Iretired and I am 55 yrs.old,why am I having such a hard time. Pls. help.?
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Hi, I'm really sorry that you're miserable, its quite hard to advise you without knowing what is making you so unhappy; if youre lonely then i would advise to try to get out there and mix with others because there are so many lonely people all wishing they had more in life, how about pen friends or chat rooms? anyway i hope things improve for you soon.
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We're all placed in stressful situations sometimes that are difficult to cope with. My best advice to you is to look at the positive side of things. The fact that you have a job and an income is a good thing. The fact that you are using a computer to access the Internet is a great privilege (believe me it's a privilege). The fact that you were raised in this great nation is an opportunity. You sound young and you entire life is ahead of you. This is only a chapter in your life. A chapter is bound to end when another begins. Have patience and faith in yourself and in your ability to change your perception of your situation. Thank God for the moments that you have. Remember, this is life, not a dress rehearsal. Make everyday count. And finally, I have personally found that I feel a lot better when I stop focusing on my own problems and try to offer help to someone else. We get so focused on self sometimes that we forget that there are people out there who are in a much worst situation than us. Try to lend a helping hand to someone, and you will see how blessed you will become.
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Hello, sounds like you have alot on your plate! Working, financial, raising a child, depression...\nI was wondering that you might possibly see a doctor to help you through the depression! There is nothing wrong with medication - I'm on it! At first I thought it meant I was crazy, but I was told, and it's true: that if someone has diabetes they have to take medication, and it's the same thing.\nI was a young mother of two, career, bad marriages, traumatic childhood, and severe chemical imbalance.\nQuote "No one said life would be easy". \nI know that's crappy, but (quote) "time heals" - even though I'm 45 and still trying to get my stuff together...\nSome days are better than others - And I've made it this far! Learned alot of lessons too!
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32 is not old, you're just in a slump girl, we all get to feeling a little bad sometimes and take it out on ourselves via age or looks or weight etc..  32 is in no way old and you are doing just great!  keep your chin up and eyes bright, things will get better for you and you will once again realise how young you are!  Stop looking for that special guy and you'll be surprised just how fast he shows up.  Did enjoy the "spinster" part though, <thump you on head>  quit being so tough on you will ya please?  LOL  Life doesn't even start until 50 or so they tell me, am surely hoping they are right too.
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I REALLY suggest you see a counsellor. And do some 'self expression' and 'cognitive thinking', when your counsellor is with you, for safety.\n\nAND: **Life is full of ups and downs. And hey pad yourself, you 'have hand' some rough years, that mean you pass them, you made it thru. Also, it's 'have had', it's pass tense, it's history, so tell youself, it's 2006 June 22.**\n\nI understands how you feel, because some here. I been thru more than 10 years of rough time. Even now I still have to practice telling myself ** **.
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PLEASE GO SEEK SOME HELP/COUNSELING FROM SOMEONE. YOU REALLY NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST, SOMEONE YOU LOVE, A FAMILY MEMBER, A DOCTOR, A FRIEND, A TEACHER, A PRIEST/RABBI, A COUNSELOR, THERE HAS TO BE SOMEONE THAT CAN GIVE YOU POSITIVE GUIDANCE. PRAY TO GOD, HE HAS ALWAYS HELPED ME THROUGH DIFFICULT SITUATIONS IN MY LIFE, BUT PLEASE DO NOT GIVE UP ON YOURSELF, YOU ARE SO YOUNG AND HAVE A WHOLE BEAUTIFUL LIFE AHEAD OF YOU,I DO NOT KNOW WHAT YOUR SITUATION IS THAT YOU ARE MAD AT TIMES, BUT PLEASE WORK ON GETTING SOMEONE OR A FEW PEOPLE TO HELP YOU, I WILL PRAY FOR YOU, YOU DESERVE TO HAVE THIS BEAUTIFUL LIFE GOD GAVE YOU. I HOPE TO HEAR BETTER AND MORE POSITVE NEWS FROM YOU. ALL THE BEST TO YOU! :)
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I'm in the same situation as you.  I think you have to take matters into your own hands, but that requires motivation.  And the lack of motivation is where I'm stuck at right now.  Sorry, this isn't much help.  But I just want to let you know that there are other people who have the same problems.
