Why do men publically admire thin women, but date heavy women secretly?
467027
Men are funny creatures and our society has accepted guidlines that either subject them to being a part of a group or ridiculed for their actions. Skinny or well shaped women are just like muscle men with a tan, they are pleasant to look at.  Men date heavier women when they meet them face to face and figure out they are people too and the perosonality and other qualities are redeeming.
393437
Well I am 33 and if I weren't already married to a wonderful women, particularly one that fits almost your description to a tee, you're the type I would definitely be interested in. \n\nI never liked overly-skinny girls when I was dating. I found them to be shallow, evacuous and bitchy. Probably because they we're always hungry, lol. I also found that women who had larger features such as the ones you described were more kind and nurturing, loving and very giving in a variety of ways. \n\nContrary to popular belief, large breasts aren't just good for the sexual function, but also for child rearing, and in art history, particularly in the renaissance period, larger breasted women and larger women in general were considered more beautiful and to be a work of art. They give you a richness and texture of soul that thinner and smaller breasted women don't tend to have. Plus thee's a certain nuance or character found in a slightly larger women as compared to smaller women all around. \n\nThat being said, respect yourself and your body and do your best to keep yourself in good shape, for you and your partner. It will have lasting benefits in the long run. \n\nI hope this helps out out a little.
528972
OKay..I'm a little person. But I'm going to have to say, I'm jealous of some big gals. My breast will never be as big and my hips won't budge! lol\n\nI have some big gal friends and they get plenty of play. Men love the curves! So 'fat girls' get plenty of men......it's all attitude!
697870
I think sometimes it can be difficult for people who carry some more weight than you to understand why you are thinner. There seems to be a lot of tasty food around now so mabye some just don't understand this. I suppose it comes down to a kind of jealousy thing.
975492
You are using negative terms to describe your own body. "Fat" and "overweight" are not part of a good body image. Until you learn to love your curves and except them for what they are no one else will find you attractive. \n\nA high self esteem is one of the sexiest things that anyone can have, and if you got that then, then sweetie it doesn't matter how much you weigh someone will want to love every little inch of you!\n\nSo keep your chin up ok, there are a lot of men out there who would rather date a wonderful person, even if she is on the heavier side, then some stick model with no passion or humour.
213666
Why don't you just ask him out.  If he really likes you, he's not going to obsess about you being bigger.  At least I think you were trying to spell obese, I'm not sure.  I started to really develop an attraction to this one woman who is a little on the heavier side.  You know what I liked about her?  She has a lot of confidence and can charm the pants off of you.  It didn't work out, but it didn't have anything to do with her being a little overweight.  I could care less about that.  It didn't work out because she must not like me that much as I tried calling her and she never called me back.
1133288
First sweetie you must love yourself and when a man/boy see how you carry yourself with confidence and arrogance they usually come looking for you. Do you know that there are so many boys/men that love thick, Heavy set women.
73162
Most men are considering their personalities instead of the weight.  You can not judge a book by its cover, so why judge a person by their weight.
411185
They're just feeling insecure because standing next to you it would be even more apparent THEY don't work out. Most men wouldn't want a woman who is stronger than them or earns more than them or has a better career. We've got to be very subtle about these things lest we offend their fragile ego!
356601
Personally I like a woman that is thicker. However some women are just to overweight. The problem is not men its the way that the magizines and TV have programmed everyone into thinking that an attractive woman has to have a figure like a pencil which I find revolting. There are men out there for everyone you just have to find him. Set your standards and never settle and you will have a great guy.
411005
In my experience, I have known several men who prefer bigger girls.  They say there is more to love, more to hold and that sort of thing.  From what I have seen the woman has to take care of herself and have a bit of confidence.  If a girl loves herself and shows it then guys will be attracted not only to her but that confidence as well.
1145923
it just seems to be society and instinct i guess. bigger men can be seen as strong and virile, bigger women are seen as lazy and unfit... i dont get it either but its the way of our world at the moment in many places. it used to be acceptable for women to be bigger and curvier - just look at old paintings! lots of those women had big thighs and flabby tummies - i believe it was associated with childbirth and being more of a woman after you have given birth. now people in many countries seem to want to see very very thin women with tiny waists. but its not the same everywhere, many cultures still see a larger woman as being more attractive.\n\nps ive often wondered why i cant create a larger frame for my yahoo avatar that more reflects what i actually look like? just another symptom of the way society portrays people. i believe that it used to have a larger frame for the male avatars did it not? not sure if its still there but i thought i saw one with a chubby belly.. but didnt see bigger ones for the gals... thats just something i wondered about ;)
1020070
I'm a middle-aged white guy and I've always preferred my women\n"thick". Preferably short & thick! (I'm 6'1") Race irrelevant but I do have a weakness for Latin, Asian & Meditteranean ladies. Only dated two "skinny" girls in my entire adult life but both were quite\nexceptional, in addition to being the exception to the rule!
42716
I'm a guy, and I like thick girls. Of course, that's just my preferred body type. It's not all I look for.
385217
I don't like skinny lanky men too much, I tend to date taller bigger guys.  Just personal preference is all.\n\nAnd no they don't intimidate me, hahaha!
472283
because plus size woman are confident on how they really looks like. they dont have to throw up every time they eat to loose some weight to please there man. they are confident enough knowing that they are beautifull as god created them.
584804
The world is has alot of haters and men will always love a skinny women before a thick one which sux for them,cause but doing that you can never find the good and beatiful qualities ever women has.