Will I ever be able to see him with his wife and not get upset?
455513
you'll get over it with time. i know it sounds stupid but time does heal things. maybe it'll always give you a wierd feeling in your stomache, but it'll be less and less after awhile.
34337
i think it would be the right thing to do just in case anything was to happen. so she can know all of the family. it really depends on how he is. but you should still let her see him.
889108
the sooner you convince yourself that you refuse to feel agitated over something that has no future anyway, the sooner your broken heart would heal. i suggest whenever you miss him, remind yourself that he left without even saying goodbye to marry some bitch and that you should be mad for that. also, try to focus on the good side of your husband, appreciate what you have instead of wishing  for something that's not yours and would never be yours.
1140324
Dodger, let me ask you what do you think this new woman will be like after you leave your wife? Will she actually be the woman you have always dreamed about? She is willing to see a married man so she is not a God fearing woman to be able to do that. If a woman will do this she isn't much of a woman. Now if she and you are not seeing each other that might be different but if she is willing to see you knowing full well you are married whether happy in the marriage or not...then give this more serious thought. Will she do the same to you when she grows tired of you and how do you know she is your soul mate if you two have not been together talking and showing affection? I would really wonder about a man or woman who would see someone who is married. Try spending the extra time your thinking about this soul mate and you just might be amazed what it can do for your marriage..
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Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
1147636
Don't waste your time. He had his chance years ago. Too many other fish in the ocean. Never mess with a married man. Just think, would you want your husband conversating with his ex? And besides it will only lead to trouble. I'll pray for you.
930962
Yes it should bother you.  Dont be so selfish, suck it up and go to the wedding.  I am sure you can show up to both\n\nYou dont have to stay all night at the wedding reception.  \n\nIf you miss their wedding dont expect them to show up for yours.
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He is expected to be close to you.  Tho it shouldnt be a contest.\nShe is his mother and should respect you for his wife.  But apparantly, she's not interested in her husbands concern, but rather her own selfishness.  Does she not have a husband?  Is he her only child/son?  \nAt any rate, I'd stay clear of her at all costs.  He's welcome to visit her.  But I dont see any reason for you to visit her.......OR she to visit your home.  I would discuss this with your mate, and than make it perfectly clear to her....UNLESS she is able to treat you with respect, she's no longer welcome in your home, and you have no desire whatsoever to go to her home....End of discussion.  Might as well resolve it now. It will only get worse once you begin to have children.....
1048752
get over it, he's human.  try being a wonderful loving wife, and less of a nagging, please be more perfect for me wife.  your already married, accept him for who he is right now, and you will be surprised how fast he changes.  if you want to change something someone is doing, change yourself first.  they will have to change to fit into the new equation.  what if you did something he did not like, do you really want to brow beat each other your whole marriage, or do you want to enjoy him.. what if he died tomorrow, you really think he will be on his death bed thinkin of women he looked at, or his loving wife and child?
536702
Chose who you want to see.  Don't take anyone else's word.  If it came from his ex, she may still be bitter.  Just keep in mind what she went through and watch yourself.  You are an individual and have your own mind.
273853
If he is a nice fella, sure ... why not!\n\nWhen the family asks how we met, I can say on Yahoo Answers!
226346
sometimes we have to be nudged and sometimes we have to be hit over the head with a mallet. It breaks my heart to hear a question like this. I want desparately to see my daughters. send him a picture of her with a note saying simply that if he would like to see her it is ok and that it is best for her if he is in her life if that is his wish.
812236
Id like to say good luck and that it will.......BUT....you need to remember that you dont know what things are like on the otherside of the fence.....how is it possible that everything is her fault.....i dont honestly think it is, there surely must be reasons why she has moved out on him so many times.....i think you should ask to meet his wife, to understand all aspects of the relationship.....if not for anything, but your peice of mind to know, that things are really as he says.....
960522
I don't know what kind of action he has seen over there, But when I came home after 6 month in a war zone all I wanted was the peace and quite of my home with my wife.\nIf you go out of your way to make it special it will just force him to play along. just meet him and be happy he is home.
182686
no thats not fair to him.... you need to get over it and realize that she will be in his life for a very long time bc they have a child together
70823
If you truly love him and him, you, then I would find a way to see him.  Talk about the both of you moving to a more central location if possible.  Thats really not that far a drive but can be a hassle.
346000
Ma'am I know you are in love and that this will be hard to hear but, you will be waiting a lot longer than four years. If he has not left his wife yet, he never will.\nHe may have lots of reasons why he hasn't and may even tell you when he will divorce....but, bottom line is......... if he didn't love her and wanted to be with you, he would have left by now. You are worthy of having real true love with a man that does not have to be shared.