why not no one stop a drug user mom to have any more kids ?
465911
they should but this will never happen...
968572
Because it works so rarely.  "A few cans short of a six pack " doesn't do it as some of the recent murder cases prove.  That woman who killed her kids, called the cops and told them she was saving them from the devil, had been committed several times and was under psych care, and she couldn't get off on an insanity defense, and she was clearly out of touch with reality. \nThe real question was, to me anyway, why did her husband get no time at all when it was he who insisted she have more children when it always sent her to a mental institution?
824824
It might sound drastic to her, but she must not have seen the parents and children we've seen. I think there should be some sort of law put into effect or something. My dad rented out his house to a couple that had 6 kids, the oldest one is 10, and the mom goes and whores herself out at a local truck stop for money, and she collects welfare and insurance from the state for all of her children, yet keeps getting pregnant...SHE SHOULD BE STOPPED!!!
671230
I think it's because the parent has lost control and can't stop themselves.  It's pure frustration, and it is sadly all too common.  These parents just need to learn how to control themselves and they will get the best out of their children.
117729
Using illegal drugs regardless of your condition or sex is criminal. However, a more severe punishment should be imposed on a woman who would subject her baby to illegal drugs or alchohol.  \n\nSure, I would entertain the idea of institutionalizing the mother until the birth if she is using illegal drugs....after that, she should go to prison.  The problem is, who is going to pay for that?  That's right, the taxpayer.  Again, the taxpayer has to take responsibility for the stupid things people do.\n\nAccountability is the number one lacking quality amoung many Americans today.  The fact that we as a society tolerate stupidity and irresponsibilty, is enabling these morons to continue making poor desisions, having children, doing drugs...etc.\n\nUntil we hold people accountable and responsible for their actions, there is no real solution.\n\nGood luck and take care.
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I agree...I am looking forward to my Daughter being home in march 2007 after 5 yrs for a crime *by association* with her brother and she worries about that too. My Son wont be home til 2028 (and he didnt kill anyone) all drug related my daughter let him live with her for 6 months and he was dealing from her home without her knowledge since she had a full time job and he wasnt home nights anyway she lost her 2 babys and now she is worried about getting a job and fighting for her kids but she knows it wont be easy, she dont think she could even go finish her cosmetoloy since you cant have any felonies ...anyway..i got way off track here , you know what i mean.
256358
Oh boy,So sorry to hear you are having so many problems with your wife!I have two children also.And I am pretty much trying to keep things together for them too.However,The hubby and I have had drug problems,also!As a matter of fact we are still trying to stay clean!And are on a maintenance drug,prescribed by our doctor to remain clean!We see are addiction specialist every month!And it helps a Great deal!                               Perhaps,you should talk to your wife and tell her she needs to get help with her drug addiction!Drugs are way eXpensive!Trust me!Are you sure that she's not spending ALOT of the money on them?Because once a person is addicted they will do anything to get the drugs they need!I know Alot of people addicted.And I even know people who have passed on due to their drug abuse.If it is just weed she is using that isn't as bad!I am talking about Hard drugs!Like CoCaine and Herione,and crystal meth,Etc.These drugs can make a person LOSE everything!Even their family's!I have seen it happen too many times!And it almost happened to me but 'thank-god'I have changed my ways!                      You really need to try to talk to her about getting help!Like a rehab or detoX,etc!At first she may be in denial.And say that she doesn't have a problem!Everyone says that.Until they hit rock bottom or something really bad happens.With some people that is what it takes to quit.Then again some people don't even quit then.They don't stop till their in jail or unfortunately in the cemetary!I don't know how bad your spouses drug problem is.                       I really need a little more detail.But,if it is bad.She definately needs help.You would also benefit with support groups.Or go to a narcotics anonymous meeting with her.Or perhaps counseling.How is she with your boys?I hope they do not know about her addictions.If you don't want to leave her,or divorce her, and take the boys.Then you should get her some help,and some counseling for the family.           I have been living with addiction for years now.And it's no fun!She may hate you for wanting to get her help.But someday she will thank-you when she is clean.This may be another reason she will not,or should I say can't work.It is almost impossible for a drug addict/alcoholic to keep a job!Trust me I know my hubby is a recovering addict!Who relapses constantly!                                        The disease consumes you.And it's almost impossible to just quit.Without professional help.I also know alot of people who abuse pain/anxiety medication prescribed to them,to the point that they can NOT function!It's dangerous.But they don't care!                                             Anyhow,I honestly think that if you tried to get her help,things might get better.But,if she cheats again I would be done.Please try not be so depressed,try to change this situation.And if you can't after trying to help her so many times.And giving her mutiple chances!Then take your boys and tell her if she don't clean her act up.That's it.You are taking custody of them.Because you and the boys would be better off.                                   Being a 'bored' housewife,is hardly a reason to cheat!She should be glad your supporting her and your boys!And that you give her money!To by drugs,shop,spend,and buy more drugs!And that you love her,and your boys enough to put up with all of this!Please,don't feel like this is your fault.I have seen to may people go through this,and I have been there myself.                                        It is the addiction,the disease.She may not ever be herself again until she admits to having a problem.Some people in denial never fully recover.And depression is to be eXpected when the both of you are dealing with all of this.Depression sucks!I have it too.I really suggest some counseling.the medication may make you feel a little bit better.Till you get this all str
140488
You are not alone. I will pray for you to find the strength to be the kind of person you know you can be, loving, caring and giving. I pray that you can overcome your addiction to drugs, that are clouding your vision of being a loving mother. Remember God is with you at all times. Please pray for me also. God Bless You and keep you safe.
