I feel guilty about something horrible I did without thinking, what should someone do to redeem themself?
467410
Whatever you did happened in the past and you can do nothing to change it. I happened. If your deed involves hurting someone you love (that most likley the reason you feel bad about it) then it might be a good idea to talk with the person about it. If that person cares about you he or she might forgive you,especially since you didn't do it intentionally or without planning. \nIn any case it was something you did "without thinking" therefore you didn't plan, there was no "intent" more an "Impulse". Learn from the expereince, file it under life happens and go on.
1010729
I'm going through a similar situation because of things I did years ago.  They never really trust you again. Not fully anyway.  It is always there, waiting for the opportunity to show up and force you to feel guilty about something.  I've been going through this for 13yrs.  It hasn't gotten any better.  Maybe you need to learn from your mistake and move on. I don't know why I stayed,but I wish I hadn't.
1046734
Tell the people that you may have hurt that you are truly sorry, make restitution if you can, ask the Lord for forgiveness. If that doesn't work talk to your preacher/minister about it.
1155897
Well, I can understand your feeling, but you don't have to be paralyzed by regret.  Even the worst events in life can be turned into positives depending on what you've gleaned from it all.   \n\nYou can't undo the past, so the best thing to do is ask yourself what you can do *today* to be a better person.  What can you do today that will cultivate a sense of purpose in your life?  What gives you joy and satisfaction?  Do those things and you'll eventually forget that you spent a lot of time in useless pursuit.  \n\nAnd here's something else to think about:  the experiences you've had in your life (all that partying brought into your life) don't have to go to waste.  Think about what you've learned as a result of how you've lived.  Use that to help someone else make wiser choices.
1152467
swallow your pride and admit you were wrong and leave it at that give them time to think how much guts it took for you to do that and if the friendship was worth anything to them they'll be in touch thats all you can do ..
659994
You can not be responsible for that which you can not control, which proceeds all others.  Do not try to feel bad for feeling a certain way.  Your feelings are only honest, and honesty can never be looked down at.  Looking down on honesty is being dishonest.  To be ashamed of a true feeling is what would be 'wrong'.  Also, this friend of yours does not own this person or you.  If you wish to clear your conscience, talk to your friend and tell her the truth.  Tell her that you appreciate all of the same things about this guy.  \n\nNow I said having a crush is nothing to be ashamed of, but acting on that is a different matter.  You should do what you feel is right.  Your true feelings are always correct.  Now honesty should always be expressed, but caution should also be used.  Lack of caution is not true honesty.  It is just plain inconsiderate.  Take a time-out and try to gain some perspective.  Take a long walk, read a book, or do anything you can to get your mind off the subject.  Only when you clear your mind can you think clearly.  No one can tell you what the correct thing to do is but yourself.  You should think about what every decision would mean, and what different things you can do to make your decision best for all parties.  If you believe your friend will do something seriously bad if you talk to this guy, keep that in mind.  Make your decision according to anything.  I will say this.  Do not concede to fear and allow someone to intimidate you into doing their will.  If you like this guy, and he likes you, it is only right that you two should explore what you have together, but do not leave your friend in the loop.  Definitely do not let her intimidate you either.  \n\nSummed up, you should do some soul searching and the answer will be clear to you yourself.  I, nor any of us on yahoo, can tell you what is right for you.  Only can do that.  All I can do is give you suggestions on how to come to the decision yourself.  Like I said, take some time off of both people, at least two days.  Read a book.  Put it out of your mind, and I will give you a good method on when you know when you're ready to make your decision.  It seems that this weighs heavy on your mind.  Keep yourself busy with books, or household projects, or art, or anything you wish, and the second you realize that you are so wrapped up in what you are doing that you've COMPLETELY forgotten your ordeal, if only for an hour or two, then you are clear.  This is what clear is.  Be clear, and make clear decisions.  Good luck sweetheart.
62663
You cry.  You scream and yell and throw your own pity party, if that is what you feel like doing.  But most importantly, you take time for you.  Heal, and then move on.  Take the knowledge that you have learned from them and make your life better with it.  Good luck.  I'm so sorry that this happened to you.  But things are not always going to feel this bad.
1027409
I would pick something that you have done in your life mistake or not, that has some how changed you for the better. People relate well with situations they are familiar with. Try something along those lines
1159471
hi... \n  i've had the xperiance like u... i know what it feels like... this is the advise one of my frnds had given.... never think of past mistakes...they cant be changed... each day is a new day.. so whenever u feel sad think of something nice that had happened or just try to divert ur mind  from ur melencholy.. maybe surfing the net or chatting would help... or else jus do ur fav thing or if u like reading read ur fav book.. believe me it works....\nkeep smiling.
214459
look, you made an honest mistake, i mean from the sound of things, it came from the right place. grow a bit of a spine and admit to her that what you did was wrong, but explain to her how what she did made you feel; that maybe she should have gone about it in a different way. don't beat yourself that much over it, you are only human and will make some mistakes, especially with those you love.
1184214
Well no, you should have not done that but do let her know what you have done.  She may be more willing to forgive you if she sees that your confessing your mistake...Good luck!
815551
only if i had done something really really bad and I wanted to punish myself. lol
351991
You need closure!\nTry harder to contact him. Maybe by asking for help from a mutual friend...\nYou are feeling guilty and the only way to overcome that is by sitting down with him and having a long talk and explaining why you did what you did...
868236
Glad you aren't related to me! Yikes!  But, really though you do sound like you have some problems you need help with before you do something you will regret.  Call a mental help line or your doctor or if you really think you might hurt somebody just call the police & they will take you to a place where you can get help.  Please call them BEFORE you hurt or kill anybody ok?
50417
Straight out tell her, "look, you say I hurt your feelings yet I have no recolection of this. I apologize if I, without meaning to, offended you". Something like that, let it be known that you did not do it on purpose, that way she'll know you're not apologizing for something you did, but for something she thinks or feels you did.
144325
I used to be just like that. You have to realize that you have to please yourself before you can really please anyone else. Don't go through your life regreting what you did not do and resenting someone else because of the choices that you yourself made. Try it slowly at first and see how it works for you. You will be surpised at how much better you will feel. Take baby steps. The world was not made in a day.
750835
DON"T Say you are sorry if you didn't do it...just ask the person why they think you did it? Why would you cause this problem ? Have them think about it....also ask them if you can talk about it....maybe you did do something that hurt that person and don't Even know it...people get hurt over things that would NEVER hurt us...that is why there is conflict....Different prospectives!!