What did you tell your significant other when they caught you looking at a porn site or a sex search site?
481045
"I was only doing research...for the both of us."
360100
confront them!\nthey invaded your privacy, and abused your trust.\nif it is possible, i would suggest moving, because you dont know what else they get into when your not around, or how often they do it.
551183
Porn sites are great for using in moderation, at the right time. To boost a couples sex life, to help a young single man with his confidence. Just don't get caught up in the "I don't do that" then hiding your history on your computer when your wife comes in! To want to look at naked women/men is perfectly acceptable. If we were all a bit more honest, the seedy side of the porn industry wouldn't be there
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The issue here isn't the porn, it's the sneaking around and the lying about it. That's your real problem.\nIt's only the beginning hon, unless you go get help now.\nMy ex started with magazines, then on to movies, then the Internet. At times he got so engrossed in it that I could walk right up behind him and he wouldn't know I was there. I'm not a prude and would do anything for him then, but yet he was so hooked on porn that I had to go without for 3 -6 weeks at a time. Finally, I was working nights, he was supposed to be home watching our son, who he had exposed to this crap "accidentally" a few times before. He was sitting in the recliner acting all comfy and sleepy. Just as soon as I had left the house he jumped up and ran to a local strip club, leaving our son unattended. After years of promises and trying I finally left him. Don't let that happen to you. Talk to him and then get counseling.\nI just wonder why there are so many women on here that are trying to make it sound like it's the woman's fault? Sad............
835923
Worry about what? I have no experience with this, but I would say that if you two are faithful people, then there is nothing to worry about, regardless of the past. You two might look at unusual(in the heterosexual sense) porn.
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Seems like you don't trust him already, or you wouldn't be checking out his web history. You either have reason not to trust him, or you are unable to trust other poeple because of your own problems.\n\nThat said, there is no way those sites could just appear in his history without someone visiting them using his computer. Make absolutely sure nobody else used it before accusing him. Maybe you should both go to couples' counseling if you are having major trust issues.
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I am not sure if it was a new one but it was a good one. The new partner, whatever his name is started dating a paralegal there in the office and she kept saying vagina to him. Like, "okay, dinner sounds great and then we can go back to my place and you can see my vagina". He thought this was weird and told her he couldn't see her anymore. Well, he was so hot for her that he changed his mind and she told him quietly in the inner-office that she wanted hin to say the word and he wouldn't so she said never mind and walked away. He was so sexually frustrated that he shouted out in the office in front of the other partners, "Vagina"!\nThat was only part of it but I have to go...sorry
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NOT a good idea...if you are wanting to check his email...then there has been some doubts about something...your instincts about whatever it is may be right,although if you really want to find out just ask him...cause after you look at his emails, how are you going to ask him about what you found???....then comes there becomes a trust issue w/you and your boyfriend...you might want to keep your eye on him
650502
I have a girlfriend whose ex-husband is addicted to porn.  She'd find his movies/mags between the mattresses when she changed the bed, or tucked away in his drawers when putting away laundry.  Even in the glove compartment of their family car.  She talked to him, ragged at him, but nothing would stop him.  Finally, she devised a plan.  She went to a porn shop, and bought about 100 bucks worth of stud movies and toys for HER.  She tucked Her mag between the mattress, and put her toys in the night stand drawer.  Put a few movies in the bathroom drawer.  All hidden, but easy to find by him.  WELL...he did find them, and just about came unglued.  He accused her of being unfaithful, and unsatisfied in their relationship.  He tore through the house looking for her stuff and then lite a fire and burned it.  While the fire was raging, she grabbed a bag she had stored some of his porn in and threw it in.  He got 2nd and 3rd degree burns from trying to save his crap.  While He was at the hospital.  She packed her bags and moved out. True story.  After she got counseling, she learned that 70% of men who used porn alone, disapproved of their wife's/mate watching porn alone.  It's an illness.  He won't change unless he gets help.  Sadly, he'll always have the urge.
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I told you she would find out about us sooner or later!  I am crushed, I told myself I would never do such a thing with a married man.  Then look at what I have gone and done??????  Oh my.  \n\nSeriously now,\nI say run with it, just don't over use it if you know what I mean.  Just watch out for WHEN you find her doing the same.  <wink>  :)
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man, when your no longer use full ,to the one you were seeing, your history. I would guess she knows your going to get up set with this, and does not want to look you in the eye.\n\nHappened to me, you are the last to find out.and by then by that time, she already has her eye balls on some other dude.\n\nAnd, yes you deserve to know exactly, why it went bust. you how ever may not get the real truth when you do ask.  best of luck
251499
go to a porn website.
155926
I thought my ex-boyfriend was Bi because I googled search his e-mail address and found that he was on a site called hornygays.com!! Lmao.. the site is no longer up and he swears he is not Bi. I try to believe what he tells me though. Maybe a jealous pssied ex-girlfriend signed him up for it, who knows. If I were you I wouldn't believe anything until you see it with your own eyes!!!
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As long as you are comfortable with the notion that you will most likely find something you won't like to see/know, even if it's harmless to your relationship, and then can't even share what you feel with them.  \nIf you are looking to 'catch' him and to use what you find (infidelity etc..) to end the relationship, then go for it... otherwise it will just make you feel guilty and helpless.  If you are in a happy & trusting relationship, don't do it!
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I think he's self-focused. I wouldn't be so worried that it was porn, would you feel less abandoned if all the sites were sports?  But, the fact that you needed him, and he would rather stay away than do what needed to be done for your child shows a very self-centered, unsympathetic action. \n\nDo you have other examples?  Do you know if this is the usual response, or if this is unexpected?\n\nMy advice is to talk to him, not with accusation, but just tell him you needed him and you feel hung out to dry.  You are hurt, angry.\nStay always in your own reactions, not putting him on the defensive or assigning motive to him, ask his motive because you are hurt.\n\nGood luck
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Anything that has to do with sexual stimulation with another person that is not your significant other is cheating. Also, don't do unto others what you wouldnt want done to you. If your bf had cybersex , you wouldn't like it. \n\nRules of Thumb to consider: \n- Are you doing something you wouldn't want your partner to know about?\n- Are you keeping your cyber lover a secret?\n- Are you engaging in an activity you would hesitate to do in front of your real-life beloved? \nGenerally speaking, if any of these apply, the action could either be considered cheating or at the very least, damaging to your relationship. If you don't want your partner to know about your online attractions, then you should rethink your actions. \nIn effect, your real-life mate is the deciding factor. Ask yourself, “What perspective does my partner have about cyber sex?” If he or she feels betrayed, then there's the answer. \n\nSeveral red flags to consider:\n- Is there an emotional attachment to your cyber "friend?" \n- Do you look forward to "speaking" with this person?\n- Is your online relationship taking time away from your beloved? \nIf any of these apply, you may want to analyze your true intentions. Ask yourself, “Is this cyber communication a replacement for what I feel I am missing from my real partner?” Many cyber sex participants have admitted to participating in this activity because their sex life has fallen short of their expectations. If your cyber relationship is taking time away from your beloved, it’s time to decide, who is your priority.
1047825
what are you trying to hide??? hey, its ok to watch porn, we all do it :)