How do I stop cheating in my heart?
466197
Everyone has dreams..........just don't act on them.  We are all human...
448680
OK forget getting with someone else- the issue WILL resurface if you don't deal with it. First of all cut off all contact (for a while at least). It doesn't help to keep calling each other. If you have to see each other (like at school or work) then make a concerted effort to change the way you communicate with them. Second, yeah forgiveness- you have to go over all the bad stuff that happened but once you forgive them the burden is lifted and you're free-er. You will stop hurting a whole lot after you manage to let go and forgive, trust me. Next figure out what happened and make a decision that you will never be in that type of relationship again- if the person cheated you will feel like you have no control over that kind of situation and it could be true to an extent but it's important to realise that cheating is about them not knowing their worth or having self respect and know that as long as you do have self respect and know your worth you will never be hurt in quite the same way by a cheater (or anyone else). Get busy. Get a life that doesn't involve your ex or things you used to do together. Have fun, spend time with your friends again and find out what's important to you- minus your ex. Above all else- be totally healed before you consider getting with someone else and if you do meet someone and you're not ready then just let them know and if they like you enough they'll wait til your feeling better about the whole dating thing, if not forget them.
186266
The first thing you have to do is ask yourself if you are ok with your guy cheating on you.  If not, forget him and find someone new.  Remember that no matter what he/she tells you, if they cheat with you, they will cheat on ya.
480818
You know the the differences when a man is cheating; when they feel they have to hide what they are doing when something is wrong.  At the same time what are you going to do. Guys always do what they want; they have control cause we let them. If you love him to the best of your ability; then you should have no regrets if you want to leave. It about control, build your support group around you. It all stops with you. Its going to be a time when you feel like you have nothing to lose - if he's already gone. IT don't have to be that way, life is what you make it. Besides its the begining of spring time; the parties are jumping
631730
Basically stop listening. Give him the "yea, whatever", and most important don't let it bother you when he says it. He has a guilty conscience. If you want to let him off the hook that's up to you, but you really need to be aware that not only does he cheat, but he showed you he lies, and to top it off, he avoids responsibility by turning it on you. Others will see this. The more you try and stop him the more credence and attention he gets. \n\nGood luck with this charmer!
1107183
Find a real man.If he is going to cheat on you now, he will always cheat on you.I think you already know what to do but need to hear it from others.Please don't be treated this way.You are a beautiful , faithful person and don't deserve to be treated like a mat.
228749
Leave him.  I'm normally not into giving flat-out answers, but this time I will.  The relationship is clearly toast.  If he can't get over it, then your cheating basically ended the relationship, and once the trust is gone, the relationship is gone.  That's one of the few laws of relationships- no trust, no dice.  Just let it go, start over, and don't mess up next time around.
169791
Read the writing on the wall. If it walks like a duck, and talks like a duck, it's a cheating husband. You are lucky that he is an ex now, though. If you feel like he cheated, then he DID. Plain and simple. Trust your intuition, a female's intuition is a very powerful thing. Getting over the hurt? Well, that is a hard one. . .You've been betrayed. Lean on the support of friends and family ALOT. Talk about it ALOT to people who will actually listen. Buy a little notebook and spill your guts out and cry as you write in it every night before bed. A therapist can help, but if you have good friends and family, then why waste the money???
954178
You need to break up. Its never going to be the way it was. There is no trust anymore, and she will always wonder in the back of her mind if your lying, if your cheating again, or if she can believe anything u tell her.  Its hard to trust a person who betrayed you when they were supposed to love u.  I dont think theres anything you can do to fix it except break up and move on.  And honestly .... how can u be mad, there are reactions for every reaction.  Did u really think she was going to be able to forgive u and forget... please.... no. Nobody every forgives and forgets for a cheater. They can forgive... but they can never forget!
