What is your reaction to a guy asking you if you want to have a quiet night in with him?
464031
I think he doesn't want anything serious with you but he definately is attracted to you
1093423
I would ask you, "What the hell are you doing in my bed lady". Then after you explained yourself, I would maybe take you out for coffee or a meal, and see if we could actually have a relationship that was meaningful, and not based only on the physical only. I know that may sound weak to more than a few, but I would much rather be your friend forever, than your sexual partner once, because that would be all it would be under the circumstances you have mentioned....I am a Gentleman after all....
316249
He sounds a bit like a whiner outside of the bedroom. Some people just like to be quiet during sex, so maybe that's his thing. Or maybe he's just not that into you.
83101
It doesn't seem to be polite for me to ask you a question, but one does wonder why you (a) would want to go out with someone who doesn't speak; (b) would have your friend act as a go-between (when you should take responsibility for your own relationships); and, (c) would expect for a person you don't know to behave in a way that suits you.\n\nMaybe you should just leave the guy alone. If he doesn't answer, that's his business. Besides, it may just be possible that he's ignoring your friend because he thinks this whole approach is not to his liking - that he's being objectified. He may be uncomfortable - and he may not be interested in playing this game.
276686
please be more clear . . . when you ask for sex (speaking of you) . . . he says that he has a headache.\n\nOr is it the reverse.
1145239
That's a hard one - You don't want to put yourself in an awkward position by telling her you like her, or put her in one by asking her if she likes you - she might say "no" in a moment of embarrassment just out of reflex...\n\nNow what does she say when she asks you to spend the night at her place?  Does she say it casually, like a "you can stay here tonight if you feel like it", or is it in a more suggestive "We really need to spend the night together" kind of way?\n\nIf you confront her about this in any way, it will likely kill your friendship.  For the better or for worse, things will likely never go back to the way things are now.\n\nAre you okay with that?  If you want to preserve your current friendship, you can always pull out the heart-wrenching-but-sweet "I'm so glad to have you as my friend" line.\n\nShe might just think of you as "one of the girls" (no offense) and that's why she's wanting to get a massage with you, spend time with you as a regular friend, and not care about you sleeping over.\n\nIt's your call.  Weigh the evidence, try to look at it objectively, and make the decision you feel strongly about and think is appropriate.\n\nGood luck!
691098
My advice is you tell your guy that. If he seems  distant then he's not the guy who deserves your attencion. If he says he had no idea. Then say "fine, I have a way for you to make it up to me..." and invite him somewhere. If he says no. Then if he can't make time in his "big" schedule  for you then whats the point in knowing him anyway?
72484
You must spend time out with him. How does he behave? What does he remember about you? Does he act as if you are th eonly woman? Words don't count, only action.
945191
Talk to him make conversation and take it slow and easy then ask him what he has planned that night and ask him out to dinner or something
352282
My best friend is an airhostess adn says "the most impressive men are those that directly ask me if I will have dinner with them. If you have the courage to ask directly, I am definitely willing to give it a shot." She says to avoid general conversation starters as these only waste time and are akward. The confidence of a man ringing for the airhostess and asking her out to dinner is great!
1075381
he sounds kinda sketchy.  If you like him go out, but i'd let it play out before i had sex. He might be okay, or he might be a creep.  BUt you won't know unless you go out with him.  \n\nWell, unless you can tell he's a creep already.
287145
Kind of like Hithere mentioned, but more specific.  If you just ask to hang out with him sometime that won't do anything.  You're missing a specific date and time in there and what to do.  The guy is just going to be like "Sure, let's hang out sometime." and that's it.  So you have to have something specific in mind.  "Are you free this weekend?"  Yes or no answer.  "Would you like to go to... with me?"  Again, yes or no.  "Cool, what time can I pick you up?"
732745
Girlfriend: there're 2 scenario's! Number 1 is he's playing you. Now I know you don't wanna hear this, but keep an open mind! He's either met someone his own age (or younger) that might not 'intimidate' him as much, or he's just being stupid. Second scenario: he really digs you, but he's too shy/afraid/clueless as to how to tell you this. (Let's both hope for your sake this is the true reason for his being distant...) Either way, keep your chin up, and your head open. Don't go losing your heart to this guy just yet... Good luck!
92311
this guy i was dating: i was "Dangerously In Love" with him,but all he could think about was my "Humps", so "Hypothically" he said "Wait", i only have "4 Minutes" so baby let me tell you about my "One Wish",i said no because i dont want to hear from no "Scrub", and from someone who thinks hes a "Hustler". so to end this conversation i told him that im going to just "Shake It Off".......
870698
Sleazy would be:\n\n"Hey baby, whatcha doin tonight? Ohhh yeah! That's right! ME! so I'll bring the massage oils, you just bring your sexy lil' self and we'll see what happens...*wink* by the way, nice t.i.t.s!"\n\nConfident would be:\n\n"Excuse me, I was wondering, you wouldn't mind if I (sat here with you) (took you out to dinner) (bought you a drink) (etc)? I don't want to seem too forward, but you're very beautiful. If you don't want me to stay, just tell me to leave, and I wont ever bother you again."
1041418
I have been a guy since i can remember  and when a girl asked me out I always was very impressed that she was asking me and not me asking her .  For a guy just that is most of the battle Ask very directly like hello hey I would like to know if you would enjoy a nice dinner together or whatever you prefered be blunt with men we dont like the flimsy ones.
1092325
ASK HIM TO TAKE YOU HOME?