ok gay guys, what was it like when you came out of the closet?
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well i am a freshman in high school and so is my boyfriend and he was as straight as they come but i keep looking at him and dreaming and wondering what it would be like if we were dating but i didnt have to any longer because one day we were in our german class and we had a free 15 minutes before the bell rang to go to our next class. he said " john i have to tell you something.... i might be gay." he sounded like he was about to cry and i could tell he was if i didnt say anything he was cause he started tearing up and my heart was pounding out of my chest because this is the man of my dreams and i was waiting for this day to come. so i calmy said "you think or you know?" he said" i... am. i waited so long but i couldnt think of a posible alternate answer or person to tell. but please dont tell. i said "i promice" then i finally had the guts to ask him" john would you date someone like me?" i was about to die when i heard his responce . he said " i would. you are a great person and i would really like to date a person like you. i wanted to tell you this for so long and now i can..... i love you.. i love you so much" now i was on the verge of dying but i gathered up all of the courage i had and said meaningfully"i love you more" and in front of everyone we kissed till our teacher said " Pack up!!!" i was so dang happy! i finally got the man of my dreams and it has been 3 monthes and our relationship is stronger than ever and he said" Johnathan i want to be with you forever" so i said again. " i do to and we kissed for the longest time". so coming out of the closet was no big deal for me i just had to have the right boost. same with you. just wait for the oppertune moment and dont rush.
862306
YES!!! I held off getting into relationships for 7 years until I could finally move out and transition. Now that I'm transitioning no one will date me. It sucks...
683120
Probably just curious. Most women and men have some sort of a homosexual experience before they reach adulthood. It is totally natural. I had my own experience similar to that when I was right at your age. I am not gay now and never was. It is just a part of growing up. I am just sorry you had to learn about this from a stranger.
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Is it about friendship or relationship?  Knowing that you are gay is big enough already, don't add that you are in love with him to the mix.  It will be too much to handle.  Coming out is hard.  You do risk losing him as a friend also.  Not everyone's upbringing has prepared them for this.  If he is a true friend with a reasonable upbringing, he will still be your friend.
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I figured out that I'm bi when I was 19.  A very good friend of mine had told me that he was, so I started thinking about what was stereotypical b.s. and what was reality.  Like most people, I was raised with the familiar paradigm of "grow up, get married, raise a family."  I figured that was how it would go, after all, guys were hot, so I thought I was straight.  I also wanted to understand what it would be like to know that about myself (being bi), and looked over my life, my likes, dislikes etc.  What I realized was that I'd had opportunities to see women naked, and had always looked.  I'd had several dreams about sex with women (had always blown off those as flukes), and that honestly, I did want to try it.  It took several years until I actually did so, but found that I enjoyed it, and looked forward to the next time.  This is a part of who I am, along with many other things, like my place within my family, my occupation, the sort of friend I am, etc.  I am fully open about it in this format, but only disclose this to close friends in real life.  As to where this leads you, is up to you.  Disclose what you chose to whom you chose.  Don't let others' opinions define you; you are the person God made.  Be yourself, and good luck!
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I know this is a difficult time for you, but just tell them.  If he or she is truly your friend - they will accept you and love you as they already do.  If not, then they were never really your friend anyway and you are better off without them.\n\nComing out is one of the hardest and anguishing experiences anyone can go through.  I was rejected by ALL my childhood "friends", even the 2 I fooled around with during our "experimental" stages, one of which is also gay, but closeted.\n\nDo not despair!  You will make new friends.  People who will accept you for who and what you are - regardless of your sexuality, colour of your skin or religion.  \n\nThis is the 21st century and people just need to get over their phobias and prejudices.  Life is too short.  Live each day like it's your last.  Have fun and enjoy it.  Just remember to always treat and respect yourself, others and especially nature - the same exact way you want to be treated and respected and all will be well.  And don't forget - just LIVE, LIVE, LIVE!
59881
Your question is a very difficult question to answer.  By reading your question it says that you went gay/bi because a girl hurt you really bad and you decided to stay away from females for awhile.  I can understand that.  Now you are saying that you do not want to be gay/bi and that you want to have a family and think that a persons sexual prefrence is a way to get into heaven.(If such a place exists).  From the look of your history I see that you must have liked the men because you have had more of them.  The way I see it you have lived the last six years of you live with a pattern: 1,3,1,3,and? I say continue on and adopt.  Don't put your self in turmoil and remeber the end is only the begining.
