Employeee is great at her job but is an emotional rollercoaster and wants us to come along for the ride. HELP!
467244
Talk to her...tell her how much you value her as a worker, and all the reasons why you do; but explain that it would be helpful if she adopted a little bit more of a professional behavior on the emotional part. Ask her to practice at expressing her problems in a reasoned, unemotional way; and to consider that there are other people working with her who can not keep trying to adjust to her varying needs. \nGood luck.
794522
The job is temporary and perhaps the other colleague feels that if you are only temporary what's the point of letting you do any of the work if it's only going to get passed back to her eventually.\n\nAlthough, it may just be that she's been that used to coping on her own she's not used to having someone there to take some of the pressure off.\n\nDon't take it all to heart - not all temporary positions are like this.\n\nTry gently speaking with your colleague and saying - is there anything I can do to ease your work load? Dont make it sound like you are TAKING the work from her just HELPING her!\n\nBit of reverse psychology!!!!!!
254655
Tricky situation...\n\nIf you decide you want to do her, then work late often.  However, she needs to make the first move.  Afterall, she's the boss, right?  Once she puts the two of you in a less than professional situation and it is understood that it is consentual and everything is cool, then take her in every way.  Have sex in the office on her bosses desk, etc.     \n\nNow for the problem...although you are the employee and therefore not quite as responsible for behavior that might be against policy or a conflict of interest.  In essence, she will realize that if things were to go sour, she could get into some real trouble to the point of being fired.  You've really got her over a barrel.  However, if it comes to your word against her's and if she is a valuable employee, she could simply deny everything and who's to know the difference.  Now you're the one that will be fired.  Eventually, one of you will say "It was great, but now it's over."  The other person may not take this well and go off the deep end.  Now there's a lot of explaining to do.  If you let this affair happen, you can safely predict that one of you will be gone within a year.  \n\nNow, if you still want to enjoy the gifts that life has to offer and be naughty with her, and I'm not saying you shouldn't, you need to be smart and protect your interests.  Collect and retain evidence, such as a card she might have given you, emails, voice messages, bra & panties.  With this, she will never dare take the risk.  In fact, when it comes time for your performance evaluation and raise, it should be very interesting and amusing to watch her try to remain separately objective.  My crystal ball says you should do quite well.\n\nHaving said all this, I know that I could manage it well.  When an opportunity for hot sex comes my way, I go for it.  However, I've also seen people totally mess up their lives because they just can't keep their emotions under control.  Only you can decide if you can make this work.  If you doubt yourself, it might be safer and easier to leave it alone and avoid further situations where either of you might be tempted.\n\nSo, what do you want out of life... daring excitement with calculated risk/reward or non-spontainious safety with no risk/no reward?  I say; our time is short, so make the most of it.  Let those puppies breathe, let those panties fly and give her a deep one for me!
447892
It sounds like she was fired for insubordination. Regardless of whether your manager is mean, you are asking to get fired if you start cursing at them. The boyfriend had no business being on the property. They are trying to run a business, you know? She won't get re-hired for those reasons, not because her boyfriend, who shouldn't have been there in the first place, stepped in. And her chances of collecting unemployment are also poor should her employer dispute the application. If you mouth off at people you suffer the consequences.
475533
That is a bad situation. If you really think they have this issue then you have to be careful.  Enlist the help of your HR department with documented instances of why you think that they have a 'reality issue'. If you think they may turn violent then you need to be very upfront about his. Do not confront the employee without consulting HR and without proper backup.\nAs bad as all that sounds don't forget that if this person has a mental health issue that they cannot help it - and they cannot discern the difference between reality and what YOU are seeing and hearing. They will filter it according to what is in their personal reality at the moment - not yours. So guard yourself, but engage their family if you can to get them help.
1141443
Lol, no you can't duct tape her mouth shut. I also don't think you should let her get out of doing the job because then other employees may get the wrong idea and start complaining so that they can get out of things too. I think you really need to tell her that she has to stop because she is bothering customers and let her know that if she doesn't there will be consequences.
771337
Having been in that situation before, it's understandable how you feel! But if you want to make her work without feeling you are letting her down, consider this: You aren't going to always be around. You'll move away, or perhaps you'll move on with life, meet new people. So will she. YOU will probably be more successful. And she won't have the experience to get along on her own. If you still care for her, despite all mooching, dump her (gently) on her bum and let her know she's got to learn to get around on her own two legs. No more help.\n\nOffer advice. Get her started with a step or two towards finding a job. But beyond that, refuse all help. Let her know that the job industry isn't always about who you know, but how much work you do.
