why is it so hard to commit to diet and exercise although you feel embarrassed of your body?
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There are so many answers to this question that I won't even try to answer it. But here's an observation:\n\nWhen you're out of shape or simple not leading an active lifestyle your body and brain become totally placent. You'd rather sit and watch t.v. than go outside at all. You have no energy, you never feel like you got enough sleep, focus is difficult, your mood gets low, and your self-esteem plummets. These things all make working out on a consistent basis extremely difficult. \n\nIf you can somehow muster the strength to create a mild workout plan and stick with it you'll have noticeable improvements in all the above areas within days. At least I do. But you've already been in the afore-mentioned state for so long it's a habit. So you drop back down. It is sad because if you could stick with it for 6 months, slowly ramping up the intensity of your workout, eventually most of your mental and physical issues will dissipate and it will no longer be hard to keep at it.
980827
Of course it is why wouldnt anybody be affected by this? Why dont you try to go to the gym. Thats a good booster, eat healthy it makes you feel better and work on your posture you wouldnt believe what that does for you. And work on your people skills. Remember its all about perspective too. People are just people. If you were to change your perspective and viewed things differently about yourself thats all that you would have to do. Its all about mentality think you are confident and you shall become confident without even knowing it. Good luck just work on your perspective if anything.
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Yes, 3 years ago I used to weigh 280 pounds, I was overtaken by thyroid disease as well as a nonthreatening pancreatic disorder. \n\nI could not lose weight. I tried and I tried. I had a doctor tried to put me on all of these kooky fad diets , that included the south beach and atkins and it did not do anything but land me in the hospital because both of the diets were low carb and my blood sugar would drop low. As a matter of fact, I became quite ill with low blood sugar and was on disability for 2 1/2 months, I was taking the risk of passing out, I could not even be home by myself. \n\nAnyway, months rolled on, I was frustrated, I was sick, I was uncomfortable, i hated my body, I was discouraged.  Then my parents ended up seeing a doctor that helped them out after a car accident. They told me about him, they said that he was really good and they felt that he could help me. \n\nWell...he did. He gave me one simple solution. NO DIET. Just cut my food intake in half. Limit my snacking excercise and drink plenty of water. \n\nMy feet no longer hurt, I feel beautiful, I don't feel self conscious, People tell me I am beautiful, I am not drug down all of the time, I see my reflection and instead of feeling shame and thinking that I am so ugly and I need to lose weight. I feel great and I think about how much weight I have lost. \n\nI still have a little more to go, but I have come a very very long way. I feel great. I have lost over 70 pounds, it has been two years. \n\nI just cringe when people talk about stomach stapling and fad diets, why hurt our bodies when the answer is so simple and I LOVE TO EXCERCISE especially now since I move around easier and my feet don't kill me. :)
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It sounds like you might have some sort of emotional problem and that food is your escape. Try going to counseling. \nIf this is not the case, them maybe you need a hobby since all you do is think about food. You definitely need to change your mentality about working out. \nYou try Weight Watchers you might enjoy that programs since you are allowed to eat what you want and your not deprived. \n\nGood Luck & Stay Strong.
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Hmm...sounds like you aren't ready for a huge change.  That's OK.  It's scary to start something dramatic, especially if you know that you're going to have to maintain a new lifestyle if you want to change forever, which essentially means the first day of your diet is the first day of the rest of your life.  That's daunting.  And you probably figure you can't do it, so you might as well not do anything.  Pretty typical response, I've even suffered with it myself.  Sometimes I basically feel like, "oh, I've cheated once, I've ruined everything, I might as well go eat a cheeseburger."  hehe. :)  \n\nAnyways, for you, I'd recommend starting small.  Just start making an effort to do something so easy, that you know you'll be able to do it.  This could be as easy as making and effort to work out for 30 mins or an hour just one day a week, and making an effort to eat just a couple healthy meals per week, and not sweating the rest of the meals.  Once you've done that for awhile and you've accepted it as a part of your routine, add another exercise day, more healthy meals, etc.  Keep transitioning slowly until you've gotten to at least 4 days of exercise and mostly healthy meals every week. \n\nDoing it like this is NOT going to cause a dramatic change in your body very quickly.  It's going to be slow and you should not expect a lot of weight or inches to be lost like this.  But, several studies have proven that weight that is lost more slowly has a better chance of being kept off for the rest of your life.\n\nMake sure that whatever life change you want, that you can live with it.  A diet is useless if you hate every minute of it.
