how do i get my husband to love me more i feel that he is not in love with me any more?
353822
YOU don't. You start with you. Like yourself, in fact love yourself. No one will see any value in you if you can't see it in yourself. Since you are young and have your whole life ahead of you I will tell you a secret. You will have many loves, and they all will be special. To focus on a single individual at this time in your life will let much of life slip by. You want to get as much out of life as you can, every day. So go out there and make all the friends you can; soon enough love will come around.
903717
If you feel uncertain, then ask him. If he says he loves you then take it at that and don't look so deep into things.  Constantly questioning a mans love shows insecurity and that can push them away. I am 27 have been married for 7 years tomorrow and have 3 kids with the same man and I have gone thru my insecurities and I have learned FINALLY to be secure with myself and not only to I turn my husbands head ALL the time, but others as well....Confidence can be the best strength a person has!
35982
Absolutely.  At some point in your marriage you guys have started growing apart.  You need to start taking a proactive role in fixing it, because it won't get better on his own.\nCommunication is key.  Make sure that your husband knows how you feel.  Check some books out from the library on marriage, and read them together.  Perhaps you could get some counseling together where an outside party can help get the communication going.  \nGood luck to you.
1158983
Talk to your hubby and tell him how you feel.  It's natural for couples to "woo" eachother when dating - doing things the other person likes and what not, thats natural, it's compromise.  What you can both do now is communicate and find things to do together.  Find a hobby you both like and go for it.  You can also both compromise from time to time and do something that your spouse really enjoys but maybe you don't like so much.\nThe key is communication - let him know how you feel and that you miss doing things together.
816869
Hi, has he always been like this or is it just the spell you've been arguing.\nMarriage is hard work and needs constant nuturing from both sides to feel loved by the other side.\nSome people (men and women) have difficulty in expressing themselves, is this your husband?\nIf so, maybe you accepting this as him and noticing the other ways he does express love will help, but there is nothing like a hug and hearing how we are loved so do understand where you are coming from.\nA husband and wife will either knit together over the years or move in opposite directions (like my ex and I) but for it to work you must be moving in the same direction. \nTalking to him and continuing to express yourself, your love is all you can do really, and hope he hears you before you change, because you will in time.\nMaking time for those special moments will also help, there is always another little trick we can pull out the hat to surprise him, reveal another mystery about yourself-try it-remind him of why he got with you. ;)\nJust keep trying until he either wakes up or loses out with the woman he fell for and married, I wish you both luck xxx
71552
In all honesty, just be blunt about it.  There is now reason why he shouldn't want to be with you.  I can relate to an extent because my wife wants it all the time all day and we have only been married for just over a year.  But I have been away from home the entire time and when I came home she made it sound like that is all she wanted out of me over the phone.  don't get me wrong I wanted it just as much, but just feeling like thats all she wanted made me feel less of myself.  \nI don't think you are in such a situation, but I still feel the best way is to come and say in.
251281
Okay, 1st of all feelings like that just dont go away so he probably still feels the same way he just stopped letting it show. and 2nd you need to tell him how you feel. Im sure he will be thrilled to hear it.
211675
I can relate to your question. Last week my wife of over 20 years told me that she was not in love with me anymore. She said she loves me but is not in love with me. I have spent some time in the local library doing some reading regarding relationships. I would recommend the same to you. What I have found is several things. 1st is communication you have to talk. 2nd look back at some of the things that made you a happy couple in the past and try and find out what has changed. 3rd if there are things about you that your husband is trying to change to make him love you than he doesn't... My issues are simple. my wife wants me to be something I am not. I am not her auto mechanic. I am not her errand boy and I am not her handy man. I told her that projects are fine if we do them as a team. but don't expect me to always mow the lawn, paint the house clean the garage clean the attic etc... We are a couple and couples do things together. maybe it's time to look at your relationship like your roomates? take equal responsibilities for what you have. Become an equal to him. If he is the bread winner then better yourself. Find a job that makes you more the equal. take on more responsibility. If the car breaks take it to the shop and get it fixed. Go out with him more often, take time to date again. Find things that you both have in common and do them. Find new things that you can do together...Relationships are an ever changing part of life so keep on living. if it alls fails then get out. Don't be miserable for the rest of your lives. Maybe read the book "falling out of love" read it from cover to cover. It's a short book follow the examples and see what happens.
90089
I feel for you! \nYour husband should undersatnd that without communication between you and him, things won't get better. He needs to open up and share his feelings. You will have to let him know how you feel about your relationship with him. Tell him how you hurt inside and you need his emotional and mental support.
594541
You may be drifting apart or his work is tiring him out and he de stresses at the Gym. You could go to the Gym with him? If he is not interested in this idea then ask him what else you two can do together, if he has no suggestions then you suggest something,  he may be phoning nightly as he could think you are no longer interested, you could also try the direct approach and ask him what his feelings are. if he still says he loves you then tell him that you feel neglected and what to spend more time with him
1010407
relax and give him some space. if a man feels smothered then he will leave you!
643456
you do not have to feel sorry you have to feel love....\ntake your time and make sure you know what you want and see if he is your future husband or not...\nif there is no way talk to him and do not let his crying stop you .... you might like to write a letter...\nbut first make sure you know what you are doing.....you do not want to be sorry later\nand just a note that your relationship now and your future marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.
477375
Sweetheart, you are getting a lot of advice.  Filter it carefully - including mine.\n\nIt's obvious that you care about your husband a great deal. What happened?  When did he start to mentally check out on him?  Are you two still interested in the same things?  \n\nThis happens a lot when husbands hit depressions and just don't know how to deal with.  Or there is unresolved conflict that is brewing underneath the surface.\n\nRemember that there is always a root.  You need wise counsel now.  Does he still love crawling in the sack, mounting you and rolling off going to sleep?  Because if he does, you need to have "the talk" with him after you screw him to the Third Heaven.  \n\nCommunication is the lifeblood of the relationship.  If you fear that you will be too emotional when you talk to him, write him a letter not accusing him (e.g. You should do something and you don't), but using the "I" language (e.g. I love it when you hold me or when we go for walks. Can we go this afternoon, etc.) \nattach it to a G-string with your best perfume and put it with his lunch or coat pocket...\n\nI don't know how long you've been married.  You also need to arm yourself with knowledge.  The book "His Needs, Her Needs" is an excellent start.  E-mail me if you would like a list of other resources.
555009
I understand. My husband was like that with me , but he soon saw that i just don't eat as much as he does. Tell him that you love him but you don't need to eat all the time. You have no problem with how much he eats so he should not have a problem with how little you eat. Stay strong and stand your ground.
402326
If your wife is acting like she doesn't care for you anymore then you need to sit down and have a talk.  Tell her that you are feeling like things are changing between you to and state your feelings towards her.  Ask her how she feels about you and if things have changed.  If she is losing interest in you then ask her if she would like to work out the problems she is having with you.  If she wants to move on then let her and you then do the same.  You nay have grown apart and their might be nothing you can do at this point but communication is a great start.
1107585
Just tell him. He's your husband..You should be able to know how to tell him in such manner where not to hurt his feelings.
492792
Tell him how you feel. If he doesn't feel the same, then tell him you need to walk away from the situation because you're too emotionally invested for it to continue the way it currently is.