My son in middle school has a problem with being bullied, what should I do?
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Ask the principle if he or she arrange a meeting with the bullies parents. Have your child, the bullies, and the all adults present to discuss the situation. I had to do this for my son. With the principle being there, he or she can affirm not to bully your child, force the bullies parents to tell their children not to bully your son, and if some one disagrees, the principle will enforce the rules and can warn the bullies and the parents what will happen if it continues.You should have the principle talk to your child's teachers and monitors to be on the lookout for your child too. Also, build up your child's self esteem and tell him the opposite of what the bullies are telling him. Kids really listen to the messages parents give them. Good luck.
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First of all thank you for getting your bullied child out of that environment.  Having been a teacher in the public school (enrichment programs), Sunday School and other programs,  I did not tolerate bullies and for some strange reason, if there was a problem with bullying (during the early test-phase of any classroom), it never seemed to last long.  Which is why I refuse to believe that teachers and administrators are not only unaware of bullying (or so they claim), but also claim to not be able to control it.  "Baloney Sandwiches".\n\nBack to your question.  Depends if the other two want to be home-schooled.  I once had a friend with four children in four different schools.  One was attending a private college, one was attending a public school, one was attending a parochial school and one was being home-schooled.\n\nWhen I asked my friend why the diverse placement, she told me that all of her children were unique and based on that uniqueness she and her husband tried to provide the environment that would help each of them thrive.  \n\nTherefore, if for the time being your other two children do not want to be home-schooled and they are doing well academically and socially, leave them alone for the present.  \n\nIf it ain't broke, don't fix it.\n\nWishing you much success.  Be encourage and know homeschooling, it ain't easy!
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You have a very difficult situation and empathize with you for that.  I do not know enough about your son to know if he is capable of learning how to read and write at a level where he could function in society on his own.  If he is having positive relationships and friendships at school, I suggest you allow him to continue going.  The social aspect of a childhood is vital to development.  It is important for him to understand the context that he is brought up in.  It is is important, however, that he get used to learning and studying, I whatever level he is capable.  If he is ready to play, but not to study, try to be creative and find things for him to learn that are also fun.  this way, learning and playing can be brought together.  Once he starts learning things for fun, it may be easier to persuade him to learn things that are not more fun.  As always, patience is essential.  Best wishes.
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You should go to a school councilor. When I was in school I had someone threaten me, and one day they slammed my arm in the locker (that wasn't fun) and I am now 25 and it still stays with me.  Don't let people bully you, at least tell a councilor.
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Move around in groups.  Stick with close friends.  I was teased and picked on alot in junior high school.  One day I just decided to ignore them.  And, you know what?  From that point on, I didn't notice whether they made fun of me or not.  I just went about my business, and chilled with my friends.\nPhysical bullying is a another story.  You will need the intervention of an adult, if that is the case.
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This is a tough, but fairly common, issue. Obviously, your administration is either clueless or powerless in this matter. A couple things might work. First, I would call the child's parents and ask to meet with them and the child after school. Explain succinctly and directly what the issue is and how they would like to see the matter resolved. Often, however, a child who behaves like this has issues at home, so that may not work. So, I would try to keep him after school with you to help out in the lab or the classroom in some manner. Give him some responsibilities, which could help boost his confidence a little, and engage him one-on-one in whatever topics interest him during this time. You can subtely approach the issue of his behavior, but not in a forceful way. I find that having that kind of relationship with a student can help manage behavior without having to resort to severe disciplinary measures.
