How do you keep a long distance relationship alive?
458014
I managed to keep a ralationship alive between Australia and uk via email, letters and phone calls, (\nOver the space of 3 months i spent the equivalent of $2000 US dollars on phone calls) .....I won't lie, it is Bl**dy hard work, bot worth it. I've now been very very happily married to that person for 2 years.\n\nYou have to be honest and open in any conversation, and you have to tell each other EVERYTHING!!!!! ( and I mean everything, bad things too!)\n\nIf it's right you'll know within weeks of being apart. If he's worth fighting and suffering for, give it everything.  \n\nI guess if you are just leaving school you are still in your teens, i'm in my mid 30's, there's a huge world out there to discover, live for now, enjoy yourself and follow your heart!\n\nGood Luck
786022
Actually, I know about long distance relationships all too well. They can work as long as the communication stays very strong and there is a bond between you. Eventually, you're going to have to work on getting the distance fixed, but as long as your connection stays strong, it'll be just fine.
152238
I have had a few long distance relationships... \n\nThey all lasted pretty long and ended by my choice not his.\n\nI would keep it going my always doing something thoughtful.  The best ways is to listen to what he needs.\n\nOnce I knew his watch broke, I bought him a new watch, and then to make it extra special I had the back engraved with "Thinking of you every second".\n\nI felt that the most impressive things I did were based off of things that he mentioned, or said he liked in passing.  Listen to the little things and work from there.\n\nSending flowers is nice- but how about sending flowers after he said he had a bad day, and then in the card wishing him a better day than the one before.... that has such a bigger impact!
414475
of course it can work. it just depends on the commitment and love and trust, just like any in-person relationship. in a way, the long-distance has the benefit of not having to deal with the daily in-person details that sometimes weight relationships down.\n\nmy husband and i maintained a long-distance relationship for more than two years before our situations allowed us to be together.\n\ntalk about it.
723536
I say keep in touch as much as you can, try both buying webcams to chat and see each other over the internet, that way you can at least see each other, and if it is meant to be, then a year should be no biggie, but definitely keep in touch with him and let him know you exist and are around to be there for him, even though miles apart!
893083
Long distance relationships are hard to maintain. I don't think there is a specific length of time you should wait because I don't believe you should wait at all. It sounds like you need to just live your life and not count on this fellow being "the one." Like my Ma used to say-"there are a lot of fish in the sea". If it is meant to work out things will progress but why not get to know someone who lives close. There is a lot to say for building a relationship based on spending time together doing things not just talking or e-mailing each other. LOL
700014
A relationship is what you put into it.  If you put great things in, you will receive great things.  Long distance relationships can work if you are willing to work on it.  You have to set boundaries and rules that each of you must abide by.  Also, try not to go out to bars and things a lot while you are away from your significant other.  This can lead to unnecessary arguments and fights, and it's really not worth it.  Lastly, you have to MAKE time for each other.  Phone calls, letters, weekend trips, all of these things will really make a difference.  It's a give and take thing.  Good luck!
852086
Long distance relationship hardly works.
1158565
I was in a long distance relationship for more than two years - we lived an hour apart - & at first we talked all day too & were together whenever we could be - but the last 9 months or so he stopped callin - it tapered off to once a day, then only once a week & we didn't spend so much time together - well, he ended the relationship a month ago with no explanation, just an e-mail. \nSo it sounds like even tho ya'll love each other, you are starting to drift as we did - it happens & it's hard to keep it from going south unless one of you can change to spend more time together. I was the only one making the effort there, too, for a long time - I drove to see him, never the other way around. I don't know - you may have to let this one go & move along. It bites, I know. Good luck.
1042818
Make the time that you do spend together special by making sure its quality time. Dont spend it watching TV. Instead talk and go out and do things together. Believe that you will end up seeing each other every day eventually and use that belief to keep your relationship goin forward.
1052855
I can't say for another country, but I have been in a long term relationship that started out with us living in two different provinces for 2 years...:) \n\nIn the end we both moved in together, and have been happy together ever since...:)\n\nI think that love is something you can't control...when it hits you, you just know and whatever the distance, you still love them.\n\n\nAlso, in today's advancements in communication technology, distance is what you make it...Webcams, IM & unlimited long distance plans make the kilometers just seem trivial...Especially since there are people who live in the same house and can go days without seeing each other for more than a few minutes at a time.
282287
Keep the communication lines open.  I know it's difficult maintaining a long distance relationship.  My first long distance relationship didn't work.  My second one did.  I married the second one and 3 years later, we're still very much in love and happy.  Don't forget to pray.  Put God first in your lives.  The rest will follow.  God Bless!  I hope your relationship will last forever.
433912
Well, i do not belive in long distance relationships.However, i do have these kind of relationships. My bf lives in another country. I might tell taht it depends on the person, and his feelings, and his values. But still time kills any feelings.. But u know do not be upset anywayz. And deffinetly do not feel depressed, and try not to listen to anyone, bc everyone will tell you that long distance relationships can't exist. Just  enjoy the moments you have now, do not be upset at him. and even thou if you will decide to separate, (hopefuly you will not)do not feel upset. That's just life, you got to enjoyo the moments, and i'm sure you had realy nice moments together. Do not listen to anyone. Just  stay calm, enjoy urself and ur relationships.. Ciao
57969
it depends on how both of you feel, and if you really want to make it work it will work. my bf and i have a more than 3 year relationship now, the first 8 months was together in college, the rest was spent in diff continents. i go home to vacation every year to see him. im sure how i feel about him and he says he's sure and i believe him though somethimes i get paranoid and i grill him with questions and sometimes he is patient sometimes he gets irritated. communication is very important. we try to talk everyday even if it's just to say hello. trust each other, if you don't trust each other there's no use having the long distance relationship. don't hold back each other in terms of friendships, your goals, etc. in my case if i'm excited happy sad angry ... he's the person i always want to "report" to. we're each other's "go-to" person even if it's just on the phone. i told him that in case someone new comes along i asked him to just tell me right away and i'm hoping if it ever happens he'll care enough and just be honest. long distance relationships are not easy but if you feel that it's what you want and your bf feels the same way then it will be worth the time and effort. i hope i've been some of help.
1051540
I don't think that you can expect to "keep" your relationship in the exact same state that it is in now. Your relationship wil undergo changes being that you and your boyfriend will not be seeing each other as much. You will also be meeting tons of new people and experiencing things in life that you never have before.\nThe key to keeping your relationship healthy is communication. The more you share your feeling with your bf the better things will be between you. This way everyone is on the same page.\nRemember that you have your whole life ahead of you and that you may discover while you are away from your boyfriend that perhaps your relationship isn't what you though it was or maybe that all your needs aren't being met. So remember to keep an open heart and mind... this along with constant open communication between you two should give you the best chance if it is meant to be.
550422
You think a 3 hour drive is a long distance relationship? Try being 10,000+ miles apart... My finacee' is in Hanoi, Vietnam while I'm here in California. \n\nIt is VERY tough to have a long distance relationship. It requires tremendous amount of commitment to each other. You are your girl will be tested every day on how strong your bond is. \n\nThere's an old saying that basically says to let her go and see if she comes back to you. That should be the first thing you do to see if your long distance relationship will work. \n\nGood luck to you!
412635
Write a list of all the pro's and the Con's,and decide if you can do this long distance thing! It's not for everyone!!! It can be hard when you feel lonely,ect..... If it hurts you more being in the relationship than not,then get out of it.