i am a 7th grader and i have a boyfriend in the 9th grade is that ok if i stay out of the sex and just be hid?
489362
what do u mean "is that okay?" it IS best to stay out of sex. At your age? isn't the time for you, not even the time to think about it! Best to put that thought double-locked inside a metal safe. ^_^
346153
You'd have to...It will eventually come out if you plan to stay with this person. It is always best to be honest. If he/she leaves you because of the STD, then so be it, but at least you were honest so that he/she doesn't go out infecting others because of your silence.
1183269
Your sex life is noone's business but your own.  You have to just be above them and not care.  People are going to judge you even if you do everything "the right way" (whatever that may be it varies on who you talk to).
962407
I am indeed sorry to tell you but in seeing the level of maturity you are at you can expect it to be awhile before boys catch up.\n\nSome never do. But the ones worth your time will not truly be mature enough to handle you until well after high school.\n\nNow let me say this. You are only in the 8th grade. You have a long time ahead of you before this really should even be something you worry about. I know you have now discovered boys. And some have discovered girls at your age but there is so much to know about relationships that it will take time.\n\nNever ever jump into any relationship because your lonely. I know....easy to say hard to do.....but it is very true.\nThere is a saying that best describes what I am saying.\n\n"How bad do you want it....the worse you want it the worse you will get it."\n\nTruer words were never spoken.\nYou sound like a intelligent girl. You know what is right and what is wrong. \n\nOnce you are in high school you may find guys are almost reasonable. But you have to watch out. The jerks are a bit harder to spot until it's too late. \n\nJust hang in there. There will be dates in your future and you will be glad you are as smart as you are.
543984
You don't have to do something you don't want to. \nFirst, can you trust this guy's friend? He might be lying to you. \nSecond, if that boy really wants to sleep with you and that you don't want to, he's a jerk, and you don't have to lose time with him. \nYou will have sex with someone when both of you will be ready. It is not right to have sex just to have/keep a relationship. You'll remember your first time your whole life, so you have to make it a nice memory.
1138262
no there is nothing wrong with that ....  not sure how old u are.... but do not be pressured into something u do not want ...and be proud!!!!
95318
thats perfectly okay. i am 17 soon to be 18 and my boyfriend is 21 soon to be 22. i love him with all my heart. older boys are hotter more experinced and know how to treat a girl. i'm his little princess. but tell your friend to be careful some boys are in it for the booty action. so i wish good luck to your friend.
799043
lol if your 13, its ok to date just dont get too attached.
987645
You are only like 11 or 12 years old you are like so young live your life and have fun don't  let ''havin' a guy in your life '' wait a while . please don't do what i did so please wait to do any of that stupid stuff... have fun and if you  do make a decision to have sex please use protection!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
1115748
Remain a couple, get married and have sex every night. That is if you're adults.  I don't know how long ago 4th grade was for you. But either way, remain friends, at all costs and do whatever at all costs, and under all circumstances!
433067
sex isn't just an act there are emotions that will go along with being with someone in this way . If he really loves you he will wait dont comprimise your morals  your only a virgin once once you have you cant go back  yes you can remain from having sex but your so young sex will always be there. i dont know him  but the guys i dated will tell you what ever it takes to get you into bed the good ones wont pressure you    i know  its hard  we have all been there   also if you happen to get prenant are you really ready for  all that respnsiblity  it will change your life .  some people are more mature than others at this age  just write down your thoughts  maybe seeing it on paper will help you decide    go talk to girls your age and get there input the ones that have babies on just the ones that have been through this stuff   you said you have morals and goals    if you are a religious person  go talk to a  teen  counselor than can help without judging  you . and if your parents  change their mind and decide to press legal charges against him because of his age  prison isnt going to be a place for him    dont risk  doing that to him     even if you dont want them to they can still override  and go to the law    i'm  not trying to scare you  just want you to get all the  facts before you make the decision   i wish someone would have told me about all the emotionally things that go along with sex    i have been with several  guys  when i was your age  i'm 20 something   and i still have  emotions from my first time  and  the times after  that.  there is so much life to experience  take it and run but be carful.
