She isn't happy and wants to separate...Please help me fix this..?
488010
It's good that you seem like a good man if you are showing all the signs that you love and care for her. However, your girl seems to have had enough of you for whatever reason. I think she may feel overwhelmed by the living arrangement you guys have chosen and she finally figured out that she needs her space. Maybe living together put a strain on the relationship and she feels smothered. You can't make her stay if she so desperately wants to go.
406275
You should stay out of their marital problems until their divorce is final. She probably wants to distance herself from you because she has conflicting feelings. If your love were more selfless and less selfish, you might see this.
758687
You answered your own question. She sounds like a nutcase. Dont make yourself miserable, just move on without her.
697885
I hate to say it but I have been where she is. I know what she is doing. She is escaping. Video games are the only things she can control right now. She is just as frustrated as you are.Perhaps she didn't sign up to be your house lady or your laundry mat. Maybe she had hopes of being someone or something other than that and unfortunately your complaints are only making things worse. You need to help her recognize her situation and discover what it is she really needs and wants. Part of that may mean she needs some time away from her current situation, time away from the games. You can't impose this time away you can only suggest it. This type of behaviour is definately a sign of unhappiness and a sign she needs to do some changing but I fear, like me, she will have to fall hard to know this. It took some serious life changes to teach me and I hope for her it won't be this way. The best you can do is be as loving and supportive and non-judgemental as possible.
716862
If your really this un happy why don't you just get a divorce... It's not fair to your wife and it's fair to you... I think it's time to call it quits and be single for a while...
213787
ok she is feeling like things are out of her control and she is hurt emotionally and yalls relationship is one thing she does have control over so she is trying to stop from getting emotionally hurt by you not that you would but its just a scence of security. tell her you know whats going on and understand but would really love to be there for her. give her some space, but dont give up or stray to far if you really do love her.
1126489
You have to now figure out if this is good for you.  She apparently doesn't know what she wants.  Either she's fearful of the life that could include being with the same person until death, or she can't handle being faithful.  She's hurting you, but does she realize it?  Have you ever just sat down with her to figure out what the deal is?  I'm sorry to say that I think a divorce would be the best thing.  She obviously has some issues, and no one can get through to her.
480801
Eight years is a long time to let go of. maybe she just needs some space. Try separating for a while. It seems that you both still have feelings for one another. Seems like she feels lost. I know, I'm going thru the same thing with my husband. I feel like I've lost myself. I'm not the same person I was when we first met. Give her some time. I'm sure she'll re-evaluate your relationship.
605761
Then you need to step up to the plate do you want her to stay or go? Because it is your life too! If you dont want her around then let it go but if you do then you need to try to resolve things!
383925
It's unfortunate that there is a third person involved because he is going to blind her and confuse her thinking.  You really need to remind her to think about the children.  This person she is seeing is not going to take her serious with two children; I just can't see that happen.  Definately discuss this issue with her as well.  She is being extremely selfish; I don't know what led you to seperate but either she wants a divorce or she doesn't.  Talking to another person is a terrible idea if she wants to make things work out with you and you have to put your foot down and asap.  Best of luck to you!! OMG!
506077
Get rid of her.  She thinks she could break it off and come back whenever she feels like it.
314683
I'm sorry as this is very immature of your girlfriend.  She should understand that you can't always be together.  Just explain to her why and she either accepts it or she doesn't.  If she doesn't, it might be time to find someone who is more understanding.
138991
Well, I just left the guy that I was with.  At first I had a really hard time dealing with him.  He made my life miserable and he f'd up a lot of opportunities that I had.  I hated him so much, but I practiced a lot of restraint and didn't let my anger take over the situation because we had a child together.\nIt sucks that she is being so hateful toward you, especially since you have a child together and you'll always have to deal with each other.\nI do not know what happened between the two of you, but here is what I would suggest if you really want to help things smooth out between the two of you so that you can sucessfully co-parent together.  I would say:\nI am sorry for the things that happened between us, that things did not work out, and I respect that you have hard feelings and that you are angry with me.  I want to give you the space that you need to work through this and I will be willing to talk if you need to.\n\nThen from there, you really have to be willing to hear her out and don't interupt her when she tells you how she feels about you or what happened, don't try to justify anything, just let her vent.  It will help her to move on.  You guys are obviously not going to be friends anytime soon, but that's not the point, just make sure there is ample opportunity to discuss anything child related and leave it at that\n\nMost likely she is so mean because she is hurt that the relationship is ended. She resents you and with time it will hopefully get better, but unfortunatly there are women out there who never let it go and the best thing to do is to let them think they are right.  Remember, Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...\nJust be the best father you could be, your kid is all that really counts anymore.\nDon't let her drag you into arguements about anything because if things get nasty, anything you say could later be brought up against your nature if you go to court over custody.\nBe the better person.
658545
I'm so sorry you had to hear that. There's really no clear way you can cope and deal with that. Is there no more possibily of a reconciliation or anything? If that's the case, then just let her go. It'll be hard, but I'm sure you wouldn't want to be a hindrance to her happiness.\n\nPray for strength and guidance and focus on your kids. Be strong for them. \n\nGoodluck.
286176
let her go dude...\nthink about it you can not force her to love you ... and futher more would you want her to be unhappyly w/ you
524960
Have you tried discussing this with her. Therapy and counseling are the only ways to help her. The biggest problem is that she has to want to go and needs to realize her own problem. Good luck.
254280
I think you should have a heart to heart talk with her\nand let her know she can't always have what she wants.\n\nGood luck.