how do you cure Self-Defeating Personality Disorder?
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Well, there is a Catch-22 element to it, isn't there?  Like the old woman who worried so much her hair turned gray.  What was she worrying about?  Her hair turning gray!\n\nI got a lot of good out of an organization called Emotions Anonymous years ago.  It is patterned on Alcoholics Anonymous, uses the same 12-step program and the slogan "one day at a time," which is the most golden piece of wisdom I have yet found.  We declare we do not have control over our emotions, but we can gain control over our behavior.  Then we can ask a Higher Power (however defined) to assist with the control over emotions:  the serenity prayer is also central to the organization.\n\nFirst, logic and reason must have a chance at it.  Looked at objectively, a morose, defeatist attitude is counter-productive.  You certainly cannot do anything worthwhile if you believe yourself defeated before you even try.  Yet self-honesty and self-analysis are necessary.  So believing that the will to gain control over your life is essential, take a St. John's Wort, and get to work!
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Apply for disability and other forms of public assistance.  That will help to take some of the pressure off of you while you learn to deal with this problem.  Don't give up, there are lots of medications to try.  Stop going to the emergency room, they can't help you.  Instead, spend your money on some alternative therapies.  Try meditation, or hypnosis.
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We humans are an amazing resilient species.  Killing one's self is a permanent solution to a temporary situation.  yes, believe it or not, the feelings you describe can pass with proper counseling and possibly medical attention.\n\nIf you are thinking about this or you know someone who is, please call your local hotline for assistance.  There is nothing that can not be overcome.
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There are MANY wonderful on line support groups that can be very helpful.  Medications can help, too.  \nI understand how you feel because therapy is not an option for me, either.\nBut my support group keeps me hanging in there and fighting my demons.  And I'm glad to be alive.... crazy or not!!
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There's a lot of web sites which can help you this condition.  The most important thing is to learn to love yourself for who you are, and to seek help if you need it (which you are doing already!)\n\nCheck the links below for more info
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Assuming you mean OCPD and not OCD (as they are distinct diagnoses), there is no real treatment for the personality disorder, however your specialist should be able to advise you on how to deal with the effects so that you are able to focus on overcoming your other problems and maintaining a healthy and happy life
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No cure yet exists, but symptoms are often treatable with various medications, behavioural therapy and alternative treatments. It should be noted that there is not any peer reviewed scientific evidence, yet, of success with "alternative therapies." Even results of behavioural therapy are unclear long-term, and are going to be studied on a well-designed TSA grant possibly starting in 2004.
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Your words are exactly what I am dealing with myself. However, I have been self-medicating with alcohol to deal with this anxiety for over 10 years and I now have a serious problem. I thought I would never overdo it but I have as time has gone by ... I am now seeking treatment and wish that I would have pursued other options for my problem. A therapist of mine had great words ... medication - no matter in what form only covers up the underlying problem. Working through the problem and understanding it is the only answer.
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you are self-destructive. whatever you put into your mind will manifest itself in your life in some form or the other. you will act out the things in your mind. try to replace the desire to put negative things into your mind with positive thoughts and reminiscences. chant, pray, meditate, whatever it takes. detoxify your life.
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Hi \nThere should be nothing in your life that would want to make you harm yourself do violent things to yourself either. I don't your counselor will be able to help you. I would find a very good phytricist and get the proper medication your general does not have the expertise to deal with your kind of disorder and you should have a professional specializing in your particular disorder for your best outcome. I have my own issues nothing like yours but I have found a Dr specializing my issues and I can tell you that I have never felt better. I hope this help!
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I am exactly the same. I don't think there is a cure, though. We just have to control ourselves from inside. Try deep breathing and talk to yourself. Tell yourself its OK and its just nerves. \nIt might help you. It helps me at times.
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Don't deal with your disorder alone.  If you are under the care of a psychologist who works with a psychiatrist, you can get therapy and anxiolytics (meds).  Don't self-medicate with alcohol.  You run the risk of creating a whole new problem for yourself.
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Borderline Personality Disorder - best course of treatment - well, 2 things I recommend\n1. Individual counseling with a counsleor who is an LCSW, LCPC, or LMFT (these are license initials after their name) - they don't prescribe drugs - they offer real world solutions - ask them if they have experience with BPD. \n2. Group work with Dialectical Behavioral Therapy - best program currently existing for BPD. \nBPD involves long term treatment in most cases - be patient, even though it's not likely an attribute of yours. \nPeople who live with BPD generally have survived abusive experiences - get help for your underlying needs too!\nGood luck!
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people with borderline personality disorder can be very scary. they take on the feelings of others and are pretty much out of touch with their own bodies. i work with them and they can be the sweetest at times and then they can be the scariest, mouthiest people ever. i myself have also went to anger management and it really didnt do much for me. i was 17 and i thought that the world revolved around me and it wasnt until i was 21 did i realize that the way that i was acting was foolish and thta i could really hurt someone. so i really dont think that is effective. you have to find it within yourself and really see that what you are doing is dumb. and with the fact that he has borderline personality he probably wont find that. i think that you are putting yourself in real danger and i hope that there are no children involved in this. if there is i would ask you to please get them out of there!
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There is an online store called the Self Esteem Shop (based in Michigan) that has great games, ideas and resources for all educational, psychological treatment, personal enricment and other realted subjects for adults and kids.  The web address is www.selfesteemshop.com\nPhone Number: (800)251-8336\nIf you can't find it online in that venue call the store and ask for resources....they have a ton more in the store and will give you great ideas on what to use, where to find it or order it for you!  The staff is amazing!!!\nAs a children's counselor I have had amazing luck ordering and using them!! Good Luck
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What you should do is stop with the destructive behavior. You know what you're doing and how to stop it. Don't use your bipolar disorder as a crutch and an excuse whenever you screw up. Take responsibility for your actions and quit acting like a horny 16 year old.
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I have been suffering from a multiple personality disorder since 1997 when i had a break down .. i did not realize it untill my pys. made me keep a journel what time i was in the hospital.. i have 3 that they know of.. i have tried many forms of treatment to get it together.. i have been through nurmous anti meds, ect treatment, intence physco thearpy.. just work close to your doctor and don't hide anything from him.. there are some great treatments out there just got to find the right one..