my man has been in and out of jail for the something and ever time he say he want do it again he don't hit me
493814
The fact remains it's a repatitve action.  You should see that he will not change. Although at this point love is blind, but there is only so much you can take before he drags you down as well.  You keep him afloat and he uses you and calls it love.  You are what is called an inhibitator and you can do better.
777652
You need to get over this fast and leave this man alone.  You've just confessed to sending him to jail.  I don't think he'll want a second date.
1166919
Try not using "no" so much, find other ways to tell him he shouldn't be doing something.  It's hard, but you get used to it.  Also, instead of constantly being after him when he's getting into trouble, try distracting him with something else, or getting him to help you with something.  It's really hard, because your first instinct is to get him to stop doing what he's doing, but the more you tell him not to the more he will do it, as I'm sure you already know.  Getting him involved in something else, and being more involved with him, should help.
329501
lay down the laws sister I'm serious cuz one-day he will get it either u leave him or like i said the first time put down them damn laws demand them to cuz u may not realize it but he needs u more than u need him remember that. MUCH LOVE
918200
Call the Courts of whatever city he is in....I think you should not listen to these other people saying you should not marry someone in Jail.....You cant help whom you love and if you feel you love this person no matter what then do whatever it takes to marry him!  When you are in love you will always love that perosn.....Unconditionally!   I hope you figure out how to marry him!  Hes lucky to have his girlfriend out there supporting him, trying to make you two "one".....Let me know how everything works out!  And Good Luck!
286302
Once a man hits you, he will do it again. Get out while you can.You deserve better than him.
734702
I am beating one right now as we speak it took a good good police frnd of mine to set me straight he didnt arrest me or anything like that but we talked for a very long time i would say talk to people who care about u he got me off meth and i luv him for his help stay strong and dont give in
1056933
My ex is in prison for 15 years for attempted strangualation and domestic battery. He hurt me really bad and left me on the floor bleeding to death. My daughter found me and called 911.\n\nAnyone in this situation PLEASE get out or get help. I never in my life would have thought he would ever go that far.. it was always "oh, he just hit me on my arm or a little on my face." I never had him try and kill me before then all of a sudden he just snapped.
324286
While he is locked up you should move away, and get an unlisted phone number. Go as fast as you can!  Unless he gets major therapy (which most jails and prisons can't really afford to provide) he will always be an abuser.
338686
Actually, I am... My husband has been an inmate twice since we've met and has just recently been released about a week and a half ago. We have been going through a messy divorce since the 23 of June, last year(our six month wedding anniversary).\n\nThere also was a man that I had known and spent half my life in love with and he was released last summer and is now in Colorado doing great; he didn't waste anytime getting back on his feet.\n\nThey both, by far, are repeat offenders not once, not twice, not even thrice. They both have spent the majority of there lives going in and out of jail and extremely close to prison. The difference between them is that my husband wants to do right and has the faith and ability to do so as well as a lot of potential for success in many areas of his life, but he lacks the understanding of HOW to live differently and the common sense of wise decision making. He isn't doing any of the bad things that he did to get him locked up to begin with, but he is still putting himself in situations that could eventually land him back where he began, claiming that his walk with god is so strong that he can handle the situation, when his family and I all know that his strength will eventually weaken due to where he is choosing to stay. BUT the other guy I spoke of had a safe place to stay and a secure job with in weeks and went as far as a move from California to Colorado to get away from his previous influences and is doing great right now; he even got custody of his 6 year old daughter back.\n\nThese two people are very similar and very different which goes to show that you shou7ldn't judge people by their mistakes; it is our mistakes that make us human. BUT we can be judged by the efforts we take to make things right once given the knowledge, ability, and the freedom to do so.\n\nThe best advice I could give is to go online tro the court website of the county he is convicted in, type his name into the search, and it will pull up his entire criminal history and all other related cases he may have; it's all public record. Also, try and find out what kind of home life he had growing up, because that will play a big role in his decision making process and will give you a better idea of his non-jail personality. I say non-jail personality, because once you're locked up you tend to form what's called a prison mentality which means that you learn to anipulate people into beleiving that what you say is genuine and that they really have rehabilitated and deserve another chance, yet once released they go right back to there old ways. So find out as much as you can about who he used to be and carefully compare him to the person you know him to be now. Ask him what plans he has for when he is released. Most inmates that are serious about the desire to rehabilitate will have already constructed a plan as to where they will stay, how they will get around, where they will work, just general goals and ways of meeting those goals.\n\nFind out when he is supposed to be released and continue writing to him or calling him which ever you prefer and see how he unfolds as a person once released rather than getting involved right away.\n\nIt's not easy, but sometimes you have to see where your heart leads you, just make sure your smarts have brought along a safety net just incase.
169236
Just stop seeing him! If he keeps going to jail, that isn't good! But, if you are ABSOLUTELY sure he is the one, then consider talking to him about taking responsibility for his actions. But still, I would most likely dump him!! Just like someone said, if you have kids with him, then they would see their dad in jail and that would not set a good example.
724933
Maybe you can talk to him and try and get him to tell you what he did without telling him what you did.For example: tell him you did something and it's really bothering you...He'll most likely say what...Tell him I rather not say..Say I don't know have you ever done something wrong and wish you didn't.If he says no keep the questions going..Like you never done anything you regreted or you never done anything your ashamed of.If he tells you then tell him your feelings on the matter. And make him promise he'll never do it again...Tell him he can go to jail.He'll most likely want to hear what your problem is and make up something say you lied to a friend and you want to be an honest friend one who is trust worthy.Technically it's true because your not coming out and telling him the truth about what you found out
907545
it's a crime that you report. So, no, don't report him unless you are prepared for him to be arrested for it. Then, you still have to prove your case in court, but hopefully that won't be too hard for you in this case.\n\nI think I would just warn him that if he ever does it again, you WILL report him. Because if you don't, he can mess up your life, your credit, your drivers license, etc. \n\nAlso, if you ever do decide to report him, tell him ahead of time and ask him to be honest with the judge, via his lawyer, and show remorse, and this could help to greatly reduce his penalty.\n\nProtect yourself first, give a guy a chance, but NEVER TOO MANY.
1149976
Sounds like he's doing drugs.\nIf he has been physically abusive it is time to get out no matter how much you think you love the guy.\nThere is someone else that will treat you better.
772227
The guy is a control freak. I have been in similar situations myself. good for you for trying to break free get councelling but please realise it may take years to undo all the psychological damage he has caused you.\n\nYou can only truly break free with professional councelling so please do that for me because i know what it's like.\n\nGood luck, you deserve happiness. :-)
1050641
Baby Girl, I am so sorry to hear about your husband.  First of all, do you feel that your husband has changed, and will be faithful to you when he gets out, can you forgive, and most of all can you forget.  Are there children from this relationship, and if so what is his likely hood of re-offending and you being alone again. Those are the questions you should be asking yourself. If you believe in him and love him, and can forgive and forget, then give him a second chance...You do love him with all your heart don't you!  Jail changes a man, hopefully yours will change for the better and realize what a wonderfull wife he has waiting for him at home. I hope everything works out for you, the waiting is the hard part, Take care and God bless.  If you want to chat with someone in a similar position you can e-mail me   ms_blackdog@yahoo.ca (it is ca....I am in Canada)
1059661
Is he in love with you? Is your husband in jail? Ummm. I say you have a serious problem. How old are your children? Follow your heart - it is the only way to be happy. Even if other people will get hurt.