what cause people to be born liking the same sex(m,f) is it a curse upon the parent?
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Yes, it is a curse upon the parent for all their sins. You see, Pat Robertson is watching us all, and when he is displeased with you, he asks God for one of two things: to send a hurricane your way, or to curse you with gay children. Repent now or forever be shamed!
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I do not understand how a persons sexual preference has anything to do with the upbringing of children.  \n\nI am not gay, but my sexual preference being with my husband has nothing to do with how we raise our son.\n\nIf our son is gay, would we then be expelled as parents and have our child handed over to a gay couple?  Would they not be best to raise my son if he is gay and they are gay?  I am hetersexual so therefore I would only be given permission by society to bring up my heterosexual son but not a gay son?  \n\nPlease I do not understand this judgement.  I know that to be gay you are born gay.  The time the gay person takes to determine their sexual preference would be the same as a heterosexual takes to determine their own.  We mature at different rates or our morals and beliefs may hinder us from making any decision choosing to remain single for life, all because of anothers judgements.  I fail to see how this influences criminal behaviour.  If gays were so criminal then our prisons would only be filled with gays.  Not so. \n\nNo person can influence a sexual preference, but yes can certainly influence sexual behaviour.  Big difference I would say.  Many have been manipulated in to believing that they were gay when in fact they were not.  This is just another victim of self and then society.  We have choices, and being heterosexual or gay does not change the human factor of these choices.  We are who we are being not who we are doing.\n\nBlessings be yours in peace and light\nHarriett Potty ;)
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I personally believe that it is a combination of genetics and environment.  It is never a "choice"...  Some people are predisposed to being attracted to the same sex by genetics, and other people are predisposed only under certain conditions.  There are also people that no matter what happens to them in their life they will never ever be gay.  Being gay is what arouses a person.  For me personally, a man does nothing for me... but a woman I find very arousing.  Its just the way I am, and no matter how I try to imagine myself with a man, it just does not work.  It feels very wrong and uncomfortable.  It does not feel natural.  A woman feels very natural, as Im sure it feels to a straight man.  I am a follower of God, and I believe that as long as we love, we are good.  Hate is what opposes the Lord, not love, no matter what form... whether I love my dog, my child, or my girlfriend, its still love, and only good can come from love.  Hate, ignorance, deception and misunderstanding are not good, therefore they are not following the Lord's path.  \n\nThere are gay animals by the way.. have you ever heard of the Bonobo Chimpanzees?  Look them up and their sexual behavior... you will find they are the most sexually free of any species on the planet, it doesnt matter if you are male or female.
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People are almost certainly homosexual because of genetics.  There is a great deal of scientific evidence that it is inborn. Beyond scientific evidence there is anecdotal evidence.\n\nThe fruit fly study is actually fairly conclusive. But the pheremonal and eye blink studies are also compelling. I've included links below for those that are interested. Beyond that, research increasingly suggests that at least for males, Xq28 is the crucial gene. I am saddened by this, because I believe that once it is proven, gay people will be wiped out -- and I think that is sad, because given the number of species in which homosexuality exists (see Dr. Bruce Bagemihl's book "Biological Exuberance" from St. Martin's Press) I think it serves a purpose, and has been evolutionarily preferred.  The recent Italian study by Andrea Camperio-Ciani and colleagues pretty clearly shows both how and why a gene or gene set causing homosexuality, particularly in males - would survive and be preferred evolutionarily.\n\nIn addition to scientific evidence is the anecdotal evidence. I never in my life had any sexual feeling for a female -- nor any romantic feelings. I have had romantic feelings for other males since 8. I figured out it was sexual at 11 and came out at 14. I never felt anything for girls, neither do other gay males I know. Some boys manage to suppress it for a time, but when it comes out they admit to having always had the feelings. Likewise for bisexuals, although bisexuals always have feelings for both, and therefore are capable of choice -- for real. Gays are no more capable of choice than straights are.\n\nThere is nothing either wrong or unnatural about being homosexual.  Enjoy the links -- and think about the gay people you know.  While some, particularly younger ones, may be risk takers or may be into drugs --- think about the young straight men you know -- how many of them are risk takers -- or into drugs?  It's gender and age far more than sexuality.  Others are, I would bet, settled, calm, caring and successful.\n\nThe only thing being gay does is change who you sleep with.  No one chooses it however, no one is driven to "that path."  It is simply natural and normal for some people.  As I am sure you would hate to be told consistently, by everyone around you, that being heterosexual was evil, wrong, unnatural -- and "that path" when you know perfectly well it is natural to you, understand that gay people feel the exact same way.  It is natural and normal to a gay person -- and having intercourse with, or romance with -- a member of the opposite gender is unnatural and abnormal. \n\nKind regards,\n\nReynolds Jones\nhttp://www.rebuff.org\nbelieveinyou24@yahoo.com
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I've always felt that because you choose your husband it is natural to be closer to them. You also share things with your husband that you can't share with your parents, like your sexuality. I don't have a lot in common with my mum and we aren't that close at all.
