how to attract a woman and get more dating, I'm a shy person?
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I hope this is useful.\nA simple HI! is enough for catching someone else attention, once you have it.  The next step is the hard one, this is an advice, given to me, that i really found useful, first (this is going to bother some girls feelings) girls love to talk, but above all love to be listened to!  ask a question, that you know will lead you ask more questions about a topic, today's events could be useful (someone before me gave you this hint), listen very carefully, and in base of her answers, make the next question, let her do the talking, you'll notice when she's really interested in continuing talking with you.\n\nAbout your ex, your are in a mistake, do things for your good, doing things for someone else eyes, only will leave you with an empty filling.
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I'm not a player, but I've done well in my day with the ladies.  The best thing to do is just go up to her and say "hi".  Maybe give her a compliment on her hair or shoes.  After that, keep it moving.  Don't gawk or look desperate.  She will get the idea and if she is at all interested, she will let you know in some way shape or form.
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Some fundamentals for men: talk 30-40% and let her talk the rest of the time.  Open doors, pick up the tab, and make eye contact.    One big mistake I see guys make, and one that I made back in my dating days, is making the date seem more like an interview.    Sure, you want to get to know the person, but that doesn't have to be crammed into one night of Q&A.  Make an effort to strike up casual conversation, and talk about things that are in the moment.  Remember, people evaluate how much they like or dislike you based upon the quality of the experience they have in your presence.  If you are able to show people a good time, they will be attracted to you.  If you make people feel like they are interviewing for a job, they will not be so keen on another date. (Watch any episode of Blind Date to find out what NOT to do.)
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Just ask!! Confidence is key. Even if she isnt attracted to you, she might get attracted to you because of the fact that you had enough confidence to ask. Or she might think of you as a potential friend and you'll gain a friend. My advice: ask! even if things dont work out, you'll gain confidence for the next time. :-)
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Money and looks will only get you so far... Be flirtatious, partake in interesting hobbies, and show your self confidence without being cocky. You need to take the initiative as well... don't be afraid to ask that girl out on a date!  Have no fear of rejection. Everyone gets rejected and it's part of life. Also, don't be CREEPY... hard to define... but enjoy your life... talk to people, smile, look girls in the eye, don't be shy... that's all I can think of right now! Good luck!
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1. What is the question? how to get her?\n2. First of all, girls...all girls...are attracted to confidence. You sound like you do'nt have too much of that...If you ACT like you have confidence, that is attractive to women.\n3. It's all about the game of "he who cares less"\n4. Start small - talk to her. Do you have classes with her? Start with little things like..."hi"..then progress to little things like "did you see that movie last weekend?" See? At least get on her radar.\n\nBut really it's the confidence thing you can do.
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Well you're shy, so then the confidence thing will only work if you're slightly cocky.  So we'll ignore that approach.\n\nYou're best bet is to find something in common with the girl you're interested in.  If you can't strike up a conversation with somebody, it's not going to happen, YOU GOT to be able to casually strike up a conversation.  If it's someone you 'sorta' know, be able to say hello & find something that relates to her & you.  If not, then say something random that you like & see if she responds (NO PICK UP LINES!!!)  It really doesn't matter what you say, just the fact you said it.  \n\nNow from there you can ask for casual dates, if you are not comfortable asking for 'dinner' or 'going back to my place'  You need to be able to find out what she is interested in & then find something that would interest her in doing it with you.  If you're talking about movies, find a great movie nearby & ask if she wants to go.  If she like coffee, go for coffee, if she likes plays, find something like a play.  IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE AWKWARD!  All you need to say is 'Hey you like ______?  Me too!  They're showing ____ at the ______ on _____!  Would you like to go?'  If she says no, than move on.  If she says sure, casually ask for her number so you can 'coordinate' it & give her one phone call so she knows it's all arranged & off you go. \n\n* Important at the end of whatever you're doing don't just go straight home, find something else that can detain her for awhile, so you can talk about whatever you chose to do.  This'll show your interest & then you can plan (Or run away) for what happens next*
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First of all why should you be shy?  If you are good person, and you mean no harm, then just talk.  You won't die.\n\nIf you are afraid of rejection, everyone gets rejected at least once in their life.  \n\nIf the woman doesn't like you and she shows it, then well in good, she is not wasting your time, move to the next.  If she pretends to like you, it could backfire, you could get lucky, her fault.
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Tell here straight away that you are shy, but you've seen here around. That you don't want to try any lame lines on her but you would like to get to know her. Just be sincere don't worry about being rejected, you haven't gotten to that point yet and if she is the type of person that wont give another the time to get to know her then is she even worth the trouble?
