What Do you do when the mom of the women you love doesn't like you?
468131
Moms never like the person that their children pick for themselves.  No one is good enough for them from thier point of view.  I am a mom and no one is good enough for my boys.  However, I do try to stay out of their relationships, I don't have to like them, I am not the one dating them.
509881
WELL I THINK WHAT YOU DID FOR HER AND HER DAUGHTER WAS MORE THEN MANLY. MOST MEN WOULD SAY OH WELL AINT MY PROBLEM AND WOULD HAVE STAYED. I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD STILL HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT WOMAN IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU CARE FOR HER VERY MUCH. YOU DONT HAVE TO LIVE THERE AND SHE CAN STILL DEVOTE TIME TO HER CHILD. HAVE EITHER ONE OF YOU TRIED TO MAKE THE DAUGHTER APART OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP SO SHE WONT FEEL LEFT OUT. WE AS MOTHERS HAVE TO LEARN HOW TO SHARE OUR LOVE AND ATTENTION. TALK TO HER AND YOU TALK TO THE DAUGHTER TRY TO BE A FAMILY NOT JUST MOM'S BOYFRIEND. IN THE MEAN TIME- TAKE KARATE, GO TO THE GYM, BECOME A BIG BROTHER,DO SOMETHING YOU WILL BE PROUD OF AND STOP MESSING WITH SKANKY WOMEN JUST IN CASE YOU AND MOM GET BACK TOGETHER
578606
Love comes in many shapes and forms but how a person shows it is the real answer here. Obviously she is has issues that she need sorting out wheter it be mental or addiction and once these are resolved maybe you would find the mother you desire. But this is not an issue you can address to her. I think she should be not a part of your life until she gives you the respect and love you deserve otherwise she would be a bad influence on your outlook in life. I had similiar circumstances and no longer speak or have contact with mine and I have found it easier not to look at the what the problem with me, but realise she has the problem and she wont confront her demons. I have turned out ok but the real problem was it took years for me to realise that ther was nothing wrong with me and I did deserve to be loved without being self destructive. Believe in yourself and have faith that early in your life you have managed to learn and handle a truely difficult situation without doing harm to yourself and those around you.
758438
I understand you have a connection with her kids, but sorry guy your wasting your time.  She keeps coming back to you even though she walks all over you...she knows you will be there and relies on you to be there.  You need to put your foot down and tell her you are not her doormat_
647972
It is time to let go. Four years has given you your answer. She'll never change even if she claims she will. She sounds paranoid to me in fact, endangering her young son. You're trying to do the right thing but it is time to realise that the right thing to do now is to divorce her, get custody of your son, move on and find another woman worthy of your trust, respect and love. Don't stick around and let her scar you even more for that's just too convenient for her to do. It is not something you want your young son to think - that his dad cannot stand up for what he thinks is right and let a woman (even if it is his mom) put him down over and over again & cheat on him. I am sorry if what I said have offended you. I know you are doing this out of love but she does not deserve it and your son deserves a better mom. She lost her right to be his mother when she did what she did. Sorry. And Good Luck to You!
235362
You will get over it but it will be along time. You need to sit her down and find out the reason. Do she dislike you for any reason or is she just being foolish. I think it's foolish. There's no way in hell she can keep you from keeping your grandchild. What do your son say about that? Is he okay with it or what. That's not right. Try to talk to the both of them and see what happen. Good luck. Let God be on your side.
192618
tell her you need a little space.\nor perhaps that you moved to canada.\n\nbut i just try to avoid them.\nlike if i'm on the phone with them and i don't want to talk very long, i tell my mom to yell at me to get off the phone.\nthen act all bummed that i have to get off the phone with them.\nalso, if they want me to go somewhere with them or do something, i tell them my mom said that i can't.  and pretend to be mad at her.\n\ntrust me, it works.
196207
My mom has never liked any friend that I've brought home and I am 22 years old. Try to explain to your mom the good points about your friend, why you like her, and to respect your feelings, even if she don't like the friend. Ask her what about her she doesn't like, and try to resolve it. Maybe have her spend time with her and get to know her.
634457
Does she have a daughter? If yes, ask her how she would feel if her daughter was being treated the same way like she's treating you right now. If she doesn't have any daughter, ask her how she would feel if her husband's mother hated her and treated her the same way like she's treating you right now. You're the one who is married to her son; you're the one who makes her son happy. She'd better deal with it if she does love her son. Tell her how badly she treats you will only hurt her son and not you because you will forgive her hatred since you love your husband too much to put him in an awkward situation. Good luck.
202572
Please Show her Love be there for her but tell her that you want tolerate this behavior in you and your sons life again atleast give her a chance to correct her mistake.you may still be mad at her but be there for her let her know that you still love her and that you want your family back dont desert her.thats what the devil want put God in your life more than ever know he can help your family with God all things are possible if you have faith.Know is the time that you remember your Marriage Vows.SICKNESS AND HEALTH THROUGH GOOD N BAD.GOOD LUCK
454139
Start by gently letting her know that she must treat your wife with respect.  Example:  Mom makes a comment about your wife's cooking; you should respond by letting her know that you like your wife's cooking and/or that she worked hard to prepare a meal.  But don't criticize your mom while you do it.  Let her know that you appreciate her as well.  Also, you must NEVER complain to your mother about your wife.  This sets the stage for your mother to complain about her and sets up distrust between your wife and your mother.
238057
too bad for her...that is very self centered.make clear that your mum has a place in your heart as well.
377724
Nasty problem that you will not be able to solve. Your ex sound bitter and bound and determined to punish you for something or other. Unfortunately, all you can do is remain constant in your affection for them, and hopefully, with time, they will see things as they really are...no guarantees...they may or may not turn against you ... time will tell. But, no matter what you do, what you say, if it is negative towards their mother, they will swear their mother is right. IF, on the other hand, you are sympathetic towards the mother's plight, do not bad mouth her, and, in gereneral, behave nobly, your chances are slightly improved that they will come around. Been there. IT is a very sad thing when one parent uses children to "get even" with another...all concerned are badly damaged, including the offending parent...but that is of no consolation to you. You have my deepest sympathy in this...I have seen this happen time and time again. Such a waste, and seriously sad. You are in a loose-loose situation, short of gaining custody ... and that won't happen unless you can prove she is unfit as a parent. Good luck.
1010766
your mom probably hates "losing you" not your wife. Spend some time with your mom, one on one... let her know she is still the number one girl in your life, but would love if she could accept the number 2 girl. tell her the things you like best about your wife and that she takes good care of you. then be sure to stay in contact with your mom, including that one on one time every once in a while. your mom probably feels replaced
125819
If you just don't like her there isn't anything you can do.  However, if she is actually abusive toward you you need to call CPS (Child Protective Services) to be removed from your home.
1039333
Tell her that even though she may not want you, thatyou are going to be there for your baby. It is the right thing to do. You dont have much control over wether she wants you back, but you do have control over being involved in your childs life. Be a big part of the childs life regardless, you will find out what unconditional love is. That decision is up to you. congrats!
554794
When she behaves like that ask her how she would feel if you treated her the way she treats you.  \n\nYou are not her mother so there is very little you can do.  You have to let things go because she is not your child.  Unfortunately, her mother is raising a child that will turn into an uphappy adult.