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I had a similar problem a couple wks ago. My sons teacher was labeling him and picking him. I was getting notes every single day just about from his teacher. I was really sure what was going on because he had been making A-B honoroll. Anyways I went up there and spoke with her, found that she had moved him and ONLY HIM to a different part of the class room so he could pay attention. I was not having that since he was making good grades all year long and still is. He said he wasn't misbehaving or disruptive, so I didn't know what the hell the problem was. I also spoke with the principal and asked that my son be moved or we were taking it to the school board. We just put our foot down(husband and I)and let them know that we were serious and wanted it to be resolved. Because he wasn't gonna learn if he's getting discouraged by his teacher. I don't know what grade your sons in, but my son is in 2nd grade. And don't think that you guys are being a pain in the butt or an inconvenience to the "school", because that is your son. I was getting on to my kid every time that I was getting a note, but it wasn't him, I guess the teacher decided to pick on him. And as far as the school staff, who cares what they think of you, but once they start picking or being ugly to your son. Id take it a step further and contact the school board. Good luck!!
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Talk to your parents and principals Try to tranfer out if you can .I would go to the principal and tell him your being verbally abused and what's happening in the class He has to investage .When this happened to my son I went to the princapal and then to the school board The teacher was sent to anger mangement.
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Here are some things for you to keep in mind, and share the appropriate parts with him.  It is part of an answer I did a while ago for someone who was being bullied .....\n\nIn dealing with a bully, do be assertive, but the child being bullied is not usually strong enough to fight the bully physically ... bullies don't pick on kids who are stronger than them. \n\nBullies don't go away. It is true that bullies are cowards, and tend to back down when people stand up to them, but bullies also seek revenge. Unless bullies are stopped, they tend to get worse and worse, not better. \n\nMost schools have someone you can go to so that some adult will know about what's happening and can begin to stop it - a guidance counselor, a teacher you trust, the principal, someone. Can you go to the bully's parents and tell them? If the bully has actually attacked the child, go to the police. The bully can be charged. This is not a laughing matter. No matter what the bully has said about not telling anyone, TELL. Here are some well researched tips on dealing with bullying:\n\n1. If you are bullied, TELL. Telling is not being weak or being a coward or tattling. It is helping to protect everyhone from that bully.\n2. Tell someone you trust - teacher, counselor, parent, some other adult. You CANNOT handle this yourself. \n3. Do not retaliate or get angry. This could make things worse.\n4. Respond evenly and firmly or say nothing and walk away.\n5. develop good strong friendships and support each other. Bullies tend to pick on kids that they think don't have many friends or kids thye think others won't hlep.\n6. Act confident.\n7. Try to stay away from places the bully will be if that is possible. For example, take a different route to school.\n8. Avoid unsupervised areas of the school.\n9. Try not to bring expensive items to school that might attract the bully's attention and that he might try to take or break.\n10. To gain confidence and feel stronger and feel that youcan take care of yourself, enrol in a self-defnece program if one is available, or a martial arts program or something like that. Self defence programs teach you some very good skills, very quickly.\n11. Join a group, such as Scouts, a cadet program, or something like that, so that you have a special group of friends. \n\nGo to the website www.bullying.co.uk/ which has lots of information for parents and for kids about bullying and about some things you can do. I think this website might really help you figure out some good positive things you can do to deal with this.\n\n\nI hope this answer has something of value in it for you.
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First, I want to tell you that your son hitting the teacher is very wrong. I am myself a teacher and I have a students threaten me and insult me. It upsets me. I became a teacher with the desire to make a change in the life of the young people that I meet on a daily basis. \nThe teacher did not have direct physical contact with your son, therefore he didn't not touch him.  He probably tried to prevent him to get in trouble. Your son has rights under the IDEA act. There are organization in every state to help with special and legal problems. I wish you good luck. I will enclose a few links. \nSome schools will argue that a student that has ADD does not qualifies under IDEA but you can make a case that if he has a lot of anger, upset or emotional crisis he does. You need to search under IDEA and your state and advocacy. I feel that if a student hits a teacher or another student, there is definitely a cause for concern. I know that you love your son and that you want what is best for him. Don't blame the teacher because he already got hit, don't blame your son because he is filled with anger and that won't help. Search for a good therapist and work through the issues. It is not your fault, the fact that you are asking us this question means that you love him and that you care. \nGOOD LUCK!
