Where have our manners gone?
472517
Because, these are the new days. Welcome to the McMahon-Helmsley Era.
647312
Not at all. As a matter of fact, I learnt manners as I grew up- from my parents and my teachers in school and my seniors. I taught them to my kids and we are a happy well mannered family. Though I do lose my temper when I see someone littering or being crass, and I do yell. But that is me.
1136262
No one says "excuse me", "thank you" or "I'm sorry" anymore. Especially children. It is almost as if parents feel that common courtesy is too old fashioned.
381044
Yes and chivalry is dead!!!\n\nI'm trying my hardest to teach my two year old to say "firefighter" or "police officer" or "mail carrier".  It's hard b/c when I was growing up, they were "fireman" and "policeman" and "mailman".  Oh, and God forbid you call a "flight attendant" a "stewardess".
701147
Used to.  Not much anymore
1044515
people just aren't kind anymore. from what i've seen the shit is flying both ways.
1005747
Yes and I have atleast a dozen or so more pet peeves. People are getting ruder, more selfish and sometimes downright mean. Few have manners. It makes me crazy.
1069785
yes they say manners and etiquette's are to be taught by parents they also have to teach what's good and bad they are also supposed to teach or inculcate moral values to their children hence a small mistake on our part lets the hell breaks loose on the family in general and parents in particular this is annoying but this is way of life and the society\nsometimes a person has to face the wrath of the society for no rhyme and reason but just because a person was there at the time of incidence
950912
That's not an easy question and probably won't have a definitive answer.\nI thoroughly enjoy some aspects of life in America and the world.\nknowledge and information are abundant and easily accessible.\n\nWe can see and understand far more now than we could decades ago.\n\nOn the other hand, there are many things that we have lost over time. I believe it has been said that our technology has out-paced our ethics or morality.\n\nA handshake used to be worth something. We actually new and talked to our neighbors. And most telling of all, we could walk and drive and generally function without a cell phone growing out of our ears.\n\nDo I like how America is right now, mmmm, hmmm yes and no.\n\nBy the way, I'm a baby boomer.
284438
what i am not liking now is that people are becoming more and more numb to what is happening around us. We are losing our values so long as we go to the "popular" masses.\nwhat were tabooed before are now being accepted as the right thing. \nConsult your bible...nothing has changed!!!
788300
What died and made them rulers of the social world? It's still poliet to be polite. Keep on doing it, you'll find someone who enjoys it--and might just be polite back!!
248211
Etiquette is pretty much out the window. I blame it on the deterioration of the family. I don't know if this is a problem in other places, but in the US it_is!\n\nOur society has become one of survival of the fittest. Many families cannot survive without both parents working and that leaves our children at home alone to fend for themselves and everyone thinks they'll turn out OK. This just isn't true. Children learn from example and if there is no example there is nothing to learn from. \n\nI was standing in a convenience store line one morning and was next in line. This woman came up and got in line behind me. She had her teenage (about 15 or so) son with her and told him to get what he wanted and get in line. The boy came to the counter just as it was my turn and pushed past his mother to get to the counter. She said nothing. He then tried to get in front of me by giving me a little shove with his shoulder. It was the straw that broke the camel's back with me. I don't accept that kind of treatment from anyone and I certainly don't take it from a child, even with his mother standing behind me. I stood my ground and told the boy to get in his place in line with his mother. He called me a rude name and I let him have it. I told the kid that he was being rude and I thought he owed his mother an apology for the way he acted and he owed me an apology, too. He looked dumbfounded and began to lash out at me. He called me an FB (I'll leave that to your imagination), but never got another word out. He was pinned up against a wall in short order and being read his rights. Not by me, as much as I wanted to, I never got the chance. His Mother. She read him the riot act, put him in his place and then sent him to the car. She then turned to me and said Thank you. I was perplexed. She then told me she had been taking this mess from her son for a while because she felt guilty about not being able to spend time with him because she worked so much. She then told me that my response to her son was what sent her over the edge. She had not realized, until I told the kid off, how bad his manners had become. She really thought he only acted that way towards her and assumed he did all the right things out in public. She thanked me again and went on her way.\n\nParents have to teach their children, not only by example, but by being a part of their lives and talking to them. It is difficult but necessary. These are the adults of the future that are being shaped and formed. If they don't learn it in the first place it won't be there in the end and there will be no one to teach the next generation.
402343
Because alot of people these days don't have manners to begin with, and the relative anonymity of the internet seems to give them license to say all kinds of rude and foul things. :(
129884
Ah, a question after my own heart.  Miss Manners laments the "to each his own" mentality that dominates the way in which we behave in the presence of others and the lack of dignity we grant for ourselves.\n\n{Additional notes} When Miss Manners read this question she was not thinking of comparing Americans with people in other countries.  She was considering the present-day situation which pervades not only American culture, but also around the world.\n\nThe questioner gave a present-day example, and therefore Miss Manners had in mind present-day observances that compare to times past.
427431
Morals went out with "respect your elders". That is now a joke to youngsters.
539314
Our society's 'etiquette' now leans towards 'not being racist' as the ideal. In past generations this has not been the case, and it's only been a few years, really, since segregation was the norm. It's 'hip' to be non-racist, and those who ARE racist know this and do what they have to in order to fit in to our society. It's almost scarier than blatent racism, because you don't know it's fermenting inside of some people unless you're really observant. However, 'among their own'...whatever and wherever that is, racists carry on with their racist jokes, and hatred. \n\nIn the past, racists were the norm could display their racism freely and without scorn, but now, only a couple of generations later, their children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren who choose to follow the tradition of hatred towards those with different skin than their own, must do it in secret or be ostracized. Not only that, there are laws now that we didn't used to have. In most work places today, to admit and freely display one's racism would cost a person their job. \n\nIt's going to take generations upon generations to even make a dent in the mindset passed down by racists of the past. The more we model non-racism, and the more we inform them, and the more we display our acceptance of ALL of us on this planet, the more likely racists will be to 'come around' and join us, and if they don't, their children probably will in spite of them. \n\nYour question is a good one. Those who respond like a hammer missed your emotion completely. Good day to you! :o)
125359
Say please. Where are your manners? Your teacher can demand answers. You can not.