Is it normal for my husband not to have sex w/ me?
472424
Did he watch the birth?  Did you have a c-section or vaginal birth?  My wife told me that some men get turned off by watching the birth and seeing a baby come out where they are used to having sex, and it totally turns them off of sex with their wife.  She knew several people this happened to.  \n\nTalk with him, see what is going on.  Maybe he is having an affair, maybe this is what is going on.  Listen to his concerns and see what you can do to help.  \n\nYou cheating won't help, it will make it worse.  Focus on your relationship and try to fix it, don't find somebody else.  You can use a vibrat0r or di1do in the meantime to get off pretty easily.
1132510
has he tried any foreplay? i have learned that foreplay is important for my wife to have a pleasurable experience. \n\nalso, distractions could definately be an issue because i am in a similar situation as you are. my wife has mentioned that she was uncomfortable with the living situation so its hard for her to "be herself" at times...i have learned that the atmosphere has to be just right  for a woman.
24179
Don't look elsewhere, this is actually pretty normal.    Try talking to him and telling him that you'd like to be more intimate.  DOn't make things into a chore, like "eat, drive to movies, blah, sex"... Usually, I find that a good makeout session will be enough to rev up your latent sex drives!
461533
NO. not at all. First of all, I would like to congratulate you two. You're a match made in heaven. Basically, the bible states that sex is a blessing given to married couples. If you're just living together and not having sex, that's absolutely perfect. It's the most exciting thing you can have once you get married. But if you guys are married but not having sex... then there really is a problem behind that. Try talking to your partner about that.
332465
From years of listening to my father and others who were married long before I was, the number one reason they become unfaithful or disinterested in thier spouse is the lack of a meaningful sex life. I think that you should accomodate your husband as much as you feel comfortable doing so. You should also make sure that he accomodates you in the ways he needs to. Sex is just an outgrowth of your relationship as a whole, there has to be give and take. Let him watch you play with yourself for some time and then make sure he does what he needs to in order for you to be satisfied. By not doing this your husband may feel like you're not commited to his satisfaction and this leads to the wandering eye.
26451
First define "normal"!!  I am 35 and he is 47 and we have been together for 6 years, living together for 6 months, and on average I'd say we have sex with each other 4 times a week.  Usually it is weekends 2-3 hour marathons 2-3 times a weekend as well as about twice during the week before saying goodnight!  I have found that too often can sometimes take the fun out of it so when you start seeing signs of sexual "overdose" it's good to refrain for a week or so and don't be afraid to experiment with new positions, places etc in order to keep it alive and fun!
314701
Hey, that's a good question. I'm pregnant too and I'm the same way. I don't like having sex very much anymore either, I'm never in the mood. As a matter of fact, I don't even really like cuddling! Our horomones are very messed up right now, it's not us, I've already asked about this. Don't fret, and try to explain that to him.
952684
I understand he might have fears about the baby, but other than that, I'm confused.  My husband actually requests more sex when he's stressed out.  It relaxes him.  I think he's being selfish personally.
