my friend is having b/f problems over religion.....?
467355
i say end it. religion from strong religious families causes a whole bunch of problems that extend all the way to grandma.
1166409
Well then don't judge him that's not your place. Make sure that he knows that you love him and support him. But you need to remember that it is not your place to judge God will do that when the time comes. If you love him just accept him and look at him as a person. Its not your job or right to try and change him and if you do really care about him then you can look past the fact that he is homosexual, and just look at him as a friend. There should be no need to try and make sure that he knows you don't agree with his lifestyle. I have homosexual friends and I don't agree with it but I'm not crappy enough to tell them that. It would hurt them, and I don't think thats really my place. As much as we say that is not judging it really is.
90259
First of all, it's not wrong !! Don't ever say that b/c thats just what others believe. If you two been together for 3 months and you honestly really care for one another than you are going to have to talk to her and let her know how you feel about the whole situation. It shouldn't really matter what religion she chooses to go to b/c if she really loves you and you really love her then why should either of you allow a book that someone else wrote run you guys relationship down. If you feel that she deserves you and that you deserve her and yall make each other happy then GIRL please live life the best way known how b/c to be real with you, you know like I know that we are only granted with one life to live!!!!!!You midestwell live it being happy, you aren't hurting anyone else by doing that!!\nGOOD LUCK ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!
398804
since there probably are, would you not be their friend because they were? \nwhat does it matter what they are? \nyou should only worry about yourself. how would you feel that somebody was more wrapped up in your religion and your hertatige than the fact that you may be pretty, for example, and you may have very good relationship ethics.\nim not trying to be mean, by any means. i would just like you to know by singeling out someone (BTW im not saying you are, ok?) because of their religion or race may limit you on a very good friend or more.\ntake a step back and look at how they portray themselvs as an individual not a black, gay, jew.\ni am currently dating a guy that i have been dating for a year~ he has had a problem with homophobia in the past~ he would have never started dating me if he ever knew i had a 3some once, now he loves me and has asked me to marry him. the moral of that was that he had a revelation that i was not bad or a bad person because i was open to it or that i had done it. if he would have judged me before knowing me we would never have the relationship we have now.\nBTW im streight, white, female and 25 years old and i dont hold anything anybody else does against them. im the one that makes the choices in my life, what others do with their life is up to them. \ni was just trying to enlighten anybody else who might read this also, that just try to be as open minded as possible you never know what you might miss out on in your life.
314809
politics and religion are very controversial things, if you ask them out in the open, you will get lots of answers and be more confused then you were before. so once again, read the bible and decide for yourself!
543233
I know what your Friend is going thru. Prayer is the only thing that can help her. I was surprised more people did not answer this. Maybe they did and maybe they did pray for her. Either way please keep me updated if at all possible. I am interested to know the outcome. I will pray for her!
1153737
try not to make it a forceful act, more persuasive to let him think there can be a God, ya know? well give him the gravity talk, cant see it but its there, and make him realize that there really is a God, jesus
863584
Remain Christian.\nKeep your beliefs. \nQuestion your friends friendship. \n\nHoney, if she beliefs you are WRONG for that. Then she is also "half christian". Because as a Christian, you are taught a sin is a sin. Regardless. Isn't it a sin to cast judgment on someone else?
228738
First of all, it's nice to hear from Christians that you should respect another's faith.  Secondly, to hear from some of you that your way was is the TRUTH, is nothing new to me.  I understand it is how your faith operates.  Also, I just wanted to point out being brainwashed must involve a collective group of people who believe exactly the same thing.  This is not what you will find in the Wiccan faith.  As 100 Wiccans who or what is "GOD" and you will get 100 different answers.\n\nNow for the real question at hand.  I am distressed to hear that one from our faith of respect and tolerance is trying to "convert" you.  Obviously this person has not done much reading on the actual basic principals of Wicca.  One of these being that we do not convert, we only educate when asked.  This faith is one, which should be sought out and found.  To offer it up freely would be an insult to those who really wish to spend time deciding for themselves where their spiritual path takes them.\n\nAs for how to deal with this, I feel you should be blunt.  Tell her that you are not interested in participating in any rituals with her.  If this is all she has to offer in your time together then apparently you two don't have much in common.  You don't have to be rude, but don't beat around the bush either.  Make it clear what your intentions are as friends.  If one day you decide to walk in this path then you already have a point of contact.\n\nI would like to also say, that I am sorry some of the people who have posted answer have not been very supportive.  No matter what you decide to believe, always know that not one person has the right to make or persuade you to believe otherwise.
