Why is it hard for most guys (including myself) to show affection when in a relationship that offers alot?
478281
Because men are brainwashed into thinking that affection means weakness, when in truth the opposite is the truth, I have the utmost respect for men that can show they have feelings.
480958
We have all been there to some degree or another.  The most important thing to do is to set boundries.  If you give too much, too quickly, often men will expect only that and see you for only that and not want to commit based on physical relationship only.  Try to build solid friendships and relationships first - dont go down that path any longer.  You are worth it, he will wait.
951422
i am sorry you are going through this   he sounds conflicted and i would like to see you with a guy that after knowing you so well would find it easy to love you be with you and have the courage the vision and the energy to offer you proper attention touch affection and be emotionally available for you  please look else where and make your self available after knowing him well the man of your reality not this lost soul if he comes around later and gives you a proper romantic relationship then fine please don't be blind to the ones probably screaming for your attention
1183210
There must be  some guys out ther eint he world like that, I mean i'm stronger than my boyfriend and as afr as I know and I hope lol he loves me and a few of his friends have crushes on me, i don't think it matters what yewr both interested in aslong a syew rintrested in each but some guys may see yewr strength as a threat to their egos but don't let it get in the way :)
532323
Extremely important to me but most people dont kiss passionately enough.
382487
There are many good women still left and I am sure they are asking the same question you are about men :o)  I think in life people that have been through relationships are either more shy about giving too much or just scared of getting hurt.  I was just talking to a friend about this subject today and some people are not comfortable being alone and not really ready to be with someone, which can be perceived as being closed....who knows but I do believe everyone has a someone!!  Good Luck and I hope you find what you are looking for soon....
1180532
The most common reason is a lack of getting to know each other enough to build all the things that make a relationship strong. honesty and trust and understanding are often taken for granted and this is mainly because they rush in a relationship.
1016351
Everything you do is for you.  That's human nature.\n\nIt's hard because no one wants to intentional hurt someone's feelings, but in the long run, you did him a favor because you wouldn't have been committed to the relationship.  You would have been distant and he'd have been wondering what was wrong.\n\nIt's all was best to be open and honest.
391885
maybe you two need couples therapy... usually guys want it all the time, so maybe he is suffering from a low libeto... don't give up yet, you have options...
662393
I used to be like that around guys eventually u will open up and ur relationship will be so fine! say YES!!
235737
Guys are shy when it comes to feelings and the like.  Also they don't like to open up unless they are almost positive the feeling is returned, they don't like to be hurt.  Sometimes you just have to coax it out of them.
905847
First of all it's not in the human nature to see the good in people. Secondly, u cant blame anyone man or woman for questioning gestures especially when it comes to a man woman relationship (especially if ur dealing with attractive members of the opposite sex). Like if a guy approaches an attractive lady  and if the guy is attractive himself (or vice versa) the first thing on ur mind is usually not 'oh he's such a nice guy' it's usually where's the attached string or what does he/she want. Some people try to deny this NATURAL reaction and be like oh I didn't think anything of it. Granted, sometimes there aren't any hidden agenda's but unfortunately an evolution has occurred in the boy girl relationship world (partly thanks to the media) so u just gotta go through the whole process. Prove to whoever it is ur interested in that ur sincere and see if it works out.
51743
If you are keeping score its not a relationship worth having. You do what you can with what you have to work with. In some areas my significant other is much needier than I am. In other areas I am much needier than she is. We don't hold back, but give what we have to give and accept what we are offered believing that if there was more to give it would have been given and that what has been given in love should be accepted. I hope that's not confusing.
295777
I would think that it is mostly a self-confidence issue. It is really hard on a person to feel that they must convince their lover that they are happy with them. This can be very detrimental to a relationship. If you doubt your lady's love for you, that hurts her...imagine a negative self image in the converse. If it's an issue to you, you'll probably make it an issue for them. Basically, have faith in yourself and faith in the lady. If they don't respect you, they weren't worth your time anyway.
214903
Guys, afraid to love? You must be kidding! Guys are warm & affectionate & generous with their emotions. We share and confide and console. I can't imagine WHAT you're talking about.\n\n(Actually, most guys are like your boyfriend. We don't learn to express our emotions very effectively and, when we're young, we feel so many different things depending on what our hormones are doing that day, that we don't know WHAT to express when we WANT to express it. Best thing for you, just move on. You'll find someone.)
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Lack of practice.\n\nWomen talk about their feelings with their friends all the time, so when you get in a relationship it's already natural. Guys almost never talk about their feelings with other guys, so when they get in a relationship, it's often the first time they've ever had to really try to do it.\n\nMany guys are willing to learn how to express their feelings. Be patient, and teach them how.
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guys are very sexual and if you don't care about there needs then they will stray . also in a relationship there are many key  factors you must take into consideration trust, love, communication, comprimise, and sex, sex is about 50% if not more of what makes or breaks a relationship and the other part is the rest of what it takes to keep a relationship solid.