How can I tell my mom and dad ...I'm gay?
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Dude, its never easy and been where you've been. Lot of internal struggle huh? First, consider your age. You don't say but I assume a minor. If you are solely dependant on them for shelter, food, education and everything and you are unsure to what extent the risk factor is of them throwing you out, wait. Minimum wage will not support your housing, food and basic necessities. You'll be turned out to prostitution in no time. Unless they have a better than average idea that you are gay (parents know but can live in denial) ie ever have girlfriends, have "the accent", effeminate, etc. (would you just be saying the obvious) If that is not the case, and even if it is. Go to the library or if you have some money. Buy a couple of books in the GLBT section on coming out to parents, and parents who have been come out to. These will answer questions for them that you might not feel comfortable answering, and they might not want to ask. They usually say things like being gay is normal, homos are not perverts, the misconceptions you have about homosexuality are wrong, etc.\n\nSecond the act of coming out. People usually gauge their reaction on how you react or act. Do not do it on a holiday, or family event. This is kinda a personal thing that you might want to sit them down (take a breath you're a man who's doing something that's hard for men twice, three times your age) Try not to get emotional, and calm them if they do.-for crying, anger you can't do much about except stay calm. Have an honest conversation with them. Ask them questions to lead up to it. (have you ever wondered why I've never had a girlfriend? etc) If you're catholic, there's something to download called "always our children" I think. \n\nThe conversation is going to go where it's going to go. But if you remain calm. Hold your head up. Answer questions honestly yet non graphically. Soften the blow and make them feel as comfortable as you can (books, the right answers to their questions, etc) They'll probably have concerns over AIDS so relay that you use or plan on using condoms. (go buy some) Just be ready to dispell some stereotypes and misconceptions on homosexuality. Relay that you are their son, you love them and because of that you find it hard to lie to someone you love about who you are, and you feel that they have the right to know the person they love.\n\nGood Luck, wish you all the best in the world. \nKeep your friends close, you'll probably need their support.
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Don't stress about it. Unless you get into a girl/girl relationship, it's probably not imperative to tell your parents until you are sure. I thought I was going through a phase, too, but after a couple years a figured out I wasn't. You will eventually figure it out, as long as you don't obsess about it, and just listen to your heart (cheesy, I know, but true).
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Dear:Jennifer     You are a Christian,The Truth will set you\nFREE,Tell his parents who you are,and do not be ashamed. If\nthey accept you good,if not them ? GOD IS LOVE
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TELL YOUR PARENTS!\n\nThey are paying your bills, so they have a right to know!
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If you were straight would you tell your parents? I do not think that you would. So why do you "HAVE" to tell them your not straight?
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Tell her the truth bro...The whole "Gay" thing will backfire on ya because then she will tell everyone you know and then people will think your gay....Tell her the truth...I would rather people think that im an A-hole for telling the truth...then think that im a fag for lying.
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Be honest.  Hopefully she will respect your honesty.  Remember that she is your mother and you can tell her anything.  Just tell her.  Trust and open communication between you and your parents are the most important things you can have with them.
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Look for support before you come out, so you don't find yourself totally isolated. Also, you can get ideas from others who've been in a similar situation, and be ready to address any concerns that your parents have.\n\nWhile I hope for the best for you when you come out to your parents, I'm sure you know that this can't be assured.\n\nSupport groups include Affirmation, a group for gay mormons: http://www.affirmation.org/ . Also, get in contact with your local PFLAG chapter. If you live in an area with many mormons, it's probable that there are others in your area who've had similar challenges.\n\nBest wishes to you.
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tell them you're gay.
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Well tell them or him that if he wants you to respect them for being  gay, they should respect you fro being straight, and that they know that your not gay or intrested in them in the way they want u 2 b
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Tell them.  Sooner or later they're going to find out.  When that happens they may assume you were up to no good. Why?  Because you didn't tell them.  If you want any chance at seeing and talking to him then tell them first.  Besides, don't you want your parents to trust you? You trust your parents?  It's a two way street!!
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you are what? gay.......just tell her.....if she loves u she'll understand.
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How does your family and friends feel about homosexuality? If they are open to this kind of lifestyle just invite them over and just let them know that you want to share something that is very important to you with them. If that made any sense.
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Goodness, but you are busy!  Things to tell, things to hide, ten friends, dad's girlfriend - mom.\n\nYou don't need to worry about telling anyone!  If the ten friends, dad's girlfriend and by now you - haven't told enough people for it to get back to your Mom then just give it a little time and relax.\n\nSlow down.  Breathe.\n\nCourage is a wonderful thing but often misunderstood.  Just because you don't rush right out and blurt out about your private life to your family doesn't show a lack of courage.  It shows wisdom.\n\nA lot of  people have been killed because they confused stupidity with courage.\n\nJust live your life and let the future take care of itself.  You will tell them when you want to and when you want to you will just find the way.  Easy.  Simple.  Less drama.\n\nWhy the rush?  Really, the people you want to be sexually active with - you won't have a problem telling.  Why do you have to tell your parent's anything right now?
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The sooner the better. They may be hurt or angry or confused - but the sooner you get it out there the sooner you can all talk about it and you won't have to feel like you are hiding it from them. It is too depressing when you can't be yourself completely - it depends on your parents and their personalities and beliefs as to how they might react...but the sooner you do it the better and the more time you will have to let them get used to it. They may want you to go to a counselor or talk to someone else about it. You need to do this because more than likely the counselor is going to be someone you can talk to openly and it is confidential- they can not tell your parents anything without your consent. And it is important that you have someone to talk to that you can trust. It will be an adjustment for your parents. Your parents may think they did something wrong to "make" you gay. They may be sad and think they will never have grandchildren, etc... They may believe that homosexuality is a choice and expect you to change your mind, or think it is a phase and think you will grow out of it. It is important that you are patient with them as they will have to work through their own feelings about the matter. But the sooner you talk to them about it the sooner you can all work on getting through it together.
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Honestly, I don't think there's a "right" time to tell everyone.  Some people you may feel comfortable telling much sooner than others.  Some people you may not feel it's a good idea to tell at all.\n\nI would say the point that's the "right" time is one of two times:\n\n1)  When you know that the person you're telling will accept and care for you because of who you are and that means they'll accept you for being gay, too... and you want to be open with them about who you are inside; or\n\n2)  When it hurts you so much to hide yourself that being rejected for who you are is less painful about hiding who you are from people.\n\nThose are generally the times you're going to come out to someone... \n\nIn any case, I hope if you're asking this for personal reasons, it works out and you don't get hurt by anyone for just being the person you are.  =)
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First off, don't listen to that Big B guy... he is obviously some ignorant nut, thinking he can scare people into behaving in a way he finds appropriate, and he doesn't mind lying to accomplish this. Homosexual sex does not cause AIDS. A virus does. If neither person has the virus, neither person will suddenly get the virus just because the two people have sex. Big B, shame on you for spreading your lies here.\n\nAs to talking with your parents, the safest thing to do, if you think they would react badly, is to not tell them until you are out of the house and able to support yourself... whether that be after high school, after college, etc. That way, they can't do too much that would negatively impact your life, apart from in the emotional sense. (This is what I did.)\n\nHopefully, though, you have a good relationship with your parents, and can talk about this eventually. You might start out by testing the waters a little... mention a news story about Pride Week (which just ended) or something about gay people in the news, and see what sort of reaction you get. Ask them what they think about gay marriage... something like that. All without mentioning anything about yourself personally.\n\nThen, if things look favorable, you can work into talking about yourself.\n\nGood luck to you... I know this is a difficult time.