what should i do if i just broke up with my girlfriend?
458945
Deal with it.  Think about the reasons that you broke up, so that you don't make the same mistakes again.  Go a little slower in your next relationship, so that you take the time to know what a person is like before getting involved and possibly hurt.\n\nTake a look at your own behavior.  What would she say about you?  If you could do the relationship over again, what would you do differently?  This could give you clues to be a better boyfriend, which could help you get a better girlfriend next time :)\n\nTake a few months off - girls don't like a guy who is needy, and can't live without a girl.  Be yourself, remember what is good about you.  It's ok to be sad or pissed for a while, but cool off and stay cool.\n\nDon't be afraid to talk with girls, but don't try to ask them out, just look for girls who have the same favorite things as you, and that are nice people.  Later on, after knowing them for a couple months, then ask them out.
984509
i think that me and my boyfriend may be breaking up today. i'm really nervous and not sure what to do.  don't call him, just let it all go. that'll be the easiest thing to do.
400257
get involved in things you love, hobbies, work.  realizing how much you love activities, and life.  try not to dwell and talk about it with friends.\nrealize the reasons behind the breakup and that "that is what was" then move on.
1114393
no, if you just broke up she should maybe give you some time. If she talks to you everday, it will seem like before. So at first it's probably not a good idea. But if its been a while then its fine if it doesn't bother you.
422806
no no no dont break up with the one you love.....\nunless its at the end of the road...and you cant sort out the problem.\n\nbut if your reason to break up is about the new girl....thats just WRONG!
939425
You don't.\n\nThat's really immature. If you're old enough to have a girlfriend, you're old enough to have the maturity to not have to resort to revenge. \n\nShe broke up with you--it's time to move on!
703253
I hang with friends, do my artwork, I find things to take my mind off of the person I just broke up with.  Go for a ride, take a walk.  Focus on better things than think about the break up.
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Surround yourself with friends, family, people who love you. Go on a trip to clear your head. It doesn't have to be expensive, just go camping with some pals or take a day trip to a beautiful outdoor spot. Take up a new hobby. Now is the perfect time to start doing something you didn't have time for before. Exercise. Read humorous and uplifting books (NO romance novels!). Go to the movies (NO sequels to movies you saw with your ex!). Buy fresh fruits and vegetables and make a delicious homecooked meal for your best friends. Get out in the world, get some fresh air, stretch your legs.  Take some time to get to know yourself and figure out what you want in life.\nWhatever you do, DON'T wallow in self-pity at home. DON'T get drunk and call your ex! DON'T write your ex emails begging to take you back. DON'T hang out in front of your ex's house hoping to bump into him/her. DON'T jump into another relationship right away.
1021323
"It didn't go over well", huh ?  You mean that SHE broke up with you and you dabbled around with someone else, then you two got back together and she is ticked off ?  if that's what you are saying, then she is merely not in control of the Green-Eyed Monster.  You see, what she meant by breaking up with you was "See ?  See how much you will miss me ?  See how empty your life is without me ?" ....she didn't mean that you two were really "broken up" - it was just a test for you to see how important SHE was to you and when you went on to someone else,  - WELL - that wasn't exactly in her plans.  And she is hurt and she is angry.\n\nWell, you are not responsible for either emotion that she is feeling, although it would not hurt if you understood them.  She did this to herself.  You can empathize that she feels bad that you were able to so quickly "replace" her (because that is what she feels....and, to tell the truth....that is what happend.)  We human beings don't like to think that we are easily replaceable.  But, indeed, we are.  (Ah yes, for all our talk about "soulmates" the truth of the matter is that many people can be our "soulmate" and that means it is not quite so much destiny as timing.)  She may well have expected you to pine away after her and when you did not, she is angry.\n\nLife is all about growing up - all the way until we die.  You both have gone through an episode that should have taught you both some lessons - different lessons than the other could have learned.  Now you are back together and going forward, hopefully not backward.  (She is looking backward, by the way.)\n\nAnd, as a side note, this idea of full disclosure - telling new girlfriends or boyfriends about your past - not a good idea.  Not particularly respectful of the people in the relationships in your past.  The same holds true for interim relationships - you weren't "with" your current girlfriend during the time you were broken up, you should not share details about whatever you did in your interim relationship.  It is not her business and it is disrespectful to the other girl.  (None of this "oh, if you loved me you would share with me" - see what it got you ?  She's pissed.)\n\nAnd no, it wasn't cheating.
921522
I don't mean to say this to get you upset or angry or anything, but it seems to me that your dissatisfaction stems more from yourself than from her actions, I think. It sounds like you weren't truly sure you were done with the relationship when you ended it, and as a result you couldn't fully own your decision to break up with her. Perhaps you were afraid of something, like her breaking up with you first, or jealousy issues, or something similar, and that is why you ended it?Or maybe you were trying to prove a point, or you thought she'd come back?\nAll in all, the above types of reasons for ending a relationship ultimately do not stem from dissatisfaction with the other person, so much as they stem from personal dissatisfaction, in one form or another, if that makes sense? Jealousy issues are your insecurities acting up... proving a point or thinking she'd come back are manipulative moves which might indicate a lack of trust in the relationship, yet also an inability to let go of something which is making you upset...\nIt really sucks to feel this way, and I'm sure that anyone who has broken up with a few people has probably experienced this at one point or another. Just feel the pain for now - it will pass, and feeling pain is ok. Then, once the pain dies down a bit, examine what is going on with yourself... take care of yourself first. You probably knew what you were doing when you ended the relationship, even if not for the reasons you thought you had ended it for. Personal development is a great way to turn a crappy situation into a good experience.\nGood luck!
512991
break up with them and go out with someone else
622293
I know you must be really sad and miss her. You should try writing her a letter. In todays times old fashioned handwritten letters have been replaced with emails and text messages. A "handwritten" letter will be a way for you to let your emotions flow on paper and also hopefully come across to her at the same time. \n\nLeave it on her car or in her mailbox- Maybe even attach a rose to it. I am a woman and I know how sweet things like that are. Especially if it is a surprise. You could even burn her a cd with your favorite song or the song you and her chose to be "yours"-\n\nWhatever the reason for the breakup is important as well- you didnt mention the "reason". Did she find someone else? or what? if so then thats not what you really want for yourself-\n\nBest wishes..I hope you get her back..stay strong
1130166
I usually like to put the blame on myself, it makes the break up go a little easier. Just be honest though but not blunt. If you listen to your heart it will tell you what you need to do. Good luck!!
862428
nothing now.. just be there if she needs you after the big breakup.
1013122
hello\nim really sorry for break up\ni dont think you can dump her anymore but you can move on and find some else who cares about you.remember when one door closes another opens!!!\ngood luck
718321
It doesn't sound like she is your girlfriend anymore. I would have said that she needs to make her choice, but it sounds like she did. What should you do? Bow out gracefully and make yourself scarce. Find a new girlfriend.
587692
It depends on how your ex-relationship ended. If you broke up with her it depends on how you feel about the person you're with. If she broke up with you then don't, you have to keep your dignity. She broke up with you and you have moved on with somebody new.