My friend,which is gay, told me that she's thinks i'm bi.......help please!!?
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Ok, so I was in the exact same situation when I was your age (I'm 37 now).  I had a great gay friend tell me that I was gay.\n\nI was in denial, but I was also confused.  Take your time and let things work themselves out.  Don't be afraid to question your sexuality and don't let anyone try to influence you one way or the other.\n\nGood luck!
642232
hey if she is gay then tell her but i mean if you are gay and someone was TRYING to make you like guys , do you think that is rights , do not force people to what you want , come on , all that you will get is to make someone give into hate , and become a homophobic because you try to force her , Do you think that is what the world needs ,\nRESPECT WHAT SHE TOLD YOU , DO NOT make assumptions just because you want them to be real ,all that you will gain is someone hating you , is that what you want  COME ON GAY PEOPLE ARE BETTER THAN THAT \nTHINK WHAT YOU ARE SAYING IF IT WAS POSSIBLE TO CHANGE SOMEONE WHY ARE YOU WITH A GUY  THEN
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At this point, I think you need a spot test.\n\nYou need to start a conversation with her, and steer it towards a gay topic.... Did you see Brokeback Mountain? or Can you believe that gay people in this country can't get married?\n\nWatch her response.  If she seems uncomfortable with the homo content, then back off.  Either she is gay and not ok with it, or straight.\n\nBut if she engages you in a conversation, at least then you'll know that your sexual orientation doesn't repulse her.  Thats a good start. \n\nIf she responded positively, then you need to start sending some signals back.  Compliments compliments compliments.  Even straight people love compliments.  Tell her she is pretty.  In many different ways.  Again, keep an eye on your response.  If you see signs of panic or irritation, back off.  \n\nSuggest you two should hang out some time, go to a movie or something.  Incorporate small ammounts of touching, graze you hand against hers "accidentally" or if you're watching a  video, sit next to her on the couch and lean in a little.  And keep an eye on the responses.  You have to learn to be keen to things like voice intonation, eye movements, tensing up or smiles.  \n\nAfter you've hung out a couple times, hopefully you'll have a chance to bring up stuff about boyfriends and girlfriends.  Its a good time to come out to her as bi, and see what happens.  If she reacts favorabley, give her a couple days, then say you really like her and would like to take your friendship to a different place.  Ask her out on a very well planned date.  Have a resturant or a movie in mind.  And take it from there.... \n\nGood luck!
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Well first of all Mike, how sure are you that you are bisexual? And although I used to feel the same as you in that belief being gay is wrong, and not the way to lead life. Although I personally would not want to choose to be this way I don't have a problem being friends with a bi person. You sometimes can't help the urges in you..as to the question why you might feel this way..it can never be answered, and if it can you must look deep inside of you.. Being gay or bi sexual does not make you any less of a person and if you are you cannot change that. Instead of repressing your feelings try opening up with close people around you, start off slow with that process. If you really want to be str8 try counseling or therapy it may help.
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You are for sure bisexual, but you don't want or are not yet prepared to admit that. You must deal with this first, then you'd better talk to that girl and explain her everything you feel; be sincere if you want to be fully understood. She will know what to tell you, how to guide you into this new "phenomenon". Rest asured, she will perfectly understand and support you, if she realy is bi, as you said.\nDon't break up with her just because you feel awkward when boys are near (you two). You'll hurt both of you, and neither deserve such a heartache...
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If she came out of the closet to you, it means she probably has been harboring it inside for a long time. That is probably a very difficult emotion to deal with, Not to mention the fact that she is attracted to you. She is obviously confiding with you on two accounts. Which means she trusts you and feels comfortable with you to offer up this information\n\nThis is a delicate subject. If you're attracted to her as well, you may want to explore the deeper friendship/love/whatever. If you're not and want to just remain friends, I would be supportive of her but just explain that you're not attracted to her like that but that you value her in every other way.\n\nHope it works out. Best of luck.
