How should I feel about this?
479549
How should I feel ? Sounds like a loaded question.\nCannot tell you how to feel.Whatever you are feeling areexactly how you are feeling.\nThe question should be : How should I handle it?\n1. Your friend is 30 yrs. old\n2. She was already staying with you.\n3. Had too much to drink\n4. Homeless------ No excuse\n5. friends for 21 years\n\nNow lets look at your Dad\n\n1. Your Dad--Your role model\n2. Knows your friend was already staying with you ?\n3. Knows she was drinking\n4. Knows that your friend could have been you---- same age.\n5. Knows that she is your friend for 21 years\n\n\n FACTS\nYour friend knew what she was doing\nShe knew that she already had somewhere staying---- with you.\n3. She probably had , had a crush on your Dad\n4. Excuse that there were 2 beds in room eventhough it was the truth--Excuse\n\nFacts about you\n\n1. you trusted your friend\n2. you trusted your Dad\n3. You did not expect your friend to do that.\n4. You did not expect your Dad to MAKE that STUPID  decision \n5. Now you are feeling torn up inside\n6. Eventhough they are both saying the same thing , A part of you is not sure if you do believe them.\n\n\nWhat you could do\n\n1. Tell your friend exactly how you are feeling--- if she values your friendship any at all, she should understand and apologise to you.\n2. If after 21 years she does not value the friendship, she will get up in your face, thinking it is no big deal.\n3. Talk to your Dad. First with respect. Tell him how you are feeling about the situation that took place.\n4. Tell him your friend was already staying with you , if he did not know that.\n5.Tell him you mean him no disrespect because he is a grown man , but you believe he made a dumb, stupid, whatever you feel like type of mistake.\n\n6.Finish it from there.\n\n\n7.REMINDER: \nTHey both made stupid mistakes.\nIt is up to you after this is over to FORGIVE and get on with your life.\nAt least you were honest with your feelingson this\n\nPraying for you.
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I feel absolutely nothing, none of any of what he's doing affects me at all. Who cares? Do you care? I got better things to worry about. Everything is temporary, when you're dead and gone, will any of that really matter? Think about it, then let it go.
969230
don't complain..........\nInstead, praise him and thank him for all he has done.........\nSay Lord you know how I feel, please help me to understand....
939441
Go with your instinct if you want to pick it up do it. Call him and tell him how you feel whether it's good or bad. Believe it or not guys do the same thing.
689141
Two things strike me immediatly: \n\nFirst, I'd respond, "With folks like you being so caring and concerned about what's going on with me, I'm pretty much okay as I am. i know you'll be there if I need help."\n\nSecond, if you're getting the same question - from different people - there might be something that they're seeing that you're not. Ya think?
762578
hey i really wanted 2 help u out.. but...\ner... i don understand ur q....\nplz... don feel bad...\nsorry...
463591
I would say to do what you feel is right! If you feel that you should be at his funeral to show respect and to put closure then by all means be there. Hopefully though this will not happen.
58637
I think you should tell him how you feel
77803
I would talk to him and tell how you feel. If he cares about you as much as you care about him he should take into consideration your feeling
1143869
could i really care, or is this just 2pts?
1074744
tell her how you feel. maybe the two of you can work it out.
500710
You should ask her how she feels about things thats the only way to find out... If I understood the question correctly.
937551
I disagree. Treat your gut feeling like a first impression. Listen to it but be prepared to change your opinion quickly.
709426
I imagine you feel quite betrayed at the moment. The fact that you are waiting to send this mail is interesting, though. I think that if you wait a couple of days, you might find yourself able to think a little more clearly. Be patient, and you will be able to answer your own question.
652352
Honestly, I think you should tell him how you feel. The only reason I say that is because he is the only person that will give the truth about the situation. If you ask your friends they might lead you into the wrong direction. yes, it's nerve-racking but once you find out the happier and less confused you'll be.
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You should feel the way you feel, and not how anyone else tells you to feel.  That's the only possible answer. If you worry about a lack of feeling upon this persons death, you must understand the psychological shock of such an incident.  It takes time to come to grips with it. If you were truly close to this person, the grief and pain WILL come-believe me.  The most important thing is not to repress it.  You must let it come, you must grieve, and you must deal with it.  Don't ignore it, or bottle it up.  Let yourself feel it.  To ignore it is to harm yourself, and disrespect the memory of your lost one. God bless, and my condolences.
985239
sit down and talk it through. ask him directly and tell him there will be no hard feelings if he tells you how he feels.