I'm adopted and just had a baby, it made me want to find my birth mom, but i don't wanna hurt my adoptive mom
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There are lots of adoption support groups online that can help you.\n\nwww.zabasearch.com\n\nwww.ussearch.com (the first part is free)..and this can tell you where she lives..(city and state)\n\nwhite pages to find listed people\nwww.theultimates.com\n\nGreat Articles\nhttp://www.adoption-help.org\n\nSupport Groups:\n\nhttp://groups.msn.com/theforgottenpeople...\n\nYahoo! Groups\nhttp://groups.yahoo.com\n\nSearchingRegistry\nfamilytiesadoptionsearch\nadoptee-support\nsoaringangels\nusaadoptiondatabase\ntouchedbyadoption\n\n\nGoogle Groups\nalt.birthright\nalt.support.adoption\nalt.support.adoption\n\nAlso here are some books to consider:\n\nSearch : A Handbook for Adoptees and Birthparents 3rd Edition\nby Jayne Askin\n\nWhose Child? : An Adoptee's Healing Journey from Relinquishment through Reunion ... and Beyond\nby Kasey Hamner\n\n\nBirthright : The Guide to Search and Reunion for Adoptees, Birthparents, and Adoptive...\nby Jean A. S. Strauss\n\n(you can buy this books used on shopping.Yahoo.com and on Amazon.com)\n\nhttp://shopping.yahoo.com/b:bo...
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You could adopt, there is more to being a parent that sharing DNA.  You would have your female child, and be making her life much better than it was.
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If he's been living with you for all these years, i think it's best if you tell him. Hearing you're adopted is tough enough.. hearing it from strangers that are actually your birth parents would be terrible. Tell him, let him know you love him no matter what and tell him if and when he's ready, then he can meet the other parents.
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can you give a little more info on what your circumstances are? where do you live, where were you born, why were you seperated from your birth mother, etc? that will help to find the appropriate site.\n\n\n(just a note to anyone else in this situation... don't forget, the people who raise you are just as much your "real" parents as your biological ones. it's important to know where you came from- but think about who made you who you are. Don't mean to preach, but... spare a thought for the folks who loved you for your whole life and who might feel hurt if you appear to reject them, make sure they know you love 'em, ne?)
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The only way she'll be able to do that is through the adoption agency.  Every time you move keep them updated, so when that day does come they'll have your correct info to give her.
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this really hurts me i'm adopted \n\njk
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My birth mother.  She abandoned me as an infant, and when I found her 40 years later, she turned out to be the meanest b-itch in the south.  I have five siblings and she abandoned all but one of us.  She has a gift for finding the most hurtful possible thing to say and saying it - or so I'm told, because she refuses to speak to me.  She refuses to tell half of us who our fathers are.  She broke up my sister's marriage by sleeping with her son-in-law.  She expressed her discontent with a child support check by wiping her butt with it and sending it back - and she made two of her kids watch her do it.  There are dozens of stories like this.  Even the people who LIKE her don't like her, if you understand what I mean.
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Maybe check the hospital and the lawyer that helped the adoption go through.
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My brother and I both grew up knowing from the start that we were adopted.  Yes we are biological brother and sister.  I don't feel that it affected me at all rather than the void of not knowing where I came from.  I think that I keep people at more of a distance now that I have been reunited with my birthfamily (due to alot of deceit and unanswered questions).
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no, I'm not adopted, but my heart goes out to those who were and are unable to locate their biological parents.
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Alot depends on how old you are...the good thing about all this is when you are able to finally leave unlike their other children you will know how to take care of yourself and others and will have matured into a dependable adult which is a very valuble thing...instead of stress see it as a blessing for the above reasons...their other kids will most likly strugle through life and marry out of need and be unhappy most of their lives.....take this time to find out what it is God is preparing you for and do the best you can while asking God for strength, wisdom and percerverance....Hang in there kid life goes by quickly this is only for a short time....\n\nAs to the adoption part we are all God's adopted children if we accept salvation through Jesus Christ .....if its good enough for God it should be good enough for you and God makes no mistakes about where and when we are born it is all a part of His plan...You were no mistake so run with it and one day the whimpy kids you took care of will look to you for help and wisdom...\n\nOne last thought Christ Himself said that he came to serve not to be served...Sounds to me like you have a Godly life ahead of you.
