My boyfriend works a hard tiring job so he doesn't want to "do it" often. I'm going crazy?
459294
Listen,my man does me the same way,but I don't play with myself,I'm just a Bitch for the rest of the evening..This maybe hard for you,but it works for me..Next time he wants it turn him down a few times and show him how it feels then maybe he'll give it up to you more when you want it..Don't cheat on him,that's the worst thing you could do..Since your into playing with yourself just get your own little toy and use it..Or just quit playing with yourself and be the biggest bitch to him and let him know how you feel..Tell him hay your not giving me want I want and need so I'm about to cheat on you..Life ain't nothing without making love..Just give turning him down a try without playing with yourself and see how it will make him feel..If you do that I hope it works..
349519
It sounds like your relationship is really not much of a relationship since you get to spend very little time together.  Unfortunately he is working towards a profession where this schedule problem will probably be an issue for a long time to come.  If you can't deal with it then it is time to get out and move on.
601413
Girl, I am in the same boat. I work days and then P/T at night. My honey works Night shift. When he comes home, I go to work. When I get home he's already gone to work. We only have small amounts of time to share, and sometimes it gets real tough.\nYou need to sit down and TALK. It's important to share your feelings with him. Tell him you love him and miss him. Make some special time, and rediscover the passion.  LOL to you.
511841
i don't think he is serious about the relationship and like you said, you may just be there for convenience. if you have been together for 2 months and he is making you feel insecure and physically sick, then i can't think for the life of me why you would stay?\n\nmaking plans and doing things together are the normal thing couples do. you making plans to spend time and him not acknowledging or remembering is a sure indication that he isn't too keen on you. I'm sorry if that sounds cruel or hurtful, but it is an honest opinion from a guy.\n\nhim going off on the weekends and being you put off the phone is a sure indication that it's time to call it quits.  leave before your pain becomes unbearable. have faith in yourself and find someone who deserves your love!!\n\nany guy can talk sweet but if he doesn't follow words with action, then i thinking he is whispering sweet nothings into your ear. stop listening to him and move on, girl! life is too short to waste love on a person that doesn't give back.
269294
If you can keep your love life and your job separate then it should be fine. When you are at work don't treat him as your boyfriend...just another co-worker.
991210
IT's difficult.  Being in a relationship with a workaholic has it's highs & lows.  It really depends on the type of person you are.  Do you like/enjoy alot of alone time?  If not, this type of mate probably isn't ideal for you.  I love my alone time...and I date someone who works alot, it's a sacrifice.  I guess if the person is worth it, you make it.  If not, you decide it's not exactly what you're looking for & move on in life.  Sometimes time away is exciting when you finally catch up...and sometimes it's just too few & far between to deal with.\n\nGood luck, T  :)
1005184
First you need to make sure that his employer isn't making him work more hours. Don't jump to conclusions just because he is working more and might be looking at other girls. But you should always go with your gut feeling. Think to yourself...is he more distant than usual...and if all else fails talk to him. You will never have a long lasting relationship is there is not any trust or communication. Good luck.
1047221
You have to deal with it. It's his job.  Get a night job if you can. That way you'll be home at the same time. You can't tell him to leave his job for you. Not fair!
1049554
Yeah! These people are aTTACKers, aren't they...but helpful, too. Don't delete your question because I'ma watchin' it, girlfriend!\nWell, I say if he has the NERVE to check you on YOUR DAILY WORK, then you can get that same nerve.  \n\nThat is the trade-off, right.  And he wouldn't want to switch with you.  Tell him on a Saturday morning or a day off to track what the heck he does all day! Projects take longer than men think.  I like to get everything done in the 1st two hours of of the morning hustlin. Then, no matter what I do it's just done and the happy husbands off\nmy friggin' back.  \n\nTell him if you spent as much time cleaning up after HIM as you \ndid on the other household, necessary daily chores, he'd HAVE\nthe neat, sparkly perfect home he desired.  He'll get mad, that's just that tender little species of fragility and gentleness called\nTHE MALE EGO.\n\nTo those people who are working do NOT assume SAHM is\na dream job.  Its not for lazy bums.  Not the hardest work, \nbut important and challenging, more than you'd think.
1028622
well your on again- off again boyfriend seems to have personal issues to work out. my advice to you would to be GET OUT KNOW!!! this option is still good because you stated you have been seeing him for a few months. it seems he has a pattern and it will continue. who knows why these things keep coming up, maybe its another girl, maybe he likes to play games, or maybe bad luck. my main point is none of this is productive for you it just brings you stress, and probably causes you alot of sadness. explain to him how you feel, and remain friends with him. if sometime down the road he can get his life together maybe you can  rekindle what you use to have.
139132
it isn't your boyfriend's fault that you are unmotivated and he shouldn't be expected to entertain you all the time. You need to get a job. Most people meet friends outside of the home, which is where you stand a better chance of meeting them too. If you have agoraphobia (fear of going out into public) then you should get some help with it.
579040
only you know what to do. but i can try to give advice.  find a job even somewhere you don't want to work.  catch the bus, walk to work.  whwre is your boyfriend? does he have a car?  do any of your friends have cars?  why does your family act like that with you?  be truthful.  prove to the, that you are not lazy stop pointing the finger and take some initative.  don't break up with your boyfriend you may need some one to come through this mess with you.
463615
I get tired shopping with my boyfriend because he is too energetic for me.
753917
I don't know that this is necessarily a control issue.  My soulmate and I both work, but at one point a job change caused a situation where we simply were not able to be together as much.  It was frustrating to want to get home from work and spend time together, but instead end up passing each other at the front door.\n\nSo, you either have to try to create some extra time for each other somehow, hope that your schedule eventually changes, or look for another job with a more reasonable schedule.  Regardless, you definitely need to talk about it with your husband and get down to what the real problem is.
751001
why did u marry him?he sounds like a bum u could prob do a better job on your own without him what sort of example is he setting your kids i could maybe understand if he was at college part time but to be that lazy i mean ask yourself is it gonna get better or worse?does he care about the stress this situation is causing you in your condition way up the pros and cons of being with him and where u see yourself in the future and if he cant or wont step up u might think about shipping him out good luck
1166374
I do not like playing games either, but I do not think that you should make yourself readily available to anyone. I mean most of us dodge our jobs and we KNOW that we are going to get paid for the time we put in. You do not know him well, you do not know where this is going. Slow down if he is what you think he is there will be plenty of time for the two of you to spend together. And on the contrary this is your world! Especially in this situation! All I can say is take your time if he is worth it saying well I kind of made other plans today is it OK if we reschedule this for (2 days later), will not turn him around. I think you are saying to yourself gotta get it while the getting is good. That's why you jump on it every time he calls. It seems that you would like to keep him around for some time so take some time. If you turning him down turns him away then that is just letting you know that he is not the person that you thought or hoped he was.
214550
I don't think a boyfriend is going to care.\n\nBut if you don't want to do that stuff, then keep it quiet, or he might expect you to do it.