Is there any other men in the world that suffer from depression and their wives don't understand?
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Of course.  Yeah you guys aren't on the same level in that regard.  It's perfectly exceptable to find someone esle to talk to about things that your wife can't.  You should check out Luke 12:22.  Great read.  basically says, "don't worry"....it's a good sigh of relief sometimes.
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It is possible for manic depression (bipolar disorder) to be your husbands case. The disorder affects .8% of every 100 people. In manic depression, there are two phases: first, is the mania phase. It is characterized by overconfidence, racing thougts, recklessness, and the need for little sleep. The second phase is the drpessive phase. It is the phase in which your husband may feel worthless, helpless, lose interest in normally pleasurable activities, sleep a lot, and think about death. The two phases will alternate extemporaneously: one moment he might be really happy, and the next he might be really down. Whatever the case, he needs to see a therapist or a psychologist. Things could get pretty nasty and detrimental.
1097032
Just... Try to encourage him in the right path.  It's a time like this when he needs you the most.  Keep telling him how great he is and how much you need him.  He needs you now more than ever.  Everyone says depression is a mental sickness and only a doctor can help, but I honestly don't even think that's true.  If you're really having problems with family and life, then how is it just a mental condition?  Just try to be there for him whenever he needs you, and don't be afraid to talk to him about why he's feeling like this.  I guess I agree with other people when they say that he needs to see a doctor, but don't try to force him right away, that might only make him feel worse.  I'm sorry, hope things go better for him in the future.
404009
First of all you need to get over your depression mate, nobody wants a depressed person around.\n\nDepression is all in the mind and doctors and phsycies like to go on saying it's an illness or whatever to make money out of you, making things worse on the person.\n\nYou are depressed? Yes I believe that you may be depressed, but to stay that way is unacceptable!\n\nWhat is getting you depressed? Right now it's you wife being unhappy right? You need to find out what got you depressed before!\n\nE.G:\nIs it cause you don't get paid enough? If so go ask your boss for a boss for a raise, if you haven't asked cause you afraid, get over it, go ask and you'll sort this problem out, or even get another job.\n\nAnother E.G.\nAre you depressed cause someone died and you can't get over it? Well the answer is simple... GET OVER IT! Cry, shout, scream whatever, get the F over it!\n\nIf you are seeing a doctor or Phsycologist for your problem, trust me, they don't work, get rid of them and it's you and your mind, the gloves are off! GET THE F OVER IT!\n\nMany people go on to wimper "I can't do it, I need help" Of course you can, you can do anything, I can you can he can she can, we can.\n\nStop being a baby, if you still think you can't get over your depression, or give up trying, then you should just give up your wife, I know it's gonna be hard but just do it, don't think about it!\n\nNEXT... Why are you even entertaining the fact that your wife is talking to her ex? Where are your balls mate? You should be in charge, get up and get some life into yourself, and you'll stop being depressed and your wife will love you, be happy and respect you.
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All you can do is be there and be supportive to him. I've dealt with this with my husband, and until he admits there is a problem, he won't seek help from a professional. It's a long, hard road to walk, but if you love him as much as I do my husband, you'll be there and listen. Make a suggestion to him that it isn't at all degrading to get help, be on meds to help him feel better. In todays society, a very large percentage of people are being treated for depression, anxiety, and panic disorders. It's normal due to the high stress we encounter every day! I'm not ashamed to admit that I take antidepressants on a daily basis. I feel better today than I have in years! Good luck in whatever you do! Here are a couple of good sites to look at.
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My heart goes out to you and your family. I've been married to the same wonderful man for thirty-one years. Twice prior to my knowing him he tried to kill himself. Since we have been together he has made 4 more attempts on his life. I don't know where you are from but most places have mental health assocations. They can help you to understand medications, patiants rights. For my husband I am his health care rep. when he can't speak-up for himself I have the legal right to do this . I got him to give me power of attorney so I can deal with his disabilty money and all the red tape that goes along with it. Your Mom's illness if she does have Bi-polar suicide is attempts can be a part of her illness. It is a long hard road and you need to seek help yourself so you can stay healthy enough to be an assistance in getting her the help she needs. There are support groups for families going thru what we both are. When my husband gets what I call imbalanced with his medicine it takes me giving him his meds. because he gets confused about days and times to take them. As we both turn 50 this year it seems like second nature to us to deal with his illness. His last attempt to take his life was last November. He was missing for 2days before he was found in a coma in our truck at a reststop we use to stop at a lot. It was very sad, I still am seeing a counslor myself to deal with learning who I am outside of his illness. Be careful not to become so involed you stop living like I have at times
846404
Don't you know you aren't ALLOWED to be sick?  That might put your husband out. LOL  I think it is because men aren't very nurturing and they don't want to see you feeling bad but they don't know how to make you feel better.  And, having to pick up your slack is annoying to them.  Let's face it, our husbands would be lost without us.
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My Mom experienced serious depression after the divorce from my Dad, even though she's the one who pushed hardest for it.  She felt that the world existed in couples and that all her old friends were deserting her now that she was on her own.  There were financial hardships too, and troublesome teenagers to try to raise by herself.  The way she evenutally overcame her depression was first to hit rock bottom.  You can't rebuild until you hit the bottom.  Then, she joined a singles club for over 40's.  It wasn't some group of weirdos - just a group of people who were lonely and needed company from people just like them.  Eventually, she met the guy who is now my step dad.  Strength comes from Community, and that's how she turned her life around - by being with people who were going through the same experience as her.
