Can any non-Christians tell me how to become a happy/wholesome  person?
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You asked how to be happy and wholesome. Cool. You asked the question of non-Christian folk. OK. Lets remember what you didn't ask ... How to attain enlightenment, or get to heaven, or please any Deity. Fair enough. So we'll just stick to those first two things ... How to be happy ... Learn to be content with things as they are. That means to practice simple acceptance of other people, places, things, circumstances, etc. When you can accept things as they are you can live without trying to change those things or control those people or etc. You get the idea. While you're accepting others as they are in order to be happy don't forget to extend that same acceptance to your self. Its just a matter of letting everything be what it is, and knowing that its that way for a reason, and ... that's OK. So far ... HAPPINESS = ACCEPTANCE. Now, wholesome. A dictionary definition of "wholesome" is: #1; Promoting good health or wellbeing, healthful. #2; Improving the mind or morals. #3; Looking healty or vigorous. ... Whoa! You're not asking for much, are you? lol Its not that complicated, really. Give life a little thought. Keep your self and your space clean. Get some exercise. Try to eat a ballanced diet. Take a multiple vitamin daily. The health aspect isn't all that hard. That part about improving the mind and morals? A little more work. Improve the mind? Exercise it a little. Read. Watch a little History Channel. I think you know how to exercise your mind already. Just do it consistently. Your morals? That's simple. Simple ought never be confused with easy. Pick a moral code, and ... LIVE IT! Which one? Hey, not my call. Suggestions? Sure. Center your life on (and you don't have to be any of these things to use something they have that YOU find useful) ... The Wiccan Reede. The Jewish 10 Commandments. The "Golden Rule" of Jesus. Whatever. Picking is the easy part. That's simple. Now, living it, that's another story. Be consistant, but be loving with yourself when you make a mistake too. Just DON'T GIVE IT UP! BE CONSISTANT! And last, but not least, get out of self. You do that by helping others and being there for them. It also gives you the exercise you need in acceptance AND your morals. Neither of those work well in a void. ~ Peace & Blessings ~ ;-)
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i think the key to happiness is through JESUS CHRIST. and letting HIM lead your life. GOD BLESS YOU.
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Start with what Jesus said was the Greatest Commandment and learn to love God with all your heart.\nNext work on the 2nd greatest, to love others as yourself.  If you do that, you will have friends, both Christian and pre-Christian.\nLast, work on the Great Commission (which comes after the Greatest Commandment).  If you do that, you will share Jesus with others.
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You are not a horrible person. Horrible people are not this honest.\n\nYou already love most of God's creation, the animals and trees and such. Now take the next step.\n\nI think you need to love yourself more. You are also part of God's creation. You are a masterpiece of God, made in His (or Her) image and likeness. God loves you just as you are. \n\nWhen you believe that you are lovable and loved, then you can take the next step and start to love others more. It just happens.\n\nWith love and prayers in Christ.
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Being a Christian means you admit you are a sinner, so you don.t really become a better Christian. Once you accept Jesus you are justified to GOD so that is as good as it gets. \n\nDoing some of the thing above may make you a happier Christian, You are able to grow in knowing GOD and having a closer more fufilling relationship. \n\nIn every relationship spending time together makes it more fun. Same thing with GOD, prayer and obedience makes Christianity more fulfilling.\n\nAlso Dont buy the snake oil the Joseph smith guy was trying to sell you!
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Well are you saved???? Have you ask the Lord Jesus to come into your heart and forgive you of your sins? If not, then that is what you need! If you have and he did save you, maybe you just need to move closer to God! Is there sin in your life that you are not asking God to forgive you for? Are you reading your Bible? Studying? Praying? Going to church? \n\nI know that before I got saved I was not happy at all and then after I got saved I was happy, and I still am, but sometimes I let things get in between me and the Lord and that hinders my happyness.
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Ask God to make Himself real to you.\n\nBe honest with Him. Confess your sins before Him.\n\nBegin to read the bible. Ask God to make it real and alive to you. \n\nSeek out a good church - a church that studies the bible, prays, sings songs of worship.\n\nOpen your heart to God. He wants you to believe, He wants to reveal Himself to you, He wants to make Himself real to your heart.\n\nLearn about Jesus - read Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John.\nLearn about the early church-  read the book of Acts\n\nObey God - maybe there is something you haven't been willing to do that He wants you to do - Trust Him, love Him, obey Him.\n\nGod bless!!
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Avoid the false teachings of churches. They set people up. They preach and teach prosperity and blessings and then when it doesn't happen the people fall hard. True relations with God are quite different and not easy but the comfort is there. If you are truly seeking out God and need to talk you can e-mail me through my below website. I can't promise that I can help, but I try and genuinely care. I also am very busy but try to check e-mail daily. If not and I don't hear from you then best wishes in your life.
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:}\nGet involved with a new lifestyle with new friends. consider church and a life of faith.
