Why do others love to put the guilt trip on you?
456590
I'm actually having that same problem. In my case, yeah, I made a mistake, but I fessed up to it, was honest about it, and tried to apologize for it. I still feel like the other person is trying to make me feel guilty, and I refuse to be around people who are always negative all the time. I thought that I liked people like that, and maybe I did once, but now it just brings me down. I want to feel better, not feel how alone I am, and how much the world sucks. That's my story.
947077
Cheaters get mad because they have been caught!  Simple as that.  They probably feel ashamed of themselves when in reality they should feel ashamed of what they have done to the one they cheated on.\n\nMy ex attempted to make me feel like it was my fault when I was walking out the door for the last time.  I think it was because he knew he f**ked up and he knew there was nothing he could do at that point to get me to stay so, why not try to hurt me on the way out.\n\nSome people still haven't evolved.
604874
Yes it does sound like christians are shooting themselves in the foot. its quite amusing. I also think that on some subconciese level that the guilt fear and shame inside them darkens thier hearts until they are unaware they are doing anything wrong or believing anything wrong/.;
800857
If you really wish to relieve your guilt, it will be difficult for you, but you need to not use the information against him and fess up. If you don't care about the guilt, go hurt him bad with the info.
526170
In human behavior, I would call it blame shifting. Even when we as humans do something wrong we sometimes feel the need to blame someone else... as to justify our actions. It's also a way of making ourselves feel better. The second it's not our fault is the second it's not our problem.
518113
They are on a guilt trip from something they did in the past, and feel they deserve some punishment.
733942
It makes them feel godly and holy. I don't think those who are judge mental ever feel guilty. To feel guilty, you have to believe you did something wrong, and these people do not think they are doing anything wrong.
1087308
I'm a Christian, and it is our belief that people lie because it is within our sin nature.  To lie is to break one of God's commandments, which He gave us to protect us from harm, not to suck the fun out of life.  He knows it hurts both the liar and the one to whom the lie was told - which you have obviously learned by experience - that's why He said not to.  There is always a reason for people's lies, whether to elevate themselves above others, manipulate others, protect themselves, get what they want, or many other reasons.  Even when you think you do something just because you wanted to, ask yourself why you wanted to do it?  What were you out to prove?  That you were smarter, that you could get away with it, that the other person was powerless to stop you or unable to ferret out the truth?  I remember finding great fun as a kid with siblings in lying to our mother, and since there were several of us, she never knew who really stole the candy from under her bed.  It gave us a sense of power, I guess.  \nLying hurts relationships, that's for sure.  I am sorry you had to learn that the hard way, but rejoice in the fact that you now see how you were wrong to do the things you did.  That's a sign of maturity, especially if you can ask for forgiveness from the people you hurt with your behavior.  I wish you well.
952841
Every single person you see who passes you in the street has made mistakes, not one of us are exempt from making mistakes, that is because we are human beings.  We do what we do for various reasons...could be the crowd we hang around with...peer pressure.....it could be because we are hurt and want revenge...it could be for a lot of reasons.  But we all grow up, we all learn about sociably acceptable behaviour and that only comes with experience and time.  If we didnt make mistakes, we would be pretty boring people because it is only when we make mistakes do we trully learn who we are.  What has happened in the past had to happen, simply because it did, you cant go back, you cant change it, but you can certainly change the future.  You can choose not to make those kind of mistakes ever again.  Forgiveness is pretty easy if you have a logical mind.  If you can think that the mistakes you made were because of a particular situation in your life, and you did what you did because that was your frame of mind at the time, then you will be able to forgive yourself.  You are not that person any more....that was the old you.  Sometimes I look back on my past and think to myself...."that wasnt me"...and it wasnt.  I am the me I am now,  the me who made all those mistakes and it is those mistakes that has moulded me into the nice person I am today.\n\nIf you dont learn by your mistakes then you wont grow.  You know they are mistakes, so you have learnt and you will become stronger for it.  You need to put your mistakes where they belong,  they were mistakes of the past, so keep them in the past.  Your future is where the positive stuff lay.  Guilt is such a wasted emotion because the only thing it does is make you feel bad, it doesnt change anything...it cant change what has happened...so think logically about it...you cant change it, so what is the good about beating yourself up over it.  Use the energy you have with guilt and put it to more constructive use.  Move forward, do things that make you feel good about yourself, maybe go and do some voluteer work.  Start thinking good things, start doing good things and you will find out the mistakes of your past gives you the knowledge you have today.  You could use that knowledge for good.  You may be in a position where your mistakes could help some person in the future because you have been there, done that.  Use your mistakes to your advantage....learn from them.  You can do it.  We all make mistakes,  it is something we have all suffered from at some time.  The reason I know you are a decent and wonderful person is because you feel bad about your mistakes....that shows you have a conscience, therefore you cannot be a bad person because bad people dont have a conscience.  Move on...go on to achieve wonderful things and you will have your mistakes to thank for your success.
