my boyfriend keeps hurting me?
484203
im sorry. i thought i was in love with my bf too. he was 21 and i am 16. he always forced me to do things with him and to him i didnt want to do. if it wasnt for him i would still be a virgin. i never was willing to do anything he wanted me too. he was alot bigger than me too. and he abused me, verbally, physically,and sexually.untill he got me pregnant and forced me to have an abortion(somethin i regret so so much and never would have done willingly)after that i finally got up the courage to dump him and i found a guy my age. i know this isnt what u want to hear(trust me, i know, i heard the same things)but i dont think u should stay with him( i realize u might not want to take advice from someone that is younger than u by like a year)if he forces u to do anything sexually then he doesnt really love u or care for u. ur just a sex toy for him to manipulate. im sorry this is happening to u, it is somthing i wouldnot wish on anyone, u should know what i mean by that, its a horrible and emotional wrecking thing to go through, im still not over it nor will i ever be the same again. i have to go to counseling every day of my life for probably the rest of my life, i will probably be taking a high dosage of anti-depressants for the rest of my life because i let him take me too far before i was brave enough to stand up to him and get rid of him. my question for u is how long are u gonna wait, how much are u gonna put up with untill u break it off b4 u have life altering events like i did. i promise u that ur life will never be the same after  u put up with to much, it sounds to me like u have already put up with to much. please dont stay with this guy. do u know that him forcing u to have sex with him wether it be oral or casual, it is rape. i wish u the best and i will be praying for u. please contact me at purplollipop1606@yahoo.com and let me know what u decide. im very worried for u and id just like to know if u end up okay.
556185
Im sure you have been hurt once or twice in your live and as you know it takes time to get over that feeling.Just give him time but dont give up on him,shower him with attention,kindness,and love but dont smother him.Give him sometime to heal and breath but let him know in as many ways as you can that you are there for him and that you will love him,must of all is time heals all wounds.
1059182
Sounds like a loser to me.  The more comfortable he gets with you, the more likely he will start to abuse you, physically or verbaly.  It doesn't sound like you are in a very good situation.  You should get out of it.  Nobody should tell you what to do all of the time and the jealousy thing, it kind of makes me scared for you.  Good luck!
672288
You sound as if you are having man problems.  No man can destroy you unless you were not so great before him anyway.  Break up with him and work on liking then loving yourself.
709519
He's a bully. If you stay with him, get used to a life of walking on egg shells. I bet he was "sorry" later and tried to tell you he didn't know what made him do it, or said you "made" him do it.  It's not a mood swing, it's a precursor to more verbal and emotional abuse.
333184
He is a classic abuser. He won't change. The longer you stay with this jerk the more you will get hurt physically and emotionally. You could end up imprisoned and/or dead. So dump him. If you're having trouble doing that see a therapist to help you. Remember the sooner you get rid of him the sooner you will be happy.
333806
i understand your situation, maybe he just wants to go away? let him go.You cant hold on to a person for too long.He's told u it hurts, and you say you love him.So why keep hurting him?If both of u'll think it should end or has ended ,let it be amicable.Healing will take time , but it will happen
916720
Sweetie, just because he isn't physically abusing you doesn't mean he's not still abusing you.  He's traded in the fists for emotional abuse.  That's what he's doing when he tells you he hates you and other hurtful things.  You need to get out of that relationship as soon as you can.  get yourself into some counseling so you understand why you chose to be with an abuser, and move on.  I understand completely where you're coming from, I've been there.  Since I've gone to counseling and stuff, I've come to understand myself so much better.  You will, too.  When you do, it will help you choose a different type of guy.....one that won't abuse you.  I've finally found my Mr. Right, and you will, too.  You just need to get out of this relationship.  Email me if you want to talk some more.  I'm a good listener :)
52826
There is no way you can get around not hurting him.  It is going to happen.  Sorry!  Just be honest and talk with eachother.  I'm sure you are grown and can handle the situation.  Best of Luck to you!
408836
You need to go to a doctor.  Your problem could be mental or physical.  I don't mean to be rude, but it seems that if your boyfriend respected you, he wouldn't want to hurt you.  He should want to help you get help and be there for you.  I read that the way your partner makes you feel can result in painful sex.  That aside, it could also be an infection, urinary tract problems, abnormalities of the uterus or ovaries, or a condition called vaginismus.  I hope this helps.
920623
Your boyfriend can't fix you so quit trying to make him say things about you. All that will accomplish is driving him away. You need help but to expect him to fix you will only ruin your relationship. You need to get counseling so you can deal with your problem. Your boyfriend is not a counselor he is just a guy.\n\nTrust me I know this from personal experience, my girlfriend totally ruined our relationship with her constant neediness. When you act this way it ends up being all about you and his needs usually go unnoticed. Get out of yourself and into him.
272037
Sounds like you should just break up with him then.  He is intentionally hurting your feelings by saying that to you..., or maybe he is trying to get some sort or reaction when he says it.  So, next time he says it.., say, I feel the same way.., just to see what he does.  Keep in mind..,there are many fish in the sea.., so you can throw this one back!!!
1115742
speak with him n convince, tell him abt ur past also,\ngo ahead only if he likes u\ncoz already u r in pain\nu shouldn't be hurted again
171333
You may love him, but obviously he doesn't love you the same way or he wouldn't hurt you and make you cry.  It sounds to me like you are in an abusive relationship.  It may not be physical abuse but at the very least it is emotional abuse and that is just as bad.  Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who treats you this way?  By staying with him you are simply telling him that what he is doing to you is ok.  Do yourself a favor and see this relationship for the fraud it is.  It takes two people to love each other to make a relationship and what your recieving isn't love.  You need to do the hard thing and let this relationship go and find someone who will truely love you and not abuse you.
887980
I'm very sorry to say this, but if he won't stop, as much as it may hurt, its time to let him go.  Verbal abuse is ABUSE.  And sometimes worse than physical.  If he won't stop now, your relationship will continue to always be like that.  There are guys out there that don't verbal abuse.  You have to decide now that you are worth him not verbally abusing you and if he doesn't like the way you act, then he really doesn't like  you.  Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness, and respect.  Don't you agree.
243831
Your best bet it to dump him before he hurts you because of his jealously. No one should control you like that. Also he could have a guilty conplex for something he is doing behind your back.
528748
Well there are several kinds of "hurts"\nphysical\nemotional\nmental\n\nWhen it comes to physical there are a ton of possible ways to torter people. I would probaly try to give some one an upper spinal injury. That can cause a constant pain without killing.\n\nWhen it comes to emotional you can tell some one that you love them then tell them you don't then you can always tell them lies, like that there bf or gf is cheating on them\n\nwhen it comes to mental all you have to do is make sure that they are in a constant state of fear. \n\nthis is what i would do......\nnot that i would.......\nunless some one was cheating on me..........&#92;\nand in that case i would do all of the above and kick him in the nuts\nthen i would cut his you know what off when he is sleeping,\nthen i would kill him