What should I do for my husband on Father's Day? We have a 19 month old girl.?
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I made something for my husband on father's day that he loved.  I found several cute photos of our youngest daughter with him i.e asleep in his arms and playing with him.  The I bought a frame with a mount in that had several holes for pics.  I put all the pictures in them together with a title which I attached to the front on the mount so that it showed through the glass.  It simply said "daddy's girl".  He was over the moon with it!
383181
Leave. Pack up the kids for a little vacation and leave him a note. Leave a note saying something like, "I am very serious. This is what you are going to come home to one of these days if you do not make some changes. See you Sunday."\nTell the kids you are just taking a mini vacation and Daddy has to work and can't come. Just go away for one night and see if it wakes him up.\nJust a suggestion.
1067652
Let the child be with daddy as much as possible.\nEspecially if dad wants him/her around. Children\ndon't understand the problems that cause parents to\nbreakup. Love the child, let daddy play a big role in life,\neven if it cause you discomfort. The child will love you more\nfor it and when he/she grows up your child will understand\nthe sacrifices you made and be also more understanding.\nSorry, I am assuming you are separated from the child's dad.\nIf not, be thankful that daddy is such a great guy and is loved\nby this beautiful child.
615793
YOU DAUGHTER is old enough to identify with what she is feeling and if she feel uncomfortable with her dad then yes something has to be done.\n\nif you can talk to him and tell him how she feels when he do or say certain things. \n\nyou can do it 2 ways   \n\nyou can ask him to accompany and particapate (depending on how she feels.\nIt will be best for your daughter and and her dad to go to counseling,. so he can see how he is making her feel.\n\n if you can't talk to him then tell your lawyer or the courts that your un nerved about your daughters current emotional stability and you will like to get to bottom of IT and resolve this problem. your daughter is growing it is very important for her to feel comfortable around her dad that way she will have a well balanced life, this is not a good start.This could lead to alot on your daughters behalf in the future in a not so good way.\n\nhave a child psychiatrist talk to you daughter test her, start to build evidence!!! your ex needs conseling and you have to prove it.after couple of visit you daughter psychiatrist should see that you ex husband is harming her emotionally. then that is your proof and back up. \n\nyou can do other this to build herself esteem, do project creative on let her creative that way she can release what she fell or shall I SAY EXPRESS IT, AFTER SHE PAINT, DRAW, MOLD OR SINGING WHAT EVER THE CHOSEN RELEASE IS APPLAUD HER HELP BUILD HER CONFIDENCE BACK; YOU CAN BUY POSITIVE THINKING Books for kids too. teach her how to make her favorite cake unsupervision. she has to release that negative enery and welcome positive energy. \n\nonce she realize what she is capable of doing these wonderful things on her own that will be a step towards building her confidence.
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Well you didn't say that money was an issue and I don't know your age but alot of thought can go into this suggestion. My daughter did this years ago and her dad loved it.\n\nBuy some nice index cards and make 'coupons' for your dad to redeem when he wants to use the coupon. For example:\n\nThis coupon entitles you to 1 free car wash.\nThis coupon entitles you to a free lawn cut.\n\nThis is just examples so you have to think of what your dad would really like done around the house and make coupons for this. If he usually takes out the garbage or walks the dog, stuff like that he would love some help with. \n\nMake up the coupons and decorate them and put them in his fathers day card. I promise he will love it. He will know how much time you spent on the gift.\n\nHope this helps!!
718007
im sure that your first thought would be to do something grand and over the top, but i would suggest that you do something simple. a little quiet time with just you two will be a good start. if you want to have a welcome home party for him, i would suggest that you have it the week after he gets home, to allow him time to adjust. and as for you... be prepared for some changes, and dont expect things just to fall back into the place where you were when he left. accept the fact that your husband is a changed man. because he is. just be patient with him, and take things slow. caution your friends and loved one not to make him talk about his experiences. he will tell you when he is ready. and above all, just make sure that you are there for him. out of everything that you want to plan for him, do for him, and do to him, im sure that all he really wants is a hug from the woman he loves.
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if u havent been spenidng time with ur child... seriously TAKE AN OFF FROM WORK! play with ur child!! show him/her how much u Love him/her!!and have a great time!!\ntake care !
