How to get back at cheating spouses?
470817
WHY would you put soooooooooooooooo much energy into getting back at someone who "cheated" on you?  Get over it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is so NOT worth it.  Move on with your life.  That person is soooooooooooo not worth the time of day let alone all of the effort you are putting into "getting back at them".  I've been cheated on TWICE by two different men AND NOW guess who are the "sad saps"???? THEY ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I so moved on from each of them and now they are miserable bastards.  I couldn't be happier in my life without either one of them.  GROW UP!!!
575157
If the affair is over, forget her and forget about wanting to make her miserable.  Why not concentrate on making yourself happy by dwelling on positive things, such as what is right in your life?  If you want to keep your husband, the change in your attitude might even make him so happy that he won't stray again.\n\nHaven't you ever heard that living well is the best revenge?  Let it go, take the high road, and just forget about her.  Forgive your husband if you want to keep your marriage intact.\n\nAnd why is it that wives who have been cheated on always want to make the "other woman" miserable?  Unless she raped your husband for 3 years, he is just as culpable as she is.  \n\nLet it go.  Do NOT stoop so low as to publicize her personal information.  Unless, of course, you could handle losing a civil lawsuit for libel to her as well as facing criminal charges if you put her in danger, which that would certainly do.
36580
first you have to sit them down.explain what and why the divorse has taken place.then explain that it wasnt their faults.then cry a lot make it make them feel really bad for not trying to help you out a little bit.i know this seems a little decietful but it works everytime
1083833
Firstly what has he done? \n\nThe punishment has to fit the crime. \n\nIf he has cheated the best revenge would be to simply leave telling him "You couldn't satisfy one woman why did you think you could satisfy two at once"\n\nIf he has been violent with you leave and report him to the police. \n\nThe best revenge is to leave with your head up high, your dignity and smiling. \n\nOn the other hand if you really wanted to be nasty unpick the bottom of his curtains and place prawns in them and sew the bottoms back up - it will smell and he won't know where it is coming from. \n\nLet his friends know he was awful in bed. \n\nThere are various ways in which to exact revenge but make sure you really want the consequences before you do it.\n\nGood luck and enjoy!
739412
Learn to commit your marriage to God. Be honest and open with your husband. Encourage him to do the same. you both have been hurt so deeply... but God can heal those hurts and restore the love in your relationship.\n\nLearn to pray. Pour your heart out to God. don't use nice polite prayers. Express your anger, your fear, your disappointments... God  wants you to be honest with Him.\n\nRecognise that you will only do more damage if you leave. admit that you need help and seek counsel - godly counsel. Is there a minister you know? A friend who is a Christian?\n\nDon't give up! Don't walk out!\n\nGod can make your marriage stronger than it has ever been!!!\n\nReally!!!
466504
Realize what went wrong.\nThere is no fixing this if the marriage ended but make sure it doesn't happen again by not repeating past mistakes no matter who was at fault.\nPick Yourself up.\nStart attending events that interest you.\nSince you must be older , possibly look for senior activities even at large senior centers where you can go have dinner in the dining hall and talk with people your age if you don't have a strong friend network.
506167
No 'nice' ways anymore.  Brutal (but sensitive) honesty time.\n1.  Admit your fault in the situation.  You shouldn't have started things up if you knew you were going to get back together with your wife.\n2.  Tell her your side.  Marriage is a commitment and you aren't the kind of person who wants to get divorced and trivialize that commitment so you're doing everything you can... etc, etc.\n3.  Compliment her by reminding her she can find someone much better.\n4.  Let her say how she feels and respond without getting defensive.\n5.  Under no circumstances are you to use her as a 'in case it doesn't work out' friend.  That isn't fair and it's not right.\nGood luck.
817125
you need to calm youself first, and maybe even take notes on what exactly you want to say and then talk to him yourself.  you absolutely do not have to take him back - he lied to you and cheated on you.  trust is what relationships are built upon and he just did the two worst things to break that trust.  \n\nhe cannot just leave the navy either - he has a contract with them and they can put him in military jail if he goes AWOL (absent without leave).  he has to finish out his contract before he can leave, so that should give him time to straighten himself out.\n\nyou do not need to cowtow to his sister.  she is concerned for her brother, and that is very nice of her - but it is not your responsibility to keep him in the navy.  he took all responsibility for his welfare away from you when he cheated on you.  now it is up to you whether or not to forgive (you will never forget).\n\nmy neighbor has been married for 13 years and her husband cheated on her when they were first married.  they do have a loving relationship, and as much as she protests that she trusts him - by the things she says i know she does not... at least 12 years later.\ni could never live that way - i told my husband (who joined the navy after we had been together for about 3 years and is now in the army) when we first started dating that there were 2 things he could do and no matter what i would leave him - cheat on me or raise his hand to me.  \nyou need to do what is best for you - he is an adult, he can do what is best for himself.\n\nwow, after reading some of the other responses - please do not think that all men are like this, and do not think that all men in the military cheat on their wives - this is not true.  it is also not an accepted behavior in the military anymore - it may have been years ago, but no longer.  \ndo not let him turn you bitter - you are too young to live your life bitter and angry at all men because of 1 man.
