can a relationship be serious even if u wont dnt to get married?
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Yes, marriage is just a bit of paper.  And it costs alot of money to get married these days - some couples simply cant afford it but that doesnt mean they love each other any less than a married couple.\n\nYou can do all the same things as married people, just without paying a fortune to be a Mrs rather than a Miss
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I live with my bf now, I'm 39 and he is the first serious relationship I've had in 15 years. In those 15 years, I've RAN from 3 marriage proposals. Not really sure why, not so much the commitment, it was that I knew I didn't want to be married to those men. At this point I don't really care if I get married or not. This bf is the best and I'm happy. \nListen to your gut. It may not be commitment that scares you.
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. that is the true test. although in today's world marriage is only until divorce. are you and he willing to make a vow. in short, why marry if you get all without commitment. walk away when times require committment. \nBe true to yourself, not to someone using you.
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From what you are saying, it sounds like you may be all ready for a relationship, but he is not.\n\nThough, honestly, if you already have children with the guy and yet he is still not "ready" for a commitment - then you probably need to get rid of him. He is not for you. If he does not have the maturity to take responsibility in his life to care for his lady and his kids by at least becoming a legal husband and parent, then there is most likely some serious issue he needs to get over.\n\nI would recommend seeing a counseling psychologist, believe it or not. They really can help in these kinds of situations and will be able to offer some excellent, customised-for-you-and-him advice. That is probably the best route, if you cannot get anything out of him by sitting down and talking, seriously, directly with him. He needs to understand that not only do you want to be married, that you also feel that it is right to get married.\n\nSaying it's "too expensive" is a total cop-out, no questions about it. If two people really wished to (and, hey, when I marry I plan to do something along these lines), they could have a tiny wedding, and cut to the chase right away. "You want to get married? Yeah? Okay then. You're married." Not difficult at all.\n\nAnyway, you need to talk to him about this, and if that does not get you anywhere, try speaking with a personal counselor. I loathe to sound cold, but you may be with a guy who just does not deserve your time and patience.
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Yes you can.You can even have a relationship too.Most people don't think its right but if thats what you want and feel you can.You soldn't let anyone juge you.You also can even if it don't mean anything.
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no you are not going to marry him cause you both will do an unforgiveable thing in the very near future and then break up\n\nhe'll be forgotten about in a years time
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if you are quiet serious for marriage with her then plz go a head and take very good care of her self.\nregards
582017
I was very opposed to the idea of marriage for a long time.  But I'm now on my second marriage!  For one thing, a marriage is public statement of your relationship.  Its also a very official statement of commitment to each other.  For me, i was surprised that i actually felt more secure and serious about the relationships after I married.  People treat you differently, and many people just are more comfortable with married couples than living together couples.  Sure, marriage doesn't guarantee a forever relationship, but it makes the relationship 'official', both to the couple and the people around them.\n\nOf course, it also gives you legal rights.  For the most part, only married couples can share health insurance, have rights when the other is incapacitated, get alimony, adopt a child together.
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Wow. that is a tough one. It depends on your morals and beliefs. Is the marriage strong enough to handle the consequences? I once watched Dr. Phil and he said that is never a good idea. no matter who wants it or how long you've been married. What do you want? sometimes you have to stay true to yourself.
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I am not married, but I wouldn't stay married out of convenience. Instead, I would try to make the marriage work. I would try to identify exactly which of my needs (and my partner's needs) are not being met and how to fix them. I take marriage vows extremely seriously. I would never tell someone I would be with them until death do us part, for better or worse, unless I truly meant it.
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It's all about the person and mostly timing.If they're ready for a serious relationship and you have a strong connection they will settle but that doesn't mean it will last forever.
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Yes. Otherwise, couples would go their seperate ways when things got hard, instead of making it work. Marriage is a rational decision you make to be with 1 person, even if it gets hard. Think about a world full of broken homes, with only one parent. That would be reality without marriage.
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yes, without commitment there would be no love? you need to be commited to something in order to love it. there are different levels of commitment, from just friendship all the way up to marriage, but each one requires a form of commitment and therefore requires love.
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It doesnt always end in marriage, no. For example, my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years almost. We love each other deeply, and we have a child together. Although we believe thwat we will be together for the rest of our lives, he doesnt believe in marriage, so it wont go that way for us.... and no, I dont think that true love does break; it may evolve, alter or even fade with the years, but they will always be your true love.
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no! you must learn to live with someone before you marry them. This way you will know EXACTLY what your getting yourself into yes?
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If you want to marry someone you do not know soon, I think you must be crazy!!!\n\nAnd by the way, how would you know she is serious if you marry her too "soon" to find out??
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If he is wanting a certainty that you will be together forever, there isn't any and there never is certaintly, especially in relationships, sometimes things work out great and sometimes they don't, its just how it works. \n\nSo, if he doesn't take the chance then he will never know.  He can't go through life fearing what might or might not happen...that isn't living. If he is unwilling to make the commitment or to take the chance, there may be other things going on that you aren't aware of. Communicate with him, try and find out what other feelings or fears he has around marriage.\n\nHope this helps