Should I listen to my parents in thier choice of husband for me?
488736
if you don't like the guy don't marry him, cause it's not your parents who are going to live with him the rest of their lives, but you. think about what you want and moreover about what you feel. \nGod says that two persons have to love each other to get married, otherwise they offend the holy union of marriage. \nprobably your parents want the best for you, but they cannot be sure of what is really best for you.\nand anyway they cannot force you to say yes before the priest. wait a while, if your parents really want the 'best' for you, they'll stop blackmailing and harming you.\nif they'll continue doing that, it proves that they have other interests with this marriage.\ndon't fight them, just tell them calmly that you won't marry that guy and that's all.
943160
At 22 you are entitled to do what you want, make your feelings known to your parents, tell them you love them and appreciate their concerns, but it is your life, and as an adult you need the time and space to make your own decisions.  Talk frankly to them about any misconceptions they have of your fiance, but don't do it with hostility.  You say you have prayed about your decision, that suggests a faith in God, in which case, approach this with a meek and humble attitude.  Respect your parents, involve them in your decision as much as possible, but ensure they know that it is your decision, and that they must abide by it.\n\nMy daughter is getting married in a few weeks, her fiance would not be my choice, but she is the one marrying him, and I love her enough to respect that choice, your parents will do the same if they love you.
726723
listen to your parents....they actually know what they are doing. its for your own good. you'll thank him one day. trust me. i was your age only a few years ago...and sometimes i wish that i had obeyed my parents more...i would be a lot better off i think.
546206
Consider the fact that a "boyfriend" is the first step toward having a husband.  He may one day, become a member of your family.  If your parents knew you from birth and raised you, their feelings about this boy should be considered and their opinions heard because they have more life experience than you have and they love you more than someone you just met.  If you go out with him anyway, at least you will have some points of caution to keep from becoming emotionally bonded to someone who proves himself to be undesirable or unreliable to you.  Give him a chance to prove himself but proceed with caution.
39855
you have asked this question three times. i know you kind of want a yes, you should. but listen to us. think first. talk to her about it. there can be complications. can you live with her? would your parents be happy? could you guys marry, and still have money to live on? think first.
797239
If you are wise enough to differentiate beween infatuation and love, then love marriage is the way to go.  However, if you are not sure about yourself, maybe you should leave it to your parents.  Some people prefer arranged only to be able to blame their parents if it doesn't work out.  I think that is too shallow if you consider marriage to be the single most important decision in your life that should be treated as an investment.
672751
I would pay more attention to my parents. It's hard to find out now that they have been right all those times....
1031927
Find the Matchmaker and tell them who you love,  the Parents usually respect the town matchmaker in arraigned marriages.  If not then I'd say tell your parents, If they don't like it you will have to make a clean break for it  because the Idea of Marring for love will be too radical, or they may suprize you who knows.
613201
My mother never liked my boyfriend and unfortunately I do not speak to her now and she doesn't know that I am married to that boyfriend. I'm not suggesting that this will happen to you but I think that you should be firm and stick by your husband because your mother has to stop dictating your life when you reach a certain age.\nMothers always believe that they know best but I am very happy - my mother was proved wrong so you should have faith in your own feelings.
1162889
Well right or wrong on what you become and what you do with your life, family should be there not matter what! I'm going threw it right now. I met and married a wonderfull man, and family is distant from me cause they didnt agree with it. In time if they still dont like what you become, then tell them that your you and you will be what you want and they can be by your side or not, that if they choose not to be then its not stoping you from becomming what YOU want. I didnt let my parents bring me down cause i married a guy they didnt know. And im not giving up my husband for them. They can take me and him as whole or keep living there lifes without seeing there grandkids or future grandkids. But I know in time they will come around, as a matter of fact they have a little. Just be who YOU want to be dont let anyone bring you down or tell you do what they want. Be yourself and prove to them you can do what you want on your own. Good luck!
667706
I say you follow your heart because some times your parent are wrong but if really love him keep on dating him. maybe your dad will see his otherside of him later on
315035
They are in your house and will just have to deal with who you are. I know you feel like it matters what they think, but if you're already married to the guy then he obviously doesn't care what his parents think. Be yourself, and just try to be nice to them. If they talk down to you, etc, get your husband to talk to them and explain that he doesn't appreciate them disrespecting you in your own home. Stand your ground!
118310
I really don't know, it should be your personal choice. I haven't seen my father for 13  years, but now I live with him - that doesn't mean I suggest anything to you. It's YOUR decision. Good luck!
166352
Yes, God still loves you actions and he always will. You are very blessed that you have parents that have given you a foundation to stand on. When you become independent you too will make choices for you and your children. Even though you may not agree with them, they have your best interest at heart and that will give you the courage to make a stand one day.When you are ready, nothing will stop you from making your own choices & decision.
1048474
tell them how it is going to be, you have to make up your own mind on who you want to marry.. its not there choice
1043389
dont listen of all of them are u going to run to this man tell him marry me as my parents are forcing me to get married?haha hes going to be a man dont do that.during this time dont be in touch with this guy tell ur parents i wont get married now go off get a new job move to a new place then date man u love if not find a nice guy get married settle down marriage should be based on love and marriage shouldnt be for any other reason then two people themselves wanting to spend their life together not parents.
1081605
You are absolutely right. You have been very considerate to your parents, which shows your family culture. There is no hurry for marriage, now. Maintain good relationship with her and rightly no co-habitation till formal marriage. But tell your parents that if they want to see you married you would marry only her and none else. After all they are your parents, they will not like to stand on the way beyond a certain point. All the best.  God's delays are not God's denials. Patience is genius.