do u feel like u are surround by materialistic people-namely your family?
472917
Yes and it drives me insane.They need to value things that are more important.
339667
Yes, I do. I get along with them really well. \nI live very far from my real family, and I honestly feel much closer to them than my real parents. And they treat me like I`m their daughter - I can call them up and talk to them any time. I`ve stayed at their house for weeks before when my husband was on business trips and I was lonely in the empty house. They`re great.
301406
My family is not broken, but sometimes I wish that it was. \n\nAlthough my parents are cordial enough, the passion left their relationship years ago. I think it's sad to live a life without passion.
158633
all women are not materialistic. when I was a little girl, I was but I'm not anymore. I think girls are more materialistic than women.
835016
Agreed - I work in retail and get customers asking me what to buy for their loved ones. I just feel like saying " how the fuck should i know"!\nSometimes think that people buy presents (expensive ones)to make themselves look good rather than think about what the recipient would want.
862876
That is a good question! I have had it happen to me all my life and have never understood it. My Mother-in-law for instance treats my wife like a step child and her other two daughters like true daughters (kind of reminds me of Cinderella). What scares me most is that I might be doing it to my kids as well - I really try not to be that way and they have never said anything to make me think I have any favorites - but, it still concerns me. The thing is that these people (when you bring it to their attention) do not see that they are acting this way. One of my biggest hang ups is Christmas - buying gifts for people that I could care less about. Well, guess what? This year, we are not spending on these people - not even a token gift. I am in the dog house for it, but I am going to concentrate on my kids and grandkids who I love and cherish - I am going to let the others celebrate without me this year! It makes me feel free, and my wife is warming to the idea, but she is having withdrawal symptoms. I say no more of the fake behavior to impress these duds.
531089
A normal life, close to my family, IS rich.  I may be broke, but I feel like a millionaire.
556478
If you mean material possessions I so somewhat. However, I've discovered in myself that I enjoy the chase aspect more than the actual acquisition. And may may be corny, but have a notion of purpose in life, family and friends and your health is what's really important and I do measure myself by the qualities of those.
1176531
Family is huge!!  They are your backbones.  The protectors.  Something that you really need to keep up with.
558674
We get wrapped up in our little world of taking care of our family's..\n\nMaybe since you notice this you can talk to your brothers and sisters before you drift to far apart.
173154
What are you feeling?  \n\nDo you sense loved ones?\n\nIf someone in your family, or otherwise close to you has recently crossed over, they might be with you.  They might be trying to contact you.  \n\nGet in touch with what you are feeling: fear, anxiety, exhiliration...if you feel out of control, seek help.
1120876
It sounds like you are better off without your family. I agree with one who suggested counseling. It is usually a good and helpful experience. Also, it is very lonely not to have a family. I always made family out of my friends. Having close friends can feel the same as being with your family.  Do you have any extended family(aunts, uncles, cousins) that would help you feel connected and loved? If you think there's any way I can help, feel free to contact me. :^)
452832
I don't feel alone!!!  :D\n\nBut yes, we are always linked/connected to someone or SOMETHING, and people feel alone. There you can see that you can have everything in life, but if you don't have someone to share it with, you become miserable.
997589
Absolutely.  I'm right with you on that one.  Sounds just like most of my family. But hey, you gotta practice on someone.  You will feel better if some times you are the bigger person and do the right thing regardless of what those jerks say, right?  Just don't be their slave.
470075
I feel I have failed my family in the past. I was not there for them when i should have been. I done many things I regret. i just have to live with it. i cannot change the past, but i can change the future. i have since turned my life over to God. i am now a new mother and much better to everyone!
940066
Personally, I don't buy for all of my family/friends.Most of the family still give gifts to me as they please, for which I am very, very thankful for and I let them know this. But, I've made it clear a long time ago that I am NOT going to feel obligated to purchase/give gifts - it defeats the purpose of gift giving!!!  \nJust mention politely before the holiday that you won't be giving this year, and "please do not feel obligated to give to me", something like that.\nIf they get snippy that is their issue! You can't be blamed that people have come to be selfish. Some people would rather get something from you knowing you didn't care, than to wait for a heart-felt present. That's their problem!
112951
If you feel weird about it don't do it.  I think it would be better if you keep your independence and don't rely upon them.  It is great to be close to your bf's family but there also should be some distance so you can be you without having to worry that they may be watching every thing you do.