How can i be happy now if i cannot forget my past?
472603
It is ok to remember the past.  In fact you shouldn't forget it because it had some good memories plus you learned some important lessons.  Accept that the past will always be a part of you and it is part of what makes you, you.  Just remember, that your current relationship is something new and unique and that to really explore it and enjoy it you can't let the past influence it.
444553
Be very kind to yourself.  Let yourself be sad about how things didn't work out, but after a reasonable amount of time, start to distract yourself from your sad feelings.  Be around friends that make you laugh, do nice things for yourself, take time getting to know yourself again and what you want out of life besides what you don't have, then start taking steps to make all of your dreams come true.  With time your heart will heal.
1048244
Well, unfortunately you can't erase the memories of past relationships. There is always going to be something that reminds you of that person. A good way to bypass the baggage is not to use it against the new love.  They don't deserve to be compared to or treated as if they are going to be the same way. Not everyone is the same way. Have a positive outlook on any new relationship and learn from the previous ones.
611926
Think less and act more.\n\nDon't let the goal of preserving the past memories hold you from making new and better ones. There are risks, but that is what life is all about, taking risks. You do not want to live till 80 to start reflecting about what you should have done when you were younger.
680008
Try to forget the past allow yourself to be happy and to be healed before you make friends with the guys, REMEMBER you have the right to enjoy life, that is the greatest thing we can have to enjoy life it's the gift of God.
355572
Unfortunately you are stigmatized by your past behavior. The best you can do is to surmount your transgressions to atone. This may take the form of education, productivity, healthy relationships, hard work. Regardless of your social standing with your family and friends, you have overcome  your addiction. No one can take that away from you--except you. Don't let the opinion of others taint your realization that you are greater than your past. Live in the moment.
286497
Be true to yourself and make the choices that you think will make you happy! Don't waste time on things you can't change and concentrate on what you can improve! \n\nLife is short so enjoy!
373012
You are living in the past. Let go of it if you ever want to be happy. Cant cry over spilled milk. Shake it off and move on..it will not change anything if you sulk about it and are depressed. Will things change? No. Be happy instead
318601
WOW! you sure what a lot don't you? There is no way that a human being can always be happy, just like there is no way that you can always be sad. You can have a general good outlook on life and try to be happy with the situation that you are in. If you live a honest, decent life where you try your best you will find happiness.  If you help your fellow humans by volunteering of your time, talents and/ or money you will find happiness. Thinking of and helping others lets you know that your situation could be a lot worse.  In turn this makes you thankful for what you have.  If you try to always find happiness through materialistic things that you own, you are doomed to always be unhappy for the most part.  There is always something new and better around the corner. If you spend  some of your free time with family and friends ,you will find happiness.  You sound very young and unsure of yourself.  Be proud of what and who you are.  God bless you and Good luck!
846919
That is a difficult thing to do.  Every time you feel yourself go back to the past, stop, tell yourself to let it go and maybe that will help.  If not, maybe talk to someone?  I hope you can work it out.  Don't be TOO hard on yourself.  Peace!
1100317
Well... look around... Do you like what you see? Are you happy for what lessons you have already learned? Are you pleased on what you are able to do for the better of tomorrow? That is all really. If you are happy. If you are pleased on what you have as a past, to put you in your position you are in now, and where it can lean you from your own ambition from knowing that this is your life. And if you are not happy with anything, well that is something that needs to be worked out within yourself, because you should be happy for everything in your life. Why should there be a reason for you to be un-happy? Are you missing anything? Do you have patience to take the time and effort to get to that point in obtaining that goal? Everything is in your hands. Just remember to take everything as it is and be happy for it. Don't expect anything. Things will flow much better if you do that. Hope this helps. Cheers!
1008841
well i cannot erase the past nor spend time wishing i could and yes i wish i could too. No do-overs in life. so what i am left with is how i chose to deal with these issues in life that will get me through. carrying around mental baggage is a stumbling block in life. freeing ones self is the key to absorb the better things in life i need to concentrate on.
503165
Hi Lvy,\n    i think still ur not  accepting tht its over now , u 've some hope , m i rite ? if not , temme wats reason to remember ur past . it will effect ur coming life if ur goin to continue remembering tht person ...ya if u 've some hope and still want to continue wid him , wat ur waiting for go and tell him tht u can not live without him and ask him not to leave u ....\n   Luy u sud not love them who dun care for ur feelings and u . try to keep in mind tht its all over now and tht was ur past nuthing else .. i think ur young ....and some1 has to some in ur coming life ...think for him atleast start preparing for ur coming "SOME-ONE" . lol ...hahahah i said preparing ...i was saying tht washout ur mind and dun go after ur past .......every1 have some past and we have to forget tht ...\n   one more thing Keep Smiling .........:)\n     sorry if any of my word hurttttss
252765
I've asked that question before and realized that if I answered it, I would have unresolved issues/events I need to deal with. What I am trying to get at is that for myself, if I want to attain contentment, happiness, peace, and free of regrets, then I must accept everything, every event, happening, etc. that has occurred in my life. Come to terms with everything, the past is the past, it is unchangeable, but I reflect upon it to change what I can today, make better for tommorrow, and learn from it. I was 'dealt a less than decent hand', far from normal, and many challenges. I have overcome many osbstacles, weathered many storms of life, and made many mistakes, but I have no regrets and I am at peace with my past. And that is where it stays, in the past, to reflect upon. \n\nSo my answer to your question honestly, is I wouldn't change a thing.
766589
Did you ever go on vacation?  Did a brother or sister get lost?  Have any of your family ever helped you out on something?\nWhat are some good memories you have about something your family did for you.\nWrite about that memory.\nDid you ever have something bad "almost" happen to you but you got saved? Maybe you broke something while your parents were gone but you replaced it before they knew.\nA pet got lost maybe?\nThese are just some ideas.  If you still cannot think of anything, then try to remember something that happened to you  in the last 5 years.  Think back year by year.
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you can move on. you don't have to forget all the good memories. those are yours to treasure. all the bad memories too. they are for you to learn from.\n\nsometimes people are in your life for a short time. and the purpose is for you to learn from them or to teach them something. and then they're just gone.\n\nit hurts to move on, but remember there are so many stars in the sky. and you will find someone new. sometimes relationships are just stepping stones to your future.
322053
First of all you need to use check spelling. Next, it's never to late tostart over. Youcan't undo or redo your past, but you can go on from the here and now.