My dad and boyfriend get along but dad doesnt know about his 2+ tattoos... and hates tattoos - help?
482558
Better tell  your dad now, he's going to find out and then he will be angry.  If you're going to stay with this guy better get it out in the open now.  After all, it's only skin deep.
609109
i don't think you are being a jerk. it sounds like you need to "ease in" with the dad thing, starting with dinners and whatnot. a weekend would not be a good idea. you don't have to tell your boyfriend this, just say you can't make it this time but make plans for the next time you can see eachother.
790843
I understand that you are young and we used to also do these kind of things....BUT PLEASE VISIT YOUR DOC IMMIDIATELY BEFORE YOU END UP WITH SOMETHING BIG.....\n\nTHE INK IS VERY POISONOUS IT SHOULD NOT BE USED WITHOUT GUIDANCE.....PLEASE ACT RESPONSIBLY....AND TAKL TO YOUR DAD OPENLY AS THIS NEEDS ADVICE RIGHT AWAY.....
79130
You should photoshop pictures of both of you...and use one of those programs, used to see what people might look like...and print out the hybrid that comes out...and show him what the little devil-seed might look like. And just tell him...GUESS WHAT...WE ARE HAVING THIS ONE!!!...or just buy him an alcohol bottle get him drunk..and tell him...that he is gonna be a daddy...while he is drunk..he might take it as a joke...but still..you already told him!!!
739058
He is old enough to be your dad! There are sound reasons why this is frowned upon that have nothing to do with tradition or society. The relationship could never be totally equal.
183447
It's a tough situation.  I don't know if this will help you now but maybe later.  My Mom died when I was 12 and my father got a woman that I didn't like.  Grownups need someone to share their lives that they can communicate with in a loving manner.  I realized this and when my Dad asked me if I wanted him to leave her I knew that I could not replace the enjoyment she gave him.  So I told him I was happy that they were together.  He died of cancer a few years later, but they were happy years for him.  I guess adults need to feel affection and support from their partners and you may find benefits in having 1 parent, if not both, who are more content. I sympathize with you, just try to concentrate on your own life for now.  Things always change.
578493
I married a man of another race.  My family has been pretty accepting of him, thankfully.  But I have also seen a good friend of mine struggle with her dad for years to accept her boyfriend of another race, and he never did, and they eventually broke up.  Her dad was afraid of how other people would treat my friend and her boyfriend, and their children someday.  I think the generations before us have seen people do really mean things because of racism, and sometimes they are scared of that stuff happening to their kids.  You are in a tough place.  I hope your mom can get to know your boyfriend and see him for what you see in him.
1102008
Sounds like your dad has issues for real.But there is nothing you can really do except accept that he is the parent and you are the child.Sometimes parents really mess up.But you can sit him down and talk to him about how it makes you feel.Maybe his love for you will make the difference.If not make him stop,maybe at least make him take it in another room so you won't be exposed.
759763
as a daughter of a dad i adore.... here is my 2 cents.... spend the da with your dad and listen. maybe not to his war stories - for often true servicemen don't talk too much. maybe ask him his favorite memory. ask him about you as a child - his thoughts, his fears -- don't tell me - well my dad's not a talker....  my dad isn't to most other people either - until the first time i asked him - who was your first kiss and when.  the thing was - i asked, waited and then listened.\n\nif you are close to a museum or other veteran type place- visit with him.  dondating $$$ in his name is always nice but....\nthe best honour you can show your dad -- honour him, spend time with him, listen.  time is more precious then money.
1037126
I would go to the tattoo studio and talk to whoever will be doing the tattoo.  If s/he doesn't take you seriously, find a different artist.  Your artist should be willing to sit down and discuss this with you before you get a tattoo.  They should be aware of conditions where people should not get tattoos.  \nDepending on your condition (I'm aware that with both syndromes you can experience a variety of wide ranging characteristics), I would think it would be OK.  If your doctors were vague and no one was explict that you shouldn't get a tattoo, go ahead with it but talk to your tattooist about your condition, chances are he's seen all kinds people, probably some with some serious conditions.\nCongratulations on your daughter!
847523
Definitley not!!!!  Tell your neice to send him some flowers and/or a card, and that she'll see him when he's home.\n\nHope you dad is better soon!!!
80370
If all that you said was true, why would you and your stepdad be arguing? Give us an idea what the last argument was about and we may be able to help.\n\nI saw your addition. From what you said, it looks like he just doesn't trust you. There is no quick fix. He's new to the family and you are an unknown. As to why your mom sides with him, that makes sense. Too often teenagers try to play the parents against each other, especially if one of the parents is a step parent. You may not have done that, but they have to show a unified front.\n\nIf your stepdad is reading your diary and such, he probably believes what is written in there. Why not write your feelings in it? You can write how you are trying to be the best you can be but are still being mistrusted by your stepdad. Don't be overly negative. Just say how much you want a chance. It might work.
454171
That's a tough one.  Tattoos are an agreed upon sin cause it clearly says not to mark-up your body or harm it cause it doesn't really belong to you, however, almost all girls have ear piercings - and that's always been OK.  And recently girls have been getting multiple ear piercings (still OK), so maybe an ear ring is also acceptable due to the changes in modern style.  \n\nI think whatever your decision is will be okay since you've already taken the time to think about what God would want you to do.  It's the same as consulting with your dad on something.
584600
It is more than a question about trust. It is a breakdown in communication.\n\nThe questions are...\n\n1. Did he give it away or something more intentional (basically pawned it with them)?\n\n2. Can you get it back explaining your attachment to this item and how it's something special from your dad? Most *reasonable* people would understand that.\n\n3. Regardless of what he thinks you gave permission for, he needs to acknowledge that you do NOT feel that way at this moment in time and help you resolve this.\n\n4. Have you talked to him about your building resentment about each of your contributions (or lack thereof) to the relationship?\n\nThe only one who can determine if you should trust someone is you. Beyond the love, history, memories, etc. what is the core of your relationship based on? That will be your guide.\n\nAll the best.
258564
Id be bothered too!\nIf he wants that pic, he should be able to get it taken...he might want to have it taken for his son, so his son wont forget about his real dad and wont feel neglected.\nBut its a thing between them.\nThe picture should NOT be in YOUR household, insist on that!
1121156
You need to just ask him honestly why he doesn't want you to get to know his mom.  Maybe he knows something that you don't - maybe she's really mean or something - who knows.  You'll never know the truth unless you just come out and ask him.
667706
I say you follow your heart because some times your parent are wrong but if really love him keep on dating him. maybe your dad will see his otherside of him later on