I'm 25 w/ 40 year old bf.We have great compatibility/chemistry. How do I get past age difference worries?
466878
First you just gotta get ovet the superficial appearances, etc., and ask yourself if you really love him?  If yes, then get over the little things.  My parents have the same age gap and have been together for 30 years.  It can work, as long as the age thing doesn't get to you.  Forget numbers and focus on people.
810632
If you love him and he loves you, it doesn't matter about the different culture or the age difference.\nDon't worry about what others say. You are two human beings no matter what the differences are. Some say that opposites attract and viva la difference ... so be happy with each other and throw care to the wind.
152885
Well, from a legal stand point it is perfectly fine to be dating him. You do need to consider though, his experience in life vs your own. Chances are he has done a lot more living then you have. In the begining your age differences may not effect your relationship much, but in time he could become possesive and controlling and try to stop you from living your young carefree life. Wanting to settle down ect... I watched this happen to my sister, and before she knew what was happening she felt stuck, and had a baby, and he had her convinced that she was nothing without him, often using his experience in life against her youhful ways. She did finally get out, after a few years, but now she is a single mom trying to make a life for her and her child and this guy is still a thorn in her side and will be for the rest of her life since she shares a child with him. While you might be thinking this would never happen to me, once upon a time my sister thought the same thing. Be careful & good luck.
896712
The numbers of years difference would not be so bad if you were 33 and he was 48. At 18 you are far too young to be involved with a man that age.... He's lived and you haven't. You have dreams and he should already achieving his... Too many differences to over come. yeah he might treat you very well...but you will come to resent him eventualy and angry for having wasted your time.
618100
its only 12 years, i know couples with a larger difference. if you put the time and effort into the relationship, anything is possible....as a older guy, i say go for it!!
686312
A complex problem, but I would say you have to cut one loose to start with.\n\nI wont flame you for the age difference, because to you it probably does not make a difference, but it does to him, he will be wanting a lot more than you should be willing to give, I of course mean sexually. Which is wrong, he shouldnt be dating you, I was 17 once, I know what 17 year old (or 16) guys want I can say I wasnt as desperate, but all of my freinds were only interested in one thing and you shouldnt be considering that.\n\nI think even if you decided on taking things further with an older boyfreind, you will not be as ready as them, but more importantly he could be arrested for it, and if that happens that could really mess things up for him, he would be labelled as a sex offender and that could ruin his future. In terms of a job or life, it would be on his criminal list, perhaps a sex offenders list, where he would be put with dirty old men, it really could be very serious.\n\nIt could also mess things up in your life big time, you have a bit of time, so take your time enjoy life, but try to find a boyfriend closer to your own age, where there will be less problems and you both will have a lot more in common.\n\nAs for the talking on the phone, maybe you both are a little shy which is undestandable (I am guessing he is closer to you age, you didnt say), when you just talk it can be hard to think of things to say, try asking a few questions how he feels about something, talk about common interests, maybe movies, music, friends etc.\n\nAlso there is nothing wrong with being single either, you are young you have a really long time to worry about boyfriends in the future.\n\nI hope this helps and that you take my advice regards the 17 year old guy.\n\nAll the best\n\nArmand.
201978
age gap is not a problem really, but what is your actual age? are you in a stage to understand the difference between love and attraction? affection and passion? if not, Take the advise of the elders.
473018
I am 50 and my gf is 20.  We get along fantastically!
1058274
As long as two adults find a common ground, they work. My BF is 20 years older (I'm 27) and I can't imagine my life without him. We are on the same level in so many ways - maturity, goals, opinion, etc. Like any relationship, it comes down to a balance of give & take, acceptance, and respecting each other. I believe people come into our lives for a reason, and we learn and grow from them. Being in love is the greatest feeling in the world and age shouldn't stop anyone from experienceing it.
390783
I understand that you're worry about if he isn't mature enough and ready to face a life time marriage. I would say it's something that you should consider about but not to judge a person through his/her age. If you two have already got to the step that which is going to marry then you should know your future husband better. I don't know how well you two know about each other but I wouldn't recommend a rush relationship, especially marriage. Age wouldn't be a matter in a relationship which is cause by love, you should take a closer look to this person, find out if he would be the one that can love you, accept you and willing to cooperate with you to operate a life time marriage. If the answer that he give to you is "yes" and he has already proved to you, you mustn't stop.
1117798
Age should not matter in my opinion...Just as long as you truly love each other,you should push everything aside and know that you're meant to be.
947626
First and most importantly, you are hot. \n\nSecondly, I wouldn't personally date someone 20 years younger than me but then again that person would be 8.   OK seriously, I wouldn't let a meaningless thing like age get in the way of being with someone who made me happy.  Many people are saying that it might not last.  What relationship can you guarantee WILL last?  \n\nANY relationship can end.\n\nSo take a chance.  If you care for him, be with him.  You can't love unless you are willing to risk hurt.  That's just life.  \n\nSo if I were 41 (assuming I don't commit suicide when I turn 30 from the shock and horror of reaching that advanced age) yes, I would definitely take a chance on someone who was 21 if I cared for them.
161221
This is a common problem for men to have.\nHe is 14yrs older then you he think in the long run he will become old and ugly and you wont.\nIf you 2 really love 1 another then it will work out.\nbut Your b/f has some problems you should not have to prove yourself to him even if you 2 were 25yrs old. If you spend all your time makein sure that he knows you love him and wont leave him well then you 2 wont have much together. \nIf you spend your time doing this then you need to ask yourself how much is he worth it and ask yourself if this is what you really want out of life.\nI do belive in love but 14yrs is alot todays world moves so fast that you 2 have differnt outlooks on life and this makes it hard to work out.\nAlso im sure he is happy that he has a good lookin GF thats 14yrs younger its like a showpiece. (i didnt say that to make you sound cheap either) its just the way it is.\nHope it works for ya
451810
Age isn't a barrier to love.  I would guess that a lot of the 'eeew' comments are  made by those who are in your age group.  I'm older than your boyfriend, and I can tell you that however old he is physically, he probably doesn't feel that old mentally.  I still feel about 34 but I'm in my fifties! (And I don't look that old, either!)\n\nHowever, you must be practical.  When you are 42 he will be 63.  When you are 63 he will be 84, and he may well be very elderly at that stage while you still have the energy to go dancing.  If the thought of caring for him at that stage doesn't put you off, then keep going, and disregard the funny looks and comments!
200088
It depends in part on how old you are...if one or both of you are, say, under fifteen or so, that's a big difference in terms of maturity, etc.  \n\nWith that said, I'm a bit older than my bf (two years in school grades, one year and a couple months in age) and although I got a bit of teasing about "robbing the cradle" at first (and I'm willing to bet he got jokes about dating an "older woman") we've been together for quite a while now, with no age-related problems :)  So no, there's nothing wrong with that.  Good luck!
190240
Yes...How much younger is up to you and what you feel comfortable with.  Just be honest with yourself about what issues the age difference may create and if your willing to deal with them.  It is different for each person and each relationship.  Explore it and if you find it isn't right then end it and at least you will have learned something.
71234
I think the maturity level of the two persons involved makes a difference, I mean if you are both willing to accept each other for who you are and for how well you get along, similar interests, good communication, respect, and love. If things are good between the two of you, age should not make a difference. My boyfriend is 22 years younger than I am, we have been together for over two years and things are great! I know what you are talking about though. Finding the right person to share your life with is difficult enough. Age should not be an issue. Let him know this, and let him know how you feel about him, that's about all you can do, the rest is up to him.