my boyfriend wants to have a threesome. Does that mean he wants to cheat?
467071
I wouldn't immediately assume that.\n\nA threesome with two women is probably the single most common male fantasy.
828361
I don't think a threesome is too good for a young relationship if it is one. If it's a strong relationship then do what makes you happy. I'm don't think you'll be happy afterwards though with another man having his way with your girl niether will she be happy with you banging another girl. So if you love her I would suggest you don't.
810262
I reckon he has cheated, or at least he's trying to convince you that cheating is normal and happens more than you think. As one of the other answerers is hinting at, this guy is possibly a player. I'm not going to pass judgement on the chap and you have to allow for the possibility that this thought may just have occurred to him in the course of a conversation. If you question him and he says that that is what happened then give him the benefit of the doubt. (Something similar happened to me once, and my gf didn't take me at my word - very annoying, end of relationship)\n\nBut, to be honest, as a player, if I was asking a girl how she knows that her past lovers never cheated, it would be to sow the seeds of doubt in her mind for either of the following reasons: a) to convince a girl with a bf that he is cheating on her and so she should cheat on him with me (evil, I know - I've never done it, but I'd say it'd work); or b) to convince a girl I was seeing that cheating is normal, and happens all the time and people should be open about it: basically grooming her for an open relationship.\nI think the latter is most likely in your scenario. Find out a bit more about him and see if he has a little black book! Ask him what he thinks of open relationships. \nIf that wouldn't suit you then get the hell out as the cheating will hurt you, even if the sex is amazing.
1085031
est relationships are partnerships of two.  Heck, it's hard at times to make a relationship between two people work.  Adding another person (in whatever aspect) will complicate things.  It's your call I guess, but actions have consequences. I say no if you really value what you and your man has.  You might be ok with it and he might be ok with it, but what about that other woman.  Usually when people try threesomes, somebody usually ends out in the cold….  And things get unpleasant.
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Think of it the other way around.  Say that he is wondering the same thing.  If he was honest enough to tell you about it, what would YOU say and do?!  Your boyfriend deserves your honesty: at the very least, have the courtesy and the courage to let him know how you are feeling.  And be prepared to crush his feelings.  If you play the cheating game, YOU KNOW it will eventually come around to bite you on the ass!  Whether it's your guilty conscience, or the inevitability of his finding out some time anyway, he WILL find out!  Do you know the difference between right and wrong?  Of course you do!  Are you willing to risk your relationship with your boyfriend?  If you are, you have no business being his girlfriend, and he's much better off without you!  Like you girls say about us, think with your big head (you know what I mean!).
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The fact that you're second guessing it means no.\n\nThreesomes are something that need to be well thoughout with serious parameters that both people are ready to adhere to.  \n\nI've met people who did it, and it really helped their sex life.  But I've met even MORE people where it ruined it. Most of those people aren't even together any longer.\n\nThe thing you just have to ask yourself is, are you doing this just for him?  If you are, then, it's a bad idea.  Secondly, ask yourself if your sex life is in trouble.  Most people who successfully have threesomes already have a good sex life.  If you're sex life has problems, then this is not the way to solve it!\n\nHowever, if you're both for it, then it's definitely something to give a big go!  Just make sure you make rules that you both MUST follow.
351897
He wants to be with his girlfriend,but likes playing with you.The question you should be asking is..."DO I WANT TO PLAY SECOND FIDDLE????????????????????????????????????????"
1073997
As long as he is doing it alone, and not actually meeting with this other person then how can it be cheating?\n\nIs having a fantasy cheating?  No.
1133285
Yes, I do.  Any time you bring a third party into a relationship it is cheating.  Now if you have an open relationship and your partner doesn't mind then that is a different story.  If you are in a good healthy relationship why would you want to involve another person?
464165
Word has it that your boyfriend is such a great guy, I mean a real find, a one of kind, that you should just give into whatever he wants.  I mean he is really important and deserving of you.  You should stick by him no matter what.  Yeah, he might cheat on you, that's cool, he's just being his selfish self.  Give him a break already.
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I can tell that this issue is really bothering you and hunny, you are tooooooo young for this. You actually sound mad, it was like you were on the phone with me venting while I was reading.\nWell, I am a strong believer in the word and I have read that where the mind is the body follows. Meaning your boyfriend wants to sleep with other women if he hasn't already done so. When he is looking and admiring all thoose other women he is lusting for them.  He shouldn't disrespect you like that and you need to leave.
441681
Sounds to me like Bruce said "Sure I love you, baby - now take off your panties", and "I want to be your boyfriend" means "I want to have sex with you again". If you are 19, you are certainly better for him than "Ms. Right" or "Ms. Left", but he is probably not taking YOUR best interests into consideration - only his own pleasure.
119912
If you doubt he loves you now than it is probably true. Also I would not want to be with someone who cheated on me. He will do it again if given the chance
432518
Ummmmm - that should be pretty easy.  EVERY guy wants a threesome.  he is probably wondering how to approach you about bringing another girl into the bedroom....
400961
Ok, I have to say that a lot of the answers that you have received so far are close, but none of them quite hit the mark or cover all the bases, so I am going to see what I can do here. \n First of all, I am fairly qualified here as my fiancé and I have done a threesome with both another woman and another guy, and our relationship has survived it unscathed. \n To answer the main question of why. . . There is no single answer that would apply to all men that have those desires. Yes, porn for a lot of us has glorified the threesome. Another common reason is that watching two women be intimate is quite erotic. Lets face it, they call you the "fairer sex" for a reason!!\n Could your BF feel pressure to please you? If so, a second person could be viewed as a helper.\n The most common reason, however, is simply the desire to have variety in ones sex life.\n Now, let's address how you should go forward. First of all, your BF shared a fantasy with you, and if you ever want him to ever do so again, you cannot react negatively to it. That does not mean that you have to do it, but you also want to avoid him feeling rejection from it.\n To help you decide if having a threesome with another woman is something you want to do, consider this:\n Are you physically attracted to women? I.E. Are you bi/bi-curious? If so, you could decide that you are will have a threesome with him with the stipulation that he and the other woman do not have sex. Set very specific boundaries, I.E. Is touching ok? Is kissing ok? Is manual stimulation ok? Etc. . . If you cannot trust him to abide by these boundaries during the heat of the moment, you do NOT want to do this!\n If you decide that you do not want to do this, explain it to him, but offer to incorporate it into your fantasy life. Say something to him like "The idea turns me on, but I would not be ok with the reality of it", and then bring it up in a sexy way during foreplay or lovemaking. Reiterate after you are done having sex that this is something that can only be a fantasy, never a reality. This is often the perfect compromise in these situations.\n In my experience, a man bringing this fantasy to his significant other is generally sign of developing trust, and not of impending doom. The act itself, however, has been the end of many strong relationships, so tread carefully!!
1100219
My first suggestion to you is to really think about that request. It can cause alot of damage to your relatioship if you and your man aren't on the same page about what you expect to happen from this. You both have to know that it is what it is and when it's over it's really over. You need to find a person who won't want to take it any farther than the threesome. A rational person who understands the nature of sex. My second suggestion would be to contact me. I'm down.
555387
no, he's not cheating on you. he just doesn't want to mess with you while things are going on "down there". my husband doesn't want to mess with me either. don't be so sensitive.