What to do if you love a man and he only wants to be friends with you?
486099
Accept the friendship and hope it grows.  Don't force it or you will drive him away.  If you really care for him, you will be okay with just being his friend as long as he is happy.  It may hurt but, if you love and care for him, you want what is best for him = not you.
661790
Sorry honey, guys must do the first move, and if he did not do it it means he wants you only as a friend.\nNowdays women are becoming too open and agressive, and guys miss the magic of hunting and courting!!! we are cutting off their attributes.\nSo, sorry, but step back, keep him as friend and put your interest somewere else, in the meantime be sweet and nice to him, be always very well put together when you meet, so in this way, did not work with him sentimentally, you always will have a great supporter on him. Please, remember, be a real femminine woman "NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE"
396323
The best advice ever comes from the book and TV show "Sex and the City", the quote says "He's just not that into you." If you keep this in mind, you will avoid a lot of heartache. Realize that you cannot make anyone fall for you. If he says he just wants to be friends with you, he is already feeling pressured. Just imagine, if after 6 months of trying to get this guy's attention, how much time and energy you would waste trying to get this man to fall in love with you. Do yourself a favor, find someone else. And let the man come to you, don't ever chase a man.
360411
Let him know just how you truly feel but be ready for the consequences like him saying he wants to be "just friends" Maybe he doesn't think he knows you well enough to jump into it right now but stick by his side if you do care thats what good frineds are for, still letting him know how you feel just by being there for him.
305440
Tell your husband and make sure he's okay with it. and then tell the other guy that you can only be friends and make sure he knows that because if a guy doesn't know that he will probably try to get you to like him.
135120
We have to go for love.  That's the way humans are made.  If this man doesn't love you now, it doesn't mean that he never will.  Obviously he feels something for you since he spends time being with you.....give it some time and you'll know.  \n\nThe friend that cares about you but you only like as a friend - why not just keep him as a friend until such time as you are committed to someone else, at least.
484771
Maybe you need to back away b/c your sense of judgement is clouded by feelings for him and you are not open to having just a friendship with him yet! You need to tell him how you feel and just back up
191982
Are you fairly young? If so, I think he most likely is trying to achieve longevity. He wants to stregnthen the friendship first, then will move on to a more intimate relationship. When you are young you go through many relationships, or bfs/gfs. I'm sure he realizes this & wants this relationship to last. So, he is trying to create a stable foundation for a successful & lasting relationship. My husband "loved" me since we were 15 yrs. old. I refused to be more than friends until the age of 18. I loved him, but I knew the likelyhood of it lasting forever at 15 yrs. old was not good. The result...we've been happily married for 8yrs. now! Good luck!!
182099
well....if you don't love him than tell it to him so later he won't feel as bad as he would now.....or else you could just say that you just want to be friends now
475637
You can't make him, and if you try to make him you will only push him away. If he said he only wants to be friends, respect that and look elsewhere for love.
357599
The best thing you can do is be honest. tell him that he's a really good guy but not your type. Say ''is it OK if we can still be friends''? If he Say's no just say you understand and move on. It's not like it's the end of the world or anything.
37396
Well to start, there are different kinds of love.  Do you love him as a friend or do you want to be with him?  If you just want to be friends, then let him know you love him as a friend and just say it.  If you love him and want to be with him but you are not sure how he is going to react then tell him that you love him.  The difference is that you are telling him and waiting for a response.  Or even better just have a general conversation with him.  For instance, start off by telling a fake story about a friend who fell in love with a male friend and ask how he would have handled the situation.  If he gives you the answer you are looking for, let him know you are the friend.
1167349
If you can't be friends with him without "wanting" him you need to back away and respect the woman who is now his wife.  He chose her not you and the bond that they have now is sacred.   \n\nYou will find someone else to love you and treat you right but first you need to get over what you can't have and learn to love yourself.
577181
Give him a chance to be you friend, your not talking marriage, just friendship.
215684
if you say you want to just be friends he is never going to talk to you dont do it
375455
Act like you always do around him.  But if it doesn't turn out good doing that, talk to him and say that you just want to be friends.
57139
Just tell him that you value his friendship and appreciate him being there for you, but at this time, you are not into being in a serious relationship.  Tell him that you need time and space to get your own thoughts together before you can start to share your life with someone else in that way.