How do I deal with my autistic boyfriend, weird reactions to anything I say? And why is he so annoying?
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There are a couple of basic behaviors that autism spectrum disorders bring out in a person:\n\n1) Not understanding social cues - you have to let him know VERY clearly if you want or don't want something.  Any eye rolling, finger tapping, or shoulder shrugs may not even register with him.\n\n2) Obsession with specific topics - he probably has a few things that he could talk on and on and on about.  He will definitely have done his research and be hungry for any new information on whatever it is that interests him.\n\n3) When stressed, his ability to negotiate may be very limited - Stressful situations where a decision is called for (especially those where having to be rushed is part of it) could suddenly switch him into "overwhelmed" mode.  Until he's had a chance to slow down and calm down he may need very specific and clear requests made of him.\n\nAll this being said, a lot of your ability in able to handle a relationship with him will be in your acceptance that these things are NOT intentional for him.  He really is not TRYING to be annoying.\n\nWhat will help both of you is to have a high level of awareness and information around autism.  If he has acceptance of and knowledge about his autism, he will be more open to feedback and understanding of what helps him when he's stressed, etc.  Keep in mind that autism has NOTHING to do with a lack of intelligence.  He's probably very smart and able to put the pieces together if he's got specific and clear information.\n\nI am almost finished with my Master's degree in Counseling Psychology.  I also have a 13 y.o. daughter with autism spectrum disorder.  While she is very enjoyable, funny, smart, sweet, and creative - she can also get on my nerves.  I sometimes need to let her know that I need some time to myself or just need some silence.\n\nGood luck to the both of you.  I'm sure he's a fascinating guy, and hope the two of you can talk about and plan ahead how to cope with the annoying times.
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You almost answered yourself, it's not you that's irritating him, so don't worry, unless you're not understanding and supportive.... With all that stress he's in, all with the finals and graduation and work, it's not unusual that he's irritable and touchy most of the time !! Stress could make a person angry, nervous and sensitive, it affects the nervous system... So don't worry, it's not you, just be there for him as supportive when he's irritated and be there for him when he needs a breather with the girl he loves..... It will pass !!
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Man, I was going through the samething with this really obnoxious girl once. I feel your pain. my plan of dealing with people like him is to stay clear of them. It might not be easy at first but once you keep avoiding and stay clear of him overtime he won't be a problem, and talk to your teacher about changing your seat, tell him/her that you have problems with this kid and that you don't get along with him that should help, and if that doesn't work well, you before taking things into your own hands try the plan first.
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Sounds like your boyfriend is using YOU as his excuse for anything and everything!!\n\nMy opinion and advice?  Get rid of the boyfriend, find someone else who will value you more, and treat you like you're a human being, and not someone to use and abuse as an excuse because they're no good!
706426
Get rid of your boyfriend, not your friends!  He's too controlling and that will create major problems for you later!
371989
Aww that's terrible, to me it sounds like he's the one with all the problems and you're going out of your way to be friends with him.  He's being abit patronising and maybe it means he needs to grow up abit, so maybe there isn't anything you can do at the moment except explain to him again all this from your perspective.  When he does degrade make sure you defend yourself, and even if you're not right maybe you can give the thoughts you had that made you think that way.  But it's not an exam, and please don't let him make you feel bad and I really hope it works out!
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Hes confused and lost my dear. Somthing is troubling him, most likely something from his childhood, maybe his parents beat him a little, it could be a number of things. If you love him then you dont hate him, you just hate the way that he is, talk with him, dig a little but take it slow. Find  out whats going on in that brain of his! Good luck, God bless
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Ignore him. He's feeding off your frustration. Just look the other way and pretend he's invisible. Good luck.
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He's probibly just feeling very insecure and wants to make sure that you know that he values your opinion. \nIt may seem annoying, but it'd be even more annoying if he just went off and did something and you had no idea where he was, or you had something planned.\nAt least he's keeping you in mind when he's going to do something, instead of not.
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Have you tried to talk to him and tell him how you feel. Just try holding his hand when walking either by yourselves or when his mates are around, tell him you enjoy it and maybe with time he will start to enjoy it too. Does he tell you he loves you ? Maybe he is just a little immature  or shy. He should always treat you with  respect  whether people are around or not. I suggest you try talking to him and tell him it upsets you that he treats you badly when others are around. Best of luck.
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Just listen to your heart. If he makes you happy constantly, that's a good thing, but does he make you mad for good reasons, or is it just terribly hard to get along with him? Talk to him about it. Try to figure out what's going on. Good luck!
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He needs to grow up! why do you bother with him when he treats you like that? he has no respect for you and by the sounds of it, for no other female either! it's rich calling you weird when he's the one with the problem! you can do better than that!
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Is your boyfriend in a union? This should be your first point of call if not try going to your local citizens advice bureau. Tell them you have a bullying issue. They will be able to set you on the right track.
412249
He sounds immature and you basically have to give him time to grow up.  Don't let him be mean to you unless you two are just joking around.  Make sure he knows you will not stand for a man that will not respect you.
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maybe that's coz u can't spell... lol nah kidding. Anyway, this question is pretty vague. Either u have done something to piss him off, he's busy with his own personal life, he is guilty of something that he thinks might have made u mad, he is ready to move on to another stage of his life without u, he is busy with his girlfriend, he wants to tell u something that he thinks might bother u (like sexual orientation maybe he is gay and he thinks that would make u mad)... just talk to him!!!
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ok, well my little bother has got mild asperges syndrome. asperges syndrome is a type of autism. children [and adults] with this can often find it hard to concentrate. sarcasm can not always be properly understood and they find it harder to read emotions. there are varying degrees of it though. \nmy brother was also born through ceserean, but i dont know if it affects it. my brother was also given the tripple mmr vaccine which my other brother [without autism] didnt recieve. it is much more common in boys than in girls.\nremember he is still your brother and dont treat him any differently than you used to, maybe it is not so bad as they only found it when he was 11! i dont know though, i myself am only 14! :s\nummm just help your mum around your hme with washing tidying and try nt to do anything that would annoy her, eg) staying out late and so on, but just try and carry on as normal. a good book is 'the curious incident of the dog in the night time', by Mark Haddon im not saying youre brother will turn out like this ki, chances are he wont, but it shows the pros and cons of asperges syndrome. add me on msn or emailme if you just want to talk, wonderhat@hotmail.com\ngood luck! hope everything turns out ok for you\nactualy\ni KNOW it will!\nxxx\nxx\nx
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Nope.  Frankly, I'm the same way.  My gf let me know it bothers her, so, I'm trying to make adjustments.  But, if you keep asking him, it'll just take longer and make him more irritated, maybe to the point where he can't deal with it anymore.  I'd let him know it bothers you, and leave it.  If he's going to change, he'll do it on his own.