Minor son has run away to his girlfriends house-claimed to her parents that he is abused. What to do?
478951
He is your son...call the cops and child protection services,unless you have something to hide?
380523
I'm sorry this happened to you.  If he's been to your home, CALL THE POLICE.  Do not mess around with this.  If you live with your parents, TELL THEM RIGHT AWAY.  If you're on  your own, TELL THE POLICE.  \n\nThank you for the heads up, but please, protect yourself!
344064
As long as she (the daughter) doesn't have residency established at that house then she has no right to be there. If the mother did tell the police that she was not allowed there then she needs to call them and let them know that she threatened to come over. She would then be considered trespassing. If she takes anything from the house it would be burglary. Even if the items belong to the daughter the mother doesn't have to give the items to her. There are so many things the daughter can get in trouble for legally if she steps even one foot on that property. The best thing to do would have the mother talk with the police again and explain that the situation is getting worse. There are always options and the local police can explain in better detail.
400055
She can't do without your permmision, you have the  controlling vote in this matter. She could do some major psychological damage to your child, which is abuse,  which makes her a perpetrator against minors. Get her some counselling, get some legal advice for yourself, or ask her to leave. All in all think of this baby boy who is innocent in this and looks upon you both as his life support. good luck and God bless you both, we'll be praying for you.
207474
He is just jealous and as a father he has the right to make sure his daughter is in a safe place. As long as you aren't being harrased or thrown in jail,just keep letting them see how great the home is that you are providing for the child.Eventually they will stop because they will see their is no risk there.
760078
Ex-husband or boyfriend? If he has no legal claim over the house call the cops. If he does then leaving with your kids sounds like the only reasonable option.
982727
I HAD A SIMILAR SITUATION WITH MY STEP DAUGHTERS. MY 17 YEAR OLD WAS BEING HARASSED BY A 14 YEAR OLD. THE 14 YEAR OLD WAS NON-STOP SHE EVEN THREATENED TO HAVE ME KILLED. WELL AT THAT POINT I HAD TO TAKE MATTERS IN MY OWN HANDS BECAUSE THE POLICE AND HER PARENTS WERE OF NO HELP THEY SAID THE GIRL WAS A MINOR AND MY DAUGHTER IS CONSIDERED AN ADULT. SO ONE SATURDAY NIGHT I WAITED FOR THE GIRLS FATHER AND BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF HIM. HE DIDN'T KNOW WHY HE WAS GETTING POUNDED BUT I TOLD HIM THAT HIS DAUGHTER WILL HAVE TO EXPLAIN IT TO HIM. THE LAST THING I TOLD HIM WAS THAT THE NEXT TIME HIS LITTLE GIRL THREATENS TO HURT SOME ONE SHE BETTER MEAN IT. AT THAT POINT I WAS READY TO GET LOCKED UP. BUT IT SEEMS LIKE THE GUY NEVER CALLED THE POLICE. THE LITTLE CRAP IS NOW TERRIFIED OF ME AND MY GIRLS. SOME PEOPLE UNDERSTAND NOTHING BUT VIOLENCE. \nYOU'RE IN A TOUGH SITUATION GOOD LUCK. NOW THAT THE POLICE ARE INVOLVED YOU BETTER KEEP IT LEGAL. THE BEST THING TO DO IS TO DOCUMENT ALL THAT HAPPENS AND PRESS CHARGES ON THE GIRL WHENEVER SHE DOES SOMETHING STUPID. IF IT GETS OUT OF HAND HAVE YOUR DAUGHTER WHIP HER. SOME PEOPLE UNDERSTAND NOTHING ELSE.
823848
Your son did good by leaving and should counter file against her for filing false police report. Also if there were any adult witness in the facility it would be best for him to get statements form them to take with him that he was the bigger person and left.
721648
Get a lawyer!  And don't talk to the police until you've talked to the attorney!\n\nAlthough they are both 18 or over now, that may not have been the case when the offense was committed.  However, since the alcohol laws require one to be 21, they are both minors as far as that law is concerned.\n\nSomeone served her the booze.  It will be up to the police or DA to prove that it was your son.  If she testifies that he did so, that is going to hurt his case.  However, a good attorney may use her intoxicated state to challenge the accuracy of her memory.\n\nAt any rate, he needs a good attorney.  Any advice here (including mine, I'm not an attorney) other than to seek legal counsel is worthless and maybe dangerous to his case!
