I sometimes think I shouldn't have a child of my own because of the population problem, your views?
470303
You are the type of person that SHOULD have a child. \n\nOverpopulation is a big problem in third world nations and China. Unless you live in one of those nations be a parent. Have one or two children. It is the people have 5-10 children that are the problem. In Western nations we are not having enough children to replace ourselves. If not for imigration our populations would actually be declining. So having a child or two may actually help the world just by helping preserver your heritage. \n\nMore so, that child that you birth. How do you know they will not grow up to invent something that ends world hunger? That creates faster than light travel? You don't. So at best you are limiting yourself and denying the world a chance to meet your children whether or not they do anyting earch shattering. You obviously have compasionate views on life that should be shared. To fight world overpopulation contribute to education and self sufficiency programs for third world nations. The better educated and more affluent a parent is the less likely they are to have exceesive children. Space is also a very good answer to overpopulation. All that land out there waiting for life to visit it. Until then it lays there dormant and dead.
698305
No but I think that if you are pro-life...then you should be required to adopt a baby that currently has no home or family....\n\nthe age...race...disablity...none of that would be your choice either.\n\nIf you are pro-life----then stand behind it.
834736
Personally, I believe abortion to be wrong. I will say that to anyone. Most people don't have a problem with getting someone to at least stop and think before attaining an abortion. You always make a better decision when you think about all available options. BTW, I do help feed the hungry.
704950
I agree.  Another good approach would be to give incentives to people to not have kids.  For example: if someone is a criminal, a crackhead, violent, or otherwise unfit....we pay them a large sum of money to get sterilized.  That way it's not against their will and the government stays out of it except by the subject's choice.  If they're on crack or meth, they'll want the money.  Fewer neglected kids and a more stable society.
268401
I think the decision to have children or not have them is a personal one, and it is only right or wrong to the person making the decision.  I have no children, never wanted children and do not ever want children.  I know people older than me that never had children (by choice) and have no regrets about their decision, it was the right one for them.  I also know people that didn't really want children, but had them because they felt pressured, people told them it was "their duty" to have children, and they were never really happy once they were born, and have said that if they could do it again, they would not have had the kids.\n\nBasically, I think it is better to not have children if you know you do not want them than to have them even though you do not want them, because eventually the children do pick up on the fact that they were never wanted, and it just brings unhappiness all around.
188211
i wonder d same thing.\n\nthose who're not yet ready 4 a baby get pregnant while there r some married couples who're desperately dying 4 a child & cant have 1.\n\ni just wish those unwanted babies cud b adopted by other couples..
575316
Its not so much wrong or right for me as in pure desire to have the baby my husband and I created.  Not the baby my husband and I and the doctor and the lab tech and the nurses created.  As a christian I want the baby God gives me, imperfections and all.  As a human I want the baby that we created with our own genes.  I will love that child no matter what.  Of course I want a healthy child, but people have been dealing with that risk since the dawn of time.  I can deal with it too.
977308
Oh that is a tough situation and I dont think you can make one decision that will fit everyone. I think it would depend on how far into the pregnancy you are, which would still be a tough decision to make. I don't have kids or particularly want them, but if I were pregnant and I was in the situation I personally would want to be kept alive long enough for my child to survive. Most sane normal women would want that. That is a personal decision however and the goverment should keep its nose out.
1131035
Sometimes I think it is...because I have been telling my mom all my life that when I get married I wanna adopt, rather than have my own. But my mom wants me to have them because she says its so different to have your own. And that when you have your own they look like you, you love them more, and it's better for yourself. I don't know...but to me, having your own kids is sorta selfish when there are soo many children out there without families. Also, there is a 40 year old lady at my church, who just got custody of her 17 year old step son. He was totally not brought up right with his real mom and he really needs a lot of attention, and all she could think about was having her own child. So now she has a 1 year old, and she's pregnant again, and she totally ignores her step son. To me, that's very selfish!!! I don't know, I guess it depends on the person though.
