any ladies from the US midwest know how to mend a mans lonely heart?
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Evidently not. You might try something real - a gym, a church, a softball league, a night class, a club. That way you will enjoy yourself even if you don't hook up with someone the first time, assuming you could lose a few pounds, are religious, like softball, are curious or like something enough to join a club.\n\nThey will be able to see you, too. It is awful easy to lie on the Internet. My uncle the Pope and Bill Gates were talking about that just last night when they came over for pizza and beer.
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Grin and bear it, dear : And be on the lookout for an even better guy !\nThe world is full of nice guys, waiting to be found !
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sounds like your in a pickle...i am 26,man that looks old, but anyways, listen.i got the same thing from my girl, about a few weeks ago. not the fact of moving cause of school or anything(we have been 2 gether for 6-7 years and have a 4yr old son). she just came to me with the fact that she thought we need time,i never saw it coming and all that, yeah..it sucks.when your in love and when they come to you with this crap, your kinda like...what?when?how?why?me? i got like you. thisterrible sinking feeling inside.thats when you really know that you care,but what hurts the most is when they are like?oh?i hurt you?\nBUDDY, i hope your young.you have no children? so go on with your life.its gonna be ahrd, i mean you put in the effort, 5 years of your life and now this. it will take some time getting over this, but hey. im sure you have a mom, or family or friends you can lean on at this time. it will just take time, besides...there are soooooo many beautiful women out there. i was at the point to where iwas like i didnt care about those other women, but get this...they do care. they are out there looking just like you will have to.some will come to you,and some you will have to suck it up and go for.everyone gets rejected here nd there*trust me it sucks) but movw to the next. if you dont want to get hurt all over again, then dont get too involved. whats the best part about this? you will meet so many intresting people and get to do new things. yeah she might be in austin having a blast with out you. you will just have to accept this, get over it and have blast yourelf. if your here and shes there, it will make it easier,but when she comes back...or is ever alone at school and the memories come back to her, she will reliaze that she had something special. not every man is gonna treat her like you did..some may be better, most will be worse(most guys in collage are NOT looking for relationships ya know?) and she will, or try to reach you again to see how you are. hopefully youve moved on, got a black book packed with girlfriends, that are friends, some even more, thats when its sweet..when she comes back trying to be a apart of your life again...you might take her back...you might reliaze, you have moved on and shes just another face in the crowd, she didnt care about your feelings then...you could blow her off, you could give it a shot all over agian. i know its not easy.in fact me and my girl are still together after i found out how she felt. we are not married..so its no promise that it will work, all i know is that i have son with this woman, and i love him-if it works with her,great if not...i ahve him, and thats all i will ever need, me,him,god-you will understand once you have a kid, it is amazing\nwell good luck pal,keep your head up..if it help..go beat the shit out of a door, or punching bag, a little stress relief, or go have a drink this weekend at aclub or bar, and enjoy the view, the eye candy..the ladies!who knows, someone might be looking for a someone like you.
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You have to give her some time for her heart to heal, be there for her and talk to her let her know that you understand that she has been hurt may times but also let her know that not everyone is the same there are kind nice sweet men out there she just hasn't found the right one...Don't push her though because u don't want to push her away from you because if u do u will either fight like hell to get her or u will never get her at all hope this helps good luck
917867
My best advise is this... make your own choices and build your life. You can't plan for a man to come into your life, and when he does it will probably upset your apple cart a bit... that  is what love does. To meet a nice, good, and strong, man you should try looking in quieter places and not night spots. Bookstores, libraries, coffee houses... those are good places to just relax and attract a few fellas. Good luck!
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Try volunteering for something in your community. Go to the library. Join a gym. Ask your friends to set you up on dates. Play a co-ed recreation sport like softball. Elections are on the way. Volunteer your time to a candidate that you like. You will meet many new people that way. Just think outside the norm. Do things that you enjoy and eventually you could meet a woman that enjoys the things you do.
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Be polite.\nUse manners.\nStay sober.\nHave a little extra cash available.\nSmile a relaxed smile.\nDon't complain, talk politics/religion or act bored.\n\nThe best and easiest way to a woman's heart is.....\n\nACT INTERESTED in her.\n\nAsk simple but intelligent questions about what she likes and thinks.\n\nTry to find common areas of agreement and hopefully some common ground on activities/hobbies/foods, etc.\n\nBe polite. Show her a good time. Relax.\n\nHey...........they get nervous, too!
