Is it no longer a sin for a christian to divorce and remarry?
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What Jesus said about "divorce and remarry" would apply to everyone.  But the Ministers just look the other way, why?  Because if they enforced what Jesus said, they would have very few at their meetings, & there would be no money coming in.\n\nDIVORCE AND SEPARATION\n\nGod, the Originator of marriage, designed it to be a permanent union. But is there any Scriptural reason for a person to divorce his or her mate—and one that would allow for the possibility of remarrying? Jesus addressed this matter by declaring: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9) Sexual infidelity by a mate is the only ground for a divorce that will allow the innocent mate to remarry.\n\nIn addition, the Bible’s words at 1 Corinthians 7:10-16, while encouraging marriage mates to stay together, allow for separation. Some, after trying very hard to preserve their marriage, feel they have no choice but to separate. What can be acceptable Scriptural grounds for such a step?\n\nOne is willful nonsupport. When getting married, a husband assumes the responsibility of providing for his wife and children. The man who willfully fails to provide the material necessities of life “has disowned the faith and is worse than a person without faith.” (1 Timothy 5:8) So separation is possible.\n\nAnother is extreme physical abuse. So then, if a mate physically abuses his wife, the victim may separate. (Galatians 5:19-21; Titus 1:7) “Anyone loving violence [God’s] soul certainly hates.”—Psalm 11:5.\n\nAnother ground for separation is the absolute endangerment of a believer’s spirituality—one’s relationship with God. When a mate’s opposition, perhaps including physical restraint, has made it impossible to pursue true worship and has imperiled the believer’s spirituality, then some believers have found it necessary to separate.—Matthew 22:37; Acts 5:27-32.\n\nHowever, if divorce is pursued under such circumstances, one would not be free to enter a new marriage. According to the Bible, the only legitimate ground for divorce that permits remarriage is adultery or “fornication.”—Matthew 5:32.\n\nThe Bible allows only one reason for getting a divorce that frees a person to remarry, and that is fornication (Greek, porneia, gross sexual immorality). If fornication is committed, then the innocent mate may decide whether to get a divorce or not.—Matthew 5:32.\n\nAfter telling the Pharisees that the Mosaic concession of divorcing their wives was not the arrangement that had prevailed “from the beginning,” Jesus said: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Mt 19:8, 9)
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O.K., I love to tell this.\n\nWhen I became a Christian, I could no longer tolerate my unsaved, drinking, running around husband.\n\nI prayed, "God, please, give me a Christian husband instead."\n\nI knew God doesn't like divorce, so I didn't have any idea what He would do.\n\nYa ready?\n\nHe saved my husband. God is great all the time.
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My preacher once told me that you are not obligated by God to stay in a relationship that is harmful to you.  He also said God forgives those who divorce due to adultery and that adultery is not limited to a betrayal of a physical nature but can also be a betrayal of the heart, etc.  Abuse is betrayal.  My opinion, it would probably be more harmful for the child to grow up with that type of role model than for the child to be removed from the situation. I will also pray for you.
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If youve made a marriage commitment you have no excuse to dishonor it.\n\nOtherwise, look into the reasons for the failure. Its important to overlook trivial things. You will have trials in any love relationship. If you cant take it now, how will you handle the really bad? \nHow do you know it is doomed to be a waste? My guess is youre guessing yourself. Or that youve already decided. I seriously encourage you to inquire of God rather than us here who have so little knowledge compared to the Most High.\n\nPrayer is your most valuable tool. Use it. \n***************************\nTo therealdeal deal below. Divorce is wrong always. God only permits it in severe situations and even then it is not pleasing to Him. After all He puts up with us and takes us back each time we betray Him.\n\nMatthew \n31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'[f] 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.\n\nMatthew 19\nDivorce \n 1When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. 2Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. \n 3Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?" \n\n 4"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'[a] 5and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'[b]? 6So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." \n\n 7"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?" \n\n 8Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." \n\n 10The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry." \n\n 11Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage[c]because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it."
