should I expect my husband to not look at pictures/videos of naked women because I get so jealous?
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"that's what men do" is a lousy excuse. Not ALL men do that. Some actually respect their women and treat them better than that. The fact it bothers you should be enough for him to stop the behavior. It's not like it'll hurt him to stop. Perhaps you should find some hunky men to drool over for a while and comment on. See how HIS ego takes it.
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NO this is not normal! How long have you been married?? Has he ever seen you naked?? How about a bathing suit? Bra and undies? If you are uncomfortable about being totally naked , try just your bra and undies. He is YOUR HUSBAND. He marrried you because he loves you for who you are not what you look  like under your clothes!! So give it a try!! Good Luck!!
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There's no way for this to not be a two-part answer. Firstly, he's right in that it is human nature for males to notice other females *and* for females to notice other males - it's just an animalistic, survival thing.\n\nHOWEVER, it is *exceptionally* disrespectful toward you for him to admit being aroused by looking at other women, or to blatantly look at other women (especially when in your presence.) It is not at all unrealistic of you to be upset by his behavior and ask him to tone it down. He should care enough about your feelings that he won't want to intentionally hurt you by keeping it up.\n\nIf you explain that it hurts your feelings (and probably your self-esteem) when he behaves this way, ask him to be more discreet, and he *still* doesn't bother, it may be time to look into counseling. This is obviously his hang-up, and he may need help to see the effect that his behavior is having on your relationship. Good luck.
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keep yourself busy and focus on yourself. Don't do this with negative intentions or malicious reasons - like i'll show you. I can relate. I used to give my man shit all the time for no reason. The only thing jealousy leads to is wasted energy and will only leave you feeling worse. I hate to say it , but this boils down to insecure feelings on your part and you know how you hate it when he says " you are just insecure". focus on spending time w/ family and friends, job, goals...this behavior will bring you and your husband closer.  Just communicate, don't give up, You just need to love your man smarter not harder
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Weeell, i've been there before. it upset me a lot because he didn't just "look", he gave "several glances" to "several girls" "several times" whenever we were out.no matter what anyone says, its awful.its also absolutely rude to you.i'll guess, not only were you jealous, you felt insulted.the thing i worried most about was, if the girl and other people noticed what he was doing,they'd ask themselves why and check me out, too.maybe even feel sorry for me.i didn't like that thought one bit.i'll tell you what, there are men who are real gentlemen who wouldn't do that.if you're he's girl, he should give you undivided attention, have eyes only for you when you're together.that's what he'd also want from you.no, its absolutely normal that you're upset.i think its just really rude what he's doing.you wouldn't want to be rude enought to check other guys out infront of him, would you?although he does deserve an equal dose of his own medicine.honey, if you're beginning to feel insecure all the time, its not always because there's something wrong with you, although you can help yourself and do something about it.but most likely there is something he's doing to cause it
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hallo bitchy bitch,\n                    quite a musterbating question. buy ur husband a camera phone and stand before him naked and let him take photoes wher from he pleases. he takes ur bubs pic or vagina pi , he can lich it always anytime he fucks the mobil. and if u are not satisfied with her penis , write to me and i will please and pis  ur vagina.\nmy e-mail id ___ laughfing_buddha@yahoo.co.in
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I went with my husband several times to strip clubs in an effort to try and fix some of our intimacy problems.  I even bought him a lap dance one time.  However, afterwards, it doesn't make me feel good or cool or sexy, even thought it might make him feel that way about  me.  How you feel about you is more important.  After a strip club, part of me really hates him for not wanting to just explore with me.  I keep trying to tell myself that I should just go with the flow.  That men look at women like women look at shoes...but it never seems to make me feel any better.  Before you go, remember that you can never erase that memory once it's there.  On the other hand, at least you know who your husband really is and what he really wants.  Yes, you'll be the coolest wife in the world (like me), but then soon his affection towards you over it becomes empty.  My girlfriend is so jealous that my husband is so affectionate with me...but his affection doesn't make me feel cared about by him anymore.
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we jsut pretend to hide it so when you find we can be all " omg what are you doing looking through that stuff! my friend sent it to me" in reality we just dont care. want your man to stop looking at porn? then supply him with enough pics and videos of you wearing, doing, saying all kinds of kinky stuff. chances are we will still look at porn though.
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Yes...I do believe it is....when you find that person..you will know.....My husband is so faithful...I'm not saying he doesnt look at other women...but he would never go any further. He works for the Phone Company where we live...and there are women hitting on him all the time. But I know I have a great guy so I feel proud....not jealous......I know he loves me and we are both secure with our marriage. We took vows to honor each other. He takes those vows very seriously...Good luck if your looking....but..thye are out there.
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Yes, it is perfectly normal.  He should not be roving his eye when he's with you...that's just disrespectful.  Of course we all know men love to look....they just don't have to do it when they're with their woman....rude!!
