How many marriages survive when their spouse cheats on them?
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not too many, don't like stats, failed it in college, am not a couselor, & not a dr.
14876
Yes its still adultery/cheating/lying as long at that person is a spouse, even when legally separated.
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I guess this happens in alot of marriages!From what I have been reading.It has happened in mine,also!And now My husband and I can talk openly about it,even joke about it!But that takes time.As long as you love him.And he loves you!That is all that matters!The past is the past,hun.Let it be that.I know it's hard!And I know you'll think about it.But in time,the hurt will get less.And your trust will grow back in time,too!I always tell my husband,that I have forgiven him BUT I will Never forget.And he reminds me about what I have done.But we don't argue about it any longer.Because,it has been a while.And time heals.I know that cheating isn't right.But sometimes when you get together real young it's really hard to stay faithful.There is ALOT of temptations out there.And it takes two.Also,NoOne is perfect.And then some people say once a cheater always a cheater,but I do Not believe this either.Because we may have made mistakes in our past.But I feel that both my husband and I have learned from them.And it will never happen again.It sounds as though,your hubby and you have learned from yours too!Good-Luck to both of you!
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I haven't the answer to your question, but something else that has helped others who found themselves in the shoes you find yourself wearing now ...\n\n... When a Mate is Unfaithful : \n... Infidelity - Its Tragic Consequences \n... Is Reconciliation Possible? \n... The Option of Divorce \n... Meaningful Support \n... Why Some Stay Together \n... Who Is Responsible? \n... Does God Hate All Divorce? \nhttp://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1999/4/22/article_01.htm
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My Husband never cheated, but if a husband was going to cheat I'd rather know. If its over its over,he should be honest enough to tell you.Two things to be done after that , either forgive him and NEVER bring it up again. Anyone can make a mistake once, only a fool does it twice.And personally I would not stay married to a fool.
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That's a very interesting question. \nOr maybe it is my answer that is interesting.\nIn my family.......none have ever cheated...no divorces or cheating.\nFriends: I am forty three and I think I only have four friends that I know of that have been cheated on.
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People cheat because they are selfish and there are selfish partners who will cheat along with them.\n\nThis is not a man/woman thing, unless all of these men are cheating with other men.  They are cheating with women.  Therefore, there are as many women cheaters as men.\n\nNot everybody cheats on their partner, not everyone in an affair is married.  But both parties are guilty of violating YOUR vows (if you were married, I see this was "just" a boyfriend)\n\nIt's not a man/woman thing, it's a character issue, and the character of both cheaters is the problem, not gender.
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Because they know they have lost you and that you ment more than the gal he decided to cheat on you with. He wasnt thinking when he did it. Trust me, My husband did it after 3 years of marriage, he NEVER did it again, He said it was the most stupid thing he had ever though of doing and he really didnt think of the consquences,  we have been married 10 years now.
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I doubt it! Some people will cheat no matter what you do, other will if given a reason. Dont give your partner a reason!
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Honestly, I've been there. It's the worst feeling in the world to know you've been betrayed. If he's likely to do it again, (not everyone is) then don't stay with him. Sometimes these things can clear up. (I'm speaking from personal experience. I've been with my husband for almost 7 years. He cheated once almost 4 years ago and hasn't since. I've learned to trust him again. I wouldn't be the same without him.)
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I would say it is a big sign that the relationship isn't all it should be.  I know sometimes people do make mistakes, but to me, I'd rather move on after being cheated on than risk being hurt that way again.  But that's me, once the trust is broken then I can't seem to get past it.  Lots of people's relationships married or not do survive infidelity though.  I guess it just depends on the who what and why's.
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I truly believe that a marriage can be saved from anything. Yes it is hard but years of a marriage is just to important to just throw away. Human Beings are just that we are not perfect and are subject to mistakes. It is how we deal with those mistakes and grow from them that will in the end decide on the chances of the marriage surviving. Just because we falter does not mean that we are not worthy of the love of a spouse. Love consist of many things incluing tolerance so if you keep in mind that this is the man that you love and the man that you chose to marry and he does the same you can keep the lines of communication open and hopefully you can get back what it is that is obviously lacking or missing from the marriage. Just never stop talking and listening and growing.
