when i broke up w/ my g/f i found out she was cheating on me and i beat the shitout of the guy did i overreact
462656
Love hurts! I personally would have found a girl to kick your ex girlfriend's butt too! After all, it takes two. No, abuse is not the answer. She could have lied to him about being single. Although, I am sure it felt damn good and you felt better by kicking his butt!
182361
Man...that sucks.  My ex and I broke up after I discovered cheating...and then I was a sucker and feel for the "I am so sorry" speech.  Needless to say the next 6 months were absolute hell.  \nI was never able to forgive the cheating in the first place and made myself completely crazy.  If you are checking her email now, sounds like you may be in the same position I was.  Man, you gotta move on. Confront her if you need. SO WHAT that you have been checking her email!  What is she going to do?  Get mad?  She is the one who broke the trust to begin with.\nTime to bail my friend.  Good luck to you.
176460
Cheating is NOT OK...the fact that he did that too you in the first place is soooo not cool. I'm surprised you didn't do away with him then! The thing is if you didn't do anything about it when it happened...he's probably thinkin sweet i'll do it again...unless he's really genuine. Just ask yourself...If he's hurt me this much this soon, whats to come in the future...? And what might come in the future is heartbreak...and you don't want that. If you break up with him now, you can do it on good terms, and possibly hold up a descent friendship!! Just pretect your heart...good luck!!!
713168
Truthfully, it depends on what you did.  But if you haven't already, try apologizing to her.  It may sound too simple, but girls have more respect for a guy who can admit he's wrong.  Just tell her that you know you were a jerk, but you are sorry and that you would really love another chance to try and work things out.  If you are genuinely apologetic, your sincerity will show and she might decide to give you a chance.   Just make sure that you continue the good behavior after you get back together!  And if the apology doesn't work, you might have to accept that the relationship isn't meant to be (at least for right now).   Good luck!
626601
well my boyfriend was double dating me so when i found out for sure i did the same thing and when it got back to him he was pissed and he broke up with his other little friend and apologized to me.
462997
my ex and i always fought. and i'm not exactly the best guy. i tried my best though. but i realized that i dont make her as happy as i used to and that probably, others can. so i gave her up. i broke up with her, because i want someone who'll be good to her... someone better than me. (dont do this if you and your girl are really into each other)
921522
I don't mean to say this to get you upset or angry or anything, but it seems to me that your dissatisfaction stems more from yourself than from her actions, I think. It sounds like you weren't truly sure you were done with the relationship when you ended it, and as a result you couldn't fully own your decision to break up with her. Perhaps you were afraid of something, like her breaking up with you first, or jealousy issues, or something similar, and that is why you ended it?Or maybe you were trying to prove a point, or you thought she'd come back?\nAll in all, the above types of reasons for ending a relationship ultimately do not stem from dissatisfaction with the other person, so much as they stem from personal dissatisfaction, in one form or another, if that makes sense? Jealousy issues are your insecurities acting up... proving a point or thinking she'd come back are manipulative moves which might indicate a lack of trust in the relationship, yet also an inability to let go of something which is making you upset...\nIt really sucks to feel this way, and I'm sure that anyone who has broken up with a few people has probably experienced this at one point or another. Just feel the pain for now - it will pass, and feeling pain is ok. Then, once the pain dies down a bit, examine what is going on with yourself... take care of yourself first. You probably knew what you were doing when you ended the relationship, even if not for the reasons you thought you had ended it for. Personal development is a great way to turn a crappy situation into a good experience.\nGood luck!
681051
you must feel so mixed up and betrayed but try to focus on how lucky you have been to only lose three years and a few DVDs. Give yourself a holiday if you can and spend sometime with friends and family. Talk and cry about it until you feel better but keep away from him. I found out someone I lived with was a gangster and robbed banks for kicks. When I found out he was lying about himself and tried to leave him I got a beating and he hired people to kill me. Thank God I survived. My advice count your blessings, change your phone numbers and get this creep out of your life, your heart and your head. sorry you are hurting so much but real love is out there. keep the faith
43078
Well it depends on if you are...repentant about the mistake you made.  if you are, yes. you should. he'll find out someday and it's better to come from you with a real face of repentance than for him to find out and ruin your relationship because of it. \nIf you aren't repentant and you could care less if your b/f knew, then tell him and break up with him.  'cause if you 'cheated' on him, whats the point in being HIS     friend?
379799
Forget it.  You'll get over her.  You won't respect yourself, and she'll never respect you either if you let her walk on you like that.  You don't just casually leave someone.  How would you ever trust her again?   You'd spend your life worried that if you don't jump through her hoops, she'll bail again, and she probably will, too!   \n\nJust tell her, "I'm sorry.  I wish you all the best, but that ship has sailed."  You don't need to humiliate her or rub her nose in it.  Take the high road, which will make her realize all the more that you are a decent guy and she shouldn't have done that.  You can't fix this one, but maybe she'll grow up a little for the next guy.
1003212
Forget him...there was obviously a good reason why you broke up with eachother..and honey...he was cheating on his gf wit u ....what makes u think he won't cheat on u wit someone else??Find yourself a real man!<3
574197
if she broke up with you then she isnt your girlfriend any longer.. but if she was cheating on you when you were together then be thankful she ended it.. once a cheater always a cheater...let it go and find someone that you can be happy with.. if you think she was cheating then more than likely she was or had plans to... move on and have fun.. life is to short...
848308
You have to give her time...Back off. Tell her you love her and that you are very sorry, Tell her you'll spend the rest of your life making it up to her. I am going to assume you cheated, we are all human. Don't make that mistake again. Time will tell you all you need to know. Tell her how you feel then give her space. Even if you don't talk for a couple weeks. Send her a text message or leave a voice mail every once in awhile telling her you love her. Best of luck
1147592
I think you hurt her. The thing about this situation, is you messed with a girl who cared for you and now that you showed her your bad temper, it made her realize that she doesnt need that in her life. Men dont understand that half the reason why women leave them is because they have said something that offends their girlfriends. Girls have mixed emotions that get hurt easily. It seems like you hurt her feelings. Just keep calling, she may or may not answer. But next time you need to listen to her side of the situation first, unstead of jumping to conclusions and yelling at her before you even know why she didnt call back. Good Luck
299185
Sorry dude, this is the way of the world. The truth is that you were dating "the kind of girl" that would do that. So, it's better that you not be with her. \n\nConsider yourself a free man. Go forth and date other women. Just make sure you don't take her back or act like it is ruining your life. You need to be the better man (or at least act like it). Your best bet is to show confidence and near indifference to what happened. Other girls will flock to you.
221736
girl this has just happened to me and you shouldn't feel guilty. i felt guilty but i really should have. Why don't you try talking to them or telling your friend thats here if he really likes you he will wait until you're sure. and the long distance relationship i was in i cheated on him and i felt so guilty i told him about it and we broke up. Maybe you should ask him to take a brake and set up a date you will become bf/gf on that specific date. That will show you if you know what you have or not. Maybe this will help and maybe it won't but this is what i would do if i relieved this.
1066223
wel i think she lied to you because you she didnt want to hurt you or thought she would loose you.  I don't think thats cheating as you guys only started dating and it was too earlier for her to know where that relationship is going.\n\nI would be gutted tho and know how you feel> It really sucks but what can you do?\nIf you like her and she has been faithful since, forgive and forget and move on with your relationship.  FYI it probably took a lot of courage for her to tell you and i dont hink she did it to spite you!