my boyfriend is in a gang?
470595
You can't be serious.\n\nOne does not aspire to be in a gang.\n\nGo back to school.
82181
This is hard to answer due to the fact that there is information missing about the specific circumstances, but I will give it my best...\n\nWith any confrontational situation, the first step is to acess the danger you may be in.  If the situation appears out of control or threatening to you, you should remove yourself from the environment and contact the authorities as quietly and discreet as possible.\n\nIf however, it is not immediately threatening or the person(s) are just very upset, your goal should be to diffuse the situation.  This is accomplished in most cases by allowing the person to vent a little and listening to their concerns.  Taking notes and responding with confirmational nods and "yeses".  After a short time, explain that you have no reason to doubt their claim and it would not hurt to apologize for their experience.  Then proceed to explain that you are going to do everythiing you possibly can to help them, but they need to remain calm and show you the same respect you are showing them.  This works with most people....if they can see that you care about their situation, they feel better....especially after they have vented and got some tension off their chest.  However, you mentioned that these are gang members?  Again, if they are threatening to you, I would not try to negotiate with them, I would contact the authorities.\n\nBe careful and good luck!
478441
TELL HIM TO CHILL OUT. IF YOU WANTED A BODYGAURD IT WOULDN'T BE YOUR BOYFRIEND.
131228
Well I think it depends on what type of gang you are in. If this gang is up to no good (stealing, fighting other gangs, violence, drugs,drinking, getting "jumped in", etc) then it is wrong not only just for girls but for ANYONE. If it's a good gang, such a getting together to help clean up litter, help the elderly etc. then of course there is nothing with that. If you are in a bad gang, I suggest you get help immediately and try to find a way to get out of it. It may seem fun now, but it could end up deadly.
357036
i would join a gang or escape
664159
Ask. Don't come in between a guy that has a girlfriend. Its just wrong. Oh and you say he is flirting? Maybe you should tell him to stop or break up with her because you don't deal with men that aren't single. \n\nOr wait...you could find a man on your own. Sounds like a plan. Get ready. Set. Go.
1185665
I really don't know what to do cause I never had a boyfriend who was in a gang before,but I like the bad boy types.You can come to her house bring her flowers and stuff to make her think your sweet and then she may strat to have a little crush on you again.
1084881
alert the police, if your girlfriend goes she could get killed\n\nin cases like this it is best to be cautious and not gullible
228976
Keep being cautious!  You can still hang out with him and see how he handles being around other women.  If you notice he is a major flirt, know that his behavior is a reg flag of possible playeritus.  If your friends are saying those things about him, ask them how they know that he messes around with lots of other girls.  Maybe one of your friends has had a personal experience with the guy that justifies their warnings to you.   A good way to find out more about his behavior is to ask his (guy) friends about his dating history.  If he jumps from one girl to another as easy as frogs can jump from lily pad to lily pad, there's another red flag for you.  I'm glad he hasn't tried to pull the screwing trick on you--but always be ready that he could do that to you when you least expect it (particularly if alcohol or the likes are involved).  Well, good luck!
567923
LEAVE...NOW. you never knoe wen he will become violent with weapons. unless he already does but you are putting your life in danger by being with him. why would he hit you if he loved you? he just wants you there so he has something to hit. get help now! its your life you are allowing to be abused. STOP TODAY
955431
if u lyk him.. den GRAB him dnt let him got STEAL by OTHERS..... GO GURLS!! and of coures tell him u lyk HIM!!
653244
If you dont trust him then you shouldnt be together.  E/one needs a part of them, all to themselves.  He's telling you stuff, so just accept what he tells ya.  But you need to see others as well.  Sneaky is not good.
987967
He is already involved in a relationship don't pursue him. If you did pursue him and stole him away from his present girlfriend, then that would only prove that he could then later be stolen away from you. There are plenty of available guys out there go after any of them.
619098
oh you're not in an abusive relationship at all are you? he was you wrapped around his lil finger and you don't even realize it. wanna know where this is gonna go if you don't grow a back bone and leave him? you'll be dead in a ditch somewhere and it'll be his fault. if he loved you back he'd trust you enough to let you do your own s.hit without havin to make you call ever 5 f.uckin mins. you need to stop and pay attention to what your gut is tellin you bout this guy. i wouldn't be surprised if it's tellin you to leave and not look back
1114576
I think you need to look for groups that exist for that purpose.  I know there are some, however I don't know the exact names of the organizations.  Do some online research or move the hell away.  It all is dependent on the gang you are in, the resources you have, and the way you go about it...of course that is a total outsiders opinion.
1183088
If you are saying what I think your saying I would get away from that dude. It's only been 5 weeks. If he is doing things he shouldn't be doing and you are hanging around him you are going to get in trouble, or get hurt. I knew a girl once who had a boyfriend who was involved in that crap and she is dead now. Just think this way too, that dude is going to be in prison soon so you won't see him anyways. And that's the truth.
614051
If you would like to known as 'the skank', by his family, go for it.  Consider this, sometimes things are not as they seem, could you possibly imagine that this family member's aim is only to use you and throw you away like a used rag? After that you'd be scorned by him, your boyfriend of 2 months, his family and to boot, they'd still be family and closer than ever.  Why?  Because he proved to your boyfriend' that you were no good.