husband got busted for dui again, ex hiding my son what do i do?
467785
get your son back call the police firstly. Secondly, your husband needs a clip over the ears how selfish he is to put you under so much pressure. Can't he see he is killing you. Go to counselling and get him to AA. \n\nStand up for your rights and do what you know is best. If he refuses kick him out!
685458
That is a plausible appeal, but the attorney is just using technicality on this case.  Most officers will do field sobriety test, questions and Breathalyzer.  So even if the test from the Breathalyzer is thrown out, there still will be a case against your son.  He has a drinking problem.  The lawyer will make a ton of money on the appeal and the results will most likely be the same.  Guilty of DUI.
1037636
It is very sad that has happened but unfortunatly that may be his best option. Does he still pay his child support? He needs to continue paying it even if he is not seeing his son because if they do end up back in court it will look better on him. I know that if you do not have a child back from visitation on time the police can be called, I wonder if it works the other way to. ( like she's not having the boy there for his visitation time if he can call the police on her) He may also try to contact his local DSS office and explain the situation to them and see if they can help or they may know who to contact to help him. Good luck to your friend!
971667
tell his wife to go to talk to the district attorney, or give her the person's job address.\n\nok
396341
I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope this helps. There a number of web sites dedicated to single dads with and without custody . they offer advise,emotional support and services and links to financial help for getting your support problems fixed or dissolved. I understand this so well, my ex has been stealing support from me the last 4 years and both my sons live with me due to his harsh abuse. The court has refused to acknowledge this fact allowing this theft to continue. Like you I have limited resources so fighting the Attorney General is not an option for me but I know that what comes around goes around. Hang in there and Bless you.
521054
Anything you "do" is going to force her to defend him.  I know how frightening the situation is.  It could build in to full blown abuse. If this is what he does when drunk it will only get worse.  Sounds like you have already been through plenty with this relationship. It is so hard to stand by while our kids make big mistakes.  Been there done that! Just be there for emotional support, she will need you.
957180
You did the right thing. I am so sorry that you were put that abuse. \n\nStay on the right track; and do not allow his words of "sorry" etc let this man back into your life under any circumstance. He is unstable right now and anything could happen. \n\nAlert any and all neighbors if they should see his vehicle around to contact the police. I know that sounds bad; and you don't want your personal issues hung out on the clothes line. But you don't have to give them a reason other than he is court ordered to stay away for serious reasons. \n\nThis man should not be allowed visitiation of the children unless it is supervised either. You need to protect yourself and your children around this man. I would get that in the works as soon as possible.\n\nHopefully he will get some help and this will cease. \n\nStop feeling low about it because you're allowing this man to continue to abuse you by taking on his issues. Be proud of yourself and thankful that you are alive today! Let it go and concentrate on your future. You are strong and I am so very proud of you. \n\nGood luck to you sweetie and God Bless.
200540
Well, the police aren't going to show up and serve the warrant because he's not there to serve the warrant on, right?  \n\nThey might very well come looking for him there, though, because evidently he has used his address with his lawyer (though the police almost certainly don't have access to that information).  \n\nWhether they might come or not, why not head this thing off at the pass?  You've said you're okay with them showing up if the kids aren't home and you'll give them your ex's current whereabouts, so why not just cough it up right now and hopefully keep them from even showing up at your door?\n\nSome ways to do that which would likely be the most effective:\n\nWrite a letter to the court he's being prosecuted in and give them his current address.  \n\nWrite another letter to the prosecutor's office (just a photocopy of the court's will do), and tell them the same thing.\n\nWrite a letter (again, photocopies are probably fine for all of these) to the police department or sheriff's office that would likely serve the warrant, if there was one issued.\n\nYou might even want to consider returning the paperwork to the attorney's office with a note that if he fails to show up, you'll gladly give his correct address to anyone who asks for it.  \n\nAll this letter-writing should also take into account your risk for doing so.  If you think he'd take violent exception to your actions, you might not want to do it in a way that he'd know it was you.  If you'd like, enable the Yahoo!Answers user-to-user email, and I can send you a suggestion for how to do that.\n\nYou might also check with the court to find out what his next appearance date is - that is probably public information, no matter what state you're in.  Explain why you want to know, and ask if they will tell you (if you call after that date) if he showed up or not.  If he showed up, then this is all moot.  If he didn't, then you might want to consider writing those letters.\n\nBest of luck!
571834
Report him to the court.  In many states now he can be arrested for failure to pay child support.  If your state is not one of these then talk to a lawyer and find out what your options are.
