so, I caused a divorce and I can't stop laughing about it. advice??
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I really don't see what can be funny about any of it, there again people like you that set out to cause relationship breakdowns must all be alike, the woman who slept with my husband whilst I was pregnant with baby no.2 sat and smirked her way through countless court hearings etc.  \nI agree with karma, it will catch up with you, and then you'll all have to form smirks anonymous to support each other
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It happened...  Ulitmately we got divorced...
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There are still memories of that person u still have ...\n\nAll i can say is ur being self-centered ... ur first mistake was getting married to ur current hubby ... n then ur second mistake was having a kid ..... ur third mistake is thinkin u can get ur ex back ..... \n\nur gonna keep on makin mistakes unless u stop thinkng bout him ... Frankly wud u rather risk ur entire life or b with ur hubby who loves u n ur child n have a family ??\n\nif u want out then do it asap be4 u hurt more n more people
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The simple answer is trust.  You do not trust the opposite sex.  Weather the divorce was your fault or your spouses you blame them.  You could have been the lyingest, cheatingest, most absent spouse in the world, but you still look at it as there fault.  We as humans almost always want to play the victim.  Now if you were the one that was cheated on and/or abused or what have you, then you might want to look into some form of therapy.  Either way make sure that the new person you are dating is not just a rebound (yes, you can have many of them).  find someone who will make you truly happy in life, not just in bed.  Find a friend before you find a lover!  Later dater.
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He won't get a divorce because it's easy. THAT'S the excuse he gave you???? HAHAHAHA! Now I've heard everything and I will think about this one when I need a good laugh. Be smart and dump the loser.
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Some you win, some you lose.\n\nYou have to try & put this behind you otherwise you'll end up going out of your mind. I realise it must hurt like hell but you can't change the situation.\nOther people will do things at times that if we allow them (situations) will totally screw up our heads. Right now you need to find a way not to let that happen.\n\nUnfortunately there's no easy answer to this, you will feel right now as if you've been totally & utterly betrayed & of course you have. Made all the worse because it's come from someone that you loved & trusted (your wife & Mother of your Children)\n\nI don't think the fact that she was already your ex when you found out makes it any easier for you because you were still together when she did what she did.\nThe worst thing in situations like this is that your future relationships will (if you allow them to) be tainted with distrust & scepticism. You may have to get help to sort this out for you (counselling) before you even attempt to embark on another relationship. Stuff like this tends to rear its ugly head (in our heads) when we least expect it to. If left it can almost take over our lives.\n\nI'm sorry that this has happened. Fair enough if a marriage has broken down or one partner has an issue with the other & things can't be resolved, then arrangements need to be made to split as amicably as possible. To go off & have an affair without sorting one way or the other the relationship we're already in is rank out of order.\n\nDon't let people change you into the slimy scum that they are. \nit will only make you unhappy.\n\nYou can pretty much be sure of this fact though, & that is, once the relationship your ex is now in hits the bumps that hit every relationship at one time or another, she doesn't have what it takes to sort things out properly & will be moving on to her next beau.\n\nYou can feel pity for the Guy she's with now that he can't somehow see that the way she's treating her ex husband & father of her Children, she will one day treat him.\n\nI wish you the best of luck for your future,
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Part of the therapy for getting over a divorce is to re-join the "human race".  With a divorce, we go through "separation anxiety" ... and that is a very miserable condition.\n\nDon't feel that you have to leap at the first opportunity to date ... but don't shy away from one that interests you.  Ease back into it, maybe by starting out going out with a group of friends, then a couple friends, then venturing out on your own.\n\nThere is no generally-accepted timeframe for waiting.  Let your own heart and needs determine that.  Just be cautious about "rebounding" and jumping into a worse relationship than the one you just left ... just because "it's there" and you're hurting.
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Yeah, you probably will if you are trusting enough to ask complete strangers for relationship advice online. Good luck with that divorce too.
