my mom has had my kids for 4 years do i have a chance to get them back?i feel my kids are in danger?
463696
why did you leave them with her if she was like that to start with. you can have her checked . you have to get a mental higene warrent for this but there is one thing either way it goes you might have to tell the courts why you left them to start with and in realaty loose the children as well my opion ?
101171
Take this from my experience.  Move out and let yourself heal and your children too.  You will be lonley, but the time alone will allow you to think of what you really want and it take this time to spend with your children. You need to take care of YOU and your Kids most.
1159976
My ex-wife does the same,but she quit once I moved out of state. But she still uses the kids against me. My parents did the same to each other,that's why I don't do it to my kids. I guess what I am trying to say is you cant control what they do only what you do. Good Luck
627107
I am trying to be serious , but may not sound as if...\n\nStop having children, try to get along with some body, I cant believe what is happened to you, how come you never realize that every children you have is a BIIIIIIIIG responsibility, and now you want advice on how to get out of trouble the easy way.\n\nGet to work, and give time to your children, they need it as well as they need to eat.\n\nIs time for you to face what you irresponsibly do, with or with out knowing the consequences..\n\nYou do it, now you fix it, it is going to be hard, but if you make it right you will get your reward, if you think you are not getting any reward, is because you get it before, did I make it clear ????
429996
He is a jerk and you did the right thing. Your kids should be your number one priority. I have 4 and they are the world to me. You are not the bad guy. The next thing he will do is try to get you to feel sorry for him to make you go back to him. Don't do it!
883835
Ive got the same problem with my -- 'out-laws' But luckily for me they are going abroad this year so we are safe. Next year might be different though cos we've had some turbulent times and I dont think I will ever feel the same about them again.\n\nI would try and keep it nice for the children we have but if it weren't for them I wouldn't be bothering.
759788
Cas in Canada lie.Group homes are privately run. These places get major federal$$$ per child. They answer to no one. If they can hold child for one year "voluntarily" Then they are wards, in until 18.  I have heard of so much abuse of power it staggering. The only possible way for her to get children back is hire lawyer. In a second they stop all the Bull and back down.  All kids I know of in care were bullied by CAS into voluntary custody for 3 months. Back ground checks is an excuse to track down anybody u have ever known and probe and spin things.  Legal Aid covers lawyers for this situation.\n       CAS has no thought of giving kids back, marriage or no marriage. Most likely they will just start talking to everybody who has ever met you. They are free dismiss good things and exaggerate any bit of gossip from any anonymous source .
1087078
There are too many children that are not protected by their parents and they need CPS to help protect them.  Speaking from personal experience if there was no cause for removal then the children would not be taken.  If they take your children then you need to step back and honestly ask yourself what was happening for them to take your kids.  Once they have your children you have to comply and do whatever is asked without question.
856183
I am not a only child but I am the youngest. I am 45 years old and never wanted children as you don't. I love kids alot, but just didn't ever want to have any. I have lost both of my parents, my Mom just recently. My parents had grandchildren from my other siblings, but my nieces and nephews treated my Mom like a piece of you know what. My Mom was glad I never had children thank goodness. Sometimes I would ask my Mom what I will do when I get old and have no one to come and see me or help me in any sort of way. My Mom had the best answer that could have been given. She said, just because someone has kids, doesn't mean any of them will help take care of you or come to see you. That is so true. I took care of my Mom for the last nearly 6 years of her life and my brother and sister-in-law only came by our house to see us about once every 3 months. Sometimes it was longer than that. My sister never came around unless she wanted something. Just tell your Mom that you and your husband both agreed before marriage that neither one of you wanted children. It is best to just tell her and get it over with. She may be hurt or angry, but it will pass. It is your life with your husband and your husband is your family. Do not under any circumstances have a child you don't want in the first place just to please your Mom or anyone else. It would make things alot worse on you and your husband. Plus it wouldn't be fair to the child either. I also knew at a very early age that I didn't want children. I love kids, but I want the ones I can keep for a while and send back home to their own parents. LOL  Just tell your Mom and get it over with. Get the burden off of your shoulders and you will feel better. Good luck.
153428
Try talking to them one at a time probably when the other one is gone. I dont know how you parents are but if its a serious problem you dont wanna make it worse you know so just ask at different times. Good luck mama!
