This is for all you selfish guys out there...if you were going through a divorce, would you date??
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Sellfish? why it's sellfish? There is a divorce in between and is for a reason. Whether is his fault or her fault, there is nothing wrong with moving on. I dont encourage nor support cheating but if there is a divorce in between that means the is no relationship anymore. \nI would let her get to know me first before saying I am divorced.
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I had feelings for my ex after our divorce too.  I think it was a comfort thing.  No one knew me like he did.  But, as time passed I began to remember the reasons why I filed for divorce.  They certainly out weighed my fantasies of having a reunion.  Let time pass.  There are so many other singles out there that have been through the same thing.
414753
you need to divorce him...NOW!!!!
190983
Your question is a little vague - his family problems or yours?  Regardless, I'd view this as a sign.  A break up during dating can cause some emotional pain, but a divorce is even more devastating, when your property can become a target, as well as time with your kids (custody battles).  You may benefit by at least keeping your options open with other guys - one who may honor the phrase "for better or for worse"...
440331
No, not me.  I am married and have kids.  I wouldn't play games with other people either.  I'm a good guy....at least I feel like I am. It would be horrible to meet someone to find out later that they are married. I wouldn't do that to someone.
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Two weeks is a short time.   I have been separated for two years now and my divorce should be finalized in two weeks.  LOL... it is always two weeks.  I still don't feel ready to date yet, but I am.  What ya gonna do?  Turn down people when they ask you?  Where have I met people, lets see... at the grocery store check out lane, at the car dealer waiting for my Van to be repaired, at Johnny's New York Style Pizza parlor, my neighbor, on yahoo... gosh, everywhere.  Only go out tho when you are ready.  I worried for the longest time that I just wanted to go out with guys to prove that guys would still find me attractive.
833279
Great to be happy. :D  And remember, why do break-ups and divorces exist anyway?  It's like you've forgotten why you fell in love in the first place. *nods*
464203
Hey, you know, I am kind of in the same boat as you are, except for I have pretty much gone through having to hear my ex-husband cry to me every single time that I spoke with him to let me know how much is missed me.  I have two young boys with him, and believe me, it has been really hard, but thanks to my dear boyfriend who I now love a lot I have made it through.  I have been thinking about living with my boyfriend too, as my divorce will be in June, but it seems like I can't wait that long.  I don't know, but I just know that women seem to want things done much quicker and we don't like to wait to get what we want.  I would say to do what your heart tells you to do.
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Well, of course your going to feel this way. Having someone take advantage of your good nature would naturally scorn anyone's soul and heart. How long has it been since the divorce? Your just going to have to have time to heal. I would suggest though going out to put your mind at ease, but don't rush into another relationship quite fast.  Trust is something your going to just have to build with women again. Look back at your ex-wife were there signs that she was out for just money? If so use those signs to your advantage and beware of such signs in future relationships. DON'T EVER TELL SOMEONE YOUR DATING THAT SHE WAS A GOLD DIGGER. This may lead them to believe you could easily manipulated and taken advantaged of regardless of how long the marriage was. Simply say it was mutual and you rather not discuss it. Besides it's no body's business regardless of whom your dating or not. If there were no signs then be even more aware don't be to harsh w/ us women NOT all of us are out for money. I will pray for you strength to get back on your feet. You pray for a good Christian woman to come into your life and to be able to learn to trust again. Good Luck & God Bless. When you decide to become involved with someone again don't continue to be on the defensive either. You choose to date the woman so give her a chance, but just be aware of signs. Trust her, until you have proven it to be other wise or it's broke.  Don't allow your insecurity from a previous relationship or your ex-wife to ruin your chance for happiness.
748148
I divorced somebody like you lolol....good luck in your life
38385
i would forgive the 1st time, afterall we're married, no matter how long he has been doing it...we gotta work it out for our kids, right? it would take time to 4get things, though...he does it the 2nd time & bam! he's out the door.
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I have been through a similar experience. Just over a year ago the guy who I had planned on marrying & I decided to part ways. Even though it was mutual I had a really hard time moving on. I started dating again right away, but soon realized that in the process of dating my ex I had lost track of who I really was, therefore all the guys I dated after him; I was dating for the wrong reasons. I don't know if that makes sense, but I decided that I had to "date myself" first before I was ready to hit the dating scene again. \n\nAbout 4 or 5 months ago I came across this book: Single "The art of being satisfied, fulfilled, and independent". by Judy Ford  It really opened my eyes as to how I was living my life. It's okay to grieve & find yourself before hitting the dating scene again. I've taken a sabatical from dating & have never been happier. I have more guy friends than I have ever had before & they are teaching me what I really want in a guy.\n\nMaybe you're not ready for the whole dating thing yet, but that shouldn't stop you from getting to know this great guy. It sounds like you two are building a friendship, & friendship is so important when trying to rediscover yourself. Just be totally honest with yourself & do some soul searching ... you'll be surprised by all you don't know about yourself.
374691
divorce your wife!! Beat his AZZ!!
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personally i would say no, you hardly know him after 3 months, trust me i speak from personal experience (yes i did end up divorced) you will still be in the infatuation stage of your relationship, wait a year or two then think about it for a while but rely on your own instincts not on anyone elses opinion. It is you that will have to live with the decision for the rest of your life (hopefully). Just for the record I have been married to my second wife for six years and we have two great kids and no regrets!
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hunni, where were you when i was single.....hmmm might have to look you up if i ever get divorced....lol
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"Desperation is a stinky cologne"... I was desperate about 3 years ago.  It was the ugliest thing you ever saw.  Divorce is always ugly... but let me tell you that if a woman has made up her mind about a divorce... its made up.  To make it worse, she decided a long time before she actually told you so it's set in her mind and it won't be undone.  My ex told me we wouldn't be getting divorced if had done this or hadn't done that and the more I worked on those things... the angrier she became.  Why, because she made up her mind a long time ago and and she doesn't want you screwing up her justifications.  Let her go do what ever she is going to do and you just work on getting back to God... because that could be all that saves you from doing "something very stupid"... I can hear it in your voice.  I could go on, but I really just want to answer the question you posed "what to do when my wife loves another and kicks me out but i still love her?"... You have to pray for God to show you what he wants you to get out of this and to pray for her and the well being of your children.  Don't worry about her love right now... just God's and you will be in a much better place a year or so from now.
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Forbidden fruit. Would you feel the same way about a particular married man if he suddenly got divorced and became available?