Men, why do you have to chat online and look at porn?
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I AM CHECKING OUT ANSWERS OF THIS QUESTION BECAUSE IT CONFUSES ME TOO..
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Very often looking at porn is an escape from reality. Assuming that your available its being selfish - basically saying Id rather do it myself.  \n\nNot all guys do it - it has something to do with you, because its affecting you - and you should be offended!
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As far as the friend.  Guys who are not occupied with sex are preoccupied with it.  I don't get guys watching porn with other guys.... seems a little gay.  Porn is for one thing, so are they taking care of that in front of each other?  Also if they share watching porn together, you know the friend knows alot about you at this point, if you know what I mean.\n\nStrip clubs.  I don't get that at all.  It's like being hungry and going to McDonald's to only smell hamburgers.   If your guy goes, it's not something to be jealous of, but it sure reflects poorly on his character.\n\nPorn in general, every guy looks, it's just too available now days and guys are already thinking of sex six times a minute.
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If it's porn you want to watch, it's normal, your computer must have some kind of V-chip installed in it. If not, well go get it fixed
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Yes because in my EX marriage, it led to other things. It went to porn chat rooms and eventually to meeting up with the women he met online. It destroys relationships.\n\nAnd to your added comment, DON'T accept it. Why should you?  It's like compromising your standards for the sake of him. If you are uncomfortable with it then stand your ground. I personally think any decent man with a strong spiritual belief and is committed to his partner would look for a more healthy and moral outlet.  It's disrespectful.  \n\nI tried to accept it too and look what it ended up doing.
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Well when using a public or work computer, I try to stay professional and only visit sites that I wouldn't feel funny about someone else seeing.  But I have on occasion erased the history, not that I was looking at porn or something else like that, but we all like to keep our business our own.
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There are two kinds of males who use the internet.  Those who hide their porn well and those who do not.  Guys look at porn, it is nothing against you or any other woman.  It does not mean that he doesn't think you are attractive or that he would rather be with someone else.  I'm not saying it's a pleasant thing to discover, but you gotta admit, it's better than him cheating on you.\nYou can allow yourself to get all frustrated or you can try to fix it.  Often, things become routine and not as interesting.  Men like variety.  That is why some men cheat.  But it is totally unnecessary and unacceptable.  You can provide your man with all the variety he needs.  Perhaps a little new lingerie would be a good idea.  I would recommend a DVD on Kama Sutra Tao,  The Sensual Art of Making Love.  It is a very good dvd you can watch together.  It is done in good taste and not crude.  It will relight his and your fires and you won't leave the house for days.   ;-)
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You will get 100 men answering this question saying that all men watch porn, let it go, yada, yada, yada--I hope these same men tell their daughters the same thing...Porn is complete disrespect to marriage and all women..I aint puttin up with it--period.\n\nI bet every man who writes to you is a so called "Christian"--but these same guys ignore Jesus and The Bible which says that "Any man who looketh at a woman in lust has already comiited adultery"...\nPORN IS A SIN.
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Good question.  I'm also happily married (although we are separating because my 7 year old whops me).  I went out with a guy for 3 years, & we watched lots of porn & looked at porn magazines.  (We never had sex.  I was waiting until I got married.)  What I noticed about the girls was the skimpy clothing & their poses, the artistic qualities of the shots, stuff like this.   Maybe a girl looks too young, another is clearly a virgin, & yet another has had a c-sect.  This is what sort of things that I noticed.  I didn't really find it significantly arousing.  Fast forward to being married for about 10 years.  Porn is everywhere on the internet.  The porn emails are sneaky.  One cannot avoid the porn.  Sometimes, it is arousing sexually.  But, I can just delete it!  I don't need it to satisfy desires or fantasies.  Sometimes, a position looks interesting, so I keep it in mind for next time we are making love.  But, I don't involve lust after anyone I see.  I turn myself on just fine.  I think that men usually do lust after the girls that they see.
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It's not an addiction, it's perfectly normal, and healthy for males young and old. It lowers blood pressure, eases stress, and is a natural way to relieve tension and pressure. The people who make porn are not the victim, they make there money. Who is the victim in this great crime of yours? At least you are not pent up, and sexually frustrated out raping people. Sex does sell, so what. If you are sick of porn, maybe you should get some new porn. Beyond that, it's just your mind messing with you. Who are you living for? You, or them? I am living for me.
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first of all if that question was in response to my previous question FUCK OFF!! you people go on here for advice, not to hear some dumbass put us down and make us feel stupid. I am not spying on my husband. porn is wrong it is the most dirtiest thing in this world and if you like watching hey thats your business but i will not allow it in my home and i wanted to know how to make it to were he can't look it up. my kids go on the computer.
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EXCELLENT Question!!!!\n\nI stopped chatting in yahoo rooms long ago because of that. It really sucks. On Y!A you cant call a rooster a c0ck without it being edited or deleted but you have porn ads and bots all over every chat room! Obvious where yahoo decided to spend their money, yes?
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The men I know enjoy it because they don't have to keep it a secret. You two can learn and enjoy it together.(And they don't have to jack off cause they got you.)\n\nBut on the other hand some men dislike it because porn is there get away from you they can have it exact how they like it without your feeling being hurt.
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I totally know that knot you are describing. I think lots of men do look at porn but I wouldn't say all. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough or anything and it should only really be a problem when he turns you down for sex and turns to porn instead. Talk to him calmly and ask him why, but try not to act like a mother scolding a wayward child. Hope that helps. Take care of you.
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I'm not understanfing what problems you're having?  You want to know if looking at gay porn is wrong?  Well you're gay...so I don't see why not.  I mean if you're looking at it in a religious way, I don't know, not a religious person.  But I don't think there is anything wrong with you looking at gay porn.  Straight guys wantch straight porn, so why not look at gay porn if you're gay?  haha I hope that's what you were going for.
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cheating was wrong. and you were right to make him earn your trust back. But i would not get to bent out of shape about porn. It IS just looking with no personal contact. Besides 90% of men in America look at porn, the Internet is just a new way to get it instead of buying magazines in a store. But if you are really uncomfortable as you sound i would seek couples counseling to see what is going on. It will help more than you know.
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No you are not overreacting.  Obviosuly this will not be a very popular answer, but whether it is "natural" for men to want to look at porn or not, doesn't mean it is okay.  First of all, pornography is dehumanizing because those women are not being appreciated as human beings, but as sex images.  They are photographed so that people can lust after them secretly without actually "doing" anything.  Secondly, since you are his wife, I'm sure it bothers you that he looks at porn!   You are his WIFE-the one he is to cherish above all others.  I don't say this to condemn him, but if he spends time looking at other women's bodies besides than yours, then it is is not putting you first.  He is getting his sexual graitiication elsewhere.  I think it might be helpful to find out why he feels the need to dabble in this.  Does it help his self esteem?  Is he bored?  Explain to him how it makes you feel and that you are willing to work on this with him.(?)   I don't want to step over any bounderies here, but MAYBE you could even offer that if he'll make an effort to stop, you'll make a conscious effort to make it worth his while  more often, if you know what I mean;).  I hear Victoria's Secret sells some fancy lacy sleepwear. ;)