I get upset that my boyfriend looks at certain magazines?
457958
He may like the articles, but he is looking at it for the pictures too.  I wouldn't get upset with him though.  He is only looking, and it doesn't mean that he feels any different about you or that he is looking for someone else.  It is mostly fantasy.
860117
Sounds to me like he needs to check his homeboys. Sounds like homeboys are jealous. If your boyfriend is that insecure when it comes to your whereabouts then he needs to spend less time with the homeboys and more time with you and tell his so called homeboys to stay outta your business.
518821
Don't be so foolish. It is quite natural for your son to be doing this to himself, it is how he learns about his body. Don't let him know that you know, give him privacy.\n\nI don't know what the magazines are you talk about but asume they are adult books, it won't hurt him to look at them.\n\nIt is better than going outside the home to discover himself.\n\nYou do not need to call the police, if you did they would more than likely laugh at you.
182291
he's immature. good thing you're not with him anymore. you deserve someone so much better than tnat. just imagine shopping. think of him as a dress with a stain. there is no way that you should buy a defective stuff. he's like that... DEFECTIVE. so forget about him and date someone who's worth your time!  \n\ni know it's quite differnt from your situation but i used to date someone so immature. i dumped him and today, i'm so happy in love with my current BF! ;)
54816
Yes. I have a small collection of pornographic magazines hidden in my cupboard (underneath the body of my dead landlord), I'd be mortified if anybody ever found them.
717985
cheating was wrong. and you were right to make him earn your trust back. But i would not get to bent out of shape about porn. It IS just looking with no personal contact. Besides 90% of men in America look at porn, the Internet is just a new way to get it instead of buying magazines in a store. But if you are really uncomfortable as you sound i would seek couples counseling to see what is going on. It will help more than you know.
260825
you need to let him know that him checking out other gurks makes you feel insecure.he is a man he know no better. but he needs you to let him know what bothers you. i truly think he does love you. i dont think he tries to upset you, but he probably doesnt know he is hurting you. you need to let him know that you do so much for him and in the end it feels like he is disrespecting you and doesnt appericate what you do for your relationship. after you talk with him face to face im sure things will get better for you two, if he truly cares. just dont let him keep treating you bad because he will take it for vantage.\ni hope things work out for you hun and hope i hope my advice worked for your relationship.
806197
OMG the exact same thing is happeneing to me! Plus, my boyfriend won't tell me what he wants, and I know hes getting me something nice. =/ I might get him a cool CD player or a portable DVD player... i dont know, the seem a bit expensve... whatever. If i think of something i will let you know.. =) lol
657602
I had a similar boyfriend like you do - it is not as if he was stingy, he was just lazy, ignorant, and didn`t care for my feelings. After some time, we broke up, but I never did forgive him for not buying me b-day presents - it is not the present that is important, but the fact that the person who doesn`t buy ones have some deeper issues and doesn`t really match with my picture of ideal partner. You`ve been together for some time,I see,but better leave him now because he will never learn this lesson.Find another that will treat you nice! You deserve it, be aware of that!!!
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My boyfriend said it arouses him.  I think its sick but who am I to judge?
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I read somewhere that you need to attack the problem, not the person.\n\nJust ask him what his real opinion is, and so that he feels it is safe to do so, promise you won't get mad or emotional and that you just want to know so that the two of you can fix any mis-understandings or problems. He needs to promise the same. Both of you stick to your side of the bargain. Fix the problem rationally and calmly, don't use the occasion to see who's to blame.\n\nI'm not telling you to suppress your feelings for ever. Just that you're both now playing the role of an analyst, not the patient. Analyse and fix the problem rationally, then go back to real life.\n\nThere's no need to deal with an emotional problem in an emotional way, just deal with an emotional problem in a logical stp-by-step way. Once you know what the real problem is, as opposed to what you think it is or what you think it all means based on past problems or experiences, you now have a good diagnosis that you're both agreed upon.\n\nArmed with the correct diagnosis, you're now in a position to fix the problem, by yourselves or with the help of friends or by asking more questions on here or by seaching for articles on the whole problem or small parts of the problem.\n\nYou can use this technique regard to the trip. Ask him whether he wants you to go (at all, on your own, or together). Men have fears too. Does he have some mis-guided suspicion that you're meeting someone? (let him tell you, but don't ask him).\n\nOn the subject of shopping, men and women think very differently and a woman's shopping style where she sees how she feels/looks in each dress is just 'dithering' to a man. He needs to learn what's expected of him (tastes, compliments, etc). Asking him for opinions on dresses and things that he has no opinion on just does his head in. Give the poor man a break. Just because he has no knowledge of color co-ordination or the names of fabrics, doesn't mean that he doesn't love you anymore.\n\nA man's shopping style is quick and decisive, just 'That's nice, I'll have it'. Done in 2 minutes.
