Re: Like-Kind exchange requarding divorce after 25 years of marriage. My husband claims he started his busines
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ask her to recommend a realestate lawyer that can assist her or try another lawyer because of his infidelity I would think you would be awarded more than 50% don't know the laws in NC but it doesn't hurt to get a 2nd opionion
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Marriage is a big decision.  Perhaps your fight has caused him to reexamine the relationship.  This is a good thing -- if more people slowed down and examined their relationships to determine whether or not they were compatible before jumping into marriage, we might have a lower divorce rate.  What he is doing is being cautious and you can't fault him for that.  He still cares for you.  He just wants to make sure you are the one.
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So, he has a conditional residency right now? If he does, and you guys got a divorce before the two years, he loses it. There's a reason they put conditions on it, they want to make sure the marriage was authentic and not just to get his residency. I don't know if there's anything he can do because this is going to look bad in the eyes of the BCIS. BUT you are the U.S. citizen, so it's more likely that the court will grant YOU the custody.
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yeah sometimes they do, but that relationship often doesnt work out either. i see your dr phil nickname,, i watched a program of his a couple years or so ago where they stayed in touch with people where they met when one or both were married, had an affair, and then eventually left those marriages and moved in together or got married. the divorce rate of those new couples was HIGHER than the country avg of about 50%. it turns out that the trust issues transferred into the new marriage because they both already knew how deceitful they could be and started wondering if the same would happen to THEM now. it usually spells disaster. if the married person is unhappy they should leave the relationship and be on their own for awhile before starting something new. instead of stringing everyone along.
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My wife was good at manipulating me when I believed what she said.  Now I don't put any value in anything she says and the funny thing is WE are happier.\n\nA while back we seperated (she was having an affair).  She said she wanted to be fair so I took the word "fair" to heart.  She moved out so I took over all the house hold bills because I was using everything, but her student loans, her car payments were hers.  We also consolidated our debt and she paid me half to which promptly paid.  She had access on the internet to see it was paid every month and never late.  So things seem fair right?\n\nI don't need much free spending cash to get by so all the sudden I had more money than I needed.  My wife however, had to pay a seperate rent and other bills so her cash flow was pretty low.  She then said we should go into mediation and discuss child support.  She already said that she didn't want allimony.  Now I don't go into negotiations blind so I read up on child support.  As we were waiting to meet the person who would mediate my wife & I she was telling my how money was so tight.    \n\nWhen we actually meet with the mediator I took charge saying that I just want to make sure what we were doing is "fair".  Then I Iaid out how we had already divided up the bills and that my wife did not want allimony.  The mediator agreed everything seemed fair.  Now my wife brought up child support and restating she didn't want allimony.  I then pulled out what I had learned that in the state I lived in child support was a simple mathematical calculation based on the percent of time each parent had the children.  The look on my wife's face was priceless when I told her from what I found she would have to pay ME childsupport.  My wife grabbed those papers so quick I almost laughed.  The mediator glanced at them and said if the numbers where right then I was correct.  The look on my wife's face was priceless and I think this was also the same time she started to realized that the fantasy life she was hoping to have was never going to happen.  \nI left the meeting feeling happy that my life could only get better.  I continued seeing a few new friends with benefits for a six months or so and my wife found out that her lover was not as stable financially as she thought.  We did get back together, but I always try to be fair.
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Hey, I know how you feel. I'm the one who told my ex-husband that I wanted a divorce and it took him 2 years to get up off his lazy butt and have it finalized. As for why your ex-husband still acts bitter, I really don't know. MEN!!!
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in my own point of view, your husband doesn't wants to have any kind of responsability what so ever, and the first mistake is that to keep details in the past to much time in the dark so once in the light they brought shadows into the relationship....was important is today, and today the things between you both are not been true at least mostly from his side....going to Europe and keeping that poor communication is not giving you and the kids the importance and value that you all have.....put aside that he might change because i see it very difficult to be, he is playing a doble life and he is to into it that he can't see the courage to walk away from it...you need to find the time and put on thought that you are a very precious being and so are your kids to still wanting for something that it might not come, at least from your husband....unbelieveble as it is there are still good men around, chances to look for a better oportunity for you to be TRUELY LOVED and care about and also your kids are possible in the matter of how you work with what you see is the right time and person to share with a relationship....of course your husband might not want to divorce since it will cost child support and (please understand this is my intuition and perspective) if he has another person in his life there in Europe if things doesn't work later on with her he knows you will be there waiting for him to the rescue........it is a very hard situation, but know that the desicions you make today will have an effect for what tomorrow might bring......fight for your own destiny and happiness, and believe in something, there is a Lord above in the Heavens that never leaves his children side, ask and you should received for the sake of you and your family.......lots of blessings and Good Luck
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I have been where you are.  it took about 4 years after the divorce,  when i realized that we could have a casual conversation without getting deep, and you could tell that, tho it wasnt forgotten, it didnt seem to be as raw a subject anymore.  I told my ex that i was sorry, and i was wrong.  That he had been a good husband, and tho we didnt survive in our marriage for other reasons, that the infidelity on my part was wrong, and it should never had been a reason for anything-it was not ok to do it.  I did nothing but hurt innocent people, and myself.  I actually know that he accepted my apology as genuine.
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No. Sometimes people change and circumstances require divorce that is best for one, hopefully, both parties.  It just makes you wiser and experienced.  Good luck & never give-up!
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I would send him a letter informing him that you have contacted a lawyer regarding the matter and the issue needs to be solved by such-and-such date. After that? Small claims court. Take it to Judge Judy!
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Respect his view.  Marriage now a days is nothing but a business contract.  The divorce rate is ridiculous.  The idea of marriage no longer exists anymore.  Why leave a person because of the word called marriage?  YOu can be happy with him the rest of your life without a silly and useless certificate.
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Interesting dilemma, but without a good lawyer it's going to be difficult to fight your husband.  At least go back to the US Embassy in India where he presented his false claims.  And you should actually start celebrating... why would you want to be married to such a jerk anyway?
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haha~... yes, its possible and its happening for quite sometime already... but its HIGHLY not recommended... as you might probably be doing "ONLINE" divorce soon you found out its not the right choice~... haha~...
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he will go back to the same old stuff once you agree to stay, unless you resolve the underlying problem and if the problem is a behavior thing of his you arent going to change it. sounds like you are done and when that happens there is no going back. look if the guy really cared about the marriage he would've changed things when you said you were unhappy instead of waiting until you said i'm leaving. do you really want to spend your life with your bags packed because thats the only thing that gets through to him? yes you said better or worse, but sometimes it just isn't worth it. only you can decide that, to me it sounds as if you already have. if you've already given him 100 chances to step up to the plate he obviously isn't going to and 100 more won't be enough either. good luck to you, things will work out!
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Sounds to me like Mark is dragging is feet, afterall, you has his cake and is eating it too.  You divorced for one reason or another.  What makes you think that it will work this time.  The past will hinder any happiness that you two may have together.  You should think real hard on this issue and decide if you can go thru with it or not.  If you can't, leave before it's too late.
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Sounds like you need space for yourself. Dump the husband since he isn't working with the reconciliation. Then give your self space. Don't let this other guy enter your life too quickly, sounds like he did just that when you were separated. When you are stable from the finalized divorce, then look at your prospects.
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First of all, I would ask if you have kept your committment to the terms of the divorce. If there are some specifics, then you could probably answer your own question.\nSecondly, just let her know you've moved on and if there are kids involved, plz consider them.