How do you tell your ex-girlfriend that you want to get back with her if she already has a new boyfriend?
455516
If she left you because of this new boyfriend, then theres no point your pursuing her again beacuse she may not want you back after dumping you for him. If she loves him more than you, you are going to be disappointed in this one-sided love. Go out and mix around with friends and get them introduce you to other girls and start a new life without your ex. You both wont be happy in future knowing she had a past later on. So why waste your time and brood for her? Enjoy your yourself, man. She's not the only fish in the sea!
398231
You need to do the things that lit the spark the first time around and show her that your are serious. If you just sit and talk about getting back together then it more than likely won't happen. Send her flowers, show her you care because more than likely her feelings were hurt when you broke up with her.
432345
Yes. You can. Just that it depends on both sides.\nIf both of you broke up because of the third party, I don't think both of you can get back together. Some does, but it happens rarely because you'll never forget what he/she have done to you. It really hurts.\nOn the other hand, if it's because of some other factors, I think it's not a problem if both of you can overcome it.\nAnother point is if two person really get back after broken up, they're really meant to each other. If not, they wouldn't get back together. So, if you have second chance, you must treasure it because not everyone has second chance even though they wanted to.\nBut most important is do not ever chase back the reason why he/she broken up with you. This is very important, just forget about it, and start this relationship as if it's a new one.\nFrom my personal experience, my boyfriend now is actually my ex-boyfriend. We've got back together after 2 yrs, after he had got another girlfriend, after I've got another boyfriend. But finally, we found out that we are the most suitable for each other, no one else.
1011174
You obviously really like this girl, and if you want her back you should tell her. The worst she can say is 'no' but if you never ask her you will never know. I really think you should try talking to her. Be completly honest, first of all ask if you can talk to her for a bit and then explain to her your reasons for why you broke up with her and how you have changed your mind and you would like to go out with her again, say things like she has a really good sense of humor and a great personality. Complement her but don't over do it because she will know you are being false. Hopefully she will listen to what you have to say and reconsider going out with you again. If not, don't worry, try and stay friends with her, tell her you want to be friends. Most importantly, tell her how you feel, if you don't, you will never know her response. Good Luck and have a good day xx
299537
Don't mean to be cruel to your ex but the boat has sailed, you've obviously moved on so don't give her an excuse to hold you back. Whether she's playing games to save face, because you were the first to move on, or whether she realises what she's missed I'd do the same for both: Tell her kind but firm that you've moved on and she should too. If you let her outburst achieve anything she could use it more often or feel she has a hold on you, so make sure she knows it isn't going to work. There'll be tears but you're letting her get over you
475646
Well you haven't said if she knows you have changed or not, nor did you say if you asked her for another chance. If she doesn't know you want another chance I would suggest you ask her. If and when you do ask her and she says no then I would suggest you read a book called, "How to mend a broken heart, letting go and moving on" by Aleta Koman. You can't really make anyone do anything they don't want to do, if she does turn you down it's going to be hard but you've got to go on with your life and such. That book will help you wonders and help you understand things a lot more clearer. I've been through the same thing with my ex but not because I wasn't there for her but for another reason. I asked her to give me another chance numerous times and she turned me down. So the next thing I did was look up some books on the internet for this type of thing and came across that book.
1102010
Get a new girlfriend who will.
71099
Well, 2 ways. Im sure shes not the 1st girl in your life. So you've being with other girls as well. So just think of that. It makes you even.\n\nThe other one is that, her past life is her past life. You can't judge her or be angry at her for anything she did Before u. Know if it makes u uncomftearble just flat out tell her.\n\n" Baby, please don't talk about any of your ex's, it makes me sick to my stomach to think or imagine you with another man that isn't me" \n\nThat usually works.
