best way to deal with a ex wife that cant let you get  on with your life?
462749
First of all, I would ask if you have kept your committment to the terms of the divorce. If there are some specifics, then you could probably answer your own question.\nSecondly, just let her know you've moved on and if there are kids involved, plz consider them.
812078
Let her go. She's your ex. The only way she can get over you is to stop talking to you. It's just like quitting smoking. but there are drugs to aid this. Also she needs counseling.
409445
tell her at the last moment when there is no time left and say you are really sorry that she cant cant come and she should stay in touch
658545
I'm so sorry you had to hear that. There's really no clear way you can cope and deal with that. Is there no more possibily of a reconciliation or anything? If that's the case, then just let her go. It'll be hard, but I'm sure you wouldn't want to be a hindrance to her happiness.\n\nPray for strength and guidance and focus on your kids. Be strong for them. \n\nGoodluck.
1011807
My goodness what a sorted story but we hear about that all the time. Women who get accustom to living a certain way and when they see their chance to keep that way of life going they will step on anyone to keep it even their children\n\nI am very sorry to hear that and I know that it i hard to go after her because she is you mother. Actually I don't think their is anything you can do. The courts are aware that you are on your father will. They still awarded her the I will say shares anyway.  I think the best thing for you to do is talk to her about out now. You have to get it out in the open. Don't let it harbor inside of you. It will only make you more angry. \n\nAfter you speak to her about it depending on her response then make your mind up on how to move on from there\n\nGood Luck
249889
I would tell her that she deserves more than to cling to a relationship that's over. There are a lot of really great guys out there that would treat her as she deserves to be treated. Tell her you hate seeing her waste a single day of the wonderful life she could have, but that it's up to her to take that first step to put the past where it belongs...in the past.
506167
No 'nice' ways anymore.  Brutal (but sensitive) honesty time.\n1.  Admit your fault in the situation.  You shouldn't have started things up if you knew you were going to get back together with your wife.\n2.  Tell her your side.  Marriage is a commitment and you aren't the kind of person who wants to get divorced and trivialize that commitment so you're doing everything you can... etc, etc.\n3.  Compliment her by reminding her she can find someone much better.\n4.  Let her say how she feels and respond without getting defensive.\n5.  Under no circumstances are you to use her as a 'in case it doesn't work out' friend.  That isn't fair and it's not right.\nGood luck.
546842
Be a friend first! Let her heal from the bad marriage, it could take awhile, so be patient. It takes an INCREDIBLE man to get with a woman who's been hurt and now she's somewhat bitter. Dude, you'll have to really want this woman! Expect her to lash out quite a bit, and constantly compare you to the ex, also it will take quite some time before she trusts you not to hurt her. There are LOTS of women like this (I'm one of them), and every worthless piece of shit "player" that you know creates more women like this everyday, makes it that much harder for the nice guys (if there's any left.) Good Luck!
404703
You are probably not ready for a relationship right know, you have to heal first, and that takes a lot of time.  If you are strong enough, try telling yourself that this woman is not like the last, she deserves a chance.  It is not your fault your ex wife cheated she just took the easy way out instead of talking to you about whatever the problem was.  Don't run a potentially good woman away because of your LOSER ex-wife.  Good Luck.
927430
YOU NEED TO LET HER GO...~~SORRY ~~ SHE IS MARRIED. \nNEITHER OF YOU HAD THE RIGHT TO START SOMETHING LIKE THIS. JUST PUT YOURSELF IN HER HUSBANDS SHOES" YOU WOULD NOT WANT YOUR WIFE TO TREAT YOU THIS WAY ."\n I DON'T SEE HOW YOU CAN STAY FRIENDS EITHER WHEN FRIENDSHIP IS BASED ON TRUST AND RESPECT..\n\nIF SHE REALLY WANTS TO BE WITH YOU THEN SHE WILL FILE DIVORCE PAPERS AND GET RE-INVOLVED WITH YOU WHEN SHE GETS HER LIFE IN ORDER.\nWILL YOU BE ABLE TO TRUST EACH OTHER GIVEN THE FACT SHES A CHEATER AND YOU CROSSED OVER THE LINE????\n\nWHAT YOU NEED TO CALL THIS RELATIONSHIP IS OVER.... BEFORE MORE PEOPLE GET HURT.
1032090
I feel sorry for both you and your husband. Here is what I would do If I were in your situation:\n\nFirst of all you and your husband need to put up a united front. Once you set your rules and advise her of them, put your foot down.  If she chooses to disobey, then she must suffer the consequences, and if she calls the cops, have her bags packed ready and waiting by the door when they get there.\nAs for the ex, we all have to put up with them on behalf of the kids, but that does not mean that you hve to be a push over and let her destroy your marriage. Let her know where you stand.\nGood Luck.
