After wife has affair with work colleague ,?
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Listen Up:\n\nSeriously, you are clinically depressed.  You fit the exact diagnosis of clinical depression.  Don't listen to people who say "just get over it!" or whatever, they dont understand your pain.  You can choose to get professional help, or not...that is up to you...but, if you choose not to, you need to read up on it and help yourself.  Your heart has been broken in a way that no one can understand, and one can just not get over it without some sort of education (meaning professional or self help) and time.  \n\nYou don't mention it on your post, but I would bet anything that you blame yourself for her cheating, even though you did anything and everything for her.  Also, I bet that she told you "reasons" why it was your fault that she did it.  Even more ridiculous is the fact that other people will somehow suggest that you must have been the reason that she cheated.  THAT IS FALSE!!!!  People cheat because they are selfish and only care about themselves.  Then, they blame others to avoid the guilt and responsibility for their miserable actions. \n\nThis will be hard, but you have to ACCEPT that her cheating was not your fault.  Once you can release this belief, with education, you can begin to come around.\n\nYou will never come around, unless you "accept" the truth and "educate" yourself.\n\nIf you wanna know more, contact me.
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If you can prove she cheated (talk to a lawyer first), then she may already have broken your contract by having the affair, depending on the wording you agreed to.  Good luck. Too bad you didn't marry someone with ethics to begin with.
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the team manager had an affair with the presidents wife ..
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That's a sin some where. And any way would you like you wife to cheat on you? "Do into others as you have them do into you" Get it think about that  for awhile!
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It seems as if you have a very strong desire to remain faithful to your wife.  That is definitely a good starting point.  I would not, however, do as one person suggested and ask your wife to not bring this friend around anymore.  Doing that would only serve to justify (in your wife's mind) her fear that you may do something with her friend.  And, I would not have a sit-down conversation between the three of you either.  This route may make any already sticky situation far worse.  The fact of the matter is...this situation exists solely between you and your wife.  Having said that...here are a few suggestions.\n\nFirst, your wife seems to be at a point (emotionally) where she needs some very strong reassurances from you.  I believe this is where the two of you need to start.  Though you have not metioned how long the two of you have been together...I am assuming it has been quite some time.  The fact that you have children together only serves to lend credibility to this assumption.  I am going to go a step further and assume that because the two of you have been together for quite some time AND have children...the time that the two of you share intimately has decreased tremendously.  This is neither a bad thing...nor is it unusual.  Life has taken over and each of you spends more time tending to the responsibilities of life than you spend nurturing the bond that brought you to this point.\n\nIf the above assumptions are accurate...then I would suggest shifting gears a bit.  If your wife is, in fact, seeking some reassurances from you...I will tell you that the physical, mental, and emotional ones will go alot further than the verbal ones.  Yes, you have stated that she does not have to worry about what you may or may not do with her friend.  However, have you done anything physically, mentally, or emotionally that would serve to back-up your verbal statements?  If she is truly concerned about this issue...it may help if you let her see and feel your commitment to her in addition to hearing it from you.\n\nArrange for a night where the two of you are alone.  Bring her flowers, take her out for dinner (or actually make a dinner for the two of you), make her your sole focus for the evening, and let her know just how much you love and appreciate all that she is to you.  These are simple things to do.  Unfortunately, many people overlook the value in such simple things as the demands of life increase.  If you were to take the time to do the above stated things on a regular basis...I am sure you will find your wife's insecurity would diminish.  Good luck to both of you.
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lmao!! Good for your wife!! I hope that this has taught you a very IMPORTANT lesson!! DONT CHEAT!
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Think to yourself...Is casual sex with my wife's best friend going to hurt or enhance my marriage? You must hate your wife to even consider doing something that would cause her nothing but heart-ache and embarrassment
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a buddy i work with goes with his wife
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I don't think people look for it as much as they just find it.  With both people working in a marriage, you spend more time with co-workers than you do with your spouse.  When that happens, work relationships can turn into sexual relationships.   One day at work I turned to a co-worker of mine and I said to him, "Do you realized that you and I are the only two employees here that haven't been in an affair?"  I worked with about twenty people and the next month he was in an affair also.
