after married hw can i understand tht my wife is vergin ?bcoz im muslim and in our country we nt try to sex b4
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Just like it impossible to tell if a man is a virgin by inspecting his genitals, it is impossible to tell that a woman is a virgin by inspecting her genitals.\n\nThe way people used to tell if women were virgins was by inspecting the hymen in the vagina. The hymen, however, is not reliable. For one, the hymen is rarely in tact after a woman hits puberty. The hymen can break from play (slips/falls, bike riding, tree climbing, etc.). Furthermore, a woman who has a hymen is also not necessarily a virgin. Hymens vary, and some can stretch and never actually be completely in tact in the first place (a "complete" hymen, i.e. one that covers the canal entirely, would not allow passage of menstrual fluids). So, it is possible that a woman who has had sex can have still have an "in tact" hymen.
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Well, there is much more than just sex in a marriage, nevertheless I do understand needing more and not getting it, we are not all the same, some of us will need much more sex than others, and many times we overlook the fact that  sexual compatibility is a very important factor in our relationships, but not necessarily, the most important one in a marriage,  for example you could very well find in an adventure a very compatible sexual partner that would not measure up in any other way your spouse and may very well be a promiscuous bandit taken advantage of your needs, (unfortunately you will probably not find this out until the sexual spell has come down and then it will be too late). Be very careful in your decision about how to satisfy the extra needs you have, if you care and love your spouse try looking for ways to improve your married sex life, if its not possible and you still retain the hunger, the you should consider leaving your husband and start looking for the right match. Good Luck.
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why in god's green earth do you wish to marry a muslim girl? just have some sex then dump the dopey girl, that's it why be married?
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Get Married To Her First !\nAnd being a "Syed" You Should be ashamed of yourself for trying to seduce a girl before marriage !\n\nTry to live upto your family name you have got no right to disgrace it by asking such questions !\n\nTake care and May God Bless you with Better Wisdom ! Ameen
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hi, \n It is a hard thing to be married to someone who does not share ur beliefs.... the Bible states that when a man and a woman r joined together in marriage they r not to separate.... 1 Cor 7:12-16 gives a firm direction from the apostle Paul for the very situation u r in and why he feels this way....\nGod bless and be with u in this time\nShaz\nx x x x x x
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although sex is pleasurable....continue to do what you wanna do! if you guys are comfortable without sex then so be it! just continue being happy in your marriage! don't let other people tell you about YOUR marriage! YOU and HIM are married not everyone else, so their comments on YOUR MARRIAGE shouldn't matter.
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I don't know how to write it in english anyway I'll tell u the purpose and why.\nits because in islam its forbidden to look at  women's bodies except for their husbands.\n\nsorry I couldn'y explain it all very well cause I can't get the right words in english any way can't you see that this way a succesful marraige is done cause a  man will love her for herself at first not her body and also  after she is married do u think that you want any one to look at your wife's body and beauty??if you have a sister you will let her wear apropraite clothes I think have you ever thought why is that??\nTo protect her
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looks like you might have married the wrong woman.  maybe the sex will get better and i supppose there is a chance youll fall in love with her.  These things arent supposed to be left to chance... Was it an arranged marriage?
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Hello Levente...\n\nFor a practising Muslim, any kind of western style dating is not allowed... Holding hands, hugging, kissing, oral sex, even being in the same room alone together are banned!\n\nLet me explain...\n\nOutside marriage any kind of fornication is a sin, and by fornication a mean anything even a lustful look. There is a Hadith that says that it worse for a man to have an axe through his head than even accidentally touch who is not his mahram (wife or blood relative) women.\nFor women (like me) when I'm outside or with non mahram, I must wear hijab (cover myself fully) and I'm not allowed to be alone with a man. etc etc.\n\nWhen I do decide to get married it is not Islamic to have a long engagement etc. And I won't be alone with my fiance until after marriage. Typically family and friends help find prospective partners, and then arrange a meeting where maybe they leave us 2 in a room, and they wait outside with the door open! And then if you are still not sure it is OK to ask questions by phone etc, before you get married.\n\nAs you see it is very different from the western version of romance!! \n\n\nOf course not all Muslim women follow the Koran as strictly as this and we do live in the modern world..but this is the ideal!\n\nAnd I forgot... Its the same for men too of course they are not allowed relationships outside marriage too
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You must be strong in your faith, but he may be steep in his religion.  If he hasn't proposed to you yet, I think you should travel abroad confident with the reality that he had time to do so, and didn't committ in that ultimate way.  Has he even brought that topic up?  Has he made a promise to you about it yet?  \n\nYou say its been 15 yrs; do you want another 15 more to go by, not being his wife?  I personally know of women who have had children with men, but not been married to them; both Christians and Muslimahs.  \n\nGo get your education girl.  Stop stressing.  Make that your goal for now.
