How can I get through a family reunion that I just don't wanna go to because?
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Girl, get you a cute maternity outfit and let them know that you are about to become a mother, and despite looking like a sexy pregnant woman, you do not feel well.  Then I would grab me a plate of bbq (if you can hold it down) and clean my plate... mingle for about 10 minutes and excuse myself!  If someone thought that was rude... blame it on the hormones!  Good luck with everything!
1145369
sorry, have to choose family
285006
You both need to sit down and talk with them. Let them know what your boundaries for this are. They have to let you go at some point. And if you don't talk to them it'll make it harder. Tell them to look at it from your point of view. It's not like you'll never see them again right? You will still be close enough to visit and see still. If they can't accept that then they are not being fair to you. You will adjust to your surroundings if you truly want to be there. It's all a part of growing up. Moving on and getting used to new things.
890243
I know how you feel- no relaxed visiting- just a mad dash to make it to the next get together.  Its nice to be invited to more than one place, but it is a strain and really no fun to have to rush through a visit or dinner.  \n     You have a good idea, I think if I were you, I would go ahead and separate for the day to each family.  Especailly since you have family that you only see this time of year.  That time is precious- and you won't get the time back.
214729
You are using a coping mechanism right now...by reaching out to others. We cannot say the right words to you to make everything all right. You need time to process your loss and allow yourself to greive. Things will never be the same but in time it will get easier. \nAlthough this is hard for you, believe that God had a bigger plan for your relatives. I believe everyone has a plan in life and God decided that it was time for your relatives to come home. However, that is not to say you will never see them again. They will be waiting patiently for you when it is your time. \nHang in there!
69058
My mom used to pack us off to the park (I was the oldest and in charge) and spend time sleeping or cleaning up the house in peace. Possibly, you could stage a weekend sleep over at their cousin's house or someone you trust. Best of luck.\nK.
24943
You can't, if you are worried about hurting feelings because of who you don't invite, then  just go elope.  That's what I'd do, it's your day, not thiers.
792171
If your family is that insensitive it's not likely that talking to them about it will do any good. If you can just play along with it and be the bigger person you'll feel better about it. Can you bring yourself to joke about it along with them or ask them for their advice? If you keep allowing this to hurt you, they'll smell blood and keep up with it. Change the subject by asking what challenges and rewards they've had with their relationships. If you get people talking about themselves, they'll forget about talking about you. Good luck. And by the way, don't feel guilty if you don't want to go to the family get-together. Find a charity that's hosting a Thanksgiving dinner, or better yet, work for one that is. Being around caring people, and people that are worse off than you, will be a great lifter of your spirits.
941310
What can you do? Apologize and if that doesnt work, its not like you can NOT let your child go there if he/she wants to... ya know? I think your family should DEF forgive you for things that are that far in the past, but its not my call... Good luck sweets.
1065166
No and No again.  Just because you were once in the family does not mean you have to stay in the family.  Move on.
1078822
JUst because she's family dosen't mean you can't cut the ties with her. You don't need anyone in your life like that !!!
69484
I'm sure your mother means well, but she doesn't understand the hurt and pain that you are going through. It's easy for her to say "Put it away" because she's not the one who was betrayed.\n\nWhether or not to attend the wedding should be entirely your choice. Don't let anyone else guilt you into going. If you are still working through the hurt, you have to do what's right for you. Everyone has the right to set and maintain their own boundaries and to work through their pain on their own schedule.\n\nDo what you know is right in your heart, and don't let anyone else make you feel bad about it. You don't owe an explanation or justification, either. Stick to something simple: "I just don't feel ready to do that" should suffice.\n\nHopefully someday you'll be able to work through this and have a relationship with your sister. But that's something that cannot be rushed, and no one else has the right to push you.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
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hmmm....everyone too including me have this problem, but mine is not serious adn my mom treat me very well. ur mom want the best of u, u should not be angry to her. She just worried about u. okay, this is my opinion.\n1. if u really want to go to the party even without her permission, then i suggest that u shouldn't tell her anything about it that means dont quarrel with her. tell her u want to go to school or friend house, or etc. dont wear pretty clothes but put them in ur bag so that she wont doubt of where u r going if u wear pretty clothe in front of her.\n2. ask for daddy permission politely. if yes, ask him to advised ur mom and talk to ur mom again that dad support u but politely even if she reject it again dont be rude, just be normal. if no, let it be.\n3. get suppport from ur grandpa, grandma, aunty, uncle and etc politely. example, grandma, do u support me to go parties? polite even they dont allow. if they support u, ask them to advise ur mom too. do the same way as 2.\n4. make ur mom happy. like study in the house, cooked for her, made a card for her even mother's day is over.\n\n   that;'s all. hope that help. and hope u got the right company otherwise i m sorry to help u. in my opinion, even if u she dont allow u, u should not go unless u really want to. for me family is more imprortant than friend. friend will hurt u whereas family wont hurt u very much. if u didnt go, ur friend will thought that u have pride and wont simply go out
1058119
Go to the BBQ and let your daughter meet her uncle and half siblings. You and your daughter are the invited guests and it doesn't matter why your ex won't be there although I wouldn't be a bit surprised if your ex's brother deliberately did not invite him to keep the peace with you. Give it a chance and you and the ex's family can agree to not disgree. No matter what has happened between you and the ex, your daughter is still a part of that family's flesh and blood.
341552
just relax. pretend it's yur best friend/your sister and don't do anything stupid
1017348
avoid your cousin...ignore them.  let your cousin know that you are not a doormat, and that you don't have to take it!
101575
Maybe you could invite a friend over. Maybe you could talk to someone you trust about your fear of going over a mile away from your house. You could look into school activities or programs where you could meet other kids. I hope you will improve your life. You are the only one who can :)