Can someone please help me with my dating issue?
462501
tell the guy what you have been through and have been making a habit of. if he respects you and wants to try to make something serious than the quasi dating thing with you he will be patient and will take time to know you and not push you. just go slow be yourself and see where it ends up. in all honesty the best relationships are where you are friends first b4 lovers.
186974
hey ive been helping my friend w/ something like that q...now get a friend to help u by talking to him.if ur dating him tell ur friend everything hes doing wrong and if he is ignoring u then give ur friend a list of things u like and dis-like and one of them being that u dont like it when people do that kind of stuff to u mostly if ur dating him
174751
you know if i tell you someone it wont help you much but i have an idea ......why dont you go into the park with a coffe and a magazine(nad maybe if you have bring a dog) many older women like to go there on a sunday morning....and maybe you come into a talk with one and there you can meet each other personly.....if you want to have a date just like that go to go onto one of these sites but i would think it would be better the idea with the park........\n\nPerfectMatch.com\nwww.PerfectMatch.com      Share your Life with Your Soul Mate. Start with Our Free Profile.\nDating\n\nwww.Lavalife.ca      Join Lavalife Free Today and Chat with Single Men and Women!
291219
i used to ask myself the same question about some chick....but yeah as much as you would like to think you're dating you're not dating unless you call it a date....but it seems you're close enough to the girl...so start making some moves man, i'm sure she wont mind...you know little things and stuff, try to make it offical and just talk to her about...i know my other friend was worried he might ruin it friendship by asking his best friend out...but i believe you got nothing to lose and all to gain
1133316
Dude.......and your problem is???? Go for it !!! She is young, hot, and 24..........now, that's a NO-BRAINER! What time are you picking her up?? She sees you as strength, and stability. Have a great date! Let us know how it tured out!! Good Luck!!
910182
WARNING. THIS THREAD IS FULL OF AWFUL ADVICE.\n\nMan to man, let me give you a very important piece of advice. Do NOT ask women about how to deal with women. Women do not want what they say they want. They may think they hate anticipation, but they secretly thrive on it. Anticipation and unpredictability are good. (Although, I think the line about "I wanna ask you out, but right now am not in the mood" is awful - please don't use that.)\n\nThey're probably going to give me thumbs down for this, but I'm telling you from experience, it's the truth. Again, the two points to take from this:\n\n1. Anticipation and unpredictability are good\n2. Don't trust what women SAY, trust how they RESPOND\n\nSorry ladies, I love you, but the guys who actually follow your advice end up being the guys who are too wussy to get a girl.\n\n[See, there go the thumbs down already! Don't believe em, bro! I'm looking out for you.]
72369
Haha!  It's good to be back - computer was down for a few days.  Well.. I'm not a guy, (obviously), but unless things go REALLY well on a date it's a turn-off when the guy is all over you.  You've got to conquer the gettin-to-know-you before you jump on that.  So if it's a REALLY good date then you did get to know each other and it's okay to fall into that animal instinct.  If you're like 99% of the guys out there then maybe it is a good idea to relieve your stress before the date.  You may not get the urge to, er, be selfish on the date, and that will tell the girl that you respect her.  Also - it might give that first impression that you're a laid back bad-a*s type that most of the ladies can't resist.  So yeah - I think it is a good idea!  HA!
531876
The best thing you can do in this situation, is to take a step back, and wait. It appears you're pressing the issue too hard, and you have her a little threatened by your persistence. Leave it alone for a few days. It's obvious you're not going to care less, but it might give her a chance to see you're an all right guy that she would like to spend some time with. Good Luck!
290153
I just helped a friend with this actually. Two simple pointers:\n\nBe mysterious: This doesn't mean be so vague it's annoying, it just means don't leave yourself completely open to everyone. Be outgoing, but don't give away your life story. If you pull it off correctly, it makes it look like there's a lot more to you than there really is.\n\nListen: Become their friend, ask them how there day was, and pay attention. Don't interject with your own stories too often. (If you do, make it brief to show you empathise, but don't try to out-do them.)\n\nAnd for anything else, I would recommend the dating game articles on outpostnine.
498741
Just be yourself, stay happy, and dont let it show that you are too worried, just a bit and the person that asked you out should be able to see and understand, most people have ways to make others more comforatable, so talk, be honest, and i hope it all works out for you!  :)
121759
Unfortunately dating is always tricky and probably hasn't changed a whole lot since you were last single other than the addition of the internet.  No matter what you do there is no guaranteed way of avoiding the ones you don't want.  For beginners I recomend sticking to activities that you enjoy.  If you like dancing or something like that try taking a class.  Don't be afraid of the internet, but be prepared to have to filter out a lot of trash to find a few nuggets of gold.
