What do i do about my parents being against me being in the military?
460107
My parents were against it too when I wanted to enlist.  There is a better way to be in the military and get school paid for.  Join ROTC.  That's what I am doing.  I wasn't able to get on scholarship right away, so I took out a student loan for the first year of college, and now I am on scholarship, so they pay my tuition and fees, $300 per semester for books, and depending on what year you are in school, you can get between $300-$450 per month allowance.\n\nIf you enlist, yes, they will pay for college, but not until after you have served.  And I can completely understand where your parents are coming from, especially if you're thinking of the Marines.  Being in the Marines is definitely more dangerous than being in any other branch of the military.\n\nTalk to the ROTC recruiters at the college you are planning on attending, you might be able to get on scholarship right away.  That way you get the respect and discipline of the military, and you get school paid for, you have a relatively high-paying job right out of college, and you don't have to worry about ending up in Marines infantry.
869080
You should know this: Follow your change of command, Soldier!\n\nIf that fails, go to see an army lawyer--not the MPs.  (It's like going to police, when you should be going to see a lawyer).  The military attorneys will have protocols to follow while protecting your rights (possibly your privacy).
822558
Honey, I have been there.  I had a 7 pm curfew on weekends when I was 17 years old.  Tell your parents to trust you and if you do anything wrong, then they can take all rights away again.  You can't do no wrong until you try something.  Tell them that you are a levelheaded  responsible 16 year old and that you would like to win their trust, but you won't be able to if they keep you hidden and secluded.  Tell them you will grow up and move away.  Tell them that you will live a sheltered life and it is not good for your health.  Tell them your true feelings and make them listen.  I feel so bad for you because I was there.  Then I turned 17 and moved away from home, had my own apartment while I was a senior.  I had a full time job, gymnastics practice and school.  I did just fine and it taught me how to be mature.  I am not telling you to take off, but I am telling you to talk to  your parents because they may not understand your TRUE feelings and how you want to hurt yourself.  Just think, you will be 18 in a little bit and you will be able to begin your life the way you want and be your own boss.  Don't hurt yourself, because in all honest, it is not worth it.  Talk to the parent you are closer too!  I feel for you, I have been there.  Then I moved to FL.  I moved away so my family would realize what I meant to them and that they didn't have a hold on me.  It doesn't work for anyone, so don't runaway or anything.  I did this all as an adult okay? Let us know how it goes because I am genuinely worried about you!  Good luck!
308835
He can legally opt out at any time up until he leaves for basic training. The recruiter will probably lie and say he can't, but he's just trying to make money. \n\nEdit: You're right. Lie is probably too strong a word. What he will probably tell you is that it is very difficult to get out. It is - for him. There is a lot of paperwork to be filled out, and all the work he put into your son will have been wasted. If he was lied to, and has a witness, be sure to report the recruiter for violating UCMJ Article 83.
811417
No its not true because you  wont live long enough to become educated. But then again you ought to have realized this, but youre already lacking an education so why should you know what to do with anything? No wonder youre seeking out the military, its already chock full of people with no clue about anything why not include yourself in the sniped in the head club? Go ahead, join up and go off to BE ALL YOU CAN BE in a body bag for your parents to claim. Go be an ARMY OF ONE more dead idiot. Way to go. THe recruiters will tell you anything dude, theyre getting PAID to lie to you. DONT YOU GET IT? They GET MONEY for signing up SUCKERS like yourself. Please do us all a favor and list your complete name so that when you end up DEAD from being in a country that you have no business being in, that I can send a printout of this forum to your parents showing how you were told ahead of time, and ignored the reasoning of logic.
814367
Although it's not going to be easy, it's time to have your son step up to the plate of adulthood.  Make an appointment for him to meet with a recruiter from the Army/Navy/Airforce/Marines.  He will get good direction, an education, and with luck take responsibility for his life.  I know this isn't the best of times to join the service, but it doesn't sound like he's on a great path as it is.  Good luck, Mom.
168307
There are a lot of things that can exclude you from joining. Talk to a recruiter. Be open and honest about everything. If you lie or hide the truth, and they find out, you can get kicked out with probably an OTH (Other Than Honorable) discharge.
