My grandmother has breast cancer. Any thoughts on what I can do to help? I feel so powerless!?
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The best thing I think you could do is find out alternative ways to help her and learn more about cancer. Th site below is very informative.
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dearest grandma, it is what it is and they have the best treatments ever! It has been proven that having a good attitude and positive outlook, helps the mental health  and prognosis in it's self. advanced! My own mother survived a double masestomy and I have to double think an unknown fear away, everyday! So! My Advise is, Don't assume it, assume it is not and be on your day. Until you are told OR YOU ACTUALLY FEEL DIFFERENT!?OR is your grandma lonley? Maybe she needs extra family time. Parks with ducks?
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This is my miracle story. Last year my grandmother who took care of me my whole life became really ill. I was called by my sister who asked me to ride with her to see our grandmother and say good-bye. When arriving at the hospital we were greeted by our whole family. Everyone sobbing saying this was it grandma was leaving us. My grandmother is 86 years old so it wasn't a huge shock to my husband that she would be ready to die. I did not feel like she nor I were ready. I went in to see her and I sobbed. She grabbed my hand and said she loved me and that she would be fine. She was put on a breathing machine that night and signed off support two days later. She got better and did not die like everyone thought. I knew she was going to be fine. I was the only one who knew. We had a 4th of July party this weekend and she was there to eat and laugh with us. My grandmother and I have a wonderful bond along with my sister. I will know when she is ready to go I know she will make sure I am ready. That is my miracle.
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GOD BLESS YOU .\nI JUST LOST MY HUSBAND TO CANCER, AND THEY REALLY LIKE THE HATS AND WIGS PEOPLE GIVE THEM.\nYOU ARE A VERY SPECIAL PERSON TO DO THIS.\nAND  GOD BLESS YOUR AUNT.
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i am 37 and they told my mom she now has about 8 weeks to go. there are no words anyone can tell either of us. you are not being selfish for wanting your mother to stay alive. our moms no we need and want them. and this, from what my mom says is the hardest thing she has ever had to do in her life. she looks at my kids and my brothers and i. she can't help crying. she knows we are deeply saddened and there is nothing she can do. she was dealt this hand and she is fighting this cancer with all that she has. my heart goes out to you and your family. i cry everyday. at moments i will be numb and i am ok but it only takes one word from someone and tears will come down and i can't stop them. we are to young in our lives to loose our moms. i can't even imagine all the really young people that have gone through this. i do not know about you but if one more person tells me she is going to be going to a better place i will loose it on them. it is not that i do not believe in god i do. but her better place for now is here with her kids and her grandkids. i also have children. and my mom lives down the street from me. they go there everyday for a snack and to see grandma. and like you life without her seems impossible. she will not see my 40th birthday or my kids have their kids. there will be no more mothers days that i can pick her up and take her to lunch. no more she drives me crazy because she is just being a mom. i am sure you can relate to all this. i can't shut it down in my head. the thoughts won't go away. it hurts to bad. i do not know who you are but i will pray for your mother. you have my deepest sympothy. if you ever need to write my e-mail is momof4angelsaz@yahoo.com. who knows maybe we can be a support team. please write and tell me how you and your mom are doing.god bless you and your family
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I think you need to continue with school for your future.  I'm sure your mother would agree with that.  As for no money for treatment, etc., check for social agencies, hospices, churches, support groups (check with the hospital oncology department), etc. to see if they can help.  Sorry for your situation and may God bless and comfort you and your mother during this difficult time.
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man, take care of her , be there when she needs you , have patience , try to rise her self-confidence , don`t let her see  your worries and be the supporting shoulder when she needs one. try to talk to the doctor and find out exactly what her status is , there are many forms of cancer that can be treated  and in chase something bad takes place...be there for her...forever...  you`ll have a lifetime to know that you did something well. take care man and hope for the best
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Yes we do.  My mother and her two sister have a team called the Three Sisters.  We so far have had a mystery dinner.  And next month we are having a golf tourney and possibly this summer a concert to raise money for relay for life.  I am an 8 year survivor.  My one aunt just lost her husband to brain cancer and my other aunt has a daughter now battling cancer.  God bless people like you.  As for my favorite part it is meeting people who have gone through the same thing that I have.  And if anyone want to participate just visit the American cancer society for details in your area.  Just remember all the money raised will one day help eradicate this terrible disease.
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I had breast cancer....go to your doctor asap  Best of luck..I AM DOING GREAT! YOU NEED A GOOD  SURGEON...I HAVE A GREAT ONE IN GEORGIA
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u should be proud of her to actaully admitting her illness and getting help!! there is nothing better then that.. u should stand by her side ans support her.. she is ur mom..and the one and only mom..maybes she wasnt the best in the past to u..but she is willing to change.JUST FOR YOU!!! u should support her..cuz now she is feeling more depressed just becuase u dont wanna talk to herr..and she is going through a very tough time now..
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Do not feel guilty b/c you still need to grieve.  No one can you how to react to this situation, you need to do what feels right to you.  Own your grief, anger, and sadness.  You will learn to celebrate her life, but right now you are overwhelmed with her death.  Do try to celebrate her memory but also be respectful to your feelings.  Try a tradition that you and your grandmother did together.  Go visit her grave and talk with her. Pray that she will find happiness in her death and always remember she is by your side.
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I understand how you feel I lost my grandmother the same way. We were close and I am sure you were with your grandmother, she just wants to comfort you and let you know she still loves and not to be discouraged because she will all ways be there to watch over you. Don't be afraid it will all be okay.
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OH yes I will pray for you. I to am having a rough year I have lost my great grandmother then my uncle and now my grandmother is in mexico right now for cancer treatment and they don't even know which one it is and they have given her less then a year to live and what is really breaking me up about it right now is that I have a new baby girl who is going to be 3 months old soon and she hasn't even met her yet. They are hoping to send her home for christmas which would be very good because then she might have the chance to meet her great granddaughter at least once because when and if we see her at christmas it will probably  be the last time I ever get to see her again.
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I have researched something called DMSO. My grandmother has cancer also, and she is not doing very well, but at this point she won't take DMSO, she is stubborn. Please research it and get her to try it. I really believe it will help!!
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Listen with an open mind and give him a lot of support while he's going through the chemo. Everyone finds their own source of strength when dealing with a major medical crisis. I would say to just be there for him and try to be as understanding as possible. If you have a conversation where you feel like you can put in your opinion, do it. He won't want you to act differently or treat him differently than you usually do. I've been through cancer with my Mom, Dad, brother and sister and everyone deals with it in a different way. The best advise I can give is to be there and continue to treat your friend as normally as possible. He needs all of his friends to be there for him right now.
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Be there for her every step of the way. Its very hard going through chemo and radiation, my son has been battling cancer for the last year. The thing that helped him is his family and friends that have been there from day one, giving their love and support. Be there for her give her strength and courage. Pray, prayer is an awesome thing. Tell everyone you know to pray. Keep your faith and just give her lots of love and hope. Dont give up, I know its very hard, the worst thing for her and your family is to give up. Keep fighting cancer is beatable. Its not the end of the world there are so many cancer survivors out there. I will keep you all in my prayers, Take Care and God Bless.
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Unfortunately, you're not going to be able to "do" anything but support her when she's trying to recover.  There is more to anorexia and eating disorders than just eating.  It's a control thing and she really needs to be in counseling with a professional and groups...all of those things she's getting.  You can encourage her to go.  Maybe getting her to volunteer with sick kids (those with cancer) might help her realize that her life is precious.  In other words, get outside of "herself" and give to others is very healing.  God love you for being a good friend.