How can I convert myself from a pessimist in to an optimist?
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GreatMan, I don't think that you can change yourself, but I have a great idea, why don't you become a Procrastinator and wait a few days and see what happens, if you change than "good on you mate" if not than you were correct all the time, but waiting will be the best path to take.
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First of all just know that your intention to be happy and cheerful is half the battle. If you want it bad enough, with practice, you will absolutely succeed. \n\nYou say you've been this way since childhood and that your mind tends to go in the same direction all the time and right there is the key. After so many years of your mind running your life in a negative direction its now time for you to take over.\n\nYour mind is replaying over and over what it has learnt and now its time for you to retrain it. It takes time and vigilance but with practive you can make it happen. As soon as negative thoughts come up exchange it for something positive. Remind yourself all the time that life is filled with great things going on all the time. \n\nStay away from negative situations and people. Cling to the positive with all your might. Your mind will fight you but after time will learn to let go. Lets say for instance tomorrow you awaken and it raining. Your mind will tell you what a horrible day its going to be. Stop and say out loud "No, its going to be a great day. I am grateful for the rain and all the wonderful things this day holds for me" Everytime you exchange a negative for a positive you will see the change and be encouraged to continue.\n\nI was there, now I am here. Just keep looking forward. Forget about what you did in the past, its gone and can't be repeated. Today is all you have and you can make it a great Today, every single time.
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pessimist remember the pains, optimist remembers the pleasure
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pessimistic thinks the glass is half-empty, cynical knows it to be half-empty?
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Be positive and find what you can do around you.
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The first thing to do is try distracting yourself from the depressing moment. Play a game, go out, see a movie, put some music on and chill, take a hot shower, listen to music, burn some incense with candle light, or do what makes you happy in a healthy manner. If this does not work then you will have to challenge your thinking. \n\nFor every main negative thought you have you will have to come up with a stronger balanced thought. To get to the balanced thought you will have to find evidence for the negative thought and evidence against the negative thought. This will lead to better clearer thinking. You will need to write this stuff out so you can visually see what your thinking. Hope this helps. Get a workbook like Mind over Mood and do the exercises because that helps too.
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Being a helpless pessimistic little whiner.
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lower expectations and live in the moment
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Set an example by staying positive. Try to see positives in every negative situation and make best use of it. Always exhibit confidence and achieve your goals. That will prompt those negative slackers to dust off the cobwebs and start looking at life in a more positive way!
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Create daily tasks to improve what you see and what you feel. Start with quick wins, then more difficult ones, etc. Have three different kind of goals: short term , medium and long term. Do not despair.\nMy question is if you cannot "like" yourself: how can you like someone else. I understand somehow that you feel lonely.\nGood luck, mate. Be a winner!
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if your goal is eternal despair then having hope is probably a bad thing.\n\ndon't worry.  you can still overcome it.
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Stay away from the people who are bumming you out. You have to put the most important things to do in your life first! Try to stay away from the things that stress you out. as far as the environment change it if you can. I hope this helps. keep motivated by doing things that you enjoy. if not all the time, most of the time. And if you have to many things going on your best bet is to eliminate some lesser thing you do not need to do.
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Oh  my gosh! Tell me about it!!! I have a couple of friends that are just constantly pessimistic about life in general and it drives me BONKERS!!! If you are unhappy with your life get off your @$$ and do something about it! I have no tolerance for pessimism. NONE!!!
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Be true to yourself and make the choices that you think will make you happy! Don't waste time on things you can't change and concentrate on what you can improve! \n\nLife is short so enjoy!
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First of all one should try to THINK POSITIVE. Expect good things happening to you, cause there is something called self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe in something possible strong enough, you will be able to reach it. But also I think, we shouldn't put our hopes too high. Not everything in life works out perfectly, so if we don't expect too much in all categories, then we can't get disappointed. And basically, it doesn't matter what happens to you in life, ALWAYS try to find something positive about everything - even really bad things! I'm aware of the fact that people won't find tragedies of their lives great and say "Oh yes, there is something really good about this!", but I know that there are certain ways and possibilities to look at situations a bit later on and find something to learn from for your future life at least - and that would be something positive already.\nThere is something else I have realized:\nHuman beings are such idiots ... they always want to have things others have. They are never happy with what they have reached or what they have got. It is good and necessary to have targets in life, but it's really dumb that people don't give themselves the time to reach them. People tend to look at the "neighbour's house" and think, "Their house is much nicer than ours!" So they are just jealous and some even try to do something bad to others who have more, instead of putting their energy into learning more, working more .... so actually DOING something to get that other something they are so jealous about! I think, basically they don't necessarily want to own those things, they are only jealous of others who have had the power and energy to get those things in life. Whatever that might be ... something valuable, a relationship, a family, good friends, a good job ... WHATEVER.\nSo do try to gain more in life, but also be happy with what you've got!
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I don't believe that you are a miserable b**ch....I study psychology and I don't truly believe the notion that the optimist sees the glass as half full, and the pessimist see the glass as half empty. \n\nI always thought to myself (as a kid, and to this present day) that if you saw a glass with water half full/empty that someone had sipped from it thus I always thought of it as half empty...I think it depends on how you think because someone else might think that that a half full /empty glass was in that state because someone had only filled it halfway, thus they are more likely to believe that the glass is half full.\n\n I don't know if anyone else shares this view, but I think its logical enough not to be pushed to one side....
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Start tithing.\n\nYou'll find yourself working and budgeting to give back the first fruits of what you make  rather than to be unsatisfied with senseless purchases.  You will derive TRUE happiness from knowing you are helping others, and find yourself with less of an urge to purchase stuff to be happy.\n\nPray about it...see what you think.