why is it so hard to  find a good black man?
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Try match.com or yahoo match.  I know they exist.  Don't waste time with the bums.  Also, you should tell them you're a woman and not a wemon.
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I AGREE WITH YOU IAM 25 AND A SINGLE MOTHER AND LOOKING FOR A MAN TO BE WITH ME THE REST OF MY LIFE BUT I TOO SEEM TO HAVE THAT PROBLEM I BELIEVE THE BEST THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT.  YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT.
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As a black woman I have to honestly say that it mainly has to do with attitude.  Black women are notoriously famous for having "bitchy" attitudes.  We are quick to dis a brother when he approaches, snap when he gets upset because we rubbed him off.  We walk around like we are shit instead of being humble and grateful.  We are also pegged as gold diggers.  We crave more.  We will pass up a good man with a standard income to find the bling-bling daddy.  Black men have become fed up with this attitude and seek women who are more appreciative and considerate.
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I'm a 22 yr old black girl and i dont date black guys. I used to like them when i was younger, in my teens. But i find them very boring and not very intelligent and they dont seem very articulate. I find it hard to have a decent conversation with a black my age. Alot of them are about rap music, sex, and cars and nothing else. \nI find white guys more attractive and intelligent. I like their pale skin in private places!! White men are just alot more interesting to me. \n\nHowever I dont think white guys treat girls different to black guys, men are men regardless. You have to judge the individual on who they and how they behave. \n\nI agree that there are more white guys with black girls and they seem to be quite possessive. If i walk past a girl with her white man she give you evils lol. Like i care,the girls ive seen are uglier than me anyway. each to there own.\n\nI would marry a white man, my family are from jamaica and i will never on this earth date a jamaican man! Black men are a no no for me. As for sex, white men are far more gental and understanding.
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You sound like a great guy to me! We can appreciate a good man but the problem is we may not have good men around us, so unless you live anywhere around any of us we will still go around saying that we can't find a good man.
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Most Black Men I know think he is guy.  He currently deals with alot of girls.  He tried to pick up a friend of mine in the Gucci store here in NY.  So maybe he is Bi.  I wouldn't put it past him.  Alot of Black men in the entertainment business are short and gay.  I attend alot of industry party and work i fashion and let me tell u, there are always more men there then women!!  And he does NOT have a wife and kids.
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It isn't hard you are probably looking in the wrong places. \n\nIncase you need some inspiration: http://www.newagey.com/dating-love/top-10-places-to-find-mr-right/
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To answer the first question, I think that the reason black men are not underestimated-especially in today's society is because they feel determined to prove themselves to NOT be the white person's stereotype.  It is not uncommon to see a black man with more determination and drive to succeed than his white counterparts.  \nI dont understand the second question... a little clarification?
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no they aren't BUT. i do feel they are easily led into a lifestyle that results in imprissonment which makes available black men harder to find.
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I have a history of long-term relationships but lately have had trouble finding someone interested in something long term.  Hard to find a good man sometimes.
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yes. because, you know. i  really am a sensitive black man and i care. i just can't seem to find the right words to express my love for my loved ones. very hard to do. and all of these beautiful women following me around. i usually just stick to my hippie... that really needs to shower because it was hot today and she barbecued.
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Men are clueless as to what they want, they themselves wishes that someone could tell them, and even if someone did, would they listen, NO, Why? Because they are self opiniated and listen to noone, Its an ego thing.\nWhen we find a good man, you just have to thank all the gods and angels in heaven and on earth.  In the meantime, keep the hope alive and when you come across a loser/liar show them the way to SanJose, better known as hell.
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no not true!  trust me, i am black, been with black guys, some don't but a lot love to
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The main reason is pure ignorance of the black culture.  Plus the negative stereotypes of black men ie (thugs, dope dealers, etc) from medias such as newspapers, tv and music.
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If you go looking, you will have a very hard time finding one.\n\nLet him come to you.
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actually its not just african american...even tho its part of the "hip-hop" culture...Most men are just stupid so they dont know how to appretiate what they have.
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I don't really know, but I have a few theories regarding that question that I have not quite worked out yet.\n\nThis is in no way a slam on all Black Woman in the United States or the rest of the world because I have not met them all, but I as a Black man in my whole life starting from my own mother have never met a nice, or pleasent, or kind Black woman....not ever.  Like I said I don't mean this as a slam, I'm sure there are Black women out there who ARE nice and pleasent, I just never have crossed paths with them and it's a shame.\n\nIt's a shame that I am 44 years old and never had the opportunity to have sex with the women of my own race.   Perhaps it's the region where I live that seems to have a large population of Black women who have a problem with Black men, or the Black men in the area I live are so terrible to their woman that about time she wises up and dumps him, I happen along and she's mean to me because of what he did.  This could be a possibility.\n\nI just hope that before I die I get the opportunity to be close to a woman of my own race.  I doubt I will get this chance but a man's got to have something to shoot for.\n\nActually this question really makes me sad.