My Lover and I are both getting married but still want to continue our relationship. Is it wrong to say yes?
475998
Please don't take this the wrong way, but why are you getting married?  Getting married should mean you've found the one person you don't want to wake up another day without.  It sounds like your heart isn't sure.  When you've found the right one to marry, he'll fulfill all your wants and needs. It sounds like you may not have found that 'one'.  I'm not saying your fiance isn't a great man, but if he doesn't have your whole heart, and mind, and all your passion, it seems hurtful to marry him.  I wish you the best, and pray that you'll put a lot of thought into your marriage since your action will affect a lot of people.
726414
Don't do it.  You are both adamant on the opposite ends of a very fundamental thing.  If you get married, one of you is going to have to give in and will be resentful and bitter because you did.\n\nSomehow, I don't think anyone could say anything to you at this point to keep you from marrying this "perfect" person, making this advice all the more regretful to give you, but if you'll think for a moment with your brain and not your heart, you know I'm right.
487614
your marriage is what you make it. both of you bring honesty, trust, respect,love,communication, and commitment and you will be fine. good luck
9049
I do not think it is a good idea. How do you find out whether or not you are compatible in that way if you wait until marriage?  What if on the wedding night, one believes in the missionary position only, and the other likes to expirement?  What if one likes it in the shower and the other thinks it should only be in the bedroom?  What if one really enjoys sex, the other feels it is something they say "let's get it over with" to?
381973
You should see that you are physically compatible. What if you found out on your wedding night that the sex between you, for purely physical reasons was not ever going to be any good? It would mean for a potentially unhappy marriage. I say go for it!
8427
Why in the world would you agree to this?  If he is worth marrying he will wait and you should wait.\n\nResponding to youknowit below:  All the more reason to wait and have a nice wedding.
294674
If this was the ONLY reason for your getting married, I would be very worried, and advise you to get help. BUT that is not the case, your already engaged and planning to spend the rest of your life with this person. The only thing holding you back is finances. \n\nSo even though the last name thing is one reason, its not the main or only reason for getting married. So I'd say go for it. As long as you love each other, and want to be joined in the eyes of the government why not?
832061
yes it seems as though you are rushing a bit! just because you fooled around doesn't mean you are prepared to get married. and is he saying he wants to marry you to get into your pants? i would wait awhile before you make the commitment, because it sounds like it would be a failed marriage! wait atleast a year!
143572
If you were meant to be together then you will be together. When you get married its a union of two people that God has put together so if she says yes, its because it was meant to be.
555329
Sweeite, it's alright.  What you feel is totally natural.  I have been with my guy for three years and I am the maid of honor for a woman who has been dating her guy for five months.  I have a complex about it, and she loves to rub it in.  \n\nSomething I have realized, though, through all this is that marriage, while being the ultimate committment is not required to have a totally fulfilling realtionship.  While I may not even be engaged, I know that we are meant to be and have a bond that my friend cannot even contemplate with her new beau.  \n\nNot being egnaged only means that you are mature enough to know that the marriages that last longer are the ones who wait two to five years.  You will not stumble into anything weird wwhen you get married.  You know everything about him.  Believe me, some of these new brides will find at least one thing that will surpirse them about their mate.  Getting married in the honeymoon phase of a realtiohsip, while looks good on paper, is not really the best way.  once that is over, what do you have left?  Only knowledge and understanding of the other will be the true test of time, and that can only come with time.  \n\nDon't sweat it.  You are the smarter one.  Know it, breathe it, live it!  You are one up on them, not the other way around!
347187
I think it's wrong if you're partner doesn't like it. If your partner is ok with it, then do it! But it depends on you and the other person.
934597
Your post does not discuss why you want to marry your "collegue" or how you feel about him.  Without knowing if this is what you truly want all I can say is follow your heart which means if you love him and want to marry him and it will not cause you to lose your family then marry him but if you are marrying your "collegue" because you observed a "quite good" nature then you should wait and listen to those you trust which sounds as if it may be your family.
201620
No offense, but if you have to ask, niether relationship is probably a good one. When you truely love somone, there is no doubt in your mind as to what decision to make in this type of situation.
608478
You've already got a good head on your shoulders! You know what's right and wrong. There's no problem at all with you sharing a dance with a guy (As long as you remain vertical). I would answer in the exact way you already suggested - "Sure, but I am married". Let's him know up front that you're committed, and still allows you both to share the dance he asked for. Good luck!
537162
Hmmm...well, since you married him he probably (or atleast should) already know that you love him.  However, it's better late than never, so find a nice, quiet time where it's just the 2 of you, and all of his attention is focused on you, and then just say it!  Good luck! ;)
995449
If you are Christian yes. But only if you love her , have been knowing her for at least a year or two and are compatible on the important things in life. Sometimes ppl think opposites attract, that relation does not last, because eventually opposites end up hating each other. \nHowever If you really wanted to get married you would not be asking here.\nTHINK OF IT MORE BEFORE YOU PROPOSE
381233
love is trully a strange thing....\ni'd say if its good let it be....\nAs for marriage, u'll know when the time is right.\ni m sure that they will meet face to face soon