Wife left today, told her friend this is either gonna make it or break it!?
494206
Let her have her time.  Don't call her all the time, etc.  Abscense makes the heart grow fonder..or so you hope.  If you call a lot, you're not allowing her a chance to miss you.  Good luck.
651715
my wife told me she wasnt happy once.  and then started talking to some other guy.  when i threatened to leave she stopped talking to him.  instead of waiting on him to leave, why dont you pack up and go?
1082122
shes victimizing you... she shouldnt be putting you in the middle of her problems and that makes her a poor excuse for a friend... what im trying to say is, do you want to be the one who conspires and allows her to cheat on her husband or do god knows what? Think of the husbands feelings in this situation... While you dont want to be the cause of them splitting up you have to know that if you told you wouldnt and couldnt be held responsible, your friend decided to do this to her husband and she should have to face the reprocussions. Do you care about this girl enough to actually lie on her behalf over something that could split them apart? I think its the husbands right to know whats going on, in my case I think I would not tell the husband where she is but if you know his friends or family tip one of them off and possibly they will tell them... its complicated but you cant be incriminated because you didnt tell her husband where she was, you tipped someone off and they told, but i think its the right thing to do in letting the husband know in one form or another that his wife is lying to him and may be doing more... hes a human being and has feelings to, and she is digging her own grave... It was wrong of her to ask for you to lie about her because she is putting you in the middle of their problems and asking you to conceal the fact that she is destroying her marriage. If I was you I would tip someone off and then let them tell the husband,  either way theres nothing you can do to come out of the situation without getting hurt because if the husband figures out that you have been lying to him about something that is ruining his marriage then  hes going to hold you partially responsible... and think would you want to be in that sort of situation as well. would you want your husband to secretely be doing god knows what and you to be completely oblivious to it and how would you feel about it if he asked a friend to lie to you for him? you have to put yourself in the victims shoes, and honestly you both are the victim to her lying ways
941274
This is a very unique question.  it sounds like your wife is a BIG GAME PLAYER!  But at the same time you don't want her little game to ruin your life.  Who knows what she'll do.  I'd tell her to go find another round of friends, and you're going to live your life.  She will keep you going through this bull crap for life if you let her.\nSounds to me like she's wore her welcome out where she just came from, and is running back to her rock that's you.  Well sometimes rocks crumble.  I would let her go, you're not responsible for her irrational behavior.  And in no way are you to blame for her actions.
236304
Wow, sounds insecure!  Definitely move on.  Aren't you glad she was the one moving out?!?!?!  It made the whole breaking up process a heck of alot easier on your part!
1160198
Say...BYE  BYE.......Shes gone........Maybe during you're " confusing emotions about you're marriage, and  " figuring out what to do", You should have done them.......at home, with the actual person....You-re wife, The solution was between you and you're wife, not some other woman. Just be glad you don't have any kids dragged in.
681071
It's sad that she is having marital problems. I know it really is probably hurting you as well because you care so much about her. I don't know if it would be a good idea to tell her how you feel. It can complicate things for her, it's not going to help her to figure out how she feels about you while trying to deal with her own marriage. Try to be there for her, as a good supportive friend like you have been so far. You need to wait until she has came to a stand point to where she can determine if she is going to try to work it out or get a divorce. Once she can tell you that it's not going to work, then go for it. At this moment, you will have to take the risk. At least her mind will be clear and she can act on emotions without leading you on or confusing you. You love her, but you don't want to be in the middle of the battle, you will get hurt more than she is already hurting. You'll be in competition with her husband, although things aren't really working out, but most people don't want to lose the ones they feel they love. Just continue to be her friend, remain in her life, just don't try to make things harder for her right now.
797549
Oh YAAAAAA, I had a friend for a long time and I dumped her yesterday. It was decision that took a lot of thought, but she finally pushed the envelope and I did it. \nWOW..... does it ever feel good! A big weight off my shoulders.\nGet rid of the negative people in your life, even if it means having a lot less so called "Friends"
993493
SHE MIGHT NOT MAKE IT TIL MONDAY, SHE IS 83!!!!!!...\nTELL HER YOU WILL BAIL HER OUT IF SHE LETS YOU HAVE A PARTY IN HER HOUSE THIS WEEKEND, OR ELSE SHE STAYS...
379976
Yes, you most definitely made the right the right move in dumping him. He is showing neither you or his wife any respect by asking you to be 'more than friends' whilst still married, and i assume, still sharing her bed too. He is trying to have his cake and eat it too. Stay strong and don let him wheedle his way back in to your life. Good luck! =)
946183
Wait till she goes out and pack up and go. I did that to my ex hubby.
914314
Mindbogglingly rude.  I hope you sent your regrets:  "Congratulations on the beginning of your new life with your husband.  I regret that I cannot attend, as I will be spending time with mine."\n\nI disagree with the suggestion to send an RSVP saying you'll both come.  If he wasn't invited, he wasn't invited.  You also can't ask her "did you forget to invite him?"\n\nWhen it's all over and some time has gone by, see if you can talk this out with her and whether she has an issue with your spouse.
438894
You don't need to know what's on her mind .You need to get out of this situation as fast as you can. She is married w/a kid and you are in a no-win deal. Her husband is going to have to deal with her and her issues and you don't really have a dog in this fight.The sex might be good,but this woman has more baggage than a cargo terminal.Recipe for disaster,my friend.
969375
get in there or you will regret it if she did that to me i would have no problem and would come out and ask her if she say she does not fancy you .move on. i did that to my wife and pushed the local coppers son off the post office wall and said out loud 'leave her alone shes mine and after 36 years two kids and three grandchildren it was the best move i have ever made. mind you i was pissed at the time and now this Sunday was a mad day as normal of guitars, screaming kids and the floor covered in toys and me loving every minute and loving even more when they all went home and tomorrow  i will want them all back again. one life live it and take a chance.
499783
Well if it was just part one of your question and things were great now and life felt good for you then I would have said let it go...however now that you are seeing him IM somebody and asking her to go to a game,etc and you didn't even know about it nor were you asked? I feel that whatever is going on, within your marriage, isn't heading for anything good. I think there are issues either from the past or in the present that need to be talked about.If you guys can take the time, to talk about them and how it makes you feel, etc, do it NOW! If you can't, and you need an objective third party, go and get counseling and keep working at it. However, do something now before it's too late!!! I will say a prayer for you both!!! Good luck!
217847
well, first off, you insensitive jerk... you shouldn't have married this woman and promised her your heart until the end of time if you were going to get "tired" of marriage. and if you really feel this way, you shouldn't cheat. you should at least have the respect to end the marriage before finding someone new. rather than bringing her home aids or something, to make it where she can't ever find happiness again. you know what, I hope she gets on the computer one day and finds all this stuff you've been writing, and dumps your sorry ass!
86271
This is probably not what you want to hear, but let it go. Don't sweat the small stuff and everything is small stuff. The freind doesnt sound like much of a friend. You might have to let your wife find that out by herself. Also Good for you for not breaking up with you wife/girlfreind when you where called to duty.  I saw it happen so many times, before a deployment. So many broken hearts :(