I am upset with my 40 year old brother. He has no car and lives by himself so I take him to the grocery store.
490121
You should tell your brother that you don't mind helping him but he needs to give you gas money and carry his own bags in he bought it he can carry it! He is taken advantage of you and the more you do the more he wants so stop! tell he you love him but you will not do this anymore he is a grown man! That your his sister not his wife, not his slave.  If he wants you to help by driving him to the store he can pay for gas. And he should be carry his own thing to his apartment maybe you could carry the liter stuff but he should be carry his own things! And he should be buying you dinner or something and thanking you for all your help! Your a good sister but don't let him take advantage of you no more put a stop to it you have your own life!
175807
Oh, I really feel for you. It's very hard to face this sort of situation.  If you know where he lives, send him a letter telling him exactly what you have told us; that you love him and miss him dreadfully, that you miss his friendship and him being in your life.  You don't say how old you both are, but if he was quite young when this happened it may be that he is regretting his hot-headedness (you might find that out when you establish contact with him, but not initially), and he may later welcome the chance to get back in touch with the family through you.\n\nBut if you want to contact him, you need to make it plain that if he doesn't want contact with his parents, that's regrettable but perhaps understandable, but it isn't his relationship - or lack of it - with them that bothers you, it's the relationship between the pair of you that you want to heal.  However, you will also need to be very careful about your own relationship with your parents.  It could hurt them dreadfully if they find out that you have been in contact with your brother, and hurt people tend to lash out.  It may be that your brother felt very hurt if you seemed to take their 'side' rather than his in whatever happened when all you were trying to do was mediate, or just got caught in the crossfire, and he lashed out at you.\n\nJust spend some time putting your thoughts down on paper, don't condemn him in any way at all, and tell him you will always love and miss him.  I hope it all works out well for you.
1154183
You seem like you too are young. You need to tell his parents to get him into some type of help program quick. Even if he's upset with you for it, this may save his life.
696597
This is wrong. No one should be hit or abused. I know what your brother has been through. Ask your brother what his opinions is about this. He needs to decide his future and feelings. This is a crime!!
322162
Keep talking to your brother,he seems to be the only person in your family acting like a grown-up!You are entitled to your beliefs and he is your brother,losing him would be like losing an arm,so keepthe lines of communication open and hopefully your parents and sister will come round,good luck,stay strong.
1180608
I don't have a brother and I could not care less about it
436501
I have a 32 year old brother who is single.  He lives in Oklahoma City.
1038982
It's against the law in all states.  I am sorry that your brother did this to you.  You are doing the right thing for him as well as for yourself.  There will be healing that will come with this.  Keep you a head up.
732853
I have not lost a parent. I have lost a brother. We were approx. 12 months apart in age. He died drinking and driving when I was 20 and he was 19. I was devastated, but never cried about it. He and I had talked about death but not our own. There isn't a day goes by I don't think about him. I am sad, on the inside, but not depressed. I can talk about him with great pride and conviction without crying a drop. And about the loss..... is there anyway to describe the feeling of emptiness and loss? No, but we can not dwell on what we can not change. I do know that my life would be completely different if he were here. I moved 1000 miles from home, just to get away from the sadness, it didn't help. But it did change the whole direction of my life. I will not say that it is a mental illness to have feeling like this, but it is very difficult to express the way you truly feel. I try not to talk about it but feel better when I do. His birthday was last week 10/25. Mine is today.
663238
i am the oldest and my brother is the smallest
36145
For years my brother wouldn't even talk to me, in fact when I would talk to me he would often punch me or berate me for being fat or ugly. How did I fix it? We both grew up. He's 18 and I'm 21 now and we could not be better friends. You really just have to give it time, when siblings are younger they will be horrible to each other, but when they grow up, they realize that the relationships you have together are so very valuable. I'm sorry that he's mean to you now though, I'm sure it will change!
88762
yes! I have the same situation with a brother.
196172
You need to move out immediately, stop talking to him, get an attorney or go to your town's general assistance to find legal aid if you cannot afford one, if you don't take anything but your clothes, he is going to keep everything, let him. Get on with your life! Start fresh, I know this works and is the quickest way because my sister did this, then my brother, they're both very happy without the poison in their lives. GOOD LUCK!!
712967
yep here i am alone...my boyfriend chose to go to his moms with our baby he didnt care to take me and my two older kids to see my family first he only cared to please him self so i sent my kids with my mom and im all alone sad, bored, and on yahoo
563328
How old is your brother?  He's doing what he was trained to do by your dad.  The whole trick to all of this is you remembering it, and not doing it to your kids when you begin your life.  Your mother tells you that you was sexually abused but you don't know it?  You need to get out, far away and just start fresh somewhere's and forget all this, you are in a messed up situation.  As for my brother yelling at me, yell back, what's he going to do that you can't do right back?  He's not your dad and he's not your boss is he?  Wish you a ton of luck and happiness in the future.
805964
I'M A 25 FEM AND I WILL BE HOME BY MYSELF...I HAVE NO FAMILY (THAT WANTS ME IN THEIR LIFE), NO FRIENDS, NOTHING, NO ELECTRIC , NO FOOD, NO FAMILY, NO FURNITURE, JUST AN EMPTY APT AND I'LL BE IN THE DARK LYING ON A BLOW UP MATTRESS WISHING THAT I WAS WITH FAM EATING A NICE DINNER, BUT NOT ME!!!! DEPRESSION SUX!!! OH YEAH THE REALLY BAD PART IS THAT MY PARENTS, AND OTHER FAM MEMBERS ARE GOING TO BE ONLY 35 MINS FROM ME AND THEY JUST SO FORGOT ABOUT ME, I TRIED TO CALL MY DAD CELL NUM AND GIVE HIME MY NEW NUM AND I WANTED TO GO THERE FOR THANXGIVN BUT NO CALL BACK FROM EITHER FAM MEMBERS, NOT EVEN MY SIBLINGS AND I HAVE 7!!!! SAD HUH, BUT TRUE.....WELP THIS IS MY SECOND YR AL ALONE LAST YR MY FAM WENT TO HOUSTON TO  MY SIS AND DIDN'T TELL ME OR EVEN TO INVITE ME AT ALL, SO I WAS ALONE THAN TO...MAN, I'M GOING TO REALLY HATE XMAS THIS YR TO.....HOPE YOU HAVE FU N...ALL I WANT IS TO HAVE SOMEBODY AT LEAST CARE FOR ME LIKE HAVE AT LEAST ONE FRIEND, BUT DON'T EVEN HAVE THAT...SO THERE'S MY LIFE DEPRESSION!!!! HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!!!!!!!
214760
Why are you angry? Maybe he got held back a few times or his parents kept him at home for another year when he was younger.\n\ntelevision != real life