When you have first time sex does it hurt when the hymen gets broken? can u break it before you have sex?
486873
Yes sweetie it is very likely that it will hurt the first time.  But let me warn you that having sex is a VERY big step to take... and it is one that you can never take back.  At fourteen odds are that even if you and this guy stay together for a while you will eventually break up and having sex brings in a ton of emotional factors that you shouldn't even have to worry about at your age.  I'm not trying to lecture...i'm telling you from experience.  I'm 19 and i had sex when i was 16 for the first time.  I can honestly tell you that, even though sex can be enjoyable with the right person, it is better to wait.  But if you honestly think you are mature enough the handle the consequences...like yeast infections, urinary tract infections, the possible risk of sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy...then please, please be smart about it.  Make sure u use condoms the right way...and yes there is a right way.  Use condoms with spermicide...trojan makes some in a purple box and they will say that they have spermicide on the box.  And please have yourself checked out regularly.  Get on the pill too.  I know it seems like a lot to handle...but sex is a big responsibility as well as a pleasure ...if you don't want to end up pregnant or with an infectious disease.  But really, I will strongly encourage you not to have sex yet.  You are at an age where you should just now be taking interest in boys, not having sex with them.  And if you tell this guy no and he takes it badly then he doesn't care about u anyway.  PLease Please think deeply about this decision before you act.  At fourteen you are not even physically ready to have sex let alone mentally capable of grasping the responsibilities that go with sex.  And if you need any more help with this decision you are welcome to email me at lemonllama05@yahoo.com
1029432
Yes, when a girl loses her virginity - when the hymen breaks...usually she'll bleed a little.  I guess that the red color of blood might have something to do with this term...and a girls anatomy too...don't know, but anyway, that's what it means.
397246
you didn't lose your virginity to sports, but you could have broken or stretched your hymen (the tissue that break during first-time intercourse), so it didn't cause pain during sex
353724
Yes, when you have sex for the first time (lose your virginity) your hymen, which is a thin barrier in your vagina, breaks.  It's not anything major though, and the amount of blood is usually very small.  However, the exact amount does vary from female to female.
1067733
i do not believe that you can check to see if your hymen is still there, but when the hymen breaks there is usually bleeding so you will see blood spotting. there are many ways to break your hymen other than sex. usually girls who are active in sports tend to break their hymen before sexual intercourse.
722639
You are a virgin until you are penetrated (de-flowered) by way of a penis.\n\nThe breaking of the hymen can occur at any age through a wide variety of everyday activities.
336120
I agree with Bethie. :)  You can only lose your virginity if you have sex with a guy, meaning his penis inside the vagina.\n\nHowever, you can break the hymen without sex by some other ways, but this doesn't mean you will lose virginity...only sexual intercourse is the way to lose your virginity.
902451
Well it all depends. You can expect bleeding, although many women do not bleed at all their first time, and then there are others who do. I did not bleed when i lost my virginity. It may hurt, it depends on a lot.    Make sure you go slow so it doesn't hurt too bad, and you have a less chance of bleeding. Other than that, expect pleasure :) It's awesome haha. Goodluck :)
640132
YES MY HYMEN "CHERRY" WAS BUSTED BY MY BOYFRIEND (NOW HUSBAND) WITH HIS FINGER AND I BLEED AFTERWARDS.\n\nWHEN WE HAD SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME (LIKE A WEEK LATER) I DID NOT BLEED AT ALL SO YES YOUR BOYFRIEND CAN DO THAT.\n\nTHAT GOES TO SHOW THAT YOUR HYMEN IS NOT THAT FAR UP IN YOU
976902
Well if you are a virgin you could have easily ruptured your hymen...so if you see spotting tht is what it could be, but otherwise, yes, the splits are very strenuous and if you did a hard split you likely pulled whatever muscles are in your vagina and you might have even damaged yourself somehow.  You might want to check with the doctor if it still hurts in a day or so or if it gets even worse.  If you see a lot of blood go in fast you could have a hemorrage.
367923
You shouldn't be the one to break her hymen. That's the most painful thing ever (well not really but it's not comfortable that way.) Tell her to switch to tampons. LOL.
1028749
You wouldn't have  bled if your hymen was already broken. It can break naturally as you grow up. I didn't bleed the first time either.
254596
I'm going to be completely honest and tell you that for me the first time hurt like hell. I lost my virginity earlier this year (I'm almost 22), my boyfriend was very understanding and gentle, but it still hurt. I didn't bleed though, which a lot of women have said that they do.\nFrom talking to my doctor there is a less of a chance of pain and bleeding when you lose your virginity at an older age. This is because your hymen gradually goes away throughout the years, and a lot of girls have actually broken it and not known it years earlier. \nIf your really worried I suggest getting a d.ildo/v.ibrator and working yourself in, I did this after the fact to make myself feel more comfortable with it. \nhope that helps
674501
The hymen of a woman can be broken by using tampons.  This will be a more gradual break over time rather than a tear with bleeding from a first sexual penetration.  I wanted to know since my daughter is getting to that age, so I asked our doctor.  You should use tampons of the right size for the flow and there are thinner tampons for younger girls.
547645
My dear,\nEvery female will have hymen. Hymen is basically a thin membrane at the entrance of the vaginal canal. In majority of the girls, the hymen gets removed during playing, cycling or any other exercies. The thickness of the hymen varies from female to female. Suppose, the hymen is not disrupted, girls will have pain and blood will come during the first intercourse. It all depends on how thick and the area of the hymen is. \nHope you got an answer!\nSo dont worry... \nGo ahead
69922
YES it hurts the first time, even if your partner is "patient, sensitive, and caring". I lost my virginity after I got married, and let me tell you.. my husband was extremely caring and sensitive AND patient, but it still hurt. It didn't just hurt, it hurt like hell! On the other hand, I enjoyed it without any guilt whatsoever... because I was married and because I was doing it with the one I love, the love of my life :oD
106440
The first time can hurt- especially if you are feeling tense, because the vagina is a muscle.  It's important to feel relaxed.  My first time really didn't hurt at all.  Sex feels good.  We are lucky to be a species that can enjoy sex for pleasure and not soley for means of procreating.