How to be friends after love?
457457
Past is past but the memories we left behind is hunting us deep within our hearts....next time, you see him...give him a smile and look away and never say things you never ment to say....
724067
You have to talk to him and make him see you want to be friends but the love relationship is over.  Best if you can put some physical space between yourself and this guy.
1127860
keep walking....\nlife doesn't end after a relationship
593357
Former lovers can be friends, not that I've experienced exactly.  I have a couple that still count me as friend, some more that would slash my throat if they could.  First, remember YOU had an affair.  He is being generous and kind and that is worth something good.
1052175
Showing love,affection,caring, is what you call friendship.And if you want more than that, then you must be able to make her/him happy and always be with them to share their feelings. But dont forget to be a good friend.Its very difficult to maintain a friendship than love.Dont try to overact and be cool as who you are. People like the there persons to be themselves not imitate others.Love him/her till the life long and always tell him/her how much you love them.
401501
4 times! stop right there. It's obvious that hte two of you are not ready for a relationship or your just not compatable. Real love is never hard. Sure you have to work at it like everything but you do it cause you want to and it makes things so much easier. I think it's time for you guys to call it quites and that means as friends too, at least for a couple of months because you have to let your feelings die down. If say in 3 months you still want to talk and do that will tell you something.
164142
question is...  what do u want from him now?  if u want to possibly start a romantic relationship w/ him then call him back.  but if u just want to be friends...  if he's not over u, then it would hurt him more for u to be makin ur way back into his life.
1027671
yes.....become friends first...if you love her wait to see if she loves you...go from there...
283973
By your very own inteligence. Ya know, friendship is the first and most important thing to happen to two people who are about to fall in love. Be patient, love is a slow process, it just sort of happens... Dr Checko... (Nickname)\n\nFrom the desk of Dr Checko's Yahoo 360 Board\nClick on =--> http://360.yahoo.com/checkocheckochecko
81376
Tell him you love him, respect your differences and don't try to change his beliefs to match your own.  And be prepared to lose your best guy friend, because once you become lovers it is very difficult to salvage the friendship if the relationship doesn't work out. Remaining friends after being lovers happens sometimes, but not often.
218169
You just want to be friend and he wants more.\nWhat are your feelings. Reall feelings.\nWhen you see someone you want you will know it.\nGood to have friends.\nBut you have to feel something more than friendship.\nKiss him on the cheek. \nYou just have to say You like him as a friend. And that you do not feel that way about him.\nIt will be hard. on both parts but it is your feelings that is on the line.
714864
someone has to make the first move if you still want to be her friend.  Send a card to her or something....or make a new friend.
369146
You need to let him down lightly. Don't lead him on anymore than you already have. Just gently tell him that you love him, but only as a friend. Don't do it over the phone or through e-mail. It has to be done straight to him. After you break up, then continue, or at least try to continue, being his friend and being there for him. He probably will be hurt, and I understand that's something that will be hard to deal with. Just tell him you still love him, just not in that way.
136315
I've come to realize that this is the biggest, most unrecognized quandary in dating that I know of:\n\n*** Almost everyone universally agrees that people should be friends before being romantic.\n\n*** And almost everyone universally agrees that love can hapen when you least expect it.\n\nYet....everyone has that deer-in-the-headlights- look when someone, who is a friend, falls in love with them!\n\nlol\n\nIs like the most natural thing that can happen!.....yet no one seems to realize this.\n\n\nDear one...you are probably a very likable, easy-going, appealing to the eye, and of such good hearted type person that the guys can't help but adore you for your qualities. \n\nIt's a natural thing to have happen!\n\nYou're just being yourself...which is the advice I give on here over and over and over and over again.....cuz it's true!  ....lol. Being yourself, being relaxed, being happy, fun, funny, intelligent, caring, and on and on is a sugary spice that cannot help but attract.\n\nYou just unwittingly have done this, and it has done what it DOES.....it worked!\n\nNow, along with this you have to *continue* being a friend to your *friends* and tel them how *you* feel. You can't love everyone....lol. So, you can choose whom you'd like to hang with and try and caringly explain to the others that you love them as a friend....but no more.\n\nThey may be hurt, or disappointed, but that's OK! It happens, and if you do it as a friend, with concern for *them* and their feelings, you will indeed minimize their hurt, and later when they get past it all, they will love you more for having ben such a good person and sweet friend.\n\nA friend we should all be so lucky to have in this world.\n\nYou are rich.....and this is exactly what people mean whe they say....you are rich when you are a good person to them.\n\nNow....go do what you need to do, and I hope all goes well for you.\n\n:)
144974
If you were friends before you'll probably be good partners,but when you take that step,you cannot go back to being just friends.So decide if you want to lose that friend for a lover.You'll get a better grip on the like/love feelings after you two start the actual dating.
739730
just tell him that you really liked him and that you would want to keep in touch with him.  is he coming back?  just wait and keep in touch with him.  as time goes by your hearts will began to grow fonder of one another and if it is meant to be it will happen.  as for now if you just want to get some lovin, I would say don't do that because it will ruin everything even the friendship.  just call him once a week or bi-weekly when he leaves and make sure the conversations are good.  Also every now and then just say that you met this guy and you went to a movie or something to make him a little jealous but when you do this make sure he knows that you two are just friends but don't over do the friend part.  you know what to do.  or that's an idea take him to a dinner and a movie for a going away gift and just when he thinks he's going to get some be strong and leave!!!!
1164672
Be friends. Grow up first and see what happens. You are still getting to know yourself.