I want to go to this banquet...REALLY BAD! But a visit from my aunt and uncle might prevent me form doing so?
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Let your parents know how important this banquet is to you and stress the fact that it is only for one day and you can spend the rest of the time with your aunt and uncle.  It might help if you can come up with something fun you can do with your aunt and uncle while they are here.  Show your parents that you really do care about your aunt/uncle and spending time with them, but you would also like to do something fun with your friends too.  I see no reason why you can't do both and hopefully your parents will see that too.
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Wow, what a tough situation.  I am so sorry for the loss that you are experiencing.\n\nI guess the point of making a last visit is to say your goodbyes and let the loved one know of your love for her and add some comfort you can in any way to the scary process that she's going through, as well as be around to help your other (healthy) relatives.  \n\nIn that sense, it's a good idea to ask your aunt.  My grandmother's cancer seemed to already affect her brain during my last visit with her, but we still had a great visit and it was a time that I won't forget.  You might want to ask her when she would like you to come, or how your presence can be the most helpful to her.  This goes for your other relatives.\n\nTimes like this have a way of stripping off people's fronts and exposing their real needs and desires.  I have a feeling that if you are honest and sincere with them, they will be honest with you, too.\n\nI also think that you can pray and ask God this question.  He knows everything, so He'll definitely be able to guide you as you deal with this difficult time for your family.\n\nMy best wishes to all of you.
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Send him a letter? Dont you dare. He should always back you up - you are the one he is married to. I think you need to find alternate arrangements for babysitting. Quietly, with dignity, make other arrangements. If the grandma and aunty are not respecting your wishes, what makes you think they wont be disrespecting you infront of your kids? Try to put some distance between you and his family, so you and your husband can form your own tight knit unit. Then when you want to, you can see them on your terms. As dr phil says you teach people how to treat you - dont put up with it. Demand a higher standard of behaviour from them.
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if you want your family to be there then yes, that is lovely.  If you want it to be private, you can always tell them what is going on and invite them to come after--tell them to be there at a specific time--that way you and your significant other can celebrate alone first!
141035
Be very careful. I've been there, done that. It does not pay. Tell friend to go to an aunt or grandparent, you would get in so much trouble for harboring her.  Take care
1060410
That's a real tough situation to be in. You can't please everybody, no matter how hard you try. If you blow off your cousin you make bad blood in the family. If you bring her along, she may ruin a good thing you got going with your friend. Just try to get your cousin some other friends she can hang out with, to get her off your back. Alternatively, do something that will turn her off. Like, start dressing goth and chewing tobacco. Whatever you can come up with that will turn her off without outright rejection from you. Good luck!
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I'm sorry to hear about your uncle.  If you're planning to travel by plane, just call the airline you plan to use and ask if they offer bereavement rates.   I know they give pretty hefty discounts for those family members travelling to funerals.  Perhaps they do the same for those precisely in your situation.  \n\nGood luck, and God bless.
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Most likely, your mom would enjoy if her son was there as well, right?  That in mind, since it is her day, I would not forbid his attendance.  But I would make it clear that he is paying his own way and should help for paying for his mother's meal.  Example, call him up and let him know he is welcome and tell which restaurant it is.  Then immediately ask if he is comfortable attending as the menu might be a little high for him.  Especially, if he wants to take mummsie out to dinner then that's his meal plus sharing the cost for her.  (Which is your present to her.  If he does not pay, then he still gets credit for the present of dinner.)  \n\nIf you assume the best about your brother and convey those things with, "Of course, if you come then you would..." and fill in the rest.  It's much better then, "If you come then you better...".  It sets such a different tone.
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It is really difficult to understand exactly what you are asking.  Do you mean the cousins won't talk to each other?  And how do you fit in?  Sounds like something you should just stay out of.
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avoid your cousin...ignore them.  let your cousin know that you are not a doormat, and that you don't have to take it!
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It is possibly the most wrongest thing you could do to keep entertaining thoughts of your AUNTIE. \nThis is wrong on so many levels. \nYou need to pray, a lot, for Allah to relieve you of these evil urges.
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Unfortunately that's going to happen despite your best intentions.  When planning my reception, we married out of the country and had a reception at home a week later, I had to put a stop to the number of people being included because my then fiance was wanting to invite everyone and their brother!\n\nWe finally settled on immediate family, close relatives (these are the ones you see/talk to more often than at funerals, weddings & family reunions), friends (talk to/see weekly or a couple times a month), parents friends who have known you your entire life, co-workers (that you see socially, not just in the office).  And even those we went over and over.  We too didn't want to leave anyone out but sometimes, it just can't be helped.\n\nAnd a big oversight to watch out for when doing your guest list is partners.  When you invite your friend Jill, don't forget to include her friend Jack as her guest,  married couples and significant others also count as 2 guests not just 1.  You didn't mention if you're including children.  (We didn't because I know several children who are finicky eaters and I wasn't catering to their picky appetites.)  So you could find that by iinviting your Aunt Mary and Uncle John and family you've included 5 people to your total guest list.\n\nI just saw someone else mention the wedding party count as guests too...but don't forget to count their partners, spouses, significant others, etc.
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Ask your dad if you can invite them. You dont have to have them eat with you. and if you want to invite your friends go ahead! if they want to invite someone with them tell them i just want you not them. and tell them that i ONLY invited you. so if they bring unwanted guqest kick them OUT!!
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Is he a minor?  That would be the only reason I could see you legally being blamed for something.  Based on the information you provided.  \nOr unless he gets a lighter sentence by giving out information that might incriminate you for something....\n\nSounds like your aunt is being very defensive but that is her son....black mailing though isn't the wise way to go.  If she will allow you a sit down~then I would try to talk to her calmly.  Otherwise: carry on.  Work on doing what you have to do for your wedding.  Everything happens for a reason...and everything usually passes.\nGood Luck
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Well for starters you should have asked permission if you wanted permission. If you already live on your own, then they can't stop you, but there will be hard feelings on their part. If they decide to be upset, they may cancel your college tuition payments. Much better to talk to them about how much this trip means to you, and get your aunt and uncle involved regarding the accommodations. Try to put yourself in your parents' shoes--their 'baby' going so far away...\n\nGood luck!
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I'm going to visit my aunts, and i am hoping that someone makes me their best answer. Will you make your best answer pleez?
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Talk to your aunt and talk to your cousin.  Tell them you've noticed there reactions and ask them what is going on, why are they behaving this way.  Then tell them straight out that you are not interested in him and never have been.  Best way is to be direct and hope it works.  good luck!