Should you follow your heart,Even if it means hurting your family?
459317
When you truly love someone, you understand that sometimes families need each other. My dad only sees my stepmother, Kathy, a couple of times a month for the last 6 months. Her mother is aging and her father is dying of cancer. He is 87 and their is nothing really that any doctor can do for him short of kemo therapy. Kinda stupid to put an 87 year old man with advanced prostate cancer through all that, not to mention the daily 2 hour drive she must drag her mother along with to get to the hospital.  My father says, "I don't know why his doctor even recommended the kemo knowing his condition and what it would mean to Kathy, but I'm not going to take away the only thing she's got to hold on to."\n\nI think that is true love and understanding. How can you come between a family during times of crisis? If he is not willing to compromise I would just say to myself, "I gave it my best but I got to do what I got to do."
302580
you follow your mind what you think is right for you not your family. if you feel its worng then its worng. if you feel it right its right. trust in God  he will drict your path. he want lead you down the wrong road. you have to think who's going to take care of you when you become an adult. think of you goals for your future and do what it take to achive them. but you only in the 10th you also have next year to study if you haven't seen you parent i really belive you should go see them.you can take if information with you to study for sat's that a good idea.
213462
honey let me tell you something ok if you blame yourself stop doing that it ain't your fault ok. let the pain go away and remember the good times you guys had together keep the memories in your heart and never let them go. always see it this way God needed him to be an angel and that is what he is always now he is in a way better place and looking down on you and the family. I am really srry you had to go threw this and my heart goes out to you and your family and you all will be in my prayers as well take care of yourself.
679155
Responsibility shouldn't keep you from being happy. Depending on your native custom, I think you should pursue your own happiness. Do what will make you happy, and keep your family close.
779843
You can pray for whomever you like.  God doesn't bias against anyone.  Although, you shouldn't be praying that you become the right person (It's a little selfish) but that the child and his mother find the right person for them.  If it is you, that's great.  If not, the family is still going to do well.  \nYou may pray that you also find someone to share your life with and whom you can make happy.\nGood luck and God bless!
342952
Nobody with a family should answer this.  You should be compassionate towards the feelings of family members.
132521
Yes, it would mean a lot to the family and also would give you a feeling of closure. You will not regret going. Years ago, children and young people went to funerals as well as weddings regularly. It is a part of life to go and you will gain strength from going.
1047025
Nope. I married someone that loves me and cares for me so deeply. I did love him once, but he killed my love....now that I am married I realized that I hate myself for not following my heart. Its not fair to try to make someone happy and living a fake life that you may not feel. Trust me. I can't get out of it, and each day gets harder and harder.
292878
Depends why you think this is neccessary.  Does your family not like your guy?  Or does your guy not like your family?  You should consider why your family/your guy is asking to give up the other.  If they loved you they should be willing to except your love or your family.
462755
one day when your around your family and she is leaving kiss her good bye on the mouth and go from there if she is who you want to be with dont let your familys opionion affect your decision if they love you they will support you and if they dont dont worry about it
1084860
no if you never hurt any one you are one of the strongest person in the world, not physically but emotionally and spiritually, dont ever give up on doing the right thing, no matter who hurt you
727306
Wow this is one for the books.Don't they realize how they are hurting your children and there very own son.does your husband have brothers & sisters.If he does he should try getting in there good grace.The way they are treating you after loseing your baby I really don't know why you would want anything to do with them.It was their grand child. Good kuck,but I think you should move on with your own family.
1065166
No and No again.  Just because you were once in the family does not mean you have to stay in the family.  Move on.
166963
becuz familys are made to trust that what theyre for! they love you a lot and therefore dont want to hurt you by not being trustworthy. and after having trouble with family you should probably should wait a little before trusting someone with something because in anger people sometimes forget love and not hurting people. ask the family member if you can trust him/her before telling anything and try to make sure they are telling the truth.
261046
respect your mom, but the choice is all yours, just remember what consequences there are
563606
you do not say too much to work with on this. i will say be very careful in your decision making. weigh the pros and cons on this issue before making a decision. If it should hurt your family then that is  the first thing you do not want to do. you never want to cause hurt or shame to them. whatever your cause.... does it come before family values...something you must ask yourself. remember when there is an action there is always a reaction. you must ask yourself what will the reaction be to your gamble.
644166
We as people are easily blind--especially when it comes to something that will hurt us!! We want to believe the best in our partners (or even kids for that matter) if we just think happy thoughts than nothing can be wrong right?? Well this is what people do all the time! They think that if you can't see it isn't really there, it is away of protecting ourselves from getting let down, having a broken heart! No one wants to be hurt or get hurt, but it is away of life something we have to come face to face with eventually! Nothing is ever 50/50 although in marriage it should be--however there are always three sides to every story:HIS, HERS, and the TRUTH!! I am not here to judge-you or anyone-I have no right to that, and I am very sorry for what you are going through, I pray that you will be able to work this out with YOURSELF!! Remember, it is not forgive and forget-us as people never forget, and forgiving is something you have know you have in you, I am not a forgiving person, so he would be out the door for me, however, if you are please consider consoling for the family, not just you and your husband but for the kids to!! Good Luck to you all!!!:)