what do i do to be different from my date ex,and what do i do for him to want to stay with me all his life?
489127
Maybe try some voodoo magic
549667
First of all - you need to realize that he is just that... He is your EX husband.  It is so easy to just remember the good things that happened in a relationship and forget the bad.  The mind is amazing how it works that way.  It kind of helps make us happier (usually).  It's like giving birth.  Talk to a new mother in her ninth hour of labor and ask her when she wants to do it again.  Yet, the population keeps growing.  You forget the bad...\n\nIf you really want him to like you again (in the event that he doesn't), my best advise is to be one of those people that is FUN to be around.  If you are desperate and clingy and throwing yourself at him and weepy, trust me, he is going to want to avoid you like the plague.  (not that you are).  Who wants to spend their time around someone that is moping around, and puts them through the wringer, and is emotionally draining?  Now, who wants to be around someone that is busy doing FUN things, and chipper, and smiling, and positive...  (you get the picture)
1151233
Do you want to spend your life pleasing him, sacrificing your own wants and needs?  Do you want to be walked all over?  Stand up for yourself, be yourself.  He doesn't accept you for who you are or what you do, someone else will.  Enjoy life the way you want to, don't let someone else shape you into something you are not.  Would you ask him to change three things?  What do you think his response would be?  One sided relationships ALWAYS fail.
372382
Patience is the key! Don't allow him to get to you, that's what he wants to do and bring you down to his level. Congrats on moving on with your life....atta girl!
582545
move on. i jus went through the same thing that lasted a year n my x even has dated his new girlfriend for 7 months. hes goin 2 act like that towards u cuz he knows youll wait for him...he knows he can swing u right back in..so dont let him kno that ur waitin..dont wait! u can find a guy that wont play wit ur emotions.dont wait for nebody...guys should b waitin in line for you!
1027491
Take some time for you. Your ex is your ex for a reason! If the new guys really wants to help than he'll understand that you need to be your own person for awhile. That wall is up because Mr. Right hasn't found a way in.
190794
Ask yourself if you can live with all the in differences sounds like it might be difficult to always have him being the one who is right and in control you have to do what makes you happy any relationship is a 50/50 deal :)
153465
Even though I'm a guy, I have been where you are before.  My ex always dangled that possibility that we might get together thing out there.  Unfortunately being the person who got left you feel like if there is a posiblity then you should keep your life on hold just in case.  Two years is too long to have to keep your life on hold for someone who has left you and cheated on you.  It is past time for you to get your life back and to seek out happiness once again.  Step one though should be filing for divorce.  I recomend this before you date anyone because in some states it can make a difference in the settlement still.  If you so much as date someone even though he is the one who cheated first and left they will still see you as equally cheating even though you waited two years.  Beyond that concern though you have every right and duty to yourself to move on and be happy.  Get divorced and find a guy who really loves you and deserves your love.
269325
You walk away with pride and honor because you are a woman.  Then, you understand that he could not have been good for you in your life, and you set new goals for yourself.  You put your memories of him behind you and move forward with a smile and a very positive energy.\n\nWhat else would you possibly want to do?  You must grow and learn from all of the experiences in your life.  This is just another of them.
424530
If he was really changing, his behavior would not be so sporadic.  He would make a genuine committment to be that same wonderful guy instead of turning back into an ogre.  Most people need something bad to happen to them before they realize the hurt that they've done to others, and change their own lives.  If you stay, you are only telling him that you easily fall for his mind games, and that it doesn't take much to placate you.  But if you go, and I mean seriously go (no threats or promises), you will show him that you are genuinely tired of your life with him that way that it is.  And if he misses you enough (and you should always make them miss you), he will realize his many errors and make a concerted effort to change his life and ways to get you back.  And if he doesn't decide to change to get you to come back, then he wasn't meant for you anyway and was just a bump on your road of finding true happiness.
304394
I'm very impressed by your input on the situation! Why? Because I'm a divorced father as well, and yes - after a divorce you are somewhat at the mercy of the ex, and at least for me - it's much better to take things slow. I'm a lot more cautious now than I ever was before when it comes to dating!\n\nI don't think he blew you off at all! And for you to suggest fishing? Where can I find someone like you? Got any sisters? (Kidding)\n\nSeriously, be patient, maybe you could even do something as simple as enjoying lunch together somewhere? Take it slow - if he's anything like me, it just takes time.\n\nTry to suggest planning far enough in advance, and see if he can get his ex to be agreeable on the date you've chosen. Sometimes a planned schedule far enough out is the best way to make certain it will work.\n\nGood luck with your situation!
44191
Lilmommah, I think you know the answer to this question.  This guy is abviously confused about what he wants from life.  But he is sure that he can always have you as a standby and a fallback chick, when things aren't going so well for him. As soon as he gets himself together at your expense of course, he'll be gone again. Leaving your life an emotional wreck once again. Time passes quickly Lilmommah, don't waste a precious moment of it! Take yourself in hand, get control of those emotions and start seriously dating, there is someone out there who will see you and want you,for you and not just a safeharbor in his stormy little life. You deserve better than this. Now go find it.
895523
Wow--that's a long time to date someone!!  I'll bet you are really hurting.  He's probably curious about what's on the 'other side of the fence' at this point.  There's nothing you can do about it if he wants to be with another girl.  You don't have to like it--but you do have to accept it and take responsibility for your own life.  He doesn't want to talk with you though and you have to respect his wishes about that.  It's going to be difficult to get past such a significant relationship.  I suggest (although this may sound weird & I'm not suggesting you want anything bad to happen to him) that you pretend he's dead and grief accordingly.  You don't have the option of talking with him to work things out.  If he misses your absence, he'll get in touch at some future date.  The fact is he has changed his mind, which is his perogative, and you need to get on with the rest of your life.  Good Luck
1087668
1. Never look back always move forward.\n 2. Stay active with family and friends.\n 3. get rid of anything that will remind you of this person pictures, concert and movie stubs ect.\n 4. And most important Never blame yourself everything happens for a reason, and it being a BAD relationship your better off it wasnt ment to be.\n\n                 AND YES ITS OK TO START DATING  SOOO DATE ON !!!!!
16091
I say leave. A year is not a lifetime, but I think enough time to figure out what you want. He wants to date around and not commit. It seems like you might want more.\n\nIf you stick around, you'll just be a convienance\nand you'll wind up getting more hurt.
1079112
Start from the beginning from when you first started dating. Go back to the place you met. Revisit old past times together. Start doing the things you used to do before your life became busy. \n\nDon't forget to look back and find out what that person really means to you. Spice things up a little, do something that you would not ordinarily do. You may have become to predictable with your day in and day out routine. Do some new things.\n\nPray about it as well. It'll work, you have nothing to worry about.
321519
First of all to give him a chance, discuss this matter with him directly. Tell him that you won't be the way he wants you to be, but you love him a lot and wanna be with him. If he agrees and changes his attitude to you then it might become alright for a while, but if not then just dump him and tell him that you can easily live without him. I can assure you that when you'll dump him he will come after you, cause probably as you've said he can do it so well, he wouldn't expect this from you. And when he comes after you then you make him to do things you want, but don't push it as he has been pushing.