Why do we choose to stay where we are for our childrens sake?
461678
If you are staying in a relationship for your children, you are making a big mistake! I did the same thing and have regretted it since! When I left my ex-husband, it took awhile, but eventually my children were much happier. He can still be a part of their lives. Make yourself happy and your children will be happy!\nHave you ever heard the saying, "if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!" It is very true!
1004900
of course is better to stay at home, i ve worked all my life and was so tough, thanks God i married a good man and i dont have to work anymore, i stay in the peace of my home with my son and my husband that is a real blessing.
495573
They want our money and our jobs. Then they like to go home, and have the money that they got here, because they can be rich at home if they do menial tasks here and save up money for a few years.
680654
Actually I became a parent in my late 20's but I will give up anything and everything I want and sometimes what I need to give my children what they need and deserve.  I have also given up any and all extra time I used to have to myself to go back to school and further my education to be able to continue to give them the life they deserve and the education they deserve.  It's all part of being a parent, wouldn't trade it for the world and I wouldn't really consider it a sacrifice either. :)
1073821
can't give children too much cause then they just want more. i think it's good to give your child a sense of freedom and allow them to do certain things on their own but there come a time when they need a parent not a friend.
338072
I agree 100% with you and went through this when I stayed at home with my two children. It seemed like every time people asked me what my occupation was, and I answered a stay at home mother, they would look at me funny or laugh and say "That's not an occupation!" Uhm...yea it is, do you think that your clothes wash, dry and fold themselves? Do you think that your children learn morals and etiquette from daycare or society? Is your food not on the table and the house clean when you come home? That was usually my response.\n\nI really got nicked when I began college four years after staying at home. I was challenged by every professor I had. They would taunt me about being a few minutes late or asking to leave early. We have other things to do as well as take care of our self...we have children.\n\nBut you know what? It's all worth it in the end because we get to laugh at the parents in the store when their child is having a fit on the ground (because our children are taught discipline) and we get to see our children do the best they can all the time because we instilled this in them!\n\nIt gets better! Good choice in staying at home and making your children the best they can be!
617542
Because you have kids!  The purpose of a child, I've decided, is to give the parents non-stop attention for the first 5 years of life. Then, after that, the purpose is to try to get away with as much as possible and hope the parents don't find out.\n\nThe parent have privacy? And be alone and able to think? Forget it whenever the kids are in the house.\n\nThe good parts of parenting are all the hugs and kisses, interesting conversations, and watching a child grow and learn. But to have your own time?  You have to squeeze it in, here and there!
194210
I would much rather have control over what happens to me - why let someone else's "perspective" make you do things that probably won't work for *you,* right?\n\nIf I had children, I would make sure I stress maintaining that ability I've provided them: to think for themselves.
883835
Ive got the same problem with my -- 'out-laws' But luckily for me they are going abroad this year so we are safe. Next year might be different though cos we've had some turbulent times and I dont think I will ever feel the same about them again.\n\nI would try and keep it nice for the children we have but if it weren't for them I wouldn't be bothering.
1122691
Great point, but the question should be why are you still hanging on to these blighters? Why dont you give them Independence and let them sink of float on their own, and worry about your problems?
272144
I feel the only good reason for a divorce is for the welfare of the children.  Too many people stay together FOR the kids and they r the ones who suffer.  Sooooo divorce FOR the childrens sake!
10948
You are not choosing to leave them, you are choosing to be somewhere that you will be happier.  Find a place that has cheap flight home for them to visit you and you to visit them.
557165
I, like most, have a few regrets about decisions that I made in the past but when it comes down to it I wouldn't be the same person had I not made some of those choices.\n\nI think one of the best steps, if you'll call it that, is actually staying home to raise my children.  My professional career and my education is important to me, but those things will still be available to me after my kids are in school.  I think too often parents are concerned about their own careers, ect that they miss the important things by not staying home with their children
286962
Because they expect their children to be the best they can be.  They are trying to teach you how to survive in this world.
54040
Stay where you are, why should you leave your current love for a past love?
1178017
I choose to go back to work (I have 3 kids youngest is 4 months) only because my kids need to interact with other kids and I need to keep my sanity!! I feel that it is great if someone wants to stay home with their kids...but we mom's need a break too!!
330194
It used to be neighborhoods had people that were home all day. Kids had a bit more freedom because no matter where you were someones mom probably saw you. \nPeople now are much more concerned about what they own and how they will get it, we think we have more needs and are always trying to keep up with the standard we see in the media. We are a society of image rather than relationships. We preach tolerance and we judge appearances.\nWe move too fast and seem to think treating each other in insulting ways in comedic. \nPeople demand respect but seldom give it. We judge fast and forgive slowly.