guy says no to relationship but acts differently.why?
472588
Well you have an open relationship.  If you can flirt with other guys and have a monogomous sexual relationship then more power to you.  I would be proud of having that type of relationship, see what else is out there and have a guy that wants to go home with you everynight.
55951
Usually when a guy acts like this it is either because he has a guilty conscience or the woman is giving him reason to believe something may be going on like acting flirtatious with other men or even by not being as caring towards him.  If this has been a recent change in his behavior and you are not doing anything that could explain his actions, I would be suspicious of what he is doing.  I hope that's not the case and that it is simply a misunderstanding that will be worked out.  If he has always been this way, it may just be his personality or he may have had some bad relationships before you.  I would suggest changing your behavior to see if he changes.  You won't be able to change him but by changing your own behavior (in a positive way), you can elicit a better response from him.
1078660
sorry im not a guy but generally it could be one of wo thingseither he wants you and is to scare to say guys are like bug puppy dogs they need nurturing...or he wants you to set him up...aski him if he wants you toi set him up and if he says no you know he probably means he wants you...worth a try babe x
924544
I don't think  this guy would shoot at you for turning him down.  I think he would shoot at you for leading him on.  He asked if you're guy and you said no; that should be enough for him.
293580
Don't say you're an idiot...I don't know you but I'm sure you are a nice girl...no one really is an expert or born knowing how to deal with relationship matters...for what is worth it sounds like you wish to have a REAL relationship...you mentioned that you guys had agreed on not having a relationship but see now you have feelings for him...and the longer you wait the more damaging you are doing to yourself(if he's not interested). Tell him how you feel about the situation.if he runs away then YOU'LL KNOW that he is not the right one..BUT DONT FOOL YOURSELF and hide your feelings...BEST OF LUCK TO YOU.
327138
let him know .he might be cool with it. honesty is the best policy. but if he says no. then sneek.
20697
If he's not doing the dating stuff with you, he does not consider you dating material, you are a booty call at best. I have a friend like that, she is convinced that I feel more but I htink she is just trying to make herself feel better about it even though I am honest with her. He's not being honest with you, watch your back.
608781
By not making up his mind, he has already made up his mind.....he''s not interested in a relationship with you. When people are interested, it's NO problem to make up their mind, and you WILL know it. Move on! Find another man that CAN make up his mind! Good Luck!!
136311
Obviously, this guy uses avoidance as a way to break up with girls without having to actually break up with them. Unless you have no desire to see him in a romantic sense, leave him alone. You do not need to be treated like that, certainly not a second time.\n\nIf you can handle just being friends (and you need to think pretty hard about that), by all means give it a go. Just don't get involved with him.
709099
OK, perhaps he sees it this way: He likes you still and on some level feels guilty about dumping you. Even if he believes that breaking up was the right thing to do. But he still would like to see you and perhaps hang out with you, but he doesn't want to how do I put this, insist upon seeing you since that could lead to an awkward moment with you telling him no or not saying no but implying it. So he left it up to you to decide if you want to hang out with him or not. This allows you to politely say no without the awkwardness of saying no. You just don't give him a shout out. You're "too busy" or it slipped your mind or something like that.\n\nOf course, he could also be doing it as a means to get back together, but he could also just miss hanging out with you. \n\nAnd yes, I have hung out with exes before. See how they were doing and all that. Sometimes you miss a part of your life, even if you have moved on.
496625
Absolutely.  If a guys isn't as comfortable as he thought he was, what's the point in going through with something that's probably going to screw up anything relationship-wise that could be possible?  It's not fair if girls are the only ones abiding by "no means no"...although, he might consider not going through all the motions (just as women should) if he's not going to play the whole game.
425960
he is probably trying to play it cool. like, "oh hi, i didn't see you there," when he totally did. i know that i do that to guys i like sometimes! try to say hey to him next time he doesn't look at you. maybe that will change things.
93221
I began writing a quick, "guys will be guys response," but then I saw your additional info.  The important question here is, why are you still with this guy?  It's unacceptable to behave that way in the situation you describe, and it shows a lack of respect for you and your relationship.
993587
Because he is not into you!  Dump him before he dumps you! He is using you and doesn't want you to make waves about it.
203907
cancel cancel cancel! There is a reason you didn't want to date him in the first place! I once dated a guy, because I  didn't know how to say no, before the second date I had a bad feeling and really didn't want to go out with him anymore, well towards the end of that second date, he was really forceful, wanting me to have sex with him, luckily some people came upon us, but listen to your gut instinct. Nature provided that for us to HELP US!
377289
If he isn't ready, then he isn't ready. I think if you pin all ur hopes on him, it's not very wise. Is he is saying a NO to u, or is he saying "I don't know". Does he have feelings for you...is it love, or lust? You know best. \nEitherways, he is not *moving forward* with u, and that's a strong signal. \n\nI would advise you to have a really honest talk with him and ask him what he REALLY thinks and feels. Tell him you are not judging him, tell him you truly wanna hear what he is going through, and to lay it all on the table, so you can make an informed decision. If he cares about you and your life, and your own future, am sure he should be ready to let you know honestly what is going on in his mind. \n\nI would say keep him as a friend (strictly) and date other people who would be willing to commit. I know it might be hard esp. if you have developed strong feelings and attachment with him. It's for you and him to decide whether you both can be friends and date other people, if you both wish. \n\nAnother thing is, you must have some discipline in order for things to move forward. If u decide to be strictly friends, then make sure you do that. If you give in, this situation might continue for a long, long time. \n\nI think he needs to miss u a lil bit, inorder to really know what he wants. Reduce ur talks, go date other people, and see where it goes after that. That's my 2 cents on this.
83101
It doesn't seem to be polite for me to ask you a question, but one does wonder why you (a) would want to go out with someone who doesn't speak; (b) would have your friend act as a go-between (when you should take responsibility for your own relationships); and, (c) would expect for a person you don't know to behave in a way that suits you.\n\nMaybe you should just leave the guy alone. If he doesn't answer, that's his business. Besides, it may just be possible that he's ignoring your friend because he thinks this whole approach is not to his liking - that he's being objectified. He may be uncomfortable - and he may not be interested in playing this game.