my wife let me go out with my friends to strip clubs, but i feel guilty, why?
455662
You feel that you cheated on her,even though she gave you permision.\nYour a lucky guy to have such permision,treat her to full body massage.
981231
don't feel to o bad. my wife asked me a question about "tossing the salad" at diner one night. i was almost too embarrassed to tell her. most the other people are right though so i will save you the humility of having to read it again. God bless your innocents.
608399
Gone are the days when man used to earn more. Do not feel inferior that your wife is earning more than you do. Do with whatever amount that you can earn without having to worry and get along with your life. You will gain more request form her if you are prudent in the manner you manage with the little that you have got.....goddammit she is your wife man.
445857
Well Zain boy, it seems you have married to hide your sexual reality. You probably done that to go with the flow of your society. \n\nIn my opinion, you have chosen to conceal your needs not to be outed. Therefore you should honor your commitment. \n\nThink about your wife and kids. What fault is it of theirs that you should cheat on them simply to satisfy your desire? How would you feel if your wife cheated on you?\n\nBe a man and honor your marriage and family.
557666
No. What she has done is very inappropriate and in my mind, VERY selfish. I imagine she wouldn't like to be on the receiving end of such a thing should you have done that; am I right? Bottom line is this - it is not right for her to spend an evening like that with a man who is not her husband. Period! The mere fact that she kept this from you is an indication that what she did wasn't right. Deep down, she knew this would upset you and rightfully so. But if it were so harmless, she wouldn't have kept it from you in the first place. I think to help resolve this situation you should ask her what makes it "okay" for a married woman to do such a thing? I'd also ask her what makes her think that you should be "okay" with it as well?!
1050020
I'm going to assume this is a sincere question.\n\nHaving a private stripper show is a terrible way to discover whether or not you're capable of feeling sexual urges. For some people, that sort of thing is highly arousing, and for some people, it's a huge turn-off; both reactions are within the range or normal. Everyone is different, and there's no one "test" that will work for all people.\n\nIf you're afraid that you're incapable of becoming sexually attracted to someone else, or incapable of feeling emotionally attached to someone else, you would do best to step back and pay attention to your own interactions with other poeple. Do you feel emotionally attached to your family and friends? Do you feel sexually attracted to someone you've just met, but who you find attractive and who flirts a little?\n\nIt sounds like you're old enough to get into a strip club, but you've never had a girlfriend. I'd recommend you avoid strip clubs and girlfriends for the moment, and concentrate on meeting new friends of both sexes, and all ages. Meet some new people, and allow yourself to feel emotionally attached to those you like, and sexually attracted to those you find attractive. \n\nDoing this will make your emotional life richer, and help you expand your capacity to feel. And hey, if you're lucky, you'll meet a girl whom you feel attracted to AND emotionally connected to, and she'll feel the same.
407426
Well its not cheating but it does fuel lust.\nI'm not saying its right , but its what men do..LIKE TO LOOK. \nStrippers are usually about the money and an ACT. \nMost strippers and I'm not saying all are lesbian and talk really bad about the men backstage of course. Especially when they tip bad. \nNot all clubs are actually allowing touching it depends on the state and area laws.\nIt obviously makes you feel uncomfortable.\nAsk if you can go with him to see what the club(s) are aboutt hat he goes to.\nIt may ease your mind or you will know if this is going to be a potential problem.\nKeep in mind when the money runs out usually so does the interest.\nTry stripping for him. \nYou can get more personal than strippers can.
954329
You're a good man.  Nothing wrong with you at all.  If you want your wife to feel needed then allow her to do the things she wants to do for you and don't forget to thank her and show her appreciation for it afterwards.
673501
I feel sorry for you.My advice is, identify the reason why she did it,also ask your self I am faithful and am I the person who she feels comfortable and secure?After you answer these questions, you can decide.If there is any weakness on your side,(I am not talking about the sexual thing) you better forgive her from the bottom of your heart and leave peacefully.
489158
Yes. You are not doing your marriage any good by chatting with other women. How would you feel if your wife did that to you.\n\nInvest your time in your wife and family and stop looking over the fence. The grass is not greener and you will be sorry if you lost a good woman.
