what should i do to be happy person on earth i am having good wife but our life is full of strugle?
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As a believer in the Jesus, then you know that he loves those who help themselves.  You must also understand that what your friends have most likely is not what you need now in your life.  God knows what ye have need of and he will supply it.\n\nWhen I was young and my husband and I only had each other, we felt much the same way as you did.  We didnt have anything he was going to school, and money was not something we had any off.  So, one day we decided to change our thought.  To start doing that which was fun for us.  We managed to find those little things that helped us through the hard times, listening to music together, getting to know our neighbors more, and when our son came along, we dicide that it was just our little family and it would be the best family we could ever imagine.  \n\nJoy comes in small steps, but the first and formost step is always....Graditude for that which you have.\n\nWe also stopped all debt.  We cancelled all credit cards and went on a cash bases.  It was darn hard, but because we knew what our values where, and that we would not let the events determine our happiness or success we mangaed through it, reminding ourselves very often how much we had, and the baby certainly brought in a new perspective.  \n\nGet closer to each other, get close with those friends you like.  And rejoice for a new life is about to come into the world and Christ will be present at all your sides.
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It doesn't sound a very happy situation to be in.\n\nWhen you married, you made some promises to your wife. They were quite serious ones, and it was a permanent contract. What you think of that is your own affair. I have learned to try not to moralise about what others do because, when it comes down to it, I am no better myself.\n\nI think your first concern should be to write down all the options and find the way that will give all people concerned the most happiness (or the one that will cause the least hurt, if you prefer to look at the negative side of it). \n\nYou must also involve the others somehow. They are also people with as much right as you, if not more, to have feelings, to make a choice and to have a say in things. \n\nIf you are a very brave man, you would meet with everyone involved and discuss your problem with them honestly! A counsellor is useful as a mediator and 'chairman' in meetings like this.\n\nWhatever you do, however, you MUST be honest and open with yourself and everybody else and you MUST communicate. You certainly don't have the right to make decisions for other people, only yourself.\n\nIt's worth bearing in mind that our lovers, friends and acquaintances serve specific purposes in our lives. We tend to make friends - and keep them - for our specific needs. We   nearly all have 'giving' needs as well as 'taking' needs, so the relationships are mutually beneficial.\n\nLove does not always involve jumping into bed with someone (sex is one of our needs, of course, and should be shared with someone we love). I would look very carefully at what it is you feel for this other woman - and what you feel is lacking in your relationship with your wife.\n\nIt's a hard decision and may take a long time to resolve. As long as you think carefully before deciding what to do, consider others' happiness before your own and remember that one can love someone deeply and, perhaps desire them, yet still decide not to follow the whims of Little Willy.\n\nI wish you well.
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I've been content at every single stage of my life.  I loved being young and innocent, then when newly married I loved being a newlywed, then when our family started I absolutely loved that time as well, now as my children are growing up and leaving the nest and I am started to have grandchildren, that time has its joys and charm.  \n\n\nThe secret is to appreciate the blessings from each time period and not be obsessed with what you DON'T have or what you are looking forward to.  Don't waste your time always planning on next year when you are older or more financially secure.  Enjoy the times you are poor as well as the times you have money.  Enjoy being single and then enjoy the fruits of faithful marriage.
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you need to leave the country to somewhere you can actually do something. it'll be a fresh start, a new chance. at the rate you're going, not only will stress and depression affect that relationship, so will the added burden of complexes. an idle mind is a devil's workshop. migrate - take your wife to somewhere you both can live in happily, because wherever you are is obviously not the right atmosphere
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Before you roll out of bed in the morning, count your blessings, and tell yourself your are going to have a good day.  Give gratitude in all things. Rejoice in your health. Volunteer for a good cause.  Do at least one thing, anonymously every day that makes someone else happy.  Practice a hobby you love.  Love what you do. Meditate. Pray.  Watch some good comedys.  Read some upbeat or self help books.  Take a class.  Take a walk.  Take it easy.
