what do you do when your best guy-friend dump you for your best gurl-friend?
477845
I agree with all of these other people, here, but have you talked to him / them about it?  Maybe he hasn't realized that is what he did, if it was just a lunch date or something.  If you had gotten involved with him romantically, and that is the situation, then there is no mistake, he's a knot-head.  Maybe he'll ralize his mistake one day, but don't let wondering about that issue control your life.  ife life to the fullest, and THEN if he comes crawling back, THINK about MAYBE taking him back.  Forgiveness is always the best course.  However you CAN forgive someone without letting them walk all over you.  Forgiving doesn't mean you have to let him back into your life if you do not fully think you should do so.  I hope this helps, if it does, please choose it as the best answer.  Also, please feel free to message me on Y! messenger as digitalmythology.  I've always been a good listener / councelor, or so I've been told. -dm
292593
its actually betrayal to ur best friend, talk to the guy and then come to a decision and then tell your best friend and.... nooo she'll be mad..tell her that someone else did it with their friend and check her reaction then tell her what happened like after a week if she reacts alright.!!!!!! best of luck
186277
stay with this crazy friend of yours and dont let him do anything stupid, and tell him i said to get over it, move on and find someone better.  Think of it this way, if she was all he had, he has nowhere to go but up.
410041
I think you should ask your best friend and find out how she feels.  It would be wrong to loose a friend over a guy that you are not even sure you like.
771204
Do it right: Tell him and dump him\n\nDo it wrong: Hit on his best friend
455318
don't dump him. if you really like him dont like break up with him cuz of that. okay yeah sometimes its wrong to leave your friends for a guy but when the friends are like "dump him" its just stupid, they are retarded and if you really like him theres no need for you to dump him.
383907
Find a support group. Your close friends, family or your bestfriend. Do things for YOU to make you feel that you don't need him. \n\nI don't know what happened between you two, but what matters most is how to make yourself happy.\n\n If he left, then I don't think he saw the best in you to stay! You deserve better!
420606
I know everyone has told you dump him but your best thing to do is find out why he did it so it wont happened again with an other guy.\nTake a guys point of view we cheat only cause there is something missing ,could be attention or too much of it could be he wants to know if you are the one unless you're like 15 you both have probably had other partners so take it like yeah he cheated but what was the reason and learn from it you may find that you agree with his reason .Then maybe he is just an ass and don't deserve you as for your ex friend she has to be knocked in the head and told the #1 rule in friendship never with your friends boyfriend or girlfriend and never with your friends sister.LOL i know that one from experience.OK take it light and I hope it works out for you .
737826
Well remember, ur friend will always be there for u but guys come and go. If u end up w/him and eventually "u will" break up- odds are. Then what? u don't have him and ur best friend has found another. Let me tell u, I had a very best friend in high sch. and we were inseperable 1 day another friend of mine says;tell her or I will! Sooooo.. my frined say's I F*****-John (my bf) I was heart broken! she almost laughed. She was my best friend!? what the hell? but now he ended up being a loser and she ended up w/3 kids to 3 diff guys and she's w/none. I am married 16 yrs w/2 kids and happy. I know u didn't need to hear my life story but u got it anyway. Chose ur friend! plenty of guys will come along later. Don't b a friend like mine was to me.
740504
Before you do anything, talk to your best friend. You do NOT want to lose your friendship over ANY guy. Maybe you could flip a coin and agree that the winner pursues the guy and the loser backs off. Do this with maturity and everything will be okay. Whoever loses will feel hurt, but at least it will have been done to save the friendship.\n\nOtherwise, if you let your hormones dictate what you do, and you go after him, you risk irreparable damage to your friendship.
