HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why is it that the Sex gets real dull after marriage?
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don't be afraid to try new things, like sex posotions, toys etc. Maybe get sme hot new lingerie, or introduce some porn into it.....All good ideas!!
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Maybe he is having problems preforming and he is insecure about it. I am 20 and my husband is 34 and we have been together for 2 years. Sometimes you still love each other and you still find one another attractive, but you just need a break from the sexual part of the relationship. Are you feeling pressure from the idea of marriage? Are you both stressed out in any way more than usual, maybe from planning a wedding? It all factors in, as long as you still love each other, it's OK. Sex isn't everything.
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First, you need to explain to him what he does and how it makes you feel.Honesty and communication are the most important part of any realtionship.Next, the bedroom.Spontaneity and variety.Always mix things up.Never plan it.Try different things and if your open to it, toys.Life is short and a marriage is very important.I think keeping it fun will keep you both interested and actually enhance your sex life.BUT, you need to communicate there too.Talk to him and see what he likes, what he dosent, and where he draws a line.Maybe find out what his fantasies are(doable ones).This will definitely keep your sex life interesting.For toys, try online ordering(very discreet) or if you want to go look, try Spencers or Priscillas.There are many adult stores  that have womens interests in mind too.Have fun and congrats on your preganancy.
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This makes me laugh... lol.\nOkay, sex doesn't last for a few mintues I'll tell you that.\nYou can make it last a long time... enjoy it.\nWhat is normal? I don't think there is a standing time for normality... just do it till both of you well.. how do I put it? Feel satisfied.\nSex is something that is for the both of you remember that.\nHow many times should you start over? Depends on you and your partner. Does she want to do it again? Can you still keep on going? Ask yourself and your partner these questions.\nHope this helps. ^_^
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How about seeing a doctor together and maybe getting a referral to a sex therapist.  There may be some medical solutions.  Even if there isn't, there are a whole host of things that a sex therapist can open up your mind to, that could help bring the spice back into your sex life.  \n\nYou are a very honest person and obviously love your husband.  So, try reaching out with the same question to a professional physician or psychologist who can get you back on the same path together.
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I've noticed that my husband also orgasms quicker when we don't have sex frequently. I suppose a part of it is the underlying excitement in your mind. I find sex to be better and more exciting when it's not a daily thing, perhaps that's why.
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The intensity of the honeymoon wears off.  That's where the action of love comes in.  Be creative, and yet do things to bring back the romance.  Sooner or later, the quality should overrule the quantity.  Makes the intimacy more enjoyable.
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Sex=Make love @ 25 after I was married.
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So you only married him for the sex ... how very shallow of you .... and I see you're very modest as well.\nMaybe it's your attitude thats causing him to falter ... the more you pressure him the les frequent you're gonna get it .... so sure divorce him and go find youself another stud until you wear him out .... \nMight do hubby good to be able to relax and not be pressured
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Gosh, I don't know if it ever gets boring or not.  I'll have to wait to find out.  I've only been married for 33 years, and each time it is different, with the same woman no less.  Sure, we don't do it twice nightly anymore, but I still am in the tries nightly stage.  Marriage is not something that you back out of if things get difficult.  You have to work on it all of the time.  I find that going out on dates and seducing my partner the same way I did before we got married, is a hell of a lot of fun.
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It's common, but it doesn't have to be.  I've been with my husband for over 2 years and we aren't bored with sex, but we do sometimes just have "routine" sex, lol.  If you've been dating for over 2 years, you should know each other well enough to be able to try things you know you'd both like.  Maybe some new positions would help, or some role-playing.  Sometimes even just having sex somewhere besides your bedroom can shake things up a bit.
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B"H\nHmmm... try taking two weeks off from sex every month.  Show him that during that time you are STILL head over heels in love with him.\n\nThis is actually advice many marriage councelors give out to help people who've lost the spice get it back into their marriage.  While you may not have this trouble, this definately helps develop the intellectual and emotional aspects of a relationship as well.  \n\nLoads of ancient cultures practiced this (usually abstaining from physical relations during the woman's menstruation) and it has proven itself time and again to keep marriages in a prolonged "honeymoon phase".
