My girlfriend wanted time off.  So I left that moment she told me about it.  Is that wrong?
461550
You need to talk to her about the problem and leave out the whole "time off" or "break" thing.  That's how misunderstandings happen.  Your whole situation reminds me of the episode of Friends where Ross and Rachel are on a break.  I know that's a sitcom but you wouldn't want to break up without really knowing for sure what's going on. You need to talk things through with her and you need to tell her everything that is on your mind.
108366
well chances are, she IS lying to you.  It may not be that big of a deal, and there may be some good reasons for it (although I dont think theres ever good reasons to lie)\n\neither way, I am sure she has her reasons, if you cant bear with it, leave her.
156313
Yes. Spend a loooooooooot of time.\nI m not talking abt the time 'with her'. But while you are away too. And that will make you really really close to her, and by this you will even know almost her reaction to situations. They love that feeling,that you 'understand her' more than anything else. And remember....that is a loooooot of quality time! You have it with u? Then ur girl will really love you.
765280
Technically, you have no right to say anything, since you initiated the "break".... but given the circumstances, you're allowed to be curious. \nAre you still on speaking terms with him for these three weeks? If so, simply ask him about it. Be calm about it, and just let him know you're simply curious as to who this person is, since you've never met her before. \nAlso, it appears that this really bothers you. Perhaps during these three weeks off, you should try to address why that is. It will help you get a better understanding of where you're relationship is, and where it's heading.\nG/L
957931
You didn't offer much information so it's a little "difficult" for anyone to help you.  If she was a "nice" person and she "had to leave" and you "knew it was coming", just be thankful for the time you had with her.
875944
First, is your girlfriend an adult?\n\nDo you own her?\n\nIt is not a question of whether you are "letting" her go, it is a question of whether she decides to go.\n\nJust be thankful that she told you. You let her know what your preference is, but ultimately she is her own person and she'll have to decide whether or not to honor your preference.
450115
If you honestly feel as if the relationship is something you can't handle, then you should get out. Just be sure that if you do decide to leave her, make sure she understands why you are leaving. You're leaving not neccessarily because of her kids, but because you aren't ready to be a father figure and you'd like to travel. Make certain she understands this and be sure to use "I" statements so as to not put her on the defensive side of things.
1145273
You were not wrong - that's your personal space & if you didn't feel like letting her do that for you, then it's your business. If she was flirting that was a pretty blatant way to tell you what she was interested in. Also, if she was truly interested in you she would have attempted to continue a conversation with you. But no, you don't have to let someone do something that personal for you if you do not wish to.
654372
Are you sure you want to break up with her. Sometimes we think we want more without knowing what we want. ask for a cooling down period. See how both of you really feel. Just go it without for 2 weeks. If by then you don't miss her. then nothing is lost. and finalizing the break up is easier since she's gotten use to the idea. \n\n I've had guys break up with me and then try to get back together a couple of weeks later. but it depends on how we broke up. That's why I'm suggesting you ask for some time apart.
436584
If she wants to leave you have to let go, why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?  Your not making someone else unhappy, but your not being fair to yourself you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you because they like you for who you are.  Anyway, I know it's hard to let go sometimes, but if its meant to be maybe she will see that after shes gone and want to reconcile.  If she hasn't said she wants to leave then don't worry about it just keep being yourself.  Good Luck to You
1021323
"It didn't go over well", huh ?  You mean that SHE broke up with you and you dabbled around with someone else, then you two got back together and she is ticked off ?  if that's what you are saying, then she is merely not in control of the Green-Eyed Monster.  You see, what she meant by breaking up with you was "See ?  See how much you will miss me ?  See how empty your life is without me ?" ....she didn't mean that you two were really "broken up" - it was just a test for you to see how important SHE was to you and when you went on to someone else,  - WELL - that wasn't exactly in her plans.  And she is hurt and she is angry.\n\nWell, you are not responsible for either emotion that she is feeling, although it would not hurt if you understood them.  She did this to herself.  You can empathize that she feels bad that you were able to so quickly "replace" her (because that is what she feels....and, to tell the truth....that is what happend.)  We human beings don't like to think that we are easily replaceable.  But, indeed, we are.  (Ah yes, for all our talk about "soulmates" the truth of the matter is that many people can be our "soulmate" and that means it is not quite so much destiny as timing.)  She may well have expected you to pine away after her and when you did not, she is angry.\n\nLife is all about growing up - all the way until we die.  You both have gone through an episode that should have taught you both some lessons - different lessons than the other could have learned.  Now you are back together and going forward, hopefully not backward.  (She is looking backward, by the way.)\n\nAnd, as a side note, this idea of full disclosure - telling new girlfriends or boyfriends about your past - not a good idea.  Not particularly respectful of the people in the relationships in your past.  The same holds true for interim relationships - you weren't "with" your current girlfriend during the time you were broken up, you should not share details about whatever you did in your interim relationship.  It is not her business and it is disrespectful to the other girl.  (None of this "oh, if you loved me you would share with me" - see what it got you ?  She's pissed.)\n\nAnd no, it wasn't cheating.
8115
Ok, first of all, your bf/gf isn't your husband or wife, so he or she has no obligation to tell you something like that unless you guys live together. IF you a courtesy note would have being nice on his/her part to let you know where he when so you wouldn't be worried. \n\nAnd if he or she didn't tell you, well. Get over it, he/she has a life, and independent life. You are just part of that life. \n\nNow, the question is are you mad because he didn't tell you? or were you pisst because you didn't go? what ever your reason is. Get over it, something like that would be a good enough cause for a break up. \n\nThats just me, i like to be independent and have my space and time respected by anybody. You should respect his time alone or with his friends
518787
Sounds like she wanted some time alone.  also, some people don't like you showing up where they are, like work or school.
624616
I wanted to appologize for taking an unexpected leave yesterday.  I had a personal emergancy to attend to and also wanted to let you know that it will not happen again.  Again, I am sorry for my unexpected absense.\n\nThank You,\nJohn D.\n(and if he asks what it was, you can only say its personal - and he has to respect that)
854994
As long as you are in control, than nothing is wrong. 19 is the exact age you should be doing this stuff at, nothing wrong with it. But if she is forcing you to do stuff, or you feel uncomfortable, than stop and/or move out.
700440
It seems ok to me....sometimes, if you have plans, then trying to maneuver around them can be very difficult, as you are finding out.  Don't woryy about it; and don't think that you were"put on the back burner," either.  The trip was occupying his attention, and he tried to get some time for YOU.  That's a good thing.  The fact that it didn't actually work is immaterial.
600324
She probably is not ready to let you go and knows that after you see her for the last time you will be gone and she does not want that. My suggestion is to just move on because she does not know what she wants right now and until she figures it out then she needs to be by herself but you can wait for her forever. If you guys are met to be together you will.