does my friend get picked on?
468320
Just talk to him and tell him to start standing up for himself. All it takes is a little courage and strength. Tell the bullies to back off and give him some room to breath. believe it or not if he never stands up for himself he will continue to keep getting bullied. people tend to pick on those who they know wont do anything or say anything back to them, but when they defend themselves the bullying will eventually stop.
34742
What you've come up against is a basic example of insecurity. People will make fun of you in order to pump themselves up. At least they think that by making someone feel inferior that they will somehow feel a bit more superior. However, does this actually work? No.....why? Because they are still insecure and no amount of bullying will solve the deeper issues they carry. So they will then try to be your friend feeling that a close friendship will make them feel better about themself and will fill a void they have in their life. Even as they say they are your friend, you must be careful. I always worry if they are creating a friendship for the wrong reasons. For themself? or in order to be a good friend. If they still ignore your attributes and make you feel that you are less than who you are (in other words cut you down or don't recognize your beauty) I would question the sincerity of their friendship. \n\nBut always remember, this is an issue they suffer from. It is not because of you. However, if you indeed want to be a wonderful friend, confront them with their behavior and help them with their insecurity. Pump them up by explaining what talents and attributes they have. Show them how it feels to hear such news from a friend and perhaps they will then begin to extend the same favor. I wish you luck!!
497008
Mind your own business and let your friend handle it.  If she or he needs your help, they'll ask.  Then you have all rights to kick that persons *ss for messing with your friend.
558912
Ok. If they are one of you're friends, someone you are around alot, then he will probably try to talk to you or stay around you alot UNLESS he is shy. If he is not in your 'group' at school, then you will hear from other people and sometimes, you can tell 'cause he will sometimes end up staring at you. Good luck.\n\nP.S. I'm 14, it is true for me.
647241
I am getting on in my years, now, but there is one incident from first grade that I will never forget. I made a joke about a Greek kid's big nose, and all the other kids laughed. So I followed that up with a few more, and they laughed. I said things that were just plain mean, and they laughed some more. I could feel the other kids start to gather and stand behind me. I know some of the things I said weren't even funny, and I think that people join in for many subconscious reasons. Partly they want to be part of a group. They also want to separate themselves from the person being made fun of. Maybe they are scared that someone will make fun of them, if they don't join in. But for whatever reason, there are always going to be people that like the bullies!\n      Anyways, this was my first and only experience as a bully, or feeling popular, for that matter. Later that day I shared some candy with the kid and said I was sorry.\nI have always since then been more than a bit sympathetic to the underdogs, but I can see why someone would turn over to the "dark side." It can be a way to get instant popularity and a feeling of power. Look what it did for Hitler.
696330
Being one who was really really picked on for all of elementary, junior high and high school I know all about this kind of crap! Number one, remember this. Nobody call tell you anything unless you let them. You ARE good at the trumpet! You already know that! Secondly, EVERYONE is beautiful. YOU have to decide that's true and not listen to anyone else. \n     Now about Jamie, this boy is hurting. Hurt people hurt other people. When you have a toothache you aren't all nice and sweet. No, you are hurting! So you act like it. Well, emotional pain is the same. Jamie is hurting in some way. \n     I am not suggesting that you try to find out why, I'm just giving you a reason for why he says these things to you. He's probably picking on you especially because 1.) he likes you, 2.) he's jealous of you because you're happy and he's not, 3.) he doesn't know how to be your friend any better than this. \n     My suggestion to deal with this boy is to be confident about who you are and to ignore him. If he keeps it up then fight back! I don't mean argue, but find out why he is hurting and call him on it.  That FOR SURE will stop him.
564580
no as long as you don't do it to be mean, my friends nice knows when i am around if she puts here feet in my reach they will get tickled.  yet she still dose it and laffs she tries to be sneaky about it she thinks its funny, but i know as a child i hatted being tickled.  It all depends on the kid
219792
Depending on the atmosphere and administration at your school, there's a good chance the counselor, vice principal, or principal can "do something" about the harrassment thing.  She (or one of her friends) should just tell the truth, and shouldn't be afraid to go back to the counselor or principal if it continues.  Nobody should have to put up with that.\n\nFrom the perspective of the person being picked on, if this person shows they are hurt or can't face the people picking on her, the jerks will keep being jerks.  But if she can turn straight to them, look them square in the eye, and calmly say "go pick on somebody else", and then calmly walk away - it should help.\n\nAs for talking to her... that's easy.  She should be just like talking to anyone else.  I'll guarantee she just wants to have a normal conversation with a normal person.  The guy just says hi, and talks about whatever he wants to.  Just like getting to know anybody else, the first conversation doesn't have to be any more than a couple seconds.
655963
Maybe your friend just goes in and out of different moods, like most of us do.  As long as she's nice MOST of the time, and as long as her acting funny isn't being mean to you, then I'd still be her friend.
871615
Its nice to have a concerned friend but if she perceives your concern as bullying you will acheive nothing.  Losing weight is a very personal decision and she will not do it until she is ready to...;
898651
you have to do something to get his attention. But make sure your friend doesn't like him first!
384177
well, it depends on a lot of other things.  Since I know so little about you it's hard to say. They may very well be teasing you because of how you dress, that's pretty common, but there could be other factors as well. Most people get teased at some point during school regardless of what click they are a part of, but if you are in a click that is considered deviant you are more likely to get picked on frequently.  It's part of human nature to an extent to attack anything different.  When I was in high school I remember the goths and other "counter culture" types would always bad mouth the jock, and cheerleader types, the so called "popular" kids and vice versa.  Once you get out of high school you will probably encounter being teased rarely if at all.  The best way to deal with getting teased is to just not take it seriously, but of course that's easier said than done.
28282
True friends dont judge.  They may give opinions that may not be just like yours but they will never judge you.  They will support you as well.  Just be honest w/ them as you would want them to be w/ you.
642500
You should give her the opportunity to know how you feel and what is going to happen if she doesn't change the way she is behaving.  She is probably in actuality a very insecure girl that feels that she needs to put others down.  Tell her that a friend doesn't act that way, and that just as you would for her, you are defending your friends and their feelings...that is what friends do.
360800
u know im going thru the same...some people find me better looking, others find her better but we both as well have the same personalities and still she gets much more attention than i do...u know something, if she is competitive with you, she could be harmful even in the slightest way like i feel my friend brings harm to me by making my self confidence and self esteem go lower since she gets all the attention and i dont when im with her...but lately, i have tried keeping some space from her, even though i love spending time with her, i feel its always best to giv yourself some quality time...go shopping alone at times and ull get all the attention..it will definitely boost your confidence which is beautiful...in short...spend a little less time with her and you will see how it will work for u.. \n\nworking really well for me...
383679
True friends don't do that. You should tell her to stop and\nstop being her friend if she keeps it up. It's nothing more than a form of emotional abuse and you shouldn't let her do it.
1148407
He is your brother, everything else doesn't matter. Where is he being picked? Can you report that behavior to some one on authority? Bee careful, people who act that way are generally cowards and capable of doing anything. Specially if they are in a group. Good luck.