im white and the father of my 3 kids is pakistan and he wants 2 marry should i?
474655
If you have to ask, then no.  Why haven't y'all married before now?  Do you love him?  Do you want to marry him?  Be honest with yourself and you'll know the right answer for you....
970748
Wake up sir and please for once be more realistic! \n\nLove has nothing to do with caste! If you love her with your whole heart and you know that she'll be the only one that can make you happy, then go for it despite your parental objection.\n\nSometimes in life we have to make our decision. Our parents wants the best for us but IT IS ONLY US THAT KNOWS WHAT WE TRULY WANT AND WHICH BEST IS RIGHT FOR US!
929281
If your Dad is a US citizen, then you should be too so I am assuming he is not your biological father.  With that assumption, your fiance should contact INS and simply state that he wants to visit and if all goes well with family, etc.. that you want to marry and what will happen at that point. \n\nHe will probably get a green card too.  You should get your citizenship as soon as you can, I dont know the rules on how long  you have to be in the country. \n\nIf he works in computers or another hard to recruit field, he may be able to get an H1b visa as well.
329159
Run and never look back.I have three kids with this guy and he does nothing for my kids and he's in the same town, what do you think a guy would do living in another country? unless you are financially stable enough and your prepared to raise this baby by yourself then don't do it.
391332
Omg, u desperate man! Im a Pakistani, and ur just not doing us proud. Just stay in Pakistan with ur sheep and cattle. Let the Pakistanis i the West do our thing !
172164
Kukm kum you donot say why your family donot accept him?\nIf they have a real reasons that is ok but thier reasons are silly go with your man
547556
I think it's perfectly reasonable for you to want to "seal the deal". I would caution against making a big deal out of it at this stage in life, however.\n\nThe two of you are already as established family. This marriage, if it is to happen, should not be a means of taking the next step, but confirming you have already taken it and are committed to one another, if that makes sense. If he does not feel this way, then you certainly do not want to push marriage.\n\nAlso... Having had a baby and (presumably) lived together, you're sort of past the point of the traditional big white wedding, if you know what I mean!
494098
NO, I say you should try to work things out. Marriage is a special bond between two people. Remember why you married this particular man, this special man, and remind him why he choose you to be his wife. Also both sides probably has truth to it your more than likely yell to much and he probably doesn't pay attention to his beautiful wife. If communication is what your after you may have to find a common ground on which to talk to him about. Remember marriage is a long winding road not a straight clear paved street. YOU may have to compromise to get what you want in the END.
231174
Be honest and open. I know it's easier said than done though. It took me 4.5 months to tell my dad's side of the family that my bf is white and from another country. They still don't know that he is Muslim and we've been together 6 months (they're black Christians). It takes time.
235778
being a brother and a muslim i know how you feel. you helped me with my situation and i will try to help you with yours parents are key and are most important (you think my parents know i like this girl, no probably not) but sooner or later they will find out whether i tell them or not so now you must weigh your options how much is this guy worth if alot then you must be able to tell your father that his rath is miniscule to the amount of love you have towards this person. walking a tight rope is not fun i know how you feel i have been doing it all my life. and the whole paki indian thing doesn't make your situation worse the girl i am trying to ask out is puerto rican my parents are going to rage but sooner or later they will understand as your parents will that keeping a child is more important than who they be with good luck.
310803
if your sure that he feels like he does for you, then you should defiantly go for it. Specially if you are sure that you cant work things out with your husband. your kids are old enough to understand at their age. Just be sure that you know what you want, so you can make yourself happy
554606
If a man had 3 children by 2 ex wives and was a good father to them, then no I wouldn't be put off. If he was a single parent due to an unfortunate circumstance absolutely not I'd still would trying dating him. BUT if he's a male whose a baby daddy (regardless of race, age, or income) of 2 different women then that would definitely put me off. Especially if his 3 children are very close in age that makes me question his respect for women, his children, his views on relationships and safe sex, also if he's a man (achieved status) or a male (ascribed status).
702000
If he didn't want to get married before - he sure isn't going to marry you now ***and raise some guys kid***  That ain't gonna happen, sweetie.\nPut the shoe on the other foot: Would you do that for him?  \nMove on.  Raise the child alone.  Use better judgement in the future so your child won't have to suffer for your mistakes.  The child already has to grow up without his real father.  \nDon't feel bad, you are just one in a million who have done the same thing.  Life goes on.
411246
NO.GO FOR IT! GET MARRIED! HAVE CHILDERN!BE HAPPY!
663833
Ask yourself why is it he is so in a rush to get married is he an illegal immigrant, does he want you for your money, what because that is kinda strange to me to.\n\nLook marriage is a committment for life a vow that should be cherished between two people until the day each die you need to sit and make sure this is the right man for you because if he loved you their would be no reason for him to just run off and want to get married he is in some kind of trouble.\n\nI am quite sure you want a nice big wedding and your family their if you run off what is your family going to say and how are you going to feel so take a minute and think about it and question him if you need to
407066
Look to your three children and take care of them first.  Second finish your degree and follow your career.\n\nSounds to me like you need to prioritize things here and a man in your life is not exactly what you need right now.\n\nYou've met three Mr. Wrongs time to stop and think about what the next Mr. will bring, another child?\n\nThird well where ever you've met the past three STOP going their!
994136
I'm not Indian, but if some guy wanted to marry me without my father's permission, I would not be down with that. It's tradition and that can be important to some people. Obviously not you, but for your boyfriend. If you married him, it would be his marriage too, so it would also be good that he be comfortable with how that marriage begins.