Ross, Friends. "A man wanting to be a nanny, thats like a woman wanting to be a...?"?
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Pro Football Player. the hats don't fit.
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"i wonder if he's Muslim, he might not be, remember what mom said don't judge a book by its cover. hes kinda cute. I bet he gets dirty looks from some people. those a$$ holes. oh wow look donuts. should i get some, no I'm saving money to eat latter with Rachel, I wonder what shes doing i should give her a call."\nThis all happens in one sec
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A Man knows how to seriously treat a woman, a boy is immature with women and doesn't know yet.\n\nEXAMPLE: I was leaving my garage and was just about to get out to close the garage door when my sister's BF got out of his car and asked if he could get it for me. SO SWEET! \n\nMEN WANT to make women happy. BOYS do not know how.
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I just had this conversation yesterday with my mother, what a coincidence. As someone who works in the childcare field, I feel really sad by the lack of men in this line of work. I feel that men have a lot to offer to children, especially children who may come from split homes and lack a male influence. It's interesting how people assume that about men, but not about women. They assume that men are born to be sex fiends, and women are born to be nurturers... well anyone with a brain knows that it doesn't work that way.\n\nMy heart goes out to you, I'm sure you get a lot of flack from people and that it's extremely frustrating. I remember a couple of guys in our program at school who actually dropped out, not because they didn't enjoy it, but because they were tired of being called perverts. \n\nPeople are paranoid and want to protect their children, that's a natural instinct. But assuming a man who works with children is a pedophile/molester is NOT healthy, and it makes me wonder how they're bringing up their children. And of course, those same people need to be reminded that there isn't a strong correlation between homosexuality and child molestation - male child molesters are more likely to molest little girls, often members of their family.\n\nBest Regards,\nHolly
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Well what I wanted to be always bothered my mother.  She's a very strong and independent woman who feels you should never rely on anyone otherwise you'll be let down.  Anyway, I've always wanted to be a great wife and an even better mom.  I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom so that my children wouldn't have to be in daycare.  I know this isn't considered a career but I've served in the military, been a used car salesman, worked retail, worked at a movie theater and even worked fast food and this is by far the toughest and most rewarding job I've ever had.  This always worried my mom.  She was afraid I'd get married and he'd leave me and I have all these kids with no money.  She also though I'd be bored out of my mind!  Well, I found my prince charming and we are happily married and expecting our second child this Christmas.  I honestly couldn't be happier and my mom sees this (and knowing what a good man my husband is) is no longer worried about me not earning an income.  When my children are all in school, I do want to get a part-time job so I can bring some kind of money into the house but as long as my kids are at the house, that's where I'll be.
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Anytime a man and a woman are together, the potential for magic or mayhem exists. Our world has yet to accept the very special gift we’ve been given in being so different. We have not learned to utilize the awesome power available to us in the man-woman dynamic. There are many games to play in this world, but nothing can bring more joy than the man-woman game. There is no finer playing field than relating with the opposite sex to experience all aspects of love and life.\n\nIn order to effectively relate to one another, we must understand and appreciate, the underlying makeup of men and women. Women bring the appetite and desire to the planet. Men bring their capability to produce. In order to move efficiently around the game board of man-woman, we need to recognize women are better than men in the area of desire, and men are more effective than women in producing to satiate those desires.\n\nWe were not created different by accident. The plan has always been perfect, but we have resisted the perfection of our differences. This resistance has been the source of the majority of man-woman breakdowns.\n\nWomen are best at what they want. Men are best at making it happen. Women are the ones who wanted indoor plumbing. Women are the ones who wanted beds up off the floor. They wanted a roof over their head. They wanted more blankets and food for their children. Women are the ones who wanted transportation and markets to do their shopping. They wanted materials to make different clothes; ones for winter and ones for summer. Women have always wanted their basic needs of food, shelter and clothing met. Women wanted, and men provided. Life was simple. It’s not to say that women didn’t make things happen along the way. The truth is, women made everything happen simply by expressing their desires. They wanted more pleasurable experiences.\n\nTimes have changed, and the women of today need to allow men to be men, and empower them to do more of what they do best. Men want women to know they are completely capable of producing whatever women want and need, as long as they are given the opportunity.