why does sex hurt when your a virgin?
479922
I've never been a Vigin.. I was born into an ignorant reckneck family who thinks Bush is the Greatest thing since sliced bread. I was born Screwed.
268566
There will be come pain for the woman (sorry not sure if you are the guy or girl), the best thing you can do to minimize the pain is foreplay. the more the better. the more relaxed and turned on the girl is, the less it will hurt.  go slow...it will be okay. \n\nThe amount of blood varies on different people. when i lost my virginity there was maybe about a teaspoon of blood on the sheet. \n\nNeed more help email me allyalexmch@yahoo.com
798120
virgin or not rape still hurts...physically and emotionally
1089578
Many, many active girls have a "broken" hymen and never even noticed it.\n\nThe hymen is a "ring of tissue," not something that covers the vaginal opening. It has an opening (unless there is a problem) from birth.\n\nNo, neither a doctor nor a lover can tell if you're a virgin by your hymen.\n\nSex should not be painful whether your hymen is "broken" or not. (Perhaps just a little, the first few times.) A caring partner will gently  encourage relaxation, go slowly, and check with you to be sure you are not uncomfortable. Beginning to use tampons now or in the next few years will help gently stretch the tissue, and also help you become knowledgeable about that part of your anatomy.\n\nNow go ride those horses. It's not as wonderful as love, but it sure is fun!
1084194
Virgins on a wedding night are rare, indeed!  I was one.  Many people had some good advice for you, but there's something I don't agree with.  Just because your fiancé has had sex, doesn't make him an experienced lover.  The bottom line is that he's not yet had sex with YOU...therefore, he is inexperienced.  Every woman is different.  \n\nYour fear is most likely rooted in 1) the unknown...the "big mystery;" and 2) ignorance (I don't mean this in a bad or critical way.  I'll explain what I mean.)\n\nThe "unknown" will remain that way until you've joined with your husband.  But even after that first time, it will *still* be mysterious because you'll both have SO MUCH to learn about each other and about yourselves.  What you like, what you dislike, what really gets you going, what makes you giggle, etc.  Have fun learning all that stuff!  You're in this together.  Communicate with each other.  :)   \n\nIgnorance - Maybe you're scared in part because you have no idea what to expect.  Maybe you don't know your own body yet. This isn't something to be ashamed of; it's just a matter of fact.  The remedy for this is education.  You and your fiance should read about and discuss together what to expect.  How a man's body works, how a woman's body works, etc.  Talk with each other about your fears, expectations, desires.  And honey, do yourself a favor.  Examine your body.  Use a mirror if you have to, but get comfortable with yourself.  The more comfortable you are with yourself, and the more you understand about you and your husband, the more confident you'll be that first time around and the more fun you'll have exploring!  ; )  \n\nNow everybody told me I'd feel pain the first time.  I didn't.  Not a bit.  That was partly because I had umm...can I say this on here?  Well, I had an accident as a child that did away with "the veil that causes pain."  You know what I mean.  But sex can still be painful if you are not properly prepared...i.e. turned on.  This is where reading a book on the subject can help you.  Understanding precisely how your body functions internally and externally goes a long way to dispelling some of the mystery and fear.  And if you're properly "prepared," it's not going to hurt. \n\nSo, read together, talk together, talk to close trusted friends, and then finally relax and give each other the freedom to explore and learn.  Wishing you joy and much love.  : )
673603
Yes some times physical and mental.  If you're a virgin than the first time it might hurt.  The guy should be attentive to this fact and go slow and easy.  And if u tell him it hurts he should stop.  But everything that is good will hurt some some time but not all the time.  U should be able to enjoy sex without hurt.  So girl if you're a virgin go easy.  And if not and u like it fast and hard I'm your man.  Either way I will help u.\nCHUCK\n:--# )
363483
for some it does for others not. If your having sex with a girl for the first time, the most important thing to do is take your time entering her. Also make sure her pu$$y is really wet. cuz if it's not it may hurt you too.
