How do you deal with a boss who is taking liberties and expects you to do a managers job when you are the asst
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Well the best thing to do is keep a diary of the extra work you have done.  When your diary satisfies you, show him it and ask for a raise.  Tell him, I am able to do two jobs at once and after working hard for this company I am hoping to get a raise.  Because if you ask for less responsibility, they might disrespect you.  But you sound like your being pushed over.  So keep the diary and then hand it to him/her.
237446
The only thing and the best thing u can do if u dont want to leave ur present job is that u have to ignore her(him).  I guess u dont have any other option other than this.. Just have a good professional relationship with her and nothing more.. Dont let her antiques bgo to ur head coz otherwise it will harm ur performance. If ur boss gossips abt u then u canm politely clear the things out with her and say her whats the truth. And for the sleeping part, u cant do much!\n\nBut if u r ready to leave this job(provided u have secured  some other job) then u can do loads of stuff...fun stuff.. U can mess up her papers :) get mad on her if she does something to u.. Tell people that ur boss is a deperate bimbo..etc..i m sure u can make such stuffs happen..\n   But again i know u wont leave ur job.. so..
581049
This is tricky. I would talk to the manager above your manager. Tell them as genuinely as possible that you really enjoy the company and the opportunity they have given you. Explain that you are concerned about an employee that is not pulling their weight and you dont want to see team morale drop because of this... and then you mention that OTHERS have told you there may be a relationship. \nOnce you bring this issue forward (you may want to bring a witness) they cant let you go due to performance w/o the chance of you sueing them for wrongful dismissal. I would also let them know that you enjoy working with this person (even if you dont) but only when they are working as they should. This way it doesnt sound like a personal problem. \nGood luck
705975
They wouldn't take you serious if you left, and told them,  they would think you were just mad ex-employee. go to the Boss, in strictest of sincerety and confidence and state your observations, let him decide. Then, if you don't like the way they handle it, then leave and report it to higher authority until it is resolved. Never watch an injustice, at least try to make it better.
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You say you are willing to wait until "we are not swamped" so why would you need an "excuse"?\n\nIf it is actually that hard to get time off, just tell your supervisor that you have been unusually stressed lately and you need to have a day to just get away and calm down.  Ask about a week ahead of time so it doesn't come as surprise to your sup.\nIf your sup is decent he/she will realize you are being thoughtful and responsible by asking ahead of time and should honor that.        \nAt least you will have the knowledge that you were honest.  \n\nA sup who isn't responsive to the needs of the workers will soon find they have a hostile working class to deal with and that will come back to bite in the arse.\n\nWhere I worked, we had one boss who thought he had to act like a dictator to control everyone. When he finally PO'd everyone to the point they hated him we started watching for ways to get rid of him. Eventually the attendance and work output showed on paper that he wasn't getting the job done and they moved him to another area. A friend and I had a talk with him before he was moved and we did our best to make him realize he caused all of the problems in our area.  He didn't listen. He acted the same in the new area and the people there were a lot meaner than us. They sabotaged everything he did and made his bosses know why things went downhill in their area. The company sent him to some training school to readjust his technique and then transferred him to a different facility where no one knew him.  We heard the people there slashed the tires on his car!! After that I don't know what happened. I don't condone the slashing but I do understand the frustration of an unreasonable boss. They are actually counter productive.\n\nGood luck and remember, honesty always pays good dividends...
783046
you could talk to your boss and see what she thinks or does ...and if you think shes not taking it seriously  then just ride it out while you look for another job. i had similar circumstances but i talked to the boss and things worked out
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That is a no win situation.   No matter what you do, you are not going to come out ahead.   A bully doesn't listen to reasoning.  Assertiveness doesn't work on a bully boss.   I would advise you to quit that job and go somewhere where you may be respected.
79626
This may not sound too nice but you have a right to be a little selfish...you have the seniority. If the other person is the one initiating the change, you have a right to express your wishes as well. Just tell your boss that you don't wish to move & that you hope he or she wil respect your wishes. If you are a top-notch performer, you can also point out your various good points that should keep you in said position while also noting that, "I shouldn't have to feel like I am fighting for the job & currently have...but..."\n\nGood luck!
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Good managers create a team of which they are more a member than a leader, if your subordinates are made to feel like participants in the team rather than just workers under a boss they will desire to work harder and help more.\nI suggest a few things:\n1) Ask rather than demand help.\n2) Explain the assisgnment of the team and ask advice on how to get them done best -Even if you head up a cleaning crew, I bet your team can come up with ways to get the job done faster, better, cheaper...etc\n3) Be the hardest worker on the team - people respect a boss who actually works.\n4) Listen to your people, even if you cannot take their suggestions, listen and then explain why.\n5) Be fair, work hard to be impartial... have no favorites.\n6) Give alot of feedback, look for every opportunity to give praise.\n7) Be willing to "fire" a bad apple, the rest of the team will appreciate it.\n8) Gain trust by being trustworthy.. be a person who keeps your word, is always honest, and never gossips.\n9) Small rewards - A can of coke or box of donuts for everyone one day out of your own pocket will pay big dividends.\n10) Middle management is the hardest, explain your bosses expectation to your workers, so they can work with you rather than against you.\n11) Remember they are just people too - having good and bad days just trying to make a living. Treat them as such.\n\nBest of everything with your co-workers.
