I am 21 and have Mom Issues.?
483840
I understand where you r coming from.  Both my parents are that way.  Just remember that she loves you and has always wanted the best for u and want u to have a better life than she did.  Respect her opinions and tell her so.  She can't expect you to do exactly what she tells you and I'm sure she doesn't.  Make it clear that you respect and appreciate her input but in the end it is your decision to make.  Maybe dont share as much personal info with her as you have been. Such as the example you gave about your job.  Would it be possible to keep discussions about your job to a minimum when talking to your mom. You don't want to tell her to back off because someday you are going to need her, need her advice, and that's what she is there for.  She just wants you to know that she'll always be there for you.  You can still be close to your mom without talking about the life decisions you have made or need to make. Good luck!
295252
I don't know if there is a way to really get over it. She is your mom.  I do know how you feel.  My relationship with my mom has always been strained I always just let her say whatever and took it.  I eventually backed away and we didn't talk for a while. Then we slowly started talking again.  We still talk but don't have a close relationship.  I would give it some time and let her cool down.  Hopefully she will come around.  Hang in there.  But remember that even if she is your mom she shouldn't put you down and she should support you.  So even if you do have a relationship again with her don't rely on her for emotional support.
662531
Obviously your mother is trying to manipulate you with that guilt trip. But you have to consider your age and whether or not you have any fiscally stable relatives in the nearby area, or responsible friends.\n Consider why you don't want to move in with her, then you must in the kindest way possible tell her why. Most importantly, you have to have a place to stay before you can have this converstation with her. If that doesn't work, try getting a job if you're having a lot of problems at home.
1004008
what?!?? your mom SHOULD force you. she doesn't want you to grow up and be a waste in society. grow up. you will always have to do things you don't want to do.
101919
you are so sweet!  most kids don't see things the way you seem to.  now, i don't have any of my own, but since i am someone's (now adult) child, i think i can give you a few suggestions.  first of all, while it may not be your responsibility to take care of your mother (or anyone else in your family), it is nice that you want to help out.  nothing wrong with that.  now, maybe you can start helping with laundry or other chores.  if you already do help at home, then maybe you can talk to some of your other relatives to see if  they are willing to talk with your mom and get her some help.  or at least give your mom a break by hanging out with you kids (or just you, if you're an only child) while she spends some time alone.  if you want to get her a gift, i'm sure she'll love anything from you.  maybe something for the bath, or some relaxing music?  good luck, and i hope you and your family realize what a good daughter you are:)
877437
go help your mom. there is nothing wrong with your hands lol
452643
This is an important issue for you and your mother as well as any relations (friends or otherwise) you may have in the future. It could limit your ability to hold a job or even raise children. It would be prudent to seek help now to prevent future problems. Tell your mother that you love her and you don't like being angry with her, but that you don't seem to be able to control it. Suggest to her that you may have a problem like OCD or even Bipolar Disorder and would like to see a doctor to rule them out. Tell her that you value her love and friendship and that you don't want a simple problem to like this to damage your relationship forever. If she cares about you at all, she will take you. Don't be surprised though if she denies you have a problem at first. Parents don't like to admit that their children hav a problem like this. You may have to ask her several times to take you before she is ready to accept it. Give her time to work it out for herself if this does happen. She also may not believe you are serious the first time or two that you ask. Good luck, I hope this helps you. \nPlease contact me if you have more questions, just click my name to see my profile and email me. I am bipolar if that makes a difference to you.\n\nSincerely,\nTerry
505146
Maybe a drug or alchol or mental illness don't let it get you down. Go forth with your college and get out of there talk to your Mom if you can. I have found that just saying stuff like I'm sorry that it seems that way but I'm not always helps with dealing with people like that
1078327
Now is the time in your life when going to the mall with your friends is just naturally the thing to do.  She is sheltering you like a 10 year old and I wouldn't put up with it.  You can't get these years back after they're gone.  Before you know it, you'll be 18 and on your own with responsibility of having to work everyday to pay bills, unless you go to college.  I'm sure your mom means well, but when I was 14, I had the most fun of my entire life doing things with my friends.  I wish I could have those days back.  Go out and make some good memories that you can remember when you get old.  Sitting in the house and being a good girl gets boring....Go for it!...)(
822558
Honey, I have been there.  I had a 7 pm curfew on weekends when I was 17 years old.  Tell your parents to trust you and if you do anything wrong, then they can take all rights away again.  You can't do no wrong until you try something.  Tell them that you are a levelheaded  responsible 16 year old and that you would like to win their trust, but you won't be able to if they keep you hidden and secluded.  Tell them you will grow up and move away.  Tell them that you will live a sheltered life and it is not good for your health.  Tell them your true feelings and make them listen.  I feel so bad for you because I was there.  Then I turned 17 and moved away from home, had my own apartment while I was a senior.  I had a full time job, gymnastics practice and school.  I did just fine and it taught me how to be mature.  I am not telling you to take off, but I am telling you to talk to  your parents because they may not understand your TRUE feelings and how you want to hurt yourself.  Just think, you will be 18 in a little bit and you will be able to begin your life the way you want and be your own boss.  Don't hurt yourself, because in all honest, it is not worth it.  Talk to the parent you are closer too!  I feel for you, I have been there.  Then I moved to FL.  I moved away so my family would realize what I meant to them and that they didn't have a hold on me.  It doesn't work for anyone, so don't runaway or anything.  I did this all as an adult okay? Let us know how it goes because I am genuinely worried about you!  Good luck!