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oh, yes yes yes.  When I was younger, I didn't have time either, and always thought I would have time to catch up.  Much to my chagrin, I'm now just over 50 and have a hard time doing anything.  Please, do youself a favor, and at least do something
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Hey Tasha, you are in the best time of your life. Just ask me I am 68 and still poor. Remeber a man or woman who lives within their means suffers from a lack of imagination
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TIME....thats the only answer im afraid.it will get easier in time.but for the moment its a big pain in the heart.im 37 mate & i still get those feeling from 4yr ago.hope this helps a little.take it easy for awhile..
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I can understand where you are coming from. I've had a similar experience. It seems that you are under a lot of stress. That maybe why your anxiety level is so high. Drinking doesn't solve anything it only delays the ultimate result. You still have the problem. It would be nice if you could find a therapist or someone close to talk things out with. Since you are on meds home remedies, such as milk and sugar may not be a good idea. Because they could have a negative affect on your meds.  I am sorry to hear that you lost your man. That can be painful. It could have lead to some of the problems you are having. I would suggest you find someone to talk this all through with. Call your doc and tell him or her the symptoms. Especially the dizzy part and the pain. If your doc does not understand find one that does. You don't have to accept bad behavior from your doctor, office visits are not free. Keep writing here we won't give up on you.
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Speak for yourself!\n\nI'm twice 25 + and I'm just fine thanks.\n\nI guess you need to get in a bit more training!
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Hi. I have RP also. I am 35 years old and was diagnosed when I was 22. I had always been nearsighted and struggled with imperfect vision, so when I got the diagnosis - it did not really have an immediate impact on me. Now, however, I am really struggling in so many ways. Of course, there is the obvious - not being able to drive anymore - but there are many other things that have changed for me as well. I feel isolated both physically and emotionally from the rest of the world and I find that it takes so much more effort and determination to do just the normal things. I suffer socially in most situations because I bump into things and people, I trip over people's children - hurting them,  neglect to shake someones hand when it is held out for me (because I can't see it), and cannot often even follow the most mundane activities because visual cues usually guide most activities. I am exhausted from having to explainn all the time, and even though I don't want special attention - I worry that people see me as demanding it if I try to explain too much. As a result, I no longer feel like I am a part of the normal world and I often choose to remove myself from social situations. It is just exhausting, and most days, I don't have the strength to deal with it.\n\nAlso related to the issue of feeling isolated is the way people relate to you once they know you can't see much in front of your nose. I think that although most people are very well intentioned, they cannot help but be over solicitous. They start treating you differently - like something fragile, broken, or they just act afraid to say or do the wrong thing. Sometimes I get the impression that some people are uncomfortable just to even be near me. Maybe they are afraid it is contagious. Another oddity I have found is that I have often felt the pressure to be a spokesperson for blind people - needing to explain to people that, yes, blind people can actually have regular jobs, be married, have children etc. \n\nThose close to me have reacted in differing ways. My husband is very loving and supportive but totally in denial and cannot seem to remember to stop trying to hand me things - holding them out for me to grab. Drives me nuts. To my kids, I am just mom, but I think it frightens them to see me become so dependent. They forget to warn me of stairs, doorways, cars, you name it when we are out together in unfamiliar places. As a result, I am always falling, crashing into things and hurting myself.  Onlookers just think I must be mentally deficient or something. I have a sister in law who won't acknowledge my eye problem. She told me "I don't want to hear about it - there must be something you can do!" She thinks talking about it means I am whining about it. Yet another relative told me that I needed more faith in God to be cured and because I am still losing vision, my faith is not strong enough. Still other relatives open every conversation with "How are your eyes?" as if there is no more to me than my eye problem. I feel like saying, "Fine, how are your bowels?"\n\nI still work, but only marginally. Because we live in a small town, I am pretty much confined to working from home.  I do some contracting work for a news monitoring company but it is very low paying work. In the past, I was a professional with a college degree - now I am barely able to make $400 per month. This is bad for the self esteem.\n\nThe state I live in has special services for people who are visually impaired. They'll set you up with adaptive aids and teach you how to put raised stickers on your stove so you don't overheat the mashed potatoes, but there is nothing anywhere that can teach you how to be a blind person. From A-Z, I need to relearn absolutely everything and there is no resource for that. \n\nAs far as how I am doing - I am angry, frustrated and feeling utterly isolated. There are days when I feel completely useless and there ar
