How can being raised by a mother with obessive compulsive personality disorder  affect children.?
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Not all OCD mothers are mentally and emotionally abusive, though a good portion of them can be (because of personal problems stemming from their OCD usually.)\n\nThese children need to see a psychologist NOT because of the OCD behavior of the mother but because of the verbal and emotional abuse.\n\nPeople watching these children also need to be careful that they get help as soon as they can because these children can continue with a vicious cycle that their mother had started.\n\nIf you are a victim of this, I ask you to please see a psychologist or your local therapist. I doubt you need medication so don't let them fool you into that (unless you really do suspect yourself of truly having a mental problem.) You need someone to talk to and help you get over these distortions with therapeutic work before it takes hold of you/anybody else and hurts them.
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I have a degree in early childhood development and have dealt with many such situations. There is nothing that can "cure" the problem that isn't mutaully agreed on by both sides. ie. NEVER discuss adult issues in front of or to the child in adult terms. Nor should you cause a traumatic event to be added to by telling her that she will have to do anything that isn't court ordered. Your friend needs to discuss these issues with her father not argue or verbally attack, nor should she mention what her daughter said (this will make him defensive and most likely confront the child). Explain how it is effecting her behavior and that it was said that he had filed. Please don't......Then, and always she needs to be reassured and told often that she is loved and that daddy loves and misses her too. Just because mommy & daddy aren't together anymore doesn't make them love her any less. And remember 2 happy loving homes are better than 1 unhappy home. Also, everyone who is caring for her not to over compensate and allow behavior or regression problems. This will only grow into something that will eventually cause an unruley teen and a lousy adult. She needs a set schedual (routine is comforting) and have set boundries, with consequeces. TIP my son started sucking his thumb, I only saw it once, but I didn't use hot sauce as most people suggest because it would hurt if it got into his eyes. I used powdered alum and made sure I got it under his nails. If you don't know alum is what makes pickles sour and has quite a bite. It worked the 1st time.
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My parents went through the same thing. My niece was put into a foster home and they were so upset about it. They had to go to court to get her released to them, it took several months, but they were finally able to get custody of her. They were sick with worry for her and she was a part of our family, they weren't going to let her go. After they  got custody things were not easy. My niece was a darling little girl but she had a lot of behavior problems. I watched my Parents get old over night ( not literally over night, but very quickly ) They spent the years they were suppose to be enjoying, raising another child. My niece is grown now and those years are gone. They are old and tired, not much time for kicking up their feet. Sometimes I resent my sister for having put them through all this, but I can't imagine our lives without that little girl. Good luck on your journey and may God bless you all.
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Yup. People can say, "you're born with it" all they want. Plenty of people are born with DISORDERS. It's not like it is something to be ashamed of, anyway. I am not afraid to admit that I have an obsessive-compulsive disorder. Although I have some choice in my behavior, that doesn't make it a lifestyle choice.
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I think you may be interested in reading an  article by a biopsychologist named Lawrence Harper. The article proposes a theory that suggests that experiences can be inherited through genetic means. The theory does not specifically address the notion of the inheritance of particular memories, but it may prove a useful avenue for pursuing your question.\n\nHere is the abstract from the article:\n\nCurrently, behavioral development is thought to result from the interplay among genetic inheritance, congenital characteristics, cultural contexts, and parental practices as they directly impact the individual. Evolutionary ecology points to another contributor,epigenetic inheritance, the transmission to offspring of parental phenotypic responses to environmental challenges—even when the young do not experience the challenges themselves. Genetic inheritance is not altered, gene expression is. Organismic pathways for such transmission\nexist. Maternal stress during the latter half of a daughter’s gestation may affect not only the daughter’s but also grand-offspring’s physical growth. The author argues that temperamental variation may be influenced in the same way. Implications for theory and research design are presented along with testable predictions.
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It can definatly be genetic. If your parent(s) had one of these cases, it can be inherited, but also environmental factors contribute...stress levels can cause these chemical imbalances too. There are lots of things, if the traits are inherited, you can just be more at risk of developing these habits, and something can go on in your atmosphere that can set off these conditions.
