Thanks for all of the answers, but I did ask him first if I could meet mom.  He said he'd call me.  He hasn't
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He regards you as a temporary, rather than a permament, fixture in his life.  Therefore he sees no reason to introduce you to the people he already has a permanent relationship with.  You just have to accept that fact, and see the relationship (you & him) for what it is.
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I'm about your boyfriend's age, and I lost my mother last year.  If my experience has any relevance here, I felt somewhat sad on Mother's Day.  But more than that, I felt *strange*.  I would always call my mother, send her a card or gift, and so forth, and of course I couldn't do that.  I felt left out of all the Mother's Day talk.  After all these years, I was an outsider.\n\nOne thing you don't mention is whether your boyfriend has any chlldren of his own.  If he does, and if they make a fuss over him because he is their dad, that should help quite a bit.\n\nYou are a kind and supportive girlfriend to be thinking of your boyfriend's dad this weekend.  I think he is lucky to have you.
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If he didn't leave you a number in which to contact him while away, sounds like he's up to no good....and the people he either works or socializes with have probably been covering him, so I think you will have to wait until he returns ....at which point, I'd set him down for some serious talking...good luck!
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You have a similar situation to my own.  I was locating my father on only his first and last name and my car.  I started with squeezing out as much information from my mother who was very bitter towards him.  It wasn't easy.  Start with that.  Then take that information and see what city you can start in, drive there and ask city hall to help you locate.  I think that's what got my foot in the door.  Of course, you will have to chase the goose for awhile before you may find him, don't feel let down!  it's hard and difficult, but if your persistant--you'll eventually find him!  I know from experience of four different individuels I wanted to know through my life that I had limited information on!!  \nAnd from my experience--although that void was filled of who/what my real father was like...it can be a let down in the end.  Even though I met my father, and he was very kind, met my halfsiblings and his wife--they all loved me.  We then only stayed in contact a few times more before we've lost touch again already and I haven't spoken to him in about 3 years.  But at least my curiosities have been satiated.  Just don't hold too many expectations.  Remember he's just a man :)  Besides, if your Mom is as bitter as my Mom was about my real father??  Try not to be shocked.  Even at our age...it's a trip to meet your maker.  So to speak.\n\nI wish you great luck!  It's an experience worth fighting for.
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Perhaps you could ask her indirectly. Carefully crafted words are the key here to achieving your desired goal.....having a boyfriend. Okay, step 1) find a time when you and your mother are relaxing, no phones, dinner is finished, house is clean. 2) Begin the conversation like this: "You know Mom, I am now ___ years old, and I was wondering if you would allow me to go to the movies with _____________. I know you have not had an opportunity to meet ________, but I can invite him by the house on _________. He is a really nice guy. Now, if you do not have a boyfriend, and no prospects, then I would suggest that you address your mother in this manner: Mom, I have really matured over the last year and I would like to respectfully request permission from you to go on a date occassionally with a carefully selected boy that I will bring home first for you to meet.  Don't be shy about it. Be assertive, without being pushy. Tell her what your heart desires, and do it in a kind, courteous, confident and mature manner. The way you approach this request to have a boyfriend is important. You have to let your mother know that you are ready for this big step in your young teenage life. \nNow, be honest in your evaluation of yourself here okay? Think! Really think here! And answer my question truthfully! Question: Have you been on your best behavior over the last year? Have you done everything that has been asked of you by your mother? Have you gotten into any serious trouble lately? Did you make good grades and behave appropriately in school? These questions are important, because if you have been cutting up and acting like a trifling little hoochie mama, it is highly likely that your mother will say no. But if you have been a perfect angel, and behaved appropriately over the last year, then I dont see any reason that your mother will not agree to your terms. Also, let her know that any boy you meet, you will bring them home to meet her, and your curfew is 9p.m. weeknights and 10:30 on weekends. Or, if your curfew is later than this, use your current curfew. Well, I hope this helps. Best wishes to you. And have fun.
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well you can stay shy the whole time and never say a thing to him or you can take it upon yourself and do it right. Go to him when mass is over and say I have seen you here a few times and want to know if this is the time you come all the time and would like to set next to you or even give him your number. give it a try. Or you can ask your mother what to do.
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maybe he just needs some space to sort through his life and when he is okay with everything he will contact you all again. Let him know that you are there for him but don't push ...
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You don't say how old your son is.  I think that one day he will want to meet you and have you be a part of his life.  I can't even imagine how you must feel not being able to see him and get to know him, but he's been with this family for so long, I'm afraid that it might really confuse him if you showed up out of nowhere.\n\nIs it possible for you to wait until he's an adult, and then send him a letter?  I applaud and admire you for getting control of your life.  I'm sure you've been in recovery long enough to know that sometimes the family members of addicts are so fearful and distrustful of the addict that the bridge can't be repaired.\n\nI hope this is not true for you, but in any event, you have proven yourself and done well for yourself.  Continue to do everything you can to live a better life, and for the sake of your son, wait until he's an adult and then contact him.\n\nI wish you the very best.  You've accomplished a lot.
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to grandparents \nluckly my mum told me all she could bout my dad \nbut my nan see him when i was 15 and gave him my mums number so we all get on now \nif not family try places on the internet freinds reunited he may have signed up
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I am in the same boat as you are.  I'm 17 and i've never seen my dad.  I think that if you really want to go see him then nothing should be holding you back.  Let your heart be your guide.
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I've been in your same situation when i was younger. with my parents i told them some of the nice things that this guy did, that let them know that he was nice. Ask this guy to meet them. Not really at the house at first, but maybe at a park or a school activity. Then he won't be so nervous. Tell your mom first. Mom's are always easier. Dads will understand eventually. Don't say date or anything yet, say hanging out or something like that, then after a while say casually in a conversation with your parents how your friends think that you and _your guys name__ are such a cute couple. or something like that. that will be easier. if they are really strict just say that this guy is your special guy. hope i helped!!!
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Move out and move on. Maybe he thought he loved you until he lived with you and really got to know you. My mom always said, "You never know a person until you live with them."
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My dad never called me either,  I always had to call him.  He died in August, and I miss  him.  Stop worrying about the small stuff.  CALL YOUR DAD!!!
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sounds like the first logical thing you've done so far. good job, it will be hard, but just keep thinking about his responses when you want to call him
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You might wanna try finding out why he feels that your mom is mental.  It could be something serious.  Or it could be some silly little thing in his head.  But you DO need to communicate with each other if it's to be resolved in any way.  Dont get caught in the middle of conflict between two people that you love.
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You didn't say how long you have been involved with him. His mom may think you two don't know each other very well, and doesn't want to see either of you get hurt. Be sure you tell mom that you are grateful to her for giving you a place to stay during the rough times, and you feel it is time for you to move out and get your life back on track. Tell her you are sorry that she doesn't agree with you guys moving in together, but that you guys care deeply for one another...maybe she just needs to hear it from you.
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In my opinion, you should write a letter saying who you are, why you wanted to find him, and that you would like him to respond telling you whether he would like to come to a family reunion.  after that, any newsy updates about the family that have occured since the family lost track of him would be in order.  thank him for his time and tell him you hope to hear from him soon and to meet him in the near future, sign your name, thats it!