i'm bonkers over this cousin of mine but i kinda don't know waht to do..coz of family and well her..?
461936
i feel your pain. i'm crazy about a blood cousin aswell. Dont feel bad. you cant help who you fall in love with. Tell her so that she can know what you're feeling and so that she can undersand why you do certain things a certain way when she's around. Tell her you love her, but dont react to what the love is telling you to do. make her understand that you cant help yourself and make sure that you keep your distance because after all, cousins make dozens.\nsave your family the shame... i did, and we're happy.
1062034
I definitely think you should try, no matter how well you feel around her.  She is still your family, even though you are not blood related.  I'm sure your father would be very happy if you could connect with her.  Respect to parents and family no matter how close you are is a very important thing in life, well it definitely is in my culture.
413566
wow so um try talking to your cousin about both of you waiting to see if maybe there is someone else for one or both of you then tell her how you feel and what you want to do if she cares for you both she might refuse to come between the two of you. i hope all goes well and if it doesnt there is more then likely another girl out there
166059
There's really not much you can do.  Your cousin is trying to find her own way, and will suffer the consequences of wrong choices.  Just be there for her, and when she asks for your advice or your opinion, give it to her honestly.  Try telling her what you are observing.
88421
Tell her how you feel about what she's doing. Tell her first, then if she doesn't change, tell your aunt. If she STILL doesn't change, you shd have nothing more to do with her.
218062
Oh, this is a sad situation and I am sorry for you...love can hurt sometimes.  Because she is your cousin you are just going to have to move on and NOT be with her.  You may want to see a professional counselor to get over her...You do not want to ruin your family by being with her...There is someone out there for you and I am so sorry but it isn't her.  She is SUPPOSED to be with someone else.  I know that sounds hurtful..but if you were to get with her and she got pregnant you could have a deformed or retarded baby.  Thats why family members shouldn't be together.
439992
Why don't you go visit her parents, the place she grew up, her first school, or maybe you could arrange a night out with her brothers/sisters. I'm sure she'll appreciate your effort to get close with her family and somehow you'll get close with her.
964953
Ive got a cousin called nadia
129309
Stop dating, and just be freinds. Just be glad you actualy found out that person was family.
814919
Mind your own business. What happens happens. You did not make the choices your relatives have made, and it is their harvest they are reaping. IF you stick your nose into it, trust me, the messenger is always killed. Be sympathetic, be kind, be loving, be supportive, but for heaven's sake, don't set them up for an "I told you so" from you..that is exactly what you will be doing. It does not matter one whit who he is playing around with. Some members of your extended family have very little sense (1st cousin...etc), and your blowing the whistle is not going to change things. The 1st cousin will get all that is coming to her soon enough, for this guy will not stop messing around ever. The soon-to-be exwife is the lucky one here..she is escaping.
579879
If he is close to his family then look at it this way he will make on heck of a family man. I would feel honored if I was you. Try offering to go to family get togethers with him and get involved with his family. They could become your family one day.
632028
Sometimes you find somebody that you just can't get along with.  You should understand that she is different and accept that she probably isn't going to change.  Try to find something that you both like so that your happiness will conquer the anger. Also, remember, just because she is your cousin and your mom enjoyed being with her little cousin, doesn't mean you have to!
76252
Talk it over with her. You have to. She is family. You both need to solve this.
648380
Is that not for your cousin to worry about,,don't get involved in your cousins crap!!!!!!!!!!!
838870
Tell her but pick a good time and find a soft way. My cousin actually married a gay man and it took her years to recover, but they are still friends. She'll probably never be fully over you, so be respectful of her when dating men, if you remain friends. Rent a movie like "Clueless" or "Saved!" or  "Brokeback Mountain" and watch it with her, you might be able to gage her reaction and put out a conversation opener. But most of all, remember, you can still love her and be gay.
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avoid your cousin...ignore them.  let your cousin know that you are not a doormat, and that you don't have to take it!
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Be yourself. Try not to be rude about anything. Regaurdless if her Aunt don't like you, show some respect if you have to be around the fam. Ask the girl if you two can go somewhere to be alone. Some people families do this to intemidate the person. I f you're feeling this person then don't shy away from her nor let her family get to you. But don't give her or her family any reasons not to like you. You know what I'm saying! Be real with her and you'll be alright.