should i leave with my boyfriend without my parents knowing??
482329
that's a big mistake. if he loves you then wait. don't do something you could eventually regret. think about it!
822558
Honey, I have been there.  I had a 7 pm curfew on weekends when I was 17 years old.  Tell your parents to trust you and if you do anything wrong, then they can take all rights away again.  You can't do no wrong until you try something.  Tell them that you are a levelheaded  responsible 16 year old and that you would like to win their trust, but you won't be able to if they keep you hidden and secluded.  Tell them you will grow up and move away.  Tell them that you will live a sheltered life and it is not good for your health.  Tell them your true feelings and make them listen.  I feel so bad for you because I was there.  Then I turned 17 and moved away from home, had my own apartment while I was a senior.  I had a full time job, gymnastics practice and school.  I did just fine and it taught me how to be mature.  I am not telling you to take off, but I am telling you to talk to  your parents because they may not understand your TRUE feelings and how you want to hurt yourself.  Just think, you will be 18 in a little bit and you will be able to begin your life the way you want and be your own boss.  Don't hurt yourself, because in all honest, it is not worth it.  Talk to the parent you are closer too!  I feel for you, I have been there.  Then I moved to FL.  I moved away so my family would realize what I meant to them and that they didn't have a hold on me.  It doesn't work for anyone, so don't runaway or anything.  I did this all as an adult okay? Let us know how it goes because I am genuinely worried about you!  Good luck!
633327
a year and a half? Your parents can't be that upset, you both are mature young adults (I hope) and you shouldn't hide the fact that you care about someone.\n\nGood Luck
300251
Why doesn't your friend tell her parents exactly what you just told me? Any true parents would try to understand, from the heart out. If they can't see that the boyfriend is a true boyfriend, because it's been a year, then she needs to tell them. Both the boyfriend and parents should compromise on a mutual relationship.
280302
why are you 18 and wanting to move in with a boyfriend?\nis there something at home your running away form, talk about it dont run. I understand the idea of living wiht a Love is tempting. \nStay in school and take care of yourself first. How about this, get your education, a real job and buy and apartment for yourslef. You say you cant afford one, work so that you can and get a nice one!\nAs for the 18th b-day thing, it seems like she is really drilling the school is important thing because...IT IS! \nThe mere fact that they have grounded you is enough to let you know that you are still young ( dont wait your time out). Parents dont groudn 21 year olds ( adults). only kids. \nstay home.
195857
First, depending upon what state you are in, moving in with your boyfriend could get him tossed into jail.  Check out the age of consent in your state.\nIn most states, by the time you are 18, you can move out and do what you wish.  In the meantime, you must learn how to deal with your father on this issue.  He may not understand and may never agree, but you do need to let him know about the depth of your feelings for your boyfriend.
792539
get married first and then tell ur parents , atleast I did that because I didnt want any caos in my marriage, if u love him marry him otherwise u will remember him often
726723
listen to your parents....they actually know what they are doing. its for your own good. you'll thank him one day. trust me. i was your age only a few years ago...and sometimes i wish that i had obeyed my parents more...i would be a lot better off i think.
968964
Your parents know more about life than you think they do.  They are not trying to be mean to you; they are trying to help you live a happier life in the long run.  They have the responsibility to make the rules until you are 18 and move out and support yourself.  If you can't do those things, try to learn from your parents so that someday you can.  \nI am not saying they are always right, but if you listen to them you will most likely have a lot less trouble in life than if you don't.  The boyfriend you have seems very important now, but he probably won't stay a big part of your life for very long.  How long did the last one last, anyway?  \nAlso, if you listen to them, they are more likely to listen to you.
849072
Age is just a number. My parents are 11 years apart!!! and they happily had me so don't worry about it... But personally I would wait until you are out of highschool.. This way your parents wouldn't flip a bitch when you went out with a 23 year old..... Also it could give you more freedom... If you are in your senior year you only have until june! use this spare time to get closer to him and enjoy his friendship.. Then you can use the friendship time to decide if he is really worth it... worth something you could be serious about.. and if he isn't worth it you will be glad you thought about it through without pissing your parents off anyways.... Just don't rush into things and wait.... then things could be perfecto.. Good luck... also... remember you are applying to colleges if they aren't near his he may not be wanting to give up everythign to move with you... keep that in mind so you don't get hurt.
