Should I stay with my babydaddy?
482805
is that the only preoblem? Now if you guys work thru it, if so then stay, but if not...them peace out on him!
1080971
Get out as fast as you can. He will have to pay child support. But he isn't faithful & why have your children grow up around a man who messes round.\nYour happiness seems to NOT be important to him.
544189
I REally THINK YOU SHOULD LEVE HIM,i KNOW YOU MAY LOVE HIM,BUT AS HARD AS IT IS,IT'S GONNA RUIN YOUR BABY'S LIFE EVEN MORE IF YOU STAY WITH A GUY THAT HAS MANY CHICKS,AND THE BABY GROWS U HAVING 4 MOMMAS!yOU DONT want that sweety,leva ehim,there are better guys that will love you and your baby in hands...This guy is not worth it..Maybe all he wnated was to mess around with you..Unfortuantely.\n  But,he wont stop,all guys say they will stop for their baby,and most keep cheating...LEAVE HIS *** and dont regret it!Dont return to him,and always be happr that your baby didnt grow up with a father that will teach her/him to cheat and do bad things!!!Good luck sweety!
954247
Hi Charlie, well you and your man have both survived in this relationship for this long, have you learnt all you need to know from each other?  I think most people reading your question will see that you want out.  It could be easy to say maybe you have some post natal depression but it sounds like it has been bad for a long time.  I found the first six weeks with my first baby one of the most difficult in my life, it was like a slap in the face, so I can only imagine how hard it must be without the support and love you must be craving at this point in time.  \n\nStill, this is not about sympathy or feeling sorry, my answer is about being strong and moving on.... I can certainly relate to staying in a bad relationship with a man with a violent personality, getting together with him when you're both too young to know any better, changing the way you behave to keep a peaceful atmosphere in the house, doing what you can to keep him in a good mood etc.  You said it 'i thought id found the one' - you haven't. He isn't the one for you and you are not 'the one' for him, he needs some time on his own to learn and grow from his mistakes before he moves on to his next relationship, don't buy into any rubbish about suicide.  You care greatly about this man, and he knows it, just decide that you will not be manipulated into staying with him.  \n\nI believe you know what is best for you and your baby and I don't think you have any room for a needy, immature, selfish, bad tempered man in your life, even if you  love him.  I understand that you can feel for him, most likely a great deal of sympathy has replaced the attraction and love you once felt, you need to let him go.  You will be doing him a favour in the long run because he will then have the opportunity to learn. I also understand that it can seem safer and less scary to stay in a bad situation that is familiar than start down a path of the unknown, but your unknown has some certainties...freedom to be you, freedom to dress as you wish, freedom to see your friends, freedom to speak, freedom from fear, freedom from manipulation, freedom from guilt.  You owe each other nothing, you may feel you have made mistakes and the wrong decisions (many people have) but none of it is really wrong if you see what you have learnt and gained from your experience.\n\nI just want to add here that you must not base any of your decision on what others may think.  All those people who may think you are happily married, the people who may have given you presents at your wedding, his friends, your friends, parents, family etc.  It doesn't matter what they think.  What matters is that you create a positive environment for you and your baby.  If others understand and support you, that's great, if not keep focused on what you want.  My understanding of your question is that what you want is the freedom to be you, to live without fear, to live without the guilt and manipulative behaviour, to live as an adult making your own decisions, to not feel alone. \n\nIt was the last thing you wrote that prompted me to write.  You deserve to feel love.  I know being a new mum can be a very lonely place in itself, so I really want to encourage you to hold on to your courage and move on.  Even though you will be in an emotional turmoil write down an action plan for leaving and what you will do once you do.  Join mothers groups, plan time with your friends, contact support places, plan to do one nice thing for you each day.\n\nThe question you asked was 'has anyone else been in my situation?'  My answer is yes.  I hope that by reading supportive answers that you feel even just a tiny bit less alone.  Others have been there, and life can be all the better for what you have learnt, what you now know.\n\nGood thoughts and wishes to you.
85653
You need to decide if your in this relationship for the long haul.  If you are then his kid is a major part of his life and should be in yours.  While I know you can't be on call all the time you can help him make arrangements for getting around.  He is also going to have to adjust his life for a few months and realize that there may be times when he simply can't be some where.  However, he should always be there for his kid and if your committed to this relationship so should you.
754360
It seems he is using getting close to your daughter as a way to stay in your house (maybe not intentionly) Sit down and talk to him, tell him your not ready to live with him full time. If your ready for try having just stay over at weekends. If he loves you he will understand, but be prepared if this is not what he wants to hear this may break upo the reletionship. First think clearly about what you really want and when you approach him with the subject just be prepared for what your gonna hear in return. \n\nGOOD LUCK!