\n\nOver the past several decades, women have taken on more of the male role of producing. If this continues, we will end up with too much male energy on the planet. The planet doesn’t need more male energy - it needs more feminine energy.\n\nWomen are coming into their power in new and wonderful ways. It’s time for them to pull back from producing so much, and move more into directing. This will allow men to support women in moving things in the direction of the feminine. This will bring balance back to a world where the feminine energy is wanted and needed.\n\nRomance goes out the window when women take on a man’s role. In the times when chivalry was alive and well, women were definitely more feminine. They were happy to be female. They played their part with grace and ease. Men were heroic and romantic. They were happy to court women and women were delighted to be courted. Can you imagine if women were galloping off to slay dragons for their men? When women do the man’s job, it leaves little room for men to be their heroes. There is no game to play, or dragon to slay. It results in no romance.\n\nMark lived in Texas with Allison. Allison had a vacation magazine that had a beautiful picture of an island with gorgeous turquoise waters. She lit up every time she looked at it. One day Mark said to her, “Would you like to go there?” She said, “Yes, that would be like a dream.” That was all she said. The next day Mark bought tickets for them to go. She was simply enjoying the picture and thinking about how much fun it would be to go there. She was not trying to manipulate him in any way. This is different than a woman who asks, “Would you take me there?” or, “Why can’t we go?” There’s no opportunity for men to be the hero if women get their own ‘production’ muscle involved.\n\nWhen a woman expresses her desires, sh
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I just noticed your other post and you left out a fact in this post that all he wants to do all day is "play video games and sit and watch T.V." It is interesting to me that you left this fact out of this post and only focused on the employment issue. I think you realize what a ridiculous situtation you have worked your way into and are now floundering about trying to get your legs back under you. He undoubtably loves you totally because he now has no job, has video games, no responsibility, a woman that will work to support him, a roof over his head, food to eat, and someone to have sex with on a daily basis. What boy wouldn't love that. I refer to him as a boy although I don't know his age but based on what seems to be important to him.\n\nTHINK about it! Do you come home to a dirty or clean home? What is he teaching your daughters by example? More importantly, what impression of men is he sending to your daughters? Are you planning on marrying him? Are you able to accept the responsibility as breadwinner in the family? What will he do if you get pregnant again and cannot work, can you rely on him? Sometimes the feelings in our heart outweigh what we already know in our minds. Think it through carefully. \n\nDecide what you want to do based on your responsibility as a mother to your daughters and the unspoken promises you made to them when you brought them into this world. Their experiences in life will shape their future choices. Don't you want better for them?\n\nMy true thought, dump him. Live on your own with your daughters. There are several government programs to help the three of you. This will undoubtably be a huge change in their lives and they will need counseling which the government can provide. There are rent subsidies, food stamps, help with utilities, and so much more. You can even go to college for free. Get a better life for you and your daughters. Forget your heart for a while and think with your brain, you'll hopefully make much better choices in the future.
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Sorry justwondering I'm not Dr. Phil but you can call me Dr. Rascal if it makes you happy.\n\nYou're caught in a trap but before you jump to any conclusions read on...\n\nYou mention in your question "boy and girl duties". The trap is a societal one. Stop and think why does baking or cooking have to be a 'girl thing'? Why electrical, pluming, etc need to be a boy thing? They're just things that need to be done, there is no gender assigned to them. You said you love the challenge of doing those "boy" things. You also said your husband finds solace in baking/cooking. \n\nThings need to be done it's a given. There is labor involved to reach a goal. It's not how the labor is devided that that matters (who does the 'boy' things and who does the 'girl' things), it's getting the job done that counts.\n\nbottom line.... you waited 4 years for the gutters. 4 years ago you could have said "look honey I'll do the gutters, electrical, and plumbing because I love the challenge, you do the cooking baking, and vacuuming because you find solace in those things. You would have had the gutters done 4 years ago and not had to do some of those 'girl' duties.\n\nI hope you don't misunderstand my answer; I'm not telling you you're wrong and not telling you he's wrong. Whats wrong is the division of labor in your house. If the two of you can talk and assign duties each is comfortable/enjoys doing without assigning boy/girl tags then your relationship will be much better for it.\n\nI'm not really Dr. like Phil but I suspect he'd give you a similar (maybe shorter answer).\n\nAll the best to you and hubby,\n\nRascal
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If he is dressing as a woman, he more than likely wants to be treated as a woman.  If you wind up calling him Ms. or Mr. by accident don't think twice about it, because he's apparently being both.  You may want to just flat out ask him if he has a pronoun preference.
