How dos one avoid being judgemental in this life?
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let the man that is without sin, throw the first stone.\n\nI think about that and that usually stop me.
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Start giving yourself Brownie points for every good choice you make. Confidence and self-esteem are earned, nobody is born just possessing them. Every time you make someone smile, remind yourself that you have that ability. Do your work honestly and well. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Give others sincere compliments and don't always expect others to set your standards of decency or to make you happy. Remember, you're not transparent. People can't tell how you're feeling. Eventually, feeling confident will become second nature. But above all, be kind to yourself and others. And just have fun!
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Isn't this one of life's biggest questions?  Ultimately it is through your day to day choices as to whether you have a good life or not.  For example, if you make bad or questionable choices at work and end up getting fired, well, that's your fault.  You, however, have no control over other people's ability to make choices for themselves.  Sometimes unfortunately, other peoples stupid mistakes affect us and then we have to deal with them.  If you're in a good relationship, then you chose well.  If your future looks bright, keep it that way by always looking at the bright things.  If you're "ultra-depressed" something tells me that you are not a "cup is half full" person.  Try being optimistic for a change.  When something goes bad, try to find the good things in your life.  I'm married and when things get financially tough for my husband and me we try to look at what we do have instead of the things we don't have: we are healthy, we have food on the table, we have each other, etc.  I know it sounds so lame, but let me tell you, I am a much happier person when I count my blessings instead of being the victim.\n\nI have a friend who has crap thrown her way ALL the time.  I've never seen someone have to deal with as much as she does and most of it is stuff that is completely out of her hands (she has multiple schlerosis, can't EVER have kids, husbands job is crap, etc.).  But she is the most upbeat person I have ever met.  She never complains when it would totally be in right to do so.  She always worries about other people's simpler problems.  She's pretty amazing.  I wish I could have the same outlook and understanding that she apparently has on life.  Maybe try it.\n\nWell, good luck with your life!
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If you continue to use precious time living up to someone else's expectations, you will not be happy that you were true them instead of being true to yourself.\n\nYou may find yourself having to (gently) take a stand for making a decision to strive for your own goals.  Folk may get upset and tell you that you're making a mistake.\n\nLet 'em.\n\nBe true to yourself now!
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Have a better opinion of urself and accept as u are, God made every one perfect, its only when we compare with others we feel deficient and feel worthless about ourselves. Better is a relative word and a person whom you feel is better than you may be much worse to you in many aspects. You are a precious gift of life and its better to be oneself than to seek being 'better'and lose out on your 'best'
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You have to get out of the negative talk in you head that keeps you feeling self conscious.\n\nThe best way to do this is to do something selflessly for someone else. Go volunteer at a soup kitchen, or at a hospital, put change in someone’s expired meter without them knowing, go volunteer at head start , do at least  3 selfless acts a day, with no concern of how you will benefit and or gain from it and I promise you will begin to feel better about your self. \n\nAlso do something nice for yourself at least once a week, paint you r nails, get a facial, and take a relaxing bath, what ever you like. \n\nThe best way to feel good about your self is to give, give to other, give to yourself, and you will begin to receive all the confidence and self worth that you need and more!!
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This can be tough, but has a simple solution that is difficult for some to acomplish.  First, you have to force yourself to look at yourself OBJECTIVELY.  No internal reflection at all.  Try to see you for what and who you are....not what you think.\n\nI like the answer regarding responsibility, but it only answered one facet of self esteem.  The next thing you need to do is understand self esteem and what it is.  Self esteem is how you feel about you.  The fact that you are asking this question tells me that you care about yourself enough to try to improve.  That is abmirable and worthy of esteem.\n\nNext, try to identify what may be damaging your self esteem.  Is it really flaws in you, or just people you are surrounded by inventing them?  My experience is it is usually the latter.  Try to spend more time with people that make you feel good and less with the ones that don't.\n\nRemeber, the fact that you care enough to develop and improve, makes you worthy of esteem and respect.\n\nBe Well and I wish you the best.
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Be nicer to one another and consider the feelings of others?
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Just try to get out of the habit.  It could be a great first step to let them know you would like to do better too.  Stick with it keeping in mind that it will take some time to change yourself, and how others react to you.\nGood work, and good luck, I'm sure you will be happier.\n\nps Only those with limited life experience would ever confuse a nice person with a weak person.
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Treat others how you'd like to be treated. Everyone is human. Everyone has feelings (cliche) but it's true. If you're nicer to others you'll feel better within yourself. Obviously being nasty to others won't have a positive impact on you.  \n\nHaving more respect for others will allow you and others to have more respect for yourself. Everyone is on this earth for a reason (an unknown one at that). Life is hard enough as it is without people being twats to each other, that's commonly human nature though. At the end of the day, it's only you and your conscience that will enable you to be a nicer person to others. You just need to be more considerate to others, even if they aren't considerate back, you can rest knowing you've done the right thing. Directly that person may not appreciate it, but you'll notice others will (and they will)\n\nI hope this has helped.
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The whole idea about life is to be happy and only if the outcome has a benefit you shuld consider changing your plans. Remember it does not matter what people call your or what they think of you, all you should focus is in your self fullfielment and that also does not mean that you have to be a winner or the fastest racer. Look around you there are plenty of great things to be worry about. I always recomend traveling and looking for role model that can influence and inspire your life. Good luck to you and don't hide your feelings deep down you know what to do and is called natural wisdom and we all have it.\nA friend.\nCar
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Try not to let others effect that emotion, and except that people are mostly selfish, and mean, and into themselves.\n\nThis is a sad truth we all must accept, because to a certain extent, we all that way.
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Be more considerate of others. When people care about others it spreads and affects everything around them.
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Quit being neurotic. Relax, life's too short to waste it being worried about what people will think. Just know that your place in this universe can't be taken up by anything or anyone. Once you realize that, other people's opinions will seem useless.
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Be willing to listen to someone Else's opinion.Treat others as you expect to be treated. Realize that sometimes you do have to give in on certain points even tho you may be "right".
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I think by not worrying about what other people will think of you. Be secure in who you are, and don't try to become what others want you to become.
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Don't sweat it or listen to the comments that others make. Just remember all of us are human and do things from time to time that we may regret later. All we can do is just learn from our mistakes and then move forward with what we have learned.