What's the best way to get over a cheater?
473665
it will always bother you but if you believe he wont do it again then let it go and enjoy each other.....only time will tell and im sure you dont want to spend that time dwelling when u could be having a great time with him...you said u gave him a second chance,,,,enjoy him,you obviously thought he was worth the second chance
1170862
Now, this is my favorite one: 'Let him go, if he comes back, he is yours, if he does'nt, he never was' \nI believe in this, because it happened to me. \nI am guessing he cheated on you, or something.. and now you have trust issues. \nHappens!!\nDont wait for him to screw up, it wont work. I know, because I waited for my gf to screw up after she cheated and we got back.\nYou will only end up screwing your thought process!!\nWhat you are doing right this time to you are a lot mature and hopefully going slow. Which is good. \nLove him for what he is to you and for what he will be for you tomorrow. Dont resuscitate the past. \nI strongly feel you are going to make it. Just take it one day at a time, discussing your future and stuff is good and sounds ideal, but if you have had trust issues, I would not recommend you make long term plans.\nWhat say??\nCheers!!
813498
Well hon you are certainly in a rough spot. It seems like the best course of action would be to end things for now at least. \n\nI think the best thing to do is tell her how hurt you are over her cheating and that despite everything you still care for her. Then make it clear that you arent prepared to forgive her for cheating just yet and that you will talk sometime later. Minimum of 3 or 4 months preferably 6 months later. Then after several months of cooling off time you two maybe in a position to be friends, but right now you need to be away from this girl. \n\nS
435783
He made his decision long time ago. He cheated on you, let him prove that he wants to be wtih you. But what you should be asking yourself is can you get past his cheating and never bring it up can you forgive him and will you get past this and be in a healthy meaningful relationship. You owe it to yourself and to him.
69411
She was going to cheat on you anyway, you did the right thing.  Take it from someone who went through a similar breakup with someone they thought was truly in love with them - move on.\nThe best thing you can do for yourself is to just move on.  Obviously you will still think about her, but you absolutely, positively cannot call her, write her, ask her friends about her, talk to her parents.  Nothing.  I had always held out hope I could get back together with my ex.  It was my friend who coached me on not having any contact with her.  Now, looking back on things, I realize how much added pain it saved me.  Like your ex, my ex did what she did and nothing could change that.  It was in her and it was in her head and it would have happened sooner or later.  And trying to get her back was not an option.  Not trying to get in touch with her was the best thing I could have done.  \nI just got back into the dating thing after a few weeks.  Sure, there may be a few "rebound" girlfriends, but sooner or later you get into another satisfying relationship and leave the bad memories behind.
1041332
wake up,he cheated on you so why have him back.chances are you will never fully trust him ever again.time to move on girl
412225
This is a tough situation.  He needs to address the relationship he has with this other woman.  Of course, the fact that he's been cheated on, is a terrible sign for him and whether he has you there or not, he needs to get out of that mess (once a cheater, always a cheater).  I think you need to tell him your concerns about the relationship he is in.  As far as your feelings, I think you need to be careful there.  You don't want this guy to end up with you only because he's rebounding.  You need to be his friend through his (hopeful) breakup and then through the recovery.  I'm thinking that time will take care of the rest.  My advice, let nature take it's course with both things and don't be in such a hurry.  Good luck.
448680
OK forget getting with someone else- the issue WILL resurface if you don't deal with it. First of all cut off all contact (for a while at least). It doesn't help to keep calling each other. If you have to see each other (like at school or work) then make a concerted effort to change the way you communicate with them. Second, yeah forgiveness- you have to go over all the bad stuff that happened but once you forgive them the burden is lifted and you're free-er. You will stop hurting a whole lot after you manage to let go and forgive, trust me. Next figure out what happened and make a decision that you will never be in that type of relationship again- if the person cheated you will feel like you have no control over that kind of situation and it could be true to an extent but it's important to realise that cheating is about them not knowing their worth or having self respect and know that as long as you do have self respect and know your worth you will never be hurt in quite the same way by a cheater (or anyone else). Get busy. Get a life that doesn't involve your ex or things you used to do together. Have fun, spend time with your friends again and find out what's important to you- minus your ex. Above all else- be totally healed before you consider getting with someone else and if you do meet someone and you're not ready then just let them know and if they like you enough they'll wait til your feeling better about the whole dating thing, if not forget them.
