are long distance relationships pointless?
490494
i don't know a friendship like talking over the computer, or talking face to face and on the phone. big difference. if your talking about love affair yes to much distance. if your talking about a friend on the computer to talk to every now and then thats fine i have several all over the world and its kinda nice to help each other out, and stay in touch. its safe and you can open up to them so depends on which your talking about.
1158565
I was in a long distance relationship for more than two years - we lived an hour apart - & at first we talked all day too & were together whenever we could be - but the last 9 months or so he stopped callin - it tapered off to once a day, then only once a week & we didn't spend so much time together - well, he ended the relationship a month ago with no explanation, just an e-mail. \nSo it sounds like even tho ya'll love each other, you are starting to drift as we did - it happens & it's hard to keep it from going south unless one of you can change to spend more time together. I was the only one making the effort there, too, for a long time - I drove to see him, never the other way around. I don't know - you may have to let this one go & move along. It bites, I know. Good luck.
231247
Long distance relationships are very hard, but I know couples who are married and are still long distance. So nothing is impossible. It just depends on how much you love and Trust each other to be apart but still stay together. But warning: long distance relationships are Tough. You both need to sit down and talk about the possibilities and if you both decide to stay together, talk about how you'll both deal with it. Make sure you're both prepared for all the hardships to follow, such as missing each other, trust issues, traveling to see each other, etc... Goodluck on your decision!
950951
I went out with someone who lived in Spain when I was living in Ireland, I am now married to him and we are about to celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary, so yes, long distance relationships can definitly work, you just have to be prepared to work at them!!
134348
Long distance relationships are a challenge....but if both want the relationship...then it can work...until you both come together in the same city eventually! \n\nAre you having second thoughts about him as a person, or is it just the distance factor? Analyze the reason behind why you want to break up. If it is just the distance, then u can overcome it, by talking to him, and mutually deciding to also focus on other areas of your life. See if he also feels that you both need to focus on your pursuits? The only way you will know is when you talk to him openly. Love also involves discipline. So, see what he has to say about this? Does he seem contented? Does he have similar worries? Talk to him. Are there plans of moving closer anytime soon? \n\nIf you have really thought this through, and want to end it, then you should break it gently, lovingly, calmly, and give him some explanations. \n\nMy advise right now is to talk to him about the "issues" before talking about "ending things". Who knows, maybe you can resolve those issues together, and don't need to break up.\n\nGoodluck!
104145
If you have never met the person before, it is not entirely likely you are really in love.  In any case, the obvious reason that long distance relationships don't work is for that reason- you never actually spend time with the person.  if you truly feel in love, you should get on a plane and elope with them.
297596
sometimes it does. sometimes it doesnt. it all depends on the relationship. if u do have a long distance relationship ... it wont b easy. trust me.
693373
Long distance relationships can work, but I think that for such a relationship to work at least one of the people involved must be ready to move eventually. If neither one of you wants to/can live where the other one is living now, maybe you could consider going to a third country where you could both be. If neither one of you is ready to move, sorry to say, it's unlikely that the relationship will work out.\n\nA long distance relationship worked for me, we are now married and living together despite living thousands of kilometers apart for a year and a half after we got to know each other. :)
814505
Communication is the most important thing in a realitionship like that and the second thing is trust. If you don't have those two things it makes no sense to try.\n\n\nI have been in two LDRs in my life, the first lasted 2 yrs. I was in Jamaica he was in the US for a part of it. We both ended up having to move, I moved to the US and he moved to England. \nWe kept that relationship alive through e-mails, letters, IMs Random phone calls. \nThe second lasted almost 2 yrs and probably would have lasted much longer if communication didn't break down. I used to see him every 3-4 months for month. I was in the US and He as in SA. (don't ask). \n\nIn neither of the LDRs did i find myself in a fight b/c of the distance but it's possible. Try to talk more remind him that each day a way is one day closer to seeing you again. When you do talk try to talk about things other than "I love you" and  "I miss you" or anythign related to that. It makes life harder. Try to talk about things which interest each of you. Simple things liek how your day was. Or random none personal things like politics, books, just stuff.\n\nGood luck.\n\nps. one thing I just to do send a puzzle ( a gift that i was sure the guy couldn't figure out) it had to relate to either a memory I had of him or somethign related to the relationship. Once he got it generally sparked a conersation and not make him miss me as bad as he did.
102707
I Have good news Yes if you don't trust the person from the start then no. I have been in a long distance relationship for 3 years.  We talk a lot, and see each other at least once a week.  It is not easy but if you really love that person you will make it work.  Don't listen to people when they tell you it won't work. know it will if you want it to that is.
448008
To make a long distance relationship work there has to be a lot of trust - if you don't see each other all week or sometimes for a few weeks you have to be certain the other is serious about the relationship.  It is also good to have very regular contact.  One good thing about not seeing each other so often is that it keeps the relationship alive and you always have separate interests and therefore loads to talk about when you do see each other.  However, this type of relationship can take a long while to get off the ground - much longer than a normal one and there has to be a lot of feelings to keep it going.
514745
long distance relationships almost ALWAYS work because they are much easier than REAL relationships where you gotta deal w the person each day. Long distance is easy cause you go visit for 3 days or so, and just when it starts getting tough...it is time to come home. How to keep it working? Just talk once in a while, maybe send a card once in a while...nothing should ever really come up that breaks you up...it can last forever without too much work.
1130281
It does not work unless there is an end in sight.  If you don't have plans of when you can actually be *together*... it will not work.  It will become tiresome.  It's not the nicest thing to say, but it's the truth.  Also, if you're *starting out* long distance... that's even harder.  Trust me.
412635
Write a list of all the pro's and the Con's,and decide if you can do this long distance thing! It's not for everyone!!! It can be hard when you feel lonely,ect..... If it hurts you more being in the relationship than not,then get out of it.
118921
Long distance relationships do not work. I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for 2 and a half years. We actually were together for 4 years, but I moved across the state a year and a half into the relationship. It got to the point where he would only call me while he was at work, and I could only see him on certain weekends because he was "busy", or I wouldn't hear from him for weeks. I heard from a friend that he had been seeing this girl I know, so I called her phone and I found out that they have been seeing each other for the past 2 years, and they are engaged!! I told her every detail of our relationship until I had her crying on the phone. I later heard she broke off the engagement. Needless to say, he called and cussed me out and our relationship is over. \nSo the moral of this story is that unless you truly know this person, and can have complete trust in him that he will not break your heart, don't waste your time,energy, or minutes on your phone with a long distace relationship.
1089265
A long distant relationship can work, it both parties are truly committed.  However, it all depends how long you will be apart from eachother...  If it is just until school is finished, that's different, but if it's because you both just live in different states, then that is something to think about... \n\nSometimes one person will get tired of being lonely and tired of not being able to see each other on a regular....\n\nIt can work, but will take a lot of hard work....\n\nGOOD LUCK
163492
I happen to agree with cuteiepie. Keep it alive by phone, emails, snail mail...keep all communication channels open. If you have serious intentions for the future with that person, it is most important to physically spend time with each other at least once or twice a year. I think long distance relationships only work for so long. At one point or another you have to make it a "no distance" relationship. Good luck!!