why don't men ask women out on real dates anymore; is dating a thing of the past replaced with just sex?
466183
It all depends on the type of men you are dating.  There are a lot of gentlemen out there who would dine you, take you dancing, to a movie and just talk for the fun of it.  Also, it doesnt have to end up in bed if you dont want it.\nYou hold the reins girl!
583494
Actually that has changed and if it has not changed for you then that is because you are being manipulated by a double standard invented by men who were ignorant,and women who were frigid and unwilling to enjoy s*x.\n\nLeave the outdated double standards where they belong...in the past.\n\nUs women can do what we wish s*xually just as the guys can. :)
178816
Its a social necessity as much a biological need to woo a woman during dating, there's this need to impress and become her focus of attention. Yup women like to play tough to get. So anyway, men try to do all those romantic things to win his woman. And then u get engaged/married and out of that springs this deep secure feeling for him...he knows the relatonship is for real and there's a lot of 'taking for granted' that happens. A woman hates that but then he is not doing it on purpose. Its just that he's sure that his woman is going to stay with him and that she is going to love him no matter what.  Now this is the case in a good relationship built on trust and love. In the other cases, men tend to get tired and the initial excitement of dating wears off and he goes in search of someone else to start all over again. Even women change, its not all abt guys.
587508
I did not get serious about dating until my early 20's. I had dated a lot of girls before I realized that there really only needed to be on. I didn't realize I was lacking a true relationship until my wife and I met. I was 25.
352696
I haven't been on the dating scene in over 11 years and back then it was 3 months. Today it's an anything goes kind of world. People who aren't even dating are hooking up etc. It seems like trends(for lack of a better word) go in cycles. The 60's, 70's people were pretty promiscuous, then came the awareness of AIDS and people started to be more cautious in the 80's and 90's and now we are back to promiscuity. I am so hoping that when my daughter is a teen that we will be back to a waiting to have sex trend. And what is really scary is what people consider to be "sex". Most don't count o_ral sex as "sex" because there is no penetration.It's still sex! Now I am by no means a prude, but I do believe you should know the person you are sharing your body with. If you don't know them how can you trust them. \nWow, this is really long-winded. Sorry!
720911
When I was dating, I had lots of err interesting experiences.. from men that were a grandfather age. Too married men who wore my drink...who just wanted to get lucky. The the nice guys, who just bought dinner and we didn't click..  It can be fun if you do it safely.. Like a public spot.. we are women after all. \n\nI don't think if I was single again, i would look for a mate on line.  I might try speed dating.. or let someone fix me up.  \n\nGood Luck!
108627
would you wanna date the same guys that those girls are with? there are plenty of guys out there who dont fit into the popular catagory who are also looking for dates...why not check them out ? = )
444339
Same reason men get nervous as well.  Also is has become expected by society that women should not need to ask guys out and that men should come to them.  though we are veering away from this, this is still he case a lot of the times.
492892
I presume you mean sex??Well I've dated guys who don't expect that so perhaps you're dating the wrong guys!If you want to see a guy again I wouldn't recommend sex on the first date but take things slower and at a pace you're comfortable with.Have fun!
1135138
Take it easy, settle down, stop trying too hard.\n\nDon't over look the obvious, you know the women at the hot dog stand, the girl behind the donut counter, the UPS delivery girl. They are all targets as well as down to earth people that are looking for the same things in life as you are.\n\nThe dating scene is brutal and can be over bearing at times. you can continue the dating scene on the Internet, but my main focus would be the women walking around in front of me on a daily basis.\n\nI hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.\n\n"FIGHT ON"
602094
It all started in the 1950's when dating became less formal. Going out on dates alone was just getting popular and wearing a your b/f's letterman jacket or wearing his class ring meant you were taken. Since in the days before that you were pretty much betrothed or single, this gave a little middle ground. (links to teens rebelling against old traditions)
1080892
i have never met a guy who looked down upon a woman asking them out. honestly, more woman SHOULD be asking men out instead of leaving all that crap up to us. You see the corny pick up lines out there right? that happens bcuz we've run out of ways to ask you gals out. we're lost. help US. anyhoo, just ask him if he's busy and wants to do something. when he says yes, figure out that something will be. if you can't figure it out, post another question and we'll help you out. we all need our two points.
75863
I want honesty and no games from a man. I care about what is inside of the person a whole lot more then what is on the outside. I recently got back on the dating scene since my husband died. It is different and the men I meet are definately carrying around a lot of baggage.
287600
There are many different customs/traditions regarding dating and what not in various countries. From what I've seen, most european countries, the women are more bold and open to dating. In the US it is more of a game, and a lot of women can  be very cold and stuck up. It's a shame, really.
1101731
This is the 21st Century ... should be Equal Opportunities time. There really isn't any reason why a girl shouldn't ask a guy out :)
204788
I believe I know what you're talking about and it's sad that you and other people have to refer to love/romance/sex as "the game".  I don't like playing games when it comes to my heart and I refuse to play them.  That's why I don't follow specific rules when trying to meet people.  I don't waste my time on certain pick up lines.  I try to look good, but I'm not going to change how I like to appear for a woman.  I'm not going to try to act better to impress someone either.  If you are really looking for a relationship with someone, then why do all those stupid things?  Your true self is eventually going to reveal itself in the end anyway and a lot of break-ups happen because people find out months or even years later that they really don't like who the other person "really is".  So yes, I am 28 years old and I've been fed up with the game since I was a little kid.  I started observing B.S. things about relationships and how to start one very early in life.
130964
I think dating evolved mostly because of the invention of the automobile.  Dating used to be more "bring a girl/guy home for dinner."  Now its "bring her home by 10."  We went from the front porch to the back seat!