How do you know if you can live with all his quricks forever? Does they become less obvious with time?
471676
you will eventually get to where they don't bother you. trust me love is worth a little irritation.every once in a while when you are feeling a little irritable.those little things that bug you now will make you positively bitchy. don't worry no matter who your with they are gonna do something that bugs you. if you love this guy. show him you want him even though he can drive you bananas sometimes.
69964
this is a very hard one and i av 2 be careful what i recommend. but in the final anlyses the decision rests with you.do u really really love him enough to risk jeorpardising your new life? is it not because you compare everyone unfairly with him that is why you av not found someone else? has he really changed or YOU really want him to have changed? If he has not changed do you forsee a future with him?make the choice, nobody can or will for you
134959
the fact... Time will tell (surely, its sad that this is true)\n\nWomen, are believed to have 6th sense. you go with it, you will find out if he is serious or not.\n\nUsualy: A man, who is serious to himself (I mean his career/life), sure will not let her love/life drag his life down.
992524
Nope I'm totally with you.  So many things can happen to a person in the course of their lifetime, how can you be sure that feelings won't change?
1077524
Yes, ask him.  That's the only way to find out.  If you know you'll spend the rest of your life with him, why not risk knowing sooner?
909534
No,,,no it can't...if he doesn't at this point he never will,,,but keep in mind that's the way he was when you fell in love with him, and married him...he has not changed,,,it maybe you.
166674
ive been wif my guy for over 8 years. for 3 years we were half way across the world from each other. he came back few mths ago and hes jus asked me to marry him. so yes,dey can last. build a foundation and u will survive. \nPs: develop a thick skin. who cares wat other ppl say. at d end of d day, its u and him against d world.\nGud Luck
825923
he gave you a very HONEST answer.. at his age your asking alot from someone out of the gate of life... he is still trying to find his way kind of thing....\n\nnothing wrong with you... nothing wrong with him... just two dif. point of views, beliefs etc... if he had a crystal ball and looked into the future and could see that all is well, he would marry you.. but we don't have that.... it is called faith, stupidity of better fortune, will, belief in the couple... I don't know... but it sounds like he is missing a good opportunity to share his new beginning with someone that will be pulling the rope from the same end as his..\n\nHe needs to understand that whether he makes a decision or not life will continue too move on, married or not, people will live, people will die, he may starve to death married or single... could it be a totall failure.... sure could... could it be a smile on his face when he is 90 years old and in his death bed... yea.... \n\nOne of the most amazing thing that occurs in this world is when two become one and step off into the black hole together... as there is no certantie in anything... that you or him will be alive by the time you read this, nor that your love will last, nor that it will fail... the only failure will be is to let what could be... not....\n\nHe won't become relaxed about any of marriage etc... till about 3 years into it when he realizes... it's not that bad... kind of fun as long as your expectations are in line with reality.\n\nIt amazes me when I see young couples... I ask myself was I ever really that young, that stupid?  And I think... I wish I would have been dumber and just lived... even if I starved in the process.\n\nThe greatest joys happen when we have the least.  That is a rough interpritation of a Chineese proverb...\n\ngood luck, go slow and understand where he is coming from... but you know which course you have too take when it is time... give him a little time... but don't miss life... it's a hell of a ride rich or poor.
430645
Sounds reasonable to me. I'd give it a year, and if you see one instance of him going back to his old ways, get rid of him. Don't live in misery just because you "love" him. You can find love/happiness without misery.
428859
Trust the guy himself.  He can tell you & more importantly, show you he truly cares for you by his daily actions of respect, attentiveness, etc.
217432
If he's 65 and still hasn't realized that, he may never.  You can't make him realize it, he obviously has to realize that on his own.  Hopefully, it won't take a death or something devestating to make him realize this.  Good Luck!
396624
God has revealed everything but do men heed? Don't worry about what the revelation has to say because it will really come to pass just as long as you hold on to your faith. This life is not really that important. There is something more precious than life on earth.
413605
Surely you won't leave him just because of this. He can always find a job if he really wants on so think this over before you throw away 10 years...............................
680599
He gets sexier as time goes on.  Can you inamgine him in five years? Oh, my God!!!!!!
202499
depend on what you want, i mean do you think you can be around him and the things he does, you really gottah answer this urself hun,
601653
He will have to prove it day by day. His actions will tell. If he loves you you may feel loved.
414068
I would watch what he does- not what he says. Does he have a steady job?\nSave $$$\nTalk about the future...(with you)?\nDoes he like his mother???\nGood signs\n\nDoes he work (steady)?\nDoes he spend all his $$ on big ticket items (for himself)?\nHave you been going out 3 + years with no mention of the future??\n\nBad signs