589297
I went through this same dilemma. I came out during my sophmore year of highschool. And there was the most drop dead gorgeous guy there. His name was Gary. Let me tell you. Anyways, I wanted to be with him very badly, but did not know how he felt. So I befriended him. We started hanging out, and stuff like that. Well two years went by and still nothing. Well in December of our senior year a bunch of us were out at a  party. His girlfriend was there and everything. (He had this girl for 3 years now) Well I went outside for a smoke, and he followed me outside and complimented me on my new glasses. Ok no big deal. Well we sat there and talked, smoked a few cigs and went back in. My best friend and I decided to get into the hottub. We had been sitting there for about a half hour or so when Gary came in. My best friend got out and went to go get a beer. I mentioned that my shoulder was buggin me from a fall I had taken earlier that week. So he reaches over and starts to rub it. Then we kissed, and ended up ditching the party and ****ed all night long lol. The next day he dumped his girl and him and I have been in a relationship ever since. So even the most straight acting guys may be gay. You just never know!
681988
Unusual, yes, most straight guys I know are freaked out by gay men.  I wish I could find a straight man that is comfortable around gay people.  My best friend (whom I live with) is gay and I would love to find a man that would be comfortable with my best friend .
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Honestly, it was pop culture. Queer Eye, Will and grace. Knowing that what I was, was paletable for mass audiences, I was able to make peace in my own mind with who I was and come out of the closet. I was not the self imposed stereotype I had envisioned in my own mind of what a homo was. They were out there and they were good. And now I try to turn other peoples sterotypes around with my life, They see me, I'm a good, likeable, personable, honest guy who happens to be gay. (apparently I'm most people's token gay) but if I can be proud, out, and a nonthreatening example of a gay guy for a few unexposed people. I've helped the community.
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If she came out of the closet to you, it means she probably has been harboring it inside for a long time. That is probably a very difficult emotion to deal with, Not to mention the fact that she is attracted to you. She is obviously confiding with you on two accounts. Which means she trusts you and feels comfortable with you to offer up this information\n\nThis is a delicate subject. If you're attracted to her as well, you may want to explore the deeper friendship/love/whatever. If you're not and want to just remain friends, I would be supportive of her but just explain that you're not attracted to her like that but that you value her in every other way.\n\nHope it works out. Best of luck.
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I'M NOT GOOD AT THIS BUT I WILL TRY TO HELP YOU OUT...WHEN YOU'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP (if you are) WITH A GAY, HOW DO YOU FEEL?ARE YOU HAPPY?CONTENTED?SECURE?YOU NEED TO WEIGHT THINGS OUT, HOW HIGH IS YOU LEVEL OF HAPPINESS. \nand when you are in a realatonship with a opposite sex, how do you score yourself when it comes to commitment, happiness, security etc.\nIf you feel you are more comfortable with living with the opposite sex then by all means convince yourself to divert your attention to the opposite sex. \nall you need to do is to assess yourself what you really like, what makes you happy...the important thing here to consider is HAPPINESS- YOUR OWN HAPPINESS.If you think you're more happy to be with a gay (anyway, some gays do share deep feelings not just sex- just find the person) then go for it, If you think you're more happy to share your life with the opposite sex (other women too just want sex,sex and sex again) then open your eyes and your heart and start looking.\nGood luck...I hope I helped you in a little way.
