Ok this is a legal matter whats your thought tell him and his mom to go to h*ll or what?
468096
Probably best to seek legal advice (lawyer).
762410
She should not be forced to go. The man was a predator and she could easily have been a victim. There might be others out there who weren't as lucky. I definitely would not go and if I was a mother, I would never even be involved in any way shape or form of this person's anniversary of his death. I am sorry, but there is no good molester in my eyes, and forcing her to go would be sending her the wrong message... I would contact a grandparent or aunt and stay with them while the mother has gone. Sounds like the mother needs to get her head straightened around.. this is her child... she owes nothing to this man.....least of all respect......
1063860
Do the only thing you can do... let them know and see what happens. That is really your only legal option, unless you go with them.
104806
Sounds like the only one creating issues here is the ex. She is trying to control your life, if you let her do that now it only unleashes her to have control dangling your son as the means to keep you doing what she wants. That relationship is over. DO NOT GIVE HER ANY CONTROL. She cannot keep your son from you. Hire an attorney and through the courts establish a visitation schedule. If she goes against it she will be in contempt of court and could possibly face jail time. As for your current girl, be completely honest with her about whats going on, be prepared for angry outburst. She loves you and will be angry about the threat that the ex has made. Communicate and come up with a game plan, the attorney, court, visistation etc. If you cannot afford an atty. contact the legal aide services in your area, they will provide you with one sometimes for free but most likely a fee in accordance to your income. Unless the child is endangered under the care of his mother, you should not take custody away from her. A child needs both parents and this traumatic event may scar him for life. Instead keep your cool, no matter what, let the ex be the dramtic physcho, do things according to the law. Pay your child support and follow any guidance the judge imposes and it will serve you well. Again it is important to maintain a calm composure, air out your frustrations with friends. When you have your son for a visitation, keep it positive, loving, and within a secure comfortable surrounding. The important thing here is that you are happy and being a positive role model for your son. So if this girl you want to marry makes you happy, go for it. Do not let the ex know your intentions it is none of her business. When you apply for a joint custody hearing she'll find out through the papers she recieves. I would have as little contact or communication with the ex as possible. You can also set up to have a chaperoned drop off sight when you pick up and drop off your son. If teh ex wants to act this way let her suffer the consequence for behaving like an immature person. For future reference, check the legal age at which your son is allowed to declare which parent he wants to reside with, in my state it is 12 yrs old. If you handle this right your son may feel more comfortable with you than with his mother and when he is of age you can ask him if he'd like to talk to the judge about living with you. One more important word of advise, NEVER badtalk his mother to him. Regardless of how you feel, that is his mother. A child will become confused and be mentally and emotionally damaged when the parents bad mouth each other. If the ex bad mouths you, there is nothing you can do for it, but again be the bigger person. Your son will learn from the experience and determine his own opinion of each of you by the relationship he has with you both. Be strong, you've certainly a rocky road ahead of you, but it will be worth it in the end if you do things this way. Good luck to you.
748631
Yes you skinflint!\n\nForget legalities, do whats right by your son. You should want to support him and not leave it all up to his mother!
578957
I would have him investigated. Seriously talk to people who really know him. Maybe he's just trying to ease his guilt of being a deadbeat dad for 7 yrs. What ever his intentions are he is not doing it for your child. I've never seen a child that could not sense good intentions in an adult, they are very perceptive. Your right in being concerned. Talk to your attorney. about keeping him away...and I would not put his name on her  birth certificate. That is something she will have her whole life. Doesn't sound like she would like to see his name anywhere near hers.
712341
I would go for satisfaction of telling the old s.o.b. off. Your mom knows how he is???? Why in the hell has she as the adult told that mean old man to lay off. My mom would have, i certainly would if anyone was to be mean or insulting to one of my kids. I would not care who it was. You should not have to put up with that cr*ap from no one, He must have realy self esteem issues to put you down. I would let him have it. There is no excuse for him.
176245
If this dude is even remotely entertaining opinions from his mother, run the f away.\n\n...don't know how old y'all are (apparently old enough to have bred at one time or another), but if you're at that point, let momma have 'im.
