My cousin gave me good advice but I need more.  13yr old in PA Can someone help???
456819
Ok look there is nothin wrong wit liking an older person. I have many times and i am only now 14 years old. But howeva let me tell u there is a limit even though someone only being 6 years older than u wont b so bad when u become 20 cuz they will only b 26. Think about dat and let it saturate. But anywayz the limit 4 u would probably b about mayb 18 years old. If the person is older than that b really really really careful and cautious. There are many dangerous ppl in da world these days. I don't think anybody would like if u end up dead or somethin. Even i wouldnt and i dont even kno u!!!!. Howeva it is cool to like older ppl these days. Many younger ppl do enjoy liking older ppl anywayz becuz one they hav more experiences in life than some1 ur age, and two they are usually way way way more mature than someone around ur age. LOL. So i hope dat was good enough advise for ya. But remember...... B REALLY REaLLY REALLY CAREFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!
477863
Hello. I am 33 and  have a 13 year old daughter and a 16 year old niece. My niece comes to me with a lot of her problems with her parents, I would be glad to help if I knew more about the problem. Feel free to email me at tereburr4@yahoo.com. You are a special person. Always remember that.
338739
stop sending your child there first & foremost & somebody always on top so call the town hall & find out who running things @ that club talk 2 plus go down & meet with the     h-i-n-c=head ni**a in charge u set up a meeting with you & a few of the (concerned) parents & go talk nicely & dress nicely like u going 2 a job interview as well as the other parents don't go bring the ghetto moms with u went threw  it myself wrote a letter 2 my congressman keep cool calm & collective & i got good results i didn't meet  with him but his seceraty helped alot & offered 2 take me 2 lunch good luck.
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Dear Dad,\nI have found that what works best is speaking from the heart. You know you're proud of her accomplishments, you know you may not always be able to agree with her but you will always love her no matter WHAT. Recount how happy she has made your life since that day you saw that little face for the very first time. See if you can't manage to throw in some of the funny, goofy things our kids do make us laugh; you know, the things that they do naturally but to us is so comical. Wrap it up with the hope you have bestowed upon her and the faith you have in her and make sure she knows that you have every confidence that she'll use every tool, every learning experience, tackle every problem the way you have taught her to. Each and EVERY human being is as unique as every star in the sky. Brother, emphasize how YOU see her as unique to you and your family, her friends, your neighborhood or community. From your posted question alone it sounds like you have raised this girl to be meteoric, NOT mediocre. Best of luck :)
455776
sounds like your cousin is a jerk that doesnt want the best for himself. people like that cannot be helped. i suggest you put a gun to his head and tell him to sort out his f***ing life because he is wasting his time. be tough
868503
You can draw up a flyer and take it to the copy shop and make a few copies for all the houses on your street.  Do not place the flyers in the mail box as it is illegal to use the mail box for anything but US mail.  On the flyer introduce yourself, name and phone number and list the services you are available to perform.  Babysitting, cleaning baseboards and windows and mini blinds.  Sweeping washing and waxing floors and polishing, if necessary, mowing the lawn, weeding, general cleaning vacuuming, dusting, scrubbing (yes) the bathtub.  Washing the cars, walking the dog, caring for the pets while people are out of town.  Cleaning and organizing the tools and items in the garage (with the assistance of the owner).  Shoveling snow.  You name it, you might be surprised just how many people need and want some extra, affordable help.  Check with your parents about the area in which you offer your services, what you offer to do, and how much you charge.  You can also visit each neighbor and talk to them about your services.  Above all, always let your parents know where you are (phone number also) and just what task you will be performing.  Remember you are 13 years old and some tasks may not be appropriate for your age and stamina, such as moving around really heavy furniture.  Good luck in your endeavors!\nRemember to keep your prices very reasonable, i. e. $5.00 for cleaning bathtub.  I mention this task because for many older peope it is hard to do this task.  A SOS soap pad makes fast and easy work of cleaning the tub with a little dishwashing soap.  Don't use any dangerous chemicals.  And remember to always wear goggles for your eyes when mowing the lawn.  Keep safe and be happy!  And, oh, believe it or not, if you save the money, it'll end up being much more exciting than if you spend it.
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You could go to youth hostels, the YMCA, the Salvation Army.  There are lots of choices but are you sure leaving your family is a good idea right now?  I don't know what the problem is but usually if you leave before it gets resolved you will never resolve them.  I moved out when I was 16 as well and now I haven't talked to my sisters or my parents in 13 years.  Weigh your options carefully.
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I've had friends like that too. And you can only do so much. Sometimes, they need to learn on their own, as much as it may hurt you to see them get hurt, but at least you know that you have trie to advise them well. However, let them know that you are there and that you are willing to listen. Perhaps, you can find a place where they help teens with problems and get help together.
