How do you deal with a 43 year old male virgin since I am a 50 year old female with experience?
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Am kind of in the same situation; I told my guy to google some porn and positions and let him experiment with me.\n\nThat way he can try everything out and doesn't feel under pressure.\n\nIn fact my guy learnt quite alot from the net; now you wouldn't even notice that I was the first person he slept with.
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Talk to him. tell him how you feel, and if he understands and respects your descisions then thats great! if he doesnt then good ridance! he's not worth it, and he's an as*hole for using you!\n\nBut for things to work out you need to stop having sex with anyone, you have to start loving and respecting yourself, being introduced to sex at young age must have been traumatic for you. \n\nif you like reading books, i seggest you find this book: Title-your past doesnt determine your future\nAuthor: Bo Sanchez\n\nhe has the same problems on what you have, this book is very cheap and so worth it.\n\nif it's not available at your place, give me your address and i can mail it to you, dont give your address on-line.\n\nif you want to talk to me, this is my email: lovesoulmandy@yahoo.com\n\ni've been through, what you've been through. but i overcame them.
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don't worry my dear you should be proud of yourself  bet there are not many young girls that can say that dont know how old you are but that is a very precious thing and you keep hold of it until the rite man comes along this world is full of young girls sleeping around and having  baby's that they don't want  and picking up infections so you don't have to worry and you don't have to be scared it  nothing to worry about its not the end of the world and when the rite man comes along it will be so special  so when you lose your virginity make sure its for the rite reason with the rite person don't let any one tell you any different  a man if he is a man will think more of you for not sleeping around so hold on to it  till the rite ti man comes along
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stay strong.   If he really loves you and just doesn't want another notch on his belt, he will honor your desire to keep your virginity until marriage.   What you can do to help is go out with other couples; do really active things together and change the subject.  You did not say how old you were nor how old he is.   But your desire to save your virginity until you are with the man you marry is really mature.   Is he ready for a life time committment for you?  If he is, get married and have sex forty times a day (ha, ha)  If he is not, then his pressing you for sex all the time shows he is more into getting something for himself than into caring what you are about. Kinda selfish, no?
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i was 18, we were together 4 years. hun, your body is not ready to have sex yet. and you know what, you can only lose your virginity once. it never comes back, you never have a second chance. if you have sex with this guy, i GUARANTEE you he will break up with you shortly afterwards. then, when you are older you meet the one, you get serious. you cannot lie and say you are a virgin, cause once you have sex he'll be able to tell. a man will respect you so much more if you hold out (in the long run). it's hard to tell whose the one to lose your virginity too the only way to make sure is to make them wait, and wait and wait. it will be worth it. i started dating my fiance at your age and made him wait 4 years. he has even told me if i would have given it up easy he wouldn't have respected me and we wouldn't still be together. people may pick on you but that's normal in school. i guarentee you these people picking on you are gonna end up with a std or pregnant before you get out of high school! another thing to look at... you start at 14.  even if  you have sex with people after 6 months to a year cause you feel so strong about them. now that doesn't work out because guys at this age are all about the sex and having it with as many girls as possible. that is 1 to 2 people a year you have sex with. no big deal to you now but imagine when your 25, 30! hun just do your self a favor, put your head in those books, become a strong independant woman and worry about the sex later. the emotional part of sex lasts longer. it takes minutes to lose your virginity and it may be something you regret the rest of your life.\nI am 21! i'm not old, just seen all my friends make the wrong decision and had to listen to them bitch about it all the time.
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I am a doctor and while having wild trouble with my wife, I decided to never be with here again.  I have 2 kids. A few months later, 4 to be exact, I started living with one of my patients, who is 40, and had a wild drive for me since 2 years ago. While being my patient nothing happened, but we started talking after I left my wife, never to return I thought. I lived with this woman for over a year, and that was the happiest time of my life. Nevertheless, my kids were having very serious trouble, and even though I did not wish to see my wife again, I decided to return to my kids and get them out of trouble. I will never stop loving my patient, she was the sweetest girl I've never known, but I cannot live happily with her while my kids are going down hill. I may be damned, but I need my kids to be OK for me to be happy, and they demand my presence. I could never feel happy while being with the woman I love while my kids are going through trouble. You being a virgin is not an issue to me, it should not be an issue to you, it should not be an issue for anybody loving you. What worries me is to find you left aside because this guy is married. I am not saying it is right or wrong, I am saying I doubt he will feel absolutely and sincerely happy with you while thinking about his kids. Been there, done that, don't go there, yo don't want to go there. You'll be happy for a while, and then you will know hell. Excuse my honesty, but I do not wish any human being to go through my experience. Hence I have the need to speak about it. And only anonimously. Take my word: you don't want this.\nPD: I am aged 46.
