I need to fall out of love with this man. I´m desperate. Is there an actual medical cure for this? I´m serious
468205
you could try hypnosis.  there's also a book on falling out of love.
539150
Girl, please move one. Run, run to the hills. the truth of the matter is you can never change a man. Sometimes I think deep down inside we know the answer, its just we dont want to hear it and its been clouded by our emotions. You love him, so let him go. If he really loves you he will come back a reformed man. Give yourself more time and space. It seems loving this man is bringing you more pain that joy,and love aint supposed to be that way!
561814
He sounds like he isn't someone that you want to love, find someone else, his lost. good luck
58044
THIS GUY DOSE NOT DESERVE TO BE WITH YOU ANY MORE .CUZ HE IS A LIER SO THE BEST THING FOR YOU IS TO BE A WAY FROM HIM.HOW CAN SOME ONE LOVES YOU GO AND TALK ABOUT PRIVATE THINGS BETWEEN U AND HIM . I THINK HE IS SICK GUY . THANKS
763607
There really is no cure.\nSorry to say. \nI felt the depression thing many times when i came out of a few serious relationships and thought that this whole love thing was a pile of 'poop'. I though that I would never find love and i hated the depressed feeling that i  experienced everytime i thought i had found love. So i gave up. literally\nOne night  i cursed love and said, "Dam you love , obviously i am just not meant to be with anyone, so i give up!" [i really did say this out loud by the way!]\nThat night i went out to the local pub with a few of my friends to live my life as a now free, loveless, uncursed woman.\nAs i walked into the pub it was like in the movies. [ and trust me i'm a sceptic of this whole movie, slow motion, angels singing, light shining from above rubbish] I saw the most beautiful man i have ever seen. He looked at me , i looked at him. We gazed, we stared. I am now married to that man.\nYes true story.\nI know ,I never would have believed it myself.\nSo my advice is give up. Love is like a rainbow. The more you try to catch it the farther away it tends to get. So just walk away and it will come to you.\nIts hard I know. Hang in there.
1059363
at least have some self respect and move on...you are just obsessed...what ever you think of him is all in your imagination and it's not real!! there's no mercy in love.....
288855
I'm going thought the same thing right now, he actually told me that he doesn't want me to call him anymore because every time we talk we get into an argument, regardless of all the crap we went through i still love him, i don't know your situation, but honestly there is nothing that you can actually do to get over somebody that you really really love, just live your life and eventually the feelings will die out. what you can do though is just go out and mingle with other people, i find that this is very helpful, hope ive helped!
779032
Plain and simple. RUN. FAST. FAR.\nHe's dragging you down.\nNo amount of "love" is going to cure him.\nI'm sure you've told him as much and if he can't find the strength through you, he's gonna have to find it on his own.\nYou can't do it "FOR" him.\nBOL
701855
You tell him that you are aware of his addiction problem, and offer to get him help. You can only help somebody that wants to accept your help. Your relationship with him will always come in second to his addiction with his drug of choice. You need to move on and leave this realtionship in the past. You may always love this guy, but not all love relationships are meant to last a lifetime. This is not a good healthy relationship for you. Cry a little and then pick yourself up, gather your self-esteem and move on and find happiness elsewhere. Take care of you. I wish your boyfriend luck, he'll need it! He has a long road ahead of him, before he will ever be ready to share his life with someone else.
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To be frank, it's probably not a good idea to stay involved with someone who says they can't love you because they simply can't love.  If he cares for you and is still in the process of falling in love, that's one thing, but just insisting it's never going to happen, that's something else.\n\nAt best, he's not able to admit he feels such things, which could be a major hindrance to the relationship.  After all, what if you have children together and he decides that he can't love them, either?\n\nAt worst, he's telling you that to string you along and keep you in a relationship he has no interest in maintaining long-term, and is keeping himself an open "out" to dissolve the relationship when it's convenient for him by simply saying "sorry babe, I told you I couldn't feel love" and walking off, shifting the blame for all the pain you feel to you for continuing on in the relationship until he ended it rather than having to admit to himself he hurt you through his actions.\n\nA "test" would probably be unfair since, in the end, it's trying to manipulate his emotions to your own desires, which is a seriously twisted thing to do to someone.  However...\n\nIt's honesty time, honey.  He either needs to fess up and admit he loves you, at which point you can take his loving behavior as evidence of his admitted feelings and have faith that he truly does, or he needs to admit he shouldn't be in this kind of relationship so you can get through the inevitable pain and sorrow now, move on, and find someone who can truly return your love to you like you deserve.\n\nI'm all for being original and clever and doing your own thing, but there's a word for people who truly don't experience emotions such as love and sympathy the way the rest of us do.  They're called sociopaths, and you don't want to be in the same city as one of those, let alone in a relationship with one.
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The guy is a control freak. I have been in similar situations myself. good for you for trying to break free get councelling but please realise it may take years to undo all the psychological damage he has caused you.\n\nYou can only truly break free with professional councelling so please do that for me because i know what it's like.\n\nGood luck, you deserve happiness. :-)
1003400
seek medical attention. there are so many new drugs that could help. if he is unwilling to do this, find a man who can help ya out.
230465
Get rid of him! Simple.  You can't force love.  Ask him why and if he doesn't have a good reason, which he won't, move on.  There are plenty of fish in the sea.
884277
dude, this is the wrong kind of love.  either that, it is so strong, he can't stand it.  ask him about his feelings.
1081714
You're in an abusive relationship. And you're not happy. People do change, only you can decide what you want to do. You don't have to decide by yourself, contact you local doctor, hospital or womens shelter for some counseling. I believe you can fall out of love as easily as you fall into it. Sounds to me like you deserve better, and you'd probably do just fine on your own. Ask yourself Dear Abby's famous question: "Would you be better off with or without him?"  Then go from there. Don't be afraid to ask for some help, I think you'd find it useful.
1129520
I didn't even finish reading your note, but from experience I would recommend ditching him... you deserve someone who can make up his mind and can love you 100%!! I had a fellow like that and I think he kept me around as security, so he wasn't alone and felt loved... don't be his love of last resort! Be strong and move on...
588833
HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU!!!!!!   and there is nothing wrong with you!!!!  I'm sorry if this will hit you hard, but from what you are saying something is definetly wrong with this guy, and he is just using you!!   If he is telling you to get away, then you may need to make some Big changes with yourself and your baby