How can you get an ex-boyfriend to stop messing in your life?
478378
best way is to have a new bf and let him tackle this situation. guys are bulls, they fight and they decide once for all. i m ready to pretend to be ur bf, just let me know......i will kick his....
346875
Stop stalking him and move on.
1116175
hotti, i was in the same situation.  I loved him and he cheated so i broke up w/ him.  It was hard to get over and i thought that i would never get over him, but i did.  \n\nFirst, get rid of anythign and everythign that reminds you of him.  EX:  Pics, notes, letters...ect\n\nNext, now that you have your mind off of him, keep ot off and try new things.  Make sure to be having fun.  Go to a club and hang out with friends.  Party.  Then do more fun stuff like somethign you never did b4.  If you have nvr been surfing, try that.  Or try any of these:\n~skydiving\n~bunjee jumping\n~eat a lot of ice cream\n~introduce urself to a new type of music\n~go to a concert and 'Rock out!!'\n~get a journal and in a red pen write "I hate _________"  (fill his name in)  and fill the whole jorrnal.  If that dont work, use a more appropriate word, like a*s*s* , jerk, loser, or anythign else.  Be creative.\n~hang out with a million other people you dont know\n~have a night on the town with your mom or best friend.\n\nHere are some really fun things that you could do to get him mad:\n~order magazines in his name and send them to his house.  Make sure thay are girly or childish magazines\n~sneak into his house and draw all over his face with red marker\n~hang all of his underwear outside with a sign that says "A*S*S* crack undies.  Free.  Never been used.  lol (do you get it)\n~Just have fun.\n\nI hope i helped.  Dont cry over a jerk.  You will definately find a better guy who loves every part of you no matter what.
44991
Don't call him, don't answer his phone calls.  If you broke up with him, don't pay any attention to him going out with other ladies.  You will just get jealous and want him back for the wrong reasons.  If he broke up with you, that sux.  Don't let him play any mind games with you.  If he wants to get back together, tell him you have moved on and that he can't mess with you anymore.  Then move on and be done with it.  Don't watch any movies or listen to any songs that you shared.  That only makes it worse.  And don't hook up with him out of desparation or because ya'll don't have anything better to do.  Your life will be miserable for it, I promise.
1115655
you make him stop lying to you by leaving him.... if you arent there anymore he cant lie to you. If you think staying around will fix it you are wrong. If he compulsively lies to you he will continue to.
841896
I went through something similiar to this and I put my foot down and told my boyfriend to either stop talking with her or I was history.  He stopped immediately and things are great now.  Sometimes you just have to lay down the law or they will keep doing stupid things because you allow them to get away with it.  Good Luck.
792114
forget him and get on with your life
903441
You broke up with him because you wanted him to change.  Now, you want suggestions on how to change him back.  I think you should stop focussing on how he should act, and focus on your own behavior because you can only control your actions, not his.  Obviously, it seems like you should have thought through breaking up more before you actually did it.  You hurt him.  You have to show him that you can be trusted.  Apologize, be honest with him about your feelings and let him be.  If he comes back to you, he is in your future.  If he doesn't, then learn from the experience and the next time you're with someone you're totally crazy about, don't get caught up in fixing his flaws.
640866
the best way to get even is to "ACT" psycho and obsessed.give him hell.make it your mission to find everything out about him his friends and family and his personal details and numbers and just give it to him.call him constantly,send him cards,be really sweet,sort of like the girl in how to loose a guy in 10 days.\n\nyes ive done this once and it satisfied me,i have REDEEMED MYSELF SISTA.he did change all his details and had to run and hide the torment worked well.THE ULTIMATE PAYBACK IS CLINGINESS THEY HATE IT.
572592
If he broke it off, rent a billboard along the highway. If you did, have some class and stay away from your ex.
335603
I had the same problem with my present boyfriend.  Instead of trying to constantly get through to him (which can annoy the person after a while), just let him know that you are there for him and that he has no reason to keep his guard up.  This should only be told to him once, and whatever happens after that is up to him.  Though it may take a while for him to accept it and open up, it may work.
