HELP!i am living with a sugar daddy but ent been back 10 days?
469999
quit being a whore first of all, and learn to be independent by making YOUR OWN money. jeesh, stupid girls bring the rest of us down.
647912
Play Oz. Your Prisoner 149876-69 and you borrowed a pack of smokes from your hubby whos doing life for murder. You dont have the money on your books to repay him so you have to return a sexual favor. If that dont work then just get to the point
922851
Maybe his family likes you and he doesnt want them to know what he's been doing to you. thinking that if he acts the part then the negative attention from you will die down and he can get on with business as usual. What you need is to prove to yourself that he has cheated on you. then you have a choice breaking up before or after each has it's own merrits. do it before and I think it might make you look heartless unless you can show good evidence. wait and do it after to look like you are kind and caring but as long before christmas as possible so that you give yourself some time to get back on your feet so to speak before the next holiday. good luck
166664
The heroin addict that I loved quit before I met him. He never went back to shooting up but he always had other things that he was addicted to. He just switched from one addiction to another. Cigaretts, and cokes, sex and perversions, weed (not that i think that it is addictive but it was one for him), perscription meds that he would use in three days and lie to the doctor to get more, meth and whippits. and many more things......... I am sorry that you are hurting over this person that is addicted to such a powerful drug (that person is lucky to have you caring for them) I dont really know any thing about your situation but if this is not a relative you should consider moveing on with your life......still continue to warn them and becon them to quit but ..... if this is your boyfriend or girlfriend please get out now, distantce yourself, you cant do them any good if you are absorbed in the situation
627947
I think you may have an emotional dependance on this man, much like an drug user. I only say that cause i smoke, I know it's bad for my health, after i finish I feel sick, but during the smoke it makes me feel great and relaxed.\n\nI suggest that you try and keep him out of your life day by day and week by week. But stay focused on what you really want in your life with the I LOVE YOU's and holding hands. You some time have to let go of things and people to make room for what you really want. You may have blinders on you where you only see him and what he can offer. I think you should date or at least socialize where you have a better idea of what and who is out there.\n\nGirl, just don't give up the sex right away cause that may be really hard to find, but just try not to get caught up emotionally where you start to associate the sex with an actual relationship. truthfully speaking i think you just just do you and act as if he has a girl at home and you do the same and find you a new man.\n\ngood luck and don't be sad- And don't think that he may never love you- just never know what can happen- I just say take it easy and put yourself out there to find a different man, and maybe if he sees you are not in him so much he may just draw closer to you were he's trying to figure you out or maybe now is not the right time for him to be in a real relationship.\n\nJust don't be there to take his call all the time- he may be taking you for granted- so skip a call and see if he calls you back soon- \n\nGOOD LUCK, BE STRONG\nYOUR A WOMEN YOU'LL LIVE THROUGH IT AND NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS THIS EXPERIENCE WILL MAKE YOU A STRONGER AND WISER PERSON
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insecure a little,are there any other signs.unexplained money missing,new jewlery,or new underwear for him not tighty whitys?ask him what this big secret is a a true and open relationship knowing everything is what belongs on the table.Where where you for those two months?is he  worried that you were with someone else.keep those lines of communications open or your find yourself on the road to failure.Explain to him how much you  love him and that you feel that heis holding back on info is putting a wedge then listen to see what  is said.you may not like it,it could be anything.sometimes men who dont watch "porn" could be anything from simply having respect for a women the act of making love to he may have been abused in his life at some point this is very difficult for men to talk about the whole macho thing.listen be strong and find out the secret for both of your sakes.
497091
nope leave him alone he is sa jailbird and u are 2 nice lookin for that go get somebody thats gonna be there 4 you when calls its not gonna be collect okay u can do better than that okay (good luck )
57084
from what you say you only danced with him a few times and he got your name and number and you did not give it to him. and now he comes to your house you did not say wether or not you gave him your address or if he found that to. and now he wants to marry you. Well let me tell you he is a physco. i bet you realised that already. i went to pay my electric bill i called on the phone and started talking to the man that was on the other end. we ended up starting to talk outside of his company. he lived in another state. one day he got on a plane came to my home and said he wanted to get married. i did not no what to say because i thought stalker. within two days a call came in and it was from his daughter that did not no where he went to and did not no who i was. the story finally ends when i found out he has been wanted for 10 years and in 3 different states and i worked closely with them to capture him. now he is in prison. what i am saying to you is you do not no him. why all of a sudden do you think he would become that attatched to you. you need not to worry about his feelings because you need to worry about yourself. you do not no what he really has in store for you. and i would make it clear that he is not to cantact you again and that is it. you do not need to explain anything to him. this is not your problem it is his. if he does call you again then take the steps that you told him you would. be firm and good luck
864146
Yeah get out of there! you have to do it slowly stop calling him and contacting him and he will soon take the hint. Don't fall for the I'll change routine...men like that never change.
