how do you make a relationship last?
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i would like to know the same thing
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Remember to always keep some spice in the relationship. Don't get comfortable and fall into the routine of marriage. Try new and exciting sexual positions, as well as places. Surprise each other with small forget me nots and gifts. Most importantly, remind each other how lucky you are to have found a love that most people search their whole life for and never find. Congrats!
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Do things to make your relationship stronger.  Marriage counseling is good.  Marriage workshops.  \n\nPray for each other.  Pray that you each grow closer to God and that God will help you grow closer together.  We don't really understand what love is until we know God.  He helps us love each other the way we should.\n\nHave common goals that you work toward together.  Treat her the way you want to be treated.  Be respectful and kind. \n\nCheck out "Hidden Keys To A Loving, Lasting Marriage," by Gary Smalley.  You can read a bit of it here:  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310402913/qid=1144083134/sr=8-6/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i6_xgl14/103-4668860-3658249?n=507846&s=books&v=glance
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communication is a very powerful tool to keep a relationship alive...keep your communication open & going on no matter what...don't let a day passed w/o saying anything to each other...thru this she can feel more secured and thus will have more faith in the relationship...
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If it lasts or doesn't wont end up depending on your astrological signs.  According to the research, the best predictors of longevity in relationships:\n\nsimilarity in attitudes\nsimilarity in physical attractiveness\nan equality in "rewards" (you both get what you put into the relationship)
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good question!\n\nbe loving and be committed to the relationship. Is it just a matter of decision. One has to have one -- the decision to stay together for good or for worse. Then you wouldn't be scared to where it will go co'z you have set the path of your relationship and its future. Being together.\n\nIf you have and your man have not made that decision, then the future lies on his decision.\n\nAlot of people go into a relationship thinking that as long as they love each other, it will solve all issues about real life. Fact: It Doesn't! (sad to say)\nPeople change, emotions get us -- making us irrational whereby sometimes we make odd and bad choices and worst of all -- wrong words to hurt each other... then the ball starts rolling down :-(\n\nMy role of thumb... always have a good laugh after every arguement (married for 13 years and still having a blast).\n\nA friend once said - that if you ride car together and not have an arguement at all, be it for a drive to the next block or to the next State away.. then you still love each other dearly.. and respects each other.
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We waited till marriage\n\nWe havee now been married for nearly 14 years and are very happy together.\n\nI think being able to wait did encourage us to put our relationship into areas that we could build our friendship on - and that i find to be the most important part of marriage is being able to like and respect one another and being able to relate to one another.\n\nSex - great - but if that is all the relationship is based on then it wont last very long.  Also if you hav waited and the first night isn't the best then you still have commitment from each other to work on it rather than on relying on it to pull you through.\n\nResisting temptations - if that is really difficult then don't have a long engagement - bring the date forward if need be.  The marriage is more important than having a 'big' day after all.  But meanwhile - resisting temptations - try not to take long periods of time alone indoors (chaperones?) - that is when temptation can strike most often.  also avoid heavy petting - and bear in mind if you haven't got one then PAWZOFF until you are married (and NO i am NOT referring to not touching his car or her microwave!)\n\nI hope that some of the above helps\n\nand God bless your upcoming marriage\n\nwhen is the happy date?
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Make the time that you do spend together special by making sure its quality time. Dont spend it watching TV. Instead talk and go out and do things together. Believe that you will end up seeing each other every day eventually and use that belief to keep your relationship goin forward.
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doesn't take that much actually. if two people established enough trust, respect, love, and open communication there are chances of a thriving relationship. Although misunderstanding and arguements are inevitable, patience and a little less pride are also ingredients of a good love life. If talking about reality, money is also a factor, let's face fact.
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Anything you do for the positive can nly make your relationship stronger and better. Relationships take work and each person has to be willing to make it work.
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Each relationship has a basis or reason in the first place. Sometimes it attraction, sometimes care, sometimes the chemistry between two.\n\nSit and analyse what kept you both going for the last 6 years. Find that onething out and both of you could use that as your anchor for your relationship.\n\nRevisiting the old days and remembering each good, sweet and happy things in the last 6 years also rekindles the fire and resolve to forward. Recreating the first date and first kiss or something like that will bring back the romance and give you both that Nitro boost... \n\nThink on your feet dude.. Be adventurous.. Walk that extra mile before you call this relationship off... Atleast that way you wont blame yourself later that you didnt try a lil harder...\n\n.:Fishie:.
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I agree... Communication is the best.. How does it make you feel.. Do you have  the desire or passion...\n\nDo you make it interseting and fun... \n\nAsk him, it only gets better after that..
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not usually a bar for a lastting relationship ..but in my case it lasted over 10 years and countting ....but maybe join some social clubs...perhaps volunteer for something .cafes work at times but sometimes the perso is already with someone at a cafe . lol
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Depends on variables. Goals, communication, honesty, etc., it takes a lot of hard work to keep a relationship going and going and going, for the next, what, forty years? If you can envision yourself and this man forty years from now, all wrinkled but still smiling and holding hands as you take your daily walk, well then, there you go!
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To have a good relationship I believe you should be honest, be truthful, and respectful toward the person you are referring to. These are very important qualities in a relationship. If you are referring to a male/female relationship oh boy you really have to work at it. It is also necessary to compromise in a relationship. It takes a whole lot of that. In other words, every thing is not one persons way all the time. Compromise, remember that ok? \nas u have asked we can't get good relation it is we have to create good relation with others if u be good with others they we be good to u but there are some options cases also so we also think with whom we have to create good relation ok bye \nThe 'how' is a big one. I have been married 2 x and on my 3rd one and I have really learned a lot from this new mate.\n\nWe never put one another down, and if we are upset we let one another know without yelling, or putting the person down. I found this makes a huge, huge difference. The trust has grown. \n\nEach day we both quietly look for something positive to comment on ..... today for instance my partner commented on how thoughtful I was with one of our children. Just a simple comment and it really made me feel good inside. \n\nI have found from experience that just because we are with someone for awhile we don't take advantage of this. It is special to be in a good relationship and well, be thoughtful. Thankful
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be a good listener.\nshow care, love and affection.\nkeep smiling.
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Unfortunately, this is how many, many relationships fail. The best thing to do, (if you want to save your relationship) is to be spontanious. Don't let things turn stagnant, because it gets boring, and one or the other of you will look elsewhere for something exciting.