Long distance relationship question?
461291
Your situation is very similar to what I am in. My b/f and I met online, talked for 3 weeks, then met.  We had the most unbelieveable weekend together!!  We now have been living together 5 months, but he works out of state for 2 to 3 weeks at a time.  Hopefully I can help with that I know.  \n\nThe void in your heart when you aren't talking to her is because all you two have right now, is talking.  You can't see each other every day so that's what you cling to.  Makes perfect sense, I felt the same way then.\n\nAlthough she isn't calling you as often as you'd like, what do you two have to talk about, that you haven't talked about in the last 2 months?  Those hour long phone calls don't last forever because seriously, what else is there to talk about?  My b/f and I decided a call in the morning and a call in the evening would be the best way to handle that.  We could wish each other good morning and tell each other have a good day, but we'd play catch up at night.  We always make sure to tell each other even the little things that happen throughout our day because we both feel like we too are experiencing things even when we can't be together.  \n\nWe do have seperate lives too.  When he is home, we are together 100% but when we are apart, I go out with my girlfriends and he goes out with his work crew.  Don't think for a minute I am not thinking of him when I am out.  He feels the same because many times, he calls me when he is out with the guys.  My point is, you can't just sit at home and mope, wondering what the other is doing.  You need to live too.  Have fun, do hobbies, go out with your buddies.  Keep your mind busy until you can be with her again.  \n\nIf it's meant to be, it will happen.  Don't rush or pressure her and don't be clingy and needy. You have to trust her.  If you don't, you will lose her for sure.
157611
Ok, realise that there are BENEFITS to  having a long distance relationships such as the honeymoon effect... Now send her a daily email, chat with her cam2cam,send her letters/cards via snail mail----- communicate when you are apart... Good Luck...
433912
Well, i do not belive in long distance relationships.However, i do have these kind of relationships. My bf lives in another country. I might tell taht it depends on the person, and his feelings, and his values. But still time kills any feelings.. But u know do not be upset anywayz. And deffinetly do not feel depressed, and try not to listen to anyone, bc everyone will tell you that long distance relationships can't exist. Just  enjoy the moments you have now, do not be upset at him. and even thou if you will decide to separate, (hopefuly you will not)do not feel upset. That's just life, you got to enjoyo the moments, and i'm sure you had realy nice moments together. Do not listen to anyone. Just  stay calm, enjoy urself and ur relationships.. Ciao
1161024
I know how that is...my boyfriend lives 9 hours away from me! \nThe most important thing is staying i contact, call each other as much as possible, say little cute things all the time, send each other things in the mail, little surprises to let each other know your thinking about them. I send my boyfriend cookies and letters all the time, the little things truely make all the difference.
595247
Long distances relationships can work..but a lot of times they do fail though, sadly to say...but in your case..you have no way to communicate with him at all..so its a bad idea to stay together..if you cant even talk!
448008
To make a long distance relationship work there has to be a lot of trust - if you don't see each other all week or sometimes for a few weeks you have to be certain the other is serious about the relationship.  It is also good to have very regular contact.  One good thing about not seeing each other so often is that it keeps the relationship alive and you always have separate interests and therefore loads to talk about when you do see each other.  However, this type of relationship can take a long while to get off the ground - much longer than a normal one and there has to be a lot of feelings to keep it going.
512649
The key to maintaining a long distance relationship is constant communication. I know it may be expensive to phone him everyday so try other ways like email him, send him free e-cards to express a certain feeling (like "I miss you" or "Thinking of you"), for example. There are tons of free e-card websites. Hallmark.com is a great one, and you just have to register first which is free and then you can send as many e-cards as you want. Take advantage of holidays where he might be coming back down to visit his family or you go up there to visit him. If he really is into you and wants to make the relationship work, he will have no problem paying for 1/2 the ticket or cost to go up there and spend time with him, and vice versa if he wants to come down and spend time with you. I'm not going to lie to you, a long distance relationship is difficult and definitely involves more work than a regular one, but you CAN make it happen if you BOTH really want to. Good luck sweetie.
1009604
ok, i am in a LDR and its working great!! so, background-we were best friends for two years before we started dating...we would talk for hours every night and had been there for each other through everything! so four months ago, we decided to start dating....now he is in college an hour away so its been kinda tough, just because we miss seeing each other more often....but we both trust each other in everything and b/c our relationship is based on trust and communication, getting to kno each other via phone, etc, it has really been working out.......we call each other for everything and have gotten so much closer....plus it makes the times we get to see each other more special!! =D so it depends on the trust factor really, otherwise there is no relationship.....well, hope this helps!!
