Why do i cry when i see pain, like mentally ill kids and when i go to church i feel shy to cry in front ofthem
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You just don't like to make a spectacle of yourself, and that is an admiring attribute.  \n\nYou simply like to cry on your own terms and in your own place, not publicly.  \n\nNow for me, sometimes I can't control the tears...watching a "chick flick" or a really inspiring church service...and that's okay too.
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A lot of people, especially a lot of pre-teens, feel this way sometimes.  Maybe you could talk to a counselor at school, and see what she or he suggest?  They may suggest that it would be a good idea to speak to a counselor or therapist for a while.  You would have an opportunity to talk about why you cry and what makes you feel bad, and they will be able to suggest things you can do to feel better.  If you feel comfortable, you could ALSO talk to your sister or mom, or someone else you trust, about how you feel.  Feel better!
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Well it certainly looks like you've had some less than sensitive answers so far, but don't lose hope. There are people with hearts out there, I promise! In my own life I have suffered personal misfortune in many ways. My best advise is to allow yourself time to grieve. It is normal and denying it will only prolong the process of healing. Then you must go on. You cannot allow any misfortune to destroy you. Sometimes it takes a long time to come to terms with what has happened to you, especially if it was completely out of your control and you are suffering in your faith because of it. Shaken faith is difficult but not impossible to overcome. Fear takes a long time to overcome, as well. When I lost my church several years ago due to some indiscretions by the pastor, and at the same time dealing with my small child suffering from childhood cancer, I thought I would never be the same again. I thought I would never be happy, or not be afraid, or trust people again. Still, the human spirit is resilient beyond all reason! Thank God! We all must go on, and find strength in ourselves to defeat the miseries caused by misfortunes that befall us throughout our lives here on earth, but only if we allow ourselves time to grieve our very real losses and accept the support of our friends and family as we come to terms with how our lives have changed because of the misfortune. Life might not ever be the same, but it can still be good. We can get to a place where we can be grateful for small things and good, caring people, and smile at a beautiful sunset again. I promise. Hang in there and don't let others discourage you.
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It is very common for people to feel guilty for asking for help. Many people feel like they are just trying to 'act sick for attention' or whatever.  I believe that you want help and think you need it. You are not acting and not just seeking attention even if that is what part of you might be whispering.  I don't know you, but it sounds like you are having a very awful time right now and I really do believe that you are of great importance to those around you even if that doesn't remotely seem true.  Heck, I happy to even have you here to be typing to you.  Death is just too final.  You are taking antidepressants so perhaps these feelings of suicide are coming from the mood disorder you are suffering from.  It is nothing to be ashamed of! many many people suffer from things like this.  Believe me that it can and will get better! This is just one phase of your life and you have so much more joy to confront as you continue to move through life.  Seek help.  Call up a help hotline, they can be very helpful.\n\nHelp is out there.  I hope i have done a bit to help you. It is not much, but I don't want you to keep the world from having someone as special as you.\n\nAlso, I don't know how old you are, but younger adolescents sometimes react poorly to antidepressants and it can make them suicidal.  Call up your doctor.  Find the number and just call him yourself if you don't think your mom will help.  This may or may not be the case, but something to ask your doctor about.\n\nI will hope and pray that you will come to know how much of a joy you are to the world and that you will get past this and find out that this was a rough patch.... very rough.. but has passed.  It will pass. Find help and believe you can get past this.
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I am extremely sorry to hear your story and you have my hearfelt sympathy.  I can only imagine the deep pain of hurting you must go through everyday.  I really feel for you and I hear and support what you are saying about paying more attention to your kids and looking out for any early 'warning signs'.  I can't really advise you on anything you're asking for but I just wanted to write and wish you well, may God help you in whatever you do.
