I am paraplegic for the last fifteen years , now I am 36. married 12 years back. I am facing problems adjustin
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Well, if you're willing to leave her and can manage on your own, or have someone who can help you, you can file for divorce. Only you know if the pain is worth the wife and what she offers. However, I think she's wrong to do this, and if she ever blames you, because of your condition or something, she married you like this. she knew what she was going to be going through.
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It takes time... more for some people than others. My wife took over a year trying everything from medication to chiropratic to accupunture and almost surgery.
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I know this is easier said then done, but I wouldn't worry about it just yet.  Ive had mine for 3 years now and I'm 32 and your body does go through changes all the time.  Just take a deep breath and relax and if things don't change in a week or so, then call a doctor.  I'm a Paramedic and a woman, so just tryin to help 8-)
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Our oldest is autistic and wasn't properly diagnosed until age 6. It was actually a relief to find out what was going on. We felt like complete failures as parents because it seemed like everything we did for him was wrong. Once we knew what was going on and were able to educate ourselves, we were able to relate to him better and find a comfortable home life.\n\nAs for how my partner dealt with it... there were times when he was so frustrated he blamed me, himself and the doctors. Of course, I did the same thing. It made our marriage hell for awhile. The important thing is that we resolved ourselves to deal with the situation and we've made it through.\n\nI think all children are a gift from God... regardless of a disability. And, no, I wouldn't have changed anything from conception to birth. There's no guarantee that anything would have turned out differently.
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I know it's hard because I know how you feel sort of!  I haven't had the same problems but I got married quite young.  I'm an American so I didn't start parting till I was 21 and got married at 22.  I sometimes watch shows about Ibiza and so on and like why can't I go there?  Plus, I have problems in my head from High School and everytime I try to talk to my husband he is like "Your'll get over it!"  Still he knows when I need to talk and he'll listen.  So sent down with you husband and tell him what is going on before you get depressed!
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I am sorry to hear about your situation, but this question may get more answers if you put it in it's proper topic.\nBest of luck.
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Living in a fantasy world is not the answer.\nyou got to much free time on your hands.\nBecome a volunteer at a nursing home and help someone.\nThrow out your TV
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Well lucky you. I see your disability doesn't hinder your online time. Perhaps get retrained in computers (which you obviously know some things about) and go back to work, so you won't have to depend upon the governement to support you.
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If you applied for SSI you would get it. There are medications that you need to be on and you need to be seeing a Dr. Besides you will need to have a Dr to help with your SSI. I am 46 and suffer from several ailments including fibromyalgia, so I understand your problem.  There is help out there. It seems like once we hit 40 we start falling apart. Good luck to you and I hope I was helpful.
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practice.  try things for yourself.  your body may have changed over the years.  have your partner do different things or do them yourself.  don't give up.
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as an above the knee amputee, the right leg (my gas pedal foot) is gone and i was a driver for 25 years for a living, i was in the hospital and rehab center for three months healing, building upper body strength and learning to transfer by myself without the help of a therapist. i had to build the strength in my left leg to hold all my body weight while i stand to transfer while holding on something for balance. \n\ni had to learn to stand on one leg with holding on the bed, wheelchair, walker, handrails, i had to learn to do things using only one hand, such as pulling my pants up after using the restroom. \n\ni had to learn to transfer to a wheelchair and push the wheelchair with me in it, not so easy as first, as you get stronger you can go faster. but going up ramps are still a pain, i can only do the lower ramps, no steep ones, i ask for help to do those ones. \n\ni had to learn to cook, do dishes, laundry from a wheelchair. i have to have someone with me to do groceries to push my grocery cart while i wheel around the store buying what i need.\n\ni am in the process of getting a prosthetic leg now, so i will have to learn to walk again with it. it will be a process since it has been over a year since i walked.\n\ni have to say, if you don't have any experience other then driving, it will be hard to find a job in a wheelchair.\n\nif you want to talk to me about more just e-mail me and i will answer the questions as best as i can. i will say being handicap is not easy, but you can live with it. you have to have a positive attitude, and don't ponder on your handicap, just do what you can do and the rest will come back slowly, but it is coming back.\n\nexcuse my spelling, spell check did not work.
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sure..im old, bald, overweight and suffering from severe midlife crisis...obviously im a charity case but twenty three years of marriage will do that to you.
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Well in my opinion I believe your husband feels you are going to Dr. Phil for help instead of him, but if he is like most men, they do not help anyway.  Have you talked to counselors before about your feelings?  I think you need to find a good friend or a counselor to get this out and have someone to talk to about it.  I don't think it is healthy to go back to older harder times always, but sometimes it is good, it is just what we need Women need to cry sometimes, now when I say sometimes I am not referring to everyday ;) I hope one day you can let the past go some. Hope you find someone that you can talk to also. Goodluck
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Sounds like you are in a pretty tough spot. Sorry.\n\nI don't know what state you live in, but it may have State Disability Insurance. Even if you don't qualify for S.S.I. you may qualify for Social Security Disability (S.S.D.) or if that doesn't pan out.\n\nThere is probably a good chance your state has Disability Insurance, and you need to apply for that A.S.A.P.\n\nYou need to contact both agencies.  Social Security and your State Disability agency.  Try to find someone who has been thru the system.  Because a lot of times, the good people who work at these places don't tell you a lot of stuff that might help you get on disability insurance.\n\nI'd also do a Google search on the topic, it might include information that would be useful.\n\n               Good Luck!
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Yes, paraplegics can still have sex.  Most do not feel it, but that is going to be a case by case basis.
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i would suggest consulting with a genetic counselor to discuss your particular situation. see info below...
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I am pretty much faced with the same situation.  I have been denied SSI and SSD.  I have reapplied for it.  I too have a physical disablity that is preventing me from doing a job.  I really don't have any answers for you.  I have applied from everything from being a walmart greeter to a receptionist.  I can not do any job where any walking or standing or climbing stairs is involved as I do not have the use of one leg and can not stand, or walk without the assistance of bilateral forearm crutches.  I have been turned down for everything but to prove it is because of the disability is impossible unless they specifically say it is.  I can only suggest you volunteer someplace to see if you can actually do the work.  I would also keep bugging soc. sec. to get you the help that you are requesting.  Don't leave until you get to talk to a person.