What should I do about a possesive ex-girlfriend?
471069
Wow dude, I had the exact same thing happen to me in college. My ex, psyco biotch girlfriend was one twisted chick. Thank God I ditched her monkey *ss. \n\nMy best advice to you is DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. Anything out of the ordinary? Document it. She leaves a creepy message on your machine? Save it and compile it somehow. See her parked otuside your house at 4:00 am? Sneak around with a flash and take her picture. Make sure you get the license plate. If you don't want her to see you, you can set your camera on a long exposure (like 2 hours) to get enough light. You can also use one of those surveillance video cameras that are triggered by motion. They're pretty cheap and easy to install. This will catch her in the act. This way, you can not only get a restraining order but press charges too. \n\nTo get a restraining order (I've had to do this too), go to the courthouse with some cause for it (like her threating to kill you on your voicemail or something like that). Tell the judge your story and say that she is harassing you, damaging private property and making you feel unsafe. The judge will give you a temporary restraining order which forces her to stay away. It will cost about $30 or so to have it served by a police officer. The cop will visit her, and deliver it to her. Now, if she comes within so many feet of you, her monkey *ss can get thrown in jail. This will only work for 15 days, at which point you will need to find a lawyer (believe me this is necessary). You will then go to court, tell the court your story, and the judge will take action. The judge's decision will most certainly depend on the DOCUMENTATION you have been saving up this whole time. Cool?\n\nAs best you can avoid getting into a physical altercation with her. If you really feel threatened. Buy some self defense type stuff like pepper spray. DO NOT DO ANYTHING ILLEGAL, like carrying a concealed weapon. If you get busted she can turn the story around on you. \n\nMake sure your girlfriend is documenting too. Document, dates, events, cost of repair...etc. Also, be sure to call the police each time one of these things happens. They will keep a record of it and when you go to court there's going to be a long list of things stacked against her.\n\nIf the court orders her to cease and desist, she will have to stay away from you and not call for good (or like 5 years or something). If she violates that, she goes to jail for a few years. \n\nWow, I feel for you dude. I've been there, done that. But I did my homework. The police in my neck of the woods have a mongo file on my ex. Good luck to ya. Shoot me an email if you need more advice.
397602
it's never going to work out. She'll never trust you after what you did to her back then. Best forget about it and move on to someone brand new.
379799
Forget it.  You'll get over her.  You won't respect yourself, and she'll never respect you either if you let her walk on you like that.  You don't just casually leave someone.  How would you ever trust her again?   You'd spend your life worried that if you don't jump through her hoops, she'll bail again, and she probably will, too!   \n\nJust tell her, "I'm sorry.  I wish you all the best, but that ship has sailed."  You don't need to humiliate her or rub her nose in it.  Take the high road, which will make her realize all the more that you are a decent guy and she shouldn't have done that.  You can't fix this one, but maybe she'll grow up a little for the next guy.
289669
Laugh at them. I mean, she couldn't handle being single and fell into a rebound relationship that is doomed for failure. It's painful, I know, but don't worry. You're over her, what she does shouldn't bother you. Let her find another guy, let her screw up that relationship, and push her from your mind. You'll find someone else soon enough.
186709
WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
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If she's already his ex, there shouldn't be a problem. All girls are like that, you know, I know, so we have to take things our girl way.\nYou have a talk with his ex since he can't do much. Sit her down and make sure she listens to you. Just let her know what it feels like if she's in your situation. I'm sure she'll want the same help as you right now.\nMake her understand but do it in a polite way no matter how much you want to get rid of her. If you don't do it that way, she might not listen and will tend to make it worst. \nDon't push it too. Just go with the flow and take your time. I'm sure somehow, someway, she'll understand.\nGood luck!!
636536
Go out with one of her close friends and sleep with her. Make sure you treat her better than your ex that will drive her crazy
15270
What the hell?  LET her?  Unless you and her are looking for a one on one only relationship, it is okay for girls to talk to their ex-boyfriends.  In fact if you get right down to it, it's safer.  We break up with people for a reason, and we probably wouldn't date them again.  So no worries there.  If she is hanging with them alot, she might be trying to make you jealous.  She might want your attention.  Heck, give it to her!
406418
Just say no. She'll take you for granted in the sense that because you're still around, you're available should she ever want to get back together. In the meantime, while she has you as a backup, she'll go on with her life, getting you to do all the boyfriend "work" (e.g. listening to her whine about work, traffic, her new jeans) but not giving you the boyfriend "fun" (although maybe once or twice she'll cave and fool around with you). You'll think she's just on the cusp of getting back together with you. And then she'll tell you that she's met someone else. With work, be as civil as you'd be toward any girl in whom you had absolutely no interest. But flirt with all the other girls at work so the ex gets a reminder of what she's missing.
171468
I agree with skull22, why are you giving her anything if she is your ex, please add some more information please.
1153207
She doesn't really want you, but she doesn't want you to want anyone other than her.  Call up the gal she caught you with.  Date her more regularly.  If ex-gf wants to go out, don't jump at the chance.  Tell her your busy,(even if you just go walk your dog)  She's using you, she's playing games with you and She's teasing you.  And oh God..that "I'm not going to kiss you thing"...geeze she's been watching "Pretty Woman" reruns.  That is so immature.  What?, she's become a hooker now?  That's a hooker thing.  Let her go and don't look back.  Don't let her treat you like a boy toy.  Be a man.
383175
You need to get out of that relationship before you go crazy.  As long as she's in your life....noone else will be.
560212
This ex girl of yours needs to get a life and take responsability for her actions. SHe's just trying to make you feel guilty.  Stay away from her, avoid her... otherwise she's just going to take you down w/ her. You don't need that. You are who you are.
1163095
cut off all connections with this person\nget rid of all that reminds you of them\ngood luck
825474
Tell you ex's GF to take it on a hike.  She has no business wanting to know your child.  And for that matter, neither does your ex.  Be strong, and best wishes to you.
355503
let the past be in the past and move on with your life.....talk to her see if shes still botherd by it
572592
If he broke it off, rent a billboard along the highway. If you did, have some class and stay away from your ex.