Why do parents spoil their kids so much?
486763
Most of the parents are not aware of what is good for their children.  They spoil in an effort to make their children life beautiful. But in the process they have initiated their children to a wrong direction. People don’t understand that the more their children work the more their life will be beautiful. \n\nThere a group of parents who spoil their children to facilitate their own easy going life. They have money and they think they can buy every thing including peace but the peace does not come they these spoiled parents want to achieve.  A film ‘Sharabi’ dealt with this issue and it was very well depicted. Pran was a spoiled father who does not have time for his only son, Amitabh. (their names in the film was different). The father was a big business man and the son was left in the hands of a servant. The mother died and all the responsibilities fell on the father. In brief the father start giving wine etc to keep child silent. And the son became big time drinker. But there are very few in this type of parents.\n\n\nGenerally people need to be introduced with what is good and what is bad for their children.\n\nRegards,\nDr. Shaheen Ansari\nArk Foundation
585148
These days a lot of parents are so young that they are still trying to be kids themselves doing stuff like going out all the time and partying. They don't spend quality time with their children teaching them things that parents used to teach their kids like respect and other characteristics that a lot of kids these days don't have. Also kids learn from example so if they see mom and dad cussing out the grocery clerk or waiter or some other innocent person who accidentally did something wrong they think that's how to act.
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It's usually a mixture of both excitement for themselves and terror for their children. Many parents go through what is called "empty nest syndrome", which is uneasiness now that there are no diapers to change or soccer games to remember to attend. Depending on how troublesome the kids were to their parents, or how close their relationship...parents feel depression, worry, but relief that 18 years of raising kids is over with. Why don't you ask your parents if you don't believe me.
675172
Because they are parents...and they only want best for you....
565769
I think they are because they wanted to do stuffs in their own way because when they were a kid they cant do ir so they want kids to be good but they don't show themselves as a good model so they are basically hypocrites.. If im gonna be a parent someday I'd be the best parent so the generation/tradition/culture of being a hypocrite will stop. and oh yea stupidity has also something to do with it.
1001599
They do this because it is part of teaching you how to survive in the real world.  Some day you are going to be out there in the world on your own and all those chores that your mom and dad take care of for you will have to be done by you and you alone.  They are also trying to teach you responsibility.  Considering all that your parents provide for you in your life is doing some pretty easy chores really such a bad way of showing your appreciation?
1079407
Laziness, I guess. It seems parents do less parenting these days by working too much and leave other people to burden the responsiblity of raising their kids.
160913
When parents behave this way or try to impose their dreams on their children it is because they are emotionally immature.  Age regardless.  \n\nThey feel inadaquate and hope to relive their lives through their kids.  What the parents need is to move on and encourage their kids to be individuals, productive and healthy emotionally.  \n\nSometimes parents need therapy.  Being biologically old enough to produce offspring doesn't mean they are capable of dealing with their own issues, let alone the issues that arise as their children grow.
40549
It's quite true that there are just some things that we have to learn for ourselves. \n\nIt's also true that other people have different perspectives, goals and desires than we do.  Sometimes it's a matter that we are missing something that they see.\n\nIt can be frustrating when you see your own child make a mistake, but you can't protect them, and it is VERY tricky to convey to them what you have learned or what you see that you think they don't see.\n\nSo here is my advice: (!)\n1.  Give up your need to have them follow your advice.  They have to be able to do differently than what you advise, or you are just trying to control them, not help them.  And like I said above, what you want may not be what they want.  And they aren't there to do right everything you did wrong.\n\n2. Learn active listening - see link below.
86584
some parents just want to have a built in sitter at home. They buy video games and teach the child how to work the computer. There are so many different things for children to do. It is a shame that parents do not give their children quality time instead of monetary posessions.
503179
The problem is that many parents don't take their responsibilities as parents seriously.  They're too wrapped up in their own lives to raise their children properly, and they dump the problems on the schools and social system, expecting someone else to "fix" their kids.
107923
Kids are able to manipulate parents around their fingers. Mainly cos parents think that their kids are as naive as them at that age and kids are getting smarter. I'm not just talking about teenagers. Kids as young as 3 years old are now scolding their parents and directing them. We are living in a screwed up, upside down world. The scariest part is that parents allow themselves to be ordered around.
1071505
because parents like to put to much pressure on kids and it just another way of them saying they want you to do better!
209744
Cause people aren't disciplined very well and they get that kind of behavior from their parents, they also do it cause they think that they're better than anybody else, if somebody is being mean to you, look at it as if they're having the problems and not you.
1066782
I totally agree with you!! I don't understand people who have children and then don't actually take the time to raise them right!! It seems like alot of people either have no common sense when it comes to their kids or maybe just too lazy!! I will raise my own son, thank you very much!!
1134195
Parents are the core educators of their children so it is primarily their job to educate their children about moral issues. It is something that you assume as a parent as soon as you know that there is a child to be born. Some things in life are not a choice. This is one of them. It is mandatory as a parent that we teach our kids personal responsibilty, social awareness, care and respect for themselves, others and the world.
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Well it's laziness and lack of parenting skills.  People have kids and don't want to be bothered. How many parents do you see outside playing with their kids?  Usually the kids are in front of the tv, computer, video games, etc.  It's another way to keep them out of your hair.  It takes active parenting to teach your kids respect, love, manners, etc.  As for people being afraid to discipline because of what the cops or cps may do, that's a crock.  Noone is going to come busting down your door if you smack your child on the butt.  Plus, you can still teach your kids without spanking - be firm and be a part of their lives.