Women's point of view please.....Wife not nearly as sexual as I need her to be.?
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Men and women have completely different needs when it comes to sex, usually. No, you can't change her. But there may be a deep seated reason she is the way she is. Perhaps something she hasn't shared with you or some fear.\n\nIf it is that troublesome for you, see a sex therapist or start marriage counseling.
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dont want wife pg in her 40.s
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hmmm thats hard to say, maybe shes like a lot of women and doesnt really have a strong sex drive, or flat out just doesnt enjoy it.  I on the other hand could have sex on a daily basis.. well depending on wether or not there was compatability... good luck
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First off if you love your wife then why would you leave her?  A marriage is built on trust and understanding, not ignorance and dropping out when the times are rough.\nAre there physical reasons for your wife's inactivity in the bedroom?  Perhaps she should see an OBGYN about it.  Is it your jobs? Find a way to spend more time together.\n\nI guess I'm saying take a few steps back and look at the situation from every aspect, with your wife.  If it's only low libido then try somethings to spice up your love life, massage, games, strip tease, make out in the back seat of the car, sex toys, etc.  Find what gets both of you hot and bothered and use it.  Instead of masturbating, masturbate each other.
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It sounds like you wife needs to see a Doctor first. She could have a medical condition that needs to be addressed. If that doesn't work then take her to a Psychologist for help with your sex life. Good luck
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Some people have a hard time communicating with this subject. For one do lots of touching and kissing. All over her whole body from neck down her back her stomach etc. Then whisper to her how she wants it. Start talking dirty to her. I gaurantee she'll love it. Funny thing is is I can tell you this but I haven't quite gotten it across to my husband yet.
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My guess is that you're not talking about a day-to-day thing. What you want is for her to get dressed up and for you two to have crazy monkey sex. Awesome.\n\nIf you two talk about your sex life, bring it up during one of those conversations. Say "You know what might be fun to try one time?"\n\nDon't try to change the whole of your sex life in a day. A good guideline is that only 1 in 3 sexual encounters with your partner should be "enhanced" or "special". If you were to start asking her to dress up like a porn star every time you two made love, she would likely feel less than confident.\n\nIf you two are open enough, head on over to a strip club. Buy her a lapdance. I went to a club and got one and it was superfun. I left the club thinking it might be fun to dress up like a stripper sometimes. Your wife might get the same ideas.\n\nHowever, if you bring it up and she says something along the lines of "I'm not a tawdry whore", make it clear that you want her to be beautiful and classy, just like she already is. If she still says no, drop it. The more you pressure her, the more she'll feel like you don't like her for who she is.\n\nMost women will agree to do something that they're not entirely into every once in a while for the sake of their partner. Besides, if you respond enthusiastically, she's more likely to do it again.\n\nGood luck!
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Women think more with EMOTIONS.  Men react by the physical like a naked lady!  lol  Wome need to feel emotionally connected for it to be awesome sex!  Try treating her like a WOMAN instead of a WIFE!  Buy her a basket at Bath and Body filled with bubble bath,scented soap, oil beads,scented candle, and throw in a bottle of wine or champagne.  Then when she is in her hot steaming bubblebath with candle light she will REMEMBER who got this for her and she will be thinking of u when she is wet and soapy!  Then be sure to put a towel in the clothes dryer so she has a toasty towel to wrap her naked body in!  Use her new lotion to give her a back rub.  Next time u r in the middle of Walmart- stop the cart and pull her into your arms and lay one hell of a lip lock on her!  When u go to a restaraunt and they take u to a booth- DO NOT sit across from her- slide in right beside her so that during the meal you can whisper in her ear and use the occasional leg caress while your at it.  While driving down the road- stop and pull over the car- make a mad dash thru traffic just to pick her some wild flowers!  She must be with u so she can see this!  Write on the shower tile " I LOVE YOU"  Write on the bedroom mirror" God u r sooooo beautiful- just look".  Women need emotion women need to feel like we r the most beautiful and sexy woman on earth in our mans eyes.  And its up to YOU to try and make her feel this way!!!  There r sooooo many little things you can do to make her feel special and most of them do not cost a single penny!!!  Treat her like a WOMAN instead of just a wife!  Good luck to u
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Being a mature woman myself, I have to tell you that it will take patience & work on your part,but do know that it will be well worth the trouble. Most women ,of any age, need to be reassured that they are attractive & desirable. Try to think of your Wife as a Girlfriend that you are trying to impress.You will find yourself being more romantic & thoughtful towards her. This will help her start to like herself again & her sexual desires will return. IF YOU ARE PATIENT ENOUGH.Or should I say...IF YOU LOVE HER ENOUGH!! You could also ask her if she has any  sexual fantasies,or if she would tell you what she would prefer that you do. Sometimes, when a woman isn't in the mood... It would please both of you if she were to please you ;-). This should be expected only on occasion. It sometimes works also to make an agreement ahead of time,to just cuddle,kiss & rub your hands all over each other,but DO NOT HAVE INTERCOURSE. Just knowing that it is just for stimulation & nothing more,will excite both of you. Then plan for the next time to do the same ...BUT... agree that if she wants to go farther you will,if not,enjoy the closeness you have achieved & go for the next time. As I said, PATIENCE. IT WILL BE WORTH IT FOR BOTH OF YOU, I PROMISE.   P.S. If you are as mature as she is... Your time is coming too.