521538
ok hunny been there done that.  with your sweetie i cant give a guarenteed answer but i had that problem with my son's father when we were together. he thought it was his responsibilty to look after his mom.  last straw for me was when she "borrowed" 200 bucks to take his sister back to the mainland for ferry and gas and i found out that she used it to go bowling. man i was pissed beyond recognition since the money came out of my account which i used to pay ALL the bills and he wouldnt ask her to pay it back. in your case hes the child and unless they are unable to work or seriously something wrong with them then his responisbility is to you and his children.........however many kids there are and his parents should know that their grandbabies come first and foremost. doesnt matter whose kids they are they are always first and shame on his ex for trying to stick him with two kids that arent his. personally i wouldnt put up with whats going on but maybe make a really big chart and stick it up somewhere really obvious (maybe in the bathroom right over the toilet where he presumably STANDS every morning to take a piss and cant miss it) and put up a couple column where you detail the money your bro gives you for gas and the money his parents drain out every month and ask him how if hes going to support his parents where is the money going to come from for paying child support plus all the monthly bills. family is only as important as you make them and he needs to get rid of his and be a big boy. if they want to know his every move maybe perhaps you should suggest to his parents that he get his old room ready so he can move back in it or offer to move your entire family his kids your kids an all into THEIR house so that they can be in control and you can stay rent free and they can babysit.  all else fails change your phone number refuse to open your door and have all the accounts put in your name with only you being able to access them. or as suggested by the others then by all means kick his ass to the curb............ but thats up to you and how much more of this you are willing to deal with.
793269
have him call his lawyer...
582798
Why did your Mom tell you this? Is he telling her these things,and if so,why? I would tell him to lay off or you will slap a slander suit on him for telling others, lies about you.
883491
Well to me it would depend on how long you've been together.  I'm ASSUMING a very very long time if you go so far as to call the boy your "stepson" as otherwise that would not be appropriate.  So since you've been together so long and love the boy as your son I would have to say why would you not go with them?  The fact that you are questioning going is reason enough to me to not go - at least not for now.  Maybe let them go and get settled.  Then see how things pan out once his real mother gets out of prison.
1105734
your friend need a good solicitor...and someone to take his son for a long drive-away from his father-because if one of my kids ever put me thru this crap i would beat him...then it would be worth getting arrested for it!\nWhat is the so called mother playing at? Suddenly wanting the kids after not bothering for 6 years? Sounds like if your friend cant beat the lad, that maybe his ex wife should be in line!#\nI dont agree with hitting women or kids...but there a line that needs to be drawn and not to be crossed by the people that should show you some respect. good luck to him.
1094209
Yes if he is underage its time to get his parents involved and the best way to do that is have her Dad do it.\nEither way a restraining order is in order.
148168
I am so sorry to hear. It must be very difficult for you and your family. \nI hate to say this, but if my son had this many charges against him, I would have to let him deal with the consequences. Otherwise, the only thing he would learn is that "mom and dad (or one or the other) will bail me out." I've seen this happen to someone who I am very close to and she is on the verge on losing everything, including her mind, trying to keep her son from dealing with the responsibility of his actions. What happens when mom and/or dad are no longer there to bail him out? When does he start learning responsibility for his actions? Chances are that he will outlive you and if he doesn't learn now, then what happens to him? Not to mention the people he has harmed by committing these crimes. It is harsh, I know, and I'm sorry. I know this has to be extremely painful for you. \nHaving said that, if I were determined to try to help him, what I would do is contact an attorney for a consultation. Many atty's give initial consulations for free. I would contact Legal Services which is for people who cannot afford to hire an attorney and is usually located in the blue pages in your local phone book (if your phone book doesn't have blue pages, I mean the section for government phone numbers). I know in our area they have certain times each week you can call, speak to an atty and ask for legal advice, no charge. \nThe website is for a criminal defense lawyer in Lubbock. Don't know how close you are to him but his site says initial consultation is free.
755584
YESS!!!!! TAKE HIM TO COURT
971667
tell his wife to go to talk to the district attorney, or give her the person's job address.\n\nok