what's the point in having an "OPEN" relationship?
477867
open relationship isnt exactly a relationship of the caliber youa re describing. start with what a relationship is - you to your friend, a teacher, your pet. Everything you come in contact with has some sort of relationship to you, same as the partner you are in an open relationship with. In this situation, one member does not want to hold commitment to anyone, till they are sure they will be with that person for quite a while. go and have fun, and stop worrying about love so much, its nice but it will always happen again, if you put yourself out there.
384849
If your OK with having an open relationship, then keep him.  But if you want a man who will be loyal and honest, then you should leave him and get on with your life.  If he lies about her who knows what else he's lied about in the past.
1157368
I believe that it is very unnatural to only be with one person. It is human nature to want to spread our seed. However, if you have decided to commit yourself to one person you must be true to them and only them. If you don't think it would be possible for you participate in a monogamous relationship, maybe you need to find another person that shares your same ideas and values on relationships.
996813
Single people want to be involved with somone & those in a relationship yearn to be free at times.\n\nWe always want what we don't have...
948472
I think people go into open releationships thinking that they are good. I mean do we do things that we think are going to turn out horrible I dont think so. Anyways I dont think open releationships are good because you end up becoming to attached and you end up feeling something for that person and then you see them or hear about them being with another person and you get upset. I know I was there and it turned out horrible. Just from personal reasons I would say dont do it.
883558
Everyone questions their relationship from time to time. The ones who act on it are unfaithful, those who do not act on it, end up being frustrated and lonely. Where do you turn???? It is one of life's problems that we must deal with everyday. It is very normal to second, third, or even multiple guess important decisions. As far as for what I have experienced, there is not enough paper in the world to hold that story. Good luck and I hope you make the right choice for you.
479595
Well it's not a modern world issue for one - it's a human nature issue.  I have had a girlfriend w/o sex and been in love, etc.  It's a matter of being open and honest about what you want with that person.  I actually wish more women were open to have friendships w/o worrying about getting in to the relationship thing. However, I'd love to have a good relationship, including sex, with someone because that's a need I have also.  Don't have the expectation that guys however go w/o sex and necessarily like it.  Most guys do but it's not to take advantage.  We have icomprehensible drives.  They are incredibly strong and overwhelming.\n\nI don't want to get married for the wrong reasons either - I think most people are on the same page with you. \n\nThe modern world gives you more options than ever because you can define the relationships you want with the guys you know and they're all more open to suggestions, instead of just date - marry  - or not - period.  Just go for more intelligent types of guys.
421448
Its upto every individual whether they wanna keep their life like an open book or not. Some people dont like to come off with their secrets soon, coz they have to find their comfort zone first and then will slowly open up. Dont push... it will look like ur invading someones privacy. If u love him and believe in ur instincts... just relax and always stay open to watever he has to say. If u Shut down when he is saying something he finds important listen to it... he doesnt need ur opinions... just listen. This way he will be more comfortable talking about all those craziest things he finds important to him. DONT PUSH.... it takes time.
1110433
Cheating on them emotionally? By being here? I am going  to take a three-prong approach  to address these statements:\n\nFirst, married person is not connected with their mate via umbillical cord - everyone has their own individual bubble that surrounds them and they have complete freedom to explore the world around them, as long as there is mutual understanding of an established committment. \n\nSecond, it all goes back to the intent of an action before we can tell with certainty whether that action extends beyond the intended and consequently casts a shadow on the committment part. . If you are married, it doesn't mean you lose your individual interest and curiousity to explore the world around you, which includes interacting with many other like minded individuals along the way. \n\nThird, as far as message and answers on Yahoo Answers,  if you intend to stay in a committed relationship (that's the premise here), does that mean you are banned from having any feelings for others? Do you not  have friends you care about but on a totally different level? Who is to say we are to stop being ourselves when we marry? Marriage is supposed to add value to our lives and help us grow as individuals. Jealousy and questioning stem from bursting self-centered egos and unless those are restrained, regardless of the committment, any such relationship where these are present is doomed to fail. So why not let everyone use their God-given individual freedom to explore the gift of curiousity without questionining? \n\nLastly, Yahoo Answers can not/should not  be used as an excuse for breaking up relationships which have been doomed to fail anyway long time ago. It was just a catalyst in the process.
1091685
It is not you that is having (or needs) the open relationship, it is your partner who is staying with another woman.  If that person and the woman have an open relationship, that's one thing, but if there is cheating going on, that is never okay.\n\nAlso, keep in mind that a person who is "open" with you may be similarly "open" with others.  What kind of sexual disease might be spread around that way.  And if you are hooking up, you are exposed to whatever all the other partners (and *their* other partners) might have.
270113
Meeting the physical and emotional needs of one woman is taxing, let alone trying to meet the needs of more than one. If you find yourself bored in a monogamous relationship, you're probably not giving your partner the attention they deserve.\n\nWhile curiousity may get the better of you when looking at other people you are attracted to, that's a part of being in a relationship. It's a part of learning why what you have is so great.
721628
It all depends on what you desire in a relationship and what you want to make out it. If you find the relationship worthy of taking another step, there is nothing wrong with that.
727572
I believe its essential to spend some time with a prospective partner whether you want to term it dating or anything else. What a couple needs is some time together in private to get to know each other better. There is no guarantee that the one you are meeting would show his/her true self & not go out of the way to impress. But there are always subtle, unintented gestures, words that would give you a fair insight of the personality if you keenly observe. I'm not a ardent supporter of arranged marraiges, but if thats the choice you have, atleast date a few times & check for some chemistry inbetween. Else you would feel compromised at a later stage!
1030495
An honest, open relationship.  One where you could share all of your feelings without worrying what she might think or say.
716538
That can be a can of worms you may have a hard time closing if you open it. You better be Real Secure in your relationship.\nIt can get out of hand and ruin everything.
341534
i think that it means, if you already have someone(relationship) then why would you need someone else.  how bout this quote, "why go out for burgers, when you have steak at home"  ponder that:)
1087417
complete openness should already been present before a relationship should have started. Too often we rush into things for many reasons not taking enough time to get to know one another. then we get together and wonder why it doesnt work out. love isnt compromise its about love and acceptence. trust and honesty. he pushes you away means he has none of what it takes to be a good understanding loving caring mate. sorry but I say respect yourself and you can do and deserve better.