Can I go to hell if I have had sex with my boyfriend before we're married????
474377
OK!! First things first!! God loves you - even though you had sex with your boyfriend. Secondly - it was wrong of your parents to tell you you would go to hell if you did - wrong!! That is just their way of trying to prevent you from having sex with you bf!! You should try reading some of the great promises God gives us in the bible - that will encourage you. Dont always just listen to your parents - check it out with the lord - prayer always works for me!!
335382
My wife and I had sex before we stood in front of family and friends and professed/confessed our love but not before we committed to each other before God. That was the week of St Patrick's day in 1987! I don't know if that makes any sense to you or if it helped but there it is.
449879
That's fine, lots of couples wait until they are married to have sex even though they have had sex with each other before.  It just makes the honeymoon better because both of you will be extremely horny, so you will enjoy it more.  He's a good guy; just wait.  I promise you, it will be worth it!
1069010
Go for it, touch yourself, f**k the h**l out of your gf.  To get into heaven is like putting an elephant into the eye of a needle.  It all can't be perfect.  You must answer to your urges because no matter what you do in life, there is going to be something that is wrong.  All you can do is live life the best you can and hope it's good enough in god's eyes.  I don't think that having sex is something that is going to get you sent to hell.
440387
I am a Christian and my hubby and I got married in a courthouse. I wasn't pregnant or anything, we just decided it was time to get married. It had no effect on my relationship with God, and in fact parts of the Bible were said at our ceremony. It was blessed by God and I truly believe that.
3255
Such a difficult question!  I ought to know.  This is the situation I am in.  I have filed.  In my case, this was not just one offense.  Even though this was the first "technical" adultery, i.e. the first in-flesh fornication (that I know of!), there have been years of infidelity in one form or another, e.g. viewing of pornography, visiting strip clubs, socializing with women w/out me.  I found out about all these things very much after the fact, as I was lied to for many years, beginning during our courtship.  There was much emotional and psychological abuse.  He has no respect for me.  I hung in there all this time and worked my hardest to make things better, including making him go to marriage counseling, because I personally believed it was my duty due to the covenant I had made with God.  ...but this for me was the last straw, and by God's merciful permissive will, this choice is provided for in scripture.  I hope you have not suffered in this way, but if you have....as excruciating as I know it is....have courage to leave him.  Maintain your self-respect while you still can.  Hold him accountable for his actions, once and for all.  If he truly changes and becomes a reformed person, it will become obvious, and perhaps you can one day reconcile.  If he doesn't...well, then, you are better off.  Now, if on the off chance that you have had a very healthy marriage and this was, as far as you know, a single transgression (...rather than a relationship or multiple cases of adultery.  In my husband's case..this was a six month emotional attachment and relationship, involving much debauchery, too), it would of course be desireable to God if you could reconcile, particularly if there are children involved.  ..but seek wise counsel.  His true remorse and commitment to real change is imperative.  Either way, seek counsel for yourself.  The trust that has been breached will take years to rebuild.  Above all, be good to yourself.  There is NO excuse for his choice.  God bless..and be strong.
522736
Please, please, please wait. It is so important. My husband was a virgin when we married and I wasn't. I wanted to have my virginity back so badly when we married but it was too late. Our honeymoon was great but it was bittersweet because I had to deal with the regret of him not being my first. It could have been the best experience of my life. And everything else counts too. I wish I wouldn't have even held hands, kissed, or anything like that until I married. It would have been so special. Please save it for marriage.
527143
well, are you married? b/c you shouldn't have sex until you're married. also you sound doubtful. and if you don't know if you're ready to have sex, you're not.
302978
No it is not.  It is called the sin of fornication.  That is what sex before marriage is called.  Certainly a true Christian would not be actively engaged in sex before marriage.  A true Christian, who made a mistake, would be repentant and try not to be doing it anymore.
