Why  nice persons (male & female) are looking for someone , and it is so hard to find it ?
491916
Maybe we spend too much time at the computer :)
251982
Because they are not ready to settle down; they still whant adventure so they look for the "bad guys" to have fun. When they get older and they are ready to settle down, they look for a good guy.Same thing happens with us men.
435549
You may be looking in all the wrong places.  There are great guys out there who have hearts of gold, compassion towards others and certainly know how to treat a lady.  Knowing the qualities of the person who would make you happy is a good thing and is not too much to ask.
1161650
They are very hard to find. Usually it's the people you take for granted.(your mom, sisters, etc.)
560562
because people are looking for someone else to "complete" them. they dont realize than another person can never do that...you have to be complete in yourself before you pursue a relationship! When people get married and find that they still arent "whole" they think its the other person, when its really them.
641980
This is a loaded question which has many answers.  Since I do not know you nor do I know the friends of which you speak, it is hard for me to give you an accurate answer.  I will do my best.  \n\nPeople are inclined to seek out people...its human nature.  When looking for a mate, perhaps we have a vision in our mind of what's "ideal"...she's funny or he's handsome, she loves the theater, he loves to cook.  We set up a scenario only to be disappointed when there seems to be no match.  So, what is one to do?  Wait and pray for that soul mate to appear one day?  Maybe resign yourself to the fact that there is 'nobody' for you?  Or, do you settle for someone who is not quite what you were looking for but close enough to build something with...perhaps leaving you to wonder if that 'soul mate' is still out there?   The answer lies in you.  God won't shout down from 'above' with a megaphone "Go to the bookstore, you will find your mate there."  \n\nYou've reminded me of a joke I once heard.  I'll abbreviate it for you:  Every day a woman would go to church and pray to God that she would win the lottery. But, every night she would be disappointed when she didn't win.  One day God spoke to her and said "Meet me half way and buy a ticket." \n  \nYour ticket lies in your heart.  Good luck....
397715
Woman, do want guys with a good heart, however sometimes those guys are too easy to obtain and women sometimes need to feel like we put some effort into the relationship in order to make it work. i've dated my share of jackasses,but what i really want is a niceguy.... you might as well ask the meaning of life.
1017570
It's perfectly natural to want to find the right person. It's part of growing up and becoming a MAN. \n\n\nBoys treat women like playthings, but men treat their partners as equals.\n\nBut you'll have to be patient; you won't find the right person overnight. But one thing's for certain: if you don't put yourself out there and you don't walk up to a woman you find attractive and start the first conversation... who knows, she may have just been your future wife. Honestly, there aren't any real consequence of just being yourself; worse comes to worse, she'll just forget you. Oh well.
858992
It happens, finding the right guy isn't easy, takes a lot of time. It's basically trial and error. I have the same problem with girls, a lot of them are basically the same and boring.
584325
difficult to find mate..\n\ncoz all girls are busy on computer making programs to date man...lol
643741
It sometimes gets discouraging doesn't it?I completely understand what you are saying.\nFor me it has taken realizing that the right person for me is not in my town and most likely not in my state.Opening up to the possibility of the right person being in another state widened the potential matches.\nI guess that is not for everyone,but I did not want to miss out on the right person just because I was stuck on thinking they are near by.\nI wish I had the answers but I don't all I know is sometimes we do need a break to just "be" as the search can be exhausting on soo many levels.\nI know many people will tell you to stop looking and the right person will find you,but what if everyone just sits back and stops looking??LOL I am not sure how that would work then lol\nBottomline you have to do what feels right for you :)
586881
THANK YOU!!Women are constanly saying they want the nice guy but the nice guy get's nowhere.What's up with that?
905847
First of all it's not in the human nature to see the good in people. Secondly, u cant blame anyone man or woman for questioning gestures especially when it comes to a man woman relationship (especially if ur dealing with attractive members of the opposite sex). Like if a guy approaches an attractive lady  and if the guy is attractive himself (or vice versa) the first thing on ur mind is usually not 'oh he's such a nice guy' it's usually where's the attached string or what does he/she want. Some people try to deny this NATURAL reaction and be like oh I didn't think anything of it. Granted, sometimes there aren't any hidden agenda's but unfortunately an evolution has occurred in the boy girl relationship world (partly thanks to the media) so u just gotta go through the whole process. Prove to whoever it is ur interested in that ur sincere and see if it works out.
457520
well then, if you are really what you say you are...maybe you don't need to search..maybe you just have to wait for that person to come along..then meeting her would be more special and having her in your life will be such a blessing... ; )
100960
YES!!!  I am one of them and most of my friends are!  I think nice people can be hard to find but if you look and you're nice too, you can find them!  : )  Being nice is the only way to be...I have bad days but still try to be nice!
307219
because when we go into a relationship, we really put ourselves out there, and give it 110% expecting the same in return, as whole heartedly as we can be, its really hard to find sincere people these days, but don't dont worry you'll find someone that will care and love you the way you really deserve, and put all their effort into the relationship, the same as your doing.
386900
very dificult to answer. Some people spend their whole lives searching and never find a perfect partner.