How do i get my boyfriend to open up and communicate?
468739
Hi!,\nIt sounds like you would like your boyfriend to be more open and to communicate his thoughts more. If he does not open up and communicate what he is thinking, feeling or doing you would be left to think many things.\nMy first thought would be, has he always been of this particular nature, that is not open, or not very communicative? If so love him as he his.\nMy second thought is, you would like to have a partner that is open and communicative. Perhaps that is how you are (open and communicative), and you have that recipricating need. It would not be healthy heart trying to guess what another person is thinking. We are so often incorrect to try and guess what a person is thinking. What is, is, can be a simple thought. A person who thinks less could be more at peace, at least not so stressed. Try it. Try and be more like him, since you wish perhaps him to be more like yourself. Good Luck
781523
I presume your boyfriend is about your age. Well, if he just sit there and doesnt communicate with you after you tell him what he wants to know, although some of it could be none of his business, then I guess he is just nosey or just wants to be in control but really doesnt have the character to talk to you like a human being. Maybe he just doesnt know how to communicate. Good luck.
959082
Hug him and tell him how special he is to you.  Let him know you are there for him and that you are there to listen any time he needs to talk.  Try to get him to go out and be among other people that's really important; it's so easy to withdraw from others and to close down.  He just needs to know that somebody does care and is willing to listen when he's willing to talk.
205062
Dont keep nagging him or anything that will drive him away. give him some time then like Im him or something. Wait a while before you talk to him he may be willing to open up to you later.
113354
just explain how you feel the best thing in a relationship is an open line of communication he has to understand what your wants and needs are and how you feel about things if he cant except it he is not worth it
59359
I think I get the point, try to spend more time with him, he must be just shy. He will get used to you, also give him more hints through text about how to act in get togethers.\nI also recommend some physical romantic actions(If you are above 18 ;))\nDon't hesitate to tell him what you want, if he can call you 45 times he can be a little excited or convincing when he says he loves you.
815219
dont jump the gun just yet.do you have faith in your boyfriend?\ncan you trust him?do you love him?\nif the answer is yes then you should be able to talk to him and if he gets to upset or standoffish he just might be quilty.\ncommunication is the key to a great relationship.trust as well without then you aredoomed
311024
I think all guys act like that sometimes.  Men might not be as in "in touch" with sharing their feelings.  I guess is this silent response a new thing? or old?   I think you should find a neutral spot and time to talk to him.  Maybe when you are in the car driving somewhere say  " Hey i somethings been bothering me...or hey I want to talk to you about something, can we talk about it now...and if not when would be a good time."  After you schedule your appointment, tell him what is going on, and how you feel Try not to talk his head off, give him the short story of it all, and see what he says. Only he really knows why he is acting that way. But you have been together for 3 years, so im guessing  he is invested in you and the relationship otherwise he wouldnt be there.
750689
God bless you for trying to be a better girlfriend... Men aren't very open individuals if you haven't noticed..We keep things bottled up instinctively to suppress emotions, by that l mean we will ease out of a bad situation for a bit chew on it let it go and be done with it.. We are pretty shallow creatures who in most scenarios don't look for closure.. Women on the other hand find it necessary, in most cases, to bring an end to the problem and have closure to ensure the stability of the relationship.. This truly is a situation that you must sit down with him and discuss at length so you will know quite positively where he stands.. This may or may not be healthy for a relationship but it's pretty much the norm for male behavior.. Are you worried about the longevity of the relationship, or do you wonder when the two of you fight that it might be the last time??? If so, it's very important that you talk to him about this and get his reassurance before you drive yourself crazy worrying, which will cause more static in your relationship.... Good luck!!!!
212187
Remember, Love is a two way street.  If he is a politition with a bunch od $Mula$ then he can probably afford to come and see you.  Why hasn't he?  I would say to stand back and take a look at the relationship from the outside.  When you speak or email, try to put yourself in his shoes and figure out what you would mean if you were saying the same things.  \n\nIf his work is more important to him then he is probably a lost cause, at least for now.  My best advise would be to just drop it for know, drop the boyfriend since he obviously doesn't mean that much to you and then get to know yourself a little better.  Let these relationships develope on there own and try not to push too much.\n\nGood luck!
461574
do not say your sorry - you must first show it - get your stuff together - for give ness must be shown - not just talked aboutif you are serious and he is a good person , you may start talking - he is listening even if he's mad, and then you show every day you DO care and love him - he will mellow in time - how much time is unimportant- just keep doing the show thing - even stupid men can be retrained to see their partner cares from the heart
795847
wow!!! what a drama!!! baby girl, when he open up to his true emotion, he expects for you say the same and pour out your feeling also. but in this case, you didn't act the way he expected you to. so, this had scarred him. here is the deal, he wants you talk to him in the comforting to his shattered heart. this will take time to rekindle the flame. let him have some space, but be there for him.
606254
The key to any relationship is communication.  If you can't talk about how you feel then things are not going to get any better.  Be strong, find a moment during your conversation to just say I love you and I am tired of fighting lets figure out a way to get back on track.  Or something like that, you need to talk about it or it will just get worse.
569533
The only thing you can do is to trust him,and communicate with him. If you talk to him about things, then maybe he will be honest with you and communicate his feelings as well. If you can't be open with him about things, he is more likely to stray if he doesn't feel you are giving him what you need. If you try all these things, then maybe you two can be happy together. The one thing you do not want to do is try to control him, this will drive him away completely. Be his girlfriend, be loving, and caring and pay attention to him and definately COMMUNICATE! that is the key. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!
171698
definitely try to communicate!! it will probably help your relationship, but, even if it doesn't, it'll help YOU in the future, trust me.
1071827
some guys take it as an insult to them and get defensive (acting mad) instead of seeing the problem and remedying it (making suggestions).  i would just try to talk to him and tell him you want to talk about it to help your relationship not hurt it.  At least you're honest and towards the first step of making it better for the both of you.
870268
There really isn't anything you can do. Only time can really help. Trust me. I know from experience. I have been hurt many times in the past and I've just recently began to open up to my current boyfriend after 5 months. There really isn't anything you can say to them either because honestly we've heard it all before. We heard the same thing from the exes and so when you say them, they don't really mean anything at first. So just give it some time and eventually people do start to come around and open up more. It just takes time.