Would you tell? If your boyfriend cheated on you then tell you that he did  and begs for your forgiveness?
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I have to much respect for myself to EVER stay with a man who cheated on me. Regardless if he begged for forgiveness or not. You should move on to someone who truly respects you.\n\n\nhttp://groups.myspace.com/closetednerd
1119685
If I knew, do you really think I'd tell you.
446669
Ummmmmm wait a sec - do I have this straight?\n\nHe cheated on you - you forgave him and gave him a 2nd chance?  \n\nYou later cheated and he won't give YOU a 2nd chance?\n\nWell that about says it all if I have that straight.. he doesn't want to give you that 2nd chance because this is HIS way of getting out and 'blaming you for it'.  I bet he has another 'side'.... I'm so sorry, and realize that you have already punished yourself enough, and that you TRIED to be honorable and tell him the truth, and if you could forgive him and he won't you, he's being a JERK!  I'm sorry /comf!
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Since you denied it for so long, you've established a pattern of lying on top of the cheating.  So, it probably won't matter how you tell him; he may feel too angry and used to give you another chance.\n\nJust try to communicate how foolish you were and how much you regret it and that you understand how this must make him feel.  Explain that you realize that he may not want to give you another chance, but you care about him too much to continue the deception.\n\nAnd BEG, BEG, BEG for his forgiveness.\n\nI sense that you truly realize and regret the mistake you made.  I'm sorry that it may cost you a relationship that you came to value a little too late.  Hopefully, you won't make either of those mistakes again (cheating, lying about it.)\n\nGood luck.
1053022
Dump them before they dump you or hurt you more than you already are hurt.\n\nBut if they were using me to cheat on their girlfriend....I would dumo them before they knew what happened and tell their girlfriend.
894419
if i twas my mother who was being cheated i would tell her,but iwouldnt tell it to my dad if my mom was cheating on him,i dont know why~
676351
DO FOR OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO DO FOR YOU......!!!\nI mean if you had a boy/girlfriend dear to you who's cheating behind your back,would you like your friends to keep it secretly from you ? Dont think so.\nFor me I would definitly more than just tell him/her the truth, I would kick that cheaters butt all the way to kingdom come......NO KIDDING
970148
tell your b/f what you did....than you will find out what is going to happen.
852813
Have you been cheatin?\nDo you trust him?\nWhy not?
21925
i found out 6 months ago; he seems more attentive to me, but only because the truth was told. the relationship doesnt seem better because he cant go out anymore, so he sits around and pouts and its ME trying to make him feel better instead of the other way around.\nyou have to Choose not to think or mention it; otherwise you will drive yourself crazy and the relationship will end anyway. as the old saying goes you have to forgive but not forget, i dont know if i will ever trust him again!
415306
Yes i would. He obviously wants to tell u sometrhing very important to tell the gurl. And she needs to give him a chance and let him get off his chest what he needs
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NO I don't think it's anything you did.  If he loved you he wouldn't have cheated on you no matter what!  If I were you I would make him kiss you rear and do everything in his power to make it up to you!  In no way do I feel you should do anything more for him!  You don't deserve to be cheated on, no matter what his excuses are!
539656
My Husband never cheated, but if a husband was going to cheat I'd rather know. If its over its over,he should be honest enough to tell you.Two things to be done after that , either forgive him and NEVER bring it up again. Anyone can make a mistake once, only a fool does it twice.And personally I would not stay married to a fool.
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Take this info with you to the grave.  Don't tell your girlfriends.  If he suspects and questions you, deny it.  That's what a man would do.\n\nWhy would you want to break your boyfriend's heart by telling him, just to relieve your "guilt"?   That would be very selfish of you.   It was just sex, nothing more.  There's no reason to feel guilty, everyone cheats, eventually.  The only reason you feel "guilty" is because you accept society's brainwashing about monogamy.  It doesn't exist among 96% of other mammals, and humans do not show a strong predeliction towards it, either.  Deal with it.  Accept it, revel in it, but don't tell it.  \n\nIt was bad enough telling all of us about it.   \n\n( way to go! )
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my personally opioinon is yes. i would give him what he deserves and then after he sees ive been cheating ill leave him. a cheater will always be a cheater. if he cheats on you once he will cheat on you again, even if he tells you he will stop if you stay.but truth is he wont.so if you choose to cheat on him back, that would hurt him and then to see you leave will make him know he ;ost something great.if i were you thats what i would do.
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No you should have proof of him cheating cuz if you dont you might make a mistake and lose someone that really did love you.*
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You really do need to tell her, if she finds out some other way and it comes out you knew she probably would never forgive you. But for telling her the truth she may be pissy for a little while but once she realises you were right and it all calms down a little she should come around, That is if she gets mad at you at all. I definately would try to go in there with some proof. Dont go in saying you should dump  his arse, just assure her you are there for her. Good luck