1051639
I am blessed to still have my father but I can empathize with your situation, and I have an idea that could bless you and some other needy folks. There are many dads in hospitals and nursing homes that have lost their daughters, and would welcome contact from anyone on that day. There's probably nothing nicer you could do with your energy and time than arrange to show up at a nursing home with a generic card and some time on your hands, and offer to chat with someone who'd like to be wished a happy Father's Day. They would love to share about their children, and to listen about your day. It could be a celebration of those who've touched your lives and moved on.\n\nBlessings for a *Happy Father's Day,"\n~Tia~\nLive from the big, purple brain\nhttp://advision.webevents.yahoo.com/asktheplanet/brain.html
1096804
Wish I knew your age. Something very fun is to pick him up when you know he doesn't have plans, have your trunk full of goodies, blankets, lots of food some of his clothes, if possible and just sort of "Kidnap" him for a day or evening or whatever you are able to do. Take him to a private beautiful place for a picnic with all his favorites, later out to dinner, just the two of you and he will feel real special that you planned all of that for him.
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I think this is really sweet what you want to do! I don't have any good recipes but I can tell you to go to Food Network.com and they have all kinds of recipes that I bet will impress him! Just the fact that you are wanting to take the time to do something for him, for Father's day, is a wonderful thing for you, him and your marriage!!! I would say also, don't know how old or young the kids are, but why not get them involved in helping to get ready for dinner, etc? Make it a family time, a family day! That's what it's all about and if you ask me, we all make ourselves so busy nowadays that we don't take the time!!! Good luck! Hope all goes well!
565257
First have a serious one on one talk with your daughter and ask her what she really wants, it's not all for parents to decide for our kid. Then after you got her thoughts, talk to your wife. This is your family's problem, it must be between you and your wife first before it goes to your parents. Remember you already have your own family life, your parents should understand that.. Then when you got your wife on discussion,tell her what your daughter really wants and after you got her reaction, talk with them; you, your wife and your daughter, and discuss everything and weigh all corners and make the decision.You are the head of your family, act like one.
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The answer is in the question, just tell him that he can be a father withou you living with him. You're able to be on your own at this time and his guilt shouldn't be your burden to carry. He hasn't always been there and should respect that you still want to maintain a Father - Daughter relationship with him on your terms. You deserve the right to live your life as you choose.
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you're father in law is very fortunate to have a daughter in law like you since he is feeling useless let him get in on some of the suggestions maybe he would like to go out for a nice dinner with his family being with you all should  make him feel that he is very important to his family ,ask him to tell some stories from his past when he was a young boy i have noticed older people enjoy doing this ,and last but not least each one of you tell him what he means to you and what an inspiration he has been in your life and how much you admire him as a husband a dad a grandfather  and a father in law this should make him see he is the #1 dad
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Take them out for a nice Italian dinner, then to a art muesuem. You might want to try the muesuem first, depending on what time they close.\nOn the way home, stop and get crayolas, or water color paints, for your daughter. When you arrive home, you can have quality time with wife, while daughter trys her hand at some art work, of her own.
271184
Honestly, this probably won't turn into a big problem.  Most Dad's will find something wrong with their "little girl's" boyfriend.  Just keep being yourself around him, be polite, and abide by his rules.  Most importantly, treat his daughter with respect...you will eventually win his.
900272
Im a Dad I think most Dad's are very much into providing all the things that he feels his family needs such as food clothing money for fun cars schooling medical etc and if at times he feels inadequette it can stress him out establish a relationship that recognises this give him a hug tell him hes loved and get him a beer a cold one cheers.
1009863
Just let him talk to his dad on the phone about anything. There's not much you can do. Tell him daddy's at work for a little while. You're not lieing, he does have to work to get some money to come back. Oh, and did you ever think that your husband is lieing to you? Ya'll are having problems and he did leave before, have you thought that maybe he isn't comming back? You have to face reality, he might have found someone else. I know that's not something you're ready to think about, with a son and a child on the way, but some men are azzholes. It might be hard, but you have to do what is best for your children. A: You can sit at home all day and you and your child do nothing to move on with you life waiting on your man. or B: You can get up and do something. I know you're pregnat so maybe right now you're not able to get a job, but you can still take you son to the park, or swiming, or any activity. Something to keep his mind off his daddy gone for so long. And if your husband does come back, then everythings great, if he doesn't come back, then you've already started on taking his mind off of his dad, and you have built a good relationship with your child. And remember, what ever you're feeling with your emotions you're unborn baby can feel them too.