my mate and i work together, but outside work we really dont spen enough time with eachother?
456647
you spend enough time together @ work already; you should give your mate some space
1155976
Yes-- you have a tough one here. You will find that life is full of balancing acts and choices. The best thing to do is probably the most obvious: sit down with the both of them at the same time and discuss it with them both. Air it out and this way they will know how you feel, as well as, you will know how they feel and only then you can work out some arrangement of time management. Communication and honesty has always been my best policy-put all the cards on the table with all the players present. This way, like the results or not, you know where everybody stands and they will respect your honesty either way.
1043488
Well the simple fact that the two of you are working  two jobs each is a big part of the problem. Why are you? He's tired, your tired and it becomes something else to be done sometimes, instead of being a fun part of your relationship.\n\nIf it's possible try to cut back some of your hours, so that you guys can have some quality time with each other. Or at least a day off together. That will hopefully lead to sex. \n\nTry to sit down and talk to him about how you feel he might not really realize how much your sex life has gone down.\n\nI'm still going through this madness with my boyfriend only the roles are reversed. \n\nDrop me an email if you neeed someone to talk to.
1023057
The more time you spend away from each other, the more time spent together is meaningful. Give him space so that no one gets attached. Sometimes the healthiest part of relationships is the quality of the individuals' personal life.
258262
Tell him you need alone time with your wife  since you don't get to see her much with working all day long.
346668
It sounds as if he is displeased with the state of your life together.  You are both working way too much in my opinion.  You should both cut back.  Then he'll have plenty of time to sleep and you'll have more time to spend together.
148564
set up a daily routine and its good to train w/ someone else so u both can motivate each other.  if u dont have someone to work out w/, keep a personally log for urself to see what have u done.  then try to improving what u do each week.  and dont be too hard on urself k?
1056321
The fact that you have these feelings is 'normal'.  The abscence of them would not be.  Your working hard, on different shifts, tired, together but alone most of the time.  Just remember, communication is important.  Good luck and stop to have fun!!!  He'll thank you!
49911
Not enough unfortunatly . We are parents and work opposite shifts so we dont get to see each other all that much any more . But beleive me it makes it that much better ! The anticipation of the wait makes it so incredible . It has also taught us how to be together in other ways !!! Oh yeah its only about once a week to answer you .
444846
No, your not wrong.  A guy deserves to have his friends, and your not going to like a lot of them, but he needs to also respect you and how you feel.  It seems to me that since you work on weekends there is obviously time for him and his friend to hang out, and that it shouldn't be a big deal to send the friend home once you get off work so that the two of you can spend time together.  A marriage is about compromise and committing to what is important.  In this case what is important should be you and the compromise should be a little less time spend hanging out with his friend.  Doesn't seem like a lot to ask keep the marriage going.
1073825
Look at the bigger picture....the outcome!  Put yourself on a schedule so that it becomes a routine.  Find a partner who enjoys going and you can both be a support system to eachother.
206672
if you are asking what to do if you have one...first, remember that you don't have to be friends to be professional and work well together. do you really have a grievance, or do you just not like them? if there is a real problem, approach them openly and honestly...and PROFESSIONALLY first. document everything. if you can't resolve it between the two of you, go to your supervisor or human resources department for help. but nobody likes a whiner, so make sure you have a legitimate complaint first, or it will only come back to haunt you.
349470
I have had the same problem in the past well it was kind of a mutual thing.  Things are different now  because we have history.  The best advice I can give you is to use the time you have at your job to do it well and exceed your boss's standards.  After some time, they will see that you are a great asset.
346954
i totally agree with the fact that u should be appreciated..BUT being away from him isnt solving anything. trust me GO BACK and figure it out. time off doesnt work. the guy gets bored and moves on.. trust me. work with him
918658
Let me give you some good advice - it's not a good idea to date someone with whom you work.\n\nIt gets complicated, everyone knows your business, and if it doesn't work out you have to see the person every day.
327370
why do u want ALOT of alone time? u have a privilege of having that Guy (if his feature is like u stated) can not u do with him all this activities?of course u need time for urself  but not ALOT, what if it was opposite  and he needs ALOT of alone time,,will that will be OK with u?\nTreat ur mate like u like him to treat u. if ur answer will be Yes , that means he  is not ur Mate..how do u define Mate?: is he guest at one's table, an assistant to a more skilled worker , or either of two matched objects ,, if u think he is  a match   u should really enjoy things together  ...I am only against this word ALOT...have time alone but not Alot , or find another match  with whom u will like to spend this ALOT
1098110
This is a classic problem, the solution depends on you.\n\nAs you stated you know he'll be busy working, are you the kind of woman who will drive out there knowing that and still get upset when he doesn't spend time with you, even when you "drove all that way"?\n\nOr do you realize he's busy, and you'll appreciate the few moments he may or may not have to spend with you. If yes, I say go for it. If my girlfriend did a thing like that for me, I'd sure appreciate it.