i made a mistake, lost my girl of 5 years, she rebounded immediately will this work?
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If you Love her then you will let her go.
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That dude Chris is right, if anything absence makes the heart grow fonder, and she'll come to you, if not, being a pathetic sack of crap, and crying around her all day will not make the situation better.  Distract yourself and move on... I would suggest booze in the distraction department.
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My husband of 5 years.Left several months ago.I was with him since i was 15, So, to say i was devastated is an understatement!\n\nFirst of all, Friends like you are priceless during such a difficult time such as this.She may not see that right now because she is consumed by grief.But, she will eventually!!\nMy best advice for you to help her is,Dont let her spend soo much free time alone.Make sure she is getting out everyday and continuing the routine of her daily life!! As for "going out" make sure you try to have a girls night as often as possible, the more she gets out there, the more she will realize that there is life after a break-up.\nMake sure, that you are a good sounding board to her.Regardless if she repeats herself over and over.I know it can be annyoing, but let her get it out!! Not only would it be theraputic she may even be able to work out the problem and let go. good luck
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keep your head up.that's what happens when u lose your first love.but don't worry,it will be hard to get over her but you Are capable of finding someone Better.Trust me.the world hasn't ended Brother.Keep you head up.and don't call or contact her EVER!.KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!!
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"It didn't go over well", huh ?  You mean that SHE broke up with you and you dabbled around with someone else, then you two got back together and she is ticked off ?  if that's what you are saying, then she is merely not in control of the Green-Eyed Monster.  You see, what she meant by breaking up with you was "See ?  See how much you will miss me ?  See how empty your life is without me ?" ....she didn't mean that you two were really "broken up" - it was just a test for you to see how important SHE was to you and when you went on to someone else,  - WELL - that wasn't exactly in her plans.  And she is hurt and she is angry.\n\nWell, you are not responsible for either emotion that she is feeling, although it would not hurt if you understood them.  She did this to herself.  You can empathize that she feels bad that you were able to so quickly "replace" her (because that is what she feels....and, to tell the truth....that is what happend.)  We human beings don't like to think that we are easily replaceable.  But, indeed, we are.  (Ah yes, for all our talk about "soulmates" the truth of the matter is that many people can be our "soulmate" and that means it is not quite so much destiny as timing.)  She may well have expected you to pine away after her and when you did not, she is angry.\n\nLife is all about growing up - all the way until we die.  You both have gone through an episode that should have taught you both some lessons - different lessons than the other could have learned.  Now you are back together and going forward, hopefully not backward.  (She is looking backward, by the way.)\n\nAnd, as a side note, this idea of full disclosure - telling new girlfriends or boyfriends about your past - not a good idea.  Not particularly respectful of the people in the relationships in your past.  The same holds true for interim relationships - you weren't "with" your current girlfriend during the time you were broken up, you should not share details about whatever you did in your interim relationship.  It is not her business and it is disrespectful to the other girl.  (None of this "oh, if you loved me you would share with me" - see what it got you ?  She's pissed.)\n\nAnd no, it wasn't cheating.
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Recover by turning around and walking away.. then wait for her to call you to apologize.\nif she never calls, she's a c**k tease. don't waste your time.
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Let yourself grieve first, when your alone.  Then surround yourself with good friends and go out.  Try not to have a rebound chick cause it could make you miss her more.  Just go do things for yourself and allow yourself to grieve. LOL!  : )
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It depends on why you broke up.  Did you break up with her or her with you?  Was there infidelity involved?\n\nUnfortunately I do not have enough info from your question to help you, other than the regular - Send flowers.... I made a mistake... Beg...etc
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if she was hesitating.. it wouldnt have been immediate. go ahead, call her. even if it doesnt work out.. its not the end of the world
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May all work out for you in the end. You and your daughter are in my thoughts.\n\n<As of Feb 7, 2006>\nLife's a tough thing. It takes only a few seconds for disaster to cave in all around you, but to dig your way out takes what seems like an eternity. Anyways, I'm glad to hear that the worst is over, and that both of you are getting well. Please continue these updates on the comments as your situation develops; I want to stay in the know on this.\n\n<As of Feb 8, 2006>\nLook's like you've gotten yourselves out of a tough bind! I'm glad to hear that things are looking up after a grueling ordeal. When someone that you love is hurt, it's tough on the mind, body, and heart, and it gets even worse if you happen to feel it, too. You and your daughter have shown great courage and strength throughout this, and I'm glad that all of us here have been able to help you out in your time of need in one way or another. Try not to overexert yourselves if you're not feeling as well as you were prior to this accident, and I hope that what remains of the road to recovery comes with plenty of shortcuts! ^_^
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look, you made an honest mistake, i mean from the sound of things, it came from the right place. grow a bit of a spine and admit to her that what you did was wrong, but explain to her how what she did made you feel; that maybe she should have gone about it in a different way. don't beat yourself that much over it, you are only human and will make some mistakes, especially with those you love.
