iam married against my wish to a very short and aged person?
486382
you made your bed...now lie in it.  And quit your whing.  Til death remember...
851295
Yes. There is too much age difference. I wouldn't do it
513643
sounds like you better invest in some good running shoes & figure out which way is the quickest way out of the house. You sound very young to me, but just know that this woman is married and isnt likely to give that part of her life up the way she gave you other parts of her. I know it feels like love but it really isnt. What it is is lust, learn from these encounters with this middle aged woman and it will make you more worldly when you find a girl your own age to date or to marry..............
866036
whatever comes natural. Do what you "both" agree on. If this is difficult --dont get married--
1094047
have the baby. you should have waited till marraige.  shame on you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
725721
Well, as long as none of your "personalities" is under the age of 18, she isn't doing anything illegal however, this feeling of shame is what is really bothering me.  Have you tried marriage counsuling?  Who are the three personalities?  Moe, Larry and Curly?  Or Huey, Dewy & Louie?????  Good luck with this at any rate.
583981
ive been there as well. its a hard thing. but at your age....wasted time is the worst thing to be doing. but only you can decide if its a waste. at this point in your lives.... you both should be able to get past what anyone else thinks. they dont matter. life is too short to live your life by somebody elses guidelines. ive been married twice.and divorced twice...DOH!..i lived with both of them first... because, well, no reason to get married if we end up hating each others daily habits. a happy marriage is knowing all the good...and being able to say that his/her bad points arent that bad.." i can live with this freak" lol. because thats what we all are. freaks. and its really can i live with this level of freak and vise versa. so i understand the marriage uneasiness. im 37, and i live with a great girl and her two boys... im reluctant to get married again... but life is a risk. the greatest things in life dont come with out it. ... the question is... are you both ready to risk equal amounts to be with each other? i do tend to think that him moving to his place is going backwards. and i understand you as well. about dating others... i just wouldnt do that right away... let what you have fall apart.... before you drive a wedge quickly between what you might have...wasted time is the worst... but losing love... thats a close second. good luck!
195896
You should ask her to descibe who the old you was, if it fits who you was then try going back to be that person. It seems like you got a bit shaky since you engage to her. Seems to me that you are worrying about the step you are about to take. Go back to being yourself, and remember do not change when you get married.
1151415
I was in almost the same situation, except the woman was my age.  I was married with children, and had to make some tough decisions in order to be true to myself and happy at last.  I no longer live to please others.  My advice to you is to make thoughtful decisions, then don't look back.  You can't make everyone happy all the time.  Good luck!
853501
Being married to some one a few months older is not wrong.\nOr years older it is who you love that matters ..\nPeople are narrow minded about women and younger men.\nguys like older women because they are more mature and know what they want out of life and know what they want in a relationship..\nThe only thing I am against is marrying a much younger woman , almost to being a pervert..and same for women..
315363
You need to stop this fantasy ASAP. All you are doing is creating drama - You are either bored in your marriage, or are having problems that you'd rather avoid. Maybe you're thinking he can get you out of a situation, or "rescue" you in a sense.....Maybe you're not happy with where you are at in life at 34, and are trying to relive certain aspects of your younger life, before you made the choice to become a married woman...? Whatever the case, please recognize this for what it is......An unrealistic diversion from your REAL life. You can't possibly fix whatever is going on with your marriage until you devote to it 100% - And the preoccupation with this young (kid) will interfere with that. My advice would be to come back to reality, before you take this attraction to some other level, and come back asking what you should do then........
544417
Havent you grown up yet or are you your Momma's little boy, she takes decisions which effect your life. Grow up man, be bold and marry the girl you love. Age is not a problem if the two of you love each other.
313234
Well, I'm glad you too love other. But both of you are far too young to get married. You see, even adults make mistakes in marriage when they rush into these things. So, I would suggest that you keep your friendly relationship until both of you are adults. By then, you will be more mature and can decide whether you want to spend the rest of your lives with each other in love. So, hang on together and wait another 4 years (at least). Good luck.
112938
If you're happy now, then be contented with what you have. You chose to marry him despite his age and you've lasted that long together.\n\nIt is dangerous to entertain such a question...
237776
marriage...mistake....too young..
83925
Honey, as long as this guy is nice to you, understands about the difficulties such age differences mean, and is basically a good guy then date him, have fun, but don't let him press you to do things you don't want to. I married a man older then myself and have been very happy. It takes longer for men to mature then women so really he is basically your age right about now. So the real question is do you want to date some one who is the same age as you? lol
648682
If you love someone a job does not stay in the way of your marriage.*\n\nStay and give him this option of now or never.\n\nThe older we get the less desirable we get so getting or soul-mates young are better than being older three years your 28 and if he puts it off again.\n\nYou could be in your 30's and than what.\n\nMay dad told me this when is was around your age.\n\n( Of course he was playing telling me if i waited till i was 50 than i would be looking for a wife around 50 years old also ). \nSomehow dad had a why of putting things that made sense but he went way around the bush to get there.\n\nThat's because he did not like making my choices but he let me know in away he was there to show me a direction of my choice.