am a lady of 29 yrs i think am wrong getting marriage to this person i need to devoce but it's a 2 times. help
483335
well its up to you if you get married or not
868504
dont get married .... unless your a positive you are both perfect for each other at least wait till your 20 you change over time and just because you are good toether now doesn mean you'll be good together later (forever is what marriage means)you'll both change over time and not nessecarily in the same way
206740
I would try to make it a huge memorable experience, it only happens once (hopefully)  Also, long engagements are great and I would definitely find a pre-marriage counselor to help you through issues you two do not even know you have yet.  Congratulations and best wishes on your happiness in life.
583981
ive been there as well. its a hard thing. but at your age....wasted time is the worst thing to be doing. but only you can decide if its a waste. at this point in your lives.... you both should be able to get past what anyone else thinks. they dont matter. life is too short to live your life by somebody elses guidelines. ive been married twice.and divorced twice...DOH!..i lived with both of them first... because, well, no reason to get married if we end up hating each others daily habits. a happy marriage is knowing all the good...and being able to say that his/her bad points arent that bad.." i can live with this freak" lol. because thats what we all are. freaks. and its really can i live with this level of freak and vise versa. so i understand the marriage uneasiness. im 37, and i live with a great girl and her two boys... im reluctant to get married again... but life is a risk. the greatest things in life dont come with out it. ... the question is... are you both ready to risk equal amounts to be with each other? i do tend to think that him moving to his place is going backwards. and i understand you as well. about dating others... i just wouldnt do that right away... let what you have fall apart.... before you drive a wedge quickly between what you might have...wasted time is the worst... but losing love... thats a close second. good luck!
1105252
I cannot tell you how bad I feel that someone hurt you sooo much when you were little.  I wish I could change it for you.\n\nHowever, Why are you trying to get pregnant and your not married??  I'm not judging you.  It's just that, if he has not committed to marry you and stay with you, are you in a position to take care of a child by yourself??  I only ask because I am a Mother of 3 girls.  Two of whom got pregnant with their boyfriend.  \n\nI also got pg before I got married.  We married, but it was a disaster and I ended up with 3 kids to take care of alone.  I really struggled because I only had a high school education. \n\nThink really hard about doing this. sweety.  This isn't something that goes away if you change your mind.  And no matter how good your man is now, things could change.  Can't you guys just be happy with the 2 of you right now??\n\nI know, sometimes things work out.  Are you 100% sure this is going to work out with the 2 of U?  Good luck, and God Bless.  By the way, God is waiting to hear from you.
433076
It really depends on the nature of the question. 1) Do you really love him and feel that you two will be able to grow old together? 2)What are your future plans? (ie: School, travelling, Career advancement? Marriage is a big step, its a promise and lifetime (supposed to be) committment.  Once you marry you can't think of yourself anymore you are committed to another person and that pretty much hinders your ability to do things you normally would do single (party with friends, hang out etc etc).  I'm not saying all marraiges are going to stop this from happening.  Just think about it more wisely and ask yourself are you at the point where you can settle down.
27885
All I have to offer is experience...28 years of being married to the same guy. I got married at 20, had my first child at 23 and second child at 26. It really depends on the couple. Marriage, like parenting, is very hard, emotional work. If you're not up to the emotional part, stay single. I know people who got married younger than I and are still married. They worked through lots of hard stuff, but always stuck together. It's called commitment. Staying together through all the tough stuff...even adultery (eveything is forgiveable). You really have to think through why you want to get married, no matter how old you are. It's all about maturity and commitment. I told my husband to make sure this is what he wanted because I didn't believe in divorce...only murder!! So, if you're asking if it's ok to get married at a young age, I think you need to think long and hard about why, and talk about it long and hard with your sweetheart. If you've both considered all the good and bad, plus talked with a pastor, and your parents, then think about this information carefully. If it's something you're both committed to do for the rest of your lives, do it. Don't be another divorce statistic. <*)))><
660025
Rather than just coming out and saying "that's not going to happen," my opinion would be to try and try and try again.  What better gift can a future spouse receive than you on your wedding night - with a commitment that you have chosen to become pure - again - for this night only.  It is perfectly OK to start making that commitment now.  Buy yourself a purity/commitment ring and wear it on your ring finger and really try each day to live out that commitment.  Believe me, it will change your life =)  My opinion:  Wait until marriage!!!  Best wishes =)
349551
You are both very fortunate in your happines.  Dont worry about what the world is doing.  Because it sounds like you BOTH are doing everything right.  Continue to love, respect, communicate and enjoy each other.  It takes 2 to make a marriage and a home.  I simply made a poor choice, and the problems erupted early on.\nSome of us dont get it right the first time.
