How do you handle betrayal?
474829
Cut that person out of my life like a gangrenous limb.
226322
Kill the anger....unless the opponent is trying to kill you, and you can't get away safely then kill the opponent.\nLast resort: if you're a spy and you've been caught and about to be tortured, kill yourself.
606660
I would never speak to that person again because they had betrayed me. Never tell your secrets to anyone as most people cannot help themselves they will always tell another they cannot resist. There is always someone with malicious intent on the sidelines.
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Wow, that was a really long question.\n\nAnyway, here's the bottom line. If she betrays your trust like that, she's not your friend. Real friends do not do hurtful things to one another, and stealing and gossiping about your private thoughts are hurtful. I would recommend confronting her, and telling her how you feel. Tell her that what she did was wrong and that it violated the trust you once shared. Don't yell, scream, get angry or violent, or upset in any way. From what I can tell, she did what she did to get revenge, and seeing you upset is what she will want. Other than that, you should probably find a new best friend, but maybe if you tell her how you feel, she'll realize that what she did hurt you, and if she really cares about you, she'll feel sorry and hopefully apologize. I've done stupid, unkind, impulsive things to my friends, and felt terrible afterwards. If she wants a second chance, give it to her, but keep in mind that in any case, trusting her completely is probably a bad move in the future. As for wanting to leave the state, I know how that feels, but if people tease you about the gossip this false friend spread, just laugh about it, ignore them... they're not real friends. Kids can be cruel, but the best thing to do is to avoid seeking revenge, go on with your life, and don't let it bring you down. I'm sure you're a sweet person who deserves better!
589608
Do what you heart tells you to do. but first,and fore most take care of your needs, and don't be afraid to talk to  them about what is going on. I do not agree with the above answer, you should never be sneaky, because you can not be sneaky without be dishonest with yourself, and the ones involved
235759
Suck up your gut and be glad you found out about their true character before you invested one second more.\n\nDon't think there is anything else you can do, unless you want to repay their filth with gold.
623681
Well I guess I would have to say something - oh sorry wrong room so hed be sure he saw me.  I would leave with my head held high and never speak or acknowledge him again.  If he tried to talk to me or even act like he knew me - I would respond with i think you have me mistaken with someone else - never give him the satifaction of thinking you ever knew him at all because obviously - you didn't.  People that cheat also lie and steal.  Who needs that in there life.  I am sure it hurt like haties.  At least that is what i think i would do - good luck to you - that was a tuff one
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Forgiveness.\n\nWhat comes around, goes around and God DOES serve justice to those who hurt others.\n\nOne of my best friends died because the people who were with her did not get her help because they were afraid of getting in trouble as well.  It is something that I've struggled with for years.  The only thing you can really do is accept the reality of the situation and put God in control of your emotions.\n\nLetting go of hate is hard, and believe me, revenge seems like the best way to make those feelings go away.  Unfortunately, there's nothing you can possibly do that could hurt the person as much as they've hurt you.  Just take solace in the fact that this person has to live with the guilt of allowing someone to die because they were too scared about their own well-being than to help them.
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How can you be friends with someone who has betrayed your trust? You can be polite because of your child and because in life you get more with honey than you do with vinegar! HOwever, that is all I would be. No information, no jokes, no real conversation. Then take a deep breath. Realize that he looked at your relationship with all its pluses and cons and decided to try his luck elsewhere. UNfortunatly he forget to inform you about his decision. Take another deep breath. Realize that a cheater is a liar is a sneak-- aren't you worth more? In other words, through thick and thin you stood by him but he could not do the same. Honey, he is not wrothy of your love. Put on some make-up, get dressed and go out!
651911
just say sorry in front of every one if u have really committed something wrong. and care for her/him every now and then so that he/she will develop a soft corner in their heart.
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That is really tough and I'm sorry you had to experience it.  It's a leasson in life for you - be careful who you give your trust to in the future. Always be aware of human nature - and the ego aspect. \n\nIf it helps you any, she will get what she deserves from all this betrayal....perhaps the two of them deserve each other - and each will never be able to trust the other, knowing what they've done behind your back.\n\nAs for you, hold your head high and let people see that you are happy to be far away from two such sneaks as the two of them.  \n\nIn time, you will find someone who really deserves you, and would never treat you in such a way. Then you will not give this whole thing a second thought except in gratitude.
