My friend and her husband are swingers?
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My wife and I have an extremely happy marriage.\n\nSwinging is not a "legal" method to cheat.\n\nSwingers have the ability to:\na) separate sex from love  and\nb) openly communicate their wishes, desires and fantasies to their partner.\n\nThere are as many types of swinging as there are swingers, some are exhibitionistic and like to have sexual play strictly between themslevs but like the added thrill of others watching.\n\nSome are voyeurs, and fit nicely with the aforementioned group.\n\nSome have special "friends with benefits" who they not only participate in sexual play with, but also go to movies, and dinner, vacations, play cards, have bar-b-ques, etc.\n\nSome have what might oddly be termed "monogamous" relationships with a third or another couple with whom they play exclusively.\n\nCertainly there is a percentage of the culture that are "serial swingers". My wife and I refer to them as the "notch on a bedpost crowd" who seemingly play with anyone and everyone, they are definitely in the minority.\n\nSwinging has dramatically improved our marriage for a couple of reasons - first, it absolutely requires honest, open discussions and conversations, and anytime a couple improves their ability to communicate with their spouse it will help the marriage. Second, we do not worry about affairs and cheating, there is no need for it, if one of us is attracted to someone else, we simply talk about it and decide as a couple whether we will pursue an opportunity to play with that person/people. Third, our sex lives have improved for a multitude of reasons or sex with each other is better and more frequent now.\n\nFeel free to contact me with questions you may have and I would also recommend that following sites for more information on the lifestyle and culture.\n\nhttp://www.swinglesonline.com\nhttp://www.theswingersforum.com\nhttp://www.swingersboard.com
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it sounds like they want to sleep together, so if you aren't comfortable with that, you should communicate it clearly with your wife and friend.\n\nsome cultures are more flexible and wouldn't have a problem with those 2 getting it on.
966252
do not let their judgment sway you, it is a good thing, try a swingers group, or pay for sites like adultfriendfinder... personally i like the big swinger parties that they have at hotels,(big cities) you get to meet hundreds of people and choose one or two or three....lol... and take them to your room,,,,, often these turn into friendships,,,,, that can be interesting,,,,,
691967
The couple themselves.
940819
A real man and friend would tell his friend the truth.  Don't be stupid and do his wife.  Just because she hot doesn't make her not act like a ho.  She's desperate right now and trying to get out a situation because she got caught.  Thinks of this, if you do her, she could be a real b**** and flip it around and tell her husband that you came on to her.  Not only will she get out of her situation with him but she'll get out of her situation with you with a bonus from you to boot.  Tell him and whether he believes you is his problem.  Let him know that you have no reason to lie.  If he ends your friendship over this, trust me, she'll be stupid enough to screw up again and get caught then he'll feel like a fool.
199913
Hopefully,  she realizes that you are a true friend ,  and she has a dirtbag for a spouse.  Reality check though,  she will probably find a way to blame you for trying to seduce her husband .  It would be a lot easier than admitting that the man she wishes to spend the rest of her cinderell story life with,  is a lying cheating Puss-Bag.  Sorry hone,being you would suck ,  I would hate to be in your shoes,  But if it's any comfort,  I applaud  your courage and honesty.
1036936
be totally honest with each other from now on and be swingers.
976356
That my  friend could be a veryyyy tricky -situation to step into . # 1.) You two have been friends since highschool ( however long that was). And if the "chemistry" just wasn't there between you two then  to share a relationship... what  makes you think that now (& two kids later )  would be anymore of an opportune or better time for yous to get together ?   #2.) Do either  of you really want to take the chance of ruining an obviously good & workable friendship for the sake  of wanting to be more "intimately" involved ??  And perhaps even more importantly ; you are both involved in a relationship already . Whether either  of you are un-happy in ur current relationship or not... still i would suggest that you both first try addressing your matters at home & within ur present relationships before even considering getting together . No need for either of yous to bring "bad" luggage with you over into the next relationship.  \nAnd , even more important for yourself my friend; if you are really not  ready to "fill in the Shoes" of the actual father of that woman's children.... then do stop fooling yourself into thinking that you two will ever really be happy with each other as well. \nBut, in any event  I do  wish all parties involved the very best .
260015
sounds like the making of a good riddle.. anyway i hope they are all very happy together. i have one wife, shes white and we do ok... together 30 yrs.    your "friend" , like everyone else is just looking for happyness and like most of us does not look in the right places
105768
your in a hole different ball game now. your married they are not. this is when you find out who your real friends are. and you being married shouldn't have anything to do with them not hanging out with you any more. i will ask my good friend and get back to you
970290
Perhaps you could confront them by letting them know that your husband is aware of what was said, and that you feel betrayed because it had been a private conversation between close friends. Let them know that you feel hurt as well, because it has as you have said, made a very tense situation even worse. \n\nIn some ways it is to be expected that these friends of yours would tell their husbands, that is their life partner. What is terribly wrong is for the husbands to turn around and not only repeat your private words and cause more problems for you, but these husbands also ratted on their own wives by telling. Goes to show you that these husbands did not even think about how their actions would afftect you or the bad position they put their ownnn  wives in. Now these women of course will have to face you with what they have done. All around not a good situation. \n\nI would be very hurt by their actions but as well, I do not think they told their husbands to be mean or to do it as gossip but to share in what you are going through and perhaps as women do... run it by someone else in order to get another's opinion.  Perhaps you could keep this in mind as you confront them. They do owe you a big apology..... as well as their husbands.  Good luck... I hope everything turns out ok for you.
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First off, she is NOT your wifes best friend if she would make advances towards you. If I were the wife I would not want to know if it has all been stopped and I mean stopped. Do NOT ever be alone with this woman again. She (and your stupidness) could ruin your marriage. I've been in this situation with my spouse of 35 years. I was the stupid one and I too came to my senses. When he tried again I told him it never happened. He got the message. I vowed never to put myself in that situation again. I did NOT tell my husband and the other person eventually disappeared from our lives.  I am glad I did not tell.  There would have always been that doubt planted.  I know I have behaved ever since but he might wonder. Should the best friend decide to tell then you have your problem to deal with.  Avoid her unless wife is around. Some will say it was just a kiss but there is a seriousness here.  Good luck
110084
I notice you don't mention how things are with your current beau. But as for your bud, maybe he should dump her; she doesn't sound like the most trusting sort. \n\nAnd if you and your friend are that close, maybe you do belong together.
13489
not a problem. married a woman that is 7 years older than me. and have a couple buddies that married older woman
424876
A husband and wife business should be their own. At least she is letting him know from the beginning that it won't work out instead of leading him into a marriage that she could not make him happy in. I applaud her honesty and not leading this good man on. Every body's tastes are different. What suits your taste in a man, may not be hers. Respect your friend's decision.
618127
For two spouses?  You sound surprised to learn that TWO people can engage in sex.  Geez, what's been going on in your life, pal?
400772
WTF are you thinking? She is married! Tell her to goto a marriage theropist. Talk to her husband. Seek Professional help. \n\nIt will only happen to you in the future. You need to be her friend and not her lover.\n\nThere are plenty of fish in the sea.