649152
Express how disrespectful she has been and leave her alone.  It is evident that she is only doing this because she feels that you are so desperate to have her.  Don't answer her calls.  Ignore her advances and move on with your life.
138991
Well, I just left the guy that I was with.  At first I had a really hard time dealing with him.  He made my life miserable and he f'd up a lot of opportunities that I had.  I hated him so much, but I practiced a lot of restraint and didn't let my anger take over the situation because we had a child together.\nIt sucks that she is being so hateful toward you, especially since you have a child together and you'll always have to deal with each other.\nI do not know what happened between the two of you, but here is what I would suggest if you really want to help things smooth out between the two of you so that you can sucessfully co-parent together.  I would say:\nI am sorry for the things that happened between us, that things did not work out, and I respect that you have hard feelings and that you are angry with me.  I want to give you the space that you need to work through this and I will be willing to talk if you need to.\n\nThen from there, you really have to be willing to hear her out and don't interupt her when she tells you how she feels about you or what happened, don't try to justify anything, just let her vent.  It will help her to move on.  You guys are obviously not going to be friends anytime soon, but that's not the point, just make sure there is ample opportunity to discuss anything child related and leave it at that\n\nMost likely she is so mean because she is hurt that the relationship is ended. She resents you and with time it will hopefully get better, but unfortunatly there are women out there who never let it go and the best thing to do is to let them think they are right.  Remember, Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...\nJust be the best father you could be, your kid is all that really counts anymore.\nDon't let her drag you into arguements about anything because if things get nasty, anything you say could later be brought up against your nature if you go to court over custody.\nBe the better person.
945268
sit down with your girl friend and explain that your ex wife has realized that she still has feelings for you although you do not have feelings for her any longer... explain that you do not want to cause your exwife any more pain than she has all ready caused herself... tell her that you would respect her feelings in the same situation... ask her to be patient for a while longer\n\nyour girl friend is probably still very unsure of herself in this relationship even though you co habitate... do your best to re assure her of your affections\n\nif this problem persists you might also try sitting down with your ex wife and explaining that your girl friend is not happy with the situation and ask her if she will consent to one meeting... for a few minutes only\n\nyou are being pulled in two different directions by the women in your life... you seem to be handling the situation well...  trying to be considerate of both women's feelings... in this case one of your ladies will have to give... or you will have to take matters into your own hands and force one of them to back down... but be very careful if you choose to do that... you may cause hard feelings in someone
776709
dont jump the gun...  she obviously wants you back.. so play hard to get.. thats what SHE wants...   if she wanted to JUMP in to it then she wouldda said  oh baby i miss you you were the best..\n  as it stands,, it sounds like she does miss you and refrets whatever may have happened.. so be with her...  you need to make sure that whatever happened last time wont happen again...\n    it may just be a game... she knows that you love her and likes the attention...  so she will want  while its easy and convienient and as soon as ANYBODY comes along she will drop you.. \n   not saying that thats the case... but i am repeatedly going through that stupid shit with my ex wife... and because i love her and im stupid i keep letting her back in...  yup... dont be stupid like me man....  if  you think shes sincere then do it...    if you have the slightest hint shes playin ya... kick her ass to the curb before she hurts you again
441424
Wow, that person with the whole exes are like poison has some serious issues.  Trust me, I've never had an experiance like that in my life, so I think he's just a little bit out there.  Re-infected every time you talk to an ex?  WTF?  Can we say "can't move on"?\n\nI've been able to remain friends with many of my exes, but I think part of that is because most of my break ups were mutual.  I think that if you got dumped by her, it might be harder.\n\nI would suggest writing her a letter or email with whatever you want to say.  Tell her that you were really hurt when you broke up, and you just wanted to say that you've made your way through it and would like to see if a friendship between you would be possible.  Then the ball is in her court, if she doesn't respond, then don't push the issue further.  If she gives you a call or send you an email back, have coffee together and talk about what has been going on in your life since the break up.\n\nJust don't have coffee and re-hash the break up, I doubt your ex wants to do that and while it might make you think it will feel better, in reality it will probably just make both of you uncomfortable.  If you start feeling like a friendship is making you feel worse, then its not the right thing to be doing right now.\n\nWork on building a new friendship with an eye on the future, not on the past.
87880
Unfortunately, hon, there is nothing you can do  except stand beside both and be there to pick up the pieces and help them move on.  Try not to take sides, but stay neutral because they will both still be in your life.  Divorce is hard on all involved all the way around.  Sorry I couldn.t be of any other assistance.  May God Bless - Take care.