when should i come out of the closet about being gay?
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That really sucks that you got kicked out and I feel for you on that one.  Its a really hard thing to do but you have to be you.  True to you.  And if people cant handle that, thats their problem.  You have to bite the bullet and tell them.  Maybe these people will be different, more understanding.  \nDont just blurt it out.  I did that and it got me in a bit of trouble.  Just casually come out with it. Would you be cool if I brought a man home.  I need to tell you something, can you keep confidence?  That sort of thing.  There are various ways of going about it.  If they are stiff about the idea tell them in such a way that you want them to keep confidence.  Make them feel important about the idea.  \nI hope this helps and best of luck!
51615
PLEASE! For the sake of embarrassment, DON'T ASK HIM!! If he's still in the closet, he'll only get angry, and you'll lose any chance of ever finding out. Instead of asking him, just put yourself out there if you are comfortable with your bisexuality. Do you have any close friends at work who may be friends with him also? They may be able to find out in some mysterious way. My best friend is a gay male, and he just recently came out over the summer of 2005. He's going through the same thing right now. It's tough, but hang in there. You just need to build your confidence, and the rest will come! Best of luck!
1109946
If you come out, it should be about you, not your friend. You could mention to your friend that you might be gay, but dont be trying to 'convert' him. You are either born gay or you are born straight.
380258
Why tell everyone.Your sexual preference is no one's business,but yours.Family I can understand,but everyone will eventually fgure it out.If that is you,then who cares what they think. They will accept you or they won't.
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Too early to tell, probably.  \n\nAt this point, I encourage you to just follow your heart and your set of sexual, emotional, and personal needs without worrying yet about identifying yourself.  Maybe you are bi.  Maybe you are a lesbian.  Maybe you are straight.  You will find the right label after you have had a chance to have more experience with relationships, with sex, with love, and with culture.\n\nExplore, question, and learn first.  Label later.  And remember you can always change your label to fit your growing understanding of yourself.\n\nFor some people, bisexuality, especially in youth, is a phase on the way to learning that they are really primarily identified as Gay or Lesbian or primarily identified as straight.  For some others, like myself (and I ain't a kid no more; I told my Mom I was bi in 1986 and haven't turned back since), a Bi identity fits us and is not a phase but our permanent state of being.\n\nIt is more important to learn about your self and your needs than to be anxious about what to call yourself.\n\nBe honest with your friend, and see if there is room for a romantic relationship with her in your friendship.  Again, that's more important at this stage than choosing an identity.  When you have had enough life experience, your identity will reveal itself to you.\n\nMost important of all, don't let anyone convince you that how you are and what you're feeling is wrong.  Whatever your underlying identity, who you are is who you are and you are right to be that person.  Find friends and lovers who understand you, and can support you when you're on your way.  \n\nPS/ You might try doing some reading about sexual identity and bisexual identity in particular if this is on your mind.  Try some of the books mentioned below:
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Im afraid that you are gay at this time.
298460
Telling someone that you're gay can really help a lot, just because you don't have to carry around your secret all by yourself anymore. Probably the best person to tell that you're gay is a female friend, since they will likely have less problems with it than a male friend. If you're gay, chances are that you'll have more girl friends than guy friends. However, pick carefully! Don't tell it to someone that you've had a fight with recently or that you're not totally comfortable with them knowing. Think about whether this person could use the information to get back at you for something. It's your choice and depends on your family, but maybe you want to tell your parents. However, if you think that they'd react badly and still depend on them, give this some thought. Parents can react better or worse than you'd imagine. Another option might be a sister, if you have one. Be very careful before telling people at work or school. And before telling anyone, ask yourself: a) Is this person a religious fanatic who would be violently opposed to gays and set me on fire with kerosene? (If so, not a good choice) b) Would this person use me as their 'gay friend' to go shopping and get fashion advice? (If so, and this might be surprising, also not a good choice. You need a friend that will love you for you, not for your gayness). The people you tell should be people that will just say 'okay' and you can move on with your lives and you can feel better about it.
