why evry body like my smil but my wife? :(?
491123
Your wife is jealous of the attention you get because of your smile.  She loves it too.  That's one of the qualities that attracted her to you.
395632
How bout trying candle light?  She will think you are being romantic and you will get some reprieve.  And how about offering to work out w/ her?  Take some long walks or join the gym, maybe it will strengthen your relationship in more ways than you know!  You'll get a shapely wife, and maybe your relationship will get stronger for the time to spent together!
361613
Yes it is wrong. Your wife will take it as a criticism to her own sense of style. As her husband it is your job to love her just the way she is and not to try to change her fashion style or anything about her. What are you doing checking out unknown women anyway? no wonder she's mad at you.
777192
i think you 're the one who needs to decide if it stays or goes.if you're happy with it then dont worry.if you think it's a turn off then do something about it.  Personally my hubby gained a little around his belly and it just gave me more to hang onto to....his personality didn't change....and hes not sloppy fat so we're good...
377473
When she asks, just bend down and kiss it and say it looks fine to you, then hug and kiss her and hold her close to you.  Don't make an issue of it.  Tell her she is sexy and her body turns you on.  I know my wife's belly does.  It doesn't bother me at all.
1072098
At this point - I think you should be much more interested in figuring out which one them wouldn't love you as much if your physical appearance were to change.  It could very well be the one that you're so hot over.  And if it is, she isn't worth having!!!
57506
This doesn't just happen to men. Women get torn between two people also, but you have an obligation to your wife and your CHILDREN!!! I know it is hard, but be a man and keep your word. Good Luck!
194345
I don't think there is really any way to tell your wife and keep her, unless she is extremely forgiving and you are willing to change and be faithful.  Even then, not likely to work out.  On the other hand, you need to be honest and get this out, better she hears from you than figures it out on her own.
578762
It all falls back to the old saying... the grass is greener on the other side. It is human nature to always strive for what you cannot have, and once you have attained the one that you have lusted after, your eye starts to wander to others... As long as you realise that there will always be someone out there that will tempt you and that your wife will probably find someone that gets her temperature soaring as well! But it comes down to respect and love for your partner. You are together for a reason, and while you will continue to appreciate the scenery, the person you have chosen has the whole package! After all, that's what attracted you in the first place!
405727
i, too, am overweight and my husband tells me every day how beautiful i am and how much he loves me. don't doubt him or his love for you. embrace him and his love.
487868
I would beg to differ with this statement.  I have a very high sex drive.  and I am anything but thin...I tease my husband that he is the woman and I am the man in our sexual relationship...
652046
Sweetie, enjoy what the good Lord gave you. What is "perfect" for one woman may not fit the body size and shape of another. So it really depends on the size/shape of the individual woman.
733014
Ignore the bashers of love in here, most of them wouldn't know love even if it slapped them in the face. My wife and I are the same as you two are, we think the same, act the same, like most of the same things, had very similar dramatic life experiences thats shaped who we are, and we married each other because we saw the bond we clearly had. More importantly, we both knew who we were as individuals, and knew what we wanted. You can't know if your meant to be with someone unless you know yourself well enough to know what feels right for you and know what you want.
489722
get a new wife.  One that appreciates you for who you are.
314422
Looks like your letting how you feel confuse you to how things really are. Seems like your husband tries hard to let you know he appreciates you, at least from what it sounds like.\n\nIt sounds to me like you are insecure about your weight, and that you veiw yourself as unattractive. You are trying to solve the problem without, when the problem is within. No ammount of encouragement from your husband will help you unless you make up your mind to be encouraged. It sounds to me like he loves you dearly, finds you very attractive, and wants you very much in his life. Don't let your feelings lie to you and tell you otherwise. It seems to me like you are interperating things from him that he doesn't really feel, because that is really how you feel. It's not him that thinks you are fat and ugly, but you are afraid he does. Again, from what you've told me, I'm fairly sure he thinks just the opposite!\n\nNow, if part of the problem is, as you said above, that he isn't more interested in sex, don't nessisarily look to yourself as the cause. He may be busy at work, which leaves him tired and stressed at night. He may have some difficulties in that area, perhaps something clinical. You should both sit down and talk about this, together, and be patient with him, not nagging, whiney, or demanding, but letting him know how you feel, and listening to his side patiently.\n\nIf you are contributing to this part of the problem at all, it is probably from your insecurity, not your looks. If you feel ugly, and act like you feel ugly, you will make yourself seem less attractive. Don't keep thinking of yourself as unnattractive! Remember that your husband loves you, he wouldn't likely have married you if he didn't think you are attractive! Be confident, quit looking at what you think are your flaws, and concentrate on what makes you attractive. Think of yourself as attractive, and you will BE more attractive simply by how you act from it.\n\nI hope and pray everything works out well, and God bless!
750773
Why dont you discuss it with your wife.  You said that she is a sweetie, work it out with her.
107810
Are you noticing a pattern here? All the people answering this question are women!\n\nI especially like the one who says…”Why do you care? If you love your wife and enjoy her pants area, don’t worry about it.”\n\nThe reason he cares is because he didn’t sign up to be married to some bovine beast in a sack dress. Do you really think he is “enjoying her pants area” if she has eaten her self to the size of the Goodyear blimp? \n\nWhy shouldn’t this hag make the effort to be at the same weight she was when she got married? Why do women think that once they snag some poor slob they can just start pounding ice cream down their gullet, slathering their meals with gravy, and dress in nothing but moo-moos? There is a reason that hideous sack is called a moo-moo ya know….it’s because it’s the same sound a cow makes!\n\nA couple of people pointed out that black has a “slimming effect". NONSENSE! The only thing that has a slimming effect is pushing your self away from the dinner table before you’ve stuffed your gut to the breaking point.\n\nBottom line here pal, if your wife is asking you if she looks fat, THEN SHE IS FAT!  And the next time she asks you if something she is wearing makes her look fat, tell her to shut her festering pie hole and get on the treadmill!