I found out that my girlfriend secretly posted an ad online to talk to other men, is that considered cheating?
493613
not yet but it will probably start to be cheating soon enough
590741
i dont think it's cheating too\naccording to your story, you didnt do it on purpose, even if you were a bit over the line, but still i believe it was the alcohol effect =)\nif your boyfriend is understanding and open-minded about this issue, tell him asap before he hears it from someone else and tell him that you're sorry\ngood luck =)
923661
This is a very touchy situation and should be handled delicately. Easily, both ends of this scenario can be seen. If you tell her, you'll probably lose him as a friend and she'll either be in denial and/or be mad at you. If you don't tell her, and she finds out anyway (which she will eventually) then finds out that you knew--you'll lose her as a friend. There are endless possabilities as to how it will play out--tell or don't tell--for either. If you truly think that he'll never do anything like cheating again, and they're happy, then that's great. But if he is the type that could cheat again, maybe her knowing now would save her more heart ache and pain down the road...\n\nYou mentioned that he said it was over with the girl, right? Now, did you beleive him when he told you this? You know him, was he being honest about it? Do you see this guy 'checking out' and flirting with women often?  Do you think that he would cheat on her again, period?  Ask yourself these questions, and it should help in your decision.  But, since none of 'us online people' truly know your friends, it would be extremely hard for us to answer the question for you. You are the one who knows them both personally, and it's up to you to sit down and evaluate the situation, taking the people themselves into account. We all have our opinions, and anyone answering this will give you theirs. (that's why we're here I guess--answer truthfully to the best of our abilities and all that) \n\nBest of luck to you, and remember that whatever decision you  make will be the right one!!
971363
OMG. there are millions of resons to hach. You can get stuff, see if you girlfriend is cheating on you
172241
Seems to me that she wants you herself. I think that you should not tell her. It's any of her business, unless you want her to know. Why would you sit and discuss the way you please your girl in bed? Thats invading privacy. Maybe she wants to join. If i was your girlfriend, and she asked you that, your friend would have some problems with me. That is disrespectful. DO NOT TELL HER ANYTHING. Respect your girl.
500766
No, you could throw a big rock in the road.. Plenty of people still see other people on the side when the relationship is still new. There are no rings at that time. And, honestly, if it were me (being the girlfriend) I would not want to know. Not only could it break my heart, but it could cause me to be not trusting toward you. As long as your serious about her now, and you love her and you KNOW you'll never ever cheat on her. Leave it alone, and enjoy your new life together :-)
261032
You've blown it man. She won't trust you now. Let this be a learning curve.\nBelieve me, you have more fun keeping your mouth shut.
479545
I am concerned over the fact that he doesn't want her to say anything to anyone.  To me, that screams out that he has another girlfriend.  Sounds like he is cheating on another girl...there is no other reason to keep their relationship secret.
462614
You have to keep in mind that "cheating" is defined by the people involved. A better question would be "does she consider it cheating?" or "Based on what I have told her regarding the status of our relationship (whether or not we are exclusive, or exclusive to the sex of the person - no more than 1 gf or 1 bf, or whatever you all have discussed) would she consider it cheating?" She may or may not. She is who you should be asking, only she can decide. By definition monogamy is one person, not one person - per sex. So if she feels you are in a monogamous relationship, you may need to redefine what your relationship is. Your relationship, both of you could decide, is really where you all do whatever you want with guys however are faithful to each other. It is, what you both can agree that it is. Honesty is always the best policy.
114038
Seems like you don't trust him already, or you wouldn't be checking out his web history. You either have reason not to trust him, or you are unable to trust other poeple because of your own problems.\n\nThat said, there is no way those sites could just appear in his history without someone visiting them using his computer. Make absolutely sure nobody else used it before accusing him. Maybe you should both go to couples' counseling if you are having major trust issues.
728392
You can see if he's online if he has his settings for that.  You can't see who he's chatting with.  Why would you want to invade his privacy like that?  If you're romantically interested in him and you're afraid he's chatting with other women, then you need to move on.  Suspicion is no way to start a relationship, or even a friendship for that matter.
676177
it sounds like she takes you for granted. And even though you wont listen to this.. you had nothing to do with her cheating on you. She feels she is missing something. We cant control what someone else does, and contrary to everyones opinion.. it is not a reflection upon us when someone decides to do something for themselves. I am so sorry to hear she did this to you. You do need to sit her down and talk with her. Maybe you guys can work through this, maybe not. But you wont know until you communicate. Good luck :)
304549
I had just cheated my girlfriend with another chick so afterwards I sent an sms supposedly to that chick telling her not to tell my girlfriend but instead i sent it to my girlfriend !
464869
Women can play games just like men do.  You always hear the women complain and tell stories of their husbands and boyfriends sneaky affairs but men don't have this happen as often to them.  But sounds to me like she was just playing a game and in her eyes winning.  No it is not wrong for you to not want to converse with her and you should not feel that you have to.  Simply say, After what happened between us I have been left with questions in my mind and have chosen that the best thing for me to do is not talk to you, so if you would please don't talk to me anymore it makes me feel uncomfortable as I just don't trust you.  Harsh, but can be done.
405655
If you know his name, then you know he's on the sites, right? If you know why are you still with him. Obviously he doesn't respect you enough to pull his profiles from those sites. If he saw the relationship lasting he wouldn't have a need to further use these sites. For your happiness, ditch his cheating *ss!! Good luck!!
132223
Well you can ask her\nIf she cannot look you in the eye when she answers you...\nsomething is up. She might not be cheating, but she could be thinking of finding someone better...and you are sensing that. Or you really have a problem, it is innate in you!\nHow many girlfriends did you think possibly cheated on you?\nIf it more than 5 then you are being paranoid! There is no way ALL five of them cheated on you! Its just not a statistic! So maybe that is why your relationship will not last. But if she is cheating, then try to meet her in places you know she will be, to watch her reaction. OR you could get a *stranger* to ask for her number and set her up.\nBUt this is very wrong! So please try to trust her...maybe that is why you are sensing her losing interest. If I had a BF who wondered about me, eventually I would cheat just to shut him up!
1068954
if it was an innocent message to a guy, she wouldn't care if you saw her doing it or not.  for her to want to hide it, means that its more than nothing.  she might just be in the beginning and just talking to the guy or she might be in a full-fledged affair.  whichever it is, she's definitely doing something she shouldn't.