Can the Goverment of the United States force a child to visit their mom or dad on certain days during divorce?
467665
Visitation is usually worked out in a courtroom and the judge will dictate the final terms.  An older child would have a say in the decision-making process.  A younger child probably would not.
678272
I know a lot of states won't allow the argument that one parent works and has to take a child to a sitter and the other parent doesn't.  I went through this same argument with my ex husband.  I worked full time, and he didn't.  The judge said that it wasn't admissible into court as long as I had a safe place for my son to be while I was at work.  The judge then ordered that he had to watch my son when I was at work, so I wouldn't have to pay a babysitter.  Even if you don't get full custody, you can probably get to have your child whenever your ex is working or away from home for an extended period of time-ours was two hours.  The fact that he is a corrections officer doesn't really help him.  The judge is going to look at your charecter more than your job, unless your job is illegal.  My husband is a truck driver, and his ex is a stay at home mom, and we still won full custody of his three girls.  Come on, most truck drivers have a really bad rep of being vulgar jerks, but it didn't seem to matter.  If he is calling the police and claiming you are refusing to return your child when ordered, have the visitation drop off changed to the police station.  There is always someone there, and they make great wittnesses to pick ups and drop offs.  That is what we had to do.  My husband's ex kept bringing the kids home two and three hours late, but as soon as we moved pick up and drop offs to the police station it changed.  Evey time you drop your child off with him, they can give you documentation that you were on time and the child was in good health, ect.  Also, keep a copy of your custody arrangement handy.  That way when he says you're breaking it, you can pull it out and show you are following all of the guidelines it gives.  If you can record every conversation you have with him.  If you can't record them, keep a journal and write down everything he says and does around you.  If you keep it up all the time, not just sometimes, it is admissable in court, and it will give the judge a good idea of the kinds of things he is saying and doing to you.  Just keep on doing the best you can.  It won't be easy, but don't despair.  Let him keep being a jerk about everything.  As long as you document EVERYTHING he will hang himself in court with his behavior.  Good luck and God Bless:)
1020668
I agree with you.  When a parent doesn't use their right to visitation, then suddenly wants it all, that has got to do damage to a child.  The system is so overloaded that they can't do a case by case review and then limit visitation for an elusive parent.\n\nIf you can, try to talk to your ex and explain what your child's fears are.  See if before he takes him for 6 weeks, he will visit him as much as possible.
849223
My eldest child had supervised visits with their father and there were many reasons for it.  They were very young when the visitation started.  Their father was drinking and doing drugs and I did not think he was capable of being alone to watch them for any length of time as he had no experience with children.\n\nHe also failed to show up for court when the judge made their final ruling so it did not appear to the judge that he was very responsible if he couldn't make it to court.
379045
Call a lawyer and get a "Guardian Ad Litem".  This is a lawyer for your child to protect her and her rights.  She is of legal age to tell a judge that she no longer wishes to see her father and tell them why.  She is old enuff where the courts will recognize that she is speaking for herself and not for your wishes.  This lawyer will help her do this.\nGood Luck.
672170
Depends on your laws and papers you will have to check.  \n\nExample:  My daughter is 10, even when she is 17 she cannot make that decision.  The papers clearly outline visitation and unless those rules change, the child has to go to the visitation.\n\nIn my state if your child refused and you let him/her, disobeying a court order, his father can ask the court to hold you in contempt.  \n\nThe three of you need to discuss this and change your court order if need be.
343393
Unfortunately I am going through a very similiar situation with my ex-wife.  We seperated a few years ago and she started by pulling a few shaningans like that off.  All I can suggest purely as one dad to another is to maintain the best contact that you can and when you do contact your children let them know you love them and always want to see them. \n\nMake it clear that if they were expecting you, that their mother must have made a mistake because you had not planned on being there that day, not because you do not love them but because you have work or necessary things to do.\n\nLegally stopping someone from slandering you with your children I dont believe is possible.  It is truly more of a question of guilt tripping your ex and explaining to her though her intentions are against you, they are more then likely more likely to harm the children.  Children with seperated parents that do not get along are more then likely to be involved in crime, or have poor grades in school as well as a plethora of other things.\n\nMost of all, I feel for you completely.  Maybe if it is possible file for custody?  If you can somehow accuse your ex while on the phone and record some admittance of slander the courts will surely find in your favor?\n\nFinal thought.  Do what is best for your kids forget about getting back at your ex or doing what she wants you to do (which is probably run away and never see the kids again).  Your kids need you in many ways, and writing to them constantly and contacting them VIA phone and visiting as often as possible are the best things.  Be so much a part of their lives she cannot lie to them.
613271
It seems the issue is how much your often violent ex-husband should have access to your daughter.  Generally speaking, he or she must be really bad to has his parental right to have access to his/her child being denied. (although your ex could have lost his right due to his criminal conducts ... but the bar is really set high to lose this parental right) \n\nTypically, many divorced parents go thorough the visitation-custody arrangements (or more correctly put battles!) until the child fully emancipates !0!  I venture to guess here that your ex wants to see your daughter and want it as much as he possible can.  If so, his option would not be a mediation hearing but get the definitive direction from the judge.
266541
becuz ure dad has custody
369127
Yes, as long as you are seperated. You usually have to go in front of a judge.
1009802
Do you want contact with your children? Then you need to step up and fight for them. California is pretty fair when it comes to dads. Your children have legal rights to have contact with you. Unless you are found unfit for some reason.  Do you have a court order? You need to find an attorney within the jurisdiction from the lastest court order. Good luck and you really need fight for this. Your kids need to have contact with their father, it may scar them for life you don't want them to think you abandoned them do you?
331995
I don't know what foc means but here where I live we have what's called Division of Family Services. If that is what foc means for you then you should talk to a case worker about setting up supervised visitation, if you think the child could be in danger with the other parent. And if they can not help you then you will probably have to hire a lawyer and do a parenting plan on the visitations on who has the child on the weekends and holidays.
12990
A parent who shares joint custody of a child, but who does not provide care for the child, must clear the vacation with the guardian who provides care.\n\nPetitions to the court to take the child on vacation are allowed, but not prior to clearing it with the caregiver of the child.\n\nIf you are a parent who has joint custody and are providing care for the child, you are allowed to take the child on vacation, however you must notify the other guardian before leaving town with the return times.  Joint Custody with visitation rights allows the parent to request another time to see the child if warrented. \n\nContests to this provision are taken up directly in family court through arbitration.  If there is any concern, contact your case worker.
719813
you can get a divorce any time you want to. it doesn't matter if you are pregnant or not. by the time the papers go through, and the divorce is final, the baby will already be here. during separation, the parents choose the visitation.
1171272
If there is no custody order in effect that states he has visitation rights, then no, he cannot force you to stay with him.  And either way, he certainly cannot send you to a "child home".
83316
Probably yes.  After completion of anger control, domestic violence counseling, and any jail time.  \n\nBut if mom can show that ex is a threat to kids, she can take out a restraining order against him.  \n\nIf ex can convince the judge that he's changed, he is sorry for what he did, and still genuinely care and love the kids, he may be able to get supervised visitation rights.
207023
I have never heard of anything like this before.  You need a lawyer.  The best case scenario is that you'll bring an action for visitation against whomever happens to have custody of him.  Otherwise, you'll probably have to sue the state.\n\nIf you are a minor, there should be free legal services able to represent you.  In any case, find a lawyer in your area now.