Should my daughter stay on the drill team after she tried out for a 2nd year as officer and didn't make it?
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The politics of this kind of things is a load of crap but you need to support your child. Any activity  that they go to keeps them off the streets. That doesn't mean you have to bake for their bake sale, though.
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Depends on many factors.\n\nHave the parents not contacted her for the entire time?  If so you may have the right.\n\nIf they made arrangements for you to keep her and skipped out you may not have anything.
887353
I would actually say the opposite... I thought drill team was harder. In my opinion, I think it boils down to which one you have more skill or experience with. Obviously, you would be more successful with drill team if you are flexible (i.e. splits and high kicks), can learn routines quickly, and prefer a more fast paced activity. If your more dance oriented, enjoy slower paced movement, and have upper body strength, then you might be better suited for the flag corps.
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Go ask the Local Recruiter... They will fill you with more lies than they did me, when I joined!\n\nWell, now with the war, they probably cant release any information on that, because they dont know what affiliation you and your daughter may have with the enemy!\n\nThat would be like giving away troop movements to the enemy and its a strict NO-NO.\n\nJust comfort your daughter and love her as much as you can... And pray...\n\nI wish you well..\n\nJesse
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They pretty much work with you and what you want as much as they can.  However, you shouldn't need a "break" from BCT.  It's only 9 weeks and it's better to get it over with.  You'd be better off to try to work it so you can go to BCT, have Christmas at home and then start AIT.  Honestly, you don't want to be forced into taking Christmas exodus.  I don't know if it's changed, but exodus used to count toward your leave.  Kinda like mandatory leave.  If you take exodus that soon after joining, you'll be in the hole for leave days.  I know, because this happened to my hubby.  Then, when he came down on orders for Germany directly after AIT, we had no time together because he had no leave saved.  He went strait overseas and it took me 6 months to get there.  Just something for you to think about.  Ask the recruiter if exodus counts toward leave because if it does, you don't want to start in the hole.  \n\nAlso, in all honesty, you and your family need to learn to spend time apart.  Especially holidays.  I know you don't want to hear this and some will think I'm mean, but it's the Army life.  Our daughter is 9 and hubby has been home or able to help for 2 Halloweens.  He's been gone about half of her Christmas' and in our 18 years, I can't even tell you how many missed holidays or special days.  It takes a special and strong family to be a military family.  I hope you and yours are prepared for the lifestyle.  It's a hard life, but it's a good life.\n\nGood luck and thanks for your willingness to serve!!
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This will depend on her MOS (job) and her unit of assignment. Anything involving MP, transportation or supply is needed in theater and quite likely to go. Medical is a 50-50. Admin, personnel and finance is more likely she will remain stateside. But like everything else, her first duty assignment will tell the tale. Once you know where she is going (either unit or installation) you will get a better idea. She should get orders somewhere around 2 weeks out from graduation. With all that said, if she were to ship out this very day, you are still looking at nearly 4 months at the earliest that she would even be trained and ready for assignment. And, in the current political climate, a lot can change in that time period. Pass on my best wishes and thanks for her service.
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Hey, \nMy husband and I coach a youth wrestling team. I think girls wrestling is great, my daughter wrestles she is 8 years old. She is a New England Runner up, Maine games bronze medalist, NC state games bronze medalist and has several championship titles. She was recently asked to be on a NC  wrestling team and represent our state and area @ 45 lbs in the girls Nationals...She does great. Will you be there? How long has your daughter been doing it? Mine has been wrestling for 3 years now, and while it was hard for me at first, it is much easier on me now and I often find myself feeling sorry for the boy she is out there throwing around. She loves wrestling, and I for one am not about to tell her that it's only for boys...Girls generally have better technique than boys, since they cannot out muscle boys, it is great conditioning for their bodies, and teaches them self disciplin it is wonderful. You should try to see if you could find her some girls competiotion, you will see then that you are not alone. My daughter wrestled in her first all girls tournament this year and had a great time. I think it is great, tell your daughter congratulations on her wreastling achievments. Encourage her, girls wrestling is really growing and there are new opprotunities opening up to them every day. I also have 2 boys that wrestle and it wasn't any easier for me to see them out there at first....so if you are new at the sport, it should get easier for ya!! Good Luck to you and your daughter.
