What do you do if you find out your in love with a close friend to your family?
465812
ur too young to be in love.. just enjoy life.. time will come that u'll find the right guy... if ever he's the one, im sure he'll wait for you 'til u reach the right age..
231362
ok do ya love her? well then who gives a sh*t how old you are..Her family loves you right.I mean unless your losing your hair or teeth or memory..lol Psss...Don't worry about it.Be good to each other love each other and everything will be cool.No one cares how old u are...
1137056
if your an adult then you can see who you want too. it would be nice to get your families approval but you dont need it. go with your heart and hope that your family comes to like him as much as you do.
1149114
If your family is insisting that you cut all ties with this person there must be a good reason. It is very difficult to watch someone that you have watched grow and taught to be a strong and independent individual be crushed by a co dependent relationship. your family only wants the whats best for you. And although you may not see it at the moment, there will come a time when you realize they are only trying to save you from pain and heartache. They must be seeing more bad than good to be the outcome. Think about it, is this person really worth you possibly ruining a bright and happy future with a friend or significant other that won't give you heartache? Just remember not only is it hurting you but it is also hurting the people who love you the most, your family.
636333
let their relationship alone.  if you go after this guy, you might end up with no one.  if you and your cousin are best of friends, how can you even think about ruining that relationship. guys will come in and out of your life, but good friends are hard to find, especially if you are related to this person.  they will be there always. she will fell so hurt, betrayed.  think about what you have to lose in this decision.
702354
i came through this situation too.. i have a cousin and we like so close together even tell each other secrets... but now we are no longer talk to each other maybe just greet and say Hi!!..it is sad because we act like we didn't know each other... we fell apart because my father and her father had a fight a couple years ago... my father didn't allowed me to be close to her and their siblings.. but now after my father get over the problem with my uncle... we kind of afraid to talk to each other... sometimes i cry because when i came back to hometown and we had a gathering i have no one to talk to.. now i always try to be close back to them.. i think it will takes sometimes to refresh our relationship back..just be patient and you'll see the results..
866468
The question you need to ask yourself is, does he feel the same way about you? Answer it honestly, there is no reason to get hurt unnecessarily.\n\nIf he does feel the same way, there must be some other reason you don't want the rest of his family to know. In a nut shell, if he does like you as well, and you aren't first cousins, what's stopping you from exploring the possibility?\n\nBest wishes to you
342952
Nobody with a family should answer this.  You should be compassionate towards the feelings of family members.
559949
if your family loves you they will understand when you tell them how important it is yourself to be with the love of your life forever... how satisfied, happy, joyful, peaceful you will be during your life. if your family is more interested in their reputation that your happiness I would question their love for you... love means putting your happiness in front of their desires.\n\nmarrying someone you do not love to me would feel like a sin... because i would be with someone i didn't love! every time i slept with them it would feel dirty and dishonest. every day that went by i would feel sad and as if my life didn't matter much..... with out love what is there??????\n\ni also know that i wouldn't be a very good example or role model to my children if i was not living in love and i had not created them out of love..... how awful! \n\nlove is the purpose of life!!!!!!!!!! dont' throw it away. you have YOUR LIFE ahead of you... live it in love!
491253
if you truly love one another you will make it through the toughest times but family in your relationship is really hard to make it trough and you probably wont you both need to get far away where they cant be in your business all the time trust me you and him will both be happier.
247442
Of course not! Why should it be wrong to fall in love with your someone? She might be your close cousin, she might be your distant cousin but the most important thing is that you are in love with her. \n\nAs far as I know and believe, love comes naturaly. You do not need to create love for somebody and obviously nobody does that. Love will automatically be created in you, will be felt by you for someone but you never know who will be your she before love comes to you!\n\nSo, as you can see, it is not at all wrong to fall in love with your distant cousin. By the way, are you in love with her? If you are sure that you are, do not hesitate to make her know about it. She might be feeling in the same way too! Who knows!\n\nBest of luck and thanks for such a wonderful question.
652966
See if the one you love can love you\nand\nsee if you can love the person who loves you..
415592
i know how u feel me and my girl kissed when she left my house one time and my sister-in-law saw it....dont feel so bad if u love ur girl then just try to get a long w/ her mom even if she dont like u. if she loves her daughter then she will love her and her mate just the same. give it time it will get better. it did for me
247465
You need to sit down with him and his family and talk about everyting, lay it all out on the table and tell them how u feel. If you really love eachother and if they love their son they need to be supportive of who he is with no matter what
147127
Well if you are friends or even know each other as passing acquaintances, you should just come out and tell them.\n\nDon't blurt it out. Just pull them a side, start a conversation which would eventually lead to you telling them that you love them for quite some time now. You might be suprised the feeling might be recriprecated.
520979
thin just explain what happen that night andthat you still love him but there were some miner promblems and yall \nlove life and just because of what she said doesnt mean \nthat you would go and cheat with one of your friend cousin \nand tell him that is just nasty and why wiuld you give \nof that love just because of some body cousin friend \nthat if you would dont' beleave you then kiss him and walk\nawawy give him time to thinkif you want to talk more e-mail
138261
You cannot control how they will react.  I think coming out to relatives is overated, especially if you know they may not understand or get mad.  Why not just continue on with your love life and consider it none of their business?\n\nYou never have to lie about it, just don't offer the information.  When they ask you directly is the time to seriously consider telling them...