Help I Dont Have Any Self Esteem!!!!?
455825
I had the same problem when i was growing up.  It didn't help my situation at all that I had two sisters who were gorgeous!!  They totally teased me everyday (I was chubby and wore glasses).  When I turned seventeen, I needed a change of scenery (I had other problems as well), so joined the Army.  After PT and contact lenses, I went home for the holidays.  Everybody kept saying how different I looked, and how pretty I was.  It totally boosted my ego.  I'm not saying join the Army or anything, but maybe you need a scenery change too.  Get away from the people who make you feel insecure.  I guarantee it will change the way you feel about yourself.\n\nYou don't need someone to tell you that you're beautiful, or smart, or anything.  Tell yourself..... it only matters what you think about yourself.
105131
I would suggest counseling. It sounds like you have some deep rooted issues that need to be worked out. This is something more complex than a self esteem problem.\n\nLove yourself, you are beautiful and deserve to be happy!
1168782
make yourself healthy and fit. looking great helps a lot. most of us are visual beings and we alway crave praises with our peers. positive comments is always an esteem booster.
818919
Have you ever heard of self esteem. Well that seems to be what you are lacking. You shouldn't be worried about what's going on around you and what someone else is thinking but what you feel. If you feel your overweight YOU need to do something about it. You need to be better for you to become a better person. AND PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE'S YOU DO NOT NEED A MAN! If anything you need to leave them alone for awhile and do for you. Work on you. From a ladi that's been there. Care about home first then invite someone to visit.
45213
This can be tough, but has a simple solution that is difficult for some to acomplish.  First, you have to force yourself to look at yourself OBJECTIVELY.  No internal reflection at all.  Try to see you for what and who you are....not what you think.\n\nI like the answer regarding responsibility, but it only answered one facet of self esteem.  The next thing you need to do is understand self esteem and what it is.  Self esteem is how you feel about you.  The fact that you are asking this question tells me that you care about yourself enough to try to improve.  That is abmirable and worthy of esteem.\n\nNext, try to identify what may be damaging your self esteem.  Is it really flaws in you, or just people you are surrounded by inventing them?  My experience is it is usually the latter.  Try to spend more time with people that make you feel good and less with the ones that don't.\n\nRemeber, the fact that you care enough to develop and improve, makes you worthy of esteem and respect.\n\nBe Well and I wish you the best.
390185
Build up your self esteem.
342999
You don't. You love yourself and work on becoming the best that you can be. Your confidence,character, and personality will attract others to you. We all have unique gifts that have been given us. Use your gift and let your light shine on all around you.
912110
ooohhh!! you are so cute!!  you look so sad though!!  please, go and talk to someone!!  any one! you can talk to your friends or your mom any one!  you are so cute!  try to get involved in some clubs and stuff so that you meet more people.  Try alot of things and see what you are good at, and do it!!  i have some self-estem issues but when im playing softball i feel....well i feel happy and i feel like im actully good at something.  find something your good at!!  i hope that helps!\n\nbreson32@yahoo.com\n\nthats my e-mail if you ever need to talk!
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It's all about self-confidence, not what others tell you.  Don't think your hot because other people tell you, think it because you know it. (but not too much so, vanity is only good in small doses.)  work your way back into hitting on girls, go to a new bar and find girls that your not "really" interested in, and just try different approaches (don't go in looking for sex, but looking to find out how to be confident in your mannerisms), get comfortable talking to new girls, and then try on someone you actually like, and maybe good things will happen.  Eyes are the key, a woman's eyes will tell you everything.
571806
first you need to find your   SELF esteem  then look
514408
You need to find a way to build your confidence.  No offense, but you don't sound like you have much.  Having low self esteem in the dating world is like smearing cheese whiz all over yourself: rats will be chasing you.  Try to build a fun life for yourself that doesn't depend on having male company.  When men see that you're alone and having fun, and you're NOT needy, they'll want to spend more time with you.  Get a life, and men will want to share it with you.\n\nRemember:  being alone is WAY better than being stuck with a loser!
1113720
Dearie a person does not derive self esteem from what other people think, that's why its called SELF esteem.  Love yourself for more than your looks, whether its your sense of humor or kind heart these are the things that really count.  And as cliche as it might sound how will anyone ever love you if you don't love yourself!
525886
Have faith in yourself - it all starts with your self esteem.  You either have it or you dont, & it sounds like you dont.  You have to work on you self image. Once you've done that & have a good view of yourself, your attractiveness will show through.  You have to care about yourself first, eat right, get enough sleep, exercise.  Put taking care of yourself a top priority.  Keep up with your personal hygiene, wear clean clothes.  Be considerate, kind, compassionate to others. Be honest - this is VERY important because no matter what you do to make yourself look good on the outside, if you are mean, dishonest, & cruel on the inside then you will be unattractive on the outside as well.  \n\nGood Luck!\n\n~from a lady
499248
I used to get that a lot. They'd always make fun of something. Sad thing was they were things I had no control over. Chest size, buck teeth, then braces, my speech inpediment, anything really. I just accepted that I wasn't that great looking and anyone who didn't accept me like that wasn't my friend. Just be yourself. Even if it's stuff you can change. Only change if you want to change... never ever change for any other reason. You have to be comfortable with who you are and love yourself. Hopefully soon, others will come to accept you are who you are.
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Exercise. Do not let people define who you are. Do not use words like a "pig" when referring to yourself, if you do you'll become that pig. Look in the mirror and say "I have beautiful eyes". Build your own self esteem, the world is not going to do it for you, especially when you do not fit in what is consider beautiful. So you have to build up yourself. Walk around with your head held high. Show confidence and believe.
379424
I know where you are coming from. Find something that you are good at, and do it. If you are crap at everything, find something you WANT to be good at, and work your ass off until you are good at it. Being talented has a remarkable way of boosting your self-esteem. My personal suggestions... cooking, music, conversation. You also sound young. I don't mean that in a derogatory way, so please do not be offended. Awkwardness is the natural state of affairs for adolescents. It will pass.
465032
I think the best thing to do is change your whole outlook on your life right away. Admitting that you have low self esteem is the first step. I quick got sick and tired of having low self esteem by 7th grade, I mean whats worse than the feeling that your not good enough, like life is living you, remember you are the one living life and you have the control to do or have whatever you want.  I wanted to be the funny girl in class, I wanted to be the loud kid, and I wanted to be the one people recognized. When you take control of how you approach life, the guys come to you and ask you out! Then you'll never fear rejection again, because the guys should want you not the other way around, your worth too much for that. In any case, get to know him, and if you do know him, ask him out, don't make it the life and death question, if he says no, and you change your self esteem, he'll see what he's missing out on.