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I believe that there are different kinds of love. The love you have for you parents is different than how you love another person. I don't believe that you can love two people of the opposite sex (or same sex, whichever makes your boat float) the same way or as much as the other. So, if this has to do with a relationship, pick one or the other.
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It's because when you were a very little girl and your parents played "This Piggy Went To The Market", they kept pulling too hard on your 2nd toe. Seriously, it's not gender linked. It's genetically linked with your ancestors.
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People do not just become gay. It is widely agreed among the scientific community that gay people are born gay. Many studies have linked it to genetics. Enjoying it is a whole different issue.... most people probably do not enjoy being persecuted and hated. However, if by enjoying it you refer to gay sexual acts, they enjoy them for the same reason heterosexuals enjoy their sex acts: pleasure. Sex feels good, whether or not the majority of american society is willing to acknowledge it doesn't matter.
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No, because my mother is a lesbian.  And she deserves every right to be happy and be with who she wants, regardless of what the person's sexuality or gender.
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I think you are born Gay or Straight to varying degrees, due to hormones and genes within you, when asked the question by my son What's a queer dad? I tried to explain by giving men and women a rating out of ten, a totally camp, openly gay man being 0 a bigoted, Neanderthal of a man being a 10 and the same for women 0 a very butch manly female 10 very girlie, wearing pink female. (please excuse the stereotype's but it was the best I could come up with at the time)\nI then told him that I felt that I was a 6 on the man scale as I feel I have some female tendencies but am not attracted to men, his mother was also a 6 on the female scale as she wasn't into girls but liked football and some things that Men primarily like to do.\nI then explained that some people are different and are lower on the scale this means that they are attracted more to people of there own sex having more hormones from the opposite sex, something to do with how you develop in the womb, as we all start out female at first.\nHe seemed to understand this, and as he his now 19 and has total respect for any Gay person that he meets, in fact having gay friends counted among his many mates, I like to think I did an OK job with regard explaining it.
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Who said that it was a curse? I just read something about Native Americans using the term of having two-spirits. Some people have both living in them. Maybe it is not a curse. Maybe it is a "gift." All of the people that I know that are gay, bi, or whatever you want to call it...are some of the most caring people. They have a heart for others. They are not mean. They are not resentful. They do not "bash" people. They have a lovong, caring, genuine heart of love for others. Hmmmmm, does that sound like a curse to you? I don't think so.\n\nMaybe it is time that society looks at it in a NEW way.
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BLUF: A lot of homosexuals do have bad relationships with there fathers, but I would not venture to say all!\n\nFYI: “While worldly fathers are so afraid to hug, kiss and cuddle their sons for fear they turn him into a sissy. The opposite is in fact true! Fathers in the world worry about their sons becoming homosexual and emotionally withdraw and become tough and macho with their sons. This will actually make your children more likely to turn into homosexuals! \nAs the Doc says: "A former homosexual who has carried on an effective ministry for five years among homosexuals reported, 'I have counseled over three hundred homosexuals and have yet to find one that enjoyed a warm love relationship with his father.'" \nInadequate Parental Relationships \nParents are easily the most important external force in the life of any child and, as would be suspected, contribute largely to the homosexual or heterosexual predisposition of their children. A professor of psychiatry at one of the nation's leading medical schools stated, "Current research indicates that the family most likely to produce a homosexual comprises a very intimate, possessive and dominating mother and a detached, hostile father. Many mothers of lesbians tend to be hostile and competitive with their daughters. The fathers of female homosexuals seldom appear to play a dominant role in the family and have considerable difficulty being openly affectionate with their daughters." \nMost of the new books on homosexuality contain the report by Dr. Irving Bieber, who studied the family backgrounds of 106 male homosexuals. According to his discoveries, eighty-one mothers were dominating, sixty-two were overprotective, sixty-six made the homosexual their favorite child, eighty-two of the fathers spent very little time with their sons, and seventy-nine maintained a detached attitude toward them.22 \nAs important as the father is in the life of a child, even he must take second place to mother during the first three years of life. she feeds the baby at her breast and spends far more time with him in infancy than does his dad. Consequently, mothers actually have more to do with producing a predisposition toward homosexuality than fathers. Two kinds of mothers are particularly harmful-smother mothers and dominating mothers. \nSmother Mothers \nEvery child needs love, but few things are worse than an overprotective, smothering affection that is showered on an infant, not for his benefit but for the mother's. Many a love-starved young mother satisfies her love hunger on her child until he is the primary object in her life. The more she bestows her affection, time, and attention on her child, the more she neglects her husband. This may turn him further from her and the child, compounding the problem.\nDr. Howard Hendricks used to say in Family Seminars which he and I held together that ' ' whenever a mother makes her son number one in her life, she begins to raise a pervert. " In other words, it is normal for a boy to be number two in the heart of his mother, for he doesn't feel threatened when he knows father is number one. But when mother and father cannot preserve a love relationship and she makes the child number one, he is in trouble. He may begin to identify with her, take an interest in feminine things, and develop effeminate mannerisms. Such concerns start early in life and are very difficult to break. One veteran homosexual in the counseling room complained that his mother was "overprotective and smothering.'' He illustrated the latter by saying, "She never hesitated to embarrass me. she thought nothing of unzipping my pants to tuck in my shirt. Between that and wiping my nose, she was all over me.'' \nThroughout history, researchers have repeatedly verified that homosexuals are ''mama's boys" whose mothers doted on them in their youth. Tchaikovsky, Michelangelo, and Freud are notabl
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Yes.  I have heard that there is a `gay` gene that determines a persons sexuality.  This is hereditary from ones mothers side.  \n\nThere has been a lot of scientific research into these genes and conclusive proof that it is hereditary.\n\nHowever, I accept that some people choose a gay lifestyle themselves even if they are `born` straight.
