Is it wrong to have strong feelings for your bestfriend what should i do?
467698
No, its not wrong. You cannot control who you have feelings for. You have to let that person know how you feel, and see if possibly they are wrestling with the same problem.
764890
If ur sure that u're over that person and u dont have any feelings for them anymore..then why not..but if you feel that this will effect ur relationship wth ur best friend, u should let him/her know
642834
This is always a tricky situation, and its often feared that the friendship might be ruined if the other person doesn't feel the same way. I think that if you two are 'best friends' and really close and have a healthy relationship, then if he doesn't feel the same way, maintaining the friendship should be easy.\n\nI think you should tell him and for all you know he could be feeling the exact same way, and having the same fears! So take the risk. If you don't then you are risking a really good chance to be with someone in a relationship that you really care for.\n\nPlan the right way to do it for you- whether that be on the phone, face to face, through a hand written letter, email or msn...whichever is best for you, the point is that you do it and get it out in the open of your relationship. \n\nJust remember of all the great possibilities, that's why you should do it.
161525
Yes, you need to talk to him about how you feel.  Admit that you've tried to be ok with his friendship with this person but as much as you try you really aren't ok with it.  Your suposed to be his best friend now, not her and if your uncomfortable with the relationship he has with her he should be willing and want to end it in order not to ruin what you two have.
665503
If you really like him..than explain the situation to your bestfriend..she might be upset..but its better than lieing to her and than finding out..
448590
This is a tough one......Ok you said you like your boyfriend but have fallen in love with his/your best friend. If it is love and I mean real love then you should not have to question what you should do. You just need to talk to your best friend one on one and see if it is really what you think it is.
670349
I'm kind of in the same situation...only I am in love with my best friend so that could be the cause, huh?  Anyway, if your love for him is only as a friend, you're probably thinking of him as a brother, and close siblings are generally protective of each other.  It's okay to be protective, just don't let it get in the way of your friendship.
585666
I see nothing wrong with that. I think my best friend and I have something...but we don't act on it, but if we were to i think it might be one of the best relationships ever...cause we were friends first..and I believe that you should be friends first and continue to be friends when you have a relationship with someone.
989667
It's very common that best friend turns to be lovers. You should find out that your best friend is love you or just want to be friend. You know. Love is a two way channel, it invloves two persons. If only one-way, it is not love\n\nGood luck\n\nJoyce
226532
No, there is nothing wrong with you.  You are confused about your feelings for her.  She is your best friend and it natural to feel drawn to her, but that doesn't mean you are attracted to her sexually.  You enjoy her company, as you should.  Don't act on your feelings for her until you are sure about yourself and how you feel.  In the meantime enjoy life and keep her as a friend.  She may not have the same kind of feelings you are having.
204418
definitly not wrong in fact that is how the true long time relationships start, you cut all the bullshit because you know each other allready.\nflip side is that you have to be sure your friend feels the same way or it could damage your friendship.\nGo with your gut
1131122
What's wrong with liking him if you do?  I think that once you really get to know someone, you can't help  but love them to some extent.  My best friend in the world is a guy, and I love him.  It's hard sometimes, but you can't ignore the feelings, and nothing's going to make them go away.  It might help if you tell him how you feel.  If he likes you, then maybe you can hook up, or if he doesn't then maybe that'll give you some closure on the subject.
986158
Well, that person obviously doesn't think that your their best friend. A best friend should be there for you always. And you should be able to talk to them about nearly anything and everything. \n\nIt sounds to me like your friend is just that...a friend, but you shouldn't be wasting your energy on someone who isn't going to respect you. Still, I would search out a new best friend. \n\nOr you could tell that person how you feel. Have a good long talk over coffee. It'll bring you two closer.
867361
Wrong?  That's for you to decide, but here's some food for thought.\n\nShe needs your friendship.  If you give her friendship without going for anything more right now, it shows her respect.  Then, when she is less vulnerable, if the two of you get together she will respect you more and you will be able to trust that she's with you for the right reasons and not simply out of need.\n\nIf the two of you got involved right now, it might be for the wrong reasons at the wrong time and thus set you up for failure down the road.\n\nIf you are "right" together, then it won't hurt for you to be her best friend and hold off on the other stuff for a while out of respect for her temporary vulnerability and genuine love or care for her.\n\nJust something to consider.  Good luck!
770115
This is so wierd because I am in this same situation right now. I mean to the tee. What i have found is that if you value your best friends friendship, then you should just leave him alone. I mean you and him can still be friends but you need to discuss with him that there is a line there and in order to avoid any hurt feeling, that line should not and will not be crossed. it's tough but you can do it. Its just unfortunate that you didn't get to him first.
717229
There is nothing wrong with loving your best friend and he being another guy. Or are you saying you want to be in a relationship with him? If that is the case then...Is you guy friend gay? You need to decide if your friendship is strong enough to handle that kind of question. If you two are best friends you should know what his sexual orientation is. If you are "best friends" you should be able to tell him anything right...
651179
If your best friend is really a true friend, she'll be happy for you. There shouldn't be any problem between the two of you. She's probably happy that at least one of you two got him. If you like the guy, then maybe you should accept.