what can i do to not come off so shy?
457760
Be confident with yourself, first, then just be who you are.  Guys love shy girls(if you swing that way).  You must be doing something right.  Being a nanny is an honorable job.
785708
i can relate to this.\nwhat i suggest is that you try to open up a bit. it's hard, and takes time, but if you become more outgoing, he won't be too intimidated if he was too approach you. in situations like this, it's YOUR turn to make the first move. start small talk, ask him how his day has been, smile (rather frequently), and just don't think about what you're gonna say. let it out. a friend of mine suggested this to me, and it worked, i suggest you try this yourself. usually if he's staring at you, he in fact, DOES like you.\nyou go girl, get out there and get that guy ;D
228350
its all about practice the more you talk to other girls the more you'll be able to relax. that what i try do, i'm can get very shy around other guys
575171
Just talk to her alot, joke with her...she will be less shy as time goes. Have patience....
432958
People here have given some decent advice but here's the real deal. There is no shame in being shy. the shame is in not doing anything about it. u hafta attack it head on. start slowly by getting comfortable conversing with women u are attracted to. Talk about any and everything as the situation presents itself. Through this conversing you will know whether it's in your interest to take it to the next level. examples:If she is smiling and looking at u intently as u talk, asking questions she's probably interested. If she seems distant, not asking questions or responding with one or two word answers she's probably not.\nGot it??
214006
Shyness is just the insecurity of ones self. Be confident and sure about yourself. If you aren't no one else will be either. Learn to trust yourself as well as love yourself. You be fine. GOD BLESS
838154
you must get out of that shyness thing. it will get you no where in this world we live in.  "grow balls" so to speak.  good luck\nbesides the worst he could say is no.....right?
271019
well, it is not so bad to be shy, many girls like guys who are shy and who are not pushing it too hard. but if you still find it a problem maybe you should practice, at first try it in front of the mirror and then maybe on some girl who you are not attracted to, also try to be more talkative with your friends, that will help you to develop your speaking skills and after a while you could easily talk with girls (at least i hope so!)
664949
Sounds to me like you need friends who will encourage you and be confidence builders. You're going it alone and your shyness is holding you back and this is where good friends will step in and give you support. Reach out, make friends who will help you feel more secure about yourself. Some of us here list our emails and message links to be of help. Take advantage of this and the experience others may have that can offer you support and advice as friends should.\n\nBest Wishes!!
588908
Heres what you do. Be an existentialist. Forget that neing nervous is the problem and try to accept that neing nervous is just there, that you WILL be nervous and thats to be expected, then you will find that you notice perhaps that others are too. Being nervous isnt a character flaw, its part of life, its to be expected. SO then what are you left with once you take that out of the equation...just you right, being outgoing isnt something that you can just be, it takes a little confidence. The catch is that the way to get that confidence it by just doing it....so force yourself, make conversation with people you normally wouldnt, be friendly to people, talk to them but dont stress too much.  You will find that you feel better as time goes on and you will notice the nervousness less and less. \n\nI know that probably didnt help, but good luck anyway!!
565928
Sounds like she's shy too.  Ask her if she'll like to hear a story about something funny you did (as a child perhaps)then tell her.  \n\nOr talk about a scene in a funny movie you've seen or one of those Freddy teenage movies.   \n\nOr you can be honest and upfront and say to her - I'm normally talkative, but when I'm around you I feel shy, she'll open up as well.  \n\nYou'll be surprised to learn most people think they are inadequate in front of people they like and they feel more comfortable if you tell them you do too.
231964
If you want to get rid of your shyness by doing it online... the best way would probably be to use Yahoo Voice and interact with others... rather than typing.
611721
There are alot of shy people, but yours seems to be extreme! Anyways, what you need to do is to face your fear - shy people are usually afraid of one thing or the other.  Maybe you are scared of saying the wrong thing in front of people, or tripping over your shoes while passing under the stares of people.  Either way, its a fear, and you need to face it.  When you are in public, take deep breaths, count 5 seconds between each breath.  You  need to look at yourself in the mirror each day and say: "I am not scared, I am confident! I will not fall, I will not say the wrong thing" and so on and so forth. You need to speak to yourself all the time when you feel nervous. Say things to encourage yourself as you would to a friend who was shy too.  It will take a while before you overcome it but you will eventually.  If you love yourself, you will be more confident. So love yourself (e.g.take care of your appearance) and your confidence will come naturally.  You should also pick up books or read the internet on issues regarding anxiety, nervousness and shyness.  They will give you practical and maybe medical ways to help you.  And dont worry too much - you are not alone!
146423
Well you brought it up...so to you it is a "problem". Id bet you have no girlfriend because your shy. Being shy is ok...letting it define you actions is letting it go to far. Make a deal w/yourself (or your shyness). When you want to move forward with somthing (or someone), Like: This is to important to me to pass-up and think about it no further, say hi, ask about THEM and give yourself a pause to take in how that person responds to you. Youll learn and get accustom to haveing nerves...they can turn to stainless steel if you keep learning and refining. As far as the outcome goes...your guess is as good as mine. They only thing you do is conduct yourself. You can start small or you can start BIG...how do you know what those are? The one that sends you  spinning...ThaTs the big one! Take on those and live through the outcome...youll become King. It takes time so pace yourself.
540885
Lots of people talk.  Learn to ask intelligent questions and listen and you will find friends pretty fast.  And after they are your friends your shyness about talking will start to fade as you get to know them.
249097
Think about what assertive and confident look and sound like, then look and sound like that.\n\nSome details that come to mind...\nstand or sit tall\nmake eye contact\nspeak a little slower than usual\nspeak a little lower (no high squeaky voice) than usual\n\n\nBest of all, know your stuff inside out. That way you should actually be confident.
780992
I should be the last one to speak on this but, don't speak to everyone, just smile or give a long gaze. \nSpeech impediments shouldn't scare off real men.\nAnd if you are as sweet and approachable as you say you are which I am sure is true, dear, you should have no problems. Just dont swing at every pitch