what would make me  "mad" all the time? I work live and spend nearly every minuite with my wife?
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There are several options: 1) Each of you are assigned specific roles and that person has final say for decisions in their area when you are unable to come to an agreement.  You have to trust each other and agree to disagree.   2) It sounds like you crave routine and more of a structured work environment than your wife.  Is it possible for her to be responsible for "front of house", ie; Customer Service, Public Relations, Sales, Showrooms(?) etc.?  That would leave you in charge of "back of house" such as accounting, shipping, ordering, vendors, deliveries, production, etc.  When she "sells" a job, the work ticket flows to production and a time estimate would then be given. If she has to call the customer back and delay delivery enough times, you should both come to a better understanding of what is realistic. There will always be exceptions where an order will need to be "Rush", but not all orders.  3)  Recommend she ask the Client "When do you need this?" instead of assuming they need it today.  You will be amazed at how much time some people will give you.   4) Have regular staff meetings to review orders scheduled and what is in the pipeline.  Discuss potential logjams. Understanding the full picture can solve many unrealistic goals.  Discussing profit & loss each week helps all parties to remain tuned in.\n\nI would think that after 12 years in business, you would have figured out how to work with each others strengths, and compensate for weak areas.  Since you sound frustrated and may be at an impasse, I would suggest couples therapy-at least a few sessions. There are many skilled mediators, therapists and church counselors. Ask around, do some research and find someone who specializes in communication, or business issues.  Finding the right person to talk to is critical. If you go and are not satisfied with your progress or in the assistance you receive, then go to someone else. You are the Client and you are in control.\n\nGood Luck!
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Dint you realise whom are u getting married to in the first place and if not.. now if at all you want to separate and move away from your marriage then i believe you must be having a strong feeling of hatred towards her... if you do then why are you bothered about her mind and her not agreeing about things... just consult a lawyer and get your way cleared...\nBUT... if you are worried and bothered about her mental state then somewhere you still feel for her... get those feelings ahead and try to give yourself a second chance...\n\nRemember LIFE is NOT about quiting the tough tasks in your path... go around ... fight them .... Make situations turn ... Life then would be worth living...\n\nAlso dont forget...Once a looser always a looser... Be a fighter.. After all she's your wife and who would know more about her than you do... Tackle her in her own way...Humans do change... \n\nAnd moreover for a Wife, her Husbands love can definitely do the magic...
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you are with the wrong woman...plain and simple!\n\nall the things you've said, some of us have experienced it too with the opposite sex...so there's no sense for crying out loud...we all had a share, ok?\n\nif you can't stand it, that you are all doing the work...then go! find someone who can fill your world with the things that you expect from a woman...i am very sure that there is one for each and everyone of us..\n\ndon't push yourself beyond your threshhold...or else you will burn out!
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You have to look back why you married her, try to find out what makes you happy, feel peaceful, or anything that makes you so in love with her and decided to marry her. It is not really wrong If you start not happy, because you just get bored with all...but if you want to try just do something new, new activity or try some fun activities with her, maybe it works for you. Please do not compare her with your 1st wife it's really unfair...a woman really sensitive with that, it makes her feeling hurt because she never exist for you.
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Don't worry...this is very common. The best thing that you guys can do is to get together and come to agreements about your finances and stick to a budget...that way, if/when either one of you buy something outside the budget...you get called out. Also, it is best to sit down and just have a heart to heart on all of the frustrations that you are both going through...the worst thing that you can do is to sweep it under the rug and let it build up! Also, make a pact to only talk about things in a calm manner and do it all in one session instead of doing it everyday(a peaceful home is a happy one). Also, remember that you are adjusting to each other and that you are both going to find things that annoy you about the other person...but, also look at the positive things and especially the positive things that you have noticed since you have been married!
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Thumper3755 put it best - you have to be happy with yourself above all else. If you aren't, no one else is going to be able to make you happy.\n\nMany people define part of themselves by their careers.  Other people are passionate about a sport or a hobby.  In those cases, these things say just as much about who you are and what you are about as your choice of a spouse.   A well rounded person's happiness should be made up of several different things.  It sounds like your wife is one of those people. It doesn't mean you aren't important to her.  It just means she is about more than being your wife, which is a good thing.  She needs you to help her feel better about another thing she cared about, in that case, her job.  It's good she has multiple things that bring her happiness.\n\nYou, on the other hand, should watch out.  Your entire source of happiness shouldn't be entirely dependent on another person, just as if the only thing that made your wife happy was her job.You'd say she was too wrapped up in her career than is healthy, right?  You'd wonder if perhaps she had too narrow a view of life.  So aren't you in danger of making her think the same thing?  Not to mention it can put alot of pressure on her down the road and make her feel you are too needy and clingy - definitely not attractive to women. \n\nTo be a more mentally healthy person and keep the marriage going strong, you might consider finding a job or hobby you're passionate about. That can make you seem more interesting to her, plus give you other sources of happiness when the marriage hits rough patches.
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my husband says I am crazy, so I guess thats why?
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Yes, you are.  You can be hurt and upset but you have no right to be mad.  She was honest with you and didn't cheat on you.  That is just life and you can't be mad at someone just because you don't like how things turned out.
