i jjust got married and my hus want sex. (all the time) wat do i do?
479511
You are 13, married and complaining about your husband?  \n\nWhat are you doing being married at 13?  What did you expect?    I think you may have your self in a bad situation (if you are telling the truth about any of this).  You had better be careful, or you are going to find yourself with a little one here pretty soon... I'm sure you did all the family planning in order to make that a success.. \n\n\nLet me guess, you're mother is 13 years older than you, right?
835339
I think you should go see a sex theripest and they can help you with your sex drive and lustful feelings. I also think you should speak to your husband befre you get married about this he needs to know that you want to please him but don't want him upset if he can't please you. Do not fake orgasms it is just insulting to them if they ever find out.
868709
There is nothing wrong with wanting sex all the time and it is hard when one person seems disinterested.  You have some idea if he is under stress or if he is tired all the time so I won't go that route with this answer.  I also won't go down the is he cheating path because if you had some concern about that you would have mentioned it in your question.  I would ask you to think about what was going on before you got married when the two of you were having sex regularly.  Were the two of you living together??  Were you the one who initiated it all the time??  Alot of times we have the answers to the question we pose you simply need to look into your history with your husband.  I asked you the questions above because a similar thing happened in my marriage.  I was distracted and very busy not to mention I was very tired all the time and I felt as if I didn't want to disappoint my wife by not having the energy that I normally had.  So she felt I had to be out there doing something with someone because I was not doing it enough with her.  Desire is what fuels sex so you have to "get back on your husband's mind".  How, well some times a little shock could be the key.  In your question you say you are thinking about getting it elsewhere, tell him that.  Yeah I said it, tell him that he is frustrating you and though you don't want to cheat, he makes you feel as if you want to cheat.  Now don't dare cheat because it is not worth it.  You wouldn't want  him to cheat on you.  Tell him that making love is very important to you and that you are not trying to be selfish but that you need and want to show affection.  From the wording of your question, you seem like you are willing to do what it takes to make him happy.  My other suggestion is to be patient.  You might have to accept a compromise where you might have to get it twice a week instead of everyday.  One thing is for sure, sex cannot be the defining issue in your marriage.  You have to find a way to communicate what you are feeling and act with the information that you receive.\n\nGood Luck
371935
You married the wrong guy - I have been waiting for you all my life - now what - you just have to give him the boot - work or not if he is not interested in sex and you are newly married - troubles ahead - caution!
411977
why dont u simply ask him ,whats wrong with sex?a lot marrieges came after,relax
1067379
so u wanna  have sex .\nOK ,why dont u get married ? \n\n\nUse condoms to prevent Sexually transmitted diseases.
724574
There is more to marriage than sex! But you must be honest with your potential wife and tell her about your problem. If she still wants to marry you, then go for it! There are other ways of satisfying a woman's sexual needs. And it is also possible that your ED either can be treated now or will be treatable in a few years.\n\nIt may even be possible for you to father children. Don't let this difficulty keep you from having love in your life.
375987
First of all dont meet him alone...go to a club with friends..that way if all goes well they wont be in the way...as far as sex...dont you think its a little early..get to know him a little more intimately in person...my sister had the same experience and thats what she did...They are now married...good luck
427733
Sit down and talk with her and tell her how you fell about her and sex. If that does not work than maybe you and her should think about getting some help. Marriage conslour!! I wish you the best of Luck!!
277714
if you mean sex, yes. But finding the right one is key. You dont want someone who will interfer with your marriage after the fact. Be careful who you chose, then have fun!!
527143
well, are you married? b/c you shouldn't have sex until you're married. also you sound doubtful. and if you don't know if you're ready to have sex, you're not.
193667
I just sat here for several minutes, thinking about how to answer your question...and I can't think of anything other than: I don't think you should get married if you aren't sexually attracted to him. But, there are other factors to consider such as...\n\n1. Is he sexually attracted to you?\n2. Perhaps he's also not as interested in having a sexual marriage? If this is the case, you could marry him with a clear conscience.\n3. Have you even tried sex? (you didn't specify this, so I guess it's a possibility that you simply haven't tried yet)\n4. How have you typically reacted to stressful situations? Maybe you are just a bit (understandably) stressed out with the wedding and things might get back to normal afterwards.\n5. But were you ever sexually attracted to him?\n\nIf you are having doubts and it's this close to the wedding, I'd call it off. I know, I know, impossible to do...but I was having doubts of a similar fashion and I wish I had called mine off. Divorce is even worse.\n\nThere are lots of men out there and each one is very different sexually. How important is it to you? Sex is important in a marriage, but not the most important. On the other hand, it can be VERY important to some people. Are you one of those?\n\nDo take the time to look within yourself. Get above the excitement of the wedding and ask yourself some hard questions. I'm sorry this is happening to you at this time.\nGood luck.
67846
NO!! sex is something that you should wait until you get marry. and if you have to ask that just means you not ready. dont give it up just b/c this guy wants it. if he turely loves you tell him to wait and to keep his hands above the shoulders
25276
If you just met him, first you have to pray and ask God if He is the right one and you have to get married then you can let him move with you since you are more established. remember you are not a cat or a dog you can't just move in with a man and start having babies. come on you can do better than that.
337770
First of all, SEX is not everything!!!  Sex is like Food.  You can have too much of it and when you do, you can get sick of it.  There is a rule that I have about sex.  Save your body for the person that you plan to marry.  You avoid diseases and you can say to your wife that she was so good that you saved yourself for her.  If you have slept with say 100 ladies, what can you say to your future wife?  Boy, you are so good that it took 100 tries to get the right person?
612352
How about a practical arrangement. \n\nYou don't want sex all the time.\nHe does. \nHe's rougher than you like.\nNeither of you (I'm guessing) want to break up your family.\n\nBasically, you are asking him to give up something he enjoys. Sex. Clearly you love him, but can't take the sex. Have you considered getting him a girlfriend?\n\nYou should go to the bookstore and pick up a book about polyamory called "The Ethical Slut" (I can't believe the censored the word slut! Let's see how creative you are. The book is called "The Ethical 5lut"). \n\nNow, the option may not be one you want to consider depending on your social views, but it is an option.\n\nAs unconventional as it sounds, there are two immediate benefits. You get a break now and then, and he can still satisfy his physical craving for sex. \n\nIf you are concerned that he may fall in love with someone, which IS a distinct possibility, then perhaps you should ferret out some local swingers clubs. They are usually filled married couples who enjoy extra marital sex as a purely physical activity.\n\nThis option will net you a few more rewards. You will also be able to enjoy sex with others who are likely to be more gentle, and you will have more assurances that his emotional attachment to you will be secure. Finally, the chances are that he will be hugely popular among the ladies, which will earn you more down time.\n\nFood for thought.\n-SD-
292576
looks like you might have married the wrong woman.  maybe the sex will get better and i supppose there is a chance youll fall in love with her.  These things arent supposed to be left to chance... Was it an arranged marriage?