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Hi Mitch,\nI'm sorry to hear you are having these feeling at your age. I'm a clinical therapist and work children/adults with many different disorders. I can only go on what you are telling so please bear with me. \nFirst I feel you really need to sit down with your gf and tell her what is going on. If you have plans to marry this women,you can't have any secrets.If you really love this women tell her you have not passed your courses.However, you will take some night classes or finsh online. Getting your education is going to be very important. If you want to be a stay at home dad you better let your gf know,you will have to know her feelings on this matter as well,be honest,open.\n\nYour parents what whats best for you, I'm sure if you tell them you have been overwhelmed and that you feel depressed. They might understand what is going on with you,and get you the help you need.\n\nLast but not least you need to go to see a Dr. to see why you are feeling down.Could be if you get on the right meds you will start to feel better and become your old self. \n\nAlso Mitch, drinking is not going to help you forget your problems,it will only numb it for a while. But tomorrow you will be facing the same thing.\n\nLike I told you sit down maybe take her out to dinner and tell her you have not been feeling well, you not sure why,but you think you should see a Dr. to see if her can help you get yourself together.I will be glad to help you..                                              email is lessnesmonster@yahoo.com\n\nHope to hear from you and God Bless
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Well aren't you a challenge??Let's not get depressed yet.You are at the best part of your life.Have you heard of eons.com? Try there for a community uplift.Age 50 is now like 35 was in the fifties.First of all what are your passions?I mean besides the previous jobs that have failed you??Why not give yourself some time to find that passion.I typed in, "printing jobs" on yahoo several came up.Monster.com has some.I mean for now.Lift up  your head and shout "I'm not going to take this anymore" real loud.It will make you feel better.Find a 45 year old and hang out have a Starbucks coffee.Ask whats going on in your business world.Find a common link with society give back,while you mentor someone younger. Get your eyes off of yourself, help some else.Opportunity comes when you help others.
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It is very hard. I am on that road too. Father is in the same boat. You have 2 basic choices, you take guardianship and to heck with their wishes and make the decisions for them. Not the nicest way to go. Or you find out who deals with the seniors in their area and you have them set up things that make life more manageable, if not perfect for them. Hire helpers, volunteer drivers and visitor. Can you get nursing aid to visit for medical checks and medication management? It a long and winding road at best, but  really all they want is as much independence and dignity as they can  muster at their ages. Here we have a commission on aging that will help you review your options, they can asses your parents and see what the underlying reasons are for missed medication (lack of money, forgetfulness, too cheap to buy it, difficulty taking it) When the send out a worker list here i know that background checks have been made and references are checked, it is still a hard match to get personalities to mesh. In reality I make the drive myself several times a week, do shopping, get meds, do heavy cleaning, fix televisions ( remotes baffle him he keeps locking the features out). Life would be far easier if he would move into a assisted living or agree to live here, but alas he has rights to stay where he is and be independent as long as he is mentally fit and not a lear danger to himself and others. You have to realize a large portion of their life was in that house, it marks their history, accomplishments and memories. You may just have to dig in and make it as safe as you can for them. Talk to  a senior center, social worker, aging speialist and know what options are there and what rights they have and what benefit they get from not moving. Its complex, do a lot of asking and research. And talk to them plainly about how much stress and worry you have about them, but listen to them too. Good luck.
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Hard? maybe\n\nToo hard? no.....we can handle this. \n\nNo matter what it is, there is someone that will listen, someone that will help you. That's how it becomes not "too" hard. But you have to let someone know you need that aid. Many want to help.....don't be afraid to reach out.\n\nFor example......asking your question on here was a big start!! Next......call someone......and talk to them about it too. I so hope all works out. Good luck! (and reach out.....don't forget!)