Wat to do if your in love with ur friends father?
480979
just let it stay a thought
740078
If possible try to remain a friend to him and his daughter.  But if you or he has an attraction for the other than leave it alone.  He is old enough to be your grandfather and as such you would have nothing in common socially, emotionally or any other way.  I'm certain that his daughter would not forgive you and your family would be very upset if you started a relationship with him.  Fact is you'd be a young widow and if you did ever have any children of your own he would never be able to do anything with the kid as it grew up and needed it's father to take it to games, theater or whatever.  Pass on this one and try and find someone much closer to your own age.
237320
someone being attached to their father. Ususally looks for a relationship that mirrors the father
793089
Do whatever it takes to fix it.  You always think you have time but you don't.  I waited to even talk to my dad and he died before I could.  We hadn't talked in years and I regret that so much.  Don't let that happen to you, you never know when someone will be taken from your life unexpectedly.
648922
I'm glad to see a lot of supportive letters here (way to go community!)\n\nYou miss your dad.   Stay in touch with those feelings.\n\nHe may not reciprocate your love, and you shouldn't go expecting this -- it will only disappoint you.  But you will probably not forget that you didn't try, if you just do nothing at all.\n\nI think, deep down inside, your dad probably knows he's messed up, but wonders if he'll ever be loved or forgiven.  \nDon't let fear paralyze you.   Pray for him, and pray for strength and wisdom.   And then make small steps.\n\nYou are a special person.   Share your gift of tenderness with him.   And guard yourself from big expectations, though embrace whatever small ones come your way.
673721
time. that's all that works...you can't do something else to take your mind off it, or take a pill or anything. He's your dad. You're going to have to take time to grieve. Do it. It's supposed to happen. After a while it'll get easier, but you won't ever forget.
579553
You are not taking away your daughter from her dad..He can visit. It isn't healthy for you to stay if you don't love him. Ya can still be friends! good luck!!
643665
I recently lost my father, too. He always wore a blue baseball cap, and I have the one that he was wearing up until the day he died. It still smells like him, and I keep it in a fireproof box. I imagine that if anyone were to look in that box and see an old hat, they would think I was nuts - "Of all the things of value she could have put in this box, there's a hat..." That's how much it means to me, though. All I have to do is hug that hat to my chest and close my eyes, and I'm hugging him again. Everything that he left to me - I don't care... it could all be taken away as long as I still have that hat. \n\nIt's strange what we end up finding valuable when someone we love dies. I have so many things that remind me of him. I have pictures, letters, songs, books, etc. I even have a book that was made for fathers and daughters - it has all these questions in it with space to write answers, half for the father to his daughter, and half for the daughter to her father. I treasure that almost as much as the hat. \n\nI suggest that you keep whatever you come across, and when you find the thing that means the most to you, you will know it. In the meantime, you can also make things. Get a locket with some of his hair or a picture of him. Make a scrapbook about you and him. Burn a CD of songs that remind you of him, and one for how you feel about his death. \n\nMy thoughts are with you...
536918
This is very difficult for you.  I know this for I too, never knew my real father.  It is difficult because you want to know if you are wanted, if you were important to him and who you come from.  \nEspecially a girl, seeing the relationships their friends have with their fathers, it is like you are missing something, that somehow you were "cheated".\nI spent most of my life feeling "less" with myself, for I was eventually told that I was not wanted by my biological father and that hurts deeply.  As the years went by, I came to accept that, until one day, I took the advice of others and tried to locate him.  It wasn't hard, and when we made contact, wow.... the emotional rollercoaster was overwhelming.  We met, me at 26 and he at 60ish.  We looked alike, talked alike, and actually seemed to be alike.  Unfortunatly, with all the similarities, he told me, in no uncertain terms that I was not his child and to leave him alone.  \nYou can not imagine how that felt, and I pray that you will never know that feeling, that no one does.\nThe reasons behind his claim are not appropriate here, but I will tell you, that in many ways I wish I had never listened to others and located him.  For equally many other reasons I am glad I did.  It is very confusing.  \nThe one element that I never imagined was the devestation that this caused my mom, the women, like your mom that took care of me, raised me, loved me, and wanted me.  \nI inadvertantly opened old wounds of hers that to this day I regret, although with mixed feelings.  \nAs the years passed, I came to accept some things, the inevitable, I was not going to have the father that my friends had, or that I see on tv, or that I wished for.  \nThink about this long and hard.  Sometimes it is important to be careful what you wish for, you just may get it.  \nGood Luck
591873
If the guy you are with now love and cherishes you stay with him love him let yourself be loved. For your friend stay clear he will only end up ruining what you and your guy have. Tell him you do not mind talking to him once in awhile but not all the time and that you are very much in love with your man.
621053
Just wait a while.  Is there any harm being friends for now.  If you do something now you will only cause a rift between you and your father.  Fathers you only get one of and are very important to you.  Boyfriends, well they come and go.  You may not think that your father knows best but he does.  I remember when a guy liked me at school and he came to see me at home.  My father met him with a shot gun at the door.  That was years ago and no harm was done.  The thing is, if I'd started dating that boy I would of got into so much trouble as he is currently in jail for serious assalt on his girlfriend.
144626
Ilook to him the way I look to my father and ask him: Can I help u?
46314
Give your children all the love you can and forget the loser that walked out of their life. Same thing happened to me. Father left when they were very young and never came back. If the father does a huge turn around and becomes worthy to provide them the love they need then you might consider easing him back into their life some time down the road. In the mean time be happy and live your life the best you can. Only thing you can really do. If you feel your children really need a man figure in their life maybe a grandparent or big brother program could fill the gap?
105081
tell him that you love him&#92;her in any way.\nexpress your love by telling him/her your feelings.
895070
It's not your fault.  If your Dad has a problem with the Father of one of your friend's, he needs to address the problem with him, not take it out on you.  Your Phone should have not been taken away, your were trying to hurry up for your father, so he wouldn't have to deal with your friend's father.  Try talking to him about this.  tell him that he was rushing you to leave, you didn't have time to get your phone.
20553
If you love the woman get married. My dad is going to get married and i dont like the woman but i id do anything to make my dad happy. Im 17 and shes been with me since i was 8 i think. I still dont like her. if you are loving and raise the child right i think hell accept you as a member of the family. He may never "love" you but dont take it the wrong way. I dont love anyone in the world except my dad and thats because hes been with me all my life. Do what ur heart tells you. I also suggest speaking with the childs mother and try to end this animosity. its useless to badmouth you when youre in love and are going to go through with your new life.
162869
hi!\nits simple! \nfight for your love.\nif you really love him,then go to him,\neven your parents don't like him.\ni know that your parents will understand you.\njust follow your HEART