How long to angry 13 year old tantrums go on for?
471187
Your fun may just be beginning. My daughter started at 12 and outgrew it at 19. Things got so bad that I let her go life with her permosques dad. She ended up living on her own at 17. Sometimes we must let go so they can grow. It sounds harsh but you must stick to your morals and principles. My heart goes out to you. To be honest, giving her to God was the only thing to do. She is now the mother of two. Her and her husband are so king and loving. It just takes time and patience.
1058420
All the time! i try to keep my temper and not over react,next minute I'm in the middle of a full blown OTT tantrum! I also have a story about me and my ex, but that'll keep for another time ;)
633241
Oh for goodness sake!!! HOW old are you!? Are you really unable to sort your own life out? Kids need disipline. If you don't want you're man to be moody, tell them to fight elsewhere! Dependant on their ages, have you not tried teaching your kids correctly about how to behave in this society?? A smack probably wouldn't be out of place either!\nSend them to bed early if they won't stop fighting and if that won't happen, you've not done a good job at parenting, sorry!
593382
Of course you have the right to be pissed off!  Hey you're 18 you're considered an adult!  Just sit down with your parents and tell them how you feel about the whole situation.
214760
Why are you angry? Maybe he got held back a few times or his parents kept him at home for another year when he was younger.\n\ntelevision != real life
1106957
My wife has problems controling our 12 year old daughter also. The punishement that works best with her is me! LOL! I give that deep "DAD" voice that makes her tremble and she straightens up. I know thats not helping you out much but it's not really the punishment that keeps her in control, it's the seriousness in my voice that she hears and knows I WILL FOLLOW THROUGH with whatever punishment I am telling her I am going ot give to her if she doesn't straighten up....and if she doesn't, I do follow through with the punihemnt no matter how much I don't want to. Good luck!! I have a 19 year old daughter also so they do make it through these tough times!
152069
I doubt there's a "legal age."  If there's any test, it's whether leaving him alone constitutes neglectful parenting.  Assuming he's of ordinary abilities and intelligence, a 12 year-old should be fine on his own during the day for one or two hours.  It's about the age I was when I was left alone the first time.
1063601
Voice, face, attitude, tantrums......it's all f***ing annoying.  My 4year old is better behaved.  But, then there's Grace - but don't get me started there!
682273
Don't discipline her in using any way of violence. And don't abuse her either.\n\nOne good way to avoid future tantrums is to ignore them. Stay calm, lead her away from the aisle in the supermarket, take her on your arms. BUT ignore her. If she cried for a nothing, don't talk her or let her be on her own a bit.\n\nSome parents put their child in the naughty room when their child has a tantrum. It's basically just a quiet place with no toys, no TV, just a chair, etc. In there, she can cool down and you can pick her up again when all is over.\n\nIf that fails, distract her. Telling a child to smile will make a child smile and forget all their worries, a friend once told me. Try it.
773176
HORRIBLE!  Keep speaking up! Tell everyone who will listen...and even those who won't!  Don't worry about what they say about you. You are the one protecting your daughter and you have to do what you have to do for her sake.  Don't let your daughter be unsupervised, anywhere.  Make it a rule. You're the mother, you can do that.  You said she is 3, I don't know how well her vocabulary is developed to express her emotional upset.  I would say, continue her counseling!  If you can't afford private counseling, or you don't have insurance that will cover it, there are agencies that have clinics, free.  You might have to make a lot of phone calls, but they are out there.  \nBest of luck to you!  Keep trying!!!
492104
I find that depriving the toddler of something they love to do works.  Also, if he or she throws tantrums ignore them whilst you engage yourself in something really interesting that will grab thier attention.  Divert his attention to something else.  When he/she has calmed down give them a quiet talk about good and bad ways of doing things, and explain why you are upset with him/her.  Kids are clever and can be manipulative just like adults.  Good luck loving your toddler!
867339
it can last as long as you would like it to. If you want the child to be scared and beg you for forgiveness wait until she/he is broken and has no place to turn to. If you just want her to apologize wait until she/he sees what she really has compared to others who are more unfortunate.
38470
hey im 13 too and i take like 20 min, what i think about people that take so long is maybe there doing something there not sopose to do and trust me they are cases like that with my friends or maybe just because they talk to the mirror that what i do some time and i take longer than 20 min. if i dind awnserde your question e-mail me at hardcorex@sbcglobal.net say whatever you want to me (loser,lier,ets)dont care
796357
Many will disagree with me but Hand for children about 3 to 8,  hard enough to get their attention, not hard enough to leave a mark. Belt or Paddle from 9 to 14 because they are far more stubborn and bullheaded,  after that you have to change to Restricting their privelages, because spanking is no longer effective or prudent.  Remember never to punish in anger, anger leads to abuse.
69164
It's great that you acknowledge your problem and want to resolve it. First you must reprogram yourself (so to speak). You have to learn how to control how you react to people. I think you may just need to feel like you are being listened to, and if you don't that could cause frustrations to mount and fuses to become short. Try to address something before it becomes a big problem. Change your approach. If you're losing your cool with kids, try getting on their level and look them eye to eye and sincerely talk to them and tell them why certain things are important and that you don't want to get upset or yell at them but if they don't respect your wishes it could cause you to get upset and that they can help prevent that by showing that they are listening and respecting you. Just remember you can't control other ppl but you can control how you react to them.
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When parents scold they are often looking for body language that they are getting through. Once they see it they will soften and begin winding the scold/lecture down.\n\nGive this a try next time - communicate that you accept what they are saying and will comply earlier in the scolding process. Listen attentively, show respect, and seek to please quickly. Communicate that both with your tone of voice and with your body language. I bet you will find that the scoldings will be much shorter.\n\nTwo of my four children were polar opposites. One responded quickly to being fussed at and I found I didn't need to push to know that he 'got it' and was going to change. The other seemed to feel like she lost a war if she showed 'weakness' by softeneing when she was being fussed at. With her I  felt like she didn't 'get it' so I droned on and on which didn't make either one of us happy. I never yelled, but I sure could lecture. LOL. One day when she was about 11, the light turned on. She quit making corrections a contest and I was able to correct with merely a short instruction. She is 15 now and we both laugh about it. She says that she hopes her children learn it isn't a battle younger than she did.\n\nNow, I am turning a corner here . . .\n\nIf you are fully complying in spirit, tone, body language, and in following through to obey and yet your authority figure is still not winding down, it may be that they have anger issues. This person may himself have not been treated with emotional respect and has not learned good emotional boundaries. \n\nI experienced this with my dad, so I understand. He would stand there yelling at me for crying. My mom tried to help him understand that I would comply with a mere talking to, but he seldom understood that. I was about as tender-hearted a kid as they come. I constantly tried to please my parents and it broke my heart to displease them. My relationship with my dad was a very difficult one. \n\nI am 40 years old now and he is in his 60s. He still has a problem with his temper and has alienated nearly every relative and friend he ever had. He very seriously hurt me and my family about five years ago when I allowed healthy boundaries to slide, so I do have to diligently maintain a few boundaries to protect myself and my family from hurt. But he knows I love him, and he knows he can count on me. He will probably never master his temper. I can chose to alienate him because of it, or I can chose to grow enough to love him, respect him as a father, and set/keep healthy boundaries.
747640
Normal for a teen...quit complaining!