I cannot feel happiness, what should i do? Just answer, maybe you have a good opinion, please?
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You say you have a good job with good pay. But do you like what you do? Maybe that's the problem. Maybe you're not satisfied in your job. I think a therapist would help you find out what's keeping you from being happy. If you have a good job that pays well, you can afford to go see one. I think that's the first thing you should do. Sometimes we are not happy because of something in our lives but can't even admit it to ourselves. A therapist could help you.
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It depends on what you where hoping for? If you are sad or depressed because life is not going as you planned or imagined, then you need to start changing your view point from negative to positive.................\nTry your best to think about nice and positive things and when negative thoughts pop into your mind you can choose not to listen to them. I know that sounds strange or simple but it is true. I know we can not stop ourselves from having bad thoughts on occasion however we do not have to listen to or dwell on those thoughts. We can instead tell ourselves to stop, and redirect our thoughts onto something good, happy or just different. If you start doing this everytime you think of something sad or evil; example: If you start to think something sad like my son is late, I hope nothing bad has happened to him, what if he was hurt in an accident, what if I have to go to the hospital, and what if..... you know what I mean, it goes on until you imagine the worst senario... even making yourself feel sick or in tears. What if instead you say STOP at the beginning, redirect your thoughts to something nice instead, What if he has met a nice girl, what if he is having a coffee and cake, what is something good is happening instead. Or if the negative thoughts stay; What if you ask God to strengthen you by taking away your fears and by watching over your son and protecting him for you.\nTheir are many ways to can feel better without taking medication, one is to start learning to think positive thoughts, another is through prayer, or gentle stretching exercises, walking a dog, going for a swim, planting flowers, painting, or just having a chat. Life is a learning experience and it is not suppose to be perfect. Without disapointments we would not strive to be better, happier or more giving. We would not understand how important it is to love and care for others and be forgiving and compassionate. We would just be content to do nothing special when we should be doing something great.\nThis is what I have learnt from my past anxiety, panic attacks and depression, what doesn't kill you will strengthen you. I would wake in the morning and say "Oh pooh I am still alive", I wanted to go to bed and never wake up. I lived every minute in fear with my heart racing at 100 miles per minute. I weighed in at a meer 42 kilograms because of the constant panic attacks and depression. How did I improve, with faith, hope, and love I received from praying to God. I started volunteering in the community and have never looked back, their is always someone worse off than you. I sponsor a child in another country and I am too busy living for others to worry about my own problems.
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baby girl. you are depressed. you need help.\n\nyou are a GOOD girl. you are a GOOD person.\n\nyou need your parents, family, friends -- to show you care and love you.\n\nyou need a psychologist.\n\nbut remember you are an AMAZING person. you are SWEET, you are GOOD.\n\nyour self-esteem needs uplifting through love and care of ....whoever you can get ---\n\nparents, friends, family, psychologist etc
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there are a lot of reasons why its hard to be happy...for some people (like myself) being happy isnt easy and it doesnt come naturally...i believe the key to begin with is not to be happy...its to not but unhappy...whether that be mad, sad or ect...after you can get passed the point of "down" the middle ground is a lot better...and at that point you can have a better idea of how you could be happy...it may sound childish but sometimes the pro con list can help...write everything in your life in either the pro or con section...you may even have a indifferent part...i dont know if that will help you in anyway...basically all i can tell you is that i tried the whole depression medacine and it was okay but what helped me the most was some good self examining and reflecting...i hope things get better for you and if you need someone to bug sometime my email address is always open...i, in a weird way, like to listen...
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I'd stay quit. When you feel your mood changing, go for a walk or do something different. Maybe find a radio station that plays some slow jazz, or music that helps you to relax.
