how to make myself happy??
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go on n splurge on urself.spend sum quality time wid urself,hang out wid single frnds,pursue a hobby or sumthin new u always wantd 2 do but never had time 4 it.change ur daily routine.very soon u'll find a gr8 change in ur life.HOPE U DO WELL!!!
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love yourself and then you will.  is there something that you feel guilty about that makes you think you are not worthy of love?  don't you love others?  then why can't they love you?\nI think you are suffering from depression and need to start by trying to get more sun outside..this stimulated the optic nerve.  also you can try an herbal remedy called "St.John's wart."  you are a beautiful person and you have a beautiful family who needs you to feel good about them, life and yourself.  Friends unfortunately like people who make them feel good, and if you are depressed, you can not do this for them.  You need to find answers and start seeing the beauty in yourself and  the life you have with your family. \n1. I want you to get up in the morning and first thing you do is go to the bathroom and look yourself in the merrow and say "I love you" and "Today is going to be a good day!".  this is a positive affermation.  your brain needs this to balance out the negative feelings and things you have been telling yourself.  you have been abusing yourself.\n2. I want you to tell your family that you love them and compliment them...tell them when they look nice and tell them when you notice something good about them...they need to hear positive things from you too.\n3. Do at least one thing just for you.  something for yourself.  It is to make you feel good, even if it is just soak in a tub with bubble bath...go for a walk, sit in the sun for a few minutes, wear colorful clothing, eat something healthy like a fresh peach...\nMy dear you have a lot of negative energy and you must turn it around.  You know you are depressed and you sound like a woman who beats herself up because she feels overweight..I do that.  look around..how many women do you see that look like a barbie? not many...and they have men who love them and are happy. women who are thin feel the same way...it is a social standard that is put on women by TV and magazines who alter photos of women to be un-naturally tall and beautiful..they paint over the natural photos and air brush them and stretch them so they look perfect....and then men and women think this is what they should look like....it is just not real.\nwhe was the last time you plucked your eye brows, shaved your legs, painted your toe nails...this is what I do when I feel down and remind myself I am beautiful.\n4. Get a part time job or do volunteer work for a few minutes or hours a day..do something for someone else (not in your family) at least 2 times a week. this will get you out of your little world and stop you from "thinking about your depression" all the time. it is rewarding and makes you feel worth something..especially when you get the check or someone says "Thank you so much, you are so wonderful!"  You need to hear this from a total stranger...for some reason we believe strangers more than the ones we love because they have no reason to lie to us.  One time I felt like crap and I picked a few tomatoes from the garden and gave them to an old man down the street and it made us both feel good and now he likes me and smiles when he sees me.\nworking outside alone in the garden is another thing that makes many women feel great.\n\nPlease don't think I am judging you because I was in depression and I was on the couch 24 hours a day and 7 days a week....I didn't know I was depressed but my kids were feeling sad too.\nGet out of the negative vibe...and if you can't...then you need to try St.John's wart or go to a doctor for some antidepressants.\nDo it now because you are missing beautiful moments with yourself and your family.  there are many people who want to be your friend but you have walls up and they know you have closed yourself off......open your heart and your life so they can come in and see the real you.\nwhen you meet someone they see your expression and they feel you are saying to them:  "I do not want to be bothe
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do something that make me feel good
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to be happy with yourself
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Here is the answer but your not going to like it. The only thing or person that can make you truly happy is you! You have to be happy all by your self.  If you can't do that you will never be truly happy.  Things and people can give you certen gratification but your happyness lies with in you.  You are the only one that can let people upset you, you are the only one that can let cercumstances upset you.
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Just Smile and say to yourself like this "Hey! there's nothing matter, I'm in a good mood." I think, if you have made a good spirit on yourself, you'll get it.OK!
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Create new brighter memories with someone else or you alone.\nDo something that is the real "end", final step, the last door or makes you feel that way - send back their stuff or a present they gave you, say the last goodbye, bon voyage.\nStart smth new (a new sport, travel,attend a painting class)\nTalk about it.\n...and as the people before me answered, give it some time. \nI think it was Oscar Wild who said that when you love yourself, you are happily in love for your whole life...
