where can i find a nice decent man that loves kids and wants to settle down?
465690
They are very hard to find but don't loose hope.  You may have already passed a few good ones bye.  The question may be on yourself.  I know it was on my shoulders after I asked the same question at the same age with the same situation.  I got involved with playing volleyball and then joining a health club and going to church on a regular basis.  I picked apart each and every guy I got a date with.  I finally realized that they must be doing the same to me and then started to look at myself and decided that there are faults in all including myself so I needed to look for someone that wasn't what everyone else thought was great.  I needed to find the greatness in the man of my dreams.  And 2 years later found him.  He loved my daughter as his own.  We have now been married for 9 years with 3 more children, and it is as good as it was when we first met.  Good luck to you and hopefully you too will find the man of your dreams.
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It is sad, but true. Men are concerned about dating women with children, and mostly due to insecurity. I am a 41 yr old man and give you a full perspective so read closely please. A man who can date a woman with children is rare, but there is also a little alarm. Why is he looking for women with children?? Is he sincere or is he trying to be a white knight that turns into a control freak. I have met many guys who do this. Is he really doing it out of pity, or is it out of respect and admiration? Is he looking for someone who might be desperate in his eyes? I married a young lady many yrs ago who had a child and I raised that child as if my own. Is the guy you are looking at going to do this?  To this day that child knows me as Dad and knows nobody else would have ever provided the way I did. Some of us guys are just looking for a non committal type relationship, and others are real Men and will do right by the single and divorced Moms and the children as well. I just hope that if you are in this situation, you understand that you need to protect the child (ren) at all costs, and slowly introduce the man to the children. Don't rush into anything, and if he is trying to rush, leave him because his intentions are not honorable.
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Why don't you go instead to a supermarket at dinner time when a lot of nice men are out there buying their meals? Its a good way to meet guys that are not fake.\n\nI would forget of dating sites if I were you.\nLots of dangerous men and people out there.\nThey will tell you the world, the best that is not them and then once you are all into "mmm i found a good guy" you will only find the truth. \nHe lied, he cheated, he does not even look like the pictures online.\n\nI dont say all people online dating are bad, but a vast majority can be and it's difficult to tell unless you have known a person for a long time and you re met online by coincidence.\n\nSearch online there is an article about how online dating is now having huge problems with the divorce rates now showing up for those who were matched by online dating organizations or associations whateer you call them.\n\nALL OF THOSE ONLINE DATING SITES ARE NOT THERE TO GIVE YOU SUPERMAN FOR A HUSBAND! OR SUPERWOMAN FOR WIFE! They are out there to make money and they dont care what happens personally to you.\n\nThere is not one site that is infallible to sexual predators, perverted or dishonest people (there's tons ande no offense but if you have good health and two feet and a heart and eyes and all working right GO FOR THE REAL THING! OUTSIDE THE INTERNET!\n\ngO to a park (lots of dad's or mom's and many may be also looking for a good person to date and even marry).\n\nPersonally I would not spend a dime on online dating. And beware!! People from other countries may want your money and promise you chivalry and never ending love until they get your money and then fly out elsewhere and not even meet you. That happend to someboyd I knew. Russian ladies online can lie real good.\nBeware of distance if you decide to go online to find yr mate.\nIt doesnt work specially if you meet online, to be in different continents or countries and even States. \n\nIt is very rare that a person finds a good mate if they have not met each other and know each other for quite a while, reasoned about things together, experienced things together. \n\nJust writing online can harm serious people lookig for love. Because most people online can get away with murder and lies.\n\nDo you work? anybody there that may be better for you? school? \n\nWhy don't you volunteer into a positive cause and organization ? most likely good people will be there to meet you and will be REAL.
464758
Open you´re eyes ands ears, first what kind of man you want.\nIf you want a spiritual hard working men it more easy to find in a group who help kids or work for free in non-profit organization, instead of a bar. Be part of a group for goods things in this environment you can meet nice people and be better person, or be part of people who share you´res hobbies or sports.
