To tell me military wives have no say is ludicrous!?
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The Unseen Veteran\n \nTo understand military life, or what it feels like to be the proud wife of a soldier, you need to experience it.\nOne day he was here and now he is gone...He isn't beside me in bed...His scent slowly fades, as dose the memory of his face...I can barely remember the familiar sounds of him at home. I long for comfort when I have a nightmare. I want him to hold me. I wait for those comforting letters or phone calls that come after three months of silence.\nNow, I look upon single parents in awe...and learn to do what they do, until my husband comes home. I don't need a man to put a crib together, to take care of the car or to take out the trash. I have learned to be empathetic. I have become self-sufficient.\nAnd even though these are wonderful things, I would give up everything that I have learned to bring him home right now.\nwhen I think that I cannot go on, I rely on my routine so that I can support my husband while he defends our freedom. And I know that I am not the only one.\nI am an unseen veteran. S are all the other military spouses out there. We have different battlefields. Our maps have pins in the countries of worry, heartache and loneliness. Our battles will end when our husbands come home and are in our arms again. Until that day, I say thank you to all the invisible soldiers who are there for each other, who are there for me. We lend a strong shoulder when needed and we keep up the brave front at home. The war could not be won without us.\n\nSomeone in my FRG sent this to me 2 days after our husbands where deployed. Sent me to crying all over again.
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I'll say it... but my husband just starts to push my buttons and I am putty in his hands...\n\nno woman would be able to say no when you are doing all the rights things to get her to say YESYESYES\n\n:)
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Ok, the people saying that they rape Iraqi women are just plain wrong.  This DOES NOT HAPPEN.  AT ALL.  Their people get pissed if we so much as talk to or look at their women.  I once saw a woman damn near get beaten down because she approached us.  Given their culture, prostitutes don't exist over there.  I'd heard of some army guys going gay, but never heard of it in the Marines.  We pretty much dedicated an entire room to *pleasuring* oneself.  Go in, lock the door, enjoy yourself, and come back out and let the next guy in line go.  As far as sex with women soldiers, I guess it's possible, but if they get caught, they'd probably get NJP'd with everything the UCMJ could throw at them.
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Honest to God, my head is just spinning after reading some of the bull roar some of you women are answering with.\n\nTo the person asking the question: Read what most the zany women are saying and pack it away in your brain.\n\nThey are rationalizing with excuses and not claiming responsibility for their actions. Pure and simple.\n\nWhen the shoe is on the other foot they scream it out loud and clear when a man cheats, how terrible and nasty it is.\n\nThis my young man is known as a typical double-standard that MANY women base their thought-processing skills on: Being irrational while judging others and complete hypocrites.
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People who have such closed minds never read beyond what they believe to be true, therefore they just make up arrogant assumptions about others. Rather like that dumb cow who thought she should pray for me and my wife because she 'assumed' our marriage was weak! \n\nAssumptions are the mother of all f**k-ups!
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There's nothing wrong with being proud of what your man does.  There actually isn't enough of it any more among the military wives.  However, saying that one branch is better than the other is crazy.  Not being able to admit you're wrong is even worse.  However, it's the trend of the new and young wives.  \n\nAnyone who knows anything about the military knows that no single branch can stand alone.  They all rely on each other.  It's quite ironic that the Marines train on other branches posts and bases more than any other.  They don't have much to call their own.  That says that Marines rely on others and they know it.  Should anyone think less of them??  No, I don't think so.  It just proves that everyone works together.  \n\nIt's quite funny the wives do more bashing than the men.  The men have their rivalry.  I don't know what women call it.  I just know I'll always support MY soldier!!\n\nHooAh!!\n\nOh, and southca49er.....military wives do know about their hubby's careers and the branches of the military.  It's our life too.  Those of us who care and support our hubby's choice of career stay up on all the details.  We have pride too.
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I am a veteran of the US Marines, with combat experience in Iraq.  The best ones to ridicule and mock the military are the ones in it.  Every person has the right to do so, and oftentimes there is cause to.  \nAsking what military folks would like to "do" to those exercising their rights is a thinly masked suggestion to commit violence against them. That violent hillbilly strain of virulent "Umericanism" is one of the reasons THE WHOLE WORLD hates the United States.\nThat attitude is all to common amongst the military members and is a disgrace.  Believe me, the military  and the government it is yoked to are both very deserving of ridicule- and is in fact a means by which it can improve itself.  Anyone who wished to stifle such dissent really should move to North Korea.\nOh, and by the way...I express my opinions concerning the current administration and the military all the time, and would just LOVE to see some Army dog, or anyone else,  try to "do" anything to me.....LOL  Just try to mess with a pissed-off Marine...!
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I have 2 kids in the army, they say it, but like, a joke, or whatever. The Marines sound better, cooler. It's too much of a tradition to change it, but yeah, if you could, you would get NO complaint from the Army!
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well being a military wife i get 2 different kinds of looks i tell people I'm married to a military man and i support him but that i don't support the war its my right as a us citizen to have an opinion so when my hubby is deployed you bet I'm right there with the best of them praying and waiting for them to come home . i support him and his job and all the troops over there now and to come.
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I have encountered a few, and I try to just ignore them, but it becomes really annoying after awhile. I think, like you said, they find something they disagree with in a comment you made and take it as a personal offense. Unfortunately for me, my stalker hasn't been suspended. \nWhen I first read your question, I thought it was going to be about the military guy, and I thought "Oh no! It wasn't a love match."
