How can I convince my husband to go on a vacation?
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Tell him you're taking the kids on vacation by yourself.\n\nAnd do it!  \n\nIf he makes everyone miserable, there's no reason to convince him to go.  \n\nI'd be looking for how to go without him!
715496
How funny -- my husband has done all of the things you listed (the song is still top of the list).  \n\nHe gave me an awesome b-day present of a hot air balloon trip for my 30th b-day (don't know if I could stomach it now) and another great gift was a surprise gondola ride (wine and chocolate covered strawberries as we cruised Coronado bay as the sun set..)  Horsebackriding was also a fun gift -- the trick is that these were all surprises and the fun part was in guessing where we were headed and then the fun of getting there to see what we were in for!\n\nSo try a neat "experience" like these.  Another cool thing (but you have to really know your wife) is a big household project that you could care less about but you know your wife would love (a fancy new front door that you install -- or have a professional insall -- a cool new chandelier or modern light to replace the old one above the dining room table - just be sur eto get advice from her mom or friend on the taste / appearance of what you select).\n\nGood luck -- you sound like a great husband and I know that takes hard work and dedication  :)
374028
You done what with your bf! Maybe you two could go get a hotel and do whatever, camping if that is what you guys are into, going for walks. You can do whatever you guys want to do as long you both want to.
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Enjoy the trip! Stop focusing on what CAN go wrong, believe me if you continue to worry about it, it will. Take it as it comes, if the two of you love each other and are willing to honestly try, there is no reason it can't work out. My husband and I were both in the Navy on constant back to back deployments when we were dating and made it through, though it was a struggle sometimes. Now, he's in Iraq and I only see him ever 4 months for 2 weeks per visit. It's still hard, but our faith in each other and our love for each other hasn't and won't change. You simply have to be willing to trust each other and let the small things slide. Be grateful for the time you have together and when you do see each other, focus on that.
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You've heard about how you 'can lead a horse to water'.... You can't 'make' your husband do something he doesn't want to do, no matter HOW much you love him. I do like the idea of the quiet time together with him. If things are to the point of being serious (you said you had been talking about splitting up) then I don't know that being overly affectionate when he comes home is the answer. Nor, is the trechcoat dessert idea (although I DO like that, just not THIS time). I would say go out and get him a card. (not to 'plug' anyone, but I have found some at Hallmark that say almost exactly what I want to express.) Pulling out pictures may be a little unfair.... Give him the card, let him read it, let him tell you (by his words AND expressions)what he thinks and how he feels. If he DOES want to make things work, tell him how much you love him and discuss what it's going to take to make things work. Once that is decided, then work everyday to make those things happen. \n\nGood luck.
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Plan Plan Plan...\nMake an event out of it..\nIt builds it up too..\nMakes it even hotter...\nSet aside a time that your not in the house with the kids so you can relax all the way... get loud.. bang.. whatever you do that the kids would distract from...\nDo something special for the two of you..\nIf you like candles... go with that..\nif he likes whips and chains... go that route...\njust what ever.. Plan Plan Plan and talk it up...\nForeplay as they say.. starts weeks ahead of time...\nor atleast when you wake up...\nI start turning my wife on when I get up...\nIt makes it so much better later... she is way more into it than she would be if we just said.. ok we have time... lets do it! ... quickies are good too... get a few in a day or two before the "date" and make sure neither one of you gets off.. that way your good and frustrated for hte next one...\nit will carry over to the next day...\nMake out... Pretend its the first time all over again...\ngo through the formal steps as if you were aknost unsure if you were going to get it or not... it realy raises the intensity level.. \nYou will have preferences... go with them..\nexperiment
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I just answered a similiar question........My answer is.....Rent a honeymoon suite with a Jacuzzi. Go to the room early without him and prepare for a nice romantic night by getting some wine (and glasses), candles, fresh fruits, romantic music and his favorite lingerie for you. Hope this helps you........Have fun!
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Get on the horn to your parents, or other trusted people that can keep the kids at their place for the weekend.\n\nPick a weekend, get a hotel reservation for the Friday and Saturday nights and find out how late you can check out (usually noon). Doesn't have to be a fancy hotel, just clean and nice - I travel a lot and personally like Hampton Inn. Location doesn't matter that much, just the fact that it isn't home with the associated worries.\n\nGive a single person a sealed envelope with the hotel phone number in it with the instructions that you are only to be contacted in case of real emergency.\n\nDon't make plans. Check in early, check out late. A completely lazy weekend in bed sleeping and not sleeping is an absolutely wonderful break in a busy schedule.\n\nHampton Inn is great too in that they provide a full breakfast, so you don't even need to leave to get breakfast in the morning.\n\nDon't overplan - we all enjoy our sleep, as well as everything else. Just take it as it happens.\n\nPack a suitcase, including his stuff, and surprise him on Friday when he comes home.\n\nI am willing to bet he will be thrilled.
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i have a hard time encouraging my husband to do anything but you can't really make him go, he has to go on his own.  just keep on going yourself, and set a good example
785160
No, technically you're almost an adult!  Vacations are supposed to be fun, so just go and have a good time and don't get too stressed about it beforehand!
651502
just tell him, lets not go to the beach. not into that mood just yet. tell him where YOU wanna go and decide something together :D
608550
Just have a sit down talk with him about your concerns.  He maybe going through a mid-life crisis of some sort.  But you might want to try and get away, even if just for a weekend to a hotel.  Little vacations always help.
764457
Think specifically what that guy "did" for you.  Frame what he did into words, and then tell your husband that you want him to do those things for you.  Don't say you got the ideas from thinking of another guy.  Do tell him this with an attitude of love and playfulness.  It will probably excite him to hear you state your desires assertively.
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Go on the trip...figure out what u want.....DO NOT GET MARRIED IF you are in any kinda doubt......DIVORCE IS HORRIBLE......\nWhen there is no question in your mind or heart.....Then you are ready.....\nPeace....
433758
Well to be honest he should have a problem letting you go see your family with your kids it is obviosly that he doesn't spend enough time with you and your kids because of his work, put it this way talk to him and explian that you don't undertand why he is not letting you go visit your family & ask if he doesn't trust you I don't think is that becuse you can even cheat if you want in your home town you don't have to travel tell him that you would like to be trust as you trust him or do you have any problems on not trusting him because he travels, get together and have a serious talk about this besides you are traveling with your kids 7 & not alone like he does good luck & hope things get better so you can travel & see your family .....
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NO!!!!  I'd tell him you want to see how things go for awhile before you go on vacation with him.  Not having sex is going to be hard enough on both of you going on vacation just the 2 of you is way to tempting.
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eeek! what a monster! Won't take his wife overseas? What kind of husband is that? What kind of vows did he make? What's to like/love about this fool? I won't even suggest marriage counseling bec he's more than just plain ignorant about the hubby-wife relationship - he's cruel.\n\nGet out honey. you deserve better. If it's too expensive for all of you to go, then it's too expensive for him to go.\nNot taking his wife along!?! what a sh*tbag! File for divorce, darling. Kick his dumb A** to the curb!