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Don't make it harder on yourself by staying and being miserable. \n\nYes you may still love your wife but people change and your needs/ desires changed as you grow older.\n\nIt is odd but humans grow accustomed to EVERYTHING, whether it is good or bad. In this case it sounds like it was a good situation gone bad.\n\nYou have to ask yourself "is this relationship worth it?" Only you can define the "it", because you know exactly what goes on inside your relationship. \n\nIt took time to grow together, involving each other in the everyday things in your life. It will now take time to learn to live without that person, but you can do it. There will be times that you feel like you've made the wrong decision, but trust that you have if it is truly what you wanted to do.\n\nHaving said that i say go for what makes you happy - life can get you down in so many ways - you should find what makes you happy.
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If you are not happy in your marriage then this should've told you to look at the reasons why you're not happy and attempt to fix the problem.  \n\nLooking for the fix outside of the marriage isn't going to fix your problems.  I suggest you and your husband see a marriage counselor.
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1. Live life to the fullest. Love and care for the people near to you, there smile will make you happy and your life will become enjoyable.\n2. Try every possible thing in your life , but remaining in limits.\n3. Share your feelings with your better half only.
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To tell you the truth I don't know if you can be happy every day of your life. Certainly not every moment. \n Keeping a positive attitude, knowing that things will be better when they are bad, knowing things could be so much worse. Having a special someone in your life that you love and loves you back. Well those are the things that keep me happy most days. But I am not perfect and the world isn't perfect so I take what I can get and make the best of it.
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It is best to do what God has told you to do and do it then. I have been there. You are always happier when you are in Gods will than when out of it.
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1)find some hobbies....do some volunteer work, of online advocacy....then you can see how some people really have it very, very rough and you'll feel better about your own life while at the same time helping others.\n\n2)You can also answer people's questions on Yahoo Answers and then feel like you helped them.\n\n3)Talk to your spouse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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get a new wife.  One that appreciates you for who you are.
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Don't look for others to make you happy.....be happy with yourself.  Stay busy, stay involved, volunteer your time, take pleasure in the simple things that life has to offer.
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life is good but with a good wife you can have a good life and with the bad wife you can have bad life,so its not your life that is good or bad its the people around you which make your life enjoyable or not!\n\narminnourbaksh@yahoo.co.uk
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Sorry to hear that you're going through a period of difficulty.  We all do at some point.  \nDo you know this woman you are marrying?  Is she a stranger? Or do you know her well? If you know her well, than I would say she is your friend.  If not, please comfort yourself with the love of your family and also remember that you are about to have an even larger family once the union is made.\n\nMy strongest advice to you is to pray, if you do.  Ask for health, a successful marriage, continued success on your job, and no moments of unhappiness.  You are still young.  Try your best to enjoy life. Do acts of charity.  Seeing other people happy makes me happy.  Maybe it can work for you too.  Best of luck. You're already a success to me.
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There is nothing in the universe to make a human being 100 percent happy and satisfy.We pretend to be happy and satisfied.Thats why we hope & dream ,we work, we try our best ,we look forward for more love,more money ,more comforts.If once you achive everything in your life then you'll find no meaning no lead your life.The only thing you require to make or become happy and satisfied in married life is heartful love - we know love conquires everything.And the secondary things are sacrifice and adjustment.If your question points to physical matters then you should know that physically a man or woman can attract his / her partner at best one year.Thanks
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YES!!!\nyou will be happy... life always gives us up and downs but remember to always look at the bright side.. after all things happen for a reason.. the roots of life are bitter but the fruit is sweet.. so relax, enjoy yourself and if you hold resentment.. i know its hard but try writeing it all out on a piece of paper and when your done.. simply rip it into tiny pieces and throw it away and move on.. appologize if you have too... and start over.. life is wonderful.. just like im sure that your a wonderful individual also!!!\nxoxo