How should I feel about my best friend talking to my boyfriend on the phone while I'm at work?
493499
China do you have any reason to think anything is going on between the two of them? Maybe they are just friends and chatting. If it bothers you talk to both of them and if she is a good friend she will understand about talking so much to him while your at work, but don't jump the gun when it could be nothing.....
272162
First off, to say anything, I feel that if a man respects you at all he wouldn't discuss your business to anybody at all. It should be like this, what goes on between the two of you should stay between the two of you. the worst thing to do is to get other people involved in your business because they will totally bloe the whole issue out of proportion. Telling everybody your business is how rumors get started also. I feel like if he can tell your bestfriend things that he should be telling you then that means that he doesn't feel comfortable enough with you to tell you how he feel and undoubtly she is some kind of comfort toy to your boyfriend, he feels more comfrtable with her than he does with you and that is not cool. \nYou need to check into their relationship a little more to see how deep it gets, because they may have something going on behind your back but don't jump to conclusions because I may be wrong and I may be right. I think that you should go to him and tell him how you feel as a person. Let him know that you don't like when he tells your friend your business. Tell him that if he needs to talk about a situation or problem between the two of you, then he should come to you because your friend can't solve any problems that you two are having. If he doesn't respect that then he doesn't respect you.
68050
Could be the one for you.  Somewhere outside of work, you should let that person know the way you feel.  He/she may feel the same.  But be prepared for the worst, and if that is the case, you have to move on and forget about it.  If you don't think you will be able to do that, forget about it and move on because you two will have to work together.
254500
It depends on you... what you would want to happen? \n\nThere are 2 options:\n\n1. If you really want to be have a love relationship with your best friend and he/she is still single then of course the best way is to let him/her knows about your feeling. But mind you, he/she might get scared by your sudden confession. Remember to give him/her some time to think about it and comes out with a good conclusion for both of you.\n\n2. But if he/she already have a partner in life, then I suggest that you shd keep the feelings to yourself in order not to hurt your relationship with your best friend.\n\nSo, good luck!
417430
hi angel,\ni think i know just how you feel. it happens sometimes to me sometimes, like everything went grey. just take a deep breath. u are at work right? do u have any nice music u like that cheers u up? play it softly at ur desk- maybe on ur PC or walkman. cheer up. Your mom does love you, your boyfriend too... u just fell out with her and ur boyfriend is busy working so he can get u a nice gift for ur birthday--- lol--- at least he has a job he can be busy at, not like he is busy dating another girl...\ncheer up ok? take a snack for lunch, you'll soon be home. \nAnd oh, try to call your mom b4 work runs out, you'll find it isnt as bad as it seems. then talk to ur boss too... there is so much power in those three words, "i am sorry" just apologise to everyone u hurt, especially ur mom. \nthen call ur boyfriend too and tell him u understand completely how busy he is and u love him and for him to call u when he is free. u'll be amazed how soon he'd call u himself. he needs ur understanding too, maybe today is more hectic for him than u. knock knock...\nI hope u r listening to me and will do these?\nenjoy your day ok? and remember it will pass and u will still be there...cheer up! love ya
1088514
If thats your boyfriend, then you should be discussing problems with him, not telling your friend to send messages to him. If you arent comfortable enough to communicate with him then why are you together?? It sounds like you need to take a step back and get to know each other first or this relationship will be a waste of time.
492322
If the person is involved in a relationship at this time or you are, you should keep it to yourself.  If both of you are not in relationships, you should tell the person how you feel.  As best friends, you already have a great level of communication and the other person may be feeling the same way as you but is afraid to spoil your friendship.  You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.  You will still be friends no matter what and even if the other person doesn't look at you that way now, they may start to consider it and you may have a chance in the future.  Good luck!
575473
yeah!!! that's the best when the guy actually calls you to "just talk". hell yeah you should call her. it doesn't even matter what you guys talk about whether it be your bosses nasty hair or the fact that you like coffee just showing that  you really like her will make her feel good even if she doesn't even really like you back. just dont' be breathing on the phone. and make it sound smooth be confident if you are not it'll come through in your voice. hope it helps.
593296
why should you have to choose? If you bestfriend is a true friend they will understand you want to spend time with your boyfriend, and if your boyfriend is worth having around ,he will understand that you want to do things with your best friend also
150756
Well it's not official over until one or the other says so. my advice would be to try to save your relationship while you can. It also seems to me that you guys are playing that "since I'm too busy to call you game. I don't have time to call you either". Don't play that game give him a call if you feel he's too busy. Try letting him know how you are feeling right now. Don't let it just pass by like that you need to let him know because he's not a mind reader and neither are you so talk to the guy and find out what's really going on.
