My bf split up with me due to ongoing rumours spreaded by "friends" and doesnt trust me, I want him back :'(
468443
Why would you want someone back who would believe rumors about you? He obviously doesn't "Love" you if he would believe his friends over you. You learned a very valuable lesson from this experience.  Even if you did manage to get back together, the same thing is going to happen the next time his friends or someone else spreads rumors about you. You need to realize that you deserve better than this and move on with your life. There is someone out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and who will trust you. A good relationship is based on honesty and trust. Without them the relationship will fail. He doesn't trust you, so there is no way this relationship will work. Move on and live your life well. He is the one that loses. The best revenge is to live well. He will soon see what he has lost. Good Luck!!\n\nA.H.
21968
totally ignore him. pay him no attention. he'll eventually get tired of everything he is doing right now.this ex bf of yours might be an egoistic one that's why he is telling other people lies about you but if you know yourself that you're not the person he is talking about, i mean you know that what he says is not true you should not get affected. good luck.
543333
ugh welcome to my world! its very hard to gain trust again and ive been struggling with that for the past year with my bf. he is amazing and loving and the best person i have EVER met,,, yet i am always testing the waters and trying to catch him out in a lie. it drives ME crazy so i would imagine it makes him feel that way too. \n\none step is realising what you are doing, which has happened because you are here asking the question. trust is sacred and its hard to get it back even tho this is a new person who hasnt hurt you. what im trying to do is, whenever i have those awful 'ghosts from the past' flying around my head, i think about everything great that my bf has said and done, things that are so different from anyone else and make me feel important and loved. it does help but i have to really work at the demons. \n\nim aware that there are no guarantees in life, you never know whats going to happen, but living in the past is not the way to go. there are people out there who would not cheat - you're one yourself so it stands to reason there are others. thats what i tell myself too. i have major jealousy issues because every single one of my exes way back to the teen years cheated on me with a girl they swore was 'just a friend'. i cant stand hearing those words and they make my skin prickle. but that is in my head and in my past. \n\none of my friends just told me that i have to tell myself that i CANNOT LET THE PAST CONTROL ME. all these years i thought i was in control, always on guard, always trying to catch people out in lies, etc etc. i vowed i would never let myself get humiliated again.. but thats where my fault lies - i was looking for it, waiting for it to happen again and letting it control my life. that is not healthy. i am trying to just live day by day and not let those that hurt me in the past CONTINUE to hurt me by infecting my brain and causing me to not trust my bf. if he truly loves me he will not cheat on me... so the message to take from that is tha if he does cheat on me one day, he is not the right person for me afterall and im better off not being in the relationship anymore, no matter how much it hurts. but i dont think about that often either, i think about today and tomorrow and yesterday. and how much love my bf shows me, and little by little its helping me to erase the past.\n\ngood luck! dont let others tell you that you are nuts, its a very hard thing to get over for many people, especially if you were badly hurt in the past and more than once.
1041332
wake up,he cheated on you so why have him back.chances are you will never fully trust him ever again.time to move on girl
173711
Well I'm sorry to say this but she shouldn't have trusted him this much. I know she was so crazy for him because he was her firest bf even though she had never met him in person. You are her real friend and I think it's true that she never had any bf before, but what about him? He could have just lied to her about whatever he said. Maybe she wasn't this guy's first gf. Maybe he was playing around with her online after all just for fun. Then she started to get serious, which probably made him upset, so he just changed his phone # and everything to get rid of her. \nI'm so sorry to say this but there's nothing you guys can do. He doesn't love her as she does. It's just gonna annoy him if you try hard to find his new phone # and contact him to tell how much she loves him and wants him back. \nSorry...but I believe she learned something from this experience.
224101
Why would you want him back?? I am sorry, but he seems to have proved that he is untrustworthy, and a creep. I know it hurts, but put him behind you and move on with life. You will meet someone one day that would never think of walking out on you...you deserve a true love, don't settle for less.
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It always hurt when you breakup with a person you still care about.  However, you had very good reasons for leaving him.  A relationship cannot be based on lies and certainly not with all that fighting you were doing.  Evidently he has moved on...  I know it won't be as easy for you to do the same, but give yourself time.  Don't let him see how much you are hurting...  If it makes him feel better telling everyone that he left you...let it be.  Bottom line, you know the truth.  As time passes, hopefully some of the hurt and pain will lessen.  Good luck and take care!
586686
Get rid of him.  If he won't let you be your own person he's not worth it.  Also if he doesn't trust you then you have to ask yourself if you can trust him.  Believe me you can do better!
1152321
I think its cause he has already cheated & you dont trust him anymore....DITCH HIM....trust is already lost!
609074
I understand that you’ve broken up with him, though I guess you can still be a friend...as in friend....especially when he needs help.\n\nPlace yourself in his shoes. He's just another person with emotions and currently is looking for your support and help. Do help him though clearly underline that your support will not go beyond what’s called for in a friendship.\n\nYou can also tell you current BF of your intentions just so that he doesn’t build any wrong notions in his mind about your relationship with your EX.\n\nTake care.
1020512
What makes him believe that the rumors were spread by you?  Are all the "evidences" pointing towards you?  Then first thing you have to do is disprove them.  Explain things to him and have friends back you up.  Relationships are built on trust.  If your friend/partner doubts you because of ONE RUMOR,\nmaybe trust is missing in the first place.   Ask yourself, then, "Is he worth keeping and fighting for?"
831100
I've been there done that and i wouldn't make it easy for him if i did take him back. You need to make sure that your the one that he wants and he's threw messing around on you and if he feels the need to cheat on you again he needs to be man enough to tell you that he wants to see someone else. Tell him he has to earn your trust back.
316693
You need to be friends and earn back his trust. Once that happens it will all fall into place if it is supposed to
877352
Question is ---Why would you want him back?  Find someone that will not be ashamed of you and would be proud to have you around and meet his family and friends.  Good luck
675332
well i kinda had the same problem... i always say keep ur friends close but keep ur ex's even closer... he shld know ur x is ur friend and that he shldnt control who u hang with or who u talk to.. tell him that ..
1173833
Hello, girl. \nYou must be such a sweet cute girl.\n\nFirst of all, please be natural.\n\nYou don't have to think that you are going to steal him from his friend. If you really want to be with him again, talk to him honestly and tell him your true feeling that you have right now. \n\nIf he doesn't seem to hear you at this moment,  please leave him for a while, and you can open the window in your room now to feel warm sunshine outside to get relaxed.  \nIf you really think of him as your best bf, he will come back to you.\n\nLife is just once and I hope you will enjoy your life with your good friends around you.\n\nGood luck!
341209
GET RID OF HIM..how do you expect to be in a relationship if you can't even trust him...and he doesn't trust you..