Should i try to stop fiancee from talking to his ex-wife's part of the family since he is'nt with her anymore?
485764
I should hope you are very secure in your relationship, and if so then his hangin with them is not the issue.  If you have some concern for him hooking back up with her (which would be stupid) then you should let him go.  He was smart enough to leave her, can't imagine that he would find anything she does attractive.  You are the better woman and if he does not know how you feel (since you said you don't want to stop him?) then how can things change? The ball is in your court.  Good Luck!!
790496
you're his wife, now and given the past I would demand that they only talk when it involves their child and with you there.If he has a problem with that I would wonder what those two are REALLY talking about\nHe left you for her once,so beware, sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too.\nI hate to tell you, cause it hurts, but in my opinion, he's clearly not over her. If I was in your shoes I would be angry and insecure as well.I won't tell you ,you should leave cause that's easier said than done, when you love some one. But at least talk to him.\n\nyou can't control what people do, but you can control what you let them do to you.
718198
What do you mean she never goes home? Are you saying that she is always at your ex's house? If so, then you are crazy because whether something is going on or not between the two of them, she should have respect for his relationship with you and he should have the balls to tell her that he is in a new relationship and that she can't come over there...and if he has told her that, then he shouldn't allow her over there.
665096
I know how bad this sounds, but you should tell her fiancee! If she dosn't stop, she might go on to adultery!
34337
i think it would be the right thing to do just in case anything was to happen. so she can know all of the family. it really depends on how he is. but you should still let her see him.
563061
In my opinion, No... he should not be talking w/another woman about her's, his, or anybody elses relationships. whether you know them or not.  Things like this lead to emotional cheating.  Stop him now....
412656
i would tell you boyfriend how you feel about his ex wife. tell him that you really don't feel right her staying there. she is worried that you are taking what she had first but how i see it she was the one that let go of him and she thinks that he is going to wait around for her to come back around a crap. i would tell him everything that you don't like about her, what you think about her. just tell it how it is girl. because that is just going to hurt you guys in the long run because she might try to say something to him or something that will mess everything up. or try to start crap.
973345
No way this is normal. You need to put a stop to this-pronto!   There is a reason she is the "ex" so you have every right to remind him of this. He should be over her by now and have made the commitment of being with you. He's married to you now so he hasn't any reason discussing anything with her or being under her control. With exception of talking about the kid anything else concerning the two of you is is none of her business. He's out of whack for communicating with her like this. Time for a reality adjustment. So get up close in his face and tell him in no uncertain terms to shut that big mouth of his. What a lot of nerve. If you're wondering about what I think I think it sucks big time and is callous and disrespectful toward you. That shrew of an ex needs to be put in her place also. Who cares if she went "nuts". She's nuts if she thinks she had any say about the two of you being married! Who the hell is she anyway? Tell her to butt out of your lives. Share a relationship with the ex? God no!! So put your foot down unless you're considering becoming another ex.
320681
Stop all contact unless you just love the drama , then call jerry springer. He is an X for a reason and he isn't a friend.
170677
Trouble alert ... trouble alert...\n\nIf he is being controlled by her, you will not be happy. If there are no children in the picture, simply confront your partner - his ex-wife has no say in how he runs his life (again, in absence of children, and even then, only in how it affects the children). Let him know that this is unacceptable and that you want it to stop.\n\nNot bringing up the subject is going to cause trouble. His ex-wife will constantly push until she meets resistance - make sure that the resistance is there at a level that **you and your partner** are comfortable with.\n\nAnother problem - is your partner allowing this to happen? I don't know your situation, but is he entirely over her? Him allowing his ex-wife to control him is odd.
994766
Well, I can't speak from the perspective of a mother dealing with an ex's new spouse.  But I did have a stepmother, and our relationship was more like a friendship than mother-daughter.  Personally I preferred it that way.  I was a teenager when my dad married her, and it would have been inappropriate for her to try to be my "new mom".  I would suspect the same is true of your children, who are old enough to engage in friendships with adults.  If you feel your ex's new wife is overstepping her bounds, you should set the boundaries.  Ideally with your ex, his wife, and you in a meeting together to agree on each other's roles.  Let her know what you do and do not consider appropriate in her relationship with your children.  She should respect your decisions with regard to the children. As to a relationship between you and her, it would be ideal if you two could be some kind of "friends" but it doesn't always work out that way.  If she ignores you, so be it--as long as she abides by your ground rules.  She may simply be trying too hard to win the friendship of your daughter, but you would be the better judge of that than I.  I wish you the best of luck--it's never easy when spouses remarry.
486384
It's not your fault your ex has control over his family and tells them who they can and cannot speak to. Don't let it get to you. All that matters is that he has no control over you.
677818
WOW...I think you guys just need to share the time with her..I do  not think you should just take her that might cause trouble for you and then you will never get to see her, my brother in law is going through the same thing right now and his girl is a nut case\n\nI feel for you..
469555
It sounds like he still loves his ex and obviously can't take the hint that she wants nothing to do with her. I would say you need to ignore him awhile then try to talk to him again about the ex, if he gets mad then straight out tell him that he either stops with the cards and flowers to the ex or you will be gone, why stay with someone when their heart is with someone else!
852059
My sister-in-law has a son who sever ties with her because he felt she didn't give him enough money which he feels is his inheritance!!! \n\nIf you are in this situation, let him go.
951686
You should not order him to do anything as that is an attempt to control his actions.  You should tell him exactly how you feel and that you would prefer he not continue contact with her because she has shown bad motives where he is concerned.\n\nIf he cares for you, he will heed what you say and choose to cut communication with her.  If he doesn't, then you need to be concerned about your relationship, not because of her, but because of him.  In the end, you can't control anyone. You can be open about how you feel and why.\n\nSue
225689
It's only natural that she is his "reference point" as you say, and I think he's probably honest about not loving her anymore. But he should stop mentioning her all the time! Have you talked to him and told him that it hurts you? I think that'll help. Good luck!!