A friend of mine just found out that his wife to be has HIV, and still wants to go ahead. what do you advise?
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Who do you want the advice for - you or him?  If it's for you, be happy for him, you dummy!  He doesn't need any advice, he's already made his decision.
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If i was u i would be happy that i did that because u saved her from getting pregnant and getting aids from him.If you know you did good then you did good.  she will come  back to you and thank you. so just give it time. It might take like a month or so.  I hope that everything is going to work between you and your friend.
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There are alot of people that have it and sex is not all that.  just make sure if you do find someone that you like alot that your them that you have HIV . so they now what they are getting into. and if she loves you she will understand and if she don't then it not worth it.
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YES!!! I know a couple myself. Guys who do this are called "Down Low" guys. I would strongly urge you to warn your friends about  how rampant Aids and HiV are in this community. You guys may never know the full truth... but tell your friend to protect her heart and let him GO.
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I would go out and get tested for aids and not have sex with my spouse. If it came back negative I'd say "Honey...I had to take a Aids test before I got my insurance. It came back positive. The question dear is why?" then let them argue or see what transpires in the next hour. have the divorce papers ready.\nbecause why would you want to live with someone playing Russian roulette with your life and your heart.\ndon't let them sweat too long. One or both may kill their self or each other in grief or anger. Better to remember it all as a last laugh on your spouse and lover.
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humm, the question to ask yourself is do you want the possibility of getting the virus? Sure you can practise safe sex but there are still possibilities. I congratualte the girl who told you, she was honest and that means she is a good person. Its a tough question, if you decide not to date her please be honest with her and your fears and thank her for beign honest. remember she is a person too and she too has to deal with having the virus and dating.
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Wow, Heavy!! You sound very wise for a 25 yr old. Ooops a stereotype. Sorry. Well, I have to agree on this-do not even worry about the age difference, it is not the issue and that will certainly pass if it is.  \n\nI commend you on your ability to wanting to stay through the "long haul", just be sure you have the strength for it.  I have a feeling this guy really cares for you and is probably having a difficult time right now depending on how long he has been HIV+. It is great that he cares for you and your health, but in my opinion one should never miss the opportunity to have a real love in their life in spite of an illness, disease, race or the rejection of society because of male/male or female/female.  To live a life in fear is a life half lived. Ask yourself how strong you really feel this bond is between you and stick with it.\n\nHelp him through his fears. Do not be afraid to make the HIV the center issue, because he will soon realize that you are truly there for him and vice vesa. Find information for him on HIV+ and HIV- couples from health advisors, clinics or the internet. Uunderstand that you can maintain a healthy safe, free from infection sexual and loving relationship.  You are his friend too, so don't give up on him.  Educate yourself and him everything will fall into place the more educated you both are.\n\nI know many long lasting HIV+ and HIV - couples, strght and gay.  I have a friend whose husband had his sperm washed so they could have a child and have a beautiful daughter from it-so it can work. I think your guy friend does not have all the resources to him or has not looked into them.  You sound like a real catch and the way you worded him he is one too-best of luck and go for the "long haul' and since you believe in God pray for guidance your strength will be there.
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I'm sorry about your friend.  Find some articles about success stories of people who have fought the disease!!  There are tons of stories out there from people who have been successful in chemo therapy, etc.  This might give your friend some hope!!
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find a different doctor.  Any educated doctor knows there is no great risk to him/her personally in treating HIV or AIDS patients...sounds like some sort of holier than thou personal reaction on the part of the doctor.  Doctor's choose thier specialty, so you can always find another that WILL treat- like an infectious disease specialist.
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You never know who has AIDS or some other STD's, so the best thing to do is to use condoms. NEVER have unprotected sex!! Even if the person is young or looks healthy. Be careful!
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YOUR FRIEND SHOULD LEARN BETTER BEHAVIOR BUT FOR NOW GO GET HIV TEST BECAUSE IF SHE TEST POSITIVE ,SHE WILL BE NOTIFIED QUICKLY BUT IF SHE TEST NEGATIVE SHE WON'T HEAR ANYTHING.
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wait untill yuor married to a clean person then you wouldn't have to worry about crap like that. AIDS HERPES, DEATH STB= Seavualy Transmited Babys
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On any single encounter with an infected partner, the risk is high, but not 100%. Multiple encounters increase the risk of transmission substantially.\n\nContrary to popular belief, HIV is actually quite difficult to catch. It is about 5000 times more difficult to contract than Hepatitis C for example (another sexually transmitted disease).\n\nYou should always use a condom if you want to avoid risk; you cannot rely on a person knowing their status. You don't know your status right now do you? And it takes several years for AIDs to develop, so often people feel and appear completely healthy while being infectious.\n\nThe chance of transmission varies with the time that the person has been infected. In the early stages they can be very infectious (before there are any signs). They wil become less infectious after a while and if they are on a therapy, they may reduce their viral load so as to be imperceptable. This doesn't mean you cannot catch it from them but the chances are reduced.\n\nThere is nothing you can do at this time except wait, and do not have unprotected sex with anyone else. Get your first test in three months time, and a further test after six months. If both are clear, you should be OK.
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Yea. there is a room in Yahoo, just get into yahoo, and then chat >> Health & Wellness >> HIV/AIDS \n\nIs like the nine row, hope this can help u partner. good luck in everything u do
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Unfortunately you CANNOT cure HIV, however you CAN suppress it from becoming full-blown AIDS indefinately.  \nThe only way to do this is by going to the doctor often, getting the right antiviral meds (VERY expensive), the proper vaccines against other infections, and avoiding high risk for infection - avoid sick people, wash hands often, avoid hospitals if possible, cook food thoroughly, take care of yourself physically.\n\n"Surviving HIV requires a substantial amount of social support, education, and hope.  Quality medical care is essential from experienced HIV specialists as is a person's will to live, and willingness to become their own best advocate.  This often means that the person living with HIV/AIDS must learn or be able to work with his medical providers as a partner, doing his or her part to take the medications as prescribed, reduce the possibility of becoming re-infected with more HIV, but also to ask questions, and report any problems with taking medications and/or side effects." - http://www.guardianhealth.org/hiv.htm\n\nI'm betting Magic is taking all precautions to follow all these measures.  However, he is just as susceptible as anyone else to problems.  He would not be the first person to beat the odds, and some of those that have are regular, everyday people.
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I want to know who are any of you to judge this person. I bet if we followed you'd have some issues also. The first person who posted is right. And just so you know smartass a baby is not automatically born with HIV if the mother has it.
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You have asked several questions. An egg that is fertilized with sperm from an HIV+ father will probably have the disease because of the manner in which fertilzation in vitro is performed. Then the embryo (more likely, several) embryos are implanted into a woman. These embryos are implanted into the woman without separating them from seminal fluid including the HIV virus. I rather suspect, the woman has just been exposed to HIV and will become positive herself. It is barely possible the child will not develop the disease but what gain is that if the wife falls ill. \n\nThe next question deals with killing the HIV virus by freezing the semen and/or the embryo. That won't happen. Viruses are almost non-living molecules. They commandeer the DNA of cells and get cells to support them. Treatment by cooling, will not kill a virus. We used to "store" viruses by freezing them in liquid nitrogen. The sperm cell will die well before a virus can be killed. Cells are far more fragile than viruses.\n\nThe next issue is that females do not have sperms. They have eggs which require fertilization either inside or outside of their bodies and the embryo requires a womb for implantation so it can grow and become a developed organism.\n\nThe risks of such a procedure are clear to me. They are about the same as having unprotected sex with the woman. If both of you are agreeable to this, so be it. This is not my call but I did wish to explain a couple of things.