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First of all, any sin can be forgiven, with the exception of final despair ( that would be, say, you are killing yourself and right up until your very last thought, you believe God doesn't love you and you have no regrets about what you are doing)\n\nWe Catholics have the Sacrament of Reconciliation (Confession)to bring our relationship with God back in line with where it should be when we have sinned. Don't let anyone fool you- it isn't easy. It is NOT ," Oh, Catholics think they can do ANYTHING, then go to Confession." WRONG. If you do it right, the point is it is really HARD to confess the things you do that disappoint God (we are not talking to the priest in Confession, we are talking to God- the priest speaks on His behalf). When you walk out of the Confessional, knowing your soul is as pure as on the day of your Baptism- THAT is the most AWESOME feeling!\n\nSo, again, almost any sin can be forgiven. You must be sorry for doing it and truly want to avoid that sin forever, take it to God in Confession...and He forgets it forever!\n\nMost people's moral faults are not known to the world, so rarely would that keep them from being able to be married in the Church. \n\nHaving said that, Matrimony is a Sarament for Catholics- that is why Catholic weddings are so ceremonius and include Mass whenever possible. If a couple enters into marriage while in a state of sin ( not having been to Confession as soon as possible prior to the wedding) they are not allowing themselves to be as open to the grace of the Sacrament as possible.\n\nDivorce is not a sin, but Jesus said marriage is permanent- so REMARRYING after divorce IS a sin. It is adultery. An annulment is a declaration after investigation that a marriage was not Sacramental in nature, therefore did not really 'take.' \n\nThe amount requested by the Diocese for an annulment is a FRACTION of the true cost, and no one is required to pay if they cannot afford it. It is emotionally difficult, but there is a reason. You are supposed to learn something from the process to help you keep your next marriage together. Were you too immature to choose a life mate? Did you fail to think of your spouse moe than yourself? What did you do right and what did you do wrong.  The reason family and friends are questiopned is because they watched your marriage fall apart- only they didn't say anything to you so you could try to keep it together. They offer third party insight and confirmation of what happened, just like in any court case.\n\nIf you want to learn more about the Catholic Church, I recommend 2 books:\n\nThe Catechism of the Catholic Church and Catholicism for Dummies.
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The Catholic Church does in fact "frown" on divorce.  However, you can pretty much commit just about any sin, pay a fee (some are heavier than others) and be reinstated in the church.
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as far as I know it is not considered a sin to live together according to the Bible, but it is a sin to have sex before marriage and I don't know many people who live together that don't have sex, so it is up to you to draw the line to be able to stay away from sex before marriage
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They could stay, but would have to change their sinful ways and repent and stop living that life, or have to go esle where. The Chruch has an obligation to not only share the word of God, but inforce it. \n\nThere was a man and a woman that were both married to other people, but went to church and was having an affair with different other people from their church. The pastor talke to them privately and let them know that they had to stop that behavior or they will be evicted from that chruch. \n\nNow this was done in priviate. The woman refused and told the pastor that it was none of his business. He told her that she was no longer allowed to attend His church if she did not repent of that sinful lifestyle. \n\nThis foolish woman took what was done in priviate, and called the TV stations, and had it aired all over the state. Now how stupid of her was that?\n\nIf you deliberatly refuse to change your sinful ways, that church does not have to keep you as a member. \n\nHebrews 6:6 If they shall fall away, to renew them again unto repentance; seeing they crucify to themselves the Son of God afresh, and put him to an open shame.\n \n1 Corinthians 15:34 Awake to righteousness, and sin not; for some have not the knowledge of God: I speak this to your shame.
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Yes because the person abusing is breaking their marriage commitment to treat the other as Christ treated the church. Physically hurting the other violates faith that the other will protect them. Matthew 5:32 "But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery." I believe abuse falls in the unfaithfulness. Matthew 19:8 "Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning." If someone is abusing their spouse then it falls into a hardened heart and under old testament law where a divorce is allowed.
