My point is....boys whove been molested...don't always know "what's normal".?
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I work in Social Work and see cases of child molestors who were in fact molested themselves as children.  \n\nWhilst I condem what they do and hate it with a vengence, the person carrying out the molestation needs help every bit as much as the person being molested.  \n\nFrom what I understand of this matter, the person molesting does know it is wrong but seem to want to hurt others as they have been hurt!  It seems to give them back some kind of 'power' or 'control' that was robbed of themselves when they were children when they become the perpetrators back. \n\nI really think these people need a lot of help to give them back their self-worth and dignity or else they may continue to do what they do.
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I think it all depends on the situation... How they heard about it, how reliable the information was, how recent the information was... the response is going to be dulled if they hear about something which might have happend 2 years ago compared to walking in on someone molesting their child.  There is bound to be disbelief, especially if it was a close friend or relative and there is no physical evidence.  The response is also going to be highly dependant on the personality of both of the parents.  There is probably no 'normal' response which you are looking for.  \n\nI've thought about it some more, it would seem that it was a relative who did the inappropriate act(s)?  Yes I think this would be a very typical response assuming they never witnessed any act.  Wanting to ignore the situation and not deal with it is also very typical of American society.  I have more ideas, but I don't wish to discuess them because it would suggest and assume a lot.
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I don't have questions! You need to understand how difficult it is to prosecuted Child Abuse / Molestation Cases. All too often the Petifiles walk, so, if your new   man was charged and convicted, he propably did it! Why don't you research the history on the case? You cannot trust his word, you need to read for yourself the documented case from Police, CPS, Councilors, etc; I hope you wise up & take action before exposing your child(ren) to a monster!
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They are scared or do not think it is natural. Not me, though, I love gays! I actually do, lots of gay people are funny and nice, maybe because theyve been through a lot (plus the gay boys are sensitive and can help me with my shopping!)
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Pedophiles are almost always self identified straight men, no matter who the victim happens to be.\nIt's about power and control.  Not so much about sex.
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I don't think it is a new phenomenon. I think it just gets talked about more these days. \nIn the past people were more afraid of coming forward and reporting abuse because of social stigmas. Now people are a lot more understanding for the victim. I think this is evidenced by the huge number of cases that have come out in recent years here in Australia which date back 30 - 40 years. Grown men have finally found the courage to come forth and talk about what heppened to them without being themselves labelled as "gay" or "dirty".
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Just to play the devil's advocate...doesn't it depend on the circumstances?  What if the abuser was 15 years old and it was a one time thing?  Are we really going to say that this person will always be attacted to children and never change?  Are we really going to just throw our hands up in the air and tell that person there is no hope and - as one person put it - he should be shot on the spot?  I think the people that cannot be rehabilitated are the most serious offenders, those are the ones to be concerned about.  My experience in psychology tells me that people can change.  Not everyone, of course, but some can.  It's ignorant to think that all sex offenders are exactly the same.
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To date we don't have 'thought police' who can read your innermost thoughts, so how would we possibly know how many have thought about it?\n\nParticipants, I would suspect very few, probably equal to the number of children who were abused at an early age.\n\nThe closest I've seen to a definitive answer is this:\n\nCertainly, there are people who engage in D&S and S/M activities for whom it is a problem or the expression of a problem--but so also there are people who cannot engage in anything but ordinary penis-vagina intercourse for whom [sex] is a problem or the expression of a problem. If someone is really the sort of person who is likely to become a serial killer, he probably won't be talking about it and he probably won't be in so relatively conscious a relationship as S&M. He'll much more likely be repressed or out there doing mayhem.
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If priests had been allowed to marry,maybe so many young boys would not have been molested by "some" of the priests.\nIf a priest molests a boy since they are are both males...does that mean the priest is gay? Just a thought... maybe that's why they don't want to marry?
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I think a sexual experience of any kind at too young an age will stay with you thru life.  It must be horrible for young boys memories to hold such outrageous thought as those of a man raping you.  I don't think it makes them gay, but I believe it is very confusing to them.
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B/c they are in 6th grade and you're not supposed to like boys (or vice versa) at that age.  Secretly, things were all fine w/them though.
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You mean some boys didn't do this kind of stuff? This is what kids do. We used to do the same things.
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i think i have always known. i had never had any interest in girls. Even as a young young child i was fascinated by the male body. Not sexually but how it was built. i had a doll (lil ashamed to admit) and my brothers were all into the G.I. Joes. I just thought they were awesome cause they were built. anyway off the subject. Just because I knew i was at such an early age, some people just can't figure it out so fast. You want to be normal, but what is normal really? Following a lot of people around, trying to fit in, pretending to be something your not? To me i am normal. I do what i do and thats all there is to it. I am not your stereotypical gay male. I hate shopping, i have no fashion sense, and i am a slob.
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It is nothing new.  It has being going on since time immoreal.  It effects all classes of society, all professions, all religions, the rich and the poor, the young and the old.  It is a curse.  It ruins more people's lives than any other form of abuse.  The do-gooders claim that the perverts are ill and need treatment.  They pay far more attention to them than they do to the victims.  Pedophiles are manipulative, clever and use tactics that can only be imagined.  I will not give any details but suffice is to say that they use language, threats and intimidation on their child victims.  The vast majority of men who have been indecently assaulted when young, seldom if ever tell anyone about their experience.  Most women also keep it 'secret' only informing their husbands when things go wrong much later in life.  Consequently the perverts appear to be 'getting away with it'.  I have worked in law enforcement and everytime the issue of capital punishment arrises (UK), I honestly and sincerely advocate the death penalty for anyone committing a serious sexual offence on a child under the age of ten.  I really mean it.  In my experience, and in many documented cases, they are incapable of being 'cured' of their sick and evil habits.  If an animal was to do what some of these people do to their young, they would be 'put down' immediately. Some of the true stories that I was told by young and indeed elderly people about their experiences as much as fifty years ago would make the strongest of stomachs, retch.  Teachers, doctors, judges, police officers, solicitors, and any other group of people you can imagine are preying on the young of society in every country of the world.  It is a sad, sad state of affairs when we cannot protect them.
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There are so many cases because there are at least that many child molestors. \n\nAn unfortunate reality is that pepole do prey upon the 'innocent', especially young children. \n\nSome people think they are evil, maybe some are. But many are mentally ill. Their illness is  most times treated through psycho and socio treatment. Although I personally don't think it is not an illness that has a cure.Like cleptomaniacs, nymphomaniacs, there are also  pedophiles. Each type is addicted and/or gets a rush from commiting a certain act.
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I think he is laying low right now, but once a pedophile, always a pedophile. He will be in trouble again sometime in the future unless he is castrated.
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Ugh, another teenager asking a relationship question.\n\nBoys are immature, so expect them to act that way.