how can you tell if person is going to be good in bed?
459990
I was always told by the way they dance. If a girl moves real slow, hands up, showing off her {hmmm....} attributes, that's good. If they're like frenetic, dancing real fast, making no eye contact, then that's bad.
438270
no.. what makes one good at sex is a creative open mind.. a willingness to try new things and experiment..  It has nothing to do with being married or not..
404596
Be more.  Don't be a "playbunny"--hold out.  Here is a brand new concept, wait, wait to have sex, wait to get too physical.  BE a girl worth getting to know, show him you have a mind, that you are interesting.  I don't care how old fashioned it sounds, men simply don't respect women who go to bed with them right away.  Don't be "easy".
195180
Could be that your new boyfriend although better for you, is not as good in bed, so you are not 100% satisfied with him. So when you think about sex, you think of your x because he was better. Just a theory.
798714
well if u remember this, it will help u figure out who's a "good guy" and who's not (hopefully) :)\n\nmen use love to get sex\nwomen use sex to get love\n\nas u can see, men and women differ GREATLY in what they want.... we play these games, we dance around each other trying to find a good girl or guy, someone who's worth hanging around.  so, if u know that a man will SAY "i love you" or do things to make u happy, and u give him sex too early, it is quite possible that he won't stick around.  so, how exactly can u "make sure" he will stick around? well, the way i see it is, if u don't give them sex right away, until ur ready at least, and he still waits for you and takes care of u no matter what, he is a good guy.  and a woman who gives sex up right way is seen as too "needy" or too "easy"... not very positive things. So, a guy might want to "hook up" with those types of girls, they don't exaclty wanna marry them!  \n\nmy advice to u is to make sure u grow into a Confident, Smart, Beautiful, Independent, and Happy Woman..... someone who has a LOT to offer to any relationship.  have some expectations from urself, and from ur partner.... the one who accepts and respects you and Works with you will be the one to Stick with.... sex should Enhance a relationship, not BE the reason why you got together.\n\ngood luck, and stick to what you think is right. i am 26 yrs old, w/ a boyfriend for almost a year now, and we both decided to wait until marriage.  so sex isn't the problem.. it's finding someone who respects you, and who u respect. take care~
375992
personally I would look how her personality and character is. if she is open minded or not. if she is social and mature. what her values are. etc...
816052
Seriously?\n\nThere's not real methodology.  Every woman is different, and what works for one might be boring for another.  What you need to do is listen, listen, listen, and be obedient.  What makes a lover good and skillfull is the fact that they are highly observant- they note the changes in your breathing, the little gasp, that moan, the movement of your body, that say "Oh yes, there", or "Ah, harder".  Especially for women who are pretty silent and still in bed- they think people have innate sexual prowess because "My god, she read my mind and gave me everything I wanted!".  But it's just not so- listen and try to discern what she likes.\n\nIf all else fails, do for her what would feel good to you.\n\nEnjoy and have fun!
412161
Because you are ready please him in bed . . . he wants to make sure he pleases you . . . so you don't go out looking for fulfillment elsewhere.
251660
unless you have bad diabetes or high blood pressure (which you probably don't), it's psychological - lighten up... take your time in bed with someone that turns you on and is patient instead of just demanding performance.
599601
You know being a little insecure in the bedroom can be ALOT better than being over confident.  If you don't become paranoid that is.  Pace yourself and awlays imagine what you might be able to do better on, that way you are always wanting to please her, instead of sitting back brimming with arrogence.   However... don't become paranoid... as you will ultimately stress yourself out and risk decreasing stamina and sexual performance.  With your partner telling you that you are the best... take it as a compliment, but dont take it to heart, because god forbid you guys one day spilt, you run the risk of having that one retracted, lol
270936
My experiances have been good! Blondes are beautiful... but the color of her hair has nothing to do with abilities in bed. Sleep with her and you will answer your own question. Have fun!
1051950
be confident about the size of your penis; do a lot of foreplay with your girlfriend; oral sex before intercourse; vary your hip movements during sex, e.g. in/out, up/down, left/right, clockwise/counterclockwise, half in/fully in, diagonal penetration, etc.; try different sexual positions; think of non-sexual matters while having sex; stop when you are about to shoot your c-u-m to prolong sex; and focus not on your own satisfaction but on the pleasure of your partner. i hope these tips help you to be a stud in bed. cheers!
568067
Well the common theme is enthusiasm.\n\nIf a girl is enthusiastic in bed then its a huge turn on. Some people are technically and physically great but lack enthusiasm, others are enthusuastic but may not technically be really great, in which case they can learn and are willing to.
56826
Knowing when you're ready is not something you can describe, it is a feeling. When the time is right, you will know. Right now you're probably going back and forth with yourself on what decison to make, and that's normal. One thing is certain, do not let anyone pressure you into sex. You have to make the decision for yourself. Evaluate the status of your relationship. Is this person special to you, and futhermore, are you special to them? When the time is right everything will fall into place.. not literally...lol, but you will know. In that moment, you won't be thinking about if it's the right time or not, because you will know.
650302
Honesty, sincerity, ambition ... above average libido, intelligence and a great sense of humour ... good lookin' with a great "bod" ... fairly well grounded i.e. spiritually and family upbringing. Not in any special order!\n\nA fair question would be ... have I found her yet??? eh!?!?
1074644
Act like you don't know what's really going on, and be sure to "prep" yourself for several minutes prior.  If you're with an experienced woman, she won't expect you to perform for long.  Really though, its all about what you do and don't know in bed, so as long as you act clumsy and shy, you should be fine.
151496
sex,sense of humor,optimism