does anyone know what a monogamous open relationship is?
474918
go ..have your relationship like she wants...just dont tell her you did all those girls you "dated"
948472
I think people go into open releationships thinking that they are good. I mean do we do things that we think are going to turn out horrible I dont think so. Anyways I dont think open releationships are good because you end up becoming to attached and you end up feeling something for that person and then you see them or hear about them being with another person and you get upset. I know I was there and it turned out horrible. Just from personal reasons I would say dont do it.
760909
This is a big decision.  One that should not be entered lightly.  Frankly, I don't, in general, believe this fantasy should ever be acted out.  There are many factors/events that can happen that could cause the relationship to fail miserably.  Jealousy and poor communication of one's thoughts and feelings are the most common reasons for failure.\n\nI have a link about jealousy in open relationships.  Although you are not talking about opening the marriage for good, I do believe the article has some good points that you may want to think about.
296047
You are from UTAH aren't you...lol polyamory.I'll wait whil you look that up..
850516
Sorry I'm a monogamist, I only need one girl or guy, admittedly I do have a high sex drive and masturbate a lot. As long as one woman can't satisfy you then I would avoid monogamous relationships and masturbate quite often. You may also want to look into some medication to try to limit your amount of arousal time.
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Cheating on them emotionally? By being here? I am going  to take a three-prong approach  to address these statements:\n\nFirst, married person is not connected with their mate via umbillical cord - everyone has their own individual bubble that surrounds them and they have complete freedom to explore the world around them, as long as there is mutual understanding of an established committment. \n\nSecond, it all goes back to the intent of an action before we can tell with certainty whether that action extends beyond the intended and consequently casts a shadow on the committment part. . If you are married, it doesn't mean you lose your individual interest and curiousity to explore the world around you, which includes interacting with many other like minded individuals along the way. \n\nThird, as far as message and answers on Yahoo Answers,  if you intend to stay in a committed relationship (that's the premise here), does that mean you are banned from having any feelings for others? Do you not  have friends you care about but on a totally different level? Who is to say we are to stop being ourselves when we marry? Marriage is supposed to add value to our lives and help us grow as individuals. Jealousy and questioning stem from bursting self-centered egos and unless those are restrained, regardless of the committment, any such relationship where these are present is doomed to fail. So why not let everyone use their God-given individual freedom to explore the gift of curiousity without questionining? \n\nLastly, Yahoo Answers can not/should not  be used as an excuse for breaking up relationships which have been doomed to fail anyway long time ago. It was just a catalyst in the process.
118498
perhaps you're bored and want to have an "open" relationship
132523
YES!!!  I was in a two year relationship with one and he truely loved me.  He just didn't know the meaning of the word monogamy!!! People, even strangers would take one look at us and comment on how "in love" we were.  Eight years after the relationship ended, he found me and told me how much he missed me and how he felt the relationship never ended in his heart.  I refused to see him because I am married and so is he.  I was afraid that I might fall for him again.  You know, he has a real problem when it comes to women and I had to just burn that bridge completely to avoid being hurt again.  When I was with him, he made me feel like I was the only woman in the world and then when we were apart he would cheat on me.  What a jerk!!!
1136994
Tell him this....Introducing a relationship to poligamy is frought with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundemental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality. See what he says then!!!
682481
what has this got to do with singles and dating?
76451
I think that commitment has been mistaken with monogamy. I don't think that any man, gay or straight wants to be fully monogamous. We like to dip our stick, and variety. But there are people that will refrain or can contain those urges. I thin it's irrational. YOu can have a commitment and not be monogamous, and if you both agree to that, even better! (no nead for cheating)
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Rightly or wrongly, our current societal mores do not approve of our being involved with " other persons " when we are married. \nThe real question is not whether monogamy works; but rather can a couple MAKE it work.\n \nThere are ALWAYS 'other'  people that you will encounter that you are attracted to, it's called the human condition.\nPeople CAN love more than one person at a time.\n\nThe bottom line is, whether or not an individual can field the feelings of attraction,  curiosity, lust, love, passion and want---- married or not.\n\nSo he's attracted to you. That really is a compliment, the right thing to do is to acknowledge that as a kindness, but do not encourage him, and don't allow it to get out of hand, especially since you are already married.
477867
open relationship isnt exactly a relationship of the caliber youa re describing. start with what a relationship is - you to your friend, a teacher, your pet. Everything you come in contact with has some sort of relationship to you, same as the partner you are in an open relationship with. In this situation, one member does not want to hold commitment to anyone, till they are sure they will be with that person for quite a while. go and have fun, and stop worrying about love so much, its nice but it will always happen again, if you put yourself out there.
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It is not you that is having (or needs) the open relationship, it is your partner who is staying with another woman.  If that person and the woman have an open relationship, that's one thing, but if there is cheating going on, that is never okay.\n\nAlso, keep in mind that a person who is "open" with you may be similarly "open" with others.  What kind of sexual disease might be spread around that way.  And if you are hooking up, you are exposed to whatever all the other partners (and *their* other partners) might have.
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Sometimes I think people think bisexuallity should mean a license to cheat. My girlfriend is thin, I like having sex with plus size women. So using the logic I have heard some bisexual people use, I should be able to have sex with my plus size friends.\nMost sexual relationships involve an emotional quotient. It is hard to share intimacy with two other people and have everyone feeling equally cared for. Threesomes are often a recipe for disaster. My first marriage ended because my wifes buddy liked sleepinig with me so much and me her that I left my wife for her. There was a lot of pain all round. The ironic thing was, I was resistant to having a threesome because I was worried about jealousy. I kept saying it would hurt me to see her with someone else.\nEverytime since that she has brought up how cruel I was to leave her for her friend, I just say you set us up.
720551
in my opinion, people in "open" relationships are emotionally immature, and if you take that into account, you will never have her as your very own.  If you enjoy having the sex with her, and don't mind her never swearing any kind of allegiance to you, then you are in luck.  Otherwise, find another girl.
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Yes and I agree that you should use considerable judgment if you find yourself in this situation...on either side of the formula!\n\nFAQs/Polyamorory (see link below) says this about the question of jealousy:\n     "Some people seem to have no jealousy; it's as if they didn't get that piece installed at the factory.  Others, including some long-term polyamorists, feel jealousy, which they regard as a signal that something needs investigation and care, much as they would regard depression or pain.  Jealousy is neither a proof of love (and this is where polyamory differs from possessive or insecure monogamy) nor a moral failing (and this is where polyamory differs from emotionally manipulating one's partner(s) into relationships for which they are not ready)."\n\nPolyamory (noun) is defined as being in love with more than one person at the same time.  Polyamorous (adjective) means loving more than one person, usually refering to being in that state currently, but not necessarily.  If you're asking the question, you're probably already feeling this way.  Polygamy is actually marrying more than one person, as in the original Mormon belief in taking more than one spouse so as to increase their number.  \n\nAnother example...rare, by the way...in movies was the Clint Eastwood musical (yes, he made musicals too!) called "Paint Your Wagon!"  In an unusual state of the goldrush crazy of mid-1800's California, two very different men, friends, decided to share a wife (there were very few women anyway).  Problem was that JEALOUSY reared its ugly head.  If you can find it, rent it...it may give you a better idea of the inherent difficulties of this kind of relationship!\n\nThere are also moral implications; however, most morals arise out of the necessity to protect the integrity of society at large, rather than the passing whims of individuals.  If you choose this direction, be careful, you will find that many states actually have laws on the books that 'discourage' the active practice of polygamy...whether or not you go through with a marriage.\n\nBlessings, Rev Debi Brady