My boyfriend hardly wants sex - what is wrong?
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There's nothing wrong with you.He says he's attracted to you and you do have sex,just not that often.If it bothers you I'd ask him whats going on.Tell him his behavior makes no sense to you, it makes you feel insecure and you need to know why he does this.I'm sure the two of you can work it out..good luck!
555710
Until you said "When I am more than willing to have sex and try new things all the time?" I thought I had the solution for you.  If he's not fulfilling your sexual needs you need to drop him.  Let him play in cyber land and find someone that can appreciate a real woman.
690074
You might want to really think about this when the situation isn't right in front of you, kind of like you're doing now.\n\nThere is a lot of room for variation in "I don't feel like having sex".  Are you feeling like you don't really feel like it much, or are you feeling like you REALLY don't want to have sex, that it would be a miserable experience for you?  \n\nIf it's a matter of not being in full mood, maybe he could be the more active partner and you can be more passive.  I don't think that anyone should have sex against their will, but sometimes I used to say no and it wouldn't have really been a big deal to say "yes" either.  Guys don't always need to have extended sexual contact and this kind of time would be a chance for him to sort of have an express lane sort of experience and then go to sleep.\nIt's possible you could become more interested in more extended lovemaking, or maybe you won't.  Who knows?\n\nIf you REALLY don't want to have sex, perhaps you could make a date with him to have sex the next day or in the morning or later that night or...\nwell, you get the idea.\n\nYou could even tell him why you don't feel like having sex--too tired, too worried, whatever.  My experience is that my guy doesn't really want to hear about it and he backs off.\n\nIt's too bad people's moods don't line up better sometimes!
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You have to decide is this forever problem.. or a "Im just not feeling it" problem.\n\nIs the root of the problem.. you.. him... outside inclunces.\n\nIf you are not feeling it.. and then not being there for him in the bedroom.. things will become damaged.\n\nMen very very often equate love to sex.  Right or wrong.. its a reality.   If you are able to share yourself with him, then you will at least give him a belief that things are ok.\n\nIf you think the problem is not a forever, then I would recommend having relations..but also let him know there is a problem.. and try to work with him about it.\n\nIf you think its all over, then stop the sex and get yourself out the door to move things to where youw ill be happy.\n\nIts better for him and its better for you.  You don't want to be feeling like a "whore" having sex with someone you do not love just for a life.  (Please understand I am not saying you should feel like that.. but that is the natrual next feeling).
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I think your man has issues...most of all, it sounds as if he is very insecure about his sexual performance.\n\nOften, when there are problems with sex, there are corresponding problems elsewhere in the relationship. \n\nI would want to ask you, are you happy with your relationship in other ways? If sex if the only area of your relationship that you are not satisfied with, then yes, it is worth giving him another chance. When you talk to him, it will help if you are very reassuring to him. Tell him the two of you are in this together and you would like to help him to work it out.\n\nIf there are other areas in the relationship that aren't working, I would say that you seriously need to consider leaving. Sex is not the most important part of a loving relationship. But if you feel that something is missing, you will be unhappy unless you resolve it one way or another. And that won't help you or your man.\n\nHope this helps and wishing you good luck.
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Try snuggling ONLY. Tell him (nicely, make up some excuse) that there will be NO sex, only kissing, cuddling, etc. for the next 7 dates or so.\n The pressure will be off and it may work wonders because he is having performance pressure for some reason.\nThe cuddling, hugging, loving, will give him time to become more relaxed with you. Most likely, he will be more than ready (and able) for sex before the end of your "no sex" dates are over.
