How can I make myself love the man i have two kids with?
476541
The two of you need weekends away. I don't know your financial status but I would suggest getting out of town. You don't have to go far and it doesn't have to be expensive. Just include new sights and sounds and feelings and pleasures. You could even do that in your own home if you can't afford to get far away.\nDon't go to Vegas or other places that have too many distractions. This is time for you two to be together and talk and re-light that candle of passion and love
414652
Just be honest and tell him how it makes  you feel. You deserve to be treated better than this. You may have children to take care of, but Im pretty sure you can do this on your own. You are right...it isn't good for the kids to see this. They need to know love.
126755
I want to have a happy family with a loving husband and beautiful kids.
528211
wow.  I can't believe you would separate yourself from your kid.  I want to be around my kids all the time.  Sounds like you are being selfish.  You must see your kids as being too much work, so you send them off half way around the world.  Maybe you shouldn't breed anymore.  Save the little love you have left for the 18 month old.
501597
You can find real love at ANY age. It doesn't matter the age or that you have 3 lovely children that you obviously care a great deal about. I think it will be easier for you to find someone who also has children of his own because he will be better able to understand the responsibilities of having children and how to deal with them. Good luck to you!
249513
I understand your feelings.  Talk to Hubby about it.  Make him understand how it makes you feel.  He should be willing to help with your feeligns.  Some compromise is in order.  Because of the kids, they inlaws will be a part of your life, but how much a part is something you two can discuss.  Sounds to me like he can give a little, and you can as well.  Good luck!
610096
Well i don't think you can if the one you love is in a war..\n\nWhat i would suggest is like they did back years ago is when he was deployed others went with he company.\n\nThere where many wife get with some to help pass the time you all can become a big family.\n\nShopping without the kids :~)\nCook outs with the kids\nSwimming with the kids\nParks with the kids\n\nWish him a happy and safe return!!!!!!!!!
270653
Morally, you are obligated to tell him.  This child is not just your child.  This is something you both created.  You must BOTH make some life changing choices.\n\nAbortion to me is totally out of the question.   I think the baby needs a chance at life rather you can do it or not, there are many families willing to adopt.\n\nMy preferance is this:  If you are old enough and both of you love each other for what is inside, then get married and start a real life for this child.  ALWAYS communicate, and NEVER goto bed mad.  Even if you have to be the first one to appoligize.\n\nNow if he is not man enough to take on the responsibility, then maybe your parents can help you make the choices you need to make.\n\nGood Luck!\nJames McDowell\nFather of 3 wonderful kids. (I was once in your shoes)\nMarried to thier mother for almost 17 years.
63838
Tell him just the truth... that you're going on with life and that he can't be your "partner" anymore, but he'll always be the kids' dad, and that the two of you need to get clear about that so you can keep doing right by the kids. Then keep writing him about the childrens activities, send pictures of the kids that you are not in, and simply don't reply to any romancing he tries to send your way...make the kids the focus of every letter.\nGood luck.
609759
Well you need to let him know all these feelings you are having.  He needs to pull his weight around the house; afterall, it took the two of you to have the kids, it takes the two of you to raise them.  He isn't doing anything and needs to.
39998
Just be completley honest and open with your man and tell him how you feel and ask him questions that are on your mind such as how he feels, if he agrees, or is he upset. Be very sweet and word things nicely with out affending him or blamming him for anything. When you decide on your decision you both should talk to your children about it cuz it will effect them too. Kids are smart and catch on fast!
543376
Find a good time to tell him how you feel..Sometimes they dont realize how their career affects a family situation..You cant actually change a person you can only try to influence them for the better..Its up to them to take it to heart..Hopefully he will see your side of this and comply to your wishes for the kids sake..good luck!
151130
this is tough. Your only get one soulmate in a lifetime. Both of you though have families. You said you live with your childrens father you didnt say husband or boyfriend so is it that you live together but you are not together? this is really something you and your soulmate need to dicuss if this is how both of you feel. It's a tough thing. You having to choose with taking care of responsibility to your children and he to his wife or do you stay true to your heart and be together  and get through everything together. It is really something both of you have to discuss. Sometimes a person makes a mistake and marries someone they may care for but who isnt their soulmate. So both of you do need to talk and decide what you will choose to do. It is a tough choice but that is also how you know if its meant to be because if this is something you can get through than you know you made it. I wish you the best and may you recieve your hearts desire.
246552
I feel for you, thats a tough spot to be in. However any man who doesn't want to get close to your kids isn't worth your time no matter how great he treats you. It might be a sign that he doesn't want to commit as much as you want.... any man who truely loves you would want to be part of your life in everyway, and your kids are a big part.
1146049
You're joking, right? You are definitely not asking too much for your man to spend the little free time you both have without the kids together. Are you set on going out or could you perhaps "ramp" him into spending time together starting with an intimate evening at home? Next time you can remind him you two stayed in for him last time so it's his turn to accommodate your wishes.
517678
I would. I will do anything for my daughters and my son and I know there is no chance of us getting together. Now, I know that's not what you meant, but the type of love you have for this person needs to change to the same type of love that you would have for your family members. I say that because I don't want you to miss out on having someone love you the way you love them and it sounds like you love this person very much to put their happiness over your own. But don't you think there is someone out there that deserves that type of love? And more importantly, don't you think you deserve to be loved like that? Continue being there for this person, but keep your eyes open for that other person out there that's waiting not only for your love but to love YOU in return....
1040106
Loving them and simply hugging them almost everyday since birth make our relationship really great.  I always tell them that i love them so much and they know it because they see it and they surely feel it with my kisses and touch. The level of relationship that you and your children have can be determined thru the respect and love you give each other and most of all thru the understanding you find with each other for each other which others actually don't know.