Divorce or no Divorce?
476093
It's true that you shouldn't make your decision based on your feelings. If ou find that it's really difficult for both of you to move on like this, I would advice for the divorce.It isn't the nicest thing to do but if you feel you want to, go for it.\n\nIn other words, I would suggest that both of you take another try on your marriage and try to mend it. After all, you've been married and there's a reason to that. You marry because of the love you have for each other. Think about that. Think about the reason why you did it in the 1st place.\n\nYou do not just marry her for no reason. Try using that to mend your marriage. Talk to each other and understand each other better. Counselors sometimes can't be trusted and that's where your money runs. \n\nI really hope you'll think about it. Hope you'll last together and be happy! Hope this helped! Good luck!!
504478
Don't divorce over a moment of unhappiness. Try to make it work if you can because divorce is one of the most painful experiences ever. It can ruin friendships and families. Your children will definitly be affected and so will you even though you think you don't love him. Stay committed to  the vow you made and learn how to be happy where you are. Many people because of unhappiness chooses divorce as an option and it should never be an option. Be an adult and communicate how you feel to your husband and see a marriage counselor. Please don't be like everyone else and take the easy way out. If he is not abusing you or mistreating you, be happy. He may be the best thing for your. I've been divorced for 2 years and dating is hard. Sorry men, but these men out here are a trip. Trust me, the grass is not greener on the otherside. Don't you know many people would love to have what you have. That is why they date. My advice is to stay and make it work because it can.
780634
I think that if a marriage is miserable and efforts to make it better have failed, a divorce is the right thing to do. So that's a yes from me I guess.\n\nI'm happily married though, so as for my own marriage, I'd say no.
981082
I say she is cheating and divorce rather than separate. I have been there...my ex husband did this. It is an easy way to ask for a divorce. LL.
642622
Life of the people involved will be devastated and will never be the same ever again.  In divorce there are no winners, all are losers, especially the children.  So, think a billion times before considering a divorce.  Everybody should be prepared and understand what's happening.
619350
Personally I wouldn't be thinking about getting involved with another man so soon after divorce. You will find your soul mate when the time is right. Have some "down time" for yourself. Divorce is not easy on the heart, so heal first before rushing into another relationship. Your knight in shiny armor is out there somewhere, weather your divorced or single.
912771
If you plan on cheating, then you certainly should not get married.  Divorce is not easy.  It's hard on everyone involved, and cheating is enough to cause divorce.  Only marry for love...nothing else.  It won't work any other way.
589075
Maybe get engaged.  Have you lived with this guy yet?  Man alot of factors go into this.  I wouldn't get married yet.  Anymore I would say you should live with someone before getting married.  That sounds crazy to some but i think if you had to live together for a year before getting married the divorce rate would go way down.
118650
No Way!!! If they did... although I would never want to go through a divorce, that is a great reason. If you are cool with it, then that is between you and yours. If not... It is time to do some serious reevaluating of your relationship!!!
241889
What is the reason you want the divorce? Of course if its something that was morally wrong that cause for a divorce but if not maybe you guys can work it out.  But the part about not having $ for it is..... you'll have to search for Legal Services-a Pro Ce Clinic. They'll show you how to feel out everything and once you go to the courts depending on your income they may or may waive the fee.  I went through this almost six months ago and hey it'll be final in a month. Nothing was spent out of pocket.
470410
Sellfish? why it's sellfish? There is a divorce in between and is for a reason. Whether is his fault or her fault, there is nothing wrong with moving on. I dont encourage nor support cheating but if there is a divorce in between that means the is no relationship anymore. \nI would let her get to know me first before saying I am divorced.
651015
IM BISEXUAL AND LOVE A MARRIED MAN. STRANGE RIGHT? I KNOW. NO SEX INVOLVED. THIS IS A STICKY SITUATION AND ONE THAT SHOULD NOT INVOLVE YOU. IM NOT SAYING THAT YOU SHOULDN'T BE WITH HIM. HE NEEDS SPACE AND HE MADE THIS PART OF THE MESS AND PROBABLY DOESN'T WANT TO SUBJECT YOU TO THE FUCKING DRAMA.MY ADVISE IS TO LEAVE AND MOVE OUT. HE NEEDS TO BE CLEAR ABOUT WHAT HE WANTS AND YOU LET HIM. IF HE LOVES YOU AND YOU LOVE HIM THINGS WILL WORK THEMSELVES OUT. IF NOT, THEN YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE ELSE. EVER HEARD "ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR"? I GUESS IT IS.YOU WALK OUT AND SAY GIVE IT A YEAR, CAUSE DIVORCE IS MESSY.AND IN THIS CASE IT DEFINITELY IS. IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE LET THEM GO. IF THEY COME BACK TO YOU THEN....THEY ARE YOURS..{SMILE I KNOW YOU ARE SAD} . BE STRONG GIRL,LOL HOPE THIS HELPS.LOL MEXXXI
462749
First of all, I would ask if you have kept your committment to the terms of the divorce. If there are some specifics, then you could probably answer your own question.\nSecondly, just let her know you've moved on and if there are kids involved, plz consider them.
585956
I think it is time to Chirp or get off the branch.  My wife and I had been dating for a while, I really loved her but did not ask her to get married.  She finally gave me a date by which to chirp or to get off the branch.  I chirped and it has been the best thing I ever did.  We have been married for many years and are more in love today then ever.  I would openly discuss your concerns with him and then let him know that you need commitment by say June 30.  If he doesn't make the commitment, move on to someone that truly loves you and someone that will make that commitment.  Too often, we stick with someone that we know is not right for us and then the years go by.  After it is too late, we realize that life is passing us by and we are in a relationship that is going nowhere.  I think people need to list the things that they want in a relationship/mate and then if after a few months they do stack up, they need to move on.  People really don't change much with time--if it doesnt feel right at first it probably wont get any better with time.   Good Luck!
413798
YEA DIVORCE OR SEPERATION
221920
Depends on why you got the divorce.  Maybe if he wasn't ready for the responsibility at the time he grew up and is ready now.  Absence makes the heart grow fonder, maybe he realized he couldn't live without you.  Proceed with caution but I think go for it.
1162266
In my opinion the two people involved are obviously unhappy with their lives so they need to decide what exactly it is that they want and move on. If you're unhappy in the marriage let it go and be together but if there's still a chance that they can salvage the marriages than they need to walk away from the affair. In any case a decision must be made. It's not fair to anyone involved if things stay the way that they are.