why can your boyfriend feel like a stranger?
493038
first of all, u have to find the source of the problem and try to compromise it, and if u really do love each other, then u wouldnt give up, yea couples have its ups and downs but that is what couples are suppose to have, evey couple must have at least one fight and that is how couples get closer if they work though it.\ntry it\nit will show him how much u love him\nand that u would go though anything just to be with him\nand it will mean alot to him
200557
I've been there and what i did was just start talking to him that way you don't feel so weird to be around him. we both are dating other people and we just talk as normal people b-cuz we realized we cant be as close Friends as we were before but we still hang out with the same people and its better to be talkin to each other than not talkin at all.
382014
There are many reasons. You can have really bad body odor, you are insecure, you are too jealous, you don't love yourself, you don't respect yourself or him, you cheated on him, you are a lousy lay, if he fell in love with your looks, you let yourself go, he is not mateur, he wants to play the field, peer pressure, you have a bad temper, you don't get along with his family, you are too clingy, he only wanted you for sex, you gave him sex to quickly, he feels that you are not smart enough, you like to tell y'all business, you make scenes in public,you are a pathetic liar,  you are insensitive, you are abusive, and you are lazy and don't want to do anything with your life. I know because this is some of the same reasons girls have when dumping guys.
257889
Maybe you are that ONE person that makes him feel differently.  Or he just didnt want to dance wrong for you SO BADLY that it made him stiff.  It happens, and I bet if you dance with him again and he is more comfortable with you, it will get better.  He probably just wanted to impress you and make sure he didnt scare you off be being too forward with you.\n\n=D
975915
most likely it's social pressures.\n\nyou see, people act differently when they're around different people.  i'm sure you act differently when you're with your friends than when you're with your parents.  if you were with your friends in front of your parents, you would most likely feel inhibited somehow, because you wouldn't feel comfortable opening up.\n\nThat is most likely what he is feeling when he is with his friends and sees you.  he feels inhibited (because he might be teased maybe?) and a bit uncomfortable with the situation.\n\nnow i'll betcha, if you get him alone, you won't get the same reaction.
235819
Stepping outside of your comfort zone is all apart of life. I think it's great that your boyfriend feels comfortable sharing this with you. Try it, only you and him will ever know about it.
1123
I'm generally a quiet person, and I was very quiet around my now-girlfriend when I first met her. I think that likely drove her crazy... because she couldn't tell how I felt about her. After we hooked up and started seeing each other more often, my feelings just came through. I couldn't hold them to myself. There was a need to share them with her that I just couldn't imagine keeping inside.\n\nBut that's me - and not everyone is the same. Some people are emotionally sheltered and prefer to keep their feelings hidden away. Body language, gestures, and general mood and disposition toward you can give you clues as to how your significant other really feels. The question you need to ask, when you're finding yourself actively looking for attention like this, is whether or not you can be happy in the long term under these circumstances.\n\nPeople are tough to change, and if this is something you need, and your significant other is having a hard time dealing with that... you may need to re-evaluate your situation, or have a long and frank discussion with them regarding this.
585834
It could be that he's attracted to you. You can be attracted to more than one person at a time. But you choose to be with one person. Unless he breaks up with his gf, don't let him do anything with you. You will end up feeling used.\n\nOR maybe he sees you as a friend, just someone he's comfortable with. Maybe you misinterpret his looks and because he feels like you're a good friend, he tells you his news first.\n\nI guess, you could always ask him! But think about it, if he's willing to flirt with you while he has a gf. And then breaks up with her to be with you, most likely he will do the same thing to you!
273547
I've had the same problem of being shy for the longest time. I have the problem being shy too only not with my boyfriend, but with a guy I like. So I talked to him about it and you know what he said? "Shyness never got anyone anywhere." \n\nMy advice to you is the same advice I took and that advice I gave myself believe it or not. Do more things with him, chances are that you may not know as much about him as you might think. \nTherefore you're nervous because you really like him and you want him to like you back. You might be shy because you're afraid he doesn't really like you or will find something about you he doesn't like, then dump you. This was my fear for the longest time.\n\nIf he's really your boyfriend, you shouldn't be worried or shy. With me I went out with this guy I liked and did things with him as a friend, talked to him on the phone; he liked that. I got to know him better and now I'm not nearly as shy around him as I use to be. \n\nWe're closer as a result and it opened up the lines of communication. I trust him more, we talk about all sorts of things, and I feel like I could talk to him about almost anything! \n\nIf it's really just a shyness thing then that's my advice. However it sounds like you've grown apart from him. In which case there is no faking how you really feel. You need to think about moving on. Don't waste your or his time going out with a guy you don't really like. \n\nBreak up with him and move on.\n\nGood luck.
