how can i find a therapist that realy understands my problems?
490014
I've been giving some thought to your question. I like that you cycled through several therapists already: you are in charge; you "had them get" you into a locked unit. It is locked, right? What age are you? What takes you about 9 meetings to get to revealing? Is what you reveal in the 9th therapy session realy so unique, you figure not only are the shrinks unfamiliar with it, it's likely not many people have experienced similar events? \n\nAlso consider many shrinks use the strong/silent approach. Personally, I hate that. I much prefer open, genuine conversations, active listening and those types of healthy relationships. \n\nI hear others advising you talk to your friends... . No doubt you've gone through a list of types of people - family, friends, public servants, private meetings - before and aside from going through several therapists. But you still ended up in a unit -- the one I admitted myself to was locked... I was fortunate enough to go into out-patient therapy for three-six-nine years following only ten days in-patient hell(o.) I studied the field and earned a Counseling M.A. \n\nYou control who you trust.\nWho you trust to help you.\n\nDo what you've got to do, just know many people can help if you let down the drawbridge and stop firing flaming arrows at them. Just a hunch from my back.. Email me if you like.
818720
Therapists don't "judge" that is why you go to them instead of discussing your problems with relatives or friends. If you don't disclose how you are really feeling you are not only wasting your time and hers, you are making your life worse.  \n\nHow about writing down how you feel and tell her you prefer to do it that way for a while. She can read what you wrote and then discuss it with you. \n\nNot being honest with your therapist tells me you cannot be honest with yourself or others either. That can cause big problems in your life. I suggest you open up and feel safe with her and start writing all your feeling down on paper. That way, you get it out of your head and onto the paper, very cathartic.
38306
Phone you local, usually a county, mental health office or phone a psychiatrist and ask her/him for a reference. I would think, however, that any board certified psychiatrist might be able to help you.
11154
Find a good therapist.  There is no shame in needing someone to talk things out with.  Also, you might need some medication.  Again, there is no shame in this.  It is good that you understand that you may need help...that is the first and most important step.  Good luck to you.  :o)
145037
Actually, you have to look at something else first.\nPeople don't go to a therapist to feel better unless they didn't do their homework on what going to therapy is like. Peopel expect to leave therapy feeling better.\nTherapy is designed to help you see your self-image better.  Here's the problem:\n1) We all have multiple self-images.\n2) Some of them are false.\n3) Some of us are VERY attached to our self-images.\n4) Looking at them makes it hard to keep up false self-images.\n5) People who make us look at them are a threat to our self-images.\n6) Since we rarely differentiate (try to keep seperate) real threats to our safety vs. threats to our self-image we often react with fear, then anger, then attack to challenges to our self-image.\n7) This leaves us stuck with a faulty self-image because we confused reality knocking on our door with an actual threat to our survival.\n\nIf you are resisting therapy, yes, you are angry.  The only way to know for sure is to look deeply at why you are angry, and discuss this with, you guessed it, your therapist.  At the same time, if you don't trust your therapist, in most cases you can choose a new one, but it will only prolong your pain to keep avoiding the real reason, whatever it is, if you are resisting therapy.\nHiding things, including your dissatisfaction, will not help.  Tell them.  If you are a minor, tell your parents everything you can (they are legally and financially responsible for you).\nRemember, if you are angry, that means you're scared of something and seeing a threat.  IF the threat is "just" lack of progress, then change therapists.  If the threat is something else, like getting too close to the truth, you've got a GOOD therapist, and need to face it like an adult.  We never stop growing if we're smart.  I've only known one real fully adult person in my life and I'm 43!  Trust yourself to know when you're squirming away from the truth, and when you're standing still.  Ask your therapist to be more aggressive in finding the problem.  If this causes you to squirm, you know what the problem is.  You don't want them looking too close, so stick with it and look.
648369
Well I have been looking...Keep going to therapists, etc. This is a good time to learn who you are without him. There is a Yahoo! group..it's a christian group out of Oregon but it might be better than nothing. The link is at the bottom. Keep looking for AA groups. Check on their website for the closest to you. Good luck..and guess what...YOU ARE GOING TO GET THROUGH THIS:)
199381
dude i have the same problem and share your pain. i use to cut myself, but then it seemed so stupid so please dont do that.what really works for me is talking about my problems with my mom,sister,cousin or a really trustful friend, because they dont judge me based on what i say,do or feel.they will try to help you out as much as they can and understand what youre going through and give you advice. you dont need therapy to figure out whats wrong and waste all that $$ when you can talk to someone at home for free :)\nmusic=escape from reality
144741
Hi there..\n   Our stories are similar and I'm always open for new online friends :) But you really should try and find someone to talk to in your real life like a therapist or counselor? Is there some reason you haven't done so before..?\n\n   In order to heal from anything traumatic, you must process it somehow. Talking about it is the key, but its something you should talk to a professional about.\n\nIts not your fault;you've done nothing wrong. There's nothing wrong with getting help when you need it. And you need to find it inside yourself to do it for yourself, not just your kids and family. You're worth it!! :D
269043
Well if you are looking for live support check the mental health section in your city or county and they will be able to tell you where to find one. There is one very good site that I know of online and I will place the link below. Give it a try the forum is run very smoothly and the site is taken care of my pyschologist.
