I've been in a relationship for 6 yrs this week married for 2 of them.?
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Robyn,\n\nI'm sorry for your situation and I'm sure all of this is taking a heavy toll on you, physically and mentally. It's often very difficult to find acceptable reason in these cases wherein we can find some justification for what we know we need to do. I've experienced that myself so I can appreciate that you continue to feel the love you do for him and grasp for hope in saving your marriage.\n\nHowever, as difficult as this may be to accept, my suggestion is that your first priority needs to be to yourself and the children. The fact that you feel the choice was his to make regarding the direct deposit of funds to your account, it also remains a fact that you're entitled to his continued contribution to the support of the family. Regardless of the fact that he's not sure he wants to return to the relationship, morally and legally he has obligations to uphold. \n\nSo, my opinion is, that you should insist on this support from him while agreeing to his need for space in order to evaluate his feelings about the marriage. This will accomplish a number of things actually. First, it will relieve some stress of the situation in that you will have financial help during this process. Secondly, by agreeing to his wishes to not return and have the space he needs right now you are going the distance in attempting to reconcile. Third, its just possible that having to bear the additional burdens of financial support while also now having to provide his own domicile, could just send the wake up message that will help him realize the consequences of his actions before its too late.\n\nI wish you the best of luck!
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i guess you better let go that person, even though you love him/her because he/she is already married and from that fact, you can't do anything about it. i guess that person is already happy with his/her married life life and i think it's just right not to spoil such relationship. Love really hurts, especially in your case (or in your question) but the best thing to do is be happy for that person and wish him/her the best. Move on and after a while you also find the one that is really meant for you or the one that will give back your love. That would be nicer than being "the-would-be-third-party" right?
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To be honest with you.  It is not about the choice of the two ladies.  It is you.  What you see in both these women is your ideal partner.  You may not be able to make a choice because whichever one you choose will disappoint you a bit. But having a crush on someone for 6yrs is something to cherish.  Do you feel guilty liking the new lady because you are so familiar with your 6yr crush? To make a choice I would be thankful to know what I want in a partner through meeting these 2 ladies and move on and find her.  If I was to be with one of them I will have feelings for the other as you said, they are pretty close friends.  So they both would always be in my life.  And the same 'what if' would be running in my head.\nLove is something you can't explain in words.  It is a overwhelming feeling that will never die.  It is knowing that you would do anything for that person and that you can picture yourself with them till death.  Love is like sharing with someone happiness, pain, experiences.  Love has no judgment.  You can love many people at the same time but you only fall in love one at a time.
914271
Line of communication is a huge thing. I have been married for 11 yrs and above all else this a huge factor. No good marriage is easy. You have to love that person and like them because passion comes and goes and you need that friendship and unconditional love to fall back on
1175505
Your situation is not unique. I lived with a woman freind of mine whose partner had been married twice both times for 10 years and had kids by both men.   They had a few lesbian friends who were in similar situation.  Married young and came out afterward.  Glad you found out early.
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Depends on if its a good or bad relationship, well either way both could still last long, but some pepl have been together since highschool and are married, and others break up after a week or two, it all depends on if the relationship feels right or not
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Married with two kids
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how long have you known this woman . marry outside of her religion well i am not the kind to stand in the way of love my frien but have you known her for a while or what well that your right i guess let me be the first to say i hope you and this woman will be happy together in my opion it is you as well marry a woman in her religion she cant marry out of her religion i guess well hope all is fine with you in about.2. years from now god bless in my opion i really hope you know what you are doing well anyway i wish you the best you i figure will need it i am not a person to stand in the way of love but that was quick wish you and the woman the best again ?
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I guess that goes to show that long dating/engagements aren't a guarantee that you'll know the person.  I dated my wife for two months before marriage, and we're doing great after already 5 years now. \n\nIf you married him, try to work it out.  Find common ground.  Pray to the Lord for help, He will do it.  \n\nDon't drag those children through the mess of a divorce.  Pray for help.
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For them to have gone outside the relationship there had to have been some issues, either with them or between u both. Before anything address those problemz. It also dependz on what u feel for that person and how they feel for u. If there'z luv there and a willingness to work thingz out, then there might be sumthing to save. Also, u have to remember, if u do decide to stay in ur marriage that u have to forgive that person and u have to start clean, u can't use their infidelity as fire power for later spatz....that will eventually cause more problemz. Hope this helpz :-)
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OK, in the perfect world, if you want to have a healthy marriage, you should not contact this other woman and just go on living your every day life. And that is just fine and dandy, if only your mind didn't keep drifting away towards this other girl. Maybe it keeps drifting because it's a new and exciting part of your life you don't have anymore, since being married can get to be "boring" or just not as adventurous as it was in the beggining. That is totally understandable. \nWhat you didn't mention, is that if this girl is still contacting you? Has she given up on you? If she has, then it means that she just wanted to say hi and see how you were doing, she's not interested in you in any other way. \nI think you will always wonder "what could have been", until you have some closure in this part of your life. If you do decide to contact her again, you should meet face to face and tell her what she meant to you and how it felt to let her go. But remember that you are a different person now, as is she, in totally different circumstances.\nI don't think an honest luncheon to clear the air, and to put your mind and feelings at ease would be that bad.\nAs long as you know where to draw the line, and as long as you understand that you are a married man with different obligations now.\nGood luck man. Tough call.
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Hey tleigh...well after what i just read, it seems to me that the 2 of you are happy with the way things are now.  If this is the case then why ruin a good thing.  I believe the only time 2 people should get married is if they are both really committed to the whole marriage thing.  But, if you still have to stop and ask yourself if this is a good thing then most likely its not gonna be. But, like I said earlier,  you 2 seem to be doing just fine the way things are.  You know how the old phrase goes..."Don't fix it , if it ain't broke"  As of right now, it doesnt seem as if anything is broke in this relationship....Good luck with everything, tleigh...
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This one is easy for me.  Simply make your opinion made.  One thing I am wondering is how long they have been in the relationship.  They might be going through the "honeymoon" stage.  It usually dies down in time.  Have patience.
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Sorry.  I’m already married.  Where were you six years ago when I was young and free?!?  Sniff, Sniff..\n\n\nLOL
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I have been married for 6 yrs have sex maybe 2x a month  and I have had  too many partners to be honest about.
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I would probably give it a bit more time.  Your still in that honeymoon stage where you haven't gotten to know each others bad habits all that well yet.  When you move in together then you have to live with those bad habits plus you have the added pressure of dealing with all the finances and living expectations that go with it.
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not a problem. married a woman that is 7 years older than me. and have a couple buddies that married older woman