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HI Jenna,\nGrowing up isn't easy and I am glad to see that you have come up with a lot of positive choices in this. It is normal to be feeling the way that you do and we all say things that we dind't mean when we are hurt. The good thing is .......we can always do our best to fix them. \nTalk to your mom again. Tell her you are sorry for what you said. She loves you Jenna. You are her little girl and will always be that. She wants you to be happy. \nTell her that you would like to be in the delivery room to and ask her why you can't be. Part of it is that she knows that delivery is not easy. She will need an adult there to help her, someone who has been through it and will encourage her with adult words. She might not want you to have to see her when she is uncomfortable and in pain. She would also be worried about you too. \nAsk her if you can go in before and just about before it is time for the baby to be born. Tell her that you really want to be a part of your sister's whole life and you want to be able to see her as soon as she is born.\nJenna, she is your mom. she loves you and she will be so glad that you go to her and tell her your feelings.\nI can tell you are a great girl. I am sure your mom is very proud of all of your accomplishments.\nCongrats on being a big sister...........you will be a great one!
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I am so glad you asked this question. I was adopted at about 1 year old. As the others said I don't consider my "birth" parents my real parents. The ones that raised me and gave me my values are my real parents. I had considered off-and-on searching for my birth parents ( and siblings ) but after much thinking about what really matters - I decided not to. If they cared they could have found me!\n\nI guess we will always wonder - but at the same time don't really want to know. We are-what-we-are thanks to the wonderful parents who raised us. After so...........many years of emotional struggle this is the decision I have come to. People not in this situation just haven't got a clue as to how tough this is!\n\nWell - I don't feel so all alone now - thanks for sharing your feelings!!!!!
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Best thing to do, is to go to the website that they have, and contact them directly.  Put in your request to give all information to them about birth mother, whereabouts, phone number, etc., and if the child has a desire to find out, they will give him the information.  They will NOT contact him with this unless he wants to know and gets in touch with them.  This is to protect him.  I am adopted, and knew of my birth mother from day one,  so my case is different.  I can only pray he's asked, and they've kept track of him so when you finally give them the information, they will forward it to him.  They do have reunion and contact services....so that's a plus and a VERY good sign!  I wish you the best!  \n\nListed below, links to help, the first being the contact info for Catholic Charities, including an email address.
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From, my mother who lives in Mexico and I have not seen her for 6 years. I would like to recieve all call from her, because I love her, she makes my day when we talk over the phone. She is my mother and she is my Holy Mother who gave me birth.\n\nShe is the person I will always want to hear from. Thank you Mommy!
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Your adoptive parents should have copies of the adoption papers/amended birth certificate, which would tell you where you were adopted from (agency, state, etc). Then I would contact that agency/state and see what they can tell you. There is a number on your birth certificate which correlates to a number on your original birth certificate. You will probably have to fill out paperwork stating why you are wanting this information and then hope that your birth family has filled out the same paperwork saying it is ok. If the adoptee has made contact with the agency saying that he is wanting to be found, then the agency will make contact with you
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To be honest with you I and my sister were adopted at the ages of 1 and a half and 2 years old. I am so very sure she can read your letters, You can even talk to her in your prayers and im sure even tho you cant see her she can see and here you. Ill bet that sometimes you may feel scared and all alone but then you fell a presence like someones watching you will I bet she is know your angel. watching you. And il bet that your mommy is happy that your new mommy and daddy love you and are watching over you and protecting you. A mother is someone who loves you and protects you child its ok. Your ok and god is watching over you.