how do you get the courage to be more friendly Towards others and gain friends?
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Although it is important to be nice to everyone, you need not try to be friends to just any one. Rememember, it is better to have one or two close friends that share your values than to have many friends that might want to use or exploit you. \n\nDevelope your hobbies and interest that will bring you into contact with others that share your values.  If you are the new person in a school, church, neighborhood club,etc  and you feel left out of the group, seek out another new person or others that do not seem to have friends and start your own click. Always choose your friends rather than having people choose you.  Be happy doing things alone until you do develop friendships. You don't need friends to go out to eat, go to a movie and such.\n\nAs far as being courage to be friendly, "fake it 'till it comes."  Tell your self everyday, "I am a wonderful person. I can be friendly. I may not be perfect, but no one is. Others may reject my friendship, but it doesn't mean that anything is wrong with me."   Also, make a list of the things you are fearful of doing such as smileing, saying hi, inviting someone for lunch etc.  Start by doing the least fearful on your list. Do it while afraid until you are no longer fearful.  Than move on to the next item. Do that until you gain confidence. In other words, take baby steps.  \n\nIf you continue to have trouble making friend, you might want to seek treatment for social phobia.
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As I posted earlier:\n\nEasiest way to get friends is to become interested in other people. Look around for people with similar interests. Ask them questions about what they think about those interests. Get to know them through common interests, and you're on your way to making friends.\n\nBe their friend more than trying to make them your friend.
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Maybe try being humble.  You're looking for a group of friends, as I understand it.
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Depending on our situation meeting people to become friends with can be very easy or extremely difficult. Clubs, local organizations activities, schools, church, libraries, book stores, gyms, jogging, parks, beach, lakes, malls, etc. can all be places to meet new people. Once you’ve met them talking and keeping the person interested is probably the most important thing.\n\nTo keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask simple friendly questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Become genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nThere are lots of ways to start a conversation; keeping yourself informed on current events, staying involved in activities and keeping a mental list of good topics of discussion are excellent ways to break the ice. \n\nFor other topics to talk about you can search the internet about things that you, or the people you will be talking with, are interested in. If you like games, perhaps search for the latest information about the x-box 360 games, pc games, ps3, revolution, etc. If you like tv-shows, movies, books, pets, etc. A few jokes from time to time can also be a great ice breaker. \n\nAlso remember that body language is very important! Most people don’t even realize it but most times you’ll already have made a lot of decisions about the person by their body language and tone, before you’re more than a minute into a conversation. You want to be cool, calm, and collected; act like the person is an old friend, even if you’ve never talked to them before, and make sure to look them in the eye. Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable you feel, prepare yourself by thinking of the issues that interest you most and what you would like to discuss about a particular subject. A little preparation can go a long way.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are Very Few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful today as it was when it was written.
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You shouldnt be scared but its okay that you are.  i would be scared too.  Just keep in mind that you are still yourself and that eventually you will meet people.  Dont change yourself to get friends.  Also, when people meet you and see that you are new they might try to suck you in.  Dont get lost in the wrong crowd.  My friend was new to the school and he simply just acted like he wa sthere all long and made new friends the first day that he came.  but we arent all like that.  So good luck.
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Willingest to get along with others
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Hi maybe join group who do things that you are interested in, that way you will meet and become more outgoing as time passes.\n\nI'm sure there are social groups nearby who hold meetings regularly same thing as you get to know ppl then anxieties will slowly fade.\n\nYou are not alone believe me, many others feels same, it's hard to go up and talk but with alittle practice it will become 2nd nature.\nPpl love talking about themselves so that is a good ice breaker to ask what they like to do in general.\nThen it is easier each time plus you meet plenty of different ppl ,but remember you have to give info also, as is not one way street..best of luck cheers..
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If you are yourself and don't try to be who people WANT you to be you will be more likely to make friends. Be an individual, not a mindless idiot that does what other people want you to do and be. As long as you are yourself and are true to yourself then you will make friends.
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Just be friendly but dont get taken advantage of. Your personality will draw people to you.
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well being friendly is a wonderful characteristic, not everyone is like that! but making friends also depends in how their character is.
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1. Be friendly. Smile a lot.\n2. Look at people in their eyes while they're talking to you. Don't feel you have to say something everytime someone says something to you. Just listen and look at them. And nod, smile, or show them that you are listening with your eyes.\n3. Ask someone for a favor - simple things like, "May I borrow a pencil? Thanks...." and be sure to return it when you're done.\n4. Remember what someone says in a casual conversation and try to bring it up again in a future conversation...like..."Oh, yeah, you like that CD, don't you?" (little things are important to getting lots of friends)\n5. Never ever act in a mean way...even if some girls are pressuring you to. When others are speaking badly of someone, try changing the subject. People will notice and remember, and someday..they will come to you for friendship, because you have proven to them that you are kind.\n6. Accept invitations to do things with people. Take safe risks.\n7. Take care of yourself with pride and total self-respect. That trains others to think of you with respect.\n8. Enjoy life and have fun. People love to be around someone who is able to have fun.
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You don't have to feel obliged to be a social butterfly. It's hard to talk to people you don't know. Just smile and say hi.
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Get new friends....friends are people you can trust, 95% of the time.
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1.  Decide who you'd like to be friends with (I.E. popular people, gothics, jocks, etc)\n2. At lunchtime, ask if you can sit at their table, in an empty seat. If there isn't an empty seat, or they say no, sit at another table near them.\n3. Some cliques cannot be infiltrated fast. Some can be infiltrated easily. Pick one!\n4. If this all fails, start to dress like them, and say hello in the hallway.\n5. If that fails, throw a party and invite everyone at your school. Then you'll have an exuse to talk to everybody you want to be friends with.\n6. If EVERYTHING fails, be friends with people who really want to be friends with you. They might be more fun than you thought. \n\n* Be nice. No one likes a complete snob. Until you get the ins with the group you want to be a member of, its important not to offend anyone.\n* Try making friends with people in one of your classes that are the member of your chosen clique first. It's a lot easier to ask someone for the math homework than to randomly strike up a conversation in the hallway. This could give you the access point you need to get in to the group. \n\n* This isn't TOTALLY foolproof. Deal.
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dont worry you dont have to belong to any particular group and is best if you dont like that you avoid getting caught up in the middle of groups you choose who you want to be friends w/ ohhh and stop being shy make new friends find something of similar interest and talk talk talk
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Everyone feels shy sometimes, but being too shy can hamper many aspects of your life.\n \n \nSteps:\n1.  Determine why you're shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there's an underlying reason for how you react in situations.\n \n2.  Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public.\n \n3.  Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.\n \n4.  Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.\n \n5.  Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say "no" or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.\n \n6.  Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren't shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.\n \n7.  Feel positive about yourself, don't get frustrated and have fun. Remember, the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.
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i used to be so shy, until i found my now best friend. she was so confident and encouraged me to do the same. maybe try and find friends on your own, so you aren't relying on your now friends to have a good time. Make conversation with a person in a bar or pub, thats usually a good way to get more confident, and if it doesnt work out then you can just leave it at that!\n\ndo things in public that you wouldn't normally do, like singing and dancing when messing about with friends.  Most of the problem is that you are thinking of what others think of you.  Dont worry what they think, theyr the ones having a boring time not you! and anyways, you wont see these people again, so let them think what they think!