I do not want the wedding march on my wedding?
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I was a church organist for many years.  At my wedding I had Widor's 'Toccata' (any organist will know what that is as it's a b*&%^y nightmare to play).  'The Arrival of the Queen of Sheba' is a good one, even tho you're departing.  Karg-Elert's 'Now Thank We All Our God' (doesn't sound at all like the hymn!) is a nice one, as is Mendelssohn's War March of the Priests.\n\nI've also played the theme to Brideshead Revisited, Love Changes Everything, and A Whiter Shade of Pale (with my teeth firmly gritted).\n\nLots of people like Handel's Water Music, and Jeremiah Clarke's Trumpet Voluntary is very popular.\n\nIf you ask the person who is going to play the music for you, I'm sure they can make other suggestions from their own personal repertoire.  Many organists like to have the chance to play something different than the Bridal and Wedding Marches, so I'm sure they'll be pleased to be given the opportunity to do something different for you.  Some organists even go as far as producing a tape for couples to listen to at leisure, although I didn't.\n\nHope this helps.
129791
Why not go to a wedding chappel where ALL they do is perform marriages! That way it is still in a "church" but not one that either of you go to. OR go to the Justice of Peace. (City Hall) If that is not to your liking, choose a picturesque spot near your home and have a notary public officiate.
727053
Woah, you've asked a lot there.  Since you (a) are an alien in the UK, (b) your bride is not from the UK at all and (c) you want to get married on foreign soil, you've set up a very sophisticated, difficult immigration problem.  Consult a barrister in the U.K. first.
501762
break off from the ritualistsic traditions.\nThe Lord Jesus cant be found there, and Jesus would have no problem marrying you outside and niether should your pastor.
380158
NO! It's rude to invite people to just the ceremony and not the reception to begin with UNLESS they are not having a reception.  If they are not having a reception then they probably don't expect a gift anyways.  I wouldn't even go-the whole situation is really rude.
952816
I do believe you are right, to a point.\n\nIt WAS traditional for the wedding to be held in the Bride's hometown, but that was back when the bride was purchased.  Back then, the Groom's family would come to the Bride's home, pay the price for her, hold the ceremony so her family could see that everything was legal, then they'd take her with them and she'd likely never see her family again...\n\nI doubt this old tradition continues for the same reasons in most of the world anymore.\n\nSo, you two need to discuss the pros and cons and come up with an agreement based on your individual situations.  Claiming "tradition" in this case is kind of silly...
417793
I am sure you can. You should call and talk to the Pastor. Good Luck and God bless your wedding!
600252
whats more important is what not to wear out. That is your welcome. Go to the wedding and get out.
244560
Band first. Engagement ring on top.\n\nBut during the ceremony you take the engagement ring off.
326998
Do it anyway you feel comfortable and can afford. Unless you have children. Then please do it quietly and discreetly.  I am getting sick and tired of attending weddings where the kids are in the ceremony.
329428
Is it similar to a wedding ceremony? If so then just go by that. If it is different you could still use one of them. I think that is really nice.
1051269
Your wedding day is one of the most important events of your life.  Go formal no matter what time of the day it is.  Live it up, dress to kill. and have a great time.
103779
Sure you can... but the legal date of your marriage will be that of your "first wedding". My husband and I were married by a justice of the peace, 4 years later we were married in the church. We even went through prekana(sp?) classes to do it. It was great to renew our vows and profess our love for one another again. Congrats & good luck:)
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Oh Emilio, i couldnt agree with you more.\n\nEveryone's different; some people really want the dress, the cake, the whole shibang; some are quite happy to go off to Bali and get married under a palm tree with just the two of you.\n\nSome people dont feel the need for any of the above, and go on happily as long term partners.\n\nI personally think the whole white weding thing is ok if you keep it resonable, and affordable. But when it gets out of control, and you find yourself in debt for the rest of your days just so she can have the whole fairytale, then it's a problem.\n\nMe, i opted for a quiet little ceremony; it doesn't diminish how much i love my husband, and we've still got our sanity and our bank balance in order.\n\nEach to their own, good luck matey.
923511
Can't see why there would be.  but be considerate and say something before the wedding if you feel strongly about it.
770094
If your fiancee wasn't the one making the stand, then you don't need to do anything.  If you want to invite him, then do it.  If you don't want them at your ceremonies, then don't invite them.  \nIf your guests decide not to show up because of that, then that's on them.\nYou can't get caught in the middle.  Let the people who are offended take their stand and let the gay people and the offended argue over this.  You are not going to be able to play peacemaker in this situation.\nPeople are going to stand for what they believe in and you are not going to resolve this issue with them.\n\nBut since your fiancee has a problem with gay people in his home, then you either need to side with your fiancee or get a new one.  If you are divided over this issue, it will cause too many problems with your marriage since your brother is gay and you seem to be close to him.  Part of marriage is becoming "one flesh".  If you are going to allow this to divide your marriage, that means you do not have the intention of becoming "one flesh" and you will remain divided and have an unhappy marriage.\n\nYou're going to have to choose sides in this case.  Marriage is about siding with your spouse.  If you don't respect him in this case, then you shouldn't get married.\n\nYour fiancee is taking a stand for what he believes in and I respect him for it.  These days, people think we should tolerate everything for the sake of peace.  I disagree totally.  If we tolerate everything, then evil will prevail.  I don't care if I'm called a bigot, a homophobe, gay basher or whatever PC name they label me as.  I would take the same stand as your future husband.
469695
I THINK HE LOVES YOU BUT MAYBE Y'ALL SHOULD JUST POSTPONE THE WEDDING UNTIL MAYBE YOU'LL CAN GET BOTH FAMILY'S TO GET ALONG. MY OPINION THE SHOULD NOT PUT THEIR NOSE IN WHERE IT DON'T BELONG. I COULD UNDERSTAND IF ON OF YOU WAS BEING ABUSIVE TO OTHER. IF YA LL REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER THEN YA LL NEED TO SIT FAMILIES DOWN AND TELL THE THAT Y'ALL ARE GETTING MARRIED ON////// DATE. AND THERE IS NOTHING THEY CAN DO ABOUT IT CAUSE Y'ALL LOVE EACH OTHER AND WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YALLS LIFE TOGETHER. MAKE SURE YOU REALLY EXPRESS HOW MUCH IT WOULD MEAN TO Y'ALL FOR BOTH SIDES OF THE FAMILY TO BE THERE FOR YAWLS BIG DAY...I DO PRAY FOR Y'ALL, Y'ALL SHOULD PRAY TOGETHER ON THIS SITUATION God DOES ANSWER PRAYERS, IF YOU REALLY OPEN YOUR HEART TO HIM. I HOPE THIS HELPS. GOOD LUCK AND god bless you !!!!!