How do I create a strong marriage?
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communication....and someone just told me the other day something that just struck me....\n\nA good marriage is loving someone in spite of their faults.  You realize they are human and you love them anyway.
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Express to her how much you love her and that you love her more than ever.  If communication is a problem.. suggest marriage counseling.  Explain to her that making your marriage work is more important to you than anything.  Just tell her how you feel!
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I think you are setting yourself up for failure by asking this question.\n\nIt will not necessarily fail.  You just have to keep in mind that relationships go through stages.  No two people can be together without eventually finding something that they don't agree on.  \n\nIt's kind of like a roller coaster ride.  Bad times come, and in the beginning you think that it can't get any worse or it will never be the same.  When things work out, and you're up, things should be better than they were before...until you hit another problem and start to fall.\n\nReal relationships take time, compromise, and communication.  If you've got these three things together, then you'll be fine.  Just take your time and make sure you are with someone you can live with forever before you rush into getting married or pregnant.
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Marriage can be hard sometimes and yes sometimes you really have to work at it. You have to give in to things or stand your ground. You have to pick and chose your fights, try to do the right thing. I would say think about your relationship are you two just going trough a tough time? Or is the love really gone. Only you can make that decision. Not the people on yahoo answers, we can only offer advice and mine is to really think about what you want! Think about your marriage vows as well, try to talk with your partner as well, honesty is the best policy!
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1. Support him as he chases his dream (if you kill his dreams, he'll never forgive you)\n2. Encourage him and tell him how great he is (even if he isn't, he might just live up to your words)\n3. Be sexually easy and don't play mind games\n4. Never talk to your parents about problems in your marriage.\n5. Agree to communicate about money so that it never comes between you.
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Don't let a single day pass without letting him know in word and deed how much you love, honor and cherish him. Make sure that you never stop talking and sharing the things that happen in your lives. Make sure that you create time for just the 2 of you, especially after you have children. A strong and healthy marriage is the foundation of a happy family.
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Line of communication is a huge thing. I have been married for 11 yrs and above all else this a huge factor. No good marriage is easy. You have to love that person and like them because passion comes and goes and you need that friendship and unconditional love to fall back on
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Commitment\nCommunication\nselflessness and giving\nforgiving\nloving selflessly\ntreating them the way you want to be treated\nHonesty and not hiding things\nFaithfulness\nrespect and trust\nnot trying to change the other person instead work on yourself to be the best spouse you can be for that person.\nHaving God the center of your marriage. Working through things together when things get rough or tough.\nhttp://www.marriagetoday.org
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For us, it has been work.  Lots and lots and lots of hard work.\n\nWhen we got married, I had an idea of what a wife should do, be like, etc. And, I expected her to be this person and our marriage to be a certain way.  So, after working at it for a year (and fighting constantly), I slowly realized that she is who she is and my expectations were wrong.  (She had to realize the same things about me.)  This is when we learned we have to work at communicating with each other and with ourselves. (You will have to learn who you truly are as well as who your mate truly is.)\n\nWe have been together almost 12 years now; she is my soul mate and we are very happy.  But, the communication and understanding that are needed are work.\n\nEvery few months, life will throw a new set of challenges at us and we will have to work at communicating well, understanding things 100% from the other persons point of view, not having emotional reactions to things without asking "Did you mean that way I heard it?" Then, once we have communicated and are in synch with each other, we can tackle the challenges of life together.  \n\nMarriage is not 50/50.  It is 100%/100%, and often you have to give your 100% first.  But, being able to become someones soul mate and their true love is an amazing blessing.  Just keep in mind that sometimes you have to give your 100% first and that is work.\n\nBeing truly in love when you get married is a great place to start growing your life long love together.    But, you have to work to grow life long love.  \n\nPlus, please remember to "actively love".  Don't just love someone and feel that is enough.  You have to pay attention to this person you are marrying, and learn what stresses them out, makes them happy, what they are great at, how best to be supportive,  and which of the family roles that mentally and emotionally hate but that you could do (I do the dishes, because she would rather be beat with a stick than wash another person's dishes.).  In other words, you have to learn who this person really is and how you can help make their life happier.  Ask yourself, "What can I DO, to make my mates life easier, happier, better, etc."  "Active love", which is paying attention to your mate and then doing things you can to improve their life, is also part of true love.\n\nForgive the long answer.  This is just the things we have learned in our 12 years together.  Every relationship is unique.  \n\nGood luck and best wishes to you both.
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God needs to be the center of a union of marriage. Once partners are in tuned with eachother and their relationship with God is secure, your spouse will tell you what he / she wants and you can follow the program.
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make a list of ALL those things which drew you two together, and a list of all those things which work between you. build from there, and perhaps gently talk about those things to your partner, have your partner try the same thing. It is a beginning place to start.  the key is, you have to find it for yourself,,,
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Even though it may seem hard... just ask him. I had to make the first move with my baby, but I'm happy I did cuz we are planning our wedding. The worst that will happen is it won't work out, but you will have grown stronger/ more (for lack of a better word) agressive which allows you the courage to take risks and go after what you want. In the long run no matter what the outcome you'll have self respect and a new experience under your belt. Good Luck Honey!!! I'm sure you will get your man.
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Well My wife and I lived together 13 years, have been married 11 years and our 3 children were from her previous marriage. We have 8 grandchildren. So far so good!! The big thing I think is you need to hold your head up, Show your pride and confidence. Demonstrate that YOU feel your worth.\nDon't settle for less than what you want!
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no matter how much you plan, organize and control there is something that will not go as expected.\n\nif you are too worried about what is going to go wrong you won't be able to enjoy your day.  the most important thing you should remember is that you are marrying the one you love...bask in the moment, smile and enjoy yourself.  if you can't do that you will only remember the worst that happened.
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Relax and enjoy it.  Remember that a marriage is a lot of hard work, and takes a lot of commitment.  The more you share with each other the greater the reward.  Don't let arguments fester, and don't dwell on all the little things that ultimately aren't that important.  And last of all realize that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship and that over time the intesity of your feelings will fade some but that is normal and not a sign of anything being wrong with your relationship.
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Start making a good faith effort to make things go better between you. Then keep making that good faith effort day after day until it pays off. And then keep right on making that good faith effort day after day, or she will feel like you tricked her, and you will be worse off than before.\n\nIn short, there is nothing like a husband who tries hard to make the marriage a good marriage to make a wife feel friendly toward him.
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NO, I say you should try to work things out. Marriage is a special bond between two people. Remember why you married this particular man, this special man, and remind him why he choose you to be his wife. Also both sides probably has truth to it your more than likely yell to much and he probably doesn't pay attention to his beautiful wife. If communication is what your after you may have to find a common ground on which to talk to him about. Remember marriage is a long winding road not a straight clear paved street. YOU may have to compromise to get what you want in the END.