Why do I have no desire for sex?
467734
You may have something going on with yourself. When some people acquire the dreadful disease of high blood or diabetes, their sex life changes, especially if this occurrence is sudden. Get your self check out, talk to your doctor about this and don't be ashamed to ask question.
150323
i don't know exactly what casues it. it might be different for each person. but for me it was becasue i was rapped and then the first time that i had consentual sex he didn't know what he was doing and he went to fast and hurt me too much. so i think that is why now i have no sex drive. but it might in her case not be that drastic. some people jsut don't like having sex. there is no reason to be concerned. or maybe she just hasn't found what she likes yet.
692066
Typically, exhaustion is the most common cause of low libido -- poor or disrupted sleep and having the little one(s) climbing on you all day leaves you drained.  Another issue can be the physical changes in your body, especially if you've gained weight; it's hard to feel attractive! Yes, breastfeeding releases hormones that might lower your sex drive, and I felt like my breasts were there to nurture my baby, not to entertain my man, so that didn't help, either.  \n\nWhen I was in that stage of my life, the best foreplay was if my husband took our son out for a while so I could nap.  The more balanced the give-and-take is in the relationship, the better it will return to healthy intimate activities.  \n\nYou both need to realize that there will be times when the physical passion will be less than spectacular -- like everything else, there are highs and lows.  The reason for the low point right now is your baby, who is a high point in other areas of your lives.  Focusing on being there for the beautiful life that was created by your love should keep you emotionally close even when you don't have much physical desire.\n\nCommunicate openly with each other and trust the process that many generations have gone through before you -- hang in there!
469316
I'm not sure that you are actually longing for the physical act of intercourse.  It may be that you are longing for the closeness and attention that sex can provide.
196073
GOOD FOR YOU!!!!   Don't deny your sexuality.  There is NOTHING wrong with you.  There is something wrong with our society if we think it is wrong to have a sex drive when you aer old.  KEEP FEEDING THOSE DESIRES!!!
895474
Stress is the #1 cause of this...  The best way to help is to exercise and maintain a healthy diet, and make sure you are getting plenty of sleep.  They say you should force yourself to have sex as much as possible, since the more you have it the more you want it...you somewhat have to retrain your brain!
965416
try asking her if she was being put off by something you did.. or try to arouse her interest by touching her sensual parts lightly.. or try not asking her for some time. Show more care for her even when you don't intend to have sex.. sometimes, she just feels uncared for and thus has no interest in sex \n\nTry having a romantic time out or staying home to build up sexual interest.. \n\nyou could also offer to accompany her for a doctor's appointment to show that you really care for her well-being than to just be interested in sex.
691691
Depression and devastation can cause hindrance sexually and easily causes one to be less sexual. You may want to talk to someone professional, like a therapist, because I think it could be mentally linked.
950981
I partially agree with that opening statement about sex not being the problem. If sex is motivated purely by lust with no feeling or intimacy then lust becomes the problematic instigator and sex is the resulting perversion of the mind and body. Lust is the real problem, not so much the sex.
627370
People are giving you answers to two questions.\n\nSome people are telling you no one has to have sex.  That is true.  Celibacy has always been around -- some religions are very keen on it.  So, a person can choose not to have sex.  I could choose not to have sex with my partner, I could even choose to force myself to have sex with a female.  It makes my physically ill, but I could force the issue, at least I think I could.  Likewise, a heterosexual could force himself to have sex with another man. He could choose not to have sex with women.  In NEITHER CASE would the person change.  the homosexual would still be homosexual, the heterosexual would still be heterosexual.  What they would be doing would in both cases be unnatural for them.  But they could choose.\n\nThen there is the question of choosing how you feel.  No, there is no choice there except for bisexuals.  I have never found a single woman even vaguely attractive sexually.  I get along with women well enough, though the vast majority of my friennds are straight males.  I've had the same male lover for nearly 15 years, but I still notice other males, I just choose not to have sex with them (back to that choice thing again, in this case the same choice a straight man in a committed relationship makes).  \n\nNo one knows the reasons for this, it may be a cocktail of reasons, or  it may be genetic, or chemo-genetic -- both the eyeblink logitudnal study and the pheremonal response study imply that it is one or the other. What it is not is environmental.\n\nAs for our friend who thinks he turned gay because he wanted to see a penis at 6.  I think you feel guilty inside for being gay, and you concocted that as an excuse.  I saw penises and vaginas all my life -- my family was not big on modesty inside our home, and it was no big deal.  However, I began to realize what I liked by 8 and fully understood it was sexual by 11.  So you were interested in penises earlier, as I was - and then you realized what it meant at 10 -- not that much different from me, but without the self-acceptance and family support -- therefore, instead of realizing that it was self-recongition, you make it into a cause.  It isn't, you were not born straight.\n\nIf people have questions do not hesitate to email me.\n\nRegards,\n\nReynolds Jones\nSchenectady, NY\nhttp://www.rebuff.org\nbelieveinyou24@yahoo.com
215636
Exercise, eat better (less fat and processed foods), and see your doctor to have your testosterone levels checked if that doesn't seem to be helping.  \n\nAlso, don't let yourself get too stresed out about it, stress can just knock your sex drive down to nothing, and you can get stuck in a vicious circle where worrying about your low sex drive keeps it low.  If that is the case, try meditation or talk to a therapist.  \n\nSome people have a low libido because of internalized issues or stereotypes they have about sex.  If you think that is you, talk to a therapist about it.  Our culture feeds people some weird and inaccurate information about sex and what is "normal" and that sometimes causes people to freak if they don't live up to that unattainable norm.
218527
There could be many reasons for lack of sex drive...both medical and physical. In your case, as you mention, "equipment works fine" (I have that problem with exercise..the equipment works, I don't want to do it..LOL)...but you could suffer from depression, have stress in your life (some of which you may not even realize) and medically, it could be hormonal, a side effect of an illness such as diabetes that you may not be aware of. There are lots of reasons and only your doctor could tell you exactly what it may or may not be. Good luck!
772393
Communicate is the best aphrodisiac, I had this problem too. wasn't very interested in sex. I just had lot's on my mind and issues. but once we were able to communicate honestly (so I thought), things got really great.   best sex ever.
278947
Yes of course. Why would you ever want to have sex with someone you didn't love? I have loved every woman I have ever been with. I think love without sex is much much better then sex without love. Hope you find what you are looking for either way.
1099406
Sheesh!\nYou need to abstain from sex if it is draining the life force out of you.\nYou've got to stop enjoying yourself so much and start navigating this hell we call our lives. \nSmarten up and get happy, damnit!
1047133
i dont....i just want sex
1042523
Because you are having it for the wrong reasons, simply put, you may not be as ready as you pretend to be even though you enjoy it physically.  \n\nPerhaps you are allowing yourself to be persuading into having sex so you are just doing it for the sake of doing it but it lack the emotional or psychological rewards. \n\nSometimes the body and they psyche are not always in sync. Your body may crave the touch but your mind is simply not ready for it so it becomes emotionally and psychologically taxing. In short, you are disconnected.