How do you stop your cousin from using drugs, at the age of 14?
485147
substitute the drugs with dried chilli powder...
549569
Do whatever it takes to make it happen.  Recently, 3 of my cousins were murdered by a friend of theirs that was off of his meds.  Also, you be careful around her...If she gets violent, call the police and tell them she is off of her medication.  They will make her take it or go to jail.
479703
Talk to him like an adult, much like you'd talk to one of your dear friends that you suspect has a substance abuse problem. Acknowledge his adulthood and show him you're concerned for his well being without judging. Show him that you trust his judgment.\n\nCall a professional counselor and ask their opinion. If nothing else, at least you can learn some coping skills.\n\nI was late the day they handed out the parent's manual, too.
1060410
That's a real tough situation to be in. You can't please everybody, no matter how hard you try. If you blow off your cousin you make bad blood in the family. If you bring her along, she may ruin a good thing you got going with your friend. Just try to get your cousin some other friends she can hang out with, to get her off your back. Alternatively, do something that will turn her off. Like, start dressing goth and chewing tobacco. Whatever you can come up with that will turn her off without outright rejection from you. Good luck!
716867
Talk to your aunt and talk to your cousin.  Tell them you've noticed there reactions and ask them what is going on, why are they behaving this way.  Then tell them straight out that you are not interested in him and never have been.  Best way is to be direct and hope it works.  good luck!
684172
my mom's side is allergic to anything alcoholic and my dad's side goes overboard to the point of killing themselves. it is not a chance that i feel comfortable taking. i don't have any friends that have a "problem". however, in high school they used drugs. they don't now. hubby used for a bit. before we met he said that he had a "drinking problem" and stopped. very seldom he has a drink.\n\ni know of a girl that has a severe drug problem, i don't think that she will admit it to herself. she would rather buy drugs than food for the kids, lives with her mom-at age 31, doesn't know how to drive and mooches off of everyone that she can. people are getting wise, thank goodness. she's on he 4th kid, now and her 3 year old knows how to use the word "bong" correctly in a sentence. scary, huh?
1013456
Aww...  I had this same problem.  Around the same ages as you and your cousins (only they were my niece and nephew).  Honestly, the best way to get them to stop bugging you, is to ignore them (I know you've heard it before).  But, it works.  Once they see that they're not getting through to you..  they'll back off.  Sooner, or later they'll leave you alone.  If this doesn't work, try saying something to their parents.  I'd say to both the kids and their mom and dad that you need time alone (which all 11 year old girls do), and that you're willing to play and hang out with them.  Just when you want to.  Good luck!
1007488
Well if your cousin is of legal age and beyond the age of consent she is free to pick her own boyfriends so to keep from sounding ignorant its probably best for you to say nothing at all.
455776
sounds like your cousin is a jerk that doesnt want the best for himself. people like that cannot be helped. i suggest you put a gun to his head and tell him to sort out his f***ing life because he is wasting his time. be tough
892115
leave him. nothing that she can say or do will make him stop. the drug is in control, not him...and certainly NOT her.\nfor the safety and sanity of those children she needs to give him an ultimatum...get treatment, or get out. \n\nand MEAN IT! she needs to stop letting him hurt their family....and that means he needs help or he needs to get out of their lives. \n\nits tough as hell, but no one can make a junkie do what they don't want to do. it doesn't matter, it has NOTHING to do with her trying to "love him enough", it's past that kind of help...THEN she needs to seek counseling so that she can understand his addiction, and WHY he does what he does..and what she can do to help her family through this time. \nhttp://www.addictionsearch.com/treatment_facilities/alconon-club_5241.html
267367
Find new friends. If you can't do the obvios thing and just go ask the police you are line to be where he is. Stop the drugs, work hard, etc. because you will realize this later. But I sound preachy. You will someday know what I say is true.
648380
Is that not for your cousin to worry about,,don't get involved in your cousins crap!!!!!!!!!!!
504568
There are other children who have had this problem, maybe they can give you a good answer! As a rule one drug can lead to other drugs. you need some one to intervene, you will not be able to prevent the child from using, especially if child is not ready to receive help! There are drug induced mental illness. You may want to go to a meeting for parents of users, AA, alateen for kids, adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families. You can seek out facilities for these problems. Get a hold of \ndr. phil, he will have info on how to deal with this. wHATEVER, YOU NEED TO SEEK HELP FOR THIS CHILD ASAP BEFORE THE CHILD IS LOST FROM USING.\nGOODlUCK. Take Action, THERE IS HELP! kEEP ASKING FOR HELP TILL YOU FIND IT!
132242
Your cousin is getting off anti-depressants so she will be depressed without them.  Anger masks other emotions.  Your cousins anger is really depression.\n\nGetting off all psychoactive drungs should only be done under medical supervision.  Never just stop all at once.
129374
Well you could do like the other users said and do an intervention, kick them out and tell them you will not do anything to enable them to continue this lifestyle. No money, no contact, no favors. But keep in mind that it is not at all uncommon for addicts to call you bluff and walk out of your life. The interventions that work are usually when the person really does want to get help. If your kids refuse help there isn't anything you can do to help them. In a different life I was forced into rehab by my parents and guess what? I went along with the program and got high the day it was over. I had to want to stop and that took another 15 years to happen. I have a brother who we did an intervention on for cocain and he walked. Right now he is homeless and claims that this is the lifestyle he wants to live. It is up to you what to do, but you might want to talk to a professional about this further before you make a decision. Good luck.
205683
My dear I have been a Counter Intelligence Officer of Narcotics for 13 years how you could stop drug abuse is you yourself stoping to use it no one I MEAN no ONE could make you do it people give lame excuses that they want to forget the tradigies or go high having sex etc. but DRUG whatever ever may be valiums or LSD or HERION Cocaine never helps.\n\nBE strong in yourself and believe in your self you can avoid them.
666356
As long as it doesn't intefere with his life or his ability to be a cool brother, you don't have to do anything.  When he stops being cool, telling your parents or some authoritative figure may be a good start.  You can try talking to him that he's wasting his life on pot and if he cares even a bit for you he would stop.