Age Difference and Dealing with Family?
493775
You are 25.  You are old enough to make your own decisions.  It would be best if you talked to your parents about it than hide the relationship any longer.  They will understand. They are family.  If they do not understand, then make them understand.  But I highly doubt it would be a huge problem.  Let your family know how you feel about her and where you see this going, especially if you see this going towards marriage.  You dont just want to surprise them one day with something you think they might not take lightly.  But I dont think its something you really need to worry about.  Remember, communication is key to a great relationship.  Good luck! =)
799792
Well, it sounds as if your mother has changed for the better.  It can be very difficult to put the past behind you, but that is what you need to do.\n\nYou probably should seek counseling, so that you can get the help to overcome those feelings, in fact you should also encourage your mother to attend some of that counseling with you.  That way the two of you can work out those issues together.\n\nShould you continue speaking to your family?  Yes, take it from someone who spends most holiday's alone.  If there is a chance that you can heal the situation, take it.
760334
I am one of ten siblings ages 60, 59, 58, 57, 55, 53, 49, 47, 42, 35\n\nAny combination of ages work. For sisters, one year apart seems best as they are real close. For brothers it does not seem to matter. My mother was still having children when three sisters and one brother were starting families. Cousins and aunts to grandkids are not close as a result. So - as you see, this is a complicated question you ask to which there is no right answer. Good question.
661964
Why, because of the age difference? most people only stay together for a couple years any more anyways. have fun and see where it goes. if you and him are fine with it , why should it matter to everyone else, does your family want someone that will use you and throw you away like a spent condom? their use to be a stigma against interracial coupling , but that has pretty much faded, you are a pioneer, making the way for future generations.
631247
Oh Honey I so understand! I have 2 sisters and 3 brothers...the older we get the more we seem to fall away from each other. from an astrological point of view, when one turns 27, it is when the First Saturn return happens....it is at that point that EVERYTHING changes, such as I moved and had a child at that age. I know you love her as a sister, although it is difficult to deal with someone who is consistently negative. YOU are the one here with the presence of mind and the awareness.\nTo be aware is to be responsible....they say in Buddhism...tho raised a catholic, many other things apply.\nMy recommendation is to keep your distance from her, keep your cool....and compliment her good deeds and at the same time....never raise your voice. she sounds troubled...perhaps she is unhappy with herself. It is NOT about you!You are NOT abusive.....she is mourning something, either what she has had and lost, or what she so desires and doesn't yet have. take it easy and try  to NOT sweat it. i still have one sister who will not speak to me. It seems sad, but just because we are related, it doesn't man that we take abuse from our siblings. I wish you the best in all of your endeavors.....Be Well!!!!!!!!!!
1035453
Its family, There will always be conflict, thats just the way it is.\nTalk to the person about it. if that doesnt help, then try your parents or an adult you can trust. they will help you solve this problem.
479966
Talk about role reversals, they are being childish about this and your being cornered to being the parent of their situation.  In your daughters situation I would simply say you are both welcomed to visit when ever your available, if you don't want to be around when they other is then you settle that between yourselves, your both adults!  As for other arrangements that require you to schedule time for each because they no longer live together...that will have to be dealt with on a individual basis or for the holidays ...birthdays...have the festivities at your place and welcome both...that gives them equal opportunity to spend time with you and your daughter...not to mention being a family for family sake.
1022571
Same age, similar problems.  Still at home.  moved out for 4 months, mom liked it, I moved back in and she's been really nasty to me ever since.  I'm also doing stuff she never did, like break emotional traditions that r in this family.\n\nBe interesting to see what other opinions come out of your question.  I read a brilliant book - the dark side of the light chasers.  Read it, it shed some light for me and helped me understand why I get so irritated and angry I could scream or see my hand on the other side of a wall.\n\nGood luck.  Be patient with mom if you can.  It's usually mom and dad/family that teach you your greatest lessons.  I try and take my own advice so I hope you don't think I'm opinion bashing so to speak (like bible bashing).  so many of them on this site!  amazing!!!!\n\nMy mom was a little older when she got married and pregnant I think.   She was 27 when she got married and like 32 or 33 pregnant with my 27 yr old brother.\n\nSee ya.  Email me if you'd like to exchange ideas about what can be done, what works and what doesn't.  smirti_n@yahoo.com.\n\nCheers. :)
752487
Im wondering how old you are since your family is so against it, maybe they think it was too quick.\nYou have to go with your own feelings but listen to what the family has to say and maybe you can help them understan your point.
145398
r u 18 yr. old or older? if so why dont u just leave town and let them adults deal with each other? u can get urself a career change in a new town and everything. if ur under-age u need to be open and honest with them both about how this makes u feel. if nothing else you can say you wanna live with ur grandparents or something.
183447
It's a tough situation.  I don't know if this will help you now but maybe later.  My Mom died when I was 12 and my father got a woman that I didn't like.  Grownups need someone to share their lives that they can communicate with in a loving manner.  I realized this and when my Dad asked me if I wanted him to leave her I knew that I could not replace the enjoyment she gave him.  So I told him I was happy that they were together.  He died of cancer a few years later, but they were happy years for him.  I guess adults need to feel affection and support from their partners and you may find benefits in having 1 parent, if not both, who are more content. I sympathize with you, just try to concentrate on your own life for now.  Things always change.
995789
i would try to reconcile but under your conditions. if you dont want to go to family get togethers and such then dont. explain that too them, if they cant accept it then at least you tried.
798168
That's mormal for siblings to not get along. The older children from the first marriage are probably just busy living their own lives. I am 20 and I have a half brother who is 7 and  ilove more than anything, but I don't have time to do things with as much as I wish I could. \nTry to schedule a outting once a month for all of the kids. That way you have all of your kids together and spend time with all of them. \nYou are a good man. Most dads wouldn't even care, just pass it on to the moms.
353879
Once all parties are old enough to be responsible and mature, I don't think age difference much matters, and nor does it matter which of the two is the elder. My mother is seven years older than my father, and I don't see anything wrong with that.
417877
If it was an older man and younger woman no one would bat an eye.  I say if your both happy, enjoy it and ignore everyone.  Life is too short.  Tell her if she doesn't let you see the grandson, the courts DO give visitation to grandparents.  Good luck to you.
982002
Hey, get a grip if you are thirty-two then you are old enough to know that when the time comes she'll tell you. But, be an adult, not a spoiled kid obviously she's lived with it all this time and there may or may not be something she doesn't want you to know just now. It doesn't change anything between you and your grandfather, apparently it didn't make any difference to him! Give your mom time and get on with your life, don't let it define you life!
414149
Avoid them like the plague!  You're outnumbered.  If you MUST be with them, respect them and show them by example, how NORMAL people would react.\nEVERY family has a couple odd-balls!