Why do b/f's and husbands cheat?
484346
Because they have no consideration for women. Women are displays of sex and domestic workers. Some men are highly selfish and don/t consider the feelings of the other person. I don't think that  you can completely trust a man, because hey, he is a man, but you can get to a point where you can accept him for who he is as long as he doesn't jeopardize your relationship. Think though, the guy who cheated on me is now being cheated on  with a woman that he is absolutely in love with. Karma is a bitch with highheels and a miniskirt....:)
305633
Men are weak and so are women.  Both cheat the same, actually statistics reflect that women cheat more; women are smarter at not getting caught, we've learned from men in all the prior decades.  \n\n[Married] humans can fall weak for someone else and realize at the end that we made a huge mistake because we realize that the person we are with is a "better" person.  \n\nThe grass may seem greener, but it hardly ever is.  When humankind realizes that, cheating may not be such a big problem.\n\nMen are smart about this, knowing to differentiate between "love" and "lust". That's why they run home and tell their wife they LOVE them.
686181
cheating is cheating whether it is a man or woman
1180746
yes, yes, yes!  I have been married with my huband for 11 years, with him for 15 and have never never cheated.  However, there have been many women who wanted him.  In today's women there is this idea that married men are better and will risk their own marraige to be with someone else.  Maybe they are bitter at their men and are getting them back.  All I know is that women today are catching up to the men with this dirtly litte secret.
1066771
I believe that it is cheating when one fantasies about others. If one lust in their mind for some one other than their spouse, it's adultry.
447878
Obviously those who do the cheating say it is a good thing and those who are cheated on say it is a bad thing.  It is all from your own perspective and beliefs about relationships.
95003
I always jokingly say that "all men are pigs" but there are some that can be faithful. People only do to you what you LET them do. My husband has cheated on me several times because I LET him get away with it, and did nothing. Whereas, my sister has been married for 30 yrs, and I can swear on a bible her husband has never cheated.
761031
To make a long story short. I have been married for 18 years when I found out(not by accident I was snooping) my husband had been cheating on me for 3 years that I no of. Only he and his whore no for sure.In my heart I knew something was wrong I just couldn't prove it until I started looking.When a husband cheats, his wife feels something is wrong she just doesn't want to believe her husband would or could do that to her.Husbands count on that trust they no their wives would never believe that they are capable of sleeping with another woman especially when she gives him everything he wants and needs.That is where we go wrong we don't and couldn't give a man what he really wants and that is someone different to have sex with.In a woman's eyes that makes him a horrible person but to him and his way of thinking it makes him human. their is only two things you can do. You can look the other way and pray it will end soon or leave him.One thing I wouldn't do is talk to him about the calls because all you will get is lies.I wish you all the luck in the world.
1100883
because they arent really in love.\nIf they actually loved the woman they were with and she fulfilled him he wouldnt cheat.
498428
Men and women cheat for different reasons. Men cheat for sex, and women cheat for affection and attention. Yes, this is a generalization, and some women cheat because they are nympho's, but that is not the norm. I believe the old saying "a man is only as faithful to his partner as his options" meaning that a though a man may not go out of his way to try and get laid, but if it's put in front of him and offered up he is hard pressed to say no. A woman on the other hand equates sex with an act of love, unlike the man who sees it as an act of lust and gratification.
651132
First of all, if you are the one who cheated, it sounds like you are the one with commitment issues.  You werent ready for long-term monogamous commitment to your  husband, and now you arent ready for long-term monogamous commitment to your bf.  We can love any number of people, and we can still love people after we've been with other people.  Marriage is about commitment, which is different than love.  If you arent ready to settle down, just be clear about that.  But realize that if you take your husband back and then move on again,  you'll really be hurting him even worse than you did the first time.
856827
Despite the emotional burden, I think almost all women would want to know if they are being cheated on.  Cheating rarely has anything to do with the quality of the marriage but the cheater's inability to commit to a strong vow such as marriage and to control their actions.  If the marraige is that bad, there shouldn't be cheating and decietfulness, there should be divorce. The reasons cheaters tend to stay cheaters is because they don't want to change.  I think it can be changed, but the cheater has to learn a little bit about making decisions according to priority and responsibility, not impulse.  The cheater must also learn where their weaknesses are happening and how to deal with them in a proper manner.  They must learn to avoid cheating of the mind first, then they can free themselves of onsetting thier own urges.  They must change the way they think about cheating (it's not a positive, rewarding thing).   After that, it's all a matter of decision making and devotion.
24224
They can if they want to. Unfortunately, if they do it once, they'll do it again. It shows a character flaw that they alone need to work out. The only way you can help him overcome his tendancy to stray is to let him know you'll not put up with it in your relationship. It's a deal-breaker of the first kind. Without trust, it's really hard having any kind of meaningful relationship. Not impossible, just difficult. It can be worked through, but both people have to want to work through it, with the cheating spouse working hard to restore trust in their relationship. <*)))><
783163
Most of the time men cheat for the same reasons that women do something is missing, they have picked the wrong mate, or maybe they just have a sex problem they can't control. However this never justifies breaking a persons heart or leading them on in hopes of a honest relation ship.
578773
usually its because they need a change to the same routine, maybe they are second guessing their relationship,maybe they can get what they need from the person their cheating with, maybe its blackmail, or greed or lustor,maybe theyre still in love with their ex partner(if its an ex they slept with), maybe they got into deep into a relationship they cant get out of , maybe they dont love their spouse , maybe its low self esteem , \n\nwho knows there are many different reasons and no one reason is right or wrong, and it has nothing to do with anything except the struggle that is going on inside that person that does it, dont bother to ask why people do it,  just dont do it yourself, and walk away if it happens to you.
54219
Some people do that because they may be afraid of committment. Others because they have a trust problem. They had bad relationships in the past. So they have a hard time trust their spouse. Or because they are stupid.
279405
It is because he is cheating . . .