122539
It sounds like a bad situation that your in.  I'm assuming that your husband isn't willing to get help with his drinking or seek couples conseling?  If he won't do thoe things then you may have to make a choice about what is best for you and your son before this situation explodes in to something really bad.  His not putting your name on things doesn't do anything to actually protect him from losing those things so don't worry about that.  The big concern is that this relationship is turning abusive.  Trust me, calling you a failure all the time is abuse and I suspect there is a lot more than that going on.  The abuse needs to end your you and your son need to leave.  I know this probably won't be easy but you both deserve a better life than that.  If you need help there are several comunity programs out there to help abused women and their families.
911161
u won't unless it is in a court.  contact family member or person who is handling his affairs.
155931
This sounds like a terrible story, but is there a question in it somewhere?\n\nEDIT: Okay, let's try to figure out what the question is.  Are you trying to figure out how you can get your daughter back from your ex-husband?  If that's it, you really ought to talk to a lawyer...maybe you can find a decent one through the Bar Association that will do some pro bono work.  If you just aren't interested in working with lawyers, and you really want to involve this group in something as personal as this, you're going to have to post more details...and more *relevant* details (stick to the facts, ma'am).\n\nIf you want better answers, ask better questions and include more of the important details.  Things people might want to know are these:\n\nAre there any court orders right now?\n\nWhat state do you live in?\n\nWhy did your ex take your child, or at least why do you think he did or what did he tell you?\n\nHave there been any allegations of improper parenting on either side?  Any mental health issues on either side?  Drug use?  \n\nIf I'm guessing correctly at what you want to know, I just don't think you're going to be able to get the answers you need in this forum.
42199
If you can't find him I would say call the police if it has been a long time. Also, maybe you could try to talk to his son, and since he sounds greedy it might not work, get a good lawyer, but make sure you know all the facts before hand.
824834
I think you're blowing this way out of proportion. UNLESS he murder, tortured or deal drugs to kids or worse then I don't see how bad a thing he could have kept from you that would warrant a background check. I my wife were to do that I'd dump her and try my hardest to get custody of our son.\n\nI would have helped giving you an answer if we knew what it was that he lied about.  For a few years I lied to my wife about a girl I had dated when I was secure enough with our relationship I told her. She was a little takeb aback but quickly got over it. I claimed to have dated a really pretty girl she new in passing but in reality we were just friends. You my wife is very beautiful and I don't consider myself handsome at all. So I was insecure with regards to her physical attraction to me. So I lied to make myself look better. It was silly and stupid but I did want I thought was right back then. This was 14 years ago and we are now married with a beautiful 7 year boy.\n\nTry and get some perspective on the lies and see if they're worth getting worked up over and maybe putting your marriage at risk.\n\nGood luck to you.
1121690
I doubt that incident will make a judge decide to give you custody.\nIt helps your case that he didn't see her. I doubt he'll even go to jail, but I don't have the details I need to make that decision. You are right not to expect too much. The DA will make a decision as to whether this matter will be brought to court. It sounds like you kept your part of the order when you sent your daughter to visit him. Did you know that your son would not be allowed? Did you send your son knowing that your x would not allow that? I am not trying to be dispectful, but am trying to point out possiblies. If you can afford it, hire an attorney to help  you with the matter.
802331
Explain nothing to your son until you have sought advice from your attorney.\nHe is too little to understand what's going on and doesn't need to be but in the middle\nKids usually cope better in these situation then the adults do\nYour ex has never paid child support and would have to prove he his able to care for a child he doesn't even know let him spend the money with a lawyer to find out. Maybe when he knows he is responsible for all the back payments he might decide not to see the child
943782
Try a intervention group to sober up and help your hubby quit his drinking.\nThe love you had for him was strong enough to have two kids by him and stay in this situation for five years.\nI know you are lonely , need and crave a true help mate . your kids need a sober Dad. You need a sober mate who will be the kind of husband your desired to have when you married him.\nYou need to be the strong one and help not hinder him at this time.\nOnce he drys out he can once again be the wonderful man you fell in love with and gave your life to.\nYour children deserve at least this much effort.\n I know what I am talking about , My wife did this for me and I have been sober for 22 years now. I also know I put her through Hell for 14 years. She at one point before I sobered up was in the exact same frame of mind you are in now. \nFor yes you do deserve to be happy. And by keeping your marriage pure. It proves you believe in the purity of marriage it also proves you still have feelings for this drunk you live with or you would not care if you defiled you marriage by sleeping with this guy you can talk to. honsetly if you could do the same with your husband would you have ever gave this other guy a second look???\n Please try and get him help for your self ,for him and for your kids. If he refuses to get help , call the cops claim abuse have him thrown in the drunk tank .When he sobers up confront him and show him what he is about to lose .Then say Goodby if all efforts fail.