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In a martyr type of relationship there is the martyr maker and there is the martyr.\nThe martyr maker does things that ensure that deep forgiveness is needed.Things such as:humiliating you in public:cheating on you:doing evil vile things to you and expecting to be forgiven at the drop of a hat.\nSometimes even the forgiveness part is done away with and they do not see where they are wrong.\nIf you are in a relationship and you are always the one getting it in the neck:that would be a martyr type of problem.\nIf that is true,leave the person and do not look back.\nTo be a martyr would presume that you are a "fixer"and a "giver".You will make it work no matter what.You will always be the strong one:because the other is weak.\nIt is a vicious circle and you should kill the relationship ASAP.\nYou do not have to call him up or anything.Just wait a week and call,tell him that you do not want to continue.\nWait a month and start looking for someone else.\nThe month is a cooling off period,think about things.\nIf there is something in you that attracts them,go to a psychiatrist and deal with it.\nThere are things in the mind that cannot be understood except through professional help.\nTell a trusted friend the details and be truthful.I mean it,don't pull any punches.\nKeep secret anything that should be secret:but pull the trigger on the rest.\nTo take counsel with a trusted friend will work wonders at times.It might reveal things that you don't see.\nI am not blaming you,but find out how to kill the problem permanently.\nOnce again,I am not blaming you:but you may have blind spots,I know that I do.\nBy the way,here is a sure sign that you are being sucked dry.Do you feel hollowed out after dealing with this person or do you feel fuller and stronger?\nIf it is love you will feel filled up.If it is an imposter,you will feel used up and empty.
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You are honest enough to realise that you have done something wrong to someone, which itself shows u have taken responsibility of it. You cannot immediately confront him as iam sure he too is just recovering from whatever it is you have done to him. You have to wait, be patient. Once when the time is right, when things are a bit silent, you have to talk to him and get it over with. Meet him alone in person and in the first instance, start apologising  and then u owe him an explanation on why u had to do it. And last, tell him how awful you feel about what u did. And wait for him to react, listen to him, positive or negative...it doesnt matter..as much as you have admitted your mistake, give him a chance to let whats in his mind to come out. You have to take it from there, i guess. If that person has forgiven you, then great..but if he hasnt, and goes on abusing or accusing u and making u feel that you have sent him to hell, well...listen to it and simply walk away..you cannot force him to forgive you...\n\nYou did your  part and i'll bet u will feel a lot relieved. It wont irritate you in ur mind that you didnt clear it up, so well done, you have done ur part! pat urself for being brave!!
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No.  There is no benefit to you to hold a grudge.  What will help you deal with the pain of violation of trust is to learn from this experience.\n\nI have a friend who I love dearly, but who has certain behaviors that make me uncomfortable.  I know this person is inclined to act out in certain public situations - so I do not go out with this person in public.\n\nI limit my time to occasional visits.  I will drop by this person's place for coffee - so I can control when I want to leave.\n\nI don't hate them or hold a grudge because they cannot behave properly in public.  I just make it a point to shape the relationship to keep bad things from happening.\n\nUse your experience as a learning tool.  If you were hurt because you shared a secret that wasn't kept, don't tell this person your secrets.\n\nIf you were hurt because this person stole $10 off your dresser, don't leave money lying around when this person is in your home.\n\nLook carefully at what happened, and make it a point not to allow the situation that lead to you getting hurt to develop.\n\nThere must be something you like or love about this person - or you would cut off contact completely.
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thanx for the Advice, i always new there are "Evil" people out there, but we all have to be careful with who we really interact with them. if you get sespicous about something you must attack him/her with honesty. thanx again
192659
if she's betrayed you, she's not a true friend. Find someone who will stick with u through thick and thin. That's a true friend.( or he);)
731129
No, you should treat everyone as you would like to be treated, not as they have treated you.  Can you imagine a society that is out to get everyone at every turn that would be horrible.  Show that you are a better person, by forgiving them and moving on.  Since you have lost trust with this person it is best to just leave them behind.  Why it hurts so much is because they have betrayed your trust.  They were disrespectful and wrong.  I am sure you have heard the phrase forgive and forget, forgive them, but move on.  Forgetting will take time and showing them you are a better person by not reacting the way you want but how you should will make both of you better in the future.