my best friend asked me out ..?
486918
just tell him that all you want to be is his friend and that you're sorry if you hurt his feelings. whatever you do, dont lie and say you have a b/f or something like that
197201
I was just going to tell you that it was not a good idea to date your friend, because you run the risk of loosing your friend.  Friends are much harder to come by.  I hope you two can bridge the gap between you so  you can salvage the friendship.  Good luck to you!
1140909
Well, the advice I would give to myself if I had this problem(which i have had before) is to go for it! Tell him in person that you likr him and you hope he likes you to. I have alot of guy friends and they all come to me for advice on girls. They all say they hate to get notes from someones best friend asking them out. They love girls who are brave enough to ask them themselves! And if he says no then at least you know and you can try to move on!! Keep in touch and tell me hoe it goes. sammie_robison@yahoo.com
4939
You said you two were best friends. So you don't become best friends unless you have things in common. I say tell her how you feel and ask her. She might be wanting the same thing but waiting for you.
529659
you really have to ask her what's the deal with what happened.but since i assume that she's your bestfriend,then i say that don't let a guy come between friendship.no matter how much you love him.and IF she wants him for herself and she lets this guy come between the two of you, then later down the road you won't be the one feeling guilty about a guy possibly ruining a beautiful friendship.
1044340
Tell her how you feel and what you want. If she feels the same, great. If she doesn't, though it may hurt, move on. It is not worth it to hold on for weeks, months, years for something that isn't going to happen. You may end up missing out on the real good stuff by standing in as your best friend's back up boy.\n\nYou said it yourself, she is your best friend. That may be all she will ever be.
651179
If your best friend is really a true friend, she'll be happy for you. There shouldn't be any problem between the two of you. She's probably happy that at least one of you two got him. If you like the guy, then maybe you should accept.
640421
I was that girl, My husband and I grew up together as kids, we were good friends. When we were in college he wanted to be more, I was on a mission for my life, so I turned him down. He called me everyday, wrote me letters, bought me gifts as a friend he would say. He pursued me for 2 years. I gave in and said yes.\nIt was awkward dating your best friend, at the same time I felt safe. You will never know until you try, Please living with the "what if" is much harder.
692452
4 all the idiots out there her question was:\n\nsometimes i worry about my best friend so much that he thinks im trying to protect him,?\nbut the truth is i am trying to protect him. i luv him to death. he tells me to chill out, he dosnt want me getting an olsar am i just too worried or what. does he think im crazy? \n\nAdditional Details\n\n1 hour ago\nhe just had surjery and i was nervous all of that day. for some reason i think something bad would happen and i wouldnt have him anymore. (ive been friends with him since he was 2)\n\nAnd i wil say that tell him that "i was just scared and worried if something bad hapened to u, and i m ur friend so i care about u, all my life i have been ur  friend, so doesnt that doesnt that mean anything to me?" he will understand, u r right, i mean u were just scared and worried about him , especialy wen he was havin a surgery and plus u have been wit him 4 a loooong time so u were scared 2 loose him. thats all, it happens...dont worry\ngood luck
828084
I know she's your best friend but this is your life were talking about not hers.Tell her you know she means well and is looking out for you, and that you take her opinions seriously but you really like this girl. And if this girl, no matter who or what she is or does, will make you happy/have fun, then as your bestfriend she should just let you be happy. Loyalty is part of friendship, so even if you ask this girl out, she'll still be your best friend. Tell her or explain  your side to her and just simply ask this girl out. If you're making a mistake, then she has to allow you to make your own mistakes, if you guys turn out happy together, then be glad you didn't let yourself get heldback.
