how do I tell my unfertile girlfriend I want a son?
493693
Have a kid with some one else? Have you tried asking? Maybe you should sit her down and ask if she wants everyone in the world to know that she is basically sterile and if it is okay for you to tell everyone on the Internet that? Lets say by chance you get her pregnant. Its a Girl will you reject the child? Your question says you want a Son. So not only do you want your Girlfriend to do something she cant do but you want her to push out a boy. If all else fails. Tell her you love her and you want to share in the ultimate joy of having children together. Then go to the fertility clinic and work on this together.
1050270
I'm sure she loves you very much and would love to have lots of babies with you - I feel you will make a lovely couple. I hope you have a long and happy marriage together !!!!!!!!!
144535
You arent being paraniod. Tell her that babies arent just cute to hold and rock to sleep. Tell her that she wont have ANY time for herself, and if the boy caves in and leaves (which he prob. will) she will be alone in raiseing the baby. Tell her she should wait until she is both physically possible and finacually stable with a nice man to have a baby. Tell her all about STDs. Tell her it is a woderful thing to have a baby....when she is ready to have one.
461691
Simple...You're not fat baby, I love you, you are hot.\n\nThat is assuming you want to stay married, if not then tell her she's a cow.  :P
1154493
tell her that 14 is way to young and it is a big choice to make tell her of all the negatives that can come pregnancy std's and make sure u watch him a 16 yr old boy i a walking hormone
412155
Its very possible that your boyfriend doesn't want another child at this time and is happy with the current situation.  Truth be told, unless you want to leave your boyfriend and form a relationship with another man, I don't think pursuing a baby with him is a good idea now.  If he is avoiding the baby discussion, then I think you know how he probably feels about it.  If he WANTED another child, I think he would be initiating the dialogue with you.  I would not give any weight to the fact that your cousins have more kids than you do or that you daughter is an only child.  Having a baby to give your first child a friend is a poor reason to get pregnant.  You have to do what is right for your family unit and your situation.  So are your feelings based on envy or the biological clock?  Its very likely that they are, but this is one decision that SHOULDN'T be made on emotion.  The question you may have to ask yourself is whether ahaving nother child is worth losing your boyfriend over.
960331
you cant. you either want to be a mother or you don't. pick cause she should be your whole life
424918
i am so sorry you are going through such a tough time. If you love her then don't give up on her. She is probably upset also about losing the baby and pushing you away may be her way of dealing with the loss. Keep calling her... send flowers and a note...write to her...don't stop!  she needs to know that you are there for her and doing everything that you can to get her to the states to be with you. Tell her that she misunderstood you and that you would never say anything to cause her pain. Remind her that you love her and want to have more babies with her and if it is Gods plan then you will... whether it's naturally or adoption. Just don't give up... fight for her if she really is your soulmate and true love.
157043
The best thing to do is go to a fertility doctor and have them conduct tests. If you are unable to concieve, then they have other options for you if you are wanting children. You might want to bring your mate with so they can test also. Sometimes it's the guy, not always the girl. They would have solutions for that too. Good luck!
75134
Come up with codes. That way if things start going to far you will have ways of letting eachother know. She will respect you for respecting her. Before you guys start anything you can be like "I want to make sure our first time is really special and that we are both ready for it. If things become too much for you, just pinch my arm and I'll stop." Of course if you come up with something else that would be fine too. The physical "no" is much more likely to get your attention. Some guys have the misconception that no sometimes means yes. No is no and that is the bottom line. Be sure to have a way to tell her to slow down too. You seem to be saying you are not ready either. Maybe you could clasp her hands and then back of for a minute until you are ready to continue. You are only 16, there will be plenty of time. You don't want any regrets. \n\nAlso, "take care of yourself" ahead of time. That way the urge will be less. You wont feel such a great need.\n\nJust in case have some condoms handy. You don't want to take any chances. I'm sure you are not ready to be a dad yet.
737708
I think you should talk to your friend and ask him why he wants a baby and if he's ready for the commitment.\n\nGood Luck.
282278
dear darkimpact,\nsimplicity, you practically answered your own question by asking us.  tell your girlfriend what you told us, like how much that you love her and that you are truly devoted to only her.  let her know that you respect and understand the predicament that she is in, and that you love her so much that you will wait for her.  in the meantime there are ways to be together even if not in person.  write her letters or poems telling her how you feel, you can always get these to her through mutual friends that know what you two are going through.  women love men who can verbally express their feelings.  lots of men think that you have to be all macho and all, but to me that is not a turn on at all.  so take some advice from a voice of experience and best of luck with your new love.
337609
I've got a better one.  "I'm pregnant, again"\nHaha...so go for the vasectomy!!
882039
NOOOO, don`t ever make him decide. If he chooses than it needs to be without YOUR help!\nI think his mother was way out of line with that comment. Try not to worry too much about it, it sounds like you have a great boyfriend there! If you want you can have a talk with her and tell her that you didn`t mean to "step on her toes", you are simply in love with her son and wanted to be with him on this important day.
1087103
Ooh...what a mess! Ok, first, should have waited a little longer to cohabitate. Now that makes it hard on you, your boyfriend and your son. All things in due time, my dear. Next, I do have some good news here...you'll probably always love your son's father in some small way because he shared with you an experience no one else has, which is creating your child together. This will change with more time, though I can't say if your feelings for your boyfriend will change. I loved my ex dearly but he wasn't in love with me. He accidentally got me pregnant and we both decided it was for the best for me to have an abortion. We're still great friends ever since we broke up, but that will always tie us together, even though no one else knows what truly bonded us. It took me time but I didn't move on until I was really ready and it sounds like you did. You're also really young and you already have a child so a lot of this could stem from those early 20's feelings of newfound independence and sowing wild oats. Only you can decide. Take some time for yourself and figure out what it is you really want. Once you clear your head, you might realize you do love this man, or you might soundly be able to declare to yourself that you don't. Remember that love takes time to build and establish, and you haven't been with this new guy for too terribly long. Whatever you decide, best of luck to you.
1186510
have lots of sex with her as it will make the labour easy! Pregnant women are sometimes real horny because of the hormone change, so go for it!
1087418
Does she know you have children? If so, then anytime would be a good time. Try to make sure the situation isn't so akward for your son or your new partner that they want to get away. Your goal should not only be making a proper introduction, but also trying to set up a certain level of comfort for everyone involved so that you, your son, and your girlfriend can all get used to and closer to one another.