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First I feel for your struggle!!!  I have been there, So has many many other gay men.  personally I still notice women. of course I am in the hair industry so it kind of makes since. but still. the best thing to do Is what you are doing NOW. now you will get a t lot of crackpot answers that are only interested in themselves.  but there are some that are honestly trying to help.\n\nthis process will show you that you are not alone in the world!!!  and there is support out there for you. I came out when I was 18  and i am 32 now. it was tough then I can not imagine what is like now. \n\nfigure things out for your self before you tell your parents. My parents wanted me to go to see professional help.\nbecause I was so young (in their eyes).  \n\nplease do not get discourage!!!!  it will get better I promise!!!!  but as humans we are constantly tested throughout our lives.  There is always a solution to our temporary problems. But it does take a lot of courage to be going through what your are. so I applaud you and I'll give you a cyber hug!!!  \n\nlots of hope and inspiration!!!!\n\n-Patrick
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How to tell if you're gay: \n1. If you are over 30 and you have a washboard stomach, you are gay. It means you haven't sucked back enough beer with the boys and rather you've been sucking-off the boys and have spent the rest of your free time doing sit-ups, aerobics, and doing the Oprah diet. \n\n\n\n2. If you have a cat, you are a Flaaaayming gay. A cat is like a dog, but gay: it grooms itself constantly but never scratches itself, has a delicate touch except when it uses its nails, and whines to be fed. And just think about how you call a dog..."Killer, come here! I said get your butt over here!" Now think about how you call a cat... "Bun-bun, come to daddy, snookums!" Jeeezus, you're fit to be framed, you're so gay. \n\n\n\n3. If you suck on lolipops, Ring-Pops, baby-pacifiers, or any such nonsense, rest assured, you are a Gaylord. A straight man only sucks bar-b-q ribs, crab-claws, raw oysters, craw-fish guts, pickled pigs feet, or titties. Anything else and you are in training to suck El Dicko and undeniably gay. \n\n\n\n4. If you refuse to take a dump in a public bathroom or piss in a parking lot, you're in a deep homosexual relationship. A man's world is his bathroom, he defecates and urinates where he pleases.\n\n\n5. If you drink decaf coffee with skim milk, you like a high hard one in the poop-chute. Coffee is to be had strong, black (or with thick, wholesome milk) and full-aroma. A vagina-eating man will never be heard ordering a "Decaf Cafe Latte with Skim" and he will never, ever know what artificial sweetner tastes like. If you've had Nutrasweet in your mouth, you've had a dick there too. \n\n\n\n6. If you know more than six names of colors or four different types of dessert, you might as well be handing out free passes to your bung. A real man doesn't have memory space in his brain to remember all of that crap as well as all the names of all the players in the Major league, NFL, NBA, college ball, PGA, and Nascar. If you can pick out chartreusse or you know what a "fresier" is you're gay. And if you can name ANY type of textile other than denim, you are faggadocious! \n\n\n\n7. If you drive with both hands on the wheel, forget it...you hungry for meat-popsicle. A man only puts both hands on the wheel to honk at a slow driver or to cut the dude off. The rest of the time he needs that hand to change the radio station, eat his hamburger, hold his beer, finger the bi-atch in the passenger seat (whoever she happens to be), or, if he's Latino, talk on his cell-phone. \n\n\n\n8. If you enjoy romantic comedies or French films, mon-frere, vous sonnez le Gay, oui? The only time it is acceptable to watch one of those is with a woman who knows how to reward her man. Watching any of the above films by yourself or with another man is likely to result in SHC (spontaneous homosexual combustion), which is what happens to fags when they flame out too quickly.
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theeinstigator\n1 hour ago\n\n\nReport Abuse\n\n I joined a new gym in a predominantly gay area. I have been getting hit on quite a bit. Should I enjoy this?\nI have also become tired of my girlfriend and have always been very turned on by hot TS girls. Is this normal? If I considered trying the other side, would I be gay?? \n\n9 answers  \n\n\n\ntheeinstigator\n2 hours ago\n\n\nReport Abuse\n\n Why do most gay people harbor so much anger?\nWhy do they feel so angry towards society?
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First you have to be sure about yourself, once you have accepted the fact that you are gay and there is no way of changing the fact then you have to be strong, because over the years to come you will hear all sorts of jokes and comments that are cruel, but are based on ignorance. You have to understand, that you have had time to become used to the idea of being gay, and probably have for some time, but when you come out to your family, this will be the first time they have had it confirmed and it will take them time to get use to it. First level with them, just sit them down and level with them, don't do what most gay people have done in the past including myself and that is to try and hide it, because you can never get away from it. The next thing to do is to be the man that you are, being gay doesn't mean you have to be a pansy, you can still be the man you know you are and the man they thought you where going to be. Move out as soon as you can and avoid contact with them for a few months, this does two things. 1. it gives them time to discuss, fight, backstab and blame each other, without yuo having to hear it or feel guilty about it, because you didn't choose to be gay, you where born that way, and anyone who says other wise is a bloody idiot.\n2. This gives you time to explore your sexuallity without the fear of being caught with your pants down by your parents.\n16 is young, but at 16 I knew I was a raging queer, but it wasn't until I was thirty that I levelled with my family, during this time I explored straight relationships, gay one night stands, sauna's etc... But in the end I faced my fears and relized if I didn't level with my family, I would never have a chance of being happy with my own life and to me my life is the more important that the embarassment I caused my parents. For ten years I have lived in a gay relationship and now my family accept my partner as a part of the family, they now accept that they are not going to get grandchildren but now they have had the time to relize that I hadn't change, I was still the son they had 42 years ago, good luck kid, but careful there are some crazy mother----- out there, but be happy and have fun
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Become Gay.... Other Wise Get Used To It