If you are 800+ miles away from home and only hear from your family on holidays,etc., what should I think?
485927
I think that you should make it an effort to write, call or whatever you can to keep in touch, family is important  and if you are feeling lonely, tell them honestly that you feel forgotten and find a way to get in touch more.
401610
forget about friends now,this is your future and u can make another friends there and be calling others on phone both your family,maybe visiting your family weekend or rent house for them there.
112563
When its time, God will call them home.  When our job is done here on this earth, then we must go.  Only God knows.  The more time you spend wondering, is time not being spent with your loved ones.  Cherish what you have, NOW.  Live and love everyday like it was your last.  Who knows, maybe my last job here on earth, was to answer this question.  Tomorrow on my drive to work, it could be time for me to go.  So now, I must call my mother and father, and tell them good night, and I love them.  Cherish your yesterdays, dream of your tomorrows, but live today for those dreams of tomorrow.
1033937
Probably a few hours.  I'm older though, so I think I'd understand.   I trust their decisions, and know that if they did, they'd still love me. \n\nI'd just hate to visit 2 families on major holidays though.  That would be a pain.
1066809
no\ni like keeping in touch with friends and family
124334
i would be willing to move to a distant country for someone that i was IN LOVE WITH; not just someone i loved. also, i have been to asia and europe and realize that the world isn't as big as i thought it was. i don't think that moving to a foreign country would necessarily mean that you wouldn't be able to see your friends and family again. you just may not be able to see them as frequently.
577458
My ex-husband (we had been married 10 years) gave me the surprise Christmas gift of having arranged for me drive 2000 miles to spend the rest of the holiday with my grandmother. It was very inconvenient for me to actually take the trip, and way out of our budget at the time, but his own grandparents had recently died, and I imagined this had something to do with his strange gift ... he had already called Gramma and told her to expect me and all. So I went. \n\nThrough the entire trip, my husband wasn't answering the phone or returning my calls. His parents also couldn't be reached. You can imagine how little either Gramma or I enjoyed the visit with me being worried sick. So I turned around and headed home through a blizzard.\n\nI arrived home after 40 hours of straight driving to find my husband in OUR bed with a teenager, and about $3000 in credit card bills from their "honeymoon" in DisneyWorld.\n\nTo this day, he complains to our friends that I "didn't have to be such a bitch" about that. 'Tis better to have loved and lost than to be stuck with the dumb psycho bastard for another 20 years.
634702
Yes! Change and missing your family/friends can do that.The familiar is comforting to some people. You can find others from your country and make new friends to minimize that feeling. If possible email or write frequent letters back home also. Peace.
670388
that depends on how close in location you are to this friend. are you somewhere where they csn just drive by and knock unexpectedly? or see if there are lights on? dont play the sick card because then they may feel the urge to come check on you. if you dont plan to leave the house and really dont want to worry about being disturbed. anelderly out of town guest is always a winner. aunt so-&-so from 200 miles away always wins. ESPECIALLY if gramdma ditchdaparty comes along with her. just dont stammer or let there be any awkward silence after you tell them. no opportunities to ask alot of questions. be sure you "have to go" after you tell them. be sure you say it enough times to yourself. you have to sell the product or nothing you say will work.
738467
When its christmas and my family is 3000 miles away, that makes me sad the most
664788
My plan is to get as far away from home as possible, and have as many new experiences, and meet as many new people as I can. Do what feels right to you, and remember that even though moving somewhere new for Uni seems scary, most other people are in that situation too, so you won't be alone.
303428
Try to spend as much time with my family and tell them how much I love them and will miss them. All other things don't matter to me.
295127
No.  Your family will always be your family.  They will always be there for you and only want the best for you.
1139274
well not too much i live 5000 miles away from my family so i will probably call dad oh crap i forgot to mail his card! oops thanks for reminding me!
1120876
It sounds like you are better off without your family. I agree with one who suggested counseling. It is usually a good and helpful experience. Also, it is very lonely not to have a family. I always made family out of my friends. Having close friends can feel the same as being with your family.  Do you have any extended family(aunts, uncles, cousins) that would help you feel connected and loved? If you think there's any way I can help, feel free to contact me. :^)
887043
Because part of your family doesn't live nearby, Maybe you can alternate, so that one year you stay home and spend the holiday with whoever lives close by, and the next year you go to see the ones who are farther away.\n\nAnother option is to arrange a date within a week or two of Christmas when you can celebrate with the family members who don't live nearby. Maybe even host a dinner at your home and invite them. \n\nWe have run into similar problems with my family and my in-laws, even though they only live 15 minutes from us. My mother-in-law wanted us to go to church with them Christmas Eve and then come over first thing in the morning. But my parents also wanted us over early in the day. We finally had to make the decision to divide our time in the way that worked best for us. So now we go to church on our own on Christmas Eve, then go to my parents' early in the day on Christmas, and my in-laws' later in the afternoon.\n\nThere's no way to be everywhere at once, and they'll understand if you can't always be with them on Christmas Day.\n\nI know it's tough, but you'll be so much more relaxed if you space your visits apart in some way. Christmas shouldn't be spent rushing around trying to see everyone and please everyone. Take time for yourself!\n\nGood luck!
127399
Its only natural to miss your friends or whoever you like. Why dont you just email them to keep in touch with them? If you have the means fly over to see them during holidays and take longer leave to ejoy yourself with them\n becos friends make the world go round so goes the saying...