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Give her space. And why would you want to be with someone that would rather be with work buddies that she's with all day than her own husband? Maybe you shouldn't even try to win her back just yet.Give it time.Weather she was cheating or not,there is no reason to hang out with another man without your own man or if it were a friend or gay,know what I'm trying to say?Just take a break from woman all together,work on you and take time out for yourself.And try not to drive urself crazy, I'm sure you're hurting, but time heals.Maybe she'll wake up one day and realize she lost out on a great man!
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just be there for you. keep the lines of commucation open and keep reassuring her you love her very much. right now she is feeling really bad and needs your support. help her find a new job. go to her place and make supper for her. and encourage her to seek to talk to a professional and go along with her for support.. i must say truely you are a good man to forgive her like for having an affair. that says alot about you and i see that you must have truely changed..ps also be very patient with her coze this is a very trying time for her ok.. best of luck to both of you.
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tell his wife to go to talk to the district attorney, or give her the person's job address.\n\nok
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If your husband kissed another woman what would you think.  You have already cheated yourself since you got to that point.  Now is the time to feel guilty.
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this why people say no affairs at work.\n\ndon't let it happen again.
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First of all, don't lower your standards to hers, don't cheat...I understand the love connection and you both have been together for a fair amount of time, but her being unfaithful now doesn't make for a good choice of a wife later...they always say they were going to stop, but allow to continue an affair until its discovered and not voluntarily revealed.  I find that important when it comes to determining if you should continue in such a relationship..I recommend ending it, but to answer your question, it would take a love that thru sorrow and regret for what she has done...that could convince you that this will never happen again...talk to her, find out why and how this happened , take all the information you can get and determine if your heart can forgive and forget in order to make such a shaky relationship last...good luck.
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Most men will deny such behavior, especially when they have no defense. I wouldn't worried about it, but I would keep my eyes open. Married men flirting, especially in the work place where both of you work is disrespectful to you as a wife and the marriage.
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Here's my suggestion (from experience on the being cheated on side).  First, stop and think about how badly you have hurt her.  Think about the damage that has been done to the relationship.  I'm not telling you to do this so you will feel bad. I'm saying it so you will know what she feels like.  She is going to be going through some tremendous grief (even though you are not dead or leaving her, there is something precious that has been lost).  Then you need to consider how insecure she must be feeling right now.  She is possibly feeling unattractive, unwanted and unloved - maybe she feels she doesn't measure up or has lost your interest.  Once you understand what she might be feeling, you need to go to her and tell her that although you can't understand exactly what she is feeling, you do know that she is hurting badly.  Acknowledge her feelings, even if you don't understand them, they are hers and she is entitled to them.  She will likely go through phases of certain fears and feelings.  you need to understand what she is feeling and help her to overcome that.  Be prepared for her to need to know where you are all the time.  You may get really tired of this, but she needs to be able to check up on you.  Next, get rid of all things from the other woman, any pictures, phone numbers, gifts from her - anything and everything.  Recognize that you may still have feelings for the other woman - but DO NOT share this with your wife.  If you don't have feelings for the other woman, you might have some potent memories.  Whenever you find yourself dwelling on them, change what you are thinking about.  Work on getting her out of your mind.  This is going to take a lot of work and reassurance on your part.  And just when you think things are going great - expect her to need more reassurance or to get angry again.  When this happens, think again about how much you love her.  Also, I think it is important to understand why you cheated.  Was there a problem in your current relationship?  If so, fix it.  And lastly, I agree with whoever above said to pray.  That is the single most important thing you can do.  Because this is a major breach of trust and devastating to experience.  She is going to need a lot of help getting past it and trusting you again.  Best wishes in your future together!