Is 20 years in age difference in dating or whatever! wrong?  Example :45 yr old male with 25 yr old female.?
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As long as two adults find a common ground, relationships work. My BF is 20 years older (I'm 27) and I can't imagine my life without him.  We are on the same level in so many ways - maturity, goals, opinion, etc. Like any relationship, it comes down to a balance of give & take, acceptance, and respecting each other. I love him for so many reasons - he is genuine; he's not out to find the next party or club, stay out all night with friends or worry about how fast he can get his car to go. I believe people come into our lives for a reason, and we learn and grow from them. Being in love is the greatest feeling in the world and age shouldn't stop anyone from experienceing it.
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Honey, as long as this guy is nice to you, understands about the difficulties such age differences mean, and is basically a good guy then date him, have fun, but don't let him press you to do things you don't want to. I married a man older then myself and have been very happy. It takes longer for men to mature then women so really he is basically your age right about now. So the real question is do you want to date some one who is the same age as you? lol
659381
Hey if you guys have chemistry, then trust me it will work, i wont say age is just a number, but the age difference doesnt really matter!
286152
been there. sucks. confidence all low and crap cause we're not 20 anymore! fortunately for you, these Young girls think older guys are hot! guys get more distinguished looking. women just get older. i'm sure you'll find some one new to rock your world. just be careful. it's not the same world you dated in 20 years ago! best of luck!
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I am 41.  I would NEVER EVER date someone younger than myself.  It has taken me this many years to be a complete, content, mature person, to raise a child, to have a successful career.  I don't want to be with someone who still has those things ahead of him.  It is important to me that a man be in the same life stage as I, and a younger man is unlikely to be there.\n\nBesides, men tend to remain somewhat immature - going out drinking with their friends all the time, thinking farts are funny, etc. . . until they are at least 40 (some never get past that).
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I think it's fine. IN the tenn year,s it's pathetic because both people are growing up and they have no idea what they wanna do in life- they just date out of pure lust and "puppy" love. \nHowever, when you reach late 20's, early 30's it doesn't really matter. And considering the fact that if someone is 6 years older and you don't care about it- that makes the bond between the two even stronger.\nAnd anyway; many people fell that only anotherm more mature person can understand them- and if it takes a 6 year difference, let it be!\nSo technically, as long as the love is there- anything's possible!
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I've got another 4 plus years to go to get to 45.  But if I was single at that point and I met a 25 year old I would at least consider it.  I could never do the whole trophy wife thing though, it would have to be about real love and all the same things would apply to her as they would equally to anyone my own age.  There has to be an attraction factor looks wise, and there has to be a very strong connection personality wise.  I think the age difference could pose some issues to having a relationship but I don't think that it would be impossible to over come them or work through them.
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I think that so long as it doesn't bother either of you - go for it. When I was 18 I dated a guy who was 40 - there's nothing wrong with it so long as you have things in common and you don't let the age different impact the relationship.
744108
Every relationship is different.  Age doesn't really play a factor (unless the guy is 95 and in a wheelchair and the girl is 20).
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I always used to seem to date younger guys, then I met my husband and he was 4 years older than me.  That's when I realized that all the little twerps I'd been dating were completely immature and selfish.   If you get along, and they're what you're looking for, who cares about the age difference.  Though I will say, when I was 18 I was a lot more gullible and trusting than I am now, so just watch out.
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i have PERSONAL experince dude.  listen to this. i met a woman when i was 24, and she was 34.  the sex was amazing, she was very experience. but thats the only thing that was good.  her mentality was more mature than i was and we didnt have any common intrest, im not saying that it wont work out for you. you just have to see how you feel about her,  there are couples out there who are that big of an age difference and they are happy with it.  but most of the time it wont work out. when you reach 20 she will be 30. etc.  are you willing to be with an old woman when you are 40 and she is 50.  thats the question you need to ask yourself.  but in the mean time, enjoy each other and see waht happens, just enjoy the moments, thats the best advice i can give you
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when i was 21 i dated a guy who was 43. it was nice and ironically we did have lots in common as far as interests and goals in life.\nwe had alot to talk about so it's not like it was all physical. he was there when i was sad to rub my back and tell me i'd be alright and vise versa. so like everyone else has been saying. as long as you are of legal age you should be fine. as long as you guys actually like eachother, enjoy eachothers company and have much in common then there is nothing wrong at all. that doesnt mean your a gold digger or a player it just means you've found a refined man instead of a childish boy. ;)
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Nothing is wrong with it as long as it is consentual and a relationship based on respect and affection.  When I was 18 I dated a 44 year old guy, we stayed together for 3 years and we're still great friends.  \n\nHowever I've also known older men that prey on younger women and men because they are less experianced, and use them for sex, like that they can easily control them, or fetishize them to a startling extreme.  That is not cool to me because it lacks the fundamental respect for their partner.\n\nIt doesn't matter if your bf is 18 or 85, you should both be treating each other as equals with respect and no exploitation.  That advice goes to couples who are the same age too.
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I am 20.Never dated anyone younger. I like them older. Just until I get into my late 30's early 40's. Then I'll start to like them young.
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What do you mean "date"? Just make sure you are both on the same page.Are you marraige minded or playing?Age difference is okay.There are other things to think about here.
851295
Yes. There is too much age difference. I wouldn't do it
9107
I would think off the top of my head that 28 is too old for 20. Since i turned 20, which was only five years ago i experienced the biggest growth area in my life {so far}. When i turn 28 i expect to have undergone many more changes which i consider to be a great deal more then i knew or really could relate to at 20.  Now not to say that you cant be in a relationship that has common ground in an eight year difference,just saying at this point in my life i cant imagine being with someone eight years younger than me. I would think that no matter the maturity of the person the age always comes into play and vice versa. Basically if you are attracted to someone in this age group go for it, have fun, and be in the now, its experiences that really teach you anything any way, not what someone else has to say about theirs.