Why some men are being distant ? Afraid of rejection or have a traumatic experience before?
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low sence of self and yes rejection which stems from a low sence of self which has come about from a traumatic past or your just to hot or not there type or i just don't know
948330
Rejection is a part of life and Ive been rejected alot. Step out of your comfort zone and approach people who u want to talk to. It might be scary at first but in the end you'll be glad that u've tried
545761
We think we are not worthy of you.\n\nAt least that's how it sounded in my head.  More often people call it 'lack of confidence', or a 'fear of rejection'.  Girls don't realize how truly terrifying they are to a young guy.  But most guys get over it.  Or at least, they meet a girl who they feel comfortable enough around.  It's perfectly normal.  It even has a name.  It's called 'Natural Selection'.
64493
In my opinion, there are 2 reasons men are hesitant to approach a woman.\nA. The women are with a group of close friends. This would mean If the guy gets rejected, there will be a large audience to watch the whole thing.\nB. The woman is beautiful. Men think this woman can have anyone she wants, why would she care for me?
35516
I agree with the previous poster, I was abused in two of my relationships, and recently my boyfriend killed himself, and since then just the thought of dating any guys makes me extremely uncomfortable, I'm even uncomfortable being in the same room with a guy that would most times be near my type. And of course I've had intensive therapy for a very long time, and have yet to not freeze up around even guy friends, and it has destroyed many friendships because I am unwilling to open up and share my feelings, and am often called cold, or unfeeling. The best advice, give it some time, when the right one comes along then you'll most likely have feelings of attraction for them.
450955
take it from me, they play that, bc they have to make sure the guy is up for anything. in other words, they want to make sure that YOU are SURE you want to be with them before they devote all their time and energy into a relationship with you. duh! guys hurt gals in so many sick and twisted and horrible ways, if you dont know. everyone is different, i know, but that's why they shy away, to make sure that's what YOU really want, so they dont jump in and scare YOU away like sum guys. its an emotion thing.!!!
617870
Alot of times guys do not know why they no longer want to be with someone or just outright do not want to deal with the problem so they ignore it all together and hope that it or you goes away.
290763
Hey, what's up. I haven't heard from u n a minute, probably because i've been going through some things. But to your question, not all men are A$$e$. If you look at it there are females out there that act like that too. But alot of men act like the way they do because there either tryna front in front of there boyz and there's many other reasons but i can't explain...Sorry but right now i feel like s**t my life doesn't seem to be going right and i just need someone to talk to. Everytime i think things are going right they go wrong. You know. Click on my avitar n we can just chat back n fourth asking questions if u like...
777887
It's perfectly okay to be nervous. Sometimes we worry "Oh god, what will he say or think of me? What if he doesn't want to talk?!" Just breathe, relax, and tell yourself that if he didn't want to talk to you then you wouldn't be dating. He's interested in you, so go ahead and chat it up!
165707
Nothing may be wrong.  Guys can be insecure and this can be manifested in withdrawal (sadly, I've done it).
903721
Shouldn't a man also appear to be "hard to get"\nThis shows either you are a "Thinker" or there is a girl in your life who is making you feel weak for her. Well men and women are the same, both have feelings.. there is no need to make it difficult to get but it apprears so because females don wanna be friendly with all males. They think about their security. Men feel safe so they take the first step in a relation
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MORE MEN: Some men are afraid to admit it wile\nLESSER MEN: others just want to be friends longer to make the relationship more meaningful for the both of you.
399527
I would think that most people have to be flexible in your situation. If the person is feeling rejected because of the situation I don't think that person should be in the relationship to begin with.
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they probably r afraid of being rejected. guys r more insecure than u think. loosen them up and give them something back. Flirt back or give them signs that u wanna take it further. some dont have enough confidence and think they dont have a chance
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they are afraid... to be put down, rejected, thought less of. pity really, i usually go for the intellectual girls my self and don't succeed... they seem to prefer the jocks... oh well.\n\n-----\n\nit doesn't seem desperate on your part. they're just flustered and in shock probably. if you know anything about the guy then you can use that as an opener... this way he knows the subject matter and will have something to fall back on. if he continues to act flustered and walk away then you'll either have to try harder to get his attention (if you are determined to persue this guy) or start thinking about getting a new subject to go after.
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i know it hurts to get rejected but take a shot at it he may be going thru the same thing. he may like you and be afraid to say something. I am a guy and i have been afraid to talk to a couple of girls and i finally got up the courage to say something to one of them now that they have a boy friend and i  found out that at the time that i like them they like me but its to late i missed my chance don't miss yours
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The superficial man hates rejection even if its not his fault. While knowing that he can't be with you he is of course beholden to his natural state of mind which is to make a complete buffoon out of himself. \n\nPlease don't think all men are like this. I hope that you can find it in yourself to accept a "Y" chromosome again one day.