I have been offered a job in china that will take me away form my 3 children for 6 years.  Should I take it?
492109
You have a new life now, and a new wife. You have to support not only yourself and your new life, but your old life as well. If this job will financially be a good thing for you, and if you and your wife, are enjoying being in china, and think you will enjoy it for the next 6 years, then BY ALL MEANS STAY~!!!!! Divorce shouldn't be a factor in living the rest of your life. ENJOY your life you only live once...{at least this time around} and if you love your wife and your job, there is no reason not to stay. If you still get to see them a month out of the year, for 6 years, that's still good. Not like you won't be seeing them at all. I say GO FOR IT~! And have a GREAT TIME~ And KEEP WIFE HAPPY~ :D
492076
what kind of family problems?If your going abroad is going to cause a rift between you and your family then you'd better think twice...you don't want to lose your family over a job...because even after you get a job and settle down you won't be happy.
537297
Money isn't everything.  But you didn't say how long you've given Japan a try.  I think you should stick it out at least a year.  You are always home sick at first and then things click and get better.  Not to mention what learning about another culture can do for you.  I mean it isn't like it is forever if you don't want it to.  Agree on a time length things don't improve then take steps to improve your life.
752910
You'll have a long life, great job, beautiful home, married and give birth to three children. Gee, I see the child birth thing is gonna hurt! But, all is well.....
778957
What do you want out of life? You have a lot of thinking to do, and we can't do it for you. Grow up and take ownership for your life and your family's well being. Murdoch sounds hard hearted, but I have to admit, if you can get this kind of offer, you should be able to decide for yourself what is more important, your career, your family, or a balance of both. It's not easy. It's the toughest part of life, but once you decide with your heart, it gets much better!
964931
It sounds as if they can't offer you any job security or guarantees. I'd stay with the old job.
681187
If you do not want to stay at your current employer for the rest of your life...what are you waiting for? If you are raising a child, you'll need the extra money(believe me!). Nothing in life is a sure thing...let's face it, we would be bored if it was. Take a chance. Life is for the living. What you really have to ask yourself is do you want to live life or simply exist! Good luck with your decision and your family.
1107111
There's no right or wrong answer, but I can tell you what I would do:  I would take the new job!  That's a really dramatic pay increase, and you would soon gain seniority and have the opportunity to find a better schedule.  Plus, there is a real feeling of accomplishment that comes from doing challenging work.  If I were you, I would take the new job and commit to saving at least 50% of the salary increase (so $3500 per year) for "big ticket" items like a new car or a fantastic overseas vacation.  If you have something to look forward to it will make the transition a lot easier!
98123
Nurses are in such high demand, you shouldn't have to travel to get a good job.  Wait till the kids are grown and then go enjoy the country.  Sorry, sometimes being a parent is tough.
283959
If you have a nest egg to hold you over until you find a new job then no, however, if you were living check to check then maybe you should have found a new job BEFORE leaving the one you had. In the end, if leaving helps you maintain your sanity then that's what's most important.
1022859
Don't jeopardize a lifelong career over this. It would be wonderful I know, but you can't afford to take that chance. You've worked too long, and too hard to risk it. Later, something might change, but  for now, NO!
1142281
No greater chance than anyone not from the US or UK\n\nIt's actually more likely that you wouldn't come back as a Chinese baby, but if you did - would that be so bad?\nThat's where all the manufacturing jobs seem to be!\n l☺l
544678
I WOULD FEEL OBLIGATED TO STAY IN THE STATES BECUASE I HAVE THE RESPONSIBILITY OF FOUR KIDS.  IF IT WAS JUST ME I MIGHT CONISDER IT BUT YOU GO THERE AT GREAT RISK AND BECOME HOSTAGE BAIT.
1092498
1. Do you have a safety net, like family, friends, or a huge savings that will allow you to return to the USA if you have unforeseen problems?\n\n2. Do you have a job contract, or firm offer that will pay a living wage with enough to save for an occasional visit home?\n\n3. Do you speak any type of Chinese?\n\n4. Do you have a degree in Teaching English as a Second Language?\n\n5. Have you ever visited China?\n\nIf you can not answer, "Yes" to all the above, you should not relocate to China. \nBest of luck!!
230064
I think it sounds very dodgy. Especially when you have kids to support. I would think about it very carefully. If you have to give away a lot of money to start it then I would say no. Also the business you would be working for/ part of would have to be making some money somewhere, so if you keep all the profits where do they make theirs? Just make sure it's not from your pocket.
94410
That is a shame. You need to figure out if this is the way of life you want for the children, if not than you need to move on.
944349
I'm not sure I would be willing to risk losing my children in the event that he decided to keep them.  And Ireland is way too far away for me to send my kids.  \n\nMaybe you should tell your ex that it's in the kids best interest for him to remain close for the next 9 years.