can someone help me, a relationship question!!!?
494070
Some people just can't talk on the phone.  My husband and I love each other very much and have a wonderful relationship but when he was in Iraq, our phone conversations last about ten minutes on average.  We just aren't phone people.  When he came home, we had alot to catch up on that we just never brought up over the phone.  Don't worry about it so much.
441782
in all relationships , one seems to have the "power". dont threatn to end it ... just act like it doesnt bother you & do a lil ignoring & soon the power is yours! he'll get REAL interested in your " change of attitude" !!
531876
The best thing you can do in this situation, is to take a step back, and wait. It appears you're pressing the issue too hard, and you have her a little threatened by your persistence. Leave it alone for a few days. It's obvious you're not going to care less, but it might give her a chance to see you're an all right guy that she would like to spend some time with. Good Luck!
717700
you need to comfront him/her about it. you dont have to acuse them of anything, you just need to ask. if your relationship is strong enough it will all work out.
297609
no, if he has stayed with you for a year so far, then you guys pretty much are exclusive, if it really bothers you though, then you owe it to him to bring it up, but dont be too forward, kind of bring it up in a round about way, ya know, in a non threatening manner. he wants to know how you feel just as much as you want to know how he feels, he just doesnt want to feel like hes getting an ultimatum. your off to a good start, he sounds like a keeper, just keep it at the pace it is at right now and know that even though he doesnt verbalize, hes yours and your his. good luck, i hope that i was able to help
968228
How long have you been with her? And why don't you ask her, you should, if it's been a while, she may not be feeling the same way about you and doesn't know what to say or, she is insecure about the relationship. Let her know your feelings on this, communication is the key!
70796
Really the best thing would be to have an honest heart to heart with your girlfriend. Let her know what you are feeling. It sounds really lame I know, but it's something it sounds like you really should do. It might be hard, but sometimes we girls need a little help when it comes to knowing what men want from us. :)
1166740
Your ex-bf's problem has nothing to do with age. He wants to "have his cake and eat it too". (I hate that cliche). I agree with phattphatt. This guy is unstable and needs to be kicked to the curb. If he keeps this crap up she will do the same and he will have lost you both. I'm not so sure what the age problem is, she is only a year younger. Your first statement made it sound like he a was dating a child and he was in his thirtys. Give him the boot and find yourself a real man.
692517
You are still learning about the relationship and how to act in it give it time\n\nGood Luck and God Bless!!
902669
I'd say...I jumped into this relationship and now I regret it. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I need out. Then, leave. You are right, if you keep on it will hurt more later and I promise you...the longer you wait, the harder it will be to do.
181586
This is a very complicated situation. It depends, how much do you like this person? Is it a lot? is it enough to get in a serious argument because of this person? If so, well there's only one thing to do, TRY and get the person back-hopefully though this person is going to have enough feelings for you. If you don't think you should fight for this person, well then you should let it be. Because first of all you guys are not dating for a reason, so deliverate that reason, and think about what you're wanting to get from this person, if it's still there than go ahead. You have to be careful though, because this person may not feel the sameway about you, so I would find out how much this person likes me, before I do anything. Because you can try and fight wit all your strengh but if this person doesn't feel anything for you, or not as much as they use to. Then it's all worthless.
512916
Honestly, it doesn't seem like you started your relationship out in the best way.  you can try to salvage it if you're getting signals, but try to do so by becoming friendly without getting too physical for a bit.
229939
NOBODY DESERVES TO BE IN THAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP WITH TRUST ISSUES. IF YOU GUYS REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER THEN YOU TWO HAVE TO STAY STRONG AND DON'T GIVE UP ON EACH OTHER. TELL HIM EVERYTHING THAT IS ON YOUR MIND AND JUST LET HIM KNOW THAT IT WILL BE OVER IF YOU HAVE TO ACCUSE HIM FOR DOING SOMETHING. TELL HIM TO BE HONEST AND IF HE WANTS TO LEAVE GIRL YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO BE STRONG AND LET GO . YOU DON'T WANT TO BE WITH HIM IF HE IS GOING TO TREAT YOU LIKE 2ND'S YOU NEED TO BE FIRST . SO GOOD LUCK AND STAY A STRONG WOMAN
588006
I think the answer to your question is a resounding YES!  Communication is the key to all relationships and you need to be honest and forthright about your feelings and fears.  You need the reassurance, from him, about how he feels and where your relationship is heading.  It is pointless being in a relationship that you are too much for him and you would be wasting your time and emotions on him.  Otherwise, you are going to be damaging your relationship by being unsure of it.  You need to get the clarity for your own sanity if nothing else!  Good luck!
584158
Your issue is trust, correct? Ask yourself these questions:\n\n1. How important to you is trust in a relationship?\n\n2. Are you willing to allow trust to be continually compromised in a relationship you choose to be in that may ultimately fail because of this trust being broken over and over and in turn then make you feel unable to ever trust another person in a later relationship.\n\n3. Is the answer to question #1 VERY and the answer to question #2 NO ?\n\nI would never presume that you would make decisions about your life by allowing me or anyone else to directly influence those decisions but I think you can see where I'm going with this. So, believing you're a good, bright and sensible young woman I'll leave you to make your own decision and wish you the best in whatever you may decide.\n\nGood Luck !!
662241
u need to talk things over. communication is one of the keys to a healthy relationship. You both need to listen to each other's opinions and thoughts. Why not try spendin time alone w/ yourself first.Collect your thoughts and asses yourself.Try to see things in an optimistic way.Do not let insecurities overcome you.I'm sure he likes you.Sometimes,there are just things that don't go the way we want them to.
821927
Stop playing around, obviously the signals are getting mixed.  Stop driving yourself crazy and simply ask what's up!!!  It's better to know so you can move forward with the relationship or move on.