Why does my wife cry when I make love to her?
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It could be shes happy  Or maybe your hurting her   ASK HER
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Immature!\nHow about talking calmly with her. It is her body after all, and even though you may not approve of it, this is a very addicting drug, and maybe helping her instead of playing get you back's would be better. \nShe is your wife, I assume you love her more then anything, be supportive and understanding.
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no its not a bad thing to make him cry that means hes human and is not a hard core asshole. maybe it was that you were quiet and your usually not that shocked him or it was that you told him that he has you forever and always men are so hard to read i have been married for 9 years and i can honestly say he says that i am ignoring him but i not his thing is he thinks i am pissed off all the time and i'm not i have 3 kids so when they go to bed i am done talking. i think your ok and just be open and honest with him and you guys should be fine
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Wow!  That's a tough spot to be in.  Now, you're probably not going to like what I have to say but I wouldn't be doing you any favors if I sugar-coated it so here goes:  \n\nI would suggest you take her to a sexual health therapist.  A good therapist will have special training to help her through this.  You wife has nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to be embarassed about.  Pain during sex is very common and a good therapist will help her work out just how much of this is psychological and how much is actually physical.  \n\nIf I were you, I wouldn't even sort of suggest that it's "all in your head" to her but, well, you probably already knew that, right?\n\nGood Luck!
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here's a little secret. if you have a pet name that your wife thinks is special to her, than it makes it very unspecial when you call other people it. sounds silly but women feel insecure very easily. reinforce that you say it to women you respect and feel are equals to you intellectually and as good people, than let her know you didn't realize how it hurt her to feel like her pet name wasn't special only for her. than say your sorry and you love her and respect her feelings and wish her to feel secure with you, so you'll try your best to not do it again. than give her a big hug and kiss and listen to her talk for a while with any concerns and basically repeat what you just said with a few changes so you don't sound like a recording. don't make her feel that her feelings are invalid or stupid or silly, they're her feelings and that's all that matters. respect her for having trust in you to share them with you.
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Aww come on dude, a woman needs to feel loved (love not sex)I am always there for my wife, I talk to her, I listen, sometimes she only wants to talk out a problem and does not want me to provide the answer. I take my share of cleaning the house (I work full time to provide the best for her as well).\nShe says she feels warm and contented when with me. I spend as much time as possible with her.\n\nI know what you are worried about, if you get everything else right, then sex will never be a problem, for me it is awesome.
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This is very common. I actually am in her shoes.  Did she have a vaginal birth? any tearing? scarring? That could totally diminish her sex drive. Does she get adequate help around the house? with the baby? Is she depressed? How are other things in your marriage? Does she masturbate, and can she reach orgasm that way? Does she reach climax when having intercourse? If you answered negatively to any of the above  questions, then your wife needs to seek medical advice. You both may benefit from sexual therapy. My son was born without a soft spot, and I gave birth in the car, on the side of the road, in a severe storm. So, you can imagine what I have to work through. Give her your total love and support. Let her know your love everyday.\nGood luck!\nmamaofthesweetest4
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Crying is a natural thing, even for 'strong men'. If a man allows himself that opportunity to express himself so fully that he is moved to tears, there's a really lucky woman out there!
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One way to make your lover happy is to give her pleasure.  Knowing what a woman likes and how to provide it is very important.\n\nWhat is she doing that depresses you?
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Its hard to describe, I guess its just a part of life, we cry when we are happy and sad. Love is just complicated nobody really knows what to do. Maybe it hurts to be happy because you are with someone you love and hope nothing will tear you two apart and in your mind you are wondering if you two will stay together.
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Talk yo ur partner about it and find ways and means of improving the chemistry between u both\n\nand i wanna tell u this, young man that if u truly love ur wife , u will surely enjoy the act and never get bored of it. first start loving her even better than what u are doing now. and then u wont even think of the term bored\n\n how would u feel if ur wife had posted this question thinking that u bored her . think again and learn to love. Feel ashamed of urself.\n\nsex is not a routine- it is just a part of LOVE  making.