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All men watch porn and all men m.a.s.t.u.r.b.a.t.e and all men do both at the same time if they have the chance, and this has nothing to do with loyalty or fidelity to you. This will be true for every boyfriend you ever have.  So the question for you is, do you want to accept this fact or not.  If you are accepting of it, that's one more thing that will make you special to your boyfriend.  If you are not, and your bf feels he has to conceal this part of himself from you, then you are inviting the seeds of dishonesty into the relationship and inhibiting closeness between the two of you, if only in a small way.  That's what's at stake here.\n\nHow about watching some porn together with him?  That would certainly demonstrate acceptance on your part.  If that sounds too uncomfortable or scary, then watch some porn by yourself first.  At the very least, it will get you over the shock and embarassment stage of looking at porn.  \n\nWatching porn and maybe fantasizing about different things is not the same as doing them, and you shouldn't feel bad about having "shocking" thoughts cross your mind.
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Fact:\n\nmen look at porn to escape from something they are running away from something they are not dealing with.  I am not suprised you feel unnattractive! - this is abusive behaviour and totally disrespectful to you.\n\nI don't think it has anything to do with the fact that he finds you either ugly or attractive. It is to do with him and the effect of what he is doing is making you feel like you are the one with the problem but you are not - he is the one with the problem and he needs to sort it out now.\n\nIt seems like he has a pretty serious addiction and is neglecting you in place of porn.  If he doesn't want to talk with you, then he will have to talk with someone about it if he wants to remain in a relationship with you.  This cannot go on and he is not accepting responsibility for his addiction and apologies aren't going to change this.\n\nI think you feel used and responsible for what I am pretty sure he has lured you into those things you now feel really guilty about. But  he is addicted to porn, has been even before you got together as an addiction doesn't start just because of what you two did together.  His behaviour has it's roots from an earlier time and has just grown over time.\n\nYou are not guilty for sharing what you thougt was some fun between you - that was seperate from any porn he engages in and doesn't make you responsible for what he has done and is still doing now.  The videoing will have nothing to do with what addicction he has, so please don't feel guilty for his problem.\n\nPorn is very destructive and any person who jusifies it in their answers have no real idea as to the damage it causes.  It is a real relationship killer and is abusive.  Give him the choice of either getting help for this problem or to pack your things and leave him to it.  He will continue to be like this the longer he chooses to be in denial about it.\n\nWhat you did with him wasn't wrong or bad and didn't cause the addiction he has. No amount of sexual adventer between two loving couples can create an addiction to porn - it already has to be there inside the person and he had this even before you got around to adventerous sex.  He made his own choices and you didn't help him just because you had some adventerous sex togther.\n\nHe crossed the line of love and intimacy with you in a way that is totally disrespectful to you.  What he did with you was a shared intimate thing but didn't give him permission to then jerk off with fictional women outside of the relationship he has with you.  This line has been crossed and he cannot allow his apologies to make up for what he is destroying with you.\n\nHe cannot love you nor respect you and so he has to change or be left to his addiction.  This is just awful and truly feel awful for you.  You do not deserve this and you are probabley better off ditching him however difficult this might be, it has to be done because he will continue to abuse you like this by not meeting your sexual or emotional needs - that is abuse.\n\nWhat you have done right is be committed to a serial porn addict and love him regardless and unconditionally and shared an intimate and loving relationship when it was one.  So how does this make you wrong in anyway? - You gave him all that a committed girlfriend could have done and more and he is the one doing the neglecting and abusing, so what is he doing wrong? - this is the question.\n\nHe is doing everything a dysfunctional person would and is abusing your trust and love for him, so he is the problem not you. He will be the one making you feel guilty for what he is doing, so now he either has to stop, ot you walk out on him.
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I think that it is normal in that lots of men do it...but it has lots of negatives as well.\nIt creates an untrue and unrealistic "image" - most women don't look like the women on the porn tapes.\nWhen he does it by himself - it's king of like cheating.\nIt can make the woman feel bad about herself and the relationship.\nHere's my advice - DUMP him - find a grown up that wants to live life with you - not play with his porn tapes.
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No, but as long as they don't act on their sexual fantasies in or around my house I have no problem with them.  I guess I'm the kind of person that doesn't really like the strip club cause looking at naked women isn't really a big turn on to me.  I really respect other people's fantasies though.
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Men can't ignore beautiful women.  It's a scientific fact.  However, this does not mean that your husband is being unfaithful to you.  \n\nYou need to trust your husband enough to ask him this kind of question instead of asking a million strangers.  It does your husband a disservice that you go around him.  Stop talking to me, and go start communicating with your husband.\n\nAlso, if your default position with your husband can't be a position of trust, then you have serious problems that the two of you need to work through whether he's having an affair or not.
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You have more chance of losing this man because of your jealousy than you have of another woman taking him away from you. Do you think he will turn into a gibbering wreck who can't control his libido if he sees a semi naked woman? He wants to be with YOU! Unless you blindfold him then he will undoubtedly be exposed to naked women whether you l ike it or not. You really need to get counselling to get over the being cheated on issue so you can concentrate on enjoying yourself with your man.\nGood luck
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Usually when a man is looking at porn it's because he has certain fantasies that he is interested in but for what ever reason he is fearful of telling his wife or significant other. Many times men when they are married put their wives on a higher plane so to speak. They wouldn't want them to do the things they see on these porn sites. Try to talk to him and tell him what you would be interested in trying. Men don't realize that if they ask, many times their lady would be more than willing to try things with them.\nIt keeps things spicy and helps to keep the two of you out of a sexual rut.\nGood luck