how do u get ur wife away from overbearing family and granparents?
479634
The truth is that you can't.  If you move, there is still contact, and it is the contact that is damaging to a relationship.  I moved countries with my ex wife, her family had just as much pull with 5000 miles between them and us as they did when we were there just a few miles away.\n\nTime and bereavements are the only way...\n\nGood luck!
356512
Talk to your wife! Tell her the situation without getting upset with her. She loves her daughter and knows that her daughter is out of control but who will take care of that child her daughter had? Maybe she feels it is safer for the grand baby to be with the two of you and not left all alone some where. It does seem too much for someone of 23 to act with such disrespect and she seems childish in a way. Set rules with her and tell her it is your home and not to bring strangers into your home again! If u set boundaries and that doesn't work then i would make her leave your home instead of ruining your marriage! I would only leave your wife if she wouldn't respect your wishes for things to change and put her foot down as well. Good luck!
949241
This probably isn't the most constructive answer, but I would just wash my hands of that family.  Unless she wants to drop her kids off for a sleepover at your house from time to time.  And I would stop buying them stuff...she's taking advantage of you.  Just treat them well if she brings them over.  And when they misbehave in your home, discipline them.
1177199
go visit your mama without your wife, if your doesnt want to go then she can stay home, have the kids go and have your wife go visit her family, you wont make it peaceful between them two. all you can do is go see your mama and do it without her, i know it would be hard but you have to do it for the kids, if she doesnt want the kids to go over then theres problem. they have to see your mama. they have to visit your side of the family and if she doesnt like it then she is wrong.good luck.
804681
Why can't you still be close to your parents without dealing with your sister.  If your sister is at your parents' house, then just don't go over there.  If she comes over while you are there, then pack up your kids and leave.  If her oldest child is mean to your youngest child, grab her oldest child and tell her to stop.  You're sister and her kids will only do what you let them get away with.  You can't change how your sister behaves or how she raises her children, but you don't need to let her stress you out either.  And nobody is forcing you to spend time around her.  If you want to spend time with your parents, do it when your sister isn't there.
1168703
speak to ur husband then get police involed......get her away from u she jealous and obbsessed
1133482
try to strike a balance. your family loves you.\nmine did the same for me and i was glad i could help however i could.\nbut, remind them that your time is limited and set boundaries for yourself with them. good luck
508289
you said it yourself, you want your family back... follow your heart, ditch your gf and return to your husband and son
960233
I try to keep my mother in law out of my relationship as much as possible,
192440
If she's willing to marry you, forget what the parents say. Go elope and move far from them.
828927
Your brother-in-law is a misogynist, he has a deep rooted hatred of women. Your sister is probably being verbally and physically abused. both of you should get away from this sick puppy.
925211
If I was you I think I'd do whatever it takes to avoid these people, even if you have to move. \nMisery loves company and they are trying to make your family just like theirs. \nFind better people to socialize with before your hindsight tells you you should have.
1166956
I'm sorry to say this, but it's probably in your best interest to isolate her from the life you are trying to have with your wife.  She is being disrespectful to you and your wife now, and nothing is going to change her mind.  You also need to consider what she might say to your children if she does stay in the picture.  She obviously speaks her mind, so she may tell them that she never wanted you to have them, or that they are a burden..ect.  You can hope she'll change her mind when the baby comes, but I doubt it'll happen.  I would start keeping her at a distance now.\n\nI had my first baby at 25 (married for 3 years) My mom was 47.  She never once said anything about being too young, in fact she was on cloud nine to be a grandma!  You are in a loving stable relatinship with a woman you obviously love and care for...why wouldn't you want to have a family?  I say put her in her place, and good luck.
375490
I had a similar situation with a brother-in-law.  To save the family embarressment I told my husband and since then he never leaves me in the room alone with him.  Ignore the advances or if they get too bad, just say no.
1136907
E D U C A T I O N - stop living off grandpa
189727
Avoid fighting in front of them.  \n\nDon't do anything in front of them that you don't want them to do - smoke, drink, etc.  They learn mostly by your actions, not your words.  \n\nNever use force or violence or shouting to settle an issue.  \n\nIf you are separated or divorced from their other parent, never bad mouth that parent to them.\n\nNever prevent them from knowing their grandparents, unless there are very serious extenuating circumstances - it can't be just because you don't like the grandparents or don't get along with them.  There is nothing in this world as special and as precious as a grandparent's love.\n\nDon't ever lie in front of them, even to save face yourself.  They will remember that it is ok to lie.\n\nNever let them go to bed while you are upset with them.  Always resolve the issue.\n\nNever let them go to bed without saying "I love you."\n\nNever over-protect them by permitting them to avoid reasonable responsibility for their actions.  \n\nDon't give them a TV and computer in their bedroom.  Those items should be community property and in sight of all.\n\nDon't overwhelm them with academic expectations.  The question should be "Did you do your best?", not "Did you get an A?"\n\nDon't always believe that the problem at school wasn't their fault.\n\nDon't do everything for them.  Teach them independence and responsiblity by allowing them, and expecting them, to do some chores.  But don't expect perfection.  Accept their honest efforts - the messy room won't last forever.\n\nDon't ever say "When I was your age ....." in a way that suggests they are not good enough.\n\nI hope these thoughts help.  They are a few of the things I have learned over the years.
761878
Go to your husband's parents!\n\nFailing that, go to your own, so they will not be by themselves.