is it wrong to fall inlove with a gay friend...?
468285
It is wrong for you. If you are going to love him, you must love him like a brother. That means, you will be happy for him, when he falls in love with the man of his dreams. It means you will go with them to pick out their drapes, they will drop you off at your place and drive home, just the two of them.
1001509
Infatuations will never cease.  It is what you do with these feelings that counts.  It is never wrong to love someone.  It is always wrong to break your vows.
518071
well If I was you I would wait till a good time(you'll know) then tell them that you are curious and you would feel uncomfortable with anyone else and since I am already gay,there will be no strings or emotional ties after wards. I would just break it down like its an uncomfortable issue but you couldn't think of a more comfortable friend to experiment with. "Use Protection"!
184666
do you love him? or are you angry?..Was he gay to begin with of just in the closet?.. None of that matters really of course. If you like the friendship, but can't handle "gay" part (I'm guessing he's bi) Then you have some options. One you need to dtermine what kind of sexual behavior he exibits. Destructive? Thats when he'll do anything with anyone anywhere. If this is the case I'd get out, get checked and walk away. If he has a regular long term lover then you may be able to keep the relationship if you can deal with that side of him.. Personaly (as a bisexual) I will NEVER understand why people who are bi (and they know it going in) are not honest about it. I don't keep secrets with lovers. It's amazing how many women are just fine with that.. You can even find a permanant relationships where every one knows everything. But where I live there are litterally tens of thousands of married men who are bisexual living secret lives, destructive lives at that. They put everything they suppossedly car about at risk and thats not right.\n  Now youhave to decide weatehr or not you want to keep on going with this person or not. My own situation is BiPoly. bisexual+polyamorus (I'll wait while you look that up)..Everything is like a marriage of sorts between like minded people. Maybe thats for you if he's mongamous with his male lover and monogamous with you. Guess that would be duomonogamy. But you get my drift. For gay and bisexual males its rare to have these types of relationships. Socienty has forced them into the alleys and closets so its been a catch as catch can situation. By forcing it into the blue area it has gaurenteed anonamous stranger sex is a given. . But this is changing and more things are out in the open. It would be nice if everyone could just be open and honest with out fear of retribution, but that is not how it has been. Being suppressed is like slavory. you do what you have to do to be free wen you can be.
699581
There is nothing wrong with being gay-friendly.  Most of my friends are str8 men, but that doesn't make me a heterosexual.  Also, I think some of my str8 friends 'act' more gay than I do.  Leave your friend's husband alone to be however he wants.
227466
Of course it can happen! He might not be able to explain it because he doesn't understand it himself...he might be wondering how it happened when he has always been straight. It's probably very confusing for him. You say you're in love, and things sound very good. Don't question it with him. For now just let him express his feeling in other ways, through his actions!
924519
Okay i was just in this situation. I love my friend and we have been friends for a while. I mean we have fooled around and stuff and I fell for him I mean really fell. However he didnt feel the same for me he just kind wanted to do stuff. It made me mad about the whole situation I mean if you do try and go for stuff like this make sure your friend is feeling the same way torwards you. Dont pressure anything make sure it is the right thing to do for the both of you analyze the situation and if you decide you should just be friends that is great.
299173
my best guy friend is gay
152004
No, but if he was, I wouldn't love him any less. He's still the same man that he's always been on the inside. Being gay and/or fat does not change a persons heart toward the people that they love. They are just like anyone else. It shouldn't make a difference. He is the only one who has to live his life, not anyone else, so why not just love and accept him the way he is? Even if my own daughter came home and said she was a lesbian tomorrow, I would say, "as long as you're happy, I'm happy."
577584
well, ... since you are a guy and you are talking about a guy, unless you know that he is gay, that can be VERY touchy... I would be careful.  Normally I would say go for it babe, but be careful.
46666
Pancharito is right! I know you want to be friends with him, but you are in love with him. You will always be tempted to just crumble and tell him you want more. But you have to respect his wishes before those of your own if you truly do love him. *sigh* That's the part of love that is so hard. You'll never really fall out of love with him. But distancing yourself will make things easier for you. Get involved in activities you love and it will take your mind off of your heart. Besides, you might make some great new friends through your outside involvement. I do wish you luck........I know it is hard!
1091596
It's good to fall in love with your good friend and there is no problem in it.  Just go ahead, what a better love than to love ones good friend.\nI actually fall in love all the time and never regret it. Go ahead and enjoy.
441940
i think you should take the risk...i started going out with one of my good friends, and we ended up falling in love.  since you guys started out as good friends, i think no matter what happens you'll always be close.  who knows, maybe he'll be your true love
1141286
No, Gay is just something that comes with him, if you are attracted to someone its not wrong if they are gay, transvestite, transexual, white, black. this is just natural
535568
It's not wrong but it sure is painful! You have to go through confusion and angst just to get yourself to admit your feelings and then when you have already passed that stage you have to go tell your friend. But you know, through all that pain - you'll find more joy with that person than with those you just met and decided to go out with. It's like - the more pain you experience, the more joy you gain after the whole thing. Why? Because you know this person and this person knows you. You trust each other coz you're already friends. You've already passed the 'getting to know you' stage of a relationship and the next thing you have to do is enjoy each other!!\nThings get complicated though, and much more painful, if your friend doesn't feel the same way. Some feel betrayed when they find out their friend's in love with them. They say you betrayed their trust and that sort of thing.\nBut you know, the key thing is patience and persistence.
670349
I'm kind of in the same situation...only I am in love with my best friend so that could be the cause, huh?  Anyway, if your love for him is only as a friend, you're probably thinking of him as a brother, and close siblings are generally protective of each other.  It's okay to be protective, just don't let it get in the way of your friendship.
670208
Honestly, this sounds mean, but spend less time with straight men.\n\nMy friend Justin spends all his time with straight men, mostly through his frat.  They know he is gay, and they're fine with it.  However because he only hangs out with straight men, he only falls in love with straight men because they are his only availible pool.  Then he bemoans to me that he is in love with yet another straight male.   It is like a self defeating cylce.\n\nGet out and spend more time with the homos would be my advice.  Get involved in a political campaign, volunteer at a gay community center, or find a gay club of some kind.  Go to the gay bars.  Make new gay friends online.  You can still keep all your straight friends (and I am in no way trying to get you to ditch them) but you need to widen that availible pool.  The best way to make good relationships in to make good friends who can introduce you to hot gay guys :-)