why is it so much harder for women to climax during sex?
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They have different stimultaion process.  In men, our penis is exposed and stimulation for climax is mechanical. In woman, clitoris is very hidden.  Besides, due to cultural factors such as guilt, women have conflictive ideas when it comes to getting aroused. So they have to work harder (or better said WE have to work harder) to get excited.
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Some women have a hard time reaching climax. Once you figure out the most effective way to bring her to climax she'll want it all the time. She might not know what she's missing. Some women go their whole lives without having an orgasm. Try watching lesbian porn to see how they give each other oral sex, then try it on your girl friend.
533002
Sounds normal. Women aren't wet anymore after they orgasm, just like men aren't hard anymore after they orgasm.
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Sometimes a woman cries from the sheer enjoyment of an orgasm.  If it has been a trying day or week, the release of an orgasm can open the floodgates of emotion that may have been held back previously.  It is rarely because of the act itself but because it is a time when your mind and body are relaxed and so you no longer have control over your emotions for a short period of time.  It is nothing to worry about. Just be happy that the orgasms are that satisfying!
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Guys have a climax.  It build up and then peaks during ejaculation (cumming).  Girls just hit a plateau I think.  I think most researchers say that guys experience a more intense orgasm, but we also need a recharging period and females do not.
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I agree. It's a lot more difficult for women to get off than it is for men, and once we've finished then men can focus completely on themselves. It seems to me like that's a win/win situation.
1098786
When you orgasm, all your muscles tense up.  So depending on how hard your orgasm is, you might tense your muscles up even more.  The shaking comes from releasing the tension in your muscles and them finally relaxing.
74779
Cos they really fantasize about sex more than we men do. I mean real sex where, they, the women actually have orgasm.
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Reaching an orgasm varies in women. Personally, it all depends on if your partner is experienced or not in getting you there, OR if you know your own body well enough in assisting him or you doing it yourself. Most women I know, DO NOT have orgasms often. I would think that its harder for women.
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most women are afraid of losing control, which is why some women never have an orgasm, it is all subconscious.
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Is your bf trying to make you climax through vaginal intercourse alone, or is there some clitoral stimulation going on?  Many women need clitoral stimulation in order to climax, it's surprisingly rare that a woman can get there with vaginal penetration alone.\nDo you even try to make yourself climax?  Maybe if you get some nice sexy stories and explore your own body you can get yourself off.  It might be a nice place to start, for me it was so much easier to climax with a partner once I had figured out how to do it myself.\nIf neither of these things works for you, you might try getting an adult toy that vibrates to help you along, if THAT doesn't work, then you might want to see a doctor.  There might indeed be something wrong with you, but be patient and work with your body and you will probably not need an MD!
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Most women cannot have vaginal orgasms and must have clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.  Make you or your partner spend considerable amount of time in oral sex before you move to penetration.
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Reaching orgasm in 3-10 seconds happens occasionally, but shouldn't be tolerated as normal in a husband/wife relationship. Your husband needs help. There are many books on this topic and, generally speaking, they teach the man to slow down the climax tendencies by learning ways to respond and back down. One easy thing to try is by having him wear a condom, which will cut down on the sensitivity. This whole process takes time, but your husband really should be willing to work on this with you and, possibly, a medical professional.
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'the answer to achieving orgasms with a partner is this:\n\nIt depends on the sensitivity of your partner towards your erogenous\n\nzones - if you share sexual intimacy with an experienced, inept or\n\ngreedy lover, you are always pretty much left out in the cold.\n\n\n\nOne of the most difficult things, it seems, for women to do during\n\nintimacy is to clue in their partners to what they want.  For some\n\nreason, men seem to have no problem asking for particulars during\n\nintimacy but women seem to be shyer about it.  The first thing I would\n\nsuggest you do is to be verbal with your lover and communicate to them\n\nwhat you enjoy.  The best way to open a conversation about this is to\n\ninquire the same of your lover.  Thay way, you open the door to be\n\nable to communicate what pleases you.  Tell your lover "Do this" or\n\n"Linger there" or "Slow down!" so that he will know what he is doing\n\nthat makes you feel warm and relaxed.  Don't be shy about saying what\n\nis pleasing to you during sexual intimacy (or what is not) - contrary\n\nto popular belief, men can't read minds. Lol\n\n\n\nUnfortunately, many men (especially younger men) seem to operate under\n\nthe assumption that penetration during sexual intercourse is the most\n\nfulfilling thing they can do for a woman when, actually, the act of\n\npenetration is usually the ultimate goal of the male's satisfaction.\n\n\n\nAlso, men may sometimes rush to fulfill their desire for penetration\n\nand not think to be sensuous with a woman.  There is an old saying\n\n"Men give foreplay to get sex and women give sex to get foreplay." \n\nThis is certainly not true across the board but, by far, many women\n\nseem to enjoy the sensuous intimacy that precedes sexual intercourse\n\nwhile men seem to be running for the penetration goal line.  Lol \n\nPlus, foreplay is what enables a woman to relax and be able to achieve\n\norgasm.\n\n\n\nI don't want you to think anything is "wrong" with you, either,\n\nbecause you don't experience orgasms everytime you have sexual\n\nintercourse.  There are other factors to consider regarding this such\n\nas fatigue, emotional stress, etc.  If you happen to be in an\n\nout-of-the-bedroom situation such as stress on the job or having had a\n\ntiff with a friend, these experiences can affect your ability to relax\n\nduring sexual intimacy - even the thought "I should have washed those\n\ndishes first…" removes your mind from the intimate situation. \n\nConsider these factors and others as being the reasons you sometimes\n\ndon't experience orgasms.  Relaxation is a big key to this.  Sometimes\n\na small glass of wine might do the trick, too, to relax you.\n\n\n\nAs far as tips on experiencing more or frequent orgasms, here are some\n\nlinks that may be of interest to you:\n\n\n\nImtimate Fitness - The Kegel Method\n\nhttp://kegelmaster.8k.com/sex.html\n\nhttp://kegelmaster.8k.com/orgasms.html\n\n\n\nTantra and Tantric Sex \n\nhttp://www.oztantra.com/whatistantra.html\n\nhttp://www.tantra.com/\n\n\n\nA book is available here for $14.95 titled "Pathways to Pleasure - A\n\nWoman's Guide to Orgasm"\n\nhttp://female-orgasms.com/pleasure_4_women.htm\n\n\n\nWomen's Sex Health - An online pay site with intimate secrects for\n\nwomen regarding orgasm - $9.95 for one month accesss\n\nhttp://www.womensexhealth.com/\n\nhttp://www.womensexhealth.com/orgasms_learn_more.htm\n\n\n\nGo Ask Alice - regarding women having more orgasms\n\nhttp://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0117.html\n\n\n\nMyths About Female Sexuality\n\nhttp://www.ualberta.ca/HEALTHINFO/Decisions/mythsf.htm
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I can tell you that alot of woman DO NOT have orgasims from intercourse.. some woman can only climax from  forplay or ORAL stimulation! but you also might try a c.o.c.k ring with a marble on it.. it rubs your clit. while you have sex! I think it would help!
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It's the sex.\nIf you aren't having orgasms, the sex can be better.\n\nYou aren't doing anything wrong though. Most women don't have orgasms just through plain sex. \nTry getting your partner to stimulate your clitoris as well - you could try investing in a vibrator and trying a few different positions.
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The actual climax is hard to prolong past 10-15 seconds.  You can slow things down and prolong the buildup which can cause a bigger climax(same length).