this is for muslims, why are your men allowed to marry more than one wife?
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This goes back to the earlier times when islam was introduced. Before islam People did not respect females and rape and adultry was at its peak. The ratio of men to women was really high and females were either killed at birth or were seen as signs of disrespect for families.\n\nSo following are the reasons that come to my mind for this decision.\n\n- So females would feel secure and no one would hurt them as they would come under the protection of a man. (we are talking about old times and not about 21st century - but its still true that females feel more secure if they have a man to protect them and to love them)\n\n- So men would not cheat on their wives (It is still proven that men/women cheat on their partners with others because they cannot control their sexual urges).\n\n- This would help reduce sexually transmitted diseases as then males would not be going for prostitutions or having extra maritual affairs.\n\nBut the most important thing to note here is that getting married to 4 females is not mandatory, its not obligatory that a muslim has to marry 4 females. \n\nAnother important clause that comes in having more than 1 wives is that you have to be equal to all your wives and make sure that everyone gets equal treatment and respect. I think this is the most important clause coz its very difficult to be equal to all. \n\nThe worst is that people dont understand that these laws are made for their own benefits and they have to fullfill the requirements before taking the steps. They have to understand that its not a previlage, its a responsibility and it has to be taken seriously. Wrong projections and implementation from ignorant indiviuals is what creates problems.\n\nI personally think one is more than enough for me :) .... like i said ... its not mandatory, its just a choice :)
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I think they are allowed to have 4 wives..as the answerer's above stated.  But I think the real question should have been how do 4 wives get along with each other?  Is there one more respected..and what of the children?
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He never approved of many wives.\n\nThe Bible says that God’s original intention was for one man to be married to only one woman, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). Mankind quickly perverted the concept of marriage to allow for multiple wives (Genesis 4:19). The Bible does not specifically condemn the practice of polygamy until the New Testament (1 Timothy 3:2), but that does not mean God approved of polygamy before.\n\n \n\nWe see in Deuteronomy 17:14-20, that the kings were not supposed to have multiple wives. Ultimately the case can be made from Genesis 2:23-24, 1 Timothy 3:2,12 and Titus 1:6 that nobody should have multiple wives. Although the New Testament passages relate to elders and deacons we can apply it to all Christians men because these are worthy standards for all men and we should all seek to be Holy as God is Holy (1 Peter 1:16), and if these standards are holy for elders and deacons then they are holy for all.\n\n \n\nUltimately, everyone who had more than one wife was in sin and against God's will. However, God does not constantly admonish us for all sins in the same way. Everyone sins every day and sometimes we do not see the immediate response in relation to that sin. I can speed and not have a direct chastising from God, although I would certainly have conviction. In the same manner I can commit other sins and not feel the response of God, however I should always know that God hates sin and that as a Christian I know that Jesus bore my sins on the cross and I do not want to multiply those sins. I can also sin and see that God is responding immediately to cause me to stop my rebellion, repent and return to Him. It is God's decision how and when He admonishes His children and those who are unsaved.
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wow! so many yes! i guess in society and culture section many who blast 4 marrage system in islam are just jealous christians!\n\n  even not all muslims have more than one wife. \n\n any way, from a country where it was allowed till some 60 years back, i can tell it only deteriorates families. it continuous peacefully when one of the wife has low self esteem or have no where else to go she compromises as atleast she has a roof over her head. when it comes to inheritence the situationm is worse.\n\n   ever heard of sati system in india? it was mostly in bengal. you know why ? in bengal hindu law of inheritance daybhag was applied. that meant the widow had a full right of her husbands property even if she had no child. in rest of india widow without child just had life interest in property. polygamy was rampant. so the result was youger wives were often forced to die on funeral pyre along with their husbands. you have no idea the downfall and problems such systems cause in society.\n\n  if you read history of mugals you will find how many brothers cut each others throats because every queen and her chldren claimed the throne as their right. \n    \n   other than that when some of partners will be emtionally and otherwise deprived of marital needs they are going to cause problems in families.\n\n your family system is already falling apart. are you looking for a last nail?
