Can you give me some advice for my friend?
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Sounds like your friend still loves his wife. He needs to sit down with her and have a heart-to-heart talk about how her treatment is hurting him. You know ... Honey, I love and I want you to know how I feel when you .... I want our marriage to work. But I can't go on being treated like a doormat. What can we do to make things better? ...\n\nIf that doesn't get through to her I would encourage them to get marriage counseling. If she refuses to go, he should go anyway. It will help him to deal with the pain she's causing him and perhaps give him some insight into why she's behaving this way.\n\nI pray your friend's wife will be open to a loving and honest conversation with him. Barring that, that she'll be willing to go to counseling. Bless you for being such a good friend.
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The ONLY thing for certain in life, is CHANGE. None of us like it, and some like it less than others, but it is inevitable. Your friend is obviously going through a big change right now, and parts of it , she doesn't even like herself. In order to support her, you must let her do what she needs to do. Don't argue with her, or try to make her stop the change, just love her in spite of the change. It's not easy, but necessary. There will come a time when she will need you really bad, and you have to be there for her. In order to cope with this, you have to develop some interests of your own, outside her.  Go out with other friends, do some things you always wanted to do, and just be patient with her. Good Luck!
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tell her she has no right telling you what to do,\na true friend would respect that
904622
I believe at this stage, she's not concious about what she asked u.. u need to do something, or say something that will really wake her up, and make her realise that her life, is her own decision.. \nall u can do as a best friend is give suggestion...\n\nu might wanna say something really really serious that will make her realise.. something personal i believe...
997241
If you've been friends with her, then just talk to her, and if she's unhappy or having a problem in her couple, she'll talk it out or give you signs to it by herself. Believe only what she tells you. Just tell her you'll be here if she needs you. she might want to solve her own problems, and knowing yuo'll be right here will help her morally if she really has probs in her couple.\nAll the best!
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The best thing you can do for your friend is to be supportive.  It sounds as if you are off to a good start. \n\nIf she is newly diagnosed, it may be very hard for her to make the lifestyle changes that she needs to make.  It is hard to have a salad when everyone else is having greasy burgers and french fries.  Or to drink diet soda when everyone else is having milkshakes.   It may be easier for her if you made some of the changes with her.\n\nIf your friend cooks, get her a 'diabetic' cookbook.  There are lots of good ones out there.  With the holidays right around the corner, it will be especially difficult for her to give up all of the sweets.  Maybe if you were to make her one of her favorites using Splenda, and give her the recipe.\n\nWith diet changes and exercise, she will do well.  \n\nGood luck
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Tell him that life isn't as bad as it seems. He needs to look at the bright side of eveerything. Do you really want to stop being his friend because he is someone who doesn't see the good of things? Think about it. You said you were friends. Don't let him go because of his problems. Help him through it. Make your friend let him know gently that they don't have a chance. Just do things lightly, and think more about him. Don't ditch the dude for his personal things he needs to take care of.
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It is so good and loving of you to be so concerned for your friend and want to help her through this difficult time. I think you are a great friend and she is lucky to have you for a friend.\n\nNow, the best thing you can do for her is to listen. Listen while she poors out her hurt and disapointment in the end of this relationship. It is difficult on so many levels to get dumped, especially by somebody who is not her equel and who was mean to her. It is obvious she is suffering from some low self esteem. Prop her up and let her know how wonderfull she is, but do not say anything about the breakup except if she asked you a direct question.\n\nThe best gift we can give our friends is an listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, and without judgement or harsh words about this guy who has hurt her so deeply. If you say anything negitive at this point she will become defensive and not want to be around you. She needs to come to the realization that this was not a good relationship on her own time. She will if she is allowed to express her feelings without getting a lot of "advice" from well meaning friends. If she takes him back she won't forget all the negitive things you said about her "love" and she won't forgive you for saying it either. It makes a person feel that their judgement is being questioned and that friends don't really think she can make good judgements about her own life. Even if it is true that this relationship is not a good one, she needs to realize that in her own time. \n\nIncourage her to go out with you and do some fun activities. Don't try to "fix" her up with anybody yet. She is not ready for that. She needs time to heal from this wound. If you keep listening to her and taking her out for fun activities she will eventually start becoming more involved with her own life and begin to heal. Then she will be more ready to look at differant men as potential dating material and boyfriend material.\n\nIf she continues to make poor choices in who she dates and becomes involved with, then perhaps you should assist her in increasing her feelings of self worth. Tell her what you love and like about her, what streangths she has, her skills you admire. She needs to hear that she is valued and seen in a positive light. \n\nGood luck in helping your friend. I am glad she has a friend like you in her life. She is lucky to have somebody as supportive and loving as you. I wish you happiness and health too. :-)
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Just keep being her friend.  Keep trying to encourage her.  Do the best you can.  You might not be able to change her, but in the future she will look back and realize how kind and helpful you were.  Stay with her.  And good job!  It's wonderful that you are concerned about her!