446407
4 years damn, well put on a sexy nighty and meet him at the door, if that doesn't work, talk to him about couples therapy or sex therapy.ohh another thought, if you aren't getting any from him most likely someone else is. ask him and tell him you would like to see some changes. maybe he wants you to show some initiative
545691
The fact that your hubby doesn't want to have sex is a SYMPTOM of something else. You need to figure out the cause. It could be a PHYSICAL problem. There are herbal pills that you can look for at health shops which are safe and might help if he needs a physical/hormonal boost. Read up about Damiana and see if it might help. Then, it could be something like an EMOTIONAL problem. Something could have happened to him when he was a child. Often people who were abused are very sexual before they get married and then after they get married they don't want to have sex anymore. If this is the case, you need to be very supportive because they have feelings of guilt and low self-esteem. If it's not something that happened in his past, then it could have something to do with the INTIMACY between the two of you. Maybe he has an unmet NEED. STRESS also affects a man's libido!! Mabye his work is putting too much stress on him and he needs to do something about it. You need to find out the source of the problem. Counselling can help you.
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You need to discuss this with him.  There could be a myriad of reasons for his lack of desire.  It is possible that he has fantasies that he is embarrassed about sharing with you.  Come up with some fantasies of your own so that he may feel more at ease about discussing such topics.  If you are able to get past the taboo nature of the sex topic, you will see a much more rewarding sex life.
229356
he is wanting sex.mabye a freindship also.but definatly SEX no matter how u try to justify him.u should have nothing to do with him.
940731
the symptoms are different for each man. now what causes it thats simple no sex and or unfullfilling sex. if you have a regular partner and you are getting frustrated either find some body thats better or just sit down and talk to that person and let them know what you want and expect when it comes to sex. just remember it works both ways. good luck and happy humping.
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Don't look elsewhere, this is actually pretty normal.    Try talking to him and telling him that you'd like to be more intimate.  DOn't make things into a chore, like "eat, drive to movies, blah, sex"... Usually, I find that a good makeout session will be enough to rev up your latent sex drives!
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I presume you dont like to have sex? But you both are in Love? Am I right?\n\nThen you need to see a Shrink (doc). \n\nYou need to know that the guy obviously cannot live with you knowing that there is no sex between you both. So do him a favour and find out why u dont like sex... \n\nIm sure you will find a solution to this and your love life will be more interesting and rewarding...\n\n.:Fishie:.
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Guys tend to express lack of interest by avoiding time together, not being as intimate with you, and being unclear about any future plans.\n\nIf he is a decent guy, I think you should be able to get a direct response to the question "is there something wrong lately?  I feel like you are being a bit distant".  List the reasons you think so, and ask whether you are being ridiculous or not.\n\nI suggest doing that soon, rather than waiting and analizing everything he does.  You will drive yourself nuts, and likely cause the relationship to end on a bad note as your angry/fear/worry all get bottled up until they explode (usually not in a positive way).\n\nI hope it works out for you.  Talk to him.  If you can't do that, it's not a relationship anyway.
915072
Maybe he is having problems preforming and he is insecure about it. I am 20 and my husband is 34 and we have been together for 2 years. Sometimes you still love each other and you still find one another attractive, but you just need a break from the sexual part of the relationship. Are you feeling pressure from the idea of marriage? Are you both stressed out in any way more than usual, maybe from planning a wedding? It all factors in, as long as you still love each other, it's OK. Sex isn't everything.
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If he never cares to listen to u, always joking around, never cares to know what u like and don´t likes and if all he knows is to tickle u all the time, joke with u and when u find it annoying and ure looking sad, he doesnt make effoert to change, he changes his guillt to winning u back by touching u and at the end ure on the Sofa. If he wasn´t a sex driver, he would make breakfast for u, care for u alot,buy presents and be very romantic without giving u signal for sex. Relationship is about fun not sex. Sex is just to spice it up.Sometimes a sex driver gives a signal and when u signal no, he begins to touch u and signal u strongly that u cant say no any more.If ur guy is one, do u think he really loves u? Find out before he turns u to a sex machine!!!   lol
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He won't show interest in you. It should be pretty obvious. Assess the situation: does he work a lot? does he come home late? is he not in the mood for sex? He may just be under a lot of stress, but if it goes on for too long (6-8 months) then it's a safe bet something else is wrong. Ask him. Tell him you're afraid he's lost interest, and if he doesn't change his behavior you know he has.