My friend came out of the closet and he said he likse me what should i do?
471017
Kindly tell him that you're not gay and therefore not interested. He should understand. And it's up to the both of you to make sure it doesn't get weird and you remain friends.
337243
I can't believe the answers some of these people gave you! How heartless!\nYou can't really know what he meant by it, trust me I know, the best you can do is wait for word from him and know that he is trained to handle the situation over there. When you do hear from him again, ask him what happened and maybe talk about if he ever has to get offline quickly again, how to word it so as not to worry you so much. I hope everything is ok and I wish you and your friend the best.
872441
Talking it over with close friends.  Eventually, a person accepts his or her sexual orientation, self-identifies with others like that, and notes who (or what) he or she is to a close friend.  I think the fact that this one longterm friend had actually come out to me some months beforehand also helped. It's a safety issue, I think. It was like a weight being lifted from my shoulders when I came out to him and said, "this" is what am.  It also answered questions regarding stress throughout my life.
121226
He may be gay. Have you given that any thought?\nOr his life goals could be taking another direction and he may be truly not ready for a relationship,Respect that and dont force the issue.It takes a lot of self control to sacrifice basic drives and instincts for a high&#92;er purpose.If you force the issue and he gives in he may end up resenting that down the line.Stay close tell him you support and respect his determination and see if he will be willing to be your friend at this point and let fate lead .
184666
do you love him? or are you angry?..Was he gay to begin with of just in the closet?.. None of that matters really of course. If you like the friendship, but can't handle "gay" part (I'm guessing he's bi) Then you have some options. One you need to dtermine what kind of sexual behavior he exibits. Destructive? Thats when he'll do anything with anyone anywhere. If this is the case I'd get out, get checked and walk away. If he has a regular long term lover then you may be able to keep the relationship if you can deal with that side of him.. Personaly (as a bisexual) I will NEVER understand why people who are bi (and they know it going in) are not honest about it. I don't keep secrets with lovers. It's amazing how many women are just fine with that.. You can even find a permanant relationships where every one knows everything. But where I live there are litterally tens of thousands of married men who are bisexual living secret lives, destructive lives at that. They put everything they suppossedly car about at risk and thats not right.\n  Now youhave to decide weatehr or not you want to keep on going with this person or not. My own situation is BiPoly. bisexual+polyamorus (I'll wait while you look that up)..Everything is like a marriage of sorts between like minded people. Maybe thats for you if he's mongamous with his male lover and monogamous with you. Guess that would be duomonogamy. But you get my drift. For gay and bisexual males its rare to have these types of relationships. Socienty has forced them into the alleys and closets so its been a catch as catch can situation. By forcing it into the blue area it has gaurenteed anonamous stranger sex is a given. . But this is changing and more things are out in the open. It would be nice if everyone could just be open and honest with out fear of retribution, but that is not how it has been. Being suppressed is like slavory. you do what you have to do to be free wen you can be.
443412
i had the same thing with my bezzie a few years ago, and for some reason out of our little gang he felt he couldn't tell me...he told everyone else.  don't ask him, just be a friend and make him feel comfortable in himself be open so he feels he can talk to u about it if he needs it.  He didn't tell me coz he thought i'd hate him and dissaprove!\n\nI love him, he's a mate!\n\nIt doesn't really matter whether he's straight or gay aslong as he's in your life!\n\ngive him time  \n\nxxx
949697
If your not gay, you simply tell him. He'll be hurt, but he should know the truth.
325475
r u a dude? is your friend a dude? just see if he does gay things like iggle or compliment a girls outfit and if he gets this offer from a very hot grl and doesnt accept it then man he must be gay. Most of the time ppl just find out on thier own.
342639
I know this is a difficult time for you, but just tell them.  If he or she is truly your friend - they will accept you and love you as they already do.  If not, then they were never really your friend anyway and you are better off without them.\n\nComing out is one of the hardest and anguishing experiences anyone can go through.  I was rejected by ALL my childhood "friends", even the 2 I fooled around with during our "experimental" stages, one of which is also gay, but closeted.\n\nDo not despair!  You will make new friends.  People who will accept you for who and what you are - regardless of your sexuality, colour of your skin or religion.  \n\nThis is the 21st century and people just need to get over their phobias and prejudices.  Life is too short.  Live each day like it's your last.  Have fun and enjoy it.  Just remember to always treat and respect yourself, others and especially nature - the same exact way you want to be treated and respected and all will be well.  And don't forget - just LIVE, LIVE, LIVE!
