how do i convince my dad that  i want to get married and that i want to move to a different city?
492017
Ultimately the decision is yours (as long as you are old enough).  Instead of trying to convince your dad, ask him what his concerns are.  Maybe his is worried about your choice of a husband, maybe he will just miss you and is having a hard time telling you.  If you can have a calm conversation with him, it will go a long way in clearing things up.  Once your dad tells you what he thinks, thank him for talking to you.  Take some time to really think about what he has said.  He loves you and wants the best for you.  Once you have done that, make your decision and live your life!
734579
Tell him to get back NOW! Tell him to tell his boss your situation!\n\nI'm glad that things aren't that way everywhere in the world, but I uunderstand that it your culture, and that a bunch of people telling you that isn't right won't help you. \n\nSo, if he still refuses to come back , I would go to my parents and perhaps they will demand that he come back and marry you.\nI think that they would rather help you get him to come back then have you give birth while unmarried.\n\nGood luck!
440556
Why dont you try talking to him about marriage first, when he talks about the future and growing old and dieing with you just say, dont you think we should talk about getting married before we talk about the house with the white picked fence? Just bring it up, there might be a reason why hes timid on getting married or maybe hes talking about the future fishing around for a good way to ask you about marriage and hes worried that you might say no or something, you never know hun, just ask him if hes thought about it or if in his plans on the future if hes planning on getting married, just bring it up you might just make his day ;)
317280
In my opinion, you should wait until you get married. Then it will be special. I don't know if you even plan on marrying him, but that is the best thing to do. My dad has been "shacked-up" a couple times, and it hasn't really worked.
484505
tell him the truth...and you have every reason to be concerned...you have been down the path of hurt, and do not want to go there again....as for your reasoning, i understand perfectly. i can not, and wil not, relocate out of my city because all my loved ones are here and i like it here......it's hard when you like someone from a different place....so  go with your heart...but be headed by YOUR HEAD!!!....and what will make you truly happy. good luck
883215
I think you are gonna have to talk to your family first...if you really wanna move in with him, you want to make sure that you are able to settle into a new town, but most importantly, you want to make sure that your family will be there for you, even if you live miles away....no matter where you live, your family will always be there for you when you get married and have children, and if they know ur bf well, then there really shouldn't be any problems.
1112086
Just be patient with them and let them get use to the idea that you are now engaged. This is a initial reaction, and as a parent I know if my children are serious about a decision I might not like, I will eventually be won over by them being more mature than me. If your parents try to break you up, prepare your self's so that there is no miss communication between you and your fiancee', so their attempts will fail. The fact that you are of age and not luring this over their heads, and want their blessings tells me your probably both a pretty mature couple. In the meantime, just stay fast to your engagement, stick together on this issue, and give them time to realize that you are going to get" married" in time, and I bet eventually they will jump on the band wagon, and you and your financee' will have full support of the families.
1056792
You are not going to change his mind.  If he is not willing to marry for the sake of your child, your personal wishes are not of any consequence.  After all, how much worse can it get than changing diapers?
28060
If you wish to be legally wed, you must get a marriage license from the county in which you plan to have the ceremony conducted. If you just want to play house without protecting your legal interests, talk to your Clergyman about a commitment ceremony, but don't gripe when you can't put each other on your health insurance,visit each other in the hospital if one of you gets incapicitated, have to go through hell and back to make funeral arrangements, have trouble getting a mortgage or life insurance and your auto insurance premiums stay the same instead of dropping by nearly 25% if you both have decent driving records.
