do you think a person is born gay or its a choice?
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Because God's Word (the Bible) forbids homosexual acts, it is clear that it is a choice.  For some it may be a very enticing choice, but it is still a choice.\n\nFor more info, see:\nhttp://www.onewayonly.net/ishomosexualityasin.html\nhttp://www.onewayonly.net/asoberingthought.html
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still asking this question?? there is NO SUCH thing as being "born gay"...and no concrete scientific proof, either. just another lie and excuse people like to use to explain why they do what they want to do! people do experiment with same sex, and get hooked. known people who've told me this, and now they're "full blown" homosexuals.
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I personally believe that it is a combination of genetics and environment.  It is never a "choice"...  Some people are predisposed to being attracted to the same sex by genetics, and other people are predisposed only under certain conditions.  There are also people that no matter what happens to them in their life they will never ever be gay.  Being gay is what arouses a person.  For me personally, a man does nothing for me... but a woman I find very arousing.  Its just the way I am, and no matter how I try to imagine myself with a man, it just does not work.  It feels very wrong and uncomfortable.  It does not feel natural.  A woman feels very natural, as Im sure it feels to a straight man.  I am a follower of God, and I believe that as long as we love, we are good.  Hate is what opposes the Lord, not love, no matter what form... whether I love my dog, my child, or my girlfriend, its still love, and only good can come from love.  Hate, ignorance, deception and misunderstanding are not good, therefore they are not following the Lord's path.  \n\nThere are gay animals by the way.. have you ever heard of the Bonobo Chimpanzees?  Look them up and their sexual behavior... you will find they are the most sexually free of any species on the planet, it doesnt matter if you are male or female.
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I don't think anyone who is gay or transgendered is going to say it was a choice.  Who would choose a life where they will be perpetually picked on by ignorant and judgemental ass_holes?   We are attracted to whomever we are attracted to.  \n\nJust as some like tall, others like small, some like skinny, some like soft.  You can tell someone who likes skinny women that fat women are great too..and they can try to choose a big gal, but in the end it just doesn't turn them on.\n\nThere is now a growing number of studies pointing to differences in the brain of gay people.  This would indeed support the theory that sexual orientation is something people are born with.  As to transgendered, they often CAN find genetic differences.\n\nWe know that genetics is a tricky thing, just as two children born of the same parents can be totally different, and some babies born healthy and some born with extra toes and other variations, why is it so hard to believe that variations in sexual identity could be genetic too?\n\nAgain.. I don't think many would choose a lifestyle that puts them at risk or is going to be full of extra difficulties.   They are who they are.\n\nAnd even if it were a choice, it doesn't hurt me or you.  We each choose our partners, just because theirs is the same sex, should not be anyone else's business.\n\nIF there is a God, and if he's truly going to judge someone negatively for homosexuality (and I don't believe that at all), then wouldn't be the homosexual who answers to God?  So what gives humans the right to play God?
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You're right!!! If you could "choose" to be gay then you would be bi because you'd would like women and men,  only stupid people think that it's a choice...
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Well, yes... Um... I am gay so...\n\nI don't believe I was born anything, hell, I don't believe any of us are born straight or gay. When you are first born you aren't attracted to men or women, something happens along the way that may cause attraction to either sex. It is not a person's choice to be gay or straight, something during your life may have caused you to go either way.\n\nI myself had sexual encounters with both men and women, from an early age. So, in that I discovered that being attracted to a guy wasn't all bad. I mean, there was nothing wrong with it because a man is a person. Just as much as a woman, a man could physically and emotionally effect me in such a way that attracted me to them. As time moved on, girls started to bore me... For some reason or other. I've never had a boyfriend or anything but I've had many girlfriends, in which I never felt that drive to have sex with them. So... my... relationships didn't last.\n\nSo... well... I believe it is neither.\n\nYou aren't born gay and it isn't a choice. Something just happens along the way, not something bad really... Some people are just more open to different ideas, these people who are open risk becoming gay or considered "odd" ... They can't help but move against the norm, for they are not normal. And there is nothing wrong with that in the least.
