how will i be attractive again to my husband?
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You need to set aside time that is just for the both of you. It may not be easy because he works, but you need to take control of the situation. \n\nTry and arrange a weekend away. It could even be at a hotel down the road, but the change of environment will do you both a lot of good. Arrange to go out for a meal, both of you dress up. Have the idea that it's a date in your head to make it more exciting.
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Find 1000 guys, and you will get 1000 answers.  Take care of yourself, be positive and enjoy a sense of humor, and enjoy your life.  No matter what you "look" like, these things will do a lot to make you much more attractive to many men.  Don't be concerned about how to change yourself to look a way you think men will find attractive.  Just be yourself, and be comfortable being yourself.  Look around... there are so many men in the world, you don't need to try to impress the "most" of them.  You just need to impress yourself, and a man who is attracted to that is surely to come along.
367807
expect a lot of adjustments...stop thinking about yourself anymore....and remember...communication is a must!! in your lifetime together not just at the beginning...\n\nfrom what you said..you're lucky enough to know that you are marrying a wonderful man..\n\nbest wishes...cheers!!
230461
what you are going through is post partum depression, he most likely does not think you are ugly, but you feel he feels that way, it is natural. It will pass. Believe me if you had his kid then to him you are the most beautiful woman in the world. That's how we men feel, we just fail to say it.
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Hello, send your hubby an e-mail or call him and tell him that the two of you are going out one evening on a sexy date!\nSet it up in advance so that the two of you both know when it will be and can look forward to it. Pick a restaurant you both enjoy.\nWear something you know he finds sexy on you. At dinner talk about the things the two of you have done sexually that he enjoys and that you enjoy. Get him to talk about it and stay positive.\nAfter dinner, at each stop sign or stop light, kiss him and touch him! Once home, you can remove all of his clothes and tell him to lay on the bed. He can now watch you slowly remove your clothing while you tell him what your going to do to each other once you lay in bed next to him. \nYou can take it from here! \nPlan date nights together! They can be at home making a romantic meal together. You don't always have to go out.\nLight some candles, play romantic music. There are a number of things you can do. \nGood luck and have fun!
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Well, do things like he did,\n\nsometimes it's the little things that keep it fresh \n\ndo things like leave little notes to him leave it in his car,  his pocket, on the mirror \n\nsend him flowers just because, leave messages on his cellphone  voicemail saying u were thinking about him& u love him\n\nwhen u look at him blow a kiss at him wink at him.\n\n have a picnic N the middle of ur livingroom floor, give him a pet name, tell him he so cute even if he just woke up and looking a mess, rub his neck. Come up behind him and hug him.When ur out together act as if ur on a first date( role play)if u role play stay in charater until ur get home\n\nJust anything that will make him & YOU happy to be together and look  4ward to being hubby& wife =-)\n\nGood Luck sweetie\n\nAnd Congaulations =-)
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I think one of the things women have trouble understanding is that even if they are naturally attractive, the act of purposefully doing things to be attractive is an attractant to many men in and of itself. Meaning, even if you look great without makeup, the effort of putting on makeup to be attractive makes you more attractive. You need to talk to your husband about this. Also, you need to honest enough with yourself to accept that maybe what he finds attractive in a woman is something that would require some change in you to achieve or at least more closely approximate. Women don't like to hear that looks matter, but it is true.
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Looks like your letting how you feel confuse you to how things really are. Seems like your husband tries hard to let you know he appreciates you, at least from what it sounds like.\n\nIt sounds to me like you are insecure about your weight, and that you veiw yourself as unattractive. You are trying to solve the problem without, when the problem is within. No ammount of encouragement from your husband will help you unless you make up your mind to be encouraged. It sounds to me like he loves you dearly, finds you very attractive, and wants you very much in his life. Don't let your feelings lie to you and tell you otherwise. It seems to me like you are interperating things from him that he doesn't really feel, because that is really how you feel. It's not him that thinks you are fat and ugly, but you are afraid he does. Again, from what you've told me, I'm fairly sure he thinks just the opposite!\n\nNow, if part of the problem is, as you said above, that he isn't more interested in sex, don't nessisarily look to yourself as the cause. He may be busy at work, which leaves him tired and stressed at night. He may have some difficulties in that area, perhaps something clinical. You should both sit down and talk about this, together, and be patient with him, not nagging, whiney, or demanding, but letting him know how you feel, and listening to his side patiently.\n\nIf you are contributing to this part of the problem at all, it is probably from your insecurity, not your looks. If you feel ugly, and act like you feel ugly, you will make yourself seem less attractive. Don't keep thinking of yourself as unnattractive! Remember that your husband loves you, he wouldn't likely have married you if he didn't think you are attractive! Be confident, quit looking at what you think are your flaws, and concentrate on what makes you attractive. Think of yourself as attractive, and you will BE more attractive simply by how you act from it.\n\nI hope and pray everything works out well, and God bless!
