I have confidence in myself but when it comes to a girl i can't help but be shy.?
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why?....if your a true man then confront that shyness in you.girls are nice to hang with,you have that self-confidence naturally..what you have to do is try to make some girl friend,just friends..talk with them..and here's how to get a girl's attention...offer some help,maybe a friendly favor that most girls ask from boys...be a gentleman and you must have yourself a sense of humor...ok?
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If you aren't that comforatble around girls, get with a shy one so it can seem like you are more brave... =) But if you want to break out of your shell, get with a girl that isn't shy and will always have something to talk about, so you wont have to think about what to talk about.Don't try to get a GF rite now, you should talk to a lot of good girls and get comfortable first, then get a GF.
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You're not a shy guy, but you're not outgoing, either. Okay. I see where you are coming from. You're a "stuck in the middle" kind of guy. Normally, you are probably not nervous, and when a gal starts talking to you, you do not always get sweaty and start ststststuttering. But, you lack the confidence and machismo to just go right up to her and say, "Wow, you're the only good-looking girl that I have seen all day. I'm So-and-So. Mind if I get your number?" and hand over a pen and paper.\n\nYou DO have the right idea, though. It is a clever strategy and worthwhile goal to try to get the women to come up to you, rather than vice versa. But...unless they are practically drooling over you for some reason, like your disarmingly good looks and manly charm, that is not realistically going to happen - am I right?\n\nDepending on the location and situation, there are many different ways to start up the Attraction Game. Building attraction is definitely the most important part of getting anywhere with any woman. You cannot just stroll up to them and say, "Hey, you are like, so totally hot, and I like, like you, you know?" Unless, of course, you can pull it off in a particularly humourous way and get her laughing.\n\nThat's what you need to aim for. Laughter. Do not come across as being outright goofy - just playful. Even the more serious-minded women out there will appreciate a fine sense of humour.\n\nNext time that you see a lovely girl standing around, and you want to talk to her...look at her for a while. People, as you have probably noticed, tend to have a "sixth sense" that just lets them know when they're being watched. She'll probably at least glance over at you. Don't drop your gaze in a panic, though. Instead, smile cheerfully, and - slowly - move your gaze away from her. Don't stop smiling, either. Then glance back at her quickly, and look away again.\n\nWhat's the point of that little exercise? It builds attraction. A lot of our communication as humans is completely nonverbal - it's body language. By looking at her but not freaking out when she looks back, but rather slowly looking away, you're effectively saying: "I'm not a creep, because I am not staring at you. But I AM admiring you."\n\nShe'll probably smile back, or at least her eyes will shine with some degree of recognition. There's your chance. Look at her again - about the same way, just focus on her eyes (always, always, always look into a woman's eyes when greeting or talking with her!) - and stroll right on up to her. Sure - this takes courage. And sure, you are probably worried about being rejected. But don't be. Repeat this mantra through your head: There's no reward without risk.\n\nYou might even become so smooth at this whole thing that she ends up coming over to YOU, wanting to know what is going on. I love it when this happens; it shows me that the lady has some confidence and fire in herself. :)\n\nOnce you get there, say something spontaneous. This could be amusing and playfully-arrogant, like what I mentioned in the beginning of this post. Or, it could be simple and direct: "Hi there. My name is So-and-So. You are?" It sounds crazy, but this is honestly all you have to do. It's that easy. What you have to watch out for here is turning into a wimp - blurting out words randomly without thought, or thinking TOO hard about what to say and therefore saying nothing at all - but remember. You are already there. You've already initiated the conversation, simple as that might have been. Now all that you need to do is keep it up!\n\nAnd just go on from there. Keep a few things in mind if you ask for her number and go on a date:\n\n1. BE CHARMING, but do not become a "girlie-man." *laughs* I mean, don't let her walk all over you or get you sweating and stuttering. Be confident.\n\n2. BE FUNNY, but be mature, t
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I find shy girls far more attractive than boisterous outgoing flirting with everybody girls.  'Course I'm shy too.  But there goes the opposites attract theory.
