my best friend is gay but he keeps on trying to have sex with me what do i do?
456843
hmmm...personally, i'd guess that he's not gay.  I'd say that he's either bisexual, or he's playing that angle to get you to be more relaxed, more comfortable around him, so the transition to a relationship would be easier and less awkward.  It might not work, but that would be my conclusion regarding the whole sitch.
990533
He's gay.  Just kidding.  Does he know that you want to?  Maybe he is scared because he isn't sure if thats what you want and he doesn't want to lose you.  You should ask him WHY don't we have sex.  Start the conversation, you never know what you'll find out until you try.  Good luck.
503723
As long as he still consider it in his dreams, I think it's okay.\n\nC'mon... he's your best friend! Just tell him that you don't like the idea in his head, and tell him to stop thinking about it if he still wants to have a good relationship between both of you.\n\nIt's natural for him to have feeling for you since he probably knows you better than most people, that he feel something sexual for you. But that thoughts can sometime arose from a thing called loneliness.\n\nTalk to him, and tell him that you didn't liek the idea, and that his weird thought might endanger your friendship. Tell him that you'll still be his friend even if he's gay, but there's still a line you need to draw to avoid the worst possibility in your friendship.
971152
Don't look at from a point of view that you found out he is gay that is only going to confuse you more.  Look at the bigger picture he has lied, and has betrayed your trust.  I would at least talk to him some more see if he opens up, and if that fails miserably (which I am sure it will, but at least you tried) dump him.  No one should ever be lied to in a relationship no matter what the sexual prefrance.  When in a committed relationship it should mean that you are committed to that partner, and trust is the standard foundation when that is gone so is the relationship.
1027778
If he is gay, the only way to stop him from being gay is to Kill him.  That is the only way.  You might be able to terrorize him into pretending to be straight, but he'll still be gay.\n\nTake this advice or not, but your best option is to simply support him and let him be himself.
476069
It is so nice that you care so much about  both your friend and you.\n\nYou see whatever happened has happened. It can't be changed. So either you find ways to move on or you just slack back.\n\nYou said you are best friends. A lot of things happen between best friends you know so this should not be a hard one to tackle. It happened because you were both passionate about each other. It now appears you are both bi. No big deal.\n\nFirst you said you liked him and now you are saying you don't know if you like him. NO problem about that, you will soon know if you like him or not.\n\nHowever, since you said you have not seen him in a month and this whole thing is getting into you, well i think is about time you talk with him. It does not matter if you are different persons or not, you still have to find out where you stand. You need to talk with him and find out if you are both embarassed about the things that happened and if you still want to be best of friends. If you both still want to keep on having sexual feelings for each other, well that is when to find out, by talking to each other. Please tell him your mind, what you think, what should stop, what should go on and stuffs like that. It will work out.\n\nYou and i both know you don't want to lose a friend like him. Then i think it's about time you spoke to him.\n\nPlease don't feel shy. OK. Open up and tell him every single thing in your heart.\n\nYou will definitely find your answer. Keep it cool and GOOD LUCK.\n\nHave fun too.
887689
If your like my ex my friends are more fun to be around ,they don't want to know when I'm coming home,where I've been, who I've been with etc..etc.. quit riding him like a mule , maybe you should give him sex more then once a month so he doesn't have to beg you for it, and then he might want to hang with you more ,unless he's gay and screwing his friends
616504
slap him and force him too... lol thats how i get my brother to admit he is gay infront of all my friends ... good times good times
279856
You answered it yourself. If he/she is a gay and you are not the same gender, basically you won't get anywhere with him/her. Just move on and find someone who likes you.
410027
Be supportive. It sounds like he needs to talk. Let him know that you're still his friend.\n\nExpect that this might be an adjustment for you, as he becomes more out. It'll bring changes for him, too.\n\nIf he's having issues, see if there's a group locally that can help, such as a gay youth group.
158186
Umm... Is this relationship with you, or are you asking us how you can tell them not to be gay period? If you are refering to the later one, you don't have a say in the matter. If they are trying to get with you, stick to the fact that you are not interested in changing your friendship to a relationship.
1098380
listen, sometimes the best friend is the one who is your complete opposite. they might know exactly what you feel like even though they haven't had your experiences. just keep your eyes open everywhere, and don't ignore them because they're not christian, or because they weren't gay once.
239643
Sweetie, do not let ANYBODY do anything to your body unless you are 100% sure that YOU want to do it too. A true friend would never push you into doing things that you don't want to do. You are the gatekeeper to your vagina. It seems that he only wants sex and doesn't care for you deeply. You may need to re-evaluate your friendship.
943144
yeah, break up with him. if he is gonna pressure u and put you in a sexual situation you don't wanna be in then you need to get out. and you knwo once your out you have a friend you can lean on, maybe even date!
482953
Your missionary friend may indeed be gay, was interested in you and sent you provocative signals. He also knows your church's position on same sex relationships. Perhaps he is having feelings of guilt and is running away. On the other hand he may well want you to make the next move, considering that he says he wants you remain his friend. \n\nI would suggest you cool the relationship. No phone calls. Remain civil and polite but distant. If he is really interested in you he should make his feelings known.  If he has no feelings for you he will keep his distance and you will know where you stand. \n\nIf he is no longer interested in you, don't be upset over his rejection. Move on, get over it, there are lots of good fish in the sea.
570718
Your friend may or may not be homosexual/bisexual, he could just be curious. To advance on you in your sleep is a bit odd, I must admit. \n\nIf you were not comfortable with the situation, tell him immediately, even going so far to say you do not want to spend the night with him again. Do not attack him for being gay or curious - he made a mistake.\n\nAnother aspect that probably will not be covered, is that this was a private moment for him and your having this against him makes him very vulnerable. Don't blow the friendship completely out of the water by telling anyone who walks by what happened. Just talk to him about it and move on.\n\n~Miss Cris\nhttp://lendinganear.wordpress.com
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This guy is a problem and I doubt he is worth you and your best friend having a falling out because he is trying to divide and conquer. \n\nFind a situation where you and your best friend are together, and he is there also. Make it appear the two of you are comparing notes and that you are talking about him, and watch him show his true colors and scramble for cover. \n\nSounds like this guy is extremely immature and is looking for any port in a storm. \n\nPick the one who is interested in you, because of you, not because he is playing some game using you and your best friend as chess pieces to get what he wants. I repeat, do not allow this immature boy to come between you and your best friend. \n\nHe is not the one for you, . . . . . . . .you deserve much better.  \n\nDarryl S.