how do i help my girlfriend out??
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I just came back from Iraq, depressed and full of anxiety...  My experience has been, don't push her to hard let her go easy, find an unexpensive hobby that won't produce too much stress, I found that working with plants has helped me very much, some times to be alone does help.  Plenty of water, rest and fruit also helps.  Try not to do to much phisical work, especially out in the sun.  And fianlly,  read some texts full of live and promises from the Bible.  Not the 60's version but the new simeple English version does wounders.  Help you get well.
959839
If you have some cash available, organize a spa night. Not in a spa, you'll spend your entire wallet. Find a good masseuse that will come to your home, prepare the room with candles and soothing music. (I used to have a masseuse that charged me about $40 for 70 minutes at my own place). If she doesn't like flowers, she will like petals spread here and there. Write a note and have a nice little dinner ready. If you can't cook, buy her favorite food at a restaurant where you two go often. Write her a card with a brief simple message stating that this is her day and your way to show her how much you care. While she gets the massage (choose a girl or guy depending on what SHE is more comfortable with) relax and enjoy knowing that YOU ARE AN AMAZING BOYFRIEND for wanting to show your feelings.
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dear darkimpact,\nsimplicity, you practically answered your own question by asking us.  tell your girlfriend what you told us, like how much that you love her and that you are truly devoted to only her.  let her know that you respect and understand the predicament that she is in, and that you love her so much that you will wait for her.  in the meantime there are ways to be together even if not in person.  write her letters or poems telling her how you feel, you can always get these to her through mutual friends that know what you two are going through.  women love men who can verbally express their feelings.  lots of men think that you have to be all macho and all, but to me that is not a turn on at all.  so take some advice from a voice of experience and best of luck with your new love.
351000
That's a really nice post.  It's great that you are so caring.\n\nHow about cooking her a meal (or getting a nice meal delivered).  Candles, wine, a nice movie, perhaps a massage.  Get her some flowers or a card telling her why you love her (not just that you do but WHY, be specific and flattering).\n\nI hope she finds a nice job soon.  Good luck to both of you.
583730
be your understanding self by simply being there for her. trust me, she'll appreciate it.
109600
You could always get the jump on her by breaking up with her. Or you could talk with her and ask her why, there might be a way to fix things (99 percent chance there isnt).
455534
well, it depends on what she's sad about. If she's sad about how maybe things are going with you...then tell her how you feel too. \nAnd if she's just sad for some reason, like if her pet died or somthing like that. \n\nTalk to her about it, show that you can help her through it.\nKiss her on the forhead, and squeeze her tight. \n\nSeriously, sometimes the thing that made me feel better was the fact that my boyfriend hugged me...and not just hugged me, but he really really hugged me, held on tight, and told me that everything would be alright.
615926
Tell her that you appreciate her concern for your well-being (assuming that this is her 'intent'), but that there are some things in life that you need to handle on your own.  Perhaps ask her if she'd be willing to listen if you need a sounding board.  That might make her feel that she's still useful.
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I suggest that you communicate to her one way or another that you are there for her if she needs you.  Say it once and then back off for a while.  She will come to you if she needs to.  It sounds like you maybe feel like you owe her for helping you, but it won't do any good to force your help on her.  Let her contact you.  If she doesn't, you might have to just let it go.
1073440
I wound like to help you...\nMaybe a threesome will help.....
632180
Be open an honest with serious communication. Reassure her of your love and always say things that uplift her and try to always see the positive side of any and all situations no matter how bad they maybe.
1053221
For sure you must support her as much as you can,( and im sure you are) always make yourself available if she needs someone to talk to. Talk to a social worker at school, your local police department, maybe even visit a church. Dont close any doors,or avenues, you never know what might help her. Gather all your information and along with her and whatevr else you come up with, try to make a decision. Sometimes we are not even aware of the types of help their are for us untill we begin to look into it.  Its kind of like shopping for stuff, sometimes you dont know who has the best sales and best clothes that are just right for you untill you get out there and start looking around.
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depends on the character of you both..\n\nto me i would try to see if i can help her in something she really needs.. in order to make her feel she can always depend on me in any matter.. trust is the most important.. \n\nsilent feelings are the most romantic one..
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Always be there for your girl.\nStand up for her honor.\nAlways open doors for any girl.\nAlways be polite.\nShow her that shivery isn't dead.\nLet her know your feelings, we can't read your mind.\nLook in her eyes when you talk to her, and she to you.\nBe a shoulder to lean on.\nHave open arms to hold and cuddle her.\nBe her friend to talk openly.\n(Just listen. No answers required)\nWhen you kiss, kiss from your heart.\n(not from any other part of your body)\nLet her lead you to anything more physical.\nBe honest in all things.  If you're faithful in the small things you'll be faithful in all things.\nWe want someone to love and trust too.\nRemember not to smother us.  But be attentive to our desires as we try to take care of yours.  Good Luck!\nIt's not the gifts or the money spent, But the attitude and gift of your heart that makes us love you.
874267
Break up with her, now.\n\n\nYou can't help someone that doesn't want to help themselves.
843889
Some very special things you can do for your loved one.\n\n\n1-touch her waist\n2-talk to her\n3-share secrets\n4-give her your jacket\n5-kiss her slowly\n\n\nare you remembering this?\n\n\n6-hug her\n7-hold her\n8-laugh with her\n9-invite her somewhere\n10-let her be with you when you're with your friends\n\n\nkeep reading\n\n\n11-smile with her\n12-take pics with her\n13-pull her onto your lap\n14-when she says she loves you more, deny it. fight back\n15-when her friends say i love her more than you, deny it. fight back and hug her tight so she cant get to her friends. it makes her feel loved\n\n\nAre you thinking about someone?\n\n\n16-always hug her and say "i love you" when you see her\n17-kiss her unexpectedly\n18-HUG HER FROM BEHIND AROUND THE WAIST\n19-tell her shes beautiful... not sexy!\n20-tell her the way you feel about her!\n\n\noh, and on that last one... u need to show her you mean it too\n\n\n21-kiss her on the lips\n22-DONT ask her to buy you stuff. you buy HER stuff\n23-tell her what feels good\n24-make her feel loved\n25-buy her stuff. small things can still help\n\n\nwe might deny it but we actually like and kinda want you to get us things\n\n\n26-don't lie to her\n27-dont cheat on her\n28-take her anywhere she wants\n29-txt messege or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at school, and how much you miss her\n30-be there for her when ever she needs you, & even when she doesn't need you, just be there so she'll know that she can always count on you\n\n\nare you still reading this? u better be, its important\n\n\n31. Hold her close when she's cold so she can hold you too.\n32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.\n33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss them).\n34. While in the movie, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.\n35. Dont ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you're mad. If shes upset, comfort her\n\n\nremember this next time you are with her\n\n\n36. When people diss her, stand up for her.\n37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.\n38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, Link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you.\n39. When walking next to each other grab her hand.\n40. When you hug her hold her in your arms as long as possible\n\n\nMAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED\n\n\n41. Call her at night to wish her sweet dreams.\n42. Comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears.\n43. Take her for long walks at night.\n44. Always Remind her how much you love her.\n\n\nyoull never know when she needs just a lil more love
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my girlfriend at times!!!!