BF of 8 yrs has been Cheating for 2 yrs!!!?
456385
did you ever hear plenty of fish in the sea, get rid of him, if he has been doing this to you the whole time you have been togeth, what makes you think marraige will change that?
493983
#!----VERY IMPORTANT.  I know from experience.  If you suspect your guy is cheating, don't...I repeat, don't let him know you are suspcicious.  If you confront him, he will take his measures to hide the cheating to a higher level, and it will be more difficult for you to find the truth.  Cheaters get lazy after a while.  Solid clues will come to the top and you will be able to find out the longer you let him think all is well.  Take advantage of his laziness and carelessness.  It will happen.  Then, when you have solid evidence, throw it in his face and give him all the HE!! he deserves.  Don't commmit a crime though.
635855
He sounds like he never grew up.  I have a son-in-law who is the same exact way.  In fact I'm wondering if you are my daughter who is writing this.  Whether or not he's cheating with another girl or not he's cheating your children and you out of a family life together.
646505
The reason is that he is probably still cheating on you. And thinks you maybe doing the same. It's called a guilty conscience.
259682
Dump him. I've been cheated on before. I'll never put up with it again.
194505
If you two are close and serious about this relationship even love one another? then just let him know that you wont put up with it. and everything will come out sooner or later. maybe with that he'll ether stop cheating on you or cut him out if he is when you find out!
1032025
"Kinda cheated"?  LOL.  Anyway, being young teens and in a relationship with "cheating" for 11 months makes me think you should both move on.  Just my 2 cents.
138079
i think he's gotta commitment problem. if u go w/ him, he shows signs of being a potential cheater. go 4 someone else! u can do better.
362786
He's definitely cheating on you, dump him
706098
well staying in the relationship cuz of transportation reasons is really a bad and probably unhappy choice. You definintely need to break it off with him.he's not respecting you and even if he hasn't physically cheated on you he is still cheating by obviously saying stuff to girls he doesn't want you to know. in 2002 when I was with my b/f at the time,I was in his dorm and I was sitting on the bed and he had this chart thing on the comp, it had everyone's phone number and he freaked out at me, cuz I was looking at the screen and it was because there was a girl's phone number on there. I wouldn't have thought anything of it but he was feeling guilty.he eventually told me everything a week or so later.Everything started to make sense. he said ya know how I've been acting strange. well an example was I was talking to him on the phone and he said he was going out and I said oh what are you doing and he said GOING OUT! and I'm like omg wtf? ya know and it hurt,again that was him feeling bad about what he was doing.I mean what wrote seems a lot like what my friend Tom does.he's in a kinda controling relationship.he actually got married a year ago,definitely too young and he does say stuff to me that he shouldn't,so he sneaks around too on the phone and internet.You already saw a pic of a girls butt on his phone.that's cheating enough.You need to be like I'm letting you go.You obviously don't want 2 be here and you don't respect me and you don't care enough so you don't have to sneak around anymore cuz I'm threw with you. and then tell him to leave. ya gotta be tough like that cuz if you're not you might break down and let him back in.block his number and any communincation with him cuz it seems you might just go back to him.I dunno how old you guys are,but most likely he's gonna stay this way,unless he's a teenager and still young.Don't try to change him.just be done with him.Guys won't change unless they want to and you can't make them want to change.so many girls waste their time trying to change guys and it won't work and all it does is hurt you.Ya gotta just try and be happy and I'm sure another guy will come along.Just stay strong and be with family and friends for support.I hope everything works out for you.Just keep your hopes up and everything will be good.Think positively and confidently and you'll be happy.
