a boy hits a girl at school ,says he is bringing a gun to shoot her,teach hears and says the boy was joking?
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All threats MUST be taken seriously.  Tell your parents.  Tell the principal.  If no action is taken, call the police.
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This is a much more difficult question than the posters are making it out to be.  Sure, it sounds logical to just go to the teacher, the other kids parents, the principal, etc., but the answer is not always this easy.\n\nYou have to realize, if you do this, you are putting your child at a greater risk for continued harassment, additional harassment and possibly even physical retaliation, which is much more likely than parents would like to believe.  The worst thing in the world, especially for a boy, is to be labelled a "nark."  His life will go from bad to worse.  Kids will tease him about it; His classmates won't trust him; Kids will be unwilling to get close to him, etc.  \n\nIt is possible that school officials could just keep a closer eye on it and bust the bully without the bully ever knowing that he had been "ratted" out.  That would be the best case scenario.  \n\nIf you call the bully's parents, 1 of 4 things can happen and 3 of them are not good and the good one is highly unlikely.  You have to realize that, just like you, the bully's parents first reaction is to stick up for their child.\n\n#1 The bully's parents could laugh you off\n#2 The bully's parents could get real defensive and turn against you and your child\n#3 The bully's parents could side with you, tell their kid about the conversation and then the bully would punish your child for your actions\n#4 The bully could get in so much trouble that he straightens out and doesnt tell anyone about it (how likely do you think that is?)\n\nThe worst thing you can do is encourage your child to beat up the bully.  Violence is never the answer.  How effective and realistic is comebacks, avoidance, etc.?  I guess it depends on the situation.  I don't know that it will work though.\n\nWhere is the bullying taking place?  What is the relationship between the kid and the bully?  What does the kid say is happening?  Does the kid give you details?  Details are very important, because there could be a logical solution to the issue.\n\nFinally, the advice you are looking for...older children...say 7th grade and up, (my experience is with the fellas so I come from that angle), are striving to be viewed as adults.  The guys want to take on a mans role; Do the right thing; Help people; PROTECT PEOPLE.  (I realize not all 7th and up guys are like this, but you can use your judgement to find the good ones)  Get a fella that is a little older that you have some sort of relationship with, whether it be a coaches kid, family friend, etc.  Tell him that your son is having an issue and it would be a real help if you could, "look after him, show him the ropes, help him along with the fellas, make sure he gets along alright."  Hopefully, the younger kid looks up to this dude (younger guys usually do, pretty much, no matter what), tell the older kid, "my son really looks up to you.  It would mean alot to him, but (and this is very important) it would mean just as much to me.  You are a good kid.  You are a good role model for him."  This way you are empowering a young man. He will take ownership in the situation.  He will watch out for your kid, and the bully will want nothing to do with an older kid, matter of fact, he will probably think he is down right cool and want to be his friend instead of foe.
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You are right about being bullied.  You need to go and talk to someone you trust at the school who wields some power and have this behaviour stopped.  If it makes you feel any better this boy probably has been mistreated during his life and this is the only way that he knows to behave for attention.  Having said this you do NOT allow him or anyone else to victimize you or anyone else.  By staying silent you are as guilty as the bully.  Put a stop to this right now and speak up.
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Oh, boy.  Here's a true story for you.\n\nA teacher of my acquaintance was once insulted in class by a young lad who had recently learned how to give the finger.\n\nThe teacher was shocked, of course, but struggled to ignore the boy.\n\nWell, the boy kept it up, and the teacher sensed he was starting to lose control of the class (NEVER lose control of the class, as you know!).\n\nHe casually walked to the boy, keeping his eyes on the class, continuing his lecture.  He seized the boy's upraised finger, and held on.\n\nThe harder the boy struggled to free himself, the firmer the teacher held it.  After a good five minutes, the teacher let go, not once having indicated that he was paying attention to anything but the lecture.\n\nThe moral of the story:  don't let them get your goat!
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That's a tough situation.  I had a bully in 7th grade.  Ultimately, and it will be the hardest thing to do, but you have to tell an adult.  Someone that will listen.  A parent, or a teacher.  Someone that can watch your back and put the bully in his place.  I know it sounds like tattling or ratting on this person... but think about the news stories.  There's violence out there and you just can't keep quiet about it.
