Marriage,everything you expected or not even close?
483880
Over a period of time, marriage is even more than I/we had expected! You see when you start out, it's the two of you and think this is it! How could life be any better than what I am feeling right now?How could love grow? Then you go through great times like births, going to other weddings, going places, adoptions, all of it, and then you go through really hard times,thoughts and feelings, why did we get married?What are we doing here?Is this what I/we wanted? People change over time, people are different. You want to learn and grow together along life's journey. You also go through deaths, kid's sickness,surgeries, is he/she cheating on you?All of it, and after years, not of abuse,never ever accept that, but you just realize how Blessed you are to have this full,married life with beautiful kids(the good and the hard there too!!)An awesome feeling to know that somebody in this world, is there for you, knows you and loves you anyways!!:) So after 20 years, can honestly say, it is more than I ever expected, it is awesome, but it is a journey,it is work, it is fun times, hard times, but you do it together and that love just grows beyond your wildest dreams!!!
271507
Apparently you get along and have a healthy enough relationship to have progressed to the point of even having a wedding.  To me, the wedding has always been a dream of the woman, where she's been planning it since childhood... how many men have been planning their wedding since they were teenagers?  Not very many.  I made two decisions in my wedding... my best man, and the type of music we'd play.  The rest I let my wife choose.  Why?  Because it meant more to her than it meant to me (although I still held the event in very high regard).\n\nIf you worry about each others feelings, you will take care of each others needs.  If you only worry about yourselves, you will both be dissatisfied and everything will fail.  Think about her needs before your own.
367807
expect a lot of adjustments...stop thinking about yourself anymore....and remember...communication is a must!! in your lifetime together not just at the beginning...\n\nfrom what you said..you're lucky enough to know that you are marrying a wonderful man..\n\nbest wishes...cheers!!
150566
probably better to ask a marriage counselor : ) it could be lots of things, some which are "fixable", some which aren't.
82365
Well, i am not particularly a fan of it, but i dont necessarily think itsa bad thing either. The idea of it is marry first, fall in love later.  Iprefer to find my own mate, because if the marriage fails, then it was my fault and atleast i can say, i did love him and for all the went wrong, look at what went right.  When the marriage is aranged and fails, then the tendency to harbor blame and anger exists.  But i think in a way, it still exists all over the world, even in USA.  Being set up  on blind dates, meeting ppl through friends...etc are all formsof arrangements, just not so final.
717446
That is not something that I plan. When it happens it happens. I mean I'm already married but kids that's like 5 years down the line.
607255
Ok, but so what, what do did the marriage do to them as a difference??\nBabies?\nIsn't living together OK nowadays? \nOr they just want to wear the wedding tuxidos and/or dresses??
61120
Marriage can be a very beautiful thing when its w/ the right person.  I can hardly wait to marry my fiance.  We live together now and its hard but great.  You have to work at it like everything else in life to make it wonderful.  You get out what you put into basically.
1038796
I'm ready to get married. I have finished two degrees (BA and Masters), and have a clear plan for what I feel the rest of my life should be like - the pursuits, the activities, the financials, etc. I am tired of casual dating, and want to connect with someone on a deeper level. I am considering a child, but I am really undecided on children - STILL - so it's NOT the biological clock thing. It's not a factor at all.
201142
Is it marriage or the wedding you are on about? If its marriage then you will know when you are ready. I was. Didn't have any doubts. I did live with my now husband before I got married. This made us realise what we were like all the time and we knew we could be together 24/7
836248
I would feel hesitant about marrying him. Sounds like "he just not that into you". But I hope that isn't the case.
646148
Get one of those marriage planner books. They have checklists of everything you could imagine.
875514
Well after being married twice I have come to the conclusion that marriage doesn't work for me. \nI actually don't believe in it anymore.\nI am really surprised too so many people think its the answer because it just isn't
513134
For me I want companionship and a best friend.  I can't imagine a marriage where the relationship isn't like that.  I want to be the first one he goes to dilemmas, advice, opinions.  I want him to want to share most aspects of his life with me.  And yet balanced with the fact that all marriages need some space (me time, my time with just my girlfriends, and vice versa).  It's hard to explain, but I don't want to be the person he just goes home to everyday, and raises his kids.  I want to be his equal, and not to be forgotten when he leaves home.  Does that make any sense?
190005
Yes, very much so.  Not a complex situation here.  Have such types married and lived a long life together.  Yes.  But let's look at quality of life here.  You do best in your comfort zone.
1021126
no matter how much you plan, organize and control there is something that will not go as expected.\n\nif you are too worried about what is going to go wrong you won't be able to enjoy your day.  the most important thing you should remember is that you are marrying the one you love...bask in the moment, smile and enjoy yourself.  if you can't do that you will only remember the worst that happened.
1095419
At my wedding I would have been like "I don't!"...after the intial shock wore off I would have said "No, I'm just playing...I really love this guy, Christian, right?" Then, I would have lied to my husband about our honeymoon sex...I mean, how was I supposed to know the phrase "worst sex I ever had in my life" would make him cry.