Pls pls pls help. I have a girl friend and she have told our love to her father and he is not accepting? Help!
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Hey... If her father does not accept you.. or her... or both of you... Then there really is not anything you can do... If ya'll love each other than that should be enough... You make his daughter happy... and that is all that should count.. She may hurt her father by going against his will.. But... Love is more important than Obediance.
235778
being a brother and a muslim i know how you feel. you helped me with my situation and i will try to help you with yours parents are key and are most important (you think my parents know i like this girl, no probably not) but sooner or later they will find out whether i tell them or not so now you must weigh your options how much is this guy worth if alot then you must be able to tell your father that his rath is miniscule to the amount of love you have towards this person. walking a tight rope is not fun i know how you feel i have been doing it all my life. and the whole paki indian thing doesn't make your situation worse the girl i am trying to ask out is puerto rican my parents are going to rage but sooner or later they will understand as your parents will that keeping a child is more important than who they be with good luck.
959739
wow it sounds like he doesn't have a life.. and your was the only one he ever knew. .... Maybe getting or hinting around you have someone  may hurt him enough to ( move on for a better word) maybe that is the hurt he needs to move on. But it sounds like his self esteem is low enough that he may not get the message.  Does your daughter have a clue or is she enjoying the fact that this "dad" figure makes her life easier because she has MAYBE  no dad or no spouse. ...  It sounds like this guy plays a big part in her life...  Does he like her ?? Sounds gross.. but sometimes weird things happen. or is he just not able to let go ?  I would tell her ... this is hurting you .. Or better yet get on with your life .. go out .,, not be home and just live and he and your daughters relationship may not have as much bang as it used to .. if your not around as much ... there is not a lot for him and her to have to analyze and talk about.....  I say get out of the house ... even pretend to have a life.. and pretty soon .. you will .. and this will be part of the past .. not the present.  \n\n BUT you didnt specify if that was her dad .... if it is ... well that is a differnt story... and she needs her dad.. and you still need to  get on withthings...
20553
If you love the woman get married. My dad is going to get married and i dont like the woman but i id do anything to make my dad happy. Im 17 and shes been with me since i was 8 i think. I still dont like her. if you are loving and raise the child right i think hell accept you as a member of the family. He may never "love" you but dont take it the wrong way. I dont love anyone in the world except my dad and thats because hes been with me all my life. Do what ur heart tells you. I also suggest speaking with the childs mother and try to end this animosity. its useless to badmouth you when youre in love and are going to go through with your new life.
284293
You didn't forget to ask...she forgot to tell you. Don't blame your daughters sexuality on her though. Just move on with your life and find someone who is worthy of you love. Be there to support your kids.
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Well, the father seem's to be very possesive and overly protect of his daughter. I'm not quite sure if she thinks your the best thing that ever came into her life because I think she is trying to find a way to get the hell out her fathers life.  If you like (love) this girl lot, I would say that you will have to have alot of patients before things get better for the both of you.  As far as the cusing goes, I would speek to the father and explain that it is disrespectful to treat you in that mannor.  Sometimes you have to stand up for your rights, and sometimes the other person will respect you.  After all, the father does know the difference between right and wrong. He just might respect you more later on if you talk to him.  What ever happens, Good-Luck...   Dr Checko...   (Nickname)
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You need to support your sister. She didnt ask to be gay. This is harder for her than it is for anybody else. I've had gay friends and sometimes they are so scared that their family and friends won't accept them. Your mother being on antidepressants for this has got to be killing your sister.
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Try a dating site. Yahoo has one. Just bring mace or a pepper spray.(there's some sick people out there). oh i read about your love situation. I had the same problem. she was older than me and wanted me to come out to my parents, but i wasn't ready for that step. Don't stress about it, these things take time.