1130437
I think you should call him. But don't be like, "I made a mistake, I want you back." Because any normal person is not going to take you back & not have any grudges. He might be like, "Yeah, she want's me back, so now that I've got her, I'm going to make her suffer a little bit so she will not do this to me again. She made me hurt, I'll make her hurt." and although he may want you back just as much as you want him, he could ACT like he could care less & keep you hanging. Soooo, I would call him, ask him how he is doing, and start a nice conversation. Tell him that although you broke up with him, you still love him as a person & you want to be friends. Then let things maybe slowly grow back into a relationship & tell him after he's not mad & hurt anymore that you made a mistake. But you really can't listen to anyone but yourself, If you feel like you should tell him what a mistake you made now, do it. Everyone's relationship trials are different. And since no one knows this guy, no one on here will know how he will react except for you. So go by that... If things don't work out, or if he refuses to take you back, just remember it wasn't meant to be & it just means there is someone else out there even better. But before you do anything, you need to review why you dumped him in the 1st place, if your friends don't like him & say he is a jerk or something, try seeing thier side. But only you will know if he is right for you. I know a lot of people say my boyfriend is a jerk, but we have been together for 8 years and I KNOW he is not. Doubt and insecurities about you guys relationship will only make it end again. So make sure you resolve all issues before you get back together. Good luck!!!
784547
You need to think about your status right now. How do you feel about your ex boyfriend? Why did you  leave him? And then ask yourself why exactly it is you want to see the guy you met, and why exactly  it is that you  like him. \n\nReflect on this before making a decision. It's never a good idea to start something new while on the "rebound" because you might make wrong decisions and someone could end up getting hurt.\n\nThe one thing I've always had problems with while being on the 'rebound' is hurting the  'new guy'. I would talk about my ex and say i was mad at him all the time, but what it meant was I was still thinking about him. \n\nIf you find yourself constantly talking about your ex; either negatively or positively, i would definitely steer clear of starting something new until I was confident that I was ready.\n\nBest of luck!\n-Mick
1047945
The relationship ended for a reason.  Has that reason changed?  In my opinion you want her back because you don't think she is obtainable.  If you got her back you would dump her shortly after you got her.  So why don't you do yourself and her a favor and leave her alone.  You will fall in love again and you will forget about your ex g/f I can guarantee it.
881226
Well just wait a while and make sure that you are ready to date some one new because you never know what could happen and getting into a relationship even though you know that you still have feelings for your ex.. isnt the perfect way 2 start a new relationship. wait a few days see if you still want your ex back if u do talk to your ex and try 2 work something out.... it worked for me and we've been dating for two weeks now (yea i know not 2 long lol) but my advice sweetie is just 2 wait dont rush your self it aint necessary :-)
449530
say her ex-boyfriends name
412656
i would tell you boyfriend how you feel about his ex wife. tell him that you really don't feel right her staying there. she is worried that you are taking what she had first but how i see it she was the one that let go of him and she thinks that he is going to wait around for her to come back around a crap. i would tell him everything that you don't like about her, what you think about her. just tell it how it is girl. because that is just going to hurt you guys in the long run because she might try to say something to him or something that will mess everything up. or try to start crap.
15270
What the hell?  LET her?  Unless you and her are looking for a one on one only relationship, it is okay for girls to talk to their ex-boyfriends.  In fact if you get right down to it, it's safer.  We break up with people for a reason, and we probably wouldn't date them again.  So no worries there.  If she is hanging with them alot, she might be trying to make you jealous.  She might want your attention.  Heck, give it to her!
205268
I don't mean to be mean, but it isn't possible for her to love both you and her new boyfriend at the same time. It sounds to me as if she is keeping you on a string just in case the new boyfriend doesn't work out for her. You didn't say why you broke up or if she broke up with you or vice versa, but it sounds to me as if she is enjoying putting you through all of this. I know you don't want to hear this, and I am sorry I have to say it, but I think you need to care enough about yourself to realize you deserve better than being strung along and you need to respect yourself enough to not allow yourself to be played this way. Move on and find that special person who will love and respect you the way that you deserve. Even if you were to blame for the break up, you don't deserve to be treated this way. We all make mistakes. I know this will be hard, but it will be the best thing for you. If she truly loved you she would not be able to hurt you this way. Good Luck! \n\nSS
125010
Well the next step it seems to me, is to just come out and ask her.\n\nMy friend, if she is continuing to go out with you she may be feeling the same way or already know that you want her back. But you should still ask to be certain.\n\nWhat is the worst she can say? There can be only two answers to a question like that and one of them is the one you are longing to hear.\n\nSo suck in your pride and ask her.