235414
People can't control it if they are in love with someone, but if someone is cheating on you then you need to set some respect for yourself. I understand that people make mistakes, but more than once is too many times. You deserve better than that if you are good to him. If he really loves you then he should have no reason to cheat on you. You need to draw the line somewhere because if he is always going to cheat then you should find someone you can trust and who respects you more than that. It will be hard moving on, but it will even be harder living your life with someone who does not respect you and who you can't trust.
631252
I highly suggest that you break up with her already since you sound serious about cheating on her. You should not heart her if in your mind it's already over just let her go without hurting her any more than you have to. If you ever really cared about her don't do something that you know is gonna cause her more pain even if the relationship is in a bad place.
664201
Emotional cheating hurts just as much. But, I don't have enough information to tell if what you did was emotional cheating. \n\nYou have a decision to make... you can stay married and miserable. You can try to get your husband to counseling, stay married, and have a chance at being happy. You can get divorced and try to go back to this guy and find that he wants you, too. You can get divorced, go back to this guy, and find that he doesn't want you. Or, you can get divorced and leave both of them in the past. \n\nI recommend that you try to get to counseling with your husband. Think about it... if he wasn't the way he is, and if you weren't the way you are, then wouldn't you be a lot happier? Wouldn't there be a good chance that you wouldn't think about the other guy so much?\n\nThere are bigger problems in your marriage than a guy that you still think about.
306204
Sorry but you don't cheap on anyone that you supposedly love.  Spare him the heartache again if he knows that you cheated.  Put yourself in his shoes, cuz I know you wouldn't like it if he cheated on you.  Move on.....
1110517
If you truly feel that it is up to you, then make your decision based on your feelings, but remember to apply the entire story to your decision.  In other words ... I have known people who have gone back to cheating spouses, and have built good relationships from them, but both people had to change from their selfish ways to ways that promoted selflessness.  The more selfless they became, the better the relationship worked.\n\nI'm not sure that will work ... I would tell you to follow your heart, but the heart is prone to evil and to the world.  If it is not your fault that he cheated (which it never is), but you think you should take him back ... I would do it.  Despite what the world teaches, infidelity by way of affairs is not the worse thing that can happen to a faithful spouse.\n\nBe well, and Love with all of your heart.  You're greatest reward is not on earth.
1072986
oooo God honey im so sorry i hate when this happens! just umm keep all things possible. try keeping yourself busy out of sight out of mind.. if you feel hes cheating or u know he is dont you sit back and get hurt you go out there and be dirty too! and you will see a change in him, if not put him out or just keep doing what you are doing
1081352
I was in the same situation. If you still have feelings for him sad to say they are not going to go away overnight. Start detaching yourself emotionally. The kind of love you feel for him can be like an addiction to you. So like any addict you just need to wean yourself off of him and move on to greener pastures. People will say just quit him cold turkey. Easier said than done. Be true to your needs and desires and always be honest with yourself. \n\nUs women always have a way of lying to ourselves about our situations. Tell yourself everyday I married a lying, deceitful, manipulative bastard and I will be leaving his ass soon. Don't beat yourself up if you still want to have sex with him. Do it with no guilt. He is your husband after all so it is not wrong. \n\nPut yourself in motion. Start picturing life without him and make plans to get out. The best way is to start dating again. Don't tell his ass nothing. Look for a new place to live. Find a divorce lawyer and then take his ass for all he is worth. Let him have his piece on the side and never deprive yourself of anything. If you follow these simple steps you will have successfully weened yourself off his no good ass and moved on. \n\nYou'll also feel much much stronger for the experience and will look at men in a new light. Trust me. Try being a playette for a while. It is good for you. Just be safe!
249385
Cheating!  And look what's become of you as a result of being with a person you don't, and should not trust.  You cannot stop someone from cheating.  You can however control yourself. Time to move along.  Better to be alone than to be driven to insane behavior.  Sure relationships require work, but not hard labor.  Is this how you want to live you life worrying and snooping?  There really are honest, true men out there, and there is one waiting for you.