Why do women carry the worst parts of their past relationships with them?
479409
it's a subconscious reaction to being treated poorly. I'm guilty of it too, however men and women do this. I dated a guy that REFUSED to trust me because he'd had an ex cheat on him. Every time I was out later than expected or didn't answer the phone, he'd throw a fit. Women do the exact same thing. When past experiences were out of your control, you do a complete 180 and try to control everything. If you are dating someone who will not trust you no matter what, it can also be a sign that they're not trustworthy. You have to go with gut instinct about things like that. If it doesn't feel right, and you're more upset than not around the person, you may want to get out of the situation. Of course I would suggest having a real conversation about it a few times before throwing her to the curb.
634649
I don't have the answer here but I sure would like to know what it is.  My ex was the same way.  Words leave deep wounds and women "remember".
791613
women for some reason are always jealous or bothered by other women when they dont know them. i myself try not to be that way because it is stupid. they try to get ahead by screwing other women.
490380
Poeple always blame other people when they are at fault themselves or when they are in denial. \n\nDepending on their past and there own experiences-they might not have had a good expeirnece with either a man or woman (or both!) and so stereotype other men/women to be the same which is a shame.\n\nPeople are always wary of what they donot know so this is normal. If a man knew what it was like to a woman, and likewise then im sure we'd have far less conflicts! but obviousley this isnt going to happen :) We just need more communication, more honesty and more trust.\n\nxx
684890
Because the ex often is a huge source of problems for the new woman and vice versa.  Most women want to be number one and don't want their man involved with any other woman period, because they are a threat.
688524
I hate when that happens to people. Just no pleasing some women. Sounds like she wants you to take control. Seems like she is trying to push you to the point to where you want to take control. I really can't say, but it's a guess. \n\nMaybe she doesn't want the past to repeat itself so much, that she feels that she has to take control. \n\nI had a similar problem before. You might be afraid of yourself. In other words, you might be afraid if you get into an argument, you might do something totally out-of-line. If she is not able to hold a conversation without drama, leave her.
120863
Sometimes people have negative experiences that make them behave badly. A mother who didnt treat them right or who wasnt around, a girlfriend who broke a guys heart, there are many reasons out there. I think the sexists that are still around are fueled by each other and by ignorance.
36978
They keep them because they think they've got something you will still talk to them about and maybe this way, this would lead to the two of you getting back together again. I know some girls try to pull off stuff like this, maybe this isn't the case, but it might be as well. You know what i'm saying, they just wanna use them as an excuse for you to talk to them, that's all.
503596
Because they don't want to be the 'bad guy' and do the breaking up. They are cowards who would rather the girl did the dirty work for them. \n\nActually plenty of women do this too.\n\nWould people please just be honest with one another about your feelings!
570242
I hate to break it to you, but women do all of those things, too. Why? Because there are some rotten, dishonest people in the world.
816796
It is easier for thought to hold onto the past, rather than to venture out on new waters, even if it is hurtful.  Actions speak much louder than words, and it would appear that the ex is not a man of substance, but just wind blowing about.  You know what to do now, so do it.  You will feel free and so much better about yourself, you'll see.
372919
Usually she either finds someone better (better sense of humour, better hygeine, better job, better bank balance) \nOR\nShe has stopped loving you because you have been a sh*t and you have taken her for granted, put her down, or generally just been a real ar*e.  Sometimes its because she wants to change her life or have other experiences but in truth women are more loyal than men and will hang around unless you have done something to really hurt her sense of self or self esteem.
473036
Your right in a way...lol  But, just like women have certain ingrained traits, you just learn to compensate for these "flaws" and get on with your life. Peace.
629493
This may not be universal truth. However, history shows that women have been the biggest enemies of women! whether socially, financially or otherwise. So you can imagine that if one gender does not respect itself, what could be the consequences. I think women very well understand this yet....?!
511128
Not feeling secure in their current relationship...  Their relationship basically sucks, or the sex sucks, or maybe their partner cheated.  Or, they cheat just because they can.\n\nThere's so many different reasons for different people.  It's hard to pin-point the real reason.
689426
possibly you are doing or saying something to remind her of past experiences with ex bf's. really when we talk about past stuff we don't expect you to do or say anything, just be there for us because we are processing something that got left behind in the shuffle. i often do things, say things or even see or hear things that make me think of people in my past friends and lovers. it isn't that i am holding any old flames, just that memories don't die, we just push them back. so sometimes they get pulled back to the surface and we have to process them for a minute so before we can push them back again.\n\nif she isn't neglecting or abusing you because of her past then i say just don't do anything and listen or even tune her out and just let her talk when she feels she needs to. she'll eventually get everything out and stop doing it.
1017729
Good question - some do it because they feel most things in their life they cant control. some because they think it is part of being a real man. some because they hate themselves and feel weak. and I am guessing there are many more reasons. Many years ago most men where brought up this way. Times were different and women were more like slaves then mates but times have changed and women are more equal so this says that things are improving and with saying that and in time things will continue to change so people learn to respect other people regardless of their sex or anything else for that matter.