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Well, finding a person to make you feel whole is not the answer. Hang out with family and friends more. Also, get into a new activity that you've been wanting to try. Volunteer doing something that means a lot to you. That's how you start to feel whole.
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have sex, lots of it. \n\nsex is the only thing that will bring you happiness in this world.
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Look through old photo albums! That always cheers me up. Also, go somewhere with lots of orange like a park with lots of flowers. Orange is proven to improve mood. Go for a long walk. That will clear your mind or whatever your sad about. Hope you feel better.
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baby girl, if you start doing thing for yourself. you'll feel much better. you have a good surrounding but it's up to you to make yourself feel happy and belong. so start an activity. join some cause that you believe in.
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Start giving yourself Brownie points for every good choice you make. Confidence and self-esteem are earned, nobody is born just possessing them. Every time you make someone smile, remind yourself that you have that ability. Do your work honestly and well. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Give others sincere compliments and don't always expect others to set your standards of decency or to make you happy. Remember, you're not transparent. People can't tell how you're feeling. Eventually, feeling confident will become second nature. But above all, be kind to yourself and others. And just have fun!
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I have been there, I truly have.  \n\nYou need to understand that your happiness is a decision YOU make.  You cannot rely on others to MAKE you happy.  This is a common problem in humans. If you let the actions (or inactions) of others effect your level of happiness, then you will find youself disappointed most of the time.\n\nAccept that people are basically good, but selfish and self-centered.  This is a truth best learned young.\n\nStart finding things that make you happy.  If you like a certain hobby, do it more.  Find others who also enjoy your hobby.  \n\nFind a social group with interests similar to yours.  A Church or other group where you surround yourself with other people is big.  And it takes your mind off of your own problems.\n\nFurthermore, if you are healthy, take on a good and safe exercise program.  Go to a gym, and meet other people there as well.  Get your exercise, and enjoy the new friends you might find there. \n\nThe key is to take your mind off of your unhappiness and focus on the positive things in life.  I promise you, if you don't you will cause more serious psychological, but also manifest physical problems as well, and this is a waste of a good life... YOURS>\n\nFinally, seek professional help from a person who specalizes in depression, since you would be better served by them than people on this forum.  Even though we mean well, we can't help you from "HERE".\n\nYou MUST act and take your life back.  Don't just give in to depression.\nGood luck..  and stay positive.
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Simple - you tell yourself that you deserve it!\nYouve been faced with crap circumstances in the past - and you came through it - its made you a stronger person and now you can take a deep breath and realise that life is for living and enjoying!\nYou are totally entitled to being happy - prob more than most depending on your past circumstances - you've been lucky enough to have a great kid and now an even better boyfriend - sit back - appreciate and enjoy life and make the most of it!\nWishing you all the best and a continued happiness! xx
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Hello! Can understand what you mean. Have not got too much self-esteem neither... but I have come to accept that it is not okay for me to feel that way somehow. I want to change it. Think one really needs to decide deep within to change it. There are many beautiful suggestions here. A counsellour I saw some time ago told me that I should say out loud "I am a wrothwhile person and I deserve to be happy." ... and it worked. Just that I became kind of lazy :o) . What might help you as well is the link below. It might seem childish but it really does help. Enjoy it and good luck to feeling better toward yourself :-) !
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Answer is simple..if you want to be happy you can be..if you want to feel sad you will be..pl let go your sadness.Its not so easy..but give it up.
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Spend time with your close friends and tell them whats on your mind.  They are guarenteed to be very supportive and do what they can to help you out.  Being with people you have laughs or a good time with will easily make you feel better than sitting in a dark room brooding.  Basically you need to be out and active, have exposure to the sun, start looking at other guys that may help.  And if that doesn't help time will.  Over time you're guarenteed to let it go and move on.  Just remember that this isn't the end of everything good and fun, something else or somebody else will run into you that will give you enough pleasure to be yourself again.