What should you do if your wife wants kids and you don't? Is divorce the best answer?
469619
I guess if you both feel so strongly that you have nothing else in common after that and don't want to try to stay together for any other reasons then it might be a good idea to go seperate ways.
462749
First of all, I would ask if you have kept your committment to the terms of the divorce. If there are some specifics, then you could probably answer your own question.\nSecondly, just let her know you've moved on and if there are kids involved, plz consider them.
780634
I think that if a marriage is miserable and efforts to make it better have failed, a divorce is the right thing to do. So that's a yes from me I guess.\n\nI'm happily married though, so as for my own marriage, I'd say no.
650863
My parents waited for 5 years before having kids, which I think was a good idea. If you get divorced in 3 years, there are no kids mixed up in it. Plus, you'll never have much private time with your spouse until the kids grow up and move out.
347789
My advice is to sit down and talk with your wife. Find out why she left you and try to resolve the problem. If you do get it resolved, your kids will listen to you and your wife. If it doesn't, talk to your kids. Find out why they went to stay with your wife and inlaws. Agian, try to resolve the problems. If those problems can't be resolved peacefully with your wife, get a lawyer so you can have time with your kids too. It's not fair to you to  have to sit and miss your kids who you love while your wife gets to see them all the time. You should both have equal rights to see them.
946798
After 30, it is best healthwise to avoid having children (I don't care what the quack doctors tell you). Why does he want more?? Addition of children taxes the family budget and time. It is your body, and you have the right to not want this. Motherhood is an acquired taste, and it sounds like you have had enough of it (at least the pregnancy, diapers, loss of sleep, etc..) Is your husband willing to bear a part of that load - if not, this should be no contest. If he is willing to follow through with needed help, then it is up to you since you will be in misery for about 9 months. Either way, you both need to want this because negative effects will come if you don't buy into it. Be truthful when you talk to your husband, but be firm about your stand. He may deep down want a son of his own blood, but that is not a good enough reason to tax the family, and there is no guarantee of the sex of a child. My wife and I tried three times to have a daughter, but we ended up with three sons (I do have a precious granddaughter now). Anyway, good luck on resolving the standoff.
970186
I have a good friend who has also been married for 2 years. Her and her husband do not have kids and she does not feel the need to explain why. You don't have to give an explanation because no one is owed one. Why you don't have children is between you and your hubby. The next time someone asks why you don't have kids, tell them that you are waiting, or that you aren't ready and switch the subject.
383925
It's unfortunate that there is a third person involved because he is going to blind her and confuse her thinking.  You really need to remind her to think about the children.  This person she is seeing is not going to take her serious with two children; I just can't see that happen.  Definately discuss this issue with her as well.  She is being extremely selfish; I don't know what led you to seperate but either she wants a divorce or she doesn't.  Talking to another person is a terrible idea if she wants to make things work out with you and you have to put your foot down and asap.  Best of luck to you!! OMG!
1122847
Why, so you can stay married to someone that wants a divorce?  Strange, strange, strange world we live in.  You should file and set the hearings and if she doesn't show up, you get everything.
716862
If your really this un happy why don't you just get a divorce... It's not fair to your wife and it's fair to you... I think it's time to call it quits and be single for a while...
663444
Divorce can be the solution \nbut are u sure that u don't love u husband and  do u have children ?... because children will suffer in all that
108648
You don't have a lot of options. If child support is not a problem for you, then I don't see what it is that you're trying to decide here. You'll have to support both your children.\nAs to your relationships.. end one of them. Stay with the one you truly love, or the closest thing to it :)\n\nDoes your girlfriend know you're married? If she does then she's not going to dump you if you pick her. \nYour wife is a different story. \n\nYou're right, this is common.\n\nGood luck to you.
814623
Perhaps be grateful for the child you have and respect that he is honest enough to say he doesn't want anymore and start planning the rest of your life together.\n\nI don't want to discount your desires.  However, what does this say about your comittment if you are considering leaving because you are not getting your way.\n\nIn some respects, it sounds like he already has another child, and she is threatening to leave if she doesn't get his way.\n\nYou've got to either find a way to convince him to be enthusiastic about having another child, or he has to find a way to convince you to be enthuisatic about keeping the family size just as it is.\n\nWork on that, and leave the childish thoughts about leaving to the kids.
960429
Most people would say dont stay because of the child, but I disagree. I love children, I think they deserve both a mother and a father in their lives and lets face it. Most men dont see their children that often when you are separated. I'm not assuming this, i'm speaking from experience. She has no job, or money, if she would leave now it would be selfish of her for not putting the childs needs before their own. If she feels very strongly about it, then i suggest she get it together so she can make it on her own, but until then, she should stay put and try and communicate with her mate to make it better. Communication is the key here.
239017
If you don't feel you are ready then don't. Becuase if you aren't happy about the situation now, you won't be happy in the marriage. Do what you think is best--don't let anyone tell you that you have to marry someone just because they want you to.\n\nI am having this problem with my future mother in law about children. She thinks I should have kids becuase she did, my parents did etc. She also wants grandchildren. If she wants them so badly, then she can go and adopt them. It's my body, my decision, and if I want kids, then I will have them. Not because someone else said so, or because that is what they want.\n\nYou are in control of yourself--just because they are pressuring you, don't cave. Be strong and listen to your heart! People got on my back about getting married several years ago, and I finally yelled at them and told them to quit asking--it will happen when it does. A couple years later, we were engaged, but not because they said so. We did it when we were ready. That is what you should do too.\n\nDo it when you are ready.
201169
Why would you want to? Do you love your kids? Then you need to fight for them. If you truely have no interest in them anymore (that sounds horrible), then you can sign away your parental rights to the kids. \n\nAs to the child support issue, your ex-wife would need to sign a document saying that she waives her right to child support. However, this is not money for her, it's money for your kids. I would think long and hard about screwing your kids before you do that.
176369
As a husband, I would suggest you re-evaluate why you think you want a wife and why you think you can just "go" and get one.\n\nIt doesn't work that way.  If you want the marriage to work, you need to love, cherish, respect the other person and they you.\n\nThat isn't something that you can just go out and decide to get.