What is too far for a married man...flirting with a waitress or bartender while you have some beers?
459845
How funny... these people that answer that flirting is too far are all probably very young. \n\nWe flirt every day. Little girls flirt with their fathers, and it's often where they learn the power of their smile or batting their eyes. \n\nFlirting is a pretty wide line. If it's simply boosting your or the other person's ego, it is likely harmless and can do nothing but good. If anything goes beyond it, say a phone number, touching, or continues on a few times, then maybe it could be considered inappropriate. Does the wife know about it? How does she feel? Does she think it's wrong? If so, the line is drawn AFTER she speaks to him about it.\n\nIs the waitress/barmaid someone he sees a lot - is he a regular at the bar? If so, he's probably mentioned her name to his wife. \n\nTo the younger folks - you might think flirting is leading to more contact. To those of us with a few more years - flirting is often just an ego boost and can be very beneficial to a loving, monogomous relationship.\n\nWP
428607
Kinda long, but it's worth it (especially since you're bored):\n\nThis guy goes into a bar after a promotion to celebrate with his buddies. After a few drinks he notices, behind the bar, a big jar stuffed with $50 bills, so he asks the bartender about it.\n\nThe bartender replies, "Oh that's just a running bet we have here. You gotta pay $50 into the pot & if you complete 3 tasks, you win the whole jar. As you can see, no one has ever won."\n\nAfter a few more beers & 2 shots of Tequila, the man announces in a slightly tipsy voice, "Screw it, I just got a raise. I can afford to lose $50!" & he slams a $50 on the bar. "OK. What do I gotta do?"\n\n"Well," says the bartender "like I said, there are 3 tasks. First you gotta finish a whole bottle of our homemade 200 proof Fire Water, after that you gotta help my pit bull tied up out back. He's got a sore tooth & you have to go pull it out for him. If you survive THAT, you have to go upstairs & persuade the lady upstairs to have sex with you. She's a virgin & she's 106 years old. Raping her is obviously out of the question."\n\n"Fair enough" said the half-drunk man. The alcohol coursing through his veins had emboldened him. "Gimme that Fire Water!" & lo & behold, he managed, to everyone's shock to finish the whole bottle without pause. \n\nBarely able to keep the contents of his stomach down, he was turned & nudged, by the astonished bartender in the direction of the back door, where the dog was tied up outside. The man stumbled drunkenly through the door & bravely slammed it closed behind him. A fierce barking, accompanied by breaking glass, garbage cans smashing, yelling & groaning erupted outside. After a minute or so of this racket, a loud dog yelp, followed by it's whining was heard.\n\nShortly afterwards, the man stumbled back through the door, his clothes torn, blood dripping from multiple bite wounds & looking like he'd been hit by a truck.\n\nThen demanded in a drunken slurred voice, "OK. NOW WHERE'S THAT OLD LADY WITH THE SORE TOOTH?!!"\n\n:o)
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The issue isn't if your husband is cool with it.  Are you?  I would guess not, or you wouldn't mask your emotions under a cloud of alcohol.  Or is the husband thing your excuse for being drunk?  I don't know, only you can.  Having great drunken sex is a plus in any relationship, but I don't think I would stay with someone just for the O factor, but hey, I don't have it that way! Personally, I stayed in a bad marriage way too long.  I would either find a way to make you happy in the current relationship or find a way to live without your husband.
492825
why stop? flirting is great fun!
815451
Take him out for a beer, let him open up to you about his life, and then when you're both having a good time, lay a big fat kiss on him.  Not too wet, not too desperate, not too lingering.  Then let the chips fall as they may.
784160
go with the hot friend.  no risk of creating a clinger and no risk of alienating the wife to be.  a blast all around.
19871
As long as you're cautious about meeting, then why not?  It's not worse than meeting somebody that's drunk in a bar.
138485
How about "bartender, make mine a double"  :)
554138
start flirting....lol
287545
No not safe at all.....\n\nThrow in a few shots a vodka and a Rufi... it could be a good night.
480807
Flirting is fun - go ahead and enjoy it.  (Though if your b/f catches you at it you might just get a spanking.)
510609
Flirtation crosses the line when it accompanies attraction.  My husband, for example, is a harmless flirt: he flirts with any woman who wouldn't really take him seriously (elderly ladies, for example), and if someone does act interested or attracted, he shuts down immediately.  I think that flirting crosses the line when the individual who is flirting says or does things that s/he wouldn't say or do if their significant other were standing within earshot.  It's hard, too, to define the term "flirting."  It's a subjective term, and "flirting" as in sexually suggestive movements or language is quite distinct from "flirting" as in playful and friendly behavior.
922797
only if they are both drunk
916639
As long as you wish but dont take it too seriously...just have some fun.
1028464
I assume that you are asking for the married man that you are cheating with. In that case you both should get STDs.
868851
It depends on what it is.... is it reasonable?  And how important is it to you?  \nBut reasonable or not, #1 thing is communication.  So if you've expressed how it means alot to you, and its a reasonable request... than I think he should care enough to oblige or explain his reasons for not.  And sometimes... 'compromise' is not acceptable...   "Well honey, I won't cheat on you anymore, except for the fourth Friday of everymonth."  "OK, I won't gamble with our savings anymore, I'll just set aside 10% of my paycheck to go to the casinos with."  "I know I'm an alcoholic, I won't go to the bar, but I just want one drink okay?"  \nIf your request is absolutely reasonable (but since you didnt' write it, I have suspicions that it isn't) than I think if its terribly important to you and he just doesn't care enough to oblige or at least explain... you should leave!  Because who wants a relaitonship where the other person doesn't care about what you need/want?
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fooling your father around\n\ni think it would be better to let him do it if he's drunk