How do i tell soon to be ex-husband im moving in with new boyfriend?
464203
Hey, you know, I am kind of in the same boat as you are, except for I have pretty much gone through having to hear my ex-husband cry to me every single time that I spoke with him to let me know how much is missed me.  I have two young boys with him, and believe me, it has been really hard, but thanks to my dear boyfriend who I now love a lot I have made it through.  I have been thinking about living with my boyfriend too, as my divorce will be in June, but it seems like I can't wait that long.  I don't know, but I just know that women seem to want things done much quicker and we don't like to wait to get what we want.  I would say to do what your heart tells you to do.
850409
Just say some thing to the extent of:\n\n\n\n"Date: (Put today's date)\n\nDear Management:\n\nI will be moving out of apartment # (give your apartment number) on (give the date). My forwarding address is: (if you know the address where you will be moving to it is a good idea to include that).\n\nThank You,\n\n(Sign your name)"\n\n\n***** Now the problem I see right now as a property manager is if your lease is up at the end of the month you will not be giving a FULL 30 DAY NOTICE. You will probably be reasponsible until 30 days from the date you have turned in your notice.*****\n\n\nGood Luck
408526
I'm in the same boat as you, I've been with my husband for 5 years and things are getting worse and worse, the happy life we had went down the toilet along time ago and all we do is fight. It's not easy i don't know how to tell him either, but the person I'm seeing makes me feel like I'm worth something, not useless. maybe we can figure out something, my email is under my info
386896
Think you've already made your decision by moving out but instead of following your head or your heart follow your instincts,don't think that after being with someone soo long that you can start fresh like strangers,as you have said you'd need to fix what was wrong in the first place...but if he's not willing to do that what's the point of trying again,you have to think about yourself,and your children,life's to short to be messed about...your the only one to see the relationship they way it is so your the only one that can answer your question but if i was you i'd say away and listen to your instincts,your gut feeling they're very rarely wrong...
853146
I will translate guy for you....I want to move in with you but do not want to be rejected by you....\nHe may not mind the kids...If I were you I would never ever let him move in...You are making a good stand. Keep it up.
1071178
Just because the "L" word came out doesn't really mean anything Bad. Like you said you guys have known each other for awhile already!\nAnd telling him that you haven't felt that way in long time... \nWell, that's like telling him that you are not sure if you are ready for that step in your relationship with him... But, this could be a good thing! If he really loves you ... you will know! \nHe will still show interest in you and you and him can get closer in your relationship. Just don't rush it..  I have been married three times and all of them we're great at first! Ya' know? Just can't wait to be with them... all you think about... and that's great!\nAll I'm saying is to take your time if you want it to last... \nPay attention to the bad sides he may have and see if you really want to spend the REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON...\n\nI don't think you really pushed... if he loves you he will stick around.    If you think you pushed... just go talk to him.\n"What should you do now?"  \n(1)Take your time...\n(2)Let the love grow...\n(3)Spend time together and talk<<< \ncommunication must be open. \nSharing your feelings with the one you love is very important!\nIf you are serious about this guy then try these steps and God Bless...\n later.
1129018
Move out immediately. If she loves you, she will move with you. It isn't the ex that is the problem, it is your perception of him that is making a mess. It doesn't matter what she and her ex did, it is none of your business, just as your past is none of her business. Either take it or leave it. I live with my ex, and have a new love living with me...there are no problems in my household (that I am aware of, anyway).
93030
Have some class and tell him.  The more you pull back and hope he gets the hint, the more he's going to want you and annoy you with his wussy love-prattle.  If you tell him directly, leave no room for error. If he's some sort of psycho he'll try to keep you in his world, if he's normal and cool then just agree that you both keep the break-up details a secret (nobody dumped anyone, it was mutual).
