if you have an anger problem, and you dont want to hurt or offend anybody, but not want....?
467473
Play games and release my anger! RAUUGH!
259173
yes,go to anger management classes.:)
285924
Not of speech.  I believe that the way to calm many problems is allowing people to talk them out.  I don't see how saying something that you believe is bad.  Even if it is repugnant to others or hurtful to some.  Everyone on this earth is entitled to feel however they want.  EVEN if they hate me...my religion...my family...my country...my God.  That doesn't mean I will agree with them or even dignify what they say with a response but I will not censor them as I would not want to be censored.
283844
Yep. I believe anything is possible. Especially this. I used to be very angry myself. Anger management classes didn't work. They pissed me off even more. But through years of therapy, and counseling i learned how to find happiness within myself, and find other more positive healthy ways of expressing myself. I learned that it's okay to be angry. Everyone gets that way whether they want to believe it or not. But anyways, yes of course you can always change yourself. I found peace in writing poetry. and listening to relaxing music. So that's what i do when i'm flustered. I write how i'm feeling. It may be some ugly and harsh poetry but in the end i feel alot better. So what i would suggest is find something you like to do, and find peace in that. Good Luck to ya.
434121
Sometimes people get so hurt, angry, and frustrated but can't (or aren't allowed to)express their feelings.  Especially kids whose parents are not very understanding or who don't accept emotional expression in the family or adults whose partners don't accept it.  When the person can't express feelings, especially angry ones, they have a build up of frustration and release it on themselves rather than on others.  It's not much different from people who abuse others accept that the self-harmer would probably not hurt anyone, including themselves, if they were allowed to or knew how to express simple feelings of anger, disagreement, or frustration to those around them.  This is why it so important to learn good communication skills and to allow children and other family members to share and express their emotions.  \n\nSo when people hurt themselves, it makes them feel better because they're releasing their pain and anger.  Just like an abuser releases pain and anger when they punch someone else or punch a wall.  Even though their hand might hurt, they feel better because they've released it.  Unfortunatly, hurting others or yourself leaves people feeling guilty afterward.
845652
We all at times would like to get revenge so we feel better. The best thing to do is really wait and don't act while your angry , sit it out and let it go for awhile and see if that feeling doesn't just fade away..
550527
Go for a walk and just have time on your own.  Talk to yourself about what got you so pissed off, what you should have said, what you are going to say, but without screaming or yelling so they could know that you really mean it and that you are not just talking because you are mad.....  I think that is the best as it will prevent you from getting physical with the person who caused you to get the way that you are and you will avoid saying something that you will or may regret....
69212
There are many things that can make someone angry, each of us is so different, that is why the degree of anger is also different. Some people may tolerate certain indisgressions and some may not.  The degree of tolerance is a very important aspect that can determine how much anger a person can, or may feel, and also may indicate how much control of anger a person can manage.  Maturity, Self-confidence, discipline, psychological and emotional fitness, may establish a person's ability to control his or her anger, and cope with it. Violence is anger without control and without proper logic. It is a pure irrational physical interpretation of one's fear, insecurity and vulnerability. Coping with anger is dependent on the person's abilility to figure things out for himself/herself and resolve his/her anger by using proper logic and discipline in managing ones emotional state. Often we seek advice from trusted acquiantances, just be careful, and think of what advise is being given, because they are mainly opinions of someone who may not really understand what you may be feeling, or angry about in the first place, it is very hard to assume that anyone person can help you with your anger. It is good to share your thoughts about your anger with someone you trust, but you cannot expect them to solve your anger. Only you can exercise proper rationality on your own anger and try to resolve it without violence by having self-confidence, disciplne, mature rationality, knowing what is good to do, and not to do something bad.  By doing so, you can show to everyone that you are a mature and responsible human being, and serve as a good example for everyone to follow.\n~meow
296621
You can let them know that they are offending you and try to fix it ,or if you don't want to risk conflict ask someone to be a go between,or pray and ask god to take the resentment you feel away.
1177842
When you hurt the one that you love, emotions are highly involved on both sides.  Both you and the person you are hurting will be affected in one way or another, and like all similar situations, there will be serious consequences to follow.  When dealing with a stranger, however, there is no history and/or very little (if any) emotions involved at all.  Sure you may insult a stranger in one situation, and anger may ensue on one or both sides because of your actions.  Nevertheless, for the most part, they will not carry that with them for the rest of their life (and perhaps not even the rest of the day for that matter).
753921
You don't have to put up with things you don't want to put up with....\ndont turn the cheek, start kicking some assssesss
781901
Take it out on a punching bag or go for a long run.\n\nBoth of these remedies for anger have done wonders for me and they will for you 2 if you do them every day, or at least when you are the most angry.\n\nIf you have these much needed physical outlets for your anger that don't involve hurting other people or yourself, you will soon find yourself in control of your anger, and your anger will no longer be in control of you.\n\nP.S. - buy one of the heavier punching bags, and use it for the times you are most angry and need the quickest release activity for it.
773179
what about going to gym, or buying boxing bag and everytime u feel like getting violent, u simply punch that, instead of hurting someone. u can yell during that as well:]
448417
It's okay to have feelings but i wouldn't do anything about it... 1.) you'll piss off your baby mama.\n2.) You'll look like an major @$$.\n3.) You'll tear apart the family.
1051938
when i get mad, i usually just vent out and that's it... there's no need to get even. i just talk to the person concerned (of course after i have already calmed down) so we can have this straightened out. you don't have to get even, it will make matters worse.
44957
Sometimes it's not the person you are upset with but a situation, what drives you to be angry at the moment you get angry?  What fuels the anger? Think about it, because if you want it to change you are going to have to figure out what "it" is that needs changed, and if you already know what "it" is you have to decide how important it is to change, if it's something you can get through, and if it's worth holding on to.
37264
Walk out of the situation before the anger takes control of you. Like 'babygirl' said, it will give you time to cool down & think through the situation sensibly instead of causing harm, whether physically or verbally, to the other in a fit of rage.\n\nThat's what I do, just walk out on the person or just don't talk. I am known for a vicious temper & that's how I deal with it. :)