are looks very necessary for dating????
477780
Very necessary??\n\nThe people should be basically attractive to each other at least (everyone's view of good looking is different)\n\nPersonality is much more important...  Gorgeous people with bad personalities aren't worth dating at all IMO.
307211
I agree with one of the other comments-"beauty is only skin deep." You need to meet and get to know a person who not only gets to know you and like you, but falls in love with you as a whole. The more you get to know someone the more you find them attractive. It's just the initial getting-to-know period that can be tedious. You could try the internet dating services, or you can just enjoy being single and wait for that Mr./Ms. Right to come along.
1078101
NO....hopefully you are looking for a nice girl, not a hot girl........its great if you can get both i guess, but personality is more important
1022062
You can only do so much about how you look.  Long term attraction depends on having some shared interest and a personality the other person finds appealing.  Long experience, including a failed marriage have taught me it's better to be rejected for who you are than to be accepted as someone you are not.
485623
honesty and sincerity. looks are not the most important thing in any relationship
950256
My experience(personal and clientelle) suggests that we do not. Although we can appreciate a beautiful face we actually like someone with a figure. We all have features that attract our eye more than others, chest backside, legs etc but truly after the innitial view men quickly revert to the features they prefer and to the personality...men really just want a woman who makes them think they are the one without losing themselves.
639000
I really need someone who is trustworthy,funny, someone who can help me when everything is bad or good in my life and someone who loves me just like i will love him...with all my soul..!Looks doesn't matter for me...because if u just wait to find a handsome husband or a beautifully wife...you will be looking for many years to find someone with a good heart..
309040
The reason you're single is you choose to be. Physique and looks are great for anybody to have (whether you're male or female) but confidence in what you have to work with is what ultimately tends to be the greatest turn on. Ask yourself this... would I want to date someone like me?
298752
Come on, how 'not pretty' are we talking about? Yeah, I'm shallow. I'm not looking for a model or a beauty queen, but she can't be straight up ugly. Personality is great though, and yes, you can become more attracted to someone you relate to. It makes a difference, but sometimes it takes a lot of personality.
637442
1. no you might not be a pig head physical attraction is important but the person inside is much more important.\n2. no, it is very important to some people, you don't want to be do in it with just some ugly chick, but people might not like to hear that you do look for partners on looks. lie a little.
630766
This kind of question comes up often enough, I feel like I should just save my answer so I can paste it right in!  :D\n\nFirst thing I look for is a happy personality!  Seriously!  No matter how striking a woman is; if she looks like the whole world is a burden on her, why would I want a wet blanket like that dragging me down!\n\nYeah, looks are important, but not nearly as important to me as Hollywood/the magazines/etc. make it out to be.  An average/too skinny/flat-chested/what-have-you girl who is fun to hang around with will get my attention any day.  That's not just a bunch of words, either:  I've been attracted to all kinds of women (except very large ones.  What can I say, I'm still human!)\n\nGood conversation is a must:  you need to listen to what guys say, not just wait for your turn to make a speech.  If I just want something pretty to look at, I can hang out anywhere & browse the eye candy without wasting any time/money/effort of my own.
668118
Im sure you are an attractive girl, but looks arent everything as everyone knows.What is inside and where your heart is is more important to me.A beautiful girl could have many thorns,while an unattractive one could have a heart of gold.That is why we date and you try to get to know the person and see if you are compatible with eachother.
787559
if you are looking for a wholesome interior, then looks do not matter, but if all you care about is a soothing exterior, then I guess they do...\n\neither way, to me, they don't matter anymore. and yes, it can work if you don't find a person cute. I had a type before I found the man I am with, we were good friends, and I saw something in him that I never saw in the good looking guys I always went for, I mean he's not bad looking, but he wasn't my type then. we have been together for going on 7 years now and we have two beautiful children together...the tables have turned now, I went from being thin and fit to gaining alot of weight with my pregnancies, and he still looks about the same, and I was a very beautiful person then, and now, I have a nice face, but you wouldn't see that if you judged me by my weight......but he's still here, and he still loves me more each day!
289412
I kinda know how you feel.  I have a guy friend who feels the same as you and he talks to me about it sometimes.  Yeah it is kinda true.  I'll be honest with you and I don't mean to be rude or offend you but I've noticed that a lot of physically attractive men turn out to be @$$holes but on the other hand, the sweetest guys usually aren't the best looking.  So, like most women (and men) will go for someone who looks hot but in the end, they get hurt.  They want a shoulder to cry on and knowing how caring you are, they'll go to you.  I used to go after the good looking ones but I kinda gave up on that after I realized they all turned out to be @$$holes or perverts.  I mean, I still won't date a guy who is ugly lol but they still have to look at least decent.  I have found that these kinda guys actually respect women more and are very sweet.  So, with that being said, sorry to be blunt but you may need to change your looks and the way you dress.  I know it sucks but its true that people tend to be attracted to someone by looks and believe it or not but it does affect they're decision if they'd date you or not.  Also, I'm sure you'll find a good girl.  Hey, there's 3 women to every man on this planet...that's plenty enough for everyone.  Maybe you should stop looking.  I think they tend to come around when you least expect it and aren't looking.
1084203
looks matter 2 some xtent. bt  i personally feel the outer look is not at all important. bcoz outerlook doesnt exist 4 life long. wht it matters is ones personality which ll help u 2 identify tht person. so 4 me i would prefer beautiful personality n average looks.
295932
Did u see the movie hitch?????  I am dating a guy right now who becomes more and more attractive to me outwardly than he would be to most.  He was a friend that was always there for me, always a great communicator and never ever once found a flaw to bring me down.  He is now my boyfriend.  I get the occasional what does she see in him, and if they only knew what a kind person he was I would be fighting them off daily.  You are probably not bad looking just lacking confidence.  Stay true to who you are inside, and you will have a woman that truely loves you.  Quit looking at outward appearance when it comes to women.
367848
It's hard to explain in my personal preference.  You could have a supermodel and an "average" woman, and I may choose the latter.  Looks aren't everything, but they are somewhat involved, I'm not going to lie.  Other than that, I look for a fun personality, capability to have a good conversation (serious or otherwise), attitude, and a sense of humility.  But some other guys are just in it for the looks...sad, as it may be less fulfilling.