How do i get my 13 year old son to concentrate on his homework?   He drives me nuts when he doesn't.?
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It is hard for a preteen to concentrate on their homework. I know I work with them all day and then I come home to my oldest which has the same problem. The one thing that I have noticed is if they are struggling with it then they start to daydream. Thats when you go over to them and ask them if they are doing okay if they are then ask them to teach it to you.  This way you have their attention on the work and it is almost turning it in to family time.  IF they are having problems then thats your chance in helping them get back on track.  And another thing when he does do well for you remember to reward with words. Like for instance "hey you did a good job getting it done thank you." Positive words always works.
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My son is adhd and does all those things as well it is his abilty to focus and stay on task
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Schools have a lot of subjects to study and not everyone is a master in grasping each subject very easily. Focus on the Key Subjects your boy is good at and nurture his intellect in a way that he thinks of persuing a career for himself, related to these subjects. The other subjects could be made interesting with the help of a lot of visuals and images for him to keep them in mind. For instance, you could help him draw a scene from history, or enact one! While travelling or outing with the family, talk about the geographical aspects around, mountains, hills, rocks, plains, plateaus, soil, rivers, etc. Visuals would help again. Science needs a lot of live examples. conduct small lab experiments at home and name them as magic tricks! Put up charts in his room and give him a memory test. Think of ways to keep him glued. Try some on your own. Don't frustrate him with threatening talks and complaints all the time. Schooling is a lot more to do with parents than with the child.
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I've found that the home is probably one of the worst places to do homework. Try staying later at school to study, or go to a library. This will minimize the numerous distractions like television.
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Let him play the video games, it stimulates the mind. Just make sure he does his chores and homework and let him do what he enjoys. Not everyone will enjoy sports. Also, maybe find out what kind of games he plays and play with him. Educate yourself, learn about games. Be a good father.
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go to your local community college and ask them if they have math tutors. i'm a math tutor at my community college and tutor kids in middle school a lot. also advertise that you are looking for a math tutor as well. if that doesn't help, try any of those homework/tutor centers like Silvan Leatning Center. I help out at one in California, and they relaly help the kids. it's also in an environment where there are others just like him struggling in the same subject, so he won't feel so alone. try to stay away from instrctional videos and things like that. they dono't help that much since he is only 12 his attention span may be too low for something like that. one on one interaction is the best. good luck
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To keep his focus, your son is dealing with too many other things and might not be prepared, so his task is supposed to keep him reminded.
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Why are you doing your son's homework?  Are you opposed to him learning things for himself?
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You need to find out why he won't do it. Trying talking to him about it calmly. Assuming that he is not just a lazy child. There may a distraction at school.\nOr maybe he is just depressed...almost anything can affect a childs school work.
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Give them less homework and try to make it more fun. Give less paperwork and more interesting projects. Try to be more creative with it. I know kids can be very difficult to teach these days. Good luck!
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turn off tv and radio. stay away from noisy environment. keep temperature at a comfortable cool. give in to distracting thoughts for fifteen minutes (as in write down everything that comes to your mind--as in anything!). then mentally tell yourself, i will go back on all these as soon as i finish my homework. it works! try it!
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go to school, you need to think about more important things @ 13 yrs. old!
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I think that there is more going on in the child's life than just not wanting to do his work.  There is something that is keeping him/her from being motivated to work.  So, I guess the big question is...How do you motivate them?  I have been trying all year to answer that question.
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I've dealt with it in that I've been that kid--I did really well on tests, but I hated being cooped up in a classroom.  I don't think your son is the problem; I think the school is the problem.  It isn't natural for kids to be forced to sit still for hours and hours on end--and then people wonder why we have an obesity epidemic!\n\nThere is a good chance your kid is not being challenged enough.  The year I got "The Astronaut Award (for daydreaming so much it seemed like I was on another world)" from my teacher was the same year that I tested into the GATE Seminar program--second grade, age 7 (close to where your son is).  My suggestion is see if you can have the school hit him with an aptitude test that might qualify him for more challenging studies.  beyond that, make sure he has plenty of time after school to run and play outside and get the exercise he needs.\n\nI know I'm going to make a lot of enemies by saying this, but GOING TO A PSYCHIATRIST SHOULD ONLY BE DONE AS A LAST RESORT.  IT IS THE NUCLEAR OPTION.  THEY WILL GIVE HIM MEDICATION REGARDLESS OF WHETHER OR NOT THERE IS A NON-MEDICAL ALTERNATIVE.\n\nThey're doctors--they see a problem, they look for a medical solution.  If the problem was the school,m they'd never say it, because it isn't even on their radar to look to a non-medical solution.  And while things might be getting better, the truth is that the field of psychiatry is still over-loaded with quacks that cut their teeth on Freud, and who don't have the slightest hint of understanding the actions of drugs at a molecular level.\n\nKids who really NEED medication exist, but they are rare, and they are the exception to the rule.  Stay away from the doctor until you've exhausted all else.\n\nemail me if you'd like, at craven0811@yahoo.com
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are you focused on schoolwork too? if not, then try to get his attention by asking him questions about the lesson or try to get help(even is sometimes ou don't really have to) with your math problems..it might work..good luck!
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First you have to make sure s/he enjoys school... Does s/he complain when coming home about friends, teachers, bullies?  If so remove those problems... homework my daughters teacher doesn't believe in forcing students to do home work if they choose not to do it they choose not to watch a movie at the end of the week with class mates....(shes and A student now from failing and threats of being held back)if those things don't work then don't hold him/her back maybe they are a late bloomer and it doesn't really matter if they fall behind in the early years because their minds are little sponges and they can really catch up fast... I would say that if by the end of 3rd grade they are still failing to succeed then hold back and make repeat a grade but summer school is fun and I make mine go(even this year with the A's) and all other parents should to... It's to much time off and they forget and we don't have time in today's society to stay at home and keep them school lvl educated we have to work....so over all make school fun  and the rest will follow ( and yes you have the control of if your elementary child proceeds to the next grade)
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I am a school kid and i know exactly how your son feels, i have no motivation towards my work whatsoever. The only way i can focus on my work is to have everything taken from me. It's not that i doon't want to learn it's just i can't be bothered. So what i would do is ask him if he is actually bothered about his future. If he says he is then tell him that you will take everyhting that he thinks might distract him because then you will be on "his side" but if he says that he isn't bothered about his future then take everyhting away from him anyway so then he will do his work from pure boredom. Dopn't forget to stick to what you say otherwise he won't pay any attention to what you say in the future. I'd also use the technique of restricting the days which he can go out with his friends on, maybe to days at the weekend as usually during the week nobody wants to go out anyway so restricting to weekend wont really affect him but he will think it will and then he will want to work so he can have the rest of the week off.