1117564
You need to set them up with therapy. They will be alot better in the long run. It will take a few sessions before you see improvement, but give it time. The therapist will also ask for your input on what areas that they need improvement in, and she will work with them on the issues you are concerned with. Good Luck.
1138543
Maybe you are going to the wrong therapists...most health care professionals I deal with honestly care about the health of their patients.  Try going to your state's board to get a recommendation for a new therapist.
288696
Call your local Crisis Line and ask them.They will talk to you and suggest various ways to help.Sometimes they will send(with your permission)a counselor to your home to evaluate your problem
96430
hey , since you're a cool smarty girl you probably already no there is no shame in asking for and accepting help from outside resources when your fam can't quite cut it... my family was (i guess you could say) kinda poor too...definitely couldn't afford a therapist on our own, but anyways, everybody is right, express a need at your school and they will likely assign you a caseworker and a therapist (i even had something called a rap worker, rap was some sort of acronym)whatever... i'm just proud of you for being so young and openminded enough to consider therapy!!good luck to you!!! my thoughts and well wishes are with you!\np.s. \nsome peops will look at your choice as a weakness but as i mentioned earlier, you sound too smart to buy into that crapola...it takes strength to embark on the journey you are about to take, as you will soon find... inner strength that many people spend their whole lives in search of!!
434294
It sound as perhaps you are depressed.  You also have avoidance issues.  It's a lot easier fixing someone else than figuring out your own underlying behavior. It's a lot of work. This is not uncommon. Some people can go all their life doing constructive things for others and coast along without resolve by isolating and keeping to themselves.\n\nThere are many reasons for this but as you can imagine, I can't name them all.  Don't be hard on yourself. It is a journey of self resolve that can only be done by you.  When you are really ready to conquer it, it takes courage and time.  It usually takes a therapist to dig down to those bare bone essentials.  If you do decide to use one, make sure up front that you need guidance and not someone that is going to push a pen around the paper while you talk.  You need to explore your fears.\n\nI wish you all the best.  You are sensitive and genuine.\n\nDebra
84676
I've so been there.  A treatment center would definately be a good idea.  It would take you out of your usual environs, maybe get you sorted out with some medication, and be constantly monitored.  Ultimately, though, its up to you.  You need to decide to love yourself, and know that you deserve to be happy!
693402
Where to get help depends on a lot of things...\n- Finances (can you pay or do you need to find some free or low cost help)\n- What exactly is going on\n\nYou can try here: http://www.sfbacct.com/\n\nThey are really great!  I hope you feel better.  At the very least talk to a friend and get it all out.  Sometimes we feel that no one cares about us, but in reality thats not true.  It's just that we don't reach out to anyone and let them know that we need a friend. 8-)
1016017
Recognizing the fact that your needs weren't met is a big first step in resolving the problem. Obviously, you can't go back and change history, and unhappily, too many people go through life seeking the love they didn't get as a child. Too often, they accept it from the wrong person, for the wrong reasons. \nYou have identified a problem, now you want to move on to resolving it. First, accept that this is the way things are. There is nothing you can do about that. \nSecond, identify people in your life today who do meet your emotional needs. Are you married? Do you have a loving spouse? Do you have siblings? Any relatives who were influential in your life? Emotional support can be drawn from many sources. \nThe important thing now is to draw a line under the past, and turn your thoughts to the future. Sometimes people who have suffered emotional trauma in their childhood go through life saying, "Poor me," which is terribly unproductive. \nIf you feel overwhelmed by the task of re-aligning your life, think about getting counselling. That's what counsellors are for. It isn't a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of strength that you can recognize the need to get help, and go find it. That's a positive step, and one which may help you towards a full recovery. \nI empathize with your problem and hope you will be successful in resolving it -- because it can be resolved. You still have the rest of your life ahead of you. Don't waste it by letting your emotions become numbed or stifled because of your past. \nGood luck to you.