my friend was born homosexual, he had always been homosexual since childhood, but after he got treatment..?
494275
just go to a doctor and talk it out
1116166
I'm not sure what you have to cope with; if he's bisexual, then he is.  You shouldn't treat him any differently than if he were heterosexual or homosexual.  Looking at it from the point of view of your interests, it seems to me you've got the best of both worlds if you can play your cards right: he can experiment with same-sex friendships when he's young (and thus you don't have to worry about an unwanted pregnancy) whereas he won't have totally cut off the idea of having a family and giving you grandkids later in life.
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Talking it over with close friends.  Eventually, a person accepts his or her sexual orientation, self-identifies with others like that, and notes who (or what) he or she is to a close friend.  I think the fact that this one longterm friend had actually come out to me some months beforehand also helped. It's a safety issue, I think. It was like a weight being lifted from my shoulders when I came out to him and said, "this" is what am.  It also answered questions regarding stress throughout my life.
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I don't know, but you may have changed this mutual friend's memories of your deceased friend...or not.\nI don't think discussing a person's sexual orientation once they've passed on is of any consequence of what kind of person he/she was in life. Nor does it do any good to speculate about it either. \n\nI don't know about you, but I know people of my age remember when AIDS was in it's height in the 80's and early 90's and how news papers wouldn't post what a person died of: insted they would say "long term illness" or "unspecified cancer." Some families didn't want the public to know they had a gay son or daughter who died of AIDS. Usually out of their own shame and feelings of guilt. But these things tarnished the truth and covered up who the person was and what they died of. It would deny the fact that AIDS KILLS and needed/s to be prevented. \nThese obituary lies upset many of us who knew they truth and wanted it to not be a black mark on society but bring honesty and awareness to a deadly disease that didn't/doesn't descriminate about it's victims.
510329
Well being gay and a teenager is pretty hard in itself. The fact that you told him how you feel and he is still your friend counts for something. Cherish the friendship you have with him because you're lucky he didn't just stop talking to you (like a normal teenage straight would do). I suggest finding a relationship that is equally loved both ways and not just from you.
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yup - as a teenager I was fairly homophobic if I'm honest, I was trained as a dancer and felt branded as 'gay'.  however by about 20 years I'd seen enough scientific evidence and met several gay men in the profession to change my mind.  It's not their fault, it's in their genetic make-up, they have to live with that too, it's not a choice they make.  However, I still wish they wouldn't be so stroppy!! it's a characteristic I've come to laugh at from time to time, you can stop them from a mile away just from the disturbance!  I don't envy them at all, glad I'm straight, got married and had kids.  There are worse people in the world (like religious folk in cults, like Christianity etc)...
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I played with GI Joe when I was growing up but so did my best friend and He is as straight as an arrow . Nothing can make you gay you are born gay . Sexual orientation is determined before birth and no one  can choose to be gay or straight . Nothing can make them gay or straight .  A straight man can't decide he is gay and change his attraction for women and a gay man can't decide he is straight and  change his attraction for men .
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I'm not sure what HIV-ALT means, but if it does mean he has HIV, that still doesn't mean he can't live happily for many years. Just be there for him in this difficult time as he needs your love and support.
