I wanna know how my best friend feels about me and if she likes me how can i make a move on er?
475199
to be honest with you my best friend is a girl..... we live in one apt.... and we do most of the things that you do.... we even walk naked infront of each other but the thing is that everything is very clear with our relationship..... we love each other to death but we know that we cant be more than just friends.... however.. yours can be the same understanding as mine.... at times we tend to forget why we can be so comfortable with friends.... and that there is nothing more.... no malice..... in this instance .... your feeling towards her is that you want more to be friends.... however you are not certain if she does feel the same way however her actions doesnt speak for it... what you have to consider is that .... are you willing to take the risk of loosing a friend should it happen that its only a one way street???? hence.... if your feelings are really strong you need to do it as gently and as fast as possible..... ask her for a casual date and ask her these questions.....\n\n1. what is your ideal guy.....? with this you can decern if it is close to being someone like you...\n2. have you found him??\n3. what makes him different? this will solidify your search....\n4. if all of it fits you then...\n\ntell her that you are ending this friendship ... i want more out of our friendship.. i want to take you out as my date not as my friend......\n\n5. if you seem that there is a different one tell her that you are happy for her.... but then again you just have to be honest... tell her everything......but before that... make a pact before you reveal you intimate feelings you will still be her best friend....
520228
Brickjacks, listen to yourself. You sound as if you're hoping for the impossible; holding onto dear life just because you are not sure how does she feels about you, whether or not she wants to be with you and if she's just toying around with your feelings. Have you already asked her what she thinks of you? Have you told her how you feel about her?\n\nI really can't tell you what she's trying to do or how you should handle this situation and neither can anyone out there who answers your question because quite frankly, we don't know her. She might be a social butterfly or maybe she's a saint after all.\n\nMy opinion, you should have already confronted her by now. The more you stall your feelings for her the more confused you'll get from her reactions and advances.\n\nTake this opportunity to get to know her better. Since you're going out with her, you'll get to see what she's like. Don't stress yourself with impossible questions (i.e. Does she wants to see what kind of person I am before she decides to dump her boyfriend and be with me?)\n\nYou're not some "thing" that could be analyzed and be taken for granted. You're not some low grade ketchup/sauce that needs to be compared with another to determine which of the two taste good. You're a human, you have feelings and you know yourself better.\n\nShow her who you really are TODAY/NOW and if she shows the slightest indication of her being the malicious girl everyone (well, almost everyone) in Y! Answers been telling you, leave her. Just be her friend. She's not worth your aggravation.
234269
You could try some friendly flirting to get a feel if the friend is into you, or if they think of you as just a friend.brother figure.\n\nIf your friend likes you then all you have to do is make a move. I like my guy friend, and I'd love it if he made a move on me. But if it was another friend I wasn't into, then no amount of seduction, planning or plotting could make me interested.\n\nSo it's just a matter of finding out if your friend is attracted to you or not.
794142
I would ask her if she is seriuos about him but let her know that she can not keep playing with your heart. Let her know that is exactly what she is doing and that you can make her happy and just to give you a chance. she already admitted that she has feelings for you so i just think that she is getting nervous about being with you and possibly ruining your excellent friendship. I would talk to her and let her know what it is doing to you. good luck!
274818
Well, what did she say?  One thing is for sure:  If you told her how you feel and she knows, then she will make a move if and when she is ready.  Try to be really calm and supportive of whatever she chooses now.  Your support now will help keep your friendship healthy while she decides if she wants something more.
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Well how do you feel about her?  Do you like her a lot?\nDo you have fun together?  Do you confide in each other?  \nThese are some of the things that equal a best friend.  And if you want her to be your best friend, than you need to be her best friend as well. Then to be sure, you can just ask her...and she will tell you the truth!   :)
416679
Why not. If you are open with your communications right now, she may be shy about telling you how she feels about you too. And let her know that no matter how she feels about you, you still want to be her friend. Some of my best friends are guys who love me, but they are more like brothers or close friends to me.
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I would first maybe talk to some of his friend and then your friends to see how he feels about you. Because you don't want to tell him then get your feelings hurt if it is not the same for him. I honestly believe that you can truly tell if some one likes you so talk to the friend and feel the situation out a little before making your move.
