does anyone have any advice???
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it sounds as though you really care about her as a person, and her behavior hurts not only herself but you too, but  your best bet would be to stay clear of her.  Holding her up when she drinks to hide the fact she is drunk, (because she is embarrassed) clearly shows she knows what she is doing is wrong, yet continues with this behavior. Don't be an enabler to her co-dependent nature. Some people have to fall flat on their face before they admit that they need help. Also hanging with a person like that will give you the reputation of being an drinker also. you said you have tried to talk to her and she won't listen, so chances are if you tried again to talk to her you would get the same response. If she comes to you and asks you why you are steering clear of her simply tell her that she offended you and she clearly needs help and that you care about her as a friend and because of that you are not going to enable her to continue with that type of behavior. If she seeks help and her behavior changes you will consider hanging with her again, but you can not and will not allow her to drag you down to her level. It will be difficult, but in the long run it will help you both.
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do what you think you should do\n\ngood luck :)
475928
PLEASE GO SEEK SOME HELP/COUNSELING FROM SOMEONE. YOU REALLY NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST, SOMEONE YOU LOVE, A FAMILY MEMBER, A DOCTOR, A FRIEND, A TEACHER, A PRIEST/RABBI, A COUNSELOR, THERE HAS TO BE SOMEONE THAT CAN GIVE YOU POSITIVE GUIDANCE. PRAY TO GOD, HE HAS ALWAYS HELPED ME THROUGH DIFFICULT SITUATIONS IN MY LIFE, BUT PLEASE DO NOT GIVE UP ON YOURSELF, YOU ARE SO YOUNG AND HAVE A WHOLE BEAUTIFUL LIFE AHEAD OF YOU,I DO NOT KNOW WHAT YOUR SITUATION IS THAT YOU ARE MAD AT TIMES, BUT PLEASE WORK ON GETTING SOMEONE OR A FEW PEOPLE TO HELP YOU, I WILL PRAY FOR YOU, YOU DESERVE TO HAVE THIS BEAUTIFUL LIFE GOD GAVE YOU. I HOPE TO HEAR BETTER AND MORE POSITVE NEWS FROM YOU. ALL THE BEST TO YOU! :)
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Is anyone has a? Does anyone could help?
832071
Can't you be a little more specific! :)\n\nGood tips... But sincerely... I don't know!\n\nSorry!
229750
I believe it is normal--hold your head up and keep trying.  Good luck!
937851
My answer is not a religious or spiritual one, but here's a few tips...\n\n1)  Learn to depend on yourself for comfort and advice, rather than relying soley on others.  It is hard, yes, but it can be done.\n\n2)  If #1 seems extreme, then learn ways of coping with issues and problems.  Try soothing things such as painting, drawing, writing, taking a bath, thinking, dancing, etc.  Find something that is a sure-fire way to take your mind off of your problems.  Usually if you leave them be for a few hours, a solution/resolution will come to you later.\n\n3)  Maybe you need a better support system.  It sounds to me like you've got a rather self-absorbed set of friends.  Try talking to a religious counselor, minister, priest, etc.  Maybe someone who shares your faith could give you better pointers or advice on this.  Maybe you have a sibling or favorite relative, like a cousin/aunt/uncle, that you could talk to.  Maybe you've got a best friend that you could talk to, and if they are one of the ones that you have described, tell them how much it bothers you and how upset you are over this.  If they are truly faithful to you, they will most likely completely understand.\n\n4)  If you need advice, ask around here... that's what it's here for after all.  ;-)\n\nI know what you are talking about because I feel the same way every now and again.  Most of the people I rely on for help/advice are fairly self-centered, though they do help me.  If you ever want someone to talk to, get advice from, etc. you can contact me.  I know I'm only 17, but I'm a great listener and, if you asked anayone I know, you'd understand that I'm a great advice-giver.\n\nGood luck.  ;-)
298431
Take risks. I know it's hard but its the only way. You get used to the flub ups.
188326
Help with what?????????????
133135
Have you tried talking to him about it? maby it would help, but i'm not an expert lol :)
1186769
i feel the same way. my life is a mess and i count on yahoo answers to get advice on my own life because no one else seems to have any. you can't look for mister right for all you know you've already met him in the grocery store or at your work... you NEVER know. just take some of your own advice, i know its way easier said then done, but hey if its so good try some. and i agree this mostly happens to people who have a good caring heart. its hard to make your own decisions because you don't wnat to hurt anyone in the process, you want to make sure everyone is happy before you are. im trying to break that habit myself. good luck and everything always works out eventually. just take your time and be happy. continue to care about people but set up boundaries so you don't get taken advantage off.
48871
Pray to God for help and guidance. In this situation, because there is obviously nothing you can really do, put it in God's hands. I'll be praying for you!! I hope this helps. :)
572240
The best advice that you can get in a situation like this is going to come from a trained professional--a therapist.  It just might help you find a way to excel on your own, and find the confidence to be anything that you want to be.  Gl, be strong!
1015001
see a therapist...they help a lot!!!
112516
Im very sorry but I only have 2 advice for you...\n\n1.) LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE...\n2.) DECIDE WITH BOTH HEART AND MIND IN EVERYTHING YOU DO...
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I agree with the others, keep reminding yourself of that (great goal by the way), get moral support from family and/or friends.  Most importantly make it clear from the beginning with any prospective suitors that is the way it will be and don't put yourself in a position where you have to say no.......never even let it get to a point where it may be an issue......you can do it I have faith!!! :) Good luck!!!!
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Unfortunately, the only thing that's going to help you is you realizing you need to do something about your current situation. Sitting around reflecting on how sad and pitiful your life is isn't going to change a thing. Start taking a pro-active role in your own life and stop being a victim of circumstances, and your own lack of self-discipline. Get yourself enrolled in a GED class, and follow through to completion. It's a GED, not rocket science.  You can do it if it means anything to you... and it should. Go out and get yourself a job. Stop being picky, or feeling like some certain job is beneath you, and you'll find a job quickly. Get your spending in order. Give yourself a reality check.  Stop spending money you don't have on things that won't do anything for you.... like gambling! People who are happy and successful WORK at it.  It ain't easy! Life isn't easy.  It takes hard work to reap great rewards.  Get moving!