HELP me PLEASE!! am CONFUSED.IS SHE A LESBIAN??
480413
she is!u say shez unmarried,so most probably dull sex life,that has generated a lesbian attitude in her.be careful,such psychos r really dangerous and vindictive.
934488
She definitely didn't mean what she said. Very bad you didn't get the message. Next time she said something like that, you do something sexy to her like hugging or kissing her deeply with some foundling and so forth - trust me, you'll be surprised to see another "her" in love action (lol).
776357
I think either your all being a bit hard on Chancer here or some of you are incredibly stupid.\n\nHe has asked a legitimate question and nobody has made an attempt to give an answer.\n\nWhy do some lesbians dress and attempt to look like a man?\n\nIs that such a difficult question to answer?\nThere is a vague attempt of something by a 'butch dyke' as she calls herself but no explanation.\nIt does happen, SOME lesbians do dress in suits and a tie, cut their hair really short.\n\nWhy would someone who finds women attractive want a partner that looks like a man?\n\nI don't think there was an intention to offend, maybe he could have worded the rest a little better.
605115
you have to give yourself a little time knowing this person. i dont know her ( of course) but if you said that you guys do everything together, then talk to her, ask her about her life, what does she do when she gets home, ask her about her personal life as well. Maybe she is always alone and she enjoys being with you cause you're with her most of time. Perhaps her family is not close to her and she feels that lack of love, or she just likes to be your friend. Use you head and find out this for yourself. \n\nPerhaps she really likes you and wants to be your friend, but probably she is lesbian, that's why i told you to ask her about what does she like to do, who does she go out to, or talk to her about boyfriends just to see her reaction.\n\nDont try to avoid having a friend, there are not a lot of good people out there.\n\ngood luck..
965562
Ah, the jealousy of protecting him for you is greater than the opportunity for her to touch you.  Definitely--you are not a lesbian.
339174
The lesbian thing fits...cus you don't seem to have along term plan in mind with someone that could otherwise be a candidate for...I think you can save the friendship if you take the time and consideration to explain to him that its not him, its you and it wouldn't hurt to let him down easy by saying you knew if you could feel for a man the way a woman normally does, I thought you would be the man that could do that for me..but your feelings don't go there..so it would only be fair to both of us to remain friends. It might be a stretch but you owe the friendship that.
576807
No, I don't think you made a mistake! However, her response sounds to me like SHE has issues - it doesn't mean yes, or no - in other words, she is undecided. I can't tell from that, whether or not you should pursue this...that has to be your decision. Good luck with whatever you decide (at least she was honest with you!)
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It depends a lot on the ways that she is physically affectionate.  For instance, I knew a girl in high school who people thought was gay because she liked to hug other girls and kiss them on the cheek. She was straight, so, she never thought her actions would be interpreted as flirting.  People still made assumptions though.   Now, she is married (to a man) and has three children.  Some people just show affection in very physical ways.  \n\nHowever, if your friend is doing things that make you uncomfortable you should talk to her about it.  Maybe she is a lesbian or people may be seeing something that isn't there because it makes for good gossip.  Confront your friend in a calm and compassionate manner.  It is the only way to find out the truth.\n\nIf she is a lesbian.  Just explain to her that you like being her friend but do not have the same feelings she does.  That you are willing to be there for her as a friend but nothing more.
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She takes you as a really good friend. So my advice to you dont let your heart in too much... it could hurt and you cant blame her for it as you know she is lesbian. Dont blunder the friendship!
585794
OK SO YOU R NOT A LESBIAN RIGHT?\nWELL WHEN A GIRL LOOKS AT YOU TELL THEM YOU ARE NOT GAY AND DO NOT LIKE THEIR STARES.
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signs baby, its all about it.  What kind of hint is she giving you, what messages are you sending to her.. dont be so shy, im in the same boat. i am bisexual, i do not flaunt it nor hide it. just be comfortable with yourself, oppportunity will arise.
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Ah, the ol' "Well, there was this one time in college..." lesbian episode. Hey, if you want to try it, go for it. But what do you mean you didn't know what "spend the night" means? She grabbed your breasts; doesn't that give you some idea? I'm guessing it won't be just "kissing and holding."\n\ndo it if you're that curious, but know that it's going to be a part of you forever. Not saying that's a good or bad thing, just that it is what it is.
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She'll have an Official Lesbian Badge. J/K :P\nThe only way to know is if she tells you herself. Or if you meet her girlfriend-girlfriend.
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if you're not really not into him(as you said, you're a lesbian), then you should not worry about how his reaction is going to be. besides, if he's a real friend (and not "acting" as a friend just so he can hang around with you), he would accept you for who you are. if he can't, you've got nothing to lose, right?
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Its just a feeling she has. I doubt its a choice although alot of people think that it is. I am sure 90% of homosexuals would  have it any other way because their lives are so much harder the minute the come out of the closet. They face judgement, harassment, loss of friends/family, millions of problems. So I think she just has the urges and didnt choose it. How old is she? She may not be old enough to really choose it and may just be experimenting because she is confused.Just love and support her through it because I'm sure she is feeling really confused right now.
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That sounds really weird.  It sounds like she's either asking you if you're gay (or bi) or maybe even suggesting it.  I personally would question why either of you take something like that seriously.  Why would you get embarrassed (getting annoyed I can understand, but why embarrassed).  As for her why would she take offense?  \n\nMy guess is she is trying to ask you if you're gay. Are you? Answer for yourself, then deal with her on it. Tell her the truth, whatever that is, and dont worry or be embarressed.  After all either you are or not. There's no point in making it more complicated than that.\n\nOn the other hand what about your girlfriend?  Is it possible she is having gay or bi thoughts herself? You should ask her what exactly is going on.
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I know you asked for lesbians .. I'm not quite a lesbian but I do enjoy being with a women sexually ( I guess most would say BI .. but whatever you want to call it is fine with me )\nI would be very cautious with this woman .. she seems like she really digs you .. but she's also going through a major change in her life .. most people can only handle one at a time .. divorced & experimenting with her feelings at the same time - that sounds scary to me !\n\nMaybe become friends .. go out a few times .. see what her expectations of the relationship will be ..  get closer and really get to know her.  You might find out she truly is falling in love with a woman and not just using you .. there's only one way to find out !