MARRIED COUPLES I would like to know how you and your spouse maintain a healthy?
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Oh man, my hubby and I will be celebrating our 3rd anniversary this Oct and 5 years of being together. It has taken us a long time to figure this one out. The answer sounds so simple but it can take ALLOT of self control and discipline. The key to a successful relationship is having a forgiving, unconditional love for your partner. Being able to accept blame and admit wrong doing and knowing what to do to change is a big key. When we talk "fight" we do not tell the other what we don't like about them but what we recognize they don't like about us. This way its not assigning blame and creating defensive walls but acknowledging wrong and working together to change. We are best friends, lovers, and we embrace all things together as a team. Marriage is the HARDEST thing to do in this journey we call life but I PROMISE it has the largest rewards! My husband and I got divorced last year and realized on the day of our divorce in the courtroom that we were running from our problems and making the biggest mistake of our lives. You have to go THROUGH your problems, you can not avoid them in any way. Good luck to you
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I believe I've asked the same ? and here is what i've learned....\nYou have to strat out with baby steps and do it with him.  Sttart by slowly changing what you bring into the house....if he (or you has to have chips try the Light of Baked, try flavord water instead of even diet soda.  More veggies..(ive found that grilling marinated vegetables gets my husband to eat a lot more of them (he's even requested them once or twice).  As for the physical aspect....that can be much harder.  Ask him to jion you for a "romantic walk" in the park or after dinner just for quality time.  Swimming at the pool or beach with the kids...foolproof way to have fun.  My mother has terrible joints and body "issues" and not only does swimming help her, its easy, doesnt hurt, and actually is even great do do after a work out because it stretches you out.  Make it seem less like a workout to him and more like fun... it wont happen overnite but it will happen.  Just dont always resort to throwing heart problems and diabetes etc in his face - it will work against you.
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There are 3 keys to staying married: 1. You need to be able to trust each other   2.  Always have good communication   3. You both need to be willing to do anything to make things work.
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Eat smaller portions. You have to think about this seriously, imagine you and your perfect figure in your head and let it stick or else you'll just indulge! I never thought of weight loss in a healthy fashion, so if you don't either, be motivated by what you can fit into later on. The best exercise I can suggest (am i getting a little too into this?) is standing and holding on to your husbands hands, and bending 5-10 times a day. Add on 5 more every day. Good Luck!
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Start a hobby together.\n\nAnything: hiking, biking, dancing, stamp collecting, movie watching, horseback riding, tennis, fishing, frisbee, softball, bowling, working out.\n\nThe couple that plays together, stays together!
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Yes, I was married to a man who was wonderful, but there is a downside to it. In order to stay in love the intimacy needs to be there. We later divorced and remained good friends, which was what we were in the first place. I have since remarried and I am glad because I missed being intimate with someone. Good luck.
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I love mine and I know that A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.\n\n      Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.
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bite me    you rule for having the courage to ask this question,  i was in this jam myself earlier on in my marriage,  then i asked someone how to make this happen and the advice was do housework, like dishes and laundry and vacumning,  and on days when i do this it makes my life easier\n\nthe last two mornings i have done dishes before i left for work,\ntremendous change of attitude when i get home\n\nthink about it
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I tell my husband as often as I can, you never no where death lies and at least they'll know how much we love them. Keep telling your husband how much you love & care for him, he should feel like the only man on earth with the only sweetest woman on earth. You will have a long and happy marriage.
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To keep the relationship alive, you have to need sexual contact with your spouse but sometimes, it isn't going to happen such as illness,tireness or depression will come into play. Ask yourself this before you do something crazy like destroy your marriageof 20 years/ IS she tired from raising the children,paying bills,errans,school meetings,doctor visits,preparing holidays with family members,cooking,cleaning the home and perhaps working full or part time.Taking care of those responsibilities could be very exhausting to one especially if she is the one who does everything in your home.Why waste 20 good years with your wife for someone on the side? It is selfish and ignorant.I do applaude you to ask for advice before trying to hook up with some "woman" as you are trying to save your marriage.
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It depends on the man and woman involved.  I have been married three years and it is not that often.  There are medical reason and I will always support my hubby
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In the short term you could try to cut down on the amounts of carbs and sugar that you keep in the house.\n\nI once knew a lady who was mad keen on bread. When she went on a diet she asked her neighbour to keep her bread for her, and post two slices through the letterbox every morning!\n\nI've known husbands to keep crisps and chocolate bars for kids packed lunches in the boot of their cars. They dished them out every morning so that the wives wouldn't be tempted by them when at home.
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Trust, (Love), Respect, and Companionship are the keys to a healthy relationship.  An initial "spark" is a must, but in the end a relationship will not survive if it does not have TLR & C.
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Remember to always keep some spice in the relationship. Don't get comfortable and fall into the routine of marriage. Try new and exciting sexual positions, as well as places. Surprise each other with small forget me nots and gifts. Most importantly, remind each other how lucky you are to have found a love that most people search their whole life for and never find. Congrats!
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exercise and eat healthy.
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Be patient with yourself, join a support group at your church or talk to a family counsellor (with or without your spouse). Be patient with your kids, spend as much quality time with them knowing that they are caught in the middle of an adult issues and are too young to understand the complexity of these issues.  Just go out and have as much fun with them as possible at the park, mall or the children's museum.  Do not neglect your health (ie: overeating-->obese or undereating).  If you're not into the gym go for light walks, and by all means use meditation tapes they really do help.  Give your spouse that space she needs  but keep the channel of communications open.  Be honest with each other and don't try to sweep your marriage issues under the rug or they will never be resolved.  Good Luck.
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I believe so... The most important of all is the breakfast.To stay healthy,have a heavy breakfast,moderate lunch and a very light dinner.That's the best way to go.