Plz help:: How to deal with people u can't stand? ppl u extreamly hate?? how to control anger?
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I had this before, and it ended up the teacher lost it and i was taken  out of the class. You just be calm and patient, keep a diary of any inappropriate comments they make and dont retaliate. Make indifferent answers and refuse to play the games. If you get angry calm yourself immediatly by concentrating on something else and breathing deeply. If they lay a finger on you, shout and pull back but dont push them.\nHope this helps.
220576
think about when somebody makes you mad.  what do you want that person to do? apologize? give you space? comfort you? what? i suggest that you try what ever would work on you.  use your own judgment.
746775
Sounds like these girls just don't like you (not necissarly hate). Think back, have you ever done something which may of offended them? Hatred is when you despise someone so much you can't stand to talk to , see, or even be in the presence of them.  These girls may either not like you generally (maybe your personality) or perhaps be jealous of you. The best way to find out is to ask someone, anyone at all and see why all this is happening to you. I can asure you something out of the ordinary happened because these girls wouldn't just start acting like this suddenly. Get to the bottom of it and explain yourself if you must. Tell people how you feel (if you're comfortable), or you can take the easy way out and do your best to ignore these girls and find some new friends. After a while they'll stop, it's not like they can keep it up forever, trust me it'll blow over. Good Luck
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Take it out on a punching bag or go for a long run.\n\nBoth of these remedies for anger have done wonders for me and they will for you 2 if you do them every day, or at least when you are the most angry.\n\nIf you have these much needed physical outlets for your anger that don't involve hurting other people or yourself, you will soon find yourself in control of your anger, and your anger will no longer be in control of you.\n\nP.S. - buy one of the heavier punching bags, and use it for the times you are most angry and need the quickest release activity for it.
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A gentle answer turns away wrath. Please be kind to your enemies.. and give answers in that love that you have for others. Pray for them that their eyes will be opened and see as you do. Only God can change a person's heart... they just don't want to understand... they may feel that way now but with love... you may sway some to find out the truth that you know.\n\nNo since in getting angry with them... we are to love our enemies and do good for those who hate us.
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hate. getting jelous or other relationship problems
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Just don't be with a flamer.  Hate does not fix things.  There are obnoxious people in every type just take it as that. Love yourself and your life and understand it takes all kinds.
661371
You can't stop it, because your human. At least I can't stop it, especially when I am really angry. But what helps is if you just count to 10 slowly and just breath in and out. That's stops me for a couple of minutes, enough for the people in my way can get away from me.
50861
First you have to tell your friend that you would really appreciate it if they dont ever bring over the person you dont like. And tell your friend why you don't like them and the reasons, so they can understand your point of view. ok
558206
control your temper and anger...be nice to everyone...
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I have slightly the same problem. Sometimes I just have to stop and think that in a few days what is bothering me won't even matter anymore. Try to take a breath before you make that rude comment. Think before you act. \n\nTry praying instead of yelling or thinking bad about someone, it helps. At least you won't say anything mean to anyone. Or at least you won't get mad as much....
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I cannot hate people, but I do hate some of things people do..especially to each other.  It is so much easier to love.  Hate burns a lot of energy.
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Make a list of their bad habits or traits that irritated you so much...\nRemember all the bad things about them and be glad you have another chance at happiness in life...\nThis is a blessing in disguise...\nI have been there and done that...\nIt seems terrible at first, but later on, you look back and think, what was I worried about...\nAnd you find yourself in a better place than before...\nBest of luck...
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the best way to deal with a person is to figure out whether or not you actually like them, despite how they think.  are they a good person at heart?\n\na person sometimes cannot help their ignorances.  i grew up in a small, conservative, and nasT racist town.  therefore, after i moved to a nice mixed community, i sometimes come across as insensitive to those who aren't like me.  it's not that i harbor any resentment WHATSOEVER of anyone based on anything save for how they treat me!  it's just that i never learned when i was a child of the things that are appropriate to discuss.  if the person in question is open to new ideas, then you should remain around them, and not look down upon them.  help them see other points of view, if it's within your capacity.. and if not, direct them to those who can.  \n\nlooking down on a person just because you THINK they're of lower consciousness than you is borderline prejuduice.
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The first thing is, you need to recognize the problem which you have. \n\nI used to struggle with that too. I had a lot that went on in my life that was no good. I talked to a counselor and told him that I am an angry person. He told me that I am a good person, but I need to get my anger under control\n\nHe told me to remember that we choose our emotions whether we know it or not. He said that there is no point in getting angry over something that we have no control of and it is especially important that we don't not lash out at our loved ones. \n\nMaybe you should try counseling for a while. \nI feel for you and I think it's awesome that you are willing to admit that you have a temper problem. A lot people don't have the guts to do that. THey think that everyone else is the problem
1150051
Be as nasty as possible if that dont work talk to the police. Show no care or feelings for the person just hate and be very nasty that s the only way to get through to them may sound harsh but thats how its done. oh or intreduce her to you best friend lol
745131
Get your mind of it no matter what it takes. pre-occupy yourself with something that'll keep you busy. You can try talking to different people about it to see their perspectives which may give you some new thoughts on the situation. also the more the think about it the more you're likely ot give in so try your best to avoid dwelling on it. If it's something you want to control at an exact moment (like in your example) i advise you rather keep it to yourself for the time being. Its not good to bottle up feelings, so let it out when you're not around that person any more. This way you feel no regrets. Sometimes I clench my fist or bite by teeth to get rid of some of that anger temporarily... well hope I helped!