How do you know the time has come to get married?
479767
When it feels like it would be the logical next step.\nAsk yourself the following questions....\n\n1. Do we love, trust and respect each other?\n2. Do we share the same expectations of marriage? \n3. Do we share things in common that make us shout, cry and laugh? \n4. Do we agree on major life issues, such as children, family and friends, where we'll live and style of living? \n5. Do we have a way of managing conflict? \n6. Do we share the same views on infidelity and commitment to avoiding temptation? \n7. Do we love each other just the way we are today, without any hidden agenda to try to change the other?\nYou don't have to agree on everything. The important thing is that you and your partner have talked through these questions and both feel confident you can live and work together, knowing what the other believes
8514
There's a special someone waiting out there for each and everyone of us. might even be so near as to be your checker at your favorite store. One day when your thinking all else fails you. he/she will surely come along. as easy as spilling soup in your lap. even if it takes two years later. a joke to be told about that day. It's gonna bring a grand day in your life. yes my friend one day you will get married.
64135
The both of you should tell your parents about your plans and ask for their support.  Explain why you are getting married and why you believe you are ready for this step.  Hopefully they will understand and help you with your wedding.  Good luck.
778456
Whenever you are ready, trully in love, and mature enough. My hubby and I knew each other since we were little kids. We got married when I was 22 and he was 20. We've always been very mature for our age and we knew what we wanted. We've both graduated from college, we have our own home, have a wonderful dog, and we have been married 4.5 years. We're now trying for our first child. We were in love and we didn't want to spend another day apart. We also waited until marriage to have sex, btw. :)
858171
It depends upon the place where your marriage has been solemnised.  If it is in India no problem, you can get it easily and no need to wait till your husband comes.  Apply to the marriage registrar office.
678151
2-3yrs should be enough time to know whether or not you want to get married. But if you know you want to be together for the rest of your lives, then why wait. It could only take you a week to realise you want to marry each other. And it could be the best decision you ever make. It all depends on the individual.
141242
Actually time is not really an issue.  I know pople who dated for 4 - 6 months and got married.  But there a re also people I know who have been dating since the beginning of time but they are still unmarried.  So obviously you are marriage oriented.  Bring up the marriage topic to him and see his reaction.  Positive or negative.  But you can also ask him directly to be sure  --  "do you plan on marrying me?" But be prepared for either getting really hurt or a pleasant surprise. In my opinion, if you are unsure then the answer is no or not yet.  Usually the guys will drop in a lot of hints on the fact that they want marriage early on in a relationship.  Does he talk alot about your future together?
321989
From what I understand, it can be planned in a year's time.  You can find wedding planners that give you step by step instructions on what to do each much, so you won't get overwhelmed.  But on another token, I've seen people get engaged and wait at least two year or so, to get their debts caught up and all so they can actually have a 'fresh start'.  Good luck.
257413
I'm 36, husband is 39. We've been married 16 1/2 years. We have four kids, ages 13, 11, 10 and 8. \nI wouldn't worry too much about not being married yet. It just means you haven't found the right person yet. Wouldn't you rather wait for "The One" rather than get married, just to say you're married. Loads of people are waiting to get married these days. I think it's wise to wait because you are more mature and know what you like or don't like and what you are looking for in a life-partner. Don't rush it. It will happen in good time and probably when you least expect it.
60757
Find out how he feels.  Find a comfortable time for both of you to talk about your feelings.  If he is not interested in getting married, you will have to make a decision to wait for him (for years maybe) or find someone else.  My sister in law waited for 18 years before my brother proposed.  They got married in 9 months after the proposal.  Do you want to wait that long?
901974
it depends on how big its going to be and how elaborate you want it. some people start planning their weddings a year or more in advance. but if you want a more casual type of wedding, then maybe a few months before.
1051005
when you are married. duh.
506055
My husband and I met in late October 2004.  Within two weeks, I knew we were going to marry.  We moved in together almost immediately.  Although, I did keep my apartment until we were married, but never went there.  We took several road trips together.  We were engaged on May 13, 2005, and married on July 27, 2005. We are expecting our first child in October of this year.  I cannot imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone  else.  We are both 28 years old.  I have never been married, though have been engaged a couple of times.  I have never been more cetain of anyone or anything in my whole life.  Yes, we get on each other's nerves every now and again, but Phillip is my family, my best friend, my lover and husband.  I can tell him everything and talk to him about anything.  I have no doubts, regardless of what may come, we can work it out.  For me, divorce is never an option.  I will stand by Phillip whatever comes because I care about him and I am certain he will never purposely hurt me.  I would rather experience the grandest love and then lose it than never have known it at all.  I say go for it.  If you feel it deep inside yourself, take your love as far as you can.
902955
Look, you wanna get married, you think you've found the right guy, you're responsable enough to work AND go to school so what's the problem with all these other posters???? GET MARRIED! Keep in mind that you have probably been having your period for the last 5-7 years and therefore been able to procreate for the last 5-7 years.... that is a lot of waiting time already. And wow, some people want you to wait for 15 years?!?! No girl, listen to your own common sense, do what feels natural and what you think is the right thing. Also, why on Earth do people want to encourage promiscuity, lack of commitment and sex without marriage? Or do they expect abstinence from age 15 to 28? People use your brains and realize that women and men are fertile and sexual and need a proper environment in which to fulfill their needs, and that a proper marriage to a consenting partner is often just the right answer. So who are we to discourage you? Once again, get married, think positively and fight for what you think is right, don't let the nay-sayers put you down!\n\nP.S. I got married quite young (21) and pre-marriage counseling is a super big helper. It helps to set a strong base and to work out the wrinkles BEFORE you get married and the mindset of a person before they are married and after can be quite different and often  some things are more easier to work with at the very beginning, before routine, expectations and exterior commitments (like full-time job, children, etc.) start forming.\n\nBest of luck,\n\nFC
1052469
God will let you know when the time is right or the person.  God does things on His time for us.  Not on our time.  Maybe God knows that you may get hurt so he wants you to wait a bit.  Maybe there is someone else God had in mind that will come along.  Maybe God wants you to be more financially secure before heading into a marriage.  Maybe God wants you do to other things before getting married.  There may be various of reasons but if God is not ready for you to get married, then by all means wait.  He has His reasons.  Be patient!
633905
Get married and find out.
244928
9.5 months after you get married