am in love with someone, but we cant get marreied because of his family, what can i do? shall i stay with him?
480282
girl f.. his parents if ya love each other thats all that counts..dont leave him for no one show his parents that no matter what their son loves you and they gotta deal with it..
491253
if you truly love one another you will make it through the toughest times but family in your relationship is really hard to make it trough and you probably wont you both need to get far away where they cant be in your business all the time trust me you and him will both be happier.
383579
You answered your own question, he has his own family and I am so sorry to tell you but you will always come second in that equation and rightfully so.  Why would you settle for someone else's sloppy seconds?  Why would you waste your time on someone elses man when yours is out there somewhere.  By wasting time loving this man you are missing some amazing opportunities.  \n\nI understand we can't help who we love, but we are thinking beings and can make proper decisions in our life.  Another thing to consider is that he has a woman he's cheating on with and guess what, if he will do it with you, he'll do it to you.  Don't break up this family, it will leave a mark on your soul.  You deserve better and this guy ain't it.\n\nGood luck.
960553
You should treat everyone with respect. \n\nYou may not be ready for marriage yet, but he may be.  Have you considered whether he might be the right husband for you?\n\nIf you decide he is, don't let him get away.
334182
if your family has a problem with him, you have to decide who your loyalty will go to. WHY does your family dislike him? Usually family disapproves of people they dont consider good enough for you..at least thats the case with my family.\nI would hesitate even if i loved someone. Giving up life as you know it, your family, everything for just one person is a huge step. I dont think i could do it without a committment of some sort.
361335
i guess you better let go that person, even though you love him/her because he/she is already married and from that fact, you can't do anything about it. i guess that person is already happy with his/her married life life and i think it's just right not to spoil such relationship. Love really hurts, especially in your case (or in your question) but the best thing to do is be happy for that person and wish him/her the best. Move on and after a while you also find the one that is really meant for you or the one that will give back your love. That would be nicer than being "the-would-be-third-party" right?
559949
if your family loves you they will understand when you tell them how important it is yourself to be with the love of your life forever... how satisfied, happy, joyful, peaceful you will be during your life. if your family is more interested in their reputation that your happiness I would question their love for you... love means putting your happiness in front of their desires.\n\nmarrying someone you do not love to me would feel like a sin... because i would be with someone i didn't love! every time i slept with them it would feel dirty and dishonest. every day that went by i would feel sad and as if my life didn't matter much..... with out love what is there??????\n\ni also know that i wouldn't be a very good example or role model to my children if i was not living in love and i had not created them out of love..... how awful! \n\nlove is the purpose of life!!!!!!!!!! dont' throw it away. you have YOUR LIFE ahead of you... live it in love!
144734
you can't make somebody love you, maybe you should revalute why you are still married?? If he does not love you , why stay with him. You have to make your own happiness.
961807
Of course you deserve happiness. I don't think it's wrong to love him, but two things (his status and his family's resentments) need to be addressed for you to be happy. He isn't free to marry you and having that restriction, whether you want to get married right away or not, isn't right and isn't ever going to feel right. Each of his family members have their own perspective and the only thing that will help is time.Their sorrow is something they'll have to address.  You and your partner can't heal it for them. Ideally they will eventually be grateful that he's happy and they will accept you.  But for the diehards who hold grudges for a long time or forever, there won't be a thing you can do. You can only control how you feel, and they can't 'make' you feel guilty. So go for it...be happy!  p.s. wow I just read the other posts and you are being crucified!  I agree that divorce is crucial.  But calling you nasty names and predicting that your future is dismal...those are heavy judgements. We don't know all the facts and we don't know you or your partner, and being nasty doesn't help anyone, any time.
357128
Well, first of all don't start any relationship with a married man... (think of a family that you are about to ruin and ask yourself "If I get married, would I want my family to be destroyed by my husband's cheating?" If your answer is no then you'll know how this man's wife would feel if you will agree to be his other woman... second of all, find a single man who will love and accept you for what you are. Afterall, you can fall in love without having to ruin anybody else's life
1080521
If you love him and he loves you, you will overcome this. The families will learn to except you , or they will loose there son. A real man would tell there parents,,,this  is who i love and i will marry, except my wife, or i wont be coming around no more, i have a new wife , and that,s my family. But it takes a real man to stand up for his wife / women. Once that happens, things will fall into place. But don't have a man do all this for you,,,if you don't truly  love him. That would be so cruel, never lead a man on. Be sure of what you want before you take that step together. My Thoughts are with you. ~*~*~*~ Peace.
716784
It sounds like your relationship is great but one thing that worried me - you said you were worried his family wouldn't like you - you should meet them first, and make sure he meets yours first.  \n\nWhen I first started reading your post I had my doubts, BUT \nI don't think the age difference matters in your case.  In some it does, but your relationship does seem more mature.  People always think I am too young also.  I'm 19 and getting married next summer too.  I love this man and he is my best friend and my life partner.  We've been together since I was in middle school and we've grown up together and are still growing together.  I think it's amazing to find a love like this when you are so young.  Don't worry about what everyone else thinks - count your blessings that you have something that some people NEVER find.  \n\nJust be sure you have the same goals, and plans for the future.  For example, in a few years you are going to want a son or daughter with him also.  I am sure you love his son like your own but the time will come when it will drive you crazy that he is not your own and you need to make sure he will be willing to have more children.
1001323
Don't listen to that asshole... (creative)\n\nIf you two can respect each other's culture and religion then go for it. Each side of the family may not approve in the beginning but they'll have to come around sooner or later. And if not, it's your life and your happiness that you should be concerned about, no on else's. Good luck.
931812
If you love him then marry him if he asks. Your and his parents shouldn't have any influence on you love for each other. If his mother doesn't like you thats her loss. When you marry someone it's just between you that person and God nobody else has anything to do with it. \nMy husband's mother didn't like me before we got married, we dated for 3 years before we got married and that whole three years was miserable when we where around each other, it's gotten better now that she's realized that he is no longer her baby boy, but a grown man and has his own life. Stay with him if you love him and things will eventually get better, just let her know that you aren't a threat to her and kill her with kindness. Good luck, and prayers.
1110288
Be yourself, be honest.  Tell him how u really feel cuz if u dont u may regret it.  dont let this be one of those times where u ask urself what if..... if its the family- be an adult, be the bigger person and talk about the situation. if u luv him that much and hes worth it, suck up ur pride and apologise to his sis.  could be a reason why theres tension stewing
897033
Chances are good that you succeed.i know that this is kinda challenging.But if she truely love you and care about you she would be determined to break the barrier of religion.its upto her to decide whether to hurt you or her family.she will make her choices.all what i suggest you is to stand by her always.just be there for her.I suggest you to respect and support her decision.if she wishes to not hurt her family by marrying you then please support her.or if she chooses to marry you and leave her family behind you are obliged to reconnect her with her family.Good luck to the two you.hope you succeed.
457879
Everyone lies at one time or another.  It's just human nature.  I'm sure if you took an honest look at yourself you'll see that you may have told little white lies yourself.  Now, hold on...I'm not accusing you of anything.  I'm just saying that unless you catch him in something big, it's up to you whether or not you want to trust him.  Also, if you are having doubts of whether or not you're in love with him, that's a serious red flag on whether or not to marry.  Your relationship with him should not depend on whether or not your family gets along with him, but it would behoove you to ask them why they feel the way they do.  Sometimes, people on the outside can be your best gauge, especially if you keep getting the same feedback from them.  I suggest that you not walk away until you are sure of what you feel, and don't get married until you are sure either.  Good Luck!