I'm 14  and my friend wants to have sex she is18 and I'm a virgin.What can i do?
461763
There's not much difference in age between somebody who is 38 and somebody who is 34.  But 18 and 14 is a mile apart, and could spell bad news. Your friend should look for somebody her own age.  If and when you're ready for an intimate (sexual) relationship, hopefully you'll know it, and it will be with someone whose age and experience level is closer to yourself.
272925
It depends on the person and their maturity level. If you feel that you are mature enough to have sex and deal with the consequences that may come about, then go for it. But you really need to think about it and how it will change you and your relationship with the other person. I had sex for the first time when I was 14 and completely regretted not waiting. You may think the person you are with is the one or whatever, but you may regret your decision later. It shouldn't be taken lightly.
188685
First you have to see what kind of virgin she is.  Is she a virgin because of beliefs or just out of circumstance.  If she's a virgin by beliefs your friend needs to understand that and respect her limits.\n\nIf she's a virgin out of circumstance (not the right guy, not the right relationship, not the right time) it's a different story.  Then it's a question of whether she's a virginal virgin or not.  From the description she's pretty virginal.\n\nPart of being a virgin out of circumstance is trust.  Is your friend trustworthy?  Is he ready to be someone's first?  Is he worthy?  Does she think he's worthy?  \n\nNow if he doesn't actually want to have intercourse with her, but help her get intouch with her sexuality there are alot of things he can do.  Most of it is 1-reasuring her that she doesn't HAVE to have sex.  2-Spend time touching and caressing, finding out what she likes.  But this is going to require sometime and commitment.  Is your friend ready for it?
1017796
I was 19.  She was 17.  Yeah, I realized the age at the time.  We were friends before.  I won’t get into that here.  We got together.  We messed around a lot - mostly making out, petting and a lot of oral.  She kept expressing how much she wanted to do it.  I just didn’t know if it was the right time.  Primarily it was because we never had any contraception around. Don’t get me wrong, I wanted it badly.  I didn’t even care if it was going to be my first time.  I wasn’t nervous.  I just wanted to be safe for both of us.  She had only one other partner, a long-term boyfriend that she broke it off with.  She kept asking me to “go for it” in all our other encounters.  This time, in the heat of it, when she asked me to make love to her, I whispered, “Go for it.”  Then she stripped herself then me.  We still didn’t have ANY form of contraception.  But the time was right.  Go figure. After we both climaxed, she was so satisfied but puzzled.  We went for a while.  She kept asking me … and this was a question that she kept asking me during our entire relationship … was I really a virgin.  I said yes.  That was the truth.  She said she’s had a virgin.  Her friends have had virgins.  And none worked it like I did.  I told her I wouldn’t know. I just went with what I felt and what felt good for the both of us.  I don’t know what the big deal was but shortly thereafter; she harbored this idea that I had a mistress on the side that I “practiced” with. (Her long-term boyfriend did.) Needless to say we went several rounds that day … and night … and following morning.  But, alas, the whole relationship was just that – based on sex.  No emotional connection at all.  It ended.\n\nSo I guess my point is that your first time is a big deal, but the euphoria and importance of it will fade and just become a memory.  Don’t make it more than it is, just a right of passage for any human being, the emotional creatures we are.\n\nGood luck
130163
You really need to talk about this with her, because if she never wants to have sex, or if she believes it is only for creating children, you may have a bigger problem on your hand that just not getting any.\n\nThe spiritual love between you is wonderful to brag about, and if you would like to take the next step on bodily commitment, she may not be ready for that step, and making her feel awkward about it won't get you what you want any sooner.\n\nShe probably loves you, but I really don't know what your realtionship is all about, so I can't say.. what I do know is sex doesn't equal love, it's two different acts, that are nice when woven together.\n\nDepending on her age, she may be afraid of either losing her virginity or becoming pregnant. \nDepending on her religion, she may not want to for her own peace of mind.\nDepending on her past, she may have not enjoyed it, or had someone turn mean and ugly after she conceeded, or could rape be an issue which might make her fearful?\n\nYou know her better than I, you know the probabilities to these questions better than I, but you DO need some answers.\n\nThese are all things you need to find out if you want to continue in your relationship without sex. Then decide if what she needs and what you need are simular enough for the relationship to survive.
102503
Make sure she has a curfew, know her friend's parents and their rules, know who she is hanging out with and what they do.  Talk to her about sex and your concerns.  Parents who burry their heads in the sand are more likely to have children participating in risky behavior.  And when the time comes and she wants to have sex, let her know that while you don't approve of it, that you want her to be safe about it.
687674
When I was 14, I had a boyfriend who was 19. He was a really sweet guy, and respectful. The thing her parents will hate you for is if you rush her into sexual experiences. If you truly care, DON'T. If you can really be mature about this issue (for the both of you) then you will be happy together.
333544
no, do not have sex at 15. your not ready for it yet. your still a child. i would suggest waiting til your an adul to have sex. you can kiss and hold hands. but sex is a major step in a persons life. so wait til your older.