885125
You may be intelligent and you may be in college, but you're acting very immature.\n\nDid you consider when you met his co-worker at the front desk that (1) she may not have known who you were (2) snapping at her to go get your boyfriend was a tacky thing to do (3) she may have a hot boyfriend and not be interested in your bf  and (4) your boyfriend may have cared only for you, but after your behavior in the place he works, I wouldn't be surprised if he's questionning his choice of girlfriends.\n\nThe first thing you need to understand is that jealousy is a blinking red light telling everyone you are major insecure. And the second point is that you are absolutely, 100%, powerless over your boyfriend, his co-worker, and every other human being in the world. \n\nOnce you accept those two things, you can start changing how you behave because, if you don't, you'll be single again.  And, even worse, you'll never have a healthy relationship with any guy.\n\nYou can share your feelings with your boyfriend, but in a calm discussion when it's the right time.  Your fear of loss is creating, by being jealous, the loss you fear most.  He may not have told you much about his co-worker if he's experienced your jealousy before.\n\nAnd, let's say it's worst case, and your boyfriend choses to be unfaithful to you, you cannot...cannot...do anything about it.  \n\nWhat you CAN do is make a choice not to be part of a relationship if your boyfriend  isn't committed.  Stuff happens, our hearts are broken, they heal, we meet someone new, almost always someone way better for us than our lost love.  And maybe that is the plan.\n\nNothing is going to be right for you, no relationship is going to give you what you need.  Only you can give yourself that.  Work on you.  You may still get your heart broken, but that's on the other partner.  You'll move on.  You'll always be powerless over people, places and things and the sooner you accept that in your heart, and stop trying to CONTROL, the happier, confident and secure in love you'll be.\n\nI hope you listen to my suggestions.  I'm a control freak who finally got that I'm wasting my time, hurting myself and others I love, and driving those I love away.  I learned to remind myself, when I felt the old evil eye of jealousy pop up that I'm powerless, that things will be as they are supposed to be, and start taking care of myself so I always have me to rely on.\n\nGood luck.
139016
If your boyfriend trusts you then ya'll shouldn't have this problem. you should leave him...he apparently doesn't care that he wants you to never talk to your best friend again!
655054
2-my best friend....my boyfriend
925853
Wow, ok first thing is the boyfriend probably has a right to be jealous...if you and your best friend are as close as it sounds, I'd be jealous too. You need to step back a little bit, they are in a relationship and you should keep the friendship boundaries in tack. Dont over step them. Also, if you feel your best friend looks at you a little differently then he should...talk to him about it, honestly, if he is your best friend you should be able to talk to him about anything. Keep in mind, he is taken and you have to watch it when your hanging around him....best friends last forever, but when someone else is involved things get messy and the best thing for you to do is stay his best friend....emphasize on Friend. If he wants to pursue more with you then he will do the right thing, if not...then let him and his boyfriend be in a relationship. Good Luck, I hope this helped a little
399498
it sounds like they dont care how you feel, is ther someone that she really like so that you all can hang out together so they can see what they are doing to you is not fair.  How long have you been goin with him. tell them you dont like it and you mean when you say it and if they dont listen hit them where it hurts be even dirtier then they are date someone else becuase he is cheating on you with your best friend
199941
NO way. I would include my boyfriend and tell him what is going on to stress me out. If the relationship is a strong one then you should be able to lean on each other in the rough times. If the person is saying they want to leave someone because they are stressed at work I think that there is more going on, and they really aren't committed to the relationship if something as trivial as work is going to stress you out enough to leave. Maybe your better off, I mean would you want this person around if there was a tragedy or a sickness to deal with. Doesn't sound like a very strong person, and doesn't sound like someone that truly cares about you.
418304
This always seems to happen. Best friends are best friends because they like the same things...including guys. She isn't doing it to hurt you, she can't help the way she feels. I think you should talk to your boyfriend about it. See if he has any friends that she may be interested in. If you have a strong, open relationship with your friend, maybe you could talk to her & find out her intentions, tell her how much he means to you & warn her what it could do to your friendship if she tries anything on with him. Don't be mean about it though, not unless she intends to steal him from you.