should you still love an ex who is married?
472471
You shouldn't continue to beat yourself up over it. It will only cause you to get DEPRESSED! There are plenty of fish in the sea. You'll be fine.
346737
You probably cant.  Just keep a few things in mind when considering it.  First of all there is a chance they are still in love and may always be.  Second of all, they are with you now and make that time special and make them remember who you are. \n\nYou may not be able to stop them from loving their ex forever but they may love you.  Loving someone doesnt mean you would go back with them ever.\n\n  If they dont share kids with their ex and they spend lots of time with them stating they want to be friends, I would be concerned, but that is not a sure-fire way to assume.  Besides to assume makes an asse out of U & me.
970482
When i first met my husband he was still married to his ex wife.. They had been seperated for about 4 months... I loved him, and he filed for divorce, got custody of the child that they had together, she turned to drugs and got placed in a mental institution... So everything worked out great... We sense then had a child which i now 1yrs old... There is nothing wrong with dating a man that is married as long as he is trying 100% to divorce his wife asap...  And there no longer in contact or sleeping together of etc..
279161
You will always love the father of your children in some way. It doesn't mean your in love with him or that you don't love your husband now. And your ex doesn't own you because of money he owes it to you. Actually he owes it to your children. Don't let him make you feel bad for that he needs to take responsability. And you just need to accept your feeling for him and the fact that it's over. My ex boyfriend treated me simularly and we're best friends now. We have a mutal love and respect for each other. But we aren't in love. And once I relized that loving someone and being in love with them was different I moved on. So should you.
179303
You have to be true to your heart andlisten to it.  What ever you do do not marry someone else till  you know for sure ...That is what i did  and i am still in love with my ex...
638221
Start from scratch.  Do not resume this relationship where you left off.  That would be the mistake.  People change.  If you are interested in getting back together.  Do not date for six months.  Let your old love mourn the loss of the marriage.  This will allow your old love to clear his mind first.  Start dating and take it slowly to find out how the marriage has affected him and why his marriage failed.
1088474
I have decided after two marriages that there are different kinds of love, you do what makes YOU feel the best.  You won't be able to change your husband, and I know from experience, they may try to change, but it rarely works out, and if so only temporarily.\nIt ends up not being fair to either one of you.  Don't take a chance on losing your new love...........
141135
Considering you aided in the breakup of her home, you should stay as far away as possible.  I suspect you either have feelings of guilt or you are afraid that your husband will do to you what he did to his first wife or you think he will realize the error of his ways and go back to the ex wife and YOU SHOULD!\n\nI can only assume there were problems in the husband's first marriage which caused him to seek consolation outside the marriage so you are not totally to blame for the distruction of their marriage, but you provided him with the means and the opportunity.  Now that you are in the wife's position I think you may see things a little more clearly.\n\nSomewhere within yourself you are questioning whether or not you can trust your husband.  You are questioning whether it is a pattern for him to seek outside the marriage at the first sign of trouble.  I also think you know your husband and his ex has unfinished business.  The problem that caused their marriage to breakdown was never discovered or brought to the surface and the possibility that he may wake up one day and realize he still loves his ex wife and he only hooked up with you because he did not know how to communicate his needs.  \n\nBefriending the ex wife is not going to keep the husband from cheating if he so chooses nor will it provide you with peace of mind.  Remember the old saying 'what goes around, comes around.  It is true and it is called Karma.
187042
Im have a similar case with my ex. We agreed that if by 32 (shes 29) shes still single we should get married, but only if we were still close friends.  We broke up cuz we eventually had a long distance relationship which eventually took its toll on us.  We still love each other thou.  \n\nso i'd day why not to that deal with your ex...
1073575
Intentionally or not, he's playing you both and he's already made his decision. The only way you are not going to lose him is to remain friends and leave it at that. You guys divorced for a reason and he remarried for a reason. \n\nIt's you that needs to make that decision, not him.
526328
doesnt coutn as cheating..but you obviously still have feelings for your ex though..so you have to decide which one?
246175
The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Maybe you need to examine your marriage and figure out why you would even consider ruining your marriage for something that happened in your past? \n\nOr if you feel that this person is really your "soul mate" then life's short live it happy, and if this is what is going to make you life happier and more fullifield then do what your head not your heart thinks is right.
521422
personally i would say no, you hardly know him after 3 months, trust me i speak from personal experience (yes i did end up divorced) you will still be in the infatuation stage of your relationship, wait a year or two then think about it for a while but rely on your own instincts not on anyone elses opinion. It is you that will have to live with the decision for the rest of your life (hopefully). Just for the record I have been married to my second wife for six years and we have two great kids and no regrets!
561757
Now I got your problem- Sweetie... You have to move on your life.. for all you know he might have been married all the time you had chatted with him.. And you dont love him... this is not love... love is when you actually let go of the person whom you say you love and when that person comes back to you... you can say its love. Right now its nothing more of an attraction. Get out and meet new people.. try n get over him... if he doesnt want have a relationship with you stop pusuing him...!!!
347838
Yeah... I know how this feels. If you think you truley love him then you should be care full and tell him in a time that you feel is right. And don't judge him by his past. I mean his kids could be great and just because he can't get over his ex dosen't mean that he still dosen't love you back. Good luck ^_^
279382
hmmm.....if u still love him, try to work things out. if things dont work out, divorce! if you dont love him anymore, then still divorce!
30669
She is his EX not his WIFE . You are . Remeber that . I had a hard time to when it came to my guys exes , but then one day he asked me if I would like him carrying on about my exes . I wouldnt thats for sure . There is a reason you are his wife and shes not maybe ask him what he loves about you most . Make sure the two of you have special time together , maybe you are just feeling not so special since marriage I hear that happens a lot .