I'm live In/caring for my Mom & Aunt...I'm in need of a routine or a "day to day "schedule, can ya Help?
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Since you're alone with the 2 of them, make a schedule and place it at eye level in the rooms where you need to remind yourself of certain things. (Bathroom, kitchen, bedrooms, laundry room).\nSpend a bit of time each week making up a menu for each day's meals and a shopping list for what you need.\nKeep a magnetic shopping list handy on your fridge to remind you of anything you need to pick up as you go along (toiletries, meds)\nPick up a timer for meds (but most drug stores provide a pre-packaged dosette for meds and all you have to do is give them out when necessary. Can you ask for this service in your area?)\nI don't know what they are capable of managing but spend some time during the day going outside, weather permitting.\nWatch a short movie you would all enjoy or a favourite programme.\nDo they enjoy crafts? Have hobbies? Read? Play board games or cards?\nHave a quiet time, listening to music. Dim the lights, light a candle.\nLook at old photos, take new ones.\nStop for tea or coffee. Invite someone over to chat.\nIf you can manage, get a low maintenance pet. A cat or bird. It's amazing what a pet can do for housebound people. My mother has dementia and the nursing home has a cat and dog. She adores them and vice versa.\nAbove all, make some time for yourself. Is it possible to get some respite care a few hours each week so you can get a break? Your well-being is important too.\nI have elderly parents too and just visiting, taking them to doctors' appointments and looking after their affairs is exhausting. I also have a family and work. I wish you well and admire you for taking this on. Not too many people would. God bless.
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I'M A BUISY MAN,BUT I ALWAYS MAKE TIME FOR FAMILY MEMBERS,ESPECIALLY MY DEAR,MOTHER.I RUN A ( P.I. ) BUISSNES AND IT KEEPS ME BUISY ,BUT  SINCE I CAN CHOSE MY OWN TIME SCHEDULE,I TAKE TIME TO SEE MY MOM AND FAMILY OFTEN.
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Does Dad help?  Maybe he could keep an eye on the kids one day (night) a week to give you some alone time.  Or your mother or mother-in-law?\n\nIt is of great value to your family to take care of you too.
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First of all, it's nice to see someone who really is concerned about family!!!!  I wish you the best of luck in all you do, I know your grandma would be proud.\n\n     I'm not very good with legal things like this, but I'll try to offer some ideas for you.\n\n     1.  If you are taking care of your uncles welfare, check out becoming there power of attorny over finances.  This would give you legal ground to care for them and their money.  \n\n     2.  There might be some form of assistance for you, check out the social service programs in your area.\n\n     3.  Your younger uncle my be trying to deal with the death of his mother still, which can cause many changes in attitude and social behavior.  Try to be open and honest with him, let him know you're there to help.\n\n     Above all, be good to yourself, don't let this cosume you.  If you need a break, let them know. You are dealing with alot.  Make sure you have someone to talk to, maybe your religious leader (pastor, priest, etc.)
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just do the things you think mom does at least once a week...\nvacuum, dust, mop, clean the counters, the microwave, the bathroom...mom will love that...\nfor dad, get the lawn mowed (if it's not already done...), clean the driveway, weed the garden...or plant some stuff... if you know he wanted to paint the porch or something, go ahead and get that done...\n\ndepends on how long they're gonna be away...\n\nand you're a good kid for wanting to help out...
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tell mom-in-law to do things your way in your home or hit the highway...[its your life] make your own choices..
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Set up a schedule for yourself that  you know that you can work with. Allow extra time for important tasks so you dont end up doing them at the last minute. Figure out where you need to be on what day and what you need to get done that day. Get an organizer and write yourself reminders. And allow plenty of time for yourself, you have the rest of your life to be totally responsible
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buy a nice card and then make some "vouchers"(paper, colored pens) and have them say things like, "I will do dishes", "i will cook dinner". anything that you can do that will give your mom a well deserved rest from her never ending chores. only do things that you wouldn't ordinarily do. this only costs the price of a card, but you could alway make the card too. i'm a mom and i would like this as my buttheads, oops, i mean kids never offer to help me unless i ask and then it's iffy. you can tell her that all she has to do to redeem her "gifts" is to give you a voucher. the vouchers could always be generic and say ie."any chore" and then she can choose.