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Believe it or not, a lot of people loose interest in sex after marriage. For the first few months thier interest may increase, or they could just stay normal. But once the "honeymoon" is over, a lot of people just loose interest. Also, it could be that he is depressed. You might want to look into that. Or, if he has been put on any antidepressants lately. Most doctors fail to inform patients that a side effect of SSRIs is a decrease in sexual desire.
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Don't be concerned you are adjusting to married life, and it is normal to have a slow down in sexual desire, just keep it fun...spontanous and romantic!! Surprise him...impress him....tease him.....
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GreenGrasshopper,\n\nWow! 8 years! Many people don’t last that long without any real problems. First, I salute you, it is in doing the tough things well that we discover that God is real. Congratulations for being so loyal and loving.\n\nSecond, do something about it. If your husband doesn’t desire sexual pleasure, then don’t try to make him perform or enjoy it if he isn’t interested. You – on the other hand – are interested and there are other ways for him to satisfy you sexually without intercourse.\n\nIt’s an old movie and quite possibly before your time, but in “Coming Home” a paraplegic with absolutely no ability to perform sexually made Jane Fonda very satisfied. I’m not condoning adultery as the movie did, but my point is that your husband’s problem need not necessarily be your problem. If he loves you, as you love him, then he must be willing to do something to satisfy you sexually. It is his duty to do it. It is not the ideal way to enjoy sex to see it as a duty – it takes the fun out of it – but it is each partner’s joy and duty in a marriage to satisfy their mate.\n\nI think personally it would be hard for me not to be able to have children. You don’t mention that so I assume that it’s not a problem for you.\n\nI am happy that you are a Christian. It makes your life much easier in one sense. Talk to God honestly, and ask Him to fix it. He loves you, and He does not want you or your husband to suffer with this. Your husband must be demoralized and discouraged by his inability, too. Insist on change, and don’t quit until you see the change that you desire.\n\nI really suggest that you and your husband pursue this matter together. Go to the doctor with your husband. Go to a marriage counselor with your husband. Keep going and keep doing whatever it takes until you succeed. You have been a loving wife for a long time, and the way I see it this is being a loving wife, too.\n\nDivorce is horrible, and it is not the only solution. Do not quit until your problem is solved no matter how many doctors or psychologists it takes or how long. Just make up your mind that you are going to change the situation, and it will change.\n\nAgain, I really admire you for making the right choice and staying in your marriage.\n\nGod bless.
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same could be said why sex is so important to you people after marriage...whats the difference? ok, obviously no one wants to be with a "whore" but then again i think that people would want to be with someone that is experienced, i know i would. Cause lets face it, peoples sex lives play a very important role in marriage today, 73% of marriages fail due to this and/or they are deeply troubled because spouses are not faithful and loyal to their signifficant other due to inexperience or unfullfillment in that department. I for one, would like to know that my souse can not only satisfy me spiritually, emotionally but also physically. now, with that said, there are those that feel this way, and then there are those who are extremely active. to each his own but thats where i stand. Hopefully my answer has shed some light on the opposite side of you acusations.
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No its not!!! Because the bottom line that once you marry the sex life becomes less and less. It may not be right away that this happens but its true it does happen. When you are thinking of marriage you should make sure that this person is the one who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Marriage is about uniting as ONE!Its my opinion that communication would be the most important thing in a marriage up under have Jesus at the roots of the marriage! Sex does play a role in a marriage because  two people who are married feel the most connected when they are making love as the should but its not the most important thing. Marriage includes making decisions together, compassion, understanding, just letting the other one know that you are there for them no matter what, friendship.  So have fun with your SEX but remember marriage is more that just SEX if you marry for this reason then you are going to end up unhappy and wanting out! Truth of the matter, things change so will the sex life.Good Luck to you!