For the Ladies: Where are all the eligible black men? Employed over 30 under 40 Single NO Baby Mama Drama etc.
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i thought u said u had em `white` boys lappin after u like dogs..so y u acting like a dog on heat chasing after em black fellas?
1165829
Not enough, especially young men.  Every college I look at, the percentage of women is higher than men.  What's the deal with that?!  Do I have no hope for finding a decent, smart guy to marry???!!!
950572
I totally agree with you babe. it took me forever to find a great man, and yes.. I generalized him at first and then I realize I was wrong. There aren't really any GOOD men  out here...Where the hell are they, thats my question gurl!!!! My gosh they expect us to be queens to them and then we get treated like crap, all I ever wanted was a mant hat can stand out from these sterotypical men, and it just seems as though you have to go to another world to get what you want. But yes i agree. hopefully society will help us change these men out here, because that is how they got the way they are...society.
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It's not too old !! but i hope you're not one of these men looking for 20 or 30 year old women because then u will havea hard time, and plus that is gross.\n\nTry church gatherings(if you are religious), volunteer organizations because there are lots of women there and they love men who volunteer as well, or even  senior meetings and dances (avaliable at your local recreational center amongst other places).\nGood luck !
357074
Yikes... I think those white guys are just going through a cultural dilemma and they don't know the beauty in all women. That's gonna be their own loss. I think the black girls don't wanna put up with the black boys' bullsh*t of cheating and running their mouths!!
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Not necessarily FROM Blacks, but from organizations seeking to give black people assistance.  Every third job ad I read is looking for someone who is "ethnically diverse."  And when I was looking for scholorships I hated the fact that if I was black I could get a full scholorship from the NAACP.  Black people used to need more assistance, but now poverty is more equal and the people who need help are the poor people of all races.
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I have my perfect man in my head...havent found him yet though.  The man I want is strong, not only physically but mentally, emotionally, and his respect and value for me are strong.  He's black, dresses really good....has a hustlin mentality with a businessy side to him.  Treats me real good but not too clingy.  Knows exacly what he want outta life and always has his money on his mind.....THat's what I want in a man.
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I've passed this question like 5 time now....and I didn't want  to answer...but....\n\nOk, here it is.\n\nOur fathers aren't/weren't there.\n\nThere are lots of other deep, underlying factors I have no time to get into.  Before anything thoughts are processed, let me explain.\n\nI look at myself...a somewhat successful 26 yr. old.....working a very nice paying government job overseas right....plus I'm preparing to shoot my first film very soon.  But as I said I feel through the cracks....my mother made sure we weren't put in the positions of 90% of black children in America....\n\nNow the question was aimed at relationships, but it's more than that.  Look at your television set.  Even better, look at the relationships of most young black men with their fathers.  Look at where our fathers are.  As a whole, our fathers are nowhere to be found.\n\nThis directly correlates to the black man's relationship with the black woman.  There is a deep disconnect with the black woman for the black man, and it's widening with each day.  Most black men actually have NOT seen a succesful, at-home relationship.....or any truly successful relationship that he can really look at and take from.\n\nThen what happens is when a black woman wants and needs the things necessary of her black man, he is unable to provide these qualities.  \n\nWhy would he have them, if he was never raised to have them?  If he's never seen the way a man is supposed to treat a woman?  \n\nNow go back to your TV and watch how black men are being trained to treat women.  Look at the 'faceless' faces and bodies we are told it's ok to "skeet, skeet, skeet" on.    Look at the black man being shown alone, with his boys, or with his 'b!tches'.  Never in a complete and fulfilling relationship.  If it is shown, for the Cosby Show for example, it is overly idealized, and nearly unrealistic.\n\nNow as an answer to the question, I believe most black men are not going to have the faculties to care for the black woman.  BUT....\n\nNow this is gonna flip you out.....black women stress the black man, because of the same thing.  Think about it.  The fathers don't stick around just for little girls.  Maybe the women feel they shuld be treated a way that, again, they've never actually seen growing up.  It's an idealized vision of how a man should act and feel with his woman.\n\nI could go on and on about this subject and even the deeper issues involved....but I need to get to work.  LOL\n\nHope that was a decent answer.  Peace.
110905
Yes, there are many. The only problem is that Guys, ages 35 and 45, and still single must be real playboys, or reverend fathers!!!..
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Im pretty certain that there are women in their 40's looking for a male companion for love if you check out some of the dating sites on the internet, you will probably have a bigger field finding a lady on a dating site than what you may find here... good luck...\nthis isnt a love match site is it?
774522
To be honest, as a black western women NO!!!!  This is the best time yet for us.  Hell, any western woman is living better now than she could have imagined even 30 years ago.
20594
I was going to ask that too.  They are very rare, so rare that when you see it it really stands out.  I've dated black women and felt like everyone was watching, and I have a friend in LA that is married to a black woman and after 9 years he says it's always uncomfortable, especially around black men.  I can't say anything about the asian part but that you never seem to see at all.  Believe me, it's not because white men don't find black women attractive either.  I just dunno.
512008
Im a black man. Had a few races of women but in my opinion I feel black women are the most beautiful in the world. They on top of my list ,instead of the bottom of the totem pole
858292
Where are you getting you information to be sure that this is true? Unless you interviewed and surveyed each and every Black man, White man,  and women of all races on that subject and got those answers that you are posting,  you are just generalizing what you see around you not actual fact. I live in New York and see quite the opposite of what you have seen. I have seen people all of different races going out with and married to Black men. I have a friend who name is Arthur that is married to a Japanese woman and a friend who passed recently, that was married to a Chinese woman and they have a son together. As far as Black men and Hispanic/ Latin women, I have seen plenty of my Black male friends married or  engaged to Latinas that  they have children with. I am wondering what area do you live at because where I live, it is really diverse and that is my truth.
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The answer is very simple.\n\nGet ready.\n\nYou will track me down and make me your children's godparent.\n\nAny school, college, university or research center in the US Virgin Islands. See Yahoo directory.\n\nHandsome, honest, smart, dedicated black professional men who work in these areas are looking for a smart, sassy, Christian woman. They are NOT finding happiness locally.\n\nSave up your vacation time til you have 3 weeks. Fly to San Juan ($199 round trip right?) Take the VI boat ($40) and find a nice house swap (craig's list) in the University area. Go to open lectures. Go to events. Talk to everybody.\n\nOh yes. This is my strength I am a connector -- and I am praying that you will read this and the happiness of a loyal happy life will be yours.
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How do I meet 49 year old men?I have been looking for sometime and this dating pole is very shallow.I am finding men your age come with baggage which is okay except that it is usually because of a women.I find myself having to prove that I am not that women rather than being able to just show myself and be accepted for me.I would love to here more from you.If you pick this as best you can leave a comment with e-mail if you like.
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Great! There are lots of singles in your age range. I just met one in the bar/restaurant my wife and I were in, and today was Valentine's Day! Singles are out there, if you're looking.