he keeps on ruining my life.. what should i do?
489303
Right.He is stalking you & giving you the creeps? Tell him to stop or you will get the law to make him stop.If it comes to that ,,you can get a restraining order of protection.Id tell him first though that you dont want him following you etc.If you dont put an end to this behavior,,it can escalate,,his love can turn to hate & cause more problems for you.
329739
Diana..this is what i think u should do..sit down and talk to him about the way he treats u..tell him first about the good things that u love about him..but then tell him that he needs to trust u when u go out with your friends or if u just go out by yourself..(shopping or grabbing a bite to eat)..tell him in a kind way that if he keeps this up..u won't put up with it cause u want him to be part of your life and not your whole life..if it gets messy where he does hit u....stand up for yourself and have him arrested then gey a restraining order on him..its that simple sweety....please please don't be one of those gals that end up in a abuses relationship...
344083
No!!! If he keeps hurting you why would you want to be with him? Have more selfworth, find a guy who cares for you the way you deserve to be cared for.
814506
Get as far away from him as possible.  He needs to get help and is too controlling.  You deserve to have someone that makes you happy and you deserve to have a life outside of him as well.  If he cannot accept that and trust you, then there really is no relationship.
1083648
FORGET him. He's just using you, love. Trust me, you need to cut him out of your life. There are plenty of guys out there who will treat you MUCH better.
805129
give him the silent treatment, what he did was wrong, and you deserve to be treated better than that.  Maby change your phone number, and ignore him completely.  Then work on finding a guy who will treat you with the respect and kindness you deserve. Or if he straightens up, then try it again, I recommend, finding a better guy, though.  Good luck!\n\nSavage
156387
get help. move if you have to...this is no way for a person to live. you should be cherished and respected..not blackmailed.\neven if the crime is steep...you will be free in the long run by telling police what he is blackmailing you for.\n\nyou will not rest peacefully until this is resolved. not only is he blackmailing your body--but also your mind
412186
Apparently talking and being nice and putting up with him, doesnt work. Maybe you should get the police to ask him to leave. Or you could throw his stuff out, not sure if you could get a restraining order- if you can go for it! It's quite evident that he's brining you nothing but hurt. Make a stand now for you and your kids.\nThe sooner he is out, the better you will be able to get on with your life. Once that's done, for GOD's SAKE, DONT LOOK BACK!
335244
Get out while you can.  If he's already controlling and possessive -- it's only going to get worse.  Find yourself a better man!
890601
Obviously if he thinks you are crazy, then you are trying too hard. Just lay off for a while and see what happens. If it is really meant to be it will. If you keep calling him and calling him, it will only make things worse, and him like you less and less. I've been there.
762633
He sounds like a control freak. Move on! Good luck to you!
1141300
pay his fine and do his time.serouisly you need to et him take care of this himself.You wont always be around to bale him out of him mistakes.He has to learn to stand on his own two feet.
831110
i think you need to get out as fast as you can.you deserve so much better, and he is just a waste of your time.
815634
Advice?  Easy.  Run back to the guy that has blackened your eyes, broken your nose, and used you as a punching bag for years.  He'll eventually kill you.  Then, he'll go to prison for life, and not endanger some innocent woman.  OR, you can stay away from the jerk, and perhaps build a life where you don't get beat up.  Your choice.
333184
He is a classic abuser. He won't change. The longer you stay with this jerk the more you will get hurt physically and emotionally. You could end up imprisoned and/or dead. So dump him. If you're having trouble doing that see a therapist to help you. Remember the sooner you get rid of him the sooner you will be happy.
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SERIOUSLY, GET HELP NOW AND GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN. THIS IS CALLED ABUSE, AND HE IS OBVIOUSLY AN ABUSER. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE WITH THIS. YOU'RE WORTH MORE THAN THAT. GET OUT, GET HELP, GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE. I BEEN THERE DONE THAT, AND I SPENT SIX YEARS WITH AN ABUSER. AT FIRST IT IS ONLY WORDS. THEN IT'S SLAPS, AND THEN BEATINGS. IF YOU STAY, YOU WILL END UP SERIOUSLY HURT OR DEAD. THERE IS LIFE OUTSIDE OF HIM, & YOU SHOULD GET TO IT. I KNOW IT SOUNDS LAME, BUT GET COUNSELING IMMEDIATELY. FRIENDS, FAMILY, WHOEVER. I LOST SIX YEARS OF MY LIFE TO A LOSER. HE HAD ME TOTALLY CONVINCED THAT NO ONE ELSE WOULD EVER WANT ME AND I DESERVED EVERYTHING THAT I GOT. I HAD NO SELF ESTEEM AND NO SELF RESPECT. I LOST ALL MY FRIENDS AND MOST OF MY FAMILY BECAUSE OF THAT LOSER. THE ONLY THING THAT OPENED MY EYES AND SAVED MY LIFE WAS GETTING PREGNANT, AND REALIZING THAT I DID NOT WANT MY CHILD TO LIVE WITH HIM TELLING HER THAT SHE WASNT GOOD ENOUGH, & HIM BEATING ON HER & EVENTUALLY LOSING MINE OR HER OR BOTH OF OUR LIVES  BECAUSE HE JUST WENT "A LITTLE TOO FAR" WITH THE BEATINGS ONE DAY. PLEASE TRUST ME ON THIS ONE. GET OUT NOW WHILE YOU CAN. THERE IS NO REASON ON EARTH FOR YOU TO HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THAT. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE GET HELP & GET OUT. YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN HELP YOURSELF, AND IN THE LONG RUN, IT WILL BE WELL WORTH IT. DON'T BE STUPID & WAIT LIKE I DID.
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The first thing to do is get away from him....he obviously is not good at all for your life. Someone can either add to your life and help u be a better person or take your life away and suck u dry. It sounds like he's a parasite. Get away from him and if possible, move in with ur relatives or a close friend until u can get back on ur feet. Secondly, put yourself around around people that's moving in the same positive direction that u want to move to. THis will help keep u inspired and thinking positive. Third, THINK POSITIVE. WE manfest our thoughts. U can think things into existence, trust me, I know. DOn't use drugs as a crutch or temporary escape. It won't cure the problem. Good luck and hope this helps!