Do you think sex is abused?
483216
The bible says that pretty much having sex other than when you are married, and strait, it's wrong.
904912
Some do.  I don't know how often this happens.  I think it is inflated somewhat by TV and movies.  But, I know several women who were little more than 'conquests' by insensitive men.\n\nI personally do not think I have every USED a woman for sex.  I have had 'casual' sexual relationships, before I was married, though they were mutual.  \n\nAnd, don't think this is a one way street.  I know of many instances of women using men for sex.  Yes, it is less common, but more common than you might think.
520937
I agree. I'm reading posts on here from kids the age of my little sister. If I ever found out she was having sex, I'd end up beating up the guy and locking her in her room. It's so sad, can't kids be kids anymore?
971177
LOL,..I have been there.... she was abused as a kid.... if not outright sexually then by the culture's judgments and shaming of sex. Anyway it feels like she wants you to read her mind, right........ well, it does not matter what you do, you wont get it right,,,,,,it is how she wins.....if you force her she will be very angry, if you do not she will grow bored of you and treat you like you are weak.......but her fantasy is to be taken by force.......she does not want to feel responsible for the guilt invoked by her own pleasure. .. Her desire to be abused is probably driving her mad.
999085
"most" people..i dont think so.. just "a lot" of people.. my mom finally divorced my dad when I was 9.. but until I was 9 I had to watch him beat her up a few times a week.. it's emotionally scarring and totally unacceptable and my SO knows that if he touches me that way once it's over.
793534
All I have to say is that in today's world, most males think it is mandatory for the females to go down on them even if there's no returning the favour... This is a major misconception, and I usually steer clear of those types of abusive males.\n\nIn my life, I believe in doing only what you want and what makes you feel good. If someone wants to go down on you, then great; all the best! If you feel like going down on someone then great too! But I don't believe in giving in to pressure, either direct on inderect, simply in order to "fit in" or "be accepted" or by fear of being ignored or whatever. \n\nIf I want to go down on a man, I will and he'll know it.... But if he tries to convince me and starts to to hint at forcing me or that it's like "my duty" that f*ck him; he's a selfish pr!ck who doesn't even deserve I give him an oral treat! \n\nBut again, in today's world, I see alot of younger women who give in to this type of male abusive b*llsh!t, and it's very very sad that they do give in, because it's just another way of the males to exert control over females... \n\nWell that doesn't work with me!
210401
Absolutely.  Sex is as much an emotional experience as it is a physical one.  If a man is under a lot of stress sex is not going to be the main thing on his mind.  You may have to spend a little time getting him worked up and making him think more about sex than his problems.
663685
No, some men and women in the "adult entertainment" industries have a low self-esteem or poor self-image and are trying to compensate.\n\nOthers are fueled by drug or alcohol abuse and turn to self-exploitation for money.\n\nAnd still others are quasi-emotionally intact individuals who see their profession as "empowering" or as exciting.\n\nThere are some individuals are were abused, and feel their self worth is based off being objectified or used sexually.  But I wouldn't say *all* of them were.
532105
I concur with your conclusions.  I had sex before I was of age. some of that sex was with a man who was of age.  I pushed myself on him. It was MY decision.  No one has the right to take that away from me, no matter what the law says now.  I am disgusted that the legal system thinks it should be able to double guess me or anyone else.\n\nRegards,\n\nReynolds Jones\nSchenectady, NY\n\nPS  The gentleman has now communicated with me.  He was 17 at the time of the encounter -- which is legal in nearly all states (Age of Consent averages 16, NY is 17, a couple of states actually are 18) this means the sex was legal, but the porn may not have been.\n\nRJ
1114030
Probably not 'most people' but certainly quite a few . \nI would say the problem is not very often due to physical weakness, but mainly can be put down to upbringing, some may have been taught that sex is only for 'true lovers' or it's not a very nice thing to do or even shouldn't be discussed.\nSome people may have had a very 'off putting' sexual experience!\nSo mainly it's all in the mind and having a really good chat with someone you trust could sort it out!!
103541
Causes of sexual abuse could be alcoholism, poverty, low standard of living, mental problems, foster care...  These are possible causes for the people performing the sexual abuse.  The victim is never at fault for their abuse.
1092547
I have been there. My ex-wife accused me of abuse..the part she didn't tell was she had a boy friend and she wanted lot's of $$$$.\nThank God she didn't win..it was thrown out of court..I wish I had it on video tape. She became confused in her story. I could have got some very serious time in jail. I could have sued the hell out of her..but I let it go
534347
I do believe so....rape is not just about sexual intercourse...It  has much to do with ego,rage and feelings of inferiority. Both sexes are capable of rape. Rape is not always violent in the physical sense but it is always violent in the emotional and spiritual sense
175942
Child abuse, in the sexual sense, hardly exists. Beattie is \nlighting a beacon of truth that may flush out the hypocrites and perverts who bridle and scream about child sex abuse.  They are the same ones who are behind the "human traffic" myth. Girls busted for whoring will almost always say they were deceived : that they were told they'd be working as waitresses etc. This is a self=protective lie.    If a child or a prostitute gets involved with the law, the easiest and safest way for them is to blame someone else, and those who do so get all the publicity.\nUnfortunately, some children are assaulted  with blows and other violence by drunken or frustrated parents.  This is real child abuse and should be severely punished.
229295
I didn't realize then, but I was abused sexually by my ex. I thought there was something wrong with ME.\n\nHe was always groping me whether I wanted to or not, even in front of our children. \n\nOf course there was more things, but whether being abused sexually or physically, I'm glad I'm out of his clutch.
71267
sick of it\n\nreport this sort of thing as abuse because it is
374323
I have had a sex addiction for many years. I dont understand how sex could ever ruin your life. Just be careful not to get anything that ajax cant wash off. Now that could ruin your life.