what is the best way to get a born again christian virgin into the sack w/out marrying her?
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First, grab a hold of the sun and pull it out of the sky.\n\nThen, take a picture of a flying, four-eared elephant.  \n\nNext, step into the batter's box against Roger Clemens, and try to hit the ball out of the park. \n\nFinally, make a recording of Rush Limbaugh saying "Bill Clinton is the best president we've ever had!"\n\nOnce you've done all these impossible things, you're ready.\n\nBy the way, don't follow Uncle John's advice, unless you have some deep desire to go to prison.  What he's advocating is a crime, namely date rape.
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:}\nProvide her with good christian counsel\nPray for her \nSpeak with John regarding G-ds will for his life
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Our culture predetermines that coveting and lusting with the eyes is simply unavoidable. The issue here is what are your intentions toward this person..if you feel a love and commitment that is headed for a lifetime spent together then in effect you are lusting after your own wife. If you see her not as a sex object but as a person worthy of respect as well as the admiration for her feminine beauty then you are simply doing what comes natural. Have you ever read Song of Solomon? Yeah...desiring your partner is not sinful..however, there is something to be said for modest dress and staying in appropriate venues while spending time together. Even for young unmarried christian couples the temptation is there. Right now everything is geared toward weakening your defenses...girls going around barely dressed letting all their business hang out everywhere, access so easy to porn, condoms and birth control, privacy..both in the parents home and set up as a young adult in dorms and apartments, not to mention the pervasive message that sex and love are synonymous when actually they have nothing to do with each other in the long run. Being single and a christian in this American culture is torture at times...just keep praying, talk to her and confess how you feel, if needs be set up perameters and ask her to dress modestly for your sake...or heck..the best bet is..if you guys are of age...GET MARRIED! What ya waiting for? If you are too young to be marriage minded and are not ready for a commitment..then you shouldn't be dating...that's my opinion though and who am I but a frumpy house frau. God bless you though..cuz you do care and you want to do what's right..just pray, stay in the Word of God and you'll be fine. Love in Christ, ~J~  <><  P.S. Jesus was speaking about adultry...lusting with your eyes for someone else other than the person you are "MARRIED" to...however, if you are lusting after your girlfriend and all 10 of her friends plus and also every other female that crosses your line of vision..well, then..perhaps this verse does apply to you. Catch yourself and get in the habit of stopping cold those thoughts...it can be done..this is called self disapline.
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DONT DO IT! IF THATS ALL SHE WANTS! IF SHE LOVES YOU SHE CAN WAIT AND UNDERSTAND!! WAT A SLU+ ( NO OFFENCE) AND YOU CANT HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE IT IS A MORTAL SIN AND YOU CANNOT ENTER HEAVEN WITHOUT HAVING A TRUE CONFESSION! TRUST ME AND LISTEN TO ME NOT THOSE OTHER IDIOTS OUT THERE!! SPEAK TO HER AND SET A GOOD EXAMPLE FOR OTHER PEOPLE!! PLZ DONT DO IT! NOO SEX!!\n\nGOD BLESS YOU AND GOOD LUCK!
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be patient...do a lot of foreplay..use some lube and wear a condom...she's 18 so some drinks are not out of the question...start kissing, caressing and pleasuring her and she'll let you know when she's juicy and ready for entry...and consider yourself flattered that she asked you to be her partner for this special moment.
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You're conscience is already telling you that it is wrong to engage in premarital sex.  If you are a Christian, that is God's way of giving you a strong warning.  It may be that your emotions are strong, but obviously, you have already been pushing the envelope a bit and getting a little deeper involved in the touching, etc. and you are getting close to the point of no return.  You may need to try to back off from what you are now doing with your b/f and make sure you will not be put into the 'moment'.  Your will may be strong, but it is not going to help you if you keep putting yourself in such a strong temptation situation!  What will happen, is you will eventually get so far along that you will say, 'what the hell!' and just go all the way.  I know, I thought I had a strong will.  I opened up a whole trove of problems with that one what the hell.  It will probably destroy your self will.  I got involved in drugs and other stuff as a result.  I opened the door a crack and the devil kicked the door right down.  You will do what you want to do...it will be your choice.  You do not put a gun to your head with 5 loaded barrels and say, I am lucky, and fire.  It is a dangerous game you're playing and one day you will get burned.  I hope you can hold to your values and truly be able to back off now, before it goes too far.  Blessings.
