Why do we tend to repeat the mistakes of our parents?
461424
we always look for qualities that our parents had in our future mates, consciously and unconsciously. there is alot we have no control over in attraction and who we choose. We do not want to get rid of our father, we want to change him for the better. It may have been that , you knew better, but you still did it with hope that it would all change because you loved him, he was life as you knew it. you are not stupid, but smarter from the experience. without him you would not have all of those precious moments. For it is way better than you still being single or worse having one worse. There is literature about breaking the cycle of abuse you should look into, if i find anything i will update my answers.
587986
Wish it could be said that I have 'learned from my mistakes,'but that would be a down right lie. I often keep making the same one over and over. Then again, my gender might have something to do with that.
388665
Maybe because they know the mistake they made and don't want you to do the same.
392721
Nobody's parents are perfect... and every person is a result of their childhood experiences that they have taken into adulthood. Accept that your father is HUMAN BEING FIRST, and then love him because he is your father.
620215
Most of us do... Maybe not something that we actually did, but something we didnt do!!!  (like saying "I love u" to our ppl, or taking the time to finish a career... how about taking time to go see gramma?)\n\nWe "humans" are not born wise, so we tend to make mistakes in order to learn how to walk our own path...\n\nThe important thing, is to learn from those mistakes, and to avoid guilt, fear, or any hard feeling that poison the heart and distract you from your improving work as a human.\n\nBest Wishes for everyone
249729
No, it's not entirely the parent's fault. Assuming that they raised their kids, the right way, there isn't much more that they can do.\n\nKids, expecially teens, can be very deceptive and hateful. I've seen kids that were raised in wonderful, loving homes decide to throw their lives away for no good reason. Every child is different. There's only so much a parent can do, especially if their child is determined to lie to them.
267129
That's an interesting question . . . I think it's becuase of the enormous investment in money, energy, time, emotion, etc.  Parents don't want to see their kid "screw up" becuase they want to see their "investment" payoff. By that I mean they want to see their kid become happy, educated, successful, etc. That doesn't mean that parents know what their doing, but it does mean that right or wrong, they typically do try.\n\nBut there's another theory that claims that we're just animals that instictively take care of children because we want to pass on our genes to the next generation.
952841
Every single person you see who passes you in the street has made mistakes, not one of us are exempt from making mistakes, that is because we are human beings.  We do what we do for various reasons...could be the crowd we hang around with...peer pressure.....it could be because we are hurt and want revenge...it could be for a lot of reasons.  But we all grow up, we all learn about sociably acceptable behaviour and that only comes with experience and time.  If we didnt make mistakes, we would be pretty boring people because it is only when we make mistakes do we trully learn who we are.  What has happened in the past had to happen, simply because it did, you cant go back, you cant change it, but you can certainly change the future.  You can choose not to make those kind of mistakes ever again.  Forgiveness is pretty easy if you have a logical mind.  If you can think that the mistakes you made were because of a particular situation in your life, and you did what you did because that was your frame of mind at the time, then you will be able to forgive yourself.  You are not that person any more....that was the old you.  Sometimes I look back on my past and think to myself...."that wasnt me"...and it wasnt.  I am the me I am now,  the me who made all those mistakes and it is those mistakes that has moulded me into the nice person I am today.\n\nIf you dont learn by your mistakes then you wont grow.  You know they are mistakes, so you have learnt and you will become stronger for it.  You need to put your mistakes where they belong,  they were mistakes of the past, so keep them in the past.  Your future is where the positive stuff lay.  Guilt is such a wasted emotion because the only thing it does is make you feel bad, it doesnt change anything...it cant change what has happened...so think logically about it...you cant change it, so what is the good about beating yourself up over it.  Use the energy you have with guilt and put it to more constructive use.  Move forward, do things that make you feel good about yourself, maybe go and do some voluteer work.  Start thinking good things, start doing good things and you will find out the mistakes of your past gives you the knowledge you have today.  You could use that knowledge for good.  You may be in a position where your mistakes could help some person in the future because you have been there, done that.  Use your mistakes to your advantage....learn from them.  You can do it.  We all make mistakes,  it is something we have all suffered from at some time.  The reason I know you are a decent and wonderful person is because you feel bad about your mistakes....that shows you have a conscience, therefore you cannot be a bad person because bad people dont have a conscience.  Move on...go on to achieve wonderful things and you will have your mistakes to thank for your success.
879793
my parents do it few and far between. only when i am going some where for a week or more. they treet me like durt the rest of the time.
1044063
As an adult who was recently a child, I can sympathize with parents thinking that they understand what's going on in their child's head (my mother still thinks that), and with parents making decisions that don't seem right, and sometimes aren't. Parents are people and make mistakes, however, you should stop to consider that you'd be much worse off without them. They might make decisions that cause you to miss out on things, and they might make you do things that you don't like, but they are older and wiser, and can make more informed decisions. This does not mean that they will always be right, and if you think they are wrong, you shouldn't be afraid to discuss it with them. However, screaming or throwing a fit would only show that you aren't mature enough to make very many decisions for yourself. You should have a say in what you want to do, and I'm almost positive that, if you think about it, you do. Also, if you gracefully accept some things your parents say that you don't agree with, they're more likely to let you make more decisions, or at least more heavily weigh your opinion.
709122
History has a way of repeating itself. Mostly because people don't learn from their mistakes.
501654
Parents sometimes don't realize the consequence of their actions; It is however human to err and divine to forgive, Why don't you call your father and hear what is going on in his life, may be he is having a bad time, who knows.
557165
I, like most, have a few regrets about decisions that I made in the past but when it comes down to it I wouldn't be the same person had I not made some of those choices.\n\nI think one of the best steps, if you'll call it that, is actually staying home to raise my children.  My professional career and my education is important to me, but those things will still be available to me after my kids are in school.  I think too often parents are concerned about their own careers, ect that they miss the important things by not staying home with their children
233643
i have learned from my mistakes from the past so that in the future less mistakes can be made which means a peacefull and mistake free future..... yeah right we'r humans mistakes will always happen, just try your best to learn from them! \n\nit sucks but i think i learn best from my mistakes especialy if it hurts
515740
not always alot of the time its because of the actions we have taken, and also they don;t belive the way we do.
584598
We try to give a better life for our children than we ourselves have.  This is part of our role as parents.
256114
I think it's beacause we're human and we've all made mistakes. So when we see a chance to stop someone else from doing things that we regret doing, it's instinctual to try to alter their path in life as a sort of pennance for not altering our own. It's like getting a second chance to see how things would have turned out for us if we'd made different choices in life. And I think the only time someoone is ready to hear our advice is when they say, "Can I have your advice?"