We are married for only 10 months but my husband is no more the same person whom i married...?
457118
I've heard about those kinds of fantasies, but it's really pretty sick.  If he truly loves you why would he want to share you?
810992
You need to talk to him on a serious tip and let him know how you feel and tell him that it is time to change cause it is not cute any more and that you love him and that if there is something you  need to change you would for him cause that is what marriage is about.
534696
just one word of advice! You sound young, i got married at 19, and am about to get divorced (i'm 20) we rushed into things wayyyyy too fast. We barely knew each other well enough to move in together and be married. Take things slow! Stay engaged awhile!
632435
Tell him how u feel once and for the very LAST time. YES I SAID "LAST" cause u cant keep going back and forth like a tennis ball. Even a tennis match has an outcome.I think u both should make a pact to stop sleeping with other people. If this is going to be a serious committment then u will also need to know what he wants, so ask. And ask yourselves is this what i really want? Make sure u both know what exactly went wrong to have gotten to the beginning of the divorce phase & ask yourselves, "have i dealt with it? overcome it? and am i ready to try this again, and now?" Being all alone isn't fun. it's not enough and you know this. Love may not be the issue, committment sounds to be it. Only you two know. You both need to not only want this but be willing to try and give your ALL. Situation sounds iffy. If u both get on the same page i say GO FOR IT! But dont rush someone who just isnt there. move on in that case. :) keep faith but dont be a fool ok
411620
Are you really in LOVE with HIM?  Or is it the idea of new love and that feeling of new love, that you're in love with?  Especially being a married woman, after a little bit of time you lose that new love/lust euphoria.  Perhaps there are some things that you are missing in your marriage that you are looking for in this new guy.  I know it doesn't answer your question, but perhaps you should work on the marriage that you're already in and see if you can improve it, because you must have LOVED your husband at one time
575170
What you are experiencing is simply the thrill of "dating" your husband without the strings attached.  It is exciting because you are now the other woman and he is the other man.  It is like you're living a fantasy.  You two no longer have to share responsibilities and obligations.  It seems as if you are really in love, but that is not the truth.  You are the same people you were in divorce court.  Frustrated, bitter, and tired of each other.\n\nMove on with your life.  If he really loved you nothing would prevent him from getting back with you.
447946
I just answered your other question and I felt the need to answer this one too! Girl you are in a very emotional state right now, you need to cut all ties to this other man, this is why you are being so hard on yourself! You need to FOCUS! Stick to the topic at hand and that is that of your marriage! You need to start talking more to your husband and let him know you feel no emotional support from him and let him know how you are feeling (if you haven't already)!\n\nThere are alot of people that both of you have involved involuntarily, they did not ask to be in the situation, you need to be the adult here and finish what you started right? Do what YOU KNOW is right not what every one tells you too! I hope you do get some answers here that will help in your decision making, but ultimately the decision is yours to make. Good Luck to you!
511261
HE WAS ALREADY MARRIED.NOT NOW MARRIED.
942647
no idea WHAT you are talking about\nyou've been married 10 years and he wants other women now?\numm, he's not too committed  to you then
596597
GET ANOTHER LAWYER AS SOON AS POSSIBLE WHILE YOUR HUSBAND IS STILL AROUND.IT WILL BE HARDER TO GET HIM BACK WHILE HE IS OUT OF THE COUNTRY.HAVE YOUR DOCUMENTS AT HAND......WHO IS YOUR LOCAL MP?HERE IN THE UK IT PAYS TO LET YOUR MP KNOW BECAUSE USUALLY THEY ASSIST YOU AND LET YOU KNOW WHICH OTHER CHANNELS YOU CAN TAKE.GOOD LUCK AND BE STRONG.
485933
Funny you should ask. When I met my husband, he and I were both married. We both had crushes on one another but was devoted to our spouses at the time. Strange thing is, our marriages fell apart at the same time, and we were able to let our feelings show. Now we are married, with a baby on the way!
524888
Sounds as if he has moved on in his mind and left you and the marriage behind. Sad that after 8 years. How you can improve your marriage is how you react to the sitution right now. Don't beg or bug him about anything. Give him some room and the old saying if you set someone free and they come back they are yours is very true............
302165
It doesn't sound like you are being taken for a fool. You are describing consistent and positive changes in your husband's behavior. What a blessing! It's so refreshing to see a couple get the help they need. If you're not ready to live together again yet, how about courting each other? Maybe you need a totally fresh start. Go on dates and get to know each other again. And go on family outings. Be up front with your kids that you and daddy love each other and are trying to work things out. I believe in time you will see that he truly has changed for the better. Give your marriage a chance. I think you're going to be very happy!\n\nGod Bless!
5420
I did a similiar thing (except he wasn't married) and now my husband is divorcing me. It's probably a sign your marriage is lacking and whatever benefits you are receiving from the other guy (companionship, attention, etc) is making for this. Talk to your husband, be honest about how you feel and try counseling. Good luck.
280894
Wow, that's tough.\n\nFirst off, are you having problems with your husband? Because the grass always looks greener if there are issues. If you do have issues with your husband I would suggest counciling, if problems are resolved then see how you feel about the other guy then. Concentrate on your marriage first, if you really love your husband then I would try to fix what you have and see where it goes from there.
425721
Sounds like trouble. Find away to fall in love again with the one you are married to.Its worth the effort, isn't it?
619680
You don't have two personalities what you do have is a part of you that desires intimacy and affection. I think you are torn between your values and your emotional and physical needs. I have to commend you for your commitment to your marriage but how do you do it if he is so far away?  As much as you have all the best intentions I can't imagine having my husband in another country it would make me feel like i wasn't married. Does your husband have plans on coming home soon? If he doesn't and you do find the courage to separate from your husband it does not mean you didn't try to make it work or did something wrong. Unless the way you feel right now changes. If the need for an intimate relationship still haunts you, you have to seriously consider moving on so you can be whole again.