assertiveness and management?
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Yes, good management is assertive in their communications.  Now, what is your question?
903522
Yes, definitely.\nI'm not the world's most confident person myself, but you grow in confidence with experience.\nPut me in a crowded room full of adults and will feel edgy and uncomfortable, but put me in a classroom, and I am loud, proud and confident. That's why I am now senior management - \nTake the plunge and go for it, you will grow and develop the longer you do the job.\nHope this helps!
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Efforts and positive work ethic don't go unnoticed.  Managers come from two different schools of thought though.  It's either positive-reinforcement or negative-reinforcement.  Working for the latter tends to suck but they drive results just the same.  At the end of the day if you're doing a good job for either one they'll take care of you.
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Some things I can think of off the top of my head:\n\n- Don't be afraid to roll your sleeves up and lend a hand when things get busy.\n\n- Make it clear to them your not going to let them walk all over you, but try to avoid yelling.... perhaps try diffuse it with a little humour (e.g. "put the handbags away gentlemen").\n\n- Listen to what ALL the staff have to say, not just a core group of ones a promotion or two below you... sometimes it's the only way you'll find out about problems with the department (or problems that are brewing up).\n\n- Don't change things for the sake of change.... if the department's way of doing something is working perfectly fine, don't try to change it without thinking it through properly. A common problem with alot of organsiations these days is they try changing things around (such as the way products are distributed, for instance) only to turn things into a complete shambles instead of improving things.\n\n- Don't be afraid to bend the rules slightly occasionally: If someone turns up late, but works hard enough to more than make up for it when they do show up.... let them off, but give them a mild warning about not making a regular habit of it. If they turn up late, but sit around scratching their butt all day then come down on them like a ton of bricks (since that sort of thing usually gets the other staff grumbling a bit, particularly if you let them walk all over you).\nAnd if things are quiet, let them shoot off home a few minutes early.\n\nIf anyone is leaving / announced their having a baby / just had a baby / lost a relative / having a birthday / retiring, etc try to be the first in there with arranging a card for everyone to sign / money collection for a gift (if appropriate) / after work party (if appropriate), etc.\n\nGive credit where credit is due.... if one of your staff comes up with a brilliant idea, don't try to take all the glory with the big bosses.
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You could start by not asking for directions.\n\nSeriously, I had problems with assertiveness when I was young.  Somewhere along the way, I decided to stop caring about what other people think of me.  It wasn't really a conscious decision.  I still occasionally find myself backing off from aggressive people, but I try to make it a point not to.\n\nConfidence is the key, here.  If you don't project confidence, people will have no confidence in you.  How could they?  You haven't given them any reason to.  So, you end up walking around all day surrounded by people who don't believe in you, which further lowers your confidence.\n\nYou have to break this vicious cycle.  I found that ACTING confident helped.  I'm not talking about false bravado.  I just made a concious effort effort to seem in control of myself, if not my surroundings.  People generally responded to that with respect, which helped to build my confidence.\n\nIn my case, perspective helps a lot.  Whenever I'm in a situation that makes me want to run and hide, I compare it to other situations that I've been in.  For instance, I'm a paramedic, and I used to work on ambulances.  Now, I work as a health and safety expert offshore.  Whenever a client decides to be an @sshole, I remind myself of what I've done before.  I'll say to myself, "Once, I kept a kid from drowning in blood after his nose was cut off by a windshield. " or something similar.  All of a sudden, the client's anger over an auditing form doesn't seem so important.  I don't know if that kind of prespective trick is useful for you, but it's helped me a lot.\n\nI hope this helped a little.  Good luck.
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* Always be the better person\n* Be respectful of other people (no matter how rude they can be)\n* Work harder... no, hardest!\n* Watch your back
949283
Be more assertive.  Ask your coach what's up?
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people are not assertive enough, a lot of people consider assertiveness the same as being aggressive or being mean so they would just rather be walked all over
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Those people seem to have some good sources, I just wanted to say GOOD FOR YOU.  I know some people that could use assertiveness training but are in denial!
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GET OUT NOW!!\n\nYou don't owe this person ANYTHING!!\n\nFor a boss to say it's a 'personality clash' is diabolical!!\n\nWhat kind of management style is that? S**t - that's what!!\n\nYou SO deserve better.\n\nGO RIGHT THIS MINUTE AND DON'T LOOK BACK!
