what happens when selfish dates selfish?
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A.) crash and burn\nB.) be perfect\nC.) be just OKAY then dump each other\n\nya a...cuz too high maintenence ahhhhhhh! b...two peas in a pod....c...like any other relationship that isn't meant to be!
78955
Depends how serious you are with them.  If it's casual dates, then go out with 2 or 3.  If you are boinking one, it's not right to date others.
883059
they think you have  an eating disorder or  diet obsessed generally if you dont eat. Some  might get grossed out if  you  pigged  out and  ate more than them, others might think it was cool . If they go out to  dinner with you,  they brought you  out to dine with them,  something they usually love  to  do EAT! they want you to enjoy it with them not watch them as you poke at a house salad and diet coke. If you  date a guy for a while  it becomes easier to just go out like you normally would with a friend.
502369
When you go out on dates, she insists on paying for stuff on an equal basis. ( ie : you pay this time, she pays next time). However if she pays for her own stuff every time, that means she probably isn't interested in you sexually, doesn't want to lead you on, and doesn't want to feel indebted to you in any way.\n\nShe shows a strong interest in your life, asking a lot of questions about your hobbies, family, job, etc.\n\nShe changes something about her appearance just because she knows it will make you happy ( for instance, she gets a new haircut, starts wearing shorter skirts).\n\nShe offers you a sip of her drink, or takes a sip out of yours (Essentially she's telling you she's willing to swap saliva with you !).\n                           and if u wanna ask her\nThere are several cheesy techniques you can use to lower your chances of rejection (such as making a bet with a girl and the loser has to make them dinner) but these kinds of games are unnecessary. If you are straightforward, and don't beat around the bush about what you want, a girl will respect and admire your confidence.\n\nOptimally, you would ask her in a face-to-face setting. However, if that is not possible, either because the opportunity won't present itself or because you aren't confident enough, your best alternative would be over the phone.\n\nAvoid, at all costs, asking through email or any other written medium (Instant Messenger, a note, etc.). Not only do these methods scream "CHICKEN!" they also leave behind a paper trail that may or may not come back to haunt you.\n\nOne way to avoid looking like an idiot is to have something in mind to say for these three possible reactions to your question so you won't be caught off guard :\n\nIf she says "yes"\n\nHave a plan in mind; know your schedule and have an idea to suggest.\n\nIf she says "no"\n\nDon't act shocked or offended. Just be like, "Alright." Then carry on the conversation as if you never asked. Be friendly and polite. Too often guys take a "no" personally and get ticked off. Girls don't admire or respect a negative reaction. The fact that you were able to brush off her rejection so easily may actually raise her interest.\n\nIf she says "some other time"\n\nHave a plan B in case she is busy. If she still acts like she has too much to do it's probably because she's not interested and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Accept it as a rejection and move on.\n\nOf course, you go into it expecting her to say "yes" but it's, as with most things in life, it's important to be prepared for the worst. \n\nTips on how to ask a girl out\nThe real key to getting women to say "yes" when you ask for the date IS TO MAKE SURE THAT THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO YOU.\n\nIf a woman is attracted to you then why wouldn't she want to go out on a date with you ? It makes sense but most guys don't think of it that way... they miss the point and focus on "how to ask" rather than focusing on raising her attraction.
559441
date someone else. or move
887056
no, if i want to leave a blind date half way through then i just do it.  no need to play games.  he must have been a real loser.  for a hottie like you, i would just enjoy your company and wait until you were ready for sex...anticipation is half the fun;-)
366218
Why is he there ? That's what you ask him next time he says that you don't love him .He may be pushing you toward something he wants but you don't .Selfish ego guy , run !
191305
If this is a first date... no, it will not lead to other dates.  Only your wit and humor will lead to 2nd dates.  What you have planned is a way for her to get free stuff.  Have her meet you for lunch, show up a few minutes late and let her order her own.  Why spend your hard earned dough especially if she earns her own.  All that says is "I am willing to pay you for your time"!!!  Lay on the cocky/funny... bust on her 1970s shoes/bag, if she can't take a joke... forget her.
401574
Well, you might ( well probably) would offend her if say you did it in a non polite way. Try to ease into it, chewing some gum and then offering her some. If it is that big of a prob. then don't see her again. But yeah, on the first date, don't just blab it out, find a nice way to fix the prob.
32474
In a way, selfishness is caused by competition where the person might want to take something mainly for themselves and leave nothing for others to make them feel inferior. Other times, it's just the way some people are :/
376258
He is selfish, and doesnt care about your feelings, because you have strong feelings for him, you cant realize this.\n\nSo unless you can get a hold of your emotions, and your feelings you will be destined to re-live this scenario in future relationships...
83687
its selfish....  you choose who you wish to date, but given your reason-- it is also racist....
952637
Geez, I'm in a rut right now with one.  I want to believe something will really happen, but the longer it goes, and his stories change, I"m starting to feel he's making me play games now.  \n\nI have however made 2 very good friends from the online dateing!  It's like we have been friends forever. The problem was, we weren't compatable with all the lovey, romance, sex stuff.\nBut I'll love their friendship and hold them dear in my heart forever!
203907
cancel cancel cancel! There is a reason you didn't want to date him in the first place! I once dated a guy, because I  didn't know how to say no, before the second date I had a bad feeling and really didn't want to go out with him anymore, well towards the end of that second date, he was really forceful, wanting me to have sex with him, luckily some people came upon us, but listen to your gut instinct. Nature provided that for us to HELP US!
61291
Would you rather him not want to kiss you? Dating leads to a kiss or it leads nowhere. Don't wait too long or the guy will think you are not interested and will give up -- assuming he is taking a hint.
310818
then it's not your 1st date.......?
953249
Surely you can afford to take a young lady for dinner, shame on you if you are that cheap and don't want to.  It shows alot when you want to spoil someone a little, and selfishness surely says alot about someone. But later on a nice picnic a girl makes won't cost you anything, nor a walk so yes at first it doesn't hurt to spoil someone if you really like them and they are worth it. Then you can take turns.  I once went out on a first date with someone I really liked, I discovered they were overly stingey, while I am not, there was no second date.