Why is it that I never seem to be truely happy?
494305
baby girl, if you start doing thing for yourself. you'll feel much better. you have a good surrounding but it's up to you to make yourself feel happy and belong. so start an activity. join some cause that you believe in.
572870
Probably because you are not exactly happy where you are at in your life now. Things outside of you connot truly make you feel better, you should spend some time each day, even if it is just for a few minutes to allow yourself to think. Whenever I'm not feeling quite right ( whatever that is ) it is usually some unresolved issue that I've been avoiding!
655732
I am 27, married, 2 little girls 3 1/2 and 10 months, and I had a good job with a bank until 2 weeks ago. And no, none of that guaranteed happiness. Happiness comes from accepting who you are, what you want, and working to make youself the best person you can be. No oustide factors will change that. They may add to it, enhance it, make it more convenient, but they will not be what makes you happy.
483231
ive felt like this soo many times in life....for a long time i wallowed in it, wondering what to do. then i started finding things to occupy my mind, like i started exercising by myself, or you know reading and stuff. life sometimes is funny, like you go through things that are sooo miserable, but then later in life, its like wow, that really made me appreciate any piece of happiness i get....i am a better person, and more compassionate i think because i went through some rough times when i was younger.
490282
Boy, I think we all get to that point at times. I hear ya and empathize. I've found when I feel one of those moods coming on, I tell myself.. This "mood" is entirely up to me, I can CHOOSE to be miserable and make others miserable OR I can CHOOSE to be upbeat and let things slide off my shoulders for another day.. What would ya rather do today?  Sometimes, it's grudgingly, but I opt for the upbeat choice. Another thing is to set a NEW goal in life, whether it be work or your personal life and get excited about it.\n\n\nP.S.  Being able to bring a smile to others is a gift that should be shared often by us all and the doom n gloom we sometimes feel does not in anyway fix our situations, so consider it a waste of time.
681985
50% sure about myself.Why you ask because there is so much wrong with me(I think.See!)that sometimes I get depressed but then my friends cheer me up so then I feel great.So it's a 50/50 thing.
770851
ARE you negative all of the time, no you are not, for it is impossible in my opinion because every action has a negative and positive reaction its just that you see only the negative side, there is a old saying about looking for the good in everthing we do, will bring on happiness that shines through, now if you do this you will be happy some of the time until you meet the person who is bad that's when you get your butt kicked, but i would sooner be a positive person ,an optimist coupled with a good dose of common sense, and getting the mix right is called experience.\nthere are loads of self help books on the market but the one or two that helped me was ''i can i will'' by Norman Vincent Peale, it as a religious undercurrent but that aside he gives you a positive\nphilosophy to live by which is a very good reason to read it.\nand any book by Jonathan Livingstone seagull, another positive insightful author, regards LF
644603
you need to be happy to be alive everyone goes through a dark stage you have alot going for you apparently..quit dwelling on what you dont have and love what you do have...maybe you should go take your test and then branch off from the family a little and find the real you...you cant buy happiness what you need is a inner peace...i wish you luck; )
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you apreciate life by accepting what you do and what you have, therefore you can be happy about your life...  you can't always have what you want, just be happy about what you have and don't want too many things...  you can also do things that help others, that may make you feel better about yourself too
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Hello! Can understand what you mean. Have not got too much self-esteem neither... but I have come to accept that it is not okay for me to feel that way somehow. I want to change it. Think one really needs to decide deep within to change it. There are many beautiful suggestions here. A counsellour I saw some time ago told me that I should say out loud "I am a wrothwhile person and I deserve to be happy." ... and it worked. Just that I became kind of lazy :o) . What might help you as well is the link below. It might seem childish but it really does help. Enjoy it and good luck to feeling better toward yourself :-) !
685795
I have had several times in my life such as yours. The best thing to do is to try to look at the good things in your life rather than the bad. Life has many ups and downs, however the downs stick out more than the good so it is important to try to focus on those things that make you happy. Time tells all and things will surely get better. Your attempts to make them better will only help along the way.
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sure there are millions of happy people all over the world ! I'm happy because I'm alive...  I have love , family , friends ,a home food and clothing... the world  is still here... so there is still hope  for our future .. there is  plenty to be thankful for... I could concentrate on what I don't have ... like many unhappy people do...   but why make your self so unhappy ??
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I totally agree with "The Birdlady" EXCEPT that you can't put a price tag on happiness. I'm adding a link on depression for you. You will need to see a counselor. Just talking about how you feel, to anyone who will listen, sometimes helps and you make realizations on your own as to some things that have caused you to be depressed and what to do next. Ask your counselor for a good book on overcoming depression. Some other answers on here are good. You have to make some lifestyle changes to feel better, rather than being stuck in a rut. \n\nGood luck. :)
493066
Life is what YOU make it. Yes of course maybe you don't have the best life or all of the money you want. But you have to get some humor and JOY! Where is your joy?? Haven't you ever laughed so hard for no reason at all?? I do that all of the time, and I feel like a complete idiot, but it feels so good to giggle and laugh. \nLighten up, life is hard enough!
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Some people get a lot of joy and peasure in helping others, and it's real admirable, and i gotta love them for it.\n\nBut i am selfish. I am happy doing what I wanna do, i don't wanna follow some moron's vision of happiness, i wanna be me all the time. I dont give two hoots what anyone thinks or wants if it doesnt fall in my view. I can compromise, but i don't often, why should i make myself unhappy?
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Many people are like that, for several reasons. It could be for intimidation, or just because people don't want to worry family and friends. Normally, people are unhappy because of the everyday problems that arouse as we go on. Things like money, office work, children, social problems, health problems, and many others don't necessarily make one unhappy, but most people faced with these things don't try to appear unhappy.\nBut, on the other hand, many people are not like that. Many people are in love with life and are as happy as can be. they don't need to make others believe that they are happy- they already are! People who don't socialize much might not have as much of a need to make others feel like they are happy, though.\nIt's hard to say whether the statement is right or wrong, but there are different types of people. Let me just say that a lot of times, the superficial reality is different from the truth.
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I turn to my family, music, what makes me happy actually. sometimes cry to get it all out. i also think if i can make it through this while others cant, that this will make me a stronger person.