i have low self-asteem!&i'm deadly afraid 2 ask a guy out,the fear of rejection?suggestions?
465032
I think the best thing to do is change your whole outlook on your life right away. Admitting that you have low self esteem is the first step. I quick got sick and tired of having low self esteem by 7th grade, I mean whats worse than the feeling that your not good enough, like life is living you, remember you are the one living life and you have the control to do or have whatever you want.  I wanted to be the funny girl in class, I wanted to be the loud kid, and I wanted to be the one people recognized. When you take control of how you approach life, the guys come to you and ask you out! Then you'll never fear rejection again, because the guys should want you not the other way around, your worth too much for that. In any case, get to know him, and if you do know him, ask him out, don't make it the life and death question, if he says no, and you change your self esteem, he'll see what he's missing out on.
692959
I think the same way about myself, and I'm shy too. Just go up to him and make friends. If thats too hard, at least try to talk to him sometimes. If all of that is too hard ask yourself if you really want to be with him, that will get you going.
948330
Rejection is a part of life and Ive been rejected alot. Step out of your comfort zone and approach people who u want to talk to. It might be scary at first but in the end you'll be glad that u've tried
30753
Forget your fear and just try it, \nact normal, and be yourself... try to be friendly\nand you'll be fine :)
4334
Asking someone out at this time (or any time) in your life can be pretty scary. Playing games with your friends where you make a bet or dare someone to ask someone out is a common way to get through the immobilizing fear that goes along with letting someone know you are interested in getting to know them.\n\nThere is nothing wrong with this. Dating and courtship should be fun. But not at someone else's expense. Be sure that you aren't participating in games which involve hurting other people's feelings.\n\nIf you like someone, cherish that nervous feeling you get when you summon the courage to ask them out. Even if you are rejected or get embarassed, you will be giving yourself terrific experiences as well as important practice. Right now, dating is simple and fun. You have nothing to lose. The day will come when you will be interested in a very serious relationship and without getting to know what kind of risks you can take now, you might miss a truly important opportunity in the future.\n\nBe safe, smart, and have fun!
284568
He's hoping you either say noone or..him. He's afraid to be rejected. Shock him. Tell him you've been waiting for him to ask. And tell him it's him you like. You'll be back in a few minutes to ask us what to do now that he asked you out, so I'll just wait a few. Enjoy.
799165
yes i agree with the other answer ask him or at the very least tell him where you stand,even thought the guy traditionally asks it is the new generation and some guys just dont know how.or also fear rejection..i hate asking people out its tough to know what to say and evryone isnt so easy about whether you sound""nerdy""or not good luck
759292
Try asking him out when he's alone. I like someone, but I'm kinda shy.
844100
I'm 31, and while not "terrified" of dating, it does stress me out a lot. Rather than putting a lot of pressure on yourself with "dating", I recommend simply focusing on having an active social life, on being involved in clubs and organizations where you can meet new guys. Invite them out on casual "getting to know you" type outings. If romantic potential is there, you can build to it.\n\nThere's no need to rush towards anything physical (in fact, it's better not to). If you find that you like a guy but want to take things slow, be open and honest with him about it. Same thing if you don't want a romance (and he seems to).
82916
if you're afraid of rejection, you're not ready.  Be casual.  Offer coffe or lunch or something, or invite him along to this or that place under the pretense that you're bored and/or lonely (but not pathetic).  You buy.  Get to be friends.  Maybe he'll look at you a little differently once he gets to know you a bit  :-)
763113
Dont worry! Just ask the guy you like out and take a chance!Itll be okay! And boys are usually nervice that they might get a rejection. If you really dont want to ask anyone out,be Mrs.Nice Girl and be kind and hang out often.Make him notice you. And then when he feels he understands you he will ask you out!And of course be yourself! Good Luck
58929
I have the exact same problem i am so scared to ask him becouse i do not know what he will say. Maybe you should try to talk to him and work your way up. Maybe he likes you to.
972133
Hey don't feel down. I don't have a boyfriend either. Do you want a boyfriend? And do you need one badly? If so go ask a guy out that you think that he's interested in you. It's either you that's having a trouble finding a boyfriend or you are not sure if you want one. Or it's either the boys? You have to venture out more in the world if you're shy or quiet. Trying too hard can also be a problem. But either way good luck, just find out what you want.
53193
Yup, I am, and I think there are many, many people in this world who are like you. Don't forget the person you could be asking could also be in the same position...they would love to go out with you, but are too scared to ask themselves, for what the answer might be. Don't forget the worst thing that can happen is they say "no." Don't let your fear blow up out of proportion.
288656
Take a deep breath and do it.\n\nThe longer you wait, the worse your chances. There was a girl I liked, and I waited too long to ask her out. Now she has another boyfriend, and I feel so stupid, especially when I found out that she had been interested in me as well. Don't make my mistake.\n\nYou may want to get friendly with him first, if that makes you more comfortable. But no matter what, you have to do it somehow, so seize the day.
963862
You are just nervous. It is natural to feel some doubt after all what if you get rejected. What you need to remember is that men find assertive, positive, and direct women to be irresistable. Long story short just Say It already.
375543
Your fear is understandable, Pup. But he might say, yes. Ask him what his gf requirements are, thena sk what he thinks of you. Then ask him out. If he says no, although I don't think he will, don't let it discrouage u from asking other guys.