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wow...scary..I am amazed...this cannot be a security issue can it?  My boy's high school has the same rule and of a crowd of 100 or so during a meet the teachers day (I took off an hour from work and came straight there) the principal singled me out in the back row and said that hats were not allowed...i think he expected me to immediately take it off, but i just looked at him...if he taken the issue any further i would have walked out...this is a small town.\n\nI searched for the Saginaw michigan police department site and sent them an e-mail saying how manly they were for bringing violence to this terrible hat wearer.\n\nI'll agree that the man was tassered for resisting, but the police officer had no right to touch the man in the first place.  If it was a security issue, like hiding a gun or something...he could have hidden a heavy pistol a lot easier in his pocket,,,it cannot be aa security issue...but whatever, it should have at least been explained bvefore the officer grabbed the man's possessions and person
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Classic teacher pupil situation Pupil hitting back at teacher How to stop?
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Teachers have a union and I expect they would be glad to help him.  I think it would be highly unfair to punish a teacher for defending himself (would they punish a female teacher who was being sexually assaulted on school property by a student if she fought back).  Of course schools are political so who knows what someone might do.\n\nIt is too bad the student was not disciplined.  I am not in favor of out of school suspensions except in extremely henious situations, but this would have been a perfect time to make his punishment to help out that teacher every day for a period of time at school.  Just the kind of thing that can change a students whole life around.\n\nPlease let us know somehow what happens.  I will keep you all in my prayers.
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YIKES!!  #1:  find the teenager\n               #2: Find out what in the H*** is gong on- do not take any excuses for answers either\n# 3  Turn the gun in to authorities immediately.\n\nI hope this is not really happening.  Hopefully just a hypothetical question.  Because schools barely will tolerate a verbal threat anymore- let alone a gun.
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You sound like a kid, with the bus stop thing, so I would talk to your parents.  They can then talk to the girl's parents and explain the situation.  You could also look into talking to the bully's parents, and see if they won't make him pay for it
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mentally alert teachers harassing students.......hahahah!
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First, I want to tell you that your son hitting the teacher is very wrong. I am myself a teacher and I have a students threaten me and insult me. It upsets me. I became a teacher with the desire to make a change in the life of the young people that I meet on a daily basis. \nThe teacher did not have direct physical contact with your son, therefore he didn't not touch him.  He probably tried to prevent him to get in trouble. Your son has rights under the IDEA act. There are organization in every state to help with special and legal problems. I wish you good luck. I will enclose a few links. \nSome schools will argue that a student that has ADD does not qualifies under IDEA but you can make a case that if he has a lot of anger, upset or emotional crisis he does. You need to search under IDEA and your state and advocacy. I feel that if a student hits a teacher or another student, there is definitely a cause for concern. I know that you love your son and that you want what is best for him. Don't blame the teacher because he already got hit, don't blame your son because he is filled with anger and that won't help. Search for a good therapist and work through the issues. It is not your fault, the fact that you are asking us this question means that you love him and that you care. \nGOOD LUCK!
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Haha, that's cute! Here's a joke for you:\n\nIn class, Johnny constantly made faces at the teacher, Ms.  Smith. "Johnny, when I was small, my mother told me that if I kept making ugly faces it would freeze and stay like that." Johnny looks at the teacher and says,"Well Ms. Smith, you can't say that you weren't warned."\n\nI tried, please give me the points.
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The school should definitely be held accountable for not intervening and stopping the harassment.  They are responsible for investigating claims, such as the girls, and acting on the proper disciplinary methods to prevent it from happening again. I do hope that her parents moved her to another school. A school is supposed to be a learning (educational) environment free of harassment of any kind. We all know that it does happen. However, if she reported the incidents and pleaded for help then, the school should be sued over it. I would get a copy of the schools code of conduct as grounds and  more than likely her parents would have to file the suit, (assuming she is a minor).
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Tell someone important in your school -- head teacher or something--\n\nIf this fails just report the bloke and your details to the police - they will definitly chase it up as this is happening within a school.\n\nmaybe if possible find an adult that will giv the bloke a slap And death threat if he continues messing with children.\n\nMost adults with any 'guts' will confront this person.\n\nI would surely be on his case.\n\nkind regards -- good luck
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I would talk to the principle and ask her/him to have your locker switched.  Just avoid the jerk!  It's makes no sense to comfront him with a teacher, because it usually makes matters worse.  You don't want him or his friends to call you names like, "tattle-tale" or "snitch".  Boys can be really cruel and immature.  Best to just get away from him.
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marksmanship is generally aim with a weapon normally said about a gun. It seems to me that the person saying it is reasuring someone else of his skill It may be a threat or it could be that the person is bragging about him