I need advice from a guy, please?
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I think he likes you, why would he want to make you jealous if you like him?  Selah.\n\nPeter
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I really think YOU should talk to him, guys love that!!!! Trust me, especially since you know he likes you too. Go for it!
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then how about asking your friend to help you out....? you could ask her to try to jokingly ask him about being with you or how he feels about you? its better if you get a guy to ask about it because usually guys then to answer more honestly to the same sex....
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WARNING. THIS THREAD IS FULL OF AWFUL ADVICE.\n\nMan to man, let me give you a very important piece of advice. Do NOT ask women about how to deal with women. Women do not want what they say they want. They may think they hate anticipation, but they secretly thrive on it. Anticipation and unpredictability are good. (Although, I think the line about "I wanna ask you out, but right now am not in the mood" is awful - please don't use that.)\n\nThey're probably going to give me thumbs down for this, but I'm telling you from experience, it's the truth. Again, the two points to take from this:\n\n1. Anticipation and unpredictability are good\n2. Don't trust what women SAY, trust how they RESPOND\n\nSorry ladies, I love you, but the guys who actually follow your advice end up being the guys who are too wussy to get a girl.\n\n[See, there go the thumbs down already! Don't believe em, bro! I'm looking out for you.]
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i can relate to this.\nwhat i suggest is that you try to open up a bit. it's hard, and takes time, but if you become more outgoing, he won't be too intimidated if he was too approach you. in situations like this, it's YOUR turn to make the first move. start small talk, ask him how his day has been, smile (rather frequently), and just don't think about what you're gonna say. let it out. a friend of mine suggested this to me, and it worked, i suggest you try this yourself. usually if he's staring at you, he in fact, DOES like you.\nyou go girl, get out there and get that guy ;D
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hey mama I am in the exact same position and my guy friend has mentioned he hates when girls make the first move so I am petrified to tell him, I feel like I have to wait for him to come to me. But he is probably thinking the same as you. Whenever drink, stuff happens and I usually spend every day with him and we do everything together. Work out together, party together, occasionally sleep together the whole 9. Whenever we need anything, we're the first ones each other calls. If you figure this out- lemme know!\nLauramr015@yahoo.com
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You know I see so many of these types of questions on here. Many people are saying, "Just tell him" or something to that fact. Well, I am sure you already thought about that. But nerves or other things are stopping that from happening. Let me offer another approach. I'm not saying its better or anything. Its just another way of telling someone, "Hey look at me" or as they say in Great Britain, "I fancy you."\n\nBasically, try to spend sometime with him doing anything. In fact, just spending time with him will either tell YOU its more then just a crush or he's not right for you in other ways.\n\nSo how do you go about doing this? Well, lucky for you, men like to do things. Find out what they are, tell him your interested in learning that certain activity and get him to teach you. Men love teaching women how to do stuff especially stuff we like to do. Even offer to pay him for his time. He will more then likely reject your offer for payment. First sign of a good guy. Another idea is find out his schedule and "run" into him a few times. Then one day carry a bunch of stuff and run into him again. He will ask to help you carry them and you can start from there. Again, another sign of a good guy.\n\nSeems elaborate isn't it. Well, you can always just go and tell him.\n\nBest answer, here I come!   :-)\n\nGood luck.
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Wait a couple of days.  Call him back and tell him  that you totally freaked out and didn't know what to do.  just be honest with him.  guys don't like drama, and stuff like that.  just be up front with him.  I was up front about a guy and we have been together for almost 10 years.  So just wait a couple of days, then call and talk to him.  i mean what is the worse that he can say right?  Good Luck and go get em.
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Well the advice I would give you is to take the intuitive and ask him out. Nowadays a woman doesn't have to sit around and wait for a guy to make the first move. Go after what you want and you may be pleasantly surprised. Good Luck and Blessings.
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If you want to explore the possibility of a relationship, go for it.  Nothing flatters a guy more than for a girl to make the initial approach.  You think you'd feel stupid?  Guess what!  We feel exactly the same!  Makes ya wonder how in the world people manage to get together as couples, don't it? LOL!\nBy now you've noticed something about him that makes him interesting, so there's your opening line.  Like, for instance: "Hello, I'm Susie.  I noticed you play field hockey.  What's that like?"  Then listen.  If he talks only about himself and does not get around to asking about you, then he's a touch too immature for a relationship.  But that may take awhile; guys tend to go on at length about what interests us.  Yes, we do talk about girls a lot, too - in the locker room where there're guys eager and willing to believe our lies, in hopes that we'll grant them the same courtesy!  At least - that's how guys behaved back when I was a young warthog!  Um - no, you need not know how long ago that was!
