I feel like my marriage is doomed?
460197
I think that you should talk to him and ask him what is bothering him?. How long has he been accusing you of this?. Did something happen lately that made him start acting like that?. How long have you been married?. The first year it the toughest so hang in there and just try to be open and honest with him. communication is very important, i have been married for almost 19 years and i can tell you communication is very important
926906
Oh dear, maybe you are putting too much emphasis on your marriage. It seems that the new car smell has worn off. It sounds like you still love your husband, but you feel as though something is missing. It is, your life. Whatare you doing with yourself to decompress? Your mate and your child shouldn't be the only focus in life. Get a hobby. I mean that in the most genuine and caring way. Find a healthy form of exercising those mental muscles that will also boost your self esteem. And for goodness sake, do not get involved with another man, any kind of way. You have to realize that you are going thru a new chapter in your life, it is growing pains that you are having, just like when you were an adolescent. Keep the activity simple but very rewarding.Your blues will pass, but keep your personal activity.
1069181
try to focuse on ur home try to spend ur time in making the house cleaner try to make food decoriate ur house think that thier is no preson will care about u that mush expet ur husband try to have a baby thise will give the feeling that ur husband is every thing in ur live and good luck
903476
Marriage is a series of highs and lows.  You sound like you are at the low part.\n\nWhy don't you take the initiative and put a spark back into your marriage?  Do something unexpected.  Take a weekend trip together.  Do something to save your marriage before you get so bored that you start looking elsewhere.
663772
It sounds like you are very unhappy in your marriage. You need to find a lawyer. You have to be sure you are happy in this relationship - not just him. Good luck. I hope you find happiness.
150566
probably better to ask a marriage counselor : ) it could be lots of things, some which are "fixable", some which aren't.
1088074
Oh! Dear, mh!. You are suffering from a so-called “blindness of nature and reality”. The background of friendship lines and marriages, are far-far apart. You cannot feel the hotness of a liquid without a media. \n\nThe very same mistakes, many of us committed before we got married which result to an endless selectiveness efforts. You know why, many of us lied standardizes lines, that Our lovely ones must contains,  and get stuck if one least line misses. Hopeless thought.\n\nListen now, I assure you, that is a best husband for you. The inner of you confess it but surroundings doubts. Those surroundings disappear as the momentum of marriage life set to operate.  I suppose you close some tool monitoring your standards, co’se your mind-knowledge filled with blank entities you don’t fully defines them.\n\nI Evidently assured you that, People who are living together without an authorized marriage (no matter how long they are or how many kids they produce) , people who share a “hidden love”(day-night see you..bye.), and all the “fonicas” committers, all such groups knows nothing within authorized marriage. They define marriage as a fucking game. That is all.\n\nMarriage is a decree, principled from God, from there now, definitely you can get the divinity; 1+1=1\n\nContact me via  Bihagaze@yahoo.co.uk    for more
220052
sorry to hear you let it get that far, i'm sure you are too. normally, i would say talk to your mate. but in this instance i would have to say you need to figure out in your head and heart what you really want and get you priorities worked out. your children are the ones who would really suffer for your indiscretions. i'm sure that is not what you want. but if your husband finds out, i don't think he'll be very understanding or forgiving. i wouldn't. but if you wan to save your marriage, then i would focus entirely on my husband and my marriage and making him happy. kiss butt, in other words. secretly, of course. one day, if you feel your marriage is strong enough, then you can tell him. the only thing that is going to help is your conscience. honestly, you may learn a bigger lesson by having to carry this secret and not burden your husband with what you did. sorry.
682726
Maybe your're in the "I'm 30 depression".  If you're not happy in your marriage, get out of it.
