i've been single for 2 and a half yrs help?
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Put yourself out there more. We can often get hurt but if you don't try NOTHING will happen.\n\nTake care of yourself, get dressed up nicely, do your hair nicely, get a tan! WORK OUT.\n\nAsk yourself the question:\n"If I was a boy and I saw me on the beach, would I be inclined to talk to me?"\nIf the answer is no, then things have got to change!
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I'm 41 single the past 7months and absolutely terrified of what life holds for me. I get your point about thinking single. Its not a "woman thing" or "man thing". I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone but I'm terrified of another relationship and going through it all again. Though my ex doesn't seem to have that problem. I was replaced after 2.5months. I don't think I know how to think single anymore and being a mum makes it harder because you cannot think of yourself. So yeah I know exactly what your saying.
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As time goes on you will heal, don't let the thought of a man bring you down, remember this to shall pass. You had a decision to make and you made it, good for you, you left before it got any worse. Give yourself enough time to realize what you really want out of life, when the time comes and the right person comes along you will just know that you did the right thing. Right now your just looking for a rebound b/c your not used to being alone anymore, try it you just might find out that you like it that way.Good Luck.
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You should stay single for at least a month to recover. I don't think bumping to another relationship is the best way to recover. You need to find yourself first or else you might fall into another bad relationship.
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Well,\n\nI didnt have a bf for a long time and now I met a great person, even though we have our ups and downs.\n\nBest thing I can tell you is: Stay real and true to yourself until the right person crosses your path. Do things that interest you. More than likely, the right person will meet you among those interests. So take care of yourself first and dont worry too much about getting a man right away. Set a list of goals and follow your dreams, you will meet him in due time.\n\nD
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While it is to easy to succumb to the emotional anguish that is consuming you at this early stage you must put a few bricks up to get through it. Do not drive yourself insane with analizing the last five years. Enlist a support group, best friends, family etc. Go out to the movies, nothing romantic, just a good comedy, horror, action you get the point. Invite some friends over for a dinner party or skip the dinner and just party. Ask each of them to bring a new friend, someone you've never met. Meeting new people is a stimulant. Involve yourself in your favorite activities or hobbies to keep your mind occupied. Submerse yourself in some great books. Pamper yourself a little go on a shopping trip, but something fun and frivolous. Keeping busy is the best thing. Of course the nights will be the roughest. Go ahead and allow yourself to think about her if she comes to mind while you are trying to drift off to sleep. It is part of the healing process. Cry if need be, tears are the cleansing of our soul. Eventually the sorrow will subside. While I think it is important to surround yourself with good friends and meet new people just don't hook up with anyone. Five years is a long time to be with someone, you'll need to take a good year being single to rediscover who you are before enerting the dating game. Have fun, and remember it's ok to have your ups and downs. You'll be fine and who knows in the near future you may come to think the break up was a good thing, usually when one door closes it's because another is getting ready to open. Old cliche I know but it is so true.
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Go out with your girl friends, do whatever girl stuff you want to, and be glad you don't have a boyfriend you have to impress by pretending to be something or somebody you aren't. See a chick flick, get a manicure/facial etc., go to a club and flirt with whoever you want to because you're single!!!\n\nBeing married is great, but being single can be fun while you're there if you make it!!
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Even though I'm a guy, I have been where you are before.  My ex always dangled that possibility that we might get together thing out there.  Unfortunately being the person who got left you feel like if there is a posiblity then you should keep your life on hold just in case.  Two years is too long to have to keep your life on hold for someone who has left you and cheated on you.  It is past time for you to get your life back and to seek out happiness once again.  Step one though should be filing for divorce.  I recomend this before you date anyone because in some states it can make a difference in the settlement still.  If you so much as date someone even though he is the one who cheated first and left they will still see you as equally cheating even though you waited two years.  Beyond that concern though you have every right and duty to yourself to move on and be happy.  Get divorced and find a guy who really loves you and deserves your love.
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You need to get out and do more and start mingling with people maybe you will meet someone that you really like. Love takes time and you need to wait for the right one to come along before you decide to settle down. Dont get down about being single just have fun and get out there and meet people.
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Hi - seems you hit the lonely spot - you are looking at it the wrong way. You already have a life partner - you. Now for companion that's another story.\nLearn to enjoy yourself by yourself - once you are comfortable with yourself - you'll emit attractiveness and someone is out there looking for you!
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my best advice would be to just go out on a date...it doesn't have to be with someone you're attracted to if that's easier...maybe a male friend...someone you know will me nice to you...so you can see how it should be.  Maybe meeting someone someplace like church would help...or a group in your area for people who've had abuse in their lives.
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First, you need to make sure that she is not under the impression that there is any chance you guys could get back together. Remember you broke up for a reason and if it was a stupid one than maybe you should reconsider the relationship. Another thing you need to be careful of is that fact that she may be very unstable if after 2 yrs she is still crying over your separation. By now she should of moved on at least a little bit. I'm not saying that she should be with someone and madly in love. I am saying that she should of by now, come to the realization that there is nothing more there. Another problem may be if she hasn't seen you move on, this may fuel the flame sort of speak. If she sees the fact that you are single and not looking she may think that you are just waiting for the right time to get back together with her. Hopefully this helps......
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When you find the answer let me know. Im sick and tired of being single, and I cant figure out how to change it......so Good Luck, you are not alone!
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single to long wants to have relationship
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about 25+ after a 2-3 year relationship
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The main thing you have to do is to get out of the house, and go where there are lots of people. Many will be single, and in your city, there should be clubs, and other organizations for single people. I love to go to outdoor concerts myself, and meet tons of singles there. Good men are often at the ball parks, libraries, and other men-type activities. Smile a lot, and dress nicely. Don't be afraid to look, and flirt a little. Use what you've got! Good Luck!!
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b/c u were once content/comfortable with ur situation and u don't like change.  but that's part of life, if u don't take that chance then u will never know the outcome.  plus ur heartbroken and it scares u b/c u don't want to go through it again, and u're thinking 2 urself is this going to happen again?! U said u've never been single, there's a first time for everything.  word of advice --- quit looking for someone (enjoy time to urself/w/friends), let that someone find u. cause sometimes if ur not looking 4 love its looking for u. and don't be so negative @ moving on. good luck