442270
Tell your parents straight up that you will not accept the blame for their arguments and that you will no be the scapegoat for their problems in their life. It may be so that they argue about something related to you but their inability to resolve the issue shows their is some problems brewing between them for some time before and instead of facing them they blame you. Tell them how you feel and let them know that is sad that they are not been adults and instead of helping you grow as a person they are limiting you and making you feel bad.
694026
Wow your parents are being very selfish.  It sounds like you've made up your mind about your boyfriend and leaving him his not an option.  My advice is to move out asap.  You're 25, they can't stop you.  You're parents shouldn't hold that over your head...they are saying all that stuff to CONTROL you.  Trust me, sounds like something my mother would have said to me when I lived at home.  We get along a lot better now that I'm not living with her.  I don't think you're parents hate you but they are not being fair.  \n\nThis might sound out there but did you get your college degree yet?  That might help you get a better job and be able to afford living on your own.\n\nAnyways, I hope you feel better and I'm sorry you have to put up with that.  Again, move out asap.
1026007
your recruiter will know. they deal with this sort of thing all the time. if your already in the military the education dept will help you.
807884
If this is something that  would be a dream come true to you : ask them to please  stop thinking negatively about it . Join the military and learn how to fly. Tell them that your hearts desire is to become a pilot.Go to college to achieve all the knowledge that you can. Make this goal a priorty in your life and in time they will see that your are very serious and headstrong about this.And whatever you do ,don't let them stop you. You are making a very good career choice. And if you allow their comments to stop you , then I believe you will regret it. You cannot live your life for them , you have to live it for you.  GOOD LUCK TO YOU! I do wish you the best.
890307
The only thing you could do is join DEP, delayed entry program.  They do activities and programs to help you prepare for boot camp and military life.  Once you turn 17, your parents can give parental consent for you to join.  And you will also need your GED
1058110
show them that he is a good person and how well he treats you, thats really all you can do, maybe if they see those sides to him they will lessen up on the issue alittle bit and not judge him by the color of his skin, but by his character and as an individual, if not then remember that you will always love your parents and will want them to accept whatever life choices you make, but they wont always like what you choose and it is afterall your life and you and you alone have to account for your own happiness....*good luck*
827405
First off, are your parents living in the dark ages...\nGo and do what you want [Not what they want] go see your boyfriend and his family..\nTell your mom in a nice way NO I am going to visit with my boyfriend and his family and that is final. \nYou are 20, you tell them what your plans are and go for it..They have no hold on you anymore...\nSome parents just don't want to let go, but now is a good time to stand up for yourself....
1115098
I don't think you can unless you've emancipated yourself from your parents. I know I had to either wait to sign all the paperwork and leave after I turned 18, or have my parents sign as my legal guardian. I ended up waiting until about 2 months after my 18th bday to leave for basic. You could technically leave on your birthday though- I think the recruiters can help you with that.
1020349
Jericho.. you should be ashamed of yourself, willing to violate PERSEC like that.  you have NO GUARENTEE WHATSOEVER that the question asker is legit.  NOR do you have the right to abuse your access to the system and go snooping around looking for somebody's contact information, let alone passing it on without their knowledge or permission.\n\nTo the OP:  if you are close with your father and he just got there, be patient.  sometimes it takes a while to get an address or email account set up.  he may not even HAVE regular access to communication.  He will contcat you when he is able.  If you are not close, then you are TOL UNLESS you can provide the American Red Cross with his full name, rank, duty station and last known location.  IF they can find him they will do a Welfare check which basically lets him and his Command know that someone is looking for him, but they CANNOT nor will not force him to contact you in any way if he tells them he doesn't want to.
540866
Nope.....not appropriate.  My recruiter in no way affected/effected my decision to enter the military.  I doubt very much you did either to ANY of them.  All you did was act as a middle man.  \n\nBe honest....most of the wide eyed children who passed through your office had already made up their mind.  Either by force (Mom and Dad) or beligerance (get away from Mom and Dad).\n\nAs we mature our views change.....are you going to post that in the paper everytime that happens?\n\nYour heart is in the right place....that in itself is admirable.