Why I would allow my son to be part of the decision to reject or accept a gay scout leader.?
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see,firstly, it would help your son to decide for himself what is good or bad for him. also, since in the process, he will have you in confidence, he may share the experiences with you and subsequently,you may be able to guide him much better then.
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Oh, definitely not.  It's all just a matter of perspective.  If this is a question which reflects your own concerns for "coming out", then listen up.  If not, listen up anyways.  \nNobody has to explain their sexuality to anyone, or try to modify it to please anyone but themselves.  If someone is afraid of what their father might think of their homosexual tendencies then they need to take a breather and think it through.  Try to gently approach the subject.  They need to show their paternal caregiver that they are happy with who they are, and that he needs to accept that this is the life given to his daughter.\nIt also depends on who one's father is.  What his beliefs are, and if he can make a exception for his daughter, which he should, seeing that she's his daughter.  A father should be able to put all hands aside and love his children for who they are, despite his religion, or traditions, or opinions.  Of course, this is hard, but he can still carry his identity all the while supporting his child.  It doesn't make him a hypocrite, it makes him a loving father.\nNot all fathers have disastrous relationships with their lesbian daughters.  That's just a stereotype that is long outdated and whoever made it a stereotype should be shot.  People need to accept all sexualities, religions, races different than their own if we want to attain peace in this world.  \nAnd if a father doesn't approve of his daughter fucking other girls, than he's going to have to get used to it.\n\nLove can conquer a heck of a lot.  Just remember that ;)
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I am not liberal or a conservative, but I do think that it is wrong to teach children that there is a difference in peoples sexual preferences.  Children at that age should not know anything about what adults do.  I know it is hard to keep them from hearing everything, but there is no reason to put it right in front of them.  The schools should teach acceptance of all people despite race, gender, etc.  I think that in this day and age it is hard for us to protect our children from all the harsh realities of life.  Your son will be exposed to this at some point in the future but it is up to you to teach him what you want him to know.  And, you have to be ready for your child to make his own decision on how he feels when he is older.  His best friend may end up being gay or something you don't like.  I think that you have every right to raise your son how you want to, but you need to be ready for him to rebel in some way, or to just not have the same convictions as you.  I know that my parents are proud of me even though I don't have the same beliefs as they do.  My parents never tried to force their beliefs on me, but they did try to influence my decision by telling me what they thought was right.  \n \nDon't try to understand the agends of the political world.  The basic thing is to make the other guy look bad so you will always look good.  It is all a bunch of crap anyway.  Go with your feelings and forget the rest of the junk.\n\n\nI would also like to ask a question:  Why does being gay have to be an issue?  Is a gay person not still a person just because he is gay?  Why do we have to fight over gay rights?  I thought that as a person we already had all the rights we needed to be allowed to live.  " the right to life, liberty, and the persute of happiness"  How does being gay change those rights?  If being gay is what makes a person happy then they have the right to be gay without being treated differently.
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That could be the reason he isn't coming out, because he is afraid or cautious about what people might say or do. I personally don't flaunt the fact that I'm gay, because it isn't so widely accepted in some areas. Just be supportive of his decision, and he will come out if he wants to.
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The whole point is that we are suppose to be tolerant of other peoples free agency. We have the choice to choose, are we suppose to take that choice away from others just because we think it's wrong. NO! You might also alienate family or loved ones and make it impossible to reach out to them later. Lead by example. Members that are invited will understand and besides if they judge then they are in the wrong. Just do as your conscience dictates. That is the Holy Ghost guiding you. This is a small thing in the whole scheme of things. Go and have a wonderful day.
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I think any time you can put a child in a permanent, loving and nurturing home, then you should. Who cares what the sexual orientation of the parent are if they can love and provide for the child. And no, I don't think the child will end up homosexual because of it.
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Never ask yes or no questions.  Let your son know that when he is ready to talk, you will be there.  I liked an idea that someone else had, play a game with him. Sometimes kids open up when you are not wanting answers from them.
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No way.  Not this close to the elections.  I don't trust any of these "religious leaders".  They just scam money out of old people.  I also hate hypocrites.  If he really is gay then why not just admit it?  Gay people who hide in the closet and spout off a whole bunch of anti-gay sentiments make my blood boil.  I love it when the gay community "outs" these hypocrites.
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Make an issue out of the single sex status of the other school.  Tell them you have ethical/religious issues with single sex schools and you will not stand for your son having to go to of those.  Not sure how to do that but it's food for thought.  Good luck.
