I'm married and straight but something happen that made me question the straight part.?
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Haha. Someone discovered something new. Hey man, your wife is misinformed. And you, obviously have not thoroughly explored your body...till now. We all have played with ourselves. Though, some slightly more than others. There are lots of ways for a guy to have intense orgasms. Anyway, the media and the gay community is always perpetrating that a man who dresses well, who's too good looking and goes to the gym is gay. And that such men should stop pretending and come out. This hype causes these type of men to question themselves with questions like "I like it when I/my gf/my wife plays with my anus so am I gay?" or "I do envy other males with better physique than mine so am I gay?"...etc. This is overblown. And it doubles as a strategy to confuse and turn the fashion conscious, good looking, gym going men, gay. Yes it works. There men who are "recruited" gays. Truth is there's always a reason a man becomes gay. No one is born gay. Anyway the percentage of hetero men is higher than our homo counterparts. Whatever it is, the numerous other reasons n questions that you have, can only be answered by yourself. Some men do experience this phase of self questioning. Some don't. If you like men, lust after men, wanna have sex with men, wanna develop relationships with men or marry or live together. Then you are gay. If you don't, then you're not. Having questions doesn't make you gay. Looking at other guys doesn't make you gay. The decisions and choices do. Simple.\n\nWell now that you've added the details, its certainly more complicated. ok so you've probably had a sort of a gay lifestyle back then. But think of the reality, which is now. Are you happy with your wife and marriage? What about children? do you have children? Do you love your wife? why did you marry her in the first place? think of all the moments that both of you shared. If its all good. Then ending the marriage would destroy her and your children (if you have any). Not ending the marriage, will mean that you're not being honest to your wife and yourself. Either way someone will get hut. It boils down to you. Yes, its really difficult. Think about it and weigh the situations. You could talk to your wife about the problem, maybe with a counsellor too. I wish you good luck.
899254
I had a friend in high school who had a crush on me on me, but I didn't want anyone to think of me differently.  So, when she asked me out, I refused.  I wasn't even sure if I was 100% gay at the time or ready to come out for that matter.  So, I told her I wasn't gay.  \n\nI often wonder what might have happened if I simply gave in to my heart instead of my head.  Now, she lives in another state and is married.  I will probably never see her again in my lifetime, and I am content with that.  We both have gone on our own paths.\n\nBlessings
938077
Sorry to say this but if your husband is having sex with other men he is either gay or bi and he will probably do it again.  I would be furious because he lied from the very start.  A heterosexual man is not going to sleep with another man so therefore he is gay.
854037
Sounds like you are questioning yor sexuality!Or just coming out? whatever just don't worry unless you deside to stalk, then see a therapist please. There is medicine for that! Be safe and have Happy Holidays !!!!Dude
681884
got married ! thought the guy was nice . i didnt listen to his ex who told me he was a homo . thought she was just being nasty . found out on my own he had probably been with more men than i have .\nneedless to say he is now my ex.
100142
That's something between you and your wife.Not, for others to have a choice on.Talk to her and see for yourself face to face to the one you married.
276423
You say that you thought you were straight before this incident, means enjoyed sex with women. Now if you have started fantasizing about guys, you are not a gay but a bisexual. \nI have heard of a couple of cases where this is just a passing phase. \n\nIn any case, why do you need a psychologist? I think bi- or homosexuality is normal.
1150084
At this point I'd say bi-curious, if you tried it and liked it, then bi.  Be sure to discuss things with your husband first, you don't want him to be upset, or find out through someone else.  And if you do choose to be with one of your friends, make sure she knows that you are still married and are staying married, that it is a no strings kind of thing.  That way no one gets hurt.
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I know what you mean! I am straight and always have been also, but this girl in my life is sooo awsome, I can't stop thinking of her!! We are both married and both have a family, but we have been talking lately about being together, and it is great!! Like, I don't want my husband any less, but I want her! It is wierd b/c I have never been this way for a girl ever! I think we are both just curious!
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If u hav askd this question , probably something has provoked you already . Theres the answer.\n\nNow , something could be wrong if u cant allow ur self to make choices without convincing urselves , that u need advice of ur spouse first .Its tricky, its common.\n\nHope that helps.\nStay Cool ;o)
1004104
how did you manage to have a lesbian affair if you're straight? wtf?
1044529
When you finally fall in love you will know.  I am straight and married and the penis makes ME squirm.  No matter what, sweetie, it is OK to feel how you feel.  And cut mom some slack.  If you can't figure it out yet,  then there is no way she is gonna give you acceptance toward this question.
855089
LOL, not to laugh at you, but it sucks you can't join in. I would ask your wife, if she must explore her fantasies, could it be with someone not related to you, so you can participate, too. I mean, if you aren't bothered, then don't make a big deal about it. Just simply state that you wished you would have know, so you wouldn't have been shocked/surprised. Ask her what her thoughts and plans are, and from there, you must decide.
722957
Be VERY sure that it is love and not lust. I made the mistake of thinking it was love and divorced. BIGGEST, BIGGEST, mistake of my life. Now I'm married to the jerk!
335202
Did you enjoy it? Did you seek it out? Did you ask for it again? Is this a recurring behaviour? If you answered yes to any of these questions it still doesn't mean anything! Lots of people have isolated same-sex experiences. And it is entirely possible that you may be bisexual (everyone always forgets about us!). If this was forced on you that is rape and does not "make" you gay any more than me going into a church "makes" me a Christian.
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Funny you ask this, someone else asked me the same thing today.\nI guess I didn't but in my defense, my husband and I switched sides of the bed last night.  He said he liked my side better.  I'm not too sure about this.  I'll give it another shot tonight.  Ask me again tomorrow.
54148
It's not unnatural but it is not right either. Thats just my opinion. I have a couple friends that are in this situation and I like them just as good as my straight friends but for me NO. For my husband NO. For you, well do what you want we will love you the way you are and you can take up anymore questions with God and the Bible. He is the only one who can truely answer this question. It's also not right to judge but people do so.