Could anyone answer why my 20 yr. old son CAN NOT get a job!!??
468361
You don't mention how long he has been trying.  In some markets it is an average of 6 weeks, in many it is far longer.
769128
First of all, I am sorry for the challenges you are facing.  Do you have any family willing to help?  Homeless shelters are not fun places to be so if you can avoid it, please do.  If you cannot, look up in the phone book your state's department of human services.  You will get a referral number to call and will probably have to leave a message.  Explain your situation to the casemanager when they call back and they will be able to give you good advice on what are your next steps.  Also, while you are at it, check with your local department of unemployment offices for help.  Maybe you are eligible for unemployment and maybe not but there are other services they may provide such as career counseling, review of your resume, computers for job searches, job listings, computer training and others I may not be aware of.  Unemployment is pretty helpful and the counselors/workers seem to really want to help you find a job.  I don't know specifics for your state but in New Jersey there are many services available to those who need temporary assistance.  Good luck!
287101
Have you checked the classified ads in your local newspaper? Don't just look for jobs there. Check to see if there are any employment agencies. Look in the yellow pages of your phone book as well. Call these places when you find them and see if they offer help like working up a resume for you. Go to these places and see if they have a Job Board posted with any available jobs. Make sure you are as clean and neatly dressed as possible when you approach anyone about a job. The better you look the more apt they will be to help you. Talk to the people at these places and ask if they have a program that hires young people with no work experience through government subsidies. Perhaps you know someone who would hire you if they could afford to. If there is a program they qualify for with money to pay part of your wages they could hire you! It's a long shot I know. If you are still in school, talk to a counsellor and see if there are any student jobs you might qualify for through a program that the school is running in their business classes or something. If you attend church, talk to your minister. Talk to a trusted adult friend. Put an ad in the paper yourself asking for work! Go, go, go! You can do this! If you can bring yourself to walk into a business and ask to talk to the manager, tell him/her you are looking for work and ask if they have anything available. They can only say no (not kill you), and they might say yes! Keep on going and keep trying until you land something. Good luck to you!
510405
Best way to get a job is through connections. Thats what it is all about.  Got any family? cause if you cant rely on others for connections, you have to make your own.  Now, you can't just go out there asking for help, you have to go out there and try to help others, ask the person who you want to be employed by "What can I do to  help you out?"  Then he/she will owe you.  Make friends out of people in the business.  Might take a while but you will not be out of a job for a long while.\nGood luck
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I do! I do!  Someone in my family.  He's 30 and doing quite well.\nAnother member in my family.  He's 40.  Just finsihed trade school and is doing an internship.  The kicker?  The only thing that seems to be stopping him from getting a good job is the fact that he is diabetic.  He's hoping that the company where he is doing his internship will hire him.
215025
Hey I'm going through the same thing right now!!!! I have walked out before but it was EXTREMELY HARD to find another job and guess what the one i have now is WORSE!!!!! I hate everyone here to but my problem is that i don't take anyone crap!!!!! I tried to fix a problem i have been having here and it only slapped me in the face, for me i cant just walk out because I'm scared of not finding a job quick enough so i don't fall behind in my bills!!!! I'm trying to stay but I can relate to you.... If you can afford to leave then just walk out if you cant and need this money then stay and look for something else you might have better luck then i did GOOD LUCK hon
370162
i have a business degress as well, i feel your pain.  i have had a lot of job opportunities come my way by posting my resume on monster.com and careerbuilder.com.  At lot of the time, you qualify for jobs your don't search for.  Give it a try and Good Luck.
33652
Your son is an adult now and needs to make his own way in this world. I don't know his living situation, but I would recommend if anyone is supporting him financially it is time to stop. Enabling him to continue the lifestyle he is living is not in his best interest. When he is on his own, he will be made accountable for his actions. If he cannot hold a job, he will be fired. If he cannot pay his bills, he will be evicted. These things will show him what it takes to survive as an adult in this world. If you truly believe he is suffering from a mental illness you can recommend he go to counselling. However, unless he is a danger to himself or others, no one will be able to make him go to counselling. If it gets to the point where you fear for his safety or the safety of others, dial your local distress line or crisis team. They are located in your phonebook in the Emergency section. They will assess him and transport him if needed to a safe place until he is stabilized. Aftercare and follow-up will typically follow his progress for a brief time after his discharge. I wish you and your son the best of luck and good blessings.
936850
sorry when you have money you can not get help.  I was a single parent as my son was growing up and I did not use aid I got a job and raised him, he then learned if you want something you have to work for it. You could always get a job.  I am disabled and have medicare.  If you are too sick to work you can apply.
