Is it wrong for two people to want to live together and be parents to there children but not a couple?
492877
Well, if both of you don't want to be in other relationships then its ok.  It's good that you both are looking out in the best interest of the children, but it will be harder for both of you to move on if you live together.
623165
There are many reasons why some couples prefer marriage as opposed to just living together, probably the main reason is the ingrained religious idea that living together without marriage is 'living in sin' and any off spring are considered to be 'bastards' (born out of wedlock)!\nThese outmoded religious ideas are now 'going out of the window' along with superstitious religious thoughts and beliefs. A couple living together have exactly the same legal rights as any married couple.\n'Bastard' no longer has the same stigma as it used to have(who really cares if your friends parents were married or not)!\nTimes are rapidly changing, and for the better as far as I am concerned.
1084606
If you feel this will be an issue that can cause problems in a relationship, it would probably be a bad idea to stay together. I know you will have issues if you get married and have kids because you'll want to instill one set of beliefs in them, and he'll want another set of beliefs instead.
112173
Every relationship is different and it should be between the two people involved to decide who provides what to the relationship.  I personally who not be able to live with myself if I wasn't able to provide a loving, safe, and confortable life for my family.
1012401
well, i agree with you totally.... you should not get married just because you have a child with someone..... a child doesn't make you love another person.... the relationship will only become worst in time... do what's best for you first.... i feel like to be a mother and a wife you should always love yourself first.... take the time out to see if marriage is what you both want.... maybe he already wanted to marry you but now he feels like it's more of a reason.... good luck and congratulations on the baby....
240763
It's not a good idea but it's a great idea. I think it's important for you to get back with your ex because you have to do it for your kids and their own future. But if the two of you argued a lot then it's better to have seperate kids with you because when a couple argue and there's kids involved they will affected mentally and physically. But it's still up to you, it's your decision.
343423
Nothing wrong with that, except that people who live together without that "piece of paper" are not entitled to many things that those who do marry are.\n\nDon't rush into anything, though (as I see you are not), you deserve some happiness after all those years of unhappiness.
983796
It isn't unacceptable. Some people have issues, that's all. You will have to decide which relationship is more important and which one you want in your life and work accordingly.
632723
yes it is wrong!!!! They SHOULD truly love each other because they are siblings.WHEN will the Madness end!!!!????? Where are their parents.......probably just as sick.I would NEVER consider entering an intimate relationship with a family member,that's just INSANE!! But considering where the world is headed,I don't know why I am so shocked.There are NO limits to what people will do these days,and it is bone-chilling to think what will happen next.
680116
This is such a personal decision.  First of all, how are you and your spousal-unit handling the two you have?  If you are all well adjusted, have no health concerns and both agree that you want to do this then you should go ahead.  Lots of people prefer to have the children close together.  The children grow up together and can often bond.\n\nIf you are having your children on your own, then carefully consider what it will mean to your day to day life.  Then proceed with caution and joy!
619803
Not weird at all.  Many people think marriage is an outdated concept, especially with the divorce rate being so high.  We aren't natuarally monogamous creatures...you can live with someone for the rest of your life without being married.
1075154
NO absolutely not, this is  supposed to be a marriage, a partnership that means that it really counts when things get rough not that you run home to mommy because there is a bump in the road. if this is happening there was never a marriage here anyway so its not much to lose in reality.
144440
no problem whatsoever, just so long as you are not trying to start a new family, it would be real unfair to the kids you could have, if this is part of your master plan.
96538
Any parent has legal right to there children.  The best thing to do is to decide who would care for the kids the best due to your situation.  I would say my husband would be better because I am still in college and very busy and being a single mother can be hard.  Right now my husband is done with college and already making money. Also the children should stay with who ever gets the house.  They shouldn't be moved.  You could also just share.
161582
Living together is NOT a committment.  When you live together, you are actually saying, "I may love you now, but at least I can leave when and if I want to, without all the hassle that married folks go through.  Besides, living with you proves that what is mine, is mine.  I don't HAVE to share with YOU."  Marriage means that this is the person you love enough to commit to.  This is the person you share with (what is mine, is ours, and what is yours is ours).  This is the person you want to go through the hard times, hurt times, poor times, and boring times with.  It's not just about children, but is about committing enough to commit in front of the world.  It isn't about the paper, it is about what that paper signifies.
521823
Yeah I'm with her. Get married first, but don't get married because you to want a baby together because that's not the way to go. The to of you should really love each other enough before you even consider marriage or a baby! Out of that love a child should be conceived, and not because one or the other of you just wants to have a baby. Seriously, think about it before you have the WHAT-IF'S ans WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN thoughts in you mind.
6654
It may not be wrong.  It may be socially acceptable.  You are the one who made the marriage vow.  The real question might be why did you go looking for another man before you terminated your relationship with your husband?  You are the one who must live with your choices.