I am afraid to have an orgasm- HELP!?
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Why are you scared? What is it in particular that scares you about it? Is it that you feel like you won't be in control? Are you afraid that you might embarrass yourself when you have an orgasm in some way?\n\nYou need to work out why you are scared, and work on the underlying cause. All I can suggest is that you try to relax. A glass of wine, a nice bubble bath......try masturbating while you're in the tub and feeling relaxed. Maybe even ignore that fact that you're crying and scared and continue anyway???\n\nHonestly, there is NOTHING to be afraid of. It's such a good feeling, and I feel bad for you that you're missing out on it!! If you're scared of embarrassing yourself, then try doing it on your own, where no-one will see your reaction. If this continues, you may want to consider seeing a sex therapist as someone else has suggested.
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welcome to the world of womanhood, darlin'...you are SO not alone...unless and until you teach him all your own little tricks and then some...and he's good and willing...it'll stay that way.  just be glad you are in tune with yourself enough to experience orgasm easily by any means...some women don't have it that good.  now just teach him to be as good at pleasuring you as you are!
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Just like everyone has a different favorite color, everyone has their own technique that works for them.\n\nYou will have to keep experimenting until you find the thing that works best for you.\n\nSome basic pointers – a vibrator usually helps a LOT – and not thinking about having an orgasm is essential – you can’t force it – keep thinking about whatever your fantasy is and it will happen.
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When you feel yourself coming, stop what you are doing, and don't move until the feeling goes away. Once it does, slowly go back to the motion. Once you feel yourself coming again, stop, and remain still until it goes away. Do this several times, every time you are making love to a woman or masturbating. In fact, you can get in plenty of practice from masturbating. No joke intended.\n\nWhat you are doing is plainly obvious. You are training your body and brain to hold off the orgasm for just a few seconds more. As time goes by, with you training yourself, you will find that you can last up to fifteen minutes of constant thrusting if you want. Although she wouldn't want it, because, again, most women's bodies can't produce enough fluid to keep their vaginas from drying out for that long. So you may not even want to shoot for fifteen minutes. It's not really necessary.\n\nWhen doing this technique with your lover, be in your most favorite position. You may have read from other sources that instruct you to do the opposite, because when you are in your favorite position, it will only make you come faster. Well, you want to be in your favorite position, because you WANT to train your brain and body. Why stay away from your favorite position?!\n\nIf you are VERY sensitive to being inside of a woman, to where you come to orgasm with juts a few minutes, you may want to buy a "Pocket P*ssy." This may sound strange to many of you, but a pocket p*ssy fells almost like the real thing. Using this sex toy to practice with works wonders. Don't laugh. It works.\n\nStart doing this training right now. In just a few weeks, maybe longer, you will find that you can hold your orgasms from happening longer. It's a surprisingly effective technique.
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Sex, like so many other things is talked about more than done.  It is natural to be scared.  There are a lot of emotions involved and you need to have everything straight in your head before you leap into this.  Take your time and be choosey with your partner.  My husband told me once that there are two kinds of girls, the one you play around with and the one you want to take home to meet mama.  You me dear are definitely the latter.
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Dude I had the same problem your having lol\n\nMan I thought I was going crazy \n\nI was like man whats wrong with me I cant have an orgasm\n\nBut then I reallized that in order to have an orgasm\n(this answer is going to light a bulb in your head)\n\nI HAD TO HAVE SEX!!!\n(heh man was I embarrassed)
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Well, if you can buy a "bullet" I would recommend it! They are at adult shops. It vibrates at different speeds. Just slightly rub it on your clit and you'll orgasm in a few minutes! An orgasm can be tricky to tell, but usually you start breathing heavy, maybe shake a lil and your body temp. rises a lil. It just feels like an "explosion" Trust me, you'll know it when you have one!
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You need to establish an orgasm road-map in your brain. If you can get there through m_asturbation, then you are already half-way there.\n\nYou need to have him get you as close as possible, then finish up with m_asturbation. Next time, he'll get a little closer. Keep it up, and before you know it he'll get you there without your needing to m_asturbate at all!
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Oral is usually a sure bet for most women who have trouble climaxing.  You should try having your man use a vibrator on you, or incorporate it into your sex life.  I'm sure he'll do whatever it takes to get you off, because most people love seeing their partner climax as much as they like it themselves.  \nSorry I can't be of more help, I can't really relate too much...I'm very blessed in that department.
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There are actually quite a few women who are not physically capable of having an orgasm.  A physician is the only way to correct the problem.  Outside of that, if you are on certain medications, it CAN cause some of the problem.
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why would you be afraid of a good sex drive. what you need to do is find a woman who shares your passion, and no matter what hey may claim, there are ALOT of healthy young women out there that have a very srong sex drive and feel the same way that you do
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use baby oil, it gives the wildest sensation, try cyber sex, it helps when someone is doing it with u
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This is definitely an issue that you should address with your gynecologist.  You need to be sure that you are speaking with a doctor that is concerned with your issue as well.  Often times, women have to find their nitch (so to speak).  You have to find your best way to obtain an orgasm.  Try experimenting with yourself.  Toys, massaging shower heads, etc...\n\nAlso try visiting a website called www.talksexwithsue.com.\n\nI found that she is very informative and knowledgable about all things that have to do with sex and orgasm.  she also has a show on Oxygen you might want to check out.
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orgasm..thats the key..evidently you have the wrong mate ..if your not getting anything out of it,then dont do it...if your a woman leave them little boys alone and if your a man get an older woman thats efficeint...lol
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Was your rapist caught? Mentally, the trauma that you felt during that event may cause you to react physically. Trauma causes pain.  The brain and the body is interconnected always. What the mind perceives the body will show. That is why you can't have an orgasm whenever you are doing anything sexual. You might put the event at the back of your head, but subconciously it's there lurking.\n\nI think you need to talk to someone who you trust or much better if she's a counselor. Or if you're uncomfortable with one, go to a sex therapist. \n\nWhy didn't you see a doctor? Did you report him? I do hope so.\n\nAnyway, good luck with that.
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Try Ogoplex.  It makes you orgasm harder too.
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I assume you mean climax? sounds like you're trying too hard, theres no need. Just relax and enjoy it and it will happen naturally