Is a lower sex drive after marriage normal?
463927
The same thing happened to my second wife.  We did it like rabbits when we were dating but once married, the activity dropped off quite a bit.  I am sure the rigors of married life has something to do with it and the comfort in being in a long term relationship.  I am sure it doesn't happen to all women nor men for that matter.  Could be that you just need to try something different every now and then.  Location, clothing, time of day, etc.  Variety is the spice of life.
84824
Make sure you don't have any physical reasons that it is lacking.  Have a full physical to rule out anything that would interfere.  Diabetes, high blood pressure, adrenal exhaustion, thyroid conditions, hormone imbalance.  Sometimes a low sex drive is a signal that something's going on.  Check it out.\n\nMake sure you're getting plenty of rest, water, and vitamins and minerals.\n\nMake sure nothing in your past is getting in your way.  Remnants of past relationships, bad experiences, anger, guilt, fear - all drain the drive right out of you.\n\nMake sure your relationship with your spouse is good.  Low sex drive can be a signal that something needs repair in your relationship.  It's worth the work to resolve it.\n\nMake sure you are someone you are happy being.  When you love your life, take care of yourself, and love your spouse the rest takes care of itself.
302940
Decreased sex is completely normal in a marriage. It's your responsibility to spice things up in order to keep the passion alive. Try in on the floor, in a public place, use toys, do something taboo, anything new. Continue to give each other compliments especially about each others bodies and what you like about it. Be naughty! It's not just the mans job to keep it going, take the initiative and he will appreciate it I promise!
100733
I've been married 6 years and we have sex daily.  It's different for everybody and it really depends on things like your individual sex drives, your energy level, the level of importance you put on sex, your sexual communication, etc.  If you're having an amount of sex that is satisfactory to both of you, then don't worry about what is "normal" and just go with what feels right for the two of you.  If, however, the frequency with which you have sex is not satisfactory to one or the other of you, talk about it.  Find out what the problem is.  Don't just assume that the sex goes away once you get married.  We made that mistake once and we won't make it again.  Best of luck to you and your spouse!
517587
Speaking from personal experience, a tubal ligation didn't effect my sex drive at all.\n\nThere are many reasons why someone's sex drive is low.  It could be due to a chemical imbalance, lack of Vitamin B, psychotropic drugs, etc.  Talk with your doctor and see what he/she says.  Good luck!
615428
yes their is no wrong with it but sex after marriage will let u enjoy more
523369
That is awesome. U should be happy it is totally normal. most couples eventually lose interest in sex but im so happy that it doesnt to everyone that gives me hope. I have only been married almost 2 years and i can only hope we are like u when we have been married 15 years
345695
First I must ask you. did you marry your husband out of Love? Second and I'm asking this because I was raised LDS(Mormon) And sex was very forbidden but we did kiss Didn't you ever Kiss? If you did didn't you notice his lack of arousal? It sounds as if he has no physical problem, but a mental one. I say that because I know how it is to be raised in a religion that believes sex is bad, It is a sin to want to make love to a women unless it is for procreation and therefore it is wrong to let yourself succumb to natural desires. My Father was a Mormon Bishop (God rest his soul) We had this discussion over sex many times. I asked him how God felt about it and his answer was always, What goes on in the bedroom between husband and wife stays in the bedroom. But you have not said if you and your husband ever talked about having children. Maybe he he is afraid of that or maybe and excuse me for saying this, but maybe he is Gay?  I've given you my answers and I don't think you are wrong for wanting to get out. A man and a woman need to have the same goals. It sounds like the problem is with your husband even if he can't get an erection there is other ways to please you. I tried to not be to gross. Hope I was able to help. God bless and you take care. Reed wrwoodall@yahoo,com
582628
It's common, but it doesn't have to be.  I've been with my husband for over 2 years and we aren't bored with sex, but we do sometimes just have "routine" sex, lol.  If you've been dating for over 2 years, you should know each other well enough to be able to try things you know you'd both like.  Maybe some new positions would help, or some role-playing.  Sometimes even just having sex somewhere besides your bedroom can shake things up a bit.
1084122
This is not normal.  A sudden change in sex drive can be due to illness.  It is quite probably a coincidence that it happened three months into your relationship.  See your family doctor immediately.
901507
It's possible that it's his attitude that's depressing what sex drive you do have to zero. All that pressure ... it's a BIG turnoff. About your age, I had lived with a guy who was really demanding for like seven years and I was virtually frigid by then. Broke up with the guy (we weren't married), turned thirty and whoopee I'm a sex maniac.... don't lose hope.\n\nI recommend you study your own psyche with respect to your sexuality and the relationship. How do you feel when he pressures you, and why exactly? Books, counseling. Do you remember ever feeling somewhat excited, when you first got together? Don't you enjoy erotica or masturbation? If you don't, you're either kidding yourself to avoid confronting the issues in your marriage relationship, or you might as well learn to fake it.\n\nOf course, I could be totally wrong ... please forgive me if you know that to be so. Just basing this on my own experience.
