why public speaking is terrifying task?
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Public Speaking Terrifying?\n\nIn our Western culture we are so much used to criticism as kids that we believe we will be treated like this for the rest of our lives. This does not have to be that way.\n\nAs public speakers we have to prepare well for the presentation. We have to adapt the topic and the content of our presentation to the interest of our audience. Our first sentence has to get their attention.\n\nHo to get their attention?\n* We have to talk loud enough to he heard.\n* Our first sentence should be a bit provocative or funny to get the attention of our audience.\n\nExample\nFor retired people we may choose a topic like "How Can You Stretch your Retirement Income to Live in Luxury?" We can assume that there are quite a few retired people who would like to learn more how this can be done.\n\nThe first sentence after the greeting then may be, "How many of you are retired? How many of you would like to have more luxury in their life? Let's see how this could be done!" We can assume that now we have the attention of most in the audience. They want to know if and how they can live with more luxury! The speaker may give descriptions of what luxury means, a hot tub at home, cruises, vacations to the grandchildren etc.\n\nPreparations\n* I find it easiest to prepare a set of images, either slides or overhead transparencies. This way one can set up the entire presentation ahead, and when one gets distracted or is nervous, the images guide to the next sentences and what to say.\n\nPreparing details\n* I also prepare a list of the images I want to present (in case someone drops the box of slides or the stack of transparencies and thus disturbs their proper order). I make a simple sketch of each image so that I know ahead what the next image is and can state some guiding sentences. I add some key words to the list with each image so that I remember what to say under all circumstances. This makes presentations really easy!\n\nBeing on time\n* The speaker must be on time, best appear before the talk starts to make sure that everything is correctly set up and helpers know what is expected of them. Nothing is worse than keeping the audience waiting!\n\n* I take care not to go over the set time for the talk. Some people have made plans for the time after the talk and may want to leave. I want to honor their plans. A punctual ending prevents a breakup atmosphere at the end of the talk.\n\nExample\nWhen a famous speaker came to a certain city, I wanted to experience her style first hand. I traveled to the city for her evening talk and found my way to the hotel of the event. A huge room was prepared for hundreds of people to show up. I was early and sat down far in front. More and more people came finding places all over the large room. Finally it was starting time, yet, the room was only filled to a forth or fifth of its capacity. No appearance of the speaker, although it was known that she was in the hotel. A long time passed, nothing, more time passed, nothing. Finally, some helpers asked everybody in the back of the room to move to the front so that two thirds of the room could be closed off. This action took some time and when this was done there was more waiting. I wondered when I would be home having a 2-3 hour drive! Finally the "gracious lady" come fluttering in, sitting on a high chair on the stage, looking down at her audience. There was no apology for the delay! Some also knew that the one she treated as her "butler" was her partner in life and father of her son. It was known that she would appear late on purpose, as to make herself more important.\n\nWhat impression does one get from a speaker like this woman? That this speaker has a lot of issues to work out and she may not be the preferred advisor for one's own life as who she liked to represent herself. Honesty and humbleness are great virtues for a Speaker.\n\nNo absolutes\n* I see the audience as my friends and have l
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Take a public speaking class. I had really bad anxiety attacks when I had to do this, but after taking a public speaking class I do fine at it!
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You will look more calm and collected. For myself, if I know I will be speaking, I will think through what I need to say and plot out the order I will say everything. In public speaking contests, I memorize what I am going to say until I can say it as fast as I can, that way I know I know it and won't have to worry about forgetting it. Or, I will learn information about different points I was to make and remember the order of those points, instead of trying to memorize something at the last minute. Also, if questions are asked you will feel comfortable because you know the subject.
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Well as you knw that you are facing a fear of public speaking and for that the best thing to do is 1st try getting comfortable talking in a grp with ppl whom you knw really well.. then slowly start with other ppl.. the best way is to crack a joke or sumthin so that you can lighten up the atmosphere and then once you will c every1 smiling, you will automatically have the courage to talk.. and relax.. no1 is gonna do anything.. so then plz do express yourself and let others knw wats in your mind!! all the best...
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Well I know it's tough. Reading out loud helps but dont read out loud in public. I did that once, BAD EXPERENCE!
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before you do your presentation listen to some music that makes you feel calm and breathe slowly. i do this when i feel nervous or stressed out about something and it works for me.  i am sure you will do just fine you are not going to faint or throw up   look at it this way you must be pretty important at your job if you are the one who has to speak!!!   YOU CAN DO IT!!! I KNOW YOU CAN!!!!!     GOOD LUCK TO YA!
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Honestly there is no easy fix for this. You just have to put yourself in a situation where you have to talk. If you are really that uncomfortable with it and you are in school consider taking the dreaded speech class. It will force you to get up and talk in front of people. The best way to get over a fear like this is to tackle it. Hope that this helps and I wish you luck!
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Politicians like to keep us scared.
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May be they want to have a lot of attention. When someone looks at you fearfully and afraid of you, you have the 'BOSS' feeling and you feel having a greater stature in the public
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Dont be afraid to mean what you say. Seriously. I'm taking a speech class right now, and I fall to pieces if I let my emotions get out of hand.\n\nThat's when I have to realize that these are just people. We all make mistakes. It happens everyday. Don't be afraid to be who you are even if they think if it's the dumbest speech ever.\n\nThe pure success in giving a speech is saying it with pure CONFIDENCE. Your audience may get a different impression if you have boldness and sincereness in what you have to say.
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clearly, you have to speak well. No horible accents or lips or anything. Also, you cant be shy.Public speaking is not for the faint of hear.\nLastly, it helps if you a) loveable or b) hot.
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***PUBLIC SPEAKING***
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Public Speaking is easy, I assume you don't think so, having asked these questions, so here's how I do it:\n\n* Know your stuff - know *about* what you are going to say, not *what* you are going to say\n* Don't prepare a speech and try and learn it. If you miss a line, you'll panic. Instead, remember what points you want to make, and the general flow of the speech. If you know your stuff, you'll naturally fill in the blanks\n* Time yourself talking about the subject - talking aloud to nobody is a bit weird, but it helps cement in your mind what you'll say, and check it meets the time slot given.\n* Slow down. It's easy to panic, rush through your stuff, and run out of material.
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maybe you're nervous because you're aware that the whole class is listening to you and subconsciously, you're afraid to make mistake .Or you're just being too self-conscious about it. We all have the same quality more or less, people wanting to make good impressions, when the irony of it is that you have to make mistakes to be a better person.
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Start your speech out with something that makes you feel more comfortable.  If you can tell a joke, or if it's appropriate to sing a song, or just tell everybody that you're nervous, that can help you relax some.  \n\nThe more you do it, the better you get at it.  But sometimes the nervous anticipation is just what you need to do an excellent job.
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i had this fear myself.  i took a public speaking class from a university.  speaking in front of small groups, then building up to larger groups really helped build my confidence.  speaking about something i was truly passionate about helped as well.  i constantly had to force myself to speak at some sort of public function to overcome this fear.  now i emcee large events with ease, because i have done it over and over.   if that doesn't help him, he actually may need to seek help from a professional for possible social anxity disorder.
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My speech teacher had us look just over the top of the audience heads. He had up proactice at home in front of a mirror. I would practice my speeches with a tape recorder. I would have my husband or a friend listen to me. I found practice helped build confidence. Then the more you do, the easier it gets. Just practice...practice ...practice