799163
After a year of marriage, my wife and I decided not to have children.  Twenty-three years later we have no regrets...we like the children in our family, and we like the children of our friends, but they go home at the end of the day...I suppose there are joys we'll never know, and I suppose there are heartbreaks we'll never know.  But that's not regret; it's just difference from the norm.  All in all, we've found it freeing not to have children.  Parenthood is hard enough when you want to do it; can you imagine how hard it would be for people who didn't want to be parents (but felt obligated to be)?
836662
Hey, I was thinking about a similar question! I know some people can't love children who are not their own 'blood', but I feel all children are the same and I'd happily adopt any orphan. I don't know about the expenses, so can't comment on that, altough I had a school teacher who wasn't even very rich, but he had an adopted child....? So maybe there are different ways of adoption, from less to more expensive.\n\nThe 'problem' is that people find it more logical to have their own child. It's more unique, has their features and their genes. It's a symbol of their love and relation with their partner. Till some extent, I can understand this and I feel there's nothing wrong with it either. Bearing your own child is a unique experience and why would you deprive yourself from it? It might sound egoistic, but it's rather logical and a matter of emotional attachment. \n\nHowever, when a couple can't have children for some reason, why would we prefer to go for IVF, surrogate mother or other treatments? In this case, I do believe adoption is a far better option and a way of accepting it as God's wish, while you still get the pleasures of nurturing a child. Also when you can afford it, I think adopting an orphan and giving him/ her not just your money, but your love also, is one of the most nobel things we can do as human beings. \n\nA solution to overpopulation in my opinion is stopping the birth of an unwanted child by taking sufficient precautions (abortion is not option imo!). Besides, people need to realise that it's not important to have many children, instead it's more important to give enough love and care to each of them. I don't know why people who can't afford it decide to have many children. I'd rather have one or two and take proper care of them! And last but not least, giving birth to more and more children just waiting for a son to be born, is something that needs to stop also!
503448
Only you can decide what to do, but keep in mind that there are good people out there like me that want more children and can't have them.  You gotta do what is best for your child.  Don't let anyone tell you what to do. If you just want someone to talk to you can IM me.
1088358
Sure thing. I'm not very interested in having children, so assuming I *could* still die if I wanted to, absolutely I would. Actually I'd probably die in some sort of accident before I ever got bored enough with life to want to die, but that's just me.
1165707
No, of course not. Preventing people from having children is just as bad as forcing them to have them. What should, but probably won't be done: Miserable single parents (not all young single parents are miserable or immature,BTW) should come into classes and talk about how THEY NEVER THOUGHT IT WOULD HAPPEN TO THEM, and it did. They should relate every unpleasant detail, every time they had to skip shopping to take care of a colicky baby, every time their toddler threw a tantrum in the store and people stared at them like they were a bad parent, every humiliating time they had to borrow money from their parents. Every opportunity they missed and all the responsibilities they're saddled with now. The idea of being responsible for somebody for eighteen or so years would make most of them pay a little more attention, dont'cha think?
992461
Good point. Here's my two cents:\n\n- Rape happens; many of us can't stop that from happening.\n- Health matters; I'm on the fence with this response.\n\n**But women wanting to kill off their own offsprings because they:\n\n- can't support a child financially\n- got boned by her ex and refuses to keep the baby\n- wanted to have sex, but didn't use birth control, and doesn't want a kid....\n\nthese women should be DENIED TREATMENT.\n\nWhy? Because their idiots for not keeping their legs closed and not using protection.\n\nHonestly, these women shouldn't have kids AT ALL. They don't show any signs of responsibility to raise any child.\n\n**To the women who I want to deny abortions to:\n\nI refuse to apologize, so go f*** yourselves (literally)
98655
if you're not willing to support this child through to adulthood no matter what, you shouldn't be having a child.
297426
I love the idea. If you can't support a child, you can't have them. Sounds cold and logical.