Why does my Mother-in-law think the world revolves around her?
478570
Well everyone must let her know the world revolves around her.  Put an end to it and don't bow down to her anymore.
503669
It took my husband 15 years to be able to tell his mom exactly what he thinks, and only now with me backing him up. If your mom is controlling, there is no NICE way to handle her. You  have to just come out and say what you are thinking because if she is anything like my mom-in-law, she won't take you seriously. Be Very blunt. Tell her you are not TRYING to hurt her, but that this is how you feel. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!
877543
Relationships with in-laws can be so difficult.  I know it is none of my business, but why in the world are you living with them?!!!  It would be really nice if you and your husband could have a place of your own to live.  It would not fix all the problems, but it would certainly help out a lot.  You and your husband need to stand together whenever you confront your in-laws.  Maybe your husband needs to do the talking for both of you so they will know that you both agree with what you are confronting them about.  It will be difficult for your in-laws to accept that you and your husband are one now and that they should not interfere in your marriage.  And what is the deal with them not letting you two open your own bank account?  Aren't you adults?  Don't you have your own money?  Why is it any of their business?  Why is your husband letting them control the 2 of you?  Is he having issues "letting go of mommy's apron strings" or something?  \n\nI would suggest that you both see a family/marriage counselor and ask him to help you find a way to deal with your in-laws.  I have a similar problem with my in-laws which almost broke up our marriage, and our couselor suggested that my husband and I confront them together in a loving manner.  He said that if they still refuse to respect me and refuse to change the way they treat us, we need to stop being around them.  In my opinion, you and your husband need to make a decision to put your marriage first if you want it to survive, and do not let anything or anyone come between you.  Find a way to move out.  I'm assuming it is their house since your mother-in-law has removed your belongings from the rest of the house.  You and your husband need to put some distance between yourselves and his parents.  He needs to let them know that he has a family and responsibility of his own now that they cannot interfere with.\n\nAs for how to deal...  That is so difficult.  Continually forgive them for the things they do.  Don't hold on to grudges.  Don't let anger eat away at you or turn into hatred.  It will ruin your health, your marriage, and your whole life.  Continue to stand up for yourself and for your marriage.  And also remember that when you have a child, things are most likely going to get worse with your in-laws, so be prepared.  I wish you the best and hope that you can find your own place to live and maybe a family counselor as well.
445194
No one should hate it is corrosive to your own health. Mothers in law tend to respond to their children as though they never grew up. This feeds over into the spouse and creates resentment. If you can find a way to see past this it will eventually get better for you.
1076001
Your mother-in-law is as good as your own mother.  She is a religious mother after you married her daughter.  If you can understand the bond between you wife and your mother-in-law, you need not be explained anything further.  It is always rewarding to help a sick person irrespective of your own relative or somebody else.  A sick person always needs help.  You must support your mother-in-law during her sickness considering she is your own mother.  You will be rewarded by the God for this act of kindness.
309219
it's because girlfriends don't worry about you as much.. they aren't necessarily going to be with you for the rest of your life.. what you do has not much affect to them.. and so it does not matter as much what they think. At that time.. it's what you think that matters most. Once you marry.. the wife plays a very important part in your life.. every decision will affect her.. she worries about you and about the family.. she's trying to seek the best in everything.. trying to make things right.. trying to see what the best choices are for you, her and the family.. She's not neccessarily critiscing.. you have to look at it from her point of view as well as your own.. vice versa.
23714
Wife.Mother.Daughter and SLAVE sometimes if she is being oppressed by her in-laws. It is sad that the woman has to forget about what she likes and live the life that the in-laws force upon her ( again just in some cases).
430437
Because usually they are closer to their mother than the wife..plain and simple. They act like they can't do anything without her permission. When you marry it is good to still be close to her, but you also have to know who comes first and more important she has to know that...K
1067352
you mom in law is in your house, so what has she done to lose your trust of her.is she intefering in your household is she trying to run the house? what is she doing? talk ot your wife and let her know whats going on. you and your kids should come first, have mom in law go somewhere else.good luck.
550288
I'm working early AM then I am having breakfast at my brother-in-law's and lunch/dinner with my kids and my mother. Mom and Mother-in-law are getting flowers and fine chocolates.\n\nSorry jojob, I'm sure your mother is watching over you. My mom is approaching 80 so I know our mothers days are limited here on earth. I'll be thinking about you ...Happy Mother's Day sweetie.
705421
this is so NORMAL my mother in law used to HATE ME before we get married , dont worry she dont know u thats why she dislike u but believe me when she sees u she  will love you ;)
397296
MY mother in law is the best. In fact we get along better than my own mother. She is so sweet and caring I guess that I'm one of the lucky ones.
353550
First of all, when did you guys officially become husband and wife - you made no mention of that in your question.  If your wife is a grown woman and is allowing her mother to act that way, what can you do.  It is sounding like she has given control to her mother.  Check yourself.  Make sure you have not done anything to offend your mother-in-law, if so then get it right.  Try talking to the mother-in-law.  Ask her why she is acting out so bad.  Coming to your job is definitely over the top and you should definitely ask her never to do that again.  Get in touch with your wife.  Explain to her that you cannot go on like this.  Her not coming back on her own is sounding like she doesn't want to be with you.  Ask her point blank what her intentions are.
123875
You and your husband need to talk about the situation, and your mother in law (and/or father in law as well) should be brought into the conversation later, since they are taking part in the wife bashing. If your husband doesn't stop allowing the wife bashing then you need to consider some therapy - he needs to get that you are his wife and his mom should not be beating up on you, and if she does he needs to put a stop to it.  She's entitled to her opinion, but she doesn't need to voice it.
778090
sound like the twin of my ex mother in law. I am assuming her hubby isn't around to torture anymore. Hubby feels like she is protecting his interest. He needs to be reminded of who his interests really are. Ultimatum time. Don't let this unhappy person get you down to her level, where she will be more comfortable with you. Move away. Find her a Hobie, like "find your way home"
852130
You're looking at this the wrong way.  What you have to realize is that HE has to stop her, you can't.  If they are that close you will only become their common enemy if you attack her.  What you need to do is talk to your husband and let him know how you feel.  Remember to be respectful of his mother.  He may be telling you that he doesn't like the way she "butts" into your relationship but, trust me he's not telling his mom that.  Maybe you should try to be friends with her.  You both love the same man, right?  That's your first thing that you have in common.  Build a relationship, don't attempt to tear one down.  You can't win.  It is ultimately your husband's place to establish boundaries with his mom.\nGood luck!
109606
Is she smiling and teasing you and tickling you and touching you softly as she does it? If yes, she's telling you through her actions that she loves you. Been there, done that, in-laws hate me. (NEVER allow other people's opinions to interfere with how you operate when you're conveying your feelings to your significant other.) If *they* know you love them, then that's all that matters. Do you feel her love?\n   On the other hand, if she's malicious or painful about it and constanty claims that she was "only teasing", watch out, the signs are there!