In religions that say it's necessary to be a virgin till married, does this only apply to girls or boys too?
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It applies only to women because they will be property of the men.\n\nDon't be mad at me. This is not my belief, but the general expression of many religions.\n\nIn fact, the tradition of the bride's father paying for the wedding was started as part of a property trade agreement.  Fathers would often trade money and daughter's for livestock or land.  Usually, part of the agreement was the father would pay for his daughter's marriage ceremony.\n\n________________________\n\nILVHIM, modern western cultures do not believe in this becuase we promote equality for both sexes.  Her question had to do with ancient religions (and therefor customs) and not our modern culture.
667336
Well I am virgin. I do not know if I will wait until I get married but in most of muslam countries almost all girls wait until they get married. But I haven't heard a guy doing this. I would not like to marry a virgin guy but maybe some girls will find this cute.
131276
So weird but its true...asked an imam about it. Also also asked him if females who go to heaven deserve 72 virgins too and he answered no. So at least that answers about gender equality
738169
I married a 28-year-old virgin... and yes, she was still a virgin up until our wedding night.  Any woman who can hold onto her virtue that long in today's world deserves respect.
533119
If you are a Christian you won't have sex until you're married at which time it won't matter. It's basically up to the couple then if they want a baby or not. Nice try though but as I said a Christian would not have sex outside of marriage.
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1) Guys only marry virgins?  Not true.  Some cultures may still prize it and encourage their males to seek virgins for marriage, but not every culture is so narrow minded.  Historically, marrying virgins was the only known way to ensure a bloodline, and since hereditary laws, not to mention religious laws, supported the blood heir, it was imperative to do so.  However, now days we can do that through DNA tests, and our laws are not so archaic anymore.  Additionally, since so many marriages end in divorce - those women, being virgins no longer, are still getting married again.  So, to answer your question - NO guys do not just marry virgins.   \n2. Girls judge guys on any number of things, not solely on the size of thier manhood.  Are they funny, considerate, generous, hardworking, etc.?  After that, if the relationship becomes intimate, then we consider if the guy was actively considerate of our turn ons, not just his own.  How he uses his manhood is more important than it's size.  So, no, girls do not just judge guys on the size of thier penis.\n3. Older people certainly do know how younger kids think.  We were not always old.  If the kid is really talking to us and vice-versa - not just blowing each other off - we can even understand what it would be like to be young at this day and age.   \n4. This question is a bit extreme.  I believe that for some guys, sex is a daily thought process. However, as guys grow older they discover that they enjoy so much more in life and therefore think of sex less.  If a guy has no hobbies, no friends or family, work or other activites to engage thier mind, then they might spend more time on sex.  \n5.  This question is really a throw back to question #1.  Humans learn sexual behaviors by habit, practice and environment (what we are exposed to).  Girls are not immune to that - we know what we like and don't like.  It is still true today that guys are more likely to be sexually active than girls, and as such gain more experience.  However, the girls they are having sex with are gaining it too.  \n6. That too is an extreme statement and completely untrue.  It may happen more often than not, unfaithfulness, but it is not the standard that we should judge one another by.  Expect better, be better and you will get better in return.
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nope not a virgin, Not being a virgin is classified as penatration process. If it goes "in" your not a virgin anymore.
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In the bible it says that sex before marriage is wrong if there is no commitment between two people. "Marriage" as referred to in the bible is symbolic for a relationship/connection/love/commitment.\n\nThus you don't need to be married (literally) to have sex but you need to be committed.\n\nI feel that it is all about morals and there is no right or wrong. it's your own decision. Personally I believe that sex before commitment/love is wrong
865698
There is no obsession with female chastity in Islam. True you are to remain a virgin till you are married but that is for men and women. There are several reasons for this, but Islam is not the only religion that promotes staying a virgin till marriage. And as for walking several paces behind there husbands this is a cultural thing, I bet the people you see doing it are either Indian or Pakistani Muslims (not that im saying all are like that ). I walk with my husband taking his arm or holding his hand. I'm a British Muslim, and my husband is an Arab. There are many women out there oppressed and in abusive marriages, that aren't aloud to leave the house without there husband, who are beaten, who are prisoners in there own homes and they are not of any religious denomination at all.  So yes you are wrong to link them to Islamic culture, but they do occur in Islam just like in christian, Jewish, Catholic, Protestant and atheist homes and men who are bullies and women oppressors come from all walks of life, all religions, all countries, all cultures. In Islam women are repected and treated like gold by there husbands, in our homes its the husbands islamic dutie to help 50/50. I for one have never felt more safe and respected. Full face veils are worn by choice there is nothing in Islam that says you have to cover your face and the small percentage of women who do, do so by choice, they do it for God not there husbands.
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I have actually seen documentaries of people aged 14-20 where they ask the guys questions like: Do you want your future wife to be a virgin when you marry?, Or are you comfortable marrying a girl who has slept around?, etc. and the answer over and over again has been that they would like to marry a virgin.\n\nIt seems a lot of guys want to play around sexually before marriage, but will go looking for a "clean" girl when they are serious about settling down. \n\nA lot of very sexually active girls are in for a huge shocker when they want to marry.
132357
nope....its the last thing i would see in a girl. Well all of us relate virginity to being pure in sexual life but why not relate it also to her heart. Even if I marry a prostitute but she has a gem of a charecter I would still call her a Virgin!!!Of course no guy is pure in this world to say that my wife should be a virgin. All men know what they really are.
197908
i think it's good your still a virgin. I'm 25 and still one. I'm one who still believes you need to be married to have sex.
1165984
My fiance' and I are getting married in dec. and we are both still virgins and proud of it. We have saved ourselves until our wedding night. We did this to be honoring of each other and to be honoring of God.
525305
Sex before marriage is NOT allowed before marriage if you are a Christian.(which I am) and people that are not following Gods no sex before marriage rule are not real Christians. God does NOT force us not to have sex before marriage. You CAN do what ever you want. But if you are a real Christian you will follow Gods rules. But God IS NOT forcing you to do it. but if you do you are not a real Christian. just because someone or everyone does something bad does not mean you should. hope this helps and I hope you make the right decision and follow Jesus.
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dear mohammad i don't know where do you live,i guess you are in west,but your name says that you are muslim .i am muslim girl .in islam girl shouldn't have sex before marriage.of course we feel love and romance but our religion and traditions protects us from falling.it's a great protection for the girl and for her husband in the future who will be happy to be the first man touching her and will feel happy that this woman will bring up his children.and believe me this is not only in islam but also in christianity.the christ and the holy bible order people to stay away from sex without marriage but these morals have changed in the west due to ideas of liberity.liberity is very important for everybody but it doesn't mean making sins.God bless you daer friend and your future wife and protect your children from her.
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You sound somewhat like me a year ago. I don't have Christian values, but I valued myself enough that I didn't take sex lightly. I waited until I was 21 and would have waited longer if I had not found the perfect guy that I know I want to be with forever. Stick to what you believe and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. There is NOTHING wrong with being a virgin and waiting until you're ready to have sex. Worry about school, that's the most important part, not what your friends think.
647911
Yes, of course. I am willing to wait until I get married. A lot of my friends have lost their virginity two years ago or when we were 14/15/16 and they definitely regretted it. I told them not to but they didn't listen. But I guess it's just that most teenagers just do it to express themselves or release anger/frustration/sadness/whatever and they don't care what they are doing anymore.