why are exwife so hard to get along with?
463872
I honestly don't believe all ex's men or women are hard to get along with. Probably like the marriage gone bad so has the trust and respect...C
537986
yikes!!!  lol pisces can't get along with anyone
1106675
I watched another woman and my (ex) husband break up my marriage. She tried to control and manipulate my kids, as well as my in-laws. After our divorce,they got married. As the years went by, my kids began to hate their step mother, and realized what I had said about their step mother were true. I ran into my ex-husbands wife after she went on vacation (without my ex). She told me that she wished she hadn't have came back, and also wished she never married my ex. From what my kids say, my ex is miserable with his wife. They've been married for 18 yrs. He won't divorce her 'cuz he knows she'll take him for everything he's got. She's told the kids that if she divorces their dad, she'll take him for everything he has.  Karma is a wonderful thing!
126779
Because they know they are inferior to us.\n\nUnderstand that if he is this way now, he will be this way when married, do you really want to have to deal with someone like that?
678780
Honestly what do you expect?  I mean it is your BEST FRIEND'S EX.  Even if she says she's cool about, deep down inside she might not be.  Why don't you ASK her why she keeps bashing your man.  She could be jealous, or she could be telling the truth about how he really acts.  I have two friends who are MARRIED to my ex's, and I'm completely fine with it.  I never knock their hubbies or anything. Of course both of their hubbies are good guys, and I dumped them.
864624
Happiness in step families depends on a lot of things. The exes involved. How well you get along with them. Whether the children are willing to accept you. Sometimes kids hate you for no reason other than the fact that you married their mom or dad, and they already have a mom or dad & do not want you trying to take their place or tell them what to do.\nI could write pages about my own personal experience. But I will keep it short & just say that I didn't get along well with my stepmom 30 years ago, but now I am almost as close to her as I am my real mom. It takes time for things to settle & work out. It takes time for the kids to mature and everyone to figure out exactly what their role is. Kids eventually figure out that nobody is trying to take their real parent's place, and that when a step parent tries to tell them what to do it really is for their own good.\nBut, it can be difficult before you get to that point. It's how you handle things that determines whether or not you will ever be close & have a good relationship.
257483
The only thing I can tell you is to stay away from this chick. she still has feelings for your husband and is using any means she can to try to cause trouble. she is the immature one carrying on like that. I understand if you're trying to respect her because she has your husband's kid. you don't have to deal with her just ignore her and don't let anything she say or do get you upset it's expected behavior of a jealous childish person.
992602
why? they're the most difficult people on the planet..
1099557
Be nice to her, but you don't have to be friends.\nHer Ex is YOUR husband and not hers anymore.\nWhy is she still hanging around?\nShe is intruding on on your marriage.\nKeep her at a distance and ask your husband\nwhy he still needs her?\nBe civil and polite but do not make her to comfortable\nin your` life.\nThe things she said to you and about you to others\nare still in her head. Even if she has apologized, she \nshould get her own life and let the two of get on with yours.
182785
It will never get better that is for sure. You have to ask yourself are you wanting a life with someone who has no respect for you. This child is going through a lot with her parents going through a divorce and than in steps another woman..no wonder the child acts the way she does and no it is not normal for most but remember what she is going through....Cejay
465245
I'm not sure why she'd do this, but without judgement, she probably can't cope and has probably been feeling this way for a long time. People don't recognise that some women can have post natal for a very long time too, not just in infancy stage. Don't blame, if she does call it's good, and don't reprimand her either for leaving. She may be too confused to answer any question's, and if she wants to come back then allow her to talk. I'm sure there are other maritible problems as well. Maybe you two need to talk without the kids, in a neutral place about things and then go from there, if she's willing, and you haven't lost contact with her. Just remember she may feel she's doing this to so she won't hurt you and the children from her own negative behaviour.
1159976
My ex-wife does the same,but she quit once I moved out of state. But she still uses the kids against me. My parents did the same to each other,that's why I don't do it to my kids. I guess what I am trying to say is you cant control what they do only what you do. Good Luck
795557
Yes, just not with my ex wife.
1042247
Women are catty, hun  It's not about you.  Its about the *competition* thing.  You could be a hairy smelly hobbit...  your wife could be Jabba the hut....  it wouldn't matter in the least.  Your ex's reaction would be the same.\n\nThe actual sad truth is that a woman need not have ever met your wife in order to consider her the *opposing* team. All it takes, is for you to paint a super model/saint like image of your wife in a woman's mind. That is sometimes enough to unwittingly start a competition. I have personally, on several occasions throughout my life, found myself being verbally attacked by women I hardly knew because men who were never *boyfriends* but were close friends to me referred to me in kind or flattering terms to other women. Within the last few years, when ever that has happened, and it has happened a lot, the first thing I do is call my male friends and ask them *Who is this woman and why did you tell her about me?* \n\nWhen you got married, you became a challenge.  Get used to it.  I tell all my male friends, "If you wanna pick up chicks for quickie one-nighters... get a wallet-sized  photo of a gorgeous woman... put it in your wallet.  Take it to a club with you.. show it around and tell other women that it's your wife and you are madly in love and would never cheat because your wife is "Different and special"...  Women will be clawing eachother's eyes out for a chance to try to be the *one* who could make you change your mind.\n\nYour ex isn't reacting to jealousy.. she is reacting to a feeling that your wife somehow won something she couldnt win.  Looks like she doesn't understand that the game is over... she's still playing.
177622
The game playing has to STOP!! The two of you need to sit down together and talk without yelling just talk about everything and then try and decide what is the best for the both of you! It a serious matter you have a child involved and need to figure it out but please don't get back together just because you have a daughter because if you and your ex wife aren't happy its going to cause alot of problems and its going to be a real bad environment for everyone! My closet friend is going through this right now I have so many friends that are in the same situation, You have to remember that you as a person deserves to be happy! You and your ex need to work it out so you can see your daughter more no matter what happens because she is the most important person RIGHT NOW!!! You can always try counseling maybe you and your ex could go work together not against each other! GOOD LUCK i hope that i helped
496741
It seems that your mother in law is lonely.  She must not have anyone else to confide in.  Although this is a burden you shouldn't have to carry, her talking with you alone is helping her.  Examine the problem you had with her before.  The ex's must have allowed her to have this behavior.  Which is why she kept up with them, not for his benefit, but hers.  Another female to confide in, to sympathize with her.  Does she have any of her own daughters?  Maybe she feels she should be able to be close with you as she sees you as her daughter.  She could feel comfortable talking with you because she trusts and respects your opinions.  Being dogged and treated like crap by your husband truly affects who you are.  You question yourself, your existance, your will to go on.  You eventually lose who you are.  All the while clinching to anything for your sanity.  You must decide how you want to handle this.  Do you want to shrug her off and continue to hold your grudge on what she did to you.  Or choose to forgive her and open your heart to her.  It's your choice.
866558
It sounds like you are separated and she is an ex, so that part is good .. .\n\nNow you have your anger to deal with . . .\n\nTry seeing a counselor for a few sessions . . .it might help you clear out some of those emotions, and you will be ready for a new relationship sooner . . .