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Just tell her how you feel.  If she's a friend she'll understand.  And if she's not BI, there are plenty of other girls that are BI, so finding another shouldn't be hard.  Also your friend might just not want to face the fact that she is BI.  Or she just doesn't want to wreck your friendship because as we all know, once friends start getting intimate, their friendship is at risk.  Hope this helped.
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told him what and i am confused he dumped you and she told you your avatar is a guy are you gay is he bi is she a guy too i have a headache
691524
Well, obviously this chic is jealous of something about you if she has gone out of her way to speak of you in such a way.So two things I would do- first- confront the other girl-ask her is she's a lessie- then of course there might be an arguement but keep things cool by opening up the conversation with " for info only"...or "it seems, the way they come across"..., then you can throw the rumor back at them- or simply put on a bigger show when your with your boyfriend to let others know your not gay.
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she might feel bad that this person is a lesbo maybe your girlfriend is bi?????!!!!!!!!?!?!?!?!??!??!?!??!?
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If you don't know what her reaction is going to be, or even if she homophopic or not, you'll have to come up with something so you can start a discussion with her to see where she stands as far as gay people go, i suggest this so you'll know what she thinks before you say something to her about being attracted to her.
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Well, as a bisexual, I can tell you that it all depends on her and her idea of commitment. I love chicks, but I would never leave a man for a woman if he was someone I truly loved. But something I'd like to know is why did she just tell you this? I believe it's the type of thing you shoud tell someone from the very beginning, especially if it's someone you're serious with. I would just talk to her openly about it and ask her if she's willing to give herself and her heart only to you.
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Well I'm one of those fags (bundle of sticks)!!  The girl sounds awesome by the way, and I just want to ask you (since your obviously an expert when it comes to woman...so not!) do you know the real reason why straight girls associate with gay men?  They know that a real man is secure in his manhood to not get hung up on the whole "who she hangs out with" concept.  That may however be to hard for your pea size intelect to wrap around so looks like there is just no hope for you.  This girl is just way to much of a woman for you to handle so I would just leave her to the professionals, and step aside cause your a being a road block.
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Well if you're not what u say you are then just be honest and tell her who you are.  But this is the Internet so there are two possible situations in which you might want to take greater care.  1.) if you're a lesbian, fine.  but if you're a lesbian and you have feelings for her- don't tell her about it.  I mean, she can know about your sexuality but if she's straight there's no reason to try anything with her.  that's like a four year old who has a crush on his teacher.  What's the point in saying so?  she wouldn't date him anyway.  \n2.) if you're really a man?  she'd probably not speak to you again.  if you want to continue being her friend, keep pretending.\n\nif it isn;t either of those, then spill the beans in a non confrontational way and don;t offer excuses for not telling her sooner- just apologize.
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you are what? gay.......just tell her.....if she loves u she'll understand.
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I think what she meant by ,'...and then realize I'm really straight' is that since she is confused right now, then she comes out and goes through all that, then she understands that she really was straight the whole time and it was just the girl in the three way.  But I do have to say to you suntan that if you have been having feelings about girls, other than the one you were with, how far off can you be?  I do have a suggestion.  A couple of people have eluded to this suggestion, but none have said it.  Why don't you date a girl for a while and not tell anyone.   Then if things get serious you can bring her around to a few people you can trust to feel out your friends.  You don't even have to tell them that you have always felt this way.  You can say you met her and something happened, you had to be with her.  Something like that, in your words of course!  Then maybe they will accept it easier and if your first relationship doesn't work out the door will already be open for another girl if you choose.  That's what I'd do anyway.  Good luck!  It looks like you are getting some great answers and support on here.  I really hope it all works out for you, truly.  I wish I could hug you!\n\nOh and remember, there is no shame in being bisexual.  I am not saying you are, but if that is what you end up feeling do not fight it, it's ok.
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Dont make things hard on yourself.  If you think you may be bi, dont say anything until you know.  Even then I still wouldnt say anything unless you fell in love with a women.  Family will always love you but dont put yourself and your family through stress they dont need.