Me & my boyfreind r ready to get married & have a baby but im 17and hes 20 &  mom wont let me move out?
481462
If the two of you are truly in love than it should be no problem for the two of you to continue as you are for one more year until you are of a legal age to do as you please. Your mom is just trying to protect you. It's her job. Don't fight it. Spend this year enjoying each other's company and growing closer together as a couple. Then, when you're 18, ask for your mother's blessing. I understand the urge to rush out into this wonderful new life (speaking from experience) but as a couple you should honor your mother wishes and just wait it out. One year out of a lifetime of happiness will be a drop in the bucket.
133103
How does he feel? That is perhaps the most important question here. Since you are pregnant, your baby coming from a broken home is going to be determined by your relationship with this boy. If he is agreeable to it, why not make a commitment to raise your child together by getting married? Normally 18 is a bit young to be getting married because people change a lot from 18 to their mid-twenties and since for most of us that is the age that we get our first taste of freedom, this could spell disaster when we realize that our husband/wife has a right to be involved in our life to a great extent. This can feel like a lack of freedom. Also, having a baby can make people feel trapped, especially males. It will be hard but if you two are in love and he's a good guy, know that statistically you would be doing the best thing for your baby if you were married. \nTry to give to your partner instead of only giving as much as your partner does. Tell him about that resolve. Giving can be very contagous but so can being hurtful. A loving word can stop anger dead in its tracks in a marriage. It takes two to fight but only takes one to defuse a bomb. Try to make your first instinct to defuse the situation. Take care of all 3 of you, and I hope our e-opinions help you.
1085761
Has it occurred to you that he hates you just as much as you hate him and he's waiting for you to grow up and move away so that he can have the normal life he deserves?  Face it - there is not a damn thing you can do to 'make him move out' so you need to grow up and deal with the fact that your mother loves him and he is there to stay.\n\nKnock it off and stop being a brat.
681845
Karina, is this you? Sorry, but this sounds too much like my son who is 19, and his fiance who is 25. Took me off guard! I think that you shouldn't jump into marriage right away. At 19, my son is SO not ready to get married right now. He's just not mature enough yet to deal with everything that comes with being married. Being engaged is one thing, being married is another. I say, go for a long engagement. Take time to really get to know each other.  Put more effort into thinking more of the marriage instead of just the "big wedding" every girl dreams of. You both are young and are still growing and maturing in so many ways. What both of you want from life right now may be different for both of you in a few years. Especially him. If you're really serious about this, my advice would be to wait a few more years.
354822
Yes, he can get in trouble. Depending on the Age of Consent in your state, which I believe it is 18, and with him being 25, you are a minor. You would need to Emancipate yourself to move out. Not sure what you would need to do, but if it is something like abuse, you need to talk to a school councilor. \nIf it is because your Mother will not let you see this guy, then I am afraid there might not be much you can do...
784833
Oh wow. This is completely a showing of the future if you two get married! Talk about tied to the apron strings. His parents are absolutely controlling him and he obviously doesn't want to end it. Is he living with them still? Maybe he has separation issues. Clingy to his parents...or feels like he has to obey because hes living there...\nOuch. Tread carefully here, cuz if he's 24 and still obeying, after marriage he's gonna be still obeying.
827405
First off, are your parents living in the dark ages...\nGo and do what you want [Not what they want] go see your boyfriend and his family..\nTell your mom in a nice way NO I am going to visit with my boyfriend and his family and that is final. \nYou are 20, you tell them what your plans are and go for it..They have no hold on you anymore...\nSome parents just don't want to let go, but now is a good time to stand up for yourself....
702745
If your under 18, you will have to do what she says, no matter what you want.  As for your bf, he should respect your mother, or would you chose him over her?
280302
why are you 18 and wanting to move in with a boyfriend?\nis there something at home your running away form, talk about it dont run. I understand the idea of living wiht a Love is tempting. \nStay in school and take care of yourself first. How about this, get your education, a real job and buy and apartment for yourslef. You say you cant afford one, work so that you can and get a nice one!\nAs for the 18th b-day thing, it seems like she is really drilling the school is important thing because...IT IS! \nThe mere fact that they have grounded you is enough to let you know that you are still young ( dont wait your time out). Parents dont groudn 21 year olds ( adults). only kids. \nstay home.
887045
Go live with him and live happily ever after. Your mom is being ignorant. Your mom needs to realize your an adult and you will do whatever makes you happiest and she can take it or leave it.
867464
Your relationship seems rock solid. Don't let anyone including your parents get in the way. Your parents care about you and want the best for you. They haven't taken your relationship seriously yet. Make your parents respect your relationship by investing more time in your relationship with your fiance and less with your parents. Show them you are perfectly fine on your own. Oh, by the way, marriage is cool too. Don't be afraid.
1163465
Hi Kat,\n\nSounds like you already answered your own question hun.  If you both care about each other, there is nothing wrong with dating still and living in your own places.  If you really want your independence back then you need to take it.  Living with him because he wants you to stay isnt the answer.  Stand strong, and be kind. THere is always common ground.  NEVER compromise or you'll be blaming each other in the long run.  Best of luck . Take care
662531
Obviously your mother is trying to manipulate you with that guilt trip. But you have to consider your age and whether or not you have any fiscally stable relatives in the nearby area, or responsible friends.\n Consider why you don't want to move in with her, then you must in the kindest way possible tell her why. Most importantly, you have to have a place to stay before you can have this converstation with her. If that doesn't work, try getting a job if you're having a lot of problems at home.
779892
You both sound very much in love. How about asking him to move and buying/renting his mom a place close by, that way you'll be in your comfort zone and able to deal with her from a distance; and enable him to move? I think you're going to have to accept the fact that he'll never want his mom out of his life...as annoying as it is; the package comes with it.
606493
First of all, religious differences are a major concern. If his religion forbids marrying out, you won't have a happy marriage as far as his parents go... Take that into SERIOUS consideration.\n\nNow the way he treats you, I mean, I know you love him but he really doesn't seem that interested in you. Why would he want to wait for five years? He thinks his parents will somehow approve of you in five years and now they just can't see the situation clearly?\n\nSend me a private message if you want to discuss this further. Just give this some really serious thought, marriage is forever and the last thing you need is a divorce a few months after getting married AFTER waiting years and years!
925141
Under the right circumstance, the age part would be okay.  But since you are asking, it sounds like you are not sure, and that is definitely not a time to get married!  At 18 and 20, probably neither of you are able to support a household.  If a baby came along, how would you manage?  \n\nIf you love each other, respect each other enough to do this right.  Both of you should get an education first, or at least be well on your way in a career that has a future.  You will know in your heart when the time is right.
537871
IF you are too young to move out how can you be engaged? If you can live on your own then you have no business being enganged. You need to get your priorties strait or at least grow up before you try to be an adult.