READ MY FIRST QUESTION.  I have three children from dead wife, and my children really want to see me & there?
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Your wife caught you and her mother together, and that is why she took her life.  Don't you think you've provide enough uproar in your children's lives?  Do you really need to keep going down this road and make sure that your children are never able to have a happy home life and relationship of their own?  Do you really feel the need to make sure that your children spend the rest of their lives in therapy?  \nYou will never be a family again, their mother took her life as a result of your actions, she was their mother, and can not be replaced by their grandmother.  And subjecting them to the sick twisted relationship that you've gotten yourself involved in is not helping them.\nPersonally I hope someone in the family that you are now banished from, plucks up the idea of taking you to court and prove you an unfit parent and get those children away from you.  Your not mentally sound if you really truly believe that your wife has forgiven you.
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You will rejoin your spouse soon enough.  For now, you must ask God for the strength and wisdom to guide your children properly into life.\n\nThere is comfort in knowing that God and the angels will see to your spouse's continued development on the heavenly spheres.  \n\nJourney:  http://spaces.msn.com/up-escalator/Blog/cns!DEEDEA79C3C4F8C3!105.entry\n\nThere is also a url list at this blog, on the right.  There is a book listed which has been a source of great comfort to many facing the loss of a loved one. Online website listed below.\n\nWe will pray for your family and ask God to send an angel to strengthen your spirits.\n\nThis world is a bridge.  We are all here temporarily.  \n\n"Then went Lazarus over to Jesus and, with his sisters, knelt at the Master's feet to give thanks and offer praise to God.  Jesus, taking Lazarus by the hand, lifted him up, saying: 'My son, what has happened to you will also be experienced by all who believe this gospel except that they shall be resurrected in a more glorious form.  You shall be a living witness of the truth which I spoke--I am the the resurrection and the life.  But let us all now go into the house and partake of nourishment for these physical bodies.'"  page 1846, THE URANTIA BOOK
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You will have to prove that you were no longer seperated at the time of her mothers death, it doesnt matter if you go and stay a night here and there for the child to see you. So I'm gonna have to sorry no, and why would you want to do this anyway it was her mother not yours, if your were gone would you want someone you seperated with over two years ago say they deserve that inheritance also? I would use some common sense before trying to take something that belongs to someone you had once loved enough to marry and have children with.
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You've done all you can. You've discussed the situation with your ex husband and the new wife. What else can you do? Don't force your children to go over because that will only make them resent him because of her.\n\nTell your ex he can come over and spend time with the kids at your house without bringing his wife because she is not welcome around the children. \n\nHe'll start to get the hint.
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if I had one more day to live I would spend it with my husband and children in Colorado in the mountains. As that is what is in my will. I'm to be cremated and sprinkle on my mountains. I was born in Colorado and I want to be there when I die. A full circle. I would not want anyone there except my husband of 20 years now and 4 children. I would give them a day of memories to last them a lifetime. I would tape my thoughts and feelings for each special day in their lives for each child . So when it comes to that special day in their lives. They can view the tape as though I was there.
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Honey, it's a tough situation all the way around. You both need to find a way to sit the kids down together and have a full blown disscussion. The kids are going to need reassurances from both of you that you both will still be active in their lives and that what is going on is not their fault. Both of you as parents need to make sure that both kids know that they can count on you and come to you whenever they need to. If it were me,as a mom of 3, I would put aside whatever has caused the seperation and call a meeting with my kids and my husband and do exactly as I said above.
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You say you are "unhappy", what does that mean?  If there were no kids involved i'd say move on, but children are precious and deserve all you and your wife can do to resolve this.  But making your kids the reason for staying is weak, nobody wins.  Communication is the key, there had to have been a time when your wife was the best woman that happened to you right?  She still is and it's worth finding out together what changed.  And even if you still come to the same conclusion you can honestly say you tried, do THAT for the children.
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I would be the first in line if someone asked me to support a cause such as this. My daughter in law walked out on her 1 yr and 2 yr old children. I am helping my son raise these two beautiful children. Thank God for grandparents.
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Remind your wife that she knew you had kids before you were married and that she accepted you knowing that.  Don't just worry about her feelings consider those of your children.  Do you really think it will be so easy for them?  Your responsibility to them comes first.  They will always be a part of your life.  It is not fair for your wife to make you feel bad about taking care of your kids.  No matter what this will be hard on all of you and just remind your wife that you love her and your children and that it would make you very happy to know that she supports you in the good times and in the bad.
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Yes...they are your kids.  That makes them YOUR responsibility.  Even if she doesn't let you see them, you still have to pay.  In the divorce decree it says that.
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I am not sure I want my kids to be intermingled with ANY religious group AT ALL!!!! They are ALL starting to sound a bit scary to me?
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I am extremely sorry to hear your story and you have my hearfelt sympathy.  I can only imagine the deep pain of hurting you must go through everyday.  I really feel for you and I hear and support what you are saying about paying more attention to your kids and looking out for any early 'warning signs'.  I can't really advise you on anything you're asking for but I just wanted to write and wish you well, may God help you in whatever you do.
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Thank you, thank you, thank you.\nThis day makes me feel so happy because, as a friend of mine just told me, it remembers me that being a mother is the best decision i have taken in my life.\n\nterry m... i would like to think that you feel your children close to you from your heart, no matter how far they are. I can understand your feelings, and it scares me a little, i do have only one son my self. Happy mothers day for you too.
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I know this is a hard situation...my biological Dad left when I was 2 yrs old. I'm now 32 and have never seen or heard from him. Maybe your Dad is just more comfortable talking about the 3 stepdaughters because he knows them better and it's something to talk about to keep the conversation going. You've come this far, I'd probably go ahead and meet him while I had the chance. Then at least you've satisfied your curiosity and met him and then you can maybe put it to rest. You never know, it may turn out better than expected. I say go for it...you never have to see him again if you don't want to.Also, next time you talk to him tell him that you have some great kids and tell some stories about each of them.
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If you are comfortable with doing that then do it, but I would get a lawyer involved to make sure that you can see your children and get it in writing. They will always know you as their dad and im sure you love them alot, and they are just lucky enough to have another man that loves them just as much as you do.
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I would ask the county where this child died...but the real issue is the pain and grief your wife is still carrying.\nI think your wife is still grieving for her child.\nShe needs to have some grief counseling and support...other parents who have lost a child would be useful.\n\nI will pray for her and your family.
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My advice is to sit down and talk with your wife. Find out why she left you and try to resolve the problem. If you do get it resolved, your kids will listen to you and your wife. If it doesn't, talk to your kids. Find out why they went to stay with your wife and inlaws. Agian, try to resolve the problems. If those problems can't be resolved peacefully with your wife, get a lawyer so you can have time with your kids too. It's not fair to you to  have to sit and miss your kids who you love while your wife gets to see them all the time. You should both have equal rights to see them.