if your catholic do you have to have your confirmation before you get married by church?
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No, you do not have to be confirmed. You are baptized and that is enough to be married in the Catholic Church. It is also helpful if your fiance is baptized.\n\nBy choosing not to be confirmed, it sounds like you have not very active in your faith. I think its great that you are thinking of participating more. Please give Confirmation some thought before or after the wedding.\n\nCongratulations on your wedding.
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Why get married AT ALL if it's not something you want?  People take a leap into Nothing when getting married.  By that I mean only their Faith and Trust holds the bond connected.  \n\nHumans have Free Will; and that comes with the responsibility to do what's right, including NOT getting married.  If the notion of awakening next to the same person for YEARS until death parts you from them is not in your heart, then DON'T GET MARRIED!\n\nDon't go in with a doubt, or without counseling.  There are courses for people seeking marriage in the Catholic church just for the fact that they don't know what they're gonna feel later and why.  The marriage must be a faith-based union, meaning you're  going to church together, spiritually awake to one another, and emotionally aware of what's happening.\n\n"So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." - Matthew 19:6\n\nMy wife knows my vanity and self-centeredness, and also knows ALL my support and love are with her.  Despite my flaws she also wanted to marry me, and has forgiven my numerous chaotic and emotional misgivings.  We have been married 4 years, dated for 6 including 3 years she was at college out-of-town.\n\nI hope you find a spouse as loving & giving as I have.\n\nGood luck & God Bless!\n\n\nJaime
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Decide which church you want to have your servide in and then invite both the priest and the pastor to officiate.  The priest can give you a blessing.  As a graduate student I took as my research project the Pre-Cana marriage preparation course offerred by the Catholic Church for engaged couples and it is a solid, excellent program to sort out issues before they become difficulties after a couple is married.  Whatever church you eventually decide to settle in does not matter.  This Pre-Cana program will help you more than I can say and give you tools to deal with problems when they arise.  Peace and joy!
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I think you may have some problems with this -- many marriage customs are not just based on religion, but also culture.  A Roman Catholic ceremony is different from a Greek Orthodox ceremony.  You might have better luck just asking people to post traditions for those events from their own religion and culture.  \n\nIf this will help, I will volunteer my own:  \n\nBaha'is must have consent of all living parents before they marry.  The Baha'i ceremony consists of the vow "We will all, verily, abide by the Will of God" which is taken by both the bride and the groom -- and whatever other prayers or rituals the couple chooses to include.  Since there are no clergy in the Baha'i Faith, prayers are read or chanted by various people (usually chosen by the couple, at least in the weddings I have been to). \n\nIs this the sort of information you are looking for?
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Here is a link for the Catholic Rite of Marriage: http://www.catholicliturgy.com/index.cfm/FuseAction/TextContents/Index/4/SubIndex/67/TextIndex/8\n\nThis was in 1970. I don't know if it has changed or not.\n\nWith love in Christ.
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You will need to speak to a priest about beginning RCIA classes. RCIA stands for Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults. My fiance is doing that now. Basically, you go to classes one night a week for about 6 months and then you are confirmed the day before Easter at the Easter vigil mass. Tracy P is wrong about the church not recognizing a marriage or divorce. If have been divorced and are looking to marry in or have a marriage recognized by the church, you will have to seek an annulment. I don't know much about that, and also, that wasn't your question. I encourage you to seek out more information if you are interested. It is certainly not difficult to convert. I think that you will be very happy as a Catholic. I have been a Catholic all my life and I have always been very happy. Contrary to popular belief, the Catholic Church is not a bad thing to belong to! When people talk bad about it, always remember, Jesus faced a lot of persecution and resistance as well! I hope I could help you! Good luck.
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In the strictest religious terms yes. But when does a marriage really start after we sign to tell everyone else that we are married, or when we know it for our selves.
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The Catechism of the Catholic Church section 1316 states, "Confirmation perfects Baptismal grace; it is the sacrament which gives the Holy Spirit in order to root us more deeply in the divine filiation, incorporate us more firmly into Christ, strengthen our bond with the Church, associate us more closely with her mission, and help us bear witness to the Christian faith in words accompanied by deeds." \n\nThis is Catholicism's take on the "Baptism in the Holy Spirit."\n\nWith love in Christ.
