I recently got engaged and i need some ideas about how to tell my parents? I'm 18 by the way.?
475705
Assuming you're not pregnant, start with that. Good news helps soften people up.
534329
Well... your life is about to be changed big time!!!!  I was in your situation years ago... sick to my stomach about how i was going to tell my parents.  when i did the first question out of my Dad's mouth was what are you going to do? how are you going to support a baby?\n\nI think that is probably the biggest question from parents... how are you going to raise a child when you aren't even an adult? what happens when you don't have a boyfriend to help you??? what then? what happens in a few years? what are your plans?\n\nThinking back on those days I wish I had spent some time figuring everything out before I'd spilled the beans. Here is what I wished I had done...\n1.  gone to DSHS or family services or whatever it is called in your area for medical help, information on child care support, and assistance. then i would have known what support is available to me from the state.\n2.  i would have enrolled in school immediately and tried to get through some sort of certificate program. If I couldn't get into one because i didn't have a GED then I would have started on my plan to get the GED done immediately.\n3.  a plan for the future..... I know I want to be a ______(fill in the blank) and this is how I'm going to make that happen. If you want to be a dental hygenist, you know the technical college you can go to.  you've been there and talked to the counselors and they are helping you get going.  \n\nMy thoughts today are now that if I had shown I had a plan to take care of myself and my baby my pregnancy wouldn't have been such a hard hit on them... they would have thought and felt like I was atleast being responsible... even if it wasn't maybe so responsible to be pregnant as a teenager.  \n\nso, my suggestion is work hard on pulling your and your babies future together before he/she arrives. know that this future has to be independant of any boyfriend. jump into school right now! get a jump start because when your little one comes it is going to be much more difficult and expensive to be in school!!!! unless you want to live on minimum wage the rest of your life you need to go to school!\n\nnext...... go to a pro-life counselor and talk!!!! i'd love to chat more with you and even give you some ideas on your boyfriend. if you want to chat email me through here. good luck!
1161492
Can you get your priest or clergyman to help you?  Perhaps you could meet with him and your fiance and talk it out with him.  Or maybe a therapist?  \n\nGood luck, girl, and don't let your parents or your fiance talk you into something you don't want to do.  GOOD LUCK!
867464
Your relationship seems rock solid. Don't let anyone including your parents get in the way. Your parents care about you and want the best for you. They haven't taken your relationship seriously yet. Make your parents respect your relationship by investing more time in your relationship with your fiance and less with your parents. Show them you are perfectly fine on your own. Oh, by the way, marriage is cool too. Don't be afraid.
767631
Does it sound ok to you?\n\nNot to me it doesn't. Tell your parents
57978
OK, hon. First of all, you don't need to prove your love to him. No matter what anybody says. No matter who you date, they will never be good enough for mommy and daddy. (Unless they pick the person) Second, don't focus so much on love. Give it time. I don't know how old you are, and personally I don't consider it an issue. If you focus on love, you will be heartbroken if things don't work out. I'm not saying set your standards low. I am not saying don't love this person. What I am saying is spend time with him. Enjoy the relationship. Don't get married young. And for gods sake don't get married without first living with the person. People seem VERY different when you have to share space with them. Trust me about that one. Don't rush. True love doesn't need a wedding band. If you love someone, being with that person should be enough. Sex is nice, but even that isn't necessary. The company of your significant other is all that is necessary. If you two love each other than that is all that matters. Marriage and sex are over rated. (Sex is nice, but still over rated) If you love him then your parents will eventually come to the realization that he is sticking around. They will either come to accept it, or they will disown you. I know this. I have been married. I was only 19. I told my parents the day before. At first they accused me of being crazy. They made some pretty insulting comments, and I told them to go fuck themselves. They learned to accept my wife and even grew to like her. You are your own person. Heres a motto that my stepfather taught me. "If you don't fuck me, feed me, or pay my bills......Go fuck yourself!" Your family is an important part of your life, but you didn't choose them. You were born with them. You couldn't change who they were. Your boyfriend is somebody that you chose to bring into your life. Your parents should respect your decisions. And if they think you are a fool for being with him...... remind them of who taught you. What examples did you have to follow. They are the 2 biggest influences in your life. Whether you know it or not. Everything that you have witnessed from them as a child has molded you to be the person that you are today. Everything from not enough hugs to the overprotectiveness. They have made you who you are. If they are unhappy with that, then they should try to do a better job next time.
