what's the best way to meet someone in a small town, like the one i live in that has no bars/clubs?
471518
You probably don't want to meet anyone at bars anyway so maybe it's good you live in a dry county. What are your interests? Maybe there is a club you can join? Sporting events? YMCA? Volunteer somewhere? Good luck!
38952
well, some people feel that they may be living in a small town, where in that case, everybody knows you. You could also not want to join all those clubs that everybody suggests to meet new people. You may feel inadequate where you reside and even though you would love to move, can't find a job where you want to live yet. at the same time, you can always network on the internet as well. there are so many people I've met over the internet that would love for me to visit them, and yes I would be careful, but I've known them for years. I have a friend in California who's dying for me to visit her, which would be cool becuase I wouldn't get lost in L.A.. I have a friend in D.C. who's got my back as well. I'm not dating them, but they are friends that I would never meet where I'm living at. Most folks just want to meet like-minded people and the internet has tons of them. you don't have to be shy, but yes I've met alot of shy people on the internet. I don't mind it, it's connecting everybody and nobody's shy over the internet, there are some bafoons, but hey, you can meet those in a club or where ever you go. I haven't met a quality chick out here, but I met a couple over the internet who live on the other side of my state, and that was cool, I didn't date them becuase they live too far, but it's  nice to know I have friends out there. if people are lying, after a while you can tell, unless you have intentions of dating them. I say make frieds with them, with any luck, you'll meet their friends.
179208
Look for people of your own age in your area.  That way it's someone you have soemthing in common with.
494400
People down south are very friendly, and we love people like they're family. The way to meet people is to get out and get involved in various activities.  Join a club that interests you. If you meet a guy there, he's interested in the same thing. Take a class, for fun, at the community college, like knitting, painting, computer, etc. Go to ball games, outdoor concerts, street dances, etc. The main thing is...get out of the house. Good Luck! Welcome to the south.
381996
depending on what city you live in, you dont have to meet females in the club/bar, etc. you can meet people in the mall, at the library starbucks, anywhere.  work on your people skills, you'll be o'k.
219223
Just be yourself. Get out there and mingle. Go out with a buddy and have them help you meet new people.
83006
Go down to the dock and meet them. Even without being pen pals, you will find enough takers to fill whatever bar you want to go to. Believe me
652775
How small is the small town? And how old are you? If you live in a town of say 2500 people in western Iowa or South Dakota or some such (beautiful) place, then you need to make friends with as many "ordinary" guys as you can, both to extend your "reach" and for your own protection, once you are outed (which is inevitable in a place where everyone knows everyone else's business).\n\nIf you are in such a small town anywhere in the East or the South or the eastern Midwest, then you should have little trouble finding prospects using Internet sites like gaydar and Yahoo Personals.\n\nIf your idea of a small town is say 40K to 100K in for example a 40-square-mile area, then you will have many more possibilities using the Internet.\n\nIf you live in a remote area but are in or near a college town, and if you have good social skills, then enroll in a course or two in the evenings and summers. Then you have an excuse to be on campus, where you can meet all kinds of (usually) open-minded people with whom you share interests. In such a setting you can form a few new acquaintances, including teachers and other staff, and let them know you are gay, and then you can see who likes to socialize with you, and, well, I think you can take it from there!\n\nSimply create a network so that you can in a very natural way let it be known that you are single and seeking. This takes time, so don't expect to get dates immediately. Homophobia is less acute when people (the prospective homophobes) are well acquainted with the gay person(s) in their midst. And more people will help you identify dating prospects if they know your character.\n\nI know the problem you are speaking of very well, having lived in small towns all my life. Maybe my advice seems overly cautious to you, but that is based on my experience that homosexual activity is more taboo where there is less anonymity (i.e., in rural areas, where everyone knows everyone else's business). So, unless you want to be ostracized or even victimized, you have to work within the social norms of the area where you live.\n\nAnd forget about trying to seduce straight guys (like by getting them drunk and watching some porn together, as some other persons have suggested), because that kind of behavior will get you talked about or worse and will cause other people to feel suspicious toward or dislike gay men in general.\n\nSo just take it easy, be yourself, and form what seem to be real friendships, and soon enough other (including straight) people will be happy to help the really nice gay guy they know to meet someone else they know in the area.
