why wont my husband work?ive tried to be patient waiting on him to want our family...we have a girl thats two.
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I don't know why he won't work but you need to quit waiting for him to grow up and take responsibility.  You have a child now and she needs you to provide for her.  I know you probably don't want to give up on him but it seems like he's already given up on you and your daughter.  It's time for you to start planning a better life for the two of you.
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It sounds as if he is not ready to marry just yet. If this is okay with you than stick with him, but if you want to marry and start a family you might have to come right out and say hey we have waited long enough and if he gives some excuse then it might be best to re think the situation...Cejay
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Hi, i viewed your 360 page, you havea cute baby! I have a 2 and a half yr old daughter, im not married, never been married and i have been raiseing my daughter on my own since last yr. I was a stay at home, from the time my daughter was born til she was 14 months old and had a job for about a month, but then stuff blow up between my ex and i and we split i had a joob for 10  months last yr and then went back to being a stay at home mom for 5 months, i am back to working now, if your bored and like to chat send me a message to renae8003@yahoo.com, hope you like my answer and get back to me!
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When you get the answer let me know... I am dealing with the same problem.\n\nHusband was cheating on me... along with a lot of lies....We have been married for 4&1/2 years...have 2 little girls.... I don't work....\n\nI have finailly decided to kick him out and just let God take care of me and my girls. I haved worried myself about if for so long and now I can't sleep at night, I barely eat, and I have started smoking about twice as much...I am too young to be this unhappy. \n\nI don't really have an answer for you, but just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and if you ever want to talk about it my e-mail is Knlsmommy@yahoo.com
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I like the one before me but that does not always work if this is something that is really important for his life. then if you have kids ask him does he plan on being around when the get out of school or when they have kids I wish I had pushed harder on my husband he might be a live today if I had pushed  a little bit more.better yet show him this and let him read the answers
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tell him to get a job, or get the hell out! seriously!  what kind of man is he??? if hes not willing to pull his weight, do you think he can really fill your needs?  naturally you can help him on job searches, but he needs to be a big boy now... if he can be out of his parents house, then he can join the ranks of the working adult!!!!
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My mother in law feels sorry for my husband. He thinks that I don't do anything at all..and that I should have a job so he doesn't have to work so hard. \nThe truth is..she was Missing In Action for most of my husband's life..having to work all of the time at menial jobs. He has very few memories of her being there at all.\nSoo...I have learned to avoid her, and shrug off her unsubstantiated criticisms.
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I wouldn't worry about hurting his feelings. I would never go out everyday and work my butt off knowing he was at home doing nothing. That would make me so mad I'd kick his rear end out. Either he gets a job or gets out. I can't see one person supporting the whole family. It isn't fair at all. Just tell him you can't do it all on your own anymore. Exspecially when you are expecting your second child. When you are off of work for a while where's he going to get his money from then.
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Look, I am a fourteen year old kid and i have also had a pretty rough year, but let me tell you something, do not give up. This past year has been a struggle for me and my family, but once we found out the problems i was having, we were able to find the proper doctors and medication. I know that it seems tough right now, but you have to hang in there. Nothing is going to happen over night, but if you work hard anything is possible. Please trust me, if I could overcome my problems I am sure you can. As far as your job goes, you will have to make the choice whether or not to go back to school or live with what you have. Maybe it would be a good idea to go see a physiologist or psychiatrist to help work out your problems. Whatever you do, don't eat bad food just because you are depressed, or upset with something. Just say no to junk food. I also suggest that you spend more time with your son. Just remember that he will only be a baby once, so don't spoil that. No matter what always find time for you and your family. Bring your kid to the park or read books with him and always encourage him to do better. Never discourage him or ignore him, that will just make him feel bad, trust me I have a five year old brother. One day soon, sit down with your husband and discuss with him what you think the two of you should do in the future. I hope all of this helps and I wish you the best of luck.
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I am sorry to say but i agree with him. You got yourself in a family relationship. Our kids come 1st and we always travel with them. Try to comprmise and bring a sitter so you guys can go off and do stuff on your own
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may be he was tired from work.. talk to him, and work it out...you're getting married for goodness sakes!! Those are tiny problems compared to what you will be facing in a married life...
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Sometimes, I have wished that, but never strongly enough to want to do anything about it.  You have a daughter and that ought to be good reason to keep going, even if things are rough between the two of you at the moment.  You have to set an example for her.    At the very least, you should keep reading the Job Classifieds, so that you can find something better than the one you have.  Can't you talk about this with anyone you know?  What happened to your boyfriend?
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I hear you sister!  I really do.  Although his desire to wait is admirable, he has to understand that waiting for too long brings more health risks to you.  Your drive is so strong, and he needs to understand that.\n\nI've said it before, if you wait until you're ready, you will never be ready.  Sometimes you just have to jump in with both feet, and take a chance.\n\nYou may not yet own your own house, but so long as you're in a stable and loving home, with space enough to accomidate an infant for a time, then you'll be fine!  You don't need a big house with a big back yard until your kids are old enough to enjoy the yard, and until you have enough children you'll be too crowded in a small home.\n\nBeyond that, if he still continues to block your suggestions, then I would have to assume that he's simply not ready for children.  He could be afraid of what it could do to the two of you financially, and how it's going to affect your relationship ('cause it will!)  Perhaps he has just a little more growing up to do.\n\nThe best I can suggest is to talk out a contingency plan.  Set VERY specific goals, such as, in B amount of time we will start looking for a house, in C amount of time we will buy a house, in D amount of time we will start trying to have a baby, and if B and C don't pan out within E amount of time, then we move ahead with plan D anyways.\n\nAll the best!
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YOu can work all kinds of ways that are productive for you and the community and there is nothing that you mention that isnt of great value and worth to your family and so you. I think perhaps you are just having a crisis. seek some help and talk to your husband and/or pastor about this.\n\nGood Luck and God Bless!!
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Yes actually. I keep trying to get my husband to go and work out of town and just come home on the weekends or every other weekend. We fight too much and maybe if we didnt have to see each other everyday we might look forward to spending time together!
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Your situation sounds like mine!  The father of my kids basically turned his back on us.  He ran off to live his life and complete his education while leaving us behind.  Next thing I know, he admits to having a child by someone else (after the kid was almost two years old).  I could go on and on about the situation, but I won't.  Now he wants me back because he can't find a decent female that will accept a guy with three kids AND bad finances!!!  Ha, ha, ha!!  It's so funny!  Before, the man was telling me all of the reasons that I wasn't good enough for him!  During a recent conversation, he even admitted that, at one time, he thought that he was better than me!!!  Now, he's always whining about how he thinks that we should raise our kids together, which, I admit would be a good thing.  But, I know that he wants that for the wrong reason, only for his convenience.  I could go on and on, but this is about you, not me!!  Sorry!!!  What I'm TRYING to say is that if we weren't good enough for them before, we're not good enough for them now (or in other words, we're too good for them now)!!!  I don't know exactly what your children's father did, but if he chose to run off and leave y'all to live his life as he pleased, then I don't think it will be worth your time to fool with him.  Invest your time into becoming as successful as you want to be and into finding a man that will love and respect you and your child or children!
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I have 2 kids and would love more.Unfortunately my partner can't have kids.I have accepted it.We would have liked our own child,but he treats mine as his own.