what should be the reaction of a guy whose beloved loves any other guy?should he help her or get rid of her?
479708
well I think you should never force someone to love you. If she loves someone else that's fine although it hurts very much. Let her go her way and you don't have to help her ! i guess she is not a small girl :)\n\nfind some one else man. time heals. you will be happy
245827
If you like (love) her and she is with someone else than respect her for who she is with now and when she is available if you still feel that way she will notice you.\n\nIf this guy is as bad as you say she will see this sooner or later and it won't seem like you were trying to interfere if you don't get involved other than being there for her.\n\nAs for caring, you should care what happens if you really do love her.  Some lessons have to be learned for us to make better choices in life.
224132
I would say to leave him to himself. If not completely, atleast for alittle while. I was raised to treat a woman like the princess that she is. I'm not saying that he should do exactly everything perfectly, but if I loved someone, I would want to spend time with them, i would go out of my way to see them and i would show as much affection as i could.\nLastly no one should ever put you down, I mean no one, especially someone who says they love you...
405467
Sadly, currently i am the other man in that kind of triangle.(except she is not marride but living with the guy) I am in love with this woman.  But she will never leave this guy.  I was being used the whole time.  You are not in love with both of these men. You just crave attention anyway you can get it and dont wont to feel guilty.  I bet if you look hard enough one of these men really do luv you and is the best for you.  But you are not a strong enough person to do the work it takes to be in a real relationship.  No matter what these men are going to get hurt. AND YES IT IS YOUR FAULT!!  you are the bad guy in this!
125853
Blessings.\n\nMay I answer your question with a questions of my own? First, are you sure that these feelings you have for this new guy (let's name him "Ted" for the sake of easier understanding) are legit (real)? If not, that is part of what I think you should question yourself... along with asking "Ted" if his feelings for you are legit.\n\nSecond, if you are "committed" to someone else (let's name him "Al" for the sake of easier understanding) but these feelings that you have for "Ted" are so overwhelming, why are you in this relationship with "Al"? And if these feelings that "Ted" has for you are so overwhelming, why is he in another supposedly-committed relationship with "Sue"? It would seem, in my opinion, that you would tell "Al" (and "Ted" would tell "Sue") how you truly felt instead of leading him on to believe that this love that you two (you and "Al" -- "Ted" and "Sue") share is being reciprocated when, in fact, it is not.\n\nIt would be wise, I would imagine, to put this situation into perspective. Consider what it is (and who it is) that you truly wish to be with. Think carefully and tread softly for the waters (and feelings) you tread upon can be disturbed. You don't want a typhoon to come ripping apart your life. Trust me, I've been there! God bless!\n\nHope that helped!
322801
I am in the same boat right now! So, I know how you feel.  I just am there when she needs to talk.  I do not offer ANY negative input about MY feelings about the guy, just listen to how she feels and try to give her answers that are somewhat neutral.  Good luck!
654460
HELL NO, Do you want another guy touching your lady? I wouldn't. What the hell is up with people these days over the 3 sums? I like it with me and my partner and NOONE else. But that is up to you. You have to live with the fact that your g/f wants to be with another man. What if she like it or him? Will you be willing to have another? I dont
229516
Do something utterly romantic. Start by landing in front of him and patiently waiting for him to be free... \n\nIm sure he will melt and let you know whats wrong.\n\nOn the flipside, I think there is another girl in the picture... You better check it out before things go worse.. When I meant check-it-out, I meant find out discreetly..
333422
I would tell him that its either you or her.  He is playing games with your head.  Then I would kick her ass for messing with another girls man.
344461
well does she love him? if she does then they should stay togetheR! but if he treats her like shit then no they shouldnt be together~ give her that advice but dont tell her to do ANYTHING! just let her know that then tell her its her choice and make sure she knows you support her in whatever choice she makes!~
858668
Wow, a good question, with only my esteem and somewhat shame to uphold.\n\nHere goes.\n\nI loved "that guy" once.  And though I would have given him anything under the sun, including honesty, manogomy and love....in my deep caring for him I also had to give him space.  I had to honor his present situation(as hard as that was) and told him I didn't intend on being "the other woman" only to one realize I WAS.  I respected what ever he wanted and only wanted him to be happy.\n\nI then stopped talking to him, and put on my Captain Avoido outfit and a woderful thing happened.  He figured his life out, honestly with out any obstacles and called me about a year later and asked for a date.   Go figure.  It was ONLY then that he could hold me with esteem that he once carried for his previous love.\n\nThere should be no pressure............if she really cares.
118418
LISTEN TO ME...STOP CRYIN'!!!!\nIF YOU HEARD THE MESSAGE THAN YOU ALREADY KNOW WHERE THIS GUYS HEADS AT....AND TRUST THIS....IF SOMEONE HAS TO SAY SORRY FOR SOMETHING THEY'VE DONE...WELL, THE QUESTION YOU SHOULD BE ASKING IS....WHY WOULD ANYONE THAT TRULY CARED ABOUT ME DO SOMETHING TO HURT ME IN THE FIRST PLACE....SORRY, IS NOT PART OF A GOOD HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP.... PEOPLE THAT ARE IN LOVE SHOULD ALWAYS BE THINKING ABOUT THE PERSON THEY LOVE AND HOW THEY WOULD FEEL ABOUT WHAT THEIR DOING.  IF PEOPLE SCREW UP AND HURT THE ONE THEY LOVE THAN .... MAYBE THEY AREN'T FIRST PRIORITY AND EITHER ARE THEIR FEELINGS...SOUNDS LIKE YOUR LOVER IS A SELFISH JERK AND YOU SHOULD PROBABLY SEND HIM PACKING.  TELL HIM TO CALL THAT OTHER GIRL... AND YOU GIVE ALL THAT LOVE TO SOMEONE WHO DESERVES IT  AND GIVES YOU THE SAME LOVE BACK~~~GOOD LUCK BUCK~SHOT~~~
107553
Yep..But that kind of LOVE is very heart breaking. I'd stay away from him because if he's not happy, he won't be with her long and then you could let him know how you feel. But if he leaves her for you, all of you will suffer from it. Let him have happiness if you love him,.... even if it's with someone else.   Good Luck*
82098
If he doesn't like you, nothing you can do will change his mind. \nWHY! would you waste your time when there are hundreds of other guys out there who would jump through fire to be with you? I know you think you love this guy, but what is really attracting you? the fact that he doesn't want you?
789989
Sweetheart..you don't need anyone to tell you to do. I would strongly go with my heart. If you truely love him, you wouldn't be happy with anyone else. \nWe can tell you what we would do...but deep down...what would you do? Could you handle loving someone that is having problems walking? I would hang in there and not jump so fast to all the what ifs.
368455
what a tragic story! you should just leave them be if they seem so happy. if i were you, i would try and be happy for her. you can't force a guy to fall in love with you, it's almost impossible. try writing a letter to him about how you feel [don't send it of course], i guarentee it'll help ! you aren't being punished and beaten up everytime you turn around, life is just pieces of a huge puzzle and you've just placed the wrong piece in the wrong place. take it out and look for a place where it fits =]
961078
yea thats deep, but she obviously loves this guy, and u have to think about whats best for her, and apparently she thinks this is best, just try and get over her. If it was meant to be between ya'll then it will happen regardless. but i wouldn't tell her because that would make her feel uncomfortbale and maybe get u in a fight with the b/f. there are plenty of other girls that will be just like her. trust me!