what do you do when your 2 year relatioshio is falling apart but you don't waht it to?
462949
What you are describing comes down to a trust issue between you and your partner. If you two have been in a relationship for 2 years, there should be no question that you trust each other more than any of your friends.\n\nWhen your friends say one thing, and you say another, your partner should believe you. You both can't be right. \n\nYou need to move to repair or strengthen the trust in your relationship. That start with you and your partner sitting down and having an honest, no holes barred conversation that covers all of these rumors. You need to get everything out into the open.\n\nThe next step is to confront your friends and tell them to stop spreading rumors about you / your partner. If they were true friends, they wouldn't do this, but it is apparent that they prefer to rumor and watch your reaction. If this gets too out of control, you will need to decide which is more important - your partner & relationship, or your friends.\n\nRemember - a fair weather friend is no friend at all.
1163473
I know I'm going to sound like a parent, but you need to just move on.. make new memories.... do things for you... it will get better with time even though right now it doesn't feel that way... I've been there.. and it sucks.. but you will get through it.. and you will be stronger because of it.\n\ndont dwell on what was.. focus on what can be.
222700
be tidy. i mean leave spaces and don't jump steps, coz that's wot i used to do, i was damn too fast at solvin em but i went straight from the first step to the third and then the answer and that's where, by doin almost everythin mentally i screwed up. so that's my advice
478723
My relationship with my sister! \n\nFor the past 4 years my sister has been "self-destructing". My parents and I have exhausted all efforts financially and more importantly, mentally. You can only do so much for someone that you love, and if they don't want to help themselves and don't see your efforts and love in trying to help them, then what do you do?! So now we are trying the "tough love" tactic and I am sad and scared she don't realize all that we have done and are trying to do for her. She is pissed off at us! I just hope we are doing the right thing!\n\nWow! this was a personal question! But you know what? I feel somewhat at ease answering this question. Thanks! :)
1034298
Well stop tricking you're self in thinking it's ok the relation ship is herting if you're thinking about some one else I know  i've done it  it falls apart one day soon then it's to late..look at self and ask you're self why is it going on then make the move to fix it ,if you don't then you or him will lose some one.
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- - - S E P E R A T I O N - - -\n\nI can't think of anything else but to be seperated for a time being and then get back together... \n\nIf the case is too much then we all know that its bad and how do you stop it? SEPERATE THE BAD THING AND MOVE ON!
48871
Pray to God for help and guidance. In this situation, because there is obviously nothing you can really do, put it in God's hands. I'll be praying for you!! I hope this helps. :)
607146
2 years?  Sorry, honey, give up!!
88110
You should really talk to your coworkers and see if they are experiencing the same. The key is in silent change and action. You should all approach senior management together with this issue and stay together. Senior management will not fire your boss, but will coach them better. Good luck and do not give up your current job except if all else fails. Remember you have got nothing to lose, so fight it silently. Wish you all the very best and hope you will celebrate your 2 year anniversary with the company along with your manager.
990475
Sometimes life give people bad turns.  All we can do is try to learn from and understand what is happening and why it is happening.  Just remember that with some time things will get better.  They always do.  It sounds like you are in a hole.  Just dig yourself out of it.  When you do, you can look back and see what you came through and then you will be able to use what you have learned to encourage someone else.\n\nTrust me...I am going through something very difficult right now, but I know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.  Sometimes I get very sad and angry and all that, but I am just trying to tunnel my through with the hopes that things will get better.  I believe they will.\n\nIf you want to talk, send me an email.
726853
I'm sorry for you.   I'm going thru something similar, but with 20 years together.  You might never have a reason why this happened.   I've found accepting that I can't MAKE him give me an answer or tell me the truth takes away a lot of the stress.  \n\nThere must be some little things that are better with him gone, though.   Something as small as having your room the way you like it now.   You may never stop loving him, but you will move on.  If you don't, you're wasting the life you have left!   There's so much more to do and see yet.   \n\nStrengthen you relationship with your kids (if you have any), and with your friends.   If you don't have friends, get out and do something you love and you'll meet some new ones.  \n\nI don't know how longs it's been for you, but at 2.5 month for me I can say that I'm really happy most of the time.   I couldn't have imagined that only a few weeks ago!\n\nGood luck to you, and don't stay home or in bed all day!  Force yourself to get out and do things or go places
9388
It depends on why it went bad. Was it something you did or was your partner? Eitherway, you have to look at all the reasons why you two are not together. Make a list if you have to of all the good and bad things. Then decide if it is really worth trying to save it.
1171123
Seriously, how do you think things will be fixed unless you TALK? That could be exactly the thing that's keeping you apart. Go ahead and say what's supposed to be said. If you don't do this you'll always look back and wonder how things would've worked out if you had spoken to each other. Go ahead and do it.\nGood luck! :)
411907
sit down together and make a list of the things that you do not want to go wrong this time and give it to each other.  Have the communication lines open. You might consider counseling this time around.  Having a third party to hear both sides without taking sides is a start.  You might just go 1 x a month, then go out to dinner after or grab an ice cream to make sure that after things are said in counseling, you are still ok and still in love.  Be sure to say I love you every night before bed no matter what the day was like and tell her you are so glad that you are back together.  Good Luck!
1043546
Baby , you need to get it out or you will become sick and depressed!\nI was the type of person who used to hold things in, and my life became a living hell!\nTry writing things done on paper, and this might help, but in the mean while, start working on using your mouth to communicate!
133947
spend time on your self it sounds like you lost your self in this relationship. spend time with your friends and family fall in love with your self then you will heal
435750
you could hope that and I sincerely hope that for you. 2 yrs is a long time to just let go. OR maybe she's just materialistic and wants to keep them to show off to her friends. Either way i hope you end up happy and she gets what she deserves.