CHRISTIANS: Does anyone have trouble with dating?
487582
My advice, is to be patient.  There is NO reason to rush things.  If you are a christian, then you know full well what God has planned for your life.   Pray for this future woman, and rest in the fact that God has control of your life..  This will free you up to enjoy all your friends, and not worry about if you like them, or if they like you, etc.  Just enjoy your life.  Being VERY picky about who you date and eventually marry is a thing to be encouraged.  Life is way too short not to choose the best.
33706
opposites attract. when it comes to looking for your one you have to pray
1088652
I'm gonna lose points for bucking the system that has you labelled as a Do Not Answer person but I'll go out on a limb here cuz I'm pretty sure that if I do, you'll kick me dowm with the ten points!\nI'll always answer your question when I see them in religion & spirituality but otherwise, the singles & dating thing seems like it attracts alotta wierdos too so give it a shot. of course, if you get really frustrated again, just IM or 360 me & I'll give ya the staright poop as long as it's intelligible.
413650
well, I am not married...yet! I am a Christian, and God has definately blessed me. I never seemed to date the right kind of guy, until one day I let my heart get broken. It was then that I gave up being impatient, and gave God total control of my relationships. I wasnt even looking for a relatioonship, seeing how I just had my heart broke. I was online one day, and this random guy instant messaged me, and wanted to talk to me about God. He had seen on my profile that I was a Christian, and was hurting from a broken marriage and needed somenone to talk to that would give him Godly advice. At the moment I put my love life into Gods hands, is the very moment he opened up a new door and showed me the light that lead me out of darkness. Brandon was the guys name, and we started out by being friends and talking about God. He is unlike and other guy I have ever dated, and he is the answer to my life long prayer. I had almost given up on guys altogether, until Brandon walked into my life. He treats me with respect, honor, and loves me for me and the beautiful creation God made me. Although we are not married yet, I am basically waiting for him to propose. I thank God everyday for the gift he has brought into my life; I could never have imagined it would feel this wonderful to be loved.
25131
No, I have a strong relationship. There is a difference. Religion dictates belief while a relationship is nutured over time. I read the Bible and ask God to give me the details to understand. I have pastors that I mentor under, but I will challenge them if I think they are in error. It is not often, cause I got some great teachers.
253943
Many many times.  It's the bane of my existance.  Some insist that I am still a christian.  I explain my views in detail but it must be very painful for them to listen (they're religious).  The one closest to me at this very moment is staring at me mutely.  I don't believe he understands a word I'm saying ;P .
314809
politics and religion are very controversial things, if you ask them out in the open, you will get lots of answers and be more confused then you were before. so once again, read the bible and decide for yourself!
583105
I never thought of that before but I bet someone has, because sex seems to be the problem for every thing. It's a funny thing though that God told them to be fruitful and multiply, and everything was theirs  but the fruit of knowledge of good and evil. Once their eyes were opened they saw what God gave them as Evil.
392758
You'll meet the right person wether you're into dating or not. There isn't anything wrong with you, I don't much take any interest in dating either, Although I'm only 13. (well i'll be 14 May 1st). But I don't find it very enjoyable. I enjoy just sitting around on the computer most the day and leaving for school and church, There's nothing wrong with you. Or there would be something wrong with me too. So it's ok, You wont be alone forever unless it's meant in gods eyes for you to be. Which I don't think that's so cause god made man and women to be togather. So you wont be alone forever, just have faith. All things are done through god. oh, and Good Luck finding your true love.
1088901
do you go to church with him? \n\njust keep dating him, you'll eventually have deeper conversations and you'll learn as to where he stands with many issues and by living his life you'll see how important his values/convictions are. you'll know, trust me. you need a man that pushes you to grow. don't worry if he's not for you.\n\nand keep asking God, if he's not for you God will pull a string and you may break up, or God might even tell you himself who you should be with.
965822
Good question!\n\nApostle Paul says in 2 Corinthians7:14-18, "Do not be yoked with nonbelievers." If God is speaking to you, telling you that this boy is not a Christian, then you should listen to Him, pray about it, and see what God leads you to do. In my opinion, if he was practicing witchcraft... then within 4 days-a month he probably did not accept Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. Yes, DO ask him these questions, to his face-- have a sit-down talk. Is he attending church? Does he profess that Christ is his Savior who died for all his sins? If so, then he is a Christian and you should help him grow by having a Christ-centered relationship with him. Christian dating is focused on marriage. And marriage, the Bible says, must be with a believer. If it turns out that he is not a Christian, and you still feel like you should stay together, then ask God to help you help your boyfriend seek Christ in his life. Take him to bible studies and retreats and church. Let God do the rest. If you feel like your boyfriend is not a Christian, and has no desire to truly discover Jesus and eventually accept Him into his heart, then I say you should break up with this boy. He will not be good for your own spiritual walk, and he might even pull you down to his level. Make sure he doesn't "falsely" accept Christ just to make you feel better. Christ is not a dating instrument-- He is our Savior and Lord who died on the cross for us.\n\nPraise God for this strength that you have for seeking His heart! I wish you the best of luck through this, and pray that you'll find the man of God who will lead you spiritually in love and encouragement-- that is also the man of your dreams!
