Should I end my friendship with a close female friend who I am in love with, but she does not feel for me?
469539
Instead of thinking about how bad you feel, because she don't like you the sameway, you should think about how happy you make her when you are there for her and how much she may need you to be there for her. Believe me I is good to have someone to talk to when you have alot on your mind. Just try that and then if that doesn't help let her know how you feel and see where it goes from there.
859617
you did the right thing. dont feel bad honestly. if you kept dating her then youw ould have made things a whole lot worse because later on, she might have fallen in love with you. leave things the way it is. tell her to call you once she is okay enough to accept things with how they are and you just want to be friends. that you will always be there for her even though you arent with her.
629408
Always a tough call.\n\nYou have to examine your feelings for her and respect that she told you that she cannot see you in that way.\n\nContinue to be pleasant and polite to her and just have her be a good friend.\n\nYou should find another who is willing to reciprocate the love you have to give. She will understand this decision that you have made and you can still be friends.
19905
No, you shouldn't especially if you had strong feelings for her.  I recently broke up with a guy I've been dating for almost 3 months.  He wants to continue the friendship but I told him no, not this time.  I said maybe later when I'm completely over him, and it will all sort of happen by itself if we're meant to be friends.  Good luck.
1095872
explain this to her.  say I love u but I am allowing u to cloud my every thought and I've come to the realization that this isn't healthy for me.\n\nif u can handle it ask her to still be friends
1119343
She takes you as a really good friend. So my advice to you dont let your heart in too much... it could hurt and you cant blame her for it as you know she is lesbian. Dont blunder the friendship!
884399
Be honest...but a lttle white lie here and there is ok. I recommend: "Because I care about you so much I don't want to lead you on. You are a great person...and you have been so good to me. Right now...I need a friend...more than anything else. The feelings that I once had for you will always be in my heart. Right now I do not want to be in a relationship...I still really care about you...and I hope you will remain my friend." Now of course you should use your own words and express the way you feel in your heart. Make sure you use your judgement, your heart, and your feelings. I wish you the best of luck
282818
Try writing her a heart felt letter.  That way you can respect her wishes of not talking to her and she can open and deal with the letter when SHE is ready to.\n\nMake sure she knows that you care so much for her that you thought it would be good to take a new direction, but you don't feel attached to the idea, just her friendship.\n\nDont rush her on it.
506071
feeling come and go it all takes time there know saying when you will lose these feeling but you cant make someone have the same feelings as you and maybe one day you two may became more the only thing you can do is stay friends and see how things go tell your friend that you have these feeling for her and see what she has to say about maybe if you two talk about thing and see what she wants and then you can go from there if she just wants to be friends and she says that you and her will never be then you really have to move on just remember that you do have a friendship and that's better then nothing you wont be in pain forever
691780
you can end a close friendship tastefully however her feelings will not remain intact
522654
i think you should tell her how you feel and why. it is also fair for her to know how he acts towards her friends as she might want to know that. and then go on to tell her that it doesnt change how you feel about your friendship but you would be more comfortable to meet up with her without him. ;)
351561
i think you should let her know how you feel about her.\n\ni think it would be much easier to tell her this in person  so i would just ask her to take some time aside on a day and try to go out somewhere where you can talk dinner/coffee/park but somewhere commercial not too busy tho where there isn't eery silence or awkward feelings for reactions to a conversation like that \n\nbye what u have stated it doesn't seem as if she shares the same feelings with you  but i would not know since i dont know her\n\nbut be cautious  because if in fact that she doesn't feel the same way as you do about each other you might be faced with the problem of just wanting to stay friends \n\nbut also don't obsess or show obsession over the situation because that can push someone away and make them feel uncomfortable around you
37865
If you tell her you love her without making being absoulutely very positive that she may feel the same way, your relationship as friends will never be the same. WAIT and make sure the signs are there before you take that leap.
1139298
If you are a good friend you will stay away from her.\n\nYou don't want a woman to come between you and your friendship I hope.
306331
you should be patient but be aware of onething; make sure she does not take you as a "friend who stands by her side when she is trouble"! you need to be much more than that to her and this might be impossible if you keep talking to her daily since it may affect the feeling she may have one day for you. i would suggest you give her a break... pretend that you are busy with things for a while, do not let get used to you as a friend!\nthis is how i see it...\ngood luck
835658
Be careful.  You're playing with fire here.  Either continue talking to her, and realize that you'll have to confront the issue with both her and your friend, or resolve to stop the extra contact and keep it to a minimum (only when you're all out together).  Otherwise if you keep up the communications, you risk losing both his friendship and hers. And if you really think that their relationship is in trouble, give it time to either resolve or end, and then you'll either be in a better position to see about what future you could have with her, or you'll see that she really does love your friend and there's nothing you can do about it.\n\nIf she is conflicted now, and you try to make a move, then she might feel like you're taking advantage of her emotional vulnerability, and you ruin any chances of anything in the future.  So give it time, be patient, and try to be supportive to them both as a couple.
161525
Yes, you need to talk to him about how you feel.  Admit that you've tried to be ok with his friendship with this person but as much as you try you really aren't ok with it.  Your suposed to be his best friend now, not her and if your uncomfortable with the relationship he has with her he should be willing and want to end it in order not to ruin what you two have.