How do I tell its over, he bought me a ring.?
470804
Ask him how he can give you a ring if he already wearing one?? He broke his promise to his wife...if he did it to his wife, how can you be sure he won't do it to YOU later?
414340
Yes if you don't get married the ring needs to go back to him . The ring was put on your finger for marriage so if you break it off it's no longer yours . It would only be right to give it back .\n\nAngel
807639
Take it to a jewelers store and ask a professional jeweler for his opinion.\n\nI have to tell you, if you doubt that your significant other would give you a 'real' ring, I'd seriously re-think the whole marriage thing.  If you even believe he is deceiving you with the ring, how can you trust him in any other way?\n\nAlso, you might want to think about your values system.  If you truly love each other and the ring is worth $50, who cares?  Do you want a life long partnership with this person, or are you just a greedy materialist who wants an expensive item to show off to people to 'prove' his love for you?
725720
yea u were wrong but u were provoked. i can't believe i'm sayin this but he's wrong. news flash toots, your guy is either cheatin on u or no longer interested in u and this was a convenient way for him to get rid of u. it's one of those 2 things, i guarantee it. good luck. be happy it's only 7 months invested b4 u found out what an @ss he is.
823487
It appears the love is gone and he want's an open marriage and you no that's wrong anyways he may have found love in one of his mistresses.  I would say it's over and carry on with your life sell the house split the assets and find a man who will treat you with the dignity and respect you deserve.
1140157
Wait until you've pawned your wife's wedding ring. I'm sure you'll still have some money left over after bailing out your girlfriend.
167585
sounds like he cares a lot about you but is NOT in love with you. you are the best thing in his life right now, the only thing he is sure of and now he is going to lose you. have no regrets about it; you followed your heart and those actions never need to be explained or appologized for. don't worry you'll always be cool, just don't confuse those moments to mean anything for than that and i think you'll be fine. Don't forget to get your ring!
851654
Wow, that's a long time.\n\nIMO by the time my wife and I had gotten married it WAS just a formality...it was as you say, "just a piece of paper." \n\nHowever, that did not come from apathy...not in the least. It was that my wife was so special to me, I had already decided by that point that this was the woman I was to spend the rest of my life with. The whole point of the ring and marriage is for validation...if he is waiting so long then it appears as though he is avoiding something. \n\nIt really sounds like he just proposed to make ya happy or, forgive the phrase, shut ya up. If he had really intended to engage to you, he would have bothered to plan for a ring. It took me 6 months, the opening of my first credit card (at 27), and a lot of freaking raman noodles...but I'd be damned if I wasn't going to provide the love of my life with some sort of validation. \n\nThe ring, ceremony, etc. is just symbolic...but if he isn't willing to put up, I can't help but wonder where else he will slack later. \n\nBasically this is something I would call a problem...but please don't take my speculation or anyone elses for what is really going on. It sounds as if you guys need to have a serious discussion and decide where you are going. It sounds like you have been through a lot together, and none of those trials and tribulations are going to be over soon. \n\nYou really need to know where you stand with this guy. Good luck and hope it all turns out.
255778
The ring was a gift, so no need to give it back.\nJust tell him you are not going to continue to date him.\nHe will not change, abusive people's true colors eventually come out.\n\nGood thing you found out now, instead of getting married and then found out.
622680
A ring. Not 900+ ones, you know, those 20+ engagement bands. Mm. Flowers. Perfume. Or maybe a kiss. Don't make her feel like you're a sugardaddy instead of a boyfriend, please.
355386
Don't put a time limit on it . Just wait until you are 100% sure that you love this woman enough to spend the rest of your live with her and you are certain she is the one you will respect and take care of and give your life for hers if necessary. Remember : the ring is just a symbol of your LOVE.
370930
First before you sell anything cut those credit cards up and stop using them now. That is how so many people get into debit in the first place, if you don't have the money to pay for it than you really don't need it right?? Second you are thinking of these rings and stuff as objects, which they are but do they not hold memories of the times that you and your husband spent together, the reason that the ring was given. It maybe just jewelry, but look past and see what they really mean. Try before that to get help with your debit, call and see if you can consolidate your bills, they now have debit councilors to help people like yourself, but remember get rid of those cards and that will start you on the right road. Good Luck and please don't do it behind your husbands back that could hurt more than your credit, it could hurt your marriage. Talk to him if that is the way that you think that you need to go.
663242
Well, it's only been 2 months. Unfortunately you can't just wake up out of your nightmare and wish it to be over.  For starts he can quit coming over and telling you that he had sex w/ other people and basically rubbing that in your face. He can also quit telling you he loves you. You obviously broke up for some refined reason (unknown).  If he loved you then he wouldn't be sleeping w/ someone else now would he? I think that you two should stay apart for awhile. There's nothing wrong w/ remaining friends, however, if your trying to move and maintain a healtly lifestyle then he needs to quit.  Simply speak to him and tell him that it's best if he quits coming around for awhile b/c your having a tough time dealing w/ this situation. That you don't feel it's right him coming over and telling you he loves you then hearing that he slept w/ someone else. If you loved me then you wouldn't be sleeping w/ other people. I think it's fine if we remain friends, but I need time. I wouldn't recommend burning or doing anything to the pictures. (memories of good times) the wedding dress yea, you could probably sell it. The ring ahh, well, if you have a daughter or have one in the furture you could always give it to her to wear. (or just pawn it) I wish you the ever most luck. As for strength from God to overcome such a hurtful relationship and for the strength and wisdom to know that "slicing body parts off is wrong" (see made you smile) Good Luck! Here if you need a friend.
497962
Hey guys what my fiance did was hide the ring in a rose. I went to smell the flower and the it was!  :)\n\nHope you don't mind me answering?
167225
I would say just be happy that you have a man that would buy you nice things, but if it's just killing you to know, take it to a reputable jeweler to get it appraised, but be careful about leaving it over night because I saw a 20/20 report about jewelers taking out real stones and replacing them with crap and if yours is real you may get ripped off.
1054186
Who knows?  Maybe you guys really aren't ready to get engaged.  There's alot of pressure on couples when they get engaged.  People EXPECT that you're getting married pretty soon and they want to know a date and they want to know what you're planning for the wedding.  It sounds like your man shouldn't have promised something that he wasn't sure about.  It's unfair to say that "by this date we will get engaged" because things happen.  It doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't want to get engaged, it just means what he said, you guys aren't ready.  Maybe there's financial reasons behind that.  But a really good solution to this problem (because I know you are disappointed) is if your boyfriend still wants to get engaged and married in the future....he should buy you a promise ring.  My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and we're not ready to get engaged or married yet either.  But a promise ring lets you and your friends and family know that you guys are planning to get married one day, just not right now.  I wear my promise ring on my left ring finger like an engagement ring and I'm very happy with it.  I think you would be too.  Sit tight dear, you'll get married one day.
458589
Hello again Fantasy Foo, I've been were your at, and it's not a good feeling. One good thing about life is....Time heals everything. I was once told: If you love something let it go, if it comes back it's yours...if it don't it never was. If you have the fellas number or you know how to get in contact with him...let him know how you feel, but don't hate on his girl...thats tacky.