i need advice...please help!?
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being able to run for 20 or 30 minutes is an awesome goal.\nWork first on moving for that time, run walk run. \nat your height 117 is in the low end of normal for bmi approaching underweight. http://www.wholefitness.com/tools.html\nso maybe what you need to do is work on healty choices, do not go for skipped meals or starvation cycle you will lay down fat. You will also miss vital nutrients you need for a healthy body.\nAt 15 you have resources to use, ask you coaches for a work out that will tone the areas you are wanting to look better. Not Bulk lifting but toning and excercises. Work toward a healthy diet and excercise program. Your health teachers and coaches can be a huge value to you right now.\nIf you have access to a fitness center like a ymca they can help too. \nwork on a toning routine keep up the aerobic work. This should become an active life style you enjoy not a hated chore. Try to find activities you like such as swimming, cycling, even walking. Good luck.
99814
YOU shouldn't do anything!! It is up to him to deal with the situation. He should care enough about you to handle the problem. My advice would be to give him the opportunity to solve the problem, but if within a reasonable time (a week) if he hasn't dealt with the problem, then walk away from him. If he doesn't care for and respect you enough to deal with the problem, then he may be enjoying have to females on a string. Good Luck =-)
979099
perhaps the most profound advice I can give is:\nI don't know.\nsorry. I wish I did, because I have the same problem.\nI'm in love. the woman I love won't have me for very practical (and purely logical (GAAHHH!) reasons) \nso... yes...\nmy advice is hold on tight, dig in your nails and don't let go (metaphorically, he might get pretty pissed if you did this in practice) \nAT any rate...\nlove him, and maybe he'll be able to love you back.\nmaybe you should try to formulate a logical argument as to why you guys should be togather eh?\nlol worked for me once... (for a while)\n\nyou've also got to assure him that you won't be a distraction, that you'll merely be supportive, and you've got to understand when he's busy. remember, he doesn't control his life, his school does (personal experience), so no matter how much he wants to hang out with you, he may have work to do, and be forced to do it.
450065
Then you have two choices.\n\n1. Be quiet and let him make every decision for a while. He will either step up or not.\n\n2. Leave him for a man who will tell you what to do.
332911
Advice on a guy . . help . . .
475928
PLEASE GO SEEK SOME HELP/COUNSELING FROM SOMEONE. YOU REALLY NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST, SOMEONE YOU LOVE, A FAMILY MEMBER, A DOCTOR, A FRIEND, A TEACHER, A PRIEST/RABBI, A COUNSELOR, THERE HAS TO BE SOMEONE THAT CAN GIVE YOU POSITIVE GUIDANCE. PRAY TO GOD, HE HAS ALWAYS HELPED ME THROUGH DIFFICULT SITUATIONS IN MY LIFE, BUT PLEASE DO NOT GIVE UP ON YOURSELF, YOU ARE SO YOUNG AND HAVE A WHOLE BEAUTIFUL LIFE AHEAD OF YOU,I DO NOT KNOW WHAT YOUR SITUATION IS THAT YOU ARE MAD AT TIMES, BUT PLEASE WORK ON GETTING SOMEONE OR A FEW PEOPLE TO HELP YOU, I WILL PRAY FOR YOU, YOU DESERVE TO HAVE THIS BEAUTIFUL LIFE GOD GAVE YOU. I HOPE TO HEAR BETTER AND MORE POSITVE NEWS FROM YOU. ALL THE BEST TO YOU! :)
1027416
Well... it sounds like there isn't anything you can do!!! If she wants to "dumb" for him, it's all up to her to relize it's time to get smart!!! She really isn't asking for your help in this because if she really wanted help, she would take your advise. Just be that ear for her. And if you feel like you don't want to be friends anymore, still be there, but keep her at a distance.
669168
It's always hard to change your feelings. That part just takes time and strength. As for confronting him. Be civil and calm. If he still won't talk to you about it, make sure he knows how you feel. If he can't talk he can listen. It will make you feel better to get that out and off of your chest. If he won't listen, send him a letter and then leave it be. Don't talk to him, don't be around him, and don't let yourself think about him. If a thought comes in your head. Push it out and make yourself do something to distract you. Also, they say the best way to forget someone is to get somebody new. It works for me. You can try it. :^) I wish you the best and if you need anymore advice or support feel free to contact me. :^)
1166740
Your ex-bf's problem has nothing to do with age. He wants to "have his cake and eat it too". (I hate that cliche). I agree with phattphatt. This guy is unstable and needs to be kicked to the curb. If he keeps this crap up she will do the same and he will have lost you both. I'm not so sure what the age problem is, she is only a year younger. Your first statement made it sound like he a was dating a child and he was in his thirtys. Give him the boot and find yourself a real man.
