Is being a virgin today consider not acceptable in today's culture?
492972
I think maybe you are being very general in saying that it seems that way......I know alot of young women who take great pride in being virgins (my 19 year old daughter being one), and I wish I would have stayed a virgin for a bit longer (my first sexual experience was at a very young age). I'm very proud to know that young women are staying virgins until they are old enough to decide what is truly best for them. Take care dear, and does it matter what others think??????
675847
To some people there is, but to me there isn't. Innocence aka "virginity" is just an expression telling everyone that you haven't had sex yet. I don't believe you are innocent before or after you have had sex. Innocence to me would be like the perfect child. Never gets in trouble, never curses, never does anything wrong. I don't know why people keep labeling other people by their sexual activity. To me, that is borderline racist. But yes, if I actually believed in "virginity" then that would probably be a turn-on in a woman for me.
519453
Yes and No!\n It depends if the person slept around alot but if not I don't think it's right to call someone NASTY for not being a virgin. It's kind of Judging someone because of their past and everyone makes mistakes!
381367
It depends on the persons concept of virginity, virginity is defined as the state of being pure, untouched by another physical being, the term is only identified with intercourse because of bible scriptures, mary becoming a mother via the power of the lord. in that sense they have lost their virginity because they are within the realms of being unpure and had their views tainted by sin since masterbation is considered to be a sin. in todays modern soceity however this view would rarley stand up as popular culture has deemed it normal. In my personal opinion i dont think a person can lose their virginity through the use of a sex toy due to them not experiencing another person. the person you had this little argument with clearly is an advocate of modern culture though and does have a valid point becuase that person I'm asumming male considers the use of a toy to be 'naughty, nasty' or whatever you want to call it therefore makeing the person unpure and not innocent.\n\nP.s sorry for being so convoluted, and yes i do have a lot of time on my hands ;)
1063117
I agree with you completely. Just about anybody can have sex. All you need is fully functioning genitals and a willing partner, the latter of which isn't hard to find these days. To have the self-control and moral courage to say "no" when sexually tempted, however... those are qualities much harder to come by.\n\nThe current "intentional virgins are weird" attitude is a relatively new one. In the days of ancient Rome, the Germans held chastity/celibacy to be a great virtue. The longer a young man could "hold out", the more manly and strong he was believed to be. The Christian religion has always put a great value on chastity and has said that permanent celibacy in the name of God is a noble thing for those who can manage it (Paul in particular made a point of this). The same attitude can be found in Islam and Buddhism.\n\nNo, the current view on sex vs. celibacy emerged gradually over the 20th century and became prominent in the 1960s. I think the attitude that celibacy is a negative thing comes from the "feel good", hedonistic turn that Western society has taken. "If it feels good, do it" has become the commandment by which most of our society lives. This attitude has become the norm, and as we all know, anybody who challenges the norm quickly becomes a target for ridicule. \n\nThe "goodie-goodie" label is one that has always been hurled at others by people with guilty consciences. They know that their actions are wrong, and it infuriates them that someone else can succeed (at controlling their baser instincts) where they have failed. The only option left to them is to try to make their deviant behavior seem normal, and they do that by belittling those who did what society considers right.\n\nI think chastity still has some support in the Western world, but permanent celibacy is pretty much looked down on here. The thought that someone would not EVER have sex seems like blasphemy in a culture where sexuality plays such a large role. I think that chastity and permanent celibacy still hold high respect in most of the rest of the world, however, especially in the developing world.\n\nMy personal feeling is that EVERYONE should be chaste. It isn't unreasonable to be asked to keep your pants on until the wedding night. As for intentional, permanent celibacy (like Catholic clergy are pledged to), I think that should only be attempted by those with a lot of self-control. Like St. Paul said, "It is better to marry than to burn." On the other hand, if a person CAN manage it, then I say the more power to them. They have my respect.
118007
Do anything that feels good, whether a dildo, vibrator, finger or whatever.  Being a virgin is not having sex with a male. The revered hymen that is talked about seldom remains after 18 due to sports or other activities. Self pleasure does not mean you are no longer a virgin.
36180
Yes you can use that term refering to a male. Virgin is defined as happening for the first time. In this case it would be intercourse for the first time.
518391
Virgins are great. I don't think I would married one, because I am sure to pop that before the ceremonie.
1020360
I'd rather the man for me would be a virgin, if I ever find him, but I don't expect him to be. Virginity just doesn't seem to be important to very many people anymore.
100216
A virgin is someone who has not had sexual intercourse.\n\nBut I consider any sexual act sex.  Who cares if your technically a virgin but you have given head to a hundred men.
909481
No, it doesn't mean that you are on the verge of doing anything. Virgin was a term used for as long as there has been civilization. Basically you haven't had any type of sexual encounter, and oral sex is still sex! You should wait til you are ready, and make sure you do it with the right person, my friends did that and they regret it to this day.
978232
your not a loser for being a virgin.  Machoism is over rated and normally held in high regards by idiots, morons, and ignorate people who just accept machoism as the one truth in life.  At most no sex can cause sexual frustration or even over whelming curiousity about how sex feels like.  I lost my virginity to a prositute not because I wanted to be a man.  But because my curiousity was driving me nuts.  I am also bit of a odd ball so I suggest to wait for a girl you like before losiing it.  It would probly feel better then my experience.  My experience only lead to my thinking whether meaning ful sex feels better then hollow sex.  If you dont want to be a virgin forever start dating.  If your having trouble with that read books on the subject.  Hopefully you will have better luck then me.  Well good luck
197908
i think it's good your still a virgin. I'm 25 and still one. I'm one who still believes you need to be married to have sex.
1060274
Those people are total weirdos.  I agree with you, that it does not matter. \nThose people need a new hobby or something, if they are like obssed with being a virgin or not.... \nBut you never know, maybe it'll get better.... hopefully.
314044
Virginity is as the most precious gift you have to give, so it should be highly valued.  Think about it: It is the only thing about you that you can give away just once.  So you should be extremely particular about that.  I wish now at 39 that I had been more particular when I ws 20!
735806
No not at all, i would kind of find it flattering if i was dating a male virgin and he wanted to do the deed with me.  Even if he didnt want a sexual relationship and wanted to stay celebate i would still respect it.  Any person male or female who has respect for themselves in that way should be commended.
1152542
Yes I was.  I was a virgin until I was 22.  I don't regret waiting at all.  But I wait because I wasnt ready to have sex with anyone that I had met prior to that point.