how can i ask my friends what they dont like about me but at the same time not feel sad or mad?
479781
You must remember that no 2 people are the same. If you ask 10 people the same question you will get 10 very different answer. If you take their answer to help you improve what is wrong, it is not a bad thing to do. I say you should look at their answer very openly. Don't think that whatever they answered are really what they think of you. You can really like someone and still not be blind to their mistakes. See if you can learn to be a better person from the answers they give you. \n\nGood luck!!!
519833
u need to tell ur friend thats gettin mad that there really isnt a reason to be mad...if there is a reason...its stupid...and juss tell them how u feel about it.
388680
ask people what their pet peeves are
828876
try deacff, dear\n\nwhy worry what other people think?\nnext time they ask you whats wrong, say "I'm tired of people asking me whats wrong! Thats whats wrong"
45257
OKay look. I know it's embarssing, but ask them! Ask them this "What do you think of me?" As them directly, not in a chat room or email, but in person, because if they lie, you can tell. That's the only solution.
454751
U want to pretend its not hurting u? Smiling when peoples are around? Talking like they are not hurting u in some ways? Well, thats kinda hard thing.. I always do that when I don't want them to think that I am week, I am not good enough in some situations, that I am no longer on standing on my feet...\n\nits difficult.. but u can smile to them, talk and act naturally like ordinary day.. no hurt.. no pain.. just hold ur anger.. the pain.. the hurt.. take deep breath while doing that... think ur smart, ur stronger than u know, ur free, its not hurting u, its okay.. everyhting is fine.. think about that..\n\nafter that u will feel "yes, I did it" but after a while.. u will feel empty.. sad.. lonely.. \n\nwhat i am trying to tell u is.. be urself... express what u feel.. think good.. always do the right thing..\n\ngood luck!
642739
First things first, you have to find out the truth about what happened. Then you make them feel guilty by saying something like "Why would you lie to me about that?" or "How could you not trust me with the real truth?" (That one might work better... lol). Then you don't talk to them for a while and let him/her sweat it out a little bit, and when they ask you why you aren't talking to them simply say "I'm sorry, but I cannot be friends with someone who is going to lie to me." Then when they apologize, say to them "It's ok, but it's going to take me a while to trust you again". That will make them feel really guilty and they won't want to lie to you again... but that's only if they care about you a lot. Good luck... I hope you and your friend make up soon. :)
467332
put them on the spot and ask them why they feel you are ignorant. maybe there is something you are missing. then again maybe by their answer they will show that they are the ones missing something! either way if their behavior continues find new friends. have enough respect for yourself to not allow others to treat you that way!
164236
let them know how you feel even say the same thing as your question and get out and socialize see if he comes around if not remember to let no one keep you down there is to much to be happy about to be sad all the time
586894
its definetly not okay for people to treat you like that. I've been in the same boat. Start crying while you're sitting by yourself one day, and you'll have instant friends. Not just because they feel sorry for you, but because they'll see the error of their ways.
522020
Sorry, there's no way to do it without hurting their feelings.  Plus, you don't like them enough to continue the friendship, so why are you worried about their feelings?  I mean, I know that sounds harsh, but it's true, isn't it?  This person must have done or said something you don't like or that you found offensive.  Bottom line:  If that person has hurt your feelings in the past, why spare theirs?  Good luck.
799245
if you have a friend that is close to him, tell them how you feel and ask them if they will mention your name to him and see how he reacts. good luck
302456
im not mad it u... lol, and i do feel for u... been there done that. don't worry all ur feelings of people being mad at u will pass... everyone can't be mad at u forever... they'll come to their senses that life is too short for people to get mad at other people.
1096704
I often feel left out with my friends, I think it's only happened lately. Or rather, I'm only beginning to feel this way. It feels quite hurtful sometimes - like you're not as important as everyone else. \n\nWhat I did was to ... (don't laugh) ... start smiling, A LOT. I'm serious. Happy people like other happy people. So, even if at first your smiles might be a little weird or even fake, you get used to it. And soon, you could be smiling without even realizing it!\n\nIt's quite fun actually. You could also try to be less sensitive to what other people say - sometimes, they don't actually mean to be hurtful. Just join in their conversations and laugh along. Oh, and perhaps yo could stop ignoring other people? I know it's not fun, but just try to grit your teeth and do it. \n\nGood luck!
872175
If they don't like to talk to you, stop wasting your time trying to be different just to please them. Try and look for friends that are interested in the things you like to talk about. True friends won't ignore you. Stop being their friends now before you get hurt.
1076492
just try to remain calm and stay away from it as much as possible, if certain people are doing things that you find frustrating tell them about it, they may not know and it may do some good to get how you feel about it out in the open so that they can correct what is frustrating you so much...
493682
Maybe it is just a misunderstanding.  You need to approach your friend and make the overtures.  Ask him/her if there is anything wrong and tell them that you have been concerned that you may have upset them and if so that you would like to make amends.  It might not even be you, or it might be something that someone has said about you.  Only by approaching your friend can you get to the bottom of it.