how do u get over being afraid of falling in love??
459944
Love and pain come hand in hand. You can't avoid it. Allow yourself to fall, it's the whole point of "falling" in love. They will catch you if they love you in return. It's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all. It's the only way to live. Push your fear aside and give it your all.
173300
i have sort of had this experience.i fell in love with this guy.our relation was going on steadily when another woman came in his life and he ditched me.i did not ask for explaination and just walked out of his life.i was so heartbroken.i lost faith in everybody and am afraid to love once more.whenever i see that guy i get very angry but pretend as if nothing has happened and try to enjoy but actually inside i feel sick.i think u should move on.it is hard but tyr and slowly u will forget.
150906
hmmm as u fall in love before .recollect ur memory and once again feel same passion and love as u have before for him.i wish u good luck
587403
Just relax and realize that if you can't get over being so nervous, how are you going to get to know that person? Oh, and remember to breathe...focus in on it, and that will help the anxiety.
443565
You have to give yourself permission to trust another person.  There could be something in your past that makes you a little nervous about getting hurt.  It's the chance we take when we fall in love, but it's a gamble and we aren't promised anything, I mean when in life are we promised anything so why should love be different.\n\nChoose your mate wisely, make sure he's committed and respectful, make your intentions clear and as does he.  Don't jump in too quick and don't be too judgmental.\n\nWith joy sometimes comes sorrow but don't deprive yourself of the wonderful feeling of being in love.  What's the expression 'It's better to have love and lost than not love at all".
485509
u never really do.  u just go on wit your life.\nfind more loves but u are never really over any of them.\nu just think of it less as time goes by.\ni suggest journaling all your feelings about ur true love and ur pain as a way of moving thru them.
704845
I understand you completely because for me it usually does and that's why I'm afraid,but not everyone is the same. You have to give it a chance. Believe it or not life is about talking risk. If you didn't you'd be in the same place forever and who knows you may end up happy but there's not garentees!!!! lol Oh yeah and your definately not weird it's called "love"
397094
Do you really think is necessary to verbalize your feelings?\nProbably your actions are doing the job for you already!\n\nIt's great to be in love with someone or have a big crush on, isn't it?\n\nBut if you have the feeling that somehow you will scare the guy, step back, take a deep breath and pay a little bit more attention in what his actions are telling you.\n\nYou are too involved with your own feelings right now. And it is not necessary. You know you like him, don't you?\n \nSo, try to work at your favor!\nPay attention on him, instead of trying to find a way to tell him how you feel. \n\nJust relax and enjoy the guy's company for a while, okay!?
717095
That is soo me, I have the same problem, I have been hurt soooo many times that I can't even count on my hands how many times I have been heart broken. But i seem to go on, and now I really like this boy, and I afraid to ask him because of what his friends will say, so I'm just keeping it in, and its tearing me up inside, and I can't take it anymore. So, I have came to a conclusion that I'm never going to be w/him, and I'm just trying to forget about him, but I will always have that feeling, and that hope that he will realize that he likes me. Well, I say go w/your heart. \n\n                                 Good Luck!!!!!
983618
Take it one day at a time. You are not going to get over this overnight. If you worry all the time about being able to trust this guy that you just met for the first time, you might just miss out on the best thing that ever happened to you. You shouldn`t go through life afraid of what "might" happen.
1033582
I am a newly wed- I had a best friend for ten years that I was so in love with but never had the courage to say anything. If you are too afraid to be up front and just ask -try something out of the ordinary to determine if it's love or just a innocent "like". Tell him/her a dramatic story something that involves getting hurt - then ask them what if something like that happened to you? What would he/she do? The answer or response will definitely let you know if they like or love you! Trust me.... :-)
1073699
I beg to disagree!I believe girls are not afraid of love but of what this love would bring.\nHope u find A GIRL WHO HAD THE COURAGE TO FACE HER FEARS.\nThere are soooo many out there waiting for Mr. Right.(Iknow!)\nGood luck!
658202
The best way to get over it, is to move on. Get a new love in your life, and devote 110% of your time and attention to him. You'll be amazed at how soon you'll be "over him'. Good Luck.....
658507
well i think if you get hurt bad enough it just takes time you have to take risks and trust someone again and again until it becomes easier you may get burned here and there but you have to get past it. It just isn't fair for everyone around you to be judged by your fears of being hurt - sometimes you can push people to do what you are afraid they'll do by insinuating it or you will miss out on a lot of good times because you are afraid to get too close You are damaging your life by being unable to trust Just get over the past and trust little by little . . .good luck I AM STILL WORKING THROUGH THE SAME ISSUES but i have learned that you can hurt the people you love by not giving them your full trust you just have to learn to risk it . .
1085801
Try not to dwell on it. The more you spend time thinking about it the worse the situation will become. Loving someone doesn't always mean being with them so be as supportive to him/her as possible without becoming more emotionally involved. Focus on other aspects of your life that get you out of the house and spend time with other friends. It won't be easy to get over not having your love returned in the way you would like but you'll have to or you might risk losing your best friend.
1099223
hmm.. falling in love.. what a great feeling.  However, ALLOWING yourself to fall in love when you know your heart will break, is not love at all.  But when you CHOOSE to love someone, there are no expectations.  You just do it because it makes you happy to do so.  And when that is given in return (not expected) well then that is the most wonderful thing on earth.  We are creatures of love.  We came into this world knowing only love.  We only learned from family, friends, and the world what is expected to "be in love".  And this is a lie.  When someone punishes you for loving them, then it isn't love at all.  So pay attention to your feelings and the ACTIONS of others as well as your own actions.  There is a book I want to find and read .. it will help you understand and it explains it better than I ever will.  Enjoy!!
46000
They're not afraid of Love - everybody wants love. (well, anyone normal that is.)  It's the fear of it not really being love that causes them to be afraid.  You're laying your heart on the line, and placing it someone elses hands, and that's a scary prospect to even the most courageous people in the world if they have any heart at all.  \n\nBut if it's a chance worth taking - go for it...