762633
He sounds like a control freak. Move on! Good luck to you!
3734
Girl,\nI am in a similar situation. You have to decide if he is "using" you as a safety net of sorts or just settling until something better comes along. Also, because I do not know the entire situation, you have to ask your self if he could also be using you for monetary gains, etc.  No matter the situation, if you are not 100% happy, you should walk. You are more important and your happiness is too.
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This is quite typical.  Coke "givers" don't EVER have really true friends who use with them... despite quite emphatic claims to the contrary made by most of those "friends" he's supplying.   So I give you credit for admitting at least that to yourself.  But more hard honesty is needed I'm afraid.   Just because you manage to go a few weeks without using it, doesn't mean you're not addicted yourself.  If you find yourself thinking about it, and desiring it, and doing something you otherwise wouldn't in order to get it (i.e., going out with him) then you've got your own level of addiction brewing, and the sooner you admit that, the better off you'll be.  We're talking coke here, so... do I really need to point out that you're ultimately just trading sex for drugs?  Newsflash!  He doesn't love you either!  Coke is absolutely and unbelievably addictive, so don't be too quick to make him out to be the bad-guy.  He's the coke "giver" -- knowing he can't "catch" you without it -- that probably being the closest concept he has to actual "love".   But you are the USER -- and fully responsible for completing this little equation.   Getting out of an addictive relationship can be torture for ANYONE.  Adding cocaine to the picture, and thinking you can do it yourself is just plain naiive.  Use your wisdom, get some help, and completely CUT OUT OF YOUR LIFE ANYONE WHO USES COCAINE.  That's why cocaine is such a problem... because it's such a social "thing".   Ask any truly recovered addict, (if you can find one) and they'll tell you... All those people they thought were their friends??  They were nothing but users.
931046
If he is selling  the house you share, is pushing you away ( emotionally ) & still wants sex  - yes, he is using you . Im sorry you miss him & believe me, I more than know what your saying, but sweetie - you cant make him care for you if he no longer does in that way.  You deserve to be more than anyones booty call. There are lots of guys out there who will treat you well & love you . Good luck ! :-)
652807
The question is -  Where do you want to stand with him?  If you're just chatting it should be easy to get him out of your life -  Out of your Life is Big.  Is he on Drugs?  That would explain the mood changes.  You can be honest and tell him in your own way that you want to take a break, or whatever it is you want.  The "It's Me and Not You" is so lame.   You sound like a sincere, intelligent person, you'll figure it out - I believe it.
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How long is he down for? How did you meet him? I know of some wonderful, loving relationships that started behind the wall, but there are just as many stories where it just couldn't work with the seperation and stories where the guy was just using a girl to pass the time then dumped her when he got released, so take it slow. And I have to give you two cents worth of personal experience here Babydoll, I don't know your jailbird, so I can't make any comment about whether or not he'd be worth waiting for, but I can tell you this, with absolute certainty: Loving an inmate is a VERY HARD ROAD....it's about slogging through endless paperwork, it's trying to keep up with rules that seem to change every week, it's waiting for incredibly expensive collect phone calls that might or might not come and when he doesn't call, praying with all your heart that the phones in the day room are just either too busy or broken and that he's not hurt or on lockdown, it's becoming obsessive about checking your mail and the heartsick feeling that comes over you when the letter you want so badly isn't there,it's about getting writers cramp and spending $20 a week on stamps and stationary, it's about dealing with either keeping it secret or dealing with disapproval of the relationship everywhere you turn and mostly it means living in a future you can't be sure of and that really does take a toll.\nIf I had a choice, I wouldn't do it, but I've loved the guy for over 20 years and I can't quit now...and I'm almost 40, so it's not as if I'm spending my youth dealing with the Dept.of Corrections...think carefully, Sweetie, it is a hard, hard thing to do and no guarantees. \nIf you want more perspective from women who deal with this reality every day, please visit http://www.prisontalk.com
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Well, first of all congrats on finding each other again. \nYou can never do to much for him while he is over there. My husband, is over there also but he is in the Army. He has been gone for 8 months and he has to serve 18months there. Keep on what your doing. That is what keeps those guy's going. Knowing, that they have someone back at home caring for them thinking about them and waiting for them to come home. There going to fight there hardest so they can get home sooner to be with that person. So, Hun you are doing everything right. Your not over doing yourself. Keep sending lots of pictures, spray your perfume on them so he can smell you so he can think at night your right by his side. Send him little packages with cookies and little things that he can keep with him to remind him of you.  So, best of luck to you Hun and your boyfriend.
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leave him. only for a few days but it will make him think. he needs to see you as an equal person not a slave.