I live with someone but my heart throbs for someone else, I am not married and scared.?
482547
might as well move out now, you will eventually anyway
616737
SOUNDS LIKE A MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN! I FEEL THAT WAY ABOUT MY HUSBAND HE IS ALL THE THINGS YOU DESCRIBED AND MORE....I THINK YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS TRULY BLESSED TO HAVE YOU IN HER LIFE, AND HER KIDS ALSO...I BET THEY LOOK UP TO YOU.....YOU SHOULD PROPOSE TO HER IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY AND SET A DATE AND GET MARRIED AND LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER...SHE BETTER HOLD ON TO YOU...I WOULDN'T WANT TO LET YOU GET AWAY IF I WAS HER...IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE THINGS PRETTY MUCH FIGURED OUT AND I HOPE THE BEST COMES TO YOU ALWAYS....GOOD LUCK!
151130
this is tough. Your only get one soulmate in a lifetime. Both of you though have families. You said you live with your childrens father you didnt say husband or boyfriend so is it that you live together but you are not together? this is really something you and your soulmate need to dicuss if this is how both of you feel. It's a tough thing. You having to choose with taking care of responsibility to your children and he to his wife or do you stay true to your heart and be together  and get through everything together. It is really something both of you have to discuss. Sometimes a person makes a mistake and marries someone they may care for but who isnt their soulmate. So both of you do need to talk and decide what you will choose to do. It is a tough choice but that is also how you know if its meant to be because if this is something you can get through than you know you made it. I wish you the best and may you recieve your hearts desire.
742758
Well, if there isn't anything between them yet, there is no problem. Think about it and reverse the situation, if you were talking with someone in the manner you suggest, how would you feel if another attempted what you are contemplating?
298800
i was in the same situation!!go with your heart.who will make you happier??
430019
there is nothing wrong with you.Love is meant to be like that.Perhaps,possessiveness is the reason.it is normal and it happens with everyone, even i have suffered that and have been suffering.i call such category of people as "emotional fools", ofcourse, including myself......Now that you feel you are suffocating him and that you dont trust him at all, but cannot break it off, ONLY God can help you...so keep begging and praying to God.....you have to decide it by yourself -- to take him as your partner, although you don't trust him (which is dangerous;no doubt it will make ur life miserable)? or to let him go?...if you are sure that he is atleast partially interested in you and if he is single, you can make him urs, by constantly begging for his love..may be for 1yr more....never discourage urself in that case. If u think you want him still, contact me over email...i will to try help you.
125853
Blessings.\n\nMay I answer your question with a questions of my own? First, are you sure that these feelings you have for this new guy (let's name him "Ted" for the sake of easier understanding) are legit (real)? If not, that is part of what I think you should question yourself... along with asking "Ted" if his feelings for you are legit.\n\nSecond, if you are "committed" to someone else (let's name him "Al" for the sake of easier understanding) but these feelings that you have for "Ted" are so overwhelming, why are you in this relationship with "Al"? And if these feelings that "Ted" has for you are so overwhelming, why is he in another supposedly-committed relationship with "Sue"? It would seem, in my opinion, that you would tell "Al" (and "Ted" would tell "Sue") how you truly felt instead of leading him on to believe that this love that you two (you and "Al" -- "Ted" and "Sue") share is being reciprocated when, in fact, it is not.\n\nIt would be wise, I would imagine, to put this situation into perspective. Consider what it is (and who it is) that you truly wish to be with. Think carefully and tread softly for the waters (and feelings) you tread upon can be disturbed. You don't want a typhoon to come ripping apart your life. Trust me, I've been there! God bless!\n\nHope that helped!
930708
I am in a similar situation...dating 5 years, live 3 hours away and just moved back home after living with him for about a year. I know the feeling to miss the other person when you are at home far away but also miss home when you are with him. \nIts a hard decision to make, but I think it is most important to do what makes you happy and take care of yourself. Having your own life and career are great things, and if you are set on staying where you are, it will be up to him to decide where he wants to be. I hope things work out for you no matter what happens.
