How do I cope with a hurricane, marital problems, and family medical problems?
471815
seek God an Pray.....:)
93090
During Hurricane Katrina - I didn't have to use all of these but could have if the part about my house didn't make 'em understand:\nThe ceiling partially collapsed. I have to remove it and the carpet from the house today.\nI am afraid to drive over power lines and I can't move the trees and the houses from the road anyway. \nMy baby-sitter quit because her house is gone.\nI was up all night because the military helicopters and vehicles kept shining lights in the house and kept me up. \nI have to watch for looters trying to steal my stuff.\nThere is insulation all over the floors and caused my son to have an asthma attack. \nThe lack of water dehydrated my kids and two of them are now in the hospital.\nI have to remove my storage building out of my elderly neighbors house. \nI have to help my other neighbors find their houses and it's contents.
852092
I'm glad you are aware of your need for meds, and it's a shame it can't happen before December 1.  I don't like hearing about how your husband is behaving, but it's possible that because of your condition, you are feeling it more harshly than it really is.  I don't know if you've been on meds before, but you will be surprised how much clearer everything will be after you start and they kick in.\n\nFor right now, I suggest calling a mental health hotline so that you can get some perspective - and so you can have someone to talk with.  Being isolated is not a good thing.  Is there a place you can walk to - a coffee shop, a library, a church, even a store?  Just somewhere to be in the presence of other people can help.\n\nFinally, though I hesitate to suggest it, you might just watch some TV.  Stay away from the talk shows and tabloid stuff, just find a few regular shows - comedies, if you can find them - to pass some time when you have to.\n\nGood luck!
32127
You may need just strait counselling .  I don't think your going to find any better help for that than a one on one w/ a doc and later you get your family in on it to.  This sounds like its going to take some time and work from you and your family
532445
I know that it will be hard to start over again after spending six years with a person who you think is a soulmate, and having things backfire on you. Regardless of how old a person is when this happens, it hurts deeply.I don't know if you are religious at all, but I believe that the Lord will make all things turn out ok, regardless of how dark you view your  situation to be. I live in New Orleans, and during Hurricane Katrina, when I evacuated to a shelter, I see people on the verge of cracking up, because they have no faith, nothing to fall back on. As concerned as I was about what lies ahead, because of my faith in God, I was at peace with the situation and can continue to function normally.There is light at the end of the tunnel for you, if you would just be patient and have a little faith. Time heals all wounds.You will be able to love again, and you will find that special someone who can make you life complete. My prayers and best wishes are with you.
599038
It depends on where you live. Are you in a cinderblock home? A manufactured home or trailer? An apartment? You should make sure you have insurance that covers your home (if you own) and/or your possessions. You should have photographs or video of your possessions, in case anything is damaged in a storm. Keep your insurance policies and records in a water-tight package and keep it handy in case you have to evacuate in a hurry.\n\nYou should stock up on bottled water (1 gallon per day per person, 3-5 days' worth at least) and nonperishable foods (pop tarts work well; things you can eat without cooking or, if you have a camp stove, things you can cook over it like soup [but be sure you have a non-electric can opener]). Make sure you have flashlights and/or candles and batteries/matches. Another option would be to pick up some glow sticks, which you can get at most home improvement stores. Masking tape is good for taping windows to avoid shattering in case of breakage, and if you plan to board your windows you'll need properly cut boards as well as anchors and a drill & bits as needed for your particular property. \n\nI also recommend having a stash of things to do, like board games or playing cards. Make or buy ice and a good-sized cooler you can use to try to keep some of your food items cold in case of power loss (we lost most of the contents of our refrigerator TWICE in 2004). If you have children, especially babies, make sure you have enough of their foods and if anything is perishable, make sure you have enough ice to keep it cool for a couple of days (not an easy thing to do!). When a storm is approaching your area, fill your car's gas tank up, get a small stash of cash in case banks are closed, and fill any prescrptions you may need in case the pharmacies are closed. Charge your cellphone and/or get a car charger for it. You should also have a battery-powered radio, preferably one with weather alerts, so you can keep on top of things.\n\nIf you have to evacuate, you should know where your nearest shelters are and whether any accept pets (if you have pets). Shelters have no supplies, so pack food, clothes, bedding, medicines, and important documents.
758406
Bake him cupcakes...be nicer than usual but not to where its abnormal. Greiving people need a sense of familiarity. I know because I lost my mother three months before hurricane hit and destroyed my home, city, and school. The changes and lack of familiarity to where I was and the friends I wouldn't see for months made coping with my mother's death unbearable. Coping is easier when you continue with life as it was and seeing familliar friends, and that's what you are to him. Be there for him, encourage group activities with your best friend, he and some of his friends to distract him. When you lose someone that close to you, they are on your mind constantly for quite some time, so you and and your friends should be coming up with fun ways to distract him. As a grieving son, he will be so thankful that he had friends to help him get through the hard times.
