why are guys opposed with taking virginity's!!!?
486748
It is in the mans mind that when he takes a woman's v. then he is the one she is forever linked with. Also since she has no sexual past at that time then he cannot be compared to anyone else. Also innocence is a turn on by men.
1009990
Well, I definitely don't think it's uncommon for guys to choose the "wrong" girl. Guys tend to think about the wrong thing when it comes to virginity, which is what they're doing instead of who they're doing it with. To me, it doesn't matter how old you are when you lose it, because it's not a contest. It's all about feeling comfortable with the person you're with and wanting it to be with them. I say to hell with today's standards because there are kids in elementary school these days having sex and getting pregnant - it's ridiculous! But somehow our society would rather have that than being embarrassed by a plethora of 25 year-old virgins.\n\nI never was phased by my peers when it came to my choices. I lost mine at a fairly "normal" age, which was 15, and it also needs to be kept in mind that I am much more mature in my thinking than others that age because of how I grew up with a bunch of brothers who were pretty promiscuous. I knew I wasn't going to do it unless I REALLY felt it was right, and that's exactly what happened. I am glad that I did it, because it helped me learn even more (but in a good way since it was my own content choice). And, I haven't had any other partners since him.\n\nI say, don't have any shame if you lost it at 20 - I actually praise you for that because most guys would have broke down just to be a part of the crowd well before that. But if you wish it was with another girl, just take it as future advice for yourself. You can't change what happened before but you know how to feel about it now, so I think that's what's important. I'd rather be like that than someone who does it with 10 wrong girls.
1011817
I AM THE DECIDER does not give an informed opinion, how would a virgin (at least with a female) know anything about this!\n\nHe thinks he has a girl friend, but actually since she is repulsed by him, she is not giving it up, so he is used to being in a sexless relationship!
711158
This whole virgin thing makes me sick. I wish people would accept the fact that virginity is a guilt trip created by so-called religious doctrine that is actually a control with fear tool in order to prevent young members of so-called society from exploring their natural human sexuality at the time they experience it... Thus I could care less whether or not a female member of our so-called society has had sexual intercourse or not, for that is solely her business, and it DOES NOT make her anything other than human.
216802
Not all people do.  Ideally, most people have sex to express a deep emotional bond shared with another person.  However, some people have sex in order to try and fulfill something inside of themselves that is missing.  Others do it to feel "special" or "loved" in the moment.  And, still others have sex completely void of emotion and symbolicism and see it as a purely biological function.\n\nI'm not sure anyone has sex to be cool.  It's really a personal decision which has very little to do with how others perceive us.  I think a large majority of the people that use some sort of illusion of sexual prowess in order to brag to others in hopes of looking cool are likely people who have never had sex.  These are the people who brag about that girl that "you wouldn't know because she lives in another state" or "This guy I met on vacation, at this resort.  I never got his name."  Those stories are all B.S. \n\nWhy would they make up stories like that?  Well, for guys, being a virgin somehow has this stigma attached to it.  Guys don't want other guys to know that they're not getting any.  It's some sort of machismo thing that I've never understood.  And, for girls, they're trying to either impress guys that think they're too prudish, or they're trying to appear more worldly and knowledgeable than their female friends.  It's all really pretty silly when you stop and think about it.  But, every generation does it.\n\nJust my observations.
397359
Because they're afraid to be judged infront of their "guy friends." \n\nGood luck!\n\nMichelle
1004036
No your not dumb. It takes a woman to stand up to her friends and say YES I'M A VIRGIN and DAMN PROUD OF IT TOO.. It also takes a MAN TO RESPECT YOUR DECISION. I applaud the 2 of you for your decision. Just ignore what your friends are saying to you because they don't need to know if you had sex or not. If you promised your dad and yourself why break that promise now. I was 24 when I lost my virginity, not because I made any promises or had a religious beliefs and just never found that right guy. And besides most of the time many would say that they wish they would have never lost there virginity and still would keep it that way. Good Luck!
794915
i agree with you, man... they think just because some guy is willing to stick their penis in their vagina and move it in and out, that means he loves her!!!! huh???  it doesn't even make sense.  they always go out with guys that just use them.  i don't use girls and i end up alone.  nice guys finish last, i suppose.
389652
no, ur virginity is not something people can just buy. it should be a special moment where you feel that it would mean the world to give it to your special lady.
326692
Let me give you a guys perspective, if you give us what we want, we will always take advantage of you. After that starts, you will always end up with guys that only want sex, and it will be that much ahrder to find a guy who loves you for you. Thats what you want eventually isnt it? On a different note, its about the stupidest thing you could ever do.
442830
Why would a woman answer for a man?  Some men like virgins because men feel powerful over the fact they have not had sex.  The man can be the "teacher" and show how much he knows.  I personally don't care for virgins.  I would prefer to be with a woman who knows what she is doing and what she wants.  It make the sexual experience more enjoyable...for both.
243225
Odd statement, men brag about how many girls they've been with yet when the find the right girl to have a relationship with they want a virgin. If all these guys had so much sex, who did you think they were having sex with? 15 Guys isn't alot for a 26 year old woman. Another thing, men are revered for having all this sex while women become sluts. If you like this girl why do you even care about how many guys she's been with, why are you even talking about it with her. Now I know how guys think and I understand. Trust me when I say this, grow up and deal with it. If not it sounds like it would be your loss.
306556
I think for men it's an individual preference. Personally, I really don't care either way. It's about the personality of the girl not her experiance. I noticed that guys put they like to make girls scream and that's why they prefer virgins, but hey if you know how to make love to a woman, any woman can turn to jello in your hands. Just a tip guys, work on your quality of lovemaking and it won't matter.
176762
I haven't waited, but if I met a guy, and he wanted to wait until we got married, I wouldn't have a problem with that.  Sometimes I wish I had waited, virginity can be seen as a special gift to the right guy.
334100
After talking to men, I realized that they want to be sexually involved as soon as possible, but they do NOT respect you if you give in too fast. My husband said that If I would have slept with him on the first date he would not have married me, and a friend's boyfriend said that men do not respect easy women, but they do take advantage of their easyness. It seems all too unfair, since they are falling over themselves to get into your pants, that if you give them what they want they do not like you as a person! I for one, am not easy and have only had one partner. I hope that more women learn that being easy just gets them std's.
78368
No there is nothing wrong to being a virgin at 18 and you shouldn't be concerned about what guys think be secure with yourself in being a virgin.Losing your virginity is not a race.I lost my virginity at seventeen and I wish I had waited because I lost it to the WRONG guy and truely regret it.But it is just my opinion that guys like virgins.You are fresh and un-touched.You have got something going on that alot of girls don't.Guys like the idea of having something that nobody else had.My guy knows I am not a virgin but just the thought of another guy that has been up in there causes him to cringe he doesn't want to think about it.Be proud you are not a hoochie that gives it up to every body that gives you a second look or shows interest and be very selective to whom you give your virginity to.
423870
I think that most guys out there think its like winning a trophy by being your "first" I think its sick. they shouldn't be taking it unless they intend to be with you for a long period of time. But that's just my opinion you know what they say about girls Maturing faster then men.