How can we find her so he can see his kids and talk to them.........?
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Yeah, it may be a shady way of doing it, but if his child support is not coming out of his paycheck, I mean, if he goes and pays it, stop paying it.\n\nSave the money and put it away so that when you go to court you can pay it right away.  \n\nOnce his ex quits getting money, she will call the court and file papers.  He will get served to appear in court.  She will be required to show up too.  When he gets there, and the judge asks what is going on, he can tell the judge he was trying to find his kids.  He can tell him he has all the back money he owes, but that he had no other way to find his kids.\n\nThe judge may get a little mad, but technically if he has the ability to pay the money he owes, they won't do anything to him.\n\nAlso, if he has court ordered visitation every other weekend or whatever, and she never had that changed while your husband was going through depression, she is in contempt of court for not letting him see his kids.  But like you said, it would require a lawyer to find her.\n\nHere are some other ideas.  Try doing some google's for her or the kids.  (If I google my name it goes right to the website of where I work) Check for school web sites.  Does she have any family?  Do you have any idea what city or even what state she may be in?  \n\nAlso, you can mail a letter to her old address and at the bottom you put "Address correction requested."  Make sure your return address is on it and make sure you write the request big and bold and put some extra postage on the letter...I forget how much extra it costs.  If she left a forwarding address with the post office, they will put a sticker on the envelope with her forwarding address and mail it back to you. :-)\n\nThere are some less legal ways to go about it, such as if he has her SSN and birthdate he can try to obtain a copy of her credit report (like through the annual free credit report thing) and it will have her most recent address.  \n\nAnd you would be surprised how a little being nice can help you.  You or your fiance can try calling places she used to work.  Make up a story that sounds good, say you are with a charity or something and call her previous employer.  Say something like, "Hi, my name is So-and_so and I am with the American Red Cross.  I am trying to reach So-and-so"  They will say she no longer works there and you can ask if they know where you can reach her.  You will probably get farther than your fiance with this type of stuff because people will be more suspicious of him looking for a woman.\n\nOr try calling some of the children's old friends.  Or anyone you think might have contact with his ex or the kids.\n\nI am quite good at this type of stuff, feel free to e-mail me and I would be happy to help you.\n\nGood Luck.
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if u are that serious about finding him.. put a add in your local paper ! he might see it !
825474
Tell you ex's GF to take it on a hike.  She has no business wanting to know your child.  And for that matter, neither does your ex.  Be strong, and best wishes to you.
805365
yes he should see the baby but no not take him on his own, meet him somewhere public just the 2 of you and not her ... as for her i would look into a restraining order
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You don't have to get back with him to get closer to her.\nCan you work and live closer to her?\n\nOver is over. SO what's the problem?\nYou will need to have faith in your child.\nFourteen is old enough to know the "right from wrong" mom!\nGet some information and offer to help by paying for a afterschool program of something.
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find out her intrests and get her that
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go to local hospotal or hospotals you think he might mave gone if his other girl was having a kid, they should be able to help with a birth certificate
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Find the area where he was stationed first. Then check w / orphanages records. Try to locate exgirlfriend / mother by name. Japanees have strong family records by tradition.
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Well do you know where she lives, if she married and when was the last time you seen her.  If you knew she married, the best bet is to look for newspapers in the county/city where she married and search for marriage announcements.  you can do this at most libraries.  If you don't know if she married, do you know any of her family so you can contact them to get in touch with her?
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Try Reunion.com to see if she is posted and you can contact her through there.
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why don't u try writing her a letter and drop it to the last know address you have of her using her maiden name, even if she doesnt live there anymore, someone who knew her might forward the letter to where she is presently residing right now.. well what i really mean, if it's that important for you to find her..there are so many ways.. don't give up and one day, your search will be rewarded.. goodluck!
660707
????????????????????? not sure neesd more info and i may beable to find her
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Arrange a group get together at a local bar or restaurant. That way you will get to know him away from work and is he says he has to leave early to get home to the wife and kids or something you will know. If he stays out you will get the chance to chat to him and get to know him more. Hope this helps. Good luck x
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wow - my heart certainly goes out to you - she sounds like if wicked stepmother was to be put in dictionary her picture should be beside it\n\nbut the fact is, those kids were in his life before her ..... unless he is completely unable to communicate - the father should be able to speak his desires himself.........\n\nbest better check on the legal status of any property or income he has, cos most likely a "nice" person like this has also seen to it that she has the say in any of that as well .....\n\nmost likely he has been persuaded that you have not had the desire or made effort to contact him, appears that could not be farther from the truth, unless he has signed papers otherwise you have legal rights also.\n\nbest wishes to all of you for life is too short for such waste of time and relationships!
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If you know her full name, then you can google it and maybe there's some place she's online where you can get her address or at least some more information about her.  You can also try typing in her name at a special internet company that looks for cell/home phone numbers when you supply the name of the person.  Keep in mind the number(s) many be under her parents' names if she is young.
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you mean Samantha? i don't think she is his wife, i thought they were just engage. If you find i pic will you email me. I have been looking for a picture of her even since November last year.
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go find him or get him back