do u keep secrets from from u partners if so what are they,and y do u keept a secret?
485117
Of course. But if I told you, they wouldn't be secrets. Sometimes small secrets are really for the partner's benefit, like keeping a gift from them until it's time to give it to them. Others are bigger secrets. I find that I have to have some of these, just as I know she keeps some things secret from me. I'd never have a secret that I thought would  harm my partner.
862064
Me and my partner are quite open about who we are, we don't advertise we just act as naturally as possible, if someone asks, we tell, if they don't obviously it's not that important. Just be yourself
350476
I thought we agreed not to tell. What did you do?
754633
No. I respest promises and secrets. I would feel really bad if I don't keep a promise or a secret.
475071
If you feel like you need to keep it a secret from  him, then yes it is wrong.  If you do it for more than just casual companionship, then it is cheating even if its not in a physical sense.
248165
You found out only because he allowed it...as time goes by this type of guy may let you in on some more....If he's good to you...stick around 4 a while.Eventually there won't be anything more to hide(hopefully).I understand that you feel like he shouldn't keep anymore secrets but some people are more secretive and/or insecure than others.......
694368
insecurities.   were you cheating?
656154
Has this person ever hurt you before? Lied to you? Gone after something that was yours? Taken something that was not theirs to take? Cheated and you knew about it? Shared a secret you told them? Gone behind your back and told something about you?  If the answer to all these questions are no, then you can pretty much bank on the fact that you have someone you can trust. If the answer to any or most are yes, look very carefully before you leap!!
1048170
Hiding something from you means it wasn't innocent. Apparently you found them, though, so I can only imagine the trust issues you and your boyfriend have. And this is the real problem.\n\nYou're either going to have to work out what the two of you trust the other to do and be okay with it, or you're going to have to figure out an amicable way to go your separate ways. The relationship will only go sour for both of you - if it isn't already - if you can't find a way to trust each other.\n\nBy the way, way to use your intuition - I mean it - to uncover what he was "innocently" lying about. That you would have to dig is the smaller issue. That he would hide something he knew you wouldn't find innocent is the bigger issue. Good luck.
397098
I beleive so...some don't want you to know the "real" them so they only let you see what they want...when things start getting deeper...they seem to want to back off...I truly beleive in my last relationship, this was the case.  He had too many secrets he didn't want to reveal.
687226
Haha...I can't tell you that :) It's MY secret!!!
65103
You gave up personal privacy and freedom when you said 'I do.'  Why would you want to keep secrets from your wife?  And if your marriage is healthy, you can have freedom *without* keeping secrets.
358416
Unless they admit or you catch them at it - you cant find out.\n\nYou just have to trust your partner or you'll push them into the arms of someone else anyway.
718690
id tell you what i have my girl do, but thats my private biz,and i keep it that way. maybe you should too!
1084182
I feel it is wrong to keep your husband out of the loop.  I am truly in love with my husband, and anything I do includes him, and vice versa.  We do not keep secrets from each other and we can talk about anything.  We both have chat friends.  We talk to each other about them and about our conversations.  It's one thing to have secrets one shares with a friend; it's something completely different to have a secret friend.  Keeping that type of secret can lead to problems even if that was not the initial intent.  If he found out about the chat friend through means other than hearing it from you, it could be a problem.  The partner who has been left out of the loop feels he/she cannot trust the other, and the partner with the secret can easily be led astray.  The intrigue can be exciting and too much to ignore.  If you are experiencing guilt, then you may have other intentions in mind, even if you haven't acted on them...yet.  And so might your chat buddy.  Your husband should be included in your friendship with the person you are chatting with, or at least made aware of the friend.  If you cannot tell him about your chat friend, and/or if he could not accept it, perhaps you should take a real good look at your relationship.  I feel you are putting your relationship with your husband second, and this can only create problems.  I believe honesty and fidelity are the most important elements of a successful, marital relationship.
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wen u talk about ur past relationships.
114001
it depends on what it is you think needs to be told, and how good of a friend it is.  Some people don't like sharing all of the secrets, you have to respect that.  don't push too hard to get them to spill the beans because you'll just end up pushing your friend away.  if they want to tell you, they will.