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LET HER GET IT ALL OUT,CRY,THAT WILL MAKE IT EASIER FOR HER ANYWAY, TRY BE ATTENTIVE AND OFFER HER SUPPORT! SHE IS OBVIOUSLY HAVING A HARD TIME DEALING WITH THIS PROBLEM, AND YOU MUST FEEL QUIT PROUD THAT SHE'S TURNED TO YOU 4 ADVICE.SHE TRUSTS YOU, AND THAT'S WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR!!!!
251439
damn this sucks pretty bad . well as you said you never made her any  promises so yes you should move along .since this is going to be painful for her regardless just be really honest with her and tell her why your leaving ...exactly why ...women have a tendency to try and pick things apart too much ...if shes in some sort of denial shes gonna have a hard time understanding why your leaving her  , as long as your really clear she wont have to judge herself too  hard and wonder what she did wrong . and by all means dont let hurting her stand in the way of you being happy ...but no i dont think you necessarily think you shouldve left earlier sometimes we like to hang on too long thinking that magically things are going to falll in place but it rarely happens that way damn im blabbing hahah sorry
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NOBODY DESERVES TO BE IN THAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP WITH TRUST ISSUES. IF YOU GUYS REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER THEN YOU TWO HAVE TO STAY STRONG AND DON'T GIVE UP ON EACH OTHER. TELL HIM EVERYTHING THAT IS ON YOUR MIND AND JUST LET HIM KNOW THAT IT WILL BE OVER IF YOU HAVE TO ACCUSE HIM FOR DOING SOMETHING. TELL HIM TO BE HONEST AND IF HE WANTS TO LEAVE GIRL YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO BE STRONG AND LET GO . YOU DON'T WANT TO BE WITH HIM IF HE IS GOING TO TREAT YOU LIKE 2ND'S YOU NEED TO BE FIRST . SO GOOD LUCK AND STAY A STRONG WOMAN
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It sounds like your sister has already given up on her relationship with her husband if she is openly talking to you about this other guy.  I would sit her down and tell her that she should try to find out what happened in her own relationship to make her so unhappy and get counseling.  Tell her if she decides to divorce it will be harder to split assets with a house together.  It isn't your place to tell her husband although you feel you should.  It would never end well for you.  Tell her how bad it makes you fell that she is deceiving her husband.  If things are so bad she should get a divorce first and look for another man second.  Maybe you could tell her that if she doesn't tell him before they buy a house together you will.(Even if you won't)  Maybe that will make her think twice and she will either tell him or not tell you the dirty details from now on.  Good Luck
730871
This situation is in dire need of professional help. Seriously. He needs to look out for his best interests while at the same time look out for hers as well. He needs someone to help him balance. That is too much weight for one person to bear. Have him seek help.
382958
Honestly hun nomatter how hard it is, Cut him off. DONT pay his phone bill, if its in your name turn it off and tell him "sorry I cant pay it anymore." Forget about the money (youll probably never get it back anyway) Just dont give him anymore if he asks tell him "I'm not an ATM, I dont give money out like candy, so your ass better go get a job" and walk away. If you havent dumped his ass allready I'd suggest doing so before it gets too bad. Stuff like this only gets worse hun. After you leave him, just dont associate with him and believe it or not youll be over him SOON enough. I'm sure you wont have a problem finding someone nicer who can treat you right... And when you do, just know that you deserve it :) (and remember not to treat them the way your ex treated you) GOOD LUCK
1060629
I'm going through the same thing. Just think about how much happier they will be when they finally get a divorce. Nothing is your fault, and there isn't much you can do to help. I'm so sorry. It can be really hard to go through this. Find a friend that you can talk to. That helps the most out of everything.
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I would suggest talking to him and see what he has to say, I would also tell him that if he doesn't tell her that you will have to.\n\nThis will leave the door open for him to do the right thing, but will also save your friends fellings a little, it will be better comming from him.\n\ngood luck.