We have been married for about 2 and half years.Since then we have been doing intercourse but my husband used?
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The more you stress about "wanting to get pregnant", the less likely it is to happen.  Bleeding after intercourse can indicate a bacterial infection, or endometriosis, both of which can affect your fertility.  Please see your doctor and tell him about the bleeding.\n\nAlternatively, some feng shui cures:  Don't sweep under or around the bed, don't vaccum around the bed while you are trying to conceive.  Place spiritual or religous objects in  the bedroom that can be seen from the bed.  Buy things for a new baby, while strongly visualizing using them on your new baby.  Affirm your desire, and don't feed into negativity.  Stop saying, "This is hopeless, I'll never get pregnant."  Say instead, "My seemingly impossible wish now comes to pass, thank you for the gift of creating this new life within."  DON'T hammer nails into your house or do any major renovations while trying to conceive.  Partly fill a bowl with clean water.  Take it outside at night and place it in the moonlight for at least three hours.  Bring it in and place it under the bed in the vicinity of your abdomen.  Do this for 9 days.
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Maybe he isn't stimulating you enough anymore maybe your body is used to him. Try different postions. Trust me the one we did the other day I did org.
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Yes it is very normal, when I first started having sex with my now husband my stomach would hurt so bad I could hardly walk. It will get better with time, I think it lasted a couple months for me can't quite remember though as it was over 7 years ago. Good luck
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Well ive never been threw it but ill be more then happy to give you my 2 cents with out calling you a slut, i think part of it is your husbands fault for not making sure you have what you need, now i know alot of people are going to scream for me saying that but its the truth, in a marriage part of our job is doing everything possible to make sure our partner is getting everything we need from them emotionally or sexually. Thats just the way it works for a healthy marriage, The only bit of advice i could give you not being actually in that situation is to eather pick on or the other, i can see you feeling even more torn when your feelings for this other guy are fostered even more and you cant act on it, not to mention the emotional and sexual frustrations that can easily bring. I can understand why you turned to this other man for support you wernt getting at home. But i can only see you hurting yourself in the long run if you dont cut ties with one of them. That is unless you totally dont love your husband anymore and your just in it for everything youve envested on a tangable level that you dont want to lose. But honestly do you think if you bumped this relationship up with this other guy you would be able to continue this double life, i hate to label it that way but thats the only thing i can think of to call it right off the top of my head, but i think you understand where im coming from. You need to set a game plan in your head on where you want to go in life if things with this other guy keep developing, what happens if this guy says ok ill chuck my marriage will you chuck yours? what if he talks about you guys meeting and making a full flaired affair? What if your husband finds out about whats going on how will you respond? How will your husband? Im not saying i know what you should do or what you need to do, but if i were you i would get a clear picture of what i wanted from your husband or from this other guy. Do you think there would be a possiblity you would be more happy in your marriage if your husband started to work with you on your problems with the marriage? Do you think there is any hope for you marriage now? Do you think your husband is doing the same thing you are on some sort of level? IF he was how do you feel about it? I think you need to ask yourself these kinds of questions and in deep deep detail figure out what you want to do, i dont think anyone in here can really answer those kinds of questions and give you any much more of a clear picture then you seriously thinking about this i wish you all of luck and i really hope you get something figured out on this *HUGS*
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Emily, first before you can do anything about changing the way you feel you need to find out why he stopped wanting to have sex with you. Sometimes men see us as Mothers instead of a wife when we are pregnant and that stops them, when they are like it this it does break that bond as wife and husband. If he is cheating then you need to find out why he has done this to you and his daughter. Talk with him and not in a accusing way but just tell him how your feeling and that you want to get close to him again. I have no idea why a man would do this.
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First define "normal"!!  I am 35 and he is 47 and we have been together for 6 years, living together for 6 months, and on average I'd say we have sex with each other 4 times a week.  Usually it is weekends 2-3 hour marathons 2-3 times a weekend as well as about twice during the week before saying goodnight!  I have found that too often can sometimes take the fun out of it so when you start seeing signs of sexual "overdose" it's good to refrain for a week or so and don't be afraid to experiment with new positions, places etc in order to keep it alive and fun!
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I have been married for 6 yrs have sex maybe 2x a month  and I have had  too many partners to be honest about.
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It's a good question Helen. My wife and I are doing more sexually than ever before! Alot of it would depend on how much BOTH of you enjoy this new act! If you both enjoy it, you may want to take it another step. If one person wasn't so happy about it, I would sit down together and talk about it. Maybe you could try it one more time or maybe that is as far as it should go and not try it again!\nWe have done quite a few things, if you want to e-mail me I may be able to give you some more help.\nEither way, good luck!
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you might need to have more foreplay before the actual intercourse.  get your husband to play with you and spend more time turning you on so that your vagina losens up and gets more lubricated.  or you can just use some KY or some other lubricant and tell him to go slowly.
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The problem is not with the girl. She is not part of the relationship. Your husband has a lot of work to do to gain your trust and confidence back. HE has to show that he has changed. Otherwise, he did it once, he can do it again. It has to come from him. A solid explanation of exactly what happened and why it won't happen again.
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Sex was "more and better" after marriage. But then, there came the kids. We obviously couldn't have sex as often when the kids were young. They required too much attention and at all hours of the night. Now, the children are older, and we have a little more time to ourselves. Both of us work, but we often actually schedule time for our lovemaking because we enjoy it so much. After all these years of marriage, we are still finding new ways to please each other, and different methods of enhancing the acts that we already enjoy. The sex is definitely better. Not as frequent, but better. I'd love to have sex with her everyday like before we were married or before we had kids. However, the anticipation adds to the excitement.
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well have you had sex before and now its stopped if so maybe he wants to wait till you get married or maybe hes cheating or maybe he doesnt think you enjoy it just talk to him ask him why he doesnt want to
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practice.  try things for yourself.  your body may have changed over the years.  have your partner do different things or do them yourself.  don't give up.
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The fact that you are asking this question should tell you something is not right in your relationship. Ive never done either with my wife.
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like everyday...it's been 7 years and we still have sex 6 times a week in different places...I will elaborate more if u need me too
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Well I don't know about you, but when my husband and I have been fighting, I really don't feel like having sex with him, until we get it resolved.  I suggest that the two of you talk it out, get it settled, then have some fun.
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Don't ask us, ask your husband.  He was a dumb azz for landing himself in jail, and thus not being able to take care of you.  I think he should give his permission for you to have a sex partner, but under the undrestanding that once he is out, that it will end.