My boyfriend cheated on me once 10 years ago (1997) I just found out. What should I do?
478604
Personally I think that is old history and should just stay in the past.  However the real question here is can you truly forgive him and not let this haunt you?  If you can't then this relationship will eventually crumble and you might as well get out now.
391942
dump him.\nwhy do you have a boyfriend for 11 years!! hun that forever.\nno matter. at least you dont have to go through divorce papers or child support stuff.\nhe is not worth it, and why cant you see that with the info right in front of you?
760256
Well, if he didn't cheat on you physically, I think you are ok, but if this isn't the first time hes done it, dump his @$$.  Take him back for now, keep him on "probation" and see what happens.
1058337
Yes, I have been cheated on.  But if you ever met my man you would have never guessed that he would ever have done that.  We are still together, he realized what he did was wrong and promised that he would never do that again or I was gone with no second thought. It really hurt me that he would do somthing like that to me, I didn't even find out until a year after it happened. There were some signs though, he became very jealous when I was with any guy or had them in my cell phone and he didn't know them.  There also pictures of the two of them together, he said at first she was just a friend.  Even when I talked to his friends they were shocked.  There is no way to prevent cheating if a guy is going to do it he will.  He told me the reason why he cheated on me was because he said that he wanted to be with me so bad and thought it was me, he was gone for a week. Right before he left I spent a week with him at his lake house and he was telling me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.  Well it has been 3 years now since he cheated on me and I love him with all my heart, and he feels the same way. He knows now that even if I hear a rumour that he was with another girl it's over and he is scared of loosing me.  That was why I stayed with him when I told him that it was over and I never wanted to see him again, it took him 10 minutes for him to leave and he left with tears. then 3 hours later his roomate called me nervous becasue he hadn't seen him and it was 2 am in the middle of the week. I ended up calling him and had been sitting out my window crying  thinking what is he going to do because he really felt that his life was over becasue of a dumb mistake, thats when I knew that he  would be faithful.  I knew that he really loved me.  I hope this helped!
235242
If he is cheating on you after 3 years you really need to find a real man one that wants you and no one else. But if you want to try to fix it find out if he still loves you and why he is doing this to you.
646358
Get a good lawyer and divorce him.  Not only has he disrespected you by cheating on you but now you will never be able to completely trust him ever again.  Can you imagine staying with him and always wondering if he was cheating on you for the rest of your life, plus knowing that he chose someone over you?
1045097
honey, people don't change. once a cheater always a cheater, yourself included.  apparently there were problems with the relationship or you two wouldn't have been messing around on each other.  i know its probably not what you want to here, but you need to move on.
350706
I know how you feel. My ex-wife was cheating on me with one of my best friends. We also got divorced, and it was really rough for me for the first year or so. Every part of my life changed, all the routines changed, had to get used to being alone. There is no easy fix when your betrayed by someone you love and trust. Seems like everything you believed in was a lie. It helped me to lean on my family for support. It was hard at first because I felt ashamed, but believe me, you don't want to go it alone. Turn to your friends and family for help. Keep your mind busy, take a night class or something. It helps. Why did he do it? She told him what he wanted to hear. Maybe he thought he wouldn't get caught. Don't get caught up in the why and how, it will only make it worse. Don't get down on yourself, or blame yourself. He chose to do what he did, knowing that he was married. You didn't force him to do it, and you couldn't have done anything differently to prevent him from doing it. You are still a worthwhile human being, and you still have your life ahead of you. As time goes by, it will get easier. You might even realize one day, that your life is better now than it was then. Keep your head up, and good luck.
175255
If you have any concern, I think that you really should talk to your boyfriend.  Despite you have been together for 6 years, you are still very young and you are still learning so much about yourself.  He may or may not be cheating on you but there is a question for you, why did you get back together after he cheated on you last time?  Did you think that he would change?  Personally, if someone cheated on me once, it is very difficult to rebuild that trust for I know that even if for the rest of his life, he never cheats, I would still wonder if he is whenever he is late from work, have a business trip....so that will not be fair for the man!  Why do you want to be in a relationship that is second guessing?
