How soon is too soon to have your boyfriend move in with you if you have been in a long distance relationship?
480501
I have been wondering this myself.  You are so right, life isn't sure at all.  I have a lease where I am at until December and he has a lease where he is at until October.  ... I would like to buy a house in a couple of more years and I am not sure when it would be good for him to move in or if we will even still be an item.  It is just something out there.  Guess you just have to go with what you feel is best.
673619
i would move out, or move in with your boyfriend !
719510
If it were me, I would go on with my life when he leaves. If the two of you were meant to be together, then it WILL happen. If not, then you shouldn't want it to happen anyway. Two years is a long time to wait, and a lot happens in two years.....leave your options open. If it's meant to be it will!
860781
I've been with my guy for 4 years.  We started dating in college and so saw each other almost every day.  We did speak every day.  When we became more serious we would stay at one person's room at night so we could say goodnight and goodmorning and be together.  However, I now live far away from him and so we at least try to say hi every day but we only see each other once every couple months.
611817
I urged my friend not to move in with his girfriend, as they planned to get married, and they were only together for a year. I have been in this situation 3 times. It is not good for the relationship, and only a select few can handle this early living arrangement. He went ahead and moved in, because it was what she really wanted, and he has seemed depressed ever since. He can't focus when people are talking to him, and the money issues are putting a strain on their relationship. He came to me and told me that he wished he had listened, and that he was afraid that he would lose her soon. They had NEVER had a single fight, and now they fight frequently.\n\nIt does work, but I promise, if you wait until you're married, there will be a reason for you to stay together during the first and hardest year of living together. It is difficult and if you feel you would be able to handle it, and not get weird on your boyfriend, go for it.
809768
There is nothing wrong with it. Just remember that moving in together creates certain joint financial obligations; so make sure she is ready to commit financially and ethically/
754933
When you are not moving in for financial reasons of saving money.... Your moving in because you would like to start a life together...  Make sure you date for a year at least to make sure you can experience any red flags, ya know personality dis functions.
698114
I don't know how much this will help you but my girlfriend and I met and started dating almost instantly...thinking back it all happened so quick but it was so natural that we never had any problems.  She lived about 30 minutes away from me and I was in college and worked so it was hard but honestly, I would come home from work and could expect to walk in the door and see her every day (she had a key).  Two months after we met we moved in together and have been living together ever since.  We talk and spend time together every day.  I can honestly say that we have not spent more than 10 days apart from each other since we met 8 months ago and it has been amazing!
441615
Yes if I had reasons and opportunities there.\n\nIf this was someone I had known for a while, I could find a job there and had a reason to live there I definitely would.  But I would never move just for them.  It puts all sorts of extra stresses on the relationship, if the person coming doesn't have a job waiting, or living arrangements, or a real reason to be there other than that person.\n\nI can understand wanting to make a relationship work, and it won't while there's such a distance. However, just one sacrificing everything for the other, doesn't work.
893083
Long distance relationships are hard to maintain. I don't think there is a specific length of time you should wait because I don't believe you should wait at all. It sounds like you need to just live your life and not count on this fellow being "the one." Like my Ma used to say-"there are a lot of fish in the sea". If it is meant to work out things will progress but why not get to know someone who lives close. There is a lot to say for building a relationship based on spending time together doing things not just talking or e-mailing each other. LOL
534004
well the best thing to do is to move in with him or he will move in with u
124806
No long distance isn't easy, but it doesn't mean it won't work out for that reason. If he says he will visit every month then give him that chance. Let him get settled in first. My sister's bf lives in NY and we live in Mo. They have been together for a year.
245095
It depends on a lot of things and you didn't give any details. If you want to move to another state then go ahead and move. If you are only moving for your boyfriend then you have somethings to consider: Are you moving because this is the guy you want to marry or is this just a guy your not looking for that from? Will you have a job, be able to support yourself and get your own place? Does he want you to move with him? Do you have strong family and friends ties that you will be leaving? Are there children involved? Good luck with your decision.
748857
Well first of all I would almost bet that you will get some smart comment from someone cause of the fact that you met online, but I can relate to you in that way.  I met my current boyfriend online as well.  I live in NY for the time being because of acting and he's from MN, where I'm originally from.  We have made it a point to see each other as often as possible to make sure that we don't grow apart.  We talk on the phone quite a bit and everytime I feel like I might question the whole relationship, hearing him at the end of the day lets me know that it will all work out.  I think that it is definitely possible to make a long distance relationship work as long as you both want it, because when one person isn't fully in it then that's when things seem to go wrong.  I'll be back in MN soon and I'll still be about 4 hrs away from him but that's a lot close than 23-24 hrs.  I can handle that short distance and so can he. I know if you both want it and are really in love then it will work out how it is suppose to.
1115060
I would wait. Would you want him to wait on you? Six weeks isn't that long. Just while he's gone think about all the times you've had together, and what yall are gonna do when he gets back. Just hang around your girlfriends to make it a lil easier. Go shopping and do girl stuff. Think about him before you go to bed, and until you go to sleep..Do something extravagant before he leaves...Something you won't forget when he's gone, and that will remind you why you're with him. Oh! and he's gonna be around a lot of boyz anyway. believe me, when he gets back he's gonna WANT U! ha ha
824451
If it was a serious relationship involving love, there is no true time limit. It all depends on when your ready. I would say six months. You never know, but if you try going out and it doesnt feel right. You would know that means your not ready.
1009604
ok, i am in a LDR and its working great!! so, background-we were best friends for two years before we started dating...we would talk for hours every night and had been there for each other through everything! so four months ago, we decided to start dating....now he is in college an hour away so its been kinda tough, just because we miss seeing each other more often....but we both trust each other in everything and b/c our relationship is based on trust and communication, getting to kno each other via phone, etc, it has really been working out.......we call each other for everything and have gotten so much closer....plus it makes the times we get to see each other more special!! =D so it depends on the trust factor really, otherwise there is no relationship.....well, hope this helps!!