Any ideas on ways to communicate better?
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Well, after about 4 years of therapy and couples therapy with some amazing, top therapists in Los Angeles, I'm happy to say that I've learned incredible tools on communicating and I was amazed at how hard it is and how many people don't know how to do it.  We really should be teaching this in schools.  Anyhow- most people vent and don;t really listen.  When one has an issue, you take it up in a three part communication: what, why and what you want.  So 1) start by saying something positive that relates to the issue, 2) bring up your feelings (which does NOT imply that you are correct or that the other has to agree) and 3) what you want from the outcome.  Example-let's say you get jealous or she gets jealous alot: "honey, listen, I know you're an attractive girl and guys are gonna check you out and i don't blame them but, i feel threatened or jealous when they do cause it just  i feel insecure.  I want you to try and be considerate of my feelings and try to  be cool talking to guys in bars".  The key issues to communication is first of all, NO ONE MAKES you feel anything, people are going to feel what they're going to feel so you can't accuse someone of making you feel a certain way.  This is huge so make sure you understand that.  It's the number one common mistake.  Second is when you or she speaks your feelings, the other just needs to acknowlege and be empathetic.  It does not mean you have to agree with what they're saying but you need to understand "I understand what you're saying and I can appreciate the way you feel" is not saying"I agree with you and i accept blame".  Thirdly, be specific and consistent and most of all. be clear on your boundaries.  Many fights start because boundaries aren't clear and when they're crossed, people get pissed.  Boundaries are things like "don't kiss other dudes, don't flirt, don't bad mouth me, whatever.    if you want more specifics, feel free to write specific issues.  :))  plus, be prepared, it takes a lot of practice.  I meant email me.  I am happy to share my knowledge. God knows I spent a fortune for it!!!!  But it is life changing.  And the best part is that it gives you such great control over your own life.  It's very empowering to communicate effectively.
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Practice your receptive skills by watching English t.v., I recommend CNN.  Watch actively in short bursts and listen to what is said and the way it is said.\nFor productive skills, in this case talking, find a native speaker if you can and converse with them.  Listen to how they communicate and try to replicate it.  If you already targeted your problem areas (making proper "l" sounds)= tongue curls up to roof of the mouth... find a book on phonetics and tongue positions and practice.\nGood luck.
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have you tried chat! thats my best way. Try to pick ya game up a little bit if its costin ya! ;)
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do a "key to communication" and hang gold colored paper keys with communication tips and the info you want them to know, this way you can grab their attention and pass the info to them.\n\nor you can have a key to communication presentaion on an evening and invite all to come.
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How did you communicate before? Do the same.
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Actually, I think reading books and even watching television can be very helpful. Also, go out and socialize in a group setting with people who speak English with proper grammar. While having a conversation you will hear how they set up their sentences and will easily pick up the essential rules needed in English.
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We'd happily answer if we had any idea WTF you were talking about.\n\nSlow down, think about what ytou mean, and write in complete English sentences usnig normal grammar. Explain what information you actualy want. Try showing some courtesy to others by being considerate and taking the time to communicate.\n\nPosting the same menaingless gibberish 4 times is a waste of perfectly good electrons.
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You can listen to other people talk.  Try listening to some English podcasts.\n\nOr you can create your own.\n\nSome sites that I know of, Odeo.com, Slidestory.com or podcast.net.\n\ngood luck
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I would suggest just start asking people questions about themselves.  Generally people enjoy talking about themselves.  You want people to be more "open", but you need to respect their boundaries.  At my job, we talk all the time and share our lives.  But it is a very professional atmosphere.  There can be a good balance struck.\n\nBest plan of attack is to be a great communicator by listening.
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watch tv without subtitles, chat online with real english people (and dont use chat language) chatting is teh best cause you are talking and writing in one
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To improve your conversation.. I'd suggest what I do. Whenever I am writing a paper for school I use Microsoft Words synonym helper. It will give you better ideas of a more intelligent word to use in your everyday conversation. I also have a handy grammar book (cheap, from the university book store) that is easy to thumb through for punctuattion etc. Pronunciation would be helped by another person fluent in English. They can give you a better idea of how to roll the syllables off of your tongue.
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take some grammar classes then try to talk with someone, they might understand you a lil better
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The best way is by sending a greeting card with a gift \nHowever basing on your intimacy your eyes will speak them selves
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This might help\nhttp://www.web-friend.com/rooms/chattalk.html
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Talking is probably the largest factor I can think of.\n\nTo keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Becoming genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nA somewhat easy way to get a conversation started is to make a short complaint about something that you know the other person doesn't like. Generally the other person will complain too and you'll have you're conversation. You have to be Very careful not to do this often because you don't want the other person to think you're a whiner.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are VERY few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful today as it was when it was written.
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Lack of communication.
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Just email me back.. You can talk negatively.. in a positve way LOL I had to and did, you need to be honest, no matter what in any situation, just make the best of it!  BOY do I have a story to tell.....