My good friend cuts herself + i have asked her to stop and i have talked to her about it but she still does it
459313
she needs to get help.. tell her parents or a teacher or just anyone.. she needs to get help soon
755538
try and be subtle and not hurt her feelings when you talk to her about it, the last thing you want to do is ruin your friendship with her.\nif she is a true friend she might listen to you, but i really do feel that all you can do is tell her gently how you feel, and if she choses to do nothing about it, then all you can do is sit back and wait until she comes to you for help.\n\ngood luck with it
654541
My son start cutting himself 5 years ago.  The best thing that I did was to educate myself about why he was doing it.  I went into chat rooms for cutters, read blogs by cutters, did anything I could to interact with others who cut.  \n\nShe is not trying to kill herself.  If you can get her to talk about it, great.  Until then, try to find out why people cut from cutters themselves.
1062575
First talk to her about how it upsets you. Then if she can't do anything else, tell her you'll tell her mom but you guys can do it together or tell her she should tell her. or any other person she might trust, but has authority. Be careful to tell her how much you care about her and that if she keeps going in that direction, what if one day the cut is too deep and she's gone for good? Talk, listen, and support her in getting help. She will need it!
498438
Let her know that you are there to listen if she needs it.  Don't pressure her to talk or she may pull away more.  Just be there for her and when she is comfortable, she'll open up.  Maybe if you start talking about your problems or problems of a "friend" she'll feel a little more at ease about discussing her own.
677395
You obviously hurt her badly and it is taking her some time to get over that. Don't push her, try writing her a letter explaining the tough time you were having (I am sure she knows but tell her anyway) and apologise for what you did.  Tell her what your friendship meant to you, explain how you have changed and grown as a person and see what she says.  She may be too deeply hurt in which case you must let her go but at least you have told her why you behaved the way you did and she may come to understand that in time.
375154
first of all why is she your friend? second ignoring is the best weapon always. just ignore her. her threats to commit suicide is just the weapon to control u. trust me she won't do anything, or if she does she certainly will fail with her attempt.
859133
well first of all you may want to realise that her cutting herself may not just be to "releive stress" it could also be because she blames herself for things that go wrong in her life (even if they are not her fault) as far as her stopping you can't make her stop (one of the very unfortunate things about it... she is the only ine who can make her stop. I started cutting when i was 14 because i blamed myself for everything, my mom my best friends even my boyfriends begged, pleaded and threatened me to get me to stop... well i am now 19 and up until a few weeks ago when i found out i am pregnant the urge still took over sometimes. The baby is the only reason i can say i stopped for sure now. (given it did slow up once i got to be about 16.) Just try to tell your friend that what she is doing is hurting you and try to help her find other ways of getting rid of frustration, like writing, running, singing, taking a bath, crying, anything besides this.... the scars are very unattractive and later will make her feel a little worse about herself when she stops cutting and still has the scars... mine bother me ALOT
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ppl cut because they are exchanging one kind of pain for another, but you seem to know this. YOU can not help her except by trying to talk her into getting the professional help she needs. you can only be her friend.To start off with I suggest you do all the research you can on this. do a google search, go to the library, go to a med. clinic, go to the school councler, etc... do NOT mention your friends name, YET, .. get all the info you can, then sit down with friend and show her all you know about it... then warn her that if she does not seek help, YOU will..... this is NOT a game.... give friend a certain amount of time to study and look into all this, about a week, anything more is asking for trouble..... then if she has NOT complied to the warning then you must go to her parents or anyother adult you TRUST... you must understand, that untreated cutting leads to  even more serious problems that can result in death !!!!! she will be mad at you for a time, thinking you betrayed her, but the betrayal is by her, to herself !!!!!! When you speak to her uplift her spirits by saying how much you love her, have faith in her to do the right thing and make sure you tell her how much you would miss her if something were to happen..... do NOT pour any guilt on her, or point the finger or blame her or anyone for this... be as positive as you can... BUT, I warn you, this will not be an easy task for you...... YOU must be willing to go all the way with her..... I mean do not just start this and then forget about it if she does not seek help herself...... you take the first step you have taken on a commitment !!!!!!!! so if you do not wish or have the ability to take this on, then PLEASE, take this to an adult you TRUST and let them handle it..... your friend will never have to know you took the loving step to save her life............. God bless
969776
i cut to and im also 13. i'm getting help though and you can do the same. i promise.\nif you want to stop you need to go find help. speak to a counsellor, therapist, teacher, friend, parent...anyone. you've taken the first right step.....deciding to stop. \nyou can also find some sites on the web which help if you prefer. to find them simply google: stopping self-harm.\nbelieve me stopping takes a lot of dedication and self-determination. it's not going to be easy but i know you can do it.\nemail me if you need to talk. \nyou CAN get through this.\ngood luck xx\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nBUBBLES....READ PLZ!\n\n\n\n\n\n\np.s. BUBBLES!!! i tried to reply to your email but it doesnt work. it says the emails not confirmed or something. what do you want me to do. do you have msn or something??? email me your answer plz!!