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I do not understand how a persons sexual preference has anything to do with the upbringing of children.  \n\nI am not gay, but my sexual preference being with my husband has nothing to do with how we raise our son.\n\nIf our son is gay, would we then be expelled as parents and have our child handed over to a gay couple?  Would they not be best to raise my son if he is gay and they are gay?  I am hetersexual so therefore I would only be given permission by society to bring up my heterosexual son but not a gay son?  \n\nPlease I do not understand this judgement.  I know that to be gay you are born gay.  The time the gay person takes to determine their sexual preference would be the same as a heterosexual takes to determine their own.  We mature at different rates or our morals and beliefs may hinder us from making any decision choosing to remain single for life, all because of anothers judgements.  I fail to see how this influences criminal behaviour.  If gays were so criminal then our prisons would only be filled with gays.  Not so. \n\nNo person can influence a sexual preference, but yes can certainly influence sexual behaviour.  Big difference I would say.  Many have been manipulated in to believing that they were gay when in fact they were not.  This is just another victim of self and then society.  We have choices, and being heterosexual or gay does not change the human factor of these choices.  We are who we are being not who we are doing.\n\nBlessings be yours in peace and light\nHarriett Potty ;)
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That is your choice.  A person always has a choice about who they want in there life, what they like and don't like and that's o.k. It's called being HUMAN.
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being gay is not a choose.  If it were a choose I would be straight, when I was growing up I prayed everyday for God to make me straight but now I;ve learned to be happy with myself and who I am.
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We are born who we are.I see your point of view however, i disagree somewhat. Based on your  premise isn't being straight also a psychological disorder?Gays,Lesbians etc. are born from straight persons.These variations exist throughout nature.Take  a look at some of our other animal brethren to see it.Former anything can change by choosing to. Once this country was populated by child brides.It was considered a good thing to give your daughter to a well established male.Over time,we have come  to understand that such unions placed the girls at an unfair advantage. We have now enacted laws to protect our young from this.To allow pedophilia breaks said laws. Thanks for sharing your opinion.Respectfully,Will
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I've seen different circumstances:\n1. A lot of gay ppl I truly believe they were born gay. These ppl state they had began having feelings for their same sex at a young age exactly like heteorsexuals begin to experience attractions for the opposite sex at a young age.\n2. I've known ppl who have made a conscious choice for many different reasons. I once knew a lesbian who was ganged raped and was never able to regain her faith in men again. She then went into a life-long relationship with a woman and was very happy.\n3. I've known many bisexual ppl that say it is the person they are attracted to. These ppl believe in more freedom with their sexuality and don't like to be constrained. I can't say if this is their choice or not because they are genuinely 'attracted' to the person they love regardless of the gender.\n\nAs for the 'cause', I really don't know the answer to that. \n\nI don't know why ppl tend mold the homosexual argument around whether or not it is a choice.It doesn't matter if ppl choose or not to be gay or not because, as I listed above, ppl have their reasons. And two ppl of the same sex sharing an intimate relationship does not harm anyone so I don't understand what all the fuss is about.\n\nA lot of heteorsexual society likes to compare accepting gay unions to accepting things like incest or I've even heard marrying an animal. This is the most absurd argument and these ppl miss the pt that being gay doesn't harm anyone as long as it is between two consenting adults. If those ppl believe it is a sin then THEY shouldn'd do it. I don't know where they get off dictating their definition of sin to other ppl.\n\nIrregardless, sorry I can't answer your exact question but I don't think anyone but GOD knows why he created gay ppl.
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Oh god... People STILL think that being gay is a choice??  People tease you, beat you up, you're the brunt of all jokes, people fight to make sure you don't get married... Why would anyone in the right mind choose a life like that?  Trust me, it's not a choice.
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Well biologically, Yes.  If being Gay is genetic, it is a defective Gene because Gays cant reproduce naturally with eachother.  I personally think being gay is a personal choice and not genetic.
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I think its been established that homosexuality is not a choice.  If it was, you wouldn't have gay guys committing suicide because they can't reconcile their religious beliefs with their sexual orientation.
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being gay? no.  you are,or are not.\n\nacting on same sex attraction?  yes.\n\nnot acting on same sex attraction to please others, rather than living the way you're built to? also a choice, but a stupid one.
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I think they are born, many of those who "change" at later stage of their lives have always been gay they just didn´t want to accept it and be brave enough to tell the whole world about it, indeed it was originated when they were procreated.... =)
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dear you have yourself answered your own question. you knew that you were gay at puberty and that's how it goes. we are born this special way. it isnt any thing to choose. tell me one thing why would anyone choose to be gtay when society at large is biased against us/hates us?? \n\nwe dont choose to be what we are. we are born what we are. we can choose to polish ourselves and be better human beings, but not change the way we inherently are.