i am going through a marriage sepration . but i a still seeing him what should i do?
469783
You should be ashamed of yourself to begin with. Love is about "giving" to another, not "taking". Love takes no offenses. "Love" endures hardships. You know what you should do! Get your emotions and hormones under control, bite the bullet, and have a marriage like nobody else has anymore in this country. Try that. If he is violent towards you, get away, get divorced and leave it alone. Otherwise, go be a wife and reconcile your family... your home... your life you chose.
581299
The fact that you are even thinking of this guy doesn't speak very highly of your feelings for your husband.  If something is meant to be, then it will be.  Maybe that guy was supposed to be "the one", maybe not.  But since it didn't work out when you had the chance, I'm leaning more towards "NOT."  Please put him out of your mind and focus all your love and attention on the man you married.
482923
go to him and say sorry .. what if later on he shows up the same way u did and does the same to ur wife ?
425721
Sounds like trouble. Find away to fall in love again with the one you are married to.Its worth the effort, isn't it?
97505
Find someone else. Accept his contacts but keep moving forward yourself. He needs to know you're not waiting forever.
546703
You chose him because you loved him and saw something in him you didn't see in any other man. \nHe has a job. Nearly all men have jobs. He has a really important job that is respected and I would hope you would respect him. You should feel sad and alone. You're married and you didn't want to be left alone. I can see where that wasn't part of the original deal. But you did marry for "better or worse" and if this is the worse, you're doing ok.\nIt is worth it. I believe with every part of my being that he misses you more than you ever realize. He is sad and alone and misses what he could have with you if he were here. \nI would find a support group or at least a counselor to talk to. Sometimes ministers are a good resource. Don't give up. Hang in there.......
364354
If he has already moved on then you just have to accept it and reorganize your life..you cannot put your life on hold waiting for him to come back... Don't dwell on him, he left you and gave up on your marriage, he is not worth it, even if he comes back this time, believe me, he will do it again, so move on and concentrate on bringing up your kids and finding a man who deserves you...
306912
are you sure that you are married? i mean having a relationship w/out communication is worst than being divorced. My dear, if the situation is too stressfull for you try going out with ur friends and try to plan a trip into the beauty saloon.....make yourself beautiful and let ur husband remember that he chose you to be his bride a long time ago
469598
My best advice to you is to tell him how you feel. I told my best friend that and we have now been married for 2 years. If they dont feel the same, you can still be friends, you telling them might just get them to look at you in a different way. Good luck.
677311
Wow, talk about mixed emotions. It sounds like this man doesn't know whether he's coming or going. He wants you and then he doesn't. He's just all over the place with his feelings. You see, a lot of men and women carry over issues from past relationships. If he has children I assume he's been married before. What do you know about his last relationship? Has he been single for long? I notice you say you became seperated just last July. Are you looking to become serious with this new guy? You have to ask yourself what it is you want out of this relationship and then determine whether you two are on the same page. A word of advice though, don't push him into something he's not ready for. It will backfire and send him running the other direction. Also, give yourself some time to be single for a while and don't rule out dating others either. Maintain your independence. It's very attractive to men. A man wants a women who is independent and who doesn't define herself through him. Don't make it too easy  for him to see you at the drop of a hat every time he wants to. However, always treat him with respect and honor and praise him when he's nice. I wish you luck!
276969
No, he isn't.  I think it would be in your best interest to look into getting a divorce.  He has basically abandoned you for someone else.  You deserve better than a guy who walks out on you.
328979
For your sake and that of your children, move on. He obviously likes having the two relationships and that is not likely to change. The sooner you leave the sooner you and your children will heal. With all the lies this man has spun its amazing either of you are still with him. He has proven he has no intention of leaving. Don't waste more time on a relationship with no future. Find yourself a respectable man and live a happier life.
174326
Well you have 2 choices as I see it...\n\nYou can try to be better in more ways than the other person your husband is seeing...\n\nOr you can move on to not allow him to hurt you any more...\nEither one is very hard and requires lots of work on your part...\n\nNo one ever said it would be easy...\nI have been there, so I know...\nI have been divorced twice and those were always my only options...
529365
Here's a little trick. Picture yourself married to him, doing the things married couples do, meeting his friends and family, facing problems together, etc.. Do you like what you see? If not, give yourself some more time to know him better and do the mind excercise again. If you don't like it still, stop waisting your time and find another guy you can be comfortable with.
1148036
you don't deserve to keep living like this!  suggest marriage counseling and try to work things out. then, if not, u have to decide your next step.
105768
your in a hole different ball game now. your married they are not. this is when you find out who your real friends are. and you being married shouldn't have anything to do with them not hanging out with you any more. i will ask my good friend and get back to you
698169
he's acting like that because you are going to be divorced soon and I bet he is married.... just from the way he is reacting, so move on dear - and give yourself time to heal completely before trying to get into another relationship. (you have to resolve all the issues that lead to your failed marriage - if you don't you'll drag that old baggage into another relationship.) If there was anything there you two would of met in person.... you talked for a long time without meeting and that should of told you something about him. (I've only met one man online who wasn't married and he was honest with me about his personal life and that's the man I'm married to! We talked for about 2 months and then we met in person - he helped me with coming to Canada to meet him.... and we "clicked" - and got married 3 months later! We have been married for 4 yrs. as of Sept.28th).... While I was single and chatting with men online for years --- they all turned out to be married or living with someone(with whom they had kids with).