My husbands exs still contact him?
455996
I think you are already worried or you wouldn't have asked the question on here. I do not think this is appropriate at all. Your husband should tell them, I'm married now and I don't think it is a good idea to "keep in touch". NO WAY are you being childish, your being smart.
241395
I takes ex's a long time to accept the fact that you don't want them any more.  My ex still hasn't accepted the fact, however he leaves me alone.  Haven't seen nor heard from him in years.  I like it this way.  Their ego just won't let them accept the fact that there is life without them.  He will eventually get the message and just go away.  Wish there was something else I could say, but this is the way I see it.
123275
Only you can know that for sure. Why does he talk to his ex wife, do they have children together, then until those kids are at the least 18 and probably longer he will need to talk with her. If he is calling up as there divorce is still new, he may just be concerned that she is alright, ask him why he calls her. My ex called me for months after we broke up just to see if I was alright. You will need to get you insecurity in check for this to work out at all, because they do have a bond no matter what and you have to face that fact. Just talk to him, that is so very very important in a relationship as you can NEVER know what is going on otherwise. Best to you
293039
First of all, when you DO see each other, make sure that any "feelings of attachment" are clearly communicated.  For example, if you are still friends and wish to remain "friends," set the boundaries straight.  As long as both of you have a clear understanding that the friendship can grow in spite of the divorce, then seeing your ex-husband should not pose a dilemma.  Sometimes ex-lovers make the greatest friends!  I should know, I'm still in communications with my ex-boyfriend who recently got married.  Although I couldn't make it to the wedding, he still considered me as one of his friends by sending me an invite.
292206
I think what you did was within your right.  You talked to your bf and he said that he talked to her about it and it didn't stop.  I don't want you to not trust your bf but there is a chance that he never said anything to her.  I had a similar situation where my ex-bf's ex-gf kept calling all the time for advice.  I realize they were just friends but she would call at all hours of the night becuase she had a fight with her current bf.  I talked to my ex about this and he said he would talk to her.  One night she called around 3:30 and I picked up the phone.  I told her that I wasn't happy about her calling this late and my bf had already talked to her about this.  She told me that he hadn't said anything to her at all.  So with that long story ;) that was my point there is a chance he didn't tell her that you had a problem with it all.
370258
Coming from experience, and in my case, I was engaged to someone about 14 years ago and about 2 years ago, I was in my homestate for my grandmother's funeral. I came through my ex's hometown and there was alot of unresolved issues at the time he broke off the engagement without a real reason. I decided to try to find out what his story was and to wanted to know why he did what he did. I mailed a long letter, asking the questions and searching for the answers I was looking for. He hurt me pretty badly by leaving without a real reason and he got the letter and wrote back. If you do decide to contact an old ex about unresolved issues on why your relationship ended, after you get your answers, move on. Accept the answers and accept that as closure. If your ex wants to be "friends" after the both of you aired it all out, my advice would be, don't be friends. Afterall an ex, is an ex for a reason. If you try to be "friends", old feelings will stir up, you could fall back in love with that person and you'll end up paying for it at the end. My ex wanted to be "friends" and I agreed to that but here it is 2 years later, I decided it was too late to try to be friends and realized he was never a friend in the first place. What my ex did was hurtful and I decided a while back that I didn't want anything to do with him period and I ended the friendship. I realized that he was never a friend in the first place. Get your closure, get the answers you're searching for, and move on. As for your wife, she is right, you know. Why open a bag of old wounds? You're with your wife now, stick to the present, don't look back at the past. There is really no good reasons to try to "resolve" anything. As for the ex's sexual abuse, she needs to deal with that.
35883
My husband found the email address for a man that I once had a relationship with. (I had told my hubby about Chris before we got married so it was no secret or anything.) My husband gave me the email addy and said just email and say hello. It turned out to be my ex boyfriend. Six months later, my ex boyfriend had heart bypass surgery. He died a week after that. I have got to say the BEST thing that ever happened to me is my husband coming into my life! He is very understanding and laid back! He is my happiness!
964321
I don't think it's right. I mean would you RALLY be ok with him e-mailing his ex? Aren't you scared old memories may come back he wants her again?\nThat's how he feels....\nHe may trust YOU but who knows what your ex wants, that's why your boyfriend doesn't trust guys (my hubby doesn't either). Maybe he's just scared you'll go back to him....\nJust let him go and write other friends, no exes...
1147636
Don't waste your time. He had his chance years ago. Too many other fish in the ocean. Never mess with a married man. Just think, would you want your husband conversating with his ex? And besides it will only lead to trouble. I'll pray for you.
956144
Sure sounds like stalker material to me.  Just stop seeing him/returning his calls and eventually he lose interest.
320681
Stop all contact unless you just love the drama , then call jerry springer. He is an X for a reason and he isn't a friend.
535334
Well, I think since she is inviting you and your wife to her wedding, there is no chance that your ex still wants you. I'd say something casual like, "I just got an email from xxxx, and she invited us to her wedding" and laugh. You have no reason to feel guilty about the situation it seems.
750900
my brother was over seas for a while, and i barely ever heard from him. it is hard for them to get to the phone, etc, they are so busy and focused on what they are doing. i would keep it up, you probably dont realize your emails are making his day. i would think you should keep it up.
667129
DOES YOUR EX WANT TO REFIN?IF HE DOES HAVE HIM EMAIL ME I DO MORTGAGE FOR PEOPLE WITH BAD CREDIT JOHNG@OLDMERCHANTS.COM
1167222
I spent 10 years with my first love who did NOTHING but accuse me of cheating. Even after two kids and finalizing my faithfullness with MARRIAGE (which I regreat every day of my existance) YOU dont have to do a DAMN thing to prove that you are what you are, faithfull and a proud mom. Look at how awesome you are with providing for your kids no matter what curve ball life throws your way. It took me to 6 years to stop my putting up with his claims and accusations that I finally dusted myself up one day and realized, (1)How the Hell am I going to keep on putting up with this and (2) why would I put my kids through this? They are such incredible sponges and you are their role in relationships, family and love. My last straw was relationship counseling, that brought out alot of hidden insecurities that I never knew he had as well as shed some light onto several of his accusations. He actually WAS cheating for awhile and guilt wouldnt let him life it down. After 2 months of "trying for the kids" I left. Me and the kids got our stuff together, I fought for full custody and I havent been happier in a long time. There is a sole mate out there for you and HE will FIND YOU, not that you have to force it to happen just because you had kids with the guy. That is the worst reasons. You are making it alone (emotionally, and financially) you can do it without the added pressure of his stupidity. I have all the faith and prayer in the world on your side and you can get through this. You wont be alone, You will be Happy and Stress Free With Your KIDS. They need you. How old is your youngest? How old is your oldest? Dont hesitate contacting me for questions or advice. My heart goes out to you. PrncssNiki@yahoo.com
478448
Does "ex" not break it down enough? why waste your precious time calling him if hes no going to call you?
959946
this is a tough one.  its hard to find your balance after a divorce.  do you think he wants you back or is he trying to maintain some kind of friendship?  i think you should just tell him.  if he severs contact with the kids then maybe thats not such a bad thing for them.  why should they have to deal with a sometimes dad who doesnt put them first?  if he is that immature then maybe they are better off.  it is hard to make decisions that may do harm on your kids especially when they are too young to truly understand.  my ex does the same thing.  i just limit the contact as much as possible.  also when he calls, you could just put one of the kids on the phone.  eventually he would get the point.  good luck.