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Of course! Everyone is attracted to confidence and when you take a leap and make a move, you exude confidence! Listen to that little voice inside and hurry up! Best of luck to you!
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Be verry confident in yourself, if you have to ( think like your crap dont stink) works every time. One other thing DO NOT aproach a girl you like when shes with her friends. They will eat you alive like a pack a wolfs. The girls know what im talk'in about.
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There's really nothing you can do to get over your shyness. You just have to go for what you want. And if that doesn't work out, you just find something new and go for that. Everyone is a little shy once in a while. But you can't let it control your life. I'm sure the girl is really shy too. Just go for it!! What do you have to lose?
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It sounds like you are a really sweet, sensitive girl -- in other words beautiful.   And yes, beauty is everything.  Alright, so you are pleasant to look at.  I know from experience that is a plus when attracting the opposite sex.  There is nothing wrong with being shy, either.  There is a lot out there to be afraid of, it is good to listen to your instincts they will protect you.\n\nJust do me a favor, be a little picky with the guys you will date (you can afford to be).  Don't go for rich, as they will treat you like another possession.  Don't go for beautiful, as you will always be another conquest.  Don't go for arrogant, in a decade all of your peers who did that will either be single moms or bitter women.  Go for the guys who want to get to know you and for whom the physical is a nice bonus.
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Communication is the foundation of any relationship.  You have to break free from your shyness and start talking to these girls that you are interested in.  Do your best to have idle chit chat and you should be able to overcome it pretty easily.  Good Luck!
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Well, you need to get past this 'shyness' 'cause otherwise, you'll be stuck alone...for...quite some time. Unless some girl decides to talk to you first...but usually girls depend on guys to make the first move. Just take up the courage and (if you have someone in mind) go up and talk to her. CASUAL CONVERSATION, not some stupid pick up line...like...if you were a cardoor i'd bang you all night....of course, that's exaggerated. Don't annoy her though...cause that would be bad. Just have some casual conversation and see if she talks back to you and see how it goes. Also, with some girls, you can tell that they like you when they laugh at your stupid (really really really stupid) jokes and no one else is laughing. ALso, if they seek you out in a group, that could mean something.
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the best way to get confidence in your self is to confront your fears head-on.  even if you fail, at least you tried, and you can take solace in that.\n\nby the way, not all girls can read your mind...  but most can.  hee hee!  :)\n\nif you stop looking at them like "girls" and start seeing them as "people", you will find it much easier to deal with them!  ;)
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..Yes there right...(sadly though theres nothing wrong with being shy)..that is untill it interfers with your life & slowly engripts U in it's will.\nBut it sometimes just takes time...time to say:Y do I let this dominate me,I can get rid of it...face it in battle & win! If she can..then incourage her.\nIm shy to,but sometimes being shy can work to your advantage.\n-megnalon
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Thats your first problem no confidence, girls can "smell" that... be more confident man.
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practice, lol, it seems difficult, but the more you try, the better you will get, the more comfortable you become, the happier you become.  Guys look for confidence in a girl, one who can express them self.  You may be able to take little steps in your efforts to talk eloquently to him, dont worry though, shyness wears off, its like you are a Caterpillar becoming a butterfly
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awww...how adorable!i wish i had a guy that felt like you!i would really love that!especially right now...but anywho, back to your question....what you should try to do now is to be more yourself to her and i bet anything she will more open to you!but hey dont get me wrong shy shouldnt be an issue here...
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You just need to boost your own self confidence a bit. Think to yourself that you are more then worthy and the best thing out there. When you believe this there will be no problem.
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It's hard when  your shy to talk to girls..but if you wanna girlfriend you have to get over this...start out small..start with saying just hi to a girl  you like..then start with a hi how are you..then add a little more at a time you'll soon realize it's not as hard to talk to people as you think...a lot of women like shy guys...you'll find some one just be yourself..