Why is it so hard for a black female do date a white male?
493560
Don't tell her. You're only 17 the chances of you and this guy being together beyond HS are slim to none. Why go thru an unneccessary battle with your mom now? Wait until you're own your own and have a new boyfriend.
5908
Because people see them as different and a lot of people can't accept people for who they are.. People were raised to think that they were better than others. and that dating someone of the same sex is not acceptable.
586913
a lot of white guys love black girls...my bf's dad is white & his mom is black. well i think some white guys are intimidated by black girls bcuz of the kinda stuff they see on tv. for example, most black women are portrated as being sassy, tough, & have that dont-take-$hit-from-nobody kinda attitude. thats probably why. but i know that all black women are NOT like that at all. i have a few black friends that are like that, but once u get to know them they're really sweet girls =)\ni have seen a lot of white guys date black women & most of em have no problem with that. i think a white guy would have no problem dating someone like u and if they did...then theyre not worth it. u should look 4 a guy thats willing to date u for YOU & not be intimidated by the stereotypes they see on TV. if u see a guy ur into, & u get the vibe that hes a lil intimidated by ur race, try talking to him & getting to know him a little & soon he'llsee that u r just like any other girl. well hope this helps a little! good luck 2 ya.
140527
It is a culutural thing. I come from Africa. I see with alot of my mates over here, they love a women with a bit of baggage on her. I am white and I have never really understood it either. I cannot say for the states, cause they are far from African!!!!! I could not date a large person either. Blacks over here dig it
1137960
I noticed that firsthand as well. I can think of four factors to explain that:\n\n1. Because it's unusual. I clearly think it's the dominant factor. Most of the times, people date people from the same "ethnic group". Any relation outside that group tends to attract attention just because it is a rare type of relations and what is rare gets noticed.\nYou can imagine that a couple where the woman is much taller than the man would attract attention for the exact same reason, and no one would suspect "sizism" or any other *ism.\n\n2. "Racial jealousy". I don't know if it's a behaviour selected by evolution or just a culturally aquired one, but people from a specific ethnic group tend to get annoyed if they see one of them "lost" to another ethnic group. \nThis factor might be even more relevant with women. They have long been considered "tradable goods" and they still receive much more social pressure regarding their sexual behaviour than men.\n\n3. Communitarianism. From the minority point of view, such relations can also be seen as "selling out". Might or might not be just the same as factor #2. Some black thinkers suggested that black people dating white people were doing so out of a complex rooted in the period of slavery or colonisation.\n\n4. Just plain racism. Like you can see in some of the answers above, this is obviously a factor. But I tend to think that this is a very marginal one. Might or night not be an extreme version of factor #2 as well.\n\n\nJust to clarify for the few naive persons who think that the whole world has gone Benetton. Interracial relationships *do* attract attention and you just need to be in one to be constantly reminded of that fact.
56538
Some do, but it is mostly black men wanting white women. The reason vary. It is a conquest for some. For others it is pay back for societies mis-treatment of the black man by sticking it to the white man and for othes it is just to show off their white ware.Some believe in the mongolization of the races. In a thousand years we will all be the same tint, if the world suvives that long.
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I don't know if any statistics support the premise of this question, but what I've observed agrees with what you say.\n\nI think it has to do with the "power-dynamics" between men and women, and the perceived "concessions" made by each combination.\n\nBlack women were always "taken" (i.e. raped) by white men. White women were always "forbidden" to (i.e. "too good" for) black men. \n\nSo, except in the case of the *truly* open-minded, it is easier for a black man to pursue and enter into a relationship with a white woman, than for a black woman to condescend to give herself to a white man.\n\nFor the black man it can be seen as gaining something "desirable," while for a black woman, it is much more difficult, and might be perceived as, lowering herself, by "giving herself" to the oppressor.
763546
I am a strong black woman, and I'm 30--and I will tell you that you should NOT only like black men. \n\nThere is a shortage of available black men in America--because many of them are in prison, are gay or bi-sexual, or the ones who are straight  have 4 kids by 3 different women...So, the black men who are available--like the ones in college and the guys working at good jobs--they KNOW that black women are desperate for a man--so these men wont deal with you unless you sleep with them after 5 minutes of knowing them, move in with them, pay half their bills, and do every sexual act under the sun before he even thinks about marriage...The "good black men" also tend to sleep with several different women while they are dating, and they feel that is their right. (not ALL black men are like this--but about 70% of them are). \n\nHoney--if you are smart- you will realize that you should date and marry men of ANY race--Latino, white, East Asian, Arab, whoever. You should be open to men who treat you with respect and kindness, no matter what his color or race is.\n\n--------EDIT---\nHi I Race Relations! Just saw your Post on my question :) I am just keepin it real, thats all. I been around a long time and I seen it all! Not ALL Black men are like this--but MANY are...Trust me, when you get to be 30, you will see that my words are true. Peace!
739641
Most relationships in general fail.  The only reason a relationship between a black and white person would be more likely to fail would be differences in the people's cultures, and those differences are decreasing as time goes on.  My boyfriend is half black and I have more in common with him than a lot of white guys I've dated.
612594
OK, I'm not addressed (white guy here) but I'd date/marry any color woman if we clicked. It'll be interesting to see what sincere black males contribute here.
887469
I am very much attracted to other races. I like white guys. Latin guys yes oh yes I do.  But I did notice something, I have friends that would be interested in white/latin guys but they do not look at them because they're taught or they think white guys wouldn't be interested in them. I bet a lot of those girls are probably interested but were not too sure of your preferences. Maybe you should become friends with one and then ask her out if you see a black girl you like. Just keep being you.
1087465
It hasn't been for many years? Anyway, you should clarify the question because I am sure the point you are trying to make is "Is black and white people dating each other okay now?" There has been interracial dating for a very long time, but the one that irritated people was the black on white dating. Hispanics are a different race and they can date caucasians without an issue.
934453
You would ask a girl out politely. Do not assume that all blacks can dance. We are all from the human race. Perhaps you have more in common than your realize. That is the reason for dating. Just realize that if you have preconceived notions about someone doesn't always go over well. Keep and open mind and be yourself.
654574
it depend on the person, ive seen some hot black guys, ive seen some ugly black guys. ive seen some hot white guys, ive seen some ugly white guys- you just cant group the entire race together in one general subject. you may just have a preference which nothing is worng with that, i prefer dating black guys over white guys cuz thats my preference but i do date white guys, if they are cute, i date them- thats my theory lol
781551
My boyfriend is White, never said he was bad in bed, it's actually White girls who don't like sex with White guys and go running to Black men in groupie packs.\n\nMost of the Black girls I know are just really attracted to Black men, the one's that are attracted to White men still won't date them for moral reasons, i.e, White men are evil, killed the Native Americans, always the most racist, stereotyping, jumping to conclusions, prejudgemental and never giving anyone an equal chance.  My White guy is decent though like Micheal Moore.
878397
I can only speak for myself, I will never date outside of my race.  I cannot even picture myself dating outside of my race.  That is me.  If other people wish to date out of their race, then so beit.  But since you are saying that you have a problem with "people" dating other than white on white or white on hispanic, I'll say yes, in whichever way that is racist.
488084
Girl heck no... My dad is white and my mom is black... I dated a white guy for 2 years... You go wit yo bad self!!!