Why are nice guys left behind?
459882
Don't listen to the person above. Nice guys arent always left behind. It just takes more time to get ahead but once you get ahead you stay ahead. For starters don't ever change who you are just let some qualities fall and others high light them more. Let say if you always hold the door for someone then one day don't. I can guarantee that you will respect yourself everytime you hold it after that. Just by making the smallest gestures you can change someone's life so don't think its going un noticed its just foggy right now. My website is below
1131023
HEY THE GUY ALWAYS CAME FIRST,THE NICE GUY USUALLY GOOD LOOKING HONEST AND RESPECTFULL GETS PASSED BY FOR THE JERK WHO GETS IN THE GIRLS PANTS THEN KICKS HER TO THE CURB. SOME NICE GUYS WILL TAKE HER BACK EVEN THOUGH SHE IS TAINTED! HAS SHE LEARNED LESSON? NO  SHE WILL DO IT AGAIN.
641697
You sound like a great guy to me! We can appreciate a good man but the problem is we may not have good men around us, so unless you live anywhere around any of us we will still go around saying that we can't find a good man.
343008
Yes, of course there are good men left in the world! If you are having problems finding good men, then you might want to reconsider where you are going to find them. Try to decide what characteristics would make a "good man" for you, and then try and decide where you would need to go to find him. Since I don't know what your definition of a "good man" is, I can't really give you any ideas as to where he could be found. Be patient, the right man is out there for you! Just don't waste your time trying to make a man be the kind of man you want. If he isn't right and you think you need to change him, just move on and keep looking. Good Luck! =-)\n\nS.S.
896250
I think in the end, life evens things out. If they are nice people, ultimately they will be rewarded and will find happiness. Treat women with respect becaues they deserve it. They are the foundation and they bring life. They also introduce happiness into some of those dark places in the world.
445501
I am afraid that it is a two way road on that one. A lot of woman dont appreciate the good guys and a lot of men don't appreciate the good women I have had guys tell me how good and sweet I am and this and that and then they drop me like a hotcake. \n\nI see that problem with women and I wonder why the heck they dropped the guy like they did. \n\nI think everyone needs to grow up and appreciate what is good. Honestly. \n\nI know that there are lots of good guys out there and there are lots of good girls, it's just a matter of them meeting one another.
1033245
Well I am not a guy But I see the inner beauty in the men I date. After all the cute is gone you are left with a cute asshole nobody. I figure it is that way for men also when they look for a mate. Of coarse everybody wants that perfect person who is all that .but think of it this way "our skin is just our garage where we                temporarily store our souls."
1078508
I find that the reason (not many women either know or own up to this) is that we want to "fix" them. We enjoy the fun because the loud ones are funny and confident but we also see a challange. In the long term we think that we need to fix/change them to be "good" men.  A good man that is already "okay" makes no challange. For a lot of girls the more screwed up the more attractive they are....for some.
673093
I wish I could give you ten points for even asking this question, you are a true and real genius!!! This is how it always ends up doesn't it?!?! I think that lost people see nice people (people that have found their inner selves) and try to take advantage. Those people try to gain what they need from nice people because they lack this!!They latch on like a parasite, but only if they knew that they have to achieve that task on their own. In other words usually people that pick on nice people, 9 times out of 9 have issues lying within thierselves and unfortunately nice people are bombarded with this destruction!!
555123
same problem. i think that every girl is just looking for the same kind of guy, and there are only so many of them, so most of us just get stuck with the left overs. and alot of the times, left overs suck
958525
guys can be jerks ... and some never grow up. some are just superficial and never outgrow it. there are a few of us good guys out there... but there are becoming fewer and fewer of us by the day.. because parents these days don't teach their kids to respect women the way we were. I mean kids running around calling women ho's and such..and hitting them. not good shows absolutely no respect for women.
308932
Here here! Mike, you have a very good point sir. I've noticed women start out young picking the abusive, hurtful, untrustworthy bad boys while blowing off the "good guys". Years later after being used and abused they're ready to settle down with a nice guy and expect us to be like we were. Sorry ladies. While you were off being stupid, we were busy being rejected, damaged, and "just friends" in the interim. You want the best of both. You want to have your fun and then settle down when you're ready. Then you complain that there are no good men left. Now you know why. \nWe had patience waiting for you to smarten up. Now you have to have patience while we're learning to trust you again.
515083
Men have been succeeding in relationships for centuries. The ones that don't get all the bad press.  When it does happen it is most likely because they have not had a good example of a long term lasting relationship to pattern them selves on. Why the good ones go unnoticed is a question too.\ntake care ~A~
74517
It's all about the chase. Cut them down to their basest instincts and years of darwinism, Men are the predators and women are the prey because we have something (I won't get specific, I'll let you draw your own conclusions)that they greatly desire. If they are eluded, it makes the desire to attain the unattainable even greater. To keep a man interested, always keep them guessing and never be too available. When they are convinced that the chase is over, they become disinterested and look for something else to pursue.This is just an explanation of the instinct. Not all guys get bored and move on.
324032
well first of all don't put your self down  like that. even though i don't know u i think that u aare a nice guy becccaues any girl would love to have boyfriend like u that does care about that girl even though she left u try to find someone better becaues she wasn't the girl for u but she will notice what she lost it will be to late but she will notice it and she will be soory because there aren't any guys like that anymore well there is but not much but she will know what she lost and u will find someone that aprciates u and that won't have a bf while going out with u well g2g email me if u need anything later take care
319735
Because they are not BORING. Nice boys are boring. Be interesting, and the girls will come.
957808
nice guys dont finish last, but guys with low self-esteem do.. if you dont like yourself, how do you expect anyone else to like you.  challenge yourself and you will learn to like yourself more.  the opposite sex will notice you when you like yourself...