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put God first, then love your self lastly, care for others\n\npeace out
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First of all, thank you for your kind words.  Since we didn't start off on the best foot (my fault) they mean a great deal to me.  Also, thank you for your humility in removing the questions with negative overtones.  Humility is one of the greatest qualities to have, and one that is very difficult for most people to show.  It is a quality I could use much more of, I know that.\n\nYour question is a very good one.  I'm not sure there is a truly satisfactory answer.  Some of your past questions have been more on the psychology of certain cultures.  This question is a deeper question aimed more at the very soul of man.  Therefore my answer will be much more based on my faith than those I have given you in the past.\n\nThe best I can say is that we cannot live in a society free of hate, poverty and despair because we are sinners.  We all have inherited the sinful nature of Adam.  I do not believe we are born sinners in the way that we are guilty of sin when we are born, but I do believe we are born with a tendency towards sin.  We don't have to teach our children to lie, it comes natural to them.  We do however, have to teach honesty, sharing, love, etc.  This also goes along with some of Freud's (ptewy - excuse me) ideas.  Freud says that we come into this world only thinking of self and our needs, that we are born with only an id.  The Bible calls this our sinful nature, or simply our flesh.  We inherited this from Adam.  Our fleshly nature starts with just wanting basic needs met - I want to be fed, I want to be changed, etc.  Very quickly, however, most of us begin to see our needs as ultimate - I want to be fed NOW, I want to be changed NOW.  I want to play with that toy becomes (or starts as) - I want to play with that toy, and I DON'T WANT YOU PLAYING WITH IT.  This eventually leads to individuals believing they are better than everyone else, which leads to hate and despair, which leads to poverty.\n\nThe bad news is that these things will always be present in the world.  The good news is that we can rise above these things as individuals.  Some individuals seem to actually manage to have no harsh feelings towards anyone else, but most of us never get to that point.  However, most of us are able to make the world a better place just by striving for it.  God bless, my friend.\n\n\nI also feel I must speak to what CushBen stated...\n\nLuke was a Grecian, and both his gospel and Acts were written to a Grecian man.  He wrote the gospel in Greek, not Hebrew, so if the name cannot be translated, it cannot be translated to Yahshua (Hebrew).  In verse 10 Luke states that it is in the name of EE-AY-SOU CHREEST-OU, not Yahshua.  \n\nLuke was saying that salvation was through no other person, not that you could not translate our Lord's name.  If you believe otherwise, you'd better learn Greek, not Hebrew.  In fact, many Jew's of Jesus' time probably ONLY spoke Greek, which is why they thought Jesus was calling for Elijah on the cross.
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#1 Rely on God & the Holy Spirit to do the work of changing this person's heart.\n\n#2 Be willing to listen & respect his/her beliefs and right to choose - even though you don't agree.\n\n#3 Fill your mind & heart with God's Word, so that you will always be able to answer questions.\n\n#4 Let your faith & life be an example - you can tell what God is doing in your life w/o beating someone over the head with theology.\n\n#5 Be honest - admit when there is not a clear answer in scripture, when you're unsure of something, etc.
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The Bible lays it out quite clearly -\nBe honest, treat others the way you want to be treated, do not kill, steal, or murder, forgive others, love everybody - even your enemies.  Of course, there's much more, but that should be enough to get started.
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Sweetie, I would LOVE to spend some time chatting with you about all this!  Anyway, when you ask God to come into your life and your heart, just mean it..and you only have to do it once.  There are a few important steps that will help you to follow his guidance.  First, get a Bible you like and understand..and read it (baby steps).  Find a church you like and go regularly..and don't forget the fellowship..it's very important.  Those are the people you lean on in your times of doubt..they will help keep you straight and they will 'feed' you the information and encouragement you need.  The Bible says "Do not forsake the assembling.." (Hebrews 10:25)..which means the fellowship.  Go to Bible study and make Christian friends.  It's a process, but we're all born in and of sin..we will ALWAYS sin, but we repent when we do.  Also, pray for guidance and understanding of His word (Psalms 32:8..I will instruct you and teach you the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you..).  And lastly, how do we have a relationship with anybody??  We spend TIME with them...talk to God..often!  Spend some devotional time with him.  Once you really let yourself open up to all of these things, you'll FEEL the difference..and the depression will fall away.  You'll know true peace and happiness.  I speak from experience!  Good luck to you!  IM me if you have any questions!  Praise God!!
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Think about your motivation. Are you scared of something?\n\nGoing to church does NOT make you a better human, not even a better believer. You rather take positive actions in your life.
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You just smile when ever you see someone doing something that is not in line with thier religious ideals.\n\nPoint out that you wish you were that "good" that you couuld violate this "norm", and that "norm" and be forgiven that many times...must be wonderful!\n\nAsk if that is acceptable practise for all Christians or what ever Faith they profess to be... Then ask them that if you were that Faith, could you do that too? (all with a smile on your face, really annoys them).\n\nTell them that you were wondering if thier children were held to the same ways that they are acting, (and ask if thier children DO the same things that they are doing), and watch them say that they wouldnt LET thier children DO that!  Then you laugh!\n\n:)\n\nKeep on smiling\n\nJesse
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Be a good person.  Help others when you can.  Thank God for your blessings whenever you can - it doesn't have to be a long prayer, just a devoted thought.  Live as He would want you to live, and trust in Him.