How do you know if you have an anger problem and what is the best way to control anger?
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For me I sought counseling for that. I saw a Christian counselor that helped me with anger and bitterness towards people and it helped me TREMENDOUSLY!!  Or, you could seek counseling or see a psychiatrist for help as well. If you are a member of a church, seek help from people there. Get help from pastors, elders, or other people in general there. I hope the best for you.
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An angry temper is often associated with depressive symptoms. There is a supplement called; "5 HTP",... which you may find helpful for this. You can find it in most any vitamin/supplement store. You will need to give a week or so of daily intake to determine if it is helping or not.
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There are many things that can make someone angry, each of us is so different, that is why the degree of anger is also different. Some people may tolerate certain indisgressions and some may not.  The degree of tolerance is a very important aspect that can determine how much anger a person can, or may feel, and also may indicate how much control of anger a person can manage.  Maturity, Self-confidence, discipline, psychological and emotional fitness, may establish a person's ability to control his or her anger, and cope with it. Violence is anger without control and without proper logic. It is a pure irrational physical interpretation of one's fear, insecurity and vulnerability. Coping with anger is dependent on the person's abilility to figure things out for himself/herself and resolve his/her anger by using proper logic and discipline in managing ones emotional state. Often we seek advice from trusted acquiantances, just be careful, and think of what advise is being given, because they are mainly opinions of someone who may not really understand what you may be feeling, or angry about in the first place, it is very hard to assume that anyone person can help you with your anger. It is good to share your thoughts about your anger with someone you trust, but you cannot expect them to solve your anger. Only you can exercise proper rationality on your own anger and try to resolve it without violence by having self-confidence, disciplne, mature rationality, knowing what is good to do, and not to do something bad.  By doing so, you can show to everyone that you are a mature and responsible human being, and serve as a good example for everyone to follow.\n~meow
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well what makes you happy and tranquil? some say using those stress balls (the ones you squeeze when your mad help, but there have actually been studies that have proven that to be wrong. using things to take your aggression from frustration out on is actually counterproductive in the sense that it actually make you more prone to being frustrated in the future because you're actually venting your frustration rather than finding a way to calm yourself down. it depends where you are but if you're somewhere you can do this, just walk into a room and turn off the lights the darker the room the better hopefully you can find a room that is pitch black when the lights are out. just walk into that room, cut the lights and quietly take a couple of deep breaths until you've calmed down. then quietly turn the lights back on and walk out of the room.
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Yep. I believe anything is possible. Especially this. I used to be very angry myself. Anger management classes didn't work. They pissed me off even more. But through years of therapy, and counseling i learned how to find happiness within myself, and find other more positive healthy ways of expressing myself. I learned that it's okay to be angry. Everyone gets that way whether they want to believe it or not. But anyways, yes of course you can always change yourself. I found peace in writing poetry. and listening to relaxing music. So that's what i do when i'm flustered. I write how i'm feeling. It may be some ugly and harsh poetry but in the end i feel alot better. So what i would suggest is find something you like to do, and find peace in that. Good Luck to ya.
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For better anger management first you have to know, what causes anger?\n\nAnger is a natural response that all people have. It is caused by two basic things:\n\n(1) Frustration: Not getting what we want, especially if we were expecting to get it;\n(2) Feeling that others do not respect us or care how we feel.\n\nThere are many specific things that may cause anger, but they all come down to those two basic principles.\n\nManaging your Anger as First Aid:\n\n\n 1.Walk away!  Come back later\n \n 2.It's easy for others to say "count to 10" but there is some merit in doing so slowly.    Concentrating on counting, and just giving yourself time will help.  \n \n 3.Take deep & slow breaths, thinking about nothing except your breathing \n \n 4. Go out for a run (or walk) around the garden, in the park, around the block, or along the beach etc (or bike ride)\n \n 5. If all else fails - thump a cushion, kick a bean bag. Just kidding (DON'T do anything that will hurt yourself or someone else) \n \n 6. When you feel calmer - learn to talk to those you were with at the time, and explain why you were feeling that way - calmly!\n\nIf you feel unable to control your anger, then it would be wise to seek help - from your doctor.\n\nor you can read a book for help: "Anger-free" by W. Doyle Gentry. \n\nand always remember "There is nothing either good or bad\nbut thinking makes it so." --William Shakespeare. \n\nIf my answer satisfy your quire, feedback me  firozreza@yahoo.com \n\ngoodluck.\nfiroz
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Use the same things in your mind that help you to relax.Good thoughts usually.Remember that we are not always right, and what would it be like if you could learn something from all this. It takes a lot more of yourself to abstain from getting angry when you havre this problem. look to anger management groups they are there to help. Have a nice day!