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Well, I'll admit that I have done things for my boss that weren't in my job description. While at first it seemed like I was just helping him out, I began to realize that there was no reciprocation on his part. Questions that begin with, "Would you mind doing me a favor..." or "Since you're going that way could you..." can be hard to navigate.\n\nIt can be difficult to know how to handle a situation like this, especially if you feel as though your job is being threatened. Telling you to just go straight to the HR department is the easy answer, but it's not easy to do. Filing a report can cause a lot of stress for you and those you work with.\n\nYour personality will play a big role in how you deal with it. If you are a person who does not mind conflict, then I would tell you to go to HR and report the situation. However, it may be wiser for you to just back out quietly. Unless you are very invested in the company, I would say that it's not worth the effort to wave your arms and call in the law. Who's to say you wouldn't run into this situation with others in the organization? Things like this often indicate a weak upper management.\n\nI think what you need to decide is how important your current job is to you. If it's important enough to begin a legal investigation, then go for it. Otherwise, I'd just disentangle myself as quickly as possible. I can't help feeling sorry for the person who will take your job if you do decide to leave.\n\n(My decision was to quit and get a job elsewhere.)
193526
Ask your boss. They aren't yours anymore!\nWhy quit something and keep trying to control it?
866806
The next time that your boss tells you that "this is a man's job", remind him that he is breaking the law.  A job is a job, there no longer is a "man's" job, just like there is no longer a "woman's" job.\n\nAlso let him know that if there is any more harassment by your co-workers, you will consider that as management's consent and approval of the unacceptable behavior, and you are prepared to take appropriate action, legal and otherwise.\n\nLet him know that you have started a log of inappropriate action/ behavior of fellow employees and management personnel. Starting with the instant conversation, you are documenting everything that is said and done (who, what, where, when, time, place, and witnesses), that you consider to be harassment or sexual discrimination, and/ or related matters such as counselling sessions that you may be involved in.\n\nAlso make him aware that any adverse action such as termination, discipline, demotion, or transfer to a less desirable position will be considered retaliation, and if it happens you will take further more aggressive action.\n\nTell him these are not threats but commitments. \n\nAsk him if that is "tough enough"!
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This happens alot especially in smaller businesses where you have family members or people who have worked for the company for a long time. Plant a small tape recorder somewhere near the place where people have a tendency to gather and talk. Break room, smokers area, lunch room.You might be able to head off some of the roomers before they get to your Boss. Try to make them look foolish. You cannot play this for your Boss but it could come in handy if things got to a point of he said she said. These 2 people do not like you because the boss obviously likes your work and they feel threatened. Whether the threat is real or not. In private explain to your Boss the situation at hand and without pointing the finger at the 2 girls who have it in for you. Just tell him that you are not like that and he will have to form his own opinion about you. You like working here but you will seek another position elsewhere if he feels that theses accusations are true. Ask him if he has had this happen with other employees? Sometimes they don't see a pattern until you bring it up? Had the same problem with the New Head Chef where I work. She was out to get me fired because I was too meticulous in my work. She would tell people what she made and then blame me in front of the boss for telling people what she made(I am the Payrolll clerk/Bookkeeper) I stuck to my guns and stayed on top of her all the time. I finally saw a problem with things missing and people fighting with each other all the time. I went to my Boss and left him a note saying think about when your problems here all started? I left it at that. He started watching her more closely and found out she was stealing stuff from the freezer on a daily basis. He fired her and apologized to me and we have a very good trust relationship going now. It was not easy and I had to bite my tongue many many times. Be careful if you use the tape you may hear things you did not really want to hear. Stick to your guns and keep your cool. If they think they are starting to wear you down they will keep on doing it. If they think it isn't working they will give up.
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A poplular term used when discussing dimwit bosses is "manage your boss."  If you see her beginning to point in a direction you know to be incorrect, try playing the part of Devil's Advocate and pointing out some of the pitfalls in her way of thinking.  Another tactic is to think out loud, walking through the consequences of her decision step by step.  As long as you do this in a way that initially sounds like you are agreeing with her, you'll be fine.\n\nThe saving grace in your case is that "numerous people in the company seek advice from [you] and not her."  This indicates that they also know that your boss is clueless.  However, do not EVER tell anyone else that you actually think your boss is clueless!  Always cover your butt when taking about your boss.  Perhaps she's not been there as long as you, or she has a lot on her plate, or she's just not involved in the issues as much as your are.  Whatever the case may be, let everyone else pump up your reputation.  If your boss begins getting in hot water from her superiors, stay out of it as much as possible and just make sure your supporting co-workers are close at hand to support you as a replacement should that happy opportunity present itself.\n\nOh, and when things just get too frustrating, buy a stress ball.
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You should tell your boss how you feel, and tell him/her what the lady does. If it really upsets and interfeers with your job, let your boss know. the worst he can do is not do anything.
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Unfortunately, most bosses are like this....but I have learnt to face up to my boss (your boss) or anyone who is "in a way putting you down", and it works....I will turn the tables on them and ask them simply "what it is that they don't agree with" or what would they do differently, I will never allow anyone to just "put me down" without at least getting some kind of response back from them, I want to know the reason why.......especially and you must be honest, if your intentions were well meaning....and after a few times doing this to your boss, your friend, your family member, someone in a store/restaurant, believe me, you will leave them with an IMPRESSION of who you are and that will be, that you will want to get to the core of the matter........Good-Luck
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Take it up with the management.  As soon as you see that a staff member at the bottom rung is just giving you what they are told to say, ask to speak to their manager.  To do otherwise, wastes everyone's time and energy.  No sense upsetting someone who has no authority to change anything, or upsetting yourself, and looking bad.