when i broke up with my married BF he just let me go but leaving me words that have insulted & hurt me..Why?
462707
How can you love someone that you know is willing to be unfaithful to his wife?  Most likely he was only using you to fill a void that might not being answered by his wife or he just is a player that got married and you are just another play thing.  Either way bad choice.
370018
That is because you won't let go and live your own life.. you are dwelling on the past and that is a dead end, honey.  You said yourself that he has moved on..you need to just get on with your life.  You can grieve for just so long over a broken relationship, but after a while it just becomes pathetic.  Don't be pathetic.. be strong.. and be happy..  what do you think you are accomplishing by whining and crying over someone who is long gone from your life?  Grow up, dear.. this isn't the last time you will have this problem in your life, I promise.
394767
he must have noticed that he has control over u..or he was just boredddd....and thats a guy that doesnt like long teerm relationshipsss..so next time when u meet a guy ask huim whats his longest relationship!!! and also hes immature if this is the reason..but u did an awesome job at dumping him!! i bet u he was hurt about it, cuz he had no idea it was coming..and now he learned a lesson probbablyyyy he wont do that again!!! and im soorrriii u had to waste ur time with a total jerk like that!
553394
Take this as a learning lesson.  I did the same thing and I know how it feels.  Just remember everything happens for a reason.  You hurt his feelings so let him have some space to figure things out.
525300
NO ARE YOU KIDDING, HE OBVIOUSLY KNOWS HE HAS A HOLD OVER YOU. AND APPARENTLY GIVES YOU NO RESPECT, YOU NEED TO MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU NEED TO BE TREATED.
65736
Communication is so totally the cornerstone to a relationship....I mean...a *good* relationship.\n\nI've been on both ends of this; fed up and worn out from not getting along and all the tension.....and on the other end....to just be with a cold-hearted woman. It hurts both ways, but for different reasons.\n\nThe communication that I was referring to could be.......maybe your 'ex' is just not in tune to you and what you feel, and when you feel it. That may or may not be his fault. Meaning.....he could either be emotionally barren (his fault), or you could give him unclear, conflicting messages (not his fault). But anyway, he may not really know you are at that level of sadness *until* you cry. Up to this point he may think you are being mean or cold to him, to which he responds to you in kind.....not understanding what's going on in your mind or heart. When guys get angry....I'm *kind of* like this too (to a degree)....we like to blow up, be left alone, and then later.....we're cool,\n\nHe may have interpreted your reaching for him as 'tenderness' when he wasn't in the mood for tenderness. He may have felt frustrated by the sentiment change....arguing one minute and then a display of love the next.\n\nI'm not discounting the fact that....he could just be a flaming jackass.\n\nWhen it was blatantly obvious he had hurt you tho, maybe the nice feelings he actually does have for you were touched and he wanted to offer compassion.\n\nI doubt his feelings are fake. Communication of feelings and thoughts are so important. To learn and understand how someone shows their love, and then accept that as it is given instead of trying to change them to give it the way we want it. People have to talk honestly, not laboriously, but to just talk....have fun, and pay attention and really learn who each other is as a person and how they communicate.\n\nSometimes it *is* best to go separate ways, and if that happens to you, I'm sorry for you both, but that means the person you (both) are meant to be with is still out there somewhere.   :)\n\nEither way I wish you both luck. Relationships are a tough gig.
442042
Just because he's your ex doesn't give any reason for you to not be hurt or be concerned. Have you tried talking or consoling him yet? Maybe all differences should be set aside for a moment and you try to help. I mean you were married so at some point you guys loved each other. Im sure there were times when he was there for you and you him , maybe you know him well enough that you can help him deal now, u kno? Good Luck
293081
I married the perfect guy, but I still feel something for the man I was suposed to marry. I've contact him after 11 yrs and he is still mad at me, besides we have an ocean between us, and I dont want to leave my hubby! wilmary69@yahoo.com
306912
are you sure that you are married? i mean having a relationship w/out communication is worst than being divorced. My dear, if the situation is too stressfull for you try going out with ur friends and try to plan a trip into the beauty saloon.....make yourself beautiful and let ur husband remember that he chose you to be his bride a long time ago
795847
wow!!! what a drama!!! baby girl, when he open up to his true emotion, he expects for you say the same and pour out your feeling also. but in this case, you didn't act the way he expected you to. so, this had scarred him. here is the deal, he wants you talk to him in the comforting to his shattered heart. this will take time to rekindle the flame. let him have some space, but be there for him.
406642
He has lowered his standards because he has lost a woman of your caliber. He knows he can't hold on to a woman as good as you. Maybe he will see the error of his ways and come crawling back and it will be your turn to make him feel bad. He is still trying to hurt you and he needed a comparison between you and his new bimbo. You are better than that and you know it. So does he. Stay strong lady. There is someone out there who will treat you right and love you for who and what you are. You don't need him and the pain he causes.
1157741
I have done this before. Sometimes you can say something out of pain and anger and not choose your words wisely before speaking and you can speak pain into them and into your marriage and as soon as you say it you can see that pain on their face. Sad part is you cannot take words back once you say them . Just apologize and try to never do that again and next time think before you speak!
491210
he probably meant exactly what he said, you took your husband for everything and that makes him cautious about being in the same situation. if its true what can you really say about it and how can you be hurt over it? the facts are the facts and honestly anyone would tell him he's a fool to ignore your behavior in the past and not be careful, wouldn't you if it was a friend asking for advice? And think about it you love him now and everything is fine, if you ended up in a divorce situation that wouldn't be the case and the best  predictor of future behavior is what you've done in the past. i'm sorry he hurt your feelings but they are the facts of your life and you should respect him for that unless you are looking for a sucker and not a life partner.
662836
Get over him. He obviously has no respect for women or himself. He strung you along while he was out looking for something more convenient. Now he's with a married woman, he does not want a commitment.
105171
I think he was just trying to dump you easily. Though it sounds mean for him doing it, he was trying to be nice and blame hisself and not you for him wanting to break up. As for why he wanted to break up, I wouldn't worry about it because atleast you know it's over and you can find someone now that wants your love.\n   Good Luck.
485763
that's kind of hard, he might still b upset with u 4 leaving him, my advice spend some time with him and c how he acts, if the vibe is good then try flirting with him a lil, but i think the best thing 2 do is let him know how u feel, tell him your sorry 4 what happened and that u were going through a ruff period.
165753
Because he's a jerk, just like my ex! If he's doing it now, he'll never change! I lived through that for 12 years before I got the courage to finally cut my losses. (We were married for 4 1/2 years, and was together for another 8 years after that..if you want to call it "together") I'm better off now, because I have a very loving husband who would go to the ends of the earth for me!