Do you think falling in love with your best friend will change the relationship for the worst?
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The just friends thing, I never really understood.  If you two are attracted to each other, if you two love each other - than how can something bad happen?\n\nYou say he knows more about you than your husband of 20 years did?  If that's true, than he knows your faults, he knows what your like.  If he's not scared what's the problem?\n\nI believe your best friend should be your mate.  You always have to be friends in a relationship.  So I would say - life is too short not to try.  Try you could lose this special friendship as you call it but think what you would gain.\n\nSomething else to think about - if you don't.  He's going to meet someone someday, your going to meet someone someday - you'll probably drift apart some.\n\nI don't think you should have regrets in life.  Sounds like if you don't try you'll always wonder what if...\n\nOops just want to add - I don't know how long each of you have been divorce.  I think you both might be carrying baggage that you don't want another relationship to fail so your scared.  You need to look at what happens if it works...
292229
i was in love with my bestest friend in the whole world.  in fact, i think i'll always love him to a certain degree.  i took a chance and told him how i felt, because hiding my true feelings felt like i was constantly living a lie.  unfortunately, like your friend, he didn't want to risk losing me since he knew he couldn't give me the kind of commitment i needed.  \n\nit's been over 3 years since my revelation (we've been best friends for over 5), and i've learned to move on.  in the years that followed, i slowly was able to tell him exactly how i felt and why, and also get the answers to questions he left unanswered for so long.  i know he loves me, that we'll always be constants in each other lives, and will most likely grow old together... but maybe just not as husband and wife.  and you know, what?  it's actually all right!\n\nlooking back, i don't think i would've done anything differently... even if we didn't end up together.  i told him what i needed to tell him, and never imposed a relationship on him.  suffering in silence, how i did before i revealed myself, and how i did even after that, was much much too painful... especially because he shared the most intimate details of his life with me.\n\njust do what you think you have to do.  if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, then maybe he's not good enough for you.  i've always thought that my guy never really appreciated what was right in front of him, and maybe he's really not worth giving my heart to in the first place.  the right one will come along eventually.  hopefully, your friend is really the right one for you!\n\nif he's the right one, then he'll take the leap with you, and if he's not, at least you gave it your best shot.
805528
well if its your best friend then deffentily NO! And it depends if u like him a lot and think about your realtionship with your friend!
339511
Yes, but it took time. I caught my fiance with my best friend.. scene right out of a bad movie. They didn't even stop what they were doing to acknowledge my presence. I forgave both of them, after a long period of hurt and anger. I will never be their friends again, but I don't consciously hold a grudge or wish them ill will. Now forgetting... that is another story. I don't forget too well, and I think that's a good thing.
488320
yes ... but it hurts you very much in the beginning if you really have been serious in the relationship. Eventually, it fades off and you forget it completely after you found your new love
676148
Oh, honey, love makes you put up with things that you should never have to put up with.  Let me ask you this, if your very best friend was in this relationship - in your place - would you tell her to stay and wait for him to either really hurt her, or change?  Of course you wouldn't.  You need to love yourself.  Leave.  If you don't have friends or family, go to a shelter.  If he truly wants to change for you, he will have to do it on his own.  Good Luck!
241581
best friends make best lovers..
1181262
yes, I have and honestly unless if he shows some interest of being more than just your friends. If he dont leave it alone, you always fall in love more then once and men come a dime a dozen,,you will get over it.. I am sure that if he does not feel the same and he tells you , you are going to get hurt and ur friendship will never be the same and if you and him do something that may lead you to think that he loves and really he dont then you may mess up ur friendship, and im sure that you rather have him as a friend then not have him at all..just move on and find someone else. Trust me it really isnt that hard, though i am sure that you think it is. but i have been there b4 and i thought that i would never love again,,and boy was i oh so wrong.
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I think you should try going on a date with him. If you don't try it you may always wonder whether or not you did the right think. If he is indeed your best friend, your friendship should be strong enough to handle whatever happens. If you already know everything about each other (like most best friends do) than the transition from friend to boyfriend may just be the natural course of action for you two. However, if you are not physically attracted to him at all, then maybe you should stay just friends because neither one of you will be happy in a long term relationship.
268397
Usually when you get together with your best friend, things seem pretty great. However, on most TV shows, it ends up screwing up in the end and you end up losing an awesome friend. It really depends on how you want the relationship to work- if you want it to be extremely intimate, you'll need to take things slow, but if you want it to be casual, go for it. Just be careful. Don't take things too fast, and just bring it up in normal conversation. Don't be too forward. That'll scare him away. :)
257150
sure but make sure your friend never finds out because who would you rather have a boyfriend or your bestfriend you choose.\n\ngood luck!
741601
Well, obviously it's weighing pretty heavily on your mind if you are actually having dreams about it.  I would suggest that you consider all the possibilities.  If you explore your feelings with your friend, will it make things weird between the two of you if in fact they are not romantic feelings?  If so, you might want to consider just staying friends with her and preserving your "best friends" status for the rest of your life.  If, on the other hand, the two of you are confident that your status of "best friends" can withstand a possible break-up and hurt feelings, then I think you should explore the possibility further.  If you don't, you will always wonder in the back of your mind whether you made the right choice by ignoring the possibility of a romantic relationship with your best friend.  Remember, that most couples in lasting relationships will tell you that their husband, wife or partner is their best friend, lover, soul mate.  Perhaps (1) you have found your best friend, lover and soul mate in her.  Or, perhaps (2) the two of you will just become best friends with benefits.  Or, maybe (3) the whole thing will turn out to be a bad idea.  Two out of three of those possibilities aren't bad.  But one things for certain, you will never know until you try.  I suggest you go for it!\n\nBest of luck!
364364
You know, sometimes you just have to understand the difference between a good friend and someone you feel romantic and passionate about.  The worst thing you could do to him and yourself is to be with him when you have no feelings for him.  There's nothing more painful than being with someone who does not love you in return.  It is bad for you too because in the end, you're more likely to feel boxed in a relationship.  Your values will be different than his and you won't be able to connect on a emotional/intimate level.  This will eventually cause problems in the future.\n\nI wish you the best...
300104
Best friends is the best things in a relations maybe you are in love for without friendship relationships never last.*
764890
If ur sure that u're over that person and u dont have any feelings for them anymore..then why not..but if you feel that this will effect ur relationship wth ur best friend, u should let him/her know
115706
Love doesn't make the world go round, money does and it's sad because love should be above money.  If you want your best friend to fall in love with you, you can't make her do it, but you can tell her how you feel and ask her if she's willing to start dating you.  She is your best friend after all and great friendships like yours is the best way to start out a relationship.  So just be yourself and Good Luck!
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First I want everyone to know that this was a long time ago and I changed myself drastically because of this screw up. I slept with my best friends crush the night of their first date. I regretted it instantly but decided to keep it to myself and no harm would have came from it, but someone found out and my best friend and I, well.....lets just say were not friends anymore.