389987
Be very careful my friend, you could be setting yourself up to be hurt. You may have feelings for this other person, but you need to remember that you "do" have two children to think about. It is belief of many that the truth will set you free, but in this case, it may end in the suffering of the most innocent of all, the kids. Please, consider holding off with this second relationship long enough to realize what you want. I know you want your children in your life, dont jeopardize that for anything. Have a nice day!
974529
Life seems terrible like that sometimes. I think you should face your fears & confront her. Tell he what you feel now & ask her if she feels the same or if there ever will be a chance of that happening. 1 of 2 things will happen if you do that.. yo might get lucky where she accepts your proposal or you may not be lucky where she will reject you. either way you will have a guaranteed answer without a loose end to haunt you for the rest of your life.\n\nIf you dont confront her, you wont know if there was ever a chance or if she simply didn't want to be with you. In this case you will forever be haunted by the questions beginning with 'what if..'.\nFurther more you would have created that pain all on your own from self-pity & disappointment in self pride as a man.\n\n\n...I've said my say now its time for you to do what you think is best for YOU.\n\nAnd finally.. if you do decide not to confront her & you find yourself losing her in time & space. Your only option will be to force yourself to forget her otherwise the pain will eat at you forever. How do you forget? Change your lifestyle & meet new people & create opportunities for yourself to fall in love with someone new.
353798
i moved in with my boyfriend when we were together for about 2 years as well...and were still living together...and we've been together for 5 years now...it brought us closer together...with out a doubt....you just learn a lil more about that person...theres always going to be something that you dont like that they do and they dont like that you do ...but you work around it and work together...i think its a beautiful thing...i enjoy being with him so much...if you love her and enjoy being with her and spending time with her then i say go for it...your not making the wrong decision...it will be an adjustment...but have fun with her...good luck
1062139
as long as someone is not married, anyone is feel to give it a try and who knows you might be the winner. so give it a try and tell the person how you feel, and when it gets out of your chest you will feel fine whether he will give a no answer, but be sure that he will live a space for you to be good friends with him end and you will be happy at least.
96924
You're playing with fire.\nBetter make a choice soon,before one or both find out(I can't believe either one of them would know and accept this situation as it is now)and make a decision for you.
193587
Something similar happened to me and I thought that the other man was the love of my life.I still love and care for him and can't get him out of my system, but I wonder if I would have felt that for anyone who was there for me at that moment,being that I was so needy emotionally.It is a tough thing to deal with and very unfair.I want to tell you go with your heart,but understand that isn't easy sometimes.\ngood luck and I will pray that the universe leads you in the right direction.Be open and honest with yourself and remember you deserve to be happy!
507750
Just move out, did you consider doing so.  What you're about to do might seem nice and hot now, but will you be able to deal with this in the future??? Can you just think of how terrible the consequences might be?  Start thinking of it backwards, if you will be able to deal with this and the possible consequences of this than go right ahead, if not, I suggest you take a real action like moving out, we're all weak and if this is how you feel now than there is a big chance that you both might weaken again one day.
591291
That is a hard question. I myself had the same problem so instead of showing or telling that person how i truly felt i started dating someone else to show him(to mainly show myself) that i could live with out him. Well it backed fired on me. The truth is he had feelings about me too and was to scared to tell me. To make a long story short we don't talk anymore cuz i screwed that up and now he is married and could have been me that he is married too. Do what your heart tells you. Don't do whatever body else tells you to.
732407
Hi, I think the only way to really know is to look into your heart and go with what you are feeling.  If you cant trust your partner then maybe you shouldnt be with that person.  I know its hard, but until they give you a reason NOT to trust them, try to trust their word.  Its miserable when you dont trust your partner, so just believe they have been faithful until you find out differently.  You might find that they have been faithful all along.  Good luck to ya, Debi