My moms an alcoholic!!!?
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u should be proud of her to actaully admitting her illness and getting help!! there is nothing better then that.. u should stand by her side ans support her.. she is ur mom..and the one and only mom..maybes she wasnt the best in the past to u..but she is willing to change.JUST FOR YOU!!! u should support her..cuz now she is feeling more depressed just becuase u dont wanna talk to herr..and she is going through a very tough time now..
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How about telling a "older friend" like a calm parent or teacher. Sound like the usual thing an adult would say but she does need help. She IS an alcoholic! Sleeping with a guy and not remembering it is called a black out. That is an alcoholic thing! Talk to her, be prepared for all the excuses. You will eventually lose her as a friend. lying is not far behind what she is doing. She won't remember what she has done so she will laugh it off or say "I did not do that" Someone older has got to help you for your friends sake! DO NOT let her suck you into her world of drinking. Sometimes drugs are not far behind. Be strong and tell someone, she needs HELP!
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IT SOUNDS GOOD AND HONEST!\nMOST PEOPLE ON DRUGS DO NT REALIZE WHAT PAIN THEY ARE CAUSING OTHER PEOPLE! I GUESS IN YOUR MOM CASE SHE IS DOING THIS TO HELP WITH HER EMOTIONAL PAIN? IF SHE IS THEN MAYBE YOU NEED TO GET HER FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO ALL TALK TO HER AT ONCE.\nI USE TO DO DRUGS AND LOOKING BACK NOW ALL I REALLY NEEDED INSTEAD WAS SUPPORT AND TO KNOW THAT PEOPLE WHERE THERE FOR ME NO MATTER WHAT!\n\nMAYBE IF YOUR MOTHER SAW HOW MANY PEOPLE CARED AND WORRIED FOR HER HEALTH THEN SHE MIGHT WANT TO STOP!\n\nIF YOU NEED ANY MORE ADVISE OR ANYTHING YOU CAN EMAIL ON:\npetal_9841@yahoo.com\nor\npetal_9841@hotmail.com
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You must be in such a difficult position!  I think you have to set your boundaries.  If your mother can't respect them then it is her loss.\n\nI guess you have to judge on how important her role is in your family.  Does everyone enjoy seeing her?  Is it pleasurable?  I've had many alcoholics in my family and honestly, sometimes it was brutal having them around.\n\nDon't let guilt force you into submission.  Set your boundaries, make them clear, let your mother know you love her, but need her to meet you 1/2 way if she wants to be part of your life.\n\nGood luck to you!
1066756
the children of alcoholics have their own group. ask AA or al-anon to refer you. i know how hard it is to be a child of an alcoholic - i have two children from my marriage to one. it seems illogical to let the alcoholic be and leave him to his own destruction but the message really is to you- that you can NOT cure him. you can NOT control him. you can have a confrontation with him and your friends and family were all of you tell him exactly how you feel but in the end- he is going to make his own choices. it is a disease and one that is very destructive to everyone it touches.  good luck. i know it's hard.
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Make a video of her doing it....what a wonderful world we live in where you can tape just about anything and everything. Yes she has a problem with drinking because she cannot remember anything she does the next day. What she is doing is killing herself and one day may end up in the hospital for alcohol poisioning if she doesn't watch herself. But ya its AA not AAA, I think your A key got stuck hopefully. AA is not a shame but rather a support group for those who have alcohol dependency. I wouldn't knock it if you don't know what it is like.
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Get a complete physical evaluation and see a professional for alcohol abuse. There is no "ONE" answer to this. Different people need different treatment. Some need medication, some need other things. Some need both. Don't go by what works for someone else when you need to have yourself evaluated. Hang in there!
981835
I don't know how to help you, but you should go to AlAnon, the group for people who are family members of alcoholics.
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This is hard.  First off, if you were an alcoholic then your parents probably already know.  The problem is that your mother just wants everything to be all better.  She doesn't understand the nature of the disease, so she's probably filled with the wrong ideas.  You have to educate her.  Working the steps will help you do that, and your mother will accept your treatment as long as she knows that without your meetings and your sober friends, you stand a good chance dying a drunk.  You can't hide it from them, it gives you a crutch if you ever relapse.  If you are done drinking find a sponser, work the steps and live honest.  My prayers.
