is or was my girlfriend sexually abused?
465581
I went back and looked at all your questions and you are pretty paranoid aren't you?
67289
Really need a little more information. If looking is all he is doing, then that alone is not sexual abuse. Drinking at the age of 15 is a problem and can also be taken care of in the manner I am fixing to give you. But first lets go back to sexual abuse. If he is in fact sexually abuseing you, you may do one of two things. First tell your parents if you think they will help. Second, if they decide to help then all of you go to the agency I will give in a moment. If your parents don't help then you alone go to the agency or call, and explain your situation more fully and gave will give you the answer you need. The agency's name  is called DYS, Its real name is Department of youth services, listed in the phone book under state agencys. Should be one located right in the County where you live. Good luck and don't play around with this.
838508
Seriously. You had no issue with him giving her a massage in and of itself? Seriously?\n\nYour boyfriend is apparently not studying massage therapy. The fact that he gave your girlfriend one is shaky by itself. Now, the fact that she was naked? Does this not send off red flags in your head at all? It's not normal for people who are NOT massage therapists to give each other naked massages. That's called "flirtation and maybe sex, depending on how good it is."\n\nIt doesn't matter whether or not they had sex during the massage! At this rate, if they haven't had sex yet, they probably will soon! I'd get myself out of that relationship if I were you - before you really get yourself hurt!
169866
hey man, are you dating my girlfriend?  I cant believe there is anyone I can relate so well with - \n\nI guess all I can say is to just trust her until something really messed up is proven to you- give her the benefit of the doubt man!  Does she tell you she loves you? I know they can lie about that too, but at least they are saying it.  If she turns out to be a liar, dont do what I did once in my past- dont even attempt to make her feel guilty, because chances are she wont anyways.
925586
You should be honest with her sweetie - you seem much older than 18, and hopefully she will understand why you lied.\nIt is much better to come clean sooner rather than later, as if it does end because of it, you will be less hurt.\nAnd no need to self concious, you are a lovely bloke, and I'm sure lots of girls are beating down your door!\nWe've got to try and stay positive about these things, who knows - maybe it'll work this time round!  If not, there are always other women (me lol)  :)
92348
I would'nt worry about it. As long as you dont give her a reason to beat you up you have nothing to worry about. If you are worried about her beating you up it only could mean that you could possibly have intentions on hurting her. Just be good to her and dont hurt her and you wont ever have to worry about her 'wiping the floors' with you. Good luck
365769
Sounds like abuse to me, how do you feel?
107233
I see mostly women answering this one, so here's my take: There is always going to be somebody else that is better. These sort of things happens to guys as well...I am one of those guys, and I left when it got bad.  Bad enough that she decides to call the cops on me when I broke up with her, purposely made a few marks on herself, and I do an over-nighter. That was 5 years ago. Now I finished school (college) and got an awesome job, now I need someone to share my new life with, and I know she is out there.  Bottom line is this: You can do just fine w/o the abuse, probably better...and when you find yourself where you want to be in life, try again!  Best wishes to ya!
985016
The ONLY right thing for you to do is to report it to the police.  She's in a vile situation with a monster, and if she's too afraid of reporting it, then be the best boyfriend that you can be and report it for her.  You can do it anonymously if you want to.
1095708
No, you aren't overreacting AT ALL. She should not be lying to you. Ask yourself why she lied. Is it possible she's cheating? Find out details before you beat someone up.
634714
Yes.  I wasn't raped, but I was abused sexually.  Luckily, my husband has helped me move on and my sex life is just fine!  Talking about the past and getting through it is what helped me.
979388
I know how you feel, although my rape was very different from yours. First off, please remember that it WAS NOT your fault. Even if you would lose a court case, it is still worth fighting... Also, obviously this guy is a sexual predator, I would make sure that all of your girlfriends know to avoid him.
509992
Do you just want to be dominated or would you also like to be abused? Abuse should not be too difficult to find, if you want abuse, start seeing a girl, be affable enough that she invites you over to her house for dinner or to watch a movie...everytime she leaves the room start snooping, or pee in her flower pot, or start laughing at one of her family pictures and say they look like a group of real turds. Ask her what country her family is from and if she thinks it might be possible that her parents are brother and sister. It won't be long before you will be getting abused. When she asks you to leave just say, "So you feel that way huh, I guess you just don't have any sense of humor? How about a little quickie before I hit the road, babe?" If she refuses (and she probably will unless she is some kind of nut too), then ask her if she will lend you some gas money! If she says no, just say then can I borrow your ATM Card, when you start talking about her money, some women can get violent, one thing for certain, you will soon be completely dominated and thoroughly abused too!  LOL! Soon you will be getting her to call others in to abuse you too!  This will work, YOU CAN ALWAYS FIND A WOMAN TO ABUSE YOU!\nDon't be ridiculous!\nruthie~
1017897
The desire to make your girlfriend hurt because her friend bragged about it is kinda lame.  It's possible they had rough sex.  It's possible she's sore from having had her hymen torn while losing her virginity that night.\n\nIt's possible you don't need to copy anyone and what you two do in the privacy of your relationship could be more powerful and intimate than anything you'd need to brag about...\n\nJust a thought...\n:)
766658
It isn't significant how many times they had sex, neither is his size... this is information that will not help you in any manner. What is important is that you don't believe her, that you obviously don't trust her. She sought out an emotional release that she couldn't get from anyone else, that she was unable to ask of you. If you want to forgive her, seek counseling, individually and together, and don't be impatient, it took time for it to graduate to the point you are now, it will take time to heal.
57314
Sexual abuse hmm.. there are alot of diff.percautions I can list. Try being forceful and saying NO very harshly if you've done that and they persist then it can be considered rape depending on what they are doing.Here are 4 warning signs they are a space invader,they seem distracted,he wants you alone, he wants you wasted.
372300
First off let me say that I have never sexually abused anyone but I was sexually molested 2 times as a child. Now, to answer your question. If I was to abuse someone sexually, then ya, it maybe could have made a difference because I had it done to me and sometimes the cycle never ends. That is the same way with mental or physical abuse, someone has to end the cycle. I would never do this to another person because I know what it is like to have it done and I would never wish that on another person, never! It is painful, scary, and it haunts you for the rest of your life. Hope this helps.