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I can see why you feel this way. I am a Christian but the ones who say they are Christians are they using it as a name tag or are they really saved or not and living the walk instead of just talking the talk? People should not hide the fact that they are Christians or saved either for that matter. But we have to understand as Christians or saved people that sometimes the only Jesus people see is us! Are we doing and living the way Jesus would and treating others the way he would have .... WWJD What would Jesus do is something to ask ourselves before doing anything that may be questionable in God's eyes. Do we treat others the way Jesus would? Sorry I am rambling on here so i will get off my soap box now lol. Sorry! Real Christians should not have affairs either or ever. But we are not perfect either and can slip up and make mistakes and err but we need to get out of it and ask for forgiveness from God and move on and not live any longer that way ! God hates divorce and adultery!
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Depends on what type of Christian.  Most maintream religions only allow one.  Some sects of Christianity to allow plural marriages, but not many.\n\nThe real question is why would you.  It's one wife enough torture.  ;)
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Well, there’s only a few hints in the New Testament. You decide what they mean:\nJesus comments divorce: "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." (Matt 19.8-9, pp. Mark 10.1-12)\nPaul, Romans 7: So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man. (Rom 7)\nGodly leaders had special rules, though believers should fellow their example: Phil 3.17; 4.9; 1 Thess 1.6,7; 2 Thess 3.7,9; 1 Tim 4.12; Tit 2.7; 1 Pet 5.3; 1 Cor 4.6; 1 Cor 11.1.\nAnyway, these rules were made in a Bedouin society thousands of years ago. So why worry about them today? These societies suppressed women. And today, polygamy is only allowed in very macho countries where women has no rights at all, like Saudi Arabia and other conservative countries in the Middle East. In most modern societies polygamy is not allowed.
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It is not Christian marriage we are fighting over it is civil marriage.\n\nI can already get married in my church and that's great....just doesn't carry any legal weight.
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It pains me to read this, that a man would do this to two women he loves. I pray for all involved. I'm a Catholic, deeply believing in marriage and its sanctity.\n\nYou have many questions. I"ll try to tackle them organizedly.\n\nI think, more important than a discussion of the sin, is the damage that is being done to the spouse and to the family and to him and to the OW. Those who say sin has no consequences beyond the sinner are sadly mistaken. We can talk about what the sin means and where there was sin and what punishment is merited later. Right now what matters is for him to cease in this sinful way.\n\nIt is true that the Blood of Christ means forgiveness; but HE HAS TO STOP SEEING HER in order to really and truly accept that forgiveness. Catholics seek this through Penance, non-Catholics through direct prayer or accountability groups or whatever practice they have interpreted to be correct.\n\nAll Sins are against God alone, but there are sins (small s) against several people here:\nHe is sinning against the spouse for very obvious reasons; "love, but not in love" is not a good enough reason to be unfaithful.\nHe is sinning against his family.\nHe is sinning against the OW by not loving her (love is a choice, very true).\nHe is sinning against the community by breaking his marriage vows.\n\nFirst, where is there Sin? There is Sin in the extramarital affair on its own - and this sort of Sin begins in the heart; he doesn't love the OW by choice, so the love is not in the heart, and that is the Sin of lust. There is Sin in being unfaithful in marriage, and I consider this to be the worst because it is breaking the marriage vows. I think the Church would consider breaking the vows the most grave Sin. I can go on and on, but the case is made.\n\nThe punishment for Sin is death; he may feel guilty, he may wish to repent, but it cannot be a sincere repentance until he stops seeing the OW and gives his heart time to forget her. The Sin and sins end at this point because:\n\nThe marriage has the chance to be made whole.\nThe hurt stops being piled upon the spouse.\nThe lust of his body ends.\nThe lust of his heart will fade.\nThe family has stopped being rent and can begin to heal.\nThe community sees that the vow is again being honored.\n\nIf he is not truly sorry for his Sin, whether he stops or not, this is for the Lord to know. The Lord may condemn him, the Lord may complete the good work begun in him (per Phillippians) and eventually admit him to Eternal Life, as the Lord may do to all of us. But to persist in unrepented sin is a grave decision.
