How do I break up with a girl who is deeply in love with me without hurting her? ( knowing she is not the one)
465718
thats just the thing,if she loves u then there is no way u can do it without hurting her.she will hurt.but what u need to do is tell her what u have just told me.tell her that u dont think she is the one and that u think that she will find someone who will love her verry much.tell her that u love her but ur not in love with her(if thats the case)let her know all of this cause the longer u wait the harder it will be to do.but just try ur hardest to let her know how u feel and try to make her understand how u feel and understand that she will find someone else who will love her and she will love back.good luck and hope it works out
182159
Well first of all you have to make sure you won't another girl since you said you're the play boy type. Spend some time alone and you will realize how much you miss her (if u really love her) I know long distant relationship is very hard so u have to promise yourself you won't find another one. So just tell her how you feel and work it out with her. Personally I think loving someone is very strong and it will never depart so think !! before its too late ..appreciate every moment you have
482250
For a start, applogise dearly to her and tell her this time your luv comes from your heart, no string attached..Its your destiny to be wit her..and that you now realise she was also meant to be wit you..
19934
Honey, I'm going through the same thing myself. All I can tell you is that you can't make her love you. If things are meant to be, they will work out.  But in the mean time, realize that you don't need someone to love you to feel like a whole person.
553261
I dont think that you should try to split them up or anything. It sounds corny but if u are meant to be together then you wont need to do anything. Their relationship will end naturally and u and this girl will be free to date without worrying about bad karma. If she really likes u that much, she will end the present relationship herself anyway (but dont push her into doin so!)
400078
I guess both of you don't love each other cos you as a guy must open to her that you truly love her. Well you can still make a change on that cos its not too late. Try to open up for her and stop pretending and I guess she will also open up to you.
1082373
Commit to her! If you’re not ready to make a commitment, break things off with her. Otherwise, you are just using her.
420869
It's so hard to believe you don't love her. This is because you don't love her and still don't want to hurt her feelings. You are a really nice guy and I mean it.\n\nBut since you are sure you don't love her, it's time you tell her this immediately rather than waste her time. Tell her it just wasn't meant to be. You two can be great friends after your breakup too. All the Best pal.
314867
By being as sweet and gentle as you can when you break this relation, maybe even buy her some nice gift to remember you with, and invite her for dinner or maybe a quick cup of coffee, and give her a copy of your photographes together with a ncie dedication, and telling her that the time you've spent with her was remarkable, that itwas a previllage to know her, and that you wish her a wonderfull time with a person who really deserves her.\n\nBelive me, that would make any girl feel real bad and very very guilty. She woould spend a lot of time pondering her great loss, and she would remember you each and everytime her new bf acts like and idiot and wonder if she was a fool to quit on a real gentle man like you:)\n\nOn the other hand, if you act rough or dumb or nasty she would just thank god she got rid of you and would be happy ever after!
585960
You don't need a girl like this,move on find someone that is willing to return the love that you are giving.Don't spend time with someone who is putting you second.
422806
no no no dont break up with the one you love.....\nunless its at the end of the road...and you cant sort out the problem.\n\nbut if your reason to break up is about the new girl....thats just WRONG!
119918
Well its your choice what you say.  You can be honest without being rude.  As far as  hurting her?  There is probably nothing you can do about that.  Unfortunately we all get hurt sooner or later.
1001964
Move on. \nYou may love her but she doesn't reciprocate your feelings. No matter what you do or say, she is the only one responsible for her feelings. So you cannot change them. You are the one who will end up getting hurt in the end.\nThere is someone out there for each of us. So, instead of getting caught up in the time-wasting efforts of trying to convince her that she can't live without you (when quite obviously she can), let her go. Mourn the loss of your relationship and live your life.\nLove will find you. Whether she comes back and turns out to be the true love of your life or whether it's someone you haven't even met yet. Love has an annoying way of showing up when you least expect it.  \nYou'll be fine. Just let go.
391617
Tell her what you just wrote.\nTell her to meet you at a familiar romantic spot that the two of you used to go to, while sitting next to each other gently reach your hand up to the side of her face where it meets her jaw, turn her face towards you without speaking, so that her eyes meet your gaze and then say sweetly and softly "I know that I hurt you and I will never forgive myself for that. Breaking up with you was the worst mistake of my life. I was scared because I had such strong feelings for you. It's embarassing for me to admit this but... I have never felt this way about a girl before. But I'm just not ready to let you go. I love you and if you can find it in your heart to forgive me, I really want to give us another chance." \n***Then kiss her softly on her mouth just as she's about to respond***\n\nAfter the shock of the kiss coupled with your heartfelt although cliche confession, I guarantee that she will be putty in your hands! Trust Me!!
783395
Here's what I'd do:\n\nSit down with her and take her hand in yours.  Make and keep eye contact, even if you have to announce it like, "I have something to say."  Remind her that you really care about her, more and more every day.\n\nTouch her cheek, or tuck her hair behind her ear: the more physical, non-threatening contact you can establish the better.  She'll become more comfortable with you in a physical way, and that will help her comfort level with the emotional aspect of your relationship.\n\nTell her that you don't want to do or say anything to make her feel uncomfortable but you really feel that she deserves to know that she's important to you, you care about her, and that you love her.  Let her know that you don't expect anything in return, you just want her to know how you feel.\n\nShe probably freaks out/hyperventilates because she feels that either she doesn't deserve love or that saying "I love you" comes with expectations.  Tell her that you are just letting her know, and you don't need anything back: you love her for who she is, right now, just the way she is.\n\nThen what you need to do is let her know you'll be there when she's ready to talk about this or anything else, and just walk away.  She'll need time alone to process what you've said.
217539
You could, but why would you want to? What would you get out of telling her? Sympathy? If you're hurting, talk to a close friend about it. I wouldn't suggest telling this girl about how much she hurt you - what is she going to do about it or than avoid you for here on out?
418762
There is no way around this if this girl loves you then she is going to have her heart broke. you can not expect her not to be affected emotionally...the time is now to end this, do not prolong this relationship it will only make it more difficult for her. It's almost sweet that you care enough to not want her to be hurt but it's time to realize that there is nothing you can do except tell her it's over and give her time to heal...we've all been there!