And for the ladies: Do you feel liberated?
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Your question was very thought provoking. I checked out the word liberated in the dictionary. Yes, I personally feel liberated. Let me explain my position. I am free to make choices in my life. My thoughts are free to think about any subject under the sun I choose. and I have the freedom to act on those thoughts, if I so chose to do so. I am not a slave to "Media's" ideal of what a woman should wear, think, do, want or strive to have. What is important to me is at the center of my world, like being the best person I personally can be, treating others the way I want to be treated. Education, that is learning about things which I do not know, so that I have no fear of them, other than perhaps a healthy respect to stay away from situations that may prove to be dangerous. \n\nI truly do not understand what the media is trying to say to women, we have always had a certain advantage over men. Such as being able to "marry", have children and never work outside the home a day in our life, while we let someone else go out and make a living, provide home, food and clothing and basic daily needs. If men do this they are labeled, women are not.\nI truly believe I am really free.Free from being subjected to \nthe media's idea of what being a woman is really all about.
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This is a very long answer! I am sorry, but I had to write this! Bear with me....\n\nAs a woman who is 50 and who went through her own mid life crisis (and divorce and self reinvention) over the last ten years and  who felt very much as you do now, I would like to share some things that helped me to get out of negative self talk. I have learned how to view mid life as a wonderful time of growth, which got me out of a bad mind set.\n\nHon, the first mistake you are making is defining yourself and your personal value on whether or not you have a boyfriend or husband. You are not unique in this mindset. I did the same thing, but no one defines us or determines our self worth and value, EXCEPT ourselves. Thinking that a man will define your self worth and your placement in this world will only serve to make you depressed and feel as alone as you do now. The only person who defines you and your self worth is YOU. No one else can do this. Instead of thinking that someone else is responsible for definining you, LOOK WITHIN. You are a unique individual, with your own skills, gifts, ideas, mind and thoughts that make you who you are. If you only seek out men to define and complete you, you will feel alone, as you do now. You feel alone and empty because you are not looking within yourself to find the things that you possess to bring you self nurturance and self love - to define the woman you are now.\n\nMost women define and value themselves as complete when they have a boyfriend or husband because we are socialized by our families and the media to believe this is the case. We are taught that to be of value we must achieve the ultimate goal in life: to get married, have a family, own a house, and so forth. Those of us who decide to have a career, in addition to marriage, are taught that having "it all" makes us more worthy. If we choose not to marry or have kids, then something is wrong with us (although this is changing, thank god). If we wind up getting divorced, we are viewed as being failures and that because our marriages failed, we are not capable of having a relationship or worse, something is wrong with us. Married friends may shun us (or not), family members query us about whether or not we are dating, or if we will ever remarry, and as a consequence, we feel anxious and apart from society. We feel as if we are outsiders looking in. When we believe this, we feel lost.\n\nDivorce is hard, especially when you are in your mid forties and going through perimenopause. That adds to the confusion and the negative feelings we have. With hormones rising and falling, we feel different and are different in many ways. It is a time, generally - and without divorce - of questioning and assessing our lives, what we have accomplished or didn't, what we want to do in the future, and what changes we want to make. We fear aging and growing older, and dying too young or too soon. We fear the changes our bodies are going through. Our looks change somewhat and we feel old, ugly, less attractive. Even though this is a scary  and a weird time in our lives, we needn't feel this way. Experience and wisdom comes with age, and even if our bodies are not as firm as they once were, and even if we gain a bit of weight or have tons of gray hair, we are still beautiful. I feel better and more beautiful NOW than I did in my twenties and thirties! I may not be as thin as I was, but that is okay - I accept and honor the woman I am now. I receive the beauty I possess now with welcome arms and more confidence than I ever had before. Why? I accept the woman I am today. It gets better, really and you CAN GET THROUGH IT.  \n\nSome suggestions: One of the best things I ever did when I got divorced was to go to therapy with a psychologist who specialized in divorce. She also held a weekly group session (for an hour an a half) with her other female clients (6 or 7 of us) and we worked together on finding our paths AND releasing our hurt, and anger towa
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I think it is sad that these women feel that's their only option.  I think it is sad that they feel so cheapened that they'll use it to do anything with.  Now, women who feel empowered to use their sexuality any which way is great and I say Amen to that.  But women who use their sexuality from a place of powerlessness are something else entirely, and for the most part (there are always exceptions, to everything) I don't blame them but society.\n\nFR
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If you feel comfortable, do it!
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Not answer! DUH!\n\n\nyou feel nice?
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Yes, it is normal.  What you choose to do with those feelings is the real question!!
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The companionship is what I love most and also feeling safe and secure.\nMy husband has always made me feel untouchable and I love that, he's so strong. That's what alot of women look for the things that we are lacking in.  My husband is the other part of me, he posseses the qualities that I dont have.
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its show that u r in control and a stronger person..\n\nits feel good rite
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It feels good---all that power in your control.
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Not necessarily, I know it took me like over 10 times before it started feeling good. People are different though, it depends on you and who you are with. But I can promise you that after a while it feels damn good, one of the best feelings in the world.
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Freedom and Flirting!
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I used to feel this way. Just knowing that all my friends around me were getting boyfriends made me feel like I was getting behind. They would always talk about their experiences and gush about how happy they were...which now that I look back on it, isn't so important (because you don't need a guy to be truely happy...at least not when you still have time to find one) Wanting a guy, I thought, would make me feel complete. I wanted to know what love really was, or how it really felt (because as they say, you can't really know until you've experienced it) Girls want to feel special and maybe they want a little more excitement in their lives. Guys...you can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em :)
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Primarily blissful pleasure\n\nProcreation if you feel like it.
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Yep, it does feel good to rub your clit sometimes! You learn and know things about your body that others don't!\nIt'll never replace your man though!
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Nope, I think that feeling comes from not being happy with your current situation. Change the situation and you will feel fulfilled.
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when the things you used to enjoy (clubbing, partying, staying up till 4 in the morning, dating several guys) arent fun anymore. when you'd rather curl up with a good book and a glass of wine and have a quiet evening. when the guy you're with makes you feel like there are no other men on this planet.\n\nthat when its the right time to settle down in life
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This depends on the person and their belifes. I like liberated people, they tend to be more free and want to try more things. If you are liberated, you tend to try new sex things, new drinks, or just open to ideas. I don't like being with people who don't want to try anything new and grumble about everything we do.