What would you prefer, young marriage with no career or mid-30's marriage with a hectic career?
464658
mid-3o's with a hectic career. There's nothing wrong in a hectic career coz what is important is income for the family especially for kids.
660672
If you observe upper middle-class marriages of 10 years or longer, you will probably still find five kinds of marriages: (1) Conflict-habituated which is a constant battle over almost everything. (2) Devitalized in which the partners have lost their love and "drifted apart," i.e. they take care of the children but they don't fight a lot. (3) Passive-congenial where the partners have been apathetic all along, e.g. marriage was a convenience--or economic necessity--or they are more interested in careers or friends than spouses. (4) Vital marriage in which being together and sharing are the major joys in life. (5) Total marriage is like the vital marriage, except almost everything is done happily together. Obviously, marriage ranges from wonderful happiness every day--only 15-20% are vital or total marriages--to miserable on-going fights (or divorce). This should offer some hope of happiness to those who are unhappy...but a warning to young people in an already rocky relationship
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Marriage is definitely NOT boring. Marriage is a lot of work by both people to make a happy life together. Many people get married too early and realize they are not ready for the work it takes to make a marriage last a lifetime.
573955
No, not at all. I am 39 and I hv changed career thrice and all the time with grand success. It is all on a person's judiciousness about time and money management.
443521
As a child you have no real worries unless you come from a broken home.  As a teen you can party and discover your sexuality.  In your 20s you have a lot more control over your life.  In your 30s you have even more control, you know more stuff, and generally you are getting to the point when you can afford the nicer things in life.  In your 40s you can afford some nice things in life, but you probably have a lot more responsibilities such as kids.  In your 50s your body is starting to wind down and you now look old.  In your 60s your career is coming to an end and you are starting the process of dying.  After that look forward to health issues and death.  So take your pick.  Personally I think 25-35 is the best age group.
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I wish I *had* waited, if that helps. I think you're doing a wonderful thing, although I'm sure both choices can come with their regrets. A lot of people might say you will miss out on experience, and your married sex life won't be as fun. As long as you have great communication and honesty, you will have a good sex life once you are married. Good luck!
178146
no. it's a choice. I'm forty two and have never been married and don't have any children and i don't feel less of a person for it.
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IMO... our lives are much more complex than our equivalents from 50 years ago and thus it's more likely for married people to grow in different directions over time (values, needs, etc.). Add to that how easy and acceptable it is to get a divorce, and how quick we are to dispose of things that we no longer want, and you get an increasing percentage.\nI wouldn't be surprised if in the not too distant future the average length of a marriage drops to ~5 years and the average number of marriages per person increases to 2+.\nA parallel to consider: how many different circles of friends do you have and how often have you joined new ones and left others behind over your life? (grade school, high school, college, jobs, etc.). We are a nomadic species. :)
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CAREER WILL BE THERE WHEN THE LOVE LEAVES!!!!\nMY REAL LIFE EXPERIENCE
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i would marry an older man, but im only 24, and the thought of marrying someone who is 50 is a little weird. that might be a little too old. although the EXPERIENCE is intriguing....
583408
i would say it depends on WHY your getting married. My first two marrages were for medical benifits and for extra cash. i dont recommend getting married for those reasons but if it is becasue you are happy then go for it and i wish you all the best. i am only 23 and i am getting married because i want to..... and because i am happy and i know that i want to spend the rest of my life with the man i love. so yes i think 22 is early enough but quite a few ppl in here have some good answers. have you gone over your finances? and your goals in life, and i dont mean just talking about it in general but how your going to do it together and what you can do for each other to accomplish it. marrage is hard and takes a lot to make it work but it can be worth it. good luck!
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All I have to offer is experience...28 years of being married to the same guy. I got married at 20, had my first child at 23 and second child at 26. It really depends on the couple. Marriage, like parenting, is very hard, emotional work. If you're not up to the emotional part, stay single. I know people who got married younger than I and are still married. They worked through lots of hard stuff, but always stuck together. It's called commitment. Staying together through all the tough stuff...even adultery (eveything is forgiveable). You really have to think through why you want to get married, no matter how old you are. It's all about maturity and commitment. I told my husband to make sure this is what he wanted because I didn't believe in divorce...only murder!! So, if you're asking if it's ok to get married at a young age, I think you need to think long and hard about why, and talk about it long and hard with your sweetheart. If you've both considered all the good and bad, plus talked with a pastor, and your parents, then think about this information carefully. If it's something you're both committed to do for the rest of your lives, do it. Don't be another divorce statistic. <*)))><
420707
Well you can say one of two things.  One, you could say no if you would like a happy life when you are 30.  Or you could say yes, get married and tied down...have kids, it won't work out and by the time you are 30, you'll be looking for another guy.  Oh yeah, it's not so easy when you have kids from the previous marriage.  Plus, your body won't be the same after having the kids.  And, I don't think you'll have much of an education or work experience after getting married at 16.   Where did the last 14 years go you'll ask.
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It all depends on where you are in life. When I was younger, I enjoyed going out, being single, being able to do what I wanted, coming in at whatever time I wanted, flirting with who I wanted.\nNow, some years later, I am married with one child, and I enjoy all that married life has to offer. Comfortability, routine, security, passion, trust, etc. \nI just think it depends on where you are in your life.\n\nHope this helps.
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What does he like to do?  Remember... he doesn't have to pick a career now for the rest of his life.  I've chosen several different careers in my life since college (I'm now 45).  As we change, our interests and desires change.  Give him time.
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By the age of 30 you will be married with 2 kids.
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My husband was in a firefighter academy when we married. I had just finished my degree and was looking for work teaching preschool. We were planning to wait until he graduated and found work and that way we would have saved up some money. Our schedules were so crazy though, that we really missed time together. Ultimately, we decided that having a big fancy wedding and a nice expensive honeymoon was not what it was all about. We just wanted to be married. We had a beautiful small wedding with just close friends and family. Today is our 9 year anniversary and we are so happy. (Except that I am waiting for him to get out of traffic and get home!) Sometimes you have to weigh what is most important to you. We did not live together before we married either, and the best moment of every day was coming home to be together. Good luck to you!