I'm recently engaged and happy, but prior to our engagment she was unfaithful and now Im unsure about trust?
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She may be ruined...If you can trust her, you two will be alright. If you have any doubt you relationship will tarnish faster than that ring.
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Hmmm...it appears as though she was not really ready to move on if she went back to him so quickly.  She should have totally healed before she became involved.\n\nIf you do not trust her, then you will always be second guessing her moves and motives for the things she does.  Personally,  I don't see how it can work if you don't trust her.  Without trust you have nothing.\n\nIt doesn't sound as though this is a compatibility issue, but a honesty & trust thing.  Has she cheated on you again since the first time?  If yes, then you need to let her go, cut your losses and move on to the person who is waiting for you to find her. However, so often we prevent ourselves from finding the happiness we deserve or long for because we stay with people we know we shouldn't be with.  In other words, we continue to settle.\n\nSo, let her go and heal from this before you move on.  Seriously.  If you move on too quickly you're just perpetuating the cycle and you will wind up hurting someone who just wanted to love you.
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You should ask her to descibe who the old you was, if it fits who you was then try going back to be that person. It seems like you got a bit shaky since you engage to her. Seems to me that you are worrying about the step you are about to take. Go back to being yourself, and remember do not change when you get married.
345242
if you cant trust her you gotta bounce dude. seriously, if you stay with her your paranoia will eat at you until you drive each other apart, even if she isnt doing anything. chill out about it and trust her, or walk away.
364858
How sad!  But the decision is yours.  EVERYONE deserves a second chance, it's the third chance you have to watch out for.  And perhaps you can take this opportunity, while you can't really see each other, to talk a lot about who you both really are and where you see yourselves going.  Then go, if you want - your life is your decision, and people make mistakes.  I cheated once, and learned my lesson - I understood why I did it, and asked for forgiveness.  I have never done it again.  I know your family is worried, but you have to be honest with yourself - can you forget it and continue to love your fiancee?  If you can, then you have the right to be happy, and to be comfortable and safe.  Screw the rest of 'em.
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you should already be concerned bottom line the only person in life you can really trust is yourself you can only know what your soing not her so if your really having these concerns tell her and go out and have fun she is
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My answer might sound weired but i think that no matter what she tell u, would not make u feel good if u dont trust her, even if she is telling the truth. \n\nBut if u trust her then no matter whatever she says or do u will be happy. \n\nwhat they say "Love is all about trust". \n\nSo what u must do is to look inside ur self. if u trust her then every thing is good if not, then u'll keep finding reasons to dump her. \n\nStart trusting, even if u fail u would not regret it. \n\nWish u a wonderfull and peacefull life :).
499043
I think you better give up that girl..trust is very important in relationship..u can do that..even u love her, there are still another women which deserves u..she doesnt deserve u...
22597
Don't give her another reason to not trust in you and be patient with her you just have done something real bad to her you can't blame her being aftraid to trust in you again - imagine yourself being in her shoes before you say you have lost your patience on her.
220110
Trust has to be earned back.  Believe me, it's not easy when someone you love loses trust in you.  She was hurt that you kept a secret, and I'm sure it hurt you to hurt her.  Just be careful in all you do, be good to her.  If it's the real deal, she'll learn to forgive and all will be well again.
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Hi, I think the only way to really know is to look into your heart and go with what you are feeling.  If you cant trust your partner then maybe you shouldnt be with that person.  I know its hard, but until they give you a reason NOT to trust them, try to trust their word.  Its miserable when you dont trust your partner, so just believe they have been faithful until you find out differently.  You might find that they have been faithful all along.  Good luck to ya, Debi
270871
Ask her! If she is worth marrying you should be able to trust her? Right?!
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Well...it probably has to do with the fact that you are supposed to be in a committed relationship with her and ONLY her, unless of course you two had a before mentioned agreement to having an "open" relationship, but I doubt this is the case...  Put the shoe on the other foot bro, and think how you would feel if the roles were reversed and she was the one cheating on you.  Maybe if you see things through her eyes for a few moments you will be more careful with the way you are treating this poor girl’s emotions and heart.  However, If that doesn't convince you to change your ways, why don't you just do her a favor and cut her loose now to save her any future heartbreak.
1159093
Sounds like she is very insecure and doesn't trust you.  Maybe she isn't really ready to settle down and she is using the past as an excuse.  I would suggest some premarital counseling for the two of you.
881900
Take it easy.  It seems you have been struck by the lightning of love  and struck bad.  But Ricochet is right, true love should be accompanied by trust.  Without trust, love won't proceed further.  You have also to have faith in Someone up there, the Supreme Being up there, whatever you call Him, that HE knows what is best for you  and that HE will be watching over you.   Pray that, this girl would be the real one for you.  If she is meant for you, no matter what you do, she will be there.   So go to sleep soundly,  with that thought. Give her some space and trust her.  Because if you don't it will destroy the relationship.  If she loves you enough , (which I am sure, she does),  she herself, will see to it that she stays faithful.  Good luck.
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You love her,and want to be with her. She was honest with you. It happened 3 yrs ago. She has since proven how strong her love is for you. She made a poor choice. She's not the only one who has ever done so. Stop thinking about it, concentrate on the rest of the months she's shown you the love she has for you. think about 35 mos vs 1 mo. Enjoy your love and lady!!!! God heals the heart, and the hurtful memories fade. Don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. It's easy for someone to say leave when they aren't the one who's going thru it. Listen to your heart and pray. Believe me,she's punishing herself enough for both of you and hurts just as much as you do.
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Trust just like respect is not something that is handed to you in a relationship it is earned.  This is your proving ground now, a second chance in a sense, you earn trust by being trust worthy.  Show her you can be trusted and won't lie again unless you want a nose like Pinocchio!  : ^ )