How many people have healthy relationships with their ex, after you have moved on, even got married?
461266
I have.  I am about to get married and some of my best friends are ex-boyfriends. I don't believe that is should matter. I love my fiance and he knows that. You cant get married if you don't trust someone because it will never work. Plus I feel like that people you date you liked for some reason and for me I liked them because I liked to hang out with them they were cool. And we broke up because we just weren't compatible and to me why ruin a friendship just because you don't fall in love with someone.
199693
I have a friend like that and we've been together for about 12 years, on and off. We have been through 4 babies hers and one of mine my marriage and divorce and we still talk to each other. WE have an understanding, we love each other enough to know when we have had enough of each others advice. Be smart and be a friend but be smarter and know when to walk away. If the friendship is true you'll be together a long time.
1159061
Yes, I was married to a man who was wonderful, but there is a downside to it. In order to stay in love the intimacy needs to be there. We later divorced and remained good friends, which was what we were in the first place. I have since remarried and I am glad because I missed being intimate with someone. Good luck.
1000833
I'm 49 and actually only had one partner for intercourse  (my ex-husband).  I had a boyfriend after my ex and I split up buy he was ill and unable.  He died last year.
1085487
That all depends on your actions after the divorce and whether or not you're mature enough to continue to remain friends with your ex and strive to keep continuity in the lives of your children. \nI've been divorced from my sons' mother since 1989, they have both lived with me since then and to this day their mother visits here regularly and they see her constantly. She and I have remained friends despite our differences and as time as passed the wound of a failed marriage have healed and our children have grown with the feeling of a mutual love from both parents.
879316
Everyone regrets some things so yes I gues it is normal. Sometimes it seems as if you can never do anything right doesn't it? I felt like that when my first wife and I were going through a bad patch prior to our divorce but things even themselves out in the end. For every cloud there is a silver lining and as things go on the good feelings arrive with them.
723333
Yes I was head over heels for my first husband things went south we divorced and I loved him still.  I got married to a really great guy who understood that I may always love my exhubby.  After a year of being married I don't even think about my ex anymore... I am tee-totally all for my Marine.  We are cut from the same cloth....
863998
There are no rules.  When you feel comfortable, then you're ready to date.  Dating can actually be very healing because it will help you reaffirm that there are people out there with whom you can have a genuine relationship.  It helps to talk with other people who have been through the same thing.  There were two books that helped me: "Happily Even After" by Alan Cohen, and "Spiritual Divorce" by Debbie Ford.  My ex read them, too, it helped both of us and we have a good relationship now, which is important because we co-parent our kids.
1003001
Well, I would not ever just hang out.  See, when you have a new b/f or even a spouse, it may cause trouble with that new relationship.  My wife doens't like me talking to my ex only if it is about our kid together, and I would hate if she talked to her ex.  The past is the past, even if there is no feelings there now, but there was and those feelings could come back.  Exspecially if you and your new b/f had problems and your ex was there.  \n\nSo from another mans point of view, it would be hard to understand you seeing your ex.
496798
I was married for 20 years...got to the whole "'til death do you part" portion of the deal.  He was my absolute best friend, husband, lover...soulmate.  I do believe that in long term relationships there is no gray area, you either grow together, or you grow apart.  I have become who I am because of the life we shared and by having to survive his death...I am stronger, more independent, and hopefully one hell of a mother because of it all.
566971
there are TONS of stories of people meeting on the net, its been going on for longer than many realise. a friend of mine just celebrated her 5th wedding anniversary with the man she met on the internet. they also have two kids, she is a teacher, he is a chiropractor. dont sound like crazy people to me lol. i also know another woman who has been married the same amount of time and her husband moved from overseas to be with her, they have a daughter turning 4 next month. \n\nto me, its not really that different than how many relationships do or dont work out in 'real life'. if i count how many bfs i have had since i was 15, its over 30! so that means i have had 30 failed relationships so far and only one of them was met on the internet (but it still lasted 4 years and we had a daughter). out of the couples i know so far that met on the net and got married, not one of them is divorced. NOT ONE. yeah there is still time i suppose but other couples i know that met in person first have been married and divorced already, over half of them if i sit and count. so whats that say about the odds?
417054
NOPE, I HAVE BEEN THERE AND DONE IT, SURE IT WILL WORK FOR A WHILE THEN.. IT ALL STOPS, WE BROKE IT OFF FOR ABOUT 6 MONTHS, AND NOW A YEAR AND A HALF LATER WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR A YEAR NEXT MONTH. BEACUSE I MOVED TO BE WITH HIM
1063683
YES, YES, AND YES!!! I was with someone for 21 years and he cheated for almost the whole time. Once I got up the courage and money, I left him, divorced him, and eventually got someone new--someone that loves, respects, and cherishes me the way I deserve to be treated. :) It feels totally great to have someone put me on a pedestal and treat me with the love and respect I totally deserve. We all deserve to be treated this way. So, I believe that if I can do it after 21 years of total crap (he was also a drug user/abuser, mental abuser, liar, etc, etc), then anyone can do it.
666855
I don't know if that's true...it's more of a case by case basis.  For example, I remarried shortly after divorcing, and my ex is still single 12 years later.  It is harder for women who have children to find men who are willing to accept them as package deals, though.
342806
YES, I do. My husband and I were highschool sweethearts and were eachother's firsts love, first EVERYTHING. We were together for a couple of years and had a baby. About 3 years ago we almost got a divorce, I mean I moved back home with our son and everything.  We were seperated for a hole entire year, we actually had already filed for the divorce...it was in the process. Then one week he came home to visit some family and Ihe and I happened to be in the same place at the same time and we looked at eachother with such pain, but still true infinite love, we got together and talked all night about everything, I mean everything> The people who came between us, the hurt it caused, eveything. And when you find out that your first is no longer the only, it HURTS! Anyway we took things slowly, but we ended our divorce, and moved back together and we are better now than ever. T
809822
Many Many years ago I did just that. I was unsure about my relationship at the time and just wanted to get away from my life and responsibilities and got with someone whom I had no history with. It was an escape which is all it was designed to be. I returned to my life and have been married 21 years and never looked back and can't imagine being with anyone else ever again.
495007
yep, Married him,,,,we were friends for like 4 yrs we ve been married for 1 yr 4 months and to be honest it is the best thing I could have ever done, it is working just so great we don´t need to pretend anything we know each other like the palms of our hands we still can talk like good friends listen to each other ,,The secret of it i guess is to keep on being best friends many ppl forget their spouse should also be a friend to them and limit their relationships ...he knows my past I know his and we don´t use it against each other instead we use it to understand the fears that may still be a part of us..=)....Nope we didn´t really feel atracted at first I was *engaged* , he had a gf...time went by I had another bf...broke up ...and then I began noticing I had fallen for him I asked him about his feelings and I was lucky he felt the same way for me..