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hi Karon.....  my advice......find out who the lad  is, then go up to him and  introduce yourself as such snd such's mum and  you  heard  that he liked  younger  children to play  with....suggests  that  he  goes  and plays with lads of his  own age or  you'll come and  speak to him again....speak to him in a  way thats  slightly intimidating ...dont issue direct threats as he will play on this...  but  do it in such a  way that he'll suss  what  you mean ...if  he  plays  up  with your nice chat, then invite him round to your  house where he  can play nicely ....  failing  that .....  go  and speak to  your lads teacher ( i take it this is  happening  in and around  school) and  say  you want something done  about  it.... if that doesnt work ...  make an appointment  to see the head  and ask for the schools anti bullying policy to be explained and then  explain about whats happening to your  son .. ....  if  all this  fails to  produce results  in a  couple  of  weeks ... take  it  to the local education authority .\ngood  luck
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You would need a support network. Tell as many people as you can that someone is bullying you and you need help.  Name the bully.  If you are a kid tell as many adults as possible. ONe adult may do nothing.  Name the bully.  A bully is generally a coward and will be afraid of a group of people that confront him or her and tell them in no uncertain terms that they will not be tolerated.  Don't go anywhere alone and make a friend that doesn';t take crap and is larger and stronger than the bully.  Take a digital camara photo of the person or persons ...like a mug shot and hang it up all over school or work and it should say on it ...Danger if you see this Bully ..Do not approach.  Or wanted Bully...Do not approach Danerous bully.  If a bully is know to the community and suffers public humiliation then they have too many witnesses to carry on with their sadistic ritual of bullying other , weaker individuals who have done nothing wrong, and don't deserve this kind of treatment and it has been proven that the individual that is being bullied is usually a more intelligent or in some way superior individual. Arm yourself with knowledge. There is an infinite amount of literature in the library on the psychology of bullying. Know your adversary.  Take martial arts .  Be very very confident and don't let your weakness show externally but be brave.  When you talk to the bully talk in a loud firm confident voice and show no fear.  Remember a bully is the ultimate coward.  Good luck
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The general advice given out is don't suffer in silence.\n\nThe best thing you can do is to tell someone who can do something about it. Bullying needs to be stopped at the earliest possible point. \n\nCheck out http://www.bullying.co.uk/children/pupil_advice.htm for some practical advice on how to stop the bullying.\n\nPlease remember that you are not alone.
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Honestly, there's not much you can do. You can try to talk to a guidance counselor or teacher, and that might help. The only thing that worked for me when I was in school was ignoring the crap that was said. There was this one girl who bullied me for years and we would consequently bad-mouth each other. Finally, I just quit saying anything about her and let her talk all the trash she wanted to. Our mutual friends realized after a while that she was the one causing all the drama and so even though she was still talking trash about me, our friends just tuned her out when she would do that. And it made me look like the better person. (which, of course, I am... ;) )
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If this person is your friend, you should be able to tell him/her that enough is enough already, and to stop. \n\nIf he/she doesn't stop teasing....\n\nDo you know your friend's parents?  Let THEM know what's happening.\n\n"I always felt _____ and I were friends.  But when I started this special PE class because I've got health/physical problems, he/she started teasing me a lot, and I wish he/she'd stop."\n\nIf you don't think his/her parents will help, or you don't know them, say the same thing to your case manager or a school counselor. Hopefully, both you and your friend will get pulled in to a meeting together to deal with it.\n\nIf you don't think any of these things will help, then the person is NOT your friend.  Report them for bullying (that's what this sort of teasing really is).  This person is making the choice to bully, so he/she should have to deal with the consequences.
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Just go to the gym for about 3 months and you will look like you never imagined and he will never pick on you again. Bullies mustn't be feared, most of the time they are just some retarded fools.
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It just routes from his insecurity.  Unfortunately it's his problem and there isn't much that you can do.  You shouldn't have to conform to someone's idea of how to keep you under his thumb.  If the reigns get to tight I would run for it.  If you really want to make it work you should send that boy to a therapist.