7865
First......I think you just did say you were sorry to her for being a boneheaded idiot. The first step is finally realizing what she was trying ot say to you. I have a feeling you realized this......just a tad late. The key is now letting your wife know that you understand. I have a feeling that she felt you spent more time on your bike than with her. Perhaps you were truly caring for this bike......pampering it.......polishing it........tinkering with it..........all while she had to look on. Now that you realize that the bike was dispensable.....make sure you show her that she is not. Care for her.....pamper her......tinker with her.......polish up the marriage. Flowers do nothing.....trust me. Actions......mean everything. Spend time being "present." Stalk her in the most fun loving ways you can imagine. Let her see that you can't stop thinking of her........that you need her........and nothing else will ever come between you two again. (she so needs to know this!)\n\nI so hope you are ok after the accident. I have a feeling that was another issue. She loves you so much and couldn't stand to stand back and wait for you to get hurt. Assure her you won't put yourself in any danger at the risk of losing her. (ok was that too mushy? That might have been too mushy.....aahhh but try it anyway.....what'll it hurt. *wink*) \n\nGood luck......I'll be rooting for ya!!
920163
My oppinion is that you are a few of the smart loyal and honest men out there and I applaud you for your well train of thought and consideration. I do not feel anyone should look down on you just because you have considered things that for others it doesn't even cross their mind. Continue your great way of thought simply because so many of us fall under pressure especially when being tempted with sex, and drugs. I was also a virgin when I got married and so many friends told me I'd regret it but I've been married for a year and the thought of cheating on my husband because I never had anyone before him never crosses my mind. Not to mention the great respect I got and continue to get from my husband everytime we make love!  I'm sure you will find somone someday who is going to also appriciate your well thought in life! Good luck and God bless
1084181
It partly depends on your age and marital status.  If you're young and never married, it may be thoughts that your energy and sexuality should go only to the one you marry.  \n\nIf you've already been that route and are now free to do what you want with your life,  I see nothing wrong with being Friends with Benefits if part of the benefits are mutual respect.\n\nYou may be feeling some guilt because society tells us this is bad.   Don't fall into that old cycle.  Sexuality is as natural as eating.  We are born to share love and that's what you're doing......\n\nIf you feel fear because it won't be a permanent situation, keep moving forward with your life.   Work on your career, hobbies, sports, new friendships, whatever is of interest to you.  Don't focus too much beyond 'now' because doing so causes anxiety and takes away the joy of this minute.  Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring so enjoy today as best you're able.
535012
Well, of course your going to feel this way. Having someone take advantage of your good nature would naturally scorn anyone's soul and heart. How long has it been since the divorce? Your just going to have to have time to heal. I would suggest though going out to put your mind at ease, but don't rush into another relationship quite fast.  Trust is something your going to just have to build with women again. Look back at your ex-wife were there signs that she was out for just money? If so use those signs to your advantage and beware of such signs in future relationships. DON'T EVER TELL SOMEONE YOUR DATING THAT SHE WAS A GOLD DIGGER. This may lead them to believe you could easily manipulated and taken advantaged of regardless of how long the marriage was. Simply say it was mutual and you rather not discuss it. Besides it's no body's business regardless of whom your dating or not. If there were no signs then be even more aware don't be to harsh w/ us women NOT all of us are out for money. I will pray for you strength to get back on your feet. You pray for a good Christian woman to come into your life and to be able to learn to trust again. Good Luck & God Bless. When you decide to become involved with someone again don't continue to be on the defensive either. You choose to date the woman so give her a chance, but just be aware of signs. Trust her, until you have proven it to be other wise or it's broke.  Don't allow your insecurity from a previous relationship or your ex-wife to ruin your chance for happiness.
969536
If you do decide to go, first find out if they allow females in the club -- some do not allow women, even if they are escorted by a man. Also, look for a club that is a restaurant, not just a bar, you will feel more comfortable. \n\nAnd of course, make sure that you go with him to an all male dancer strip club afterwards :)
109638
Wow, some of the people that anwered this question, seems to be very judgmental! I mean in a perfect world nobody should cheat on anybody or willingly engage in an affair. However; in real life people make REALLy bad choices. This is all part of life. I hope you learned something from this. It does sound like you feel guilty. Someone who dosn't feel guilty would'nt give a rat's a** about the wife. Telling the wife is wrong!!! If you feel guilty, (as you should) you need to deal with it! Don't ease your guilt by hurting this woman more then you have.  \n\nThis is their problem, not yours. You really need to stay out of their marriage.\n\nTake some advice from someone who has proberly made every mistake known to mankind...Stay away from him and never speak to the wife. \n\nGood luck and this really doesn't make you a "bad" person. It just means you need to work on self control.
1148117
Do something active like playing a sport you both like or doing something you haven't done before. Just because a friend is married doesn't mean you can't go out to a club for drinks and good music.