How did you or how would you handle a bully (whether boss or fellow worker) in the workplace?
493706
There are 3 ways to handle a problem like this:\n\n1.  ignore it.  If it's minor, this might be the best option.  There are no consequences for ignoring, except the behavior may continue.\n\n2.  Speak up about it.  You have your choice of speaking directly to your coworker, or to your boss.  The risk of speaking to your coworker is they may become offended and the behavior escalate.  It's best to find a quiet time to speak to them.  If this doesn't work or you feel you can't confront them, speak to your boss.  If it's your boss causing the problem, speak to their supervisor.  I would do everything possible to resolve the situation without involving lawyers.  Using the law should be a last resort.\n\n3.  Quit and find another job.  Use this tactic if you can't resolve the situtation, or if you can find a better job.  Remember that you might want to use this position as a reference, so don't burn any bridges on the way.
329427
Rise above it. If she deliberately embarasses you, then she is the problem. Do your work well and professionally. Talk with her and inform her that you would prefer to be told about your mistakes in private so that you could remedy them. Always be professional and job oriented. Bosses hate office politics....Document all incidents that are caused by her, if it continues over a period of time approach the person over both of you. If you are doing your work well, it will show.  If she is the boss, get out now while you still have some self esteem.  Good luck.  Be proactive, not reactive.
758215
This a deep office ethics verus common morality.  Confronting your co-worker verbally in private maybe taken as show of strength perhaps even agression.   A good course of action would be to confront her in front of your co-workers in calm and even tempered logical manner.  If she doesn't like you and spreads rumor she'll come out as agressive or defensive.  The calmer your stay saying comments like "Your behavior lately has been childish and unprofessional."  and "Such action is unwarrented, if you have greivence against me bring it to my attention and we can work it out"  Nine times out of ten the other person will come out with defensive remarks making them look bad.  They might even reveal their problem with you.  Good luck  and stay calm rumours can only bring you down if you sink with them.
1011304
I have always lived by a simple rule at work. Treat others the way that you would like to be treatred yourself.  This serves me whether I am managing a team of employees, or getting along with others that work in my area.\n\nBe respectful, polite and courteous. Remember that people are trying to get things done and need an environment in which to accomplish this. Also, we spend a tremendous amount of time with the people that work with us. It often makes the day go a lot better when you find some common grounds and talk with your co-workers on breaks etc.
729048
Oh yeah, every place I have ever worked.\nRemember they are over compensating for their weaknesses.\nThey think if they act like they superior, everyone will think they are.\nBest way to defeat someone like that, is to show them you can do a better job that they can. Bursts their bubble every time.\nGood Luck.
811904
I would make an effort to get along with him and if that didnt work meanings you had to stay there i would do everything the way that boss wants it done then pursue to look for another job because if you stay in a work place that makes you miserable makes it so you dont want to work there period...\nSo its always better to be happy than miseraable...\ntake my advice i have been there done that...
866806
The next time that your boss tells you that "this is a man's job", remind him that he is breaking the law.  A job is a job, there no longer is a "man's" job, just like there is no longer a "woman's" job.\n\nAlso let him know that if there is any more harassment by your co-workers, you will consider that as management's consent and approval of the unacceptable behavior, and you are prepared to take appropriate action, legal and otherwise.\n\nLet him know that you have started a log of inappropriate action/ behavior of fellow employees and management personnel. Starting with the instant conversation, you are documenting everything that is said and done (who, what, where, when, time, place, and witnesses), that you consider to be harassment or sexual discrimination, and/ or related matters such as counselling sessions that you may be involved in.\n\nAlso make him aware that any adverse action such as termination, discipline, demotion, or transfer to a less desirable position will be considered retaliation, and if it happens you will take further more aggressive action.\n\nTell him these are not threats but commitments. \n\nAsk him if that is "tough enough"!
633594
call one of your workers into the room preferably a small guy,then to blow off some steam proceed to batter his head of the wall over and over until you are satisfied.if this doesn't work buy a punching bag and imagine your with one of you most hateed colleagues it always works for me
1169392
That is a no win situation.   No matter what you do, you are not going to come out ahead.   A bully doesn't listen to reasoning.  Assertiveness doesn't work on a bully boss.   I would advise you to quit that job and go somewhere where you may be respected.
