How will you know if your husband is gay or bisexual?
465447
There's something u need to talk to your husband about but I doubt that he will talk to you about it. I went thru the same thing with mine the last year or so of my marriage and decided to leave because he wouldn't open up.\nWe went to a councelor once but he wouldn't Talk about it or whatever it was. He wouldn't even talk to the councelor except to make it all look like my fault. So I don't know if he was gay or not. He had a thing about his best friend too. He always told me nobody could ever seperate them and I never ever tried anyway. But I often wondered why he would get so hyped up about going out of town on those long trips with his buddy. I thought at the time it was natural that men had a best buddy and I suppose It is for some. There could have been something else going on besides that. He never wanted me to go but a time or two I wanted to just to get away for awhile but he didn't want me to go. Yours could be having an affair with a woman, mine could have been too. It doesn't matter anymore. I'm over it but still puzzled. Good Luck. Maybe you can get yours to open up.
825187
If he is looking at gay sites he could be curious, but since you say he was chatting too it could be more. Since he is in his late 40s, when he was in his early teens it was illegal almost everywhere for a man to have sex with another man. Being gay was called a choice, and since everyone was told it was a choice many people who were attracted to the same sex married and had children. Guys in their 40s usually go through a mid life crisis where they realize that they are getting older and want to act on things that they wanted to do when they were younger but weren't able to do either due to society or financial circumstances.\nThe thing I would ask you is if you love him, and if so how much? Do you think you could be supportive of him if he were gay? (I am not suggesting that you would stay married, only that it could be a friendly divorce). From what you have said I really don't know if he is straight, bisexual, or gay; but since you say he was not only looking but chatting at gay sites, I would simply ask him "Why were you talking to people at that site, I'm not going to tell you it is wrong, but would like to know why?" and see what happens. You won't know until you ask, and you may not get an honest answer, but at least you'll get an answer.
1138681
You can tell if your friend is gay by asking him.  \n\nIf you are not gay, you may want to mention how his behavior is unpleasant to you.\n\nIf you are gay, and he freaks out when you ask, you can point out that you're not the one who has been making sex comments and running around naked, and perhaps he should think about his actions.
1114921
Bisexual, but with someone of the opposite sex right now.
312281
I'm not the married man, but I am his wife who's bi....I know with total certainty that there's no woman who will take me from my hubby. I like girls, but not to the point of destroying my husband and marriage. If it came down to it, I'd walk away from women all together for him. In my case, it would just be sex, nothing more. And yes, I can say that with 100% certainty!!! Hope this helps, from a woman's perspective.....Good Luck!
484536
A homosexual man is a man who finds other men sexually attractive, and wants to have intimate sexual relations with them. \n\nA bisexual man is a man who finds both men and women sexually attractive and wants to have intimate sexual relations with either sex. \n\nA homosexual female (lesbian) is a lady who finds other ladies sexually attractive and wants to have intimate sexual relations with them. \n\nWhat your boyfriend asked you to do, is to put your finger in his rear, you are a girl, so there was nothing remotely homosexual about this request. \n\nThe similar assumption to make would be that when (if) you ask him to perform cunnilingus (kissing and licking your vagina)  on you, because you find this sexually stimulation and pleasant, that you are a lesbian; as this is what a lesbian would do to you during love making.   Of course you are not a lesbian because of this, because you have asked your BF to do it because you find HIM sexually attractive. \n\nHe probably does not want to talk about it because he knows that you are thinking these things.  If you love him and care about him, you will reassure him that you have no questions about his sexuality because of this, and that you are willing to do it as you care about him and his needs.  Your relationship will become much closer as you are trusting each other and communicating your needs and wants which is always a good thing.
368730
Do you attracted to people of the same sex?  If so, you are probably gay.
513844
I don't understand how you can be 100% faithful to your wife and still have a gay sexual orientation. Did you get this sexual orientation after getting married to her or before. If its before, then its amazing you were attracted enough to a woman to marry her though you were gay and i don't know for how long now you guys have been married. But if its after, then its not fair. There is a possibility you could still get rid of the this orientation. Obviously it would not work if your wife finds out. But you should at least be sincere enough to tell her and let her make her choice which is obvious, and would be to leave the marriage, but she would not mind if she has the same sexual orientation. Just be sincere with her and come clean
1113437
All it means is that you have a rich fantasy life.  Could there be a chance that you're bisexual and didn't know it?  I suppose, but it's unlikely -- I don't speak from experience, but I would be willing to bet that true lesbians and bisexuals would have experienced some level of attraction to the same sex at some point before they got married.  That you're only experiencing it now is just natural curiosity.  I seriously doubt your husband would hate you for having this fantasy, though he may not understand it completely.  It really depends on him; guys are funny that way.  Even guys who are the most vocal in their disgust over gay men will usually allow lesbians in their world, if only in the vain hope that they might join in at some point.  I'd mention to him casually that you had a funny dream where you were making out with a woman, and see how he reacts; I'm willing to bet good money he'll raise an eyebrow and say, "Reeealllly???  Um... what happened next?"