273601
some things are better left unsaid so just break it off with you'll live in boyfriend and tell him that it's not working out anymore and tell the next guy you made a big mistake but now you know that you only want to be with him and him only
1187406
well give some detail like how is he no good? At least you figured it out in a quick amount of time you didn't waste years I would just tell him that you don't want to be with him anymore it's that's simple, you don't deserve to be treated badly... drop the jerk and find someone that will treat you right.
512958
The problem is that you're living with a fantasy, which is always going to be better than reality because you aren't dealing with the facts of the relationship.  Take a notebook and right down all the good things about this former beau at one end of it and turn it over and upside down and write all the bad things about the person.  When you can realistically look at the good and bad you can free yourself from your long standing issues and move on.
132058
been there .done that.your ex has a major problem in that he truly thinks he's all that and he WANTS girls fighting over him.it makes his pin head bigger sothe next time he comes on to you you grab him by the throat and tell him that you are NOT going to play his game.if he wants to be with you he's gonna have to ditch your friend and prove to you he's done so before you'll have anything to do with him.THEN GO TELL YOUR FRIEND what's been going on so she can keep an eye on him.let her know that you're not trying to start problems but she needs to be made aware and tell her you think he's doing it just to have you two fighting over him.She probably will get mad at you they always do.But here's what I did when my ex started playing that game.His girlfriend kept calling and threatening me so i finally got tired of it and told her he was chasing me and if she did'nt believe that i could and would prove it to her.the next time he came by my place banging on the door begging to talk to me,i called her,made sure she answered and told her to listen an then i let him in.we had a nice chat with him telling me how he did'nt want to be with her,how stupid she was and evan how bad she was in bed.he told me how no-one could make him feel like i did and he missed me and loved me and would do absolutely ANYTHING to prove it.So i picked up the phone and told him to tell her it was over and he balked.when i told him to take the phone it was for him he literally turned white.she heard every word he'd said and he knew it.after another month of her chasing him everywhere begging for his attention we did get back together for a short time before someone else turned his head and he tried playing the same game.i sent him on his way with my blessing and told him i was better off without him.i refused to play.his new woman stole his paychecks and spent all his money on drugs and alcohol that HER other boyfriends helped her consume.when he tried to force her to work on being with just him she cut up all his clothes,destroyed his furniture and trashed their apartment and he had to pay the damages,and when he came crawling to me for comfort i laughed at him.it took a long time but there was a happy ending for us we've been together the last 10 yrs and i can't get the man to so much as go out for a beer without me.It's called TOUGH LOVE honey.If you're gonna be with an asshole you have to learn to be a bigger and better asshole than he is.DO NOT LET HIM FORCE YOU TO STOOP TO HIS LEVEL.no matter what!!!!!don't get mad in front of another woman he's with ever.act like it don't bother you they're hanging all over one another.if a comment is made to you by either of them ignore it or tell the offender that they deserve each other because theiy'reboth beneath you and go on your merry way.it'll make them both nuts!try if you can to never be anywhere they are by yourself because you'll need witnesses when he tries to pull you into a dark corner to talk.and i promise you that he will but you just have to tell him firmly that you have no time to talk to a man who has a woman waiting for him and he'd best be getting back to her side.hopefully,you'll find yourself a great guy who'll make you want to forget this one while you're playing "who gives a s***.Always keep your dignity.that's one of the few things that NO-ONE can take unless you give it.if you get mad in front of him or her he'll think you want to be his door-mat.good luck.
1102553
yeah i used to get into trouble for this with my ex, u have to get over it at the end of the day they r his ex's he did have a life before he met u. well that's what i used to get told anyway...hence he is now my ex. don't feel bad about it just make sure u don't nag him to much about it because he will ge3t annoyed with it! Just make sure a better girlfriend then they ever were! \n\ngood luck!
64895
you can't get a guy to break his habits if he doesn't want to.  you're not keeper so therefore you  can't make him stop.