how do you get over a long gone friendship?
493590
I had similar experience too. Initially I had a hard time deciding whether it was due to some fault of mine or that whether I should have been more tolerant. I even felt that maybe I could go and explain to my friend why I had stopped talking with him altogether.\n\nBut then, I felt that it was for the best. Maybe I was wrong in some aspects, but it was wrong on his part too to not have been understanding and to have taken things for granted. A true friend would never put his/her friend in a spot or do/say something which would hurt his/her friend's feelings -atleast not intentionally- and since this was happening quite often, I felt it was not unintentional (and even if it was, then it meant that he was being too insensitive).\n\nRegardless, now I have no bad feelings about it. We should move on... there will always be new friends both for us and for our 'ex-friend'... I just wish now that he too has moved on and I wish him all the success and happiness in life- only that I cant be a part of it. Nothing to feel too bad about it, huh?
785250
......get over it for a start - in the nicest way possible of course - stop dwelling on stuff you'll only upset yourself more!\n\nIf she wants to be petty then just leave her to it, once the novelty of her has worn off then your old friend will probably come back, but keep in touch and just be normal. But mabye look for some new friends.
1006611
Isn't it surprising how easily one gets into a 'situation' without really meaning to? It´s time to move on, you'll survive. Stop seeing the 'ex-best friend' and maybe you two will get together again in the future, much wiser for the experience.
245627
It's possible. I'm doing it right now. The trick is to put asside the hurt and the lost dreams and hopes. They're in the past. And to bring them up carries with them the bitterness, the resentment and the pain of loss and that just spins you up again. If you can get past all the old feelings and start working towards how you can be just helpful, supportive friends, then you're half way there. Good luck. It IS possible as long as both of you work on it.
119964
Make a new friend. Start a hobby. Volunteer. In other words, keep busy and make friends. You'll put these traitors in the past and feel better.
294776
Reach out and touch someone first and they'll do the rest toward friendships. If old acquaintances leave, make new friends because that's whats life is all about. Diligence, respect and modesty pays off.. Hold on to you for if you can be a friend to yourself first by realizing you're worthy of just being you, you will have begun the ladder of friendship one step at a time. I have full confidence in you. Remember this. Yesterday was a dare to struggle to hold on to the past [acquaintances who called themselves friends], and today is a dare to win[new friends including yourself first, and then others]. I think your life is like a precious jewel that can never be replaced.  Good luck ,much warmth and joy, and much wisdom.
157655
Stop calling them your 'old friends' and begin refering to them as what they actually are?\n\nNah, that'd be rude, and you don't want to be that way too, do you?\n\nTough situation, kid. Perhaps they just weren't really good friends to begin with, and you'll just need to cut your losses now and develop meaningful, healthy relationships with your new peers.
164900
This can be only only little by little. Start by seeing other people, making new friends and start doing stuff without this particular friend. After some time he or she will understand that you two are getting apart and it won't be that hard though there will be some hurt...
300677
It takes time.  I'm still not over my ex and that was 7 years ago.  I know that doesn't sound promising, but that isn't what life is about.  You learn to deal.  As time goes by it gets easier.  If you really love someone they will always hold a special place in your heart, even 50 years down the road.  Don't try to get over it.  Cry, listen to sad music, wear pj pants, and eat ice cream.  Everyone needs to wallow.  Eventually you will want to start living again and be happy and you will. Don't try to be friends though.  When things are that serious and one still has feelings and you try to "just be friends", the one with the feeling, you, will always get hurt in the end.  You'll realize it's not enough and you'll never heal that way.  Just remember not to shut love out because of one jerk.  Life is too long to live it alone and lonely.
236533
1. Don't think about it. \n2. Hang out w/ friends.\n3. Try something you never done before.\n4. Occupy your time.\n5. Cry @ 1st and then get over it.\n6. Move on.\n7. You were too good for him anyway. \n8. Help others.\n9. Focus on you. \n\nJust to name a few...lol. Just try some of these. I hope u start feeling better and remember you will be fine in time. I promise in the future you will look back and say what the hell was I thinking for being w/ him in the first place!
215719
It is not easy to leave someone you have been with a while.  When you are close, and you aren't meant for each other it is even worse.  Maybe you guys could become friends again after all the hurt is over with.
223538
you're lingering over old feelings and sometimes that's natural, especially if you felt really strongly for this person.  your best bet though is to move on and try to find some interests that will help you take your mind off of him.  wish you luck.
1074091
Live a life that is worthy of him being your friend!\n\nNo easy way to get over a loss, but I am sure he would be glad to know he is missed!\n\nHE would not want you to be crippled by this though, so by living a life of honor, people will reflect that to the friends he had. People associate you to the people you are friends with so be a great person and honor his memory!
218875
by seeing other people...make new friend... you'll forget about that person
38434
Aww Well Thats Always Hard But Try Not To Think About It And Go Play Sports Or Go To School Or Hang With Friends Or Listen To Music Just Keep Your Mind Off Of Things And Ask Her Or Him TO Still Be Friends.
1022673
It's never easy, and there will most likely be tears, but one does what one has to do.Muster up the courage, and say "Goodbye". It will not be the end of your friendship, just a temporary separation. Good Luck!
1151389
Assuming he has yours (or knows how to contact you), I'd wait until he calls you. If he doesnt, then accept that his life has moved on so far, that he's not interested in furthering the friendship anymore. \n\nIf you were close friends, one would imagine he'd have your number on his cellphone or at least knows your address or last name, to be able to write to you instead? \n\nLeave the ball in his court...its often harder on the person left behind than the one who is venturing to new fields, as they are still holding on and have no new memories yet to fill the gap. \n\nIf he misses you he'll find a way but remember that  he probably knew for quite a while that he was leaving and so prepared himself for that loss ages ago. If he's never coming back (and knows you wont be moving there)....he might not feel that there is a good reason to continue the friendship now?