What do you think of a person who is into self mutilation and submissive and receives bondage?
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I disagree.  It's perfectly fine.  Sometimes you would rather do it solo as opposed to having a counter-partner.
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I am an owned slave (by choice) to a good Master in the BDS&M life-style and I like being a sex symbol.  My sexuality is my power and I revel in it and all of it's glory.  Women who are offended by it are usually repressed sexually either because of upbringing or sexual abuse issues.  They will always put those of us down who embrace our sexual desires as a gift from the gods.
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Ah, my child, I suppose this might be a question I can answer.\n\nPersonally, I prefer to break the neck of my prey or just sever their vocal cords.  This allows for a quiet feeding and the ability to drain my victim without interruption or having to worry about my prey's screams alarming others.\n\nOthers might find pleasure in tearing apart the entire body of their victim...as some go into a blood frenzy and lose control.\n\nPerhaps you would care to find out first hand?\n\n*Smirks*
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Sadism and Masochism.  \n\nMasochism: a sexual perversion characterized by pleasure in being subjected to pain or humiliation especially by a love object \n\nSadism:a sexual perversion in which gratification is obtained by the infliction of physical or mental pain on others (as on a love object)
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You might want to take a look at Literotica, which is a whole community of people writing erotica including bondage, bdsm and fetish.\n\nhttp://www.literotica.com/stories/index.php
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Sweety, you might have to get a letter from a psychiatrist stating that you are mentally competent to handle your duties. I don't know what was involved in the self mutilation thing but if it was done out of fear or anxiety or a mental breakdown, you'll have to get a clean bill of health. I don't know if it will work but it's worth a try. Good luck, Honey. If you send me the details in email, I might be able to find something out for you. My brother's in the psych field. rilti8@sbcglobal.net
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I would but I'm not going to do it just to please you or anyone else for that matter.  It is a private concern and you should be asking this of your local kink groups, not the net in general and expect a response on D/s relationships for such a carelessly worded question.
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someone who is worshipped in a sexual way
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I love it rough, not necessarily being hit in the head but as long as your not damaging yourself and you enjoy it then why not you kinky b itch :)
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i don't want an agressive control freak. ii like to be in control.  i will take a submissive type
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The only way it could be considered a mental disorder is if it were forced on somebody. In a consentual relationship between adults there is nothing wrong with spanking. In fact spanking is fairly tame compared to some fantasies. People who are enjoy spanking and other fantasies generaly confine the activities to the bedroom. Outside the bedroom they're just normal average people like everyone else. BTW spanking is more common than you think.\n\nCindy you don't find your "control" comment a bit hypocritical? I mean you say people who spank are control freaks while you define moral standards in other peoples bedrooms. If its a crime like pedophilia or rape then I'm with you, mandatory death penalty. Spanking isn't a crime though.
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I have been submissive for most of my adult life.  I have had genital torture, nipple torture, candle wax torture, spanking with paddles, hands, whips. I have been humiliated, slapped, as well as spanked by groups.\n  The most important thing to remember is trust.  You must trust your partner BEFORE EVER letting them tie you up.  Talking is very important, before, during, and after.  Both should know a safe word meaning stop. And both should know stop MEANS stop.\n  It is a very interesting fetish, but one that should be approached \nvery cautiously and slowly.  Be very careful and safe.
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Spanking to me is very sexy and some people think that if women like that during foreplay its a sign of being submissive and like letting people control you but thats not how it is at all.I am a very dominant person and I have never let someone control me.All because I enjoy getting bent over my man's knee and like having him spank my naked asss doesn't mean I am some wussy that lets a man control me.I liked getting spanked before, during, and after sex, sometimes I just like a spanking period with or without sex( I prefer sex with it of coarse), there has been lots of times where my man and I will be in public and he would snatch me in the bathroom and give me a quick spanking especially when I am being bitchy and give me a "preview" of my later "punishment" and we role play along with the spanking thats so hot. It turns me on so much, it a pleasurable pain that drives me wild and gets me so wet.The harder my man spanks the more I get turned on!!!!I can't explain it buts its a must on my foreplay list! I love for my spankings to be nice and hard!!! And yes is it necessary espeacially if I have been a very naughty girl :)
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greetings krys....\n\nA few more comments since you have a second copy of this question. These comments are based on your addendums.\n\nYour first type is the mundane sort of man who is so socialized away from being a Master that he will probably never be one and will fight against what you want to do. The best thing you can do with them is to move on as soon as you can.\n\nThe second type are the ones who are doing it either to please you, not because they have the real ability to master you or because they are used to dealing with subs and not slaves and don't know how to command and control a slave versus the ones they have to cajole into doing what they want outside of a scene. Some of these men can learn the difference. First they have to learn to be men. \n\nThe third group is often similar to the first group except that they overcompensate to the opposite extreme or they are BDSM sadists who find would be kajira easy prey and then unleash their real desires after they think they have someone who will do anything for them. You usually will not spot these until they relax their guard or think they have you where you can not get away. Or...they just get impatient or angry. \n\nAs for your last point, a girl is submissive until she is actually enslaved and that enslavement is mental and emotional more than physical. A Gorean Master will usually not intentionally mistreat or abuse his slave. He may be hard or soft with her as he chooses or may punish her if he feels a need to do so but they are not into inflicting pain on others. No...your actions and desires are not appropriate to mainstream society and we both know that. They are appropriate for what you wish to be. \n\nHow can you get a Dom to appreciate you? Be the sub or slave he wishes you to be. However, Doms are not Gorean. They are BDSMers who are usually more into it for the sexual gratification and often infliction of pain on others. I have summed it up this way. A bottom is interested in what the top can do to her. A sub is interested in what the Dom can do with her. The Gorean slave is interested in what she can do for her Master. \n\nI would not try to force someone into something they do not wish to be or can not be. You will only be disappointed. If you find someone close to what you are looking for, you might be able to give them a push in the direction you wish but there is no way to be certain if they will go there or not.\n\nbe well....\n\nMalkinius
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Sadism and Masochism\nPleasure from inflicting pain and pleasure from pain
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It's a disturbing idea that someone would actually cut into their own bodies as much as if you were doing it to others.  It's also a sign of mental instability.  In the military, who would want to team up with someone who had such deep seated issues?  If a person does have the urge to cut themselves, they should seek help through a therapist to deal with the underlying problems.  Cutting is not the answer, just like alcoholism or drug abuse.
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I think you saw the wrong doctor. Self-mutilation is just like an addictive drug, you can't stop it without help and you need reassurance every day. That's why people go to AA meetings every day, because addiction is a sicnkess that needs treatment. If you don't treat it, you get sicker. There are many people you can call, or websites to visit. Try this one: http://www.self-injury.net/