what should i do if i catch my wife having extra marital affair?
466472
you go on yahoo answers and ask a bunch of strangers,  of course\n\nthen every normal person says, "divorce her"
691840
Behave like a mother of a 2 year old child and a responsible wife. The feelings about extra marital affair is nothing but a illusion. Chatting, emailing is just a waste of time and energy. If you concetrate half on your present life with husband and kid, your life will be more happy and satisfied then ever.\n\nRemember, now you are not only a wife but responsible mom too and an example for your kid. Caution yourself and bring peace in your life.\n\nNobody can help you, but you self will have to help your own. Wishing you all the best. It is never late to do a fresh start.
34801
Lying is part of the Affair. First print a hard copy of the BLog, and all Emails for future referance. Chances are it has gone farther and she is covering it up. \n\nThe only way to get through the lies is to catch her in the act. I suggest you contact a private investagetor to look into the matter, They have knowledge and resourses that you would not have, plus by having a third party you get honest information and not biased based on how you feel. Now if you learn that she is not cheating, "yet" then I suggest you work on the relationship before she does. \n\nI would suggest you seek help in counciling. Your not going to be able to resolve the issue by yourself. She is looking at other men probably due to an unmet "NEED" at home. You can read books like those listed below to help identify what those needs are, but until you begin meeting the "NEED" your self, and expose the lies you have no chance of saving the marriage.
1160257
i would be plotting revenge....just remember, in a marriage.......WHAT'S HIS IS YOURS, AND WHAT'S YOURS IS YOURS. \ngood luck.
914199
Wow,  see a councilor or you pastor.  If anything happened to your husband you would never forgive yourself.  You owe it to your marriage and each other to stay faithful.  Stay away from bars and build a network of female friends.  Scrapbook, learn a new craft or find a job to keep you connected with other people.  Break off the affair immediately and keep your self respect.
1098499
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....
100142
That's something between you and your wife.Not, for others to have a choice on.Talk to her and see for yourself face to face to the one you married.
134613
Tell him you are sorry and that you will never do that kind of a thing again. Never involve yourself with married people. Think about it this way. What if someone else interfered in you blissful marriage and spoilt it. Ask for her forgiveness and stay clear from such entanglements.
1139044
Well, if I had a husband and I suspected him cheating I would first come out and ask him! Heck with pretending to be someone else. It's pretty much how well you know him also, a woman will always have to trust her instincts if you suspect him being a cheat then look for clues, if he keeps cheating it won't be long before he gets caught, no matter what a cheating spouse sooner or later WILL get caught. That's why I'm divorced now, but I was the one that cheated and yep! I got caught.
93181
If you can prove she cheated (talk to a lawyer first), then she may already have broken your contract by having the affair, depending on the wording you agreed to.  Good luck. Too bad you didn't marry someone with ethics to begin with.
394522
you should not do anything!! if she truly loves you, and only you..meaning she is completly done with her husband than she will leave him. but if you interfere before she takes any action..that means she isn't giving up on her marriage and maybe you should take a hint. but if shes willing to divorce him, than maybe you have a shot, but either way,you broke up a marriage(i know it takes two but you are an outsider coming into the situation) marriage is suppose to be sacred and you seeing her isn't fair to her husband, or their children if they have any. i hope you have morals and would stand back if she chooses to stay with her husband.
449229
There is only one way to do that.. CLEAN! You need a completely clean break, no contact of any kind. If you are truly in love, but are going to end it (which, BTW, is the right thing to do if it is an extramarital affair), then you need to cease all communication and just try to move on.
417293
Sure it counts as an affair but let me ask you this, are you a Yo-Yo? I mean she sends you away for 5 months and then all of a sudden has some Epiphany or a string and you come rolling back up it and she wants you back and then you are suppose to kick people out of your life and go back with her? Does she have your testicles in a jar and is holding them for ransom or did you get caught cheating on her in the beginning and that's what caused all this I want a divorce crap? Something tells me you are not giving us the whole story here Bud!!
489722
get a new wife.  One that appreciates you for who you are.
665096
I know how bad this sounds, but you should tell her fiancee! If she dosn't stop, she might go on to adultery!
1082332
First off, she is NOT your wifes best friend if she would make advances towards you. If I were the wife I would not want to know if it has all been stopped and I mean stopped. Do NOT ever be alone with this woman again. She (and your stupidness) could ruin your marriage. I've been in this situation with my spouse of 35 years. I was the stupid one and I too came to my senses. When he tried again I told him it never happened. He got the message. I vowed never to put myself in that situation again. I did NOT tell my husband and the other person eventually disappeared from our lives.  I am glad I did not tell.  There would have always been that doubt planted.  I know I have behaved ever since but he might wonder. Should the best friend decide to tell then you have your problem to deal with.  Avoid her unless wife is around. Some will say it was just a kiss but there is a seriousness here.  Good luck
1074234
lmao!! Good for your wife!! I hope that this has taught you a very IMPORTANT lesson!! DONT CHEAT!