How do i get more confident and not think everyones lying to me?
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You really need to see a doc about this. You may have a chemical imbalance in your brain. Paxil, prozac, or something like that may help tremendously.
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Do what you are doing with this question, and then be very cautious since people can say anything they like. lie, etc.  But some are sincere and just what they represent to you--be smart and cautious and develop a friendship or love relationship very slowly...
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You could start by not asking for directions.\n\nSeriously, I had problems with assertiveness when I was young.  Somewhere along the way, I decided to stop caring about what other people think of me.  It wasn't really a conscious decision.  I still occasionally find myself backing off from aggressive people, but I try to make it a point not to.\n\nConfidence is the key, here.  If you don't project confidence, people will have no confidence in you.  How could they?  You haven't given them any reason to.  So, you end up walking around all day surrounded by people who don't believe in you, which further lowers your confidence.\n\nYou have to break this vicious cycle.  I found that ACTING confident helped.  I'm not talking about false bravado.  I just made a concious effort effort to seem in control of myself, if not my surroundings.  People generally responded to that with respect, which helped to build my confidence.\n\nIn my case, perspective helps a lot.  Whenever I'm in a situation that makes me want to run and hide, I compare it to other situations that I've been in.  For instance, I'm a paramedic, and I used to work on ambulances.  Now, I work as a health and safety expert offshore.  Whenever a client decides to be an @sshole, I remind myself of what I've done before.  I'll say to myself, "Once, I kept a kid from drowning in blood after his nose was cut off by a windshield. " or something similar.  All of a sudden, the client's anger over an auditing form doesn't seem so important.  I don't know if that kind of prespective trick is useful for you, but it's helped me a lot.\n\nI hope this helped a little.  Good luck.
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you are not alone,  public speaking is one the biggest fears faced by people.  you must feel confident, make sure your dressed to the tee, you smell good, your hair is done right.... beleive me the way you look influneces the way you feel about yourself.\nsecond,,,,,prepare,,,,  know whatever your speaking about.knowledge is power. power boosts confidence. \nthird, practice in front of mirror. \nthis sounds funny but it works , this is a sales technique , if you look convincing , you'll sound convincing. \ndont look anyone directly into the eyes. look above them but change the general direction of your look so they feel you are talking to the whole crowd.\nand lastly....... relax.you know what your doing.youll bee all right.... it will be over soon.
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by being comfortable in your own skin, and realizing that no one else's opinion really matters unless you let it. If you have faith in something, lean on your convictions and do not let the naysayers change your mind. Be true to yourself.
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by increasing your self confidence
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Just be yourself. It sounds to me like youre worried about impressing people. And to be honest, the only way to really get people to like you is to be true to yourself. You need to find confidence in yourself by figuring out who you are, what you like, your personal beliefs and likes and dislikes. Knowing yourself gives you more confidence then anything. be yourself, be a good person with morals and values and self respect (but not arragonce, although it doesnt sound like thats a problem) and people will like you. you dont have to try as hard as you think. you sound shy, and that sometimes makes you more likeable, believe it or not. you dont have to worry what other ppl think about you, just what you think of you. then the rest will come with time (and its easier then you think)
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Be yourself.  Either you have or not.  By trying to learn how to have a certin personality, thats being untrue to yourself and being fake.  Just be yourself.  Everyone has different aspects of their personality, some good, some bad.
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just gain confidence in who you are. people notice people who knows how to be themself.just be you and the right people will see you for you.
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just keep your chin up and shoulders back. It will make you appear more confident
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Best thing you can do is appear cool and calm. That makes you appear confident.....
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the best way to get confidence in your self is to confront your fears head-on.  even if you fail, at least you tried, and you can take solace in that.\n\nby the way, not all girls can read your mind...  but most can.  hee hee!  :)\n\nif you stop looking at them like "girls" and start seeing them as "people", you will find it much easier to deal with them!  ;)
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I have a few suggestions on overcoming your problems.\n\nYou need to love yourself for the person you are, tell yourself daily that you are strong and confident (preferably when you feel the least). Everyone is unique. Everyone is different. Good posture might help with your confidence, it sends a confident vibe.. \n\nTry acting confident for a day, you'll see you might actually like it.. and it's not as difficult to pick it up after a while as it sounds.\nSometimes you might feel a little cheesy but it will really help.\n\nAs for the concentration.. work on developing patience and listening skills. If you are genuinely interested in what a person has to say, it is easier to listen. Or you could try tapping one finger on your leg, I know someone who does this. (discreetly though) Don't make it look like you are impatient. \n\nI hope this helps
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Hold your chin up high and be yourself.  When you start losing your confidence, take a deep breath and think only positive things and happy thoughts.  It really works.
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Start giving yourself Brownie points for every good choice you make. Confidence and self-esteem are earned, nobody is born just possessing them. Every time you make someone smile, remind yourself that you have that ability. Do your work honestly and well. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Give others sincere compliments and don't always expect others to set your standards of decency or to make you happy. Remember, you're not transparent. People can't tell how you're feeling. Eventually, feeling confident will become second nature. But above all, be kind to yourself and others. And just have fun!
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Be confident and don't talk alot...
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Confidence comes from doing (experience).  Get out and do more.  While you are at it, pretend to be confident....thats all most people do anyway.