What are the best ways to deal with anger ' in the moment' ?
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Kick the nearest guy in the balls.\n\nSeriously...I find going out for a walk relaxing, and its good exercise.
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Don't counter-attack in the heat of anger.\n\nCool off and PLAN.  :-))\n\nAfter awhile, the enemy will not be expecting it.
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take martial arts like judo and karate and aikido.\nyou will learn to control yourself and your response to situations.\ntruly this is the key. \nothers recommend talk therapy, which might help,\nbut i think you also need to involve your body.\nthere's also something called bioenergetics that helps\nrelease a lot of anger.  you could try it.  kind of expensive.
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More than likely, someone or something is bothering you that you have been unable to resolve. If you can figure out what that is, you've solved half your problem. Try to find constructive ways to express your anger --- work out, play a sport, write letters to people your angry at (you don't have to necessarily send them or share them). Try to talk to a good friend who will understand if you are moody right now.
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I am practising not to be angry anymore...
242019
i was also like you. people say count numbers etc then also you cant but there is a way which i follow see when you get irritated by any thing or any body if they are in front of you, suddenly stop arguing with them and close your eyes and leave the place. and watch the things that you love and which you feel sensitive.hold them and sit in a no one place and watch the surroundings then your mind will not think about your anger imagine lovable things of yourself and inside you create some beautiful things surrounding, nature or god if you are religious, and remember you childhood days and  mischiefs etc try to make a smile on your face. you will forget you anger. i hope you will practice it. bi
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Beyond reframing the experience, the two anger management programs Lochman has worked on use three techniques to defuse anger once it develops. \n\nDistraction. "If you feel yourself start getting angry and recognize that it's a problem, you focus on something else, such as what you're doing later that day," Lochman says. The classic distraction, counting to 10, actually seems to work.\n\n\n"Self-talk" or "self-instruction" can be repeated silently, carrying a message like, "I'm going to keep cool, I won't let this person get me into trouble." Self-talk can act like a little recording, he adds. "We do role plays, they practice being taunted and teased." \n\n A limited version of relaxation technique. \n\nVR
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have you tried going to  a karate school, this is a good way, as it helps you master self control.plus you can kick a punch bag and vent your emotions that way.  Or, go for a long walk examine in you mind why who and what is upseting you and figure out ways of preventingthem from happening again.
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Have a candle-lit bath, with bubbles and candles, dim the lights and just soak. It's really relaxing, it may sound kiddish but it really works. After light some candles and insence and settle down on the couch and just take deep breathes and maybe watch some soaps or feel-good movies or chick flicks, not anything too dramatic and violent but something that you like and makes you feel good. Another thing is that you should do what you like! whats your hobby? for example, I love horsebackriding, so I might go on a nice peaceful trail in the woods  for an hour to calm down and realize life is a good thing. Or if your a painter, start painting! you could even make crafts, which actually allows you to express your anger on paper and your work, instead of other people and your mind, self confidence and yourself. Go scream on your pillow! if you just feel like screaming, go right ahead. Thats what I do when I'm frustrated angry and confused. It really helps get the stress out. You could bang stuff around scream and shout and tell everybody to just get away from you. We all understand. Or, what I do is put a favourite CD on and sing along like nobody's listening. It helps alot. Or sometimes I call a friend and we talk for hours, and it keeps your mind off things, or you could go to the mall and shop. Shopping cures anything! lol. Something else is to make yourself beautiful, dress up, do your make-up, paint your nails, it keeps you consuntraited and focussed on one thing at a time. You should also spend time with your family or friends. Family and friends really helps in these situations. You should also call up people your might have angered, and say your sorry and for them to forgive you. It will make you feel alot better and less upset. Hope ive given you some ideas, and i hope this day really turns better for you!
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- Love him.\n- Explain him the bad outcomes of angry when he was cool.\n- Tell him some great stories which winning through   patience.\n- Teach him how to differentiate the normal tense state while he is getting angry.\n- Let him alone and make him realize.\n- Controlling angry is easy... but one need to put prolonging efforts according to his mind set.
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My best outcome for angry people is to just leave them alone until there feeling better ,then approach them with concern and kindness,they will be more open to you and apologize if they took their anger out on you...
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First, I try my best not to judge them. Emotions are just that, you can't make them right or wrong. It also depends on the type of emotion I happen to be feeling at the time. If I am angry, I will try and cool down before handling a situation that upsets me. I do this by taking a walk or doing some other physical activity, like housework and I do it vigourously. I find it is a good outlet to help me calm down. If I'm feeling sad, sometimes, I'll just go with the feeling and use it creatively, write a poem, listen to music. Sometimes, it's good to be reflective unless, of course, it's long-term and then you need help. I'll rent a funny movie or talk to a good friend over a cup  of tea. In both cases, it's a good time to learn and grow from your feelings and to help put things in perspective.
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Well, it's up to you to find out the source of your anger. After you've done that, you should come up with a plan for how to handle the situation that provokes your anger -- like walk away, or think of squirrels like the one in my profile picture. It's really hard to remember this plan when the situation arises, but you have to beat it in there somehow.\n\nPerhaps the source of your anger isn't an event, but just an accumulation of events. If that's the case, take a vacation somewhere. Take some time off alone to relax -- isolate yourself from the things that anger you. Take up a hobby that'll allow you to vent your anger/frustrations. I actually highly recommend you weight-train or take up martial arts/boxing -- it does wonders for us guys, trust me.\n\nAnd lastly, LIGHTEN UP. LET THINGS GO. TURN EVERY BAD SITUATION INTO A COMICAL ONE. Not everything is perfect or goes as planned, so sometimes you just gotta sit and enjoy the ride.
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I try to figure out why I am angry.  Sometimes what I think I am angry about is not the real reason I'm angry.  \n\nAfter I determine why I'm angry, I try to understand what all my options are for changing the situation that I reacted to in anger.  I will prioritize them by the likely hood of their helping to relieve my anger.  \n\nThen I will set out to try to do all I can do to change the situation, and also, to dispel the physical aspect of the effects of the anger.  (Drumming works well, as does walking, writing, talking with someone I trust about the problem, etc.)\n\nGood luck to you.
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Manage anger by being happy.  Be happy you are alive.  Be thankful for your blessings.  Bless others!  Forgive, forgive, forgive the shortcoming of others.  Sing great songs!  Play!  Do something for someone less fortunate.  Get others to join you. You will be a person without anger toward yourself and others if you follow the above suggestions.
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Take a pillow, put it over your face and scream as loud as you can (this helps me a lot) or write out your feelings in a journal or a letter to the person that is making you so angry or upset, then burn it. If you need someone to talk to feel free to email me. I went through a lot of things when I was a teen and may be able to help. I wish you the best and I will pray for you.
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Long hot showers, meditation, exercise, screaming into my pillow, just about anything. I have a lot of trouble with patience too. If there are certain people that drive you crazy the first thing is to remember your being upset doesn't do anything to them. Sometimes you just have to let go of things. (Easier said than done!!)\n\nI also find it helpful to talk with someone. Let someone else know how you are feeling. Talk about what is stressing you out. Chances are someone else has gone through a similar event. While they may not be able to help you now, knowing that they survived will help relieve some of your stress.