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Well if hes like this at 21 its not a big bright future is it? I have a suggestion on what you can do.If you want to get some of that built up sexual frustration off of you you need to find someone who can help you release & relax(always wear protection).If you want to remain frustrated & faithful buy a toy.If not dont cheat just tell him it wont work
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You are 23.Slow down, what does he want? You got 3 already! Arre you setting records!!!! Try something different where the focus is not on copulation.
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I'm 42, going on 43. I can honestly tell you, it could take \nany thing from 4 months to 1 year. It's possible the guy is shy or feels too busy, depending on time and location you see him. Try to get to him by expressing yourself to him, and or by expressing your self to someone close to him (perhaps his mother?).
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You've already gotten a lot of good (and bad) responses.\n\nThe key to any relationship is communication. And I think this is obviously where you think you have some problems. I assume you guys are comfortable talking about everything else. \n\nFor one, you need to talk to him. Pour your heart out and let him know where you stand. After 5 years, things do get stagnent. He may think your sex life with each other is fine where it is. You need to share with him your desire to spice it up.\n\nSometimes what holds a guy back is stress. If you have an opportunity, get a babysitter for the night/weekend, cook him a romantic dinner, turn off the phones, play some relaxing music, and talk the night away. Give him a back massage. Let him know he is loved and that he's appreciated. Ask him what he would like in your sexual relationship from you, to spice things up. \n\nBring up some options: Role Play. Having sex in a different part of the house (having sex in the same bed for 5 years can get old). Getting dressed up. Watch a porno together. Have sex with the window shades open. Turn up some music. Turn off the TV. Candles. Clean sheets. Go dancing. Go on vacation. Go to a Bed & Breakfast. Go to the beach. \n\nI've also seen a statistic once out of Europe that found that men find their partners more attractive when the household chores have been done. This maybe more related to stress.\n\nThere is sooo much you can do to help spice up a sexual relationship, that I think you should make the first move.\n\nAlso, don't make him feel bad for any fantasies he has. He's a guy. Sometimes you can even play into his fantasy. If he wants to have a 3rd party, but you don't, then by all means do not. But you can pretend:\nOne night, while you guys are about to have sex. Undress him completly. Tie his hands to the bed post and blindfold him. Once you've done that, tell him that you have a surprise for him. Tell him you've invited a female friend over to join the two of you, but she doesn't want him to known who it is, so he must keep the blindfold on. Pay a neighboorhood kid a dollar to ring your doorbell. When it rings, cover him up in a sheet, and tell him to keep the blindfold on.\nThen you get changed into a lingerie, put on some different perfume, put on makeup, change your hairstyle, etc. Go to the bedroom and tell him you're letting your friend in and that you just want to watch. When touching him, change your style. Have fun. Remember, the brain is the largest sex organ.\n\nOnce you've gone through some sort of process to spice things for him, tell him your fantasies you'd like for him to help fulfill.\n\nBest of luck to you. If nothing else, just remember to "talk".
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Just be yourself, and it sounds to me like you are trying to go somewhere that you are not ready to go! Any guy that makes you worry that you will be called an inexperienced  "anything" you should just stay away from. There is something to be said about a young woman who is brave enough not to have casual sex just to be what you call "cool"  You have your whole life ahead of you I hope you think about what you "should do" rather than you "have to do"   My motto in life is if you are unsure of what to do ....dont do anything!
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Considering your typing style and use of slang, I'm going to guess you arn't actually a 64 year old (wow, that was hard).\n\nHowever, if a 64 year old man was interested in an 18 year old girl, I would tell him this:  Dream on, she isn't going to be attracted to you, unless your wallet is very very fat!
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I AM A VIRGIN FOR 16 YEARS
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i am 21 also and i am a virgin.  I just broke up with my boyfriend who thought he could change my mind about sex, when i made it clear to him that i wasnt looking for a sexual relationship.  i am a strong independant woman, that is my personality
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I have never made sex in 43 years.
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No. I'm not a virgin. I lost my virginity at 15. It was not a good experience. I was with someone I loved, someone I'm still with to this day (over a year later). But I wasn't ready. In truth, I didn't really know what was happening until it was too late. Don't get me wrong, I knew what sex was. I just didn't know we were going to have it. Lol. I felt pressured. He was 18 and extremely experienced. And when I say extremely, I mean he'd been with 33 girls before me. I also didn't like the WAY it happened. There were no candles, no soft music. Just a movie playing. And it was rushed and tense because my grandparents were in the other room. So if you're thinking about having sex for the first time, loving the person's not the only thing you have to worry about. Make sure you're completely comfortable with the idea. Make sure you're alone and you use protection. (Which I didn't.) Plan ahead of time. And make it special. Remember, you only get one first time.
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it all depends on who we are. A virgin man is probably going to want a virgin woman. The awkwardness of that first time is a great occasion to be remembered. Once you get used to each other sexually then things get easier.you do have to remember to talk to each other about what feels good and what doesnt. I'm 34 and not a virgin by a longshot so my personal preference is for a woman that is experienced somewhat, even if she has children