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If you love God. and being Gay doesn't come between you and the spirit of God then you may go to heaven.I allow it. If you get there and they say no. no admittance, then you tell them to talk with me about it I will have a long talk with them OK?ands that reminds me.who came up with this Jumbo shrimp thing, that's like saying  military intelligence in one sentence, they don't go together. and if your gay and molest very  young children like a man did to me. then you should get a death sentence.as a straight person should also.Peace
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"The Gay Agenda" ? Have not read it nor have I ever seen it...interesting though. However, I am Gay and have been with my Partner, registered as we live in California,  for 10 years. Our agenda is to raise our 9 year old son, who is, by the way,  an honor student for all of you right wing crackpots out there,  and be a happy family. We work, do laundry, homework, take vacations, cleanhouse, spend time with Grandmas, Grandpas, cousins, Aunts and Uncles...not really exciting as far as an "agenda" goes. I'd say it's pretty much the same agenda a heterosexual family would have...I was raised in one you know.
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yes it can and if you dare try to get into boy scouts as a gay teen you will be rejected and alot of other organizations      as an adult it can prevent you from lots of jobs and social activities because of closed minded people             you may as well keep on lying or start now
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You know your son. You know if he respects you as the authority figure he truly honors. You know in yourself if pleasing you is important and disappointing you is something he really does not want to do. If that is the case, as much as you are tempted, don't spy on him. Be ready in any case to intervene should things get inappropriate, if they do. On the other hand, if the relationship with your son is strained and he does not appreciate his parents, then the battle is already lost. If you move to spy or stop him, then he'll move the activity somewhere else where you are not.
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hi Karon.....  my advice......find out who the lad  is, then go up to him and  introduce yourself as such snd such's mum and  you  heard  that he liked  younger  children to play  with....suggests  that  he  goes  and plays with lads of his  own age or  you'll come and  speak to him again....speak to him in a  way thats  slightly intimidating ...dont issue direct threats as he will play on this...  but  do it in such a  way that he'll suss  what  you mean ...if  he  plays  up  with your nice chat, then invite him round to your  house where he  can play nicely ....  failing  that .....  go  and speak to  your lads teacher ( i take it this is  happening  in and around  school) and  say  you want something done  about  it.... if that doesnt work ...  make an appointment  to see the head  and ask for the schools anti bullying policy to be explained and then  explain about whats happening to your  son .. ....  if  all this  fails to  produce results  in a  couple  of  weeks ... take  it  to the local education authority .\ngood  luck
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well congratulations On being so accepting of your son being gay!!  The world could use more mothers like you! as long as you are accepting then I really don't see anything wrong with it!!, but I would pull them aside and tell them just that!! Congratulations on being a really cool, mother you seem to be the best!  \n\ncongratulations on your new business you really must be excited I wish you the best of luck and continued susses on your new venture!!!\n\ntell your son and employee I wish them well in their relationship
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Of course they do not control Boy Scouts. However, the church has always been a very strong supporter of the program. I could also believe that there are 30,000 LDS troops because all young men are encouraged to participate in the program. \n\nAs to not allowing athiests or gays, it would be the Boy Scouts of America that makes the ultimate decision. If you are somewhat familiar with the program, however, it has a religious component to it and therefore, having an athiest in charge may defeat part of the purpose. Since it is an all male organization and in light of the many recent scandals involving male leaders and boys, it makes sense that there is some concern about putting such a person in a situation where they would be alone and unsupervised for long periods of time. \n\nThis, of course, is only my opinion and my way of trying to see the logic of the situation. I mean no offense to anyone and do not mean to insuate anything about anyone's ability to control themselves.
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Ok, so the thing about Mormons is that they will put up with a lot just to get someone to convert. They are overly friendly and since most boys who are on a mission are still virgins, and well, still male, they can't help but have attractions, even to those that they are trying to "help". Maybe he did like you but my guess would be that he was disapointed that you didn't convert but Mormons are..well, determined and it takes a lot for them to give up. And as judgmental as they are sometimes, they don't give up on non-members either. They really believe in their mission and that they are doing the right thing and that there is hope for everyone. I'm sure he did get a little frustrated after you had attended and he wasn't getting through to you, but my guess would be that he still doesn't want to give up on you. I'm sure he was attracted to you and really hoped that he could covert you. That is the whole purpose of their missions. Maybe he was disapointed because he knew that he couldn't get to know you any deeper than he already does, because you are not LDS. And I'm not sure what to tell you as far as getting over him, because i'm not great at getting over crushes who are beyond my reach either. I am glad however, that you were unwilling to give up your faith just to make him happy. Actually, Mormons dislike it when people go to church just for them, which happens often. My friend who is a faithful Mormon has that happen a lot. Guys go to church with her a few times just so they can sit next to her and spend time with her. They feel even more disapointed about that then almost anything else, except maybe converting someone to their church. \n\nLastly, i want to say, I have noticed how many gorgeous Mormon boys there are and I know what it is like to crush on an LDS hottie. You are not alone in that. Just stay true to yourself and love God and your son and the guy that He has set for you, will come along and he will believe the same way you do and love your son....