254981
well i guess it depends on what happened last year cause if it was REALLY bad then i guess your mom is just protecting you from something...why dont you try talking to her about it and see if you can work somthing out....try it!
560659
First of all, you seem very intelligent and well-written for 19 year old.  Good for you.\n\nSecondly, your mom sounds like she's a bit on the self-absorbed side (not at all unique these days) and she sees every problem you have as a failure on her part to raise you properly.  She takes everything wrong with you as a personal slap in the face.\n\nMy two cents: See if you can get into therapy with your mom.  You need to build a team with your parents and together beat this.  Depression really sucks.  I know.  Sometimes you have to care about others more than yourself to dig your way out of it.
1130127
hmmm....everyone too including me have this problem, but mine is not serious adn my mom treat me very well. ur mom want the best of u, u should not be angry to her. She just worried about u. okay, this is my opinion.\n1. if u really want to go to the party even without her permission, then i suggest that u shouldn't tell her anything about it that means dont quarrel with her. tell her u want to go to school or friend house, or etc. dont wear pretty clothes but put them in ur bag so that she wont doubt of where u r going if u wear pretty clothe in front of her.\n2. ask for daddy permission politely. if yes, ask him to advised ur mom and talk to ur mom again that dad support u but politely even if she reject it again dont be rude, just be normal. if no, let it be.\n3. get suppport from ur grandpa, grandma, aunty, uncle and etc politely. example, grandma, do u support me to go parties? polite even they dont allow. if they support u, ask them to advise ur mom too. do the same way as 2.\n4. make ur mom happy. like study in the house, cooked for her, made a card for her even mother's day is over.\n\n   that;'s all. hope that help. and hope u got the right company otherwise i m sorry to help u. in my opinion, even if u she dont allow u, u should not go unless u really want to. for me family is more imprortant than friend. friend will hurt u whereas family wont hurt u very much. if u didnt go, ur friend will thought that u have pride and wont simply go out
418746
God, my own mother gets on my nerves. let her know nicley that a little goes along way. or just tell her to back off
269919
You need to love and cherish you mother, she is not going to be with you forever. I am sure that your mother is a great person and she probably is not as embarrassing as you think. \n\nEnjoy every single moment that you can with your mother. She obviously loves you and wants the very best for you. Swallow your pride as hard as it may be and just let it go.
147536
You haven't given us enough inforamtion to be as helpful as we might be otherwise.  The answer depends on how old you are and what it is your mom is doing that is annoying you.  Is it that you are doing something she doesn't agree with and trying to stop you and so you are annoyed?  Is your mom extra stressed or tired right now?\n\nI agree with other posters.  YOu need to think about what you are doing too.  Moms don't usually change and become  annoying for no reason.  Talk to your mom and see what the problem is.\n\nYOu will only ever have one mom and she won't be around forever, and someday you may look back and wish you had been more understanding.
245169
HELLO! I AM A MOTHER OF FOUR/ THREE BOYS ONE GIRL! I KNOW IT IS HARD TO DEAL WITH LIFE ISSUES SOMETIME! NORMAL- WE JUST HAVE TO DO THE BEST WE CAN! I HATE YOU ARE HAVING PROBLEMS. I HAVE HAD SAME HAPPEN WITH MY 14 YEAR OLD SON!PARENTS ARE NOT PERFECT AND WE DONT ALWAYS HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS! JUST KNOW WE DO TRY TO DO ALL WE CAN- THESE OTHER FOLKS ON HERE TELLING YOU TO CUSS YOUR PARENTS- SO WRONG! GOD SAYS TO HONOR YOUR PARENTS! DO YOU PRAY? ARE YOU SAVED/ARE YOUR PARENTS SAVED? I WILL PRAY FOR YOU TO DO BETTER IN SCHOOL! ARE YOU DOING YOUR BEST? tHEN THAT IS ALL A PARENT CAN ASK! IF NOT, WILL YOU TRY HARDER? I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT! RELAX TOO- WHEN YOUR PARENTS FUSS TRY TO THINK OF SOMETHING ELSE= WALK OUTSIDE IF YOU CAN-LEAVE THE ROOM! STAY CALM! THEN YOU CAN THINK BETTER! I FEEL YOUR PAIN! YOU WIL BE IN MY PRAYERS-EMAIL ME IF YOU WANT -MY HUSBAND IS A PREACHER-WE WILL HELP YOU ANY WAY WE CAN-GOOD LUCK!