Why my boyfriend consider that i am not his girlfriend after 1 year and 3 months living in the same house?
472994
you can't force people to think the way you wish them to. if you put up with this, continue and don't complain. if this bothers you, move
730799
Why is just the weekends you see him?  He could be married. If you know he isn't and it's just a question of schedules or locations then you should talk about moving in or changing something that will fit your needs.  You don't need to move in together as its only been a year but maybe moving closer together or spending a few nights over at each other's place would be in order I would think. \n\nAs you guys aren't exclusive yet go see the other guy there's nothing wrong with seeing if you are making the right decision.  But I'd also but the boyfriend on notice that you aren't happy with the way things are and that you seeing other people isn't out of the question.  As I'm sure it's in his realm of probabilities as well.  I don't know his line of work or why you only see him on the weekends so I can only speculate.\n\nHowever one thing I'm sure of.  If he knows of the situation and hasn't done anything about he doesn't plan on doing anything about it.
564609
leave him, your not even married yet, and hes not trusting you. they say if there accusing you of doing something then that means they are the ones doing it.
679922
I think you need to give more details on your situation because I don't know what you are asking. What do you mean by you are "seperated"? \n\nDid you two once go out as boyfriend and girlfriend and was living much closer to each, but now live far apart but now the relationship is long term?\n\nAnd what do you mean you have problems talking to her on the phone? Describe what the problem is.....\n\nMore details please...
609962
im sorry\nthe same thing happened to me w/my x. He would move out anywhere from couple days - month. \nwell eventually i had enough we are not together. \nleaving for while wil not solve any problems at all either.\nwell good  luck to you i hope things work out for you!!!
949537
My guess that he finds you attractive. Nothing too wrong with that I guess, but that is where it should stop. don't give him any wrong ideas by flirting or anything. Hopefully things will not change and make you feel more uncomfortable, if they do then maybe it is time you stop seeing you b/f at his house and meet at yours instead.
212802
Sounds like you guys may not be though. Either way,if you only see each other once in three months,it doesn't sound like much of a relationship. Try to call it off.\nIf he doesn't call you then he doesn't care about you,period. Do yourself a favor and move on.\nPlenty more guys out there... \nYou can IM me for some if you want...
992282
Leave it for a while, 4 months really isn't that long. Leave it till your one year anniversary.\nYou would make any normal bloke run away by talking of living together after 4 months especially a commitment phobic.
714872
You guys live in a different state.  What do you expect to happen?  Do you expect him to be alone?  What has failed here is your understanding when people are far apart.  It's your responsibility to be realistic, not him.  It would help if he did his part, but that's not the issue here.\n\nIt's you and your false expectations about relationships-particularly when you live far from your mate, in a different State.\n\nSorry sweetheart.  \n\nI'm guessing he said that not to hurt your feelings and he has no intention of doing so, but he's a human being and so are you.\n\nCall him and tell him that this is not realistic and to maintain a friendship.
532672
He has committment issues. The house is the factor that makes your relationship permanent and he wants to be able to escape if he chooses. \n\nIt doesn't sound from what you wrote that he has been different...just that things are changing and he isn't dealing with it well. The more you demand committment to the situation (the house)...the more he may back down. He also is maybe worried that he won't do a good job at paying for the house...but I suspect that he is looking for excuses. \n\nPerhaps you should sit down with him very calmly and look at the situation..talk to him. Ask him if he is wanting to settle down. He may like being involved but doesn't want to settle down. It is his personality. Fear. Maybe...he needs to hear something from you. Maybe he needs encouraged. Maybe you are being demanding (without knowing it). It seems that you are going ahead with plans and he isn't wanting to yet. \n\nYou both need to talk it out. Try to get your emotions out of it...and see it from his perspective. He is scared about something....so just ask. \n\nTry thinking of it this way....would you want to put a down payment down...and fix things on a house if you didn't own it....he will feel like a roommate or perhaps dangerously vulnerable. Just try to be understanding...and step back.\n\nHe might just need time or reassurance. But you need to stop putting pressure on him. Just my thoughts..and I might have it all wrong...but it is what I see.
1016565
Sounds like he's trying to push you away. Maybe he's trying to manipulate you in to kicking him out. Since he can't bring himself to do it on his own. Sorry ,but I can't see ANY reason to stay in a unsatisfying(emotional and physical) relationship.Then again maybe he has a a physical problem but the locked up laptop kinda blows that one away. Try consuling, if he's just interested in messing with your head drop him. It's not worth being unhappy year after year...
688877
Sounds like your boyfriend is using YOU as his excuse for anything and everything!!\n\nMy opinion and advice?  Get rid of the boyfriend, find someone else who will value you more, and treat you like you're a human being, and not someone to use and abuse as an excuse because they're no good!
651272
maybe the problem is that you live together..i mean you see each other all the time...theres no more anticapation of wondering when you'll see each other.  the other thing could be that he knows the things that you do that arent soo "ladylike" just be a lil more girly in the next little while...bend over and show him what he's missing.. and wait for him to throw to the bed!! hahaah
992463
my guess is that you may be in lust or love, depending on how long he's been your boyfriend. especially at the beginning of the relationship you will be thinking about him a lot because you are dealing with a lot of new emotions. and it could be the beginning of love. don't worry. if he wasn't your boyfriend then it would be a concern. have fun. this feeling doesn't always last that long. in a month, when things get boring and routine, you'll miss the days when you waited for his phone call.
351708
He decision is based on emotion, and he is probably still hurting from what happended. He must of forgiven you as he is considering to move in with you, but because he has forgave you, it does not mean he has forgotten! You need to rebuild the trust, and i do not think you can force him. Talk to him and see where he is coming from, he probably needs reassurance and comfort. Remember actions speak louder than words and he might be thinking when in doubt, leave it out. Do not give up if he is worth fighting for...
193133
By date 5 within a two month period of time you're boyfried/girlfriend.  When you agree to stop seeing other people then you're committed bf/gf.  \n\nWhy on earth live with someone if you're not committed? \n\nUnless you just have a thing for your roommate.
267419
Why is he your old boyfriend? There had to have been reasons for breaking up and if I were you, I would take that into account. Also, would you be moving in together or just near him? Is it economical for you to move, will you be able to work, find housing? I don't know, it just doesn't sound like something that you should do...find a new boyfriend, one that lives closer to you or one that would move to be near YOU!