my sister is going to iraq and i dont ike her that much because she is really controlling but now she going?
488859
she may be controlling but she is your sister and when she is gone you will miss her because she wont be there to talk to (boss you around LoL joke) spend as much time with her as you can before she leaves trust me i had a friend i was not close to before he left to go to Iraq and he has left and i feel bad that i didn't get to spend much time with him before he left hopes this helps
436877
You sister will only leave when she is ready. When she is she is going to need her family and a support system. I wouldn't try to push you sister into leaving but make sure you are always there when she needs to talk. If she knows she has a support system the easier it would be for her to leave.
795759
Well, this is how i look at it, girls are controlling. And they think a lot more then guys, cause yeah, they're smarter. Therefore they think about every little thing. If shes telling you not to go places. Uh, yeah thats not up to her. As long as you're not doing anything illegal, or not cheating on her, you have a right to go anywhere you want. You really dont have to listen to her THAT much, and if she has a problem with it so be it, there's other people.
900209
She is already living the example that was given to her by her mother. You may not be able to disuade her from many bad decisions, they are after all, her choices. The very best you could do for this young lady is be a very caring and available adult. Trying to control her at this point will more than likely drive her away. Talk to her openly, but without judgement. Make your conversations thought provoking, encourage her to answer and solve her own issues with you.
1041845
Breathe dude. Don't let her have that kind of power over you. You can't control others, and sometimes people just ain't right, don't let her harm you more by making you so angry. Just let it go, and keep your peace. You'll get paid, or you won't. Not in your control, just don't help her, or count it as a gift and move on!
263501
Regardless of who does more, be mature about this and don't tell everyone or tease her about it.  I'm sure she is already humiliated and you don't need to permanently damage your relationship with your sister over it.
825201
Your sis-in-law has to realize that the holidays is not about control. But the holidays is not just about who has the get-together at their house. If your family isn't spread all over the country you or she could have a holiday get-together close to the holiday while the other has it on the holiday; and then the next year you could trade. \nYour sis-in-law was probably miffed because you planned your thing before she could open her mouth to invite everyone. \nTalk to her about setting up something where this year you will have so-in-so holiday and she can have the other  but the year after you change it around.\nI have a sis-in-law like your sis-in-law and I do know what you are going thru. Remember - the holidays are about love.
886072
Oh how sweet! But, let me tell you - if you come home safely from Iraq, you can take her anywhere and she will be thrilled - just to have you back.\n\nCome home safely!!
726229
Mom???  J/K.  My younger sister threatened my mother like that not too long ago, sister said she was going to move in with me or her dad.  Well, I heard this and told her there was no way in hell I would put up with her crap and if she thought for one second that she would just move in with me she was sadly mistaken.  If your daughter really feels that way, let her move in with sis or dad and see what that's all about.  It sounds to me like it's just a threat, if and when it comes right down to it she's not going to move in with dad or sis.  If that was a viable option, don't you think she would have done it by now?  She's bluffing, call her bluff.  If you want to move to a better area she needs to be adult enough to realize that you are making a decision that will better your life and hers, and at 14 she should be able to wrap her little self-absorbed head around that.  You are still the adult in the relationship, she is the child and that's what she's acting like....a complete child.  Maybe you can try to include her in choosing where you two will live if you want to try to reason with her that is.  Sit down with her and tell her that you know she's upset about moving to a different area but you would really like her to go with you, blah, blah, blah, do the mom thing.  Maybe if you level with her and speak to her like an adult she will realize that you're not doing this to like totally ruin her life and she will come to her senses.  Good luck.  God, I can't wait to have children!  Hasn't anyone figured out how to skip right through those lovely teenage years?  Alcohol, lots and lots of alcohol.  I'm gonna make a great mom someday, don't ya think?
221199
technically she does have a right to lay down rules of the house as you are living with her but any serios issues should be left for your mother and dad to make rulings on if you have a problem with her being overbearing talk to your parents and have them decide how much control she should have
170877
if she let her family get in the way then you don't need her. Just got out with friends and have a good time do what you can to keep your mind off of her. I am going through the same thing. I just keep my slef busy.
623885
Tell her you'll see her later tonight. IDK, it's not that big a deal. Unless she's super-controlling or something. Don't sweat the small stuff, buddy.
1169682
I AGREE I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING WITH MY SISTER SHES ALWAYS JUDGING ME SAYING THAT I DONT CARE ABOUT HER I HAVE ACCEPTED HER BUT SHE DOESNT SEEM TO ACCEPT ME FOR ME... ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT THEY JUST DO BUT IT DOESNT MAKE THEM RIGHT JUST PRAY FOR THEM TO UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL .. TELL THEM HOW YOU FEEL... I HAVE DONE THAT TO MY SISTER UNFORTUNATELY ITS NOT WORKED WHEN I HAVE TOLD HER HOW SHE MAKES ME FEEL... BUT WITH PRAYERWARDS THOSE PPL WHO DONT EXCEPT YOU... JUST PRAY... FOR UNDERSTANDING AND JUST BE PATIENT THATS WHAT I HAVE BEEN DOING WITH MY SISTER..
219330
No, she is just being retarded.\nIn fact it sounds like she is using her religion as an excuse not to go because maybe she just doesn't like her brother.\nShe needs to be disfellowshiped and you Witness know what I mean.
856455
Sometimes actions speak louder than words.  Show her that you are willing to listen and support her by just being there and not proding her.  She'll talk when she's ready.  The medical industry is always very demanding and stressful and doctors have a tendency to think that noone understands, but deep down inside all they want is what all of us do (some TLC and peace and quiet).  Let your sister know that you love her and that you care and that you're there if she needs to vent.  She is after all your sister not the doctor.
355799
I am in IRAQ as i write this.I have seen my family and girlfriend 10 days since january 22 2005.I had the option of taking leave while being here but chose not to for the fact i didn't want to go through the goodbyes again.My girlfriend hates me being here but fully supports me by being there for me.I talk to her weekly on the phone and chat just about everyday on the computer.She has sent me numerous packages with "stuff" i cannot buy here.The problem i have with her is she refuses to go out at all during my absence. I told her this is not good and it only makes the waiting worse.There is nothing wrong with going out with her friends and family(she does go to her childrens house).Of course she does worry and tells me she sometimes cries herself to sleep.\n I believe the worst thing a wife or significant other can do is burden her man with menial or trivial problems that can be solved with a little time and thought.I assure you if the man had the choice he would rather be home watching his family and dealing with day to day issues.\n I have seen grown men "freak out" because of the minor problems being repeated to them from thier wives or girlfriend.During times like these maturing comes fast and hard for both people.The ones left home alone to do EVERYTHING around the house has to make all the decisions and then get used to the man coming home and trying to readjust to helping out again. The readjusting is the hardest part of coming home.now once again you must learn to accept that things will not always be done the way you have become acustomed.Just because your man is not away anymore doesn`t mean things get easier.Supporting him and he supporting you once back in the states is vital to every relationship.
1044665
That sounds very rude and inconsiderate to me.  If she asked your sister then she asked her so she should stay.  She can just let her friend know that the spot has been filled because she declined.  I dunno man, but to me she is already setting a bad example for married life if she can't even stay true to her word and cant even show respect for your family.  Looks like you got some thinking to do.  Good luck.