1175181
Just go right over the top of her. Have a group meeting with the owner and voice your concerns. Ask the owner if they will talk to the manager directly, or if you think that would run downhill to everyone else, see if the owner will 'stop in' once in a while or possibly pick up a short shift. Doing that would keep the manager in line a little better or maybe the owner would catch them in the act of whatever and you could notify the owner of repeat offenses. Also putting a customer feedback box or something would inform the owner of bad 'tude from your manager.
233247
Tell your boss. She is being irresponsible.  You are being taken advantage of, you need to stand up for yourself.
835214
i agree with the guy above me. unless.., do you live in florida? because here we have an at will relationship with employees. you could fire her for coming into work without bringing you a smoothe if you want.\n\nso i think, because she is completly manipulative, and bad at it or else she wouldnt have gotten caught so easily, you should tranfer her to florida and fire her a**. \n\nif you cant transfer her then go with what the other guy said.
1108904
Unless it is extremely over the top or all the time let it go.  You are at work and you need to leave your feelings at home.  People do things intentionally all the time that step on other peoples toes.  You just have to let it slide.  Save your feelings for your personal life.  Maybe your boss was just having a bad day or you pushed one of his buttons(we all have them).  If that is the case you could just make the situation worse, and if your boss is a jerk he really won't give a flying flip that your feelings were hurt.  Remember he, or maybe she, is the boss and you will be the one to lose a conflict and are more replaceable than someone higher up on the food chain.\nOh and if you boss is a jerk start looking for another job.
745329
Sigh!, I wish  she had talked to a lawyer prior to going to the Human Resources department.\n\nShe can file a complaint with the Labor Commission in her State and also she should file for unemployment too.\n\nShe can further call the office of the Attorney General in her state and see what options are available to her.\n\nSexual harassment in the workplace is not supposed to be tolerated.\n\nIf she has documented proof that the Human Resources department made him apologize to her; she can probably sue them and him.  A lawyer can subpoena the records of the HR department and take them to court.\n\nThe problem with this is that her efficiency at the office will be challenged and she is going to have to prove she was a good worker who followed all the office rules and was not late or did not have too many absences from work.
127783
Having been in a mangement position,this is something I've had to deal with. And, no it's not fun ! However for the welbeing, safety,enthusiasm and productivity of fellow employee's it's quite necessary.\n   First, you must decide whether or not this person is genuinely a good person, with honorable work ethics and is worth your time. Figure out if their performance is suffering for a specific reason.Something that will subside with a little time and encouragement. This way when you write 'The Dreaded Letter' you can be brutally honest, but in a concerned and understanding way. Because you are having to write the letter in the first place ,obviously they're not aware of a problem. Nor the effect it's having on the rest of the staff. Sometimes even good people need a lil' kick in the pants. People with charecter, will appreciate the honesty.They will accept and learn from your criticism.And realize your expectations.\n  If this is the case, the warning should include all points of concern and possible solutions. Your overall feelings and your gratitude for the work done well.\n   As mentioned previously ,is this person worth your time?\n If not, your letter should consist of two words only . YOUR FIRED ! Good luck, PEACHY
213805
On your days off, start to quietly look for another job.\n\nhmmmm reading what you added. If you really want to make it work with her......\n\nMy boss NEVER remembers what I tell him. He isnt being a jerk, he just has so much on his mind that he forgets. I have learned to write everything I tell him on a sticky note. I stick it somewhere that he can see. On his computer, on his door...Then he is reminded that I told him. \n\nThe next thing is to talk to her. "I love working for you and I really want to do a great job for you, but I feel that we just arnt on the same page with something. (explain) How can we work out a system to where we are working together? I don't want this issue to come between us anymore."\n\nNo one can read your mind. And no one can tell whats really going on until you say something. The problem sometimes is HOW to say it. Think of how you would want someone to talk to you.
492454
I work in a small office as well sounds to me that she doesn't look at the possitve side of things negativity and whining can spread like wildfire. Just say oh that is too bad and say something cheery. All problems should be unloaded at the front door. Work is work and to perform up to your best ability you have to do that and pick up the problems again at the end of the day. Don't ask how are you just say hi move the convo to t.v or a joke you heard. Isn't a pretty day so forth good luck.
288312
it appears your close to your boss.  what i would do is have lunch with her, or just talk with her... and let her know your situation... tell her that you found another job.  then tell her what you like about that other job... then tell her why its hard leaving your current job... then tell her what you like about the job you currently have.  if you do this in order, it will put her in a positive mental frame of mind and you wont need to worry about upsetting or leaving people that you got to know.
568401
Run like crazy.  This chick sounds nutty.  She's obviously posessive and has no reason to be.  It can only get worse.  Get away while you can.  If she will not do as you ask her to at work, have her fired, it is not her job to censor your calls.