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OK, now I'll give you the Catholic viewpoint on these two events.  As to Holy Communion, it is the time when Catholics (who haven't committed any serious sin without going to Confession and having completed the requirements necessary for a good Confession) and members of any of the schismatic churches (Eastern Orthodox [Autocephalous and otherwise], Polish National Catholic Churh, Society of St. Pius X [and Pius V]) receive bread (and maybe the wine too) that has been consecrated by the priest during Mass.  This bread and wine is believed to be substantially the Body and Blood of Jesus Christ.  Only a priest ordained by a bishop in one of the aforementioned Churches (he must also use the proper form, i.e. "Take, eat, this is my body which will be given up for you" and "Take, drink, this the cup of my blood, the blood of the new and everlasting covenant, it will be shed for you and for all so that sins may be forgiven, Do this in memory of me") is believed to have the power to conduct the transubstantiation that makes the Body and Blood of Christ substantially present.  Anyways, the meaning of Holy Communion for Catholics is basically eating of Christ's flesh and drinking of His blood as is commanded in John 6:53-7.\nConfirmation, for Catholics happens sometimes at birth and sometimes at around the time of 8th or 9th grade, or immediately after Baptism for adults.  Unlike Baptism, Catholics do not acknowledge the Conirmations of Protestant churches.  In the Catholic mindset, Confirmation is sort of like a personal Pentecost.  In this sacrament, the bishop (or a priest in EXTRAORDINARY circumstances in the lAtin Rite, or most of the time a priest in the Eastern Rites) anoints the "confirmandee" with chrism (a perfumed oil" and says "[Confirmation Name] be sealed with the Holy Spirit."  The confirmation name is the name of a saint the confirmandee takes to be his/her special patron saint.  In olden times the confirmation name often became that person's middle name.  The confirmation name, tradition, though, is really only upheld in the West, where teenage confirmation is the norm.  In the Eastern Rites, though, Confirmation takes place immediately after baptism even for infants.  This Confirmation has the same character of sealing the Confirmandee with the Holy Spirit, though.  Confirmation really is like a sending forth and is considered a "sacrament of initiation" by the Catholic church whereby the confirmandee becomes a full member of the Catholic Church.  Oh, and in the West, as well, the confirmandee must have a confirmation sponsor which is pretty much like godparent and is supposed to instruct the confirmandee in the Faith.  Hope this si what you wanted.
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I got married in the Catholic church and I don't believe in any of their bull.  Since you're an atheist I wouldn't worry about it.  Just get married in the church it will keep peace in the family and you won't have to listen to his mom complain about it for the next 30 years and trust me, if she's like my MIL, she will.  I've been married 13 years and she's still complaining about the lack of limos, like anyone cares.  Did your fiance go to catholic school?  If he did you might need to get married in the church just so he feels married.  That's why we got married in the church, residual guilt from the 12 years of programming.\n\nAlternatively you and your hunny could do the outdoor thing by yourselves and then do the church thing after.  Don't even tell anyone about the outdoor thing, that way you both get what you want and hey, you can wear the gown twice.  Good luck.\n\nYou could also have your outdoor ceremony on your honeymoon.  I think it would be nice to have your own ceremony with just the two of you and officiant  before or after the church thing.
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Thaliax is correct, the couple who elope most likely would be living in sin according to the church and would not be able to receive the sacraments (including communion.)\n\nTo correct this they would have to talk to their priest, and take the steps neccessary to have the church recoginize their marriage - and only the priest can decide what those steps need to be after you are legally married.
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A church wedding is just a show infront of your family and friends.  I mean, I want to get married in the church but that doesn't mean my marriage will be more blessed and last longer than someone who was married at a beach, home, court house, etc.  I believe as long as they acknowledge God as the head of their household, all is well.
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only if you can get the previous marriage annulled, which means the church declares it never happened. otherwise no, because they don't consider you catholic anymore if you got divorced.
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It usually involves a confirmation ceremony. I don't know too much about it, but from what I've seen it's usually a very special event in Catholic children's childhood. It's not always taken as being very spiritual.
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the best explanation i can give is episcopal is described as catholic light. they aren't as strict on their doctrine as the catholics. you don't have to become a catholic to get married in their church but the last time i checked you will have to promise to raise your children catholic. this might of changed since the last time i checked. your best source to get the answer you need is to contact your local catholic church.
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Catholics can arrange with priest and minister to co-officiate a wedding ceremony, even if it is at the Protestant church. You must discuss the arrangements well in advance with the priest. \n\nThe love we have for one another is not the same as the love between a husband and wife. One is a commandment, and the other is a sacred covenant, a sacrament.\n\nFor a mixed marriage, refusing the other's right to have a Catholic wedding of whatever form is a serious spiritual imposition. On the other hand, the non-Catholic has nothing to lose by having it done in a Catholic church. The "idols" will not eat you. :0\n\nSince it doesn't seem to really matter to you what church is the true church for you, there would be no logical impediment to having the wedding in the oldest church on the planet, other than plain prejudice.\n\nSome Protestant churches have no sacraments, most have 2. Catholicism upholds Matrimony as of the Seven Sacraments. If it is done outside the Church, sure, its a marriage, but not a sacramental marriage.  As a consequence, that Catholic cannot receive any of the sacraments until the marriage is convalidated (erroneously known as "blessed"). That is why demanding a Catholic to marry outside the Church is so unfair. \n\nI have heard a theologian say that Matrimony is higher calling than Ordination. Hmm... \n\nI have also heard that over 90% of mixed marriages fail in divorce. Hmm...\n\nI don't think she parted from you so much over religion though. I think she parted from you by the way you handle conflicts, judging by your question. \n\nI admire her courage.
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if you do get married you will proably be unhappy,might get devorcide,and you kids might get confusied and what if the want to be witnesses what would you say,how about you talk to her find out what she wants,settle the issues about religion,kids whatever before you get engadged and if you do get married tell he that you like your religion and not to try to make you become a witness,but listen,she will probaly bring witnesses to the house talk about how good the meeting are and if you can handle and deal with that and she can to,then go ahead but if she isn't baptised then she can't get baptised.if you love her you will respect her wishes even if she won't marry you,the bible says "marry in the lord and in the lord only."