Why do my boyfriend think its ok for him to go to a party but I cant go to my cousin crib when boys are their?
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Tell him he has to trust you. Without trust theirs nothing. If you can trust him then he should be able to trust you. Don't let him treat you unfairly.
1039186
That is really awful! Wow. I have only heard of such inconsiderateness once before. \n\nMy cousin got married maybe 15 years ago and my fiance wasnt allowed to go either. I was supposed to be in her wedding but I declined. I went to the ceremony, stayed for dinner and then had my fiance pick me up. I couldnt believe how rude that was of her! And my fiance and I were living together at the time, too!\n\nAll I can tell you is that you should really ask for an exception to be made. Tell them how much it would mean to you to have your boyfriend there. After all, some people never get married and are happily together forever. So, I dont think that the piece of paper (or ring in the case of being engaged) should have any bearing on whether your boyfriend is invited. \n\nYou could offer to pay for his dinner, if money is what they are concerned about. \n\nI would have done the same thing that you did. It is so highly rude and unjustified for your boyfriend to not have been invited. I cant believe the nerve of some people. It makes me so angry just thinking about them doing that to you! Ugh! I would have declined the invitation also. If nothing else, it's out of respect for your boyfriend! \n\nBottom line is, do what you feel is right. You will get a whole myriad of answers here covering all options. Only you know what's right for you. But once you have made up your mind, stand firm! Dont let other family members tell you that you are wrong. You are not the one who was wrong here!
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First of all, if he's your cousin you should NOT have ANYTHING sexual between you.\n\nSecondly, he has no business hitting on you when he's in a relationship with the mother of his daughter. This shows that he is unreliable and dishonest.\n\nBy the way, they're aren't 'married'.     'They ain't marry' doesn't make any sense in any language.
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Tell him you want to meet the brother and his girlfriend first, maybe at a dinner. Or better make some plans that would have you and your boyfriend around them  most of the day on a Saturday.  That way you can get to know them better and hopefully tell if you would feel comfortable with them out of town.  But just going  away with people you don't know, sounds like trouble.
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Some of these people are obviously too stupid to understand the question....which is perfectly clear to me.  You are saying that you AND your boyfriend don't like this girl.  Well, your boyfriend shouldn't have to spend HIS birthday with someone HE doesn't like.\n\nSince, you say that this girl knows that you guys don't like her(and that would mean the friend knows that, too) I would cancel plans anytime he invites her without your permission.  Maybe, he will get the hint.  That way you don't have to come out and say it but still get your point across.\n\nIf she(and he, obviously) knows you don't like her, then he shouldn't have been so rude as to invite her to hang out with your boyfriend on his birthday.  So, be just as rude and cancel.\n\nWhy would she want to hang out with people that don't like her, anyway?  That doesn't even make sense.
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I think that you might have pressured him a bit too much, my friends like to pressure me into going places that I didnt really want to go because my parents were against it. It was really stressful and annoying, your boyfriend is probably pretty torn right now, because if he stays he hurts you, if he goes he hurts his mother. And dont write " so  that my BF could spend thanksgiving with his mommy..awwwww..." that makes it seem as if there is something WRONG with that. You obviously dont understand a mother's feelings. Anyway, thats just my opinion. Also, you said that your father changed the vacation dates for him, well maybe he should have done that AFTER he figures out if he was going or not. And well, wether you should just let him stay or go. Just ask him what he REALLY REALLY wants to do, ask him to be totally honest with you. Also, there are plenty of times that he can meet your family, what about Christmas?( I do not know your religion, but its just an example) Hope this helps, good luck! ^_^
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Well, girls tend to see parties as places to socialize in general, while single guys tend to see parties as places to pick up girls. Usually when a faithful guy is in a relationship, he just sees a party as a place to hang out with his friends. However, he knows that all the single guys in the place are going to be looking for girls, and he would probably feel a little more uncomfortable bringing you into the sort of environment where he knows he may have competition. It's unreasonable, I know, but it's the truth. If you ever do go to a party with him, just stay really close to him, if other guys hit on you, let them know immediately that you're with your boyfriend (don't say that they're just trying to be nice, your bf knows better), and certainly don't dance with other guys.\n\nThat's just one case, though. It's also likely that he's totally secure with your relationship and just wants a place to act like a dude.
