Is it right to just stay alone after a bad break up?
458277
Of course it's not wrong!  Focus on yourself for awhile until you think you're ready to undertake soomething that serious again.
881000
Although things may be blurry right now, you made the right decison. I mean you had your reasons for breaking up with your ex, and it sounds like you made sure you were doing the right thing BEFORE breaking up. \n\nThe tricky part comes AFTER the break up. Things that were clear before breaking up, all the reasons you had, they just become blurry and you miss him so much that all you can think about is the good things you had and how maybe you really should be together. But that's just a defense mechanism, you just don't wanna go through all the pain that being apart from that person makes you feel. In that moment you should remember that you had your reasons for breaking up. You should also remember that there was no way of fixing the problem and that's why you had to end it.\n\nThis new guy may be rebound guy or not, no-one knows that. Maybe this new guy it's not right for you and that's all that there is to it. There's plenty of fish in the sea.\nIf I were you I just wouldn't try to get into anything serious until you feel free to do so. I wouldn't commit to anybody just yet. Just hang out and meet new guys and have some fun.
862428
nothing now.. just be there if she needs you after the big breakup.
906559
You should do what you think is right. If you think it is going to turn out badly, don't go. But if you want to go, then i say go. Your ex (whether or not you want to still be friends with him) should have no impact on where you go and who you hang out with.
283838
The worst thing that u could do after a break up is hurting urself all the time mentally, and live in self-pity, and even contemplate suicide. Yes, there are pple who think that their life is worth just that. And thats worse than any other damage u can think of...\n\nBut looking on the bright side of the break up, i feel, its just one lesson learnt. Keep moving. Life does not end there. It hurts damn soooo much, but thats what 'getting stronger' is all about..
596797
I like to meet people that are busy....you know, working somewhere. For instance, the grocery store, post office, gas station, etc. The obvious places also are clubs, bars, etc. the important thing after breaking up is to get out! Don't sit home, alone, and crying! Good Luck!!
95659
I think dating someone new is ok as long as you realize that you are still getting over the other person. It is important to not use the person to help your hurt feelings go away. Let the other person know you are fresh out of a relationship and not ready to take it farther,
491148
First off, you need some time alone just to reflect on it. I don't mean let it consume you, but if it ended for a good reason then you need to be alone just to regroup and get yourself together. After that go out and have a drink with some friends. Get back into the social scene, but steer clear of the relationship deal for a minute
414216
if it's been a on/off relationship then you should just end it, obviously you two keep breaking up for a reason and probably only getting back together due to loneliness. It will probably happen again.  Get out and move on
601349
I was only with my guy for a year!! After we broke up i started hanging out with alot of my friends and guys!! This might sound bad but maybe you should look for a distraction!!!\nIt helped me
440782
sometimes you forget the bad things in a relationship and always hold onto the good memories, that's why even if you break up with someone, down the line you'll think about how good it was and have regrets.  \n\nIt's up to you, if you still care about her then go for it, but be 110% sure this time, after all there is a kid involved and it wouldn't be fair for him to have his parents on and off like a hand dryer in a public bathroom.
539790
i think it is better to preserve the current relationship, that is friendship. you see, if you are a couple and you suddenly break up, you can never be friends anymore. why bother to risk the nice bond you're havin rite now?
521573
It's normal.. we all go through the same thing.. (I mean unless we had a flamin' bad break up that is!) Does the current bf know about this? ..and deal w/it? He sounds like a kool dude if so. It'd be hard, but could ya like change where ya R hangin' out, so ya 2 don't meet up? I kow it's rough if ya got the same friends, right? If ya have a bad breakup ONE of the good things about it is you got a TON of bad info. to use mentally to get over the bad dudes. I mean if he beat ya up, dissed ya, you gotta make that memory a WHOLE lot better.. (helps ya get over the hurt.) How long it been since ya broke up? It'll get better, I promise! If it's too new a hurt, I think it's kool ya got wit another guy already too.. later-     melancholia
116136
This is a toughie for me.  In retrospect, I felt in my gut whenever a guy wasn't the best one for me--but I often stayed because I doubted my own instincts.  Things generally end or fade away because the universe no longer sees a need for us have them in our lives; we have learned our lesson and it is time to move on.  The pain of a breakup is FAR less damaging than the choice to stay and suffer holding on long after you should have let go.
808094
I don't see why people stick around with someone who constantly hurts them.  Being single is not a bad thing! Assert your independence girl.  No-one needs to be with someone who doesn't treat them right.  Believe me once you start to believe that you won't have to worry about the small things like living without him.  You won't even remember his name. :)
1177808
Well if you are broken up, you move on and don't worry about what he's doing or not doing. And if you still want to be with him even though you think he's lying to you, then you still need to move on, because you should not want to be with someone who's going to lie to you just to keep you around. You shouldn't want to be kept on the sidelines. MOVE On and make yourself happy, because if you stay with him your only going to be unhappy, worrying if he's telling u the truth or not , if he's seeing this one ot that one. \nA relationship is built on trust and you have none with him!
772707
Your chances are low right now, I'm sorry.  You didn't give the circumstances surrounding the break up; but the fact is that when you feel lonely, even the people you trust most aren't going to be attracted to you.  That's human nature --- to shun the needy.  She isn't likely to view the potential of your relationship in the long run; more likely, she'll see you as a desperate man with no self respect.   \nYou use the word "ever", so if you get over her, find someone else (someone you are truly happier with), you probably will make her jealous.  Do NOT believe it if she says she would be happy if you found someone else!  That's, in fact, a bluff whether she knows it or not.