should i stay with my man?
469456
I think you should both go to couples counseling to determine the problem. It sounds to me like you shouldnt be together, but counseling would determine that.
137976
"if you don't know where to go, stay where you are." \nweigh your feelings. you and your bf have been together for four years... you love your bf... yes, you argue... don't all couples do? i think you're just bored. and it's understandable. it happens. for all you know your bf may be feeling the same way and just doesn't want to give up. \ndon't risk it.
672936
talk to him. you love him whatever the decision is. i think it is important you two make up your minds first. does he want to stay with his girlfriend and why is it that the two of you always end up together. easy answer i guess. but does it make sense to give in every time you meet? do you want to progress - or do you love him and want to know better..? last but not least.. just enjoy that there's someone special like this boy in your life. guess he will be there always whatever your decision. good luck.
236116
Only if you can provide yourself a safe environment.  I don't recommend staying with him.  Instead stay in a hotel and plan some things to do that are a bit more public.  As nice as someone is you still need to be careful.  Better yet, have him come visit you so that your on your own turf where you have full control of the situation.
1175444
no. sometimes its better to take things slowly, and get to know each other really well. then when you know you trust them, you can go ahead and do the things that you wanna do. i have been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months and we havent had sex yet. he knows i want to wait, and he respects that. but if your man does'nt want to wait, then he is'nt worth your time. no guy should have to be that way.
815985
It totally depends on the situation. How long you have been together should weigh heavily on your decision. I would highly recommend not moving in if you are newly dating. Let the relationship advance first. \nAlso, have the 2 of you talked about what should or should not be expected of each other once you do move in together? Set some ground rules in advance and the transition will go much smoother.(bills, food, talk about how everything will be paid for.. split down the middle or are each of you going to cover different things each month?)  It is hard merging 2 people into one house. Each of you will have your own expectations and it will NOT be the way either of you think. \nNot all guys are just looking for someone to help with the bills or house. \nI moved in with my boyfriend on my 18th birthday, after we had been seeing each other for 5 years. We moved in together and never looked back. I am now 30 and we are happily married with 4 children. \n\nGood Luck!
282336
I hope I can help you by joining the chorus of answers that say “Run Away”. I don’t fault you for being in the relationship because we all make mistakes but I think your making some far-fetched rationalizations to justify staying with him. It’s time to move on to someone who can be with you when you need him. Someone you can call rely on at any time, all the time. Someone you don’t have to sneak around with or feel guilt when you’re seen together.
376414
Money does not buy happiness. If the man is good to you and you love him nothing else matters. You said it yourself he is perfect, what more could you ask for. I would stay in a one room apartment if that's all we could afford and the man is perfect. You can also work to help financially. No one knows what will come next, even a rich man can go bankrupt then what do you have if you were only in it for the money?
6720
it depends on how long you have been with this guy and  ask yourself if he's worth it. the ? is would he change something about himself. what he's doing exc.. if he says yes then go ahead and switch.just make sure he knows he owes you one
991879
LIVE, LAUGH AND LOVE LIKE THERE IS NO TOMORROW, BECAUSE THERE MIGHT NOT BE... TAKE YOUR VACATION AND ENJOY IT LIKE YOU HAVE NEVER ENJOYED ONE BEFORE!!! LOVE YOUR MAN AND LET HIM KNOW HOW IMPORTANT HE IS TO YOUR LIFE... HAVE THE BEST TIME EVER, AND TREAT EACH OTHER WITH RESPECT...
254078
Leave his @ss...if it's weird and doesn't feel right, then that's not a relationship you need to be in. Just because you've been together for 2 years doesn't mean you have to stay together for old times sake. If he keeps leaving, this time you be the strong woman and walk away. Trust me, Honey, I know. I did it and I am much better for it. You may love him, but he obviously is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated and you need to cut your losses and get out.
959058
If it is not something you are comfortable with, then you shouldn't have to do it just to keep the relationship going.\n\nHave a chat with him and find out if he is understanding enough to give that part of his life up (He should, if he loves you that much.)\n\nIf he's not willing to give it up, then you have to decide if it's something you can put up with, no matter how much you like him or how great he is.\n\nIf you can, then stay. If not, then leave him as you will never be happy with him and will get more stressed out as time goes by.
684150
I say that you should go.  Things arent going to change with your husband, he can promise all that he wants to but they never do.  If you have found someone who cares about you and treats you good, then you deserve that happiness!!!
322075
Ehh, I am going to go out on a limb here, and say that you shouldn't AUTOMATICALLY leave him, unless he is still activly particpating in his marriage, in which case you should.  I have to say that I was married, but not (we were separated), and I started a relationship with an amazing woman, but I was up front about my status.  Give him a chance to explain himself, if you don't like what he has to say then you can slap him and leave.  Don't act to hasty, get the lay of the land before you make a decision.  Good luck my dear, I hope it turns out ok.
616432
You have to decide if that is the lifestyle that you want to be involved with.  You cannot change a person.  To stay with him in the hopes that he will change is foolish.  Hopefully you don't have any children so you can make a clean break.  If you don't have children but you decide to stay with him, please don't make any children.  They don't need to be brought into a life like that.  It takes more than love to make a marriage work.
897187
first of all i am black and we do do stuff society all black men are not the same so don't let that non sense get in your head. second of all if you really loved this guy you should stay with him and if your family doesn't like it o well. third if he is nice as you say don't break up
803598
Totall making sense. When your happy and in love w/ the man of your dreams. Your happy to do all those house-wife things. So you go girl. Keep doing what your doing sounds like the 2 of you are very happy together.