my boyfriends mother wont let he and i sleep in the same room should we stay their or get a motel room?
457966
If you really need to be together get the hotel room. But, I think it would be a GREAT gesture on your part to stay with your future mom in-law and abide by her rules. It would show her that you respect her and her rules. Plus it would only be for a few days. You can do it =)
151129
I'm sorry, but this isn't your choice.  It is their house and their rules.  You can ask them but you need to respect their decision.  If you don't like their answer then you and your boyfriend need to get a place of your own.
263908
First of all it is selfish grammer to say me and my, you say my boyfriend and I, don't talk about yourself first. Second if you don't know how to communicate with her, you do not come off as ready to leave the nest.  Why not have the boy get his own place and visit him there often but keep your home base.  Keep the best of two worlds, after all you have never lived with a man before, you have not lived on your own.  If I were you I would test this guy and see if he is man enough to stand on his own.  You should crave to have your own little place someday, a dorm room or even just a room for rent.  Your freedom time may be short and sweet but don't miss out on this interval between mom's place and your first and side step your independence.  You will look back one day and regret not taking time for yourself.  Enjoy being independent of him, enjoy being his guest, help him with his place but keep filling your own hope chest.  I am financially independent, I have so many houses I don't know what to do.  I could not marry without a prenup.  You have so much ahead, don't piss mom off at all.  Take it to heart.  She is your number one.  Ask her what you should do instead of being a little tyrant and telling her what your going to do.  Unless of course your of age that is, 18 and you don't have anything better to do with your life.  But now you can save money staying with mom.  Stay free.
682957
I did have to make that choice, either stay living with my boyfriend or come home to live with my parents that are in bad health and failing fast. I choice to be with my parents and can only hope now that I don't loose my boyfriend in the process of all this. So far so good as I have been here with my parents for over 2 months now, him and I are still going strong.I either go see him or he comes to see me and talk every day on the phone.
481462
If the two of you are truly in love than it should be no problem for the two of you to continue as you are for one more year until you are of a legal age to do as you please. Your mom is just trying to protect you. It's her job. Don't fight it. Spend this year enjoying each other's company and growing closer together as a couple. Then, when you're 18, ask for your mother's blessing. I understand the urge to rush out into this wonderful new life (speaking from experience) but as a couple you should honor your mother wishes and just wait it out. One year out of a lifetime of happiness will be a drop in the bucket.
613201
My mother never liked my boyfriend and unfortunately I do not speak to her now and she doesn't know that I am married to that boyfriend. I'm not suggesting that this will happen to you but I think that you should be firm and stick by your husband because your mother has to stop dictating your life when you reach a certain age.\nMothers always believe that they know best but I am very happy - my mother was proved wrong so you should have faith in your own feelings.
803545
You're really not being independent if you shack up with your boyfriend and are too scared to tell your mommy. An independent woman would get her own apartment and pay her own way, and when she gets married, would create a home with her husband. If you think your mom would react badly, consider the reasons why: is that how she raised you? To live and sleep with a man out of wedlock?  Can she be proud of you?\nIf you think you're going to marry him, understand that couples who live together have an 85% chance of breaking up- before marriage because living together is just a way to avoid making a real commitment.
236116
Only if you can provide yourself a safe environment.  I don't recommend staying with him.  Instead stay in a hotel and plan some things to do that are a bit more public.  As nice as someone is you still need to be careful.  Better yet, have him come visit you so that your on your own turf where you have full control of the situation.
289549
Trust your mother on this one - she's only got your best interests at heart.  If you love this guy then the fact that your back home with Mum won't get in the way of your relationship.\n\nFrom a legal point of view your Mum's in the right.
771968
Honey\n\nYou and your hubby need to move out!\n\nEven if you have to live in a small dump, its better than putting up with the stress!!\n\nMove out soon!
96505
First of all, if your parents don't let you, you can't. You are a minor. You can get emancipated, but that is a long shot in the dark. Frankly, you should listen to your mother. Getting married is NOT the answer. If he loved you to begin with, he wouldn't have gotten you pregnant, asked you to sleep with him, or agreed to sleep with you. It is a respect issue, and he obviously doesn't respect you. You need to respect yourself! Listen to your mom.
907184
NO!!!! you should not move in with your boyfriend!!! you should not date the other boy. please listen to what i am saying! if you havent told your parents you are pregnant you need to. you also are going to need thier help later on in your pregnancy, so STAY AT HOME!!!!!!!! the best thing you can do for you and your baby is to finish school. FINISH SCHOOL!!!! you did an adult act and now you are in an adult situation. act like an adult. you are bringing a life into the world, and you are its mother. you dont have time right now for boyfriends. tell your parents, dont leave home right now, and please finish school!!!!!!
575218
I would get a hotel room instead.  It is her house and you need to respect her rules if you choose to stay there.
536565
i feel sorry for you. i have a similar situation. my boyfriend's mother doesn't like me as well. we have been together for more than 4 years now.  what i suggest is you discuss this matter with your boy and try to win your future mother in law.  if you can't just fix your relationship with your man and just ignore her.  what's important is that you and your man are madly inlove with each other.
625903
Do whatever feels right to you. You mother may be trying to make up for lost time. But if you are not comfortable moving in with her stay with your grandmother and go to her house for visits. Be honest with her, but also be willing to help her.
779892
You both sound very much in love. How about asking him to move and buying/renting his mom a place close by, that way you'll be in your comfort zone and able to deal with her from a distance; and enable him to move? I think you're going to have to accept the fact that he'll never want his mom out of his life...as annoying as it is; the package comes with it.
748107
Just be careful...you're still very young!  Living with someone and dating them are two different things.  Its very diffcult, even when you have a good relationship.  Why don't you just stay there for the summer and see how things go...and if that works out then move in with him.  I wouldn't just throw my bag over my shoulder and go down there without a plan (i.e. a job lined up, a school that's accepted you).  Your mom is right in being concerned b/c it seems to me like you don't have a real plan other than moving in with your boyfriend.  If you want your mom to accept this plan you need to show her that you actually have a PLAN.  Just moving in is not a plan.  Apply to some schools down there, and apply for some jobs, and maybe she'll be more apt to support your move.