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It is wrong because one of them would not be his wife. I am not the type to castigate you for what you believe in and want to do, but i think a man should only do it with his wife.
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if your talking about mutah marriage or urfy marriage that's a new thing,,,,but it's against Islam but some people do it anyways...it is where 2 people get married with out anyone knowing and with out paying a dowry...it had become popular in some countries like Egypt and Iran but it is not allowed in Islam.....by the way Iran is a Shiya Muslim Country and Shiya Muslims are not considered Muslims....they are different....
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Because man is not able to serve 2 gods. If he is focused on his wife he can not devote himself to God and the Church & if he is focused on God and the Church he can't devote himself to his wife.
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Muslim Americans and Mormons who have more than one wife are breaking the law.  It's called polygamy.  You are not being discriminated against.  You could have more than one wife, as well.  But you would be subject to arrest and conviction, just like them (if you were caught).
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Nope. (Muslim women cannot marry a non muslim man but Muslim man can marry a non muslim women.) Seems biased isn't it? But there is a reason to this. You have to study MAN and WOMEN (behavior) individually regarding (LOVE) in (ISLAM). \n\nI can explain but i won't cause i want you to find the ans yourself. Study the sentence and word i've just highlighted above. \n\nGod Almighty All Merciful All Knowing knows which we know not.
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And what the hell have made you marry those four ??? If you say that it is islam you are lying to yourself, because God said that you may marry 4 if you are able to be fair to all of them , and if you can not then only marry one. Then in another verse of Al nissa'a he said that you will never be able to be fair ...\n\nSo what do you deduce Mr. Clever ??? He is saying that you should marry one ... ONLY ONE ...\n\nSome muslims mis-apply ISLAM in a way that shows this religion as to be the religion of retardness ... DAMN it read the Quraan before you do such things, and before you ask such silly questions that shows that you are Ignorant with ISLAM.
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I'm sorry but a religion who is against homosexuality because it's not a marriage between a man and a woman but their men are allowed to have more than one wife is completely f'ed up.  It was Adam and Eve, not Adam and Eve, Stacy & Amanda. \n\nTim : while mormons practiced polygamy much more back in the day, there are still mormons who have more than 1 wife.  Not many, but there are still some.  *******Even though they do not practice polygamy as widespread as they once did, they do feel that since David, Solomon and other patriarchs had many wives, obviously God would not look upon it as a sin. **********  Can I put that more clearly Tim who has to continue defending his answer.   \n\n"I have many more wives than one...and am not ashamed to have it known." this quote is by a very famous Mormon by the name of Brigham Young.
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Is the same reason why women think that they should have more than one men. But not all men/women are like that. Most would settle with one who they think is the right person for them. The usual reason I hear about not settling with one is because they see a little something from each individual or they are treading the water coz they dont know who to choose.
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Peace on you …. Thank you for asking about my religion.\n1. Definition of Polygamy\nPolygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one\nspouse. Polygamy can be of two types. One is polygyny where a man marries\nmore than one woman, and the other is polyandry, where a woman marries\nmore than one man. In Islam, limited polygyny is permitted; whereas polyandry\nis completely prohibited.\nNow coming to the original question, why is a man allowed to have more than\none wife?\n2. The Qur’an is the only religious scripture in the world that says,\n“marry only one”.\nThe Qur’an is the only religious book, on the face of this earth, that contains the\nphrase ‘marry only one’. There is no other religious book that instructs men to\nhave only one wife. In none of the other religious scriptures, whether it be the\nVedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta, the Talmud or the Bible does\none find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures one\ncan marry as many as one wishes. It was only later, that the Hindu priests and\nthe Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one.\nMany Hindu religious personalities, according to their scriptures, had multiple\nwives. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Krishna had\nseveral wives.\nIn earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished,\nsince the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives. It was only a few\ncenturies ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one.\nPolygyny is permitted in Judaism. According to Talmudic law, Abraham had\nthree wives, and Solomon had hundreds of wives. The practice of polygyny\ncontinued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (960 C.E to 1030 C.E) issued an\nedict against it. