Why do people always try to ruin other people's happiness? Get a life!?
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They are jealous....It always comes down to Jealousy..
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I would simply say - they are trying to, but you don't have to let them!  Try to surround yourself with people who are positive.  Maybe you are simply hanging out with the wrong crowd at your digs... try making some new friends that build you up instead.  A lot of people try to bring others down when they feel insecure about themselves.  Obviously, you have recognized this in others and want to avoid it for yourself.  I think that is great!  \n\nWhen people make negative comments to you, you can always counter them by saying something positive immediately - either about yourself or about the topic.  Failing that, tell them that they are coming across as negative and a bully and that that is unacceptable to you in a friend.  If you are feeling depressed about all this though, please try to talk to an adult about it.  In many cases, there are things they can do to help and the people looking after you care about you, I am sure.  \n\nGood luck with your circumstances and don't let negative people in your life affect you too much.  When you are grown and out in the real world working, you will find that they exist everywhere and very often it is nothing that you have done to make them that way.  It is their own failing and none of yours.  Go out and succeed.  Be happy.  *hugs*
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people make themselves happy - trying to make someone else happy is like screwing for virginity
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people are rude because they are miserable with they're own life and feel the need to inflict themselves on normally happy individuals in an effort to make them as miserable as they are.
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I have been there, I truly have.  \n\nYou need to understand that your happiness is a decision YOU make.  You cannot rely on others to MAKE you happy.  This is a common problem in humans. If you let the actions (or inactions) of others effect your level of happiness, then you will find youself disappointed most of the time.\n\nAccept that people are basically good, but selfish and self-centered.  This is a truth best learned young.\n\nStart finding things that make you happy.  If you like a certain hobby, do it more.  Find others who also enjoy your hobby.  \n\nFind a social group with interests similar to yours.  A Church or other group where you surround yourself with other people is big.  And it takes your mind off of your own problems.\n\nFurthermore, if you are healthy, take on a good and safe exercise program.  Go to a gym, and meet other people there as well.  Get your exercise, and enjoy the new friends you might find there. \n\nThe key is to take your mind off of your unhappiness and focus on the positive things in life.  I promise you, if you don't you will cause more serious psychological, but also manifest physical problems as well, and this is a waste of a good life... YOURS>\n\nFinally, seek professional help from a person who specalizes in depression, since you would be better served by them than people on this forum.  Even though we mean well, we can't help you from "HERE".\n\nYou MUST act and take your life back.  Don't just give in to depression.\nGood luck..  and stay positive.
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Perhaps you could come outside of yourself and be of help to someone else.  Helping others makes life worth living.  Sometimes just being there to listen to a person helps them sort out their problems.  Life does suck at times.  But you gain wisdom through your life experiences, and once you go through bad times, you are experienced enough to help others through their bad times.....)(
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Bonny, some people are just mean. Love yourself first of all, then you will not be left feeling so empty; regardless of their actions (or lack of action). This world and the people in it will bleed every drop of love right out of you and hate you while they do it. Shield yourself from these emotional vampires; live for the joy of loving regardless of the payback. Pity those that are so ignorant and empty, dry and mean.
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Because they think they're better than others, or either they're insecure about themselves and try to find fault in others just for the heck of it. It happens a lot nowadays, you just have to learn to be more open-minded. If people dont like you for who you are, that's their problem.
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ALL people are selfish but to different extents\n\nif somebody let you down it doesn't mean you should completely stop trusting people - just be more careful who you trust next time
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You can't make somebody be happy.  Sorry but it's true.  You must make yourself happy and if the person you are with is happy that you are happy with yourself and with life they will be happy too....
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coz some people are sick and despo's who don't know how to respect their relation  !!!!!!!\nThey can't keep themselves happy nor can they keep people around them happy!!!...
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Unfortunately, some people just like that, and no matter how many times you tell them in one way or another that you don't appreciate it, they still going to do it. It's a personality, and you either have to accept it, or loose a friend...
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Insecurity is a good guess. Many of those that try to make themselves seem better than others have real issues with themselves. They can not ever believe someone can do something better than them, make more money, etc. What they do is right and what everyone else does is wrong. Unfortunately I  know many many people like that. I have learned to tune them out of my life as much as possible and when I can't I do my best to keep my mouth shut. It really is a shame because I know some that are worse than those they are knocking and it makes me so ill at heart to see a loved one get hurt that way
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THANK YOU! Some women cannot be pleased no matter what you do for them and we as men get tired of trying and move on to someone else. Most people are not happy unless they are miserable.
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You can't rely on other people to make you happy, because you can only rely on you.  You need to be happy within yourself before you can bring other people into your life.  The people who gravitate towards you are probably users because they can sense your desperation to know someone good, and most users are wonderful actors.  Take some time away from people to work on yourself, and then be choosy about your friends.\n\nPS:  Church people aren't any better than regular people.  Some of the most hateful people I know I first met in a church pew.
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I don't know why, but it seems that there are many people who simply enjoy hurting others.  I suspect it stems from them feeling powerless and insecure, so they get a small charge to their own egos when they can make someone else feel bad. \n\n There are, also, others who simply take advantage of people - they see goodness and kindness as a kind of weakness they can exploit for their own means.\n\nDon't let this turn YOU bitter, though.  Remember to tell yourself that those people, in the end, will suffer for it when they find they lack solid, real and loving friendships in their lives.
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Right now i'm in that same situation. You have to learn to let go of all the bad negativity. That doesn't help when you hold everything inside. You have to learn to express yourself better. If you have a best friend or a real close friend. Share almost everything with them. If things bother you that people do let them know. Don't stress over the little things. There is a way to be happier all the time even if it's not you, but it will take some work. You have to look deep inside of you and wthink to yourself why do I act the way I do??