168590
no way does it affect sex life! sometimes you feel like going solo even when you are married, and it is totally fine!
809991
although sex is pleasurable....continue to do what you wanna do! if you guys are comfortable without sex then so be it! just continue being happy in your marriage! don't let other people tell you about YOUR marriage! YOU and HIM are married not everyone else, so their comments on YOUR MARRIAGE shouldn't matter.
226935
After Marriage.  Marital sex is a beautiful thing.  It should be more than just an act of physicality.  It is an expression of love, respect, and commitment.
69909
My husband and I have a pretty good sex life. It did go a little down hill when I was pregnant but that was because I didn't want anything. We are still young and have been married for almost 2 years, but we do have a baby and that sometimes changes peoples sex life, but ours is still GREAT!!! I still have that fire that I felt for him the first time we met. He also thinks that I am the most beautiful person in the world because I carried and gave birth to his child. If you want to keep sex in your marriage you have to keep love. I know that we might not have sex 3 times a day like we did when we first started dating, but 3-4 times a week is still very good. Sometimes it is more and when I am working my long weeks it can be less. If you are loosing sex in your marriage just find a way to get that spark back. If you are one of the few that looses your libido during pregnancy don't fret it will come back. I was a complete Nymph before hand so when I didn't want anything we both thought that was strange and I am not a nymph anymore but I STILL WANT TO MAKE LOVE TO MY HUSBAND. I just hope that I can say that in 20 years. Try things like porn or mild fantasies. Or even spice things up by really playing with each other. Just don't give into threesomes or if you are a man do not push them. My husband always wanted one until we met a couple who ended up divorced because of that fantasy. NEVER LET ANYONE ELSE IN YOUR MARRIAGE. That is a sure fire way to kill it. So if you are getting married enjoy the sex but make sure you let each other know when you want it and what makes it more special. Try to keep that spark going. I wish you luck. If you are already married I hope that you still do have that spark. If not try everything to get it back...
686918
It would actually depend on what what kind of relationship you have, with the person that you are with. If you are still very close , and still very in love with your wife---> then your sexual relationship is normal. The closer you are to someone , the more you want them physically!\n  I have heard of other couples being together not as long as you two have , that say they only have sex once a week. I know another couple that says they only have sex once a month. I thought this was crazy , one lady told me do you see how clean my house is ??? How do you think that it stays this clean---By not having to worry with that all of the time.I would rather live in a simi clean house and have great sex alot more often.Another though is , maybe these couples have never really had great sex before. I myself think that something is very wrong with couples that dont have sex atleast once a day. But , i also understand that not all of us have the same sex drive.\n  Me and my x-husband used to have sex atleast once a day.\nWe were together for 8 1/2 years. But, during the pregnancy of our second child---> i lost all interest in sex which was suddenly too painful to me. I am not saying that he stopped getting it , but pretty close to it. However i gave him blow jobs alot. Then when our son turned 3 months old , i found out he was cheating on me & kicked him out . I still wonder if my not wanting to have sex with him was partly coming from the fact that i knew that something was going on. My husband and i never really liked eachother , so i was wondering how often we would have had sex , if we were deeply in love. The point is, I promise that the strength of your feelings in your relationship, helps alot to determine how often you get it !
90436
Women in their 40's often to experience a drop off in their sexual drives. They are often concerned about getting pregnant at a time when they are moving on past the childbearing years and concerned that if they get pregnant there will be a high risk of genetic defects. They are also experiencing a decline in physical energy compared to their younger years. Considering these factors, the lack of interest is probably not related to the relationship so much as her own body's aging. However, intimacy is much more than what happens in the marriage bed. It is what happens through the day. Improve that, and you will inevitably improve both emotional and physical closeness.\n\nYou need to consider your wife's personality. If you are not sure, research love languages. There is a book by that title if you cannot find any onformation on the net. Basically, some people feel best loved when given things. Others feel loved best through words spoken. The third type feel most loved by spending time with them. The last type feels loved through gifts of service.\n\nFor my type of personality and age (I am 42), a racy sex toy would not be a turn on. I would feel like the gift was a shout saying let's skip real intimacy and get to the sex part. Intimacy to me is based on an emotional relationship as first place. My love language is time. One on one time doing activities that are out of the ordinary to everyday life would draw me closer. A hand in hand walk through the neighborhood, a surprise candle-lit dinner, being beside me in the work of the day around the house, etc.\n\nIf you speak the language your wife needs, I am sure intimacy will increase. As conversation allows a natural discussion of it, communicate what language you like best. It will make her feel good to be filling your emotional love needs too.