my boyfriend is going away to college and I'm afraid that he will go out with a  girl?
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You're fears are justified.\nWith such changes in ones life, many guards are down.\nexciting new environment, peer pressure, other stresses.\nIf opportunity arises what would stop a person?\nHe may have all the good intentions to stay faithful to you.\nOther pressures may get the better of him.\nSo you have choices to make about how you will react etc...\nso don't leave the power to him\nyou are a strong independant woman.\nMake choices for yourself\nyou GO GIRL!
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me and my guy was online and i read him you question..this is da answer he gave me ....\n\n"We almost are in the same situation as you..I'm gonna go to another country for 4 years for my higher studies and she will only see me few times a year.. the thing is this is not as difficult as it seems.. dear sis you are not the first one to go through this.. there are loads of people who came through this or if not you have us... even we were pretty much worried in the first place as what to do... but let me give an advice to you... don't let go... just hold on...we are going to have a harder time than you even... cos it's a way longer period and we are both in seperate other countries which is not our mothercountry... so sister the distance doesn't matter...the only thing you have to do is to have a long distance dedication..... the key thing is to keep in touch as much as ppossible... not seeing your guy is tough... i know... but with time you may be able to adapt to that... just keep him in your heart..i'm just saying.. "so close no matter how far, couldn't be much more from the heart, forever trusting who we are , and nothing else matters.." goodluck sister... this will be posted by my girl who's in a country so far away while i'm writing this...\n\nhy im his gal hear ..darling  im teling u pls go ahead i dont regreat..taking the chance caz my guy is da best no matter how far he is his jus near my heart..and his all mine ..dont b scard i ws scrad my self....belive me ...i didnt know wht to do but jus go aead ..its better dan nt knwing wht u 2 wil end up with.
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if he is in your country then have one of his friends that you can trust not to tell him you are coming home, and have him take you boyfriend out some where, like a restaurant, just to "HANG OUT WITH HIM" and then you "RUN IN TO THEM" at the place. but if you are leaving him to go back to your country then that sucks.
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Ok this is from personal experience I had with a girl. The thing I'm gonna put my money on is that he's trying to make you jelous because he believes he's run outta options. I hate to be blunt but if your considered a really attractive girl in your school it doesn't matter how goodlooking he is but he may be scared of you, espically of approaching you directly. You also have to think of the way you treated him, you cheated on him, and also you pushed him away when he wanted to talk to him...well now its time to put youself to the test.\nI'm not sure of your age so i'm not sure if you can drive or not, but since your able to still monitor him IE knowing how he acts arond other girls I'm 100% sure he knows this information about his flirting and girl handeling is getting back to you. So you need to choose a night, time, and place and track him down randomly. Talk to him about it, I know the girl I went through with this I did the exact same thing and it would have ment the world to me if she had just tracked me down and come to me to talk about it. You've got to put yourself in his shoes and realize just how much you hurt him, its also possible he wants you to hurt some too since you seem to have been completly unaffected (from his point of view) from the break up. Once you've sat down for awhile and thought this over and you actually understand his pain and the hell you put him through (I know i'm being harsh but it'll help you in the long run) only then will you be ready to talk to him about it and salvage something.\n\nAnd if your not trying to salvage something or you know you'd never be able to handle a serious realtionship with him without cheating its best to just leave this be and go through the pain of losing someone.\n\nHowever from what you've told me about him and how i'm guessing how you feel I think its for the best that you two try and salvage a relationship. At the very least try and follow my advice about trying to put yourself in his shoes and feeling his pain, it'll give you a better perspective on things. \n\nGood luck to the both of you!\n\nFeel free to e-mail me if you need more help
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did your dad get school & college out of the way before having a girl friend, I doubt it.  Tell him your not planning on getting married, just geing a teenager and having some fun.  Being a parent I can understand where he's coming from but I was also a teenager and know that if told no the teen will always do the opposite, I let me daughters do things but we compromise, in your case id say fine but just see him a couple of nights a week so you don't miss out on your studying, you've got to be allowed to live a little !
