I'm about to be a God Mother, HELP?
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Congratulations! Don't be afraid. The parents have chosen you because of your character. It's an honor. The biggest responsibility and the most important is, in the unlikely event that the parents are for some reason unable to provide a nurturing environment due to death or sickness, you will be expected to intervene and provide that.
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Approach it with what is in your hart. Pray about the blessing,  that God used you to supply food to the needy. Praise God for supplying the food that you helped hand out. Thank God for allowing you to experience the good works in his name. Thank God for using you for the greater cause for Christ on earth. Being a servant of God some times gives us a better understanding of God in our lives.
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oh my dear, what a tradgedy. i am so very sorry.\nim sure if u take these children on, u will be a wonderful mother because u love them and obviously care very much. you are lucky to have such wonderful, supportive parents. take them up on thier offer of help and im sure u will do a good job. with parenting, u learn as u go along. all parents make mistakes but that is how we learn. just do your best, that is all u can do. u sound like a truely wonderful person and obviously your mate saw this in u. im sure u wont let her down. all any mother wants is for her children to be looked after and loved. it takes a special person to do this and it sounds like u are that special person. i admire u as your life will be changed forever and it will be hard but take all the help and support u can get and i am sure u will do great. you are a true friend and a very special person! i wish u all the best.
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Mom is going to be mmaaddd....
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check out the book world religions by huston smith.  not only is it a classic, but it's one of the best propaedeutic texts on the subject.  it's fairly short, so you can probably just read it at the library.\n\ntry to talk to you mom candidly.  make sure that you are respectful and even-tempered, but be firm in expressing your belief that your relationship with divinity is between you and god.  tell her you appreciate her input, but remind her that it is ultimately your decision.  tell her that it hurts you when she tries to control something so important to you.  remember--you are going to have to be the adult in this discussion--be calm, collected, sensitive and reasonable--but firm.\n\np.s.  you might consider holding off on the wiccanism.  modern day wiccans trace their roots to ancient pagan lineages, but whether they admit it or not, wiccans in the modern world are very much a reaction to the prevailing christian influences.  since this ideology will probably be particularly offensive to your mother, you may be served well to wait until you are no longer so dependent on your mother to explore this theme.  it will still be there in a couple of years, and displaying deference and forbearance toward a woman who cares for you deeply (and is probably very sensitive about such things) by compromising on this issue may do wonders to preserve the integrity of your relationship.  remember, she wants what is best for you and simply was raised in an environment that makes it difficult to understand new and different ideas.  summon all your love and maturity when you discuss these things with her.
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seeing my baby for the first time
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Be at peace with yourself, no matter what your decision.\nAnd this isn't the life I ordered either, but sometimes it still suprises me.\n\nSweet Dreams\nIT'S THE MOM PEOPLE..and it's a damn hard job so cut her some slack
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Becoming a godparent is a very wonderful experience, but remember that it comes with many responsibilities. If you will not always be around when that child needs you, and in some cases before a parent, then no matter how honored you feel your answer should be no.
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Try having a baby...you will be 'upgraded' to a parent and that feeling will definitely revive all that jazz...it will also bring you two closer in body and soul.
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Praying is a worthwhile option but be careful to pray to your own God. imagine the most loving, forgiving, caring, patient, headstrong and determined person you can and ask for their help. but beware cults like Jehovahs, Catholics, born agains etc. I don't codemn them but they have many pitfalls (they all believe they are divine yet few show any signs of it). If possible ask the mother to get an allergy test...be aware of her environment, diet etc. You'd be suprised how something as simple as dairy milk or sugar can affect a fragile mind.\nIf she is in the mental health system she ironically has less freedom/control. Psychiatric drugs are an abomination, mental hospitals break almost half of all the human rights a person is due under the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. Doctors will dispute this but they're making a fortune and are in reality above reproach. \nIf possible encourage her/the family to try to be physically active get plenty of fresh air, sun, fresh food etc. If anyone reading this thinks it is soppy fantasy ...you have no idea.... I was sectioned and abused by a mental hospital. My family and ex-partner tried to keep me locked up and take my child. By sheer determination I kept my sanity (just about)I smuggled a letter out via a brother and took legal action. Ten years later I still live with my child as a single parent I have nothing to do with my family, ex-partner. I went to college and got a third level qualification and am in a well paid professional job.\n\nBe careful not to get too involved, sometimes people aren't even honest with themselves. It takes a lot of courage to face and forgive yourself sometimes so be careful not to get drawn into what maybe someones false reality. If the person is unable/unwilling to face reality no-one else can do it for them.\n\nI am tormented by thoughts of suicide as there's just about no-one I trust and life is misery quite often. I stay active, eat well and believe in the 5th commandment:thou shall not kill, myself or any living thing (I'm now fruitarian/grains and seeds included).  \n\nGood luck. your dilemma is heartbreaking. I've been living with a broken heart for the last 19 years but I refuse to believe it wont mend. aim to be that strong, patient, caring, forgiving (to those who seek forgiveness-I believe you can't forgive someone who doesn't want it) god made us in his image and I believe we will have him in our hearts again sooner or later just like children DO.  peace with a passion.
