How can i regain my wife's trust after lying to her about a pill problem I am trying to get through?????
482313
Fess up!  The longer you lie the most the distrust builds, but if you come clean you'll show you are willing to try and be honest and build the trust up again.  Yes, it will be hard at first, but if she truly loves you and sees you are truly trying to make things right and address the problem, she'll stick with you and help you work through it.
265474
You are not doomed if you understand and learn from your mistakes. Sometimes that requires seeing a counselor or even talking with a friend who is insightful enough to give really good advice. (Not just someone who will say what they think you want to hear. You need someone who is honest with you.) Did you cheat on this woman before? Is that why she does not trust you? If you did, then you have to work really hard for her to believe you again. That means staying true and never giving her any reason to doubt you. It also could take a long time to make her feel that she can trust you. But no, you are not doomed to repeat your past... unless you don't learn from it.
220885
You should never ever take a medication that has been prescribed to someone else. Your wife should see the Doctor if she needs something for herself.
273269
Unfortunately, some peoples trust can never be regained. Don't lie, always tell the truth, you will get in less trouble if you tell the truth instead of a lie. Talk to the new girl that your with, say your sorry, and explain. tell her you realize that she might not trust you now but i am willing to work on it. You mean so much to me and i would hate to lose you over my stupid(yeah,say stupid)mistakes. Good Luck:) I hope this helps. If not Sorry.
427679
Is there good reason not to trust your wife?  Or are past relationships clouding your vision?  If you have good reason, confront her, it's never good to just let things lie.  Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't respect you enough to tell you the truth.  However, if you're just being insecure for whatever reason, with nothing to back those feelings up, maybe you need to look inside yourself.
942323
Wow, I give you a lot of credit! I would have lost my patience a long time ago. I think before you look elsewhere for physical contact, suggest going to counseling with your wife. She obviously has some issues she needs to overcome and you should try to stick by her while she works them out. If she refuses to go to counseling, I would be very tempted to get out of the relationship rather than cheat which is only going to complicate things further. Good luck!
212780
Tell her directly that you are afraid the pills will cause her real harm if she keeps taking them. Tell her you think it's idiotic to sacrifice health for other people.\n\nDo you think she's got a problem? Tell her. Then let her know that you do love her enough to get help from outside sources.\n\nMaybe there is an independent counselor or teen support service. Look into it.\n\nAnd then, if you pray, pray for her.
414261
First of all, allow me to share my sympathy for you and your wife. I can tell that you’re a caring person and that’s part of maintaining a stable relationship for any period of time. From what I’ve gathered from your story, it seems that you truly care a whole lot about your wife and what could happen if this problem is not stopped, and you need advice handling the issue. \nSecondly, if you stop caring for her she will only get worse. People that become addicted to drugs and alcohol usually have their reasons behind the substance abuse. Since this all started before you came along, you must talk to her and find out when she started abusing drugs and why. She needs to know that you care and love her. I suggest calling a drug abuse councilor and scheduling an appointment with her to get the help that she needs. Don’t let her start a program and quit, you must encourage her in every way possible and keep an eye out for symptoms of withdraws/cravings from substance so she wont be in a situation where she has no control.\nI’m 18 years old but have had psychical addictions to pills since I was about 12. Amphetamines (adderall) are dangerous and it took a really special friend to show me I was killing myself and letting my family down every day. Finally I got off of everything and remain clean for the last 5 months or so. But back to your wife, I really wish you and her the best of luck and PLEASE feel FREE to contact me with ANY questions, comments, or to ask my opinion! Hope to hear back, please inform me how everything goes!\nwebmaster@techbrian.com
147041
If your spouse is lying to you, there is obviouisly a problem. If the lies are taking this much of a toll on your marriage consider possibly getting marriage counsling. Is there a reason they feel they need to lie. Are they hiding somethin. Communicate, tell him or her this is unacceptable in your book,and you will not stand for it. If you do tell them that stand your ground. A liar is as bad as a cheater.
