Is it fair play to try to win her heart when she wants to lend it to another man?
463307
Have you never heard the saying "All is fair in love and war"?  Of course it's fair!  She might be the one!
51743
If you are keeping score its not a relationship worth having. You do what you can with what you have to work with. In some areas my significant other is much needier than I am. In other areas I am much needier than she is. We don't hold back, but give what we have to give and accept what we are offered believing that if there was more to give it would have been given and that what has been given in love should be accepted. I hope that's not confusing.
441335
I can see where you're coming from...and I feel your thoughts.It's perfectly normal & quite fine to have those type of emotions for her.Although,to act on those feelings may "loose her trust" as you say.Also,she may begin to feel uncomfortable around you causing her to clam up.On the other hand,if she has any feelings or interest in you,that would be different...but still,there's always a possibility that a closer relationship may lead to the other baggage that turns relationships sour,and in return may cause you both to lose concentration and possibly unwanted publicity .Eight yrs. apart isn't bad,especially if she is in her mid to late twenties on up.However,if she is still young,give her some time to develop into a more mature lady(one that truly makes her own decisions).It's not a good idea to seek a girl that always asks her friends "hey what do you think?".My advice for this situation would be let her come to you...she may/may not.Be the professional you are and just hold back my man...good luck.
717193
Well when in the situation of having a girl choose between two guys, you would have better luck if you made yourself hard to get, if she calls, be busy most of the time, don't make time for her. If things don't work with her new guy then you might have a shot if you don't just come ouw with 'i love you', make her work for it
1112043
Nope, not a chance.  The more you try, the more she'll play you, take advantage of you then run.
647669
You are a minnow in a big pond, an inconsequential thing that he might consider if it is convenient.  He perceives your offer is right on the edge of inconsequential.  Now if it looked like you could be very valuable to him, you would have a higher priority.  Right now, he's got piles and piles of things to juggle space and time for, almost all being more valuable than you.  Figure out an advantage (to him) or blow it off.  He's not lying, he's just busy and your value isn't perceived as high enough to merit nailing down the time and effort.  Sorry.  It's like dating a gorgeous woman who can have almost anyman she wants, why would she want you?  You've got to be worth it to her somehow.  This is different from desperate plain Jane's--right now you are behaving like the deseparate plain Jane who is mad that some guy who smiled at you hasn't called.
625956
No, She has no reason to feel that way. Actually, it's a good way to drive her husband into another woman's arms. Marriage's never last when theres jealousy and control in the relationship. Trust is one of the most important elements in marriage.
270960
That is true love and I think she needs to see that. We need more men like you out there. It's time for you to show her how you feel and tell her. And if she doesn't want you then she is crazy. I would be quick to get back with a man that told me he loved me from the bottom of his heart.
50221
She want's u to earn it.\n\nShe want's to see you compete.\n\nShe's not easy.\n\nYou will have to show effort to get her affections.
788247
she wants you back cuz ;the other guy is not meeting her needs!!!  she is lonely thats why she is with him, she is hoping you will call so the two of you will reconcile.
1052599
She would probably be very happy if you let her have her life the way she wants it.  Forcing a situation may strain your relationship with her.  If you are set on this, find an event you two could attend together where there would be a mix of people including men her age.  That way it doesn't look like you are forcing anything but rather giving her an opportunity to meet people.
453581
Only if she wants him to be interested.
416376
because there isn't as great of a chance of her leaving you for another woman, she may decide she likes to play with another lady now and then, if so let her experiment, the rewards you receive may surprise you
522643
No. \nI value myself than more than some man's w****. Because that is what you are making yourself to be.  If the man could not respect me enough to be the one and only than he doesn't have much for me.  Of course he's gonna tell you that lie, but it's a lie.\n\nRespect yourself as a lady, not some mans sex toy or w****.\n\nAnd if that isn't enough think of the other female.  How do you think she feels? And how would you feel if your man was taking out of your mouth and giving it to another female.\n\nIt all boil down to:  RESPECT YOURSELF, BECAUSE WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
701747
you have obviously given her more than one opportunity to give back....the relationship is one sided, so you have two choices...1, never ask or assume that she is going to be available to you...or 2, end the relationship and find friends who will have a healthy respect for you.
948019
If you're lucky she is letting you down easily. If you are unlucky she is playing you for a fool and has you as her fourth string boyfriend if her better choices don't pan out. In another words, move on.
572922
ask her to share feelings as well as money