If you tell a man that you wants to leave him and threatens to disable you if you leave him is that love or?
487459
if you ask me again,yes this person might be vey much inlove with you but has some violent attitude in him,which is very dangerious in a love relationship,and such an attitude hadly shows from the man not untill when such a situation arises,but yes this can also be love,so many  people have their own way of reaction inlove when it comes to seperation
493814
The fact remains it's a repatitve action.  You should see that he will not change. Although at this point love is blind, but there is only so much you can take before he drags you down as well.  You keep him afloat and he uses you and calls it love.  You are what is called an inhibitator and you can do better.
35308
Sounds like its just an easy way out..Maybe to try and not hurt your feelings, when what she/he really wanted to say was "I dont want to be with you anymore"
1113333
I would rather have a huge heart. The bigger his heart, the less likely he is to treat me badly. Love is done not from the asset but from the heart.
530543
If he is giving you that ultimatum, then hes a jerk. Family is blood, they will always love and be around you. A man asking you to choose, is not a man.
227257
I think you are doing the right thing and just to let you know it will end soon. If you were to back off now that would defeat your whole purpose and have wasted yours and his time. I know you did not want to hear this but, there is always a but isnt there? But If you cant see him changing or being flexible enough on this subject then you may have to let him go, if you fold and let the relationship go back to what is was it will be worse than it was before. I would hang in there, but not for too long.
1159078
If you know in your heart that you have tried everything to make your relationship work, and he still wants out, then let him go. 9 out of 10 times what he thinks he wants is right there at home.  With or without him life goes on, usually for the better.
239472
Just because you love someone doesn't mean you can live with them.\n\nif something happends that causes fustration, the first thing to do is try to talk it though.  be open to one another and tell him/her 'hey!  what you are doing is pissing me off.. and here's why..'   \n\nbut you can't change a person.  A person changes because THEY want to, not because they are forced.
430982
Sounds like your man is just a Neanderthal - if he is not willing to at least listen to your hopes and ideas then he is not worth the time and emotion that you are putting into the relationship. \n\nIf you can not leave him you are going to put yourself through a life time off submissive behaviour that will eat at your personality until you really don't have one, just a bad reflection of your partners egotistical ideas of what a wife should be. \n\nYou have to force him to listen and if he still refuse leave him - if he loves you at all this will cause him to come to a realisation that he does have to listen to you. if he is still not prepared to listen to you, then he does not love you but wants to posses you like he would a car, house ect and you are better of without him.
332258
Leave the ass a.s.a.p. You don't have to put up with crap like than, even if you do love him. He doesn't love you because if he did he wouldn't treat you like a dog.
299230
It is`easy to say get rid of him, but then I would be a hypocrite. I`have so many reasons not to trust my man. I wish i would have went with my instincts from the beginning. If you can't trust him and you can let him go, buy all means do so. But if you are like me, you won't. Now i let it be known my distrust of him. He gets mad at me for it, but oh well. I figure he deserves it, and if he gets so aggravated maybe he will leave me. it would be easier to let him go that way. My advice is get out now if you can. there must be a reason you don't trust him, and chances are it will get worse.
714498
I think it means that he's trying to tell you that you love him more than he loves you and that you need to find someone else
490404
what do you mean he wont let you leave\n\nthats an exuse because it's hard\n\neither do it or dont do it\n\nget some strength and self control\n\nit will be worth it!!!
403429
you have told him you are going to leave and you haven't?! what is your MAJOR malfunction?  leave or stay with the poor guy.  you staying and hating him only puts both of you in a bad place.\n\nTHE DIRECT ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION IS NO COMMUNICATION IS WORSE IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE trying TO SALVAGE.  if you aren't trying to salvage the relationship than yelling is very annoying.
394519
Well,Believe it or Not ! They Say If You Love Somebody Set'em Free! If They Come Back They Are Yours If Not They Never Were !\n\nWell ! Maybe you will get him back if you stop going after him
460078
so like, he will nick you and put a band aid on it? say hurtful things and apologize, he did not mean it? i think its abusive, its a mind game, and its all about control. i think you need to just get out and let this person/relationship go. find someone who DOESNT make you cry in the first place.
944433
you should do what you think is best if you sdon't want to go just tell him you love him and do what u want