652242
I do not think there is any such thing as "normal" in regards to this question. Each couple will have their own desires, their own wants, needs, urges and motivations. Sex is tied to emotions and other factors besides two willing bodies. In other words, it may seem normal for your husband to want sex more often, but if his mind is on work, worries, children, responsibilities etc. He may not be able to perform as well or as eagerly as he would without the stress issues.  There are also medications that can affect one's desire (or lack of desire) so all of these kind of intricacies in your OWN relationship may make what is "normal" very different for each couple. \n\nMy husband and I did not get married until we were older (late 30s for me, early 40s for him), and I must admit that the first two years was a lot hotter than the last 8 have been, but I have had a surgery on my back, and my husband has had some health problems that have had a profound effect on our sex lives. The part that really matters is that we are both happy and satisfied (not only with the sex, but with each other)!  We were friends before we were lovers, and if for some reason one day one of us is no longer able to have sex at all, I don't think either one of us would walk away from the other because of it!\n\nI guess it's a lot more important if you are young, and maybe there are ways that you could approach and talk to your husband if you want to know if HE is happy, and if YOU are not happy...then I think you should try talking this over with your husband (PRIVATELY) before you are tempted to invite others into your bed!  It may be that you could spice things up a bit to make the package more appealing. If you could just offer him a massage and if he relaxes so much that he goes to sleep, then let him sleep. Let him know that you are not doing nice things just for the purpose of seducing him. Maybe try some feminine lingerie, and instead of wearing your fuzzy pink bunny slippers and terry cloth bathrobe, put on something that will remind him that you are all HIS and that he is a very lucky man. :)  \n\nIf you have changed in weight or attitude since you got married maybe he would appreciate your efforts to improve yourself. So if you can be more helpful, less demanding and show him that you really do want him to be more attentive or less attentive (which ever the case)...Perhaps your feelings will seem more important to him. \n\nBefore you feel tempted to cheat or anything like that or if you are suspicious that he is cheating, ask him to go with you to a marriage counselor, or if you both are invested in a church, you may consider asking the Pastor, Priest or Reverend for "couple's counseling".  If you go to counseling, be honest about your feelings, and encourage your husband to open up too. If there are things in your marriage (like sex) that are not satisfying to both of you, then maybe you could find ways to make them more balanced through work and compromise. Sometimes we cannot always have things as we always dreamed they should be. There is NOTHING wrong with sharing those dreams with your spouse, so that both of you can work towards a happier marriage that is mutually gratifying in many many ways!\n\nGood luck, what is "normal" is what works for you and your husband!
986710
I've caught my husband doing it frequently also. We had a talk about it though and he told me sometimes he just doesnt feel like sex because he needs release and just wants to get it over with. I actually woke up one night and he was releasing himself while watching a porno on mute. I freaked out about it. I love pleasing him and it offends me too. Although I can kind of relate to why he does it without me sometimes because I do it without him sometimes too. I just dont want to have sex sometimes. it seems though that he doesnt want to have sex with you at all...and if that is what your saying, let him catch you a few times...if it doesnt make him jump your bones right then...I guess the only thing to do is look into couples therapy. Some guys are actually addicted to masterbating.
499758
Ouch!  sorry, but that's not very often.  All couples are different, but compatibility extends to the bedroom too.  when I'm in a relationship, I like to at least three times a week.  I think that you should talk to him, and find out either why he doesn't want to have sex more often, or if he's willing to step it up a bit...
963759
Sounds like a no. You have been having sex with him, probably living with him - he has no need to get married; you are giving him all that he wants and he is totally comfortable. Talk to him again, and get married before the baby comes!
1109723
He might want you to, and maybe even expect you to, but you are not obligated.  If you want to do it, then that's fine.\nBut if you wait to have sex until you are in a committed relationship, then it will be much easier.  You and your husband could talk about these things and know exactly what each other expects.  And you will probably want to do it if you love him and that's what he enjoys.
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When a woman is pregnant she is going through ALOT of hormonal changes.  I would talk to a doctor, but I wouldn't say that it is abnormal.  It has been my experience that when a woman is pregnant she wants sex MORE, but you could just be different.  Talk to a doctor, about it, and stress to your husband that this isn't forever it is just while you are pregnant.  He needs to not feel rejected.  But most importantly... talk to a doctor.
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Decreased sex is completely normal in a marriage. It's your responsibility to spice things up in order to keep the passion alive. Try in on the floor, in a public place, use toys, do something taboo, anything new. Continue to give each other compliments especially about each others bodies and what you like about it. Be naughty! It's not just the mans job to keep it going, take the initiative and he will appreciate it I promise!
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Was he like this when you first got married? Has his sex drive dropped or stayed the same? Some men don't have a very active libido. It's usually hormonal.\n\nIf it isn't satisfying to you, try to suggest seeing a medical doctor.\n\nA person's sex drive is an individual thing. But for the record, your husband's does seem rather low for a newlywed guy. I had a friend who's husband was the same. He got help--against his wishes--but it worked.\n\nYou can't compare yourself with other couples, really, but  the average is about 3 times a week. We do it more often because my husband is a horn dog. As he ages, it is lessening though. We've been married for 20 years.
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No I would not..  Marriage is not based on just sex...  It is based on communication, honesty, trust, love, passion.\n\nYou should do things together. Like go to the movies, dinner, for a walk, sports etc.  \n\nYou should ask him why he doesn't spend any quality time with you..  Other than when you are having sex....   And let him know you feel about it...