What is the best way to control a childs anger?
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Some kids are very independant and don't see the problem with getting what they want. If you discuss the issue with them like an adult and try to rationalize or even come to a comprimise you may get better results then just saying no. Some kids need valid answers and this shouldn't be seen as a bad thing it may show that the child has an overly analytical mind and may make a great lawyer some day. Challenging authority does not always mean there headed in the wrong direction if they are directed to positive outlets for their way of thinking like debating and politics. Good luck, "difficult" kids often get an unjust bad rep for thier alternative veiws of the world.
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As a male, he is by nature aggressive, you cannot and should not try to teach him not to be aggressive.  You can, however, teach him control.  Let him know he has choices he can make in his behavior.   Get him in to sports or some other physical activity that will keep him moving and expending energy.  Guys hormones just do that to them.  If he is just a toddler, play, rough and tumble (and I do mean tumble, teach him somersaults) helps with balance and coordination and helps in falling skills in older children. When you know the child will fall, they need to know how to do it properly to avoid injury.\n\nIt's very hard to teach a child not to hit, this seems to be an ingrained protective response.  The child has not learned the differences in pain.  Physical pain vs. emotional pain.  All they know at this time is  They Hurt D-a-r-n it! (typed the regular way it looked like the OTHER word)  I did, however let him hit back IF the other child hit him more than once.   Turn the other cheek doesn't work well with children, and they need to know they have a right to defend themselves.  By allowing one hit  and not  cringing, his behavior would show the other children that he understood the hitter was upset and his character was big enough to allow that one hit. After that, it was self preservation.\n\nThis stood him in good stead.  The teachers in seeing this type of behaviour could see he didn't want the fight but was pressured to ingage. \n\nThe best you can do is teach him to think, and to think clearly and to see where his actions can lead.  When my son was in 2nd grade, he was suspended for throwing acorns.  After speaking with the Principal, my son and I sat down on a bench outside  under the Principal's office window and discussed the punishment.  It was during recess and I pointed out the acorn war going on to the oblivion of the teachers.  I explained why he was being punished.  The Principal overheard, came out and reduced the punishment to just the rest of the day.\n\nOn the way home in the car I gave him my true thoughts on the situation.  By seeing the example on the playground, and what resulted from our conversation, he realized that words of negotiation need to come first, then physical action is not always required.  People behave badly when they feel threatened.\n\nI apoligize for the long anecdotes.  After that long explanation, I now tend to believe you may have intended the word violence.  Thank you.
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Most children throw a temper tantrum when they don't get their way. Just because they get older dosen't automaticlly make them stop with the childish behavior. This holds true no matter what race group a person belongs to. In order to stop childish behavior, one needs to mature. To stop following the crowed, and living through group mentality,...like stereotyping. Remember the words of Paul: ... when I became a man, I put away childish things. (I Corin.13:11).\n                                              Matt.
