Can I change how my attitude on life is so negative? It's hard to do, and I don't know where to begin.
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The first thing to do is to write things down. First make a list of things that you think are positive in your life and then make a list of things that are negative.  I would take that negative list and go through it.  Try to spin those negatives around and find something positive from them.  Also when you are having difficulties and you start thinking negative write down the situation and why you think it is negative.  Then try to find the positives.  Finding the positives might be difficult, but you must try your hardest.  As you do this again and again with difficult situations you won't need to write things down and eventually you will just automatically start to see the positive side of every situation.
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First... What are you obsessed about? What's making you depressed? Is it material or mental? Are you afraid of failing? Are you shy or confused about what your next move should be? Are you overwhelmed by the pace of life? \n\nWrite down all of your fears and anxieties (even the things you dislike and hate). This will make your thoughts tangible and concrete. After you've created that list. Get advice on how you should TRY to resolve each "problem". Some of those things won't be a big deal at all once you see it written down on paper. Do it step-by-step - one at a time. Don't make a stew out of it - that'll only create a whole lot of WORK you won't wanna do. It'll be too much to handle! \n\nWork on these issues one at time (if they're related - work on two at the most) with a good friend, an Internet Buddy, or whoever and work on them a little at a time. Learn to make sacrifices. Life is full of risk and we are all taking chances everyday whether we're driving, shopping, or sitting at home. Anything can happen or jump-off in a split second. This is reality. You can't let your fears control you or how you live. They have to help you make good decisions and useful choices so that you can grow and succeed and move forward in life. \n\nDon't feel bad for your current situation if it sucks - This is a learning and growing experience. Be angry. Be Motivated! Learn how to change it little by little. It make take a year or so for you get where you want to be but you're gonna have to work at it. Start right now. Make a change in your life. Change yourself. Change the way you think. Change the way you have been doing things. Change your attitude. And MOVE FORWARD.\n\nAnother thing.\n\nIf there are people in you life who are dictating your actions, you have to learn to be more assertive. Speak your mind. Don't be afraid to say what you like and what you don't like. Don't be afraid to make your own POSITIVE choices. And don't be afraid to leave people alone who drag you down. Make some sacrifices. Sacrifices hurt but if you live right (and take some risks), the blessings are much more rewarding.\n\nLove yourself first because if there is no YOU, how can YOU love anyone else? \n\nMake that list and come back.
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how can i change myself
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As stupid as this might sound look at it this way. Things can't really get worse so they have to get better. I like to believe that you are always where your suppose to be and not necessarily were you want to be. Maybe you were able to determine your destiny before you started living your life and choose this way because it was the better way. Use this situation to figure out what it is you want out of life and do what it takes to make it happen whether it means going to school, accepting a job your not crazy about, moving somewhere else. Take it one day at a time and remember what goes around comes around so do good things so that good things happen to you. Problems are messages and maybe the only way for you to learn this message was to go through these hard times. \nGood luck.
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Just try to get out of the habit.  It could be a great first step to let them know you would like to do better too.  Stick with it keeping in mind that it will take some time to change yourself, and how others react to you.\nGood work, and good luck, I'm sure you will be happier.\n\nps Only those with limited life experience would ever confuse a nice person with a weak person.
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Set an example by staying positive. Try to see positives in every negative situation and make best use of it. Always exhibit confidence and achieve your goals. That will prompt those negative slackers to dust off the cobwebs and start looking at life in a more positive way!
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Choose to be happy.  Get out of bed and decide right then that it's going to be a great day, even if it might not be.  I bet your attitude will change and life will begin to be happy as a rule.
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Absolutely. If you make enough mistakes, or learn from others, and really desire to change, it's entirely possible. One would need to seek alot of help though. Perhaps find some positive role models.
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You have to accept and face the fact of harsh cruel reality. You might not enjoy the something, but as it has to be done, you have to face it brave in the face and accept it as part of life. Have a more optimistic and positive outlook so that you can be more cheerful and probably excel in the something in life.
