My parents are demandng me to not go away for college and i dont want to stay home any1 know if i shouldlisten
455342
Well, if they are paying then you better listen to them.  If not then, do what you want.  Just realize that you run the risk of losing financial support from them, and that will be hard.  Speaking from experience.... a free ride is almost always a good thing.  If school is paid for and you don't have to work full time to pay bills then take it.  It's the smart thing to do.  You'll be better off financially and it's not for that long.  Maybe you can stay home for the first 2 years and then move out after that?
1039711
I'd say stay home set the example and save money. The life style change can make you or break you. Try it if not move out the second semester.
1165078
Its a tremendous responsibility, but well worth it.  You learn how to get yourself up in the mornings, pay your bills each month, meet lots of new people, etc.  You don't want to live with your parents forever, and going to college is a great place to "test your wings."  You can always transfer to a smaller college closer to home if you find you took on too much too soon.\n\nGood luck!
118000
I would go away with out a doubt. Actually I had a similiar opportunity when I graduated. I went away and it is now one of the best decisions I have ever made! I graduated and I learned so much more about myself and life than I would have had I lived at home. It does take a bit more dicipline to get up and go to class than if you know that your parents are gonna notice if you don't go to class, but you have to learn that sometime. You don't want your parents to have to call you for the rest of your life and make sure you go to work? \n\nI think going away to college is an invaluable experience. I lived on campus and didn't miss the car at all, I just got rides from my friends when I needed to go somewhere.\n\nIf your parents really have the money you'll probably end up with both if you choose to go away, they may just be offering you a car as an effort to get you to do what they want. (Not that that happened to me... I didn't have a car)\n\nRemember to enjoy whatever you choose!!!!
121117
I think you just have to explain to them that you are not leaving home to get away from them but for whatever reasons you are leaving (independence, better job, college). And maybe say how much you will miss them and what you will miss about them.\n\nThen once you are gone, call, email and visit often!
405191
Here's a thought:\n\nCollege is about education. Education includes exposure to places and people that are unlike your hometown and your family.  Try gently explaining this to your parents.\n\nIf you're not expecting any financial support from them, you don't need permission to go, but try to address their anxieties with a calm, reasoning attitude, and perhaps they'll lighten up a bit.\n\nThey're obviously afraid for you to go somewhere far from home.  They'll miss you.  It's a big world out there, and they're uneasy about you "flying the nest." Perhaps they don't understand that leaving home is part of your education and growing independence too.\n\nJust be gentle, and give them time.  They'll come around eventually. Later, when you start to provide them with evidence of how well you're doing (good grades, new ideas, a genuine passion for a particular area of study), I bet they'll even be proud.
120508
Take it from a guy.  Stay at home with your parents and maybe stay overnight with him once in a while.  You've got a lot of years ahead of you.  Get yourself situated  with what you want to do (college, work, or whatever) and be able to support yourself before moving out of your parents' house.
644539
if he is not leaving for college what's the problem. you will have plenty of time for your parents to change there mind. if they like him ask him over for dinner with everyone. if that doesn't work out do not worry time is on your side. life will bring you many things to come. enjoy today if he likes you he will be there tomorrow. if not it maybe was never meant to be. what you want today is not always what you want tomorrow. there are plenty of fish in the sea.
903931
They just want to be sure they are not going to be supporting you until your 30!  Do you have a job?  Are you still in school?  Collage?  Do you help around the house?  Do you contribute to the household expenses?  If you answered no to any of these then you probably are ungrateful for your parents and all they have done for you over the years and its about time for you to be on your own.
934159
You have to make a choice. Nothing sucks more than being somewhere you don't want to be. (You wouldn't happen to be in the middle of Kansas, would you? I did that. It sucked.)\n\nYou have to decide if you are going to make the most of the shi**y situation, or if you are going to do what you really want to do. \n\nIf you want to go somewhere else, you'd better start applying and seeking financially aid now. Stand up to your parents and tell them that it is YOUR education, and you want to be happy. Or, if you haven't already done so, sit down with them and have an adult conversation about this. They might just listen if you are calm and rational about it. \n\nIf you are to stay where you are, start looking for classes that you would enjoy. Seek out what things you could do for fun. How close is the biggest city? Are there any clubs you could join? \n\nYou have to make the most of what you have if you can't get what you want. :)
724727
well, parents are really overprotective, especially if your the only child, or the youngest and you have older bro's/sis's that have gotten into trouble and they are just cracking down on you. but let your parents know that if they are too overprotective, that its not gonna keep you from doing things they are against, its going to make you want to do it more. Sit down, and talk to them, ask them why they are treating you how they are, and let them know how you feel because if you never express your feelings with them, they will just keep on doing it. If they do not stop, just try to stay away from home, i dont mean run away, but after school go hang out at a friends house, go shopping, go somewhere for a while so when you get home, all you have to do is do homework, then go to bed. If your almost 18, you only have a little longer to put up with this, but seriously NO parents should blame things on you if you didnt do them. Let them know how you feel, and then work from there. Good luck!
760820
Enjoy college and keep your mouth shut.  What happens in college stays in college.  Just don't make any of your friends or future ex-bfs mad enough that they would tell your parents.
463408
well, u can try to talk to ur parents by stating WHY u want to go study aboard....give them clear reasons and evidences that PROVE u can take care of urself when u r out there...espeically u r YOUNG and a GIRL...usually parents wont allow that...nonetheless, u need to ASK URSELF : "why i want to go study aboard" first b4 u can present ur case to ur parents....clear and sort out ur minds so u know EXACTLY why u want to make this decision and carry through it! :)\n\nmoreover, u can talk to the advisors from other colleges that provide study aboard plans and ask them for their advice....seriously, there r MANY THINGS to do b4 u actually can go there...i tried it b4 so i know...;)  and i m a person who came to U.S. to study as well...^^\n\nhave fun searching for the answer.  if u need help, just email me or wait for more great answers from others.\nnonetheless, u can ask Jesus to help ya, He will be glad to help u! :)  Jesus loves u!
1120907
That arrangement is entirely up to you and your parents. What ever makes all of you comfortable. Some leave, some don't. If you do stay though, you should help contribute to the household income or at least do a decent amount of work around the house to help pay for your keep.
905577
You didn't say your age, but I'm assuming you still live at home--hense the "grounding".    Parents have reasons for why we do things.  Sometimes they may sound silly and unreasonable to our children.  But, you need to respect your parents wishes and avoid that friend.  Perhaps in the future you will understand why your parents want you away from that person.
1012581
It's great that your parents are encouraging you to seek further education.  You say you love them too much to hurt them.  That's hard to deal with but you must.\n\nYou know what you want from your education.  You want to seek it in a larger community.  Maybe the larger school offers more of what you are looking for education wise.\n\nAre they saying they won't help pay for tuition if you don't go to the smaller school?  If that's not an issue, research the school you want to attend, make arrangements for a campus visit, and sit down and share this with your parents.\n\nA good admissions advisor will help your parents understand the reasons for your wanting to attend this school.\n\nIf they won't pay for your education anywhere else, there are still Pell grants, scholarships, and student loans.  You could also apply for work study and earn money that way.\n\nIt's your education and your future.  Go for it.
369584
If you are desiring greater freedoms, then accept greater responsibilities. While living under someone else's roof, I suggest you abide by their rules. All of the teens on the internet cannot change your parents household policy. I hope they stick to their guns.