How should I cope w/ loneliness?
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start doing the things you like; trust yourself; love yourself; be with people that appreciates you; live your life to the fullest. lofe is TOO SHORT for mellow drama.
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find peace within yourself\nyou can be alone and not be lonely\nwhen you become happy with who you are, you lose the loneliness.go to your church or social events\nhang out with your friends ,if your marriage is over move on.
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Hear a good music, It is a best motivator during problems and also loneliness. Talk to your friends through phone or visit a good motivative sites. Have a chat with others and you can also read lot of good books.
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I am sorry you hear that you are lonely.  There are churches that help out lonely people. Find a good church and make friends. Or better yet, go to the home for the aged or old age community.  There are many old people who go there to find company. Good Luck my man!
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I think there are a lot of people out there who have experienced what you're going through right now. You're not alone in feeling friendless! People tend to gather in cliques for no apparent reason and it can be difficult to break in. I applaud your efforts for trying! It may be helpful to join a club or an organization that congregates for a certain reason: e.g., volunteer organization, running club, sports groups, etc. This may help because then you will have a conversation starter about the common interest you have.\n\nIt also sounds like this has affected your self-esteem (and understandably so). As difficult as it may be, remember that you are a beloved child of God! He has created you in his image and you are the apple of his eye. He loves hanging out with you and listening to all you have to say. Living in this truth will allow you to be more confident in yourself.\n\nTake care.
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Sorry to hear about your problem. Without knowing you and knowing details, it would be hard to help out. But, you might ask yourself what you're looking for in a friend, how you define friendship, and then take it from there. Praying about it might help also. Good luck. \nAs Sting says in Message in a Bottle, "Seems I'm not alone in being alone; hundred million cast-aways, looking for a home."
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Spend time with your close friends and tell them whats on your mind.  They are guarenteed to be very supportive and do what they can to help you out.  Being with people you have laughs or a good time with will easily make you feel better than sitting in a dark room brooding.  Basically you need to be out and active, have exposure to the sun, start looking at other guys that may help.  And if that doesn't help time will.  Over time you're guarenteed to let it go and move on.  Just remember that this isn't the end of everything good and fun, something else or somebody else will run into you that will give you enough pleasure to be yourself again.
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This isnt the place to meet people, go out be social join a group...there is no reason to be lonely unless you choose to be like that....good luck
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OK.. you confuse me... lonely? Ok Ok! Sometimes its good to be on your own, find out who you really are. Its always good to get back to your roots and the reason you feel lonely is because your not yourself. Remember... You dont need anyone to make you happy. Once you are happy and whole... Then youll stop being lonely and be able to make others happy and whole aswell. Take care. Heidi
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Put everything in perspective...what's the worst that could happen as a result of everything you mentioned above?\n\nCan you find some other interests?  Meet new people?\n\nThings will turn around soon, nothing remains constant.
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take up reading, doing crafts is a good time passer\n\nget a computer, you can learn, play, chat or a million other things on-line.\n\nI know it is hard.  I have a friend who is in a similar situation, for that matter I have been there myself.  I know it can be hard when most of your old friends are married with kids etc and you feel so isolated.  When I was alone and basically broke I tried to just stay busy with something.  Get a pet, they are good company too.\n\nOh yeah....\n\nDon't pay any attention to some of the people who are answering with mean stuff.... they just don't have any understanding of your question, some people can't help but be a@#holes.  \n\nI don't think they understand what you mean when you say you are on SSI.  Some of us do.  I realize that you can't go out and get a job.  There are still many things you can do as hobbies etc.
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First off, you need some time alone just to reflect on it. I don't mean let it consume you, but if it ended for a good reason then you need to be alone just to regroup and get yourself together. After that go out and have a drink with some friends. Get back into the social scene, but steer clear of the relationship deal for a minute
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Hi, I'm really sorry that you're miserable, its quite hard to advise you without knowing what is making you so unhappy; if youre lonely then i would advise to try to get out there and mix with others because there are so many lonely people all wishing they had more in life, how about pen friends or chat rooms? anyway i hope things improve for you soon.
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When depression strikes, the depressed person isn't the only one affected. Everyone around them -- family, friends, and co-workers -- feels the impact.\n\nHelping a loved one cope with depression can be key to his or her recovery. But it isn't always going to be easy. Here are some tips.\n\n\n\nGet the facts. The first thing you should do is learn more about depression. Read up on its causes and treatments.\n\n\nGet other people involved. You can't do this alone. Your friend or loved one may want you to keep his or her depression a secret. But that isn't healthy. It puts far too much pressure on you. So try to get a small circle of family and friends to help. That way, you can help look after your loved one together.\n\n\nAsk what your loved one needs. Be direct. Unless you ask, you just won't know what your friend or loved one wants from you.\n\n\nDon't try to solve the problem on your own. Your loved one needs professional help to get better. Depression is a real illness. You wouldn't try to cure a friend's diabetes on your own. You shouldn't try curing depression either.\n\n\nOffer to help with the practical things. People who are depressed are easily overwhelmed. Everyday stuff -- dressing the kids for school, grocery shopping, or laundry -- may feel like too much. So pitch in. Sometimes practical help can make a big difference.\n\n\nTake time for yourself. Taking care of someone who is depressed can be overwhelming. So it's key that you set aside time for yourself. Do things that you enjoy. Get out of the house on a regular basis. Take walks or go to the gym. Catch a movie or dinner with friends.\n\nGiven what your loved one is going through, you may feel guilty or selfish for thinking about yourself. But taking care of yourself is crucial. If you don't, you'll burn out -- and that won't help either of you.\n\n\nKnow your limits. There is a lot you can do to help your loved one. But you can't do everything. You can't make your loved one well. You can't watch him or her 24 hours a day. These things aren't in your power. In the end, your loved one has to want to get better, too.\n\n\nTake threats seriously. Suicide is a very real risk of depression. If your friend or loved is threatening to commit suicide, take action. Don't leave the person alone. Remove any weapons or large amounts of medication. Call a suicide hotline or your loved one's therapist. In a crisis, don't hesitate to call emergency services. You can't keep something this serious a secret.\n\n\nI hope that helps, all the best to you and your gf!I went through a bout of depression, but didn't really tell my friends: I knew that they would say 'just cheer up!' or 'just don;t think about it' or 'snap out of it'... Those are actually the worst things you can say to someone who is depressed, as it makes them feel even worse that they cannot make themselves 'snap out of it'. I would advise you just to be there for her to talk to and do things with... and don't give up on her!
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find a couple small things that give you joy, and set aside time for yourself each day to do them - maybe as simple as walking quietly on some path by your house, or painting.\n\nFind ways to connect with other people in a social setting - take a community ed pottery class or something.\n\nFind a group of people who are worse off than you and volunteer some time to help them.\n\nJoin a support group for people going through a divorce.
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Lonely is a state of feeling unaccepted. You can be lonely on a crowded bus. If you find self acceptance, you can be alone and not feel lonely at all. \n\nGet to know yourself. Talk to your mate and find out what they're thinking about your relationship. Maybe they're sitting over there wondering how they can be closer to you. Maybe they're just lost and confused.\n\nFigure out who you are and what you want. Take steps to interact with people on a deep level. Smile and say hello to everyone you see. Find activities you enjoy and go do them. Choose to say goodbye to lonely.
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Find a support group.  Get to know your neighbors and other members of the community either online or personally on your free time.  Going through a crisis such as this is tough, but it can be made easier by having people to discuss matters with.  The thought of having a regular set of people to take your mind off the situation at home allows you to not wallow too much on a situation that you have no other choice but to deal with ... think "Desperate Housewives" ;)