What can i do about a in-law who is controlling, don't won't to buy a car, pay their own rent, and so on.
490118
tell your wife a good yo mama joke, itll make you feel better momentarilty\n\n\nYo mama so lazy she thinks a two-income family is where yo daddy has two jobs.\n\nYo mama so lazy, she stopped after she invaded Belgium.
345813
i think the best way would be is to go with what he asks you to do, but never let him get to you. agree to whatever he tells you, but do what you want anyways on your own account.. or with out him knowing.. more or less just letting things flow so u can live at peace. if this approach doesnt work, try discussing things with him, see his point of view and try to understand it, maybe there is a reason as to why he doesnt want you to do certain things. if also this approach doesnt work, save money, work hard, have patience and move out... all in all i think u should be strong and handle this smartly, cause if you rebel hell just be as suprpessive and controlling as he can get. try to work your way to get your peace of mind.. remember that.
559357
She would probably have to pay more to live somewhere else, but she is not being very wise if she doesn't have any credit in her own name. She owes it to her children to make sure they have financial security. If she intends to stay with this man, encourage her to get married so that she will have more rights in case something happens to him.
658096
let your wife be the one to put her foot down about the money...sorry, but they won't listen to you bec you're not their dad.\n\nmom must remain firm...don't listen to the whining. Hopefully you 2 have decided  that they leave the nest when they graduate. You have the right to expect some privacy in your marriage, esp. since he's old enough to be on his own...and she almost is. Sister will hopefully go on to college...sounds like a smart girl with a future.\n\nsupport your wife and stand by her. help her remain firm. she's given them 18 long yrs...long enough.
128107
If htey gave you the house and you are paying the notes, do you have a ocntract with them?  Has it been transferred to your name?  These are things you need to check out.  Sounds like they still own the house, and if so I would take my 842.00 and go elsewhere to live or have to put up with controlling in-laws and a nosey sister-in-law.
272905
I wouldn't worry about hurting his feelings. I would never go out everyday and work my butt off knowing he was at home doing nothing. That would make me so mad I'd kick his rear end out. Either he gets a job or gets out. I can't see one person supporting the whole family. It isn't fair at all. Just tell him you can't do it all on your own anymore. Exspecially when you are expecting your second child. When you are off of work for a while where's he going to get his money from then.
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your husband is the one that needs to put his foot down! tell him what is going on..and that you would NEVER put up with this kind of behavior if it were your own mother/sister. \nyou married him, not his mother...yes she is part of your family but she doesn't and shouldn't have a say in YOUR life together. \nhonestly i would look to move away! * that's what i encouraged my husband to do when we got married. we moved my mother in law to Hawaii! * \nif your hubby won't put his foot down then your going to be the one to say something. it may be hard, but YOUR HIS WIFE! that car you borrowed is YOURS as much as it is your husbands...you need to stand up for yourself.\nbe firm but cordial, and tell her that you understand that she loves her son very very much, but so do you. and you are his wife. \nhe is a grown man, and you two want her to be part of your life, but you don't want her controlling it. tell her that you feel like she doesn't like you, and that your trying your best to be a good wife to her son. but you will NOT let her make you feel guilty about the decisions that you make together as a couple. ask her how she would feel if HER mother in law butted in the way she did? \n\nperhaps talking w/your father in law might help? or a brother in law?
872969
hey, \n\nWhat I would do is #1 tell your lanlord that if he doesnt stop threatening your family members then you are going to file a report to the police. #2 Ask them if you are paying the rent at all. Then if they answer Yes then ask them if they would rather you pay the rent late or not pay the rent at all.\n\nI am sorry for your problems but I cant help you other than this suggestion. \nI hope every thing ends up ok
550044
I have no idea about the laws of India, but if that area is anything like America, you will be given no rights to a house you do not pay for. If you do pay for it, tell your husband you are going to leave him if his parents don't get out of your life. If you don't pay for it, get a new place and if your husband follows, then hooray for all.
665247
I understand that this was important to you, but more important than money is the relationship between you and your sister-in-law.  \nJust take a deep breath and ignore it.  Seriously, that's not gonna be easy.\nBut peace in the family is worth 20 bucks, dont ya think?
1094543
He should not be bossy and neither should you in this situation. He should be the head of the home though and make all the major decisions and you should be allowed to have input in this too. Compromise is important here. I recommend the book the Power of A Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian to you. It is a great book and they sell it in places like Walmart. Love your husband where he is at and maybe he is bossy because you are.  Try not to be so bossy and let him lead some and see what happens.
174945
Well, if the son-in-law is a bum, parents tend to not like this.  They want someone who is going to be a good husband for their daughter, and a good daddy for their grandchildren.\n\nI'm going to go ahead and assume that you are referring to yourself.  If you would like to get into the good graces of your in-laws you need to start by being a responsible adult, and have a decent job.  I'm not sure if English is your first language or not, but regardless, it looks as if you could benefit yourself, and family by going back to school, and getting an education.  This will go a long way in appearing responsible to them, and getting yourself a better career.
641562
Go to court.  Or counter-offer if that is out of the question.  Like ask for a long term lease with a set rent increase each year.  If the house is his before the marriage, you don't have any claims on it so stay there as long as you need to.  If you don't want the store, get alimony.  Go over all of this with your lawyer to get your options quantified.
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honestly, it's tricky when dealing with in-laws and even siblings.\nmoney will ALWAYS get in the way.\n\nit sounds like you guys were doing a great job at being family by doing things for each other...until the furniture.\n\ni would be firm and explain that there was no agreement for payment for your wedding services or their truck services...so, all these situations are exclusive from each other.\ntell them that you guys feel you are asking a reasonable price and if they don't want it for that price, then that's o.k. and you'll find someone else!\nbe kind and courteous about it, but don't feel that you are obligated to take a financial hit for family.\n\ni would prob make a family price a little lower than i would a stranger price, but they shouldn't haggle with family...that's poor manners.\nif they can't afford it, then suck it up, explain it's out of their price range and go find something else!  \n\nif they want to throw a fit, then they are the only ones looking selfish.  you guys look like you're trying to help them by selling some furniture.\n\njust be firm and now, you know how they view favors...for the future.\n\ntake care.
829759
He's in control, and wants to exercise it. I don't see anything unreasonable in your or your mother's concern over this matter; in fact, I'm surprised that you did not have a pre-nup worked out before you married your husband if you knew you would at some point be inheriting a large sum of money. Unfortunately, you can't *make* him sign anything, so how you proceed from here is up to you.
1008576
find some real legal advice. if you can't afford it, legal aid in your county/city should be able to help. good luck.\n\nif that doesn't work, add some sugar to his gas tank.
1155303
First forget the term negotiation. Did you ever have to negotiate your life before this your spuse was in it? Keep in mind that inorder to be in a controlling relationship you have to have 1 person who in the controller and 1 person who allows the other to control them. If you want freedom than allow yourself to have freedom and stopped allowing your spouse to control you.