How do you start dating after a divorce, when you have been off the market for a long time?
470505
Its not easy, I did it after 11 years off the market, and I have to say...you just have to take a deep breath and go for it.  Dating sites are a fun way to mmet people, and get the hang of flirting.  I met a guy that I dated for about six months that way. Don't be too scared, it can be really exciting to get back out there. \nGood luck!!!
3408
The easiest process that I would suggest is to convert one of your exes that you can stomach. Use that as a starting point to get into the swing of it until you are more comfortable with the concept. Just make sure they aren't confusing the situation with the possibility of getting back together. that can be messy.
402133
Go to a chat room for divorced people who are in there 50's and just start chating. You may meet the man of your dreams. Good luck.
459055
The best way to help your ex get on with his life is by getting on with your life. Show him that there's life after divorce, and happiness. Be courteous, but not over-friendly. Discuss what needs discussion, like the kids, or whatever, then have places to go, and things to do...don't spend time in useless dialogue. Also, as far as property goes, settle that as soon as possible. If you and he have no possible reconciliation, no need to spend a lot of time together. Move on!
462006
First, wait until you're over the first girl.  Then start seeing people when you feel that you're ready.  No need to start a relationship again, just date.  That way you can find out if you want to be in another relationship or just play the field.  Could take weeks, months, maybe even a year.  All up to you.  Just make sure you're over the previous relationship.
1027002
Find someonelse to get him out of your system. \nMen try to be polite and say sweet things to ease you but then women read this compassionate talk as false hope. Honey, it's all BS because is OVER and is been over since August last year.\n\nIf he wanted to be back he would already been back.\nFind some new friends, go to a divorce support group to be able to vent your pain and share experiences with people that have been thru the same. If you keep on holding on you will continue suffering. Realize once and for all that he is not coming back, come one. you are DIVORCED and you don;t have to keep on holding on the candles waiting for him to make his heroic return. Noone is going to give you a medal for being a marthyr...so go out and have fun, you are a newly single gal. He is out ther having fun, so why are you crying at home?\n\nLet go and move on\n\nGood luck.
48554
Re-establish yourself into the singles scene and start asking.
929854
I guess that goes to show that long dating/engagements aren't a guarantee that you'll know the person.  I dated my wife for two months before marriage, and we're doing great after already 5 years now. \n\nIf you married him, try to work it out.  Find common ground.  Pray to the Lord for help, He will do it.  \n\nDon't drag those children through the mess of a divorce.  Pray for help.
153465
Even though I'm a guy, I have been where you are before.  My ex always dangled that possibility that we might get together thing out there.  Unfortunately being the person who got left you feel like if there is a posiblity then you should keep your life on hold just in case.  Two years is too long to have to keep your life on hold for someone who has left you and cheated on you.  It is past time for you to get your life back and to seek out happiness once again.  Step one though should be filing for divorce.  I recomend this before you date anyone because in some states it can make a difference in the settlement still.  If you so much as date someone even though he is the one who cheated first and left they will still see you as equally cheating even though you waited two years.  Beyond that concern though you have every right and duty to yourself to move on and be happy.  Get divorced and find a guy who really loves you and deserves your love.
304394
I'm very impressed by your input on the situation! Why? Because I'm a divorced father as well, and yes - after a divorce you are somewhat at the mercy of the ex, and at least for me - it's much better to take things slow. I'm a lot more cautious now than I ever was before when it comes to dating!\n\nI don't think he blew you off at all! And for you to suggest fishing? Where can I find someone like you? Got any sisters? (Kidding)\n\nSeriously, be patient, maybe you could even do something as simple as enjoying lunch together somewhere? Take it slow - if he's anything like me, it just takes time.\n\nTry to suggest planning far enough in advance, and see if he can get his ex to be agreeable on the date you've chosen. Sometimes a planned schedule far enough out is the best way to make certain it will work.\n\nGood luck with your situation!
370458
There are many support groups out there for people going through divorces. Where do you live? It would help to know your geographic area.\n\nMeanwhile, here are some links that will help:\n\nhttp://ministryhealth.net/mh_articles/349_support_group_transformation.html\n\nhttp://www.independenttribune.com/servlet/Satellite?pagename=CIT/MGArticle/CIT_BasicArticle&c=MGArticle&cid=1137834680403\n\nhttp://www.singlesorganizations.com/organizations.html
622887
I was in a similar marriage for 22 years.  My divorce was final in October of last year.  I am now dating a fabulous guy.  If you are interested in someone in particular, go out with him.  You have wasted enough of your life on your loser husband.  Now is your time girl!  Good luck!  Have fun!  Respect yourself enough to never accept that kind of treatment from anyone ever again!
912603
If you are convinced there is mutual desire to get back together, discuss how you should do this with him. The two of you should avoid getting entangled in each other's divorces, though you can talk about it. In the meantime, there should be low-intensity contact between the two of you. Now that you boith have had experience in marriage, you wonna ask yourselves very honestly what is it that you would like from each other once you are both free. Be prepared to be as frank as possible so that you do not get hurt again, certainly not in the near future.
364786
try parking lots thats were i started dating my husband. like when you leave a store check out people. good luck.
1032725
How long has it been since you divorced?  You just might need more time.  You'll know  when you're ready for a serious relationship again.  Take time to find yourself again and reassess what you want out of life and in a mate.  If you don't feel you're doing ok on your own, seek some counseling.  It really does help to talk things out and put them on the table.
413963
Easy really, just take care of yourself and take pride in your appearance.  The single guys in that age range are also likely to be back on the scene following a divorce.
1158704
hmmmmm I personally think you need to deal with the divorce emotionally and mentally before getting involved with someone else. Otherwise, you will obsess about your ex and the relationship you had before the affair. And, I think that you also need counseling to learn how to not obsess about things/people. This can be dangerous and come between you and anyone you date/love.\n\nGood luck!