I wanna know how to make a year old relationship new and lusty all over again?
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buy some sexy lingerie that would be hot
954206
No, if you were seeing each other for over a year, then you should be able to talk to each other about almost anything.  If he acts weird now, then yes, you may want to either step back or explain to him why you told him that.\n\nGood Luck!
413799
I really believe that you need to court each other again. I know it sounds silly but we're talking about the rest of your life here. In life sometimes we loose sight of how we got there. good luck!
783441
I did this for 6 years.. it never worked..\nseparate and explore single life (does not mean sleeping around, just doing things on your own) and see if you feel like you want him around all the time.
607541
I'm assuming you mean that sex isn't as much a part of your relationship as it used to be? That's the way it goes with relationships, at first you can't keep your hands off each other, but after a few months that calms down. The only way to keep that "new love" frequency it to get a new love every 4-6 months. Your alternative is to stick with the love you have now, and be happy that your relationship is morphing into something more substantial than mere physical desire.
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First, I think it's great that you care enough to ask and not just take the relationship for granted.\n\nNow, how to keep it alive.  Think back to the early days you were together.  Anything stand out from there that you don't do as much?  Whether it be an exciting date, time chatting, finding out new things about one another ... might try some of the old things.\n\nNext, is there anything you all have talked about wanting to do together?  DO IT.  I never really thought much about this, but it the past couple of weeks I have seen people make lists of 100 things they want to do in life, and on the "ellen" show one day, she took care of about 10 of the items.\n\nIt gives a sense of accomplishment to cross these things off and a sense of adventure in trying to create the list and then in planning to do them.\n\nIn fact, what am I doing sitting here at this keyboard, when I should be making out my own list!?! ;-{ )\n\nTake care and good luck!
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While it is to easy to succumb to the emotional anguish that is consuming you at this early stage you must put a few bricks up to get through it. Do not drive yourself insane with analizing the last five years. Enlist a support group, best friends, family etc. Go out to the movies, nothing romantic, just a good comedy, horror, action you get the point. Invite some friends over for a dinner party or skip the dinner and just party. Ask each of them to bring a new friend, someone you've never met. Meeting new people is a stimulant. Involve yourself in your favorite activities or hobbies to keep your mind occupied. Submerse yourself in some great books. Pamper yourself a little go on a shopping trip, but something fun and frivolous. Keeping busy is the best thing. Of course the nights will be the roughest. Go ahead and allow yourself to think about her if she comes to mind while you are trying to drift off to sleep. It is part of the healing process. Cry if need be, tears are the cleansing of our soul. Eventually the sorrow will subside. While I think it is important to surround yourself with good friends and meet new people just don't hook up with anyone. Five years is a long time to be with someone, you'll need to take a good year being single to rediscover who you are before enerting the dating game. Have fun, and remember it's ok to have your ups and downs. You'll be fine and who knows in the near future you may come to think the break up was a good thing, usually when one door closes it's because another is getting ready to open. Old cliche I know but it is so true.
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Try some bondage or some role-playing.  Keeping it fresh is the hardest thing for me too (in a relationship for 7 years now).  When the feelings of passion wear off, we have to get creative.  Even if you are sexually active, it gets old for both parties.  Try going to an adult store for ideas or look at some adult couple websites.  I think most long-time couples would say that this is the hardest area to overcome and new ideas are always welcome.
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a)  get a hot new gf, even if your not like that, itll make you feel better\nb) punch the guy out in front of the whole school.  you might get punished, but itll be worth it\n\nAbove all, dont hold on to hope that you might get back together with the girl.  Life is too short, and reunited couples rarely happen.
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Go back to the way you treated each other in the beginning.  Flowers, gifts occasionally.  Look at her when she talks with you.  Honesty and respect, concern for her.
