Why is it so difficult to find a decent boyfriend who doesn't turn out to be a bastard?
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~~to answer this question you have to be able to understand men... maybe this will help:~~\n\n*Men are like.....Placemats.\nThey only show up when there's food on the table. \n* Men are like.....Mascara.\nThey usually run at the first sign of emotion. \n* Men are like.....Bike helmets.\nHandy in an emergency, but otherwise they just look silly. \n* Men are like.....Government bonds.\nThey take so long to mature. \n* Men are like.....Parking spots.\nThe good ones are taken \n* Men are like.....Copiers.\nYou need them for reproduction, but that's about it. \n* Men are like.....Lava lamps. Fun to look at, but not all that bright. \n* Men are like.....Bank accounts.\nWithout a lot of money, they don't generate much interest. \n* Men are like.....High heels.\nThey're easy to walk on once you get the hang of it. \n* Men are like.....Mini skirts.\nIf you're not careful, they'll creep up your legs.\n\nso why are men stupid you ask??? that's pretty much self explanatory \n\nwhat is the difference between wine and men? \nWine Matures\n\nWhy do men name their penises? \nBecause they want to be on a first-name basis with the one who makes all their decisions. \n\nWhy is it so hard for women to find men that are sensitive, caring, and good-looking? \nBecause they already have boyfriends.\n\nWhat is gross stupidity? \n144 men in one room. \n\nHow many men does it take to change a roll of toilet paper? \nWho knows? - did it ever happen?? \n\nHow are men and parking spots alike? \nThe good ones are always taken. Free ones are mostly handicapped or extremely small. \n\nWhat is a man's idea of doing housework? \nLifting his leg so you can vacuum. \n\nWhat is the difference between a man and E.T.? \nE.T. phoned home\n\nWhy do men chase women they have no intention of marrying? \nFor the same reason dogs chase cars they have no intention of driving.\n\n~~does that answer your question?~~
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Short answer: Because life isn't fair.\n\nLong answer: Lots of things. It takes many people a long time to figure out what it is they want in a partner. For many, the traits that originally attract them to a person are those that bother them later. For instance, being spontaneous and fun becomes being unfocused and unreliable. Sometimes people are just unlucky in who they meet. Sometimes people just aren't ready for a real relationship. Sometime people have standards that are too high.\n\nJust keep trying.
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maybe you are too selective.\nSome ladies get too slective on looks; so they end up with a good looking guy who treats them like crap.\nYou need to look at the whole package.
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Well, some men are jerks. And thats not what us girls want now a days. We want someone smart, funny, someone that can listen to us. Not some tough guy, full of him self jackass that thinks hes all that, when really hes not...
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Quality men are hard to find nowadays.  Most men are either gay, taken, or like one lady said here, too brainwashed by the women they see on tv and in magazines they don't realize that most women don't look like that.  Women have realized that they don't need to rely on a man to take care of them, so they take care of themselves and in doing that they don't settle for any crappy man that comes along.
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i believe in lifetime relationships... but a  good man is hard to come by..
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Take your time with dating, find who out who you are first so that you can find the right type of guy who will treat you with proper respect and love you for you and not who he wants you to be, and the reason why it is hard to find the good guy is because they are either married, gay or are looking for the right woman.
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Because you aren't attracted to 'sensitive' guys - you look at them as 'nice guys' or 'friends' but not relationship material.\n\nYou are probably attracted to the dangerous, bad boy types who couldn't care less about women's feelings and this is why you keep getting hurt.\n\nWhat you need to find is a 'strong, sensitive' type man however I get the impression that these are hard to find. But I am one, of course.. :)
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Because they were told long ago that if you get a good job and have financial stablity that you will be able to get any woman you want. It simply isn't true, but some guys seem to be convinced that it is. I would hope that personality and kindness were more important.
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It happens, finding the right guy isn't easy, takes a lot of time. It's basically trial and error. I have the same problem with girls, a lot of them are basically the same and boring.
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speaking as a single male, i might ask the same thing about single or divorced women....i would like to take the time to get to know someone (bf/gf sort of thing), then see if it works into a relationship.....yeah, i think that it could be done....the decent guys are out there...they may not simply advertise the fact that they are decent guys...maybe they have been screwed over too many times....have patience....keep looking....they are out there....good luck to you
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The best boyfriends are not the ones that you find but the ones that find you!  Your question sounds sincere and if you just be yourself...when you least expect it...he will be there.
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I totally agree with you babe. it took me forever to find a great man, and yes.. I generalized him at first and then I realize I was wrong. There aren't really any GOOD men  out here...Where the hell are they, thats my question gurl!!!! My gosh they expect us to be queens to them and then we get treated like crap, all I ever wanted was a mant hat can stand out from these sterotypical men, and it just seems as though you have to go to another world to get what you want. But yes i agree. hopefully society will help us change these men out here, because that is how they got the way they are...society.
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maybe the answer lies in the fact that most person seem to like or want what they can't or don't  have, instead of appreciating what is already theirs. With the bad boys, you never really have them. Nice guys are always there and available. Although they might not admit it, most women find that boring somehow. Probably women feel they have the uoer hand on nice guys who realy care, and that just is not attractive to them. The same works with men toward women I think. A lot o men willl take the nice woman, but go after a totall different type at the same time.
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Some are,some aren't.You just haven't found a nice guy yet.When the time is right,I promise he will be there.You just have to be patient.I know he is out there somewhere,just trust me.If you ever want to talk,drop me a line sometime ok?
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Oh hun,... because it is a myth. You can find a sensitive person (he's got rashes all over), or simply caring (he bought his grandma a wheelchair) or good-looking (ahem..) but to find all 3 qualities in ONE man? I repeat- myth!\n\n:o)
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Be patient...be good yourself, and a good boy will find you one day.  Don't settle for someone who is no good for you, just because he's there.  Wait for the good one!