254596
I'm going to be completely honest and tell you that for me the first time hurt like hell. I lost my virginity earlier this year (I'm almost 22), my boyfriend was very understanding and gentle, but it still hurt. I didn't bleed though, which a lot of women have said that they do.\nFrom talking to my doctor there is a less of a chance of pain and bleeding when you lose your virginity at an older age. This is because your hymen gradually goes away throughout the years, and a lot of girls have actually broken it and not known it years earlier. \nIf your really worried I suggest getting a d.ildo/v.ibrator and working yourself in, I did this after the fact to make myself feel more comfortable with it. \nhope that helps
875442
some do and some dont\nit really ought to depend on whether their hymen has already been broken do to bike riding,wearing tampons,and other physical activities.\njust because a woman doesnt bleed during their first time having sex,doesnt mean that she is not a virgin\nthe best way to find out whether they are a virgin is to ask them and if u really love her then u would believe her and u 2 will have a happy relationship. but some women do bleed and their first time may be terribly painful. but some dont and can just enjoy themselves.~GOOD LUCK HOPE THIS HELPED!~
646695
your boyfriend has probably said that to a lot of girls. there is physical pain, but I think that you will find more emotional pain from it. Wait- at least a little while...this is a serious decision and you virginity is something that you cannot get back.
654525
It's different for every girl. Some girls have already torn their hymen by the time they have sex, usually as part of a normal, active lifestyle. Other girls have stretchy, or "elastic" hymens, which stretch instead of tearing. Some girls   are born entirely without hymens, while some girls have really thick ones. The point of this is that each girl is unique, which makes it a little hard to answer your question. \n\nIn most cases, there is some discomfort with initial penetration, and if you have a hymen, there will probably be pain, and a little bleeding (After all, you're not used to having a penis in there!), but it's usually mild to moderate and fades quickly. In order to make things as wonderful as humanly possible, it is SUPER-DUPER, AMAZINGLY important that you take things slow the first few times. Make sure you're fully aroused, and please, for the love of all things sexual, use some water-based lube (petroleum-based lube can dissolve latex condoms). If you experience discomfort or pain, slow down, and wait a bit before proceeding.\n\nAlso, please be aware that for most girls, the first few times are kind of dissapointing when it comes to the actual sex...it takes a while to find your rhythem and discover what you like. So, go forth, be safe, and, above all, HAVE FUN!\n\nIf you have more questions, or if you just feel like poking around, I might recommend www.scarleteen.com, these guys helped me out a lot in my teen years (and beyond). They provide honest, clear information about sex, sexuality, your body, and a bunch of weird stuff that us girls think about.
598952
inside the vagina in young women or women who have never had sexual intercourse, is a layer of tissue referred to as the Hymen.  \n\nWhen a young lady has intercourse for the first time, the penis entering inside the vagina will cause this membrane of tissue to tear.  This tearing is what causes the pain. It is also normal during this first sexual encounter that there will be some bleeding associated with the tearing of the hymen. However this is not always 100% sure. Due to some activities, such as gymnastics, horse riding, masturbation (if items are entered inside the vagina during masturbation), accidents such as falling on your vagina, ect, the hymen can either be broken or stretched prior to intercourse taking place.  This can lead to less pain and less or no bleeding during a ladies first sexual experience.
846347
Healthy women enjoy sex as much as men. It is more stimulating than making out. That should be obvious. After the first few times sex should not be painful. If you or your partner is experiencing pain during sex, they need to see a doctor. Pain during intercourse can be caused by a number of things including sexually transmitted infections.
568184
sounds like your upset with yourself for throwing your virginity away. take it for the lesson it is. don't give it away because you're curious
268134
NO! virgin is someone whose never had sex. and sex is something that happens between (at least) 2 people.\n\nbut it might tear your hymen, if that's what you're worried about
1082623
sweetheart..  if you are virgin, I dont know if you can pop your cherry like that!  You must have long fingers  ;-)\n\n\nBut seriously, you probably just scratch yourself...  but to be on the safe side get yourself check out, just to make sure.
985444
Because before you lose your virginity you have a lot of sexual tension built up. Also, because it's your first time doing a new thing, it's only natural that you might see things differently.