what would you feel and do if your girlfriend does not want sex before marriage?
477524
You have found yourself a real gem of a woman.  She has morals and beliefs and is not afraid to live by them.  She's a keeper.
371935
You married the wrong guy - I have been waiting for you all my life - now what - you just have to give him the boot - work or not if he is not interested in sex and you are newly married - troubles ahead - caution!
1035492
it might but if he is forcing u than u need to break with him cause i believe in marriage before sex.\nThats great that you want to wait!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!\nGOD bless you.
697089
In the bible it says that sex before marriage is wrong if there is no commitment between two people. "Marriage" as referred to in the bible is symbolic for a relationship/connection/love/commitment.\n\nThus you don't need to be married (literally) to have sex but you need to be committed.\n\nI feel that it is all about morals and there is no right or wrong. it's your own decision. Personally I believe that sex before commitment/love is wrong
941723
FIRST PRE-MARITAL SEX IS IMMORAL !!!\n\nGET MARRIED FIRST !!!\n\nTHEN BE GENTLE WITH HER !!!
56971
You cannot win.  Any sex before marriage and you are a sinning sl*ut.  Any sex after the first date and some will call you a prude.\nSex involves intimate physical contact with another human being.  First talk this over with that other human.  This is your relationship, not ours.  If you can not talk about sex, you shouldn't be doing it.
655217
If you believe that you shouldn't have pre-marital sex, you can achieve this several ways.  First, do not date women who don't share the same ideal, if you date women who want to have sex before marriage it will be very difficult to resist.\n\nYou can think of this like drug use.  If your friends are using drugs, it will be very hard for to stay away from that temptation.  But if your friends aren't doing drugs, then it will be much easier.  The same goes with pre-marital sex.  If the friends you keep share the same ideals, it is likely that you will have a much easier time resisting the temptation.\n\nThis comes up on college campuses a lot at places like Baptist Student Unions.  If you are Christian, and at a college, you may want to consider visiting one of these if one is available to you.  Even if you aren't in college, I'm sure the Baptist Student Unions would welcome you.
797416
Some people definitely would justify pre-marital sex with someone based on the fact that they intend to eventually marry that person.  Certainly this excuse doesn't qualify in God's eyes, but humans can rationalize alot.\n\nWhat you should keep in mind here is that this isn't something you should feel guilty about.  I'm sure you aren't forcing the man to have sex with you against his will.  He's a man and he wants sex just like the rest of us do.  That's why he's doing it, how he justifies it really doesn't matter.
109508
Funny, you should ask that. . .my husband and I are having this problem now.. . .it is not women don't want to have sex. . . being married adds alot of stress its self. .. there are alot factors that add stress such as ex's(jealous ones who are plotting);finances and etc.  These things had me so stress after getting married, all I wanted is a good night of sleep. .. If you are in a marriage and there are no problems, there is a bigger one simmering. .. .remember pratice makes perfect. . .eventually, things change and stress was lifted. .. my husband can have it when ever he wants it, and I appreciate him more for understanding. . .Ask her why and then you will know where to go from there. .
690074
You might want to really think about this when the situation isn't right in front of you, kind of like you're doing now.\n\nThere is a lot of room for variation in "I don't feel like having sex".  Are you feeling like you don't really feel like it much, or are you feeling like you REALLY don't want to have sex, that it would be a miserable experience for you?  \n\nIf it's a matter of not being in full mood, maybe he could be the more active partner and you can be more passive.  I don't think that anyone should have sex against their will, but sometimes I used to say no and it wouldn't have really been a big deal to say "yes" either.  Guys don't always need to have extended sexual contact and this kind of time would be a chance for him to sort of have an express lane sort of experience and then go to sleep.\nIt's possible you could become more interested in more extended lovemaking, or maybe you won't.  Who knows?\n\nIf you REALLY don't want to have sex, perhaps you could make a date with him to have sex the next day or in the morning or later that night or...\nwell, you get the idea.\n\nYou could even tell him why you don't feel like having sex--too tired, too worried, whatever.  My experience is that my guy doesn't really want to hear about it and he backs off.\n\nIt's too bad people's moods don't line up better sometimes!
771877
Something is wrong if she doesn't want to have sex with you. There is something wrong with your relationship. I would call her doctor and check out her excuse.  Then I would confront her about what the real problem is and even offer to go to marriage counseling with her. Good luck.
1128783
It's not a question of health, as much it is as...religion. If you believe in no pre-marital sex, don't do it. I personally think, that if YOU are waiting for the right man... after marriage would be best. And again, it's how you and your family members feel about this as well.
369566
Having sex before marriage!
574424
Assuming that you are not having sex because she wants to wait until marriage(but maybe I am wrong in this assumption): I think even for someone who is planning on abstaining before marriage sexual desire is there.  Abstinence is not an easy thing because the person still has the desire.  If she does not have the desire maybe she is repressing herself or just isn't attracted to you.\n\nI'm sorry.  :(
558673
Sex before marriage is not a good idea. I would rather have waited till I got married however, I was young and foolish and wanted experience. Well, after you're experienced what is there to experience more? You keep on having sex, right and so if I were to change this I would have waited for the right time. But this is just my opinion. Different people have different opinions.
100653
While I'm not a guy... I had to respond on this one..\n\nWhile waiting to have sex until your married is a honorable decision, it doesn't make sense.  You have to be happy in all parts of your marriage.  Since you'll be with that person until 'death do you part', wouldn't you like to sample the wares before buying them?  I know that sounds crude, but waiting until you get married can cause a lot of problems in the marraige...\n\n-Doubts and daydreams over what it might have been like with another person.  Could it be better?  Could lead to cheating.\n\n-Sexual problems - this one can be open ended and limitless.\n\nSo while you shouldn't go sleep with any Tom, Dick, Harry, or Jane... you should probably consider having sex with your fiance/girlfriend/boyfriend before you get married...
239017
If you don't feel you are ready then don't. Becuase if you aren't happy about the situation now, you won't be happy in the marriage. Do what you think is best--don't let anyone tell you that you have to marry someone just because they want you to.\n\nI am having this problem with my future mother in law about children. She thinks I should have kids becuase she did, my parents did etc. She also wants grandchildren. If she wants them so badly, then she can go and adopt them. It's my body, my decision, and if I want kids, then I will have them. Not because someone else said so, or because that is what they want.\n\nYou are in control of yourself--just because they are pressuring you, don't cave. Be strong and listen to your heart! People got on my back about getting married several years ago, and I finally yelled at them and told them to quit asking--it will happen when it does. A couple years later, we were engaged, but not because they said so. We did it when we were ready. That is what you should do too.\n\nDo it when you are ready.