Why - when someone wants to lose weight - do so many people on Yahoo Answers tell them not to?
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Wal-Mart... lol.\n\nAnyways, I agree with you and there are at least two main reasons for this. One is that we can't see one another on Answers, so some people assume if someone is talking about weight loss, that means they could be obsessing over their weight or suffering from an eating disorder. The second reason is that it's way easier to say "No, you look great as you are!" (even though, like I said, we don't know what the asker looks like) than it is to answer with thoughtful advice and suggestions. \n\nI don't mean that there aren't people here who are suffering from eating disorders. And I also don't mean that we don't all look great the way we are. But you're right, quite a few Americans are overweight, and it's not just an appearance issue, it's a serious health issue. So if someone's ready to take that first step and change their future health, more power to them! :)
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i wish that people would stop and think about everything that they are losing out on just because they think they are fat. i have been fat my whole life. i used to dread meeting new people because i was afraid of what they were thinking of me, now i could care less. there are way way bigger people in this world out there then 150 pounds. if you came up to me in person and said that you think you are fat i would laugh in your face. ill tell you what, you want me to send you a picture of some of my family members? i have an aunt that is close to 400 pound. and a cousin that is 330. and i aint no skinny minny myself. what you have to do is except yourself for what and who you are. if you dont like it then you should cut back on calories or lose it the right way because the ways that you are trying will work and then you will gain all of the weight back. and my mother used to be bulimic--she had dentures by age 24.
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Ok so lets be realistic here NOONE is perfect and most people find it very difficult to admit when they are wrong. I had a friend tell me something once that I wont easily forget, he said "everyone has a weakness and you can use that for your benefit". After that I saw things differently. Not that Im taking advantage of them but knowing they are human too and being able to look for and find it helped my esteem cause suddenly we were all on the same playing field. now I dont need that to know im a good person and i dont take others as personally anymore either.\n\nThe best part was poking a little fun at my "perfectly skinny friend" who always had a better than me attitude about weight (not that im fat) But i realized she is quite flat chested and it does bother her a bit and that cut her down to size. we are better friends now than ever.\n\nI just thought of something else. If some one says something that bothers you sometimes it helps to repeat it back to them in thier own words. "so your saying....." this creates a little 'yes' in thier mind and builds rapport between you. It also lets him hear himself and think about what he has said.
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I help people in the gym that are overweight with exercise and dieting tips. Why?  They are motivated enough to join a gym & they show initiative.  My group of friends always do that and shun ignorant people because they make us look arrogant and insensitive. Most of us started working out because we were insecure and can relate to people that might not feel good about themselves. Any woman that is comfortable with herself and is fulfilled is sexy.
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A sin?  No, but it is wrong if you know they are on a diet.  It is never right to sabotage someone if you know they are trying to lose weight.  If they aren't on a diet, no issue.  However, I am so health conscious that I would have chosen something other than chocolate...like a fruit basket.
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Are you serious? That kind of mentality has NEVER worked out. Be yourself. I know it's a cliche but it's so true. If you wanna lose weight, do it because of you, not trying to please a man. What happens if you can't? Will he accept you then? Will you accept yourself? Will you do something drastic to lose the weight? I hope not.
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It's just a basic human characteristic, people love to give advice! If they didn't,  Yahoo answers would have never gotten off the ground.\nMaybe that's a great thing about here, we can all get our advice and our opinions out before we have to go face the public, and won't have such an urge to be overbearing bossy-butts!
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Just because some idiot told you you were fat - doesn't mean you are, or that you should lose weight.\n\nYou need to learn to love yourself - the way you are, not the way some guy wants you to be. If you change yourself for someone else, you will never be happy. If you do want to lose weight - that is fine - but do it for yourself because you want to be healthy, not for a guy who is clearly not worth it!\n\nAny person worth listening to wouldn't say that you are fat.
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weight sex masturbation all of them and also does anybody want to talk .why dont they read some of the previous answers before asking and maybe that would help .i think some of them ask questions just to try and shock others but its a case or seen it done and wearing the t-shirt with me ,oh well lets try again .
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How much you dislike them is up to you. I, personally, would be more likely to appreciate their efforts to lose weight than to hold it against them.
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Very true. People may try to dissuade you from reaching your goal as they have their own opinion on things. If you try to follow the advice of others, you may not be happy. Follow your heart, do what is right and you will achieve true happiness.
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I highly doubt that they get some use out of it. I'll bet the answers do help them out. But usually people who are out of shape and are looking for guidance need more than help with their weight. Most people that are dealing with weight also have to deal with depression and other symptoms. In order for them to complete this goal of weight loss I beleive they need to treat the one with the other. When this is done, then results can be made. \n\nIf your happy and motivated you can do anything. But if your depressed and over-weight, how can you possibly deal with your weight in that state of mind.
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First of all, it's not "stupid" but I guess everyone has there own ignorant opinions. It's not like you choose to become anorexic. I used it as a way to gain control of my life. Everything was going wrong but that was the one thing I always had control of. It became ridiculous and I knew if I didn't stop, I would probably die. I knew what I was doing but I always denied the problem. I never wanted anyone to take my control away. You learn how to work around people's questions and eat just enough to pacify there curiosity.
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People don't want a true lifestyle change, they simply want to continue the status quo and hope that the weight comes off.
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The best response, is to say nothing a bout either. If you tell someone "you have lost weight, you look great", It implies that before weight loss they were fat and did not look good. If some one has put on weight, you don't need to inform them, they probably know,If they complain a bout weight, just say "really?, I hadn't noticed, I think you look nice.
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Being a BBW I never realized how much I actually do that. I think part of it comes from being overweight and being made fun of by thinner women. I also think it comes from fear and jealousy. I don’t want my man going to someone else, especially a thin person. It’s a feeling of not being good enough. It’s a fear of loosing to someone who doesn’t make you feel good. And yes in my case there is jealousy that you can be thin and I can’t. Well not as easily as it seems for you. I for one apologize on behalf of BBW's that have made remarks or made you feel bad for who you are. I agree that it's not acceptable.
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because they do not want ot admit there is a problem and usually there is a reason  a person develops an eating disorder. i know people who denied it for years until it got so bad the couldnt deny it anymore