well,,,,how do i tell my bf dat i need more "space" witout hurtin him?
486016
Just tell him your busy or preoccupied, and that you need to spend some time on your own or with your friends.  Be clear that it's not his fault, it's just something you need.  If he really loves you, he'll understand. Be sure you still make some time for him, but feel free to limit that time for as long as you need.
31211
You're the woman.\n\nYou make the rules as to how much is too much and how much is too little.  Isn't that really what you want to hear?\n\nIf he didn't want to hang out as much, you'd be asking how you could MAKE him hang around more.\n\nWomen like you are interested in mindless drones who capitulate to your every whim.\n\nSounds like you got one.  Set your limit and enjoy.
1002646
talk heart to heart...patch up things..if both of you can feel and see that it will really not work at all., then part ways in good terms...let friendship continue the relationship..who knows, the two of you needs only space..
739783
I suggest you get a new hobbie or perhaps go out to the gym. You don't always want to be "available" to him. Occasionally I tell my bf that I'm busy. I've even had instances where I had other people vying for my time. So much that my bf got upset and said I was putting hi off for my friends. \n\nEven when my bf and I are together, I have something to do. We've been together for a bit and even when I spend nights at his house, I don't spend 24&#92;7 all on him. Maybe I'll read a book, or do some stuff online, maybe get some homework done or even talk on the phone. \n\nIts important in relationships to have together time and apart time.\n\nNow if he really IS neglecting you, TELL HIM. Straight out and without the tears. He'll ignore you, guys hate seeing girls cry especially when they dont understand why.  BE SPECIFIC. Say what he does and how often that upsets you. Then listen. Maybe he's bored of doing the same old thing with you. Spice it then, go snow boarding, christmas decorating, even BOWLING, just something NEW. Something so that when he thinks of you, he thinks spontaneous, not dull.
432826
Do more activities together so you can bond more and don't boss him around so much :P
287888
Be his friend, stay in contact with him.  If he wants space give him space but stay friends.  If he loves you, he'll change his mind, if he doesn't, you won't end up losing someone important.  Good luck
946034
Something we say things in a matter of anguish. You know your BF best. Wait for him to apologise, and when he does, you apologise as well.
693613
Don't let him feel too tied to you or he might want to break free. Give him some space especially if it is for his own good. Try to overcome your insecurities by giving more trust and patience. Keep yourself busy.
470453
Man needs space. Man must eat. Man stupid.\n\nGetting him to see a psicologist is a great move. He needs it.\nIn the meantime, talking to him about it will help. It always does help to talk about it. I tip my hat for you, you are there for him in his hour of darkness. You need to be strong and patient as well, this might take a while. Good Luck to you both.
561665
Us guys sometimes like a bit of space. I often close myself up  to get away from the world.\nThis is often linked to clinical depression as well, this might be the 'illness' he is referring to. If it is then it is likely he thinks you will not understand (which you wont unless you have depression yourself).\n\nRelax... give him a bit of space. He should come around soon.
649562
Sat him down and tell him that you need to talk to him about something.Also tell him that what you  are looking for in a relationship.If he cares for you he will respect you for it,if he is offended by it than it was never meant to be .
758870
We always find something wrong with whatever situation we're in- your boyfriend sounds like he needs some room/latitude to check out things. Don't suffocate him. He probably loves you very much but right now is feeling constrained by the relationship. Best thing you can do is let him know you love him and allow him some opportunity do what he wants. It maybe doesn't seem fair, but it's a chance for you to do some thinking/living for yourself ,too. It is said ,"Set it free and if it's real, it'll return to you sooner or later". That's what good love is- trusting, enduring, and patient as well as self-sacrificing.
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Honesty is the best policy. Tell him the truth as simply as you put it here.  Tell him quality rather then quanity. Too much hurts plain and simple. If he cares at all about you then this will take care of your problem. If he doesn't care then you shouldn't worry about hurting his feelings and tell him to just get off.
375107
what about you?  what about what you want and need in the relationship.  Cut out the "physical relations", tell him what you need out of the relationship, and see how long he sticks around.  Then you'll have your answer
236181
i think that he may have possibly overreacted. however, if you only waited like 5 minutes, you're probably not giving him enough space. if you waited a few hours though, there may have been something more. talk to him about it and let him know how you felt when he said that to you. also. listen to him and geta reason for why he said that. a realtionship is about listening and being able to talk to your dating partner about everything andbeing able to compromise when you make a mistake.
265857
Yes he did need space. If he didn't want to get serious and you feel like you were, he feels that way too. he probably wants to reevaluate his relationship with you. just let him have some space and after a week or so ask him how he feels. don't make it sound too serious. just casually ask him how he feels and see what he says.\nThings will work out, don't stress over it.
661455
you sound like a sweet person, and i have been where you are, i just told him i needed some space, that i had alot on my mind, nothing personal, but there are some things you need to work through. that seemed to work! oh yes tell him you really like him , but things are just going to fast. GOD BLESS and good luck:)