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Tell him! Guys can't read your mind. You've got to just lay it out on that table. "Hey, I like you. Do you want to hang out sometime? I could give you my phone number if you'd like."\n\nYou could even write him a note if you're too nervous to tell him. The worst he can do is say no, and if he doesn't realize how awesome you are, he's not worth being with anyways. Good luck, dear! :]
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Well, the advice I would give to myself if I had this problem(which i have had before) is to go for it! Tell him in person that you likr him and you hope he likes you to. I have alot of guy friends and they all come to me for advice on girls. They all say they hate to get notes from someones best friend asking them out. They love girls who are brave enough to ask them themselves! And if he says no then at least you know and you can try to move on!! Keep in touch and tell me hoe it goes. sammie_robison@yahoo.com
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Tell him the truth.  Just say "hey, I think you're a great guy, but I really don't think you're the right person for me.  I want you to be happy, and I want to be happy. I don't think I'm happy right now; but that is not your fault.  Like I said, you're a great person, but just not the great person I want to be with."
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Yeah, he's worth being friends with. Put yourself in his shoes - who would you pay more attention to, her or him? I'm assuming you're a guy here.
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I've started and deleted this a couple times and thought about what to say to you, but am having a hard time.\n\nI can't map in for some reason, so I apologize if my response is a scatterbrained collection of thoughts.\n\nOn one hand I hesitate because you don't want to be his 'mom'.....coming to rescue him.\n\n1st....he may not feel good about being rescued by a woman. I'm not taking a shot at you or anything....I happen to be open to someone helping me if I need it, but I don't think (most?) men warm up to that......unless they are insecure, and then you don't get a man for your partner, you get an adult momma's boy.\n\n2nd....he may not like a woman coming on to strong. He may regard your advances as just that, and regard it as another element to deal with.\n\nIf you've offered coffee, and other such things and have been turned down....that's male communication for.....'thank you, but not now'.\n\n3rd He may have an ego......one that may preclude him from admitting to himself that he needs help at all.\n\n:)\n\nMen like to tackle things completely (most of the time I think) and then move on to the next issue to deal with. It's possible that you are on the 'list'...so-to-speak. I'm sorry for making you sound like a line item. I don't think that, but for brevity I phrased it that way...and to help illustrate what I'm saying.\n\nIt's also likely that whatever he's going thru is deeper than you realize and it requires all his attention. Men (most) are somewhat single-minded and throw a lot of attention on one problem at a time, depending on what it is. This could be one of those situations.\n\nHe may regard the starting of a relationship...even a new friendship right now to be a taxing endeavor that he just doesn't want to deal with.\n\nI'd say that if you've made the offers.....then take stock in that......he knows.....he knows you're there. Don't be pushy.....we men really, really don't like that. I can speak for myself on that one....lol.\n\nDon't keep asking him for coffee....he'll just think you're a pain or think you have stock in Juan Valdez (geeze is he still around?) or something....lol.\n\nThe best thing to do is be a friend. Don't be a pain, don't be annoying and just hang.....being helpful to HIM won't be your idea of 'helpful'. And if you want to ingratiate yourself to him...you will have to figure out how you can be helpful to HIM. Do you know what I mean? That may just be being an ear for him if he wants to talk, sending him some jokes on the internet.....whatever.\n\nDon't be selfish with what you want.....do what is best for him right now.\n\nHope that helps....a little anyway. I hope it works out.....send me a wedding invitation....k?\n\n;)
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Ok blue, i know how u feel, so talk to him about your feelings. A guy friend of mine liked me but i didnt cause i just like him as a friend, just like what ur going through. It sucks i know, but i went up to him and asked him if we can talk and so i told him i dont have the same feelings for you. Plus ask him if he is willing to put your guy's friendship on the line if u guys go out, you know what i mean? You guys are probably good friends, right? I know u dont want to loose that,so let him no that. Speak ur mind and he should respect that no matter what.
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be happy for him and tell him he hopes it works out. Never act desperate. Let him go. Guys will always come back. Act as if you don't care. That's what you should do.