why do sometimes guys never talk to ower moms.?
473725
cause their intemidated and don't want to mess up
41358
thats b/c a lot of guys dont know how to respect women and maybe have the lack of a father figure to teach them otherwise
185796
Ya this is real problem, my friends and sibs don't have enough time for me after their marr, worst is after kids, my sis is always behind them and wants to be this nice homemaker! Even if she finds time to talk she always brings up her family issues!/// Well on the other hand my sis's hubby is a nice guy..but we have very few family gatherings..may be thats how things work after marr///
556100
I don't think all women are like that. I have found that since I am now divorced that even men who have children expect me to forsake my sons, or I have heard lines like you have to take care of your needs first. I have friends who put their loves in front of their children. I get very upset with them. Mother or Father your children should come first. \n\nJust that some men and women are selfish and self centered. Usually they are like that as parents as well. I take that as a sign that I shouldn't get involved.  I have an ex who is like that.  It is all about him and his needs before his children's.
261799
They are the World's BIGGEST COWARDS!!  Most of the time the will not fight a man.  Isn't that crazy?  The reason I could possibly think of has to do with some deep rooted hurt by a woman in their younger years.  A mother's lack of attention the mental and physical abuse from a woman.  Who knows they are a waste of space and some PHSYCO A S S SICKOS!!!
212554
I am a parent of a 16 yr old son,and we have the same problem,my husband drills my son for hours if I let it go on, I have to change the subject.For me, its hard to talk to my son,I love him to death,but dont know how to ask him about his life.I wish he could open up and talk to me. Thats what you need to do.If you could open up a little,and talk to them, Im sure they would love to get to know ya and your feelings. When my son starts talking,and gets interrupted,he rolls his eyes and says never mind. That gets my attention,so I listen to him.Do you have grandparents? My son will open up with his grandma,then she tells me,but we dont tell him.It is hard as parents for us to show love the way you want it.But your parents do love you,and only want the best for you. Maybe they think this is the only way to get your attention. someday you will look back on this, and you will understand.
388867
Hmm.. I've thought for a while and here's what i've thought of, 1.) They think it's a challenge to see if they can take some other womens guy. 2.) Most likely they can't have that guy so they are attracted to him. 3.) They're so desperate that they want to take someone elses husband for revenge against someone that has nothing to do with that. or 4.)it's just a matter of which woman you talk to. We all have our different opinions.. I like guys the same age as me and legally guys the same age as me can't get married without a parents signature. heh.. so yeah.. i don't have to worry about that.
360977
Maybe your not the easiest person to say no to.  Maybe when they try to say they're busy you insist on talking.  Or maybe they secretly have a problem with you.  Try asking them about it and see what they say, it can't hurt.
128119
Maybe He is trying to tell you in a somewhat rude way that he is not interested  but my mom always told me not to take the first guy I see and it sounds like to me that just maybe you should let him alone and just kind of hang in there these things like relationships fall into place alotta times when we stop looking
1092456
there is hope i am a 27 year single mom who until a year and a half ago was  raising two boys by myself .then i met and fell for a guy who is the best thing to happen to me and my boys.in the last year and half he has treated my boys better then their own father.sometimes these guys are harder to find then most but don't give up. and never let anyone say your children are baggage they are bonuses to any relationship.some guys are just not mature enough to realize it.
