i'm a nice guy why can't i find a girlfriend?
456992
Its hard to say why girls are not attracted to you. It could be anything. Don't try so hard. Stop looking for a girlfriend. Try finding someone that has the same interests as you. Looking for women in bars and clubs doesn't always work. Try the internet, chats, clubs...etc.  Let them get a chance to know you as a person. Then see if can develop into something else.
502735
no i can not help you with that..you need to look in your general area for a girlfriend..do not waste your time on this online relationship thing..it is not good.. why do you have to come on yahoo answers to meet a girlfriend?
324032
well first of all don't put your self down  like that. even though i don't know u i think that u aare a nice guy becccaues any girl would love to have boyfriend like u that does care about that girl even though she left u try to find someone better becaues she wasn't the girl for u but she will notice what she lost it will be to late but she will notice it and she will be soory because there aren't any guys like that anymore well there is but not much but she will know what she lost and u will find someone that aprciates u and that won't have a bf while going out with u well g2g email me if u need anything later take care
201826
I'm sure there are a lot of women who'd like to know a nice guy. Why not try a chat room or a personals site, because women can't chat with you here -- it would be a violation of the guidelines.
624170
You sound really nice.  Why don't you go and try to meet people in person?  Try a dating service... Internet personals can be a little scary , although I know a few couples that met on match.com and are now married!  There are some places out there that will meet you, and try to set you up with someone, in person.  It's a more personal introduction then just typing away...\n\nI'm sure you will find the right lady.  I just don't think it's here... no one knows anything about you... But what we do know is that you seem loving and in need of a relationship where you can share yourself with someone else. \n\nYou will find what you are looking for, just start looking in the right places.\n\nGood Luck.
293381
what do you not do? are you shy? do you get nervous around girls? are you looking in the right place?\n\nit can be so many things. first off, just chill. not every person is looking for a significant other. think about that too. you could be asking a person who had a bad experience with an ex, they are too busy to be dating other people, or something else.\n\nyou can't always find them and we all go through a sort of slump. try doing this. use your looks to your advantage. be cocky in a funny way.\nex:\nthem- wow! you are ruggedly handsome!\nu- nice try. too many people have tried to use that line on me and it doesn't work.\n\nto hit my main point, learn how to project your self-confidence to other people. that will help you on your quest to get dates. personality counts more than looks. you have looks to reinforce an attractive personality. good luck with finding a date.
112265
What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him. \n\nNice Guys exude insecurity -- a big red target for the predators of the world. There are women out there who are "users" -- just looking for a sucker to take advantage of. Users home-in on "Nice Guys", stroke their egos, take them for a ride, add a notch to their belts, and move on. It's no wonder so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible, when the so often the kind of woman that gets attracted to them is the lowest form of life... \n\nSelf-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure. \n\nNice Guys go overboard. They bring roses to a "lets get together for coffee" date. They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date". \n\nThey are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her. We are only human, and pedestals are narrow, confining places to be -- not to mention the fact that we tend to fall off of them. \n\nThey cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy, because he believes that if she learns about the REAL person inside, she will no longer love him. \n\nNice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions. They think it's being equitable, but it puts an unfair burden of responsibility on her, and gives him the opportunity to blame her if the decision was an unwise one. \n\nNice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of comprimising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in". When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, "Everything I did, I did for her.", as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs. A woman doesn't want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner. \n\nNice Guys think that they will never meet anyone as special as she is. They use their adoration as a foundation for claiming that "no one will ever love her as much as I do." Instead of being a profound statement of their devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: "You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I'm here." \n\nThe nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. Even if we no longer continue the relationship, the feelings will continue... But love isn't mutually exclusive. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who have loved her just as much in her past, and will love her just as much in the future. The irony of
1063885
There are good and honest single guys out there....but sometimes they hide because "nice guys" always finish last so why put yourself out there. Take a look at my 360 page if you would like. Send me a msg. I know a couple good and nice guys.
424894
The problem isn't being nice, popular or helpful.  The problem is expecting a girl would drop by and become your girlfriend. \nYou have good qualities, just find the one girl and be extra nice to her and treat her special. Take the leap and get the girl of your dreams.
802209
A few things come to mind reading your dilemma.  If you're actively trying to get guys' attention and it's not happening, then yes, you're obviously doing something wrong.  That's good news!  You can change your own errors easily enough.  If you were doing everything right and it still wasn't working...well, then you've got a problem because you can't change other people.\n\nAppearance and hygiene are critical.  You want a guy of quality?  You better fix yourself up to get him.  Learn to be impeccable in all you do.  That's the easy, shallow part (but books ARE judged by their cover.  Part of life, deal with it).\n\nIs there something wrong with your personality?  Like someone else asked, "are you rude?"  Also, how's your sense of humor?  Your ambition?  These are all things that can drive decent people away from you.  Be optimistic and outgoing as much as you can be.\n\nFinally, just get your butt out there and enjoy yourself.  As a discriminating man, I can tell you that the girls I've really enjoyed in my life were always the ones who were simply fun to be around.  Hell, find guys that you are attracted to and flat out ask them what they look for in a girl.  You'll learn more in a 5 minute conversation than you will asking online.  Good luck, girl.
1105542
no problems, took me a long time to find someone myself.  Just be happy with what you got, keep your eyes open, not only for someone but for that little click that just tells you it's right.  Be confident as well.  A nice guy will come around when the time is right.  Just don't make yourself paranoid while you wait.
1102915
Not all of us are like that. I promise! It is always nice to do things when they are not asked for so don't stop being nice,but I think you need to try some different places to meet girls. I think normally you can tell if they are going to be like that from the beginning. Look back and see what they all had in common. Please keep trying because there are more of us out there than you think.
668239
speaking as a single male, i might ask the same thing about single or divorced women....i would like to take the time to get to know someone (bf/gf sort of thing), then see if it works into a relationship.....yeah, i think that it could be done....the decent guys are out there...they may not simply advertise the fact that they are decent guys...maybe they have been screwed over too many times....have patience....keep looking....they are out there....good luck to you
234952
we sure could use more of u around here.\na lot of girls go for the 'bad' guys, but as they \nget ready to settle down, the girls will find you.\nbut meanwhile, try to enjoy being single.\nmy motto for now- be smart stay single. best of luck!
1057657
Some advice,,,,, Here is not the place to find one. Go out, enjoy the outdoors, hang out with friends, meet new friends. And when you  aren't looking you will find a girl you are interested in. It seems when you look , no luck. But when you go about your day, wow it happens.
19764
Maybe your not looking in the right places, are you open to trying maybe a personal dating service??? you might want to look into that, there are great women who are genuine and looking for more in a relationship. They wouldn't be paying for the service if they didn't want something out of it. try it you might find that someone special.
1149010
For women it isn't all about the looks.  A little extra weigh makes you a teddy bear to some girls.  Just keep your chin up and look for someone who matches your personality.  Be romantic and sweet and you will find a nice girl.  Good Luck!!