My boyfriend and I have a lot of trouble with people saying things trying to get us broke up.how can i stop it
457522
You have to be strong enough to block it out mentally.  Otherwise, it's going to work eventually.
672927
If more than one person is telling you, and these people don't have alterior motivation for wanting to break you guys up (like they have no personal reason to want to break you up), than I would say you should probobly believe them.  Of course your bf is going to say he's not cheating on you when you ask him.  You have to analyze the people that are telling you this and find out how they know and take it from there, good luck!
392810
pick and choose your battles. life is too short to bicker over ridiculous sh*t. when he is being an a** kill him with kindness or act like you can't be bothered with his silly commentary. problem is you all are around each other 24/7 and you'll drive each other nuts no matter how compatible. if you can be be apart for several hours out of the day or go stay at your mom's over nite it'll make you all miss each other and realize the good things about each other. but seriously you need to get some wheels and get your independence back! that'll make a huge difference!good luck!
384423
You need to talk to him about it.  There's nothing worse than being with someone and then one day out of the blue your partner drops a bomb on you, saying they don't love you anymore and it's over.  If they had no idea something wasn't working because you never discussed it with them, it makes it 100 times harder for them to deal with the break-up and get over it/you.  It's not fair.  Do the mature, adult thing.
280823
Breaking up isn't always easy! My advise is, what ever you do make sure your breaking up for all the right reasons. Be honest with your self and be honest with him as to why your feeling this way. \nIf your for certain this is what you want, then you should let him know as soon as possible. Keeping this from him every day will only make him feel foolish of his self. I know it's hard to have to break up and sometimes we get to the point where we get so up tight and nervous about doing this that we push it off. But the old saying is breaking up is the hardest thing to do. \nI would tell him that you need to speak with him over dinner or what ever you guys do that wouldn't start a big question game, like what is this all about before you actually get a chance to sit down and talk with him. When telling him this try not to say "the time we spent together has been great etc. etc. but, let him know that lately you have been going over things and you need to etc. etc. Especially, if this is coming from out of nowhere. Let him be able to absorb little by little. This way there won't be anger flaring up. Try to then speak to him as if your talking with a good friend.\nI wish you all the best to you and him both.
243665
i think you should talk to him. both of you need to find out what is the problem that has both of you too constantly arguing. Maybe you can both see about having like a couples therapy thing.  sometimes its best for someone from the outside to see whats going on. I think if both of you love each other so much you should do what you can to make it work if after all that your still arguing more than you not arguing well than maybe you two should go your seperate ways. it wont mean you two dont love each other just that you to aren't meant for each other. but i would do what i can before saying its over definitely. good luck and best wishes.
460029
Well, start by not stereotyping all guys because your ex does something. He's probably still just upset about the breakup, and is taking it out by saying bad things about you.
272578
my god....\nwhy dont u clearly talk to him.\nask him to stop jumping around. he isnt loving u but taking advantage of ur love just keeping u as backup for bad time of his. \nu r a person, u love him, u too get hurted. u too have value. make him realize this. have a serious talk on this.\n\nif he dont love u, then dont let him messup wth u again n again. be clear, it will hurt u but its better than being victim. tell him either he can be wth u totally loyal or just stay away from u. he is confused in his life, he dont know what love n whats value of it. good serious talk can make him undertand this, n if he is really a good person them he will value u or wont hurt u more. otherwise he is crook.\nlove is from both sides, both have to give n take. i can understand u doing him for pure love, but have value for urself. i guess u r treating him very softly n freedom, u r letting him do any thing he wants. he has to realize that u love him so he cant jump around. when its love then its wth just wth 1 person.\n\ni understand u love him, ur heart melts for him n it makes u accept him again n again though he is doing crap. u cant do it forever, talk n decide what he actually want u or anyother.  if he REALLY dont love u then bear wth some pain n keep him away. just give him a option that he come to u only when he is very serious n forever.\nkeep ur door open to him, but dont let him just taking ur advantage. be strict n let him come to u wth a condition that he wont leave u again. be strict, be lil over emotions u can accept him any time becoz u really love him, be proud of it. but be strict to value urself as person. u r not just a thing to play. be strict so it will save u from emotional n mental damage.\n\nwhen he comes to u agian, make sure he got everything clear n he is loyal, he has his mind set on u tatally then accept him.....be happy that u got ur love forever.
