How do I not have a orgasm to fast I'm afraid I'm not gonna last It's gonna be my first sexual encounter?
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when yo ufeel one coming, pull out and take a second. ever been watching porn and the guy will be pounding a girl, then he stops and eats her out for no reason...then goes back at it?\n\nyeah, hes gonna blow, so he stopsthrusting and does soemthing else while he recovers. uisually takes me a few seconds. LEARn fom porn, dont just watch it.
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lier lier is all i can say.. even for a guy when losing his virginity it is kinda a nervous-ish experience. i am sure not as indepth as the ladies BUT STILL AN EXPIERIENCE..why? well there is a stereotype for guys and this dude you speak off seems to be exemplifying this stereotype... more than likely his first time was shorter than that.. maybe 5 to 15 minutes the most... why well even if he was with an experienced female... she probably would have orgasmed by then... with me and my virginity it was like 5 minutes.. i didn't have an orgasm and the primary reason for the above turn out was because i was doing it with my girlfriend and it was her first time as well... in all honesty after like 30 seconds of actual penetration and trust we stopped because it was painful for her... the first time usually encounters physical obstacles... the pain of your hymen breaking... I have had this same experience with 3 more young ladies where they were losing thier virginities. A couple times went by like this until they had healed up, gotten over the psycological fears of pregnancy and all that.. and actually got into enjoying the feelings actually generated by the act of intercourse/making love...after those initial 2 to 3 times ...well it's all climax from there!!!! no pun intended.. hoped this helps.. \n\none more thing.. don't be in such a rush to loose your virginity... it makes a big difference in your life... i guarantee it.. picture yourself at 21 or 27 and a friend asked you about your first time... the answer can either go one of two ways.. ohh its something i'll never forget cause it was with a great guy.. boyfriend of mine where we had a good and long relationship OR i regreted my first time... it was wack... i didn't really feel anything (emothionally or otherwise) i don't even remember that guy. i wish i had waited longer...  when that time comes.. i guarantee you'll remember The Thinker!
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lack of experience, lack of understanding the link between sensation and ejaculation hence not knowing how to alter tempo activity to maintain  a high level of excitment and not tip over\n\nanxiety about performance \n\noccassionally its nice to come after only 10-15 min of furious intercourse - most of the time its nice to have at least 45-60 mins of intercourse varying tempos!\n\nmen can learn how to control this - becoming a good lover is a process of learning
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try man on top and tell him to go slow! when it hurts, speak up. \n\ndo you use tampons? probably not. they hurt first couple times. Try using tampons on your next period. \ni know this is different but they are related. in the shower you may want to practice "that" feeling and insert your index finger as far in your tunnel as you can. it hurts but it will help you prepare better. \n\nrelax and go with the flow. when you tense up every muscle tenses up include down-there muscles. Always remember to speak up b/c good communication is essencial!!! :)\n\nI'm still a virgin but know alot about sex, wierd? dont worry- waiting until marriage.....
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Try pleasuring yourself 10-20 minutes before sex...also there are her pleasure condoms that have some sort of topical anesthetic that numb the wang...or be really really drunk to the point where you cant ejaculate.
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First, get her very, very turned on. Whether orally or otherwise, the more she is excited and the higher her peak of excitement before intercourse, the greater likelihood she will have an orgasm. So don't skimp on foreplay. Being in a hurry here will get you nowhere in the end.\n\nAssuming you've done the above and you both want to assure that she has an excellent orgasm, teach her this little trick (I just hope you're old enough and mature enough to be learning all this). Regardless of the position you use, tell her that you want to touch herself, masturbate, while you are in her. Most women don't get stimulated where they need to be from most forms of male intercourse. The clitoris has to be given friction in some way for orgasm. If she manipulates herself and you do what you can, she will likely have the best orgasm she's every known.\n\nUnfortunately many men don't like to think that they can't make a woman orgasm just by themselves. Sometimes they can, but the way I describe above is almost guaranteed. Some women are too modest or are not used to self-manipulation, and they need to be assured that you want them to do this and will not think less of them for it.\n\nEnjoy. Please practice safe sex.
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Well, a very highly aroused, young, inexperienced male might last a minute at most.  And Sting (the famous singer) has bragged about being able to go on all night- literally- without a climax.  There's huge variance.\n\nOptimally, a good amount of time is about fifteen to twenty minutes of actual thrusting; with the overall lovemaking experience going from forty five minutes to an hour, if not longer.\n\nIf you can't, there's nothing wrong- you can get better with time.  Just practice controlling yourself (try thinking of non-sexy things when you get close- like grandma on the toilet, lol- and masturbate beforehand so you aren't so close and on the edge going into things.  And let your partner know what's going on- when you get close, stop, take a breather on yourself, and focus on her/him, then go back to spending some time on you or together, and so on, give and take, until you are both breathlessly ready for climax.  It's a thing that both of you can deal with.\n\nIf you still climax too soon, just remember that sex isn't over!  Your partner deserves to climax, too.  Keep a spare dildo in the drawer next to the bed, or even a strap-on (quite a few men wear strap-on dildos over their flaccid penises) to keep things going once you go soft, or just rely on your hands, mouth, and fingers to get help him/her out!\n\nRemember not to stress overmuch, and good luck!
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first time sex is challenging (esp if both of you are doing it the first time)...  and it depends on to both of you.  try to please your partner in your way... he may appreciate the effort, just don't overdo it.  better yet, read magazines and browse through some websites.... and read also on stuffs on "how to please your partner"... \n\nalso, try it the naughty and teasy way.... try experimenting on how you'll start it off the sweetest way (how about putting some chocolate syrup on your partners body and lick them off until it's gone).... remember to take it slowly (but surely) play with it (fore play... but not too long huh!)...