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plan ahead. write down the things you have to do for the day. set up time in which you should be able to accomplish that goal. do it everyday, and soon you'll see that being organized will come out automatically
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I had to do a lot of chores too. If it really is a lot, and nobody else is doing as much as you, consider telling your family members to cut you some slack.
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I am a full time Mom- I spend 24 hours a day / 7 days a week...no holidays no sick time. ;) .... I am a photographer.  I spend about 6 hours a month doing that(split up into half hour sessions)  Plus I am an AVON Ind Sales Rep.  I spend about 6 hours a week doing this.  I try to do as many little things as possible so I can enjoy my children while they are little.
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Hey I'm in the same boat, but this is what I'm going to try this weekend. I'm going to sit my husband down face to face without t.v. therefore he can really see how serious I am. I'm going to lay everything out, let him know exactly everything in which i do daily, weekly, and monthly. Let him know how tired, and worn out I am. Ask him to put his feet in my shoes and tell me would he be able to do everything I do on his own. Then I am going to ask for one or two hands of his help regularly, and permanently not just temporary to make me happy.
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Do you know any other young wives and mothers in the neighborhood? If you do, why not hang out with them. If you don't, then introduce yourself.  Plan outings and fun things to do. You don't have to stay home 24/7. Do something nice for yourself. Do you have family nearby? See if you can get a family member to babysit for a few hours so that you can go out and enjoy yourself, pamper yourself!!!! I hope that things will get better for you. I know what it feels like. Sometimes we are so busy taking care of everybody else that we forget about ourselves.
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Mom in Law is experiencing a new life and as everyone else goes thru it, it'll come as being routine in time as well.  Things will settle down and she'll see the light again.  Give her a chance to live a little..... life's too short.  You sound a bit selfish, sorry to say. Most people WANT their inlaws out of their business. What's wrong with the brother fixing up her house? Nothing. Not to be critical but you remember how it is when you feel so alive when you first start dating someone? Well?  It's your mom in law!  She is feeling alive and beautiful.  She loves your children I'm sure and in a couple of months when the newness wears off she'll be back. :))))  Take care!
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Cool! That sounds like a sensible way to go about weight loss. I might try it! Thanks for the fyi. \n\nPS How much did you aunt weigh to start out with, and what was her height?
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Nature knows you can't have two queen bees in a hive, why are you trying to have two queen bees and a princess in a house?\n\nHaving worked with and taken care of several elderly people in my family I appreciate what you are going through.\n\nYour plate is full and they are looking for ways to fill their days.  Sometimes they are emotional vampires, sucking the life-blood out of you.\n\nThen you feel guilty because you might not have them around much longer and what if???\n\nGive yourself a break.  Your mom could out live you.   \n\nGrandparents are very special and I think it is difficult for that relationship to be as special as it should be when everyone is under the same roof.\n\nIf you can afford it, get out.  If you don't have siblings who can help you, hire someone else to clean your mom's place, help with personal hygiene, etc.  Chances are she'll treat them nicer anyway.  They're much less likely to be rude to a nurse's aide who wants to give them a bath than one of their children.\n\nIf there are siblings but perhaps they're out of town or unable to help for whatever reason, call a family meeting and agree that everyone has to do what they can, so either they can give time (which would give you a break) or money (which would enable you to hire someone to care for your mom) either way you win.\n\nHang in there.  Call your local county health department and find out what services are available to your mom.\n\nGood luck.
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dont worry you will be a great sis, dont you? so act normal and wait to get ready for a little bro it will be very difficult while your mother takes a rest.