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Integrity is the main one. Basically your word in private and your actions in private should be no different than in public. \n\n1. Empathy - My best executive Director was such a geat boss because when I messed up and misshandled a situation, ( I had to supervise women and children in a shelter and rules were always being broken etc.) she always showed me what it is in me that is lacking and how I might fix that, instead of just firing me or disciplining me. She handled everything in a friendly manner with such great communication. I grew so much under her supervision. \n\n2. See The Grey -  I used to see right or wrong, black or white. It was clearly one of the other. She taught me to see the grey. Every rule or situation has a grey area. \n\n3. Understanding - Everyone comes form a different place and brings different thought to the table. Don't expect people to act like or react like you would, and don't feel dissapointed if they don't measure up. Just lead and guide.\n\n4. Lead by example. - No one should have to do anything you wouldn't do, and you shouldn't be doing anything that reflects badly in front of them.
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For the first month at least, unless your boss specifically instructs you otherwise, I would aim to be as non assertive as possible.  \n\nI'm not saying let yourself get run over, abused, or pushed in the wrong direction.  But don't come in trying to overhaul and change everything, acting like you have all the answers.  Learn the current way of doing things, and the current culture.  Get to know the style of your boss, and the styles of your co-workers.  \n\nA second idea is to touch base with your boss at least twice a day, giving him or her 30 second updates on what you are doing, how it is going, etc.  Tell him or her about how you handled some event, phone call, or transaction that happened, even something which seems fairly routine.  This will show the boss you care, and also give your boss an opportunity to redirect you if you unintentionally happen to be doing something wrong.
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1. ALWAYS REMBER TO HAVE FUN (Yes, you can be the boss and have fun. Burnt out people lose there grip on things) \n\n2. Don't let you position go to your head. (No one want a bossy that think that they a God)\n\n3. don't ask your staff to do something that you won't do yourself.( once they see you do it  once they will gladly do it)\n\n\n4.Be firm and never waver from it.( Yes, be understanding and compassionate but firm if your staff see weakness they will take advantage of it)\n\n5. If you have question always ask. ( It is better to be safe than sorry.
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Slow, steady and quiet approach. Call by name, if possible. No sudden or threatening movements.\nGive your name, and speak in a soft, soothing voice, explain every movement first, Avoid reaching out to touch until eye contact is made and individual appears to be responsive.\nAvoid any type of questions that may be interpreted as aggressive or threatening.\nStress who you are - "My name is Sue, and I am here to help you."\nI can see that you are upset about something, would you like to tell me about it? If this seems too aggressive, search for questions that may be less threatening - "I have a dog, his name is Teddy and I have a kitty - her name is Missy. Do you have any pets? \nTalk about simple things, and avoid asking questions that may require expansive answers. Use guestions, at first that may be answered with 'yes or no.'\nSpace your approaches, based on individual responses.\nIf possible, stress that onlookers sty back and above all, no cameras or loud noises.
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I remember always thinking people thought i was sensitive and I thought i was moody because of it.  What i have learned and i don't know if this goes for you but it's a shot, is that it wasn't that i was sensitive it was that i wasn't effective with telling people how i really felt.  I wasn't assertive enough. My feelings would get hurt easily and then i would get moody. I use to think having sensitivity was a weakness but i realized it is more of a blessing in a world where there are people who can be very insensitive.  Communicating effectively with the people around you will give you the confidence to not misunderstand what they are saying to you. For example, say someone says something to you that you interpret as hurtful, it is o.k. to calmly ask this person, what did you mean by that?  If they say Oh, I'm only kidding, calmly say, with confidence, i didn't fine that funny. Every situation, of course, will be different. If you practice being more assertive you will find that it is o.k. to keep your sensitivity and the moods will fade away.  Being sensitive is not a bad thing sadness and stress is.
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Employers and co-workers value dependability.  Being honest, staying organized, and keeping commitments are the big three in my book.\n\nAbove all things be honest and direct in what you say and do.  Don't put a spin on things, admit your failures without excuses to your co-workers, boss and especially your clients.\n\nJust as important is to stay organized.  Don't rely on your memory for anything, write everything down - everything.  If you say you are going to do something no matter how trivial, come through with your promises.  If you can't keep a commitment, that is usually OK, just make sure and communicate that you will miss a commitment the moment you realize you aren't going to make it or suspect you won't make it.
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Someone with confidence, also you have to talk to your staff on a relitively even level, of course you cant be completely equal you still need them to respect you and do what you want and needs to be done, but listen to them and get stuck in with the work with them (just dont moan about it when you so). Be enthusiastic and dont take the stress of responsibility out on them. Also make sure you have a team of staff you can work well with and who will work well with each other (sometimes no matter how hard you try some people just arent willing to work with you)