My ex byfriend just showed up after 5months. But just wants to be friends? What is going on?
468415
He either finally got over it and wants to be friends or he wants to be with you again.
528983
I have been in the same situation 4 months ago.I went with my ex's friend.Let me tell you that did'nt work out!!!You will always have to see yor ex,and when he moves on to another girl,well that is just unbaerable.Find someone new and exiting.OUT WITH THE OLD AND IN WITH THE NEW!!!
591213
He's your ex, none of your business.  Being friends after relationship is hard enuff without adding something like this to it.  Just stay out of it and let him learn on his own.
276036
she was probably confused.  thinking what is she doing and then feeling guilty.  maybe she wasn't over him yet.  it took me 5 years to get over my ex.  this kinda stuff doesn't happen over night dood.  dont take offense.  just try to be a good friend and supportive. good luck!
144523
i can tell u im no expert in this area but i have some advice.try 2 bring up neutral topics(ur just meeting and u dont wanna spook him)never bring up your ex.u'll damage the relationship be4 it even starts.bottom line be friendly,natural and a little flirty.u want 2 get the message across that u wanna be more than friends.
647893
Why bother? You have lots of friends. This will just be a "complicated friend."  \n\nLife's tough enough. \n\nFriendly is fine (when you run into him on the street Hello/how are you?/nice seeing you/goodbye). But friends? Too complicated with an ex.
448023
I am sure she values your friendship.  I had one guy hang around for about 10 years as a friend, he heard about all my boyfriend stories, etc. Then one day, it happened, we got together and it was great until he used some bad judgement several times and it ended after an on again, off again 6 months. Since then, 5 years have passed, he still hopes we'll get back together, but it is harder to get along with him since that 6 months. He's angry and expects more. I liked it better when we were just friends, but his hope kept him around.  \n\nHis problem is that he had always set his expectations for a female partner too high.  He only wanted a hottie and was very judgementmental about a regular girl. If only he found a regular girl with a good heart, he would have been married by now and had the 2.2 kids.  She might be too hot for you, but having a hot friend isnt so bad.
1131431
There are two scenarios.  One she could be an incredibly jealous harpy who may be his ex but doesn't want him to date anyone else and is using their child as bait.\n\nTwo, you know him for 3 YEARS and hasn't been up front about your relationship to his ex.  At this point he should have introduced you to his ex and his child.  If he's not involving you in his life, what else is he hiding from you?   \n\nTread very carefully.  If anything I wouldn't be so friendly with him.  He may have a B****as an ex who you don't want in your life, but if you can't trust him, do you really want him in your life?
777436
He told you how he felt. You cant change or control him and thats what your trying to do. He was honest with you cuz you asked him to be. Theres nothing more to it, you are now broken up and have been so theres no more relationship. He doesnt have to answer to you for anything. He has every right to have a date if he wants just as you do. You are trying to control something beyond the break up and all that will do is prolong any hurt for YOU, not him. Move on and forget the friends thing for now. Maybe down the road but now you need to let go of it all.
287112
Because he is confused.   He doesn't know whether his old relationship is over, and he still has strong feelings for his ex-.\n\nDon't push hime, but let him know that you are there when, and if he needs you.
283105
wow i'm sort of in that situation now. not quite as far tho. well, didn't you two split for a reason? i think you should consider those reasons again and see how it might be different if you were to get back together again. another thing, he "bumped" into you. he didn't call you. could it be that he's trying to find an exit to his current unhappy relationship and he knows it's easy to get back with someone familiar? i would think hard before even allowing him back into your love life. to be on the safe side, it never hurts just to be friends. and don't ever seem too available. if he really wants you back, make him work for it! good luck.
80804
Because he is still in love with her. I apologize, but if the man is spoiling his ex then maybe you need to just be friends for now until he learns his lesson the hard way and comes back to the one good thing that he turned away...
897116
Really all you can do is go on your gut instinct.  I am good friends with my ex-fiancee.  We have been through a lot and even since we have broken up he has been there for me.  I am not interested in dating him, so I would imagine if this guy wants to marry you he really doesn't have feelings for his ex.  Plus you met him AFTER he decided he wan't interested.  A little jealousy is normal but I would not worry.
157443
Bide your time.  If he is the guy for you, time will reveal all.  Be his friend, but nothing more.  If he's right for you, he will realize what an awesome chick you are and that he wants to be with you.  It sounds to me that he may have got tired of waiting for you and that's why is with someone now.  But as long you stay friends, the better your chances of his realizing how right you are for him.
452711
Look, just because you and him didn't work out as a couple, doesn't mean that you can't just be friends. Me and my ex of 13 years just went out to the movies together today to see "Silent Hill", I paid, he drove. We hadn't hung out for 3 years! I gotta tell you though, we had a blast just hanging out and being friends. I bought lunch after at "Jack-n-the-Box", and he came over to my house to eat it. It was the first time he had ever come to see where I lived since we separated. We have a daughter together, and for her sake, we discussed it, and came to the conclusion that, even though we parted on bad terms, we could set that aside and be friends. She was very happy to know we were being nice to each other. I would never have an intimate relationship with him again, but as a friend, he is a very good guy and a wonderful daddy. Do what your heart tells you. You know in your gut whether or not it would be a good idea to hang out with him again. Just remember that ex'es are ex'es for a reason...it didn't work out. Friendships are always nice to have though if at all possible. Good luck sweetie.
1060458
They are an ex for a reason, move on.   \n\nTake care of yourself first, you dont' have to DATE NOW.
305678
Well, you clearly are not a good friend are you? We can all see that because you hurt your boyFRIEND, so can you honestly blame him? \n\nAdditionally, why do you want to be friends with your ex? Just because you used to date doesn't mean that when you break up, you will be friends. It doesn't always work that way, and given that you have hurt him, you can hardly expect to continue to be on good terms.\n\nI strongly suggest that you stop any efforts to befriend him, move on and try to be kinder to your next significant other.