I keep hearing that men are attracted to women with confidence.I lack confidence...how do I gain it?
463658
u could try doing something u have been afraid to do that helps to build confedence dressing smart for work not the useual way u dress will make u feel important like u have things undercontrol that also shows people ur confident but always be urself but dont take crap from no one stand ur ground in any situation if u can do that it will help gain selfasteam
159536
That is exactly how I feel. I love men with little confidence, believe it or not. I actually get turned off right from the start when the guys are too confident. I actually had to go up to my fiance and make the first move! Now, I know we are ment for each other, and yes he is the most sensitive, romantic sweetheart in the world!!
29815
I'm a guy, and when I usually see a beautiful woman, my first instinct is to assume she's taken. (This is the exact same thing supermodels and actresses go through.) Tone your fire down just a bit, and guys won't be intimidated of you. I know! I've been a guy all my life! :-)
948844
I have asked myself the same thing!! So i asked my guy why is this, i said is it because you have a beautiful confident woman at home and what you need is someone not so pretty who looks at you and says wow! I cant beleive I am lucky enough to have this hot guy, you know..like they need to feel worshiped so to say..and he also stated that he knew they wanted him and it was easy to get
591336
when you feel good about yourself, it shines through and becomes an attracting feature to women.  be comfortable with yourself first and like everyone else said, be yourself.  dont try to be someone you're not.  it will backfire on you.
314584
Most men who would not do not have alot of self confidence. They will look and say she is pretty, but dont believe they deserve someone that pretty. \nYou deserve a man who is confident, and loveing is comfortable in his skin. You must also believe in yourself and bleive for the man you want. Don fall for second best. \n\nAnd not good to tell a man he is second best. that is part of what makes men less confident in themselves. When leaving them just agree that you are not best for one another.
636888
From this moment on, you tell yourself that you are an attractive, interesting guy than any girl would be priviledged to have. You are the man! Convince yourself you can have any girl you want. Look in the mirror and find the things that make you look good. If you need to excercise a bit to help things along. You are the Man!  Once you achieve this basic confidence in yourself, put the past behind you, concentrate on the future, which you are in charge of. You have what it takes to handle any girl, any situation. Go up to a girl, ask her out, treat her right.  You are the Man!
865625
i had the same problem (till i found my girlfriend).  The key is confidence in yourself, without acting arrogant.  You just have to not concentrate on the fact that you like the guy, and concentrate on what hes chattin about.  You could tell him that you get nervous around guys you like, then you have an excuse when you stumble your words, and he'll be flattered.\n\nGood Luck!
876325
princess we all go through these feelings. You are probably just as pretty Just as attractive as ever you were. Unfortunately a lot of guys assume that women who are very attractive are taken especially since they are slightly older than the silly little girls they used to chase. You are simply more confident more assertive than you once were, that doesn't mean you are any less desirable than the younger more slender ( in my opinion less seductive ) females you are comparing yourself to. They are girls Hun You are a beautiful seductive woman, not a silly kid anymore. personally i like the fuller more rounded and curvy body of a woman as opposed to the awkward skinny angular body of a girl. I assure you, you are every bit as desirable as you ever were and in my opinion probably more so, to men that is not boys.
659890
Dude listen, get the book "the system". It works, women love cocky and funny guys. If you find yourself interested in someone, treat them as you would your little sister. It drives women crazy!!!!
829821
They don't dig you; trust me.  You need to stop being such a wuss first.  There is nothing more unattractive than someone without self-confidence.
258813
are you nervous? maybe the women you are talking to, sense that, women like men with confidence. relax and be yourself, talk about things you know wont offend any one, ask open-ended questions to keep the conversation going and look at her in the face not at her boobs!
342399
A smart female can attract her man even if she doesn't have a great body, I believe what attracts men is the way the woman move or use her body language to attract a man, There's nothing sexier than confidence, especially when it spills out between the sheets! Even if you're not feeling confident, learn how to fake it! \n\nPretend that you're a confident woman that oozes sex appeal. It takes 28 days to change a habit, so if you start thinking every day that you are a beautiful woman who oozes sex appeal, in one month's time you will be that person. \n\nPeople respond to the image portrayed, so if you think and act sexy, you'll find that the people around you will think that too!
499711
Confidence is a quality that makes your life a lot more better.\nTo be confident,you must think positive.You must not underestimate yourself.You must feel that you are different.Everyone has faults.Nobody is perfect.You must realise this and love yourself.\nWalking and standing erect,looking into the eyes of the person you are talking to, shaking hands firmly are some things that make you look confident.\nIf you feel you are very under confident,try this.\nEveryday,assign yourself some little tasks that you are sure you can do.Complete them positively.Make the next task a little difficult and make sure you complete it.This way,you surely will build great confidence.\n\nWARNING: stop when you are confident.I don't want you to be asking how to overcome over confidence.\n\nThankyou.
813810
I seen your picture, you are a hottie with potential.  Attraction is something must deeper than that.  Guys aren't attracted to women, it's the women who attract the men that get noticed.\n\nIf you as a women wasn't interested, nothing will ever happen to get you noticed.  Just be yourself, and be a lady with class.  If you like someone, and they like being around you without you looking at the clock that is the guy you want to be with.\n\nFun, is the magical word here.  Don't be one of the guys, that will never get you noticed.\n\nDress up in some nice clothes, stop wearing the same thing over, and over.\n\nChange the way you look, experiment.... You are hot without trying, imagine the attention you will get if you worked on it.   \n\nChange your hair style first, then get some designer glasses and shop for new clothes.  Never wear cheap shoes.  \n\nGet yourself a pair of Nine West, and treat yourself to nice clothes.\n\nAlways buy a piece at a time now, for Spring and Fall next year around Feb.
998424
i suggest,go out and enjoy your life,dont agonize over a guy,the minute you stop worrying and focus on something else more produtive,BAM,you"ll notice that guys will be checking you out,most guys i know,really like a confident woman....so go,go have fun,enjoy your life!
844109
What makes you think you cant do it?  It's about feeling attractive and sexy as a woman and subtly letting it show. If you like a man you are trying to seduce him by acting sexy (but not like a slapper!). Try lots of eye contact with seductive smiling,  laughing at his jokes, touch his arm to emphasive a point, offer him a genuine compliment(that one worked for me!) and speak softly. Looking up at him with doe eyes is usually a winner,Just keep showing interest in the man and he will eventually get the message. Most of all though remember to be yourself.