how do you come out about being gay?
478905
First, you have to be ready for others to know you are gay.  You have to know it in your own heart.  Then, take your time and be selective about who you come out to.  It's not necessary for everyone you know your business.  As your personal life comes up with friends, YOU decide if you want to share this with them.  OR, it can be great fun when you are in love with a great guy (gal) to discuss it with your new love and introduce them to your friend or brother, sister, whomever.\n\nJust be honest and be yourself.  Your true friends will still love you and deal with it sooner or later.  Some people need some time (especially family) to get used to the idea.  Good luck.
457064
Don't change who you are. Your not committing sin for  being Gay so don't worry about it okay.
320377
Your question is worded ambigiously, so I'm gonna try to frame this the most simple way I know how.\n\nDo you want to f*ck your friend?  I mean it.  Do you?  Do you want to kiss him or touch him naked?  Do you want to feel his skin on yours?  Do you want feel his hands on your body?\n\nIf so, then you're at least bi.  If you don't want any of those things, then you're probably straight.  But if you're gay you're going to have to face it at some point.   You can deny it until the cows come home, you can pretend to be straight, you can pray until your knees lock up, but it wont make the feeling go away.  \n\nYou need to examine why you don't want to be gay.  Is it because of your religion?  Are you afraid of being physically harmed?  Are you afraid to be seen as different?  Are you worried about what your friends and family will think?  Do you think that gay people are all diseased or can't have normal lives?  \n\nSome of those fears are normal, some are fuled by a homophobic society that usually doesn't know what the hell it is talking about when it comes to gay folk.  You need to learn, think, and take some time to decide for yourself.\n\nI would highly reccomend renting or buying the TV show Queer As Folk... its five great seasons about gay life, both the normal and gay-specific parts (plus lots of sex :-) or the book "Am I Blue: Coming out from Silence".  \n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0064405877/sr=8-1/qid=1146355924/ref=pd_bbs_1/002-2832502-7269667?%5Fencoding=UTF8
1051624
How do YOU know they are gay?  Sounds like you might listen to pop music in the closet.
906174
Oh, my...That's tough.  I knew I was queer when I was 11, though, didn't have language for it yet.  I came out when I was 17, but I have a pretty easy family.  If you think that your families are going to completely flip, be careful but get support outside your home.  Do everything you can to get reassurance that your love for each other is a good thing. It might be helpful to find a queer youth organization in your community so you can find others to talk with.  There are a lot of folks in similar situations.\n\nGood luck...And ignore the person who said you're not old enough to know if you're gay.  Homophobic baloney.  They never tell heterosexual teens that they're too young to know they're straight.  ;-)
144303
Figure out what made you question your sexuality first-- Then consult your wife about it. But... your sexuality shouldn't matter if you're already married to who you love. Some people never "come out of the closet" so the fact that you're wondering may be a beautiful thing. There's nothing wrong with being gay-- society just makes it seem like it's the devil's work or something else just as ludicrous. It's something you can't stop-- It's also pretty misunderstood. Hey, put it this way- there are lots of famous people who aren't straight too! =]
326244
My son came out to me when he was 17.....I had known he was gay long before that though, probably even before he did.  Your parents will love you regardless.  Even my parents, who used to say things like "All gays should be shot", have now changed their views radically and say "to each their own".  Don't be afraid, parents just want you to be happy, no matter what.
123920
That is such a stereotypical answer. Acts like a girl... Not every gay guy is feminine... For every type of straight guy, there is a gay guy. Gay guys like sports, drink beer, are outsdoorsmen too. Yes there are those who like theatre, are creative, but there are straight guys like that too....\n\nThere isn't a science to knowing if someone is gay. I would suggest if its someone you are close to, let them come to you with that information... You might want to give signals that you are okay with it. So they feel comfortable. It is a very scary thing, coming out!!!\n\n\n... just a FYI, if a guy likes to dress in womens clothing it means hes a cross dresser, not nessissarly gay. Those making these statements about gay guys acting like a girl, do you personally know a guy who is gay?????
