I need some advice on an important situation! Can anyone help?
479571
I think that is awesome that you are so forgiving, and excited to see your dad.. It's really amazing how your daughter was born on his birthday to.. I think that sometimes fate has a way of making things work out..You should just be very open and honest with your dad.. Tell him all the things that you have thought about over the years, and how much you have missed having him in your life.. Be receptive to what he has to say.. I hope that he involves himself with you and his new granddaughter from now on too.. I kinda know the feelings you have.. My dad passed away when I was eight. I don't remember him, and God knows how much I needed him there.. it's like you are always looking for something to replace that bond with.. \nI hope everything works out just as you hope it will!
43577
Well, you'll be better off bringing it up sooner than later. Waiting til the last minute will just result in a big explosive fight that won't help you with your decision at all. Bring it up gently, don't just start in on why you shouldn't have to move closer to him. If a man's ego is threatened by a woman trying to take charge they get all deffensive and closed up. Just mention it really casually at first, so that he's thinking about it, then gently hint around how much more hard it would be for you to leave while still letting him think he's the one who's doing most of the thinking. The main thing is not to make him feel like you're trying to boss him around. I know they're no more superior than us, but just play along and let 'em feel like they are. In the long run it'll help you get your way. :)
1155976
Yes-- you have a tough one here. You will find that life is full of balancing acts and choices. The best thing to do is probably the most obvious: sit down with the both of them at the same time and discuss it with them both. Air it out and this way they will know how you feel, as well as, you will know how they feel and only then you can work out some arrangement of time management. Communication and honesty has always been my best policy-put all the cards on the table with all the players present. This way, like the results or not, you know where everybody stands and they will respect your honesty either way.
622189
That's a tough one!\n\nI was actually in that situation about a year and a half ago. I tried to tell her that her man was downtown with some skinny blond girl sitting in his lap, basically all over him. She bascially said that I was jealous that she had such a good long-term relationship with such a great guy and that I was making things up to try to break them up because I didn't like him.\n\nWe didn't talk for a while. Then she started to see that maybe he wasn't the right guy for her. Then he broke up with her (even though they called it mutual) right after christmas (as in, before new years!). She still thinks that he's a great guy and that any woman would be lucky to be dating him! And after all of the things that he did to her (he ruined her credit, helped hig dig herself into a massive debt hole, and basically made her so dependant on him that she couldn't make her own decisions. He even had her stop hanging out with her best friends of oever 10 years!) she still thinks that he's a wonderful guy and that he never really meant to hurt her and that they will be friends till the day that they die because they are so close.\n\nSo I guess what I have learned is that sometimes people do want to shoot the messenger. But that doesn't mean that you should stay silent about something you know is going on. Another friend of mine found out that her long-term boyfriend had been cheating on her for months - from the time that she went away to university and he stayed in their small town - and she was the last one to know about it.\n\nBasically, get your facts straight first. Are you sure that the woman wasn't his sister?Cousin? or other family member? Are you also sure that they were on a 'date'? Could it have been innocent?\n\nThen, drop a line to your pal like 'hey, I saw ________ at ______ the other day with a really professional looking woman. Is he applying for a new job or something?'\nMAke it sound casual and off-hand. Then drop it. Chances are, if she doesn't know who the woman was, she'll ask him about it the next time she talks to him.\n\nOr you could also ask her if they broke up and when. And when she asks you why or says no, tell her you saw her man doing something that an attached man shouldn't be so that she can confront him with the news.
61443
this happened to a friend of mine.   keep ur mouth shut and if u talk to her, talk to her about keeping her mouth shut too and let her know the consequences for if the secret does come out.  also remind her that it takes 2 to  tango
1172988
Probably best if you message me on this one. Your friend has some possible options depending on the circumstances.
65049
i agree with mortgage. its hard if you continue the relationship with that guy. if you really care for your bestfriend, just set him free. but if you care more for the guy, then "YOU GO GIRL"...lol...just kidding...seriously, go find another man.
328485
Well you are in a pickle, aren't you?  Hope they are in different towns.  Try to keep them apart as much as possible.  Other than that I would say you are in deep poo poo if they find out.
1163728
I would suggest talking to him and see what he has to say, I would also tell him that if he doesn't tell her that you will have to.\n\nThis will leave the door open for him to do the right thing, but will also save your friends fellings a little, it will be better comming from him.\n\ngood luck.
57130
You should talk with your friend about the situation...if you aren't doing anything to provoke the situation then you shouldn't worry but I would definitely encourage you to talk with your friend.
555998
Go talk to an attorney and get some advice.
971598
The best word of advice is to speak with a legal and get their opinion before making any decision on talking about taking the matter to court. It is a very drawn out and expensive process. Good advice will help your decision. Good luck.
971686
That is so terrible!! I would say just continue to do what you are already doing...be there for her! You are an awesome friend...good job...not too many of those left in the world.
836039
Oh God...more of those?!! If you don't know how to make up your mind which guy you want and you are seeking advice online, sorry but there's something wrong there...\n\nOh, and if it helps,choose the new guy...of course he deserves a chance the poor guy...oh, bless
676055
You need to ask her about this.  Gently, not accusingly.  <---VERY important. No one here can tell you because no one knows what's going through her head right now.  Everyone's different.
535027
Are you sure that this is not her job. My advice is:\n\nRUN FROM HER AS FAST AS YOU CAN AND DON'T TURN BACK.
76252
Talk it over with her. You have to. She is family. You both need to solve this.