384408
I can only hope so..If they both mutually want it and enjoy it. And don't try to put a label on it (gay, bi, whatever..) just enjoy what you do.
492393
Hell Yeaaaaaaaaaa it does I found my only true love 29 years ago! I knew when I first saw him I was going to marry him and raise a big family! We married about 5 months after we meet and we are still married, we raise 6 kids and have 8 grandkids with one on the way and I love him just as when I first layed my eyes on him but I love him more and more everyday , we have are ups and downs but we get thru them together! And if your thinking your not gay they maybe you arent maybe your bi maybe your straight! But when you meet the one you want to spend your life with you will know in your heart stop trying take a break, go with your gut dont be with anyone, man or woman till you know you can't live with out them! They will be the one that will put all of your doubt's behind you, the one that you will think of first thing in the morning and the last one you will think of at night, the one that no matter what you would never cheat on because you would not want to lose him/her! Just don't try so hard true love will come when the right person comes along!
554547
The wife's instinct is closer to correct.  I married a man, who was and is a straight man, but wished to become a woman.  If/when he does that, he will be a lesbian--still attracted to women.
1148111
almost everyone is bisexual in nature, whether it's 50%straight-50%gay, 90%straight-10%gay, 95%gay-5%straight, 99%straight-1%gay or 80%gay-20%straight.   it can be any combination of numbers.
542911
How to tell if you're gay: \n1. If you are over 30 and you have a washboard stomach, you are gay. It means you haven't sucked back enough beer with the boys and rather you've been sucking-off the boys and have spent the rest of your free time doing sit-ups, aerobics, and doing the Oprah diet.  \n\n \n\n2. If you have a cat, you are a Flaaaayming gay. A cat is like a dog, but gay: it grooms itself constantly but never scratches itself, has a delicate touch except when it uses its nails, and whines to be fed. And just think about how you call a dog..."Killer, come here! I said get your butt over here!" Now think about how you call a cat... "Bun-bun, come to daddy, snookums!" Jeeezus, you're fit to be framed, you're so gay.  \n\n \n\n3. If you suck on lolipops, Ring-Pops, baby-pacifiers, or any such nonsense, rest assured, you are a Gaylord. A straight man only sucks bar-b-q ribs, crab-claws, raw oysters, craw-fish guts, pickled pigs feet, or titties. Anything else and you are in training to suck El Dicko and undeniably gay.  \n\n \n\n4. If you refuse to take a dump in a public bathroom or piss in a parking lot, you're in a deep homosexual relationship. A man's world is his bathroom, he defecates and urinates where he pleases.\n \n\n5. If you drink decaf coffee with skim milk, you like a high hard one in the poop-chute. Coffe is to be had strong, black (or with thick, wholesome milk) and full-aroma. A vagina-eating man will never be heard ordering a "Decaf Cafe Latte with Skim" and he will never, ever know what artificial sweetner tastes like. If you've had Nutrasweet in your mouth, you've had a dick there too.  \n\n \n\n6. If you know more than six names of colors or four different types of dessert, you might as well be handing out free passes to your bung. A real man doesn't have memory space in his brain to remember all of that crap as well as all the names of all the players in the Major league, NFL, NBA, college ball, PGA, and Nascar. If you can pick out chartreusse or you know what a "fresier" is you're gay. And if you can name ANY type of textile other than denim, you are faggadocious!  \n\n \n\n7. If you drive with both hands on the wheel, forget it...you hungry for meat-popsicle. A man only puts both hands on the wheel to honk at a slow driver or to cut the dude off. The rest of the time he needs that hand to change the radio station, eat his hamburger, hold his beer, finger the bi-atch in the passenger seat (whoever she happens to be), or, if he's Latino, talk on his cell-phone.  \n\n \n\n8. If you enjoy romantic comedies or French films, mon-frere, vous sonnez le Gay, oui? The only time it is acceptable to watch one of those is with a woman who knows how to reward her man. Watching any of the above films by yourself or with another man is likely to result in SHC (spontaneous homosexual combustion), which is what happens to fags when they flame out too quickly.
1150084
At this point I'd say bi-curious, if you tried it and liked it, then bi.  Be sure to discuss things with your husband first, you don't want him to be upset, or find out through someone else.  And if you do choose to be with one of your friends, make sure she knows that you are still married and are staying married, that it is a no strings kind of thing.  That way no one gets hurt.
1106511
Girl is you crazy? Don't convience no other women of anything about your husband! If they want to think he is gay let them think it! This way you don't have to worry about them hitting on him! However keep your eyes peeled. Not all of those friends really think he is gay and they are trying to throw you off their trail of secretly liking your husband. \nAnd whatever you do, do continue to watch sex and the city and bond with your husband. And whatever you don't do, don't make him feel bad because your so called friends haves you thinking he's gay. I mean because you may watch a ball game or action movie with your husband does't make you gay. So why such it make him gay for watching a drama with you. But this is are secret remember! Do not tell your girlfriends!  Good Luck to you and your husband!
652493
if you have sex with guys and girls you are Bisexual