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You want us to help you defrock your virgin girlfriend?\n\nSheesh have a heart. Don't be a selfish jerk. If that is how you rate your relationship I pity your girlfriend.  I hope when you do ask her, she runs away and never speaks to you again.\n\nPERVERT,  SELFISH IMMORAL JERK..........
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Let me guess--you still think you're a good Christian, too? You know the answer to this question. You quit having affairs, get your act together, apologize to them (and to God) and get your life straightened out. Don't tell me it can't be done--you know it can. Sex is meant for marriage alone and then with one woman (not a dozen or even two). You are hurting them, hurting yourself, and you may end up a daddy long b4 you intended to. Quit the CRAP!!\n\nPS: God doesn't listen to sinners in sin--only when they ask for and WANT forgiveness and a change of life.
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if you've had sex, but come to God and ask for forgivness and ask Him into your heart...and REALLY change...then yes, there is such a thing as a born-again virgin...but NOT literal. that's done for life. your hymen is broken, you've had sex. you can't take that back. but you CAN ask for forgiveness for it.
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Here is a crazy idea.  Ask her.  If you do not believe she is being truthful then dump her.  Personally it should not matter.  I was not a virgin when I met my future wife and she was.  For being a very devout Christian that was a big leap for her, but in the end she got around it.  And you should as well, unless she is not truthful.
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i am an 18 yr. old female who is still a virgin as well, and i totally charash it. it is the most preshes thing to me. being a  virgin(keeping your verginity tell your married) is very rare now days. and trust me i have had many chances to brake it several times, but i just cant do that because i would be just like all the other people. i might even end up with an unwanted pregancy, std's, aids, the shame of loosing your verginity to someone who you really dont love and care to spend time with every day of your life, for the rest of your life, ect..... i could go on all night and day listing things but i wont.\nI also agree with you. i would charish it tell your married and have that be your first time. hopefually that will be her first time too. and that way you both will have something special to look forward to, and you wont really have a clue if your bad or good the first time. stay strong and keep your virginity. i know that it's hard but its possible. dont let people bolly you into it. I personally would prefure someone who is still a virgin when i marry him. best of luck. remember if you have sex just one time their is no being a vergin again.
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Pray about it and ask for His guidance. The Holy Spirit may be using your daughter as a vessel to lead him to Christ. That's how I came to the Lord - through my wife - and only after we'd been married for a couple of years. I think the Bible mentions this situation but do not know where, sorry.\nGod bless.
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First, Ask God, let him verify what I say\n\nI believe that working on your thought life helps you to become a better Christian. Phil 4:8, Jesus said in the chapters between Matt 5-7 about how if a man thinks about sleeping with a woman he has already committed adultery. Ps 13:2; Ps 94; Mark 2:8; Romans 1:21\n\nI believe in modesty, but I don't believe that God wants us to look bad. Our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit so look after it and keep it nice. Just don't be a stumbling block.\n\nI know what you mean about the T.v shows. I watch  Rove he is an Australian T.v  presenter and his show is quite funny but it is regularly littered with sexualisation of people and inappropriate comments and gags. I have been feeling convicted to stop watching I probably should. \n\nBanana's is good clean comedy and very funny and clever. \n\nJames 3 talks about taming the tongue it is very difficult, but acheivable. \nPs 37 - Ask God for the desires of your heart to match his.\n\nChristianity is a progressive thing, don't beat yourself up, if it takes you less time to do something God has told you to do than last time - thats a step forward. \nYou don't swear where you usually would. Things like that\n\nHEB 12:1-2 Keep you eyes fixed on Jesus the Author and perfector of our faith.\n\nDo remember all sin is the same in God's eyes - in saying that don't throw yourself into new ones cause each of them have different natrual consequences. God knows how to get the best out of your life, allow him to guide you.\n\nP.s Congrats on being a virgin and staying away from alcohol.\n\nGod Bless you Richly sister as you continue to Grow in the Grace Knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. \n\nYou are beautiful, you are dearly and deeply loved.\n\nPraise God that you have seen you errors and want to change them. Praise God, focus on God. \n\nHallelujah.\n\nYour an inspiration.
