My bestfriend wants to have sex with me, but i'm not attracted to her.?
487718
There is no good way to tell her the first time should have never happen you lead this friend on and now you don't want to continue what you started that going to hurt just be honest and apologize and let her know that you will always be there as a friend and that's all you can be to her
152594
You are just wasting your time with her if you are hoping to have a real relationship with her.  She's not going to commit to you, she can't stay committed to her current partner.  I certainly hope that you are putting on a raincoat when you hook up with her.  If you know what I mean.  Who knows who else she's hooking up with on the side.  You don't want to walk away with a STD
851208
Tell her you don't mind being friends with her, but you have absolutely no intentions of being involved sexually with the opposite sex.  Let her know you don't swing that way and her actions are starting to make you feel uncomfortable.  I also like what you said about she's trying to turn you into something your not.  Say that to her too!  Good luck.
588406
tell her to get the hell off of ya...your not interested in her that way...you just want to be friends and if she doesnt want just that break the friendship off
616527
The LAST thing you want to do is tell EITHER of them. You state you dont WANT to love her. Then stop it, she is with your FREIND. Show some character and dont interfere with THEIR relationship to satisfy something that you state yourself that you dont really want to begin with. Women DO come and go...but FREINDS can be forever if you treat them right.
103769
If she is your best friend then she should understand. You know you can't make someone like you and you know you mustn't live your life according to someone else's ideas or wants. It is normal that she might hate you or feel jealous. Guess what it ain't your fault. SO TELL HIM!!!
1178147
I would say if you are not for sure about her sexual perference you may not want to go there. Just for the simple fact you may be taking a risk on losing a friendship so I would suggest give a little more thought before you throw all the cards on the table.
421889
You need to be upfront and honest with your Best Friend. Let her now how you feel.  But you are still calling her your best friend so maybe if the two of you talked about what makes you uncomfortable about still being friends, it can be worked out!  But make sure you are honest with her.  Just because you don't have the same beliefs as her doesn't mean you need to disrepect her and her disrepect you.  Good luck to you!
479508
Because she has no self-esteem. You obviously don't really want her, but she is either too desperate to see that or too depressed to think that she could find someone who is actually a decent Man. See if she would be into swinging or group encounters. You might be able to swing it.
992606
Trust me, I know EXACTLY what you're going through, I was in Love with my best friend and after we dated, it wasn'tthe same for a while, he actually dated my female best friend and somehow, I managed to stomach it through their entire year and a half realtionship still being best friends with my first love. It could just be that you "gave him your body" so to speak, if you were a virgin before it, you may be tricking yourself into believe he;s the one for you because of that, sex can really mess with your head. Tough it out and see what happens with his girlfriend, try to stay close friends without letting your emotions hurt your friendship.
78714
i think you should make a pass at her just to see her reaction. shes playing head games with you, fight back. you have every right to like whatever sex you like, thats not her choice...dont take that from her.
32061
Maybe you are.  You could be the best friend she has without her being the best friend you have.  \nWhy would you want to tell her you're not?  It would be horribly mean, and besides, it's a nice compliment to you that she likes you so much.
729967
if you have a desire to b with someone else, then you dont wanna b with her, YOU DONT LOVE HER, tough its not right to want to be with her best friend, youre playing with fire there, leave the girl and find yourself someone that is NOT her friend, there are plenty of girls out there for you to go after the one that you know will cause you trouble, sounds like youre young, the girl youre with now, or the one you meet tomorrow might not be the one for you, but still you have to go triugh the experience, just learn from it
648435
Just be really clear with her about what you want and give her the chance to choose if that would work for her. If she isn't into it, there are plenty of girls out there who will, provided you treat them with the same respect you would a friend without the benefits!
387058
Yes I would be kinda scared off to! Dont tickle fight with her any more,seems like she has a big issue to deal with!Maybe your friend needs to find herself a sex partner to relieve her,but if thats not what she wants,Id have a serious talk with her before she gets the wrong impressions!!
182255
She said she didn't want to lose your friendship to be polite. She may not be attracted to you in any sexual/romantic way and wanted to say something nice. You need to move on and understand that unfortunately not everyone is going to feel for you the same way you feel for them. You'll never be able to make her change her mind about you. Only she can do that.
409961
tell her that you don't want to have sex with her because it's weird and ugly because you're cousins. if she still insists, leave and tell someone close to you about the situation. tell your sister or your friend. \nalso, try to video the scenario. just in case anyone wants evidence,, or something to laugh about later