Does being on op tour in a war zone change your mind about life at home?
475026
I think he just felt alone while in Iraq. And missed you. And he realizes how much he loves you and that's why he changed his mind.
354617
Untill you have lived through it there is no possiable way to help you understand it. There are many things that must remain in nam, it goes beyond fear into many other avenues that are best left back there. Alot of vets were scared to come back to the states because of the way they knew they would be treated. There is no way to explain the fear of war or of returning to home land knowing you would not be welcomed!
408092
Absolutely... Join the military... Travel to strange and exotic lands... meet interesting people... and shoot them!!!\n\nSeriously... I'm in the Army... we still travel a bit... but its not to the touristy spots you'd really want to go... I've always heard the Navy goes to different ports and spends weekends ashore.... I don't know how true that is... \n\nAir Force... depending on your job... as a Load Master on an aircraft you could squeeze in quite a bit of travel... but probably won't have much time to actually go off the base and experience the "culture" of those places... \n\nThe Marines... well I don't think the Department of the Navy really trusts them to get off the boats in most of the ports of call... \n\nYour familiar with the Army through your parents... I suppose it depends if you want to keep that "familiarity" or try something new... and piss your parents off!!! LOL... just kidding
1066659
What a great question... I love how it is worded.... you pretty much got what I thought you would in terms of answers though.  \n\nI am in Iraq now as a civilian contractor after my 3rd recall since 9/11.  After my stint in Kuwait I joined the civilian team and am glad I did.\n\nHUMANIST.... I AM HERE AND HAVE BEEN AS MILITARY AND A CIVILIAN, I AM NOT TOO SCARED TO BE HERE AND I BROUGHT MY LAPTOP WITH ME.... NOW SHUT UP OR JOIN THE EFFORT.
186211
Yes, it has made me realize that all the things can change in the blink of an eye.  That no matter how safe we are we are never totally safe.  I value my country more as my protector and stand behind their decision's right or wrong I still feel that action was taken with my best interests at heart.
504379
WHY WOULD U EVEN DO THAT. LOOK IF YOU AREN'T HAPPY WITH WHERE YOU ARE NOW SAVE THE PEACE AND LEAVE. THEN DON'T GET INVOLVED IN ANYTHING SERIOUS.
982316
i have been over there 7 times. i was also at ground zero helping recover bodies from the 9-11 attacks. My marriage has ended in divorce. I have PTSD, and need to take medication so i don't fly off the handle, and hurt some one. it has made me a different person. i think in the future we need to find ways to prevent this from happening, and maybe be more open as a government to the perception of other countries about why  we do what we do.\n  People all over are more or less the same, it just seems when we mix religious ideology and politics all into one big pot ....no good can come from it.  it's mostly just made me sad and introspective. I do love this country and our ideas, we just got to get better at sharing our strengths
505376
Yes, 100% my husband was over there the first time, it is a hard thing, and you give up much while you're over there. You are what makes this country great. You should be commended and thanked for your great service not only to the American people but to the people of those countries over there. I think that people can't grasp what it's all about unless they've been part of the military and lived in other places. It is when you are given those opportunities that you understand just what it means to have the freedoms that we have. THANK YOU for your SERVICE to our GREAT COUNTRY!!!!!
1105166
It's the truth. Our occupation in Iraq increased the likelihood of terrorism around the world. The threat levels at home will increase greatly as well, all thanks to Bush!
845883
I left home when I joined the Navy, haven't been back.  \n\nI am sure my parents are as happy I left as I am.
