how to improve on understanding husband?
488936
both of u need 2 realize that just because u have Ur differences does not make it wrong.here's what I mean,if its ingrained that u do something one way n hubby does it another both r OK,u do not have 2 agree on everything u just have 2 agree not 2 disagree about it.learning 2 overlook the small things and not make them into big things will help both of u keep Ur sanity.communication helps but if both of u see it differently its not going 2 change and if its the way u feel why should u either of u.its okay 2 be different just learn 2 love the things u do more n not sweat the stuff u dont.actually the stuff u dont love about ur spouse ends up being what u look back at with fondness lol sadistic isnt it.u 2 need 2 relax n stop sweating the small things n try banding 2gether against the bad things.different does not mean seperate,it just means compromise and the ability 2 overlook the small stuff.
529365
Here's a little trick. Picture yourself married to him, doing the things married couples do, meeting his friends and family, facing problems together, etc.. Do you like what you see? If not, give yourself some more time to know him better and do the mind excercise again. If you don't like it still, stop waisting your time and find another guy you can be comfortable with.
439693
Do things to make your relationship stronger.  Marriage counseling is good.  Marriage workshops.  \n\nPray for each other.  Pray that you each grow closer to God and that God will help you grow closer together.  We don't really understand what love is until we know God.  He helps us love each other the way we should.\n\nHave common goals that you work toward together.  Treat her the way you want to be treated.  Be respectful and kind. \n\nCheck out "Hidden Keys To A Loving, Lasting Marriage," by Gary Smalley.  You can read a bit of it here:  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310402913/qid=1144083134/sr=8-6/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i6_xgl14/103-4668860-3658249?n=507846&s=books&v=glance
1185950
I agree , when you get to know the person a bond forms between the two. Start out as friends, then work your way up the ladder till a relationship has form. Like she said, you put your trust in them and your heart as well. \nAlso your feelings are share with him/her thru the marriage. Even some partners rather go to their friends, before even telling their spouses. I share things with my husband, and there some things I rather keep to myself. As for women problems, well I go to my friends for that. \nMy poor hubby be sitting there, thinking how he could answer something like that. His mom said I could talk to her. But Then again, I rather talk to the ones I know the most. But my husband is always the one who comes first.
698362
Seeing that your husband is at fault an open conversation is the only way you could hope to change this situation, that's if you and your marriage are important enough for him to be willing to participate! It could be worth a try, especially if perhaps he's not aware of your unhappiness. \n\nIf he is not willing to listen to reason, then a tempory separation might do the trick for both of you. It will not only give you a break, but also a chance to decide if you really want to go on with your marriage. And maybe it will give him time to get his act together! \n\nI hope it helps a bit. Be strong and don't let him run you over!
28468
i suggest that you sit down and  talk to your husband.  this may cause many mnay problems down the line if your not already feeling a certain way towards him now, marraige is a HUGE responsibility, and it is not something to be taken lightly,youe need to discuss this with him and try to find a way to resolve these issuses.
19520
The best way is to simply ask him what pleases him. \nYou find out by communication. No one is a mind reader.
826608
Honesty is the BEST policy...\n\nTalk to him about what's bothering you...otherwise...what is he suppose to do? He can't read your mind. \n\nMy husband works his butt off too and comes home, showers, eats and sleeps...gets up the next day, goes to work, comes home, showers, eats and sleeps...and so on.\n\nI feel the same way you do at times, but we need to understand, (which we both do) that he is tired and drained.  This does NOT interpret that he does not love you or find you unattractive...he's just tired.\n\nTry scheduling something for you and him on his day(s) off something special to do...don't wait for him...just do it.\n\nPray for courage and uplifting...\nTry to get some sleep... :)
1083760
The root to your problem lack of conversation,....If there anything not right goin on , the best way to solve it is to talk openly to each other. Say your husband is up set over something that happen between his in-laws & him sometime ago, n he's not happy being with them....but for me at least he's willing to join you guy for a week. For me that's fair....Talk to your husband n make him feel good for his sacrifice....Then your job is to tell your family that your hubby has something to do........Time will heel things.....But never ever compare anybody with the past or with another person....Things can go very bad.
804129
Go slow. Unravel his personality slowly.  Except for the important things like, are you married, etc.
891572
I think there is more to the issue than what has been shared and suggest that maybe going to a marriage counselor might help in discovering all the real underlying issues affecting both of your behaviors.  A lot of men say you can 'ask them anything' when you have concerns but often become defensive or unable to express themselves.  Perhaps a third person who is objective might be able to help find out what is really going on in the relationship.
574077
I think people are misunderstanding what you are trying to say. Perhaps a language barrier yes?\nYour husband is smart, but you are smart also.\nI know you are trying to say you are being a faithful\nwife and you want to be a perfect wife for him. Also you may be trying to say he should not be suspicious because you are trying to be the best wife.\nThose are real feelings you are experiencing.\nA thing called a womens intuition. Sometimes if he is suspicous of you its because he is a suspicous person himself. Your are married only one year to get to know him.\nGoing out 3 years does not give much of a chance to really know a persons habits. Age is another factor too. Let him go his path for now. He is not in the building stage of your relationship. He is not doing things to make you both grow as a couple. He as to value marriage. He has to change his ways now. You have to encourage him to not let it continue to go his separate way. It is not the same path. If you suspect him more you have to say to him not to bring home social disease. Get it out now and begin healing and loving. Ask him why did he marry if he still needs to stray (wonder like a cat).\nYou value marriage and you want it to work out, patience is most likely one answer. Good Luck.
403701
Buy some videos on techniques, like giving a better bj.  Preview it and see what you think, but the idea is actually to watch it with him to practice.  He will love the idea that you want to try and the visual stimulation more than your technique improvement I bet!  There are some good videos out there on numerous exciting topics for couples.
461574
do not say your sorry - you must first show it - get your stuff together - for give ness must be shown - not just talked aboutif you are serious and he is a good person , you may start talking - he is listening even if he's mad, and then you show every day you DO care and love him - he will mellow in time - how much time is unimportant- just keep doing the show thing - even stupid men can be retrained to see their partner cares from the heart
1093777
Buy him some hand cuffs for a start and ask him to use them on you. As he gets more excited by it encourage him. If he begins to get more excited and interested, let him know how much you enjoyed it when he (insert action here). Let him think he is the one coming up with the ideas, and make suggestions, "Would you like to .... " With my husband, it was a small bit at a time at first, but after a bit, he came round big time.
189629
Take time to really listen when he talks.  Ask questions about what he says not what you think he says.
584883
Setting ground rules is important - as is following through with these. Discuss with your husband that it takes TWO to make a marriage work well and that accepting responsibility is an integral part to it. Make it very clear that you will not tolerate irresponsible behavior and lead by example by doing specific things to show him what responsibility entails. When he does act responsibly acknowledge such behavior with specific praise. This will help him realise exactly the kind of things that you expect from him. Remember: things are hardly likely to change overnight as habitual behaviors take time to establish. So keep at it and before long you will be rewarded for your persistence. Goodluck! :-)