474952
baby girl, stay. if it meant to be; it meant to be. there's alot of guys out there who would love to go out with you.
1001344
LEAVE HIM!!!!  I HAD ONE OF THOSE .. DIDNT LEAVE HIM WHEN I SHOULD OF AND NOW HAVE A KID WITH HIM...\n\n\nIT ONLY GETS WORSE.... TRUST ME..... AND YOU KNOW WE DISERVE BETTER.. THERE REALLY IS MEN OUT THERE WILLING TO SPENT THERE LAST PENNY ON YOU RATHER THEN ON THEM SELF...\n\nIF YOU CONSIDERE THIS A PROBLEM AND YOU ARE ONLY DATING HIM WAIT TILL REALITY HITS YOU WHEN YOU LIVE TOGETHER....\n\nYOU NEED A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF YOU ...\nNOT A CHILD TO LOOK AFTER...
570388
Oh my!  Why would you even think about staying with someone who treats you like this??  Do you think you NEED him???  Let me tell you, if you are financially dependent on him, get out anyway!  Do what you have to do!  Staying around in this relationship will only hurt you and your children.  Do you really want to raise you kids around this man and them think that this is normal and healthy?  Do you really want to teach your kids that it is OK to be like this.  If so, they will be just like you or him and just continue the cycles.  Do yourself a favor and get away from him and get some respect for your children...QUICK!
697846
Girl i was in the EXACT same situation!!!!!lol.I went with my gut and i went with the good guy.....my baby's father showed his true colors and cursed me out,and that's when the simply fact of him changing was fount out to be a lie!I thought to myself,my good guy would NEVER do that.....we've been in situations that we were going to stop talking,and a curse word never even left his mouth.....go with the good guy....baby fathers never change.....trust me in a couple months when he's still in his dirt,you'll be kicking yourself for letting a good thing go.
574189
He may be feeling like these are his last days of "freedom" and the ability to come and go as he pleases.  You can't make him stay home with you, he'll only wind up resenting the situation.  All you can do is tell him honestly what your needs are and that even though the baby has not arrived yet, his presence with you helps you feel secure and less anxious of the future.  A guys night out even once a week or so is not bad.  But if he's out all of the time, you need to find out why he is reluctant to spend this quality time together.  Also, can you compromise by the two of you going out together sometimes?\n\neditted to add:\nAnd dear lord, do not let people tell you that pregnant women can not be sexy or that you are used goods.  You have a precious life growing inside and any real man would recognize that for the miracle that it is.  A less confident man may not.  Also, I got pg out of wedlock.  I am now happily (usually, lol) married with 2 beautiful children and even if the future would change with my husband, I would never ever regret the experience because I have the 2 greatest joys of my heart sleeping upstairs from me.
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You need to decide what is best for you and your child. Is he a caring person who will welcome the baby? Do you think that he would be willing to support the baby?? I think every child should know their father and the father has the right to know he has a child, what he does with that information is up to him.
1067652
Let the child be with daddy as much as possible.\nEspecially if dad wants him/her around. Children\ndon't understand the problems that cause parents to\nbreakup. Love the child, let daddy play a big role in life,\neven if it cause you discomfort. The child will love you more\nfor it and when he/she grows up your child will understand\nthe sacrifices you made and be also more understanding.\nSorry, I am assuming you are separated from the child's dad.\nIf not, be thankful that daddy is such a great guy and is loved\nby this beautiful child.
579553
You are not taking away your daughter from her dad..He can visit. It isn't healthy for you to stay if you don't love him. Ya can still be friends! good luck!!
167599
well one thing that my guys dose when he is worred and for some reson thinking i bout to leave him is he will get up one morning fix me breasfeast iin bed just pimper me all day and i forget bout all our fights and everything so maybe u should do the same cook clean take care of the baby for her some pimper show her how much u love her and maybe take the next step in yalls relastionship ask her to marry u
679033
I GUARANTEE that you did the right thing.  I have been there, done that.  If he really loved you, he would not have treated you that way.  Who is more important to you, him or your baby girl?  Do you want your baby girl raised in that type of environment?  Your daughter is your life at this moment.  She comes before ANYBODY, even yourself.  If you love your daughter, think of what is best for her and you will know in your heart that you did do the right thing.  I strongly commend you for getting out of the hell you AND your daughter were in.  NO MAN IS WORTH THE VERBAL, PHYSICAL AND MENTAL ABUSE.
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Hunnie things happen in life for a reason. It is up to you how you will deal with these things and move forward in your life. No one can tell you if you should keep your baby or not. That is you and the fathers decision. Just think of all that comes with the situation good and bad. Listen to your heart and make the best decision for you. If you would like to talk more you can IM me or email me. Take care and good luck sweetie