my husband says when he masterbates hes thinking about me! I know he probably thinks about other women too?
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Who cares?  Maybe he's just thinking about getting off.  That's what I think about when I masterbate.  As long as he has sex with me and is faithful, I don't care what my hubby thinks about when he jerks off.
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You have got to get past this issue.  It is NOT healthy.  He can not change his past, it isn't going to magically go away.  But I would place fair bets he barely ever gives those other women a moments thought.  He chose you, he is with no one else but you now, and he LOVES you and you alone.  If you do not somehow move past this you could start acting out in anger towards him and in the process push you husband away.  You don't want that, I don't want that for you.\n\nIf you can't come to terms with it by yourself, then you need to seek therapy.  For yourself and for the overall health of your marriage.\n\nedit - Your anger stems from jealousy which in turn stems from fear.  You are afraid (most likely) that you are not good enough or not as good as them.  Truly, seek professional help.
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PERHAPS HE CARES FOR YOU SO DEEPLY,HE FEELS YOU MIGHT GET "CONVERTED" OR "CORRUPTED" BY THEIR LIFESTYLE...OF COURSE,YOU HAVE A MIND OF YOUR OWN AND THE WILL TO CHOOSE WHAT YOU DO...MAYBE HE IS SIMPLY UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THE THOUGHT OF OTHER WOMEN EYEING YOU--AND LOOKING YOU UP AND DOWN. IN ANOTHER WAY,HE'S SAYING,"YOU ARE SO PRETTY--THEY MIGHT TRY TO MOLEST YOU!" TAKE THAT FOR WHAT IT'S WORTH, OH DIVINE MISTRESS....
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Im sure he would be very open to the idea of you having amorous encounters with other women. It would probably be arousing to him. Kill two birds with one stone.
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I can tell that this issue is really bothering you and hunny, you are tooooooo young for this. You actually sound mad, it was like you were on the phone with me venting while I was reading.\nWell, I am a strong believer in the word and I have read that where the mind is the body follows. Meaning your boyfriend wants to sleep with other women if he hasn't already done so. When he is looking and admiring all thoose other women he is lusting for them.  He shouldn't disrespect you like that and you need to leave.
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My guess is that you are a man & that is why.\nNot that women aren't but we don't fill every ounce of free space in our minds with those thoughts.
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What does your husband think?
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He may find these women exotic but it does not mean he'll leave you for one.  I see a lot of gorgeous women that I am attracted to but it doesn't mean I'm going to leave my wife for one of them.  It also means I would never settle down with one.  There are qualities about my wife that I found to be more suitable to spend the rest of my life with.  Men are very simple creatures.  After they have sex, sex is off their mind and what's left is reality, a woman you love for her being her or the woman you're done with.  The fact he's with you says he loves you for being you.  What is in question here is his respect for you.  Talk to him about it.
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I think it is fine too, is your husband the super possessive type and insecure ??
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I don't know, I think good husbands should just do their best to not let their thoughts about other women bother their wives.  I think it is sadly pretty ingrained into guy's minds that they should be checking out chicks for the rest of their life to prove their manhood or something.
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That's men for you. They don't have a clue as to how a woman think. Guess you just have to spell it out for him. It'd be easier to join a group of like- minded people or you could get one together. Good Luck!
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Is your husband the jealous type?\n\nBelieve it or not,I've had 2 different guys ask me this one!!
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Men aren't the best communicator but they do think alot, and it is very possible that in his mind he is thinking long term, and by saying what he did he wanted you to know how great he thinks you are by letting you know you have the whole package.  You go girl!!
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He probably means himself. But it sounds as though he is not real swift in the sensitivity department. I think you might want to tell him that you have heard that "joke" enough now and it is time for him to wrap it in tissue paper and store it in the attic.\n\nDefinitely don't take it personally. You are probably exotically gorgeous and he feels very lucky to have such a beautiful wife. He may be worried that you don't find HIM so great-looking. Another tactic you could take when he says it again is to say,"Nonsense, honey, with me so beautiful and you so ruggedly handsome and masculine, our kids are gonna be the most beautiful ever born."\n\nLighten up. Don't take him seriously. Some men are kind of stupid when it comes to women. LOL.
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I'm going to say YES!!! I think his boss feels like she & work should be his first priority. She is jealous of you.If it continues or escalates to sexual harrasment your husband should report her or put in a transfer request.Be Blessed!! Monica
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I think thats damn sexy. It means your dropping the defense system, your opening up to your wife... Its beautiful and amazing!\n\nI did that a few times, after orgasming with my husband, its just a realise from all the pain you carried and blocked up in your mind. Dont worry its beautiful. I wish my man did that!
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My oppinion is that you are a few of the smart loyal and honest men out there and I applaud you for your well train of thought and consideration. I do not feel anyone should look down on you just because you have considered things that for others it doesn't even cross their mind. Continue your great way of thought simply because so many of us fall under pressure especially when being tempted with sex, and drugs. I was also a virgin when I got married and so many friends told me I'd regret it but I've been married for a year and the thought of cheating on my husband because I never had anyone before him never crosses my mind. Not to mention the great respect I got and continue to get from my husband everytime we make love!  I'm sure you will find somone someday who is going to also appriciate your well thought in life! Good luck and God bless