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go for it im sure she will get over it. Just becareful cuz maybe he is just on the rebound from her and you dont need to get hurt.
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Five Ways To Win Her Back\n\nAdmit it: You messed up. You said or did something to drive away the most beautiful girl in the world, and now you want her back. But here's the rub: She's moved on, or at least appears to be going on with her life, living and loving it up with guys who happen not to be you. So what do you do to get back into her good graces without completely throwing your pride out of the window? How do you repair the rift and still remain a "man's man"?\nReach Out\n\nYears ago, a guy would have had to stumble through an uncomfortable phone call or write an embarrassing letter to reestablish the lines of communication with his lost love. These days, sending your ex an email is the easiest way to go. It's a quick and modern way to exchange light-hearted communications and your girl won't think you're groveling if you dash off a quick: "How's it going?"\nBe Contrite\n\nI know, I know. Admitting you're wrong is sometimes hard to do, but this simple technique goes a long way in showing a woman that you care. After you've reestablished the lines of communication, drop a few hints. Phrases like: "I'm sorry I said that" or "I didn't mean for that to happen" cause a woman to want to listen more to what you say to her. By the time you swoop in for the kill, she'll be ready. Unless of course you really screwed up ...\nBe Available\n\nIf you followed the methods above, the two of you should at least be on friendly terms. The next way to get her to warm to you is by showing her that you're there. If she needs a ride somewhere, take her; if she's moving, handle the biggest of the boxes; if she's fighting with her mom, listen to her whine about it.\n\nMaking yourself available doesn't mean taking over the role of "girlfriend". It means that when the girl you love has a problem, or needs a shoulder to cry on, it'll be your shoulder she cries on - not some other guy's.\nBe Busy\n\nWait! Didn't I just say to be available? Isn't that a contradiction? Not at all. Even though you're following the rules to get her back, you don't want her to know that you're trying to get her back--not just yet anyway. Go out with your buddies and continue your normal activities. That way, when you speak with her, you'll have funny stories to tell and new things to add to the conversation. If you're waiting by your phone or surfing the 'net checking your email every five seconds, then you'll have no great adventures to impress her with. And then she'll think you're lame.\nBe old-fashioned\n\nYour ex should be on her way to being your "next" again. Once things have progressed and you're sure she likes you again, ask her out. Think hard: what does she like to do? Perhaps your lady doesn't like the usual movie/dinner/clubbing scene--in that case, get creative. If she likes theme parks, rekindle those flames on her favorite roller coaster. If she's a reader, find out when her favorite author is in town and take your ex to see them. Is she a horror film buff? Take her to a film festival or rent the classics and stay in for the night. Make sure you've got her favorite snacks and drinks on hand.\nBe yourself\n\nDespite everything listed above, all a guy really has to get back with his ex is, well, himself. Turn on at full speed whatever you had that made her want you the first time. Remind her of how great things were in the beginning. Mention highlights that give the both of you good feelings. Don't be afraid to let her know that you had some of your best times with her, and that you wouldn't mind having more good times.\n\nWhile you think it might be easier to hold onto your pride, move on and forget about the one who got away, why chance it? Listening to your friends who think you're a big jerk for trying to work things out will just keep you alone, or w
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If you are fighting all the time and you truly feel that there is no fixing it then maybe it is time to end things. It will certainly not be easy but in the long run I think both of you will be happier. I don't recommend, however, jumping into a relationship right away with the girl that you have known for a long time. Take some time and be single for a while. If the girl you have known for a while is truly someone you would like to be with then wait until she won't be just a rebound girl. Go out and have fun and give yourself time to get over your five year relationship.
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think about the reasons you spilt up.   if you got back together it could all repeat it self  i would stick with the new girlfriend never go backwards move forward   good luck
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This may not be possible.  How hurt was she?\nIf you are serious, look for her.  Try to talk to her in person.  Make sure she understands that you are not a player and that you really do feel sorry for any grief you may have caused.\nLet her know that you want quality time, not just a casual encounter.  Spill you guts.  Confess to your stupidity and lack of sensitivity.  Beg if necessary.\nOf if you don't feel that strongly about her, forget it.  It was never meant to be.
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It pretty much depends on how you lost him or her. If it was your idea call him or her up and have lunch. If it was your love's idea ask a mutual friend to step in and set something up. Good luck.