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It sounds as if your friend suffers from serious depression. I know your intentions to help her are good, but if her condition is due to psychological causes there is nothing you can do for her. She definitely needs professional help. Can't you talk to her parent about this? They have to do something less it ends in a tragedy. I admire you for being such a wonderful friend to her. And believe me, one day she will be grateful too.
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You're sweet to want to help your friend.\n\nMaybe the two of you could make an exercise routine together. For example, three days a week the two of you could go on a walk for an hour.  She can bring the baby in a stroller.  You can enjoy chatting with your friend and being active together!
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Make your friend understand that you are here for him/her and that sadness or bad situations never last, try to give him/her hope and if it's really serious advise him/her to see a doctor who could bring light to such mental ordeal(hope you understand what I mean)
433734
Go visit your friend.
636989
Tell your friend to get a 2nd opinion.
920550
If she brings it up than yeah! ask her questions.  this is probably the best time to support your friend, and she needs your help right now to be there for her if she needs someone to talk to.  Don't be over the top with it, just say how happy you are that she's seeking help and that you're there for her every step of the way.
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When in doubt, PRACTICE!\n\nInstead of rushing in without a plan, write down the main points that you want to cover with your friend. Next, practice various approaches until one feels comfortable to you.\n\nYou should also consider your friend's possible responses and be prepared for how you will handle them. Because she is in denial, she may become angry at you. Have a plan for how you will deal with that and what the worst-case scenario might be. Could she possibly end your friendship over it? If so, you need to be prepared.\n\nIf she refuses to accept what you say, don't argue. Just let her know that it's your viewpoint and that you felt it was important to share it. Emphasize that if she ever needs someone to talk to, you will be there for her. Even though she may be in denial now, someday she may need you if she's forced by circumstances to face the truth.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
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ppl cut because they are exchanging one kind of pain for another, but you seem to know this. YOU can not help her except by trying to talk her into getting the professional help she needs. you can only be her friend.To start off with I suggest you do all the research you can on this. do a google search, go to the library, go to a med. clinic, go to the school councler, etc... do NOT mention your friends name, YET, .. get all the info you can, then sit down with friend and show her all you know about it... then warn her that if she does not seek help, YOU will..... this is NOT a game.... give friend a certain amount of time to study and look into all this, about a week, anything more is asking for trouble..... then if she has NOT complied to the warning then you must go to her parents or anyother adult you TRUST... you must understand, that untreated cutting leads to  even more serious problems that can result in death !!!!! she will be mad at you for a time, thinking you betrayed her, but the betrayal is by her, to herself !!!!!! When you speak to her uplift her spirits by saying how much you love her, have faith in her to do the right thing and make sure you tell her how much you would miss her if something were to happen..... do NOT pour any guilt on her, or point the finger or blame her or anyone for this... be as positive as you can... BUT, I warn you, this will not be an easy task for you...... YOU must be willing to go all the way with her..... I mean do not just start this and then forget about it if she does not seek help herself...... you take the first step you have taken on a commitment !!!!!!!! so if you do not wish or have the ability to take this on, then PLEASE, take this to an adult you TRUST and let them handle it..... your friend will never have to know you took the loving step to save her life............. God bless