is it okay to have sex if your not ready??? I'm 15 and my boyfriend is begging me.?
465864
If you aren't ready, DON'T DO IT!  You'll regret it, trust me.  And honestly, sex doesn't make a relationship, so if you're boyfriend is begging you, he only wants you for sex, not the relationship.  A real man (one you deserve) will wait forever if he has to.  Tell your man to shape up or ship out!  Don't give in just because your guy has no self-control.  That's his problem, not yours.
1050147
No gurlie,my bf is 17 n I am 14,dn't give him sex because he will think your childish n inmature,keep getting what you want n everything you want,9mths good but not great keep him longer n he will love and respect you more n then,you got him!!!!That's what's up,that's what I do mine,I alredy got him and it hasn't been but 6mths,you have the upperhand and with a guy that age you really have to show your maturity level,to stay in the game,do it big,but dn't give it away so easily,k.....
634536
absolutely. And if you consent to sex before you feel you're ready then that could actually end your relationship.
1093099
Dont have sex if ur not ready, why does he keep pressuring u?doesnt he love u? Its obvious that his "manhood" stands priority over ur feelings, because if he love u like he's probably telling u then he wouldnt pressure u, someone who loves u would take the time to talk it out with you and see where the two of u stand on the situation it seems like he's just trying to score.
584392
If you're scared, let it go, you're not ready.  you don't have to force yourself to do something you're scared of.  How old are you?  what are you scared of?  pregnancy?  STD'S?  You should be scared cause condoms are not always reliable, they do break, especially if you don't know how to use them properly, or if you use with the wrong lubricant.\n\nYou also need to make sure you really trust the guy you're with.  Is he pushy?  does he keep bugging you for it?  If he loves you he will respect that you need time to be ready.  Sex is a big step and you should ONLY do it if you feel he will be there by your side in case anything goes wrong.  Do you think he'll be there if something goes wrong?\n\nRemember that having sex involved sharing your most intimate and vulnerable moments, bodily fluids, can you trust him with that? \n\nIf you're older and still have a hard time, then it may be time to seek counseling on why you're afraid to be vulnerable.  Were you molested, raped?  it might take time, just make sure that you're with someone who wants nothing but for you to feel secure, and ready to do so.
297874
14 is way too young to be having sex. You should talk with an adult that you trust about what your thinking.If they don't change your mind,please use protection.That is so very important.
1175297
you have alot of concerns regarding sex. you sound like your willing to give into his desires for the reason to please and keep him. \n1st of all with that many questions you must be questioning the "if you should even be doing it" part. if you question anything, just say no. if he truly loves you he will wait for you. try old school wait for marriage. thats an odd choice today, but at least you'll find out if he has any respect for you. but to answer your q'.\n-if your scared and not comfortable with it, it probably will hurt. if your not comfortable-just say no.\n-if your into it and relaxed you may get off, if not - its not likely you wil be pleased, it will be all for him.\n-try taking it slow, hands, oral, ant finally penetration. that way you have several steps to learn or stop at if you decide your not ready.\n-pick up a good book, look for resources, all the girl magazines such as teen etc have plenty of articles regarding this topic- some very good answers to help you. just walk through jewel or any supermarket book section their all in the same area and start reading.\n-try talking to him, find out what he may be expecting and if he has any thoughts.\n-finally, wear protection, if your unsure of sex and have several questions because your unsure, at least yu will not end up with kids after your first time.
60536
If your not ready to have sex with him because hes not ready to commitment then you need to sit down and tell him that.  If he doesnt understand or just wont do it then too bad for him find some else that will respect your wishes.
527705
Wow!  Waiting for marriage huh?  That's pretty rare, but hold on to your principals because it will be worth it. What age is too young to have sex?  When you & the significant other can't afford to raise a baby.
403450
Only you know if you are really ready, and the fact that you are asking this question leads me to believe that you aren't. Sex can be wondeful, but if you have to guess if he is going to stick around, makes me think that perhaps you are not ready for the emotional consequences that could result in this encounter. If he really wants to be with you he will wait. If he doesn't then you know your answer.
567891
if ur not ready then dont do it! coz u should be aware of the cosequences that would happen if ever you will get involved into sex and if he loves you then he will respect ur decision and wait for the right time..
685397
Don't ever let any guy pressure you into having sex. You will know when the time is right. And if some guy really cares about you he will respect that.
459540
Are you overworked, kids, school or Stress? Maybe, your significant other can help you more with your responsibilities? In order to be intimate you have to be comfortable in the other aspects of your life. Talk to him and explain everything that going on in your life.  Tell him when your ready if he can be patient he'll know! Explain that sex will be more passionate etc when your not pressured, that way it wanted and you both can enjoy.
440000
If you feel you're not ready, don't let the feelings of 'loss' cloud the way you actually feel. If you're being pressured to have sex when you're not ready for it, and he's leaving you because he disrespects your choice, he's not ready for someone like you! It might hurt now...but if having sex with you is the ONLY reason he wants to be with you, sorry, dear girl, but there's probably someone out there who will treat you with at least the same respect that you have for yourself.
962615
Doesn't sound like you were ready, it hurts if you are not lubricated  or turned on enough, get your boyfriend to concentrate on turning you on more beforehand and perhaps get some KY jelly.\n\nIt does get better, just think the Human Race would have died out before now otherwise !\n\nGood Luck
1094107
Just chill on the sex. It will happen. If he wants to respect you and not sleep with you, then just wait and when it happens, it will be great. Guys do grow up and get to an age that they don't want to talk about it all the time. But it does concern me that he is getting oral sex from you but not giving maybe? that means to me that he is playing a game.
159762
You can love someone and not have sex with them. Sex is not the only way to show your affection. More than likely he wants to have sex because his hormones are full throttle and with todays media influence he has been brainwashed to think that when you are in a relationship, sex is just "what you do". How old are you both?? Teenagers?? Im not saying he doesnt love you, Im just saying the sex thing is not driven by love, it is driven by lust. I am 26yrs old. I first had sex with my boyfriend when I was 15. It wasn't all that the media makes it out to be. There are soooooo many consequences. You could get pregnant or get a disease. These things are real life. They can and will happen to you. My little sister who is 17 had sex ONE time and got prego. Now she had to quit school to try to take care of her baby. She cant get a job cause she has no highschool diploma. She doesnt have any one to babysit for free while she goes to school, so she is in a predicament. PLEASE! I beg of you, just really think of the conequences. You don't have to rush into that kind of relationship. It will come later, there is always time and opportunity for sex, but there is not always time for your youth. Enjoy it while you can. If he does truely love you then he will be by your side no matter what. So if you are not ready he will respect that and understand. If he wont wait for you then he doesnt really love you and that just means there is someone better out there for you. everything happens for a reason.