1027468
lose my temper and doubt my spouse
546567
It is very clear that he has a short fuse. He doesnt handle responsibility at all and he feels like you dont do much. You should probably explain to him in a nice clear firm voice what you are feeling like and what you need from him and you may want to ask him if there is something that you are doing to make him act this way. To every action is a re-action. You both have to be willing to work at the relationship and you will always be working at it. All you can do is make sure you are doing everything you can to make him happy and make sure he really fully understands what your needs are from him. Then you go from there, if he doesnt listen to you and your doing everything he needs from you and he comtinues then you need to go to the next step which would be counseling. Basically if he is not willing to put forth any effort to make your life better and happier then you really do not have a marriage there. And then at that point you may want to play the hard role , if all else fails you can just act as though you dont need him. Start going and doing things on your own and with the kids and do everything else as far as the household but dont pay as much mind to him. ( Start moving on with your life) That may very well stop him in his tracks. Start doing to him what he does to you and if he really does love and care for you he will see it and just tell him "thats what you've been going through and you only done it to make him see it first person."
883294
Yes...I was married for 18 years and the last few years felt like this all the time OR didn't want to be at home when he was there.  As hard as it was I realized it was because we had outgrown each other and weren't making each other happy.  We have since separated and are living our own lives.  We are MUCH better off as friends then we were as a married couple.
1140626
I have only been married for 7 months now, my husband is 33 and I'm 23.  We have only had sex once since we've been married which was two weeks after our wedding day and it was terrible for my first time.  Since then my husband cannot kept an erection and I feel the marriage is not going to last.  He refuses to seek help about it and feels being in a sexless marriage is fine, but not for me.  I was so excited to be able to be with him that way, but my dreams are crushed.  Because of this we fight often, don't talk as much, and I don't even like sleeping in the bed with him.  Its hard being in this situation...for anyone.  You feel lonely, upset, unloved, and abused at times.  Its funny because most of the time this happens later down the road into a marriage but for me and many other young couples, it happens quite often now and days.  Yes, there are plenty of wives with this problem and it hurts, all you can do is pray and ask God for guidance.  Talk to your spouse about it and tell him how you feel, get counseling if you can, and turn to your good friends and family for advice and comfort.  I hope everything gets better for you and everyone else in this situation.\n\nTake care
603781
If you want to save your marriage, you both need to ask God\nfor help. He will be the only one who can fix it.
753245
Sounds like at least one of you is afraid of being left. Or maybe you don't want to hurt each other by making a commitment and then leaving, so you just refrain from making a commitment... and you practice leaving.  Girl, you should only practice what you want to be good at !\n\nIn many parts of the world marriages are arranged. In other words, the sex is the first part of the relationship, and over time the couple can learn to know & love each other. \n\nI left my family & moved from New England to Minnesota, where my husband's family all live. It was a couple years of culture shock, but we're still together after almost 23 years of marriage.\n\nDo you trust him? Are you willing to trust ANYone?  If he changes, will you stay with him? (like, loss of health, financial worries causing depression, etc)... in my experience, Air Force fellows are top quality. Yes, the military changes a person -- military people  have been forcibly changed, so they can do their jobs & survive; that's not a bad thing, it's just a factor to consider.\nMotherhood changes a person, too.  Not all changes are permanent, but they're not all predictable either. That's where the trust comes in. Trust isn't a feeling; it's a decision.\n\nHe might have a need to be "at home" (in his case, it's Ohio); home is, by definition, where we feel safe.  Can you make your home somewhere other than Washington? I did. I used to live in rural Tacoma. I know how beautiful it is there. But family circumstances required I move, and I learned to appreciate New England. It took me 2 years, but I did it.\n\nMy recommendation? Meet his family.  (Wonderful guys usually come from nice families, so I bet they're nice). And marry him.
71084
well, i he loves you then make him work for you. you are obviously a good wife cause you still stay by his side, but that only means you deserve the best. tell him how you feel. if all gets worse then you should think about talking to God. He cares for you and your child. if you ever need more advice feel free to email me. i hope all turns out well.
696397
Oh, don't you just love being a woman!  As women, we tend to always want to mend anything, regardless of how much it's hurts us in the past.  My advice to "put the spark back into your marriage" would be to start doing absolutely NEW things together.  This way, you begin creating new memories that will hopefully be pleasing to you.  Then, these new memories can start to fade away the old negative ones and give you more of a sense of hope.  Also, if you believe in the Lord, pray about it.  Satan's best way to destroy you is to start in your home by separating the family.  He attempts to destroy that first, then begins working on you individually.