My boyfriend wants to take my virginity, I'm not ready, and he is not "the one" what do i do??
468683
Do not let him!! It is something that you will remember forever so make sure that you love the guy and will never regret it. If he keeps pushing you, dump him cos he doesn't respect you. Take care
206802
Well if you are scared then that means that you are not ready and you need to wait for the time when you are ready for it. Also try talking to him about it and see how he feels about it and maybe he feels the same way you do. Then again he might not just let him know who you feel. You never know how it might turn out!
398106
First of all does he know you're a virgin? If he doesnt tell him. Once he finds out he'll be sprung. The trick though is that once he finds out, he's gonna try to get in your pants if you let him you'll loose him but if you dont he'll be chasing you around like a lost puppy
131757
I think it's wonderful your staying a virgin thats the way it's suposed to be..your suposed to save it for when you married thats the most wonderful gift you can give your husband...if this man doesn't respect your decision then you need to find someone who will..it's hard in todays world to find someone to respect that but you will and when you do you'll know he truley loves you if he will wait for you..good luck
567891
if ur not ready then dont do it! coz u should be aware of the cosequences that would happen if ever you will get involved into sex and if he loves you then he will respect ur decision and wait for the right time..
501765
Why tell him? If sex comes up then tell him. He wont think yuck no guy most of never wanted her, but think wow she did not give into some idiot from high school. NOthing is wrong with being a virgin. And you are not the only 20 something virgin out there, and they are not all gross and ugly, they choose to wait just like you have, and they are better people for it. I have never know anyone who regreted waiting but I do know some who regret not waiting.
408762
dont give in to him..... if you're not ready, you're not ready. If he doesnt understand that, hes being selfish and is only thinking about himself. the first person you should be taking care of is you and not anyone else. Make yourself happy  before anyone and everyone will be happier seeing you happy. If you ask me any guy that has to pressure you in doing something you dont wanna do isnt worth your time. its better this way in the long run. Dont lower your standards for anyone or else you are just disapointing yourself. If that was me i would let him know how i feel and if he is still pressuring me, i would drop him cause right off the bat he is thinking "me me me" and not "us"  and it takes 2 to tango. last time i checked it was called being a couple. Hope this is helpful. Much love
42210
i was 18, we were together 4 years. hun, your body is not ready to have sex yet. and you know what, you can only lose your virginity once. it never comes back, you never have a second chance. if you have sex with this guy, i GUARANTEE you he will break up with you shortly afterwards. then, when you are older you meet the one, you get serious. you cannot lie and say you are a virgin, cause once you have sex he'll be able to tell. a man will respect you so much more if you hold out (in the long run). it's hard to tell whose the one to lose your virginity too the only way to make sure is to make them wait, and wait and wait. it will be worth it. i started dating my fiance at your age and made him wait 4 years. he has even told me if i would have given it up easy he wouldn't have respected me and we wouldn't still be together. people may pick on you but that's normal in school. i guarentee you these people picking on you are gonna end up with a std or pregnant before you get out of high school! another thing to look at... you start at 14.  even if  you have sex with people after 6 months to a year cause you feel so strong about them. now that doesn't work out because guys at this age are all about the sex and having it with as many girls as possible. that is 1 to 2 people a year you have sex with. no big deal to you now but imagine when your 25, 30! hun just do your self a favor, put your head in those books, become a strong independant woman and worry about the sex later. the emotional part of sex lasts longer. it takes minutes to lose your virginity and it may be something you regret the rest of your life.\nI am 21! i'm not old, just seen all my friends make the wrong decision and had to listen to them bitch about it all the time.
673123
Do not have sex until you are ready.  If he truly cares about you, he will not pressure you to do something you are uncomfortable with.
1032214
Don't have sex with him right away. Make him respect you for you. Not just to have sex. Sometimes you have to play hard to make him realize your the one and different.
870201
This is how I feel about it ...\n\nYou should stay a virgin till you're married.\nGod intended it to be that way.\nBut many, MANY people abuse that.\nAnd God looks down on those people.\n\nYou don't just give your virginity to just anybody.\nIt is the best present you can give your future husband.\nIt is you... it is all of you.\n\nIf you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.\nYou'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.\nIt won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.\n\nSex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.\nIt takes two very mature people.\nYou do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.\nMost people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.\n\nI am a virgin myself. I have a boyfriend of 9 months that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
646695
your boyfriend has probably said that to a lot of girls. there is physical pain, but I think that you will find more emotional pain from it. Wait- at least a little while...this is a serious decision and you virginity is something that you cannot get back.
440000
If you feel you're not ready, don't let the feelings of 'loss' cloud the way you actually feel. If you're being pressured to have sex when you're not ready for it, and he's leaving you because he disrespects your choice, he's not ready for someone like you! It might hurt now...but if having sex with you is the ONLY reason he wants to be with you, sorry, dear girl, but there's probably someone out there who will treat you with at least the same respect that you have for yourself.
423441
I take it that you've already told him you weren't a virgin.\n\nListen, your virginity is something that you only have once.  It should be something to be proud of, not ashamed of...especially this day and age.\n\nI hope that you are with someone who will help you take this at your own pace.
910850
So, you're a virgin? Hold up. That is something really, really special, and in my opinion, you do not want to lose it through some hook up. Sounds like this guy has major commitment issues, and just wants to get in your pants. I mean, hell, he even admitted that he is "awful at having a girlfriend." Sounds like he's trying to seduce you.\n\nYou really need to think about what you want. You need to realize that it is a very possible situation that he could have sex with you, then completely ignore you/leave you. Either that or you guys try to work out a relationship and it fizzles. These are very possible outcomes, and if you want to have sex with him, you need to be prepared for the outcomes. If you want to see him again, but don't want to have sex, you need to be vocal about your needs. You need to actively tell him "I don't want you to touch me here, etc, otherwise I'm leaving." He needs to respect you, and he has no right to touch you where you don't want to be touched. \n\nWhat is this bit about him having sex for only 20 minutes? What? Is he a virgin or not? Sounds like he had sex but he is just trying to down-play it so he can tell you he wants to lose it to you. Sorry, but that just sounds like another way to get you into bed. \n\nIt sounds like if you two get together again, something might accidently happen. When things heat up like that, you might end up doing something you didn't intend to do. I just want to really emphasis how important your virginity is, and you really need to keep it for something special. You will always remember your first time. Is this how you want to remember it? \n\nIf you do decide to have sex, please use birth control & condoms. And think hard about this, because this guy doesn't sound like he would be staying.\n\nGood luck.
513285
sadly, thats about the going time for sex now. If she pretended to be a virgin, the whole thing was based on a lie. My advice would be to leave her alone. He was a virgin, and sadly, he'll always remember her. Just tell him that there are plenty more people out there who are better and just to wait for the right one next time.
222424
I think you are mature and caring, and kudos to you for not taking this guy's virginity before breaking up with him.  (Would that more guys would act this way toward their girlfriends!)  Good for you, also, for knowing that you are not ready to make this commitment.\n\nIt's good to be honest with him and share your concerns about racism, about your need for security, and so forth.  Of course he'll be heartbroken, but now it's up to him to deal with it, and I hope he deals with it well.  I also hope someday he'll become strong enough to stand up to his family and pair up with whichever girl or woman he wishes, regardless of race.  I hope that when you are ready to marry, that your man's family will love you too, but if they don't, that he'll be strong enough to ignore his family's wishes and stand beside you, and you'll stand beside him.\n\nDo you know the song "Society's Child"?