does conforming to other peoples insight on life mean you have given up?
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it depends.i think that if the people's way of life is against your own beliefs,but you still conform to them,then yes,you give up.but if they also represent you,then you are OK!
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At least once a year and since gave up trying.\nNow just enjoy it and don't get stressed out about other's thoughts.\nStill stay respectful, as I always have in regard to other's wishes/preferences.
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You know, I'm myself have done this a time or two now that you've made me think about it.  Its wrong and I should stop doing it. I just get so frusterated as people ignorance sometimes that it leaks out.  I'll try to be more aware of it.  Thank you for your question, its made me think about myself and how I can be a better person.  \n\n*hugs*
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Sometimes, the person doesn't want advice and especially not to be judged (not assuming it, but it does happen). Just being there to listen can do more good than one actually realizes.\n\n\njoandra_vandowall@yahoo.com
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Hopelessness. I don't ever give up. It freaks me out when I meet people that have given up on life beause they don't think they can make things better.
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Do you know what part of yourself is true and what part of yourself is false?\n\nYOU ARE THE ONE THAT YOU'VE BEEN LOOKING FOR!  If you know what part of yourself is true and which part is a lie, you will know other people too.  The problem here is that we don't know ourselves very well so how can we know others?\n\nMy answer is to look within and quit looking for someone else to give your life direction...they are all wrong for you.  They are only right to themselves and you are only right for yourself.  \n\nI think we should all quit trying to give our life over to other people...it is called YOUR LIFE for a reason.  You are on a journey to find that reason and no one knows your purpose but YOU and yet may people will claim to 'know' because they want that opportunity to control you. \n\n I say, don't let them.  Keep your own heart with all diligence and let all prophets go make their profits somewhere else.  Lets put prophets  out of business!  I think they are all false and have a personal agenda in manipulating you.
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Well, I can sympathize... because I have been "walked over" by many friends.  I'm smart, academically speaking, and have made many friends who feel it is my duty to tutor and provide them the answers and help on all their papers.  Or friends who only call when they need something.  This is why I only have 1 real friend, and my husband.  It took a while to realize that people are shadey, and you can't always trust them.  Hard lesson learned.  Now I evaluate every relationship, asking "Am I getting out of this relationship what I am putting in?" and if I am putting in too much energy... and not recieving any of that energy back, then you really have to evaluate if it's worth it..
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If the perspective is to have meaning all must take the good with the bad, which is in my opinion subjective to the individual. This format allows for serious and let's call it not so inspired questions and responses and doesn't discriminate between the positions. If one considers that there are an incredible number of variables inter playing; as you so aptly alluded to in your question it is fair to express that the less inspired frame the more focused which allows the message that fits to sparkle like a diamond washed up from the mud.I hope this has helped to explain my point, I apologize for the metaphor, habits are hard to break. My final thought on your excellent question is this, it is a gift that we can give ourselves when we refuse to let ourselves be offended by others; this is not to say we should tolerate abuse; but when we forgive those who would annoy us for their own reasons we liberate or rather free ourselves to explore other more productive thoughts. Thank you for the opportunity to express my thoughts, I hope all goes well in you life.
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APATHY-when you put off doing something in the hopes someone else will do it .it only gets worse
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I try so hard to be kind, giving and thoughtful to all. Sometimes it's really hard as people are not sincere in this society today. It seems like I've been let down by so many lately and these are people that have been a part of my life for many years. Just when I needed them most, they all let me down.I was there for them through thick and thin but I just can't do it anymore. There comes a time when even people like me who are sincere, honest and loving has had enough with being taken advantage of and taken for granted. I'm sorry about it but I'm honest.........:o)
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I know that sucks. But you have to look at anyone's behavior from inside their shoes.\n\nPeople who do this honestly believe that if you do not convert to their point of view, you are going to suffer in the afterlife, or have less than others, or be eternally destroyed while others continue on, etc.\n\nTherefore, it really is the most loving thing to do from their perspective. From inside their worldview, you are missing 2 hours of sleep but will possibly, by accepting what they honestly see as the truth, escape an eternity burning in a pit of flames, or life on a lower heaven, etc.\n\nIt sucks, but there it is. The logical consequence of their theology is that it would be selfish of them to NOT do the things they do. \n\nNothing except changing their theology will end that conviction...and changing their theology can only be achieved by giving them more respect than you feel they are giving you and then talking to them. And it will rarely work.\n\n~ Lib
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You draw the line at the point where you have to make an opinionated decision of your own, it is fine to listen to others opinions to a point, as long as you feel they are not influencing your descision, at some point you have to say, ok.....this is what I Believe.......
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sounds like a normal person to me. things get better however it may take some time. and if you want your life to get better then you have to change your outlook and attitude towards life
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It's good that you are willing to help others. It won't be easy if you are a true introvert. I'm pretty much an introvert myself, and would probably be living with my mom and dad or just working at McDonalds if it weren't for lucky things that have happened to me. Thank the fates!\nWhat would help me right now would be if I weren't such an introvert, but you know what? Since I can't do that, and I'm having to endure being around other people, letting them see what a dork I am, then what I really need is more patience, more patience for me to have, and I wish more patience other people to have for me.\nI'm happy that I am alone right now....\nI'm scared that I won't be alone, a friend is coming over and we're going out...Then I have to go back to work Monday.\nI'm angry that I have to be this way, and other people will say, "Get over it!" It's not that easy...\nGood luck!
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of course it does. if you are around positve people then your outlook on life will be be good therefore your quality of life will be better.\n\nnegative people would cause you to have a poor outlook and poor quality of life.
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There's no need to get in to it with others.\n\nIt's not rude or out of place to say "Sorry, but I'm not interested."\n\nThat's all there is to it.\n\nYou have made your decision - there is no need to have to explain or prove your beliefs.
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Yes, but you have to be patient and intuitive for them to work.  And they do not tell you what will happen to you.  They can only indicate what may happen if you continue your path without making any changes to your life.  Sometimes that can be good, sometimes that can be bad.  They are more of a guide.