How do i make my gf tell me her problems? it just isnt good for relationship if she keeps quiet?
456985
don't aggravate her by asking what's wrong a thousand times trust me on this my bf was going through the same thing with me, just hug her and tell her you love her often not just when you are about to leave her or get off the phone, tell her often and during your everyday conversation let her know out the blue that if theres ever anything she wants to talk about , you're there no matter what time it is or how petty or small she may think it is, you're always listening, there maybe times where she don't want you to say ANYTHING but just for you to be there to listen so let her know you're there tell her everyday so when the time come and she want to talk she already know that you're willing to listen
115201
I agree with sixseven. Sit down with her and ask her to tell you what the problem is, but do it nicely. If she doesn't want to talk about it then giver her her space and as sixseven said, be there for her and let her know that when she's ready to talk, you're ready to listen. Good luck.
607122
lol - its true, you could be getting on her nerves :)\nit could mean a few things, eg.\nit means that she needs time by herself to work out how she thinks/feels about things in her life including you. It also means that she doesnt feel like she can say something to you that you wont like and she is building up the courage and finding her way to say it best. It also means that you and her are becoming too big in her life and that she cant balance her relationship with you with everything else she has to do in her life and that may be her fault or yours.\ncould be a whole load of reasons.\n\nall you really need to know is it is time to show some respect and independance and give her her space, if you care and love her then back off and find something to keep you occupied while she is finding her space.\nIf she is messing you around then maybe move on, I have asked for a bit of space before - it didnt mean i was breaking up with my gf or messing her around, I really needed it and she respected that and not having her calling me every five minutes concerned about if i love her and such was very cool of her, give her her space :)
382697
She is dumping her issues on you because you love her, which means you are probably a good listening ear for her. \nI am that way too, I am very sympathetic, but I learned that I need to be somewhat of a hard nose sometimes or at least pretend to be. \n\nI worked with a guy that always complained and was never happy. I was very nice to him and I offered solutions and this and that and none of it worked. Finally I had to say"Look, everytime I talk to you, I have a solution or suggestion for you,but you never think it's a good idea," and I basically asked that if he doesn't want my advice to stop complaining to me, it worked, but he started complaining to other people about what I said to him. LOL!!!!\n\nI know what you mean. The guy I worked with was the exact same way. It also sounds like maybe she should get some counseling, I am serious about that.
249852
thats a hard situation, I doubt anyhting you can ever think of saying in the nicest way will ever make her not get mad. I guess you just need to understand that you tried your best trying to tell her in the nicest way possible and if she gets offended thats a shame, but you need to move out and start your life. Id prolly be like i have a surprise tonight for you, Im going to make you dinner, then after shes all fattened up tell her how much you love her and is going to miss her, good luck
1090634
That's a pretty harsh thing to say to anyone, let alone your girlfriend. I think it's time to move on. You'll find a guy who doesn't say things like that.
982581
You still have to tell her. Blood is thicker than water. Besides, she'll be a lot madder at you if you know this and say nothing. Tell her you're sorry, you didn't know, but that's what you know now. In the long run, it will strengthen your relationship.
220475
you have to be there and intune for whats best for them. talk to her about it but dont push it. Once you have sat her down and explained it to her then its her turn to either turn her self around or screw up her relationship.
412081
communication is one of the most important things in any relationship.  You just have to be upfront and let her know what you would like.  Complementing her while doing so wouldn't hurt any.
169866
hey man, are you dating my girlfriend?  I cant believe there is anyone I can relate so well with - \n\nI guess all I can say is to just trust her until something really messed up is proven to you- give her the benefit of the doubt man!  Does she tell you she loves you? I know they can lie about that too, but at least they are saying it.  If she turns out to be a liar, dont do what I did once in my past- dont even attempt to make her feel guilty, because chances are she wont anyways.
4813
I just brok up with my bf... and I just told him straight up. Just say something like " I have a few things on my mind that I need to tell you with out interuptions..." And tell her what your are unhappy with and then when you are done say something like " Our relationship is not tight like it used to be and I think we should break up. Iff we are meant to be together we will be. If you are supposed to be with me you will come back to me but if not you were never really mine."
240969
if that's really the case, just continue on loving her and caring for her... but if she keeps on doing what she's doing, talk to her. if it didn't work.... maybe she's not for you.. communication is one of the MOST important things for a relationship to work and last
980872
Hi you right it's not worth fighting over. Maybe she just feels like she can't talk to you about certain things that are happening in her life right now. I wouldn't worry to much about it. People sometimes find that it is easier to confide in strangers. That way no one will be able to judge her.
596614
You really do care for your girl...!!!\n\nShe probably hails from a very disturbed background. I think she is insecure not only about herself but also about her relationship. And I also think that she lacks self confidence.\nThere are a lot of things that you have not mentioned, that is how old is she and what is she doing...??\nFor her to get over the habit of not working well with people she needs to work on projects that have to be done in groups.\n\nConstantly encourage her to do things that involve her participation and that involve her interaction with lots of people.\nShe also needs your constant support and love. And if this does not work then you need to take her to a pshycologist.
67504
Without knowing why she makes you sad, have you tried talking about it with her. Communication is the main ingredient of any relationship.
1150650
It's best for you to be a little honest and ask for what you want...you might be ok with it now...but if it keeps up you might get a bit resentful about it. And if you don't tell her, she might not even know! She might think that you are fine the way things are cause you're not saying anything...most important thing I've learned about relationships...gotta ask for what you want...your partner is not a mind reader!
1124786
she's your girlfriend right? just tell her. if you can't tell her this, then the relationship is doomed for destruction.