985808
I have not lost a loved one but my son is serving in Iraq. If he died in this war I would protest the White House. Camp out on his lawn until he sees me and explains why?\n\nI do not believe this war to be just or right. We invaded another country without the UN behind us and without good justification. Losing my son would never be worth it. If I lost him in protecting our borders and our country from invasion that is different. \n\nI do not sleep well. But my sons destiny was always to go into the military and so I have supported him since he was 12 and decided to get in an Air Force Aux to start his life as a soldier. He has always connected to it. It was in his blood as God intended.\nHe serves all Americans with a happy heart. He does not agree with the war but he does what if expected. If he helps one soldier saves one life in Iraq it is worth it.\n\nHe is there for a reason.  The reason was to save many many lives, his whole squaron. He spent his first 6 months there transporting military equipment in caravans across Iraq. Did he tell me the constant Dangers, no, he knew I could not handle it and would never sleep a wink. Instead he did his duty. He lead his troops across enemy territory many times, not sleeping for 36 hours at time, just to make sure they were all safe. His bravery was relentless.\nHe comes home soon and is getting a Bronze Star for his bravery. I am proud not that he went to Iraq to invade their country but that my sons role was to save many soldiers lives. As an officer he did his job. And will he go back. I am sure he will do more that one tour. But God has a plan for him a destiny that he needs to fulfill. I will not stand in his way but I will worry no matter what. I love him.
590296
i see it as (having never heard it before) after moving into a new house you never really want to find places for everything so you just kind of live out of a box, ie keep all your stuff in boxes all the time\n\ni could also see it as kind of the way i am,  when you think outside of the box you are thinking in different ways than normal,  my brain is kind of wired that way and it is a more constant thing for me so i guess i am living out side of the box, not just leaving every once and a while
577348
Well, when my hubby was in Iraq, I spent alot of time with family and friends. I made it a rule to get up, get dressed and out of the house before noon. Made me feel better too.\n\nJust keep yourself busy. If you don't have a job, get one.
1030320
I have 2 very dear friends who PCS'd there in April.  One chose housing at HAAF, and she loves it.  The other chose a home in Richmond Hills.  Both are very happy there and say there is always something going on, whether at the base or in Savannah.  Good luck\n\nGOD BLESS OUR TROOPS
874065
We were stationed in Germany when my hubby deployed the first time.  That was for Desert Storm.  It was hard being in a foreign country.  However, I chose to stay there and I'm glad I did.  The ones who went home basically lost everything.  They lost housing, sponsorship, overseas pay, contact with the unit and updates on how their hubby and the unit were doing among other things.  \n\nHow things work out depends mostly on you.  You already don't seem to be handling the stress well.  It doesn't matter what unit you go to or where you're stationed, there's games and politics.  You seem to be in a particularly bad one.  If you don't trust your hubby, you'll be in a world of hurt.  They'll play off that and give other women ammo to go after him.  Trust me, your trust and faith in him will have everything to do with what happens.  In 18 years, I know my hubby has never cheated on me.  I don't question him and I don't second guess him.  I keep him happy at home.\n\nI would suggest that you don't press the issue.  I'm sure the unit is following the rules.  They can't risk not doing it.  There's no CO or 1SG that wants to lose their position.  Things like  you're talking about can cause alot of scandal and ruin a career.  If you try to handle it in your own way, you can make things tough on your hubby.  If he has issues, he can take it up the chain of command.  However, it's not wise for you to interfere with the operations of his unit.  That puts him in for alot of stress and such.\n\nBe strong and trust in him and your marriage.  While he's gone, travel.  There's so much to see and do there.  Most of the time, it doesn't cost alot because you can get discounts or units or chaplains sponsor tours.  Write to him often and keep the letters up beat.  Try not to add to his worries and stress.  The time goes faster than you think and you'll find that you're a whole lot stronger than you thought you were.  You'll find your own independance and still rely on him.  \n\nGood luck!!
1029602
i have a friend who's husband is security forces, he deploys alot but then again he is an officer, not sure if that makes a difference.  if i  were you though i'd count on being deployed with that job.
886072
Oh how sweet! But, let me tell you - if you come home safely from Iraq, you can take her anywhere and she will be thrilled - just to have you back.\n\nCome home safely!!