Should I move to  jacksonville to be with my husband?
478121
I think you should move to be with your husband.  It's only an hour and a half 3 days a week.  There are a lot of people that commute from Gainsville to Jax to work everyday and don't think twice about it.
178639
Lots of factors - like how old you are, what is the status of your relationship, what is the stage of your relationship right now, how serious both of you are with each other, etc.  If you're still young, it may not be advisable to move in with him there.  Are you already engaged and marriage is in your plans?  Can you both work out a win-win plan?  I think a move that will affect both of you must be decided by both of you, and not just him.  He should have asked your thoughts on the matter, considering that he expect you to be there.  Weigh all these considerations and decide the best.
917871
nice part of town is away from downtown (orange park comes to mind)  but the good nightlife can be found along the beaches then again Ferdina Beach is very nice and peaceful as well. You already know about the Jaguars and the largest outdoor cocktail party every college season. as for affordiability it depends on your income but I can tell you this much amelia island offers homes in the 400K range and a lot of areas in the Jacksonville area are around 200k now you could go condo (about 100k) if you are into condos. Your next problem is insurance what you are paying now on your home pretty much double it when you come down here (triple if you live along the beach) . Car taxes none $35 or so for tags every year thats it. state income tax NONE. Grocery Tax NONE. Current gas prices around 2.35 (not bad) but nearby Georgia is lower. traffic NIGHTMARE especially at 5pm. two major interstates (one other is a bypass of 95) and they are jammed  with constant road construction. Just take yahoo and do a home search for teh jacksonville and good luck
883215
I think you are gonna have to talk to your family first...if you really wanna move in with him, you want to make sure that you are able to settle into a new town, but most importantly, you want to make sure that your family will be there for you, even if you live miles away....no matter where you live, your family will always be there for you when you get married and have children, and if they know ur bf well, then there really shouldn't be any problems.
850032
How long is he going to be stationed there?\nCan you go with him? It is in the States afterall.\nThis happens to alot of married Military.\nsome stay home because they don't want to move and they know that their spouse will be back in a year. but if it is for a longer period of time and you own a home you could rent it out and then rent a place where he is.\nIs moving out of the Question?\n\nGood Luck to you, i hope your dilemma gets resolved.
1157164
I think you should move to one of the suburbs like Alrington or Irving because some parts of Dallas and Ft Worth are a little rough. I've also lived in MD and was in the military so if you need more help email me @ caramelsundae1077@yahoo.com.
538369
Unfortunately, Florida is the fastest growing state (population) in the union. Employers can pick and choose workers and the housing market is artificially inflated. I am planning on leaving Florida and heading for a cooler climate myself.
969908
You are absolutely not being selfish.  I understand his family is important to him and the baby, but your family is equally important.  The other factors( such as the baby going to a better school and you being able to work)  are what make the decision to move a good one.  You being closer to your family is just a perk.  As far as not having the money to move being his reason to brush you off, maybe he has a point.  However, if you feel that he is just saying that to avoid moving you really need to sit down with him and tell him all of the reasons you'd like to move.  If he tries to brush you off tell him how important it is to you to make this decision together.  Also, make sure his family realized that it's not anything against them and you aren't moving to hurt them.  Good luck.  I hope everything works out for you.
718007
im sure that your first thought would be to do something grand and over the top, but i would suggest that you do something simple. a little quiet time with just you two will be a good start. if you want to have a welcome home party for him, i would suggest that you have it the week after he gets home, to allow him time to adjust. and as for you... be prepared for some changes, and dont expect things just to fall back into the place where you were when he left. accept the fact that your husband is a changed man. because he is. just be patient with him, and take things slow. caution your friends and loved one not to make him talk about his experiences. he will tell you when he is ready. and above all, just make sure that you are there for him. out of everything that you want to plan for him, do for him, and do to him, im sure that all he really wants is a hug from the woman he loves.
429907
You need to go with your husband no matter what.  when you married him, you made that commitment.  I know its gonna be hard, but you can always come back and visit.
207585
I hope this is purely rhetorical.  If you're really serious, and can afford the move, AND continue to live there, I would start with a visit to each.  I believe that to be the only way to make a realistic decision.
818606
This was thoroughly and exhaustively researched by a Canadian couple, 2 years ago - (whose interests included schools as well as general quality of life /work/amenities etc.  They came up with the answer: COLCHESTER Essex.  They DID move there - and were very happy with their choice.  (No, I don't live in Colchester!)
