Should I tell my husband?
476663
I don't think I would ever keep anything from my husband.\nIt may build a wedge in the relationship and that could lead to more unhealthy characteristics. I think I would approach it by saying that you are really worried about the way you act at times and that you think it has to do with the loss of your Dad and the grieving process. \nTell him about your friendship with the other person and how you are grieving the loss of a close friend and that it has been heavy on your mind for awhile...also that you want to improve yourself for the sake of the marriage. Ask for his advice. \nNow, understand I am assuming that this is a healthy relationship and that your husband is an understanding caring individual and that you both trust and respect each other. \nIf it is something different, this would not be the best path to take.
868537
no, what goes on in their marriage is really their business. he may already know, or she may choose to keep it from him. i hope that it was some one-time mistake on her part and that they've already worked through it, but it's not your responsibility to tell him.
212604
definitely tell him. age is just a number, and i really don't see why women like to hide it. i have no problem telling how old i am!
1092224
I would tell my brother how much I love him, how stupid I think he is acting AND that although I will not purposely hurt him by telling his secrets, neither will I lie if his wife asks me anything.  Good luck
304950
Well first do you think he will be highly upset and uncontrollable if he found out? If so, you might tell him in a public place, like a parking lot of a walmart or restaurant. Etc.. Another approach is ask him how he would feel about the two of you having children. And then ask how about if it was soon. He will start to catch on. Also let him know that this is possible and that you are'nt sure yet.
1103438
I tell my husband as often as I can, you never no where death lies and at least they'll know how much we love them. Keep telling your husband how much you love & care for him, he should feel like the only man on earth with the only sweetest woman on earth. You will have a long and happy marriage.
737808
No. Whether he knows it or not, you will know it. Unless you are a very shallow or self obsessed person, it will change the way you feel about yourself and possibly your husband. Keep your relationship special by keeping it just between the two of you.
243870
If you truly love this guy and you think that you and he could work out for real, I would tell him how you feel. Telling him will make you feel better, and leave him to make the decision. \n\nPlus, you don't want to look back 5 years from now, see him married to this girl, and regret never telling him, do you?
631541
You should give me a call. No, seriously...it's totally normal to have this type of attraction. Talk to your husband about it. He may actually be excited by it and you could integrate him into your fantasies. If he is not okay with it, I don't think you should act on your feelings unless you get a divorce.
101198
U should tell him. He probably feels the same way about you but is afraid to say so. So maybe you should break the ice by telling him first. Even if he dosn't say it back, it still holds true with you. There is no use in denying it. It is much better that he tells you because he means it, rather than jus say it in order to make you happy.
144374
By all means tell him now. He will either run or stay. You need to know which way he will go. It's important for the both of you.
1150805
I want my husband to be open and honest with me especially when things like that happened. It is where trust could grow more and more. Marriage, if not guarded by both couples, could be in danger with innocent acts like that. You might say that there is no wrong with that but most of the times, worse things started in little things. Be honest and open with your wife. Open communication could help to maintain a healthy marriage.\nOne more thing I would like to add. Are you and your wife are best friends too? If not yet, better make each other best of friends to whom you could tell your secrets, open your ideas and feelings, and share your daily experiences...
386686
well if you want out of the marriage then tell or if you want drama then tell other wise you don't tell ever  I made a similar mistake the relationship ended and the sex was just one time and the guilt ate at me and ate at me until i thought i was gonna go insane. and i told on my self like a little kid ya know  my husband didn't have any idea could have gotten away with it sorta if i hadn't told.  I crushed him naturally.  If i could do it over i would  but if i couldn't take back the sleeping around then i would defiantly take back telling on my self.  as long as you end it and work on your marriage  i would never ever tell.  it won't make you feel better trust me.  and if you wanna keep him and work on your relationship telling him will NOT help that trust me.  me and my husband is still together but of course he don't trust me  which is understandable.  Its really no life kinda because he may have forgave in a way but he won't forget which i don't blame him but i can't look up  he my as well left me   so if i were you i wouldn't ever tell  its not worth it and it won't make you feel better
601759
IF he knows You, he should know your not always right in the head..but if it would make you feel better...it's best to tell him...come to think of it, you should tell him..he has a right to know..if he doesn't already...
253629
I would say tell them and tell him soon, you don't want to keep leading him on. I would also say honesty is the policy in this situation, just be honest with him let him know how you are truly feeling and why. More than likely your going to hurt him a little but as long as your honest and gentle with his feelings, I think you will both be okay.
223341
Don't say anything to his wife. You do not need any drama. Just tell him "no", and that if he respected his wife, he would stop. If he continues to try to do anything, I think it's safe to tell his wife then. But one kiss shouldn't be something you tell her about. \n\nYou're other option is slapping him until he doesn't know one direction from the other.
1132761
Just let her know that you are happy with the husband you have and it is necessary for her to tell you anything about him unless you ask.  Let her know that you don't believe that telling gossip about one anothers husbands is productive or strengthening for each others relationships with your husbands and is detrimental to establishing a friendship between each other.  If she is has morals she should be able to recognize this and hopefully refrain from those activities.