I have a good friend that is a pest, how do i tell her this without hurting her feelings.?
471000
Be assertive. That means, use "I" statements and be specific about the behaviors that are "pesty." \n\n"I get irritated when you call me six times in one night."\n\n"I don't like it when you follow me from room to room."\n\nAgain: use "I" statements and describe the specific behaviors that are a problem.
47060
Sure she does! She tells you these things bc she feels safe with you. Now if that's all she does is tell you all the bad stuff about her life and takes no interest in yours, then you are a crutch to her. It is up to you if you want to hear about her other friends taking a crap on her or whatnot. If you want to be the crutch, I suggest selective hearing. It can be a downer to hear about her crap friends, and keep suggesting that she gets rid of them and the negativity they bring. Hang in there, it may be a phase and she'll realise what a friend you are and drop the losers and hang out with you... someone who cares...
1069446
To be open and give her your advise is better way.\nYou can make her understand that she made other people upset with her attitude this long. and what has she done can put her in trouble someday and maybe will make her friends stay back from her soon or latter.\nTry to open her mind about this, choose a sweet way and polite words to avoid irritating her. \n\nIf you do this way, means that you have change your friendship...to a better and quality one!!! coz this whats friends are for....\nGood Luck.
439683
Tell her how your feeling and that you don't want to harm your excellent friendship, but tell her
616925
Just tell her its a toxic friendship and you are tired of the way she treats you and that you don't think that your friendship is making you into the type of person you'd want to be. Be honest and either it will stop or you weren't meant to be freinds.
184736
Walk away...eventually they will be left standing in their dirt!  \n\nDont waste your valuable time on worrying about those who use you for there is nothing you can do to change them but you can change how you relate to them.  Do you always want to have a "victim" for a friend?
622096
Tell her she's going down a path as a friend you can't follow.  She needs to stop, you know the reasons why, and when she refuses, and she will.  Find another friends before she drags you into trouble too.
452894
just be frank with her, do not embarrass her... just take her aside and talk to her frankly, tell her you are not interested in having her in you life by any means and you would appreciate her understanding.\ntry to assertive and sure, but do not be mean!
280936
if u dont want a friend anymore thn plz tell her directly..... dont hurt her from ur any sort of rude behavior..... remember its always good whn any relationship ends peacefully....... u took her as ur frd once so just be direct n tell her wht u feel...
884896
nicely tell her that you don't want friends like her and walk away.she will understand(she already has understood that but she doesn't want to admit it and thinks that you guys will forgive her that)Listen to me!
135911
Tell her that it is extremely dangerous to her/his health. If you dont want to be around him, tell him/her that. If they are a truly good friend, they would value your friendship. Get some facts and pictures if you can and show them to her/him.
764061
Ask her what she is afraid of. Tell her she doesn't have to go to the extreme to hide anything from you. She can be totally safe and honest with you. You have to build a bridge for her to see and focus on.It's all an act to hide her pain and suffering. She wants desperately to be heard and acknowledged.She won't change until she sees it and acknowledges it. Be a friend and let her know she doesn't have to fake a good deal.
1095659
My advice is that you DON'T become one.  Why sink to that level?\n\nWhy not tell you friend what you are seeing in her behavior and talk about it?  If she won't talk about it, she isn't acting like a friend in my opinion.\n\nThe solution to b*tch behavior is NOT to become one yourself.  That solves nothing at all.  It may make you feel good, briefly, but \nit costs you a lot.   In my opinion, it costs way too much.\n\nBest of luck!
515264
Life's hard enough without having our 'friends' treat us like that. Tell her it was nice knowing her but you feel your friendship has fizzled out & you need your own space & so on. Don't go playing her at her own game & calling her names, try to part on friendly terms cos she sounds like the sort to hold a grudge & may go out for revenge if you end it by telling her where to go.
579594
when you two have a moment alone tell her how uncomfortable it makes you feel and to please stop.  be gentle since she sounds like she might be kinda sensitive.  if she doesn't understand what the big deal is tell her maybe it's best y'all spend a little less time together.  if that doesn't work and she's still hanging all over you maybe you should tell an adult.  i mean, it would suck to make a big deal out of it but if she's dense and isn't getting the message...what else can you do?  no one wants to feel uncomfortable around someone who is supposed to be a friend.  and if she were a real friend she would've gotten the message already.  ya know?  good luck.
708816
Follow your heart, t'will show you the way.\n\nIt may be bad to tell her, but if she really is your friend, she'll get over it..\n\nThose who mind...dont matter..\n\nAnd those who matter... Dont mind.
438907
just break it down to her.. tell her that you want to tell her something that you dont want her to get mad at.. tell her that you dont want to hurt her but you dont want to destroy ur friendship either by being together.. tell her you care about her as a friend..but nothing more.. you got to keep it funky.. feel me.. just be gentle but serious with her