1043561
babygurl..the past is the past..you have to live for now and the future..maybe you have to write a note...to get it off your chest..sit down and write it down on a peice of paper if you dont want to write it you cant type it..open ur your email..put to yourself..because you're going to keep it fr your eyes only..put put it as though you are writting it to him..get all of your feelings out on that screen/paper..trust me i do it sometimes and it makes me feel a whole lot better..has he apoligized to you about it? maybe thats the problem..he hasnt apolgized..but you know hwat?! i would tell you to talk to him about it..how you're feeling..but some people dont like old news or to be brought up the past when its already done and over with so i dont know what to tell you..yuo just have to let it go..how do you expect to live for/in the future if you keep living for/in the past..you may not always forget what a person has done but you can forgive what they have done..and if he's done it years ago..why are you still letting it bother you? forget about it?! its useless..why are you keeping it fresh in your mind? if you find you cannot do anything to solve these problems maybe you should talk to him about it or maybe a counsler can help you...or maybe you just need to find somebody else..is it about trust issues? what is it? if you are having your doubts and you are unhappy why are you in a relationship with him in the first place? maybe you need to let him go and find somebody else or just take a breath for a while? theres really no way to get away for it..its eaither you take him and love him thick and thin for his mistakes or whatevers hes done in the past or you have to set him free..i dont know what else to tell you..keep your head up! good luck! hope i helped..start to think about positive things..he does..or places yall been or good memories..stop thinking about things that bother you from years ago...learn grow from it and close that chapter..move on!
1092842
When did it stop? Did it stop by itself or was it because you found out?\n\nSince you two have been through a lot together, I think you should give him a second chance but make him earn your trust back. Sure he cheated but those 6 years and all the stuff you two have been through most likely trumps one meaningless "afternoon delight."\n\n\n[edit: apparently, your e-mail or whatever is not confirmed or something]\nI think you just need to have a little faith. \n\nYour partner told you that he felt like you were ignoring him, so he probably only participated in the sex site because he wanted attention. But after he got that attention, he realized that it wasn't the kind of attention he wanted, he wanted your attention. I truly believe that he's over that and won't do it again because he stopped himself before things went further and admitted it to you. Those are two very big steps.\n\nI'm sure it hurts that he put those actions on photos but that was just an embarrassing, low point in his life that he's over. I think you two should raise your communication levels with each other so things like this don't happen again. Tell him to inform you if he feels that you're ignoring him or if he feels anything is wrong with your relationship.\n\nThough I partially believe in the "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing, I don't think that it applies. Those 4 months can't compare to the 6 years you two have spent together.
1032025
"Kinda cheated"?  LOL.  Anyway, being young teens and in a relationship with "cheating" for 11 months makes me think you should both move on.  Just my 2 cents.
109680
Girlfriend you need to dump him. No man is worth that. If he cheated on you once he will do it again if you were to get back together. You dont need that.
231350
Trust your instinct, it is usually right. Leave him. Even if your instinct isn't right, then you should still leave him. Because you don't trust him. You'll just be putting yourself (and him) through a lot of stress wondering if he's cheating or not. Then you'll end up with a bitter breakup. \n\nSo, once again, break up with him.\n\n**Mr. Curious, you're an a.s.s. I guess the whole world should be as perfect as YOU. Right? You sure think a whole lot of yourself speaking to this girl the way you did. Seriously old man, I know the hemroids make you cranky but don't take it out on girls. Go get some tucks pads or something. Mabey taking a nap would help, too.**
84750
i think it is possible for a man to cheat and then not  do it again. the only problem is that you will never forget what happened. and no matter how much he says to try to convince you that he will never do it again, it possible that in your mind he will always be a cheater, therefore you may not be able to trust him.\n\nyou have to make a promise to yourself that if you forgive him, you also have to forget.\n\nalso, if you do forgive him for cheating, it shows him that that is something that you are willing to forgive. because you show that cheating is forgivable, he may do it again.\n\ngood luck with your decision - it is a hard one.
500330
The truth is you can never trust him again, he has cheated on you and there is no easy way to forget that even though you think that you still love him, trust me you are so much better off without him.\n\nI know that you say that you have tried to get on with your life and I know that you think the pain is never going to end, but you need to stick at it, keep on going, do anything you can to forget about him.  It will take time for these feelings to go but if you stick at it they will go, trust me.\n\nGood luck, whatever you decide to do
555453
Pretty much it is a bad decision, if not cheating, but he showed you a desire to get past that by confessing. You should decide if you can forgive or if you get more pleasure out of holding this against him. If you like the upper hand, go ahead and beat him up for it for years to come. All he will regret is that he confessed this indiscreation to you. I'd let it go if I were you. Far worse things could happen to you than this.