How do I ease my somewhat overprotective, soon-to-be father-in-law off his daughter in a nice way?
481559
You marry the girl, then tell him in a very friendly, honest,serious way that he'll have to trust you to look out for her now, that you know she'll always be his baby and that you love her more than life itself and would never allow harm to come to her...then live up to that vow.
761878
Go to your husband's parents!\n\nFailing that, go to your own, so they will not be by themselves.
1031450
Simply just find yourself a new friend and make sure he makes you happy. :) You will know how to tell your daughter when the time is right.
726809
You're very sweet to take so much care with this. First of all, for her father, maybe to acknowlegde their relationship, get a gift they can use together, games to bring to his house, a gift card to something they like to do together whether it's movies, Chuck E Cheese, or skiing. For your stepdaughter, a nice dance bag would be thoughtful, or tickets to a musical if you live in a town that puts them on. Of course, an mp3 player is sure to make a hit, if she doesn't already have one. She's nine and must be starting to love clothes (my daughter already does at 5!) so give her a "coupon" for a small shopping spree, you decide the limit! Good luck and have a great holiday!
271184
Honestly, this probably won't turn into a big problem.  Most Dad's will find something wrong with their "little girl's" boyfriend.  Just keep being yourself around him, be polite, and abide by his rules.  Most importantly, treat his daughter with respect...you will eventually win his.
829832
You're not doing your daughter any justice by staying in a loveless marriage where she is exposed to arguements and coldness between her parents.  She will sense your unhappiness.  Neither you or your husband are happy, so end it and agree to put your child first...but not in the same household
801659
Try not to let her bohter you and NEVER feel guilty for or regret  making your child's father pay child support.  That is a legal obligation that he has to his child.  I would suggest that you just try being nice to her.  You have to remember that you don't know what he's saying behind your back to her to make things worse.  After awhile, she'll cool off.
825297
Hello.  I'm glad you love the Lord.   I'm sure you're Dad will be fine.\nThey're letting you visit him, which is a very good sign.  They're just keeping him for a couple days to keep an eye on him and make sure he's strong enough to go home.\nI'll say a prayer for you and your Father....\nHe'll be home before you know it.\nMaybe you could do something special for him for when he gets home.  Clean up the house real good. Change the bedding on his bed.  Bake him a cake, or a pie....\nWith a caring daughter like you how could he not be better...\nGod Bless....
1071459
bring your girlfriend over then scream "DAD!!" at the top of your lungs.. then give her a huge smooch ... he'll figure it out
629221
Tell her how much you love her, a few good memories you both have together doing something as sisters, and how lucky her husband is to have her and if he screws up you'll kick his a$$!  You want to have a good one, but not long, something that drills the point home.  Make the husband feel welcome to the family though, because if not, it really affects your relationship with her...
952822
Gee that kind of makes the daughter the boss of his life. Guess I would sure he gets it and if he chooses to let his daughter "run" his life you may want to rethink your involvement with him. :o(
493382
If it's best to avoid any more emotional entanglement, you are gonna have to play it cool.  Be polite, very polite.  Most people recognize that means there are barriers.\n\nBest solution:  find yourself another guy.  Learn to appreciate that he your baby's daddy... and that is all.
57686
U R IN A VERY VERY DELICATE POSITION.I FEEL HE IS "ACTING" CHILD LIKE. IT WOULD BE BETTER IF U LIVE SEPARATELY FROM UR IN-LAWS IF IT IS AFFORDABLE
229170
Get to know your kids interests, and if its baseball take them to a game, play catch in the back yard. Try to enjoy their interests with them and show them the ropes on some of your own, lets say you like NASCAR teach them how the cars are designed to go faster. With your wife. Find out what you can do around the house to keep her stress level lower, maybe she just would like help with the dishes or help folding laundry, they arnt chores if you find time to do it together and have a good time joking around in the process. Let her know she can vent to you about her day, and when she has a problem ask her if there is anything you can do to help fix it. if she says no then just take it as she just needed to let off some steam and talk to someone about it. But just cause your asking this makes me think your a good husband and a good dad because you care enough to try to be better :)
748209
Remember this is your battle with the inlaws not your sister in law's.  Do not make her choose sides.  Be happy for her that she has a better relationship with them than you do because I'm sure you wouldn't wish what you are going through on another.  Maturity is called for here.  Stick to your guns for yourself, don't expect other's to choose sides.  She sounds like she's attempting to be neutral.  If you don't like hearing about what's going on with them, simply ask her not to go into detail about them or what they do or don't do.  Keep your friendship.  That's more important than allowing the in laws to drive a wedge between you two...and likely, that's what's happening.
894526
After having our little girl, my boyfriend and I have a hard time getting private time together considering he has a full time job and I work part time. So we plan a day off together as a family day one week, then the next week we get a sitter, which is either his mom or my mom, and go out to eat or dance, or both. Also, I keep a small tote in my bathroom with tiny candles, massage oil, bath beads, ect.. for myself when i need to relax after my little girl goes to sleep. Maybe you could use one of your own for some night when the both of you are home and the kids are in bed, maybe just share a hot relaxing bath together? I hope these ideas help.
814919
Mind your own business. What happens happens. You did not make the choices your relatives have made, and it is their harvest they are reaping. IF you stick your nose into it, trust me, the messenger is always killed. Be sympathetic, be kind, be loving, be supportive, but for heaven's sake, don't set them up for an "I told you so" from you..that is exactly what you will be doing. It does not matter one whit who he is playing around with. Some members of your extended family have very little sense (1st cousin...etc), and your blowing the whistle is not going to change things. The 1st cousin will get all that is coming to her soon enough, for this guy will not stop messing around ever. The soon-to-be exwife is the lucky one here..she is escaping.