i cant get laid what is my problem??
472872
You're insecure and have no confidence in yourself.  You approach a situation expecting to fail and then do.
670775
I'm sorry...that stinks.  Tell people up front, how things are and maybe that will help.  Hanging around more mature people will help with that some too...Don't lose hope--you will find a girl that loves and respects you and she will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated:  like a wonderful person who has a lot to offer.
1036119
well try meditating or a cold shower or pick up a bible that should help if not go to a sex therapist.
186779
You probably have a sexually transmitted disease. Go see a doctor to get it diagnosed.
1003034
I don't think anything is wrong with you, you just haven't met the right girl yet. So what if you're not very tall and you are not very small, you just have to keep trying. That's what the dating game is all about. Are you in school? You could look around campus for different events that are sure to attract many decent young ladies. Just keep trying, it is rough trying to find a mate but it won't get you anywhere if you give up.
395511
Mr. Nobody.....\n\nFirst of all, your name suggest a feeling of facelessness....so what I think you need is some confidence.  Believe me dude, you are not faceless.  In fact, hold your face up and look forward.  There is definitely a chick for you out there, as long as you find your groove and ride it out to some lovin'.\n\nSo confidence is number one, tied with having a quality attitude.  Now, people tell you that...but they don't tell you the flip side, which is being turned down.  It will happen, so learn to suck it up, TAKE MENTAL NOTES (very crucial) on what worked and didn't work, and keep truckin'.  Love, like anything else good, never comes easy.\n\nTwo, is finding girls with similar interests as you.  Having things in common is the number one way to maintain a long lasting relationship.  \n\nLet's say you like.....collecting exotic candy from Guam.  You know you have a convention coming up, or weekly get-togethers at TGI Fridays.  Take advantage.  Check out those chicks, because some of them might be hotter than Jennifer Lopez eating homegrown habeneros in the Sahara.  Or at least pretty.  In any case, use your hobby or your job as tools in your search.  Join a club, or actually go out somewhere these things you like are applicable.  You like to paint or history, go to a museum or take an art class.  You like comics, go to a convention.  You like cars....hit up the car show chicks.  Etc, etc, etc.\n\nOne note - do not go to the club or bar on Saturady night and think you will come away with the woman of your dreams.  \n\nThere are more things I could tell you, be this should get you jump started.  Make sure you're clean, breathe is fresh, hair looks decent.......check your clothes and make sure they are at least clean and they reflect how cool you are, or can be.  Don't be a poseur.  \n\nOh...when you are actually talking to someone who might be interested.....speak up and look into her eyes.  Have your spit together.\n\nGood Luck, buddy.
348006
you said it in a nutshell, they joke about it.  Did I hear you say you want to be their joke?  Because if you think getting laid raises a woman's self esteem, you must still be in 8th grade.  Grow up and become a professional classy man and you might attract an independent, classy, professional woman.
504104
You need more confidence; just remember that while looks get the first glance, for selecting a partner most women are much less visually oriented than most men are. Stereotype, but I think true. So, think about that to boost your confidence.\n\nThen, just start getting yourself in situations where you will interact with women.  Book clubs, Toastmasters (that will also help your shyness bigtime) Church groups if you are religious, parties, etc.  In this day and age, just approaching random people you meet in public has a low probabilty of success since people tend to be more guarded (but it can work, and might be good practice; ain't like you will ever see them again!)\n\nSkinny?  I was very skinny for a long time. Always teased in HS. during college I lifted weights.  After college I took up martial arts.  Stayed thin, but I was ripped. . . now, at my HS reunions, I am reasonably well filled out now but still thin. (I will never be a muscle monster; just don't have the genetics) and most of my HS compatriots are FAT!  HAHAHAHA! \n\nAnyway, it is more attitude than anything.  By the end of high school I didn't care I was skinny anymore.  That made a big difference.\n\nAs for you being attracted to almost every girl you see, I am guessing you are in late JHS, HS or college.  That is normal. Don't worry.  By the time you are about 25, you will be able to interact with women without **constantly** thinking of them sexually, and by 35 you can do it half the time you are talking to them. Sometimes being a man sucks.
224075
Dude, I used to be in the same exact boat as you. I never thought I'd get a girlfriend...So I stopped trying. A few days later, I actually got a girlfriend. One year later we are still together and are both very happy. So, just stop trying to get a girlfriend...Go hang around with friends and stuff, you'll most likely meet a girl, and just be yourself. Also, be very confident. If you don't like yourself...who else will?
973552
Your problem is the drinking.  You would not have mentioned it if it was not often. At 18 getting cozy with getting blasted is a sign of alcoholism - at least in your near future.  That is the problem.  Your penis is telling you that it, too, is drunk and it is hard to get hard when it doesn't know which way is up.  Also, the reason you can't get it up on occasion when you are about to get laid is because you need a drink so bad that your concentration goes to the booze, not the boozy broad you are about to do even though she is a sad sack herself.  So, do your penis a favor and stop the flow of blood alcohol to the head so that it won't have a hang, you should excuse the expression, over when it has to go to work.  Instead, pour some not so hot coffee on it when it is expected to perform.
1046989
I'd get some help. You might need some confidence to actually go out with more attainable women.
940156
Just be yourself, and it sounds to me like you are trying to go somewhere that you are not ready to go! Any guy that makes you worry that you will be called an inexperienced  "anything" you should just stay away from. There is something to be said about a young woman who is brave enough not to have casual sex just to be what you call "cool"  You have your whole life ahead of you I hope you think about what you "should do" rather than you "have to do"   My motto in life is if you are unsure of what to do ....dont do anything!
983557
i really dont know whats wrong..but my advice to u is to go take sex therapy sessions..im sure u will overcome this with a little help from proffesionals...\ngood luck!!
622499
wait for the right one... then you can get laid all you want!
145196
maybe the chick was too ugly! just kidding....\nwith someone else there, you might be a little self concious. any amount of stress might cause you not to be able to get hard. relax a little and I am sure you will get it up!
90946
Don't give up, I have had the same problem wit girls. MR RIGHT will appear when you least expect it, mayb even this sec? ;)
668206
Start speed dating and be truthful about your self (your a virgin). There's many people out there like you. You just keep searching instead of waiting. \n\nOthers:\n\nInternet match making\nChat forums (be careful though).\nArrange marriage services.