why is it that when my boyfriend talks about other women i get mad?
472281
Listen this is coming from a girl just like you. It's not jealousy or insecurity. It's the fact that he's your man. You feel as though you can give him everything another woman can. It's perfectly natural. Don't beat yourself up about it! Girl, if he See's you looking at another man he'll feel the same way. Trust and believe. Just remember that you got him and it doesn't matter if he talks or look at other women he's still yours!
135880
maybe she's feeliong underappreciated and is trying to make you jealous by reminding you she's been with other men.  If she's insecure in your feelings for her, she's probably looking to see how you react when she says this stuff.  It's childish, and will end up hurting the relationship if she continues.  I'd talk to her about it.  See how she reacts.  If she blows up over this, I'd say cut her loose and find someone else.  If she agrees to stop, give her a chance.
837782
You didn't state your age, but...\n\nSince your boyfriend has a girlfriend (you), he has been "tested and proven."  Meaning he has something going on and is dateable.  Plus, people often seem to want what they can't have.  If he hasn't shown signs of being unfaithful, then best to not worry too much about it.  It will only keep burning at you inside until you become angry and resentful.  Then your boyfriend might start taking a more serious look at these other girls.
471856
I get it, you found out that your boyfriend actually has other girlfriends other than you, am I right?  Listen, this man doesn't appreciate the feelings of women, especially yours.  You are a special woman who just wants to find your true love, and if he is playing with other girls along with being with you- he's not the one you want.  Believe me, it's not about being his number one in a relationship, but his ONLY one. Suggestion to you: get rid of him and tell his other girls about his ten-timing.  It will be painful and though it's hard to believe, there are actually men beside him who don't act like disloyal jerks.
1157992
First of all your not the scum he is. If he is cheating on her with you then he will cheat on you with someone else. Since your relationship with him has been sexual I would tell the girlfriend. She has a right to know what she has been exposed to. I am not saying that you have anything but the guy may be seeing several other women and not just you. It is also very common to be angry at the other woman and not yourself or the guy. If you look at this logically then you would see who you should be angry at. For the last two years this guy has been leading you and his girlfriend and God knows who else on. When you found out about the girlfriend you probably thought that he would dump her and stay with you. It doesn't always work that way. If you dont tell her and leave the guy you are always going to be second guessing what he is up to. You are always going to be comparing yourself to his girlfriend and you will never be happy. Telling his girlfriend would only be fair to her. You have known about her and have seen what this guy is like. Maybe his girlfriend needs an eye opener. And the guy deserves to be alone.
139910
If you really want to know just come right out and ask him. I don't know how involved you are with this person, but he really should not have a problem with you wanting to know. I do find it rather rude, inconsiderate, and unfeeling of him letting another woman take his time while he is with you.
363647
YOU KNOW I HAVE HAD THIS HAPPEN TO ME ALOT. ITS JUST JEALOUSY. THEY ARENT HAPPY WITH THEIR LIVES AND THE RELATIONSHIP THEY ARE IN. THEY SEE THAT YOU HAVE SOMETHING THAT THEY WANT SO THEY MAKE UP THINGS ABOUT YOU SO THAT YOU FEEL INSECURE ABOUT YOURSELF AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP. MAYBE YOU AND YOUR HUBBY SHOULD CONFRONT THEM TOGETHER AND SEE WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY THEN. USUALLY THEY ARE DUMB FOUNDED AND CANT SAY ANYTHING. BUT DONT WORRY ABOUT THEM. AS LONG AS YOU KNOW THAT THEY ARE RUMORS AND NOT TRUE YOU SHOULDNT WORRY ABOUT ANYTHING.
335384
Sometimes I get that way with my boyfriend too but what helps me is that every time I am with him he will out of no where tell me that he is so happy to be with me and that he wouldn't know what do to with out me. You should start doing that, she might still get jealous (cause that's what women do) but she will trust you more
995238
Your boyfriend should not want to be in a realtionship if this is the kind of behavior he likes to do with his female friends. There is no way you will ever feel better about what he is doing. Sound like he doesn't have to much respect for you or your feeling.