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Convince her that the christ returns from your seed.  That an angel came down upon you and spoke these truths.  "Impregnate your true love and a new christ shall be born."\n\nworked for me.\n\n\n.
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Hold on to your virginity. It's a real gift from God. You should be very thankful that He's preserved you. People nowadays brag and act as if fornication is the greatest thing and if you don't do it your considered wierd and unusual. \n\nRemember what St. Peter said about these type of people, "They think it's strange that you do not plunge with them into the same flood of dissipation, and they heap abuse on you. But they will have to give an account to Him (God) who is ready to judge the living and the dead." \n(1 Peter 4:4,5)\n\nStaying just the way that you are pleases God greatly. And who would you rather please? God or Man? The Lord will surely reward you for your patience. \n\nKEEP FIGHTING THE GOOD FIGHT AND ALWAYS PRAY!
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It is an honor to be picked by any virgin who is younger as the one who will initiate them into sexual pleasures. I know it was something culture use to consider a good thing and those who were picked to be the one to initiate another were always thought highly of. It is important to help a person to learn how to not only enjoy sex, but how to return the gift of pleasure.\n\nJust make sure you teach him well. Teach him as much as you can about giving pleasure as well as receiving it. Show him how he can learn to controll when he will ejaculate, postponing pleasure while bringing his partner to peak. This will enable him to bring great pleasure to his future partner(s), spouse. In many ways this is not only an honor, but a responsibility to those he will be with in the future. The person we are with first often determines how we will view and behave in our sexual lives.\n\nBy teaching him how to give as well as receive and how to postpone ejaculation, he will be gaining much experiance. You are also assisting him in acheiving a positive experiance with sexual intimeny. If he is shamed in any way, or embarressed, if he is not treated gently and guided with compassion and understanding, he may be scarred for future incounters and find less pleasure in this area of his life. \n\nGood luck in teaching this young man the joys of sexual intimency. It is an honor and a responsibility which will effect his entire future. However, if you are really inexperianced yourself, then the both of you can learn more together. Read some good books together, or by yourself if you feel shy about doing it with him. There is no shame in being inexperinced. Learning together can be a wonderfull experiance if you both feel a high level of trust for each other and know it what you do together will be kept between the two of you, not shared amoung friends. This is something else you need to teach him, that what goes on between two in a bedroom should be kept between the two of you. This is a very private matter and teaching him how to treat women with respect and honor is very important. \n\nYou are in a position to do a lot of good for this young man and effect how he views himself as a sexual creature, how confidant he will be, and how he will conduct himself in future relationships. \n\nAlso teach him how important it is for him to ensure the woman does not get pregnant. He needs to always use a condome even if the woman reasures him she is on birth control. He needs to protect himself from STD's too. \n\nGo and have fun, but remember you are in the role of teacher and as such have responsibilties to him and to yourself. You can have a great deal of fun and pleasure in this role.
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I just wanted to encourage you that you are absolutely doing the right thing.Do not worry what others around you say,they have lost the basic moral values of the Lord.Do not pay any attention to there comments because God is with you and is going to reward you for your dedication to purity before marriage.Im so proud of you and you have been such an inspiration to me today.I encourage you to mentor young girls and teach them how not to succomb to the tremendous pressure that we all face to not remain sexually pure.God be with you sister,and carry on the good work.