How do you deal with living with a nagging mother in law?
484401
Gosh my mother in law moved in with us last year and was here for 9 months 10 days. The day she moved out was awesome. I like the lady but can not live with her.. Get out and get your own place.
662922
tell mom-in-law to do things your way in your home or hit the highway...[its your life] make your own choices..
1067352
you mom in law is in your house, so what has she done to lose your trust of her.is she intefering in your household is she trying to run the house? what is she doing? talk ot your wife and let her know whats going on. you and your kids should come first, have mom in law go somewhere else.good luck.
1160703
She hasn't grown up yet, and you have.   If you can handle her, then stick to your plan, save your money and get out of there.  \n\nShe isn't going to change.  She will always want her husband to put her and her family first.  You are getting in the way of that just by being around.   \n\nDon't stop helping and paying for your part of things, this will help you to be able to walk away later not feeling like you owe her anything.   \n\nIf you can, plan to be out of the house or sleeping as much as possible when she is going to be home.  \n\nI hope that this helps.  I understand how hard it can be.  Best of luck.
953071
Tell your mother in law she needs to get a tonguectomy.  LOL\n\n\nYour mother in law is always telling you what to do, but are doing what she tells you?  It's very simple.  The two of you together need to tell her to keep her nose out of your personal affairs, and if she can't manage to do that then she will be out of your lives for good.  The choice will be hers to make.
533701
I have been with my husband for 6 years all of which we have got along. She does not raise her voice in anger(maybe to grandkids). But I have never seen her argue with my husband.She is probably what everyone would want in a mother in law, she minds her own business and if her son is in the wrong she takes my side and tells him what he is doing wrong. SHe is not judgemental on how clean my house is or how is raise my kids. THe only advice I get is to do with the kids health when they are sick. \n\nMy mom takes my husbands side, so therefore it's like my mom  in law is more of a mom than my own.
391287
I can tell you I have been there and done it and it only gets worse because she has a hold on him you can not break. But let me tell you this is also what she wants is for you to leave so she can have him all to herself. As far as your husband sooner or later the resentment builds up and the love is lost because of the way he does. Tell him in no certain terms you realize this is his mother but your also his wife and he is killing all the respect you have for him...Lady
852130
You're looking at this the wrong way.  What you have to realize is that HE has to stop her, you can't.  If they are that close you will only become their common enemy if you attack her.  What you need to do is talk to your husband and let him know how you feel.  Remember to be respectful of his mother.  He may be telling you that he doesn't like the way she "butts" into your relationship but, trust me he's not telling his mom that.  Maybe you should try to be friends with her.  You both love the same man, right?  That's your first thing that you have in common.  Build a relationship, don't attempt to tear one down.  You can't win.  It is ultimately your husband's place to establish boundaries with his mom.\nGood luck!
123875
You and your husband need to talk about the situation, and your mother in law (and/or father in law as well) should be brought into the conversation later, since they are taking part in the wife bashing. If your husband doesn't stop allowing the wife bashing then you need to consider some therapy - he needs to get that you are his wife and his mom should not be beating up on you, and if she does he needs to put a stop to it.  She's entitled to her opinion, but she doesn't need to voice it.
864179
Take a couple of dishes because you are so thoughtful.  And complement her on everything because you are such a gracious guest.  Get up and clear the table and wash the dishes because you know what trouble she has gone to.  Kiss her cheek and tell her thank-you for everything and tell her that, next year, you would like to relieve her of the duty...if she doesn't mind...but make her promise to tell you how she made EVERYTHING - so you can do as good a job.  One day you will mean it, once you get to know and understand why she is the way she is, you will be glad you were not antagonistic.  And your husband might not seem to notice as he is sleeping to the game while you are earning your angel wings - but in the end, it will be worth it.  Oh, and tell her you are thankful that she was such a good mother to your husband.
668184
shut the hot water off when your not using it\nempty the frig...now food no mother in law..\nshut of the cable TV..put up the old rabbit ears with two stations for her to watch...\naccidentally put bleach in some of her clothes when in the wash..oops..sorry...\nget back up late at night and have loud music and dance...and wake her up...then when she gets up..shut the lights off and go back to bed..\nand when she asks whats wrong ..say with a smile..why nothing what ever gives you that idea..\nor you could do most of thees without your partner even knowing it is being done..and then when she complains to him/her..say I do not know what she is talking about...then put salt in her coffee..\nSMILE
964364
Uhm sorry to have to tell you this but as long as you are living in here house, she can say and act anyway she wants.  You and your husband need to move out asap if you want to keep your sanity.  Good luck
929752
there isnt a thing you can do ... i am sorry.... i have a iffy relationship with my mother too... (and i also work with her)....\ni have tryed since i was young to get away from her but somehow it never works out ... although my brothers seemed to have managed it!...lol oh well... just as i get older i try to ignore her "ways"....sometimes its hard ... but at least i do live away from her with my children and husband... but its hard and i think it probably always will be.....just breathe..... and work hard to get your own place!...lol... where you can interact on your terms!... good luck!!!!
601118
Ask your wife what she thinks when your In-laws "let down" on you.  This should open a conversation that will allow you to tell her how you feel as well.  She should understands why you are not at the same financial level as her older siblings.  Work together making your financial goals.  Check the progress often together.  She can set her parents straight if that's needed.  No one likes to be put down and should they keep up this behavior, I would make the contacts with them as minimal as possible.  (The natural consequences for people who are jerks...no one wants to be around them.)   Hope this helps!
1000847
Talk to your husband and express concern about her "split" personality. I bet she has done the same stuff to him while he was growing up.  Maybe he can give you suggestions.  Or, the next time she is over, confront her in front of father-in-law and husband.  Give specific examples of how she treats you when no one is around and tell her how that makes you feel.  Tell her that her behavior is making it difficult for you to enjoy her presence.  Either she needs to shape up or you will just have to limit her visits.  The other option is to never be alone with her.  But, remember the old saying, "you can't teach an old dog new tricks"?  I don't think you'll be able to change or without other family members helping.
638099
Some jitters and questioning are normal and I do not think you are over the top on that. There are things you may want to change about yourself by not nagging as much. All men are moody and only you know if you will be happier with him. The mother in law issue could bring real unhappiness and she is way over the top. I have to ask myself why he would tolerate her screaming at you. You are marrying a family as well as your husband.
367511
Well you could write them a letter about how you feel and leave it at that! And then go on with your plans together. They will either learn to live with their son's decision or they won't.\n\nThe parents aren't the ones in this relationship and if you both love each other, do what you need to do to be together. DON'T NOT be  together because of them. they are not in this relationship you both are, and you two should be happy. They'll get over it, it may take years, but at least you won't have to worry about your mother-in-law butting into your business, right off the bat.