i was woundering if they was any married people that are in an open marriage? effects on marriage?
483327
Trust is the most important thing, got trust? go to a bar and get a partner both agrees on.
1169048
i AM SO GLAD WE WAITED UNTIL MARRIAGE. We had no problems at all, it was all very wonderful. I wish everyone could have the joy on their wedding night we experienced. It was like the excitement of Christmas morning. I suggest the couple have good premarital counselling like we did. I also would add to the guys, BE SURE YOU ALWAYS MEET HER NEEDS FIRST.
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Yes, as it will chance normally throughout life...not just because of marriage. Time, weight, pregnancy, illness. It's not like they say 'husband and wife' and *poof*...They've changed..come on.
50206
My husband and I have been married for 29 and one half years.  Some years were great some not so great.  But we hung in there and are more in love today than when we married.  Best wishes.
653580
I love the show.  I saw every episode except the season finale.  My Tivo didn't record it and I'm so upset!! \n\nTo answer your question, I don't agree with open marriages.  I mean, what's the point of being married?!?!  Nothing good will come out of it...
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It's possible to be in love with several people at the same time. Confusing, but possible.\nSome people believe that people are not naturally monogamous - that monogamy, like other forms of marriage, is a cultural construct. As such, not everybody fits into the same square holes. This can cause people a lot of trouble, but it is best to be honest with yourself, and then with the lovers in your life. \nAfter wife # 1 (a complete disaster) I knew I couldn't be monogamous, and with wife # 2, I told her this and we had an open marriage. It lasted 5 years, and we are still good friends. Neither one of us was particularly jealous by nature, and I know many other people who aren't. Having lived through it though, I no longer embrace open marriage. I keep my extra lovers on the fantasy level, and keep my real relationship real.
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Well, it started off being exciting on all parts, but after it was over, I , myself, was very unhappy seeing my hubby cuddling with me and another woman. He, of course, enjoyed all aspects of it to the point of developing feeling for other woman over me. She was married and bored, so she wanted something different, and my hubby was it.\n\nI wish it would have never happened, and strongly advise against it. I thought our marriage was strong enough and secure (In my eyes, and his I thought) to do something like that, but it wasn't even close. It took us 4 months of hard work to get our marriage back on track, including no contact with other female at all on both parts. Its a risk you have to decide to either take or not. Once you do it, if there's issues before, then it can and will destroy the strongest marriage. \n\nIt isn't worth the heartache and pain to have a few minutes of something new sexually.  That one time almost cost me my marriage and 4 of the hardest months of my life.
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I am friendly with all different type of people - no difference which ethnic group they belong to, but for marriage I think people should try sticking to their own race - it's easier for you and your kids.
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My hippie, liberal,peace loving, tree hugging, new age, pagan, mystic, self  has been happily married for 26 years to a conservative, Christian, Hawk, Policeman, rationalist etc.\nWe do well together, makes for some interesting conversations.\n\nMy first spouse shared my politics and religion but the marriage was hell. Nope  mixed marriages in that sense are not inheirantly more prone to failure.
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What I find most interesting about this very good question is the tem "politics."  That's exactly what marriage is, politics!  How do you meet the needs of your partner and have your needs met in return!?  Is it possible?  The interesting thing about political figures is they tell you what you want to hear to get voted into office, and then they seldom if ever deliver!  Relationships are much the same way, we're all guilty of it, portraying what you want the other person to see, what you think they want to hear, and then once your married,.....it's out the window.  Then the true colors come shinning through!  What happened to the amazing man or women I fell in love with??  We ask ourselves scratching our heads.........we bought what we wanted to see, not what really is!  Perhaps we don't change so much once we're married?  Perhaps we just turn into who we really are, then we're insulted when we're not well received, or worse, we feel betrayed by what we have received!?  \nI think this is the situation when asking for what you want or communicating what does or does not work, becomes an issue, because you're already feeling betrayed and or critisized, so it's hard to be open to critisizim.  \nI guess it would help if both parties were completely open and dedicated to keeping it going regardless of their own isecurities, needs or ego's!?  My experience has been no results, and only more pain.....  So I don't know!?  Is honesty always the best policy, or is it what they don't know wont hurt them?  Must we play games in marriage in order to succeed?  I don't know....\nI spent my whole life looking forward to having the love of my life as my life long companion in marriage, and what I've discovered about being married, is that I've never felt more alone!\n\nI'm not sure if any of this really answers the question's at hand, or if it's only triggered more questions!?  But I appreciate your intellect, and thought process and thank you for inspiring my own inquisitive rant.....\n..\nU
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I think people should have completely open relationships with their partners - I do, there is nothing I would not do around my fiance. I do know some women that will not do certain "personal" things around their husbands and they have been married 15 - 20 years. Personal being like go to the bathroom or something of that nature.
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Funny you should ask. When I met my husband, he and I were both married. We both had crushes on one another but was devoted to our spouses at the time. Strange thing is, our marriages fell apart at the same time, and we were able to let our feelings show. Now we are married, with a baby on the way!
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I couldn't agree with you more Missy and I also am heterosexual.\nIf two people, no matter what sex they may be are happy and want to marry each other, who is it going to hurt? NO ONE! Their marriage has no effect on anyone else but themselves! These people on the religous right are taught that anyone different than they  are must be bad and wrong! It's a shame that so many people belive this crap!\nGood question
942522
Well, im divorced. While I loved my husband we had too many issues, particularly his looney family. So unless they were gone, no, i would not marry him again. But, I also would not give up the years we had together, or the beautiful son we have together, for anything.
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If you married this person for better or worse than please tell me what happened to that vow. Goodness this is stupid to even think about running out on the person you married when they need you the most//////////
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In your searchbar , go to yahoo member directory. then go to married an looking. there are all kinds but most want to do more than talk.  yahoo 360 also has lots of people on there who are married an looking.  good luck!
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well, I have been married for 12yrs and the negative impacts of having intercourse on a daily basis is that it gets hard to keep it new and exciting and sometimes you don't feel well but you do it anyway out of "tradition" and it's not quite the same, on the flip side the positive impacts are that I always have that to look forward to at the end of my day, to relax and enjoy my husband,it pushes us to try new things, and isn't a bad form of exercise either !! It hasn't hurt my marriage in any way, so I think the positives outweigh the negatives in my case.