if i stay home while my husband is stationed somewhere else do you think it would work?
466018
it depends on you, as a former Navy man i can tell you that it's not easy when the husband/boyfriend is deployed for months at a time, i've also seen the cheating on both ends (her at home and him in the field).....your relationship has to be strong or it's not going to work, and even then there is always a chance that one of you will stray when the strain gets to be unbearable
899947
I think it is a good idea.  My now husband always helped pay for sitters when we went out.  He knew I was a struggling single parent.  The alternative being you guys stay in for a night - which may or may not be an option depending on if you are ready to have him involved with your kids.
641761
Yes actually. I keep trying to get my husband to go and work out of town and just come home on the weekends or every other weekend. We fight too much and maybe if we didnt have to see each other everyday we might look forward to spending time together!
1154731
that all depends on you and your spouse! if you are secure with staying at home taking care of the family then stay, but if you want to work then work! this is something you and your spouse should discuss
365846
Ah, yes... I've dated an Army guy and later a Navy guy.\n\nIt's a common situation, but it can work. When they are away, they are surrounded by mostly other guys. If he has a pic of you, he'll probably post it up and brag to the guys.\n\nI am confident it can work, if you have a strong relationship to start with. If you love each other and stay faithful, it can most definately work.
628890
Currently, no...\nMy hubby is deployed, so, sex has been put on the "back burner." But when he comes home...hehehe...that's going to be a whole other story.
156405
No, you will not be stationed together. The Marine Corps in federally obsevered and the NG is State observered. It is possible you can be stationed in the same town, but if your boyfriend gets orders to another base in another state, you will still be obligated to your post.
718007
im sure that your first thought would be to do something grand and over the top, but i would suggest that you do something simple. a little quiet time with just you two will be a good start. if you want to have a welcome home party for him, i would suggest that you have it the week after he gets home, to allow him time to adjust. and as for you... be prepared for some changes, and dont expect things just to fall back into the place where you were when he left. accept the fact that your husband is a changed man. because he is. just be patient with him, and take things slow. caution your friends and loved one not to make him talk about his experiences. he will tell you when he is ready. and above all, just make sure that you are there for him. out of everything that you want to plan for him, do for him, and do to him, im sure that all he really wants is a hug from the woman he loves.
259359
I do not think so, unless they  had left the base to meet with your wife instead of performing their duties.\nOnce they are off duty they can somewhat do what they want.\nIf they want to date someone they can, or sadly in your case be with a married woman. \nYou could report this to his CO, not sure if it will do any good, maybe his CO will have him ordered to stay on the military base
615445
I would miss being around him, his hugs, his kisses, his love....  But that's good, because when you get home.  It's going to be like a honeymoon again...\n\nSometimes it is healthy being away from your spouse.  Gives you a chance to miss him.\n\nHAVE FUN ON YOUR VACATION...
1118484
I think it all depends.  If you've been in a relationship with someone for a long time and you know they'll be back, then it's ideal.  Military wives do it all the time when their husbands go and fight.  However, if you haven't known the person for very long, and have never even met.  IE:  Online love.  Then screw that.  There's no point in having a long distance relationship with someone you don't know REALLY well.  Long distance relationships often fail because you two can't even be together that much, causing a series of emotions that aren't healthy.  If you're in a long term relationship, make sure it's right for both of you and you're not just doing it because you can't let someone go.
263823
ok well i am not a spouse yet but i have been with a military man for 3 years now in that time he has gotten out and then back in...we moved to his home state where his parents were and just couldnt make it so he got back in...once you are in its hard to get out and make a living for yourself...and when someone does i give them all the credit in the world because we couldnt
619680
You don't have two personalities what you do have is a part of you that desires intimacy and affection. I think you are torn between your values and your emotional and physical needs. I have to commend you for your commitment to your marriage but how do you do it if he is so far away?  As much as you have all the best intentions I can't imagine having my husband in another country it would make me feel like i wasn't married. Does your husband have plans on coming home soon? If he doesn't and you do find the courage to separate from your husband it does not mean you didn't try to make it work or did something wrong. Unless the way you feel right now changes. If the need for an intimate relationship still haunts you, you have to seriously consider moving on so you can be whole again.
245653
Don't stress out about it. Phones are few and far between, and the military schedules don't often coincide with the soldier's personal desires. I'd give it a few days, if not a few weeks before I'd get worried.
657348
My husband is active duty, but is able to retire because he has served 20 years. I enjoy being an officers wife. He is often gone, which is a down side, but during those times I am able to bond with my girlfriends. As stated in a previous message when he returns it feels like we are newlyweds. I also enjoy the constant moving. If you move to a place that you dont like, it's no big deal because you know that in two or three years you will be gone. I work also and when he is not home I do not have to rush home to make sure that his dinner is prepared properly and the house is in proper order.
1012335
Move on honey. Unless he's in the military, he chose to be in another state
749431
Honestly it does get easier. You get used to them coming and going for training but the deployment can be really rough at times. Whenever my husband is gone for more than a few days I just make sure that I have a day where I totally pamper myself. It relieves stress and makes it easier to face the next day and makes me look better to boot.And when he deploys make sure you write and send packages alot. It's very good for his morale and will make you feel better because you are doing something for him. As far as living without your best friend everyday...well I learned to not look at it that way. If I did I'd drive myself nuts. I look at it more like he's just at work and I'll see him when he gets home. It's amazing the way you learn to trick yourself so that you can adjust. Hang in there! You'll adjust to it! ;-)