456068
You said that *you* want to work things out with your husband and that *you* realized that you still love him and he still loves you. What about the husband? Does he feel the same? That isn't clear.\n\nWhether or not you like breaking up with people, if you are going to date, it's something you must be prepared to do. Naturally things with the boyfriend went great, and of course he's in love with you - you're both on the rebound. That makes you more sensitive and considerate in a relationship. You don't have years of history with him yet, with the little unintentional hurts that can poison a wonderful relationship. \n\nIt's imperative that you break up with the boyfriend immediately if you don't plan to see it through with him. Children are involved. Be honest. You've only been with him 4-5 months, and it sounds like it started immediately after your husband left. Simply explain that while you like him, and things have been great, you started your relationship too soon, while you were still reeling from your husband leaving. Tell him that the time that has gone by made you realize you want to give it another chance with the husband. Be gentle but firm. If it helps, write out exactly what you want to say in a letter, and keep it handy. Then keep it in your pocket. When you tell him, if it becomes too... emotional... give him the letter and excuse yourself.
236817
Yes, you should tell your current guy.  Other wise, there will be secrets, and questions, and a chance he will think you didn't tell him because you wanted your ex.  Don't get caught up in all the games and hassle just be open about what is going on.
907184
NO!!!! you should not move in with your boyfriend!!! you should not date the other boy. please listen to what i am saying! if you havent told your parents you are pregnant you need to. you also are going to need thier help later on in your pregnancy, so STAY AT HOME!!!!!!!! the best thing you can do for you and your baby is to finish school. FINISH SCHOOL!!!! you did an adult act and now you are in an adult situation. act like an adult. you are bringing a life into the world, and you are its mother. you dont have time right now for boyfriends. tell your parents, dont leave home right now, and please finish school!!!!!!
1099748
If you're happy with the new bf (and not just because he buys you things), then tell the ex, sorry bout your luck.  Tell him you actually shuold thank him, because if he hadn't left you you never would have met this guy.  And you are happy, and hope he can find someone to be as happy with.
544122
Do not just pop over with him and get their raw reaction. That might not go so well. I would break them in slow over a few weeks - start with telling them you have a boyfriend, explain how much you care about him...no details at first. Then pepper in a few hints about him that would give hints about him, then maybe put a picture up or have pictures of you and him together. Give them time to take it all in. Then bring him over so they can find out how good a guy he is.
815985
It totally depends on the situation. How long you have been together should weigh heavily on your decision. I would highly recommend not moving in if you are newly dating. Let the relationship advance first. \nAlso, have the 2 of you talked about what should or should not be expected of each other once you do move in together? Set some ground rules in advance and the transition will go much smoother.(bills, food, talk about how everything will be paid for.. split down the middle or are each of you going to cover different things each month?)  It is hard merging 2 people into one house. Each of you will have your own expectations and it will NOT be the way either of you think. \nNot all guys are just looking for someone to help with the bills or house. \nI moved in with my boyfriend on my 18th birthday, after we had been seeing each other for 5 years. We moved in together and never looked back. I am now 30 and we are happily married with 4 children. \n\nGood Luck!
877649
First, if he attacks you about such things, tell him to talk to your husband when he gets home, then close the door. Then your husband should ask about a written form that states whatever rules he may have, which is actually something you should have gotten when you moved in. If he is making up the rules as he goes along, then next time your husband can tell him his 'new rule' is not in the written agreement and close the door on him.
718007
im sure that your first thought would be to do something grand and over the top, but i would suggest that you do something simple. a little quiet time with just you two will be a good start. if you want to have a welcome home party for him, i would suggest that you have it the week after he gets home, to allow him time to adjust. and as for you... be prepared for some changes, and dont expect things just to fall back into the place where you were when he left. accept the fact that your husband is a changed man. because he is. just be patient with him, and take things slow. caution your friends and loved one not to make him talk about his experiences. he will tell you when he is ready. and above all, just make sure that you are there for him. out of everything that you want to plan for him, do for him, and do to him, im sure that all he really wants is a hug from the woman he loves.
1032075
No you have needs as well and you have to make him aware of them. Sometimes guys we don't catch on to sublte hint then three months from now we come home she's crying and we can't figure out why. Then you unlaod everything that you've had bottled up for the last 5 months and the whole time he could really be clueless. Let him know what your thinking and why and see what he says, but assuming is never the way to go. You just moved in so establishing communication is key. Here is you first chance to do so. I hope it all works out well.