I want to be cremated when I die, my family says they will not do this, how can I get this done without help?
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Find an estate attorney and draw up a will. The attorney will give you plenty of good ideas on how to carry this out.  You might even be able to make the attorney the executor of your estate so he/she has the legal power to make things happen.
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I want to be cremated and made into an artificial coral reef.  It's giving something back and seems lovely to me.\nThe body has no purpose after death so it's a waste of space and resources to be buried.  I've instructed my family and friends to contact these folks: http://www.eternalreefs.com/
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tell them no. that's what he wants you to do serve him. find an agency that offers 24 hour care or you can also contact hospice they are trained to help the family with respite and other situations were it is impossible for the family to care for the terminally ill.and he can afford it if they are well to do. i know you are a good person just by reading your story, but he hates you, not dislike or slightly annoyed, just mean. explain to your husband that after all the years you just wouldn't be comfortable taking care of such a mean spirit. i know him and his family will come up with another idea. and the elderly and sick need more attention and care.good luck and forgive him and pray for him.
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It looks like they took YOURS off.\n\nBut seriously, if you or the family specify that you want ANY artificial additions removed prior to burial, they will do it.
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First, let me offer my deepest most heartfelt condolences on your loss! In two years, i lost my wife, by father and my brother, i know what it is to lose someone, and my heart goes out to you!\n\nSecond, let me say welcome to Judaism!\n\nMy strong advice is to rise with the mourners when they recite the Kaddish in the synagogue, and, yes, to sit shiva in your own home, where what you do and how you do it is your own choice. \n\nRemember that, as a Jew, you are commanded by Gd, and most of the rabbinic authorities state that a Ger, a convert to Judaism, MUST observe shiva and shloshim and the year for his or her parents, regardless of the parents' religious status, because You are a Jew, and, as such, are commanded to, and for you NOT to would be to deny that you are one who is commanded.
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I'm sorry to hear that. Did he just pass away? I'll copy this from a book I have on checklists for everything:\n1) Call a close friend or family member to help you.\n2) Find out is he had already made final arrangements.\n3) Decide about the funeral. The body can remain as is for 72 hours, so you have time to decide on your choices.\n4) If you need to relocate the body before burial plans are finalized, you can ask for a temporary storage at a funeral home. Make sure you indicate the funeral director that you might have a different option of funeral home. You can do that.\n5) Inform friends and family about service after details are finalized.\n6) Keep careful track of the original death certificate. You'll need it. Make a ton of copies.\n7) Decide on an obituary and where it should appear.\nTake care.
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try to strike a balance. your family loves you.\nmine did the same for me and i was glad i could help however i could.\nbut, remind them that your time is limited and set boundaries for yourself with them. good luck
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as far as I've heard, there have been consessions made recently to permit creamation. Specifically there have been prayers and services written up specifically geared towards catholic practitioners. My father is catholic and wishes to be creamated. \nI'm sure many hard core catholics, however, still frown upon this. Ask your priest if you are curious about what your specific parish does in the case of cremation.
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I'm considering cremation...then I can have my ashes spread over my favorite place. I figure, you soul has alredy gone to where it is supposed to(hopefully heaven)- so, I want my ashes tossed into the valley below my favorite place(lookout point).\nAlso, saves big $$$. One last nice gesture for family and friends.
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You know i have that same problem.  Don't know my DAd and my Mom passed 7 years ago.  Maybe someone in your family can help you out.  I wish you the best of luck.  Or maybe call the Maury Show.
