Is it normal to never fight with my boyfriend?
484144
Be glad and treasure this part of your relationship. Never pick a fight. Just continue to be yourself and see where this leads. He may be your one. Good luck.
779458
yes me and my boyfriend started our relationship long distance. we faught all the time, if i was ever home and doing nothing i'd be so mad that he wasnt calling not even thinking that he might be busy. we would spend hours on the phione and always fight. i dotn even know why. then when he moved back everyhting was just so beautiful. i think long distance is really hard and the fact that you cant see the perosn makes you mad and you take it out on them . i also think that phone conversations are hard. me and my boyfriend only fight on the phone now, cos when i see him in person he can hug me and i'll feel better on the phone its so less personal.\nso you guys have to realize what the problem is and then talk about it and try to make it work. try to see each other as much as possible\ngood luck
291998
My friend, it is very normal.  You love her and she loves you.  The only reason that it doesn't get resolved before you go to bed is because neither one of you can step down off that high horse in time.  And venting every once in a while is not a bad thing.  As long as the love that you both feel for each other is still there.  If you don't have that then you don't ahve anything.
647674
Settling is wrong, and if thats what this feels like MOST OF THE TIME, then think about whether or not someone else could make you as happy as your boyfriened does when he isn't ticking you off. Sometimes someone annoys you or makes you sad sometimes, but you still love them more than anyone else in the world, and you're still happy with them most of the time. \n\nThen, realize that some males think that arguing/debating is a way to keep things fiery. I've had to explain to my husband that I hate fighting of any kind because I grew up in a very explosive household, and that sometimes the smallest disagreement will make me incredibly nervous and sad. He responds that if I have a different opinion, he wants me to express it. Neither of us are wrong, there just has to be a compromise.\n\nI suggest you tell him that if he wants to debate with you, fine - but it MUST NOT become personal - at all. Also, tell him that if he doesn't respect your opinion or think its "good enough" then he shouldn't bother arguing with you about that particular subject. You two can debate - but not argue. He needs to understand the difference, and understand why it matters to you. Tell him you want most of all to get along with him and make him happy and be happy, and that constantly expressing your different opinions makes that very difficult to achieve.\n\nGive him time. Lots of it. \n\nI hope I helped.
642961
no offence but he sounds like a dick! id dump him but considering you love him and you all are engaged sit down and freakin talk to him. i hate fights jus as much as you seem to.... its hard!
480414
Firstly, in a relationship there must   be a very good understanding of communication,  a threat will not help a relationship.\nWhat is most important is to find  opportunities where  both of you can talk and   settle issues that is if both of you really want the relationship to grow.\nYou have to respect each other,  love relationship with out understanding and respect is a trash, its  pain in  the ass.\nIf you are more commit ed  in the relationship and your boyfriend is less committed   ,discuss these  amicably with him and pro fer solutions  to this, if he does not change  and still threatened you that he will quite , tell him off because  he would hold you ram son because of this  treat  and oppress you for the rest of your life
380301
Yeah, unfortunately, some people thrive on fighting. Or look at your relationship, how long have you been together?? Is he trying to get you to break up with him so he doesn't have to be the bad guy?? Did you do something he hasn't forgiven you for?? If he always has to fight with you then I'm guessing he's not the type to talk about it. Are you?? What do YOU want?? Are you happy like this?? Try talking to him
243665
i think you should talk to him. both of you need to find out what is the problem that has both of you too constantly arguing. Maybe you can both see about having like a couples therapy thing.  sometimes its best for someone from the outside to see whats going on. I think if both of you love each other so much you should do what you can to make it work if after all that your still arguing more than you not arguing well than maybe you two should go your seperate ways. it wont mean you two dont love each other just that you to aren't meant for each other. but i would do what i can before saying its over definitely. good luck and best wishes.