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Your wife is in denial about her bear-like appearance. She is angry with herself for failing to live up to her number one responsibility: being sexually desireable to her husband. She would rather think it is the goat that has come between you than admit to herself that she has failed. My advice is: talk to your wife. Explain to her that you are still willing to support her and your children, but that you are no longer sexually attracted to her, and must fulfill your manly needs with your new goat. Maybe the shame of the whole situation will motivate her to jog in the mornings.
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Crying or weeping is increased production of tear due to strong emotional stress or pain. This practice is not restricted to negative emotions; many people have been known to cry when extremely happy. \n\nIn humans, emotional tears can be accompanied by reddening of the face and sobbing — cough-like, convulsive breathing, sometimes involving spasms of the whole upper body. Tears brought about by emotions have a different chemical make up than those for lubrication. As one of your other readers have pointed out crying releases a lot of stress and carries with it harmful chemicals away from your body.\n\nHave you not heard the phrase, "cry your heart out"... it makes good sense to cry out your feelings as it is bad to hold in emotions.... they say holding back really builds up toxins that can even lead to cancer.
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mm.. maybe she has just burned to much of her electrolytes and her body needs to replenish them.. I would ask you Dr. maybe she is having a hormone imbalance after sex for so long.. women state that during menopause that they feel like are about to burst into flames they are so hot..
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Maybe she is having a low sex drive right now and do you spice things up in the bedroom and make things exciting for her???? Talk to her and see why she feels this way and also suggest to her maybe seeing a doctor or sex therapist. She could be having affairs too!
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There are a lot of reasons women lose interest in sex.  Depression is a big one.  How old is your child?  Could this be postpartum depression?  Some prescription drugs can cause loss of sexual appetite as well.  \n\nAre you showing her attention outside of the bedroom?  Women crave intimacy and many of us need to talk or just be listened to in order to feel like we are important to our spouse.  \n\nAre you making her feel like she is the number one priority in your life? Other than God, your wife should come before EVERYTHING ELSE in your life.  YES, this includes your job, friends, parents, kids, sports, TV & even your computer.  She must "FEEL" loved.\n\nAre you speaking her "Love Language"?  Gary Chaspman wrote a book called the "The Five Languages of Love".  Every married person should read this book.  It helps us understand how to express I love you to our spouse in a way that they will get the message on a regular basis.  There are five love languages that are discussed:\n  1.  Words of Affirmation - Praise her, tell her how great she looks,  tell her what a good job she is doing, ect.\n  2.  Quality Time - One on one paying attention to her needs, wants and desires.\n  3.  Receiving Gifts - Buy her stuff: flowers, jewlery, candles, lingerie, goodies, nic-naks, etc.\n  4.  Acts of Service - Do stuff for her:  Wash the dishes, cook dinner, rub her back, run her errands, take your kid to the park so she can take a nap, anything to lighten her load.\n  5.  Physical touch - NOT SEX!  Touch her in a way that is not going to lead to sex.  Let her know that you enjoy being close to her even if you may not get some right away.  This is kind of like banking.  You can't get money out of the ATM if you haven't made any deposits.  Make deposits in your wifes "love bank" and soon there will be enough to make a withdrawl.\n\nThe last thing that I thought of is maybe she doesn't feel sexy after having a baby if her shape is not as cute as it was or she is just plain tired and needs a rest.  Make sure you complement her in a sincere way so she feels like she is still pretty and desirable.  \n\nDo you have a relative who can babysit for you?  A weekend away just might do the trick.  Make it romantic and cater to her needs.  Light candles, use massage oils, sprinkle rose petals on the bed and make sure she knows that a romantic interlude is going to be ALL about her.  Her wants, desires, needs.  Don't worry, you'll still get yours in the end and she will be a much happier wife.\n\nHAPPY WIFE = HAPPY LIFE!!!  Make her happy!
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Try looking at the situation from her point of view.  If she was a virgin when you married she, obviously, in inexperienced in sex.  If she had a strict upbringing she may have been told old wive's horror stories of "being with a man"; she may have been taught that the only "proper" way for a wife to have sex with her husband is the missionary position and that women aren't supposed to enjoy sex;any other form of sex would mean she was a whore.  She may be afraid that she would hurt you or that she might not "do it right".  Explain to her what you want to do and that she won't you and that it would please you very much; that wive's are allowed to enjoy sex and try different things with their husbands. Get her a "pillow book" and read it together.  \nGood luck!!!