Okay, I have been w/ bf for 2 1/2 months, is it okay to ask for him to watch porn with me?
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I doubt the porn idea will scare him off.  As far as a threesome goes it probably won't either, but it depends.  If it were me and my girl wanted a threesome the relationship would be over.  \n\nI've known a couple people who have experimented in group sex.  All of the relationships ended in the guy sleeping around, because he thought it was ok.  Good luck.
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Here is a girls honest opinion.There is nothing wrong w/ porn .However some porn has no condom or controseptive involved,my worry for a man finding out his girlfriend did porn would be this...How many people will you be sleeping with by staying with her?What diseases would you be sharing every time you show her your love?So I think you should stick to watching it not sleeping with it.
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Dont let it bother you hun. you would be amazed @ how many men watch porn. one of my girlfriends didnt like it and said that it made her feel like she wasnt good enough or pretty enough if i had to watch that. i beleive allot of females feel that way but its not like that at all. let him watch it, he is just going to get sexualy frustrated and take it out on you any ways.
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I guess it's fine for him to watch pron behind your back but you can't get a toy? That's very selfish of him. I say go get the damm toy. He'll get over it just like you did. Have fun.
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Ask him what would make him happy.. And that u would love to share his fantisies with him.. Hun lets be honest here men are men they can't help but watch porno on tv or net, its just within their nature. by getting mad at him will  not take u anywhere or resolve ur problem.. neither will it stop him from doing it.. fix the problem with a solution.. try watching it together and perhaps ask him what he likes doing the most and that u wouldn't  mind sharing that experience with hi..,don't forget aslong as it makes u comfortable and happy doing it as a woman.. Am not saying that u should do anything or everything against ur will. But try talking about it.. communication is the answer.. good luck.
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Is your boyfriend doing this? Or are you just wondering heh? I think that would be pretty weird, I don't blame you for being concerned about it. It is true that some guys have porn on their computers even during a relationship, but going to strip clubs sends a pretty overt message to you I'd assume.\n\nPersonally I wouldn't do it, I think it would be disrespectful. I'd only go if my girlfriend was into the beauty of the female body or something, thus taking her with me.
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i think you should wait til you have been with him for at least 2 months!! good luck babe!!
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No. I would watch it with them.  I personally love to watch porn myself.  I find it very normal for girls and guys to watch porn.  If they did not watch it I would wonder what is wrong with them.
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So....you  like to watch porn before sex and you have the idea that your boyfriend will think it's weird?  Umm...that's highly doubtful.  He is more likely to jump in the air and be all happy.  Though there is a Chance you might have that 1% of guys that don't like porn, chances are you have the other type of guy....who will say 'yes, my Gf likes porn'
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I totally know that knot you are describing. I think lots of men do look at porn but I wouldn't say all. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough or anything and it should only really be a problem when he turns you down for sex and turns to porn instead. Talk to him calmly and ask him why, but try not to act like a mother scolding a wayward child. Hope that helps. Take care of you.
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You can talk about with him if you want, but you will get a better response if you don't "confront" him, but just have a nice friendly chat about his favourite films and TV shows.\n\nIt certainly sounds like he has an attraction to them, which doesn't sound that weird to me - lots of guys do, and they're only 9 or 10 years younger than him, after all.\n\nMy bf and I sometimes watch "family" movies together, because often they just have better plot lines and dialogue than the rubbish they fob off on adults, but in your husband's case, I think it does sound primarily sexual, although also extremely harmless.\n\nWhy not watch a few DVDs together, let him talk about what he likes and why, and let it lead to something er ... intimate between you?\n\nAt least he's not getting into some nasty disgusting porn to get him in the mood, so be thankful.