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I have been teaching young children for twenty years.  We use a variety of behavior management techniques.  Here are a few:\n\nProximity Control:  This is the easiest behavior management strategy, and it works much of the time.  Proximity Control means putting yourself where the action is.  Sit on the floor or at a table with the children.  Play with them or involve them in conversations.  Often just having a teacher nearby prevents problems before they even start.  \n\nModeling:   Children learn from watching us so always think about what you are doing in the classroom.  If you want children to lower their voices, then make sure you’re not yelling.  If you want children to be polite to one another, you also need to be polite.\n\nDistraction:  Sometimes you can head off an inappropriate behavior before it gets out of control, by offering an alternate activity.  This is especially effective with younger children.  \n\nRedirection:  Similar to Distraction, Redirection works by taking the emphasis off the inappropriate behavior and replacing it with a positive behavior.  The difference is that Redirection involves actually moving the child to another area of the room.  For example if two children are arguing about who can build on the block rug, you could help one child find an alternate space to build.\n\nLimited Choices:  If a child is having a difficult time controlling his or her own behavior, we can help by giving more structured choices.  This is especially helpful if a child seems to be overly excited or stimulated by the activity in the classroom.  Make sure the child always has at least three choices to pick from.  (For example, “I’m going to help you calm down a little.  Right now, you can choose to draw, read books or paint at the easel.”\n\nTime Alone:  Sometimes a child has an extreme amount of difficulty controlling his or her behavior and it is necessary to remove the child from other people for a short time.  This is usually only done when there is the threat of danger to the child, another person or equipment.  If you need to remove a child for a short time, find a place where he or she can be alone (within view of a teacher) and give the child something to do. We never use “time-outs” as a punishment.  Our Time Alone is a way for the child to calm down and regain control.  We should not have a child sit alone for more than 3-5 minutes for this age group.\n\n\nLogical Consequences:  Sometimes it is appropriate to give a consequence for a negative behavior.  If you chose to use a consequence as a behavior management technique, there are two things to remember:\n\n1. The consequence always needs to be logical.  This means that it has to make sense to the child.  If a child knocks down a friend’s block tower, it makes sense that he or she helps to rebuild the tower.  It does not make sense for that child to miss gym time later in the day. \n\n2. The consequence should take place as soon as possible after the behavior.  Even our oldest children can’t always remember what they did two or three hours ago.\n\nFamily Support:  We talk to children’s families about their behaviors on a regular basis.  This isn’t so that we can “tattle” to the parents about what happened during the day.  Rather, it is important that the children understand there is a link between school and home, and that the family and teachers are a team.\n\nHope this helps!  Good luck at your interview.
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The first thing is, you need to recognize the problem which you have. \n\nI used to struggle with that too. I had a lot that went on in my life that was no good. I talked to a counselor and told him that I am an angry person. He told me that I am a good person, but I need to get my anger under control\n\nHe told me to remember that we choose our emotions whether we know it or not. He said that there is no point in getting angry over something that we have no control of and it is especially important that we don't not lash out at our loved ones. \n\nMaybe you should try counseling for a while. \nI feel for you and I think it's awesome that you are willing to admit that you have a temper problem. A lot people don't have the guts to do that. THey think that everyone else is the problem
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Teach your child to obey authority figures, respect his elders, and to NOT have an attitude. He'll get through life uch better.
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Oh for goodness sake!!! HOW old are you!? Are you really unable to sort your own life out? Kids need disipline. If you don't want you're man to be moody, tell them to fight elsewhere! Dependant on their ages, have you not tried teaching your kids correctly about how to behave in this society?? A smack probably wouldn't be out of place either!\nSend them to bed early if they won't stop fighting and if that won't happen, you've not done a good job at parenting, sorry!
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the best way is stand up to them.... if they hit him then he needs to take the biggest one, walk right up to him and punch him as hard as he can in the nose,,,,,,,,, they might fight but no one will mess with him after...\ni work with kids ( self defense) and there is just so long a kid can take things like that..\n\n \nif he lets it go it will only get worse...
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Are we controling YOUR anger or someone elses? If its you, When you feel a fight coming on. WALK AWAY. Don't yell, scream, hit...Nothing, just walk away. If its somebody else, Same theory applies. When you see the fight brewing. Leave the room. \n & joine ART OF LIVING FOUNDATION COURSES.
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I have a 6 year old boy. you are not alone. Kids are smart and they quickly learn how to get their way if the parents allow.  Try to sit down just you and him, in a place where there is nothing to distract him, and talk to him.  Don't stand over him since kids find that intimidating but look at him at eye level.  Let him know how much you enjoy doing things with him but there is a time and place for everything.  Kids need boundaries, and the crying is most likely a way of him getting what he wants. When it comes to behavior don't bribe him, but reward him.  When he cries, I know it's hard, but LET HIM CRY.  Say he doesn't cry for a while or doesn't start a tantrum, tell him how well behaved he is, and give him a little treat, cookie, stickers, extra 15 minutes watching tv. It is important to be positive towards a child. Kids are always looking for approval specially from parents and believe me you will see little changes. Remember you are the parent not his friend.  he has to respect you and the fact that you are the adult.\nAs to the anti-social, try to bring him around other kids more often like the playground, or mcdonnalds playcenter, places like that.  Even if he doesn't go off and play with them, he will watch and see how much the others are having fun, and soon enough he will want to play too.
