I just got out of a relationship in which I was engaged What is the best way to go from being lovers to friend
493755
If you both can be completely objective about each other --- then be friends only
491148
First off, you need some time alone just to reflect on it. I don't mean let it consume you, but if it ended for a good reason then you need to be alone just to regroup and get yourself together. After that go out and have a drink with some friends. Get back into the social scene, but steer clear of the relationship deal for a minute
563734
I don't think so. They're your ex for a reason, you should have had a good connection and relationship with them at one point, even if you are no longer interested in them romantically they could still be a great friend. And your fiancee should be mature enough to be ok with that. But make sure you're being very honest with your fiancee and they are comfortable with what's going on. Also, you should probably keep issues between you and your fiancee more or less off limits for conversation. That will make your fiancee feel betrayed.
140070
Say no. You just got dumped. You don't need to get involved\nwith someone right now. Your wounds need time to heal. And\ndon't even think about dating one of his friend. That will\ncreate a major disaster. wait awhile before you start dating again. Your soul need time to be free of old hurts \nand wounds. Recover time is now.
526306
break it off and find someone new
3408
The easiest process that I would suggest is to convert one of your exes that you can stomach. Use that as a starting point to get into the swing of it until you are more comfortable with the concept. Just make sure they aren't confusing the situation with the possibility of getting back together. that can be messy.
617488
Single is good for awhile. My guy friend reminded me of the concept of "dating". You are going back out into the social scene and just meeting new people. Forming a friendship is the most healthy way to building a romantic relationship. Your giving yourself and your friend, time to really honestly, get to know each other inside and out. Jumping in is never healthy. If your jumping in for the wrong reasons (lonliness, a "need" for a mate), then you will soon find your relationship ending in a firey crash and burn. Practice patience with your new friend. It's ok to be attracted to him/her but keep a level head and don't let your emotions rule your decisions. I am experiencing this very phenomena about building a friendship first. Together, we are keeping level heads, (even though he is just so dang hot), and it is much more fulfilling and healthy, than any relationship I've had before. The communication is great, we understand and accept where we stand with each other, and we're keeping the door open for the possibility of a wonderful, romantic, relationship to develop. I admit, it's not easy. I am still learning the whole patience thing myself. But this is so good, and healthy. I wish you luck, and hope that you will not jump in to something out of desparation. Be positive, be patient, and ask God to help. God Bless you friend.
958255
Why not lay off the sexual stuff altogether?  Concentrate on becoming better friends.  Do activities together.  \n\nIf you're not ready to go forward, maybe you should go backwards.
476642
Hmmm...the best way to get over your ex???? Get a group of friends together and go out and have a good time! Go dancing, go to a movie, even invite them over to hang out. Do anything you can to keep your mind off the ex. Then, throw out anything the ex ever gave you. Get rid of it all, burn it if you want. Have a "cleansing". Take a nice long shower, indulge in some bubble bath even, do something nice for yourself. Go spend some money if you've got it, and then, when you are ready, go shopping for another person to be with!:) GOOD LUCK!
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Surround yourself with friends, family, people who love you. Go on a trip to clear your head. It doesn't have to be expensive, just go camping with some pals or take a day trip to a beautiful outdoor spot. Take up a new hobby. Now is the perfect time to start doing something you didn't have time for before. Exercise. Read humorous and uplifting books (NO romance novels!). Go to the movies (NO sequels to movies you saw with your ex!). Buy fresh fruits and vegetables and make a delicious homecooked meal for your best friends. Get out in the world, get some fresh air, stretch your legs.  Take some time to get to know yourself and figure out what you want in life.\nWhatever you do, DON'T wallow in self-pity at home. DON'T get drunk and call your ex! DON'T write your ex emails begging to take you back. DON'T hang out in front of your ex's house hoping to bump into him/her. DON'T jump into another relationship right away.
