How do I overcome being an INTROVERT?
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I know how you feel. I used be like that too. I used to hate getting into conversations with people and I would blush and get so nervous!\n\nI still get like that a bit nowadays, but now way near as bad. It never goes, you just learn to deal with it and learn to accept it.\n\nDo you have any hobbies? Such as going to Martial arts lessons, or dancing classes, etc? You will find that going to these places will really help your confidence and also you will get to meet new people - people in the same situation as you; a beginner in the class, a bit nervous - and so you have common grounding and have something you can both talk about.\n\nRemember that you are not alone with this problem. There are hundreds and thousands of people out there just like you! It's just that they are too shy and nervous to approach people just like you, so you never get to meet them... think about it!\n\nAnd the friend thing, don't worry about that. I can count the number of true friends on 3 of my fingers - anyone who says they have loads of friends, they are lying. You may have acquaintances and 'mates' but true friends are very hard to come by.\n\nYou must also learn to enjoy your own company. Learn to love yourself, and you will feel happier inside. The friends will come naturally, you can't force friendships!!!\n\nGood Luck.\n\nJulie
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Odd way to put it.  Most people use the term "solitude" when they prefer to be alone.\n\nYou get rid of it by going out of your own home, into the public places where there are other people.  Don't expect people to come to you, because unless you explicitly invite them, and they want to see you, they won't.  Go to the library or a bookstore, to a coffee house, to a club or social activity of any kind.  It really does not matter where, unless you are an alcoholic, in which case stay out of bars.  Be friendly and polite, and say hello to people.  After that, it is the nature of the feedback that will guide you.\n\nGood luck!
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Overcoming shyness is not easy, but can be done. I used to be really shy too, but I started hanging around people who were outgoing then myself and I started noticing the positive attention they gained by being outgoing. I just worked on walking up to people and introducing myself and I learned that if I want something I should ask, the worse someone can ever say is NO. \nPractice makes perfect, the more you do it, the easier it gets. :D\nI now have lots of nice friends and I have been out on a lot dates. :)\n\nOh and as far as getting a boy to notice you. Don't overcome your shyness just for that. :) \n\nThe best way to get someone to notice you is just by being yourself. :)\nGo up to him, start off with a simple hello. :) Introduce yourself. \nLittle by little and believe me, it will take a snowball effect, before you know it, you just may have yourself a nice friend,if not, well, there are many others out there. :D\n\nHope it helped good luck
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First of all you need to work on improving your perception of yourself. Get a higher self esteem. Then you could try reading newspapers, magazines, books, and watching documentaries on TV. So, maybe next time the conversation is about space travel or the life of the blue whales, you will be able to participate.\n\nAlso, you may just be too shy. So, try to speak or even make questions during a conversation.
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Pick out a single person in your audience or classroom and look into their eyes, as if that one person is the only one you're talking to.\n\nThen, just move your eyes around the room as if you were talking to EVERYONE BUT YOU'RE NOT.\n\nPretend it's just you and your friend talking and HE is just LISTENING!\n\nThat's what I used to do and it worked great for me.  Maybe it will work for you!  Try it and see!\n\nAlso it's important to have fun with it and enjoy it!\nSaying something funny always helps break the tention.  I used to do that all the time.\n\nTry it!...AND.....TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND ENJOY HAVING CONTROL OF THE ROOM!
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Be yourself! {Please dont lie} Good grief! Think of someting funny to talk about! I dont know _Maybe you need new friends dude! Relax , be that person down deep just wanting to get out ! You have your entire life ahead of you ! Slow Down! BE real! RELAX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111
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Hi LittleLisa,\n  Being shy is a good thing, but if your too shy and have difficulties making friends, may I suggest you take a acting, speaking or singing class, either at school or afterschool. It will be a little hard at first, but as each day goes by you will become less and less shy. Before you know it you will be chatting up a storm with everyone and anyone. Hopefully not to the point where people are saying, "Oh shut up Lisa." Go get'em Lisa.
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You need to gain confidence in yourself, for one. Learn to be alone, and not lonely. If you can appreciate yourself as company, others will as well. Go places where you will meet people with similar interests, and you'll meet women who will be interested in you.
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Just relax and be yourself. But more important, if you want to learn to talk, you have to first learn how to listen...
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Try to strike up conversation at work with people, even if you don't think you have anything in common with them.  You never know what anyone is really like, and people who don't know you will take shyness as being aloof.  Be sure to make plenty of phone calls and write letters to those who you do know, no matter how far.  Explore and enjoy your new surroundings, and sooner than you think, they won't be so foreign and looming.