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Experience and practice. Usually young men who are in their early 20's dont last long (personal experience w/ex).. therefore the only solution is to experience sex more often and learn how to not over-excite yourself. Usually by thinking of something else, not so sexual. Trying to think w/your head, and taking a break for al ittle bit when you know you're ready to come. It takes practice. Sooner or later, you will learn how to control yourself. Its normal,and usually happens to young men who are just starting to have sexual intercourse. Goodluck!
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If it is the first time for both of you to have sex, may I suggest taking things slow.  Especially if it is her first.  Alot of my friends didn't care much for sex at first because their first partner's were too rough and not the most considerate.   And I think any lady out there would also suggest taking things slow.  It's not a race.  Enjoy yourself and for god's sake use a condom.  Communication is good too, make sure you are both cool with whats going on.  \n\nMy first time I remember it feeling like my head was a blur and I was a bit dizzy, but It was a good feeling.
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When next you have sex get ur mind off the sexual action and may be think about something else or something outside the sex. You will stay longer. and also don't rush anything take it slow and steady. Don't let her rush you either.
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Hey dude. Sex is the most pleasurable moment in a persons life. Since this is going to be ur 1st time. I wud suggest you not to get carried away woth it. Bcoz often it has been people who have been deprived of it try to make the most of out when subject to opportunity for the 1st time. Its a flavour which u need to taste in due course of time and can be enjoyed over longer and extended periods of time. For the 1st time I would suggest you to please try oral sex. Kissing, fondling with private parts, Intense kissing. Then when both u and ur girl are confident and cant hold it long. Just try watching some Soft Porn movies like "Body Shots", "Wild Things", "The Lover". These movies will guide you exactly how to go about sex @ the 1st shot.  All the best and Good Luck !!
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Listen....I'll be honest with you.\n\nYour first time might not be such a pleasurable experience. You may actually wonder what the fuss is all about.\n\nBut don't worry. NO ONE really knows what to do their first time around. They're just going through the motions, and doing what they THINK is expected.\n\nSex will get better for you eventually.....\n\nMy advise to you would be:\n\n1) Don't have high expectations of it being a great, wonderful experience the first time.\n2) Relax, and do what FEELS NATURAL to you.\n3) If you can, HAVE FUN with it the first time. This will help in easing the nerves.\n4) Make absolutely sure that you want to do this. Do NOT feel preasured or forced into it by your boyfriend. Otherwise, wait.\n\nAgain.....no expectations for the first time, ok!
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It's only a problem if you feel it's a problem, or if you feel unsatisfied all or most of the time. A old sex study by Kinsey reported that 75% of men ejaculated within 2 minutes of starting sexual intercourse.   Many take longer, and a few ejaculate right away (called premature ejaculation). \n  \nTry to slow down, don't stroke so fast, and take long slow strokes with pauses between the strokes.  \n\nThere is a technique that might help you.  It's called the start-and-stop technique.  When you feel yourself starting to get close to orgasm, completely stop stroking until the feeling dies down enough that you no longer feel like you are going to pop right away.  Then you can start up again.  Do this start-and-stop method for a while until you can't stand it, then let the orgasm happen.  \n\nIt may not work right away, as you are used to climaxing quickly, but keep practicing, and keep trying to slow down.  Eventually you should be able to make the masturbation session last longer. When you hold off for a while, the orgasm often feels stronger and much better.\n\nPremature ejaculation is the most common sexual problem for young men, so don't be worried. In fact, some men would love to be able to orgasm faster, since as you get older, it sometimes takes longer to climax.  Also, try different masturbation techiques, as some may work better for you.  Check out JackinWorld (the "Ultimate Male Masturbation Resource.")  The bottom line is: slow down, make sure you have enough uninterrupted time to yourself, and take the time to really enjoy your masturbation session.\n\nhttp://www.jackinworld.com
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My best advice would be that you should try having an orgasm on your own first. When you are with a man, you might become so concerned about the orgasm-matter, that you will not be able to relax and give in to the pleasurable feelings.\nIn order to enjoy masturbating, and getting an orgasm, it is first and foremost important that you think it is OK to masturbate! There is noting wrong or sinful about getting to know one's body - and thereby becoming a better sex-partner.\nMake sure, you have all the time, you'll need without disturbances. Pay attention to the setting; perhaps you'll enjoy a long bath first, put on your favourite lotion, your favourite underwear or maybe light a few candles.\nSpend some time finding a good place to be at - the bed would be an obvious choice. Try touching yourself in different ways, what feels good, what doesn't? Take it slow and enjoy your time with yourself, getting to know yourself. Perhaps you won't achieve an orgasm the first time, you try; but you'll definitely learn something about how you like to be touched.\nRemember, the main goal is to become comfortable with your own body and your own sexuality, this will heighten your chances of achieving an orgasm. On the same note, I'd hold back on porn, dildos etc. until you are certain what you like, until then they might only serve as distracters.\nBest of luck!
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You should explore together. Since it's your first time, I think it should be slow and very sensual. Your first experience should be memorable as well. Anyone can have wild sex, that doesn't exactly figure the intimate feelings in though. I think you should both start slow and after you've gotten comfortable having s ex together, then get wilder and experiment more. Get the basics down first and trust me, alot men WITH prior experience "forget" that a woman actually has to be taken time with. Make the first time SPECIAL!!
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DON'T GET TOO EXCITED. START SLOW AND FASTER SLOW THEN FASTER. WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR COMMING  THEN SLOW IT DOWN AND TAKE YOUR TIME ENJOY.PROLONG IT `ONCE IN A WYLE TAKE YOUR MEMBER AND MASSAGE HER SWEET BUTTON WITH YOUR DI*K. THEN AGAIN IN AND OUT AND SO ON.