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Your friend really has to exhaust all her options before considering joining the military. I joined the Army reserves 5 years ago in hopes of using the money to finish college and make a better life for my family (mother and sister). Well 5 years later and my unit has been deployed stateside and to Iraq  back to back. I havent had enough time to finish my college courses that I started back in 2000. There is money available for college such as GI Bill and army tuition assistance but in most cases it pays for 75% of your tuiition. The army's basic training is not all glits and glam its very hard work physically, mentally, emotionaly not to mention if she has young children they will be without their mother for 9 weeks of basic training plus the weeks or months that must be spent in training for you MOS(military Occupation Specialty) and if shes deployed thats another 6- 18 months overseas and believe me family is what she will miss the most. If I could do it all over again I would have sought wise counsel before signing my life away. Although the experiences have been once in a lifetime and I was able to move out of chaotic circumstances I always wonder what if I never joined the military where would my life be and how would it be different. I have changed and my mindset has changed. I never discourage people from doing what they feel is best  I'm just offering my experiences   God bless
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To join the military is a big adjustment period.  Let alone with a child already.  First you have to realize that there isn't one job in the Army where you can say 100% that you will not deploy.  Now deploying means anywhere from Kosovo to Iraq.  I have two children of my own.  I didn't have any when I joined.  Due to training, Temporary Duty in places where I'm not stationed, and Deployments I have missed both child births, both first steps, and both first words.  Is it hard?  Of course.  Is it worth it?  I believe it is.  Now also realize I'm an Active Duty soldier.  When I deploy it involves a lot of training before hand which means weeks away from home and long hours before I'm gone for a year.  For NG and Reservists deploying means "mobing" at an Army base for up to 6 months followed by a year long deployment.  As far as the push ups and the climbing goes. Ask your boyfriends father to teach you the correct push up form and start working on it before hand.  The minimum you have to reach by the end of training is 40 pushups, I believe, for the age group you're in.  Basic Training is hard but not impossible.  When things get hard just remember that you aren't the first female to go through it and you won't be the last.  I'm also an Army Brat.  My dad served two tours in Vietnam as well as Panama, Somalia, Bosnia, and the first gulf war.  I'm extremely proud of him and he helps me in my current carrier when I have leadership challenges.  Your boyfriends dad may or may not tell you what you want to hear.  He has a tough job though and I couldn't really blame him.  However my recruiter worked for my dad at one point so I got straight answers.  Ask him and when he tells you see how it makes you feel.  This is a decision you have to make for yourself.  You are responsible for raising your child and if this is the best way you can then go for it.  Is it better for a child to have a homeless family who's there all the time or a taken care of home who's parents are gone for periods at a time?  Granted that there are in betweens but I hope this kinda puts things in perspective.
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Ground her. Tough love. Don't sneek. She is your daughter, take a stand.
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How strict he/she is. If he/she is a drill Sergent, i wouldn't hire him/her. If he/she is too lenient, don't hire him/her. You want someone who will teach your kid, and someone who will make learning fun.
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she will do fine..i was the same way.  you can still be a girly girl and kick a!! in the army.
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If you didn't try the last two times, then you are stuck. Only if she is willing, can you get a chance and you have to do all the work.  Lifestyle changes, behaviour shifts anything she states and you will have to mean it.
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yes i know someone who did, she just couldn't have her kid with her for basic training
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as you know life is not fair,with that in mind I would switch my daughter to softball for these reasons;her older brother will no longer be there to protect her from her teammates when she makes a mistake and they begin to harass her and two if she likes baseball now and maybe in the future as a girl she will be on a softball team so it will be better to learn those skills early and become a great player rather than having to learn a completely new game from the start and getting too different sports mixed up.
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sense the first answer you got was useless!! And based on the idiots personal feelings about a military that he probably doesn't have the guts to join and serve with!!!!\n\nI will do my best to help. The entry-level separation is for people who "can't" make it. Either they fail to meet the requirements physically, or they are a discipline problem. It won’t be a dishonorable discharge; it would be a “general discharge” And would be further classified as, under “Honorable” or “Less than Honorable” conditions. As far as I know “your friend” wouldn’t fall into this category being as she has already graduated boot camp. I would suggest that she go to her first unit and “ride it out” for alittle while. I served 12 years in the military and can tell you that not everyone is cut out for the service. Most people that I have dealt with that want out are usually new and kinda flip out in boot camp. The rest of the service isn’t like that. It honestly is similar to a 9-5 job.\nYour friend had to know that the military isn’t the “girl scouts” She had to of known there was a chance of getting deployed? Either way I would say to her that she should at least get to her unit and do her job for a few months and if after that she still doesn’t feel like she is cut out for it, go talk to her Chaplin and then her commander to see what her options are. Hope this helps! (Tell “your friend” to keep her chin up!) There is a category called "failure to adapt" this is for people who have served -12 months active duty and "aren't cut out for the military" Not sure of the exact details for that one.
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she isn't ready. to make her would be a bad idea    have patience    she will do it in her own time when she is ready. also depends on how old she is  over 3 is to old to not be trained.