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i have been a navy wife and i have been an army wife.  it depends on where you end up being stationed for either on what it's like.  when you are in your home city (or close enough where you don't live on post or deal with the FRG) you're only real source of what's going on is your husband - which is actually helpful as you don't hear 40 different things - none of which are right, and you don't get 4 billion emails about crap you don't care about, and you don't get stuck in the damn rumormill.  \nit was fine in the navy - when he left, i stayed with my parents in san diego because that was where he was stationed.  we are abroad now and we did the blue to green so we are now army.  it's a wonderful experience, but at the same time totally frustrating!  my FRG (i'm sorry, FRG is Family Readiness Group and you refer to the leader as the FRG) never  sends me any relevant information about my husband's unit and yet i get all this useless information that i don't care about.  there is supposed to be a POC (point of contact person) who calls at least once a month - i've been here 6 months, 2 months with my husband gone and she has never called - i don't even know who my POC is!  granted, i don't go to the FRG meetings - but why would i go when they don't do anything that is relevant to me and they make it difficult for me to go with a 14 month old?  \nalso living on post leaves you very vulnerable to the rumor mill, it seems especially the higher ranked enlisted wives do it.  they also tend to wear their husband's rank - abosolutely unacceptable!  myself and the 3 ladies i have made friends with are the wives of an E3, an E5, and 2 E6's (one E6 is only friends with me) so we don't care, and that's the way it is supposed to be in housing.  your rank does not go with you when you are out of uniform.  everyone gets the same respect out of uniform and since wives are never in uniform... yeah.  but it tends to not work that way.  there is this whole web of crap to deal with.  i tend to not.  i have also already made it clear that if i am included in this rumormill i will take them to court on charges of slander and defemation of character - i won't put up with it, but most wives will and that's why it's so widespread.\n\nif you are going to be stationed abroad, don't expect any help from the army to get you to your husband quickly - it was 6 months for all the paperwork to go through because no one could tell us everything we needed to do it so as we got one thing done we were then told another thing we needed to do and since he was already in europe and i was in arizona it was very difficult.\n\nother than that, it's fine.  you get to meet new people, have new experiences - if you live on post it's like it's own little world... kinda wierd to me, but you may like it.  and depending on your personality and what your husband does in the army you may not ever notice the rumors spreading like wildfire.\n\nmy tips, make friends with your housing person before you get a residence on base, find out where everything you NEED is at on base (they give you lots of useless info you have to sift through) and try to make friends with your neighbors, they are going to be the people you see most.
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This is going to sound ugly but my fiance is in the army and the higher ups told them in a briefing not to date army women because they how should I put this....have been around.Being that there are fewer of them than the men.Sorry,but you wanted an honest answer,correct?
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Aboodi, don't be so rude.  The reason why you don't understand the question is because you obviously don't know anything about the military.  I haven't heard anything about a new policy.  My husband and I were in Iraq together two yers ago, and at that time it was up the the command that you were in.  My husband and I were in the same unit, and our commander allowed us to have our own corner of a big common area room.  We strung up our ponchos on a string to get a little bit of visual privacy.  It wasn't much, but it wasn't too bad.  \n\nNow there was another post that I visited where the males and females had to sleep separately.  I ran into a married couple there who lived in the same building on different floors.  \n\nThe article mentioned above is the policy of one unit.  As far as I know, every unit is different.  But it is possible that something new has come along that I haven't heard about.
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There is nothing wrong with your question. Some people are just being uneducated jerks who actually believe everything negative that they hear about Operation Iraqi Freedom.\n\nMy husband is a US ARMY soldier. He defends freedom and I think the guy who said our soldiers are MURDERING is a pure ungrateful, unamerican A$$hole. People like you make America look bad. The soldiers do not make the decision to go to war, our government makes that decision. They do their job and they do what they are told and they keep your lazy A$$ safe. Have some respect for your fighting men and women.....\n\nAND it is sick that some dude is worrying about screwing military wives while their husbands are defending our freedom. I hope the husbands come back and beat the crap out of him for being so scandelous.\n\nAND YES TO MARYANN...it is wrong for them to be "comforting" each other as you call it. I would never cheat on my husband and if I found out he cheated on me with another soldier he would completely regret it...I think people need to quit being so weak when it comes to sex and temptation and respect their marriage.
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Thanks to democrats, they will if the lesbian doesn't let anyone know that they are.\n\nLet me try to give an explination as to why it is not "stupid" t  not let homosexuals in the military as a poster under me feels it is.\n\nYou must try to think about from an objective point of view.. First of all, you could say that the homosexual soldiers could shower/bunk with the opposite sex, but this is not a logical solution: First of all, what happens when you have more than one? Then they are bunked together and you have the same problems you face placing males and females together. Let's not even get into the situation of straight males claiming to be gay just to shower and bunk with the females. Next, whether you want to accept it or not there are a lot of cultures around the world that are not accepting of homosexuality. One of the jobs of the military is to represent the United States wherever we go. You cannot keep up a professional appearance when you have those activities going on in front of people who are deeply offended by such things. There are many factors you must consider when it comes to such things; it's not just a "macho homophobic" attitude or whatever anger people want to throw around.
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Now I've heard everything! Your wife should be ashamed of herself for behaving in this manner! This is NOT abuse.
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My husband is currently in the national guard getting ready to go active duty.  We recently found out that if you are not active duty the military doesn't care one crap about you.  Just remember, those who yell the loudest in the military get things done the quickest.  my advice, annoy the crap out over everyone involved until they do something about it.\n\na military wife.