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I agree with kny390, first step is your doctor. He will know firstly how to appeal, and will be able to maybe contact the consultant on your behalf. \n\nBut you are really gonna have to make your doctor understand how awful and disgusted with yourself this makes you feel, so a few tears wont go a miss. Make him understand how this affects you daily, how you wont undress in front of your partner, or go swimming, however it is that affects you,  make sure he knows.\n\nI know how it feels to be overweight and have  baby flab, ive got it, but im way too afraid of surgery!  i know how it feels to see my tummy in the mirror, get undressed in the dark, hide behind baggy clothes, never be able to wear anything tight and sexy, so you go for it girl, if its causing such distress, its surely worht another try.\n\nAll the best. \n\nxxxxxxxxxxx
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WELL I JUST RECENTLY LOST 60 POUNDS. WELL LATLEY I HAVE BEEN EATING ANYTHING. I CAN STOP. IT IS HARD. I FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF LOSING THE WEIGHT, BUT IT IS HARD TO KEEP IT OFF. I LOVE TO EAT.\nSO DOES THAT ANWSER IT
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You can't just exercise you have to eat right too.\nYou have disipline your body to a strict diet.\nYou should buy a diet book and follow the instructions.\nYou can also go to a gym or if you can afford it a personal trainor. Cause walk a bit everyday is surely not enough.
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Well I've tried some of the stuff and finally i realised that there is nothing better than doing a proper exercise routine and managing your diet. You will feel fit and healthy if you follow a good routine of exercise and get good sleep. I also have tried drinking plenty of water and it helps in loosing weight.
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yeah I get a lot of attention about my weight loss at the gym and its sort of embarrassing  on the plus side..I feel so much better and have lost 3 pant sizes...its really liberating knowing that you can take control of your eating and get really healthy
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Believe it or not, exercising increases your motivation to stick with a diet. Lots of women binge eat or overeat due to stress or emotions (or hormones) and exercise short circuits this response more successfully than pills and other mediums. \n\nIf you want to stick to a diet, start exercising regularly - at least 3 times a week for an hour each time - and make 20 minutes of each workout weight training. Even better, add one session of yoga a week to your exercise regime and this will help enormously (the calming effect of yoga enables women (in particular) to control their weight more effectively).
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Ya its nice to lose weight and feel good about yourself just dont lose to much weight like i did. Every women has something they dont like about their body. There was alot of stuff i didnt like so i did something about it and now my husband is more happier. Things just got out of hand and i lost more then what i wanted i look anorexic so just becareful how u lose your weight cause it can turn to and addiction. Just be happy with the body God gave you i wish i was.
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Dear Marshall,\n\nYou have already done the hard part.\n\nYou can tighten your loose skin, but it does take time.\nThere is no quick way to do it healthy.\n\nYou just follow the old axioms, day by day.\n\nEat foods that are healthy for you.\nEat slowly, and stop before you feel full.\nDrink plenty of CLEAN water.  You might want to get a water distiller for the best water.\nExercise. Ideally, find a way to exercise that is enjoyable for you.\nSleep enough.  Most people don't.\nDo not smoke.\nUse alcohol not at all or in moderation.  Alcohol changes the way our bodies do a lot of internal important things.\n\nThese things will work.  It might take a year or so.\n\nHope this helps.
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It's not self-confidence really. Mine is really just frustration. I eat a lot but for some reason I really don't gain any weight. I also workoutevery other day and play hockey once a week, but still eat a lot and really never see results. Sometimes I feel that people think I'm weak because I have muscle, but you really can't tell that I have muscle because I'm so thin. It's a little self-confidence, but overall, it's probably 94% frustration and 6% self-confidence problems.
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Proper diet(protein and carbohydrate rich)appropriate to you and systematic exercise will improve your personality. Its not the act of self-pleasure that affects your body but the ill feeling that makes u sick.  I need not tell u too much of anything is not good for your mind as well as body.  All the best for improving your personility!
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You will find that you feel lighter if you spend all day with your body in water, remember to keep your paperwork dry as you do your work! If this has little success get a friend to help, he or she should remind you throughout the day that you are over weight, it might help if they keep shouting words to encourage you to stop eating, the phrase 'fat git!' seems to work!
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I know how you feel.  I'm 18, not too much older than you and I just used to feel like a failure everytime I ate because I was just so caught up in my body image and felt that eatin made me fat. If I became fat, no one would like me.  It's not weird to feel self conscious about your body image, you just need to know how to control your eating habits.  Eat when you are hungry, you should always eat 3 meals a day and snacks inbetween.  Never skip out on meals because when you starve yourself and then you finally do eat, your body will hold onto the fat and store it because it doesn't know when it'll be fed again.  So work out also. A walk around the block is always great.