550422
You think a 3 hour drive is a long distance relationship? Try being 10,000+ miles apart... My finacee' is in Hanoi, Vietnam while I'm here in California. \n\nIt is VERY tough to have a long distance relationship. It requires tremendous amount of commitment to each other. You are your girl will be tested every day on how strong your bond is. \n\nThere's an old saying that basically says to let her go and see if she comes back to you. That should be the first thing you do to see if your long distance relationship will work. \n\nGood luck to you!
950951
I went out with someone who lived in Spain when I was living in Ireland, I am now married to him and we are about to celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary, so yes, long distance relationships can definitly work, you just have to be prepared to work at them!!
493777
well i think long distance relationship dun wrk but since u already in it den u cud jus go on n experience it urself. da reason y long distance doesnt wrk cuz sum how probl comes lyk da kinda probl u'r in now. wen u in love or lykin sum one soo much especialy long distance relationship, u goin to feel desperate to c dat person, spendin time wit dat person or sumtime jus to b able to tlk to dat person face to face. n wen dat point come to deep it bcome frustion n dat's not gud. cuz either one of u goin to want to b c-in each otha but dere'r no way y'all can. so whoeva thinkin of it feel lyk dey shud giv up bcuz it's no point. n dey feelin r gettin tired..n tired. rite now i think u shud giv him all ur love n support. dun pressurin him animore to c u. or mayb u shud b da one who came ova dere to c him if u'r old enough to do dat. OR mayb dis whole things of him actin weird was jus so he cud break'up wit u but he hope u undastand cuz he doesnt want to hurt u. fo u to find da rite answer, u jus gotta tlk to him n ask him urself. dun b afraid...things only wrk out if u tlk about to either person..mak dem feel comfortable enough dat dey cud tell u wateva dey feel..
103858
From personal experience and I also have friends trying to make long distance work. Its sooooo hard! No matter how much you like or love that person its nearly impossible, especially since you both live in two different states. Have you ever heard of the expression, The right person but the wrong time. Dont hold each other back.
1121246
If you dont communicate you will never know what is going on there. Secondly it seems you stated it is a long distance relationship which is hard itself and without communication it will not work bottom line. Secondly trust is very inportant in any relationship and it seems liek neither of you have that so I believe you both need to have a heart to heart look at where you both stand as well as where it is goign and if it is worth it. If neither of you are ready to trust and also be willing to talk about things it will nto work bottom line
1154492
Long Distance relationships are doomed to failure 99.9% of the time.  You can try to make it work, but you will go broke paying for all the long distance phone calls, and there still is no guarantee she's not banging the lumpy guy who works the counter at the Taco Bell.   \nIt just ain't worth the hassle and stress.  Move on.  Keep in touch with her, and if she moves nearby, start dating her again.
1159611
If you really love her then what's holding you back. Who's to say that she won't want to move with you? If you don't think a long-distance relationship would be worth trying then just break up with her. But if you think there's any chance of you guys staying together and sticking through this then keep her.
1089265
A long distant relationship can work, it both parties are truly committed.  However, it all depends how long you will be apart from eachother...  If it is just until school is finished, that's different, but if it's because you both just live in different states, then that is something to think about... \n\nSometimes one person will get tired of being lonely and tired of not being able to see each other on a regular....\n\nIt can work, but will take a lot of hard work....\n\nGOOD LUCK
259139
well actually there is. the good side about long distance relationship is you'll both get to trust each other more and that it would test how much you love each other. and the best part of it is when you get through this, its a never ending bond between you. as long as there is no sidelines while each one of you are away.\n\nthe bad news about long distance relationship is that it doesnt work for everyone. maybe for some but dont be so sure that he/she didnt make out with someone else. loneliness is one of the most devastating feeling that can destroy a good or even a perfect relationship.\n\nbeen there a couple of times. tried it 3 times with the same girl but still it didnt work. and i assure you we were really both inlove that time since we were still in highschool. if you total it up, we were loving each other for 10 years but the distance and loneliness killed our relationship. and mostly its my fault coz and i admit that. sorry.