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Pornography is like cigarrettes: it's addictive, it's poisonous, and people who make it and use it like to act like it's no big deal.\n\nAll men do NOT watch porn on a regular basis. There are some men who watch it all the time, some men who watch it once in a while or perhaps watched a few when they were younger, and men who don't watch it at all. I can't tell you which category your boyfriend falls in.\n\nSign to watch out for: he keeps a bottle of lube near the computer, by the TV, or any other place that is so blatantly obvious to anyone who walks in the room.\n\nIf your boyfriend just REFUSES to talk to you about this, then you may try couples counseling or individual counseling. In the meantime, try to decide if his porn-watching is a deal-breaker for you, or if you are willing to be okay with it. If he's dismissing your feelings completely and just not listening to you anymore, it may be time to get out of an unhealthy situation.
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As long as you're both comfortable with watching it, I would say no. It can spice up your sex life and possibly introduce you to new ideas, although porn sex isn't usually that realistic, especially as far as women are portrayed. If you both have no moral or religious reason not to, why not? After watching some, you can check in with each other to make sure that you're both still comfortable and not jealous or anything like that.
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If it is ok with you, then I don't think there is any problem with it.  As long as it is within the "boundary" that lies within the norm, I think it's ok. :)  But if your bf shows his "thing down there" in unreasonable places or time, then I think there is some problem with it most specifically, psychological in nature.
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I do know where you are coming from,and i am not sure how long you have been with you`re fiancee.But having a sence of humour when you are dealing with men is some times best !I say 2 things ,one at least he is`nt doing anything with a another human behide you`re back and 2 it would be so more shocking if it was a channel for the opposite sex !\nIf it was me i would get him back in a wee matter ,but not going to far just see how he likes it ,take a real look at the next fit guy that walks pass both of you .When some hunk comes on telly just say "hes  alright" It just seem strange to us woman because we are not in to porn in any way ,but if you accept it ,and be cool he will love you more !If you want ,ask him why he likes it so much and may do things in your`re relation ship that you haven`t yet explored !But to be honest in life if you are`nt meant to do something it makes it more daring and naughty ,once you accept it and may even say can i watch one with you ,it will be come boring to him and he will stop ,as it is`nt naughty behide you`re back stuff ,and if he does big deal ,as you can please him for real !!!
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For starters there is absolutly nothing wrong with you. I was where you were years ago. The last straw was when I actually caught him fast forwarding during our time. I never told him to stop watching them but if we were in bed & he wanted to watch one I would tell him to turn it down or go to the other room. As for the BJ part HAH If he wouldn't give me the special perks I wanted HE didn't get his. Eventually any man will get sick of his own hand. My husband has always had a huge sexual appetite though. I found out later that he didn't have a porn addiction, he's into voyeurism. He liked the sneak peaks also the thrill of being caught. Try to talk to him again with a genuine interest of finding out what exactly turns him on about the movies without getting defensive. You might find that it's really something quite simple and possibly even fun for you to do together. You may have to stray from your comfort zone a little but don't let it compromise your morals or it will just make you resent him and you. A few years ago he stopped watching them as much because it was the same thing in each one. Of course them we got internet which opened up a whole new field. Our computer stays in the living room so anything he does now has to be when nobody it home so that helps. We been together for 12 years now. It's been rough but we have made it this far. If you do all you can and he STILL won't give you the proper attention that you need then there's nothing left for you there.
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No you are not overreacting.  Obviosuly this will not be a very popular answer, but whether it is "natural" for men to want to look at porn or not, doesn't mean it is okay.  First of all, pornography is dehumanizing because those women are not being appreciated as human beings, but as sex images.  They are photographed so that people can lust after them secretly without actually "doing" anything.  Secondly, since you are his wife, I'm sure it bothers you that he looks at porn!   You are his WIFE-the one he is to cherish above all others.  I don't say this to condemn him, but if he spends time looking at other women's bodies besides than yours, then it is is not putting you first.  He is getting his sexual graitiication elsewhere.  I think it might be helpful to find out why he feels the need to dabble in this.  Does it help his self esteem?  Is he bored?  Explain to him how it makes you feel and that you are willing to work on this with him.(?)   I don't want to step over any bounderies here, but MAYBE you could even offer that if he'll make an effort to stop, you'll make a conscious effort to make it worth his while  more often, if you know what I mean;).  I hear Victoria's Secret sells some fancy lacy sleepwear. ;)