why would he attempt to cheat?
492300
if he cheated while unhappy and attempted to cheat while happy, this guy seems like a serial cheater. some guys are like that. no matter how happy they are in their relationship, they just need attention form other women. you deserve better than this guy.
857016
To prevent problems in the future and to be able to trust him again, divorce him, let him be someone else's worry. I've been there and have struggled with promises all my life, it doesn't work and is now to late to do anything about it. All I have is the "wish I would haves' and the aughts" it's all to late to live a full life, I let myself be cheated.
1071168
why do you think you are being cheated
462707
How can you love someone that you know is willing to be unfaithful to his wife?  Most likely he was only using you to fill a void that might not being answered by his wife or he just is a player that got married and you are just another play thing.  Either way bad choice.
160000
i agree- once a cheater....  if he cheated on his wife and is willing to leave her, is this really the type of person you want to be with!?!?!  seems like a set up for heartbreak!
528768
Why would a guy fake something like that?
1052620
why is a guy asking this ???
59285
Trust is sometimes not there.  He might have done a lot of mistrusting things in his lifetime.  I know one someone who always did not trust his girlfriends.  The reason was that he always cheated on them.  If you cheat, you have a habit of thinking others cheat on you.
480884
Given the circumstances, I'd say he was just wanted a quick peice.  If you've been friends that long then I'm sure hes pretty comfortable and confident around you so he saw you as a perfect candidate. He must've been a bit drunk or thought for some reason you would be cool with it(did you invite him to stay the night?) Guys can have a hard time reading signals unfortunatly. But chances are hes pretty embarassed about it now and regrets what hes done. I've seen the most honest guys cheat, just some guys cant control themselves in certain situations. I know I've felt the pressure before, sex is a big deal to alot of guys.
368447
Maybe he is being Cautious about this ?
749634
Maybe hes the one whos cheating thats why he keeps asking cuz he feels guilty.You should ask him.*
552713
cause  he  is  cheating  on you  or  he  could  just  be  busy
613078
Reality hurts don't it. I think the main reason women cheat is because of insecurity.   You should ask yourself what lead to me to cheat?  and would I do it again.  That poor man is hurt and probably doesn't want to go through that again. I know i wouldn't. From a mans standpoint especially if he loved you...he probably still pictures u banging the guy in his mind. There is a big wound in the relationship..and like any physical cut it takes time to heal. But you really cant do anything because the ball is in his court.  He will comeback if he completely forgives you.
265060
Of course it's cheating. He's just trying to make it seem okay.
28357
First I would validate that s/he indeed is cheating.\n\nS/he might have other issues that you are not aware of.\n\nConfront the person if possible, in a non-hostile manner.
349367
huh just a guess, maybe he told his friends or was with his friends when he did something he shouldnt of did, like cheat
246160
you cheated?\n\nif so, he needs time. he may not forgive.