My Ex Boss wont give me a referance????
485175
He won't give you a reference... big deal!  Move on.
65060
You have a few options at hand.  The first thing I would do is have someone you trust but your old company doesnt know call and do an inquiry on you as if they were checking your references.  This way you can find out what is being said.  If they are saying anything other than your date of hire, and basic info you can sue them for slander.  The next thing you need to do is check how you are listing them on your applications.  Are you putting down the reason for discharge?  If so, stop. Put down TBD (to be discussed).  Then, when you go for an interview, fudge the truth a bit.  Tell the prospective employer that you were getting harrassed and that they fired you unjustfully for that without a full investigation.  That will hit their soft spot and help you get in easier.  NEVER tell an employer you got fired for attendance problems.  BIG no no.  You can also try some of the temp agencies.  They are good for getting your foot back in the doors.  Best of luck to you.
1074492
Ask for a written letter of recommendation.  People move on, you might not be able to track him down in the future.  Present him with a written reminder list of things you have done while on that one year assignment.  \n\nI have 3 letters of recommendation which have helped me tremendously. 2 of the 3 bosses are no longer with the company I worked for.  I include them when I apply for some jobs because I have moved to another state.  So instead of asking future employers to make a long distance phone call, they have that letter right there.  They probably still want to call if I am a serious candidiate for the job, but in the meantime they have proof of satisfying some other former employers.  \n\nWhen you work for a temp agency, so many times you are just "that temp guy".  If you have established a rapport with someone at an assignment, I think it's vital for you to get a letter.  The HR department at that company can't verify what you did, they can only see that for XX amount of time, they had someone outsourced from XX company.  You didn't technically work for that firm, you are employed techincally by the temp agency.  That is why it's even more important for somone in your situation to ask for letters if people are willing to write them.\n\nGood luck on your next gig!
1074267
Write a nice letter to your boss, then go in and give it to him/her and sit down and have a chat. Explain how much you've enjoyed working with them but say that, as in life generally, sometimes you have to move on. Keep it friendly and stress what a good boss they have been and how much you have learned. Also offer to help with recruitment for your replacement. It's very hard and I've been in the same position - you feel personally responsible for letting them down - but try not to feel like that. It is only a job after all. Good luck and enjoy your new job!
416625
I don't know how close your head office is, but if it's close, I would designate someone to hold down the fort at your branch, and make a personal trip to the head office (that is, if you have tried calling them with the problem).\n\nTake whatever evidence you have of the lack of support, and prepare your statement in advance to be short and to the point.  Other than that, I wish you luck.  \n\nBest to keep your reputation, look at other jobs in your area if you have no luck with your head office.\n\nGood luck.
1054583
Let's see.  In work, you usually have to put up professional appearances.  So, I would say don't go there.  If your ex-boss cannot be professional with you at work..what makes you think he will be a nice guy outside of work?  \n\nWhat you just described..is a case of displacement..or kicking the dog once you get home.  He was frustrated..so he took it out on you..and you yourself said you couldn't take it.  I don't think this would bode well for a real relationship.  Think about it.\n\nAlso, I think you may just be feeling sorry for the guy..its true businesses can go bad...but thats life.  Many businesses fail..and he probably just hurt his business ...by treating you badly and hence..you leaving...\n\nLet go...and try to enjoy your new job.
296628
Well if they are going to contact your employers then theres not a lot you can do. Maybe telling them that they are going to call might help and then just hope that you worked hard enough to get a good reference.
1011960
Your job and personal life shouldn't affect eachother.  Your boss/ex in law can't fire you because you used to be with his son.  Just do your job and act normal.  If you want to talk to your ex then talk to him, but don't do it because you wanna get on your boss' good side. \nIf you are really through with your ex then just be honest with him and let him know that you don't want to get back together with him.
614902
Doesnt work for me \ncause where i work im the boss
1027036
Before you contact a lawyer you should consider doing the ground work.  Have you contacted someone in the Human Resources dept. (if your company has one) or have you made anyone at work aware of the situation?  If you haven't already, start keeping notes concerning when, where and everything about any instance that you consider boss abuse.  You weren't specific as to whether it was physical, verbal or just in general abuse but no matter which one, keep anything that can "prove" your case - pictures, notes, emails, audio recordings.....\n\nThis doesn't exactly answer the question you asked but I thought it might be of some use.
258205
You might be able to talk the company into telling you his last name(maybe) or tell them you have an urgent personal matter and need to get a hold of him and see if they will relay a message.  Maybe if you became friendly with someone who works there you could have them find out for you.
168297
First of all, ask your boss.\nThen, I may seek help from the labour union.
638811
Ask your boss for a review.  If your company has no formal process for this, it is a reasonable request to make of your boss.  If you worked for me and the company didn't support this process, I would still feel an obligation to provide you this feedback.
331022
It depends on how much hassle you want to go through. If you are worried about future job references,legally all an employer can say is when you worked and what your wage was. It doesn't matter what is written down. I'm not sure if you can file a grievance as an ex-employee but your work should have some system to deal with termination disputes. You have to decide what you hope to get out of your grievance and whether it would be worth your time.
855401
I was an HR Director for about 10 years, although in California and Texas, not Washington. Anyhow, it's been a while, but here goes... Technically you were insubordinate and it is likely that the unemployment officer who officiates over the phone hearing will not believe that you meant anything else by saying d*ck in an e-mail (about someone who I presume is your boss). That said, I am wondering if they actually have your signature on anything that says that you are aware that "they" (your employer) have the right to read and monitor electronic mailings sent by you. Unless they (or you since you were the office manager) are very organized they may have trouble coming up with this paperwork. They need this in order to read your electronic communications and I would bring this up to the officer unless you know for sure that they have it and can easily access it. Also, I am wondering if there is any defense you might have with regards to why you said it or the context in which it was said. Additionally, has there ever been a time that you are aware of when "they" may have set a different precedent by not firing/terming someone based on this sort of insubordination? In other words, where someone else called  a manager a name of sorts, but were either not disciplined or disciplined without termination. I also have to wonder why your employer was able to read this e-mail (did someone show it to him or did you leave your computer on) and why he bothered to log on to your computer if that's what he did? Typically, I wouldn't do this unless I had it in for the person and usually that would mean a series of write ups (I'm a GM/PM now so I still have a number of reports and remember my HR days well). Unfortunately, most companies have a policy saying that they can terminate with no notice based on certain acts, one of which is insubordination. Still, I agree with you that he sounds like a jerk if this is all he had. He would have done better to call you in and find out why you felt like that, thereby trying to find a fix for the situation and gaining your loyalty if he succeeded. Good luck!
370981
You have to be honest but delicate. Choose your explanation very carefully. They will find out anyway when they call your previous employer. If you are honest, they will appreciate that fact, however; you need to be careful how you explain the situation so they don't think that you can't get along with others. Just be honest.
1021729
m_k4376 says...dont mess with the boss's man...unless  you are not worried about losing the job. First question to ask yourself is what is your relationship with your boss..if your boss is a friend, then be a friend and stay away. If not, and you dont care about the job then see where it goes. the boss may be using him to get to you for a little action, if your into that kind of thing. if your not into that kind of thing then wait till they break up then pursue him. but then, if you dont care about the job or your boss, go for it and the next time he hits on you... reach back and grab his package.  let me know how it works out...@ yahoo