does anyone feel it hard to be with someone that speaks a different language?
484890
I can completely understand what you mean! I am an american and I have a gf who is dutch. I am trying to learn the language but sometimes when I am in her country and we are out and about it can feel quite lonely and you feel out of place because of it.  Its hard for me. I am trying to learn it so that I dont feel like this as much but it is hard. She has to order for me alot and I have to ask her what was said.  ANd there are times where i dont bother because I dont want to agrivate her and that makes me feel worse. Some times its just a no win situation. Shes worth it so I try my best and do what I can.
110460
No I don't think that it is bad to be here and speak the language very well.  I feel that if you are learning the language that is all that you can do.  My feelings come into play with people who refuse to learn our language.  I DO feel that people who come here for what America can offer should atleast respect us enough to do the best they can to learn OUR language.  Not force us to learn theirs in order to get a job (all the jobs that need bi-lingual).  I am of Mexican descent (my father is Mexican) so I dont feel that I am being biased.  When my father came to the USA he learned English.  It was the language spoken here.
631295
Find someone who speaks your own language.
401561
Yeah, I'd say don't worry about it, because they're probably not talking about you at all. I speak another language at work with my friend as well as English and we're not bad mouthing anyone.  Well, okay, we might badmouth the establishment, but nobody personally.  Or, go try to learn the language or show interest in it. They'll probably be flattered and then you can be friends!  We're all just people no matter what language we speak.
555930
My native language is persian actually its not so hard to learn but the problem is when you have to learn a language and there is no one around you to practice what you have learned
1055881
I am, my husband is a foreigner. His family raised eyebrows at first but they were able to learn to accept it later. A lot of adjustments needed to fit in the society but it is all worth it becasue I have a wonderful partner, lover, husband and best friend at the same time for the rest of my life.
784225
its hard for me to ask that in english sometimes,and you want to ask in german,must be nice
717113
Yes if you can speak other foreign languages.
1098352
i am multilingual but still feel most comfortable speaking English
243861
language and culture barriers
704968
Yes, definitely, but now i am in a long distance relationship and it sucks being in this position sometimes.
1085984
When someone from a different culture, with a different accent tries to join and be part of another, it's never easy. Don't feel like you have to change to make friends. Why not try engaging these school kids in other activities that don't involve talking so much? Try sports, video games or the movies. Once they get used to you, your accent will no longer be a hindrance.\n\nAnd on your part, don't go making fun of their accent either. To each his own, remember.
1127405
Part of the issue is ignorance, another part is ego-centrism.  People seem to always assume when they hear two people talking in another language that the speakers must be somehow talking about the non-speakers.\n\nAnother part is that many people here feel put off  and less 'superior' if there are people speaking other languages around them.  I speak three languages other than English.  I am a LEGAL immigrant.  I take every chance to speak any of my languages as a chance to share, develop and practice skills.\n\nIt also gives me an understanding of how people think from other cultures.  If you refuse to learn other languages/deal with non-English speakers, you limit yourself.\n\nEnglish, for the most part will always be 'under attack' and will also always be the common language in the US.  As new groups come here from other countries (not just South America and the Carribean) those languages will be heard as well.  Give the current group of immigrants two generations and let's see how many still can't speak English.
1057260
i was in your shoes before  i am married to a hispanic guy and we first met i did not speak spanish and he did not speak english just a little so i know what u are going thu , what i did  i went out and got a book tha was in english and spanish and the days that he was off  me and him would study i would tell him something in english and show him the word and he told me  what it was in spanish  now he can speak  english alot , what he is selp employed   and  i can speak spanish and understand it all and write a little
681289
Well sometimes you all start speaking spanish, which we don't understand, and naturally we think you are talking about us. There is not enough trust in the world. For some reason different cultures do not trust one another, it is so sad, because we should embrace our differences, not let them seperate us.
793822
I am very sorry for that. It really is terrible how people discriminate against ANY culture just because they are like another. ANYWAY they shouldn't discriminate against the first one in the first place! I live in a city with a high Latino population, and everytime anyone says "Mexican" I feel that I need to correct them. It has gotten me into some sticky situations, but I've also made some friends through it. I am a Spanish student and it disgusts me to see how people can just pretend that because they speak Spanish they must be bad. It makes me SICK. I lived in Spain for a while to practice my Spanish and even though I was American *most* (not all, just most) of the people there could still respect me. And when I speak to the Latinos in my city they can still respect me even though I am not the same race as them. And it's amazing, it's not even just latinos either. It is anyone who speaks Spanish. My host family sent their daughter here and everyone was rude to her simply because she spoke with a Spanish accent.\n\nOne last rant and then I am done.\n\nSo my friend and I did an experiment. Even if we are AMERICAN and we speak in Spanish, will they do the same thing? The answer is yes. We went downtown and spoke in Spanish to each other for the day. If someone spoke to us we answered in English, with our American accents, and we were still treated the same way. So my conclusion is that it isn't just the people themselves that are Latino or Hispanic that are discriminated against, but the whole Spanish language.\n\nThis didn't really answer your question....sorry....
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I speak 3 languages and English was not my first language.\nI believe in amersion in school. If it's an adult find a friend that speaks , writes and understands the language. Remember depending where you speak Spanish the dialects are different. New Mexicans speak different then Mexicians, Cubans different then the people in Spain. And so it goes. If you just focus on simple basic Spanish have a friend just teach you the basics and you'll be surprised how quickly you will adjust and plus an even more interesting insite to a different culture,and quite a great friendship!\nAsta La otra ves!