604412
All men are not what you described. I was reading this and shaking my head thinking....this sounds like warning signs of an abusive relationship. I don't mean to be accusatory, but I would just like you to recognize signs...like....\n\nPossessive or jealous behavior toward girlfriend\nWhether in public or private, possessiveness and jealous accusations often precede and follow violence. The abusive boyfriend will often attempt to socially isolate his girlfriend by "forbidding her" to see or talk to others or by making frequent accusations of infidelity which force her to limit her social life in order to appease him. \n\nSee link below for other signs. Be honest with yourself and if this sounds like your BF I suggest you leave or get counseling. Easier said than done...I know. \n\nGood luck!
1079580
in any relationship its going to be that way. some days you both will be madly in love with each other...other days youll have to worst argument of your life and maybe wont even talk to each other. no couple can stay together without little arguments or even big ones here and there. every fight you both will have will only make the relationship stronger...sometimes it may even tare a relationship apart. it just all depends on what each of you wants out of one another...and how much the other one is willing to give.\n\n-stephanie
382907
I have never heard of any couple who doesn't argue. This is especially true when there are increased stresses in their lives. Having just been pregnant in the summer and in a long term relationship I know exactly what goes on. But then the arguments go away within ten minutes so you can't take minor issues to heart. Eventually the grass will get cut, the dishes will be done, as with the laundry. Just hang in there.
512698
BUT NOTHING! There's no sense and no reason to go through life arguing and unhappy! Gurl, life is too short! You need to figure out WHY you two argue so much! Figure that out then find out how to eliminate it. Second, no one ever accomplished anything arguing. As women we know men know how to push buttons (and visa verse), but we make a mistake, by giving them what they want a retaliation against them, they win! Next, time you two get into it, if it person walk off on the phone say you know what I'm going to talk to you later and hang up. If you still continue to argue after taking this advice. I don't know what to say except maybe it's best to split. Some ppl just can't be together. Communication is essential and discovering out the root cause of the problem and eliminating it is key. Good Luck to you both!
588470
thaghost84 above is full of **it. There is no point in staying with someone you can not talk to. If you stay in this relationship, it is going to get worse, so you might as well make a decision now as to whether or not you want to deal with a boyfriend who doesn't care about the same things you do. He is jealous and controlling and does not deserve you. You may not like hearing this but it is the truth. Dump this guy and date someone you can talk to. This is a good foundation that you can then build on. You start with the foundation, not the roof, if you want to build a solid, beautiful home. The same is true with relationships.\n\nBuh-bye now!
1110664
Not really. I dated a guy for a long time and he would take my side in arguments with his friends, but I'm rather certain he never loved me. He just liked a good argument, and I was always the underdog.
630990
No.It all sounds like a pretty normal relationship to me.Just get another key cut!So next time he goes to get locked you can lock!
347825
You do not mention how old the both or you are, or how intimate your relationship is.  ( living together, etc).  However, it sounds like he is most certainly not mature enough to have a serious relationship, for if he was, he would know he is not "the first", and so would you.  Accepting that people came before the two of you, and not being intimidated or insecure about it, is a healthy sign of maturity towards a relationship.  You both should be able to converse about each other's past romances and in many cases should be able to remain friendly with those same people.  \nFrankly, should I be in your position I would carefully and honestly review your current relationship to see if it allows both of you to grow as people and as a couple.  If it does not, then it would be time to move on.  This really applies to both of you.  For your current boyfriend to be so insecure, given no baggage in his history, then there is something that you both as a couple are lacking in the relationship.\nThis is not about whose wrong or right, but rather about whether or not the two of you are really ready to be in a one-on-one serious relationship.  \nOne area that needs your attention... Do not threaten to break up, or leave.  After awhile, these words become empty and only serve to increase insecurity.  If you want to leave, just do it.  You owe no explantion to anyone unless you feel it necessary.
971086
Of course fighting is never right but if you let someone push you around without doing anything they will push you around more and more as time goes by.  You do have to show them that you will not be treated like that.