Help!!!!!!!There is this girl at work and she and I are "work friends".  We don't really socialize after work.
492454
I work in a small office as well sounds to me that she doesn't look at the possitve side of things negativity and whining can spread like wildfire. Just say oh that is too bad and say something cheery. All problems should be unloaded at the front door. Work is work and to perform up to your best ability you have to do that and pick up the problems again at the end of the day. Don't ask how are you just say hi move the convo to t.v or a joke you heard. Isn't a pretty day so forth good luck.
365910
Be yourself. Don't be a s==thead when she gets home from works asking all kinds of questions about work. Don't be a total s==thead by getting all brooding and jealous when she has to work weekends and you end up staying home. \nTalk about your life, without embellishing facts. Treat her like a lady. Don't talk about her job unless SHE wants to talk about her job.\nMost of all, don't ask her if she has some friends that your boys could "hook up" with. If she does, she'll tell you.
47041
Just ignore her.  Try not to hurt her feelings any more than you have to, but when he comes to your work be EXTRA friendly with him.  Look very happy and pretend like you arent doing it on purpose.
225342
It's obvious that this man is no longer your "friend". \n\nThere's not a whole lot that you can do in this situation. You cannot control what he says/thinks/feels. You can control, however, your own feelings and reactions. \n\nMany people react this way because they feel that you're a threat (perhaps you got a raise and he didn't, or you received  an employee of the month and he didnt). Maybe you've done something in the work area that has hurt him in some way. \n\nRegardless of what the situation is, you can't control his action, ever. Don't deal with it. Ignore him if that is possible. You can also speak to your boss about the situation and ask that either he be removed, that you work different shifts, or that you work in different areas. \n\nRemember that the more you react, it's likely, that he will continue to be immature and will continue to spread rumors. Also remember that the more you react, the more your co-workers will begin to believe him, or will begin to dislike you because of rash behavior. React calmly and let your boss, "friend", and co-workers know that you are the more mature and that none of this is true or your fault.\n\nI hope this helped, best of wishes.
373999
In my opinion I think that you should never get involved with a coworker.T here are many complications starting from this. What if you breakup afterwards? How will you be able to go to work? Not the mention that everybody is going to start talking and you will have a lot of rumours on your head, most of them not true.If she gets a promotion,they will think that she did "something special" to earn that. But if you really like her, she could switch jobs, if that is an option.And are you sure she's no trying to get somewhere with this romance? Maybe she's trying to obtain something. The stakes are too high. it's better not to complicate your life like that. But hey,it's just my opinion.
568401
Run like crazy.  This chick sounds nutty.  She's obviously posessive and has no reason to be.  It can only get worse.  Get away while you can.  If she will not do as you ask her to at work, have her fired, it is not her job to censor your calls.
1116080
Start out by asking her out for coffee, or lunch one day while at work. If she accepts, then go do that. While you're out, ask her for dinner or a movie for later on that weekend. Then, if she accepts, you're on your way to having a relationship with her. Good Luck!!
299776
I absolutely hate it when that happens. I always try not to get involved, but if I have to, I end up bitching someone out. Just don't get involved, and make it clear to your co-workers that you are not involved. Make sure they understand that they are both your friends and you will not take sides, no exceptions. I am usually very firm when it comes to these issues, because you're right, it IS high-schoolish. I have very little patience for this kind of thing, and all my friends know this.
80495
That sounds really awkward.  If you can, look for another job or another position in the company.  That would make it easier to have a relationship with the girl.
261979
Dont ever get involved with a coworker. If it doesnot work out you have created an uncomfortable work enviroment.
583264
You should worry.  You are now an accessory.  Your coworker has just pulled you down with him.  He is not your friend.
352039
Tell her you didnt mean to make things weird, and that you would rather be her friend than not be in her lfe at all. But dont be all sissy and romantic about it. Trust me.
722388
You are in a difficult situation and your reaction is totally understandable. If you have tried talking to her and feel this hasn't improved, there is not much you can do. Usually people react like that (especially people higher up then you) when they feel threatened. This would highly seem the case as she seems to get along better with people who are not as academically qualified as you are.\n\nThe way I see it, you have three options:\n1) you continue on and talk to her again to try an understand why she is like that\n2) talk to her supervisor about your concerns and see if they can do anything to help\n3) look for another job either in another department or in a completely different company.\n\nHope it all works out for you in the end you should work to live not live for work!
641187
she has a bad issue and getting friends i bet? sweetie you just have to slowly slack from her, so she can get the hint, and also tell first and see how she acts by telling her how you feel about the friendship you both have. tell her that to listen to u for a moment and let her know. u seem sweet to let a friend hurt you. be sweet and don't stoop to her level.be straight foward. if he doesn't work and she bitch at you. then she is not a true friend. you can find better.
467244
Talk to her...tell her how much you value her as a worker, and all the reasons why you do; but explain that it would be helpful if she adopted a little bit more of a professional behavior on the emotional part. Ask her to practice at expressing her problems in a reasoned, unemotional way; and to consider that there are other people working with her who can not keep trying to adjust to her varying needs. \nGood luck.
351561
i think you should let her know how you feel about her.\n\ni think it would be much easier to tell her this in person  so i would just ask her to take some time aside on a day and try to go out somewhere where you can talk dinner/coffee/park but somewhere commercial not too busy tho where there isn't eery silence or awkward feelings for reactions to a conversation like that \n\nbye what u have stated it doesn't seem as if she shares the same feelings with you  but i would not know since i dont know her\n\nbut be cautious  because if in fact that she doesn't feel the same way as you do about each other you might be faced with the problem of just wanting to stay friends \n\nbut also don't obsess or show obsession over the situation because that can push someone away and make them feel uncomfortable around you
815903
well, you wanna give her time to relax and maybe forget a lil bit of what happened..so dont do anything right away....right before she leaves call and say bye, have a good time blah blah...ok, then she leaves with you on her mind...then after maybe another few weeks or so if you can, send her a text to say, i just wanted to say hi hope all is awesome....then when she gets back, dont get all over her nuts, wait a lil while and then call to say hey! welcome back!..sorry i didnt get a hold of you sooner, been really busy....this way she knows your "over it" weather you are or not....then say hey, there is a few of us that or gonna go and do ....i dont know what you do for fun...and invite her....this way its a group so its real chilled out...this will get you back in to a friend situation...and yer on your own from there.