I need advice. Having serious problems at Varsity?
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For what it is worth my guess is that, in part at least, it's because we still live in a male dominated world, preoccupied with status and earning capacity which perhaps views the damage this will do to his education/career prospects/future as more 'threatening' to society.\n\nI'm not condoning such attitudes, merely hoping to expose them and remind myself (and others) what is important. We desperately need to learn to recognise there are other forms of harm than financial or material and that other people matter. Nowadays there's more respect for things than for people.\n\nIt is however possible that the reaction your getting does reflect a sort of collective guilt, at some level perhaps they can't face you because they feel responsible that some of the protections weren't there, that they have put pleasure before integrity and in some way let you down; just a thought! People may seem they can't face you but in reality be hiding from themselves...\n\nI wish I could say it is going to be easy for you; if he is found guilty he may go to jail (here in the UK for a pitiful 6 years if the news items are anything to go by) whereas you have to carry this for the rest of your life, where's the justice in that?\n\nAll I can really say is try not to let yourself become victimised by all this. People can be shallow, cruel, self-interested and yes, heartless, but not all of them are; look out for the good ones... \n\nIf needs be you can change schools as someone else mentioned, even take time out if you can, but don't lose hope - you still have a future and if you can move on and make that as succesful, happy and prosperous as it can be then not only will you find a form of fulfilment, but you'll be repaying him double... whatever the sentence he's labelled himself a loser, an animal and sub-human for all time by his action; you still have the chance to prove you're not. It might not look easy at the moment, but don't let him take that prospect away from you too...
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Your professor doesn't meet outside class? I think universities in general require professors to hold office hours outside class. Contact a dean or administrator if you're sure he doesn't hold office hours because that's just not cool.\n\nTell him what's up anyway. If you don't want to talk face-to-face, at least e-mail him or something. See if you can get an extension. Just tell him the truth: you're not sure what's going on and you need extra time.\n\nDon't allow yourself to fail. Failures really suck on the GPA. (I know. I've been in your exact situation, except with a calculus class.) Beg for an incomplete, if need be (this will give you at least winter break and part of next semester to finish the paper). Claim anxiety and/or depression and/or some other convenient illness.
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Not if you keep working hard.  I was on the Freshman B team in High School, but then I ended up playing on the Varsity team at the end of my sophomore year.
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Academics are your first priority in school. Like it or not. Even at the college level, I had to keep a 3.0 minimum grade point average. If you can't dedicate yourself to your studies, then what is there to make the coaches think that you're going to dedicate yourself to your sport? Remember too that people who are on school teams are representing that school in all aspects, not just for the sport.
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confront the coach about it. try ur best. don't give up. & keep ur head up\n:) good luck
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"Bad" is a subjective term.  You would certainly not be current with today's standards.  I suggest you speak with your department regarding what your school's standard is and follow that.
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try to talk to your case worker,minster, school  just keep talking until someone listen to you    good luck
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Well if you think she's failing you all on purpose go talk to the principal.  If you can reason with her, ask her if you can do extra credit or what you can do to pull your grade up.  Better yet, ask her if she can tutor you.  Teachers hate when they have to do extra work and maybe she will take it easy on you guys.
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As a tutor, I understand how you are feeling. You might be suffering from test anxiety, which is so very common. If you feel you might be nervous when you take exams to the point where you blank out and cannot concentrate, then I urge you to start to acquire test taking skills as well as confidence boosting skills. We, for good or for bad, live in a world where your peformance and your acumen are measured under time constraints. Folding under pressure is seen as a weakness and a liability.\n\nI am sure you are quite a bright individual. If you believe you are not suffering from test anxiety, have yourself tested to see if you have a learning disability like dyslexia or dysnomia so the proper assistance can be given.\n\nI cannot stress enough overcoming test anxiety. You are in Grade 10. You will be taking SAT or the ACT pretty soon. If you apply to graduate or professional school, you will be taking the GRE, MCAT, GMAT, or LSAT. When you graduate from college and decide to apply for a job, you might have to take tests then to analyze your competencies. It seems unfair, but I tell you these things quite candidly.\n\nThe ABSOLUTE WORSE thing to do, which you are doing from reading your statement is to doubt your potential, to despair to the point that you are doing now. Students (individuals rather) learn quite differently; but the professor/teacher usually instructs in one mode which you must try to adapt to.\n\nIn the short run, grades are important, because they serve a signals (albeit biased signals) of ability. In the long run, they are not, but persistence ALWAYS is, coupled with the creativity to overcome obstacles and challenges in different ways. \n\nTo prove my point, two of the most brillant people in the world were considered failures in school: Thomas Edison and Albert Einstein. Martin Luther King Jr. was horrible at public speaking in college (who knew?), and Michael Jordan was SECOND STRING when he first joined the UNC basketball team. Oh well, there you have it. If that is not inspiring enough, I do not know what is.\n\nSlight correction: I meant to say when Jordan joined his HIGH SCHOOL basketball team he was second string and eventually cut. He DAZZLED as a TARHEEL. My apologies.
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Why are you in such problems? :(\nIf it is something serious, you'll have to talk to them.
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Make an appointment with the Althletic Director first. If that doesn't settle the problem then go to the NCAA. IF that doesn't help the Media. If it is juciy enough the Media will do something. \n\nI was a collge student athelete who had a problem with a coach. Another players father donated a considerable sum to the University so that they could build a new 20,000 seat Hockey rink, under the conidition his son played on the team and started. His son could barely skate and I lost my scholarship. That was 1974. So I know the routine.
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no because u might make it next time my niece has alot of guy friends who play jv and are juniors. just because you play jv doesnt make u a bad player besides alot of the varsity team cant play very good.
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Deffinatly play!  Number one it shows great detication, which will help for next year.  Also it will help you improve, you can't get any better if you just give up because your friends arn't on the team.  In my middle school for modified basketball we have an A and  B team and I was put onto the B team, and I hated it!  But I stuck thought it and played, and now I'm a starting point guard on my Highschool Varsity team.  So deffinatly stick with it no matter what, if you love the sport just practice a lot.
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Respectfully ask the coach for a private appointment and ask him if he can tell you why he didn't make the cut.  \n\nAsk him for pointers, tips, help and if you can still participate in practices as you would like to improve so that you are maybe played later int he season.
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go back to your professor...be honest with him and ask him for help. Professors do not enjoy failing students and have the viewpoint that everyone deserves a second chance. Ask him or her what you can do to redeem yourself.
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How did you treat your girlfriends last year.  Trust me, if there is one thing we girls like to do, it's talk...  If you were a jerk, word has probably gotten around.  Did you move up to the high school?  You may be dealing with more  competition...older guys with cars.  I know it's frustrating, but you may just have to be friends with the girls for a while to build up your reputation.  If that doesn't work, there's always next year's incoming freshmen.  Good luck.
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When I was in high school, several of the best players on the varsity teams were short. My sister was one of them - she's only 5 ft 1 inch tall and she was a great player. Some of the other short players were notable for their speed and three point shots. \n\nIf I get a vote, I'd say go for it, but have a back-up plan. It's awful tough to make it as a pro-athlete, and whether or not you do, you'll still have to eat! (If you're wondering how to come up with a back-up plan, I'll tell this - the people I know who are most happy are the ones who are doing something they enjoy. Develop hobbies you love - you'll be suprised at how often they can turn into careers!)