How many parents have these same questions?  Rules for a 13 year old? (time to come in, bedtimes, dating, etc)
475674
I have a 13 year old daughter and she goes to bed no later than 10pm during the school week; Friday & Saturday nights I really don't impose a "time per say" on her but because of the schedule she keeps during the week; by 11 or 11:30 she's out like a light. As far as coming inside time; before DARK! (and that's with the understanding that you are playing or hanging out with friends in our yard or someplace on our property) The girlfriend/boyfriend thing at 13 is not happening at my house! They're will be plenty time for that later, no reason to rush! MSN messenger I do not use but I will imagine its the same as any other messenger. My 13 year old uses yahoo messenger and is allowed to chat with school friends and or family only! No chat rooms or anything like it! I also use a program on her computer called Spector Pro.  It monitors and records everything and at 13, I as the parent, will know EVERYTHING that takes place over the internet!
907286
I think that I could have handled it at thirteen, but it's really about how much you want to expose yourself or your child (did you specify?) to. \n\nI guess it's not a big deal if the 13-year-old sees it, but some of the sexual contents might disturb him/her and they might end up asking lots of questions...
1146831
13-year-olds should wait a little bit for dating...\nthe best match would be her friends and the mall... or whatever they like doing
1140746
From my experience, coming home late or breaking curfew was a major way of testing my parents trust. Considering your ages, I am surpised that your parents are so restrictive. Ask yourself, what is this 'bad' that they think you're doing? Did your parents come from deeply religious families? Were your parents also restricted by their parents? What about her parents? It may not be fair, or make a whole lot of sense these days, but that could explain some of their methods. Do you or your girlfriend have troubled pasts, maybe trouble with the law? Did you ever have a truancy problem with school? Don't think that I am blaming their behavior on you, I just want you to think of all  possibile reasons. It almost sounds like you two live a bit far away from eachother, and that might explain why you're only allowed to see eachother twice a week, and talk on the phone for only half an hour a day. Have I nailed it yet? No? Okay, parents may not seem to make any sense some of the time, but they are your parents. Like it or not they have say into your relationships. The more you show respect for them and their wishes, usually the more trust they'll have for you. So if you're considering sneaking around after dark or anything like that, don't try it. Chances are you'll get caught, and just imagine how often you'd get to see her then? Probably not at all. I know this is a hard time for you both, you're almost legal adults, but until you turn the magic age of 18, you just have to bite down and endure this. You will get through this, just be patient with her and your parents. I am going to assume that talking with your parents wont make much of a difference, but there is nothing wrong with trying. Ask them what it is that they fear so much, and do your best to put that fear to rest. Assure them that you intend to follow their wishes, and do so when you're out with her. If they see that you're true to your word, the less likely they are to shorten the leash. I get the feeling that their fear is your sexual activity. It is my personal opinion that you two are at the ages when your sexuality is your business, however a parent will feel like your business is always their business. You can be 50 years old, and they'll still consider you their baby. Being that your sexuality is your business, I hope you wont mind if I give you a piece of advice: protect you and your girlfriend and use a condom every time. Anyway, you will get through this, I promise. Good luck.
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I think it depends more on the maturity level of the child rather than the age, though, you might want to check the laws regarding what age a child can be left home alone and for how long.  If this child behaves responibly, has another adult in the area they can call or get to in a hurry if there is an emergency, understands and can perform basic first aid and is trustworthy, it may be okay.  I would ease her into it, like aloow her to be in charge of the child while I did yard work, painting, etc.  Something where I was still in the house to observe how she handled things.  if this goes well, try no more than 15 -20 min while you go to a neighbors house to chat or run to the local grocery.  When you are fully comfortable I would not leave her for more than an hour or two to be responsible for another child and I would only do it if there were another adult close by that you knew she could call on.  My 13 yo babysits for a friend but only if I am home- I am right down the street so she can call me if there is a problem.  Babysitting is a big responsibility and both her and the person she is babysitting for need to understand that.  I would not have let my girls babysit at 11 and I don't think I would have ever asked an 11 yo to babysit for me- but this has to be your decision based on the girls capabilities, maturity and situation.
