do ex husbands ever die? How long do i have to wait????
456189
lol... too cute....maybe you can help him along... take him to court for support....lol..
46169
When a couple has been together for a really long time, lets say 40-50 years+ and they had a happy marriage and then one of the spouse passes away, and the other spouse doesn't get over their grieving,or they lose hope, or they don't have any determination to go on living, their can body shut down and they can end up getting sick or die from a "broken heart".They can die within days,weeks,or a couple of years. Because people need love like they need food and water. Just like babies. If they are not held or nurtured, they can die or they get sick or their body delays growth. But anyway, if you are brave enough you can go down to the cemetary and you can look at the headstones of couples and the calculate how far apart they died.
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I am so sorry about your grandfather. It is impossible for anyone to give you an exact amount of time he has left. However, if he is being cared for by a hospice agency, then his doctor has determined that he has less than 6 months (give or take - you just never know)\nSome signs of impending death are:\nDecreased eating/drinking\nA decrease in urine output\nExtremities become cool and dark\nirregular breathing pattern\na collection of secretions in the mouth/throat - so that it "rattles"when they breath\nI am sorry I can't give you more specific information - no one can.\nI wish you the best.
994737
How old were you when you met this person?  I'm assuming you did not meet this person the day you were born, correct?  Therefore, you had a life before you met his person, why do you feel as though you cannot have a life after they are gone?\n\nYou were doing just fine before you met this person and that is probably why he/she was attracted to you.  Now all of a sudden you cannot go on in life without them?!  Come on!  Grow up!\n\nWhile suicide attempts are real and need to be adressed by professionals trained to help in such dire circumstances, they are acts sometimes carried out to get the attention of someone else.  The fact that you attempted 3 times suggests to me that you are just trying to get the attention of this former significant other rather than to truly kill yourself.  But this is a good thing.  It means that you don't really want to kill yourself.  \n\nYou are resonsible for the actions that you carry out and their consequences, NOBODY ELSE!!!  If this person is not interested in you, or you are not interested in him/her THAT IS OKAY!!!\n\nPeople lose interest, that is a part of life in every way, shape, and form.  \n\nThink back to a time in your past when things seemed absolutely horrible.  Now think of something positive that happened to you since then that made you laugh out loud.  Just because you have had bad times doesn't mean that good times are lost forever.  \n\nYou do not know what, or who, is waiting around the next corner.  For all you know tomorrow the man/woman of your dreams is going to walk out of Starbuck's as soon as you are walking in and then, BAM!  The two of you meet and hit it off and then you will have been glad that this other person is out of your life.  Because then you would not have been able to meet this new person.  \n\nSuicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.  \n\nIf you want to feel better then go talk to someone who you think is truly in love.  It doesn't matter how old they are, 75, 50, or 25 years old.  Now ask them how many ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends they have had in the past.  Now think about the fact that if they killed themselves over any one of these ex's they never would have found their true love.  That is even sadder to me than a suicide.
1045141
I have been divorced for over 5 yrs now and my ex and mine have been doing this dance until 7 months ago. We keep sleeping to together because it was comfortable, I would call him if I was in trouble, etc.but that's just it. Its comfortable.Its sad but you got divorced for a reason and need to remember that.He is moving on with his life and so am I. I kept hoping we would get back then he would go away again. So I woke up to it. I wanted the fantasy of him not the real him. Please look at the big picture here. You are hanging on to a memory and for that it may even be a false one. You are in limbo and and he is living his life while you wait for him. Do you want to let him have it both ways? Keep you on the shelf and play with you when he wants to walk down memory lane? Do you deserve more than that?If you are meant to be you will be. But maybe you should look in the mirror into your soul and take care of you and grow from this, because that is what divorce is about. You may be very surprised by who you really are. Then what happens in the future who knows? Then again by then you may just have out grew him?\nGood luck
307695
Your late husband will ALWAYS know what is going on with you and his boys.  He still loves you, and wants you all to be happy.  If (and when) you meet another man, know that he understands.  He is gone, but you still have a life to continue with.  I can not say I know how you feel.  If I lost my husband, I would have a VERY hard time going on without him.  You have 2 sons to live for and help thru this awful time.  God love you all.
213063
Hey, I know how you feel. I'm the one who told my ex-husband that I wanted a divorce and it took him 2 years to get up off his lazy butt and have it finalized. As for why your ex-husband still acts bitter, I really don't know. MEN!!!
