My Mom makes me feel bad about everything that I feel good about...what should I do?
490895
Hey babe! Don't feel so bad, I'm in the same boat. :[\nTry trying hard for yourself, not your Mom. If she is happy with what you're doing then yeah! If not, that's her problem not yours!\n\nHope this helps!\n\nLove, Mandy
712432
It's very clear that you feel your not doing anything wrong because your mom does this same thing to your grandmother all the time. Don't allow yourself to repeat these behaviors no matter what. It's not a good thing to talk back or yell at your mom no matter what. If she's acting crazy and yelling at you then remove yourself from the situation. Yelling and fighting does not solve the problem and doesn't make it easier for someone to listen to you. All that this does is create tension and a lot of confusion. Your mom has no respect for your grandmother if she's yelling at her all the time. Do you really want to be that way with your mom as well??? Don't look at the fact that your mother is doing it so you should do it as well. You need to be the one that stops this right here and right now because if you don't it's just going to be passed down to one of your children as well.
554794
When she behaves like that ask her how she would feel if you treated her the way she treats you.  \n\nYou are not her mother so there is very little you can do.  You have to let things go because she is not your child.  Unfortunately, her mother is raising a child that will turn into an uphappy adult.
143114
A little more detail might be helpful...\n\nYour mom might just be trying to protect you from disappointment or something else that she feels is not safe or right for you.\n\nIf you really have your heart set on what you want, just keep working at it.  Of course, you have to prove to mom that you can maintain good grades and take care of whatever responsibilities you have within the family/home FIRST, or else you might find yourself in trouble.  \n\nI have found motivation in trying to prove other people wrong, when someone says I'm not good enough to accomplish something, I want to succeed that much more!
1000791
Either live with your real mom or try to satisfy her until you are old enough to move out.\n\nAlso, calmly talk to your father about it.  Tell him how it makes you feel and if you can, try to get all of you into a group therapist.
40740
Honey your mom is going through a lot of stress right now and so are you. I can assure that she loves you and while she might be angry ( hell even PISSED) at you for sneaking out she will respect you being grown up enough to tell her what you did and why. Tell her how you are feeling and what you did. It is a fact of life that you have to accept the punshiment that goes with the "crime" so step up and maybe this conversation will help the two of you understand each other a little better in the long run.
1068033
hi, i am so sorry that you are hurt, but i understand.  hurting your mom is the worst feeling in the world.  the worst.  but the best medicine is free.  don't do any of that writing notes crap, that is really chicken shit.  you hurt her, and you are old enough to own up to your mistakes.  you just march yourself up to her and say mama, i can never tell you how sorry i am, i love you, i need you, and i'm not too proud to say it.  then tell her that you know that your time is coming.  you'll have a mini me someday, and it will come back around.  it's called the circle of life.  lol.  the easiest answers are always the toughest.  god bless
1183310
You need to explain this to  your mom.  Chances are, she doesn't realize how it affects you.  Just calmly tell her how it makes you feel.  Honesty is always the best policy.  Between the two of you, you can come up with some solutions on how to handle it.  Maybe your mom can see a counselor to listen to her problems and help with her unhappiness.  Good luck!
455307
parents back then were that type of persons with their families, and they just were raised themselves that way and is not your mother's fault, but her, mother, and then her mother of her mother...and so on....nonetheless, you can make the change with your family and with you followed generations to come.....in your case, I can see that you have these hateful feelings about your mom, and brothers....Remember that things happens for one reason, you don't know why it happened the way it happened, but thank God, you are ok, even though you feel these feelings.....Try to forget if you can, try to do well to others and always, talk to others, the way you were treated like that others wont do what your mom did to you, and let this experience be of good use to others and forget all bad feelings and live a healthy life you and your family, God bless you and if you could Get a bible study..Good luck.
597653
If it is someone else that is giving you crap that is making you "allow" yourself to feel bad about yourself, tell them to stop - or remove yourself from the situation. \nOtherwise, this is something that has to come from within.\nEveryday look in the mirror and point out something that you see in yourself that you like, and OUTLOUD, acknowledge it to yourself. Same with daily accomplishments, no matter how small - tell yourself, OUTLOUD - Good job! Way to go! You rock girlfriend, Whatever. But no matter how you have lost it - or are losing it- (your self-esteem) you also are the only one to get it back. The fact that you care enough about yourself to ask for help tells me you're a great person and you're already acknowledging that you DO like yourself and care about yourself - or you wouldn't be asking. You'd just go crawl in a hole - So.........YOU ROCK GIRLFRIEND! Hold your head up and move on and don't let anyone steal your joy and you'll have so much self-esteem it'll piss everyone off!  HAHA!
