Why are parents such enablers?
477182
Parents tend to be the last ones to believe bad things of their children.  They tend to turn a blind eye to certain things in order to perpetuate the image of the "perfect" little boy or girl that they raised.  It's not healthy and tends to hurt the children more in the long run.
1084999
I'm 20 and when I left for college I met so many different people and realized that my parents were very strict.  I'm an only child and I think thats the reason.  I soon realized living on my own that for most of my life I'd been scared of my partents.  Don't get me wrong I love them and I did  have a great life, however I was living for them and not for me.  Their big mistake was not letting me know they loved me for who I am and not who they wanted me to be.  When I was finally out on my own I had a really hard time but I finally learned to relly on myself and it's been great.  \n\nI never really confonted my parents about this.  I figure there really is no point thats how they were my whole life and me telling them they screwed up isn't going to help our lives.  I'm happy with my life now and I wont let them control me anymore.
118639
It's an inverse relationship. \n\nNah.\n\nHelp is appreciated and a little can go a long way. Too much involvement and the parent ends up doing the work; the child does not learn independence.
1044576
They have nothing better to do with themselves.  Keep your distance from them and only see them when your emotionally strong enough to do so.  Your husband is more of your business than theirs, as you married him and not his parents.  It seems as though he or the both of you may have some dependency on them. Try to decrease that dependency and live your own lives.  By the way, why does his mother know more than you do about his psychiatric treatment?  Really, I think she's embarrassed about his condition.
7749
Because they care about you. There is no benefit for them to be strict. They're trying to help you avoid making many of the mistakes that kids make. You may not understand it right now but they're being strict because they're looking out for you.
1143032
they have an easy life...all new things are available to them.\nthier parents had to live in tougher conditions.\nteens are hovever not that much satisfied.\ncheers
111909
Maybe you grew up too sheltered. Some parents will try to protect their children from anything harmful and in return the children only learn fear from the things they were protected from. I've heard of cases like that.\nCould also be past experiences.. but there are alot there.
992307
Parents aren't being mean, just teaching their child a lesson and the facts of life. Many things parents do are for their children's health and help. I mean you have to teach discipline one way or the other right.
1155703
sadly these days they seem to play a greater roll in childrens' lives than the parents. not so much an answer as a comisseration.
360059
Because there are so many examples of parent's not asking and that leading to bad stuff.  Be thankful they care enough to ask.  Not all kids have that!
725325
I do think a lot of the way people turn out to be can be hampered by nurture and how our parents have treated us.\n\nOn the flipside though I think that as humans we can (if we really want to) break the cycle.  A lot of the time and believe me it can be so easy to lay blame on our parents as it's the ultimate cop out but if we wish to show true character we can try to stick two fingers up to them and be everything that they're not.\n\nI know for a fact everybody that knows me including my husband has said that I am nothing like my parents thankfully and it has been so difficult.\n\nI do have depression which is stemmed from my childhood but for the most I don't like to use that as an excuse to try to make me the person I am\n\nWe all have weak moments but honestly you can really do it, it takes a whole lot of strength but it's worth it just to say you didn't beat me and you're not over me.
191277
well talk to them to find out why u r in trouble then pray that God gives you the ability to continue to respect your parents.they are there to help and protect you so please make it easier by listening and trying to understand what they are saying. it will come in handy when you strike out on your own.my mom & dad were the meanest parents in the world. and i thank them for it thier disipline & love is what made me the person my husband fell in love with. if i can be even half the person my mom is i will be lucky.
957200
The relationship of ones parents has a lot to do with their adult relationships, whether or not the parents were divorced.  If you come from parents who fought all the time, you will unconsciously believe that fighting is the way to communicate in a relationship.  It's difficult to stand back and look at your parent's relationship and determine how to have a successful relationship.  You also need to look at the way the parent's relating to the children regarding the divorce.  It takes someone with a lot of insight to look at the whole picture and then form a loving relationship.  There are many books on successful marriages, communications and relationships.  Also, going for therapy can be very insightful and helpful that you won't repeat your parents mistakes.  Good Luck!
422058
I don't know what parents you are talking about.  I would prefer the respectful kind child, disabilities or not over one that was lazy, selfish, and narcisitic.  Perhaps the parents don't like themselves and feel that being treated with disrespect is what they deserve?  I'm really not sure what other reason it would be, other than the parents have some problems.
178287
They do this in part because they are not mature enough to deal with the real world.  I'm not being critical of them. I have too many problems of my own.  These "kids" were not taught a great deal of personal responsibility as children.  That rests squarely on their parents shoulders. Now they are having children and have less chance of teaching their own children responsibility.  It will likely get worse before it gets better.  Some day maybe parents will step up to the plate.
1183982
Yes parents are way too easy on their children because:\n\n1) they are afraid to HURT their EGOS\n2) they would rather DRUG them with the many kiddie drugs than disipline them\n3) partents are too stressed out, over extended, over worked, over everything to think about their children\n4) the interest only loans will make partents care even LESS about their kids as the rates sky rocket\n5) self absorbed ALL ABOUT ME parents from the generation of overinduldged will ruin their kids
1116584
Some people actually are the bosses of other people, but that's usually in the workplace, where somebody needs to be in charge to make sure things run right. Parents also have to be "bosses" to their children, at least until the kids are old enough and have demonstrated the ability to make good decisions on their own. If you are talking about why people want to boss around their friends and peers, some people like to have power over others. Or they think they are smarter or better than everyone else. They have to learn that you can't really control other people. Even as a parent, you can't make your kids feel a certain way or force them to chose to become a certain career; all you can do is prevent them from making dangerous choices and give them the opportunity to learn and make good choices. Each of us has to learn that the only person I have ultimate control over is myself. I cannot control everything that happens to me, but I can control my attitude, what I say, what I do. I'm the boss of me, regardless of who else has power over my life.