141576
I've started and deleted this a couple times and thought about what to say to you, but am having a hard time.\n\nI can't map in for some reason, so I apologize if my response is a scatterbrained collection of thoughts.\n\nOn one hand I hesitate because you don't want to be his 'mom'.....coming to rescue him.\n\n1st....he may not feel good about being rescued by a woman. I'm not taking a shot at you or anything....I happen to be open to someone helping me if I need it, but I don't think (most?) men warm up to that......unless they are insecure, and then you don't get a man for your partner, you get an adult momma's boy.\n\n2nd....he may not like a woman coming on to strong. He may regard your advances as just that, and regard it as another element to deal with.\n\nIf you've offered coffee, and other such things and have been turned down....that's male communication for.....'thank you, but not now'.\n\n3rd He may have an ego......one that may preclude him from admitting to himself that he needs help at all.\n\n:)\n\nMen like to tackle things completely (most of the time I think) and then move on to the next issue to deal with. It's possible that you are on the 'list'...so-to-speak. I'm sorry for making you sound like a line item. I don't think that, but for brevity I phrased it that way...and to help illustrate what I'm saying.\n\nIt's also likely that whatever he's going thru is deeper than you realize and it requires all his attention. Men (most) are somewhat single-minded and throw a lot of attention on one problem at a time, depending on what it is. This could be one of those situations.\n\nHe may regard the starting of a relationship...even a new friendship right now to be a taxing endeavor that he just doesn't want to deal with.\n\nI'd say that if you've made the offers.....then take stock in that......he knows.....he knows you're there. Don't be pushy.....we men really, really don't like that. I can speak for myself on that one....lol.\n\nDon't keep asking him for coffee....he'll just think you're a pain or think you have stock in Juan Valdez (geeze is he still around?) or something....lol.\n\nThe best thing to do is be a friend. Don't be a pain, don't be annoying and just hang.....being helpful to HIM won't be your idea of 'helpful'. And if you want to ingratiate yourself to him...you will have to figure out how you can be helpful to HIM. Do you know what I mean? That may just be being an ear for him if he wants to talk, sending him some jokes on the internet.....whatever.\n\nDon't be selfish with what you want.....do what is best for him right now.\n\nHope that helps....a little anyway. I hope it works out.....send me a wedding invitation....k?\n\n;)
1021185
Could be he just wants to feel independant...and not thought of as a "mama's boy"...or perhaps things at home aren't going as well as he wants you to believe...and has withdrawn because of it. I prefer being alone myself quite often...and have been known to shut out family members at times...without thinking of how it may make them feel. I don't really have any suggestions except to continue being there for him...and hope that eventually he'll open up to you about what the true reason is for his distancing himself. Good luck! :)
973493
Well I'll tell you what, I don't have one but my mom does,lol. My dad is a mommas boy threw and threw. He is now 83 years old and mom is 72. They have been together now for 55 years. Mom has always said threw out the whole marriage that he was a mommas boy and where his momma left off, my mom picked it up and she has treated him the same way as his own momma did. And they get along just fine, well sometime they don't but they are still together after 55 years. I have learned a lot from her and the way she does dad, but it has also hurt me in my own relationships in the past. But all and all they get along pretty good. Mom just carters to dad, don't get me wrong, he was and is a good provider and a very good family man.
391895
I think it depends on the guy. I would want my man to have respect and love for his mom and to be able to talk to her ya know for them to have a good relationship. But I don't want a mama's boy, definitely want a man's man.
281230
Always isn't the right word here.....but think about it...the first initial years that you spent around women were those spent with your mother...(or a motherly figure)...it's not too far out of left field to say that some men look for a partner that gives them the same level of "comfort" as their mother.
651515
I've been on both sides of this. I lost my mom when I was only 4 years old. My dad remarried almost right away. I was too young at the time to say anything. But later he divorced her and started dating again when I was like 12 years old. None of my siblings were happy about it. We wanted our dad to ourselves.  Well, they got married. We haven't always liked her or got along. But, my dad is happy and that's all that mattera. I've been on the other side too. I dated a man who had two teenage kids. Him and his wife had divorced recently. The kids did not want their dad to date. They made life very difficult and caused me a lot of heart ache. I really liked them and just wanted to get to know them. In the end I simply couldn't do it anymore and I left. He's dating again but I think he's talked to his kids since then and they are a lot more accepting. Moral of the story: If they make your dad happy try to be happy for him. I'm sorry for your loss.
624067
Its not that we think they are easy, its just like any other girl. I know I'm a little hesitant to date single moms because i dont know if they want to date me or find a daddy for their kid. Some guys might think single moms are easy, but most just want to date different types of people. Like women, men like variety.