What will you do if your husband don`t stand up to his family for you?
489150
Good riddance to him. He is not a supportive husband. He is useless. Don't regret what you have done.
1162889
Well right or wrong on what you become and what you do with your life, family should be there not matter what! I'm going threw it right now. I met and married a wonderfull man, and family is distant from me cause they didnt agree with it. In time if they still dont like what you become, then tell them that your you and you will be what you want and they can be by your side or not, that if they choose not to be then its not stoping you from becomming what YOU want. I didnt let my parents bring me down cause i married a guy they didnt know. And im not giving up my husband for them. They can take me and him as whole or keep living there lifes without seeing there grandkids or future grandkids. But I know in time they will come around, as a matter of fact they have a little. Just be who YOU want to be dont let anyone bring you down or tell you do what they want. Be yourself and prove to them you can do what you want on your own. Good luck!
105297
there's nothing you can do about it.Your husband needs to disguss it with them since it's his family,and tell them nicely to knock it off.
530189
If you both want to reconcile then do it - it doesn't matter if anyone approves.  What matters here is you, your husband, and your marriage.  Your family will learn in time to forgive him.  You need to also tell them that you have forgiven him and you expect them to forgive also AND treat him with respect.
939762
Sounds like a normal day in our house. There are two sides to every story and this is only your side so hard not to be judgemental on your husband. If he is doing all those things then believe it or not it may possinly be because he is afraid of losing his family and that includes you but too much of a macho man to sit down with you and tell you his true feelings. I would really urge him to try marriage guidance and if he won't go on the camp how about a civilian one where none of his mates will know about it?
485434
I understand where you are coming from.  My husband and I have been in the same situation for a while now.  All we can do is draw nearer to GOD, and trust HIM to provide the strength we need.  People do not always obey what GOD would have them to do, but we have to forgive them, pray for them and bless them.\n\nGOD BLESS YOU!
1116311
Your spouse isn't supposed to make you choose between your family and him.  But what it does mean is that your spouse should be your first concern from now on.  You are supposed to support and love your spouse.  It doesn't mean you dump your family though.  \n\nExample:\n\nHis mother constantly puts you down.  Your husband is supposed to stand up for you.  He has to put you first before his mother.  You are his wife and life-partner.  He is supposed to stand by your side.  He can still love his mother, but you must always come before her.
584404
It's not his mother's wedding, and I highly doubt she is footing the bill, so therefore, she has no say in where it is.  I don't think there's much you can do to stop the situation except maybe get caller i.d. and don't answer when his family calls.  As far as the manipulation, your man needs to stand up to his family and tell him he's not going to stand for them treating you with such disrespect.  Good luck!
315035
They are in your house and will just have to deal with who you are. I know you feel like it matters what they think, but if you're already married to the guy then he obviously doesn't care what his parents think. Be yourself, and just try to be nice to them. If they talk down to you, etc, get your husband to talk to them and explain that he doesn't appreciate them disrespecting you in your own home. Stand your ground!
590364
Actually (and unfortunately), no, they will not have to respect you eventually. If they feel you are wrong for their precious daughter, all the money and power in the world will not convince them otherwise.\n\nI would recommend simply trying to bring things down a couple of notches. You're not alone in finding family get togethers extremely awkward. Most of us just eventually learn to suck it up and keep our mouths shut. If your in-laws try to interfere, thank them for their advice and then change the subject quickly to something everyone agrees on ---like the weather or sports.\n\nThese people are not worth ruining your relationship with your wife over, so play Richard Simmons if you are able to, and keep conversations short, superficial, and polite when you are not.\n\nBest of luck.
278918
Pray for them. Sometimes we don't know how to support someone because we feel angry or disagree with what they have done, and we should pray. God knows what the person needs, and when family can't help, it's in the Lord's hands.\nAlso, you can give different kinds of support. You can support the person, but you don't have to support the decisions they made.
131863
Explain to your husband that you love him but you need your own space away from his family.  Move out and leave room for him in case he follows you.  Give yourself a few weeks of peace and quiet.  \n\nIf you can't afford to move away from them, try to get some counseling for you and your husband.  A counselor will have a better chance of getting through to him and make him understand that you need your privacy and you two should get your own life....Good luck!
176088
FIRST OF ALL YOU NEED TO PARAY TO GOD TO GIVE YOU STRENGTH TO BE ABLE TO KNOCK THE H*** OUT OF THEM IF THEY GET IN YOUR FACE AGAIN, BECAUSE IT IS NOT UNFAIR OF YOU SO DO NOT THINK THAT WAY. YOU SHOULD TELL THEM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THEM AND MAKE NO QUALMS ABOUT IT. THEY SHOULD HAVE BEEN IN YOUR DEFENSE WHEN YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND HAD THAT ARUGUMENT AND HE WAS DISRESPECTING YOU, INSTEAD THEY USED IT FOR THEIR TIME TO VENT HOW THEY FELT ABOUT YOU. YOU NEED TO SIT DOWN AND TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND ABOUT THIS ISSUE, AND LET HIM KNOW HOW  YOU FEEL ABOUT THIS. DO NOT DEPEND ON YOUR HUSBAND TO SHIELD YOU FROM THEM, BECAUSE IT SEEMS THAT IS IS DEFINETLY SLACKING IN THAT DEPARTMENT. YOU BETTER LET THEM KNOW WHERE TO GET THE HECK OFF AT, AND THE NEGATIVITY THAT THEY HAVE TOWARDS YOU IS MUTUAL (EVEN IF IT IS NOT THEY DONT HAVE TO KNOW THAT), BECAUSE YOU HAVENT DID ANYTHING TO DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT. \nFURTHERMORE YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DEAL WITH THEM THOSE ARE YOUR HUSBAND'S PARENTS NOT YOURS, DO NO FEEL THAT JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE MARRIED TO THEIR SON THAT YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH THEM. TO MAKE THINGS EASIER FOR YOU DO GOT TO THEIR HOUSE, AND DO NOT LET THEM COME TO YOUR, IF YOUR HUSBAND WANT TO SEE THEM THEN HE CAN GOT OVER THERE.  \nYOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE "UNDERSTANDING" ABOUT A D*** THING, AND YOUNEED TO TELL YOUR HUSBAND THAT YOU ARE NOT GOING TO KISS THEIR A**** JUST TO GET ALONG WITH THEM, AND IF HE DONT WATCH THEN HE WILL BE BACK AT HOME WITH HIS MOM AND DAD.  YOU ARE A WOMAN IN YOUR OWN RIGHT, AND YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THEIR CRAP. I HOPE THIS HELPS!!!
873141
i am very sorry to hear that.  But you have to be patient.  Keep your baby, and try to keep your marriage.  He needs to stand up to his mother but it may not happen because she is ill, sit tight and be patient.  Give him time to think
8866
If your family dosn't except him tell them that you love him and that if they don't like him they will just have to except that you love him.
205823
Well, the best advice i can give you is to talk to him about it.  You need to explain to him that that's not the way to talk to your family and he needs to explain his differences with your family differently and more respectfully.  Include that you will not put up with his crap and that he needs to get his act together or you don't need to associate with him any more.
965496
you should ask them for thier blessing and if they refuse then that is something that u will have to deal with if u love your fiance and she loves you then thats all u need talk to your family and let them know that it bothers u and your fiance and that they need to fiqure out how to control that and if they dont have anything nice to say then not to say anything at all and whether they like it or not u love her and she loves u and u to are getting married and u will not come around if they are going to keep treating her that way and u really dont want that because they are your family and u love them too. i hope this helps u.