Why do women hate it when their husband is close to his sister or mother?
478164
Just because they do. A wife should be the main woman in any man's life.  If you are a mature adult male you should not need mommy to tie your shoes, do it your damn self!  A mother always wants to feel needed. I'll tell you what I am learning NOT to do with my boys' wives when they get married. Put your wife's concerns at the top of the list and you will keep yourself out of the DOG HOUSE guaranteed!!!
704345
I've had the same problem with my mother and the result wasn't a good one, her relationships with her boyfriends put a wedge in our relationship. I learned to deal with it, but I don't want that outcome for you. You have to talk to her about, sometimes that doesn't always work, but at least u can say u tried. The truth is men can brainwash a woman and turn them against there children, its sad but it happens. Try to stay strong with this situation.
1126793
Because her sister is her twin and she doesnt want the man being attracted to her twin? Haha..I dont know if this is right, just a guess
391934
I also think it's disrepectful.  There are some things you don't share with your spouse. I don't think it has anything to do with being uncomfortable or comfortable around your spouse.
123875
You and your husband need to talk about the situation, and your mother in law (and/or father in law as well) should be brought into the conversation later, since they are taking part in the wife bashing. If your husband doesn't stop allowing the wife bashing then you need to consider some therapy - he needs to get that you are his wife and his mom should not be beating up on you, and if she does he needs to put a stop to it.  She's entitled to her opinion, but she doesn't need to voice it.
833136
I am. It's because his mother comes first, then the kids, then me. He says terrible things to me that hurt my feelings and isn't sorry. We've been through marriage counseling twice. His mother interferes in our marriage and if I say anything, he gets defensive. He tells her, then she gets mad. She's trying to turn him against me.
208426
You evidently don't love her either, how about leave her husband and her alone. Glad your'e not my sister or cousin.
131010
girl, i feel your pain. i have the mother-in-law blues as well.  she shouldnt be so intrusive and pushy. my fiance and i just had a falling out with his mother. our lives are so peaceful when they dont talk. i dont know how close your husband is with his mother, but there are lines you just dont cross and shes just testing you out. i dont know if your a blunt person or not like me, but you and your husband can both say it her so that she understands its the two of you who feel this way. not just you. you have every right to feel uncomfortable about someone knowing your finances and business period. but first talk to your husband before you talk to her. good luck.
1037857
Wow,,, that does sound pretty disgusting the way you worded it.  It often appears that the mother in law and daughter always seem to have competition going on.  I am not really sure why and it getting rather old.  You and this quy have been together 20 plus years and there is still tension between the 2 women he so obviously adores.  Being a woman you know how to add fuel to the fire or put out the flames...Try taking the higher road and leave it be.  I have another tool you could use as well... It is called PRAYER... the most powerful tool out here.  God sees all that is going on and He knows how you feel about it.  He also knows how your husband feels as well.  Can you imagine how excited he will be to see his 2 favorite girls interacting without foolishness.  Pray about it and leave it be...
1075718
Mine was so jealous of my standard of living, that she sabotaged my marriage. I don't know really. Maybe it's because they will always be an outsider that they feel the need to be part of evrything that's going on whether they're welcome or not.