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Are you guys kiddin me. i don't know about these guys but i want to become a pediatrician and help people. i want to help little cute kids. i want to finish education and make my parents proud(this is strongest one of all-keeping my parents happy like they are now). i also want to go back to my country and accomplish something for them. i want stay true to my believes and religion. i want to sat as opinionated as i am now. i want to contribute something into making this world a better place to live in. it might sound corny to you guys but that is really my dream.
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*chuckles* Hello batman...\n\nWhy is it NOT cool to have a butler? *watches as everyone tries to think of a reason*\n\nExactly. No reason. But sadly, not all of us can afford a butler...
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I suggest searching for a Nanny by "word of mouth."  These nanny's communicate all the time with each other, If you find one Nanny I guarantee she will have a friend or know somebody that you should talk to.  I guess the trick would be finding the first Nanny to talk to.  Good luck!
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This man must not have enough children to bring him to his senses.  I got into this argument with my own husband when I was working in daycare my husband tried to say he worked harder than I did and was immediatly shut down by one of his co-workers (who has three little boys under the age of 5)  That man goes to work every day as a mini vacation and he's a police investigator so he deals with thieves and liars all day.  I can't think of any job on the planet other than day care or motherhood that requires you to feed, bathe, change, dress, teach, set a moral example for and occasionally get urinated on...so even if he feels his  co-workers have the comprehension skills of a two year old (which very well may be true) at least he dosent have to change their diapers.
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I must agree with Jon.\nMy well informed fellow has seemed to have hit it on the head!\nWomen are so busy fighting for equal rights and equal pay\nand more power to the Honey and put the Man in his place and\nwe want everything a Man has with the added benefits that we must get a little special treatment because we are Ladies?!\n\nHang on for a moment if you will....\nIf that ship decides to hit an iceberg are you going to demand to go first with the kids?!...we are supposed to be equal rights yes?\nWe apparently not. Do you see the argument..you wanted more and you got it but in order to get it we had to give up part of ourselves..Men, my Dear have made the sacrifice for the Ladies and have not been acknowledged at all. \nIs it not odd that more and more of the Husband /Wife team both hold jobs..kids don't get to interact with Mom or Dad and the traditional family structure has fallen away. \nThere are more and more single parent "Families-If you can call it that" these days and more divorces than ever before.\nChivalry has gone out the door and that includes manners, respect and BEING A MAN\nThese days it's nothing off a young man's mind to ask for an abortion or run away/divorce. It is easier for them to do it because society has gone that way and it is now acceptable and apparently women can deal with it because they are  " More Independent"\nYou see where this is going?\nOne more problem...Women confuse men to such a point that what you are left with is a gibbering idiot that doesn't know right for wrong and has no backbone of his own to make decisions nor behave anything that remotely resembles a man.\nI have no respect for a woman/lady that uses profanity to "express" herself, gets tattoo's all over, and has an overbearing nature.\nAt this point you are thinking that I am totally chauvinistic and belong in the dark ages with a club..well Madam if that is your idea then you belong with the Ill mannered uncivilized boneless chicken you call your "man".\n\nThank You for allowing me to bend your ear and good luck in your continual quest in finding this man you seem to be having difficulty in finding. \n\nShould you have any further questions feel free to contact me so that i may advance your aquaintance to the Legendary "Gentleman" and his ways.
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I wanted to be many different things as I was growing up, including actress and attorney.  However, at the time of my youth, women were encouraged to only be sales person, secretaries, hairdressers, a wife/mother, or elementary teachers.  I then wanted to be a hairdresser, but at the time, the schools only accepted students who had taken chemistry in high school, and that let me out . . . so I became a secretary and a wife/mother and I am still a secretary and wife/mother.  I am still not there because even though I am an adult, I am still not "grown up".  I still have dreams and hopes and want to be something else . . . this time an owner/manager of my own little company.  Will I succeed?  Only time will tell.  My job as a wife/mother has been very rewarding even though the pay is lousy.  My jobs throughout the year in offices have been very interesting, and I have learned many skills.  I don't want to ever "grow up" so I guess I will never be what I want to be when I grow up.
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I am drawn to Power. That doesn't mean monetary power, but confidence and security. The man who knows Himself well enough to spend the time getting to know me. He knows not only my great qualities, but my weaknesses. Okay, this is turning into my favourite quote, let me just grab it...\n\n“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, f!cked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.”\n\nAnais Nin
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Oh hell no...i wouldnt approve of anything like that ...i may not be a mixed woman but i know people who are and they have feeling too...if he is going to talk about some one he need to be talking about himself.