How can i get my ex to leave me alone and to stop causing problems in my current relationship?
493508
Court order or restraining order has worked for many people.  Ask your lawyer.
636790
The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy,treat yourself well,stay away from your ex,and move on,my friend.Best wishes:)
63410
Kick him to the street... You're gonna have problems in your relationship with his ex still around...
193175
Make it very clear you are not together. Although I don't think that will work. I was in a similar situation, my ex was delusional. \nDo not answer his questions... ignore them.
312171
I guess the answer is WHY are you breaking up.  Are you just wanting the attention that a fight provides?  If that's the case you need to do some serious sorting out.\n\nIf you just can't get along and are getting back together because you don't like being alone then do yourselves a favour and end it so that you can both move on.
826828
FIRST you need to STOP going back to him because he is only using you and you are allowing him to do so.  You dont have enough self esteem within yourself to not go back.  If you ever want to get ober the guy STOP GETTING BACK WITH HIM!  There is no reason you should even be in contact with him, he is a loser and if you continue to see him ...you will be one as well.
1185999
Set boundaries. If she refuses to accept no, then leave. Any time, anywhere. Don't just take her abuse. Tell her that she is smothering you and the more she does it, the less you like being around her. It might even be good to back off alot and not see or call her as much. Its not up to ya'll to make her happy. Its her own issue to deal with. When you go to visit, tell her days you'll go over, then stick to it. If she calls alot bothering you, screen your calls or say you are busy and hang up. But don't keep letting her do this to you. Leave next time, don't let her force that cake on you!
745438
Its tempting to go back to your ex for consolation.  Especially since he's known you so well.  But its not worth the hassles.  When i have such an urge, i like to sit back in my room and distinctly plan on how to solve my problem - in a constructive and POSITIVE manner.  Chart out practial steps to solve your problem and follow it step by step.  It is quite empowering.  Dont get frustrated between steps.  everything is a process.  If you do need someone to talk to, slowly take someone into confidence.  its hard to find one person that you like to tell everything to.  you could share some things iwth a friend and some things with another friend - whoever you think will understand.  But its important not to dwell in your problems cos it will just make it seem worse than it really is.  Remember that nothing is really as bad as it seems.  its really that simple.  understand that first.
92886
Stop being used by this person.  Make yourself unavailable and move on.
564523
Your 'creature' is controlling you! This is NOT a good relationship, nor is it healthy for either one of you. Draw the line now! Speak to whomever you want. If he gets mad, tell him, "Goodbye." Short, swift, and mean what you say. Don't wishy wash on this, or you will be in for some serious problems from now on. It will escalate to beating, abuse, you name it. You are in a bad relationship that is not going to get better.
142003
Don't take it any more.  You need to leave and get out of this relationship as fast as you can.  No one deserves to be treated like that.  You deserve to be in a real relationship where someone loves you and treats you with respect.
545960
Have your mind made up. This is the hardest part. Make sure this is what you want. If you think there is still something left inside of you for this person, chances are you will go back and will repeat these steps over again. \nMake a written list of all the reasons why things will be better if the relationship is over. Think of what will happen if you stay with this person, and how many years of your life you could end up spending on an unhealthy relationship. Keep this list close to you at all times. \nThink ahead. Have a day when you decide it's over and you are going to move on. Don't just jump up and leave on an impulse. If you can, talk to that person and say, "When rent is up this month, I am going to find another place" or "I'm moving in with my parents" or "You need to leave at the end of this month." This gives the person time to make arrangements. And, it's much easier to go back on an impulse then it is to go back on a calmly and clearly stated intention. \nKeep the peace. Don't allow the person to suck you into the same old arguments, guilt trips, or drama. State your intention and walk away. Case closed. There's nothing left to do but follow through. \nOnce on your own, treat yourself. If you don't, you may get bored and call this person. Make some new friends and constantly have something up your sleeve. Do things that you were not able to do because of this person. This will let you know that you have still got it and make you feel good inside. \nCut off all communication. Even if you intend to stay friends, it's a good idea to avoid contact with this person for at least a month after you break up. Otherwise, it's extremely easy for them to slip right back into their old role in your life and start the cycle all over again. \nTry not to think about or bring up old memories. If friends start talking about this person, tell them you don't want to talk about it, whether good or bad. Get rid of gifts, photographs, and any other relics of the relationship--or at least put them way out of sight. \nPrepare for the possibility that your ex may say things to your friends, family or co-workers and make you look bad. He or she may not have been ready to let go like you did. Be the mature one and laugh about it. Eventually it will stop. \nRemember that this was just not the "one." Oh well, things couldn't work out. This is life. Make sure you still have what it takes to be good to the next person you are with. Remember the traits of the person you left and compare them to the person to are interested in. This will help it from happening again.
629767
You need to think about why the relationship ended in the first place. Somebody was obviously unhappy. If you truly believe things have changed then all you can do is let her know that, tell her the door is open and let her make her own decision. If you try to do too much to influence her you will turn into a bunny boiler. Just concentrate on being happy by yourself and making your life as full and enjoyable as you can. Someone will see you for who you arw and fall in love with you, either your ex or someone completely new! Just enjoy it cos we're only here once.
1129018
Move out immediately. If she loves you, she will move with you. It isn't the ex that is the problem, it is your perception of him that is making a mess. It doesn't matter what she and her ex did, it is none of your business, just as your past is none of her business. Either take it or leave it. I live with my ex, and have a new love living with me...there are no problems in my household (that I am aware of, anyway).
837595
Tell them to stop or else...then make it stick. It's called setting a limit or boundary. Not everyone who comes into our life stays in our life. \n\nThis sounds like one of those instances where you need to find out whether you really want to keep this person in your life as he/she is currently. I'm older, so don't have much tolerance now for someone who doesn't respect me. \n\nWe can't change someone who won't change, so the only thing we can do sometimes is to leave the relationship.
841896
I went through something similiar to this and I put my foot down and told my boyfriend to either stop talking with her or I was history.  He stopped immediately and things are great now.  Sometimes you just have to lay down the law or they will keep doing stupid things because you allow them to get away with it.  Good Luck.
172306
explain to him how disturbign and hurtful ti si to you.  its quite disrespectful.  teh only person you shoudl ever give up friendships woth ex's for is your spose.  I am only engaged and i wont speak to any of my ex;s out fo respect for my man.  Expalin to him how disrespectful it is and that you want him to stop...he wouldnt approve of you doing the same would he?