my boyfriend is in maryland usa and im in surrey bc should we break up or stay together?
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If you truly love him, you wouldn't mind the distance. The catch is, does he truly love you back? If you think he does, then it is well worth it.
486750
Just tell him that you don't want to hurt his feelings or lie to him by staying with him when you just don't feel the same way for him so it is better to break up. Honesty is always the best answer. It may hurt still, but its better than a lie.
425360
Go with your heart. I am in a very similiar situation but we are madly in love with one another. If you are questioning whether you should move, you are not yet ready to do so.\n\nYou will know when the time is right.
538404
OK first find out if the other guy likes you then good but if he do sent then just dont stay with your boyfriend if you dont love him because at the end hes going to be more hurt that if you had done it now because by the time hes going to get closer to you and he will love you more so i think that you should break up with him because at the end hes the one that's going to get hurt at the end.
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It can work out if you two had a strong relationship before separating.  I was in a faithful (If you are sure he is the one for you--and he feels the same way--then I would not recommend getting into another relationship) long distance relationship of 2500 miles for over a year, and we stayed in contact by phone (we each had Cingular phones, so there was no long distance charge).  She lived in Reno, NV and I moved to Knoxville, TN.  After she finished her degree, she moved to be with me and we are together today.\n\nI hope everything works out for you :o)
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I would have to say stay with him, and try to make things work. Of course, if you loved him like you say you do, you wouldn't have to ask this question. You know he won't be gone forever. He'll be back. True love knows no boundaries. No distance should keep you from staying with him. Especially since the move is only temporary.
1110831
If you want to stay with Ken as your boyfriend then just back off from the other.  If you want a fling then have it ans see what the out come is.
851575
It sounds like you answered your own question with the "I love my boyfriend very much and don't want me mess things up with him."  Think about whether you really like this other guy or are only lusting after him.  Also if it is just for convenience will it last?  Think about what you would be giving up with your current boyfriend and if you will gain anything other than less distance with the other guy.  Do what your heart tells you is best.  Hope you make the right choice.
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sometimes things just feel like they are so right dont they? as he is going away and he feels the same as you, maybe he is thinking the same as you, have you thought about moving with him? i believe things happen for a reason and if your meant to be together than you will be and nothing like a trip to the U.S will get in your way.\ngood luck x\n\nps you could always ask him!!!
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i had that problem before i accually am going through the sane thing right now but have found  as long as theres is mutual love and trust in the relationship it will work for a long time i have had a relationship where i only saw my girlfirend onnce every six months as well and we stayed toghether for three yrs and then she moved and we lost touch but if you really love him and trust him stay with it. otherwise talk to him and ask him what he thinks would be best for the two of u. wheather that would mean breaking up or staying together. just follow ur heart and u will find out what to do! :) good luck
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Do not move across the country with a boyfriend.\nYou shouldn't move in with a boyfriend.\nIf you do you are setting yourself up for a big fall.\nWhy would you commit to him if you are not serious enough to marry.  If you are too young to marry. Also too young to move in together.\nIf you don't know each other well enough to Marry,  You don't know each other well enough to move in together.\n\nDon't play house! \n If he is not committed to you and you are not committed to him \n(I mean Married, not engaged) Why do you want to even exclude the chance of meeting someone else who you will want to marry and who will want to marry you.\n\nIf you move in with him.  You will probably share a bank account,  When you split he'll take the money and you will keep the bills.  You'll get pregnant and He'll take a hike and You will keep the baby.  OK now that you are a broke, single, mother, living across the country away from all of your friends and family or any other support system.  You can't even date, you can't afford a babysitter.  You can't even meet anyone for a couple of years because you will be so busy taking care of junior.\n\nOK finally you start to date again but you settle for someone who is not right for you because after all, you are now damaged goods, You know, Bills, Baby, Low Self esteem.  \n\nOK have a baby with him also and catch a venereal disease on top if it.  Well he wasn't right for you anyhow. you settled for someone because you thought you couldn't do better.  So after seeing that he really is a jerk, you break up with him.\n\nGet the drift. Stand up for yourself Now.  Tell him that you hope he likes his new home and that he can email you if he likes.  Bye\n\nAnd make a life for yourself now while you are single,  hopeful, young, and the possibilities of the whole world are there for you if you want them bad enough.  Don't mess up your life.\n\nDate nice Gentlemen who will wait to have sex with you until after you are married, if you will accept their proposal, because you are not that type (and don't be that type).  Stay pure in thought and actions. Go to church if you have one, do some volunteer work.  It helps to help someone.\n\nHave a Great Life!  You Deserve it!  Claim it for yourself.\n\nGod Bless You
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well, i would stay wit her or try to get back wit her. cuzz i moved to california from philadelphia and i was in the middle of a relationship. n me and my baby still togetha!!!!!!
137976
"if you don't know where to go, stay where you are." \nweigh your feelings. you and your bf have been together for four years... you love your bf... yes, you argue... don't all couples do? i think you're just bored. and it's understandable. it happens. for all you know your bf may be feeling the same way and just doesn't want to give up. \ndon't risk it.
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This is going to end badly for everybody.\n\nIf the person with whom you're cheating also knows you're cheating he probably is going to be very happy about seeing you re-commit yourself to your boyfriend, especially after having been with him for four months.  On the other hand, if the boyfriend finds out (does the other guy know him?  if so, he may tell your boyfriend about your illicit relationship)from someone other than you THAT is going to be really ugly.\n\nSo, if you want to stay with the boyfriend then tell him what's been going on, and then break it off with guy #2.
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Compromise is a very important part of a relationship.\n\nSince he has not experienced the weather in the north, why don't you both go on vacation together, and let him experience it - and if he likes it, then great - but if he decides that the northern weather is not for him, then you have a big problem.  If you cannot reach an agreement as to where to live, then sadly I must suggest that you break up otherwise, you could spend much of your life arguing about this and resentment would come about and neither you nor he could truly be happy.\n\nYour dreams are just as valid as his.\n\nGood Luck.
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Here's the old mystical I Love Vs. In Love question again. If you Love him and Respect him, ask yourself what would be differant if you where "IN LOVE" with him? You have already stated "we are totally comfortable with each other from day 1. We laugh a lot, rarely argue, understand one another, accept one anothers faults and strengths. The sex is quite fun as well." How else would you quantify a good relationship? Then ask yourself the real tuff question, could you live in England? Are your skills that transportable? Could he live here? Are his skills that transportable?
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I have a fiancee' in another country, and can relate to what you and your boyfriend are going through. \n\nIt is extremely difficult to maintain a relationship at such a long distance. My fiancee' and I have dedicated our hearts and our lives to each other. We both are doing everything we can to bring each other physically back together again.  It has required incredible commitment from both of us to go through all that we have so far.\n\nYour relationship, unfortunately, has doubt and commitment issues fro what you have described. Such issues are tough enough to deal with when you are face-to-face let alone being thousands of miles apart. Assuming that one of you lives in America, dealing with the immigration and visa issues is going to be a task and huge commitment in itself. ANY doubt of commitment is going to show through when you two deal with these issues.\n\nIn my opinion, you need to bluntly find out if your boyfriend is actually willing to commit his life to you, and a good test is for him to work on getting a fiancee' visa for you to visit him or vice versa. If he is serious about getting married, then he will need to do this sooner or later. If he is not willing to commit at least to that, then there is no need to continue the relationship. \n\nGood luck to you!