I have a 5 year old boy in kindergarden and his teacher is suggesting that we hold him back.?
491882
yes yes yes!  hold him back sooner than l8r if nessisary!!! in 1st grae he'll get closer to his friends, and 1st grade is when i found my best friends.  everyone will remember him as 'hey isnt that kid the one who was held back' dont wait!\n\nps im 14 yrs old in 7th grde, we still have that kid in 6th tht everyone remembers as the kid held back in 1st grade.  and kindergarden isnt as big of a deal cuz u havnt made good friends yet
160291
None, teh facility is privately funded allowing them to have your child removed from their faciility at their discretion.  Schoolds have stricter regualtions.  Talk to his provider about allowing him to do something quiet while the others nap or simply to lay down and be quiet.  Afterall you are paying them to deal with him for the day nto simply when he is behacing...it snto like hes biting chidlren.  he just doesnt wanna sleep.  Find a new care provider if necessary!  Most of them deal with kids who wont nap instead of calling mom to pick them up.  (They should credit you for the days you had to get your child too.)
586295
First you have to make sure s/he enjoys school... Does s/he complain when coming home about friends, teachers, bullies?  If so remove those problems... homework my daughters teacher doesn't believe in forcing students to do home work if they choose not to do it they choose not to watch a movie at the end of the week with class mates....(shes and A student now from failing and threats of being held back)if those things don't work then don't hold him/her back maybe they are a late bloomer and it doesn't really matter if they fall behind in the early years because their minds are little sponges and they can really catch up fast... I would say that if by the end of 3rd grade they are still failing to succeed then hold back and make repeat a grade but summer school is fun and I make mine go(even this year with the A's) and all other parents should to... It's to much time off and they forget and we don't have time in today's society to stay at home and keep them school lvl educated we have to work....so over all make school fun  and the rest will follow ( and yes you have the control of if your elementary child proceeds to the next grade)
1059992
If you are having problems helping your son with THIS task, heaven help the poor guy. He better have qualified teachers, who can explain things to the students, as he sure doesn't stand a chance to have it explained again at home.
1051562
Don't worry about the "correct" grade.\n\nBeing held back s one of the best things  that can happen to  a child.\n\nIt guarantees that he will be one of the older kind in his class.  Things come much easier to the older kids.  The younger kids are always scuttling along, trying to keep up.\n\nWhy make things harder than they have to be?
962531
You need to understand that the more you defy authority, the closer eye the teacher will have on you.  If you stop drawing attention to yourself and behave yourself in your class, it could get better, but once you are on someone's bad side, it's tough to change.  You're making it out like he's just got a dislike for you, but you need to understand that teachers have 5-7 classes a day with 20-30 kids in them.  They cannot allow kids to just be smart a**** or it will just distract the entire class & they lose precious time with those who want to learn.  Try paying attention, answering questions, stop talking to your girlfriend... you can hang with her at lunch or afterwards.  This is soooo important, adults just can't explain how important it is to do your best now for your own future.  Good luck sweety :)
642451
If you are homeschooling, you are refusing all services from the public schools...not just classroom services but also any therapies he may have been receiving. Therefore his IEP is of no value, except you should hang onto it so that, if you decide to return him to the public schools, you have a contract already in place for the specialized instruction and services.\n\nDo your research on effective instruction for Learning Disabled children.  Go to LD Online, the International Dyslexia Association, etc. and review their information.  You cannot just "tell" him like you would a "normal" learner and expect him to understand, remember, or make progress in his areas of difficulty.
997932
I don't know about specific laws in Maine, but in NC I believe the teachers can hold back a student without consent. If they want to hold your child back, it's probably for the best.
1005654
This teacher is not behaving the way she should. She is being seductive and she could get into alot of trouble. You need to stay away from her because she is not following the rules. Please talk to your parents or a counselor about this. She is going to get some kid into a real mess -- worse than you can imagine.
83112
I went through a very similar situation and after months of being told by the teacher and the principal that there must be a problem at home, I found out another child was having the same problems mine was.  The other mom and I got together and came up with a plan.  We each got our child to tell us why the other child was having so much trouble.\n\nTurned out there was another child in the class bullying and intimidating ours so badly that there were days they spent all their time huddled under their desks.  \n\nWhile I still could not get the school to admit to a problem, I did find a sympathetic vice principal who allowed my child access to her office at any time he felt he could not handle being in the class anymore.  \n\nIt wasn't the perfect solution but it got us to the end of that school year and I made sure I had some say in what class he went into the next year.  Things improved after that.  \n\nIf you truly are not having discipline problems at home and the only place there really seems to be a problem is at school, then I would be looking very hard at why there is a problem at school.  Don't take the teacher's word for anything...that teacher may very well be the problem.  Talk to other parents and find out if anyone else is going through something similar to what you are.  Make sure your child understands that you know there is a problem and you are doing your best to help.  Let him know he has you on his side.  \n\nGood luck.  Sure would like to know the outcome of this one.
