help me, I m falling in love to my boss at my work?
483712
you are not falling in love.   You are attracted to the familiar.   It is part of the human condition.   The same mechanisms that makes us able to adjust to our environment, no matter how trying or downright awful it may be, actually creates a pseudo-preference for that environment.  That mechanism is stronger in some people than others. it makes them adjust more easily. The people who most easily adjust, to new situations, most easily "fall in love" in their work environment.  It's where they spend the bulk of their time.\n  Whereas, people who are resistant to change rarely fall in love with their work environment.   \n\nGet a life! meet some new people.   Don't try to get your S__ and your check in the same place.
92743
I would say, don't make the first move.  You could friendly flirt and see where things go, but don't make this hugely bold move that could cost him his job.  On a professional level,  you do still have to take his career into consideration.  Furthermore, what if things go on between you two and you end up with a crappy grade anyway...that'd make things a wee bit odd between the two of you.  good luck with this one!
478029
Being a female myself. Try not thinking so much. If she loves you she will appreciate whatever you do. i personally like the little things, getting flowers at work, him calling just to say I love you, He once covered one of my walls in my room with post it sticky notes (each one with something he liked about me written on it) not sure if she'd likeany of those but they might help. GOod luck. Feel free to email me anytime if you need to talk. w061204@yahoo.com
476894
I kinda think you just need a little more stimulation. It seems you have just been enjoying each others company for a long time and that is pretty amazing in it's self... talk to your partner... you might find that he is feeling the same way as well... You say flirt a little? Can I guess that you don't work? Cos most people I know in a work situation tend to flirt a little somehow...  Though it is well understood that it isn't for any other purpose than to lighten the days tasks.\nTalk to him and maybe seek this stimulation together... can only make you stronger and give you more to share when it is just the two of you...
776539
I LOVE MY BOSS. Well I'm am my own BOSS now but I still LOVE MY OLD BOSS!!\n\nYOU GO BOSS!!!
995522
it's a little hard seen you don't know if he is also gay, maybe you could ask him out for a drink after work. See how he is in a social setting( like if he points out a hot chick the minute you both walk in, pretty good bet he's straight) . Don't mention your feelings until your sure. Hope it all works out for you
647015
ok!\ni`ve been in this same situation!\nalmost!\nsee what you need to do is tell him the truth!\n\ntell him that you feel like you to are growin apart cuz he`s always @ work and you feel like your not walking with god as you should be!\nand tell him that you`re really soory, and its just personal things that you need to get taken care of!\n\nbest of luck!\ngod bless you!
1091262
Just let her rant and rave. I'm sure you're doing an excellent job, so keep it up. Show your boss through your deeds that you are a valuable employee, and you have nothing to worry about. If your boss wants to confide in you, they will. Until then, do your job to the best of your ability and let that womans voice just drift off into the background. Every work place has them....unfortunately.
266148
You should stop worrying too much about your EVIL boss and continue on with your work... She'll get what she deserves from ABOVE... hehehe
1108904
Unless it is extremely over the top or all the time let it go.  You are at work and you need to leave your feelings at home.  People do things intentionally all the time that step on other peoples toes.  You just have to let it slide.  Save your feelings for your personal life.  Maybe your boss was just having a bad day or you pushed one of his buttons(we all have them).  If that is the case you could just make the situation worse, and if your boss is a jerk he really won't give a flying flip that your feelings were hurt.  Remember he, or maybe she, is the boss and you will be the one to lose a conflict and are more replaceable than someone higher up on the food chain.\nOh and if you boss is a jerk start looking for another job.
337746
I am going through the same problem , he likes talk to me , many times i turn accidently to find ou that he was looking at me , when i good by him and turn my back and look back again i find that he's still looking at me , he gives me sweets and gums whenever he pass with my office ( we are work mates ) , his eyes say alot but , then we reach our problem , how can i be sure that he really loves me or not ? i'm not wrighting to you to offer a solution for your problem because if i had one i would have dealt with mine but i felt that you may feel a little better when you know that there is another girl who shares you your confusion and wishes you good luck with your silent guy , please wish me luck also with mine .
