I moved out from girlfreinds because I feel her 19 yr. old should pay  rent. I don't have children of my own.
492812
Firstly, have you thought about how your girlfriend thinks about all of this? It is her house and her daughter after all. You have been invited to stay with them, and you accepted. Accepting her daughter is part of that agreement.\n\nSo if you really love your girlfriend, are you going to let her daughter walk all over you like that? I'm not telling you to lay down and take it from her, but is there no way you can compromise? You have come into her space after all, and she is obviously threatened by it. You aren't her father so you can't tell her what to do, and at the same time you have no say as to whether her mother chooses to make her pay rent or not - you get your say if you're asked. Sure you can suggest things, but be prepared to back them up with logical and reasonable arguments, and try to be fair at all times. No one ever said this was going to be easy. \n\nIf you really want to be with your girlfriend, you have to be prepared to accept her daughter. Maybe speak to your girlfriend when her daughter isn't around and explain how you feel? She might be able to say something to her daughter. If not, you just have to grin and bare it because these things take time.
1084722
I would definitely talk to her about it.  If that didn't help, talk to your roommate.  This apartment belongs to you and your roommate, not his GF.  If his GF pays part of the rent, then I guess I'd just try to wake up a little earlier.
854994
As long as you are in control, than nothing is wrong. 19 is the exact age you should be doing this stuff at, nothing wrong with it. But if she is forcing you to do stuff, or you feel uncomfortable, than stop and/or move out.
431361
I think you should move out even if your not sure you can do the things suggested by the previous posted. Don't go far enough that you can't get help if you really need it and so people who care about you can keep an eye on how your doing, but also pride yourself on your new found independence and don't run to them for simple things. Get roommates if you can, it lowers your rent and helps you get a better feel for things - roommates usually don't operate like a family, they operate like independent individuals living under the same roof, and they can teach you a lot if you need to learn.
1015820
I want to move in but I don't have enough money............. I want my own place and I haven't a job yet. That's all!!!
899494
I know how you feel. I was in the same place. Don't feel  bad it is no longer their business. You need to have a life too.
127129
That depends on the situation.  Did you move out and leave your stuff for a week or 6 months?  Were you paying rent?  Did they come in a take something of yours to make you pay rent??????
261974
What my mom did was after high school, she made me pay rent. It was 100.00 a month and if I didn't pay it, she would kick me out. That will convince her to atleast get a job and assume  some responsibility. Give her some chores and if she doesn't do them, sell her stuff on Ebay. Check out my link.
1135367
I do that,i don't know why but i do! I think you just need to be happy with yourself and being alone.To make sure your not dependant on someone else for happiness,then you'll want to move in because you'll be brining happiness into the relationship!
549530
You have become an "individual" with whomever you are with....you left the nest and are beginning a life of your own...enjoy the freedom :) Your parents had this experience.. now it's your's :)\nLove Life :)
863705
Having the little girl when you were only 19 has meant you missed out on some things that some 19-year-olds get to do in terms of just enjoying being young.\n\nThere may be some people your age who have houses and have started family, but they aren't the majority.  Most young men these days don't do the house/family thing until they're maybe in their mid-thirties.   Even for my parents' generation, many men didn't become fathers until their forties.  If there are guys your age with houses they either got help from their families or else are very rare.\n\nYou are so much younger than you realize....   You still have your future to build, and you can still do what you need to do to get some training/education and get yourself in the kind of job you'd like to have by the time you're in your early thirties (at the latest).\n\nThe community college is a wise start.  You can transfer from there if you want.  It makes sense and is wise that you want to build some financial stability, but the military isn't the only way to do that; and that isn't enough of a reason to join the military.\n\nThere are programs that offer training for a decent job in a relatively short period of time.  There are companies that offer training for a job and then pay for you to attend classes evenings if you want/need to.  There are plenty of other ways to feel you're more "respectable" than just joining the military;  and as someone who was once a seven-year-old girl with a father, I have to say one of the worst things in the world that could have happened would have been if he had joined the military and I had to worry about where he was and whether he'd be killed.\n\nIf you'd be willing to go through the military training then you'd also be willing to put in hard work on school or other training that will eventually get you a decent job.  Even if you get a job with just a reasonable pay you can always supplement it with a little investing or a second income of some sort.\n\nYour daughter will eventually see that even though you love her and wanted her, having babies at 19 means people have to put off getting their education/training for a while; and people who have babies at 19 do get detoured for a while.  Maybe she'll learn to hold off on having babies until she's all established in a career or good job.\n\nNo - don't join the military.  Your reason for considering it isn't the right reason, and you seem to be coming from a world where you aren't seeing the majority of other 26-year-old guys who are still single and building their plans for the future.  Accept that part of the detour of having a child so young is having to pursue career-building a little later than many people do.  Many people have reasons for getting a later start.  \n\nIf you want a solid college education look into financial aid.  There may even be a state program that will help you if you have the right level of need.  If not, there are always loans for a state college.\n\nIf you are a decent, hard-working, individual who is good to your daughter and who wants to build a better future there is no reason you shouldn't feel proud of yourself right now.    Just realize how young you still are, keep working on it, and give your future plans the dedication you'd have to give if you joined the military.
198118
you might need to find a shelter.  If you are a girl between 18-25 go to transitional housing
515704
Seek counseling, and realize that, but for the actions of your Mom, you could say goodbye to being an "A" student, captain of anything, and the list goes on.......at 16, you were definitely not ready for the consequeces...would you have had to continue living at home, and get help from your Mom?...if you said "yes", then you were not ready.\n\np.s. those advocating you should have kept the child must not have thought it through that her Mom would be shouldering a great part of this burden this girl brought on herself. \nI've seen  ALOT of teenaged girls get pregnant while I was their age....most quit school, end up on welfare...\nThere are those few girls who are fortunate enough to have parents who will help raise their daughter's child so she can continue going to school, but those are the exceptions, not the norms.
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Seems to me that she used you and is now testing you to see how much more you will allow her to get by with it...stand up and don't be a floor mat for her...tell her it's time she moved in to her own place that you are not going to help to support someone that isn't in the relationship for the long haul...Sorry she did you wrong, Good Luck.
268038
you moved out for a reason.  you just want her back cause your lonely.  you ll get over her i promise just give it time and keep yourself busy
704185
It sounds like you're already doing the right things - you have moved out, you have initiated divorce proceedings.  Go through with the divorce, and then look to the future.
759760
Jealousy is an ugly tool.\nHe is getting some, your not.\nHe hates her and is “still taking advantage of her?”\nYou to should be ashamed of yourselves!!!\nYou want her to move?  \nThen buy out her portion to the lease.\nYes that’s right, if she pays you $300 a month and she has 10 months to go, then you both pay her $3000 so she can establish herself in a new place without being used like a whore!