why it all way's happen in love that people hurts us?
489879
Well, Life is about chances and so is love...  Some people hurt us intentionally, but some don't..\n\nI think that the people we love hurt us, because they don't know how to appreciate it.  Take it for granted and take it as a vulnerability. (So they take advantage of us)\n\nBut don't give up on it..  We have to go through a few bad seeds, before we finally find the right one..  : )
850458
love & lust are not the only thing in life and we living in a society should think about our surroundings our relatives & friends also because leaving everybody and living with our love will never bring us any happiness but cripple our lives for ever.
981972
I don't know why, but it seems that there are many people who simply enjoy hurting others.  I suspect it stems from them feeling powerless and insecure, so they get a small charge to their own egos when they can make someone else feel bad. \n\n There are, also, others who simply take advantage of people - they see goodness and kindness as a kind of weakness they can exploit for their own means.\n\nDon't let this turn YOU bitter, though.  Remember to tell yourself that those people, in the end, will suffer for it when they find they lack solid, real and loving friendships in their lives.
221717
love is very unpredictable. you dont know when its going to strike. just hope your where you should be when it happens.
1175279
Although sometimes you wish you can have that power to tell your heart to stop loving someone you can't.  Love is something uncontrollable it's a beautiful felling that sometimes hurts.
310991
Because we have a lot of people out there who aren't really as mature on the inside as they behave on the outside, and enjoy planting strife or get a laugh at doing or saying something truly rude.\n\nLot of truly deadbeat people out there. Some you can't love, because not everybody really wants to be loved.
501780
Love is a pure emotion that isn't intended to hurt anyone who feels it. Its people that corrupt it ....therefore love will never let go...bcuz love isn't supposed to forgive u...u should forgive urself...
1131650
falling for someone who was out to hurt me
363164
People can hurt the ones they love. It's often easier than hurting complete strangers.
313467
yes i think we should learn a lesson and be hurt first to be able to see what were doin wrong... and people are like that we are all numb when it comes to others feelings, we need to be hit first with a big rock!and you know,people are people,we are all just the same we just hate to admit it!
197821
Its true..Love is painful...But it is the most powerful emotion God has given to mankind and with every gr8 thing comes a drawback too.. just like with a rose comes the painful spikes. Same way with Love comes the pain..u have gotto accept the both sides baby..U cant opt for just one coz with the heads also comes the tail(in a coin)..;)
659520
Love doesn't have a switch, although it would be great if it did. We were born with the ability to love and boy do we ever.\nLife is just one longggggg lesson and for everything a purpose.\nWhen we love someone, we give of ourselves freely, leaving ourselves open to joy, passion, fear and even heartache.\nWhoever said love makes us stronger is probably right.\nIf having your heart broken didn't hurt, then you would probably never even be able to feel love.\nI would rather have my heart broken then to never have a chance at love.\nTime is your only friend when it comes to heartache, and as far as wanting them back, well, I'd have to say, ask yourself why they broke your heart in the first place and is it worth it to put yourself in that position again?\nGood luck to you!!!
243950
Amen to Jammin Answer. When some one falls in love everyone in the world doesn't exist but u and the person u are in love with. Don't confuse love with like.
472361
It is because it is "safe" for you.  This is so common with people.  We are all afraid of love because we're afraid of rejection. We have learned that rejection is a reflection of us but it isn't.  People are gonna like you or they're not. Simple really.  So we as humans begin to feel attractions to things that are "safe" for us because we're not stable enough in our own confidence.  Swear it.  Sounds heavy but it is a psychological fact.  To overcome this, (besides therapy), you have to understand that love is not perfect because it is a person giving and receiving it and people aren't perfect.  Love will dissapoint at times and when it does, we feel that we will not be okay.  But we will.  We will be okay and it is safe to love a person once we define our boundaries and communicate them clearly to others.  So the cartoon enfatuation is really your subconscious saying that "I don't feel 100% safe and secure truly loving another human being cause I might get really hurt".  But it is okay to get hurt, and  you will be just fine.  :).   If you all think I'm silly, think about pedafiles and such.  This crime is a result of mostly men not every developing emotionally and therefore can only relate to intimacy through something that they can totally control.  Disturbing but this goes to show us all how many people lack proper develpment in the emotional and mental aspects of the brain, if you will.
854351
Well, usually friendship doesn't bring more pain than love. Usually, friends know your weakness and then avoid them becuase of that, they care for you and do whatever they can to help you, they look out for you and never try to hurt you. But alas, not everyone is like that. Are you in a situation where your friendship is bringing more pain than love? If so, you aren't alone, i have the same thing going on. If you are in pain because of a friendship, i would suggest you approach your friend and let them know why you are feeling like you do. Don't get mad at them and blame them like "you are the cause for my grief" and such, approach calmy and explain why you are in pain.  For your question, the reason we are hurt by the persons we care most about it just that reason, we care more about them because we have invested so much into that relationship, so we take whatever they say or do more seriously than what a stranger may say. You tend to trust them more, so if they hurt you it hurts far more than if a stranger hurt you. I don't really know what your question is, so i can't really think about what else to say. If you want to talk or vent or whatever feel free to emial me. Whatever happens, i wish you the best of luck!\n\n-sarah
523200
I don't know, but it happens to everyone. I really can't understand why you can be really mad at someone, and then really happy at them. My sister used to be crazy about this guy, but he fell in love with her friend, and now she hates him. I guess that's how human beings are. Especially girls. We are more sensitive. I know what you are going through. It's ok. Try not to get mad or sad. I hate it when I am sad or angry, I want to explode, but I let it go. Forget about it and think about something else. \nThere is no clear answer for your question, I just say that that's how we are, and it's ok to be like we are. We just have to think positive, and try to always be happy and live every day as if it were our last! God bless!
52123
It is hard to say but I think it is not love that hurts it's losing it that hurts. If you love someone and they leave you can almost feel your heart break in two.