1036717
First of all, what are you doing relying on your parents if you have teenage daughters??  By all means I was not a perfect child but, bu time I was your childrens age, I didn't rely on my parents for squat except for a roof over my head and food.  Stop exausting your efforts on relying on other people and asking for help over the internet and rely in yourself.  If you want a job, there are plenty of them out there...  I lived in Santa Barbara so don't tell me there isn't.  See what "truth"?  What does this mean?  Call me your "angel" and I've heard your "cry", only it sounds more like excuses and moaning.  Stop blaming others for your problems and make some changed in your lives.  Where are your daughters?  Living in the street too?  Don't you think there is something wrong when you bear children and aren't able to take care of them properly.  Hell, I may not know anything about this, I'm only 24 years old...  I know shit happens and I feel for your perdiciment but, you need to make soemthing for yourselves, it's out there, you just have to find it and want it bad enough.  Good luck and God Bless.
342859
Try getting him to apply places that will really get him involved in people. A grocery story, a restaurant, somewhere where he can help people. A lot of times that really makes a kid feel good, even a 16 year old guy. But don't get him a job where he's going to be doing silly things. He's old enough now to realize that he needs to be doing something constructive. Gas stations are great, but I wouldn't start looking there. Also, keep in mind what he is interested in. If he likes animals, get him interested in an animal shelter or a vets office. Stuff like that would really boost his pride, too.
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I have no doubt that you have been trying to instill values of the clean nature in him for a long time. Here he is almost 18 and has yet to adapt. Soooo, I am relatively sure you are asking for help, but not expecting any miracles. You know that you have probably already exhausted every avenue that any one of us might tell you. I have sons also, and when you describe your son its as if you were talking about one of my boys. I have no solution for you,... I just wanted you to know you are not alone in this aspect. There is one thing you can "teach yourself" though that might eliminate some of your frustration about him. Don't take it personnel when he does this! Save your energy. Choose your battles! Keep instilling the lesson of what he needs to know, but don't worry about him not doing it. Try a role change with him on occasions,... when he needs you to do something, tell him "just a minute", or "I will get on that soon", or "I meant to do that, but forgot", ...throw his lines back at him and watch him get frustrated. Its good clean amusement for you, I promise!  My boys, and I am sure your son, too, are 'good' people, and yes, lazy people. But as long as he is staying out of real trouble, you really have no problems compared to some Moms out there. They do grow up, and when you go to their homes in the future, he will make you proud. I know!!! You are me, 14 years ago. Hang in there, its going to be alllllright!
712097
You don't tell us what you did in the military so it's a little difficult to offer any employment advice.  If you can, go home to your parents.  Let them know it will be for a short time and you will pay rent.  And then do so.  Next, contact your states Department of Human Services.  You may be eligible for aid while you are trying to get your life in order.  Some states have health insurance for children, WIC just to name a few.  You may even be eligible to housing assistance and childcare assistance.  Contact local temp. employment agencies and have them test your computer skills.  Let them know you are anxious to work, and are looking for a permanent position eventually but will work wherever needed until such a position is available.  If your computer/office/ factory skills are not up to par, look for work in your local Walmart, fast food places, etc. There are jobs that do start almost immediately however they don't usually pay that great so you may need help from loved ones.  Good Luck!\nPS.  Where's your baby's daddy?  He is legally responsible to provide financial support for the baby so ask DHS about routes to collect this money too.
177354
Sorry that you are having a hard time. Basically tell em to take a long walk off a short pier. \n I also get funny looks because I receive Medicaid and you know why I get it? Because I am disabled and spent all my life not working but raising a family, so I did not have enough work hours to qualify for NORMAL disability. \n I am glad that you are trying to do so much to better your life and those of your children. Just forget them. Or even better ask if they will take care of your childrens health expenses? Take care and good luck
200087
Have you looked into filing for unemployment?  There are many misconceptions about when people are or are not eligible.  Even if you think you aren't, you might be eligible.\n\nYou could try a temporary agency.  There are many out there, and they require varying levels of experience and skills.\n\nYou could also try finding a casual labor job.  Construction contractors and farmers (as well as many other types of businesses) frequently hire casual labor on a temporary basis.  Because there is very little paperwork and few obligations for the employer, these positions are easy to get if you can find them.\n\nAlso, if you have things that are worth money that you don't absolutley HAVE to have, you could try selling them or getting a collateral loan from a pawn broker to tide you over until you find work.
803322
man that's tough... I know many people face that daily. Unfortunately so many people especially in the 25-55 age group are unskilled. Many younger people have skills that are in keeping with progress .. computers Internet etc.. there are jobs out there but the unskilled labor/factory/farm jobs are on the decrease and have been for a while now.. I am not sure there is any real answer for that. Social services is inadequate to maintain any kind of life style.. I think if yo have recently found yourself out of work and have no way to put food on the table... you are liable to be a dangerous person, because desperation will make you do some scary sh!t
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Employers are begging for people where I live.  Are you sure you aren't being too picky about a job?  Have you considered moving?  How about upgrading your job skills?\n\nSince nobody knows where you live it would be difficult to tell you how to apply for a public handout.  It differs from place to place.