What do you think of a woman who stays with a man who beats her?
467587
she must like it. that's what i told my stepdaughters' mother when she kept crying about it (from her boyfriend, not my ex.).\n\nif she is beaten and stays, she likes it, so leave her alone in her own world.\n\ni can't get my husband to spank me in the bedroom even if i ask. he says he can't hit a woman.
658073
.\nMy friend has lived with a husband who was schizophrenic. She used to get a daily dose of kicks, abuses, curses and insults. Yet she did not leave him.\n\nAnd now he is old and helpless and he no longer beats her although his tongue is still sharp. I have not seen ANY change in him.\n\nWas it worth it to have wasted her life. And why did she do it. Another friend of mine is a psychologist and has completed her thesis on "Wife Beaters". According to her research, she says that there can be NO change in the man who beats up his wife. He will continue to do so till he dies.\n\nAre you willing to sacrifice your life? If  "LOVE" is not there anymore, then the marriage is a very painful relationship.\n\nI don't think that it will help you to remain in this situation.\n\nYour life is yours. You have a right to live with dignity and self respect which he cannot give you. You will develop low self esteem if you stick to him.\n\nGo--- Find your own happiness--- but this time don't get into another trap easily
229535
Yes, I had a crappy boyfriend in the past who beat me often. I'd try to leave, but he'd find me again. Why it happened....cuz he was a jerk and couldn't control his temper I guess.\nHe finally got his payback--my bestfriend at the time beat him down, and he packed up and moved. Never heard from him again! Yippee!!! ;0)
830179
i hope she never comes back!! ppl like you make me sick, guy's who use violence on women sohuld be locked up, it's a sign of weakness. i hope you rot in hell, i don't care if you report me ,i said what i wanted too.
968790
?There is no excuse of hitting a woman.  Regardless if that is my best guy I would hit him back.
355968
hahaha..honestly this is so funny...okay..for whatever the reason is you cannot beat your woman..her power not even half yours..but i can understand in the minute she hits you, you cant think because of the pain and the normal reaction is to hit back, cuz it's all about reflects. but here's what you can do in time of phisycal fighting instead of beating her as a revenge, grab both of her arm so she cant move, and watch her legs cuz she will try to kick your hip and below. the safest position is hold her from the back, so that she cant move and you're not doing her any harm...
736932
Sounds to me as if she is the one losing control. Throwing things..??....like a 2 year old temper fit....commit her to a mental ward, call the cops, do whatever to make her grow up but darn sure don't go to jail over someone resorting to foolish infantile antics. I detest men who hit women but I don't know how men put up with some of these awful controlling dictator wives, sounds like her parents should have beat her or done something, you aren't dealing with a civilized adult.
610661
I'm a woman, and will probably get blasted from my fellow ladies...but if she wants to talk like a man, and act like a man and HIT like a man..she probably deserves to get hit back. I don't normally condone violence of any sort..but, come on. I lived with a girl a long time ago. She would  always have her bf over, and they would hang out in her room. One night I heard her screaming and crying and my girlfriend and I rushed in there. He had hit her. We told him to get the F*ck out. A few days later he was over, and we heard all the screaming and yelling again. We busted into the room just in time to see her reach into last week and belt him. We told her that we weren't going to get involved anymore. If she wanted to throw the first punch, she should be able to take the consequences. If I'm going to tell women to stand up for themselves and not accept abuse, how is it appropriate to not tell men the same thing?
1137961
Personality clashes are one thing, disrespect is another. If he cannot properly handle a woman who disagrees with him, then he is not going to treat you right, either.
1042464
If you wouldn't have mentioned physical/emotional abuse, I would have said, yes, work it out with him. But I don't believe in staying with anyone that physically abuses you. The scars never heal, they just keep getting deeper. You have to understand that you have been with him for 35 years. That's a huge majority of your life. You get use to having that person there, no matter what. You don't deserve to have a man in your life that physically/emotionally abuses you. You just DON'T deserve that. Are you sure he wants to get back together because he loves you or is it he has found out that other women out there WON'T put up with his abuse. Think about it.
664101
I have never heard an abusive man described this way, to be honest. What I have heard from women in this kind of relationship is that they hate how the guy treats them, but they deserved it cos they said something or did something stupid. Soooo wrong!!\n\nThese women are wholly lacking in self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence. They've been put down for so long, they truly believe the guy is right. They are so low on confidence that they will continue to state, Ohh, but I love him. I think that is because they see no way out..they feel they can't make it on their own, especially if they have kids, and they truly are SCARED to go it alone. They want someone to take care of them...and no, they really DON'T want the abusive guy, but they won't do anything about it until they learn to build up their self -esteem and truly believe that they are worth so much and have done NOTHING to deserve this kind of treatment.
758110
I would say by your question that a woman has just burnt you pretty bad. There are men out there the same way. I hate it when a woman or man takes another person that loves them so much for grant and then burns them. Like the old saying goes...one bad apple spoils it for the whole bunch......not all people treat other people badly. If they really did love that person they would NEVER treat them bad. If two people really do love each other there is no reason what so ever to manipulate the other for power, or anything else for that part. It should be 50/50 no  matter what.
362483
I can totally relate to what you are saying. I live with the same type of thing every day, unfortunately the person in question is my boss. Sometimes I think if I let loose one day the consequenses might just be worth it. Horrible, I know, but this kind of person can cause the most severe and aggressive frustration! My advice is to avoid him as much as possible, which is what I do with her, but should you happen to proceed with a physical confrontation I admit I would find it comforting to know that at least someone had some consequence for their constant crap behavior and maybe will think twice about it in the future.
1042259
Have you lost your mind?! Do you know any part of the story? Whetther it be true or via media? He used to like puching his women, to show off his ego, well story goes that She knocked him out for beating up on her too much and that's why they are no longer together. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Even the most beautiful, have their quirks.
547400
this sounds like there are a lot of emotional issues that need to be looked into. I think you better have a straight forward talk with your friend, you are right, no one should be abused in a relationship, but it sounds like he has issues if its been two years , he has someone nice and he still stays with this other one. who pays the rent? is he a kept man? alot of questions to be answered.
1107993
OH MY GOD THAT IS NOT OK!! Violence like that is unacceptable in any relationship. He is punching holes to prove to her his superior strength or something to hold an upper hand in their relationship. Wow. Either they end it now or they end it a year from now. No way can she trust him to honor, protect and cherish her for a lifetime. He "wants" a divorce? She needs one. If I am missing something good in their marriage, good for them. I would tell any woman that a man knows that he isn't supposed to physically threaten any woman... ever. I'm sure he is just great with kids who misbehave. "See the hole daddy just punched in the wall? That might be your head next time, sweetie, so don't wake daddy from his nap ever again because I don't want to hurt you." \n\nYour girlfriend shouldn't have kicked the TV set but I don't blame her for trying to stand up for herself. If her husband was in my circle of friends, my buddies and I would take him out and put the fear of God into him. You just let me hear that you raised your hand in anger against your wife and we'll be all over you with the police on the way. They will haul what is left of your sorry a-s-s to jail to rot. This is a very serious issue. Husband may grow up some day, but not as long as women and his guy friends put up with this kind of sh*t.
368542
THANK YOU!! women hit hard and men are beaten a lot adn the women are never punished but if a man touches someones shoulder to hard BAM! you get a restraining order and a filthy record. the answer is do the woman thing and call the police. she as a woman is hitting u and putting u in the position of the classic woman. so do what the classic abused woman shoudl do and call the police. have HER arrested...damn good of you..