How can i prevent misunderstandings from creeping up between me and my boyfriend?
483757
Always talk to him. If you keep things inside and dont resolve, it might create misunderstandings. Be sure to listen to him to and to think positively together
502125
I doubt that you always misunderstand him. Part of the problem could be that he doesn't always tell you everything.\nSit him down and talk to him, tell him that you want to understand him and he should want to understand you.\nThe more the two of you talk, the better it will be for both of you!\nGood luck
183052
If you can't get him to listen, try dropping him a note explaining the circumstances and the misunderstanding.  If he still continues his ways after hearing your side of it, then leave him in the dust.  He is not understanding, forgiving or tolerant enough to deserve you.
99673
i have a boyfriend, but i'm not shy to ask him anything. I think communication is important and so does he, so every time i have something to say, even if its awkward, he encourages me to say it and waits until i have the courage to spit it out!
911842
communication is the key. maybe you should invite him ot your place and let him know how u feel.  if he loves you and if avoiding you is not his intention, he will comfort you and reassure you that that is not the case.  if your feelings of doubt persist after talking to him, listen! it's your female intuition. good luck....
739531
You're not cheering for the underdog, you're being contrary with your boyfriend.\n\nYou should always stick by your partner, but that doesn't mean that you agree with them when they are wrong.  You stick by them by comforting them when they are wrong or wronged.\n\nThere is nothing wrong with showing your bf that he is wrong, but harping on it right when it happens (and especially if he ISN'T wrong!) is destructive.\n\nTalk to him about it later, constructively.
557910
Say you are sorry for your mistake on dating him before. Cry for a drama. Explain that this is the best for both of you. Find something that you don't like. Never raise your voice. They will appreciarte you if you say it gently. If you really like the second, it's okay. I understand the matter of hearts problem.
647674
Settling is wrong, and if thats what this feels like MOST OF THE TIME, then think about whether or not someone else could make you as happy as your boyfriened does when he isn't ticking you off. Sometimes someone annoys you or makes you sad sometimes, but you still love them more than anyone else in the world, and you're still happy with them most of the time. \n\nThen, realize that some males think that arguing/debating is a way to keep things fiery. I've had to explain to my husband that I hate fighting of any kind because I grew up in a very explosive household, and that sometimes the smallest disagreement will make me incredibly nervous and sad. He responds that if I have a different opinion, he wants me to express it. Neither of us are wrong, there just has to be a compromise.\n\nI suggest you tell him that if he wants to debate with you, fine - but it MUST NOT become personal - at all. Also, tell him that if he doesn't respect your opinion or think its "good enough" then he shouldn't bother arguing with you about that particular subject. You two can debate - but not argue. He needs to understand the difference, and understand why it matters to you. Tell him you want most of all to get along with him and make him happy and be happy, and that constantly expressing your different opinions makes that very difficult to achieve.\n\nGive him time. Lots of it. \n\nI hope I helped.
335603
I had the same problem with my present boyfriend.  Instead of trying to constantly get through to him (which can annoy the person after a while), just let him know that you are there for him and that he has no reason to keep his guard up.  This should only be told to him once, and whatever happens after that is up to him.  Though it may take a while for him to accept it and open up, it may work.
781655
RUN AWAY.  In a relationship, there will be disagreements, but the rights and feelings of the other person should always be respected.  When a person disrespects you, he is showing that your feelings are not as important as his own, that he does not hold you in regard.  If you put up with this now, he will belittle you until he finds someone that he will tell you is better and smarter than you.  You will end up wasting years on a relationship that will continue to get worse. .
353002
Sounds totally normal to me, embarassing as it is.  I've found the only way to stop losing the plot every time you talk to him is to actually spend more time with him, a kind of practice thing.  It'll also give him time to get his stuff sorted out while you're doing the same
496814
Generaly is man`s play to pass abusive remarks at women`s dressing and physical features. But in your case I think the trust bond between you and your current boyfriend whith whom u r planning to tye a note is of most important. In fact this is the test of his trust in u. Next I feel you should be open to ur current B/f and tell the facts no matter if he loves u he will just ignore it and you will be even more close to each other. Yh going ahead with the legal rute is fine but it communication and clearity amoung your current relationship would be the best. As at the end of the day that`s what counts.
1075936
I've dealt with this on a limited basis.  What I've found are three rules to keep in mind:\n\n1) Don't make the difference the issue.  Your working relationship ought to be developed on a value-added basis primarily, not on the cultural, ethnic, religious, or other differences you may be able to talk about.\n2) Be sensitive to where they may be coming from.  There are issues that will come up that they're going to feel differently about.  Be aware when they're going to feel like the outsider or awkward.\n3) Keep it authentic.  When bloopers happen, deal with it directly and face to face.  People sense when you're coming from an honest desire to get things done, and when you're just trying to be politically correct.
426796
I'm misunderstood by my wife all the time. I misunderstand people, or misinterpret...I usually go to great lengths to accurately describe what I'd said to my wife so the misunderstanding could be cleared up...\n\nCommmunication can be tough...thats why I try to articulate myself as best as possible.\n\nIf its someone I don't really know...they can think whatever they want.
372276
Well, there are a lot of things which could be driving him to avoid certain subjects.  Perhaps he is holding back a bit to avoid being totally vulnerable.  If he's been hurt before by allowing himself to be totally vulnerable to someone you could be paying the unfortunate price.  While I understand you don't want to run him off you also need to be able to figure out whether your relationship has a strong foundation upon which to build something more than conversations about sex, food and currente events.  If he's not willing to meet you half way then perhaps you both need to re-evaluate what you each want, need and expect from the relationship.  If those lists are not consistent or, at the very least, complimentary, you may have to re-examine whether you want to stay in the relationship.\n\nOf course it's very easy to write all of this not being there but in the long run it's a conversation you're eventually going to have to have with him.  Try to find out what other subjects are open for discussion and go there first....try to help him open up by sharing a little something you might be holding back.  Start it by saying "you know, I may not have told you about this but...."  Perhaps by sharing and showing a bit of your vulnerablility he'll do the same.  Just be careful to pick something which won't bare your soul completely and leave you hung out to get hurt in the end.\n\nAll the best "ma'am"   ;)
719107
Your confusion is a sign that you physical attraction is messing with your ability to make good decisions.  If this relationship is a mistake, then break it off.  Apologize to the boy, tell him you're sorry that you let things get out of hand, that you should have known better.\n\nThen be careful - this kind of thing is a message to you that you aren't ready for relationships like this yet.  Find a boy that you are friends with.  If you can talk to him normal for a few months, you might have a future boyfriend.  But no kiss/hold hands/saying I love you.  That's making a promise you're not ready to keep.\n\nAnd, since you are thinking about it, no sex until you have enough $$$ to have a baby.  When you have a plan as to what you would do if you were pregnant, then you are ready for sex.
86634
I feel ya on this one, this goes back to my question I just posted about letting your guard down. I would def. talk to him b/c if he feels something different and is to afraid to say something or maybe its the opposite, things need to be worked out. Communication is the key