I have nothing worthwhile to give in a relationship because of mistakes I've made. How do I change that?
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MY GOD!!...Stop beating yourself up!!\n\n' Nothing worthwhile to give....'???? How utterly ridiculous! You have YOURSELF...Yep, you got problems, but everybody does as well, and you might be surprised there are people out there who would ADMIRE your being able to admit you have a problem with something.\n\nNow, if you make $100K+, you ain't no dummy!! Nobody makes that if they can't produce...So...If you are going to gamble, get a stock portfolio, and gamble 15% of that portfolio on low-cap or foriegn stocks...Pick a winner and you've made up for all you've lost...\n\nGET ANGRY WITH YOUR DEBT!!...Get rid of it!!!...Then make a plan to NOT make the same mistakes again..\n\nThe only time you LOSE is when you STOP TRYING!!
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That quote should be used sparingly and not as a mantra.  If you have a pet bird that you love, set it free... and see how long it takes before it's gone and dies outside because it didn't know how to live in the wild.  Many more examples if that isn't good enough.  \n\nAnyway, if you think you made a mistake then try to correct it.  How?  You're going to have to talk to the person, no way around it.  Explain what you were thinking or feeling at the time, and why you think it was a mistake.  Then ask if they're willing to give the relationship another chance.
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If you've hurt someone in the past, go to that person and ask for forgiveness. If you've been bad in the past, then its time for you to change your ways and be a good person. Have a positive outlook in life so you'll invite positive energy. Treat everyone equally.. and reach out to people around you. Do not mistreat people whom you think are inferior than you. Be kind, and help others.. and you'll see the changes happening one by one.
207606
Do not change except to change how you feel about this silly girl. She doesn't seem to respect you much at all from the sounds of it.Learn how to really like who you are!!! Rejection can make people doubt themselves and who they are.that can be natural at first,but you have to let it go.You must like yourself better than anyone,and enjoy being who you are before you can know what woman will be right for you. The one who accepts you as you really are is the one worth the wait and your time. hang in there,and be good to yourself. Do what you love to do,and enjoy being free while it lasts!!! Best wishes to ya'!
645224
I know it seems like playing hard to get or "games" so to speak is the right thing to do, but I've learned from past experiences (or should I say mistakes) that it isn't at all. If I could take back some of those things I did that I thought were right... I would be so much happier today! Trust me girl... you like him right? Then go! If things turn out differntly after, then it just wasn't meant to be. You'll find someone who's more worth your time.
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You can't get him to talk to you, he has to decide that...however that's not stopping you from apologizing...either go to him and apologize in person (whether he speaks ot you or not) or do it via email...then let it go...\n\nYou screwed up, but it also doesn't sound like that relationship was a good one and you're trying to convince yourself it was better than it was because you don't like being single...\n\nApologize if that's what you feel you need to do...and then put the situation behind you and move on...if he ever wants to communicate with you, he'll let you know...but face it, if someone had done to you what you did to him, wouldn't you probably hold a grudge for a while? Most people would...
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Communicate with him. Find out why things feel different between the two of you. Is it something he does or says? Is it something you do or say? Maybe it was a mistake, maybe not, but what's done is done. Make an attempt to correct things between you and him before casting it into the wind and chalking it up as another failed relationship. Maybe through communication with him you will both learn something (Even if it means learning you both made a mistake). Good luck!
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You are a glutton for punishment.  If you know why they aren't right for you why question it any longer?  Have more faith in yourself than that.  There is someone out there for you.  Pick your head up and let someone who thinks YOU are perfect find you.
1101910
Well it seems to me that you are an insecure person and you suround yourself with people who are equally insecure as yourself.  Because to you it's easy that way.  It's easy to live unchallenged and it's easier for you to just take what is offered.  When you don't like a situation that you are in you have to figure out how your gonna change it.  The first step is too stop taking advantage of other ppl especially if they let you because they are just as lost as you are and you will surely never find your way.  The next step is to work on being comfortable with yourself.  You have to be by yourself to do that. I would suggest that you stop dating or having any type of romantic relationship because nobody will ever be able to appreciate you if you don't even appreciate yourself. And then , after all that is worked out, you find a good secure, honest, independent woman, that isn't gonna let you fall back into your usual routine.  After that i can't say it will all be wonderful, but at least you know its something that you want instead of something that's just there. Godd luck!
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i did the same thing like u've did.\nmy relationship wif him will be 2 years this friday.\ni think u should call him back before its too late for u to regret.\ncoz i'm regretting now,but i don wanna make the first move.\nif its his fault,its his.\nerm.. follow ur heart then..
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Although there are some things I wish I did not do in life, there's nothing I can do to change the fact that I did them.  Dwelling on my past is a complete waste of time.  The one thing I do take with me though, is learning from my mistakes.  Mistakes help make us who we are. If you take the time to learn from your mistakes so as to not make them again, you really don't have anything to regret.
1027409
I would pick something that you have done in your life mistake or not, that has some how changed you for the better. People relate well with situations they are familiar with. Try something along those lines
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FOCUS ON YOURSELF! :)\n\nThe most common thing that causes relationships to fail is by submitting yourself almost entirely to routines and common outdated shared interests in the relationship.\n\nTry something new - something that enhances who you already found yourself to be, and rekindle his interest in your fires.\n\nDo things on your own and "report back" to the realtionship.  This could be anything from getting a new hairstyle to going camping by yourself for a hiatus for several days.  You'll bring new energy back with you and your partner will feel the difference, and may even get a bit curious.\n\nDon't stress if things feel monotonous - relationships all reach that point when the influx of variables becomes predictable.\n\nTry something exciting, something new you've always wanted to do, and even if the shared interest isn't there - DO IT ANYWAY.\n\nIt's been my experience that men like women of mystery in their lives - and it's natural for most of us to "spill the proverbial beans" in those first passionate years.\n\nReturn to the unknowable enigma you were before he "figured" you out - men love a challenge.
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Aww how sweet of you :) Recognizing your own fault is the first step to "making it up" to your gf. Girls really appreciate it when guys are man enough to admit their faults. :)\n\nThere are great ideas here:\nhttp://www.niquehappy.com/blog/category/love/\n\nGood luck :)
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The good news is that time is on your side. So you'll surely get over it.\nOne way to speed things up a little, could be if you focus your memory on all the things that you didn't like and that made you upset.\nAnother good way of making it easier, is to go out and see all the others who are looking for a relationship themselves.
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I used to be just like that. You have to realize that you have to please yourself before you can really please anyone else. Don't go through your life regreting what you did not do and resenting someone else because of the choices that you yourself made. Try it slowly at first and see how it works for you. You will be surpised at how much better you will feel. Take baby steps. The world was not made in a day.
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bigskullfan doesn't know what he's talking about. Consider yourself lucky to have gotten rid of those who've done you wrong and look some more. Remember love happens when you don't expect it b/c you're not trying too hard. Or try forgiving those who've done you wrong. Good luck!