If my girlfriend of 18 yrs doesnt want sex what do i do?
464976
It seems that you do not love your girlfriend and should break up with her.\n\nFirst for someone to be intimate with you, you have to make it comfortable for them.  If she is doing nothing, it means that you have not done your job properly.\n\nObviously you are not for her, since you are planning to leave her because she is not having enough sex with you.  Do her a favor and leave.  She is not comfortable with you and you don't love her.
29647
Some women think they should only have sex if they are feeling aroused. But the truth is, as she goes about  her day-to-day life, she might not think about sex all that much. So when you ask for sex, she won't be in the mood. Instead, try asking if you can snuggle, kiss, or give her a backrub. Make sure she knows that you won't have sex if she doesn't want to. After fifteen minutes of affection, you can ask if she'd like to have sex. She might be more interested at that point. \n\nTo be fair, you can also try to turn down your sex drive a bit. Try to spend a little less time thinking about sex or looking at things that make you horny. Instead, work on a hobby or spend time with your friends.
88263
Well if she is preggers, sex in the first trimester is kinda icky, to say the least at least it was for me and some other women ive talked to, if she thinks its lacking passion, maybe thats because she has it in her head shes not making love to you anymore shes making a baby with you, maybe thats how your treating it lately, Tell her if she wants passion,youll give her passion... make love to her like you did when you were first together, rediscover every inch of her body, remember that now you probably know how to get her from 0 to 60 in 5 minutes, take your time like you used to, get her to the point where shes close, and start to do something else, tease her with the idea of getting off, dont just hand a orgasum to her on a silver platter, think **here it is but you cant have it** trust me when my better half gets this attitude OMG its MINDBLOWING when he finally lets me have it ;) i hope that helps i know it works when this mentality gets used on me hehe :P
367759
This is common for long term marriages. After 14 years of being together things get routine. Try to heat things up a little, place Hersey kisses on the bed with rose petals or give her a lap dance. Try to remember what it was that she like about you sexually and being that out again. There could also be medical reasons for the lack of interest in sex. The best thing is to have your daughter spend the night at a friends house, you fix your wife a candle light dinner. Be very honest and tell her in an adult manner without argument about your concerns for your sexual health. Be very understanding and supportive with her and listen to her.
1161780
to wait until she's ready, b/c if you pressure her into she's not  going to like it or like you, and 2ndly you should wait until your older and more mature to have sex
909328
Get the candles out and get ready for some romance!! Maybe start out with a long while of foreplay on HER!!! Get her real tired-know what I mean? So, she's not wanting it right away. Sex doesn't have to be boom-boom-boom. Every-time you have the urge, change, and try something else sexual. Females love cuddling, so in between time, cuddle and massage!!
293773
massage and bribary,,,,, hot bath, long massage, all over, and ask if its ok to touch paticular parts,,,,dont be pushy, and if you need to have sex that bad with her, go to the bathroom and mastu_rbate on ya own, 1st, this might calm you down and she`ll not feel so pressured to give in, time will tell, dont talk about it for days to her, is it just her you want or just sex with her...... she will give in, but be paitent,,,,,,talk to her about her fears, and both go to the library for books and advise, or go to a family planning center for leaflets... just except its hers to give,,,not yours to take.
875320
Giving her all your spare time is not what she really wants, what she really wants is you to spend some "QUALITY TIME " with her. Within that quality time she needs some intimacy...."NOT SEX " & she needs you to initiate things that you'all can do together...and most of all....when you're with her she needs your undivided attention.
1170815
Marry her, then she'll lose her sex drive. ( Ask any man that has been married for over three years ).
470674
The first thing you can do is not pressure her into it if it makes her feel uncomfortable around you.  Trust me, if the love is there, the sex will come, you shouldn't rush it anyways because sex should really be an expression of one person's love for another.  If you go to high school or college, they have counselors there who are more than willing to help.  I suggest you look into that for her, it'll show that you really care about her.  Don't feel frustrated, if you love her, then try to be there for her whenever you can.  Be patient my friend and I am sure that with time, you'll find that sex is but a small part of true love (it is much more than that).
854060
Always always always be honest, don't try to change who she is or what she is, how she dresses. Tell her that she is beautiful and treat her like u have never treated anyone like she's just something u have to have every day. Make her feel safe and secure when she is with u. And when she doesn't feel like having sex don't get mad at her cause sometimes a woman just likes to be held and caressed. It's not always about sex. But when it is please her. Make her feel like she's the only woman on the face of the earth. We like this kind of stuff. Hope this helped.
546948
Assess your relationship. See what's changed and what needs to change. Sex and romance almost always go hand in hand with women. DO you talk anymore (bond emotionally), do you go out on dates and do nice things for her or buy her gifts anymore? If not, that's a start. Arrange a special weekend for her. Make her dinner, chill out with her. Buy her something small like flowers and chocolate. Talk to her and ask her what's different. If there's nothing wrong, then maybe she just isn't that into to you, or she's in love with someone else. Best of luck
93499
just have a talk!? communication is the best way... talk to her mother and tell to her that you don't want to have a sex relation with her because she's the mother of your girlfriend,the one that you love. And not only that, explain to her that it is bad to have a sex relation with her because you love her daughter and her daughter is the one you want to be with in your entire life. And her daughter will get hurt if she'll know about it and try to ask if she love her daughter. ok that's it...now it's your turn...
1100082
Depends on how long we've been together. But personally, I won't be in a relationship where we are not intimate. I'm not saying that she has to sleep with me right away, but if we do get into a relationship and consider ourselves monogamous and are boyfriend/girlfriend I want to be intimate with the one I'm with. But the difference here is that I am old enough to be in that kind of relationship. I don't know how old you are, but based on most of the posts here, the majority of people are under aged and should not be worrying about having sex with their partner. Wait til you are old enough to make wiser decisions before involving yourself in a intimate relationships.
249295
Ask her ! You can love some one without Sex .She may love you ! Sex is too open now .She may explain if you ask .
1020513
Sounds like to me that shes doesn't get into it much.  Maybe she feels it is an obligation to have sex.  If you are a needy man and have to have sex all the time, she may feel like it is a chore.  Maybe you need wine and dine her.
226576
Let her make all the moves, or ask her if she would like a back rub and just give her that.  And see if she does anything after you stop.  Talk to her.  Tell her no pressure you can wait.  Show her your a man and not a boy also reassure her that there is more than just sex that makes a relationship.