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Marriage is really a civil contract, not a religious one.  If you want a divorce, you can get one, no problem, and be free to marry someone else.  If your husband is a lifer, sweetie, don't you be one too.....
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IT'A LONG, BUT INTERESTING:\n\n“They Must Become One Flesh”\n\nWhen the first human couple were wed, God stated that a man “must stick to his wife and they must become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) Hence, marriage was to be a permanent bond. That is why Jesus later stated that “the ground of fornication” is the only basis for Scriptural divorce with the possibility of entering a new marriage.—Matthew 19:3-9  DEATH WOULD ALSO END THE MARRIAGE\n\nA Christian cannot enter marriage thinking: ‘If it doesn’t work out, I can always divorce.’ Marriage is to be viewed as a permanent bond.\n\nJesus made clear that marriage was to be permanent when he answered a question put to him about the propriety of divorce. He stated: “Did you not read that [God] who created them from the beginning made them male and female and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and will stick to his wife, and the two will be one flesh’? So that they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has yoked together let no man put apart.”—Matthew 19:4-6.\n\nDIVORCE AND SEPARATION\n\n  God, the Originator of marriage, designed it to be a permanent union. But is there any Scriptural reason for a person to divorce his or her mate—and one that would allow for the possibility of remarrying? Jesus addressed this matter by declaring: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9) Sexual infidelity by a mate is the only ground for a divorce that will allow the innocent mate to remarry.\n\n  In addition, the Bible’s words at 1 Corinthians 7:10-16, while encouraging marriage mates to stay together, allow for separation. Some, after trying very hard to preserve their marriage, feel they have no choice but to separate. What can be acceptable Scriptural grounds for such a step?\n\n  One is willful nonsupport. When getting married, a husband assumes the responsibility of providing for his wife and children. The man who willfully fails to provide the material necessities of life “has disowned the faith and is worse than a person without faith.” (1 Timothy 5:8) So separation is possible.\n\n  Another is extreme physical abuse. So then, if a mate physically abuses his wife, the victim may separate. (Galatians 5:19-21; Titus 1:7) “Anyone loving violence [God’s] soul certainly hates.”—Psalm 11:5.\n\n  Another ground for separation is the absolute endangerment of a believer’s spirituality—one’s relationship with God. When a mate’s opposition, perhaps including physical restraint, has made it impossible to pursue true worship and has imperiled the believer’s spirituality, then some believers have found it necessary to separate.—Matthew 22:37; Acts 5:27-32.\n\n  However, if divorce is pursued under such circumstances, one would not be free to enter a new marriage. According to the Bible, the only legitimate ground for divorce that permits remarriage is adultery or “fornication.”—Matthew 5:32.\n\nNEXT IS A ??? THAT WAS ASKED BY  SOMEONE:\nNo Divorce?\n\nI disagree with your view that the Bible allows the innocent mate to remarry. (January 8, 1986, page 12, footnote) Whoever separates from the other should remain single or else be reconciled. (1 Corinthians 7:10, 11) One should be prepared to forgive the mate.\n\nO. A. F., Nigeria\n\nForgiveness is proper when the guilty party truly repents. However, at Matthew 19:9 Jesus stated: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” This indicates that if the innocent party gains a divorce on the grounds of fornication, he is free to marry another without that being considered adultery. At 1 Corinthians 7, Paul is referring to a separation rather than a Scriptural divorce.\n\nTo what extent need a faithful Christian wife resist a divorce action brought by her mate?\n
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in my opinion no. you confess your sins to God and accept him into your heart and you are forgiven. the sins hang over your head kind of as a reminder to not do them again and that they are wrong