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I am a single mom and have bascially been single, minus a few not-so-serious relationships, now for seven years. I've gone through periods when I've seriously been looking for someone to settle down with and  times when I've been desperately lonely but hadn't the energy to try again. \n\nThe one thing I HAVE learned over the past few years of dating and not dating, is not to ever settle for less than what you deserve. It may mean that you may go through years of being alone but I truly believe it is much better to be alone than with someone who is not right for you. \n\nDepending on your situation, I think the possiblities of where and how to meet a potential boyfriend are endless. Start spending time on yourself. Go places that interest you.....put yourself out there.......everywhere, with and without your child(ren). Chances are that if you meet this person at a museum or maybe a through other family members, other than the bar scene, you'll have more in common. \n\nDon't  dwell on the fact that you're single; sometimes it shows and you may look a little desperate and then definately will attract the wrong type of guy who could possibly be an oportunist looking for his next prey. When you start doing more just for you and your family you WILL start to feel better about yourself and your situation. It is this positivity that most definately attract the right type of people and soon enough you will realize that being alone isn't a curse and THAT"S when Mr Right is bound to step in and like you for who you are.
496237
u r a nice dad..iam sure u will find an amazing person too...
732323
Most guys think that they'll have to take on the responsibility of taking care of you and your kids and it scares them. They dont want that. Even though you tell them you dont want that from them, they dont hear it. There are men out there and wont care you have 2 kids, but they are few and far between. I myself have a son from a previous relationship and I have found a man that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I never thought anyone would want me because of me having a son, but I have. He considers my son his, and I couldnt be more happier with him. All I can say is, dont look too hard. Eventually you'll find someone who will respect you and your kids. Dont just jump into a relationship. Be friends first. That way he can get to know you and your kids. Best of luck to ya!
501597
You can find real love at ANY age. It doesn't matter the age or that you have 3 lovely children that you obviously care a great deal about. I think it will be easier for you to find someone who also has children of his own because he will be better able to understand the responsibilities of having children and how to deal with them. Good luck to you!
98943
i think you need to go to a personals place to get a man. why u want little boys anyway\n i mean they're little boys
319037
Relax, it won't be easy but there are good guys out there who are interested in dating a woman like you.  When I was single, I had no problem with dating a woman who had kids.  The key is to be picky and always put your kids first.  Unfortunately there are a lot of bad people out there who will try to prey on you and your kids so don't put up with any crap and don't settle for anyone less than what your looking for.
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Your situation sounds like mine!  The father of my kids basically turned his back on us.  He ran off to live his life and complete his education while leaving us behind.  Next thing I know, he admits to having a child by someone else (after the kid was almost two years old).  I could go on and on about the situation, but I won't.  Now he wants me back because he can't find a decent female that will accept a guy with three kids AND bad finances!!!  Ha, ha, ha!!  It's so funny!  Before, the man was telling me all of the reasons that I wasn't good enough for him!  During a recent conversation, he even admitted that, at one time, he thought that he was better than me!!!  Now, he's always whining about how he thinks that we should raise our kids together, which, I admit would be a good thing.  But, I know that he wants that for the wrong reason, only for his convenience.  I could go on and on, but this is about you, not me!!  Sorry!!!  What I'm TRYING to say is that if we weren't good enough for them before, we're not good enough for them now (or in other words, we're too good for them now)!!!  I don't know exactly what your children's father did, but if he chose to run off and leave y'all to live his life as he pleased, then I don't think it will be worth your time to fool with him.  Invest your time into becoming as successful as you want to be and into finding a man that will love and respect you and your child or children!
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I AGREE WITH YOU IAM 25 AND A SINGLE MOTHER AND LOOKING FOR A MAN TO BE WITH ME THE REST OF MY LIFE BUT I TOO SEEM TO HAVE THAT PROBLEM I BELIEVE THE BEST THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT.  YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT.
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I think the question you need to ask yourself is are you looking to settle down and get marrired or are you just looking to have a little fun.\n\nIf your only goal is fun, there is no reason you can not see the man with kids (especially if he is only looking for a casual relationship).
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Hey I wish I can tell you where you could find, but it's just going to come when the time is right.I've been searching on the net, went to church and still I'm single. So patience is really a virtue.
857338
Are you looking for a husband?
915784
Find a nice fella around your own age.  Don't know anything about this young male but he must be pretty immature to be hanging around kids your age.  There are lots of fish in the sea, and lots more around your age.
413837
You might want to check out Gothic personals at www.waningmoon.com/ gothicpersonals/  I met a couple of nice guys on there, including my husband.