My husband is a 36 year old man who got a divorce 3 years ago!?
458098
Deal with it as best you can.  She is a manipulating woman and won't change.  The kids are old enough to come to their own conclusions.  But watch out for the kids playing "mom vs dad" to their own ends - which happens with teenagers.  They will grow.  Let his kids know both you and he love them, and never speak badly of their mom in front of them.\n\nIf you are up to it, a little polite confrontation with her may be helpful (or not), but think about it.  Good luck!
839398
Sorry for you. You should have enquired about his incidents before marriage. But now its too late. Anyhow you must write to him letter asking him why he has cheated you & lied about himself. Keep a copy of this letter with you & send this letter through courier or registered  post. Any reply if you get will be a piece of evidence that you can use in future. If you dont get any reply it will be also a piece of evidence which you can use regarding his cheating & lies. Now bring in some marriage counsellor to settle your matrimonial dispute. This will be another piece of evidence for you. If everthing fails move the family court for judicial seperation on the basis of cruelty if your actual seperation has not completed 2 years. Since irrepeareable break of marriage is not a condition of judicial separation or divorce you have to cover your case under ther the clause of cruelty. If you succeed you can get divorce from this guy after 1 year of passing of the decree of judicial seperation. You can always get maintaince from him for yourself & if you have your kids.
617382
There IS life after 25 years, and after divorce, as well. I have been there and done that.....and, AM ALIVE AND WELL! He ain't gonna kill himself, no. Divorce is what they need, and go on with their lives. I have!!
542780
Get a new attorney and a restraining order or order of protection against your husband. It just takes longer to get a divorce if he is contesting the divorce. Some states make you take marriage counseling first. Good Luck.
464203
Hey, you know, I am kind of in the same boat as you are, except for I have pretty much gone through having to hear my ex-husband cry to me every single time that I spoke with him to let me know how much is missed me.  I have two young boys with him, and believe me, it has been really hard, but thanks to my dear boyfriend who I now love a lot I have made it through.  I have been thinking about living with my boyfriend too, as my divorce will be in June, but it seems like I can't wait that long.  I don't know, but I just know that women seem to want things done much quicker and we don't like to wait to get what we want.  I would say to do what your heart tells you to do.
809071
OMG!!!  I can't believe that someone else on earth has had to go through this!!  Last year I found out my husband was having an affair for 9 months with a neighbor of ours.  I was friends with this woman before she moved into our neighborhood, so when she moved in, we quickly became best of friends.  I was very angry, I kicked him out and never spoke to her again.  I had to talk to him because when I filed for divorce, he wanted to talk a settlement in custody of our daughter.  I refused.  I told him that as long as he wanted to be with her, then he wasn't taking my child around HER.  After about 3 months of not living with our family, he decided that he didn't want to be single or with HER for that matter.  I made him jump through a million hoops to come back home (such as switching cell numbers with me, getting a better job, going to counseling, going to AA, plus many more).  Also I made it a condition that if I EVER even THINK that he is talking to her again, then it is OVER FOR GOOD.
533077
This is a situation that takes lots of time and consideration. I know what you mean I'm in the same boat. I'm 23 with 2 kids and I love my husband dearly, but there is one old boyfriend who makes my heart skip a beat but I know that we weren't meant for each other or things would have happened differently. You love your husband, if you didn't you would've left him by now. The only thing that's different now is the new guy. My advice to you is not to tear up a family of 3 years just because the grass looks greener on the other side, because it never is! Women are hopeless romantics and we would do almost anything to be swept off our feet and ride off into the sunset with prince charming on his white horse. But if you were to leave this man of 3 years what would be different with the new one? Three years from now will be the same story. You have to learn how to make things in your current relationship stay fresh and vibrant. You have to keep the flame burning. When a fire starts to die you just add more wood. Not wait till it burns out and then start a new one. Trust me, if both of you work at it and you keep open and honest communication between you and your spouse you will have a relationship that is almost unheard of now a days!
615974
he was married 3 yrs ago and i think he still is. sorry
563751
EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT.  It took me FIVE count them 5 years to get my divorce. If you know for a fact that the marriage is over (by meeting the ex or a child if they have one) AND you know the one you are seeing is living apart from their spouse then it is fine.  INVESTIGATE the person and make sure that they are telling you the truth.
524888
Sounds as if he has moved on in his mind and left you and the marriage behind. Sad that after 8 years. How you can improve your marriage is how you react to the sitution right now. Don't beg or bug him about anything. Give him some room and the old saying if you set someone free and they come back they are yours is very true............
80675
You need a family law lawyer.  He should have methods of finding those things out.
274767
first of all . . . . you both married too young . . . unable to merge your life together.\n\nHe won't change until he has grown up . . . and I know you love him . . . but you either accept him the way he is . . . or you leave him.\n\nIf he runs away . . . when things get tough . . . imagine how it would be if you got pregnant and have children . . . it would be very difficult . . . and it would be unfair to the children.\n\nHe hasn't matured enough . . . and neither have you . . . as for divorce. . . .  you were married for less than a year . . . get it annulled . . . it is cheaper and would be like you two were never married.  If you wait until the year mark  . . . I am going to ask why . . . so you could collect 6 months alimony.\n\nEnd it . . . and keep your dignity.  You can date him . . . until he matures . . . but as for living together . . . forget it.  Also . . . use the time . . . to your best interest . . . focus on your career because you are being distracted by this.
276969
No, he isn't.  I think it would be in your best interest to look into getting a divorce.  He has basically abandoned you for someone else.  You deserve better than a guy who walks out on you.
605624
I have been married for just over 9 years, together for 11 and have 4 children. We faced similar trials recently, we lost our house almost the car and were behind on a lot of bills. Divorce was never an issue, it will not solve any of those problems and if you agree on everything than you agree on that also. Sometimes you just have to lose everything to see what is really important... your family and their well being. You can always rent, get extent ions on the bills if you ask for help. It has been just about 2 years since everything seemed to go wrong for us, financially, but we are stronger and more aware of our money, emotions and the important stuff that always seemed to get lost before. It does get better. Keep your head up and stick it out.
918770
Do yourself a favor and stop the relationship immediately. If he hasn't changed his ways in the last 7 years, he isn't going to start now.  You cannot change people, they have to want to be different, and they have to want to make things better for themselves.  What is it about him that makes you want to stay with him?  And be HONEST with yourself.  Is it merely because you've been with him so long it's comfortable?  I hate to be this blunt, but you need to break this one off or you will just be very unhappy as a married woman, and I can almost guarantee you will end up a divorce statistic.
1034333
You are best to let him get a jail house lawyer( an Inmate who is well read on the laws) He can guide you in the right direction. Your husband should know this if he has already been locked up for 3 years. He can file all of his own appeals first and see where it goes from there. Good Luck
359748
Did it ever occur to you that it might not be the men but might be you?  Maybe you are expecting marriage to be something that it isn't so you give it three years and then give up.  If you don't want a third divorce under you belt, it might be time to see a marriage counselor as well as some psychological counseling to find out exactly what the issue is.  Maybe you can stop this cycle before you match Liz Taylor husband for husband.