I want to know if this is normal I got very upset that my boyfriend lied to me, but it was over something?
487127
I too hate lies and believe people deserve more respect than to be lied too. Cause if the shoe was on the other foot they wouldn't appreciate it. Try not to over react though it could scare him away. Men lie cause they are too afraid of telling the truth cause they will look bad. It is good that you let him know that it affects you though. Cause in a relationship honesty is the best policy
813322
Yes, you did the best thing.  You were honest with him about what you wanted in your relationship with him, and I won't give you the unprotected sex speech, and he didn't want to commit to you because he was already seeing someone else (and still having unprotected sex with you), which is why all of your apology attempts didn't matter.  I'm unsure why you were apologizing since you didn't do anything wrong but ask for a monogomous relationship.  You're better off without him and the fact that you wished him well just shows that you're taking the high road.  I highly doubt that this current relationship will last very long, but if nothing else, please protect yourself in the future!
739542
you need to bring it up, because if it hruts yo uand he doesnt knowthat it was an honest mistake it just may keep happening. i think the best thing to do it to sit him down and tell him thats your not being jealous and you understand how much they mean to you. yo ujust felt kinda bad that you had plans and they were broken, and yo uwere uncomfortable with her making it just so he goes you trust him, but you dont want to make him uncomfortable so you seem jealous. but the best relationship is based on trust and honesty and if he knows how you feel, hopefully it wont happen agian. let me knowif you need anything
1066223
wel i think she lied to you because you she didnt want to hurt you or thought she would loose you.  I don't think thats cheating as you guys only started dating and it was too earlier for her to know where that relationship is going.\n\nI would be gutted tho and know how you feel> It really sucks but what can you do?\nIf you like her and she has been faithful since, forgive and forget and move on with your relationship.  FYI it probably took a lot of courage for her to tell you and i dont hink she did it to spite you!
12145
You are not overreacting.  You're being quite understanding.  She's out of line and he should respect your feelings more.  If the tables were turned, I doubt he'd have this cool reaction.  You'll know when to leave, when you're tired of being tired.
271126
Some people, believe that a white lie to avoid hurting the people they love is OK. So how serious was the lie. If he is hiding something he may find its to hard to talk to you about. Maybe worried that you would think less of him, or you would loose respect. You need a heart to heart and tell him the way you feel and you can't afford to lose trust.
643229
Depends, If he lied about you looking bad in an outfit or something, that`s OK (White lie). But if he did something very hurtful, like cheat on you and lie about it, he is just covering his butt (even if he says it was to protect your feelings) and you should dump him.
1159748
LOL!! That was a beautiful way to handle that situation!! <bowing humbly>  There is nothing wrong with what you asked him and if he's never talked to you like this before, I would be a little suspicious.  Why is he so defensive?  It was an innocent question, nothing clingy about it.  Something doesn't sit right with this...I could be wrong...but it sounds like he's trying to hide something.
1087030
to be honest I would rather my boyfriend lied to me than my best friend...guys come and go, but a best friend should be forever.  When lies begin between close friends it changes everything.
77487
Well its really a matter of knowing someone well---when my boyfriend lies--I know he is lying by 2 things: first he kind of stutters when he talks and second he never looks at me in the eyes, always looks to the side if he is telling a lie---its hard for him to lie and me not find out because I know him so much.  But ask him something like "where were u last night"---have him tell u and then ask him again later---if he changes his story u know he is lying and then question him about it.  But dont acuse him until u have proof.
204062
Love and Respect go hand and hand. Wouldn't you feel disrespected if you found that your partner lied to you?
681208
Whether this is "your fault" for being with another guy, or "his fault" for freaking out, doesn't matter.  Even if it was an accident, and you say sorry and can prove it, still doesn't matter.\n\nStuff like this is a clear signal that one of you (maybe both of you?!) aren't ready for a real relationship.  Take some time off, think about what YOU can do better next time (even if it's just thinking about how to choose a boyfriend that isn't so immature).  Then, after a few months (I would suggest 3-6 months at least!) you might possibly think about another boyfriend.
856433
You did the right thing! I did the same thing! If you are planning to sleep with this guy you need to know these things! If he got upset with you over that then he is not the one for you! He should totally understand where you are coming from!!!
558490
Dont play with his feelings like that cause someone could get hurt. Just tell him and get it over with. Cause if you do that, he will think that you are full of games. And being dishonest is the worst way of starting a relationship.
804245
Obviously he's going through some hard times right now, especially  if this has scenario has never happened before.  I definitely think that he's hiding something or not telling you everything because when he got upset and gave your some BS, he was trying to shift the focus on getting angry at you instead of you finding out what was wrong with him.  Definitely give him some time and if you know him like you should, then he'll come around and tell you everything.  Tell him about your concerns and make sure to give him some space to work things out.\n\nGood luck!
130844
I think thats why he called you a psycho right there... your reading to much into simple words and look how upset you have gotten yourself. A guy dealing with a chic like that...is not at ease, he always has to becarefull what he says to not freak you out. Maybe you have been a little clingy lately or something. Talk to him later on today, if everything seems fine then just blow it off as passing conversation. It sounds to me like he was trying to make light of you missing him, a form of trying to cheer you up, or maybe just trying to get you to talk about something less sad/depressing. No worries though, ask him about it when your feeling more calm.
1179465
wether or not he is joking, he may never realy tell you the truth, but you do need to talk to him alone and tell him that you dont like it when he says that, that it makes you feel like he is telling you that your relationship is over and that he wants you to leave, tell him to tell you if it is true or not, if he says its not true then tell him it is time for him to stop saying it or it could ruin the way that you feel for him, or whatever it does to you right now just tell him. good luck and take it easy.