do people really go through mid-life crisis, if so how do you know if your there?
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700526
Depending on the severity of her bad times , yes it can be true.  Each human being reacts to stress differently and it does sound like she needs some professional help.
1102331
I'm 40 and I have the same problem with some of my family.  Wish I had an answer for you.  Sometimes I get the feeling that the people in my life really don't think I can do anything right.  At least their actions say so.  I usually ignore their stupid remarks and go about things my own way.  If the remarks really get to me, I'll just plain tell them that I know what I'm doing.  Usually works too.
1026673
I know that i am not that old (21 years old), but when i start thinking about like the past that can make me feel old. i just keep thinking damn where did the time go. But like the other person said you are as old as you feel, so unless you are like 80-100 years of age you are still young. i think!
699775
Since I just went through a midlife crisis. I'd say my life is half over or half empty. I'm not at good at anything I once was. Only my typing has improved. My eyes are failing. My legs hurt. I'm missing some of my hair. You get the picture. But I'm still an optimist at heart. =)\n.
970991
This time in your life may seem meaningless now but later on you will realize just how meaningful it really was.\n\nAccept this stage in your life with the knowledge that the next stage is just around the corner.
127295
I have found through experience, the HARD TIMES in life, that are so hard you wonder how your gonna survive, tell you what kind of person you are. For instance, you find out your husband is cheating on you, you lose you job, you lose your health, a close family member is seriously injured or dies. In these times do you get hateful and bitter? Do you pray? Do you try to make a plan to deal with the problem? Do you hide under the blankets and hope the world goes away? Which would you do? This gives you an indication of what kind of person you really are.
500704
yes i think so. i mean, talk with your dr's and stuff. but depression is a bump in the road, not a dead end.
36799
Now there's a question that everybody has to face at a certain point of their life :p If I was in thta situation, I don't think I would. However, you can only be sure if you´re in thta specific situation añd according to your circumstances.
188456
yes, yes, and yes...but only when necessary...i dont really believe that there is anyone who hasnt in some point in their life...\n\nand how are you today! still crusading i see...
782708
No.  When a person is in a mental health crisis, they have no idea. So when you hear a person say "I think I'm having a nervous breakdown".....they aren't.  It's like a person saying "Oh no...I think I am getting Alzheimer's.."  but if you had it, you wouldn't be able to identify it.
128143
Good for you!! Lost 50 pounds got a new gal dont underestimate new love it can inspire you to better yourself Call it a mid- life crisis, call it what you will, Id say your doing GREAT
66461
There is no way to know for sure. I believe questioning your possible complacency with regards to well-being or happiness is a healthy thing to do. Try to be confident in how you feel, as long as you're not chopping people up to feel it. Ask people directly what how secure/content/happy you seem to be from their perspective.
860704
This may sound strange but when I am doing good emotionally like without any big problems, not depressed, everything is going well, people always tell me their problems and serious stuff, but when I am doing bad it seems like they don't tell me anything.\nI think I must send out some of vibes but not sure what they are.
962653
im guessing you relate to it some how. might not be the exact situation they are going through, but somehow you can interpret it to your own life.
111842
What is going on in your life?  Maybe it's time to seek professional help.
33713
I gather from your details that this has actually happened. In truth, there are a lot of signs that can tell you that this might happen, however, there are many times that the person doesn't really exhibit the signs & just does it. I don't know how well I'll do this but I'll try to explain:\n\nI've read studies that say that, if a person wants to be stopped from committing suicide they will do things to tip off their friends & family but, if a person really does want to do it, they just do.\n\nI don't know how much weight I give to this theory, however, in every situation that I have had a relatively close perspective on, the person in question went in one of these two directions. In two of the cases, no one was aware of any problems & there had never been any outward sign of depression.\n\nWhat makes it hard for the friends left behind is that, as a friend, you feel like you didn't do something that you should have to be there for her as a friend when, in fact, there may not have been anything that you *could* have done to help. No matter how hard you try, you can't make someone better or happier if they don't wish to be so.\n\nThis may not help you much but I can share something from my own life that might serve as a corrallary to what you are going through. My father passed away at only 52 from a massive coronary. He'd been back & forth to the doctor from years & been told what he needed to do & not do but he just wouldn't listen. He was remarried with two boys but I - his only natural child - was the only one he ever confided in about doctor's visit, not feeling well & such. Well, when he died, I knew I'd done my best to get him to take care of himself but, after ten years of living with his death, I finally realized that he just didn't want to give up those things that made him happy. I could cajole, complain, nag & beg but I couldn't make him realize that his long life was worth giving up some things. It made me realize that we really can;t force someone to do anything because, if they truly want something they will find a way to get it, even behnd your back. Unfortunately, this is just the way life is & sometimes you can't help someone.\n\nIn your case, it sounds like she didn;t want to be here for some reason & felt so strongly about it that she took care of the issue herself. There probably weren't really any signs to see or else her parents would likely picked up on something as well. You said she seemed to have it all together; you might have been seeing exactly what she wanted you to see. You can't beat yourself up over it - though we always do when we grieve - if she didn't give you any signs then there was really nothing you could have done.\n\nGood luck & be gentle with yourself through this time...