How do I figure out if it is me?
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I hope you're still reading answers.  This is more common than you probably think.  Dr. Phil did an entire episode on this and has an entire section on his website.  After reading many psychology and relationship books and going to 4 years of therapy plus couples counseling with some very renound doctors in Los Angeles, I realized how many people have issues with intimacy.  Sex is intimacy.  Many men result to porn because there is a disassociation with having to get really intimate.  They can just get to the point.  In most societies, men aren't taught how to become intimate (vulnerable).  It's viewed as a weakness.  Only in relationships through a strong women's leadership does a man learn a lot of those behaviors.  I don't think your problem is physical as much as it is emotional and mental.  The categories we fall into as far as priorites are the following: for men it's Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual.  For women it's Emotional, Mental, Physical, Spiritual.  you can see that we are clearly programmed different.  The key is trying to find a good balance.  Trying to get in touch with each other's vulnerabilities.  I totally disagree with the comment of look at it with him.  That only distances you more.  Not an option.  You have to gently lead him and teach him (without him realizing he's being taught) how to get into the mental and emotional part of intimacy (sex).  You can do this several ways:  when you're NOT in bed, ask him "what was the worst thing an old girlfriend did to you?"  this gives you insight into his fears or insecurities and then acknowledge that that couldn't have been easy for him.  Second: what do you like most about sex?  Really important to pick up clues here.  He will either describe very physical things OR things like "I like to see you naked, I like to touch, I like this, that".  This says that he is in touch with the mental-good!  And learn to play on those likes.  Also, do not feel ashamed to say "listen, I have to say that it bothers me when you look at porn because I feel inadaquate as a women, I feel like I'm not good enough, I feel threatened that I can't measure up and I'd really like you to stop".  The Harville Hendrix book (NY Times best seller and on Oprah all the time) is a fabulous book.  changed my life, Oprah's and many others!!!
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There is no way to know for sure. I believe questioning your possible complacency with regards to well-being or happiness is a healthy thing to do. Try to be confident in how you feel, as long as you're not chopping people up to feel it. Ask people directly what how secure/content/happy you seem to be from their perspective.
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How do I supposed to know?
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Well ,your question is very profound and deep.There's  a lot of ways actually on how to know one's self depends on how you set it . How do I know myself ..hmmm..let's see... I know myself through constant self-examination- thoroughly checking my character and my actions . I also know myself through the eyes of my friends and associates. They tend to show some observations of me that me myself will not be able to see ,they are my mirrors. I know myself through the previous achievements and failure that I have garnered from the past. It makes me think of what I become and how am i doing in the present state .. hehehehh kind-a funny thing to do , checking yurself you know, but most of the time it hurts my feelings to see the blunders I have made..but anyways I am doing my best shot not to create them again. Hope this helps yah ;-)
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Ask your closest friend to check for you.\nThey should tell you the truth.
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Yeah it could be me-!
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=I just gave you a thumbs up on your question cause I think it is a very interesting question and have often wondered the same thing myself when I see someone who looks like me.  I will be watching to see if you get a really correct answer to your question, but it is unlikely and sure to be a guess. The person would have to look like you to respond, and then it would only be one response or her opinion.  I think both of us should do our own research and every time we see someone who looks like us, write it down and also if possible email that person and personally find out for yourself.  Hay, worst that could happen is that you make a new friend.  Good luck to both of us!
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So.....how do we find out the answer?
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how do you know its really them if they put up a pic?
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i dont know that person
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Look at my name. Who do you think?
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i don't know but its my name
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call him to see if he knows u,and if he doesn'y remind him who u are.
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If I think I am, am I?
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Generally it wasn't me \nso I can't answer
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It's a personal journey , everyone is different.  My best advice would be to NOT be afraid of what people think of you.  Remember always your life has to be for you, not anyone else.  Nobody can tell you how to "find" yourself, figuring that out is part of the whole process!  Look, hon, I'm 30, and I still haven't figured out who I am....  Good Luck!!
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Go to >My Account and check there