why is it so hard for guys to take single 18yr. old mom  serious? Does it make a difference if she has one?
474459
I'm 18 and have a 12month old son and single to. Even though he's with his mom most of the week. i know what your are talking about. i think you just haven't meet the right guy yet.
1178467
Most women don't know what they want even at an older age. I think most of us go through a period of yes, we do want the type of guy listed above, cute, smart, funny, respectful, but when we get that there just not bad enough. Don't have enough edge, they seem sissy to us. As women mature and grow older then we realize that those bad boys are just well, bad boys and we actually want a commitment from a guy not some loser w/o a job or ambition for anything.   While it's hard on guys, you just have to be patient there's  girl out there that's wanting a nice guy and can't find them and get's stuck w/ losers...hell, i always did. I think sometimes it maybe not so much a sense of false hope just maybe afraid of oh, my gosh what are my friends going to think b/c he's just so nice and this might make them think he's too sissy. I wish you luck in you search. God bless.
188971
not all guys are like that. i know i'm not. i can think of only one thing in life that comes before a serious relationship, and that's my daughter. i know plenty of guys that would love to get into a serious relationship, but they need to find the right person first. it takes time, but you'll find him sooner or later as long as you don't give up on love
866367
It's nice to hear a single father going through what most single moms go through, well the thought would be just like any guy they do not want to settle down with someone who has kids, there not ready yet, keep looking you'll find someone who will love you and your daughter no matter what!
86939
By being sure of himself, knowing what he wants from life and working toward that. Maturity, women in this age group do not want men who do not know how to treat a woman. Sincerity is extremely important and having a sense of humor. Make her laugh, sense of humor and not "bathroom humor" will make her eyes shine. We older women have lots to teach younger men though I am myself no longer available, I have my younger man.
1149013
I'm going to hazard a guess based on your typing and grammar and say that you're under 15 or so... and in that case particularly (but at any age really) mom's usually know what they're talking about.  I know it sucks to hear that, but trust me, it's true.  (I'm 19, btw.. I've been there very recently, so I'm not out of the loop here.)\n\nWhat you should do is sit down with your mom and say "Hey mom, I don't want to get in to an argument about this, but I really want to know what it is you don't like about ____."  Listen to what she has to say.  Most importantly, do not get defensive.. the minute you start yelling at each other, you don't stand a chance of working things out.  Take the points she makes (and ask her to be specific.. point out specific examples of how he's controlling, not just say that he is) and think about them for a day a so.  Tell a close friend (*not* your boyfriend, very important) what she said and see what they think.\n\nIf after that you still think she's wrong, tell her you really thought about it and got a friend's perspective on it, but you don't agree with her, and ask her to respect your opinion.  That being said, do not disobey your mom.  Boyfriends come and go.  Your mom will always be your mom and it's more important than you can possibly imagine to keep a good relationship with her.\n\nAnd, as an aside, just my personal opinion, if you are young, as I guessed, you really don't need to date one person for that long.  I dated the same guy from the age of 14 to 17, and thought it was great at the time, but now, I really wished I wouldn't have done that.  It's kind of hard to explain, but just take it from someone who's been there.
97105
Well, age really isn't important.  If the man is nice then who cares?  How old is your mom?  It really shouldn't matter.  Much more important is his integrity.
184646
I don't think it would be hard unless there is something missing - like personality, money, availability.  Have you spent time improving your personality in a way to attract another adult?  Or do you do nothing but talk about your child?  Do you have interests such as sports, movies, travel, community? Do you have a career that will offer something to a future mate? Do you have any hobbies that you could introduce a date to?  \n\nIt isn't about being a single dad - it's the other things that will help you win or lose a woman.  Be interesting and interested in life, yourself, and other people, and you'll attract someone looking for a happy future together.
567513
I'm in my late 20's and have to consider this question while dating women often and this is what I come up with.  I have no problem dating a single mother as long as a few rules are adhered to. Don't let him meet your child until the relationship is at least a couple months old, because you don't want your child to have to meet a new guy every couple of weeks.  Know what you want out of the man, a relationship, or just a fling or what not. Lastly, and this is a tip and my personal opinion, but most men that would treat your child with respect and love will want another child........my personal pet peave with single mothers is that they don't want any more children.  Any man that would be a proper adult figure for your child will dream of one that comes from him too.  That's not to say that he will treat your child different, but dreams are dreams and any man who want's to be a father, will also want a child that both of you concieved.