1110517
If you truly feel that it is up to you, then make your decision based on your feelings, but remember to apply the entire story to your decision.  In other words ... I have known people who have gone back to cheating spouses, and have built good relationships from them, but both people had to change from their selfish ways to ways that promoted selflessness.  The more selfless they became, the better the relationship worked.\n\nI'm not sure that will work ... I would tell you to follow your heart, but the heart is prone to evil and to the world.  If it is not your fault that he cheated (which it never is), but you think you should take him back ... I would do it.  Despite what the world teaches, infidelity by way of affairs is not the worse thing that can happen to a faithful spouse.\n\nBe well, and Love with all of your heart.  You're greatest reward is not on earth.
333235
be honest and dont cheat again
75868
Confront him first. If he blames you for his cheating and shows no remorse then give him the boot!
128142
You have answered your own question.  All the things you mentioned - you will need to bring back.  Opening the communication is the 1st step to recovery.\n\nOr you could sigh up for Wife Swap.
601445
i hear your question because it's the way i hope the women that cheated with my husband one day will feel sometimes i think she will realize this too late as a punishment and she will be too old to start over in life unlike me because she knew he was married, but i have good and bad days for the most part i let it go and just feel sorry for her and think to myself she is even stupidier than me because he was married and was  showing who he was i'm so glad to hear you woke up but probably because he forced you to by actually ending the relationship thats what happened to me the best thing that could have ever happened Hopefully the next fool will wake up real soon so he will get a chance to be a better guy before it's to late because it's women that really allow these guys to be the assholes they are. I know exactly what your talking about when you say name calling ect my husband convinced the other women i was crazy ect which is a manipulation tactic that allows them to keep doing what there doing and not feel guilty about it anyways you should definitely apologize to his ex-wife even though she probably never thinks about him anymore because the days he consumed her are gone these guys suck the life out of women your consuming days will be gone soon too. She probably will tell you you don't have to apologize for jumping in and catching all the hell from him that was suppose to be hers she'll probably thankyou i know thats what i would do if my x's wife ever said sorry to me. Yes you should definitely apologize though it's nice to be validated and it's never to late to start doing the rite thing because as you just have learned you reap what you sow. It's never to late to start sowing good seeds when you get over all your anger and sorrow one day you might suprise yourself and start praying for him and the one he's with now thats probably what his ex did for you. After all he left you so somebody must be praying for you!!!!---when your 'happily' remmaired & have a man that loves you back you'll know what i mean by this. Godbless
1176834
if your partner is willing to move on then you should too. it is very painful to stay with a cheating spouse.all the bitter memories pops up in your mind again and again. the thing to do is forgive. you must never think of taking revenge. talk to your partner and try to mend whatever is left of the relationship.dont try to forget...you can never forget. but you can forgive. then you will move on.remember that you have won and your spouse really loves you...or else he wouldnt be with you. remember people makes mistakes. dont repeat his mistakes. if he repents for his mistakes then embrace him. start a new life. go to councelling, pick up sports, spend time to gether. after all life is short.
816635
hi there right first things first do youre self a favour and do not go back to him he will only continue to use you as a punch bag 2nd stop giving him money he is only going to pour it down his throat and you need all the money you have for youre self nd kids if they are involved ,next start logging every and i mean every call you get from him and every time he turns up phone the plice and get him removed this is going to be a really hard next 6mths at least .....im just starting to get the message through my x husbands head now and i have taken that idiot to court and won ,you need to be really strong and he will play mind games with you and try to get you back but believe me dont you will move on from this and become  strnger woman and find some one how will not use you as a punch bag as he has ....good luck and take care xxxx
11555
Honesty is the best policy. Tell your spouse how you are feeling and what has been going through your mind. Then go in together and get some good marital counseling. Oh, and getting rid of the computer until the health of your marriage recovers is indeed a good idea.
33538
To get back at her, simply do nothing. By doing something that would make her crumble, you yourself will be a part of that mess and would not be pleasant if it was known that you did something or that you had even plotted against her. Eventually, she will reach a breaking point since nobody is truly perfect (no matter how close it seems). She probably has already annoyed other people to the point of abandonment.\n\nOverall, just ignore her. Try and try. You need to be the one to take her place :]