I am married for 3 years and have one baby,but still wondring my hubby loves me the same as i do.?
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Stop thinking about it !! Too much thinking and wondering brings about trouble... He may not be as emotional as you by nature, but this doesn't mean he doesn't love you just as much... If you keep up the worrying and the wondering it will show you as insecure, he will get bored with you and will drift away, men don't like insecure women who lack confidence... Just love him and trust him and enjoy your marriage as long as you have it...Good luck
833136
I am. It's because his mother comes first, then the kids, then me. He says terrible things to me that hurt my feelings and isn't sorry. We've been through marriage counseling twice. His mother interferes in our marriage and if I say anything, he gets defensive. He tells her, then she gets mad. She's trying to turn him against me.
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both of u need 2 realize that just because u have Ur differences does not make it wrong.here's what I mean,if its ingrained that u do something one way n hubby does it another both r OK,u do not have 2 agree on everything u just have 2 agree not 2 disagree about it.learning 2 overlook the small things and not make them into big things will help both of u keep Ur sanity.communication helps but if both of u see it differently its not going 2 change and if its the way u feel why should u either of u.its okay 2 be different just learn 2 love the things u do more n not sweat the stuff u dont.actually the stuff u dont love about ur spouse ends up being what u look back at with fondness lol sadistic isnt it.u 2 need 2 relax n stop sweating the small things n try banding 2gether against the bad things.different does not mean seperate,it just means compromise and the ability 2 overlook the small stuff.
1059086
Honestly, I'm not a marriage counselor or even close to it.  To me though, it sounds like maybe you and your husband aren't as connected on an emotional level if you ask me (which you did, haha).  Maybe the reason you feel this way for someone else is because you've lost those feelings for your husband.  I know it's hard, after marriage and two kids, but it's important to stay physically, emotionally, and mentally involved with each other.  Just try things like going on dates with your husband.  Try to reconnect with him and remember all of the reasons why you married him.  Maybe your husband has a great personality, wit, and a beautiful mind also.  Maybe you just need to remind yourself of it.
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mr. kareem, first thing ur wife wants is to get urself a source so u can look after ur child ur expecting..U SHUD KNOW WELL THAT U R THE ONE IN NEED OF A BABY, SO U SHUD BE MORE CONCERND..she'll obvisouly not cos she lack's trust in u...and if at all a baby is born how will u takecare or its well being and schooling when ur not consistent....just think a while, and on top of all these issues do u really think a ''second '' wife will wrok out..wat if she also shows the same attitude and later u suffer more pain.??? instead y dont u look for some good job, u seem to be well educated and perhaps young...stand on ur own feet mr.kareem and then command things, it'll work out, insha allah..good luck.
402151
my husband and still is
400883
that's a rough situaltion.  you just got to keep talking and telling him that sometime this is what happens, and just let him know that you both love him very much.  it gets harder but then it will be ok.  just remember you have great kids and thats what matters
1082017
I wish I knew.  I've never had this problem.  It doesn't take much to encourage me at all!  I actually have the exact OPPOSITE problem that your husband does.
964226
Awww, not too many women can say they have the best hubby in the world and sound as convincing as you! Just make sure he knows that's how you feel about him, enjoy spending time with him and the new (to him still) baby, don't worry so much - it will rub off on him, let him do a few of the things you've become used to doing on your own - all men want to feel needed, and just be happy........Happy Holidays to you and your family.
1100054
I am married and pregnant with another man's baby.  I was separated from my husband for 5 months before I got pregnant with my boyfriends baby.  My ex (soon to be ex-husband) still wants me sometimes too.  He said that if he got the chance to have his family back, he would in a heartbeat, even if he had to help raise another man's baby.  BUT......I don't feel right about that.  I should have never married my hubby because I didn't love him enough, and we were pressured because we already had one little girl together a year before we got married, so we went a head and did it.  Now, I have two little girls, already, and one more little girl on the way.  Yeah, i messed up, maybe if i would've given it a little more time after the separation, me and the ex could've worked things out, but I wanted to move on with my life with this other man.  But, anyways, the point is,,,,,,,, i am currently in this situation, and I choose to not go back to my ex husband because I have ruined everything that we could have had together.  I am still in love with my new baby's daddy, but he couldn't handle the situation, either, so we broke up.  So, make the decision that's right for you.  You are the only one that knows your whole situation. Good luck!     Praying a lot helps too!
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i suggest that you sit down and  talk to your husband.  this may cause many mnay problems down the line if your not already feeling a certain way towards him now, marraige is a HUGE responsibility, and it is not something to be taken lightly,youe need to discuss this with him and try to find a way to resolve these issuses.
804430
OK I can see trouble in my answer but here goes. Your being a beautiful sexy woman can be part of the problem...KEEP READING answerers before you pound me.  You husband was taught he was not worth anything...therefore he cannot understand how you could possibly love him and want him.  The reassurance he needs must be hard on you especially, checked your profile, as you have a small child.  YES to counseling. But also a BIG yes to making sure that you make him feel special with the baby in the house.
386061
Hun you've only been with him for 6 months. It's a good thing that he doesn't want to rush things. It took me and my fiance a year and a half before we said the magic words "I LOVE YOU". Now we've been together for almost five years and are about to have two kids. Stick it out. It was worth it for me. Good luck and if you need someone to talk to, my email is flower_child69420@yahoo.com
411620
Are you really in LOVE with HIM?  Or is it the idea of new love and that feeling of new love, that you're in love with?  Especially being a married woman, after a little bit of time you lose that new love/lust euphoria.  Perhaps there are some things that you are missing in your marriage that you are looking for in this new guy.  I know it doesn't answer your question, but perhaps you should work on the marriage that you're already in and see if you can improve it, because you must have LOVED your husband at one time
192411
My husband is my best friend and my lover
1047371
A marriage is two people not just one yearning for things to be diffrent..Sounds to me like your husband is a creep ..I was married to one of those a long time ago.........But I found my love 10 years ago and married him 7 yrs ago.....We are  both older and all our kids are in their 20's early 30's and we love each other very much.....Yes marriage is supposed to be more than just two people under the roof it is a commitment to each other and if both aren't commited then you don't have anything...Staying together because of the child is not doing you any good ...Leave him see what happens.....Like the saying goes...You don't know what you had til its gone..When real love comes along you will know it
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Sweetie,,I am in your shoes as well..I have been a Mom and Dad to my 10 yr old daughter,,and for the first few yrs (we have been apart for 8 yrs) I kept asking myself "Am I not doing enough? " You fell in love with this "man" and you are doing your part 150 plus percent...there are some guys out there that love the marriage part,but not the parenting.This is a lesson we have all got to learn,and yes,I know it hurts bad,especially since you are carrying and your hormones are on a ride right now,but you are still entitled to feel hurt.And I know it is exhausting to be both parents to those lovley kids you have..but look at it this way..you have the undying love of those kids which outweighs the love that any man could think of mustering up..you are doing a great job..and just because he does'nt act like he cares..it is not the end of the world..you will heal from his heartache..and you are sure to find someone who loves you for you AND your children..good luck to you..be strong..and it's ok to cry...I sometimes still do..but over the years..the crying is more happy tears than sad.