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GOD will forgive anyone who makes a mistake even if you kill someone. So you made a mistake by ending up with someone like that so what GOD will forgive you. I have been married 2 times myself. And only the LORD knows what kinda relationship that I was in the first time. If you wait to long and live like this you will become a cold harted person. My husband now gets upset because when we get into arguments I don't cry and they can be pretty rough sometimes. The reason why is because of my first marriage I just got to the point to where I couldn't take it anymore and I had to get out but I was getting physical abuse. It's not worth messing up your life because of a jerk. The right person will pass you by if you don't make the right move. I am so happy in this marriage and we get along so well most of the time. It has to be really bad for us to get into it. But everyone fusses and argues. Do whatever makes you happy and pray about it and GOD will lead you in the right direction. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take this as useful information. I have been there I know. And GOD understands what you are going through as well. Good luck.
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MOST of the married couples I know tolerate each other and the women all tell me if they had to do it all over again, they would NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  And I know a LOT of couples!!!!!!!!!!!! You might find a few here and there who are so used to each other they get familiarity confused with true love.
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I've been there.I've been married three times.Why?Because I cheated on my husband(s)and felt guilty!Tell your wife and let her decide what you should do.She will probably divorce you then you can do what you want.If you cheat again you will start that vicious cycle all over. Don't cheat!
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Those of you that have said no to this, but have commented on why people cheat, and judge those that do, have really got no right to judge/comment unless they have been there and done that themselves or have been on the receiving end. As for me, yes I have cheated. Nearly 5 years into my marriage, we started having alot of problems. We weren't spending quality time together or communicating and there was no sex. When I tried talking to him on a deep and meaningful level, I got no input from him. I told him repeatedly that I was unhappy in our marriage and even to the point where I asked him if he would come to marriage counselling with me. He refused! I spent more and more time on the internet chatting to my friends until I got talking to a guy from Germany. Eventually, I was telling him about my marriage problems and how unhappy I was. From what started out as a friendship on the net and someone to talk to once or twice a week, ended up developing into something more and talking every day. It got to the stage where I hardly spent any time with my husband at all and he knew I was chatting on the internet. This guy from Germany told me he had developed feelings for me and was flying down to Melbourne to meet me. I kept it quiet from my husband and told him I was going away for a couple of weeks and that we needed the break. I picked this guy up from the airport and we drove interstate together and holidayed for two weeks. Yes, we had the most wonderful time together and when it was time for him to leave, he wanted to come back to Australia again and visit me. I felt so guiltly for cheating on my husband that when I returned home, I told my husband and also told him it was over between us and I moved out of the house. The guy from Germany and myself continued on with our relationship for about a year. The second time he came here, he spent a month with me in Melbourne where I was living at the time. Sadly though it didn't work out because long distance relationships are just too hard to maintain and there was no future for us because I found out in the end that he had no plans to marry and live in Australia. Some people think that people who cheat on their partners are scum, well most often than not, the people that are the cheaters, suffer as well. I'm not condoning cheating and I'm sorry for what I did but I not only lost my house (I left it to my husband)and security, but I nearly lost my family as well because they didn't agree with what I had done and my brother-in-law disowned me for awhile. If I could take back what I did, I would, but as the saying goes, what's done is done and my advice is to anyone that is thinking of cheating on their partners, don't! He'll end up finding out and if he doesn't, you'll have to live with the guilt for the rest of your life (if you have a conscious). For 2 to 3 years after I left my husband, I was an emotional mess. I cried constantly for the hurt that I brought upon my husband and also my family. If your marriage is in turmoil, communication is the key to a long and lasting marriage, so try and talk things through, seek a marriage counsellor if you have to and if all else fails, tell your partner you are leaving before you do something you will regret later! Life wasn't meant to be easy and you have to constantly put the time and effort in to make a relationship work! I learnt the hard way.....
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Well, yes a marriage can recover from an affair.  Many marriage have made it inspite of.  But you will need to communicate because obvious something was missing for him to cheat (because you did not say he was a bad guy).  But you might need to go to counselor to repair the damage.  I know from first hand experience, it does hurt when a spouse cheats on you.  But you can get past it.