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries\ncontinued the practice till as late as 1950, until an Act of the Chief Rabbinate of\nIsrael extended the ban on marrying more than one wife.\n(*Interesting Note:- As per the 1975 census of India Hindus are more\npolygynous than Muslims. The report of the ‘Committee of The Status of\nWoman in Islam’, published in 1975 mentions on page numbers 66 and 67 that\nthe percentage of polygamous marriages between the years 1951 and 1961\nwas 5.06% among the Hindus and only 4.31% among the Muslims. According\nto Indian law only Muslim men are permitted to have more than one wife. It is\nillegal for any non-Muslim in India to have more than one wife. Despite it being\nillegal, Hindus have more multiple wives as compared to Muslims. Earlier, there\nwas no restriction even on Hindu men with respect to the number of wives\nallowed. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it\nbecame illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. At present it is the Indian\nLaw that restricts a Hindu man from having more than one wife and not the\nHindu scriptures.)\nLet us now analyse why Islam allows a man to have more than one wife.\n3. Qur’an permits limited polygyny\nAs I mentioned earlier, Qur’an is the only religious book on the face of the earth\nthat says ‘marry only one’. The context of this phrase is the following verse from\nSurah Nisa of the Glorious Qur’an:\n“Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that\nye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one.”\n[Al-Qur’an 4:3]\nBefore the Qur’an was revealed, there was no upper limit for polygyny and\nmany men had scores of wives, some even hundreds. Islam put an upper limit\nof four wives. Islam gives a man permission to marry two, three or four women,\nonly on the condition that he deals justly with them.\nIn the same chapter i.e. Surah Nisa verse 129 says:\n“Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women....”\n[Al-Qur’an 4:129]\nTherefore polygyny is not a rule but an exception. Many people are under the\nmisconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to have more than one
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Polygamy is a very controversial issue when it comes to marriage and the fact is it is not for everyone it take a very selfless woman to share her relationship with another man but the fact remains many monogamous American men cheat on their woman hence our huge divorce rate . There is also the fact that we don not live to solely please one person we live to please our creator with the growing number of the women population versus the male population this is a valid solution for a man to support and care for these women and children also let me inform you this is not about sex or the man feeling like a king with so many women it is about his position as a man to protect his female counterpart as Allah has made him protectors and providers to us.  People in this society are very closed minded to this idea because they only focus on the sexual nature of the arragement if they take the time to learn the responsibility of taking on this very charitable task  they would admire it and not see it as a weird practice.
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Sure!  I probably wouldn't feel nearly as cautious about it if more of these relationships were 2 men/1 woman, though, instead of 2 women/1 man.  There's something frighteningly archaic and patriarchal in the latter case, but I do believe that consenting adults should be able to lead the lifestyle they choose.  Morality is subjective, and "marriage" is only "sacred" if you're a christian.  For the rest of us, it's a legality.  There are still plenty of us who are NOT christian, and who don't care to revert to the 19th century and live under the oppression of that incredibly limited perspective.
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One of the condition that Quran allows more than wife is that you treat them equally. These verse were originally revealed regarding orphans, when there were many in the society and polygamy was required to have these girls to get a married life.\n"If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one" Quran 4: 3. \n\nBut Quran also states in another place that it is very difficult to treat equally\n"You are never able to be fair and just as between wives, even if it is your ardent desire: " Quran 4:129. \n\nSo there is an indirect reference to have only one wife but in rare circumstances more than one can be married. Sometimes when male population in a society is less than females, polygamy may be required to have all the women lead a family life.\n\nEdit:\nShe can of course persuade her husband if she do not like him having another wife or state a condition on marriage that he should not take another wife. I am from a muslim family, it is very rare for men to have more than one wife. Actually I don't know anyone in my family who have married more than one.
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It is better than adultery and it resolves a lot of problems in case of war when men are dead and there wives still without husbands. But I recognize that is very hard to manage and in Islam it is considered as a special solution for special cases. For example, in the modern societies, extra-conjugal relations are acceptable, same-sex marriages are acceptable too so why they don’t accept this kind of marriage that is more safe and allowed in most religions?