840692
It's over.   Pick up your pride, move on, find someone else.  He's breaking up with you but playing the coward by not coming right out and saying it.
841896
I went through something similiar to this and I put my foot down and told my boyfriend to either stop talking with her or I was history.  He stopped immediately and things are great now.  Sometimes you just have to lay down the law or they will keep doing stupid things because you allow them to get away with it.  Good Luck.
850123
this reminds me of my relationship.. it's hectic. give him some time.. you already apologized to him. Tell him to call you whenever he feels like talking to you. GIve him some time you already said sorry so that's good that you've accepted your error.. but yea goodluck... try not to disrespect each other.. once you disrespect each other then it's really hard to work things out... and remember everyone has arguments... just be straight foward with him and tell him that you already apologized to him and to please not be in a bad mood... communication is the key! goodluck hopefully he's not moody anymore... and ask him why he's moody maybe something else was making him moody :P
1082387
Honey, you already admitted that the relationship was hard to handle. It's time to let it go. Perhaps you're annoyed that it wasn't you who ended it; or more probably that you were so easily replaced. Let it go. It's time for it to end and both of you need to get on with your lives.
65492
Simply apologize.  Let him/her know why you are sorry.  Anyone can be sorry and not know exactly why they are.  It has to be sincere.  You have to allow them to let you know how you made them feel and not be defensive.  Own up to the mistake you made.  They will see that you really mean what you say.  If the person values your relationship...they'll look at the circumstances and may be willing to make peace with you.  This does not guarantee that your relationship will be the same.  If it does not return to the same relationship; know that you did everything you possibly could to resolve the matter.  Respect their decision.
593172
Have you talked to him about this?\nCommunication is important.  If he is unaware that he is being rude, then he will not know to stop.\n\n\n"If he truly loved you, he would give it up for you, or at least cut down on it alot."\nHow manipulative.  So if somebody loves you then they should give up things for you?"
374552
Seems to me the best way to address the situation is to be forthright and talk to him about your concerns.  If your decision is to move on to find someone more accessible to you, then say that.  There is no real way to break up with someone that won't result in hurt feelings.  But to be true to yourself and the most fair to your boyfriend, tell him how you feel and what you want.  Personally, I would recommend doing it face to face, even though it may be uncomfortable.  You may want to continue seeing one another after talking about it, but if it does end, be able to step away knowing that in the long run it may be the best thing for your both.
564523
Your 'creature' is controlling you! This is NOT a good relationship, nor is it healthy for either one of you. Draw the line now! Speak to whomever you want. If he gets mad, tell him, "Goodbye." Short, swift, and mean what you say. Don't wishy wash on this, or you will be in for some serious problems from now on. It will escalate to beating, abuse, you name it. You are in a bad relationship that is not going to get better.
992204
When you get together for better or worse, you have to remembe that worst often comes first.  My husband and I went through all kinds of worse - and instead of saying, "we'll laugh about this some day," we laughed about it as it was happening.  Laughter is important, so is communication.  Don't hold a resentment - bring it out in the open and deal with it.  Cut each other some slack - everyone has bad days.  Keep saying "I love you" even when you don't like your partner very much.  We use little notes and cards (G is away on business about 20 days a month) and call each other often just to say, "Hi, how are you?"  We've had only one fight - which lasted 20 minutes and then we were both apologizing and laughing.\n\nIn summary?  Communicate, laugh, be honest, and don't hold grudges.