after four years together, he will not take me to family visits with him?
472126
OR MAYBE HE'S JUST SO GAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY !!!!!!!!!!
611947
He's not for you.  His hormones are taking over and have no control. Also, he is not respecting you, or your family.  If he wants to talk with his friends, why not go somewhere else?  I find it impolite to do that.  Don't allow him to rush you into doing anything.  You deserve someone that can treat you kindly, caring, respectful and open minded.  He's the one who's going to loose, not you. \n\nHe's also immature. He may think that can turn you on, but for me, it turns me completely off.  Find someone descent even if it hurts.  Besides, dating and flirting is fun, don't get tied down too soon. Enjoy your singlehood...\n\nRight ladies?
510084
I moved away over 1100 miles to get him to see I don't want him anymore. I had an order of protection and he got it removed cause like you he had people in the system to remove it. I stated a new life and my daughter lives with him and he still wants and loves me over 7 years later but living happily with new husband and as they say out of site out of mind....
815999
Your in a tough spot and I don't agree with unwanted guest.  BUT it is the holidays and you don't want to seem like a complete jerk by saying they can't come.  At least this time it is family his sister right?  So holidays are about family and sharing so your going to have to accept her 'partner' as part of your family.  If you keep pushing him away he may make your mother start spending the holidays away from you...since his family is excluded.  Do you see my point?  \nSo to keep the peace just suck it up and set out two extra places and try to keep the holiday spirit in your heart even though you want to strangle him!!
1140217
No! What next blinders! So, you can't see anyone. He's going to get controling. Insecure. Tell him to Get over it. That is if you value your own friends and family.
875520
ask him if you can go with him to his parents for the holidays... if he says im not ready then,,, i think its time to tell him the same..... if you was the same age, would he already introduced you to his friends and family???? my guess yes ..... if he wants to hind you from everyone then,  there is really something wrong,,,,,  i hope you find happiness but i dont think this is it ,,,,, good luck
413886
I understand why he does not want to cuddle and so on. You said that you thought you two were cousins "for the longest time", well just because you find out that you two are not does not make him feel different towards you.....you are still family.
914867
Ask him where this is going. Just because you have a child with him does not attach you indefinately to someone who doesn't want you completely. If he has a hard time answering you, maybe you need to consider if you'd be better off without him.
281720
he's already in a hell of a situation so dont involve urself in his sh*t..\n\nlet him get over his family matters 1st & then when it's done, u may continue hoping that a relation might arise b/w u 2..
390967
Give him the lecture, it sounds like he deserves to hear your opinion about things. Don't be too emotional, as that could lead to a big fight where you'd lose sight of the problem. \nDo you go to see his family with him? If you do, you should make it clear that this is important for you, and that by not wanting to go he's not only hurting your feelings, but acting in an immature way.
982448
Hi. Look this is a no win situation for you. I know as I've been there.The best thing to do is ask your man to join you no matter what the situation is. Your kids have to get use to the idea that your have a life and you are entitled to be able to get on with it just as they do. They don't ask your permission as to who they date and don't expect you to be in a mood because of it. My partner and i nearly ended up apart when we tried to please everyone. You have to think of you and your boyfriend as he will be there for you when you need him and they wont as they have there own life to get on with AS you have. Good Luck and Merry Christmas and a happy new year
995789
i would try to reconcile but under your conditions. if you dont want to go to family get togethers and such then dont. explain that too them, if they cant accept it then at least you tried.
750766
You have already apologized. Accidents happen.  Not only that, but before he came into the picture, your family was there, and if he should decide to walk away, your family will still be there.  Don't blow your mom off, think of all the time she spent on you!  And, it's not like he will be sitting home waiting if can go out with his own family.  so the both of you can do your own thing for awhile and meet up after both of your obligations are met.   I'm sure his family will understand how important your family is to you and be ok with it!
941310
What can you do? Apologize and if that doesnt work, its not like you can NOT let your child go there if he/she wants to... ya know? I think your family should DEF forgive you for things that are that far in the past, but its not my call... Good luck sweets.
510424
because he doesn't love you or his scared that his family might not like you. why don't you have a seious conversation with your boyfriend and find out what's the real reason why he doesn't want his family to know.
791359
God knows i wouldnt want to instigate any crisis, but ask yourself... what are you afraid of? is he going to physically hurt you if you try to go?  will he disown you and/or make your life hell upon your return?  you are an adult  human being with as much choice and freedom as the rest of us, and life as well as your family are too precious to waste accomodating someones insecurities.  ESPECIALLY if he has given you reason to leave him twice, and you are obviously only staying for the child, which could be affecting him a lot more than you see.\n\n\nthink of what is literally and physically holding you back from doing what is right for you and your family\n are you completely dependent on him for shelter and food for you and your kid, and if you are... learn to be self sufficient, hopefully he wont be around forever to take care of you
486514
You are going to have to set some rules. He is going to be in your life, on a limited basis, for years to come because of the children, but you need to set a few things straight. One, he MUST pay child support. Two. When it's his visitation, he picks the children up, and brings them back. Don't let him run over you on this. Stand your ground! He can pay a visit to the jail house.....then he WILL obey the rules. Good Luck!!