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Yes i think is is very possible to have that type of realtionship.\n\nNot to mention that is you two would do "it" that would be a crime for him right now.\n\nI think you should wait and enjoy each others company before you start going further.\n\nConcentrate on school and you should do fine.\n\nJust dont rush things.
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University should be your choice because it will give you a foundation that you can rely on for the rest of your life.  If your boyfriend really loves you then he will still be there when you finish school.
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if he is not leaving for college what's the problem. you will have plenty of time for your parents to change there mind. if they like him ask him over for dinner with everyone. if that doesn't work out do not worry time is on your side. life will bring you many things to come. enjoy today if he likes you he will be there tomorrow. if not it maybe was never meant to be. what you want today is not always what you want tomorrow. there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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Honestly? Break up. A long distance relationship won't work, especially with you both in colleges in different states. You will both meet other people, and one thing will lead to another, and one or another of you, or both of you, will wind up cheating, or suspecting and accusing the other of cheating.\n\nIf, after college, you get back together, great.
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she is, and of course!  its kinda surprising actually that he wouldn't want to be around you while you're having fun with girlfriends.  most likely, it is a problem with his self esteem, he is probably jealous of you\n\nif he doesn't like that aspect about you, but you feel it is an important aspect in your life, you need to seriously weigh whether staying with him is worth giving that up.
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Either take a break from your education and go with him OR keep your relationship open if you guys would mutually agree to that.\n\nOr, if its really a serious relationship - you will go through the two years.
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well on one hand you do have a point but think about it, if her bf is a junior and she's a freshman dont you think that they should go? because if they stay together for a real long time he will graduate and by the time she's a junior he wont be around to go with her to her ball so let her enjoy it now when she's with him she deserves to have fun too. and your friend will probably ask her to go with him if he's going because its his gf and I'm sure he would like to spend more time with her and he probably thinks that this is a romantic way for them to get closer and deeper in the relationship he's not gonna ask someone else to go with him if he has his gf and I'm sure he likes her enough to take her is he's going.
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Wow, that is a big decision.  Colorado for the most part is a wonderful place but I think it is important to do what is best for you regardless of the location.  My biggest concern about this boy is that here he is asking you to come and be with him but he isn't even willing to go back to your state to see you.  To me that is selfish and shows that he really isn't in love with you.  My biggest fear is that you would get out to Colorado and then he would dump you and you would be stuck out there away from family and friends on your own.  Even if things worked out between the two of you, wouldn't you want to go home sometimes and visit family and friends?  Would he be willing to go with you like a real boyfriend or would you be stuck doing that on your own with him complaining about your going?  It just doesn't seem like a very good choice.  If you decide to move to Colorado, do it for you and not for him.
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Don't accept him!  He is tired of the girl of nowadays and wants you as a trophy.  Poor girlfriend, you can see how he will finish treating you...Accept only boys that have respect for you and for the others.
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Dont sneak out because if you break their trust once, it'll take years to get it back. Sit down with them and be willing to compromise. Maybe just go on dates with friends and agree to carry a cell phone or stuff like that. It helps if they trust you and if they still refuse, just hang out with the girl of your dreams at school. Its not tthat big of a deal if you cant see her outside of school but you can im her or call her if she doesnt mind.
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ask your boyfriend if it's okay if you innocently date someone while he is away. let him know that it is nothing serious and that if he doesn't approve then you won't do it. most people especially men would understand this and as long as you aren't banging the high schooler (which is illegal unless he flunked a few times) you should be okay. as long as your open and honest with both the men that your involved with it's perfectly possible to maintain a healthy relationship with both of them.
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He shouldn't feel like he needs to marry at a time when you're still in school. If he loves you, he has no need to rush marriage. If he's insecure and needs marriage to assure him, then you're better off without him. Do what you have to do, finish law school. If he's not ok with you trying to create a successful career for yourself, doesn't that say how selfish he is?