1011301
Well, it may sound fruity, but the book "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens" is a good one. Your parents have 2 concerns in this matter. Your safety and the boys interests. Since you cannot know what the boys are thinking, don't bother telling mom and dad you won't do anything with them. Since you can't change your parents opinion of those boys (or boys in general), don't try. Leave the "mom i need some freedom" in the trash where it belongs. Show your parents you are responsible. Follow their rules. But at the same time, open an honest, rational dialogue about why you want boys over. See if they are willing to compromise. Like letting a boy over if you sit in the living room in full view at all times and not when your parents aren't home. It may be a slow process, but this will work. First try to understand your parents objections. Then work rationally and without emotion on those objections........I'll give you an example.\n\nMy dad didn't allow boys over when I was young. I couldn't go to dances, call them on the phone, or even talk about dating. His objections? Premarital sex, drugs, alcohol, and staying out late. Ok, first, staying out late. No problem, curfew.........and I followed it. Second, drugs and alcohol, it's one thing to say you won't do them, and another to not. Since dad wasn't around to see me not take drugs, I pointed out my other responsible acts (Spanish club, Mentoring, 3.6 GPA). Third, premarital sex, ok, again, can't be there all the time. So I let him know what I knew. I let him know I wasn't interested in that sort of thing. And then I let him know what the warning signs were if a boy was pressuring me..........and that I wouldn't allow it. Sure enough, I was dating in no time. I was trusted. And by Senior year, I had a 3 am curfew, a dad who asked how my day went without judging, AND a sense of self-worth.
122848
I agree with GSI6111, 18 may be close to the average. Lots of young kids on here! (not that there's anything wrong with that, just lots of questions about 'boys'...)
712116
I agree with all those rules and I would love to see the rest of them my bf might outta read the rules and I know cat my roommate needs to follow numbers #2,5,6,7,8,9, & 10 and he needs to read them also.\nYour Sil is the best keep her in your family.\nThank you again for this has made my day.
946309
It is really up to your parents when you can.\n\nResponsibility counts.\n\nMy son is 13 and we trust him totally!
1096160
The 4 bases... this is clearly a teen question. Forget the base’s, it's all your basic kid games. But you are clearly not near ready to play this game. I advice you just do not try to rush to home plate. Just ask your parents for advice. Their advice should be better than advice from other teens, no matter what your friends tell you. If your parents freak out when you ask these questions or get mad, they need to speak to a parental adviser. It is their job to answer your questions and not leave you to ask someone not much older than you for advice.
54267
I think 11 is appropriate if kids are getting a phone like the firefly from Cingular (no I don't work for them).  It has a button for Mom, Dad, and a phonebook that only Mom and Dad can put numbers into.  It has no keypad.  Otherwise, 13 or 14 works depending on the kid, and probably 14 because they're entering high school and may need to get into contact with parents or other people for rides home after school.    I know it helped me back during those days, but I lost too many things to be responsible with a cellphone before 13.
157025
actually, when  enter ur teens u start getting more responsibilities and more opportunities and chances to do things u weren't allowed when u were just 12. about the phone calls, then, i don't know. my parents care abot me but they dont get all suspicious or want to know who it is even if it is a guy. my dad would only ask just to tease me and ask if he likes me *rolling eyes* lol. 13 is still young but not too young. sometimes it really gets to me. (being too young to do anything)
762081
First off your mother was more than likely over exaggerating, she wont make you wait that long. Second if she is serious reason with her because if she doesn't let you date with her knowing you'll just rebel and sneak out like most teenage girls that think they know all there is to know about the world. Tell her you think 16 is a good age and you should be able to agree. But remember your her Daughter!! If you were her son it would be another ball game being that girls can be easily talked into things by boys. Plus your only 13, what kind of date could you possibly go on that doesn't involve a PG13 movie and Chuckie Cheese? lol But remember try to compromise with her, maybe she doesn't want you to make the same mistakes she made. Mothers know best(a majority of the time).
826404
that depends a lot on how many hours they are alone the maturity of the child exc. In general i think 14 is okay for a few hours IF TOTALLY NECESSARY. I would be sure the child is able to be left alone some kids don't do well with being home alone i think it is just asking for trouble.  i would not leave any kid under 17 alone everyday for a extended time. my son is 11 i never leave him home alone
753082
13 is too young to date...where are your parents!? *
680659
Go out with her.  I bet it will be fun for you both... 13 is not too young to go out, even as friends (not dating/boyfriend).
277222
Some of the subject matters are too mature or just plan disgusting for a child of that age...email addy is ok but not the questions.  Please do the right thing and iform your parents or adult in charge.  \n\nThanks for being a concerned older sibling!  =0)  \n\nYou deserve 10 points for you thoughtfulness!