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I don't believe it holds any benefits, except make parents more neurotic, being around their children all day.  And who decides whether the parents are competent enough to teach.  Do you need to have a teaching degree for this?\nKids will most certainly miss out on a lot of interaction with other children, which is very important.\nIf you want to give them a better education, send them to private school if you can afford it.
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The important thing is to get your daughter the medical help she needs.  It's not impossible, my cousin who is adopted was diagnosed with a mental health problem and lots of questions were asked about his family background etc, of course my aunt was unable to supply the information because she didn't have his medical history.  It wasn't a problem, it meant a few more tests had to be carried out that could have been bypassed if the genetic history was available, but it didn't prevent them from being able to treat him adequately.\nGood luck
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I applaud you and your family.  I strive towards that all the time, but having been brought up in a home that had all the conviences, took things for granted, ate whatever looked/tasted good etc. etc. I have trouble breaking away from what I grew up with.  I am moving more towards vegitarianism slowly, but surely and try to use homeopathic rememdies as much as I can.  I know that I am no where near you and your family, but I try.\n\nAs a social worker though I would have to say that although I envy your lifestyle I would still be concerned for your children.  Don't get me wrong, I'm sure they are just fine, but I have seen many children who for whatever reason have not been exposed to TV, public schools and mainstream culture who are maladjusted and or taken advantage of when they are older.  I'm sure you can do your best to teach them about some of the nightmares society will offer them, but some things just aren't learnable/teachable, they need to be experienced.  My concern for your children will be how will they adjust to other people, to society at large, how will they maintain this lifestyle with all the pressures from others, how will they stay safe when they may be ignorant to some of lifes obsticles.  I think it is great to live the way you do, I would just do everything in your power to ensure that your children don't get shell shocked when they leave the "comfort of home".
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Well, there is OCD and OCPD  Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder.  OCD can ruin ones life.  OCPD is just what we would call a "quirk".  I suffer from both and don't think it will ever go away.  You learn how to deal with it as you would have to with any other disability.  Look up "Cognitive Therapy" in a search engine for a better understanding of how it works.
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Jova: Borderline Personality Disorder results from problems with attachment in infancy, leaving children fearful of abandonment, with a lot of defenses against the pain of not getting what they want when they want it from the persons they want to provide it. The Masterson Clinic in New York is the leading authority in the country. They have therapists who study with them on best treatment practices.
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You could search job core on the internet, but I had a friend who got in even more trouble when she went. You have to remember that most of these kids are usually in some type of crisis, which is why they ended up there in the first place. With her having emotional issues, that may not be the best option for her. Thats just my opinion, though. Im sure many kids have turned their life around from job core. I think it's more of taking personal responsibility for your past actions that makes some kids thrive there and some get into more trouble. Just take into consideration how easily she is influenced by her peers. If she gives in easily to peer pressure, I would consider another option. Maybe surrounding her in a controlled environment with other emotionally disturbed girls would be of greater benefit. Good luck and I congratulate you on being a concerned parent. Your daughter has that in her favor.
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It wouldn't affect the child as much as a having a parent who is psychologically unwell. Wait until you are off the meds to bring someone into the world.
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well she certainly has a mental disorder, multiple at that. \n\npersonality disorder and depression I am sure there is panic/anxiety in there too \n\nShe really needs help, she needs medication and a good evaluation. \n\nHere is something for you. I know you are worried about your mother, I dont know how old you are. Make sure that you have relative that knows what the situation is so that if there is a time where she does that a relative is there to save the day. Because if by chance you were unsucessfull at stopping her, you might blame yourself. Please do not blame yourself. Seek therapy for yourself also, through your doctor or school.\n\nNow I wouldnt recommend this to any child to do, but call Social Services to get your mom the help. Youmight get placed in a foster home or with relatives until your mother gets help, the court can order her to do it and/or commit her themselves.
