Does someone have to suffer great loss in order to discover what's important in life?
487433
sometimes...  it depends on how they are/were brought up...
722853
This is easy. Only when you have expectations, can you be disappointed.  And when you have something to lose, property, reputation, friends, job, then you can be controlled by the fear of maybe losing that.  When you have little or nothing, then you have nothing to lose so you really do not care.  Either we as people are mostly self-centered (nothing to lose) or we think of others (care, kind, concern).  Thankfully, most of us are genuinely good and want to make the world a better place, so we want to do what we can to make it better.
86813
Feelings can almost always be trusted to be true. People who have lived with hardship in their lives are wiser for the most part, because no one wants to go there again. Those who had comfortable,practically protected lives have no clue, and when their day comes, as it surely will, they will have no clue how to handle what is thrown their way. Those of us who have suffered hardships no how to appreciate life in a very special way.
708169
maybe. God uses hardships & struggle to build character to the person you might think has a 'hard life'. if he just hands over everything we want we dont learn anything.
1064670
There are no rules or time-lines about how deep, how long, how much...where or when to experience grief from any loss (especially like your hubby).  But what I do know, is never to resist it, and better yet, there is a reactive balance between the joy and depth of the relationship you'd shared and the depth of your grief.  I recently lost my partner of 15 years, and what I found is my sense of loss was only outweighed by my profound gratitude for being so "lucky" to know someone so wonderful in such an intimate and life-altering way.  How could I ever thank her for her bottomless love and goodness and unending patience with me??  How can I express how much she means to me and how profoundly she has helped me to change my life?\n\nI don't know, except to take what she has given me, and turn right around to bless and love others.  In considering that she had "graduated" on to something better (or at least different), I realised that I had too.  But what could this be?\n\nTo be the Love that I admired and treasured with her -- In that, you or I can continue to feel our beloveds' kindness ever again.  Your loving connection with your husband and friend is truly eternal, with you in every breath, every beam of sunshine, and every drop of rain.\n\nAnd finally, the depression comes from holding it back.  Go to where you and he experienced your greatest joys. You'll find him (and yourself) there.\n\nLove & Light, my dear Friend!
952801
I think that's like a "what's the meaning of life" question - it really can't be answered so just worry about how to live your life before you die, what's going to happen afterwards is a mystery and I think should be looked upon as an adventure that you never know where it's going to end up.
764067
It is a sad thing to loose a parent.  It leave a mark on you and a pain that you really never get over.  I happen to be a funeral director and when I lost my parents, I went through the exact same thing.  I know it is of no comfort to you, but as time goes by, you will find that other things in your life keep you occupied.  You will never forget her, but in time God works a miracle in which the sharp pain associated with your loss gets a little less and you can reflect upon the joyous and happy times with a feeling of love and appreciation.  I know you probably find this hard to believe, and so did I, but it does happen.  My father died in 1987 and my mother in 1999, and at times is seems like it was only yesterday.  I hope you are able to find peace and understanding very soon.
323971
Long past your lifetimes but within reach in your imagination and through research, Remember this. To research yields much but the love of finding out last a life time. Good luck and much wisdom.
709022
You find it yourself, honey.\n\nBut for me? Be happy, love, experience everything you want to (unless it hurts people) because you only live once.\n\nx
85270
The most important is to change the focus from others to your own well-being. Remember that YOU are and should be the most important person in your life. There is room for sacrificing your own needs for others, but if you neglect your own well being you will become less able to understand and care for others; it is called enlightened self-interest
746609
Hey yep.\nI am allways Happy wether I loose the most Important thing of my life.\nI kep going on and on till i drop down dead on this planet.\nLife is to enjoy and be happy, take things the way they come to u, and manage the resorces available to u in an effectiv manner so that u can make best out of it..........\nNever be down or sad because it fetches u nothing but more misery and pain..........\nvikram_s_bhatt@yahoo.co.in
288905
I think about all the good things, then i cry about it, then eventualy i think about the bad things, and get angry, then get over it.\nYes, it is a must to grieve, unless you didn't care much.
1060555
I’d probably be more inclined to think that happiness is more important than success. But is it a right? I think you have the duty to yourself to be happy first and foremost and that includes being honest to yourself, otherwise you’ll never find true happiness. If along the way should you find success, that would be an added bonus but it would not be more important that finding true happiness. The gathering of material goods is by no means an indicator of having lived a successful or happy life. It just means that you had a lot of stuff that you’d be giving to other people when you die.\n\nPersonally though I don’t think there are any god given rights, as it were.
407254
Death scares us all.  It is also a fact of life.  If we did not have an instinctual fear of death, we would not survive as a species.  The way you describe your fears sounds like it is more about being left alone, and you may want to talk with a counselor about that issue.  Loss is a big source of pain for all of us.  Perhaps you have lost a beloved relative or friend, and you hate that feeling.  Or maybe you are very attached to an older relative, and you cannot imagine life without him or her.  Talk to a mental health professional about your specific fears and associations with death.  If you are religious, you can also talk to our clergy. This is a VERY COMMON fear.  But you deserve relief, and counseling can help.
1016208
To your main question: NO!   That would not be the end of your suffering, only the beginning, and the beginning of the suffering of those who care about you.   I felt heart-broken years ago over someone who means nothing to me now.   Pain on this earth gradually fades away.  What can mean the world to you now can be nothing to you eventually.  Just deal with it one day at a time.  Tell yourself every morning that you just need to make it through  the day...eventually you won't need to.
160747
One of my friend lost her mother few months back.She is just eighteen years old.I worried at the beggining about how to console her because she liked her mother very much that she was almost in a very disturbed state when that incident happened.\nBut when she returned after few days she was completely normal.I was unable to restain myself and i asked her.she said a little story.The story is a man lost his only son and he was crying and crying and a sage noticed his sad state and he asked abt his sorrows and he explained to him\nThe sage said that he will solve his problem and will give rebirth to his son if he brought enough sand from the house where no death occured.He was unable to find such a home and finally he understood the life's fact that nothing is permanent in this world.After she finished telling me this\nI was really proud of my friend and if she can controll her sorrows then why cant u?Happiness lies in ur hands.
473949
I believe that our earthly lives are likened to school for the soul. We are here to learn and elevate the growth of our spirit. Depending on the lesson/s needing to be learned, we experience various trials and tribulations. When things seem to be going wrong or unfairly ask yourself, what can I learn from this? or what I can I teach someone from this? It is when your spirit has learned, that the negative will fall away, of course being replaced by something else. In a woven web we are are here to both teach and learn. Some souls have more difficult lessons to learn than others, but if you look around, nearly everyone has an adversity in their lives. It could be financial, health related, or deal with the emotional or mental aspects, or even physical disability, etc. The first 25 years of my life were hellish, it was when I began to see the lessons and stop feeling sorry for myself that things began to change. I took an inward journey and discovered spirituality can lead me to a better place, where I once viewed things with a negative mind I now see with positive energy. It makes all the difference. Look at your life, go over every aspect of it, and seriously think about what you could or have learned from it. Allow knowledge to enter in, consider yourself a student and a teacher at the same time. I can not say to you that things will improve because I do not know what path your soul treads in order to learn but I can say to you if you manifest your thoughts esoterically (inner, spiritually), instead of mundane (outward, worldly things), you will percieve the same conflicts in a different way. There is a purpose for your being here, discover it, once you do you should feel better even while you may struggle. Good luck, life was not intended to be easy, but you can avoid the pitfalls if you strengthen your spirit. Sending you bright blessings!