Why is it that easy to give fake compliments and asking someone to "get self-esteem"??
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The only logic behind it is people will always happily tell you that you look great because they are making sure you dont look better than them. Its a fickle old world and will never change but at least you can get yourself wiser to the fact.\nMe? I always tell the truth no matter how much it offends people because i actually get more fun out of that. (instead of pissing up their backs) and because i'm evil :)
125089
Varies by the person. The best way to raise self-esteem is to try to focus on the things you like about yourself. Keep any compliments you receive in mind too as that will help you feel a little better about yourself. The more you focus on the good, the less you will look for the bad. Unfortunately, it's not an easy issue to fix, but focusing on being happy should help. As for a timeline...depends on the state of self-esteem to begin with and ability to cope and adapt. I wasn't too bad, but was very shy because I always felt stupid. Instead of pushing that out I just accepted it and now use it as a way to make people laugh. It only took a month for there to be a noticeable improvement in my self-esteem. And I always felt better. But it took 3 years for me to be practically entirely comfortable with myself. I hope that helps, if not I apologize.
289389
You may be doing it without even realizing it.  If you just be who you are, then you'll make the lasting impressions with the right people for you.  There's one, and only one, person out there who is truly made for you, and I wouldn't worry a second about the rest of 'em.
820676
It's insecurity. It's a defense mechanism that we put up to not being hurt or show your true feelings for fear of getting hurt. I've grown out of it when I left my teenage years. Now I just be myself and let people see the real me. I'm actually quite a cool person :P
422630
Hey i let my imaturity show all the time, people appreciate it. Especially when they arent in a good mood. it cheers them up! so acting like a moron around others a big Plus in PR
392176
Honestly you don't sound all that respectful yourself.\n Fake compliments?  Not sure what that means..do you mean\n she sucks up to people with things she doesn't mean? Or\n do you mean she is sarcastic in one of those "mean girl"\n ways?  If you don't like her, tell her why. It might do\n her some good. If not..she should be off your back.
703159
not at all, it is just a matter of contact and a bit of understanding individuals that u wish to attract.\nU need to recognize and assess a good qualities and convey in a manner to that person which would enhance his self esteem. it would be effective when it is honest forthright,
837983
Most likely yes.\n\nGuys tend to be needy and their self esteem is based on feedback from others and not their own self respect.\n\nDon't beat yourself up.  It's NOT you.
804803
maybe your arrogance?? its one thing to know you have it... and not feel the need to flaunt yourself in here...  but its a whole other thing to have to try to get as much attention in here as you can.
489808
GEESH...CUZ I DO!!!! just kidding. It is good to have good self-esteem and all, but I agree with you,too much is just uggh, kinda annoying right? I agree...I agree..Stuck up little spoiled wannabe princesses and daddy's little girl's exist in this world! and I've gotta admit I was one of those little peppy things...ughh I know-I know, the question is why?...it is amazing how many of us really don't know the answer!... I guess for attention, or to announce to the "world" that we dont give a shi*t about no one cuz we are rich and loved and beautiful beyond compare...right?...dunno! But yup just laugh it off...and when someone that is REALLY hot and good-looking...I'll tell you man...good luck with that...they ain't TOO easy...cuz they KNOW they look good, and they WONT rub it in your face....Later
517337
I think most people feel the same way you do.  I always find that carefully listening to people & then asking them questions about themselves is a great way to start a conversation. Most people like to talk about their likes, dislikes, etc. & just need an invitation to do so.
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It's an ego boost, which satisfies that part of the male psyche which has an imaginary harem at his beck and call.\n\nWomen are equally capable of behaving like this.\n\nIt's also a safe way to feel good about yourself because you know it doesn't have to go any further and you are in control, you've got someone liking you and perhaps dangling on your words.
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sadly to say...I've been at both ends of your question until I took a hard look at who I was and now I'm truly genuine. what I did and who I was put a lot of fan fair on me. It was fun until I wanted to get serious with life at a comfort level of "normal" . there's no room for ego when you want to share your life with someone special.. Don't confuse ego with self confidence. :)
372774
Why don't you try and find something genuine to compliment them on instead?
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^ ? ^  yes, there are many people like that. i never really cared for people that take themselves so seriously, and are so narcissistic, that they assume the most innocuous statements are insults about themselves. however, it could be a simple matter of low self esteem that a person would even assume that a general statement made is an insult directed toward them. i guess it boosts their already overinflated sense of self worth to think that people would deem them important enough to even insult them.
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I think for some people asking a complete stranger is easier than asking someone you are close to.  On here you never see the person's face so even if they judge you you can blow it off.  When it is someone you know, you have to look them in the face and see how they react before the words come.  It is harder for human beings to be judged by someone they are closely attached to.
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Some people show off because they truly believe that they are terrific and wonderful, and they want everyone else to know it too.\n\nSome people show off because they are insecure and want people to be impressed by them and think they're special or rich or whatever.\n\nAnd then there are the people who show off to hide some ugly secret or dirty fact about themselves that they are trying to hide from everyone else, like that they're a child molester or something.