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Hi Dabby,\n\nLife is full of ups and downs.  Right now you are down but you have to get up.  Only time will heal you broken heart  no words that we write will solve you problem but they will definately encourage you.\n\nRight now what you need is forget about men.  Do something that you like the most.  Take a break from your routine life and go for a vacation if possible take some girlfriends with you and have a good time.  U have to make things work for your self dear.  Just give your self a well deserved break from all and do something that you have never done before i am not saying that you will forget all your problems but at least they will become light.  Basically keep yourself occupied just do something or the other.  \n\nSome relationships work some don't but the hope should always be there.  \n\nI wish you all the best in life.  Good Luck
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While it is to easy to succumb to the emotional anguish that is consuming you at this early stage you must put a few bricks up to get through it. Do not drive yourself insane with analizing the last five years. Enlist a support group, best friends, family etc. Go out to the movies, nothing romantic, just a good comedy, horror, action you get the point. Invite some friends over for a dinner party or skip the dinner and just party. Ask each of them to bring a new friend, someone you've never met. Meeting new people is a stimulant. Involve yourself in your favorite activities or hobbies to keep your mind occupied. Submerse yourself in some great books. Pamper yourself a little go on a shopping trip, but something fun and frivolous. Keeping busy is the best thing. Of course the nights will be the roughest. Go ahead and allow yourself to think about her if she comes to mind while you are trying to drift off to sleep. It is part of the healing process. Cry if need be, tears are the cleansing of our soul. Eventually the sorrow will subside. While I think it is important to surround yourself with good friends and meet new people just don't hook up with anyone. Five years is a long time to be with someone, you'll need to take a good year being single to rediscover who you are before enerting the dating game. Have fun, and remember it's ok to have your ups and downs. You'll be fine and who knows in the near future you may come to think the break up was a good thing, usually when one door closes it's because another is getting ready to open. Old cliche I know but it is so true.
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Go to a chat room for divorced people who are in there 50's and just start chating. You may meet the man of your dreams. Good luck.
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Dear Next,\n\nFood does not help.\nA new lover does not help.  \nShopping does not help.\n\nPeople mean well but they don't help.\n\nThe ONLY thing that helped me to heal from a very broken heart was to read the Bible from cover-to-cover.  I got laid off from my job after my husband of more than 20 years filed for divorce.  There was no work available in the area and I got 15 weeks of severance pay so I proceeded to read The Daily Walk Bible.\n\nIt was so good I couldn't put it down and I finished it in 90 days.  The divorce still went through shortly after our 25th anniversary but I was able to heal.  The Bible showed me how much my heavenly Father really loves me and better yet, He is not fickle.\n\nAre you familiar with The Father's Love Letter by Barry Adams?  It is quite beautiful and I'd be happy to paste it and or the link if you are interested.
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The key to this is to keep your focus on... you.\n\nI'm sorry he broke your heart.  It's tough. My fiance broke off our relationship three weeks before the wedding-- and we worked together.  Turns out he was involved with someone else and like your guy,  he was "on top of the world."  I was underneath it somewhere.\n\n But, if you keep the focus on you, you'll be working on your depression.\n\nI embrace spirituality... not religious... and when you see this guy, maybe you can just say to yourself, "I forgive you... and I release you to the universe"  \n\nYou concentrate on being the best person you can be.  The rest... will take care of itself.\n\nOh, and take the high road.  Never let him see you depressed.  (Therapists may not agree with this,  but ultimately, it made me feel better)\n\nGood luck.
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Try meeting them at a place where nice people hang out.  \n\nI.E. not the local bar.\n\nIf you are a church goer, perhaps there will be a nice lady there for you.\n\nGet involved in your local community, charity work perhaps?\n\nRemember that what you put out to the world is what the world gives you in return.  You don't have to settle for bitter ladies.  There are lots of nice women just waiting on their Mr. Right.  \n\nWho knows, it could be YOU.\n\nGood luck!
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Allow time to heal it. Nothing and no one can fix a broken heart and there will always be a scar from it. It's a lesson learned baby, and you'll be a better person from it. Don't mope around, get out and have some fuuunn!!!! That's the only way you'll get over him and you may even meet someone new who can help with the healing process. It seems like love  can fix anything doesn't it? Good luck baby girl
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time will only mend your heart im affraid darlin. dont worry though you sound like you have been affected by this woman, but that is attractive to ladies out there. it shows you care. confide in a close friend that your hurtin. i bet you, you will feel 10 times better after you have had a conversation on how you feel. and always remember, you are worth 10 of ne one that has hurt you ok. gud luck and enjoy your summer being free and single. x
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Maybe online dating.Good luck!!
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Sorry wish I could help you out but I live in Nebraska.  See if you can hook him up with some of your friends if you are comfortable with that.