587034
To most guys being a single mom means you put out.... Also it means that you are sort of desperate and that you will do "what it takes" to bag yourself a guy... I am just being honest here... of course you are a human being with dignity and respect... but many guys won't look at you like that... \n\nSO my advice is:\n\nDating is fine, but beware of CREEPS... especially Internet creepy dudes trolling around for women that they think they can take advantage of...
946427
Play it down, some mothers push their daughters into relationships and maybe your mom thought because he was at your place for Thanksgiving that the relationship is more than what you both want it to be.  Next time you see him just tell him your mom does that to you all the time to pressure you into forming a long term relationship.  Bye the way I find it a bit odd that your guy would take it so seriously, so he must be leary of committment to a certain extent.  Play the whole situation down and for your own sake ease off on the guy for a while if he really likes you he'll come around.  I feel badly for you though, it must have been embarassing. One other thing I'd have a chat with your mom and ask her to please never to put you in that position again.  Just tell her that you'll let her know when she's allowed to tell someone your dating that she loves him, sounds as if she was inviting him to be the "SON IN LAW" and he probably freaked.  Good luck
662708
I dont automatically walk away.  I want to have a family of my own, but I dont mind 'jump starting' one.  I know I am not alone when I say this though, the hard thing for you will be the way you handle your child with me.  Single moms that introduce me to the child on the 1st date will not get a call back from me.  I dont need to be 'just another dude my mom is with' in the child's eyes.  However, if we wait till things work out with us, then it fine to introduce the child.  Be honest about your children through dont try to surprise a guy with it 6 months into the relationship.  Single moms are great too because they dont get to go out as much and are usually much more appreciative of the romantic dinner out.  Good luck...and hang in there...the right guy is out there for you I can feel it :)
281230
Always isn't the right word here.....but think about it...the first initial years that you spent around women were those spent with your mother...(or a motherly figure)...it's not too far out of left field to say that some men look for a partner that gives them the same level of "comfort" as their mother.
552365
Well, I'm 35 and my boyfriend is 23....so go for it! You're both adults. If you both consent, to hell with what anyone else thinks. I met my boyfriend two years ago and my mother just hates it!! But, she has to endure because we're about to have a child together (any day now). I'm not ashamed to admit that I initially pursued him because he was hot! I don't regret any of it either. \n\nA word of advice though: the age difference will crop up, no matter how hard you try to ignore it. I'm not just talking about what other people will say. It will crop up between the two of you. There are just some things you can't change and the big one is that you have way more life experience than he does, no matter how mature he may be. How each of you handles these moments will determine whether or not a relationship will work....along with all the other relating factors. Age difference doesn't have to be an obstacle if handled with care. I've had to remind myself on many occasions that I used to be his age and I used to think or act as he does. I can't change him...he's going to things his way...after all that's how we all learn.\nThe very fact that he reminds me of myself at that age is one of the reasons I love being around him. It makes me feel understood and not so alone in the world. I never had that with any other man.
852117
Moms have their own ways.  You have to make your own happiness in life.  You do not mention your age.  Cross cultural dating is difficult lots of times and no due to race.  If you have a nice boyfriend of color then try to get her to meet him and show her he respects you and wants to be kind to you and to her
718500
I think it's wrong. Now correct me if I am wrong but what can a 17 yr old boy have in common with a 35yr woman? Woman are more mature than men, let alone she is a self made woman she has a career he is still trying to have one. So she is always going to pay for everything, and buy him clothes and video games, and maybe his 1st car at that too. What about his parents they must think it's crazy, what if he has a curfew isn't she going to get tiered or better yet how do you introduce him to family and friends"oh this is my student and lover"?...not a good idea
425968
because shes your mom, hello.. she cares about you and this is your whole life your talking about here. she raised you up and gave you everything of course she would be strict letting u go to a man right. understand a lil bit, look at it in her point of view ok.. goodluck to you!