Is it so wrong to be honest or what?
458087
don't lie ...  in the end you will only hurt others and yourself... and do you really want a relationship built on lies ???... you know you don't !...    when the right one comes along  being honest will pay off big time!  be patient...it will happen when you least expect it...  best wishes!
700098
I hate to use a cliche, but HONESTY!\n\nSpend a few real honset moments with yourself.  Examine your part, claim ownership of what you did wrong.  Ask yourself "was what I said or did unthoughtful towrd others feelings/hurtful/mean in any way?"  We dont want you to not confess and have regrets.\n\nCome to your partner and let them know that you see your wrongs.  This will inspire them to get honest and own their side of the street, unless they are in huge denial.  Most of the times it works if the person is decent.\n\nThe and only then is it truly resolved.  If each person does not claim their share, resentments build and it will come out later, and worse!\n\nBest of luck and be real honest! U can do it!
94047
No -  Lieing is horrible.  It only causes more problems down the road and it creates stupid stories that you need to keep strait.  Better to just be honest and own up to anything that you may do - being trust worthy is very important.  \n\nIt's so good to read all the responses to this question - they say it is not good to lie - it's gives me a tiny glimmer of hope for this world and the future...
526373
There are no moral absolutes.  Anyone who tells you they always tell the truth is offering their next lie to you. I think what is important with a question of honesty, are motivations.  I think offering the truth most of the time can be shown to be the proven necessary course for most human interactions.  Without a trust in honesty, society fails.  But there are times when a falsehood could be considered.  The question then must be asked, why?  Do you lie for selfish self serving reasons?  Or are you lieing for perhaps something greater than yourself?  A stupid example, say a roommate or lover was irresponsible the night before and got tanked.  After they sober up you might discuss the behavior without beating them up about it.  But I'll call that boss everytime and explain that she is really ill and can't make it work.  Sure, the question of true alturism can always be raised, and such propositions can always be questioned from a perspective of relativity, but my emphasis would be, that circumstance can be considered in any variety of thought experiments within which the right thing to do could be to lie. Is it a lie for yourself, or are you attempting to help someone or something?  That said, lieing does suck.  Crush my heart but please tell me the truth, I've lived long enough, I can handle it.
489228
Almost always.I believe honesty is the best policy, even if it does get one into trouble sometimes.\n\nEveryone jokes around sometimes, though. I have such a wry sense of humor that some people do not know when to take me serious & when not to though.
87539
Well, not really sure what you mean but if it is really a friend you should be able to tell them whatever you want.  They may not want to hear what you have to say, but they would have to be selfish not to respect it.  I find honesty with friends is the most important thing because friends can always see things that someone in a relationship may be too blind to see, or may want to lie to themselves about.  Friends know how we normally act and can tell if we are happy, so if they see otherwise it is their place to say so. They may get upset, but just be honest, a true friend will be a friend til the end.
325998
I tend to be honest to my own harm. I can use my honesty as a weapon, but I'm learning not to do that. I want my tongue to be loving. Loving AND truthful.
113486
why should it be wrong. Unless your chatting for something other than just to chat.
376582
Not really. I think that there is a difference between giving half truth or lieing though. I think most of the time people lie because they do not want to hurt others. But what they do not realize is that the other person will usually find out that they were lied to and that hurts a lot worse then the truth.\nIt is best to tell the truth and just get it over with no matter how hard it is to say. Even if you half it or sugar coat it. At least be honest. And you have to be honest with yourself too before you can be honest with someone else. And being true to yourself is one of the most important qualities a person can have.\nI have taught my daughter I would rather her tell me the truth and she will get in less trouble then that than if she lies and I find out she is lying.
595861
wow i've never really thought about saying the right thing. being intimate with someone just comes naturaly i think. if you have to think that hard about it, then it probably isn't right and will sound rehearsed and that's a turnoff.
578251
Knowing the difference between right and wrong is the issue here. Therefore, although it is nice to be popular, people see through a fake facade and can judge your sincerity. So why pretend. I am me, take it or leave it.
137127
It would seem to pose a dilemma, however, in my opinion I am tempted to believe them up until the time that I catch them telling the truth and which will eventually happen if one engages the liar into a lengthy discussion.\nWith the proper question posed at a particular time within the discourse the truth will 'blurt.'\nA question such as "Do you want to be treated to a free steak dinner on me?" \nHope this does it. Jose
301608
BE HONEST from the start
29547
As honestly as possible.  If there were uncomfortable circumstances, then politely decline to answer. It's best NOT to lie, because lies can get found out.
161792
I wouldn't quote exact figures, but I'd say a lot of people would say "honesty is the best policy."  However, no one can be 100% honest all the time.  Think about all the white lies we all tell to spare someone's feelings or to get out of an uncomfortable situation...
885351
I don't think so...false compliments are lies! How can one improve if they are fooled into believing everything is okay??! i would go with honesty...it's still the best policy!!
1012821
Hmmm.  When will guys learn that relationships are built on honesty.  Lying about being gay to go shopping with you?  That's a first for me to hear.  However, he admitted the lie after you had already found out.  Then he admitted to it.  Being honest because you got busted is not sincerity.  Going shopping to watch a girl you like try on underwear!?  Try for someone better.  Someone who can honest from the get-go.