666765
will this turn out bad ..  Perhaps\n\nor good ..   Perhaps\n\ni cant tell...  And I look like a fortune teller?\n\nwas this a good idea or no? ..  Probably not the best approach, but it's done, so there's not much you can do about it now (read: don't' worry about it any more that you've done it, focus on the future)\n\nshould i have just done it on my own .. In my personal opinion, you should have done it on you own.  What is the worst thing that can happen?  She can say "no".  Which is the same worst case scenario that could happen by having a friend intervene.  It would most likely not be the last time in your life that you would be asking someone out, and you most likely don't want to go through your entire life having friends ask people out for you.  It probably won't go over so well when you're older.  Yes, there's a chance that she could say no, but there will be plenty of "no"s in your life, as well as plenty of "yes"s.  Now is a good time to practice having confidence and getting used to asking someone out that you like.\n\nIn the meantime, there's not much you can do about this except wait.  So, don't get caught up worrying about what "might" happen; you could end up being very surprised!  Just relax, and know that you will be able to handle whatever the outcome is.\n\nAnd having someone else see if she likes you isn't the best plan, either.  How does she act around you?  Does she talk to you, or ignore you?  Pay attention to you, or not?  Find reasons to make conversations with her, and based upon how you feel, then decide if there is a chance that she might be interested in you.  Then you could ask her out.  If she says no, that doesn't mean that she doesn't like you; just that she isn't interested in going out on a date with you.  That will not mean anything negative about you; it is simply a fact that she isn't interested in going out with you.  But, you will never know unless you ask!
616605
Hey babe, your situation bites to say the least.. I've been there once or twice before and I've been on the opposite side as well. The way I handled the "rejection" was to take a step back and look at how my feelings were affecting our friendship. Once I did that I realised that we were not suited as lovers and that a close friendship was all that the both of us were capable of. \n\nIt takes a lot of time and patience to get to that stage though, so stay strong, when you're spending time together, enjoy it for what it is, stop looking at her actions as if there is a hidden meaning.. trust me - the only hidden meaning is your imagination! \n\nFrom the other side of the great love/lust struggle, when my best friend fell for me she declared her love and I let her down quite gently. For the first few days everything was great but by the end of the week we were constantly fighting and I felt that I couldn't breathe because she was smothering me with her attention. \nWe took a break for about a month and when we started really hanging out together again, she had cooled off and realised that she would rather have me in her life as a friend rather than chasing me out of her life by her desire.\n\nWhat you need to do is sit down and think about what this girl means to you and whether you can stand being around her until your feelings die down a little. \nIf the answer is yes, then maybe you need to limit the time you spend around eachother for a while and then you can go back to how things were before.\nIf the answer is no, then you need to take a look at your own life and try and come to the realisation that it may never happen and if your friend doesn't want to take you up on your offer, then you need to focus on yourself and spoil yourself until a truly deserving candidate comes into the scene :)\n\nGood luck, don't shed too many tears over her, try and broaden your circle of friends and soon enough you will rarely be thinking of her!
1146413
well i try and be with her most of the time and "pretend" to be her best friend u no... go out of my way to do things for her buy her gifts and stuff, take her out and talk to her alot! then i sart dropping hints like hypothetic questions for ex: "what would i do if i should ask u out?" and see what she has to say!
410041
I think you should ask your best friend and find out how she feels.  It would be wrong to loose a friend over a guy that you are not even sure you like.
553707
Girl...If you and your best friend are like "paper and glue" close, I think you should think it over. Think "Would she/he do that to me?" Make sure you know whats good for you. A Girlfriend/Boyfriend come and go, best friends are for LIFE! (If you have the right one)
259639
If he is your best friend, this question wouldn't be necessary. Best friends know each other deeply. I suspect he doesn't feel the same way you do, but you would like it to be that way. Ask him straight out and expect the truth. A best friend will not lie to you.
1166648
That's a hard situation cuz if you ask him out and he says no it'll be different. Have a friend ask him what it would be like if you guys were going out. He probably has already heard something like that just cuz. If he says it'll be great or something like that, go ahead and ask him. If he says "It wouldn't" like a man-biatch don't so you can keep ur friendship.  Good luck. :)