Is marriage too long.?
469060
No, I don't think marriage is too long.  Marriage changes as the years go by.  At first, it's sex then children then sex again.  By the time you have raised your children marriage moves into this really great sweet friendship with someone who knows you completely.  The sex gets better as well.  To me it just keeps getting better and better.  The kind of intimacy that comes with marriage is so precious, and the longer you are married the greater that intimacy grows.  I don't know why anyone would want to start over with a new spouse.
370707
If I was dating someone for 7 years and they haven't popped the question yet,.I would start to think if I am waisting my time or not.  No offense but If this man doesn't want to get married and you do,..then maybe he's not the right one for you.  You need to just be strong and try to tell him that you want a life long partner, not a life long boyfriend.  You only live once so take the time you have and make the most of it!!  good luck
816012
If marriage is the goal for both of you, then anything over 2 years is pushing it.  Once you get to the 4 - 5th years, time to call it quits if no proposal was forthcoming by then.
20214
If you are refering to being married for 20 years, and you are middle aged (ie you got married around 20 to 25 years of age), nope, that's not a long time.  In fact, that's a farily short amount of time.\n\nThe average long term marriage usualy ends after 30 to 40 years, rare if it ever makes it past 40.\n\nSo, if that's not what your asking, you need to be a bit more specific :)\n\n******Addition*********\nSunflower below brought up a good point, however the connotation states that they don't exactly beleive that it happens; however, the concept of time does change when we get older.  \n\nTime moves much more differently for 20 year olds than it does for 40 year olds, at least in regards to perception.  For most people of advanced age, time is of course a constant, however it can drag on without end.  Defining who we are based on acheivements or milestones, isn't eactly how one can properly percieve time.  \n\nWhat we do with our lives, and what we do with our time in regards to ourselves, dictactes how we can properly percieve time.\n\n**********End Addition************\n**********Information based on additions by asker******\n\nAs your question has nothing to do with marriage, and middle aged means betweeen 35 and 45, i would surmies that 20 years is indeed a long stretch of time for such a person.  However, if you really consider what your asking, 35 years - 20 is 15 years old; the perception of time between a 15 year old and a 35 year old is vast.\n\n45 - 20 is 25 years old; the same holds true that the perception of time for a 25 y ear old person is much different than that of a 45 year old person.\n\n25-15 is simply a 10 year difference.  Because of this, we can surmies that man acheives several distinctions and refinements throughout the ages of 15-20, 25-35, and 35-45 with regards to how time is percieved.\n\nI supose this also has to deal with how we wish to see time.  If we lead a stagnet life, where nothing changes, that time itself isn't seen much different than when the stagnation began to show itself.\n\nHowever, if what we have been doing has drastically changed from age 15-35, then i would surmise that our perception also changes; one, for example, is the perception of time moving fast in highschool, and dragging in college.\n\nThe same premise holds true when you consider the ages of 35-45; if one's life has become stable, and predictable, then the perception of time from 35-45 would only changed when that life became stable, and anything thus after would be constant.\n\nI would also assume, however, that from the ages of 46 to old age, that time is also percieved differently.\n\nIf the routine changes, it is not impossbile that our perception of such a time will change.\n\nDo i blieve that 20 years is a long time for a middle aged man; that depends, is the question in relation to 20 years of monotony, or 20 years of constant change; either way it can be long time if it is taxing on the person.  However, monotony is percieved as a long stretch of time; and challenge or excietment is percieved as a fast movement of time.\n\nSo this really is subjective to the experiences, ect, of the person who is asking the question.
622257
It will work if u both want it to. Marriage takes a lot of work and patience. So work hard and keep things spicy and new.
247284
I am going to live with my boyfriend soon. And I would not want to be married before having lived together for at least a couple of years.\nBut hmm 14 years, that is a long time. Maybe he is just one of those millions of people that does not value the institute of marriage.
184362
That is a question that only you will know the answer to...it is a matter or where the two of you are in your lives.  If you know you are going to marry her someday then it is only a matter of finding the right time that will be memorable.  \n\nIn terms of have you been together long enough I would say yes based on what you said.  I know 4 different couples that got married less than six months from the time that they met and they are all still married.  The least ammount of time being ten years and the longest being thirty two years.  My adivce would be to do what is right for both of you and make sure that it is something that you will both remember.  I hope this helped
911992
Dear Friend,\n  Thank you for asking .As per my research i have found that many marriages fail because people rush.marriage must be buid on love and true love waits.So it is important for any person intenting to marry to take enough time in dating   ie NOT LESS THAN 2 YEARS so as to prove true love in his or her mate hence have a perfect marriage.thank you and may God Help you find a good marriage,bye.
600177
Marriage is a huge commitment. It is very good that he cares about you enough to wait until he has everything together. 2 years isn't really that long, especially if you are young. It sounds like you have a good man on your hands. I wouldn't worry, he will ask you when the time is right. Don't pressure him, it will push him away. My only caution is, there may never be a 'perfect' time to get married. He may not have his dream job.. and as far as the house, i would wait until after marriage and buy one together. \n\nIf you don't feel that he's worth waiting for then get out now
588438
It depands on the couple's level of maturity.  If he pops the question, tell him that you would prefer a long engagement.  This will give you both a chance to grow with each other and find out it it is right.  I wouldn't get married just yet...  heck, you are only 18, you can wait a year or two...
363793
Dont rush into anything forever is a long time. the romantic notion of marriage is great but the reality is often very different.
129011
Um, I will have to disagree that it is wrong and that marriages that start with living together do not work.  I lived with my husband for about a year before we got married.  We will have been married for 7 years in June and just had a baby boy.  We could not be happier.  This is a decision that you need to make for your specific situation.  No one will be able to tell you if your relationship will work in specific conditions.
738522
I have been married for near 7 years but have been with my man for 12 years, we got together at 21 years old.\n\nWe have had our ups and downs but our love for one another has grown stronger than ever. \n\nThe main part of marriage and any relationship really, is communication. Don't bottle things up, sit down and talk it out, that way the 'problem' is out there and both can work together on how to solve it.\n\nIn all the years we have been together, we have never in an argument said anything we would regret later on. We have never called each other a name or anything like that.\n\nWords can hurt and people can remember what has been said through arguments, and bring that up in another argument. \n\nMarriage takes alot of work and it can work if both parties are commited to the marriage and each other.
615241
Can do - has for my parents, they spent 10 weeks together a year and have been married for 39 years. But it depends on the people, distance, amount of contact etc etc so only you can answer if it will work for you!
439547
marry him and see how long that remains, LOL.
66590
In my experience, NO...I wasted two more years of my life "trying" to stay married.  Good luck!
37233
Wow. that is a tough one. It depends on your morals and beliefs. Is the marriage strong enough to handle the consequences? I once watched Dr. Phil and he said that is never a good idea. no matter who wants it or how long you've been married. What do you want? sometimes you have to stay true to yourself.