Some say i will loose my virginaty after marriage but in the other hand they do practice or.al S.ex do u agree
463072
If you give away something special then your virginity is lost. Virginity is more than penetration.
795909
well, I think everyone is definitely entitled to their own opinion, but let me ask you all this: Say you have been dating someone for a long, long time, know all about them, and think they are your perfect match, your soul mate.  I'm talking, that one person that is perfect for you in any and every way and you know you could never live without. Then, the first and only time you have sex is a horrible experience for one/both of you and you decide that because of that one time, the future between the two of you is doomed.....? To me, that sounds like a really stupid reason to not want to marry someone...if you really loved them, you would be able to "work" on it and look past it. Of course it would be diffcult to be with someone that cant please you the way you want them to, but with time and a continued strong relationship, it will happen.\nI, personally, am saving myself for marriage for both personal and religious reasons.  I'm not going to lie and say that it has been easy to remain a virgin, but I know that by doing so, I am saving a wonderful experience for my husband and I to share, as well as avoiding a number of problems that can come along with premarital sex.
582704
I believe in sex before marriage. I don't believe people should just sleep around though. If you've been with a person for awhile and truly loves them, I think it's ok to have sex.
806064
I'm in the same boat as you and think you should keep away from fornication. Waiting until your wedding night really shows your new wife that you have waited your entire life to be with her. Sex has nothing to do with love; it is lust and really shouldn't be a factor outside of marriage because both participants know fine well after they have sex they have nothing moer they can give to one another. Outside of wedlock shows they are struggling to keep their relationship going. I know I may sound ignorant but thats the way I see things, it's the way I raised myself. Thinking of showing my devotion to my future (hopefully) wife rather than pleasing my own lust.
866501
I've been married 28 years ,and it's still in doubt .It seems the spirit and the flesh are somewhat incompatible .You can do what you want, it seems to quench the spirit tho for a time .
520963
I'm currently on my second marriage and I wish I would have waited until I met the man I'm with now. I was a virgin with my first husband but, we did it before we were married. I chose to have sex one month before our wedding because I didn't want our wedding night to be awkward. If your 100% positive you are getting hitched like I was then I say go for it. I just wish it had been with my second husband instead of my first.
1007155
Yes, when you take your marriage vows you say that you that you will take this person "for sickness and health...forsaking all others." Forsaking all others means just that, you will remain emotionally and physically devoted to that individual only. \n\nIf you were dating a person but were not having sex, would you not still say that you were in a "relationship."  Yes, and the reason is that we all acknowledge that being in a "relationship" means much, much more than the physical aspect. \n\nTherefore, to say that b/c we did not have sex I did not cheat on you is entirely wrong. He needs to own up to the situation. I am not saying your marriage is over, he needs to face what he did and you both need to start rebuilding the trust so that healing can take place. I wish you the best.
386283
Well if by "you" you mean yourself, I'd say that it is pretty normal to have second thoughts. You may want to give it some time to develop and to convince yourself that this is the real thing before plunging into sex or marriage. But remember, you only get back what you are willing to give out. So, if you hold back too much, you will likely get similar signals from your partner.
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I am all for abstinence.\n\n\nThis is how I feel about it ...\n\nYou should stay a virgin till you're married.\nGod intended it to be that way.\nBut many, MANY people abuse that.\nAnd God looks down on those people.\n\nYou don't just give your virginity to just anybody.\nIt is the best present you can give your future husband.\nIt is you... it is all of you.\n\nIf you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.\nYou'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.\nIt won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.\n\nSex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.\nIt takes two very mature people.\nYou do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.\nMost people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.\n\nI am a virgin myself. I have a boyfriend of more than 9 months that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
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I do because there are more chances that a relationship will last a lot longer for sex to come after marriage than for marriage to come after sex. To build a relationship you have to know what the foundation is made out of. Some choose sex to be the foundation of a relationship and some choose love as their foundation. Sex and love are two separate things and should NEVER be looked upon as an equal. Some people are too stubborn to realize that sex is suppose to be something done out of love; (if any is envolved) not the other way around. Chances are very good that if a person views sex as a foundation to a relationship, he/she wasn't looking for one in the first place. People often forget what marriage is these days. In most traditional marriages there's a line that says "for better or for worse"; if someone is gonna treat the other like some kind of merchandise such as a car or whatever and they have this mentality that they have to "try" someone out before marriage, they don't have any business getting married. Basically if this happens what that person is saying is that they don't love you, they're just gonna use you as temporary usage and if he/she doesn't like what's been provided, that person is gonna be stashed away. That is what's gonna happen when sex becomes before marriage.