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It may be that conditioning may have a very small part of a person being gay but it would be a very small percentage of gay people that are effected in this way. However, I do think that the majority of gay people are born with this disposition.\n\n'God' doews not make nature perfect. for instance, I am sure that most of you have heard of a condition called hermaphroditism (or the more politically correct term these days is 'intersex') where a person is born with the fully formed genatalia of BOTH sexes. The subject, apart from their genitalia, is physically and mentally sound in every other way.\n\nSometimes, these children are operated on at birth if the doctors decide (guess) that the baby appears to have a female or male inclination and the genitals are modified accordingly. In many cases though, a modified 'girl' grows up with feelings for other women and modified 'boys' grow up feeling something for other men. It seems in these cases, the doctors have made the wrong decision and the psychological makeup of the child was in fact the opposite to the physical modification they performed on the child. So even though, for instance, a child may be brought up as a girl with girls toys etc, the 'nature' side of the brain kicks in at puberty (if not before) and overrides the 'nurture' side.\n\nNow, if nature can produce a visible, physical example of developmental confusion on the outside of the human body, who is to say that there are not processes at work of developmental confusion going on inside the unseen brain of a person ... where there may not be an obvious physical example of gender disorientation externally but internally their brain does not dictate in the way that their external body would suggest to the rest of society.\n\nThere is very strong evidence that sexuality is largely determined by development in the womb. Perhaps, while 'intersex' is firm external physical proof of developmental issues, we ought to consider that perhaps the developmental differences in gay people are more subtle and obviously invisible to the naked eye due to the brain being internal - but that does not mean that the differences are not there.\n\nHomosexuality has been around since the beginning of time and if you research gay history in cultures across the world, the present prejudices seem to stem with the spread of the three major monotheistic religons and it is this prejudice that is ingrained into the psyche of people today. But like racism, for instance, perhaps this prejudice towards gay people will diminish as society recognises that alternative sexuality is actually just a normal part of nature's rich diversity.
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it isnt a choice. homosexuality is a psychological disorder. they didnt choose to have hte psychological disorder. people who were once gay become straight and vice versa. a significantly high proportion of gay men didnt have a father during their child. because of the lack of fatherly love from a fatherly figure, they turn to other men\n\nhomosexuality is just like anorexia, people dont choose to be sick. they cant help it. many do recover\n\n\nof course homosexuality isnt genetic. do two gays make a gay? do two straights make a straight? why can some people who were once gay become straight if its genetic?
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I am the mother of a very confused 12 year old boy.  I have had several conversations with him on this very subject.  I am a very strong Christian, and I know that most churches, even mine, are against homosexuality, but we are talking about my SON.  No matter what happens, I will always love my son.  I can separate the person my son is from the things he does.  Some parents, like mine, cannot.  I refuse to reject my son, no matter what he chooses.  I may not want to hear about his first boyfriend, but I will always support him emotionally, spiritually, and financially the best that I can.\n\nWhatever happens with your situation, I wish you tender hugs from all who love you, parents, friends, and any other support people you may have.  Plus, if you are not already seeing someone, I hope you would consider seeing a therapist or attend a gay/lesbien support group before you come out to everyone, especially your parents (if they seem to be a bit dodgy about the subject).
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He didn't "turn gay".  He was gay all along but in denial. I'm sorry that happened to you.
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You need to support your sister. She didnt ask to be gay. This is harder for her than it is for anybody else. I've had gay friends and sometimes they are so scared that their family and friends won't accept them. Your mother being on antidepressants for this has got to be killing your sister.
946503
Man, you are an ex convict, and you are gay, and you are highly perverted Sick, I would say. You life will be difficult (if I may forsee)
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What you describe is three different things: sexual orientation, a fetish and a paraphilias. Theres nothing wrong with his sexual orientation. His foot fetish is only a problem if it gets in the way of everything else. However, his interest in little boys is a problem.\n\nDepending on where your friend is, getting help for pedophillic urges can be difficult (as in some places, the therapist is required by law to notify the authorities). Get your friend to read the following link (which also helps people who have other deviant fantasies)....
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my best friend in high school pretended to be gay for 4 years. i was naked in front of him, i kissed him on the lips, we massaged each other ( but nothing more) at graduation he told me that he was never gay and had a crush on me since freshman year! we are no longer friends.
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It sounds like your acquaintance is having trouble figuring out who is he (this used to be called "finding yourself" once upon a time). As he explores different ways of looking at the world and at himself via the drugs, he's also exploring different ways of being. Could be that he'd benefit from some counseling, but that's up to him if he wants to really delve into his own psyche or if he'd rather just abuse his body to the point where he no longer cares who he is. I believe that most people have the capacity to be bisexual, and there's nothing bad about that. However, making advances on friends he knows to be straight indicates he's having problems with judgment (also evidenced by the drug use). So, the drugs per se are a symptom of what's going on with him, not the cause. They're just allowing him a facade to hide behind as he expresses his own inner feelings. I realize it's not your place to intervene, but the drugs are most likely going to destroy him; hopefully he won't take anyone else down with him.