My roommate just moved his baby momma and her three kids into our home. Its his home. What should I do?
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Legally, you have a right to free and unobstructed access to your room and each exit from the home.\n\nBeyond this, you should try to negotiate some space allocations.  If this fails, you should move on...
1094551
Kick her out and dont let her live in your house with you and your husband anymore. She sounds sick and out of her mind. Have your husband prove that he is not married to her! He needs to tell her he is not her husband and kick her out! Why are you both even letting this woman live there. If she is not all there mentally there are homes for people like that too! Find her real husband and talk with him and see if you can get her some professional help. Has your husband ever had an affair or cheated on you with her in any way? You need to find things out! If She owns the house then you and your husband need to move out and get a place of your own far away from her and make sure that she does not know where you move to and have an unlisted number!
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Mom in Law is experiencing a new life and as everyone else goes thru it, it'll come as being routine in time as well.  Things will settle down and she'll see the light again.  Give her a chance to live a little..... life's too short.  You sound a bit selfish, sorry to say. Most people WANT their inlaws out of their business. What's wrong with the brother fixing up her house? Nothing. Not to be critical but you remember how it is when you feel so alive when you first start dating someone? Well?  It's your mom in law!  She is feeling alive and beautiful.  She loves your children I'm sure and in a couple of months when the newness wears off she'll be back. :))))  Take care!
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The situation to me is whether or not she is able to do stuff.  If she has medical issues, does this prevent her from being able to do basic stuff?  If not, then it comes down to what you and her son are willing to put up with.  You have two possible solutions.  First is to sit down with her and lay it all out for her.  Her son has to be behind this also, because it won't do to have you saying one thing and her son saying something else.  Let her know that she will be required to do her own laundry, assist with cooking and /or dishes, she will be asked to help clean around the house.  If she cannot, or will not, assist in these matters then let her know what will happen - she will have to find a new home, she will be asked to leave, she will have to pay rent, etc...  Whatever the penalty or solution that you two come up with to deal with the situation.  Solution #2 would be if you do not wish to live like that - contact the other 2 sons and everyone have a family meeting to decide what needs to happen with 'mom.'  It may be that it is time to find a retirement home for her.  If it is too much of a physical, emotional, and financial burden for you to take on - then the entire family should get involved.  It doesn't mean you don't care for her, but you can't live your life around her entirely either.
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What would *I* do?  I'd take the kids somewhere safe (and our bags, because we're leaving at this point), be sure to p*ss him off real good when he comes home, have an all-out brawl in the living room, and after I've made my point, go to a good shelter.\nIf you're in this situation, and you wonder what I think YOU should do...  I think you should get in touch with your local police station, any churches, social services, etc., and find out how to contact your local womens' shelter.  Call them, and ask if they have room for you and the kids.  If they don't, get a list of other places nearby (we have 5 or so within 2 hours of here), and call them too.  If they do, only pack what you will need, and the childrens' favorites, and get gone.  Don't worry about food and clothes and toiletries if you're in a particular hurry, because they have TONS of that stuff donated all the time, and it's in storage.  If there's something you need that they don't have, they'll get it (like special formula for babies, etc.)\n\nI've stayed in a shelter like this.  They're great.  If you need to get out, do it.  Before he kills you, or he drives you crazy enough to kill him.
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You don't have to be mean but you can be very firm. Tell her this is not working out for you to have a roommate and give her a deadline to be out and tell her from now on you will not watch her kids. As the deadline approaches, remind her of it.  If she gets mad, then so be it. She can get glad the same way she got mad.
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Turn her a_s in. By doing nothing you are feeding the problem and by not ratting her out you are allowing one more bum the ability to dig into our pockets. The fewer people we have to support the more we get to keep for our families. Let the Welfare fraud line know that she is living with a man that makes enough to support her and her 3 kids; they will investigate and act if necessary.
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sounds like you no a legal resident either, but either way let him adopt the kids. nobody really gives a crap anyway.at least somebody wants em!
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you need to tell his kids constatly that you dont want to take their moms place and you love him (their dad) very much and wouldnt hurt them by taking away anyone and that their mom will always be their only mom no matter what happens/ed.
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Tell him to stay put.  \n\nSee if you can get you and the kids on an even keel. See if he can get on an even keel.  \n\nIf he can call, come by, treat you guys with respect, maintain his job, his car and his home, his bank account, and take the kids sometimes to give you a break, then you might have something.  \n\nPay attention to his decision making skills.  Can the man make a decision and stick with it or is he all over the board?  \n\nDate for awhile.    DON'T let him sleep over at your house, unless you want your kids totally confused.  Give yourself enough space to objectively evaluate his behaviors.  Then decide if this is a healthy, loving, family relationship for everyone involved.
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the marriage is over. the 2 of u have lost all respect for each other. just move on. if u stay u could end up doing more harm. think abut the children. they have to see this behavior going on in the home. so just move on.
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You've done all you can. You've discussed the situation with your ex husband and the new wife. What else can you do? Don't force your children to go over because that will only make them resent him because of her.\n\nTell your ex he can come over and spend time with the kids at your house without bringing his wife because she is not welcome around the children. \n\nHe'll start to get the hint.
1119085
Right here in my home with my husband and 3 kids!
570604
Go home one day a month.  The burden of proof is on them in an eviction proceeding.  They are probably blowing a lot of hot air.
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Ok, couple questions here...HOW do they know how you drive?  WHY are you caring for their granddaughter?  HOW do they know what condition the apartment was in? WHOSE apartment was it?  WHY does your friend tell you what they say?  WHY do you care what these evil people think?  Sometimes where there is smoke there is fire...ARE u doing something to piss them off?  Do Not confront them.  This could lead to a physical altercation.  YOU cannot control other people.  Just get over them.  Tell your friend not to report any thing else they say to you.  Perhaps they are upset she is living with you and not them.  My ex's mom was like this.  I was never good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, good enuff mother, etc.  eventually i just figured it out.  It's her.  It's not me.  She's a hater and she was living rent free inside my head.  Every second I spent thinking about what she said or did that hurt me was a second I GAVE her that I could never get back...well, those seconds added up...it became YEARS...do not make this same mistake.  Good Luck
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If you just want them to stop acting like guests and start acting like roommates, start assigning chores and handing over the grocery lists once in a while.... "Hey, Susan, while I'm at work today, would you please vaccuum and water the plants?" or (In a joking tone) "Isn't it your turn to do the dishes?"  Open bills in front of them, and complain aloud about how high they've gotten.\nIf you want your house back, then be kind but blunt... Sit down with them and say "I have loved having you here, but I'm afraid that I can't have you stay much longer...I have XXXXX happening in a couple of weeks and need to have some time to myself before that, but it's sure been fun!"\nOr lie and tell them your landlord has reminded you of the terms of your lease and your rent will be raised if they stay more than another week.\nGood luck!
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First, I will pray for you. \n\nKnowing that he is with her you will never be truly happy, unless you leave. I know it will be hard like you I have 3 kids. But I will never allow anyone to hurt me like that and to do it out in the open. You will survive as a Christian you know God will provide for you. Be strong don't take his shit, you are not a door mat so don't treat yourself as that.