204267
Guilt is only the result of one's mental conditioning : by one's parents, peers, community, race, or even religion !\n...Because one of the above dinned it into a person's mind that 'yuck-and-muck' are wrong, and 'only such-and-such' are right, while 'this-and-that' are okay as long as you don't caught (!), that person's mind get pre-conditioned :\n...In such a pre-conditioned state of mind, any person would immediately get a telegraphic message that he/she will be 'guilty' as they are about to commit 'yuck', 'muck', or even both together !\n...The lives of those, who have no such source(s) to pre-condition their minds, will never have any place for guilt - as nothing is defined as either 'right' or 'wrong'.\n....All 'Civilisation' is based on such pre-conditioning !
63403
YES!  I've let others hurt my feelings and make me doubt myself.  I've learned though that, it's up to me to allow that to hurt me or not.  I am responsible for my own feelings about myself and shouldn't let others make me feel bad or doubt myself.  I must love myself and not let anyone else shake that!\nI don't want anyone else to feel that way about themselves because of something I have said so, I try my best to be supportive instead of belittling or insensitive.
717967
Guilt is not going to change your circumstance, it is going to add to your stress. Guilt is a disease. (best taught by religion) \n\nYou have to do what you have to do, and only you know what that is for sure. \n\nIt is there own problem if they cannot understand and accept what you are asking for. \n\nNo one should ever feel guilty. But that doesn't mean succumbing to there needs to rid yourself of guilt. That will make things worse and leave you open to being manipulated with guilt in the future.\n\n You are are responsible for your own happiness. They are responsible for theirs. \n\nIt sounds like this will just go on and on if you don't cut them off now and deal with it. Then, it may only take a short time to figure out. You won't know unless you do it.\n\nThey will have there own guilt to deal with for not giving you the space and freedom you required.
1007579
Because they want a response out of you, they want to believe that it hurts you by them not talking to you, sounds silly doesn't it lol
742824
When they put you on the defensive and you have to try to PROVE something to the person. Maybe they want you to explain why you did something. Or, they might ignore you because of something you did or said. Or, they may act as if they're disappointed in you because of something you did or didn't want to do. Most people do it because they're either spoiled and want to have their way. Or, sometimes just because they want to manipulate you or your decisions. It's a mind game. If you feel bad - but you're not in the wrong - then they win. \n\nBrother DzL (AsP)\n"The Player's Lifestyle"
799445
sounds like he is trying to guilt you into doing more than you are comfortable doing.
660455
The only thing it depends on with me is if you are trying to come between me and my family in a harmful way..\n\nOtherwise.. I forgive easily .. unfortunately I am a softy and try to understand where everyone else is in their lives, I give them many more outs than the normal person would.. so if they have even half the friendship as I have with them, they'll find it easy to come and say.. "Ya know what?.. I over-reacted.. sorry.. wanna go get a beer?" and know that even though they were having a bad day.. week life..I wouldn't judge them as harshly as they did me when my feelings were hurt. \n\nAll people have faults.. friends have limits and breaking points, so do you.. if you're feelings were hurt, why were they hurt.. because this person acted so fouly, or did you take it too personal or hold this person in a higher regard than they should have been? \n\nTake the high road.. feels good every time.. even if you almost bite off you tongue sometimes..take the high road.
622389
sometimes it is purely jelousy but sometime the person stil ikes u and they want u bac so deperately they will do anything 2 get u bac even if it mean hurting u 2 make u more vulnerable. it horrible bt sadly its the harsh truth that we all have 2 accept sooner or l8er. love and h8 r the closest emotions that could also explain alot