Why is it when one person in a family dies someone in the family learns they're pregnant ? -it's a bit odd..
462671
that is so wierd but when i was born, my great grandpa died and when my brother was born my great grandma died so i know what ur talking about
559338
Sounds a little fishy to me, however, if it is a close relative or someone they really cared about they might realize that person would be gone forever, and needed that time to deal with the reality of it all.  When my sister died I didn't want to leave her side at the funeral home because I had lost my best friend, and I was so distraught I wanted to be near her as long as possible.
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I personally have had two family members in the past five years who medically were brain dead...I think it would be cruel and inhumane to keep them alive for the sake of keeping them alive.  Its not only wrong for them but also for their loved ones.  I myself would want the plugged pulled if this should ever happen to me...my sister says give her three days...I Will try.  Anyways we allowed our family members to go as soon as the Doctors confirmed that nothing could be done.
926118
Well now I see I'm not the only one that has thought about that very question.  I was telling my husband just the other night that didn't make any sense to me.  We're told how protected our children are  when they're in someone Else's care but it has to make you wonder about that one.
1177136
TO THE PEOPLE WHO SAID THIS IS STUPID!! HOW COME ITS STUPID??!!! Unborn babies are a human being!! are you all sick?! dnt you have conscience?!! They died and not even given a chance to live and have a life!!! you should all think about it!! its not the babies fault that their mothers are such as slot!!\ndeathbloom you are what you said!!!\nit should be given a thought on persecuting those who abort their babies!! MURDERERS!!
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I believe the laws vary in different states.  I do recall reading about a 'would be" dad who fought the abortion his girlfriend was going to have and recall reading about another case where the "would be dad" fought the adoption the mother had planned immediately after birth.  In this case, the father won.  He had not been informed about the pregnancy at all.
586251
the earth's population is increasing every minute i do not see the reasons for having a big family these days. Everything is expensive too, so having just the one is ok to me, plus carrying a pregnancy for nine months isn't always easy and the birth effects people in different ways. One to me is plenty to be getting on with.
770064
This may not be much comfort, but most people have screwed up families.   However there are only a few like you and I that will admit it.    My family is the same, sometimes it gets so bad I have to stay away from some of them for months on end.    I have learned that they may be my family, but sometimes you have to put some distance between you and  them for survival..
1053670
there's only just under 13 months between my older brother and myself, and I knew a lady once who had two children in eleven months.   She wasn't white trash, she's a pharmacist now.  Sometimes accidents happen, other times, people just plan their children to arrive quickly.   As long as they're taken care of, it's no-one elses business
1105728
Wow, they should be gracious to still have you. Why don't you all work together and help eachother out? Why all this seperation? A family is supposed to be a team, and there is no "I" in team. I would suggest that you all get counseling honestly...before it does kill you. Get help, all of you.
247074
I recently lost my mom, this was hard because she was only 50 and it was completely unexpected. At her funeral service everybody in our very large extended family had something good to say, and not a single person had any negative. That is what I want.
170646
Why is that your concern? I think that is their business. Maybe they do not yet want to have a baby or maybe something is wrong with any of your sons or daughter medically.
1119024
It is an emotional experience that not everyone could handle. I think it is a privilege to be able to have kids, and if you could help someone who isn't able to do it, then why not? It depends on who it is of course, a family member vs a stranger..but each person knows their own capability. If I could make a couple happy I'll do it, I know I'll become attached to the baby after carrying it for 9 months, but I'll know what I am getting myself into before I do it...and like every other decision we make for ourselves in our lives, we deal with the consequences.
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Yes, I think everyone does at some point in their lives. I see you have posted this question several times so I know you are in a really bad place right now.\n\n  I'm very sorry to hear of the tragic loss of your daughter. I can relate to you so well because I have lost two of my own children, a daughter and son both. My daughter was stillborn in 2002 and my son was premature in 2003, he lived for 2 days with the help of machines but died in my arms after they convinced me to unhook the machines. For me, it's the guilt that is eating me alive. What if I had gone to a different doctor? Why didnt I take it easier during the pregnancies? Why in the h*ll did I let them convince me to unhook the machines??!....  I have not been the same since, nothing seems to matter or worth any effort on my part.  You arent really "living",  you're just "existing", right? \n\n  I have found that it helps to talk about it, even if that only means writing out your feelings where no one will ever see it unless you want them to. I have found several support groups for bereved parents online that allow you to post stories, picture, even chat with others about what you're going through; that has helped a lot.No one should have to endure losing their child, that just isnt the way its suppose to be. I wish you the best and if you ever need to talk please know that I am here! Take care of yourself and remember that your daughter is watching over you. I love you too.
663731
I do not hear from my family but I when I distressed they ring - out of the blue because they know I need them.  My ex has his twin sister speak to him when she died - she told him all was well and to take care of her children and husband.
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My father died 19 years ago this September. I was 14 year old. We talk about him often but only in fun stories. The 1st anniversary of his death my family including my mom's sisters and my cousins came into town. \nAfter that the years following they did not. I think it was they way my family does it. If that makes sense.\n\nIn answer to your question is I remember my friends and what they did. they called me to let me know they were thinking of me. They did not say I am here for you but just called to say hi like it was any normal day. If I wanted to talk about with them I did if not I didn't. I did it both ways.  but knowing my friends were thinking of me helped. Remember not to say oh how are you doing today. Just call them or if you feel comfortable go over and say hi stick around but also know when to leave. Ask your mother a lady always knows when to leave.\nThe ironic thing about my fathers death day was when I found out I was pregnant I told the doctor that there was one day he could not choose for my baby to be due and that was the day. we fibed to my family and friends and told them the baby was due the day before the anniversary of the day he died. my doctor remembered that I did not want my baby born on that day and he told me that he wanted to induce me so I did not have to be reminded. Isn't that neat that he remembered I did not even have to ask and he was a very bust doctor.\n\nGood Luck and I am sorry for your loss it does get better.
847300
You have logic in your argument, and it makes complete sense.  People just want a reason to justify not having to deal with a baby, because they wanted to have sex more.  People need to speak up for, and fight for those that cannot fight for their own lives.  Unborn humans, which if left alone, will grow to become like you and I, did not ask to be made or born, but have the right to life like you and I.  I will always fight for them, and speak up.  There are little souls in there, and people don't realize how totally serious it is to stop a beating heart.