one young child is seeing her parents f-ucking and telling to me. how to stop it?
481993
Just tell'em! Just drop by and tell'em, but make sure they won't harrass the child afterwards.
344490
This person may not be aware that she is doing this. It probably is the way she talks to her children. The best thing to do and the hardest is to have a sit down talk with her and tell her how you feel.  If she doesn't respond well, try again but with some other adult sitting in to be a moderator.
361263
don't let her bother you. what grade are you in? eventually everybody matures, and for those that don't, the rest of the kids will realize what a bitc* she is. Just ignore her completely, fly under her radar, but don't do anything that will make her feel like she's controlling you. \n\nJust take it with a grain of salt. Eventually she'll get her commuppins, and you'll be all the better for it. \n\nThis is probably the answer you don't want to hear because it's not easy to do, but the harder things are the more they're worth doing. Good luck.
355940
Number one be consistent.  Demand that they are respectful, kind to others, tell the truth, and non-violent.  Put them in a time out chair when they do not listen or take away something that means a lot to them.  Don't letting something be all right one time and not all right the next.  Too many people confuse children this way. However, do not just focus on the negative.  Let your child know when he/she is doing well.  Children love compliments, and they love to make others proud.   If all else fails, call Super Nanny!
631885
showed it to her parents n told em to shut up and stop blamin me ...... its their daughter whose the bit*h
790245
Oh yay, parents.\n\nFact is, she has no bearing on what you and your hubby do in rearing your children (biological or not). You are the functional unit. Tell her that. If she doesn't respect it...reduce the time she is allowed to be around you two. Tell her that you love her, but you have to keep the best interests of your family at heart and she is meddling in business she shouldn't bother with. Tell her that she either stopps or you will have to disallow visits with the kiddos to keep their best interest at heart.\n\nGrandchildren are a privlidge not a right. \n\n\nShe is your momma and I know you love her. I hate it when this type of thing happens. She is jealous of something, maybe it is because she wants to monopolize your love or maybe she is just alone. Tell her you want to help her and have her be a major part of your life and your childrens life. Offer family visits to the psychologist. Grandparents are a blessing and I know I wouldn't be the person I am today if I hadn't have had my Dad's Mom and Dad involved in my life. However, it was a healthy involvement...\n\nI am sorry you are stuck in the middle. That sucks so bad.
915601
She should tell her mum straight, maybe with you there so they both have some support to help keep it calm. I always tell my kids to tell me the truth no matter what or how bad the news is and i will always back them up or help them. I also tell them if they come to me to tell the truth i will not shout or yell. Ill listen to them.. Your mum will feel so much worse if she finds out from someone else . or fInds out after something serious happens ... do the right thing pluck the courage up and spek to her together. \nI hope you guys make a the right decission .. good luck
722924
Your friend isn't disciplining her child well if she behaves like that in your house. Children need to be taught to leave grown ups alone when they are talking and not to jump on the furniture. It sounds like the kid is trying to get her mum's attention all the time and can't cope with mum having a grown up chat.\n\nHaving said that its not like you can criticise your friend's parenting technique. My best suggestion is to try and find an activity for the child to do in another room while she is visiting or to try and get your friend to leave the child behind when she comes to see you. At least get her to take her shoes off when she comes into the house. Make it the new rule when they are over. You could try playing a game as to how long she can be quiet for while your daughter is sleeping.
697982
Tell her what you just told us.\nThat she ignored your feelings and betrayed your trust.\nTell her that you're very hurt by what she did and that she needs to respect your feelings, regardless of your age or the fact that you're "just her daughter".  You're still a human being like the rest of us.\nTell her that if she continues to betray your trust, you may end up not telling her anything at all.  No mother wants to be left out of their child's life, right?  Tell her that you want to be able to share ANYthing with her, but you feel that you can't now because of what she did.\nThis will probably make for a loooooong discussion, so make sure you're sitting down. ;)
1029837
I suggest being straightforward with the people and tell them right off that they cannot use those words around youre children. whether theyre youre friends or not(i dont know) you should still tell them immediately to stop
1118874
Sadly Liz there is not much you can do except keep a cool head when around you is craziness and encourage both parents to talk, not yell or use spiteful abuse towards each other. Maybe then there is a chance if they can listen to each other, but always remember it's never the kids fault, the problem lies in their relationship. Goodluck I feel for u!
448699
She's telling you the truth. Put your energy into your daughter and stay focused on postitive things.
849174
Baby girl, you are trying too hard to bring tigether two adulst that should have known better. Unfortunately, until these two people decide on their own what they want to do if you stay on their way you will keep gettung hurt. That is the bad news.\n\nThe good news is that you can develp a tough back and learn to talk to each of them, dont take their crap, you were not there when they started.\n\nTell them to put their show together, and do not be afraid to tell them that you cannot atek it anymore. They are the only parents you will ever have and whom you can talk to in this way and get away with it.\n\nDont carry a burden that is to hard to bear.\n\nWhen you get a chance, tell it to Jesus. I will remember you in my thoughts. \nYou must be strong and courageous, but do not cary their world no matter how pressing ti nay be.\n\ntry to have a happy thanks giving.
1048886
Your poor daughter is going through huge changes and poor you are the safe person to take out the frustration on. I think its appropriate for you to sit her down and have a calm talk. Just state your case; you appreciate she is growing up, she wants to be treated more like an adult and you agree that its reasonable; and you want to be treated with respect the same as she does. You can tell her that you can both talk things over and reach a compromise, but you won't tolerate rudeness. \nSay that you also have a responsibility to take into account her safety, so rules are their for her benefit not just to spoil her fun. Also offer her a deal; if she ever finds herself in a situation where she feels uncomfortable she is allowed to say "I'll have to check with my Mum" or "My Mum won't let me do that" so you get the blame for being uncool not her.\nOur kids need to break away from us at some point or they'd still be dependant on us as adults, but at the same time they don't have the skills to handle it tactfully or with maturity!\nI think you've had some good advice here and its been good to hear from people who are the same age as your daughter. I'd agree that you can now stop providing for her as if she were younger, she might feel a bit smothered. Ouch! Its ok for you to set her chores to do, and if she does them with good grace she earns her allowance.\nYou aren't doing anything wrong so don't feel guilty. You don't have to put up with being treated like something on the bottom of someone's shoe! \nI'd really strongly recommend that you take up a new interest or hobby, and sign up for some part time classes at college. It would help your daughter to recognise you as someone other than Mum, and it will help your self esteem.
847632
First off, you are not fat. Stop thinking like that. Second, they are teenage boys they haven't matured past 4th grade yet.You were right to have told your friend and no it is not  right that her boyfriend says those things to you,and his friends.You are a very pretty young lady and I am wondering if you have talked to your mom about what is going on. Trust me, she would want to know. My daughter is 13 and we can talk about everything. There is nothing she can't tell me that will make me love her any less. I want her to be able to come to me with all her problems, boys and all.I really want you to say something to your mom if you haven't because what those boys are doing now just might get out of hand someday, and she needs to know where it started , also try sitting somewhere else on the bus.If your friend doesn't start talking to you then you need to let her go, that is not a friend because she should tell her boyfriend to stop. I hope I have helped some and that it starts getting better for you.
829307
Tell your parents.... They need to handle her, you shouldn't be expected to.
1093294
Maybe she is just disagreeing with u alot!?\n\nNo seriously, my daughter used to do it.  As long as she is developing normally, i.e pulling up to stand, trying words etc etc, I wouldn't be worried, my daughter grew out of it.\n\nIf your concerned see your paediatrician.