im getting married soon and i hav a friend who i get on great wit but her other half is a different story.?
488290
Well it depends. How long have you know the other half? If you just met the other half then I wouldn't but if you have know him for a while then....I don't want to sound mean to you but sometimes we all have to do things we don't want to do. If this friend was a true friend try to talk to her about it. She should understand. \n\nOn another note.... CONGRADULATIONS! I hope the best for you and your future spouse!
533224
No friendship is supposed to be like a marriage for better or for worse  Have you brought it to her attentiopn that you are worried about her behavior?  Try an intervention with other friends and maybe someone fromher family.  You need to talk to her about what is bothering you in a nice way so she doesnt get offensive.  If you love her and value her talk to her
55398
If she's already engaged you shouldn't try to be hers. If you really like her just talk to her more and just be real close friends. Don't let her fiance get suspicious.
1031955
I hate to say it, but this is one argument that you're not going to win. The fact is, this was her wedding. She shouldn't have made you uncomfortable during your stay, but by the same token, you could have made other arrangements if it wasn't comfortable for you. And you did agree to be her maid of honor, something that you either could have turned down, or split with another bridesmaid. It's not unheard of to do this. \n\nIt probably wasn't an issue of punishment, more an issue of first come, first served, and you would have kicked someone else out of a bed. \n\nWhat it comes down to, it was her wedding. That means that she is going to be in the right in her mind, no matter what you say. My suggestion, leave this out of the equation when you talk to her. She'll just get defensive and you'll look petty. Take some time away from her. If your friendship will survive, it will happen in spite of this. Eventually, and if someone else brings it up, she will probably understand what she did was wrong. \n\nLet her make the decision about "de-friending". By asking the question, you've already made up your mind. It's not something that you can just choose to do; feelings aren't that temporal. If there are issues, they'll come from a long ways off. See if time and distance will help, and see if she's making any movements towards reconciling. You may need her later to throw you a party!\n\nGood luck!
47060
Sure she does! She tells you these things bc she feels safe with you. Now if that's all she does is tell you all the bad stuff about her life and takes no interest in yours, then you are a crutch to her. It is up to you if you want to hear about her other friends taking a crap on her or whatnot. If you want to be the crutch, I suggest selective hearing. It can be a downer to hear about her crap friends, and keep suggesting that she gets rid of them and the negativity they bring. Hang in there, it may be a phase and she'll realise what a friend you are and drop the losers and hang out with you... someone who cares...
105768
your in a hole different ball game now. your married they are not. this is when you find out who your real friends are. and you being married shouldn't have anything to do with them not hanging out with you any more. i will ask my good friend and get back to you
239596
Consider that if you stay with her and get married a year or two down the road, you are going to be henpecked. Sooo...if you want to be happy, leave and find someone who respects you more than she does.
255538
you need to make a decision...is this person going to marry me and will it last forever. These arent questions that you can hope for but must be 110% certain that both answers are yes. Now this is probably very unlikely. Friends are your family, usually closer than family. You tell more to your friends than you do your family so they must be preserved at all costs. The way this situation has arisen then you must make the choice now and not later as there may be no later. Your friend is feeling betrayed even if you didnt mean it that way. You need to fix things with your friend first and maybe they will give you their blessing which would work well for everyone. If they dont call your new relationship off immediately.
942230
Have you communicated to her that when she says these things they make you feel bad. She may not realize talking about her fun weekend with another friend was hurting you when she hought she was just making conversation. The fact that she says "you weren't important enough" really hurts! It hurts me to hear that someone you consider a friend would say that to you! It sounds like she is being really immature with her emotions, especially for soemone who is old enough to be married. You can serve as a good example by communicating with her in the way you would like to be communicated with, even to the point of being straight forward and saying, I wish you would say something to me when you are angry with me instead of withdrawing. I want this friendship to work. Try to talk to her in a way that isn't accusatory like "You do this" but talk in a "You make me feeel [blank] when you withdraw.. " or incorporate "We" into your conversation like "I feel we need to work on communicating with eachother better, I care about you and I want to work out whatever is bothering you" If she doesn't change and retains her mature attitude, I would find someone else who respects you enough to be upfront with you. When I read this, it sounded llike a "friend" I have right now who posts her thoughts on an online journal instead of telling me upfront in an appropriate time and place. I tried talking to her a while ago but she hasn't changed and I find that she just makes me more upset than happy and I am trying to find a safe and respectable way out.
828024
maybe you should sit down and talk with her and ask her how she feels if you assume to much it could come off as an insult if you dont assume enough you will always wonder for the simple fact that you are married could be the reason that she is not coming straight out with you COMMUNICATION!!!
689093
talk to your friend about this    she should understand if shes a real friend.
481475
I was married to my first husband for 10 years and I knew from the beginning that he was not right for me but because of loniness and my situation at home, I got married anyway.  Sometimes you think that you can make that person be the right one for you and on down the line when they dont become the person you thought, you realize that you have made a huge mistake.  I hope this helps you understand a little bit.  Just be there for your friend and dont judge her for her feelings that she has and ask her why did she get married in the first place and i bet she was sort of like me.  Good Luck
1073109
oh man, it sounds like a divorce and is probably going to feel like a divorce.  If she thinks you are doing well and she is not, then that is her problem and not yours.  Don't let her make it your problem.  She has to come to terms with her own issues and maybe she can't do it if she is constantly comparing herself with you.  When you run into her, always smile, ask about her son, just carry on with life and maybe tell her you'd like them to come over for dinner sometime if you'd like.  She has dropped the friendship, not you, and so really the ball is in her court to pick it back up.
1155213
You should read my answer to your question about what happens when your best friend gets married? Like I said, it depends on if your friend is the same gender as you. My guess, and this is a guess, that you are a guy who had a best friend who is a girl and she got married. If I am correct than you need to read my answer. Again, the only relationship that outways a best friend is the romantic love relationship. If she married someone you must let her go. She must not have thought of you as her best friend, or if you were best friends, she is too blind to make the best choice and she settled for less than you. If she thinks that you will still be best friends she is mistaken. Don't let her blame you. It's not a choice, it's human nature. Go online and research friendship, love and value exchange. Human nature dictates what I am telling you. I don't even know if what I am telling you applies to your situation as you only referred to friendship. It is important to distinguish the gender of the friend you speak of and the extent of your friendship and if the friendship was a mutually fair exchange of objective values.
199913
Hopefully,  she realizes that you are a true friend ,  and she has a dirtbag for a spouse.  Reality check though,  she will probably find a way to blame you for trying to seduce her husband .  It would be a lot easier than admitting that the man she wishes to spend the rest of her cinderell story life with,  is a lying cheating Puss-Bag.  Sorry hone,being you would suck ,  I would hate to be in your shoes,  But if it's any comfort,  I applaud  your courage and honesty.
1036574
when you say this is the only wedding she'll ever get to plan, didnt she have one of her own? and if not then thats no reason for her to take over yours, this is your only chance to plan the day of your dreams you need to sit her down and tell her, you appreciate her excitement but you already know what you want and tell her that shes making you feel guilty, chances are she's so caught up in it all she doesnt realise.   good luck, i hope you sort it all out and have a fantastic wedding day!!
1095214
Sounds like your friend needs to get into marriage counseling.  Marriage is hard and if you don't work at it and really put the effor in to keep your friendship/relationship with your spouse good it will go sour eventually.