why is it that men only seem to get the courage to talk to women when they are drunk?
459239
Well! ... if a girl approached me, I'd probably be less interested in her. Why ? well, that's the last "Man's Job" that we need women to do. Besides, it represents a "masculine" side of the woman, a side which we don't like to see in them (at least me). \nI approach girls everywhere! However, Clubs are NOT the place to look for a relationship, I mean, you know why guys are there, and they're not there to dance!\nI think you should stop approaching men, but try to grap thier attention, a quick look, clothes, perfumes...etc. I can't promise that all of them well approach, some guys with enough confidence will though.
902297
Maybe the money? But I think its mostly because they think of themselves as victims. Maybe daddy was a drunk, and so they get stuck in a rut which will lead nowhere. Women who hang with drunks are dating losers. Doing so makes them losers as well. Sad.
64493
In my opinion, there are 2 reasons men are hesitant to approach a woman.\nA. The women are with a group of close friends. This would mean If the guy gets rejected, there will be a large audience to watch the whole thing.\nB. The woman is beautiful. Men think this woman can have anyone she wants, why would she care for me?
443997
Some men are insecure about being approached by ANY women. Also, many men are afraid to approach WOMEN.  The prettier the more difficult to approach a girl -- because they're afraid of being turned down.  \n\nI'd continue to do what you're doing--work the odds.  Just because you get turned down sometimes, doesn't mean you will always get turned down.  Just make it clear you're interested -- stay approachable.  Guys are so weak about being turned down.  And they play the double standard by acting like women are too agressive if they do the approaching.  Not all though.  So you've got to play the odds.  Trust me, it will all work out.  Just hang in there.
568816
alot of woman are afraid of rejection, just like some men, they dont approach a man their interested because of that, the sad thing is, you never know what the other one is thinking, they may have the same feelings for you, and if you dont get to know them, you could be missing out on a good thing. As for as the guys asking where all the good woman are? A woman who respects herself isnt just gonna go up and hang all over a man she's interested in, she'll sit back and wait to be approched or introduced to you.
1150003
You know, I think that its in the attitude. Its partically physical. I, as a female, am signifigantly smaller than most of my guy friends. I am better able to communicate, and manage small moter tasks. They are better at lifting large things. But, its also the sexual tension between the different sexes. \n\nThis may suprise you, but I think that as a woman, I am in a better position than most of my male friends. I can totally manipulate them, with just a request. "Will you walk me to my car?" Carries an implied message, "Come and walk with me, so I don't get raped" but also "Come and walk with me, since we're going the same way and I want to keep talking". I can also get away with hitting my guy friends without much consequence, and my chances of continuing higher education are much better.\nSo... the inequity between men and women? I think it comes down to education and intimidation. As a 5'4, less than 130 pound woman, I am much more intimidating than my 6'5 200 pound guy friend. It's all attitude.
208574
Get him hammered.  He might not admit it while sober becaue he  might be too afraid.  Remember "A drunk mans words are a sober mans thoughts"
444370
Some men just think if they express themselves they seem week. We think a woman admires us for our strength and back in the old days it was true that if a man showed fear or sadness or even that he was in love, then he wasn't a "man". It's in our nature to hide any softness. Only women were soft. But some of us have realized, though, that women are more independent now and don't need so much "protection". It's just in our nature to to be strong and silent, though in some cases it's for homophobic reasons. Some men just need to be assured that expressing feelings is not a weakness but that it shows they are comfortable themselves and their mate. Let him know that if he expresses himself to you privately that he doesn't have to be so open when company is around. Trust me, it's not just you he may be protecting himself from. If he's been hurt in the past it could take a long time to open up. Just don't over do it by forcing him. Some men just feel more comfortable keeping it inside, but you have your needs too so don't give up. Hope I could help.
1003664
well the reason we know usually is because we also are waiting for the invite! not all women dont get me wrong but alot of us lol and we can pick up on the vibe and the look when a man wants to sleep with us women you men have a "certain look" about you i would say good luck to you but it seems as if you have it all under control! lol but always be safe and respectful of us women
839291
In my experience alcohol can definitely assist people in doing things they wouldn't normally do without alcohol in their system.  I don't think you would do anything stupid because of the fact that you are aware of this fear you have of acting innapropriate.  It's the chance we all take when hanging out with friends who are drinking, that they may do something they wouldn't normally do.  If she is a true friend she will laught with you and tell you to stop your just being drunk.  If your obnoxious when you get drunk however she may not want to hang out with you anymore.  Maybe you should just be honest with her and get it out in the open so that you both may enjoy the evening and you already know how she would react.  She may surprise you and tell you that she would be delighted to make out with you.  '-)
696072
men are not used to women flirting with them. An overwhelming majority of men said they would just love it if a woman would talk to them first or at least express a larger clue that you were interested in checking them out.
566125
If you are a guy your emotions are more intense, they wear them out and the effect lasts longer i.e. they don't recover as fast as women. That is why some men stay away from potentially emotional situations. I think we, the women should have respect for that, and sometimes just back off.
375569
It all depends on the situation. \n\nWomen have an easier time talking about their feelings, getting attention at a bar, having multiple orgasms, getting out of tickets, looking and smelling good and being nurturing.\n\nHowever, they have a harder time getting recognized for the work they do, being respected for non-physical attributes, peeing (they can't pee standing up...they have to look for a decently clean toilet...which are hard to find out there), finding men who can pleasure them, not falling for arrogant abusine men and they have to go through childbirth which I hear is not pleasant.\n\nSo in conclusion, you have to look at the situation.
817380
I use to have this problem, but now I dont. Basicially all u have to do is go up to them with respect, but at the some time be funny. Women love a guy that makes them laugh! Be confindent! Dont be afraid! Rebuke your fear! Look for something on them to start a conversation. Women also love compliments! Look at it this way. If u dont talk to her, u have o% success. But if u do, your success just increased! 50% is better than 0%! Dont be afraid!
346046
i would guess because you're comfortable at work.  you're all on equal terms.  but when you go to, say a bar, you are there to meet women and so insecurity creeps up.
213417
ALOT OF MEN DON'T KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE THAT'S THE REASON WHY THEY ARE SO SHORT WITH US WHEN ASKED A QUESTION, BUT THEN ON THEE OTHER END YOU HAVE SOME MEN THAT JUST DON'T LIKE TO TALK REASON BEING I HAVE NO IDEA,,,, WOMEN LOVE TO TALK THAT'S WHAT WE DO, WE LOVE TO TALK AND WHEN WE TALK WE EXPECT FOR THEM TO LISTEN AND UNDERSTAND ,,,,,MEN HAVE A BIG PROBLEM WITH COMMUNICATION......
604440
alot of men are intimidated by good-looking women. they feel that they don't have a chance. they end up losing in the end to a total jack-ass. jack-asses will do anything to get a woman so they can fuck-them-and-dump-them. they, in turn, ruin it for the guys that would probably be the best thing that ever happened to that woman. it does happen the opposite way sometimes as well. if a guy looks clean-cut and is very polite, give him a chance. remember, arrogance is generally a bad thing. confidence is another...