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You just need to change the mantra in your head and be actively responsible for your behavior towards your husband.  Ask yourself how you would feel if he was doing this to you. You would feel like you were married to an insecure loser.  If you continue on this path you will no doubt drive him away or at the very least, into the arms of another woman. Men do not like nagging, if you are obsessed with compliments, he will feel you are being a nag and tune you out. If he is tuning you out audibly he will tune you out in his head too, therefore opening himself up to the possibility of another woman. Or he will say to himself, "hmmm maybe she is not that great." Talk about mixed signals, at once you call yourself beautiful and then on the other hand you beg for compliments. Tell yourself,' he is with me for a reason otherwise why would he still be here?' Fulfill all of your dreams with direct action of your own. Do not rely on others to make you happy. The only person that can make you happy is you.
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Although I do LOVE men, they just aren't that smart.  You could cut your hair and change the color and they might not notice.  They aren't exactly observant UNLESS you are naked.  Of course, if you are naked, you do have their undivided attention.....at least for a few minutes.\n\nMen are also not that great with conversations unless it involves sports or some other men's activity.  They don't like to talk about feelings, and they are really good at forgetting birthdays and anniversaries.\n\nThe problem about telling him you need compliments and hugs is that the next time he tries to do it, you won't enjoy it because it will seem fake and planned........and who wants that if it isn't real and heartfelt?\n\nMy suggestion to you is to stop trying to get your sense of self worth from the reflection from your husband's eyes.  People tend to be treated by others the way they treat themselves.  Start working out and taking better care of yourself.  Buy a new outfit if you can afford it.  Take up a new hobby and try to make some new girl friends.\n\nWhen YOU change how YOU feel about YOU, it will be noticeable to your husband like no outfit or hair cut would ever be.\n\nLove yourself and you will be loved.  Appreciate yourself and you will be appreciated.\n\nIt won't be immediate, but it will be worth it over time.  Good luck and be happy!\n\nSincerely,\nRobin_in_Tennessee
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i think you should be flattered \nthere is nothing wrong with someone finding you attractive and i am sure you are strong enough in your relationship not to let it affect that\njust because you are Christian doesnt mean others cant look at you and find you beautiful\nso smile at him and let it go and go home to your husband with a bigger smile because he has a beautiful woman xx
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Start of by asking your significant other to go out to dinner with you. Wear something that you know they find sexy on you. At dinner keep things positive and sexy! Talk about the things you did with each other when you first got together. After dinner, at each stop light or stop sign, kiss and touch each other, once home, remove each others clothes then start doing some of those things you talked about at dinner!\nOther things you could do is fantasy role playing, doctor and nurse, cop and hooker, naughty school girl and the principal.\nUse your imagination and think sexy thoughts about each other.\nSend each other dirty e-mails!\nI'm sure this will help you get that lust back.    Good luck
644013
You look good being the father and husband you are!  Enjoy your family, that is the only thing to make yourself even more handsome!
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Posture is important.  Don't be slumped over and lazy.  Look as if you could live without him.  Be confident in yourself and it will shine through.
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It will not be easy, but the best advice I can give you is to pray and ask GOD to take away the feelings that you have for this man, and to renew the love,desire and passion you once had for your husband.
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My dear lovely Bubbles.  YOu are truely a sexual and enlightend lady of the 21st century and any man will be blessed to have you in his life.  \n\nLet there be nothing less but sunshine, warm brezees, smiles, hugs, and love in your life. The man you finally choose to let in will be lucky to have you and know great happiness.
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Hey Angel,\n\nYou have gotten some good advice regarding your self esteem.\nIf you don't like what you look like change.  Exercise, eat less.\nProbably more importantly .... eat right. \n\nYou've heard about women who seem to crave abuse?  They become battered wives ...after a relationship ends they find another jerk just as bad or worse than the first. \n\nWhy would you be even remotely attracted to a guy who called you a fat ugly whore?  It sounds like you're grooming yourself to be a battered wife. \n\nThis piece of work shouldn't be a consideration.  A girl has to have her standards.   If you ever let him get close to you he's going find out as soon as he can if the "whore" thing is true and most likely spared more rumors no matter what. \n\nI have a very good feeling about you ... I think you're going start doing all the right things and turn into a dreamboat. \n\nGodspeed!