What are the chances that a marriage will end in divorce?
460855
The effects on children can be bad IF parents act stupid. Remember, they are getting the idea that this is a "normal" relationship. Both parents must NEVER speak negatively about the other parent, no matter how much they can't stand the other one.  The children love both parents and do not want to hear it.  They will not be brainwashed into not liking one parent better.  I've seen it backfire where the child begins resenting the negative parent because they are saying bad things about the other parent.  The children must know they are loved by both parents, and the divorce has nothing to do with them.  Even if you think they know it, reinforce it as much as possible.  Hopefully, the parents will put on a positive, united front for the kids' sake.  Never discuss child support issues in front of the children.  It is not their business and not their responsibility. It can be okay when both parents work together for the best outcome for the kids (i.e. putting the kids before themselves!!).
174128
I am in the same boat. My b/f is currently going through a divorce and if we wanted to marry, we wont be able to until his divorce is final.
300529
most ppl end in divorce for one reason or another and think that after 13 yrs it isnt possible..\n\nme and hubby been together since 98 and will be married 3 yrs in august..both in our 40's..my 1st marriage and his 2nd..his 1st wife died about 22 yrs ago...\n\ni think alot of ppl are jealous of your relationship..i say the hell with them...you married the right one and also after 13 yrs know that marriage is not a game..it can take alot of work but it is possible\n\ni find myself loving my hubby more and more and its the small things that add up that make the difference and it is not about money either..we both work and have seperate bank accounts so this knocks out fighting over money..my son is grown and gone and his son and daughter are grown and gone...i pay certain things around here and he pays certain things..the rest is split up and some things are if you see it is needed you buy it..no problems there...with the common denominators not present that doesnt leave us much to argue about...lol...kids and money....when we do argue it is usually about that time of the month for me and also i am in perimenopause so when my hormones go haywire  he knows it..9 times out of 10 he will go to his garage and stay until he knows i have calmed down.\nwe talk everything out  even if it take a few days but i would not trade him in for anything\n\neven if we are fighting we still tell each other i love you before going to bed, leaving for work or wherever or just say it upon entering the room..he still holds doors open for me, lets me order 1st in restaurant and so on...he is a gentleman out in public and at home..even holds the door open at home if we are going into the house at same time..we met through newspaper personal ads and i feel very lucky to have him in my life..before getting married i told him straight up marriage is a one time deal for me..his only escape would be death...lol...i asked him if he wanted to have a pre-nup and he said no..that just told me that he trusted andloves me and he will be here till we part this life\n\nso if ppl find it hard to believe you and your hubby are still in love and happy just assume they are jealous of what you have and what they dont have..i know it can happen\nand wish you well for another 50-60 yrs or however long you 2 live to be
182724
Studies show that people who move in together before marriage are 50% more likely to get a divorce.  Then again, everyone's values are different.
183270
It's impossible to determine whether the fighting will stop without knowing the root causes of your arguments. From your description, it sounds as though you have been fighting about issues large and small, that perhaps might point to a deeper conflict. Perhaps part of the problem has to do with your expectations. Marriage and children are both overwhelming issues, and it might be premature to anticipate them so early on (and before you have entered into marriage). With all of this pressure related to the future of your partnership together, you might be stifling your present romantic life.\n\nHave a great future!
988010
It does happen - the danger is very real in a misogynistic 'cultures' I do not know enough about Islam to know that this is why women have less rights in such countries - perhaps in certain offshoot groups.....  If the culture/religion says that women have less rights then the warning signs are there. We never believe that it could happen to us/ to our marriage. Life has a way of dumping you on your head though.  Even a different country and the same religion is dangerous. I no longer beleive that you should take such risks - too many mums and kids going through this - There is an organization called child-find for just such things.
801867
Possibly...\n\nYou can have an ex-parte divorce. This only happens if one party does not appear for divorce proceedings after being given a number of opportunities to appear.\n\nThe other way, would be if no divorce agreement can be made between the parties, and a judge signs the divorce.
150566
probably better to ask a marriage counselor : ) it could be lots of things, some which are "fixable", some which aren't.
452378
People in general like to think "it wont happen to us". When they realise it can and does they also realise that it can happen to anyone, to them. They don't want to be anyone so they have to label it as someones fault or someones failure. Ther are numerous reasons that marriages fail and end up in the divorce courts. You know here in Australia you cant even contest a divorce. Our law states that if one person no longer wishes to remain in a marriage the law cannot make them.Funny because it takes two to agree to marry but one to divorce.The only pre requisite is that you must have been separated 12 months. There is no mandatory councelling and divorce here is no fault divorce. The law, the judges, the councellors all think they know whats right for you, whats best for you etc. Its the saddest and most confronting thing to go through and endure and rebuilding is hard. You are sometimes labelled. But you know its not always a failure. Sometimes its a life line to something new and better. I, in my experience have come to see that those that see divorce as a failure have never gone through it themselves or known anyone closely that has, nor have they felt the devestation of divorce. If you feel that its your failure dont. Society and religion put so much pressure on us as a collective community to make everything succeed. Sometimes you just cant. We should always try, if there is still love there. As the previous answerer said, anything worthy is worth fighting for and working on. But you also have to recognise that for some, the end of the road does come. Its not worth losing your "self", ie your being. I guess only those who see it as an absolute failure can really answer this for you.\n\n\n'\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n'
668898
sounds like most marriages.
726078
No, and it shouldn't. Honesty and communication are the only way a marriage will last. And those two lead into trust as well. Little white lies, that are non-damaging to the marriage, are natural. But to lie to someone to save feelings or yourself, they can lead to bigger problems and build up, until it explodes and makes the situation worse. Whether you have good intentions or not. Honesty is the best policy. So, I think you answered your own question. :)
88582
I think they'll add to the divorce statistics. Running away from the problem never works. And getting married to do so only adds new ones.
284177
http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsWorld.shtml
157340
The statistics say that 78% of people in unhappy marriages will find their marriage "very" or "quite" happy within 5 years if they stick it out.  Also, only 25% of single and divorced people find that they are “very” or “quite” happy with there life, this includes people who remarry.  So statistically speaking, your chances of happiness increase if you stay married to your husband.  However, you will never be happy or be able to fall back into love with your husband without putting in some work.  You can take the statistical chance and leave him for your other lover and risk being unhappy or you can cut the other relationship off and have a better chance of being happy and in love with your husband.  You are also running the risk of finding yourself in the same predicament that you are in now with your other person if you don’t tackle the underlying issues that you have.  You need to find out what causes you to fall in and out of love with people and deal with your issues with fidelity,  Bottom line, you are the only one who can make that decision, but weight the risks and benefits of each very carefully.
500057
It is a disaster wating to happen. Also a divorce in the making.
718262
SINCE %57 OF CHRISTIAN MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE. I WOULD SAY THAT MOST  DON'T CARE BECAUSE THEN THEY TURN AROUND AND REMARRY. Mark 10:11,12\n11 So He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. \n12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."
646322
SORRY TO INFORM YOU BUT MOST MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE AFTER DETOX . THE OTHER PARTY OR OFTEN BOTH DISCOVER THAT THEY AREN'T REALLY IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER .