My b/f just got a divorce and I'm wondering if he would ever marry me?
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If he loves you and you love him then you will get married when the time is right.  However, you have to be patient, if his marriage ended badly (emotionally that is) then he might not be ready to commit just yet.  You should not take that as a sign that he does not love you or doesn't want to be with you.  Just go slow and keep talking to eachother and it will work out the way it was intended to.
998625
Great question. In my case I'd hope so, but in feeling and knowing a wonderful love, I'd accept that it might never happen.\n\n    BTW, if you are divorced, or he is, or both are, then the issue is no longer "THE OTHER"\n\n   Accept that the feeling exists, savor it for all it can offer, and don't press an issue of a bond by "contract"
27081
Some people don't believe in marriage.  After being with him for 5 years you should know what his views are on this.  If he believes that marriage is something that is important, maybe he isn't ready to make that big step.  \n\nMarriage is a very huge step.  I think this is why there are so many divorces in our current times.  aprox. 50% of all marriages end in divorce.  This is not how it is ment to be.  When marriage vows are taken they usually and should include "until death do us part"  So perhaps you should be happy that he wasn't in any rush to tie that knot.  I am sure if you are both in love and it's ment to be you will get married and it will be even more special because you will know that you took your time and know it is RIGHT.  \n\ntalk to him about it.  See what he says.  Have a heart to heart.  If you can't do that with him now - perhaps you are not ready to be married yet.  So take some time to really dig into your heart and into his and see what you come up with.  \n\nIf you get married - Please do it for life... not like at least 1/2 the people out there do it... make that commitment forever.  Or don't do it at all.  \n\n:)  I hope you will get married.  It is the most wonderful thing a man and woman can do - Be commited to each other through thick and thin.  It is a true blessing.
32476
Yeah, you probably will if you are trusting enough to ask complete strangers for relationship advice online. Good luck with that divorce too.
218721
I had feelings for my ex after our divorce too.  I think it was a comfort thing.  No one knew me like he did.  But, as time passed I began to remember the reasons why I filed for divorce.  They certainly out weighed my fantasies of having a reunion.  Let time pass.  There are so many other singles out there that have been through the same thing.
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I married the perfect guy, but I still feel something for the man I was suposed to marry. I've contact him after 11 yrs and he is still mad at me, besides we have an ocean between us, and I dont want to leave my hubby! wilmary69@yahoo.com
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You may never get the question - does he know you're waiting for it?  You may want to find out his feelings on it - and on kids and money and a bunch of other things that can be dealbreakers down the road.  \n\nEven then, you have no guarantees. I dated a guy for 5 1/2 years and he never asked (his mom didn't approve).  He said we'd get married eventually but he never got around to it and I gave up on him.\n\nHappily the gods of good fortune were keeping him from proposing so that I would be available when I met my future husband.  I dated my husband for less than a year when he asked - and we've been married for nearly 7 years.\n\nThings have a way of working out for the best if you don't force a square peg in a round hole.  Also, see if your parents like *him*.  When I told my mom I was dumping the momma's boy, my mom said "Well, I knew if you gave him enough rope he'd hang himself with it".  And when my parents met my future hubby - they were *so* excited it was like *they* were dating him. LOL.\n\ngood luck - and don't rush into anything - make sure it's a perfect fit!
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Hello sweetheart, you must be so confused, it certainly sounds like your fella is. Speaking from experience I would not even speak to him again let alone go out on a date. I think  on this one sweetheart you have to follow your heart, you are the only person who truly knows ho you feel about him. I really hope that you can make the decision that is the right one for you and your little girl. I bet you have the same response from family and friends as I did, everyone told me to dump him "you can do better than him". I made the decision to walk away and have some on our own time with my boy. I have never seen my ex since. He tried allsorts to get back home I stood strong and resisted the temptation. I have remarried and I adore my husband. You will be happy again  take care beauty and don't re rushed.
