Well...If I cheated twice, why does she still want to work things out?
479508
Because she has no self-esteem. You obviously don't really want her, but she is either too desperate to see that or too depressed to think that she could find someone who is actually a decent Man. See if she would be into swinging or group encounters. You might be able to swing it.
188745
Not necessarily, she might not have been content in her first marriage, and that is why she did what she did.  Look at it like this, you are with her now and not her ex.  There was something missing in her relationship with her ex and she has now found what she was looking for in you.  Don't let your insecurities keep you from having a long lasting loving relationship.  Jealousy and not trust one another with break up any relationship.
1005109
Ask yourself if you can trust her. If you can't, regardless of if she is truly being honest or not, then how can you have a healthy relationship? It sounds like there have been issues with trust with her in the past, and games to make each other jealous. Is that the kind of relationship you want to have?
1044381
You love her,and want to be with her. She was honest with you. It happened 3 yrs ago. She has since proven how strong her love is for you. She made a poor choice. She's not the only one who has ever done so. Stop thinking about it, concentrate on the rest of the months she's shown you the love she has for you. think about 35 mos vs 1 mo. Enjoy your love and lady!!!! God heals the heart, and the hurtful memories fade. Don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. It's easy for someone to say leave when they aren't the one who's going thru it. Listen to your heart and pray. Believe me,she's punishing herself enough for both of you and hurts just as much as you do.
411218
She realized she made a mistake and told you, but she only slept with this person after you separated on good terms.  If you still care about her and she still wants to be with you, go to marriage counseling together or just talk it out and see what you both want to do.  Trust your heart, and if you both want it enough, get back together.  Sometimes the second time works even though the first didn't, because you've both learned from your mistakes the first time.  \n\nJust remember, everyone is human and makes mistakes.
176606
You and her are a totally different relationship from any relationship she has had in the past.  You honestly have no reason to not trust her until she cheats on you.  People grow up and people change.  If you judge someone by their prior relationships then you aren't being fair to them and giving your relationship an honest chance.  Stop worrying about this or you will create a problem that doesn't yet exist.  Life is too short to waste worrying about something that might happen.
973456
They are probably telling you that because they love you and they can see you are hurting.   Hell yeah, you have every right to be angry.  Cheating is the ultimate betrayal.  It nips at the core of your self esteem, it tells you that you are not good enough.  It doesnt matter whether it was a mistake or not because things do happen in the heat of the moment and mistakes still get made, but it doesnt change how the person who is being cheated on feels about themselves.  I guess the big question is....do you still love her?  That is the hardest part to get over and it is going to take a bit more time than 2 weeks to get her out of your head and your heart.  Depending on how much you loved her will determine how long you will grieve for.  And you do grieve when you lose someone you love.  Just know that not all girls/women are the same...so dont carry her betrayal into another relationship....treat it as brand new....you have to trust because your next girlfriend is not the old girlfriend and you dont want to start any relationship off badly because of the things that happened to you with someone else.  Distrust and jealousy is the quickest way to lose someone....so you need to come to terms with what has happened and when you are done grieving, move on and leave what she did where it belongs....in the past.\n\nI hope it wont take you long until you start to trust again.  Try to not blame yourself....it was not your fault she cheated...it was just the relationship was not meant to be...she was not the girl for you.\n\nI hope you feel better soon....You wont always feel angry.  With time you will just put it down to experience.
309031
I think he's going to end up cheating on you again.  He continues to lie, and obviously still has feelings for this other woman.  Knowing that you both have been unfaithful makes me think that there are some serious problems in your relationship that you just aren't willing to address or work out.  I know that being with someone for that long can make leaving them all that much harder, but you need to step away from the relationship.  Yes you were both wrong, but that doesn't mean he can't forgive you and stop holding your actions over you head.  Have you forgiven him?  There really is no trust in your relationship anymore and I just don't see a realtionship working out in the long run if the partners can't trust each other.  Hope this helps, good luck!
344939
Although you may not want to admit it to yourself, your partner may just want out of the relationship. They were not thinking of you when they cheated, and now they don't want to be forgiven. Maybe they hoped that you would find out and then break it off so they didn't have to do it. Besides, you should find someone who won't cheat on you. You deserve to be able to trust your lover.
791835
Hmmm...it appears as though she was not really ready to move on if she went back to him so quickly.  She should have totally healed before she became involved.\n\nIf you do not trust her, then you will always be second guessing her moves and motives for the things she does.  Personally,  I don't see how it can work if you don't trust her.  Without trust you have nothing.\n\nIt doesn't sound as though this is a compatibility issue, but a honesty & trust thing.  Has she cheated on you again since the first time?  If yes, then you need to let her go, cut your losses and move on to the person who is waiting for you to find her. However, so often we prevent ourselves from finding the happiness we deserve or long for because we stay with people we know we shouldn't be with.  In other words, we continue to settle.\n\nSo, let her go and heal from this before you move on.  Seriously.  If you move on too quickly you're just perpetuating the cycle and you will wind up hurting someone who just wanted to love you.
426736
Fisrt its better if u answer to this Q:why u cheated her ,even not once,but twice???????????
309130
I disagree with the others. If you are willing to take the time and be honest from here out, and honestly get past the cheating that happened almost a year ago, and she can get past the fact that you have lied to her over and over, there is hope. There is no doubt that you love her and she loves you. The fact remains that she only did it once and it was almost a year ago. Anything can be worked through if the love is strong enough, but it's not going to happen over night or even in a couple of weeks. It's going to take time, but it can be done.
599619
My girlfiend of 7 years cheated on me recently. I trusted her. She has a night class on Tuesday and Thursday nights.\nShe ended up seeing the teacher more than just in class.\nI am NOT going to give her another chance to do it again.\nOnce a cheater, always a cheater.
335941
Why would you want to date someone that already has shown a tendency to cheat?\n\nWhat if her boyfriend is some who can beat the **** out of you (and maybe even her)?\n\nMore trouble than it's worth...\n\nThat's just dumb.
201920
If she cheated once, chances are she will cheat again. Especially considering its a lond distance relationship. Move on.
612366
Why did you break-up?  Obviously, there was a reason it wasn't working out.  Did either of you cheat?  Or, did you break-up because you wanted to see other people (or because one of you wanted to see someone else)?  If it was cheatting, do you really think trust will be in the relationship, and suddenly faithful?  If someone wanted to see other people, do you think it won't happen again?  Some people always want something on the back burner.  (Well, if I break-up with her and things don't work out with so-n-so, I can always go back to her.)  Hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me!!!
671888
yikes...what is she thinking,either way people are getting hurt. Not only that but its out there now...trust is the catalyst of all relationships,when the trust is breached then so is the relationship...look for the kids sake...work this out...get help...see a marriage counselor with her find out why she wants to cheat...I am not a Dr. this is just an opinion...best of luck...God bless