i have a brother (classmate) who has to make a choice between me and his friend who is my enemy?whom shul he ?
459458
don't put him in that position . . . be his friend even if he is friends with your enemy
145402
I am the oldest of two children.  So I AM THE ANNOYING OLDER BROTHER!  growing up I did torment my little brother Daniel a lot.  But all he had to do was ask me to stop, and I did.  A brother has to be good. he has to show compassion and understanding.  An older brother also has to be a role model too.
169360
You shouldn't HAVE to choose between them. Tell them that the fight is between THEM not you and that you're not going to pick sides. So either kiss and make up, or just accept that you will have them both as friends.
88762
yes! I have the same situation with a brother.
736353
Say you chose him...duh!!!\nAnd really mean it that you dont like the other guy...
50861
First you have to tell your friend that you would really appreciate it if they dont ever bring over the person you dont like. And tell your friend why you don't like them and the reasons, so they can understand your point of view. ok
385710
You're wise to be careful, but there might be at leat one among them, who is sincerely interested in being your friend, ect. Seek him out,  even if you have to trick him to come forward.
1082360
Remember YOU always have a choice. Do not try to blame other people for your predicament, you are responsible in any event, including Karmic "revenge". Seize the moment! Take charge NOW and eliminate the "victim" forever!
472523
I am in that exact situation now.  I have 2 groups of close friends that hate each other and are constantly bitching about each other to me, who's stuck in the middle.  I deal with it by telling them I get on with all of them and I won't listen to them bitching about each other cos it is seriously annoying.  It's a hard spot to be in but if you get on with them all you have to stay on the fence.
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I would let your brother deal with her since you don't want her to come between you two.  That could potentially happen if you confront her directly and your brother picks her side.  Talk to him about what he is going to do about his wretched wife.  In answer to your other question people do sometimes change for the worse but usually they were bad to begin with and just hid it until they were comfortably ensconced.
976519
just let them two solve their problem than getting between the two of them. you'll be experiencing a lot of trouble if you would do that. maybe you could approach them if you were asked to do so.
227441
how many people would know that he is your bro? i'd find another guy to go with not a gir.
236890
If you've had a few arguments lately, see about the other guy.If you haven't, then just get to know the other.Become the others friend (just in case).
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Just  be honest with them and speak your mind.  Telling them why you disagree with what they are saying.  \n\nBut whatever you do, don't let either one of them influence your decision. Make sure what you are deciding is your choice and what you believe, not theirs.
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Ask either brother how the other brother would answer.  That answer is wrong, so take the other road.  \n\nReasoning:  \n\nIf you ask the brother that lies he will lie and tell you he brother will give you the wrong answer.\n\nIf you ask the brother that tells the truth he will tell the truth and give you the answer his brother would give you, the wrong answer.  \n\nEither way you know the road is the wrong one so take the other road.
607806
It sounds like they both need to grow up.  They are putting you in the middle of something that is between them.  Neither of them should be punishing you because you like the other.  That just isn't right.  You have the right to like whomever you please.  You all just need to sit down and talk about how you can all get along, or how each of them can have seperate time with you.  What they are doing is totally unfair to you.
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maybe you should tell them that you refuse to choose as they are both your friends and you value both of them and both friendships. If they are truly your friends they will see the position they have put you in and understand your decision. There is nothing worse is there than being stuck in the middle of a silly situation between people you care about. Friendships, good and lasting ones, are something to cherish, built on mutual love respect and trust for each other. If you can get them to see that I'm sure you will be able to work things out.Good luck sweetie