880038
TELL YOUR PARENTS THAT YOU LOVE THEM VERY MUCH AND WILL NEVER GO AGAINST THEIR WISH AND ALSO TELL THEM YOU LOVE YOU BF VERY MUCH AND CANT LIVE WITHOUT HIM....YOU WILL NOT MARRY ANYONE ELSE ,,,AND YOU WILL STAY UNMARRIED IF YOU HAVE TO FOR YOUR PARENTS.....TRY THIS IN THE END YOUR WISH WILL BE GRANTED..BEST OF LUCK...
171988
You didnt say how old are you, and what you mean about privacy and life by your own.\nYou have to talk, talk and talk, comunication is the tool to get everything you need. But to talk, comunicate and convince others you have to have very strong arguments.\nAnd as you want them to understand you and think about you, you have to understand them and think about them for a while, parents will be parents for their whole life, and you will be their baby, it doesnt matter how old you are, how independent you have became, or how strong you feel. \nGive them information, so they can feel the security that you will be ok, and that you can deal with the problems and issues you find in your way; so they can let you go easier. \nRemember they do whatever they do, because they love you so much, that you can't imagine, you will figure it out when you become a mother.
248374
That depends.  Do you have an idea as to how they will react?  If you think they'll be okay or just a little weirded out, tell them when you feel comfortable.  If they are strict and really religious and you can see them having a huge issue with it, wait until are, or close to 18.  That way you have the option of moving out or at least being an adult where they can't control your life so much and you can make your own choices.  \n\nIts scary, but now days they have church camps where they claim to 'cure gay teens'.  If you think your parents are that exreme, it might be good to wait.  Coming out can be scary, but be strong in yourself and who you are.  And always remember there is nothing wrong with you no matter what others may say.
1185996
screw them. hah. it's about your fiance, not their parents especially if they're not even worth it. and i say be bold, just say thanks for having a great son. done!
1051102
Talk to his parents???
446031
It would depend on your relationship with your parents.\n\nDon't tell them if you don't want to, if your reasoning for telling them is because they expect it regardless of your wishes. If you feel compelled because you have an open relationship and share things like that then maybe you should tell them.
361709
Please tell them what you wrote.  They should want this day to be the most wonderful day for you.  Yes most parents want a say in it and because they pay for it they expect it. But who planned their wedding???  Our parents planned ours and I regret it still many years later.  Tell them this is our day, we value your opinion and will compromise as best we can but we want it to be special for us.  Tell them you will pay for or whatever it takes.  If there are parts that you can agree on let them pay for that.
572577
The two of you married in front of a judge in Feb.? You must be in a state that allows marriages around 17. I really don't see how you two got married without parents finding out. Seems you both are not serious about this marriage and was to young to start with since the way you put it that you might get back together. My advise is talk with your parents about this...
685655
yes it's wrong! you shouldn't have to be afraid of telling them! You married your husband not his parents! if they don't want to accept that,then it's their loss!
134494
Congratulations for starters.  People are very quick to be negative these days...so most people believe that your marriage will fail.  What is the fun in trying to be positive?  I believe that as long as you and your fiance truly love each other and realize that you are making a life long commitment you will make it through life just fine!  My parents got married when they were 19 and 20(because my mom was prego with my sis), and they will be celebrating their 25th anniversary this May.  No marriage is all kittens and cuddles...you will have ups and downs...and honestly it will probably be a WHOLE lot of downs that first year.  Just make sure you stick it out...ad always remember why it is that you got married!  I hope that you have a wonderful life with your husband!
1094625
Tell them you will get great training and it is a way to make a great life for yourself and a future for yourself and if you plan on getting married down the road a furture for that person also.  Being in the military takes a lot of pride and if it is something you want to do then you need to do it if your parents don't want you to.  When you graduate basic training and AIT they will be proud of you, then you will have accomplished something not everyone can do.\n\nMy husbands family didn't want him to join either, now they are very proud of the things he has accomplished, they even went to his graduation.