926288
That's a hard one!  I don't think either that they should go back either.  Children need a stable environment.  It's not good on them to be transfered around.  Even back to parents that don't care about them anyways.  Im so sorry that you have to go through this.  If I were you,  I would fight this as hard as you can.  Good Luck!
201595
of course.  as long as you don't do anything that would constitute a threat to any of the children, including your own\n\njust tell the principal he's got 2 minutes to have your child come down to the office or you're calling the police and a lawyer.\n\nyou could also go look for your child but then they could say you're a danger and call the cops on you.  good luck getting your kid back then.
110071
NO there isn't a way to get your life back because now you need to keep your kids' welfare in mind for every single decision.  BUT that doesn't mean you cannot still enjoy yourself.  A lot of it is getting your priorities in order and making decisions WITHOUT worrying about what other people think.  Of course, that's as long as your marriage is going well and your kids are healthy, happy, and safe.  If you are the type that doesn't mind leaving your kids with a sitter/caregiver so you can go shop, work, get your nails done, hang at the beach, party - whatever - then find someone you trust and do it.  If leaving your kids with someone while you go somewhere makes you feel rather guilty or just not right, then don't do it.\n\nYOU decided what your life will be like, to heck with critics.  If you are taking care of yourself, your husband. AND your kids, then you have got things going well.\n\nI have 3 kids and I am married.  I admit I chose to give up a lot to stay at home with the younger 2 b/c we can't afford for me to go back to work!  But I did keep my volleyball playing - which I NEVER intended to give up.  People tell me all the time I should be home with my kids instead of v-balling and others tell me I should go back to work b/c that's what should be done.\n\nAs long as you remember you're a mom and do not go overboard, you should be fine and happy.  Good luck!
646503
If your wife has abandoned your children I would think it should be pretty easy for you to get custody of them.  I would check into that right away, though, don't wait for her to maybe come back and sweet-talk you out of it, since she would probably just leave again eventually.  I'm so sorry this happened to you -- best of luck, and remember that better times are on the horizon.
198589
It is great to let it go but it won't work since the underlying resentment will remain.  The best thing to do is try to calmly explain to your mom how deeply her words have hurt you and how they are detrimental to the children.\n\nYou need to clear the air.  After that, you can then decide how much or how little contact your children and you will have with her.  \n\nYou were right to remove your children from such a negative environment.  It is wrong of your mother to degrade you to your own children.  The good news is that your children will love you and won't pay attention to what she said...especially since you are removing them from the situtation.\n\nGood luck!
280362
It is not your fault. It is never the child's fault,never. You have to believe that. I am divorced for many years now, and I know what I am talking about, here. Your mom yells because she feels a lot of stress and sadness, and she needs time to get used to what all happened. But you won't be able to get them back together because you didn't break them up. They are the adults, everything that happened THEY did it--not you.\n\nJust love them both. Tell them both how much you love them, and that you will always love them no matter that they don't love each other any more. Then you love yourself too. You sound like a real sweet, good kid. I wish I could help.\nGod bless you little one.\n\n(joelejr is just being a dork.  and bookreader doesn't understand, it is not the child, it is the adult who ends the adult relationship)
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1. why did he leave you and your children?\n2. have you been intouch with him since to sort out your issues\n3. You shoud never try and win someone back\n\nI have been in this situation before and its so hard to get back on your feet again. But when you see your children you know something has to be done for their sake, so sorting out where things went wrong and coming to some kind of compromise is a start. How you do it is up to you, this is the hardest part because it means you have to face him after he hurt you and your children, make sure your children are not with you for this part they don't need complications, and make sure he is alone, make him make time, after all he turned his back on you, so demand it.\nFriends and family are the best company of course you'll have their full support, surrounding yourself with good positive energies is good for you and your kids.\nMoving on is hard also, but make it a priority, you and your children deserve happiness and so shall it be, bring on the good times, when he sees that you are moving he'll realise that "Hey she can live without me" and maybe then he'll turn towards you and your kids. But don't try and win him back, he'll think you're being desprite, and probably even have a bit of a laugh, maybe even play on it for  while, you don't want that it will prolong the agony for your children, and cause you more energy than he should be for you.\ni hope this all helps I have been there and  when children are involved its important to get it sorted....