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it is very difficult to deal with alcholism in the family.\n\na very good advice will be one from Wayne Mehringer, a certified drug and alcohol abuse counselor and program director of the assessment and referral office for IMPACT Alcohol and Other Drug Abuse Services in Milwaukee.\n\nMehringer suggests an intervention first. it is best to ask for the help of professionals or coaches (look under "Alcoholism Information & Treatment Centers" in the Yellow Pages or consult a physician):\n\n1. PLAN THE MEETING. Usually this takes two or three hours with the coach, done in two or three sessions. You'll talk very specifically about what you plan to do in the meeting - who will be there, who will serve as the leader, when and where the meeting will take place. You'll also write statements to share at the intervention meeting that detail your experiences with the person's drinking, and "get rid of anything in the way the drinker could use as an excuse not to listen to you," Mehringer says.\n\nFor example, you might call your mother's boss and ask that Fred be excused from work for a few days to handle an important family matter. Check with her insurance company to see what types of treatments are covered. Set up an alcohol assessment appointment. Tie up all the loose ends in advance so your mother has no chance to lean on an excuse and avoid hearing your message.\n\n2. PRACTICE. "The alcoholic is good at throwing dodges," says Mehringer. So get ready for them. Be prepared for every scenario and emotion, and role-play your way through it a few times. Remember that the alcoholic's barrier of denial probably will be hard at work during the meeting. "The point is to break down that barrier. The alcoholic is good at making you the bad guy," Mehringer says. Practice so you're familiar with that challenging role and so that you can stay on message.\n\n3. CONDUCT THE MEETING. You've planned and practiced, and now comes the real thing. "Remember, you're doing this out of love," Mehringer says. No matter how uncomfortable or hard it gets, present the situation to the person and offer the alternatives. "Sometimes it's super-painful, strict stuff, but you're saving his life," he says.\n\n4. FOLLOW THROUGH. If you said you would no longer pay rent for the person if she continued to drink, don't pay the rent if she continues to drink. If she chose assessment, go with her if she wants. Your mother chooses the path. You simply do what you said you would. By following through, you give meaning to the intervention.\n\nThen you take it from there, realizing you've rearranged the puzzle pieces simply by confronting the person you love and helping her see a new reality. It's hard. It's scary. And it requires faith and courage. "Recovery is a process. Get the process started and keep it going," says Mehringer. "Then you're all right."
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My mother the alcoholic....she drives me crazy the way she treats my baby sister...  she is 25....treats her like crap.....oh well we will be meeting in about 13 days, so if you hear of any problems in Dawson creek, ya know what happened....lol
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Call and ask to speak to her Doc. Tell him how you feel, tell him how you mother is acting, tell him she is doubling up on meds, having accidents,ect.  If that does not work try to talk to the school counciler, if your mom is addicted to pain meds she needs help and is NOT able to help herself.  She could have an accident that could kill or injure herself and innocent people.  Good luck.\n\nBlubla
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Your mom is going through a difficult situation in life.  You should understand that.  And so are you!  But be by her side and stand up for her always.  Also, do not be shy to discuss EVERYTHING concerning her relationships and your feelings with her gently.  Surely she will be the one to make you more comfortable in dealing with the matter.  What other people say does matter, but only to a certain extent.  So dont let that get to you.  Afterall, they do not provide you with anything when you are down.  Also divert your mind and do things that make you happy.  Good luck kid - looks like you are brave and will come out of this a winner.
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First let me say WOW! First your mom should know that you love her and that you always will. You should be totally honest and let her know how you feel. You are her daughter and blood is thicker than water. Her boyfrind can leave her tomorrow but you will always be her daughter. Your mom has to find to courage to tell this "douche bag" to take a hike. all you can do is support your mom and be there for her. you are a good daughter and you deserve a hug
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This will sound harsh but if you insist on enabling him and thereby losing control of your own life and thoughts ... I'd suggest buying him more booze and hope the end comes soon. On a more serious note, you could seek counseling for both you and him and for god's sake, get him to join AA.
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I'm very sorry to hear about your situation.  You have my complete sympathy.  No one your age deserves to go through what you are enduring.\nYou and your mother should get out NOW, and get help from your family and friends, or groups like Al-Anon or Ala-Teen, before this tears your life apart.  Make up your mind HERE AND NOW to be better than your father; don't let his problems control your life.  You are obviously a smart, squared-away young person capable of making your own path in life.  You and your mother will have to rely on each other for emotional support for a while.  But you will discover, the longer you both have been away from your father, that your strength and ability to deal with life will grow every day.  Remember - you have all of us out here on your side too!\nI too have been there, with an alcoholic father - just had to tough it out until I was able to leave.  DON'T DESPAIR, that is the sure path to ruin!  I'm pulling for ya!
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Please remember she is sick, she suffers from a disease in the center of her mind. Drinking is but a symptom of her disease, it is just the tip of the iceburg. There is a imbalance in her. There is hope! Take her to a detox center, let her take a week to get over the effects of th alcohol in her system, she needs to stabalize, then to recognize her condition. If she can understand that she is powerless over alcohol, she can start a life long journey, one day at a time, to permenent sobriety. A A is the only way she is going to learn the tools she needs to do this. You need to get help as well, Alonon is were you need to be, to learn your tools to recovery. A A was wrote by two people in 1939, since then over two million people have recovered thru this program. 120 different self help groups have been formed using A A principles. A A is in over 100 countries, and has published millions of books, they are very cheap to buy. These numbers are growing every day, it must be doing something right. What do you have to lose? Try it. Remember she is sick, and you would not pinch the I.V. line keeping her alive at the hospital, right?