What can I do to win back someone's trust and love?
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Go to his home. Knock on his door, and tell him how you feel.\n\nIf that's too bold, then send him a light note... an invitation to coffee.  Maybe send him a note in the mail and inside a starbucks card... inside a note say "Let's meet for coffee... my treat"\n\nTell him that you have a confession.  You never knew that the answer was in front of your face, and hope that its not too late for a 2nd chance.  You don't want to lose a dear friend, and want him to forgive you.\n\nI would say that its now in his court. If hes willing to forgive,then you will meet him more than halfway.... and wililng to mend the hurt.
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You take it one day at a time. Get involved in other activities & hobbies & force yourself to ignore any of this person's attempts to get you back. You deserve better...just keep reminding yourself that you don't deserve to be hurt anymore...\n\nGood luck!
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You can't. If you get back with him it will not be hte same as before. He will not trust you for whatever reason you broke up int he first place. Find someone new & start fresh.
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the only way you can regain trust is both parties are willing to put what ever the problem was in the past and not ever bring it up again. And I'm sorry to say that is a hard thing to do. Anytime a argument comes up and if its on the sme lines as the problem it will come up again, and again,and again. But If the both of you want trust back then you'll work on it,but it wont be easy.
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you will have to show him that he can trust you and that sometimes people do things without thinking when they are angry.  Unfortunately, you can't always undo these hurts but, if he see's that even he makes mistakes at times and deserves forgiveness then perhaps he will forgive you and alow you to earn back his trust.  Build on that.\nGood luck
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you cant buy love. if that person loves you,he or she will forgive you but only if you be onest with him. tell him your fellings,and promise him that your gonna do everything to back his trust on you. p.s.I`ve been on same situation. I WISH YOU THE BEST LUCK
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trust takes time... once you have lost trust in someone, it takes awhile to trust them again... if your heart sees that you can trust a person again, then a lot of times it is harder to get your mind to agree... your heart is more trusting unless you have been hurt a lot in the past, then your mind might say it is ok, but you heart gets in the way...\n\nbottom line, if you can't get your heart and your mind to agree to trust someone again, even if you know they deserve another chance... the best thing to do is just walk away...
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You are correct, if you cannot trust someone than why be with them.  Trust is so hard to get, yet so easy to lose and next to impossible to ever completely get back.
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Tell him that you were deeply hurt by what he did and that it will take a very long time for him to earn your trust back. Tell him that you love him very deeply and you only want to love him more. Stop making cracks about it. It's pretty messed up. He probably feels horrible about lying (hopefully) and that will only make him hate himself more. BTW about it being a learning tool, don't believe that crock of bull. A previous *friend* that was a girl told me that she would teach me how to treat a girl right and all we did was make out, but I don't count that as a teaching tool, we straight up made out. I don't try to tell my fiancee' any story about it being a teaching lesson, I straight up told her: Before I was with you, I made out with another girl. I wasn't in love with her. I was infatuated with her. It was a crush and would have never become anything more. But that's about all you can do. Tell him to stop making excuses for his actions and that it will be harder for you to trust him in the future. He may never earn your trust back, but in the end, it's all up to you.\n\nHad something similair happen with my fiancee'. She lied about being raped. It really hurt me, probably more than your hurting right now. She earned my trust back, but i'm still very cautious!
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There is always a chance, at the moment give that person some space, and you need space to to think about what went wrong and see how you can get past this hurdle, then try to win the person back, cont push it though because thne you will be rejected. but you will know if there is a chance..... and if there isnt.... try and move on dont just by stuck on that person\nHope everything works out for the best\n\nXoXo\nme
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If you really want him to take you back just walk up to him and appoligize. If that doesn't work try too prove to him that you'd do \nanything for him. You could do something you told him you'd never do. What would make you take a guy back? Think of it like that. \n\nthe answerer
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Letting go isn't easy. \n\nThe best thing to do here is to let go of all committments you've had with this ex of yours and begin to learn how to trust yourself again.\n\nOnce you've learned how to trust yourself again, give every new person that walks into your life from then on a fair and equal chance at getting to know you as a person and to know your heart once again. \n\nYou never know when the next person will enter your life and if that new person is the right one for you.
