what could make my wife happy in the bed?
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I suggest sitting down and talking to her about it candidly. Try new things, buy her a new "toy", something sexy to wear to bed, a little porn (it works, for either arousal or a giggle sometimes, I swear) a makeover day...Chances are she's not sure how to change the same issue you're not sure of either. You both probably need a change, try something you never thought you would, and I bet the spice comes right back!..GL;)
629259
Is your wife under more stress than normal? As far as not knowing what your wife wants, ask her. I'm sure she'd be happy to let you know.
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Well, the little things really do count...things like picking your socks up and putting the seat down (if you're a guy) and letting your hair down and putting your feet up (if you're a girl).  \n\nSlow dancing in the kitchen while waiting for dinner to cook is fun.  Writing notes and tucking them into a pocket or purse to be found the next day is fun!  Baking a cake and frosting it together is awesome...just buy two things of frosting and only use one on the cake!  \n\nRemember to say "I love you" every day.  Focus on the things your mate does right.  Nobody wakes up in the morning saying "How can I make my spouse miserable today?"  If your loved one screws up, give them the benefit of the doubt.\n\nOh...and if you make Jesus the core of your marriage, everything else is even better!  There is never a time when I love my husband more than when we kneel down beside the bed, hold hands and pray together.  \n\nHave a long and happy marriage
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a nice Massage!!! if she is a working woman she will appreciate the royal treatment!!! send her roses to work, makes us feel special. COOK her dinner, nothing says "you are my special love" then a dinner made with blood sweat and tears. and then that night, massage her into a deep sleep. dont press sex either. ask her if she wants to. if she does, make love!!! no f*cking tonite. if she doesnt say something to the effect of "its perfectly fine. let me rub your feet, it will be better than sex" makes me dreamy just thinking about it, ps. im married too
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Most women love small but romantic gifts. A card, a tiny box of her favorite chocolates, a candle from the dollar store, or a pretty plant are all nice. Best of all, of course, is something you make for her. Even if you don't excel at the arts, she will appreciate a drawing (even if it's just stick-type figures), story, poem, or song you created out of your love for her. My husband wrote me a very beautiful poem, just using words and phrases that ran through his head about me. You could also make her dinner, give her a massage and/or a long, relaxing bath. Find out what means most to her. Tell her you want to make her feel loved and have her make a list for you of the type of thing that would do that. You might want to read The Five Love Languages to find out more. Good luck! :)
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I think that women love being treated with tenderness in and out of bed. You should make her feel comfortable with you in bed and be eager to give her what she needs or what gives her the most pleasure. And touch her in a very gentle way and kiss her while you make love to her. And after the orgasm , keep holdin her in your arms.
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Only play this music if she wants to hear it.  Do not make the mistake of assuming what your partner wants in bed!  Ask her what she wants and be concerning when you do it.  She might say "I don't know".  If she does, then tell her to let you know when it feels good and when it doesn't.  Maybe it would feel best for her without music.  What matters most is what she wants.  Most men are sexually stimulated easier than most women.
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Have her come over and have arrows leading to the bedroom, then go to suriseparties.com, check out what they have, order something different, and have a good time.  Try drawing a nice bubble bath for her, and wash her hair,etc. Make a nice dinner in the nude. Just spend a nice nite together watching movies, drink a bit of wine, or beverage of choice, and let things go. I did the arrows and IT WAS GREAT, had the wine, chocolates, and well we got a movie and just got up to eat lunch.  Had a great time. The surpriseparty.com, has a LOT OF GREAT ideas.  LUCK and have fun.
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Make up some coupons saying that you would help her around the house.  Unless you have a maid!!!  Or for a nice massage; shoulders, nice foot massage.  Its worth a try.
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Be romantic without being sexual throughout the day. Compliment her looks, tell her how good she makes you feel (emotionally), write little love notes and leave them throughout the house. Seduce her and be consistent.
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There are lots of good things to do. Depends on the age.  From cleaning her room or making her bed, too making a small card  or her favorite meal.  \nSometimes just a call or a sisterly hand written note can do the trick.  \nYou can also dedicate a song to her on the radio if she likes music.  Or better yet, burn her a CD of all the songs that make you think of her.( For laughs, start with the song you two sang together as a child)\nIf all else fails, just tell her that you love her and have been thinking about her.
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That she is probably awesome in bed.
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Women's wants and needs change over time. Life gets busy and sometimes we don't get a chance to tell each other how much we love our spouses, maybe she looks to this kinds of sex as a way for her to feel loved.It would be good for ya'll to spend the day together expressing your love. maybe then she will come around and realize that just because she has had kids and gained a little weight you still desire her and need her.
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Art work.... Draw a picture for her.  Make a card for her.  Clean the house.  Make dinner.  Leave love notes around for her to find.  Give her a card with I.O.U. massage and hugs.
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simply surprise her on several occasions.you know your wife better and know what can do the trick.
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How about a bottle of champagne, some choc dipped strawberries, lots of candles...some bubble bath and some scented massage oil.....have her stay in the lobby for a few moments while you go up and get the room set up...pour the champagne....lite some candles in the bath...fill the tub with bubble bath.....then go get her.....have some strawberrys and champagne...then slowly undress her.....lead her into the bath.....spend some time bathing her.....actually doing that while she just relaxes.....when done, dry her off....have some more champagne and strawberries....and when ready....give her a nice massage and let it go where it goes.....have a great nite
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get her items for her bathtub\nbath pillow, cute shower curtain etc