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Wel d baby wears a long dress lik ting (even if its a boy) and day put sum water on d babies head!!!Enjoy being a godmother and make sure u buy ur godchild a present but not any of its brothers or sisters (makes it feel special)!!!
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Baby stuff?  congratulations! You are about to join the 2 a.m. club!  enjoy it for all it's worth...it's miraculous!
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Jesus is the answer. He can forgive you, heal you and promise you an abundant future and an eternity in Heaven with your baby.\n\nI am a counselor (a social worker) and I'd love to talk to you more. There are resources to help you in your situation!\n\nEmail me at jacquefromtexas@yahoo.com\n\nTake care, sweetie.
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one night you should tell him to take it easy, and you should cook like your favorite meal, and then pop the question.....make it a speech tell him "He's my homemaker, housewife and my everything when I get home from a long day of work. I manage a large portion of a company and have just recently been too sick to function. He has nursed me and been by my side the entire time, never leaving me for more than a few minutes at a time (he has to shower and go to the bathroom afterall.) We're a solid foundation together, and now that I'm feeling better (and I have a ring).. I want to do it." its very much from the heart i can tell, good luck sweety with everything and congrats on the baby!!
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Gosh, how do you get such a depressing reasoning out of the religions?  We're being tested here on earth, and it gets tough, but life isn't just all about pain and suffering, hopefully.  Maybe yours is though??  There are still so many wonderful things in life to celebrate, and having a baby is one of them.  I have a little 11 months old, and he is the light of my life, and I will never regret bringing him into this world.  Life in this world is not the perfect state, but we are all going toward that perfect state - the afterlife - but what we do in this life will reflect our next one.  If you are so sad, and have such a bad outlook on your life, I hope you get some relief in family and friends.  Children are the most wonderful thing in this world, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
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This is a tough one. Your best bet is to take a personal inventory before you do anything else.\n\nYou have at least three issues here.\n\n1. You are not married to the person who is also the mother of your child.\n2. Your girlfriend/child's mother also has another child which is not yours.\n3. You have an issue with commitment.\n\nWhere to begin? You must begin with yourself. I believe this is some of the best advice I can give, because until you do the following you will be unsure of the direction you need to take.\n\nTake some time out for yourself and go somewhere peaceful and quite. Ask yourself the following questions:\n\n1. Who am I?\n2. How have I gotten myself into this situation?\n3. What are my dreams?\n4. What are my goals?\n5. What are my likes?\n6. What are my dislikes?\n7. What do I believe in Spiritually?\n8. How have my decisions been in conflict with who I am or in what I believe in?\n9. What do I want to teach my children?\n10. What am I teaching my children by my current actions?\n11. What do I believe about marriage?\n\nUntil you can answer truthfully these questions you will have a difficult time being a father and husband.\n\nMy desire is for you and this lady to go through some counseling together, work through some issues, and then get married. When both of you can be independantly strong and partners in the relationship then things will get better. However, until you look at yourself first you won't be effective with them. It has to start with you. You can't tell her what to do.\n\nAlso, other good advice is to continue to take care of yourself, exercise, and get adequate sleep. Pay attention to your responsibilities as a provider, a husband, and a father. Even though you aren't married you are living like you are married. Until there is an official break then you need and must be comitted to your family.
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Sounds great to me.\n\n\nHere's a link with more info: http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/pregnancy/pregnancynutrition/1466.html\n\n\nHave you been over to www.fertilityfriend.com\n\nIt has tons of resources for pregnant women and a discussion board that you can join! My ex used it when she was preg with our son and it helped her when she was worried and she made a lot of friends on it!\n\nGood luck and happy baby vibes!