what does bfs expect from their gfs (inspite of sex)?
482647
this is not a question for the boys, sister:  boys don't know what they want!\n\nEven though they don't know it, they do want a girlfriend who is strong.  Strong meaning:\n\n1.  she is fiercly loyal, even when she knows he is wrong\n\n2.  a shoulder to lean on\n\n3.  she must have a mind of her own:  guys don't like girls who do everything just because she thinks it's what he wants.  You should have your own opinion on current events, where to go to dinner, and how you want to see things done.\n\n4.  You need to be wise enough to know when you are pushing him over the edge, and take a step back when you do\n\n5.  Most importantly, you have to make him feel like he's special to you, even when he acts like an idiot.
193503
as long as there is no sex involved its all good.  it may piss you off but tell her that it does if she continues to do it, break up with her. trust is # 1 in a relationship
967464
Sometimes the best sex is had in this type of a situation.  He needs something other than the norm, you have it and want it.  Done deal.  As long as you have no ties to the family or friends that you could lose then cool.
709231
I have never found it exciting to be ignored.  I suppose some guys do, but most of us think a woman like that is just a b-tch and not worth the time and trouble.\n\nI really don't understand your relationship with your guy.  You are having sex with him and you want him to start paying attention to you as a person?  I think you are very unlikely to get him to treat you very differently.  The kind of guy who wants *only* sex is not going to change overnight into a sweet, sensitive guy who wants to be in a committed relationship ("even if it doesn't last").  \n\nThis is a guy who thinks he already has what he wants, which unfortunately does not include treating you like a real girlfriend.  He is more likely to drop you and look for someone else that will sleep with him but not make any emotional demands.  What can I say?  Some guys are jerks, and it looks like you are stuck with one of them.\n\nThat is not to say that you ought to allow the current situation to continue.  If you want more than friends-with-benefits, you need to make some changes, and you need to be prepared to look elsewhere if he doesn't want to give you what you need.  \n\nSo, DON'T ignore him.  Instead, be really clear and open about why the relationship isn't working for you and what you expect and need.  Tell him that if he doesn't want that, you understand, but the booty calls are now at an end.  And stick to it!  If you do, he will see that you are serious and there is a chance (not great, but still a chance) that he will decide that he actually has feeling for you.  But be prepared for the strong possibility that he will take a hike.  If he does, just shut the door and move on.  He really isn't worth the trouble.  If you don't transform the relationship now, it will ALWAYS be like this.\n\nI am sure you wanted a different answer, but you need to hear the truth.  Good luck!!
288796
Hey, please dont generalise it on all guys just because some guys do it.\nFor me, sex is the last thing in a relation. I really dont know how some guys can just have sex with a female that they just know for few hours or less than a year.\nI dont know if its just me, but i am really freaky about sex. I need to really know the female perfectly and have some positive connection with the person. And will be personally ready for sex ONLY after about 1 yr of serious relationship.\nSo, please dont generalise all guys in the same way. Not all the animals in the jungle are dangerous.\nAs for the guys who want sex as soon as they start talking, they are the crazy despos and their only objective about talking is just to get the female laid and dump them after use.
1023854
Oh, my goodness, had this discussion with my hubby the other day.\n\nYes, they think in terms of sex.  Even when we massage them...they think sex.  They also think a massage is foreplay and if they rub our backs then we should naturally be hot and bothered and ready to jump in the sack with them!  \n\ncrazy men! :)
163070
A a guy, I can tell you all men at first think they just want to have sex with you. But if you allow enough time to pass before this occurs, you and he will know if there can be more to the relationship than that. I would give it several months at least to be more sure he enjoys seeing and knowning more about you, and not just want sex, before you allow things to get physical. In otherwords, time will tell in ways your heart at first can not.
957550
You are not the smothering type like one person above me said. \n\nYour boyfriend sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too.  You nailed it when you said: "To me, I think this seems like he wants to be able to have me around if/when he wants me, but for me not to get mad if I can't have him around when I want him. Like he wants to be with me, and for me to be there for him, but he doesn't want to have to be there for me."\n\nI knew a guy who was sleeping with this girl for a year and a half and he refused to call her his girlfriend..he just told people they're "seeing each other."  This generally means a non-exclusive relationship, and while he was sleeping with her, he was also seeing other girls and possibly sleeping with them too.  \n\nTell him you're not looking to take a step backward and that if he wants space that badly then he can have all the space he wants because you're leaving him.  He doesn't want to be committed to you? Then he shouldn't get sex or anything else from you.  Don't get used.
886505
Something has got to give or it will be your relationship.  Surprise her on her day off and take the kids to the parents house.  Communication and a good heart to heart is in order and the double surprise is that it creates intimacy.  And women need that for great sex. \n\nGood luck. (oh, and see what you can do to negotiate some of these issues before they strain you both too far)
634840
easy, SEX, she needs sex and likes you, when he comes back, she wont need you for sex.\n\nI could be wrong, want to chance it?
537516
depend on the gf if shes down to earth let it fly if shes some sorta snop shes gonna hate it...plus they say if u can fart in front of ur gf or bf its true love...lol
601920
Kudos on ur boyfriends attitude... can't u see what he is doing?  he's got u all worked up, his building much anticipation, and that my friend leads to awesome sex encounters.  SUAE.
787769
Almost always pretty early into it (I'm in my thirties).  I would consider it unusual not to have sex if we slept together, but still ok - actually quite nice.  The girls I remember the best (and in the best way) always waited.  It is really awesome to be with a good girl and to just be able to hold her without going farther.  Just be sure to keep the kissing to a minimum so things don't get out of hand.  Sitting under a blanket together can be romantic, but romantic isn't defined by just one thing - it is a combination of things that make a situation romantic.
614663
when you only hear what he is saying when his pants are off. lol. Do you enjoy each other outside of sex (sex includes dates that are only meant to lead to sex)? Would you still want to be with him and would he still want to be with you if there was no sex involved?
200932
Men are rutabagas -- dense vegetables.  If you need your boyfriend to notice something, point it out to him. Be direct.  Don't just give "hints."  Don't be offended if he doesn't notice on his own.  Guys are "wired" differently than gals.  Just the way it is.  Tell a guy straight out what you want and need and he'll jump through hoops to please you.  Subtlety and hints may work with your GFs, but guys just won't get it.
781091
Excellent question. And to all the doubting ladies in the answers above, this husband gets his wife surprise flowers. Splits the chores at least 50-50 (ha - she doesn't do any yardwork, but I do about a fourth of the laundry, more than half the cooking, and at least half the cleaning). I tell her how beautiful and sexy she is (and she *is*!) Spend time talking to her (when our 3 kids aren't in the way!) and basically everything everyone says I should be doing. We've talked about our sexual desires and it's quite clear that my sexual satisfaction is last on her list of priorities. What she considers good sex is merely adequate "duty" sex to me. I won't complain too much, but it seems like I'm "owed" more than 10 minutes of sex once a week... Not contemplating an affair, but can totally understand where this guy's question is coming from.
299204
This is from a guy. For all those guys for whom this is a big deal, I suggest you bring it up while dating, not after you become boyfriend/girlfriend. This way, guys, you can decide then & there if you want to pursue this relationship any further knowing you probably won't be getting what you so desire.\nWith that said, guys really need to spend more time in foreplay with their ladies.  Too often, the sex will become routine for the women as the guys are only worried about getting their own nut off, and thinking that the woman is alright because she's been faking it just to make the guys feel good about themselves.