How often should in-laws call?
456784
Brief phone calls from parents can be daily, if that is to the liking of all concerned. More than that, without good reason, can be thought of as intrusive. As to visits, NEVER give keys to your home to your parents! They should call first, as that is the polite thing to do, and should respect your home and your rules. If they don't, watch out!
1181394
Depends on the purpose and the person.  \n\nFor a busy, working person with 4 kids, do not call to discuss the weather at 9pm or later. \nFor a college friend or laid-back person, do not call after 10pm.
214224
I realize it hurts you deeply, seeing someone you love hurting.  Accepting that we can't "make" anyone do what we would like them to do, in spite of how difficult that may be, is what we must do.  Accept.  It would be nice in life if we could somehow shorten the list of regrets for others.  Realistically though, we are unable to control actions of others, or in some cases, the lack there of.  Perhaps a FRIENDLY phone call, preferably from their father, inviting them for a visit.  Even if an "invitation" to visit your home is not a requirement, they may respond more favorably at hearing a simple, "I'd sure like to see you and the kids", from their Dad's own mouth.  As difficult as it may indeed be, you really may be better staying out of it, leaving the relationship (or the lack of) between his "grown" children and him.  Take ALL the energy that you have being distressed over this situation (in which the power is not in your hands to change) and direct it to the relationship you have with your husband.  Continue to be there for him, emotionally, physically.  Take care of EACH OTHER.  Invite friends over to play cards, or for a chat of "what's new" in their life.  It's time to put the focus on the two of you.  Like the way it used to be, perhaps.  Thinking of you.  Take care.
782252
Depending on the amount of time you have you can meet with these people more than once. Have a questionaer for them to fill out. LEt people know ahead of time about doing there part in cleaning the place up and keeping it that way. Have them sign a "will not be a slob" contract.
1023816
I would say when he stays away a lot.. umm, and when he avoids your calls.\nDang that sounds like my husband..hmmmlol
63173
It depends on your definition of normal. ;)  I would venture to guess that 2-3 times a week is normal, although we go for 6-7.  It is all personal preference.
2527
as often as they can and want to\n2 - 5 times a day is a good number
601118
Ask your wife what she thinks when your In-laws "let down" on you.  This should open a conversation that will allow you to tell her how you feel as well.  She should understands why you are not at the same financial level as her older siblings.  Work together making your financial goals.  Check the progress often together.  She can set her parents straight if that's needed.  No one likes to be put down and should they keep up this behavior, I would make the contacts with them as minimal as possible.  (The natural consequences for people who are jerks...no one wants to be around them.)   Hope this helps!
1029160
Whose Wife... LOL.\n\nSelf - 26 days * 1 time daily \n\nOther - 4 days * 4 time\n\nAlso it depends how new is your wife.. you havn't need to count if you are newly wed.
505814
Because they are way too nosy (the inlaws and insecure) this seems like you are hurt by this sit down and talk to her about it so it doesn't cause any gaps in your relationship good luck
897633
Yes he can. Not talking to him everyday is good for yourrelationship. When he does call you , you get that feeling in your body that you just can't stand. You are so excited when he does call. It is a wonderful feeling. Trust me. I didn't get to talk to my husband for six months but we recieved letters and I look forward to each one. When I did get to see him it was a wonderful feeling.
474271
I find it hard to give out my phone number to people I have known for a few months let alone a few days.  I would consider waiting it out and making sure things are smooth.  Your age and privacy should be taken into consideration. as well.  If you are under 18 and living at home you might want to make sure you and your parents can handle an onslaught of calls if they start coming in.
1138896
I would pick QUALITY over QUANTITY anyday!!! But since you asked about quantity, it varies from week to week depending on what life decides to throw at us. WE have been married for 5 years and have 7 kids. We average 3-4 times a week...some weeks its everyday..and some weeks its once.
509391
Don't make her wait too long!  Act on what your heart tells you.  If you want to call, call.  It's like telling my husband "I love you".  Some would say that I say it "too much".. but if I feel it, I say it.  Just do it. ;)
749311
one night you should tell him to take it easy, and you should cook like your favorite meal, and then pop the question.....make it a speech tell him "He's my homemaker, housewife and my everything when I get home from a long day of work. I manage a large portion of a company and have just recently been too sick to function. He has nursed me and been by my side the entire time, never leaving me for more than a few minutes at a time (he has to shower and go to the bathroom afterall.) We're a solid foundation together, and now that I'm feeling better (and I have a ring).. I want to do it." its very much from the heart i can tell, good luck sweety with everything and congrats on the baby!!
621447
Here is arecent one.  My mother in law has been ranting and raving about throwing me a baby shower since January (Im due at the end of this month)  \n2 weeks ago she tells me that she doesnt have the money anymore and she would rather just take me to the store.  So I was dissapointed, but I had to deal with it.\nSo my sister in law ends up inviting some relatives over from my dads side of the family ( I am not even close with them, she just planned the event so that I would get some seriously needed gifts) She never met Danny's mom so she didnt even think of inviting her.  it was a small get together with under 10 people.. no big deal but a great gesture!\nSo long story short, the monster in law is not speaking to me now.  Mind you this was a surprise shower I didnt know until I walked in... not only is she not speaking to me but neither are his 2 sisters.  I could have the baby any second and I feel like this tension is not only unecessary but really hurt ful and mean. \nThere is my story!
897293
I'd say once a week, more if you were closer and talked more when she was at home. \n\nEmails are a really great way to communicate parent-child because you can say what you want, and she can read it when she wants to and if she's annoyed you won't hear about it. Plus you know your message was sent and she'll eventually get it. Whether it be a personal message or a cute e-card or funny forward (though I'd avoid the stupd forwards or chain letters). She'll be missing the old familiarities of home in a short while.