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I do not believe it is Always possible to stay Positive and happy. But I do believe that if you try to do at least one thing a day that makes you feel good about you that will help. Whenever an event happens that makes you sad you should try to do or find something to make that situation a wee bit better.Try to figure something about that situation that will make you feel a tiny bit better(if there isn't anything try to think about something you may be able to that in itself will help ? HUGS
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maria -\nYou don't need to get over it as other people have said you need to. As long as you don't end up hurting yourself you can deal with this however you want. You don't always need to feel happy but you don't need to be sad all the time either. You don't even have to know what you are feeling, as long as you are ok with that. If you don't know what a feeling is and you want to then talk with someone and figure it out. People will listen to you, trust me. Just do what you need to do. If you feel like you need to get up and exercise then get up and exercise, but if you feel like all you can do is stay at home and watch movies that's fine too, as long as you don't let it get to an extent where it is taking over your life. Remember: people can't tell you what to feel, it's up to you to do that. Others can only help you tell yourself what to feel. It's going to be hard, and no one knows that better than you right now, but you can pull through if you want to do so. People are there for you, remember that.
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nothing, everyone feels like this sometimes, just live trough if for now, it will get better =]
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You could be depressed.  It's nothing to be embarrassed about.  If you cry alot, and don't get joy from things you liked before, it could be.  Why do you think she is wrong?  \n\nLife is too short to feel so sad.  It might help you to be open minded about depression.  You have a computer - get more information, help yourself as much as you can.\n\nYour school counselor is probably concerned about you.  You can talk to your parents if you feel comfortable with that.  If you don't go do a teacher, friends mom, or other adult you can trust.  \n\nI have been depressed in my life, and it is so easily treated.  I should never have suffered as long as I did.  There's counselling, and or medications that can help tremendously.  Please don't give up.  \n\nI always remember life is too short, and I don't want to feel so sad.  Please help yourself so you can be a happy and content person.\n\nGod Bless
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ive read your profile and previous questions and for whatever reasons i believe you are deeply unhappy within your self-depression if you like-actively find solitude,get comfortable and try to focus on one thought only-as your mind clears search for the root of your problem,try to identify the real source-elect a way to change it to your benefit-take action,no matter how small .you will then have begun to fight back and feel better about yourself and this in turn with each action you alone make to affect the path of your destiny-as is your right-will give you back the control you feel you may be losing-and hopefully have you feeling like smiling again-its worth a try,good luck.x -remember "a journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step !"x
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If that's really true- you can change that.\n\nYou sound depressed and that's ok. I am too. When I start thinking like you I only get more depressed. Positive action is the only thing you can do to feel better and don't wait to feel better before you start. Let's both not think about dying and think about living tonight. Let's think of something positive we can do tommorow
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You´ll always find dissatisfaction in life, one way or another. The key is to learn to be happy at all times no matter what. That should be my answer
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When you feel yourself get cynical and resentful I suggest a trip over to 'Polls and Surveys' for some light entertainment. Get away from this for a while to lighten up. Take care!
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I'll always reward myself with little present, spend myself to watch moving "egg: funny movie, meaning full movie", get a close friend go traveling...etc. but what important is yourself must think positively, make yourself happy, do the thing that can make yourself happy. if you can switch your mood positively. go to find a good book to "clean" your sad & lonly heart. Be happy, coz there r still someone care about you.
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Maybe you can start a journal or watch some fun comedys. Or even read some good magazines,I hope you start to feel better, also you can listen to your favorite music cds. I hope I helped.
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I think most ppl go through that, but if it lasts, something may need to be changed somewhere. \nTry to find something that you enjoy or something new you wanted to try.\n \nGoing for walks or exercise can help.\nDoing enjoyable things and exercise release feel good endorphins.You may not feel like doing it, but you have to force yourself to try something in order to make the change in how you feel. \nThe alternative is to stay feeling crappy. \n\nIf you have tried making changes like these to no avail, you may need to your doctor or some other professional about how you feel.
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Hate to say this but you are putting you through the emotional rollercoaster.  It's possible to stop.  Think about being open and honest with these two about your feelings, doubts, and fears.  You'll feel better.  And remember, the world won't end if this connection you feel goes away.  You'll still be worthwhile and valuable as a person.