551681
i'm 18 and my parents are STILL the ones controlling my life. i used to think the way you do. but now i'm slowly realizing that parents know best. they're only acting the way they do coz they love us and they want to protect us.  when i was 17, my parents found out that i had a boyfriend and they asked me to break up with him. although i didn't want to, i broke up with the guy and followed my parents' advice. i was sooo depressed. then one day, i heard news that my friend got pregnant. and then a month after that another friend of mine got pregnant and what's worse, she was left by her boyfriend. so i thought, it could have happened to me. (although i know that it could NEVER happen to me coz i think im responsible enough. hehe..) but you know how much we teeenagers fall in love. we're a crazy bunch..\n\nyour mom is not controlling you. she's just 'dominating' you in a way coz she wants the best for you. i suggest you show her that you're doing good in school, that you're obeying them, and that you're doing your resposibilities well to prove to them that you're a grown up now. the next time you two disagree, better discuss things between the two of you. and remember, be polite as possible whenever you're presenting some suggestions. she's your mom after all.\n\ntrust me, everything's gonna be fine. i'm just a teenager like you..who thinks i can do it on my own..but still goes back to "mommy!!!" when something's wrong. hehe.. :)
520863
I don't think so. In my opionion, i dont think that you should, and if you do i think your parents will think they have some sense of control over you.. Listen honey, i hvae been there and done this.... and I am telling you your HAPPINESS should come before anyones... I mean in the long run, you have to make yourself and partner Happy not your parents
1186812
You said you and your parents don't get along. Does this mean you do not love them? I am sure you do. turn the tables and think about your question. \n\nyou go to bed tonight and when you wake up your parents are gone - they didn't bother to tell you and didn't leave a note as to where they were. \n\nwould you be worried? would you be hurt? would you feel like maybe they should have told you? I think that would be a yes. \n\nand you know that no matter what you love your parents and would not want them to worry about what happened to you. \n\nYou going to college so this tells me your smart - I think maybe you could if you really wanted to find ways to improve the relationship you have with your parents. \n\nbest of luck.
223293
i think he just dont want his parents finding out. He wants to keep it a secret maybe cuz he dont want to lose you cuz maybe he thinks if his parents find out then he wont be aloud to see you and he dont want that to happen dont break up with him just because his parents dont approve if they love him they should accept him for being gay i have a friend that is dating one of my friends that is really religious but he's not and he hasnt told her because he dont want her to break up with him for it so maybe you should just talk to him and find out what the reason is for him hiding you and maybe get him to talk to his parents
639150
If you and your hubby are young, like 18 or 19, his parents are still seeing him as a child.  But if he is older his parents need to stop.  I have similar situation.  I am 35 now.  I want to move to another city but can't yet.  I've learned not to tell my parents much about my personal life or my family's doings.  That why they can't meddle and "give advice".  I had to learn to distance myself.  It took about a year before my parents realized that I can live my own live well without but I that I still love them.  I suggest that you forget how they treat his brother, because that's their (the parents) problem.  Just focus on youselves and put a safe distance between yourself, don't talk as often or at least don't give out much personal info that will make them respond in a meddling way.  Good luck!
880038
TELL YOUR PARENTS THAT YOU LOVE THEM VERY MUCH AND WILL NEVER GO AGAINST THEIR WISH AND ALSO TELL THEM YOU LOVE YOU BF VERY MUCH AND CANT LIVE WITHOUT HIM....YOU WILL NOT MARRY ANYONE ELSE ,,,AND YOU WILL STAY UNMARRIED IF YOU HAVE TO FOR YOUR PARENTS.....TRY THIS IN THE END YOUR WISH WILL BE GRANTED..BEST OF LUCK...
76582
I say you are now in a civilised country.. whilst parents are important the world over, you are the one that has to live with him, have sex with him, have children with him. Sounds to me that you need to marry your parents if you are so concerned