I have three children 13/16 My own and 1-16 old stepson,all three boys..?
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Really difficult.......it sounds to me that he is fighting you all because it's easier than trying to get along for him right now.  I would sit him down and without getting angry just explain that there are going to be rules in your household from that moment on.  One of them being that no bad language is used.  I wouldn't give him random jobs to do but set a weekly agenda so he knows exactly what is expected of him.  Also have job lists for the other children.  Get them all to agree that they will complete there tasks, then he won't feel picked on the moment you ask him to do something.  You will just have to accept that his time spent in his other home is going to be his 'fun' time because his girlfriend etc is there.  Don't allow him to use this as a stick to beat you with.  The facts are he lives with YOU in YOUR house and must obey the house rules.  \n\nThe sitting in his room alone sounds a little worrying.  I think he wants people to come in to try and coax him out - it may be for attention or it may be that he just likes sitting on his own doing his own thing.  If there is someone in the house that he gets on the best with then send them into him occassionally to just chill with him for 5-10 minutes, stick your head around the door and just ask if he's OK.  \n\nHe is proably unhappy about his situation - every kid would prefer to be living with his real mom and dad.  He will get used to it but the more you fight with him the more you lose!  Set the rules and stick by them - not just for him but for everyone.  Good Luck.
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Well yes that is about the norm. However.... I got my 3 girls !  Full custody , childsuport and the whole bit!  Need answers?  I got um!
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i am a mother of 4 all boys . i try not to treat the youngest any different but i do and it is because he is the last one there is not going to be any more baby steps in our house it will be the last of the last . the other reason is i am tired i have said it all 3 time before by the time the 4th one goes to do it i am just tired . so he does have more freedom and he mother away with stuff .
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None I want to wait a while before I have any.Congradulations on your child any way,how old they!?But I want either 2 identical twin boys or just 1 boy or 1 girl thats it!
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As a step father to two wonderful teenagers, I can say that there is not one person or paper that could convince them that I am not family.\n\nThese boys call me "Dad" because for all purposes other than biological....I AM! They don't know anyone else as their father. \n\nIt is rediculous that any state would not recognize a person who cares for and is completely responsible for a child as family. \n\nI would gladly support your petition and right to be recognized for what you are.\n\nGood luck and God Bless!
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My brothers x was one of 14 children. imagine if 10 of them would have 2-3 kids a piece and so on
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Never consider them "step"!  If you raised them...you are one of their parents! Life has given them an "extra" mom!  Motherhood is difficult enough for one mom...how lucky to have two mothers that love a child enough to work towards the common goal of raising one terrific kid! These children are lucky to have you for a mom ... not a stepmom...but a mom... someone that cares for them so much to have taken on the "package"!  I always tell people that my kids and I are a "package deal"...  you can find some wonderful quotes about all kids at your local scrapbook store....I should know....I think I have bought out my local store!
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really good question. i have 4 boys and 1 girl. my daughter and i have always been super close. she does so much for me, and is very loving and kind. my 1st son died a few years ago. my 2nd son is really good to me...lives down the street. he shows his love to me more through material things, but i know he'd do anything for me. my 3rd son is adopted...from birth...and is severely mentally ill (extreme drug and alcohol use while in utero). he's been extremely difficult and has brought a lot of fear, sadness, and trauma to the rest of us. but we've always shown him that we love him...he just doesn't have the capability to show love. sadly, he has chosen to live unmedicated, and his life isn't an easy one. he would probably do anything for me if i asked him to, but he has chosen to seperate himself from the family...it's sad. my son-in-law is very much my son too, and he shows me daily how much he cares about me...i'm very lucky to have these awesome "kids" in my life.
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I have three kids and I am 24 and going out of my mind!
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Sounds like you are NOT a biological parent, but somehow raised the children as a custodial parent.  That is not good news for you.  Generally you have little chance to win any kind of visitation. \nI am sorry you will probably have to wait until the children reach the legal age.
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because a have 4 kids...
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mother in lwas can be a bit strict when it comes to their little boys.just be pateint with her and make her see taht you love her son as much as she does.
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Sorry to hear of your problems. My 2 oldest sons have a step mom & dad. It gets hard but over time it's been the best thing ever. My boys weren't aloud to call me mom in front of him. After a few months of being remarried, the step mom put her foot down on that subject as well as a few others. Her & I have went out with the boys & spent the day together. With the dads was very hard for my boys at first. My 2nd husband would try to hard & it pushed them away. Once he realized this he started talking to them like he does to our daughter we have. Now they call him dad,ask his opinion on things & have much respect for him. But only pointing only the things that are wrong on the kids part is damaging. They will think they are nothing but screw-ups & will cause problems in the years to come. Tell the man to tap into his boyhood along with the kids & just let loose. Ensure him he's not always wrong,but he has to let them be kids to. Let him know that he needs to compliment them on good things to earn their respect.Hopefully things will get better because no man is worth loosing your children over. Good luck my friend. In our families, the STEPS are blessings.
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Hi! mom of 2 boys here 11m & 2yr.  I chat occasionally in Yahoo's Parenting chat rooms.  Just ignore the bots!!
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39 single dad here of 3, son 17, daughter 11 and son 8. I probably will be worried more about her as she gets older but yes, it will just come natural and you will wonder what you would do without them. Life is so much better with them and gives it purpose.
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I want at least 5 kids. \n1. Boy (I have always wanted to big brother, so I want to give my kids a big brother.)\n2. Girl\n3. Girl\n4. Boy\n5. Girl\n\nSome of these kids will be adopted.
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you're right, your family is wrong.\n\nkeep it up.  your kids and step kids should both appreciate it in the long run, and MAYBE your family will also.  but don't count on it.