I'm in love with a woman that has 3 kids by 3 different men. Can this work with a 35 yr old guy with 0 kids?
458794
I think that if it were me... You would be the better choice... less numbers in the equation. your kids and hers wouldnt have to get along since you dont have any. the only thing i can think of is that she might not want to have anymore children and you do. Just talk to her and tell her you want to be a stable father and husband. IF your not to that point tell her what you feel about everything and i mean everything write down questions and answer them and talk to her about them to see how much you have in common.
409184
Heck yeah!!!  All that matters is if the two people are compatable.  Age is just a number.
1183250
You just tell them how you honestly feel. You can't concern yourself with if they are going to be hurt or not. Both men and women have a hard time finding a partner when they have young kinds, unfortunately its worse for the woman with young kids. Its a matter of choice, and if you prefer not to date someone with young kids, that is your perogative and you have the right to make that decision. What's important here is your happiness in life with another.
31418
Some people just dont want to deal with other peoples kids----I think that it would be better to find someone that already has kids--they will understand u better than a person that dont have kids.  And also the fact that the kids live with you--alot of women are bothered by that.  \nBut the best advice I can give is that--u obviously havent meet that special person--because if you had--she will love you and accept you even if you had 10 kids---so just keep looking--you will find that person.\nGood luck.
440788
I'm fine with it. my past 2 relationships have been with women who have kids.it all depends on the the type of guy you are,if your guy who really like kids like me, then it won't be a problem.it's only a problem if the female is looking for a father for her kids more than a boyfriend or husband.I love kids and relate to them very well,hell I still watch cartoons and play video games so for me it's all good.
1084700
I would always TALK to anybody, regardless of what, as long as I can communicate in the same language.\nI would not date some one with two kids, not even with one kids, because I personally am very bad with kids.\nBut this is just me. There are lots of men who love kids and don't mind at all!
303821
If it was me, I'm going to say no.  I have one beautiful son and one more son on the way that I'm totally excited about, but I'm not much of a kid person outside of my own.  So if I met someone and found out that he had 5 kids, I would not let a relationship develop.  I would not want to deal with living with a total of 7 children if we were to fall in love and actually live together.  Criminy who can afford to have 5 kids these days anyway??  Yikes!
386640
You have me CONFUSED here... you mean to tell me you are more interested in finding someone i.e. a date? (correct me if I am wrong) Than getting your CHILDREN back??? Finding a man should be the LAST thing on your mind I would think, if he has taken your kids, I would fight to my death for my kids?????\n\nYea... you know I really wonder what's going on here... I mean if your kids are 6 & 8 and you were only with him for 3 years... the Math doesn't add up.  Is he even the father of these kids?  And there must have been some problem if the courts took them away.  Maybe you should spend some time working on you before looking for a man or even considering getting your children.  It sort of sounds like they might be better off with their Father if that's the case or where ever the judge decided to send them.  My BEST suggestion is to work on YOU and the rest will come don't go looking for another MAN just yet.  GOOD LUCK!
517678
I would. I will do anything for my daughters and my son and I know there is no chance of us getting together. Now, I know that's not what you meant, but the type of love you have for this person needs to change to the same type of love that you would have for your family members. I say that because I don't want you to miss out on having someone love you the way you love them and it sounds like you love this person very much to put their happiness over your own. But don't you think there is someone out there that deserves that type of love? And more importantly, don't you think you deserve to be loved like that? Continue being there for this person, but keep your eyes open for that other person out there that's waiting not only for your love but to love YOU in return....
925339
Yes, he SHOULD love you more than he does the kids, but very seldom does that happen. In my case, I definitely loved my kids more than I loved her, and we ended up divorced after 25 years. If I had loved her more than the kids , it might have ended up differently. If I had it to do over however, I think I would still love the kids more......they're MY flesh and blood!
717587
I did! We have been together for 3 1/2 years. They say women always seem to look for guys that are like their father. Well this one is quite a bit like my Dad. When we met I had just had a child from the first internet man I was involved with. That did not last..he was a loser. He has nothing to do with his child. The man I'm with now treats her as his own. Between the two of us, we have 5 kids! Gets a little nuts every other weekend, but I love it. I really wish I could have a child with him, but the emergency hysterectomy I had makes that out of the question.\nMy advice is just be super careful; check them out thoroughly before doing anything stupid. Good luck! We met on Cupid Junction, by the way!
598050
I think alot of your responses are good ones , but i agree with one main point communication. If you have tried to talk about it then maybe just give it a little time. If he truly repects your feelings and knows how much you want children then it will work out for the best. Kids are a big comitment and belive it or not once the kids come men are kinda stuck, i mean that in a nice way, we know that once the kids come it's no more hanging out with the boys all the time,and also no more time for us only for the kids. So maybe u should talk about how You will make sure to balance the time and allow him to still have his time. The truth is once the kids get here He will enjoy the hell out of them and naturally love them and care for them, it's all a part of becoming a man, i real man that is, so good luck and remind him that one of the best things about kids is making them, lol, just kidding, but it is fun.
168796
I used to have this problem. I dated many different men and they all seemed to have at least two children. So, I made a new rule. If the words "MY KIDS" came out of their mouth I would immediately have somewhere else I needed to be. Even if I was just going to go home and be alone. I finally did meet someone without children (it took a while) and we are now married and have a wonderful life together. Just hang in there and dont give up there ARE men out there with no children it is just so hard to find them because people seem to be so irresponsible these days just popping out kids right and left. Also try to remember that if your break up with a guy who has kids you are also breaking up with the kids. GOOD LUCK and happy hunting.
177578
First of all at least I can say I once been in your shoes. but you can't love a man if you can't love his children. But sooner or later the bond of you and them children will grow. Don't play the mother role, but play the friend role. Just make sure you and your partner have each other backs on decisions that need to be made.
408494
this with out a dought is a very good question in my opion, after reading this as what you said that it was your fault that takes a real man to openley say this and in my opion to you as well as her yes you can still find love even after all those years and you both have.5. grandchildren, as well to grown children in my opion yes you can still be in love with this lady , and this is hard for me to say this question brought tears to my eyes fellow dont blow it this time you had a read loving woman and i truley admire you on this question. go let this woman know your true feelings . good luck and god bless you both . yes you can ?
1153612
I met my hubby when he was 35 and I was 23.We both had children from previous relationships. Now we have 3 kids between us and the sex has never been better...he turns 42 this year and I just tuned 30...I feel that men get better with age,like a fine wine. And the more sex they have when young...the more likely they want it and get it when they are older.
45089
It might work out if u two are really in love and u care about his kids then the age will not matter and his divorce wont matter the only thing that will matter is u and him and his kids, if u really love him none of it will matter hope this helps!