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How to tell if you're gay: \n1. If you are over 30 and you have a washboard stomach, you are gay. It means you haven't sucked back enough beer with the boys and rather you've been sucking-off the boys and have spent the rest of your free time doing sit-ups, aerobics, and doing the Oprah diet.  \n\n \n\n2. If you have a cat, you are a Flaaaayming gay. A cat is like a dog, but gay: it grooms itself constantly but never scratches itself, has a delicate touch except when it uses its nails, and whines to be fed. And just think about how you call a dog..."Killer, come here! I said get your butt over here!" Now think about how you call a cat... "Bun-bun, come to daddy, snookums!" Jeeezus, you're fit to be framed, you're so gay.  \n\n \n\n3. If you suck on lolipops, Ring-Pops, baby-pacifiers, or any such nonsense, rest assured, you are a Gaylord. A straight man only sucks bar-b-q ribs, crab-claws, raw oysters, craw-fish guts, pickled pigs feet, or titties. Anything else and you are in training to suck El Dicko and undeniably gay.  \n\n \n\n4. If you refuse to take a dump in a public bathroom or piss in a parking lot, you're in a deep homosexual relationship. A man's world is his bathroom, he defecates and urinates where he pleases.\n \n\n5. If you drink decaf coffee with skim milk, you like a high hard one in the poop-chute. Coffe is to be had strong, black (or with thick, wholesome milk) and full-aroma. A vagina-eating man will never be heard ordering a "Decaf Cafe Latte with Skim" and he will never, ever know what artificial sweetner tastes like. If you've had Nutrasweet in your mouth, you've had a dick there too.  \n\n \n\n6. If you know more than six names of colors or four different types of dessert, you might as well be handing out free passes to your bung. A real man doesn't have memory space in his brain to remember all of that crap as well as all the names of all the players in the Major league, NFL, NBA, college ball, PGA, and Nascar. If you can pick out chartreusse or you know what a "fresier" is you're gay. And if you can name ANY type of textile other than denim, you are faggadocious!  \n\n \n\n7. If you drive with both hands on the wheel, forget it...you hungry for meat-popsicle. A man only puts both hands on the wheel to honk at a slow driver or to cut the dude off. The rest of the time he needs that hand to change the radio station, eat his hamburger, hold his beer, finger the bi-atch in the passenger seat (whoever she happens to be), or, if he's Latino, talk on his cell-phone.  \n\n \n\n8. If you enjoy romantic comedies or French films, mon-frere, vous sonnez le Gay, oui? The only time it is acceptable to watch one of those is with a woman who knows how to reward her man. Watching any of the above films by yourself or with another man is likely to result in SHC (spontaneous homosexual combustion), which is what happens to fags when they flame out too quickly.
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I have no idea but I'm gay
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Its up to the individual. Coming out of the closet doesn't mean you have to come out to everyone, or wear a T-Shirt which reads "I'm gay/bi and proud of it". Some people are selective in coming out i.e. they come out to friends/family but not work colleagues.\n\nThe process of coming out to other people is considered by some to be a final resolution of coming to terms with sexuality. One no longer has to put up with parents/friends constantly saying "when are you going to get married/have children?" nor do they have to worry about being spotted by a member of family should they go into a gay establishment.\n\nYou don't have to come out if you don't want to, or are not ready. Another thing about coming out to someone is that it becomes easier each time you do this, and gain supporters.\n\nIf you don't want to come out to friends/family, then at the very least come out to yourself and the LGBT community (so you can make friends in that area) - but only when you're ready and comfortable.
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Wether or not people admit it, I'm sure everyone things about it enough to consider why they are heterosexual and question what homosexuality would be like for them.  In the end, I think questioning is healthy, it will help you reconfirm what you already may think you are.
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It has nothing to do about having a secret,do you know how many gay people who come out (including myself) who loose everything they know,because they came out,its a hard decision to people still in the closet because of what they see around them. I lost my family because they dident want anything to do with me after i came out but ya know thats ok..i dont want anyone like that (small pea brains) around me anyway..yeah it sucks but to myself i did something for myself by coming out its called a life!!!!! personally i and other lesbians i know wont date anyone still in the closet because you just dont have a life with someone still living in a secret world..yuke yuckkie yuck..bye
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If your not gay, you simply tell him. He'll be hurt, but he should know the truth.
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dont! If u were totally gay thats when u do come out
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tell them you're gay.
880743
Go on and ask him. He's very open to the idea of being gay. You guys should help each other discover your sexual orientations and preferences. But don't rush into things that fast because you guys are still young. People switch teams all the time. Just take things a step at a time. Focus on discovering who you really are. G'luck!
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You probably want to stay clear of that one as you may lose a friend.. You can tell them  you are gay.. That's accepted today.. BUT if you tell him you are gay and you are in love with him,  you risk losing him as a friend.  Start out with baby steps and then if he is cool and opens up to you too and tells you he is gay, maybe you want to begin with trust, going out with him, working out with him etcc... He will get the message and you will see from his demeanor whether you have a chance or are even his type.. To recap, you can come out to him.. If he comes out to you, then you need to be passive and let him figure out that maybe you are the guy for him.. BUT don't comeout and tell him you love him.. Disaster waiting to happen..