i'm always jealous of other people, i dont wanna be negative but i think i am. what 2 do?
476887
I think you are not satisfied with yourself and that's why you are jealous and negative. Think what you want to accomplish realistically within the next 2-3 years and make a step by step plan (realistic one). Start working on it. Get busy with achieving your immediate and long term goals and hopefully you don't worry about other people much. \n\nExamples of goals: loose 10lb, become more attractive, get married, buy a house, get pay raise, change profession, make 10 more new friends, etc.
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you might benefit from cognitive behavioural therapy. talk to your doc and he should be able to refer you to one. \n\nit just helps you to change the way you look at a negative thought, and think through some other more positive thoughts. you could try it for yourself.\n\nwrite down a situation then how you felt about it. you can then try to write three alternatives that are more positive.\n\nfor eg, what i did, was write that in a meeting i thought that some of the others looked at me as though they hated me. to this my  resonses could have been,\ndont they always look like that? and yes they do with others as well as me!\n\nthey may well hate each other, and i have misinterpreted the atmosphere to be my fault!\n\nand so on... life is too short to worry about these things, try to be positive in the face of adversity even though its so  hard and you will find it gets easier.\n\ngood luck my friend..x
671961
ONLY LEARNED PEOPLE CAN BE JEALOUS OF ANOTHER LEARNED PERSON \nOTHERWISE WHO ELSE CAN BE. BUT IT MUST BE A POSITIVE ONE FOR ONE TO DO BETTER TRY BETTER AND NOTHING MORE THAN THAT.\nFROWN MAY NOT BE THE CORRECT WORD.
171169
FRIENDS WHO ENVY YOU AND ARE JEALOUS OF U SHOULD NOT BE CONSIDERED FRIENDS IN THE FIRST PLACE. GO ON IN YOUR HORSE AND CARRIAGE WITH YOUR PRINCE. BRING THOSE ALONG WHO WILL CELEBRATE YOU, AND WAVE THE HATERS GOODBYE! IF NOT YOU WILL MISS YOUR OPPURTUNITY AND REGRET IT!
878555
first of all you need to stop comparing urself to other ppl....no two persons are alike,remember that, take some time out by yourself and seach ur heart...ask urself ,what has happened to you in the past which may influence you to feel this way,because sometimes things happens to us which affects our entire view of ourselves,and untill wefirst deal with those issues we will be forever trapped within ourself. take my advice....get out of your house...take a long walk..listen to some music...take it slow...u dont have to judge yourself by the characteristics of others..in doing so ,you are ignoring your very own unique characteristics.we are all beautiful sweetheart......never put yourself down ..,
347048
Don't worry about it. Really. If you are happy and you know you're not anorexic,it really doesn't matter what other people think. I look at it that they're probably just jealous. Have fun! Go shopping!  :)
996047
I have separated myself from jealous people who added negativity to my life.  I wish them well and nothing but the happiness they seek, but am not willing to offer my friendship to them.\n\nI have, what appears to be a great life to some.  I do have great blessings for which I'm eternally grateful for.  I've also had many hardships at young ages, that most people, hopefully never have to face.  That is Life!  \n\nHowever, I don't share much of myself with others.  I've found most people really don't care, they are consumed with their selves.  I've distanced myself from people who only talk about themselves.  If you're a good listener (and can't help but listen) it becomes overwhelming to be around these types.\n\nEveryone has issues.  My life is enough for me.  I don't want anyone Else's.  The older I get, the more I only want true friends/family in my life.
278752
you are being too hard onyourself.  You need to work on you.  Take a walk and try to just enjoy the day without worrying about what others are thinking all the time.  Try volunteering your time to help other.  Nothing will give you a perception that your problems are so bad when you see what other people go through.
560924
If you feel that way then so does the person you are with, it is not that abnormal.  The problem is you care way to much about what other people think about you.  You don't want to make an A** of yourself but just say what comes to mind.  Don't worry about what others think so much and you will be much happier.  Read the book the Four Agreements its by Don Miguel Ruiz, it is not really a self help book but if you practice a few of the things he suggests you will be much happier. The books less than 10 bucks.  good luck
598148
well try to be polite with them and let compliment them or make them feel good about themselves...if they are jealous ...then it's THEIR self confidence..you shouldn't feel bad about that.
315500
Charlie heres the deal.....dont be jealous it is one of the deadly sins..thats a start.  2nd..there is no one in the world worth being jealous of...jealousy just means you want what that person has and if you want it that bad..then go for it, and ask...dont pussyfoot around, beat around the bush whatever ya'll say..JUST DO IT!!!!!
677483
I would simply say - they are trying to, but you don't have to let them!  Try to surround yourself with people who are positive.  Maybe you are simply hanging out with the wrong crowd at your digs... try making some new friends that build you up instead.  A lot of people try to bring others down when they feel insecure about themselves.  Obviously, you have recognized this in others and want to avoid it for yourself.  I think that is great!  \n\nWhen people make negative comments to you, you can always counter them by saying something positive immediately - either about yourself or about the topic.  Failing that, tell them that they are coming across as negative and a bully and that that is unacceptable to you in a friend.  If you are feeling depressed about all this though, please try to talk to an adult about it.  In many cases, there are things they can do to help and the people looking after you care about you, I am sure.  \n\nGood luck with your circumstances and don't let negative people in your life affect you too much.  When you are grown and out in the real world working, you will find that they exist everywhere and very often it is nothing that you have done to make them that way.  It is their own failing and none of yours.  Go out and succeed.  Be happy.  *hugs*
324374
1st of all why do u have to b jealous when u sound so much better than anyone \nu seem to feel very bad about this\nanyway dont feel bad u can get more attention by just being more beter
1002099
This is a problem that I have been battling with all my life. I believe you have to feel confident in who you are. You need to believe in yourself. It is hard I know but you need to start looking people in the eye. People will look away. Most people are like you, so I would say that you are normal. I know you feel bad, but believe me other people are just as timid as you are. You will get more respect when you look others in the eye.
575162
those people who do that are just jealous. there has to be some quality about u that causes them to hate u for it. you just have to be the better person and ignore them. Because for everyone, there will always ALWAYS be someone who will hate you for what you are and what you stand for. u just have to decide whether their opinion of u will change how u think of yourself.
363548
hun if people don't like you it cause they are jealous of you for one reason or another, lots of people don't like me n recently i found out it was cause i had the good life n they were to busy dwellin on the past to move on and make there own life good. don't let them get you down, what ever it is you are doin keep doin it its your life not theres let them be jealous after all people bein jealous of your life can sometimes be a good thing.\n\ntake care and keep smiling, if you smile the whole world will smile with you, a smile is like the flu people cant help but to catch it.
993565
Why are you jealous?  You need to just find your own bf and start living your on life.  If you don't you will be left behind.