Why do we feel like we should lie to get what we want in terms of relationships instead of just asking?
494537
Why I think a lot of men and women lie to get what they want is because it's easier to lie..to go sneaking around cheating..or doing things behind their partners back. I think that when a person does this..it just shows that their cowards because usually people do it so they don't get caught or are afraid of getting caught...just be honest and deal with the consequences...
194508
Men feel the need to lie to women to mask themselves. Men are timid fragile and somewhat moronic creatures and they can not stand to be denied. So by lying from the get go they feel more secure and it helps them think they are in control. As asinine as it may sound this is true. Plus one lie means another after another and so on and so forth. It starts during childhood, lying to female teachers and their mothers then as they get older its kinda like force of habit. Its just their nature but with the right amount of love, care, and determination they can be changed. Only a few can help it others just go with the flow and will lie even after getting what they want.
141557
Keeping things as big as that to yourself makes you hold back from building honest and trusting relationships, and that is sad. By telling the truth, you will loose some people in your life, but you will find others, even the people you least imagine. And you could be surprised to find out that some of them knew about it all the time and were just waiting for you to find the right moment to tell them.  As human beings, we need approval from other people, so we do not feel like freaks.  You will find great happiness in knowing that some people are capable of loving you no matter what.  My best friend is gay and I love him so much...\nSo stop thinking about it and go for it, open the door to a new life!
1126069
If the real reason is just to let people know and not to gain anything yourself, most of the time I would say it was okay.  I trusted someone for years, with my deepest secrets only to find out they were telling everyone.  No one was nice enough to tell me what she was doing behind my back.  I would have appreciated the honesty.
459134
I used to feel this way. Just knowing that all my friends around me were getting boyfriends made me feel like I was getting behind. They would always talk about their experiences and gush about how happy they were...which now that I look back on it, isn't so important (because you don't need a guy to be truely happy...at least not when you still have time to find one) Wanting a guy, I thought, would make me feel complete. I wanted to know what love really was, or how it really felt (because as they say, you can't really know until you've experienced it) Girls want to feel special and maybe they want a little more excitement in their lives. Guys...you can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em :)
935996
There might be a psychological reason for that.  Dig  and try to think about the situations you have faced, which might be the under lying cause for this.  If you remember any of the unpleasant sitiuation which you have experienced, please try to take it out from your mind( imagening,  throwing away the unpleasant thoughts, hurt feelings from your mind) . You find a lot of relief from that and feel much better.
1084931
If you're asking whether lying is an effective dating tool, I would say that it might work for a short time but most lies are eventually discovered and so it is not a good way to start a relationship.  If you are being yourself, you never have to worry about being "found out" and you'll know that the person is with you because they like you for who you are and not who you would pretend to be.
71110
becasue its easier to lie than to tell the truth, they want to cover up the things they don't like about themselves and when they lie they can make the world better than it really is.  when they lie they are making the world like they wish it was. they dont like it when you get emotional upset so they lie to keep you emotionally sensible.   whould you still like him even if he told you the truth,  he wants and needs you to be nice so he lies.  it takes a man to tell the truth about he hard issues in his life most men dont get there until about 50.  do you always tell teh truth?  why not
487811
Don't haggle with it dear...we want what women want-sometimes not in the same order...that is all.The majority of us do/will settle down when the timing seems fit.For the meantime we cannot deny what nature has designed us to do...we must indulge in it or be at constant war with our inner being.If women could just understand that and feel what we feel for just one day...the majority of them would not post all the "Why are all men/Why do all men" questions anymore!We know that we can't live without women...but when will you women admit that?\nNothing personal miss..just food for thought,thank you & have a goodnight.
64764
This is such a general question that can'b possibly be answered fairly. There are many many motivations for lying: being considerate of how you feel, take advantage of you, etc, etc. Sorry for not able to answer your question completely. But I doubt anyone else can.
989568
Some people become addicted to lying. Others do it casually for cover. People constantly worry about what other people will think and the consequences of revealing the truth. Therefore, they lie to make things seem better than they actually are.
380461
Immanuel Kant (a famous philosopher) said it is crucial to be honest because lying is the worst thing a person can do. This is because our society is built on trust.  All the time we trust people not to do curtain things (like blow-up the place you are in).  If you lie, you break down the trust that keep society together and if people lie to much, society will crumble to nothing.  For me sometimes you have to lie, but most time it is good to be honest.
202734
We often lie to protect other people's feelings, or the shelter them.\n\nImagine if you always told the truth, no matter what.\nWife: Do these pants make me look fat?\nYou: ---------\n\nYour 6yr old kid: Dad, Where do babies come from?\nYou: ---------\n\nYour boss: How's that report (the one you forgot about and haven't even started) coming along?\nYou: ---------\n\nThe IRS, or just anyone on the street: how much did you make last year?\nYou: ---------
336704
ask them why they lied - and then.......do what you feel is right.
722103
It is always better to tell the truth.  Lying in any situation is unsound, and usually betrays a lack of courage - the courage to say "I don't want to answer that", or "Well, yes, you are a bit fat, but I love you anyway and if you want to change it why don't we work on it together?" or something like that.  Lying, ultimately, can only ever hurt you, and the person or people you lie to.
1069515
Some of the men prefer lie to make the other feel better or the situation look better. However, women will cry when they know they are lain even the lie is with a good reason behide.\n\nHow do you think?
383776
Well it all depends, sometimes I want it now so I just forget everything and go for it !  Other times I play hard to get, it all depends on the mood im in that day.  Sometimes I want it soft n romantic other days I want it hard n rough...its all about how my mood is that day.