My boyfriends in jail, and I'm scared to have sexual realtions with him when he gets out. Should i be worried?
468511
You are smart. Make sure he is tested for Hepatitis, not just HIV. I would request HSV and VDRL serologies also. These would rule out syphillis and herpes. Repeat these in 3 and 6 months after as well and use condoms.\n\nConsider his willingness to do the testing and allay your fears as a sign that he is committed to the relationship and respects you.
550732
he's in jail now what can he do for you while he's in there. you need to think whats best for you & ecspecially this child. i know a couple guys that did the same thing to their girl so they had support while they were in jail than once they were out it was like screw you. You deserve better good luck!!
616961
I was in this exact same position a few months ago. \n\nI hadnt known him that long, however. \nI was thinking the same thing when I first got with him. \nWell, now it is definitely worth it to me. I am engaged. \n\nHeres my advice. \nIf you honestly feel that he is going to change (I dont know what his crimes were.) than I woudl say give him the chance. My fiances crimes were violent and drug related and I still gave him that chance (completely unaware of what could have happened.)\nMy best advice is if you do give it a shot (which I hope you will because evryone deserves that second chance.) \nBE PREPARED! \nThere may be a few slip-ups. (for example: if his crimes were drug related, expect maybe drinking or maybe pot somking.)\nBe patient and set yourself a limit and stick to it. \nDont ever let his betraying behavior get in the way and make rules before you start into a relationship. \n(no drinking, smoking, doing drugs...whatever.) \nThis way you have the law laid down and you and he both know where the relationship will end. \n\nIf its important to you, it should be important to him as well. \n\n\nGOOD LUCK SWEETIE!
161573
hey thans for the advice on my boyfriend i just really am scared! oh and mine is trapped in the closet all parts its just drama i love to hear it but not be in it
105767
When I first found out I was getting out of jail I felt like I could never be the same person again but when your in jail you have alot of time to think just give him a chance and if doesn't work than tell him or try to talk to him and if that doesn't work than get rid of him.
50698
If he was in jail. it would appear that he is not making very good choices in his life.  Therefore, I would not want him contributing to choices in my life.\n\nPeople are subject to change though.  If it were me, I would not get back with him right away. I would wait and see if he learned anything from the experience.\n\nIf it is "true love", AND he has made the appropriate changes, love will find a way.
479372
if it was a one off i would say stick it out if u really love each other but it seems to b a on going thing him going to jail u need to get on with ur life in a steady relationship with someone thats always going to b around for u not in and out of jail
595320
You are what they call "Jail Bait" as in that 20 year old guy is risking jail time, and I'm guessing that you don't really want him to go to jail for you, so wait until you're 18, and then do what ever you like. You're already 17, so it's not that much longer, and on your 18th birthday, be sure to use protection.
748370
Because now that you're together, he thinks your his 'property' and he can do anything sexual, no matter where you are! If you don't like it, tell him to stop. If that doesn't work set ground rules, if he's still ignoring you, dump him! You want a boyfriend not pervert!
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I pray that he will change his prejudiced ways, mature in every way and that you really think about yourself and why you want a convicted felon in your life. You can't change him. You can't help him unless he helps himself first!  You both will probably be very different people by then anyway.
653384
To tell you the truth you may want to wait till he is in prison.That way you can hold hands hug kiss and have a Little more family and friends there.You will have to wait till he gets out of coratien but i think you both would be happier.Good luck.
991074
How long is the person going away for?  A few months, I could see you waiting for them.  Years?  Well, you have needs, and that person isn't going to be there to help you fulfill them.  Eventually, you WILL cheat.  You may as well break it off and save both of you heartache.  Plus, the person that goes inside the joint, won't be the same person that comes out.  They're going to see a lot of messed up things.\n\nP.S.  Do you know how many prisoners get raped inside?  It's scary!  Do you want them possibly bringing something back once they're out?  Run girl Run!
216310
It sounds like you don't really like the guy that's been in jail enough to sit around and wait on him. That isn't necessarily a bad thing for you, though.Why is he an on and off again boyfriend? Is it because of jail? Is it because of the actual relationship? You need  someone that will be good to you. How do you feel about the other guy? Could be you have feelings for him or you might even be ready to move on and find someone completely new. Don't loose your self esteem during all this.You deserve someone that'll be good to you and be there for you. Don't take any crap from either one.I wish you the best of luck!
907790
YOU SHOULD NOT RECEIVE ANY PREFERENTIAL TREATMENT !!!\nYOU SHOULD JUST BE THROWN IN WITH THE REST OF THE LOSERS !!!\nAND WHATEVER HAPPENS TO YOU IN JAIL JUST TAKE IT AS A HARD LESSON LEARNED !!!\nHOPE IT'LL TEACH YOU TO STRAIGHTEN UP YOUR ACT AND CLEAN UP YOUR LIFESTYLE !!! \nUNLESS YOU REALLY LOVED IT IN JAIL THE KEEP DOING THAT SAME CRAP !!!
865416
i am  very  sorry  to  hera   this      i know   how  sad  jail  is      i ve  seen  quite  a bit   of  heart breaking   story   / however  ther  is  hope    you  need  to   contact  the  judge    state  attoreny and  a lawyer    i   dont  know his   offence    . however   ther  iss  a  chance that  he  can  be   on  house   arrrest    , if this  happen   its  is  SO VERY IMPORANT  THAT  HE  COMPLISE  100 PERCENT  I   DO   KNOW THAT IF YOU ARE ON  HOUSE ARREST   ITS IS TAKEN VERY SERIOUSLY  IF YOU GET THIS   DONT  LET  HIM  MESS UP  BECAUSE THINGS COULD GET WORSE
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Disregard all the stupid answers, listen to the good ones. Do your time it will bring closure to the past. Be a model prisoner and 6 months will not really be six months. You will get credits for good behaviour. \nStay away from trouble makers in prison.\nYour family will feel the hurt but if they truly love you they will stick with you. Make it up to them by being kind and loving before you go into prison and after you come out.  \nIt is o.k. to be scared of prison. Express your feelings to a social worker, pastor or other spiritual advisor. \nYou changed your life around and you will overcome this new challenge as well. Good luck.
1051147
of course. are you the same person you were at 17? \n\nif he's spent a lot of time in jail, however, i'd realize that mental health issues resulting from that kind of thing can cause all kinds of repercussions.