674581
Well that is not easy, I think alot of it depends on the woman, if she can juggle all that.  Some women feel they have to work to keep their sanity.  If the time a mother spends with her child is not good time, it is better she works and enjoys the time she has with them.  Sometimes being away from the children make you enjoy them even more :)
1081996
I PERSONALLY DON'T LIKE IT.  I MEAN IT'S HIS EX'S SISTER FOR CRYING OUT LOUD.  I KNOW THAT WHEN I BROKE UP WITH MY FIANCE AND HE KEPT COMING AROUND MY PARENTS HOUSE, IT REALLY PISSED ME OFF AND MADE ME UNCOMFORTABLE.  WE WERE NO LONGER TOGETHER AND GEE FREAKING WHIZ MAN HE ALREADY HAD ANOTHER WOMAN AND CHILDREN WITH HER.\n\nHE STILL COMES BY ONCE IN A BLUE MOON, COMES INTO TOWN AND GOES STRAIGHT TO MY PARENTS HOUSE, AND THEY WELCOME HIM WITH OPEN ARMS!  I'M LIKE WHAT EVER!  I HATED IT.  NOW I'M COOL WITH IT, CUZ A COUPLE OF YEARS AGO I THINK IT WAS HE CALLED ME FROM THEIR HOUSE.  HAD MY MOM DIAL THE NUMBER FOR HIM AND WE TALKED FOR A BIT.\n\nIT WAS REALLY A SHOCK TO HEAR HIM SAY THE REASON HE ALWAYS CAME STRAIGHT TO MY PARENTS HOUSE WHENEVER HE WAS IN TOWN WAS SO HE COULD BY CHANCE RUN INTO ME.  I WAS LIKE AH........... HOW CUTE HE'S STILL NOT OVER ME.  I LIKE THAT.  MADE MY HEART HAPPY HE NEVER FORGOT ME.  I MEAN I'D NEVER FORGET HIM.  I'M SORRY I SCREWED THINGS UP AND BROKE UP WITH HIM.\n\nBUT I CAN'T TURN BACK THE CLOCKS, SO I JUST CHALK IT UP TO THE ONE I LET GET AWAY.  BACK TO YOUR PROBLEM.  I DON'T LIKE IT AND YOU DON'T LIKE IT, SO TALK TO HIM AND DO IT IN A NICE WAY, DON'T GET ALL BITCHY AND SAY YOU CAN'T SEE THEM. HE'S A GROWN MAN AND BOTTOM LINE IS YOU CAN'T TELL HIM WHO HE CAN AND CAN'T HANG OUT WITH.\n\nNOT IF YOU WANT TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE ANYWAY.  JUST PUT YOUR CARDS ON THE TABLE AND BEFORE YOU DO THAT, THINK HARD.  DO YOU HAVE A REASON TO BE SO INSECURE, IS SHE STILL AROUND AND DOES SHE WANT HIM BACK OR ARE YOU JUST BEING SILLY?  ME I DIDN'T LIKE IT CUZ I HAD SCREWED UP AND I PUT HIM OUT OF MY MIND. \n\nBUT WHEN HE'D COME BACK I'D BE REMINDED AGAIN THAT I SCREWED UP AND THAT COULD BE ME IN HER PLACE.  SHE WOULD GET MAD AT HIM AT FIRST UNTIL SHE MET MY PARENTS.  SEE SHE DID HAVE SOMETHING TO WORRY ABOUT WITH ME,  HE STILL WANTED TO BE WITH ME.  I COULDN'T TAKE HIM BACK CUZ SHE WAS ALREADY PREGNANT.  AND I WASN'T GONNA DEAL WITH THAT KIND OF BAGGAGE.\n\nSO THINK ABOUT IT, COME TO A DECISION AND GOOD LUCK TO YOU.  I HOPE THINGS WORK OUT FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND.  DON'T BE OVER JEALOUS, ALWAYS WATCH WHAT'S YOURS, TAKE CARE OF HIM, BUT DON'T LET IT SHOW.  THEN IT WILL BE TAKEN AS YOU'RE INSECURE AND JEALOUS.
569664
Well I'm getting married and I wont be stopping my fiance from having anything to do with his mum or sister.\n\nI dont understand why women would do this.\n\nThere, of course, some men who let their mum's control their life, so i guess if their wife is a controlling person also, they dont want the competition.
585841
Most would not like it if a sister was a pronstar.
244209
You need to sit your husband down and explain to him exactly how you feel.  Then you need to avoid your in-laws to salvage your mental health.  Allow your husband to visit them whenever he wants, but you stay home or go to a movie.  Seriously, my mother-in-law hated me and she broke up my marriage in the end.  It sounds like you need a vacation....
466997
It seems to me that she is very jealous of your family and is afraid that too much attention might be showered upon your brother and the new baby. This is very sad for everybody. I'm sure that if she wasn't like she is that your family would welcome her as a part of the group. Maybe she grew up as insecure and in a not so loving family atmosphere and this contributes to her behavior. You might try talking to her and see if she will open up. Maybe that you or your family could offer to go to their house and sit with the baby while they have a nice dinner out. This could be an icebreaker. Good luck to you and your family.
248916
When you marry someone, you marry their family, like it or not.  Have you tried talking to your mother in law directly about the intrusiveness of her visits?  Perhaps explaining to her that you need some family time with just your wife (and kids?) will help her to understand and minimize her visits.  Do you ever visit her house?  Perhaps that's why she's always over at yours.\n\nInitiate a visit or dinner with your MIL - that will show your wife that you aren't rejecting her mother (btw - "getting rid of her" is the exact kind of wording that will get you into more hot water), but simply trying to maintain some family boundaries as well.\n\nGive a little and get a little.