29738
That's the problem - boys... Not that when they become men it gets much better. But some mature. Get a good Christian man and your chances go up =)
463306
Um, maybe it depends on the type of girl you are looking for.  I usually don't have a problem finding dates.  \n\nMy problem is in finding women who have the qualities that I want to date.
756403
Don't give up, and don't settle for less...are you in an environment where you can meet other christians? If so, and you have asked God to bring someone into your life that believes and lives a Christian life,  then just believe that God will do it and one day soon, probaly in a way that you wouln't have ever imagined, you'll meet him...I've seen it happen over and over again...so be encouraged and don't give up....
562273
in my past i did, and only 1 did i never meet. the rest and i met and fell for each other. i've had some pretty decent times with that. why are you asking about online dating? i thought you had a boyfriend? will i online date anyone now? no. not for me. i'm waiting for God's best.
842402
Thats a tough one to handle.I have been devorced 6 years now.After my ex did her thing I tried to date off and on for awhile but something kept me from getting serious with someone.I noticed that everytime I found a person I liked and wanted to get to know better this nagging feeling would get in the way.\nI thought about this for sometime and realized that it was me and trust was the issue.A couple of the ladies I dated told me that I had put up a wall and they couldn't find a way to get around it.Lately I haven't had as hard of a time trusting someone but its still there.I'm not sure if it will ever go away completely.
847457
IF YOU WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANYONE, YOU HAVE TO REALIZE THAT IT'S NOT AL ABOUT YOU.\n\nIF YOU ARE INTENT ON MAKING IT ALL ABOUT YOU, THAN YOU CAN ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOU WILL REMAIN ALONE FOREVER.\n\nRELATIONSHIPS ARE ABOUT COMPROMISE AND NEGOTIATION.\n\nThere's nothing wrong with your beliefs, but you can't expect to make others believe what you believe.\n\nYou also have to have RESPECT for the beliefs of other people, and ACCEPT them.\n\nYou are smart to think about how your beliefs, political views, etc are compatible with a perspective partner, but you have to allow for the fact that NOT EVERYONE THINKS JUST LIKE YOU.\n\nYyou should date people for fun.  That's the best way (actually the only way) for you to learn more about yourself, what you want and need from a partner, what you require, what you will and will nt accept from someone, and what you are willing to give someone.\n\nYou have to see what types of people are out there, how different people handle things, and you have to face possible rejection and even get your heart broken a few times.\n\nYou have to experience all that before you will be ready to be a partner to anyone.\n\nIt looks as if you think you can find a person to squeeze into your mold of what you think you want a partner to be.  You appear to think there is a person out there, tailored to your specific needs.  Wake up.  Think about this.  The right partner for you will challenge you to become a better person, to be a partner, and be willing to accept other people.  \n\nThink about this:  THE MEETING OF TWO PERSONALITIES IS LIKE THAT OF TWO CHEMICAL ELEMENTS......IF THERE IS ANY REACTION, BOTH ARE CHANGED.\n\nMaybe you don't want to date for fun because of possible rejection or emotional pain.  Well, that stuff happens.  How you handle it builds character. \n\nYou claim to be so passionate about your beliefs.  Are you Christian?  Jewish? Muslim?  Budhist?  Whatever your faith, you have to remember one thing.  Pure faith is all about surrendering control, and having faith that there is a reason why things happen.\n\nYou seem to have control issues.  Have you considered that you may have a touch of OCD?  You probably have a touch more social anxiety than average (yess, we ALL have some social anxiety) \n\nI know, most people do, but maybe you have a little more.  Do you believe that you need to nail everything down yourself, or the world will spin out of control?  Or do you TRUST yourself and your ability to handle the spontaneous and unexpected?  Do you have to plan everything or are you adaptable?  Do you rehearse things or are you good on your feet?\n\nSelf-preservation is that pesky little tendency (we ALL have) to believe that our actions are justified, our views are correct, and that our priorities trump all others.  Wars are started over this.  but wel ALL think this, so there's bound to be conflict.  \n\nSome of us have EMPATHY, the ability to see BEYOND our own perspective, and accept that of other people (even if we don't agree or understand).   We ACCEPT other people's differences and ideas.  The rest of us have to LEARN how to have empathy.  Empathy is the singlemost attractive human quality.......\n\nYou need to have faith in your faith, give up control to it, grow some empathy, experience emotional intimacy with different people, and face your fear of rejection.  You need to stop being so self-absorbed and start to make it about other people.  It's not all about you.  That is completely narcissistic and narrow-minded.\n\nYour beliefs don't eliminate your dating possibilities, but your attitude all but guarantees solitude.  Try making someone's day rather than expecting them to make yours.  Give your time and attention to others.  Make it about them.  It will feel good inside to you.\n\nVolunteer your time (a few hours a week) and one of the Salvation Army volunteer opportunities.  You will meet many different people with many different bel