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Hey I don't really have advice for you as you know from answering my question I have marital problems. BUT.... We did get this book called Rekindling the Romance by a husband and wife team Dennis and Barbara Rainy. It's a real eye opener it is Christian based and I 100% am a believer that the only way to be truly happy in all areas of your lfe is to live by the Bible. Do what it says. Go to church live your life for God. The problem my hubby and I had with this book is how to rekindle something that was never there? I was or I think in love with him at one time but he was always an a** and finally I just decided to deal with now he's different and he regrets everything he has done. Maybe you can help with this one. How do I get over the past? I know I need to get my life right with God that would help 100%. But anyways I am rambling Hope this helps. The link I am gonna leave is the website where you can get this book Click on online store and do a search for the title. I also encourage you check out the info they have I don't know where you live but you should see if they have their radio station near you it really helps me!
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Three things:\n\n1: I hope you have NOT reproduced.\n\n2. I recommend you get a &*%#$@ good divorce attorney.\n\n3. I'll personally finance your wife's attorney. You are the most discusting MAN I have ever had the misfortune to run across.\n\nYou should count your blessing mister, because your wife must see and love something about you. I fear if you didn't have her you would be alone for a lifetime. If you do not love her, or want to be with her then leave....but DO NOT humiliate her with your screen name and rude, vile, ugliness that you put up for the WHOLE WORLD to see..... You need to learn respect. Didn't your Daddy teach you anything? Or maybe that's the problem....he did! \nAND REMEMBER MEATHEAD......\nWHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND.\n\nAND STOP USING THE EDUCATION SECTIONS TO SPREAD YOUR EVIL POISON....THERE ARE CHILDREN HERE ASKING REAL QUESTIONS!!!
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Sounds like you need space for yourself. Dump the husband since he isn't working with the reconciliation. Then give your self space. Don't let this other guy enter your life too quickly, sounds like he did just that when you were separated. When you are stable from the finalized divorce, then look at your prospects.
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You need a professional marriage counselor!!  You are dealing with mental abuse.  Jokes won't do it.  Neither will anything you can find out here.
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If your really this un happy why don't you just get a divorce... It's not fair to your wife and it's fair to you... I think it's time to call it quits and be single for a while...
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Wait until its final.Don't be in such a rush.That's probably why you are getting a divorce now,you need to take your time.
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That is easy, because you are not ready!! You have been through a lot with the divorce, even though it is not final. You need to focus on yourself for a while and don't make it harder by adding another person to think about right now. Do things that you like and can do alone, go out with the guys, play cards, things with the kids. When the divorce is final and you have found out who you really are again, then you will feel more comfortable dating. You may also subconsciously think that it is not a good thing for the kids to see right now either, at least something to think about. Best of luck to you and time and prayer heal all things.
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No 'nice' ways anymore.  Brutal (but sensitive) honesty time.\n1.  Admit your fault in the situation.  You shouldn't have started things up if you knew you were going to get back together with your wife.\n2.  Tell her your side.  Marriage is a commitment and you aren't the kind of person who wants to get divorced and trivialize that commitment so you're doing everything you can... etc, etc.\n3.  Compliment her by reminding her she can find someone much better.\n4.  Let her say how she feels and respond without getting defensive.\n5.  Under no circumstances are you to use her as a 'in case it doesn't work out' friend.  That isn't fair and it's not right.\nGood luck.
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I stopped after my last visit with my Oldest Son. He swore they wouldn't do the U know before football check -I told him they would but anyway-when they did, along with the fact the Dr.was a funny looking little man that talked funny too!,Man I burs ted out laughing in the Dr's office and could not stop.I tried digging around in my purse ,finding something else to look at or do to stop laughing ,but my giggle box got flipped and I know that the Dr. thought I was mad or something but I could not quit laughing (I laughed until we got in the car to leave I was barely able to write the check )and my Son was so embarrassed he never wanted me to go with him again.That was fine with me but I still can't explain what happened to me that day-I know he thought I did it on purpose because I didn't want to go back in the 1st place but I really DID NOT.This has only happened one other time in my life.It can be embarrassing.