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I know how ya feel, I've had girlfriends who were the same-I got in trouble if I "looked" at a woman! To be honest, he loves you & is afraid of loosing you, It's what ya call "insecurity".
976719
Its not your fault, he is looking for excuses and you are the one he is blaming.  I dont have a problem with men or women looking at porn, but when it takes the place of intimacy between the two of you then I consider it a problem.  You shouldnt have to have sex with him in order for him to stop looking at porn, he is looking at it anyway, so nothing you can do and have done has been able to stop him.  If your sex life with him was enhanced by his looking at porn it would be a totally different matter, but its not.  It sounds to me like sex to you now is a duty rather than being a pleasure.\n\nI think this man has a problem and you are taking his problems and placing them on your shoulders.\n\nI dont know what the answer is because you have done and are doing everything and he is still blaming you for an unsatisfactory sex life.  What is he doing....is he comparing the women he sees in the pornography with you?  If that is the case it is wrong.  He has to stop it.  You need to tell him that his watching pornography is getting in the way of a healthy sex life, and you need to tell him straight that its not you who has the problem, its him.\n\nWhilever you accept the blame for his shortcomings, he will continue to treat you like this.  Its seems you are doing all the doing and he is doing nothing to cement your relationship.  If I were you I would just tell him straight, tell him if he doesnt enjoy sex with you and would rather watch porn then it is a waste of time having sex.  Turn it around on him,  make him feel "bad" for a change.  He is having it all his own way and what are you getting out of it?.....A whole lot of stress.  You probably do not feel attractive, sexy or even worthy.  You have to stop lowering yourself in trying to make him happy.  Its called reverse psychology.  Withdraw the sex totally and see how he likes it.  Tell him if he is not satisfying you and all you feel now is having sex with him is a chore and you wont do it any more.  You could even go as far as telling him that if he doesnt find you attractive and he is not interested in satisfying you, then you are sure their would be plenty of men who would.  Take the hard line with him.  He's got you over a barrel...he is blaming you for the lack of intimacy.  You are doing everything right, yet it is still not good enough for him.  Hes just a selfish SOB and you need to tell him that.  Your needs are just as important as his needs, so stop seeing yourself as inferior to him.  You are his equal.  Yeah, maybe you do have some insecurities, but I bet if he loved you like he should your insecurities would slowly disappear.  I believe your insecurities are being made worse by his behaviour.  He needs to take some blame in all of this because I honestly think he is the one who is more to blame.  He is the one who is making you insecure.  Stand your ground with him, be strong.  Stop pandering to him all the time.  Be strong and make him accept his part of the blame.\n\nYou deserve much better than this, you really do.
755405
I understand how you feel, I get really upset with my husband when he looks at prn too. And I confront with it and we sometimes get into bad fights.
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It is not your responsibility to store his stuff for him now that he's used them up. Tell him as nicely as possible how it has annoyed you somewhat but you didn't want to say anything, but for him to please stop doing it, and if he gets offended... not your probs! :)\n\nlol... you might even try pulling the same trip with something that you enjoy but he doesn't, just as a gentle example of how it feels.
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He is in the wrong in this situation. It is not your fault that your mom got in the middle of something an could not control her words. If he is mad at you for something as small as this then he is not worth it. Even if you do love him, he does not have the right to make you feel bad like this. just make sure that his cuz understands that it was not you. You also have to remember that you are a strong, beautiful woman and the he should be honored to even be friends with you! :)
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I think that it is cheating as well. Like you I am in the same boat. At first I was very angry and upset and so I asked other people if I was over reacting. The thing that sucks is that every one has their own opinion. I was getting different answers from them all. I say once you have seen one you have seen them all and there is no point to wanting to look elsewhere, otherwise what the heck are they with us for, just a recepticle? I am in a predicament my self but with strip clubs and porn so don't feel all alone. Keep your chin up and try to work on a resolution and compromise. I hope this helps a little to know that you're not alone. Just so you know if you let it continue to bother you it will become a trust and respect issue. So don't badger him to change because it won't work.