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It must suck to be in this position.  If I were in this sticky situation, I would be too scared to tell my best friend that I'm in love with him/her.  But hey, it's not like your best friend in with anyone right now.  Technically, he/she is single.  You can try to make yourself more noticeable and drop a few hints how you feel.\n\nIf you're confident enough, it would be great to confess.  Don't worry, if you guys are best friends, it totally wouldn't ruin the friendship.  I've had two best friends who confessed that they liked me, but we were such good friends that we didn't let that affect our friendship.
624328
best to just do it mate! ask her to go somewhere with you after school or organise a group of u to go to movies or shopping or something.  hopefully you can move around to get a minute alone with her and just tell her how you feel.  Or you could do the chicken way and tell her best friend how you feel and ask them for advice- they usually know everything abou their friends, and will tell them what you say too..so make it romantic and get her on your side!
1111260
only u can decide..... no one can help u...... go with person who understands u better...one who is more caring,loving,protective,respects u.....and it also depends whether ur best friend likes u that way or not......give it some time......dont rush into anything
807389
Like if u are on myspace that is a good place to ask her out. You can ask one of your best friends to get her phone number then do 3 way on the phone with her and your best friend and ask your best friend to ask her to say " Rate him from 1 to 10" and see what she says. Pretend like you are not on the line. then tell your best friend to ask questions about you like " Do you think he is cute or not?", "Do u think you two will make a good couple?", etc.,
963163
I would tell her, and here's why.  It's a strain on you, and you should probably put a little distance between the two of you for your mental health.  Tell her you've developed feelings for her, it wasn't on purpose, and you don't want her to feel pressured, but because of this you need to put a little space between the two of you for a time while you refocus yourself.  Then be friendly, but cut your contact with her WAY down.  This does a couple of things.  It lets her know your thoughts, which is important in an honest friendship.  But it doesn't give her the instant upper hand she would get if you "confessed your love" then waited around for her to do something (and what would that be? dump the BF?  decide if she feels the same in return?), which almost always has a bad result for the confessor.  Treat your developing ardor as a personal weakness of your own, perhaps a slightly embarrassing one, and assure her you're going to get over it without bothering her, you just wanted to do her the courtesy of letting her know why you can't hang out with her so much.\n\nOnce you go into "recovery" phase (spending less time with her) it does two things.  It lets her know you aren't a lapdog, hanging around, waiting for whatever attention she'll give you.  It actually gives you the closest thing to the upper hand you can have.  She'll also see less of you, giving her the chance to figure out if she misses you a lot.  If she does, she should be the one to bring up that she wants to see more of you.  When she does this, you can say (be nice to her, always be very very nice) "that would be difficult for me without the chance to date you... I'm concerned my feelings are to strong."  Be kind of wistful.  Then give her more space.\n\nYou're trying to get her to come to you.  It's the only way you have a chance after a confession anyway, but it can be very successful if she likes and depends on you, but has been more or less taking you for granted.  It also gives you control over your life, which is always adviseable.  One more piece of advice?  Flirt with some other girls.  But don't overdo it, and never be mean to anyone.\n\nMake sense?  Good luck.
838275
I wouldn't make a move on my best friend without being 100% sure he feels the same thing. You might be risking a lot if u tell him and he doesnt feel the same. \n\nSo i'd say if u like other guy start from there... maybe it works with that guy and u forget about ur best friend... if it doesnt work then just wait u have something more concrete before telling anything to yur best friend.
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I guess it is not your nature to openly talk about this thing with someone you like or love, am I right? It will be extremely difficult for you to do that and possibly you will make a fool of yourself, and you don't want that either.\n\nWhat you can do now, is to befriends with her. Learn about her by observing her needs, study her and learn about her wonderful personality and characters. Beaware of her weakness and try to provide support. Do all the kind deeds like a warm greeting to brighten her day. Since talking is not your advantage, doing good things for may be a sound stratagies for you.\n\nBe yourself; your best self, as you apporach to her. Because 'YOU' are the best thing to offer when comes to establishing different kind of relationship. If you want to be a friend of hers, then be the best friend of hers; if you want to be close to her, then be as gentle and sensitive as you can be.\n\nThere are nothing here that I specificlly advice, really. What you do or how you do is entirely your choice.\n\nGood Luck
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Trust me you would know if she liked you more than just as a friend. Read her body language!!!
235797
Sounds like a very cute crush. Be honest! Go to her and ask her if she's interested in you, don't be pushy or act desperate. Chances are if you two are really good friends things won't change if you ask her.\n\nShe'll appreciate your honesty. Just say something like "I really like you and was wondering if you had any other feelings for me other than being friends?"\n\nGood luck.