how can I let my wife know that I like to masterbate and its not because I dont love her?
481733
Yeah, make it a group project.
216132
Why not tell your wife that you want to have sex with her best friend? heck you might get lucky and get a double pleasure for your effort.
714337
Tell your wife and both of you lecture the dingbat. Oh and you might want to take her house key away. Just a thought :)
443845
Only play this music if she wants to hear it.  Do not make the mistake of assuming what your partner wants in bed!  Ask her what she wants and be concerning when you do it.  She might say "I don't know".  If she does, then tell her to let you know when it feels good and when it doesn't.  Maybe it would feel best for her without music.  What matters most is what she wants.  Most men are sexually stimulated easier than most women.
110321
Everyday you need to make her feel special and loved.  That doesn't mean flowers and candy and things like that everyday.  What I mean is that you need to pay attention to things she says to you.  Ask how her day is.  Complement her on her apperance.  Find out what her interests are and talk to her about it.  Getting your wife interested in making love is a daily quest.  You cannot wake up on any given day and think you can "turn her on" with things that work for a man.  She is very different from a man and needs very "different" foreplay.  Hugging her and kissing her at many times throughout the day are a great place to start.\n\nAlso...when she is in the mood.  Traditional foreplay is a must!!!  That means anything that she wants.  Oral sex is a very good way to begin.  Listen to her though- does she sound like she is having a good time?  Follow her lead.
405557
if you love her and trust her let her be, she is who she is and thats why you married her so dont change what you fell in love with (big mistake men make) she'll stop if she thinks it hurts you - we all check men out beneath the waist, don't mean were gonna screw em - men check out women too - just life- have fun\nBTW - your wife must think you are a super hubby too if she can be herself comfortably in front of you than that says a whole lot about her awesome husband
245003
i think that maybe you should start off slowly, do things that arouse you mate, kiss and touch and explore make her feel good and i promise that it will come naturally, PLAN B\nwatch a good porn.
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First, you need to speak with ur wife.  If you love her you do owe her honesty and the opportunity to be involved in finding a solution.  \n\nIf at this point, you'd rather just keep it private from her because you have rationalized it as not wanting to hurt her, then...\n\nDo what a lot of guys are doing.  It is sleezy, but it works.  Set urself up on yahoo personals or myspace.com or adultfriendfinder.com and meet women that way.  DO NOT write u seek a f u c k buddy, cuz it will chase away all prospects including those who may seek relationships like that.  There is a certain dance that we as humans must do to get the sexual attention of another.  Don't seem desparate or like a player.  Don't mention ur wife.  Women are disgusted by men who use the "wife" excuse for a poor sex life.  Valid or not.  Be willing to take her out, work a little.  But honestly, most women on the net, if you get them out on the date you don't have much work left.  \n\nIf you are not stunning, be generous.  If you are not charming, read up on something and fake it.  Be cultured and refined.  \n\nNever set up encounters in ur city.  Try to call her, private.  Say it is a work phone.  Lie about ur last name.  Never leave her alone in ur vehicle.  Other than that seem very open and honest.\n\nHope these help you.
