What do you do when you're angry or stressed?
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I hold my breath and relax. \nsometimes I punch a pillow and hold my temper.
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There are several things that you can do. There are anger manangement classes and support groups. There is counseling. There is mediitation. There are hobbies such as karate, yoga and tia chi that help that also.Learn ways to reduce the stress and stress management.\n\nI know because my nickname used to be Taz.
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find an activity that relieves the stress, recognize emotional eating and replace it with a healthier habit, find out what is stressing you and do what you can to destress
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Long hot showers, meditation, exercise, screaming into my pillow, just about anything. I have a lot of trouble with patience too. If there are certain people that drive you crazy the first thing is to remember your being upset doesn't do anything to them. Sometimes you just have to let go of things. (Easier said than done!!)\n\nI also find it helpful to talk with someone. Let someone else know how you are feeling. Talk about what is stressing you out. Chances are someone else has gone through a similar event. While they may not be able to help you now, knowing that they survived will help relieve some of your stress.
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Don't sweat the small stuff.  If you do then alot of times it turns into big stuff unneccessarily.\nFor the real anger:\n1) Realize what triggers anger in you - a feeling of inferiority, personal injury or humiliation, not being able to be heard, etc.\n2)  Realize when you begin to get angry - thoughts begin to race, focus is not on what the person is saying or doing anymore but how to get back at them, not listening but instead waiting for your turn to talk, bringing up irrelevant things to the issue at hand, etc.\n3)  Realize when communication has completely broken down - again most of what is in #2.\n4)  Take control of yourself instead of trying to control the situation - don't be afraid to take a time-out and revisit the issue later (this requires an agreement with whoever IN ADVANCE)\n5)  Always respect the other person as you would want to be respected, even if they are not doing the same for you!\n\nAll of these points take work, but practice makes perfect.\nGood luck!  These steps work but you must want to change.
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usually i would back off and let the angry person be angry and get the anger off his or her chest.... whoever it might be coz, a person who is angry usually is too tense to deal with.... after the person cools off then you try to talk and get the problem that the person is facing and try to help or solve it together.... it might be you that caused the anger so you might as well try to not make this person angry again...
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I still have a worry stone from my childhood.  It's quite smooth now.\n\nYou just keep a small stone in your pocket, and rub it when you're worried.  I suppose it's better than chewing your pencil.\n\nTip of the day:  when you're really angry or worked up over something, go out and chop wood.\n\nI don't know the origins of either of these stress reduction techniques, but both were told to me by my father.
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when i get mad, i usually just vent out and that's it... there's no need to get even. i just talk to the person concerned (of course after i have already calmed down) so we can have this straightened out. you don't have to get even, it will make matters worse.
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(m)\n\nWe all know what anger is, and we've all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage. \n\nAnger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. This brochure is meant to help you understand and control anger. \n\nWhat is Anger? \n\nThe Nature of Anger \n\nAnger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage," according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline. \n\nAnger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (Such as a coworker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings. \n\nExpressing Anger \n\nThe instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival. \n\nOn the other hand, we can't physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us; laws, social norms, and common sense place limits on how far our anger can take us. \n\nPeople use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. Being assertive doesn't mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others. \n\nAnger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression. \n\nUnexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren't likely to have many successful relationships. \n\nFinally, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside. \n\nAs Dr. Spielberger notes, "when none of these three techniques work, that's when someone—or something—is going to get hurt." \n\nAnger Management \n\nThe goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you
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Have a candle-lit bath, with bubbles and candles, dim the lights and just soak. It's really relaxing, it may sound kiddish but it really works. After light some candles and insence and settle down on the couch and just take deep breathes and maybe watch some soaps or feel-good movies or chick flicks, not anything too dramatic and violent but something that you like and makes you feel good. Another thing is that you should do what you like! whats your hobby? for example, I love horsebackriding, so I might go on a nice peaceful trail in the woods  for an hour to calm down and realize life is a good thing. Or if your a painter, start painting! you could even make crafts, which actually allows you to express your anger on paper and your work, instead of other people and your mind, self confidence and yourself. Go scream on your pillow! if you just feel like screaming, go right ahead. Thats what I do when I'm frustrated angry and confused. It really helps get the stress out. You could bang stuff around scream and shout and tell everybody to just get away from you. We all understand. Or, what I do is put a favourite CD on and sing along like nobody's listening. It helps alot. Or sometimes I call a friend and we talk for hours, and it keeps your mind off things, or you could go to the mall and shop. Shopping cures anything! lol. Something else is to make yourself beautiful, dress up, do your make-up, paint your nails, it keeps you consuntraited and focussed on one thing at a time. You should also spend time with your family or friends. Family and friends really helps in these situations. You should also call up people your might have angered, and say your sorry and for them to forgive you. It will make you feel alot better and less upset. Hope ive given you some ideas, and i hope this day really turns better for you!
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Well, it's up to you to find out the source of your anger. After you've done that, you should come up with a plan for how to handle the situation that provokes your anger -- like walk away, or think of squirrels like the one in my profile picture. It's really hard to remember this plan when the situation arises, but you have to beat it in there somehow.\n\nPerhaps the source of your anger isn't an event, but just an accumulation of events. If that's the case, take a vacation somewhere. Take some time off alone to relax -- isolate yourself from the things that anger you. Take up a hobby that'll allow you to vent your anger/frustrations. I actually highly recommend you weight-train or take up martial arts/boxing -- it does wonders for us guys, trust me.\n\nAnd lastly, LIGHTEN UP. LET THINGS GO. TURN EVERY BAD SITUATION INTO A COMICAL ONE. Not everything is perfect or goes as planned, so sometimes you just gotta sit and enjoy the ride.
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I managed my stress by joining the army infantry.  \nOn second thought I don't thinki'd call that management.  \nThat's more of a way to vent my anger!!\nI usually just focus myself in think of soming I like or somewhere i'd reather be.  That worked through 14 months in Iraq.
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I have alot of stress, hubby in military gone long periods of time, two kids, big house to clean ,bills...what makes me always feel better is reading the bible, going to church, drinking doesn't help anything just makes you more stressed and upset, just make time for yourself, sit in a peaceful place and take a deep breath and think about the others who have it harder than you, people with sickness, cancer, there's always someone who has it worse...another way is taking a nice long hot bath...or just taking a walk..
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First take a deep breath and count to 10 when you feel anger coming on, secondly try and be positive in your outlook on life....it works wonders.also wear a smile more often as a smile is very infectious . good luck hope you make it.
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Some tips: \n1) When you feel the anger rising inside you... close your eyes (or don't) and breathe in deeply for 5 seconds... hold for 5 seconds... and push out slowly and completely, for 5 seconds.\n\n2) Drink a big glass of cold water; literally cool off... this works.\n\n3) Lay down... it's very difficult to maintain the fight or flight response lying down.\n\nConsider starting a routine each evening before bed where you sit quietly in your room, or lay quietly, with soft music or none, breathe slowly in and out 5 in, hold 5, out 5, and relax each body part one at a time, flex and relax... and visualize that part of yourself you are unhappy with, your temper, disconnecting from your body and head and filling a big red balloon... then let it float high away from you... see it explode, and all the anger just evaporate into the atmosphere.  This is just one of many ways to meditate and release...\n\nAlso consider an Anger Management work shop...
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Kill the person who stress or angered me
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Always remember- when in anger your body works faster than your mind and  ultimately,YOU suffer. there are always other non violent means  to tackle  things. be cool and think out a clean neat solution.This is a bad ugly world (mostly) but you have to live in this world only.