Should people be forced to divorce?
484388
Of course they shouldn't have to divorce, but this is what happens when one lives in an Islamic society.  It would probably be best if they moved out of the country.
912771
If you plan on cheating, then you certainly should not get married.  Divorce is not easy.  It's hard on everyone involved, and cheating is enough to cause divorce.  Only marry for love...nothing else.  It won't work any other way.
663511
Quite the conundrum.\n\nThere are such things as survivable marriages.  Divorce really should be a last, last, last resort, especially once kids are involved.\n\nThat said, there can be a point where more harm comes to the kids with a bitter marriage.  Mom and Dad never get along.  One or both drink too much, are never home, abusive, etc.  \n\nKids are fairly resilient.  They recover well so long as both parents remember that through divorce the kids needs are most important.  \n\nI'm in a good (not great) marriage.  I could easily get "lazy" and neglect my marriage based on this.  (Cheating, withdrawing etc) but the kids need a stable family and my life really isn't all that bad.  (After all, I CHOSE my wife and CHOSE to have kids).  \n\nDivorce is NEVER good when kids are involved.  It is a question of which is the worse of two evils:  A less than good marriage with the family working to hold together or a impulsive divorce that destroys kids faith in adults, parents and family.
1042019
Aunt Tita has the right answer to the question.\n\nZeus has the right observation on the politics.\n\nI agree that the govt should get out of marriage, just as it should be out of religion and out of reproduction.  The idea that we need the govt to "promote" marriage or family-building is absurd.  Those things have taken care of themselves for the whole history of our species (as evidenced by the fact that we are all here), without any govt involvement for practically all of that time.  (And frankly, if any people are getting married and having children merely in response to government incentives, that can't possibly be good for the health of families.)
452948
I'm married, and I take the vows I made to my hubby completely serious, along with my marriage. We may not have a whole lot, but it's my own little world, and I wouldn't change it for anything. I honestly couldn't imagine my life without him in it...it just doesn't seem right. My reasons for marriage was because I knew I wanted him for the rest of my life. Of course, we didn't HAVE to get married, but I see it as a way of showing the ultimate act of love towards another. What other way is there besides devoting your life with them to share in every single aspect? \nAs far as why divorce happens more in today's times, I think people just take it as an easy way out. Marriages are not easy to maintain, and when tuff situations arise, divorce provides an easy access to just start over. It's sad that marriages are not taken seriously, and that people are starting to just see it as a signed piece of paper, rather than all that it resembles. Of course, there are always exceptions. Some divorces occur for good reasons, like abuse or constant adultery. \nReally good question. Best of luck to you in life!
118650
No Way!!! If they did... although I would never want to go through a divorce, that is a great reason. If you are cool with it, then that is between you and yours. If not... It is time to do some serious reevaluating of your relationship!!!
682080
Each state or country has its own rules. Since you did not specify, it's hard to give more than a general answer. The length of the marriage, the status of the parties prior to the divorce and the life style they were accustomed to usually are considered. If the wife has not worked outside the home and has no skills or experience to make a living must also be considered.
334101
Yes, and Yes- but to make a marriage decision based on financial considerations would be akin to prostitution.  If you love someone enough to marry them, it should be beyond that.
272144
I feel the only good reason for a divorce is for the welfare of the children.  Too many people stay together FOR the kids and they r the ones who suffer.  Sooooo divorce FOR the childrens sake!
851291
one should think they would be over joyed\n\nmarriage is a religious thing, and if you really want separation of church and state, but out of marriages
195909
That may play a very very small part in the high divorce rate. I think people in general don't take marriage as seriously as they should which would play a bigger part then woman's changing roles in the household.
961435
I have wondered this myself. I think all the morals in society have gone down the drain. I would never do that to anyone, if I decided I wanted someone else, other than my husband/bf, I would leave them rather than cheat. But if I make the marriage commitment, then that is for life. The moral situation explains the divorce rate also. I guess some people are brought up better than others.
1060383
Divorce him AND your family.
308556
divorce and break up!!
430668
You cant force people to be responsible, not in a Democracy anyways. Alot of violent criminals have some degree of brain damage from being abused as children (shaken babies), or from being in so many fights. \nIts ironic. In Michigan, in order to be married, you have to take a Marriage class of some sort. But, anyone with a working set of sex organs can become a mother or father. China has restriction on having children, could such a thing work here, in America? In my favorite movie, Starship Troopers, a person who wants to have children has to get a license for it, but they have a global military socialism. We will have to continue to clean up other peoples bad choices for the fore-seeable future. \nAlot of people dont choose to have children. They choose to have sex, and someone winds up pregnant. When you cant afford new shoes you probably cant afford condoms either. What about abstinence? HA! How does that fit in the hip-hop culture that the next generation is getting into? \nImprisoning parents for their childrens' crimes? GREAT idea! We arent imprisoning enough people, lets find a way to crowd the system even more. Prison is such a great way to reform people...\nI think we should bring back corporal punishment. Like public humiliation could work on some criminals with a certain psychological make-up. In prison, he has to conform with thugs even worse than he is. He learns about how to perpetrate even bigger crimes and is a better educated criminal when he gets out. If he was put on public display that had a sign telling what he is guilty of and he had to see the disgusted looks of old ladies, young kids, and the general public, he might find reform within himself.
1162266
In my opinion the two people involved are obviously unhappy with their lives so they need to decide what exactly it is that they want and move on. If you're unhappy in the marriage let it go and be together but if there's still a chance that they can salvage the marriages than they need to walk away from the affair. In any case a decision must be made. It's not fair to anyone involved if things stay the way that they are.
1040844
of course you should be able to get married\n\ngay people have every right to be as miserable as the rest of us....lol