My boyfriend & I have been together 3 yrs. Our sex life used to be great. The past 8 mths it's gone down hill.
469249
Try getting some adult movies,mags, clothes. Surprise him one day when he isnt expecting it with some skimpy lingerie. Just keep it spiced up or changing the routine. I \nalways love my wife to surprise me with things like that.
607541
I'm assuming you mean that sex isn't as much a part of your relationship as it used to be? That's the way it goes with relationships, at first you can't keep your hands off each other, but after a few months that calms down. The only way to keep that "new love" frequency it to get a new love every 4-6 months. Your alternative is to stick with the love you have now, and be happy that your relationship is morphing into something more substantial than mere physical desire.
9388
It depends on why it went bad. Was it something you did or was your partner? Eitherway, you have to look at all the reasons why you two are not together. Make a list if you have to of all the good and bad things. Then decide if it is really worth trying to save it.
1178340
Well, something has changed. I was in a crazy horrible relationship for way too long, let me help you out. First, have you tried talking to him about this?  Regardless....No one and I mean no one has the right to make you feel second class. No matter how long you have been together. It is sad and scarey when things start going down hill after years together but just because you have invested time is no reason to stay and find out if he is really going to hit you. Love doesn't behave this way. My guess is that he is doing something wrong and all that hiding is making him guilty and he is projecting that onto you. It is a pretty standard jackass tactic. You are better than that.....I wish you the best in making a decision that is safe and fulfilling for you. We only get one life.
458702
I see nothing in your words that refer to "love".  All I see is that you aren't "gettin" as much as you used to.  If that's all love means to you then I suggest you go your seperate ways.  If, however, the reduction of sex is just one part of your problems, then seek some professional help.
407407
when u first get together about 21 times!! then the longer you are together the more it goes down(especially hovering around the three year mark) but don't fear - it slow rises again(no pun intended!!Hehe!) never to the extent of when ur first together. but hey every couple is diferent so you'll have to read all the answers and find out!!Good Luck
193562
I think everyone does at different times. Right now I am doing really well with my guy. It's been a yr and a half, so I am pretty happy. If you have your problems, they can only get better.
103519
You have to rediscover yourself. After three years, you have become so entwined in each others lives, it's like losing part of yourself.  Spend time with YOU before moving on.
6852
Hun, i know what you are going through, I have been there done that and get this, i am not even married....my fiancee and i have been living together for almost a year now, engaged for almost 2 and yes, the sex drive has gone from 100 to 0...for him, not for me, it's still strong as ever. when i asked he always told me he was tired or just wanted to cuddle or something like that, so yeah, i know how you feel. i am sad to report however that he was hiding something from me....his addiction to porn....he'd rather look at pics and vids than be with me...pretty low huh? well anyways, we are still together and trying to work through the issues and yes things are looking up....so just hang in there and hopefully things will start to get better!
559731
you are just getting old. nothing wrong with that. Get surgery to get it tightened up, or stop having sex for a week or so to let it go back to normal. the very last thing you could do is get a new partener - one with a larger member. That will solve everything.
320054
8 years is truly a long time and Id hate to see you give up on that kind of relationship.  BUT you should sit dowen with him IN PERSON and let him know exactly how u r feeling.  If you have to make a special trip to see him DO IT!  Let him know u love him and want the relationship to work but you cant keep doing it the way you are doing now.  That its tearing you apart.  If he loves you he will find a way you can be together.  Find a job close to you or bring you to him!!!!!  After 8 years he should know if he loves you or not and definetely you need to know if this is ever going to lead to a permanent relationship!  If he doesnt see a problem with it the way it is- I would tell him you want to start dating other people.  Good luck to u!  This is keeping you close but letting him have his freedom all at once and thats disrepectful to u as a woman and his girlfriend.  You deserve so much better than this treatment!  Talk to him before you make a choice!  Good luck!
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Seven years is a long time to be with someone....you have a lot of history together which will not be easy to leave behind.  You need to really examine the relationship as only you know if it is worth saving.  If you really love him and things are good otherwise, then I would take him up on his offer and get some counseling.  That will also help you decide if he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.  He may also be able to overcome his self esteem issues and be able to better perform in the sexual arena.  So try the counseling.....give it another go and if he falls back or you decide it's just not going to work then you can move on....Good luck in whatever you decide
350327
well since you didnt include much information i can only guess to why you feel you are losing him. you probably are. maybe your relationship is stuck in a rut. By this i mean maybe you have been through all the fights and spontanious moments and need to spicin things up again. Make things more interesting. If you and him have been together for a long time you might be alittle bored with eachother and like i said need to try some new things. Try being honest with him.
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I am 71... and I have loved one person througout my married life for 48 years... (now through death, am single again) and I can tell you that over those 48 years, sex had started out as the "seed" of the loving relationship, but it developed into the "fruit" of the relationship... and the blending of our two personalities and souls into a working relationship became more important than just the sex.  The first 7 years of a relationship are sexually based... Called the "Limerick Stage of Love" (spelling may be wrong...) then that starts to evolve into a deeper more lasting relationship, and this is what builds over the years into a solid foundation that carries you both through the bad, difficult and trying times together.  You each have to decide what is important to you and based upon your decisions, you will then know what is best for you both... and can work things out for each partner's growth and benefit. Hope this helps... Blessings!  \nPS... With the waning of this strong bond of sexual love in those first 7 years... people usually make the mistake that they are "falling out of love" and it is time for a divorce.  They do not follow thru and endure... and have faith that something more wonderful will develop... most loving relationships today are totally sexually based... and as the loss of interest in sex wanes... so goes the relationship... Not the best bases for a 50 year lasting relationship... don't you think???
717840
It depends on the woman.  Personally, I've been with my bfriend for 5 years (it'll be 5 years on May 15th) and our sex lives are the same like it was when we first started dating.
210293
It's time to move on.  Usually the glow doesn't wear off for 6 months.  If you can't make it that long without heated arguments, there is no hope for it getting better.
323647
well when i was younger i really wasnt into it then after my first time i did it alot with the same guy atleast 3 times a day then i got with my soon to be hubby and we did it all the time when we first got together then after i got pregnant it died down to 0 times in 7 months then just today he got it couple of times and plan to do it many more