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Sometimes life is like a roller coaster... not just the ups and downs, but the feeling you have just before going straight down.  It is so difficult to comprehend that\nwhat you are going through is temporary.  A smooth sea doesn't make a good sailor... all the rough times will \nbenefit you in the long run if you stick it out.  It's\nnot the problems in life, but how we deal with them.  \nTry getting involved with something you can do to escape\n(art, music, reading, volunteering, etc.)  Focus on the \ngood things about yourself and your life.  Try to be \npositive even when you don't feel positive.  Remember,\nnot too many people will be concerned about your problems\nwhen they have problems of their own.  Relax.  Smile.\nThe sun is still shining and in spite of Chicken Little's\nrumor, the sky is not falling.
544694
I live in New Orleans.  I am already stocking up on hurricane supplies.  If you know you are going to freeze up, make a list today and start getting your supplies together.  If you think you will want to evacuate, make those plans immediately, make sure you have your route planned, a list of what to take with you, make sure your pets are included in your plan.  Writing your plan and your lists down on paper will help relieve the stress and panicky feelings.  If you need a list of what to have on hand if you stay at home, email me.  Don't panic.  Hurricane season comes every year, from June thru November.  If it really bothers you that much, maybe you should think of moving.
258498
The first thing that you need to do is calm down.  I work in cancer research and at one of the best cancer treatment hospitals in the country.  This is a very standard procedure for someone who is newly diagnosed.  Your FIL and the family are going to need a lot of support and a lot of help throughout this entire time.\n\nThe doctors understand that your family will be over-emotional during this time and a NON family member will be able to take in information as well as convey information better after the consultation is over.  You should be prepared for A LOT of information to be thrown at you very quickly.  The outside person is simply there to help with the stress of the situation as much as possible.\n\nPlease feel free to email me if you need to talk to an outside source I would be really happy to help you and your family riklynn10@hotmail.com
560486
counseling helps, but there is no cure. will power and support from family is what you need. or a friend for that matter. some of us can relate to you more than others. find someone to talk to sweetie.
1082996
Talk to someone. Prayer helps a lot. And take a breather...walk a scenic route, explore places in your areas that offer change of view, perspective or adventure. And drink lots of water too. Believe me, it helps.
605624
I have been married for just over 9 years, together for 11 and have 4 children. We faced similar trials recently, we lost our house almost the car and were behind on a lot of bills. Divorce was never an issue, it will not solve any of those problems and if you agree on everything than you agree on that also. Sometimes you just have to lose everything to see what is really important... your family and their well being. You can always rent, get extent ions on the bills if you ask for help. It has been just about 2 years since everything seemed to go wrong for us, financially, but we are stronger and more aware of our money, emotions and the important stuff that always seemed to get lost before. It does get better. Keep your head up and stick it out.
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good day to you,\n\n I understand what you are facing now. but you have to start first by asking forgiveness to the Lord our God and let him rule your life rather than you rule your own life. everybody had a mistake. but it's up to you to fix it. Try to reach God and feel His love deep into your heart. Talk to Him and it's more easier to overcome your problem by crying out all your pains while praying. His always there beside you and and never leave you all alone. He loved you very much simply because He still let see the brighter color of your life, grab this chance that He gave you. Then one day a big surprise will happen. God already touched your heart so don't let him go again. Pray everyday and let Him lead your life. And if you  do all this things, God will do the rest by healing your family's broken hearted.
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May all work out for you in the end. You and your daughter are in my thoughts.\n\n<As of Feb 7, 2006>\nLife's a tough thing. It takes only a few seconds for disaster to cave in all around you, but to dig your way out takes what seems like an eternity. Anyways, I'm glad to hear that the worst is over, and that both of you are getting well. Please continue these updates on the comments as your situation develops; I want to stay in the know on this.\n\n<As of Feb 8, 2006>\nLook's like you've gotten yourselves out of a tough bind! I'm glad to hear that things are looking up after a grueling ordeal. When someone that you love is hurt, it's tough on the mind, body, and heart, and it gets even worse if you happen to feel it, too. You and your daughter have shown great courage and strength throughout this, and I'm glad that all of us here have been able to help you out in your time of need in one way or another. Try not to overexert yourselves if you're not feeling as well as you were prior to this accident, and I hope that what remains of the road to recovery comes with plenty of shortcuts! ^_^
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This is far better though.  Plug yourself into NASA.\n\nWatch hurricanes as they happen.\n\nhttp://goes.gsfc.nasa.gov/
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I was once in her position and the most helpful thing was the love and support of everyone around me. She needs professional help and will not be able to get through this hard time without it! Make sure she is seeing a doctor about this problem and make sure you are there for her 100%! She needs to know how many people truly love and care for her right now! Assure her that she is going through nothing unusual and that she can make it through. If either of you are religious, I recommend saying prayers together and regularly attending church. Faith can help you through so much! If neither of you ar religious, just stick to the professional help and make sure she has a support group (friends and family) throughout her recovery! Good luck!