How can I help my girlfriend with family problems, and other things?
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The first thing you can do is not pressure her into it if it makes her feel uncomfortable around you.  Trust me, if the love is there, the sex will come, you shouldn't rush it anyways because sex should really be an expression of one person's love for another.  If you go to high school or college, they have counselors there who are more than willing to help.  I suggest you look into that for her, it'll show that you really care about her.  Don't feel frustrated, if you love her, then try to be there for her whenever you can.  Be patient my friend and I am sure that with time, you'll find that sex is but a small part of true love (it is much more than that).
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What a good brother to worry about her!\n\n\nthis is not about you.\n\n\nshe is hurt hon ,\nand you are her string to life. If she loses you what will she do? She needs some reassurance that she is beautiful and amazing.That you are on her side and the person that hurt her is nuts.You would of course never hurt her and if you weren't related.... of course you would marry her. Then go with her to a support group or to therapy. she has just simply lost too much....this was the  straw that broke the camels back....everyone grieves differently.  you and your girlfriend need to spend lots of time with her good luck
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- Pay lots of attention to her.  No, don't fall all over her and smother her.  Listen to what she says and ask questions, and really care what she is saying.\n- Notice when she does her hair differently or puts a lot of effort into making herself look good for you.\n- Ask her opinion about things.\n- Ask her what her hopes and dreams are and help her to accomplish them.\n- Do all sorts of little things to make her life more convenient for her, even if they are things she will never notice.\n- Remember that each of you have your strengths and weaknesses and they compliment each other.  Don't be afraid to ask her for help with something she knows more about.\n- Both of you have needs that will change with time.  Be aware of them and be flexible.\n- Most of all, make sure that she knows that you love her, not just by what you say but by how you act and what you do.\n\nGood Luck!
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You really do care for your girl...!!!\n\nShe probably hails from a very disturbed background. I think she is insecure not only about herself but also about her relationship. And I also think that she lacks self confidence.\nThere are a lot of things that you have not mentioned, that is how old is she and what is she doing...??\nFor her to get over the habit of not working well with people she needs to work on projects that have to be done in groups.\n\nConstantly encourage her to do things that involve her participation and that involve her interaction with lots of people.\nShe also needs your constant support and love. And if this does not work then you need to take her to a pshycologist.
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Hi Sean,\n\nBoth my mom and dad (mom has it a lot worse though) have depression and I love them so maybe I can help.\n \nI have found the best thing I can do for them is be there for support.  Sometimes that means giving up fun with friends for a quiet night in keeping my mom company.  Sometimes it means trying to deal with her mood swings.\n\nThe mood swings are the hardest to deal with.  You just need to stay calm and remember how much she is suffering to treat someone she loves so horribly. "This too, shall pass" is a saying I heard one time and I try to keep that in my mind.  Also, you should not do too much for them, but you should do what you can to help the person.  For example, if she has a White Castle Craving at 9 PM and is whining about how much she wants it and being mean to you and White Castle is 10 miles away, give her options like driving there herself or offer to fix her something from  the kitchen.  Sometimes it is bad to do too much for people.  This is called "enabling".  \n\n I have found that when my mom wants to argue, I just let her say what she needs to say and remember she doesn't really mean it.  I also learned not to talk back in these situations because there is no reasoning with her.\n\nOne other thing you really need to think about is if the relationship is worth it.  Do you love her because she is her or do you just think you love her?  Can you handle her symptoms?  It isn't worth going crazy yourself over it.\n\nI really hope your girlfriend is getting help.  Medication and counseling has worked wonders for both my parents. Best wishes to you.  Pease let me know if I can do anything else to help.
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trust me, thats a very bad idea\ndont look for a girl just cuz you feelin sh!tty\nit will lead to a dependancy on others (your girl)\nthe best way to deal with your problems is good help, not dependency\n\nso im sayin you need to talk and somone to listen
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Break up with her, now.\n\n\nYou can't help someone that doesn't want to help themselves.
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aww that's really sad.... make sure u are there for her, even tho she needs time on her own right now. u did the right thing by letting her parents and the police know that she is having trouble right now. if it's possible, try to work w/ her mom and friends to get some ways to help her.. perhaps a counselor or therapist.. don't give up on her, but at the same time make sure this does not consume you.  she is pushing u away..and if u keep trying she may get upset.. or she may accept ur help.... but u have to be strong enough to take either reaction from her.  just continue to talk to her mother or her friends, maybe email or text her once in awhile and just say "hi" to let her know u are thinking of her.\n\nalso, tell her that even if you are not "together", she can still count on you as a Friend, because u care and love her as a person. that way, she hopefully won't feel "stress" thinking she has to be ur Happy Girlfriend u know?\n\ntell her u will always be there if she needs to talk....  btw, who told her she "can't have love or be happy"?? why does she think this?  something is going on w/ her.... \n\ntake care, good luck~
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Tell her sensitively and tell her what she deserves to know. Tell her that the relationship with her father did not work out, and that he was a naughty man. Tell her you love her, and you are lad you are here and that she is beautiful just the way she is, and that God wanted her to come into your life so much. Tell her she has a wonderful family, and that it may be better to not know her other half of her family, as you know nothing about them.
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first ask her if there is a problem. when she tell you not all detail but tell us something and then maybe we could help you
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She needs HELP so , how can you assist her BE HONEST with her about what you feel she is doing to herself , then guide her to some professional or talk about why she is mutilating herself, maybe abusing going on from within family ???
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It might take some tough love.  Unfortunately many people in her situation develop a sort of addiction to the attention her problems and suffering attract.  Unless you can find a way to break the pattern, they will continue to use their situation to try and manipulate everyone around them.  \n\nYou should consider taking a tough love stance with her and tell her she has to get her life together if she wants you to have a normal relationship with you.  Refuse to be manipulated and allow her to create crisis after crisis to which she wants you to respond.\n\nI can only make some educated guesses for you, so just take it as some things for you to consider.
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Be there, love her, accept her.  You also might try reading up on the subject so you give her infomed help. It will mean alot to her to know you cared enough to find out.
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best thing to do from such a distance is to listen to her, and reassure her. After all, you like her, right?  Remind her why.  Being 15, she's going through a heck of a lot.  You can't change how her family are toward her, but you can help her see what's great about her.  Just be there for her.  Make her laugh.
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basically find a local family therapist to help guide you in this very tough time... you need to discuss this matter at length with someone who is capable of guiding you thru this...
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First thing I'd suggest is knowing your opponent .. in laymens terms .. ask your girlfriend as much about your parents as you can such as culter attitude and so on .. and past experiences with her last boyfriends that have had the in some cases unfortunante opportunity of meeting them. Once you know what type of people you'll be dealing with you'll be more at ease knowing you can handle what difficulties may come from them.
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be patient and dont push her too hard\njust be there for her (even only via email)\nstop telling her how you feel for now, it may be quite irritating for someone's out of a bad relationship\ntell her your feeling once again when she's opened up a bit\n\nhope she'll loosened up =)