727506
Oh, poor guy... Just listen to what you're saying: you're basically TRYING TO MAKE HIM marry you. With that kind of attitude, I don't think that guy will marry you without doubting himself whether this relationship will work. If you try to push him here, what else does he have to expect, once you're married and live together? He won't have a second of freedom to breathe - that's what you're telling him.\nDon't get frustrated. If he doesn't propose just yet - he's got a reason to do that. Either he is trying to make a surprise for you, or maybe, he is still trying to figure out how will this whole marriage thing work. If you think he's not really planning to propose - then why in the world do you insist on him to do that? If he does plan to propose and waits for the right moment, you're pushing that moment farther and farther away, because you're thinking about it all the time, and he can't propose to you by surprise if that's all you think about. Maybe, he's been carrying a ring in his pocket for weeks now. But when you two meet.... "Hi, honey, when are you going to propose to me?" -" Oh, yea, I was just going to do that..." Sweet surprise, isn't it? Give him time and space, let him get ready. It's a big step in both of your lives. And it's not every day you get married.\nBtw... Me and my gf have known each other for almost 3 years. And yet I still haven't proposed to her (even though we too talked about marriage many times). We are still figuring out each other, trying to understand the relationship better and soften out sharp egdes, which have a potential of ruining our relationship. Once we both think we've got to know each other well enough, then we'll start making plans of a wedding. Until then, we enjoy each others' company and get to know ourselves really well. One thing neither of us wants to happen is to find some really bad surprise about another person when we're already married. Way too many relationships brake up because they started too quickly. If people in those relationships would get to know each other before dating - maybe they'd never want to date another person and save tons of nerves and time.
129791
Why not go to a wedding chappel where ALL they do is perform marriages! That way it is still in a "church" but not one that either of you go to. OR go to the Justice of Peace. (City Hall) If that is not to your liking, choose a picturesque spot near your home and have a notary public officiate.
558943
i guess u shld to speak to ur mom abt y u want to move n assure her dat u will b finen wont break her trust... u hav become quite responsible to take care of urself......\nalso tell her dat u will come to meet her regularly itz not  dat u r going somewhere forever.....\ni guess u shld sit down wid ur mom n speak n expalin her in ur best ways u can......\nAnd also asks her whts the reason she forbidding u from moving out.....then u can explain her on da basis of wht she is worried abt....
433076
It really depends on the nature of the question. 1) Do you really love him and feel that you two will be able to grow old together? 2)What are your future plans? (ie: School, travelling, Career advancement? Marriage is a big step, its a promise and lifetime (supposed to be) committment.  Once you marry you can't think of yourself anymore you are committed to another person and that pretty much hinders your ability to do things you normally would do single (party with friends, hang out etc etc).  I'm not saying all marraiges are going to stop this from happening.  Just think about it more wisely and ask yourself are you at the point where you can settle down.
434877
Check out the cost of living for the city you are thinking of moving to first against where you are living now. That will help you decide. It could be just a break even proposition.
938491
You are only feeling the way you do because of the idea of leaving everything that you have come to know and love. I am alot older than you I am sure, but I have moved about 8 times when I was young. We as kids had no say in where we were going and I for one hated everytime we moved I had just made new freinds. If your father feels like this is the best thing for the family and it will improve whatever lifestyle you have I say relax , go with the flow and when you are old enough to get out on your own and you really don't like where you are you can make that change. But as for right now, If it is going to make all of your lives better I say go for it. Seems like your parents are doing whats best for the whole family and KUDOS to DAD for including everyones say in the matter. Good Luck!
2238
I would start to plant the seed with the landlord soon. You will be in a better position to negotiate with him if you have more time and thought invested. Start by dropping hints and let him know what you like and dislike about where you are. Also check out what similar areas in other retail locations are renting for. Not for the sake of moving, but to use in your negotiation process if needed.\n\nNegotiating is like dating. Not many people say yes to a marrige proposal on the first date. You have to court that person for some time before popping the big question.
237036
Not a very easy question.  Unfortunately, I don't know what his reasons are for now wanting to move.  Obviously having a job could be a big deal.  Moving is a huge thing and it isn't just as easy as saying that is where I want to be.  There is a lot to consider.  I think he should care enough to talk to you about it and let you know his feelings and reasons.  As for advice, well you have to decide if you want to move or if you want a divorce if he won't listen to you.