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I am 58, and in those years I have lost friends and loved one including both parents.  My only suggestion to you is to do what you need to for yourself.  In my opinion this is by far the most important thing a survivor can do.  When my Dad died, I did a number of things.  I was always with the him if he wasn't locked away somewhere safe.  I had my Boy Scout pin buried with him, my Mother gave me his pin.  Scouting was important to both of us.  I flew with him to his final resting place.  I put the first shovel full of dirt in the grave.  At one point my Mother became worried about me, my Brother understood.  He told Mother I was on a mission and would be back as soon as the mission was complete.  You see I am retired from the military and we do things a bit different.  So do what you need to do for yourself, you never want to look back and say "I wish I had done thus and such".\n\nThe important thing to remember is that what you are feeling is perfectly normal.  There are stages of grief as follows:\n\nDENIAL --- The just can't be dead.\nANGER --- Why did they have to die?\nBARGAINING --- God help me get through this.\nDEPRESSION --- Oh God, what am I going to do. \nACCEPTANCE --- OK, they are dead and I am powerless to do anything about it.  I must live on...\n\nOne more story.  When my Dad died I decided to cut his lawn the following day.  When I tried to start the mower, it was out of gas.  At that moment I was absolutely dumb struck.  I didn't know what to do.  I didn't think to look for a gas can, it never occurred to me that I could buy some, and so on.  If it hadn't been for a neighbor, I would still be setting on that empty lawn mower in the middle of the garage with absolutely no clue as to what to do next.\n\nI hope this helps some.  I understand how much you are hurting and I am terribly sorry for your loss.  It will take some time, but rest assured, you will get through this.  \n\nContact information is available on my profile.
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Get sponsers from your church that god has led you to get help from along with family. Don't worry if it's god's will he will make a way. Just pray and it should be okay sounds corny but hopely that helps.
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I definitely want to be cremated.
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Well to be honest you can't-- once a person has died thats it--\n\nI'm in no way religious but i would like to think that my mum would be there waiting for me when i leave this earth i find comfort from that \n\nBut i cant say it's there because i dont know
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Most people will let you go to a funeral without saying anything.  Just tell them that there was a death in the family.
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Cremation survey\nThe Cremation Association of North America surveyed family members of more than 124,000 people cremated in the United States during 1996-97. Here is what the association found:\n\nAge: The median age of a cremated person was 74 years old.\n\nRace: 88 percent of people cremated were white, 6 percent black, 3 percent Asian and 3 percent Hispanic.\n\nReligious affiliation: 58 percent were Protestant, 26 percent Catholic, 11 percent Buddhist, 3 percent Jewish, and 2 percent Hindu.\n\nCremation container: 16 percent were placed in a casket, 3 percent in a body bag or wrapping, 1 percent in no container and 80 percent in an alternative container.\n\nDisposition of remains: 41 percent were taken to a cemetery, 36 percent taken home to be kept or scattered later, 18 percent scattered as directed outside of a cemetery, and 5 percent not picked up from the crematory.\n\nDirected locations for scattered remains: 73 percent over water, 27 percent over land.\n\nPercentage of cremations in which the remains were scattered: 24.\n\nService prior to cremation: 33 percent yes, 67 percent no.\n\nMemorial service after cremation: 44 percent yes, 56 percent no\n\nhttp://www.cremation.com/whycremation/survey/\nhttp://www.mailtribune.com/archive/2004/0930/local/stories/03local.htm\n\nIf not, sorry. i would see a local funeral home, they will help you with anything you need
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It is possible to contact the dead on your own. First you must say a prayer to whatever Diety you believe in and ask for protection and truth. \n\nIf you are Christian try this: \n\nDear God, please protect me from anything that can harm me or others. I seek the truth and nothing else. With harm to none. In the name of the father, the son, and the holy ghost. Amen. \n\nAfter saying the protection prayer ask your higher power to put you in contact with the deceased through a dream. If you arent afraid to use a spell/ritual then try this one: \n\nTo Have Dreams Of The Deceased\n\nYou will need:\n\n1 white candle \nA picture of the deceased \nLight the white candle and stare at the flame for a few minutes. Then put the picture at eye level and say:\n\nYou are gone forever; \nBut still live in my heart\nI know you are in Heaven\nSo we remain apart\nI ask for your guidance\nThrough providence up above \nPlease speak some soothing words to me\nAnd fill me with your love\nWith harm to none and blessed be\n\nPlace the picture under your pillow. Blow out the candle, and place it under your pillow also. Sleep with them under your pillow for three nights to receive the dream you want.\n\nGood luck!