What can you as a parent do if you think you're child is being bullied, and what should you tell your child?
467656
girl i have 2 boyz 11&3 and let me tell u i talk to my big son on a regular bout self-love and self-awareness, we talk all the time bout the kids at school, i even left work earlier so i can meet the kids he hang out wit at lunch (thou my boss wasn;'t happy but u no wat my children come first) if he was being bullied i would b up at that school so fast i would want to meet wit the teacher the princapal the parents and let them no i don't take this lightly, but i think the best thing is to try and aviod it from happening, get involed wit school activise from the start let the children in the school no who u r and the chances of ur child gettin bullied is next to none, don't b a chicken bout it thou do wat ever u have to do to mek sure ur child is safe even if that mean calling the police, DON'T TEK IT LIGHTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it will in the long run mess up how ur child feels bout him/herself and that alone will lead them to stray!!!!!!!!!!!!
1160628
hide.  Seriously, though, the key is self-confidence, if you're confident about yourself, or even if you pretend to be confident and ignore the people who are bullying you or even laugh at them.  I used to be bullied at my old school, I realise now that most bullies are motivated by bad feelings about themselves and they try to boost their ego by making other people feel bad too.  It's pretty hard, but don't let them see that they're making you feel bad.  Stand up straight, ignore them, laugh at them, and don't let them see that they're hurting you.
458299
since you are at school for all of this... and yes you arent going to like my answer but it is the truth... you should talk to a teacher or guidance counselor about the bullies... after that eventually if they do anything else to you, tell on them and they will have to stay away from you... if they have to stay away from you then you can walk right up to your friend...
791288
Go and talk tot he teacher and the school management and raise all the hell you want. Keep your daughter home and threaten the management that you will report this to media and police and take the school and the teacher to court, if they do not take suitable actions against the teacher. You do not want your daughter to let anyone mark her for life and you have to be the one to set an example of being courageous and fight back.
918949
Talk with the principal immediately. It is completely ridiculous that your child should be left to suffer for the sake of the lowest common denominator. Fight on behalf of your child.
352817
1)buy him/her school lunch\n2)ignore them\n3)pray for them\n4)tell them you got rabies\n5)tell a grown-up\n6)bully them back\n7)get a group of friends and tell that bully is all against him/her\n8)run\n9)change schools\n10) just face it and kick ass!!
145582
Talk to your parents and principals Try to tranfer out if you can .I would go to the principal and tell him your being verbally abused and what's happening in the class He has to investage .When this happened to my son I went to the princapal and then to the school board The teacher was sent to anger mangement.
674736
Nobody should be afraid at school.  If your teachers and the principal are not aware of what is going on, make sure they become aware.  Tell someone.  Don't do it in front of the bullies, because that could backfire on you.  Wait until the jerks aren't around and tell a teacher, guidance counselor or the principal so that they can keep an eye out for bullying behavior.  \n\nThey have a lot of students and they can't watch all of them all the time, but they will watch the ones they know are causing trouble.  \n\nAsk your parents to enroll you in a self defense class.  It will help you protect yourself, and may help you gain self confidence.  Bullies pick on people they think won't fight back.  If you have self confidence, and the ability to defend yourself, it won't take long for them to figure out you're not the best target for their aggression.\n\nI am a grown up and have been a grown up for a long time, but I was bullied by a bunch of jerky white trash girls, and I occasionally still think about it.  I'm sure they grew up to be gross, fat, toothless, tattooed white trash chicks, and I take some pleasure in that.
459756
Have her talk to someone at her school (teacher, counselor, etc.) -- they have to take action if she reports abuse. Separately, she can call child protective services or, for an emergency situation, the police.
174576
Tell your parents.  No one deserves to be hurt like that.  Your parents will most likely talk to his parents.  And if his parents are little stupid babies about it, then they are probably the cause of their son's behavior.  Now, see, if this was a girl bothering you, it would probably be because she would like you.  But in this case, the bully is a rich snob that don't now squat that's a boy.  Ask him why the heck he does this to you, and I just bet he'll say " Cuz it's fun."  If he says that, tell him it's not for you and that you're seriously bothered.  He most likely won't listen, so tell people that will listen.  Weather it's the school counselor, or your parents, just anyone who will take charge of the situation.  The best of luck to ya!
