what are the odds  that a man 19 years older than me would leave his wife if I left my husband.  Can this work
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HI i am new to this site and found your question. I was in the same situation. I was 27 and my "friend" was 47. I too was married. He was also the same. I got enough courage and left my husband. It was a very trying time. I knew that I didn't want to be around my husband anymore.But I was very unsure of my possiable future with my friend. Eventually after a period of 2 years he finally left his wife. You can make anything work if you want it bad enough. if you love this man, try it.. see where it leads to. I am still with my friend,hopefully maybe marriage someday. You have to be patient! and very understanding. He can only leave his situation when he is sure that he is ready.I wish you nothing but a life of happiness .. because in reality that is what everyone is seeking.And as far as someone writing in that you are sick and need help, makes me sick. To the person that wrote that must be a very cold hearted lonely person that knows nothing of love, because he is uncapable of loving anyone.Keep your head up girl.And let me know how this turns out.
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it is definitely not the right thing.  he is married.  if if he gives you the time of day, he is still married. 9 times out of ten he is not going to leave his wife. and if he does what goes around comes around. it would probably happen to you. find you a single man.  you don't want to be second. you deserve better.
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I am 27 and my husband is 47. We've been extremely happily married for 1 year. You can expect to have some arguments because you are older and set in your ways and you have to understand she's not. But that doesn't mean it can't work. You'll both have to know when to cut each other some slack and remember what's most important.
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You deserve much better than that, honey.  I know after 10 years it would be hard to leave, but that might be what you need to do.  One of two things could happen...you could possibly move on and find a much better life, or you husband would realize just how much he's lost after you are gone and come running back.  Either way, you should do something.  You can't just sit around and let your husband think that his actions aren't affecting you.\nGood luck with whatever you decide and stay strong!
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I have been married 27 years going on 28.  Ihave never cheated ad never will since my wife is my best friend and soulmate.  It may sound old fasioned but it works for us.
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it probably could..... follows the 3 year rule...(no more than a 3 year age difference)
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about a zillion to one. Married men never leave their wives. You are allowing him to have his cake and eat it too if you are cheating with him.  Just remember he is getting something from you that his wife is not giving him.  If he would cheat with you on her what makes you think you are so special that he would not do the same to you if in fact he did leave his wife? How would you like to be his wife. Just remember what what comes around goes around. Never date a married man. That is so wrong. They will tell you anything your little heart desires in order to get laid. Trust me I know.  That is wrong on so many levels.
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I was married to a man 22yrs older than me.  We divorced, through no fault of his, because I was young and wanted to party.  He has since died, but I'd give up everything to have him back again.. I'm 59 and he would be 81 this year.  I miss him very much and still love him.
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Ma'am I know you are in love and that this will be hard to hear but, you will be waiting a lot longer than four years. If he has not left his wife yet, he never will.\nHe may have lots of reasons why he hasn't and may even tell you when he will divorce....but, bottom line is......... if he didn't love her and wanted to be with you, he would have left by now. You are worthy of having real true love with a man that does not have to be shared.
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If you have the same interests and physical fitness levels it might work.  Just know that statistically you're going to be left alone because his life span will be considerably shorter than yours.
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Any man that just left his wife and 2 kids isn't in ANY place to be wanting it to last.  Even though you might, and he probably says pretty words, why would you WANT to stay with a man that is still married- therefore cheating on his wife with you?  Does SHE know he's already moved on?  It seems like he moved straight from her bed to your bed- why would YOU want that?  What about his kids?  Be the bigger person and wait until the divorce is final.  Divorce is messy enough without additional people thrown into the mix.  If it's true love he'll still be around then- and his kids will be able to respect you.  If not, you have your answer.
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my husband is 8 yrs younger than me and we are happy...I hope we always are. Been married for 3 yrs now. He is my second husband. My first was right out of high school, had one kid and 11 yrs of marriage. If you ask me my first husband was immature, cruel and mean and he was 5 yrs older than me....I wouldnt trade my current husband for an older man or any man for that matter. Im 37 and he is 29 and i am so lucky to have that...i guess its different with everyone but just because they are younger doesnt mean they do drugs and alcohol;they can do that too if they are older...
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Well yes it is possible to love and have a happy marriage at 19.  I met my husband when I was 16 and we married when I was 19.  We have been happy togather nearly 10 yrs.  I caution you though,  It isnt easy and most people who get married young and have kids as young as I did get divorced and are miserable.  The odd's are against you.  \n\nI knew in my heart that I was making the right choice. I gave up a lot though.  I never finished school yet.  I never had a good job yet.  Money is not something that we really have any of.  If I had waited, I would have finished school and had money.  But I would have missed my chance to marry my husband.\n\nLife is a gamble, no one knows how things will work out.  I say think things through, search your heart and know in your heart that your making the right choice and go for it.  Dont let any one stop you.  And that applies to all things in life, not just kids and marriage.  You make your own decisions in life so start making em and never look back.  Just go for your hearts desire.
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I can`t tell you about your relationship,but I am a married man and have been separated for over a year,I am in a relationship with a much younger lady and I would get a divorce now if I thought she would have me.But I know that it would be too much to ask of her,with our age.\nLazyman614@yahoo.com
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DANGER, WILL ROBINSON.\nDo not do it.  Look for an available (read unattached) man.  \n\nHe may cheat with you, and find you the most facinating creature on earth.  He may treat you like a Goddess and tell you that he can't live without you, that you are the love of his life. \n\nHe felt this way about his wife, once too.   He loved her so much he married her and had kids with her.  \n\nIf you do intice him to cheat, how can you ever have anything real in the future? Even if he does leave his wife and kids.  There can & will NEVER be trust between you because look how it started.  \nStay away.
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If you love someone a job does not stay in the way of your marriage.*\n\nStay and give him this option of now or never.\n\nThe older we get the less desirable we get so getting or soul-mates young are better than being older three years your 28 and if he puts it off again.\n\nYou could be in your 30's and than what.\n\nMay dad told me this when is was around your age.\n\n( Of course he was playing telling me if i waited till i was 50 than i would be looking for a wife around 50 years old also ). \nSomehow dad had a why of putting things that made sense but he went way around the bush to get there.\n\nThat's because he did not like making my choices but he let me know in away he was there to show me a direction of my choice.
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Trust me at 19 you are gonna wish you had dated more, i was in a similar situation.  They guy and I dated for 4 or  rs although he was a good guy there was no motivation or goals I found out on my own and ended up leaving him for someone else. You have to ask what is your future with that person and is your family going o ever accept him?