464203
Hey, you know, I am kind of in the same boat as you are, except for I have pretty much gone through having to hear my ex-husband cry to me every single time that I spoke with him to let me know how much is missed me.  I have two young boys with him, and believe me, it has been really hard, but thanks to my dear boyfriend who I now love a lot I have made it through.  I have been thinking about living with my boyfriend too, as my divorce will be in June, but it seems like I can't wait that long.  I don't know, but I just know that women seem to want things done much quicker and we don't like to wait to get what we want.  I would say to do what your heart tells you to do.
204525
It is a natural as birth, I my father died two years ago. He had a maintainable decease Ulcerative colitis. But at 72 he was tired of living. He felt he had done what he was put here to do and there was no talking him out of it. They put him on painkillers and sent him home. He died six months later. It's tempting to say "lost", but this isn't the case in reality. Those who pass over are ever present in our lives. At times you will even hear them speak when you are having troubles. Right now your mother in law is in a safe place and at peace. There is no time, no pain, there is no fear or suffering. Better by far than the place where we live today. If you look ahead I know it sounds far fetched, but you will see her again soon. Time isn't what you think it is.. So waste non of it. 20 years from now this will make even more sense.
727782
Stop whining...Is life good for you?  If yes, then let it go, it's only been 1 1/2 years.  I could see if you were past 3 or 5 years.  Give the man time.  You have obviously never been through divorce before.  He's gone through it twice!  Do you know what that does to a person?  Give it a rest for a little while and if it's meant to be it will be.
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They say "Time heals all wounds"  It hasn't come true for me yet.\n\nI married an alcoholic, hoping he'd change.  I loved him dearly, and we had a great friendship, too.  I had to divorce him when he didn't change, and by then I had a lot of anger and resentment.  That was almost 9 years ago.  Less than two years later, he died from liver failure at the age of 39.  My heart was broken seeing him in the casket.  Our son was 7 at the time (he's 14 now).\n\nWe still miss him and talk about him, and I know sometimes my son is kind-of upset that his actual memories are fading.  We also have our photos and other objects we remember him by.  We look at them from time to time -- it seems less frequent as the years pass.  \n\nBut I still cry, and I still talk to my deceased ex-husband sometimes.  His was a very tragic life, and I wish things could have been different.  But I can't change the past, only learn from it.  But still, I grieve for what could have been...
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Many times.When my first boyfriend and I broke up. When my husband cheated on me. When my sister died at 46. When my brother died at 36. When my mother died. Two weeks ago when my son-in-law was diagnosed with cancer at 28. One night when I was having chest pains and didn't think I would live to see the next day. Many other times too. through out my life. I just say to my self. This to shall pass. I wish I knew more about whats going on with you. So maybe I could help. Some of the questions people ask are to vague. We need more details. Sorry life is hard for you.Right now.
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My husband died unexpectedly 3 weeks ago, without a will. I realize this is a brother but it works the same way.\n\nYou need to go to surrogate court.\n Fill out the form for a executor for small estate (as long as the estate is under $20,000).\n You must list all his assets, property and debts. \nThe filing fee is $1.\n In about 2 weeks (for me) you will get a official copy stating you are the executor of the estate. \nYou must liquefy all assets, pay off all debts starting with his funeral expenses. \nOnce that is paid, you pay off any credit cards or bills he has. After that is done, the remaining monies are distributed to his heirs. \n\nSurrogate court will be very happy to answer any of your questions but...they will not give out legal advice.
1100042
If you know the county they lived in and the name, approximate age you can contact the county courts system they should have a death certificate on file or you can go thru the social security office for deaths as well.  Good Luck to you.
858076
Have her killed and thrown in the river that's what I wish I did. My ex's family all hated me even though I was the one who supported him and treated him better then they did.But after 6 years he still wouldn't stand up for me so I got sick of the drama and left his jobless ass.My point you ask is this.If they won't die just stay the hell away from them cause once a mother has it in her head that your not good enough for her baby boy not even death is gonna change her mind.You could die tomorrow and she'd probably dance on your grave(mother in laws like that are all the same)
496162
only when someone dies
489378
You will be held liable for it.  What you should have done is gotten an anullment!!!  If you wanted to wait around to give her the benefit of the doubt, you should have filed legal seperation forms that way you would not be responsible for anything she does from the date of filing.  It's six yrs now....file for a divorce!!!  If you cannot find her..there are other ways of divorcing her without knowing her whereabouts...such as file the divorce but have your attorney file (as a public announcement) in the legal section of the newspaper.  She will have so many days to respond.  You sound like my ex...LOL...still married to a woman for eight years been seperated for six of them!!!\n\nEnd it now before it gets worse!!!  Not to sound harsh but if you passed away (lord forbid you don't..) she would be entitled to your benefits!!!!  \n\nEnd it.