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- Love him.\n- Explain him the bad outcomes of angry when he was cool.\n- Tell him some great stories which winning through   patience.\n- Teach him how to differentiate the normal tense state while he is getting angry.\n- Let him alone and make him realize.\n- Controlling angry is easy... but one need to put prolonging efforts according to his mind set.
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When you find that something is making you upset, just pause and take a deep breath.  Step outside, whetever you have to do to escape the situation for however long you need.  Breathe slowly and deeply, and count in your head.  When you have calmed down enough to think rationally about the situation, come back to it.  Don't rush...sometimes you only need to count to 10, sometimes you might need to count to a jillion.  I'm no expert, but this is what I do.  Hope it helps!
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It's very hard not to dwell on negative thoughts, especially if they refer to something you don't have much control upon (such as other people's behaviours). \nWhen this happens to me, or I get moody, I try to be very aware of myself, and analyze the situation. I often realize that I may be being unfair ion my judgement.\nWhen you feel angry or upset, there are some very distinctive symptoms, like melancholy, sadness or anger. Identify what those are for you, and try to correct them. Sometimes, by annulling the symptoms, the cause will also be relieved. It seems silly, but it does work.
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Don't sweat the small stuff.  If you do then alot of times it turns into big stuff unneccessarily.\nFor the real anger:\n1) Realize what triggers anger in you - a feeling of inferiority, personal injury or humiliation, not being able to be heard, etc.\n2)  Realize when you begin to get angry - thoughts begin to race, focus is not on what the person is saying or doing anymore but how to get back at them, not listening but instead waiting for your turn to talk, bringing up irrelevant things to the issue at hand, etc.\n3)  Realize when communication has completely broken down - again most of what is in #2.\n4)  Take control of yourself instead of trying to control the situation - don't be afraid to take a time-out and revisit the issue later (this requires an agreement with whoever IN ADVANCE)\n5)  Always respect the other person as you would want to be respected, even if they are not doing the same for you!\n\nAll of these points take work, but practice makes perfect.\nGood luck!  These steps work but you must want to change.
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Walk out of the situation before the anger takes control of you. Like 'babygirl' said, it will give you time to cool down & think through the situation sensibly instead of causing harm, whether physically or verbally, to the other in a fit of rage.\n\nThat's what I do, just walk out on the person or just don't talk. I am known for a vicious temper & that's how I deal with it. :)
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I go away from place place of anger.  Try to find a sitting place, close my eyes, drop my head and relax.  But of course in extreme case, i share my piece of mind with the other person or who ever is available.  After All am a human, one cannot always control his / her anger. :)
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1- Learn about God and his mercy. \n\n2- Accept the fact that your actions are the reason why things are the way they are. Blaming someone or somebody does nothing for you. \n\n3-Your action to a situation will bring back to you a reaction. Ask yourself, Do I want a positive reaction or a negative reaction?\n\n4-Seek wisdom. Surround yourself with good and wise people. People that are successful in life.\n\nOnce you understand how impacting your actions are to others, to the world, you then become more responsible. And Responsibility is having hope and control.\n\nAnger is nothing more than lack of knowledge, hope and control.\n\nWe need to understand that there is not such thing as anger management.  We need Anger Solutions!
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Lower your sodium intake on a daily basis. Every time you feel anger beginning to develop try holding your breathe for as long as you can.... it will temporarily restrain anger and help you develop a rational outlook tourd the situation. Take your multi-vitamins... When ever our bodies are under nourished we usually respond to it in a negative way and blame it on the situation at hand. Try weight lifting it definitely helps alot with anger and stress... BIG TIME. The last thing I really want suggest is a supplement called ''Rhodiola extract '' this stuff helped me out dramatically and I have felt much better ever since.
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We all at times would like to get revenge so we feel better. The best thing to do is really wait and don't act while your angry , sit it out and let it go for awhile and see if that feeling doesn't just fade away..
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Always remember- when in anger your body works faster than your mind and  ultimately,YOU suffer. there are always other non violent means  to tackle  things. be cool and think out a clean neat solution.This is a bad ugly world (mostly) but you have to live in this world only.