884575
he has a guilty conscience, dump him, forget him and move on to someone more deserving of you. Once a cheater always a cheater
1171847
Now your situation reminds me of myself and one of my former friends'.\nOkay, now this is going to be a long one, so I want you to read through this end to end.\nI think what almost 8 out of 10 guys/girls will get cheated in their life time, which does not mean, they are going to turn into people who do not trust their future partners. Thats is SIMPLY ridiculous!!\nI got cheated and dumped by my first official girlfriend on Valentines day and then by second (and current) girlfriend. But that did not turn me into a green eyed monster, turning furious at any guy that my girlfriend speaks to. Infact I have come to trust her SO much that I let her express her 'crush' on a guy. She cheated on me not once, not twice but 3 times, but now I trust her enough that I know that she would NEVER do anything that would hurt me, that she would never fall into temptation even if she is in a room full of naked men!!!\nYour boyfriend is just using you, he has you on a tight leash. \nIf he does not trust you now, when do you expect him to trust you?? Come on, girl, you are in a world that has men!! Not in Venus, for crying out loud. \nYou may think that he is just been protective and stuff like that, but you know what, thats all just a lot of BULL CRAP!!!!\nI have been there and I am back. When you are so controlling, it is not because he loves you, but because he gets that inner satisfaction that he has 'held' you. He is happy that you 'obeying' him and 'at his commands'. Is this what your parents brought you up for?? Do you not have any self respect or indignity left??\n\nYou have to sit down and talk to him, or else your freedom will be history. Even animals learn to overcome cheating spouses and learn to love their new faithful partners, so where does he get his theory that he is not able to let go on his past??\nOkay, so he got cheated, he may also have got cut with a knife, or fallen off a bicycle, but that didnt stop him from using a knife or a cycle, did he?? Thats right. He is using the oldest trick in the Mens (not very) Big Book of Excuses.\n\nI could go on and on.. but I guess I am done typing for the day. \nOver and out for the Weekend!!\nBut you better make a informed move, dont stick around with the Loser!!\nCheers!!
308440
Follow him or hire a private detective to follow him.  Check out his cell phone and wallet.  If he is cheating...dump the loser!  Women do have that intuition thing...if you think he is, he probably is!
82127
Ouch this a hurtfull situation. But first you need to confront him and find out whats going on and dont let him play you for stupid. You next person to confront is her! She needs to know what she is dealing and find out what she is doing. He may think its harmless but you guys have 2 kids together and it sounds like he is pretty seriously committed to you. He should have no reason to call her and break up a happy home. You seriously might want to rethink the whole relationship. Maybe even give him a scare and say you are leaving him because you found out he was talking to "that girl" if he loves you he will stop and wont ever do it again. And seriously think about it he has already cheated on your with this girl and she is obbviously still on his mind. You should have cut it off when he first cheated.
459092
Call him on it.  It sounds like neither of you trust each other, so if you get down to the root of the problem, hopefully you can overcome it.  Have you done anything for him to feel betrayed?  It sounds like he's reading them.  Just call him on it and have a conversation about it.
590569
Mandy,\n If you have reason to believe that he even thought about cheating on you, then hit the road. Leave this idiot in the dirt, and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are.\nGood Luck.
810262
I reckon he has cheated, or at least he's trying to convince you that cheating is normal and happens more than you think. As one of the other answerers is hinting at, this guy is possibly a player. I'm not going to pass judgement on the chap and you have to allow for the possibility that this thought may just have occurred to him in the course of a conversation. If you question him and he says that that is what happened then give him the benefit of the doubt. (Something similar happened to me once, and my gf didn't take me at my word - very annoying, end of relationship)\n\nBut, to be honest, as a player, if I was asking a girl how she knows that her past lovers never cheated, it would be to sow the seeds of doubt in her mind for either of the following reasons: a) to convince a girl with a bf that he is cheating on her and so she should cheat on him with me (evil, I know - I've never done it, but I'd say it'd work); or b) to convince a girl I was seeing that cheating is normal, and happens all the time and people should be open about it: basically grooming her for an open relationship.\nI think the latter is most likely in your scenario. Find out a bit more about him and see if he has a little black book! Ask him what he thinks of open relationships. \nIf that wouldn't suit you then get the hell out as the cheating will hurt you, even if the sex is amazing.