how do i increase my self confidence?
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We'll start off slow:  \nMaster these three steps and you will be amazed at how much better you feel about yoruself.\n\n1) You have to understand and believe you are right. no matter what anyone says ... you are right.\n2) Stop seeking other people's approval (especially on a forum such as this).\n3)  Learn to tell people they are wrong and NEVER start a sentence with "I'm sorry, but ... ".  People are ignorant, foolish, and foul and should be called on their bullshit at every opportunity.
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Believe and have confidence in yourself.
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Building self confidence takes time, but it can be done.  Our self esteem is partly our personality (what we are born to be) and partly from our early childhood experiences.  Many of us, therefore, do not have naturally high self esteem.  You can upbuild yourself by taking the time to love yourself in fundamental ways: eat well, exercise, and rest.  Tell yourself often (200x/day) that you are loveable, wise, funny, and attractive.  Take good care of YOU because you are worth your own attention.  Over time, your self care will show you how valuable you are.  And high confidence is very sexy!
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When you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find 3 things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use photos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them to mind. \n\nDeveloping self confidence that lasts - because of the way emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.\n\nSelf consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how to keep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by following these steps...\n\na) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday' you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how to keep your attention off yourself.\n\nb) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to: \n\nfind out if you like the other people in the situation \nmake others feel comfortable \nfind out some information \nmake business contacts \nand so on...
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confidence, but not cockyness.  Be yourself and try not to impress anyone with anything but YOURSELF.
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Weakness is all in your head. Become more self confident, and you will be a stronger person.
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Have confidence in oneself. God bless*
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Start a physical program with a meditation component.  I would recommend yoga.  Breathe and do the yoga.  Do it several times a week.  This will change how you feel.  Knowing yourself through your body will increase your confidence.  Your body is what you take into the world with you.  Work on getting in touch with your body through movement practices.
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Just try to make yourself stronger. don't think of poeple talkings much and improve your self confidence.\nI was like this when I was younger but I released being sensentive too much is not worth at all.
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Believe in yourself ie your thoughts, what you want to tell them , your dressing, your all - I mean just everything that makes you. That way you'll definitely be more confident infront of anybody.
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Just have courage and you'll start to fell more confident in yourself
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Confidence comes from doing (experience).  Get out and do more.  While you are at it, pretend to be confident....thats all most people do anyway.
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Think of how much you mean to your loved ones. Another way to raise self-esteem is to volunteer someplace like Habitat for Humanity, you help others and that makes you feel good about yourself too.
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Hold your chin up high and be yourself.  When you start losing your confidence, take a deep breath and think only positive things and happy thoughts.  It really works.
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You gain confidence by believing in your abilities.  By succeeding in things you do.  They don't have to be big things, little victories count too. What qualities do you possess that others admire? Make a list if you like.  \n\nIf you can see yourself succeeding, your confidence will grow. Put yourself in a position to succeed in whatever you do.  Good luck!
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People who lack self-confidence often do not get what they want / need in life.  They are usually passed over for promotions, not chosen for special projects or oppportunities, not taken seriously, over-looked as potential mates and are often taken advantage of by people who want to bully / dominate.\n\nTrust in yourself.  Acknowledge yourself.  Honor yourself.\n\nI wish you Peace.
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A person should not rely on a feeling of confidence that comes from external means...ie...you say when you are "...alone or with a close friend..."\n\nWhat that tells me is that your feeling of confidence MAY come from the fact that you know your close friend's strengths and weakness and insecurities...and so you KNOW that in certain areas you are "stronger" or "better" or "faster" or whatever....and IN COMPARISON that makes you feel confident. Or, IN COMPARISON that makes you feel less insecure. What it comes down to though is YOU comparing your strengths and weaknesses to others you know to help YOU feel confident. \n\nThat works great.....until you walk into a room of strangers........and suddenly your knowledge of their strengths and weaknesses is nonexistent. NOW how are you supposed to judge yourself? Now that you know nothing about them...you lose confidence in YOURSELF, because you don't know how you "compare".\n\nYour abilities and strengths and weaknesses are not RELATIVE or SUBJECTIVE. If you run a 45min 10k....you run a 45min 10k. THAT is objective...not subjective. It is a GOOD time that may even be getting better. If you have a good knowledge base in some subject, or an innate curiosity about things...THAT is an objective, positive quality. \n\nI think the key is for you to realize your strengths and weakness in an OBJECTIVE way...ie, not comparing them to other people...but just getting "your hands and mind" around them on your own...sort of a self-realization thing or something. If you are pretty...you are pretty. Not "pretty compared to...", but just plain pretty. If you run well....you run well. Not "run well compared to..."\nIf you have curious, thought provoking questions....then you have \ncurious, thought provoking questions...period!\n\nOnce you become aware of YOUR STRENGTHS you will become more confident. Not "your strengths compared to other girls' strengths"....but just YOUR STRENGTHS. They exist whether you are alone in your room, or in a room of 1000 people. They don't leave you! Your artistic ability, your athletic ability, your academic ability, etc all stay with you!\n\nKeep THAT in mind next time your mind starts to doubt!!