262275
I think you should reconsider your religious vows.  Is there someone in particular you want to marry?  You can be married and still serve God by making your home a haven of peace for all who come there, by raising reverent and loving children, by helping others in many ways.  And, of course, you can still pray.  I think God would prefer to see you happily married than have you spend your life serving him reluctantly celibate.\n\nEDIT:  I wrote all that before I read your other questions.  Are you for real?  What was a Rev. sister doing posting about sex under Teen and Preteen?  I also notice all your questions -- and your one answer -- are sexual -- and that answer seemed a bit out of line for someone in your supposed line of work.  I'm beginning to wonder if you are what you claim you are.
288245
I had sex before I was married. My wife, on the other hand, held onto her virginity. So, I'm the only guy she's ever been with. I never got "hurt" in a relationship, but looking back on it, having premarital sex was the one of the stupidest things I ever did. \n\nFour things premarital sex screws up:\n\nFirst, sex changes the relationship between the two people, no matter what. The entire relationship becomes far more serious and complicated. Understand that when I say "serious" here, I don't mean it in a positive way.\nPremarital sex seriously kills a lot of the fun and lighthearted parts of a relationship like a lit match in a cup of water. After all, when it comes down to it, sex is designed to produce an entirely new human being! This is true no matter what kind of "protection" you use. Sex is serious business. \n\nSecond, sex changes people. It changes the way they approach love. It changes the way they value the intimacy of sex. It changes the way they value a permanent, lifelong, romantic relationship. In my experience, sex forever changed the way I looked at and related with women. \nI'd kind of say that having premarital sex made it harder to be emotionally intimate (and vulnerable) with my wife.\nThe physical sort of "watered-down" the emotional.\n\nThird, sex really messes up your wedding night. When you do get married, it probably will NOT be to the person you're with right now. (Trust me, it was a big shock to me that feeling "meant for eachother" doesn't mean that you actually are.) In fact, by the time you get to the person you're going to marry, the relationships you are in now will probably seem kind of silly and meaningless. (I know, GASP! again) What I'm hoping you will avoid is knowing on your wedding night that you traded one special night with the person you love and have married with one normal night with someone that you now barely know and don't care about. It hurts. Trust me, I know.\n\nThe fourth thing premarital sex messes up is your relationship with God. Other people posted Bible verses about the topic. It IS sin and the Bible spells it out pretty clearly. Anytime we sin it messes up that relationship. I'd encourage you to pick up the Bible and take a look. Youth Bibles usually do a good job with commentary and study guides that deal with the topic of premarital sex. I'd also encourage you to look up the topic of salvation. Talk to a youth minister or shoot me an e-mail at jdawg2682@yahoo.com. I'd be happy to share a bit more. (I'll try not to ramble quite so much)\n\nAll I know is that I did a lot of stuff before I was a Christian. I thought I was right and knew what I was doing and thought I had things together. It was a joke. God flipped my life upside down in college and I've never been the same (sometimes good and bad). Ultimately, I found the two greatest relationships ever: one with Jesus Christ and the one with my wife. I firmly believe that God can do the same for anybody. Good Luck!
144932
If you're asking this question then you definitley are NOT ready to have sex with him. When you are ready you will feel it in your heart and you won't think twice or have to ask someone's opinion, so probably after your married would be best.
607902
Yes, you can. You are married in the eyes of God and not living in sin. \n\nAsk a priest if you need more assurance.\n\nWith love in Christ.
871899
Do you have moral or religious reservations about premarital sex? If you think it's wrong or dirty or sinful, that can cause a big problem. If this is it, you need to either get counseling or get married.
76258
Don't go against your religion.  God is more important than your boyfriend.  How long have you been going out with him?  If he has sex with you but there is no commitment, you will be in much worse shape in the end.  Wait until you are married so you don't get hurt.
461358
I'm a Christian, but I'd be that Christianity declares that about 90% of sex is sinful.  I can't see how it was a sin to sleep with my wife a few months before we were going to get married anyway...Sex is not a dirty little act that should be shunned by everyone...but the church thinks so.
1028090
sex before marriage with anyone is considered to be a sin & possibly you don't want to be a sinner.if you are getting married than don't why you wait for sometime.the wait is really going to be worth it....\nGOOD LUCK!!!