how do I get rid of a narcissistic woman that has had an affair with my husband?
467124
Kick your cheating husband out of the house, and tell him to go live with her.
1063192
You may never regain the trust she had for you. You can suggest counselling and also don't try to rush it. You have a lot of bad marks against you and really need to prove yourself to her. Also have you thought about what will happen if you get back with her? What made you get into the affair in the same place? Will this reoccurring bad behavior surface again. I'm don't deny that she loves you but just doesn't want to go through the pain of betrayl again. Take some time and get your priorities straight. Good luck
937529
next step is to destroy her engagement :)
259848
Stop getting any further, Love your wife and honor her. No good will come of an affair.
989389
You could always report them to INS (Immigration and Naturalization Services) if they are here illegally.  As far as your marriage goes, your HUSBAND broke up your marriage, not the other woman. Don't forget that.
168527
Throw away anything he has of hers that is a memory for him. Tell him you are with him now & she shouldn't be on his mind so much anymore.
1099557
Be nice to her, but you don't have to be friends.\nHer Ex is YOUR husband and not hers anymore.\nWhy is she still hanging around?\nShe is intruding on on your marriage.\nKeep her at a distance and ask your husband\nwhy he still needs her?\nBe civil and polite but do not make her to comfortable\nin your` life.\nThe things she said to you and about you to others\nare still in her head. Even if she has apologized, she \nshould get her own life and let the two of get on with yours.
455187
I hate to say this, as I am from a poisonous family, too, but the rot starts at the root. The first thing you have to do is get away from everyone and sort yourself out. That means cutting everyone off. Good and bad. It's like a drug addiction. A heroine addict can't get off the junk and live in the same neighborhood. \n\nFirst step is move away. Get a new home, apartment, tent, whatever. Get a new phone number and e-mail address. When these folks contact you, and they will, tell them very politely, that you need to straighten out your life for a while and that you will contact them when you are able to.\n\nStep two. When you have made a clean break, seek professional help. You cannot do this alone. You have been part of a disfunctional, abusive cycle probably your whole life. Time to end it. \n\nStep three. You'll know what to do when you get there and no one can tell you what it is or how to do it. It's a little different for all of us.\n\nI began at step two and went to step one and back to step two and bounced around like a ping-pong ball. Now I'm ready for step three. Good luck to you. I hope you are as successful in your journey and adventure as I have been in mine.
151641
If he has shown no repentance you can seperate yourself from him for a while. But if you have no proof you need to be very careful. If you suspect he has done this there are probably other deceitful things going on as well that feed the suspicion. If he has not admitted it you need to focus more on the things that you do know and search yourself for you wrongdoings as well. Ask him if you have wronged him in a way that has made him pull away from you. I highly suggest the book "love and respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerich. This book has been a marriage saver for many. \n\nIf in fact your husband has been outside of the marriage you have the right to divorce. But Jesus wants us to try to make it work anyway. If we can show forgiveness in that sort of situation then we can begin to understand the forgiveness he has for us.\n\nAre there children involved? You kids are learning how to treat people and handle situations based on how you and your husband do these things. Pretend for a moment that your daughter was in the situation you are in now. What would you advise her to do? Or maybe even pretend that your daughter in law came to you with the suspicion that your son was cheating on her. What would you advice your daughter inlaw do do about your son? Looking at it like this helps put things in perspective. \n\nAlso the most important thing to do is PRAY. Ask God for guidance. Try to pray with your husband. I will pray for you now.\n\nDear Heavenly Father,\n\nLord I bring this situation to you in humble prayer and inquisition. May you shine a light here in the darkness. May you guide this woman on what to do. Let her hear your words and obey. I pray that you convict her husband and bring him to repentance. May this couple see the significance their marriage has. And how marriage is a holy union to represent the Christ/Church relationship. May you wipe away the tears and give strength here. Lord let us remember the forgiveness you have as well as the wrath. Bless this womans search and may her efforts be pleasing in your sight. In Jesus's name. Amen
500699
Yeah...it sounds familiar ...I have an ex who tried the same...basically you have to set boundaries as it's not appropriate for him to visit you given his feelings and the fact that you're committed to another man. Tell him to use the phone or mail to communicate but don't expect him to go away -it's been 18 years since my ex has been doing this but as he's basically harmless I haven't really cared. The important thing is -is your ex harmless? Or is he someone who may act on his obsession? Finally I want to say -be sure you're not sending mixed signals...I've seen too many women not be clear about their wishes only to whine or press charges later when it's their fault for not being direct in the first place! Be honest with him and tell him to scram! There's my advice...I hope you take it! Edit~ I got your mail....If you hate him as you say AND HE HAS 'HURT YOU SO BAD' then why are you putting up with him then? Get a restraining order! Call the police and file a complaint and ask them to tell him to stay away! I thought maybe you still liked him on some level but since that's not the case you need to be pro active! Don't sit here on yahoo talking about it-do something about it -and I mean right now-today! Make sure you don't regret not doing anything!!!!!!!!! Everyday you let this go on-you encourage him more, and give him hope and he will become more relentless! You have been warned!
837499
I agree with newromaticmum  \nJust keep it up, you want to get rid of her, thats the thing to do.
103407
Have enough self respect to remove that person from your life.  Kick it to the curb because deceipt DOES NOT enhance your life and if you believe it will not happen again.....then you're not being honest or truthful to yourself!!
212373
I thank you for the quick reply, but you did read it cafefully, I never ever cheated on her! I lyed and stole from her, she says she still loves me and I'm truely hate myself for what i've done to her and our marriage. I love with so much love I would do anything to save this. But i'm here doin this myself lookin for alittle help. thank you!
134613
Tell him you are sorry and that you will never do that kind of a thing again. Never involve yourself with married people. Think about it this way. What if someone else interfered in you blissful marriage and spoilt it. Ask for her forgiveness and stay clear from such entanglements.
823996
As long as there are people brain washing her and telling her bad things about you she probably wont come around. You know your a good mother it sounds like your ex needs to find a hobby and quit trying to ruin the relationship between you and your daughter. I havent ever been through this but if my husband were to ever turn our daughter against me it would just break in two. My daughter is my every dream come true and I cant even imagine how things are for you right now. I hope that she doesnt listen to all this garbage thats been said about you and hopefully she will start contacting you again good luck.
438894
You don't need to know what's on her mind .You need to get out of this situation as fast as you can. She is married w/a kid and you are in a no-win deal. Her husband is going to have to deal with her and her issues and you don't really have a dog in this fight.The sex might be good,but this woman has more baggage than a cargo terminal.Recipe for disaster,my friend.
167870
I agree with you and you have a very good reason to be upset about it.  A couple things you can do is get a lawyer and see what your options are with this.  There should be a legal route to stop this because it does sound like it constitue harrassment.\n\nBut your husband needs to draw the line with her and make it clear that this behaviour is unacceptable. Keep telling him what this is doing to you and maybe it will stick.  Also,you may want to go to a marriage counciler.  That could help you work your way through it.