As a single young mother how do i take care of a child on my own?
464559
you find ways to do it. i had my daughter when i was still in high school and her father walked out on me. my priorities changed and i lived my whole live for the child that i brought into this world. i don't know how old you are but i do know that there is a program that just started in my area where single teenage mother actually live in a home with other teenage mothers and their babies and they each take turns watching the babies so that they can do homework or go to work. it is a really cool program. i wish it was around when i had my first daughter. good luck.
1070551
If you don't have any children, it is easy. Pack your bags and go back home. Let the child be with his mother.\nBe brave and go! Good luck!
203699
get someone you trust to watch the child on the day you are to be out and don't leave until you are arrested. sounds nuts i know, but if you believe you are in the right then the courts need to see it. don't be bullied because you are a single mom. defend yourself and your 'rights' as you would defend your child and his/her 'rights'. have some of your friends watch the house and once you are arrested your friends trash the place. it will end up costing the l.l. more than the 2 or3 months rent he lost.\n\nmy ex's x-wife did this (not leaving) and ended staying free for 6 months (and a couple of court datees), but in that time she was able to save enough for down payment on a house.
309330
First, you should let a relative take care of your child before you KILL him/her. Then ask a different relative for some money to tide you over until you get a job.
1101224
Your mom needs to begin by scheduling some alone time.  She can relieve some stress by taking leisure walks or long hot baths.  Find out what things are relaxing for her.  Maybe planting a beautiful garden or reading a book. If she is a single parent, you could help her with the cleaning or cooking to relieve some of the stress of the household chores.  Remember her health is vital to your happiness.
988929
I think it depends more on the maturity level of the child rather than the age, though, you might want to check the laws regarding what age a child can be left home alone and for how long.  If this child behaves responibly, has another adult in the area they can call or get to in a hurry if there is an emergency, understands and can perform basic first aid and is trustworthy, it may be okay.  I would ease her into it, like aloow her to be in charge of the child while I did yard work, painting, etc.  Something where I was still in the house to observe how she handled things.  if this goes well, try no more than 15 -20 min while you go to a neighbors house to chat or run to the local grocery.  When you are fully comfortable I would not leave her for more than an hour or two to be responsible for another child and I would only do it if there were another adult close by that you knew she could call on.  My 13 yo babysits for a friend but only if I am home- I am right down the street so she can call me if there is a problem.  Babysitting is a big responsibility and both her and the person she is babysitting for need to understand that.  I would not have let my girls babysit at 11 and I don't think I would have ever asked an 11 yo to babysit for me- but this has to be your decision based on the girls capabilities, maturity and situation.
1177227
Get help!  Aside from having an assistant, I have found if you can get them on a similar schedule it helps.  At feeding time, the toddlers that can feed themselves can be put in hi chairs with either their food or something simple like crackers while you give a baby a bottle or cereal, etc.\n\nThose babies that can hold their own bottle can be set down near you and handed their bottles while you help one that needs the help.\n\nAround nap time dim the lights and put on soft music and lay the children in their beds or cribs, etc.  A fussy baby can always go in a swing.\nThe toddlers that want to stand up in their beds but aren't making any noise, etc, leave alone and concentrate on the fussiest children - rub their backs, give bottles, paccies, blankets, etc (whatever they usually get at nap time). Once you get the fussy ones quiet, even if they are just laying quietly, work on the ones that you know need a nap but don't want to lay down. either leave them alone and eventually they will lay themselves down (I know some that do this) or encourage them to lay down and explain all the babies are sleeping and they need to lay quietly, Once you get them to lay quietly, they will usually drift off to sleep on their own.\n\nAs for organization - keep a chart up on each child and mark times of diaper changes and feedings.  (If parents need to know keep track of bms and how much the baby ate).\n\nKeep a rubber maid container, like a filing box for each child, label it with their names. In the containers keep a change of clothes, emergency supply of diapers, etc.  Let the parents be the ones to bring in the items for their containers. Store the containers in the cribs when no one is using it and then under the crib during nap time.\n\nWell thats it off the top of my head, I bet others have some ideas as well.
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You need to have a job which could support you and the child, and file for the childs custody through the court. \n\nYou will need to prove that you are fit to keep the child and have overcome the problem  because of which they took the child away in  the first place.
