My husband wants me to sleep with men while he watches and also insists on me becoming a stripper...?
479059
Oh my god,he gets angry that you want to be faithful well i'm sorry honey i'd be booting him out the door,you don't deserve to be treated like that,that is bad out of order....f*** him off....that's no way to treat the one you love
298413
I can tell that this issue is really bothering you and hunny, you are tooooooo young for this. You actually sound mad, it was like you were on the phone with me venting while I was reading.\nWell, I am a strong believer in the word and I have read that where the mind is the body follows. Meaning your boyfriend wants to sleep with other women if he hasn't already done so. When he is looking and admiring all thoose other women he is lusting for them.  He shouldn't disrespect you like that and you need to leave.
286462
PERHAPS HE CARES FOR YOU SO DEEPLY,HE FEELS YOU MIGHT GET "CONVERTED" OR "CORRUPTED" BY THEIR LIFESTYLE...OF COURSE,YOU HAVE A MIND OF YOUR OWN AND THE WILL TO CHOOSE WHAT YOU DO...MAYBE HE IS SIMPLY UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THE THOUGHT OF OTHER WOMEN EYEING YOU--AND LOOKING YOU UP AND DOWN. IN ANOTHER WAY,HE'S SAYING,"YOU ARE SO PRETTY--THEY MIGHT TRY TO MOLEST YOU!" TAKE THAT FOR WHAT IT'S WORTH, OH DIVINE MISTRESS....
834778
I do know where you are coming from,and i am not sure how long you have been with you`re fiancee.But having a sence of humour when you are dealing with men is some times best !I say 2 things ,one at least he is`nt doing anything with a another human behide you`re back and 2 it would be so more shocking if it was a channel for the opposite sex !\nIf it was me i would get him back in a wee matter ,but not going to far just see how he likes it ,take a real look at the next fit guy that walks pass both of you .When some hunk comes on telly just say "hes  alright" It just seem strange to us woman because we are not in to porn in any way ,but if you accept it ,and be cool he will love you more !If you want ,ask him why he likes it so much and may do things in your`re relation ship that you haven`t yet explored !But to be honest in life if you are`nt meant to do something it makes it more daring and naughty ,once you accept it and may even say can i watch one with you ,it will be come boring to him and he will stop ,as it is`nt naughty behide you`re back stuff ,and if he does big deal ,as you can please him for real !!!
979277
He needs your love. To lose your love would be a blow to his ego. You mention he goes to strip bars, could be his own guilt is what he is taking out on you and I will tell you from experience, it does not change unless you both get consouling. (s) \nI had the same in my first marriage, thought it was me, I'm almost 60 now and know it sure as heck was not me, he threw an iron at me when I came out in a sexy nighty. Called me every name one would call a stripper all the slutty names, not anything to make me feel pretty or sexy, I was too young to use my head . . . use your head, he sure won't use his!   He is married, that carries responsability and that means he should not be in a strip bar, he should be with you, one flesh, eh? Please take care of your self, try to get help as a couple if not, you get help enough to get courage to be more independant from him and make some good choices for your future. I bet you are beautiful!  Please trust me, it is not you! Your words and caring show you are!
997372
Whatever you do don't have sex with him.  He might be trying to give you something that you might want.  Don't trust him.  He's up to something.
315363
You need to stop this fantasy ASAP. All you are doing is creating drama - You are either bored in your marriage, or are having problems that you'd rather avoid. Maybe you're thinking he can get you out of a situation, or "rescue" you in a sense.....Maybe you're not happy with where you are at in life at 34, and are trying to relive certain aspects of your younger life, before you made the choice to become a married woman...? Whatever the case, please recognize this for what it is......An unrealistic diversion from your REAL life. You can't possibly fix whatever is going on with your marriage until you devote to it 100% - And the preoccupation with this young (kid) will interfere with that. My advice would be to come back to reality, before you take this attraction to some other level, and come back asking what you should do then........
1136932
I think that before you do anything, you need to talk to your hubby.  Open relationships/lifestyle people NEED good communication or everything goes to sh*t.  You need to talk to him about how you dislike being watched and your desire for some girl on girl privacy.  Don't worry about fair because life is not fair.  People are not fair, emotions are not fair, desires are not fair.  And frankly, I don't blame you for disliking being on exhibit all the time, its not like you're a trained seal.    \n\nTalk to him honestly about it and if he is an intelligent man he will respect your wishes.