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I hear your frustration, but I also hear someone who is still in love with the person they married.  Sure, you don't feel for him the way you used but some of that is normal after 10 years, and some of that is from the financial frustration that is dragging you down.  Some times life just doesn't work out the way we had planned and we have to decide if it is best to adjust our expectations or change our lives.  This isn't easy as you have stated because you may find out that nothing changes or things are even worse without him.  Divorce is a huge step and a risk because it doesn't guarantee you that everything will get better.  I guess the big question is, can things change financially just because of a divorce?
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As much as I'm against divorce it really seems to me that you should have never married the person you are with.  Did he ever make you happy?  Anyway\n\nThe truth is you are wondering if this considering the situation could grow into a real serious committed relationship.  Unfortunately it probably won't, the guy you are with will always know and remember that you met him while you were cheating on your husband.  He may like you enough to really think in his heart that it won't matter but deep down it always will it will come out later.  I'm really sorry.\n\nHonestly you need to do something about your current relationship before anything else. You need to either get a counselor (what i would recommend) or get a lawyer (what others may recommend).  As someone else said right now anybody looks better than your husband in his current state.
91976
He married you. That is a pretty strong commitment. If he thought there was any hope of getting back with his ex he wouldn't have taken that step with you.
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In a word YES. In theory, you both did the right thing.\nThe time to decide this may not be for you is BEFORE you walk the aisle. Working that out before the wedding was a blessing for you. Imagine what would happen if he came up with that NOW. Yes, its true that the ones you love most have the greatest ability to hurt. That it still hurts shows how invested you were then and now. Perhaps a review of attitude is in order. When he broke up he said he didn't love you but realized he was wrong. Unless he's given you cause to question his love now, remember that his hindsight (always 20/20)showed him that he does. Try to view that time as a reaffirmation that you belong together. Then the feelings will become positive. The ability to look past that kind of thing and get over it will prepare you for staying in the relationship and work it out. The more you replay that time the greater the chance those feelings will get in the way of your relationship today.
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I asked myself that the last time I got my divorce. It doesn't mean that all guys are like that, because they are not. I guess you and I always find them first........lol! If your going through a heartbreak now, I am so sorry but it will get better with time. Don't ever let your guard down until you know he can trusted with your feelings. Good Luck, and have a Blessed Day.
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If you need to ask this question then clearly there are some warning signs. How long have you known this guy? Did you date him while going through your separation and divorce or did you recently meet him?\n\nHow long were you separated? Did you have any down time for healing and self exploration? Have you resolved those issues within yourself that brought division into your marriage?\n\nYou do know that you contributed in some way to the downfall. No one is exempt.\n\nYou need to take your time. Look and listen for warning signals. Write down the pros and cons of the relationship.\n\nHow is he around others? Your family and friends, his family and friends? What about when you disagree? Is he disrespectful? Does he shut you off? Does he allow you to express yourself?\n\nThese things are important. Don't glamorize him. Take it just as it is. You also need to consider children. His and yours if there are any. How does he treat them? Yours and his. \n\nIs he selfish? Does he provide for you? Do you fear him or are you your true self? How about religious beliefs. Do you believe the same or are you unequally yoked?
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Wait, I thought I divorced him?????   \n\nHugs ~:)
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see if he wants to take it to the next level, dating.  if he says yes, then go on a few dates and see if he shows you any signs of him liking you.  Just take it slow.  how is he feeling about just getting divored a year ago?  does he still have feelings for her?  these are things that you need to know.  if he does then it's the wrong time to say anything about how you feel.  you don't want to rush into it unless he's ready again.  which he might not be ready.  either way seems how you've both been divorced for whatever reasons, you both just need to take it slow and make sure it's what you both want.  good luck
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Oh girlfriend you are much better prepared.  Since you are mutually agreeing to divorce it shows that you are aware of what it is you want in a relationship, marriage or otherwise. The next man that you decide to marry will respect you more since you don't hold any ill will to your current husband soon to be ex...It shows that you have taken your life seriously. I am soon to be divorced from an abusive cheating husband, but the man I am currently with is the exact opposite.  If it weren't for his tenderness and compassion, not to mention love of God I would not be writing this to you.  Your gonna be fine darling!