I caught my wife with our nieghbour she was masturbating him while she was fully dressed shall i forgive her ?
461375
NO YOU SHOULDN'T FORGIVE HER, WHAT IF YOU WOULD HAVE WALKED IN 30 MINS LATER, THEN WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE WALKED IN ON???\nYOU DESERVE BETTER
1098499
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....
537886
Now I've heard everything! Your wife should be ashamed of herself for behaving in this manner! This is NOT abuse.
1184214
Well no, you should have not done that but do let her know what you have done.  She may be more willing to forgive you if she sees that your confessing your mistake...Good luck!
986847
Ask yourself how you would feel if your wife was admiring the bulge in another mans pants while out with you.  It is not wrong to LOOK at another woman or admire another body part BUT damnit you dont do this while with your mate.  Its respectful.
309228
Well, couple of things, is this a figment of your immagination or you have proof?\n\nIf immagination, then try gathering proof, your case could be one of those jelousy.\n\nIf you have proof, well, you can either confront her, which could possibly lead to arguements, violence or divorce, are you prepare for such consequence.\n\nIf you don't want to confront her, then all you can do it say nothing about it, pretend you never knew about it, hope she can realize that she need to come back to you, kinda like having a back door for return.\n\nA study shows that the 7 years itch are usually initiated bu woman than man. So it could a mid life crisis.
557666
No. What she has done is very inappropriate and in my mind, VERY selfish. I imagine she wouldn't like to be on the receiving end of such a thing should you have done that; am I right? Bottom line is this - it is not right for her to spend an evening like that with a man who is not her husband. Period! The mere fact that she kept this from you is an indication that what she did wasn't right. Deep down, she knew this would upset you and rightfully so. But if it were so harmless, she wouldn't have kept it from you in the first place. I think to help resolve this situation you should ask her what makes it "okay" for a married woman to do such a thing? I'd also ask her what makes her think that you should be "okay" with it as well?!
690696
Don't do it man. If she trusted you enough, then she wouldn't be doing this. If you're going to do this, she's got you by the cojones man. Don't do it. You should have some freedom, especially around that area. And what if you break up with that on? She could easily walk away with the key. What are you gonna do then? Go to a locksmith and tell him to get it off? Whatever you do, don't even put that on.
246121
It appears you do not have a problem getting in her pants after another man has already been there . ooh now that should really make you feel like a man.Sloppy seconds.So what makes you any better than her you up tight jerk.Oh boo hoo someone else has touched her now I feel awful. That is until you really got to touch her yourself .You were not so dissatisfied with her while she was playing with Mr Happy down there were you??? Get over your self for You are now used goods your self and are worse than her because you have a problem with her doing exactly what you yourself did to her. Grow up loser.Harsh words for a preacher yet if you are going to judge her for what you are doing pay back is hard to swallow sometimes.
212373
I thank you for the quick reply, but you did read it cafefully, I never ever cheated on her! I lyed and stole from her, she says she still loves me and I'm truely hate myself for what i've done to her and our marriage. I love with so much love I would do anything to save this. But i'm here doin this myself lookin for alittle help. thank you!
841373
Yep... it wasn't such a good thing to do... & you will have to learn to forgive yourself long before anyone else will. I would suggest writing to your (I'm assuming) ex-wife & tell her all these things that you're saying here. Apologize for your actions, for hurting her, for straying. You can't do much else past an apology. Your ex is trying to figure out what SHE did wrong, to cause you to stray from your marriage in the first place. Perhaps you can help sort that out for her. Being an outsider here, you are taking responsibility for your actions, but she needs to know that you realize what you did was wrong.  \n   Remember always, hind-sight is 20/20. Don't do anything you think you might regret later, because regret is a horrible thing to have to live with.  Once you learn to forgive yourself, time will take care of the rest. Your guilt shouldn't keep you from living your life.. it should prevent you from making mistakes in the future, by causing you to stop & think before you act.
302286
NO! blackmail her. Tell her your going to tell the wife she seduced you (see Jude Law tabloids). Tell her if she will go quietly, and pay you a small amt. monthly, you will "forget about the incidents of indiscretion which occurred."\nGood by nanny, hello $$$
1006104
Wow this is a hard one, First you cant expect her to forgive you right away.\nShe's probably still hurt at the thought of you cheating. I mean she just had a baby. She's probably got a lot of things going through her head. Its good that you want to make an effort to get back together. I think you have to work harder on that eye-balling other girl thing you got going on. You wouldn't like It if she was checking out other guys. Put yourself in her place. Would you accept her if she cheated on you. Just give it some time and try to assure her that you want her and only her. If you really want this to work out, you gotta really work to keep your relationship. You love her don't you. Be a man and get your Sh*t together. Remember you're the one that messed up, you got to make her feel like you really want to work it out.
242272
I am sorry.  That is just sick honey. You need to tell her what you saw and that it was nasty.
994552
everyone here is bashing the wife. we don't know for certain that she has cheated on him. i don't think she has. how many of us been hurt by a boyfriend or husband who has cheated on us. it sounds like that she forgive him and he done it again and again for his own reasons. right now she is hurt and mad and she feels betrayed by you. sounds like you really hurt her and her world is turn up side down and their is children involved then maybe she trying to figure how to handle this but i think there is more to this story then you are telling. if you love her so much why did cheat on her again and again and now u want forgiveness and win her love back. was you thinking about her when you was cheating on her? did you think of how she would feel when she found out? she doesn't feel good about her self right now and you caused that. now you feel insecure. maybe right now she feels insecure about herself and maybe she is trying to figure out where she went wrong in this and I'm pretty sure you blame her for all of your affairs right? give her time she is going through a lot right now. sounds like she was a very good wife to u and u throw it all away for some one night stands or relationships. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings but she has every right to be mad and upset.
405557
if you love her and trust her let her be, she is who she is and thats why you married her so dont change what you fell in love with (big mistake men make) she'll stop if she thinks it hurts you - we all check men out beneath the waist, don't mean were gonna screw em - men check out women too - just life- have fun\nBTW - your wife must think you are a super hubby too if she can be herself comfortably in front of you than that says a whole lot about her awesome husband
21348
If your husband kissed another woman what would you think.  You have already cheated yourself since you got to that point.  Now is the time to feel guilty.