260901
If you both live in the same state, you need to give your permission before he can take the kids out of state, and it should be in writing. If he takes your son out of state without your permission, contact your local police and advise them of the situation. It is not necessarily kidnapping unless he does not intend to return with your son when his time for visitation is over.\n\nYou really need to pose this question to your local police department. If the police won't help you, or answer the question, you need to talk to a lawyer in your area that deals with child custody issues.\n\n"Parental child abduction, in simple terms, is the permanent removal of a child from their place of habitual residence (the place where their life is established) by one parent, without the permission of the other parent. A common parental child abduction scenario involves a divorced parent who lost a child custody battle. Depending on the laws of the country the child has been taken from, this may or may not constitute a criminal offence. From the UK, to remove a child for a period of 28 days or more without the permission of the other parent (or person with parental responsibility), is a criminal offence.\n\nSerious problems can arise when parental abduction results in moving a child, with a parent, across an international border. The laws of the states are different, and a foreign child custody order may not be recognized.\n\nThe Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction is an international treaty and legal mechanism to recover children abducted to another country by one parent or family member. The United States signed this into law in 1988. Japan is the only G7 nation that has not signed this treaty into law."
968128
If they are in enough danger that they need a weapon, they should go to the police and seek protection.\n\nThe law errs in favor of the child seeking help. If you really know someone who is being abused to the point that they need a weapon, please call the police on their behalf.\n\n.
361151
Sorry but unless you called the police and reported the abuse when it was going on you are out of luck. Joint custody is the way it happens now.\n\nIf he is abusing the child and you can prove it (your word is not good enough) you can obtain supervised visits.\n\nIf you are not married and no custody order is in place move to another state
633215
Your story is very difficult to follow.  So, if I understand, this guy and his underage girlfriend want to take your daughter whenever they want.  Unless there is a court order you DO NOT have to hand your child over.  Especially to another child or CHILD MOLESTOR.\n\nSince he is 19 and she is 15, (and was 14), you could turn him in for the contributing to the delinquency of a minor.  And from what you said, she is delinquent.  He's just perverted.  You don't need him in the childs life.  Sue for child support and block his access to your child.  He seems to like them young.\n\nIf he gets help PROFESSIONALLY then maybe some time in the future he may have rights to visit his child.  But until you can insure the safety of the baby, keep him and that wacko girlfriend away.  Make this clear to the judge.\n\nGood Luck
153194
File a law suit against the Police agency right now for not doing a proper investigation prior to arresting your son. It's common in these cases that the police will just file a case without doing a good investigation.\nAlso file a complaint with your Local Dist. Attorneys Office on the Police Department and their not doing a proper case follow up, Make sure you also contact the State Attorney Generals Office and report the false charges.\nHave your son take a polygraph as well, even if you have to pay for it.\nIf contact was consentual and the girl has had prior sexual knownledge it also has bearing on the case as well.\nTalk to every boy she dated and have your attorney interview them.\n\nIt is better to spend the money now, than have a son as a registered sex offender.
1076798
Try to stay with some close friend or relatives.  Even if you don't have anyone that lives around you - contact your family that lives out of state and tell them your situation and that you need to get out.  Most people are pretty understanding when it comes to physical abuse -especially of a family member.  Stay with a family member for a while until you can get on your feet.  \nIt will be hard for you to leave, but if he's abusing you - you need to get out.  You don't want your daughter growing up thinking that what he does is ok, and you certainly don't want him hitting her.  Get in touch with any family you can and get out of there asap.
1016474
From experience.. she should call the cops, go to court and get a restraining(protective) order and in many cases relocate and do not for any reason call or contact this person. Guys like this mess with the victims head and make them feel guilty for things that they shouldn't.Guys that abuse make the victim scared, depressed, and feel terrible about themselves.It is hard to get away and the person needs much ,much support. It is very complicated but she needs to do the above then talk to a councilor at a domestic violence org.
962508
Well first I will comend you for taking care  of your grandchildren. It's not your place but you are good for doing it. Not to be harsh but it really sounds like your daughter is craving the wrong kind of attention from men. She needs a hard dose of reality that men like that are no good and often are the ones who are crazy. As for you and the children in your care i would seriously consider moving. However you can pretty much find anyone on the internet. It's a terrible situation you daughter has put you in. I dont believe the police will do anything unless he makes threats or actually harms you. The thing that sucks is the same basic rights protecting you are the same rights he has even though he is an abuser. IN ANY CASE if are afraid for your life or your loved ones I would still call the police and see what they can do. Because state laws vary i may not be accuate on what the police can or can not do. I'll say a prayer for you and I hope everything works out ok for yoy.