what do u do if u'r friend loves the same person u love?
481415
if it is a new friend then go for her/him first. seconds suck ya kno. but if they r really close to u, talk to them about it.
651522
There's no reason why either one of you should surrender your crush, to the other. However, you should contemplate the potential consequences of being infatuated with the same person. \n\nAsk your self, "will this affect our friendship in a negative way"? If so, is it worth it? \n\nYou and your friend should have a discussion regarding your mutual crush. First, let each other know how you feel about the situation. Obviously, your friendship existed before the crush; so know where your loyalties lie.\n\nWhom ever your crush chooses, don't take it personal, if it's not you. Be supportive. You can't control the will of others. Than again, if it doesn't work between your friend and your crush, you'll be waiting with open arms. Although, you'll have to decide if you'd want to do that, given you were his (I'm assuming the crush is male) second choice.\n\nOf course, if he chooses you, don't gloat. It's not a competition. If you and your friend are truly friends, you'll want the best for each other. \n\nSo my advice is, make sure you're both "cool" with going after the same guy and not let it turn into a cut-throat competition. Because if that's what is going to happen, just forget it. This guy will pick who he thinks he likes more. So it's out of your hands, in a way. Just know, you're both equally deserving. Be sympathetic to each other and always communicate your feelings. Don't let this guy come between you. Other than that, go for it!
247968
Because you need to spend time with them as you love them as friends and that is special,so don't worry that you are doing anything wrong as your not.We all have special friends to whom we share many things and to think that love will come between that or to expect your love to give this up is selfish and unjustifiable.You can enjoy both but remember that love is a two way street.
1181262
yes, I have and honestly unless if he shows some interest of being more than just your friends. If he dont leave it alone, you always fall in love more then once and men come a dime a dozen,,you will get over it.. I am sure that if he does not feel the same and he tells you , you are going to get hurt and ur friendship will never be the same and if you and him do something that may lead you to think that he loves and really he dont then you may mess up ur friendship, and im sure that you rather have him as a friend then not have him at all..just move on and find someone else. Trust me it really isnt that hard, though i am sure that you think it is. but i have been there b4 and i thought that i would never love again,,and boy was i oh so wrong.
195825
if you love him/her, accept it, but if you aren,t you can tell him/her, he/she is friend for you couse this is the best relationship for you and her/him now. tell him/her if it become more than friend may be your relationship become not close again!
257688
look u just sort it out by keeping them away frm each other and tell both of them that u cannot break the friend ship with any one and devote equal time to both of them and dont mix up or mess it up live ur life
606570
Well I agree with "The King" \nYou should tell the person how you feel and then go from there and see what happens but remember just because someone loves you, doesn't mean that you have to love them back. So keep a strong heart and a smart mind but as always HAVE FUN!!
172723
you know your in love when you and your "friend" feel sum thing special in side \n\np.s give it time yoo'll know
612289
You have to decide which person means more to you the one your with or the one your not with. Your the ony one who can decide is it worth rising hurting the guy you love for womeone who your not sure that he even feels the same way.
359452
you can't.  all in all, she'll love when she thinks she can.  The best you can do is continue to love her and be a friend.  One day she may see the gift she has in you and learn to love.  Whoever said it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all was obviously never really in love.  And obviously not with someone who didn't love him back.
740491
It's not fair to either of them for you to be with them both anyhow,. You are going to have to make a choice and pray that the one you don't choose will still care for you as a friend.
97775
you should just try you know wat they say ITS EASY TO TURN A FIRENDSHIP INTO LOVE THEN LOVE INTO A FIRENDSHIP and if it don't work you 2 can always be friends no matter wat you your friendship is as good as you think it is
814592
If you love him, why would you break up with him? Talk to your friend, tell her that you love this dude and that's just how it is. I know that now-a-days we're all into the "friends before lover" thing, but it's important to do what you'd like to, as well.
973049
I don't think it's possible to ever love two people the same.  With different relationships, there is a different love involved.
122008
you can love a person all you want but if they dont feel the same you just have to move on, it might hurt (it will hurt), but in time you will find someone that will feel the same and that is better.
122204
In any relationship (friendship to lover) there is rarely a time when 2 people will feel the same toward one another.  At times in life we are distracted by other events and thoughts that can take away from the intensity of those feelings.  My advise:  Learn patience and tolerance and pray that your feelings will be recognized, accepted and respected.
991170
Hi man. I had a story like this some months ago. I couldn't do nothing, because I didn't want to ruin their love for each other. I just waited, and after three  months they broke up. And she understood that I loved her, and really liked it. I think you should just wait.Maybe you should make activities with other friends, that can help you not to think about your friend.\n    I really think that you'll win her heart.