how do i get closer to a coworker without being obvious at work?
456416
Well, I think the best way is to just start up conversations with them.  Its the man's job to ask the woman out so if he's not asking you out he's not really a man, or has no interest in you.  You could always drop a hint and give him your number after having a good conversation.  As for dating co-workers...I work in an environment where TONS of people are happily married and met at work.  In fact, it's more like a family atmosphere where a lot of people have the same last names.  2 mature adults are able to have a relationship regardless of where they work if they are still able to treat eachother with respect after breaking up.
261979
Dont ever get involved with a coworker. If it doesnot work out you have created an uncomfortable work enviroment.
37628
Try to figure out what you can do to make yourself more interesting to the boss. Take classes, join clubs with good reputations, and volunteer both at work and out of work. if those things don't get you a better poistion with your current employer your have a lot of things to put on your new resume for the next job.
962509
I think asking her out to lunch is a fantastic idea! I would advise against breakfast however since she runs night shift. (Most N.S. workers sleep till 10am-1pm. and it is not advised to wake up someone if you want a yes)\nI think a couple of 1hr+ lunches spaced out over 2-3 weeks is enough to begin developing a friendly relationship between you two.
1102684
ask them questions.........ask them to help you out in anyway........ask to help them in anyways...........ask about their hair or clothing............make up excuses to communicate with them........are you really really shy? start by simply saying "Hello" to them as they pass you by as you walk..........very casual........make yourself comfortable with saying "Hello" to them. All of them! Say "Hello" to any woman......then when you feel comfortable with this add a simple question such as "Excuse me, do you know what time it is?" or "Pardon me, where is the nearest public telephone" As you have more experiences with women you will feel more comfortable approaching and talking to women you find attractive.
747248
Hmm... well, definitely appear to be interested by giving him lots of eye contact and smiling at him. For awhile, only do that. He will most likely make a move at that point. If he doesn't get the point, be friendly in his presence and find ways to talk to him about work and your social lives. But, the most important thing to remember is to not look desperate (don't go out of your way to talk to him) and if he doesn't pursue it after you know you've made an effort to show him your affection, than he's just not that into you. GOOD LUCK!
243647
That's a tricky situation, your best bet is to tell her you'd like to get to know her better without getting her in trouble at work (this makes you seem sensitive, but not too much.)  Invite her to meet you at a bar.  Waitresses can be easily freaked out because they get hit on too often by creeps.  You don't want to be the least bit pushy or creepy because servers fear stalkers.  DON'T show up to her work a lot because she'll evade any meetings if you're a regular (it is her job, after all.)  If it's neutral territory she's most likely to show up (don't be surprised if she brings friends for security.)  From there, it's your sweet charm.
1014541
Do a coworker or neighbor.
439462
First of all you can not make someone like you. And I am not sure why you would want to.\nGo about your work like you do not notice. I had a girl at work not that long ago that didnt like me. She was very open about it and it got to the point where she wouldnt talk to me. In our workplace we HAVE to communicate. But she wouldnt. I just kept on talking to her acting like I didnt realize she was trying to ignore me and not talking to me. I still got my job done and honestly it annoyed her which made me feel better hahahaha!\n\nAct like you do not know they are behaving like children. If people want to act like that on their own time that is their business. But I am at work to do my job and if they do not want to be my friend that is fine...I am not there to make friends. However in the work place I am going to be professional about it.\nAll you can do is be the bigger person and make sure your work is not effected by your concern over their behavior.
735300
Just ask him if he wants to hang out sometime after work, if he says yes than he is probably interested.  But that way if he says no then you didn't come out with your feelings so he won't act any differently.
564223
First, get a big club.  Walk around the office with it.  People will start to fear you.  Thats a key component of being a leader.  Next, Do not speak unless all are hushed and at attention.  This shows that you respect yourself, and will make others respect you.  If a few of your coworkers begin having a side conversation during your speech, club them.  Strike them quickly and without remorse.  Also, always ask for input when you are thru with your presentation, this gives your coworkers the idea that you care what they think, whether or not you actually do.
487796
Ask him if he wants to go get a drink after work and hang out. It's not too forward and would you give you an opportunity to get to know him and probably find out if he's gay or not. Either that or ask him to join you for lunch.
899080
ask him about the company and how it is doing and what his job is about and how hard was it to get that job and education it took to acheive it. personally ask him about his family and where he lives and what his personal intersts are. also talk about any improvements that you would like to see happen with the company  and ask him what he would like to see for improvements. relax and realize he just wants to get to know you as a person and co worker and if he can depend on you to back him up in a bind. relax and be yourself
993340
Nowadays, with all the sexual harassment issues at the workplace, people are extremely careful when getting involved like this. Maybe you should ask him to meet you in a place outside the work environment and openly discuss the issue. Some guys, like me are shy and will wait to get a very clear "hint" to make the move.
941942
Why, you are having a meeting at work and everyone already knows each other.   Just get to the purpose of the meeting and keep it short and productive.
531255
Get closer to him.  Make subtle moves that u feel comfortable with.  U never know unless u try
730248
If you were still working in the school, it might be best to approach him slowly, as a rapid approach does carry some added risk of rejection.  However, under the circumstances, a subtle approach simply isn't an option.  Do it or don't do it.\n\nDoes he know you by name?  If you were to call him, how difficult would it be for him to know who you are?\n\nHere's an idea, if you want to be just a little on the sneaky side.  Call him up on the weekend, and ask if he has a few minutes to meet with you.  A coffee shop or pancake house might be a good place to arrange a meeting.\n\nIf he asks for a reason, tell him you may have lost something in his classroom, perhaps a piece of jewelry, and you're wondering if he may have found it.\n\nAt this point, he has two choices.  He can assure you that he hasn't seen it, or he can agree that it would be a good idea for the two of you to get together to discuss the matter.