what do if the man that i was in love with and been with for ten leaves me for a nineteenyear and he is thirty
489857
hold your head up high and move on safe in the knowledge that it wont last
89103
better nine months than eight years enjoy the freedom try not to look for someone to take his place hang out with friends eventualy the feeling of loss will pass just give yourself the greaving time you need come to terms with what has happened try to learn from it and move on maby the next relationship will be better good luck god bless lol.
908715
Call him and see where the two of you left of ask him if he still has the same feelings he had for you before you moved
112938
If you're happy now, then be contented with what you have. You chose to marry him despite his age and you've lasted that long together.\n\nIt is dangerous to entertain such a question...
73793
Sounds like lust honey.  Stay 100 miles away from this guy.  It's NOT worth breaking up a 20 year marriage over.
583107
Maybe turn back the clock and remember what brought you both together and go back there and re-kindle the flame.*\n\nAfter five years there love there that will never go away.
597557
wait at least another year.  Sometimes things dont really come into the clear until you have been with a person two years.
1154572
You need think of yourself and love yourself and put yourself as number one on your priority list, because he has made it VERY clear that you are not number one on his priority list. You're 48 years old, you need to be with someone that can love you for the beautiful person you are and not someone that acts like they're 12. You need to make yourself Plan A, because he only thinks of you as Plan B. Good luck and don't be embarrassed- he should be embarrassed that he doesn't have what it takes to love you the proper way.
789540
You are 17 years old\nThis is not going to be your last relationship\nHonestly do you know anyone 20 years older than you who is still with the person they dated when they were 17. ! in 10,000 I'd say\nYou won't even remember you went out with this kid in 5 years time so don't sweat it there are 100 other lusty fellas out there to make you happy. Go try a few
124813
And he shouldn't give up his love of 5 years.  You just need to start dating again, find things you enjoy doing and do them.  Don't sit by dwelling on what you can't have, instead accept the things you cannot change and move foward.  If you and this person are supposed to be together, you will, in time, for now it is what it is and you just have to go about living your life and finding ways to bring joy and peace to your own life, like attract like and if you are down in the dumps that is exactly the type of person you are going to attract, shake yourself up and open your mind for the goodness that you deserve.
298408
U should talk to him, if u don't u may spend the next 20 yrs asking yourself why didn't I? or was he the one?\n\ntalk to him before he leaves
643130
Life is full of "what if's". We can not change yesterday, tomarrow is all we have and there will be more "what if's". Look at it this way, IF you were meant to be with M then it would have happened while you where single, not married... \nThis is your unanswered prayer and your are to wrapped up in "you" - being self center to see the bigger picture. For the simple fact that you owe J more respect than you are showing him, remove the blindfold from over your eyes, wake up & smell the coffee, child it is time you act like an adult. Grow up! Your not the first and wont be the last to miss one hih school crush. Even my 87 yr old aunt said she missed hers and wondered "what if". But at the age of 89 she died in the arms of a good man who loved her and still did for 75 yrs. Two weeks before she died they celebrated 73 yrs of marriage. Can you do that?
1107341
The question is: do you see yourself with him when you are 60 years old and over? If you can't picture yourself spending the rest of your life with him, then you're not in love with him, which means that you need to move on. You need to let go of him and find someone else that you will be in love with forever and who will love you forever too.
887378
Thanks for saying you were 25.  It is difficult to know what you need to do if you know you have to move away.  You realize the closer you get, the more pain you feel when you have to leave.  I have been through it myself.  I bit the bullet and poured out my heart and told her how I felt.  It didn't get me anywhere, but I felt better about it.  It is best to lay all the cards out on the table and take the consequences, than to regret that you passed up the chance later on.  A nice quite dinner and a little snuggle time without a crowd is all it takes to get a guy to open up.
604277
Well you're supposed to love a man, but if he's not attached to you, then you must accept this as reality.  You must accept that he's not there and that emotionally functioning under the assumption that he is still there is madness.  Your psychological grip on him may be why he left you.  Men need to feel like they can function.\n\nNow what can you do?  Explore this.  Explore all the things you can do right now.  Do them.  Do them without him.  Just keep practicing doing things, like the adult you are, without an attachment.  It will get easier as you begin to trust yourself again.  And you shouldn't become attached again until you can be sure that it is wanted.  Don't worry about these things.  Just be a person, by yourself.  Have friends.  Have fun.  Work hard. Go for walks and vacations.  Experience life, the sun, and everything around you.  So many things can be done alone.  I should know.  I've always been.
982507
Seven years is a long time to be with someone....you have a lot of history together which will not be easy to leave behind.  You need to really examine the relationship as only you know if it is worth saving.  If you really love him and things are good otherwise, then I would take him up on his offer and get some counseling.  That will also help you decide if he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.  He may also be able to overcome his self esteem issues and be able to better perform in the sexual arena.  So try the counseling.....give it another go and if he falls back or you decide it's just not going to work then you can move on....Good luck in whatever you decide
505266
Meet someone else and move on.  If it is true love it will last unless in death obviously.