when a woman is going thru great long term trauma in her life, how does it affect most vital love and friend?
478661
Tell him the truth, that even though you have your issues, that you'd like to be there for him and support him in any way you can. If he is a good friend, he will understand and be grateful for all the love and support you have to give!
581706
i really understand what ur going through, because last year my best friend had brain surgery. i couldnt stop crying either, but i thought about it and realized im not helping her by crying. I need to stop and be there for her!! after shes done with her surgery you should go visit her!! and be there for her when she needs it!!
968028
Love has a tragic end liberating the soul which is very painful.Atleast i've seen this happen with those who loved their beloveds dearly,the lady loves leaving them to cry in despair.Some of them have learnt to feel liberated from the curse of being dumped.
284669
You don't.  Love isn't a toy, and isn't something you can choose to turn on or turn off at a moments notice... that is why love makes people do crazy things.\n\nTime will help somewhat, but not completely.  There will be things that will remind you and bring up the hurts again, shiny and new.  Just living life is your best balm.\n\nScars, emotional or otherwise, are good conversation pieces anyway.
274165
Broken heart is not easy to heal.\nBut life doesnot stop, ask her to move on in life. I know it will not be easy for her; but to live in past memories will not heal her wounds.\nSo ask her to keep her self busy in other works like... New Hobby, develop New work interest, New part time job, Cooking etc. Being a good friend of her be with her, go out for movies, hang out here and there. Just try to make her a bit happy.\nI know it is not easy but atleast try to get out of that i m sure with time she not even forget him but also find a true love.
341189
Hey sweety, I'm sure that what you think you're going through is very drastic for you, but keep in mind that your lady is going through it right with you.  She may feel like the fire is out because your isolating yourself and not sharing all your feelings with her.  I have forgive my husband many a bad decision for a couple honest words and a true desire to be in love with me.  I think you know how to fix this if your heart wants it.  Best Wishes
269692
This might have something to do with her depression. As her moods change, how she sees the world and feels about it change. Love does also evolve and change the longer your with someone. I have also found that when I'm mad at someone it can sometimes overshadow my love for them.
818025
This stuff happens from time to time - try not to take it too personally.  You'll find that friends and come and go throughout your entire life time.  Be kind and be there for her... she'll be back.
992524
Nope I'm totally with you.  So many things can happen to a person in the course of their lifetime, how can you be sure that feelings won't change?
1176493
Painful but well worth it. So much love in the air and all your fears go away. Such a great time. You feel so much closer to the person you love. And you are also kind of nervous.
433575
That she needs to move on from the past and live in the present. Perhaps there are issues that are going on right now in her life that are making her upset and instead of resolving them and moving on, she is avoiding them by thinking of some guy and the good things that they once shared. When people look to the past in situations like these they tend to forget the bad qualities that the guy or girl had because the thing they are searching for is the good that they are most likely not getting from their present relationship. (I hope that makes sense). I don't know if they are in communication with each other but if they are and he feels the same way (or at least claims to) then they are on a path of self-destruction that is going to leave alot of people hurt and scarred. I hope that neither has any children and that she will either be woman enough to leave her husband if she is not happy or get some sense knocked into her and realize that the past is over and that she needs to handle her situation in the present like a mature adult. Living in the past is not ever going to get you anywhere in the future and hopefully this chick snaps out of it before she is left with nothing but that.
110407
dude, my wife is going through some sort of depression/trauma crap and it's eating me up.  I just want to fix it for her so she won't hurt anymore, you know what I mean?  God, I love her so much that every time she cries if feels like someone is crushing me and I don't know what to do about it.\n\nor, at least that's how it effects me.
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try to deviate  ur buddy from the painful topic. don't leave the person alone,which might set him/her thinking about the past.watch comical movies.lend buks-trillers, adventure, philosophical, mythology,horror,(romantic 1s r abig no no).try to comfort the person by telling him/ her how special the person  is to you. go for shopping together..remember romantic things shouldn't  brought into the picture. try talking  to parents . drag the person into bright sunlight and talk about various stuff which interests that person.make him/ her forget that they even had  a problem. just make them feel special and happy .good luck  !
1076470
people change..it all depends on how she changed........if you love her, you can deal with it
201674
All I can tell you is to continue to do what you are doing...being there for him. When my mother passed away suddenly, without the forewarning your friend has been given, it was someone like you who helped me through it, even though she didn't know how much she held my broken heart together.\n\nYou may never know your healing effect upon your friend, sweetheart, but just be there for him...a rock, a shoulder to cry on (when men aren't supposed to be allowed to show such weakness), the one he can call in the middle of the night when it gets really tough. Even if he never comes out and says it, you will have made all the difference in the world.\n\nAnd isn't that all that each of us wish to do at least once in our lives for someone else?
505135
Kudos to you for caring enough about her to want to help her.  Take her out to breakfast/lunch and sit down and have a long heart to heart with her.  Let her know all the good things that you see in her and how valuable of a person you think she is, then let her know how some positive things about her have influenced your life.  Tell her you are starting to see some things changing, and you love her and don't want to see the old her consumed by a new person that you aren't familiar with.  Remind her of the dangers/consequences of the lifestyle she is choosing, and let her know that you want better for her.  Finally, let her know that you feel this way because you see her as someone deserving all the best that life has to offer, and that u care too much to just sit by and watch her destroy her life and reputation.  Encourage her to seek counseling for low self esteem issues, and support her in any way that you can while she is going through these adjustments in her life....Don't give up on her...sometimes all people need is just 1 person to believe in them, until they can believe in themselves again!!!!....
973785
Unconditional Support from someone willing to \nlay their life down for you.\nThat forever kind of friendship.