What can I do to have my mother in law like me?
471086
Don't do anything. For whatever reasonit is she just doesn't like you and if she really doesn't have a valid reason, such as you doing something to her or her son, she just won't.  Any little thing you do OR don't do she will take it as something negative and will always have something to complain about.  Always be courteous to her and love her son dearly.  Never change trying to make her happy because you will make yourself unhappy.  Hey if her son loves you is because he likes YOU, not what his mother might want you to be.  Try to live away from her as comfortably as your boyfriend will budge to and when you guys visit just be yourself.  One of two things will happen , she'll eventually warm up to you or hate you even more. Either way don't lose your sense of self.
116053
mostly in-laws are hard to get along with each other.  some reasons are both sides are so insecure with each other.  u are in the center.  dont take her side or your family side be in the middle.  did u ever talk to your mom if she knows any reason why your wife is treating them like that?  u can talk to your wife and tell her that your family is not comfortable that the way she treats them.  but dont be sound like you are taking your family side.  she might freak out and start an argument.  its really hard if your family get invloved with your marriage.  sometimes u feel like u need to choose between them.  but i'm pretty sure u both love your family and your wife.  u dont want to hurt any of them.  u have to talk to them.  u dont have to leave your wife u just need to talk to her about that problem.
836832
sit down and talk with her first explain how you feel if that doesn't work talk to your husband and maybe he can mediate if you are being grouchy with him on the weekends after not seeing each other all week that is not healthy for your marriage. Maybe your mom in law is just lonely reach out to her and maybe you can both enjoy each others company for a little time each day
491495
You can't.\n\nMy mother in-law was a leach to our marriage for 2 years after she left my father in-law and then it got worse when my wife was pregnant and we had our first son. I hold my mother in-law 50% responsible for destroying my marriage with her interference.
1012894
Possibly she is trying to help and also wants to be a part of the family.  The best way to deal with it is respect.  Show her respect at all times and remember that the person you married was raised by this woman so she cannot be all bad.  You may also want to consider that it may be your attitude that is the problem.  Try to approach her not as your mother in law but as you would any other person you deal with.
1090425
You and your husband will have to make a real effort on this one, and be the bigger people so to speak.  I don't think it's normal for a mother to act like that towards her son and his fiancee, now his wife.  Something is definitely wrong with her mentally.  Just remember that you can choose your friends, but not your family.  I think you and your hubby will have to speak with his mother about the wedding thing, just to get past it and clear the air.  She needs to know how it made you feel to be let down on your Big Day.  You can choose to forgive her or forget it, but you have to be able to move past what's happened in the past.  I don't really have any big words of wisdom other than to take the high road and don't play into her games.  Sometimes you gotta call a Spade a Spade!  No matter how bad she treats you, turn your cheek and be extremely nice back to her.... it gets them every time!
552573
My Mother in law is the same way. Does your husband know she does not like you? Does he stand up for you? THAT is what is important. This lady sounds way more than ridiculous. You can't have a car??? She knows she is in control and she is using that to her advantage. She WANTS you to leave your hubby........sounds like her goal is to make you miserable so you leave. Best advice? I KNOW this is hard but be as sweet as pie to her, almost sarcastic sweet. This will get to her more than anything. Talk with your husband, once he sets her strait that he loves you and there is nothing she can do to change that, things will get better! Good Luck
1058787
unfortunately, my husband's mother is the same breed. I just avoid the woman at all costs. fortunately, my husband agrees, but I don't know if yours will. \n\nI doubt confronting her would help, if she is as childish as my mother in law, but you could try talking to her, tell her your daughter feels left out and it hurts her feelings. goodluck whatever you decide
1055586
Well, I am an alien to my mother in law! I am from a different country, different culture, and the worst thing: I'm independent!!! She thinks that my husband (her little baby!!!) should control every single thinking I have...   What I do: as I can't change her, I just Play the role!!!!!! Visiting her once a week, and sometimes inviting her to go out.. Thing that she'll never do, but ok, I did my best.  As much as I can, I keep her "apart" from my relationship, as well as avoiding mixing, even when we are together!!!! Consider that my husband was living abroad and he understands my way - it's more than enough!!!!And of course, praying to Allah to keep me on the right way....
667923
Be the mature one about this situation and put an end to it.  Talk to your husband and tell him that you don't want things to be like they are and you feel that your mother-in-law and father-in-law should come over and have a family discussion.  You start off the discussion by saying to your MIL "I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt...I spoke out of  anger when I said I didn't want to see you again and was just venting."  Then explain to your MIL and FIL that you want the family to all get along but there need to be some changes because it really hurts you when your MIl __________________________________  fill in the blank with what she does that bugs you.  That way everything is out in the open, you apologized and showed you are trying to work things out. (Mind you, in the back of your mind you'll be saying...look B+tch, I'm just doing this to make my husband happy...but, she doesn't need to know that.)  Good Luck.
