i`m in love a friend for about 2 years now..prolly will for ever, he loves me 2, what do i do. 2 scared?
457475
just go for it, you cant spend the rest of life thinking "what would happen if..........."\n\nit might work, it might not work, life sux sometimes, but it keeps on, keeping on.......
970802
Have you just asked him.  Ask him how he feels for you than ask how he feels about her.  Then ask if he had to choose who would it be.  if he says he don't know than maybe you should get some space but don't disappear.  If you can't handle his feeling for her than you should give ur self some time. Don't be with a man who loves someone else.  but if he tells you his feeling for you are stronger than his feeling for her than you stay and fight for him.  He seems honest considering he let you both know about each other, so I think he'll be honest about his feelings for the both of you.  You Know, even when people love each other they do grow apart and even though they have nine years he may not be the same man and may actually be the one for you now.
1181262
yes, I have and honestly unless if he shows some interest of being more than just your friends. If he dont leave it alone, you always fall in love more then once and men come a dime a dozen,,you will get over it.. I am sure that if he does not feel the same and he tells you , you are going to get hurt and ur friendship will never be the same and if you and him do something that may lead you to think that he loves and really he dont then you may mess up ur friendship, and im sure that you rather have him as a friend then not have him at all..just move on and find someone else. Trust me it really isnt that hard, though i am sure that you think it is. but i have been there b4 and i thought that i would never love again,,and boy was i oh so wrong.
353794
Go tell him that you love him.. and that you will do anything for him!! Not speaking through experience though..
328110
Listen to your heart. Give him a chance & give you a chance also. If you keep being afraid as now, you could never be in love again. But does he really love you?
263191
In a situation like this, you can't go by what your friend says. You have to go by his actions. Ask him how he feels about you. If he doesn't love you don't waste your time. If he says he does, tell him he needs to start acting like it. Actions speak louder than words! Life is too short to waste your time on being in love with someone that's not in love with you. Don't stick around thinking you can change thier mind. You will only get hurt in the long run. Trust me, I know because I've tried.
681693
well first of all u need to be honest with him. tell him that ur friendship means a lot and u do not wish to ruin it or put him in a compromiseing situation but u have to let him know how u feel and ask how he feels, assure him that u'll respect his decission and if things work out in ur favour work to make it last and if it don't move on be happy for him and try to find ur own happiness.\nhope u get what ur heart desires
1129393
You need to drop him why would you wait for someone to decide to pick you. That is so sad. You sound really young to be tossing the word love around. I suggest you talk to your friend and let her know that he's telling both of you the same thing. Both of you should move on, you deserve better than that.
949913
that's kinda tough.. you need to decide wether you want to stay friends or take it to the next step. If anything happens between you two in the future your friendship will be over. Is that what you want? just think how long you two have been friends, do you really wanna give all that up? Just think about it before you make a move. biggest thing would be to be honest with each other.
506303
Well it seems 2 me that both of them really like you, the second one more than the first. In fact from what you have said about both of them i wud say that this second guy may just be in love with you but may be scared that you dont feel the same way. Talk to them both and see where you stand. Be careful though because if im right... then youre goin to have a choice to make
145790
Dear Nanis,it would seem your friend is suffering from love lost in the past,or making an excuse to not get close to you.Love is an outgoing concern for the one loved GREATER than concern for self.And it is unfair of him to judge YOU as if you are going to hurt him too! In the meantime,still talk with him,be kind to him,and listen to him IF he returns the same thing.Otherwise it was not meant to be.I loved a girl once,and kept after her a whole year--but she simply did not love me.So decide with your HEAD what is best...the heart is a very deceptive emotional organ...you have to see 5 to 10 years down the road--guard your heart--YOU are worth loving,not being kept at arm's lentgh.
571599
If it feels so right, nothing will scare you, you will have a connection that you will both feel. The problem is whether you both will be prepared to admit to them. And if one of you 'is' scared off, it simply wasn't meant to be. Trust your heart, its a very useful tool.
905069
Oh tough one. No wonder you are in a state of confusion.  If he is a close friend of yours anyway have you thought about suggesting outings and activities that are just for the 2 of you rather than with a group of friends. Spending more time alone with him should help you to gauge how he feels. He could be feeling exactly the same as you are and equally scared to say anything. Be patient. If you are meant to be together it will happen in the end but don't expect him to pick up on hints. In my experience men are remarkable dim in that department.\n\nGood luck.
962850
to me it sounds like you are both scared to move on... you must move on, there is no trust and a lot of telling the other one what to do..........
302684
Honey, I know it is hard, but just let him go if it is not meant to be it won't be.  And you can't expect to remain friends with him at least not at this point when it is so fresh in your mind.  Just stop and  my best advise is stay busy  busy busy  .  Did you ever here the old saying if you love someone set them free.?????  Set him free if it's meant to be it will all work out   Good Luck and Have Faith
1079370
So you know each other for 2 years..I think it a quite a bit of time in which you might have known each other.\n\nIt is very natural that best buddies often think of next higher level.You also told that he openly confessed he likes you.Now make sure that you also have the same feeling before you go ahead because you said 'I think I like my friend'. Make sure that "I think I like my friend" becomes "I like my friend".\n\nIt is wonderful to be in relationship with someone you know for a long time.\n\nAll the best!
193763
lose him, you will be better off. a real friend will never take you for granted. good luck