500704
yes i think so. i mean, talk with your dr's and stuff. but depression is a bump in the road, not a dead end.
297616
Sorry to say but this is a common problem with antidepressants. Talk with your doctor, there is no pill that can fix it though, and as for just wanting to do it, well wait awhile, it may not be necessary to be on these antidepressants forever. If you are unmarried you have nothing to worry about, if married make certain that your partner knows that this is a side effect and has nothing to do with him. Wish I could have been more help. These pills are good sometimes and other times can cause even more problems.. Stay with them awhile and talk with your doctor. Good Luck to you
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I'm not a woman, but I am a man who has been happily married to a wonderful, supportive wife for 11 years now.  In spite of this, I do have feelings of lonliness.  Part of this, I feel, is due to the fact that I have always had a male best friend but am lacking one now.  Also, I have recently had some friends stop calling me, and that leads to insecurities and lonliness. \n\nThe best way for me to deal with those feelings is to do volunteer work.  I also look to see if I can help out older friends and family who might need help around the house or yard.  Diverting my energy toward helping others rather than self-pity is the best cure for the blues for me.  It might work for you too.
682726
Maybe your're in the "I'm 30 depression".  If you're not happy in your marriage, get out of it.
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I was in the same boat about 2 years ago.  My wife was depressed, slept on the couch almost all day, I worked 2 jobs and took care of my daughter when I was home ... I would say that my wife was a glorified babysitter, but in reality, I was often worried about my daughter's safety while I was at work.  The horror stories I could tell you ...\n\nI know you won't like this answer but, here goes: You can't get your wife to go to the doctor for help.  There is nothing that you could say or do that would ever alter the will and/or mind set of a clinically depressed person.  The decision has to be theirs, which, funny enough, is the same advice that Al-Anon would give to a spouse/child of an alcoholic.  I had spent the first year of her depression trying to help her through it, taking her to relaxing places, doing the house chores, taking care of my daughter, that did not work, I had threatened divorce once, but it did nothing, After an incident with my wife she was put in the hospital for about 5 days to "straighten her medication out", but, because she didn't believe in medication, that was the only time she took it.  She made 1 out of 12 scheduled pyschiatrist appointments and 8 out of 40 scheduled pyschologist visits.  She simply didn't want to go or get help.  That was her decision, and unfortunately all the best intentions in the world won't get her to change it... for my x wife or for your wife unfortunately.  \n\nIn my opinion there are 2 solid questions that you have to ask yourself.  \n\n1. Do you still love her and could you continue to make it work?  (assuming that you were alone and without kids.)  If the answer is yes, continue to the next question as it is the deal breaker.  If not, then you have your answer with regards to divorce.\n\n2. I think most parents, including you would agree that their children are the single most important aspect of their lives, and their most important responsibility.  With that said, what do you feel is more harmful to your children, a "messy" divorce (which it will be, trust me on that one) or living every day watching Mom sleep away her life, not having her in their lives because she's too depressed, bringing the family down because you are too overworked and stressed out, not having enough money (and yeah - I know about that one too, my x was racking up nearly 3500 in overdraft charges almost every year for 3 years....) I'm sure you could add a few examples to this list...   Simply put, what is best for your children?  Your kids at 10 and 12 are old enough to engage in a serious discussion about divorce and depression.  Their thoughts and feelings will more than likely be an included factor for a judge during a divorce and I would recommend talking to your children about their thoughts and feelings about your family dynamics - how do they feel about their mom's depression, and seriously consider taking your kids to a pyschologist for some family therapy, unfortunately, if you're stressed out and hurting, your kids are too - only many times worse.  If your kids experience more happiness during and after divorce, it is better, especially if the divorce forces the parents to put their kids number one.  If your wife is missing out on their lives, then they are not number one in hers, and therein lies the problem.  If Divorce is better for them in the long run, File, and make sure you get a calm attorney.  I'll cover that in a second....\n\nI'll tell you what happened with my divorce, as it might give you a bit of hope, as it certainly turned out well for everyone I would say... after a long 2 year battle, with every settlement offer from my side getting worse every time her "hot-shot" attorney (thus the find a calm attorney)  decided he wanted something else like a GAL (Guardian Ad-Litem) and a Pysch Evaluation, I finally landed up with full custody, my X had visitation once a week, had to pay me child support a
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Most but, not all people suffering from bi-polar disorder or depression, will try to self medicate at one point or another.  If your husband is reluctant to go get help, maybe you should seek counseling for yourself to learn how to live with somebody living with a disability.
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The way I dealt with depression was to get into a deep study of the Bible.  Although I still sometimes get depressed, it is nowhere at all what it used to be.  I now know ABSOLUTELY that someone cares about me and loves me and will help me.\n\nJehovah's witnesses offer free home Bible studies at your convenience and without commitment.
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God doesn't call men to depression and loneliness, he calls them to happiness and love. if those around u are evil...pray for them and u will see the changes in these people, or they will move to a differet area.
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Definitely not, talk to your spouse and let them know how you feel. tell them what you want and need to be satisfied. If they love you they will try to make things better. At worst, go to a counselor and try to improve things by going that route.\nGood luck.