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You're not a shy guy, but you're not outgoing, either. Okay. I see where you are coming from. You're a "stuck in the middle" kind of guy. Normally, you are probably not nervous, and when a gal starts talking to you, you do not always get sweaty and start ststststuttering. But, you lack the confidence and machismo to just go right up to her and say, "Wow, you're the only good-looking girl that I have seen all day. I'm So-and-So. Mind if I get your number?" and hand over a pen and paper.\n\nYou DO have the right idea, though. It is a clever strategy and worthwhile goal to try to get the women to come up to you, rather than vice versa. But...unless they are practically drooling over you for some reason, like your disarmingly good looks and manly charm, that is not realistically going to happen - am I right?\n\nDepending on the location and situation, there are many different ways to start up the Attraction Game. Building attraction is definitely the most important part of getting anywhere with any woman. You cannot just stroll up to them and say, "Hey, you are like, so totally hot, and I like, like you, you know?" Unless, of course, you can pull it off in a particularly humourous way and get her laughing.\n\nThat's what you need to aim for. Laughter. Do not come across as being outright goofy - just playful. Even the more serious-minded women out there will appreciate a fine sense of humour.\n\nNext time that you see a lovely girl standing around, and you want to talk to her...look at her for a while. People, as you have probably noticed, tend to have a "sixth sense" that just lets them know when they're being watched. She'll probably at least glance over at you. Don't drop your gaze in a panic, though. Instead, smile cheerfully, and - slowly - move your gaze away from her. Don't stop smiling, either. Then glance back at her quickly, and look away again.\n\nWhat's the point of that little exercise? It builds attraction. A lot of our communication as humans is completely nonverbal - it's body language. By looking at her but not freaking out when she looks back, but rather slowly looking away, you're effectively saying: "I'm not a creep, because I am not staring at you. But I AM admiring you."\n\nShe'll probably smile back, or at least her eyes will shine with some degree of recognition. There's your chance. Look at her again - about the same way, just focus on her eyes (always, always, always look into a woman's eyes when greeting or talking with her!) - and stroll right on up to her. Sure - this takes courage. And sure, you are probably worried about being rejected. But don't be. Repeat this mantra through your head: There's no reward without risk.\n\nYou might even become so smooth at this whole thing that she ends up coming over to YOU, wanting to know what is going on. I love it when this happens; it shows me that the lady has some confidence and fire in herself. :)\n\nOnce you get there, say something spontaneous. This could be amusing and playfully-arrogant, like what I mentioned in the beginning of this post. Or, it could be simple and direct: "Hi there. My name is So-and-So. You are?" It sounds crazy, but this is honestly all you have to do. It's that easy. What you have to watch out for here is turning into a wimp - blurting out words randomly without thought, or thinking TOO hard about what to say and therefore saying nothing at all - but remember. You are already there. You've already initiated the conversation, simple as that might have been. Now all that you need to do is keep it up!\n\nAnd just go on from there. Keep a few things in mind if you ask for her number and go on a date:\n\n1. BE CHARMING, but do not become a "girlie-man." *laughs* I mean, don't let her walk all over you or get you sweating and stuttering. Be confident.\n\n2. BE FUNNY, but be mature, t
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I used to be just like that. but you dont really get over being shy, you jsut get better at being outgoing. the first thing i did was join a club that takes you all over the U.S., it's called FFA. I got a job and it was a waitress at a bar. so there are many opportunities there. just go up and talk to the guy, any guy, it's how i did it and now im still shoy to an extent, but hey, im get out there and i have fun while chatting up some hottie. so jsut break away and strike up a conversation with some random guy, like a guy from school, in the grocery store...anywhere...even in the mall. it works.
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Communication is the foundation of any relationship.  You have to break free from your shyness and start talking to these girls that you are interested in.  Do your best to have idle chit chat and you should be able to overcome it pretty easily.  Good Luck!
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It's hard when  your shy to talk to girls..but if you wanna girlfriend you have to get over this...start out small..start with saying just hi to a girl  you like..then start with a hi how are you..then add a little more at a time you'll soon realize it's not as hard to talk to people as you think...a lot of women like shy guys...you'll find some one just be yourself..
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I am a shy person too, and most shy people want u to take it slow with them and don't push thing to far. Talk to her\nas a friend first and see what she enjoy. You might have something in comment with her and you may hit it off. Don't rush nothing
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There's tons of ways to meet women. Maybe try personal ads and party lines. If you meet anyone are are worried about whether or not you'll want to hook up with em, meet at a bar or somewhere else public and talk for a lil while first. Have a friend call you about 20 minutes after you meet so you can make an excuse to leave if you don't have the heart to tell her that you're not attracted to her. If all is going well, and you and her click, take it from there. You need to meet up with someone that has mutual interests. If you're only interested in sex, you need to hook up with someone whose only interest is that as well.
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First of all you need confidence. If you learn anything, women appreciate confidence. Women appreciate being able to take men anywhere and having the man be able to speak to anyone and carry himself in a high manner. The best thing to do is start off slow. Ask her out to a movie or to coffee or whatever is appropriate. Instead of flat out saying "I like you" give her the opportunity to know your personality before you go blabbing all your feelings. Spend some time alone together and if you still feel the same you should let her know. Just be confident! I have faith in you.
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Well you brought it up...so to you it is a "problem". Id bet you have no girlfriend because your shy. Being shy is ok...letting it define you actions is letting it go to far. Make a deal w/yourself (or your shyness). When you want to move forward with somthing (or someone), Like: This is to important to me to pass-up and think about it no further, say hi, ask about THEM and give yourself a pause to take in how that person responds to you. Youll learn and get accustom to haveing nerves...they can turn to stainless steel if you keep learning and refining. As far as the outcome goes...your guess is as good as mine. They only thing you do is conduct yourself. You can start small or you can start BIG...how do you know what those are? The one that sends you  spinning...ThaTs the big one! Take on those and live through the outcome...youll become King. It takes time so pace yourself.