Should I get rid of anybody in my life that causes me to have great emotional suffering?
483871
yes there really are such things as "toxic " people.... just the fact that youre asking means you are probably one of those warm hearted people who actually attract these people unknowingly... because they know they can take advantage of you... well I know because it happens to me.... have to put your foot down, you can still be loving, but when it starts to affect your health and stuff you have to let them go! People like that will go bother someone else......... just to prove how toxic they are, make more great friends who arent toxic, but uplifting... and see how the toxic ones act around them!!!! \n                   They will either act jealous that youve made these friends.... or not show their true selves around them...... even though they are the toxic ones.... you have to see that youve made yourself "open" to them..... of course this doesnt include family members, they are just there, not your fault... but even there you can set boundaries!!!!!!! I have, even with family members.
34977
Man, I know how that can feel...been there done that!!!  I found that I wasen't voicing my needs enough in some cases and in the others it was a matter of getting rid of the trash friendships that were merely sucking me dry emotionally and/or finacially.  Do yourself a favor and get rid of people who make you miserable and are just takers. Thinning them out and telling the people whom you choose to keep around what your needs are can be a very empowering experience.  Trust me, a few very close friends is worth more than a ton of supposed friends any day.  Hope this helps.
776690
If you feel your life would actually be better without her presence, you need to cut ties.  Yes, you have an obligation to be kind to others, but not at the expense of yourself.  You should be the most important person in your life, despite what she may have done 'for' you in the past.
322266
If that person is not helping you grow as a person and they are not making a positive contribution to your life. Then its time for you to call it quits.
661006
If it has become more than you can handle, then the choice is made.  Yeah, I know everyone wants you to do the noble thing and suffer a lifetime of misery, plus if you leave, you'll be the bad guy.  Hey, it's your life.  Just be true about your feelings and do what you've got to do.  Life is short for us all, so find your way to happiness either in this relationship or out, but don't just keep on keep'n on for no purpose.
380415
disassociate yourself from the thing that is causing you to be angry with this person. you are not doing yourself any good by being angry, especially if the other person does not care with the emotion your having.
583480
cos the feelings are too strong.... all u have to do is feel the person is horror himself.or think him in a bad way and u will hate him.... but i will suggest that if there is any means having that person u just have to try cos  ... its good to follow the heart he may be the one 4 u and don't just give up. but if u insist on giving up it OK.. cos if u don't give up u are only killing ur self a given passion or emotion that can never be re_given by the other.there is not determinate answer cos, he May be the one, and he may not be the one. if u can bear it wait for a time and see if things will change. but if u cannot wait then forget him and believe that, if he is for u he will come back sooner or later alone.
334603
Being cruel in return only perpetuates the problem.  Just ignore them and be the better person!
158811
Well if you cant resolve your problems you should get out of it.There is someone out there who will love you the way you need to be loved .Dont risk missing out on that by staying with someone who makes you miserable.
430645
Sounds reasonable to me. I'd give it a year, and if you see one instance of him going back to his old ways, get rid of him. Don't live in misery just because you "love" him. You can find love/happiness without misery.
1126628
nope.If someone hurt you that deeply,stay away from them.I'm sure you can think of someone to call.Or go for a walk or go visit old ppl in the nursing home.Theres plenty to do.
373135
stop dealing with someone who is causing you trouble its just not worth it.
220576
think about when somebody makes you mad.  what do you want that person to do? apologize? give you space? comfort you? what? i suggest that you try what ever would work on you.  use your own judgment.
946342
No. I think what you should do is email them and tell them nicely that they have hurt your feelings. That'll make them feel bad and guilty and they might even apologise to you.
1180544
GET ALL OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO ARE BRINGING YOU DOWN OUT OF YOUR LIFE AND THEN WORK ON MAKING YOURSELF FEEL AND BE A BETTER PERSON AGAIN. FIRST YOU MUST RID YOUR LIFE OF ALL NEGATIVE PEOPLE AND INFLUENCES AND SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE AND THINGS
537325
I feel you very much on that one.but i think your the one who is on the fault you have got them so use to you picking up after them now they dont care you should have made a routine from the begining.sit and seriously tell them its not right and they need to help you out.i am sure they love you and they will understand,
308993
You're no longer close?  Then just leave them in the past, darlin.  You're trying to live better and clean up your act, DO NOT be around them, I can say they will try their damndest to drag you back down to their level.  Completely write them off, take them off your cell phone, email, ims, MySpace, whatever and however you talk to them.  Leave them and that life in the past and you will feel a 1,000 times better.