How do I get my mother in law to stop invading my life?
491495
You can't.\n\nMy mother in-law was a leach to our marriage for 2 years after she left my father in-law and then it got worse when my wife was pregnant and we had our first son. I hold my mother in-law 50% responsible for destroying my marriage with her interference.
822311
WOW...whats the big deal, your mil loves your child and when she gets to see him she wants to express all her love on him. You should be thankful, some grandparents dont want anything to do with thier grandkids.\nWhat is the harm in letting her take over when you visit????\nYou get to have the baby to yourself and be a full time mom at home, I dont see your frustration in her actions, you should be happy that she cares so much.\nI feel sorry for you and your son because if you keep letting this get under your skin you will never have a good relationship with her, I think you have other issues with your mil and this is the reason that it bothers you so much when she "takes over" with the baby.\nI dont mean to get on your case but grow up and let your family enjoy your son, it will only benefit him in the long run.
298277
Sounds like to me you need to tell that busy body mother in law to unleash your husband from her apron strings,she sounds like she is your problem,of course your husband cant see this its his mom.Some men are always momas boy ,until they see it for them selves that dear old mom is breaking his home up .don't let her insult you ,let him get mad he has a life time to get glad.you are his wife and the mother of his children I'm sure you cook for clean house and wash his clothes so where is the respect you so much deserve.if mom is all that and then some maybe she should do all this for him.she sounds like a mean 2 face devious spiteful woman who is out to ruin your marriage.stand up to her don't let her ignorance ruin your home put her in her place and tell her to stay there.if your husband doesn't have the guts to tell her then its up to you.....
159858
you know what is best for you. your mother might be a pain in the a** how ever she just lost some one close to her and she needs you and your family more than you know. for now think of her for a little while then you can do what is best for you. even though we all know how mother in laws can be you can do it hang in there heath.
1022195
The mother-in-law is not the problem it is the husband.  If he is not standing his ground and telling her to butt out of your business that is the problem.  If the man allows her to make your life hell, you should get out or learn to accept it because it will not get better.  I had this problem, realized my husband was not telling her to keep out of our business and now I am happily divorced from both my husband and his family.  I have a loving fiancee and his mother is not a problem because he does not allow her to be a problem.  live and learn.
852130
You're looking at this the wrong way.  What you have to realize is that HE has to stop her, you can't.  If they are that close you will only become their common enemy if you attack her.  What you need to do is talk to your husband and let him know how you feel.  Remember to be respectful of his mother.  He may be telling you that he doesn't like the way she "butts" into your relationship but, trust me he's not telling his mom that.  Maybe you should try to be friends with her.  You both love the same man, right?  That's your first thing that you have in common.  Build a relationship, don't attempt to tear one down.  You can't win.  It is ultimately your husband's place to establish boundaries with his mom.\nGood luck!
105297
there's nothing you can do about it.Your husband needs to disguss it with them since it's his family,and tell them nicely to knock it off.
1090425
You and your husband will have to make a real effort on this one, and be the bigger people so to speak.  I don't think it's normal for a mother to act like that towards her son and his fiancee, now his wife.  Something is definitely wrong with her mentally.  Just remember that you can choose your friends, but not your family.  I think you and your hubby will have to speak with his mother about the wedding thing, just to get past it and clear the air.  She needs to know how it made you feel to be let down on your Big Day.  You can choose to forgive her or forget it, but you have to be able to move past what's happened in the past.  I don't really have any big words of wisdom other than to take the high road and don't play into her games.  Sometimes you gotta call a Spade a Spade!  No matter how bad she treats you, turn your cheek and be extremely nice back to her.... it gets them every time!
966367
Talk to her and tell her that she is annoying, if she does not care than leave her alone!!!\n\nI have a sister-in-law that is annoying and we have tried telling her but she will not own up to anything!!!!!\n\nSome people are blind to their faults!!!
601800
Sounds to me like you have a mamas-boy problem. Is it her drawing him to her home or him that is unable to break the ties?  \n\nIf he is a Christian you may want to consult your clergy. In the Bible it is written that when a man marries he leaves his mother and father and "cleaves unto his wife" then he becomes head of his own house hold." (The man of the house.)  \n\nA friend of mine once had a mother-in-law problem. The mother-in-law would not leave them alone. She would butt into their business. Drop in unannounced. They never had a moment’s peace or time alone together. The in-law was a believer in Voo-Do. So my friend decided to set up a bunch of candles throughout her home and made some makeshift doll out of rags and cornhusks. She really had no idea of what she was doing. She made it look as much like her mother-in-law as she could and left it by some lit candles on the table.  The next time her mother-in-law came in it spooked the heck out of her. She ran out of her house declaring not to step foot in her home again.  Now that was one smart lady.  Of course my friend didn’t believe in any of that stuff. But in that instance it sure worked.
123875
You and your husband need to talk about the situation, and your mother in law (and/or father in law as well) should be brought into the conversation later, since they are taking part in the wife bashing. If your husband doesn't stop allowing the wife bashing then you need to consider some therapy - he needs to get that you are his wife and his mom should not be beating up on you, and if she does he needs to put a stop to it.  She's entitled to her opinion, but she doesn't need to voice it.
188466
That is why they are called in laws..just ignore them back if they won't accept you. Try your best with them but if that isn't good enough for them than leave them alone...Lady
529261
there is no easy way out of that - your mother-in-law no matter what you say and do will not give up supporting your brother - in - law - what I think you should do is go straight to him and try to get him to change his ways...
314817
Tell it to my mother-in-law
930290
stop talking about my MIL that way LOL LOL
670948
tell mom-in-law- to phuck off
898909
You need to talk to her.  You should demand that she stop cheating on your brother or you need to tell him.  It's not fair for him to live his life oblivious to her actions.  I wonder if she's thought of it like this---She's not just cheating on her husband, but on her family and yes, that does include her children.  \n\nPersonally, I don't know how you've kept from kicking her butt--unless of course, you don't like your brother.  \n\nGood luck with this one.