192721
most guys want to be with someone that hasn't had a sexual encounter like that before. But the most important thing is the consequences. You could get pregnant, which means you wouldn't be able to finish school. Of course, school might not seem important now, but you have later down the road to think about. If you don't finish school, It will be harder to find a job to take care of the child. You'll get minimum wage, which means when you get a home, it will be cheap, so it'll be in a pretty run down area. In areas like that there are drug dealers and rapists, and you or your child don't need to be influenced by this. Another consequence is HIV and Aids. These diseases are deadly and have no cure. So, your life span will decrease, so you won't be able to experiance the whole thing. So, yeah, losing your virginity at 14, you're practically throwing your life away. Don't do it, and if you have, get an HIV test at your local docors/hospital, tell your parents (better to get the truth out now), and don't do it again until your married.
1156375
Of course your ready to have sex. If you are 16 today you have been ready to have sex for damn near 5-6 years. I was interested in it during the first grade. As are most guys.\nThis is the best way to ask your girlfriend to have sex:\n_________will you marry me? then after you have gone through with your commitment you can then sleep with her.\nThis of course is completely contrary to where our society is headed. \nI still hold that a woman is to be respected and it is only respectful for a woman to deny her gift to a man until they have dedicated their lives one to another through marriage.\nWhile I am here I must say that all of those that disagree with me just think how much better life could be if you actually valued your body, your life or your commitment to another individual.\nThats what I wish I had been taught from an early age, sad to say I was not. Hope this helps at least one person.
75134
Come up with codes. That way if things start going to far you will have ways of letting eachother know. She will respect you for respecting her. Before you guys start anything you can be like "I want to make sure our first time is really special and that we are both ready for it. If things become too much for you, just pinch my arm and I'll stop." Of course if you come up with something else that would be fine too. The physical "no" is much more likely to get your attention. Some guys have the misconception that no sometimes means yes. No is no and that is the bottom line. Be sure to have a way to tell her to slow down too. You seem to be saying you are not ready either. Maybe you could clasp her hands and then back of for a minute until you are ready to continue. You are only 16, there will be plenty of time. You don't want any regrets. \n\nAlso, "take care of yourself" ahead of time. That way the urge will be less. You wont feel such a great need.\n\nJust in case have some condoms handy. You don't want to take any chances. I'm sure you are not ready to be a dad yet.
679929
First of all, you are normal for not having sex at your age. And I want to tell you, Just because your friends are doing it does not mean that you should do it too. I want to commend you for having a great head on your shoulders. By no means should you have sex because "its the cool thing to do" Ask these same girls in a couple of years and I bet that they will tell you that they wish that they had waited.\n You are not ready for sex by any means, and I will tell you why. First of all if you were ready, you would not ask this question. I also think that you are young, but I am aware that most sex does take place at a young age...I am 10years older than you. My first time was after highschool at 19 years old. And you will ask me..Do you wish you had waited? Yes I do wish that I waited. The guy I did it with was a horrible person.\n  Your best friends are highly insecure. They are teasing you because they are jealous. They are jealous because they wish they would have waited. And you will regret it if you have sex because your girlfriends pressured you. My personal feelings is that if these girls were really your friends, they would not tease you like that.\n  When you decide to have sex, there really should not be pressure. Not to sound like an old fart or old school, but sex is loads better when its with someone you LOVE completely and Trust!! You do not love and trust your boyfriend at all. And trust me, having sex because you think your fat and ugly will not make things better for you. In fact if you have sex because of that, it will get worse. It will add up a hefty number of sexual partners, believe me.\n  At your age, you should be starting your life and not worrying about when you are going to have sex. Believe me, the time will come for that, and if you only knew how true that statement is you would understand. I had "friends" once that teased me because I would not have sex with this guy...and this was right after highschool. They were not my friends at all. \n  Sex can be overrated. You will not like your first time, I won't lie to you. So you might as well wait until its someone you love and care about. Trust takes time. I bet you are a beautiful snazzy gal and I doubt very much that you are fat and ugly. You are soo young, and its unfortunate you are feeling this way about yourself. Please don't have sex because your friends are doing it.\nIts not worth the aggravation.\nYou seem like you have a terrific head on your shoulders. Please be concerned about the diseases because they are out there. And if you want a guy to be tested before you sleep with him they should respect that. If not, that is when it is time to say goodbye.\n\nGood luck sweetie, and follow your heart.
664892
Are you saying she's a virgin? If so, you have to take it slow and easy. There's no way for it not to hurt the first time.
45340
No it is not too young. I see you do not PLAN to have sex, but things DO happen. Just remember that after you turn 18 YOU are of legal adult age. She is not. If for any reason something goes wrong with the relationship, IF she wants to cause yu a problem she can cause you a world of trouble. Take all that into consideration before you make any moves. Good Luck.
188960
NO!  I lost my virginity just before I turned 14.  Please don't do it, I wish I would have waited.  You have your whole life to have sex and you should share it with someone that truely deserves you.  Don't give yourself to someone who is not worthy of such a beautiful gift.  If you do decide to do it, please, please use a condom and get on birth control.  There are some nasty people out there.
251402
I was 14, on the floor of my ex's mother's travel agency. I dont regret it for a minute. I had fun. It was fun. But you should do it when it feels right to you. Dont listen to us, what we did might or might not be right for you. YOu will know when you want to loose your virginity. And remember its not the age, its not the time its when it feels right to you. Whatever you do, be safe, and be cautious, and make sure that you NEVER EVER regret anything that you do. Otherwise, remember it won't be fun the first time; and it might even hurt! So, be careful. And just enjoy the moment!
1115748
Remain a couple, get married and have sex every night. That is if you're adults.  I don't know how long ago 4th grade was for you. But either way, remain friends, at all costs and do whatever at all costs, and under all circumstances!