I always get fear in every situation and even I control my self I cant do it/ have any Ideas pls suggest me.?
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That sounds like social anxiety. Talk to your doctor. You may need Xanax or some other medicine to help you with your anxiety.
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No one can do everything wrong all the time. You are berating yourself.Try to be more optimistic.
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My advice is to understand that fear is a strong emotion that arises from your perception on a situation and an event. Adrenaline is pumped in your body and signs of fear includes increased an heart rate and the tensing up of your body. Next try to overcome and conquer it by actually DOING the thing you fear and try to IGNORE your fear by focusing on the task in hand. As mentioned by darktwiztidangel, having a cocky or a HIGHLY SELF-CONFIDENT attitude also helps, a lot! Once you get over the thing you fear, you will realize that in most situations, the fear you place to a certain stimulant or situation are unnecessary to amount of risk involved in it. After facing your fears, keep doing it again and you will get used to it and you realize that the thing that you fear is not worth being scared about.
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I totally appreciate that intellectually u r convinced that your fear is extremely exaggerated but u just \n"cant help yourself". I have been suffering from OCD for many years.... only about 50% of cases can be cured, and depending on severity, medication usually is taken in addition to cognitive therapy... perhaps your doc an try different medications/doses, aand maybe a combination of more than one medication, especially if you suffer from other illnesses e,g, depression or addiction , etc..\nWhat yr doctors tell you about : "keep my stress level down: sleep as much as i can, take vitamin c, go to the gym to work out stress, breathing excerises, and listening to claming music" is excellent advice. The thing I found however, you must experiment AND perservere for a while. By that I mean try different kinds of excerci8ses e.g. swimming, dancing, running, etc...when i switched from soccer to the gym i enjoyed it alot more, and i usually have the motivation to go. PERSERVERE: I read tens and listened to at least 100 different relaation tapes; i recommend quided imagery tapes with voice and backgroung music, and choose a theme which u personally find appealing (e.g. the sea, forrest etc). I learnt tens of different breathing techniques and I have been doing them for at least 6 years now, and the benifit didnt come before a few years (sorry about that!). keep yr stress down: my be you have to change your job, improve yr social life ( i found that especially helpful).\nIt is of great value to have a partner or family, maybe get married (but be careful that could turn into a major stressor if the relationsghip is unhealthy). Are u religeous or spiritual? if so persuie that avenue whether it is going to church, a mosque or whatever, it doesnt really matter what religion ...\nConcentrate on cognitivem behavioral techniques ( with help from yr doctor) and practice practice practice,,,...\nI can suggest one more thing: is there an activity whether job or hobby u have always tried to pursue but never got round to it? start doing whatever it is whatever makes u feel at peace, and do more of it...\nI hope this is helpful..good luck
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Speak whenever you have the possibility to do so. Don't think a lot about grammar (I suppose you are non native speaker of English), say whatever comes to your mind.  I had the same problem, but with time I developed some self-confidence.Keep in mind that you are not the only one who has a fear of speaking, and it is something natural that must be done.Good luck!
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To end those phobias for good, go see a counselor. He or she, will probably refer you to a doc as well and then you'll be prescribed some medications.\nWith medication, counseling and time, I think you'll be fine.
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You need to examine WHY you are anxious. This is sometimes difficult to get to but figuring out what triggers you and why is the first step to getting control over it.\n\nThe most important thing to remember, is that YOU are in control.\n\nI used to have terrible panic attacks and then one day I realized... i am doing this to myself?? WHY?? After that I began to really look at things and see what was going on and how I could find ways to change it. \n\nUltimately, I gained control over myself and my panic attacks and thus, my life. \n\nI think too many people get to thinking they are out of control and all of these things become self-propagating problems (we think they are getting worse, so they do). \n\nI strongly believe that life is not about getting RID of our neuroses, it is about learning to live with them and appreciate them for making use the unique people that we are! \n\nGood luck my friend...
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Hello there! I know how you feel as I have a fiancee with same problem. However, he is on therapy for something much worse so he also treated social anxiety....for a bit.....but i read a lot about it to be able to understand him and help him....all I can say now he is back to his university :), he is so much better!!! Definitly if you can, go to therapy it really helps, and you have to keep yourself in contact with social events so you don't get rasty too much :) as fear tends to grow in our minds for the things we are afraid of, and we are afraid of the things we don't know. So force yourself into it, and you will see after some time you will have more confidence, and you will see that it's not so scary as it seemed. In my "research" to help my fiancee I found this site that could be of a great help to you as well. It's a forum where you can chat with people with same problems as yours, just to know you are not alone...maybe you find out much more about your fear through them and their posts. www.socialanxietysupport.com\nGood luck!
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Hi,\n\nJust to let you know a lot of people feel the same way, but try and relax and take a few deep breaths and tell yourself that you can do it.\nI was shy when i was a child but working in a hospital has made me more out going.\nA great book to read is Feel the fear and do it any way:- By Susan Jeffers. \nYou can get it in any good book shop or library.\nT.
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YOu need to consciously retrain your internal voice that talks to you in your brain. For instance you get nervous on the freeway. Instead of thinking about horrible accedents, Put positive words in your mind like....'"I am a good driver, I drive defensivly, I haven't ever been in an accident. I make good choices when I drive here. I have driven on this freeway for years and nothing has happeded and if it does I trust my driving abiliitirs"\n\nYou gotta change your internal dialog and give yourself a break. Eventually you will drive the freeway, carfully and not with such fear.\n\nThe greatest thing in fear is fear itself.\n\nYou have the ability to change yourself and your attitude about things.
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You have been dominated and controlled and you need to take control for, and also of, yourself.  You are not mental, or a failure!\nGet some self assertion classes and think about what you want from life.  Then make some decisions and carry them through.  i promise you, you will feel much better when you are doing what you want to be doing...good luck...;
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It sound like you have a fear of public speaking, even in small groups.  It is very common and nothing to be worried about.  If you would like to work on it, force yourself to start up conversations with strangers you come into contact with.  If you want to get real bold and see real improvement, check into taking a public speaking class or acting class.  Even if you feel like your embarressed all the time in those classes, they will give you the practice you need to overcome your fear.  Most public speakers will tell you that they have a little fear all the time even if they seem totally confident on the outside.
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A better question is how do you accept your fear so it will not feel like it's taking you over. Accept the fear, feel it, and allow it to be. It is worse if you try to deny the fear. When you allow it, it is there, you feel it, and you're okay.\n\nGood luck.
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A psychologist specializing in phobias and anxiety treatment can help you. The condition is almost always curable.\nBest of luck.
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Forget your fear and just try it, \nact normal, and be yourself... try to be friendly\nand you'll be fine :)
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Phobias are common and i too WAS afraid of spiders.Try overcoming yuor fears. Running away from them ,getting someone else for the eradication of the cause of fear aint gonna work fer long.Try to see and reason why u r afraid of it. You will see that there is absolutely nothing out there to be afraid of.Just think,What's the maximum harm a spider can cause- youll see that they are harmless(to us) and stupid lil creatures just craawling with their Long 8 legs.That's all I can do for your fears.It's up to you now to try and overcome u fears.
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Talk to people.  If you're waiting for courage to come you'll be waiting a while.  The way it works is, you just do the scary thing and you're scared the whole time.  Then the next time you do it's not so bad, the time after that less so, until you're not scared anymore.\n\nAlso, having something to talk about helps, so see if you can find people who are into the same things as you so there aren't quite so many awkward pauses in the conversation.