Is it to soon for us to marry?
491265
You know I just asked the very same question earlier. I'm with a guy and we have only been dating for two months but have already talked about marriage and what we want out of life. I'm almost certain that soon he is going to pop the question and I wanted everyone's opinion. The only thing I can say to you is that I think you should go with your heart. You can take all the advice you want but at the end of the day you need to do what is best for you. You are 30 years old so I think you are old enough and mature enough to know if you are ready for marriage or not. The only thing I could possibly ask though is if you are living together? I definitely say you should live together first so you can get used to each other's annoying habits. I have been living with my boyfriend for 1 month and I'm starting to finally get used to the fact that he HAS to have 3 showers a day,  has to have the dishes washed as soon as they are used, and has to let gas ten times a day. lol.  Good luck!!!! Oh and if you would like to talk more feel free to contact me. :-) I'd love to trade stories and advice with someone.
202993
Say no. your too young for marriage. go out and enjoy life first, you'll have plenty of time to settle down.
871253
No, it's stupid. If you're considering marriage after 2 weeks, you're being unrealistic. Date for 8-10 months first, not weeks.
185389
not whats on the outside that counts. only you know if you are mature enough to handle a committment like marriage. chances are, if you have to ask, then you're probably not ready. long as you're over 21, age really doesn't have a determining factor as to when one is ready to marry. you'll know when it's time. be happy and rush into nothing. :)
205212
I agree, it's probably not the most logical place to ask "is it a good time to get married"... only YOU can answer that.  well, you and your boyfriend.\n\nYou are on the right tracking thinking about finances and feelings.  Continue to discuss things with your boyfriend.  Where will you live?  Does he have a stable job?  Does he have or want children? Do you?  When?  Who will care for them?  How will you raise them?  Discuss reglion.  How will this come into play with children.  Have your families met?  Do you have the same goals and values?\n\nMarriage is awesome!  It's important to really think about it and plan for it.  So while I may have teased you a little for asking "should I think about marriage"- I think it's good you ARE thinking and planning.  Go with the flow and let things happen naturally.  If it's the right time to get married/engaged, you and your boyfriend will know it.  In the mean time, start talking about goals and longer term plans with him.
247284
I am going to live with my boyfriend soon. And I would not want to be married before having lived together for at least a couple of years.\nBut hmm 14 years, that is a long time. Maybe he is just one of those millions of people that does not value the institute of marriage.
366283
I haven't, as yet, waiting until after marriage.\nI am 25 yrs.
128310
first of all how old are u? are you even old enough to be thinking marriage?. I hope that you are at least in your mid twenties?
536664
I am actually one of those girls that has been engaged for years (2 to be exact). We got engaged before I finished my undergrad degree and decide to wait until I finished my masters. Anyway, it seems to me that just as long as you and your boyfriend have similar life goals, marriage may not need to be rushed into. Maybe you should wait until after you are done with school. Then you will have more money and time to plan your wedding. At the risk of scaring him away, I think that you should at least sit down and have a serious conversation about where you both see each other in the next 5 years. Having a frank conversation about your goals will help you to determine whether he is genuine when he says that you are the one, or if this is simply a ploy he uses to avoid confrontation or a possible break up. Remember that a marriage is life long commitment. It isn't something you should try to squeeze between school semesters out of convenience.
177224
If you are ready to take the next step and you feel it's right then it's the right time. I'm getting married in November and i know it's the right thing to do. I love him and there is no point in waiting, i'm 25 and my family and friends enjoy his company which made it easier for me to make my decision. If you don't have to change your life to involve the other person but gradually include them, then it's good. Don't think that maybe someone/something better will come along and you might miss out, that's wrong.
464789
If he loves you and you love him then you will get married when the time is right.  However, you have to be patient, if his marriage ended badly (emotionally that is) then he might not be ready to commit just yet.  You should not take that as a sign that he does not love you or doesn't want to be with you.  Just go slow and keep talking to eachother and it will work out the way it was intended to.
572198
the best time for you and your mate to get married is when you both know that you cant be without the other.when you are ready to make that commitment than you will know when the time is right.
67562
Anytime of the year! When you are ready, that's the right time. To get married sometimes you need to find the best time of the year due to weather consideration, honeymoon plan, etc. But a proposal? I would say anytime!
433076
It really depends on the nature of the question. 1) Do you really love him and feel that you two will be able to grow old together? 2)What are your future plans? (ie: School, travelling, Career advancement? Marriage is a big step, its a promise and lifetime (supposed to be) committment.  Once you marry you can't think of yourself anymore you are committed to another person and that pretty much hinders your ability to do things you normally would do single (party with friends, hang out etc etc).  I'm not saying all marraiges are going to stop this from happening.  Just think about it more wisely and ask yourself are you at the point where you can settle down.
451785
If you both are truly in love, then it is the right time.  Marriage should not be bound by your fiscal situation or your career, ect.  True love knows no boundaries.
141242
Actually time is not really an issue.  I know pople who dated for 4 - 6 months and got married.  But there a re also people I know who have been dating since the beginning of time but they are still unmarried.  So obviously you are marriage oriented.  Bring up the marriage topic to him and see his reaction.  Positive or negative.  But you can also ask him directly to be sure  --  "do you plan on marrying me?" But be prepared for either getting really hurt or a pleasant surprise. In my opinion, if you are unsure then the answer is no or not yet.  Usually the guys will drop in a lot of hints on the fact that they want marriage early on in a relationship.  Does he talk alot about your future together?
413726
You can't ever tell that.  It is just complete speculation as to when you will meet the person you will marry.  It will happen when it happens and you can't change it.  If you are so worried now, you need to grow up and not be so desparate!  People can sense that a mile away, and I can sense it through the computer.  Just live your own life and you will eventually find the person you are to spend your life with.