How could you overcome the feeling of envy over your best friend's popularity?
479705
Hmmm... well first of all think about why you like him? could that be the reason other people like him too? \nMaybe it has nothing to do with him being fat, normally and sadly to say, being fat is a disadvantage to people, but perhaps because he is fat people don't see him as a threat.\ninstead of feeling pissed off about it you should realise you must have really good taste in friends if everyone likes him. It would be worse to have a friend that no one wanted around. \nAlso when people meet someone new for the first time,they tend to make more of an effort to make the person feel welcomed into the group and that is why they will talk to him more as they already know you . \nPerhaps he is funny and kind and is interested in other people and not just himself. Also if you are getting pissed off this will manifest itself and you might come across as cold or moody and that doesn't attract people. \nJust try and relax about it, be happy to have this person as a friend and try to focus on the good things about him and not just this one thing,\n \nIn life, if we have a belief about something we tend to look for confirmation of our beliefs...you believe your friends ignore you when your other friend is around so you constantly look for confirmation and signs to reaffirm what you believe....you will find it. If you change what confirmation you are looking for ( such as, my friends are really comfortable with me and like me) you will find that also...focus on the positive not the negative...it is getting you no where.\nhope this helps but you have to work at it.\n\nps: if you do as WELZENN suggested and make fun of him it will make you look dislikable and jealous and he doesn't deserve to be made fun of. that is not the way to treat a friend.
109106
Believe me, it is just you who feels so, i am pretty sure ur bf knows about ur jealousy problem but he chooses to ignore it either or it is just that he might b enjoying seeing u jealous! But if u wanna give him nail to nail , just start going with him, eg,. if he admires a certain girl, u just start praising the girl more and i wud suggest that u even praise some good looking guy who passes u both, just see the effect then! u"ll definitely enjoy this and it will take care of him and u as well, i.e. u "ll get rid of jealousy problem and he"ll stop being a complete innocent child!
986158
Well, that person obviously doesn't think that your their best friend. A best friend should be there for you always. And you should be able to talk to them about nearly anything and everything. \n\nIt sounds to me like your friend is just that...a friend, but you shouldn't be wasting your energy on someone who isn't going to respect you. Still, I would search out a new best friend. \n\nOr you could tell that person how you feel. Have a good long talk over coffee. It'll bring you two closer.
744851
People make alot of friends in life and you will find that as we grow older me make many friends and our best friends change. Because our interests, lifestyles, occupations and situations dont stay the same this change is neccessary as people who once were our best friends may not be moving in the same direction as we are.\n\nSo you could tell the person who moved there that it is bugging you that she has taken over your best friend, or you could just accept your best friend becoming friends with this new person.
1143630
I think you should continue to talk to her, but know your limits when speaking to her. If you keep on talking to her, she will soon realize you are a true friend, and not a ***** like her. Show her that you aren't like her. I also think that if she is talking about you or your bestfriend, she is jealous of you two. Be ahead of the game, don't let her keep you stressing. Don't trip off her she's just another obstacle in life trying to bring others down.
1054468
Yeah jealous, i think she thinks you are prettier then herself and if she says someone else is prettier then you she wins . your not number one. even if it isnt true. she doesnt want you to feel as beautiful as you are because she doesn't get to feel that way. friends always want it to be equal. jealous.
119083
She is just jealous that one of your friends is way closer than the other one. Try to talk to her. It may work.
211524
I had the same problem. my friend of 6 years kept getting really jealous over my friend of just 2 months. Every time she came close my friend would jump in and pull me away. Not only that she was very close knit. I mean when ever she introduced me to someone she would say "MY BEST FRIEND". It got a little annoying when she wanted me to do the same. It got really bad when she started to make fun of my other friend. That's when I told her, hey listen, you have been my best friend so all these years. And if you think that she is going to steal me away from you, then you must not trust me enough, do you really think i am going to drop you after so many years together? I told her that if i wanted to stop being her friend I would have stopped, but I'm still here. I think you should just tell it to her straight, and if she doesn't believe you, that's her fault.
900313
Be happy for your friend. Let her have her own time to shine....like you had your time. I can totally see why you'd be upset, though. It'd make me the same way. The only thing I can tell you to do is to deal with it. You may cause a fight if you show your jealousy. Let her have her time in the spotlight, and soon, her time will fade as well. Good luck!