273234
Perhaps you should be right up front and ask why your friend is doing that.  I once had a best friend who was involved in many church and athletic activities with me.  One day I went to visit him after returning from a two year mission and his interests were elsewhere.  My hindsight from my own experience has taught me that maybe you  should "go often to the house of your friend, for weeds choke up the unused path."
378437
Well, i think that when there are different faiths involved both spouses have to be open minded and they have to communicate with each other about their different religions/ faith. I am not married but i am in a relationship where we both have different religions. We talk about it and we try to know or to learn about the different religion. Mostly because of curiosity but also b/c we have to set boundaries. So if you talk to them and make sure they know how you feel then it'll be alright, but also as long you each of you do not try to impose their religion on each other. Just be open minded and talk about it.
92513
It's probably not a good idea. His core beliefs will be something that sooner or later he's going to want you to conform to. It's very hard for humans to disagree on something so critical; they can barely get along if they disagree on trivial things. I'd suggest that you keep the relationship platonic, and seek someone else who has a worldview more in line with yours.
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I don't think it's your problem if she believes. If he's asked you to tell them, then you should. Start out by noting that she doesn't have to believe you, but you have things to tell her, and you want to say them all before she tries to interrupt. Then tell her what he says.
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My husband and I are atheists. He told me about his position before we married and I accepted it. I was an atheist in every way but by name, and just decided that I am what I am; I've been happy with the decision ever since.\n\nThat said, the argument they give about dating outside of their faith is almost the same one used by those who oppose gay marriage. They somehow believe that gay marriage is a threat to heterosexual marriage. My husband and I have discussed this before; our feeling is, if our marriage is somehow threatened by Bob and Dave's marriage, then we have other problems. Our marriage is our marriage; the only threat to our marriage would be a lack of love, respect or communication with the other. That's our problem, not something Bob and Dave created.\n\nIf you are strong in your beliefs, whatever they are, you rise to the challenge to defend them. Your faith (whether in God or in yourself) should not be shaken by association with those who believe differently than you. If anything, it should bolster your confidence to go out into the world. \n\nYour friend believes that all she does is based on faith at its very foundation. Frankly, she may be feeling very conflicted because you are a decent, trusting, and honorable person on your own - without having the guilt of religion as a motivator to be these things. In her mind, and that of her friends, you can't have those qualities without faith. Your relationship with her proves that you can; it's a threat to what she believes, and on some level she may be questioning her faith. You are not asking her to give up her faith. You are treating her with kindness, respect and are offering the prospect of being in a loving relationship. You have not shunned her friends because they are Christians, you embrace them as cool people who just happen to believe differently. \n\nI don't know what to tell you other than you seize opportunities when they're presented to you. I hope she at least considers how wonderful dating could be for the both of you. The only way you're going to know is to jump in and see what happens. If it goes well, you will approach any hurdles your differences present from a standpoint of love and respect. If it doesn't work, you will have given it an effort, and time will heal whatever heartbreak occurs.\n\nYou can't know how it's going to work without giving it a chance.
70919
Just try to respect your own religions and be happy for each other. Get back together and work things out, you obviously still love each other. Maybe that is your purpose in life that God has created for you. Don't stress on that issue that much because it can be worked out :-)I should Know so trust me
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Well, I guess you should first make it clear that although you changed YOUR belief system, you don't expect her to. Then, if you want to discuss your different beliefs, make sure it's in a dafe environment, where there won't be arguing, but LISTENING. Tell her you really want her to understand why you changed, and tell her it's super important to you. You guys have obviously worked through issues before (you're MARRIED), so this one shouldn't be much different, unless religion is a huge part of BOTH your lives. Just remember that you love each other, and you want to make each other happy. My fiancee is an agnostic, and I'm a wholehearted Methodist. We discuss our different beliefs frequently. As long as it's done in a way where you both understand you aren't attacking one another, and you're just trying to understand each other a little bit more, you should be fine.
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Try to convince this person that homosexuality is wrong and use biblical passages to help. If this person refuses to give up the lifestyle mentioned, you must break off the relationship as this can't be condoned.