After a 10 year relationship I am going on my first "first date".  Any suggestions for a extremly nervous man?
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Take it easy! A date is just a date. I know it can be nerve-wrecking sometimes...but just chill! Keep in mind that you are very interesting, very nice, very polite and give yourself all kinds of props! It will help you feel better! Then when you are actually on the date, just be casual, be funny--don't let your nerves get the best of you--women don't like nervous men, because that shows insecurity! So if you feel nervous just smile, think of a joke in your head...you know, keep yourself thinking positive! If you want to know more....visit Payton Kane's website...I leave the link below
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go to things remembered..get him a key chain and on the front engrave his name on it and on the back engrave ur the date when u had ur first date...
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okay well where did you have you first date. if that doesnt fit you can alwayd try the candles and roses thing. if you go a little before valentines and ask for the throw outs of roses so that you can take the petals it shouldnt be to pricey. also a favorite light meal and a chocolaty dessert like a crockpot mud cake. there is also sitting on the porch with a blanket and a pot of warm spiced wine just sitting and watching the stars.
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The single most important thing is to not rush anything.  Take it slow and easy.  Lots of kissing.  Lots of caressing.  \n\nEspecially since this is the first time for both of you, take the time to explore every inch of each other.  Watch each other's reactions as you touch this or caress that or kiss the other thing.  \n\nYou may even wish to take a bath or a shower together beforehand as another way to relax and get to know each other's bodies better.
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sorry for that rude answre. Give your self time. the dating scene is a little faster. I think if you go on a few dates, very simple ones, like coffee or something then you will get used to being out there again. It's scary and awkward but once you get the hang of it you will adjust!\n Good luck!
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Just be yourself! Laugh , have fun. And if you want to do something extra special, find out what she likes and maybe get her flowers or take her somewhere she would love. Does she love animals? How bout the zoo? Does she like Outdoors? maybe go fishing, hiking, something. Dress comfortably for the date and say appropriate things. And be humorous. Dont try too hard to impress her, or embarrass yourself, cuz I'm sure you are going to be nervous. Just remember, she wants to know the real you!
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Go out with a bunch of people the first time that you meet him. NOT ALONE! You have to get to know him before you are alone with him.\nWhen you know you are safe, then be alone.
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Sweetheart here is the check list:\n1 Believe in yourself! YOU may have been marrried for 14 years but you are ATTRACTIVE and Desirable. This is primal for you to succeed because the confidence you ooze makes you much more wanted\n2 Stop wearing your "Mother Earth" attire... Get a hair do ensure your nails are proper and your foot wear is trendy. Indulge yourself!! Vicotia's secret is a good place to start.\n3 Many people have a less-than-stellar body image and self-esteem after a long-term relationship ends.When you first start dating again, it’s common to worry whether you’ll find anyone you’re attracted to. Contrary to popular belief, it’s not because all the good ones are taken. Sure, you might not feel that instant hormonal rush when you meet someone cute like you did in your youth, but — if you have patience and date more than one or two people — you will find someone who gives you that giddy feeling.\n4 Please feel like the hottest woman on earth after your makeover and you will know the difference. We men definitely dont want it easy so hang in there lass replenish your repertoire and go for the kill.\n\nI hope we of the male species have benefited by you joining the ranks of single, sexy, sensitive, stable, women!!!
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The first time I asked a guy out we went rollerblading in the park and then went out for a casual dinner. Keep it light and don't try to be all  romantic. Just see how you feel being alone with him the first time. If you keep your date filled with activities you will never run out of stuff to talk about and you won't have those awkward moments people get on first dates when they are all dressed up at some snooty restaurant. Have fun!
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Look out for hotel deals,and book the 2 of you in one. Bring a bottle of champagne or cava,and toast your year together,reminiscing over how you met,your first date,when you first realized you loved each other,anything that reminds you how lucky you both are to have each other. If money is tight,and a hotel is out of the question,a candlelit picnic at home reminiscing will be just as nice. Be sure to keep the champagne/cava cork and write the date/1st anniversary on it.
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You should respond like this:\n\nLook great, smell great and smile when he opens the door.\nBring beer or wine (oops or coke if you are younger than that) and hope he was smart enough to have snacks.\nRelax.....sing, play guitars and have fun.  \nThere is no need to read A THING into anything...that is the problem these days.  \nIf it happens it does...if it doesn't that is even better.  \n\nThe best thing about a new relationship (which yours sounds like) is the mystery and nervousness and the smells and the surprise.  Just enjoy!
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oooh so cute your first bf^^ you should do something natural that you usualy do with a friend... don't try to be too romentic the first time, go walk in a park and talk with him... take this first date to try to know him a litle bit more. Good luck :D
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just ask him and let him pick tha first date, ask him what he likes to do
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Formulate a gameplan so that you arent that nervous. Here is goes\n1) Think of reasons why this person would want to go out with you\n2) Think about what you would like to find out about this person\n3) Think about something specific you want to do with this person (a dating activity)\n4) Then put it into a conversation and just go for it. You have absolutely nothing to lose.
