Will marriage for us work? Please help.?
467903
Personally, I think marriage is a bad idea for you. Right now your focus should be your children. Most of them won't fully accept him because he is "replacement dad." Also, he is taking their mom away from them and your attention will be on the new marriage, the new babies, not the kids you already have. Your 14 year old is acting up because of what I assume is the divorce from their father and now the new guy. Focus on your current children, they are needing you more now then ever.\n\nAlso, at 35 the risk of many birth defects increases signifigantly, along with just having a harder time to conceive children. You can still have healthy children, but you are risking a lot.
349551
You are both very fortunate in your happines.  Dont worry about what the world is doing.  Because it sounds like you BOTH are doing everything right.  Continue to love, respect, communicate and enjoy each other.  It takes 2 to make a marriage and a home.  I simply made a poor choice, and the problems erupted early on.\nSome of us dont get it right the first time.
61120
Marriage can be a very beautiful thing when its w/ the right person.  I can hardly wait to marry my fiance.  We live together now and its hard but great.  You have to work at it like everything else in life to make it wonderful.  You get out what you put into basically.
622504
well, I'm hoping that your relationship does work out. I'm in the same situation, but my bf is a year older that yours. We are talking about moving in together after I graduate next year, and the talking has already started. I believe that if both of you are willing to work on it, then there is no reason that your relationship will fail. Good luck.
472648
Why not... With God all things are possible.  It is not easy going into marriage but I think the best part of life is being with the person you love for the rest of your life.  It is a good thing to see each other at the older age .. say like 70 to 75 years and still love each other.
842848
Me. It does work. We are totally compatible politically - he's a liberal democrat Christian, I'm a slightly conservative democrat atheist. (Blows the lid off the 'only republicans are Christians' argument!) We love the same movies, books, TV shows... What amazes me is the sheer number of people who answered your last question that simply have no idea what they're talking about. We have a Christmas tree - in fact, I decorate it. With angels and all kinds of things. I incorporate all our beliefs into the holidays. His mom is against the wedding (which we agreed to have done by a justice of the peace) and, although she likes me, she doesn't like the idea of her son being "unequally yolked". He himself has said to me that he's unsure about where I'll "end up", but he doesn't dwell on it. As for kids - we agree the best thing is to let them find out what they want to believe on their own. To keep this from getting too long, you can email me with any specific questions you might have. I write a bit myself, and would be more than happy to help you!
547556
I think it's perfectly reasonable for you to want to "seal the deal". I would caution against making a big deal out of it at this stage in life, however.\n\nThe two of you are already as established family. This marriage, if it is to happen, should not be a means of taking the next step, but confirming you have already taken it and are committed to one another, if that makes sense. If he does not feel this way, then you certainly do not want to push marriage.\n\nAlso... Having had a baby and (presumably) lived together, you're sort of past the point of the traditional big white wedding, if you know what I mean!
373789
Inter-racial marriage can and does work. If you keep open lines of communication and discuss cultural differences before you marry. Love has nothing to do with race or culture and I think it's horrible that some parents try to pressure their children into limiting their choices by discouraging inter-racial relationships. My Uncle Ray and Aunt Mary are a perfect example of an inter-racial marriage that was successful, they had been married for 44 years when Uncle Ray passed away. They had a wonderful marriage and two beautiful daughters!
660025
Rather than just coming out and saying "that's not going to happen," my opinion would be to try and try and try again.  What better gift can a future spouse receive than you on your wedding night - with a commitment that you have chosen to become pure - again - for this night only.  It is perfectly OK to start making that commitment now.  Buy yourself a purity/commitment ring and wear it on your ring finger and really try each day to live out that commitment.  Believe me, it will change your life =)  My opinion:  Wait until marriage!!!  Best wishes =)
150566
probably better to ask a marriage counselor : ) it could be lots of things, some which are "fixable", some which aren't.
885091
It can happen. I married my husband right out of high school. We were married 23 years and started having problems. We divorced...... 2 years later, and we are back together. We just don't work apart. The 2 years that we were apart was hell on both of us. We've now worked through our differences and plan on growing old together. :)
114955
my very good friend has been my husband for 3 years now.  i think the key to knowing if it could work is to not work for it, let nature take you there if it will.  enjoy him as a friend and see what happens.  good luck. ya can't lose cause ya already have an awsome friend, right?
613203
There is no guarantees in life and love. The only thing that will make it work is trust, honesty and very open communication. you have to go into the marriage with open eyes knowing that sometimes you may not agree and that there will be problems, It won't all be peaches and cream. The problem that I can see here is the lies about small things, If one is lying about the small things you could only assume that it would definately happen with the giant ones also. Your reaction to the small things could make or break whether he would feel comfortable with telling you the truth,  If you talk it out show him your hurt by it but that those things that he lied about aren't going to hurt your relationship if he had told you the truth I think that maybe he would possibly not fear the truth. If you freak out and threaten the relationship I'm pretty sure the problem would get worse.  also a relationship can't work if both aren't working on it, I've seen many relationships with one party saying I want to work it out but the others heart isn't really into it.
487614
your marriage is what you make it. both of you bring honesty, trust, respect,love,communication, and commitment and you will be fine. good luck
417054
NOPE, I HAVE BEEN THERE AND DONE IT, SURE IT WILL WORK FOR A WHILE THEN.. IT ALL STOPS, WE BROKE IT OFF FOR ABOUT 6 MONTHS, AND NOW A YEAR AND A HALF LATER WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR A YEAR NEXT MONTH. BEACUSE I MOVED TO BE WITH HIM
491816
If you dont think it will, you are wrong, thats not to say that you wont eventually get there.  Its just that once you get married, you now have to support someone else, you have to give them your time, you have to show them that they are #1 in your life.  Finances are the biggest problem for most in this situation.  Most have to work and go to school and there isnt really time to do both and give your spouse they time they need, want, and deserve.
791754
have you considered marriage counseling? even if he wont go with you...you still need to go.....you have only been married a few months and sometimes(trust me i know) the first year is the ABSOLUTE hardest...if you want to make your marriage work it will take time and patience....but if deep inside you ..you feel there is no way it is gonna work and you are 100% sure about it then do not be guilted into staying in a marriage you are unhappy in...do whats best for you and fix this BEFORE kids get involved...good luck sweet pea