245095
It depends on a lot of things and you didn't give any details. If you want to move to another state then go ahead and move. If you are only moving for your boyfriend then you have somethings to consider: Are you moving because this is the guy you want to marry or is this just a guy your not looking for that from? Will you have a job, be able to support yourself and get your own place? Does he want you to move with him? Do you have strong family and friends ties that you will be leaving? Are there children involved? Good luck with your decision.
1061760
Do not move across the country with a boyfriend.\nYou shouldn't move in with a boyfriend.\nIf you do you are setting yourself up for a big fall.\nWhy would you commit to him if you are not serious enough to marry.  If you are too young to marry. Also too young to move in together.\nIf you don't know each other well enough to Marry,  You don't know each other well enough to move in together.\n\nDon't play house! \n If he is not committed to you and you are not committed to him \n(I mean Married, not engaged) Why do you want to even exclude the chance of meeting someone else who you will want to marry and who will want to marry you.\n\nIf you move in with him.  You will probably share a bank account,  When you split he'll take the money and you will keep the bills.  You'll get pregnant and He'll take a hike and You will keep the baby.  OK now that you are a broke, single, mother, living across the country away from all of your friends and family or any other support system.  You can't even date, you can't afford a babysitter.  You can't even meet anyone for a couple of years because you will be so busy taking care of junior.\n\nOK finally you start to date again but you settle for someone who is not right for you because after all, you are now damaged goods, You know, Bills, Baby, Low Self esteem.  \n\nOK have a baby with him also and catch a venereal disease on top if it.  Well he wasn't right for you anyhow. you settled for someone because you thought you couldn't do better.  So after seeing that he really is a jerk, you break up with him.\n\nGet the drift. Stand up for yourself Now.  Tell him that you hope he likes his new home and that he can email you if he likes.  Bye\n\nAnd make a life for yourself now while you are single,  hopeful, young, and the possibilities of the whole world are there for you if you want them bad enough.  Don't mess up your life.\n\nDate nice Gentlemen who will wait to have sex with you until after you are married, if you will accept their proposal, because you are not that type (and don't be that type).  Stay pure in thought and actions. Go to church if you have one, do some volunteer work.  It helps to help someone.\n\nHave a Great Life!  You Deserve it!  Claim it for yourself.\n\nGod Bless You
792705
Snuggle up close with him on the couch some night and tell him you miss San Francisco.  Then look up into his eyes and say how much you'd love to go back there to live.  Ask if he would move back with you sometime if he seems sympathetic.  Then just talk about it more over the course of the next few months and see how it goes, maybe he'll be willing to do it right the wedding if he sees how much it means to you.  The thing is, you've got to have in mind where you could both get jobs and then dream a place to live "Oh...wouldn't it be great if we could get a little place to live just off of...." etc.  Anyway...good luck.
1009007
I met my fiance 3 months ago the nite before i moved out of my husbands house to another state.  I continued my moved.  He visited me the next week.  We talked on the phone.  He moved me back 1 month later.  We are so in love and are planning our wedding in Aruba.  All things are possible.
446743
I read that your hubby is in NC til June 2nd.  I take it he is at training down there in J-ville.  When he gets permanent orders (like any thing is permanant?!!), Go visit with him.  Go to the Housing Office.  His command should direct him their as part of his check in being how he is married.  If not, for the Navy it is either part of FISC (Fleet Industrial Supply Center) or FFSC (Fleet and Family Service Center).  The Marine Corp is part of the Navy, so the structure is similar in some ways. \n\nAnyways, You can get off-base housing and he should get extra money to pay for it.  You can also do on-base housing if it is available.  You don't pay for regular on-base housing, but some places have PPV (Private something Venture) which are homes that are subleased to the GOV for housing (money comes out of your paycheck like with off base housing that you sign for through the housing ofice).  Many bases are getting rid of on-base housing because it is getting really expensive to upkeep all those old buildings now.  \n\nAlso, if you have to move, most states have a law that allows military to get out of a lease if they are moving atleast X number of miles away under permanent orders.  Check into the state laws if you think you may ever have to break a lease. \n\nMake sure you are comfortable with the area you intend to move into.  Many bases have some bad areas around them (thugs think the service members are rich!!)  Talk to people at your hubby's command, the housing ofice, at the laundry matt, etc.  They will tell you where not to move.  Go to the area you think you will be interested in at different times of the day to include evening and late night-to see what really goes on there.  Go on a week night and a weekend night, too.  You can also pretend to want to buy a house-realators are good at knowing where not to go (i nobody else will help).  \n\nYou have like 10 or 14 days to live in a hotel for reimbursement (on your husband's order if you are a dependent).  His command may allow him 10 days of free leave for house hunting also.  Make sure he asks or it.  If he's new to the service, they most likely won't offer it to him. Good luck!