how do i get my stubborn mother to go to the hospital?
470717
make a doc appt and tell her you are taking her shopping then oops we are at the clinic and take her....she wont wanna make a scene in public and act childish so she will just go. Drop her off at the door and get one of the nurses to help her in as she probably has a kindney infection. Perhaps even a Gulbladder infection.
839161
Tell her you want to go in alone, and if your doc needs to speak to her, she will be the first to know. Jeeze, mom.....
242289
Go with her to her next medical appointment and discuss your concerns with her physician. Also, I would talk to other family members who maybe can watch her and see if they agree with your assessment. If they do you can work together to get her help.\n\nDementia is a really difficult problem because the person suffering from it rarely believes they have a problem. \n\nStrength in numbers!
661793
try like a primacare or something like that\none of those emergency but not an emergency enough to go to the hospital places
547727
Hi Summer,\n I know that this is a very tough situation your in. On the one hand you love your Mom and don't want to do anything that may get her in trouble, and on the other hand you don't want to keep getting beatings when she gets drunk. You have to do something though. You cannot continue living like this. Let me first suggest that you sit down with her (when she is NOT drunk) and try to reason with her. Tell her you know she loves you and you love her, but it's not fair that she takes her anger out on you. Ask her to help you help her. See if there is anything she wants you to do that can make things easier for her. Maybe she should talk to someone, maybe a friend, priest or counselor. It is obvious that she has a drinking problem. Maybe Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) might help, but that is something she has to decide for herself, you cannot force her to go. I believe if you sit down and just talk to her when she is sober it will be a start. I wish you the best. If things do NOT get better then I suggest that you talk to a close family friend, if that does'nt help then you have a really tough decision to make. Yes you could run away, but I think that may make things worse. You could ask to go live with relatives until Mom gets her act together or you may eventually have to go to the authorities, that would be in my opinion the last resort. But if thats what's needed, then so be it. Once again good luck, stay strong and always believe that at some point things WILL get better one way or another. You WILL have happier days with your Mom, it just might take a little bit of time.
1113398
Has she applied for Medicare/Medicaid? That should be her first step. If she can't qualify contact a not for proffit hospital and ask for a patient advocate/social worker, generally if you can prove hardship and that the procedure is necessary they will do the procedure on a sliding scale or the advocate can help you find other options to get this paid for.  It will probably depend a lot on how necessary the surgery is. Of course it's necessary to you and her, but in the eyes of the person paying, if they deem it necessary you could get a break.
992110
I hope you are ready to hear this, but she may be getting ready to die. Have you looked into nursing homes? When it gets to be too much for you to handle, you might want to look into hospice care, they help the patient and the family for the inevitable. But when a person stops eating, they have given up and are preparing to die. When looking at nursing homes, don't get freaked out by the price, because they usually don't stay too long. I'm going through this with my dad right now, actually he wants to go because he knows its getting too hard for mom to take care of him. Best wishes.
168272
TAKE THEM TO A HOSPITAL!!!!
774864
try to get along with her. i know it is difficult but your mom is always going to be your mom. unless your health and safety is in compromise work things out
1186059
She probably could use some physical therapy. I am not sure you can make her go though. \n\nGood luck!\nG.G.
1144435
what you need to do is call your doctor, or have your mother call for you.
59167
make sure she is as comfortable as possible. i know its hard but you have to. be her support system. if she needs to cry be her shoulder if she needs to yell just listen and dont yell back. most of the time they are not angry with you.make sure she gets the treatments she needs and the meds she needs. if you miss an appointment reschedule as soon as possible. some people with cancer handle the problem differently she may laugh it off but remember thats her way of dealing with it. dont get angry and say things you dont mean. you are a good person for staying by her side. make the time you have with her as good as possible. play cards read books schedule movie nights. i will pray for you and your mother. i am so sorry this is happening to your family.
84121
Do you have a family doctor?  If so, call him or her.  If not, take her to the emergency room or a walk-in clinic.
900209
She is already living the example that was given to her by her mother. You may not be able to disuade her from many bad decisions, they are after all, her choices. The very best you could do for this young lady is be a very caring and available adult. Trying to control her at this point will more than likely drive her away. Talk to her openly, but without judgement. Make your conversations thought provoking, encourage her to answer and solve her own issues with you.
726260
I suggest you find a nearby Cancer Center that you trust and go meet with a social worker there. It is also important to know what kind of treatment your mom needs (i.e. Surgery, Chemo, radiation, or just hospice care). You should find out how sick she is because it might be better for her not to fly or travel.  If she has started treatment in England already, it is better to have a continuity of care there.
221367
mothers are pretty tough people, especially when its to do with their children, no matter what age, talk to you mother about it and also get the professional help you need at your own GP or hospital.
970957
Perhaps she is ashamed of her mothers illness, and thought you may think differently of her if you knew. Try not to be to hard on her, I am sure it was not an easy thing to do keeping this a secret. She probably thought she was doing the right thing. She may even be in some state of denial of her mothers illness. Good luck and God bless. And do not keep beating up on yourself, you did not know. The two of you need to have a talk, and explain to her that you want her to be honest no matter what it is.*