14156
First stop calling yourself Gay or Bi. Then stay away from gay people or at least from their organs. Do away with the gay mannerisms. Become who it is you want to be: A MAN! Your a man now and you want a woman to keep you warm. Go to the STRAIGHT bars. Buy a woman some drinks. Make sure she sees all that money in your wallet. If that doesn't work out, go to the next woman and so on. Think of it as training. You'll find the woman of your dreams and have fun finding her. Have fun. Be happy. Just don't be GAY! \n\nOh, and Tessa...Our sexuality is in our minds, not our genes. Because if it was in our genes, we'd find the gay gene and ERADICATE IT!
831734
Found out?  As if anyone could keep a secret from themselves?  You may find out what gay is, but I seriously you doubt one could suddenly discover they are gay.  The only epiphany to be had is knowing what to call it - most know already.\n\nPart of me wanted to be a smart aleck and answer that I would beg myself not to tell my husband, but I resisted!  ;-)
761734
Coming out is like ripping off a band-aid. It is scary and it does hurt for a second....but then it's over and you wonder why you were so scared.\n\n\nJust remember to be patient with them....you've taken 3 years to get used to the idea and decide to tell folks. Don't expect them to be 100% perfect the minute you tell them.
71103
Is it about friendship or relationship?  Knowing that you are gay is big enough already, don't add that you are in love with him to the mix.  It will be too much to handle.  Coming out is hard.  You do risk losing him as a friend also.  Not everyone's upbringing has prepared them for this.  If he is a true friend with a reasonable upbringing, he will still be your friend.
1065693
I am out to my friends and family.  I did not come out until I was 23...a few years ago and it lifted such tremendous weight off my shoulders.  I cried to my Mom and told her that my "friend" was more than that and I was tired of hiding my feelings.  I actually feel free now.  No more trying to have a girlfriend to look "normal" in front of my parents.  No more calling my boyfriend a "friend".  No more hiding from people when I want to hug the person I love.  No more lies. Period.\n\nOne thing I did learn is that you cannot rush it to come out.  Your time will come. Just be yourself.  You may have to cover up things you really do not want to, but be cautious of who you confide in and expect some people to shun you and not want anything to do with you.  But don't sweat it. Your real friends will be accepting and it won't eve be an issue.  Being gay shouldn't be the topic of every discussion...it's just an extension of you are.  You happen to like someone of the same sex. People just need to accept that.\n\nYour life will change, but for the better.  You do not want to go through life hiding and faking.  That is more difficult than just coming out an dealing with people who dislike you for being gay.  It makes it easier for you to know who can be your friend when they know the real you.  And, coming out is a journey.  You do not just come out and blabber it away to everyone.  If someone asks...tell them the truth. But, if they don't..it's none of their business.  The time will come when you need to tell them if necessary.\n\nIt's up to "us" to educate people and let them know that we are just as normal as they are.  Who we sleep with has nothing to do with our pesonality and our capablilities of being successful in life.  \n\nSo, again, don't spend to much time thinking of when you should come out.  Your time will come.  If it's now...then do it.  But be ready for good and bad.\n\nUltimately, you will find happiness in yourself and the people that love you will see that.
804820
I'm not sure what the actual question is here... is it a bad thing that he might be gay? What would you do if he was straight? If you feel like you need to act, just make sure that he knows that you love and support him no matter what. If he is gay, it will be extremely difficult for him to admit it to you and your family. The next time you're talking to him you could bring up one of your gay friends in passing (or make one up if you don't have any) so that he knows that you are okay with homosexuality (assuming he is gay and assuming you're okay with homosexuality).  However, just because he doesn't share his personal life with you doesn't necessarily mean he's gay. My brother is straight but doesn't particularly like to divulge information about his personal life to any of us.
934578
The best thing to do is to steer the questions ever so subtly to the gay without saying it. If he knows you're gay then it'll be a little trickier, but if not just say compliment a guy and see if he agrees... Worked for me in high school... it's just so much harder cause so many guys have "gay" mannerisms and gays usually play the "straight" (if there is such a thing)...
39594
Sure, I've been on both sides of the spectrum. Hid my true gay self for years, pretended to be straight in a small southern town. If you wanna chat, email me at jtb1999@hotmail.com and we can find a way to do it on MSN or YAHOO. Peace and good luck.
790617
Introduce him as your slave.  That should pull the wool over their eyes.\n\nSeriously, why hide who you are?  Are you ashamed of being gay?  [If you still live at home, you get a "bye" about telling your parents until you can support yourself.]\n\nGood luck!