696278
Take them back to the pharmacy, tell them that you broke them up.  Show them the bottle of broken pills.  They would have to throw the old ones out anyway, so don't worry about it.
324567
Firstly: tell your wife if you are certain now. You don't want to try to figure this out alone. I wonder why if you told your wife about her friend's behavior your wife didn't respond well... Odd. Secondly: Are you SURE that she wants to get with you? Maybe you're misinterpreting her. But if you're definitely sure, then, after telling your wife, just avoid the other woman. \n\nAll of the above is assuming you don't want to cheat on your wife. If you do, then....I guess you don't have any problems then, do you?
618790
OK for starters friends husbands got caught because they used their wife's cell to call their other woman, why they cheated I don't know, hubby cheated because got all strung out on drugs and fried his brains he cheated because she could and would buy it for him AND do the drugs with him I have never touched that crap and never will I would like to keep my brain cells. after he cleaned up we got back together he has been clean now for 3 years and I trust him as long as he doesn't do drugs and I can tell if he were to get back on them. I hope this really helps with your paper and never do drugs, you will not know what your doing, and when people who do them most of the time they don't remember things that has happened while they were on them, oh and hubby got caught because his drug Friends told me, even though I didn't do them they thought it was wrong but they still didn't have standards for them self if they were killing their brain cells, sorry about the dare class but it sounds like you are still in school and i can't push that issue enough. Oh and some people cheat because of mental issues
282915
I do sympathize with both you and your wife, because this is something that may affect the health of your unborn child.  \n\nI'm not saying that she is right, wrong, or silly for sticking to the notion that she simply cannot swallow pills, but you are working with a limited amount of time here, so you will have to do whatever it takes to make the most of that short period.  \n\nI know for a fact that most drugstores do carry something on their shelves called a "pill crusher,"  and it is designed for situations like this.  I suggest you invest in one of these while seeking out an alternative method of getting her to swallow pills.  \n\nAnother method of dispensing pills is to place the pill in a small cup (like a Dixie Cup, for instance) with about an ounce of water or juice.  The patient should then take the entire amount of liquid into their mouth along with the pill, and since the mouth and throat are already lubricated, there is little chance for discomfort.  This has worked for some, I don't know if it will work for her, but it is something to try.  \n\nAlso, since most pre-natal vitamins are quite large in size, check to see if it isn't scored - this means there is a little line in the center of the pill so that it can be broken in half more easily.  She might have an easier time of taking one half of the vitamin at a time, than trying to consume the whole thing until she gets the hang of swallowing pills.  \n\nI hope this helps you, and good luck!
77831
Read this article about emotional cheating.\n\nhttp://www.nydailynews.com/front/v-pfriendly/story/335439p-286396c.html\n\nYou're a brave man to put your - and your kid's picture - on the net, next to this question. Let's hope your wife and all of her friends can't read. ;-) Do you want her to find out? Is this a cry for help? A way of starting a conversation? I am not judging you, I am only asking because I can't understand it completely but I admire the frankness and openness in it.\n\nGood luck!
278580
Right now, you need her to regain her trust in you. You owe her that, and she deserves all the time she needs. Spend a lot of time with her, be there for her, laugh with her, just show her how special she is to you. Don't just say it, show it. But don't pressure her to get over the hurt. If you do love and care for her like you say, you will be patient. If she decides to move on with someone else, you can only be happy for her and be there if it doesn't work out. I truly think she will notice all these things and will come around when she's ready. Good luck, and no more deceptions.
987489
trusting people takes time. especially when you once had it and then lost it. i think that you should be VERY patient with her. don't turn her insecurities into an argument. try to understand where she is coming from. i think that if you don't lie continuously, she'll eventually trust you. believe me...
239761
Tough one, need to contact an attorney.  She seriously has some issues.  I would think she's bluffing about the whole thing if she will not provide proof.  \n  She must not be over your hubby or is a drama queen.  Don't think you can charge someone criminally for lying, too bad.  You may have some civil action, possibly.\nGood luck.