289029
Some bosses you can never please. I had one that I could have stood on my head while I worked and it was never good enough.\n\nSometime I think when they don't like you perhaps you remind them of a teacher or aunt that hurt their feelings when they were a kid. Or you just may intimidate them by your knowledge and they think you are out to get their job.\n\nNote to Bosses....please be kind to your help because they are what gives your business success, and treating them like garbage is only going to promote high turn over.\n\nAs Bozo the Clown once said.."It's nice to be important but important to be nice." Be nice to your subordinates and they will be nice and work hard for you.
763100
Be frank with them and tell them to grow up! Tell them that you are an adult and can speak to whom ever you please. Let them know that they are also putting unneeded stress on you at work and that is not fair to you.\nThe problem they have are between the two of them and they need to quit bringing you in the middle of it. Tell them you aren't going to stand for it any longer...end of discussion.\nIf necessary, go to management about it. If they get upset about it, tell them that you didn't know what else to do and that you deserve to come to work without having to deal with their crap.
280009
Stand up to the person in question.  It is polite to let them know that you have a problem with their work habits BEFORE you tell your supervisor.  If your colleague does not change, then go to your boss.  If your boss does not deal with the problem, tell them you are not happy, and go to THEIR supervisor.  They will respond if you go higher in the chain of command, and remember, the squeaky wheel gets the grease.
207609
it depends on the job, but being on time, taking direction, doing a good job (but not at the expense of making your co-workers look bad), not rocking the boat, and dressing professionally never hurt.\n\nalso have a sense of humor, used carefully of course.\n\nwhen you're talking to the boss, pay attention, ask questions for clarification, but not too many.  make suggestions as appropriate, but don't don't be upset if they're not used, and keep them to yourself if the boss gets offended.\n\ntry to bypass all office drama.  don't take things personally.\n\nsomething that works well for me is to cross clique lines.  make friends in several cliques, and when one tries to pit you against the other, say "no, sorry, that person is a friend of mine... you are too, of course... i just don't play the clique game".
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Workload - write down everything you do/need to do, and dedicate time to each one. Plan what to do. Talk to your boss - they should be able to help.\n\nOffice politics - very difficult. Don't commit comments on people.\n\nLearn some disarming phrases. For a newbie, phrases like "Oh, thanks for the warning, I'll look out for that." when people are talking bad about others are good, then quickly change the subject. As you mature into the job, don't be frightened of saying things like "Well, I've never had a problem with them, to be honest".\n\nDo NOT get involved in any massive slagging sessions, no matter how tempting. It can all come back to you.\n\nDon't get upset if someone doesn't like you. Just realise they aren't worth it. Get on with your job, forget about them, worrying about them won't do your career any good.\n\nDon't be afraid of reporting anyone if you feel they are making your work difficult or unpleasent. If you show you are tough and won't stand for nonesense from the start, it'll pay off in the long run.\n\nI'd rather be called names than be a patsie to everyone at work.
1064293
Got some examples of what they're doing?  I can give specifics with how to deal with the situation if I knew.  Otherwise, go off on them--make it loud, don't beat around the bush, make sure you do it while others are present, and tell that individual you're tired of putting up with the childish BS.  If that doesn't work, report them to your supervisor, and document each instance in case you need to file legally (it's called a hostile work environment).  This is my suggestion, since my preferred tactics for this type of scenario aren't for everyone.
612934
Deal with them professionally when working on projects, but do not talk to them outside work or chitchat.  Also, sometimes talking to other co-workers you trust about them helps relieve the stress, especially if they had similar experiences.  If it gets real bad that it affects work, you may want to contact your supervisor.
415512
Unfortunately, most bosses are like this....but I have learnt to face up to my boss (your boss) or anyone who is "in a way putting you down", and it works....I will turn the tables on them and ask them simply "what it is that they don't agree with" or what would they do differently, I will never allow anyone to just "put me down" without at least getting some kind of response back from them, I want to know the reason why.......especially and you must be honest, if your intentions were well meaning....and after a few times doing this to your boss, your friend, your family member, someone in a store/restaurant, believe me, you will leave them with an IMPRESSION of who you are and that will be, that you will want to get to the core of the matter........Good-Luck