663602
You can justify jealousy if you want to, but if you are this persons friend as well - you should turn the jealousy into envy.\n\nEnvy her good luck and wish you had the same but dont let it affect your behavior.  My best friend is Rich and I am not.   I Envy her good fortune (she worked for it very hard) and still love her.   I tell her, you are my Rich Friend and tease her but she has me to keep her real and down to earth, by commenting.  "You just spent what I pay a month for rent on earings..... you can afford to but why do it chickie?"  "Time for you to volunteer at the free clinic and get perspective my friend."\n\nEnvy can be loving and still a positive emotion.  Jealousy indicates a selfish and mean mentality.
974808
Your old friend is probably feeling betrayed by you.  She thought that she was doing a good thing by being nice to the 'new girl' and in turn has lost her best friend.  \n\nyou probably need to make it known that she still means as much to you as before and that you dont want another person to come between you.  Good luck and let me know what happens
245921
Think of Karma, do good things and good things will find a way back to you.\n\nYou just have to accept the fact that things happen\ntry and be greatful for those people instead of being jealous\nits a bad bad habit and indeed it will overcome you if you continue.\nIf your brother is going out with friends why should you be jealous he's happy isnt he? You hang out with your friends.\n\nAnd if your 'crush' said he talked to someone doesnt have to mean anything. be open and accept things if you really want him that bad you should also let him know. \nIf he doesnt or have someone else in mind be greatful for him just accept it as he is only ONE person. there are plenty more out there.\n\nJealousy is for the weak, it only causes insecurity and other crap such as not being equal to someone else.(hm isnt that what the word jealousy defines?) ANYWAY you get the idea. THINK OF KARMA. no you dont have to be a buddist to think and believe in Karma.
589710
There's nothing you can do.  The more effort you exert the more they will resist.  People of EGO feel others are jealous.  So whatever you do will be interpreted as being jealous.  Just allow them to grow out of their ego's.  It will happen one day, provided they live that long.  Life alone can teach them that they are not all they believe themselves to be.  Then again, ego can be a positive, provided it's not over inflated.
1024153
Quit being so self absorbed. Nobody is jealous of you. Its all in your mind. Not everybody is jealous of you. Maybe a few. Not everybody has that much time to devote to hating you. Just ignore the few people and move on. Perhaps don't flaunt your wealth in front of them as much or brag.
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I don't know how big this group of friends are, but I am sure you are a great friend. \n\nYou stand out from the crowd! Congradulations! Everyone is pretty in their own way and I am sure you there is something that your friends dont have! For example, the latest CD's (judging by your name), elegance, the best colour hair/eyes, great skin, intelligence, a boyfriend, the best book collection, poise, attitude...\n\nIs there maybe one friend who is simular in a way and also stands out from the crowd? Do these sound like any of your friends(maybe one in particular)?\n1. Who agnolowloges you a bit more? \n2. Does this person talk to about their own worries to you in private instead of the rest of the group? \n3. Is there one friend who sticks by you?\n4. One friend who asks how you are often? \n5. One person who would go anywhere with you? \n6. One person who phones you a lot?\n7. Have any of your friends ever told you how great a friend you are? \n8. If you were in an argument with another friend, did your closer friend stay with you, feel the same as you, comforted you, try to set peace?                                This is another sign of true friendship.If so then you are special. Try to stick to this friend a bit more and don't feel left out in a conversation. Instead of thinking "God this is annoying not knowing what the hell they are talking about" think "Is there anybody else in the group who doesn't know what the hell is going on." Try to relate these to one of your friends and stick by them! If you have been arguing with one of these friends a lot/recently or been to quite to even say you didn't like their actions then maybe this shouldn't be your closer friend. Just don't tell them. \n\nSTOP BEING BIASED! You seem to be think negative rather than positive about your self. Try and boost your confidence by\n1. Talk to yourself in the mirror every day about your life achievments.\n2. Writing down every good thing about your self. Look at these when you are sad.\n3.Write down every thing bad about your self. Try to improve on these or if you feel really upset then rip them up to feel in control. \nTell your self you arn't a mouse but you are a lion!\nSoon your confidence will rise and so will your popularity though popularity is a contest you just don't want to know!
149097
Don't be too afraid about that.  If he/she is your best friend, you won't be able to say almost anything to offend him/her.
834045
Invite your best friend into the mix..that will liven things up..