All my life I have spent Pleasing other people. I give all but never receive. What can I do to receive?
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We never receive blessings when we want or are looking for something in return for our giving..our true blessings come when we give knowing the recipient can never give us anything in return..\nContinue giving because it's your nature and you will receive blessings in ways you never dreamed of..it may not be when or where you want them, but you will be blessed when you are supposed to.
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You don't say why you feel you are a big disappointment to everyone in your life.  Personally, I don't truly believe that.\n\nYou are being harsh on yourself - you need to lighten up.\n\nWe are put on this earth, not so much to please others, but to please ourselves.  We can only do the best we can and that is all that is asked.  We are human beings - not perfect.\n\nStop believing that you are a big disappointment - because you are not.\n\nBetter days are ahead.\n\nGood Luck!
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Not a thing. I'd give every penny away. The greatest pleasure is not from receiving but in giving to others. Actually, that's in the Bible, and it's true.
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Find a friend, if that doesn't work there is always BEN&JERRYS Chunky Monkey, it always makes everything better.\n\nBut honestly, I have felt all of those things, and that is not a good place to be.  I hope that you can realize that you are special and of infinate worth.  It breaks my heart that you feel that way. Feel free to email and we can talk, you don't have to feel so alone and that can be a start.
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Never ever ever. Just think about it this way. Once you get to the other side there is still another side. You can only find happiness where you are within yourself instead of wishing you had something you dont. Once you get it there is always something else you will wish you had.\nLove yourself and what you have and appreciate what you have been given.
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i do not but when i do give it makes me feel good but that is not why i do it i like to help others and i do like it when i do make others happy. and if they do not appreciated the all well i still helpped them anyway and that is just the way i am i like to help. I do not look for a thanks or anything in return bc you are not always going to get one.
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So, here's the thing.  I don't know you, and an answer here will probably not help solve your problems.  I'll give you my answer to your question, but then you have to go and find someone to talk to about all of this.\n\nWhat it sounds like you're asking is "WTF did I do to deserve all of these gifts, when so many people around me suffer?"\n\nI believe (and this is my answer...you need to find your own), that we were all created by God to live with God and with each other.  One of the miraculous things about God is that He created us, and instead of micromanaging our lives however he wanted to, He gave us free will.  He placed a little piece of himself within each of us, and that part of us longs to be with Him.\n\nThe short answer to your question is that you didn't do anything to deserve such a great life.  And you did everything.  From the time you were born, God wanted only the best for you, just as He wants only the best for me, and for every other person on this planet.  He gave each of us the opportunity to make our own decisions.  \n\nYou talk a lot about your own attitude, and that is something that you can change.  You can choose to be happy and excited about the new opportunities that await you in your new location.  You can also be sad about the friends and things that you are leaving.\n\nI can't answer why bad things happen to good people...I'm still trying to figure that one out myself.\n\nSeeing as you posted this in the Religion and Spirituality forum, I think that you're seeking something outside yourself, something bigger.  I would encourage you to find a church in your area and to have a conversation with the ministers there...I think that it might help you.
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your altruism is astounding. the rest of us could learn from your giving and self-sacrificing nature. i thank you and your big boy for the kindness you have shared upon me. even if the rest of these ingrates don't appreciate your generosity, please realize that i see your goodness and await more of it.
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I am more than willing to give than receive. I actually "get off" more when I'm giving. I don't necessarily have to receive, especially when he is more than willing.What I don't like is a selfish lover, one who won't give at all. I would love to read your novel. Contact me about it. What else are you interested in for your novel?
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Everybody is different, that's a given. However, we do tend to have one trait in common, and that is self-satisfaction. Perhaps you are bored because you have it all. You are, in effect, living the "western dream". Perhaps you will find fulfillment and joy through achieving something by yourself. For example, take up a hobby, give something back to the community etc.
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ALWAYS!!!! The way I see it...I got my arms full of goodies and this person has nothing.  I'm blessed to have what i have (which isn't much), what good is it to have it if you can't share it.  I cannot tell you how many times I've given whatever was in my pocket to someone sitting on the side of the street.  DC almost broke me.  There was at least 2-3 ppl on each city block.  It was heartbreaking.\nNow grant it, there may be shammers, alcoholics, druggies, etc out there, but who am i to judge anyone?  Even if they take the few bucks i give them and go grab a beer when I'm outta sight...it still makes me feel better about myself to give.\nI'm a strong believer in Charma too.  There's been many times, I've been down on my luck and there were ppl in my life to help me out.  I remember how humbled I was to have to accept their help but sometimes you have to tuck your pride away to survive.  I share my gratitude of those that helped me by trying to help others.  "what goes around, comes around" is such a true cliche'.\nSome of my "friends" scold me for giving money or food or whatever i have, saying things like "they're faking it" or "they probably got a mansion somewhere", etc...but again, like i said, giving to them makes me feel better as a person, so i do what I feel is right, regardless of what others say or think.\nThat is what i suggest to you....do what you feel is right in your heart.\nmarjenl72
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You deserve love and devotion and you also should give it this means you need to be patient. You will find that will help in many things in life.\n\nGood Luck and God Bless!!
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So??? Stop being so NICE. Give back what they gave you and you'll be okay. TRUST me!
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there's nothing wrong with wanting to please people, as long as it's not at your own expense.  you don't want to be a doormat, right? don't worry, it will probably cure itself because when people know you'll do anything for them, they'll use it as long as they possibly can (opportunists) and one day you'll probably just get fed up and know that you deserve more.  i would work on your self-image and books that have to do with confidence because i think that a lack of confidence leads to trying to please people constantly.  hope this helps!
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The Bible also says to "Love they neighbor as thyself."  Therefore, if you don't love yourself then you can't love others, truly.\n\nAs for how much, I think the adage "it is better to give than to receive" is very true.  If you are feeling down, try doing something good for another person and see how much better you feel about yourself.
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Give love and you will receive love.\nWhat goes around comes around.\nSo, be friendly and friendship will be returned to you.
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Don't try to please everybody.  You can't.  Find a small group that shares your interests.  Start there.  Your friendships will grow.\n\n\nMany shallow friendships cannot equal a few deep ones.