For women who are Christian and have been intimate before marriage?
463131
The act of sex is an act of love (if done for the right reasons). The modern concept of a church and legal documents of marriage is fairly new. In older times marriage was simply commiting to each other, but no real marriage was performed. In gods eyes (I feel) that Sex is an act of love and if the couple involded loves each other and engages in sex as an expression of love there is nothngi wrong with it, just use protection (world is much different than it used to be, illness). I didn't wait, even though the first girl I had sex with didn't work out and we never got married that doesn't change that fact that when we were having sex that it was out of love, that's all that matters.
157359
No I do not believe in sex before marriage. I got married when I was 24 (a little more than a year ago) and that's when I lost my virginity, and I am damn proud of it.. no regrets, extremely happy about :o) People should try it out, it's not like they're NEVER going to have sex... besides, it's more special.
668421
as far as I know it is not considered a sin to live together according to the Bible, but it is a sin to have sex before marriage and I don't know many people who live together that don't have sex, so it is up to you to draw the line to be able to stay away from sex before marriage
366283
I haven't, as yet, waiting until after marriage.\nI am 25 yrs.
1143993
it depends on the religion and it depends on people. i can tell you that most single Muslims do not have sex before marriage and during menstruation BECAUSE their religion does not permit it and most Muslims do not have anal sex because they (think) their religion does not permit it.  \n\n(Most) Christians on the other hand have sex before marriage although their Bible doesn't allow it. \n\nSooooo, short answer to your question is: YES for Muslims.
522736
Please, please, please wait. It is so important. My husband was a virgin when we married and I wasn't. I wanted to have my virginity back so badly when we married but it was too late. Our honeymoon was great but it was bittersweet because I had to deal with the regret of him not being my first. It could have been the best experience of my life. And everything else counts too. I wish I wouldn't have even held hands, kissed, or anything like that until I married. It would have been so special. Please save it for marriage.
993992
Most cultures have taboos regarding premarital sex.  Some have evolved from religious beliefs while others are merely a traditional more.  I think it is important for an individual to decide what role sex will play in their whole being.  If sex is just a rhythmic release of raging hormones and something to experience for pleasure then pre or post marital doesn't matter.  If however, a person views sex as the ultimate culmination of an evolving relationship between two people, then it takes on a more mysterious, almost religious aura...that special sex that binds a covenant between lovers should be reserved for marriage. Regardless of the level that sex plays in your life, it is imperative that you practice safe sex...not just to avoid an unwanted pregnancy, but rather to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases like HIV-AIDS, hepatitis, chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea , and herpes.
299548
If your asking if its good to have a girlfriend thats christian - yea! of course, that will probably mean she may have more self respect and morals then other girls. \n\nIf you asking is its good to have a g/f when your a christian - why not? How else are you going to find the person you want to get married to?
439744
I sympathize with you on this one. I grew up with a strictly Catholic mother. Everything was a sin, and my sisters and I were going to Hell for everything we did. Well, you have to develop your own beliefs and morals. I am not very religious anymore, I still attend church every now and then, but I am more spiritual than religious. \n\nI waited until I was 18 before I started dating, not because of my mother, but because I was just not ready. I was like you, I didn't know how to flirt or how to be in a relationship. To tell you the truth, I still don't. I lost my virginity to a guy that just used and abused me. Just follow your heart. 9 out of 10 times, when you feel something is morally wrong, you probably shouldn't do it anyway because there will not be a good outcome. I would suggest trying to socialize with people online or going out with friends. Go on a blind date.\n\nI am 23 now and I have been with a few men, most have been real a**holes and have left me brokenhearted. Just don't settle for any guy, find someone that will understand and appreciate your family and beliefs. Sex is more fun when you have an emotional connection with someone. It involves so much more than the physical act.