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You can't change the world, but you can help.  Look for things you can do as an individual.  Perhaps volunteer with a youth group or at a soup kitchen.  Become involved.  You will help others and you will get a wonderful feeling inside.
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No, that's not possible....not quite.  However, by changing your perceptions, you can change your level of happiness.  If you can rid yourself of expectations, and begin to see things clearly, you will be happier.\n\nFor example, if you expect things to always be good, you will be disappointed.  But if you stop thinking that way, and simply accept what happens, you'll spend less time being unhappy.\n\nZen in a nutshell.
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The doubtfulness about your self , suggests that you would'nt.But do not take my answer as a set back.Be positive of your thoughts.Having a positive attitude towards life is very important for a psychologist.Take my answer as a challenge and you can accomplish anything.Remember these words \n"I think,I can and I will".All the best.
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I hate it when people are negative all the time. It makes me wonder what they have missed in life because of that. If you constantly think something won't work or won't be fun, etc.. it only limits the opportunities in life. I say be happy, try stuff and if it ends up "sucking" then oh well, move on!\nWHY DO PEOPLE COME ON HERE AND WRITE A BOOK FOR THE ANSWER? JUST GET TO THE POINT. NO ONE WANTS TO READ A FRIGGIN ESSAY ON THE SUBJECT.
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Quit thinking about the stuff you don't want and start thinking about the things you do want..  Go after what you want and don't focus on the negative things in your life....
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The more you think negative thoughts, the stronger you make the conditioning. Start by thinking positive thoughts about yourself, the more positive thoughts you have the more chance you have of changing the negative conditioning. Not all people have to like you, the same as you don't have to like all people. Everyone is different and everyone should respect this fact. We are all individuals. Start liking yourself, because if you do not like yourself, how can anyone else like you. Start right now, tell yourself I AM A GOOD PERSON, AND I TRULY LOVE AND RESPECT MYSELF. Good Luck
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So, here's the thing.  I don't know you, and an answer here will probably not help solve your problems.  I'll give you my answer to your question, but then you have to go and find someone to talk to about all of this.\n\nWhat it sounds like you're asking is "WTF did I do to deserve all of these gifts, when so many people around me suffer?"\n\nI believe (and this is my answer...you need to find your own), that we were all created by God to live with God and with each other.  One of the miraculous things about God is that He created us, and instead of micromanaging our lives however he wanted to, He gave us free will.  He placed a little piece of himself within each of us, and that part of us longs to be with Him.\n\nThe short answer to your question is that you didn't do anything to deserve such a great life.  And you did everything.  From the time you were born, God wanted only the best for you, just as He wants only the best for me, and for every other person on this planet.  He gave each of us the opportunity to make our own decisions.  \n\nYou talk a lot about your own attitude, and that is something that you can change.  You can choose to be happy and excited about the new opportunities that await you in your new location.  You can also be sad about the friends and things that you are leaving.\n\nI can't answer why bad things happen to good people...I'm still trying to figure that one out myself.\n\nSeeing as you posted this in the Religion and Spirituality forum, I think that you're seeking something outside yourself, something bigger.  I would encourage you to find a church in your area and to have a conversation with the ministers there...I think that it might help you.
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ARE you negative all of the time, no you are not, for it is impossible in my opinion because every action has a negative and positive reaction its just that you see only the negative side, there is a old saying about looking for the good in everthing we do, will bring on happiness that shines through, now if you do this you will be happy some of the time until you meet the person who is bad that's when you get your butt kicked, but i would sooner be a positive person ,an optimist coupled with a good dose of common sense, and getting the mix right is called experience.\nthere are loads of self help books on the market but the one or two that helped me was ''i can i will'' by Norman Vincent Peale, it as a religious undercurrent but that aside he gives you a positive\nphilosophy to live by which is a very good reason to read it.\nand any book by Jonathan Livingstone seagull, another positive insightful author, regards LF