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Depending on how old your cousin is... If he/she is about 3 to 4 i can help. I am one of the top swimmers in the state of Illinois and i didn't even put my head under the water until i was 7 years old. The next summer i joined a swim team, got high point, and got 4th in state in my age group. \n      The first thing you want to do is to get them confortable with the water. You can't focus on learning if your scared. Always statrt you lesson with blowing bubbles, then move to "listening to the fishes" where you hold there feet and they put there face in the water and to take a breath they must turn there head to the side and keep there ear in the water. Then after these two steps go into a new acticity. NEVER SAY DO YOU "WANT" TO DO THIS!!! Always say "Ok now were going to do" this way they won't just say no and then start a fight.  In the begging of your lessons get your cousin to kick on a kickboard ( if u don't have one you can buy them at any sports or swim pool store near the water toy section) make them have there hands at the end of the board and have there face in the water. tell them that when they breathe to listen to the fishes and keep your ear in the water. do this for about 5-10 minutes more if your cousin is still have probelms with the concept.\n         The next drill is the arm dril in this drill you will need a noddle. In this drill you put the kick in with the pulll to form the basic freestyle.  Have them kick and do stokes reminding them to listen to the fishes.  Move on to the next level after they have mastered this one.\n         Finally take the nooddle away and put your hand beneathe them to give them convinced and tell them it is time to swim and see how they do if they have probelms with the kivking breathing or pulling go back to that drill again. \n \n                                            Hope I helped
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I'm going to try to keep all my ideas low cost and easy...if you're a stay at home mom these might work better than if you're not.  Though you might be able to get your childcare provider to do these things as well.\n\n1. Check out your local library!  They often have great things going on for the summer.  My son now 12 is an avid reader particaly becasue he got interested in the summer reading programs at the libray.  They usually have a program where kids read books and get starts or stickers or something like that to put in a book.  Sometimes there are draws and prizes and parties involved.  I find these really help boys by getting the competitive juices going...who can read the most books by the end of the summer.  Don't worry if he gravitates to books that are too young for him...any reading he does is good, builds word recognition and speed and comprehension.  You may luck out and find a series he likes...look for "The Magic Tree House" books, they might be about his level.  Then they want to read them all as fast as they can.\n\n2.Grocery Shopping...you have to do it anyway so make it special.  Have him help you make the list...maybe he can even write it out!  When you're shopping let him help you find things. Pick 2 "special treats" from the bakery to have when you get home and the groceries are put away.  Make a big deal out of it...set the table, light a candle.  \nNow a word of warning.  Grocery shopping with kids can be rough as they want every unhealthy expensive thing they see.  But by allowing him to choose one special thing you make that a bit easier.  And all kids need to learn that they can't have everything.  Once they get use to it the tantrums over the jumbo box of oreos will stop.  UNLESS you give into them...then it gets worse since they see it works.\n\n3. Plan a picnic.  You can combine this with the grocery shopping too.  You can take a picnic to a park...or maybe meet up with Dad at work.  \n\n4. 2 words...water balloons...don't forget to participate fully yourself. Kids don't see mom having fun as often as they sould...mine included.\n\n5. This may cost a bit but maybe it will fit into the budget...visit some of your local tourist attactions...a historical home, a zoo, an art gallery.\n\n6. Plant a garden...you may already do that but maybe you can give him a little corner for himself or dig up a separate spot for him.  \n\n7. Are you religious? Christian? look for a "Vacation Bible School" in your area.\n\n8. Check out the website below.  They update it monthy with cool stuff to do with your pre-school/Elemantary and teenage kids.  In the upper right hand side of the page find the paper and pencil to subscribe to get updates mailed to you monthy!\n\nI'll edit this as I think of more.
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I would like to try to help you, but I don't know exactly what you need guidance in. I'm a bit younger than you, but I am wise beyond my years. I was born in 81. I am assuming however, that you are not stating your situation, yet your age in hopes of someone with a sixth sense responding..can't help ya there. Only thing I can leave you with is to follow your heart and let God help guide you to the right path!!
943866
Ask them why they're so interested.  Worked for my younger cousin.  And go on about your business.
134636
the only advice i can give is none.  Your kids are adults, they'll have to learn from there own mistakes.  Just don't judge them or treat them different.  Only thing you can offer is your love.
693877
Check with School Faculty or Counselor, they should be able to assist you!
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Post what their ages are in your additional details and i'll be able to give better advice. BLESS YOU WOMAN. You are one brave soul! My children are 9 and 10 so I'll have to go with what I would want to do. BOWLING. Both sexes like it and you don't have to do much entertaining. Start making our a guest list now. The party is going to be in February but start organizing the details now. I'd make sure to buy canned pop. It's less of a mess and it will save you time. Ask your child what they want as far as cake and ice cream is concerned. Also, I always recruit a mother to help me out. It's usually my sister and my aunt.
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I'm not sure what state you live in but try the jobs and family services for your county.  Do you have a community center.  Our's here offers them  Maybe even A YMCA would know.  Here in Ohio you can be 11 years old.  Try your school also.
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I don't think that is good advice to give a 13 year old in this day and age.  Kids have way too much going on in their heads to think that something like what you suggest might occur for them.  \n\nYou may have had a good experience, but I'm sure that is the exception rather than the rule.  \n\nAs a teacher, I would think that you would exercise more restraint in these matters. \n\nDon't mean to be harsh, but you did ask our opinion.