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first off, congrats. it's not easy to make it to 10 years, so cheers for you!\n\nnow, let's get down to business. here's a couple things to try to keep that spark alive, or hopefully to ignite things if they've gone a little cold.\n\n1) give sexy gifts spontaneously.\n\nlisten, you're not kids anymore; you love each other, and sex is part of that. you don't have to be embarassed of being straightforward about your sex life. that being said, it's okay to give each other sexy, suggestively romantic gifts. a couple of ideas:\n\n-for the man: get your wife something romantic, like a bottle of wine with a ribbon wrapped around it along with a sexy romance novel for those nights when you can't be there. the book will get her mind racing with all these creative new ideas for your love life, and the wine will provide a bit of "liquid courage" to get the ball rolling. =)\n\n-for the woman: honestly, nothing can be sexier to us than YOU, simple as that. but show us that you're in the mood, and that you don't mind sex as a way to express love. pick up a bit of lingerie, and surprise us in a place that's NOT the bedroom. \n\ntry taking your man out to lunch, and telling him in the middle of the meal that you've got a lacy black thong on. then, watch how fast he gets the check taken care of so that he can whisk you home. ;)\n\n2) communication.\n\nwe've all been there: it's been a long day, and the last thing you want to do is have a marathon sex session when you come home. for the guy, watch your woman's mood -- if she's been picking up after the kids all day, DON'T bug her about when dinner's going to be ready. instead, make her feel appreciated and maybe even lend a helping hand to the things she has left to do. the appreciative feelings flooding through her system will shoot straight to her crotch. trust me.\n\nand for the lady: take care of your man -- he won't admit it, but he's a big baby. he's probably super stressed from his day of work, and even if it seems like he wants to talk about it, don't let him. instead, completely take care of his needs -- give him a back rub, make a nice steak or something (i like pasta, personally) and don't try and bring up the things he's stressed about. you'll be amazed that, as his mind is relieved from the things that stress him out, he'll have much more time and energy to focus on you.\n\n---\n\nwell, that should get the ball rolling. i would post more, but everyone here at Y! Answers has the attention span of speedy gonzales (not a racist joke) =U|\n\ngood luck, and may the relationship spice up dramatically!
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Tell your new girlfriend that you are having a problem.  Explain how you are attracted to her, what you love/like about her, but that for some reason you keep thinking of your old girlfriend.  Explain that you don't really know why.  Then let her know that you need some time to work this out, and that the more time goes on, the more you realize that you're not ready to be in a new relationship after all right now, WITH ANYBODY.  And truthfully take that to heart.  I'd ease off of this new relationship for a few weeks or a month or so, just to sort out your own feelings.  You need to either A) get in touch with some real feelings of grief about losing your old girlfriend and work through them (maybe with a counselor?) and / or B) re-visit the old relationship to see if you should continue.  Either way, it's important to recognize and attend to what's real, your truest and deepest feelings inside.
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What you really want is the REAL thing, not any cheap substitutes for the intimacy that you once had. If you've been together for a long time, you focus on your careers and other things that need to get done and in that time both of you have grown as individuals. You are not on the exact same level that you used to be on when you once met because you have both gained new wisdom, new dreams, new experiences, etc. I think what you need to do is meet each other on the level that you are on now. In other words REDISCOVER each other. There is something deeper in your husband and in you that wasn't there before and you need to get in touch with each other. Talking is the number one key for intimacy. Maybe you could change the scenery and talk in a totally different place to spark some enthusiasm. Make it special and really dig into each other's worlds. Talking about the past can bring back good memories, but don't wish that your husband is now what he was then because he is all that and even more. Love him now and get to know him all over again. Do something special for him and create an atmosphere where you can talk and fall in love all over again.
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My suggestion would be to start all over, let me explain.  When you were dating, before kids, before the wedding, what did you do?  Did you enjoy going to dinners?, movies?, hiking?  Whatever it was that brought you two to the point of falling love do it again.  Send the kids to grandma's for the weekend, get a babysitter for friday night and go to dinner.  Sure, it may feel a little weird the first few times you go out, but that's because you haven't done it in a while.  Start slow and build from there.  There's no majic trick to finding the spark again, you need to work at it, but it will come!  Remind yourself, and your spouse, why you fell in love and got married. \n\nHope this helps!
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should say good things that you remember about the time you're still together... bring back the good ole memories... try to flatter her and lower yourself... make him/her feel that it's your fault or something... that'll make him/her feel better and it softens heart.... good luck!
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#1 quit acting like a whore sleeping around with one guy for 4 years now you want to jump in bed with somebody else. U should have more respect 4 urself because you owe it to yourself.
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10 years is a lot, so bring out all the crazy pictures and make a slide show or something. \n\nget a picture of you two made. that shows that after all these years you are still very much in love. \n\nyou and other half could write something to each other and read it out loud --- if you want to. \n\nand of course --- dress nice..