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Yes my dear, I know what you mean. If you're scared, don't go. \n\nDoes he know you're a virgin? You didn't say how long you two have been dating. If you've dated him a long time and he knows you are a virgin and has been respectful, never questioning you or pressuring you, then it MIGHT be okay. I still think if you are afraid or it makes you uncomfortable, then you should do what feels right to you and not go. If you feel you might be pressured to have sex and you are not ready to, then do not go. \n\nI am not a virgin any more, but know how this feels. Let me share a story with you:\nI am a single woman (previouly married many years ago). I was dating a guy for a few months and I really liked him, but had not had sex with him. We kissed on our dates, and it was very hot, but kept it at that level, just kissing, no "heavy petting". He invited me on a ski trip for a week. We had not travelled together before, or even spent a weekend together, so I was a bit hesitant. (I should have paid attention to that feeling; that was my intuition.)  I really did not think he would pressure me. He had been very well mannered. I would not have gone otherwise. I knew spending that much time together would let us really get to know each other. We got along well and it would be fun, especially because we both like to ski.\n\nOn that trip, he started by wanting me to sleep in the same bed with him. I actually didn't have much choice, the room only had one bed. I should have known right there that a real gentleman would have made sure there were 2 beds or asked me if I was okay with the sleeping arrangements. I felt a little uneasy about it, because I was not ready to be so physically close to him. But I figured it was okay, and kept my gown on. Well, it just got worse each night. By the 4th night he was pissed off that he had "paid to take [me] on this trip and [I] wasn't being accomodating". He got more and more demanding. He flat out told me he "deserved" to have sex with me! He was a real jerk about it! Rather than a really great time, it became a degrading experience for me.  Needless to say, we stopped seeing each other after that. \n\nThat was years ago but I learned a lesson. For me: I would never go on a trip with a man unless we were crazy about each other,already in a commited relationship, and had already made love before that trip. I turned down several trips, but I did not want to be in that position ever again! Yuck!I did not go on a trip with a man again until all of my criteria were met, and what a difference! It was worth the wait.\n\nI commend you for being a virgin. it's a rare thing these days. If you are not ready to lose your virginity, don't!\n\nJust because a man pays for a trip, no woman "owes" a man sex in exchange. I have asked several men (yes, all kinds, including wealthy, well educated, well-mannered upper class men, like the man I had gone on that ill-fated trip with) about this and unfortunately many men seem to think that accepting the invitation of going on a trip is some unspoken code for "there will be vacation sex." They assume "the woman knows [he] wants sex on a trip." So don't go unless you want that too.\n\nYou do what feels right for YOU, not your boyfriend. If he really loves you, he will not pressure you. He will understand. If he doesn't, then break it off. You are special and need to be with someone who truly understands and appreciates you. Good luck!
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LOL!!! My bad experience was my first experience and I was traumatized after it and almost made it my last LOL!!\n\nA friend of mine set this date up. (she's lucky I still called her a friend after that) I was a lil greeny, just turned 18 just graduated. I did not really date in high school. I liked the guys, they liked me but I just did things in groups and  had a blast. ANYWAY...the guy called me, his name was MIKE..he sounded so cute. I asked my friend what he looked like. SHe said OH He's tall, he has a tan complexion, dark hair and glasses, brown eyes, he is really cute. OKay, I was picturing this muscle man with dark hair, good looking, wire frame glasses, tall, and someone that I would just melt for if I saw him. \n\nI was so nervous. \nWell....the next day was the big day. I was all ready to go and nervous...OH SHOOT!!! LOL! the guy comes walking up...about my height 5'3"...mousy brown hair and thick glasses, the goober was wearing a white shirt and tie, he was all dressed up, for gosh sakes we were just to a movie. I thank my luck stars it was a double date, because I wouldn't have survived the night and I would've had to kill him if he touched me. I opened the door, my father is standing their, I am tucking my fathers sleeves signalling to him that I did not want to go. LOL! My mother was whispering just go, geez. NOOOOOOOOOOO! LOL!! THe guy hands me these half dead roses wrapped in green paper that he cut off of a rose bush and he said "I brought you some roses, I thought that it was something I was supposed to do" LOL!!!!!!!!!!!\nI felt totally weird with this guy. \nOkay...so we went to my friends house and picked them up, meanwhile I was leaning against the door , it was locked, but I was clutching onto the handle. \n\nOkay...we WERE supposed to go to a movie, we didn't...the goober had to show us where he worked, he thought that I would be impressed with the fact that he created and built things out of plastic, we spent 20 minutes watching a stupid machine make caps for wesson oil bottles. Then it was getting late, so we went to Red Lobster, instead of watching a movie (because Mike claimed that it was too late) we ended up going to his house and staying their until 2am watching this retarded video on old time inventions. \n\nHe commented on his messy house and he said well if I had a woman to cook for me and clean my house while I worked my house wouldn't look this way. I then said that I was tired and wanted to go home. I was so glad to get home. OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH MY GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOSH!! LOL! I relive those feelings whenver I tell the story, but I bust a gut. LOL!! That was 16 years ago. That was one of the traumantic moments in my life. LOL!!
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Of course you are! So was I when I went on my first date with a girl (and then all over again with a boy).\n\nRelax, treat it like any other date.  If you're so wound up you'll be too preoccupied to enjoy the person you're with (for worrying about everyone else looking and talking about you OHMAGAWD!).  \n\nIf it helps, start out by thinking of her as an old schoolfriend, let her know you're a little anxious and ease yourself into flirt mode.\n\nHave a great night!