275198
actually i did not do anything just to get even with my ex, no need. because if you really wanted to move on you dont have to get even just to show him that you're now a better person without him, well that is not the basis for that. just do whatever you want to do, without being affected or it is because you're just doing all those things its because you wanted to get even,it only means that you're not yet over with that guy.so the best thing to do is once you already have a new relationship is you have to show all the love and respect to that particular person.so dont use your ex just to get even, just move on with your life.. and be thankful instead that he became part of your life =)
802108
Well, you need to ask yourself how you got into your current situation in the first place....  Did you "find out" you were gay AFTER getting engaged?  Did you have a gay affair and determined that was what you really wanted?  Once you answer this, then you go to step two.  You HAVE to tell her.  Unless of course, you want to spend the rest of your life living a lie, and not being able to be true to yourself [and her].  You will regret getting married and not being able to have your male companionship if you go forward.  Be strong and sincere.  Talk to her like a close friend and, yes, it may turn out bad, but in the long run it could be worse.
129338
While it is to easy to succumb to the emotional anguish that is consuming you at this early stage you must put a few bricks up to get through it. Do not drive yourself insane with analizing the last five years. Enlist a support group, best friends, family etc. Go out to the movies, nothing romantic, just a good comedy, horror, action you get the point. Invite some friends over for a dinner party or skip the dinner and just party. Ask each of them to bring a new friend, someone you've never met. Meeting new people is a stimulant. Involve yourself in your favorite activities or hobbies to keep your mind occupied. Submerse yourself in some great books. Pamper yourself a little go on a shopping trip, but something fun and frivolous. Keeping busy is the best thing. Of course the nights will be the roughest. Go ahead and allow yourself to think about her if she comes to mind while you are trying to drift off to sleep. It is part of the healing process. Cry if need be, tears are the cleansing of our soul. Eventually the sorrow will subside. While I think it is important to surround yourself with good friends and meet new people just don't hook up with anyone. Five years is a long time to be with someone, you'll need to take a good year being single to rediscover who you are before enerting the dating game. Have fun, and remember it's ok to have your ups and downs. You'll be fine and who knows in the near future you may come to think the break up was a good thing, usually when one door closes it's because another is getting ready to open. Old cliche I know but it is so true.
903443
I think it is too soon for you both to be in contact with eachother as you say it's too painful right now.  The best thing to do for the moment, until you get your own head sorted is cut all ties.  I know it might be hard but you need to straighten your own head and heart out first and be strong enough before you can be friends with him.  You are not in the right frame of mind now, it is too soon since you broke up, and staying in contact might only cause more pain.  I broke up with my ex in June and we haven't been in touch since.  I know at the start it was very hard as I went from hearing from him everyday to nothing but, now I'm a lot stronger.  I'm happier now that it's over as we weren't right for eachother but if I stayed in contact with him I know I'd probably be still hurting and in the same situation right now.  Time is a great healer and WILL make you stronger.  Just give yourself some "you" time.  Hope it works out for you!
940346
continue being in the relationship I am in now
185973
Get EVERYTHING you own that reminds you of them and put it in a box. Give that box to friend and have them stash it somewhere you won't have access to it. Change your sheets, get a new haircut (something dramatic, this helps alot btw), get a differrent hobby, don't talk to them for a few years, none of this "we can still be friends bs" cause you won't want to hear about who they're dating, go on dates with other people, get into shape (like way better than you are now, with the expectation that you'll run into your ex again and will be able to say "see what you lost, now you can't have me anymore"), spend a lot of time with your friends, try to learn more about who YOU are without that person in your life, change whatever you don't like about yourself, cut loose of any ties to that person. In 5 years, give them a call (if you are over them) and see what they are up to, maybe then you can be friends.
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i can tell u im no expert in this area but i have some advice.try 2 bring up neutral topics(ur just meeting and u dont wanna spook him)never bring up your ex.u'll damage the relationship be4 it even starts.bottom line be friendly,natural and a little flirty.u want 2 get the message across that u wanna be more than friends.