Is it wrong to have an affair with a man whose wife is dying and he needs to full fill h is needs?
482221
You're disguisting and yes it's wrong! UGH SICK! You're taking away joy from a DYING WOMAN!! Her last few weeks/months aren't going to be as good b/c of you! How selfish are you!
362692
Morally it is wrong...but emotionally it's hard.  As much as you know right from wrong, it's hard when your heart feels something for this person.
588277
TOTAL RETHINK REQUIRED HERE!\n\nYou are not MAKING this guy have an affair. He is having an affair of his own free will - with you, and who knows who else.\n\nIf he cared, as you say, and wanted to hold on to you, he would be very upset about you dating other guys etc, so I can only think that he is interested in you because the sex with his wife has gone stale, and you fill the gap nicely.\n\nHe might sound caring, but the chances are it is an act. If he really cared, he'd leave his wife.\n\nWill you find a man while your entangled in this mess with the married man? Your chances are almost nill. You need to break free of Mr Caring-when-it-suits-me, and get out into the big wide world.\n\nDon't let this go on any longer - it will cause you an unimaginable amount of hurt and pain. Don't be somebody's sex toy. Find a man who loves you - there will be plenty of opportunities to meet guys, but if you have to lie to them about this relationship business, it will destroy any foundation before it is even built.
6654
It may not be wrong.  It may be socially acceptable.  You are the one who made the marriage vow.  The real question might be why did you go looking for another man before you terminated your relationship with your husband?  You are the one who must live with your choices.
876740
No, I believe that after a womans husband dies she should wait until she feels better off and isn't grieving anymore.  After that she should be able to go out and go find someone else.
74813
No it isn't wrong as it can't be worked out. If both of you choose to leave the marriage that is your business, but beware that the grass isn't greener on the other side..Lady
88724
Even if a guy's wife is Ms. Universe, he cant handle sex all time with full of passion. Come on, its also an exercise, where you hard work. Men need rest. So, wait for that. You also shouldnt post such a question online. Try to understand human feelings. Dont think alien.
1020824
yes.\n\nplain and simple it is wrong.\n\nhow would you like it if say someone in the government was taking 12 cents a year from every bank acount in the country...i mean really are you going to miss one cent a month... no you wouln't even notice however if you thne found out what had happened and this guy was totally a millionare off of it... you would be OUTRAGED\n\ni know it's not the same but it's similar.\n\nit's wrong to cheat even if they don't find out, it's not fair to them.\nand what if you catch something...and then pass it on to them.... now they could have HIV and not know it and not bother to be tested becuase they weren't cheating on you and they trust that you are faithful so how would they have gotten it?\nand they are slowly dying because you wanted to have your fun and fool around and not fess up because "what they don't know won't hurt them"\n\nit is wrong.\ndon't do it\n\nTHE END
913915
No but it is disrespect full but it doesn't seem like you care very much anyway.  If you want to be with your wife then do not call the girl you had an affair with.
1110926
Wait...a widow's husband would be dead\n\nor did you phrase this wrong?
1174675
Having an affair doesn't take away the emptiness - in fact, it only creates more emptiness (as well as confusion). These feelings are far more severe than feeling "neglected". Obviously you're in need of intimacy, and if your partner isn't being attentive to this, it's only natural to toy with the idea of being with another man. If you don't address the issue, you might find yourself doing things that you never thought you'd do. So address it, and if it doesn't work, buy a dildo or get out of the relationship.
565592
Your amazing wife is dying of cancer and your having an affair with her best friend, how sorry can you get?
589263
I'm not sure you should do anything. He was an important part of her life for so long and with such great love that in her mind he will always be there. In her mind, he is there. That is where he lives now. Let her keep him alive along with her memories of him. You wonder if I have heard of anything so sad. That is not sad. It is a conformation of true love. I have never heard of anything so wonderful as a very strong love and commitment that transcends life and death.\n\nGod bless her, her loves and you and your family.\n\nSincerely,\nTerry
92179
Yes, if not a physical affair, then an emotional one.  When a married man is sharing his time w/a single woman, he is sharing intimacies with her that should be reserved for his wife.
570880
Don't worry. It is not wrong.\n\nYou can be in love with a person, and likes (and be liked by) several peoples too.\n\nIt can be not so good if you try to get more from this other people.\n\nDefinitely it is wrong if you cheat your loved one if a relationship exists.
965323
Depends on what happened - sudden illness might be a good excuse not to get mad, however I doubt it is the problem here- no reason to keep serious matters from your mate, esp if they involve selling the house to get out of debt that was hidden or otherwise lied about. Deception of any sort is a LIE and this is the ultimate deception if not outright betrayal of the mate.\n\nYes it would bother me. The usual reasons - gambling, drugs, etc., for this type of problem indicate that the mate would drag you down like a rock around a drowning person's neck. If the money was spent on an adulterous affair, that is bad also! \n\nYou'd never have anything - peace, security, trust (in your mate), as long as you were with this person, not even a home. You would have to wake up day to day not knowing what disaster awaited you. Even your health would suffer - the stress of the situation, no money for medical insurance or medical care because of mate's financial fiascoes - would make the situation a hell on earth.\n\nI'd rather live alone. If children are involved, the insecure environment would not be something good for them, not to mention the arguing etc that goes with it.
475071
If you feel like you need to keep it a secret from  him, then yes it is wrong.  If you do it for more than just casual companionship, then it is cheating even if its not in a physical sense.