a guy that i was with and broke up wants me back this will be our third time together what should i do.?
487100
Sorry about the loss of your child.  But I think you two have ran your course and you need to move on.  This guy was not there for you and more importantly your child.  Don't take him back again.  You'll only be setting yourself up for more hurt.
1130437
I think you should call him. But don't be like, "I made a mistake, I want you back." Because any normal person is not going to take you back & not have any grudges. He might be like, "Yeah, she want's me back, so now that I've got her, I'm going to make her suffer a little bit so she will not do this to me again. She made me hurt, I'll make her hurt." and although he may want you back just as much as you want him, he could ACT like he could care less & keep you hanging. Soooo, I would call him, ask him how he is doing, and start a nice conversation. Tell him that although you broke up with him, you still love him as a person & you want to be friends. Then let things maybe slowly grow back into a relationship & tell him after he's not mad & hurt anymore that you made a mistake. But you really can't listen to anyone but yourself, If you feel like you should tell him what a mistake you made now, do it. Everyone's relationship trials are different. And since no one knows this guy, no one on here will know how he will react except for you. So go by that... If things don't work out, or if he refuses to take you back, just remember it wasn't meant to be & it just means there is someone else out there even better. But before you do anything, you need to review why you dumped him in the 1st place, if your friends don't like him & say he is a jerk or something, try seeing thier side. But only you will know if he is right for you. I know a lot of people say my boyfriend is a jerk, but we have been together for 8 years and I KNOW he is not. Doubt and insecurities about you guys relationship will only make it end again. So make sure you resolve all issues before you get back together. Good luck!!!
679360
His feelings are hurt.  He probably still likes you and realizes he made a mistake breaking up with you.  Give him some time.
601123
Well if you had broken up, then its really none of his business what you get upto... behind his back, or right in front of him. Pity that he did actually want you back, you might have blown your chances here...\nSit down and have a chat with him, explain the situation to him, how you saw it, and listen as he tells you his side of the story... Good luck.
1144512
I've had the miss fortune of doing the same thing, except it was in a text message. \n\nI say dont go back unless there is a significant change in the relationship. I mean, he broke up with you..and caused you a ton of pain (I'm assuming)....who's to say he wont change his mind again and hurt you all over again. Its obvious that you still have feelings for him. I think that before you consider getting back together really think about if that is what you want, because it might not benefit you at all.
211089
He has to want to get back with you.  His reasons for not wanting to be with you may not be in your control.  The best thing you can do is to make your life something wonderful and hope that he realizes what he has lost and wants to be a part of it.
723655
Uh, no.  This guy's a loser.  He leaves you for someone else, gets her pregnant, then leaves her and wants you back?  What are you thinking?  Well, maybe you're not.  Let me do it for you, tell him to take a hike and get out of your life.  You don't deserve him.
831100
I've been there done that and i wouldn't make it easy for him if i did take him back. You need to make sure that your the one that he wants and he's threw messing around on you and if he feels the need to cheat on you again he needs to be man enough to tell you that he wants to see someone else. Tell him he has to earn your trust back.
621088
Why get back together with him?\nThe deal is you broke up with him. He's moving on. You should too.
140743
Wow, your in a pretty bad situation. You should have never taken him back the first time. This guy is someone who likes to play games.I bet he's seeing that other girl again.\nI'm sorry that you're in such a mess but there's not much you can do. Whatever you do DO NOT!!!!take him back again..You can raise that baby on your own..you don't need him..take it from me, i'm 19 and a single mom of a 2 year old little girl and yes its hard but you can do it.If you decide not to have the baby thats your decision but please im begging you do not take him back.believe me he'll come crawling back saying i love you and all that bullshit but dont buy it cuz he'll just break your heart again.good luck .
730979
leave him alone he will call if he wants you back go out have a good time find someone else he will find you if he loves you if not oh well find someone new
735145
Sounds like he's playing games with you. I wouldn't be so quick to take him back and see what he does then. I think he knows that you will take him back and that is why he is doing this. Guys will do what you let them.  Put a stop to it and let him wait it out, or just let him go. You don't need your emotions messed with like that.
968073
Ok.  What do YOU think??  If a friend gave you this same information you just gave me......what would you tell her to do??\n\nYou know that he has cheated on you TWO TIMES......\ndo you REALLY think that he is worth getting hurt for a THIRD time??  \n\nHoney, I hope you're smarter than that.  I know it sucks and you hurt, but you have already invested THREE years of your life\nwith this guy.  Cut your losses and move on.  A guy who really loves you is not going to want to be with another woman.
307420
You need to know some things before you try to get him back.\n\n1. why did he leave?  Did he leave because you don't put out and this tramp does?  If that is the case, I agree with the rest, don't bother.  If he left because of a fight/misunderstanding then i think you might want to try.  People have fights and then will do almost anything to win, so things might have been said, that neither of you meant.\n\n2. Why is he with her.  Is she like you, apart from the trampyness?  Is she the opposite of you?  Depending on your sex life with him, he may just be on a bootycall.  Doesn't make it right.  But if she is just like you, he might want you back.\n\n3. Why do you want him back?  how old are you? how long have you been dating?  What have you done together (meaning go to college, school, other?)  Maybe he was just serving his purpose for those times but wont work with these times.  We are all human and we have all done that.\n\nSo if you want him back, how bad?\nif you need him back you got to tell him and sex him up.  (If that is the only way, i say leave him)\n\nIf you love him, but still lead a life of your own, then tell him you need him and tell him you are sorry for what happened.\n\nfinally, if you are stil pissed at him and don't care if he comes back or not (but would like him back) then just say hey we need to talk and make sure he knows everything about how you feel and ask him why he did it.
224101
Why would you want him back?? I am sorry, but he seems to have proved that he is untrustworthy, and a creep. I know it hurts, but put him behind you and move on with life. You will meet someone one day that would never think of walking out on you...you deserve a true love, don't settle for less.
181428
Only HE can decide if he wants to get back together.  You cant MAKE him.  And if you do, it could be worse.  He needs to make the decision of WANTING to be with you.  If he is unable to forgive you for whatever you did. DO NOT force the issue.  Try very hard to move on.
273077
question for you why would you want to take the other guy back the other guy has showed his true colors he will leave you again good luck