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Sometimes the living situation of the mother and or the history of her living like drug use lack of jobs or work placement and just not a structured home for times of home visit possiblemistreatmentof the children violence alcohol abuse and many other reasons \njail time, seedy boyfriends, I would recommend you get a list from your local social affairs dept. and one from family affairs some Law offices may have info on this as well.
67079
Oprah doesnt have any kids except for the one that died, and she doesnt want any biological kids.\n  She does however sponsor a lot of kids in Africa she calls them her "kids" and they call her "mom".
451184
there should be less and it keeps getting worst... don't they learn at school to f... use a condom and protect themselves??.. not only because of pregnancy but mostly because of aids and all that... there's so many small children that end up coming to this world infected because their mommy and daddy didn't take the time to protect each other... that pisses the hell out of me... \nparents should take responsability too... teach and talk to ur kids about it.. this can be provented!!
628532
Unfortunately, there is strong and heated debate with little headway.\n\nSome would argue that this country supports poor ( needy ) families that seem to bring more children, and needs upon themselves.\nMany of these families make a strong case against themselves when they abuse help programs by claiming more children than they have, working cash jobs and collecting, selling food stamps for drugs while their children are not fed.\n\nStill others will claim that it is not ethical to suppress a humans most inherent instinct, to procreate.\n\nThere is far too much drug abuse and careless sex, resulting in unwanted or unmanageable pregnancies. Still many of the young expectant mothers are entitled to aid, especially when a child is involved. The new parents find there is income with the child and keep it. Far too often the income does little or no good for the child.\n\nI do not think you are crazy, I do think we need far more sophisticated checks and balances.
549920
One of the best guys I know used to be a huge stoner and is still known to light one up from time to time but the the guy is one hell of a father and he would never run out on his kids. Every one is different you could have a normal non-smoking nice guy run out on his kids and kill a hooker. You could have a stoner go nutts and kill everyone. I don't agree with what a lot of you people have said you pass judgment when you don't ever know the people. It's the person not the drugs they do or the wrong they have done in the past. Everyone has a few problems or bad habits so none of you can say that the guy would be bad with his kids because of a bad habit. If he is a good guy then he will be a good dad.
571935
Excessive drug use and inbreeding.
1161744
Well, her life is repairable if she gets help for real.  I have seen alot of addicts and they bounce back with relapses of course, but they finally get that drug taste out their mouth and they had enough of it.  \n\nAddition is such a stronghold and Whitney needs to realize that and Bobby is not the one to blame.
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IT IS MURDER TO ABORT AN INNOCENT CHILD.\nTHE GUILT WILL EAT AWAY AT YOU.\nMY COUSIN STACY HAD 3. SHE LATER TURN TO DRUGS AND BOOZE TO FORGET THE MURDERS SHE COMMITED AND ALSO TRIED TO KILL HERSELF..
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Let me echo the previous answerer.  If what you describe is true, you have an addict and an emotionally unbalanced woman responsible for a child.  You should intervene any way you can.  Whatever agency where you live handles the welfare of children should be notified and an investigation begun.  If you have the resources, you may want to consult an attorney to see what action you may be able to take.