what do you do when you are in love with your best friend? opposite sex.?
492322
If the person is involved in a relationship at this time or you are, you should keep it to yourself.  If both of you are not in relationships, you should tell the person how you feel.  As best friends, you already have a great level of communication and the other person may be feeling the same way as you but is afraid to spoil your friendship.  You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.  You will still be friends no matter what and even if the other person doesn't look at you that way now, they may start to consider it and you may have a chance in the future.  Good luck!
136716
Pros & Cons:  List the good things about being with him and the negative things.  Which list is longer?  If the bad list is longer, then you've answered your own question: you need to move on.  If the good list is longer, you guys need to have a long, serious, open & honest convo soon.  See where he is and why its not you he loves.  You deserve to be loved honey.  Maybe youre not meant to be with him.  I know its easier said than done, but you need to take a step back from this situation and take a deeper look.  Imagine if your best friend were in this same situation:  What advice would you give her?
4939
You said you two were best friends. So you don't become best friends unless you have things in common. I say tell her how you feel and ask her. She might be wanting the same thing but waiting for you.
1124058
Well if your best friend is gay then that means you two dont really have much of a chance.  I guess i would tell him how you feel just to get it out in the open.  It may be easier for you to deal with it that way.  Even tho you may not ever get to be with him, he will still always be an important role in your life.  Boyfriends may come and go for both of you but you'll still always have eachother as friends.
583552
well if u really think that u love her u can\nand go speak with ur best friend and tell her that u love eachother and try to make him understand it \nGood luck
479659
Does the guy know how your best friend feels about him? If he does, he's made his choice.\n\nTry to put yourself in your friend's shoes, and give her some time to cool off. If the roles were reversed, you might be upset for a while too, even if she'd checked with you first. Meanwhile, do you know another guy you can introduce her to?
81376
Tell him you love him, respect your differences and don't try to change his beliefs to match your own.  And be prepared to lose your best guy friend, because once you become lovers it is very difficult to salvage the friendship if the relationship doesn't work out. Remaining friends after being lovers happens sometimes, but not often.
741601
Well, obviously it's weighing pretty heavily on your mind if you are actually having dreams about it.  I would suggest that you consider all the possibilities.  If you explore your feelings with your friend, will it make things weird between the two of you if in fact they are not romantic feelings?  If so, you might want to consider just staying friends with her and preserving your "best friends" status for the rest of your life.  If, on the other hand, the two of you are confident that your status of "best friends" can withstand a possible break-up and hurt feelings, then I think you should explore the possibility further.  If you don't, you will always wonder in the back of your mind whether you made the right choice by ignoring the possibility of a romantic relationship with your best friend.  Remember, that most couples in lasting relationships will tell you that their husband, wife or partner is their best friend, lover, soul mate.  Perhaps (1) you have found your best friend, lover and soul mate in her.  Or, perhaps (2) the two of you will just become best friends with benefits.  Or, maybe (3) the whole thing will turn out to be a bad idea.  Two out of three of those possibilities aren't bad.  But one things for certain, you will never know until you try.  I suggest you go for it!\n\nBest of luck!
529659
you really have to ask her what's the deal with what happened.but since i assume that she's your bestfriend,then i say that don't let a guy come between friendship.no matter how much you love him.and IF she wants him for herself and she lets this guy come between the two of you, then later down the road you won't be the one feeling guilty about a guy possibly ruining a beautiful friendship.
699096
O god you poor thing this happened to me and the only thing i could do was try and get over him. If your friend likes him and he likes her chances are they goin to get together so you have to decide if you can support them and be happy for them and if not you should tell your best friend how you feel and see what she says.if she nos that if they got together it would hurt you she probably stay away from him. there are loads of lads out there who will love you back so try not to beat yourself up bout it
1157610
It must suck to be in this position.  If I were in this sticky situation, I would be too scared to tell my best friend that I'm in love with him/her.  But hey, it's not like your best friend in with anyone right now.  Technically, he/she is single.  You can try to make yourself more noticeable and drop a few hints how you feel.\n\nIf you're confident enough, it would be great to confess.  Don't worry, if you guys are best friends, it totally wouldn't ruin the friendship.  I've had two best friends who confessed that they liked me, but we were such good friends that we didn't let that affect our friendship.
133208
be a respectful man, and leave her alone if you will fall in love with her, if it is just friendship then take care of your and her feelings
1057777
It's so hard I know..I have been in love w/someone for about 4 years..my best friend...want her so bad...but it's not happening...so you choose your pain..be friends and love from afar...or just get away from the whole situation & move in different circles.
151532
when you love your best friend, you can assume it's a true love, because you really know him. You know his best and you know his worst, yet you still love... if it continues to relationship, it will be a smooth journey.\nHowever, if he doesn't love you back as much as you love him, that's when you have to try hard to keep the friendship as good as now, and this is the hard part.
1131122
What's wrong with liking him if you do?  I think that once you really get to know someone, you can't help  but love them to some extent.  My best friend in the world is a guy, and I love him.  It's hard sometimes, but you can't ignore the feelings, and nothing's going to make them go away.  It might help if you tell him how you feel.  If he likes you, then maybe you can hook up, or if he doesn't then maybe that'll give you some closure on the subject.
757658
Love is always tough, especially when it's one-sided. And when you add to that losing a best friend because of your genuine feelings that's doubly hard. \n\nBut it's not reasonable that your friend won't even talk to you. If she was as good a friend as you say she'd be able to get past it and still remain friends.\n\nI would suggest finding a good LGB support group near where you live.\n\nGood luck.
613912
Hi! That happened to me before, my male bestfriend was falling in love with me, everyone in our group knows about it and advising me that it would be better to have a boyfriend from the bestfriend level as it always works. But I kind of aloof everytime I know he might ask me a question, or something as I only want to remain friends. Because what I believe before, if we became boyfriends/girlfriends and split up, we might never be friends again, and I like having him as my best friend. I was a teenager back then. Now i'm 30 and he's now married. And I'm still single.\n\nLet her know how you feel when she's no longer in a relationship. Or if you can't wait that long, let her know now, who knows. She might be open minded about it and let you know how she feels for you.\n\nCheers!\n\nMitch