Help! I'm worried that my co-workers hate me!?
464636
I started my job in November and was in exactly the same situation as you.  I was sort of laid back and quiet and everyone there knew each other and had like you said established camaraderie, it took about two weeks before people generally remembered my name and even would include me in conversation.  But before I knew it I was the one people centered around and was invited to go out with the "guys" afterwards only because I didn't try to throw myself on them, I let them warm up to me.  If you're not the most outgoing person then work that casual, cool and confident angle with people.  Do NOT bring doughnuts in or be cheezy about the ordeal then you're just crying for social interaction.  In a nutshell I hate to use the "cliche" be yourself...but there is much truth to that...Be yourself but do it with confidence.
729048
Oh yeah, every place I have ever worked.\nRemember they are over compensating for their weaknesses.\nThey think if they act like they superior, everyone will think they are.\nBest way to defeat someone like that, is to show them you can do a better job that they can. Bursts their bubble every time.\nGood Luck.
1031133
Are these issues about other employees that you don't know or from office gossip?  I would learn to do my job and feel the place first before voicing opinions.  They may start seeing you as a trouble maker and avoid you later.  Try to use your past experience in ways to benefit your current position to perform and excel your duties, then they will see you in a different way to listen more from your performance. Remember action speaks louder than words.
914673
That co-worker is trying to kiss butt to look so good... However, if the manager, or supervisor should notice this, the fact that he/she con't even offer any bit of assistance makes him/her look pretty bad on record...  If that supervisor does not keep note of such actions, then he/she is as biased as the coworker. \nBut your supervisor is in fact neutral, as he/she should be, you should go have a talk with him/her, or even file a complaint against the co-worker and state it as negligeant and unprofessional, Would rather show some bad attitude, than to upkeep a positive working atmosphere, and what more to make that this co-worker is going out of his/her way to hold things against you...  The fact that he/she is breathing down your collar in hopes of finding any flaw you'll do, you can get away with filing for harrassement and, in fact you can say that whatever mistakes held against you are the result of him/her attempting to intimidate you, and whatever threats that are being waved in your face by this individual.\n\nCheers!
952029
Be careful if you want to stay in your job, as it sounds like you are clashing with quite a number of people at the moment.  If you are not careful, your upper management will notice, and start to think that you are difficult to work with, or not a team player.\nNext time, address it directly, face to face with the other employee.  If they repeat, then its time to escalate the issue.  Speak with their manager about their non-performance.  Its something I have to do occasionally, and its never fun to go over someone's head, but sometimes, it just has to be done.
415512
Unfortunately, most bosses are like this....but I have learnt to face up to my boss (your boss) or anyone who is "in a way putting you down", and it works....I will turn the tables on them and ask them simply "what it is that they don't agree with" or what would they do differently, I will never allow anyone to just "put me down" without at least getting some kind of response back from them, I want to know the reason why.......especially and you must be honest, if your intentions were well meaning....and after a few times doing this to your boss, your friend, your family member, someone in a store/restaurant, believe me, you will leave them with an IMPRESSION of who you are and that will be, that you will want to get to the core of the matter........Good-Luck
590096
hi there . my advice to you is to address the situation straight away as you are getting very angry and this can be resolved before the situation becomes untentable! \nthis is a common accurance and can be simply remedied by expressing your concerns as to your situation at work and impact it is having or could have on your job and frienship . The longer you leave it the harder it will be to broach and the outcome will be seen as you being the bady .good luck with it\nRegards.\n Adrian
45996
First find out why they fight you in the first place, is it because they feel threatehed by you/your success? or they feel you are taking credit for their work or simply they dont like you/your attitude. If you can identify the correct reason, you should have no trouble tackling the problem from there on.
836283
Remind her who you report to...follow the chain of command. Is she your immediate supervisor? If so, then you have to comply with her requests, if she isn't, then you are within your rights to turn her down. Have your co-workers handle her the same way. She will soon get the message and back down. Try to keep one step ahead of her always.
856790
dont worry about it honey. your job is more important than her big mouth. all kinds of people insult all kinds of people. i have been disrespected by alot of different people. you know what i do? i just ignor them because they obviously havent been taught different. i know i was raised well and i know i have no need to treat people bad. hold your head high and ignor these ignorant people. you will be fine. good luck and merry christmas.
962202
True, it is not fair and we hate working with people who are so full of BS, especially when we come to work every day, because we want to do the "right thing'.\n\nHowever...........I was told something many years ago by a manager, that I will never forget and will share with you right now..........\n\nYou worry about you and not what every one else is doing or not doing for that matter. Make sure you come to work when you are supposed to and do the best job that YOU possibly can do. \n\nWhat your co-worker is doing is not going unoticed and what you are doing is not going unoticed. Let's see how long your co-worker will be employed versus you.
696129
No...screw them, just get another job that's better than the one you had....then when they hear about you, they will kick themselves in the ass!!  ;)
1173460
It has been my experience that avoiding those kind of people causes them to find ways of attacking you personally. Staying to yourself usually isn't enough in that situation. Either several people will have to go to the boss (or HR) or find a way for the trouble-maker to have duties outside the office. Eventually, the boss should recognize that drama only happens when she is around. Be forewarned, though, most bosses probably won't care and will just dismiss it all as petty cat fighting.
270803
You are probley too nice. Show them you wont take anymore mess in a way that wont get you fired.Call off a couple of times. If they feel you are a valued employee they should cut you some slack. If not quit.
862291
You could go to your immediate superior or to human resources and ask them if you can get some more help in your department.  \n\nI'd not accuse this co-worker as that would reflect badly on you as well.   I'm sure they'd be more likely to get a temp or some more help if you tell them that the workload would run more streamlined and the work get done in a more timely manner.
206672
if you are asking what to do if you have one...first, remember that you don't have to be friends to be professional and work well together. do you really have a grievance, or do you just not like them? if there is a real problem, approach them openly and honestly...and PROFESSIONALLY first. document everything. if you can't resolve it between the two of you, go to your supervisor or human resources department for help. but nobody likes a whiner, so make sure you have a legitimate complaint first, or it will only come back to haunt you.
902303
they're co-workers.  not your friends.  you don't have to necessarily explain yourself.  but, like the others mentioned, the printer is distracting, and tell them they're welcome to use that cubicle.\n\neither that, or just tell them the voices in your head said to move to the other office, and you'd rather move instead of go postal on them.  see if they agree.