715366
If he signed an age of consent the teacher is correct.  You could talk to the ones in charge maybe they will tell you something since he does live with you but they really are not suppose to.  He should be willing to tell you since you do so much for him.  If he wants to be treated like an adult then he should act like one and talk to you about things. You do love him take care of him and pay for everything for him.  He needs to grow up and act like an adult.  Tell him if he wants to be an adult and take charge of his life he needs to be responsiable. Then present him will a bill for his car, insurance, clothes etc...   and see what he says.   Good luck!!!
214540
I would say hold them back. First of all what will it accomplish letting them go ahead. They will just have problems in the next grade. That will just lower their self esteem. It also gives them the impression that even if they don't try they will still make it through..Whats the point in that? If you are going to do that just hand them a diploma, and welfare for the rest of their lives.
426615
I teach middle school spec. ed. and I have seen many home-schooled kids and talked to alot of parents who home-schooled both regular and special ed.   Kindergarden is not the time to home school.  At this age they really need to be around other kiddos for socialization.  If you really want to home school your child (and I know of several kids who totally excelled when home schooled) wait until 2nd or 3rd grade and then still make arrangements with the school to let your child attend art, music, p.e. etc. so they can be with other kids and learn how to deal with the complexities of human relationships.
177157
I would talk to the principle and ask her/him to have your locker switched.  Just avoid the jerk!  It's makes no sense to comfront him with a teacher, because it usually makes matters worse.  You don't want him or his friends to call you names like, "tattle-tale" or "snitch".  Boys can be really cruel and immature.  Best to just get away from him.
1159841
I'm sorry you are having a tough time.  You probably are not teaching very much since both you and the other children are being so distracted.  Just tell yourself that this is affecting everyone, and it is okay to just STOP teaching if you have to, in order to deal with this situation.  You might even have to go back to the beginning and re-establish your role, the rules and consequences.  Pretend it's the first day of school again.  \nHere are some general ideas that have helped me:  \n\n1.  Find out what they want and take it away:  \n\nDo they thrive on attention from you?  Don't give them any.  When you have to discipline, be as calm and discreet as possible.  \n\nDo they thrive on attention from each other?  Separate them.  See if your director or another teacher can take a child when he is particularly unruly.  Then AS SOON as you see a negative behavior--remove them from the classroom.  \n\nDo they want control?  Give them choices that YOU can live with.  For example, if they use a bad word, say, "Do you want to say that again using nicer words, or do you want to sit by yourself?  (If they won't sit by themselves, unsupervised, don't give them that choice.  Maybe they could go sit with another teacher instead.)  \n\n2.  Make sure they understand what will happen if they misbehave.  Give them predictable consequences.  For example, when they make a mess, don't let them do anything until it is cleaned up.  You might have to go to extremes to let them know that you are serious.  If it is outside time, have your director or someone else sit with them in the classroom while they clean up instead of going outside.  If it is time to go home, leave the mess and make them clean it up the next day, first thing.    \n   \n3.  Just remember that you cannot control what these children do.  Only they can control their behaviors.  Your job is to set it up so that they WANT to behave nicely.  Make life miserable for them if they are bad, and glorious if they behave.  \n\n4.  Be as predictable and as consistant as possible.  Once you know they understand the consequences, don't let them get away with anything!  The phrase, "If you do that again..." should never leave your mouth.  Get them on their first offense.  \n\n5.  Hang in there!  It may seem like an overwhelming challenge right now, but it will get better little by little.  Take it one day at a time--even one situation at a time!  Remember they have to re-learn what to expect in your classroom.  Focus on the most distracting or dangerous behaviors first (like hitting or running away from you).  Take time to think about what your consequence will be and then just wait for it to happen.  They'll learn.  \n\nGOOD LUCK!
298542
hi Karon.....  my advice......find out who the lad  is, then go up to him and  introduce yourself as such snd such's mum and  you  heard  that he liked  younger  children to play  with....suggests  that  he  goes  and plays with lads of his  own age or  you'll come and  speak to him again....speak to him in a  way thats  slightly intimidating ...dont issue direct threats as he will play on this...  but  do it in such a  way that he'll suss  what  you mean ...if  he  plays  up  with your nice chat, then invite him round to your  house where he  can play nicely ....  failing  that .....  go  and speak to  your lads teacher ( i take it this is  happening  in and around  school) and  say  you want something done  about  it.... if that doesnt work ...  make an appointment  to see the head  and ask for the schools anti bullying policy to be explained and then  explain about whats happening to your  son .. ....  if  all this  fails to  produce results  in a  couple  of  weeks ... take  it  to the local education authority .\ngood  luck
1134293
Talk to your teacher after class and let them know that this boy bothers you and you would really like to have your seat moved.  Tell your teacher that he is distracting you from doing your best in class.  Hopefully your teacher will understand, but if he/she won't change your seat, you could always talk to the principle or have your parents talk to the teacher.  Good luck!