Why is it that people today are so concerned with appearing sincere and nice?
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I beleive you can say anything if you speak the truth in love.\n\nThere are times where I had to say things to people that were really senstive issues like bad oral hygene or people that are very self absorbed.\n\nTruth hurts but it also sets you free. The Bible says in Proverbs 27 that wounds of a friend are better than kisses of an enenmy, meaning a friend would love you enough to hurt your feelings to make you a better person and say the truth even if you dont want to hear it.\n\nFor example I wanted to get married more than anything in the whole wide world and I met a man who is now my husband, there were people in our family that were relatives that did not share our enthuiisiam for love.\n\nOne realtive had a family meeting regarding the two of us getting married and let me tell you I was really angry and mad. \n\nBut in all fairness we did not have jobs. no benenfits and she expalined to my parents that my fiance would never make a lot of money and that I would not be able to stay home the way my mom did. I did not have a teachable sprirt at that time either.\n\nBecause this person cared enough to "burst my bubble" of joy\nmy parents have a clear picture of what my husband and I would have to face.\n\nThis realtive was my mother in law. We are living on our own, we both work, and my mother in law till this day tells us and others how proud she is of us for waiting and not rushing into marraige.\n\nIf you love someone speak the truth in love. Some of the closest friends at our church are the ones who take us aside and lovingly point out where we need to improve.\n\nAntoher question are people being nice to be genuine or aviod conflict? I feel it is more important to be genuine than it is to be "nice" I hope this is of help to you and this was a very good question
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Due to the fact that there are social norms that have been instilled in us since we were children. Of course this is coupled with an innate sense of wanting to please others or wanting to look good in the eyes of other people. What people worry about always depends on what they deem as valuable to them. If a person values money and property he/she would often think about what other people would say if he/she were only driving a certain car. If a person values being perceived as a an individual who is competent and efficient he/she would do everything in his/her power to get things done. It really boils down to what you want other people to know about you and the kind of image you want to portray.
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The reason is because people only care about themselves. This makes it hard for everyone to be treated fair.
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Some people are jus' plain hipocrits.  People jus' won't get over themselves, think we all have to look alike, act like, live alike.  People jus' need to grow up.
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first of all you shouldnt change to please other people, you are who you are. in saying that, you are aware that what you say might not always be seen as nice to other people and have to face the consequences of your actions. doing nice things for people will show you have a good heart and eventually people will not notice the side of your personality that you dont like.
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You are right.  As a society, we no longer seem to have good manners.  People step in front of you without an "excuse me" and hardly ever say "thank you" anymore.\n\nI hold doors without expectation of a thank you now.  I do it because it pleases me to have good manners and I choose not to let their lack of manners upset me.  I don't say anything, but I mentally stick my tongue out at them.\n\nIf you hold the door for me, I promise to thank you and smile very big!  As a postscript, the other day an elderly lady smiled at me and when I smiled back she stopped me to tell me how nice it was!  I was thrilled.  Keep hoping.  We're out here! :-)
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Thank you!  I agree.  It's because society is full of shallow little people who only care about themselves, and how they are perceived. They are so desperate for a compliment to boost their confidence that they'd even take them from strange wierdos in the internet.
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some people are selfish and do not worry about others. they are only worried about advancing themselves in life.
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Because nice people are nice, they think more about other people. Mean people think more about themself and their benefit, and take advantage on nice ones.\n\nI have been hurt a lot but just can't stop being nice (being myself), even though I am getting wiser after each time I get hurt.\n\nWish there're less mean ppl and more nice ones in the world, life must be much more enjoyable ...
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It has in the past. You just can't wait to get to 'talk' to them next, it's great fun and you get nervous but not too nervous.\n\nHave fun, but just be careful, okay!\n\nSome people are as nice as they seem online. Some aren't. You never know.
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being caring and nice
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Insecurity is a good guess. Many of those that try to make themselves seem better than others have real issues with themselves. They can not ever believe someone can do something better than them, make more money, etc. What they do is right and what everyone else does is wrong. Unfortunately I  know many many people like that. I have learned to tune them out of my life as much as possible and when I can't I do my best to keep my mouth shut. It really is a shame because I know some that are worse than those they are knocking and it makes me so ill at heart to see a loved one get hurt that way
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I think it's because people are basically egocentric.  Also self-preservation is rather high on the list of the instincts.
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went down down down and the flames went higher\nuhm, In this day and age people are shallow and obsessed with a self image that no one can easily obtain or for that matter maintain. Who wants to be with an image? I agree substance is everything!\nDO NOT give up on those better parts of your nature, there is someone out there that will recognise it for what it is and love you for it. My only advice is to be very careful as there are those types out there in the world that would take advantage. Look before you leap.\nIt sounds as if the tuly ugly people of the world were revealing themselves to be just that, in so far as the opinions and statements they set forth yesterday, their opinions don't matter, be true to yourself.
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Because people are unhappy and they have a need to worry about what others are doing instead of being concerned with themselves.
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maybe b/c people might see us as weak or unloveable. no one wants to be judged as that.
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People aren't honest because they need to present a good face.  God knows what their marriage is really like or what their spouse would say.\n\nThat's me being cynical, I do know happily married couples though, but I know alot more people who swear their relationships are perfect in one breath and then proceed to complain about their spouse in the next.