83670
no its perfectly natural. in todays society there are very few girls who stay virgins til they find "true" love or marriage. the fact that you have stayed fairly innocent this long is great. if you have....tension...built up its good to release it and if you choose sex thats fine, if you choose the other route, thats great too, as long as you dont let others pressure you into anything before youre ready
996476
same could be said why sex is so important to you people after marriage...whats the difference? ok, obviously no one wants to be with a "whore" but then again i think that people would want to be with someone that is experienced, i know i would. Cause lets face it, peoples sex lives play a very important role in marriage today, 73% of marriages fail due to this and/or they are deeply troubled because spouses are not faithful and loyal to their signifficant other due to inexperience or unfullfillment in that department. I for one, would like to know that my souse can not only satisfy me spiritually, emotionally but also physically. now, with that said, there are those that feel this way, and then there are those who are extremely active. to each his own but thats where i stand. Hopefully my answer has shed some light on the opposite side of you acusations.
438517
If a couple want to wait untill they are married before having that sort of contact, it is their choice.\n\nReligion is about control (note I said religion and not faith), so religion's will attempt to interfere with society to gain power.\nSocieties tend to go through phases where they are more and then less permissive with regards to sex. Maybe we are becoming less permissive overall at the moment.\n\nUlimately I believe it should be the choice of the people what they do, not some kind of coercion or guilt trip from a religion.
871819
Maybe the people who changed were not all that stable to begin with, sorta like they were searching for something or they didn't have a great self image, then they had sex and thought they had found the answer to their void.   It is also like taking that step into something you know you should not be doing, then once you do it, feel like, what the hay, I've already messed up, why stop now.  I admire you for staying a virgin. Save it for marriage, you will not regret it, but please don't marry just so you can have sex. (know what I mean?)
649114
sex is not everything that is true but having no sex even after marriage is something unnatural if that persistsmay lead to unwanted situaton if your partner feels the same only than it's ok
93762
I thik now a days it should not realy matter to waite till your married there is some men that do preffer a virgin rather than someone that has been with another man,but the woman is not always lucky do find a man that is a virgin. I think yo explre safe in life is not bad due to you only want to keep your marrige happy and know what he and you may both want intimatly.
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Why not ask my ex-wife who thought it would be better to go out with a 53 year old married man instead of working on our marriage.  (Just a little vent here, I'll feel better, LOL.)\n\nI do believe too many folks give up too easily, or don't really try at all, or have unrealistic expectations of what marriage offers. \n\nMarriage is not give and take, it is give.\n\nI don't recall anything in my vows that said I'll be there unless I'm not happy.  They were a pledge to be there, regardless of circumstance.\n\nToo many folks either don't take traditional vows, or don't really think they mean anything, given the numbers of divorced people today.\n\nI don't know how to help folks decide that they are going to try.  All it takes if for one of the partners to bail out for the marriage to be over. \n\nSo we can coach and coach, but if one partner is selfish and chooses affairs, or abuse, or abandonment and divorce over working through the issues, I really don't know how you can solve that.\n\nI certainly wanted to work on the issues, but was unable to convince my ex-wife that her affair with a married man was a worse solution than working on our marriage.\n\nAnd the courts and society at large seems to go right along with her line of thinking.  If you are unhappy, don't bother looking at yourself, blame your partner and find another seems to be the way things are done.\n\nI agree, often they will end up with the same problems because they too are part of the problem, but failed to address that aspect of it.\n\nYou can run away from your spouse, but you cannot run away from yourself.  So if you have things that you need to address about yourself, then do that BEFORE you choose an affair or divorce.