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Don't sweat the small stuff.  If you do then alot of times it turns into big stuff unneccessarily.\nFor the real anger:\n1) Realize what triggers anger in you - a feeling of inferiority, personal injury or humiliation, not being able to be heard, etc.\n2)  Realize when you begin to get angry - thoughts begin to race, focus is not on what the person is saying or doing anymore but how to get back at them, not listening but instead waiting for your turn to talk, bringing up irrelevant things to the issue at hand, etc.\n3)  Realize when communication has completely broken down - again most of what is in #2.\n4)  Take control of yourself instead of trying to control the situation - don't be afraid to take a time-out and revisit the issue later (this requires an agreement with whoever IN ADVANCE)\n5)  Always respect the other person as you would want to be respected, even if they are not doing the same for you!\n\nAll of these points take work, but practice makes perfect.\nGood luck!  These steps work but you must want to change.
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My son has ADHD.  You don't say how old your child is, and as with all children, punishment should vary by age.  Here is some general information.\n\nThe best thing you can do is to stay calm and set firm boundaries.  Most ADHD kids have problems picking up on social cues because they are moving too quickly (mentally or physically) so they tend to get in trouble more, but they usually don't see it coming.  Be very clear in your expectations and the consequences if they misbehave.  Then if they do misbehave make sure that you follow through.  An important part of disciplining is to have -them- tell -you- why they got in trouble, that way they are truly understanding what causes problems.\n\nI won't get into the spanking/non-spanking argument, but spanking ADHD kids usually doesn't work.  They may not understand what caused the spanking so it seems to come out of left field.  A child that is spanked that doesn't understand why, suffers the same mental anguish that a child that is randomly spanked, for no reason, experiences.  They tend to have more stress and may actually rebel and behave worse because they feel like they will get spanked anyway.
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DR PHIL SUGGEST TIME OUT IN THE LAUNDRY ROOM OR A TOTALLY BORING AREA OF THE HOUSE AND IF SHE HATES CHORES LOAD HER UP OR TAKE SOMETHING SHE LOVES IE. TOYS,VIDEO GAMES,OVERNIGHT AT FRIENDS ETC. TRY TAKING HER TO CHURCH ALSO , HAVE HER INTERACT WITH OTHER CHILDREN THAT ARE GOOD INFLUENCES ON HER AND ARE CALMER IN NATURE. EVEN IF U R NOT RELIGIOUS IT HELPS
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yes,go to anger management classes.:)
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Bite him to let him understand the pain it causes when we bite others...\n\nha ha ha ha \n\nsorry.. just to ease you\n\nI do understand how frustrated we are when our kids do things like these...\n\nMany a time a kids listens to his/her parents out of love/affection.  You can teach the kid not to do it by being patient enough to nod your head asking the kid not to do it every time he/she does it..\n\nIf theoretical classes fail, the kid has to learn through practicals bite and let some one cry out loud so that the kid understands that it has caused pain to the other....\n\nhttp://www.schoolingkids.com/\n\nhttp://www.futureaccountant.com/
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First take a deep breath and count to 10 when you feel anger coming on, secondly try and be positive in your outlook on life....it works wonders.also wear a smile more often as a smile is very infectious . good luck hope you make it.
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The most effective treatment is thought-control, in which when you get upset, you turn your thoughts to those that tend to calm you down, instead of make you more upset.  After this, exercise, plenty of sleep, and a balanced diet with a vitamin supplement.  These are all known to significantly decrease stress.