what would you do?If you were a young  bride but you didnt know this.?
475918
The behavior of your husband and his family is very un-Christian-like behavior. They should be welcoming you with open arms. It sounds like you wonder why he even married you. Don't stop praying. As with any difficult situation, prayer and God can get you through. I don't know how I would have survived some of the heartbreaks I've faced in 52 years without prayer and God.\n\nIt sounds as if you feel ganged-up-on by his family and his church. Family is one thing, and bad enough for them to treat you poorly, but for his church to do the same is unconscionable.\n\nWhat I would do is to seek the advice of an attorney. Then you'll have the information you need in making the decision to stay or go. You have to balance your emotional and mental health with the money you've put into the house. Which is more important?\n\nI'm so sorry that you are so miserable in this marriage. I pray you'll continue to seek God's perfect will for you. That He will guide and comfort you. Bless you, my dear.
964162
It would be like what I WISH I could of learned in school - (how to have a cush life!) I would choose a family/single mom/young couple... and turn their whole life around! Starting from the inside out. I'd do like a different class everyday: like Mon. would be like "Lets get rid of all of your childhood demons" and Tues would be like "Lets figure out what your dream job is - and how to get you there" and Wed would be like "How to be the best wife/husband/parent/family..." and Thurs would be about discussions - like is there a need that hasn't been met yet - lets take care of that... and Fri is payday so we'd do like a Financial class for them and teach them how to handle and increase their income. And we'd help about 5 families @ a time, for about 3 months... I guess thats to much info by now ... teehee*
52376
Tell her, but don't expect it to do much good at first. If she is in love then she will be oblivious to what you say. Why didn't someone warn her before she got married or when she started dating this guy?
497837
I wouldnt' get married for a long........time. But then if we lived that long they would probably change the age like we couldnt drive until were thirty or something. I would be young and wild for about 80 years. then settle down. i would have had a million jobs. It would be crazy!!!!!
143373
get married and travel to places i would never go otherwise. and it depends on how soon i would die. if it was a week... yeah, i'd say i'd get married and go on a week long honey moon! to Scottland and most of europe. or Australia. but if it was in a year or so i'd get married and try to have a baby before i died. i LOVE my. and the only thing in the whold world i want to do before i die right now is get married and be happy with him for as long as i can.
885841
The idea, in hindsight, appears logical and the answer seems clear.  Anyone would likely say "Just wait" if they could be assured that her love would be waiting for him after that time.  But the real issue here is this:  Would you have still felt the same?  What if you'd waited for her and, in so doing, denied yourself the chance to find love with someone who was ready?  We cannot know the future.  All we can do is live each day the best way we can and enjoy every bit of happiness that we are lucky enough to find.
418796
It seems that the world is probably against you this day in age with quicky weddings and quicky divorces. Alot of the young couples I know get married really quick without thinking everything through. Call it the "want to be a bride" syndrome. Once you live together and share your lives together...things change. But if you really love each other,have talked everything through, and understand what hard work marriagetakes...you may be happy together forever. Good luck!
212502
get financially stable first..then try to think afer marriage
854071
I would go back to when I was a young woman and start over with the wisdom I have now...I would have advanced knowledge how to avoid certain circumstances. I would treasure every day. \nIt isn't too late...each day now has potential.\nAnd Love I wouldn't save in a bottle..I would disperse it with all the vigor I could muster...It would be spread to the ends of the earth.
663665
sure i would, my husband and I didnt really have a wedding, we did the justice of the peace thing, it would be nice to do it again and have all of our friends and family there. our 8 year is on thurday and we would like to do something of the sort for our 10 year anv.
225251
First, I'd pay off my debts.  All of them.  Then I'd pay a few things several months and/or years in advance, because I'd like to avoid being another 20 grand in the hole, if you don't mind.  \nThen I'd buy myself a home and a car, and shoot some cash to my parents for putting up with me & my BS for so many years.\nNext, maybe I'd seek out some of my friends who need some help.....more morally than monetary, and help them do the same things I'd just done for myself.  And set up some college/trust funds for their kids.\nMaybe I could find some good organizations to donate some money & some time....like Habitat for Humanity or something.  Maybe get in the school board's face around here, and tell them I'll do a little something with their budget, but in return they have to step up their curriculum & stop graduating idiots (I heard our schools are like 49th in the nation - HELLO).  Maybe I'd travel the country & speak in schools about my lifestyle & where it got me (I'm a bad, bad girl).\nAnd somewhere in there I'd go do some crazy shopping & spa-type things, with a health club membership b/c I'm fat & lazy & that's gotta go.  And put my own self through college to get a few degrees that might be worth something  :-)
301957
Seriously, dear, I want to first apoligize because no one should ever have to go through such a turmoil. And for being the most important day of your life, I would have been appalled. It is one of those situations where one day you might back at it and laugh, and but for the mean time me per say I would say that you should be the "bigger adult" and live on your life with your new hubby, within 10-15 years you can re-new your vows and have something even greater. As far as forgiving her I seriously would say no, and on the same note not even give her the time of day. I would more else let the time pass on until you are ready to talk to her, not on her turf, but yours. I wish you all the best of luck, and I know eventhough that you didn't get a chance to have your wedding video taped,just know that the people who were there, and you ended up being with person of love, those memories will last a lifetime!
194370
"I would marry her as soon as she tuned down the attitude"\n\nDude, the woman is pregnant and not yet married, there is no turning down the attitude.  When did the attitude start? How long have you been engaged? \nIn any case, just try to be understanding.  Offer her help with things around the house, stay out of her way, but be there to help if asked.  Other than that, set a date for the wedding.
481437
Sure.  I thik you may be a bit young to get married, but if that is what you want, go for it.
202993
Say no. your too young for marriage. go out and enjoy life first, you'll have plenty of time to settle down.
696980
I would tell them they were too young! lol  What do I know...:D
585275
I would have to say that I have a tendency to expect too much, too fast. I am of the age and mind set that I want to be married, and unfortunately I almost lost the man that I truly love because of this. We are happily engaged now, but my insistence on knowing exactly where we were in our relationship caused him to pull away. That was my wake up call. We have since come to a compromise regarding boundaries, and are much, much happier and comfortable with each other. I never would have categorised myself as a pushy person, but I found out that when faced with losing something that I had never had before, I could step back and see the bigger picture. I give advice often about noticing the needs of your partner or spouse and accepting those needs without question, I just wished I would have taken my own advice a little sooner than I did. Peace.