At 31 with 2 kids, should I "leave" to go to school ?
486364
You mention that the job you are now being offered includes tuition reimbursement - if you add the cost of tuition to the offered salary it raises it up quite a bit.  Why not consider taking the job for now, so you don't have to uproot everyone, and take your classes for free?  You can always decide to take more drastic measures later, if it doesn't work out.
726710
I have been there, Health and Money issues is an excuse for you to continue putting yourself and your children in an unhealthy environment.....that alone is disrupting their lives. Thank God one child is out of the house and trying to better themself with an education and the opportunity to find out----every household is not like the one they grew up in.\nTwo months after giving birth and with another child 20 months old, I packed two bags of clothes for each of my children, grabbed 5pairs of jeans and tops, a pair of boots and my tennis shoes, Drove 65 miles to the town I worked in and I did get very blessed to find a house to rent RIGHT NOW,  went to wal-mart and purchased a wind up clock so I could get up for work the next morning and one day followed the next. Fortunately, my childrens babysitter lived in the same town I worked in.\nIt took nine years to finally get a divorce, A divorce kit, his signature(his hand forced by his girlfriend), notorization, and filed that baby at the court house. End result children are now 20 and almost22.and he never paid child support until my youngest turned 18.\nGet Out yourself if you are that miserable, evidentally the other party is not as unhappy with the set-up you have now or they would have already left.\nEverything you are worried about leaving behind is material, this is sapping the life out of you and taking your Joy. Leave
321252
I think when you turn 18 you should be outta there. Unless your going to college. Then it's ok to stay for the first few years while your going to school. But if your 25 or older, and still live with your parents: that's too long. Seen the movie, "Failure to Launch?"
464152
Yes! As you move into your thirties and beyond, having a college degree is going to be more important in your earning power. Research shows that every class you take will improve your earnings, even if you still don't graduate. And continuing education helps keep you healthier and happier. If you have kids, it is so good for their education and motivation to see you studying.\n\nPlus, you don't want to wait until you're in your fifties and have your children complain that since you've been going to college, you only call them when you need money!
901988
staying for the sake of the kids will not give them any benefit, as time goes on and your kids grow they will notice things arent how they should be and will in time feel awkward, and often end up rebelling against both parents, some even leave home asap, i know quite a few old school mates who had done this, growing up in the kind of environment that you have at home now.......
192652
stay until u have at least one other option... then go to school as soon as possible
381288
I'm 27 and I went back to school last year.  It's never to late.  I have people in my class that are in their 50's studying to be teachers.
9340
My mom, who is 45, is going back to school for the first time in January.  She hated high school and barely graduated.  But, seeing my cousin and I so happy and excited by the college experiences, she realized how important her own education is.\n\nMoral:  It's never too late to go back.
984751
At 16 you can drop out. At times we're a tough group here. You got married, nice to hear some people take responsibility for their actions. Try and finish school by correspondence or whatever, a diploma is still important. All the best.
408245
if you are happy where you are..stay.  Change is always good as long as you are able to supoprt yourself and your child.  Give it a chance...plus there are more jobs in your related field where you are now.  New people, new job, this can be scary but not bad.  I admire you for having the strength to do it in the first place.  Stay where you are for at least 2 years and then decide if you think things where you are could work to your advantage.  Good Luck!
89006
You are old enough to quit school when you have a legal respectable job lined up that pays enough to pay rent or a mortgage, a vehicle payment, all the bills to run a household, for your food and transportation,  for all the stuff your children will need (because there will be children), with some money left over to save in the bank and some to invest in a pension plan and some more to pay health insurance and some more to pay for a vacation now and then ... you get the picture ....
455342
Well, if they are paying then you better listen to them.  If not then, do what you want.  Just realize that you run the risk of losing financial support from them, and that will be hard.  Speaking from experience.... a free ride is almost always a good thing.  If school is paid for and you don't have to work full time to pay bills then take it.  It's the smart thing to do.  You'll be better off financially and it's not for that long.  Maybe you can stay home for the first 2 years and then move out after that?
1077800
As a homeschool graduate myself, I know you all are going through a lot.  It's hard to keep things together, especially if you are living on one income, like my family did.  I just want to encourage you to keep up the fight- for whatever reason you are homeschooling.  I wouldn't trade my homeschooled years for anything.  As far as homeschooling and working a full-time job, please, do whatever you can as far as putting your family on a budget, cutting back on superfluous spending and so forth, before you go out and get another job.  Part of the beauty of homeschooling is being able to spend those critical years with your children- and if you're working full-time, it's very difficult to do everything that needs to be done, let alone find time for any extracurricular activity.  The last thing you want is for you family to struggle because you don't have enough time for each other (hubby included). Let your younger children started doing chores around the house.  Your older children can help out there, too.  My mom worked cleaning houses and apartment complexes while my siblings and I were growing up, and we helped her do and earned a little money of our own on the side.  All of us worked at some sort of job outside the home by the time we were 14 years of age- some people may think that was awful that we had to do that, but some of the best lessons I ever learned, I learned on the job.  It's also a great way to teach good work ethics, honesty, reliability, dedication, etc, by EXAMPLE.  It's a better teacher than any lecture.  Best wishes to you as you continue your journey. :)
35192
Any time you want to better your education is a good thing. Just be sure to researchit. My husband went to school for 3 years.And when he got out there was no longer a great need for the job he went to school for. He has about 8 years of schooling and he is now a truck driver. First do what is going to make you happy. If its running for the gov's office or digging diches .If that is what makes you happy 'JUST DO IT'
76121
In my opinion, you had better get a better plan.  I know another year of school sounds like a long time, but working from paycheck to paycheck for the next 40-50 years will be longer.  Perhaps you should look into a business that you can start in your spare time or learn how to trade the market.  Whatever you decide, good luck.
1039711
I'd say stay home set the example and save money. The life style change can make you or break you. Try it if not move out the second semester.
952659
You have 2 children.  When you consider a career you should consider how it effects them.  Your career should be focused around your family.  What works for your kids?  Once the kids are grown and gone, you can do what ever else you want.  Find something that has some flexability too it.  You need to take a day off because one of the kids is sick or in the school play, what happens if your empoyeer disaproves?  You need to be there for the kids first.  Job second.  Like I said once they are grown and gone, do anything you like.\n\nI quit a great paying job because it was impossible to raise my kids while working shift work.  Their mom saw more of them than I did and she only had them every other weekend.  So I quite.  I had no other jobs up my sleeve.  Just turned in my 2 weeks notice and started hitting the doors of other companies that my offer better hours.  I lost a almost half of my pay.  We may have been poor but at least dad was home when needed.  Now they are older and more independant.  So I have moved back up the pay scale just a little.  Once they are gone I'll go back to working more hours and in places that are going to yield better pay.  In the mean time however I have worked at home and done very well.  I'm getting better at it all the time.  By the time the kids move out I'll be doing what I love and when i love to do it.  I doubt I'l ever really go "back to work".  Good luck in your efforts to support your family.  Finding a balance between supporting them and being home for them is hard when you have to do it solo.