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Well first let me say thank you for the job you are doing, I certainly can't believe it is all you had hoped for.\nAs for your wife, she sounds immature and selfish from what you say. You are already away from her and have been for three years, you don't say how long you were together before marriage to her. MY heart says leave her, kinda like you can't lose something you never had, kinda thing. If that makes any sense. This basically goes against alot of how I feel about marriage, though I certainly believe there are always mitigating factors to take into account.\n If you divorce her, you know longer will be smacking yourself upside the head and can get on with life. Yes you love her and that makes it hard to let go. To tell you the truth it sure can't be any harder than the thankless job you are doing right now, of which I commend you and those with you. \n I am truly sorry that your wife is so immature and refuses to discuss issues with you, but that should tell you something. This is just what I think because I hate like heck to see anyone suffer at the hands of another. Please take care and stay safe.
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She does stuff to delibratley irritate you and make your life miserable. First, quit showing things irritate you. For things that normally get to you eventually she'll make a comment like, "Does this bother you?" Just say, "What?" Let her respond and your reply is, "Oh, I didn't notice so I guess not." Tune her out. \n\nThere are always people like this in life, eventually it will be your husband as well. I'm sure you do things to irritate her as well, we all do something that will annoy someone at some point in time. You may want to have a discussion with her and be assertive (not aggressive) and listen to her. Let her know you want to be friends and don't like living with tension on a daily basis. Explain you would also like to go back to having fun with her and you care about her. Also, ask her to stop doing certain things. Set two to three non-negotiables you want her to stop and ask her what you do that irritates her and you can change. It's give and take and don't take things too personally. \n\nSomething much deeper is going on with her and you that needs to get resolved. Or her problem is nothing to do with you, and she's just taking out whatever is going wrong in her life out on the person she lives with (which could be anyone else as well). Just be sure not take things too personally. Good luck!
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Dave,\n\nYes, marriage is hard work for both spouses You each have to give 110% into the marriage. If you are having some issues about what is happening in your relationship and I believe that what you have written you do, I would seek the advice of a marriage counselor for both of you.\n\nFrom what I am reading into your question, it appears that your wife views that you are the cause of her unhappiness. Your discussions and arguments need to be focused on what is going on in the relatonship not about about blame and shame. There are some communication tools that you can use in your conversations with your wife that may be helpful.\n\nThis requires that you develop the skill of detachment. If you can keep your emotions under control, then you can share with your wife what you see is happening and how you feel about it. Here is an example: " Honey,I love you very much and only want the best for us. Because I want the best I am sharing this with you now, When you continually find fault with everything I do, I become frustrated, confused, angry, and hurt. I know that we are both human and that we both love each other. Can we sit down and see how we can we work things out.\n\nThis may or may not work depending on what is the cause of your wife's behavior. Regardless, you need to take control of your own behaviour and detach from your wife. If you work on yourself and become the best person you can for you, not for her then you will begin to feel good about who you are and not rely on her for your feelings of self worth.\n\nI wish you well! Surround yourself with a support system of friends who can be there for you in this time of diffculty.\n\nThere may come a day when you have to say: Honey, I love you very much and want to stay married to you. It seems however that you are unhappy in this relationship with me. If you do not want to stay married to me let me know and because I love you, I will let you go.
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I have had the same problem with my husband.  Here's how I've handled it...\n\n1)  Don't nag.  He'll just resent you for it.\n2)  Suggest that the two of you go out and buy the tools and other items you need to start a project.  Nothing makes a man happier than buying new tools!\n3)  If he doesn't start the project after he's bought the necessary equipment, then YOU start it (even if you have no clue what you are doing).  Once he sees you about to "mess" something up, he'll HAVE TO HELP!\n\nGood luck!
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My husband modiness and be upsetting at times but i get like that at times too. I cant really say anything makes me really mad at him as we work through all of our differences and we love and accept each other even with our imperfections!
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You say you are "unhappy", what does that mean?  If there were no kids involved i'd say move on, but children are precious and deserve all you and your wife can do to resolve this.  But making your kids the reason for staying is weak, nobody wins.  Communication is the key, there had to have been a time when your wife was the best woman that happened to you right?  She still is and it's worth finding out together what changed.  And even if you still come to the same conclusion you can honestly say you tried, do THAT for the children.
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Well, you've got to do what you've got to do, but be prepared to alienate (at least) your brother-in-law and his wife.  It sounds like he is very self centered and, I would bet, the boss in his family (strong type A personality).  I don't know where it will stop, but there will be a lot of really stinky stuff floating around-and may never dissipate.  A person with his personality will definitely blame you for the problems that arise.  From what you have said he thinks his time is far more valuable than others and, therefore, will not understand your anger.
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I'm a bit like that aswell sometimes. Just take a deep breath and walk away. Staying there will make you more angry. If you can't walk away, just tell them you're doing something wrong politely.
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I'M not understanding your question? Your independent and so why are you angry? hows that relate to your brother wives and neighbors? Not sure what your trying to say... I'll just say this...\n\nLife is an illusion no one can forth cast your future.. However that's what makes it exciting and fun.. To live and learn don't\ncontain your personality but set it free! So that everyone can enjoy the real person who you truly are! You shouldn't allow anyone to dictate your life..Live your life! and live it to the fullest\n\n\nGood luck and be real!