884575
he has a guilty conscience, dump him, forget him and move on to someone more deserving of you. Once a cheater always a cheater
514399
Take a break.....if it happened once it could happen again.  They say once a cheater always a cheater.  What were the circumstances surrounding the "moment" alcohol, stress, anger etc....and will this set it off in the future??  It could just be a never ending spiral.  And at some point if it does happen again, you may feel you need to do the same thing just to get back at him.  He needs to prove himself worthy of you.  And it will always sit in the back of your mind.  First thing you should do is talk about it again and show him how you are feeling, if your reaction was nothing, he may not think it's a big deal!  Good luck....  And remember there is someone out there that is perfect for you, so if you ahve to let this one go, it might be b/c someone better is waiting!! :)
706519
The best way to get an ex out of your head is to erase him.\n\nDelete his number from your contact on your phone.\n[so you don't think about him when you are scrolling through]\n\nDelete/destroy emails/letters he has sent you.\n[Reminiscing in the past is BAD]\n\nGet rid of photos\n[The less you see him the less you will think about him.]\n\nJust start over. Like life was before you met him.\n\nSoon you will think about him less and less. Then move on.\n\nIt is easy to hide your feeling from someone that doesn't exist to you anymore.
412387
Once someone cheats on you there is no going back.  I tried the whole forgiveness thing with my fist wife and ultimately it is something you just can't get out of your mind and since he already cheated on you before it is much easier to do it again.  I think he blew his chance with you and you will be better off with someone else.
746950
it depend on the nature of getting out.were u heartbroken? if yes then the best way to get over a broken heart is to get under another relationship. but if u were tired of the affair and thoughtfully decided 2 chicken out i will advice u to give urself time 2 rest b4 starting anode.remember not 2 compare ur next victim or guy 2 the previous 'cos guys are not thesame and while planing 2 start another, remember dat u also have a weak point, u might be responsible 4 ur broken relationship.be wise, think well and enjoy ur next encounter, u will not regret it!.
510623
Trust is one of the most important things. If some cheated on me then I'd want to know.  Whether to continue with the relationship would depend on how you found out you were being cheated on. If he or she came to you, then you know this person has a conscience and you may be able to continue with the relationship eventually letting go of the hurt from their indiscretion. But if they never said anything and you found out another way I think it would be best to let go of that relationship because there will be serious trust issues. I personally don't do the whole getting back at my significant other thing. If you have forgiven him/her then it wouldn't be fair to keep bringing it up or punishing them for what they've done. So if it's something you can't get past. Let go.
52967
Beat him down.....go find the chick.....beat her down......make him beg for forgiveness......slap him again......go to lunch......then tell him to leave you alone forever.\n\nit will be hard, but if you dont do it. then you will just get hurt again. once a cheater, always a cheater.
242969
1.Get yourself involved in some other activities to help get your mind off the person.  \n2. There are other fish in the ocean, and maybe by getting involved in something, you can meet someone special that will heal that broken heart.\n\nThe main thing is you got to move on or nothing will happen.
242687
It is absolutely vital for you to move forward with life and love. Being willing to trust again is key. Take things one step at a time. Don't try to make sense out of nonsense. Rationalizing your cheating ex's behaviour or sympathizing with him is pointless. It is never OK to go outside of your relationship to solve problems within a relationship. It's not your fault. \n\nDon't cling to negative feelings. Anger is nothing more than an outward sign of hurt, fear, guilt, grief or frustration. While the pain may never completely disappear, forgiveness can help you release the anger and bring those in your life closer to you. You can't change the things that happened in your life, but you can decide how you interpret and respond to them. If you didn't receive support when you needed it, give it to yourself now.\n\nConsider what you need to do to get emotional closure. Maybe you just need a simple apology. Someone may have said horrible things to you long ago, but it's possible you took over for them when it stopped.\n\nThere is no right timeline for recovery. For some people, making peace happens suddenly and spontaneously. For others, it takes time and effort. You may have to make a conscious effort every day to forgive. To say, "I'm letting this go. I'm not going to invest hatred, bitterness, anger, resentment in this person anymore." You can find closure in forgiveness.