How do you feel about a man being too controlling over his wife?
460369
Control is a sign of insecurity.  It comes from a lack of trust.  People that try to control are trying to possess.  They view the other person, not as their partner, but as their property.  If you own something no one can take it away.  You can break it, distroy it or just throw it away at will, and no one can say or do anything.  Controlling is not LOVING.
604854
Not all women are like dt,some are alittle submissive.\nThis questions is the same as,Why men are so egoistic,bossy n chauvinist? wen its not necessary.The wife wil not look dwn on her man.
1111203
I like to serve my husband but NOT because he tells me too.  It is great feel so needed but I would never consider myself submissive... why would you even describe your self that way?  The reason why people look down on submissive wives is becasue no one deserves to be bossed around and treated like a slave, so when you see someone doing that you have to wonder what the hell is wrong wit them?  Do nice things for your man becasue you love him..not becasue he makes you!
803941
Some people, in spite of their good qualities, have character flaws that make them 'control' freaks say...When he is not in control, he 'punishes' his wife...his own ego is so small, that he has to put her down,...for fear that she will get some attention, and that he will lose control of her...He must have some good qualities,..that are admirable...but many people are just plain spoiled rotten and when they don't get their way, they act like this....it is sickening...and I would ignore his actions if at all possible...like a spoiled rotten brat...don't let him think he has got to you...but the name calling...he makes an *** out of himself anyway...no need to say anything
410736
if you want your marriage to work you are going tohave to draw a line under it. i know its easier said than done. try and think of the good things in the relationship whenever you feel yourself distrusting him, thats what i did.
582548
Hi.I know how you feel. I am married to a guy and i only have to look at him or when he kisses me he makes me crazy.You can never have too much of a good thing.
172674
Altering a persons values is tough.  He may even be uncooperative on purpose, maybe he thinks it gives him control.  Anything you do is probably temporary.
586521
You have to treat them like they are children, and everything goes smooth. If you treat them like adults that's when the shit hits the fan! They can not do anything for themselves, and once you get married its really worse. I love my husband to death, but sometimes he is just more then I can handle it. My philosophy is just grin and bare it!!!!
557666
No. What she has done is very inappropriate and in my mind, VERY selfish. I imagine she wouldn't like to be on the receiving end of such a thing should you have done that; am I right? Bottom line is this - it is not right for her to spend an evening like that with a man who is not her husband. Period! The mere fact that she kept this from you is an indication that what she did wasn't right. Deep down, she knew this would upset you and rightfully so. But if it were so harmless, she wouldn't have kept it from you in the first place. I think to help resolve this situation you should ask her what makes it "okay" for a married woman to do such a thing? I'd also ask her what makes her think that you should be "okay" with it as well?!
390625
I looked it up and I dont see anything wrong with it. Most guys are willing to let the wife lead in all roles. Well, maybe mine is. lol.\nIf your wife doesnt mind and is willing to be the leader, tehn why not?
519262
I agree, the hell with the wife. It is obvious you dont care about loosing her but what if you keep your best friend and he sleeps with someone you really dont want to loose. Not worth the risk to me. Get rid of both of them!!
585275
I would have to say that I have a tendency to expect too much, too fast. I am of the age and mind set that I want to be married, and unfortunately I almost lost the man that I truly love because of this. We are happily engaged now, but my insistence on knowing exactly where we were in our relationship caused him to pull away. That was my wake up call. We have since come to a compromise regarding boundaries, and are much, much happier and comfortable with each other. I never would have categorised myself as a pushy person, but I found out that when faced with losing something that I had never had before, I could step back and see the bigger picture. I give advice often about noticing the needs of your partner or spouse and accepting those needs without question, I just wished I would have taken my own advice a little sooner than I did. Peace.
1089211
No, I don't think it is a turn off.  It is just your own natural reaction to what is going on at the time.  It doesn't mean you are weak, or that your wife stronger simply because she doesn't cry.  You both just react differently to a situation.
1039340
Yes -- if you've found a real man who understands the difference between being dominant and being domineering!  At the risk of sounding archaic, I believe the husband should be the head of the household.  That does NOT mean that he should boss you around.  It means he should be a leader.  Don't get me wrong -- I believe in equal rights and a good man will respect his wife as a person.  He will exalt her judgement and be awed by her talents and good works.  But when there comes a time when there's a decision to be made and it's a tie, a woman should trust him to make it.  (So you have to find a man you can trust to make decisions with EVERYONE'S best interest in mind -- not who's just putting his foot down because he can.)
1083519
I DON'T UNDERSTAND YOUR STORY. \nWHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?? WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY "WE OVERSEA VIETNAMESE DO NOT THINK WIFE HAVE TO CONTROL HUSBAND."???
377783
It really depends on the problem. I think a man should stand by his wife only when it involves them two only. IF it involves other people, then the problem needs to be resolved as soon as possible.
546814
Coming from a woman married to a man,,,That statement is TRUE,,,sometimes I cannot live with myself!!!..But it can also be said about a man so watch out..Just remember if you TRY to make you woman happy then there is not anything we wouldn't do for ya'll!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!