My friend tells me that the woman I am dating wants me to be more touchy feely,past first base,suggestions?
486509
Why not keep it simple?...Just come right out and ask her yourself.Never mind what your friends say.
630674
I dun wish to be in your position...but if I were you, I would speak to the first abt my feelings and tell her that while I really appreciate all she has done for me, it would be great if she can be a little tactful...tell her she hurts your feelings sometimes, and remember to tell her how much her advices and thinking have help you a lot! \n\nAs for the second...seek her advice when you think you need it. She might be waitin for you to ask...but too shy to tell you her opinion without you asking...=)
101827
Just ask her!  If you're not convinced with her answer, don't press the issue.  Ask for ways for you to improve her experience.  If she's worried about your feelings, that will give her the opportunity to 'help you along' without embarassment.  Real men appreciate any advice from their lady- so the fact that she offers it- does NOT mean you've been doing it wrong.  And remember, you're not born a great lover, you BECOME a great lover- take any advice graciously.
859679
Hi!..excuse me...are you new around?or if you touch her..Pls excuse me:did I hurt you? try not to be tensed.Be yourself..and words will come naturaly from your own soul.
189764
rainyday and sailor diva have the right idea.  I think from knowing someone like this that she just wants to feel good about herself so she "brags" about things that aren't really reality.  As long as she isn't being hurtful to you, and you are her friend, I say just let her.  Smile and say great and change the subject.  She will probably out grow this when she actually feels good about herself in a relationship.
580775
Really good, old fashioned manners. Help her with her coat, pull chair out, pour her wine first etc etc. Early in my dating with the man who is now my husband, we were out in the rain and when we got to the car he walked to the passenger side with me and held the umbrella over me while I got in. My ex-boyfriend before him wouldn’t have thought to do something like that! – it’s a little thing but I’ve never forgotten it and it summed up how he cared for me.\n\nOn top of that, just listen to her, don’t brag (even if you have terrific achievements – she’ll be more impressed if she has to dig them out of you!)\n\nOh re kissing, soft 'movie star' kisses while you touch her face. No tongue thrusting or lunging for a boob!\n\nGood luck!\n\nRe your added info - if you bring her anything it should be 1 flower or something whimsical (interesting book you just found in a 2nd hand bookshop..something it looks like you saw and thought of her, not taken ages choosing) Def not a huge bouquet or something she might be allergic to or have to spend all night lugging around... Re smell - soap better than cologne by far, she should only smell you when she's close...
717052
No you are too much of a lady for that.  Also you need to think about who you consider your friends.  No bitch is going to be telling your man that she likes him and calls herself your friend.  Basically cut her loose.
500044
Probably some teasing, but I'd also say that she's so comfortable wit you from the way things were before that she's not quite used to the change, even is she knows that its over. \n\nDon't indulge in her games though. If it gets too much, just talk to her about it. She won't have any excuse then, whatever her motives.\n\nx
12452
You mentioned many good things to not only impress a woman but to keep her satisfied materialistically. However, in my experience, when a woman says that you don't care about her feelings that usually means she feels that you don't listen to or try to help her with her problems or you don't ask for or respect her opinions. Both of these will require you to work on your listening skills. In the case of her problems she may only require someone to listen to her, if you have any advice, guidance or help to give then by all means give it. If not, then let her know that you will be there for her if she needs something from you. In the case of her opinions not only will you have to ask for them but also do what she wants to do, even when you don't want to.\nGifts, trips, dates, these are all things that all women want, but they are far from ways that show that you care. Listening, offering your service, and respecting her opinion are but some of the ways to show a woman that you care about her feelings.
705036
I have reservations when you say you have "feelings" for this lady? I wonder are these feeling recipricated? Are you getting clear signs that she has feelings for you or are these feelings of yours entirely related to unmet needs of your own? This situation can go one of three ways.....\n(a) If she has feeling for you and is consciously sending out these signals then the relationship may develop into something more.\n(b) If these feeling you have are a result of unmet needs of your own then it is a very dangerous situation and your friendship may be doomed (should you try to take things further).\n(c) If (a) is the case then the relationship may develop but I doubt it will be a sincere and lasting parnership. Why? Because she has only recently committed to a life with someone else. If she is willing to sacrifice that relationship already then she is either selfish or very immature (probably both).\nSorry, just my thoughts.\nMichael
919824
Um.. Yes, this is weird, but maybe you should try and act nonchalant about it. Maybe she is trying to give you a hint that you are too clingy. Back off a bit bro. Don't be so over aggressive, like "OH MY CRAP WHERE DID YOU GO!!" Every 5 min.
441335
I can see where you're coming from...and I feel your thoughts.It's perfectly normal & quite fine to have those type of emotions for her.Although,to act on those feelings may "loose her trust" as you say.Also,she may begin to feel uncomfortable around you causing her to clam up.On the other hand,if she has any feelings or interest in you,that would be different...but still,there's always a possibility that a closer relationship may lead to the other baggage that turns relationships sour,and in return may cause you both to lose concentration and possibly unwanted publicity .Eight yrs. apart isn't bad,especially if she is in her mid to late twenties on up.However,if she is still young,give her some time to develop into a more mature lady(one that truly makes her own decisions).It's not a good idea to seek a girl that always asks her friends "hey what do you think?".My advice for this situation would be let her come to you...she may/may not.Be the professional you are and just hold back my man...good luck.
559490
Just use 2 fingers and feel around...believe me a woman will tell you by her body movement what she likes...
197786
It sounds like you've spent enough time trying to figure out if something can happen or not.\nSo I'd leave it and be open to something new.  If you're going to do that make sure you either tell him not to touch/hug you any more or you make it clear that you just want to be friends/work colleagues and nothing more.  Don't give out mixed messages and he'll get the point - he may be as confused by your actions, but you don't say what you do when he is 'all over you'.\nIf after this he says he does want to be with you seriously, maybe give ahim acouple of weeks to prove it by acting like an adult, otherwise forget it.  He sounds a bit childish, but his actions may also be affected by your own.\n\nGood luck!!
1019288
Do you mean she "just wants to have fun" Dude I have been there, don't take it the wrong way, she may be a little scared of getting hurt and wants to take it slow. I think it is their way of saying it. Just like us "whats the matter" our reply "nothin" Enjoy the time with her and believe that she loves you and everything will be O.K. Don't push the issue or it will get ugly, trust me, have fun, and you will get what you want in time.
1084757
if she acting like she don't care don't waste your time on it. she is probably trying to hurt you and giving her the upper hand. just take somtime she'll come around don't sweat her cause thats what she wants you to do. take care of you.
323017
Leave it alone. She knows what she wants obviously and it's not you. That's not to hurt your feelings, it's just being real with yourself.