how do i tell her i'm in love w/her when we are only supposed to be friends?
473409
Just tell her how you feel and maybe you guys can work something out!
604109
he's right you cant, it is hard to love some one who doesn't feel the same but if you don't want to lose their friendship you just need to let her go, and realize that all you will ever be is a friend. and love her as a friend. and let it be.
963163
I would tell her, and here's why.  It's a strain on you, and you should probably put a little distance between the two of you for your mental health.  Tell her you've developed feelings for her, it wasn't on purpose, and you don't want her to feel pressured, but because of this you need to put a little space between the two of you for a time while you refocus yourself.  Then be friendly, but cut your contact with her WAY down.  This does a couple of things.  It lets her know your thoughts, which is important in an honest friendship.  But it doesn't give her the instant upper hand she would get if you "confessed your love" then waited around for her to do something (and what would that be? dump the BF?  decide if she feels the same in return?), which almost always has a bad result for the confessor.  Treat your developing ardor as a personal weakness of your own, perhaps a slightly embarrassing one, and assure her you're going to get over it without bothering her, you just wanted to do her the courtesy of letting her know why you can't hang out with her so much.\n\nOnce you go into "recovery" phase (spending less time with her) it does two things.  It lets her know you aren't a lapdog, hanging around, waiting for whatever attention she'll give you.  It actually gives you the closest thing to the upper hand you can have.  She'll also see less of you, giving her the chance to figure out if she misses you a lot.  If she does, she should be the one to bring up that she wants to see more of you.  When she does this, you can say (be nice to her, always be very very nice) "that would be difficult for me without the chance to date you... I'm concerned my feelings are to strong."  Be kind of wistful.  Then give her more space.\n\nYou're trying to get her to come to you.  It's the only way you have a chance after a confession anyway, but it can be very successful if she likes and depends on you, but has been more or less taking you for granted.  It also gives you control over your life, which is always adviseable.  One more piece of advice?  Flirt with some other girls.  But don't overdo it, and never be mean to anyone.\n\nMake sense?  Good luck.
77986
I don't think bringing it up suddenly with a direct proposal or a phone call would work. It'd probably be really awkward and screw up your relationship (and if this happens to you, try to say "Just kidding" or something like that to wipe the shocked expression off of her face). Instead, go really slow and subtle about it. Cross the border between friendship and romance real slowly. Make it clear to both of you that you both have ascended to another level without declaring it out loud.
577013
well, I really appreciate your kind heart..\nalthough there's no chance to prevent her hurting feeling...\nbut I believe, it's much much better you tell her the truth, that you can only keep her as a friend, than act like you're her someone special...\ncause it will be more hurts...\nbe brave.
744634
the best relationships always start out as friendships...tell her uve started to have certain feelings towards her and u want to know if she feels the same way  best of luck luv ya mwa
163854
The thing to remember is anything is possible if your willing to not limit yourself. The true question is can you emotionally handle being just her friend after she has made it clear she is not interested in anything more? \n\nAlot of times people think they can handle it but staying friends with the person who you love when unable to express yourself in that way makes life more miserable because you never really allow yourself to get over them. When you are face to face with them often you are constantly reminded that you can't have the one thing you want. \n\nIt is also hard for most people to see that person dating, enjoying life, etc w/o it being with them. If you feel your stong enough to withstand it then I def. think it is possible. \n\nMaybe try it and if you feel in your heart that it is only causing you pain then end it, but you will never truly know unless you try it and see.... \n\nGood luck.
461256
Look: there are two ways: talk to her, see what she feels.\nConsequence: A good friendship might be destroyed\nOr you will lose a friend and gain a soulmate(surely you're in advantage)\nBut it is not healthy for you two to just be best friends, if you say you love her. Trust me I've been there. And maybe she loves you to but she may lack the courage to say it.\nMy opinion: go ahead-stop torturing yourself with this good friendship-it's a fake(nothing good will come of it) tell her, gently and carefull what you feel. It worked for me !\nReally, you have nothing to lose. It is better anyway that she knows what you feel about her ! May God help you in your whish !
941500
YES!!!\nI don't want to be the barer of bad news but you probably don't really love her. Real love takes time to develop. That being said two days is way too fast to tell someone you love them. You probably scared her away. Next time wait till she tells you that then at least you are only reaffirming her feelings.\nThe best thing to do to try to work things out again is to tell her that you said that because you thought that she wanted to hear it. Or you were mistaken about your feelings because of the history between you two overwhelmed you at first. Then invite her out for drinks or something AS FRIENDS ONLY. Work on your friendship and maybe it will have another chance to blossom. But even if it doesn't you can never have enough good friends.
133208
be a respectful man, and leave her alone if you will fall in love with her, if it is just friendship then take care of your and her feelings
264753
tell her that u have strong feelings for her and that u really want to be with her and u dont want to pretend anymore. tell her that u need to know how she feels about u..and i would put a stop to all the touching and kissing until then. u never know u could be getting strung along.
129144
I'm in the same situation\nBut all u have to do is walk up to him and just tell him how u feel. But let him know that if he doesn't love u back that u guys could still be friends.\nBut I also know this is easier said than done. Trust me
676158
I think it is safe to say that you are not IN love with her. It sounds like you love her but more as a friend rather than a girlfriend. Be honest with her now because she needs to know how you feel. Things will be ok.
61349
Have you expressed to her your real feelings? Good friends can talk about anything. Playing games will only delay whatever the outcome is to be. Being open and honest is truly the best way. That way if she does not share your feelings your friendship will not suffer for it and you can move on in the love area of your life. We cannot make others fall in love with us. Be honest and good luck to you. \nDr. Karen
1104978
unfortunately if she is in love then there is not much hope for you,as much as it can hurt you the only thing you could do is be her friend and try to move on maby one day things might take a turning point but dont wait for it because if she is truley in love then she is happy and you cant intercept that
856153
WOW! I think she loves you but knows so much about you and you about her that it's become too difficult to broach the subject of you two being a potential love match. I think you need to ask yourself do I love her in that way? If you do you've got to bite the bullet this weekend and ask her if she has feelings for you other than as a friend? Tell her you want a relationship with a girl and are confused as she seems like a friend most of the time but then when you discuss the subject of other women she doesnt seem able to ddeal with it. DO YOU LIKE HER????? i hope you do and that she feels the same and can finaly get the strength to let you know, some of the best relationships start with 2 people being friends first I think you 2 stand a fair chance of settling down together unless she is just a friend and a possessive one at that. If that is the cse you need to tell her you are interested in having agirlfriend and she needs to allow you to do this if she cant deal with that then you need to meet her a little bit less cos no girlfriend will put up with you having such a female possessive best mate! Good Luck!!
988240
"Banging"  now that is romantic. Tell her you like her as more than a friend but I would leave the dreams out.