783876
At all times keep a third person involved and informed. Keep a running record, like a diary, of time, place, what happened and show Principal each day if you must. Stay safe. Never speak to the creepy guy directly or alone. Do not make eye contact. If Principal does not keep you safe or listen to you, tell your parents or a school counselor or a favorite teacher. They should tell him privately that looks, words, contact is, starting now, illegal and a rule breaker where he is concerned. Do not be bullied and do not, under any circumstances talk to or look at this person. Do not send double messages  like "stay away" but then smiling at him because you feel sorry for him or because you have felt safe for a minute. Send only one message to him via your actions and that is, stay away, you do not exist, I will tell on you everytime, if you can't take "no" for an answer it is because you are not thinking about me but only thinking about yourself and you are glaring at me because I said "no" to you and you think everyone should say yes to you. Normal people can take no for an answer and normal people report abuse every time. Normal people say "no"..."no, leave me alone" etc. Keep being real, keep telling, keep listening to yourself. Tell everyone. They will observe too that he has creepy behavior. Again, never speak to this person. It would be a double message, a mixed message of leave me alone and yet I still talk to you. No. Do not speak to him ever. He will take that little courtesy and think that you like him or that he can control you. Keep being yourself. You know what to do. Tell and stay away from him. Do not be polite. he will use your politeness against you. Do not be flattered by his attention. Something is wrong with him. Stay away.
427422
Of course your child should come first! You cannot always let a child make the decisions eg: should we have biscuits or ham for dinner?? :)\n\nIn a case where bullying, harrassment etc is involved the childs basic right to be treated fairly is paramount. Ideally, I fell it should be the child carrying out the bullying who should have to go through the upset of the move but if there is no other option then I back your opinion on moving. \n\nIt is hard enough for a child to put up with bullying in school but if he feels that his pleas for help to his parents are falling on deaf ears it will really drive him to the edge. I would recommend that you all sit down and try to explain the situation to the father. You should also have a serious chat with your child. If he is going to the extremes of trying to slit his wrists you really need to act fast.\n\nMight I suggest also bringing this to the principal of the school in question. Surely they should be able to do something more. Explain the devistating resluts that the torture is having on your boy and get them to act. If needs be threaten them with legal action if you dont see them making an effort to stamp out this behaviour.\n\nGive your boy a cuddle from me. I was bullied when I was at school and sometimes it can be very hard to get over.
1107302
Keep him guessing...  =)\n\nJust kidding.  If evil ones who hurt others are treated with generosity, some may react well, but others who are bullies will take that as a license to abuse.  So, use wisdom.  My personal rule is give someone three chances.  AFTER THAT go after them, so they remember never ever to repeat.
988917
This is a much more difficult question than the posters are making it out to be.  Sure, it sounds logical to just go to the teacher, the other kids parents, the principal, etc., but the answer is not always this easy.\n\nYou have to realize, if you do this, you are putting your child at a greater risk for continued harassment, additional harassment and possibly even physical retaliation, which is much more likely than parents would like to believe.  The worst thing in the world, especially for a boy, is to be labelled a "nark."  His life will go from bad to worse.  Kids will tease him about it; His classmates won't trust him; Kids will be unwilling to get close to him, etc.  \n\nIt is possible that school officials could just keep a closer eye on it and bust the bully without the bully ever knowing that he had been "ratted" out.  That would be the best case scenario.  \n\nIf you call the bully's parents, 1 of 4 things can happen and 3 of them are not good and the good one is highly unlikely.  You have to realize that, just like you, the bully's parents first reaction is to stick up for their child.\n\n#1 The bully's parents could laugh you off\n#2 The bully's parents could get real defensive and turn against you and your child\n#3 The bully's parents could side with you, tell their kid about the conversation and then the bully would punish your child for your actions\n#4 The bully could get in so much trouble that he straightens out and doesnt tell anyone about it (how likely do you think that is?)\n\nThe worst thing you can do is encourage your child to beat up the bully.  Violence is never the answer.  How effective and realistic is comebacks, avoidance, etc.?  I guess it depends on the situation.  I don't know that it will work though.\n\nWhere is the bullying taking place?  What is the relationship between the kid and the bully?  What does the kid say is happening?  Does the kid give you details?  Details are very important, because there could be a logical solution to the issue.\n\nFinally, the advice you are looking for...older children...say 7th grade and up, (my experience is with the fellas so I come from that angle), are striving to be viewed as adults.  The guys want to take on a mans role; Do the right thing; Help people; PROTECT PEOPLE.  (I realize not all 7th and up guys are like this, but you can use your judgement to find the good ones)  Get a fella that is a little older that you have some sort of relationship with, whether it be a coaches kid, family friend, etc.  Tell him that your son is having an issue and it would be a real help if you could, "look after him, show him the ropes, help him along with the fellas, make sure he gets along alright."  Hopefully, the younger kid looks up to this dude (younger guys usually do, pretty much, no matter what), tell the older kid, "my son really looks up to you.  It would mean alot to him, but (and this is very important) it would mean just as much to me.  You are a good kid.  You are a good role model for him."  This way you are empowering a young man. He will take ownership in the situation.  He will watch out for your kid, and the bully will want nothing to do with an older kid, matter of fact, he will probably think he is down right cool and want to be his friend instead of foe.