683276
So, maybe you get on better with men than women. You know you don't want to date these guys. Your boyfriend feels that you are comparing and analysing his behaviour with these other guys. Because they are guys. Sure, the reality is that if you ever told them anything personal, they would hang up on you, too much information, don't want to hear this! But he doesn't know that.\n\nI don't know you, but I do know incredibly loyal women who still miss one guy they really loved, and who have male friends but would not dream of marrying or living with them. Their male friends don't want to get married but fancy them, and love their company & texts & email - it's enough for them. Is that all you want? \n\nThe women feel totally safer having an escort to scare off other men, because they really don't want another date to become a boyfriend.\n\nAnd one woman I don't know well, but have known for five years, giggles to me every time I see her that she is Flattered that her exes still text her and want to stay in touch. If they meet her, she ignores them. She tells me that this is because they don't earn more than £50k a year... \n\nYour boyfriend might think you are like her. He does know that your other male friends fancy you still, and are competing with him. It's between him and them - until he seriously proposes that your relationship is strong enough to survive living together or marrying. But who would do that if one person is going to be such a girlie that she texts all your shared secrets to his rivals? He's assuming that you don't tell your Mom or sisters everything about him. He's assuming that he can be himself with you. But he has no right to tell you how to communicate, or who to communicate with. \n\nAll the same, if he could talk to you, which he can't, because he thinks you are a total gossip, what would he ask you?\n \nWhat do you think he says about you to his exes? Maybe he doesn't keep in contact with them, because he's with you. \n\nMaybe you are going to text an ex and ask if this is true. \n\nMaybe you need to write off those two years; or ask him out for a meal and seriously talk about the next few years. When I say ask him out, I mean that you should make it clear that you are paying for this - for both of you - in a good place - where your exes don't work - out of town - and stay over. \n\nWhen you are eating, you should listen to what he has to say. Talking doesn't count. You should also switch off your cellphone and put it aside on the table, and be obvious about that. \n\nIf he has nothing to say, listen until he does. It might be worth hearing. If not, not, but what's one night of your life as against several years of playing one guy off against another?
371891
I can talk from experience about jealousy, being insecure. It's both. Men like this who get mad because you're wanting to feel good about yourself, is and can be a problem. It's a form of control. These type of men, will not change. I know, talking 12 years of it here. It starts out with them accusing you of flirting, or being too nice to the next guy, spending too much time with friends or family and that isn't always the case. Men like these are so insecure about themselves, they don't want you looking nice or feeling good about yourself because they don't feel good about themselves. Next thing you know, you're being blamed for their insecurity. I know, it happened to me. You can try to talk to him and tell him how that makes you feel when he's accusing you of trying to impress other men at your job but if he isn't listening to you or tries on work on that jealousy or insecurity, then you may need to re-think on your relationship. Men like these don't want you to feel good about yourself and for whatever reason, they want to control everything in your life. Don't let him do that or you'll end up like me, miserable and unhappy. My husband and I are divorcing now but it doesn't take away all the pain of him being jealous of everything or everyone I knew. He should be complimenting on your new looks or your new hairdo, whatever the case may be and get over his insecurity and jealousy because if he doesn't, it will drive you away. I know. Hope this helps!
708665
i guess you can tell your boyfriend about what you feel, afterall if you cant tell him what's bothering you what else can you tell? he might laugh and tell you that you are too sensitive but well then you know he's not taking you seriously and might just taking you for granted. its not wrong for you to dislike her, we all do, i'm sure there are atleast few people we hate in our life, so dont think too much about that. Just discuss with him and see how he respond to it, be serious and let him know you are concern with this issue, settle it so the next time the same problem occur its easier for you to react. Good luck
89059
Why waste your time on someone that would disrespect you in that way? If you are a REAL & TRUE woman, you wouldn't put up with that sh!t. Ask him what he was thinking when he did that, and who he was thinking about. Because apparently he  wasn't thinking about you. You deserve better.
1153241
In my opinion, this sounds strange to me. Maybe her boyfriend said something to her about you after you and your fiancee' left that night. Since you just met this couple awhile back, he may be using you as an excuse to break up with her. Or he may have found you very attractive and keeps telling her that. That would make any woman upset. Whatever the case, she is mad for something her boyfriend said, not what you had said. For the dirty looks, and she tells you to go find a hobby. The man had something to do with this. If it happened to me, I would go on with my life. I don't need friends like that to ruin things for me.
914810
i have a girlfriend? boy! my boyfriends goingto get mad when he finds this out..
580842
If he is telling other women that your two are broke up, then he is trying to do something with them.  You have your own answer right there.  He is a cheater and he is willing to cheat with one of your friends.  Get someone who respects you and your feelings and leave the trash to the bitchesss.  good luck, you deserve better than that!!!
642574
I have to defend the men on this one even though I am a women.  Men look at other woman.   We will never change that.  Why should we even bother trying or waste our energy ranting about it.  \n\nGuys have to put up with our constant "does my bum look big", "Do you love me really".  Changing their hair, their looks, making them girlie, rearranging their flat/house. Moaning at forgotten, 2 1/2 month anniversaries etc.  Crying to win arguments etc etc.  I could go on.   \n\nYes it is annoying that men look at other women.  At the end of the day the guy has chosen you. You are the best of the bunch according to this guy so although he may look and fantasise about other women, you are the one he has chosen to spend his hard earned money on!