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I do not understand what kind of advice do you need ?But I think you and your husband should have a same religion.According to islamic teaching in our holy qur'an,muslim should married with muslimah and muslimah should married with muslim.With the same religion your family is hoped to be harmonize and will be blessed by Allah the only one God..If you have kids you must educate them in line with islamic teaching.As a new muslimah you must learn much of islamic teaching by reading holy book qu'an and hadith and understanding its meaning throughly.You must discuss with your husband or an islamic teacher if you are in doubt or you find unclear meaning of a verse.You must practice islamic teaching in your everyday life such as praying on time,treat/serve well your husband and kids ,maintain a good relation with your family and relatives of bothsides that is your own side and your husband side.You must maintain also a good relation with your neighbours and your friends.You must use islamic clothes and say salam and give smile if you meet someone.\nYou can not receive a man guest at home if you are alone.You ask for permission from your husband if you want anything to do\nmaterial action and going out..
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go an see maniratnams Bombay, my advice is dont change ur religion.. that will be stupid thing to do.\nToday u will change ur religion, next day u will change something else.. \nman u ask urself, do u love each other ? if yes, then why religion coming in between. U can even marry her without changing religion.\nTry to convince her the same, she is probably afraid of her society. Tell her not to worry as nothing complex will happen.\nYou both need not change anything just stay where u r, and love each other.
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A muslim can go as far as they want if that relationship is marriage :-))\n\nBut seriously outside marriage any kind of fornacation is a sin, and by fornication a mean anything even a lustful look. There is a Hadith that says that it worse for a man to have an axe through his head than even accidently touch who is not his mahram (wife or blood reletive) women.\nFor women (like me) when I'm outside or with non mahram, I must wear hijab (cover myself fully) and I'm not allowed to be alone with a man. etc etc.\n\nWhen I do decide to get married it is not islamic to have a long engagement etc. And I won't be alone with my finace untill after marriage.  Tipically family and friends help find prospective partners, and then arrange a meeting where maybe they leave us 2 in a room, and they wait outside with the door open! And then if you are still not sure it is ok to ask questions by phone etc, before you get married.\n\nBut as you see it is very different from the western version of romance!!
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I've been married 28 years ,and it's still in doubt .It seems the spirit and the flesh are somewhat incompatible .You can do what you want, it seems to quench the spirit tho for a time .
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I have many christian friends who married muslim men.  It is true that we revere Jesus and believe his birth to be a miracle of God.  If you want to stay Christian make sure you make that point very clear.  You can maintain your religion and your love for this man and have a wonderful family.  Please be warned: A muslim man can marry a christian or jewish woman- but his children must be Muslim.  These are things to think about, but if you love him and love God, then it can work. You just have to really sit down and talk to him about all of these things. Good luck to you! God bless.
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You probably got married at a young age and didn't explore your sexuality enough..\nI do not believe in devorce,so I can unfortunately not give you any advice..\n\nYou need to spice things up with your marriage..\nJust talk to her..
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I know how you feel. I have / is going through something similar to your experience. I married young, I wasn't a very religious person neither was my husband at that time. As months went by he started to get more religious and more involved with our church and he started dictating the way I should dress and the way I should act. Forcing me to do many things in the name of religion that I hated.. subsequently, because of this I started slacking of on my religious duties.. I know it is wrong but he made me hate the religion and everything that has to do with it. Religion stops at the bedroom door.. God did not dictate what you can and what you cant do with your wife/husband . It's bringing pleasure to the person you love and in doing so you are being a good person. Trying a different position or trying something new is not sacrilegious. The problem is.. you have wonderful sex with your lover, but that is scars .. and you are left in the meanwhile with an unwilling partner and many temptations.. I say don't get tempted to have another affair.. you will only complicate your life with the lies, hiding and sneaking. And believe me it will only make you despise your husband more and you feel more frustrated with the relationship. Try to talk to hubby again.. explain to him the severity of the lack of passion. If that doesn't work my advice is, consider your options.. are you willing to scarifies the marriage and your position in the society to fulfill your sexual desires or can you find means of self satisfaction..an uncomplicated affair ? You might be a better person because you won't feel as guilty as you do right now and have some peace with your self and with God... Best of Luck...