1048646
Don't listen to your friends.  Enjoy the secret love affair, life's too short not to...though it doesn't sound so secret if your friends know.  Since you work in different departments it's no big deal.  If you worked in the same office on the same floor then it might be a big deal.  If you really care for this woman and she cares for you then shut out the negative remarks that others make about it.  It's no ones business but your own.  You have to remember, YOU ARE BOTH ADULTS....repeat....BOTH ADULTS.  Hopefully everything will work out.  If it doesn't then you have to remember you are both adults and will handle it in a professional manner.  You're not little children (Hello.)  \n\nYour friends are jealous....YES, they are...and PETTY also.  Shame on them!  They should be happy for you.  It's really sad they had to come down on you like that.  \n\nAlso, I know of lots of couples that met through work and fell madly in love, got married and are still married to this day.  It's wonderful.  Please don't listen to your so called friends....who I wouldn't call friends at all.  Also, you should not have made it any of their business in the first place.  And shame on you for that part!\n\nOne additional note:  Since you are already having the affair this is a senseless question to ask at this stage.  You should have asked it before you started the affair.  What difference will it make now.  Therefore, you might as well enjoy it.
1056321
The fact that you have these feelings is 'normal'.  The abscence of them would not be.  Your working hard, on different shifts, tired, together but alone most of the time.  Just remember, communication is important.  Good luck and stop to have fun!!!  He'll thank you!
700932
Dating and working. Working & playing. Sounds contradictory, right? \n\nWrong.\n\nYou can no more control your heart than you can stop breathing. \nBut ask yourself if what you are feeling is LOVE or LUST.\n\nDating a co-worker (to your EMPLOYER) means you have been slacking off on his time-clock; something that may cause problems between you and the co-worker in the future. By merely posing the question, you indicate your fear of on-the-job-involvement. You are attracted to him/her, but you are afraid to commit.\n\nThink about what that means. You are not SURE about this co-worker, are not prepared for a failed relationship among your peers, and are reluctant to completely give of yourself before you know answers.\n\nI have learned that "when in doubt, DON'T." \n\nYou have made a valid point. If things don't work out between you, more than likely, EVERYONE at the job will know about it. \n\nBesides being "awkward," you risk losing your job, your reputation and your appeal to perhaps, a more suitable partner.\n\nBUT - on the other hand...\n\nLove (true love, that is) has NO Address. This means it is entirely possible for you to meet your soulmate while dating a co-worker. \n\nTherefore, my advice is for you to: \n1. GO SLOW (don't rush into anything)\n2. GO PUBLIC (get to know him/her initally in the company of other co-workers at a restaurant, snack bar, etc.)\n3. GO AWARE (learn about his/her past relationships. You just may be another conquest or victim #___ on their playa's list)\n\nEnjoy the attention but always be aware of the RISKS. And if true love prevails, welcome it. \n\nI wish you well, my friend. Thanks for posting your question.
1021729
m_k4376 says...dont mess with the boss's man...unless  you are not worried about losing the job. First question to ask yourself is what is your relationship with your boss..if your boss is a friend, then be a friend and stay away. If not, and you dont care about the job then see where it goes. the boss may be using him to get to you for a little action, if your into that kind of thing. if your not into that kind of thing then wait till they break up then pursue him. but then, if you dont care about the job or your boss, go for it and the next time he hits on you... reach back and grab his package.  let me know how it works out...@ yahoo
276181
If you can stop at work and get a little talk just to see whats up, with out causing trouble with his employer, if not just send a text message to him saying your thinking about him and missing him. Or you can sit and wait. If he is that much on the fence on which way to go then let it push him one way or the other. It will be for the best what ever way it goes. It just the enviable.
1001706
It's because you feel like you're abandoning your boss. It sounds like you're very loyal to the man and you don't want to leave him hanging minus one employee. But in the long run, I think, you made the right choice for yourself, and that's nothing to feel guilty about.