Is it ok to date your friends ex even if you both really like each other??
486986
Make sure its ok with your friend first
114374
i dated one of my really good friends and it only lasted for a couple months and we realized we were much better friends than a couple. we then just became just friends again and we got the questions about dating out of the way. if you are good enough friends its worth a try because something great could come out of it. if it doesnt work out, you need to try and stay friends afterwards which isnt too hard if you are really bestfriends. just respect each others opinios during and possibly after the relationship.
56592
TO answer the question is it okay . . . I would say if they never officially DATED and it was just known that she liked him, I would say yes, it is okay, BUT--------\n\nyou have to be prepared that she will be hurt if she still has feelings for him. How solid is your friendship. Be prepared for her to ask how you got started on this path-- I watched a love triangle like this  before, and it was not pretty, but in that case the friends had been boyfriend and girlfriend. You don't have that problem here. \n\nTalk to your friend as soon as possible to break the news to her. WHateer you do, DON'T sneak around with the guy. A year is a good amount of time to have passed. \n\nGood luck!
393270
Just try to stay busy. It normal to feel an attraction to someone but if you really dont want anythin to happen try to stay away because if your close to him youll just think about him more. And if you really want somethin ask your friend how would she feel if somebody she knew went out with her ex...right there youll see if it bugs her or not...then you can know if you should go for him or not.
126618
I don't wanna be too judgemental, but I'd never do something like that. However, it all depends on you and on the person you wanna date. And, of course, it also depends on your friends feelings, but, in any case it can be extremely difficult for all people involved. So, in my opinion, it is much easier to stay away from ur bestfriend's ex and not complicate ur life.
1016513
Friends should never dig in each others backyards; meaning there is a unwritten rule about friends dating their friends ex. Perhaps you stated too much about your ex, and your friend developed feelings, hoping to live in your shoes. It's still wrong and perhaps you should get a new friend. Your first time will always be with you; just Cherish the good times and learn from your mistakes for the next relationship.
1099879
Depends on if you want your friend to really be your friend. You could ask your friend, but they would still get mad about it even if they said no. If you like the ex more than the friend then go for it. Good luck.
656349
people can love their friends too!\n\ni think the timing is just not right, but that doesn't mean she doesn't love you- just that it isn't the right time for you two to be together..\n\nand dating her best friend's ex without her sincere approval is against the girl code, so more than likely she's waiting on that.. maybe her friend (your ex) isn't over it yet so she's still sensitive...\nwhen her friend has moved on completely, she'll bring the subject up to her and see what's what - if you two are still into each other that is...\nbe patient!
1060295
if you are dating someone and you just want to be friends u are leading him on and this isn't a good relationship. u can both find someone u REALLY like and have a better life, not spend your life in miserable deceit, pretending! \n\nit sucks for him to go out with someone who doesn't even like him that way!
468175
nothing. be a good friend and respect what they have between each other. don't try to be with someone that is already with someone else. there are a lot of people out there, why fight over someone especially if your friend is dating him?
932749
It depends on how serious they were...If she was really into him, and is still hurting from the relationship, then obviously, No. But if they have moved on and have remained friends, and can look back at their relationship and laugh, then Yes. I was in that situation and my friend actually suggested that I get with her ex, because it was so obvious that we had chemistry. Sometimes girls fall so hard for guys that we become blind to others feelings though, so make SURE your friend is okay with it. But even if she isn't, if it's meant to be with the guy, it will be.
444696
Going after a guy that your friend has dated is always tough. It depends on how their relationship ended and whether your feelings for him are strong. I am currently very interested in my ex-best friend's ex-boyfriend. WE stoped being friends when she found out that I liked him. But I couldn't help how I felt, he's different than any other guy. If you feel like he's special and you could be avoiding something that could be really great for both of you, don't. Go for it, if your friend really cares about you she'll want you to be happy. Best of Luck!
393815
I have been in this situation, and it is very hard to deal with, esp if you were into the guy before he got together with your friend!\n\nAll I can say is keep your feelings buried for now - it wouldnt be any good to let either of them in on houw you feel, because that would just ruin your friendships. Who knows, given time you may move on, meet the guy of your dreams and suddenly all feelings for your friend's guy will be out the window (it happened for me!). Otherwise, it may not work out between the two of them, in which case ONCE THE DUST HAS SETTLED (its important to wait until it is well and truly over for both of them, or someone will end up hurt) you will be free to see how he feels about you. \n\nIf you do end up dating him though, make sure your friend is okay with the idea, as I have also been in the position where my ex ended up dating two of my friends - weirdly enough, I was fine about it when he dated my best friend soon after we broke up, in fact I set them up, but by the time he dated the other friend a good while later, it drove me mad seeing them together, and it made me realise I wasn't over him at all (but thats a whole other story!).\n\nThe last thing I will say though - while I repeat it woud be a bad idea to tell either of them about your feelings right now, one thing that really helped me through everything (both being the one with feelings for my friend's guy and seeing my ex date my friends) was having another friend whom I trusted completely and who knew everyone concerned but wasn't part of the group so much. I was able to tell him everything that was going on in my head and getting my feelings out really helped me to get over them - keeping your feelings to yourself with no outlet will not help you move on, it will only intensify them. So tell someone whom you trust not to blab, even if its only your diary!!!\n\nGood luck, and if you need a chat, get in touch any time!\n\nJoji x
815606
I agree with FSJD. Be careful.  But if you and him click, I don't see any reason for you not to date him.  Your friend is no longer going with him.
570574
Well, depending on whether you're still friends with your ex-bf. If he's someone you wouldn't like to hurt, I wouldn't touch his friend quite yet ^_-
288675
well do u like him? after u and him go out your relationship with your friend will never be da same that is if you don't lose her after going out with the guy
889934
Whatever you do dont break the unspoken rule which is dont date your friends exboyfriends. Let it go if its a really good friend if not then wait til they break up. What I mean is dont worry so much about it, if it happens then it does if not then oh well. Date whom ever you'd like for now and if it were to work out that you were single at the same time only then pursue it if it wasnt a good friend.