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Hey fella I'm speaking from experience if i were you i would leave it a bit longer don't be to hasty by the way your describing your dad i think he may well suspect but don't confirm those insecurities hes got, not yet anyway dont feel pressured to come out (it took me till i was 22 to do it and that was only with a liter bottle of vodka in me ) but when you feel you are ready then maybe have a friend with you when you break the news (this is what i done) as moral support you might find like me that no-one in the family bats an eyelid at your earth-shattering news I hope this is the case for you as it was for me I'm in the UK by the way so attitudes may be diffrent than the USA but please don't do what i done and tear yourself apart about it most of all don't live a lie it only brings heartache and anguish be true to yourself and you will know when the time is right to come out maybe get yourself settled in a steady relationship first (which is what i done) and if your dad reacts the way you think he will you have always got your fella to fall back on for moral support and strength hope this helps and i hope things work out for you good luck Steve
142179
Ultimately, it is up to this girl to do something about this situation.  SHE must tell her parents how she feels, and break it off with the man she is engaged to.  Are you sure she truly loves YOU?  If she truly loved you, she would do these things, or she would run off with you and marry you.  If she goes ahead and marries the other guy, GIVE UP on her.  TRUE LOVE LOVES BACK IN THE SAME WAY YOU LOVE.  Remember that.
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Your in a tough situation, because your GF has got loyalties tied between two things at the moment. You and her religion ( and we both know those two subjects don't go well hand in hand). I am guessing your GF would be questioning allot at the moment, there is nothing that you can say to ease her mind really because its such a delicate situation which involves you. I would just tell her that you understand that she is going through a bit at the moment, and understands if she needs space, but tell her you do love her and you will stand by her what ever her decision. Just make sure that your there for her emotionally and physically because she will be having a hard time at the moment. Religion is very important to some People its only up to her if she can choose love over her religion. I hope she does : ) \nThe best of luck to the both of you
655153
This must be painful for you and for that I am sorry.  But you have to understand this part of her life has nothing to do with you.  She is having the affair, and if they are already on their way to a divorce, then its to late.  There is no need for you to damage your relationship with her, so calmly ask her to explain why they are getting a divorce.  If she includes the other men, as part of the reason you will not need to say anything else, if she omits him then you can ask, but you must understand that you do not have all the facts and the divorce although painful to you is not about her divorcing you.  Although a person wants a divorce it is usually very painful for them too so now is a time for you to be supportive to both your parents and I hope they are supportive for you also.  It scares me that you say "it is not respectful to me or my father", maybe your father was cheating on her first, it has nothing to do with respecting you.  Think about it. God bless you.
808056
I can't claim to know anything about your problem, I'm a straight female.  But it just broke my heart to read your question.  This must be so difficult for you.  I don't know what to tell you to do, maybe you should try to wait for the right person to come along before you say anything, at least then you would have some kind of support.  I can't speak for your parents, of course, but if my child came to me and told me he's gay, I would be loving and supportive, a parent always loves their children, no matter what, at least that's the way I feel about my child.  I just wanted you to know I feel for you and wish you the best! :)
51201
Let her go. I'm so sorry to say this but you will be better off. You have the right and oblogation to be a good father to your girl. Any woman who truely loves you would understand that.
1044029
I have similer problems. Me and my girflriend love eachother but her mom doesnt want us to go out. Right now her mom doesnt even know that we are boyfriend and girlfriend. I can only call her about once every week. What we decided to do was be boyfriend and girlfriend but start going on actual dates when we are 16 so that we can drive ourselves. Just ask your dad if he can come over or soemthing and see if that works
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u know i have read in the books many cases of yours..and the result is they return to thier wife or thier life was destroyed because God punished them..u have to let the younger girl go let her be free and find love with a man that is not commmitted..and u must be faithful to ur wife give all ur love to ur family...cheating has nothing to do with ur life,infact it was the start of ur downfall.u know my father did that to my mom it hurts me so bad espscially my mom...i cried all day and i realy hated my father..all the love the respect for my dad is gone...but now am trying to accept him again as my dad because he returned to us asking for our forgiveness...so please dont do it ur making ur family to suffer...and u too..
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i don't really think there is a whole lot you can do. Just be there for her and continue doing what you are doing. Try to talk to her and explain that things did not work out with you and her dad but you still love her as much as before and that you are both there for her. Don't put him down to her. Even if he is turning her against you, she will eventually see thru that. Good luck to you. It will work out. It just takes time.