I like a girl at work that I think I can't have. How do I forget her? What do I do?
486427
you would know your capabilities better than us. want to forget her quickly, I will help you, imagine her with her borefriend, giving him oral sex, with his goo running down her face, now do you really want to imagine kissing her, imagine her on the toilet taking a crap, you have the halo effect, you are focusing on your intimidation by her and not thinking about her being a real person with all the nasty body functions that you possess. you think she is a possession to be had, like a baseball, whether it be her or the next out of reach girl, you are in for heartache, one morning if you did get this girl and she is sitting on the toilet with diarrhea, with the stinch lingering in the air, you are going to realize she is a real person, and your infatuation will quickly fade with it, and most likely your feelings you thought were love. she is a person dude, not something that you can or can't have.
824945
Ask her out in a way that gives her the option of letting you down really, really nicely.  For example, send her an email suggesting that you go for drinks the next evening after work.  If she's so shy that she can't deal with rejecting you she can just not reply to the email.  You could also phone and leave a message on her machine at a time when you know she's not at home or at the office.  Then she can ignore your message if that's easier for her.  And then, be a gentleman and don't get pissed off if she doesn't get back to you.  As you said, she's really shy!
907103
If you really like her and want to be with her then tell her and maybe she feels the same... some girls keep boyfriends no matter if they like other guys because they fear ending up alone and being rejected from the new guy... so, maybe she's waiting for you to make a move... i think you should definitely go for it and if she doesn't feel the same, then break off every contact with her and try to forget about her... if she'll say yes, then great... but if she'll say no, it'll be easier for you to forget about her... because she rejected you, so now instead of liking her you might start hating her... it's better to go for it, so you won't wonder about it later of what could've happened if you went for it... so, i encourage you to tell her what's up... either way you have nothing to lose, but to gain possibly... good luck...
434756
Be yourself because if she doesn't like you for who you are you can't expect to have a working relationship.  Treat her well and let her see who you are.
618869
Sometimes, you just can't. It all depends what you're into and what lengths you're willing to go to but my personal (and instinctive) advice would be to move on and find someone who's \n\n1. obviously interested and \n2. not into playing silly retrograde games.\n\nThere's a chance, however, that she may just be unsure or genuinely fickle so, if you really like her, you could just sit tight and keep flirting. You've already asked her out so she knows you like her. Now it's up to her to make a move.
849241
Call her.  If she gave you her number, that's what she's hoping you'll do.  Just don't take her to the same restaurant you work at.
249784
ok here ya go, ask her to hang out like maybe go grab a bite to eat beforwe work, ya know not like a date date but more of a friend. then start a conversation about how great she is. she will get the picture that you are interested. but hey girls get scared and they think the guy might not feel the same. so you might can just ask her if she likes you like that she will say yes, if not she will still be your friend because she is coming to your house anyway. I dunno I always called a girl and iasked, but the girl i got now my friend hooked us up.
394293
It depends on the role you would be playing out...\nIf you are playing out the employee you rather don't.  It is never good to get job and personal relationship mixed.\n\nIf you get on well beyond the ties of work... you could find the way.  \n\n'A crush'= well, it seems you really like her but since you describe it precisely as 'a crush' it seem this wouldn't last at all.\n\nI wouldn't like my ex to be my boss... neither my employee to by my ex... If you think it worths the pain go on... but if this won't last you might set off your worker role as the prior...
489671
Honestly I am a female and i will give u advice. The thing tthat u should do is relax, take a deep breath and think over.Just by looking her u feel good but also u have words that wont come out the right way. when u see her face again u should stop her and get to know her first. find out what she likes to do and you'll find your way in, meaning your time will come so u can express your feeling or any special thing u feek for her. just give it a try but one thing never rush a female.take nice and slow and easy. if u need advice talk to me i will help u cuz i am a girl that been through experience like that and i didnt know what to do until i found my way. try!!
270675
Body language, how they look at you.  Do his eyes light up when he sees you?  OR and I know this is radical, you could actually tell him that you like him.  Write him a little note if you have to and slip it to him while you're at work.  OR you could just not do anything and love from afar...but I know that's going to make you miserable.  Sometimes we just need to take matters into our own hands.  In other words, grab the bull by the horns.  \n\nI know you and I know you can do it if you put your mind to it.  Lose the hangups and go for it....
997444
If you cannot even talk to her, and you think she's the girl of your dreams, you have very few options.\n\nBest bet, somewhere safe, where she can escape easily, ask for a 15 minute coffee date sorta thing.  Then you seem "normal" and "harmless", working on the story/stalking thing simultaneously.  If at work, just bring her coffee, figure out what she drinks... get that with frothed milk (consider lactose intolerance...) on top.  Then try and talk to her while she struggles with a hot foamy beverage.... put's them off gaurd, I use this all the time.\n\nAbsolutely NO gushing poems, singing on the balcony crap... save that for once you actually KNOW, mess it up, and need her back.
354967
If she seems to be talking to you a lot,even about little things,she likes you.But if she's touching you in subtle ways,playing with her hair,blushing all the time,she wants to see you outside of work.Talk to her about what she has planned after work and see if mabye she wants to get a bite.
47041
Just ignore her.  Try not to hurt her feelings any more than you have to, but when he comes to your work be EXTRA friendly with him.  Look very happy and pretend like you arent doing it on purpose.
845120
You need to be very careful of how you handle this. If you approach her, she could take it as sexual harassment. Either way it goes, this will effect your job.  I would suggest finding another job before bringing this up to her. I understand that this may not be as easy as it sounds, but you should understand that once you do bring this up, things at work will change. What if she feels the way that you do, but someone later breaks it off? Will you still be able to work with her? Will she want to work with you? You also need to think about what will happen if she doesn't respond well to you. She may not take it as far as the sexual harassment that I mentioned earlier, but it could make her uncomfortable enough to not want to work with you anymore. You are probably safer fantasizing about her for now.
80495
That sounds really awkward.  If you can, look for another job or another position in the company.  That would make it easier to have a relationship with the girl.
802572
Don't show up at her job. Try to wait for her outside of the school, when he is out of her job. Don't forget the flowers. That wouldn't be creepy. I'd call it a nice surprise. If she says no I don't want to see you and you still show up again - yeah, that would be creepy.
969333
Yeah, all of that stuff, Dude, but the way to a woman's heart doesn't start at night after work.  It starts in the morning when you wake up, and you snuggle next to her and tell her how much you're going to miss her that day.  Hold her a while.  Then you bring her coffee in bed and head out of the door.  During the day you call and tell her you can't wait to get home to see her...maybe have a little lunch together somewhere.  When you get home, don't jump on her....give her some time; then bring the flowers and take care of the dinner for the night so she won't have to cook.  Bring a good bottle of wine too.  After YOU clean up the kitchen, run her a nice long bath and bring her a glass of wine....maybe buy her a new bath robe!  Now is the time for the candles and such.  You start your seduction in the morning and I guarantee she'll be ready for you that evening!  It's like all-day-foreplay!  Godloveya!