how can I help a person with post traumatic stress?
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Man needs space. Man must eat. Man stupid.\n\nGetting him to see a psicologist is a great move. He needs it.\nIn the meantime, talking to him about it will help. It always does help to talk about it. I tip my hat for you, you are there for him in his hour of darkness. You need to be strong and patient as well, this might take a while. Good Luck to you both.
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You can't say anything to him. He may have survivors guilt or PTSD, either way all you can do is let him know you are there for him. \n\nI have a "friend" who was in the service and has PTSD. I will never fully or even partially comprehend what exactly he went through But I let him know I am here for him. I also did some research on PTSD, so I would have an understand of what it is and how it affects someone. \n\nThe one thing you might try, is talking to your husband about joining a Veterans organization....Such as the Veterans of Foreign Wars in your area. Being around people that have been through what my Friend has been through seemed to help him. \n\nI hope this helps.
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If you can't seem to get back in control, try calling the distress centre. They are located in the Emergency section of your phone book. The individuals who answer your call know what you are going through and are great at giving you any local referrals you may need, or they are available just to listen. Don't be too hard on yourself, as this WILL pass. Good luck and God Bless.
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Some churches will help, sometimes the Red Cross can help, and if you are a veteran, there may be special programs to help you.  \n\nCall some local social service agencies, YMCA, Churches, homeless support agencies, they often have an employee or more who specifically help match people in need up with the various local programs. It helps to have a professional social service person helping you because these programs change often.\n\nI used to work for the YMCA in matching people up with the needed services in my area.
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You should find some adult who is unconnected to your family, School counselor, head teacher, ....\n\nTell them exactly what is going on and ask them to help refer you to the proper agency in your area who can deal with this.\n\nTake action now, or you face being traumatised to the point of lifelong discontentment.  Take action now and take pride in the fact that you had the courage to stand up for your rights.  Take action now and recognise the depth of emotional resilience and strength you have.\n\nDo you see where I'm going with this?\n\nTAKE ACTION NOW - TALK TO SOMEONE
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Yes there is so much you can to do to help.  You have to let him know  that this situation is not the end of the world.  What if this person wasn't the person God wanted to bless you son with, what if God has some one better in life for him, you have to be supportive and just be there for him.  Pray for him that he can get past this time in his life and you have to let him know life isn't always what we would like it to be.   God didn't promised laughter without  pain nor sunshine without rain but when situations like this comes to face us He said He would be our comforter and friend and He will always be there for us.  Just trust Him and let Him guide you  to be the comforter for your son.  I know it's tough on him but he just can't let this broken-relationship be the end of the world. He has to be strong and move on, when a child is learning to walk, no matter how many times he may fall down his goal is to walk so too in life when the going gets tough we need to be much, much more tougher.
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Contact Social Services asap, they WILL be able to help you, even the very same day in most cases, especially as you are also becoming ill and stressed with all the pressure being put on you. CPN's are not very good in my experience (I have had a lot of experience)
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First of all, take a deep breathe. It is not so bad really:). Know that this person is dealing with ALLOT her/himself too. Look in your telephone book and in the telephone book will show numbers you can call for guidance. This person is like you and I, and just needs understanding, medication, counseling and allot of love and understanding right now. I know because my mother is one who is bipolar.....they love like everyone else and hurt like everyone else...so smile and give this person a hug daily. It truly helps them overcome anxiousness.