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Believe it or not, the heart grows back stronger than it every was before.  If you trust in yourself and trust that there are wonderful things ahead of you, you'll find a love at the moment you least expect it that makes this one pale in comparison.
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try to get him back dear
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How do you learn to trust again?\n\nThe easy but true answer is the Nike Response:  "Just Do It."\n\nRemind yourself that your current partner is not the one who wronged you, and your current partner shouldn't pay for your ex's betrayal.\n\nOwn your feelings and actions.  You CAN help jumping to conclusions.  You steer your life; your life doesn't steer you.\n\nYou have to relive your past as long as you decide that's what you want to do.\n\nDecide to be happy instead.\n\nGood luck and best wishes with your new relationship!
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Anyone who doesn't value your sense of Trust or your sense of People doesn't deserve to have you in their lives as well.\n\nGiven the choice, not many would stick around either. \n\nThe most important thing you have to do is to forgive yourself first. This means you have to let go of all committments you had with this former person in your life and learn how to trust yourself all over again.\n\nNext, you have to give everyone new that enters your life a fair and equal chance at getting to know you and your heart. You never know when the next person will enter your life and if they could be the right person for you!
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Five Ways To Win Her Back\n\nAdmit it: You messed up. You said or did something to drive away the most beautiful girl in the world, and now you want her back. But here's the rub: She's moved on, or at least appears to be going on with her life, living and loving it up with guys who happen not to be you. So what do you do to get back into her good graces without completely throwing your pride out of the window? How do you repair the rift and still remain a "man's man"?\nReach Out\n\nYears ago, a guy would have had to stumble through an uncomfortable phone call or write an embarrassing letter to reestablish the lines of communication with his lost love. These days, sending your ex an email is the easiest way to go. It's a quick and modern way to exchange light-hearted communications and your girl won't think you're groveling if you dash off a quick: "How's it going?"\nBe Contrite\n\nI know, I know. Admitting you're wrong is sometimes hard to do, but this simple technique goes a long way in showing a woman that you care. After you've reestablished the lines of communication, drop a few hints. Phrases like: "I'm sorry I said that" or "I didn't mean for that to happen" cause a woman to want to listen more to what you say to her. By the time you swoop in for the kill, she'll be ready. Unless of course you really screwed up ...\nBe Available\n\nIf you followed the methods above, the two of you should at least be on friendly terms. The next way to get her to warm to you is by showing her that you're there. If she needs a ride somewhere, take her; if she's moving, handle the biggest of the boxes; if she's fighting with her mom, listen to her whine about it.\n\nMaking yourself available doesn't mean taking over the role of "girlfriend". It means that when the girl you love has a problem, or needs a shoulder to cry on, it'll be your shoulder she cries on - not some other guy's.\nBe Busy\n\nWait! Didn't I just say to be available? Isn't that a contradiction? Not at all. Even though you're following the rules to get her back, you don't want her to know that you're trying to get her back--not just yet anyway. Go out with your buddies and continue your normal activities. That way, when you speak with her, you'll have funny stories to tell and new things to add to the conversation. If you're waiting by your phone or surfing the 'net checking your email every five seconds, then you'll have no great adventures to impress her with. And then she'll think you're lame.\nBe old-fashioned\n\nYour ex should be on her way to being your "next" again. Once things have progressed and you're sure she likes you again, ask her out. Think hard: what does she like to do? Perhaps your lady doesn't like the usual movie/dinner/clubbing scene--in that case, get creative. If she likes theme parks, rekindle those flames on her favorite roller coaster. If she's a reader, find out when her favorite author is in town and take your ex to see them. Is she a horror film buff? Take her to a film festival or rent the classics and stay in for the night. Make sure you've got her favorite snacks and drinks on hand.\nBe yourself\n\nDespite everything listed above, all a guy really has to get back with his ex is, well, himself. Turn on at full speed whatever you had that made her want you the first time. Remind her of how great things were in the beginning. Mention highlights that give the both of you good feelings. Don't be afraid to let her know that you had some of your best times with her, and that you wouldn't mind having more good times.\n\nWhile you think it might be easier to hold onto your pride, move on and forget about the one who got away, why chance it? Listening to your friends who think you're a big jerk for trying to work things out will just keep you alone, or w