1042501
Sounds like he could be the one for you! He doesn't want to mess up high school with a sexual relationship, why do you? It's showing that he does Really care for you, if he wants both himself and you to be more mature BEFORE you enter into a mature relationship! Get your mind out of the gutter, and be glad that he feels that way about you.  If you are upset and want sex, no excuses, then perhaps he is the more mature one in this relationship.
404076
It really depends. first lets look at this from a legal point of view. It might be against the law in your state for a 16 and 22 year old to be together...as in sexually...as in statutory rape... as in 3 to 9 years jail time. But from another view. It really depends on the people in the relationship. A strain can develop from you two being on different levels, intellectually, mentally, physically, emotionally, experience wise, etc. you don't want to be talking about what happened at lunch at school while he is talking about the latest college parties or work whatever. There may also be a problem if your parents/guardians don't want you dating somebody who is that much older than you. I won't say that 22 is too old for a 16 year old but it may be more work than you should have to commit to as a 16 year old. PS older boys are in to older things(things you may not be ready for.)  what ever you choose BEST WISHES!
148968
I'm thinking that **** is something pretty naughty... and you're 12?  Wow.  You don't want to mess with this girl.  If she or anyone else has been saying that she has a boyfriend, that means they/she are not being honest with you, and honesty is VERY important in a relationship.  And if she does have a boyfriend, she cheated on him, so don't be surprised if she does the same to you.  You can do much better.  Good luck.  \n\nPS - Not to sound lecturing, but remember that there are STDs and pregnancies happening all the time, and there is no 100% protection from this happening... and you don't want any of these, especially at 12.
978081
I don't even feel like giving advice to you. (More like ...I should scold you)  No offense, but you make me sick. You're young, I don't understand why you're having sex.  Please do not think that you guys are in love.  YOU'RE NOT!  I wish your parents or someone mature told you about the consequences of having sex. You guys do not deserve to be dating.  You guys are still immature!  I suggest you stop.  You're really hurting the girl; I'm serious.
668883
You obviously have more than a few issues…..Are you that desperate for attention?  You seem pretty young, so here is some advice for you:  No, you should not sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend.  She’s your BEST friend right?  I doubt the guy is your soul mate or anything; he’s just a guy who is paying you some attention.  That may make you feel good now, maybe even good enough to make you do it, but afterwards, you will (or should) feel dirty, and he will most likely treat you like you’re dirty too.  He will never respect you.  Do you really want to be involved with a guy who you have to share?  He won’t be your boyfriend. (You will be alone on Valentine’s Day, Christmas, your birthday, etc.)  You will only have him when your friend is too busy for him. Your friend may or may not find out, but you will know what you did, and that will always weigh on you.  The guy is obviously a cheater, and has probably been around the block a few times.  What if he gives you a disease, like Herpes?  You will have it for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.   If you think that you like sex now, wait a few years.  It gets a whole lot better.  You don’t want something dumb that you do right now ruining it for you for the rest of your life.  Have some respect for yourself.  Save sex for someone that you love and trust, someone who is concerned with your best interests. I promise you that you will never regret in the long run.  However, if you choose to sleep with him you will regret it, at some point.  Be a good person, stay away from the guy, and tell your friend that she is with a loser, before she gets hurt or catches something from him that ruins her life.  Since you don’t seen to have a whole lot of confidence, you should just concentrate on you for a while.  Stay in school; find out what makes you happy (not what you think makes other people like you), and just try to be a good person.  If you do, you will eventually be truly confident, comfortable, and happy with the person that you are.  You won’t want a loser like this guy anywhere near you, and you will most likely be pursued by some really great guys, because confidence is the most attractive quality that a person can have.
144135
there  is nothing wrong with being sexually active.You're at that age when your hormones are racing.Just make sure you use a condom.