i dumped my bf cause he chose to smoke instead of being with me now he won't take me back, what should i do?
480521
He made his choice worry about your baby and move on to better
694357
It's just like riding a bike. It'll come back to you.  Also, how can you be so sure that it was you who was doing anything wrong?  Sometimes people decide, for whatever reasons, they don't want to be in a relationship any longer or they fall out of love with the person.  Obviously your boyfriend just didn't want to be in a committed relationship.  Yes, it's hurtful to be dumped, especially by somebody you really love and who doesn't have the decency or the balls to sit down and really be honest about why he really left (because he wanted to be able to screw at will) and not leave you trying to figure out what you did wrong.\n\nForget his azz (literally and figuratively).  Pick yourself up, go out with friends, keep moving forward and one day you'll look up and he'll be a distant memory and you'll find someone new.
872422
Sounds like you are having second thoughts about giving him a second chance.  Not only did he break the trust in your relationship, but he did a little shattering of your confidence too.  You can't let anyone shatter your confidence, so if this is torturing you and making you think thoughts that are killing you, then it may be something you need to let go of.  When you forgive someone that means letting go of all the hurt and moving on to the next step and it seems like something that you are not able to do.  If you love him and you think that he is heartily sorry for what he did, then let it go and move on with your relationship.  If not, then you need to let him go and do whatever he has to do and you go do what you have to do.  It sounds like you still think he is misleading the both of you and you can't live like that!  It will kill you!  Make that decision on your own, don't wait for it to backfire.  Usually your first mind is your right mind. You are more important than anything.  I was in a situation like that once and it didn't work out for the good, not saying that is the case with your situation, but you should always go with your first mind. I know it will be hard, but it will work out better in the long run.
894732
There is no smoke without a fire. Something happen and you shouldn't ignore it. Your instinct is your natural defense system and most of the time, its on your side. \n\nAs per-you said, you are growing to love him. It is time for you to slow down or stop the growth process altogether. \n\nIf you shove this one aside and off to another venture, chances are you will find someone much worthy of you. Besides that, guys go crazy about you when they realize that you are an independent girl who doesn't wait around just because he decides to be an indecisive j***. Of course, he doesn't need to know the truth of your heart until he does something to earn such truth from you.\n\nWhatever you do, girl....you must realize that you are in a position with nothing to lose. Enjoy this "nothing to lose" moment and see whats good comes from it. \n\nGood luck!
1098915
Talk to him about how you feel and about your concerns.  Let him know you want him to be honest about his intentions regarding you both becoming a couple again.  Tell him that you would rather have him be honest - that he needs a place to stay when he gets out, or that he really does want you back.
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As I've learned on a question of my own, you cannot expect a real answer 'cause we don't know how you guys even broke up. We don't know who dumped who and how are things between you two now.\n\nThe truth is probably this, assuming that I have a real insight of the situation from your question: You are still a princess to him and he still finds you beautiful. But you are not HIS princess anymore. He surely does care.\n\nThe fact remains - he is trying to destroy your self confidence so you don't find somebody else. It is a cruel tactic, but the man still cares and he's out of ideas. Talk with him.
134012
Your options are (1) Continue to do drugs with him even though you don't want to, or (2) Tell him you want to hang with him, but not if he's going to be stoned the whole time.  #1 just keeps the status quo up, while #2 requires him to make a choice - i.e., whether spending time with you is worth the horrific cost of having to be sober for a few hours.\n\nIf you want to try and make it seem easier, you can say that your workplace has started doing drug testing and you can't afford to lose the job; that way, it's not your fault that you can't smoke with him anymore.
687856
Well first I'm curious why u broke up with him. If it was because he was cheating then he really isn't worth it.\n\nIf its something else, try approaching him as a friend and get an idea of how he feels about you. Work from there.
1094798
what u need to do is stop dating losers cause the first promise u the same thing where is he right now. what makes u think that wont happen to this one . what u need to do is dump him cause drug is a hard habit to take away .
1048513
Would you want to be with someone who did not love you back? If he used the excuse that he thought you were playing him to back of on the relationship then he is  a loser anyway! Move on with your life. You are better off!
621088
Why get back together with him?\nThe deal is you broke up with him. He's moving on. You should too.
930337
sounds like he regrets breaking up with you, kinda like you don't know what you have 'till it's gone.  it's your choice if you decide to take him back.  if you really care for him and feel he is being honest then go for it.
1139556
Amazing. Boys! Can't live with them, can't live without them. What he did to you is not only emotionally and physically draining to you, it's just plain wrong. Deep down, I think you know what you need to do. You have a lot of what I call "but" statements. "I dont like it, but....," "I left him behind, but....,"  "I really love him, but...." For every good, I would venture to guess that you can count 10 bad. He smokes pot, so that tells you he is killing his brain cells, and doesn't respect himself as well as you. He engaged in sexual intercourse with another woman. Therefore, not only is he a pothead, loser, deadbeat, and moron, but he is also unfaithful. Because he is willing to engage in risky sexual behaviors, if you continue to be with this loser, you too could possibly contract a nasty std. \nNow, it's easy for me to play armchair quarterback. When you love someone it's difficult to let go. Here is a man that you spent 2 years of your life with. However, you stated yourself that it was "off and on" for the last two years, which is an indication of an unstable relationship. He lives in Florida, you live in Georgia. Not to say that long distance relationships do not work, but this one cannot work for the fact that this loser is too immature to be in a relationship, nor deserving of your love, time and attention. Take a moment to write a list of all the qualities that you desire in a boyfriend and stick to it. Have stringent requirements. Why? Because you're worth it. When you end the relationship with your boyfriend, state to him the reasons listed, and inform him that "NO" you two cannot be "just friends." Once you end the relationship, do not take his calls, do not reply to his emails, and do not see him in person. It's time to begin the healing process and move on........ Best of wishes to you.
479317
you can't. BE MEAN. If you've already told him that you aren't interested and he's still pushing, you have to start being more assertive. It may reach a point where you have to tell him you'd rather put cigarettes out in your eyes than go out with him.
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Tell him your opinion.  Get it out.  Then leave him to make his own decisions.  Plenty of people smoke that stuff and even more do not.  We can live together in harmony.  If you don't want anything to do with him because he smokes then stay away.  A true friend will express their thoughts, but they will never try to control you.  Be a good friend.
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some people cannot be helped, unless they help themselves first. there's only so much you can do. and there's only so much you can put up with it.\n\ntrust his friends. if they say he's getting high, then he is. they have nothing to gain from lying to you. if he says he isn't, he does have something to gain from it- he gets to keep you. but let him know that he can't have both. he can't do drugs and keep you.\n\nyou should dump him. tell him that you've tried, but the relationship isn't going anywhere. it is one way. you are giving and giving to him with nothing in return, because he is lying to you. that's not how a relationship works, no matter how much you are in love with the other person.\n\ndon't let pity for him keep you attached to him. think about yourself a little bit. it is taxing on you and stressful for you. you don't need the extra stress. if he's not giving to the relationship, then it's not a relationship. break up.\n\nhonesty, trust, respect, communicating feelings and emotions... it seems you are doing all these things, but he is not returning them. so no matter how much it hurts you to break up, you will only get hurt more by staying in the relationship.
163002
You broke it off 6 months ago.  You did the right thing.  Here's the deal - it's one thing if it were the other way around.  You should be asking why if he dumped you.  Since you dumped him, it's the other way around.  You left him on your terms, he still has things unresolved.  Don't waste your time trying, you might hurt yourself.