1012507
If your friend is cutting herself you need to tell someone.  She could really hurt herself and the longer she does it the worse that it will get.  She has to resolve these issues with her mom somehow in order for things to get better.  Your friend might not want you to tell, but for her own good someone needs to know who can help her.\nHave you thought about talking to your mom about this?  Your mom might be able to help and/or talk to your friend's mom about whats going on with her.  Maybe even have your friend talk to your mom - someone needs to help her with her emotions and the problems she is having at home.
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That depends. Is this a relative, a friend, someone your dating, a child, teen. adult...? Not to be nosy but it really does effect how to do this. If it's a child or teen, tell one of there parents (assuming the parents aren't the reason this kid is cutting themselves) If its someone you go to school with then talk to a counselor. \nI am assuming that this person told you what they are doing and your not just guessing that this is going on. Have you tried talking to this person about seeking professional help. You would be shocked to know how many people hurt themselves and to what extent the damage they cause can go so it is important that in the end they see someone about this. If you are close to this person offer to go to therapy with them if that makes them more comfortable. Do some outside research on the reasons why people do this and ask your friend why they do. A little more info would be handy if you want more precise answers.
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Just talk about honesty,  a lot.  then talk about something in the middle for a little while, then ask her "I saw a scratch/burn or your *insert body part here* the other day, what happened?"  Then she'll be honest (see above topic) with you, and if she's not, just ASK HER IF SHE CUTS.\nI have a friend who cuts, her name is Julia and thats what I did with her and it worked.\nI wish you the best of luck,\nEmily
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Tell Someone. \n\nA lot of cutters do it for attention or to punish themselves.  You do need to tell someone so she can get  help. Tell her mom, your mom, or a teacher. \n\nThe problem with cutting is that not only does it leave nasty scars, can cause serious tendon problems, infections, et cetera. \n\nI mean, hospitalization might be just what she needs....Personally I think she needs someone to talk to. You could sit her down and have a nice long talk with her. \nShe probably needs therapy. I'm not a big fan of psych drugs, but they might be useful in helping her survive through highschool. \n\nI know what your friend is going through. I had a rough childhood and started in with self mutiliation too. I did a lot of stupid things. \n\nThe most important part is that she has a good friend to talk to. She needs to find a healthier way to express anger. I mean lots of teens hate themselves, very few wind up damaging their bodies. \n\nMaybe you could try to help her fit in at school. If you do think she's going to actually hurt herself, get help or something nasty might happen. I mean you don't want to be in the position of wondering if there was something you "could have done", ya know? We don't want her offing herself. \n\nOne way to tell is if they hide it then there are serious problems, if she's flaunting it, she's just out for attention. I'm a little concerned about your friend b/c she's hiding her emotions and acting suspicious. \n\nMy thought is that if you are a good friend, you'll do what's right to ensure her...longevity and minimize the collateral damage, ya know?  This isn't an issue of what You 'want', this is an issue of what She 'needs'....and she certainly needs to stop chopping away at her arms. \n\nGood Luck!
962444
you need to tell someone...have you tried talking to her?? i would try talking to her and tell her what your concerned about...and tell her that you're going to have to tell an adult if she keeps it up...if and when you do tell she will be mad, but if she is your true friend she'll stay mad for a little bit and then realize that you only did it because you cared and you can go on being frineds...if not then she just stays mad....but either way...you were doing the right thing...it's better to tell and possibly save her life and not be friends than to keep your mouth shut and regret not telling someone when something irreversible happens...
975873
aww yeah my best friend brooke... we help each other through some pretty hard times... she is suicidal and i am a cutter and we are the only people who can help each other,brooke really helped me get over my self mutilation, and she is not suicidal anymore. so despite our own problems... we always help eachother.
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Okay, as for the cutting, that is sometimes a relief from some type of anxiety or pain in your life.  Cutting allows people to have control rather than the real pain they have which a person cannot control.  As for the self-mutilation, some people are into that.  It is not necessarily a bad thing although it could lead to infections and rarely something more serious.  \n\nI think the best thing is to let her come to you when she is comfortable unless you see it going out of hand.  The minor things are not necessarily horrible although to most people it would seem that way.  If it bothers you too much you may want to bring it up and talk with her about it and see if she will open up more to you.\n\nI was a cutter!