393815
I have been in this situation, and it is very hard to deal with, esp if you were into the guy before he got together with your friend!\n\nAll I can say is keep your feelings buried for now - it wouldnt be any good to let either of them in on houw you feel, because that would just ruin your friendships. Who knows, given time you may move on, meet the guy of your dreams and suddenly all feelings for your friend's guy will be out the window (it happened for me!). Otherwise, it may not work out between the two of them, in which case ONCE THE DUST HAS SETTLED (its important to wait until it is well and truly over for both of them, or someone will end up hurt) you will be free to see how he feels about you. \n\nIf you do end up dating him though, make sure your friend is okay with the idea, as I have also been in the position where my ex ended up dating two of my friends - weirdly enough, I was fine about it when he dated my best friend soon after we broke up, in fact I set them up, but by the time he dated the other friend a good while later, it drove me mad seeing them together, and it made me realise I wasn't over him at all (but thats a whole other story!).\n\nThe last thing I will say though - while I repeat it woud be a bad idea to tell either of them about your feelings right now, one thing that really helped me through everything (both being the one with feelings for my friend's guy and seeing my ex date my friends) was having another friend whom I trusted completely and who knew everyone concerned but wasn't part of the group so much. I was able to tell him everything that was going on in my head and getting my feelings out really helped me to get over them - keeping your feelings to yourself with no outlet will not help you move on, it will only intensify them. So tell someone whom you trust not to blab, even if its only your diary!!!\n\nGood luck, and if you need a chat, get in touch any time!\n\nJoji x
955973
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
499946
WELL THE BEST THING FOR YOU TO DO IS LOOK OVER THE OTHER GURL AND STILL TALK TO YOUR BEST FRIEND NEVER MESS UP YOUR FRIENDSHIP BECAUSE SHE IS TALKIN TO ANOTHER GURL MORE THAN YOU GIVE HER SOME SPACE AND YOU TALK TO SOME ONE ELSE THINGS MIGHT WORK OUT BETTER THAT WAY CUZ YOU TWO WILL START TO MISS EACH OTHER AND YOU TWO WILL BECOME BEST FRIENDS AGAIN.
272262
It is so good and loving of you to be so concerned for your friend and want to help her through this difficult time. I think you are a great friend and she is lucky to have you for a friend.\n\nNow, the best thing you can do for her is to listen. Listen while she poors out her hurt and disapointment in the end of this relationship. It is difficult on so many levels to get dumped, especially by somebody who is not her equel and who was mean to her. It is obvious she is suffering from some low self esteem. Prop her up and let her know how wonderfull she is, but do not say anything about the breakup except if she asked you a direct question.\n\nThe best gift we can give our friends is an listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, and without judgement or harsh words about this guy who has hurt her so deeply. If you say anything negitive at this point she will become defensive and not want to be around you. She needs to come to the realization that this was not a good relationship on her own time. She will if she is allowed to express her feelings without getting a lot of "advice" from well meaning friends. If she takes him back she won't forget all the negitive things you said about her "love" and she won't forgive you for saying it either. It makes a person feel that their judgement is being questioned and that friends don't really think she can make good judgements about her own life. Even if it is true that this relationship is not a good one, she needs to realize that in her own time. \n\nIncourage her to go out with you and do some fun activities. Don't try to "fix" her up with anybody yet. She is not ready for that. She needs time to heal from this wound. If you keep listening to her and taking her out for fun activities she will eventually start becoming more involved with her own life and begin to heal. Then she will be more ready to look at differant men as potential dating material and boyfriend material.\n\nIf she continues to make poor choices in who she dates and becomes involved with, then perhaps you should assist her in increasing her feelings of self worth. Tell her what you love and like about her, what streangths she has, her skills you admire. She needs to hear that she is valued and seen in a positive light. \n\nGood luck in helping your friend. I am glad she has a friend like you in her life. She is lucky to have somebody as supportive and loving as you. I wish you happiness and health too. :-)
957897
Leave it alone. NO guy is worth losing a best friend. None. It will probably all blow over eventually and you will later be glad that you didn't do anything.
41101
What do you do? Absolutely nothing. Not a good idea to do anything about it. You could get your a$$ kicked or worse than that, lose your best friend. Will it be worth it? Find a boyfriend of your own.
946428
If your best friend is really your best friend, she wouldn't take him away. I had a friend like that once and it killed me to be around her with guys because I would say I liked someone and then she would instantly like them too. And she would win because I would just give in. There is no point in fighting her on it, especially if she already knows how you feel about him. If she doesn't know, you need to tell her right away. You friend has betrayed you in the most hurtful way if she knows how you feel. You need to sit her down and explain that you like this guy more than she'll ever know and that you have known and liked him longer than she ever will. If she is truly your friend, she will cease to try to steal him away. If she won't stop, you need to find a new friend, a person who won't betray you. And you need to tell the guy. He deserves to make the choice with his true feelings. Tell him that you don't want things to change between you too, so if he doesn't feel the same way, to just forget that you said it, but in time you fell in love with your best  friend and you wonder if he feels the same way about you. Then, you are letting him know how you feel, even if he doesn't feel the same way.