182901
Why are you so worried about getting married so soon ????? your not even divorced yet....take this time to enjoy yourself ,try new things, meet new people, if you find someone great, but this is the time for you to think about what you want in life, what have you always wanted to do but didn't.....this is your second chance ..... enjoy
1113530
You are definitely too young to get married.  You definitely don't know who you are let alone know what you want in a marriage. What's the rush?  You should wait a few more years.
417028
Are you nuts or just immature?  You need to meet someone to be "going with" them.  Marriage, you've never met!  Get a life!
706352
I think that's a comon feeling.  You're in a rush to "start" your life and that usually includes a husband and kids. Try not to rush it because after you get married to the wrong person you'll realize how silly it was to think that way. 50% of us marry the "wrong" person. We have to be happy as ourselves before being happy w/ others. Suppose it never happens? You need to fulfill your dreams.
1072621
The most important thing in this case is you. You have to ask yourself, "are you ready for marriage?". Most people do more planning for the wedding that they do for marriage. They'll fuss over the bridal registry, invitations, location, religion, and WHO is gonna be invited. But ask yourself.... what do you want for you? Have you accomplished your goals...Are you happy with your job and your money, do you have YOUR world in order? Marriage simply a legal contract bringing two people together. Nothing is gonna change once your married; sex isn't magically gonna get better or more frequent, all the bad habits of the other person aren't going to suddenly go away and those fights aren't gonna be more understanding now that you're married.  If your credit sucks... it screws BOTH of you up. If you hate your job... then the financial burden is on you both. Be happy with you...Have your affairs in order and enjoy the other person and the times you have together. NOTHING IS CERTAIN!!! and right now the percentage of divorce is over 56%. and if the couple is under 25...the percentage is 80%. PLAN PLAN PLAN! If you were handed a parachute and told to jump out of an airplane...but you have a 56% chance that your chute would open...would you take that gamble?
468279
you definitely should. isn't it time that the both of you made another step toward the ultimate commitment to each other? you have been together this long and have already talked about getting married. i think you should do it. god bless both of you.
911992
Dear Friend,\n  Thank you for asking .As per my research i have found that many marriages fail because people rush.marriage must be buid on love and true love waits.So it is important for any person intenting to marry to take enough time in dating   ie NOT LESS THAN 2 YEARS so as to prove true love in his or her mate hence have a perfect marriage.thank you and may God Help you find a good marriage,bye.
1052182
The thing about marriage is, that even if your married with that person for 30 years, your still gonna discover something new about that person. Marriage is a life time commitment, you guys grow old together and you guys learn from each other. Marriage isnt only being husband and wife but you guys have to be best friends first. That is very important. Nobody can tell you that you got engaged too soon after meeting your fiance. Nothing is too soon unless you feel that it is. (My best friend was engaged to a guy, they were together for 3yrs, she fell in love with a different guy, she was confused between those two guys for like four months, and two weeks ago she married the other guy, and they only knew each other for four months. They just got married and screwed everyone else. And so far they are happily married) So nobody can say its too soon or too late, you only know what you want. \nBeing in a relationship before getting married, is getting to know that person, before making that life time commitment. And in between those years, you learn from your partner, you grow with that person, you learn from that person, people change whether you like it or not, but its up to you, if you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. People these days dont understand what marriage is...they get married and two months later they get divorced. Marriage is a sacrad bond between two people and it should be taken seriously. It should be cherished and loved always!\nBut if he chooses his family over you, than that is wrong. Your gonna be his WIFE! If he doesnt understand that, than thats not good, and you should be with someone that does. You should be the one he chooses and not his family. Your the one that hes going to spend the rest of his life with, your the one hes going to wake up to every day, not his family. You should talk to him about that, you should tell him that your gonna be his wife, and that his family should come second after you, if he doesnt understand that, than you should not marry him. You need a man, that cherishes YOU first than his family second. He should understand that. \nSo the choice is  complelty up to you, you should do whatever you feel is right and watever you feel will make YOU happy. Marriage is a very important step. People should take it serously. So GOOD LUCK TO YOU!