I don't know if I'm ready to get married. Any advice on knowing?
468832
If you have to ask, you probably aren't.
360602
well,\nwhenever you feel the time is right. When ever you both sit down and feel like you are ready. You will both know when the time is right. Trust me in that i had the same predicament and when my now fiance and i knew the time was right we got engaged and then now are planning our marriage. Good luck
561912
i'm 23, we are still so young, and i think if you don't know for sure, then it's a definite no. i'm finally discovering things about myself and absolutely know that i can't marry right now because that scares me too. \n\nwhen you are ready, getting married and being tied down to a family shouldn't make you sick to your stomach; it should make you excited and happy. so it's not right for now. listen to your gut.\n\ngod bless
205212
I agree, it's probably not the most logical place to ask "is it a good time to get married"... only YOU can answer that.  well, you and your boyfriend.\n\nYou are on the right tracking thinking about finances and feelings.  Continue to discuss things with your boyfriend.  Where will you live?  Does he have a stable job?  Does he have or want children? Do you?  When?  Who will care for them?  How will you raise them?  Discuss reglion.  How will this come into play with children.  Have your families met?  Do you have the same goals and values?\n\nMarriage is awesome!  It's important to really think about it and plan for it.  So while I may have teased you a little for asking "should I think about marriage"- I think it's good you ARE thinking and planning.  Go with the flow and let things happen naturally.  If it's the right time to get married/engaged, you and your boyfriend will know it.  In the mean time, start talking about goals and longer term plans with him.
645218
take your time, Love will reveal it's self.\ndoes he call you, or do you do everything in the relationship. test him, see if he really cares. don't bug him about it or give him a big list of what you are looking for, just let him be and see what kind of guy he is. you can't change people so find out if he is really suitable for you through experience in time. you are probably young enough that it isn't crucial that you get married right now. take your time if you can....it reveals many things!
1143605
If you're even questioning whether or not you should accept or decline, then you are NOT ready for marriage. You need to tell this man that you appreciate it, and you care about him too, but you don't feel marriage or, engagement, is appropriate just yet. Make sure you tell him it doesn't mean you don't want to marry him, eventually, but that right now, at this time in your life, you aren't sure if it's what is best.
33176
I met my wife at 22.  but I told her I wasnt getting married till I was 30.  she broke me at 28.  I knew I wanted to get married and I new she was the one, so there was no need to wait any longer.  But I have to admit, I wasnt ready one day before I came to that realization.  My best advice to you, would be to express to him in a loving way, how much it means to you.  Ya know, subtle hints...and lots of um.  \nNo nagging, No whining.  He will either get sick of you talking about it and give in, or he will get sick of you talking about it and leave you.  Either way it just depends on what you want out of life.
437306
Only get married when your ready.  It could take 5 months or 5 years.  Don't rush it because you'll regret it if its not the right person.
438375
If you are postponing proposing I'd say you aren't yet ready to take the step of getting married. It takes a lot of courage to admit that. It doesn't mean you don't love her. I imagine you do love her. You just aren't ready to take the step of getting engaged. If she's truly ready and you are not, then you need to talk about it. You may have to set her free if you don't think you'll be ready for a long, long time. You both need to be honest with each other about what you want out of this relationship and act accordingly.\n\nAlso, talk to God. Pour your heart out to Him. Ask Him if marriage with this woman is what He wants you to do with your life. Listen with all your heart and soul for His loving guidance. God Bless.
237644
If you are over 18 there is nothing your family can do to stop you!  It's a tough situation, but maybe once your married they will come around.  Although, I think you are a little young to get married.  You have to remember, marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment.  If your not ready to be committed to something for your entire life, I would wait.  If your in love, then it shouldn't matter when and if you get married!  Take your time and think it over alot, you don't want to lose all your family over something that may not last!
981752
Don't get married if you're not ready!  You don't have to be married to raise a child.\n\nAlso, I think you should seriously sit down and talk to your boyfriend about going home.  You're young, you're having your first child, and you need to be around your family.\n\nI really hope everything works out for you.
1055080
You are not weird and I don't believe that you are ready.  People will try to tell you that it's just "cold feet"-there's no such thing.  You either want to get married and cannot wait to begin you life with that person or you don't.  If you are depressed and having doubts about doing this then you need to tell him now.  You know that what your gut is telling you is the right thing, you just don't want to hurt anyone and you're afraid that once he's gone that you will be lonely.  Think about how you will feel if you marry him and five years down the line you look at him and think I don't love this man and you want your freedom and you have two kids---Don't do it to yourself.  It's better to hurt him now, you be a little lonely than it is for you to hurt him, yourself and others later.
1015946
You just know.  My husband knew I was the one on our first date - I knew a few dates after that.  I was 25 and he was 33.  We looked at rings a month later, were engaged 4 months after that, and got married 2 years later after saving up money for our dream wedding.  We've almost been married a year now.  It's not a feeling you can even explain - it just hits you and sticks with you.  It sounds like you are both too young and not ready yet.
1151680
Seriously I know how you are feeling, I was that way, and I waited and now we are getting married.  It isn't just the ring or the beautiful dress, Remember you will be with this person for the rest of your life and No turning back because you can't handle it. The rate for divorce is very high, So have patience, Alot of people don't know what they are going into. But TAKE IT EASY.
705894
There is no definite time to get married - i was with partner for four years before we got engaged and another four years before we got married.  Bring the subject of marriage up and see how the conversation goes.  If you both decide not to get married, you should definitely make a Will each to ensure the other is taken care of should anything happen.  Not being morbid, but unfortunately people often miss out on taking care of their partner due to not being married and making their wishes clear.
1089965
Of course you can ask them that is not your problem.  Personally, I think that 20 is too young to get married. I'm not saying it hasn't worked for other people but you seem to be going in an exciting direction.  Are you ready to get married I mean really prepared because if you are planning on taking it seriously it is a big responsibility.  Just being legally old enough doesn't make doing something right. Like teenagers having babies before they are independently responsible.  If he is not ready then he is not. Your life is not going to end it will just hurt. I have to tell you though,life will go on you never know maybe you fall away and get back together.  If you are meant to be it will happen you have to trust that.  Anybody is going to find being away for 3 yeas hard that is common sense.  You don't have 2 situations like get an education or stay and marry your boyfriend.  Just go on with the long distance relationship.  I assume your bf has finished school.  If he feels the same way as you maybe he will move near your school to be near. Maybe he won't . Either way you will survive. You can't predict the future you can only do what is right for your life now and let the chips fall where they may.
419392
I think you'll be fine. You've just built it up in your mind a bit too much (which is only natural whatever your age).\n\nI also think that you have a lot of stress in your life right now. Even good things like buying a house and getting married cause stress because they are big, life-changing events. Look at the facts:\n\n1- getting married\n2- buying a house\n3- having sex for the first time\n4- Losing your religious faith\n\nAnd probably more things that you haven't mentioned. You have a lot going on right now and it's only natural to be nervous. you are not messed up you are just under pressure. \n\nNobody is forcing you to have sex on your wedding night. This is YOUR marriage, YOUR wedding, YOUR life and YOUR rules. You and your partner are the ones who make the rules and when you are ready for the next step it will come naturally. Just try not to put pressure on yourselves. Relax and go easy on yourselves. You two make the rules here.