i am wondering if a 40+ year oldman could truly love a teenage girl without involving sex???
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im not saying it cant happen, but morally it shouldnt. teenage girls are not mature enough to handle adult situations, they dont have the experience. i think older men are just taking advantage of young girls, a lot for their own egos. i dont beleive that men in their forties are not after sex. again, i dont think its right.
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I know this may sound "preachy" but it really is not. Read 1Corinthians 13:4-8, It gives a definition of Love. It can be used as a guideline for Romantic love.\nTeenagers are just like anyone else, yes they can experience love. Perhaps knowing what you are looking for in a lifetime mate can only come with experience and going through hurt and heartache. Also getting to know yourself, which comes with age and experience. \nLike can be just as exciting as love and teach you many things about yourself as well as what you personally need on an emotional, physical, spiritual, mental level. \nSpeaking from a different prospective being somewhat older than a teenager, we do NOT have all the answers. I truly believe  that True Love comes with understanding, acceptance, commitment and forgiveness. There is no magic formula.\nLive, learn and grow, but most of all enjoy the experience.
900503
I know what you mean. when i was your age I was infuriated by people always saying that I couldn't fall in love young. now that I'm older I understand that I wasn't mature enough to really love someone. love is a give and take relationship. when you're young no matter how you think you're treating the other person, you're mostly taking. most people at your age are very selfish. however, this is not a true fact in ALL cases. a few centuries ago, people were getting married at your age. so, obviously, there is a very possible chance of someone really loving someone else at your age. I'm guessing your in a relationship that you consider to be getting serious. I would just advize that you really try to do what's best for the other person in everything you do. don't concentrate on what YOU want only. in this way you will be lightyears ahead of people that are even 10 years older than you. I hope that the girl you're with realizes that she can't be selfish either if this relationship will last...I hope you understand what I mean..
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As long as she is of legal age it is none of your business.  \n\nYou don't know what the girl needs sexually or if your uncle can do the job, and it does not matter.  Sometimes young women like old men because of the size of their wallet, not their penis.  Also, they might really like each other.\n\nIf his heart is broken, oh well. That is life regardless of age.
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First and most importantly, you are hot. \n\nSecondly, I wouldn't personally date someone 20 years younger than me but then again that person would be 8.   OK seriously, I wouldn't let a meaningless thing like age get in the way of being with someone who made me happy.  Many people are saying that it might not last.  What relationship can you guarantee WILL last?  \n\nANY relationship can end.\n\nSo take a chance.  If you care for him, be with him.  You can't love unless you are willing to risk hurt.  That's just life.  \n\nSo if I were 41 (assuming I don't commit suicide when I turn 30 from the shock and horror of reaching that advanced age) yes, I would definitely take a chance on someone who was 21 if I cared for them.
299153
Sure, but only if I was old enough to understand what love is and to actually know that I am in love. If you are like 14, your not in love you just think it..
399745
of course it's possible...as long as you feel the spark i think theres nothing wrong about it and i think youre old enough to know whats right and whats wrong for you. so go for it!
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I am assuming you are referring to a homosexual relationship for teens with a person over 18. The teens are not emotionally developed or morally strong. They may know that sex is wrong without a serious relationship, or with someone old enough to know that teens aren't old enough, but may not want to disappoint the adult. I find adults that persue teens ill. There are those who claim they "love" someone, but it's the same for a teenage girl, wait until you are 18 then you can make up your mind. A boy of 13 is that, a boy. Males mature alot slower that females, so they should make it 21 for males for emotional reasons. My son had his first gay experience at 15 with another 15 year old. That was two boys on the same emotional level, not a man manipulating the experience.