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i understand where you are coming from i have experienced this and it got to the point of becoming suicidal i reached out for help whether i felt i needed it or not and now looking back on things i regretted doing it because it tears a relationships apart and you are scared for life. if anything seek help and help yourself through counseling and partial hospitalization because you are not alone and there are people to help professionally and if you feel uncomfortable with help seek a minister in a church they can also help but counseling is the best way because the are more open to receive your thoughts emotions and can help you with medications and can do tests to help. they also understand your hurt frustrations anger and no one has to know it is kept between you and them and in the long run reaching out in this manner you may find a friend and a support to help you through and gain back your respect and love that you may feel that is gone
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It is good to cry.  You release natural endorphins that help dull emotional and physical pain.  \n\nBut that's not the whole reason it's good.  The reason it's good to cry is because it means that you are in touch with your emotions enough to know that you are sad and that you are allowing yourself the freedom to express your feelings.  There are a lot of people out there who CAN'T cry.  \n\nIt sounds like something hurt you very deeply and you just need some time to heal.  If the crying or need to cry lasts longer than 2 weeks, then maybe talk to someone about it - you might have depression.  (It's very common and there are a lot of ways to cope with it and treat it.)  Also, if the feelings turn into hopelessness and you start having thoughts of suicide, make sure you go to the emergency room right away.  \n\nI'm sorry that you're feeling badly, but I know that there's a light at the end of the tunnel - even if you have to dig yourself out a little.\nGood luck!
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Please go and talk with someone, this feeling will pass believe me iv'e been there myself, please don't do anything to hurt yourself, there are people that love you.
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Look at some charity websites and see if there are any causes that stir your sympathies, such as ones where a tiny amount of cash would make children safer and happier (as an example, see water aid link, a charity that digs wells so that women and girls in Africa don't have to spend up to 5 hours a day fetching disease-ridden water).\n\nIf you're feeling depressed and unemotional, it can be because you have problems in your life that you think are insoluble. Its really difficult to get motivated when you think a problem is impossible to solve. Often, solving a small problem or two lifts your mood.\n\nChat to people in your everyday life or online and pay attention to your words. Emphasise emotional, emphatic words like 'really', as in 'I REALLY like italian food' or 'I would LOVE TO visit mexico'. Think if the things you are passionate about. Which celebraties of the opposite sex do you wish you could meet? Are you a keen supporter of a sports team?\n\nFor most problems that you face (such as unemployment, relationship problems, berievement, addications, mental health problems, dealing with memories of bad things in your past, etc), you're not the first person to suffer it, thousands of people have had the same problem and know some good solutions. Ask questions on here about specific problems, search previous answers or google for articles.\n\n'Count your blessings' is a bit cliched, but some things to be grateful for are :-\n\nYou live in one of the richest countries on earth, you have friends and family, food, water, shelter, education, free-speech, freedom to travel, freedom to choose your own friends, free information on the net on anything you like, access to helpful people online, etc. Add you own things to this list.\n\nAs well as medication, cognitive therapy might help, a talking cure with a therapist. If you can't afford a therapist, you can still read everything you can find on the subject on the net or in books.\n\nIts to do with correcting errors in your chain of reasoning that leads you to assess situations in the most pesimistic way possible, as if you were seeing the world not as it is, but through a permanent 'gloom filter'. Often we react emotionally not to the real 100% true situation, but to what we think is true or to the meaning we attach to events (because of unhappy memories or fears) instead of the true situation.\n\nFor example, you might get tearful if you thought something someone did meant that they didn't care about you or love you any more, such as forgetting a wedding anniversary. Your reaction is to what you think it means. If you actually ask the person what was meant, you may find they didn't mean that at all, they still love you but just forgot the anniversary. Check your facts before getting upset and do it as soon as possible, don't get depressed for days then find out later you misread the situation.\n\nYour emotional reaction isn't completely irrational. It would be rational if the real situation was that the person didn't love you. Its just that this isn't the real case. The reaility is that the other person just forgot the date. You were reacting to the meaning you attached to the forgotten anniversary (withdrawal of love), not to the real situation or meaning which the other person could have explained (a forgotten date).\n\nSimilarly you may get depressed because you attach the meaning 'I am useless' to being unemployed, when all it really means is 'I don't have a job at the moment, but I might get another one later'. Cognitive therapy can show you how to fix this false reasoning for yourself whenever it occurs. A lot of the work is done by writing down your chain of reasoning on paper, identifying any false reasoning or conclusions and replacing them with more realistic conclusions.\n\nA mis-read situation can be something as simple as someone walking by without saying hi, making you
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It could be a big lack of fulfillment of your needs, feeling worthless, or very disappointed, perhaps someone did something to you and you haven't been able to come to terms with it and give closure to a situation. \n\nAsk yourself what it is, who made you feel so bad? There could be depression, a lack of assurance and feeling less, you'll have to take control of this and these deadly emotions. You have certain issues that if you search deep inside you'll be able to deal with it.