347519
Tell your boyfriend that it feels like things have changed and you would like to see whats its like without a boyfriend you could also add things don't seem like they did  and it would be better if you just remained friends if that can happen!
145962
Im in a situation like that right now and I need some help too. When Im with him the relationship is alright and cool, but when we're not together all I find myself thinking about is, "Do he feel the same way about me?" He's very shy when it comes to me. He came from Abilene, and he was in a relationship down there, but sometimes I have to ask him are we still together.
1164682
You sound like you have your head on your shoulder.  What your boyfriend lack isn't experience.  What he lacks is self esteem.  He compares you with other woman, which is a bit demeaning.  Guys who are secure in themselves do not have to compare women because they know they have a great girlfriend.  He always tells you he's a good man.  He's looking for your approval; secure men don't need your approval.  He's out of town and freaks that you'll cheat on him.  Again, secure guys don't freak out about their girls saying hi to other men.  \n\nYou're man is insecure and you need to sit him down and tell him that there's no one else and try to get him to feel more confident about himself.  From the sound of it, you're a little turned off by his insecurity.  So, have a heart to heart with him.  If he still comes off as insecure, it would be best to let him go to find his confidence.
24854
This is a great question.  I will await all the answers.  I have the same question( except the marriage part-but we've dated for almost 6 yrs now, and have a planned 7 month old baby).  It hurts me, also. For me, it's also a trust thing. You feel like you don't want to leave the house ever. It makes me feel very trapped and stressed.  I don't mind him looking at it once in a while, but I'd rather he looked at it when I was around and included me in stuff like,  " Oh hey.. look at THIS! teehee" or whatever.  Good luck. I've talked to my boyfriend about this, and he just doesn't get it. I'm glad there are others out there that feel the same way. My boyfriend has slowed down considerably, and hides his tracks much better, now, but it doesn't stop the fact that I don't trust him while I'm gone.
125769
He has made it very clear that your feelings arent very important to him, and I dont think he loves you as much as you love him, or as much as you deserve to be loved!\nYou sound like a wonderful girl, and there are plenty of good guys who would treat you right and appreciate all that you do. Hold out for just that!\nYour boyfriend might be sorry, but he needs a lesson in life. You cant treat people badly and expect them to put up with it!
620188
Probably one of the biggest signs that one is mr. or miss right for us is how that person makes us feel.  Let me explain:  if you are around that person and he or she makes you feel like the greatest person in the world, for no reason at all, then there could be the possiblility that that person is the right one.  It all boils down to one thing: do you feel contented around the person, or do you feel like you just cannot wait to get away from that person.  Also, whatever the relationship may be (even if you have not yet met), you must consider whether the relationship is give-take or give-give.  If both parties are willing to give someting rather than take something, than that shows the person really cares for you.  That person will make you feel complete; that feeling alone is how you tell.  Basically, it is something that you just know: it is in your gut feeling.  the key is selflessness; if nothing is expected out of the relationship other than love, then that is the right person for you.
809120
it probably means that hes not happy, depressed, or just feels bad about the whole breaking up thing.... or he might just be shy around you now that you guys are broken up he might feel weird talking to you
1084701
You yourself could answer this question...You feel that you are living a lie....and you are feeling guilty for living a lie and not being yourself....someone other than your boyfriend is trying to convince you that you are living a lie while your boyfrind is trying to convince you to stay with him..Is he in the light? seems to me the tunnel is the darkness or wrongness you are feeling the voice in coming from within the darkness and your boyfriend is in the light...someone is trying ot convince you that your life is wrong but you feel that this voice is somehow coming from the darkness...although your boyfriend may seem needy he is in the light and you can see him and the voice you cannot see therefore less trustworthy..your are torn between two lovers the one you are with is clingy yet you feel this is what is right the one in the darkness you cannot see is less worthy of trust  but he is telling you that you are living a lie...have you cheated with another man? is the darkness guilt? is the other man teling you to leave your current boyfriend? Is the current boyfriend needy? is the other one less trust worthy or are you having a hard time giving your trust to the other man? have you lied to either or both of them? you have to make a decision based not only on what is best for you but what is right and wrong...and guilt is playing a big part of your dream....