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Hi Mehul \nWell, it is a good qustion and I hope that it will be enough for you and ur wife. \nIt is important in the first night to make ur wife comfortable and to explain to her that doing sex is a normal thing and all people doing it, and it is not harmful for her by any way and if she doesn't like to do sex at a moment u can delay it to a next time.\nIn addition, any woman likes to see a gentle and nice behavior from her husband. So I advice u to do the following:\n1) Start speaking with sweaty words like (u're so beautiful, u've a moon face etc...).\n2) Continue speaking till she feels well and her shiness dissolves, then touch her hands smoothly, hold it, raise it, then kiss it.\n3) Now take a look at her face and show her a lovely smile. \n4) Then u can hold her hand again and start kissing her from her hand up to her shoulder, end it with a gentle kiss from the back of her neck.\n\nIf u see that this answer is suitable for u, tell me for further completion. \nGood Luck
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Absolutely....Watching your wife turned on is the ultimate rush....It is total sacrificial love to allow your wife the experience of incredible sex while you get to watch from another point of view
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You could try to satisfie her oraly...ore use your fingers.Ore a little bit of both....just use your fantasy..there are loads of ways to play without actually having intercourse.Have fun!
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Times have changed. Men no longer have to work and be the head of household. If this bothers you so much, why don't you talk it over with your wife? Maybe she doesn't realize that she is "in charge" so much. Some guys need that extra push or the reasurence that someone else will take care of it. Has your wife always been "stronger" than you, or did she just resently buff up? If she has always been like this, then you  knew about it before you said "I do." I am not stronger than my husband, but I do wear the pants. He knows this and he is ok with it. We do not think that he is "P.W." but he just needs someone to tell him and guide him in the right direction. If this doesn't bother you, then let it be. If it does, then just talk to her.
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What do you think should a husband fulfill his wife's sexual fantasy of having another man join them???? That will answer your question. She is your wife not just a toy whom you can twist and turn it the way you want! Respect her! She is not there to fulfill desires she is there cuz you choose her to be your life partner! She has the same rights as you do your are not Superior than her!
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Here is my advice\nFirst sex is at least 75% mental, Your husband is just trying to spice up your sex life. During sex he probably does like the thought of wife swapping  but before and after he would probably not want to try it. The easy way to tell this is ask the question. Does he talk about it when you are not having sex or just when the hormones are flowing during sex?  What my wife and I agreed to was this " What we say during sex is not to be taken seriously and only meant to be fantasy"  That is a perminate agreement.  So we are both fee to bring up all sorts of things during sex without having to worry  about how the other will feel about it. It make the fantasy's more real but safe.
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It's a good question Helen. My wife and I are doing more sexually than ever before! Alot of it would depend on how much BOTH of you enjoy this new act! If you both enjoy it, you may want to take it another step. If one person wasn't so happy about it, I would sit down together and talk about it. Maybe you could try it one more time or maybe that is as far as it should go and not try it again!\nWe have done quite a few things, if you want to e-mail me I may be able to give you some more help.\nEither way, good luck!
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my wife  in my opinion