how do you get over things that are really hard to overcome??
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good friends and lots of liquor
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They're not just affecting you. These types of things affect everybody. It's how eveyone handles these problems that is different.\n\nThe best first step you can take in beginning to deal with these problems is to refuse to accept a "victim" role. Things happen, and life isn't just looking to pick on you. Empower yourself with the belief that you CAN change things. Remember that it won't be an overnight fix, and it won't be easy. But if you don't step up to the plate on your own behalf, anything can and will defeat you.\n\nI wish you luck and good will.
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I believe there are positive lessons to be learned from the most heartbreaking situations, I have been there, trust me.  its not easy but you have to look at it as a learning experience, and instead of focusing on the heartbreak, focus on how much stronger you are now, for having gone thru it.  tkae what you learned from the experience close that chapter of your life and allow yourself to move on.  Take things slowly in your new relationship, allow things to unfold in a way  that is comfortable for both of you and see where it leads.  over time memories of the past will fade and wounds heal allowing you to open your heart again.  Its a painful process at times but so well worth it in the end. hope this helps!
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wwell honey i hate to tell you this but you will never " be over it" i mean eventually you will be able to think about it without crying everytime and you will have days where you dont think about them and that stuff but the pain never goes completly away because the love never goes away. just know that they are in a better place. and trust in God. he will help you and know that other people are mourning the loss of that person and they would want you to be happy. hope this helps. God bless you
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You deal with it by coping with your disabilty.  Learn new skills, stay as healthy as posible.  Build up your upper strength.  Do the pity party for awhile and get back in the groove of things.
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Just try to force yourself to do it, eventually you'll overcome it.( My best friend has it really bad too, she can't even call me)
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Hang in there. The best way for us to heal from our problems is to help other people heal from theirs. Do some volunteer work at a hospital.  I just went through this myself, I know how you are feeling. Geting your mind off yourself and focused on the needs of others not only speeds up the healing process, but helps us learn from the pain.
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Dear Just,\n\nWhenever we find ourselves having difficulty in a relationship, it's often because of unresolved issues from our past.  It may have been that you were in a previous relationship that was painful and you have not really processed those negative emotions, but simply stuffed them away.  Then when you begin to get close to someone, your fears come to the surface.  If you'd like to know more about how to work through past issues that are still impacting your life, I'm a Mars Venus Coach and would be happy to help you.  Feel free to email me at yahoo with my profile name.
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Life is a challenge everyday... Make the most of it! Live it, Love it, and enjoy every aspect of it. Including the hardships, b/c it only makes you stronger (truly)! Enjoy the feelings you have felt--laughing, touching, smelling, and tasting. Always know that whatever your going through, someone out there is having a worse time at it than you, so remember to be grateful for the little things!
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wow, must be pretty rough. i mean, no one expects you to get over it. look, i had a friend and the same thing happened to her and im gonna give you the same advice i gave her. some might say that you should take up counseling or go to a group meeting, but the sad part is that those meetings dont focus on just you and yourproblem. you have to find someone who you trust and love, usually a mom, sister, or aunt, and tell that person about what happened to you, and who did it. the guy who did this to you obviously isnt very considerate. just open up to a loved one and let them know whats going on. im sure it will help and they will be able to focus on your problem and not everyone elses.
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take stock in the situation. \nI personally feel what does not kill me only makes me stronger. I also try reading books, and learning different things
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These things are emotional and you need to get profesional help to get through them. No one one here can type anything that will help. Go find a counselor. (Some will probably be jerks and say stupid things about you) Good Luck!
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I struggle with this too.  You keep on keeping on.  You surround yourself with people who are supportive of you.  And you do fun stuff in between to tie you over.  Keep your chin up and remember to let out some emotion through exercise.
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im sorry to hear that, even though everyone does go through rough times, not many people really understand the times others go through, no matter how hard we try. i wish i could do more to help you, but all i can say is running doesnt solve it. if you run there is just as much of a chance that it will happen again. stay and fight, do everything you can to end it where it is. i know you have the strength to do that. may God bless you
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Hard? maybe\n\nToo hard? no.....we can handle this. \n\nNo matter what it is, there is someone that will listen, someone that will help you. That's how it becomes not "too" hard. But you have to let someone know you need that aid. Many want to help.....don't be afraid to reach out.\n\nFor example......asking your question on here was a big start!! Next......call someone......and talk to them about it too. I so hope all works out. Good luck! (and reach out.....don't forget!)
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you'll get over it with time. i know it sounds stupid but time does heal things. maybe it'll always give you a wierd feeling in your stomache, but it'll be less and less after awhile.
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That is a difficult thing to do.  Every time you feel yourself go back to the past, stop, tell yourself to let it go and maybe that will help.  If not, maybe talk to someone?  I hope you can work it out.  Don't be TOO hard on yourself.  Peace!