629516
Going through a period of time being a single dad, I had similar problems.  I do not know your situation, but here are some things that have helped me.\n\nCan you do any portion of your work from home?\n\nWith utilities like PCANYWHERE and GOTOMYPC, I can accomplish alot from my home computer and it's just like I'm using my computer at work.  (This, of course only works if your work is done using a computer.) \n\nHave to checked into any "sick child" day cares?\n\nThey DO exist.  I have even heard of area hospitals supporting programs like this.  I have placed links below for you to look at.  Many people are not aware that these programs exist.  "Feeling Better" was a nurse ran facility in Sunnyvale, Ca.  I'm not sure if it's still open.  I am sure there are more, but I don't know what city you are in.
964129
Do you know any other young wives and mothers in the neighborhood? If you do, why not hang out with them. If you don't, then introduce yourself.  Plan outings and fun things to do. You don't have to stay home 24/7. Do something nice for yourself. Do you have family nearby? See if you can get a family member to babysit for a few hours so that you can go out and enjoy yourself, pamper yourself!!!! I hope that things will get better for you. I know what it feels like. Sometimes we are so busy taking care of everybody else that we forget about ourselves.
51318
well single mom, remember this. Where theres a will theres a way. Do not however, narrow your horizons to just a specific field in sociology. Your degree involves the nature of human beings in all aspects of human interaction and encounter. Thus single mom, use that will power, tenacity and beauty, inside and out, to gather and garner any job that pays the right amount as a start. that will intern lead to another job that you may use as a steppingstone up your personal ladder of success, which in turn will act as a role modeling  push for your daughters future and your own.  Remember this too I have confidence in you.
275233
I was 20 and my low life ex left me with 2 baby girls.  It was very hard, now they are 13 and 14.  It is ever harder! But i have a great husband that helps me with everything.  Please learn from my mistake and wrap your life around your child.  Don't became wrapped up in looking for Mr.Right.  I was so focused on finding a father for them that I went from relationship to relationship and now they have a lot of bad feelings because I put them through it too.  Also, go to college.  There are MANY places that will help a single mother. They will even pay for your childcare while you go to school Take advantage them.  You just can't raise a child anymore on $5.00 or 6.00/hr.  That way you wont have to depend on anyone else. When have a degree and a good job then the right person will come along and you will be so secure that you wont have to depend on him.  I commend you on leaving your abuse relationship.  Remember God loves you and you deserve to be treated with respect and love.  If a man hits you one time, it is one time too many. You did the right thing!! Your going to be ok.  You will be a strong, independent mother and you baby will love you for that.  Just remember it's all up to you now, that baby's future is in your hands : ) Take care and good luck!
281229
Look into adoption, there are so many children in state care that have no one. Go to your local Social Services and check into this, best of luck.
1074556
I have a six month old and an 8 year old and being a mother is the hardest job you will ever have but its also the most rewarding. Take a bath with your child only a few inches of water please,they are slippery. Sing to him or her. Walk with your baby out in the air if possible. Also and very important take time out for you. Your body and mind have just been through a category 4 hurricane and hormones are nuts so breathe,smile,relax kiss your baby they are precious.
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I would try to find something that I could most likely keep up with.\n\nWhen my job fizzled out and I discovered I was expecting a baby, I found work that I could do from home, on my own time. It's not easy, but I don't have a boss... Just make sure to keep up your worker's benefits, because a job is usually more than just a salary.\n\nI think it's important to be honest with your future employer, e.g., when I was a single mom, I told my future employers that I would need to work just 3 days a week the whole summer & they hired me despite that. Afterwards, it was no problem, because it had been spelled out in advance.
851215
I like you was a stay @ home mom and single, 1st thing is to take time out for you, what worked for me was joining Bally's total fitness it helped me feel better about myself and now I;'m in great shape, I'm also a fulltime student majoring in Psyc, on the weekends I only watch tv, have my faviorte meal and the kids go to grandma's i found havein my 15,13 and 7 year old on a scheldue made my days and nights better, my 7yr old knows if momy's door is shut i need alone time, I hope you find theese items useful, also prayer changes things!!!!
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Start with all your local daycare facilities including state ran places like head start programs etc..\n\nContact family service and ask if the have a list of area day cares.