how can I help  someone who fears she is being followed, but she is really not?
491665
It sounds that she might have persecutory delusions, or paranoia. Which is usually a sign of serious mental illness. You need to take her to a Psychiatrist.
254560
It seems to me that this person has a lot of faith and trust in you if they have confided in you. Also if they have come to you they are really reaching out for help. I would look in your phone book under drug abuse and call the hot line and ask them what you should do. They are usually well trained volunteers that will be able to give you advice on how to approach this personality type without scaring them away.
628381
be honest if shes your freind you should be able to tell them these things also tell her you would expect her to do the same and if you hadnt of said you were worried youd fall out and you didnt want that to happen . good luck .
152679
First of all, are you leading her on in any way?  If she is stalking confront her.  Tell her she's freaking you out.
959841
You tell her. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, tell her that you have a friend and what should your friend do. When she reassures you, tell her that your friend might acutally be you. She will help you and get you to a safe place.
290632
I know a person exactly as you describe and he/she drives me nuts....\nYou can't force people to turn to you no matter what you do...Leave them be and when they need you..they will come...maybe??
207255
Take him or her out on a walk. Point stranger no, scarey, not safe.  Do it over and over until he or she understands the concept.  Ask him or her should you talk to this person.  DO a few trials.
665120
You might want to ask a friend to intervene and let the person you want to go with that she was not a backup but somebody you thought you could have fun with. Good luck.
673403
Hire a private investigator to follow her. Or ask a friend from home that you trust to watch your house for a few days and see if any men come over and stay for long periods of time.
1134319
Unfortunately as we all know we can not make anyone do something that they do not want to. I would speak to a psychologist in person and ask them what they think the best way is going about to encourage the person to seek help. This is their job and I am sure they have had numerous people approach them in their field asking them the same question.
1010191
I've never thought about that, but it sounds like a great idea!  Give them a taste of their own medicine and maybe they'll back off.  Because I think stalkers love to feel like they're intimidating the "stalkee", so if you do that to them in return they'll realize they're not succeeding.
369036
A friend maybe just what she needs,if you feel you want to be nice and help ,by all means talk to her.\ndont be afraid of that ,just be normal and yourself,say you want to understand and be of help.\nthe best advice always is to point out the pleasures of being alive and the oppertunities still awaiting.\n bad feelings are not permanent ,
998990
be her friend and make suggestions outside of meetings. If I feel the value of staying in this job of yours', I'd see it as the best training ground for my softskills~ influencing people. How to measure success? You'd become her panic aid, she comes to you when she panics- you can soothe her. When shes indecisive, you'll be her favourite person to talk to, giving subtle hints on solutions.
545442
Try not to come across as a whimp, so that she doesn't need to fear to hurt you?
716651
pretty interesting. I know that they will follow people from one place to another. If you want him to leave, you may want to try telling him that he is not wanted there, that he needs to go back to his house, or even encourage him to head for the light.  there are people that could help you find out what he wants. check with a medium for what to do...\nI know some people think this is crazy, but they piss-on stuff they do not understand, because they have tiny little closed minds!
465252
You have to make sure that they know you are there for them and you need to let them know that it's not an ok thing to do. Convince them that they need to stop and get help. You have to be there for them and support them in everything. Anything else? e-mail me at mowel3point@yahoo.com!
946443
It's hard to say but from what you said I heard signals going off too. Keep being her friend and slowly find out what you can. If its a bad situation maybe you can be a helpful influence on her to get out of a bad situation. I really dont think she was hinting at you to get lost.