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I am in that situation too. I really want to meet my boyfriend's family too and don't want to be too pushy. I know that he doesn't want me to yet and don't know why. I would say maybe he feels that he is not ready for this step yet. He wants us to know more about each other first and then meet our families.
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It is really difficult to understand exactly what you are asking.  Do you mean the cousins won't talk to each other?  And how do you fit in?  Sounds like something you should just stay out of.
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I think you should run as fast as you can from this guy. He is your cousin's boyfriend and hes using you for sex  if he loved you he would break off with your cousin and not keep you on the side. You will cause a lot of family problems if you stay with him first your cousin will hate, you then both your parents with get involved. Find a nice guy who is only interested in you and you totally. You wont have to sneak around behind every ones back and you will feel a lot happier. Bump the jerk and so should your cousin........
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Either he's commitment-phobic or else he expects you to remember what he said about loving you a zillion lightyears ago. Either way, he needs to take responsibility and let you know where you both stand. It looks to me like he's taking the easy way out by having you around but not giving your relationship a name. I've been in something like this. It's not worth it. Unless he's younger than 17, tell him games are for little boys, not men wanting babies and their mama.\nGood luck!
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Your have legitimate fears, and there is no reason you should have to live in fear, or be responsible for three drunks.  First, you must eliminate them one by one....Don't invite your boyfriend over as often. He should have more respect for you and your feelings.  Then,  have your mom tell your older cousin to stay at his house more often.  Then maybe your older brother won't have the desire to drink alone and climb poles!   You and your little sister have the right to feel safe in your own home!\nGood luck to ya!
877963
Honey, you are way too young to have a boyfriend.  And you are way too young to be discussing with another boy if you are going to have HIS kids.  I would break it off with him gently and say you are way too young to be in a relationship with someone.  That is the truth.  If he is scaring you and makes you feel uncomfortable then you should stay away from him.
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If you love him got back out with him. What you could do is avoid going to you boyfriend's mum house for the time being. Maybe in time she will notice and see how much you love her son. Then it will be an opportunity for her to change her ways. Some women can be protective over their 'little boys'.
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Its very possible that your boyfriend doesn't want another child at this time and is happy with the current situation.  Truth be told, unless you want to leave your boyfriend and form a relationship with another man, I don't think pursuing a baby with him is a good idea now.  If he is avoiding the baby discussion, then I think you know how he probably feels about it.  If he WANTED another child, I think he would be initiating the dialogue with you.  I would not give any weight to the fact that your cousins have more kids than you do or that you daughter is an only child.  Having a baby to give your first child a friend is a poor reason to get pregnant.  You have to do what is right for your family unit and your situation.  So are your feelings based on envy or the biological clock?  Its very likely that they are, but this is one decision that SHOULDN'T be made on emotion.  The question you may have to ask yourself is whether ahaving nother child is worth losing your boyfriend over.
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I could write on book on this, but I'll try to keep it short.  First, try to follow his request and let him make the first move.  If he doesn't make a move in a week then I'd say there's something wrong with the relationship.  My first guess is that moving in together has caused some problems. By moving in together, he may have learned some things about you that he doesn't like.  It could be that you're messy or your just getting way too much into his business he now misses the privacy he once enjoyed.  You should ask him if there's anything that you do that gets on his nerves and watch his reaction.  If he needs his privacy back, then let him hang out with the boys once a week and don't set a curfew because that will just piss him off even more.  If he wants to stay out late then just tell him to sleep on the sofa.  Good luck...
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Like you said babe, you're more than worthy. Its HIS family and thats it. Not everyone is going to get on, but like you said, you and your boyfriend are strong. Ignore it, Ignore how they make you feel babe. Its probably jealousy on their part. I wouldn't let them see they upset you, you're better than that. After the reception, just keep your distance. Your friends will be there for you, so just make sure you have a good time. Don't let people like that grind you down babe. Good Luck x x x