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I have Bipolar Disorder, ADHD, as well as HFA; higher-functioning Autism. \n\nHere are some pointers:\n\n* Show him/her you love them regardless.\n* Listen to him/her, when s/he feels in a low. Support him/her, tell him/her you love them, hug them, cuddle them.\n* Find a good counselor/psychiatrist for the individual's treatment.\n* Help monitor the person's medications. (if needed).\n    Are the medicines helping? If not--recommendations; talk to therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc.\n* Find alternatives to self injury--if s/he is a self injurer. \n* During a manic episode (all time natural high), help the person calm down, in order to go to sleep. Cuddle them, hug them, tell them you love them, and do some things to help them get their energy out--such as jogging, running, exercising, so they can relax and rest/go to sleep. \n* Monitor the person while on meds--are they staying up all night? If so, they may be having a manic episode. \n   Is the person moody with you/others? More argumentative? Sad? Depressed? Feelings of misunderstood, hopeless, worthless, and suicidal tendencies? More agitated? Irritated? Is s/he having racing toughts?? -- again, may be manic episodes... --is s/he talking in circles or riddles--cannot slow down? Seems hyper?? -- again, may be manic. \n\nHope this advice helps. If you have any questions, feel free to ask me. Email me anytime at Luvs2Write16@aol.com.\n\nTake care,\n\nMichelle
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The best thing you can do is just listen.  The fact that he is talking to you about this is a great complement to you indicating that the trusts you and feels that you will understand.\n\nIf he appears to be having problems dealing with these events or is having nightmares, stress, fears, etc then he should be evaluated for PTSD.  Do not assume that the has PTSD just because he was in Iraq but if he is showing signs of distress find a local 'Veteran's Outreach Center' and talk him into going there.  Here he can be evaluated by a psychologist experienced in Combat PTSD and he can get assistance if he needs it.\n\nIf he needs assistance but does not want to go to the vet center - at least have him email me.
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Ist he must realize that he has a problem. That he is sometimes up, up and up and other times down and bothered.\n\n2ndly He should set an appointment with his physician and talk about ups and downs. The physician can help him to understand his roller coaster ride and his lack of courage to do something with his life.\n\n3rdly if he can get a few hours of talking with a mental health professional he may come to see that his situation is shared by many people and there are therapies and medication that can have a positive affect.\n\n4thly you should support him as he comes to realize his situation.\nyou can encourage him to know that you are ready to help him in \nhis next steps.\n\nHe may need to know that he has more support than it appears. You may also understand that you cannot solve the problems he chooses to face.
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get professional help. counselling.
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dont be dumb enough to even think you know what he or she is feeling. YOU DONT! best advice, leave them along for a few days and let them ask for what they want. no pressure, and NO QUESTIONS. let theme tell what they want, when they want and remember, time will help heal. NO PRESSURE AND NO WAR STORIES.
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more then anything she needs you to be there for her.  Maybe get her a journal so she can write down her feelings, it's better for people to get them out then to keep them bottled up.  My best friend loves Torrid too and I'm just getting her a gift card for there.  But again just be there for her, let her cry, vent whatever she needs to do.
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Wow, if life came down to a numbered list wouldn't it be easy?\n\nIt depends on the situation.  If the person wants to talk, then you should be there to listen, because sometimes knowing someone is actually listening (not hearing, and there is a big difference) is the best way to help.\n\nIf they want advice, then you should give it, or refer them to someone who can.\n\nIf they want to forget what is happening for a little while, distract them.\n\nIf they need your empathy, you to be sad with/for them, then discover why, and show geniune emotion.\n\nNot caring is the worst thing, because if they have confided in you how unhappy they are, then they are ultimately asking for help.\n\nRemember happiness is NOT a state of mind, it is moments to be enjoyed, just the same as other emotions, and the unhappy moments are there to remind us not to take the happy ones for granted.
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Call your local Crisis Line and ask them.They will talk to you and suggest various ways to help.Sometimes they will send(with your permission)a counselor to your home to evaluate your problem
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If you have not experienced PTSD, it's hard to explain the feeling.  If you know any older citizens who served in the Gulf War,  Vietnam War or even World War II, for instance, you can ask them about being "shell shocked", or PTSD.  For some people it never goes away.  I know from experience (an almost fatal auto accident that crippled me and took my professional life away at no fault of my own) that it's still there, under the surface, after 5 years.  However, I made myself get in the car and deal with it.  I think your b/f is on the right track and I'm impressed that he's willing to face his greatest fears.  You go ahead and encourage him every way you can and let him be a man and have a full life again without being co-dependent on anyone else.  He doesn't need to be an emotional cripple. What would he do if you weren't there to drive him??  He'll be proud of himself before long.  A pat on the back goes a long way.  So he might have stressful moment or two; he can learn to deal with it and get stronger and should continue to get professional help as long as he needs it.  He probably is feeling guilty as hell because he lived; not to mention every thing else involved.  Let him go...give him a nudge and hold him when he needs it.  Encourage him to help others with this problem.  Helping is great healing therapy for him and others.  He'll be living with this for a long time.  God bless you both.