What am I to do when my girlfriend who loves me and I love back can not get over her ex and still loves him?
480391
Listen exes no matter what always have a piece of someones heart no matter how bad relationships have gone there is always that one memory that keeps it coming back. If you will give this girl the world then give her your support, guys again have trouble showing emotion so we really dont understand, but the fact of the matter is shes with you, she stays with you, and that should be good enough for you. Shes not running to him and she has been open and honest with you, now you need to take whatever she gives you and work with it, support is the most important thing, start at step one and work your way up, I know its hard but swallow a little pride and do it.
626505
You need to let it go.  If they are truly BFs nobody can come between them.  If he is in love with her, do not try and come between that, you will only get hurt worse in the end.  Trust me.
456465
u must assure tht u're there 4 her & beside her always.tell her tht its hard to 4get her past love but still u'll b waiting 4 her to get over 2 love you. Be frank with her & express tht u love her. Be romantic instead of being flirty.
970802
Have you just asked him.  Ask him how he feels for you than ask how he feels about her.  Then ask if he had to choose who would it be.  if he says he don't know than maybe you should get some space but don't disappear.  If you can't handle his feeling for her than you should give ur self some time. Don't be with a man who loves someone else.  but if he tells you his feeling for you are stronger than his feeling for her than you stay and fight for him.  He seems honest considering he let you both know about each other, so I think he'll be honest about his feelings for the both of you.  You Know, even when people love each other they do grow apart and even though they have nine years he may not be the same man and may actually be the one for you now.
723361
I'd say if you two have been together for a year and she's STILL not over him, there are some major issues here.  It shouldn't take somebody that long to get over an ex, especially when they're suppossed to be with somebody else.  Confront her about it.  Tell her how much it hurts you that she's not over him, and that if she doesn't clean up her act...you will have to end the relationship.  To tell you the truth she doesn't seem very mature or stable, so you're probably better off without her anyway.  At the age of 29, you need somebody who is at your same maturity level and stage in life, and is ready to commit.
418910
Cut your losses and move on buddy.  Anyone who truely loves you wouldn't have to look anywhere else.  If she loved you whole heartedly, she would never even consider the possibility, or allow herself to become emotionally involved with another person.  She may love you, but not enough.  You deserve more.
601404
You cannot force her to love you. Move on, find someone else who will love you too.
319519
Dude I just went through this same exact thing.  Your only missing her cause she was there for you and now theres no one.  I took her back after she tried the new guy, and two weeks later, she dumps me for other guy she just broke up with.  I wasnt hurt cause I knew it could happen so I didnt let myself get too involved.  But my advice, just move on, find someone new to love, there more fun, and you dont have to worry about her going back for the other guy.  She already left you once, dont let her walk all over you.  Hope this helps.
532917
well, you answered your own question. keep on loving him. love conquers pain and hurt anyday.
289773
Well it sounds like he is still in love with her. I mean if I am seeing you and then tlaking with my ex on a regular basis then something is up. Look I have been in this situtaion before. No matter how much he denys it, the fact is that he can't let go. Let him know that he has a choice between you and that other girl. If he really cares for you then he will move one. Now I just hope that you are not doing the same. I think it is important that you both want the same in thing. And no matter what he tells you it is obvouis that he still loves her. Look the worst thing is to countue talking with someone that you were with and then deny that you have no feelings for her. I think you have a choice and it is up to you if your gonna play second place to that other girl.
498995
I am in a similar relationship, but I know she's the one, the circumstances are just tough for us.. being so far away. Test your love.. while he's away, take space and see how you really feel without him. At first no matter what, it will be so hard.. but it will get better. Then.. the test comes.. after not having him in your life much, have a long talk and see how it feels. I lost her because I doubted someone so great could love me.. but after she gave up on me.. I realized how much she really does love me.. and slowly I am gaining back her trust, and she has all of mine.
346737
You probably cant.  Just keep a few things in mind when considering it.  First of all there is a chance they are still in love and may always be.  Second of all, they are with you now and make that time special and make them remember who you are. \n\nYou may not be able to stop them from loving their ex forever but they may love you.  Loving someone doesnt mean you would go back with them ever.\n\n  If they dont share kids with their ex and they spend lots of time with them stating they want to be friends, I would be concerned, but that is not a sure-fire way to assume.  Besides to assume makes an asse out of U & me.
702359
Take a break, let her realise for herself hes a loser. You need to play abit more harder to get, I know you love her very much but a girl likes to chase, not to be chased! if you get what i am saying, if u r the right one then she will realise. if she doesnt realise then its her loss. Atleast u learnt ur lesson to try n be urself more, then maybe she will c u for who u r. She is 2 obsessed with this druggo to think of you as more than a friend, howabout you talk to her best friend (female friend) and tell her what is going on? She needs to hear about the other guy from someone elses mouth otherwise she will pretend to herself you r just making up the stories about him being a druggi so that you will seem better than him. Send her a bunch of red roses one day, do whatever you can to make her come to her senses, as to forgetting the other guy- figure out whether he is interested in her or not, if he doesnt want anything to do with her than she needs to know that so she can get over him!!\n\nYou probably love her so much because she was your first love, and they are always the hardest to get over.\n\nSorry i wrote so much..\n\nGoodluck with everything and i hope it all works out :)
597996
you seem like such a lovely guy and to be honest.. from what you have said   that girl does not deserve you.. You deserve someone who will love you as much as you love her.. and im sure she's out there somewhere.. it seems like this girl is keeping you on standby just incase things don't work out with the other guy..and even if she does loose this guy she will have another on standby sooner or later...she knows your too good for her and she's taking advantage of it!!please do yourself a favour and start the process of letting her go now cause it will take time .. and time heals!! and the one thats right for you will come along after you have healed from this girl.You derserve better and i think you know it !!It's not worth loving someone who doesn't do the right thing by you hun!It eventually makes your heart turn cold!
579943
You are a very passionate man it seems and you truly love her but it doesn't seem that these feelings are mutual. Unfortunately i think you should move on. She's told you three times now that she doesn't want to be with you. As much as it hurts if you love her you should try and let her go. Plus not always when two people have very similar personalities do they get along. Give yourself some space from her and go looking around the pond. Like the saying goes there are a lot of fish in the ocean. Look for someone who is just as passionate as you are.
211790
You just have to let them go. Let them have enough space and time to reflect on it. It's useless to force someone to stay with you even if you know that he's having second thoughts.\n\nIf you still love him even if you're not together anymore, I suggest you not to date another guy for a mean time. Take time to get over him first before you go on dating again.\n\nIf he comes back, you should make it a little hard for him to pursue you. If he doesn't, enjoy being single. Maybe he's not really the one for you.\n\nHave faith and enjoy life. ^_^
821720
Girl, that's a rough situation. Its all good to help for a little while, but her ex seems to getting a little bit to dependent on your girlfriend. The bottom line is that her ex needs to grow up and be a women, it doesn't take that long to get get your stuff together. Tell your girlfriend to give her a couple of pointers and move on. Keep your head up!