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I can't believe all the bullkaka I am reading here.\n\nSo a man can be 20 yrs older but not a woman?  Get serious people and start realizing that life is not always about your young tight a$$.  There is much more out there than most of you will ever experience, especially with an attitude like I see from some of you.  LOL
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I believe age has no difference when it comes to loving someone. If you're married and have no intention to part with your present wife, don't make any promises to that girl which you can't keep. If you're single and this romance might develop into something else, do go ahead and don't let this chance pass by you. I have a son with a man who's 20 years older than me. He was lying to me about being divorced and we spend 2 years living together as man and wife. When I had a baby, I found out he was married and had a wife in another country. We're no longer together, but I tell you age has nothing to do with this. I love every moment we spent together except for his lies that screwed up my whole life. Don't do this to the girl you liked, but definitely enjoy every moment of this feeling if it's rightfully yours regardless of the age difference. Good luck! Nika
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Hmm.. I think it takes alot of maturity to realize when something is  "love" or  infatuation. I can see  by some of these responses" it happens daily" (thundergirll) that you have not matured as much as you need to. Let me clarify, age has alot to do with this, but even older people can be misled with love. You have to think about what makes you think you "love" this person. Is it the way he smells, walks, talks,breathes? Hmm , sounds like infatuation. There are no quizzes or anything to take to find out if you " love" someone. Love to me has alot to do with sacrificing. Are you willing to sacrifice things for the one you love? Do you really care about this person, and will be there for them no matter what? Do you really appreciate them for who they are and what they stand for? Love has alot more to do with the interior of a person. Think about these things,and see if you feel this way.You need to get to know the person, their likes, dislikes, their secrets, be each others friend. That always works!
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sounds like you better invest in some good running shoes & figure out which way is the quickest way out of the house. You sound very young to me, but just know that this woman is married and isnt likely to give that part of her life up the way she gave you other parts of her. I know it feels like love but it really isnt. What it is is lust, learn from these encounters with this middle aged woman and it will make you more worldly when you find a girl your own age to date or to marry..............
325031
Love doesn't have an age limit, but don't be confused with liking someone a lot with loving them. There is a big difference.
458030
I, personally, don't care about age.  I think it is all about compatibility and maturity levels of both people involved.  However, I think some older women may feel that their bodies are not what a younger guy might find attractive.  However, if it is true that a woman's sexual peak is in her 30's and a twentysomething was interested...it might be worth exploring.
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You feel that you love this older woman the question is, is it love or purely obession to something about her. I feel that it could be love. Most younger men are attracted to older women.\n\nIm 32 and I know that when I divorced several years ago I had alot of male friends alot of younger ones. Seemed like the younger ones would find me no matter what. I did date a guy who was 18 at the time and I was 25 it was a beautiful realationship but I knew that he needed to finish college and have a chance at life. He didnt need my life not that my life was bad!! I just was 25 and was divorced with 3 children! But my ex cheated on me all the time and I finally found out and wasnt going to tolerate it!! Anyhow this guy needed to expierence life without me. Shortly after we split up about six months I met another man who I have been married to now for five years!!\n\nAll Im saying is Im sure that she hears what you are saying but is probably not wanting to pursue anything serious cause she wants to give you space and time to live your life. If I can be of any futher help just email. Good Luck and keep us posted.
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If love is blind, then it's also ageless.\n\nThere are the extreme cases that you hear about, that often involve celebrities. For instance, Charlie Chaplin was in his early 50s when he married Oona O'Neil (playwright Eugene O'Neil's daughter) when she was 17 or 18 years old. The had a long, happy marriage which produced 8 children, including the actress Geraldine Chaplin.\n\nPicasso fathered a child at the age of 80-something. And more recently, the late Tony Randall did the same thing with his wife, at the time 50 years younger.\n\nHowever, I think that the general level of attraction runs about 5-10 years in either direction, once you're in your 20s and beyond. There are practical considerations to think of if the age gap gets much wider than that.\n\nBut who ever said love is practical, either?\n\n______________________
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Yes! For sure! Love knows no age limit. But if you are the 15 year old girl, you best be careful. Make sure that You are safe, and the guy is not using or abusing you. Only stay in the relationship and make the commitment if you think it is true love. And don't kid yourself if you know that the relationship isn't going anyway, or worse still, if it is abusive. \n\nJust make sure that you know what your doing. Don't have sex if you don't want to. Don't do it just to please him. Don't do things just because he forces you. And probably you should discuss it nicely with your parents too. Also, if your having sex with him, it better be protected sex and safe, unless you want to have a baby. And if you do want a baby, you better be sure that the both of you will be able to suport it. But I am getting a bit side tracked here aren't I?\n\nIf you are the 15 year old girl in the relationship, I wish you good luck!\n\nP/S: Here's a nice movie you might like to watch, it's so moving: Mum at 16