I'm 21 year old student and I still live with my parents but they treat me like a 12 year old.?
486937
Dont worry - you could be thirty and living by yourself and they will still treat you like you are 12. Thats something parents do :)\nDont worry - move out when you can and move on. Love and respect your parents but sooner or later, you need to take responsibility for your life
145398
r u 18 yr. old or older? if so why dont u just leave town and let them adults deal with each other? u can get urself a career change in a new town and everything. if ur under-age u need to be open and honest with them both about how this makes u feel. if nothing else you can say you wanna live with ur grandparents or something.
910513
your parents probably have a mountain of bills to pay....mortgage or rent, car repayments/ maintenance/ rego/ insurance/ petrol...health insurance,school fees,school uniforms,council rates,dental/medical bills,phone bills,internet bills, electricity, food,entertainment, etc etc etc...ooooh and clothes for the whole family!\n\nwhat you need to say to your parents is :\nMum? Dad?...I need to find a part time job so I can help out with the family finances (25% of my take home pay after taxes) then I can spend the rest on jazzing up my wardrobe or window shopping with my mates then we have a coffee afterwards and spilt a serve of french fries
199438
my dear . . . I am soooo sorry.\n\nYour mother is being a jealous . . . possessive b****.\n\nMost parents want their children to succeed . . . but there are a rare few . . . that will try to hold their children back because they don't want them to do better than they have.\n\nWhat is your plan regarding college . . . will you be moving into a dorm.  Probably getting a part time job . . . did you get a scholarship?  The best thing for you . . . is to get out of that negative environment.  I know it is scary . . . but you can do it . . . and you should do it.\n\nIf you are unable to move out . . . just reply back to her . . . just because I am trying to do something better in my life . . . which you could not do yourself. . . either . . . encourage me or butt out . . . because I won't quit and I don't want to be a loser like you.\n\nWell maybe not in those exact words.  But I think you get my meaning.\n\nTake care of yourself.
541428
Wait until you get a little older and show your parents some responsibility....\n\nYou could also offer to pay for them
922558
Do what you want its your life!\nYou are still young dont limit yourself im sure you could be anything you wanted. Do somthing you enjoy doing.\nIm sure your parents just want you to be healthy and happy anyway.
904676
I think that you should respect your parents call on this one hun...sorry.  You are only 13, and your parents love you and are protecting you from experiances that you are not yet ready to handle.
715539
You are 24 and living at home still.  You hint that you are still home because your moving out would make parents unhappy.  OK.  Will you still be living home when your parents die at 80?  You never plan to travel, marry, or have a life of your own?  Mommy will still be making your bed when you're 40?  Cutting your meat?  Buying your clothes?  Buddy, you need to grow up, move out, and live like an adult.  Otherwise, you'll never have a life.
1043002
If he still lives at home with his parents, then they are treating him like a kids still, and he cant grow up emotionally and socially.\n\nPeople who live with thier parents at a longer age than is necesary, are handicapped by them.  Its not intentially, but, it happens every time I see it.\n\nWhen he is emotionally ready to get out on his own, look for him then, until then, I would give him space because he isnt going to mature with you around, because he has that social crutch at home...\n\nI wish you well..\n\nJesse
1170731
Well, it would help to know your age (to see if it is an ongoing longterm problem or new behavior on their parts), and whether your goals are realistic, which I can't know without knowing you.  However, a general answer to your question is:  first of all, you shouldn't have to GET your parents to care...they should ALREADY care.  The problem is...maybe they do, and it's just in a form that you don't like.  You can do two things to improve this situation.  First, work like crazy to prepare for the future.  That means doing as well as you possibly can in school, and showing your maturity by living up to whatever responsibilities you have at home and/or work.  Second, speak calmly and candidly with your parents and tell them exactly what you've told me.  It sounds like you have a real passion for these areas, and that can be a wonderful gift.  Remind them that the great person you are came from them, and that you need their help and support to become the adult you were meant to be.  Don't be nervous, remember to breathe and hold your head up.  You have potential, and it's your job to sell that idea to your parents.    One more thing...they may be afraid of the time you might step out on your own.  That's natural, but it is their job as parents to prepare you to leave the nest, it's not their job to guilt you into staying close for their comfort if that is not the right thing for you.  Reassure them, and trust that with your conduct you can convince them when you are ready to fly.  Give it your best...and you will do fine.  All good wishes to you.
966144
Wow.  I'm in the same situation. \n\nThe only things I suggest are...\n-try to be more mature: maybe they'll feel that you're more responsible and let you have a bit more freedom\n-Be nice (actually):  maybe if you do what they want (ex: good grades, homework done on time, no whining..etc) they would feel proud for you, and give you some kind of reward\n-interact with them more often:  no matter how relentlessly boring or painful this might be, getting to know your parents is a big thing.  After all, they're not going to be with you the rest of your life - they just give you the start.  If you learn what they are like, maybe they would learn more about you.  Then they might know your need for something and let you do it, for it's very important to you.  And anything important to you that is completed, would make you happy.  And parents want their kids happy.\n\nIt's a whole cycle.  \nGood luck!
459145
You can't do anything in regards to your parents. BUT I say stay in school get educated and then move out on your own. If your father is wrong then give your mom support. And right now, from what you have supplied here your dad is dead wrong.
693524
THIS DOES NOT BOTHER ME AS YOUR PARENTS ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING BUT TRYING TO GET THEIR CITIZENSHIP.  YOU WILL UNDOUBTEDLY DO THE SAME.\n\nYOU HAVE GOTTEN AN EDUCATION AND ARE BECOMING A PRODUCTIVE MEMBER OF SOCIETY.\n\nGOOD FOR YOU!!!!\n\nKEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!
518724
Hey Me.... I am a mother and would feel very hurt if my child didn't tell me what was up and ran off with a 21 yr old. May I suggest that you sit down and talk with your parents. Yes they may be upset at first, but their your parents and will love you reguardless. Here is something else to think about. When I was your age I was head over hills for a man 7 yr older than me. I dated him for a year and realized that I wasn't in love with him, but liked his company because he listened to me when I thought my parents weren't. When it turn out they were. Then I met this cool guy my age and we dated all through highschool. So if you will take a suggestion from a mom..don't rush into anything take your time, because you never know a cool girl your age may come along that you relate to.
960131
Sorry, honey, they are your parents. Obey them. It sucks, lots of things in life do, but there will always be rules set by those above you, and, sadly, you must follow them.\nNo one ever said life is fair.
892262
FIRST OF ALL I HOPE YOU ARE A RESPECTABLE AND RESPONSIBLE 21 YEAR OLD !!!\n\nHAVE AN IN DEPT TALK WITH YOUR PARENTS; COVER THE TOPIC OF TRUST !!!\n\nSHOW THEM AND TELL THEM THEY CAN FULLY TRUST YOU !!!\n\nBUT DON'T EVER FAIL THEM OR YOU'VE RUINED IT FOREVER !!!\n\nGOOD LUCK TO YOU !!!
136890
Listen and respect your parents. Get a nose ring when you're over 18, have a job and your own bills.