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You sound like you suffer from PTSD or post traumatic stress disorder, relating to growing up either in a dysfunctional family or exposed to a lot of abuse. I recognize this from a professional stand point & a personal one.\n\nI know EXACTLY what you mean about feeling guilty for existing. Do you often put yourself down, mentally? Like when you do or say something that you later thought was bad, etc then suddenly find yourself saying in your head, "OMG, you're so stupid ____!" This has to do w/what your core beliefs are. Core beliefs are little internal, learned, beliefs about oursevles that aren't true. Things that develope over time when we've been living in an abusive situation.\n\nTo really get over these problems you are having, I seriously recommend you find a counselor or therapist who specializes in treating PTSD. It wasn't until I found one who did, that I learned to over come my issues w/assertivenes & learn to love myself & realize that I am a valued human being who has the right to exist.\n\n*hugs* If you want to talk more about this, I can go more indepth, click on my profile & send me a msg, I'll be happy to help you out, because I KNOW this feeling all to well that you are talking about.
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maybe your sensitive and emotional.and im sure there is someone who can understand you.try to understand exactly how your heart feels that way it will be easier for you to tell people how you feel.so you wouldn't get hurt that easy.
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Touchy subject ... some people crying in church just want to be left alone. I once saw a woman crying in church right after her daughter was killed in a wreck. She was there alone and wasn't a regular member. Apparently, no one else in her family wanted to be there, but she felt that it was the place for her to be. I just got up and walked over to her, sat down beside her, and held her hand. She did the rest. She didn't pull away, in fact, she pulled me closer and just started sobbing. I was her daughter's age so I guess she felt a connection, even though she didn't really know me. I just put my arm around her and let her cry. \n\nBut usually if I see people crying "silently", I'll just let them be.
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You will not find an easy answer here. I can't even begin to understand all the hurt you must feel, but you can make it through this. You need close friends to lean on and a lot of time to heal. You need to be able to express whatever you feel openly -- maybe even go see a counseler. It sounds like you've been through a lot and my heart goes out to you. Be strong, but don't bottle up your feelings. You will be okay.
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Is this a normal reaction for you? If so, it could be one of the signs of depression (crying easily, mood swings, etc), and you should talk to your doctor and tell him how you feel. He might be able to prescribe you medication.\n\nIf it's not normal for you, it could be just female mood swings or PMS, or it could be related to other stress in your life. Do you have a lot going on right now? If so, try talking to someone older who you trust, maybe a school counselor or somebody from your church/job, etc.
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awww.... thats reely sad and i have suffered from the same thing!! try listening to happy music and instead of listening to depressing stuff music has a big part in depression and  not talking about it compleatly to any one and shutting your self out ,wright  how you feel or what your thinking about and it'l just get your mind off it... it works pretty good and try going to see a counceler.. even though they might not be able to know whats wrong right away you just need to talk about it to someone no matter what ,cause if you keep it all botled up inside your never gonna be able to talk or trust any one anymore.. and with you r mom she's probably just worried about yoyu i know it may seem like she's yelling and thinking your sooo dum but she's just confused on how and why you feel this way..\n and it's okay to cry .. the only thing is that if you cry too much the littlest bad news will just be like the end of the world.and dont think about it soo much just relax and pray to God to give you peace in your mind and soul.\n and ask your doctor about taking some antidepresents and then see how you feel after a while..\n\n   but you need to talk about it with someone it's not healthy phisically and mentaly. your not alone i feel the same way al ot of the time and i'm on some meds and if you want some one to talk to you can talk to me.. even though you dont know me it's just good to talk about it with some one .and parents they wont understand compleatly but they just want you to be okay so wright a letter to you r mom telling how you feel and stuff..
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we all have things we cant watchon tv, i cant watch scarey movies or animal movies where i know im going to cry. its becaue your sensitive to those issues. dont worry you not alone.