why does it seem the harder you try to be popular in high school the harder it is to keep the friends that you
492947
Because the more you try to be like everyone else, the more you lose your own unique characteristics.  You'll find that the majority of people are often misguided but put up a good front.  Popularity means nothing.  Manage the relationships that you enjoy and leave popularity to the drama queen who'll be working at Taco Bell in 10 years.
1054919
This happened to me when I was in high school too.  I ended up following them around and trying so hard to be included, now looking back I just wish that I would have played it more cool.  Find some other firends to hang around with until things settle down with your 2 BF's.  That shows them that you are your own person and you aren't desperate!  When they seem to go out of your way to not include you act like you had better things to do anyways and the make some plans dont sit around... Oh and what ever you do DONT be b!tchy to them..that makes you the bad one.  Just be nice and courteaous and go about your business eventually they will go back to the way things were.
802856
I went to the worst middle school in Woodbridge . My fear was of getting beat up or something like that. Or Being asked to smoke or having no friends.But all of that ,people saying that the school was so bad was just because there were a lot of spanish and black kids there. It wasn't that bad i made a lot of good friends no one jumped me, i didn't get asked to have a smoke or any thing bad.  But in high school was, just having to not see my friends as much .You know what people say, that your closest  friend in middle school will be your worst enemy in high school. i was scared that i would get into a big fight over nothing and have our friendship come to pieces. But it didn't happen .... I'm still friends with my best friend.
561934
It's interesting how those 4 years in High School can have such an ever-lasting impression in a person's life.\n\nI suppose it's because we do most of our "growing up" while in high school, and we start  to confront the realities of Life.\n\nWether you loved high school, or you hated it....somehow, all those events during that period of your life are unforgettable.
47024
If your friends don't think you are popular enough for them, forget about their opinion and do your own thing - be original, creative and make yourself stand out.  They'll have no choice but to think of you as popular b/c you'll be more interesting than them & people will start noticing you and then they'll WANT to be in your corner even more.
119787
Because the want to feel all grown up and cool. To show of to their friends.\nAnd also because of peer pressure
46831
It's not terribly abnormal. Most people in highschool are obsessed with looks, being like everyone else, and hanging around the 'cool crowd', so if you don't fit that mold, you are not likely to have dated much. But guaranteed you'll be more popular in college.
1049639
Yes and no. Highschool was a blast sometimes, especially because I had a tight group of friends. But there was so much immaturity, so much gossip and backstabbing, people caring way too much what everyone else thought of them, etc. It's a tough time!
950857
She doesnt want to be on bad terms with you but also considers you to be the back up friend. It sucks. If you really wanted to stir the pot a bit you could make friends with her friend. Ha ha. Yes thats very 'high school' of me, but tempting isnt it?
936379
You may have to choose whether to be a real person or continue to "fake it to impress."  If these people don't like the real you, then they aren't really friends anyway.  I know you know that already which is the reason for the " " marks.  In my own life, I have found that having a few really good best friends is much more valuable than having some "friends" who don't value the real me. You deserve to be respected and liked for yourself, not for what someone else wants you to be.
761577
You will have a lot of 'friends' through your school life. It's very normal for friends to come and go in your life. I will tell you that I have been out of high school now for 30 years and I have 2 friends that I still keep in touch with from there.\n\nIn your life, you will have many acquaintences, but your true 'friends' you will be able to count on one hand and have fingers left over.
441389
i was popular for always coming late to school lol\nother than that.. not at all =)\njust a normal average girl, and still am\nhonestly, before i wished to be more popular, but now.. heck no... it is just a stupid and childish highschool thingy!\ni realized long ago that the popular girls in my school always got troubles with jealous girls, abusive handsome boyfriends, pervert teachers, etc etc\nso all of us who were not so popular back than are luckier than them =)
1099179
Confidence and being outgoing makes one popular in school. People who generate positive energy (they love life) attract people the way honey attracts bees. In short people who are themselves earn respect from peers.\nWhat you can do to make friends is take up various new activities in school, get involved..have fun, be confident.. make the most of your young years. You will miss it!!Trust me.. Don't worry about having many friends, a true friend is more significant. Look for a TRUE friend. She/he will always be there for you but others can be decieving. So be careful what you wish for.
477392
Well, it can be hard at first. but it gets easier. just remember to stick to what your believe in, no mattter how hard. once people kno how you stand, they usually respect that. and having friends who think the same is also a help. just be yourself, and dont be too pressured by all the older kids. hope i helped.
587084
well i have a couple\nthey have less of a social life and interaction with other people and because of that if they later decide to start going to public school in high school like a few people i know did they are kind of thought of as being nerdy and dont really know a lot of the slang...which i suppose is also a good thing sometimes, but they have to learn everything like that.
717960
That's so funny, because I was thinking of the same question earlier this morning while on my way to work.  I used to have plenty of friends while in high school, but now with one 2 year old girl and attending college and work, it seems hard. This morning, the reason why I believe that I do not have much friends, is because I am a leader not a follower, at least most of the times. And I think that most people do not want to be friends with people who are doing better than them at work, or education wise. And of course, people like other people who like to get wasted and smoke. Well I hope I kinda answer sortoff your question.
1096427
Cuz they are jealous of your physical beauty, your career standing, anything. They go on making you think they are your friend, but when it counts the most, they aren't there for you.\n\nI had 3 good friends from high school and right around the end of college they started getting weird on me. I had landed a successful job in PR and sales, while they were floundering in fast food or retail jobs. People kick you when you up and are your best friends when you are down.