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Well, although you're mixing transgenderism with homosexuality, you are essentially correct. \n\nA woman who feels her gender is incorrect may get sexual reassignment surgery to become male. If she finds men attractive beforehand, but doesn't relate to them as a woman, she may be a transgendered gay man.\n\nA man who feels his gender is incorrect may get sexual reassignment surgery to become female. If he finds women attractive beforehand, but doesn't relate to them as a man, he may be a transgendered lesbian.\n\nIt doesn't happen often, but there are transgendered gay people. I've heard of a few trangendered lesbians.\n\nAs to being born gay, current scientific thinking is leaning toward a series of hormonal and genetic changes in the womb which determine sexual orientation. There are studies on birth order, twins, finger length, etc. all of which are determined in utero.
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Yes I think people are born gay. Why would someone choose to leave a hard and often rediculed life? And the discrimination they get is just wrong. Also have you seen some of the gay/lesbians? Some of the dudes have more female mannerisms then me.There is no way you learn that it is just how you are.
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In short, it is partly a mental health issue-but in no way a negative issue as people would first jump into conclustion. \n\nLet me explain. There are several theories as to why a person is 'born' gay. The most prominent I have read is a work by Simon Le Vay. He determined - through autopsy - that gay men and straight men have one single difference: the size of their hypothalamus (a gland in the middle of your brain and well known to be the source of sexual stimulation in human beings). With gay men it is small and fluffy were as in straight men, it is solid and large. He repeated this experiment with lesbian and straight women and found the reverse. Straight women had small/fluffy gland were as lesbian has large/denser gland. \nSo hypothalamus size wise: \nGay men = Straight women\nLesbian women = Straight men\n\nFollowing years of studies, he determined that this gland is developed before birth. When he examined pregnant mothers during period of pregnancy he found that this gland gets developed during the 6th month of pregnancy. If the mother body thinks she has a daughter, she would give Oestrogen (female hormone). If she thinks she has male son, she would give Testosterone (male hormone). For some un-explained reason, the mother would do this switch of hormones. Depending on how long this hormone is given, the child may come up as Bisexual, straight acting gay guy, camp gay guy, or in extreme cases transsexual (a person who believes he is in the wrong body!).\n\nAnd if you are wandering how a bisexual man/woman hypothalamus would look, well it is medium size/denisty, they got mix of hormones and thus they would like both!\n\nIn the animal kingdom, we assume something similar happens. Homosexual animals have been proved to exist in Lions, Zebras, Bulls, Dolphins, Dogs, and many other animal species. I saw a documentary on National Geo graphic called 'Wild Sex', focusing on this and other unexpected trends in the animal kingdom. For instance, gay or lesbian swans are known to mate for life! In another documentary that I also happen to see was shown on TV 4 about two years ago called 'Gay animals', discussed an experiment on a gay bull in Texas. They isolated the bull during the mating season, so as to make the animal desperate for sex. Then they released him to only 10 cows. As much starved and agitated for sex, the bull would only bully the cows but would never mate with them. Two weeks passed and nothing changed. Then they released another bull, and as expected the gay bull would only try to mount the straight bull! Gay animals have been around for many years, but traditionally were only explained as just confused animals! Very much what some people still think gay and lesbians people have mental problem and are confused...trust me, the totally gay ones are not!
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I think any time you can put a child in a permanent, loving and nurturing home, then you should. Who cares what the sexual orientation of the parent are if they can love and provide for the child. And no, I don't think the child will end up homosexual because of it.