465850
It isn't easy getting back into the dating scene but the good news is that it is possible.  Bookstores are a great starting place because you know that you already have that passion for reading in common with people there.  Start paying attention to who you see there and just like back in high school take time to simply say hi every time you see them.  Look into other interests that you have and how you can connect with similar people by pursuing those interests.  The Internet is actually not a bad place to look either though you do have to be careful and fight through all the idiots.  I would say that the Internet is a lot like the old bar scene where there were a hundred losers per every good person there.  Have faith, I survived to find love again and so will you.
1138114
Well it depends on what type of female you are trying to meet. There are many places to go. If you are looking for a conservative type female who doesn't go out much, you can try the library(like a Barnes and Nobles or book store), coffee shop, or mall.If you are looking for a more out-going female, then you have the clubs, pool halls, bowling alleys, and bars. Now it where you meet this female will also depend on how you will need to approach her. Believe it or not you can actually meet a female at the grocery store. Everyone has to go the grocery store for something. Of course, like before, you will just have to approach her different than you would a female at the club.Hopefully this may be of help...If need more explaination or help, do ask. I'm not an expert but just have experience.
208689
Unfortunately your best option then is probably the internet.  It is can be a wonderful place to find someone but you have to fight your way through all the idiots out there to find the few people that are real.  Beyond that, try and get out more often if possible.  Just going to events around town or taking a class on some hobby that interests you will help in your search.
1048193
I am basically your male counterpart...so, I will tell you where you would find us.\n\nI am sickened by the thought of the bar thing too...so meet people and just do things..let it develop organically!\n\nWhat things do you like to do?  I mean the things you do that get you around other people.  Do them and be open, approachable.\n\nIf nothing comes up, then take a class...go to talks, events that you enjoy...(I met a woman "like you" a 7 years ago taking Aikido.)\n\nDO THE THINGS YOU LIKE..someone like you will be out there doing them too!\n\nIf you liked literature, we would meet at a reading from Edith Wharton...we might discuss the richness of the simple gestures she writes about...and there you are.\n\nI have always met people everywhere I have lived.\n\nI must confess, where I am living right now (a temporary situation in a small town), I have not succeeded in meeting anyone that I would be interested in spending time with.  \n\nHowever, I have not been out much around here...there is not much other than outdoors stuff that interests me here.  \n\nWhenever I travel I meet the most spectacular people...that drives me mad!\n\nI will be moving soon...so maybe when I get to a real town!\n\nDon't be afraid.
406250
A lot of the good ones are staying at home wondering the same thing....where can I find her without going to a bar?...LOL, How about organizing something?....maybe you could canvass door to door in your neighbourhood...  advertising a singles event that you organize for a local charity. That way you can meet all the single guys AND be the ONLY one at the event that they ALL have already met!
450440
Well the real problem is that your in Cleveland but if you want to meet someone for a relationship?  You need to go to the library, the local coffeehouse, the gym or just go for a walk in the park.  It's the summer and if you just want to meet someone, go to the bar.
426102
The best advice I've heard is to be introduced to someone that friends or family know, in your area.  A safe place to look?  Your school, a dance, a football game, any sports activities.  Even grocery shopping can be a place to meet someone!  Usually, love will find you, you don't have to go out looking for it! You may have heard this, but it really works.  Happiness to you!!
61226
Participate in activities and organizations of interest to you.  The guys you'll meet there will have similar interests, they will be outgoing, and you both won't feel like you're in a situation like the bar scene and other miserable ways of meeting singles.\n\nFor instance... like skiing? join a ski club. Like to bike, skate, walk, read books, study tarot card reading, whatever?  Seek out groups based on the same interests.  No group?  Start one.  You'll be busy (no waiting by the phone or staring at the TV) and you'll be meeting a higher quality group of singles!\n\nGo get'em!
704201
try meeting people through other friends... online is hit and miss. or heck try meeting someone somewhere other than a club or bar! If you see a nice person..go talk to them!