I get challenged by males all day. ..why would I want to feel challenged when I am with you?
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Because I trust you and you're unsure of what might happen if you break that trust.
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I am assuming that you have male friends...and curious if they detect a bit of an uncomfortable vibe from you when you are around...maybe you being uneasy puts off some sort of signal that causes everyone else to be uneasy also...just don't try to hard maybe that's the problem...sometimes over doing the masculine thing causes doubt in everyone...just be yourself...true friends care about you for you...
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Because the man wants to keep you down !\n\n...not really, it's because they want to create a "well rounded person"...which appears to take some time.
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Maybe what she means is a man who has a mind of his own, is opiniated, can take her personality and thus she assumes or has met guys who couldn't take her personality or her intensity, thus she wants a man who can "challenge" her, make her work for it, make her feel like she is making an effort to win his affection or to be good friends with him?\n\nPerhaps she's looking for a man who is self-disciplined and 'challenging', someone strong-minded, someone whom she feels is her equal, thus like a challenge because she's met many weak-minded men?\nThere are many reasons, but if she meant not sexually these are some I can come up with.
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i sometimes feel this way. i don't feel like I am that shy of a person, but I guess other people think I am very shy. and then when boys I like tell me to be myself and say what I want, I get flustered and say things like "i don't know" even though I have a full journal of stuff I would love to tell them. I don't know why it is so hard for me to speak up in certain social situations. I have things to say, and sometimes I start talking, but then like you said, the more aggressive/louder person takes the conversation over. I guess you and I both just have to try harder to speak our minds and not think so much about what other people will think. Easier said than done though... I hate being shy and I don't know how to get rid of it. and it certainly causes problems in meeting men. so u aren't the only one out there with this issue
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That would make anyone feel insecure.When you get involved in a relationship its very difficult to maintain friendships with people of the same sex because it causes allot of tension even amongst friends.If you feel uncomfortable about it,try talking with him,if he is serious about you he will probably scale back on contacting them or involve you in the friendship.Listen to your inner gut.
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Unfortunately, many people have the problem of taking out our frustrations with the closest one to us. Speaking as a man we tend to have that problem alot. try not to take it personally if you really ha vent done anything to deserve that kind of treatment. Try and be patient with him and find the root of his frustration. Men like to be confident in knowing that his woman fully has his back, trust me with that confidence we feel as though we can take on the world. Without it we feel like were failures and start looking at our self and our problems with no hope insight. And never let a problem slide no matter how big or small it is.
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It wouldn't be a good idea to do the same, because that would escalate the issue.\n\nAsk him why, talk to him. Tell him how it makes you feel. Maybe he's just doing it to get your attention. Who knows? He's the only one to give you the correct answer.
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I am glad you asked this question and I am sorry that you are dealing with this.  Being a male myself and dealing with pressures of life I know what he is going through.\n\nThis is men are:\nwe are defined by what we do for example I don't introduce myself as man who does nursing I say that I am a nurse.\n\nwe feel that we need to be the providers, go out and support ourselves and our family.\n\nwe want to feel loved and accepted.  Here is where we sometimes get confused.  We want your love, but sometimes don't know how to say it because we don't want to be vulnerable.\n\nI am afraid that the best answer for this is the very one you don't want to here.  You can try the ultimatum, but I am almost certain he will choose the alternative because he confused right now.  He has a lot to think about and maybe right at this time he really needs a friend.
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i think its because we are all afraid of rejection or being used.as a woman i feel like it would be desperate of me to chase a guy , and my guy friends make jokes about girls who moon over them , even if she is just extra nice when they are around.
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Nothing may be wrong.  Guys can be insecure and this can be manifested in withdrawal (sadly, I've done it).
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AMEN SISTER!!i felt the same way just give it a break and im tellin you when you do thats when you least expect it.maybe your trying to hard that was my problem, i just didnt want to be alone but sometimes it is worth waiting.it is good that you have noticed some guys will just say what they think you want to hear! the fake ones, and there are lots of them.good luck dont give up!!!
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I guess a bunch of guy are into you! Same thing has happened to me too! And ya it's probably normal! Have fun!
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I am sorry for you because you are confused...You see the Lord warns us that men will lose their place in the world...And that their will come Aday when men want even no that they are men and woman will not no that they are woman....We are in those days....This is just how I fill I am not speaking for no one but myself...A sex demon is one of the worst demons to fight because it wee kens you so that you give into what it is you are seeing...you have to fight it and not give into it you are week..Get strong....Don't trust no one because you have to seek the Lord own your own...Call own Him for help you owe this to your self...Confess these feelings to the Lord you and Him one own one and Have Him to guide you through this trial and tribulation....It is called temptation.....By an unGodly Demon if it is wrong it is not of God....What goes around always comes around...How dose your Father Fill about this It would blow my mind for one of children to be facing what it is you are facing....Learn to fight it Call some one you can trust in a Church and Have them help you learn about Fighting the demon that you are up against...God bless you in your Journey...And may the Lords light shine own you ....And for you to see that this is something just to slow you down and keep you from becoming all that you were meant to bee...God bless The U.S.A. and all.....
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Some men just think if they express themselves they seem week. We think a woman admires us for our strength and back in the old days it was true that if a man showed fear or sadness or even that he was in love, then he wasn't a "man". It's in our nature to hide any softness. Only women were soft. But some of us have realized, though, that women are more independent now and don't need so much "protection". It's just in our nature to to be strong and silent, though in some cases it's for homophobic reasons. Some men just need to be assured that expressing feelings is not a weakness but that it shows they are comfortable themselves and their mate. Let him know that if he expresses himself to you privately that he doesn't have to be so open when company is around. Trust me, it's not just you he may be protecting himself from. If he's been hurt in the past it could take a long time to open up. Just don't over do it by forcing him. Some men just feel more comfortable keeping it inside, but you have your needs too so don't give up. Hope I could help.
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This is a reality "WAKE UP CALL" : You do not need a man to validate whom you are, because if you do, then you really do not know whom you are at all. This is a trying and difficult situation, to feel lonely, but this too shall pass. First thing is to be selective about the guy you are interested in, don't just go for the hard body with the great face and bad boy attitude{ these guys are good in the sack and little else}, try to find a guy you have a bit in common with, this will make you happier in the long run. The kindest thing you can for yourself is to not be so desperate, it is like blood in the water, you do not want to cause a feeding frenzy among the sharks and you my dear are the bait.
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Is it normal...hummm..yes, for a guy to ask. People get to a point where they want to experiment or try something they "heard" is new or exciting. However, if you feel uncomfortable or your "womanly" sixth sense is alerting you to something, then I would becareful and listen to it. \n\nAlso, talk to him and let him know your feelings and what are your concerns. You will know by his reaction whether you two are on the same page or feel the same way.  If this is something you are not ready for or would NOT ever do, then stay true to yourself. There ARE men out there that have outgrown this need or feel differently as they mature. Just my $0.02.