My boyfriend's family is a nightmare, how do I cope?
473539
I went through a similar situation and I made my BF talk to her about her pushiness. She no long calls at 6 am so thats good! You should not complain to much about his family though as they are and will always be in his life. You should be calm and explain to him your feelings! Good luck.
246422
I would be only of his mother, otherwise, just remember your all adults and it is your home.  Don't worry, if he loves you he will hender his parents from picking on you. \n\n\nGOOD LUCK
614051
If you would like to known as 'the skank', by his family, go for it.  Consider this, sometimes things are not as they seem, could you possibly imagine that this family member's aim is only to use you and throw you away like a used rag? After that you'd be scorned by him, your boyfriend of 2 months, his family and to boot, they'd still be family and closer than ever.  Why?  Because he proved to your boyfriend' that you were no good.
55517
I think you most definitely need to think about those kids.  So many people can give you so many different points of view but listen, when you bring babies into this world you need to watch out for them.  You boyfriend is extremely selfish due to whatever dysfunctional life he had growing up, that is very sad but now, he is a father and he should think about those babies and their mother.  I think you need to stay in Michigan, surrounded by your support system, and let him go. Specially if he gets irritated with your son. You also need to start taking care of you.  You are worth it, you need to think a little more on what is best for you so your kids can have a happy mommy. That is the greatest gift you can give those kids, by giving them a happy stable home
798829
Move out and move on.  You are obviously not happy with him and you need to do what is best for you.  Be positive and strong and discuss the situation with your family.  Good luck.
1035453
Its family, There will always be conflict, thats just the way it is.\nTalk to the person about it. if that doesnt help, then try your parents or an adult you can trust. they will help you solve this problem.
486384
It's not your fault your ex has control over his family and tells them who they can and cannot speak to. Don't let it get to you. All that matters is that he has no control over you.
571996
You don't ... yet. You may want to think long and hard about why your family hates him. We have a 17 year old daughter, and there have been people that we've told her not to bring to our house again. That doesn't mean she doesn't hang out with them anymore ... we're not stupid ... but they aren't allowed around us because they disrespected us and our home. \n\nIf you know why your family hates him and the issue cannot be resolved, you may want to try and keep this to yourself until you're in a position to move out of the house. A good, smart parent knows deep down that once a child turns 17 they're pretty much going to make their own decisions regardless of what we think or how we feel about it. It's a natural progression.
677651
Your have legitimate fears, and there is no reason you should have to live in fear, or be responsible for three drunks.  First, you must eliminate them one by one....Don't invite your boyfriend over as often. He should have more respect for you and your feelings.  Then,  have your mom tell your older cousin to stay at his house more often.  Then maybe your older brother won't have the desire to drink alone and climb poles!   You and your little sister have the right to feel safe in your own home!\nGood luck to ya!
617394
I don't think so.  Maybe he is afraid you will not like his family or maybe he thinks is family is embarassing.  I don't think there is anything to worry about as long as the two of you are happy together.\n   It would be okay to ask him why though and find out the answer from him.  All we can do on here is postulate guesses when only your boyfriend knows the real answer.\nGood luck\npeace and love
104040
respect the person you love. listen to them and respect their view on issues you discuss,even if you don't agree. Don't talk mean to them or treat them bad. do special things for them that you know they like. ask them how their day went. Make them a special dinner or dessert. Help them work to make your home a place that you both are proud of. respect their family even if you don't like them. one of the worst things to do is talk bad about your mates family, it will eventually come back to haunt you. show them love and compassion. a hug,loving touch or kiss. take the time every day to show them in any way that you care through bad and good times. these are the things i do because i know that i have a wonderful man and thank god everyday for him.
1124288
i can tell you one thing, i have been in your shoes. when my husband and i first got together his mom and his sister hated me. and that was ok because the feeling was mutual. he basicaly looked at his mom and told her "hey this is the girl i want to be with, forever, and if you don't like it that to f** bad. " His mom wasn't very happy with this. he moved out of the house and moved in with me. She only saw him on holidays because he didn't want anything to do with her if she wasn't going to accept me. And yes i know it has to do with "taking away her baby boy" blah blah blah. His mom didn't like me until 2 yrs later when i gave birth to her granddaughter. Mind you, we were already married. So my advice to you is be kind, be nice and take it with a grain of salt. If he loves you then he will be the one to step up and say somethig to his family. He'll be a man about the situation and explain to everyone that you are the one for him and they need to accept you and respect you and the relationship that he has with you. Good Luck!
875777
"meaner than a snake." That's funny! I sympathize with your situation.  I sure wouldn't want to go there. What's the worst thing that could happen if you take a strong stance with your husband and tell him that you don't want to go this year?  Why not invite the old coot to your home? Or just skip going to the relatives this year and celebrate the holidays with your husband and children.\nAlso, I would have a problem with a mother-in-law who doesn't have anything nice to say about you or your son and the fact that your husband let's her get away with that nastyness. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
261503
Respect his wishes that his family not be told yet.  He apparently isn't ready for them to know.\nI am sorry you are going through this with your friend...you are a good and decent person to be concerned about his family, but right now I do think his wishes should come first.  \nBe there for your friend...even when he gets angry and irrational.  Make sure he has good food available to eat, that money is not a concern for him right now....that he has entertainment to occupy his time rather than just feeling morose all the time.\nGood luck to you...
401583
If that is the case, there is absolutely nothing you can do.  It would really be up to your boyfriend to speak up and mention to his family that he is in love with you.  If he is not saying anything to his family about you, you might as well kiss your boyfriend good bye.
701114
Well you can't stay with him through guilt you have to be fair to him and yourself!\n\nExplain to him that you love and care for him and that you don't want to hurt him but quite obviously he is not in a great mental place right now!\n\nIf you truly believe that he will do something silly you need to let his family know so that you and him will get as much support as possible!\n\nGood luck i hope things work out for the best!
770064
This may not be much comfort, but most people have screwed up families.   However there are only a few like you and I that will admit it.    My family is the same, sometimes it gets so bad I have to stay away from some of them for months on end.    I have learned that they may be my family, but sometimes you have to put some distance between you and  them for survival..