what do you do when your other half comes home drunk and does not fix dinner for the kids , goes right to bed?
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Once in a while OK. Although you would normally know ahead of time if he was going to a stag party, office night out, night out with boys etc.\n\nSo if its a rare occasion, cut him some slack. Have some humour in the morning when he's got the big hangover. Make him a coffee, have a good smirk.\n\nYou made a big deal about him not fixing dinner for the kids. Are you on strike or something? Theirs a little fly in your ointment here.\n\nIf its a regular occurrence, then, you shouldn't need us to tell you that there is a problem.\n\nThere are 3 ways to go #3 is not good.\n\n1. Marriage counsellor\n\n2. Separation\n\n3. Hang in there for the sake of the kids.\n\nGood luck.
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Explain to them, if they are old enough to understand what you are saying, that what they did was wrong and if they do it again, there will be consequences for it.  Time out, no tv, no games, no playing outside or having friends over, are some suggestions.  Also if the kids are near your home, don't let your child near them if they are a bad influence.
1123655
What do you think is the problem??? what is wrong with the dad??i do not know why the children cannot spend the night...i would need more information>>>>
986163
The kids are so excited to go with you tonight, thank you for doing this.  However, I don't feel that I am ready to be with the family just yet.  I am still working on sorting out feelings from the separtation.  Frankly, I don't feel that I would be great company tonight.  Thank you for the invitation but; I'll have to pass.
701981
talk to your kids, be honest. you are still a family. this is a good time to heal together. see how they feel and try to work with each other. explain you are doing the best you can. start doing things together, even if it is just the dishes.
1047221
You have to deal with it. It's his job.  Get a night job if you can. That way you'll be home at the same time. You can't tell him to leave his job for you. Not fair!
699084
The first thing I'm going to do when I get home is EAT A HUGE REAL STEAK & DRINK A BEER. The food here is crap. You should take the person coming home to a nice steakhouse or what ever kind of food is their favorite and get them the best meal on the menu.\n\nplease excuse moronic answers. they no not what they talk about.
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Yes, I think you should.  \n\nYou can all have fun until they have to go home.  Sometimes people have appointments and games early in the morning or their parents don't like them to sleep over somewhere.\n\nThe more the merrier, you know!
1105966
Get your hubby to help out more.  If he won't, then go on strike.  How old are your kids?  If they're old enough, they should have chores.  No one should have to work more than others in a family.
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1st thing:  Breathe!  You'll get through this & have some great memories in a few years.\n\nNext, don't be embarressed for your in-laws.  It's not YOUR fault they are the way they are.  Your parents/family KNOW this. \n\nRegarding the kids, plan on doing a children's table.  2 reasons:  keep them seperate from the adults so you can have "grown up conversations" and you can use that same table for activities such as puzzles, games, crafts, etc. \n\nFor the menu:  Tell them that you had planned on traditional Thanksgiving dinner.  If they would like to make & bring barbeque, that would be great!  Then both families can share what they consider traditional.\n\nHave fun!  Remember this won't be the only time the families get together.  Make the best of it!
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Sunday night is our family night (actually we reserve all of Sunday afternoon and night).  Nobody is allowed to make other plans then.  My husband and I try not to have "chores" to do for ourselves or the kids.  Sometimes we go to the lake and swim/cook out/hike.  Sometimes we order in and watch movies/play board games/read books.  Sometimes we work on a family project like a fun craft, experiment or plan our next vacation.  Sometimes we go out and eat and then see a movie, play or concert or go bowling or sometimes we head outside and play soccer or whatever else the kids want.  Sometimes we do nothing "formal" at all and just spend all day lounging around together talking and watching TV. To us it's not about doing "one thing" unless that one thing is being together.  Everyone in the family puts ideas into a jar that sits on the kitchen counter.  We do this whenever we get an idea that we think would be fun to do with the entire family.  Every Saturday night we pull out three and then we (mom and dad) pick one of those three (the other two get put back in so they eventually all get done...within reason of course) to do the next afternoon/evening.  For us the important thing about family night is just having time together.  Our lives are so busy that we crave the time to just be together and enjoy each others company.
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it is a difficult question, it is better to resolve any problems before going to bed but that is not always possible.it takes 2 to end an argument and if both parties don't cooperate it won't happen. in which case you should consider a different bed until it is resolved, make sure it was worth arguing about.
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Invite them to a dinner party. get to drinking and have a good time. Sometimes this helps becuase you learn more about them personally
916562
oh go to bed or something....
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I woke up in my own bed.I try and refrain from drinking on a Sunday night so I'm not hungover for work.It's bad enough being there sober.
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If you just want them to stop acting like guests and start acting like roommates, start assigning chores and handing over the grocery lists once in a while.... "Hey, Susan, while I'm at work today, would you please vaccuum and water the plants?" or (In a joking tone) "Isn't it your turn to do the dishes?"  Open bills in front of them, and complain aloud about how high they've gotten.\nIf you want your house back, then be kind but blunt... Sit down with them and say "I have loved having you here, but I'm afraid that I can't have you stay much longer...I have XXXXX happening in a couple of weeks and need to have some time to myself before that, but it's sure been fun!"\nOr lie and tell them your landlord has reminded you of the terms of your lease and your rent will be raised if they stay more than another week.\nGood luck!
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I have a similar situation in the past.  Not exactly the same but similar.  \n\nI told my man to get his b**t out of bed and help me around the house.  Some days I had to almost drop kick him to get him to help.  \n\nIf he doesn't want to help and his family lives close by, then call and ask them to help you.  It will embarrass him so much that he wont want to stay in bed any more.