918202
I am not a man, but couldn't resist answering this one.  He doesn't want you to be out all night long, he is thinking if you are out all night long then you are spending the night with another man.  He says he is glad you don't care anymore, but his actions speak louder than words.  Keep on acting like you don't care and see how fast he wants to come back home.
144026
Honey, if he'd not willing to wait. Then he dosen't love you and respect you. Remember you are a woman no matter what anyone tells you, sex dose not make you anymore a woman that what you are right now. Be smart, kick snoopy to the grib.
1100061
In my opinion, you are giving this guy way too much control...what makes him think he has the right to add on after saying 'I love you'..'thats how i feel at the moment but you probably wont hear it often'.\n\nI read your other questions like you requested, and there is only one thing i can't work out...have you slept together before? If you have did he know about the kids? or has he only just found oout about your kids? \n\nIf the latter is the case then i think give him time bc he is obviously trying to adjust to the fact you have kids. Some men find it very difficult to handle as they see it as more commitment. Even so, do not put up with any shit from him, like over the love issue, or birth control and even sex. He either needs to take time to decide if this is what he wants or he resaures you that he does love you but is just finding it hard to cope with.\n\nHowever if he did know about your kids previously and has just started having a funny turn, i would seriously consider ending it with thiss guy. These kinds of men become very possesive and not very nice men in general. It is nothing to do with the fact that you had children with another man, its the fact he does not want to share you. And the only thing that concerns me is that you are already reffering to your children as a mistake in one of your Q's. Please do not be one of those women who put men before your children. You have to remember and he especially has to remember that you did not cheat on him and have these children, you were in a relationship with another man, the same way he has had relationships with other women. I mean he says he does not like the idea of you sleeping and having kids with that other man..can he look you in the eyes and say he has not had any other sexual relationships?\n\nI really think you need to consider what kind of man you want in your life...\n\n1. someone who makes you sad, on edge, uses love against you, uses your children against you, makes you feel guilty about having your children?\n\nor\n\n2. A man who loves and respects you unconditionally, who will accept your children, makes you happy and genuinally loves you.\n\nThe decision is yours, are you a weak feeble woman or a strong confidant woman who will put her children first in her life 100% and no matter how hard it is to leave someone you love, if they are not treating you right leave. Remember your children will copy the type of relationships and people you go for as you get older. let them grow up in a happy family environment. \n\nI wish you all the luck and let me know what happens x
779479
Love is about a two way lane, u get respect u give respect. In order, for you to respect other people , in this instance your husband you need to first respect urself. Man in their own ways, tend to subject women to sccumb to such ways, as they know the weaker sex usually gives in. But be firm, tell him gently you are uncomfortable. He has to love you and your self dignity beyond just your body alone...he has got to realise that his actions will get him nowhere but trouble. I guess, maybe you need to help him out, as it looks like he may have an addiction, so maybe proper counselling may help him get thru this. If you outright reject him, he may in worse situations seek attention elsewhere which may further strain your relationship. You need to handle this with care. Just try to indulge in doing other things together sometimes, and when he brings up x-rated stuff, tease him instead, yet maintain your stand. A healthy relationship, includes good sex relationship, but it should be the be all and end all of it.
1160555
i would hate it too i think that its just encourageing something bad to actaully happen- my hubby has people he works with who cheat and go to strip clubs and i know my hubbys gone with them and i hate it.....tell him how you feel but make sure he knows if you catch him without him telling you it will not be ok----
1024227
I think your man of three years will understand that you have to work.  No one can switch with you at work tho?  I think you should just tell him that you have to work and you can't wait to get back to him hopefully naked in bed waiting for you!
719279
Start respecting yourself more than that!!!!! This man is paying you for services. kick him to the curb. If was giving you money to help you out he wouldn't want to sleep with you. Pay him back when you get on your feet and find someone who respects you. Don't let a man use you like that.
761057
ONly you should know that answer.  How does your husband behave? Is he flirtatious? does he come home late at night saying he worked late? taking regular showers (heheh ..its true )?   If he is giving you reasons so be suspicious then  you are normal .\nIf not then its just you being erratic.  If you really want to know why don't u spy on him?
68667
Put on a lace boostier and boycut panties with a pair of fishnet pantyhose/ heels. Cook dinner in that while he sit and watch while drinking on his favorite wine or liquor. It will probably be hard for him to allow you to prepare the meal, but don't give in, maybe do a little teasing. After candlelight dinner, suprise him in the bedroom and give him his own personal stripper(you) for the night and let the fun began. Oh, make sure you don't prepare too heavy of a meal, you don't want him to get stuffed and fall asleep :)