if i moved in with my boyfriend do you think it will make a bad impression?
461712
I'm going on the assumption that by " bad impression" you are talking about it being a bad impression on your boyfriend and/or those around you. Your relationship will change once you live together, no matter what! It doesn't matter how long you have known the guy or how close you are. If for no other reason than no one can act 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. In other words, you will see all of the habits (does anyone notice the GOOD habits? I think not) he has been hiding from you...including porn etc. Regarding the bad impression: I wouldn't worry about what impression you are making as long as you go into the situation with open eyes and a good escape plan. Good luck!
1072600
An open mind is always good to have - that doesn't mean you can't make up your mind, even if it is open.  Several questions you have to answer for yourself - do you want to move back to where you came from ?  With or without him ?  How important is it to you for him to consult you on major decisons ?  (You know, like moving, not moving, having someone move in to the apartment.....blah, blah, blah.)  \n\nApparently you are still moving - the lease is up.  Are you moving back home or just to another place ?  Were it I moving, I'd probably move to wherever I wanted to be - leave the guy behind.  Bottom line advice is that you can easily make up your mind that he has treated you badly.  (Disrespected is such a slacker term......)  He does not, however, have much respect for you.  And you need to have more respect for yourself.  You pay half the rent, you have a full say in what goes on in the apartment - and who comes in.  If the cousin was going to pick up 1/3 of rent - well, that might be another story BUT you still should have been consultd.  Now then, if he has treated you badly (not only in brining in the cousin without consulting you but deciding not to move back with you when that was the plan) then he is showing you how he will always treat you.\n\nHe may love you to the best of his ability - but if he does then his ability to do so falls far short of what you deserve.  Move out to your own little place with only enough room for yourself or move back to the place from whence you came.  If it breaks the relationship, then it was broken before you took that step.  If he shapes up and learns how to treat you better, then you have taken two steps back and one step forward.  Either way, you would be a winner.
449675
Its probably a temporary move foe modelling, right?  I would take it.  You will always wonder what if, if you don't.  Also it will be a true test of your relationship if you can survive being apart.
622504
well, I'm hoping that your relationship does work out. I'm in the same situation, but my bf is a year older that yours. We are talking about moving in together after I graduate next year, and the talking has already started. I believe that if both of you are willing to work on it, then there is no reason that your relationship will fail. Good luck.
204326
If your living with the guy then it is a little bit tasteless on his part to bring home these things.\nI dont think your being jealous, I think your being a normal woman that feels that way when their man is checking that crap out.
519356
If you can't have enough confidence in him to live with the guy, then don't live with him, cause the suspicion will never go away.  If you are going to live with him, then forget about it.\n\nClues: Lipstick in shirt, Pipi bitten, hickeys, strange number in cell phone, strange call, strange odor, strange or unknown cologne or perfume, too many late nights at the job, too few sexual encounters with you, locks the bathroom door, new clothes without following the standard pattern, unexpected office trips, soiled shirts and underwear, sudden health checkups, change in breakfast favorites, suddenly joining a gym, playing too much golf, going to a convention.
121163
DON'T MOVE IN WITH HIM!!!  I am working on becoming a social worker.  You don'w know how bad it is for a relationship when the couple lives together.  Only 5% of the couples that live together before marriage actually make it to the wedding day.  If you want a serious relationship, don't move in with her.
949537
My guess that he finds you attractive. Nothing too wrong with that I guess, but that is where it should stop. don't give him any wrong ideas by flirting or anything. Hopefully things will not change and make you feel more uncomfortable, if they do then maybe it is time you stop seeing you b/f at his house and meet at yours instead.
334722
My dear . . . it is normal . . . especially when you were in a situation where you were sharing expenses with someone else . . . to assuming responsibilities for your own action.\n\nYou are doing the correct thing . . . I wished you would have done that in the beginning . . . instead of moving in with a boyfriend.  I believe because of that . . . you were hooked into a tied circle . . . where you had no freedom.\n\nNow you will be free . . . to make your own choices in life.  Seize them . . . treasure them.\n\nMany people and couples live from paycheck to paycheck . . . it is normal and scary at times.  Check to see if you could find a roommate . . . to share the apartment with you.  Split the cost . . . of your living expenses.  That may give you a little breathing room . . . but make sure you get a written agreement with them to take care of certain responsibilities . . . in case you have to take legal action.\n\nYou can do it . . . I believe in you . . . I trust in you . . . it will be hard . . . but you are strong.
450218
I would probably give it a bit more time.  Your still in that honeymoon stage where you haven't gotten to know each others bad habits all that well yet.  When you move in together then you have to live with those bad habits plus you have the added pressure of dealing with all the finances and living expectations that go with it.
380894
i dont think you should have moved in with him. im guessing the only reason you moved in with him was because you thought that if you moved in with him it just might work but really its making you feel bad because you still like him and he has obviously moved on. what i think you should do is do the same thing he is doing act as if what he is doing is not even bothering it might be hard but its what you have to do, sit with him and talk about other guys, let him see you goin on dates and just goin out having a good time. maybe he'll realize that he had something good. and just maybe he'll get back with you.
203004
well i moved in with my boyfriend after knowing him for 2 weeks. But the bad thing is that i moved 100 miles away from my family. But we are still together and been dating for 2 years!  So you are the only one that can make that decision. It could work, but then again living together so soon could cause problems. I say take a chance and go for it. Oh yea and I was 17 when i moved out!
267419
Why is he your old boyfriend? There had to have been reasons for breaking up and if I were you, I would take that into account. Also, would you be moving in together or just near him? Is it economical for you to move, will you be able to work, find housing? I don't know, it just doesn't sound like something that you should do...find a new boyfriend, one that lives closer to you or one that would move to be near YOU!
1013871
If your boyfriend is not going to be bothered that you move n with someone else to "see" how he deals with it, then this relationship is over.  Perhaps the flame has died.  It happens sometimes.  You two need to sit down and talk about your relationship and where (if anywhere) is it going.  It is time for you both to be open and honest and make concrete decisions regarding your lives.
53056
i depends- first name all the good and bad things about them- which ever has the most is not what you should pick- say if he has more bad things than good- think about how he can change and how it makes you feel about him- go with your gut-- good luck
60706
Laying out expectations and preferences before you move in together, or as soon as you do can help ease a lot of conflict.  \nIf we're talking college roommates, issues such as your sleep schedules, thoughts on overnight guests, level of comfort with alcohol or other substances being consumed in the space, and cleanliness may all come up.  \nBe honest.  Don't be afraid to bring something up if it bothers you, because the longer you let it go the more likely it'll blow up.
1135367
I do that,i don't know why but i do! I think you just need to be happy with yourself and being alone.To make sure your not dependant on someone else for happiness,then you'll want to move in because you'll be brining happiness into the relationship!