why cant guys accept being just friends?????
485355
Being friends w/ someone you really cared about is very hard for guys , I dunno about females. Im talking loved, im not talking a one night stand fling... If these guys are people that were really special at one time , you just have to understand where they are coming from and they need to respect you as well w/ your choices.. Now if they were flings.. lol then you have a real problem
322796
maybe he isnt ready for realtionship right now, keep in contact with him as friends and if you both meant to be together you will be. good luck.
1093771
ATTRACTION.  The guys you know as friends are friends because they didn't make you "feel" attraction for them.  You may love them but it will never fill you with the excitement an unpredictable man does.\nI bet if you called any of these guys and asked them to come over they would drop everything and be by your side.  Try it!\nIs that what you want?  Just because a guy isn't "totally sweet" doesn't mean he is a mean hurtful jerk.\nWomen love a challenge as we men do.
76696
Some guys are just so unsecure with themselfs that they put up a front. Some are shy etc etc etc etc. Then again some are just jerks that have to put on a show for their "friends" so they do not lose face. If a guy really wants you to be around, he'll do just that no matter what his "friends" think or do.
1117090
friends sometimes wants the best for you. sometimes you need to listen to them and sometimes you have to reason with them.\nkeep an open line. they may be wrong about him or you may be in the wrong hands with your date...\nask your friends to give you time to know this guy...\nyou're the only one who can make a relationship work...
508621
Why don't you just be friends with him in the time being, since he seems to want that and see if it'll blossom to something more in the future.  If he really likes you, after spending more and more time with you, he'll want more than just friendship.  If he doens't, then he really doesn't like you like he says.  good luck.
944318
it's better to ask him if he might be able to ever think of you as more than a friend than to emotionaly torture yourself and may never know. Guys are shy too, sometimes you gotta take the wheel and get things rolling.... most guys thinks that it's hot too!
82001
My goodness he is persistent!! Apparently your responses during the past four years have not been strong enough to discourage him.  It is really hard to have a guy friend, because in the back of his mind is: "hey, there is always a chance..." in the back of your mind is: "hey, if I get desperate.."  (everyone needs a backup plan...sounds mean)If he's putting his life on hold waiting for you, it is only fair to firmly end the hope for him.  The candle is still burning....time to extinguish it (unless you are interested).
698264
That is a tough situation and no matter how you do it, its rough.  It depends on how you two are getting along and trust your feelings.   He may be feeling the same way and having a hard time trying to think of a way as well.  To make it the best, be honest with him and explain why you feel that way.  It will show him as well that it may be better to just be friends.  Good Luck and take a deep breathe.
580772
NO.  Guys dont want to be friends right way with someone that they shared a lot with.
1069913
If this is the case, he is selfish and thinks of himself only. He should put you before his friends or himself. Of course, he should be allowed to have friends but not ignore you in the process.
330977
if you fell uncomfortable..and you cant say that to him..then he isnt being just a friend. You should just not hang out with him anymore. If he is a friend then you should be able to set bounderies and such without hurting his feelings. Even if he isnt meaning it in a certain way..its how its coming across to you..and he needs to know that...either way if you cant be open and honest he isnt a good friend.
661790
Sorry honey, guys must do the first move, and if he did not do it it means he wants you only as a friend.\nNowdays women are becoming too open and agressive, and guys miss the magic of hunting and courting!!! we are cutting off their attributes.\nSo, sorry, but step back, keep him as friend and put your interest somewere else, in the meantime be sweet and nice to him, be always very well put together when you meet, so in this way, did not work with him sentimentally, you always will have a great supporter on him. Please, remember, be a real femminine woman "NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE"
349801
Don't expect anything concrete from this guy first.  looks like he's way too confused about what he wants to settle down.  Just agree when he says he doesn't want a relationship.  If saying "let's just be friends" riles him up, forego it.
449837
option 3. he wasn't much of a friend before, and now that you have relationship baggage and nothing strong platonically to bind you from before, there is no friendship to revive here. too much complication and effort on your part. let him go and make different friends, see different guys, be free!!
1133899
Just wait sweety it will happen. I was like you thought that all decent guys were taken or gay. They are not, I have the best bloke in the world and he is my best friend too. We started off as friends and it just went from there! Good luck and be patient. xx
384015
I have many dude friends, I also have a boyfriend. If I didnt hang out with my guy friends then I probly wouldnt have a BF. But i also have had past bf when I didnt have guy friends, but having them does help.