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Have you tried a sensual massage? \n\nPlan a romantic night dinner, candles Oh and slip her a note 1 week in advance to have her book the apppointment. \nDont tell her any thing just make sure she will be there. \n\nKeep slipping hints all week long. leave a rose on her desk at work and don't let her see you do it. \nSend her an Email greeting card with naughty idea's \nsend her a blindfold the day before dinner. \n\nthat day leave some oil in her purse with a note. \n"DON"T LOOSE ME YOUR GOING TO NEED THIS" \nThe little hints all week long should have her wet in anticapation. \n\nThat night greet her at the door with a glass of wine. dress up really nice. wear a apron for visual effect " AND TO HIDE YOUR HARDON" have her come into the house and relax. ask her how her day was. maybe have her sit down and while your talking gently rub her feet. \nafter about 15 to 20 min. excuse your self and serve dinner. make it romantic. \nAfter dinner have her go sit down and you go clean up the mess in the kitchen. then go prepare the bedroom. I suggest puting padding on the floor and ALOT of candles around the room but it's up to you. \nNEXT fill the tub with a nice warm bubble bath. try using her fav if possible, if not visit the store and ask a female clerk. just about any thing would work. \nonce the bath is set. go back into the Living room and collect your wife.\n(( first blindfold her)) Then slowly start removing her clothes. DON"t let her help you. take your time and caress her skin, as you remove an item of clothing explore the area with your hands, lips or even use the hair on your head. place gentle kisses on it. After about 30 Min of caressing her lead her into the bathroom. and help her enter the tub. Try to leave the blindfold on if possible. \nNext use a laufa sponge and gently clense her body. make sure you rub it every where. Work on the legs and feet especially. And on her back, but and scalp. Hopefully the water will stay warm for about 30 min. Spend 15 min. washing her down. then let her relax for the next 15 min. in the mean time warm up the OIL. and prepare the room for the massage. make sure the tempature is above 80 degree's for her comfort. OH and have wash clothe handy siting in cool water.  \nnow go back to the bathroom and collect your wife. dry her off and leave the blindfold in place. or replace it with a dry one. =) Gide her into the room, and have her lay face down. warm your hands up and place them on her back for a moment and just pause. count to 50 slowly and just focus on the though of relaxation. \n\nNOW place some warm oil in your hands gently spread the oil to cover her back. work slowly and gentle into the muscles. Do not put any pressure on her spine this only hurts instead work the muscles next to the spine. and along the shoulder blades. The move to the feet and work up the legs. \nas you reach the hips. gentle caress her eroginious zones, then move back down and slide up slowly again. once you have worked the leg work on the Butt area of that leg. \nbe careful with the oil. around her vagin* but feel free to touch her around the *nus. GENTLY at this point "LISTEN" to seee if she is comfortable or does not like this. DO NOT insert your finger into the *nus just rub around it. Now move back to the other leg and repeat the same sequence. \n\nonce finished have her roll over.\nRemove the blindfold and place the cool clothe on her eyes\nnow work from the legs up. once you reach the "Y" stop and work the other leg. then move to arms into the breast. and finish with the stomach. and vagin* \nAllow her an orgams now and once she is finished move to her head and give a scalp massage. this will allow her to calm down. \n\nAfter this see what happens. \n\nGL mate\nGod Bless
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Talk yo ur partner about it and find ways and means of improving the chemistry between u both\n\nand i wanna tell u this, young man that if u truly love ur wife , u will surely enjoy the act and never get bored of it. first start loving her even better than what u are doing now. and then u wont even think of the term bored\n\n how would u feel if ur wife had posted this question thinking that u bored her . think again and learn to love. Feel ashamed of urself.\n\nsex is not a routine- it is just a part of LOVE  making.
168683
Yeah, tell ur wife about it, then ur boss.Btw, why u wanna be sure?
970560
my wife's voice when I am making love to her!
527232
Wow!  That's a tough spot to be in.  Now, you're probably not going to like what I have to say but I wouldn't be doing you any favors if I sugar-coated it so here goes:  \n\nI would suggest you take her to a sexual health therapist.  A good therapist will have special training to help her through this.  You wife has nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to be embarassed about.  Pain during sex is very common and a good therapist will help her work out just how much of this is psychological and how much is actually physical.  \n\nIf I were you, I wouldn't even sort of suggest that it's "all in your head" to her but, well, you probably already knew that, right?\n\nGood Luck!
520706
You are obviously already attracted to your wife. Why don't you focus on making your wife happy? By satisfying her desires she will be more inclined to satisfy your desires.
554681
No way!... if you don't like sex with her why don't you teach her how you like it?  You made a commitment to your marriage, you can make it what every you want it to be. What you are saying is just an excuse.  I am sure there was a time that you found her a turn on. Well find it again, and if there is things you like then introduce her to it. Talk to her, be open with her. Seek counseling, it really helps!   There is no better turn-on than the ability to do what ever with the person you really love...
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Why should she have to ask you for more? \n\nYour question is evidence that you already know your performance is not good enough. Why don't you try to improve without making her ASK you to improve?\n\nNext time you're having sex with your wife, think about how you are disappointing her by lasting only 1 minute.  \nHopefully, this will make you feel bad enough that it will take you longer to come.
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Make sure that she is relaxed and in the mood for intimacy before you initiate a sexual encounter with your wife.  She will probably respond best if you are considerate of her feelings outside of the bedroom and take your time to please her.  If you do that, your reward will be worthwhile.