207960
Your parent's may not like it now, but they will come to realize this is what is goin to make you happy. And ultimantly, that is what they truely want. But most of all what you need to do is make your self happy, it maybe nice to make everyone else happy. But the price that you will pay is your own unhappiness. Best of luck
1058664
First of all, don't start trying to lose weight for someone else. Do it for yourself. Do it to boost your self-esteem. Do it to make yourself happy. Your mother probably rags you about it because she hates to see you ruin your health and lower your self-esteem.  Try telling her that it hurts your feelings and makes you feel worse about yourself when she treats you that way. Ask her to be an encourager to you, not to criticize and condemn you.
1135218
I truly feel bad for you,but you need to see or search the reasons on why your parents feel the way they do towards him,i mean i would take some heed to their actions,remember they have more wisdom from age and experience.However,if they really don't have the facts to back their actions,this is something you will have to face with your parents.Always be honest with them no matter if they are not going to approve.You are an adult,and you need to let them know that you are not trying to hurt them by your choices of life,that you are trying to find your way and if it is a mistake,then you need to find that out as well.This is how wisdom comes,with experiences in our daily lives.One thing to remember is your parents have an unconditional love no matter what,just like you do for them.I just hope your boyfriend proves them wrong and doesn't make you regret any decision that you might make.Without family,we have nothing! I hope the best for you,Good Luck!
66679
WOW, i know what you mean. I am sure you feel unloved, unwanted and scared to be like her. I am living proof that you don't have to be like her. I grew up with a horrible mother who abused me every single solid day, emotionally, mentally, physically I mean the works! I am now a loving, NEVER HIT MOM, and I do NOT scar my child in her ways. I am proof that you don't have to be like your mother. Ok? Email me if you want to talk sometime...i totally understand how you are feeling.....Missiowa2004@yahoo.com. Good luck and know you are not alone okay?
698479
You could be depressed.  It's nothing to be embarrassed about.  If you cry alot, and don't get joy from things you liked before, it could be.  Why do you think she is wrong?  \n\nLife is too short to feel so sad.  It might help you to be open minded about depression.  You have a computer - get more information, help yourself as much as you can.\n\nYour school counselor is probably concerned about you.  You can talk to your parents if you feel comfortable with that.  If you don't go do a teacher, friends mom, or other adult you can trust.  \n\nI have been depressed in my life, and it is so easily treated.  I should never have suffered as long as I did.  There's counselling, and or medications that can help tremendously.  Please don't give up.  \n\nI always remember life is too short, and I don't want to feel so sad.  Please help yourself so you can be a happy and content person.\n\nGod Bless
689440
Like you, I have a mother who insists upon providing me with far more "wisdom" than I might care to enjoy.  It gets frustrating, but you have to look at it from her perspective, as well as your own.\n\nFirst off, remember that by warning you about her mistakes, your mom is acknowledging that she made mistakes and trying (albeit misguidedly) to make up for them, which is more than most people do.  Second, remember that her warnings are primarily critiques of her own life, and not yours.  She would feel terrible if she failed to warn you about the things she experienced, and later in life, found that you needlessly went through the same traumas she did.  Third, be assertive and let her know, kindly, that you were there with her when she experienced many of the mistakes that she is warning you about, and that, with or without warnings, you have learned from the mistakes of her past.\n\nFinally, let her know that you appreciate her desire to help you, but that if she wants to truly help, she should imagine the helpful friend, rather than the wise friend she wishes she had had, because what you need far more than advice is practical, hands-on assistance.  And don't be afraid to follow your request with contact that is at least partly connected to the extent with which she complies with your request.  Good luck.
509703
Try getting your mom out of the dumps..\nThink of something she likes to do and you wouldn't mind doing..Go somewhere together..hang out with friends and family..You make her happy, you'll be happy.\nGood luck!