Is being aggresive toward people sometimes a bad thing?
492806
I like a certain amount of aggression. It shows she knows what she wants, and is willing to go after it. Too much hiowever, is a turn-off. For instance, if I say no thanks, no thanks is what I mean! Don't push it! Use it to your advantage, and it will work for you.
703157
On occasion, yeah, I take things personally and it feels like the whole world is out to crush me.\n\nBut....usually, that isn't the case, because I have enough perspective to realize it isn't just me, that society in general just hates on *people like me*.  That if you are "blessed" with being both dirt poor[1] *and* plain-looking at the same time, a lot of folks *will* grief on you and give you crap just on general principle.\n\nIt happens.  Not a whole lot to do about it when people won't *let me* [2] do more to solve the problem.  It gets complicated [3].  Trust me.  :)  Hence the footnotes.\n\nHope this helps and have a good one!  :)
195197
People have become depersonalized in a modern world.There is a lack of accountability. We no longer live in small communities that we have to have good relations to survive. If 150 years ago you were rude to the people you interact with, you may not get your harvest sold at a decent price, or the neighbors to help till you fields should you fall sick. These days many are estranged from family.Extended family has always served as a system  of support as well as discipline. Aunts,Uncles and grandparents would step in as surrogate parents should they see even a distant relation misbehaving.People are also weary, I think , and in the hurried pace of life, do not see what being kind will DO for them.Unfortunately, thinking of yourself first has been promoted for years now and rudeness is a side effect.IMO, If everyone calmly and non judgementally said ," You may not realize it, but you were just unnecessarily rude" people may reflect and change their own behavior. Then again, you may get the finger!
816437
Yeah.  Fortunately for me, I never lose sleep over folks like that...they usually tell on themselves over a bit of time.  People discover how mean they are and then drop them like a bad habit.  It's their problem, not yours, so don't worry about it.  Time has a way of righting all the wrongs.
565513
I think we all do it.  The question is: how do we respond when someone does it to us?  If we respond in kind (get pissy or huffy or rude) it just fuels the fire.  If we could just understand the power of realizing that when we treat people who are nasty to us (for whatever reason) with a little kindness and compassion, they will usually show a whole different side of themselves.  We all seem to have hair trigger tempers these days and ugliness begets ugliness.
622512
I'm not sure you're giving yourself enough credit. There will always be people that we find difficult to tolerate. It's hard not to put up a wall from them. But, on the flip side, you are not antagonizing them, which many people do. And, you are showing much more tolerance and grace than you maybe realize, just by asking this question. Most people wouldn't even care!!
499964
no way. lol, i'll be honest. i consider myself a pretty mellow guy, and i'm usually the type to try and make a deflectionary comment rather than an insult. but if it gets bad enough, i'm gonna start saying stuff, and it comes out fast and is usually accompanied by me setting my shoulders and clenching my fists. lol, i hate to get that way, but i'm not perfect.
988931
Yeah, lots but I just stand my ground and just give the best I got back. I played soccer yeaterday and its like a competitive sport and I tackled the guy for the ball and he called me a dick. And i just said yeah okay prick now we are equals. But yeah it happens lots of times. Just don't shy away and show your afraid, stand up for yourself but don't fight. I'm not a fighter and I would say that. Just be smart about things like that and beat ppl with your brain.
1059800
I think the reason why people harass is because they feel insecure about themselves. Or they were brought up to treat others badly.
484069
because they're more aggresive then man!?
361378
It depends on the relationship I have with the person.  If they are family, I just get nasty with them and don't pull any punches.  (and I can strip someone with my tongue very easily)  If they are an acquaintance, I just ignore them.  In my situation, this is the worst possible insult they can receive as most folks around me like being in my company.  I let the person see me looking great, laughing (could be about them or not) and generally having a great time.  I'm like you, I prefer not to swear, as it shows poor manners, so sometimes my revenge is more a mental discipline then a verbal one.
884767
ABSOLUTELY. Often, people fight about petty issues, just to air their other issues. When someone's complaining about stuff all the time, they are obviously unhappy in general. If you get into an arguement, or verbal fight, ask the other person to stick to the subject. I've done that, and it usually makes the "fighter" back down, and re-think their gripes.
1106350
nope.  i dont dislike any specific group of people, to me it all comes down to the individual.  there are jerks in every racial, religious or ethnic group, but a few jerks doesn't make the whole group bad.
1082065
Take stuff on here "with a grain of salt" as we say where I live ... some people will be rude and others will get upset when they are rude ... it is just Q and A from total strangers ... not exactly of earth shaking importance in the overall scheme of things ... don't let it get to you ...
332001
People are too scared to tell you how they feel to your face.  I get talked about behind my back but I also have a problem with saying things about others.  I always thought it was human nature, though not okay to do so.  I don't like doing it, and I am trying to stop, but I just find that I am a cynic and I just have trouble telling people what I really think of them to avoid confrontation.  So, I say it to someone else.  I definitely don't think it's okay, I never have, but old habits are hard to break.  I know that it is wrong...judge not lest thee be judged, but it is hard to change, right?
988206
Not necessarily.\n\nI am not a big confronter, but I have boundaries and when crossed I let others know they have crossed them.  It has been my experience (In a 20+ yr. Christian walk) that example is the offense.  People know.  Thye can choose to ignore, but not confronting them does not make me a coward.
578090
Well, if you are one you may not be respected and if you are the other you may not be liked. An extreme of either would be a bad label.