4 u guys:if u stayed with girl 8 years live together no marry after that she left you? you start with her?
463278
huh that question is confusing...but i seems like you guys really love each other and should stay together.
227075
I have to agree with rkrell, i have been where you are, get her out of that situation. it is nothing but trouble  for you. Those are the doors that need to be closed in life. Especially fomr the past, if they remain open your future will never be as it could and should be. Especially since you two want to get married. You are only short changing yourrelationship by allowing her to getto knwo this guy...bad move
117177
If there are no more feelings for her then why stay?  You like making her miserable, not to mention yourself?  Get on with your life so she can too
159192
It seems as you wasting your time ,4 years and you donot know if you are going to love her or not???Do you think that she have no bf now as you didnot date her for the last 6 months? Realy i doesnot think so....sorry for you
207308
My wife of over 8 years.
462419
no! when a girl proposed! the marriage doesnt usually last, we conducted a research, with 2 couples, and 100% they got divorced a month later
411341
Yup...my friend met his girlfriend in high school.  When we graduated they had to split up because they went to school in different states.  They met up again 9 years later and got married after being together for 2 years.
39855
you have asked this question three times. i know you kind of want a yes, you should. but listen to us. think first. talk to her about it. there can be complications. can you live with her? would your parents be happy? could you guys marry, and still have money to live on? think first.
527696
Save yourself for the girl you marry. Next time that lady flirts, tell her sorry, but you prefer to wait for your girl. If that doesn't work, you might wanna consider finding a new place to live, without the landlady around.
524888
Sounds as if he has moved on in his mind and left you and the marriage behind. Sad that after 8 years. How you can improve your marriage is how you react to the sitution right now. Don't beg or bug him about anything. Give him some room and the old saying if you set someone free and they come back they are yours is very true............
250950
I was in love with this incredible girl, Morgan, and I have never loved anyone in my life this way. THe great thing was, she returned the same amount of love. I wanted to marry her (I still do), but we broke up a few months ago. She said the same thing. She felt pressured. I realized she had never been single in her life after she was 15, and she is now 22. That's a long time. I tried SOOOO hard to do things to please her and make her want to take me back. The thing I finally realized was that I was making it worse. I was making her feel more pressured than ever. I quit trying, and after some time, we started becoming close friends again. I wish we could be together again, but she needs to be free. Freedom is a very tough thing to find. What i didn't realize is that i was the one who wasn't free. I needed to find happiness in myself. Who knows what will happen? Maybe we'll get back together, maybe we won't. I will love her to the grave, but the only chance I'll ever have, is letting HER figure it out. I have, for the first time in my life, come to a point where I don't desire to have a girlfriend. That's an incredible accomplishment for me, since just 6 months ago, I was in a hurry to get married and have a family. That was part of my problem. I wanted to spend so much time with her, cause she made me feel like no one else could. But love, as I found out, is something you do, not feel. It is patient, kind and generous. I can still love her even though we are not together, and I don't have to think about her every minute of the day. I can focus on my band, my job, and more importantly, making myself a better person. I hope that helps!
1055271
I've been married to my wife fo 10 years and we have had a girl friend for 3.  Its a moral thing, So for the record not wrong.
642055
Hey boy, this is my exprience about my own longterm relationship :\n\nYou should keep your girlfriend just as your friend , not as your need. If you choose the second option, when the girl leaves you, you will going to die and if you choose 1st option , you can get the better girl friend.\n\nThis is the truth. Believe it to be successful in your own relationships.\n\nHave fun.
130227
I married my first and only love.  We were together for four years before we got married.  We were high school sweethearts.  We got married right out of high school and I would't have changed anything in the world.
301772
I would really look at the relationship. I would also wonder if she had other problems. You need to really look deep to find out what you are going to decide. Trust is hard to regain and living with someone you dont trust is impossible so dont do it unless you really are sure she is the one for you. Good luck and God Bless!!
1089625
Yes! it sounds to me like you two are definatly in love. and if she didn't give you a good enough reason, like "i met someone else or i want to explore my options" then i think she still loves you, it is just too painful for her to be apart for so long. so i think you need to talk to her. dont just go over there and pop the question right away. but talk to her, make her fall in love with you again and then tell her you need her and that you two need to spend the rest of you lives together...then... "will you marry me?"
75374
That happened to me and it was the end of the relationship.  We met in college, had a long-distance relationship, then together for several months, then she moved 4-5 hours away after getting fired and getting a better job.  She wanted to marry, or at least live together openly, while I knew I couldn't marry her (too neurotic, too much fighting) and tried to hold on to the passionate girlfriend/boyfriend relationship indefinitely.  So it had been a holding pattern for several months, and her moving didn't really change it.  Soon she told me of reciprocal interest with a co-worker, which in retrospect I think was trying to drive me off, but I didn't bite and was actually friendly with the jerk.  Finally she said, "I think we ought to cool it and date other people".  I was in shock, but I remember what came out was, "You mean you want to break up?"  I don't remember what she said but the upshot was I wasn't going to share and she didn't try to work out a sharing arrangement.  Eventually she married the jerk.  I got an invitation to the wedding but I never answered and broke off contact.\n\nSo through the lens of my life experience, the relationship is on its last legs and you're looking for the kill.  I think the more honest and humane approach would be to present an ultimatum to get off of hold or break up, or just leave if you're not committed enough to force that issue.  It may seem cold, but it's better than getting into the jealousy thing with other guys.  I know being left for another man was much harder on me than being left out of general dissatisfaction, and it killed my interest in follow-up friendship (that part might be a blessing).  Someone else's story might have a different moral.\n\nGood luck,\nhouyhnhnm