How can you stop someone you used to date from saying mean things to you in front of others or just being rude
473677
he's doing it because he sees it is bothering you.  Ignore him with a vengence...no eye contact, pass by without noticing, dont turn and go the other way, just keep on the same track pretending he is not in the hall, or room, pretend he is a complete troll stranger....he'll get bored.
63002
you let them say what they want to say.. u show\nno emotion the entire time and u simply walk away. you will always be the bigger person if u walk away.\ndont ever lower yourself to their level. and if they attempt to hit you.. block, and then again walk away.
643048
some times being blunt is the best way to do things just tell him that what he is doing is making you unconfortable and if he please could stop
361378
It depends on the relationship I have with the person.  If they are family, I just get nasty with them and don't pull any punches.  (and I can strip someone with my tongue very easily)  If they are an acquaintance, I just ignore them.  In my situation, this is the worst possible insult they can receive as most folks around me like being in my company.  I let the person see me looking great, laughing (could be about them or not) and generally having a great time.  I'm like you, I prefer not to swear, as it shows poor manners, so sometimes my revenge is more a mental discipline then a verbal one.
696162
be straight forward, honest, and tell her straight away, yet round about as well\n\nlook, i think your nice and have a nice (insert vocabulary, or sense of humor, or something of the like) but (insert annoying part) is annoying as hell, and i would appreciate it if you would cut it out/stop it
136902
ignore him/her. if they are abusive, chances are they are looking for the feedback to let them know that they are getting to you. life is to short to sweat the small stuff.
907223
first of all why in the hell are you dishing about someone in the first place. one day someone is going to dish about you so you need to shut up.
1133751
He's being a jerk.....because he made plans with you. That is extremely rude.\n\nHow long have you been dating. Maybe, he feels that you are guys are in that 'comfort zone' where he can do stuff like that.  You need to tell him why you're mad though.
468288
You stop it by being so incredibly NICE to her that she freaks out and goes away.\nObnoxious people do not understand it when someone is extremely nice to them. You blow their brain circuits when you respond to their annoying behaivior by being the nicest person in the world to them and they are so confused they go away.\n\nI got rid of a horrible little brat on here who would insult me every time I asked a question by giving her the ten points for best answer. Never heard from her again. I am sure she cannot figure it out.
460029
Well, start by not stereotyping all guys because your ex does something. He's probably still just upset about the breakup, and is taking it out by saying bad things about you.
859568
well if he is acting rude around you...then you need to get over this guy. it isnt worth it if he treats you this way. also start doing little things by urself then move on to bigger things and you could get out of ur wimpy stage!
283802
Find a new relationship. Preferably someone prettier than her. Don't let her see it bothers you she broke up with you. Become very succesfull at what you do. She has to know that your life  not only goes on, but also is actually going a lot better now she's no longer part of it and holding you back. And throughout your now perfect life she has to be nothing to you. Be polite but nothing more. Don't ignor her, you are above childish behaviour like that, but she has to know that she now is just some girl you happen to know. Cold buisnesslike politeness
561171
Don't go back with the old one...if he says mean things now, it will be worse when he's throwing sh@t in your face when you are 30. Get rid of the new one, or you'll be bailing him out of jail when you are 50 because he'll be brawling in bars.  You are young, who cares about them, live it up girlie...you don't need to be strapped down to a boyfriend right now...enjoy your friends, you will go separate ways soon enough..there's always time for boyfriends, believe me, they don't go away, lol
557836
Tricky one.  \nI once went out with a guy who used to do lots of things which annoyed me, eventually I dumped him as it got too much.  In the early days, I was in his room and we were having a glass of wine and he got quite drunk and started being rather arrogant and stupid.  I had a choice at the time.  I could have played along and feel stupid, I could have left the room without saying anything or I could breakdown.  I chose to breakdown because I thought I didn't really want to be part of his arrogance and I thought it would have been just rude to leave.  Once I started crying, he stopped what he was doing and apologised and promised he wouldn't do it again.\nNow, I'm not saying this is the best approach and I wouldn't be surprised if you thought that I'm a drama queen or an attention seeker from that anecdote.  However, it is one way of making guys realise whatever it is they are doing is upsetting.  \nHowever, as my arrogant ex boyfriend only really did this once, it did not affect me day to day (though eventually the other annoying things about him got to me).  On this basis, I think you perhaps want to consider if this thing or these things your boyfriend does that irritates you will ultimately affect your sanity, you might want to consider looking elsewhere or dumping him.  I know you probably don't want to hear it but I learnt it the hard way, and my god, my ex was hard to get rid of AND I dumped him the hardest way, face to face!!!  Alternatively, you might just want to talk it over with him.  If he doesn't reason with you, definitely dump him, he's not worth it, sorry!  I hope this helps.  Good luck.
626372
Honey, I know what you're saying. My ex does the same to me. One day, he's the best thing you could ask for, the next he's unbearably mean. On a good day, I accept that we've had a good day. On the bad, I hope the next will be better. Don't call him for a few days and see the change in his attitude. He's gonna treat you like dirt as long as he knows you're waiting for him.
940151
You can discuss pet peeves with your mate.  More often than none, people with annoying habits, don't realize they are doing it.\nIt just comes naturally to them and they do it without a thought.\n\nTalk it through. It's not worth giving up a potentially good relationship based on the petty things
97437
Just say "That wasn't nice." when they say something harsh. Maybe they don't realize it.\n\nOtherwise, get new friends.