through it and waited it out, they found it was just like a passing storm.\n\nIf you break or injure this relationship it will not get any easier for you. Even with the 'perfect' partner it will be almost unmanageably diffucult at times.\n\nBy bailing out each time it gets difficult you are dooming yourself to a life of constantly moving around and never being satisfied.\n\nThey will also tell you that any relationship requires both to actively work on building the relationship and that in the end it's worth it.
894953
Not sure.  I'd feel pretty heartbroken, and probably would be very near to ending the marriage.  It depends on whether or not my husband was sorry.  Haven't had this happen to me, so I don't know.
428447
you are finding fault in your love...
11553
I don't think so. If you love someone that much, you will never fall entirely out of it, if the relationship ends. You can never love that strong twice.
643274
I've fallen in love only once. Yesterday we broke up, I did it only because it was the right thing to do, yes, I got very hurt. Now I wanna fall out of live with him, if that's even possible. The problem is that love makes me always see all his good qualities, never the bad ones. I hope it's true what they say that time heals, 'cause I'm as sad as my avatar looks. As far as advices go, i don't really have any, love is a different experience for each person. Just enjoy it, take chances and live at 100%, you might get hurt, but otherwise, you might feel like you never lived in the first place. Thanks for letting me share, I know it's quite long. Good luck ;)
357880
You need to fall in love all over again.  Try planning a weekend at a hotel together.  Pamper a woman and make them feel that she is all you want.  Women love to have attention and if she gets that from you, she will return the same affection.
539892
I would feel pretty hurt, but if I stayed in the relationship I would owe it to my significant other to speak up.  I would just tell them I felt like I was doing all the initiating and ask why they didn't do it more often. I would also tell him or her that I needed to feel wanted and pursued, and see where it went from there I guess.
765609
if a girl  asked this question, i will answer it the same way,  u cant force love on someone  and yet u can wake up ur loved one by showing her that u are not scared to move on without her.  i think when someone falls out of love, the worst that u can do is to tug on her sleeves to stop her from leaving you.  be strong and show her that u are.strong....don't sacrifice ur dignity and self respect for love...if u think she is making a mistake...i think she might be...then that's her loss, not yours.
738388
Not sure I get the question but I was with my ex girlfriend for 3 years and I thought I was in love with her then one day I sat back and thought "I don't actually like her, let alone love her". The revelation kicked me in the ass and after that I couldn't bare to be in the relationship with her anymore. She is a wonderful human being and very beautiful as well but I just felt nothing! I completely devistated her but even now, 6 months after she has gone, I still feel nothing for her! Odd!
488320
yes ... but it hurts you very much in the beginning if you really have been serious in the relationship. Eventually, it fades off and you forget it completely after you found your new love
243625
Yes.  Falling back in love is not all that difficult.  Sometimes you just have to pay special attention to each other to get the spark back.  It's definitely worth it so go for it!
968788
Tell me about it, feel like giving up every relationship always ends up wrong.  eg: my last relationship was going great untill he got a new job which required him to move back to america...so that ended like all the others....is there any hope out there?
341189
Hey sweety, I'm sure that what you think you're going through is very drastic for you, but keep in mind that your lady is going through it right with you.  She may feel like the fire is out because your isolating yourself and not sharing all your feelings with her.  I have forgive my husband many a bad decision for a couple honest words and a true desire to be in love with me.  I think you know how to fix this if your heart wants it.  Best Wishes
570470
Did you know all this before getting involved with that person? If so I can image he does feel that way. If not than maybe the love wasn't as strong as you thought. You can only do what you feel you can................
741139
I think in a long marriage you go through that in cycles. You cant always be in love deeply and passionatly ALL the time. There are times when you just really care for someone, love them like a friend, but do not have the deep, passionate feelings you used to. But it does come back if you care for and respect the person you have chosen. Stress, problems and work can be hard on love. \n\nBut I think it is a shame so many people give up when they lose those "in love" feelings for awhile. They usually do come back, sometimes with an even deeper love than before, and dating is the pits. The grass isnt always greener. What you have might be the best your going to get!
179038
I am sort of in your situation, but in reverse.  I have started falling out of love with my husband.  I don't want to, and am trying very hard to prevent it.  I will tell you right now, I know why I feel the way I do, and have tried to tell him, but he just sees it as my nagging him.  When someone does something that hurts you, I believe that you should let them know so that he/she has the opportunity to recognize when it happens again, then stop it, or apologize if it does.  Well, the way it started with me: The failed attempts at communication and the fact that he acts like he doesn't have to lift a finger to keep this going...keep the flame alive so to speak.  I can tell you right now that the main reason why I am here is because I made a commitment to this man, but if I had not, I would have left him already.   Have you "listened" to your wife?  Does she feel loved?  Don't think that just because you come home to her every night she should feel priveliged.  Actually "make" her feel loved by doing the little things.  Open her doors (even as independent as some women are, this is still a sign of wanting to take care of her), write her a note, buy a card or flowers.  Take her out on "dates" even the movies is great.  Just hang out with her and talk about nothing, but have have fun.  She should be your best friend, the person you can joke and carry-on with...act dumb and laugh at and with each other.  Just let her know every day that you love her...genuinely.  Do not ever leave her or hang up the phone with a "byeloveyou".  Tell her "I love you and I will see you soon".  A lot of times the way you say something and the tone of voice say a lot.  If you are geniune, and let her know in your actions that you want to be there with her and be the one to take care of her, then she will do the same for you.  I may know what she is going through.  My husband says he loves me but more than not, I feel taken for granted and like an annoyance.  I can feel myself not wanting him anymore, and I can honestly say that I love him, but I am no longer in love with him. If you love your wife, give it everything you can with all of your heart.  Don't let her leave you (either physically or emotionally) thinking "I should have".