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I heard that a lot of times. Like my aunt, she's really having a hard time with her son becasue 2 of her daughters graduated except her son. \n\nFor me I think it depends on how a parent brings up their child/children. It doesn't have to be exactly about the gender. Of course, there are some factors that influences their child/children. You cannot avoid that. It just on how they can manage with the situation.\n\nDon't worry, maybe you're mom didn't mean it. They all get upset sometimes.
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I am going to answer this question because for me this was a moral issue. In fact I was caught in this delimma not to long ago. I have son that was recently diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, and because of this diagnoses, he had extreme anger outburstes and major mood swings. He is actually on an antidepressent. It made a world of difference for the better. So, I think that it depends on the child and the severity of the situation.
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It sounds like you truely do have OCD. I take it you are underage and cannot obtain medical treatment on your own. If your parents refuse to have you treated please go as soon as you become of age. It can be very sucessfully treated with medication and or therapy.\n\nthis is from a web site:\n\nWhat are obsessions and compulsions?\nObsessions are recurrent, persistent, unwanted ideas, thoughts, images or impulses that are experienced involuntarily, appear to be senseless, and feel out of control. They commonly intrude when you are trying to focus on thinking or doing other things. Obsessions are often accompanied by uncomfortable feelings, such as fear, disgust, doubt, or a sensation that things have to be done in a way that is "just so." \n\nSome common obsessions include: \n\nfear of danger to oneself or others \nfear of contamination \na need for exactness or order \nA compulsion is a repetitive behavior - a ritual - that you feel driven to do, and seemingly cannot stop doing. Compulsions occur as a result of obsessions and represent your attempts to manage your incessant thoughts by doing something to try to settle them. For example, if an obsessive worry is whether or not the door was locked, then a compulsive response might be to check the lock repeatedly. Some common compulsive behaviors are: \n\nexcessive checking \ncounting \nsilent repetition of words \nhand washing \ncleaning \n ordering / arranging \ntouching \npraying \nhoarding \n \n\nObsessions and compulsions range from mild checking behavior (did I lock the door?) to severe cases where you are unable to function based on compulsions having taken over normal life functioning. If we think of obsessive-compulsive traits and behaviors on a continuum of varying degrees and intensities, most people experience them with little or no negative consequence on their daily lives and relationships. \n\nWhen obsessions, compulsions, and perfectionist behaviors take up excessive time and significantly interfere with your daily life and relationships, it is time to seek help. When this occurs, the repetitive and seemingly out-of-control behaviors of obsession and compulsion may be indicative of a disorder that should be addressed with the help of a licensed professional. \n\nIf: \n\nyou feel unable to keep up with your normal appearance and behavior, \nyou can’t work, \nyou cut off connections with friends and families and are unable to socialize, or \nyou can’t take care of yourself and have trouble eating, sleeping, bathing, etc. \nit is time to seek help! \nBehavioral therapy with medications seems to offer the best long-term improvement for the treatment of OCD. Even though you probably realize that your anxiety and behaviors are excessive and irrational, changing them is not a simple matter. Most people with OCD require assistance from a qualified therapist.\n\nCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Generally viewed as the most effective form of psychotherapy for treating most anxiety disorders, CBT involves the use of such techniques as: \nthought-stopping \ngradual challenging of irrational behaviors \nidentifying triggers and separating them from the feelings of extreme fear and the desire to avoid certain situations \nsystematic desensitization focused on the physical sensations of your anxiety \n"post-modern" therapies (such as Narrative and Solution-Focused models), which may help by placing the symptoms outside you and allowing you to tell a new story about them. \nPsychoeducation: One of the difficulties with OCD is the confusion about this disorder. It is frustrating for the individual and family members to manage a situation that is so misunderstood. An early and important part of treatment is getting a good education in what is known about this disorder. \nMedications: Certain anti-depressants (usually SSRIs) or other anti-anxiety medications have had good success with many people who suffer from OCD. It appears that these medications act