Is it a good idea to start dating an ex again?
461790
Go with your gut feelings.   Woman are very intuitive and if it feels right, go for it.   Who knows, that spark may still be there.   If nothing else, you can always be friends.   People change, but if there is still a connection between you, it won't matter.  Best of luck, :)
415903
don't ruin your new relation, u just miss ur ex it's totally normal, but let go the past and give that new guy a fair chance to make u happy.\nu had trust issues with ur ex that's irreversible, move ahead. good luck and be happy
111090
In most cases it's best you just let go of the past and try to move on. It also depends a lot on how things ended and how things currently stand. My thought is, if it didn't work the first time for obvious reasons then chances are it probably wouldn't work out now. A few of my X boyfriends have proven to me after quite some time why it was best to end the relationship and never venture down that path again. The best advice I can give is just to move on and find someone to start something new with someone who is right for you NOW --besides fresh new starts are always a lot more fun anyways.
1031643
First, I respect your courage for writing here, but I would take the most serious advice from those who know you best... those closest to you. There aren't enough details in your story for anyone but those who know you to give you good advice, but a lot of people have similar feelings. When I was single I always pined for my ex's... the bad times didn't register and all I remembered was the good times. This doesn't mean that they didn't happen and that what drove me from my now ex's wasn't real. We did break up for a reason, and our incompatibility was something to be considered. No matter what you do, even if you did get back together, you can't relive a memory. This isn't to say you shouldn't talk to your ex or figure out what you're feeling, but I'd say take your time with it. If the feeling is really real, if the relationship is meant to be, then it's worth waiting for. A lot of times things seem good at the time, but if we waited, we lose interest or realize what a bad decision it was. Even so, you have a fractured relationship, and it's going to take a lot of care and thought to bring it together... either way, protect your own heart and take your time. Find someone you really trust and talk to them about it and let them speak into you... tell you a no bs assessment of what they can see from the outside. Even if you don't agree with them, it'll get you thinking. I wish you the best with your relationship, whether it's meant to be repaired or not. God bless you,\n\nBrian
1165192
You have the answer in your headline. The fact is, you do want to try the whole relationship thing again. It would help if we knew how long the two of you have been seeing each other, then again, it almost sounds like its a very new relationship. If it is a new relationship, then get to know him without revealing too much about your past hurts. If you really like this guy, get to know him without worrying about how it might end. Go into with an open mind and see where it goes. If you do not give yourself the opportunity to get to know someone first, without judging from what's happened in your past, you'll never find out if he's the right one for you. Life's too short, you never know when the love of your life will stand before you. Build walls and he will never find his way to your heart.
1166692
Just make it clear that there are conditions to getting back together and that one of them is that the past is the past and that you two are working on a future.  If the past becomes an issue then there is no relationship.
116892
Yeah it can. I broke up with my ex a couple of years ago - it was a mutual break-up but we remained as best friends. Sometimes when I hang out with her, I feel that same old feeling again - like a spark in my life that I felt when I first dated her... but I'm not taking that step though.\n\nYou can regain that feeling, but to get back together - that's another question...
888030
If they were your friends it wouldn't have mattered who you were dating as long as you were happy. I wouldn't stress about trying to earn them back because you haven't done anything wrong. If they want to be petty because you broke up with your ex to date someone closer to you then let your friends date your ex and you just concentrate on being happy with your new man. Friends come and go they'll see the light eventually but until then go have some fun with your new man.
660346
it depends. i guess u should take things as they are at the moment, not to drown in ur fantasy and dreams. perhaps, if u two will get on good, u could start it all again. going on a holiday is a serious challenge to all the couple, especially if u're going with ur ex
132474
There's no specific time that one should wait after 6 years of being with the same person.  I would suggest you take time to focus on you for a little while.  Don't be in a big hurry to jump right back into dating.  Use your time now to get your life together and do things that you enjoy.  Mr or Ms Right will come along eventually.
943358
You mentioned that you were confused with your life. Perhaps you should try getting a better foothold with your own life before you do anything else. Getting back with her while you remain in a state of confusion isn't going to help the both of you. And if you really want to be with your ex girlfriend, I'd suggest you come clean about your feelings to her and your present girlfriend. A girl wouldn't want to patch if you're already seeing someone else. Don't give your ex the wrong impression that you are a 'two-timer'.
1172068
No one can answer that question for you.  Only you know whether you are emotionally ready to commit to someone else yet.  I would be suspicious, however, if it was less than six months or a year after a relationship as important as the one you describe.  But people vary, and maybe you just lucked out and found the right guy.\n\nHowever, ask youself these questions:  \n1) Are you sure that you are not just looking for *anyone* to love you, after the hurt and rejection of your breakup?  Would you love the new guy if you had met him first?  IIn other words, be sure you are not grabbing for validation.rather truly in love.\n2) Is there any chance that you are attracted to the new guy because he is the opposite of the old one?  This is trickier, because you certainly don't want to end up with another guy who is just like the one you broke up with.  But some people swing too far in the other direction when they are on the rebound, and you need to watch out for that.  Obviously, there were *some* things about the ex that you found good, or you would not have been together for so long.  So decide whether the new guy is a real improvement over the old one, or just very different.\n\nGood luck!
141126
Firstly, I personally believe you can never completely stop loving someone if you truely loved them once. So yes, in my opinion it is possible for you to get some of your old feelings back when you meet your ex again. I guess if that happens, then you have to weigh up your options and decide what is best for you and what direction to take.
1031043
You need time. A relationship is like a tree. When it dies you have to figure out what went wrong. Then you have to fill in the hole where the tree was, before you can plant another tree. In short, take some time to contemplate your old relationship. Where did it go right? Where did it go wrong? Only after you are whole again should you start  dating. Otherwise that girl you want to date is just a transitional relationship and that isn't fair to her.
925785
I think you should take him back. Just to see if he actually has changed, because from the sound of it, it seems to me that he has changed. Also because you have nothing to loose if you do start to date him again. I also think it would just be a good decision to make because it seems like that would make you happy, with you missing him and all.\n\nOne more thing... you shouldn't lie to your man... especially about things that involve your ex. It's wrong, and it also seems somewhat suspicious, ya know???\n\nGood Luck ;)
33518
Go for it. Your ex should not have any say over who you date. That's why it's called "ex."
190121
There's no hard-and-fast rule.  The consensus seems to be that it's not a good idea because of the harm it may cause your ex and the awkwardness it may create in the new relationship.  However, if your ex is out of the picture, and it's unlikely you'll see him again, and his status as your ex doesn't pollute the current relationship, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't explore it.  If it's inevitable that he'll find out, and you've been with him for a long time, you should wait a while before pursuing his friend, and you also should consider letting him know your intentions.