my girl is married and we live together  her man still provides for her    -am i 2nd?
470968
which universe do you live in?
556068
Holy crap you sound EXACTLY like me. Keep doing what you're doing. Sorry to all the wives out there, but you have no obligation to anyone except yourself. He's the married one, so he has to take responsibility for his actions if she finds out. Enjoy yourself. Life's short.
619091
No, she will still get child support.   I just got married and have two step-sons now.   The father is still required to pay his child support.
389620
Look in the mirror. You are looking at a married woman. Why did you get married in the first place if you weren't prepared for a commitment.  "I do" doesn't mean " until something better comes along". Forget this guy unless you are able to remain "just friends". I feel sorry for your husband!
937664
LET GO.  She is never going to leave him.  Why leave if she can have you both?  There's obviously something in you that she is missing from the other man (and vice versa) which is why she keeps you both around.  Aside from this, if she does leave him, how can you ever trust that she won't cheat on you when she gets "bored" with you?  I think you deserve much more than this.  Get out now and find a quality woman with more respect for herself (and for you) than to sleep with 2 men and deceive them both.  If you thought more of yourself, you would certainly not put up with this for another day.  You should demand more than to be "the number 2 choice" to anyone.
1043844
thats a thinker,\n i think i have a pretty good medium of the Cinderella story and equality, my fiance and i both work full time, we both clean our apartment (he probably cleans more than i do)\nwe both take care of our pets (8 of them) and yet he still does the little things, like bring me flowers or fix dinner for me, and i try to remember the little things also, like bring home his favorite movie, or fix him BBQ or Seafood (i hate both)\n\nthere can always be a good mix of both, you take care of each other, not just the man takes care of the woman
270214
i.and we been married for 4months ago and i already have a daughter before he entered in my life.and he accepted,treat her like his own daughter.isn't that so cool.
366902
That lady in there watching TV. We have been married 32 years so far. We are very lucky to have met at just the right time and place. But I believe there is no "right" woman just as there is no "right" man. I think you both just have to work at it.
1123706
Your daughter is the result of all that was good in your relationship, You may be right about depending on him...you need to stand on your own to feet and take care of your daughter in order establish a healthy relationship with another...do not, I repeat do not look for the same kind of man that will cause you to continue to be dependent on...good luck...all the love to get you thru such a crisis is in the eyes of your daughter.
391028
On course you can. At any particular time, your giving should not be conditional on getting. (In the long term, both partners need to learn and support each other's needs.)
128954
Well, It seems he is with her for benefits when you both have problems . He goes to her. It sounds little funny in the picture . unless if it was his sister or Aunt house to crashed in. Then u are fine but a woman with a married man staying at her house. It seems lot of benefits for him to get away from you.  I think u better get straighten out with ur marriage before it becomes uglier! So, be sure not to be a blind wife to let him be free from you.  U are stil his wife and u have EVERY right to know whats going on with ur HUSBAND. Remember the VOWS!
415152
I currently have two one is my husband and one is my girl friend
576170
Go for it.... But before you do make sure your affairs are in order, make sure your bills are paid. MGive your daughter to someone who thinks straight and will be alive to take care of her.  In rea;lity this man might be a rapist a killer-- but hey throw caution to the wind and see if you can be another another number.
294703
As hard as it seems, you need to leave him, because men never change.\n\nThere is a lot of good men out there that work for their money.  Those are the men that a woman should be with.  In my opinion men should be there to support the women, and if they can't do that, in some instances they can't, but they should atleast be able to support themselves.\n\nLook at it like this, you are just dating and he is doing this. . . . what happens if you are married?\n\nDoes he have a job?  Have you talked to him about it?  If you have and he is still doing it, then ask yourself "does he really love me as much as he says he does?" \n\nKatie
1055271
I've been married to my wife fo 10 years and we have had a girl friend for 3.  Its a moral thing, So for the record not wrong.
658541
Don't let her do it! She's taking advantage of you, and if she wants all that she should stay married to you! Obviously you're a catch and if she can only see that she might want to save the marriage:)
354421
buddy the last thing you want is for your woman to want you only for your money. look if she goes with the other chap well consider yourself saved. its hard but welcome to the real world. life goes on! cheers. there will be other women believe me.