I love a black guy...and my parents are freaking out.?
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sweetie, i bet your parents already know, there just hoping for the best for them. my parents are very closed minded also. i told myself i would rise above the way they tryed to raise me, and i did. love is so, so hard to find in this world, color should not matter at all, but to them i know it does, be true to your own heart, if you really love him, show them how much! start by telling them the truth, you are 20 years old, take a stand. it is not like he is a criminal, trust me, i have been there my father told me he would rather see me dead. 11 years latter and all is well, they really dont want to lose you, they love my husband now:)
1051102
Talk to his parents???
1021943
hi..dts gud havin a boy friend..i do have one..c,just handle the situation carefully...tell your parents first,and make them understand the depth in love u have for ur guy..it always takes some time for ur parents to agree...bt,still u wait and wait...jus dont run away with him...bcoz that most of the couples do these days whn their parents are not allowin...tell dm that you really cant live with out him....and the main part is,you must have satisfied all your parents expectations..........let them know love these days is not a big thing to worry about...it vil take time,wait to hold the hands of ur guy forever,gud luck..........
1170654
love has no bounds... if your guy loves you so much so that he can go against this world.... go with your guy.... its very difficult to find a pure love.... if you think you have found one, do anything to save that love.... people are not always so lucky.....\nif you dont have any blood relation then i don't see why you both can't get married.....\nbut before telling your parents... talk to your guy... as to whether he will be there standing with you or not.....
1181491
Gangstadad's Answer:\n"Your parents are protecting your future. how many white male friends do your black guy friends have? I will bet it is zero, they don't like white people, you are a trophy for them."\n\nMy Response:\nI have to say that I disagree with this because I am a black guy and I think that I have more white friends than I do black.  All black guys do not hate white people.  If you want to convince your parents into letting you go to the prom with this guy then let him meet your parents.  Believe me, all the white girls that I have talked to let me meet their parents and now they enjoy my company more than anything.  Like this one white girl that I know; Her dad gave me their number just so I could play tennis with HIM and with her at anytime.  So just tell him to chill, so that you can set up a meeting between him and your parents.  Your parent must be able to feel like they can trust him first.  By the looks of it, I bet they have never even seen the guy.
480282
girl f.. his parents if ya love each other thats all that counts..dont leave him for no one show his parents that no matter what their son loves you and they gotta deal with it..
199221
i think that ur parents trust ur BF that's why... and good for both of u, 'coz it means that ur BF didn't waste the chance that was given to him by ur parents...
450866
I've been in your same situation when i was younger. with my parents i told them some of the nice things that this guy did, that let them know that he was nice. Ask this guy to meet them. Not really at the house at first, but maybe at a park or a school activity. Then he won't be so nervous. Tell your mom first. Mom's are always easier. Dads will understand eventually. Don't say date or anything yet, say hanging out or something like that, then after a while say casually in a conversation with your parents how your friends think that you and _your guys name__ are such a cute couple. or something like that. that will be easier. if they are really strict just say that this guy is your special guy. hope i helped!!!
896666
Be aware of your differences, ask BF to teach you about his culture, be respectful, open minded, and celebrate the differences. And teach him about yours.\nI know most parents would pick someone culturally similar to their child, but more and more, parents just want their child to be happy. Ask the BF how he thinks his parents will react to your dating. It will give you a little insight about how he feels about you, too.\nGood luck.
1160206
Wow, that's pretty shallow of your parents.  You think he's fabulous and they want you to discard him because he's not handsome? \n\nKeep telling your parents how wonderful your man is and how lucky you are to have such a wonderful man love you too.
1017387
that happend to me..mine is an arabic construction worker so they accused him of wanting to marry me for his papers (which he had before he knew me) and he would beat me, make me cover my body, all this crazy stuff.... u guys have true love like me and him we stuck it out and got married and are so happy now my parents still dont approve..they like him cuz he treats me like a princess but they cant get past his ethnic background and what they believe all foreign ppl are like..it sucks but if u guys truly love each other i know u can make it..it sounds like u have what it takes..just stick to ur guns and dont let them change ur opinion of him.
197449
I wouldn't say anything unless I was asked.  You could drop a few hints to your parents, like you want an iPod too, or something to that effect.  That way it takes the monkey off your back and puts it on them.  You still have your relationship with your bother, he's in trouble, and all is well again.
1001371
Your parents are only strict just now, because they love you so very much ! And what seems to be your mum's 'racist' attitude is only the outcome of your local society's responses towards all 'mixed' associations - due to several generations of living under an illusion of 'white supremacy' ! \nWait patiently until you can grow-up a wee-bit more, and become a legal 'adult', dear : Then, you can speak your own mind, and act as you wish - and NOBODY else can decide as to who you should associate with !\nYou will also be a bit more mature then, and be able to judge better - about what, or who, is really good for you. \n...Here's hoping and praying that the anti-Black fervour of your community would also have died a natural death, by then !
891365
This sounds sooooooo familiar.  My parents did not like my boyfriend for a very long time, but the longer we were together, the more they realized how much we cared for each other.  Now we are engaged and my parents are ecstatic.  Just think to yourself....................who's in love with him, me or my parents? when your in love, you shouldn't care what other people think, but since its your parents, i know its hard.  Just follow your heart!!\n\nGood luck and God bless!
1100003
Though you did not explain this in your question, I suspect your parents insist on group dating and I understand why. Please try to understand this from their perspective. They walk a very thin tightrope between trying to protect you from the vagaries of this time of moral turpitude in which we live today, while at the same time learning to trust you to make wise decisions, while having the fun that life offers.\nI question your boyfriend's frustration. I think his feelings illustrate clearly why your parents insist on group dating only. You must examine your own feelings. I assume you are a wonderful young lady, with tremendous potential, and your parents are simply trying to help you and others focus on your potential and not  your libido.\nYou are fortunate! If he really cares about you, he will understand that the situation works best for all involved, including him.
539364
are you sure it's only because of the looks? if it is, then sorry to say that's very stupid! have you told them you love him? if you haven't, you should. if you have, you need to tell them you're beyond the stage of caring about looks. if you truly love him, at least try to fight for him. their problem is hardly even a problem - explain that YOU have to live with his looks, not them. I'm an indian and my parents wouldn't dream of getting me married to someone who THEY think is good/bad looking. that's the last of their criteria! stand up for yourself
867464
Your relationship seems rock solid. Don't let anyone including your parents get in the way. Your parents care about you and want the best for you. They haven't taken your relationship seriously yet. Make your parents respect your relationship by investing more time in your relationship with your fiance and less with your parents. Show them you are perfectly fine on your own. Oh, by the way, marriage is cool too. Don't be afraid.