If you knew you were wife/husband were cheating with another married person--would you tell their spouse?
479055
Oh you are toooooo kind!\n\nI would not stop at just telling their spouse....*smile*. \n\nget a photograph of the fornicators together and mass produce it...slip it into the bulletin at church...not as much fun embarrassing a man as it would be for a woman i wouldn't think..but yeah..i would be irrational!\n\nyes..i would definitely tell the other spouse...she is at risk for a disease from a cheating spouse. and so are you...who says that this is the first affair either of them have had?\n\nget yourself checked for std's.
416078
I've experienced a slightly different situation, I'm very good friends with the husband not so much the wife but I found out that she was cheating on him.  When I told him he totally denied it, refused to accept that it was true and doesn't believe me.  Then he got mad at me for pushing the issue so I guess it depends on the person how they'll react when you tell but I would.
655129
Maybe you did them a favor...  I don't know what the "information" was, but say you knew he cheated on her, or lied to her.  You telling her may have been the best thing!  Don't be so hard on yourself.
894419
if i twas my mother who was being cheated i would tell her,but iwouldnt tell it to my dad if my mom was cheating on him,i dont know why~
109638
Wow, some of the people that anwered this question, seems to be very judgmental! I mean in a perfect world nobody should cheat on anybody or willingly engage in an affair. However; in real life people make REALLy bad choices. This is all part of life. I hope you learned something from this. It does sound like you feel guilty. Someone who dosn't feel guilty would'nt give a rat's a** about the wife. Telling the wife is wrong!!! If you feel guilty, (as you should) you need to deal with it! Don't ease your guilt by hurting this woman more then you have.  \n\nThis is their problem, not yours. You really need to stay out of their marriage.\n\nTake some advice from someone who has proberly made every mistake known to mankind...Stay away from him and never speak to the wife. \n\nGood luck and this really doesn't make you a "bad" person. It just means you need to work on self control.
868537
no, what goes on in their marriage is really their business. he may already know, or she may choose to keep it from him. i hope that it was some one-time mistake on her part and that they've already worked through it, but it's not your responsibility to tell him.
1092224
I would tell my brother how much I love him, how stupid I think he is acting AND that although I will not purposely hurt him by telling his secrets, neither will I lie if his wife asks me anything.  Good luck
1115110
Say "are you cheating"?
705643
I didn't cheat but my ex-husband did. I guess that tells you how it ended. When we went to my parents house to spend weekends he was sneaking out with my younger sister after I fell asleep. My sister confided in my brother and my brother confided in me in return. So my loss was my jerk of a husband(no big loss) and the love of my sister(big loss). We do talk (now) but we will never be best friends as sisters should be. I did forgive her but I will never trust her again but she did open my eyes to what was going on behind my back not only with her but with several other girls where we lived I came to find out later.
282037
i would dump the person\nits alot of stress to go and cheat and it is obvious you dont care about the person nemore if you would even think about cheating on them\nlike i said you should just dump the person and find someone new
516860
no, never... lying to your spouse will only lead to more lies and more mistrust between you and your spouse !! it about like oil and water, they don't mix......if you have to lie then something is wrong with you and your not in a trusting and happy marriage !!
1028464
I assume that you are asking for the married man that you are cheating with. In that case you both should get STDs.
539656
My Husband never cheated, but if a husband was going to cheat I'd rather know. If its over its over,he should be honest enough to tell you.Two things to be done after that , either forgive him and NEVER bring it up again. Anyone can make a mistake once, only a fool does it twice.And personally I would not stay married to a fool.
1174431
You should speak to your significant other to see what they believe is too much.  Some people have different views of what is cheating and what is not. If nothing else just ask yourself "Would I be ashamed or afraid to tell my other half what I am about to do?" Trust your gut instinct.
160000
i agree- once a cheater....  if he cheated on his wife and is willing to leave her, is this really the type of person you want to be with!?!?!  seems like a set up for heartbreak!
99302
In all honesty, if he planned to stop, i'd tell you to keep it a secret because you could ruin their marriage...but since he's gunna keep doing it, you have to come clean to his wife.  He's being disrespectful to her and he's being an idiot.  If he loved her, he wouldn't need anyone else and he's probably not even worth being with her...tell her the truth and let them sort it out
725616
Yes I've cheated.\n\nIts often a difficult question for most people to answer.  Why did I do it?  I felt very betrayed, unworthy, and just plain not good enough after my husband cheated twice.  I needed to know I was still beautiful and worthy of a man's love and attention.\n\nNot once did I feel I was betraying his trust.  It felt more appealing, like vengeance.  \n\nNo, I've been accused of cheating in other relationships.  I strived more to prove that I wasn't.  The thought of actually doing it never crossed my mind.