Am I letting my people down because I think this way?
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no you are not. The United States is a great place. People who do nothing are irritating.  I think it is wonderful that you have worked hard and made it. You have made a better life for yourself.  You know the value of hard work. Yes, taking care of 3 or 4 children is hard work, but those that get themselves into that mess only have themselves to blame.  It does not sound like you are necessarily mad at just your people. It sounds like you are mad at all the deadbeats who sit around and just collect welfare.  That is not letting your people down. That is being a hard working American.
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Listen first.  I mean really listen to what they are saying.  Try to see it their way, and agree with them.  Something like "I would have probably felt the same way!"  Then ask what you can do to make it better. \n\nThey probably just need to vent.  Just DON'T take it personally.  Some people of course are completely ridiculous and you can't help those ones, but most are somewhat reasonable, especially if they think you care.
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no, its wrong to judge people if they dont think like you do though. put your foot down in a nice way. tell them that you respect their religion but its just not for you.
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yep. some of there assumptions are right about me. which comes in handy when i need good "party and smoking" friends. but some are off the wall. i still have an appreciation for things and music that are beautiful and i have absolutely no morals. so, i don't know what they say or assume. i don't care, let them talk and get caught up. there's no way anyone could know everything about me in a five second glance, so i don't care. i value few people's opinions and even only sometimes.\n\nAND MAY I RESPOND ASSUMTIONS MAY BE OUR NATURE, BUT WE'RE NOT  CHILDREN SO WE SHOULD KNOW AND PUT INTO ACTION THAT IF IT LOOKS LIKE A DUCK IT COULD BE A DOG ON A BAD DAY.
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I honestly was thinking about that when I read your last question. You seem to be open minded and ask good questions that make people think. I feel nothing but a positve energy when I come across you on this site. I think your agenda is just being you. Everyone would see it differently as they will all have a different reaction to your Q&As. \nLove & Light
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you are being too hard onyourself.  You need to work on you.  Take a walk and try to just enjoy the day without worrying about what others are thinking all the time.  Try volunteering your time to help other.  Nothing will give you a perception that your problems are so bad when you see what other people go through.
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Doesn't sound like a good plan to me. I like my thoughts to stay to myself. I often think to myself (especially around my boss) I would really like to tell you off or something in that sense. But I pretend to be a good girl and don't say anything to offend others.
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Is everyone thinking what I'm thinking?\nThis is a joke, right?
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YES!  I've let others hurt my feelings and make me doubt myself.  I've learned though that, it's up to me to allow that to hurt me or not.  I am responsible for my own feelings about myself and shouldn't let others make me feel bad or doubt myself.  I must love myself and not let anyone else shake that!\nI don't want anyone else to feel that way about themselves because of something I have said so, I try my best to be supportive instead of belittling or insensitive.
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I agree with the other answer....Do some soul searching...it does not matter what other people think or your family.....This is coming from a straight guy in his mid 30's.....Live life your way.....it is yours....we are only here for a little while!!!!!
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Your friends value your judgement. If they constantly ask you for advice they might be using you as a measuring stick for their decision instead of wanting to know whether or not they should do something. Does that make sense? It sounds like to me that they trust your opinion and your opinion helps them decide whether or not what they are doing is wrong, or it helps them discover the choices they have.\n\nDon't be too offended. This is very typical in counseling. It will be good for you to also be there when they've not listened to your advice and something bad happens. Then, be ready to comfort them without telling them "I told you so."
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They're not "trying" to. It just might seem that way sometimes. But just keep your spirit and everything will work out fine :-) They can only keep down the people that will let them keep them down.
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worry about what other people think
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dont worry ......feel free to let out what u think....it doesnt matter if others don t value it ....atleast u do......n isnt dat what matters d most.\nthink about this almost every problem arises from our fear of what others think of us
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i think u should stop caring about what others think... if u 2 are fine with it,then its good enough~
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Sorry you are experiancing this. Someone must not be comfortable with you or your views. I'm not really suprised though, it seems some people will do anything to  prevent a person from speaking for themself and presenting a reasonable point of view. If they want to ask silly questions (which can be fun) let them do it for themself.
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Just hang in there.  I'm sure people are not thinking anything bad about you.  They are in the helping profession because they care about people.  They may be worried about you, but that's okay.\n\nIt's normal, after all you've been through, not to trust people so easily.  Give them the benefit of the doubt.\n\nI pray for you daily.  Keep up the good work.  May God bless you richly.