1130934
Kissing, rubbing against each other should both be OK. When I was dating my husband, I didn't wan to have sex before we married so we fooled around by rubbing our bodies against each other, imitating that act. The result was never as satisfying as we would have liked, but it did help so. I don't know what your religion would think of oral but you might think about that.\n\nHope this helps
233691
I belive that love before marriage is essential to enable a life long loving marriage. Apologies if I wrong, but are you actually asking about sex before marriage?\n\nThis is a totally different question - and the answer must be, as far as I can see, that it is totally up to the two people that are in the relationship.\n\nYou are correct that nowadays many youngsters (and, of course, some 'oldies') have casual sex - this is their own choice and as long as they protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases who are we to judge?\n\nUltimately, we all have our own cultural and personal morals and standards to live up to and as long as we are comfortable with our individual choices and do not cause intentional pain or suffering to others we should do as we see fit. \n\nLove and sex do not have to be entwined, but in my experience the latter without the former is never as satifying to the body or soul.\n\nGood luck in the choices youu make..
717326
Let me guess--you still think you're a good Christian, too? You know the answer to this question. You quit having affairs, get your act together, apologize to them (and to God) and get your life straightened out. Don't tell me it can't be done--you know it can. Sex is meant for marriage alone and then with one woman (not a dozen or even two). You are hurting them, hurting yourself, and you may end up a daddy long b4 you intended to. Quit the CRAP!!\n\nPS: God doesn't listen to sinners in sin--only when they ask for and WANT forgiveness and a change of life.
376722
When I met my husband, 1988, he was just falling away from Christianity, and I, being at that time a non-Christian, pulled him even further. We got married in a registry office (Gretna Green, Scotland), and after being married 6 years or so, things weren't great between us. Then God virtually hit me over the head one day, I had a shock revelation that God was real, and I became a Christian. My husband was adamant that I was being a fool by believing in all that, but 2 years later and after much prayer, he came back to Christ, that was a year ago. Now we have a great marriage, we lead a house group together. Our marriage may not have survived had I not believed that God wanted me to stay married (it says so in the Bible.) There are faults in all marriages, whatever faith you have, but for us, seeking God's will together has put all our troubles in perspective, when we have money problems we know God is helping us through so that cuts out much stress. Also raising our kids to know Jesus makes parenting easier as there is a higher authority to refer to.
261287
We were created by God, and sex was created by God Who gave us rules to help us use it wisely. He said that sex is only correctly practiced between a husband and a wife. We have rules that govern the way we drive our cars. When they are not followed for whatever reason, they have serious consequences.\n\nSex is beautiful – not evil at all – the only harm comes in how you practice it. Let’s say you have sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend before you are married. When you marry, you want to believe that your husband or wife will not have sex with anyone else, but you’ll always know that they had sex with you when you weren’t married. So the relationship is tarnished in that sense.\n\nYou don’t sound like you believe the Bible, but I do and I’ll share with you what it says very briefly. It says that sexual sin has a different effect than all other sins.\n\nFlee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20\n\nJesus said that sex outside of marriage was so dangerous that we should be afraid of going to hell if we even contemplated doing it.\n\nYou have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. Matthew 5:27-29\n\nGod forgives everything if we ask Him to forgive us and make Him the Lord or boss of our life. If you’ve already made a mistake with sex, He will forgive you if you ask.\n\nIt is impossible to fully comprehend the love of God. All I know is that I’ve made tons of mistakes, and He has never turned His back on me and walked away. I don’t know how big God’s love is. I only know that it is bigger than all the mistakes that I’ve made.\n\nGod bless.
334045
i think you're still a turn on. i think more women nowadays should stay virgins until marriage. i've kissed guys of course, just on the lips or cheek though, but ive never dated or made out with a guy or girl. and im planning on keeping my virginity until im married or have met the one i know im going to marry. go virgins! :P
440387
I am a Christian and my hubby and I got married in a courthouse. I wasn't pregnant or anything, we just decided it was time to get married. It had no effect on my relationship with God, and in fact parts of the Bible were said at our ceremony. It was blessed by God and I truly believe that.
505211
Well are you a christian couple that does not believe in sex before marriage? If so it will be hard. Many people say you should know a person very well before you get married. However studies have shown that people who shack up usually end up not getting married or divorcing when they do. DR. Laura has shacking up as one of the "ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives". But if you feel it need to be done do it. That feeling is coming from god.(or the devil)You should know.Let the relationship progress step by step. It's in the Bible, II Peter 1:6-7, TLB. "Next, learn to put aside your own desires so that you will become patient and godly, gladly letting God have his way with you. This will make possible the next step, which is for you to enjoy other people and to like them, and finally you will grow to love them deeply."