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My suggestion to you is tht take part in activities,being lonely & just thinking abt it will not help u in anyway so make frnds or if u have c tht u meet them daily for somtime go for gym or look out for job or activity tht keeps u busy all the day.Try to b active go for morning walks or play interesting game or u have sister sit down with her & discuss this she also may b in a state to help u to deal with it. U r not deep in relation with people tht is not a justified reason for u to b depress . try to understand tht there is time & situation for every thing to happen u will get things but b bold to face everything
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Great communicators/conversationists know how to ask questions and LISTEN with interest to the answers. If you are quiet by nature, you are ahead of the game, unlikely to be inclined to blubber idiotically. Stop trying to overcome your 'shyness' and stop worrying about what YOU have to say. It's the fear of being rejected that trips you up. \n\nLearn to listen. The right words --- the ones 'outgoing' people usually can't utter --- will come when you stop worrying about what YOU have to say and just listen quietly. Try it out and tell me it doesn't change how you view your 'social self.' \n\nGood luck!
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First, make the decision that you are not going to be shy.  Believing that you are shy, or somehow not as worthy as others around you will make you continue to be shy.\n\nSecond, start slowly, by giving yourself an assignment.  Try making small talk to one new person.  Practice at home when you are alone, so you have some things ready to say.\n\nThird, try finding an activity that interests you, so you will meet people with the same interest.  Then you have a topic to start talking about.\n\nThat is how I overcame my shyness.  (It also helped when I turned forty and stopped caring what other people thought about me!)
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just slowy open up to the ppl. u love. ur close friends or friends that when ur alone w/them u guys hang out how is ur action to them do the same to others. dont be shy just think it wont help if u r shy right. be urself and open up to everyone not just the guy u like
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Well, it's really a tricky question and should not be taken literally.  Every person has a core personality that has been there since birth and moulded by external influences while growing up.  One can be an introvert or an extrovert, one who likes music and dancing and one who has two left feet and tone deaf.  Some of these personal qualities remain constant but can be tempered or maybe improved through personality development or by constantly looking for ways to become a better person.  Being yourself does not mean becoming lazy and complacent of your lot because the present you is who you really are.  It entails discovering or deciphering what you can change in yourself for the better and accepting what you cannot change(read desiderata).  if you are shy, then find ways to overcome your shyness, be a bit outgoing and don't become a hermit and a loner because you think that is who you are.  On the other hand, if you're lacking in physical attractiveness, then accept it as it is.  You can only change so much.  Look at how Michael Jackson looks now, it's a shame. Being yourself also entails having a sense of self, knowing who you really are, what you can do, sticking to your values and beliefs and not succumbing to peer pressures or demands of a group.  Well, what I can say, is that with the way our society behaves and in this world of extreme materialism and obsession to the physical self and mundane matters, it is not easy to be oneself, probably it is easier living a lie and following the way of the world.  But then again, it all boils down to personal choice and what kind of life you really want to live.  Cheers.
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Hi maybe join group who do things that you are interested in, that way you will meet and become more outgoing as time passes.\n\nI'm sure there are social groups nearby who hold meetings regularly same thing as you get to know ppl then anxieties will slowly fade.\n\nYou are not alone believe me, many others feels same, it's hard to go up and talk but with alittle practice it will become 2nd nature.\nPpl love talking about themselves so that is a good ice breaker to ask what they like to do in general.\nThen it is easier each time plus you meet plenty of different ppl ,but remember you have to give info also, as is not one way street..best of luck cheers..
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You break a introvert with a 2x4!!  Come on! if you dont being around people (or dislike people all together), then why are you so compelled to fall in line with peole that are not like you?  Your confidence has little to do with you wanting to mingle. Trust me, had I a real choice in the matter, I would live so  far in the wilderness that it would take a plane to get to work every day if I had the choice, but its my JOB to interact with people. when the day is done, i want to be left the f... alone!! Take up a hobby that you can do alone yet meet others, like fishing, biking or mountian climbing. \nJoin a Sci fi fan club or RPG group or something. And if you do, make sure its OFFLINE! Stop hiding behind your monitors screen, that'll help a great deal.\n\n There has to be a row of coming of age movies made over the past 50 years that cover the topic of some geeky kid doing all he or she can to mingle with the "in" crowd... rent, look and learn.Dont quit being who you are for the sake of being a part of the crowd.