Why is it more difficult to get into meaningful relationships the older we get?
469924
think it is because meaningful relationships to older people are based on different things than what younger people want.\n\nYoung women may think [not true in all cases] that a 'meaningful relation' is sleeping with a boy or having a boyfriend with a car.\n\nWomen tend to have more sensible expectations [than young girls] of what to expect from a relationship such as [perhaps] to have a family or to have someone to trust and rely upon.\n\nThat is why I think it is difficult, due to older people wanting different things [to when they were younger]\n\nIn reality it is good to have a boyfriend or girlfriend when you are younger, but sexual contact at that age may leave young people feeling used and abused [as it is difficult perhaps for the boyfriend to sustain real commitment].  Sex is best left for marriage when both partners communicate well, and are in good financial terms to raise a child or two.\n[Hence why it is best to wait until you are mid 20s before getting married and having sexual contact]\n\n\nHope that answers your question, but you probably want someone elses advice
1100571
here's teh deal the way I see it;\n\nmarriages are failing faster than ever before, I believe that the reason is people are not taking the time to get to know eachother like they used to.  \n\nIt takes a very long time to get to really know a person good enough to decide if you can live with them for the rest of your life.  Most people (99.5%) go straight to bed after the 1st to 3rd date; when this happens you find out if you are SEXUALLY compatable with a person and it becomes the most important part of the relationship.  \n\nProblem is, even though we all wish we could, a relationship involves much more than sex and you can't spend the next 40 years of your life f****ing.\n\nFor this reason, I am starting to beleive that it is a very good idea to wait for a LONG time before becoming sexually involved in a serious relationship.  Get to know th eperson on a spiritual and emotional level.  \n\nWhat do they do when they first get out of bed in the morning, have you ever seen her without makeup, have you ever seen him around kids, what is his church like, how does her mom cook.  THese are all questions you need to know as they will help you to better choose a partner next time.
529709
Because older girls are harder to get and more experienced sexually.
399976
I am 71... and I have loved one person througout my married life for 48 years... (now through death, am single again) and I can tell you that over those 48 years, sex had started out as the "seed" of the loving relationship, but it developed into the "fruit" of the relationship... and the blending of our two personalities and souls into a working relationship became more important than just the sex.  The first 7 years of a relationship are sexually based... Called the "Limerick Stage of Love" (spelling may be wrong...) then that starts to evolve into a deeper more lasting relationship, and this is what builds over the years into a solid foundation that carries you both through the bad, difficult and trying times together.  You each have to decide what is important to you and based upon your decisions, you will then know what is best for you both... and can work things out for each partner's growth and benefit. Hope this helps... Blessings!  \nPS... With the waning of this strong bond of sexual love in those first 7 years... people usually make the mistake that they are "falling out of love" and it is time for a divorce.  They do not follow thru and endure... and have faith that something more wonderful will develop... most loving relationships today are totally sexually based... and as the loss of interest in sex wanes... so goes the relationship... Not the best bases for a 50 year lasting relationship... don't you think???
1137661
Because we have already born with our personal skills, temper, mood, state of mind...\nAnd it is hard to understand but is like been tall or short, It is the way we are, is people who love us, who have to accept us as we are... Why are you trying to change, found people who like you as you are instead...
622559
The older one gets the more communication skills they should be learning and that makes it more comfortable to meet more people that cross your path.
1132065
Hmm...  did you feel you missed something, just being a kid?  You missed some of your best years in my opinion, just being free of relationships...heh.  I think relationships are tough enough, let alone when you're so young & just figuring out who you truly are.\n\nBut some people fall in love, or even mature sooner than others, but wow I think I'd rather be a kid again at times.\n\n:)  Good luck though, T
718743
Because meeting someone you like  and are compatible with and who likes you and feels compatible with you is difficult.
424463
When you get older body image and looks become of a much lesser value,and you start seeking a companion,someone who gets you and you feel connected to.Believe it or not sex is not everything neither is physical attractiveness.
426061
i believe in lifetime relationships... but a  good man is hard to come by..
14275
It could be because you just haven't found the right person yet. I know, I know, it sounds totally cliche, but I'm 22 and have a similar problem. The best advice anyone has given me is to just focus yourself and what you want in life and the right person will come along.
519813
I am 44 now very succesful in business and couldn't get the real love or the intimate soulmate woman .. and got divorced after 22 years of traditional marriage .. \n\nLucky in work unlucky with women ..
323410
I myself am not inclined to date a guy more then a year or two younger then me. The stereotype says that young men are immature and while it does have it's truth I think it's more about life experience and I couldn't handle a guy that not on my level. I am not saying relationships with large age gaps don't work, just that I would pass on that scene. On the flip side women are sometimes attracted to older men, again that whole stereotype that older men are more mature. For one that's not always true and in most cases older guys looking for younger women are just using them for sex and half of those guys are still married. I guess what I am trying to say is they have to much baggage. They have been screwed over by too many other women generally and so again not that those relationships don't work out but I have no intention on venturing there either.
794527
After 27 years your heart just doesnt close to that person, Maybe they couldnt live together, that does not mean that there is not some kinda love still. Even if its a friendship love or a respect love. Or a love because of children maybe born of the relationship There could be many factors to why there is still some "worry" attached into all that!
1058274
As long as two adults find a common ground, they work. My BF is 20 years older (I'm 27) and I can't imagine my life without him. We are on the same level in so many ways - maturity, goals, opinion, etc. Like any relationship, it comes down to a balance of give & take, acceptance, and respecting each other. I believe people come into our lives for a reason, and we learn and grow from them. Being in love is the greatest feeling in the world and age shouldn't stop anyone from experienceing it.
785484
In my opinion less than about 3 years difference is meaningless once you get into your 30s.  As to older women in general, I was in my 20s before I got involved with anyone, man or woman, who wasn't older than I am.  I like it when I'm with someone who's experienced enough to know what they like, it makes communication a lot easier.
564896
Depends on the person, some people are easier to open up to than others. There really isn't a set time, it's all about being comfortable around the other person.