622100
QUALITY ATTENTION. That's the biggest gift you can give to your children to let them know they are loved and special. Truly listening to them when they talk, answering their questions, playing with them, giving them meaningful interaction. Never belittle them or make them feel they are stupid or bad. Their behavior may be bad, but the person is not, and don't lose sight of the distinction when you have to discipline them. Say I love you, say it often, and mean it. Don't lie to your children, it breaks their trust in you. Pick your fights carefully - are you saying no to something "just because"? That's not a fair reason and your children deserve more respect than that. Follow your heart, treat them with the love and respect you expect to be treated with. Teach them, share with them. Raising children is a full time job and requires sacrifice.
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Here are some things for you to keep in mind, and share the appropriate parts with him.  It is part of an answer I did a while ago for someone who was being bullied .....\n\nIn dealing with a bully, do be assertive, but the child being bullied is not usually strong enough to fight the bully physically ... bullies don't pick on kids who are stronger than them. \n\nBullies don't go away. It is true that bullies are cowards, and tend to back down when people stand up to them, but bullies also seek revenge. Unless bullies are stopped, they tend to get worse and worse, not better. \n\nMost schools have someone you can go to so that some adult will know about what's happening and can begin to stop it - a guidance counselor, a teacher you trust, the principal, someone. Can you go to the bully's parents and tell them? If the bully has actually attacked the child, go to the police. The bully can be charged. This is not a laughing matter. No matter what the bully has said about not telling anyone, TELL. Here are some well researched tips on dealing with bullying:\n\n1. If you are bullied, TELL. Telling is not being weak or being a coward or tattling. It is helping to protect everyhone from that bully.\n2. Tell someone you trust - teacher, counselor, parent, some other adult. You CANNOT handle this yourself. \n3. Do not retaliate or get angry. This could make things worse.\n4. Respond evenly and firmly or say nothing and walk away.\n5. develop good strong friendships and support each other. Bullies tend to pick on kids that they think don't have many friends or kids thye think others won't hlep.\n6. Act confident.\n7. Try to stay away from places the bully will be if that is possible. For example, take a different route to school.\n8. Avoid unsupervised areas of the school.\n9. Try not to bring expensive items to school that might attract the bully's attention and that he might try to take or break.\n10. To gain confidence and feel stronger and feel that youcan take care of yourself, enrol in a self-defnece program if one is available, or a martial arts program or something like that. Self defence programs teach you some very good skills, very quickly.\n11. Join a group, such as Scouts, a cadet program, or something like that, so that you have a special group of friends. \n\nGo to the website www.bullying.co.uk/ which has lots of information for parents and for kids about bullying and about some things you can do. I think this website might really help you figure out some good positive things you can do to deal with this.\n\n\nI hope this answer has something of value in it for you.
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Usually the child will become withdrawn, refuses to go to school or puts up a fight. You should do unannounced visits and observe without being noticed. Ask the child if possible, look for small unexplained bruises, talk to the director about your concerns, ask to see the security tapes, do what ever it takes to protect the child.