Will someone talk me out of giving up on love? Why should I?
489061
Don't give up. The problem is that you are 22, and if you are dating women your age, most are still quite immature and learning who they are, what they want from a mate and what they want in life. This is why most marriages of people your age don't work, neither party of it is mature enough to make it work, or are prepared for it when they get married. Give it some time, and you'll start seeing women "growing up" and being more mature, knowing what they want, and not playing games.
1091755
Sweetheart, love is a sacrifice. It doesn't come for free. If you think it cost you nothing keeping one for 7 years, then kick it off and move on with the new pem. "You may never know the value of what u have until u lose it". By the way who told u ,once u fall in love you'll never get a heart-beat for another. U're ability to overcome all such crushes and stay for what u've spent time to build is what i consider a sacrifice for love. Take care. No one-night stands!!
665963
Cassie -- it's kinda easy to slam someone but you know, we're supposed to be a family / community here, so be cool.\n\nI am a firm believer that "wisdom comes in a multitude of counselors" yet ultimately, one must trust in your own instinct.\n\nThat instinct, when sincerely motivated, is quite often the right decision.\n\nRed Rose has a good response, too, but I do believe the Creator wants us to use our intelligence, too.  I mean, making a lifetime decision doesn't mean you throw out your common sense (e.g. Has he spent his entire life in prison ... has he a history of unfaithfulness ... does his car license plate proclaim something you aren't comfortable with, etc.)\n\nOK -- got off the path a bit.   Will you get married with your love, honestly, I didn't understand the question.  But assuming you meant will I marry someone I love?\n\nTruthfully, you may never meet THE ONE -- there will always be a few things about him that you'll have to adjust to (if you're spontaneous, he might be disciplined ; if you talk out loud to make a decision, he might think you're repeating yourself...those issues).\n\nBut you WILL be attracted to him.   You should have affection and respect, and he should love and cherish you.\n\nDon't make this your obsession.   Quietly, and confidently release your desires to your Heavenly Father, and then, go about enjoying your life.   No shortcuts ... don't do anything to "help" God by rushing things.\n\nJust have a confident, expectant trust.   He knows you better than you know yourself.   Watch how things develop -- the Creator loves a good love story as much as anyone (those pure, innocent feelings in us came from Him).  \n\nAfter all, He IS the ultimate match-maker, drawing and courting us unto His faithful and awesome heart.
236118
Give up??\nhun..u cant just give up on the man that you love..firstly its great that you both are still on good terms, and hes coming to you for advice,thats absolutely brilliant..\nhun never give up on ur firneds..try try try again..explain..drill..make him realise..maybe hes not really in love wid dat other crappy lady..
1016755
i think the question here is, do you have someone who you think you may want to marry? never say no to anything that may bring you happiness. love is the best thing in life. if you find it, GRAB IT AND RUN!!! always be open to love. \n       best of luck hun......."E"
959058
If it is not something you are comfortable with, then you shouldn't have to do it just to keep the relationship going.\n\nHave a chat with him and find out if he is understanding enough to give that part of his life up (He should, if he loves you that much.)\n\nIf he's not willing to give it up, then you have to decide if it's something you can put up with, no matter how much you like him or how great he is.\n\nIf you can, then stay. If not, then leave him as you will never be happy with him and will get more stressed out as time goes by.
671208
Be strong.  It's not always your fault.  Don't be so hard on yourself.  You are a loving, generous person, and you have alot to offer.  You are involved with people with whom you are intersted in and, care deeply about and love.  You have thoughts, feelings and desires.  Look deeply within yourself for your answers.  Nothing is easy, and someimes there are no reasons, except that you tried and gave your all, and that what counts.  Don't ever give up but don't ever give-in either.
676309
Until you decide to love yourself unconditionally you will not realize that if you are willing to take the risk to give someone your heart you deserve the same in return.  If you have the capacity to love a guy without expecting anything in return you are better served focusing that love without conditions on yourself, in the end you will find that not only are you a happier more self confident woman, but guys like the one you are considering will be fighting for your attention.\n\nDon't sell out your integrity.  Don't undervalue the worth of your attention and love.  If you don't value it, no one else will, and this can only lead to heartache.\n\nGood luck and keep your head on straight.
578537
if iu was you i would, but that is totaly up to you. you are your own person and part of love is making the right choices. if your ready for that then go for it...if not then dont im sure he'll understand
131981
I'm sorry that you seem to be in pain! Non-requited love is a real hard thing to get over! Please read the good advice at www.marriagebuilders.com - maybe there's hope for you. Good luck!
272492
ifU shouDON'Tave to stop and thyou're\niF THEY DONT UNDERSTAND maybe youre not ready and might get crushed.\nYou have to choose the one u love most and makes you feel comfortable.
1121997
You should move on.\n\nYou cannot force someone to love you.
39126
sounds like you better stick w/ makin love to urself :-P
114330
You shouldn't be desperate if you don't want to stay single for long.  Being desperate connotes that you want something real bad and there's a saying that if you want something bad enough, you scare it away.  There's some truth to that because the message you're sending to the universe is that by wanting it so much, you still don't have it.\n\nIf you want to create that situation for yourself wherein you will be happy and fulfilled in a relationship, you've got to get into that mindset first EVEN IF you don't currently have a partner.  Then when you're not even looking, that's when it will manifest.  All creation starts with a thought and when the thought is right, the universe will manifest that thought for you.  So don't be desperate. Be complete. Then you will Have.
211513
You should just give it some time. If you stay true to yourself love will find you eventually. It might not be right when you want it to happen, but it will come. Don't go out there and start looking for somebody to call your own out of desperation because that could mean disaster. Just take care of you and be patient.
583480
cos the feelings are too strong.... all u have to do is feel the person is horror himself.or think him in a bad way and u will hate him.... but i will suggest that if there is any means having that person u just have to try cos  ... its good to follow the heart he may be the one 4 u and don't just give up. but if u insist on giving up it OK.. cos if u don't give up u are only killing ur self a given passion or emotion that can never be re_given by the other.there is not determinate answer cos, he May be the one, and he may not be the one. if u can bear it wait for a time and see if things will change. but if u cannot wait then forget him and believe that, if he is for u he will come back sooner or later alone.
264731
Love doesn't have a preference why should I?