how do u get over your first true love?
485509
u never really do.  u just go on wit your life.\nfind more loves but u are never really over any of them.\nu just think of it less as time goes by.\ni suggest journaling all your feelings about ur true love and ur pain as a way of moving thru them.
1079094
What my grandmother said was the best way to get over someone is to get under someone.\n\nI though that was a funny joke, but it turns out it is scientifically accurate. Getting intimate with someone releases hormones that get you "over" the other person.
933845
True love will get you through just about anything.  First love is usually just a beautiful memory.  Those we love truly have a way of impacting our lives on many different levels and are therefore the most important.
47123
Boy thats a tough one! I had a similar problem with my first love. If I were you I would try and think about why he was with you in the first place... what made him need you. Possibly show him that you two were good for each other that you brought out great qualities in one another. But sometimes people just lose touch and intrest sad as it may seem. Just be careful not to put yourself out there too far, you have to respect yourself before anyone else will.\n\nIf your ruthless a good dose of jealousy might work too ; D
637827
i am sorry you suffer i know how u feel cause i felt same when a guy broke up my heart long time ago you must move on cause she no love you it's hard but u will i advice you to go find other love spend time with new gf even u not feel in love with her but this is best way to forget about ur love best luck thank you
587608
u get over a crush but not love
614010
my first love died when i was 14. i loved her with all my heart. i think about her every day. it has ruined all other relationships i've tried to have with people. i wish she could be with me now.
308907
Yes, tell her how you feel,simply,without a word about not being able to live without her.Ask her how she feels about you. But if she does not feel the same way,remember that she is your first love(is she?),you are apparently a young man,and you have a whole life ahead of you. You may find that there will be someone later on who means just as much or more to you. Life is too wonderful to spend it longing for a lost love. You will never forget her,but you will find you CAN have a good and happy life even if she is not in it. If it is meant to be,you will be together,but if not,let yourself cry,grieve for a lost love,but remind yourself that life really does go on,and something new and wonderful is waiting for you.
782517
It was hard for me when I recently got in touch with an (THE) ex. At first it was just friendly, and then we talked a few times and I was hit with so many emotions it felt like I was punched in the stomach.  He was my first true love (at 18) and I realized that I still have feelings for him almost 20 years later-- and we are both married to others with children.  I told him how I felt and it was not great/emotional/embarassing to be feeling and acting like a teenager, though he let me down gently and we are still friendly.   So its been a tough few months. With other exs it has not been an issue, simply friendly, occassional correspondance with guys I knew in middle school, high school.  I think its not an issue if there are not any feelings left but friendly, fond memories.  If you discover, like I did, that the feelings are as fresh as they ever were than its much more complicated.  Good luck.
11123
If you want to get over your ex-fiance, you need to take affirmative action that will gradually take him out of your mind and allow you to start your life again. I recommend the following:\n\n1. Spend more time hanging out with your friends and less time alone. Friends, as well as family can be a great support when you are in pain.\n2. Get more deeply involved in your hobbies and interests.\n3. If your ex-fiance gave you an engagement ring, you do not need that reminder.....give it or throw it away. And do the same with any gifts he gave to you.\n4. Destroy or throw out any pictures you have of the two of you together.\n5. When you feel ready, start to date again.\n\nIn a nutshell, you need to start to purge your ex-fiance from your mind. It will be hard at first but, little by little, you will think about him less and less. Eventually, he will be a distant memory and you can have your own life back again.
827121
Yes it's very possible. However, it's going to take time. \nYou're obviously not over this girl. I really believe that for as long as you're holding on to this girl, you won't be ready for a new love. \nI'm assuming she's your first love? It's going to be hard because naturally we compare everything and everyone to that one person. She was perfect in every way, right? and you want your next to be just like her; totally understandable. But honestly, we can't expect to find that same person again. I think that you may need a little more time to get over her; and I'm sorry to say, but you do need to let her go. It's hard to let ourselves open up to new options and personalities when we're still so engrossed on one option. \nAnd, I'm sorry, I'm not one to tell you how to move on and let go. It took me almost 3 years before i could completely let go of my first. But it will happen, i think the best thing you can do now is find out what you can learn from that relationship and try to figure out how, because of this relationship, you've become a better person. Then use those factors to find what you really need.
9543
Oh, Geez.  These people are crazy.  The only thing that will help you get over him is TIME.  If you think you were soulmates, you may never get over him, as a piece of your heart has been taken.  Time will still ease the pain, though.  Rumor has it that it takes half as long to get over someone as the time you dated them.  So.. if you dated for 2 years, it will take 1 year to get over him. If you were meant to be together... somehow, somwhere, you will hook up again, and you'll pick up right where you left off.   Chin up... things will be ok.  I promise.
484954
Harder to leave!  Because whether your conscious of it or not, you've already started questioning the worth of staying or not.  You may love him, but you can't make him love you because you hurt or your miserable.  You got played, so swallow the lump in your throat, and go on with life.  There will come a time again in your life that you will find love.\nIf he was your first love, I'm sorry for you, believe me, I understand!! Unfortunately, you won't forget him, but try not to; make a conscious effort not to judge other men by his actions/mistakes.  They really aren't all monsters.
1006946
The best way to get over one is find another. That's what my momma always told me & it's true. Lifes too short to pine away over someone who doesn't return your feelings. Move on sweety! You can do it! Have a positive attitude & find you another! Have a great day & God bless.
409662
DANG THAT'S A TOUGH ONE ; i KN0 i ASKED MYSELF THE SAME THiNG EVRYDAi ; BUT iT TAKES TiME - U WiLL STiLL HAVE SOME MEMORi OF HiM - BUT iT GOES AWAi SLOW - U WiLL STiLL HAVE SUM FEELiNG FOR HiM BECAUSE iT WAS LOVE ND LOVE NEVER GOES AWAi EVEN A LITTLE - SO JUST TRi TO TALK TO OTHER PEOPLE TO HELP U GET OVER HiM ; iT MiTE HELP ; OR DO THiNGS TO GET UR MiND OFF OF HiM -- iT HELPD WiT MEH .. SOO YEA
379828
Because you never ever forget your first love. It will always be special no matter how many relationships you have. In fact, you can't really forget anyone you've been in love with. Love is a feeling you can't just switch off or leave behind. When you have been that intimate with someone and that close, no matter how badly the relationship ended, the good times will always be remembered and looked upon fondly. What you do instead is move on in life and focus on other things and other relationships. Go out, do things you enjoy, surround yourself with friends and realise that love can and will come again. However, if you believe that this girl was more than your first love, maybe you think she was "the one" then why not get in contact with her again? See how she is and see if your feelings are still there.
320003
It takes time to get over a love relationship.  Some people say that it takes half the time you were involved to get over it.  The best thing is to just talk it out with friends, or maybe a professional counselor.  It's a process, getting over a broken heart, not an event.  It's not something that you just wake up the next day and say, "I'm over it".  I found getting involved with new friends, or interests took my mind away from my sadness.  \nI'm sorry to hear that you are hurting, I hope that you can find some support and distraction soon.  It won't always be like this.  Some day in the future you will look back at this and realize that it wasn't a good relationship for you.