727120
you need to take a deep breath and think about the reasons you care about these two people, then figure out what qualities you are looking for in someone you want to date...sort out your priorities and choose who you care about more..in the end you will make the right decision for yourself good luck =]
162982
Wow, that's a complicated problem.  It's going to be hard to try to answer this because I can't see the details when I'm typing.  \n\nYou say that you've been alone for about a month, which is long for you, but that you feel good about it.  Considering that you've been in a lot of unhappy relationships, that's probably understandable.  You sound like you're putting an awful lot of pressure on yourself to find "the one" before it's too late.  Then you take out this pressure, in turn, on your boyfriends.  I think in your concern to hurry up and find someone permanent, you're pushing yourself way too fast into relationships, and trying to stake a claim before you really know that you love them (otherwise, you wouldn't get over them in a couple of weeks...)\n\nHowever, knowing this about yourself isn't necesssarily going to help you change.  You could seek counselling, but that's expensive.  Here's what I would do, when I feel like I'm acting in ways that aren't in my best interest (and believe me, that's pretty often): \n\nFirst, take some more time off from relationships to get your head together.  You sound kind of panicky right now, which is not a good state to be in when you're starting to date somebody.  Try to balance yourself a little.\n\nWhen you are in a relationship next, and you want it to work out, you have to think *all* the time about the consequences of all your actions.  Being a good partner is work.  You can't just trust that you're going to act in a way that is good for you and the other person, you have to think about it.  Every morning, think to yourself, "How would I like this day to go?  Do I want to accomplish anything specific in my relationship?"  If you feel like talking about your partner about long term plans, etc., *stop* first and think:  "How is he going to react to this?  We've been dating for X number of weeks.  Is this an appropriate time to ask this question of him?"  \n\nAt the end of the day, think over what you and your partner have done that day, what conversations you have had.  Did anything upset either of you?  Can you do anything constructive to make it better?  Do you see yourself falling into your old patterns?\n\nI guess what I'm saying is, you can't always trust your instincts to work in your own best interests.  You have to put some control back into your mind.  This may not sound very fun, but it's often what relationships need most.\n\nTake your next relationship slowly.  *Think* about the moves you make before you make them.  Give yourself time to fall in love, without worrying for the moment about the future.  If you try too hard to grab it, it'll slip out of your hands.\n\nI don't know if any of this helps you, it's the advice I would (and have, at times) given myself, and it seems to help.  \n\nGood Luck
90953
You can help him come to the point. Try to open him up with questions, be kind to him. You can give examples of some people dating etc. But if you dont have any idea to of dating with him, again make him come to the point by being kind, opening him up and kindly tell him you are not interested in dating :) was it helpful??
556610
You say that as though you are ancient! I would not worry about not having a boyfriend at the moment. You are still young, after all. Even shy girls find a guy in the end so don't worry about being left on the shelf - your time will come!\n\nTo prepare yourself for a future of dating, get to know yourself. Know your likes and dislikes. Think about how you feel about things. It will sound strange but if you give everyday situations some thought and know how you feel about things, that is a great way to maintain a conversation - with a boy or a girl. Practice your conversational skills. Think about the facade you present to others. Maybe boys don't hit on you because you are so pretty. So maybe you should think about how you make yourself more approachable.\n\nAn engaging personality is worth more than looks. If you can work on your self confidence as well as your conversational skills, you are more likely to hook a boy's attention - and maintain it.\n\nGood luck!
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You sound like an intelligent person and fun to be with... but it would be wise if you get to know someone in person first BEFORE you open up an invitation to have a date with you, don't you agree??\n\nGuess it just goes to show that I'm from the 'old' school... Good luck in your search though!
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First, change where you hang out.  If you keep finding losers, then you must hanging out where losers hang out.\n\nSecond, change the way you choose a boyfriend.  It's obvious the system you have right now keeps landing you in the same place.  Insanity in action is repeating the same process and expecting a different result.  It just doesn't work that way.\n\nThird, ask yourself this question, "Why do I want to date him?"  If you cannot come up with anything other than a superficial answer (he's hawt, he smells good, he's rich, he's mysterious/exciting, etc), pass.  Your answers should be more like, "He makes me feel good about who I am," "He makes me laugh," or "He challenges me to be a better person."  Did you notice where the focus shifted?  You are no longer focusing on what makes him attractive, but on how he makes you feel.\n\nFinally, understand that the end game for dating is to find someone you can sepnd the rest of your life with.  Don't use it as a tool to just have company or someone who will pay for everything.  The latter will expect something in return, and the former are called 'friends' not boyfriends.  Use the system to do what it was made for, not to fill a void in your life.  No person can ever do that.  Lonliness can only be cured by you.