525867
Hey there, just to let you know, all the mother-in-laws in the world are jealous of their daughter-in-laws. The least they'd think is that some little bit*ch has come along to steal the little boy she's loved for years that she's raised into her little man. That's the rule of the nature. Heard of Odipeous? I don't want to get too Freudian about this. But I hope you get it. I wouldn't be surprised that you mother-in-law has lust for her own son; in that case, she's a sick piece.\n  You should let you fiancé know that you're the one he's marrying and having children with, not that bit*ch of a so called mother of his. If he ever gives you any bull about not being nice to his mom, you need to let him know that if he won't put you first, plenty of men out there would. In that case, you don’t need some mama’s boy anyway; he can just live with his mommy for ever if that’s the case.\n  On the other hand, maybe that mother-in-law to be of yours is just getting used to the idea that she's losing and that you're winning.\n  I wouldn't be surprised if that mother of his, if she's white that is, is a racist; in that case, as long as your fiancé loves you and respect you, just cut her out of the picture. If she's the same race as you, she's just being old fashioned and nevertheless, a stupid bit*ch for you to disregard.\n  So, don't even think about sucking up to her. It's that unpleasant bit*ch that's suppose to show you some respect. Remember, respect is earned, not given. Just because she's the mom of you future husband doesn't mean you're to give in to her stupid game. As long as your man knows better, which I presume that he does, he'd know that he's going to come home to you for years and withdraw further and further away from his "mother" to the point that miserable old witch would regret being a bit*ch to you.\n  So, as long as your fiancé puts you first, you should disregard that miserable old woman and realize that you're winning and she's losing. \n  You have my sympathy. Keep your chin up. That miserable old thing isn't worth your time or emotions. You’re here to make yourself happy, not to make that miserable old fool happy. She doesn’t matter at all. Marry this guy, cut her out of the picture, and be happy!
842658
Your mother in law is forgetting the meaning of THANKSgiving.\n\nDO NOT let your marriage be dragged into the mess.  If you ate with your MIL last year then YOU and YOUR husband should honor your sisters wish to have the whole family together.   Explain to dragon lady that this is the first time in years your family has been together and RE invite her to enjoy a day with NO work. \nI lived it the WRONG way for 23 years I spent holidays at my in laws because we are neighbors and my mother in law DEMANDS it.  My mom lived 3 hours away and my  household was used to the big family get together next door.  SO we ALWAYS went to the in laws...So MY mom had a 3 or 4 person Thanksgiving .  \nMy mom died in June and I wish I had spent more Holidays with her. \n\nIf YOUR mother in law lives near by,  and your husband sees her regularly~  Then let her whine about Thanksgiving.    She should NOT be allowed to manipulate YOUR life with YOUR husband.    Visit her for PIE at her home after dinner, but do NOT give in and eat there.\n\n\nSorry so long , but TRUST me... I lived it the wrong way for 23 years...
1111223
My mother in law feels sorry for my husband. He thinks that I don't do anything at all..and that I should have a job so he doesn't have to work so hard. \nThe truth is..she was Missing In Action for most of my husband's life..having to work all of the time at menial jobs. He has very few memories of her being there at all.\nSoo...I have learned to avoid her, and shrug off her unsubstantiated criticisms.
629221
Tell her how much you love her, a few good memories you both have together doing something as sisters, and how lucky her husband is to have her and if he screws up you'll kick his a$$!  You want to have a good one, but not long, something that drills the point home.  Make the husband feel welcome to the family though, because if not, it really affects your relationship with her...
602405
I can't stand my inlaws!! They are so fake! They act like they like me but, behide my back they talk about me. I have acually heard her talk about me! I can't believe they can be that way! I had tried so hard in the begining to get along with them but I stopped that a long time ago! I guess first impressions mean alot because that was when she brushed me off when I said hello. If my husban is not home and she calls I don't pick up the phone and she knows I'm home. I know that get's her upset. But I love it!! So my suggestion is focus on your fam and avoid her! But ofcoures say hello once in a blue moon. I know you not getting along with her came create unwanted problems in your relationship! Best of luck:)
922637
My suggestion is like many others, THANK HER every chance you get as this could make or break your relationship with her. If your weight doesn't change often I'd say start the dress at the beginning of the year. Of course small alterations can be made later, but then you can get the jist of things and make sure you both are on the right track and still have time for changes if need be.\nI really think you should get as many pictures as possible of what you want. I might even go to the extent of taking her dress shopping with you, trying on dresses, taking pictures in them and showing her what you like about each dress and why you think that type of dress would work best for you. Engrave in her head what you see in yours and hopefully that will keep her straying on the dress to a minimum. During the process of making it try it on often and correct anything you want before it can't be fixed. \n\nI'd say start it early in case you end up completely disliking it, then you'll have time to find something new. Though that my cause rifts between you and the mother-in-law.\n\nI totally know how you feel, my soon to be mother-in-law is trying to convince me their 45' x 30' back yard which is taking up mostly by a vegetable garden is the perfect location for our reception.
1067352
you mom in law is in your house, so what has she done to lose your trust of her.is she intefering in your household is she trying to run the house? what is she doing? talk ot your wife and let her know whats going on. you and your kids should come first, have mom in law go somewhere else.good luck.