Im in love with my BF sister and ive know there fam for 10 years. How do iapproach her & fam w/o Losn frdnship
460695
My dad has always told me that if it will be, it will work. Maybe you can ask her family what they think about you(son-in-law material)I hope I've helped.
339623
All I can say is that you and your sister both know better and need to nip this in the budd. She is your sister! There is a big difference between a "sister" and a "lover." What yall two have been doing is called incest/lust. If she was to get pregnant yals child would be deformed, not to mention the heartache that your family has to endure when they find out. If yall don't end this matter now, yall will never be able to fully recover yalls brother-sister relationship as it should be. I would suggest sleeping in separate rooms from now on.  Also, ask yourself this question, if you died today. do you think you would go to heaven or hell for all eternity. This is something for you to seriously think about. The Bible states that all liars, sexual immoral, adulters, etc place is in the lake of fire. Please repent yall before its too late.
121904
you have to kind of like the person who you want to marry.\nI think your family's point of view is as important as yours. and even if you do not love that person, make sure that you do nto hate him.\n\nIf he is nice caring and faithful you will fall in love later on in your life.\n\nAll the Best
497063
Wow, that's a tough situation.\n\nI would probably just lay off the guy and be true to my sister.  Your sister will *always* be in your life, and you don't want to hurt her. How would you feel if the situation was reversed?\n\n12-year-old girls are senstive and fickle.  Maybe she will start liking someone else soon.  Once she does, then you could tell her that you like the bfs brother and make your move.
415592
i know how u feel me and my girl kissed when she left my house one time and my sister-in-law saw it....dont feel so bad if u love ur girl then just try to get a long w/ her mom even if she dont like u. if she loves her daughter then she will love her and her mate just the same. give it time it will get better. it did for me
3107
Be yourself. Try not to be rude about anything. Regaurdless if her Aunt don't like you, show some respect if you have to be around the fam. Ask the girl if you two can go somewhere to be alone. Some people families do this to intemidate the person. I f you're feeling this person then don't shy away from her nor let her family get to you. But don't give her or her family any reasons not to like you. You know what I'm saying! Be real with her and you'll be alright.
1062034
I definitely think you should try, no matter how well you feel around her.  She is still your family, even though you are not blood related.  I'm sure your father would be very happy if you could connect with her.  Respect to parents and family no matter how close you are is a very important thing in life, well it definitely is in my culture.
435442
Hm, I have to say that depends largely on how is your relationship with his family (particularly with his sister). If you really care about them, (you really shouldn't have sex with him in the first place. You're so young...!) you should come and talk with her. \n\nApologize first. Admit that you'd done wrong.\nMake her understand why you did it. (Your boyfriend should talk with her too) How you feel about her brother and that it is normal that her brother is going to belong to someone else (that is, his wife).\n\nIn time (especially if she has a bf on her own) she would understand.\nBut assure her that nothing will ever change how her brother feels for her, and how YOU feel for her.\nAND remind her that it IS a wrong deed, and she should never follow your step.
632315
i can imagine a bro bein' over possessive.. evn ma bro got wen he figured out stuff `bout ma guy.. but i`m elder.. mayb dat makes sense in here.. i`m 20 n so`s ma bf.. me n ma bro ol wayz `ve r communicatns open.. he`s nw ok wit it eva since i spoke 2 him.. `bout wat probs he has wit ma boy frend.. but he understands me.. n he says he trusts me..                                                         \n\n ...but i understand.. s i 2 hate his gf.. n can do nuttin `bout it but juz b der by his side n teach him frm tym 2 tym.. \n\n so i suggest juz talk 2 ur sis.. or try gettin 2 da guy l8r.. in order 2 kno him.. but 1 can`t kno ne1 so soon so try spyin on him instead of ur sis.. ma bro n ma boy frend do talk s well.. n meet @ tyms.. \n\n but if da guy z 2 old 4 her ..she needs 2 rethink `bout this relatnship if it`s a serious 1.. bware 2.. s she cud b innocent n da guy cud `ve trapped her.. \n\n els in love.. age no bar.. juz let her b if she`s old nuf 2 understand n handle situatns..\n \n but dun bring parents in betn ryt now.. try ur ways out 1st.. juz b careful she doesn`t lose trust in u cuz of it.. cuz i feel a brother sister relatnship is closer den wit parents..if dey dun work den better seek parental advice..\n\n  dese things r very risky cuz u r emotionally involved n u love `em so much dat u can`t take nethin bad 4 `em.. so take action quick..
243116
I've been in this situation a few times. No matter what you do or don't do your BF's mom will think you're not right for him...at first. Give her time to get to know you better. Once she realizes how much he likes you and that your not out to break his heart she'll back off. Try asking you BF to talk to him mom.
1020832
It is normal to have differences.... this is call sibling rivalry.\nI know my sister and I have gone though times that we haven't spoken to each other also. I have learnt over the years to accept where the other person is at and let them own it. It is their experience not yours so you really don't have to agree. Just realizing that you can still like or love someone with different opinions is ok. It doesn't mean you have to agree with them or even change their mind. I believe if you are going thourgh different experiences that's ok. You still have your fond memories of your sister and no one can take that a way from you ,not even your sister. I hope all works out well!!
626505
You need to let it go.  If they are truly BFs nobody can come between them.  If he is in love with her, do not try and come between that, you will only get hurt worse in the end.  Trust me.
1001323
Don't listen to that asshole... (creative)\n\nIf you two can respect each other's culture and religion then go for it. Each side of the family may not approve in the beginning but they'll have to come around sooner or later. And if not, it's your life and your happiness that you should be concerned about, no on else's. Good luck.
476870
There will be a HUGE problem if you tell her, but YOU need to stay away from the boyfriend.  The problem is, what if they get into an argument and he gets mad then says, "Oh yeah??  Well, I slept with your SISTER!"  Guess what?  You WILL have to deal with it then for sure!!
958941
Your feelings are normal- he is not your biological son, and I assume you do not have any children to compare your feelings to.  Not everyone is capable of loving unconditionally- which is what you would have to be capable of doing for her boy- just like if you adopted a 7 year old boy.  This is not to say that you will not "grow" to love him- and you already do, but in a different way then you would a child of your own, which is okay.  Enjoy your relationship with her and him, and dont sweat your feelings for him- he's probably just happy to have a "step dad" in his life that he can relate to.  Good luck, and dont worry.............
827423
Ummm I don't know how old u r, but really that doesn't matter... stay away from the sister's bf....STAY AWAY FROM THE SISTER'S BF!!  All that will happen is drama drama drama.  Stick with your b/f or go find a better one...but you need to distance yourself from your sister's relationship now before it goes any further!!!
1021103
You can do the right thing and that would be to keep it to yourself.  HE IS YOUR SISTERS BF FOR GOD SAKE.