694166
Oh, baby, I've been there, and I know how much it hurts. My first boyfriend was in the closet, and we had a secret relationship at school, and even though he didn't go out with anyone else, in public he could be very cruel to me to stop anyone thinking we were a couple.\nAt least in my case we did work it out, because he had real feelings for me, and eventually came out, but it doesn't always happen.\nIf this boy isn't ready to come out, nothing you can do will change his mind. He's acting badly because he's scared, but if he doesn't really care about you, I think you might have to just let him go. (In my case, I dumped him and started seeing someone else who was out, and he finally got his shit together and admitted he wanted me back, but I wouldn't rely on that happening. It might be worth a try, but if you're not out either it's more difficult.)\nYou have to try and forget him and move on, look for someone who will treat you better. If he is meant to be with you, he will realise it eventually, but if not, then you're better off without him.\nSorry I can't be more help.
305901
Its good that you were honest with your friend, he knows how you feel about him now and also knows your sexual preferences. But if he is not interested then you need to let him be and just try to be friends, he is entitled to his own sexual preferences as much as you so it is important to respect that.\n\nIt seems like he still wants to be mates so you might be able to build a good friendship with this guy, most young men probably wouldn't want anything to do with you if they knew you fancied them (i'm assusming you're male) so he sounds pretty understanding and cool and might be able to offer you some good support.\n\nIf he does want more than a friendship at some stage he'll come to you.
379687
it's really hard to tell someone's sexual preference these days, as i'm sure you know. i've never had to deal with this kind of situation before so my advice might be a lil spotty. i think you should just try and be friends with him for awhile at first and see if you can tell by just talkin to him. if that doesn't work and you feel comfortable enough then you should ask him. just be patient and see what happens. it could just turn out that he'll be a really good friend but not gay. you never know
515141
That is a very hard situation. I suppose if she is your best friend she you should tell her that you are gay. If she reacts badly... then she isn't really your friend. It will hurt if she gets upset but it is worse to keep the truth from her, friendships are built on honesty.\n     If she does take it well then ask her if she has ever felt that way. If she claims not to then you can probably leave it alone and not risk messing things up. But if she has then tell her the truth flat out. Or just tell her the whole truth either way.\n     I have a friend who came out to me about a year ago. At first I was upset that she had not told me sooner. But after I saw how much happier she is now with that out in the open I accepted it. \n     Just tell her, she deserves to know.
761016
If you flat out ask him, it could be awkward for both of you. Maybe you should be a little bit stronger in your hints and say something along the lines that, even though you are straight, you wouldn't mind having a gay friend and ask him if he has ever known anyone who is gay. Most gay people have the feeling that it is killing them inside before they come out, so even if he doesn't open up to you right away remain a close friend. If he is gay, your friendship will mean a lot to him.
298460
Telling someone that you're gay can really help a lot, just because you don't have to carry around your secret all by yourself anymore. Probably the best person to tell that you're gay is a female friend, since they will likely have less problems with it than a male friend. If you're gay, chances are that you'll have more girl friends than guy friends. However, pick carefully! Don't tell it to someone that you've had a fight with recently or that you're not totally comfortable with them knowing. Think about whether this person could use the information to get back at you for something. It's your choice and depends on your family, but maybe you want to tell your parents. However, if you think that they'd react badly and still depend on them, give this some thought. Parents can react better or worse than you'd imagine. Another option might be a sister, if you have one. Be very careful before telling people at work or school. And before telling anyone, ask yourself: a) Is this person a religious fanatic who would be violently opposed to gays and set me on fire with kerosene? (If so, not a good choice) b) Would this person use me as their 'gay friend' to go shopping and get fashion advice? (If so, and this might be surprising, also not a good choice. You need a friend that will love you for you, not for your gayness). The people you tell should be people that will just say 'okay' and you can move on with your lives and you can feel better about it.
965823
Why do you have to do anything?  What does sexual orientation have to do with friendship.  If you care for this person as a friend, I don't see the problem.  I have gay friends, and it has never come between the friendship we share.  If it's something troublesome to you, talk it over with them, I'm sure they would appreciate your honesty.
678395
You should be there for him! He has been honest to you and you need to support his decision! Thats what friends are for.  Thats so cool actually because id like a guy friend that was gay.  They are so sweet and caring and make the best friend out of everyone.  Accept his decision and carry on with your friendship as normal.